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parenting,dalh2424,2019/01/01,"Rogue Teen son(15) keeps running away My wife (40) and I (42) have 3 kids, our oldest son who is 15 has been giving us some issues lately. We found out he smoked weed and we shut him down from everything. No more going outside at all, and told him that it will be that way forever. He has packed his stuff and ran away before when an argument happens, but we convince him to come back and next day all is normal. I don't have a much of a relationship with him, most days we say less than 20 words to each other as I am always at work, but honestly he just dosenr like me as I'm the strict parent. He never opens up with us and does not like to spend any time with his family at all, hates going places with us, just doesn't like my presence. He likes his mom for the most part at home. The idea of him never going out again does not sit well with him, and he says once Febuary break comes next month he will go out again. What should I do?? ",4.1588605442176885,4.137178729591838,4.506530612244899,91.8444217687075,70.37755102040815,7.757823129251701,21.945578231292515,7.1686216300943375,0.323280272108843,725,11,171,6,12,228,128,196,0.046,0.848,0.107,0.9272,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,0,1,7,8,1,0,6,0,15,0,0,0,5,43,29,12,0,2,6,4,0,4,0,3,0,2,1,1,7,23,0,1,2,0,1,8,7,1,1,0,4,2,24,7,26,21,11,39,0,0,0,0,35,14,0,3,18,110,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994728172543967,0.0,0.0,0.08129617103456845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224636991846886,0.09192438998643247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017258315839551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20595859288472226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419606190804555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20923305783512294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074412826469562,0.0,0.11269842688783027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107729497312853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468053305982835,0.2717656332928077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571516240258168,0.0,0.0,0.1180280746223896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991555287172542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349541969374662,0.0,0.12477617999152035,0.0,0.10625901231199616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485440821214262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23361882327397146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001219374148707,0.09542140583771673,0.0,0.08788092088610229,0.0,0.18440428560479796,0.0,0.25427953050556945,0.0,0.11713083855118217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731382816856368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327429782794117,0.1294579289336204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490134216709077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834891496559506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901374063274292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685290148546125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970891275922345,0.0,0.0,0.11423243837820395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4314015568727123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489097439969378,0.0,0.0,0.10748725756265576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703175926426085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ktlm1,2019/01/01,"Question regarding air travel & checking car seats for free Can you check car seats for free if you are not traveling with the child? Scenario is grandparents traveling to same destination as us but from different cities. They have the lightweight car seats (2). They would get to the destination before us & install the car seats in rental car, then pick us up at airport. Everything I’ve found says you can check a car seat for free when flying with a child but I wasn’t sure how strict the with child part is.",5.6010456553755485,7.159478000000004,4.8988217967599414,84.6215463917526,67.96907216494846,8.841826215022092,28.290132547864513,9.23628265651192,2.212842120765832,414,14,80,8,7,124,62,97,0.0,0.883,0.117,0.8934,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,3,2,0,2,4,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,2,1,14,10,7,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,2,3,6,9,2,0,0,0,2,1,9,7,13,7,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,2,2,46,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227974939485771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602199610978044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384566850414207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534991783204312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392515369264084,0.0,0.0,0.10193554473536727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21128226173368306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185648996794656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515720659193488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18388638121714734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.704070406519748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859867321651098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DownWithClickbait,2019/01/01,"Can we all brag for a minute? So my family they're not the type of people to ask how I am. I don't remember a time my family has ever said they're proud of me. I don't like to gloat to my friends. Maybe it's cheesey, but I just wanna brag about my accomplishments this year. In the comments maybe you can list an accomplishment(s) and we can all share!

I found some good jobs with really nice coworkers and I enjoy my jobs. Not only that, but I get paid well. One is as a fine dining server the other as a yoga instructor. Yesterday, I made enough money in tips to pay most of my bills for the entire month! in one shift! I also got my kid into the best school in the area, it's expensive with a super long waiting list. I'm so happy he's enjoying school. This year for his birthday and Christmas I was able to buy my kiddo just about everything he wanted. My baby said this was the best xmas and birthday ever!Threw my baby a big party and it had a great turn out and was so much fun. I also managed to find 2 really great babysitters this year. I am off all welfare assistance including insurance! I made it well over the poverty line for the first time ever and as a single parent! Pretty soon my kid will reach his one year mark for practicing karate! I'm even thinking about heading back to college for nursing. I'm really proud of accomplishing so much this year!",2.4228880866425966,4.390234003610112,3.9817415162454886,86.25017184115526,77.19494584837545,7.1756823104693135,21.910324909747292,8.109356740369918,1.1242185992779778,1077,30,219,19,25,358,151,277,0.024,0.703,0.273,0.9979,4,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,2,1,0,8,19,19,0,0,18,0,14,2,1,3,5,36,30,19,0,2,6,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,2,11,13,1,1,4,1,6,0,4,0,2,4,11,2,30,19,34,18,11,25,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,2,16,149,41,10,0.10714031975095586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136014999221608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001617360871052,0.0,0.0,0.08238429251122888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22487431109237446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070459071549996,0.0,0.07076517073108522,0.29074365934141555,0.0,0.0,0.09629081094446083,0.0,0.20200471643385834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792431124182473,0.09113350124750534,0.0,0.11747383052790104,0.08277634526653417,0.0,0.0559763950162526,0.0,0.0,0.08986421696906115,0.08568990115931438,0.2362451615279688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405286264104295,0.0,0.0,0.1099568780474772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212640470660562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05234334836372758,0.0,0.0,0.09481581147035337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027575221858197,0.0,0.0,0.21527370365517468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551838104693879,0.0,0.15752092548028654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21780316042955056,0.08148504109831407,0.0,0.0,0.11896664588143405,0.0,0.0,0.07427760749096954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900022282695522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591049695142954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121369096520719,0.0,0.20382995793901929,0.0,0.0,0.2168634470732949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865119075991169,0.0,0.0,0.12494876409282067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653790177173501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319413649907983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926640289824848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449742659312495
parenting,py2003,2019/01/01,"Need ideas for first birthday. Hey All.  

First time posting. 

Planning first birthday for our first child ever. Her birthday is this Sunday. I m throwing a party with about 40 adults and 10 kids. I have a 3 course lunch program.  I m so confused about how to fill these 4 hours. 

I am confused whether to hire a dj or face painter or balloon artist or character appearance. 

Please help me by giving some ideas. What games can I play ? What props should I use ? 

Thanks In advance.  ",1.4472051282051268,4.163530233333336,1.4011111111111134,97.34807692307692,91.11111111111113,3.6581196581196576,23.58974358974359,5.369823440869387,0.2218717948717952,371,15,73,2,13,109,69,90,0.066,0.76,0.174,0.8306,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,6,5,4,0,2,3,0,5,2,1,2,2,18,10,7,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,2,1,0,2,4,0,4,0,2,0,4,0,0,9,2,9,9,2,14,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,7,8,44,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18298393007012875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6882750085938979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19405610776981985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559149633016968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992160381203455,0.0,0.0,0.4567241795296488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499963273789224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220549400650696,0.0,0.0,0.1937390069757569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862425158175581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795759860885567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747146067273587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lanaload,2019/01/01,"My high school senior is suddenly afraid of leaving for college. Is this normal? I remember being so excited to leave for college. I couldn't wait to get out and do my own thing. My husband was the same way. We thought our son was looking forward to it but he recently came to me and revealed that he's afraid to leave. 

This has come out of nowhere. We have been touring schools since last year and he's been enthusiastic about it which was awesome to see. He has epilepsy and ADHD so we weren't sure if him going away to college would be a realistic goal. We knew he was smart enough but weren't sure how controlled his seizures would be or if he would be able to focus enough to get it done. After a tough freshman year he really stepped it up. His lowest grade from Sophomore year on has been a B+ and he has taken AP courses. He is finishing his senior year with two AP courses. He has the academics under control. His seizures have also been controlled well and he currently is a varsity wrestler for his school. He is doing great. 

But as he was finishing some college applications last night he came to my room and had a minor freak out. I wouldn't call it a panic attack. It wasn't that bad but he was going on and on about how he can't leave. He is afraid that he'll forget to take his meds or that he'll start having seizures again (stress can make things worse). Those are legitimate worries but we talked about meeting with the medical team at whatever college he decides to attend. He also has silly worries. He talked about having to leave his dog and his dog being confused, not sharing a room with his brother anymore, missing his siblings sporting events, leaving his girlfriend, etc. We talked about those too and how he'll be able to FaceTime or text or whatever. He still said he was scared and doesn't think he can do this and asked if I could sit up with him until he was ready to go to sleep. 

Is this a normal thing seniors go through? What can I do to help? He seems in better spirits today so my husband thinks it was just a ""I'm graduating in a few months and don't know what I'm doing next"" kind of thing but I'm not so sure. ",3.893029292343389,5.208090642691417,4.392278857308586,87.56143452726221,71.80742459396754,6.965226218097447,28.085919373549885,7.292943589461545,1.4033555104408355,1701,63,347,17,32,538,198,431,0.11,0.7979999999999999,0.093,-0.4378,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,7,0,0,6,19,23,1,7,13,0,59,2,1,7,3,77,90,37,0,11,16,4,0,0,1,7,1,1,2,0,24,29,0,4,9,2,0,10,10,12,1,1,24,3,31,11,50,51,7,52,1,1,2,0,63,17,0,10,25,227,55,16,0.15499636673077544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313775622574068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239505384759562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685737351538781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245033996087917,0.08816537157913562,0.07281209435597748,0.0,0.064707746008817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854084536361542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791343100324071,0.1772745520367683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675782281116152,0.0,0.0,0.26076240734570805,0.0618759933326881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930754837735007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015267997337618,0.08643096017200551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097920437770985,0.0,0.17617601421154536,0.0,0.0,0.08544202075296131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051945398718225115,0.08188108567105383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070243223328882,0.04259097482502933,0.1263427259750751,0.0,0.4923563179778215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507895561069024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517306391796525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608301100411142,0.07807126651822555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185831058645533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824201972068112,0.07272679521749899,0.1518635305514873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092742026287036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04964732071826653,0.0,0.07652010662281597,0.0,0.0877903343850176,0.0,0.07371851928590334,0.0,0.07758920121615094,0.2352968969889553,0.061756018418589326,0.07055143550763901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410729812397829,0.0,0.07755415162658076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485361306698215,0.0,0.06189014934408316,0.0,0.08877390720602203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21912336200565244,0.0,0.0582689891228505,0.1868703126302628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20594539773248616,0.09931541332209587,0.0,0.06152490096103262,0.0,0.0,0.07345921620565453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570446422151203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06151445071193359,0.0,0.0,0.06968017400314773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157406334117786,0.07897726970436222,0.16515745779379473,0.0,0.0,0.19962515683824236
parenting,rexisrex70,2019/01/01,"How do I fix this? My son is lost his two top teeth when he was five, he’s now 9 and they still aren’t in!! Is this normal? I have been pretty calm and patient for these teeth to come in for years now but now I’m getting worried. 

When my oldest son was five he lost his two top teeth and when he was six he lost his two other teeth beside his two top teeth. Those grew in except for the first two incisors. His dentist has looked at his  X-rays and said that those roots are not fully developed yet. He’s nine!! (Will be ten in a month) Those should be in by now. There’s literally nothing I can do expect wait patiently for these to come in. But how much longer should I wait for? I’m already really worried. ",0.1889647058823556,2.327026586666669,1.6178431372549051,99.17911764705885,86.46666666666668,4.59607843137255,16.15686274509804,5.900188976854957,-0.7665725490196079,548,11,130,4,17,175,83,150,0.098,0.8390000000000001,0.063,-0.8078,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,7,12,4,0,0,2,0,18,6,5,3,0,19,30,11,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,9,6,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,11,8,2,13,1,16,17,1,26,0,3,1,0,16,10,0,0,13,89,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444174961609067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411144435739905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904405356495287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311972957771272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752537387891328,0.0,0.4583260933698376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170924626818844,0.0,0.10288164743911607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712434410750998,0.1342887945366965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238263851581198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965755327121645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331274673905877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176674353222626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6835693181033862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28425837652906577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012522163615244
parenting,Absolutemadlad750,2019/01/01,"Fortnite is ruining my christian son.  Concerned Christian father here, recently my 11 year old son downloaded  the video game Fortnite after playing it at a friend’s house. While I  didn’t mind at first, it soon began to affect his character. Within a  week, he had taken up hard drugs and smoking. When asked to do his  homework, he called me a “default” and did a strange dance. His grades  have been dropping heavily ever since that day and now he’s threatening  me with violence. Yesterday I entered his room to see him smoking a  cigar and playing extremely Loud rave (sinner) music, he has dyed his  hair blue and now refuses to go to Bible study unless we “take the  battle bus”. I don’t know what that is but he refuses to take any form  of transport except that. Please I am so concerned, what do I do? ",4.980231729055255,6.360017908496733,5.413630421865719,81.02315508021394,69.26143790849672,8.439453357100417,31.55614973262032,8.841846274778883,2.672756862745098,632,27,115,11,11,202,104,153,0.073,0.888,0.039,-0.4404,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,7,5,1,0,7,0,13,3,1,1,1,16,21,10,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,7,7,1,2,1,5,0,4,2,2,0,1,6,5,16,3,15,15,1,25,2,1,2,0,21,5,0,0,15,74,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039005791916847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22049337065920568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408351812187177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521075038689268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735178932128741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334510878894966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20061885561330964,0.0,0.0,0.18222163564333446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340423082341061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112805043535104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27214597084462355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962020059399226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23814716179158965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24749102712562224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588988843290759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328791865100554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18794656680644112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951023867499188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546684756355695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918932691933346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188342705984492
parenting,headinthered,2019/01/01,"dating and teens At what age did you start letting your teenage daughter start going on group dates unchaperoned?   
and to add that, im asking for parents who have kids who are habitual liars....",3.6690000000000014,6.689136971428574,3.6682142857142885,84.34803571428574,79.28571428571428,5.7857142857142865,25.892857142857146,7.1686216300943375,1.394571428571429,154,6,27,2,4,47,32,35,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,5,16,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36262656661753856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044790676065767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189898165196685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966457500624981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4307080530280751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5491037691137787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OhNanny,2019/01/01,What questions would you have for a nanny placement agency? Not the specific nanny. ,4.947142857142854,8.531718000000001,4.84,72.83000000000003,83.28571428571428,5.6571428571428575,28.42857142857143,7.1686216300943375,2.588257142857143,68,3,8,1,2,21,13,14,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8445146218534783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355324952565219,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsPandaBear,2019/01/01,"Is this behavior due to illness or terrible twos? We have a sick toddler whose almost two.  She has a run of the mill cold (stuffy nose, cough).  No fever, vomiting etc.  We noticed she wasn’t feeling well for the last week or so and so we try to be accommodating.  We let her rest by watching shows, limiting screen time restrictions.  We have obliged when she asked to be held and carried.  But she’s been increasingly cranky and fighting us in everything.  

The last few days, she started furiously resisting normal things she typically enjoys like bathing, and normal things like nap time/bedtime, clothing change and diaper changes.  

She has been somewhat resistant to diaper changes in the past but now physically resists each diaper change vehemently, and no amount of bribing works.  

She used to love bath time, but the last few times she ran away from us yelling and crying or refusing to go.  We’ve skipped bath time just to avoid a fight.  

Nap times and bedtimes she used to go uncomplaining but now it’s another huge fight.  She also wants us to hold her while
she sleeps, crying and asking for us if we put her in the crib to sleep.  

Otherwise she seems fine during the day.  She laughs and plays and eats ok (maybe a bit less but toddlers are finicky eaters I’ve noticed).  It’s just when we ask her to change clothes, change diapers, take a bath etc that
she resists and then fights us on it.  

I’m not sure at where the line is drawn between bratty behavior and crankiness from being sick.  I don’t know how much or how long we should accommodate her.  Everything is a fight with her and no amount of bribing or talking works.  I want to blame it on her feeling under the weather but some of this just feels like a behavior issue.  Any one experienced something similar? ",4.212330702118823,6.480158903614459,4.371213128375572,84.1137951807229,72.91566265060241,8.073286248442045,28.616950560864147,8.841846274778883,2.3263505193186544,1404,57,267,29,29,436,184,332,0.15,0.755,0.095,-0.9692,0,1,1,0,7,0,38.0,13,0,0,3,14,19,6,1,16,1,17,11,3,4,1,64,37,35,0,6,16,0,3,3,0,1,6,1,4,0,10,24,1,6,5,8,0,6,6,8,1,2,5,9,37,11,31,27,14,37,0,0,2,1,47,10,0,10,24,169,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772832286655065,0.0,0.0,0.062075165704462525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278637038684327,0.08139458932298117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177013628362064,0.0,0.0729294584438294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474432192020917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4926896894540082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053066276514636,0.10012095689733874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942781079686123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731405523732769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952527575322482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774571630736295,0.05545395875632872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822999407505443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101835017158601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042659626207128376,0.1898195622274997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937487974405052,0.0,0.11376817854159407,0.0,0.0,0.0686940015948004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005787912438624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798283805666217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057061910552443175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210831577431042,0.0,0.17674882959798746,0.0,0.0,0.05259942203689765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410003299727506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803265599752428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066515569311417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535831864813926,0.0,0.0,0.059758055355122165,0.0,0.0,0.054942030304804115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315885391848365,0.0,0.05836291152432714,0.06239050815159595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031386781171214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715759260008337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270099016228643,0.0,0.07582649045174568,0.0,0.4668551642048994,0.13408287290642232,0.0,0.0,0.09156823205182754,0.0,0.06226456934777374,0.0,0.06979248982286937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302108380942982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CBOB95,2019/01/01,"Step parenting question So I’m dating this girl going on 5 years...  she has a son who’s 6. His father I wouldn’t say his very active in his life but he is there due to being forced by courts.. but anyways back to the point me and the kid have a good relationship for the 4 years he had no contact with his dad I’ve been there as a parent figure .. Now fast forward to now he’s beginning to build a bond with his dad somewhat . I have stepped back to allow him a chance to make a bond but with the choice of letting him rebuild a bond his father family is feeding him bad things about me to make him not like me and cling onto his father. And I do love him for the past three years I was financially and emotionally supportive of him but now my relationship is taking a hit because now my girlfriend is upset because she feels as if we have no connection I understand where she is coming from but for me it’s kind of hard due to situations at hand and I feel personally it’s a slap in the face for me that I do so much for this kid not just financially. I thought him to read , write, ride a bike, throw a ball, things like that and no matter what I will never be this kids parent because his father family will beat it out of his head . Which is probably why I have in a way started to emotionally unattach from him . I still love him to death I’m just confused that’s all I need advice and talking to my girlfriend just bring arguments I guess I just need help understanding how to be a step parent ",3.5486496028243617,4.508400912621362,4.780931156222419,85.80216460723743,72.23624595469255,7.948278905560459,25.37231538687849,8.296473431620573,1.3711346278317151,1178,35,255,18,22,390,156,309,0.122,0.767,0.111,-0.5822,4,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,19,10,0,2,19,0,23,7,3,4,2,46,45,18,1,4,12,11,4,2,2,3,1,1,0,5,14,13,1,0,7,3,0,9,7,3,0,1,4,5,44,7,38,33,3,37,0,0,0,2,54,10,0,5,21,179,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746063204789284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911905761580914,0.09181969075681234,0.20110861562858967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472873070379706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24740110295663675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20733835441134926,0.0,0.11120746608177776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624980320805321,0.09223694968988652,0.0,0.0,0.12114347470468995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985108053795576,0.0,0.11286012798635865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371003845346187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451600199415846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124509603029572,0.07767449997416337,0.10745079526565167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850299766699744,0.0,0.14681059332466068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808400171318009,0.16308154063078026,0.08481502843370205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4884311420514911,0.0,0.10497804715917017,0.0,0.09602086600302676,0.0,0.0,0.1039564416473296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856539997849312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319067454964087,0.0,0.1099989618309611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23613153754076335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745192375047317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360999125470107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783676761075645,0.0,0.08782154725173592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479174791983197,0.0,0.0,0.08268315452130226,0.08838907949290233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461173035606044,0.0,0.0,0.08730326318762162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289636363638252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073610905402203,0.0,0.0872884343811836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923010073389288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21244968298312406
parenting,Poctah,2019/01/01,"How do I get my 3.5 year old to eat her dinner that I make? My daughter is 3.5 and every dinner is a struggle. Even if it’s food she likes she won’t hardly touch it. What I do is I give her dinner, tell her she has to at least try it. Which she does without complaint(will even say it’s so good) but she will eat one or two bites of each thing and say she’s done. Then I put it away and tell her if she’s hungry later then she can have her dinner. She will say she is hungry later(usually around 6pm, dinner is at 5pm) and I will give her dinner but she still won’t eat it instead she runs to the fridge and grabs either carrots or snap peas instead(usually just a handful and eats them over her dinner). 

Here’s where I don’t know what to do. Should I tell her no veggies and to just eat her dinner(tried this for 2 weeks and she just went to bed hungry and woke up crying throughout the night then ate a huge breakfast in the morning of eggs and fruit). Or should I just let her eat veggies for dinner instead since they are a healthy choice? I’m at a loss. She eats every other meal(a lot of times she even eats leftover dinner for lunch with 0 issues) and only has 2 snacks a day(usually nuts or pretzels/hummus in the morning and kids Greek yogurt or fruit in the afternoon). So she has to be hungry at dinner time but just won’t eat it! Any advice?",2.604122919334188,3.8531463521126765,3.529756722151088,92.74846991037134,74.91549295774648,5.86786171574904,20.655569782330343,5.852544927426893,-0.10005070422535177,1060,22,237,5,22,339,139,284,0.057,0.912,0.031,-0.7865,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,2,1,17,4,0,1,11,0,26,28,1,2,0,38,35,28,0,4,17,1,4,1,0,8,0,3,1,1,14,15,27,0,1,0,0,3,6,2,0,2,4,9,39,2,26,21,4,28,0,1,0,0,38,13,0,8,13,164,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400083768933865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058456945042438174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652419199039318,0.0,0.0,0.08076390388243672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09442495769511523,0.055438224223907095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522571609017231,0.08796872650009374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.791643074321986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703307966881691,0.0,0.14485298181006007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039453022755408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491147203418303,0.16492470760191905,0.0,0.07210064646192245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770048529925477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972174462273429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04724233559620938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790172442135935,0.0,0.04199657419043328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308161494056425,0.0,0.0,0.057380142783099074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066928922422277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020240754866662,0.0,0.05824991377019013,0.06537779261112882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641531231894861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205080727125538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110845677003452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864917315051572,0.0,0.0,0.08986589660143507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254031033558243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057109174150994736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024998792135732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672478569834425,0.0,0.08397214948886614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895333931429183,0.0,0.0,0.07968741339936758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286406977931116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05535655553518833
parenting,SkyWalker0105,2019/01/01,"How to use the terrible 2’s as life training to break bad habits? My almost 2 year old has become intentionally defiant. Some of the new habitats that have formed have me frustrated sometimes. The worst being smack in the face and biting. Other than that it’s throwing food on the floor, breaking toys, or play in the pet food and water bowl on the floor. He is fully aware that what he’s doing is not good behavior. He even laughs at you when you tell him no and try to explain to him why he can’t do it. It may sound l like maybe he’s not advanced enough to understand. However this little dude is so freak smart, sweet, funny, and loving. I just don’t want to be too harsh, I love this little boy more than anything and I just want to be a good dad. Experienced parents who have been through this and grew from it HELP PLEASE!",3.9170758483033934,5.029228886227545,4.463847305389223,87.84611027944115,71.51497005988024,7.482834331337327,24.695109780439118,7.793537801064563,1.0746211576846303,652,18,138,8,12,207,114,167,0.158,0.6659999999999999,0.175,0.5117,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,7,14,1,0,8,0,16,7,1,3,0,21,23,11,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,13,6,3,0,2,2,0,3,5,5,0,0,1,3,9,9,18,18,5,18,0,0,0,2,18,9,0,4,5,86,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708264938927233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403853497103108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243990252051625,0.0,0.18840904341332484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627048947662916,0.0,0.1126765493828716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125688910999263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861743927544744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143463956974354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049646555609653,0.08334421885566977,0.3419625018496709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079377354101969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138585161415307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476194917933265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901101080185106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18942582927572396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872623485282764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872305789042324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910776207324067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582297214304745,0.0,0.0,0.17759566480562616,0.0,0.14733951682575522,0.0,0.0,0.20124298912540198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393567282939302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098577436030902
parenting,Darthvire,2019/01/01,"Potty Training Advice My son 2 and half, is having a hard time potty training. 

Do you guys have any tips, or books, or methods?

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parenting,yuletidex,2019/01/01,"Is it normal for a new mother to leave her 4-month-old baby on a Holiday for no real reason?? *Originally posted in another sub but I realized it would be better to hear from parents only. Since I wrote the post a couple days ago any mentions of time are a little off. My girlfriend already went on the trip. She is now on her way home and should be back some time tonight. Hope that isn’t too confusing.*

My daughter is only four months old. Girlfriend and I live together and are in a committed relationship (but not engaged yet). 

She announced to me like three weeks ago that she wanted to go with her sister to Vegas on New Year’s without me and my daughter because she “needs a break.” I would like to point out that at the moment, I’m the only one working and bringing in a paycheck. I understand that she does a lot to care for our baby but that is essentially her sole responsibility right now. 

I have vacation between Christmas and New Year’s so I will be home. I guess she thought this gave her a free pass to take off or something. I told my girlfriend I thought it was very odd that she would want to spend my daughter’s first New Year miles away from us. 

She then started ranting about how she never gets a vacation and blah blah. I said that I understood her frustration but this wasn’t the best time. We argued some more and she made it clear she was going no matter what I said. I snapped and said that maybe she should stay in Vegas then and she said she might. (I’m not worried she actually do that, I’m just saying the fight did get that heated). Obviously, things have been tense ever since that happened. 

I really thought she would change her mind but she hasn’t. She’s packed and ready to leave (probably in the next few hours). We started arguing again and I told her she was a selfish witch for the way she’s been acting. She accused me of being scared to be alone with my own baby, which isn’t the case at all. I haven’t done it before but I know I am capable of caring for her. The point is that I can’t see why my girlfriend/mother of my child would choose a holiday to just leave on us. 

At this point, I know she’s going away for a few days no matter what I say and I’ve made plans to take the baby and go and visit my parents and just take a breather. But am I wrong for calling my girlfriend out on this? I mean is it normal for a new mom to just up and go on a holiday instead of being with their partner and child? I try to be a reasonable person but I’m not trying to be a doormat either...",2.58348477351446,4.211444618955515,3.8661877558364464,88.75866807610996,75.7311411992263,6.666168863298997,24.208942467725247,7.397020576406223,0.9638763798299674,1976,63,419,24,43,647,227,517,0.11,0.775,0.115,0.7759999999999999,2,1,1,0,1,0,49.0,5,0,1,5,15,18,4,2,29,0,43,0,0,6,6,89,89,31,0,13,18,8,0,4,5,9,0,7,2,4,26,25,0,0,12,3,2,11,14,9,0,4,23,8,75,10,59,49,10,80,0,0,1,0,71,28,0,8,37,296,101,1,0.0,0.0,0.06621428599297023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029435599610346,0.0,0.0,0.07027476266524127,0.07487695926946326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04614205033874787,0.07114929877388955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749937978427608,0.052174410874886966,0.0,0.04136227535090402,0.0,0.0577375094295886,0.0,0.0712070489683549,0.06001005293864015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928502426712728,0.0,0.13836036246266487,0.0,0.07177898475675193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507753903748059,0.0,0.08751854312514104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937821034063931,0.06943670086515985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137650224072187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771533132855744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090029771087425,0.0,0.19281079557864866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474721670236087,0.0,0.060001772323012126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647473794608056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612324926479386,0.06739287692921624,0.0668210787985319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457995711605507,0.0,0.0,0.21553811125159789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629864215254952,0.0680060652406594,0.059915031230439085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05768579854757076,0.0,0.128407417822458,0.0,0.0,0.06816699107741235,0.07391130190872826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198081663865052,0.06851171743422757,0.07946806853807578,0.10831849164669304,0.0,0.0,0.05031179470210408,0.05233205771425169,0.32766200400515305,0.07216194039269147,0.0,0.13296215504049386,0.0,0.0,0.14239964222438362,0.0,0.045978633530380106,0.15481473050852587,0.0,0.0,0.15068441989179213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924621608033447,0.0,0.0,0.1924277314241124,0.0,0.12996794408345622,0.0,0.07315650857133138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723103926575825,0.04346807117360691,0.1395274129306884,0.0,0.07284822913428364,0.0,0.05794569386897101,0.2581731941843604,0.10791811794320096,0.06793222417591753,0.0,0.05406968523540394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225663569697752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05223619616454982,0.0,0.0,0.09605274655024028,0.07232177389213676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530499851610902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04507820904028565,0.0,0.0,0.16160199998099678,0.11869607586663924,0.0,0.0,0.12967200926901515,0.0,0.09213483416833576,0.0,0.0,0.07063688154053265,0.16323648949362898,0.0,0.0,0.05598544719575773,0.08004236589486495,0.10771636749242992,0.05442721051117237,0.0,0.0,0.0628999794253509,0.0612263587538177,0.0,0.0,0.06540742209937107,0.0,0.049397453360179984,0.06890754259867914,0.0,0.2410024692292973,0.07418609499325389,0.0,0.13108442308591514
parenting,Pleather_Boots,2019/01/01,"Upstairs neighbor kids run around constantly I live in a condo and my (very nice) upstairs neighbors have a 4 and 1 year old.

The kids run around, stomping, rolling things, chasing the dog (I think) constantly.  Sometimes it makes glassware in my house clink around from the velocity.

I totally understand that kids need to move, but it sounds like the parents let the kids treat the house like a playground.  
When I bought my condo my son was 9 and I made sure I wasn't living above someone as I didn't want to subject anyone to his rambunctiousness.

Now I'm stuck with the charming yet noisy toddlers above me.  


Any thoughts on what expectations I should have or what I can request from them in a way that doesn't make me sound like a jerk?   The noise is literally starting to affect my sanity.  It starts around 7am and ends around 8pm.  

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parenting,aspirations27,2019/01/01,"Question re: transitioning off breast milk Hey all, hope this is the right sub for this question.. 

My wife and I have a 11 mo old baby. Our plan was to use breast milk until a year (she pumps - baby wouldn’t latch) but we seem to have run a little short. We have about a week of breast milk remaining. We really don’t want to transition her to formula for a month, and then transition again to whole milk in February. 

Is it safe to transition straight from breast milk to whole milk at 11 months, or is that too early? I realize we waited til the last minute on this, so we’ll need to know one way or the other ASAP so we can start the transitioning phase.",5.053409090909092,5.168177977272726,5.505606060606059,84.9784090909091,68.46969696969697,9.630303030303034,25.59090909090909,9.516144504307137,1.754254545454546,511,12,112,10,8,164,86,132,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.8409,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,7,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,9,0,11,10,4,1,1,23,19,10,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,7,6,2,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,12,2,19,16,3,22,0,0,0,4,13,8,0,6,12,70,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076756128862396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149115381984208,0.17043795125165295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20956519327212209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33379060465495425,0.0,0.0,0.15503912692643146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21940696347472316,0.0,0.1416862038420259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684619621271749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394973969493792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785634927114978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034957545806533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479964494628956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058842214100024,0.0,0.0,0.12332792537956165,0.16596755960103485,0.16772105325712736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668876774189647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464844330061435
parenting,keekeroo2,2019/01/01,"2.5 yo only poops when sleeping. My daughter is 2.5 yo now and every morning and usually also during her nap, will poop her diaper. She has been potty trained since 2 and used to poop on the potty, but now she rarely poops on the potty. She hasn't had a pee accident in months. When I tell her to try and poop on the potty she looks like shes pushing and sometimes will poop a tiny amount. Without fail at night she poops in her diaper. I slept in the same room with her over Christmas when staying with relatives and it appears she just poops in her sleep. 

Anyone else experience this? Could she be constipated and only be able to poo when she's relaxed? 

As an infant and before potty training she would sometimes wake up with a poo diaper but it wasn't always, now it is. ",3.6737445887445896,5.222193409090913,4.5864285714285735,85.0377380952381,72.70129870129871,7.2112554112554115,24.52164502164502,7.793537801064563,1.243850216450217,611,18,120,8,12,198,88,154,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.9434,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,0,8,0,14,13,13,1,0,20,18,16,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,11,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,4,1,19,2,18,8,2,24,0,1,1,0,19,11,0,1,11,82,23,1,0.19342465672500506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468162810058286,0.16094480932139035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524701732940056,0.19818641868318154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459013647385026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443384928735251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615814809838944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296861562785553,0.0,0.0,0.18920642955873493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449751701904023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242799640438546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438971561903278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18151593739082614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29421633497642635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000287483817496,0.0,0.38712869139768974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826038627133918,0.0,0.0,0.20616494809936492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906167551450413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132264518835166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705679997949605,0.2130299325529236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864544667079333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374033265129274,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,turtlenerdle,2019/01/01,"Frustrated with my ex's parenting I currently have full physical custody of my son with my ex getting visitation. He's over there two weekends in a row, then two with me. Sometimes he sees him once or twice during the week. I don't think his dad is awful. He's kind and has good intentions and we agree on most things, but man his parenting in my opinion leaves something to be desired.

My ex has back pain and severe migraines. It's not easy for him and I sympathize, but I don't think it's an excuse for the way he lets my son live over at his place. My son is 5 and all he ever talks about his how dad lets him play video games and watch tv constantly while dad sits around. He doesn't get baths and isn't encouraged to brush his teeth. Sounds like he doesn't read him books or do anything semi educational or enriching. I have no idea what my exes fiance does in regards to parenting, but I never hear about her from my son, so it doesn't sound like much.

My exes fiance has a son of her own, a year younger than mine. And they only ever buy him stuff, not my son. My ex has always loathed the fact I got full custody and is gearing up for another battle soon, yet he treats my son like second class citizen in his home. My son comes home in clothes that are obviously her kids because they're a size too small. And my son mentions that everything is ""Fiances kid's"" toy and that he has to share. I get siblings share stuff but it rubs me the wrong way that everything is called the other kids and my son is just added on as an afterthought and has to ""share"". 

Now, I know that being the custodial parent I'm always going to have the job of being the un-fun one while dad is seen as a vacation but it just feels a little ridiculous. No discipline, no enrichment, no hygiene, and nothing to call his own. Hell, he doesn't even have his own bedroom over there he shares the room with the other kid.

 It really pisses me off that my ex is so adamant on gaining custody yet my son lives like that over there when he has his own room, his own things, and a set schedule at home with me. He brushes his teeth every morning and night, gets a bath every other night unless he's really dirty, has tons of books, crafting/art supplies, a leapstart system, and fun toys to play with that aren't the TV or video games. It's absolutely frustrating. 

And any time I bring this up with my ex he gets super defensive and makes shit up and complains about the littlest things. I absolutely plan on bringing this up when my ex inevitably opens up another custody case but I'm worried none of this will matter to a judge since he's not being neglected or abused, but such lazy parenting is absolutely detrimental in my eyes and I want to minimize the exposure to it as much as I can. ",4.961254167735318,5.352733486535011,5.530754552449348,83.7548904847397,68.71274685816876,8.950992562195436,28.84067709669145,8.922882184376627,2.0477357168504744,2180,72,454,36,35,704,251,557,0.133,0.77,0.097,-0.9809,7,0,1,0,1,0,52.0,1,0,1,3,24,28,8,0,25,1,39,7,5,3,6,73,60,46,0,2,18,27,2,4,0,1,2,3,8,6,28,32,0,3,6,16,1,5,17,12,0,5,2,11,60,16,59,51,13,64,1,1,4,0,85,31,3,7,27,293,88,5,0.0,0.1013774203479309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423894966357748,0.0,0.0,0.058185347472484536,0.1794392161245569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041054231848909,0.07616865195024622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579218313101633,0.0,0.05215802821670281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473749787997486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370440784256525,0.0,0.09246252826349108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748762089157334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651314018873945,0.15479212923155242,0.1441799784940026,0.0,0.15379588691930712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043262906482188564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22351404130960026,0.0,0.048627068172429615,0.07176565871398373,0.0684320456934662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643501247978237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25747810834397955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658950405348894,0.0,0.0,0.08490745238152267,0.0,0.0,0.08910004444025714,0.04702284236854328,0.0,0.0,0.0905981984232561,0.0,0.17498664616066806,0.0,0.16720581345127486,0.08575597545437548,0.1511062852809702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057113548158077725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579637768636098,0.0,0.06599097655391442,0.0,0.0,0.16058898118819598,0.0,0.08209940420414374,0.0,0.0,0.09112113443682547,0.057979278090913564,0.0650740400015933,0.09104439711373286,0.0,0.475034446114061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939446841452882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558552706040799,0.0,0.10962689376077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818213321803633,0.0,0.0,0.09666112675284692,0.08782854597856113,0.07077807884748187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587009467853815,0.08462337439207873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958968921713012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877179410483396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053151543054015,0.10964982709593153,0.0,0.0,0.04989210757662664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716401079372256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504669042437576,0.13583085764521646,0.06863297431088028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689274273996157,0.0,0.0,0.09354902270531308,0.0,0.055099362725104836
parenting,booklovermama,2019/01/01,Sleep How many hours do your teens sleep during the school week? ,4.98,7.212943666666668,1.8733333333333315,103.005,70.66666666666666,4.800000000000002,12.0,3.1291,-1.8661000000000003,52,0,11,0,1,13,11,12,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555631350655267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660496915847021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654035332311926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7226247702475341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896138456634588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jefffffffrey91,2019/01/01,"Keeping your Hands Clean with Disposable One-Time Use Gloves? For all the parents out there, what are your thoughts on eating with an eco-friendly, disposable one-time use glove? The [CDC came out with a report](https://www.cdc.gov/handwashing/why-handwashing.html) in 2018 that clean hands saves lives.  


Image - [https://imgur.com/a/o5ixNrw](https://imgur.com/a/o5ixNrw). ",14.021999999999998,18.287289800000003,6.749000000000002,68.93950000000001,51.0,9.8,32.5,10.125756701596842,3.5804,310,10,39,6,4,74,39,50,0.0,0.877,0.123,0.6966,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,3,2,2,1,12,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,6,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,1,8,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34167158675882736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30567899079697913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308007923159883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655280967346707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637871892751313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404859156596033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33170824394576737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23716106226206365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5160197273725499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hyperizeallday,2019/01/01,"Need advice for toddler constipation Hi, getting a little desperate here...we are potty training our 2 yo and while he's getting the pee concept, his 4 to 5x poops a day went to zero. 

I understand the poo phase is different and will take time but we are headed into day 3 and  my son is really uncomfortable and clearly experiencing stomach pains -- just too scared to poo and not sure if we should wait it out to take it's natural course or if theres any tips on how to help him make the ""push""?

Thanks!!",5.507833333333338,5.6493706500000025,6.604000000000003,77.40033333333336,67.5,9.866666666666667,30.66666666666667,9.725611199111238,2.6921666666666675,395,14,79,8,6,133,78,100,0.141,0.7290000000000001,0.13,0.2128,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,5,0,6,5,4,2,2,23,16,11,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,9,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,1,7,2,9,13,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,4,45,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329798946437352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213282238387033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075205437043144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490966901316061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491277542139807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446862653480541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598069606125117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389580700411705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914626553713068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767843694496595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25369419806709786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273705895642892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23869860909076765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470670707697368,0.0,0.3585222283189132,0.0,0.0,0.21950381251902476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902380182404964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24820216883479845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210164289894071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hella_broke,2019/01/01,"Is it ok to leave my children? I have two boys 4 & 13, I have them full time but they spend a lot of time with their Dad. My teenager is highly abusive to me, he runs away constantly. He has gotten so bad that the police have said he has to live at his fathers place where he behaves but his Dad always sends him home after two weeks. The little one is starting to act terribly he calls me a fucking bitch and punches and scratches me. I have no family in town just my ex who treats me like I’m annoying and can be quite cruel to me and he thinks I cause the problems with the kids. He has a good job, I am studying and not working currently. He pays child support for the little one but the oldest isn’t biologically his but he has raised him since he was 5. My sons biological Dad refuses to pay child support. I pay for everything, private school, braces ect and I have very little money left. My mental health has declined terribly, I am spoken to like a dog daily and I can’t take it any longer. I have reached out for help from social workers, police, psychologist but nothing is working. I’m a great mum and I’m a really great ex wife too but they treat me very badly. I am considering leaving the kids with their Dad and moving away because I can’t take it anymore. Has anyone else had to leave their children? ",2.20314606741573,4.265576101123597,3.689806741573033,87.6307550561798,78.25093632958801,6.2195655430711625,23.78861423220974,7.24861992348623,0.9566136029962542,1037,35,212,13,25,342,148,267,0.174,0.7,0.126,-0.9513,2,0,0,0,0,1,25.0,0,0,6,4,4,19,4,0,13,1,26,2,0,1,0,26,38,16,0,1,8,10,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,7,5,13,0,1,1,0,5,4,5,9,0,4,4,2,34,10,22,33,2,26,0,0,0,1,45,14,2,1,10,127,39,10,0.0,0.12960597021255427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101893102142583,0.11852100867110593,0.0,0.07438706159068158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848273039250364,0.07648608857323506,0.11208013509454937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554579060008055,0.0,0.1826675215013865,0.06668143486191519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169658326046816,0.0,0.0,0.11237080846115337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820872579679985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137898720700327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831018125370908,0.0,0.10312053711008404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112672352989964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174881145768617,0.0,0.2411995954995375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162735011570961,0.0,0.0,0.07331994871190968,0.11557360517036143,0.10972430193983763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854993850125222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34747581954215506,0.11884953609945485,0.0,0.0,0.10688214201523692,0.3289041986512286,0.09659092055134773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299710389900807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102365910088532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626130499757767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495998911031554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824722435048054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428636446594112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10466879780023812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634677468409416,0.0,0.0,0.07007625504027337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040522969605004,0.0,0.0,0.11070570794848106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048623990752176,0.0,0.0,0.11150649674623422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742483831051993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24826264506505386,0.0,0.0,0.164491154150417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009091460225284,0.0,0.0,0.1275691369187577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21371084141997007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051182720137848,0.0,0.0,0.08774383086101581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592703999302274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WestReward9,2019/01/01,"I like my job more than my kids My husband and I have twin 5 year olds, and I have noticed that our marriage has gone downhill slowly since then. Quick background: I am a surgeon who did a fellowship in a very sub-specialized field. I save lives (literally) for a living and I love it so much. I spent so much time/money/energy going through medical school, residency, and fellowship that there was never any way that I was going to quit. I have so much respect for SAHM, but for me, my work is the most gratifying thing I do. Which comes to our issue: I love working more than I like being a mom. My husband is a teacher but has stayed at home the past few years and just now went back to work now that the twins are in school full time. 

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The kids are awesome. They're probably as good as you can get for 5 year olds. The issue is that I just don't enjoy parenting. I love kids, I even watched my niece and nephew while they were 4 and 6 for two weeks while my sister and BIL were out of the country. I guess I never really bonded with them? I love them, but in the way I love my niece and nephew. I make sure to be enthusiastic and spend as much time with them as I can, but if I had a choice between working and spending time with them, I would choose work, and that's what makes me feel horrible about being a good mother. 

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My husband is such an incredible father. If he could have it his way he would have a dozen kids. He loves everything about being a dad and loves spending time with them. He approached me and told me that he thinks I love work more than the kids, which while I don't ""love"" as in would do anything for my work as opposed to my children, I do like being at work better. We still have date night once/twice a week and I love being with my husband. But work fulfills me more than being a mom. I went and talked to my psych friend, and asked what she thought. She said as long as I was being a **good** parent, it didn't matter if I liked work more, as long as my kids never doubted that they were loved. My husband says that he didn't expect it to be like this, and he thought I would be more invested in the kids and not be at work as much as I am. We have lots of help with the kids, as they have a nanny and we have house staff that help with the running of the house, so he's not overwhelmed with that aspect of it. 

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I guess to sum it up:  I love my kids. I like them like I would like a friend's child/niece or nephew, but I never bonded with them like my husband has. And I'm okay with that as long as they never feel unloved or unwanted. And I don't think I can give up my greatest joy, which is being a surgeon in order to make my husband feel like I'm doing better at parenting. I was wondering if anyone had any advice? I know couples counseling would probably be an appropriate first step, but I just don't see a compromise. ",3.5640141594368977,4.292194847315439,4.354100507448028,89.73707726305453,72.00335570469798,7.35825830741529,24.77148469471272,7.407850130929222,0.8809365362579804,2243,61,501,23,41,721,222,596,0.025,0.731,0.244,0.9994,4,0,0,0,0,0,79.0,5,1,11,15,17,38,0,2,31,1,64,15,0,3,6,91,105,58,0,13,18,19,3,10,2,6,3,2,1,10,26,37,0,1,10,0,5,9,13,3,0,3,20,7,86,35,65,65,16,60,0,1,2,12,81,14,0,12,42,352,112,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04748706801500081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795997055167382,0.17714695690988375,0.06609336291254031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033979180664832125,0.0,0.039990046708283086,0.0,0.0454303357572592,0.0,0.0,0.03736702473541914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595773655822181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041860815371912885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038799640608116207,0.053770118555152936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03209694232373492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043674601124538616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371420219147358,0.034716713747878686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413354013433657,0.0,0.0,0.07508969602817407,0.0,0.02538920070093229,0.0466173375330545,0.05523601050269696,0.1222790770893964,0.0,0.0,0.10706708704842292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514522653966666,0.0,0.04874535943051217,0.0,0.0,0.11214561955756773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144238335054302,0.04822364485221131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026706876566415724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374136056063697,0.0,0.08582162851363784,0.1290167578499977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04131425012883104,0.5263132277424063,0.0,0.09731384179031764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048954964915728684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382918303990125,0.0,0.0,0.17861682546966445,0.0,0.18739965265281605,0.0,0.0,0.045603688361772574,0.0,0.0,0.05532642447934908,0.10198583681324426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187902319130149,0.0,0.046390008792315016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478857430310233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168741336505946,0.0,0.0,0.031131592355495823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0462255537309412,0.03864517983972547,0.0,0.09836270415129884,0.03872440975850392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04019879105930568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051796454787333884,0.03880851720346426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045800787654695786,0.0,0.0,0.03905931083480047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032284764197452916,0.06227620982220493,0.0,0.07715897287993663,0.14168245596938595,0.0,0.0,0.046435188213874455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04747085009903068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040096467887370535,0.0,0.1157188006823234,0.077960934770411,0.0,0.0,0.09009723531639337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526998664806606,0.3891600142075612,0.0,0.0,0.2071255639225136,0.0,0.17714695690988375,0.09388193939794344
parenting,caniscreamnow,2019/01/01,"16mo. old throws up randomly after/during meals I have a healthy and bright 16 month old daughter who has always loved to eat. She will try anything and likes almost everything she's tried. She enjoys mealtimes immensely. However the last few months, I would estimate since about 12months, she has started throwing up during meals or directly after. She will have a bad coughing fit and then throw up. It doesn't happen consistently. Sometimes we will go for 2 weeks with no incident, and then suddenly, some meal that we've enjoyed plenty of times before she will throw it all up.

We think it's because she isn't chewing her food properly anymore, but I don't know why she stopped. When she throws up there are whole bits of food in it. I constantly coach her while she's eating to chew, chew, chew, use her teeth, and demonstrate exaggerated chewing but it is still happening. It seems to be softer foods that cause her the most problems, like chicken pie, scrambled eggs, and rice, although that isn't always the case and there are other things, for example spaghetti-os and oatmeal that she can eat every time with never a problem. Things like crackers? Never an issue.

I am at such a loss and I hope someone here has had a similar experience and can offer some advice/encouragement. I did talk to her pediatrician about it but she was also stumped and the only thing she could recommend was having a barium swallow done to make sure there are no abnormalities. We are waiting to hear back from the hospital but it's happened twice today and I'm obviously concerned about her losing weight or losing interest in eating if this keeps up. Any thoughts at all would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.",5.400511182108623,7.515727364217253,5.541362300319488,77.63327028753994,69.28753993610223,8.202888178913739,30.411373801916927,8.841846274778883,2.6606123706070286,1367,56,232,25,25,431,190,313,0.073,0.7859999999999999,0.141,0.9699,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,3,0,0,3,12,17,0,0,12,0,32,21,1,3,6,51,50,25,0,7,7,1,1,3,0,6,1,1,0,0,18,17,18,3,4,2,0,6,8,6,0,1,6,3,29,11,28,35,8,39,0,3,1,1,28,11,0,10,25,163,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755857340514566,0.0,0.0,0.07791194234838547,0.16213331678880627,0.0,0.0,0.06625336557200037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662091553625306,0.0,0.0,0.0801737138814145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491497000719194,0.08134706373237527,0.059390294310609264,0.0,0.08290278154898215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636451226300477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008385992666567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528344253077483,0.0,0.07778713807234695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970114229340744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987665563472605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208603401263158,0.0,0.08756066228145692,0.09530181840430517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534255565093544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05536972905156382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584618148196706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980675399050976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676650429187142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168796097593233,0.0,0.0865971557877288,0.0,0.0,0.053543060255005055,0.07941560644544815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279301016793397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21799068091470888,0.0,0.0,0.08793122623911008,0.0,0.06503294986801589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552981656841489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502826565106394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20446546012480826,0.0,0.0,0.07409724868466852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644801868365954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745287187099816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869343277493337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059221326440673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254916311387883,0.0,0.0963573064883038,0.0,0.06895898301731662,0.0,0.0778049342410003,0.08145292221735763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182332973395656,0.0,0.0,0.07830773577530971,0.0,0.08969723786611615,0.0,0.0,0.19417752620124307,0.06242697169531209,0.0,0.07734576381200545,0.11362035928357984,0.0,0.0923489367346758,0.0,0.0,0.1322924058479545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414522092077215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814966713849711,0.1186392385194886,0.0,0.0,0.08791226873056215,0.10877321562434077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841799036134197,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peacepisces769510,2019/01/01,"A kid's thoughts on Dexter's Lab... My 8 year old said to me in the car today, ""How do Dexter's parents not know that Dexter has a lab in their own house?? Their electric bill must be HIGH!!"" 

I guess we talk about bills too much lol",0.14920000000000044,1.9375435200000024,1.5259999999999998,101.933,83.8,4.0,16.0,3.1291,-1.3024000000000004,176,3,44,0,5,56,42,50,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.5781,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,1,1,7,8,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,5,4,2,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,3,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34271720617533113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286994887848513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589733734157598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709751591237718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286979541086593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264523396090951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454452598890842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959320752120748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500543958645755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469826007763749,0.0,0.0,0.2948911414088697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20034140504967227
parenting,pthrowaway54,2019/01/01,"My 9-year old boy wore makeup to school? We have 2 children: a 9-year old boy and a 4-year old girl. Our son has always been precocious, intelligent, and sensitive. He's a very cute and charming kid, and people love him. However, he's always been a ""softer"" kid, and has sometimes dealt with bullying from people who call him girly, skinny, gay, etc. My husband was raised in a strict evangelical family in the rural midwest and has very traditional views on masculinity, and though he loves our son to death, this has been a point of contention in their relationship. He's always after my son to get interested in more traditionally ""boyish"" things like sports, hunting, cars, etc. He sometimes gets a little irritated when my son instead prefers to read books at home or play around with his little sister and her dolls. 

Recently I caught my son trying on some of my makeup - just some blush, mascara, lipstick, etc. It was a little surprising to me, but my first thought was that my son had actually done a pretty good job at applying it, LOL. I asked him what he was doing and he got really embarrassed, said he was just messing around with it and wouldn't do it again. I said okay an d didn't press the issue further, since I felt he was uncomfortable. 

However, a few weeks later I found out that he had gone to school with a small, but noticeable amount of makeup. He sometimes runs directly to the carpool in the morning and I don't notice him. We only found out from the parent of a friend, who ended up calling my husband about if after school. Apparently my son had done the same thing as before, used a little bit of blush and lipstick, enough for anyone to obviously tell. My husband freaked out over this. While I wasn't home, he confronted my son, who said he'd just tried it out because he liked the way it looked. Apparently they got into a huge fight, and my husband ended up yelling at my son, spanking him, and sending him to his room.

I only found out about all this once I got back from work. I couldn't believe my husband had reacted this way. He's never been violent with the kids before. I comforted my son, who'd obviously been crying. I told him everything was okay. He's terrified of his dad now. I asked my husband what the hell he was thinking, but he said he was just trying to do the right thing for our son, and if he kept on the way he was going he would be bullied and ostracized by the other kids. He told me to keep the makeup away from our son and to start forcing him into more ""masculine"" activities and extracurriculars.

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I'm at a loss for what to do. I think what my husband did is unacceptable, and I don't know how to deal with this going forward. What should I tell my son? How should they mend their relationship? I want my son to be able to express himself, but I don't want him to be bullied or made fun of.",5.55616649537513,6.1098978848920895,6.140680369989724,79.33114388489209,67.45323741007195,9.16004110996917,29.734635149023642,9.159459690764724,2.352692147995889,2248,77,439,39,35,732,247,556,0.092,0.7979999999999999,0.11,0.315,6,0,0,0,2,0,82.0,6,0,4,3,16,23,4,1,29,3,47,4,1,5,4,79,84,33,1,10,12,24,2,2,1,4,0,5,3,8,26,36,1,2,10,4,0,8,8,8,0,1,43,9,65,15,68,31,13,64,2,1,2,3,104,36,1,6,21,286,91,7,0.0698401140307803,0.0,0.0681538767364745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433770894548506,0.07567173437345902,0.08486338292881675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883383159385575,0.0,0.0,0.1243450169028424,0.13058215779278445,0.0,0.0656170861278867,0.05370273671670698,0.0,0.04257388528066155,0.0,0.11885758614547275,0.07868589239244926,0.0,0.0,0.0762473160906656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426291300365834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671608582370447,0.0,0.07200209089661838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294136924632786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371522277435601,0.07216350723306854,0.2336705656341353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276779117431609,0.0,0.06583904389724504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705746186197271,0.0,0.0,0.059405965316742936,0.0,0.2297282406503544,0.053958298854287406,0.0,0.07297715407335631,0.0,0.07938349253950375,0.05857857410725172,0.1675725576187507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011065757540744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289493401685954,0.06930553666916768,0.06207710230996026,0.0,0.0,0.03838230019454418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824070391003248,0.2799925676604963,0.0,0.0,0.05864810610366695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606685930576472,0.06608440455923588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386500144699645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902686544240485,0.21985635391074976,0.07437744210803647,0.0,0.10623310767295524,0.0,0.0,0.07754918161091906,0.0,0.0,0.0968366827569893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602148207891129,0.0,0.0,0.07105250394352214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985901375750096,0.0,0.04474136540644457,0.0,0.06895868703125951,0.14996429107203615,0.0,0.05964307578238647,0.26573576667383897,0.0,0.0,0.21204577195465968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577724640340861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072209757506002,0.0,0.049433192176080464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208667598107055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919600534960822,0.08950145010143687,0.06861755743761458,0.0554452493239999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347044377749087,0.0,0.1422505590042366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060319434749070276,0.0,0.11525081664766924,0.08238701750062784,0.1663074951837265,0.0560215267847547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05084443480615163,0.0,0.0,0.04961241319670299,0.0,0.08486338292881675,0.1349242309132174
parenting,sknechtel,2019/01/01,"Parents that had 2 under 2: how?! Please give me your wisdom!

I have a 13 month old little boy and his surprise little brother will be here in a month or so. I'm starting to freak out.
I know that this is going to be hard regardless, but if you have tips, advice, or words of encouragement PLEASE share them with me!",1.8602083333333328,3.8423204375000033,3.135625000000001,91.58020833333336,79.0,5.516666666666668,20.041666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.07221666666666637,244,6,52,2,6,79,51,64,0.045,0.715,0.24,0.9284,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,1,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,12,7,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,4,7,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,3,4,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23343277452529626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291574295108216,0.1357621740436772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21399139556728972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128332736469814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788451412961478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813467464556064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506665271698739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26525024672017633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5244415118935489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908194449630426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aristidesthejustok,2019/01/01,"Dance of Doom My son has a friend over and wanted to show him how the Google Home thing works. So they've been dancing to the Dance of Doom for the last twenty minutes.

Send help. ",1.1439189189189207,3.4075708918918965,1.0931756756756776,103.70030405405407,83.32432432432431,3.7,14.655405405405405,3.1291,-1.5438054054054056,141,2,33,0,4,41,31,37,0.128,0.733,0.139,0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,2,0,6,2,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,18,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38456919576847903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333638950530776,0.0,0.4992952339720198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057419477149194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306905330481295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29359254956814257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623762019537972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LunoLife,2019/01/01,"Am I causing harm? I am volunteer at an orphanage for the past 4 years. Almost every year there is a kiddo whom I get attached to. I play with them and enjoy showing love and connecting. All of them have been adopted.

This time there is a 1 yr old kiddo whom I am found of. I spend a lot of time with him and play, provide cuddles and make him laugh. Now every time I arrive he cries for me and when I leave he cries also. 

I am worried about RAD, unfortunately I am not in a position to adopt him and I am scared that he is too attached to me. Am I over reacting?",0.6664005602240906,2.610356697478995,3.0522899159663868,90.84185224089636,82.86554621848741,5.9834733893557415,21.68137254901961,7.1686216300943375,0.6191170868347338,433,14,97,6,12,149,71,119,0.145,0.713,0.142,0.3094,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,0,7,7,0,1,6,0,12,2,0,3,1,16,16,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,19,5,14,14,2,12,0,0,0,2,11,3,0,2,9,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205657126561098,0.0,0.0,0.1642412924758671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21098052512702947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4511977719505369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460808680694373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22518717168337984,0.0,0.0,0.10730190731073272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174664158182811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17460564789554292,0.18536231816583107,0.0,0.1370918939753854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21551042385395794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960572324513658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056199327021511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592739591229222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20857206493224084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645143310625515
parenting,Pensive_Procreator,2019/01/01,"Endless echo chamber I’m(30m) sure I could go on forever about this but I want to keep it short because I’ve used all my words up repeating myself to my children.  

I have 4 kids (15y niece, 12y stepson, 3y son and almost 1y son), and I can’t get them to listen, not including the 1 year old, to save my life. With the older kids I expect chores and homework to get done before extracurricular activities, and IF they do them it’s the very bare minimum. I also expect them to help out without being asked (if you see something pick it up) this almost never happens and if it does it’s only because I’m already upset. With the 3 year old, he just can’t be reasoned with and will kick and scream and hiss until I have to put him in time out or spank him.

I’ve tried being calm and reasoning with all of them individually but it never seems to make a difference, my wife(31) also is very fed up with it. My problem is I just can’t stand not being listened to and having to repeat myself to the point all I do is punish and nitpick and then yell. I don’t want this for my kids or my wife and I. 

How do I deal with this? Do I just need to let go? Or am I doing something wrong?",3.2476111908177927,3.929116735772357,4.8754806312769015,85.88149928263991,72.69918699186992,7.251649928263989,25.03969392635103,7.285733465282438,0.9912709708273556,911,26,198,9,17,309,135,246,0.081,0.855,0.063,-0.8146,0,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,5,0,7,8,1,1,6,0,24,2,0,6,6,60,42,26,0,10,14,3,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,4,11,21,1,1,3,0,0,3,9,5,0,0,2,5,31,3,30,33,3,25,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,9,12,137,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804371307451166,0.0,0.15452520695359429,0.22396188054352725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090797815940014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072045181932535,0.0,0.11915415210017563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118015621204882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436349194784853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630023948057838,0.0,0.0,0.12254010220155022,0.1432980275380854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463184841336416,0.0,0.15916313044954886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382696060652087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385831901628837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446398636307668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318888345807446,0.09890644681468497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347027753849592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038295433521964,0.21599760800917334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29387323416343103,0.0,0.0,0.1064981738249762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323724294363731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398860184132094,0.0,0.14076756930634607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879457521935877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158478365619114,0.12747691430482366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156019448852672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197543909910908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165188983287193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507032908655684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093987999875093,0.0,0.2310767664370728,0.16518516878400455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498271744494228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309945534322358,0.0,0.1803478471292072
parenting,Trooper8005,2019/01/01,13 year old sexting strangers on Snapchat I have no idea what to do. I don't even know how to make sure to keep this stuff off her phone. I think some of these guys might be adult men. I'm her sister. Do I take away her smart phone and replace it with a flip phone? Do I call the cops? ,-0.5571428571428569,1.3512024920634929,0.2819047619047623,109.07142857142858,87.57142857142858,3.6,15.349206349206348,3.1291,-1.660993650793651,219,4,60,0,7,66,49,63,0.037000000000000005,0.873,0.09,0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,11,13,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,8,11,1,5,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,2,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27156070833487506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29514010654505896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090686794608025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861930548866407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262887115055586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25691024806883245,0.0,0.0,0.15884772158333454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19293510429135194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30662363355786865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30329675151765256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33087934947424746,0.0,0.0,0.2724148871388203,0.0,0.21732059900374756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520387463696916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18613099057218385
parenting,Eat_apples26,2019/01/01,"Kid climbing out of bed constantly Anyone else sat outside their kids bedroom just waiting to put them back to bed for the hundredth time 😑

I know we’ve been really lucky as my son is nearly 3 and has only just worked out how to climb out of his crib. But my god this isn’t fun. ",2.032711864406778,3.6166675254237326,3.2119999999999997,93.05122033898306,77.13559322033899,6.07593220338983,21.969491525423727,6.742157984588678,0.3571125423728816,220,6,49,2,5,71,50,59,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.8173,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,2,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,7,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,4,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,2,11,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,29,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611821962037192,0.3827275832882324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28722298169174204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036552945767348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120379798575339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052833687828584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840878492018599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37550273929894346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392941060860476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178094603200392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719356788927115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlanetVagina,2019/01/01,"Preschool Birthday Party Activities I've never hosted a birthday party for kids before, the first birthday was justa few babies and their parents, and the second two were family parties without kids. This year, I feel that I need to take it up a notch, since he's at an age where he's excited about his birthday. The party is in five days. It will be from 11am to 1pm.

I'm just looking for some advice about making the party fun for the kids, maybe a sample timeline for a two hour party. I haven't chosen a theme, but he picked out a dinosaur cake from Costco, so I suppose we could just stick with dinosaurs. I've invited all the kids in his preschool class, but only five have RSVP'D, giving six kids total plus their parents, which is probably fine as we don't have a huge house. The youngest kid attending is 2.5 and the oldest is four, so I need to plan some things that are simple enough for everyone, and hopefully hold their attention.

Is it a good idea to open presents during the party, or open them later and send thank you notes? 

Thanks in advance for any tips and advice.
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parenting,Bananapieicecream,2019/01/01,"""Mummy, smell my finger!"" Not something I was expecting to hear from my 3 year old just now! And yes, she confirmed it was the worst case scenario! Happy New year all!",1.41,4.020190000000003,2.2800000000000007,92.965,86.5,4.45,20.5,5.985473137389443,0.1338499999999998,128,4,25,1,4,40,29,32,0.106,0.698,0.196,0.5374,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,1,5,3,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,4,1,2,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116031563052379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43579010622651104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734353679838021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057310745891989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976671524061721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4979883657923636
parenting,Jxustwannadownvote,2019/01/01,"Any experience with birth after a positive drug test? I had one 7 week prenatal appointment at one doctor before my insurance changed and I had to switch. The next location didn’t see me until 14 weeks where I signed for my records to be transferred. Then I had my next appointment at 18 weeks and they informed me I had tested positive for opiates at the 7 week appointment. They tested me again at that 18 week appointment and it was negative.

For what it matters, it was a false positive and I’m endlessly frustrated and anxious about it. By the time I was informed it was too late to do a hair sample and the urine sample was long gone. I mailed a letter documenting everything and my statement that it was a false result to be put in my medical records but who knows if that helps.

They haven’t brought it up in subsequent appointments so I thought maybe that was that but I’m 28 weeks now and just received a call from a voluntary CPS program that services “at risk” parents to prevent abuse, developmental delays, etc. I was required to fill out a screener at my 14 week appointment and nothing on it put me at risk so I’m guessing they sent my drug result to the program along with the screener.

I’m really looking for experiences of how birth and early parenting went for people who had a positive drug test in early pregnancy, false or not. Were you and baby tested in the hospital? Did they remove baby at all? Did they do any home visits? Just trying to prepare myself. Any info is appreciated.",5.444062500000001,6.705151392361113,6.251000000000001,75.89399999999998,68.0625,9.787777777777778,32.802777777777784,10.008157457239328,3.4154577777777786,1203,53,216,29,20,396,144,288,0.06,0.861,0.079,0.6868,2,0,3,0,1,0,20.0,0,1,6,1,10,3,1,2,16,0,23,7,2,3,1,38,36,20,0,1,7,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,17,15,0,3,6,0,0,10,4,3,0,2,22,5,28,0,37,12,2,48,0,0,2,0,20,16,0,3,22,152,45,11,0.0,0.12622180412645448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21733418072276486,0.0,0.0,0.12034969686313635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065002686797284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087800525760917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269566285484542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903898327908404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706263842388223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188102150364684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574318545273247,0.20841550156704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735589687390988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140547761572102,0.0,0.10685926986734287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05854664656627905,0.0,0.12017159788569814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427657460163466,0.08945920183077237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702469908599113,0.0,0.0,0.10731876569160397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265938347555477,0.0,0.0,0.10221935891432997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437631293966716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365801165780071,0.0,0.0,0.0738551755794748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141861398003384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824648064516453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489140712433264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457370713839768,0.06211907748668113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232754993546461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.598169145283692,0.0,0.0,0.09875529584206426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,papatonepictures,2019/01/01,"HNY parents! Need a free version of Auld Lang Syne for that video of last night's NYE that ended at 9:30? :) No strings. No catch. No login. Just enjoy. Hello Parents.

We had a great time last night, watched the countdown with the kids at 9:30pm. They were in bed by 10, we were in bed by 10:17 (had to take the dog out).

This morning, I put together a version of Auld Lang Syne for use with a video I sent to the folks back home, and thought maybe some of you other parents, some of whom have been very helpful to me in these forums over the years, might like to use it in your videos too. So, here you go. 

[Downloadable version of Auld Lang Syne - Simple Piano](https://soundcloud.com/tony-teofilo-818625739/2019-01-01-auld-lang-syne-wav)

Happy New Year!",2.806713615023476,5.421331126760566,2.145661971830986,96.5404178403756,79.28169014084506,4.631737089201878,21.43849765258216,5.6839178017228535,-0.11703248826291104,588,17,121,3,15,169,94,142,0.044,0.7979999999999999,0.157,0.9576,3,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,2,3,1,0,5,5,0,0,9,0,7,0,0,2,0,14,14,2,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,7,6,0,0,1,3,1,4,3,0,0,0,7,1,9,6,24,6,5,22,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,3,11,67,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090277526348673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078063981109496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675037175802363,0.0,0.0,0.1876883708284972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122187848397012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410717082229672,0.0,0.1707629353915872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775339369940081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316985384636913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710272941038541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059597618316053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622957201730903,0.0,0.16441724958054227,0.0,0.3195142996305371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5670885906149736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17113655183075654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279980452465152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351502261416334,0.09926734506619453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940625336332869,0.0,0.14046445928955506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925581893528875
parenting,He11oK1tty,2019/01/01,"Does you baby wake up crying? Pretty much every time she wakes up, before her eyes even open she cries. It’s not a tear producing cry more like the cry she would make if she was mad and then after about a minute or less she stops and will start singing to herself, playing in her crib, etc. it’s just that brief moment as soon as she wakes up that she does it. If it’s not at 4am or whatever witching hour she happens to do it at (this isn’t often anyway) I just go get her as soon as she’s settled down. I’ve learned running in there while she’s crying seems to get a prolonged pitty cry fest as she realizes I’m worried and hey why not milk it. She’s 18 months if that makes much difference. ",1.5747401247401245,3.2127385945945965,2.8027027027027027,95.24583160083162,78.5945945945946,5.634927234927236,20.844074844074846,6.297961479604792,0.01654823284823337,544,14,125,4,13,175,93,148,0.102,0.797,0.101,-0.043,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,9,4,1,0,4,0,5,5,4,3,0,23,14,15,0,4,10,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,4,1,1,3,2,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,1,18,2,18,11,5,23,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,7,12,81,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599657329350913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8209800462059771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014505817576294,0.0,0.0,0.2180172607578242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892412502505222,0.0822747318486564,0.0,0.10495230869247246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016128816583505,0.0,0.0707937832000027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015338764365402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267251300573465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06085670261507262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662976732114939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942746970124082,0.0,0.18314082719721028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672850233924685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340029576964868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816852415648042,0.0,0.0,0.10414283427488502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263549253363186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240152696676448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265029174568699,0.0,0.08848818089298696,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meldramatic,2019/01/01,"Help! My strong-willed 21 month old ignores EVERYTHING I say. I am at my wit’s end with my little girl. She is powerful and knows what she wants and doesn’t want. Because of this, she ignores my requests pretty much 95% of the time. She laughs at my stern ‘mom’ voice. She’s trying to hurt herself with things that she shouldn’t play with. To top it all off, she is super tall for her age and can reach up high and grab things that we try to keep out of reach. I thought that I knew how to parent, but honestly it is killing me. I love her so much but it is exhausting. I can’t just take a minute to breathe while she is awake because I have to keep an eye on her pretty much 24/7. We have tried time out but she just laughs or screams and keeps doing whatever she already got in trouble for. She has had a few taps on her butt through the diaper but that also doesn’t phase her. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? I have no idea how I’m going to get through the next couple of years. ",2.2765458600501813,3.662795165876779,2.8960858656258743,96.40577920267636,76.01421800947867,6.29172010036242,21.890437691664342,6.794906146795322,0.20451246166713144,784,20,185,7,17,244,123,211,0.103,0.743,0.154,0.8244,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,3,7,13,1,0,6,0,18,5,3,3,1,36,32,16,1,3,7,2,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,12,13,0,5,4,1,0,1,5,7,0,0,4,5,33,6,30,27,5,24,0,1,1,2,28,14,1,1,9,123,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605689319602686,0.1130909188248448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616823508612128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988818752809855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241266872366548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647493708750104,0.0,0.0,0.14579445314107606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375474538105916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252532601831758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709625061127866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388441180960713,0.0,0.08037039438093042,0.0,0.1131038885826978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094788662348676,0.14941455401118015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138954895529716,0.15964229030445198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37709309845702055,0.15645667424323892,0.0,0.07771894395670949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417367286744481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276341324454521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656255810243445,0.11287749560736048,0.0,0.3118727346617293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039831123688516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483930836306406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702655830836348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877433371101305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246027062324017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632779171308422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18790200142480906,0.0,0.0,0.11226909807480097,0.16492248096103718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28803805835045665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682251880260926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106774639696223
parenting,EcoPrime10,2019/01/01,"Prevents Child's from Accessing Dangerous Areas (KEEP KIDS SAFE) # Prevents Child's from Accessing Dangerous Areas (KEEP KIDS SAFE)

# New Door Knob Covers (5 Pack)

# [https://www.amazon.com/Door-Knob-Covers-Accessing-Dangerous/dp/B07JVYD5PW](https://www.amazon.com/Door-Knob-Covers-Accessing-Dangerous/dp/B07JVYD5PW)

The Door Knob Covers by KidLee Products is the ideal way to prevent your child from entering dangerous rooms,   
such as a kitchen, bathroom or tool room or locking themselves in such rooms and make sure that your  
little angel is safe and sound, even if you’re not in the same room all the time.   


**Feature:**   
\-Make a spinning roll when kids try to grip them making it hard for them to hold on to the doorknobs.  
\-Easy for adults to use, but prevent kids from opening doors and being locked in rooms.   
\-Fit most standard round door knobs.  
\-Easy to install. No need screws to get them installed.  
\-NON-TOXIC and NO SMELL.  


**How to Use This Product:**   
\-Assemble the 2 halves around doorknob. With your thumb and index finger, make sure all snaps are secure.   
\-To open the door, grasp the doorknob through the holes and turn the knob.  
\-To remove, use your thumb and index finger to squeeze the snaps open.  
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parenting,ThunderJohnny,2019/01/01,My son (3.5) has been constantly at his penis since he got rid of his diapers. What are constructive ways to talk to him about it? Title says it all pretty much. Most of the time he barely seems aware he’s doing it but it’s kind of constant some days and I am just wondering how other people framed it to their kids at this age in a non shamey kind of way. ,1.3855428571428554,3.2323642400000026,2.905904761904761,93.31200000000001,79.93333333333334,6.419047619047619,17.38095238095238,7.447530270364453,0.06629523809523796,278,5,63,4,7,91,60,75,0.0,0.971,0.029,0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,8,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,11,6,4,10,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,4,5,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4965120789092298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481565599636442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837357138583149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4784559661819754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887765827231846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926554998199516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337175499198143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18269016532134733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20913716171375127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19003466447304865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464791685125925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395715280162354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646972604797325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491319062220519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thedifficultpart,2019/01/01,"Sitter websites We just moved and are pretty desperate for a night out.  Has anyone used sitter websites like urbansitter.com, care.com or another one?  Any advice on finding a sitter?  Just getting to know people around us but no one has kids to ask for referrals.  Anything to watch out for when using one of these sites?  Kids are under 4.  Thanks all and Happy New year!!!",3.4252611940298507,6.4675236716417945,4.0553544776119415,80.90452425373138,80.94029850746269,5.738059701492538,23.30037313432836,7.1686216300943375,1.322464179104478,294,10,47,4,8,93,51,67,0.057,0.76,0.183,0.8937,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,1,15,10,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,2,3,12,10,1,11,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,1,5,33,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017697431328669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404133947945363,0.21651215116687575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437552877433296,0.0,0.16991534304987546,0.1838108641065552,0.1930308094255571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105199926721819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18871886410805835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787721200554364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198016653161497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347593881737765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087563671927026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21945542906076893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19941954893542765,0.0,0.1937673743883176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41974831902472576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314714636841772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21006426267966805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009892650339705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24836986518667434,0.3566646319991657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296626912653792
parenting,CakeSaladTornado,2019/01/01,"Good influence YouTube channels? Maybe this isn’t the right place for this..? Let me know if there are any subs that can better assist!

When my daughter (7) is at her dad’s on the weekends, she gets a ton of screen time. Lately she’s been watching a lot of Papa Jake videos, so I decided to watch a couple to see what it was all about. I’m not impressed and I want to find something interesting/ educational to introduce her to. Something she can take back to her dad’s house that she’ll want to watch instead of Papa Jake.

It normally wouldn’t be an issue, and I wouldn’t care if she watched it, but it is literally all she talks about sometimes. I’d much rather he do something active and fun with her, but he’s not the type to do so. I figure if she can at least learn something, instead of watching people shooting Nerf guns and doing box for challenges, it would stimulate her brain a little better. ",4.176076923076924,5.385745855555558,4.756666666666668,85.62115384615385,71.0,7.316239316239318,27.73504273504273,7.61054688173877,1.485465811965812,714,25,144,8,13,228,108,180,0.023,0.852,0.126,0.9601,0,0,4,2,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,3,10,8,0,0,8,0,18,1,1,2,2,29,26,12,0,10,8,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,7,18,8,20,18,6,11,0,0,7,0,18,6,0,4,5,98,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139304666947481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288251158511635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963445831939744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702598015407146,0.0,0.0,0.1708144799775891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537579058662712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312519359990906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753083085487877,0.0,0.0,0.1405215461471068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331446019583814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486442765892396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920735994383321,0.0,0.18898830618874346,0.0,0.0,0.17131727426618368,0.0,0.0,0.16791544142622214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243341814971253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683127873514662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315849815190524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415005689270368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614861399540673,0.0,0.17503983303034307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307513205365766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335047841975647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5159106856929556,0.16569773932059395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596648905582244,0.13465937625454713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769179608797016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763456618866013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901301997767098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MallyOhMy,2019/01/01,"A daddy's girl When my daughter was a newborn, my husband thought she hated him because she preferred me and my parents over him (she got to spend more time with my parents at that point than with husband).

Fast forward to today, when she is a year and a half. This morning she woke up at 8 am sharp and immediately asked for her daddy. I (mommy) got up with her, but had to carry her out of the room crying because she wanted to play with daddy, who instead gets to sleep in.",6.323124999999997,5.320117562500002,6.770916666666667,80.71575000000003,66.08333333333334,8.096666666666668,33.78333333333333,5.6839178017228535,1.9076358333333328,370,14,74,1,5,121,64,96,0.07,0.897,0.032,-0.5647,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,5,0,4,1,1,0,0,12,12,6,0,2,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,8,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,6,1,17,1,19,6,1,16,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,0,7,57,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22786973737102104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297170768863015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677436890960337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734729777684162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898921092090677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406488500997909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5413024855986623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23041888779384814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243922170313124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19350720826622408,0.14213033425211466,0.0,0.23104284001016606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437677884787346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696452247822953
parenting,Frostadwildhammer,2019/01/01,"I hate nap time and bed time I really dont know what to do. Whenever we try and put our son down for a nap or bed time it is always a fight. Always. 

He is clearly tired. Rubbing his eyes, yawning the whole deal. We read stories  and snuggle but when it's actually time to just lay there and relax and try to co to sleep he fights it. Kicks, crys, screams and the occasional head butt that would make a soccer player jealous. 

We always make sure he has had a snack and is changed. 

I honesty dont know what to do. Would love to hear what other parents have tried because at this point I am ready to just say screw it cry yourself to sleep after story time. ",2.4648080808080803,3.957596585185186,3.5311784511784516,91.60484848484847,75.74074074074073,6.094276094276093,23.38383838383839,6.574015621080383,0.4785555555555558,509,15,112,4,11,164,86,135,0.14400000000000002,0.713,0.14300000000000002,0.4215,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,4,0,0,0,4,9,5,0,6,0,13,10,5,2,2,22,20,10,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,2,2,3,2,0,10,10,1,0,2,5,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,5,9,3,12,17,1,11,0,0,1,3,16,3,2,1,7,64,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.1368475378001804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500561869306839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548495924558104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148348308562914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403976937709196,0.0,0.14457444429413846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287049246767364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384514178294531,0.14391989241051772,0.0,0.15805319705397453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413718274722055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656608926959834,0.0,0.18721372350883106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15571255913889584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256585974341906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409732670809429,0.0,0.0,0.1402713166681333,0.0,0.08983708611858532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151920241293872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28066928477643033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216828930074215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40885602166017704,0.16117762681090256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856277541730937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656554682195814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923552159903693,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NewDad743,2019/01/01,"Co-sleeping, sleep training and SIDS My daughter is 6 months old, and she is very very fussy when it comes to sleep.  It will take her an hour of crying and only sometimes will she fall asleep.  She falls asleep very quickly when nursing/being held but putting her in her crib and she losses it.

I'm not opposed to co sleeping but SO is way too scared of SIDS to want to try it.  Our doctor recommended a 'modified sleep training' which sounds good in practice but really wary about doing psychological damage to our girl.  Esp when she seems needy already.  On the other hand I am worried we are letting her 'manipulate' us so to say already.  ",4.844089253187615,6.355255303278687,4.97863387978142,83.51217668488161,69.73770491803279,7.0615664845173045,29.12932604735884,7.3871296695380915,1.6581282331511842,505,19,95,5,9,158,82,122,0.14300000000000002,0.7709999999999999,0.086,-0.8338,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,1,8,4,0,1,3,0,9,8,7,1,0,15,15,12,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,6,6,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,1,3,15,1,12,11,0,15,0,2,0,0,16,3,0,1,7,60,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30199184453821504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786740913761395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030194190827745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005187320077156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147669794151226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347505363284146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991851519039689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921684523894178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358065230107922,0.0,0.0,0.1040658044969146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755250274070469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765715862602805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088131509837202,0.13699125794251765,0.0,0.0,0.12456540018909265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6846468724682858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532891972189912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287955016756337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289896647841574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645903126912506,0.0,0.0,0.3386986189923757,0.08070620773609258,0.1086097272891712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895807265010954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kiylyou,2019/01/01,"Board Game Packaging Sucks I just wanted to say there is a special place in hell for board game manufacturers that make boxes in which the game doesn't fit. This seems to be a trend lately possibly to save a penny... all these freaking games don't fit on a shelf. Cost reduced to bullshit.

My shit list:
Greedy Granny
Hungry Hungry Hippos
Don't spill the Beans
Mr. Bucket",4.189061032863851,6.294858915492959,4.148943661971831,86.39318075117373,72.52112676056338,6.423474178403758,21.6924882629108,7.1686216300943375,0.6207164319248824,297,7,56,3,6,91,55,71,0.28800000000000003,0.6409999999999999,0.071,-0.9511,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,6,0,5,1,1,1,1,6,9,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,2,2,8,8,1,7,1,0,0,0,6,6,3,1,1,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280983090778157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533226166584833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965020802224444,0.0,0.0,0.42783500474398334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017977062090758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454872109687201,0.0,0.0,0.3895565553556364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22384195431699253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Boriszboris,2019/01/01,"How to improve behavior of child in long term hospital stay. Hello, I know  that this is a sensitive issue, and I really hope I don't offend anyone by asking about this. While improving a child's behavior is always a challenge, I feel like it can be especially difficult when the child is in a long term hospital stay. For example when I know my son has a big surgery coming up I don't feel comfortable giving him punishment even if his behavior has been very bad, and if he's recently gone onto a morphine drip. He is difficult to influence with rewards.

I have spoken to Doctor's and Nurses about this issue. Their surgical procedures could not be modified to suit my childs behavioral needs. For example if he is up too late playing video games, I was wondering if they could provide a drug (maybe Nitrous Oxide) to help him to go to sleep at their bedtime. My son has a number of behavioral issues, some of which are quite severe.  For example, he recently threw up on my Ming-era cushion, and he also interrupted my Wine Tasting by puking bile onto a very well respected scholar, mining magnate, and all around philanthropist. My son also has some kind of severe temper tantrums to when he goes off of morphine, and so far our only solution has been to threaten surgery without general anesthesia (which we would never do of course, it's just to get him to calm down and think rationally).  

Does anyone else have experience with disciplining children who are already going through significant challenges, especially those related to receiving long-term medical care?  I apologize beforehand because I know these issues are really sensitive, but I'm just not entirely sure what to do.  ",10.354943977591033,8.882124709150329,10.248664799253037,60.51470588235297,58.444444444444436,14.49449112978525,43.098972922502334,13.25671669890799,6.0300698412698415,1355,65,214,44,14,449,179,306,0.09,0.8109999999999999,0.099,-0.3317,0,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,3,4,15,20,4,0,10,0,28,6,1,2,3,43,47,20,0,9,10,3,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,5,12,12,2,1,7,4,0,6,6,7,1,0,5,3,26,13,42,37,5,34,0,0,0,0,31,14,0,8,13,149,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073031546187454,0.17498108575628593,0.0910331040205452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299599718596804,0.1120975876358852,0.0,0.09739298164425647,0.10227820956361416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134798277347644,0.0666918181514899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154492897756647,0.0,0.0,0.09424207802444304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470078998814045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197989043982906,0.09574040046402534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687420178569714,0.0,0.09139321627221733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226047834818485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701835403080076,0.0,0.0,0.11063615671311232,0.07815842134730808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05715920753519155,0.1049505300374459,0.12435391822412675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333136571666753,0.0,0.0,0.1086631104004484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567584707450229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392769558716535,0.18037715148162725,0.0,0.1234127645043896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534493925759321,0.0,0.0,0.2904579677136028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991127867847478,0.0,0.0,0.11021327659966096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112186853072828,0.08437930570702677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320686556895669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636489160457035,0.0,0.0,0.14017433390752052,0.0,0.21604700558270507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24719133403339005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094832650457515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23322075741184475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311221521573403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010182879845121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180539935573332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836756380951783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546179733590644,0.11864424724226758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771764350748679,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lotekjeromuco,2019/01/01,"Daughter with grandma and we finally had a nice evening It's sad to say that we have a pretty good time when the oldest daughter (3 y) is not around. If she had been here the last night all we would have had would be to try to temp down her crazy behavior of running and yelling around. Her brother would have join her and only what is left at such ocassions is to sit and watch until she gets tired with it. But she's fueled with energy and can do that type of behavior for an hour, which exhaust us as parents and we end up annoyed and resentfull.

It's true all of this would be so much easier with our other two kids only, but I missed her through the evening, and felt that we are not round and content, although we had a peacful time. I guess you get so used to such irritant behavior that you develop some sort of Stockholm syndrom. ",7.554452662721893,5.7961384319526665,7.1718269230769245,81.27004807692308,64.08875739644971,10.5801775147929,35.91789940828402,9.188382445141503,2.916685798816568,661,25,139,9,8,208,105,169,0.093,0.833,0.07400000000000001,-0.6498,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,8,2,0,0,10,7,1,0,7,0,20,2,0,1,3,38,26,18,0,5,5,4,2,0,0,4,2,2,0,1,11,21,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,6,5,19,3,22,14,4,18,0,2,2,0,23,6,0,4,10,107,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024921482504108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048002903700458,0.0,0.0,0.22443329036773327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312962272301915,0.1861159803092478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753036397187671,0.0,0.0,0.1425031671111817,0.0,0.0,0.18716283309794354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731622888908382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384903093326026,0.0,0.0,0.18459569159299669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489526712814683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594386426081589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584315942505201,0.0,0.0,0.18865266276715534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284829816091726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13511045352548595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19813887229424185,0.19527383432986226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535022540451514,0.0,0.16596657365085654,0.0,0.20436750146995994,0.14673813115288306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4827653193206383,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,furyoffive,2019/01/01,"Let grandpa visit even though has poor hygiene and incurable illness? Father posting:
  
  My son was born in July of 2018. For the better part of a month or more he has has an ongoing ear infection. Off this medicine to take another. Currently taking two medicines.  Just finishing up a 3rd.

My son doesn’t see his grandfather that often. I attribute that to 50% lack of caring on his part and. 50% my worry that his poor hygiene will get my son more sick.  
  
Examples of poor hygiene: not showering daily, not washing hands often, i have seen him pick up cigarette butts on occasion and put them to his mouth , and smoking(not bad on its own but compound that with the not washing hands). 

With his illness he is also prone to getting sick often as well. For those who are wondering, he has hepatitis C. My dad was a heavy drug user years back and was sharing needles. We have our suspicions that he still uses in some capacity.

When I’m around him he likes to touch my sons face, which worries me since my son runs his face on occasion for various reasons. 

We also worry that he downplays when he is sick. My dad was I in the hospital for a week because of an infection. When he got out we instructed him to wait before seeing my son. When my son was visiting his grandmother(grandfathers ex-wife) grandpa decided that his sickness was gone and it was alright for him to visit without us knowing. You can imagine the field day my wife has. 

To add to the mix, he lives with my elderly grandmother who is 94 and her health is also deteriorating. We worry that we will bring her my sons sickness    
  
All of this collectively would be no brainer most. But as his child I feel some sort of allegiance to him and wonder if I’m robbing him of seeing my son in his infancy. 
My wife dislikes him with all her being, mainly because of all of the above. And other items she has encountered. 

My apologies for the disorganized mess. Typing  on my phone and trying to write down all my thoughts. 

Soo basically what do you all think since I objectively am unable to decide? ",4.216288461538461,6.180441664102568,5.138509615384617,79.9293028846154,72.1025641025641,8.259615384615385,29.366987179487186,8.930421266530582,2.5463910256410256,1619,67,296,33,32,528,207,390,0.134,0.8270000000000001,0.039,-0.9901,2,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,7,2,1,1,17,8,0,0,13,1,30,20,7,4,5,60,52,24,0,3,9,16,4,1,0,3,13,1,1,1,18,22,0,1,10,0,3,7,6,2,1,1,11,9,55,6,50,35,17,36,0,0,4,1,66,15,1,11,14,218,73,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28586526958626834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494468577259557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607344915104426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162304456225172,0.0994896700171438,0.14527188842667374,0.0,0.10139235519239753,0.0,0.0,0.10538314975448247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148673500085315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684528912081866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381822793027523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870092943343356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024848272045565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450741709796873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529935128574056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665647583957254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548461803125191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184433253302045,0.0,0.05821324421780534,0.0,0.10521628293109343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510859653844007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580670830314476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141178073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978395326652187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251145876145805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848539598273561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713293475486535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951575493715324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791798619990572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634988319393178,0.11706944389118162,0.09459597145628497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808986040780033,0.0,0.11639738097501688,0.0,0.14332911383441382,0.10291189231450383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557916707526228,0.0,0.10713489413409208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486142438835288,0.2584376063746635,0.0,0.4840318263551618,0.0,0.08464448225686437,0.0,0.0,0.07673208466514626
parenting,AutoModerator,2019/01/01,"Weekly - Ask parents everything - January 01, 2019 This bi-weekly thread is meant as a place for non-parents and parents to ask questions to the community.  

Note - Remember that all questions and responses must adhere to our community rules. 

For daily questions see /r/Askparents
 
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parenting,pastripebanana,2019/01/01,"My 4 YO Daughter woke up crying this morning. She was crying and calling for me,her dad. Obviously I jumped up and ran to her asking what was wrong and if she was ok. She told me she had a good dream. I was confused and asked why she was crying. She said she dreamed we were playing together all night and I wasn’t there when she woke up.

TLDR: daughter has a dream she was playing with me and was sad when she woke up and I wasn’t there",0.4393548387096757,2.5139975053763486,1.993989247311827,97.33098387096771,84.6989247311828,4.580215053763442,20.052688172043013,5.6839178017228535,-0.28702924731182833,340,10,79,2,10,110,50,93,0.175,0.7,0.125,-0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,4,7,0,1,2,1,12,0,0,0,2,13,20,10,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,9,0,0,0,5,0,2,2,3,0,0,17,1,19,4,7,3,1,9,0,1,0,0,20,4,0,2,3,55,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098705011823547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22384173304926025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7223879833998523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18386608043333816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057172403972048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085224614711913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20946811803692808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19780629936580293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23967580652671855,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheRoughWriter,2019/01/01,"The NYE Parent Progression 1. When we were single, we went to the busiest spot by ourselves to celebrate NYE. Went to bed at 1:30 or 2.

2. When we were married without kids, we went to the coziest spot with friends to celebrate NYE. Went to bed at 1 or 1:30.

2. When we were married without kids, we stayed home and watched Marshall, Lily, Ted, Barney and Robin celebrate NYE. Went to bed at 9:30. ",1.565440115440115,4.107623090909094,2.4583549783549827,92.67578643578643,84.32467532467533,6.01962481962482,26.73737373737373,7.3871296695380915,1.494709668109668,306,14,63,5,9,96,37,77,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.9349,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,13,8,7,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,8,1,6,1,14,0,1,12,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,2,3,34,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304247488439875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571541025958732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20558147863114398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973398075879325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8581557924447726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35694611449003594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pacifica85,2019/01/01,"Would you allow your 16 year old daughter to go away to another country with her friends? So I’m having a bit of a dilemma here and wanted to know what other parents think. My daughter is 16, most her friends are 17 but she doesn’t turn 17 until August. They’ve been talking about going away in July after their exams and I don’t know if I’m comfortable with her going. We live in the uk and they’re talking about going to Greece or Ibiza or somewhere like that. It’s gonna be full of partying and drinking and whilst I trust my daughter (to an extent) I don’t trust other people and I worry about her getting in trouble over there and not having anyone to help her. Her friends aren’t bad kids but they do like to party and my daughter can be pressured quite easily and I just really worry about her sometimes. We’ve had a few incidents in the last couple of years where I’ve had to go and pick her up after she’s drank too much and passed out. She seems to have learnt how to control her drinking but I know when you’re away from parents you can easily get carried away. 

Apparently all the other girls parents have said they can go, I don’t want to keep her from going and miss out on fun, but I’m just really worried about it. Am I being overprotective if i say no to her? Does anyone have any advice? ",2.8057553227441723,4.402636985130112,4.049268333896588,87.80944829334238,75.05947955390334,6.377897938492732,23.37968908415005,6.980632752743323,0.7702550185873593,1035,30,211,10,22,339,140,269,0.093,0.727,0.18,0.9797,5,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,1,3,3,2,14,13,0,1,7,0,24,3,0,4,1,43,49,24,0,5,11,7,0,2,3,2,0,2,0,2,7,17,3,2,5,2,0,8,7,4,0,0,5,2,33,9,40,39,7,33,0,1,0,0,38,15,0,6,12,147,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015650852723513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706800642864295,0.10898598944680876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534897714123468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.390605284917951,0.0,0.0867822433543879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347122519193273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657309512253135,0.0,0.11500323992278075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095511996711604,0.0,0.0,0.2036354804120956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409021560701732,0.0,0.10860457139078164,0.0,0.4134846860335865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966612980293696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238311873299483,0.0,0.0,0.17136157121572462,0.08472173632915395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155578815946363,0.0,0.09177741838521396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07640494083219658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906337920502038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34622598280937866,0.0,0.0,0.07205615619894118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054876128109684,0.0,0.0,0.13316816406737084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886696531699143,0.08265410247158636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461945783725914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027953909701266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670796872261146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659801105253578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305255428672653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260832636507607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166562498808989,0.0,0.0738331733993649,0.0,0.0,0.13386279084758773
parenting,jax2bcn,2019/01/01,"Pacifier vs. Fingers...the one thing Mom & Dad seem to (strongly) disagree on. Thoughts? Hi all, not sure if I'm posting in the right sub or not, so apologies for that.

Question.

We have a 4.5 month old boy. Since birth, he has outright - and quite strongly - made it known he hates the pacifier. We've tried dozens of brands, types, styles, etc, to no avail. 

Which didn't seem like a huge problem until recently.

As of the past 2 weeks, he has an infatuation with his first two fingers (pointer and index - NOT thumb!). He isn't sucking them all day...it´s certainly not an obsession or a 24/7 issue. He doesn't suck them to fall asleep, or in any specific moment. But he does seem to like them, and its becoming a thing.

The issue is this...

Wife says: this is a problem, we need to get him off the finger sucking, and onto the pacifier. Her argument seems to rest entirely on: its hard to get a baby to quit thumb sucking (or in this case, finger sucking)...much harder than quitting a pacifier. She also thinks sucking fingers has a negative affect on palate formation.

I say: I´d much rather him have a finger thing than a pacifier obsession. My argument relies mostly on: I´ve talked to speech pathologists who seem to all say some version of: pacifiers are ´bad and if he isn't obsessed with it, don't get him started now.´ Also, maybe irrationally, but I get the feeling babies who are obsessed with their pacifiers are really obsessed, and its very hard to quit. 

My wife and I go back and forth on this nonstop. She wants to take his hand out of his mouth every chance she gets. I have no problem letting him suck away. 

I'm sure there are other posts about this but I couldn't find the ´right one´... ;)

**tl;dr..baby prefers sucking his first two fingers and hates pacifiers. Should we try to change this behaviour? Is one ´better´ than the other?** ",2.1113764044943792,4.707998789325849,3.0287528089887665,89.19981460674158,82.1741573033708,5.919550561797752,24.34943820224719,7.268377926160553,1.195580000000001,1443,55,279,21,40,457,185,356,0.111,0.81,0.079,-0.8525,0,0,0,0,0,0,85.0,3,0,4,8,7,24,9,5,21,0,21,9,9,2,6,60,51,23,0,11,15,4,10,2,0,1,0,4,0,1,20,16,0,0,12,0,0,2,13,17,0,7,3,14,26,7,39,45,9,30,0,0,0,0,40,14,7,14,14,173,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013400049466834,0.0,0.09493259946543277,0.0,0.05958232386458106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231872319358775,0.06737179261366115,0.07315623976064768,0.0,0.09676570194952358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748980340212898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268679404253097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650548840327022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667391745798162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771572083850154,0.0,0.0,0.07382080323126386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430160886404985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008002724452133,0.14905334886178476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22888040677058255,0.0,0.04979455911653501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697461052114756,0.17300659742692856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828980300604508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959395686733856,0.0,0.08561013521321485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290498904084771,0.0,0.0,0.08802269750544002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261555699773968,0.0699347710216134,0.0,0.1288166323977762,0.0649666329116667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919389313969087,0.0,0.17811392084309796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364000275192655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16782505501042694,0.0,0.0,0.25151189235164123,0.0,0.0,0.09815069566612332,0.3727643523800936,0.0,0.0,0.056129467057072016,0.0,0.08651086789279111,0.0,0.0,0.1496482741149291,0.0,0.2090288210084666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988145198838669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247739507610172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201551308430912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515530413582366,0.0,0.06587681385627289,0.07042294129188148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462581943512762,0.0561412090287388,0.0,0.06955783014512844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189719028158864,0.0,0.17117746412572216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229290900668629,0.05167856795074267,0.0,0.07028078856303382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mr___matt,2019/01/01,"PTSD I feel like a bit of a fool writing this but have any fathers here had ptsd after their children were born? I have 3 children and a 4th on the way and although all the births were pretty 
normal I find myself handling the though of this upcoming birth really badly.

I watched a tv programme the other day that was a coney showing a birth scene and I felt like a completely different person. I was sit in there calm but I was literally screaming inside and i don’t even know why. I felt like I was in a black hole and trying to scratch my way back to the top.

Even now thinking back to my sons birth I feel so strange about it. It feels emotionally painful and it wasn’t a particularly eventful birth.

I’m hardly even looking forward to this babys birth and this has been the least I’ve been involved out of all the pregnancies. I’ve been to one scan out of quite a few. I’m sat outside the hospital maternity unit in the car now and even looking at the entrance is making me apprehensive. I don’t know how to explain it.",3.5601992753623186,5.033989400966185,4.504900362318843,85.80778532608697,72.86473429951691,7.300603864734299,28.396437198067627,7.8658589789855275,1.683319082125604,814,32,167,11,16,264,116,207,0.084,0.828,0.08800000000000001,-0.0358,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,2,14,9,0,1,20,0,17,1,0,2,2,28,32,14,0,1,2,2,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,10,10,0,0,10,2,0,2,3,5,0,1,14,13,17,4,19,18,5,27,0,0,5,0,9,9,0,0,18,112,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993460911155344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22466811676650364,0.1219789022907102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949225274082635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531724027803774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421585187240543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526327742312496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643313907693735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859638082986766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22160221615939524,0.10436660067645877,0.28053828524876834,0.0,0.13352345405745328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086778886892195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605742952610483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21411632867750005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24535731986511145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751609306667887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431370113876171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989942467346556,0.0,0.1554498746526705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756000086161906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862587298618538,0.0,0.0,0.3415423769329945,0.0,0.0,0.1553845121933477,0.0,0.0,0.0935888831928068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936084614655465,0.14353251202028844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918540206822678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319186074518881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182334488333944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karmawillfollow,2019/01/01,Husband was sick so I got a date 😉 Had a date tonight cause my husband was sick and it was the best date ever ran out of gas and did art projects with my 7 year old son who is absolutely amazing the best date I ever had love  my little guy who has the heart of gold oh ya and then we had to hitch a ride ( but made sure it was with a soccer mom) not like I use to be back on the day wow we are so stupid when we are younger ha know ! ,2.4724242424242417,1.946138414141416,3.8369191919191934,96.94204545454546,73.94949494949495,7.0040404040404045,23.570707070707073,5.46131890053228,-0.009432323232323458,329,7,91,1,6,109,66,99,0.114,0.6940000000000001,0.192,0.8349,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,1,0,2,6,9,1,0,8,1,13,4,1,3,3,18,19,8,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,11,0,10,8,8,7,2,18,0,0,0,1,12,3,0,0,14,57,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696570578114207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.463092087512949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266560769888629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229330318802128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991595348872065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764644214533884,0.0,0.0,0.21846637945742395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26145717706346683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125691391469158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779261687751793,0.22113731134844933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991344738180586,0.2087730780627354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584086427052632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315225407251924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20794877124846287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19056045285661471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208368414542907
parenting,Barnesbrett12,2019/01/01,"New Parent As I’m typing this I’m lying in the hospital with my wife and newborn. It’s currently 1:49 am and I just can’t sleep. Reason being is that last night my baby was up for the majority of the night as well as my wife and I. Any chance I got to sneak in a nap I did but I was so nervous to sleep. Fast forwarding, my wife and child are sound asleep and I’m so nervous to sleep because I fear for my baby. I know it’s probably common in new parents but what should I do? I try not to be nervous but I just can’t help but dread the time of sleep I once loved to fearing it because I can’t stare at my child the entire time to make sure she’s safe.",-0.5595153061224494,1.2982968707483025,2.0407440476190466,96.7954017857143,87.09523809523809,5.035544217687075,18.031037414965986,6.322622252153567,-0.31429217687074873,508,13,125,5,16,175,81,147,0.16699999999999998,0.715,0.119,-0.8637,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,6,6,0,13,6,5,2,1,19,20,14,0,1,7,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,6,0,1,2,1,0,1,4,6,1,0,4,2,19,4,19,13,1,16,0,0,1,1,11,6,0,0,11,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091539237148274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809234837104145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33397690085023546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868704135873907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994677197176214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155538798299627,0.12096377317092245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393454235893987,0.0,0.09905648711345368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866464706848019,0.0,0.27852201200323023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803849997416228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295557359504651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999760983321712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257735101829906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5940187048154572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986289253318135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306355744344282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075216503081176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342717908888552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,awaythrow102492,2019/01/01,"Do I have any options? Okay, so I’m in a really difficult situation. I’ve been married to my husband for about 5 years. The marriage is terrible. My husband is controlling and abusive. Over the course of 5 years he has slowly taken everything that made me independent. I have no car, job, money/bank account, and no relationship with family or prior friends. We have a toddler and I just had a newborn about a month ago. I cannot take this marriage anymore, I am absolutely miserable. I have nobody I can turn to for help or a place to stay. I have one twenty dollar bill in my wallet and absolutely no access to my husband’s money or car. Do I have any options or am I stuck? ",1.984818763326228,4.364114731343285,4.521961620469085,79.69014925373135,80.7910447761194,7.410660980810236,27.4818763326226,8.418075326091056,2.3652682302771852,530,24,99,12,14,186,82,134,0.172,0.77,0.059,-0.9306,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,7,1,17,0,0,3,0,16,23,9,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,0,0,4,2,4,3,0,1,5,0,16,2,13,18,0,12,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,6,5,69,18,1,0.0,0.2619341118789484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959669457661152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006730150020889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924397150040692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479509910784451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198685214678902,0.0,0.20840696042097606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079964088268326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817986870024458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937979931950552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091836252500127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645752206930201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980407532569429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309731359378412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162435262568399,0.0,0.0,0.2373485414125017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24849413537783505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356332851142025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16621859434280584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24046280018454794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28472617651867355
parenting,Myydrin,2019/01/01,"Biggest ""lip service"" /lies/hypocrisies we give our kids? What's the biggest lies or hypocritical statements we give our kids? Either as a whole or individual situations? Like the first that drop in my mind is ""Now remember it's always wrong to knowingly lie. Now get yo to bed before Santa gets here."" And telling them that if you can't say nice don't say anything at all, then when you think they can't hear you you start bad mouthing one of your coworkers for being a pain. Ect? ",3.728951612903227,5.805699677419355,4.169556451612904,85.87433467741937,73.73118279569891,7.230645161290322,26.678763440860216,8.07648339933343,1.5621408602150535,382,14,77,6,8,120,74,93,0.21,0.765,0.025,-0.9558,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,5,2,1,4,5,0,0,4,0,5,3,2,0,1,13,13,7,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,2,4,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,3,12,2,7,12,3,11,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,3,7,46,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779323396731314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17583485186717498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840821147899513,0.0,0.0,0.1818201703192056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175032965329044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232708742172946,0.4099496406874119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408252454226455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742921230241922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438994102100216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21574903829102185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447905020865673,0.0,0.227363368505482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24205010232684915,0.0,0.0,0.33984303754719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401776490305733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123900311884836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18675981012617449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369131700297362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385585166319203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336181203562229,0.0,0.0
parenting,scottrock67,2019/01/01,"Adult Dauther w/Kids Back Home Happy New Year all. I've been searching the internet for someplace to vent. My wife's 28 year old daughter is back living with us. She has 2 kids, 6 and 4. She has epilepsy and experiences seizures quite frequently. Other than that she is able to function normally as an adult. Unfortunately she doesn't.  She has no job other than to take care of herself and her kids, which is bare minimum care.   She spends 90% of her day on the couch in her Doctor Who tardis bathrobe yelling at her kids as they play after school, 5% outside smoking, and 5% caring for her children. She doesn't clean up after herself and the boys in a manner that we are satisfied with. I feel we should be respected enough so she would do as we ask while she is there.  We know she is unable to live on her own and would never kick her out because of the grand kids. I feel like she knows that and has us in a corner unable to do anything about it. HELP!!!!!",2.9841950261780106,4.747531434554978,3.645729712041888,90.18650032722515,74.96858638743456,6.450392670157068,24.50294502617801,7.1686216300943375,0.8732536649214659,748,24,157,8,16,236,118,191,0.023,0.828,0.149,0.9764,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,6,0,1,1,5,8,0,0,7,0,19,1,0,0,2,24,28,12,0,4,0,2,2,1,0,3,1,1,3,8,8,14,0,0,4,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,30,8,28,23,3,21,0,0,0,0,40,9,0,0,13,109,38,3,0.1514836159987777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124658108726416,0.0,0.1416167321738331,0.0,0.0,0.23296310035495546,0.0,0.09234300629276468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4633429270935822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769440039233553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504989988516646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652306944976271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481800438737443,0.0,0.0,0.1531893356447352,0.10821992553738444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125712605709255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153627466639964,0.0,0.15195041806586326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503241145733866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650286742824152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400724304400275,0.0,0.2675256164708407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168335033269597,0.14630382028577846,0.0,0.0,0.14842178066172956,0.0,0.0,0.15895657270371005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112147210156186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153309506715044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389682686246125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644322767216805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152192290565216,0.0,0.0,0.19510096423554266
parenting,hdaltlamb,2019/01/01,"Nightowl Newborn My newborn likes to be awake, bouncing, or nursing basically 8-12 every night. If we aren't doing one of those things, we are screaming  any ideas on how to shorten this time. Its exhausting physically and emotionally. Any ideas welcome! ",5.90727272727273,8.77057063636364,5.863636363636362,72.61545454545455,69.9090909090909,8.036363636363637,38.27272727272727,8.841846274778883,3.956700000000001,204,12,31,4,4,64,38,44,0.104,0.772,0.124,0.2481,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,8,4,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,3,2,4,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,3,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049123840449157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348889446111236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508374589116224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6721672733587996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544835489455002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793850601949493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20173917263359856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778840512045226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359982453856315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hou8182,2019/01/01,"Trying to think of better way for 6yr old daughter to answer us than saying ""What"" or ""Yea"" I think we've let this slide for too long now and it occasionally comes out as just being rude. Our daughter answers us when we call her or whenever she doesn't hear /understand us by using the word ""What"" or ""Yea"".

I need help /suggestions on what word or phrase that she can use that sounds more polite. Suggestions....? ",5.667721518987343,6.2925583037974695,5.658075949367093,82.63850632911394,67.22784810126583,8.851645569620256,25.92658227848101,8.841846274778883,1.6557473417721518,322,8,64,5,5,101,62,79,0.037000000000000005,0.893,0.069,0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,0,19,12,7,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,4,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,3,10,1,10,10,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,4,4,42,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664819176188329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922128566367518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215105458212273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121588033871467,0.0,0.12617249676753645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924869220396516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658541055063633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395766817505682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975249507777582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496950455898615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24123163890456806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278017858734561,0.0,0.0,0.19596322478679512,0.6792842815199567,0.3251557619641689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941519412931395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,relzer94,2019/01/01,"Bonding (love?) for my kids. I am 24 years old. I have four children. Ages 1, 2,3, and 4 years old. My older two children have a different father to my two younger babies. Their father passed away about a year and a half ago, when the kids were 2 and 3. He had a heart attack in his sleep. 

Long story short, I deeply adore my two smaller children, the kids with my current partner. My two older children I don’t connect with at all. I take care of them, feed them, clothe them etc but I lack so much emotion. If one of the smaller kids cry, I run to assist, I worry. If the older two fall etc, I feel burdened and have to force myself to help out. I remind myself a few times a day to stroke their hair etc when I walk past, hug them etc. I know they are good kids and deserve all the love, but I can’t find it. 

Some more back story, when my older two were born, their dad and I had constant issues, he was bipolar, a cheater, aggressive etc. we were frequently homeless and twice he abandoned me as we were “holding him back”. During these times I lived with my mother, a drug addict, and was abused there too. 

When my second child was about three months old, I met my now partner. He showed me that living in fear of my partner wasn’t normal, and essentially rescued me. For months my ex and I shared the kids until eventually he snapped and said he didn’t want them if he couldn’t have me too. About a year later I forced him to family therapy and he resumes a healthy relationship with the kids, at this time I have since had another little one with my partner, and I am expecting #4. Things are stressful but good. Six or so months pass and ex partner dies suddenly. 

I’m sure their is more to this story but somewhere along the line I failed to bond with my older kids. I am assuming it was from the difficult circumstances we faced. 

I want to send them to their grandmother, I think they could be better loved by her, and deserve that love. My partner says no, as he loves all the kids as his own and has raised them from very small. I received some therapy about this a little while ago but she seemed to think the first 18m of the child’s life is the “window” for bonding and I missed the boat essentially. 

I’m not sure what I hope to get from this post, has anyone experienced this? Any advise? ",3.02116532116532,4.55998501731602,3.710465660465662,90.70017725517724,74.36796536796537,6.553036153036152,23.52544752544752,7.113659591113569,0.6946236574236582,1786,51,382,18,37,565,222,462,0.121,0.75,0.13,0.6886,3,0,1,0,1,0,62.0,3,0,14,3,16,24,2,2,25,0,32,16,4,0,5,62,53,37,1,11,10,6,3,0,6,0,5,2,1,21,12,28,1,2,7,1,0,7,7,9,0,15,15,6,71,15,44,35,16,58,0,3,0,6,73,10,0,9,40,256,83,2,0.0,0.08845154966170833,0.0,0.08138274504245027,0.0,0.0,0.13235068858458165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05076657241704279,0.07828013714408544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052199085048089865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492851867902698,0.07013891287261488,0.11480703560206686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602447606671995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761136675661623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067332826655628,0.0,0.05960431359177935,0.0,0.0820027705745694,0.048144982990336725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747798577562652,0.0779964536019198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657373227052663,0.0,0.0,0.08397453142051467,0.0,0.0,0.416288917289128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037616627054971,0.0840053341923298,0.037746779392155295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682314525278937,0.0634997692116934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039003090149923585,0.0,0.0,0.12523072108087424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846411644396879,0.050038305134011404,0.0,0.0,0.07414723320491158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791829426711827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04102731419601345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272959304305457,0.0,0.14964375490435816,0.13183986188299954,0.06606551996323833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368860529610356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787618401192586,0.0,0.054878514909929205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314404998298213,0.0,0.0,0.23500716903799365,0.0,0.1011735547779325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126469699835689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149689921414526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014934040963759,0.0,0.0,0.07101205983738716,0.059367029742431965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796125055702319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175369953834226,0.0,0.07470687297157456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551471287782858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071906168893386,0.0,0.056129734866326365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074433050957807,0.0,0.04959610912115256,0.0956692041826202,0.0,0.0,0.1305922230777503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4375505635759573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06159650987544491,0.08806449940567086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581370411012459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922962332906732
parenting,PabloEnriqueEs,2019/01/02,"Can any other parents help figure out what our two year old is saying? ""Coppin wesso?!"" At this point I'm starting to think she's messing with us (lol). For the past week, my two year old (she'll be two and a half in 3 months if that matters) keeps pausing during conversations and saying, in a cheerful voice, ""coppin wesso?"" She says it in a slightly questioning voice. My wife and I have been going crazy trying to help her express whatever that is so we understand and we've gotten nowhere. By now, as soon as she says it, she already starts giggling because she knows I'm about to be like ""Oh noooo, there it is again! What is a *coppin wesso?!?""* I've tried asking her to show it to me (blank stare), asking if it was on a show (first she said ""Yea"" and then backtracked when I started naming every show she ever watched and said it wasn't on a show). I've asked her a hundred questions about where it is, what it looks like, who has one, is it a game, a toy, a song, something to eat, a place we go... No dice. 

I have no idea if anyone else can help and I know it's pretty silly and not a serious problem but I would love to be able to tell her I know what she's saying now. She's a very good talker and can hold a great conversation but she does have her mispronunciations like most little toddlers, such as ""yike"" for like, or ""poscle"" for popsicle, that sort of thing. So it's a fairly frequent occurrence around here that we have things she says that we don't understand and we have to ask her to explain it. This is the first one we haven't been able to figure out, though.",2.8762616822429905,4.223670669781935,3.8643289719626175,90.22669906542058,74.38940809968847,6.3821059190031155,22.808847352024927,6.742157984588678,0.4782654454828661,1219,32,264,10,25,393,166,321,0.019,0.8440000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9883,1,0,1,0,0,0,60.0,8,0,0,2,16,13,0,0,17,2,27,2,0,0,1,48,51,24,0,5,7,2,0,4,0,2,0,11,0,0,27,20,1,2,12,7,0,2,6,3,0,8,7,14,35,10,31,39,1,35,0,0,3,1,55,13,0,8,24,178,62,0,0.1820046867040595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042334880558436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061884714082702685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636309543816134,0.0932426549235513,0.0,0.08101137920049284,0.34029962648315937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05547418385418409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963676392133119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311811600905018,0.0760207807049706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231682954439137,0.07667339917297032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481309353333572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343745775356804,0.07632844802674618,0.0,0.1003304048121069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829908575053871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027305688011384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088706407638961,0.0,0.0,0.150037523968182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783659302354646,0.09120825521213796,0.0,0.0,0.07641904888986822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213316784390602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263720225059163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098330221218932,0.0,0.1233310860289852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104733289117343,0.0,0.08687203385929627,0.0,0.0,0.0950780799414222,0.0,0.08602662902450359,0.0,0.0,0.09258209912200524,0.0,0.08707695245297037,0.0,0.0,0.203886902837878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312813570944124,0.4342122960008635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005804988463064,0.0,0.0,0.19323578103317213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954005918032188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091582655466725,0.058310627106406776,0.08940934029923517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356923517064955,0.0,0.26668819889180984,0.18947329759894774,0.1094646142294883,0.0,0.0,0.07508646380181064,0.0,0.0,0.07299659066026612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464545373249722,0.0,0.0,0.11720505097936262
parenting,tidebringer92,2019/01/02,"Son talking in his sleep So it’s 11:36pm EST, and my son is talking in his sleep about how “you stole my purple trucks. You stole my white trucks. You stole lots of them”. 

I didn’t remember just how cute/creepy he could be so late at night. ",0.2578666666666685,2.521768120000001,0.6400000000000006,105.31666666666666,87.8,4.133333333333334,16.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,-1.0654666666666666,186,4,46,1,6,55,36,50,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,2,0,7,4,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,10,0,5,1,1,5,0,0,2,0,11,3,0,1,2,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23661081036856416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342949304486911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519455863389473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27810375276562016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357059990888688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.59312666109936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4763887007307249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aarbear916,2019/01/02,"Really missing my free time. Im more looking for a “it gets better” response for a quick minute of self pity. I am a father of a 2 and a half year old son and 6 month old daughter, and i find relaxation time impossible to find. For me playing video games and watching tv are how i cool down from my fast paced job, but neither of those things are possible with the kids. The video games i play are far to violent and adult like for them to see and same goes for the shows i watch. When im home from work its play time with the kids or sesame street for tv or going to the park. No down time for myself. Sometimes i get maybe an hour and a half a night but its not consistent. My job fluctuates from being up at 4 in the morning or working the mid day shift or closing at 11 at night. I work at a coffee shop with varying shifts so the me time is not consistent. ",4.206057257659467,4.133782955801109,4.909040683073838,89.17452034153696,70.2707182320442,8.349773982923152,26.95178302360623,8.00094639256281,1.2926640883977891,669,19,155,8,11,216,106,181,0.064,0.83,0.106,0.6636,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,4,4,11,1,0,17,1,6,0,0,1,0,23,12,16,0,0,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,11,0,0,2,12,2,1,4,3,0,2,0,5,14,9,28,11,3,29,0,2,4,0,10,12,0,4,17,95,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102427313622886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554277106402724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708079489631157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480172934038464,0.0,0.0841955409349216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860384984244165,0.0,0.1458952767248585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200490743275479,0.0,0.2940267283776575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237730157344524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244064442175974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14883390399495525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824978432973728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780524643472979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31091140073458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670138535208009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490697226978262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805424024400173,0.0,0.1545499735258882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652149616371718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842250230683176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4319294935592141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235590590754616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540202245711224
parenting,avaughan11,2019/01/02,"Thoughts on stealing someone’s baby names they’ve picked out for their children. I have a cousin that is currently about 8 weeks pregnant with her first child. Her older sister is also pregnant with her fourth child. While having dinner recently with the older sister, she told me the younger sister’s names she’d picked out. The girl name she picked out is a name I picked out for my future daughter when I was 16, twelve years ago. I’ve been pregnant twice, lost my first and currently have one six year old son. The name is very special to me because it’s a combination of my great-grandmother’s first and middle names. I had told family members numerous times while I was pregnant what my names would be, and why, so there’s no way possible she did not know I’d picked it out. To top it off, the boy name she picked out is the boy name her older sister had picked out, but she’s found out now she is having a girl. Maybe it’s childish of me, but I’m really irritated by this. I still want another child, and if I do get pregnant again, I’d like to be able to use the name I picked out. I feel like she has no creativity of her own, but damn, there’s a big book of baby names for a reason. Back off the names your family members have came up with for their own children. I basically just wanted to rant for a second.",5.222611940298506,5.250123462686566,5.604440298507466,84.71509328358209,68.1044776119403,8.789552238805971,27.19776119402985,8.472884824447931,1.5949656716417904,1040,28,221,14,16,333,130,268,0.08800000000000001,0.855,0.057,-0.8442,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,2,5,11,6,1,0,15,0,23,1,0,10,0,53,36,13,0,4,6,7,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,9,7,18,1,0,5,1,0,1,3,3,0,7,12,1,33,3,33,20,2,41,0,1,0,0,46,16,1,1,25,142,40,1,0.15598754780040264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382735493749878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474318561923325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635665446735647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994479572180873,0.0,0.09508856131505164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178408199126772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29410235505996,0.0,0.07887199106927797,0.11143753531639344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980487854182403,0.0,0.17103229482011958,0.0,0.0,0.08149705557710007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197682213436322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572667684430142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241527323978776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702788349989648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671045791694907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636826914866372,0.0,0.1057011993790202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585252258521752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992961741037808,0.16038117882821354,0.15401888497491362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216774305255574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245718571707314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238366889753494,0.0909575935410451,0.0,0.0,0.29810557324557824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347231579127584,0.0,0.1287060632728959,0.18401099438136487,0.12381565482125605,0.1251238018216453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075449957886565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108090784560188,0.0,0.0,0.20090173306162645
parenting,girlprincce,2019/01/02,"12 year old brother feeling down, need advice and conversation starters I’m a sibling, not a parent. Im much older, double his age. Because of that my brother opens up to me more than most adults. He’s told me  he’s been feeling down lately. He also said he thought that growing up would be fun but now he wishes he could be a toddler forever. Beyond that he hasn’t been too specific about why he feels this way or what he needs.

What are food conversation starters, open ended questions, or guiding questions that can help me help him. It sounds like even he is confused about how he feels. 

I know the big things going on in his life and events in the past that could be contributing but it kills me that he feels so down. 
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parenting,viperscorpio,2019/01/02,"Stepsons bio-dad ghosting...not sure how/when/if to talk about it I've been step dad for about 4-5 years. Step son is 9.

Biodad (let's call him Dave) never made much attempt to be present for Adam. Up until adam was 5,  dave never took his son overnight, and finally started spending 24 hrs at a week (or every other week) with him from 5-7, then every other weekend (48 hrs fri-sun), for about a year.

About a year ago, Dave moved out of state with his new fiance & baby. Since then, they haven't seen each other, and it's been like pulling teeth even getting him to call.

Upon short notice of his departure, my wife and Dave made a parenting agreement including visitation, so things would be official (there was never any official custody agreement previously). A child support order was already in place.

Once Dave left the state, it was over a month before he even called Adam, and he's only really called when we text Dave to remind him that he did leave a son behind. It was lucky if it was monthly.  

He never attempted or made any effort to have Adam travel to him to visit, per the mutual parenting time agreement. When we inquired, he said he thought he couldn't because he stopped paying child support.

A couple months after Adam's last bday, dave was court ordered to catch up with child support arrears, and resume paying. Since then, he has not contacted or attempted to contact Adam. No call on Halloween, Thanksgiving, or even Christmas. No gifts arrived for Adam from Dave either.


At this point, I don't really expect dave to attempt to be in Adam's life. I don't know how, if, or when to tell Adam. He does occasionally tell his friends some fact or story about his ""real"" dad (probably about once or twice a month that I'm present for) so we know he still thinks about him, and I'm sure it wasn't lost on him that his dad didn't call on Christmas...


Thanks for reading this huge wall of text!

Tldr: it's been months since biodad called his son (my step son), and we're not sure if or when he may resume contact. Not sure how to talk about this with stepson.",5.556518518518517,5.950297293827168,5.558123456790128,84.06755555555556,67.41975308641976,8.257777777777777,28.792592592592587,7.976525956113202,1.7189733333333326,1624,51,323,18,25,509,190,405,0.014,0.875,0.111,0.9881,3,0,0,0,0,0,73.0,3,0,1,6,21,15,0,0,11,0,26,2,1,5,9,58,45,30,0,6,15,11,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,3,17,16,0,1,5,3,3,10,15,1,0,1,21,2,22,14,51,17,4,66,0,1,1,0,62,18,0,14,35,175,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592841221718118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207399250628455,0.0,0.0,0.08058462412939463,0.0,0.10115427577923716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533793987247887,0.0,0.06328713081419388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5316119982147743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229385162633672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508553282720868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737075611275907,0.0,0.12532726828969865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147351253134935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057461471814228414,0.0,0.038857550839332775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817484430615555,0.06062505720428778,0.0,0.07875174375079462,0.08080799599929797,0.07605285622720791,0.052532833540417184,0.03633557179868234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118843608496994,0.0,0.0,0.211124547876969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968246560236705,0.07904820984118685,0.05467373674503157,0.0,0.2294484687724009,0.07183125256070746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467573978750224,0.0,0.1584126032159279,0.0,0.05656507758678511,0.0,0.0,0.16516792441458653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770541127573187,0.0,0.07030784165111813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801881753058591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743945201244512,0.08465434226754823,0.09529228169980494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074707964754479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456980024692105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264257842123361,0.0,0.05939548660849962,0.062180323111626176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531975406164504,0.28038794221804325,0.0,0.0,0.11955864025737753,0.13001299595681573,0.0684739488885636,0.0,0.0,0.04941104215590102,0.04765610815700914,0.0,0.059044960625380026,0.04336830686969822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263268760884589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931730431403115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283343513546822,0.0,0.0,0.14368401258558686
parenting,mandyi17,2019/01/02,"Relatives insist on nickname my son and I hate we tell them but they ignore. Like the title says, my son already has an abbreviated name example: Jake but his grandfather insists on calling him Jakey. It's not a name I want associated with my son, it literally makes me cringe when I hear it. Our dogs name is Zelda when we visit hr calls her Zeldy. I don't get it why can't he just call the things I named by their name? I have told him my son (almost 6yrs) hates to be called this but he continues. I told my son to just not answer when he's called by a name he doesn't like but I've taught him to respect adults so he doesn't feel comfortable doing this. Any advice? If not it just feels good to rant.",1.4744897959183696,3.4208013129251738,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,80.08843537414968,6.37687074829932,19.343537414965986,7.447530270364453,0.3000557823129246,551,13,125,8,14,182,92,147,0.134,0.792,0.07400000000000001,-0.8026,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,3,0,7,8,2,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,28,20,10,0,2,11,5,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,8,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,3,4,24,5,9,16,0,7,0,0,0,0,39,2,0,2,6,71,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579164017623594,0.0,0.0,0.14939725454006972,0.0,0.1646404070300172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145772508779186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7617239473743271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087496296019998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794823659745156,0.0,0.0,0.12513769855874582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945983751827102,0.0,0.0,0.16815362303436204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457782946320151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995888298261146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186458627422396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040301756907388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911853735764062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28512445743984144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799908429207902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346252936089169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pushforservice,2019/01/02,"Toddler Testing New Caregiver As the title says, we're transitioning to a new caregiver with my 18-month-old son.  Honestly, losing our previous nanny is a little like losing a limb for me — she's been an absolute dream and we hope she'll be in our lives forever (she's changing careers, not ditching us for a new nanny family).  Our new caregiver is an au pair, meaning she's a bit younger and not as experienced.  That said, she has a very good amount of experience for someone in this category, and so far she seems like a really great fit all around.  Today, though, my son bolted away from her in the subway station on the way back from school, which she told me about later on.  This is so terrifying for me!  I mean, she obviously grabbed him within seconds but he's never been a runner before and I'm feeling unreasonably panicked.  How can I help her assert her control in a positive way?  Should she bring the stroller and just casually plonk him in it if he doesn't obey?  Should I stop panicking and give them a week to get comfortable before giving her more instructions?  Obviously she knew enough to let me know about this unusual behavior, but she didn't seem super spooked by it.  I'm just feeling overwhelmed by the changeover. ",4.876153846153848,6.648778666666665,5.818461538461541,76.50153846153849,70.02564102564102,9.302564102564103,30.948717948717945,9.725611199111238,3.1377025641025647,984,42,177,24,18,324,146,234,0.075,0.757,0.16699999999999998,0.9502,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,5,0,1,4,10,12,0,1,17,0,14,0,0,3,4,35,31,15,0,4,7,2,3,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,7,9,0,2,8,3,0,2,5,3,0,1,6,6,32,9,27,20,5,27,0,3,0,0,33,13,0,4,12,119,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088826916640143,0.0,0.0,0.11491517930849132,0.09404958347478876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081552478185509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353189721459285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938878475894927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718214930313008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263799242327733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964359492441083,0.11530389387004646,0.0,0.12368819944630766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390243182559642,0.2346636484296605,0.0,0.1025886357411674,0.0,0.13484827242165892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819824626767636,0.0,0.0,0.12148238759340314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721890851007893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507125012319714,0.0,0.11950992018565587,0.1225877207311578,0.1080028243081521,0.0,0.0,0.2736693712811436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664649985321109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762744658888242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433375763851673,0.4725147746637164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283447844794782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835553712591986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163457381225651,0.09726658980663734,0.0,0.1237852280237179,0.0,0.2226946205446217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036336850472926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022574447618603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201699036328137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593649484745265,0.116873370063867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712503301261087,0.0,0.0,0.1009193568478832,0.0,0.1941695042877139,0.09811047968601516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joyfulmomming,2019/01/02,"Kindergartner “Hayes School” Any tips for helping my 5 year old have a good attitude toward school? He complains about it all the time, though I can’t identify anything objectively wrong going on. He’s not struggling academically, nor is the material too easy for him. He gets along with the other kids, and they give them plenty of recess time and PE. We try to instill a love of learning at home, but for some reason “school” has him feeling really negative.",6.092142857142857,7.705169642857142,6.305714285714287,74.78928571428574,66.85714285714286,9.40952380952381,30.66666666666667,9.725611199111238,3.01782380952381,366,14,63,8,6,117,71,84,0.104,0.768,0.128,-0.208,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,2,0,3,5,0,1,5,0,4,1,0,1,1,12,9,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,1,7,2,12,9,2,8,0,0,0,1,13,3,0,1,4,40,9,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130260960094795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709913888152923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050635916154988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856038054747733,0.19932868160409484,0.11809041156378446,0.17428227718004718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927556576718345,0.0,0.20842778124581324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18753631043082508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21803800334864756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331139783789043,0.21364013316741495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6308760594786165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21722458631208186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415014102024234,0.0,0.2423250974793066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410740572596943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271829869217523,0.0,0.13380832251776634
parenting,sweet_summatime,2019/01/02,"Should I invite the entire preschool class to son’s birthday? We went to our first birthday party a few weeks ago and now son (will be turning 5) is BEGGING for a birthday party. My understanding of kids birthday party etiquette (this was the case for the party we attended) is that if you invite one person from class, you have to invite everyone. Except I’m a single mom on an extremely tight budget and I can’t afford to pay for 15 kids! 

I don’t want anyone to feel left out but I’d rather do something with 3/4 classmates that he’s close to rather than the entire class. We have a small family and I have a small social circle, so his friends are all from school. Am I overthinking this? Are my options either invite everyone or just have a family party? He wants a friend party and my heart is breaking that I can’t afford to do this for him. ",4.312317554240632,5.443767958579882,5.193624260355033,82.91083086785014,70.59763313609467,7.52682445759369,25.325936883629193,7.793537801064563,1.3771889546351086,671,19,128,8,12,219,97,169,0.006999999999999999,0.807,0.18600000000000005,0.9775,2,0,1,0,1,0,16.0,4,2,0,1,5,2,0,0,12,0,19,1,1,0,1,26,26,8,0,6,8,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,6,10,0,1,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,2,2,17,2,19,21,4,13,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,3,4,91,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778442943524674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028350808751958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834166082814661,0.0,0.0,0.3782677600991612,0.0,0.10144336107153673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065376489947096,0.0,0.0,0.310008828169306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377447149349391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179825138089244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349726627767207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595047860376785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17518031340060866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20304587887842174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045146095179607,0.0,0.154452956161008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822525655872024,0.0,0.20886044484484004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366707558804398,0.0,0.16093138812341595,0.0,0.0,0.185983828801554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LadyBearJenna,2019/01/02,"Advice going to women's shelter I'm in Seattle. 5 years ago I divorced an abusive man and moved my children into my mom's living room. In the past year my mom has gotten so aggressive with me that I have ptsd flashbacks to the abuse. I've left twice to go to my grammas and my mom has convinced me to come back home. The last time, she got physical with me. 

I've been very depressed lately. My youngest sister also lives with us. Yesterday she came home and immediately helped herself to my lunch off of my plate without asking. I realized it was easier to not start a fight by not saying anything. It was then that I realized why I'm so depressed: I'm in an abusive relationship with my family.

Today when I got home from work, my 3yo had obviously had an accident and I could smell it immediately. I took her to the bathroom and it seemed like someone dumped out the poop and let her sit in the still dirty underwear. When I asked my mom about it, she claims she had no idea and it's not her responsibility anyways. Then my sister starts yelling at me about what a terrible mom I am and maybe I should work less and take care of my children. 

There's already no money for my own place and I only pay 300 in rent right now and I'm living paycheck to paycheck. I get nothing from my ex. I applied for section 8 5 years ago and got put on a wait list, apparently. If I change my work hours so I'm home more I don't have to pay daycare 433 a month but I lose more money in income. 

If I take my kids to a shelter this weekend, do you think it would expedite the section 8 process? Where should I go from here? 

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parenting,Anonymedical,2019/01/02,"What is the proper age and what is the proper approach to teaching children about the birds and the bees? I want to make sure my wife and I get to our children on the subject before their friends or anybody else, but we also don’t want to traumatize them, or give them the info when they’re too immature/not ready. 

We’re also looking for suggestions about effective ways to have “the talk”/deliver the information.

Thanks in advance!",6.701341463414633,7.276902060975613,6.491365853658537,77.73290243902441,64.97560975609754,9.486829268292682,34.692682926829264,9.3871,3.1830556097560976,347,15,62,6,5,109,57,82,0.051,0.7490000000000001,0.199,0.8818,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,3,2,6,3,0,0,8,0,4,0,0,2,1,14,11,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,3,10,11,0,7,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,2,2,42,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475279348767952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528622624338188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24824002047951416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295859770982728,0.0,0.15525444259304544,0.28506406480139684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24954053464759424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983573835415359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28007087900924443,0.0,0.0,0.2388468862473001,0.0,0.2735860736770297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35054670578428004,0.2358726991723183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,schbeider44,2019/01/02,"Fun things to do/go for a 6 month old? My son is my first child and iv been working way too much and feel bad for him and my girlfriend because  we don't do much. He's mostly on the bed, in his crib playing with toys, or in car seat. 

We want to take him somewhere or do something out of the house with him so that he would have fun. Everyone says he's the happiest baby ever because he hardly crys so that makes it easier. 

We took him to all of our local Christmas light events he loved those but there all over now. It's really cold  in the Pacific Now also  so we can't really take him on stroller rides to the park or really anywhere outside too long. 


Any ideas would be appreciated thank youn ",2.8640125391849516,4.054773344827588,4.1178056426332335,89.01821316614422,74.17241379310343,7.479623824451412,23.52664576802508,8.00094639256281,1.0095517241379308,545,15,121,8,11,179,95,145,0.015,0.8420000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9455,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,2,10,6,0,0,6,0,10,2,0,1,3,24,18,11,0,3,4,1,2,0,1,2,1,1,1,1,6,10,0,0,2,2,0,3,2,1,0,1,2,5,14,5,17,13,5,20,0,0,0,1,21,8,0,4,8,76,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875690532973682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649723948737798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531556644268124,0.22678721957062306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826209598064587,0.0,0.17774623245921878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405526442521317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582250904665806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571716343338397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663377334578475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146374563117049,0.0,0.20998939006077447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461828133668438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788667697038906,0.0,0.12416710551986937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847617388208048,0.0,0.27348628488231264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195192471001318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574997839672088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792736679740098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432041829009895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797217214280592,0.0,0.0,0.17125851466935255,0.0,0.0,0.12358074603899015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667058892803428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971703959193664,0.14765081997188598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542184280705802,0.0,0.0,0.2642808184147557,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jessiegirl14,2019/01/02,"My 11 year old son's friend beat me in armwrestling As a mother I realized this would happen sooner or later, but it happened sooner than I expected and it wasn't even my kid. But it raises the question, how do you deal with being weaker than your child?",5.72529411764706,5.747589372549019,6.079215686274508,81.75647058823529,67.0392156862745,8.368627450980393,26.803921568627448,7.793537801064563,1.497203921568627,202,5,39,2,3,65,44,51,0.077,0.8809999999999999,0.042,-0.4118,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,10,6,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,5,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,3,28,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536300234934016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22655600717177554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26501000531919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6066482653968953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599331011570365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842516302404632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436656856188382,0.0,0.0,0.22088830270303114
parenting,warwarstuck,2019/01/02,"Any Advice For Someone Being Induced Tomorrow Morning? My obgyn told me today that they need to induce me because of my blood pressure steadily going up. It didn’t reach a level she was concerned about until today. I’m only 4 days early and already 3 cm dialated and 75% effaced. This is my second baby, my first was born exactly on his due date without being induced, vaginally with no complications. 


This isn’t considered elective at this point, but still I am a little nervous. I’m usually anti-intervention, but when it could hurt my baby I will suck up. Yes, I know this raises my possibility of having a csection, no warnings needed. Any other advice you’d give me? ",4.868809523809524,6.817033182539685,6.649396825396824,69.83171428571433,70.34920634920636,7.897142857142858,31.647619047619052,8.548686976883017,3.008148571428572,535,24,80,9,10,185,94,126,0.156,0.8079999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.9351,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,1,1,3,4,1,2,3,1,12,1,1,3,1,14,21,6,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,4,0,16,0,12,12,0,21,0,1,0,0,6,7,1,0,13,60,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856764571256408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21776944414063407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683957455488245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029654782244452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755982157878592,0.0,0.0,0.12726788503638373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678571852334592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930637678766687,0.112152790890908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125640303042847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845282690198152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977863840911852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292650013379034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008585701375268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186549954833979,0.22247104278694735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672054241101407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759586816987145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741102283869408,0.188566694311724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173419772858584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19022858422965933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,soyjoben,2019/01/02,"Dad’s... I️ need advice I’m 23 and my girlfriend is 20. Our son is 4 months old.
While I️ love my son more than anything, I’m starting to realize (after 3 years of relationship, living together, etc) that my girlfriend and I️ aren’t 100% compatible. I’m also having an intense difficulty wrestling with the fact that I️ won’t be able to sexually enjoy any other women for the rest of my life.
I’m not going to cheat and never would, and at this point am financing my girl and my son’s entire life.
My girl has a resourceful family, whom we live with, so I️ know that if I️ left her she would be taken care of well.
My girl believes in some fundamental things I️ just can’t seem to agree with. Horoscopes, crystal healing, magic, conspiracies, etc... she also has a bad habit of lying (nothing major, just small details in stories to make her stories stand out more), and is very type B (laid back, procrastinating) while I️ am very type A (focused on personal growth, always learning, being positive, etc)
My biggest problem is being attracted to other women and not having them. Ive finally graduated college and have a good income (engineering). I’ve been with a lot of women in the past, and am attractive enough to have a large amount of attractive women fairly easily. Is this something that will pass? Will these urges fade with time?
For the moment, I️ am ignoring this problem and treating it like “a phase”. I can’t help but wake up depressed and irritable in the morning, though. I️ can’t imagine leaving my son behind, but I️ also don’t want to be miserable, or drag out a relationship that will eventually end anyways. Any experience or advice?",5.022897157190634,6.5739986057692334,6.190178372352285,74.84322742474919,69.3525641025641,8.887625418060201,30.231884057971016,9.318704503766252,2.8291940914158307,1303,52,229,27,23,436,181,312,0.085,0.8140000000000001,0.101,-0.5994,2,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,2,0,1,0,10,17,1,1,14,0,33,5,1,1,2,45,47,23,0,7,9,5,0,1,2,6,3,0,0,8,14,19,0,1,5,0,1,3,9,7,1,0,2,0,19,10,33,34,11,32,0,2,0,1,27,13,0,6,16,152,33,7,0.11929553253037747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331484274281528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862017827927623,0.09926343963113383,0.0,0.0,0.16225010587755387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817005863437724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173090084209644,0.09960678668514247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344052134772887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162974604518455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274906736295794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056604330319146,0.12326417480983135,0.39913815936373054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669392183267968,0.11246121103913373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068242476746578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779840030363952,0.1000594327482758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996128081321059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655617048309937,0.0,0.0,0.12631674403457213,0.12961494514827246,0.0,0.16852392522847995,0.058281771344239765,0.0,0.2106802816395932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101420795708713,0.10766887571722188,0.0,0.07963069430901855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522055591997884,0.0,0.0,0.08845612578307087,0.09200806902372696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446728088120167,0.0,0.12518059372206802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388108437111563,0.0,0.10416425756233047,0.0,0.0,0.11277283796497405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282994268359742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561575136617687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860217238879626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183952919428147,0.0,0.0,0.08443799193573742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792546509730513,0.0,0.11720725501459407,0.0,0.0695621843677229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968626159528478,0.07036359592708642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726101056231238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694882471070812,0.0,0.0,0.07682241169189212
parenting,penisspoop,2019/01/02,"Wasn't awake for my child's birth I'm having a lot of issues dealing with the fact that, due to having to small of a pelvic bone and a epidural that quit working, i had to be put to sleep to get a c-section after 4 hours of pushing and trying the vaccum. It's been 3 months now and I still can't handle the fact i missed his first cry and didn't wake up until 2 hours after he was born. I missed everything. Anyone who has been through this, how did you get through it? ",4.016764705882352,3.614702245098041,4.806666666666668,90.88,70.66666666666667,7.192156862745098,24.84313725490196,5.46131890053228,0.4173019607843136,367,8,86,1,6,119,69,102,0.085,0.915,0.0,-0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,7,0,12,3,3,1,2,9,17,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,7,0,7,0,16,9,1,16,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,1,12,57,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722302581892722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27056716291640365,0.0,0.25394154627121884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22137343163715534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951673072839336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25738046099896583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4851443681026059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25709048208278024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094095215765232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19660751939594864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24761616480853785,0.0,0.2619879695396361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464944358421908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19670871419254934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723276811200516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793213812707031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sarah_JeanT,2019/01/02,"Parenting win. Positive post! Sorry for strange title, and please delete if this does not belong. 

I just really wanted to share this amazing parenting win my friends had. Their daughter posted this picture today on her instagram. [positive pic](https://whatisthis54321.tumblr.com/post/181661790831/when-you-are-13-and-become-comfortable-in-your)

Some background. This girl is 13. She’s a quiet girl. She made this and posted this little pic and let her parents stumble upon it. She is just a tween that is happy in her own skin and good for her! As you can imagine, her parents are beaming with pride that their kiddo seems to be wise beyond her years. 

I just really wanted to share this somewhere. Also, I removed her last name from her pic. Her parents posted this on social media and urged people to share it. I still felt like I needed to blur the last name. 

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parenting,hey_its_me_ur_melon,2019/01/02,"”Momma I need you forever!” The other day I was cleaning up the house and my three year old daughter wanted to play with me so she was chasing me around the house. As I’m going about my business straightening up she yells, “momma I need you forever!” My heart! It reminded me of the book I’ll love You Forever. I know she’s only gonna be this little once, and it’s a little reminder that I’m always going to be her mommy. Makes it easier when she’s throwing a toddler tantrum. Sometimes they can be so sweet.",2.3725854700854714,4.140495788461543,4.233974358974358,85.28880341880344,76.69230769230771,6.92991452991453,25.017094017094017,7.793537801064563,1.4354542735042737,398,14,79,6,9,135,66,104,0.027000000000000003,0.835,0.13699999999999998,0.907,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,1,0,5,4,1,0,6,0,6,2,1,1,0,9,17,6,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,2,19,3,9,11,0,12,0,0,0,1,13,5,0,0,4,52,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637474861348554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18869687943791014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367021283144512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24093313418086104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511836591525067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4891663130402945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649232840618995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248961888406471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130982120596815,0.0,0.14149060059636814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143438713445231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22242525375971015,0.2257395040981249,0.0,0.16121157413602746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964223819691205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250244963230979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365007458978822
parenting,Robotick1,2019/01/02,"Am I too old school and strict in my parenting? Hello all, I [M27] have  three year old son and another child on the way. On the 1st, we always have a big family get together. My grand mother had 11 child, each of my aunts and uncle had at least 4 child and my cousins and I are all starting to have children, many of whom have 3-4 child already. So yeah, we have BIG family get together.

Right after we finished eating, some of the young childrens (3 to 8 years old) started taking empty plactic bin that people brought their food in and dragging them and  pushing them on the floor like they were wagon. Except since they have no wheel, its making a verya nnoying screeching sound from dragging timy rocks and sand around. Not long after the first children started this, many more followed doing the same. Before long, there was 10+ children with plasting bin, pushing/dragging them, bumping into eachother and the adult talking. My son, seeing all his friend having such fun started doing it to. Thats where I acted. I started reprimanding him, telling him plastic bin were not toys and that this game was only going to get him hurt. So i made him promise not to do that again and he went back to playing. Abouts 10 minute laters, I spot it doing the same thing again. So I go and grab him, and punish him for not doing what he say. Of course he make a scene but I force him to stay sitting next to me for 3 minutes. 

While this is going on, I start to notice something. No other parent are doing a damn thing to stop their young child for doing it. So I stay there, giving a dumbfounded look to my girlfriend who cant believe it either. So I decide to put a stop to this. I start collecting the bin, stacking them in a corner and sit next to it to make sure no young child have access to them. Of course, many of the chirldren start to cry and make a fuss because I took their ""toys"" aways, so they go running to their parents. 

Seeing as there are now many crying children and im the cause of it, I decide to start a game of musical chair for them to play and change their mind. A good 90% of the children happily join in, but some are too upset and dont want to play the game. pretty much as soon as I finished explaining the rules and started the game, one of the parents gave back the bins to the children for them to play with. So halfway through the game, there are as many children pushing their bin as there are dancing around chair. After the game, I decide to pack up my things and go. My son was very upset that he couldnt play with his friend and that we were leaving early when I told him he was going to be able to stay up late, but I just couldnt stand it anymore.

After I left, my mother stayed behind and she told me today that many of my cousin were talking behind my back about how strict and impatient I was like it was a bad thing. That they considered I made a scene. I remember that when I was young, any adult at those family party had as much authority as my parents. If my aunt confiscated my toys for any reason, my parents would  stick with her decision even if they tought it was a stricter than they were. This is certainly not the case today. Its as if, during a party, parents are more willing to tolerate little demons than do their job as parents.

I dont have any doubt that was I did was right, but I cant help but wonder if im really too old school and strict for this day and age.

Sorry for the long rant. I just cant believe what I saw. Am I crazy?",4.8478170113148655,5.225282195994279,5.174208284562366,86.26141387046431,68.95708154506437,7.67071140590454,27.188223436077514,7.259408732682427,1.259325894134478,2721,79,561,23,44,863,285,699,0.083,0.821,0.096,0.8683,10,0,1,0,0,0,80.0,4,0,20,1,36,22,2,3,36,1,57,2,0,9,5,88,98,54,0,8,18,17,2,2,3,2,0,2,0,16,37,37,2,2,8,16,0,16,15,7,0,3,28,8,83,15,88,65,14,100,1,1,4,0,96,25,1,8,53,391,120,3,0.052840255721143634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058310536144477475,0.0,0.04396732570462182,0.0,0.0,0.10779955757986312,0.055407615350388316,0.0,0.0,0.05240333507510761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940780607531707,0.0,0.0,0.04964515964486752,0.121892685045678,0.044119406388198966,0.032210929442087206,0.0,0.0449631657499634,0.11906574705278887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05428149814394303,0.055897984185095284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608507944483536,0.03407759357484876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385677234298105,0.0,0.0,0.054068773187032265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03490049055549483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494392712946932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044945894522947616,0.06389464696152994,0.0,0.08164850098846789,0.0,0.08282055813950888,0.050689188143992765,0.18018201018298124,0.044319899509943014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035417709585095505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656658661764739,0.0,0.1141530872244833,0.0,0.052435800418022316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596061100129868,0.055950201278068885,0.057411092449524165,0.0,0.0,0.051630159761877965,0.052959817865846255,0.0,0.14028589058200522,0.04437250664729337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999745517455937,0.14108512402069384,0.3214303541709532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0533535952146764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768733566557506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239242283813508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06015898136137885,0.2217878387663619,0.0,0.03580592479321352,0.04018739554904493,0.0,0.0,0.4693828060452941,0.0,0.0,0.03663278010837324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053757536483239464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311905157630987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033850820867040984,0.054328583413498575,0.0,0.0,0.059857709139809985,0.090250579343209,0.0,0.04202069220202264,0.0,0.1069543195928288,0.08421368511756185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0437100055686661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040679010395460895,0.0,0.05915034018436684,0.37400604966729095,0.22528272791601026,0.0,0.08835363962580801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04980131567843784,0.0,0.039729296251337406,0.08494199199068536,0.04618471252882701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041887187819452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017276794942698,0.10098225752192898,0.058707468351341316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04359874484919595,0.031166551868149005,0.04194213547999075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04898344643736899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730300331518034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03753620160329995,0.0,0.0,0.06805478449716275
parenting,Bryn013,2019/01/02,"Diaper changing help So my son is 10 months almost 11 months and changing his diaper the past few months has been a straight nightmare. The more mobile he gets, the less likely he is to sit still while he’s having a diaper change (and more trouble for a poop lol). I was wondering if there is anyone out there with good tips for making diaper changes a lot easier when babies get to that stage. Any help would be appreciated :) ",6.184390243902437,6.63155256097561,6.491365853658537,77.73290243902441,66.07317073170732,9.974634146341463,26.15609756097561,9.888512548439397,2.2320800000000003,338,8,64,7,5,109,61,82,0.033,0.7559999999999999,0.211,0.9361,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,7,1,9,1,1,1,0,10,13,6,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,2,6,9,5,11,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,4,8,40,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218087392961282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693039357588085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022989278915695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7275918496440109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967124683702604,0.0,0.0,0.14422164828742812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305059583351245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400500480073024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618386219049553,0.0,0.0,0.11477648505574675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41174125662414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641436219020038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731772724902205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18647004350903806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214677662936972,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kidsareallfuckedup,2019/01/02,Any parents with children enrolled in LAUSD? How do you feel about the upcoming strike on Jan. 10. Are you planning on taking your children to school? I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here and the mods are welcome to delete this if it doesn't fit with this subreddit. I won't be upset and its completely understandable if you do. I just want to know how other parents feel about this. I just feel bad for the kids because they're the ones between this battle but it's a necessary battle. ,3.7534375,5.681732468750003,4.208749999999998,86.26125,73.27083333333334,6.883333333333333,26.583333333333336,7.6454224807358475,1.4759833333333336,391,14,75,5,8,123,63,96,0.133,0.816,0.05,-0.7797,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,1,7,5,2,1,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,18,16,8,0,4,6,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,0,3,7,1,12,14,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,3,0,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761795136723574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21631634866109975,0.15792938333269033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716346373254907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929874868078635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238054527215024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755555558375244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5753430465191945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621971801284417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900126420142998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479174820138045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26970564475962266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528088261468104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeoulFeminist,2019/01/02,"Contemplating my life choices up to this moment... I took my six year old roller skating today for the first time today. While she did great, as all kids do, she fell many times. One of those times, she brought me down with her. While she bounced back quickly (after her many spills), this one wipe out has me laying in bed contemplating my life choices up to this moment. It also brings to mind a Sinbad joke that I shall paraphrase, shit that breaks at my age, stays broke.

Though bruised, I am perfectly fine, the most damaged gland is my dignity. What hurts most, is that I pride myself on my stellar roller skating ability, and to be brought low by a six year old...",5.829625984251969,6.456708842519685,5.095738188976379,86.80376476377954,66.8740157480315,7.9248031496063,29.260826771653534,7.6454224807358475,1.5737094488188972,521,17,105,5,8,156,87,127,0.103,0.758,0.139,0.6335,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,3,4,10,1,0,4,0,8,4,1,0,2,8,12,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,9,3,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,5,0,5,4,0,19,5,17,6,3,33,0,4,0,0,7,8,1,2,18,72,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450745311607176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949407270729927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430833793174287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000657124316773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942045220389285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25627229715325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678451186652708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317367331639836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807212331266138,0.0,0.245857949945966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621606694692647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19336028172550865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823565671695296,0.0,0.3173471201565907,0.0,0.34391335387498506,0.0,0.20155460162998148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23364582673281786
parenting,Taintedlovexo,2019/01/02,"FTM due in 3 weeks- still no plan My best friend will be my L&D nurse and she and my midwife say I need a birthing plan as to pain management, etc. I like to think I'm pretty tough and am scheduled to work until 2 days before my due date. I've stayed active during my pregnancy but my job is physically demanding and the body aches are real. We need my paychecks to save for my unpaid leave and I feel pretty good over all.

I have no idea what to expect when I actually go into labor and the hospital has bathtubs but I was advised to stay home for as long as possible for comfort. We plan to install the carseat and have the diaper bag ready by next week. Also, almost every woman I talk to says to get the epidural. ",2.8941836734693887,4.503332108843541,4.4392006802721085,85.05431122448981,74.85034013605444,7.07687074829932,24.494897959183675,7.793537801064563,1.2785061224489795,568,18,114,8,12,190,101,147,0.086,0.732,0.182,0.9545,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,5,3,8,0,0,6,0,9,2,1,0,1,22,16,15,0,3,2,0,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,10,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,3,18,6,20,13,3,19,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,14,71,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.15468600781594935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872806278531218,0.0,0.0,0.12676294092004298,0.0,0.17174897533708258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348830497975465,0.0,0.16634981361029905,0.0,0.0,0.17607242005246004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222789419894478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176784108123448,0.0,0.0,0.13355419934694365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014903174494138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224668975263547,0.0,0.08281659947992033,0.0,0.09008669891885476,0.13295334331806394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900165412900327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894209742469447,0.0,0.0,0.15729988227005728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784258090587534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744153791286745,0.0,0.0,0.1402791851926868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350710440145909,0.0,0.0,0.16858057605247045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866921036550947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786998048867647,0.0,0.3225298018731305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18042271338190224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252112102174096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33790793976786504,0.1265888384399151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740689789610438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156885178712306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25429943959300144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153994903361493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megbabe2211,2019/01/02,"Allergic reaction..so scary My daughter is in the midst of a severe allergic reaction to amoxicillin. I was in childrens er last night with my husband for three hours and they didnt do one damn thing for her except give her a small dose of benadryl. She got progressively worse overnight and I stayed up just to make sure she was still breathing ok and that her tongue didnt swell up. 

I took her to the pediatricians office today first thing and they gave us steroids and zofran since she started throwing up this morning. 

She is looking a lot better. I just hope that this goes away soon. Anyone else 1.5 or small child have this happen and how long did the rash last for?",3.6247674418604654,6.014640410852714,3.4211046511627927,89.68188953488372,75.12403100775194,6.470542635658915,24.703488372093023,7.492282038375204,1.0951906976744183,539,18,106,7,12,162,87,129,0.117,0.7909999999999999,0.092,-0.5334,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,2,3,5,5,1,0,6,1,9,5,2,2,1,16,18,8,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,7,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,3,8,1,17,4,16,10,1,21,0,0,1,0,17,8,1,3,10,71,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435427513004994,0.19687822436740066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805292715136342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699391974900161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605149095388727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344090045836393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18432576860891628,0.0,0.0,0.15367822385788033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169915748066034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19084621427687665,0.18922697032196556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31325235845869553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700448396283823,0.16135583725729688,0.0,0.0,0.16335726818585694,0.0,0.0,0.12826021128275178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031778204246232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130204385785656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217072427470881,0.0,0.15894672349963887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600326833697368,0.20480408888908774,0.15344955633789042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810971160967632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25530904551696343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821337362270319,0.0,0.21348338024678068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23113025790861236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581511961678444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,paintwhore,2019/01/02,First big kid bed? I'm trying to find a good first big kid bed for my four-year-old.  Is a 6-inch mattress thick enough?,-0.4305128205128206,1.5909056923076967,0.4976923076923079,106.93064102564104,88.23076923076924,3.466666666666667,12.512820512820511,3.1291,-1.9455487179487176,92,1,24,0,3,28,21,26,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.504,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,9,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778673721087412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342445143002185,0.6221309596087423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30673303874068275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837421705190949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24828728985472046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354997538405281
parenting,wildflower_26,2019/01/02,"Kids won’t give us space as a couple and think we are the problem. I was a single mom for a while and even before that, my two teens and I were incredibly close.  We did everything together.  As they got older, naturally they started doing their own thing more and didn’t want to do so much with me.

Now I’ve been remarried for a few years and my daughter and husband are really close.  My son and I are really close.  We also have two babies, so alone time is at a premium, aka never happens.

Our teenagers are constantly interloping whenever we try to have a conversation or alone time.  We spend a LOT of time as a family, but any time they sense that we need us time, they loiter or intrude.  They’ve told us they feel like outsiders who never have time for them.  But we give them SO much time and attention our relationship is suffering.  We play board games, watch movies, play video games, ask about their day, eat as a family every night, etc.  They talk to us one on one for hours a few times a week each.  When we point this out to them when they complain they say “you’re right”.  DD in particular has admitted to doing things for attention recently.

DH and I rarely get to talk just the two of us.  Someone always pops in with a comment or desperately ‘needs’ something at that moment, and it’s usually something that can wait.  It feels almost purposeful and I don’t understand.  

For instance today DH had an awful day at work, I spent the whole day with the kids until about a half hour ago when they went upstairs (their choice) and so I wanted to unwind a bit and catch up with DH.  As soon as she heard the door DD came downstairs and started with obvious attention seeking behavior.  I told her we wanted to talk and chill a bit alone while dinner got made and instead she plopped herself down on the couch and gave me a shit eating grin.  

It is a huge issue in our house that I am overworked and a bit of a doormat.  I’m working on that.  And now I’m a bitch for wanting DD upstairs.  I’m at my wits end.  What am I doing wrong?  

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parenting,Scottiedogg,2019/01/02,"'Wet Willy' PTSD  Ladies and Gentlemen, I’d like to take this opportunity to talk to you about the dangers of exposing your children to the new ‘Peter Rabbit’ film, starring James Corden as the incommodious furry arsed and irritating hero himself.  


It’s not the fact that he trashes poor Mr McGregor’s home after the poor old man suffers an acute myocardial infarction, nor is it that Peter and his siblings run enough voltage through Mr McGregor’s’ door handle to down a f\*cking Boeing 747. No, it’s the horrifying realisation that he’s lulled you into a false sense of security for most of the film before BOOM! He’s now taught your child how to perform the dreaded, ‘Wet Willy’.  


For those of you who may be confused about what in the sweet name of 'Barney & Friends' a ‘Wet Willy' is, let me refer you to the official definition;  


*""****wet-willy****. Noun. (plural 'wet willies') (slang) A prank whereby a saliva-moistened finger is inserted into an unsuspecting person’s ear, often with a slight twisting motion""*  


You see, toddlers are strange creatures. It can take days, even weeks to convince them that shitting and pissing in a glorified bucket is much more preferable than walking around with their toodle or floof caked in last nights half digested spaghetti bolognese. And it can take months to get them to accept the fact that kicking you in the unmentionables when you’re crouching down to wipe up spilled Strawberry yoghurt from your sofa cushion only leads to you going in a massive huff and throwing the tv remote into the f\*cking oven.  


Yet, you show them just f\*cking ONCE a brief three second CGI rabbit sticking a well sucked foot into a man’s ear while he’s driving at speed on Her Majesty’s highway, and they’ll have the technique and delivery perfected before you can find the off button on your Blu-Ray player.  


And they’re like military trained snipers with their precision and patience when it comes to getting their target. My son will pretend to be in what I like to call ‘The Kids TV Coma’, whereby they stare blankly at the TV while surprisingly entertaining presenters run around in pirate costumes and throw sponges at confused looking toddlers. You think you’re safe as you plonk your badonkadonk down beside them and pick up your mobile to mindlessly scroll through Facebook, then WHAM! A tiny and soggy digit is rammed into your ear up to the second knuckle, and spun round like an offshore rig drilling for oil.  


I’m thinking I’ve got a strong claim against Sony Pictures for Wet Willy induced PTSD. Every time I see a soggy sausage come out the fridge, I’m getting the shakes. ",6.198517064331018,8.065185209302328,5.596850498338871,79.00637209302326,66.88583509513742,7.7735789791603755,33.38743581999396,8.238735603445708,2.694842271217155,2096,94,349,28,35,638,277,473,0.091,0.807,0.102,0.7866,0,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,0,18,9,6,13,26,4,4,38,0,16,9,7,4,4,51,35,24,0,1,3,1,7,4,1,3,2,4,4,8,16,27,1,2,7,8,2,13,3,9,1,4,2,17,34,17,66,27,4,58,0,1,5,0,48,27,3,6,22,207,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206794563111856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498805059305477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388531080656074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433118916290108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417962540946885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905134125343012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450179037830804,0.0,0.09269910718198376,0.0,0.11824997898961892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282763276022218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843319139516576,0.0,0.21997948090839367,0.0,0.07976349906246873,0.0,0.11224981512680172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078136331173005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440306388997913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351623192136628,0.0,0.2742694808818805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785770584199215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202513169685016,0.0,0.10317257065620328,0.0,0.0,0.1355498164448517,0.0,0.13170791013995325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472725333528769,0.1494669696196835,0.0,0.106741642540585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254722269560225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281206447419097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367976205061146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406610162014474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165746583657407,0.11280710807309892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798597819994625,0.0,0.0,0.08183855670264671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257940048304613,0.0,0.1261904923583747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,earlgrey-tea,2019/01/02,"3 1/2 Extremely Mean and Disobedient I honestly don’t even know where to start. I have a daughter who is 3 1/2 years old and is extremely mean, disobedient and as bad as this sounds, it’s gotten to the point that I don’t want to be around her. 

I’m a single mom, we live with my parents and we always have. My mom has spoiled my daughter. She gets a new toy every week or she will throw a screaming fit, she just did this last week. And my mom can’t handle it so she gives in. My daughter does not listen to anybody and she talks back or screams and cries until she gets her way.

I know a lot of you will say that I need to talk with my mom, and I have tried, but it never works. I can’t afford to move out, and right now can’t afford childcare. My daughters father is in the picture, but I think he’s just as bad as my mom. We don’t talk very often and every conversation turns into an argument so I try to keep the communicating to a minimum.

She constantly tells me she doesn’t love/like me, doesn’t want to live with me, and doesn’t want me to be her mom after I have done nothing to her. This morning she woke up and told me not to talk to her. She has been like that all day. It’s gotten so bad that just the other day my daughter told me she was going to cut my hair off, and she told my mom she was going to cut her eyes out with sharp knives. I couldn’t make this up if I tried. Obviously she’s three and doesn’t know how cruel that was, but still. 

I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m embarrassed, disappointed. There are so many days I wish I didn’t have children or that I could run away. I don’t think I can handle much more of this. I feel like I’m a terrible parent because we don’t get along, but quite frankly I’m also afraid something is wrong with her. 

I want to make it clear that NOBODY in this house treats her that way. I have no idea where she gets the stuff she says. She is so loved and well taken care of. I love her to death and try so hard every day to get along with her, but it feels impossible. 

She has a dr. Appointment next week and I’m definitely going to bring this up, I just needed to vent. ",1.7275298005429,2.9918265458515307,3.279052283724773,93.60064026909006,77.20960698689957,6.436067508556593,20.238640387112003,7.001395882987947,0.09789630591289944,1650,36,397,17,37,545,190,458,0.121,0.78,0.099,-0.9026,4,0,1,0,1,0,47.0,4,1,0,2,22,21,3,2,14,0,43,5,2,3,4,78,91,39,1,10,15,15,5,2,0,2,1,6,0,1,25,33,0,1,11,1,0,7,19,13,1,1,14,12,73,8,50,71,5,46,0,1,1,2,66,17,0,6,22,262,98,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055249940624758485,0.05748705433257841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851709360058597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150329253994885,0.0,0.0,0.06491079327924694,0.05312468820627071,0.17305769715438166,0.04211562612154657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044019273702626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465997860231786,0.0,0.0551614377761193,0.0,0.0758903249435686,0.17822511985575912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045969389394965,0.07070138448480752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045632213573236886,0.0,0.17462978210863905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986630655457964,0.049356741845551166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18047909628793316,0.06627585522222668,0.11779353011745035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188960480877705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971869736591182,0.0,0.0779923547546925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06140891333643055,0.0,0.0,0.15187663461033954,0.05631623867327602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675061708180896,0.0,0.12201258431527792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058736457400892124,0.1870648407294024,0.0,0.09223404039381468,0.07004475838301555,0.0,0.15051496712579746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.566408207558756,0.0,0.0734299983769192,0.05078789777167075,0.10245629464054673,0.05328520634241293,0.06672597354882273,0.07347626009451387,0.0,0.0,0.06629214965523142,0.0,0.07249661727849142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342890681583718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531083637059608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348398055905891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059001086319247616,0.0,0.10988368189317904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531875988207661,0.0,0.0,0.04890110042712116,0.0,0.0551740576291458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790896488147668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221224434477107,0.06038627630700082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853806940473344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980506807642608,0.0,0.18762585934574386,0.0751483020260518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700513674213493,0.16300043106011014,0.10967825686560398,0.16625555745765894,0.0,0.06211873742111314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944821027210935,0.0,0.0,0.05029715264511929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553728158441679,0.0,0.04449064198563542
parenting,camron96,2019/01/02,"Daughter is attached to me and I feel bad, help! So my daughter is about a year and a half old and shes just the sweetest little girl (completely bias of course) but she is attached to my hip. Not that I mind it I mean who doesnt want love from their child but it comes at the cost of her ignoring her mother at times. When we go out she wants to me to hold her or be by her the entire time. My girlfriend tries to hold her or play with her when were out but my little girl still begs and crys to be with me. I honestly just feel bad about it because I dont do as much for her as my GF does. I work alot in order to give them the very best but it comes at not being able to see them as much. My GF on the other hand brings her to daycare with her (GF works there, daughter is enrolled there) and brings her home and cooks for her and washes her clothes and bathes her and puts her down for sleep before I even get home from work. My GF is an amazing mother, very kind with her, helps her learn and all the other stuff you can expect from a good mother but  With all my GF does for her I would assume she would up her butt but no she is all over me.

Is there anything I can do to help my daughter want to be with her mother more?",2.338308270676692,3.0189726052631625,3.1782706766917284,97.21146616541357,74.82706766917293,6.0511278195488725,20.390977443609025,5.399115186594226,-0.3759669172932334,947,17,235,3,19,300,125,266,0.073,0.789,0.138,0.9755,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,3,4,12,10,0,0,11,0,21,7,4,0,3,52,36,24,0,6,12,8,3,0,6,2,1,0,3,3,9,21,1,3,5,3,1,6,5,3,0,1,1,4,51,7,42,29,8,26,0,0,1,2,52,12,1,4,7,172,60,4,0.13156368944799288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826570646286036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197003705401891,0.08020000395747995,0.0,0.11195100959664288,0.0,0.13806797524106024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266609380285013,0.13794202528228078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302645424559927,0.0,0.154191664197817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689657607369264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330451088629341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873659764554445,0.12620787913179332,0.07477067659970746,0.11034938071200906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645531033803173,0.0,0.2639382151277828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700333699409134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637227596965029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874136631619507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433114270260508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328418217504736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19342889931280005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805396068098186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225784603008908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104839226881756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316587031710866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506693234091297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15060894808102807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343169064857792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932310906779922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171076445175746,0.2327990182022442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873397985023529,0.0,0.0,0.18691814047439376,0.0,0.0,0.08472270251951212
parenting,KrazyKat87,2019/01/02,"Trying to potty train an Autisic 4 year old My boy is 4 years old, autistic with limited verbal skills and limited understanding of what's being asked of him. We have been trying to potty train for the last few days but he's not getting it, and heres why: I tell him he needs to go pee on the potty and sit him on the potty. He sits on the potty and uses his finger to write the letter ""P"" on his potty chair and then wants to get up. I tell him ""no, you need to go pee in the potty like a big boy"" and he again will try to write the letter ""P"" on the potty chair and his legs, over and over again and starts crying. It ends with him in tears and me frustrated to the point of being angry each time we sit on the potty. 

I'm at my wits end. I dont know what to do. I know he can get it, I just dont know how to help him get it. Any advice, please??",3.2653475935828884,2.676651149732624,4.859251336898399,90.50299465240644,72.2620320855615,7.655614973262033,20.74331550802139,6.574015621080383,0.06895080213903704,643,7,160,4,11,219,96,187,0.097,0.852,0.05,-0.8426,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,3,5,2,1,0,12,0,10,4,4,2,0,31,27,13,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,15,0,2,4,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,1,20,1,28,23,2,32,0,0,0,0,27,14,0,0,14,97,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786516808810565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290071197366564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146091796874422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662145595849522,0.09758691185545784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35468466688495165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26804380133064604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31622743506338064,0.0,0.17199381471430508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142455909662212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494795082750035,0.12334350677138455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392581636815228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22439919585332832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175633605813011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610056678248586,0.14304342367140538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071029130097602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26451536025987143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823412791217586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082028203307612,0.0,0.0,0.15752627698072794,0.0,0.13068925732563974,0.0,0.0,0.08925065507678265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654000767348395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488630385475436
parenting,Aaappleorange,2019/01/02,"Daughter is constantly tired - is this a late growth spurt? My 10 month old has been super tired the last 4 days and I’m getting pretty concerned. We tried transitioning her from 3 naps down to 2 since mid-November and some days it’s fine, other days she needs a short third nap so we just put her down. She still sleeps 7pm-7am. 

She’s been waking up from her morning nap at 1030/1045 as usual but by 1130 or 12 she starts rubbing her eyes and sucking her thumb while we are playing. If I give her space she will just lay down on the floor and start napping. I’m really confused about this and she doesn’t seem sick at all so I don’t want to freak out for no reason. 

I don’t think she’s iron deficient - she eats chicken, pork, and beef at least twice a day. She’s down to about 8oz of infant formula though. The rest of her liquids are water or homo milk. Is this a growth spurt? Should I give her fortified infant cereal more often so she can have a boost in iron? Could there possibly be a medical issue?",1.5831114193250144,3.7890460582524312,2.6133841886269096,93.79775080906151,81.13592233009709,5.865557096625057,20.00369856680536,7.07126945348624,0.2963659731853907,792,21,172,10,21,251,135,206,0.08900000000000001,0.815,0.096,-0.5547,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,11,6,1,1,9,0,17,11,3,1,1,27,29,16,0,5,6,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,5,10,3,0,3,5,0,3,4,3,0,2,2,2,26,3,23,23,5,31,0,0,1,1,26,14,2,7,14,108,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743608520560566,0.0,0.12882397599538975,0.0,0.0,0.4162267969747076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165100216294324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429814633269703,0.3095611545469297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840634285323555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315208970520627,0.18200859896646654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254205261477994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878716104416987,0.0,0.0,0.11963817272964973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930853981609856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189665352803244,0.0,0.1641498480117448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220021997283793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336424367455938,0.1658935526705108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688598832521615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334694861422097,0.0,0.1614654348055122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22840717869391225,0.0,0.12885344838967264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338586689822818,0.15852448540412775,0.0,0.0,0.3708936745917617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954531904412466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770302977059074,0.0,0.09516776784966484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lioness0,2019/01/02,"How much do we tolerate before drawing line? My ex husband is a bit of a whore. He's been in several relationships since we divorced. He jumped into another marriage then strait into another relationship then another without a days break in between. He had a bit of a break between his last relationships and this new budding relationship. 

I was only informed about it last week and then this week he's asking if it's ok for the kids to meet her.  At this point my kids (3 girls) already see their dad as a person who uses women so I just told him to do whatever he wanted, as he was going to do anyhow.

I didn't find out until yesterday she has kids (1 girl 2 boys) . I was told her kids were at their dads so I wasn't concerned with them meeting this woman for a few hours. 

Turns out they spent the entire two days they are at their dads with this woman. One of her kids came over to spend the night and the others were dropped off in the morning, 

My kids already feel like they don't get enough attention off their dad for the amount of time they spend with him so going from having their dad to themselves for a bit to having to share him with three other kids didn't go down well. The fact one of these kids doesn't know how to keep his hands to himself caused some issues, he came into my kids room at her dads house and starts hitting her with her own toys. He's made to apologise by his mum but according to my daughter he didn't really apologise and the issue wasn't forced. 

She takes her kids back to her house and they follow on a few hours later, the second they enter her house this one kids is hitting another one of my kids round the face then later smacks another in the face. 

This time he messed with the wrong kid and she threatens him back at which point she's told off and taken home. Now my kids think they are being punished for this other kids behaviour. 

He's old enough to know a lot better and I've said to keep telling a grownup if this behaviour continues but if the grownups don't do anything and this kid isn't learning then I told them they are to kick him where it hurts. 

My kids can be catty and gobby at times but I can say hand on heart when it counts they are angels. I know meeting new people they would have been on their best behaviour so I'm really feeling for them. They just lost a relative on their dads side on nye and then forced into a situation where they felt pushed aside and ignored they came home this evening upset. 

Every time I raise these issues with their dad there is always some excuse or that they seemed fine. Yeah they would because they know saying anything to him will only get them told off. 

I've always said he's got as much right to these kids as I do. He created them with me so I have 0 right denying him them or them him regardless of my personal feelings towards him, 

I want to do right be them and I truly thought giving their dad access to them is best but at times when he's not actually putting them first I just want to stop access. Like the title says where do I draw the line and say enough is enough. This isn't the first time we have had issues with his partners and their kids. ",3.6608509389671333,4.989990852895152,4.116428990610332,89.26084066901409,72.39593114241,7.140336463223788,23.641138497652587,7.569512494915309,0.8717889671361498,2501,66,527,29,48,786,258,639,0.059,0.848,0.093,0.9613,0,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,3,0,36,6,23,17,1,1,29,2,49,6,5,5,1,86,96,45,0,9,14,13,7,2,2,3,0,6,3,30,25,37,0,4,15,1,3,11,12,8,1,9,31,14,91,9,82,57,18,91,1,2,2,1,151,39,0,10,40,352,116,1,0.0,0.0,0.05811506363007505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143626596935226,0.0,0.09910560762046987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122321688947001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801396513410322,0.0,0.05567394528724446,0.0,0.0,0.09158504580650906,0.0,0.036302909981656716,0.0,0.05067515240893535,0.0,0.12499424012954413,0.052669722140377684,0.19504910821279975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20433804140004846,0.0,0.061177257996605665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681341913237602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461363617412381,0.0,0.039334144928346124,0.0,0.050175907328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033524386940532,0.04254462111131295,0.05718014659750467,0.0,0.05443029403591094,0.10131137419335992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222789011567939,0.057128591633566685,0.10153589805204437,0.0,0.047629913929050124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057050218451401,0.0,0.0,0.1194728777018894,0.0,0.11729526907891807,0.20614823718712585,0.0637526373041217,0.0,0.0,0.2486311230734577,0.0,0.10586675104817043,0.0,0.0,0.13091491929061833,0.09708716366515023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818910148320632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500905191180238,0.050629766716803096,0.0,0.056350417024190524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755650340524207,0.0,0.0,0.11503317102257367,0.0,0.05588638535087609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249077630806565,0.0,0.1614184113395484,0.09058536517160956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041286499386586,0.10399863309604687,0.0,0.0,0.1125935255833919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05986713767924118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630225665799645,0.0,0.0,0.2557502151077577,0.0,0.15257361621213972,0.11329693722889896,0.18943550314120766,0.0,0.0,0.047455970426793295,0.05421474574874012,0.0,0.06727785353876516,0.0,0.04926279449060747,0.0669399822279149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04215186642806448,0.0,0.0,0.04978891142607785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044776387717715485,0.0,0.052051880852341435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03815910933240664,0.0,0.047278369870413776,0.20835473487888392,0.0,0.0,0.28452685688208434,0.0,0.0,0.06477648072600775,0.05817455378876694,0.0,0.0,0.05143460587174975,0.0,0.0,0.1053775733738716,0.0,0.0955395275998319,0.0,0.05354523108037386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740689399848975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846093777149709,0.06511177408841141,0.0,0.0
parenting,userno89,2019/01/02,"3 yr old speech delayed twins whine at everything I have twins that turned 3 last month. They are severely speech delayed. We are seeing a private speech therapist, a government aided speech pathologist, have them in day care twice a week, and have appointments for audiology to see if their delay may be hearing related.

I do my best to talk with them through things, making sure that my vocabulary is simple enough for them to follow. I try to teach them small sentences that they can learn to pronounce so that they can communicate feelings. They understand things very well, but cant verbally reciprocate a lot of things. They are smart, knowing all their colors, shapes, some letters, and counting to 10.

I'm driven to my breaking point every single day because their go-to for attention is to whine. I'm sure it is speech related, maybe also them being sooky (sort of like bratty). I will be talking to the pathologist about this, but what advice does r/parenting have to give me to help my kids give up the constant whining and fake crying?

Examples;

Brother sits in spot, gets the blue cup, is in my lap, is touching him


I say no to an activity, tell them to put toys away, get dressed, ready for bed 

We cant see grandma/grandpa, go to the park, have to leave play place etc

They whine, sook, fall to the floor, fake cry, sometimes real cry, sometimes hit each other or me or and object, basically throw a mild tantrum

How can I deter this behaviour? I understand distraction, that doesnt always work 

No TLDR because I'm not looking for blanket advice ",6.699900383141768,7.423074606896553,6.521609195402303,77.00153256704981,65.0,9.616858237547897,33.35249042145594,9.586721724236666,3.097674329501916,1236,50,221,23,18,389,178,290,0.155,0.747,0.098,-0.9603,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,2,0,15,3,5,16,1,1,11,0,25,0,0,2,3,33,48,12,0,1,6,1,2,1,0,2,0,7,1,1,13,8,0,3,6,2,0,6,6,8,1,1,1,15,32,8,32,41,8,29,0,4,6,0,29,11,0,7,11,138,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734285232731332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889332066265097,0.09253418236285993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044838225293416,0.0,0.0,0.1355830481524143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167062095491898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338423434768187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120176623335507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664711603039221,0.14344025740965188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731909914916137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114907862079392,0.1240266082651288,0.0,0.0,0.09369775677460496,0.0,0.09994681477982956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056230238501515685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620345347301925,0.21336219587485544,0.12640443573022087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533979319829766,0.0,0.07454055358380658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06111715223042055,0.09064957597644814,0.0,0.11775349183358018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543307392735851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338693123121294,0.0,0.0,0.09454528717089564,0.0,0.0,0.07423237816716494,0.0,0.11172364618780573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876537342383828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669436331053533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348361390109636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618896390455552,0.0,0.10512775290284353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179501884026856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657934829256728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884372732005128,0.0,0.0,0.2658557589493477,0.0,0.0,0.12563368143967715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199756286290512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209624940932648,0.0,0.0,0.17876997636689154,0.09720092234469233,0.0,0.0,0.12912136309859104,0.22164548257135708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550310972729858,0.1209626543692496,0.0,0.2315434446001071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175846249487052,0.0,0.0,0.08920455948002612,0.0,0.09998958275756344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809609389319239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eazy_flow_elbow,2019/01/02,"Potty training a child with speech delay I have a child who should already be potty trained, me and my wife have been trying to train my son. He has a speech delay, he was supposed to have it officially diagnosed but due to some miscommunication with our doctor and the facility. There was never any paperwork filed and I’m currently between jobs so I have no health insurance to take him to a specialist again. 

We have been trying to train him to tell us or atleast signal us somehow but I don’t believe he can grasp this concept. We try to take him to sit on the potty every 30 mins but it was hit or miss. 

Anyone have a similar experience and any advice they can offer?",4.2597727272727255,5.788949674242428,5.5595151515151535,78.71427272727273,71.19696969696969,8.31030303030303,27.593939393939394,8.841846274778883,2.162797575757576,535,19,101,10,10,179,83,132,0.067,0.933,0.0,-0.7519,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,5,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,7,0,17,3,0,0,1,20,22,10,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,4,8,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,2,15,0,13,14,1,9,0,1,0,0,19,1,0,4,7,72,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946753372559164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984406462383926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27095266676207397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929915516191282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22445255626446606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20220395993838208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390996392449906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678513206659224,0.0,0.0,0.19487524611756676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176139061409607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19769496660329056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365063419078273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995770764617087,0.0,0.17412693480751862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4057716145520139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.479273914102993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,h22lude,2019/01/02,"3 year old waking up at night My son just recently turned 3.  He has always been a great sleeper.  Once he started sleeping through the night, he would go to bed at 7:30 and typically wake up around 6:30.  For a few weeks now he has been waking up at least once, sometimes three times a night.  It is usually because he peed or he says he has a booger (which he never does).  I would go fix the issue and he would go back to bed.  The last few nights, one of the times he wakes up he will refuse to go back to bed.  Last night he woke up at midnight.  Changed him and he feel back asleep.  Then he woke up at 2am and said he didnt want to go back to bed.  Even though he was still tired.  It took about 40 minutes to finally get him to lay down and fall asleep.  Then 6am comes and he is exhausted.

We have a great bedtime schedule.  We haven't changed it at all.  It all starts at 730pm.  Usually in bed by 8pm.  He does take naps most days but the night waking happens even if he doesn't get a nap.

While the warnings are tough, it was ok when he would go back to sleep.  Having to fight with him to lay back down has been a struggle.  It is much harder for us and him to fall back asleep after being awake for 40 minutes.  Then we all wake up tired.

He is still in his crib.  It can convert to a toddler bed but he has only tried to climb out once about 4 months ago.  I don't see a need to rush a toddler bed if he isn't trying to climb out.  I think right now a toddler bed will make nighttime even harder.

Anyone have experience with this that can give advice?",1.4954863221884482,2.9665476747720376,2.5499468085106405,97.70875,78.33130699088146,5.5510638297872354,20.26063829787234,5.985473137389443,-0.2672996960486325,1191,28,289,7,28,378,158,329,0.066,0.91,0.025,-0.8823,0,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,4,0,0,2,20,7,1,1,17,1,32,14,11,1,4,37,57,18,0,8,6,1,1,0,0,6,3,2,8,0,10,16,0,1,2,2,0,13,6,4,0,2,10,4,13,3,48,40,8,76,0,0,1,0,38,22,0,4,41,164,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076994920585077,0.06984461711237988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556150290789277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05509340597756609,0.0,0.0,0.07014184914355104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4241048890967013,0.0,0.04803105284298287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670360518703245,0.0678725869992407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081451315144647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790333991046574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612470690709526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707398538673077,0.0,0.0,0.039839752736695454,0.0,0.0,0.08631310987449835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233144615579735,0.07558475078123222,0.26867686845278643,0.0,0.0,0.1737375709016295,0.0,0.0,0.06967576789888168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223868704179317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284524764194495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259446998712276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289125963232099,0.0,0.05792140415091971,0.058423489749077614,0.0607694767304506,0.0,0.0,0.44364739840650097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267926126496009,0.25173367396466245,0.05339169951387995,0.05992509227988783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779788757700333,0.0,0.0,0.06728819100574518,0.07494951756951437,0.06265879695532578,0.0,0.0,0.0627872593253837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576983994315444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792759630962902,0.0,0.11153918652029374,0.0,0.12584726010716935,0.0,0.0,0.08237081632118556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059242001417356735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048692233520893,0.07741303161587477,0.0,0.09188884386136896,0.1811203088538927,0.0,0.0,0.08754114095747442,0.10698959501322687,0.08570339320747072,0.0,0.0,0.09477743168449933,0.0,0.1735571666017126,0.0,0.046473738126807405,0.0,0.06320242786404487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388714811529306,0.0,0.0,0.05073965587174357
parenting,Inappropriate_mind,2019/01/02,"Father and a stay at home dad pretty beat down by life. My first throwaway post. I’ll give it a couple weeks but I probably will delete this for my own reasons. 

On my second marriage with 2 teenage boys from first marriage and 2, (m5)(f2) with current wife. Long story short; two teen boys resented me for remarrying and moving them away from their grandparents 7years ago. Things came to a head with the older boys around Xmas of 2017 and were sent back to live with their grandparents (back home). They always loved their grandparents and were never shy about telling me how much they’d rather live with them. Here we are now a year later and the older boys attitudes are a complete 180 compared to living with me. Instead of nearly flunking out of school, they now excel. They’re obviously happier there and their drug addicted mother is still off ignoring everything. Great for those two older boys though! I am happy for their newfound peace in life. 

Me on the other hand... I’ve been crushed by the last year. My younger children have lost all respect for me. I’m a barely functioning stay at home dad that is often oppressively depressed and my wife is a successful programmer that supports our family better than my lack of education ever could. 

I’ve always suffered from depression but was managing much better after navigating the legal realm of divorce/family law and won custody of my two older boys, I’d met a new woman with her shit together and we got married. Things were great... until the older boys revolted against everything. Now my depression has kicked me down so hard I can barely function, but still manage to get things done, but all the while I truly feel like the two younger children and my wife keep kicking me while I’m down. I keep literally hearing that I’m not welcome to interact with them on any given day. My wife keeps hitting the end of her rope with my depression because I am now incapable of meeting her higher expectations on how I need to function. All around, I’m failing as a parent, and a spouse. “But at least I haven’t walked off, yet.” Is what I keep telling myself but I am increasingly feeling that I need to leave my family for their own wellbeing as I am feeling how hard it is for them to deal with me most days. 

I have been doing counseling for two straight years now, I’ve tried antidepressants as far as I can take it, and now I’m on medical cannabis as a healthier option than “big pharma” meds. Nothing has helped other than getting stoned out of my mind enough to temporarily forget my depression once the babies are in bed for the night. I’m at a loss as to what I can do and how I can turn this around. I’ve lost almost all motivation and interest in everything. I try every waking moment of everyday to “fake it till you make it” with little success. I don’t know what to do or where to start, or if I should stay, or go. 

I don’t even have the slightest idea why I’m posting here other than as a outcry for help in some way. ",5.7782354876615765,6.5612082834782655,6.046810810810811,79.38935135135138,67.03478260869565,9.277085781433607,30.323149236192712,9.358847034038227,2.584995769682727,2373,85,446,44,37,759,281,575,0.135,0.7290000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.324,5,0,1,0,1,0,56.0,3,1,13,14,30,30,2,0,25,0,38,10,4,7,7,84,75,42,0,8,12,10,6,1,0,2,5,1,4,10,21,34,0,5,7,0,0,6,5,15,0,8,15,7,63,15,90,55,14,85,0,11,0,1,55,31,1,9,43,312,84,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513436097525243,0.0,0.0,0.06109455024065739,0.0,0.06901469947569715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469604097949306,0.0,0.0,0.0468688292029077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184063635981207,0.0,0.0,0.06475380494273088,0.1059924097045994,0.0,0.042013768452703874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191053067603662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882757573060051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226264369237913,0.0,0.0,0.05502802849364369,0.07626007791785093,0.0,0.08889703902851878,0.07105480637011892,0.29680895817885283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053039146224649,0.0,0.0,0.0799267958827844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610437911580207,0.07121409905715917,0.0,0.04552185095188377,0.0623432374476998,0.058069145240645936,0.0,0.18582598891085345,0.0,0.19491852767565476,0.0,0.10454599978253667,0.049237371361741916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724879959033008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201704127689718,0.06611556545011195,0.039169547864082464,0.0,0.05512263827468534,0.15197189408398926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733679769319142,0.12347984658050823,0.0,0.07073311011476106,0.0,0.07767928396805694,0.0,0.092392953286783,0.0,0.2074009696198596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780372834272993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450415775278241,0.0,0.0,0.037877329316435185,0.056180036476668666,0.0,0.0729776768970701,0.0,0.0,0.09736226704342532,0.033671452748851374,0.06907722203774,0.18257624085691204,0.0609931579765037,0.0,0.0,0.15047142257920046,0.0,0.06220413995005829,0.0,0.04600548505891197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655599736207253,0.06943093188663528,0.0,0.0,0.06959083870892033,0.0,0.0,0.07325240613511777,0.1013301320047056,0.1022085015933716,0.053156334771415126,0.06656459515455815,0.0,0.06467794606483876,0.0,0.06613182047463312,0.0,0.0,0.0733989066356331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652891763152718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201505629638796,0.07011771251293188,0.07430878949112228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708625476952469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975200803299803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074669653825708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04878283192319405,0.22038272096604766,0.11008123565049577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821104409959455,0.0,0.0,0.05182022010552721,0.0,0.12048046125024175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736469433660525,0.0,0.06771480100933018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358604081465563,0.07496655402497092,0.3366303464316775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470649866333329,0.055284488112499065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219072906560625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314912084901875
parenting,lilshoppingirl,2019/01/02,"To move or not to move....... I am a mother of 4 and have been a mother for more than half my life. I’m divorced, and have only one child still living at home (50/50 parenting agreement). My youngest (he’s 14) has the most disrespectful mouth to me ever.  I’m at my ropes end with him because his father (that I co-parent with) has not stepped up to help the stop these issues. I’m considering moving 12 hours away to live with my fiancé who I’ve been with for 4 years. I’ve stayed where I’m at because of my son and had planned on staying until after he graduates. But his mouth and disrespect has me wondering if I shouldn’t just do what I want for a change and my son can either choose to come with me or stay with his dad. I’m wondering your thoughts on the issue. Do I continue to wait it out and put my life on hold. Or do I pull the trigger and put my needs first for a change? ",2.9399547511312214,3.5864887379679162,4.217860962566846,90.443171534348,73.38502673796792,7.465076100370219,24.010283833813247,7.61054688173877,0.8259900452488695,682,18,159,8,13,225,108,187,0.029,0.947,0.024,-0.25,2,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,8,0,14,4,2,1,1,37,26,13,0,4,9,7,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,5,15,0,3,4,0,0,8,3,0,0,3,4,0,22,1,31,21,3,31,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,7,10,104,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499488637481775,0.0,0.0,0.16219915473903426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814760686350086,0.11460165444652287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117833411433245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203417449817101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316323724403997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917349882473362,0.0,0.13344935562519689,0.0,0.13101700049046494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777171170624381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793931132001784,0.0,0.0,0.2349524376813003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42419945158306416,0.0,0.09864702201285867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015093380882484,0.10118245114500392,0.0,0.0,0.14772449854028774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26748266552529304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4254068651330524,0.10624542877675232,0.11122688722153408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561841508429096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847007920452714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28855108693591497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567300534771266
parenting,drfitzgerald08,2019/01/02,"6 year old troubles So my 6 yo son (has adhd and autism phenotype) went with his grandma today so i could go out to lunch with some friends.. well after I was done they were at Walmart. So I met them over there. They were in the toy section. He wanted a certain toy but he didn’t have that much money. He moved on to get some cars and something else. We had to go so I told him he didn’t want to leave and started throwing a fit. I finally got him to the front and he hid under the clothes from me. I gave him a final warning if you don’t come out so we can go I’ll put your toys back and you won’t get anything. Well he didn’t come. I put his toys back and he started climbing stuff and running all over Walmart. He threw his coat down and his glasses. I finally caught him and had to put him in a restraint hold.  A nice guy asked if I needed help catching him. I said no thank you.  It was very nice of him. Then after I was holding him a nice lady stopped and tried to help calm him. It didn’t work either.  He was head butting, screaming, fighting.  A friend of mine showed up and she tried also.  Nothing.... he finally was crying and said I just want to get out of here. I told him when I let you go out your coat on and let’s go to the car.  He did.... I got to the car and was crying... he was crying..... after I thought he was calm I asked him why he said because I wanted the toys.  All of that for some toys!! No on my watch.... 
I just want to say thank you to the people who stopped to help!! That made it a little easier to handle. People staring at us while this is happening and  talking about what they were seeing...  it’s hard being a parent of a 6 year old boy and is harder when they have special needs.  Sometimes we have days like this and we pray for them to be over quickly!! Other days are great and we pray for them not to end!!!",-0.11798005565862725,1.9226414923469408,1.641178107606681,99.16421150278296,86.88265306122446,4.1758812615955465,18.60296846011132,5.238671369647483,-0.6097622448979592,1403,38,333,6,44,457,180,392,0.073,0.75,0.177,0.9927,2,0,1,0,2,0,62.0,6,7,7,2,18,18,1,0,17,0,34,2,1,1,3,59,73,32,0,10,8,2,1,1,2,1,0,5,0,2,13,31,1,4,1,7,1,22,9,3,2,0,33,9,59,15,48,34,8,68,2,0,3,0,72,20,0,5,27,223,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940473460495547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614541127381428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806560224518866,0.0,0.15465064024936406,0.0,0.0,0.12720210412759292,0.0,0.05042096659947444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249953892520628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660394553713111,0.0,0.2725684425177259,0.10668585087041044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464393086207245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909594659141957,0.0,0.07325900695027446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624313998950498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127807437181792,0.0,0.12964210185893404,0.0,0.23503800507620426,0.0,0.13230599423384745,0.09119117467757824,0.0,0.08189869465675358,0.07314267246039555,0.0,0.07409443914978482,0.0,0.08488721468982606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663219766971372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758093227168251,0.0,0.16915892228064838,0.0,0.04040930525708068,0.08289997382810865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826486901680338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879106364197666,0.06080343884268714,0.12266101411072207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936518037099151,0.0,0.17358637897602586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184279682354536,0.0,0.0,0.11468530801702273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494476848431478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23603649503831184,0.06577655332219716,0.0,0.0,0.06591140768175398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367636885911299,0.08180509270845954,0.0,0.11708911766846496,0.0,0.0,0.13830324022547671,0.0,0.0,0.09468638860418968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648143060813291,0.0,0.1523017013810168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566473897872756,0.0,0.0,0.07840208082222416,0.15807128579779287,0.0,0.11231314904314713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949333679963812,0.0,0.0,0.06824673785873446,0.2439308175801123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873751493909654,0.07667561164871775,0.0746354537690154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06021591715742725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065286868618693
parenting,enlzen,2019/01/02,"Where do you test your child for giftedness? He is 6, terribly bored at school and way ahead of his peers in reading and math (I know..I know..every parent thinks that). After a lot of deliberation (I know there are pitfalls associated with the ""gifted"" tag), we decided to get him assessed. 

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So where should we do it? We are in North NJ. 

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Are there standard reputable organizations who do this? 

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Do other educational institutes recognize these assessments?

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Any insights and links are welcome.",4.666333333333334,8.150851744444449,4.90388888888889,73.2625,81.55555555555556,7.444444444444445,30.83333333333333,8.344100000000001,3.2300000000000004,427,21,64,10,12,134,69,90,0.071,0.897,0.032,-0.5661,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,3,2,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,15,13,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,10,12,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,2,46,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4997280556698586,0.5604287214997227,0.07841078571745178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971487315065552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024166687758156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19010445981416355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098027477228408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803162920105365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533536731085653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669397013437816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388225274791503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915230787070006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5604287214997227,0.0
parenting,StopLickingTheCat,2019/01/02,"2 yr and 4 mo old - What to do all day? I'm a stay at home dad, and have a 2yr 4mo old boy, and a 4 month old now and the wife has just started going back to work last month. 

I'm really struggling trying to make good days for the kids. The 2 yr old is super active, he likes to run around outside and do physical things. He can sometimes get into drawing or painting or playing with something in one area for a short time but usually loses interest in under 20 minutes, even if you sit with him to play. 

The new baby has normal new baby needs, generally a good sport. He can be placed on his back, on boppy, or in a jumper for a while while we play nearby. I try to share attention between the two but the 2yr is still jealous and usually wants me to put the baby down so i can focus on him. 

It's too cold outside right now to be taking baby out so the older one can play. Getting him back inside is a chore if you only go out a short time. I arranged some time with grandparents to get him run a few times a week. 

I'm just finding it hard to keep the older one entertained and work on learning stuff and potty training, with the new baby needing things too. Sometimes it's very frustrating and i have to resort to TV more than I'd like (probably somewhere at 2 hrs or less a day, working on trying to reduce that). 

I just can't think of enough things to fill the day that keeps him engaged. Cleaning up and doing the basics like washing dishes is already difficult for me to work into the day, even though i try to get the older one involved every time. It's a matter of just hoping the baby can stay happy while we work. I'm afraid of just leaving baby in the jumper all day. He won't nap longer than 20 or 30 mins if you lay him down. He only sleeps a long time if you hold him. 

I'm sure I'm missing some details but, anyone else in a similar situation or been though this?",4.623172917358119,4.326307631043259,5.786381236862487,84.01082309990043,69.38167938931298,8.2597189954641,27.773979422502485,7.586124646067393,1.4613284434118818,1461,42,312,14,23,490,192,393,0.051,0.8079999999999999,0.14,0.9874,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,4,0,7,20,24,2,2,31,0,21,3,1,1,3,59,44,30,0,9,18,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,3,2,12,21,1,3,4,8,0,6,2,7,0,5,1,2,22,17,51,40,8,75,0,2,0,0,25,26,0,13,43,195,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681942496315956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055011139689871716,0.08061146913327072,0.0,0.07003711229821227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148783260473506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30443181701838995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572256894991123,0.0,0.0,0.08129193731767058,0.0,0.10392771945888593,0.0,0.06628677997041567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190719842688438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644170152482487,0.0,0.0894252253945599,0.1319771157769638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375062046472499,0.07047702688874455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891708170704237,0.078141672400868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985927523022165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413033464202303,0.0,0.08330508725728858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530936973832395,0.0,0.0,0.06962458334343362,0.0,0.08801680136703167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052515935147565834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255946989487051,0.0,0.0,0.11667250186220135,0.0,0.2279533815012073,0.0,0.0,0.07708444597045729,0.0,0.0,0.33022321348251144,0.0,0.2132478969576651,0.11967122249365775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219825693222219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482457178340183,0.0,0.0,0.0790897463370419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504009909105554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718771528489452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843359511486484,0.07873146092592627,0.0,0.0,0.060567583907197374,0.1556224673432078,0.0,0.055686317279612915,0.1677134029717916,0.06282967155962499,0.0,0.0,0.08224781900139999,0.09006364353693838,0.0,0.0,0.0741499199886923,0.0,0.059153540385664935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680381089578216,0.0504115345169404,0.15459487466690394,0.0,0.2752549022467549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21365967313881587,0.0,0.07685369437696651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329800847660248,0.06491481998285828,0.04640434285448517,0.0,0.06310805306507596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863803857166209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kaitlyn85,2019/01/02,"Bundling up Hi guys/girls, I am new to this forum.

My first post is regarding my 5yr little sister Leah and her school friends that come to ours in the morning to walk to school with her.

When it's raining heavily which it can do a lot in Ireland, and especially now during the winter, I make sure that Leah is suitably dressed for the outdoor conditions, otherwise we do not go out the front door. My parents work so I'm responsible for my sister so before she goes out, I lay out all the gear on the fly then explain that our parents want her to stay warm. So, for going out in these conditions, she wears her waterproof jacket which we advise be fully zipped up plus she has to wear her hat or put the jacket hood up abd and also wear her gloves.

The issue I have with her friends is that, all they are provided with is their jackets which, again, we advise get fully fastened up with the hood up. On the way to school, the poor kids then complain that their hands are frozen which is so unfair on the kids.

So, during heavy rain and during the winter, how much do you bundle your kids/siblings?",6.343141321044548,5.946956612903229,6.1445276497695875,83.21774385560677,65.82027649769586,8.892319508448539,29.60407066052227,8.07648339933343,1.808210752688172,863,25,175,9,12,270,124,217,0.043,0.893,0.064,0.3994,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,2,3,2,10,5,0,0,14,0,15,4,4,2,3,27,23,16,0,1,2,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,13,17,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,1,0,1,0,2,28,4,30,22,4,34,0,0,0,0,33,16,0,2,9,123,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333626030430324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525180135148041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439733922035925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524594283775818,0.0,0.0,0.2769570818583381,0.0,0.09364425891679652,0.0,0.203729740450455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870775083373609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17964318308728688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238141529502675,0.0,0.0,0.11964250344262907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176027436392135,0.0,0.0,0.173108810715467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980443322993283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716600945212707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018331429912268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5441941227572152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19104345505839934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689293360689397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571899241859012,0.14227048027600633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304871223857104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shea155,2019/01/02,"Hating motherhood. So I have never wanted children in my life. I’ve always thought they were gross & very annoying. I’ve always hated being around them. Last February I found out I was pregnant and I couldn’t go through with an abortion so I had my son in September he was 8 weeks early, he is 3 months old now and I don’t know what to do I feel so bad bc I can’t stand crying from babies or children it makes me so mad to the point I grind my teeth. I feel like I have anger problems when it comes to kids & ive always been like that I’ve never been able to handle kids younger than me or especially babies. I still don’t want to hold anyone else’s kids or babies I still think they are disgusting honestly but I have one & it’s making it very hard on me I feel like I ruined my life but I don’t want to resent my son for something that’s not his fault. Of course I love my baby, & I hold him play with him and take care of him but he cries for NO REASON all the f-ing time. My man has him spoiled & I can’t handle it especially when I haven’t felt great lately.  I feel like I need to take anger management I shouldn’t be this angry at my baby for crying but I hate it I’ve literally chipped a tooth this week from grinding my teeth together he’s driving me crazy. Advice/help please PLEASE no judgement I’m a young mom who feels like she ruined her life by having this baby so don’t make me feel like I failed as a mom too.",0.5580245176848884,2.5378407620578827,2.428608319935691,94.9608224477492,83.50160771704182,5.302290996784567,17.757335209003216,6.4784943948869325,-0.2672918810289389,1131,25,261,11,32,375,162,311,0.211,0.643,0.146,-0.97,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,3,1,12,27,9,0,6,0,26,7,3,4,3,43,54,18,0,7,8,4,8,6,0,1,3,0,0,6,13,8,0,2,12,1,0,3,14,16,0,1,9,8,51,11,26,41,1,27,0,3,0,1,26,7,0,3,22,149,64,2,0.08384223564702319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092903695593549,0.4542151364731678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05862444059347643,0.08590627843739021,0.0,0.07463736531205026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000476467274178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548274703422945,0.0,0.0,0.07222266211101168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762902767905069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003942948239096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543589211226734,0.2994845494935209,0.0805016944394581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192868384538187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047649474663281975,0.0,0.0,0.09243636078993643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510617484634192,0.2483305493693273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561976832357226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04607750004771581,0.06834261232644913,0.09457769372057584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776607516409251,0.2457664878133829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567089109086862,0.0,0.16789603002005246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963900261383661,0.0669220725918675,0.0,0.0,0.0621679553711573,0.1293286016817193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797832252944876,0.0,0.05681366872853625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406719477919836,0.07925801289193504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802256963729466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862037821497681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454584916210397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339130353822873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260778538231848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05372271920151615,0.0,0.06656136983513476,0.048889081847177884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835725015607891,0.14835696858610686,0.0,0.13450636830069754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HotTamaleMom,2019/01/02,"My daughter was disciplined at school for a bogus reason and the more time passed, I think I sh ok uhd have done something. This happened at Halloween.

My daughters school said that she was able to wear her Halloween costume to school. Before this the school sent home a letter, asking parents to prohibit costumes that were ""insensitive"". (No indians).

My daughter chose to be a knight. I made costumes for myself in my 20s, so we looked online and made a costume. It was made to resemble the costume a character from an anime wore(saber, from fate stay night). The difference was she wanted the costume to be white with red instead of blue. 

It turned out to look just like the source material, except it was a white dress with red accents. The armor pieces were still silver, and it had a large red cross on the breastplate. My daughter and I Spent a month making the entire costume from scratch. The armor and props were made from foam, and the dress we measured and sewed ourselves.

In the end we were especially proud of the work. We even made a sword and shield.(the shield is a functional backpack).

When she got home from school on Halloween,  she was in tears. My daughter got into trouble in class. Her teach sent her to the principles office, and told her that she had to wear a Tshirt to cover her costume because it was ""offensive"" to were a crusader costume. He said her costume was just as offensive as coming to school dressed as a Nazi. He also called her a lier in front of the whole class and refused to believe her costume was homemade. 

He also sent home a letter. It basically said that my daughter wore a grossly inappropriate costume to school. The letter said that the school strived to be all inclusive and prohibited costumes that were insensitive to other races and cultures.

The next day, in went to the school and met with him. He basically said the same things to me that were in his letter. I tried to explain to him that her wearing a knight costume,(a fantasy knight btw) that bore zero historical accuracy couldn't be offensive. His only response was that it wasnt for me to say whether it was offensive or not. If he found it to be offensive others could have also.

I also told him that we did in fact make every part of her costume ourselves, and that I didnt appreciate him calling my daughter a lier in front of her class. He didnt seem to believe me, so I showed him pictures of the design and build processes. I also let him know that I had been building costumes like this for years. When I was younger i designed and modeled video game, movie, and anime costumes at conventions for a living. He asked if i had a website, and it was wierd.

In the end, he asked that I be careful in the future, and i sarcastically said that i would. The whole thing didnt sit well with me. As time goes on, more and more i feel like i didnt say or do enough. Also when i told him about my modeling and costume design background, it got borderline creepy.

**TL;DR My Daughter got into trouble for a costume she wore to school for Halloween. And I feel more and more like I didn't defend her enough.**",4.495524367452557,6.352895758445951,4.789907993099483,83.15572455434159,71.14527027027026,7.200460034502587,29.487636572742964,7.8428983058341695,1.9600963484761365,2467,100,454,32,47,776,233,592,0.058,0.912,0.03,-0.9228,6,0,1,0,0,0,77.0,5,0,0,2,18,16,5,0,46,1,47,3,3,8,2,69,92,43,0,6,9,9,3,4,0,1,0,8,3,0,33,36,0,2,8,4,1,9,9,8,1,1,60,19,68,8,72,22,13,46,1,0,8,0,77,20,0,5,19,327,101,15,0.05951803743307703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28557931819174226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669239919663705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036281643192752816,0.0,0.050645466144955464,0.1341128935386574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154914146937475,0.0,0.06068260583228095,0.0,0.0,0.051269519161399976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04752030986352825,0.0,0.0,0.0383842103399483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621836813490412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090761651526455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054306305525274,0.1229960856852831,0.0,0.03931110239656757,0.0,0.05014651352927297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060188216086187935,0.08503939566891285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525845600441361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904080464456983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05263160394073287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791043330485732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0327095568420703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086122574573038,0.0,0.11631002687042605,0.0,0.05255551747440127,0.0,0.09996032288603418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815870305255902,0.07945750430342761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750672964388309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632981080274905,0.055853646268514384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045266149453338816,0.0,0.0,0.06608773708457819,0.06445223454961516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061194455196339675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396916985537229,0.09466226449176852,0.0,0.6023543139864174,0.0,0.054182985937917816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04581989300420384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343830877679467,0.0475311815766385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790822788298189,0.03813675515409578,0.0,0.0,0.06941089251721096,0.0,0.0,0.17061610607029568,0.0,0.04040884055047455,0.06473853369249905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035105280537205574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053513863481281336,0.055173816986163374,0.0,0.13289952656475434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0433298401076847,0.0,0.0,0.04227990613654017,0.0,0.0,0.03832766473139295
parenting,idylada,2019/01/02,"15 month old temper tantrums. I love my daughter, I really do, but lately she has been such hard work. She was always such a happy sweet girl, the past few weeks she has been demonic. Everything is nononono, she has tantrums all the time and now she's refusing to eat anything but cheese and oranges. I couldn't even drink my coffee this morning without her having a tantrum because I wouldn't let her taste it. 
Is this normal 15 month old behaviour? I feel like I'm doing something wrong and I'm failing as a parent. She's in daycare 3 days a week, and I hear nothing but positive things from the staff when I pick her up. 
Someone please tell me that it's normal, and it'll pass or something. I'm so exhausted, I have a 1 month old  to care for as well. ",2.709713423831076,4.474470529411768,3.5764705882352965,90.38334841628959,75.73202614379085,6.5377576671694335,26.148315736551037,7.321109707123232,1.1928807440925089,593,22,124,7,13,189,100,153,0.171,0.664,0.165,-0.0258,1,0,3,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,7,13,4,0,8,0,16,5,0,1,1,18,23,13,0,4,5,2,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,7,5,3,1,1,1,0,1,3,7,1,0,3,5,20,6,9,16,2,17,1,1,0,1,16,2,0,1,15,77,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932564323784042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801127823873465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741923265443713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621241957391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248528783930736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048371239265986,0.0,0.14674058601988876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471859882560067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888445824710976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251060318768847,0.10244958690650434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265881831134842,0.1284639992304826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162947642457032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617687067434594,0.0,0.0,0.14664279742883773,0.0,0.07006114114658257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294299079237523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34339694836806184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28101571944750925,0.13760234353748765,0.0,0.4514427947174064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592358767520216,0.0,0.13689767043841186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741720315838792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918698353687673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150780829506926,0.22080256208109167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534354641628148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527286422969844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836214463809929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23006398647284335,0.0,0.12893960885548778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823868733824193,0.0,0.10440159375168176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679242601912835,0.0,0.0
parenting,ggw1980,2019/01/02,"How would you like to know that a kid has autism? Hi. \*Disclaimer: English is not my 1rst language. Sorry in advance for any mistake\*

I need to ask you parents something.

Yesterday we were driving back home (Hubby (40m), Me (37f), Son1 (5yo with mild autism) and Son2 (3 yo)), and we stoped at a mall to grab something to eat. The four of us were hungry and tired.

Son1 was hungry and for him, feeling that is like feeling pain... hes not verbal so, he started crying. He estimulates himself with repetitive behaviors and noises... so his crying escalated and in no time he was screaming... the food court was a big room so the echo was insane... at this point my hubby was ordering the food and I was sitting in a super close table with my two boys. I tried with so many things to calm him down, with no sucess at all. 

When I was trying to calm him down, a Dad and his 12ish year old daugther walked by and stoped right in from of us and stared at us for about a minute. I saw them and I stared back for a few seconds and the guy said to his daugther: ""Lets go darling, there are people here who do not educate their children and dont respect our right to be here by letting them cry this loud"" and he walked away.

Ten seconds later my husband came with all the food and the crying stoped but I was nervous af. The whole thing lasted no more than 5 minutes. He was the only one who complained and made sure he let me know about it. I felt disrespected cause that was not the case at all. 

Im not justifying my sons behavior... we have been working with a behavioral therapist to stop this crazy loud crying. In fact it was the first time in like months that this happened again. **My question is: How would you like to know that a child has autism?** My son doesnt look different from normal children his age, in fact, the talking is the only thing that makes you wonder if he has something, and because of that, the staring and harsh comments of other parents makes me nervous and I ended up feeling sad and lonely. We, parents of autistic children, dont know whats exactly happening to them, I wish I had all the answers - but autism is all about the highs and the lows and this particular behaviour we tought it was controlled :(

So if parents here share with me, how would you like to know that a kid has autism, I will appreciate it greatly. I would like to be sure parents around me know to somehow understand what happens with us in our crazy family dinamics. 

Thank you all in advance! ",2.8648877665544354,4.9552270020576135,3.504147025813697,89.61275252525253,76.3045267489712,6.146576879910214,25.448746726524504,7.075746649084167,1.0519440329218113,1937,70,390,21,44,609,227,486,0.126,0.7829999999999999,0.091,-0.9608,6,2,3,0,0,0,80.0,11,6,4,6,21,24,0,2,27,0,42,6,0,8,11,91,70,35,0,10,9,9,5,6,0,5,2,4,2,8,25,39,4,2,14,1,0,7,11,9,0,7,21,14,55,15,59,39,9,54,0,3,5,0,64,27,0,5,24,274,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04602459829657778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06024938856745194,0.06327149539881521,0.0,0.06358741857539828,0.10408320758389752,0.0,0.04125698996212957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740768372914411,0.0,0.06952581818790568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590867282549113,0.0,0.0,0.3717155201947386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707110067643825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864048947992798,0.0,0.0,0.06925335192990023,0.0,0.0,0.0599442318984531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380251074756123,0.0,0.10266285130943376,0.04835047678048263,0.06498324061069356,0.0,0.0,0.057568420138454326,0.24551612020992705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03846400126827,0.0,0.0,0.07461724024836258,0.0,0.06701366219743231,0.17954712337069662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150744548726072,0.0678883775237877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310581928773792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22317035385573064,0.05516808623342677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076216035476632,0.0,0.19838964785558688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683400302475985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404028191413727,0.09035361050342916,0.06861671449850318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402138645260672,0.0,0.0,0.05018372880582027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631185360706802,0.0,0.0,0.07101858589766669,0.0,0.045861597456675375,0.10294710543836087,0.07201610003781822,0.0,0.3757521525462399,0.0,0.0,0.046920665357805376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397930575182485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758168874183227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559639260747387,0.06437900714232761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563096954317017,0.0,0.07576201722556818,0.04790412479292712,0.0,0.0,0.05658335984550486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757485838713625,0.0,0.0,0.05439847548056215,0.0,0.062310484991350425,0.0,0.07858148719693317,0.13489039484225535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892929437156919,0.0777879967440122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190031003365537,0.0,0.06611334967161751,0.07045707925761382,0.3256419600400309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556210180895373,0.07782845265664089,0.0,0.07339587753358168,0.049271714869311874,0.0,0.0,0.1923112085974592,0.0,0.0,0.043583584974199965
parenting,MovieDinosaur,2019/01/02,"What did your bedtime routine look like at six months old? I have a five month old son who will be six months is just a few days.
My partner and I discussed sleep training and
I think we will be starting soon as he approaches six months. 
Most days he goes to bed super late (Even though we start putting him in pjs and bouncing and starting all the bedtime things sooner.) But it is impossible for him to go down without me beside him. I feel like I’m a human pacifier all night and I’m awake most of the night because I really worry about him in our bed.

We have a pack n play in our bedroom he used to sleep most of the night in but somehow he wormed his way in our bed. We also have a crib set up in his own room which he’s been able to nap in a few times.

I think tonight I’m going to bath him, read to him, feed him, and lay him down. I’ll come in every ten minutes to soothe and let him know I’m still there and make sure he isn’t crying because of a need that’s not met.
Should I lay him down in his pack n play to start or his own room? What does your bedtime routine look like? Ideally I want this little guy asleep around 8pm.
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parenting,atomicblonde629,2019/01/02,"I’m not the “fun” parent This is really just me ranting so bear with me. 

Background: I have a 3.5 year old who is my absolute world. His father and I separated before he was born and have always been great at co-parenting. When my son was about to turn one, I started dating a guy I had dated many years before. We became serious and a few months ago got engaged. My fiancé and my child’s father get along and we’ve never had any issues with that. My son’s father is only able to see him some weekends due to his work. Therefore that makes him the “fun dad” because any time he has our son, he’s taking him to do things like the zoo, Chuck E. Cheese, etc. 

The last couple of times I’ve gotten on to my son for bad behavior, he starts to cry and says “I want to go to my daddy’s!” Of course this is absolutely heartbreaking to me. He only ever does it when he’s getting in trouble and he quickly changes his mind within a matter of minutes. I just can’t believe this type of thing is already starting at 3 years old. It makes me nervous for the future and all the things we will go through with co-parenting. Don’t get me wrong, his father is a good dad for the most part. But he would never be able to care for him 24/7 and provide for him like my fiancé and I do.  He’s basically a man child who has never shown any signs of growing up and relies on his grandparents for everything including caring for our son. I know lots of parents go through this, but man does it sting! ",2.9594511760513167,4.137954065573773,4.322066999287241,87.69456165359944,73.91803278688525,7.009265858873843,24.080541696364932,7.423996415210882,0.9435616535994296,1150,33,245,13,23,381,162,305,0.057,0.8809999999999999,0.062,-0.1858,5,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,0,1,8,15,0,1,13,0,22,0,0,3,5,39,43,16,0,2,5,13,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,5,14,17,0,0,1,1,0,4,6,6,0,1,7,2,35,9,37,33,7,38,0,1,1,0,44,8,0,3,28,153,49,2,0.21686763298301265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961200357976136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196594128760354,0.0,0.09022562177286274,0.0,0.0,0.2212161407046926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905377074868671,0.06610024808692481,0.0,0.18453838261262648,0.12216777899865534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211110052962572,0.0,0.11470860003704313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997995550369996,0.11910945575615747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18978232706862336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209323685729346,0.0,0.098084594969719,0.0,0.0,0.09745332240971627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699565810282431,0.0,0.1848763103112141,0.09094914066549767,0.08672442866590857,0.1195486654868859,0.0,0.1073665262669348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317673242716922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959238975444455,0.08838803290927581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595057106823293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092186553151106,0.0,0.0,0.1447608290209295,0.1099348705619104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948724365002216,0.0,0.08655083780456742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508925320329869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22756609975315026,0.0,0.07347756034387261,0.1649376073133963,0.0,0.0,0.24080584187359302,0.11742325646202308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694654794510168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623092308875709,0.0,0.0,0.08640771277018303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302500402554363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152873524664636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161158284160023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264572607957011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179448547885145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395707439000144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894110984633805,0.0,0.0,0.07702827211738407,0.11855535610777458,0.0,0.20948346803462367
parenting,SabrineCrystal,2019/01/02,"What is your opinion about giving a feminine name for a baby boy? What would be the consequences of a son having a name that is considered feminine?  

f I was about to have a son, I\`d give any of thes ebeautiful names:

\-Karen;

\-Karine;

\-Sabrine or Sabrina;

\-Crystal;

\-Kendra;

\-Elize/Eliza;

\-Yasmine or Yasmina(Flower name);

\-Sakura(Flower name).

These names are very beautiful, cute and soft but how would be the boy\`s life if he had one of these names? What about in adulthood? How would be people\`s reaction on metting a person with an unusual name for their gender?",5.7915555555555525,8.583655400000001,4.673333333333332,81.34722222222223,70.0,8.844444444444445,33.111111111111114,9.444778638647367,3.4467777777777786,460,22,77,11,9,135,71,100,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.7503,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,1,1,0,5,1,0,0,9,0,13,1,0,2,0,20,16,7,0,4,4,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,3,1,12,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,4,0,51,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042380969476225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5762173920618913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213549040629492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035147667595346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622409349988045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24780782622529324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6400480947037862,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kaos424,2019/01/02,"3yo Tantrums/behavior Hey all,

I'm looking for some feedback from folks with kids on temper tantrums with a 3 year old. My daughter is roughly 3 and a half. Her temper tantrums feel extremely intense to me and often. I'd say roughly on a 2 to 3 time basis per day she has a fit about seemingly anything she can find to have a tantrum about.

Once she has a tantrum it usually involves her telling me she is mad or grumpy, she will be defiant and refuse to do anything you ask of her. If you put her in a timeout she will typically get up from her timeout several times needing to be put back. She recently bit me when she was upset. I've seen her bite herself when upset. She will throw things. Scream as loud and long as she can. Earlier today she was throwing a tantrum due to being hungry and then declined what was offered to her. She was upset enough that she ran away in the store parking lot which was pretty scary obviously. She seems to have very little concern or understanding of hurting herself while she's in a tantrum. 

A tantrum looking a lot like described above will happen because she doesn't want to eat what you're offering her or she doesn't want to take a bath etc. She has been doing this a lot lately where she's hungry and you offer her something but no matter what you offer she ""doesn't like that."" Things we know for sure she likes. She's also started recently with lying about things. Often times when you call her on behavior she will cover her face and run to her room and cry or tantrum. A key phrase for her is ""don't look at me"" which we think she picked up at daycare.

I'm really just trying to get a gauge from people on how this compared to what you all experience or have experienced.

Thanks guys.",3.4888012422360246,5.215055228985508,4.127820910973085,87.41396739130438,73.52173913043478,6.899585921325053,27.68374741200828,7.5804360353943165,1.5151138716356107,1374,53,276,17,28,436,178,345,0.14400000000000002,0.795,0.062,-0.9629,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,2,6,0,0,13,21,11,3,16,0,31,2,1,2,4,45,54,24,0,4,8,1,3,3,0,5,0,3,2,2,14,13,1,1,7,1,1,6,5,16,0,1,8,11,52,5,41,38,9,42,0,1,4,0,61,16,0,14,23,191,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933962104791392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922149758012814,0.0,0.10918205412369447,0.0,0.10972721496029557,0.08980361798123095,0.0,0.07119355853110278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750346192636586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192547409117036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828735527334845,0.07531931536257218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195044177634407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067437214476592,0.13025073141904234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424216137409175,0.0,0.0,0.05905208402565688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674313233481224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203498120277892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563958219966525,0.10327622582675214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250251596281545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418424152375547,0.0,0.131743205040095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117178227903065,0.11705337158331787,0.0,0.10335468876792832,0.2942203193650964,0.0,0.0,0.2978697791987009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659764654003221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255052674813953,0.1243765924393434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096686497331612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881651310274663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348106293743528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481809554910494,0.0,0.23063031663769665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287538924267386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21264084210670994,0.0,0.1319384535889608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990996403203827,0.0,0.0,0.0826639344134661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100723556907412,0.0,0.08781087745867393,0.0,0.10207883136607007,0.10752372299591116,0.0,0.0,0.2327684891530069,0.07483374707768987,0.0,0.0,0.2043020107799535,0.0,0.11070242215537864,0.0,0.0,0.07929214064590255,0.0,0.0,0.12158158413063636,0.0,0.0,0.12862670676140053,0.0963632483466369,0.137770488034321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520835889152773
parenting,imspeaking,2019/01/02,"When should I tell my child they might have a different dad? I became pregnant pretty young and at the time thought I knew who my childs father was. We continued a relationship and eventually married, everything was fine. However as I got older and started to understand conception I realized there is a chance my husband is not the father. Going by the timeline it is still likely that my husband is my childs father, but my child looks a lot like the other man and it haunts me daily. 

I finally got the balls to tell my husband about this a few years ago (we were not together when I got pregnant so I did not cheat on him). He told me that he doesn't care our child is his and he doesn't want to do DNA. We've really never talked about it since and things have continued as normal. I think my husband kind of wrote me off because I have a lot of anxiety and tend to be paranoid and worry a lot. 

However, my child really looks like the other man. I really think there is a chance this other man could be my childs father, and it's possible by the conception dates. My child is about to turn 10. I am heartbroken that I may be the cause of any pain my child could go through because of this. I have guilt and anxiety daily. I don't want to blow up my their childhood, but I'm scared of the lasting effects this could have finding this out as a teenager, adult etc. 

No one on either side of our family has any idea. What do I do? ",4.080882352941174,4.979290193771629,5.15276643598616,83.8568313148789,70.93771626297578,8.824982698961938,27.252768166089965,9.120678840339163,2.049517508650519,1122,37,232,22,20,370,141,289,0.133,0.8079999999999999,0.06,-0.9702,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,2,1,9,10,1,2,18,0,33,1,0,2,1,43,54,18,0,7,6,9,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,13,18,13,0,0,9,1,0,2,8,4,0,1,11,2,40,6,27,34,6,25,0,0,2,0,40,7,0,5,19,166,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067684321529918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638153122047426,0.0,0.1842822737440714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684596805653655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280309287941067,0.12373159173872475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884998565466128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584081206723202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432953163132852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824942329082812,0.0,0.11354611017143135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194310165264925,0.11008579234204556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690488585695668,0.0,0.2889958748304875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596928135305936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254263507177601,0.0,0.09817986038499496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653202474593044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022892169389906,0.0,0.0,0.3071975680363739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777455557182818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289565927218596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801186108695227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161757172937815,0.0,0.1281634207369103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578517519395175,0.0,0.12253725089505454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23148307014857786,0.0,0.0,0.129314316459557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058781990009936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963447489194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525255460439089,0.0,0.09618861988156437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681022294737696,0.21055085768021825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001921060456099,0.1543543300777771,0.0,0.09562095704261593,0.07023324199518355,0.0,0.0,0.11509166002958135,0.0,0.0,0.13101105426965132,0.0,0.12538891009156855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208476934175787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231912670973152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756350781752913
parenting,feistypenguin,2019/01/02,"On ""The Relentlessness of Modern Parenting"", AKA Intensive Parenting My wife linked me to an interesting article, which discusses how parenting standards have increased dramatically over the past 40-50 years.

[https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/25/upshot/the-relentlessness-of-modern-parenting.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/25/upshot/the-relentlessness-of-modern-parenting.html)

(If you have hit the NY Times article limit, try turning on ""private mode"" in your browser first).

The author refers to what they call *intensive parenting*, which is essentially an evolved form of helicopter parenting: 

>Intensive parenting was first described in the 1990s and 2000s by social scientists including [Sharon Hays](http://demeterpress.org/books/intensive-mothering-the-cultural-contradictions-of-modern-motherhood/) and [Annette Lareau](https://www.ucpress.edu/book/9780520271425/unequal-childhoods). It [grew from](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1057/9781137304612_2) a major shift in how people saw children. They began to be considered [vulnerable](https://www.press.uchicago.edu/ucp/books/book/chicago/T/bo3774502.html) and [moldable](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1057/9781137304612_8) — shaped by their early childhood experiences — an idea bolstered by advances in child development research.   
>  
>The result was a parenting style that was “child-centered, expert-guided, emotionally absorbing, labor intensive and financially expensive,” Ms.  Hays wrote in [her 1998 book](https://yalebooks.yale.edu/book/9780300076523/cultural-contradictions-motherhood), “The Cultural Contradictions of Motherhood.” And mothers were the ones expected to be doing the constant cultivation. 

The author goes on to note the various advice and recommendations that seem to pull parents in different directions at once:

>The new trappings of intensive parenting are largely fixtures of  white, upper-middle-class American culture, but researchers say the  expectations have permeated all corners of society, whether or not  parents can achieve them. It starts [in utero](https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1057/9781137304612_6), when mothers are [told to avoid](https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/310896/expecting-better-by-emily-oster/9780143125709/)  cold cuts and coffee, lest they harm the baby. Then: video baby  monitors. Homemade baby food. Sugar-free birthday cake. Toddler music classes. Breast-feeding exclusively. Spraying children’s hands with  sanitizer and covering them in “natural” sunscreen. Throwing  Pinterest-perfect birthday parties. [Eating lunch](https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2018/12/should-parents-eat-lunch-their-children-school/577117/) in their children’s school cafeterias. [Calling employers](http://ceri.msu.edu/publications/pdf/ceri2-07.pdf) after their adult children interview for jobs.   
>  
>The American Academy of Pediatrics promotes the idea that parents should be constantly monitoring and teaching children, even when the science [doesn’t give a clear answer](https://www.nytimes.com/2016/11/06/upshot/should-your-baby-really-sleep-in-the-same-room-as-you.html?module=inline) about what’s best. It now recommends that babies sleep in parents’ rooms for [a year](https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/american-academy-of-pediatrics-announces-new-safe-sleep-recommendations-to-protect-against-sids.aspx). Children’s television — instead of giving parents the chance to cook dinner or have an adult conversation — is to be “[co-viewed](https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/Pages/American-Academy-of-Pediatrics-Announces-New-Recommendations-for-Childrens-Media-Use.aspx)” for maximum learning. 

As for some of the potential consequences:

> Psychologists and others have [raised alarms](https://slate.com/human-interest/2015/07/helicopter-parenting-is-increasingly-correlated-with-college-age-depression-and-anxiety.html) about children’s high levels of stress and dependence on their parents, and the need to develop independence, self-reliance [and grit](https://angeladuckworth.com/grit-book/). [Research has shown](https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10826-013-9716-3#page-1)  that children with hyper-involved parents have more anxiety and less  satisfaction with life, and that when children play unsupervised, they build social skills, emotional maturity and [executive function](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2014.00593/full).   
>  
> Parents, particularly mothers, [feel stress](https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/05/upshot/stressed-tired-rushed-a-portrait-of-the-modern-family.html?module=inline), [exhaustion](http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2015/12/17/parenting-in-america/st_2015-12-17_parenting-28/) [and guilt](https://caitlyncollins.com/current-research/) at the [demands](http://time.com/4989068/motherhood-is-hard-to-get-wrong/) of parenting this way, especially while holding a job. American time use [diaries show](https://academic.oup.com/sf/article-abstract/84/1/285/2234895?redirectedFrom=fulltext)  that the time women spend parenting comes at the expense of sleep, time  alone with their partners and friends, leisure time and housework. 

As well-meaning as the American Academy of Pediatrics is, I feel like some of the ""expert guidance"" of recent years was developed in a vacuum, with little consideration for what it demands of parents. When talking to neighbors with similar-aged kids, I will usually hear at least one anecdote about them giving up on some expert-recommended strategy, after it burned them out.

It's easy to say you want to avoid ""helicopter parenting""... but the more common it becomes, the harder it is to tell when you are doing it. At our park, every kid under the age of 4 has a parent attached to them with an invisible bungie cord. That *can't* be healthy for the kid after 2 years... or could it? When all of your peers start talking about preschool for their toddlers, will your kid lose out on important social development if you keep them home?

Has anyone else felt the pressure this article is referring to? Is it just a middle-class suburb phenomenon, or is it really spreading everywhere?",18.2896046511628,20.45555466790124,12.18070915877118,41.28412144702844,40.5925925925926,15.238587424633938,52.04708584553546,14.010205150779749,8.326383864484638,5211,269,491,156,43,1402,453,810,0.044,0.871,0.085,0.9796,32,3,0,0,0,0,562.0,1,7,16,9,16,11,1,3,40,0,38,11,3,6,3,75,59,41,0,8,11,25,4,1,3,3,3,3,4,18,28,29,5,4,11,3,3,6,3,6,0,4,10,10,29,5,88,39,14,76,0,1,2,0,91,33,0,11,37,282,57,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03687832962728516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03908645102451625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02887040048905527,0.0,0.0,0.026388140548641786,0.03866829135541233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04168000417147776,0.0,0.0,0.03960498373164273,0.03337727380650319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707192753249814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03250899691816449,0.0,0.0815653808055589,0.0,0.030131696808788206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03942945318001111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723328863291655,0.03152627624959686,0.0849030873084993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024926399302410918,0.0,0.031796921064303464,0.0,0.0,0.03691619936979736,0.0,0.0,0.03816416777961202,0.02696090676236185,0.036235570109791726,0.0,0.0,0.06420192358623722,0.04563441539359448,0.0,0.029157228246486856,0.0,0.01971718515294536,0.10860869780467326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033806928950664936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0425348444587583,0.0,0.0,0.039873558627966536,0.037855515364963316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520597292658802,0.0,0.0,0.07490070644610848,0.033544353312914166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02665632761591336,0.018437476920639125,0.037824613525359166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042220534571886716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04110907490325315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027983153908991656,0.0,0.10934632337201897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04019103830145243,0.051146145202088884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8800037059719399,0.0,0.03602635637801906,0.026163623777344373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024176711106812816,0.0,0.03726292748365112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060023485980853164,0.0,0.07638821216708605,0.0,0.03435636908018588,0.03937023774059046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510659017955777,0.11541114847606235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05342402921644003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864602994599601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066671202043205,0.03298574225855262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203625825856732,0.0,0.0,0.03606144259559967,0.0,0.025622453543722813,0.041049434960967,0.0,0.0,0.09079127143267436,0.06518913916938532,0.04156441977262157,0.0,0.022259570120067282,0.029955636724007726,0.0,0.0,0.033932091649141696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041261913362364726,0.0,0.09721128304018772
parenting,chamberx99,2019/01/02,Is it normal to still wipe a 4 year olds butt? I don’t know much about kids tbh but I’ve just started dating a guy who has a 4 year old and when I go to his house his daughter always shouts to him to come wipe her butt...is this normal? Can 4 year olds not do this themselves? I didn’t say anything to him cause that would be awkward but I’m wondering if this is normal or not ,-0.8571428571428577,1.1163828095238095,1.1717142857142877,101.62328571428571,89.95238095238096,3.836190476190476,15.542857142857144,4.935628992294339,-1.1555199999999992,292,6,73,1,10,96,55,84,0.034,0.966,0.0,-0.3485,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,0,9,1,1,1,0,16,15,6,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,8,0,6,12,1,12,0,0,0,1,10,0,1,3,10,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146231426487633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462069585564674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18053544941079255,0.0,0.15138617597355422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987823136919777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740122149843473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278267809848216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965832098507127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919059474666228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5165695537674623,0.0,0.0,0.5532350135126308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397570960758615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439109561786095,0.0,0.14034779214019588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19058470767812785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484207800705358,0.0,0.0,0.3395162677115852
parenting,UPward,2019/01/02,"How to not raise insufferable children? I'm a soon-to-be father, very soon actually, within the next couple of weeks. My experience with kids is not great though. The only other children I have been around are well to put it plainly, unbearable. They do not listen to anybody or respect anything, demand everything, and then explode into rage and hit and kick whenever they don't get what they want. I cringe whenever I know I am going to have to spend time with them, which is incredibly sad because I know the kids can be sweet, and that they aren't entirely at fault for their behavior.

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Basically, I want to know how I can raise my child to be pleasant for other people to be around. Are there books or videos you would recommend? 

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Things I am interested in learning: fairly & consistently disciplining, ensuring they eat their food and are open to eating more than chicken tenders and bread, not hitting/kicking, etc...

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Also, I am concerned these other kids are going to be a bad influence on my child, is that a legitimate concern? How do I handle that? They will definitely be together as they are family.",8.698728146853142,8.443637745192309,8.57685314685315,67.24996503496507,60.97115384615386,11.602097902097904,37.65909090909091,11.022393298168332,4.298186538461539,913,39,151,21,11,296,125,208,0.071,0.794,0.136,0.8779,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,1,10,0,10,11,1,0,6,0,27,5,0,4,0,30,38,15,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,7,11,12,4,1,4,2,1,3,6,4,1,0,1,2,24,7,24,29,2,16,0,1,0,0,20,8,0,2,5,115,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.11112632395823553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106641148396692,0.0,0.4935373933888737,0.41511457169210975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371005520405974,0.20274715529927345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950815106847157,0.0694176119452876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600137266377684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23304668200918374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270015843538269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234419860150046,0.1113923533207434,0.10735194051419432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769903212917747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594953893559347,0.0,0.1294364478045889,0.0,0.0,0.12554843755551973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877494339246505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110817243252428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660765391234891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894712006408111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447660074061683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565400103838127,0.0,0.11188236505634226,0.0,0.0664018767829439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395943562214013,0.13433375818264834,0.0,0.09134427316862936,0.0,0.10238799243741832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089407918150142,0.0,0.41511457169210975,0.0
parenting,birdeewillow,2019/01/02,"What do you guys use for an internet filter/tracker/blocker? My 13 year old is a huge gamer so his computer is his #1 true love. But I'm not super comfortable with the entire internet world at his fingertips at this point - specifically the endless amounts of porn. 

What have you found to be the most effective to block things and/or keep an eye on everything? Anything you've tried that totally didnt work? I'm not the biggest fan of the verizon smart family app I've tried for cell phone usage. ",4.904955357142857,6.357423989583335,5.491904761904763,80.11500000000002,69.52083333333334,10.06904761904762,30.380952380952376,10.290406445055957,3.2081327380952382,397,16,76,11,7,128,74,96,0.104,0.746,0.15,0.7149,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,3,1,5,0,0,8,0,6,3,1,2,2,12,12,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,6,5,10,9,3,9,0,0,1,2,9,7,0,1,2,41,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362650302732091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580337310464339,0.0,0.27065942304956675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31479858248275033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842815891455947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551943603862969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591257511167849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012710512429685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714094128742833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19074148240228736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38985432705304995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24796871949324426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901769793911215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488783317981936
parenting,Bmatt1221,2019/01/02,"Help with wording the explanation for why we dont eat until we can't move. My wife and I adopted her 10 year old cousin and at this point have had custody of her for right around 2 years. Long back story there that i will post if anyone is interested. But, I'll get to the important part. 

Our daughter has always been a little big for her age. Nothing serious, its just how some kids are. But what i've noticed is any time she eats, she wants to eat until she is completely stuffed. The kid can put away some food and she is a fast eater. Im really just trying to teach her healthy eating habits without hurting her feelings. She didnt have the best parental guidance growing up, and with my background, i tend to be a little too blunt and to the point. She is our first child, and the first time ive raised a young woman. So please experienced parents of reddit, prod me in the right direction to being a better father for a 10 year old girl. ",4.88045614035088,5.292891168421058,5.24184210526316,85.6820614035088,68.89473684210526,8.017543859649122,27.938596491228072,7.793537801064563,1.4894912280701753,742,23,155,8,12,236,127,190,0.018000000000000002,0.872,0.11,0.9217,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,0,4,8,5,0,0,13,0,19,5,0,1,0,23,23,13,0,2,6,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,11,5,0,1,0,0,3,4,2,0,2,3,2,22,3,22,17,4,32,0,1,0,0,27,12,0,3,16,101,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016896314084496,0.0,0.0,0.08186511033488979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417515017042188,0.0,0.0,0.10716710248942793,0.0,0.0,0.11310454040340573,0.0925677093144622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263353682296395,0.10646968587130336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622012112477593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108891392345846,0.0,0.0,0.4927307141515057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608696650689805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047967930570851,0.14556856560675474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628955654578175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069072178273615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887334490100466,0.0,0.13003515910226182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413123818077553,0.0,0.1065358723983245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794892495790228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551150032711062,0.13705775118238045,0.2526450891706157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673439209924189,0.1303639212155598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214525891536974,0.22760319995719525,0.0,0.11529440070694155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101896656554435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712094318626106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561421034346636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039352067226982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173269620123105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071005482714171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862765260727353,0.0,0.0,0.11604568474039392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325696556683403
parenting,Flewtea,2019/01/02,"Chronically tired 6yo We’ve been struggling since the start of Kinder with how tired our newly 6yo is. Due to work/school schedules, we have to get the kids up at 6:30. She gets done with school quite late (hers is 9-4) and with traffic we usually don’t get home much before 5, sometimes later if she played a little on the playground with friends. By the time all the evening routine is done, including one busy evening where she has an activity, we can’t seem to get her to bed any earlier than 8-8:30. This is enough sleep for her almost 4yo sister (who still naps occasionally during car rides if she needs) but not for 6yo. By the time we get back from school Thurs evening, she’s a bear. Morning and evening Friday are even worse. I feel like I’m always rushing her to take quicker showers, eat dinner faster, get dressed faster just to try get her a little more sleep. Anyone else struggling with this? It doesn’t feel healthy but unless we do literally nothing other than routine on school days while at home I can’t figure out how to get her the sleep she needs!",7.202966507177035,6.527107095693778,6.273588516746411,83.92511961722491,64.16746411483254,8.939712918660287,31.918660287081337,7.686295010490155,1.9030440191387559,849,27,174,7,11,256,131,209,0.066,0.8740000000000001,0.06,-0.3164,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,0,0,1,11,5,0,2,11,0,15,8,3,2,1,30,31,10,0,4,7,1,2,1,1,0,3,0,4,1,5,13,2,0,4,2,0,3,5,2,0,1,3,2,20,3,27,28,4,26,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,4,15,102,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934688610351984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255266346357758,0.0,0.0,0.06746783325871407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693716159789365,0.10165482685392786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628821058960411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442244396100719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398378952889877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305745937222866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151905227950624,0.0828792284625552,0.0,0.0,0.1025129290099674,0.0,0.3276442682569923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032953957035123,0.07087735745968447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665125313384746,0.0,0.4146750678682786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990362503748398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191590712913946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04847016659629375,0.1988737750730193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293252857437317,0.14712947305064747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519697233232692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722888900076095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552459832018643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016329767536705,0.0,0.0903192416255315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206952144287194,0.0,0.2978521461437516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812359917545248,0.0,0.07022304644805898,0.0,0.0792311497650991,0.0,0.0,0.20743668089903927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459537669212082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570309506177592,0.2280601151599684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735870624899969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926844055338444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722278078724875,0.0,0.10110591023453676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Soelaiman,2019/01/02,"Is a private tutor something I should consider for my child 2 years and 5 months? In my household we have a certain ‘rule’ where we are allowed to spend approx. 50-60 euro’s a week for hobby’s/education (drivers license/sport/etc.) 

I thought about hiring a private tutor for my child for the arabic language. In our area there are a lot of Syrian people who came over because of the war. It would be great if the tutor could come over everyday for 1 hour and in weekend maybe even 2 hours to teach my son in a play-full manner. 

Does anybody have experience with this? What other disciplines should I consider to hire private tutors for to get him a head-start for school? 

Am I being to enthusiastic since he’s only 2,5 years old?",5.597410015649454,6.2160164718309865,6.268967136150238,78.21914710485133,67.38028169014085,8.564632237871676,31.27073552425665,8.515128840125781,2.398607824726134,577,22,107,8,9,189,99,142,0.03,0.89,0.08,0.755,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,10,0,12,0,0,1,1,17,16,3,1,5,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,7,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,12,2,22,8,1,19,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,2,9,68,17,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534523671190045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351767409414922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771251092804598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417240136622566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994116057529164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293228362013321,0.1358113635902733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113773008914448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742898600378263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22669893393349674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21102745021990646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049924172831305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481243506354213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065748936693713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412548464205806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157656549461946,0.0,0.0,0.15638476427656298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14255237503638776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810039851266515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700926079929943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582978285799661,0.0,0.0,0.14554027977216805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324086597339355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493753129425526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606793894881084,0.0,0.0,0.2648275979589829
parenting,BhaiOnline,2019/01/02,"Sleep training for my 10 months old Hello everyone.
My baby is not sleeping well in night. She sleeps only for 4 hours and then wake up and want to play. We tried different things after reading on internet and talking to friends. Nothing seems to be working for us. 

I'm first time parent please help me how to train my little one so that my family can sleep well.
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parenting,pretend_wind,2019/01/02,"My [41F] husband [43M] kicked our son [17M] out of the house! This is not a sick or malicious joke. I'm posting this because I'm not sure where else to turn, and my family is being torn apart. I could really use some help and guidance on where I can turn for help.

My husband and I have been married for 14 years. When I married him, I knew that he was not too fond of homosexuals and was homophobic, as his father was. I was raised to be more open-minded and believe that we are all equal. I continue to be an open and accepting individual.

Our son is 17. On New Year's Day, our son came out as gay to my husband and I. I always had an inkling that he was gay, but regardless he was still my son and I would love him unconditionally.

My husband became quite vulgar and disgusted when our son told us, despite our son breaking down into tears. It broke my heart that my husband had created a hostile environment to the point where my son didn't feel comfortable confiding in his own parents.

My husband did not say a word when my son had finished explaining, but instead he left the room, and came back with a duffel bag, which he began filling with my son's clothes. Under his breath spewed words of hate and derogatory statements that caused my son to feel very uncomfortable and scared. My husband proceeded to tell my son that he was not welcomed in my home, and that unless he was cured of his disease, he could not return back into our home. My husband dragged my son and literally threw him out of the door without so much as a goodbye, but with only his duffel bag of clothing.

While this had gone on, I pleaded to my husband to understand, but he threatened that he would leave, saying that I had to ""choose"" between my son and my husband. I chose my husband, but only because we have two other children who are young and require a father. I felt terrible, but I thought that my husband would get over it, and I knew that my son had friends he could stay with, and that I could contact him on his cell-phone to tell him it was okay, and to comfort him.

My husband has ousted my son out of our lives.

I don’t know what to do. Was what my husband did justifiable enough that I should support the incident? If I tell the police, I fear that he will never come back, and give up custody all together. My husband genuinely believes that our son has a disease, and he no longer cares for him. My husband believes that having his “gay germs” in our home will spread to our younger children, who are twin boys aged seven, and he believes that others will think differently of him now that his son is homosexual.

I feel terrible.

Please help me. What do I do? Is there some sort of organization or support group that can assist our family?

**tl;dr: My son came out as gay to my husband and I on New Year's Day. My husband didn't take it well. He threw our son out. I tried to convince my husband to understand. He told me I had to choose between him and our son. I chose him only because we have two younger children, who need a father. I know my son is currently living with friends and is safe. However, I feel really badly and I need some advice.**",4.584740502942752,5.4219370914927785,5.347487961476727,83.1435326377742,69.73836276083469,8.18052434456929,30.40315676832531,8.344100000000001,2.097717602996255,2460,97,498,35,42,800,249,623,0.103,0.812,0.085,-0.9225,4,0,0,0,0,0,81.0,17,0,0,2,16,26,3,2,16,1,58,8,2,2,4,107,97,45,0,12,17,44,5,0,2,7,1,2,5,4,35,47,0,2,18,1,0,8,12,9,1,3,35,7,101,17,63,48,10,64,0,1,0,5,120,28,0,7,25,346,136,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531565387886988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413160015319777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779505152225694,0.06435342800908596,0.1409504727274545,0.0,0.0,0.3473432490859257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644557837199273,0.07858190557461005,0.07917605355556033,0.0,0.06639227927574573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461487242583448,0.0,0.0,0.0994124873551565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052574718952737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438529440193272,0.0,0.0,0.07963786870063835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531669355620394,0.08672948565416322,0.15588337541935335,0.0,0.0740029628259902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909409850574475,0.0,0.04026789465394085,0.07393624001559496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609444969449998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133285870239363,0.15498288920592618,0.0,0.2319340047216535,0.0,0.0,0.08893285077066729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471552175116251,0.0,0.0,0.08161005654430471,0.08374094094479162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361152064897386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956214001953125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778225962167972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05665813269316256,0.11429853551118722,0.05944408853274068,0.14887676904470876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758543605674993,0.0,0.0,0.08558136625796202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460391962912953,0.07285968106068606,0.0,0.0738154232029297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197750456328788,0.0,0.0,0.0987509371521494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225844049995258,0.07716434867111112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215044693184781,0.061551259562392074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492493602830142,0.07264117189317748,0.0,0.05794992760478209,0.0,0.2020977716716869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04938579764890316,0.0,0.06118801115746579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729469346103138,0.0,0.05232807077028431,0.1676683877328295,0.1505798637332126,0.1604731487112394,0.09271032668175128,0.06656704210797984,0.0,0.0635939809174249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929862864889691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429642096634972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425311073033516,0.0,0.0,0.14889905712727805
parenting,jdgkurtz,2019/01/02,"What's the best way to get rid of head lice? Particularly the eggs. My daughter had few bugs, but lots of eggs. I've shampooed and combed, but the comb doesn't get the eggs out.",0.7620270270270275,2.9308262162162184,1.7310135135135134,99.12733108108112,84.13513513513513,4.781081081081081,17.35810810810811,5.985473137389443,-0.7586702702702697,138,3,34,1,4,43,29,37,0.0,0.927,0.073,0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,5,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,18,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893422228234809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872341963799725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785477083363257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964227881309986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701190223923021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kungpaowow,2019/01/02,"Anxious toddler - needing advice Sorry so long - I just wanted to provide good examples. My 3.5 yr old is a really anxious kid. We did weekly therapy before when he transitioned to day care full time for about 8 weeks (he was about 2 years old). We learned to discuss our emotions at that time instead of tantruming for hours. Nothing traumatic had happened that could be the source of his behavior. He's always had this personality since birth. Here are some of the ways his anxiety manifests itself lately.

*We can't watch anything that has any confrontation in it. So that excludes all Disney movies and some tv shows.

*He won't go into a dark room by himself even though he can reach the light switch and turn it on before entering the room.

*He hates loud noises. I can't use the blender or garbage disposal. We can't go in public restrooms because of hand dryers or loud flush toilets.

*At school they are doing drills for tornados and fires. It made him so nervous he kept asking us about fires at home. We practiced drills and talked about the smoke detector and how we will get out together. But then he just got confused and thought fire would come out the smoke detector so that was another fear to comfort. 

I sit with him and try to comfort him. I explain that if it's loud he can cover his ears; the heroes win in movies; there is nothing to be scared about in the dark and he can reach the light; and fires are rare and mom and dad are always there to make sure we are all safe. These are things I repeat every day. But I don't know what else to do. I made him sit through and watch the entire Paw Patrol Mighty Pups because he was so excited about it at the beginning. I didn't want him to think it ended with the pups being caught up in nets. I'd talk up each time the good guys advanced (""look the pups broke free! You didn't need to be scared, the good guys will win""). After the show was over I said ""see, the pups won and everyone is safe. Are you glad you watched it all?"" And he said ""yes, but I never want to watch it again.""

Any tips? Am I doing this wrong? I feel guilty when he's crying about loud noises/scary scenes/etc but I remember my own parents guiding me thru tough stuff and then it didn't seem so bad. But he doesn't seem to feel better after going thru it. I'm thinking if it doesn't get better by his birthday we may go back to therapy for a while.",2.2375895140664963,4.42698305672269,2.972542930215564,92.18153635367192,78.72689075630252,5.987869930580929,22.322616002922906,7.079830092131019,0.6234128242601384,1869,57,390,22,46,586,245,476,0.085,0.8140000000000001,0.101,0.4695,1,0,2,0,0,0,58.0,10,3,1,7,26,30,3,5,21,1,44,2,2,5,5,76,84,37,0,9,11,3,7,0,0,5,0,7,4,4,24,30,0,3,11,3,1,8,11,12,0,0,19,22,40,19,53,55,8,57,0,1,6,0,53,19,0,10,27,237,64,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781040105453948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495418612119779,0.0,0.0,0.12221610950080238,0.0942263122901677,0.0687428490164982,0.20303302059480569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394733316731271,0.0,0.08400720805982673,0.0,0.0,0.06909698925180094,0.07502955935031265,0.10955595463089694,0.0,0.15292891674613213,0.0,0.0,0.15894818603105915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161851871105338,0.0,0.0,0.07740665279895864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174610151745799,0.0,0.09870727046116526,0.11590486087427718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506671232704358,0.10108069186804897,0.07958951387727352,0.0,0.1002179376646248,0.059351850848767075,0.0,0.07571114036819691,0.0858653244040102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011177693656409,0.09087208972070702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389654864767802,0.0,0.2042786146898942,0.2261115551797595,0.07186945470929444,0.0,0.0,0.17795156025903122,0.07946312661266171,0.0,0.0,0.08871839785717046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013716239100762,0.0,0.0884942500761089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04938484602734863,0.0,0.1013662815295014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952349782180664,0.07545998220650918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005589177434324,0.05998241790141293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524324444801313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326048074050756,0.06930576826401222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244667618268011,0.0,0.1885864427263617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977917878789637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846250848005606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756678027245176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179415155686232,0.0,0.17095536034357295,0.0,0.17993158274427667,0.09094337533753524,0.071606988884224,0.16361080223529587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433333141793902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005911983584896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286849294745777,0.0,0.0,0.08469222676165616,0.0,0.0,0.14445253803558875,0.0,0.0,0.20552606568327544,0.0,0.0596991604374067,0.11515764584406447,0.08828724416341847,0.07133900487816265,0.15719471175353047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100921447404604,0.09774215327577733,0.0,0.0,0.108090822406123,0.07761040850706928,0.0,0.0,0.15900571956208556,0.07132688766448478,0.1441609523378881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383414684231571,0.09824808220018168,0.0,0.057867057951491316
parenting,Ladybugsrred,2019/01/02,"My son did it again....he threw a anxiety ridden meltdown in the morning within the school. He's a good kid and usually calm and level headed but today he once again for the 6th time this school year decided once at the school entrance he was going to cling onto me like a tick and refuse to go inside the building. It went from me hugging him and telling him to not start that today, to him wailing saying he wants to ""stay with me and be with me"". To me having to walk into the building with him and asking if i can escort him to the classroom. To him crying loudly inside the building.....to the school counselor needing to be called and then him screaming bloody murder when the counselor separated him from me.  People poked their heads out from other classrooms to see what the commotion was. I walked home feeling frazzled and upset. Just a few minutes ago i messaged the teacher so she could tell me if he was doing ok and she says he is fine now, he calmed down after i left...WHY WHY does this kid do this still....he's done this type of thing since pre-k i dont get it...At what age does that sh*t stop for good?",3.2116865079365087,4.816064017857143,3.8552976190476222,89.58692460317465,74.0,5.870634920634919,23.60515873015873,6.139981653823899,0.5012914682539686,876,25,177,5,18,277,132,224,0.117,0.7809999999999999,0.102,-0.775,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,1,0,5,11,1,1,16,1,14,3,2,0,0,26,25,15,1,5,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,12,14,0,2,2,0,0,7,2,3,0,0,7,6,24,8,28,15,1,30,0,0,1,1,29,8,0,2,15,114,36,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064124964790964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548337764193204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166854747305526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745039621059226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996548761585908,0.0,0.13710376739238433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184534540974663,0.12772940661319518,0.1462826246619679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311037572672748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521085278010924,0.0,0.14187084467451055,0.2093783360385309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25619305367673495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519994209269913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561220964116638,0.0,0.0,0.060978460352331613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925489777433978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658484830796689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653122669914698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19851630327981504,0.0,0.5052790668773007,0.09946164960071777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324852194383956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834492543255118,0.133036523183827,0.09967767523601152,0.10435119580793177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818818107956772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292175204410182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278081643117403,0.0,0.2366206568780629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374664404507151,0.0,0.07361930918579375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157050514767967,0.22525282380274095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037697340829933
parenting,throwaway91838492,2019/01/02,"Penis question Throwaway 

Kiddo just turned 4. He is intact. He rarely touches his penis, even when peeing (he sits and leans forward). He wears regular kid briefs.

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He has been complaining of pain off and on. The skin at the base of his penis and front of his scrotum becomes red and sore. I suspect it is because his penis basically sits in one spot and sticks to the scrotum, and causes a sore rash. It is usually better after a bath (every other day), and we sometimes put some baby powder/corn starch to help dry it up.

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Any advice? Should we teach him to pee standing up, so at least he's moving his penis around a bit more during the day? ",3.664853256979242,5.7577967165354345,4.429262705798141,83.87069434502506,73.96062992125984,5.878024337866857,24.931281317108088,6.574015621080383,1.0321716535433063,521,17,92,4,11,167,87,127,0.114,0.831,0.055,-0.7882,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,6,8,5,1,0,16,7,9,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,4,10,0,0,2,1,0,5,0,2,0,1,1,3,9,1,15,5,4,21,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,2,6,56,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652735334834076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665082386045714,0.41102704010673424,0.11501535138899388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505630652635761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310111056633296,0.18679266752707346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958323860640818,0.18464800463538286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737448387481931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21815190085166167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170988847281677,0.0,0.1425007464085974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336540904553873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17976022390585286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460801271419938,0.0,0.17996804661151136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002406650806012,0.18946620438589606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727556961020096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396671519733854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627466570303244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41102704010673424,0.0
parenting,paranoidbutsane,2019/01/02,"My 3 year old mixed race kid said “brown skin is very bad” Dad is white, in south Asian. Our kid definitely looks brown but more Hispanic in skin tone. This morning he started talking about skin colors and says “I’m light brown, daddy is white, and you’re dark brown” followed by “my and daddy skin color is good but yours is bad” and then “[daycare kids name] said brown skin is very bad”. We try to be skin color positive and I thought I was doing a fairly good job by exposing him to all different cultures and people. He goes to a Montessori school where there’s other south Asians as well as black, East Asian, middle eastern, white. But that’s apparently not going stop him from absorbing what other people say. Also I’ve met the dad of the [the daycare kids name] and I’m surprised that they would say racist things so my guess is that the kid took some statement the wrong way and repeated it back to my kid. Of course lots of people are closer racists and the kid may just be repeating what he heard at home.

Either way now that the damage is done, what can I do to move forward?",4.031471962616823,5.424039098130844,4.183259345794394,88.8930198598131,71.57009345794394,7.032242990654206,24.12266355140187,7.413659706084162,0.8949915887850469,853,23,175,9,16,264,129,214,0.14,0.77,0.09,-0.9464,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,1,0,9,9,0,0,9,0,18,6,6,0,1,27,31,17,0,1,6,2,6,0,0,2,0,6,1,7,12,10,0,1,2,0,0,5,1,5,1,0,8,26,13,4,17,19,5,25,0,1,13,0,29,10,0,4,10,96,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654336674087805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206039229377487,0.3650452188496459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226093317920308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913640246354135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282394771195399,0.2444694030807714,0.0,0.0,0.1605423479839629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461830086543277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446184329161272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237979252217986,0.0,0.0,0.12389777108402195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489209823310615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152923238639177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031006608309437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27725266979451085,0.3476803981932983,0.0,0.14749051191949855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031512218233339,0.0,0.0,0.1218400863842722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171354081804484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681914379576873,0.0,0.0,0.1156964573863262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191575232493285,0.0989437684843621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24049150034653355,0.0,0.23135361176588026,0.0,0.0,0.1310323000330055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352519862798346,0.1593371687056024,0.0,0.09384786927979943
parenting,ActualKitchen6,2019/01/02,"Blocking child's view of TV - all in good fun? My daughter is almost 5 years old and an apparently fun thing for some people (babysitters, house guests, etc.) to do is to stand in front of the T.V. when she's watching it, hoping to elicit a reaction from her.  They don't do it to me when I'm watching T.V., or to my daughter when I'm watching T.V. with her.  And it's never occurred to me to do it to others.

I don't like it.  To me it seems rude and it upsets my daughter when it happen.  I've refrained from saying anything up till now because I don't want to cause hard feelings, but I feel like it's my responsibility to stop unnecessary actions that upset my daughter.

It gets more complicated with my au pair, who will ask my daughter a question (""How was your day?"", for example) while my daughter is watching TV and, if my daughter doesn't respond (because she's engrossed in what's she's watching), will then stand in front of the TV until my daughter gives an answer.  My now ex-wife was okay with this because she thought it was rude of my daughter not to respond, even if my daughter were already occupied.  I felt differently, since I try not to interrupt people (adults or children) with idle questions when they're clearly into something (T.V. or anything else). 

Am I overreacting in general?  Does my daughter need to learn to respond to people, even if she happens to really be into a TV show?  And are the rules different for interrupting adults vs kids?

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parenting,turquoiseflamingos,2019/01/02,"Parents of Reddit, can you describe your effective family routine? I am currently stay at home mom, I have 2yr old son. 

I am unorganized person, and fail miserably at planning. So a life with a 2yr old can be quite chaotic, and he get bored easily, so I find myself stuck between doing house chores (cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping) and entertaining him.

I want to create a stimulative enviroment for him, establish routine, so he can keep up, and be less bored. If I try to organize him someting creative for us to do together, like drawing, he is bored after 5 minutes, and won't do it. The only routine we mastered is bath time and bed time, the rest of the day is just chaotic. I get quite anxious, constantly feeling like I didn't do enough, house chores feel like burden, and I am stuck in this circle. Can you describe what your family routine looks like, and how you manage to be productive and effective parent?

Excuse my spelling mistakes, english is not my native language. Hope you understanded what I was trying to say. Have a good day!",6.158291038858052,7.342298262886598,6.835154639175258,72.6375614591594,66.37113402061857,9.474385408406027,35.54163362410785,9.661875296680813,3.6807570182394933,829,40,137,17,13,273,118,194,0.146,0.684,0.17,0.4955,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,6,0,7,5,14,0,1,7,0,23,2,0,4,0,26,34,14,0,4,3,4,2,4,0,1,1,1,6,1,4,11,1,1,6,4,1,0,3,7,0,0,4,4,24,7,16,26,3,14,0,2,1,0,21,4,0,2,13,93,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669179225411642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988568576277847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890036141066148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331442529568705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615084853810246,0.0,0.14026201809439798,0.19817495898149612,0.0,0.0,0.1267695070041316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449303019871134,0.0,0.0,0.11633518110071232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912765009721434,0.1377606345880496,0.0,0.320082910455968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328314660261865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796808168291336,0.2710477258554826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647326942939801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624440452778168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29108514091995824,0.0,0.0,0.10548778293405732,0.0,0.0,0.30802040590474056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110770004284052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950495573362322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102999982254671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478360016649621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175445120779244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883367174846361,0.0,0.0,0.1443918418346387,0.16683931155058754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180899541643663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MSJ2418,2019/01/02,"Kidstart App Hi all, I hope you guys all had a lovely holiday.

Just here to ask if anyone has heard of an app called Kidstart? I'm not sure if it's only available in the UK or not.

Basically it's an app that gives you cashback on online purchases. For example if you shop at Amazon 2% cashback, Groupon you get 10% cashback. I recently took out life insurance and received £52 cashback. The amount of sites you can receive the cashback on seems to be good also. From travel, insurance even your weekly shop. 

You link your child's savings account to the app and once you hit a minimum of £10 it gets deposited into the account. You can have more than one child account linked and select the funds to be deposited evenly.

You can also invite friends and family to the app to save for you kids. 

I don't want to sound like I'm selling anything, I just feel as a parent every little helps. I've currently recieved £114.43 from my purchases on things I was buying anyway. 


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parenting,thetruearsonist,2019/01/02,"My 7 month old son won't stay on his back, resulting in spitting up often Hi everyone, I'm looking for some advice on a problem of ours. 

My baby boy has recently had a slight change in his behaviour in that he just will not stay on his back. He's been able to roll over back-to-front for months now, but it's only been in the past few days that he simply will not stay on his back for a whole minute.

This wouldn't be much of a problem except for the fact that this results in him spitting up a LOT of food. Usually after he feeds (and after a nice long burping) we would lay him on his back to play while his stomach calms and begins to digest. But recently, doing the same ritual, he immediately rolls over onto his stomach, since that's how he likes to play more. We've obviously tried turning him back, but that usually upsets him, and we don't want to dissuade him from rolling over anyway (he's really good at it, mind you). 

We've obviously tried entertaining him to keep him on his back, but since I'm at work all day and he's alone with my girlfriend during the day, she doesn't currently have the energy to keep entertaining him for hours after every meal. 

Help?",7.654274255156608,5.634668239495799,7.970030557677617,76.4581245225363,64.08403361344537,11.343621084797554,32.560733384262804,10.018931242160765,2.8086084033613448,923,26,193,16,11,305,129,238,0.05,0.81,0.14,0.9757,1,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,1,0,1,11,11,0,1,11,0,14,9,4,3,4,34,22,10,0,5,8,1,0,1,1,5,2,0,0,1,9,7,4,2,0,4,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,1,24,8,40,13,8,48,1,0,1,0,34,19,0,3,27,128,33,1,0.10794521084340687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548281072525532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117986838614991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5810224285485313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419172004815085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20884719272853827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094849577433847,0.10314627485125948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052777742836633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905393214296098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235339944094693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630428877387572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189332636092585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052736577494879665,0.0,0.0,0.09552811475872693,0.09064679041240813,0.0,0.0,0.09177115810179516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899389123125497,0.0,0.17232167487564848,0.0,0.07935215030505083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327034044121155,0.0,0.0,0.08209719704390478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304591800523297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20657797691596586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915246616138163,0.0,0.21316574620119214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858678776939246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451656965752653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657542490587722,0.11741339215002615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23777279871898896,0.0,0.06366888211941657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051697296094542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858539911525647,0.0,0.0,0.07668118068375512,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Angel0101,2019/01/02,"Start my own family My partner and I want to start a family, but I am too big 110kg female, 28 yrs old.  Im scared i might not get pregnant

I am scared that I might not have baby, I am on the process of loosing weight now",-1.9387714285714284,-0.06912681999999748,1.119714285714288,99.75700000000002,97.2,4.457142857142856,15.142857142857142,6.18269132825596,-0.6813142857142855,169,4,43,2,7,59,36,50,0.16399999999999998,0.8109999999999999,0.025,-0.8201,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,8,0,3,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390487399447989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166233607018265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515341282407165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940658692413105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24435261469881786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4662769186887555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296460496940081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734979307230766,0.0,0.0,0.2835668001863788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sdemat,2019/01/02,"Thoughts on sharing a room? Morning. Was just curious on what other parents thoughts were on kind of an “age limit” for a boy and girl to share there room. 

We currently live in a two bedroom house. My goal was to try and get a three bedroom this spring but that’s looking like it won’t happen - and probably won’t for at least one or two years. (Depending on the housing market). I have a four year old boy and two year old girl. My wife says if they have to share a room then so be it - well just get bunk beds. I kind of agree but at the same time I want them to have their own space and I feel kinda like a failure;? - that I can’t necessarily “provide” to get a larger house. 

So - at what age do you folks think is “too old” for a boy and girl to share a room? ",1.7300095556617308,2.9922328944099377,3.0188819875776405,95.47703774486384,77.19875776397515,6.196082178690874,22.322503583373145,6.67199483983844,0.2217946488294316,580,16,141,5,13,188,94,161,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.9686,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,3,2,7,9,0,0,13,0,12,0,0,1,0,22,22,13,0,2,6,2,1,2,0,2,0,1,7,6,8,7,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,6,5,3,12,9,19,14,3,25,0,0,1,0,18,13,0,4,14,91,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954528941389806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21557981127337011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162779914043308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761144666217842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864573317532409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439199574978386,0.0,0.12145196886448888,0.0,0.1155005088547764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4329810873476729,0.0,0.09320191366480483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272394169899015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829337177623195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937879553080414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813126046801699,0.0,0.21838572243687607,0.08020175580007194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338188415282543,0.0,0.4030751903489304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112574366450782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366663660980598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657173157436637
parenting,foxgloveand,2019/01/02,"Stop distracting the baby while he’s eating My brother and his live-in girlfriend have stayed away from my 10 month old overall. They interrupted a solid food feeding yesterday and got huffy when told they were distracting baby and making it hard to feed him by standing and sitting on either side of the high chair and “interacting” with him. 

And the girlfriend laughed and praises the baby for hitting me. 

I just can’t even. ",9.152692307692307,8.688932858974361,8.050897435897442,72.07326923076926,60.153846153846146,10.364102564102565,38.730769230769226,9.516144504307137,3.7304,345,15,57,5,4,106,62,78,0.123,0.7809999999999999,0.096,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,2,1,3,4,0,2,5,0,3,4,0,1,0,12,7,9,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,9,2,8,3,1,13,1,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,6,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701165806414416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941852184026306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989164782621076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476472566913145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22994075143324105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25754435562478034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037605095184063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538685818295611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919090982507467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294804934215971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30168385530420283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30643773017124376,0.0,0.24036364465006574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747194520311804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bobby_FuckingB,2019/01/02,"Sharing music with your kids So my mrs had a bit of a go at me yesterday for playing music I like around the kids (3 and 8 months).

There are my so many times a day I can deal with baby shark and gummy bear. One day my eldest saw a thumbnail for a video (guy with a beard) and thought it was me so I humoured her. She asked to see the video, it was the band Clutch. She loved it. Went nuts and danced, asked for more. I happily obliged.

This was some months ago. Since then we've put other music on that I enjoy (nothing inappropriate for kids) and when she doesn't like it I just switch it over.

Anyway, mrs says I'm selfish for doing it. Says if the eldest likes baby shark I should have stuck to baby shark.

Does anyone else see a problem with what I've done? I honestly don't see the problem, I feel that I'm just having fun with my daughters and bonus for jot having to listen to the gummy bear song again",1.634814241486069,3.369254921052633,2.8667182662538733,94.41614551083592,78.73684210526315,5.312693498452012,19.07120743034056,5.900188976854957,-0.3114520123839011,705,15,159,4,17,227,108,190,0.064,0.755,0.181,0.9724,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,1,10,14,0,0,13,0,14,1,0,0,0,21,29,12,0,4,3,1,1,3,0,1,0,4,0,6,11,12,0,0,2,6,1,4,2,3,0,1,9,9,20,11,20,19,3,18,0,0,4,1,21,4,0,2,13,98,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389102605594845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350118366707715,0.1663208073010133,0.0,0.14450337134052632,0.3035033089057643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721649817904492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093719670373601,0.1673496073631647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420514128120404,0.16611449557536098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135601432937217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207623058301934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225285086982518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607269441840527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23791090362765274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650435246817184,0.0,0.0,0.16457173775702966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591320062327812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575489901405562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999539754884476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106455739846577,0.0,0.1631811279640854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25817418601712355,0.0,0.0,0.3880552378016697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427664463784253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288676563274628,0.09465282059627496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047659557203094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bam_boot75,2019/01/02,"How to teach a child to read Hi I'm looking for suggestions on how to teach my daughter to read. We read books to her constantly as she really enjoys it. She spells but can't join the letters yet to make words. How can I help her to read what she spells? 
Thanks",0.05402597402597209,2.349350454545455,1.4197402597402586,98.87818181818184,89.9090909090909,5.324675324675325,16.948051948051948,6.868970318607317,-0.1805584415584418,205,5,48,3,7,65,38,55,0.04,0.7959999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.8108,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,4,0,7,6,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,10,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,12,1,0,0,2,29,10,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414313797490836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497498282070782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18761165883933603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913071265881706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8938986321405036,0.0,0.14312485671408778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056897777764827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Coyotes_fan_19,2019/01/02,"I just wanted to give a quick thank you to the people who have stepped up to care for and raise their children's children. A couple of friends of mine are going through a somewhat difficult time. Their teenage daughter ran away, dropped out of contact for several years, then called saying she wanted to come home and make everything right. My friends had their hopes up so high, and I don't think it's an exaggeration to say they were euphoric about it. My friend drove across the US to pick her up where she was, risking losing his job for taking the time off without notice. She didn't actually want to come home - she just wanted them to take the baby she was about to give birth to. They are now parenting their infant granddaughter, and are brokenhearted that they still don't have their daughter back, and that she has become the kind of person who would toy with their emotions like that to manipulate them. And all the while, they are being incredible ""parents"" to this infant baby girl they had not planned for and were not at all prepared for. Like any caretakers of a new baby, they're exhausted and stressed out, but they're also loving it. They know that at any time in the future, their daughter could petition for custody of the child. They hope for that, in the sense that they want their daughter to become the kind of mother and daughter they would like her to be, but mostly they live in fear of it. They are giving their whole hearts to this grandbaby, loving her and caring for her as their own, and they live in fear that they might not be able to keep her safe from her own mother. And they're doing it anyway, wholeheartedly. They think they have failed as parents. I think they are some of the best parents I have ever known, and I respect them to no end. And if you're in a simar situation, I have endless respect for you, as well. Thank you to all of you who love children you are not obligated to love, and try to give them a safe, stable, happy home.",9.147457156090779,7.062037881889764,7.98575883896866,77.72642890226959,61.25721784776904,10.74948278524008,34.74772271113169,8.841846274778883,2.6835593947815344,1567,47,309,17,17,479,174,381,0.064,0.731,0.205,0.9968,5,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,5,30,4,14,33,0,4,18,0,30,6,1,3,4,59,62,25,0,11,10,11,0,3,3,3,1,2,3,8,17,20,0,3,5,1,0,6,9,8,1,0,9,2,58,25,63,46,10,40,0,2,0,4,86,18,0,7,18,233,75,2,0.08041117511804594,0.0,0.07846970746375136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430478769014393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936471299391913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554894599742464,0.06183123018015488,0.0,0.0,0.17761565066541027,0.0,0.0,0.08438656731112447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210880030387396,0.0,0.16396910431347972,0.0,0.0,0.1385342145443188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420178021488948,0.08897343582312338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045174895952136,0.07122043385333271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273651152092837,0.0,0.0,0.07226837925359668,0.0,0.0,0.18096985529041115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637642328297405,0.0,0.0,0.30855090527559337,0.04569952389584328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855991911528855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528762967959754,0.0,0.08495882139208244,0.24197689490960544,0.15973288115913953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979568365679443,0.07147314711523957,0.0,0.16747172976086847,0.044191878910974584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178545153120013,0.0,0.14200908166051135,0.0,0.0,0.08995953657508031,0.0,0.0,0.2902969000236796,0.0,0.05367508379430352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530354952761247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766161400275644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154865583357548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35714837579036457,0.0,0.0,0.05574698411568391,0.07021193650946597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867070419161485,0.0,0.12789238784422818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084173975237536,0.0,0.0,0.09038552992885046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421646832062086,0.0,0.09211072941672024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091839278910572,0.0,0.0,0.14806361293320944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545727024640988,0.0,0.0,0.1406652085826201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459390957699154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967247429001552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371429723316591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229930342503314,0.0,0.0,0.08977620537068315,0.0,0.07751350333432057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424358338907382,0.0,0.0,0.051782160392086315
parenting,HorseRadishEw,2019/01/02,"To anyone with same experiences My baby mamma lets me see my daughter every 3 months. Stipulation in our custody battle was that she couldn’t call me dad. Plus others like never bringing another women over and for only 2 hours a visit. I’m 26 and my daughter is 8 was 7 when that began. I just think, have I heavily scarred her in anyway already? 

I was always there at her birth up to when she was 3. Then I had just so much going on after the mom and I really stopped getting along. Saw her a few times and in visitation when she was 5 or so. The mom ended visitations and wanted full custody after she got married. She has two other kids now.

I plan on just trying to get closer to the mom and family again. I did go to one of her softball games this year. Another stipulation was that I would get invited to her games/recital and others. I just want the best for all of us and some advice on what things I should try and do plus maybe a little support :( thank you everyone.. :’) ",2.044312049158428,4.178524401015228,4.027288271440021,84.65623029655356,79.10152284263958,6.583916644402884,22.043547956184877,7.669130373188453,1.0450974619289344,765,23,151,12,19,260,127,197,0.039,0.894,0.067,0.6403,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,1,0,2,13,5,1,0,7,0,16,0,0,0,2,29,32,18,0,5,5,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,13,0,1,1,1,0,6,2,1,0,2,11,2,28,4,25,17,7,35,0,0,2,0,26,12,0,2,18,119,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876827538343134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567090219601336,0.0,0.1181617776983256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29781489880967194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992950817328053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902831404171452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500573334330955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577666707723076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964760723142645,0.13569443755737606,0.0,0.13891077421433676,0.13387221587194167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222579477439156,0.0,0.16141249053529771,0.0,0.11357652582137752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984897366297674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521248878842846,0.0,0.06937778637365198,0.14232901649849766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14266581610590312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4989530859358034,0.11334918679765885,0.0,0.10439199496190782,0.0,0.10952508837930584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962280888795088,0.10800325066488532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097376531537997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316174659870325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872479116014607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114864868095255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074160562194326,0.0,0.0,0.09434360208185646,0.09099279652003524,0.0,0.0,0.08280582857105377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928278056674148,0.0,0.13872088285482173,0.0,0.17081777135669995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751963484012555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087819166637238,0.0,0.0,0.09144829925618927
parenting,alienfreshthrowaway,2019/01/02,"Father of a 2.8 year old with violent outbursts I know there have probably been quite a few posts about toddlers and hitting but I was hoping to get some personal advice on my own child's behavior. 

My son has a terrible habit with screaming, hitting and completely freaking out when things don't go his way. He yells/screams his demands and before you can even start explaining or talking to him he's already coming at you hand raised screaming and hitting. 
If it's extra intense he will purposefully attack your face and he now resorts to headbutting and just straight up throwing himself at you when you're keeping his arms away from you. 
He's also absolutely always hated any kind of restraint in general, so if restraining comes into play, (such as out in public where it might be necessary) it's just going to make it a hundred times worse. 

The thing is, our house hold is extremely calm and understanding, there isn't yelling or screaming or anything in our environment that makes this make any sense. He gets a lot of attention. He also couldn't have really learned it from any where. 
Our reactions at first when it began were simple, ""we don't hit"", keeping him from harming you, talking him down, moving him to a place to calm down and discuss it after, try to explain that it hurts and is upsetting, apologies and what not. 
But over time its just getting worse, it feels like he gets frustrated more easily and more often and instead of some times hitting or screaming it's the first reaction to any frustration. For example he might have a hard time with a toy and decides to take it out on us and anything in his reach. He doesn't want to do x thing (brush teeth, eat, clean up, go to bed, etc.) Starts yelling, screaming and hitting.
Me and his mom have a lot of patience and always have but I can see and feel mine wearing extremely thin. Her's too. 
The more it happens the more I feel like yelling, or pushing him away from me more carelessly than I'd like. I really hate yelling. I really don't want that yi be necessary at all. 
I would never strike my child, I'm not afraid of anything like that, but I hate how it makes me feel about him in those moments. I feel like wow you are a fucking ass hole and I don't like you at all. 

Over all he is an absolutely fantastic kid and I'm extremely proud of him, he's loving and fun and can be super polite and respectful, he's easy to laugh and generally well behaved especially for his age. There's so much about him I'm super thankful for that he does not do. (At least yet) 
But the freak-outs happen constantly as well and are just getting more intense and it seems nothing we are doing is helping. 
It makes daily routines and tasks nearly impossible and are wearing us very thin. 

Is there any advice or experience you guys could share? Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this.",4.444743821579261,6.03499483363472,4.908471971066909,83.32255123568416,70.8264014466546,8.087643158529234,29.62236286919831,8.634040054169528,2.2590887281494867,2265,91,434,39,42,720,263,553,0.139,0.68,0.181,0.9783,0,0,0,0,4,0,59.0,7,10,0,6,31,44,8,2,17,0,40,10,7,6,4,101,94,51,0,8,20,3,9,6,0,4,0,9,2,5,29,39,1,4,13,3,0,8,11,20,2,2,4,20,50,24,64,75,19,64,0,1,1,3,66,32,2,17,28,293,79,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695650080767514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297793371223239,0.12026448269626762,0.1251340865322422,0.0,0.0,0.2556709054234112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525770667630832,0.0,0.18563361280364796,0.0,0.0,0.08554349932691703,0.14129359935700606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639841585035046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954514155452118,0.07883898896272717,0.08125749641709608,0.0,0.060035917721462176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580236763976005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694175656864034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386066605143698,0.04966461952369677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355370399544985,0.0,0.0,0.19010054854068228,0.16115482546695634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791916188598978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951520980802199,0.19642758804008245,0.0,0.12820265329112568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744534197967356,0.1329867861892691,0.0,0.0673586362486389,0.2227141400639163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05040064030468516,0.0,0.0,0.0746841448834014,0.0,0.08676324165709101,0.08049623250001517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336709345174619,0.0,0.07830249375439191,0.0413243993760907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22041457295083505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785370599229545,0.06786509948121057,0.0,0.2509613365534106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953691201854575,0.0,0.08806575731342275,0.0,0.0799188258786166,0.055275898794394464,0.0,0.057993888352365824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215022310392588,0.0,0.07890296419902425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656560928565847,0.0785612380855691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201461941090294,0.0,0.08107134662085495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997757833279516,0.07521388165645003,0.0,0.14451270846063066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05991951063555495,0.0684533685704897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644473966204676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307235805923352,0.12087542744117953,0.0,0.13845620563554165,0.0,0.0,0.1498657268446175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192297695503249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05105147322218771,0.0,0.0,0.07827911992280273,0.18089712425253188,0.0,0.0,0.062042539809089824,0.08870218817904148,0.059685126697943326,0.0,0.0,0.1352160334874226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325726862576194,0.0534153285905364,0.0,0.0,0.04842217007586764
parenting,stickfiguredrawings,2019/01/02,"Does/Has anyone successfully coslept with a preschooler and newborn in the same room? We have a 4 year old who has slept in our room since birth. We have a baby due in a few weeks. The original plan was to have her transition to her own room before baby arrives, but its been a very rough transition and we all just prefer to share a bedroom. I am scared how much her sleep may be negatively affected if she continues to sleep in our room when the baby arrives, but I am just wondering if anyone has been successful in a similar arrangement. The baby would be in a crib in our room and the 4 year old would be in our bed.

No debates about cosleeping please. Just success/failure stories or helpful advice. Thanks.

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parenting,abbeytheavg,2019/01/02,"My boyfriend’s little cousin (7M) called me mom. My boyfriend’s baby cousin is living with my boyfriend. His big brother died recently, his father left and his mom has basically gone catatonic and can’t take care of him. So my boyfriend’s family is taking care of him. 
My boyfriend and I watch him mainly. We’re very close. He has nightmares about his brother and I’ll comfort him. We talk about the sad things. We play together. I ‘discipline’ him (as in “You shouldn’t do that because ...” “I know you’re hurting but this isn’t the way to handle it,” “I know you’re angry, let’s talk about it”. So not like yelling or anything that would absolutely not be my place.) He struggles a lot with behavioral issues... after his brother died, he went into a phase of flashing his penis to everyone. I helped him through it and other things like that. He has been through so much at such a young age and my heart breaks for him. I appreciate our relationship and I’m so glad I can be there for him when he doesn’t have anyone else.
However, tonight I had comforted him after a nightmare and before he went to sleep he called me mom. I asked him what he called me and he got embarrassed, closed his eyes and rolled over.
I’m not upset or angry that he called me this, but I’m not sure how to handle it. He’s young and has never had much parental guidance in his life and I’m worried it’ll mess him up when he realizes that’s not who I am to him, like he’ll feel abandoned again? If that makes sense.
I thought maybe it was a slip up, like when you accidentally call your teacher ‘mom’, but this is not the first time it has happened. 
How should I approach it? I want to talk to him about it, but I don’t want him to be embarrassed. I won’t cut back on my presence in his life because I know he needs the support and I love him as well. I just don’t want him to ever see me as another parental figure per say who leaves him too. Like for example, if my boyfriend and I were to break up.

TLDR; My boyfriend and I take care of his little cousin who has lost pretty much his entire family. He called me his mom. How do I talk to him about it without embarrassing him, hurting his feelings, or making him feel like I don’t care?  ",1.8009245729573993,3.8241737323008884,2.8940481580572133,93.03605165671951,79.37610619469027,6.063058242436715,22.9010084379502,7.1213741377187105,0.6321017081704055,1725,56,381,21,43,551,192,452,0.14400000000000002,0.737,0.119,-0.9216,3,0,0,0,1,0,54.0,3,3,0,2,23,30,1,5,9,0,34,6,3,5,3,66,69,37,2,9,17,14,3,6,0,6,2,2,0,0,26,22,0,2,9,1,0,4,16,12,1,1,11,8,77,18,43,48,5,40,0,5,3,1,86,17,0,6,22,243,103,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504385373779092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05004105315228534,0.07332847191174445,0.058893240323558416,0.0,0.06690514020275035,0.0,0.0,0.05503032251931753,0.0,0.08725270930806643,0.0,0.060897932762317586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43846519785207066,0.0,0.2918678042563185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854973035478558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597847378670608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473611597673566,0.0,0.06838498386607128,0.0,0.0,0.13493330290192584,0.0,0.10855871853789624,0.05112721625240094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608745406811777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057238373404769935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328613638942544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480680358600641,0.047969604918448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322711962015745,0.0,0.0,0.0746969702891173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799344807404902,0.0,0.0,0.07577872995903871,0.07775735514808957,0.0731817300819708,0.10109925741935682,0.20978304876291676,0.14345713313131278,0.06319464728164388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812343296611171,0.060843391341197886,0.06459167959344793,0.0,0.09554256526501856,0.0,0.07189830112613743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41908987263164893,0.0,0.0,0.15782912740690322,0.05306575086437863,0.055196598597358836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589325511535937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477189833476305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280899348655885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066341530893187,0.07683577978166213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569126582984629,0.0,0.0,0.05702933999882383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161831663845211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481698262409148,0.0,0.0,0.08121296597310003,0.06745070377218555,0.0,0.16142760222416794,0.23009019185666602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509138063978223,0.0,0.0,0.056815911795319425,0.041731078685180535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059049966523986065,0.1266355614718721,0.05680626138675679,0.0,0.0,0.06434699704031681,0.13268596985353104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898767945682771,0.0,0.0,0.0726793887967813,0.0,0.050838882077435095,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shyabusedmomma95,2019/01/02,"It's 1:30am and my kid won't sleep She had spent the night at my dad's  (my brothers were babysitting while I went to a new years party. Well she came home with a really bad rash. Like I'm having her out of her diaper to air it out rash. And she's full of energy too. She is 3 and has a major rash like a 3mo old having an allergic reaction. She also had some dried poop stuck to her butt.
I'm also having a really bad ear infection that is making my whole jaw ache and super sore. My patience is gone I'm stressed out and super tired and I have to get up at 6am and go to work caring for other people's kids....
I know I'm in a bad mood from a lot of other things but I'm hitting that limit and it dosent help that my kid has been trying to  climb me or anything like a monkey and always hitting get the hurting side of  your head. I can't bare,you talk cause of the pain. (Maybe I have an abscess  tooth or my wisdom tooth is causing trouble again)
I'm just really tired yall
Wish me luck",0.9500194033470741,2.4183999078341003,3.111215134610724,93.09885277710406,79.87557603686636,6.043075430511763,17.872665534804753,6.8360192770164,-0.12770414746543812,768,14,180,8,19,262,126,217,0.16699999999999998,0.6829999999999999,0.15,-0.2334,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,5,6,17,0,1,13,0,17,17,11,3,0,27,37,15,0,1,4,2,0,3,0,1,6,1,1,3,9,14,0,1,1,0,1,5,2,7,1,0,9,1,24,9,21,25,5,21,0,1,0,1,17,10,1,5,9,107,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284469726882064,0.11884848546927633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753937633515507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357778728522242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16336288347514266,0.14562774732771738,0.29345764110155137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924867869271802,0.0,0.08117527685188115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465878497266342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957379389244224,0.0,0.143273129648749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290566437538236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849727304335137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093429448083627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143149592499908,0.0,0.0,0.09534212647337488,0.0,0.14349493129422633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379489867729475,0.0,0.13403908046737192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987919045821851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198436630629816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902240731351844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745074025402929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293613707802685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636147015113888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480374276863455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489188838857147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32833100890402644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969742208789608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842400689121944,0.13240760789630554,0.0,0.15946792667438284,0.1642508835025448,0.0,0.0,0.10398411407038813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091979759250806
parenting,xBeanieGodx,2019/01/02,SHE JUST WONT SLEEP! Exhausted dad here. My 8 month old. Almost 9 month old daughter just will not sleep through the night. We wake up every 2-2.5 hours and my poor wife has to breast feed her back to sleep. We don’t feel like letting her cry works either it just seems to make things worse. Anyone know what to do?,1.2454910714285743,3.5637645312500013,1.2507142857142846,102.38,83.375,4.2821428571428575,15.392857142857142,5.288315135182226,-1.1456892857142855,246,4,57,1,7,72,51,64,0.139,0.795,0.067,-0.7169,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,0,6,7,5,1,0,13,10,1,0,0,5,3,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,6,7,1,8,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,2,8,31,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19111684830354056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345244252349187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675812139103733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964869435523312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080620659633307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650360542982098,0.13634908656989508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795681310730775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489063715566184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195165369477998,0.0,0.09324364194946827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273992841515023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046822777567947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179107426397056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4005470043489332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375007388405656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5729878979007328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679766121919112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389469921189044,0.0,0.19450074045351215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pathtomom,2019/01/02,"Why Do Babies Cry  

**I**t gets really tough to get control over crying babies. In reality, babies are totally dependent on you for everything. They get all their needs like food, warmth, and comfort that they need from you. When your baby cries, it is their way of making communication with you so that you can easily take care of their needs and give them all the attention and care that they are in need of.

## Why babies cry – Crying babies and how to soothe them

There are many reasons to why babies cry and it is very normal for newborn baby crying. When you have more than one child, it will become a lot hard for you to find and console each of them. But as soon as your baby starts to grow, they learn all the different ways to make communication with you. For example, they will start making eye contact with you and even make some noise to get your attention.  
[This article](https://www.pathtomom.com/why-babies-cry/) will tell you about all the basic reasons why babies cry, how to soothe crying babies, why do babies cry at night and so on.",6.206847739888978,7.4029152835051555,5.98360824742268,78.74271609833467,66.26804123711341,8.649643140364791,24.20142743854084,8.841846274778883,1.5581281522601116,831,18,152,13,13,259,99,194,0.149,0.755,0.096,-0.8999,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,12,11,1,10,5,0,0,4,0,12,2,1,10,5,39,30,17,0,5,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,12,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,23,4,30,27,9,15,0,0,1,0,28,6,0,3,7,104,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530318285893535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903499380911705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647345491182765,0.0,0.0,0.8238586163372429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123711673891933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045034477371016485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127882264276487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062318371214713265,0.0,0.08244760995959903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424920010014564,0.06540770803195586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107891309696808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03331095386411672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796706875568994,0.0,0.0,0.18205173405783684,0.06912724234373524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20222844000774184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398548032547152,0.06680523263261287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620282076792802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043680017159159264,0.14020773469898254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652109017541044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126541388156991,0.0,0.059595276689854315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562584266600432,0.0,0.10824158177159868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30762446190428505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bayfarm,2019/01/02,"Do all kids stress their parents out or do some have it easier than others? You see kids that  throw fits, cry, and drive their parents  crazy. Is that just normal for most or do some parents just have it harder than others? ",4.90527131782946,6.064593325581393,4.269767441860466,89.97968992248066,69.23255813953489,6.663565891472868,21.310077519379846,6.42735559955562,0.21478914728682197,175,3,35,1,3,52,29,43,0.172,0.773,0.055,-0.7059,3,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,11,7,3,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,7,4,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,5,0,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28165208065170544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25122533934710817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8541320162141304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20432392988093107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937144274469543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marryy1021,2019/01/02,"I can't get my daughter to poo in the toilet afraid she will never pop in there. My daughter gets occasional constipation I have cut milk out of her diet and use miralax here and there when she can't go. She is 4. She's potty trained to an extent only goes and pees. I have tried sitting with her I have tried giving her prizes if she goes, I don't know what else to do. She is afraid of going poo in the toilet due to her constipation, I believe she's afraid of sitting there to long or pushing or the pain. I have talked to her doctor and he tells me to continue doing everything I already am. I'm getting to the point where I'm giving up. She also has a potty just in case she don't want to go in the toilet and it turns into a stepping stool. For extra support. Any advice helps. ",1.5969090909090902,3.3896160848484875,3.5036363636363674,89.53545454545458,79.06060606060606,5.612121212121212,21.303030303030305,6.42735559955562,0.2906848484848488,614,17,131,5,15,207,92,165,0.042,0.8759999999999999,0.083,0.7564,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,9,7,1,3,8,0,15,5,1,1,1,16,30,10,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,8,2,0,1,0,0,5,5,5,0,0,0,0,25,2,22,29,2,22,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,3,5,90,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856891436848865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096960851827929,0.15196203424033528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922275974805553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140918493226643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449750093501172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874057473659425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078121734179716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978389149343077,0.3645764562532157,0.3239848632339811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736900631017445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443215905747498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816516080124233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655813669925516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452172930543775,0.2021988140604996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179633994907245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21563685573565544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273400285620442,0.16608925338281155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258027492336286,0.2066914229491239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411962732935162,0.0,0.0,0.11208101224115184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dortuh,2019/01/02,"Does anyone have tricks for controlling the toy messes? My daughter is just over 2 years, 9 months.

She has what I would consider a reasonable amount of toys... The paw patrol, a vet set, some ponies, and a few other favorites.

But there's just always shit EVERYWHERE.

I'm sure the answer is just ""clean as you go/pick up every day""

But the mess gets crazy. I am tired. I can't always clean every day. 
And I have my own messed, which she gets into, and all our crap is always everywhere. Always at least 10 toys under the couch 

No idea how to keep the CLOTHES under control. 

My one bedroom apartment is a chaotic mess and no matter how much time I spend cleaning (mostly dishes upon dishes) this place is just never tidy. 

How do you do it? I see parents of two with spotless homes. Seriously, how? ",1.4585602716468564,4.053837606451617,2.5889983022071346,91.03086587436337,85.83870967741936,4.811544991511036,18.480475382003394,6.339386263674448,0.0452580645161289,619,16,120,6,19,197,107,155,0.185,0.745,0.071,-0.9489,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,2,0,2,9,9,3,0,10,0,13,5,2,7,3,30,18,11,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,5,6,2,4,3,3,1,0,4,8,0,2,0,1,14,1,13,17,8,16,0,0,1,0,7,9,2,2,6,82,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5393744052430152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331334610994805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635192413329999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090254691635144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418163263617738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27307839407241336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693351770225146,0.0,0.0921001780113957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625554141192161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294153548007916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440428479594507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935157925995092,0.0,0.11912983049913263,0.0,0.12498760291716116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981336185455966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994404636327802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16931406238635316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666205920915891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913767666005854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634818884050706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527358930404163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449617593388683,0.1862595702746976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830519636314194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511995607191075,0.0,0.0,0.10435877189433003
parenting,Bc64047,2019/01/03,"mother scares me and my daughter does nothing good for us hello everybody ive very new to reddit i just recently found this page.i dont know if this is the right place to post. im a (m21) my daughter is 2.me and the mother are still together... 
Here recently the mother whose never really held a job nor really taken care of our Daughter.g got her first job at 20. she comes home between 10-2 am on a nightly basis. i know shes cheating on me. she has recently started taking my daughter out on late night ""trips"" ive found her other boyfriend. he has a bad history. ""legaly"". my daughter has recently started acting weird around her sense she gotten this new boy friend. i cant leave becasue i was told i have no rights to my daughter and no matter what i look at i cant find out if thats true or not.its eaier to just give baby mama money so she can go to boy toy and leave me and my daughter alone. here lately she been really abusive toward her.. ive lost my house because of baby mama doesn't know how to save money she still acts like she a teen, and throw im her mother in my face and always trying to leave i do everything for my daughter... ive only recently started feeling scared for my daughter because she started cheating.. im afaid shes putting my daughter in harms way. just to get some dick. wjen baby mama tales daughter out i never know where there going or what they do... my duaghters always been a happy out going girl. never gets scared but here recently she doesnt want anything to do she cry at my mother feet and grandma feet just so she doesnt have to go the baby mama will spank her and snach her up and take her.

long story short... is it wrong to kick the mother out of my new house that im renting because shes  not taking care of the kid other than a show peace and something to beat on.

ps ive never been scared of things other than hieghts but here recently shes been the scariest thing around thats why its taken this long ",2.4295607142857136,4.2624349775,3.7351428571428578,88.63900000000002,76.725,6.071428571428572,23.17857142857143,6.868970318607317,0.7430321428571429,1541,47,311,15,35,504,186,400,0.115,0.833,0.052000000000000005,-0.9727,3,1,1,0,0,0,42.0,2,0,1,3,17,19,2,4,14,0,35,4,4,1,5,49,68,21,0,3,11,16,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,4,17,19,0,1,8,2,3,10,14,11,0,1,14,2,57,8,41,53,1,62,0,1,1,1,52,23,1,5,28,197,74,2,0.0,0.08096339487886972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077234817906357,0.0,0.0,0.11371700920343078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05623221149051018,0.12166166043827215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05705517519990221,0.12496543175351163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934003296509798,0.0,0.0,0.058862802545090284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506055824440143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059798642031642514,0.0,0.08008573124879324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061413266783957976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034551202517322036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245509609840361,0.05812398888505956,0.0,0.1498471478966907,0.0527938826705573,0.0,0.07140231237059885,0.06555121084017769,0.1553408050326856,0.05731445271798191,0.05465211798479188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274171659940115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854353986312657,0.0,0.0,0.15769414431289594,0.0,0.0,0.29524533190204993,0.0,0.13561985640847593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502160517379517,0.0,0.15416513177227434,0.21706424435782126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033384037229485734,0.0,0.0,0.12094505525610055,0.057382484218947274,0.0,0.07459350819855949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081039445825095,0.19798922304127967,0.0,0.12825172560627954,0.0,0.0655673271137412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05197030244930567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139340911804791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544409573183045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869350796500417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313275499381694,0.0,0.4722939448948743,0.0,0.0,0.11671196504803352,0.0,0.0,0.2736528927096152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05260605831026029,0.0,0.0,0.1934657098677407,0.0,0.10914159530432807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413366659406275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079477708618892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529508063073577,0.0,0.04639360074571199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219614860175993,0.0,0.0,0.05638185618318005,0.0403045558131017,0.054239530491710986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061659876392647875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471137497707298,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blueu2,2019/01/03,"My son won’t let me put him to sleep He’s 3.  He always wants to play with me.  But when it comes to sleeping (either during a nap or for the night) it’s always my wife that has done this.  When I do it he becomes upset, starts yelling and pushing me away...

I’m pretty upset about this.  I’ve been trying to put him to sleep at night so that my wife will have more free time, but my results suck at best.

Am I doing something wrong?  He has a consistent schedule, but only wants mom to sleep with him.  I’ve told him stories, would put my hand over the covers of his waist, nothing.  What am I screwing up?",1.4396564065855415,2.9799143543307096,2.756821760916249,95.86124552612743,78.68503937007874,4.933142448103078,20.20687186828919,4.851557810540192,-0.3981433070866141,461,11,106,1,11,149,81,127,0.085,0.779,0.136,0.7879,0,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,5,8,2,2,4,0,13,7,6,1,0,13,20,8,0,3,5,4,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,8,4,1,0,0,2,1,5,1,5,0,0,3,2,16,4,16,13,3,17,0,0,0,1,14,5,2,1,7,68,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24208891518005105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667584563942492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066252766993708,0.0,0.0,0.15266401530273305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531135062747095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148868485873653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487550990098388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703751890738651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730314606362078,0.0,0.13958442280015812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063810268720982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799744448195334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4387189816101409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5823087139666062,0.0,0.0,0.1119915453056534,0.0,0.0,0.10296591546528036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482596318299869,0.0,0.0,0.13900484498507099,0.0,0.09876602061995646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160645117130358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333922043804618,0.15905092691502073,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeautyWithin1,2019/01/03,What do I put on TD1 form line 8 if my kids are under 18? Do I put zero on line 8 or do I put the same amount as line 1? My kids depend on me 100%. I’m confused what number to put down. ,-1.7547826086956526,-0.9897036521739118,1.977608695652176,101.366847826087,85.52173913043478,4.6000000000000005,13.673913043478262,3.1291,-1.5848086956521743,136,1,41,0,4,51,30,46,0.063,0.906,0.031,-0.3313,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,5,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,0,7,5,3,9,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,4,0,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JapHapPap,2019/01/03,"Is it normal for a mom/parent to worry about every little detail of their child's future? I'm wondering if my wife's behavior is normal or if this is something that needs to be explored more in depth. 

We have 2 boys. 16 and 13. Most of my wife's worries are about the older one. I always suspected he has aspergers syndrome but he wasn't diagnosed when we had him evaluated at 3 or at 9. He is very introverted, doesn't care about his appearance, has a few friends but never invites them over, has sensory issues, lives on the computer, and is insanely smart. If he is on the spectrum then he's very high functioning. 

My wife is so worried about him (not) going away to college, never having a serious relationship, struggling to find a job, etc. She has said numerous times that her biggest fear is that he'll end up back here after college and will live with us for the rest of his life. 

I don't have these same fears. I think he'll figure it out. Is this a normal mom thing or do we need to seek therapy?  ",4.195960591133005,5.098802266009859,5.585197044334979,80.84557881773401,70.67487684729066,8.952709359605912,28.29310344827586,9.23628265651192,2.318365517241379,792,28,158,16,14,267,131,203,0.122,0.8340000000000001,0.044,-0.9429,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,2,0,8,7,0,3,9,0,24,2,0,0,2,33,35,14,0,8,9,4,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,2,9,8,0,0,6,0,0,3,6,4,0,1,3,1,18,3,25,28,6,26,0,0,0,0,28,13,0,9,10,111,27,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598017397732712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966619693092145,0.0979379403581854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298599131219682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292755885461206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281002468636825,0.0,0.14204871309298828,0.0,0.0,0.10731282549532227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866482656486156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641181906989174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840401026296876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238602940080398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457102435380747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329388432812595,0.12639284199989997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996361087942065,0.0,0.1276559495325398,0.22493611932779767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983431466250981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888831504265112,0.1964677266612492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743800665467477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630768595063676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674530101090202,0.0,0.0,0.1211559003260374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805391912847808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331524302705202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565612612720671,0.0,0.0846174757780794,0.08161211344075363,0.0,0.0,0.07426916122320121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532077248619363,0.0,0.0,0.21018347103267945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812489532716285,0.0,0.38804440821239145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arv3nV,2019/01/03,"Trouble making friends Well he is not my son he is my nephew, he is 8 years old and struggles a lot making friends, I belive he overwhelms people with his enthusiasm to socialize and not just children his sister her mom and grandmother and sometimes me as well.

I'm really worry about him and try my best to be supportive but I don't want to be so soft on him I want him to overcome his feelings when someone doesn't want to be his friend. 

He grow up this far with another man who isn't his father and now my sister is with another guy, and my nephew often call's me by the new guy's name and calls the new guy by my name. 

All he want to do now is play games online so he can make new friends, and I am also a gamer sometimes (23yo no kids) and play with him in my spare time but I am starting to worry because it feel like he is just looking for anybody to connect and not everybody is ready to bound so quickly over and online game 

If anybody can give me and advise on what to do it would be appreciated",5.040908372827809,4.586848284360194,5.919632701421803,83.9395754344392,68.52606635071089,8.73949447077409,30.379541864139014,8.07648339933343,1.8843646129541856,792,27,172,9,12,262,111,211,0.096,0.7490000000000001,0.155,0.9478,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,14,14,0,2,4,0,21,0,0,3,1,41,35,22,0,6,8,7,3,1,4,1,0,0,0,6,5,17,0,1,2,4,0,1,7,3,2,0,0,4,25,11,24,30,3,18,0,1,1,0,45,6,0,3,12,115,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415317608000164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246912239814936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177057417803921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355632630521833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24044257388671064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906138882156428,0.08411038913654359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638491591653264,0.0,0.0,0.11294278683432125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34973048335065343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05751970333045079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886831379767687,0.0,0.0,0.100094659893689,0.0,0.0,0.2357684301802843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789059860491487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411295432507608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354378474693845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162309215084346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542448765390411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001669299155565,0.09975705463950443,0.0,0.2328871844529481,0.0,0.08333391614465123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308288977573348,0.0,0.0,0.13360504779310256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865261840132796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993479437435441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27777420415618426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21171702109147808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391325842472932,0.0,0.08363604491373247,0.0,0.0,0.07581791403606881
parenting,PhoenixTears14,2019/01/03,"My husband and I are at our wits’ end My four year old has autism and is a terrible sleeper. I know the two can go hand in hand but it’s beginning to become detrimental to the family, physically and emotionally. 


We’ve tried sleep meds and melatonin (per doctor recommendation), we’ve tried a night light, white noise,  weighted blanket, a weighted vest, black out curtains, a fan, body pillows.....I feel like there’s nothing left to try. 


He takes over an hour to fall asleep, and refuses to go to bed without someone laying with him. Attempts to get him in bed alone result in full blown meltdowns. With a three year old and a 9 month old also in the house, the cry it out method really isn’t an option. 


Like clockwork he wakes up between 0030 and 0100 and comes into our room because he’s realized he’s alone again. My husband always takes him back, as I still wake up at night to nurse the baby. Some nights he’s able to go back to sleep right away. Some nights, it’ll take him three hours. Which then screws the mornings up trying to get him out of bed and ready for school. 


My husband and I are beyond exhausted. As a stay at home mom, my patience is a tad better than my husband’s, but I think he’s starting to resent our son. We know it’s not his fault but there’s only so little sleep one can take. It seems like my husband is constantly irritated and his fuse is incredibly short. Everything about the situation gets him riled. 


I’m just looking for help. Maybe something we haven’t tried yet. Anyone who’s on the spectrum, or has a child on the spectrum that can offer some experienced advice? ",3.4975970695970666,5.31380768888889,4.194047619047621,86.57217032967036,73.69841269841271,7.004884004884005,25.448717948717945,7.748469712250963,1.2979304029304033,1262,42,253,17,26,402,179,315,0.07200000000000001,0.8320000000000001,0.096,0.8145,0,2,2,0,0,0,41.0,5,0,0,2,12,9,2,0,20,0,14,14,9,1,0,39,34,20,0,0,7,7,5,3,0,1,2,0,6,1,8,20,2,1,6,0,0,5,4,5,0,5,0,10,25,4,42,33,4,53,0,0,3,1,31,25,1,6,25,144,33,2,0.09151910435359532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943140957202382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957238278515232,0.0,0.07318779468662849,0.07615122626478292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639922856891998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598521116489392,0.14074508422147974,0.0,0.05578919656433625,0.10107566046769167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094121057962657,0.0,0.101657093431632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883560474531327,0.0,0.0988996390487687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052943872635517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367368130240272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029466742631134,0.08105876214795807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225146980709667,0.0,0.08627606659286538,0.0,0.046274809002584086,0.0653812664365902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434448641390616,0.0,0.15603724818820708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134332650829069,0.0,0.09180112367831504,0.0,0.1802557653371852,0.10560075883388936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059301264277347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943577466146664,0.0,0.0,0.13413483473593535,0.09172618549369288,0.0,0.0,0.07685299798159935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194324132688206,0.0,0.101657093431632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718606891537838,0.07304967595185374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343537919046784,0.0,0.0878150489111686,0.0,0.28810171454604205,0.0,0.06201571364303327,0.06960440286969627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058629481729513024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815681506607983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262221957763107,0.0,0.08331555538633835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287130779359883,0.2747555950687319,0.0,0.07754384012808231,0.07045587775029412,0.0,0.0,0.06477769310771977,0.09754718823662864,0.07308727495682775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752439071233441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058641746690315286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106773219215238,0.0,0.08940086670748917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289122742483425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822115073001104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787060526402915
parenting,lindamanthei,2019/01/03,LEGO alternatives My 8 year old looooves to build legos but hates playing with them. She got the Harry Potter great hall set for Christmas and she had it done in 3 hours and it has been sitting at our table since. We bought her the GoldieBlox and she just didn’t like it. I have heard of K’NEX but is there anything else out there? ,1.4636363636363647,4.0431743787878816,1.3941666666666668,99.76125,85.51515151515152,3.9060606060606062,18.85606060606061,5.148860815047168,-0.6509030303030299,263,7,57,1,8,77,57,66,0.053,0.795,0.152,0.8047,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,11,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,7,1,9,3,7,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,4,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279625263110882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477319035948054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838580958399863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27176795053922825,0.3746291132597843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354807304200816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346331355228695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600841308853406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565614296541949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28108488116292873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21881913264576006
parenting,Moxman73,2019/01/03,"Wisdom Teeth Removal Hello 

My daughter (16) needs to have her wisdom teeth removed. 

Any suggestions to help with the pain besides ice cream? 

How long did it take for your child to recover from this procedure? 

Thanks =)",2.490329670329668,5.27260535897436,2.316190476190478,88.38000000000002,97.97435897435898,5.305494505494505,23.52014652014652,6.868970318607317,1.4414146520146516,175,7,29,3,7,52,35,39,0.063,0.631,0.305,0.9129,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,1,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,3,6,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,1,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31071944716834154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30626204938077034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043574514196485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387984045164364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4861922454331277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435449619111089,0.0,0.0,0.4206680811105147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Renissancelady,2019/01/03,pretend When my 9 y/o pretends she plays the role of me. She has me and her stepfather as the kids. She talks very negatively about her birth father. However in therapy or anywhere else she praises her birth father. Should I be concerned or is this just a way of her to cope with the divorce?,3.0475862068965505,4.965218931034482,4.192620689655172,85.66444827586207,75.20689655172414,7.398620689655173,28.84137931034483,8.238735603445708,2.0417613793103446,230,10,46,4,5,75,45,58,0.048,0.8590000000000001,0.093,0.5574,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,7,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,3,34,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196569131139908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037775488247761,0.0,0.0,0.5744918860528946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144992109197446,0.0,0.3987495998079358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vegangoddess7,2019/01/03,"Anyone here raise their child raw vegan or would you? Im currently 5 months pregnant and I want to raise my child vegan, preferably raw vegan. I follow a few families raising their children raw and they all seem healthy but my boyfriend doesn’t think it’s a good idea. Anyone here raise their kids raw or what do you think about it? I’m trying to persuade him that it’s healthy, he’s not vegan but he’s ok with raising our child vegan, but he thinks being raw is too extreme. ",2.498020833333332,4.638550260416668,3.565833333333334,88.49583333333338,77.64583333333334,7.183333333333334,23.166666666666664,8.167268648758528,1.3178416666666668,379,12,77,7,9,122,59,96,0.0,0.8540000000000001,0.146,0.9111,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,4,0,4,2,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,1,18,12,7,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,4,10,2,3,0,0,0,0,16,0,0,3,2,41,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39611920570324544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670291161027717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23758219956585155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197622266585728,0.30596573830160434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22609271807751244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257866172984122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5444981813785814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192312639975502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707208336645352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20121736373203056,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,feni45,2019/01/03,"Neighborhood boys ages 6-10: Why the hell do all these kids just come over and break things? Rant My kids (M4&7) are a little messy, but they are generally pretty good about caring for their toys. They are rough and tumble kids, but not destructive. Some times the younger one will throw things if he gets frustrated, but we are working on that.

We have a small nerf arsenal and some power wheels(I pick them up and fix them when i see them so we havr a few cars), so naturally our house is kinda a hot spot. Cut to any time any of the neighborhood kids come over. Idk what it is, but today i watched one take a plastic golf club, and methodically go around the yard hitting things with it. Another time a different kid took a super soaker and i watched from my window as he full force wacked it into a rock until it exploded. ANOTHER time another different kid took my 4 year olds ride on and swung it across my yard, busting that as well (i sent that kid home, F that. Spoke to his parents about that one).

I thought my kids might be spoiled sometimes, but idk. I certainly dont remember going to friends houses when i was a kid and breaking their sh*t",4.629650000000002,5.8498096844444465,4.788597222222227,85.77756250000002,69.93333333333334,8.469444444444445,27.840277777777786,8.841846274778883,1.936027777777778,909,31,186,16,16,284,141,225,0.068,0.799,0.134,0.9677,4,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,7,3,9,10,4,0,13,0,13,0,0,1,2,34,27,21,0,1,8,1,2,0,1,2,0,1,4,10,15,16,0,0,2,6,0,10,2,4,1,3,6,6,24,6,20,17,5,34,1,0,3,0,28,11,1,5,11,114,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523025394955168,0.0,0.16974849171902426,0.3926186438964508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110626941722647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272508626584158,0.0,0.0,0.21502341410327988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26079720824157965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462749530221747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964269488094402,0.0,0.06520743286489858,0.0,0.14186340440592074,0.10468367770495676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519337611222067,0.0,0.0,0.28802513495921245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509117949461232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324023853232845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096581269937202,0.0,0.2537209650130029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858537285624414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697539221995252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138401036633966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945643343816436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234390683498335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938406650332475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487522098977132,0.0,0.0,0.09908422488873872,0.2911079980684367,0.0,0.11830412377716065,0.0,0.2773342793517388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221807631331547,0.0,0.11262050532657868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086227357792508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037275812169857
parenting,helenaseas,2019/01/03,"Is my mother in law as awful as I think or is my partner right and I am overreacting? Ok, so I’m a first time mum, and my mother in law has always been overbearing and opinionated but she’s got a million times worse since I had my baby.
One incident that stands out in my head was that when my baby was 3 months old she decided she wanted to take her out without me. She didn’t ask me about this, but just messaged my partner and said that’s what she was doing. 
This is my first baby and I had a traumatic birth so I wasn’t ready for that, also, at that time I wasn’t going out much so I’d be at a loss myself without my baby.
I explained this to my partner and he went on and on about how his mum was just trying to help and how I was being totally mental and unreasonable. He messaged his mum saying that I would go out with her and my baby too. She messaged back saying “I just want to take my grandchild out by myself without her, is that a problem “. Now instead of defending me, my partner sent her a grovelling message saying “it would really help helenaseas out if you let her come along with the baby as well”. I was so upset at this, it seemed so cowardly to me and he didn’t stand up for me at all, but he says I’m being stupid and his mum means well and that no one else would be upset by this, so I’m curious to see what people think.
There have been so many more incidents but this one stands out.",5.236795302013423,4.275303107382552,6.443548657718122,82.03867869127521,68.26174496644296,9.463422818791946,28.69211409395973,8.660442795831766,1.8742677852348992,1098,30,241,15,16,373,135,298,0.12,0.8079999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.9574,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,3,23,8,1,2,7,2,30,1,1,2,2,55,51,33,0,7,12,6,0,0,4,3,0,5,0,4,18,24,0,0,6,0,0,5,8,5,2,6,18,6,46,3,39,25,4,37,0,1,1,0,43,18,0,4,11,191,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990689009394022,0.103080278939162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581354370643016,0.0,0.0,0.09525810188808087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671392341376604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348804786840113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074901738263205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408107162294251,0.0,0.09908026259133057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713932684333282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607184198306146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667839077351026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559755089513572,0.0,0.134944510342161,0.0,0.0,0.12484456170793752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988819398304924,0.0,0.09106799313024837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999398939419252,0.0,0.25183824507464564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588462298700042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853895395602372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936239016982996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579509606313196,0.11784075768176255,0.3940657844419077,0.0,0.0,0.09871842343484302,0.11277810102930245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247699841286448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628865294911331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587579846790432,0.0,0.0,0.21671088756005424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410817940709307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613837929209994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227707387361521,0.11484044665547452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582553271288145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624699182446295,0.2640080152415123,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,c6h12o6_,2019/01/03,"Instead of ""I'm proud of you,"" I say ""You should be very proud of yourself."" I think this encourages them to develop intrinsic reward. Anyone else do this?",2.8929885057471267,5.468860827586205,4.048965517241381,83.2509195402299,78.65517241379311,8.004597701149425,26.90804597701149,8.841846274778883,2.498508045977012,120,5,22,3,3,39,22,29,0.0,0.624,0.376,0.9228,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35135609164682624,0.5148653690188766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197699791244538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3996040835536653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219784182193983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146108873169497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,superbakingsoda,2019/01/03,"Parents of children with ODD, what helps calm your child during an episode? Hey folks,
I work in child care part time. I've only worked there for a little bit while planning on going back to school and whatnot... ANYWAY.

There's a child there who has ODD, which I've never really encountered before. When he has an episode, there seems to be little knowledge on how to deal (please no judgements on that)... I'm just trying to be proactive and find some ways to help the child cope. If possible, I remove him from the room away from the other kids so he can calm down without the audience, but sometimes even after that it can take almost an hour to calm him down.

I just would like to get some ideas to try and see what works. His parents don't seem very proactive, unfortunately, and haven't communicated with us on what works for them at home (it's a whole other complicated situation there).

Thanks in advance!",4.779031830238727,6.352862270114943,4.685172413793104,85.31168435013265,69.97701149425288,7.192926613616269,25.453580901856764,7.61054688173877,1.1868732095490722,721,21,140,8,13,222,114,174,0.051,0.812,0.138,0.9305,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,1,6,13,6,0,0,10,0,9,0,0,1,1,22,18,10,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,6,11,6,0,0,5,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,9,6,27,15,5,24,0,0,1,0,21,13,0,6,8,92,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811903214952884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959170922476906,0.10606123879993697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737002244279725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058608358092335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063092613338804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220189553776022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110282364329288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260674024423154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206380752944101,0.0,0.07838996738117816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490590239983348,0.0,0.13835710077414382,0.0,0.13583529313469894,0.0,0.0,0.15570850468032368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738663647122932,0.2764883169502312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638170660772904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490354579877002,0.0,0.0,0.3063144551818183,0.14936697776510152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140797980093082,0.0,0.15549767106811502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836280850342361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959460684743538,0.10991399234657916,0.2511363310330441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504141266332874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641833257883693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370774199011573,0.0,0.0,0.12698930753225413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042929241881502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729362698418048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591528301645336,0.0,0.0,0.11380839351668838,0.0,0.10948404767494298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399621726155274,0.0,0.1329615820905941,0.0,0.4016647248403951,0.0,0.0,0.09798297675693048,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angelroot20,2019/01/03,"Raw parenting So my daughter is 3 and boy does she think she's the mama. She is bossy at all the game ( makes me not want to play), only I can have 2 colors or play-do, and than mommy can't play games with her or paint cause I use ""her colors"" shhhhhhesshhh, I wonder why at school the teacher says it's not that she's not social she just likes to be with me the teacher. Yea cause she's bossy and the other kids problaby think she's being there mom. By the way she cooks, cleans, is overly potty trained ( lol yes a such thing) and she do her own hair. Now this were today got even more interesting. I got put on time out. Yes me the mom in a tiny chair on time out. I'm in my office she comes in she says mom your to loud sister woke up. I go sorry baby momma didn't realize. She says why were you so loud, I say cause.... Before I get the next word out she goes cause why mama I continue to say the story she goes you know mom I think you need a time out take a seat and breath. I was in shock and went to time out. She times me and gave me a hug after and said your better now you can go finish in your office. Lol I got there and couldn't stop laughing. Thought I share anyone else with a ruling bossy tot please share some stories ;)",-0.6480355160932271,1.48180328301887,1.3425360710321887,99.31944228634852,91.64150943396228,4.02330743618202,12.699778024417313,5.5289334501034215,-1.3108801331853497,950,13,228,6,34,312,141,265,0.037000000000000005,0.835,0.127,0.9702,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,7,0,1,9,10,0,0,15,5,15,4,2,6,1,44,38,13,0,3,6,8,1,1,0,0,0,8,1,2,5,18,1,1,7,5,0,5,6,1,0,0,12,11,44,9,27,23,4,35,0,0,2,1,47,16,0,4,14,133,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821016513188938,0.09995287594663213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300900537139626,0.0,0.0,0.08627623283259532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008483918641045,0.0,0.0840318416514655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536783504873716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149162708204716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443174006242637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096654888355381,0.0,0.11088134922320823,0.0,0.2340621543238923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053611665293554635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047658657231038765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511627696981842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570038017435572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233308256506313,0.0,0.0,0.10374695681967842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419218992594648,0.0,0.0,0.1083192186825907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070820772373381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806604059290397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279366340236334,0.38788370508701614,0.0,0.0987271641297008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944130623252527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920073851979648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155728832646839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334646728987812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480877566984893,0.18752087922578708,0.0,0.07744486739485443,0.2844148542982889,0.0,0.09246726397138064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425303668807307,0.0,0.0,0.057538307818843615,0.07743171307614644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043106953456392,0.26407473371524515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579026700295928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,turnip_for_what_,2019/01/03,"What do you do with the kid’s piggy bank money? Currently counting the piggy bank money, and it looks like there is going to be more than $50 total. Kid is only 2.5 years old. What do you guys do with the money? Bank account? Spend some & save some? Any age appropriate ideas?",0.8212499999999991,3.2852086250000028,2.4907142857142865,91.45428571428572,87.75,4.628571428571429,15.142857142857142,6.18269132825596,-0.4891857142857141,217,4,44,2,7,71,40,56,0.0,0.8859999999999999,0.114,0.7691,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,9,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,8,4,5,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,5,25,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4023388312570273,0.0,0.2525189732741081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103693389540665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676777592796891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191894257257211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814144031628615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118259500797652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896512095270436,0.0,0.0,0.2824152554175493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391260877144508
parenting,dont_get_it_twisted,2019/01/03,"When do you think kids should be given their own tablets? My daughter is 2. My MIL gifted her an iPad. I think she is way too young to be given her own screen, but my husband is now wondering if we shouldn’t just give it to her. Sort of a “well since it’s here” type attitude. 

What have been your experiences, good or bad, with giving your young kids tablets?",2.5900456621004544,4.159126109589046,3.0563698630137,94.82007990867581,75.57534246575342,6.510502283105023,21.755707762557076,7.1686216300943375,0.33132146118721506,278,7,64,3,6,86,56,73,0.06,0.815,0.125,0.6381,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,3,1,0,6,3,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,12,17,4,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,13,2,4,10,2,5,0,0,1,0,15,0,0,4,4,43,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519836489603169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29521040898385603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5790126221995501,0.0,0.25312874569992355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496453964578801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867521555069125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23954838037582846,0.0,0.0,0.27134718157406545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272804657590889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SageGrapefruit,2019/01/03,"Last day of maternity leave - words of wisdom needed! It’s my last day of maternity leave before our little one goes to daycare for the first time and before I start an entirely new role. Feeling emotional about going from spending the entire day with my LO to not seeing him until just before he goes to bed. Also starting a new job and have jitters about that on top of it all.

Any words of wisdom or tips to make the transition easier would be so welcome! ",5.250037453183523,6.252477842696631,6.237696629213485,76.7611891385768,68.32584269662922,8.629962546816481,27.192883895131093,8.841846274778883,2.124459176029964,364,11,65,6,6,121,65,89,0.024,0.7809999999999999,0.195,0.9502,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,1,13,10,6,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,5,3,16,8,1,16,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,12,42,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419674981668148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072378472262775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531847159560462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434687995628063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969288393380746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976249237148175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100354629566246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008921311764449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616718723732006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894148091456041,0.0,0.3759488557795169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17792771495141002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850000029374735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163329821790226,0.0,0.3429114826315827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029622904513584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414652576653637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513076686323732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351685288615273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261093947896245,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fizzy_sister,2019/01/03,"Just got great exam results My daughter has struggled with ADD since Grade 3, when she was diagnosed. Even with meds studying is difficult for her, which also led to self-confidence issues too. We've just received her school-leaver exam results, and she did so well! I'm just so proud of how hard she worked, and hope this gives a little encouragement to any other ADD parents. ",7.640285714285718,7.875851457142858,6.743571428571433,77.8839285714286,63.0,9.285714285714286,33.214285714285715,8.841846274778883,2.7189999999999994,302,11,53,4,4,92,58,70,0.079,0.7140000000000001,0.207,0.9048,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,11,7,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,4,0,14,8,7,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,3,1,6,5,6,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,1,33,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18826735688487772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009543139347165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389489690775373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549439766075954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22583879632952966,0.0,0.0,0.18828894820322406,0.259554232064643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21089239525402675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23382774769697845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24572001496697501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492785261255257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359552787998495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615014207070936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261408921252394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382602255383612,0.0,0.0,0.2455971008472893,0.0,0.0,0.19474399584272026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24611480250162246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21167317783610448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139044640146595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rolkien29,2019/01/03,"Does it get better?!?!? I have a little over a year old little one, and it has been so rough on me and my spouse. We went from a blissful marriage to fighting all the time. Being at home feels stressful, and I can never really relax. While we love our baby I must admit I was way happier before having my child. 

Part of me thinks no way will I have another one. Part thinks hold out another year and see if it gets better. My question to you all is if you have felt this way(that you didn't want another child) did it change as he/she got older and easier to take care of?",1.5362634822804324,3.4157571101694906,3.293636363636363,90.55529275808941,79.59322033898306,6.324807395993839,19.201848998459173,7.348242739294969,0.3690237288135592,441,10,95,6,11,147,81,118,0.09,0.73,0.18,0.9313,0,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,3,3,0,2,1,7,1,1,4,0,14,1,0,0,4,22,28,10,0,4,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,8,0,1,6,1,0,1,3,2,0,2,7,4,16,5,11,18,4,16,0,0,1,1,14,6,0,3,7,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45244764564398704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238677755529093,0.0,0.0,0.2544078216272625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664192368600618,0.0,0.15215063357179193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586458772443934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272360562845546,0.0,0.13809714523865513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028807183182472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503214897059605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427090804973475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883062765001739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981011281909216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092878736474457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092297458831375,0.0,0.19492274085847994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115027619723421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111993823262682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213970623324977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461205384101256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647541420725884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814052928968068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18431796269249326,0.0,0.0,0.08386708731344401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483330270524142,0.3424911960422414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13332971695896806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18524064382264493
parenting,chambers11,2019/01/03,"Spots on 8 month old's thighs with white halo. Any experience/ideas? I can't get to see a doctor until tomorrow morning, so I thought I'd reach out to the reddit community just to see if anyone has experienced anything like this with their bubs.

Child is 8 month old boy, currently being treated for ear infection/throat infection. Has been given Cephalix (spelling) liquid. Today (2nd day of treatement), I noticed he's got these red spots on his inner thighs with a white halo around them.

Any ideas on what this may be?  Much appreciated!

[https://imgur.com/a/L7LBgaM](https://imgur.com/a/L7LBgaM)",5.8248694869486926,9.269963386138617,5.048334833483351,75.22238523852387,73.55445544554456,7.237083708370839,26.013501350135016,8.296473431620573,2.171685148514852,486,17,74,9,11,146,77,101,0.0,0.916,0.084,0.7793,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,8,5,3,0,0,10,14,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,7,6,2,14,7,1,15,0,0,5,0,6,6,0,2,10,39,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27545718053873786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161496541395016,0.0,0.1666664401757358,0.18029626893242434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306162760276437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072999111528224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581452256356604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619832069760721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4572675701350926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989468224039456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32331795065629243,0.0,0.1488841994793348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305838320942709,0.4250461744643632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322783295025237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078765087878152,0.0,0.0,0.19197649446984932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dezzaroomama,2019/01/03,"Wanted to share a little 'win' with everyone! My 4 year old was cleaning up the living room while I did the kitchen and made dinner.  The living room has gotten a little out of control worth the holidays and had a lot of toys all over everywhere.  His mess. But a big job for a little guy.

He did it without complaint.  No arguing at all. And that was enough of a win, but he really has never had any trouble chipping in.  So not the point of the story.

Anyway I noticed I didn't hear him anymore and I went looking for him.  I found him on the floor in his bedroom.  He has dropped his Lego set on the floor and it shattered into a million pieces.  He didn't come running into the living room crying.  He didn't throw a fit or lose his temper.  He simply went and got the directions (which I had no idea he he saved) and sat down and put it back together.  

And when he was done, he put it all away and started cleaning the living room again.

If I hadn't have gone looking for him, I'd have never known about any of it.


It is a win.  I can't call it a parenting win, because it's all on him.  But honesty I was just so proud of him! 

And I knew I wanted to share somewhere because I wanted to brag.  But I know my friends don't have kids so they just don't understand why it's such a big deal.  He is turning out awesome!  ",1.3258695652173922,3.0360348043478282,3.1235710144927573,92.3315739130435,79.57971014492753,5.7203478260869565,22.99652173913044,6.55674776486733,0.4987140869565208,1010,33,224,9,25,337,136,276,0.078,0.755,0.16699999999999998,0.9768,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,7,11,14,2,0,22,0,25,2,0,2,6,46,45,22,0,4,10,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,8,2,11,17,2,1,6,2,1,8,13,5,0,1,23,3,26,9,29,22,7,46,0,1,2,0,32,27,0,3,9,154,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091085779815098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733256315322725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115692962928284,0.09097373379983033,0.0,0.14424238104582446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080859655717345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191431352249276,0.0,0.0,0.13269566830284746,0.0,0.0,0.12995890333684626,0.0,0.1219732820100831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107306694067554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224672518488115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305107862949178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972173045529306,0.09140666223690797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946239874104486,0.0,0.0,0.11714633334655475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334491632309375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355853858993225,0.0,0.0,0.11740525398277793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502054409151442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35573563202160713,0.4178825604633754,0.0,0.19870261810621428,0.13235956828438047,0.0,0.10058364614181588,0.0,0.11194857834539174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824972283485896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469767658300724,0.12414732555368042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313701877333124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184198614311217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23787014566091966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579295423617681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374102216849479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868822114273262,0.0,0.12316575788710304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20934839796532265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21935066973649173,0.1067571318851962,0.0,0.0,0.11404742874567655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761883025999011
parenting,Think2Panic,2019/01/03,"Dealing with attitude from kids I babysit? I'm(21f) not a parent but I have a part time babysitting. One 9(f), 8(m), and 4(f). The 8 and 4yo are angels. Sometimes I have trouble but mostly pretty easy going kids. 

The 9yo is a... troublesome. She constantly gives attitude, she wines, and tries with reverse phsycology with me. Always gives me trouble when I tell her to do homework or clean up after herself. I've tried asking nicely, setting timers, taking things away, and time out. It's like she doesn't remember any repercussions that she has gotten before. 

I'm just asking for some tips and tricks to get her to be a little more easy going. ",3.174318034906268,5.968691512605044,3.647226890756304,85.21779573367812,79.25210084033614,6.01447963800905,24.27989657401422,7.321109707123232,1.3374558500323213,506,18,88,7,13,158,87,119,0.1,0.73,0.17,0.8847,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,6,0,8,1,0,0,0,17,18,9,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,9,1,0,1,1,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,13,2,12,16,4,12,1,0,0,0,16,4,0,3,6,58,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283087759469644,0.0,0.0,0.1330768268158427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658899869721882,0.0,0.18385846270501788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651892334067336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114728259807048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20174918645424425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224065218595722,0.37544994414710975,0.22243180494212048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560490761776347,0.1961341401177041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260552157157418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21729208284602966,0.21191465931786035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908845267736267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22168014892520008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354374645390449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713553920212433,0.0,0.17104286312635894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000863580145008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282183968254861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26572315881745284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lisnewbs,2019/01/03,"Early Potty Training I’m really interested in early potty training. We bought an OXO potty a few months ago and have just been sitting our daughter on it once every couple of days when it seems like it’s time to poop (we read stories and play with her favorite bath toys, she only sits on it for 2-3 minutes). The last couple of days though she’s taken to it like a champ. Last night I put her on and she peed like right away. This morning, same thing. It seemed like it made her quite happy. So far we’ve had five poos and four pees. There’s a little clapping celebration we do when she goes, if her dad’s not home we call to celebrate with him on the phone. Today and yesterday we’ve been doing ‘burials at sea’ where we make a big deal of flushing it down the potty and saying goodbye. 

She’s 10 months old now. I’m wondering if I should start trying to do it more often (like three or four times a day). This kid is becoming so difficult to change. She just wiggles so much. If we could transition her to a potty early and we could avoid the diaper chases it’d be such a relief. Anyone have advice who’s done something similar? What were your results?",3.326282051282053,4.713955901709403,4.456923076923079,86.26307692307695,73.3162393162393,7.08034188034188,23.256410256410252,7.594959193182576,0.967189743589744,907,24,184,11,18,297,145,234,0.023,0.84,0.13699999999999998,0.9781,0,1,1,0,0,0,24.0,8,1,0,2,13,12,0,1,12,0,16,2,2,3,0,35,26,17,1,6,7,2,0,5,0,1,0,1,2,1,15,16,0,1,3,4,1,1,1,2,0,4,8,1,23,10,20,13,4,37,0,0,0,0,29,13,0,8,26,118,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317373089794369,0.11950323261801506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426410198029196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266608721152847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888992108090762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376587339177829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261385152182754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21527377691407987,0.29833514757000795,0.0,0.26082891580912465,0.13898586732905574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796009209252527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358542692084715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351051574110685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522802617720175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21978051859336076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293131248681069,0.13511763817337655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275629383843487,0.08998845496109531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21521225658345214,0.0,0.09910277012002608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651248930380354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414631420447843,0.14357101540210387,0.0,0.10253105448136432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135523894911833,0.0,0.14338979072512434,0.13484907864383586,0.0,0.08636440135369683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512922075679485,0.0,0.10720838767100986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454566491850736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378532308755474,0.0,0.0,0.09542104963731148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956349874169091,0.0,0.13245269152199116,0.0,0.15722061823743988,0.0,0.12778657820257594,0.0,0.0,0.09152890365195117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619851011952892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stephwash,2019/01/03,"The little ones are awesome too ...but my first year, out of state college student made the Deans List for her first semester!! ",4.593478260869566,6.935312913043482,3.7732608695652203,88.49293478260874,72.04347826086956,6.339130434782609,28.89130434782609,7.1686216300943375,1.5856260869565215,99,4,18,1,2,29,21,23,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.6619,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,13,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7145738435881698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4209917391765967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3974532415671367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846308608859961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704928305958707
parenting,Throwawaythrow1515,2019/01/03,"Is it possible for a 3 year old have/show signs of ADHD? I know they say that it’s not usually diagnosable until they reach school ages. That a lot of kids just act that way. 

I’m just wondering if kids can show signs of it. I’ve done some research on the subject and am wondering if these things are pretty common for a 3 year old or not? 

-	will look at you when you tell him to take care of something in front of him like he has NO IDEA what you’re trying to say but you can tell he is honestly trying to process what you’re asking him to do
-	can’t sit/focus on stuff like eating dinner and reading bed time stories
-	constantly interrupts people’s talking, even when told he needs to wait his turn he keeps going
-	doesn’t understand the concept of strangers. We have to tell him every time when we go to the store that he can’t talk to everyone he sees. He will say hi and ask for hugs to any stranger. Even after telling him not to 5 minutes ago. 
-	he’s constantly running from one thing to the next and has a hard time focusing on what he’s doing when he needs to do something 

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parenting,skkew,2019/01/03,"My mom lets my [24m] brother of 2 years old watch Youtube Kids and today I felt scared My mom sometimes gives him the cellphone because the only thing he wants to do and will calm him down is the ""red button"" (Fun fact: we are brazilian but he learns english in school and he actually says red button in English). I understand her. She plays with him all the time but she has things to do. She is a great mother but she is really oblivious about this subject.

Now, I've told her time and time again that I seriously hate that app. It's unsupervised and most of the content is just nuts. I don't live with them so the last time I was here she agreed with me and deleted it. Now the app is at it again. 

Anyway, today I read him a book and then I told him I'd read it more later. I needed to write something for uni. He left and came back mad at my room with a kids knife (not really sharp but that's besides the point) and said he was going to cut me. I got really scared and told my mom I was deleting the app.

She asked him where he saw that and he said he watched the vampires do it on the cellphone. 

I've been the last two hours so pissed at this and almost crying because I fucking hate that app. I've also been downloading alternatives like PBS kids and other kids games. 

Hopefully he will forget about this thing. 

I'm not really sure if this is the right sub. I just needed to vent and maybe you guys can help me with out on how to deal with this with her.",1.2681798245614004,3.290156651315794,2.529763157894738,94.97400877192983,81.17105263157895,5.632280701754388,19.014912280701754,6.742157984588678,-0.05090403508771946,1138,27,259,12,30,365,154,304,0.135,0.795,0.07,-0.9733,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,1,0,16,16,6,2,16,0,21,2,1,1,3,48,42,24,0,5,9,5,2,1,0,2,0,3,1,5,19,24,0,0,3,5,0,2,3,9,0,1,14,10,38,7,27,25,3,34,0,0,5,1,51,14,2,4,19,161,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.10153058293947992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041836489996056,0.0,0.0,0.08320284082868279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097265799372357,0.0,0.0,0.08000234800105842,0.0,0.1268468236152669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899703315086785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428592601757848,0.0,0.1072633665413006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989722550359824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961857201254788,0.0,0.09980715581744312,0.05912981520091733,0.0,0.08321238289191336,0.11470734924106285,0.0,0.10301854541949723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054410826382197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973757104207055,0.0,0.0,0.10333779150496904,0.10246101700439908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696172335904,0.0,0.0,0.11304260453890035,0.10639062192089008,0.0,0.0508299658064649,0.0,0.09187153431375007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045247900438704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365560356171566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542925599281818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917522154471318,0.0,0.0,0.07912909628906918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983538997776906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20814153882402087,0.0,0.2666094507749982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885182387942507,0.19793670287155665,0.08273886261997909,0.20832961399564412,0.10529667994115582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800970873217727,0.10290080561177384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805893240412022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073638689789923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426723396548808,0.0,0.197240465382713,0.2982515289845724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163451589788804,0.10831203043703704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061367029390180065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700003224687477
parenting,Cachecash,2019/01/03,"How many certified copies of your child's birth certificate do you have? My children were born in a different state across the country. I am just now ordering my 3 year old daughter's birth certificate which needs to be done online. It costs $15 for the first copy and $5 for additional copies. I figure I might as well order a few and have my husband keep one in his lock box, one in mine, and maybe another in my important document file folder. Maybe I should order 1 or 2 more since it's cheaper ordering it in bulk? I'm just curious how many extras everyone else has? ",5.5115413533834605,5.850259552631581,6.287744360902256,78.98921052631579,67.50877192982456,10.724812030075187,31.19799498746867,10.608840637214634,3.2086731829573942,455,17,91,12,7,150,82,114,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.6946,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,6,1,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,0,14,13,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,12,1,11,8,3,18,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,2,7,57,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286469814974535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22781837557029103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231433384665597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821548224413235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20835843792567907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547528256515874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381501555233735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442141871522424,0.43812594125900256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313191659478303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168311129690693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288093412163836,0.0,0.29551593483749244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180375220469443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960553184422204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041861351850166
parenting,HorribleHarley,2019/01/03,Do I Tell My Ex I Am Pregnant? So I'm early in my pregnancy it's my first and it's the reason why I'm making a lot of changes to my life. I'm debating whether I should tell the father because he and I do not have a good history and I have a past but he's so much worse then me by a large margin I know for a fact that this child would just be a possession to him and he's got a temper to put it mildly. I'm just wondering if I should tell him but at the same time I feel like the kid would be safer if the Dad did not know.,0.11548387096774347,0.9700589354838698,2.854064516129032,96.68609677419356,80.61290322580646,6.572903225806452,19.65806451612903,7.1686216300943375,0.01908645161290368,404,9,110,5,10,143,71,124,0.08800000000000001,0.85,0.062,-0.4625,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,12,0,12,1,0,2,1,26,22,12,0,6,9,3,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,1,15,2,8,14,3,8,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,4,6,72,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650553193961706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21953431168143173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049310563475351,0.14825615708425605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652096333793255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740624241562527,0.1659769864420572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22810101878967756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658129747443407,0.1013864073147427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643063803216352,0.0,0.0,0.13852478779830107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255501616330147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810643601235786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862030348645533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21337063112715765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5441589293263466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210097050131306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872593569180485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505239810474698,0.0,0.0,0.2114860689946623,0.2948401199881967,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ciaracurtis90,2019/01/03,"Apparently I’m still pretty though XD So.. since maybe the 29th or so, I’ve been kinda sickly. It started with a growing tooth ache that was EXTREME New Year’s Eve. I took wayyy too many Tylenol and ended up with severe stomach pain the past week. I mostly slept yesterday since my SO was home to care for my rambunctious 6 year old. Today was just him and I.. I tried to get it together to play with him, but obviously we have watched too much YouTube. 

.

Anyways, I’m not big on the toy channels. He’s never seen Ryan’s Toy Review, but today I let it go. My dear, sweet boy looks at me and says, ‘You used to look like that, but now you’re just old, mom’ (Talking about Ryan’s mom) I said ‘EXCUSE ME!?’ He says I’m still pretty, just old. Sooooo, maybe there’s hope?? ",1.1162500000000009,3.2052845859872647,2.3668113057324867,95.57085390127388,82.12101910828025,5.198885350318472,19.366640127388536,6.322622252153567,-0.14906337579617854,588,15,133,5,16,188,103,157,0.035,0.782,0.183,0.9747,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,0,15,7,0,0,4,0,6,6,3,1,2,21,21,11,0,1,8,2,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,1,5,7,0,0,0,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,8,8,14,6,12,12,2,25,0,0,4,0,14,4,0,4,19,66,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424703435722185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166211411652944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879249615508465,0.0,0.07483148218977738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207642850602205,0.13077869562519878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464219196999813,0.0,0.06432764364354822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22114041934734774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349340369202636,0.2645617929966662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30842221970072864,0.0,0.0,0.09679310053194484,0.0,0.1015525461903152,0.12716836390510486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41449868998380335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010688773044558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569456356940334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679128374576301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252489696213896,0.2094196203222144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148750390613732,0.0,0.2178386954328021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319718549967776,0.0,0.21030475137453372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583190554417893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293657752521701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24961681889648304,0.0,0.14629097104241093,0.08939574909997153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137211922208206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561827779878416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958320274671645
parenting,XgothikaX,2019/01/03,"Is it just me? I am a new mum, I gave birth to identical twin boys 10 weeks prematurely last year, unfortunately one of our boys passed away when he was 3 weeks old. 

My surviving son is now 8 months old and is thriving, however, I often find myself getting angry or upset when he cry’s and won’t calm down, from the moment he wakes up I can’t wait for him to go to bed just to get some peace and quiet.

I’m due to go back to work soon as I can’t afford not to but I really don’t feel ready to, my SO doesn’t understand this and just thinks I’m worried how he will cope looking after DS. Is it just me who feels this way? Is this normal?",2.1559285714285714,2.7912941642857163,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142859,75.21428571428571,7.6,21.142857142857142,7.908726449838941,0.5568714285714291,493,10,120,7,10,170,97,140,0.063,0.8640000000000001,0.073,0.3039,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,12,2,0,1,2,0,13,1,1,1,0,21,26,11,0,1,7,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,6,4,0,1,5,0,0,3,6,1,0,1,2,4,13,1,16,22,1,24,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,3,17,71,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19689312999898195,0.1611424789734751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301972115869415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119246289260442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915385297886367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189780304464709,0.0,0.23820113386155195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082337069043546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598174287650714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672727106058923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20239909451942226,0.0,0.0,0.20532911549551966,0.0,0.0,0.4398062377359394,0.0,0.14200660558803954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425264660692054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428073151232411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816446046113205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634286993073416,0.3362006576907228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256574930043745,0.21282333711344567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349529302242646
parenting,th3broker,2019/01/03,"I Work Hard & I Feel Successful, But My Son Thinks I'm A Lazy Bum I got into ecommerce about 5 years so. I began by spending a lot of time chatting and developing a network with Chinese suppliers via Alibaba. I also had to work really hard to learn and fully utilize Ebay and Amazon's selling platforms. About 2 years in, I took to a few trips to Guangdong and Fujian to meet with the suppliers of my larger items to establish the dropshipping part of the business. It's a much better deal for heavy items that are expensive to ship. So I've been focusing more and more on it since. Looking back, there were a lot of ups and downs, but because I put a lot of effort in and made relatively low risk purchases, I feel happy with what I have accomplished.

I earn enough to take care of everyone, take my wife out to dinners once in awhile, buy my son a lego set every so often, and I even have a little bit of saving at the end of each month. The best part is the amount of time I spend working have steadily decrease as I have iron out a the major logistical issues, and maintain a healthy professional relationship with my suppliers. If I want I can expand my business and earn a bigger salary, but to be honest, I'm happy with I have now, even though I wouldn't consider myself rich by any mean. I live a very moderate lifestyle.

So what is my problem exactly? Well, my situation allows me to sleep in a bit later than most, I almost never have to change out of sweatpants, and I keep very current with the NFL. GO NINERS!!! (...yeah yeah....I know what you're thinking and I don't care)... And while these habits are not the worst, imo, afterall I do fulfill all of my adult responsibilities, I don't think my son feels the same way. He gets up at 7, go through morning routine with my wife, then takes the school bus to school (First grade). Where am I while all this is taking place? sleeping or half awake (I have tried and failed to be a morning person). In light of these events, I can't help but think that I'm lazy bum, my appearance does fit the image. How can I preach the difficulties of life, and force a hard working mentality into him while I'm in my pjs? He doesn't understand now, but by the time he does, it might be too late.

BTW if you are considering getting into ecommerce, feel free to ask me anything.",4.786825741142447,5.410543752711501,5.607338394793928,82.2304580621837,69.17353579175705,8.662935647143891,28.815690527838033,8.745826893841286,2.0384715256688355,1814,62,369,29,30,594,248,461,0.069,0.8009999999999999,0.13,0.9876,2,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,0,1,0,13,19,17,0,1,30,1,29,4,2,3,4,71,63,35,0,5,9,5,7,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,11,29,1,1,12,1,8,6,7,5,1,2,7,9,45,13,62,51,23,54,1,2,1,0,18,25,0,11,21,244,56,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898023577879458,0.0,0.0,0.07171769613386418,0.0,0.09716909954224537,0.0,0.06098601314150146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379964966551504,0.0,0.0838394335352952,0.0,0.0,0.06895899258715729,0.0,0.05466857778520395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411445725256157,0.07931537177629068,0.1958163932249321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18287108660026574,0.0,0.09487038559235587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245695761450932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569605290431632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794305621259078,0.09266423025328437,0.0,0.1184666332652842,0.0,0.07555993428873801,0.0856938389528407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138121007251845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628243498130234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370902368204297,0.0,0.1019353203999986,0.0,0.07172592103080813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19093373917936515,0.24100912080610296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060111143793840575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360344596639718,0.0,0.07971240759305663,0.0,0.0,0.049286217359015776,0.0,0.1011638384287257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633441948345953,0.0,0.08988371253597842,0.07918978145027494,0.0,0.0753092777261646,0.0,0.0,0.22873020438880806,0.0,0.08485813280181169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768867218555208,0.0,0.0,0.09037714414548692,0.09513714707589373,0.0,0.0,0.07158235174354086,0.0,0.06592570016327258,0.0,0.06916735463753501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550711551324294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19423111457144032,0.0,0.0,0.07830580752120002,0.09369733897497334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581240529804875,0.0,0.0901539649204108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745181110001904,0.0,0.0,0.09628360739721503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152349657083494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418487702189949,0.1008049665224091,0.17949111471923648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269715175573886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298553187947577,0.08811092178878167,0.0,0.15688077121637398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963865854625696,0.060887370263450015,0.0,0.0,0.09336086615743798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147992089356555,0.052896054060279626,0.07118443757072973,0.0,0.0,0.08063380130747723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611547356620904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155029781623512
parenting,antchandler1,2019/01/03,"Relationship failing after birth of first child I’m looking for advice or anything to help really. My SO is unbearable to live with and she only seems to take things out on me, I work 60+ hours a week to support us through her maternity even though she hasn’t had any money the whole time we have been in a relationship, I keep asking her to speak to a doctor because of her mood swings and quick temper and stubbornness over minor issues and finding and picking fault in every single thing I do. I can’t even go to the gym as much because she thinks I work enough so going to the gym is me wanting to spend more time away from them when really it is for my own sanity. She seems to be ok for a day then absolutely flips over minor things or anytime I stand up to her when she kicks off on me. I don’t know what to do anymore as I just can’t take it and I’m extremely unhappy, she says she won’t have post natal depression because she is fine with everyone else it’s just me that she is horrible too and nobody else.

TL:DR any advice for a new father who’s girlfriend has turned on him since she gave birth?

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parenting,Tinytoshi,2019/01/03,For babies that got a Docband/helmet We live in the U.S. and our insurance won't cover the cost. $3500 out of pocket is a little much for us to afford. Were you able to use your HSA to cover the expenses since it is a medical device?,2.0585999999999984,3.3524682599999984,4.388999999999999,85.85950000000003,76.4,7.4,20.5,8.07648339933343,0.8629999999999995,183,4,39,3,4,64,41,50,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,1,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,8,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,27,7,0,0.3567724537796987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853435230715343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575797261738717,0.3150366130618329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594107128172528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622688042927439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29512586055137635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4291533336633752,0.3081368500708015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kaderra,2019/01/03,"How much say should parents have over their kids hairstyle? My 11 year old is the youngest of my 4 kids. She wants an undercut style, which basically means cutting the sides and leaving the top long. 

The dilemma is that she has such long and beautiful hair. She has been asking for this style since she was 9 but I'm afraid that she will hate it once it's done. It's going to take so long to grow back out and I don't think this style will fit her face. I'm not a strict parent and know that being too strict can lead to rebellion but I don't want her to make this kind of mistake. I also am worried about the judgment. We go to church and I don't know what people will think. 

My husband doesn't like the way it looks. It's not a sexist thing for him. We have 2 boys and he doesn't allow them to have long hair. He is a traditional kind of guy. I'm more open to it but have my concerns. 

How much say do you guys have over your kids hairstyle at this age? Would you draw the line at your daughter shaving her hair? ",1.3172325581395334,3.1339692232558183,2.2136627906976756,98.33863372093023,80.02325581395348,5.230232558139536,19.587209302325586,5.985473137389443,-0.35597209302325616,793,19,189,5,20,248,121,215,0.105,0.861,0.034,-0.9213,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,4,2,2,8,7,2,1,11,0,27,4,4,5,0,30,44,13,0,5,5,4,3,1,0,5,0,2,0,6,16,10,0,0,5,0,0,4,7,4,0,0,3,6,25,3,18,35,3,22,1,0,1,0,32,9,0,0,9,118,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224656990752516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121850456212875,0.0,0.0,0.10792887668531696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363794433792573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954068081004213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779587390293731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385773407167067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29232857921430777,0.1542773719875256,0.0,0.0,0.14862193835494994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857325126722841,0.0,0.0,0.4968599577453304,0.1178678145376684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369199808948278,0.0,0.0,0.1528941804151353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20636283960563995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472851649683534,0.14947978945270796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117083623981598,0.0,0.0,0.0973085826801336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324126038593176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610799612381716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105533937027431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324955247450067,0.17987520863438336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557700400266606,0.1114119579803108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425433185178668,0.0,0.09970836410469418,0.0,0.0,0.09038782484471004
parenting,el_wd,2019/01/03,"Update to Delayed Language Toddler [Original Post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/96ln8p/delayed_language_studies/)

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I am posting this update for any parents that come to /r/Parenting looking for resources like I did.  So many times you find parents looking for answers or direction that find posts with similar problems, but never how things developed or improved over time. 

​

So as a general background, our son was diagnosed with delayed language, receptive and expressive.  We started Sept 2018 with a speech therapist, who sees him twice a week for 30 minutes and he continues to see him today.  Then in October, with doctor recommendation, we get tubes in his ears to drain fluid that wouldn't go away with antibiotic treatment. 

Since September, he has made improvements in leaps and bounds, especially since the tubes were inserted.  So many improvements, I won't go through each individual one, but his speech therapist has recommended they need to adjust their goals since he has met or exceeded each individual goal they originally had.  He speaks in full sentences, has unique ideas and unprompted talk.  He even tells the wife and I ""I love you"" before bedtime! When we first started in Sept, we were just hoping to have him be able to say ""trick or treat"" by Halloween.  Which he will now tell you is his favorite holiday.   We still feel like we have a ways to-go, but we are so proud of the progress he has made. 

The process has been much like losing weight. Each individual day, you don't see much improvement when you look into the mirror, but after weeks or months you look back to where you were and changes are more than apparent. ",10.313541666666666,10.301657993055557,8.655638888888891,67.20325000000003,57.611111111111114,12.402222222222221,41.075,11.729898335038438,5.0043025000000005,1354,63,216,34,15,409,177,288,0.043,0.7929999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.9914,6,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,8,7,3,6,13,10,1,0,9,0,24,5,1,5,1,53,44,24,0,4,10,4,2,3,0,3,2,5,0,0,7,23,1,3,6,1,0,3,4,3,0,3,10,14,29,7,31,30,7,41,0,1,7,1,44,10,0,6,28,140,36,3,0.09336448691489936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232076513004568,0.2268961417078912,0.06349105270680826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877190088275183,0.07179152739171518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944630174518869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987672474667885,0.08042523842053775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06021237020882012,0.0,0.0,0.09476298891161276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556250854945184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166636306584367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720788987312136,0.06669960810711068,0.0,0.0,0.1706668991998469,0.07941578487454315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048779090935945485,0.0,0.15918356849754778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273200193237062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539714136251548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368395168526738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136106182464813,0.10445097914692184,0.0,0.0,0.0842650946336379,0.1766874699554599,0.0,0.1893138711920672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07452264270631002,0.0,0.1372672810760007,0.06922858403027977,0.0720084480468158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326619262544897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110106413306888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26825211040964825,0.0,0.0,0.0893372048281802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742471873708382,0.0,0.0,0.22319822439091389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316962051339736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216772876548535,0.0,0.07456099985406298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504283799828843,0.16320935353992388,0.0,0.0,0.2168067307507969,0.06202721649978076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088831662747854,0.0,0.08849861677241241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410838395389542,0.14978271948819372,0.11369279252312887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268961417078912,0.0
parenting,Ninjakitty94,2019/01/03,"How to sahm I suck at titles. Anyway... My house is a disaster. I probably have a 6 foot pile of laundry.. And clutter EVERYWHERE. It needs to be cleaned, but I have such an issue staying on task and actually following through. Sahms, or anyone really. How the heck do you keep house clean?? Laundry done.. Dishes done... I'm at my wits end here. ",0.2672727272727258,2.6092093636363667,2.4833333333333343,87.94500000000002,99.30303030303033,6.036363636363637,22.66666666666667,7.348242739294969,1.522139393939395,262,11,51,6,11,88,53,66,0.075,0.8690000000000001,0.055,0.1053,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,5,1,1,0,4,0,7,2,1,2,0,8,12,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,7,9,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,1,34,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.2375306436313248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701962090039767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.498180838192176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558683012421115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5617192331201418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25405422880693,0.0,0.21635180231150566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048360408366576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624344928919677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593310066615015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594400474692453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toritxtornado,2019/01/03,"4 kids, 2 car seats, 1 car -	i have 3 children: 14, 11, and almost 2
-	i have a car with 7 seats (2-3-2), but the back two seats don’t have a ton of room
-	i’m pregnant with another
-	the 14yo is bigger than i am. she would be very uncomfortable in the third row

the only solution i can see is a toddler car seat on one side of the car and an infant seat in the middle. we’d need a middle side open so we can move the seat for my 11yo to climb in the back. my 14yo also wouldn’t be able to climb over the car seats into the center. 

has anyone been in a similar situation that can offer advice? ",2.7930725190839683,2.410763221374048,5.0283110687022905,88.17773377862598,73.27480916030535,8.076717557251909,22.48187022900764,7.6454224807358475,0.6227473282442748,446,8,111,5,8,158,78,131,0.033,0.941,0.026,-0.2238,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,16,0,17,0,0,0,0,12,20,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,3,1,1,9,0,15,14,1,26,0,0,1,0,7,15,0,1,2,68,10,0,0.2643890813281198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583579503496017,0.0,0.0,0.26474747402644017,0.0,0.0,0.2114318528169533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27723500428120074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486699301695544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065977675545732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810037519247698,0.0,0.1960411537429156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791568839511396,0.20107981017832585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106838672487583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29718440488107084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582697152215103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181486811602533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18781441768217053,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,floresitabonita,2019/01/03,"Were anybody’s kiddos eligible for dual citizenship, and did you pursue it? Curious about others’ experiences and decision making processes with this. 

Our situation is that my husband and I are expecting our first child in May. We live in the US where I am a citizen and my husband is a legal permanent resident. He is a citizen of Mexico, and has no plans to naturalize in the near future. So our child will automatically be a US citizen from birth, but by virtue of his dad’s nationality is also eligible for Mexican citizenship. The process for this seems fairly easy, some paperwork to fill out, Dad has to prove his identity and Mexican citizenship at the consulate which is nearby, and boom, baby is officially and legally Mexican. 

The benefits as I see them would be ease of travel - we plan on spending time in Mexico often to visit family as well as take vacations. Also, one day far in the future, my husband and I would strongly consider retiring there. When kiddo is older, he would be easily able to work in Mexico, go to university, start a business, or purchase property - it can be difficult to do these things as a non-citizen, especially the property. Mexico also does not levy taxes on its citizens working outside the country, though the US does over a certain income amount. 

Of course it’s not an urgent decision, and maybe we wait until kiddo is old enough to decide for himself. I do worry about losing track of documentation over the years (like my husband’s original birth certificate for example), and it’s also really important to me that kiddo grows up with a sense of his Mexican heritage and identity - though of course citizenship is not necessary for that. Just wondering if there are other parents out there that had this choice and how you decided!",7.493198757763977,8.419077295031059,8.975335403726712,59.38977329192551,63.316770186335404,13.272298136645965,36.907453416149075,12.602617957971056,5.596764720496894,1427,67,219,55,20,499,182,322,0.042,0.852,0.106,0.962,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,9,2,1,7,18,7,0,0,19,0,29,0,0,3,2,46,37,30,0,5,7,7,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,6,17,20,0,1,7,1,3,5,4,2,1,2,3,2,26,5,48,25,3,37,0,1,1,0,32,18,0,7,15,179,43,6,0.13227914414619665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231343351303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853091047937374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315167409115172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667971634712875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939438535269007,0.12470100455868545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251657243592277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517728599235665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462490815217428,0.0,0.11680490774735665,0.0,0.0,0.1479865266049264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829735588197431,0.0,0.1328921798202605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880471003431227,0.0,0.08963577148462099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468803353930568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474140694112227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540935164599237,0.12042196477348854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868730029920407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362785906369646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945745405533153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788038561000741,0.0,0.2599271750114792,0.0,0.07713303271234585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4773465699193116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893483667400452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345108917604366,0.1926015847508686,0.1343358918629204,0.0,0.28190192618220816,0.0,0.0,0.08518343188805166
parenting,javajav,2019/01/03,"Gap Between Going Back to Work and Daycare My wife was laid off half way thru her maternity leave and now that our twins are 5 months old she is considering re-entering the workforce.  I would also love for her to get back into the world but stumped on how to handle a potential months long gap between job start date and daycare.  The daycare we are planning on sending them to is full until the summer and even then they cannot give us a precise date (although they did mention they have cancellations at times).

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The only thing I can think of is to hire a short-term nanny since I work full time as well (do they even exist?).

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Any advice or real-world experience with this?",5.577986633249793,6.689060165413537,5.52220551378446,81.79194653299919,67.64661654135338,7.7156223893066,29.815371762740185,7.793537801064563,1.8867467000835425,554,20,103,6,9,173,97,133,0.009000000000000001,0.947,0.045,0.6715,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,5,3,8,2,0,0,8,0,12,1,0,1,1,13,18,12,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,15,2,18,15,2,26,0,0,0,1,16,8,0,1,15,75,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485331873948286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215547923847537,0.0,0.3293850850709055,0.3693946337672052,0.10336559266979407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23375809538967215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078987178009464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486857136512509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794140186613588,0.14581278695618458,0.08638542072494458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083710106996887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609466451887048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451571183375224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13718643929884414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24265079258422906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949901777695336,0.0,0.0,0.11560327478259808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17300991368182606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573643341322446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758677824064516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098241755046462,0.09739582090895983,0.0,0.0,0.1772654970099442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283795754603047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206509689572943,0.0,0.0,0.13666675737643735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221316435029145,0.0,0.0,0.10797683624323368,0.0,0.3693946337672052,0.0
parenting,morepastaplz,2019/01/03,"Anyone want to share their experience with early intervention?? My 16 month old son had his eval today. Hes going for speech therapy because he still is not talking at all. Babbling, but not talking. He also doesnt understand what we are saying, and scored a 1 (1-10) on receptive communication.

I speak with them again Wednesday. Im excited for him to get the help he needs, and wondering if anyone has positive experiences they want to share. ",4.703118466898953,6.985494085365852,6.102961672473867,72.1718292682927,71.5609756097561,9.563763066202087,30.00696864111498,9.957137785484203,3.4232627177700348,353,15,60,10,7,119,67,82,0.0,0.782,0.218,0.951,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,1,15,13,5,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,3,9,3,9,12,1,10,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,2,7,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448310690799707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051211714467933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300403967800944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42685516155687225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399307617773133,0.0,0.12400001928293655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624534381815135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23567810686540425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415382541961655,0.0,0.0,0.16178200744665422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894929623512986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351010696489513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424346319641532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507389655852852,0.0,0.0,0.24951447949223846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068146283539574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22713911445740906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257383277856103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23661319491895705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,manders7cola,2019/01/03,"Traveling to beach resort type vacation with almost 2 year old- best advice/hacks Hi! I am sure this has been discussed somewhere before-sorry to be repetitive  but..

This Feb I will be traveling to Atlantis in the Bahamas with my husband, almost two year old daughter and my in-laws, plus sister-in-law and her husband. The flight is about 5 hours from where we live and we will be staying for five nights. I am a first time mom. I haven't been to a beach with my daughter or a family vacation yet. 

What's the best hack/tip for surviving the flight ? What's the one item I can't forget ? How do I navigate early bedtimes when everyone else might want to stay up/go out? Anyone been to Atlantis - what's the best toddler targeted activity ? Any beach/pool with a toddler tips? 

As you can see I don't even know where to start the planning !!

Thanks :) 

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parenting,missoctober12,2019/01/03,"Toddler won’t stop jumping on the couch Our almost 2.5 year old is very spirited/active and gets hyper sometimes (he rarely has sugar or any kind of food/juice that would cause this amount of stimulation) - I’m pretty sure he inherited it from his father since he never likes to stay still lol.

Recently he’s been really into jumping - and has taken a liking to removing all the cushions from our couches, and then jumping on the couch. As this is obviously dangerous/furniture ruining, we’ve been telling him many times over the past 2 weeks that we do not want him jumping on the couch - we’ve tried everything from timeout, to just plain distracting him from the situation with other toys/playing opportunities. We’ve been trying very hard to be consistent between the two of us, but there’s obviously times like when I’m making dinner in the kitchen on my own Im not able to pull him away/distract him as much as I should. Even after a bit of distracting, or a time out he will make his way back to the couch after a few minutes and laughs and says “I’m jumping!” Like it’s some kind of game. He recognizes that we don’t approve, because if I ask him what he’s not supposed to do, he says “jump on the couch”. When I ask him to stop he sits down for a second until I am out of sight, then he starts again.

We live in an apartment, so unfortunately during the times when I’m not able to divert his behaviour (eg cooking dinner) I can’t just close off the room, and I can’t even really put the couch down on it’s side cause he can still jump on it like that (I’ve tried!) I know some things aren’t worth the fight, and I feel like giving him attention over this is making him do it more - but we don’t want to give into him and want to make sure he understands that what we say is what the rules are. It’s also important that he learns how to properly act and not jump on couches, since I’ve caught him a couple times almost jumping on couches during the holidays when we were visiting family. 

Has anyone experienced this and found a way to help curb this kind of behaviour? Is this just a phase? ",5.527933491686461,5.584543047505941,6.169048931116389,80.82743562945369,67.45605700712589,9.586356294536818,28.954014251781484,9.3871,2.249840399049881,1657,51,340,30,25,542,200,421,0.059,0.833,0.108,0.9733,1,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,9,0,0,2,17,17,1,2,25,1,28,5,0,8,6,67,51,28,0,6,13,1,2,6,0,4,0,3,11,0,23,22,5,3,6,3,2,15,12,4,0,2,7,8,32,13,53,39,9,70,0,1,1,0,49,24,0,7,33,210,55,1,0.18356405234776396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838128826538608,0.0,0.0,0.07339805317132067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624149251380254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417612673918104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160760961955462,0.0,0.0862322348699103,0.07057471276134489,0.0,0.05594947126563088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020220124551156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885708468065331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155506623936232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124232534188875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248776698587347,0.0,0.08652392588558884,0.0,0.0464077501748378,0.06556909783753725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098319036801144,0.1006342543434662,0.0,0.0,0.04795232051242236,0.1760913655496624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221866762461337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06151955746227473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991403381425592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867305693841509,0.05044100127781664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26904037139605824,0.0,0.08104521063620747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450608606807183,0.09305256878167656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747034981308606,0.0,0.07078795676773299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630979707086082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761632933570443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933753168528631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226628667048284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759583236017325,0.0,0.09062367818056788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21896625322277344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184608100064706,0.10316684293559346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077477074630168,0.0,0.06496379052536984,0.09782742791419287,0.14659448932427724,0.15346776721689445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17300694694644114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022153633253218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060975899899337625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675941877674664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694191312491354,0.0,0.08965770312187453,0.0955483261140136,0.1104024766643627,0.0,0.0,0.1514595675696589,0.16240625108296833,0.14570460055032064,0.07362200519021317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519931803894803,0.0,0.0,0.05910461566404869
parenting,MeSurprise,2019/01/03,"My Son can recognize and say every letter of the ABCs. He’s not even 2 yet I’m just so damn proud of him. He’ll grab his ABC book and point out and say every letter. It’s all him too, I really don’t do anything special. He’s just a smart little man. 
I love how even the smallest accomplishments my kids make just warm my heart to no end. ",0.5953088803088811,2.297707527027029,2.7247490347490357,94.35635135135138,81.83783783783784,5.850193050193052,17.328185328185327,6.868970318607317,-0.2305652509652507,263,5,63,3,7,89,54,74,0.07400000000000001,0.737,0.189,0.8363,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,9,6,1,0,3,0,3,2,1,2,1,11,7,5,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,8,5,4,6,1,5,0,0,0,1,14,3,1,0,2,34,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22356581862693284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406238881371537,0.0,0.0,0.3588782598016288,0.0,0.4577967142451765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219368193136201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27229025971547177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451977789889287,0.0,0.18134553048736404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568211956806662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404230559887746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4320945824283685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThugWhiteand7Whores,2019/01/03,"For the first time in my life, I can honestly say I’m glad I had my kids young. I had my eldest not long after I turned 21, my middle child when I was 24, and my youngest when I was 27. I also have a bonus kid.

My oldest has ADHD
My middle child has severe, non verbal Autism
My bonus has what we think is ODD but he’s too young to be diagnosed (and it could just be his mom, if I’m being totally honest here)
And my youngest is only a year old.

Every day I wake up exhausted. Between teething, picking up messes, managing melt downs, over stemming from loud siblings, trying to channel chaos and destruction into something constructive, and either being ignored or just get totally rude and sometimes mean comments...I can’t imagine doing this in my late 30s. I can at least look forward to the fact that when I’m 40, they will either all be in college or in high school.  

I know this is stupid, and I’m only posting because today has been *stressful* AF, but I have to give it to parents who had their kids in their mid to late 30s. Especially parents to special needs kids. 
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parenting,rae325,2019/01/03,"Summer camp So, I’m opening up to the idea of summer camp! My daughter will be 8 and is homeschooled. I thought I’d be a good opportunity to get away for a little bit. 

So those who have done summer camps around similar ages, what was your experience? How can I prepare for this? How long did you do for the first time? Any tips are welcome. ",0.971630434782611,3.3508231739130463,2.6520108695652205,91.4110597826087,85.3768115942029,5.189130434782608,21.668478260869566,6.6274283507984215,0.3988391304347832,265,9,57,3,8,87,55,69,0.0,0.861,0.139,0.8602,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,2,5,3,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,0,7,14,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,5,3,9,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,7,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044259567560326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676077436352801,0.0,0.0,0.28243416262230936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281896247311956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076296762743277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940554829130553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556997736276134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705696959094348,0.0,0.0,0.2521384520694103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393535079955076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012914434875159,0.0,0.2660314944275389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386517519794873,0.17528883591783925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,browneyedgirl14,2019/01/03,"Going Rate for Babysitters Was looking for the correct sub to post this and hope it is okay here!  I know this will differ by region/market but my husband and I just had our first child 5 months ago and are ready to hire some well known to us (teenage family members and close friends) babysitters for date nights.  I used to babysit/nanny in college and I was paid $10 an hour (tax free obviously) but I figure things have changed since then and I want to make sure I am paying enough when we ask someone to watch our babe.  We are in Southeastern Virginia (fairly large metropolitan/suburban area) and the babysitters would be driving/coming to us.  Just wondering what some of the going rates these days are!  TIA, thanks!",4.5961564171122955,6.579302933823534,4.1553475935828885,87.29179144385027,71.13235294117645,6.7101604278074864,27.06951871657754,7.348242739294969,1.3324205882352935,573,20,109,6,11,172,100,136,0.0,0.8,0.2,0.9807,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,4,1,12,0,0,2,3,28,24,11,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,6,10,0,0,4,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,4,2,14,8,14,17,3,16,0,0,2,0,11,4,0,4,9,69,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858068863075618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779008955413492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118235106394766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264861593734885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869478579350935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19650397313646875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928221907965175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176470158310052,0.0,0.0,0.14693049873958547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21616426755812493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888889550546009,0.1872863175604251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045164623441193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970102213960385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694481457794735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179769459704168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17846849913590754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821372693014988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731661550090836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611365965456519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923984058332967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508969302756852,0.0,0.0,0.12634533780618415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575197162100363,0.16425211356837585,0.0,0.0,0.11217149009574788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099221870948697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623915330827086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509648690651316,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,galaxy_546,2019/01/03,"Feeling lost parenting my 16 y/o I have 5 children, ages 2 to 16. I'm struggling with my relationship with my oldest son (16). I'm divorced and it's just me parenting him; his father has not been involved for his entire life. I should also mention he has a diagnosis of autism (high functioning), ADHD, and anxiety/depression, treated regularly for all.

Two problems, in short: 

1) He'll be an ""adult"" in 18 months and I don't know if I'm doing a good enough job in preparing him for the real world.

2) It is so difficult to get him up for school in the morning or to do chores.

Every morning is a battle. It doesnt change if I wake him up 1 hour before the bus or 30 minutes, he routinely misses it. He screams in the morning, just a loud yell, saying he doesn't want to get up or he'll tell me he's going back to sleep. He'll curse at me and I rarely use profanity... He'll kick things, slam things, stomp, scream at his siblings... Every morning. 

This morning, I woke him up and encouraged him to hurry. My tone was a little harsh, probably because I was tired and I am frustrated by this daily process. He says, ""I'm going back to sleep."" I got upset and yelled and said something like, ""You're going to what? Excuse me? I don't think so. Get out of bed."" I don't like to yell and I know I'm wrong for doing it. Anyway he answers with, ""Why should I get up? You're treating me like shit."" So he cries and lays in bed for 45 minutes, I'm quiet because I'm so damn frustrated and I drive him to school. 

On the way to school, I explained to him that I'm doing my best to prepare him for the real world, college and employment, and that the real world brings consequences if he isn't responsible. He says he understands but that he isn't capable or that he doesn't know how to change. I know that he is truly capable but I feel sometimes he lets the label of his disability hold him back. We have come up with plans, I've asked him how I can best help him in the morning, we have used and destroyed alarm clocks, we have had consequences, I've removed his computer and put it in the kitchen desk to help him get more sleep.... I routinely reinforce the importance of sleep and routine. I regularly tell him I love him, even if I have just corrected his behavior seconds before, I try to let him know I discipline him BECAUSE I love him. 

I'm finding myself starting to resent him and being over-critical about smaller issues because of it. I hate that. I know one of my problems is I haven't been consistent in the past with consequences and I required the bare minimum and did everything for him. I think I've been too easy on him because he's had a hard time with the father figure situation and because of his diagnoses. Also, I havent found many options for consequences. Just phone, computer, after school clubs. I sometimes assign extra chores but he straight up refuses, says I'm trying to control him by requiring him to do things. He was my first kid so it's hard for me to distinguish between typical teen rebellion and behaviors related to autism or depression/anxiety. He's high functioning, plenty of insight into his diagnoses, very smart and in all honors or AP classes. For example, the first time I took away 1 week of after school clubs as a consequence he completely lost it, saying he doesn't want to live here anymore and his life is over. Another example, I asked him to do the dishes and he crumpled onto the floor, eventually sobbing.

Help. I need to restore peace in my home. I don't have any of these issues with my other children... They listen and respect me and they are generally well behaved and kind people. And if you have suggestions for parenting help/advice within my community, please share. I don't have anyone.

I know I'm wordy. Sorry.",3.0785809563758377,4.987455914093964,4.598702810402688,82.82540320889267,75.09395973154362,7.985109060402683,27.479551174496642,8.751876143730069,2.2121312919463088,2956,118,575,62,64,988,308,745,0.099,0.7829999999999999,0.118,0.9837,5,0,1,0,1,0,115.0,3,1,2,11,22,38,8,3,25,0,52,15,6,5,3,104,110,52,0,12,19,6,4,3,0,6,5,14,6,4,23,41,2,6,19,2,0,9,14,21,1,5,16,18,95,17,88,84,7,64,0,4,0,2,102,37,3,12,20,359,118,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444683074767078,0.06053273268229265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990760904378742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042125277854538526,0.06495558732223879,0.04738837829416532,0.0,0.06143360232924796,0.04331395358622405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582194837517705,0.0,0.058200131553145365,0.14289752225135596,0.0,0.2265695601813664,0.0,0.10542265068390368,0.0,0.13001662045670945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106091536013495,0.05336083385839601,0.06494900759876747,0.0,0.06947749796179836,0.0,0.0,0.06804456812483252,0.0,0.0,0.05335383898270964,0.1257473948860886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400658520732473,0.0,0.04091462604066981,0.0,0.10438404029456767,0.0,0.05567290349537511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626433298252258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056617351917013815,0.10538215579209173,0.0,0.06792038789645387,0.0,0.0,0.16182065594796494,0.0,0.10561570122016747,0.051957209934514435,0.04954372645716275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098256421385057,0.061158666820731435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608389393117895,0.1308983074836791,0.06213670237499955,0.0,0.061004148932766185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293106719512207,0.06147166217721845,0.0,0.0,0.0645070329892333,0.2383065961503879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668758391170262,0.08750832102069285,0.09079078741250048,0.06208597955715357,0.05469928882042156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524234748589065,0.0,0.11181703164610912,0.0,0.0,0.06280333279801631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04944455788053389,0.0,0.0,0.04593203630153525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04197608685829853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20635048756040866,0.0,0.05913428894930611,0.04294542784666392,0.0,0.0,0.06799790199021394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678806485214568,0.1185475564096722,0.0,0.062272652799076275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21152369460267426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066506621854985,0.0,0.0,0.05892465473341293,0.2463089887923024,0.0,0.313462355394164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635864880699838,0.0,0.06962969056562583,0.2479622028226433,0.0,0.0,0.047688914154037865,0.1225319883477784,0.06934326739544193,0.04384556610960343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475921485863519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828674393032484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346213922438368,0.07938475292774579,0.0,0.0,0.07224220480621217,0.07119760080194129,0.0,0.0,0.06882407883551686,0.08411428319568462,0.0,0.06051205937452445,0.0644877771973279,0.0,0.10700258864787608,0.0,0.05111178418856295,0.07307449232754062,0.049169703955371805,0.04968919562088132,0.0,0.055696726340578484,0.0,0.05589646224195545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772802338845557,0.0,0.0
parenting,WDMC-905,2019/01/03,"Ways in which r/parenting tends to be biased or has blind spots? I came across a similar post and thought it's good to create an opportunity for group growth in hopes of avoiding the traps of tunnelling.

I like this sub so I'm not raising this as a criticism, but I wonder if there are ways people feel like the responses on this sub could maybe give a distorted perspective due to self-selection or something. As in, ""if someone naively took all the advice on r/parenting they might not realize that ____ "".

I don't have anything in particular in mind, I just sometimes get the sense there's a certain community here and wonder how the population at large might see things differently.",7.840747767857143,7.708317382812503,7.858616071428571,71.28906250000001,62.671875,11.689285714285715,37.035714285714285,11.20814326018867,4.2015120535714265,547,24,99,14,7,177,92,128,0.083,0.787,0.131,0.631,3,1,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,1,10,0,8,1,0,1,2,25,20,11,0,4,8,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,5,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,3,3,6,6,17,13,1,16,0,0,2,0,3,9,0,9,3,64,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360332681223072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777445006259134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148673519629048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336732409042716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492087575094953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465384518317612,0.1196066656157138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874713447977837,0.16060691523694726,0.0,0.14042604753666799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628831655486676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635883508134011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819840178034307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3552176244280997,0.1690489956139778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37180574055579496,0.0,0.0,0.11606967925874123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034447268392002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341405418691954,0.0,0.17465817830814834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418565387648617,0.12889001804383718,0.165585130939233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112280679527989,0.0,0.0,0.13291476168400898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860125549159552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26578437116632914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631251133918335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,A_Nightmare_,2019/01/03,"Son can officially get out of his crib. Now what? My son is about 19 months and we’ve had our ups and downs with sleeping like a majority (if not all) parents. When my wife went back to work around 12-13 months I spent nights with him and was terrified about getting him to bed by myself, especially since he was weaning off of breast feeding. Surprisingly, it took only 4 nights before I was able to lay him to bed. 

Fast forward to today, he has good nights and bad nights. A good night he is exhausted, we read a book, drink some milk, and he falls asleep on the couch with us and we lay him to bed. An okay night we may lay him to bed half asleep or full asleep, he wakes up, freaks out for 5 minutes then lays down. 

Now, he is full on throwing fits and can climb out of his crib. It’s lowered to the lowest setting and he can easily get out. 

A few things, his crib is in our bedroom. He still sleeps with us because we are in a two bedroom apartment and the other bedroom is my office, I work from home. We recently signed on a home but it won’t be built until June or July. I’m very fortunate that I will have a home for my family but in the meantime, I don’t know what to do. 

I hate when he sleeps with us in bed because 1. I don’t want him to get used to it and 2. He kicks me in the face and pinches us in his sleep and it generally means we don’t sleep well, although maybe a bit better than him waking up and throwing a fit to get into bed with us. 

He’ll be about 2 when he’ll get his own room but in the meantime... do I just let him sleep with us? Should I just make it easy on us and break the habit once we are moved into our new home and he is in a new environment? I feel like trying to break him of sleeping with us AND being in his own room will be challenging. I know there is no right or wrong, just looking for some advice. I’ve slept on the couch like over 10 days in December simply because I really don’t want him to ask to get into our bed. But obviously it’s not working... happy new year to all you parents out there!",3.112378993989246,3.4850080550458697,4.346842771274911,90.67591743119269,72.80733944954126,7.481683011705158,23.979436887061052,7.372421405659032,0.6965178108193609,1576,39,375,16,29,520,199,436,0.061,0.847,0.092,0.8928,4,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,19,1,0,6,17,16,1,0,19,1,34,19,15,2,3,70,59,30,0,4,13,5,1,3,0,7,1,0,18,0,12,40,3,0,4,3,1,8,8,5,1,2,8,2,54,11,69,39,11,76,0,0,1,1,55,40,0,7,30,241,66,6,0.06114016284050933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597454595180926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544277073953163,0.05715779894057201,0.0,0.0,0.047013011267326835,0.051049482145517334,0.1118114273552996,0.0,0.05202577539149874,0.0,0.0,0.0540735055297983,0.06674922265849281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394303470326554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059894083280606386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763750419088527,0.0,0.030914303388506786,0.04367854454964205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360248131903468,0.0,0.0,0.10256293563048176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508484024043057,0.0,0.060363252917993514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453142735728017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720206908750162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251995887718872,0.0,0.08960998576487618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134233824253686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040811533457185085,0.0,0.061423511369721774,0.06659956118623572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760298933623293,0.06498231721661958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714865077949984,0.0,0.34425540646560554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511227802608871,0.0,0.04649984892146143,0.0,0.0,0.13577783076786448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115670823688187,0.0,0.039167953898974886,0.0,0.06036853480079892,0.0,0.0,0.05221336500162077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050575774506679015,0.0,0.4282902227443824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04882661302239875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0406188074572381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057953725441205764,0.0,0.06792897055414497,0.041510157223012836,0.0,0.05972505508205213,0.0,0.5883527032594967,0.052805470239929236,0.0,0.05044703745926469,0.07212410426065853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05497234903199286,0.056677543490232164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353230017114734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684717012253913,0.0,0.039372260310308785
parenting,onebabyforme,2019/01/03,15 month old with high cholesterol Just found out my 15 month old has high cholesterol. He kept gaining weight so doctor ran some blood tests and that’s what came back. We have a specialist appointment coming up but I was just wondering if anybody has any tips or snack/meal ideas to help him. He is a picky eater and doesn’t eat what we offer. He mostly wants to breastfeed all day. Any ideas or experiences with this? ,2.549629629629628,5.229622728395063,2.3422222222222224,94.30000000000004,80.97530864197532,5.575308641975309,20.11111111111111,6.937597516519254,0.28128148148148124,335,9,68,4,9,99,63,81,0.0,0.931,0.069,0.6652,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,6,4,1,0,1,24,13,7,0,2,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,9,2,1,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,1,5,0,6,8,3,13,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,6,6,36,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519835428710015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246324993084486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190258159144068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595960032907042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948554735691018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896344322807951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18958019864223494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812322259875844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314192388736024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418436784886745,0.39150150403104705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41830059444193984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957657612004305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888250098103136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927862324004617,0.0,0.0,0.22561220390509976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200920311502352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flashgreer,2019/01/03,"My daughter and ""weird"" clothes. Since my daughter has been living with me, I had decided I would let her choose her own clothes. Circumstances made it to where she didnt have control of anything else in her life, I thought that her clothes at least would be something she could choose herself.

When she 1st came into my life, she dressed like a ""normal"" kid. Tshirts, Jean's, etc, but I am a huge anime fan, and one day, she saw a girl in a dress in one of the shows I was watching and fell in love.

When it was time for her to start school, she chose nothing but fluffy Goth loli dresses. And as time passes, whenever we go shopping for more clothes, she picks more dresses. Personally I think she is beautiful in the dresses, like a little porcelain doll. 

Just about everyone else in our lives thinks it is strange, or weird, and they think that I am doing her a huge disservice by even letting her dress this way. 

I didnt think there was anything wrong with the way she is dressed, she is covered from head to toe, most of the dresses are as long as her ankles, the shortest is still quite a bit past her knees. 

The only thing that took getting used to for me was just how long it took her to get ready in the morning with the dress and the  stockings and the shoes and the hair ribbons.

Is it a huge deal that a child doesnt dress exactly the same as every other child? Am I hurting her by letting her dress the way she wants?",8.017971289274104,5.970882362676058,6.890563380281693,84.57101300108344,63.401408450704224,9.865222101841821,36.28277356446371,7.61054688173877,2.4202825568797404,1117,41,241,8,13,336,150,284,0.041,0.851,0.108,0.9666,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,1,2,10,7,0,0,22,0,29,8,5,5,1,40,46,18,0,5,5,2,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,5,12,14,0,1,8,2,1,6,3,4,0,2,14,3,41,3,31,25,8,33,0,1,2,1,36,14,0,2,12,164,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122561899360088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684718414398272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288809881055266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303147017072398,0.09276664948830238,0.0,0.0,0.07493163653009224,0.11978470785587758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19412030043158804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958031306429346,0.07674106645125285,0.0,0.09789338615404994,0.11102259612319086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121406850439685,0.0,0.06603230784003722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924238997570985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243816380071475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564302513428575,0.16413401583607914,0.11352715844709713,0.11645088184725465,0.2051922338985417,0.20564541605718425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048641902214417,0.10993987806997796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138395535161738,0.11148550253262783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746396742105054,0.08836619609767869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091457595861716,0.0,0.10145086448176124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358022093613062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175884409714916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096111899533215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944718513240991,0.0,0.0,0.0822384518207561,0.0,0.09278787267481638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719013261919536,0.2977942701267175,0.0,0.09224027954698663,0.1355002935651367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25817824667944583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034911180320176,0.0,0.0,0.06853068223115498,0.27667383650605976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16507321792432172,0.12703331904583595,0.0,0.0
parenting,wajmcc6,2019/01/03,"This mom! WOW.. just WOW!! You MUST watch! https://www.theglobeandmail.com/world/article-a-chinese-woman-with-no-arms-is-turning-her-online-fame-into-social/?fbclid=IwAR0ISXW15bA0yy0U9CuMcllshKRNBs5RooVKf4tcNENyCz4mY8m573a4JQI

You HAVE to watch this video! I cried my eyes out because it is so beautiful and heart warming. Alot of parent(s) would have given up or gave the child up being in this situation, but not this mom! She is definitely a strong woman!! Major love, respect, and props to her!! ",14.2039344262295,20.025824229508203,7.680803278688527,50.859893442623,69.0,5.718688524590164,19.214754098360654,7.1686216300943375,0.8052478688524589,422,8,49,5,10,108,49,61,0.023,0.6459999999999999,0.331,0.9785,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,2,0,1,2,6,0,0,3,0,7,3,2,0,1,10,10,5,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,6,6,7,5,2,4,0,0,3,1,10,4,0,2,0,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670023430373553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30093015933955664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246417221124045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472579228396909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6417129391418614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041981004147533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079404345433837,0.0,0.2792658295231757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461200670238807,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Akioelliemama,2019/01/03,"Toddler would rather be with daddy My son is two and his father and I divorced before he turned one. My ex husband works a lot and does things after work (meetings, appointments, etc) so he has not always been able to make our son a priority. When my son is at his dads house, his grandfather watches him and they are very close. 

My dad lives with me and watches my son while I work and they are close also. When I come home from work and see him the first day, my son will cry and hide behind my dad. Eventually he will warm up and then from then on it’s fine, it does take some coaxing though. 

I just had a baby who is now 8 weeks old so I’ve been home and have been able to spend a lot more time with my toddler and it has been great. However, when he first comes home he cries and wants to go to “papas house” (his other grandpas house) or he cries for his dad. Again, he’ll warm up eventually, but sometimes this is after full meltdowns. When he leaves my house, he’s happy to go. Waving goodbye to me at the door and happy to go to “papas house”. When he gets in trouble or he’s in a bad mood, he wants to go to papas house. 

I feel terrible, my boyfriend keeps telling me I can’t take it personally but it’s very hard. Has anyone else gone through this? Does my son just hate me? It’s not fair that I have to ride the waves while he flips out about seeing me while he happily goes to his dads house. ",2.3971078795073493,3.670222436860072,3.312731859326308,94.00171093634071,75.48464163822527,6.324321115892566,21.271553642973736,6.7026698264267655,0.1324228817331945,1086,25,253,9,23,346,145,293,0.096,0.833,0.071,-0.7645,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,0,2,6,15,11,1,0,8,0,21,0,0,1,0,39,41,31,0,4,9,15,4,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,12,21,0,1,1,0,1,8,3,4,0,4,6,8,34,6,31,30,6,39,0,0,4,0,45,11,0,5,20,154,46,4,0.16100763307631275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437887300033583,0.06698562438602891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562901403304462,0.08248567354423814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721732416269732,0.0,0.0,0.06850281848771167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386938193051052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652889868974901,0.05191830175253561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21134829707456065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725060869351633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978303566289049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040705148510731766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695301044392413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205992146869214,0.0,0.18300869659925764,0.0,0.0,0.08875574193675598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139561933450656,0.07211560705713697,0.07948085207481269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422556756032768,0.0,0.0,0.6502341694500736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155549106604987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524191788042874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710863449014827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688293195403592,0.0,0.0,0.05373692266159966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447521325723331,0.0,0.0545514695414025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029282742416026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830223783329447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962033303349543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105770242621786,0.0,0.07036388400369595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534831585592315,0.0,0.07909459100853668,0.0,0.04694242281794233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875650351406548,0.07864053109572572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132848159371383,0.09496647355233878,0.0,0.06457530571155222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23443094894242125,0.0,0.0,0.05718760150137118,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GrandeSizeIt,2019/01/03,"My 2 and a half year old trying to understand rhyming. So this happened about a month and a half ago. I was trying to teach him about rhyming and I kept asking him if he could tell how words like cake and snake sounded almost the same. He was kind of getting the idea of it but mostly stuck to the examples I gave him and not coming up with his own. 

Then a few weeks later his grandpas girlfriend got new puppy labs for her young kids. One of them is a golden retriever lab mix and the other is a black lab. Well one day they are all at grandpas playing and causing havoc when he stops and tells my wife ""sunny and indy are almost the same. That means they rhyme!"" 

I know that I'm pushing what his little head can handle a little bit but it made me so proud that even though he didnt completely get it right the idea was there and my efforts were not a complete waste.",4.707088866189992,4.899186460674159,4.907425944841677,88.700342185904,69.2247191011236,7.371603677221656,25.732379979570993,6.574015621080383,0.8220044943820229,682,17,146,4,11,214,117,178,0.053,0.8420000000000001,0.104,0.8529,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,3,2,11,5,0,0,14,0,11,1,1,3,1,35,25,19,0,2,5,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,9,12,0,2,5,1,0,2,3,0,1,4,10,2,18,5,12,14,7,19,1,0,1,0,23,5,0,4,13,98,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311449669937818,0.0,0.29629256453066843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138309290439953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615184243345915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519810227372384,0.0,0.12744215015848787,0.31023657542579863,0.0,0.0,0.11812263044911048,0.0,0.0,0.09541275943039483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771676224907773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459107995795068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832571888438205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308279243146657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183500582012074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33402545219852303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406271585463405,0.08130710650048721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227881279077049,0.2965609851771313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998983104933438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115627651893472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808887369813036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288691217321656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552441610814064,0.0,0.20050371696428407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634484879945893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236892585138244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586221856420782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535593286763107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20089088446303072,0.0,0.0,0.154016727076986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867314417116165,0.0,0.133020982776778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527220234981
parenting,vistamiss,2019/01/03,"What age is appropriate to accompany putting down a dog. I really wish I didn’t have to ask this, but I think the time has come. Our sweet, old dog has severely worsened and I’m trying to be prepared for the end. We have an almost 4 year old girl that loves this dog dearly. She knows he’s not well, knows what death is, etc. Should she be with us and him at the end? Does she stay with someone and we just tell her later? I’d appreciate any advice, including what to tell her if she doesn’t accompany us. Thanks. ",2.188039832285117,3.8197151415094375,3.697672955974845,89.52961215932915,76.83018867924528,7.352620545073376,21.211740041928717,8.167268648758528,0.7883953878406711,399,10,91,7,9,132,72,106,0.123,0.6779999999999999,0.198,0.8568,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,0,18,20,5,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,1,15,5,9,16,1,13,0,0,0,1,18,2,0,2,8,55,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855592638367542,0.0,0.0,0.1727245307600555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729959838767585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612555301807068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148585474090754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509477835250643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055511438486183,0.0,0.1923727385418768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959276740541875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567960109701126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36199997011060864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340080673390365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050196629579084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486540581666176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615081961344015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838521472269312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015289683689933,0.1588062717620759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105250826912494,0.0,0.0,0.10058072067405886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171098701306017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149701740439899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508986442339304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835580488786225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107836250575022
parenting,liljellybean,2019/01/03,"Toddler Nervous to Poop on Potty My son is 30 months, and has recently started potty training. He has gotten the hang of peeing in the potty, but has been withholding his poo. His little tummy is all hard (it's been almost 2 days since he last went). He sits down on the potty and says he needs to poop and says ""but nothing is coming"" and then he gets up again after only 20 seconds or so. I'm trying to encourage him to relax and that it might take a few minutes, but he seems unwilling/too nervous to try.

Any potty training tips from parents who have been through the battle before? Thanks so much.",3.8627917833800174,5.283264504201681,4.8372549019607884,83.93209150326798,72.02521008403362,6.633426704014939,25.827264239028946,6.937597516519254,1.2028984126984126,472,15,88,4,9,154,83,119,0.07200000000000001,0.8340000000000001,0.095,0.7140000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,2,5,0,11,3,3,0,1,16,21,12,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,1,5,3,4,3,14,15,3,18,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,4,8,55,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21691335330243455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730883398748704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18432742214474032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18659870312127694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970179527568408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317486011652167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940487156397752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657397907091582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171098618534072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297992848315733,0.0,0.0,0.17290378934850234,0.0,0.15924041465585914,0.1606207734371324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20785245821723355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474905404703385,0.0,0.0,0.2405305576083244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21388583475691186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445293827133481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720245230748853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919006622461908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332454877638496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287106656051412,0.0,0.0,0.19943432922809776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29414113355016386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20080864545380767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lirpa11,2019/01/03,"Vacation cruise with 2 kids I am wondering how cruises charge for children? We are considering a cruise in August/September. Are kids charged at full price, what lines have you used ?

One child will be 4 years old and the other not yet 2 years old. 

We are going north so won't need to worry about the younger child not being in a pool due to not being potty trained.

Also, our youngest may be in preschool then. How bad is it to miss a week/week and a couple days?

Thanks ",1.7592553191489344,4.133155776595746,2.3866382978723406,94.69400000000002,81.65957446808511,5.4621276595744686,21.102127659574467,6.742157984588678,0.28965872340425536,369,11,79,4,10,114,70,94,0.08199999999999999,0.86,0.058,-0.281,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,3,0,14,19,7,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,3,5,0,0,1,4,1,4,4,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,10,12,1,18,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,2,8,50,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541700827926195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20403290365681198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703830192031968,0.0,0.15759392376078946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388771281314893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811920732550266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5128357387801762,0.0,0.16558669759507202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497662548741448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110511795458479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920265286658387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650012570835373,0.0,0.24816249510259636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31472352929047515
parenting,kyge93,2019/01/03,"At what point of time should a foster child know that they are fostered? Sorry for an ungainly question (and my grammar) but was just wondering, when should they be acknowledged of the fact that they were fostered? It’s just that my neighbors just adopt a small child recently and they’ve asked through the neighborhood on parenting tips. One of those were this question, so I wondered too. 
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parenting,CallMeZami,2019/01/03,"Toddler put something in the tub drain Toddler put something (I don't know what) down the bathtub drain, now it is stopped up with a very slow drain. I've tried Drano (not the max strength) and that didn't help. Any other suggestions before I call the plumber? ",2.9752000000000014,5.465454120000004,2.4699999999999998,95.165,77.8,4.800000000000002,28.0,5.6839178017228535,0.8372000000000002,206,9,41,1,5,60,39,50,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.4867,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,4,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028895104397433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538754766244568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046506288984437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19997897727808525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16396639157565532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5998520927893405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593717092870523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24943553236713276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025613433042759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246171548292876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forcryeye,2019/01/03,"Prospective parents who are considering uncommon first names for their child, you’d be wise to avoid common names with uncommon spelling like ‘Jerrye ‘, ‘Judyth’, ‘Nancye’, etc. Your kid’s life will be full of hassles because people will invariably misspell the name when using information systems. Think healthcare registration, financial aid, taxes, etc. That’s all avoidable. ",10.669310344827586,13.17997679310345,8.375344827586208,60.8416379310345,56.93103448275862,10.627586206896552,42.086206896551715,10.686352973137794,5.433020689655173,306,16,36,7,4,90,52,58,0.036000000000000004,0.872,0.092,0.5267,1,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,1,1,1,4,0,2,1,0,6,1,0,1,1,10,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,3,4,5,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,0,4,21,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594960361418556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7169912480458155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734205553332799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22704577971402926,0.1570415619031809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569261132050467,0.0,0.0,0.2228491653563482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20596867721440487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776248691279508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cntbeseez,2019/01/03,"My 7yo son is overly affectionate with me (mommy) and I’m not sure how to correct it without hurting his feelings The title pretty much speaks for itself. I need help. 

My son isn’t overly affectionate with anyone else. Actually he’s pretty seldom about it unless it’s someone close like Aunty. I’m pretty much raising him alone and I’m his world. 

I’ve broken him out of sleeping with me finally. But when he does he rubs my forehead when I’m sleep, wraps his arms around me and gives me plenty kisses. He comes and checks up on me he even calls when he’s not around. Love my sweet boy. 

Well now he’s kissing me every 5 seconds LITERALLY. On the lips, arms, chest wherever he can reach. He wants 1000X hugs a day. (Non exaggerate) I mean he will be eating dinner at the table, STOP eating and come to wherever I am whether I’m all the way upstairs pr not and says he’s needs a hug and kiss. This even happens during sports after school and you can’t just leave practice and give mommy huggies. 

When I’m sitting down he has to be touching me, even if there’s no room he squeezes his way in where he’s nearly on top of me. Which can be rude, he usually does it most if my boyfriends around. And even he gets a bit annoyed. He even tries to lay on top of me sometimes and GOD he’s big. But it makes me feel weird also, he’s damn near my height! I’ll try to move him but he just comes right back. And I’ll ask him to politely move and he will literally move an inch. 

I’ve ignored it for sometime which I shouldn’t have but now when we are in public it’s the same. And even still, I just feel a bit uncomfortable because he’s a bigger boy now. 

I don’t want to discourage his love. I hear people all the time say he’ll grow out of it or it’s just a phase but I’m just trying to show him boundaries that’s all.. Even when I do approach him he’ll say “I’m just giving you a hug” or “I just really love you, you you’re the best”. Complete sucker I am! 

Yesterday while I was eating my food he was literally weighing on my shoulders. In a nice way, or at least I thought I gave him a brief description of personal space and how mommy needs that sometimes so she can get things done. He says to me, “Ok, I’ll leave you alone for personal space”. And I could see the tears in his eyes while walking away. Yes, I’m a sucker and I ask why the tears? And he burst out in tears and says I hurt his feelings.

I’m just stuck. I don’t know what to do.",1.0326796116504866,2.9393784135922374,2.7244757281553404,93.87486893203886,81.36893203883496,5.595728155339806,20.202912621359225,6.65067331316558,0.09611145631067997,1893,51,433,19,50,624,234,515,0.106,0.757,0.136,0.9427,0,2,0,0,0,0,53.0,1,5,0,3,37,28,5,0,20,2,25,24,9,3,5,84,68,43,0,9,24,2,7,1,0,5,0,7,1,4,17,33,6,3,7,2,1,10,10,10,1,1,6,17,57,18,50,53,11,72,0,3,2,9,73,38,1,6,21,248,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.07079102286661658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502643200384071,0.0,0.058012216980785465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072340789053068,0.07432837153625874,0.0,0.1937346345451841,0.13563490385182922,0.0,0.06815607368133791,0.05578071042989872,0.0,0.04422123921251681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612888602798296,0.0,0.15839525953198666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407401082190956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746684038829736,0.07605943885864185,0.0,0.0,0.057919289343205824,0.0,0.0,0.0467839159987513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269648742100529,0.07423617131882702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22268728606511176,0.06059995650433046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33539549393769386,0.0,0.06112019124025341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14671868565498805,0.0,0.0,0.07946677103693901,0.0,0.0,0.0877186879306032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580093209844903,0.20876814980771266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414909974271757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176067809950044,0.0,0.04862371359814043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553165091216597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03986746493161957,0.0,0.0,0.15362408210879774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035440604865429215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964173356053738,0.0,0.04842268700957447,0.0,0.0,0.07902005715319013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313036150213518,0.10665417961400726,0.16136805022387293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029184069663191,0.12668263878126662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22140542866746526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04647258781504063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195090497745141,0.0,0.2884435677464845,0.0,0.07341689037613787,0.057806986309519526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451897935173446,0.0,0.061465031133880174,0.0,0.21523918425835634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057932540138478365,0.06064878444774531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683704547449892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048194018543004084,0.0,0.0,0.05759064782062419,0.0423001194522936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775480218381504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989532320299987,0.0,0.08557490078444775,0.1727425974602001,0.0,0.0,0.06522442618211963,0.0,0.06545832968796697,0.0,0.0,0.06992838847457483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fifitot,2019/01/03,"My daughter has just had her cochlear implant turned on and the look in her eyes was absolutely beautiful My 5 year old daughter is deaf and she’s gone through a difficult time as she’s been growing up, what with all the hospital appointments and all the tests, it’s been really tough. She has a twin brother, who is absolutely brilliant at communicating with her and letting the other children at school know what she wants, etc. 

We have just been to the appointment where she has had the implant initially turned on. To begin with she covered her ears, because she was scared at what she might hear. As the lady was fiddling with the settings from her end, she was holding onto my hand so tightly. The lady nodded at me, so I said “Baby, I love you” and I don’t know how clearly she heard what I was saying, or if she even knew what I said,but she clambered into my lap and started crying. But the look in her eyes, was like she’d just had the world handed to her on a platter. 

I know it’s going to be a tough road from here, with more appointments to have the implant set at the right frequency and speech therapy classes and all kinds of things, but she makes me so proud each and every day. My son said “Mummy, I’m going to show my sister all the good sounds when I can and I’m going to make her laugh and learn new things with her”. 

I’m far too proud of them today. ",6.166304347826087,5.556696644927539,6.336000000000002,82.40900000000003,66.2463768115942,9.244057971014492,31.08115942028985,8.447377352677275,2.1037263768115944,1078,35,224,13,15,345,143,276,0.03,0.846,0.123,0.9819,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,1,2,12,11,0,1,18,0,25,7,5,3,5,44,50,22,0,2,7,5,3,1,0,1,1,9,0,1,11,20,0,2,5,1,0,5,1,4,0,0,17,16,41,7,33,29,7,35,0,0,4,1,39,18,0,3,11,161,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991528434311861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620230013083338,0.09512598888277254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306421690197643,0.0,0.16450268525804732,0.09742306683989624,0.0,0.12427601470104513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514847748843421,0.1237169009251894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624442802412293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535996682532696,0.2431881948042223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082983946799766,0.0,0.07206157313803181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24772750251628725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331254761691981,0.0,0.1969162216463325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564753278296787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245745432820095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477756255355485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449296360666387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596510942606928,0.4209218901992279,0.11729877259309243,0.14767430468992807,0.14927895941662142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044020178378992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868033050412098,0.0,0.19598631599203048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600906116679567,0.0,0.13981376926431102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208776203433005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699995379697388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949858542575408
parenting,anonokbye,2019/01/03,"New dad issues Is it normal for a new dad to just feel useless? 
I feel like because my son needs his mother not me that I’m not really doing anything for him. I’ll change him and all of that good stuff even take the nights with him but I don’t know. 


I guess I just don’t feel like a dad yet? Everyone kept telling me my parental instincts would kick in but they really haven’t.. 

Should I be worried?",1.226382352941176,3.0661974470588262,2.436102941176472,96.52121323529413,80.41176470588233,5.661764705882352,20.036764705882355,6.6274283507984215,-0.0032058823529403924,313,8,73,3,8,100,59,85,0.059,0.848,0.093,0.4195,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,19,17,3,0,4,6,6,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,3,14,3,6,13,1,5,0,1,0,0,12,1,0,1,6,45,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362156885729726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212059746212053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033760185953126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132647973236553,0.0,0.0,0.18999223484688488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016058845246283,0.28409084942734186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677061818022584,0.0,0.0,0.21903556256931286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752866373873552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109272716657518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942782757957405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474312053695382,0.0,0.3840658397523466,0.0,0.18659010552960803,0.19481287541240927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22077910146711044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547533899817624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22761475608546985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494967129655703,0.0,0.17378769230242794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20192326917630712,0.0,0.14124435332069118,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SirLazyEye81,2019/01/03,I feel I look like my son when I yawn. Anyone else who has this? My son is a week old and when he yawns he is too cute. But since last weel everytime I yawn I think I look like him. I know I don't look cute but in my head I do. ,-3.5199545454545462,-2.037229836363636,-0.4651136363636344,110.64232954545456,101.9090909090909,3.4772727272727275,8.693181818181818,5.148860815047168,-2.288954545454545,169,1,53,1,8,58,34,55,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,5,4,1,0,0,6,11,5,0,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,13,4,1,11,0,6,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,7,28,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266574114092032,0.2676722176035625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182332857417804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209126993315332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681085750047334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357118994962995,0.21294623549050287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552582574182557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6581297894277189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27412842368281776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610120721412493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673926474983285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20955172625182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sausagechipsandbeans,2019/01/03,"Dont know how to handle this. Please dont judge My oldest child is in care(age 15). Behavioural difficulties - this has been a few years now and everyone is accepting of this fact, including oldest child. 

Contact has been brilliant and steady for a year now. Problems have been arising, only i have been too ashamed to admit it to anyone due to how far we have come. 

It is mostly between my oldest and my 9 year old. My 9 year old just needs to breathe to set my oldest off. Normal-ish sibling thing...
This was being managed well and my oldest was seeing that when he put effort in to be nice, his brother was calmer and more pleasant to be around. 

Only now its at the point if my 9 year old enters the room, my 15 year old will look at him with disgust and hate, speaks to him like crap and then claims 9 year old starts deliberately annoying him which provokes his reactions. When in reality, 9 year old is reacting to what i have just described. 9 year old craves the acceptance of his older brother, but he will not even entertain the fact. 

It has resulted in what i can only describe as bullying - it is constant and repetetive whenever they are around each other. It is slowly escalating though. So much so he threatened to throw a knife at my 9 year old. He wouldnt - he didnt have a knife, nor the actual intention of doing so. Only my 9 year old does not know that! He has in the past thrown scissors at me and another sibling.

Since this has been deteriorating for months now, rather than improving - the only thing i can see to do is to stop contact between the two of them. Only this would mean 15 year old would only be here 2 to 3 times a week, rather than 3 to 4. Overnights would not change. 

This feels like i am letting my 15 year old down though, but if i continue to allow contact then i am letting my 9 year old down. 

There are another two siblings. 8 and 13. He has no issue with them, but sometimes tries to get the 13 year old to join in on the picking at 9 year old. 

It took a lot of work to regroup the household after my oldest. Mentally, i could not take it if it went back to how it was. 
It took a hell of a lot to reign my 13 year old back from trying to copy the behaviour. The last year massive progress has been made and i fear its all going to come undone.



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parenting,Boomshakalaka369,2019/01/03,"Should I be worried if my daughter enjoys watching videos with people in hospitals, wounds or (mild) medical procedures? My almost 6 years old daughter is the smartest kid I know. Probably all parents see their kids this way, but she really does have a fascinating brain. She's super shy, awkward at times and I've often joked about this with my husband saying she's gonna be a psychopath. She has a very deep, serious look..  
A couple weeks ago when we were at the grandparents, she saw a show with morbidly obese people that was on. She was mesmerized by that poor obese lady's struggle and didn't seem grossed out when they were showing an infected wound she had or when she was visiting the doctor and undergoing minor surgeries (the images weren't really explicit, but still). I obviously wanted to change the channel, but she almost begged us to leave it on cause she wanted to see what happens next.  
Today I found randomly a video on YT about kids who were either overweight or were sugar addicts, without thinking inappropriate scenes might come along. I stopped it after they showed a kid with really bad cavities who went to the dentist so that they remove his teeth, but again, my daughter insisted that she wanted to watch. I couldn't, so I just explained to her how I find this inappropriate for her age.  
But she shocked the hell outta me when she asked me if she can see the blouse I was wearing yesterday - her baby sister fell and she hurt her lip; while I was comforting her, I didn't notice she was bleeding literally on me, so a few blood stains covered my blouse.  
Should I be worried about this? Should this be a sign that she could be a good dedicated doctor one day and not necessarily a serial killer?",9.38697626418989,7.855499173374617,8.882303405572756,69.73408462332301,60.36222910216718,12.080825593395257,37.63240454076367,10.93419730881044,4.0104816924664615,1375,52,245,28,15,440,187,323,0.139,0.759,0.102,-0.901,3,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,4,1,15,13,1,2,20,0,29,18,5,2,3,53,47,24,0,10,14,6,0,0,0,5,12,1,0,4,15,13,4,1,6,7,1,5,6,8,0,1,17,9,49,5,26,18,3,34,1,1,7,0,45,9,1,11,19,172,64,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362627925098092,0.0,0.0,0.11080035705188006,0.0,0.2503284929216679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685327401901432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043654450704294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953554590087766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840410097624533,0.13222793495194715,0.10767196076757786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979818463250127,0.13830437950386912,0.0,0.08061131169977831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558749684417561,0.1093838003016132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142429916022325,0.0,0.0,0.137050357202298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048397160454345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053249742408043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380952899776224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869387851945835,0.0,0.0,0.1323514556562042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049641594084105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591912066101782,0.0,0.1325997403353941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293339816085292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230741931385882,0.1311610263995491,0.0,0.08469971795000389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879194404354928,0.0,0.0,0.17331132547604594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476554578562272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402246273240711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940088960500268,0.0,0.0,0.29881404061681405,0.11379058028244643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982101649608477,0.10450125781391098,0.0,0.1306717143907786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009162699239945,0.0,0.0,0.07288547872302324,0.0,0.11848046434476935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035336587508244,0.0,0.0,0.10313380852548172,0.22117553181087413,0.0992150619176128,0.10026329677796486,0.0,0.0,0.11587144086977015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049053610940975,0.0,0.0,0.2538765933041312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049255933686295
parenting,tullywully3,2019/01/03,"5 week old Constipated Our 5 week old has been having trouble pooping, we aren’t able to get her to a doctor right away and she seems to be in a lot of pain because of it. Is there anything I can do to help? Her face goes red when shes trying to poop out and she cries when she tries",-0.4823809523809501,1.4445334603174622,1.593015873015876,99.67142857142859,87.41269841269842,4.234920634920635,16.936507936507937,5.288315135182226,-0.8884539682539683,220,5,55,1,7,73,48,63,0.13699999999999998,0.82,0.043,-0.7184,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,9,5,3,0,0,6,11,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,9,0,10,9,1,10,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,2,6,36,10,1,0.23477162505492385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319704358133494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205756699484121,0.0,0.0,0.14311460356204034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578856060966096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402987063692584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226584842497142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736247150085253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959444010893554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4927066553139618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24981356168874996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004936850265392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21372727004441835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187890451961683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3766392728258797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nomad_9988,2019/01/03,"Feeling guilty about enjoying baby going to daycare So my son is 16 months old and started daycare about one month ago. He seems to enjoy going to school everyday. 

Up until he started school, I spent everyday with him. EVERY SINGLE DAY. I love him beyond what words can describe, but I really enjoy being able to return to work, and doing things without the baby home, things like chores and shopping.


Is this a common feeling? or am I a horrible person?

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parenting,mommalamma02,2019/01/03,"I don’t know how step parents are supposed to act. New poster, but have been lurking for a while. I have two kids (8 and 10). My husband has none of his own. 

We’ve been married for 1.5 years. 

My kids are my life. We have been through a lot together, as I had them when I was a teenager. They’re such amazing little humans. I could go on and on about how much I love and appreciate them, but that’s not what this is about. 

My husband hasn’t gotten along with my kids for almost a year. It’s been a constant battle trying to get him to realize that he can’t replace their dad and that we aren’t a “traditional” family (he’s very old fashioned...). He disagrees with my parenting style, though it’s worked well for me, and my kids don’t seem to have any problems. He thinks I should adapt his parenting style because he’s “older and has more knowledge.” I’ve adapted a few things, but there are many things that are completely unreasonable (spanking, hours in room, etc). 

We’ve tried therapy, but when a therapist even hints at him being in the wrong, he stops listening. I try to be very understanding of his feelings. No matter how nice I am, or how perfect the kids act, there’s always something he wants to change about them or my style of parenting. 

For the last two or three weeks, he has completely removed himself from the kids. He doesn’t talk to them unless they talk to him, and even then, he answers their questions and walks away. He doesn’t say goodnight to them (even on my son’s birthday). He doesn’t do any family activities with us. When they’re gone at their dad’s house (three days a week), he seems fine. But as soon as they come home to me, he’s a different person. 

Is this normal for step parents? He’s clearly jealous of them. Is that a normal feeling? How would you feel if your SO didn’t say goodnight to your kids? (He’s home, so that’s no excuse). I just don’t know if his behavior is typical of a step parent adjusting to their role or if he’s just being an ass. ",2.8096404341926737,4.4268302263681605,3.7494663048394408,89.87791723202172,75.09452736318408,6.962279511533242,24.86838534599729,7.686295010490155,1.109337313432836,1549,51,333,21,33,497,193,402,0.08,0.82,0.099,0.8615,8,0,1,0,0,0,63.0,3,3,12,2,24,10,2,0,17,0,39,3,1,5,2,63,56,37,0,10,16,11,3,0,0,2,1,3,3,9,13,15,0,1,14,0,0,10,14,4,1,4,9,6,47,6,44,41,7,38,0,0,0,2,72,10,1,12,18,217,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838796389933973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344630641377009,0.0,0.0,0.12005095769633005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829309845163992,0.0,0.0,0.05380754357382207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337616988469724,0.07603533477328768,0.1850952910170109,0.09538668712346617,0.0,0.07047506448478794,0.0,0.0,0.056925758831840076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922215988397556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844250029011377,0.174901162323387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642301730300274,0.0,0.13389333178003945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046116549755905074,0.0,0.050164915718906085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770806273128674,0.0,0.08692650678907149,0.10184978064400953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970199114582367,0.07195045510140896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06234651900224927,0.0,0.08846803730397268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504256215612895,0.07966559759100783,0.0,0.0,0.08949021386823786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488736542786183,0.0,0.0,0.08525008553528618,0.0,0.0,0.17296840878107764,0.0,0.0,0.09262274486693256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5880690861737007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770724851638753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446085346121669,0.0,0.0,0.0988807103266044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403890086889705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071231180602405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06795325879463013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379626102716054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189345090161068,0.0,0.0,0.10094250716053953,0.10248631323627637,0.11728308834982967,0.056558770059457586,0.08672316814436422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978516880858356,0.0,0.17245062941006034,0.09189042549440034,0.10617591086021116,0.0,0.0,0.14566120281967554,0.05206293723086517,0.0,0.14160703086743925,0.0,0.07936381287294547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426038223391971,0.0,0.0,0.0627032761347869,0.09650754232102386,0.0,0.11368379757007327
parenting,randomtrend,2019/01/03,"I need some perspective on my 3 year old’s babydoll. My son is nearly 3.5, and is my first child. 

Since he was around 1.5, my son has had a babydoll that we got him when I found out I was pregnant with baby #2 to get him excited for having a baby around. He went through phases of playing with it and then not really caring about it but sometime during the last 6 months he just became SO ATTACHED to it. It went everywhere with him, he ate every meal with it, it was just permanently tucked under his arm. My husband was starting to get concerned with my son’s obsession with baby because when son would play with other kids, he would constantly be talking about baby if it wasn’t with us, or if it was with us, he’d just play with baby instead. I had the brilliant(?) idea a few days before Christmas of tucking baby away and explaining to my son that Santa had requested baby’s help at the north pole, so baby wouldn’t be at our house anymore. My son accepted this, though he did ask about baby a few times but generally moved on. Now that Christmas is over, he’s asked about her a couple more times and this morning he woke up crying and asking for his baby. He generally doesn’t talk much about her though and seems to believe she’s in the North Pole. 

This got me to thinking... did I make a big deal out of nothing? Was this just a natural attachment phase kids went through? Should I give him the baby back and just let him decide when he doesn’t want to play with it anymore? Or now that it’s gone, do we just move on until he forgets about it? I worry giving it back at this point might do more harm than good? I need your thoughts!",4.0457346778418,4.942752617469882,4.789565217391306,86.43369565217392,71.01807228915663,7.460660031430066,26.18177056050289,7.586124646067393,1.2581040859088528,1287,39,266,14,23,415,164,332,0.054000000000000006,0.8440000000000001,0.102,0.9258,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,5,1,0,1,26,10,0,1,12,0,30,3,1,1,0,58,56,22,0,9,13,7,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,22,24,2,0,8,4,0,6,5,2,0,1,22,0,34,8,49,25,6,45,0,0,0,0,49,20,0,7,19,186,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162848534613308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941447004733784,0.30582448589382977,0.0,0.10245050304016833,0.16769633386454505,0.0,0.06647225929656912,0.0,0.09278848093780788,0.12285533743542675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117770736691997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178379122847843,0.0,0.0,0.12065520090249643,0.11977980199536754,0.07032441086132357,0.11241965877493396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187434076311554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275283907647547,0.0,0.11956120580794452,0.0,0.0,0.11394206275303885,0.20921003623307627,0.0,0.09146100107168842,0.17442502491204434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308994853637778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582222823420344,0.0,0.12309749387179587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888547943924073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115049601635825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278777040300519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567853720306995,0.0,0.0,0.08703794462790436,0.23179320084998326,0.08015994586102025,0.16170960783669364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463073607149996,0.0,0.11442341918299495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308190213230613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985643013254997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992696353798842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020239013092517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078473837578766,0.0,0.07718196134845443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529100260591754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987104370838394,0.2142705106767491,0.08656881948949,0.12716896037200298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623332049368273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431702385006771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032548649685978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107395567639794,0.0,0.15492357216632796,0.0,0.0,0.07022081262201547
parenting,lookingupnow1,2019/01/04,"4 month old sleep. I had my son pretty well trained from birth. We would rock him until he got sleepy, and then would put him in his rock n play and he would fall asleep on his own. Then we spent the holidays with his grandparents, who held him relentlessly.  now he refuses to fall asleep unless someone is holding him until he is all the way passed out. How do i get him back to where he was?",3.2524166666666687,4.470580075000001,3.6224999999999987,92.83916666666669,73.25,7.333333333333335,22.083333333333336,7.793537801064563,0.5954583333333332,306,7,70,4,6,95,57,80,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.8519,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,8,3,3,1,1,15,12,8,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,3,0,4,1,4,0,0,1,0,5,0,13,2,10,4,2,18,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,0,9,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133704550415048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144975559201081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219317863333284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22148755936589576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291176037732597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28230414360896394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27895118239367084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776875022872865,0.0,0.23511392309458046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025634752629605,0.0,0.0,0.2494942317342797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5913566324559997,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elizabeth4957,2019/01/04,"Rebellious Child   One of the kids I was babysitting kept getting out of bed repeatedly, so I told him he would get in trouble if he continued. He then responded by saying “can I get in trouble please?” 
I will never understand children.",4.318488372093022,6.8806649767441845,5.342034883720931,75.90979651162795,73.65116279069767,8.951162790697676,34.00581395348837,9.516144504307137,3.8312372093023264,186,10,31,5,4,61,34,43,0.16899999999999998,0.78,0.051,-0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,10,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,5,0,6,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,4,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5594389008407856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27528411766605104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418629825720466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917986790791933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28384268817012737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410590584123304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715736101137743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535507105773869,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SugarBombsAway,2019/01/04,"3yo keeps flipping crib mattress I've apparently given birth to the second coming of Houdini in the form of my 3yo son. He has somehow figured out a way to flip his crib mattress with him under it and he keeps trying to sleep that way. Every time I find him like that and pull him out he's drenched in sweat and I'm getting concerned about a possible suffocation hazard. Any ideas on what I can do to get this to stop?

We're not ready to move him to a toddler bed yet as my son is autistic and currently non-verbal.",4.314919137466305,4.932668632075477,5.344016172506741,83.71971698113208,70.22641509433961,7.943935309973044,29.293800539083556,7.957251820313856,1.8136781671159028,409,15,84,5,7,135,75,106,0.043,0.932,0.025,-0.2047,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,4,2,2,0,0,16,11,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,8,0,3,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,9,1,18,10,1,16,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,1,6,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703447141610882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157786596065495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110522519086709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289472525775251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617458664890068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827775750026001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4453016876189616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237886227240842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662357988648978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823946863626263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506752044961655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20942445161706533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606524104807966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700691871672722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976614323867653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pathofcollision,2019/01/04,"Anyone else just find themselves so...tired.... Im not talking exhaustion persay, just feeling so out of touch with being a parent. My child is 6 and honestly pretty mild tempered. Hyperactive, of course, and has trouble listening at times (nothing out of the ordinary).

I feel like it's just me. I dont know what to do. I love my child immensely, sometimes I just wonder if I'm missing my maternal drive? ",2.9036842105263148,5.532547000000001,4.417631578947368,80.31092105263156,79.0,7.484210526315789,29.23684210526316,8.472884824447931,2.6890578947368424,316,15,55,7,8,105,59,76,0.062,0.727,0.211,0.8912,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,5,7,1,0,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,16,13,4,0,1,6,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,5,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,4,8,3,8,12,0,5,0,1,0,1,6,3,0,2,2,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815733603215521,0.26607147958579536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043414612665867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21692820327802428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626026708796021,0.18551449008445076,0.0,0.0,0.23734159523478995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804975191650081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427126030403646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686587878977398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343701335961941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491686825353296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883424264634712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26418655835944843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568288395435636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871987438646405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142071777850424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816104349241804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cryptidkohai,2019/01/04,"Conservative/Strict Parents- Would you let your teen get a helix piercing? Hi everyone, 

I'm a 17 year old girl and I will be 18 in March. I would like to get a helix piercing (up in the cartilage of the ear) and I have want it for approximately a year and a half. My mom actively hates tattoos and excessive piercings. **Would you consider a helix piercing to be too excessive?** I have my ear lobes pierced and she is fine with that. I would pay for it with my own money, but I would most likely have to get the piercing itself done at a piercing/tattoo parlor which my mom would hate. My brother's wife has a helix piercing, so maybe I could show her to my mom as an example of a ""normal person"" with a piercing that isn't just an ear lobe piercing. I just want to see what other likeminded parents would think about it before asking her. Thank you for your help if you respond! ",1.6922917293233084,4.103076960000003,3.2409624060150404,88.23145864661656,82.25714285714284,5.969924812030076,23.496240601503768,7.273561745256523,1.0636285714285716,688,25,137,10,19,226,98,175,0.05,0.86,0.09,0.565,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,6,0,0,5,6,2,0,15,0,19,3,3,0,0,25,31,9,0,12,4,7,0,2,0,8,0,3,0,2,9,8,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,1,1,4,23,4,19,18,2,8,0,0,1,0,22,4,0,2,6,99,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705846789691934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654814690835164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997342984222722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813770246939166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964762967776844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625791130348175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24724639628622666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392850594674063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804010537129465,0.0,0.12234676441159432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579459438709942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4399484247641639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268342857585665,0.0,0.0,0.1313913446329308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780713242750763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933229709864196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997795856223374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528050445189968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023226756638646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770927676848486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6226405234754213,0.0,0.0,0.16126780789285972
parenting,HyperAlien,2019/01/04,"Is 2 Months Old Too Early For An Airplane? My husband’s best friend is getting married in June. Here’s the thing: we live across the country from where the wedding is being held, back in his home town. It’s approx. 4 hours of flying.

My due date is April 7, so assuming that the baby comes on time (who knows) he will be about 2 months old by the time this wedding rolls around.

Has anyone ever flown with a brand new baby? Any tips? We don’t want to miss this wedding, but I’m wondering if I should just stay home with our baby and let my husband go to his friend’s wedding. Tips or advice would be greatly appreciated! ",1.949761904761904,4.014119611111116,3.020873015873015,92.10607142857144,79.07936507936508,5.152380952380953,21.61111111111111,5.985473137389443,0.13528253968253967,485,14,102,3,12,155,93,126,0.011,0.895,0.094,0.8826,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,1,19,22,5,0,4,4,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,6,7,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,9,4,14,14,1,25,0,1,0,0,15,7,0,4,15,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780410405987453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390037542328347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273965510430845,0.0,0.0,0.1621941774358874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400984361862789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19120476951485887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569467950047578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164807840439797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28153028135736663,0.0,0.09519054137721122,0.0,0.10354689391769582,0.0,0.0,0.20087310746846632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365517387370672,0.0,0.17942758695259955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013084180149544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630902877756975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608835066593316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908562077710492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759672360033472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823707226318534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19419802264375768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210437547204194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124813592400096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746465654792907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975851418046659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942769641241111,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sandman1025,2019/01/04,"I Hate Annie From Little Einsteins My 3 year old son is in a Little Einstein phase right now and has been for 2 months. I’ve tried to steer him back to Wallykazam (which I like) or Mickey and the Roadster Racers but no. Every time it’s “Little Eises dad, Little Eis”

So my initial dislike of Annie has grown into hate. Go ahead and downvote me for hating on a child character voiced by a child actor. But she’s a horrific singer. 

My wife says but “she’s just a kid and it’s s good message for kids to sing even if they aren’t good.” And that’s fine and all but here’s the deal: Quincy is amazing on every instrument he plays and he can play them all, June is a fantastic dancer in multiple styles of dance, and Leo is a great conductor. So it follows that Annie should be a good singer. 

But she’s not! Her voice is annoying af, and she comes off as whiny and needy. When she sings, she is horribly off key. It is like nails on a chalkboard. 

Sorry just had to vent. Every episode I watch my hate for her grows

TLDR: I am an adult and I hate a child character on a cartoon because her singing voice is horrific.",1.3749427917620132,3.4960548771929867,2.7673150266971795,92.87852402745995,81.3684210526316,5.719603356216629,20.877955758962624,6.8959733430537185,0.3856626239511822,864,25,186,10,23,280,135,228,0.2,0.6579999999999999,0.14300000000000002,-0.9544,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,2,1,9,16,6,0,14,0,17,0,0,0,2,26,25,22,0,2,10,3,0,2,0,1,0,4,0,6,7,13,0,0,0,7,0,6,3,6,0,0,2,5,22,10,23,21,2,29,0,0,1,0,26,14,0,2,11,114,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579782558001633,0.0,0.07594558277160607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731855474258956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844119623730205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228691752026138,0.0,0.314903559387761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080426843373565,0.3134868184458885,0.0,0.13735490157358848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6150072308279474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173143214500395,0.4994657777300309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944219585673314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307305234474081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639452140023292,0.0,0.09907463128273217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13946219914321736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264625054206278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458472865814681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022836283450907
parenting,hurtwash,2019/01/04,"Honeslty, am I an asshole for taking a baby on business class? I am planning take a 12 hour flight (Zurich -> Sao Paulo) with a 10 month old baby.

The only airline that flies direct is Swiss. The problem is that Swiss have recently ""upgraded"" this route to a Boing 777 with the dreaded 10-abreast configuration in economy class (the plane was originally designed for a 9-abreast configuration).  Friends travelling with children told me that this new economy class is a complete horror show. I was already apprehensive about the OLD more spacious economy class.

So now I'm seriously considering flying business. I really hate to impose on business travelers who paid thousands of dollars to get a good night's sleep. But I feel like Swiss is leaving me with no other options. My baby is calm in general (the longest she has ever cried is for 1 hour). But can I guarantee that she won't cry for the whole flight? No, I can't.

Economy premium would be a third option I guess, but unfortunately Swiss does't offer it, and everyone I've talked to has told me to avoid layovers at all cost.

Oh and a fourth option would be to avoid flying at all, which means that my child never gets to see the Brazilian half of the family.

... which leaves business class as the least worst option. 

On one hand, I feel like I shouldn't care, because Swiss DOES allow children on business class and never advertised this product as a child free zone to the people on business trips.  

On the other hand, I feel like I am breaking some unwritten rule that babies simply don't belong there.

Thoughts? 

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parenting,Beinginnature,2019/01/04,"Moving a kid into the master bedroom My 3.5 year old has not been sleeping well. Wakes up yelling and scared in the middle of the night. She also sometimes mentions bad dreams. 


I'm thinking about moving her bed into my room as my room is huge until she feels more comfortable. I sleep fine in the same room with her but definitely not in the same bed. Any downsides to moving her into my room? Any thing I'm not thinking about? ",2.8282142857142856,5.11075848809524,3.3954761904761916,89.42035714285717,77.21428571428572,5.152380952380953,22.404761904761905,5.985473137389443,0.35500476190476205,339,10,65,2,8,106,55,84,0.063,0.81,0.126,0.684,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,6,0,3,3,3,0,0,14,8,5,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,1,5,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,2,1,0,1,2,10,3,14,7,3,20,0,0,0,0,7,13,0,0,4,44,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031344261372665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726489623914051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673816290594063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136217342332753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6391943066984465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812476419926796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21035646667385974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070250778334667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40122368774237627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826705712267573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331814129526852,0.2569024065572546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18024397011449836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909421983371044
parenting,ThatCrazyBee,2019/01/04,"My Sister Told My Niece(4) that Daddy Doesn’t Love Her So my younger sister is going through a pretty nasty divorce right now. Her and my BIL have three girls together. The youngest, a 13 month old, is the consequence of a one night stand my sister had while still married to my BIL. He still loved that little girl and raised her as his own. 
Things didn’t start going down hill till last October. Apparently BIL was becoming very obsessive and didn’t want my sister to even leave the house. Screaming matches and silent treatment became the norm. Using the girls as weapons also became something normal. “If Mommy really loves you she wouldn’t go out with her friends so much.” “If Daddy wasn’t such a jealous bastard maybe Mommy would want to spend more time at home.” Finally, around November my sister moved in with a male “friend” of hers. It’s the dude she’s been cheating on BIL with for the last six months. 
Well today, while I’m at work, three hours away, my sister calls me laughing hysterically. “DO YOU WANNA KNOW WHAT YOUR NIECE JUST ASKED ME?!?!” 
Uh. Not really.
“IF JACKSON IS DEAD!!! I told her no, Daddy just doesn’t love you anymore!”
She proceeded to cackle and after I didn’t say anything told me I was stupid and hung up. At this point I don’t know what to do? She’s living with this guy, having my nieces call him Daddy, and telling them that their bio dad doesn’t love them. Can I do anything? Should I talk to her? I’m just afraid it’s all going to land of deaf ears. ",2.6549852724594984,4.932330972508595,3.0611524300441815,91.62645618556702,77.76288659793816,5.806627393225331,21.045778105056453,6.868970318607317,0.3791118311242019,1167,31,237,12,28,360,170,291,0.105,0.768,0.127,0.8314,1,0,1,0,1,0,40.0,0,4,3,1,13,17,5,2,12,0,24,7,1,1,1,31,45,18,1,10,7,7,0,0,2,3,1,4,1,5,10,13,0,0,2,0,1,5,11,8,2,4,11,4,39,9,31,31,4,39,0,0,0,5,50,14,1,3,19,150,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620334832102038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690333453405566,0.0,0.0,0.1774116361521468,0.09596009859483898,0.10077345315987472,0.0,0.1012766287089405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905072974777725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014079408587525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119735436512296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808377786894357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656376932621084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24504875098760195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673365796015416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812683008945316,0.0,0.10615602364278112,0.12438056148158524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184822489136989,0.1757340653613907,0.0,0.11413897752699215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803856506576733,0.0951846570905138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4864444329914416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108294221622624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208133371904447,0.11456866117356475,0.0792414759653481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101157983458405,0.10561587696473934,0.0,0.0,0.113112359591442,0.0,0.07304444938445136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190079325205194,0.0,0.0,0.1096659191281949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811203512963605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205604816555267,0.0,0.08572263787003227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298559338995189,0.0,0.0,0.07629761309664305,0.0,0.1721699047748107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866412621711431,0.09421728152897044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161398035914274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285593140449335,0.0,0.10217673081256587,0.309007242832877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930999737645848,0.0,0.08894188126000603,0.12716016321703122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692034233199914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847579418175532,0.0,0.0,0.07657423160919098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tatteredsqueegee,2019/01/04,Hypothetical question: How would you react if you found out that your child was grabbed by the face by a daycare worker who was speaking very forcefully and very close to your child’s face? ,8.044,8.379838685714287,6.743571428571433,77.8839285714286,62.14285714285714,9.285714285714286,34.64285714285714,8.841846274778883,2.7641428571428563,154,6,28,2,2,46,28,35,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,2,2,0,9,4,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,0,18,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598599796246808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4698337179071384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6921121849706279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29793589926748804,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RunningPup,2019/01/04,"3 year old has developed an eating habit Hi All! My 3 year old has recently developed a habit where she grunts/snorts whilst eating. She seems totally oblivious to the fact that she’s doing it and it doesn’t seem to be painful, just a habit. Has anyone else experienced this with their little one? I expect it’s something she’ll grow out of, but you always want to be safe.",4.873648648648646,5.798916905405406,5.330648648648651,83.20489189189192,69.13513513513513,9.163243243243244,25.610810810810808,9.3871,1.9192897297297304,297,8,60,6,5,95,55,74,0.028,0.89,0.08199999999999999,0.5635,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,8,3,0,0,3,13,11,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,3,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,8,1,6,8,2,10,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,6,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815455724258743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255849059988846,0.22355406787319287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4465109588219821,0.18226373737884166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186764897782814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4578923041219231,0.0,0.14784631561383396,0.0,0.23216188807045024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154291986492968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972508634857647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796778311185126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868987159819528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810051466595834
parenting,Ralph-Hinkley,2019/01/04,"Hey guys, I'd like some advice about my un motivated senior daughter. She's getting ready for college, a straight a student, but she is lazy as fuck. She has already let four chances for scholarships to schools she's interested in pass by. She filled out two and was accepted, so she has that going for her.

 All she wants to do is work (twenty hours a week at $9?), and hang out with her bestie. They go to the gym, or the mall, or fuckin' Wal-Mart for some reason.

Reason for the post, there are more scholarships that she's offered that she has to fill out, and she still refuses. What can I do to motivate her? Her mom yelling at her today had no effect, and she respects her more than me.

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parenting,russian_animeboi,2019/01/04,Heres a dun tip for your kids!😊 So if you kid is taking treats from you heres a way to stop the all you have to do is go back to the kitchen you dumb bitch😊!,-1.8063157894736823,-0.3473039999999976,0.2255263157894749,110.36618421052631,89.0,3.8,12.13157894736842,3.1291,-2.1292315789473686,120,1,37,0,4,39,28,38,0.16,0.84,0.0,-0.7256,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,5,0,0,4,2,1,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,1,3,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,6,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,2,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4588252939878087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391182324129632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4988677293597981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4486439697087051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.473632506369149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wjm380,2019/01/04,"Take a pic of your kids while they are in the act of being mischievous (coloring on walls, putting on make up, etc) I think it’d be a good outlet to calming yourself down before reacting. You could even collect the photos and give it to them later down the road. Maybe chilling out will help turn it into a learning experience. 

Not all kids are equal
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parenting,sofrickentriggered,2019/01/04,"5 year old always saying ""can't"" regarding anything and everything Anytime he's doing something, the moment it becomes even remotely difficult he tells me he ""can't do it"" and ""I need your help please.""  While I appreciate that he asks me nicely to help him, he says he ""can't"" do whatever it is he's trying to do constantly.  It could be a simple thing like a toy, a puzzle, a video game, writing letters, you name it.  If he has to put even the smallest amount of effort and he doesn't immediately get it, he suddenly ""CAN'T MOM.""  I've taken to telling him that I don't like that kind of language, and he CAN do things but he has to keep trying and practice.  I thought if I responded in such a way, and didn't help him with whatever silly thing it is that he ""can't do"", that he would eventually get over this phase, but it's been a year and a half of this kind of talk and it hasn't improved.  He gets such satisfaction when he accomplishes things for himself too, so I don't understand where the disconnect is.  The hair on the back of my neck stands up when I hear that familiar whine ""I can't mom... can you help please?"" ",4.183684210526316,4.74051561403509,5.398526315789473,83.43068421052634,70.49122807017544,9.062456140350877,28.35789473684211,9.21078282632365,2.119466315789473,872,30,188,17,15,291,118,228,0.038,0.8420000000000001,0.121,0.9362,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,3,0,2,10,8,0,0,12,0,28,2,2,0,0,22,38,16,0,5,4,2,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,21,9,0,1,2,3,0,1,11,2,0,1,4,4,18,6,16,31,1,18,0,1,0,0,41,5,0,3,12,119,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868230457828174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074851753336053,0.0,0.12210757441606428,0.0,0.0,0.10043502161125956,0.0,0.0,0.14425421959988674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114862256330135,0.0,0.10428560396706002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725402072423527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173885140405192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472314339817124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721281619735502,0.0,0.3501944445247753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160967856248116,0.0,0.2720312493993746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276239720915278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059498726364484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684951115833804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705867401682076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28675251949692826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130434589336648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20774088918536987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055395744203356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498354513346264,0.2283268728982859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470997236568433,0.0,0.0,0.10369387399143837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735828552116195,0.0,0.0,0.13597502310256318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036762611745735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278528611834118,0.0,0.0,0.1682238047958525
parenting,sofiadoesntknow,2019/01/04,Does anyone have experience with boarding school? My stepson has been talking a lot about wanting to attend boarding school. He's a very independent 14 year old boy who is very mature for his age. I'm all for him attending boarding school because I think it would be a fun experience for him but his dad is somewhat hesitant on the idea. I was wondering if anyone had/has a child in boarding school or personally went to boarding that can give us some feedback? ,5.9593103448275855,7.300125793103452,6.340862068965517,75.4278448275862,66.93103448275862,9.018390804597699,35.1896551724138,9.2995712137729,3.346641379310345,372,18,65,7,6,120,65,87,0.025,0.919,0.056,0.3603,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,1,14,15,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,1,9,10,4,8,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,6,3,41,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310968887290755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007364373053554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461364401591809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32329746017293864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585253301276927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18655004516301385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049183173550234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340478140461071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429217641252684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6689777225814689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328237619803251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588717892958173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19877850348314868,0.0,0.0,0.2727013658509708,0.09747025164035313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319079475523867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920937088284744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739068958846495,0.0,0.0,0.1064172417650001
parenting,amafist,2019/01/04,"Struggling. Advice help needed.. Hi guys 

I have 2 kids g(4) b(19 months) and I'm struggling.  My patience is low. I feel like I'm failing my kids... my girl is becoming difficult, cheeky, over emotional at times  and rather dealing with it and seeing the funny side , I shout (I hate myself when I do). They're not sleeping through the night. I'm tired. Mentally and emotionally.  I feel unsupported by my partner, he thinks things are ""fine"". Has anyone got tips? Advice? I love my kids and I need to do better. ",0.5769669117647069,2.9079249687500024,1.976936274509804,90.94698529411768,101.39583333333334,4.758823529411767,20.230392156862745,6.522977012572876,0.6153340686274511,391,14,75,6,17,125,68,96,0.211,0.637,0.153,-0.7476,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,2,2,10,1,2,2,0,7,3,1,0,0,13,19,6,0,3,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,6,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,4,14,4,6,18,0,8,0,2,1,1,11,4,0,0,5,39,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492267621176543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249439030352601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973485926418713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803640481502998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422110184069546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020034336452465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18070163260225144,0.12765586548433822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429143738205873,0.0,0.0,0.17693076918202227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641895750300626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977185306893533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729869860821818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127431466017775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007705969641552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426283110625942,0.0,0.0,0.264992105994052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167688057958995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239245335811862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881861883265848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37361027530446017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871341122647175,0.11449706215962885,0.0,0.0,0.10419532604420984,0.20537737598190936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brentaliant,2019/01/04,"My son’s skin peels off after bathing He’s 6 and this has been going on since he was 3.  His doctor is stumped.  His skin wrinkles up worse than anything I’ve ever seen and then the skin peels off on his palms, fingertips, soles of his feet and around his fingernails and toenails.  Lotion immediately after doesn’t help and neither does changing products.  Has anyone else seen something like this?",5.0405855855855854,7.1471526081081125,4.528108108108111,84.56531531531532,70.21621621621622,6.5549549549549555,28.54954954954956,7.1686216300943375,1.5560522522522515,319,12,57,3,6,96,54,74,0.042,0.888,0.07,0.2732,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,7,6,0,1,7,9,6,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,5,6,1,10,5,1,11,0,0,2,0,9,6,0,0,5,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293006521166488,0.3120205375878747,0.25059707405556164,0.2710906731430747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221457168390391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116929306949832,0.26649075909373554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25439049202173275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27545913861020943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306784755031376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20411583010411646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877490726614775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519051676412851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23443723696287944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103356863715184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LogieDude,2019/01/04,"I’m afraid I’ll be overprotective if I have a daughter I have a conundrum I’ve been dealing with since my Philosophy class. 

We had this whole lecture on how parents treat their children differently whether they are male or female. Males can get away with shit because “boys will be boys” and girls are forced to “act like a lady”. 

I don’t want to force these roles on my children. I want them to be who they want to be and never tell them how they should act based on gender. But at the same time, wouldn’t other kids make fun of them for being out of the norm? 

Like if a girl wants to play with an army action figure, why not? But if a boy wants a Barbie? Kinda odd but why should I say no?

As a society, we assign things based on feminine and masculine qualities. But what should I do as a parent? 

I also realized that I would feel a huge sense of protection if I had a little girl but not as much if I had a boy. (I want to add that I would teach my son how to respect others and be a good human, the same as I would a daughter.) I would love them the same and care for them the same, but I would be worried about bad things that could happen to my daughter. I see the world that women have to live in and I think it sucks. The harassment, sexual abuse, and terrible things that men do to women sickens me. I want to protect her from it...

I feel that I would grow more protective especially as she grew older. I would despise men talking to her. Why would I feel this? When I would be proud of my son talking to women (and respecting them)? Am I the problem? I think I am... I would like to talk with someone on this and we can discuss how I need to perceive raising a daughter. 

TL;DR: I’m a guy and I know how to raise a boy. But I’ll be overprotective if I have a daughter because I know what men are like because I AM a guy and know what men are like.",2.2523230807701933,3.6013169379845,3.7009318996415774,90.76387096774195,76.00258397932815,6.750654330249231,23.33658414603651,7.359569317364363,0.7406753188297079,1433,42,323,17,31,473,169,387,0.112,0.741,0.14800000000000002,0.8558,3,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,3,0,10,1,8,23,4,2,27,0,45,2,1,6,1,84,70,38,0,30,17,9,3,5,0,15,0,1,0,23,21,20,0,3,11,1,0,5,6,9,0,0,4,5,54,14,42,41,7,21,0,0,1,1,58,12,2,8,9,233,75,4,0.0,0.10335652025105893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975998239647907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195802104577471,0.0,0.072835685556405,0.15952878701588427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893958164974998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964823644538314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993311390791696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911396359594533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232246750606688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557550085162178,0.0,0.0,0.0731666749138565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274823415638849,0.07713961475190924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382248067212405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21308752709380055,0.08743011198430413,0.077028098471553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873094431547374,0.0,0.058228524424380576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412609343001295,0.0646819637244113,0.0672792588445561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19372324599001534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346994125156745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06937096789470065,0.0,0.0,0.06951319148311902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954314343272285,0.07215981541672868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391200876392474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21034309136205004,0.07624525066507641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738606483332176,0.11179042173168753,0.0,0.0,0.05086610617446895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601648685479943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361419110175337,0.0973922274101754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858907135188504,0.0,0.6196762832446139,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,distant_diva,2019/01/04,"Teenagers & Piercings Hey fellow parents,

I've got some teenagers that are relentless about wanting more piercings.  Two want a third piercing on their ears (they are 11 & 13 and already have two) & one wants a nose piercing (she's almost 17 & my oldest). I don't care about piercings that much, but my husband is a little more hesitant.  I feel like you gotta pick your battles, but I'm not sure how lenient/strict I should be on this??  I know they need to make good impressions for jobs and such, but I don't want to make too big of a deal or not enough of a big deal about this!!  We've told them no tattoos until they are old enough to legally make that decision for themselves.  But I'm not sure how I feel about the piercings.  Any insight?",3.346,4.959627533333332,3.3663333333333334,93.1915,73.66666666666666,6.066666666666666,27.166666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.908266666666667,590,22,125,4,12,179,92,150,0.103,0.784,0.113,-0.4354,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,5,0,8,7,1,0,6,0,9,2,2,6,2,31,26,10,0,6,8,2,2,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,6,1,0,4,2,4,16,6,14,21,6,8,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,4,75,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312840064992939,0.0,0.14467904603145115,0.0,0.0,0.5682144215392534,0.0,0.0891567698538714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367159567487902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27032964664536874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709356793404194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258255433693444,0.09366235643957756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996573184339724,0.1048576731694725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010275816326092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720525856945281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640519085803962,0.1314029407626312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26254339055424925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637820500373698,0.0972136493341714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375739920080188,0.0,0.08884101200030971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557801448167287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24713224469811135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252776740739908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561435805678381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30931953574915605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goodra999,2019/01/04,"is this the type of people who don't take care of responsibility? so I know a friend, because of her past she had her kids taken (not my business as I can't say how that happened.) well she hasn't changed and kept having 9 kids and all 9 were taken into child services foster care. she told me she wants her youngest 2 who have been permanently adopted out and hasn't made an effort to take programs child services provides, well now she blames child services on why her kids keep getting taken but yet shes out drinking and partying. the father of the youngest 2 don't want anything to do with the kids so when my friends and friends of theirs were congratulating them the father said he was ""Embarrassed"" by it. and so she made a status on that she hates child services but I ask why and she tells me to leave her alone, tell me if I'm in the wrong for thinking like this or not...",6.020508474576267,5.7480267853107385,5.846333333333334,84.6728898305085,66.45762711864407,8.20994350282486,31.25932203389831,7.1686216300943375,1.6739315254237286,699,24,147,5,10,218,103,177,0.1,0.7859999999999999,0.114,0.6672,0,1,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,2,1,9,11,1,1,9,0,15,1,0,3,1,27,37,17,0,3,6,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,8,7,11,1,2,2,1,0,0,7,3,2,0,13,2,24,8,18,24,1,10,0,0,0,0,38,6,0,2,5,95,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113150385422806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802713256863985,0.0,0.14544408165014014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483867860033776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172435228792634,0.0,0.16458050259208856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240684736796886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605966706440483,0.0,0.0812828899066224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757678349453806,0.0,0.0,0.15360069927116834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828454498816473,0.0,0.0,0.0855013961750285,0.0,0.0,0.16473424544222492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600737098481487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944226284808873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851645082684806,0.10785793887696443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14798995206835253,0.1237215749851741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339500302201799,0.0,0.2719634101614794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968786269419903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866109161298066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352743288692944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27976594513102704,0.0,0.2807692231851739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009971429256876,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lord_Blathoxi,2019/01/04,"Introducing the concept of war to a child. I have a kid who's almost four. 

There's TONS of Star Wars stuff out there, and I'm always hesitant to get him into Star Wars because he has absolutely no concept of what a war is. We don't have guns and we don't have toy guns.

I just don't know when it's appropriate to introduce him to the idea that people kill other people. On purpose. ",2.822592592592592,3.857362308641978,4.825617283950617,84.5102777777778,74.06172839506172,7.869135802469136,24.61111111111111,8.344100000000001,1.3533111111111102,301,9,66,5,6,104,53,81,0.281,0.7190000000000001,0.0,-0.9756,0,0,0,2,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,4,5,5,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,11,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,6,0,10,11,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,1,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460562895610864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28755675725782576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21066713224392355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805553764544513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901265925788033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823417284500362,0.0,0.18992603229902735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791741725694934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956153817564117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fitcht3ll,2019/01/04,"Reading struggles with Kindergartner My daughter is 5 and will be returning to school next week for the second half of the school year. She's struggled with reading since the beginning. She has no confidence, and shuts down when we try to review her sight words. She's very good with numbers and counting and simple math, however.

By the Christmas break she was supposed to know 50 sight words. I'd say she knows 15-20 confidently. Every week the teacher sends home a simple paper book (about 4-5 pages) that is supposed to reinforce the 3-4 sight words they are focusing on that week. She ""reads"" the little books just fine. I say ""reads"" because I suspect she's memorized the word patterns and is just using the picture to remember what that page is talking about. For example: The first page shows a girl and her dog and the sentence is Pam has a dog. The next page shows her petting the dog and the sentence is Pam pets the dog... and so on... When I ask her to read the sentence while I cover up the picture, she gets frustrated and cries and says she doesn't know what the words are. I will point to each word one at a time and ask her to sound it out, and then she just starts guessing without even looking. I'll point to Pam, and she will say The, And, For, etc becoming more and more frustrated with each wrong guess. 

I'm honestly beginning to wonder if she may have dyslexia. She frequently mixes up b, p, and d, f , r, and t when they are in words, but can correctly identify them when they are single letters on a flashcard. She does have reading glasses, but the prescription is very low like +.25 or +.5. 

She did get a LeapPad or LeapBook something like that for Christmas; the one with the pen that reads the book to you. She seems to enjoy it, but I don't know if it will help her confidence if it just reads the story for her. I also got her a Nintendo Switch with the hope that she will be more inspired to try reading since 90% of video game dialog is reading. So 

I apologize for the long rant. I just need to vent. It's just very disheartening as a parent to see that your child is scoring ""well below average"" on her reading scores on her report card. 

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parenting,Dreamer22393,2019/01/04,"Dad got rich now wants me back. I was a kid my father wasn’t there for me since 5-16, at 16 I finally met him again and lived with him for a year (Because I was doing bad academically and getting in trouble.) Now I am 25 and living back with him. He recently became a multimillionare and has a new family. His wife is 29, just about 4 years older than me and my little brother is about 5 years old. He has very high expectations for me to become a successful businessman just like him. He always brags about how my little 4 year brother is smarter than me and calls me stupid when he didn’t even raise me the majority of my life. He also talks mad shit about my Mom not raising me and my sister properly when my sister and I have been abused by my Mom's ex boyfriend when my father was gone. Lets just say he was convicted in court.. Anyways, we are also in the process of opening up a company together, but I am afraid that it will ruin our relationship. He told me that one day he wants me to teach my little brother what he taught me before he died, but sometimes it’s frustrating talking to him as I have no say in the business and he’s a grumpy old man now (now 60 yrs old). I need help with answers.. What should I do",4.2757142857142885,4.580074468253972,5.442976190476191,84.09160714285714,70.19047619047619,8.680952380952384,27.654761904761905,8.660442795831766,1.7681619047619055,954,30,207,15,16,318,141,252,0.11,0.843,0.047,-0.9497,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,2,0,0,1,23,11,4,1,10,0,22,2,1,1,0,27,31,18,1,5,6,12,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,2,6,14,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,8,0,1,12,2,38,3,25,16,1,34,0,1,0,0,42,11,1,0,23,134,44,4,0.0,0.14323032214840387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933452234545853,0.10058696208532662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590797738511566,0.10093488713438814,0.07369107596607291,0.13350925685506468,0.10286521129149324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343827662441426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796156709417873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546073985695858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798441630007038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396070509846835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324248701651956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315802479801233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668369856236438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810274392197253,0.12772285623305207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361428025709666,0.08538546387481206,0.059058867456674276,0.363479045382856,0.2134893731282807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831607993436193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963554963861976,0.0,0.11675259846560487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805490424671225,0.0,0.08191558485501485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936049085117065,0.12978648639577448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922670394701636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408789739530947,0.0999982737731683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955949494339055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943274190752302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551189827746572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997437352586788,0.14260356848414482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113868727850144
parenting,xtrc91_,2019/01/04,"What's paternity leave like in your contry? how many days by law? Hi there,

I just need to vent a little. I'm from the netherlands and just had a son who's currently 8 months old. The paternity leave I recieved were 2 days. I think it's insane you are expected to go back to work again after that. Like, what do they expect?! (I used vacational leave days) up to 2 weeks so I could help and take care of everything. 



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parenting,Sukitty07,2019/01/04,"2yr old won't sleep in her toddler bed My now 2yr old used to sleep in her crib in her room without issues. We got her a toddler bed a few months ago which she likes but won't sleep in. She keeps getting into bed between us and sleeping. It's not letting up and now have a 3-4 week old in our room as well. Between the two, it is hard for this momma to get enough sleep. Any advice to get her to sleep in her own bed would be appreciated. ",2.0593303571428585,2.8050140104166696,3.5252380952380946,94.21500000000003,75.5625,5.902380952380952,23.089285714285715,5.288315135182226,0.008341071428571212,339,9,83,1,7,112,61,96,0.017,0.889,0.094,0.8126,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,7,6,6,1,0,10,13,4,0,1,3,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,6,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,1,12,2,17,7,3,18,0,0,0,0,12,10,0,0,9,55,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314826215695973,0.11171182661203896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569999289298566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021549475147315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975255206040344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079214242650804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289189589698564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315353183600765,0.0,0.11201507382286872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886710300585832,0.0,0.061568494676501176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059039310293924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967199627130139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7566843508905227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231062042188512,0.0,0.1515902077040163,0.10884344927431816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108808602455097,0.0,0.11330985324375452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148171934088192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952315620356649,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,charles-danger,2019/01/04,"Are siblings better off if they each have their own room? We have our first child on the way and we are looking to buy a house. There is about a 50% chance we would want second child. We can afford a house with 3 bedrooms so each child would have their own room, but we could save some money by buying a house where our 2 future kids would have to share a room. A third option could be to have them share a room until they are older and then move to a bigger house where they could have their own rooms.

Do you think it would be better for the children if they each have their own room? My wife and I don't have siblings so we don't know. Which option do you think is best for the kids. What's best for them is more important than what's best for our bank account.

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parenting,K19081985,2019/01/04,"Gross/Fine Motor Delay I’m not even sure where to begin with this, so I guess I’ll start at the beginning. All the details aren’t entirely necessary. 

Today is exactly one month since our adoption placement moved in. This wonderful, sweet loving boy has been an excellent addition to our home and we are all so in love with him already. 

But he has some pretty serious delays. Mostly physical. I’ll start with stating the reason he came into care was extreme abuse and neglect at 16 months. He was nearly killed, and most relevant to this story is severe head trauma. Let’s leave that there.

He was placed with a foster mom and lived with her until being placed with us, nearly 3 years. Foster mom is lovely and she loved him so much, that’s obvious. Foster mom is also 66; has a 10 year old adopted son with disabilities, and there was always at least one other foster child in the home. 

My son has a severe gross motor delay. Not as severe for fine motor. For example, in the month we’ve had him, he’s had two black eyes from falling and banging things, stitches in is lip from hitting his face trying to get under a table, and generally bruises everywhere. We were not presented with the full scope of the delay because foster mom didn’t properly report it. Partly I think she didn’t want to see it because she loved him, and partly because if you’re doing everything for someone, you don’t notice they can’t do it themselves. 

He came us at 4 1/2 not potty trained, but we’ve been 20+ days in underpants no issues and no more reminders. He was unable to attend preschool and get assessments because of his toileting issue (which clearly wasn’t even really an issue). 

I have no concerns about his cognitive function. Besides missing some basic building blocks that were just not attended to, he’s very intelligent and incredibly articulate. 

I feel like I’ve spent the past month scaling back every few days realizing his delay was worse than I thought, and so all month I’ve spent just getting a full scope of his delays. 

My adopting worker came out today and did assessments and he scored shockingly low. He cut his hand using the scissors for the fine motor test - which is simultaneously funny and very sad. He can’t jump. Two nights ago he was running around the arena while my daughter was at hockey practice. Open, flat surface, nothing around, no one around and his legs just seemed to like... go sideways from under him? He can’t get his arms out to brace for impact to he went face first top speed, severe enough the other 6 parents all jumped up along with me to attend to him. He had a massive bleeding nose as a result. The same day he got stitches in his lip he was getting off the potty and it was like he forgot he had legs. He just fell back to his bum, hit his back on the toilet and then fell sideways and hit his head on the tub. ER doctor from stitches confirmed something is definitely not going right for him. 

It could be that he didn’t get out and play enough. He didn’t have enough one on one time. It could be permanent brain injury. 

He starts preschool Monday when the kids return from break, now that he is potty trained. I know assessments will start, but I feel lost. 

While knowing the full scope wouldn’t have changed my decision to bring him into my home in anyway, I feel unprepared and I have no idea how to help my son move forward. This delay is far worse than I had anticipated or prepared for. 

Parents who have been here - what can I do while i await assessments? What are things I can start with. 

If I had to, I’d peg him at mobility of a 18-24 month old, with the size, speed and potential for distraction of a typical 4 year old. ",4.815249102457884,6.148175685915498,5.312369511184759,81.77136840651757,69.6056338028169,7.9348246340789865,27.44269538801436,8.313332769828598,1.845559513946424,2907,96,544,42,51,931,329,710,0.114,0.795,0.09,-0.9163,3,0,1,0,1,0,80.0,6,1,1,5,26,27,2,1,30,0,65,20,13,4,8,111,114,43,1,6,16,10,4,3,0,2,2,0,3,3,24,50,0,10,13,2,2,19,22,12,1,8,37,9,54,15,83,66,21,115,0,5,3,5,77,44,0,10,55,351,78,5,0.0,0.06965868662230583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211539637021722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487822939009856,0.04701579291495275,0.048919499482321084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701153881513152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356218293341401,0.0,0.14335577803874708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563110874231147,0.0,0.2017265208396445,0.05994217327953666,0.0,0.06219394435714137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388096008960782,0.0,0.0,0.11374757012353305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060175913491483976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18224298165183592,0.0,0.0776628781623991,0.0,0.04953463949198577,0.0,0.05283829206712623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918072391278016,0.04200088411547248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05000828748646555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842977795943296,0.0,0.06682548621891246,0.0,0.04702118489032717,0.0,0.06476581205755387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067472648897035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03940691406507233,0.0,0.17691895098219906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663688025476893,0.0,0.1840901396275087,0.0,0.0,0.06504443215087158,0.0,0.06462088755856363,0.0,0.0,0.0622520428203013,0.0,0.060118613721675124,0.0,0.08616813280996899,0.0,0.05191424943011325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417821065230503,0.0,0.2653095404251289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754250509157093,0.2815623931636988,0.12497278941463626,0.04321874842248485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05517213535909539,0.0,0.05641233175698172,0.06693487062042472,0.1850763588045958,0.0,0.199194275671116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305627051984278,0.12733161203737162,0.05612343949233466,0.0,0.0,0.1228498661671139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059812411512812275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0376635418994174,0.0604477771977044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050207888456986434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04684946445446258,0.0535218599687364,0.0,0.2656720644075048,0.0,0.04863319659589483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04981411374536485,0.045260811206738825,0.0,0.0,0.20806574495797356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541058951179628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811733850157003,0.037671420902462345,0.0,0.04667413370306575,0.03428197989926006,0.0,0.1114555318366688,0.0,0.0,0.039915782934509286,0.0,0.1148621202082632,0.0,0.14143862829805307,0.05077725137314529,0.0,0.09701880848558814,0.03467693550939301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545006011676367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637572150702296,0.0,0.0,0.11982776365683785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358000315999872
parenting,Gucci_LittlePiggy,2019/01/04,"“Good” teen, drinking. My niece lives with me (2 yrs now) she is 17 years old. We have a good relationship, well the best you can have with a teenager. 
She has straight As, doesn’t argue with me (too much) about a curfew even when her friends are out later, I track her with gps through her phone. I tell her it’s for safety but also... teenager. 

So I recently saw some videos of her taking shots (someone’s home, underage kids) driving foolishly (still no license, just permit) and smoking. 

Punishments are no driving at all until 18 and then we’ll see and she was going to get a hand me down car and that now is up  in the air. I let her know I don’t trust her word because she has lied to me. We have open conversations often about drinking, driving, all the above she has done. 
It has not effected her school and behavior but this is not safe and illegal for many reasons. 

I guess I’m asking, what should I do? I don’t know how to guide her. She’s almost 18 and she will continue to live here. She has told me this and go to college. I’ll also add she does see a therapist (mandatory for her) once every two weeks. 



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parenting,breviews,2019/01/04,"Alfie Kohn - how do you apply this to toddlerlife? I’ve been listening to Alfie Kohn and I find the approach refreshing. However, I’m having trouble navigating my way through these ideas with my toddler who is extremely stubborn (very mentally rigid), anxious and well, a toddler 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

Alfie wants us to rethink how necessary the things are that we want our kids to do and focus more so on the long term goals of what we want for our kids, but I struggle with this. I know one of the objectives is to explain to your child what needs to be done instead of using a reward system, but my 3yo doesn’t care about my explanation. I also don’t want to become permissive for fear of being too controlling (ie oh, you don’t want to leave the park yet? Ok, I guess it’s not completely necessary that we leave the park now so we can stay a little longer ...) I feel like I go from being to permissive for fear of a tantrum in public to a completely controlling parent. I will admit that I do care too much about how others think of me as a parent...

Everything I’ve read up until now has talked about positive reinforcement, so that’s what I’ve been trying to model (not always successfully) but I can see the holes in this approach now. 
 
Has anyone been able to apply his advice with toddlers? Can you give some concrete examples? I just love the ideas in theory I’m just not sure how to put them into practice for a toddler. I don’t want to completely drop everything I’ve been doing with positive reinforcement, but I think there has to be a way to meld the two ideas together? 

Disclaimer: Sorry if this is a bit incoherent, I have a baby too who only sleeps for two hour stretches. ",3.837135842880525,5.5054987142857135,5.162021276595748,80.59134615384617,72.49544072948328,8.587374327799857,26.93956043956044,9.162432508145574,2.294522469020341,1323,47,252,29,26,441,172,329,0.08900000000000001,0.775,0.13699999999999998,0.9611,4,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,7,4,1,5,23,16,2,4,19,1,30,2,1,7,1,52,54,18,0,8,10,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,17,12,0,4,11,1,0,4,7,7,1,3,5,3,32,9,45,44,5,25,0,0,1,1,27,8,0,3,9,180,49,3,0.0990912453605736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683081812737633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924323311416982,0.08245185417415768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194490205583188,0.0,0.06928690274232684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943849529699423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818197552620666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206025746083325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116858564121728,0.0,0.22227851514299926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140474774942153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781136437793961,0.0,0.0,0.22301040007342465,0.05010351101309266,0.07079080548496079,0.0,0.0,0.09056760307029284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505735184197467,0.05631583829705944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916017841045507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758491626881452,0.0,0.0,0.3355858637527438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054457956990226805,0.0,0.0,0.20984664238103387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048410977191038616,0.09931546005550408,0.0,0.08769263392446476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894337177184365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986066881381664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284346692484295,0.07347490285425445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714679235791131,0.07536335731924514,0.0,0.0,0.22005820262929507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961407077299367,0.0,0.0,0.09911806085885444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896289316559157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916280787289904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092453646141502,0.0,0.10561808304464787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359168466687317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339232605562148,0.0,0.0,0.07964578951116694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583182034530458,0.12698733779586768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727645107965312,0.0,0.19359549639237106,0.0,0.11919456738553125,0.08558302047011207,0.0,0.08176065509720845,0.3506795032758356,0.1573080364988147,0.0,0.0,0.08909492995931505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,calathra418,2019/01/04,"Do I let my son give up on music? My son (10) is very talented when it comes to music. He did piano lessons when he was young and as he got older wanted to switch to guitar. He’s been doing guitar for a little over a year and his teacher is blown away with how fast he picked skills. 

But the issue we are having, he doesn’t want to learn anything new! He has learned enough to play today’s pop music (which doesn’t take more than some basic chords) 

So at this point, he’s just wasting everyone’s time and money because he refuses to learn anything new. So I’m thinking just to end lessons and let him be happy with what he learned but it’s a shame because he has a lot of talent. 

Any advice on what to do? 

Note: he’s not going to just sit around watching tv or video games with this new free time if he quits. So I’m not worried about that ",3.344868913857677,3.874111146067418,4.248932584269664,91.01961610486893,72.37078651685394,6.607490636704121,23.82209737827716,5.985473137389443,0.3965940074906373,656,16,147,3,12,212,112,178,0.034,0.86,0.106,0.9006,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,4,11,6,0,1,5,0,17,0,0,2,0,33,27,15,0,3,9,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,10,0,1,7,6,2,2,4,1,0,0,4,1,6,6,24,20,4,25,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,4,13,83,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585561772647155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034068225344544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267048238594129,0.1444435994214837,0.0,0.0,0.15244628759457435,0.0,0.0,0.1978213646020424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397704920518124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371200813556853,0.16765539932761747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504402022533206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565220474688296,0.09221469169137493,0.0,0.12977216666767782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727261544165098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935470212230205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318386288187254,0.0,0.0,0.16262466840848894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794554687849822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4701279913445761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533858090681708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725808523970387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219974669350787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396807148448214,0.0,0.0,0.18922733740382366,0.0,0.15380116310635805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387945257076292,0.19140738647677044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478039460595273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448852741995186
parenting,suddenly_ponies,2019/01/04,"Looking for lightweight parental control software to take screencaps triggered on a keyword blacklist So basically, we have the kids computer in a common area, but I have caught one of them typing in personal information I wasn't ok with at least once. We talked about expectations, but there's just no reasonable way for me to monitor that situation enough to make sure I'm there when I need to be.

Instead, I'd like to get software that lets me specify a list of keywords (like their name, age, etc) and takes a screenshot to let me know what they were doing when they used that word. We've already told them they have no expectation of privacy and all their accounts are subject to our review. The goal, however, is to make sure we have a chance to step in when something goes wrong and we need to talk to them about risks and privacy and safety.",7.378357487922707,7.342881149068322,6.997846790890268,76.75355417529329,63.59627329192547,10.38536922015183,36.522429261559694,9.994966539143718,3.5157737750172533,679,30,127,13,9,213,105,161,0.08800000000000001,0.821,0.091,0.1576,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,8,2,10,7,0,1,7,1,12,0,0,6,3,30,25,11,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,10,0,1,3,0,1,2,3,2,0,1,4,1,19,5,24,18,4,14,0,0,1,0,21,6,0,0,7,88,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045814217975413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935751589378172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17833234166531745,0.19248426591946965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017152348166782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485134155255744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35297139232964275,0.0,0.16863820775591484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493272980654426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304112805926109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559476517791727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380347528514546,0.116951932979085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164156068854235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069955238477015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745199664353842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939991912984998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286876194096114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253294066348952,0.0,0.2595334721461117,0.2774437530039017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491782131011687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906296075644074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369944735678295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887008495782788,0.0,0.0
parenting,mynicknamewastaken1,2019/01/04,"Son meets father in the mall at Christmas time First I’ll give you some back story my son is 7 it has always only been him and I. I had one boyfriend in those 7 years that he met once I thought things were serious (I broke it off when he didn’t follow through on a promise to my son). I have reached out to his biological father a few times when he was younger but never got a response, I finally reached out to his mother she had coffee with us once and then gave me excuse after excuse as to why she couldn’t do it again. So as the years go on and he gets older he asks questions about him I try and answer them as honestly as I can for his age. I try to fill the void, buying him everything he wants. My dad try’s to be that male influence he needs but it isn’t the same.
December 22nd we were out finishing our shopping, and there he was, it was the first time I had seen him in 7 years. My son was 6 days old when I had last seen him face to face so when I said “omg that’s his father” it was out of shock I was thinking out loud and forgot where I was who I was with and what I was doing. 
My son wanted to meet him I said you know what it is your right let’s go.
He walked into the store told me to wait right there walked over and said “excuse me you probably don’t remember me but I’m your son (name)” he looked at him and said “oh” i told him to come on walking out of the store still within ear shot my son says “how come he don’t love me” I started to cry my heart broke. as petty as it sounds I hope we ruined his night his week even his damn Christmas.
Last night when we were reading before bed he goes “you know mama I at least thought he would call” 
I just needed to vent this I’m so completely heartbroken over it and there is nothing I can do to change it 

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parenting,dahveed910,2019/01/04,"Graco Breaze stroller footbrake stuck Im at work but wife text that footbrake is stuck even though shes putting a lot of pressure 
Will go home and check for rocks mud etc 

Wondering if anyone else has dealt with graco footbrake not working properly

Thank you!",5.372499999999999,7.7029312500000024,3.84,88.905,69.83333333333334,6.466666666666668,30.75,7.1686216300943375,1.780774999999999,212,9,38,2,4,60,44,48,0.192,0.8079999999999999,0.0,-0.8297,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,9,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,4,6,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,19,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920556583378461,0.2814318856371865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294515496041183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30632966840340553,0.18141695202782904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610129722802807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755164166165807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966907458779564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23351462136458465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761192257816547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25287924337921736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698618915840742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978679106802373,0.3999260791463176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ParsnipParadise,2019/01/04,"23mo is spitting out antibiotics - help! Kiddo used to be GREAT with medicine, no coaxing necessary. Last one (for strep) was so bad that we offered it with ice cream and he still hated it. Also I think with the medicine dad got WAY too frustrated, and I was too persistent.

He has strep again, luckily it's regular antibiotics this time. Asking didn't work (it used to), dad tried force (which of course didn't work), and bartering (which worked for a few doses).  


I am super chill about the medicine now so he doesn't get worked up. If I offer him \*\*Y\*\* for medicine, he'll say okay, instantly spittle out the medicine, then ask for \*\*Y\*\* (which he does not get). 

Tried freezing his tongue with a pedialyte freezie so it wouldn't be so bad tasting.

Tried syringe in the side of the mouth. Tried spoon. Tried mentioning how he saw his same-age cousin take medicine so well.

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I am at a bit of a loss, any suggestions? I'd prefer to not barter with him, but my first priority is him swallowing the medication.",3.8185949405669,6.0264330051813495,3.6335019811033256,89.23300822919843,73.87046632124354,7.649984760743678,27.933252057299605,8.4952907291091,1.949740262115209,802,32,161,15,17,242,119,193,0.071,0.855,0.07400000000000001,-0.2496,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,1,0,0,8,14,9,2,0,10,1,13,6,2,3,0,21,25,13,0,3,4,3,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,10,11,2,0,2,0,0,0,7,5,1,2,6,5,12,4,21,15,2,14,0,1,2,0,23,6,0,1,7,91,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576933181146283,0.0,0.15685391936921875,0.17590655657001156,0.09844585606958624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270673368584399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24174715529516555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804699692993054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668571738684514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313790044583944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512685381879142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578260874135253,0.15960504525133995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292647118036353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703360992587323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800362584314587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583653237202893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809719996354377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151237475181656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561032849673353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884602873089308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276021855369836,0.0,0.0,0.08441422892283312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4914331156148464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500627171523103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490852630787295,0.0,0.0,0.13016203534147086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.421565539285686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590655657001156,0.0
parenting,nakedreader_ga,2019/01/04,"LPT: Men, if you’re not married to the mother of your child, please check your state’s laws about your rights as a father. There was an earlier post where a father was concerned about his child with a woman he’s not married to. People were telling him he had just as much right to his child as the mother did. Unfortunately, that’s just wrong in many places. Please check your state’s laws about what you need to do to be acknowledged as a parent.",4.773745318352058,5.657886168539331,4.3815168539325855,90.06905430711613,69.3370786516854,7.281647940074906,22.698501872659172,7.1686216300943375,0.4851333333333332,355,7,76,3,6,107,55,89,0.064,0.883,0.053,-0.2263,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,0,0,7,1,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,8,5,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,8,0,15,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,1,0,47,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572110414950854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864980104544829,0.18811464883725265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817027985289119,0.0,0.0,0.17588299428977697,0.0,0.2650615353410661,0.5569707979235171,0.0,0.0,0.2429735840881918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333152461896399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22174417300438407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773801111825453,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdoptionPerspective,2019/01/04,"Binge Drinking (more than 4 drinks once a week) for the first month and a half of pregnancy? How risky? My wife and I are considering adopting a child whose mother drank in that manner for the first month or so of her pregnancy. She has been in recovery ever since. She's also smoked cigs. We are just asking around for any perspective. 

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Thank you!",3.3204904051172726,6.031535164179102,3.289125799573561,88.52895522388063,77.95522388059702,6.813646055437101,21.51172707889127,7.957251820313856,1.082507036247336,284,8,54,5,7,86,54,67,0.028,0.923,0.049,0.3296,0,0,3,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,2,6,1,0,0,5,0,4,3,0,1,1,8,7,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,7,1,9,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,6,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774736601815264,0.0,0.24045607544499076,0.26966364887766914,0.15091688042932347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975606546695289,0.20747028891282016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348048032890738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074422748515613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775392594436258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35427746994591497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363433054497061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18357898210531287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043190893777341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780151675210347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26966364887766914,0.0
parenting,IskianDrexel,2019/01/04,"Problems Between My Fiancée And My Parents My parents come from a very religious background but raised my stepbrother and I with the ideal of choice, so I changed religions a few years ago and I’m planning to marry a woman of a different religion as well, and, in our relationship and parenting, we’ve found a balance between her practices and my practices for raising our 4 and a half month old son.

But my parents aren’t the fondest of us not raising him in the family religion even though neither of us practice it and they already made peace with that.  We decided not to circumcise our son and my family flipped (they’re Jewish).  We celebrate Christmas (she’s Christian) and Saturnalia (I’m Pagan) instead of Chanukkah and they flip.  But, even in secular areas, they pick at all our parenting decisions from how we dress him, take him around with us on quick errands, and even what cartoons we watch with him.

My biggest problem, actually, is that they won’t take up their problems with me.  As a teenager when I converted faiths, they realized I have the will to outlast their tirades and ignore them when they try to nitpick my decisions, so they know they can’t come at me.  But my fiancée isn’t quite as strong-willed and they come at her endlessly trying to get her to convince me to “raise him in the faith”.  But, every time I come at them for it, they suddenly claim I’m pulling everything from nothing.  They’ll get mad when we won’t bring our son around because it and claim I’m trying to split the family.

And I’m just fed up with everything at this point.  This is mostly ranting but also hoping someone can relate/sympathize.",7.003004644515902,7.197248144694537,6.970198285101823,75.86332886745267,64.33762057877814,10.383779921400501,37.85655591282601,10.125756701596842,3.8919151839942847,1307,64,235,27,18,417,157,311,0.039,0.853,0.108,0.9747,7,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,13,0,15,3,17,11,1,0,13,0,11,1,0,3,1,59,30,33,0,5,9,8,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,33,1,1,6,0,0,6,8,5,1,1,3,1,55,6,43,23,4,33,5,0,1,0,47,17,0,2,10,173,63,0,0.0,0.0,0.09311916305367747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458680466347952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530174379463918,0.07630980417273446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698935476357324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816902508139786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094496807080322,0.3287941431061084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969681088668417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907813704590692,0.0,0.08039806212006394,0.0,0.17152022631024488,0.0,0.26986916772195924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104626484085271,0.0,0.0,0.0997092437694504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477665131198973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244203031928425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029162738974954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761657936358905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156102072105042,0.0,0.10013047263309237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5297801998137639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020565592362527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739210068180112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149419353008264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244867893987723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808516676901169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349256417858786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937526935420642,0.0,0.055641966466424386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19435802675775252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443466554124196,0.0,0.0,0.07873403613546928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579681053880547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144933621741639
parenting,CafeRoaster,2019/01/04,"Setting looks on Android, but allowing calls/texts to specific contacts? Quite a bit different, but I thought y'all might know the answer to this. 

We are on Android, and we have a phone for our daughter purely for communicating with us, set up with Google's Family Link. There's a time limit of one hour on it that we set, but once that limit is up, three phone can't be used at all except for emergency calling. 

Does anyone know if there's another way to do this?",5.025471014492755,5.725083358695652,5.78130434782609,80.92384057971016,68.67391304347827,9.1768115942029,29.46376811594203,9.2995712137729,2.399059420289855,367,13,73,7,6,120,67,92,0.044,0.956,0.0,-0.5803,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,2,23,12,5,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,7,0,16,9,2,12,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,2,2,49,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536089464770947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911256736492014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640460303426081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24696381150385174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526898795606802,0.0,0.0,0.21165135324863074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280019687768201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381811723881335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658373965514157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030996026846531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565728600123368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25757061812262844,0.1638890756626169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572454957297976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200804350870293,0.1410292032400217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29092510285070405,0.2088874483013025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919754301789398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NateTrib,2019/01/04,"What is everyone's thoughts on the all the different safety features in car seats on the market today? I'm researching convertible/multimode car seats currently and having a tough time discerning between what is a gimmick and what could legitimately help protect my child if I were to be in an accident. 

Some Examples:

* [Graco TrueShield Technology](http://www.gracobaby.com/en-US/Convertibles-All-In-1-Car-Seats/graco-extend2fit-3in1-car-seat-featuring-trueshiel-115934)
* [Graco Safety Surround](http://www.gracobaby.com/en-US/Convertibles-All-In-1-Car-Seats/milestone-featuring-safety-surround-side-impact-pr-103523)
* [Britax Anti-Rebound Bar](https://us.britax.com/marathon-clicktight-arb-convertible-car-seats/)
* And also a lot of models that say they have reinforced-steel frames ",12.259866555462885,17.08580916513762,8.626839032527105,50.8616763969975,58.26605504587153,12.037030859049208,42.019182652210176,11.20814326018867,6.901983486238531,665,35,65,22,11,188,80,109,0.058,0.805,0.13699999999999998,0.743,2,0,0,0,0,0,76.0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,9,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,7,5,3,9,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,3,3,36,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892089353114665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863428672977247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337555793705568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378849380406498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499649338804507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902115970114256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17792314640071902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762069273299044,0.13046174690040496,0.0,0.21207473179574668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8073773997819476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MindyS1719,2019/01/04,"Heading to FL next week with an 18 month old and a 26 week pregnant lady. Title says it all, I also am the pregnant lady. Luckily I’ll have my husband flying with us as well. It’s only a 2 1/2 hour flight but still any advice you can give will be greatly appreciated. :) ",1.7483928571428535,3.5019184821428597,4.370857142857143,83.67414285714288,78.46428571428572,5.908571428571428,23.7,6.742157984588678,0.8574614285714284,209,7,42,2,5,74,49,56,0.0,0.7829999999999999,0.217,0.9187,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,1,5,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,2,4,4,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,7,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461297786394704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142470963541614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128394595832835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416218867028736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27769357733232986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25849688196626835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480465858317887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010445844223757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26787240288909303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643009190552205,0.0,0.0,0.19156263277784732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003014706325829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20114806299680052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30297515866318897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040785927551042,0.0,0.2264662822526077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ayceeohhh,2019/01/04,"5 y/o has mental blocks with food? My 5 y/o is my first so there was a large learning curve in regards to feeding.  She used to eat a lot but now the list of what she will eat is about 50 times shorter than what she won't.  However we have begun coaching her to eat more foods.  When she tries them, particularly veggies, she gags a lot.  But only if she knows it's in the bite.  For example, last night, she saw I gave her kale and barley in her enchilada bite and she gagged like three times.  Did it again in a second bite and talked to her about something completely unrelated and she didn't even blink.   


Is this just a ""keep doing what you are doing"" thing or is there a way to get her over this?",1.6226472148541116,3.362818055172415,3.0013793103448267,93.41039787798412,78.79310344827586,6.116710875331565,20.119363395225466,7.010146845296331,0.1344748010610073,538,13,125,6,13,175,94,145,0.035,0.941,0.024,-0.1306,1,0,1,1,0,0,17.0,1,1,1,1,10,1,0,0,8,0,14,6,0,1,0,18,20,10,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,6,6,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,1,20,1,16,13,3,15,0,0,1,0,19,5,0,4,10,88,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129120132133948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5600635385905693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050388845481932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551885080664753,0.4412289505254547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953205254993944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216642287028946,0.0,0.0,0.10026757197853536,0.1487178730084571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913391923470101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102181970422559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18386269613292627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121324891473078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387584344360844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045587477781954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664321568345612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212090417959571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21277150574576006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238688848041091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757479970589855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448171740566546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImprovingSilence,2019/01/04,"I think my son is an easy target My son (7) is having a terrible time at school, he seems to be a target for other children to pick on, and I’m looking for advice on how to help him.

A little background: we had an issue with him being “ganged up on” by a group of boys in the neighborhood, but because I know those boys well, all it took was a couple conversations to get the boys to be more inclusive and treat each other better. Now they play beautifully together.

Currently: My son is new to his school for 1st grade. Started the year happy and excited. By November, things changed. He said that every day at lunch other boys are stealing his food (he gets a packed lunch from home due to food sensitivities). Sometimes the stealing was happening in the classroom, but mostly during lunch time. His lunches come home half eaten I’m guessing because he spends half of the measly 15 minutes he gets to eat trying to get his food back. He also says there is only one boy in his class who doesn’t do this to him (so about 12 boys are all in on this). He also comes home a lot of days talking about how nobody is playing with him at recess. He spends recess bored. 

I’m guessing other things might be going on since it took him until  November to bring up the lunch issue (which he says has been happening since the start of the year).  

I was bullied terribly in elementary school, so I realize I may be a bit oversensitive to this. I also don’t know how I can best help him. He is emotional and can react strongly, which could be why he is targeted. Thoughts? Advice? Much thanks!

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parenting,p1nkahb00,2019/01/04,Can children take azo? I am waiting for my paycheck to come in before I can take my kid to the doctor but in the meantime are azo cranberry pills safe to give an 11 year old with a uti?,2.1926666666666685,3.1476136000000032,3.770000000000003,91.78166666666668,75.5,6.333333333333334,25.833333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.7615833333333333,144,5,33,1,3,48,31,40,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.6381,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,4,2,0,0,0,5,9,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,7,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,20,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31687863219736073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32078320809174754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811595547345005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572328669112044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907633382462106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5599857058240065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398085929477133
parenting,SummerCouchIsBesty,2019/01/04,"Book for my 11yo to read to understand his changing emotions As my son is getting into puberty, his mood swings wildly and unexpectedly.  99% he's a sweet kid, and then he turns into a monster for the littlest of infractions.

I assume this is normal?  

Can anyone recommend a book he can read to understand this?

Also if you have a good book for a parent to read, I'd appreciate it!",5.0009459459459435,5.957831797297299,6.765783783783785,72.91570270270273,68.86486486486487,9.703783783783782,31.016216216216225,9.888512548439397,3.146992432432433,299,12,54,7,5,104,50,74,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.8946,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,9,6,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,11,9,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,1,36,9,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366217247801718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518427956765684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297256905052229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24427492560020225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134567443650306,0.0,0.0,0.1821428744966896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127699561456025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411296462699322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6516540442926113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236206903397652,0.0,0.4521408722072538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,texasixtyR,2019/01/04,"Toddler doesn’t want me Hi all, 

First time dad here to a wonderful 15 month old boy. Goodness I am so in love with him. Going back to the beginning, my wife had a difficult pregnancy and I ended up doing a lot of his firsts (feeding, bath, diaper change etc.). Soon after, I separated from the military and my wife was the sole provider for our family so my son and i got really close as I was his caretaker. 

Fast forward about 10 months, I began a certification program to get a better job. As I was studying, my wife took care of him so I was spending a lot less time with him. 

Fast forward another 3 months...my son completely pulls away from me. He won’t let me feed him, pick him up, or even look at me and it’s absolutely heartbreaking. If I’m the only one there to change his diaper, he protests. This morning as I was changing his diaper, he was looking at me with complete distaste. 

What am I doing wrong and is this normal?",2.3055080213903736,4.274213989304815,4.286096256684496,83.92561497326206,77.55614973262033,8.036363636363637,25.438502673796787,8.841846274778883,2.0079433155080224,724,27,148,17,17,247,115,187,0.059,0.841,0.101,0.831,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,3,9,8,1,0,10,0,15,3,0,1,1,18,28,13,0,3,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,9,2,0,1,1,1,5,2,4,0,3,10,2,29,4,23,16,5,27,0,1,2,1,22,9,0,5,17,104,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298667359409446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707588363235387,0.11218648256600584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903483997030235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875263688617196,0.0,0.4630219117181204,0.0,0.3059423533953977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922223830174925,0.0,0.16271472951797894,0.09636418970790164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753955946984175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24820136550881516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622563321452022,0.0,0.08291714115792073,0.12237223993801055,0.11668788199136275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478115747208095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919049189851966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24503498835214466,0.0,0.0,0.2480743615325851,0.13167855474726098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329086303214364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294896902773366,0.0,0.0,0.15309530775651425,0.0,0.09886419573253946,0.11096193053208904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934659333401878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014848240194122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162097939812155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860543639633917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822005348366547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951645477240406,0.0,0.0
parenting,raj0kayshap,2019/01/04,"Confused.. Please advise We have been blessed with a baby boy which is 2 months old. He sleeps fine in my arms at night but with my wife he drives her crazy. 

I work a afternoon shift and he is fine if he is with me on weekends. But on weekdays he drives my wife crazy. He wants my wife to carry in the lap all the time. Crying uninterrupted if he is put down in the bed to sleep. My wife is going nuts managing a crying baby almost 12 hours.

Is this normal. I'm just worried about my wife. The baby is 1 month preme. ",0.4272222222222233,2.5800602407407425,2.123703703703704,95.86666666666667,85.48148148148148,4.711111111111111,16.407407407407412,5.985473137389443,-0.627237037037037,398,8,91,3,12,130,67,108,0.17,0.765,0.065,-0.9387,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,7,0,9,3,3,0,1,15,12,5,0,4,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,3,13,11,1,19,1,0,0,0,16,7,0,4,8,48,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180849514335762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4784635758952777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377492053879978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447901020748256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476753637216138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20438090484391466,0.2133876908372027,0.0,0.0,0.22853368179126485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390677186746745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893882906325265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358940232809511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269949409434376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845802342967394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855351475849655,0.22117603903035687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jeremyct,2019/01/04,"Toddler Wake Time Does anyone else have a toddler that wakes up ridiculously early every day?  My 21 mo daughter was up at 5am every day, any tips on getting her to sleep in?

We put her down around 9pm because if we put her down at 8 or 8:30 she wakes up at 4am.  Her afternoon nap is about 90 minutes.  If we cut that she does not get enough sleep and acts our from being overtired. Any advice would be appreciated.",3.4813178294573635,4.286963953488375,4.68139534883721,87.02852713178301,72.25581395348838,7.128682170542637,25.96124031007752,7.1686216300943375,1.04304496124031,324,10,70,3,6,107,64,86,0.056,0.905,0.038,-0.1431,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,4,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,6,5,5,0,0,10,8,4,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,11,0,14,4,1,19,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,3,5,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612913633296994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729760906965916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033941524859506,0.20564864687899287,0.0,0.1786723096638723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223494853903816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588795858698546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512811332039195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676654391649365,0.0,0.0,0.20738459540927812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33820960598906336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097228661952883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035331322228076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017050819271208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170342111415751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257691501669933,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wanttopeturdoggo,2019/01/04,"Current parents who previously felt they never wanted children: Do you ever regret your decision? I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask but I'm desperate for opinions/experiences of others. 

I never saw myself having children prior to dating my current boyfriend. Some of those reasons are that I don't want to risk passing on the mental health conditions that run in my family, that I've lived my entire life selfishly and I'm not sure how I'd feel having to put someone else first, and that parenthood seems pretty exhausting. I'm also terrified that I'd be a bad parent. 

Since we've started dating, I've begun to reconsider my position because I do think it might be rewarding to raise a family with him, but I'm hesitant to commit to a future with him for the above reasons with the knowledge that he definitely wants (biological) kids in his future. I don't want to let fear hold me back from something that could be an amazing experience. We've been together for 2 years and I have discussed these concerns with him. 

My questions for the community are:
Current parents who previously stated they never wanted children: What made you change your mind? Do you regret your decision?",7.528761641945497,7.918575260089687,8.138565022421528,67.26599862021389,63.2152466367713,10.807726802345636,35.98792687133494,10.560738912317856,4.072002000689892,965,42,155,22,13,322,131,223,0.161,0.746,0.093,-0.9247,7,0,1,1,0,0,20.0,0,6,2,2,4,11,0,2,9,0,18,3,0,4,7,43,36,8,0,9,5,3,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,15,7,0,1,10,0,0,3,7,7,0,1,4,3,24,4,23,26,1,26,0,2,1,0,25,5,0,5,17,106,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791384315247896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446325785263725,0.0,0.0,0.0941474747254695,0.10223084419575576,0.0746372351481886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295234587202381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977569985669063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022814666465402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075242818366764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395362512632452,0.23084781522266695,0.13777709765262172,0.06190846998451436,0.0,0.11755994352965884,0.0,0.0,0.10414593296620968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014615935209806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252014301904172,0.08648177356503227,0.0,0.0,0.10811523875123584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585405490243457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338898198727445,0.129887659516782,0.12362775309538028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832958340132861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078596396796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792193624117582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456374159276296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308428263387905,0.13715888773367513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25177387462797285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456161665266836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146320581442576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128220515408287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037415518837752,0.094258964800765,0.0,0.0,0.0866624402318205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307932477182117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845350187429513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610863301420031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788462338940956
parenting,tauri9,2019/01/04,"Mom said im dead weight/useless. Did she cross the line? It all started when I started skipping classes when i was in grade school and it gradually became worse over time. My grades are not good and i am addicted to video games. I've been playing as long as i could rememver. Its bern my outlet and to compensate because my parents werent always there. But, she was very supportive and willing to help in all the years. 

Furthermore, Ive had problems dealing with social anxiety all my life. So she was a big help helping me cope up with things. 

Yesterday, I skipped school. The school texted my parents saying that i havent been going to school recently. When I got back home from streaming.. dad confronted me saying that this was already the last grading and I should just finish this, get it done with and asked me whats wrong. I mentioned the anxiety ive been having. Note, me and my dad arent that close. We barely talk, the only thing I hear from him is dont do this, dont do that. Do it this way. All the time. Hes more like an adviser rather than being my dad. Anyway, when dad was confronting me. I hear mom talking in the other room saying that she doesnt want to see my face ever again. Im just there for the money because im lucky enough to be born in a wealthy family. I thought it was over. 

But then mom knocked on my door. Saying that she spent so much for my tuition and i just skip school and If thats the case dont go to school. And then she proceded saying that what have I done that made them proud. And that ive been dead weight ever since. 

Honestly felt bad. Because i talked back at them and got 3 good slaps to the face, i just agreed to them saying that I am a failure and I get the whole point. I just wanted things to be over with and get through the night. 


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parenting,JuniorPomegranate9,2019/01/04,"Are your standards for your kids higher than they are for you? I have a 5-year-old and am starting to realize all the ways I am less disciplined than I want him to be. No iPad until he cleans his room? Our bedroom looks like a storage facility that someone moved into to save money. No allowance before chores? What chores? My wife and I do whatever we can whenever we have time. No candy before dinner? Sure, most of the time. But what about when you want a piece of candy before dinner? Why not? Don't even get me started on table manners. Mine are horrific, although that's one I am committed to improving, because it is straight-up embarrassing to go out to dinner with my kid. 

Is this tension normal? Or am I just bad at being civilized?  ",2.438958333333332,4.922417756944449,3.8873333333333377,84.29100000000003,79.7638888888889,6.6177777777777775,24.87777777777778,7.793537801064563,1.6028977777777773,583,22,108,10,15,192,103,144,0.135,0.7659999999999999,0.098,-0.8277,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,4,1,0,4,6,0,2,5,0,16,3,0,1,3,23,23,7,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,6,7,3,1,1,0,1,2,5,3,0,1,0,1,20,3,19,21,4,14,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,2,7,83,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803565866562163,0.1316756901958903,0.0,0.5514174212976395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267039981979948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285459463933264,0.0,0.12276159553433455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552997133771684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139124016924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22958095623365926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21164072075772966,0.0,0.0,0.2266627139642324,0.0,0.14637174219779428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830217909220126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30578133310882705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20358377507894704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25191050831849177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25481271725753785,0.17145607820931774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491246501055776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910124412752453
parenting,top2bottomleft2right,2019/01/04,"Tips to keep kids engaged and off screens Hello! My New Years resolution this year is to get my 6 and 9 year olds off their screens. They love video games and YouTube videos like most kids, but they honestly struggle to find other things to do in the house on these cold winter evenings when I’m busy making dinner and doing my “mom” things. They used to play with neighborhood kids but this school year it seems like most of the kids who live near us are involved in a bunch of extracurriculars so they aren’t around. My 6 year old will play with her toys independently for a while but usually will ask me to play with her at some point. Similarly, my 9 year old wants me to play some sort of indoor ball game or board game with him. They play together sometimes but it usually ends badly. Soo...genius parents of Reddit....who has found ways to keep kids happy and out of their hair on winter evenings!? I was thinking about audiobooks (my 6 year old is not an independent reader yet and my 9 year old, sadly, is a reluctant reader) so would like to hear suggestions for good ones to try if anyone has any. Thanks! ",4.4870833333333335,5.9352726157407405,4.479629629629631,86.99083333333336,70.52777777777777,7.807407407407408,24.61111111111111,8.278499904357787,1.247755555555556,879,24,181,13,16,271,129,216,0.055,0.757,0.188,0.9855,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,7,0,8,17,0,1,6,0,13,3,1,4,0,36,27,16,0,3,7,2,1,3,0,3,0,1,0,5,9,12,1,2,4,12,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,5,21,14,32,22,5,34,0,1,2,1,28,11,0,8,25,107,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983046565438983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180091627414116,0.0,0.0,0.09141291862986828,0.0959981868364808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573909100324638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094992203495142,0.0,0.0,0.13564717120019554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385376785253836,0.0,0.0,0.11259064760626047,0.0,0.0,0.05364955358331363,0.0,0.0,0.08612871768723858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931188340753888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573535467902132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848664509880978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254528387486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050257909362522,0.0,0.09067422231572222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267874048097456,0.0,0.06854415821679177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026540194744595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917543823455194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5387619997673178,0.0,0.06958315389125189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402140922061793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970721066179672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392440528407333,0.0,0.09348209947808872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155975508849692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073504166454765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945401012314844,0.0,0.0,0.13644093858159892,0.06579748010143897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971751716418699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351943606151147,0.08868832411394152,0.2261897475175351,0.0,0.060567266099830916,0.08150790922135556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729456733135551,0.0,0.0,0.5290148566250239
parenting,eljsebise,2019/01/04,"Vaccines what’s your opinion? So I realized that in the US it is a big discussion whether to get vaccines or not. But in Switzerland I know a lot of people who didn’t get vaccines and no one seems to care. Why is it so important in the US to get vaccines?

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parenting,arabis,2019/01/04,"Any parents of non-verbal HFA toddlers? Hello all.  I have a 3 year-old high functioning autistic non-verbal toddler.  I was wondering whether any parents here have gone down this road.  Although she babbles with consonants and has a few words and signs, she is effectively nonverbal.  She is in speech therapy four days a week and in a self contained 10-1-2 classroom.  I know we are doing all we can for her, but it breaks my heart.

Any other parents with nonverbal kiddos or kiddos who acquired language after three? Any support, advice, encouragement would be appreciated.",5.339313725490197,7.932591950980393,5.720196078431375,74.23754901960788,70.66666666666666,8.062745098039215,33.882352941176464,8.841846274778883,3.375717647058824,457,23,71,9,9,146,78,102,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.9326,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,4,0,11,1,1,1,2,19,15,7,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,10,2,8,11,3,10,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,3,50,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17777997369141146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4948747863758007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732985426258034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21558802693776175,0.0,0.19221912368335994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998401695083214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090502049766145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6060354889682795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18979275635543594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20645210473176265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20805290780631905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459333405050747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729541679669813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923791270685592,0.0,0.0,0.11715701006565067
parenting,Babyfeetinmyback,2019/01/04,"3 year old misses mom at night and takes hours to put to bed Okay so long story short, I have a 3 year old nephew (4 in February). His mom (my sister) has a lot of mental problems and is just overall a piece of shit mom. She recently moved across the US to be with a guy she met online, leaving her son. She's signed over temporary custody to me and our mom. 

So I was already really close with my nephew before she left, and hes always stayed with us (me and my parents) a lot. Something I've noticed, is that she left on January 1st, and about 2-3 weeks before that, he started wetting the bed. He never used to wet the bed, even when first potty training. So I think he was picking up on stress or maybe she began being more mean (yelling) at him again. 

Fast forward to 2 nights ago, I gave him a bath, we read books, and then we said good night and shut off the light. Usually he's really good about going to bed. He kept coming up with reasons not to go to bed (thirsty, give other aunt a hug good night, go potty, etc). Finally I think we get it all taken care of and lay down again next to him. So I'm laying there and hear him biting his toe nails (a habit he also just started around the bed wetting). After about 5 minutes of him biting, I asked what's wrong. He said he missed his mom. I think I just said I know and cuddled him. He continued biting his nails like a nervous lil wreck and would not fall asleep, it broke my heart. I think we got in bed at 9 and this went on until 11. I'm pretty sure I fell asleep before he did.

So last night didn't take as long. I moved his toddler sized bed in my room. He was acting up so we skipped books and shut the light off right away. About 20 minutes after I thought he was sleeping, I hear a sniffle and then him start crying. So I got up, started rubbing his back, and he stopped crying. I asked if he wanted me to lay with him, so I laid down in his toddler bed with him. He just kept tossing and turning. Well then he says he wants water. And starting the stuff so he doesnt have to go to bed. Then he sat up and was just sitting there. I asked what he was doing and he asked me to turn the light on, and he said ""to see how the room is."" So like he's just trying to find ways to put off going to sleep. 

He ended up asking to sleep in my bed, and I told him if he's quiet and lays down he can. So he fell asleep shortly after moving to my bed. I would say I put him to bed first in his bed around 9, and he eventually went to bed at 10-10:30.  

So I'm just wondering how I can help him go to bed easier? In the day, it's easy to keep him distracted and busy. But nights are just really hard. Any advice is greatly appreciated, it breaks my heart seeing him like this",2.1202579427492907,3.146893515570937,3.5176108839257663,93.24034523435043,75.78200692041523,6.292607738282479,21.440861906259826,6.464625207383525,0.13416816608996518,2084,48,489,15,44,685,251,578,0.063,0.861,0.076,0.8271,1,0,1,0,1,0,78.0,8,0,0,2,37,21,1,3,20,1,25,13,10,5,3,83,86,51,0,7,14,11,5,3,0,2,0,10,19,1,12,40,1,4,10,4,0,20,5,9,1,2,25,20,72,12,75,57,6,112,0,3,2,2,96,43,1,6,50,278,84,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683021746254657,0.051552553712928544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417754902357685,0.046508025620412716,0.0483911722892155,0.0,0.0,0.03954866392218773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354388340847863,0.2718441007629666,0.0,0.054640291061592926,0.044719041002308335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484616313777514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059294801975812036,0.0,0.0,0.05009699145868147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776517537958398,0.03750636809163542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051509722391251914,0.0,0.0648602799068315,0.03841206223901753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370800523933694,0.05315432294267866,0.09893640291723417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03038456273144572,0.05578936624791271,0.19831132684208874,0.14633766270671228,0.093026718725656,0.06411815130612575,0.0,0.057584441853528005,0.0,0.0,0.05209712976223499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109403190205055,0.13783233509147766,0.03898132213307645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727279929955699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169249563849465,0.0,0.0,0.031961493232964946,0.0474056087924248,0.0,0.061579725086138376,0.12637521257040935,0.0,0.0,0.08523752296676951,0.0,0.0,0.10293399461388716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888577742394317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05842638983130434,0.06334987755810613,0.0,0.0,0.05860844341084896,0.0,0.0,0.34056309939466656,0.0,0.18543463796720874,0.0,0.0,0.04485416117626375,0.0,0.06185048795213431,0.3274576807995453,0.0,0.0,0.06621197867161085,0.12205169799840207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457631853006235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05916644162714613,0.0,0.05564826757264458,0.0,0.17539114345533596,0.0,0.0,0.05817260518923645,0.0,0.1117703347967892,0.059794945406817485,0.05742289017939154,0.0,0.0,0.049665646752534334,0.22128199365993007,0.0924973499512352,0.0,0.0,0.09268698699146254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969718835696775,0.0,0.0,0.1745966019268913,0.0,0.0,0.044771997592626116,0.0,0.0,0.20581864937894384,0.061987482327257676,0.0,0.048621745000313854,0.0666184947887531,0.0,0.06657569893818684,0.0,0.0,0.05481215899768866,0.0,0.08745345271821503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490582887038251,0.0,0.04617005630425902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557137878622342,0.0,0.03948469525410441,0.1265159425127765,0.0,0.0,0.1399111009464615,0.05022886058878566,0.06405157278693548,0.0,0.06860485403385952,0.046162214136587734,0.046649930831550716,0.0,0.0522900078953967,0.1078239969287516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306864158041996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262593959300435,0.06358540457236453,0.0,0.07490223134861829
parenting,pineapplecat7,2019/01/04,What are se books you can recommend that provide advice for raising independent children? I keep reading about how helicopter parenting could cause negative impacts on childhood development and I haven't found anything on appropriate milestones for  kids at a certain age,10.710620155038754,13.311851534883726,9.209302325581394,54.565736434108544,56.906976744186046,12.24496124031008,51.542635658914726,11.855464076750405,7.520370542635659,228,16,26,7,3,70,40,43,0.084,0.813,0.104,-0.0258,1,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,3,1,8,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,6,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,19,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556214315715715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29947769473830715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738492605654089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29056297460104474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399022884088281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234715635671077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040935239499525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36402157266559737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Goblingirl82,2019/01/04,"Worried about friends kid. Need some advice am renting a house with my friend who is single. He has a 9 year old child. Him and his ex are not on good terms and the mother is the primary carer. The child is given to him over most of the holidays and most weekends. When he has her she is awake well past midnight and gets up after 1pm. He plays video games with her. My friend is living on financial aid and I found out has been unemployed the past few years. He uses it as an excuse to not take the child places. Usually the child stays indoors and is on the computer all day when with him. He occasionally has the child the odd school day. The mother collects the child about 10pm on school days. He has told the kids mother he's not taking her to school in the mornings if she is given to him on a school night. This is soon to be the third day the child is missing school because the father won't take her to school and the mother has left her with him. The mother doesn't work but is going away on holiday on Thursday next week and leaving the kid with the dad who won't take her to school. I am worried because the kid doesn't seem to be given a chance to socialise with other kids on the weekends. Am I over reacting or is this a cause for concern? It might also be my imagination but I am getting the impression the mother is delighted to get rid of the child at every opportunity she gets. The kid is exceptionally well behaved.

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parenting,blocks01,2019/01/04,"Parent of child with autism Hi, and good morning/afternoon/night to you all.

My almost 3 year old son has autism,and ever since the holidays, he has seriously had some trouble. He has meltdowns several times a day, meltdowns when I put him to bed at night, meltdowns in the middle of the night, several times a night. My heart breaks for him. I’m emotionally exhausted. I think that’s it, just needed get it off my chest I guess.",3.622306368330463,5.577495120481932,4.53067125645439,83.69879518072291,73.69879518072291,8.11635111876076,26.314974182444054,8.841846274778883,2.0143817555938046,337,12,66,7,7,109,59,83,0.087,0.8440000000000001,0.069,-0.1027,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,4,3,2,0,2,10,9,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,1,9,8,2,16,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,10,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416598111250078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217059653972974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564807584362445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732983260518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087135600168142,0.0,0.0,0.1458844080551614,0.0,0.0,0.19160373534096709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20610813624904126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289670468268626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6528868787838921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251049714702916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931289149127756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748479008604936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39298325998744893,0.0,0.14387686702769026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144745555107592,0.0,0.0,0.2028402082797961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120053526910956
parenting,RedStag1905,2019/01/04,What shows/movies from your own childhood have you recently rewatched with your 6-12 year old kids? And did they hold up?,1.3089130434782597,3.85121456521739,0.5046739130434794,101.68570652173914,99.0,4.039130434782609,18.793478260869566,5.985473137389443,-0.2240347826086957,97,3,20,1,4,27,22,23,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6648923487851457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6256371841038535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080395549374757
parenting,lolita8112,2019/01/04,Am I wrong for wanting nothing to do with my mother in law? My first pregnancy was hard because we ended up losing the baby due to a miscarriage and lived with my in laws at the time. I was gifted a couple things for the baby that I had left in my room on the night stand. When I had come home from the hospital after the miscarriage I saw my baby stuff were gone. My mother in law took them without asking me. I’m sure she did it trying to not upset me but I feel like she had no right to. It took us a little over a year to get pregnant again and this time around we lived with my parents to help them out. At the time I worked for a hotel that my mother in law was a manager for and my father in law and husband were also employed there too. I had to tell my mother in law the days and times of my appointments so that she wouldn’t schedule me for those times and she would invite herself to my appointments!!!! Our first baby and there she was every single time. I told my husband that it was our first baby and I didn’t want her at our appointments I just wanted those special moments with just me and him. He told me she was just excited but he would still talk to her. (This is her 6th grandchild )Anyway we thought it would be fun to have one of those gender reveals so we could all find out with the family and celebrate. The plan was for my sister and mom to throw the gender reveal and his sister and mom to throw the baby shower. The day of finding out what we were having at the dr was getting closer and I asked my husband if he talked to his mom about showing up at our appointments and he said he did. She knew what day we were going to find out the gender and as soon as I walk into the waiting room to my appointment I don’t only see my mother in law but my father in law too. I was so mad I wanted to cry but still said nothing. They wanted to find out so fine. Whatever. One day at work I was talking to a co worker she was telling me she thinks I’m having a girl and my mother in law walks past us and says with attitude “I’m 110% sure it’s a boy “ rolls her eyes and walks off. My co worker was at a loss for words. Everybody knew I was having a gender reveal to find out what I was having (including my mother in law) when I got off work I cried to my husband telling him his mom already told me what we were having and all the work and money my sister was putting in for the get together was all for nothing now. He told me she probably just said that to throw us off and we still weren’t sure what we were having and he was going to talk to her. I’m sure he never did. And at the gender reveal found out in fact it was a boy. Fast forward at 7 months pregnant and I’m sitting in the office on my lunch and my mother in law is telling me she bought a car seat for the baby and that she bought a stroller for the baby and that she’s looking into a bassinet (all things that we already have at our home and that she knows we have ) confused I don’t say anything until I get home. Told my husband idk what she’s thinking but she’s not keeping the baby??? I think she had in her mind that she was going to just come over and get them whenever she wanted and then bring them back. Not ok. So he tells her and she starts crying saying that’s just not how she thought things would be. Like....I don’t see why she would think that would be okay.  Then at work my mother in law was telling me who was going to be in MY delivery room. She said my father in law had to be in there and he was going to cut the baby’s cord because it was tradition (um no it’s not because he didn’t do it to all grandkids so no). I was livid at this point. I couldn’t believe she was telling me who was going to be in my delivery room. I told my husband that I was not comfortable having his dad in there and that it was not ok for her to be telling me who I’m having. He was upset that I didn’t want his dad in there but still told them anyway. The day he told them and I had to work I got into the office and got sent to doing housekeeping. At 8 months pregnant I had 12 rooms to clean. She partnered me up with my coworker who was 5months pregnant. I got up stairs and saw my father in law and said hi and good morning and he looked right through me and walked away. (He ended up ignoring me for about 3weeks and didn’t talk to me until my husband asked ME to say something to him first ) my father in law came to see how many rooms we had left to do a couple hours later and I got a call from my mother in law getting yelled at for not having as many rooms done as everyone else. Again I’m 8months pregnant at this point. After finishing the rooms I go downstairs and work my usual front desk shift and check in guests and she gives me two trash bags full of a bunch of towels and sheets that she told me to spray with this thick smelly chemical. I told her I couldn’t do it because my dr said I shouldn’t use chemicals and I had already cleaned rooms that day and she told me she was going to write me up for not doing my job. So i did it. I wanted to call Human Resources on her but didn’t because she was family. At that point I was too scared to tell her I didn’t want her in my delivery room because I knew she was going to take it out on me at work giving me night shifts cutting my hours and having me work in housekeeping. The last straw was when my husband and I agreed to not circumcise the baby. I knew that my mother in law was going to say something because surprise surprise she told me I had to get him circumcised. I told him “what are you going to tell your mom when she asks u why were not doing it “ and he told me he was going to tell her it was none of her business. After I had the baby I saw text msgs from his mom and she had sent him a screenshot of a pros list to circumcising babies. And his response was “I know mom but she doesn’t want to”. I was so pissed. I felt like this was the last straw. He let his parents treat me like shit and I was over it. I wasn’t going to have them disrespect me anymore. Especially in front of my son. Now they only see him here and there when I feel bad that my husbands family can’t enjoy him as much as he would like. So recently I saw his mom shaking the baby (playing with him) still dangerous and not ok so I said something about it and she took it the wrong way. Then we went to visit an aunt at the hospital on Christmas Eve after she had surgery and they had told us to go and we ended up waiting for 2 hours to see her and I told him we had to go get ready because we had plans and  very rudely his mother said “it’s fine just leave I’ll just tell her you stopped by”. I didn’t see what the big deal was we could visit her when she got home and we had already been waiting for a long time and had plans. After that I told my husband I didn’t want anything to do with his mother. I no longer work there either. I’m just so tiered for her acting like the victim and like she hasn’t done anything wrong but when I see her she’s incredibly rude and irritating. Am I crazy?? 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parenting,Tereyaisthewoman,2019/01/04,"Mother in law looked after our 2yo And now she wants to co-sleep She’s never been the best at getting to sleep but gets to sleep by herself within 30mins more often than not. 
This last week she’s had a holiday at the MIL and when we picked her up we found out she’s been lying in the bed for upto an hour at times till she falls asleep. 

Any advice on how to get her off co sleep dependency or reverse this?",3.144137931034482,3.7857320919540287,4.035114942528737,91.95887931034487,72.9080459770115,6.719540229885059,20.24712643678161,6.42735559955562,-0.0417494252873567,320,5,74,2,6,103,64,87,0.076,0.884,0.04,-0.4997,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,5,0,3,4,4,3,1,16,9,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,11,1,19,5,2,20,0,0,1,0,12,10,0,3,9,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189946748140992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218566531601494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039907432368224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21312860400865635,0.0,0.0,0.3046679640982041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914260136528968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584463624426471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323098474406236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991851934471642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7780850459079971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334505542230068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465088039657045,0.0,0.15592061860919365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,znk171,2019/01/04,"I’d you make any New Years resolutions to be a better parent? What are they? Interested in being a better mom this year. 

Some ideas I have:
Janet Lansbury podcast subscription
Gentle parenting research
Going to sleep with my son each night 
Getting better rest
Drinking more water ",3.5484183673469367,6.727926367346942,4.137525510204082,76.30792091836737,91.44897959183672,5.715306122448982,24.492346938775512,7.1686216300943375,1.9754265306122447,228,9,32,4,8,72,44,49,0.0,0.732,0.268,0.9282,2,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,3,1,1,0,5,7,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,4,5,4,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,20,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647313300813564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5714869886389985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21100098810537765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253280533353853,0.0,0.12241155778238108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24315000062699516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437750344256467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25226310680655983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802578100460475,0.0,0.2021296788881686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4783319968451832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554635699048744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27740923224405645
parenting,balubalu1983,2019/01/04,"How to keep kids safe? Having recently become a parent, I get anxious and paranoid about keeping kids safe in the future. What little ways do you adopt to keep them safe and informed about potential threats? 
Thanks",4.762894736842107,7.8535408157894775,3.951842105263157,83.65039473684213,75.05263157894737,5.905263157894738,27.921052631578952,7.1686216300943375,1.7976105263157898,173,7,27,2,4,51,31,38,0.14,0.578,0.282,0.782,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,3,5,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,5,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959697731947912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289343114666142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687694802358627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.698595971374346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625789441729433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909046107761225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258679712586889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24120164396729024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20795240796696293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mankypants,2019/01/04,"Do you have a Lego storage system? Parents of two Lego mad school boys whose grandparents have generously supplied them Lego sets every Christmas and birthday.

We have a awesome collection and the kids love them all.  Other than routinely gifting/donating them onwards, does anyone have a Lego storage system which works and doesn't immediately dissolve into chaos?",9.6985,11.723963183333336,8.156666666666666,63.30000000000001,58.83333333333334,10.0,41.66666666666667,10.125756701596842,4.955666666666668,301,16,38,6,4,91,45,60,0.101,0.731,0.168,0.6767,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,3,1,0,2,1,0,4,0,6,1,0,0,1,6,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,3,7,1,4,0,0,0,1,10,1,0,0,0,26,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738238031700337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34270178376256066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299495028410811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534445868993553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348381265273736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3963316538805451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825474440378292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850977704236297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lizzyenz,2019/01/04,"Favorite toddler activities to help me stay engaged and to limit tv time? I’m fortunate enough that I work part time, so I’m home two days a week with my 18 month old. Our mornings are usually filled with gymnastics, story time, or running errands, but I find that I’m struggling to find activities for us in the afternoon, in the time frame between her nap and dinner (usually 3-6pm). I really don’t want to get in the habit of just turning the TV on but find I’ve been doing it more lately bc it’s just the easy move. And admittedly it gives me a chance to sit and sort of check out. I feel guilty about this though, that I’m not engaging her more or planning activities, so I was hoping to get some ideas of what to do in that afternoon block. It’s hard because it’s winter time now and the weather doesn’t always agree for an  outdoor activity. I also don’t really like having to drive anywhere then because traffic starts to get bad and it’s close to dinner time. 

She doesn’t sit and watch TV for that entire time, but it’s still more than I’d like so thank you for sharing some of your toddlers favorite activities or ways you keep them busy! 

Aside from activity recommendations, any advice for me on how to stay engaged and motivated when home with a toddler? I do love my time with her, don’t get me wrong, but I find it’s easy for myself to get lazy and just want to have my own shows on while she plays with toys. What could I be doing to help us have more productive days together? 

Thanks in advance for any advice or replies. This parenthood thing is no joke! ❤️",4.2170532915360495,5.125133887147339,5.194153605015675,83.64916144200629,70.63009404388714,8.433228840125393,27.66614420062696,8.710501217029153,1.8656695924764888,1246,42,260,21,22,409,164,319,0.084,0.7070000000000001,0.209,0.9924,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,3,1,5,13,15,0,1,10,0,18,3,0,2,0,47,39,26,0,4,12,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,18,16,2,3,8,8,1,5,7,3,0,1,2,3,29,12,43,35,9,45,0,0,1,1,18,10,0,8,27,161,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273901683759165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886571205752868,0.08205904699193428,0.0,0.0,0.13412883043473098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234288495024135,0.12023465745901675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873937997285814,0.0,0.0,0.1272024080480564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018999618664173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049864813907033886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605445272628613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576222214774434,0.09460449106763967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834340267174884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220469740257682,0.0,0.19784613042574226,0.09795108470241454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113290353477026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765724672627799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124671569569504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636068690108338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900764838373677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871687805572365,0.10481656709299354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034842260240955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679494727362716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635592707664134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980315384906333,0.2102298202161036,0.07875739399574652,0.0,0.0,0.10309816565310037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159055776771724,0.0,0.0,0.06551819232432818,0.0,0.09689283066130576,0.0,0.4600450338698277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726933426862316,0.09633659603538387,0.0,0.23725342999838014,0.0,0.2172301588321635,0.0,0.1163362794228876,0.07827930425918175,0.07910634698820525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179592797690694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782457739647787,0.0,0.0
parenting,thesilvercritic,2019/01/04,"Help! I Think My 7-Month-Old Son is a Villain. I'm kidding, of course. But in all seriousness, the kid laughs like he just left Batman over a tank of sharks. This morning him and I were having breakfast, and I gave him a niblet from some of my biscuits and gravy. He held that tiny piece of bread in the air and laughed the deepest muahahaha I've heard from him yet- before missing his mouth completely with it (aiming is still in progress). Sometimes he picks up one of his building blocks and just stares at me from underneath his eyebrows while chuckling so slowly that if he had the coordination to slow clap I'm sure he would. His laugh is so mischievous that I can't help but laugh back at him and ignore the ominous orchestra players that keep showing up at my door. I guess what I'm asking is, do any of you have advice on raising a bond villain? I know his financial situation is probably set, but they always seem to fail in their ultimate goals. How does a dad raise his son to achieve his dreams of world domination?",5.479107692307693,6.2658148800000015,5.455000000000003,83.3546153846154,67.7,8.353846153846153,31.384615384615394,8.384062270229773,2.1880576923076926,816,32,162,11,13,255,130,200,0.123,0.769,0.108,-0.6163,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,2,4,8,13,2,0,10,0,12,3,1,2,2,27,25,14,0,2,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,7,2,4,3,3,0,0,1,6,0,1,5,2,24,7,26,19,3,21,0,2,1,0,29,15,0,4,6,102,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21552269995242895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835184972239159,0.0,0.0,0.14998420221845082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20618810618202185,0.0,0.0,0.16959232053709247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876751081996267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23124654805171144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19300818757985488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429649654241498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956652347625751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603842330235385,0.0,0.0,0.12121064503438946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396324370761636,0.0,0.0,0.10775148566671316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760440036351454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314341969897449,0.0,0.14945301776842776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377943869985415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007839698695406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479118031283876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813342789146786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761346142953855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078694227272508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132202139165226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566751490870736,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curiousminipop,2019/01/04,"Are there any current educational kids shows like zoom or the electric company? I’m about  to be a mom and I rather my child watch things that are not only entertaining but also and mostly educational and explores their creativity. 

I liked Zoom when I was younger because I feel like it made me think and they did a lot of creative things on the show. Also they were very interactive with the audience and had a lot of diversity. I feel like electric company was good too because it helped with words and the pronunciation and it showed actual people pronouncing the words to help kids mimic it. It also had some catchy songs. 

I don’t know of any current shows like this, all I can think of are annoying cartoons like paw patrol and peppa pig, I’ve never actually sat down and watched any episodes of them but I do turn it on and have my baby cousin watch it. The high pitch noisy voices in the background annoy me after a while. 

Ps. I’m in my 20’s so I’m referring to the 90’s/2000 version of zoom and electric company",3.804438502673797,5.8909871919191925,4.864474153297685,80.9314171122995,73.54545454545455,7.891146761734997,27.30362448009507,8.671277953709913,2.0903175282234105,816,31,156,16,17,267,114,198,0.053,0.79,0.157,0.9718,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,4,0,9,10,2,0,12,0,14,0,0,1,2,34,25,20,0,1,5,2,2,6,0,0,0,2,0,3,11,13,0,0,7,6,0,1,3,2,0,0,8,7,17,8,18,16,6,13,0,0,3,0,12,6,0,5,12,102,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.2980752500378454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664025193076822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115748282804405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619955471035154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544447556374347,0.21821362282665074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280985320277082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473677313354807,0.16136240816919034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393369735777277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4476824911822407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25968276434371645,0.0,0.14451214190471978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886974120680238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779097935018595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615428809116746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588032481715516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029274835398503,0.1957200998329854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612100618078166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601416689087136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kyle007US,2019/01/04,"Need Help With Sister So for starters, I’m a 20 year old college student and actually not a parent but rather posting this for my mother. I have a younger sister who is 17 and her and my mother need some serious help. February of this past year, my father passed away and it really has impacted our family. 

I have seen my younger sister turn into something I don’t even understand anymore, and I would love any kind of help. She is impossible to work with and listen to, constantly screams and cusses at my mother and I, isn’t doing well in school, smoking pot, the whole 9 yards. Any attempt to try and sort things out with her whether it be calmly or not results in a yelling match and her just screaming to fuck off repeatedly, not an ounce of sense gets through to her. 

My mother feels like she has to do something, but just isn’t sure what is left to do. She has run away multiple times and grounding isn’t exactly working. If my mom grounds her to the house, she just runs away. Turns off her phone? Uses Snapchat to contact people and other ways to the point where it’s effectively doing nothing. Not to mention I as a male don’t feel comfortable and shouldn’t do anything physically as far as forcefully taking things from her, and my mother just doesn’t have the pure strength to overpower her. For example, they’ve gotten in pushing shoving matches over my sister’s keys several times and she isn’t able to wrestle the keys away. 

This has left me and my mother with no choice of what to do. My sister was arrested and charged for possession of alcohol awhile ago and legally must see a therapist, but the number of times and who she meets with is not set and thus she is somehow finding a way to get around this. My mother sees a therapist but the therapist is repeatedly pushing on my mother to just stay calm and let it be. I’m not sure how to feel about this and definitely have my doubts. I am a student at a college, and every time I come home my sister is just constantly abusing my mother verbally with all kinds of bad things and my mom just sits there and takes it and takes it and takes it to no avail. I feel like this is just empowering my sister more and I don’t know that anything’s working. My mom tries to explain this to the therapist, but she just repeatedly tells her to stay calm and let it happen. 


The therapist suggests the two form a “contract” of sorts, with details of what to do and what consequences will occur, but doesn’t seem to understand that my sister would just shrug this off, not take it seriously, and then avoid all punishment. 


I am open to absolute any ideals here folks. I don’t know what to do anymore and I can’t stand to see her verbally and emotional abuse my mother the way she does, especially with all she’s been going through since losing my father. Literally anything and all comments are appreciated. Thank you all so much just for reading this. ",7.242767962308598,6.649014219081272,7.216409893992933,76.92808951707893,64.0530035335689,10.585535924617195,34.767726737338045,9.968508380846988,3.223658610129564,2312,90,448,43,30,741,248,566,0.086,0.797,0.117,0.9453,3,1,3,0,2,0,45.0,1,1,0,8,25,25,2,2,23,0,49,3,0,5,10,113,85,50,0,9,28,24,4,2,0,5,1,4,2,1,31,47,1,1,12,2,0,7,21,10,1,1,4,12,58,15,72,72,10,57,0,1,4,2,62,25,1,8,18,318,89,10,0.06847976276579691,0.1622746419675888,0.06682637013487983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070317785942801,0.07318404037092477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970576085560096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582704720499658,0.0,0.0,0.16905902970695058,0.06096150741436952,0.0,0.0,0.257355965337638,0.0,0.057177741507838775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589892520101471,0.0,0.1480045913368155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05992710187332662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703051598743957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04523023745878448,0.0,0.057697153638133714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455662579278088,0.0,0.13850170256413932,0.0978439124055778,0.0,0.0,0.06258926255243315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330843720878307,0.07155569929430447,0.0,0.03891862729655461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055642805590465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770162447140055,0.0,0.06869078555266292,0.0,0.0,0.07901645196278394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262226994153418,0.07526937343113671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880692522823996,0.14005039414780845,0.0,0.06691150608188379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766113380899965,0.0,0.0,0.061805659524575465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24060801150645603,0.0,0.0,0.05034050501535188,0.10155375277383018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570817928319722,0.0,0.07185799148669678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603867251787337,0.0,0.06537168220662305,0.04747524509555325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473551042911498,0.0,0.06558468317480988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849829436214566,0.0,0.04386988955231128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930517587903548,0.1637085144586998,0.06234140410196143,0.0,0.07736263993583704,0.0,0.05664716741020975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543813399123562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598063117195356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908273196412054,0.0,0.2574412959412497,0.0,0.059854331025030676,0.06304696500845862,0.0,0.3975514132417214,0.13648473454792368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972440147360206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298652757658143,0.1489726348605742,0.06689477772347738,0.1425796962154797,0.0,0.0591445280281589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306814463871314,0.0,0.0,0.06157153081534214,0.0,0.0,0.07645520957469677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956224865061507,0.0,0.0,0.09729211737688664,0.0,0.0,0.08819744404791599
parenting,A_r14,2019/01/05,Ew omg my dad and his gf HONESTLY PIST AT MY DAD! They have been dating for three months and I just woke up to my dad and his gf having sex. Do it when I’m NOT HERE OR MAKE SURE IM ASLEEP! I’m so disgusted rn!🙄 they keep going at it too,-3.745259740259741,-2.7130700714285685,-0.32954545454545325,106.49272727272732,115.78571428571428,3.464935064935065,8.662337662337661,5.565023196281405,-1.84755,180,2,51,2,11,63,42,56,0.07200000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.125,0.5066,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,2,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,1,9,10,6,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,8,2,5,8,0,7,0,0,0,1,9,3,0,1,3,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756522826315658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5239128872673856,0.0,0.0,0.4311146915683629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32375959544047045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871442906504655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571326404076233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mlo10,2019/01/05,"Only having one child....regrets? Age gaps.... I have one healthy, beautiful, amazing 3 1/2 year old son. I am so very thankful to have him. BUT......Due to some unforeseen events, I will more than likely ONLY have him. 

Mamas with only one child (or only child mamas) do you regret having just one? 

I have 3 sisters and know how special the sibling bond can be, so this pain is killing me.

What about parents of children with an age gap more than 5-6 years?? Can you share about their bond?

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parenting,souldancinggypsy,2019/01/05,"Soo uh, Im not saying Im anti-vaccine.... But I just spent 6 hours in the local ER because my 1 year old daughter developed a 104 degree fever in 6 hours. And then being told that it was a common reaction for the pneumonia vaccine???? ",4.134375000000002,4.276935354166668,6.383333333333333,77.795,70.45833333333334,8.9,30.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.516658333333333,179,7,35,3,3,64,39,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,2,0,3,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,6,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612597688445397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5690657818033835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6241770836801293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031781482279861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297647286691467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760801855473372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605820460372133
parenting,AnthonyBeerdain,2019/01/05,"Our fine month old won't sleep and it's driving us insane Very recently she has started to do this. We put her down, she screams, she finally falls asleep for twenty minutes, she's up again. Happens throughout the night. We're going insane. Is this normal? Anyone have any suggestions?",1.7763312368972706,4.469394264150946,2.291572327044026,89.12192872117402,96.92452830188678,4.619706498951782,22.87002096436059,6.42735559955562,1.0011316561844872,228,9,39,3,9,70,46,53,0.145,0.8220000000000001,0.033,-0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,4,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,7,23,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272215735587692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816032092593225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104515549430813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106311796992634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506102551224611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262076916655249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659523079827535,0.27767246121453915,0.0,0.0,0.2973813046311734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28489592479728804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798239480037978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28360531434184194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20059243574157468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34089608267790955,0.0,0.0,0.2338352128890845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aaronbrecher,2019/01/05,"Teaching kids about saving money Hi everyone,

I am parent of 3 and I have been using the following technique to teach my children about savings - Basically when giving my kids an allowance I give them the option of taking the money now at the face value, OR they can leave it by me in a ""savings account"" and earn a monthly interest (obviously more then the current interest rate or they would not be motivated lol).

My profession is as an app developer I had the idea that maybe other parents would be interested in an app that would automate this. I am trying to gauge if there is an interest in this and if it is something I should put my time into. I figured putting it here to parents would be a good place. I posted this on an app forum with positive feedback but figured parents would be the best people to ask, you can see the [original post here](https://www.reddit.com/r/androidapps/comments/ack620/app_idea_app_to_teach_children_to_save_money/) that has some additional details.",8.925172413793101,9.532575310344829,8.421287356321837,65.67744827586209,60.264367816091955,10.868045977011494,38.66436781609195,10.577609850970193,4.390027126436781,800,37,122,17,10,254,112,174,0.017,0.858,0.125,0.9474,5,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,3,3,6,9,0,0,16,1,21,1,1,4,1,31,28,11,0,8,6,4,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,10,6,0,0,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,17,9,17,16,3,19,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,6,7,98,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461437289014045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398866091513675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737066021756172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557405832758503,0.0,0.11180290478516128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504756915557157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114190454784695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391439999301855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063961133369004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.592040615528703,0.0,0.0,0.0924111126550131,0.0,0.1392666272360461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25532268588028323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679998976230477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622017110727006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261827252063074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100222490914566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772634785046162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049967470397337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512550659901084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734505741499773,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gearshift4,2019/01/05,"Who gets the room? Hello there recently me and my family have fallen into an argument over who gets their own room in the new place we are moving into and need other opinions to help us out.

There are 4 people moving into a 3 bedroom house

Me being the adult automatically takes one of the rooms

The other 3 are as stated:

17 (eldest) male
11 (middle child) female
9 (youngest) male

The two that are fighting over who gets there own room are the eldest and the middle child.

The eldest says he deserves his own room as he is a teenager who would like his own space to have a place to relax and get away from the world and is too old to share his own room incase he has people over from college or other or needs a place to be calm.

The middle child says that she deserves the room because she is a girl and can’t share with her brother because she is a girl who has her own issues she is going though coming with age and has just started secondary school. 

Who would you believe deserves there own room?",5.531383333333337,5.678769905000002,5.719000000000001,83.74533333333336,67.45,7.466666666666668,25.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,0.9153666666666664,791,18,156,4,12,251,102,200,0.037000000000000005,0.888,0.075,0.7691,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,2,1,1,0,7,6,1,0,19,0,20,0,0,0,0,23,30,12,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,9,8,11,15,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,2,0,2,16,5,21,26,7,36,0,0,0,0,38,25,0,3,6,112,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004800008314433,0.0,0.0,0.18173277239727664,0.0,0.0,0.16794104271626134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284031129347752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405217294657775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115135121914382,0.0,0.08471497307960972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991264869325557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17199672922344084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558127200828714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282382280919683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168571480725978,0.0,0.2210541334568083,0.0,0.14396433438907166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641476170176366,0.0,0.10100779601250508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20668067655992145,0.0,0.4672120037146248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718005289453095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370790605609847,0.0,0.15085799568757846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550635681220204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207554824100144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645197244813568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561123265805806,0.0,0.17930239294383826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117777444111149,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monkeysauntem,2019/01/05,"Being an older parent. It wasn't planned, but I got pregnant at 40. She's now 2.5 years old. I'm finding as time passes I become more preoccupied with potential health issues and worry that I won't be here to watch her grow up. I'm a single parent and don't really have any family. I didn't lead the healthiest life as I smoked for over 20 years. I wish I could go back and change that part, but I don't smoke anymore and I'm trying to be healthier. I'm wondering if other parents go through these fears too and what can make it easier to deal with. ",2.6363409961685846,3.902384051724141,4.491839080459774,85.81484674329505,74.86206896551724,7.914176245210728,22.371647509578548,8.515128840125781,1.2227808429118778,434,11,93,8,9,148,82,116,0.07,0.863,0.067,-0.0772,3,0,2,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,3,0,11,2,0,2,0,16,21,10,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,2,0,0,5,5,1,0,0,3,1,10,0,12,13,3,15,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,2,7,58,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674117876789257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025006165274878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200328512363074,0.0,0.0,0.18959552728364154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816036181692832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706416441105815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698376498505386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183477072466412,0.19317596736373474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569028559130723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512751938658152,0.0,0.1372998190572188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247670084403114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917840593219206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125527792636501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459075566651572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18013831166319846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5718561487075409,0.18590139033896924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997590766598836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010189339273512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655235373625683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974115069135316,0.0,0.18616830080212385,0.0,0.17433875802899287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210991197373271
parenting,peanutbutterunicorns,2019/01/05,"Can someone tell on the packaging of a condom if a hole was poked through? My friend is trying to get pregnant. She wants to be a mom doesn’t even matter with who, she’s got a box of condoms and poked holes in all of them. She doesn’t even want anything to do with the guy..just wants his seed. I didn’t know if the guys she brings home will notice or catch on to her bullshit. Thanks guys! Trying to warn her before she does anything real dumb. ",2.837373271889401,3.9742195268817215,3.2946543778801853,95.10483870967742,74.16129032258064,5.744393241167438,21.88786482334869,5.288315135182226,-0.10760706605222747,348,8,79,1,7,108,64,93,0.091,0.8170000000000001,0.091,-0.3164,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,7,0,9,2,0,0,1,13,17,4,0,5,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,11,2,14,12,1,5,0,0,0,2,15,3,1,3,0,49,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064012555924955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841549012117648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291711205697065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24592477974363736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438331474887089,0.0,0.0972652398983596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889577634836065,0.0,0.0,0.5530075848845407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18674195910257368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231321524323994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180380336944544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21195381505274247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190025442252772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773977530599048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271927808743594,0.17139873516404344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25279207669685977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294206162241086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheRealSquirrelGirl,2019/01/05,"An almost 4 year old should be able to follow instructions at home, right? Especially if she’s able to follow instructions at school?

Teacher says she’s a star student, which makes me think we’re not giving her high enough expectations.  I’ve come in and seen her clean up all her toys at school, but at home, she refuses, or she throws them anywhere and says she put them away.  

She will feed herself enough that she’s not particularly hungry anymore, and afterwards, refuse, unless she’s fed like a baby.

And I can’t get the other adults in my house to stop catering to her.

I guess as long as she’s good at school, she’s learning something, and I don’t have to fight her at home? I don’t want her to turn into a spoiled brat.",6.212397260273974,5.694649657534248,6.156267123287673,83.4304280821918,66.12328767123286,9.217808219178082,29.20890410958904,8.472884824447931,1.7930438356164382,574,16,122,7,8,181,91,146,0.079,0.847,0.07400000000000001,-0.1675,0,0,1,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,5,0,7,2,0,1,1,25,19,11,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,1,3,7,2,3,2,1,0,5,5,1,0,0,2,3,25,2,20,14,3,23,0,0,1,0,26,13,0,4,6,73,28,7,0.2942471630358877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732301493290148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459070595801397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822744784825808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673393826551194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040359766407578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686599904123201,0.14113434543801834,0.0,0.12340027994620492,0.0,0.0,0.1620732119012589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554441415188489,0.4427308439583141,0.0,0.0,0.16976085988153689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187715043051571,0.0,0.0,0.13019973993426573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820613309656086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438144995281833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789983523141711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564273474673193,0.0,0.23399715426248135,0.0,0.44669075714792544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326292086037515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300190190689393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942708504468475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600282090915733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677730021984087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474276286145994
parenting,gracemonty02,2019/01/05,Self problems😩 If you want or need someone to talk to I’m literally here whenever I can talk and comfort you. I just want to try help people get over their mental health disorders💫💕,3.1235964912280707,4.609097500000004,4.876315789473686,82.66254385964915,74.0,8.224561403508767,28.456140350877188,8.841846274778883,2.23681403508772,147,6,30,3,3,50,31,38,0.0,0.782,0.218,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,6,3,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406328443940096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337901934855722,0.0,0.0,0.2104820068489608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31645983543851824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23284297954653166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21770298429777188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275929329048499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660694164788707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5047972087803091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132000004651365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704360592832244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BenAdapt,2019/01/05,"How to raise an Adventurer Just read this interview with mountaineering legend Jimmy Chin about how to raise little adventurers. It's an interesting read, so I thought I'd share it here:",8.657272727272726,9.667154878787882,8.366212121212126,64.4693181818182,60.81818181818181,12.660606060606062,34.68181818181819,12.161744961471696,4.696527272727273,153,6,25,5,2,49,26,33,0.0,0.743,0.257,0.7888,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,15,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221427278893195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8426073558068872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343775728578249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cealdi,2019/01/05,"Anyone have experience weaning a two year old from nursing? Our LO will be 2.5 next month. She only nurses in the morning, before naps, and at bedtime. I have read up on it a great deal and almost everything says to drop all on-demand feedings and don't offer, which we don't. And I've been telling her for a few months now that we are going to need to stop nursing soon because she's a big girl. (The reason is mostly because she fools around the whole time and usually winds up hurting me, but I don't want to give her a complex about it being all her fault or anything.) But anytime I try to drop a feeding, she FREAKS and cries hysterically. Is this typical? Should I keep letting her nurse and just hope she wants to wean by herself at some point? I know the reason is pretty selfish but I'm super over being bitten or having her whip her head back and forth and hurt me, and she'll stop if I scold her and then go right back to it the next time.",5.452405594405594,5.024369158974358,5.9072261072261085,84.2848951048951,67.66666666666667,8.116550116550117,29.00932400932401,6.980632752743323,1.4156666666666669,746,22,157,5,11,241,125,195,0.173,0.75,0.076,-0.9475,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,1,7,9,0,0,11,0,18,3,1,2,2,38,28,18,0,6,7,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,6,14,2,3,4,2,0,2,3,6,0,1,1,1,25,3,19,20,6,31,0,2,0,0,23,11,0,7,16,108,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138620114214011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679519617948026,0.0,0.11391812105584698,0.12323424060959598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212892036778972,0.0,0.16877428796239768,0.0,0.11779582917079608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206155927280596,0.0,0.14271778982314876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441417071264604,0.13541351099042334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327970316996857,0.15734871671917636,0.0,0.0,0.15262227811816007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207164382818388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749467021544515,0.0,0.0,0.2963896275027233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230451328562613,0.0,0.0,0.0760788608202936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155657153100168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22099094096901487,0.0,0.0,0.10264591653771726,0.0,0.0,0.294448987741563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452615820734536,0.0,0.0,0.10528412539364757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086342196200548,0.0,0.0,0.14083558127193627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384699238388886,0.0,0.0,0.2846632537600194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822056620742585,0.0,0.1100870500932664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314714737359931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099607348827432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144216372987752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398655478557101,0.0,0.13522840039807288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246379935566362,0.0,0.16330210555542227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545549001690924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914596687278019
parenting,Dewdeaux,2019/01/05,"Bed sharing/co-sleeping with a toddler and a newborn...how?? I have a 2.5-year-old who sleeps with SO and me at night — we didn’t set out to bed share, but it was so much easier when night nursing, we got into the habit and never got out of it. We really don’t mind it— it works for us, and we like the cuddles. Now, we’ve got another baby on the way. 

My original plan was to transition my toddler to his own bed and have that be a habit by the time the baby is here, but that hasn’t gone smoothly. Now that we’re close to go-time, I’m hesitant to force the bed switch; so many things will be changing around here for our toddler, I don’t want him to feel displaced out of the only bedtime place he’s ever known. 

Ideally, this new baby will love sleeping in his crib and have no desire for all-night snuggles, but I’m not naive enough to count on that. 

I have many concerns — safety, first and foremost. We all know the risks of sharing a bed with a baby, and having a toddler in the same bed has to exacerbate some of those risks. For one, it’s impossible to keep toddler from crowding the baby and even sleeping ON baby. Also, with baby waking every couple hours to nurse, I’m concerned about toddler’s sleep quality and his ability to stay asleep through all that, especially when I need to turn on a lamp to change a diaper. We’ve got a toddler bed in our room that I’m planning on converting back into a crib, and we also have a pack n play with the bassinet insert. We have a DockATot too, and a rock and play (which toddler slept in a lot as a newbie). 

I just don’t know who to put where and how to make this work so everyone is safe and happy and gets the sleep they need. Does anyone have any advice? ",7.333799575070825,4.995018943342778,7.6891625354107696,79.23079762747878,64.94900849858358,10.638031161473089,33.96051699716714,8.841846274778883,2.584728186968837,1329,42,286,16,16,439,175,353,0.03,0.815,0.155,0.9929,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,10,0,1,6,21,11,0,2,28,0,22,10,8,3,4,62,43,29,0,5,5,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,8,0,17,35,0,2,4,3,0,2,8,2,0,2,9,2,23,9,49,30,8,39,0,0,0,2,22,20,0,2,15,190,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969562345855822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869173983494886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747272327988313,0.10404039076037837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06937664398493999,0.0,0.0,0.08832647047559587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629373990552718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992233939531935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978458865224354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682773144574074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025203590750628,0.0,0.0655336031366874,0.08974979917825064,0.08359678350314692,0.09480856977878416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050168405692456786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439613218635743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051838140403244214,0.0,0.056388779258591135,0.0,0.3174198785861028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562109805859586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977113094441428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881909300583466,0.0,0.0,0.10905698320240026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04847367967992598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435294691078843,0.08954955336185404,0.0,0.06622984647852452,0.20118618135018032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001835011216934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293781467282061,0.14714013689151886,0.07652426415597367,0.09582689786546482,0.0,0.2793325904249385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411426870309427,0.0,0.067233761703418,0.07546096886003632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366335326841693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974309213401723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356260972963587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5957474685162196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575488087569103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591708652300117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785574057042137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792242180991936,0.0,0.0,0.11934894964489842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058522284608537964,0.0787558918944232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446608578654685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389416262929395
parenting,tscarboro,2019/01/05,"Mygym cult? Anyone else weirded out by “mygym”? 

Every time someone asks for activities for babies in my area, 10-20 moms scream the praises of mygym. 

I checked out the website and at $77 for 4 classes, I really have NO interest in this. We can afford it- I just feel it’s a major rip off. I do pay for music classes and take my daughter to museums and other outings, but I can’t help but wonder why all of these moms are obsessed with this overpriced place.. 

Do they get a referral discount or am I missing something? ",3.5274029126213584,5.020957310679614,5.24095873786408,80.41930218446602,72.98058252427184,7.0917475728155335,30.350728155339805,7.6454224807358475,2.1343019417475726,405,18,74,5,8,138,80,103,0.105,0.8170000000000001,0.078,-0.1689,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,1,1,6,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,14,13,6,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,0,2,1,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,10,2,15,13,2,9,1,1,0,0,8,8,0,2,1,51,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748427432196421,0.2562086602401642,0.0,0.0,0.23376562865183026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888704199597266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21068028247664414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643421720037587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064227600106534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760513192198573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5857176727555864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26125197207191697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019023713141148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118689398535971,0.19250287451270456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800859844915646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458078080936328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256337735413965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711716128083128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thedeathllama,2019/01/05,"What's been your favorite age to parent so far? Sorry for how long this is, I tend to be a bit verbose. 

I have a 9 month old daughter, and we're due to have another girl in June. I really didn't enjoy the 0-3 month phase at all, and while I'm enjoying the 6-9 month phase a lot more, I feel like I spend half my time counting down to when my 9 month old can walk and talk and otherwise communicate. We had these two so close together because I just hate the fourth trimester period and it was incredibly difficult for my spouse and I and we want to get it over with. I keep joking that I can't wait until my older daughter is closer to 2, and the new baby is about the age she is now. But then pregnancy hormones kick in and I start worrying that the age where they're tiny and pudgy and learning new things in the first year is actually the best part about parenting, and what if it's all down hill once my second daughter is this age, and not better at all? So in your experience, is the brand new baby phase your favorite part about parenting, or is it in fact more enjoyable when they're a little older? ",6.820154150197631,4.9997631260869575,7.391501976284584,79.31053359683797,65.56521739130434,11.14624505928854,31.77865612648221,10.018931242160765,2.6613478260869576,869,25,191,16,11,289,130,230,0.069,0.8290000000000001,0.102,0.8190000000000001,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,3,0,3,12,9,1,0,13,0,17,0,0,1,4,33,26,25,0,2,5,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,17,0,2,2,1,1,1,3,2,0,4,4,1,21,7,23,21,10,45,0,0,0,0,15,15,0,3,30,127,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.12705981885727347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652970621766136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937083568594988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664052413463654,0.11515440122405785,0.14214848273845074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273639919947172,0.0,0.0,0.06583479397318891,0.0930173953893299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107510174567552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802594673471866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854898489755512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573083957037415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361084572655874,0.13049809721713945,0.0,0.1152259865755675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069434645673996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157087166652548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37725401022727306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732533089353503,0.13866246167999444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4337266831986327,0.2819953710945286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341168626329264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575214105455514,0.09215869652896988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465262887324332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865014096153976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759226989187073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718988511402401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679738865257023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322279588035965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384677517112064
parenting,smolsquirrel,2019/01/05,"Birthday for to-be 10 year old girl coming up My stepdaughter will be turning the big 1-0 in a couple weeks. What would you suggest would be a good gift / part of a set of gifts to commemorate the milestone? We don't live with her nor are we around others her age normally, so we're not sure.

She's fairly girly and loves surprise packs/bags/boxes.

Thanks in advance!",4.364459459459463,5.1632573378378375,4.852270270270271,86.63462162162165,70.21621621621621,7.541621621621622,26.962162162162162,7.554174236665415,1.310100540540541,289,9,60,3,5,92,62,74,0.03,0.773,0.197,0.9112,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,1,11,11,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,5,9,6,1,12,0,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,4,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23552535689787846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279055296056195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927441149292906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219106147849806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336221060703575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387867465101944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592245889745315,0.0,0.0,0.2776240255318824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865059179325166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493561741227253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435825419147215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28777858751966795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122238657983856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758890099745165,0.0,0.0,0.1703758270417181
parenting,ranfisk,2019/01/05,"How do I get my son to read books and stop video games? My son is 11 and is always on the computer playing videos. I am sick of it. 
Please advise on what you think I should do.",-0.3719230769230784,1.3671681538461549,1.5253205128205138,101.49259615384615,85.41025641025641,4.925641025641027,14.878205128205128,5.985473137389443,-1.0181333333333331,134,2,35,1,4,44,31,39,0.132,0.769,0.099,-0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,4,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,22,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021846507894012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525296283069909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.530571477870093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4834792751808753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041009673593001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30971018552372365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AliveInterest,2019/01/05,"Missed an emergency with my daughter, how do I explain it to her? I posted this elsewhere, but was told this would be a better fit for it.

Tried to keep it as vague as possible for privacy reasons.

What happened:

A month ago, my daughter had an accident and wound up in the ER needing surgery. I was AWOL at the time and no one could reach me. I came as soon as I heard.

Everyone is really upset with my. My wife (married for 9 years, together 13), my parents, my siblings, my son, and especially my daughter. She was very scared and I wasn't there. She kept asking where I was and if I was coming. I know I let her down and she is having trouble forgiving me. She keeps asking me where I was and why I wasn't there. She barely speaks to me, not even around Christmas, and when she does, she gives me attitude. My son adores her and has followed suit asking these questions. Thankfully, my other child is too young to understand anything going on.

I do not know how to answer her questions. I know the truth won't make me look good and she wouldn't understand it, nor should she. (edit: I was with another woman) My wife has already asked for a separation and we are starting to do that now (we wanted to wait until after the holidays) and I know that'll make it worse. 

My question is... how do I talk to my daughter about this? I know I need to give her space and time, but how do I answer her questions?

tl;dr: I was AWOL when my daughter needed me and was getting emergency surgery. She won't forgive me and everyone else is mad at me too. How do I talk to her and answer questions when the answers aren't that appropriate?   ",2.1270101553166083,4.2525491820987655,3.527487056949422,88.38772401433695,78.78395061728395,6.526324173636002,24.957785742731986,7.601502580125103,1.2948862206292313,1261,47,257,19,31,413,154,324,0.13699999999999998,0.787,0.076,-0.9673,2,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,0,0,1,19,12,1,2,10,0,37,1,0,8,1,69,73,33,0,9,5,10,0,0,0,6,1,2,0,2,14,24,0,4,20,1,0,4,10,5,1,1,16,3,64,7,31,48,0,30,0,1,1,0,50,11,0,6,14,196,78,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622249473996309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733800722894847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199431201048978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004353760746237,0.08658942476698248,0.3637309868860559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602592251317939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124904278733276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378804290835512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766083682839267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851201602331207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125519817764415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06424480643185349,0.0,0.0,0.18588809166541886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081868135721753,0.18661726690176286,0.05527982645545443,0.0815840499596415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601405204209174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291309982837622,0.0,0.0,0.2672806179017254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946344490153976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168088915308018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985471463088732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763864313426516,0.0,0.0,0.21636967510931876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591152934643589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800495579306547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965541328872463,0.09315616083819102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5448138832003152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231257496809019,0.10000803053375693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973825545376671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884701585214327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563611784969152,0.0,0.0895515984583362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343587643626515,0.0,0.0,0.09294404583270943,0.0,0.06603880280720753,0.0,0.0,0.20251949799783636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025654880278944,0.05737137387033973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776952753742061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991247255245636,0.06909662207631519,0.0,0.0,0.06263760748333319
parenting,MasterChiefJudge,2019/01/05,"Survival tales: How’s winter break going for you? We’ve got 3 (4, 7, and 9yo). We started the break with high ambitions and are just trying to survive now 😫 2 more days!!! Trying to limit TV time and get out of the house. The struggle is real! 😆",-0.701848739495798,1.4670680588235283,1.8278991596638683,94.93411764705887,93.90196078431372,3.698599439775911,17.089635854341733,5.288315135182226,-0.5705540616246503,185,5,40,1,7,63,43,51,0.073,0.927,0.0,-0.5374,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,6,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,20,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21294138675932686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250753014266834,0.0,0.18765119585676546,0.0,0.2640783352138118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488575607295488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809880443673233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758217176581477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23370595901264155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34518004341898845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925329657418373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4483465710482121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Penguinar,2019/01/05,"Birthday budget- letting the kids decide how to spend it? Do any of you set a birthday budget for your kids (tweens/ teens) and let them decide how to spend it?  If so, how did it go? What guidelines do you set and at what age do you start? I don't need to know how much that budget is- I know each family is different- I am more wondering if it is a good idea.   
We usually do ""bigger birthdays"" (inviting the whole class to a party/ arcade etc- joint parties when they were younger as all are in the same month) in even years and smaller, family birthdays for odd year birthdays. I was considering doing something different this year: giving the kids each a budget and letting them decide how to spend it; they could either blow it all on one big or many small presents for themselves, invite a couple of close friends to a nice dinner and a movie, or a bigger group of friends to a cheaper party at home/ an icecream place.  
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parenting,T0St3D,2019/01/05,my kids are out of control. i am homeless and cant be around my kids 24/7 because i sleep in a drainage wash. i came in to the place where my wife and kids stay and found the place turned upside down. cookies were gone. keyboard for the computer 0 key was broken. floor was a mess. keys for the car were missing. my family has to stay in a small space less than 500 square foot. because there homeless too. my 1 year old and my 4 year old woke up at 2 am according to my wife because my oldest is sick with a fever. first my oldest was up and that woke up my youngest. my wife got him out of his pack and play. yesterday my oldest opened up the door and wondered off on his own while my wife was taking a nap and i was at work. what can i do to help my wife out?? ,0.9651124744376284,2.651118312883437,2.1854233128834366,98.74889161554195,80.59509202453987,5.328261758691207,20.069120654396727,6.079149491110277,-0.2584614314928424,587,15,143,4,15,187,95,163,0.07200000000000001,0.8959999999999999,0.032,-0.7476,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,10,0,16,5,2,1,0,18,26,9,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,2,15,0,1,2,2,0,3,1,2,0,1,13,1,22,1,26,12,2,38,0,1,1,0,12,23,0,1,10,91,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243221863080354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336862616991492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086909445250191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464961443650664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201142818801482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520433366208414,0.0,0.20006306506647653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459336449159556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122302205225561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829319017392368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812734364099842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259641859290449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38896606734491934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719070489083626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984691375100072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197875123874284,0.13283643456408867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350024978367297
parenting,Krisalln93,2019/01/05,"I need help with a fussy eater!! My 7 year old son is a very fussy eater and it's killing me lol. He will only eat dry foods so nothing with sauce at all, no spaghetti (unless it's plain), no stews, soups, curry's, no beans or anything like that.. I love to cook for friends and family but with this little one it is extremely hard can anyone help? ",8.036249999999999,4.770840125000003,7.536666666666669,83.77500000000003,64.41666666666666,10.711111111111112,32.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.9402999999999992,267,6,62,2,3,84,57,72,0.124,0.69,0.18600000000000005,0.6951,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,4,4,0,0,1,10,6,6,1,1,3,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,4,3,7,5,1,4,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,1,3,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762046011228773,0.0,0.2073749305088804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578594121076025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23756363343984102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047199914325863,0.0,0.19469495258866756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22574294008934925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378212314978477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27880120395879193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311470982674788,0.2525706927540958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744027996342056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868551694123726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418012655639511,0.0,0.2644321220267032,0.0,0.1707620530839317,0.191657727364485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207926794946022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228005267333104
parenting,TurianCabal,2019/01/05,"Why do people have children? Hi there.

As a 17 y/o  autistic male who has decided to be childfree for monetary, mental, and genetic concerns, I have always wondered why or what drives people to have children, especially in a relationship. I would like to know why you guys in this sub decided to have children down in the comments below! ",6.603387096774192,7.611633048387097,7.3937096774193565,69.66056451612907,65.29032258064517,10.070967741935485,38.08064516129032,10.125756701596842,4.249987096774195,267,14,43,6,4,89,46,62,0.0,0.953,0.047,0.4199,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,10,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,11,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,2,1,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21263537446416406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530314678812529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044181532547706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484723801904435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25753102729038396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35432789195948305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743615828833093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6917736052683241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771295586568678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815330852165299,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway9082409328,2019/01/05,"Child Moving Across The Country. Hello all. So today I come to you with my heart broken, today my daughter informed me that she will be moving cross country. Now she has been on her own since she was 18, but now that her moving date is closer. I feel sick. I want to be able to make sure she is alright and visit her like we do now. 

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But that is seemingly impossible. Please give me some advice reddit.",1.7937037037037022,4.285942938271607,2.9249382716049404,90.12222222222223,82.58024691358024,4.587654320987656,18.876543209876548,5.82211442006289,-0.1143975308641978,322,8,62,2,9,103,58,81,0.07200000000000001,0.784,0.145,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,10,2,1,1,2,14,16,4,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,16,3,6,11,3,15,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,2,7,46,19,0,0.18965041620309114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853241917822279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20548614672094231,0.2304460139592441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633670407634807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589294878970103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181929960355176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247366563318152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265361374428567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659312547517995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6047051365297216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081792060398728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265061613979862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688078407652234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787432728509295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595328386388309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186072914943417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304460139592441,0.0
parenting,Dangerous_Dandelion,2019/01/05,"I can't get my goddaughter (15F) to study I had long talks about how it is important to not fall behind with studies,but all she does is scroll through insta and message people on snapchat.I honestly don't know what to do to get her to study more,she'll end up being a cashier.",6.248947368421053,5.336132491228072,6.311228070175438,83.65526315789475,66.19298245614036,10.40701754385965,33.03508771929825,9.725611199111238,2.726361403508771,220,8,48,4,3,70,46,57,0.0,0.907,0.093,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,6,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,11,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972018363184432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020114525421955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4742771512432948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494458467938465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016780014497529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31466988961826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648192570232289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bandaidtoothbrush,2019/01/05,"How to enforce cleaning up?? Im overwhelmed with the post-Christmas mess in my house! I’m a single mom to a 2 and 5 year old and basically only feel like I have time to clean up every other weekend while they’re at their dad’s house. My kiddos realize the importance of cleaning up at school and daycare, but at home everything gets left everywhere, especially on school nights when there’s barely enough time for dinner, homework, baths and bed. I feel like if I make time to tidy up, there’s a ton of resistance and when all is said and done we all end up awake past our bedtimes. Any tips on getting the habit kick-started at home so it’s something that they realize is just expected of them?",6.069130434782611,6.046002978260872,6.272282608695651,80.81755434782613,66.31884057971014,9.508695652173913,32.46739130434783,9.188382445141503,2.638330434782609,553,21,110,9,8,177,94,138,0.014,0.904,0.083,0.7771,0,0,1,0,1,0,14.0,2,0,3,0,7,4,0,1,6,0,4,1,0,2,2,21,11,13,0,2,3,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,8,0,3,8,1,1,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,10,2,21,9,5,25,0,1,0,0,8,13,0,1,14,65,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110255526582846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719228640063002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470430126189132,0.1688130151907732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765290339145134,0.0,0.14683349647597968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521752183986665,0.2334343684660539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071638964797367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277626527945117,0.0,0.0,0.3770322569666429,0.0,0.0,0.1764761372892528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751053570936962,0.0,0.0,0.15963635121817402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905599805279348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134618881913773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331906513046026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143759330069366,0.0,0.0,0.1242562335657911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559626651907748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647083933537814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554097692042532,0.0,0.0,0.3306942571080011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577626760497446,0.0,0.0,0.11563969853622975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28580085262782695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520999286242624
parenting,maddoxmarks,2019/01/05,"Help! Potty Training problems! I need some potty training advise badly
My daughter knows how to do it and what to do she just flat out refuses. When I encourage it a tantrum ensues. I have tried using positive reinforcement, a reward system (this worked for a little bit until one day it just didn’t) I have put the potty in the living room and let her hang out in her pull-ups in there, always talking about the potty and how we all go potty. I’m reading tips and tricks online and still she is defiant as ever. I have been told to just “leave her in the dirty diaper” by a few people but I don’t think I can bring myself to do that.  My daughter is 2.5 In a few weeks. I’ve been told she goes at daycare (maybe because she sees the other kids doing it) so I guess that’s a positive but at home she refuses. Any advise from people that have been there would be greatly appreciated! ",1.798770287141075,4.032937578651687,3.6464419475655454,86.53260923845195,80.51685393258427,5.9780274656679175,20.56304619225968,7.1686216300943375,0.6428042446941329,691,19,136,9,18,232,108,178,0.066,0.8240000000000001,0.11,0.9147,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,2,12,7,2,0,11,0,19,0,0,3,2,27,30,13,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,10,8,0,2,2,1,0,4,2,4,0,1,6,1,20,3,19,21,5,22,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,2,6,102,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492992738921374,0.0,0.0,0.12661961551963666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546582191739586,0.1135033090965791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20327772832972948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008096952768413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842487619442034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058194363925019,0.0,0.0,0.2052816672185175,0.20511580587627454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124803205252356,0.0,0.1867696966070665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232841222029386,0.0,0.0,0.1971546024804482,0.0,0.19039795086221892,0.0,0.0,0.18661723461700186,0.16441441510618166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705883544373675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380619208404293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617117915209194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258169623523802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816435615234674,0.0,0.1871783346339958,0.0,0.0,0.1862463145993753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837404721968853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869630809049064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965723341718598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930683197558503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558363756435322,0.0,0.12641481244022165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160813498738029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935514174461767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555285268419878,0.0,0.0,0.13226824455813627,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darkbidoof,2019/01/05,"Kids misbehaving after coming home from other parent's house A friend of mine is upset because she says her two kids don't seem disciplined when they come home after they were at their grand mother's house for a month. The other parents had to work extensively, double shifts and couldn't watch the kids. The mother took to Facebook bashing the parents and grandparent for not disciplining the kids. What advice would you give the people in this situation? What can be done? ",6.931666666666668,8.5942966627907,6.327906976744188,75.22387596899226,64.93023255813954,8.524031007751939,27.124031007751928,8.841846274778883,2.1350217054263565,387,11,63,6,6,119,64,86,0.06,0.865,0.075,0.3094,4,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,3,1,1,3,0,1,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,14,3,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,4,5,4,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,4,2,7,2,10,7,1,9,0,0,1,0,18,2,0,1,4,45,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667831638881692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397744372506487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29386064545612606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174551583427422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178139475962625,0.0,0.0,0.1636255860665942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34218977002660794,0.0,0.0,0.3936280726435126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614676385702965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5681909659208494,0.0,0.0,0.11825125503004548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564352952247394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527985712458497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172700586748467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189508734844724,0.0,0.0,0.16662139194512662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417645991052505,0.0,0.0,0.12116751541978818,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skyrim_mistress,2019/01/05,"How young is too young? I work 7a to 3p every other weekend, leaving our two year old son with my husband on those days. I recently found out that when our son wakes up in the morning around 7am, my husband will bring him down stairs, put on cartoons and go back to bed. Our bedroom is directly behind the living room. The two rooms share a wall. I feel the 2 years old is too young to be left alone so when this morning when my husband put our son in front of the TV and came back to bed I got up to go sit with him. This lead to some very nasty comments from my husband. What are your thoughts?",2.9226044444444446,3.8008411360000025,3.4202666666666666,95.27857777777778,73.64,6.195555555555559,25.08888888888889,5.82211442006289,0.3841822222222221,462,14,108,2,9,144,81,125,0.051,0.932,0.018000000000000002,-0.6191,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,1,0,2,10,1,0,0,6,0,6,1,1,2,0,13,14,7,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,6,7,0,0,3,2,0,8,0,0,0,2,4,1,15,1,20,8,1,38,0,0,0,0,16,14,0,1,15,67,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894918742242984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287361272342493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28137062377077193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092580423020081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799437050511545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541520913028841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925103135640692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20060671740230274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079613086644966,0.0,0.1463302057049639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937287257370415,0.19878709154487748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155745151564646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839724827319039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678516230207878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065139665743196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525018035595233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574515979762352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096155313886042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331974049306558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356410947553137
parenting,onemorepersonasking,2019/01/05,"Teen wants to quit higher paying job for lower paying job My teen is working two jobs. She is bored at the higher paying job. I just found out through my wife that she intends to leave that job and keep the lower paying job. I don't know why this was not discussed with me.

I know money is not everything, but I want to teach my teen that money is indeed important and she should think it through given that paradigm. However, perhaps I am off base here.

Any suggestions?",4.186211180124225,5.723039608695654,4.67049689440994,84.98630434782609,71.3913043478261,7.431055900621117,25.099378881987576,7.957251820313856,1.401290062111801,372,11,71,5,7,118,59,92,0.08,0.895,0.025,-0.246,9,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,17,16,3,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,4,0,6,0,3,1,0,1,3,0,12,0,10,12,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,46,18,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996760962506936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321175162936094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611820543062473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8752713962513471,0.13066371179319414,0.0,0.0,0.1615788631865665,0.0,0.0,0.15565577462596716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635661234684964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419408482321104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360133006243753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341327332663908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264804415347506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702050077380776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LeJavier,2019/01/05,"Should money given to your kid as a present should be saved for them and not touched (since it belongs to them), or used now in ways that would make them happy, since they don’t know how to spend it yet? Our son (2yo) has grandparents that do not like the idea of us spending his gift money on, like, a trip to the zoo or something. They argue it’s his money and should be saved for him when he’s old enough.

I can totally see that. I’m considering putting all his gift money in an investment fund so it’ll be a lot more by the time he’s ready for it. 

But...sometimes we might want to get him a neat toy, or go somewhere cool, or travel - and those are experiences for him and that he will benefit from, and in some cases we wouldn’t do without that money. Isn’t that also using it for him, on something we know he’ll enjoy?

What do you think?",7.045170454545456,4.669903176136367,7.069545454545455,83.5618181818182,65.5340909090909,10.163636363636364,31.09090909090909,8.07648339933343,1.8552181818181823,653,16,150,6,8,210,105,176,0.036000000000000004,0.7959999999999999,0.168,0.973,1,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,5,2,5,0,6,10,1,0,8,1,19,0,0,4,2,36,32,14,0,6,7,1,1,2,0,9,0,0,0,1,14,8,0,0,4,2,9,4,6,1,0,0,1,3,20,9,20,19,6,16,0,0,1,0,26,5,0,7,8,103,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520160464971414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20053122177957824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898424644099548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139611023243494,0.0,0.11029722195086153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206596309557238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908690708915945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133169477992181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896303582637743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499551559649994,0.0,0.0,0.12954648376610053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058827693016552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364893076927615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19509884973249902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465254565556535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210814784972973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988166354969445,0.19194501043034207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12435534128017404,0.0,0.0,0.11316661830119333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334481746486819,0.33523675361891825,0.0,0.0,0.11447038753824355,0.15404759958327713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870812505823949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786522045881275,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cbielich,2019/01/05,"My daughter wants to go out to a movie and shop with her friends I am the father.

First of all let me start this with We live in Las Vegas (for those of you who have lived here you would understand)

My daughter who is 13 (My oldest) and I adore asked me if she could go out with her friends tomorrow to a place called Town Square which is a high end shopping mall area to watch a movie Wreck it Ralph and the after hang out and shop.

As of now they will watch the movie without an adult (which I am ok with), but after ""may or may not"" have an adult in the area while they shop. I will get more details tomorrow before they go.

Checked with the wife and she is comfortable with it either way...me, well I am struggling.

This has nothing to do with me not trusting her, in fact she has done nothing at all to ever make me not trust her. She has shown responsibility and deserves this time with her friends, which by the way I love her friends.

I texted her this after she asked me

""Mom is going to get more info from \*\*\*\*\*\*\* mom tomorrow. I am totally comfortable with you going to the movies without an adult. I just want to get more detail if there will be an adult in the area with you guys at town square. Has nothing to do with me not trusting you, I totally trust you. It’s that I am not sure I trust others...as in other people at town square. I’m not talking about your fiends I trust them. It’s the random people at town square. Also you are growing up on me (which I hate :)) so I have to give you the freedoms which are appropriate for your age. I just want to make sure that your Mother and I are comfortable with it... P.S. stop growing up on me please""

As a Father and of course with being my first born baby girl I want to make sure that while I am protecting her, I am giving her the freedoms she deserves and has earned.

In the scenario that there will not be an adult there at all what is your opinion? Should I let her go with her friends without an adult, or not?

Just need some opinions.",3.4632327586206912,4.390613590686275,3.8660141987829633,92.40352941176472,72.40686274509805,6.804056795131848,24.11798512508452,6.8039241337230125,0.5526741717376606,1547,41,349,12,29,483,159,408,0.091,0.769,0.14,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,1,12,4,3,13,23,1,1,23,1,40,1,0,3,10,77,66,20,0,10,20,8,0,0,5,8,0,0,0,8,23,27,0,2,2,5,5,9,11,2,1,2,1,6,67,21,62,51,10,56,0,0,6,1,64,27,0,10,19,263,90,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672738158304121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793917137706586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164234085913627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979708273448926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660447481134268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818530200164986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497901324401641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678797139300612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322196089425767,0.0,0.0,0.3706353098782555,0.0,0.15038229904386122,0.1840788524250259,0.3271673790463762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500088177045436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472607054891427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137142414972744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622103677419436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944282670407376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659433387688778,0.0,0.19213259776076336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473983388268276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114218699220631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27618616445776045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330327111243509,0.0,0.10024236511208444,0.10531907243798436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067910541620039,0.0,0.0,0.0802145249579249,0.0,0.10030280701462174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27128178734984504,0.0,0.0,0.0771171574297257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055946446716548345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988238870939617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22636397669801014,0.1523137467792852,0.0,0.0,0.08626630211129432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774633909140011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815675263827183,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,plumcreek44,2019/01/05,"6-7 Month Sleep Regression Hello All,

My first born who is now 6 months old has been by all accounts a very good baby so far. He has slept well since we brought him home from the hospital and we feel very blessed for this. 

Recently, he has been harder to put down. He sleeps only on my wife or myself for naps during the day. If she or I are holding him during his nap he will sleep for 2-3 hours, but if we put him down he will wake up almost immediately. 

When its bedtime, he will sleep on us, but when we put him down he will scream his lungs off. It takes 3-4 attempts at least. Tonight, after 3-4 attempts, he would not stop. So here I am, writing from my couch after losing my spot in bed to my 6 month old son, looking for some advice.

Online, it tells me its probably separation anxiety. Makes sense to me. How to we do right by our son and help him get through this period in his development? Any personal experiences or methods are appreciated!

Sincerely,

Sleepy Dad",2.525879351740695,4.342376852040822,3.9574909963985583,87.22448379351742,76.39795918367345,7.264825930372149,23.774309723889555,8.124751697461798,1.2215441776710685,757,24,162,13,17,250,126,196,0.043,0.855,0.102,0.9004,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,7,0,0,4,8,6,0,0,3,0,15,7,7,2,2,26,22,14,0,3,8,4,1,0,0,5,0,1,3,1,7,7,0,2,1,2,1,4,1,2,1,1,4,3,26,4,25,13,4,34,1,1,1,0,34,12,0,7,18,99,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274123134888081,0.0,0.0,0.13056338351648053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866738490026363,0.0,0.09974542108700553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408859480904657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275431510715693,0.0,0.0,0.06592740178744047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109068075645967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812163677731317,0.0,0.0,0.1093621256936362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873954149322235,0.0,0.1307884288607398,0.0,0.12840457391432536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949193709733764,0.14586929616677172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703409324739021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122201111614262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736376861035665,0.0,0.0,0.0991649135474355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384858294144365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405788484870717,0.0,0.0,0.3932237522726243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874107493591466,0.0,0.0,0.1113494763209155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785717422481014,0.0,0.5219232061640582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900906758689848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803452486131456,0.0,0.11396366852250855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683907127491772,0.0,0.0,0.21516526287307336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723324625128036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926229265678007,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ebazua88,2019/01/05,"9yr old daughter and 7yr old stepson- Jealousy? A little background first- my husband and I split but then got back together, during the separation is when my step son happened. We now have a 9 year old girl together, his 7 yr old boy and a 10 month old girl together.  His son lives 3 hours away 

My step son is with us every other weekend friday-sunday. During that time we have a lot of issues with my 9 year old daughter. It's a constant battle with her. We feel she gets jealous when her half brother is around and we try to make sure we're not giving more attention to one or the other but I do see that my husband gives his son a bit more. I am not completely against it as he doesn't see him as much as he'd like. Don't get me wrong, he is a great father and spends a lot of time with my daughter when his son isn't home with us.
Lately, the biggest issue with her is her want to always be better than her brother. Whether it's to have the best drawing, to be the first person to get a slice of pizza, to be faster at eating dinner. I mean it's small stuff but she starts crying if she doesn't achieve what she wants. Not a tantrum but gets very emotional. 
We need advice on how to make the situation better, what are we doing wrong?",2.420996677740863,3.8973455736434133,3.654141749723149,90.74639534883724,75.82170542635659,6.154595791805095,23.13842746400886,6.655083550727371,0.5251404208194912,970,28,210,8,21,316,139,258,0.059,0.7959999999999999,0.146,0.9761,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,0,6,7,11,3,0,16,0,20,3,0,3,1,40,38,20,0,4,10,13,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,11,18,3,0,3,1,1,2,7,5,0,4,1,3,34,6,26,33,7,34,0,0,2,0,44,7,0,4,26,138,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301541957558544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920302605215697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473641479616434,0.0,0.0,0.08943111298449065,0.07319275814119203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989265284828402,0.16836994293277813,0.10391931038782476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980152762183926,0.10286309324674772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455820798954699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739983914669884,0.0,0.10707231549093338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019896735831862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04812929591240515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193165255280975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19892465503576315,0.1826236654056637,0.0,0.0,0.07612956328831126,0.10494376077446232,0.0,0.0,0.08417335502287282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548010120059487,0.0,0.09373980419180106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870053563040516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073748336649473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04650345254302318,0.09540215982945667,0.08405167047094131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184879255842755,0.0,0.0,0.12707582931531552,0.0,0.0,0.10368630816893516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597717950593255,0.0,0.0699732354883299,0.0705797911185018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992950795964787,0.0,0.06450102544945897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311342460094655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15170307926218154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069939286711642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737369267002945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896608963980227,0.0,0.0,0.08971241347745587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100835355283513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462557526363677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289959521339838,0.0,0.0,0.0785390621055949,0.11228725786746778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20814360209266064,0.0,0.12259433074720988
parenting,whoavix,2019/01/05,"My brain told me.. Son(5yr old): mom, my brain said not to listen to you..
Me: what? You're on the toilet trying to poop, and I told you..just go poop.
Son: but... 
Me: just poop, son...
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parenting,hamanthasale,2019/01/05,"I need master level parenting advice - the flu So, I have failed as a parent, I forgot about appointments I made for 3 out of 4 kids to get their flu shot (my oldest got his before going back to school ..) I ended up having to reschedule, which meant the shot appointments would be the middle of next week. But! Because of my parenting fail one of my children (4yo) has been diagnosed with influenza type A and My one year old has been prescribed the preventative meds. Which seems odd to me only because her symptoms are extremely flu like and much more severe than her older brothers. This is where it gets fun - my oldest was vaccinated, so I’m hoping he’s in the clear and my other 4yo is showing no signs or symptoms of being ill. He’s normally the most “sick acting” when he’s even coming down with anything so I find so much comfort in the fact that he seems 100% healthy at the moment. 
What do I do? Do I send the two healthy boys out with dad, to leave the contaminated ones home to heal peacefully? Do I lock everyone up and just hope the healthy boys stay healthy? Should everyone stay home from school? I hate for my kids to be sick but I hate putting other kids at risk too. Help?",3.2754291845493566,5.22939013733906,4.045345493562234,86.8093916309013,74.66523605150215,7.0634334763948505,24.525536480686693,7.908726449838941,1.2951117596566526,934,30,186,14,20,298,142,233,0.138,0.7609999999999999,0.101,-0.8467,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,1,3,11,10,2,1,13,0,19,10,0,1,2,31,35,13,0,6,4,5,0,1,0,2,10,0,2,6,8,10,0,2,4,1,0,5,1,5,0,4,7,0,23,5,30,23,4,30,0,2,0,0,21,12,0,6,12,119,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147101178550384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660025692650807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026406536487007,0.0,0.14311717423572512,0.0,0.0998884747861272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111929974921294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914626887121192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039708554709452,0.0,0.0,0.07753361474283768,0.0,0.0,0.22433837822759656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729043317981027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266068748355495,0.0,0.06671426073941826,0.0,0.0938858440557631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23179253828450885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868264904981845,0.0,0.2354993120819301,0.23318538518250576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242968589160712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05734980873296565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107528922036576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303915170760208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258725760070645,0.08704165604293437,0.0,0.0,0.12484338577547713,0.0,0.11501523881514385,0.0,0.0,0.12317887637005084,0.0,0.23863527998384676,0.08927880366217679,0.0,0.0,0.3910361832123817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800728341837312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23760568629277096,0.0,0.21373110908708165,0.0,0.13261493764519475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502398097625795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24402199400997085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467094173551655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941615095374788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338901109117891,0.0,0.0,0.07559397244316249
parenting,catherineflower1,2019/01/05,"Bullied for not being circumcised? I was having a conversation with my daughter (17) today and she asked me why I didn't get her little brother circumcised. Apparently this girl in her class found out this boy wasn't circumcised and now all the girls are making fun of him. According to her, everyone at her school thinks being uncircumcised is disgusting and weird.

I know this was the prevalent attitude when I was a teen but I had no idea it was still common today. Now I'm worried for my son getting bullied once he's a bit older. Can anyone confirm that it's still common for teens to think this way?",4.707116858237548,6.487490956896554,5.509080459770118,78.52174329501919,70.4655172413793,8.603831417624523,28.406130268199234,9.150863307647796,2.5082118773946367,485,18,87,10,9,158,81,116,0.153,0.8290000000000001,0.019,-0.9388,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,5,0,13,0,0,1,1,14,22,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,8,0,14,1,10,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,10,61,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182690605534158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20299333839496794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23705684602733398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20748325358847652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23807899068527946,0.0,0.0,0.22688974332040174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24512070532277255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933255482164926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762784057135445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494031567075286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312433111841725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21975375436266995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468110166467775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782646336126823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41164007074405423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235286564963945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195931939224649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22051267988760576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snaxnpjs,2019/01/05,"Drafting a parenting plan for teen-what do you wish you would have done? Hi, all. I'm re-entering a parenting plan after barely existing on a vague one for the last 5 years. Child is now 14 and I'm wanting the plan to encompass enough so as not to have to interact with the other parent much at all for the remainder of our parenting time.  For those of you that have gone through this, it can be overwhelming trying to think of all the scenarios that might come up. Are there things you wished you'd put in your parenting plan that would have made things easier for you and/or your teens?

We have a week on/week off schedule that we all want to stick to.

We are in Washington State",4.827026143790854,5.587681441176474,5.053333333333335,85.74722222222225,69.14705882352942,9.86797385620915,26.87581699346405,9.994966539143718,2.2620189542483664,540,16,115,13,9,170,86,136,0.009000000000000001,0.936,0.055,0.7205,5,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,8,0,4,3,1,0,1,9,0,16,0,0,1,4,20,26,3,0,6,1,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,0,12,0,24,18,6,18,0,1,0,0,20,7,0,1,7,82,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182782575116875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051324975248422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187535726457795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192394275558984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992368117831873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145661564269528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093681497181843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304311892752784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7623186752197534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803196710251808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824420102439084,0.08798110496367574,0.0,0.0,0.08006511035749844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322278278701218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197504791602385,0.0,0.2202795964842472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31579370881348523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950786240005424,0.0,0.0,0.08842153141031195
parenting,michaeltheteacher,2019/01/05,"Daughter Afraid to Ride Bike Hi all. My daughter (8) is terrified to ride a bike. She’s never fallen, just afraid. I’ve tried pedals on, pedals off. Training wheels on and off. She’s still afraid. We got her a Razr scooter for Christmas and she’s even tentative on that. Any advice?",0.5511919191919219,2.9839514727272736,1.5969696969696976,94.49767676767678,97.9090909090909,3.8989898989898992,18.83838383838384,5.82211442006289,-0.05540404040404079,221,7,43,2,9,69,39,55,0.075,0.885,0.04,-0.4386,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,8,1,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,2,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.477569144245616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323447002085487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32279333972787744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.390872078600334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769291113995913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3902904753867942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318071435452257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Polar-Plunger,2019/01/06,"Female pediatrician for boys? Is it common for a boy to continue see a female pediatrician for yearly check-ups, even as he gets older? Those of you who take your kids to a female pediatrician, how old are your sons, and thorough of an exam does she do?

My son is currently 10, and everything is fine now, but I'm worried there could be issues in three or four years or so. What she does really isn't anything to get embarrassed over (his privates are only out for about 15 seconds), but I know that around middle school kids can get really shy about stuff like this.",8.709727272727271,6.747895972727277,8.973636363636365,69.91045454545454,62.0,12.072727272727272,32.90909090909091,10.793553405168565,3.2449454545454532,447,12,86,9,5,149,83,110,0.085,0.8740000000000001,0.041,-0.7077,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,0,0,8,3,0,1,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,11,17,9,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,8,2,16,15,0,13,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,2,9,59,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837915584545256,0.19882186369185312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783205322779513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908964389321463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751538287356836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20072552213088815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500611638775017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23311117720545144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227430040629961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091136924420366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343600149423261,0.0,0.0,0.16986176832335492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28615739901111137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260341782249547,0.17797477636536227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556733262023695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679255006027627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268147933632959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876500424976565
parenting,12beesonafarm,2019/01/06,"Teenagers smoking pot The teenager in question is 18 but still in high school so the waters are a little murky. 


Anyway, we’ve always had a “do what you want as long as you are smart about it” when it comes to weed and alcohol. We live in a rural mountain town and I’m no idiot. We know it’s something lots of teens dabble in.



So far, our first 2 kids did great. They had no interest in either. Then we have our 18 year old, Aubrey. Aubrey is our “bad boy”. He occasionally smokes and drinks with his group of friends. He makes good grades, helps out around the house, is kind to his siblings, and plays sports so I’m ok with it. As long as these things are maintained, I don’t care if he occasionally partakes in these activities even though they are illegal. 



Also applying the “do what you want but be smart” rule, we’ve also discussed with our teens about where and when to do these activities. Don’t do them on school property, don’t drink with strangers, don’t smoke in someone’s parent’s house if they don’t allow it, don’t drive, etc. 




Well now I’m wondering if we have been too lax on this rule. 



Aubrey is on a camping trip with friends and i checked his Instagram to see if he posted any pics. He did. It’s a picture of him wearing a big proud smile with a joint pressed between his lips.



I immediately texted him to take it down and said all the teens will be getting another talking to about being smart while doing these kinds of things. Posting illegal activities on social media is not smart. You have no idea who will be seeing it. 


In your opinion, are we allowing too much? Should we be doing more to make sure they aren’t doing these things period? 




By allowing them to do this stuff, it’s made it so they do talk to us about it and I don’t want them doing anything behind our back. As it is now, Aubrey has no problem telling us he’s going to his friends house and that he’ll be drinking. That way we know where he is if anything happens. 





Thoughts? Should we be restricting weed and alcohol more or do we just need to crack down on social media etiquette? 
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parenting,_throwaway_714,2019/01/06,"Non verbal 4 year old hitting himself when angry/frustrated So this is about my brother who just turned 4. In the way of communication he only recently started saying hi a few months back but that's it. He'll do baby talk and try to say certain words but can't get passed the 1st sound. He's very bright though. Knows all his colors and some numbers and shapes. 

In the past couple weeks he has been hitting/punching himself in the head when he gets upset or is told no. He will also sometimes lash out and hit one of us though he does no harm. If I tell him not to hit himself he'll do it again so I try to calm him down by holding him and sometimes it works. I work with children who have special needs and I think he may be autistic. He has a observation a local elementary school next week. Just looking for advice on what to do when he starts hitting himself. It would be especially helpful to hear from anyone who has experienced this with their child. ",3.280111256544501,5.1169461570680665,4.078190445026177,87.08597676701574,74.34031413612566,6.240968586387434,26.073625654450264,6.9077264865688965,1.0612641361256547,760,27,152,7,16,243,128,191,0.069,0.84,0.09,0.6398,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,2,13,6,0,1,7,0,16,1,1,0,2,26,33,18,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,5,0,4,0,2,11,9,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,8,15,4,19,20,3,25,0,0,3,0,35,8,0,4,15,97,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842983844203295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147021491947076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062083743490011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679772359888912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806870467616875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329241611523556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871752524376884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588788418903465,0.0,0.17119647649386413,0.0,0.10181188115781163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347740847660197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127553374466359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124097843995485,0.0,0.0,0.11262806791382167,0.0,0.0,0.16154184066507396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938803883178768,0.0,0.10292784605490927,0.11552283836567286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500077175100973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997778809871473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415856796364758,0.0,0.15372564464589342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004556779205524,0.0,0.21502383935664168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220872847958348,0.13276274830802134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732805318462727,0.2984717352453333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514198860273986,0.0,0.20625319413433774,0.16521792231297466,0.0,0.0,0.1827107394355524,0.0,0.0,0.12532911589189993,0.0,0.1205670203696809,0.24368168927815365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116244370775826,0.0,0.0,0.107901706279704,0.0,0.0,0.09781526971412896
parenting,TSMpapa,2019/01/06,"Please recommend books for raising a toddler My wife and I have 2 children (20mo and 1mo) and we’re really struggling with our toddler. Everyone around us says he’s perfect but with us he’s defiant and challenges us regularly. I know this is normal, but what resources can you recommend so I can navigate this time well?

Thanks",4.0375956284153,6.7361957377049215,5.011065573770495,77.24370218579237,75.22950819672131,8.656830601092896,33.11748633879781,9.2995712137729,3.6633912568306,264,14,44,7,6,86,46,61,0.067,0.6729999999999999,0.259,0.8898,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,1,0,2,3,5,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,12,6,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,9,4,4,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,29,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192767535272238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691435104940345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900535447049818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121643535827268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376971595508101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872180725752495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17220221593362836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263758289020965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19936200016292352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626688750335138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7814170339819287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469650180294684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sukarsono,2019/01/06,"Should I go for three? My wife recently ratcheted up her push for a third. I have been decidedly against it and we have not discussed much at all. Our two kids, a boy (5) and a girl (2), get along swimmingly and we have so much fun with them. So my worry if we have another is that we will just be in a giant blur of laundry and dishes and then our kids will be in college. Quality over quantity and all that.

But on the other hand, I love the idea of big family Thanksgivings and all that someday. I mean long-term it seems like there is 0% chance I regret a decision to go for three.

If you considered this choice at some point, share some wisdom with me please. What did you consider and what do you wish you had?

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parenting,creativeburrito,2019/01/06,"How do I reduce calling children by the wrong name? Usually only happens when I’m moving way too fast or the situation is upsetting. Sometimes the dogs name gets in there. I love them all, and if possible, I’d like to squash this misnaming thing. ",4.0867021276595725,6.2013593191489385,5.311648936170212,77.90875,72.82978723404256,8.955319148936171,30.89893617021277,9.516144504307137,3.1966212765957462,196,9,35,5,4,65,41,47,0.119,0.7509999999999999,0.129,0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,1,7,6,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,6,1,6,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,2,4,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29661315924943904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517641187124905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568710257021333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191414314150674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621700728718344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30873489561787665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209235776427925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274732188117601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265123529196926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872927302876194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19298239609753015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31992333021458885,0.0,0.0,0.2305699709479797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31759492388268146,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChaosHivemind,2019/01/06,"Don't do the same mistake as me, bring a travel consent letter for your little ones when traveling without your SO. I got delayed for hours trying to get a hold of my SO when at the Canadian/US border, I had no idea I needed a travel consent letter for my child. It was a nightmare. I found a bunch of good websites with resources and sample letters. This one specifically directed me to the most up-to-date information: [http://kiddriventravel.com/travel-consent-letter/](http://kiddriventravel.com/travel-consent-letter/) 

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Save yourself some time next time you're traveling without your SO, you'll thank me later.",11.096270627062706,12.539386960396039,9.317574257425749,58.24223597359735,55.63366336633664,9.505610561056104,35.645214521452154,9.2995712137729,3.3894343234323436,517,19,72,7,6,157,71,101,0.076,0.789,0.135,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,4,0,0,5,4,0,0,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,11,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,3,4,0,5,4,1,0,2,4,1,13,3,12,6,4,15,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,8,52,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23343458063709366,0.2617892713766261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362243355493544,0.0,0.0,0.11256112667596968,0.0,0.0,0.18070505446008786,0.17231105748136166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216993886086055,0.0,0.0,0.2432111946442373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21593250159552066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974974660481114,0.0,0.0,0.2291282145767273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291982231967826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835282122432984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25125543827847946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627302105814555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25915382255461056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41536260705132333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617892713766261,0.0
parenting,fishsocks,2019/01/06,"What did we do to deserve this? Or: We need sleep. What the hell? Our daughter (child #2) is now 11 months old. Almost a year. And in this ‘almost a year’ time period she has slept through the night precisely zero times. 

She has slept for four uninterrupted hours zero times. 

She has slept three strikes hours without crying out like a banshee at minute 181, zero times. 

It has been nearly a year of sleep in 30 to 150 minute increments. Every. Single. Fucking. Day. To cap it all off our son (3 years) still wakes once or twice each night. Apparently we raise children who don’t need to sleep. 

We’re going mad, suffering at the wails of an infant. 

For the past two weeks we have had to hold her all night long in order to get at least some sleep. Granted, she has 6 upper teeth coming in all at once (2 emerged, 4 visibly pushing) and a diagnosed ear infect as of Thursday. Our hope is the antibiotics will resolve the infection and we can go back to awful 2-hour increments. This every-30-minutes thing is just painful. ",2.7455670103092795,5.274535154639178,3.2167113402061887,89.27712886597942,78.89690721649485,6.35422680412371,22.586597938144326,7.554174236665415,0.9856544329896906,796,25,156,12,20,247,124,194,0.106,0.845,0.049,-0.9138,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,8,0,0,1,5,8,3,0,12,1,16,15,10,0,4,27,27,6,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,3,9,11,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,5,0,7,6,1,13,3,26,20,7,41,1,1,0,1,19,12,2,6,25,99,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360035992732549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061326925990447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151049920597173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944396815342665,0.07599837909478023,0.0,0.0,0.11960720912468335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992870170241034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108943084477627,0.06156761197063306,0.0,0.13394471537305952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704375384382153,0.3481520713244728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757167749666554,0.0,0.0,0.1042865137633906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406040705418674,0.0,0.0,0.17475678685564724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317603680273625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236554175411194,0.25099589334343075,0.0,0.0,0.12539225904457238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249357923011062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717086516963877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410882037931932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828902761004128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27485860858468536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511456832533876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452579144479033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135955394781327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035456890504277
parenting,Rukia33,2019/01/06,"Is it really as bad as everyone says it is? Everyone is making parenting sound so awful. My (24f) boyfriend (21m) and I have a 5 month old and we keep hearing how awful things get and how our sex life will never be the same and p much how we will hate each other and never connect on a personal level ever again. We got pregnant early into our relationship, but we’ve always had such good communication and we get along so well, and our sex life was great before we had the baby. I tore a muscle during labor, and I suffer from chronic pain, so we haven’t been having sex like before, but I’m hoping once I’m all good, things will be normal again. 

What was your guys’ experience w this? Is my relationship doomed just bc we have a baby now?",4.219200000000002,4.883736519999999,5.914666666666669,79.37400000000002,70.46666666666667,8.4,23.666666666666664,8.548686976883017,1.4110666666666662,578,13,115,9,10,199,94,150,0.147,0.713,0.14,0.2135,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,10,1,0,0,13,11,1,0,6,2,18,7,0,4,4,33,28,18,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,4,3,0,2,7,18,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,6,3,16,6,6,17,4,12,1,2,0,3,18,3,0,1,10,82,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295340353840339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998208684797907,0.0,0.0,0.2649358454213056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408169114912944,0.0,0.2975081861217259,0.0,0.15227997998001025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626674799469833,0.0,0.0,0.2611455365698669,0.12450748457849607,0.1716321900698715,0.0,0.15414268296796546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369679090666596,0.0,0.0,0.17545699105558055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462035859366235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837105493346452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21991565247710185,0.07605492072008603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391424287340882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425826573873107,0.0,0.11443900584949708,0.0,0.24013224834489744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525284052893332,0.0,0.0,0.16335468040241952,0.16578874890702486,0.0,0.0,0.16564913053123714,0.0,0.17285861725875018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592936810340528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997293639696842,0.0,0.0,0.3342732889556497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237989744276446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684704865440734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997048247709512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jack93885,2019/01/06,"Saving ""Jesus'"" kids from a cult Here’s his patreon https://www.patreon.com/SoCalChrist

Here's his video explaining
https://youtu.be/JDQ8MPJ0SP8

I'm gonna keep it brief because I don't even know if this belongs on this sub but the dude's in a custody battle to keep his kids from going (with their mum) to a cult. As a new parent I feel really bad that I can't provide to his patreon so I'm sharing this wherever I can. Maybe this sub can chip in a bit, maybe you can share it to social media. Idk. All I know is the dread and fear that this guy is feeling is immense and I want to help.",4.722500000000005,5.695538119658121,5.342809829059831,82.80600961538465,69.51282051282051,8.243162393162393,25.73611111111111,8.472884824447931,1.4860264957264953,468,13,96,7,8,151,74,117,0.154,0.732,0.114,-0.7797,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,1,0,4,7,1,2,7,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,20,6,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,9,3,0,2,5,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,2,12,3,12,19,2,6,1,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,1,57,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19101495206583294,0.1394572059569223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497596259683744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110165970671488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574319512953579,0.2313478582631526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001632333624488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22652011452055396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334095928562158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066858913617359,0.0,0.0,0.25145406899296235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596641762812793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094929347645675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540240835528615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655711521622966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23320410717730375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349355736740864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HeavenNHell2019,2019/01/06,Co parenting I’m 10 year old son came home from his weekend visit with his father typically the visits go off fine but this weekend his father decided to cut his hair and my son came home with 2 bald spots I’m beyond livid over it when I questioned his father who is 52 years old about he he started listing everything he did with my son over the weekend such as gave him a shower fed him cut his nails my response was nice you did what a father is supposed to do...,3.580267857142857,4.703715895833336,4.6314880952380975,86.28375000000004,72.33333333333334,7.152380952380952,26.214285714285715,7.447530270364453,1.2567785714285709,370,12,76,4,7,121,64,96,0.116,0.8340000000000001,0.051,-0.7615,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,4,4,2,0,4,0,6,3,2,0,0,9,14,4,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,6,1,0,2,3,0,5,0,2,0,0,7,1,13,2,12,7,0,18,0,0,0,0,25,4,0,1,9,43,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188090941394365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203837747727368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288985323782271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4550079003649553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4759874787825486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518401591314655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540735543748233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16053377644216868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921100225519415
parenting,girlgamer_421,2019/01/06,"Have any of you experienced your kids moving across the country? I’m moving across the country, away from my family with my boyfriend. We are moving so he can spend sometime with his parents while we go to school. My parents know and are trying to contain their emotions and be happy with me. I’m very close with my parents, and I just want to know if any parent has gone through this. And might have some tips for me on how to make it easier for my parents. So if there’s like something your kid does that makes you happy despite the difference, or if there’s something you wish they’d do. Thank you so much. ",4.9335743801652905,5.7138223884297545,4.839328512396693,87.3062654958678,68.91735537190083,7.372314049586778,28.348140495867767,7.1686216300943375,1.3601809917355363,483,16,98,4,8,149,77,121,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.955,5,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,2,6,2,0,7,4,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,3,0,26,21,13,0,5,5,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,11,0,1,2,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,19,4,17,17,2,11,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,6,2,69,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802793724076004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607339524007768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907689634001734,0.0,0.0,0.10811394516865692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389700606477383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646602760779855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021274525294391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630291823596993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579279921152218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603572229721733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16493278982377496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131060367407874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3939222798009204,0.09081885205289224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6859034238525303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250328440832747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021998863068265,0.1221879017580642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374246217317285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387807877885177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193651060955368,0.07286928915407449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420691852025127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheAbyssGazesAlso,2019/01/06,"Help? (meals / planning) Hi all, apologies if this isn't the right subreddit, but it's because I'm concerned about my daughters' nutrition, so...

I suck at cooking. I mean, OK, I can follow a recipe alright, but I'm terrible at planning and preparing meals. I work long hours, and my partner will simply never cook (nor eat, she'll refuse anything I cook and make herself toast later, but that's another story), so it falls to me to try to prepare food for our 10 year old daughter.

Like I said, I can follow a recipe, but I can't go to the supermarket and think ""OK, I'll cook this meal tonight, and that tomorrow night, and such-and-such the next night"" and so on. I tried googling ""simple family meals"" and they're always these really complicated meals that require a lot of prep time and specific ingredients that I then have to buy but wont use again for weeks or whatever.

Can someone point me to any kind of resource that is simple (because I dumb) and not too time consuming (because I work dumb hours) but is healthy and not too expensive? I don't care if the meals are a bit plain or whatever, as long as they're reasonably healthy and nutritious and not too daunting at the end of a long day.

I'm getting sick of giving my daughter plates of fruit and veggies etc because it's all I can come up with that's reasonably healthy because I can't plan or work out meals.

Help?",7.784957579185523,6.196416562500001,7.6236764705882365,77.67087104072398,63.522058823529406,11.163348416289594,37.83484162895928,10.035473477838034,3.535617873303168,1083,46,219,19,13,347,145,272,0.085,0.807,0.108,0.6367,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,1,0,0,7,8,10,3,0,10,3,15,15,0,4,3,43,31,32,0,2,14,3,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,1,12,17,14,2,4,4,2,5,10,4,0,0,1,2,23,6,23,27,5,34,0,0,0,0,14,8,3,6,22,124,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451836007891056,0.0,0.0,0.08541974291828111,0.13171401715926742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033670964399806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828562993030246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713460764888213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806871936633735,0.0,0.0,0.1082026978155164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100866129104604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285313449117314,0.0,0.0,0.11125400476510892,0.0,0.14008939584280206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841481006479067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188924073082866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562652893435357,0.12049745427169707,0.0713875888448192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683887234104012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474029363926913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308044588664411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06136715779777782,0.0,0.0,0.3334851731566507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067899247171374,0.0,0.0,0.08384627423804482,0.0,0.0,0.13682713189919232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687889644084972,0.0,0.13358865398427594,0.23575470602957696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180754584119048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874293424995185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046958116390904,0.25829792250440503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727105183170406,0.11948476343009624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642973727340392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048641495178563,0.0,0.0,0.14648949221664562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056315856577234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848751722722952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075751501054064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743387692484706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088932357352137
parenting,NovemberChild1,2019/01/06,What can you do if you called your mom a b*tch in front of your friends and your dad heard and whooped you with a belt in front of them? I'm 14 and I was annoyed because my mom kept asking me to clean while I had company. My dad has only hit me once before when I was little. Idk what to do. I'm so embarrassed to go back to school tomorrow.,1.3992000000000004,2.5292891200000014,2.9730000000000025,96.0115,77.8,6.6000000000000005,21.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.32193333333333296,264,7,66,3,6,87,50,75,0.092,0.8320000000000001,0.077,-0.0382,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,6,1,0,3,3,1,1,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,14,7,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,5,1,14,1,9,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,1,4,42,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520999167472242,0.0,0.0,0.2073553643808454,0.0,0.164384983619159,0.0,0.22946463803729114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753576171180298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20834213308947716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325655662751364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702746844981031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6316556347083201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871839044513565,0.0,0.20509201297354251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729148829107211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,learnwithroman,2019/01/06,"Learn Colors Shapes and Numbers For Kids. Shapes Song. Preschool Video [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfomaBOYDGk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LfomaBOYDGk)

Parent's please check out our newest learning video for kids. Hope you enjoy!",19.03115384615385,25.77429057692309,5.49953846153846,64.89546153846157,66.30769230769229,3.6184615384615375,20.584615384615386,5.6839178017228535,0.34443999999999964,209,4,19,1,5,42,22,26,0.0,0.708,0.292,0.8423,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,3,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,1,6,2,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367306039951215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6000407119147204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5931874937824531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momof2trying,2019/01/06,HELP my son 14 is being bought by my Ex-husband . Not his father Help . My son has been being bought by my ex husband and has started running away and doing things he has never done before. My son got a restraining order against me after thanksgiving and the court has since canceled it and returned him home. Things are no better . He has fan away twice to see this man who is not his father . We have been divorced over 10 years . My son is doing horrible in school now and has an I don’t care attitude . Any suggestions . I’m open to ideas ,2.495887850467291,4.623722373831775,3.4708504672897185,89.23618224299067,77.5981308411215,6.149158878504673,22.84953271028037,7.1686216300943375,0.8269371962616829,422,13,84,5,10,135,72,107,0.069,0.828,0.103,0.596,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,19,0,0,0,1,12,26,5,0,0,2,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,7,0,1,1,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,6,1,12,2,10,18,0,13,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,0,6,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062868539057892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4438480217612753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099454118996665,0.0,0.0,0.2089056694053789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24082851725683585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417215077342003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891611059859384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31664880216142466,0.0,0.23693462275707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666486621219695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217720219868894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23905383480324865,0.1882261927045744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953926590387395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718834873234031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138505291700172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210939841130308
parenting,HeartlessPiracy,2019/01/06,"I had an idea to start using props when I read stories or tell stories to my year old toddler. He seemed more interested than he used to. I tend to collect those figures called Pops by Funko and they have vareity of characters including Disney, Marvel, DC etc. And I figured, it would be a good way of entertaining my child to use them as props when I read or tell him a story. He seemed to enjoy story time more with those colorful toys while I move the toys around to tell him the story.
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parenting,nanaycha,2019/01/06,"WOMAN WARNS MOMS ABOUT MARKS ON BABY CHANGING TABLES  For us, as parents, we are careful to be cautious about anything that could endanger the lives of our children, but there is a serious issue that could threaten your child’s safety They are public baths.  
Jessica Wyman published a publication on Facebook urging all parents to to always wipe down or put a blanket on the changing table before placing the baby on one. This is because black marks come from burned spoons.  
The addicts use these tables as tables while they shoot up, where there may be traces of heroin or some harmful body fluids.

  Jessica has acknowledged that she is a drug addict who is recovering herself, with some people who use changing tables as tables while they shoot up, they are also used by addicts to destroy and crush drugs.  
Drugs are among the most serious problems in our country, unfortunately, where addicts act in ways that may harm other people, including innocent babies . 

 The advice I can give you is the next time you go to the public bathroom to change your child. Be sure to carefully clean the changing table and use a blanket to avoid any danger that may affect your baby.

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parenting,mal303,2019/01/06,"9 year old daughter CANNOT handle losing. 9yo has a complete meltdown if she doesn’t win. I’m talking feet stomping, screaming, crying, ruins the fun for everyone else, full on temper tantrum. She doesn’t discriminate - it’s anything from chute and ladders to b-ball to laser tag. I’m competitive too so on one hand I understand but y’all... she’s nine and too old for this. We had a big heart to heart on her birthday about ways to calm down (deep breaths, reminders that it’s just a fun game, and to think about that she’s too old for silly tantrums) but it hasn’t helped. 

Any advice is welcome as I feel defeated on this topic. ",2.941098181818184,4.926764128000002,3.6626181818181855,89.0433090909091,75.72,6.1454545454545455,26.56363636363637,6.980632752743323,1.1544399999999997,496,19,100,5,11,157,86,125,0.107,0.721,0.173,0.8188,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,3,7,13,3,0,4,0,7,5,5,0,0,11,12,8,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,7,0,2,1,3,9,6,17,11,1,13,0,3,0,0,12,8,0,1,4,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18757787579021828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305371455556066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796401689659514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012629587367593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210855432793844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035520020135813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342286292188134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970590804376423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549392521452865,0.12866453671474387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147504583250561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6042788309463459,0.0,0.13007483485325316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428753263746015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299810915916083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983370525491195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523663018748952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361382795676296
parenting,Kikithekoala,2019/01/06,"My 16 month old nephew is very sick with a cold, what are some things I can buy him to help him feel better? I want to drop a care package off at my sisters house

I just don’t know what kids at that age can have and what helps them

He is going to the dr tomorrow. 

Thank you ",-0.05469945355191541,1.6274727377049203,1.3356557377049183,103.59452185792351,83.91803278688525,4.722404371584699,15.084699453551913,5.46131890053228,-1.2220185792349727,211,3,56,1,6,67,49,61,0.084,0.6920000000000001,0.224,0.818,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,0,0,7,13,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,9,3,7,13,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,4,34,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812744538023633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242559660743481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080710349897726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074555364594036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263417988063183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669675255585281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478268785957699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253851005645437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33372226507840064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928021718062728,0.0,0.0,0.21128707616971512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624106347143083,0.18758417669742206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,3Anklebiters,2019/01/06,"Does anyone have any experience with cell phones for younger kids? Medical needs kid is looking for more freedom and I want to be safe. My kids are all too young for most cell phones, but I want my soon to be 8 year old to have more freedom. Right now he is allowed to go down to the park outside of the culdesac with his brother and friends. It's not visible from my house but it's close enough to where the kids can come and get me if the oldest has a medical emergency. He has a chronic medical illness. 

He wants to be able to ride his bike a little farther and I am fine with this as long as he is with friends or his brother. He and his little brother are inseparable so he won't have any problems with that. My concern is that they would be too far to contact me in the event of a medical emergency. If they had some sort of cell phone, someone could call and let me know. My younger one knows how to help his brother during a medical emergency so I am comfortable with him being with his brother. 

I don't like the idea of young kids having cell phones but this seems like our best bet. Is there a low cost, easy to use, durable kind of cell phone out there that works well for young kids? ",3.4735564663023664,4.644315053278688,4.011420765027324,90.4466029143898,72.64754098360655,7.38943533697632,27.899817850637522,7.793537801064563,1.4294397085610195,939,35,207,12,18,296,129,244,0.078,0.747,0.175,0.9814,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,2,2,11,12,0,0,12,0,27,7,0,3,1,43,39,17,0,9,7,5,0,2,2,2,7,0,0,6,7,16,0,1,4,1,2,3,3,2,1,1,1,1,23,10,33,29,7,24,0,1,1,0,42,11,0,8,12,134,30,1,0.1266960326045219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231529352631195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858881182656846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295966969439954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12937081475486578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109137413655393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115647268470923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087255192171427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091086966478932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393303094982153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577008101431229,0.0,0.06619344784995812,0.0,0.07200427504036692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492168001706311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619021109066502,0.0,0.14302439931641392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193442144683265,0.13925765226389294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955527725695673,0.0,0.12379456373353807,0.25396541782351456,0.0,0.11212200196336372,0.1063927581766096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6381646187520241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093943502816653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132946173651775,0.0,0.08585251061191979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123099252957716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819771958890058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533930971295275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734913728164557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942469349758527,0.0,0.0,0.22418580783348646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139149488932978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223622067855757,0.0,0.0,0.09000122647549272,0.0,0.0,0.08158809110471534
parenting,bridiacuaird,2019/01/06,"What are good resources For parents on gentle (but firm) parenting for young children? We are having some struggles with our 3.5 year old. I don’t think anything unusual, but his father and I are a little uncertain on the best way to handle it all. 

The thing which is hardest (on my head at least), is the power struggles that occur between my husband and child. 


A typical situation will go like this:

Son is “locking” the cat inside the storage coffee table. Husband interferes firmly, “Don’t do that! That’s mean. Open it and let him out.” 

Son opens it and a second later, closes it. Cat still enclosed. 

Husband raises his voice: “I told you not to do that! You have to listen to Daddy!” 

Son: “no!” 

Husband picks up son and transports him to his room, closes the door and keeps his hand on door knob. 

Husband: “this is how it feels for the cat when you trap him.” 

As soon as my husband lets go of the door handle, of course our toddler comes running out “disobediently” despite not being “allowed” out. Then we try to get him to agree not to do the thing he did again. 


I’m not in favour of this method of discipline (never was but I’ve done it) especially now that he’s getting older and bigger. It’s seeming more and more inappropriate to carry him to his room and force him to stay. It’s isolating for a child at a time that is critical to have support. 


My husband takes issue with the way our toddler talks to us (yells “no” at us from time to time, hits us—pretty rarely though) whereas I feel this is just where he is at developmentally. Of course I wouldn’t want him to continue screaming “no” at us until he’s 6-7, but I feel he’ll outgrow it (I hope, anyway). 


When he behaves this way, I tend to ignore the behaviour more than anything and ensure he doesn’t get his way, OR try to reason with him as best I can. It doesn’t always work but it’s the approach I take. My husband immediately addresses the screaming, or tries to, but it doesn’t tend to fix things. In fact, it sometimes makes things worse, because our little guy is so caught up in his emotion, and more negativity from dad gets him more upset. Oh 


So while my husband tends to be on the more strict, authoritative side, I’m far more gentle (yet don’t believe in spoiling or being permissive).  There must be some resources out there for something in between the parenting spectrum. Firm, gentle parenting? I’m thinking podcasts, videos, or books. Would gladly like to explore some ideas/thoughts out there. 

Thanks. ",3.477622078517236,5.468408127348641,4.338366515606705,84.76722592800044,74.19832985386222,6.510331483273079,26.50547380212842,7.313800181584829,1.3568822343296505,1939,71,371,22,41,624,229,479,0.092,0.7959999999999999,0.112,0.9228,6,0,2,0,0,0,72.0,9,3,0,5,17,17,0,4,20,0,37,2,2,5,4,71,70,33,0,5,15,19,4,2,0,5,0,5,6,4,30,26,0,5,9,2,0,8,16,7,0,1,5,9,44,10,65,53,14,68,0,0,0,0,61,35,0,10,22,260,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306037105953905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445112306689544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352480323733086,0.0,0.0,0.09892559441298404,0.1842907941020164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563579495579859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985448019304511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987682351280388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133189767871208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349689190199645,0.0,0.0998026323051866,0.07364624187678395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694025149733381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011274019656262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720967225888153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164507712954488,0.0,0.07804466669603075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957208363008706,0.0,0.08579367904720127,0.17600633572842472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058610180098180475,0.0,0.0,0.0956448323530918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772023706134782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213604385233437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899859887888513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932873445835532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027764140114798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993391164040252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869592766172126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759618753693727,0.08684088755802524,0.0,0.0,0.09358790551319963,0.07012078058348799,0.0,0.0,0.18358463848388856,0.0,0.0,0.09963949677900392,0.0,0.0,0.13203610087897344,0.0705739245441929,0.0,0.08083857915582499,0.0,0.0,0.2333336112390465,0.1125231459274688,0.0862674673984441,0.06970695864255244,0.15359851584340622,0.0,0.0,0.08390095470608201,0.0,0.17884045890828254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4224719702760818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051789364207202065,0.2787804745536719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392271578625992,0.0,0.08948027850496659,0.06237379174996033,0.0,0.0,0.056543213944179126
parenting,Threnodyyo,2019/01/06,"They won’t always eat if they’re hungry This post is a little bit in response to the “I starved her out” post - not because they’re the same thing, but because before I had a diagnosis for my son, I would have felt so guilty reading it.

My son ate everything up until about 18 months. Toddlers going through a picky phase is super normal, so we didn’t worry about it. For years. But eventually he wasn’t a toddler anymore. And the type and variety of food he ate was way more limited than most other kids we knew. And then there was a birthday party where he was offered a piece of pizza and he threw himself under the table, sobbing.

It still took another 2.5 years before someone believed us. Finally, we saw a child therapist who didn’t just think he was “picky”, and did the research to suggest we look into ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder). 

We’ve only been seeing the feeding therapist for about a month. But we’ve already made some progress. And most importantly, knowing that we’re not crazy — that so many of the “picky eater” strategies we were pushed to try were basically torture — has been incredibly helpful for our family. Now we do exposure therapy at therapy, and meal times are not fights.",6.678658764815973,7.270609532751095,6.76308484092327,75.70848253275109,65.02620087336244,9.686961946350593,34.69775421085465,9.606745405546679,3.317861883967561,969,42,171,18,14,310,148,229,0.094,0.8009999999999999,0.105,0.3737,0,1,0,0,1,0,25.0,8,0,1,3,12,5,2,1,15,0,21,8,0,1,0,37,34,16,0,3,8,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,15,8,3,4,1,0,4,7,4,0,0,21,4,16,1,22,11,7,25,0,1,3,0,25,8,1,4,10,112,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603541418843385,0.0,0.1101136611764858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387652145203902,0.0,0.0,0.1312411658089926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134087365667715,0.0,0.2252153716182556,0.14909668849062793,0.0,0.0,0.14447599169005948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166784333036062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541216063362435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893453227023244,0.0,0.12475404573806816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270627452801962,0.14496697168705552,0.0,0.0,0.3200410028929051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520926241408586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870163491636737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272807973146751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263484523997734,0.0,0.0,0.11112841375289312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521896341360578,0.0,0.13416733352095292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112577212833261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966060302240467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064704155039783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25348148122766034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323712205043774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545418718159257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212736231584544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056832283031881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026741459035908,0.3073032184178219,0.08791776525513423,0.0847951864018889,0.0,0.0,0.07716584100478027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470295082761724,0.0898470557580645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918320259293642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504168769074078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343930312112605,0.0,0.09400727742609892,0.0,0.0,0.17043932878482074
parenting,williamthepreteen,2019/01/06,"Radio music What do you listen to in the car with your small children? My only one is still under 3, so I'm not too worried right now, I'm just thinking about it for the future. 

For reference I'm actually not all that concerned with the swearing, its that pretty much all music on the radio has become hypersexualized lately, even country music which I always viewed as a safe alternative. ",5.828378378378383,6.990778594594598,7.084702702702702,70.62921621621625,67.10810810810811,8.082162162162161,28.313513513513517,8.238735603445708,2.14456,312,10,51,4,5,106,58,74,0.027000000000000003,0.867,0.107,0.7174,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,7,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,10,8,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,4,1,10,8,3,10,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,4,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.3086678363830087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26319091442758824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493337771392753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089163231118812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.356805567506698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325204067519207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21433630399905568,0.24056403735068374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217956734382629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701225526489306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526014047629847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026753302880522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212228564491719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaymommy22,2019/01/06,"Is it okay to leave my sleeping 9 and 4 year old alone for 1-2 hours at night? From what I understand this is not illegal in WA state. I'm not sure if it is more generally accepted. The only time I enjoy going for a walk or a jog is at night. My husband works from 3pm-12am and I work from 8am-3pm. I need to be up at 6:30am to be sure I can get my 9 year old and myself ready in the mornings, so walking after 12 am isn't an option on most nights. We live in an apartment complete with plenty of college-aged neighbors.

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We've left my sons home alone together for \~1-2 hours twice in the past week while they are awake. I feel much less comfortable doing it while they are awake than when they are asleep. My husband says it's fine, but I feel completely guilty and irresponsible for doing so. When it comes to them sleeping, I am much more comfortable with the thought of stepping out for an hour or two as they typically don't wake up between 9:30 and 11pm. Occasionally, my youngest will wake up because he needs to go potty, but that is rare and typically in the wee hours of the morning.

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What is the worst that could happen? What is the actual risk of it happening? And, finally, would my sleeping body be able to prevent it anyway? Is it unreasonable to want or to do this? My best friend disagrees, but he doesn't have children and chooses to be judgmental over some of the most trivial things (this not being trivial). ",5.246458333333333,5.665233506944442,5.686805555555555,82.78875000000002,68.09722222222223,8.761111111111111,30.930555555555557,8.680891452615391,2.222005555555556,1142,43,234,17,18,367,162,288,0.094,0.8059999999999999,0.1,-0.2918,0,2,0,0,0,1,44.0,1,0,5,3,5,12,0,1,14,1,29,7,7,0,2,42,43,22,0,6,10,3,2,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,17,13,0,1,6,1,0,7,6,2,0,2,1,3,23,10,42,34,10,44,0,0,0,0,15,16,0,8,20,162,40,2,0.10078145512059694,0.0,0.09834816229802422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20875838681670728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183933290342392,0.2449209981029873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614354396218688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576391942739702,0.0,0.0,0.111945477086259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681429978649897,0.21133487649304467,0.0,0.0,0.08046579125215683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191626370576283,0.0,0.0,0.11040115792600556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778635022269646,0.0,0.05265415069934898,0.0,0.1145528469091598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782414158545542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109201670353778,0.0,0.3969977296624345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067130092793583,0.10949934587108646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899187127333827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481719311529753,0.14945634394948332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837297055230353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150636776708734,0.0,0.0,0.07664883800551166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620730257195477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014545818331452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025627148465914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899706575032652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695472060619896,0.0,0.0,0.08000921796797605,0.058766476943813276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844883753464458,0.104917049029452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059443513387592566,0.0,0.08084080425408201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674019925826393,0.0,0.0,0.07159225415646375,0.0,0.2449209981029873,0.12979990569573008
parenting,truthserum23,2019/01/06,"Why the supersize portions? I know this will come off as judgemental, but I'm fine with it.  

Exemplary situation: 3 year old's birthday party and the parents start cutting cake for the kids.  Help me understand why a 3 year old is being served a piece of cake big enough to be considered unhealthy for an adult.

There are many more examples: chocolate milks, juices, slices of pizza.

Call me the helicopter parent, but if my kid is being served a piece of cake the size of his shoe boxes, I am intervening, for my kids best interest, and tossing half of that piece when my kid looks the other way.",6.231694058154233,6.822373079646018,6.2650063211125175,78.89778761061949,65.99115044247786,9.996965865992417,31.18710493046776,9.957137785484203,2.9122273072060687,470,17,89,10,7,149,80,113,0.052000000000000005,0.792,0.156,0.9294,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,10,0,8,3,1,0,0,9,14,7,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,4,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,3,12,10,7,10,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,6,56,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21346926379596026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770728932976595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17522218127617126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21017987660816664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634336303049766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179039694914053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081558500697094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062287293613989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4268951912886664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517318530377141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22864459530131756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397668060062468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117599776673953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145967288718094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670969635012741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619824459954255
parenting,ralphy112,2019/01/06,"Noisy indoor play, with 6yr old My wife and I have a 6 year old daughter.   One of her favorite activities is playing, of course.   However, one of her most prized form of playing has become active, noisy role playing games with mom at home.  This includes running, yelling, jumping loudly on the floor, and banging various toys all around the room.    Maybe this is normal enough, but I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it on an everyday, hours at a time level.   The family issues we've been facing are that my job is remote and I work from a home office.   This means I'm in my office until 6pm most nights working.   My wife stops work at 330, also from home, and after that is chaos zone.   

We've managed to co-exist like this for the most part, and usually I'm fine wearing earplugs, but things have gotten pretty crazy lately it seems, and it hasn't been working.  Maybe the jumping is bigger, but the whole house pretty much shakes.   I've tried to see if they could have a quieter-play time activities, and just use ""indoor voices"" in general, but by wife thinks my daughter should be free to play as she'd like, and even encourages all these activities.   We have a finished basement play area that seems to go unused, and is one thing I've encouraged, but mom likes to just be on the main floor.   When we had a babysitter a couple years ago, this was never a problem because she seemed to keep things under control.

I know kids are noisy at times, but how do parents handle the concept of noisy play vs quiet play?  Is free reign encouraged? Only during certain hours?  I feel like my wife and I have two different styles, and its definitely creating a divide in regards to my working at home.

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parenting,clockworkgirl21,2019/01/06,"Winter coat in car seat. So of course I know about the dangers of having your small child in a car seat with a heavy coat. In a sudden stop the straps can squeeze the air out of the coat, leaving a space big enough for baby to slip out.

Okay, I understand that. But can anyone who understands physics better than me explain why that doesn’t happen with adults or older children with a seat belt?",5.210000000000001,5.82197948717949,4.714512820512823,89.04715384615385,68.23076923076923,7.2656410256410275,25.856410256410257,6.742157984588678,0.8766533333333335,312,8,64,2,5,94,56,78,0.071,0.866,0.063,-0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,1,0,9,1,4,0,0,0,0,12,9,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,1,4,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,15,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,1,4,39,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21690177619540127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743501369429916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205235465756824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27431228015199954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17047994832560304,0.0,0.0,0.32846113521886416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593443464839396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6458663898759142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799107663811912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andrewwrotethis,2019/01/06,"My daughter is acting radically different than in the past this weekend I take care of my daughter every weekend. Friday morning to Sunday night. I am in college and share joint custody with her mother's grandparents. (Its a long story on how we got into this position, but my lawyer thinks i should wait until after i graduate to try for full custody) 

This weekend she is screaming at the top of her lungs (i mean like shes being hurt screaming) before bed and naps. She has been going limp when i tell her she cant do things or go places (like run into the street) and when i put her in timeout she hits me as we walk to the timeout chair. 

She is 2 in march. She has cried before bed in the past, but never like this. I felt horrible putting her in her nap today. I felt like i was hurting her. I had to let her scream herself to sleep. When i picked her up friday she  seemed fine. She was playing with her cousin. Her cousin is ten and has a dysfunctional family life, as her mom is irresponsible and her dads always working.  Im thinking maybe she is staying with her grandparents while her dads working or something and she is the cause of this, though i really cant be sure. 

I don't know what to do if the continues. Can anyone offer advice?",3.0678667434715834,4.905007487903227,4.14635944700461,86.36930107526884,74.9274193548387,6.659293394777269,24.712749615975426,7.447530270364453,1.151407219662059,979,32,194,12,21,318,140,248,0.115,0.8079999999999999,0.077,-0.9311,3,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,3,5,14,0,0,9,0,26,3,2,3,2,32,40,20,0,2,5,8,3,4,0,1,1,3,2,0,8,13,0,1,7,6,0,7,4,5,0,1,7,6,47,9,29,28,1,41,0,2,0,0,40,15,0,4,22,138,55,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131108336750924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181194692609474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395911795670277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286888739260132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700571690821245,0.13804160003530674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760618861602726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039475936092966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321793028325484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266781305048388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580448743554637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273843349766414,0.0,0.10747309937746516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877054757968993,0.0,0.14514959376812947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384976672366016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374089947332264,0.09491404012114188,0.2625981267027142,0.0,0.0,0.11891890398803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499917629309055,0.14637531624502814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15738004017310864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036393799034416,0.0,0.0,0.1261031681814295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256554997668961,0.0,0.0,0.14039475936092966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27017083620305377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608497618476847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233124683487233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344734660242756,0.0,0.0,0.10344953390843156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322738541306648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664818649413184,0.0,0.10103434522511044,0.0,0.11745091481712093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927372314696158,0.17220596936397126,0.1320241513466014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737313486664872,0.0,0.0,0.09123276914555854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565526977793665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Forgettikus,2019/01/06,"14 month old hates for anyone to touch Mommy Wondering if anyone else has experienced this?

I’m a SAHM to my 14 month old son. We co sleep, breastfeed and spend all day (and night) together. He is super bonded to me. 

My husband loves him and plays with him but whenever baby is having a meltdown, it’s mommy or nothing. 

Lately, whenever my husband comes over to cuddle or kiss me, my son loses his mind. He just stares all serious and when we stop and look over at him, the face just crumples and the tears start, followed by a tantrum. Even if my mom gives me a hug, baby gets upset. 

I’m guessing this is just a phase? My MIL is jumping on this behaviour as “proof” that I coddle and spoil the baby and that he’s “too attached” to me....

Any thoughts?",3.6001818181818166,4.7648860000000015,4.6748484848484875,85.83409090909093,72.33333333333334,7.321212121212122,26.303030303030305,7.686295010490155,1.3784666666666665,580,19,118,7,11,190,94,150,0.119,0.794,0.08800000000000001,-0.6111,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,6,10,2,1,8,0,6,6,2,0,3,28,19,15,0,2,8,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,12,0,1,2,1,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,4,17,5,13,18,2,17,0,1,2,4,16,4,0,6,10,71,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277447943589092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26269890078113256,0.1924750555164493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181658840563135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211480440513066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692500389000874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407349591580025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814414275664857,0.1802033346252988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069385247609052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546349636570167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21190356724337456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774712431398702,0.2101566800809942,0.0,0.0,0.169542427266351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896754736852596,0.2200082570880328,0.2998809835950067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628498642114288,0.0,0.18024763901267246,0.0,0.3942350389544861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18798618205997167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296156397026113,0.0,0.0,0.15705144499083312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913232871105714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20371587432228028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,firefly183,2019/01/06,"My 16mo just went peeper in the potty for the first time!!!! AAAAHHHHHH!!!!!!  My little Nori just went peepee in the potty for the first time!!!!!!  She'll be 16mo in Tuesday.  Not really digging into potty training yet but she' fascinated by the concept, haha.  So we've started just familiarizing her with the notion.  She woke up from her nap with a dry diaper so I figured she was due to pee soon.  So she came in with me while I used the toilet, then I plopped her on it with the training seat.  Within 30 seconds she peeeeeeddddd!!!!!  I know it was probably just dumb luck at this point, hahaha, but I still jumped all over it to praise and cheer for her.  And coincidence or not I was still so excited to see her first potty like a big girl! XD

Just super psyched and wanted to share, hahaha.  *Mommy, wow!  I'm a big kid now!*",1.178767571101666,3.6426003975155297,3.2526250408630304,86.83545276234068,85.39751552795029,5.873945733899967,19.03269042170644,7.273561745256523,0.55403602484472,628,17,126,10,19,212,98,161,0.022,0.6779999999999999,0.299,0.996,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,0,5,14,10,1,0,11,1,5,1,1,1,1,25,15,12,0,1,10,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,9,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,1,0,4,7,1,20,9,23,6,1,33,1,0,1,0,15,14,1,2,16,91,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24718261969609875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5514922634055464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877337848782485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558485177673094,0.2166080657227334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20430235914835326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330128902560075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845139818475705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221890270568935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297017673332575,0.0,0.34518590677539074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25204151336960223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665747017010065,0.0,0.0,0.1274726157953928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006890511636041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thebestkids,2019/01/06,"Please can you try it with your kids? :) Hey parents,

Now, we started to a basic education series for the 1-4 babies, to teach colors, numbers, animals etc. Can you please check the first video and can you feedback us about your kids' reaction to video? They liked it, did they watch till the end, did they scare of character, did they smile, laugh etc..

That would be an amazing searching for us and to shape our our next videos.

Thank you very much;

Video is;

[https://youtu.be/LbRqfpYaH10](https://youtu.be/LbRqfpYaH10)

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parenting,jeaniuslol,2019/01/06,"Ex husband says he’ll take me to court if I bring my boyfriend around our kids We’ve been long distance for over two years and getting ready to close the distance. 

I’ve introduced the kids to my boyfriend and they took a liking to him. However, my ex isn’t too happy about the situation and insists that I don’t bring the kids around him anymore. 

My ex says he’ll take me to court if he has to so that I can’t bring my boyfriend around the kids. Does he really have a leg to stand on? Can I use the fact that he has no license from two DUIs as leverage in court? 

Can anyone who has dealt with a difficult ex tell me how to ease the situation with the least amount of drama? 

Thanks ",4.201647241647244,4.4173391258741255,4.552121212121211,90.7259595959596,70.32867132867133,8.033877233877233,27.077700077700076,7.793537801064563,1.1863075369075364,537,16,125,6,9,169,80,143,0.033,0.862,0.105,0.879,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,11,0,10,1,1,2,1,14,21,8,0,2,2,5,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,4,4,9,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,2,2,2,16,3,21,17,2,14,0,0,0,0,22,7,0,2,3,74,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814358318127168,0.12792190104522835,0.0,0.0,0.4885890711997907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600995354055294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095583082232573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19475216554252794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937943519809985,0.0,0.0,0.16190373642474773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720154514502035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909761079936175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4112837387893757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27510912816384137,0.0,0.15990512288366454,0.1684344727352085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20326260415826175,0.0,0.0,0.35742835878241586,0.0,0.0,0.1580088334507326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781288744676854
parenting,JodyR82,2019/01/06,"Picky eater panic attack? Going off the recent spate of picky eaters: anyone’s kid seriously have a panic attack at trying new food? I’m not sure if it’s an attention seeking behavior (not true manipulation) or he’s seriously THAT scared!! I’m trying a gradual increase: I give him a very minuscule piece of new food and he can have more of what he likes when he tries it. Panic attack. I’ve tried sooo many other methods and this seemed the gentlest but still getting him to eat. He’s 5 btw. I don’t mind it taking a while. Overall he’s a  great sweet, kind child so idk wtf, you know?",1.8875988700564967,4.161602364406779,3.745000000000001,85.72704802259891,80.44067796610169,6.306214689265537,20.850282485875713,7.492282038375204,0.7964214689265536,461,13,92,7,12,155,82,118,0.21,0.625,0.165,0.3261,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,4,16,3,4,8,0,4,3,0,1,2,14,12,8,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,3,0,3,0,0,2,3,9,0,0,0,1,5,7,6,12,3,10,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,7,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470527639713457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4622597596156974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859256080505658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275577462614707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076366242028674,0.12992979081852307,0.07697568833887578,0.0,0.0,0.14932698733043984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410436102685262,0.07443623058116645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617087492831289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731849667006735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675937057754206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616244409458279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767414539331092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373416138209862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560261759822154,0.0,0.0,0.12330271713322533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816539058344574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276539389466136,0.0,0.10183669023539407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36782910722459466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175511002690086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,l2k83,2019/01/06,"Daughter started hitting us My 3 yo, almost 4 is the most lovely placid girl in the world. However over the past week or so she has suddenly got this terrible temper and has started smacking the wife and I. It usually starts when we insist she do something she doesn’t want to do like brush her teeth, tidy her toys away. She’s starting screaming and shouting and then hitting. 

It’s like it’s come from nowhere. Any ideas on how to stop this behaviour?",3.445227272727273,5.69701215909091,3.718181818181818,87.99727272727276,75.13636363636364,6.672727272727273,29.181818181818183,7.6454224807358475,1.857836363636364,362,16,69,5,8,112,67,88,0.117,0.774,0.109,-0.21,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,4,0,6,2,1,1,0,14,16,9,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,6,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,3,10,3,7,13,1,17,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,3,13,42,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039399615894525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967258630108748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678710399732794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895929099470212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603059377893798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484611935687346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505522980389655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19864491311812896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010619791472526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694403807607497,0.0,0.0,0.6231393226765505,0.0,0.0,0.1840098148192102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26474796180334564,0.0,0.24240425857457565,0.0,0.1298181141625825,0.0,0.176547450808012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MissyMichevious,2019/01/06,"Potty Training smells Long story short, I have a 3 year old son we recently went through the whole potty training phase with. Thank goodness for bleach that’s all I’m saying.. Anyhow, I have a sensitive smell and I keep smelling pee. Not just kid pee but it smells like cat pee.. problem is we don’t have a cat. He lets me know every time he has to potty so I can turn the light on for him, so I get to see if he missed or not and clean it up. Where in the world is it coming from!?! Do I smell like his pee and just not realize it? I can’t seem to clean or wash the smells out and it’s driving me insane.. Help please! ",-0.7322202565236644,1.3726216691729365,1.0356125608137994,101.57231313578065,91.70676691729324,4.031667403803627,15.342326404245913,5.5289334501034215,-1.007281822202565,474,10,116,3,17,153,84,133,0.08800000000000001,0.78,0.131,0.7061,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,7,0,11,5,4,0,1,25,22,10,0,2,9,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,6,9,0,1,3,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,1,9,13,4,12,20,2,15,0,1,1,0,11,7,0,5,7,67,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20339129213715665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19893621687349816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335981253621355,0.0,0.0,0.1980412092596946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826222787051644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20986895970348315,0.0,0.0,0.12976207189302588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24144254808605606,0.0,0.23070673414364626,0.0,0.0,0.20895344769979785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477619098534423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591822531316993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259291968885892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23313407635405095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18776731873570726,0.0,0.0,0.18815227720852004,0.2149493052015892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21738203556455848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767996412279335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25682421513123244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188800307182039,0.0,0.2636128334588779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520496658019539
parenting,songinmyheart,2019/01/06,"Need Help Teaching My Kid How To Ride A Bike !!! We've been trying to teach our daughter how to ride a bike unsuccessfully for the past three summers. She's a smart girl but she has always been more frustrated than other kids when it comes to learning new gross-motor skill activities. She's almost 8, and she herself wants to be able to ride the bike without training wheels. But she ends up getting so irate about it, screaming, acting terrified, stressed out, crying etc etc that she stops trying. 

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With the bike riding, we've tried everything. Hold the bike, not the kid; hold the kid, not the bike; training weels on/off; pedals on/off. 

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Please give me your suggestions! I don't know if we should keep doing the same thing we're doing or if we need to take a totally different approach. Thanks in advance.",5.023043010752686,6.869483729032261,4.6733064516129055,84.56329301075269,69.7741935483871,7.231182795698925,27.755376344086017,7.793537801064563,1.655247311827956,658,23,121,8,12,200,104,155,0.19,0.747,0.063,-0.9781,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,3,1,0,2,5,5,1,1,12,0,8,0,0,2,1,29,18,10,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,5,6,0,4,2,6,0,8,4,3,0,1,2,1,14,2,15,14,5,17,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,4,6,72,19,3,0.14730678402799355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475064657831685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257104481172255,0.31921367790041344,0.35798773224999714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689175100606093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618095852610565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390423665848374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047008767887572,0.0,0.32857200596204017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238983908809454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696171479132823,0.14131008997925165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873663224022228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093303798196573,0.0,0.0,0.08095595609657061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845222767854847,0.0,0.1422698099409077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062099346476306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169861346571027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315506740856084,0.1687394234063954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075636903358403,0.0,0.0,0.13562029544238016,0.0,0.0,0.09786408180145732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000349106512522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688535780688154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199848314813926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35798773224999714,0.0
parenting,sandypotent,2019/01/06,"I just found out my daughter (16) is in a relationship with a 22 yr old man. What do I do?? My daughter sent me a text by accident, meant for him, saying “My mom is leaving now, you can come in 10 minutes.”

My phone was off so I didn’t receive the text until I got home. I confronted her about it and after awhile she ended up confessing to SLEEPING with him. I didn’t want to react in anger because then she will be less likely to tell me more about it. 

I told her I’d speak to her more about it when her father comes back in town, which is tonight. I’ve spoken with him on the phone and he is furious. 16 is the age of consent where I live, but There is a vast power imbalance in their relationship and a difference in maturity. She doesn’t realise that he probably just wants to sleep with her and keep it a secret.

I have no idea what to do or say, or if I should punish or. I can’t pursue any legal action.
Sorry for grammar I typed this quickly

**tldr- my 16 year old daughter is dating and sleeping with a 22 year old man. What do I say to her? Should she be punished? I have no idea what to do. I don’t want to push her away**",0.5937378976486833,2.4787630124481344,2.7702334024896267,93.08669173582294,82.77593360995851,5.676417704011066,20.41511065006916,6.816661863887847,0.2386139695712308,870,25,200,10,24,295,130,241,0.108,0.867,0.025,-0.9636,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,1,1,13,6,5,0,10,0,26,3,3,1,0,33,37,14,0,6,7,5,0,1,0,3,0,4,1,2,11,13,0,1,6,0,0,6,7,5,0,0,8,4,38,1,34,24,3,36,1,0,0,0,39,14,0,4,17,144,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967509696071713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123894789683684,0.10139873108639902,0.0,0.08038580915623983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271860599557249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377745080342704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679634383966354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458699575242814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546727998288204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322748500208877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29772695421232115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721077525258225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962969340199874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442428457065287,0.0,0.11644229494678802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544427848159259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151214010830263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217653856470774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831548213863224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31460135449099985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958911794747579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761598128163395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525887490930835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260059958207472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23333836066750274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698379715678104
parenting,kalanebark,2019/01/06,"Asking advice: what was your postpartum experience? Hi guys,
I'm a woman in my mid 20s. My husband and I have been married for over 2 years now and are thinking about having our first baby soon. I've been dreading making the decision of ""being ready"" to start trying to get pregnant because, honestly, it's terrifying. I like kids, and I'm really excited to have my own, but so many people make it sound awful. Especially the newborn phase. Watching two of the best, strongest women I know struggle so badly through the first few months and even years has really confirmed my fears. I was just starting to get over my fears and get excited about having a baby when one of my close friends gave birth and has secluded herself completely for two months so far and is having a very difficult time emotionally. My biggest fear was that my entire life would completely come to a halt and id become a completely different person. Which seems like is what happened to her and the majority of women I hear about. Im an emotional person to begin with and feel like im finally getting to a place where I have more control over my anxiety and periodic sadness. 

So I guess I'm here to ask: is it really that bad? And is it worth it? How can I prepare myself mentally and emotionally to be in the best possible place to enjoy my eventual and newborn? Is this always the way it is, just struggling to make it through until they're older? 

Thanks for taking the time to read this, and thank you for your insight about this. I completely understand the hormonal aspect of thepostpartum stage and the prevalence of postpartum depression, and I don't mean to discount these at all, but I'm just asking about the normal experience barring outliers. I really want to feel excited about getting pregnant and having a baby but also  want to be prepared. What your experience of having a newborn? ",6.662059052059053,7.455539273504275,7.441389536389535,70.12831585081587,65.09686609686611,10.598342398342401,34.75796425796426,10.537671172512404,3.942087179487179,1499,66,250,37,22,500,181,351,0.132,0.711,0.157,0.7414,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,4,0,5,21,24,0,6,20,1,28,2,0,5,1,48,63,29,0,4,6,1,2,3,1,1,1,2,0,10,17,21,1,2,9,2,2,1,1,11,0,5,6,5,29,13,43,53,7,35,0,2,1,0,25,13,0,2,22,184,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011128609689494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655605048271031,0.06821510141819125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271555508846688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299246580676303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690210778341785,0.04997510727460973,0.09054202759309836,0.0,0.0,0.1720688661690923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061972652110797,0.34382379905186844,0.0,0.09194912355480424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061046924058398,0.0,0.0,0.08565312573189147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27665415922940023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05414794883777623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24058065312717594,0.0,0.2767556389851583,0.08290452942262155,0.05856753646112148,0.0,0.08980662862595185,0.0,0.13946669278053925,0.0,0.0,0.0633386348420339,0.0,0.21415951817464904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031176697819987,0.08117448607509299,0.07249589107635257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092399008522376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771079841091904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04505483953422288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790589512901976,0.12015592924805853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416968548973013,0.08311628335081192,0.0,0.08930179034780858,0.0,0.0,0.08261798014189413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087356036251255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032437656342256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055552725848059335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683558802532071,0.14316601198123938,0.17130625146378295,0.0,0.0,0.09242172306708228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820035964210053,0.0,0.21007756478502315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746327976470203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160537294465896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714095418813966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616398184248322,0.0,0.0,0.15095493755768707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253037796017351,0.0,0.0,0.09560804016359743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05565999672682805,0.0,0.16016785253387034,0.08534554017118075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676432499346011,0.0967095206483125,0.0650730282001739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058237242274519714,0.0,0.0,0.10558668174760297
parenting,dmazzoni,2019/01/06,"Late RSVPs for birthday party Our daughter's 5th birthday party is on January 12th at our home. Her school's policy is that if we pass out invitations at school we have to invite the whole class (22 kids including her). We sent out the invitations plus an Evite before the holiday break, clearly asking for RSVPs by January 1st.

On January 1st we had 12 ""Yes"" which was just perfect. However since then we've gotten 5 more, including one more just an hour ago! We're feeling very overwhelmed by this. We already put in orders for food and cake.

If we had received more RSVPs before the 1st we could have at least considered changing some details of the party, maybe even looking for an alternate location.

After more than 10 birthday parties between two kids so far, we have never had this problem before!

Has anyone ever politely declined a late RSVP? How rude is that? How about just preventing any more from now on - is it reasonable to edit the Evite to say that we can't accommodate any more?",5.344308755760366,7.10381763978495,5.768847926267282,77.36612903225809,68.83870967741936,8.970199692780337,31.027649769585253,9.424239791934726,3.0075004608294935,795,33,137,17,14,255,117,186,0.036000000000000004,0.835,0.129,0.9468,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,11,0,0,1,10,4,1,1,10,1,14,1,0,3,4,30,19,8,0,4,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,7,13,1,1,2,1,0,4,2,3,0,2,6,3,13,1,25,12,9,25,0,1,1,0,20,10,0,3,9,94,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446110260896583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002563496464247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187738369315133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406911940501978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251098739612715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164524800853293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725772177987148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025154670606087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077503893509564,0.1475666733211075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248692255184008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972657970695146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363962039480714,0.0,0.1606569932472412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36805107661067415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699391589127688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389295147759872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258212407519151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054579108007376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609998912185505,0.0,0.16399765155735851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773191214553645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297330173157631,0.0,0.3302065213258012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349485363555936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593610546886587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460503442620628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18213653216146386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alpenglow907,2019/01/06,"My Stepson refuses to go to the bathroom during the night. Is her too old to depend on pull-ups? My husband and I share 50/50 physical custody of his son.  He is 4 years old.  I finally took it upon myself to potty train him when he turned 3 because his mother refused and his other caretakers (while in his mother’s custody) also refused.  My husband asked me to do so and I was able to successfully potty train him in 3 days.  He is now 4 going on 5 and must have a pull-up on at night or he will certainly wet the bed.  We have tried everything that I can think of.  No drinks after dinner (obviously we aren’t cruel and if he is truly thirsty he is allowed limited water), go to the bathroom before bed, taken him to the doctor to ensure he is not I’ll in any way or having bladder issues...and still every morning his pull-up is all but dripping wet and occasionally the bed is still wet due to overflow.  

I am concerned that at this age, he should not be requiring a pull-up on a nightly basis.  Obviously accidents happen, he is still young. But I am concerned that he is not as far along as he should be by now.  I feel he should either be able to hold it until he wakes up or at the very least get up during the night to go to the bathroom.  I am not sure what to do to help him achieve that level of awareness or perhaps this is normal and I am placing unrealistic expectations on him.  Any advice is welcome.  Thanks!",3.8038235294117655,4.633416605536335,5.601901384083046,80.63676211072665,71.52595155709342,7.856124567474048,28.290830449826988,8.07648339933343,1.8512476124567467,1105,40,220,15,20,381,149,289,0.049,0.877,0.073,0.8316,2,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,0,4,9,7,1,0,12,0,32,6,2,2,6,43,45,21,0,7,12,5,4,0,0,5,1,0,3,0,10,10,3,6,2,1,0,5,6,1,0,0,3,4,27,6,38,34,3,45,0,0,0,0,38,18,0,6,21,151,37,4,0.27086642517990506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234376789780286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830589117751302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18419845752783384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661177163177742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255882934920324,0.0,0.11524368878660432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734321801038786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386216318824079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267298837562452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410832279359726,0.0,0.12171863869188933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847910159820325,0.0,0.0,0.14836046446916065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075826377854039,0.0,0.3078792630979157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197631426182418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077802758944753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5083795820729664,0.13269579314439864,0.0,0.0,0.2842287485892271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414988816665887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244714155616462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764420007979532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468870612686488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678013407419903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047128242158767,0.0919502612790198,0.14731244467186294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174658410015084,0.0,0.10750058025675344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721454855563449
parenting,UnkAnklebyter,2019/01/06,"Parents of toddlers who literally fought you on most everything/ screamed about everything...how'd they turn out? Just trying to get a possible snapshot of the future. I know I have a long road ahead and that everyone is different. But my 2 year old so frequently brings me and my wife to wits end with physically fighting us with diaper changes and shrieking and screaming about most things. 

We are working on completely ignoring the whining and highly rewarding speech/communication. It is so hard to remain stone faced with a 2 year old tyrant shrieking at the top of his lungs for hours on end. He has a speech delay which I know contributes to his frustration along with just being a 2 year old. 

But the physical battling slightly concerns me. Like hitting in the face when picked up for a diaper change and shrieking and kicking as fast/hard as possible when on the table. Every. Single. Time. Is. All. Out. War. 

We have tried changing him on the floor, or standing, and it doesn't matter its war every time. 

So yeah....how'd they turn out? Any specific parenting techniques? There's no manual for this shit and I feel like im failing and my patience is wearing very thin. 

Just to clarify im not concerned about acting out violently towards him or anything of the sort. I love this kid with all my heart. He is funny any smart and can be sweet, but godamnit. Lol 


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parenting,beachteach19,2019/01/06,Side Velcro bibs? Hi! My daughter has developed some micro cuts on the back of her neck and a rash because of the Velcro on her bibs. Does anybody know of a good brand with a side Velcro clasp? She has one we got at our baby shower that the one strap wraps around her neck and Velcro’s on the side but it doesn’t have a tag and I wondered what you guys would recommend. Thank you in advance! :),1.4839814814814822,3.5623567037037063,2.489614197530866,95.24701388888893,80.72839506172839,5.037654320987656,18.766975308641968,5.985473137389443,-0.2882728395061731,307,7,67,2,8,97,56,81,0.04,0.804,0.156,0.8989,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,2,0,1,2,3,1,0,8,0,5,3,3,0,0,11,9,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,10,2,10,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,1,44,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886440325355233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493220053396363,0.0,0.19765485154450133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837462700078642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719587205285365,0.2593258659286725,0.0,0.0,0.321050456304378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819486750801972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43942940312483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29851837644811857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516265071978041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303321414175242,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lance2020x,2019/01/06,"Friends are having babies and we're not, any tips on how best to support them? We have multiple friends who are currently pregnant and about to be first-time parents so this is new (and wonderful!) for everyone.   
As my wife and I don't have any children, we want to know and be prepared to help as much as possible. 

I just don't know what I don't know. So want to ask some new or old parents, what would have been helpful to you?

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Our current thoughts:

* Most of our friends live in apartments and we live in a house (with an office) so we thought we'd buy a pack'n'play to stick there
* We plan to go to their house every few weekends to cook them dinner and clean their kitchen
* Perhaps buying a diaper disposal and stocking up some diapers as well so they don't have to haul as much?
* We have communicated clearly to them that they should always feel free to bring their baby with them, screaming, pooping, puking or not
* We're planning to learn how to change diapers just as well as the next person so we can take the baby when they need a break (or head to their house to 'take over' so they can get out of the house)
* We've done a lot of research on postpartum depression and are ready to notice signs and say ""We're taking you to target to get out of the house and walk around""",3.2724717435612334,4.980659167315178,3.737720956086715,90.06236057068745,74.05836575875486,6.918584398740041,26.245877339262552,7.62386473244151,1.2693807300352042,1014,36,212,13,21,317,137,257,0.034,0.81,0.156,0.9823,4,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,10,2,12,3,16,10,0,0,10,0,23,5,2,2,1,51,42,30,0,5,7,3,1,0,3,2,0,2,2,2,5,23,3,0,8,2,3,3,6,2,2,0,4,3,28,9,44,33,8,22,0,1,0,0,37,10,0,8,8,147,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439773134071685,0.10989916202927158,0.12324832710742364,0.1379515045694799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029403959935517,0.09482318488020887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644433297850453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729929501364677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736135091663948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379791628641406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545899365578546,0.09692053478270736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128596202066964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627614870870295,0.0,0.0,0.235093270071436,0.0,0.10598578381145006,0.0,0.05764490123876623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409625255376154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359725337105141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.585181940632787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722952089290946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912876961225088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623200143369761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912516917966798,0.07520892250986164,0.0,0.19592309449155013,0.10787175880506243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547851649606068,0.1064335283694203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252516119964868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856460200975591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434687615052976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066105987529873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510135191108692,0.0,0.0,0.22878779304675684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610478863650523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965186552649715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239516958935809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999630751484196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205283031652021,0.0,0.12324832710742364,0.0
parenting,PersephoneX28,2019/01/06,"My 3.5 year old just told me to ""die die die"" A little context... He has had a rough morning. He has a pretty bad cold/sinus thing going on. He was misbehaving and treating his toys badly so he had a favorite toy taken away and was sat on the couch for few minutes to calm down after an monstrous fit. After he was calm he said ""mommy"" to get my attention so I look over at him and he softly says to me ""die, die, die"". Immediately I'm like WTF. I said excuse me? I told him that wasn't a nice word to say to someone. We are still grieving my grandmothers death which happened a little over four months ago. I'm hoping this incident is just a weird part of the grieving process for him. Someone please tell me I'm not raising a homicidal maniac. ",1.8779793233082744,3.7942756513157896,3.704812030075189,87.83868421052631,78.67105263157895,6.184962406015037,23.357142857142854,7.1686216300943375,0.8711037593984963,577,19,120,7,14,194,95,152,0.242,0.621,0.13699999999999998,-0.9718,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,0,5,12,1,0,11,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,24,5,9,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,6,0,1,12,7,15,6,18,12,2,18,0,2,1,0,20,10,0,1,8,70,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546785348453823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178484472615738,0.0,0.19868527074119025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7408895508848472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216170450443113,0.0,0.0676186029508645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052128851727848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817315968011545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05812721152932079,0.2384967662188288,0.0,0.0,0.09991253530374893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949680366303274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484862218189548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884284431905588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060339749815802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104458746082256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22635286911343824,0.1892340194568948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20162132559201576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501691711658704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039930368980269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904447232021812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273793871937461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661868319396099
parenting,AcrobaticBee,2019/01/06,"Recommendation for a chore chart app Internet hive mind, I’m searching for an iOS compatible chore chart app to use with my 6 year old. He’s asked a few times for something like that but I haven’t found the right one yet. Allowance tracking isn’t necessary but a points system could be useful. 
We looked at ChoreMonster/Mothershp but it’s currently too glitchy to be useful. ",3.1742605633802796,6.041118028169016,3.6599823943662,84.62969190140845,79.98591549295773,7.493661971830987,25.77640845070423,8.472884824447931,2.0835478873239435,304,12,57,7,8,95,56,71,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.8573,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,4,0,12,12,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,7,8,1,9,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,6,29,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23429472227238374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009869768779626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747905494955875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243967353981422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21045664987654575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530535179588512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26298224428219896,0.0,0.16982576705909225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369157482025377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21402706330033006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19293857604603212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613782231143785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6493624604329298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139027334189154
parenting,Rakefighter,2019/01/06,"Transition to Walking Struggles Hoping that folks can share some pointers or experiences to help.

Our little one is nearly 16 months old and simply will not even try to stand up and walk unassisted. She does great getting around - crawling & cruising. When she plays, she likes to stand up, when you get her standing with a little push cart, she will push it and walk around the house and have lots of fun. When we practice standing and walking, she will hold our hand and try once in a while, but often she just makes her legs go limp and resists even allowing us to stand her up and assist her with taking steps.  We're just not sure what do to better help her along. There's no physiological issues. Anyone have pointers on how to help make standing and taking the first step, or do we just wait it out and see when it happens?",6.924654088050318,6.894392786163522,6.0685534591194985,83.02031446540882,64.53459119496857,8.324528301886794,29.616352201257854,7.3871296695380915,1.6047786163522022,659,19,128,5,9,199,99,159,0.04,0.8079999999999999,0.152,0.9478,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,1,0,2,16,9,0,1,4,0,9,2,2,4,1,37,20,19,0,1,8,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,18,0,2,0,2,0,10,3,1,0,2,0,3,17,8,20,17,2,35,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,6,9,88,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365285218205675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206475191119174,0.0,0.0,0.2853491732228366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417460961943459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14025365922270236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21171410306193472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677515118030427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632587384569014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746928101878586,0.0,0.0910853306706608,0.0,0.0,0.1766986215071934,0.0,0.0,0.1417265370558036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222775023202077,0.0,0.0,0.15918461571413614,0.0,0.18493046017811932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728060095964026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829999515013554,0.3212659810601362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625611625992531,0.0,0.0,0.2139634000267673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792626055735756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817676702782214,0.17068268709586268,0.1086033338105154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771471493971395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754936333968518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105290373210406,0.0,0.24100670756358444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762608808608336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19278549183959096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Poshobsessed,2019/01/06,"PSA to parents We take so many pictures of our kids but often times we don’t take pictures with them. I have tons of pictures from my childhood that my parents took but very few of me and my parents. I wish I had more of us together. So, let’s all stop worrying about how we look and what we should be doing and take more pictures with our kids. They will appreciate it so much when they are adults, even more when we are gone. Happy Sunday everyone!",2.579917582417582,4.4713829670329694,3.3693269230769265,91.16629807692308,76.47252747252746,6.308241758241758,24.561813186813183,7.1686216300943375,0.892724175824176,354,12,75,4,8,112,60,91,0.063,0.812,0.125,0.799,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,8,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,18,17,11,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,10,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,18,1,9,10,7,8,0,0,1,0,17,0,0,1,6,60,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320182652790893,0.0,0.0,0.17823816192254846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985654927833128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907403689919437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663888328090048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911294227801448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371215919854555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6213610982805088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594809140260582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207438165131351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087676027599703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072425692760325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437357152131365,0.0,0.0,0.1539074355188256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21450120109093213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189431070045477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hombre_lobo,2019/01/06,"Do you remember your childhood? I don't I'm in my late 30's and have a 2.5 year old and we are having so much fun.

While talking to my parents last weekend I realized I don't remember most of my childhood. Maybe some snippets when I was around 6 years old, but that's about it.

Don't really remember having fun with my parents as a child in the park or at the zoo, etc..

It just sucks that my daughter probably won't remember how much we are having now. ",2.8933928571428567,3.846237625000001,4.6314880952380975,86.28375000000004,73.79166666666666,8.402380952380952,28.29761904761905,8.841846274778883,2.0635494047619054,356,14,78,7,7,121,63,96,0.036000000000000004,0.884,0.08,0.6003,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,2,0,0,7,3,1,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,0,17,14,9,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,13,2,9,12,5,16,0,0,0,0,9,4,1,3,12,57,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921484399479636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440940886999798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274737669724171,0.1764078732100132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710866693026038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299203497280828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281972345795989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472916724382686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860831550950622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018354350362356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7086099839279432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569547106860365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014122342876352
parenting,JeepGirlinKS,2019/01/06,"Kansas: 56F, ex 50M, daughter 16F. Dad has given up his parenting/visitation We divorced after 5 years of marriage when our daughter, whom I will simply call 'K', was 4 years old. She is high functioning Autistic, almost 16 years old with a dev delay of 1.75 years due to the Autism. All these years my ex and I have co-parented very nicely together, raising an honor student and college applicant. He is 50 years old and stable re home and employment, and I am 56 years old stable semi-retired artist and full-time mom.

My Ex started dating the new gf last year, and he moved in with her an hour and a half away a few months ago. Scheduled weekend visits have come to a complete stop since then, and my daughter has seen her dad only 3 times in the past year. This is due to his simply falling off the face of the earth where K is concerned. He didn't even tell her or me that he was moving so far away until after he had done it. Suddenly his land line was disconnected and he wasn't returning my calls to his cell phone. That's how we found out he didn't even live in the same city any more. So, three visits in roughly 17 months and the last visit was a nightmare - the gf decided the three of them would take a float trip down the Arkansas River from Oxford to Ark City. My daughter was not permitted to give me any specifics of the trip regarding launch/stopping points, she was forbidden to take her phone with her in spite of the fact that I wrapped it in cellophane and zip locks and told her I would replace it if it was lost or damaged. ( I pay for the danged thing - what do they care? ) I should have heard from K by 6:00 that evening but had not heard a thing or received a reply to my message at sundown.

Long story short, thanks to the Oxford Police Dept and some amazing Sheriffs officers, K and her dad were found at midnight walking the dry riverbed at Trader's bend, exhausted, sunburnt and very grateful to see the red and blue flashing cruiser lights up on the bridge.. The gf had been left behind bc she refused to walk and expected K and her dad to forge ahead, get the car, and return for her. She and her tube of beer and snacks were located shortly after K and my ex were found. This trip was ""planned"" by her, and the failure to check water levels along their route was totally her bad. Any idiot could see that the river is very low ( or was then ) and that the sandbar stretched for great lengths.

The day before the trip I FB messaged her, asking for specifics, whereupon she informed me that K is a ""grown child"" and perfectly able to care for herself, and her kids were doing float trips when they were 3 years old, etc etc. I reluctantly allowed K to go, under duress and against my better judgement. This was only the third time that K has seen her dad and his new gf, and it's all I need to see that she's a real problem.

There are more details if needed for a reply, but here's my problem and what I need advice about. Is it worth it to try to continue to work with her dad to ensure they continue their relationship? Or should I just cut our losses and accept that K's dad doesn't care to continue their relationship? Seems like neither of them ( ex and his new gf ) want to be parents anyway, and after talking to my people we believe that she's a covert home-wrecker type, creating chaos and worry in hopes I'll just give up on K maintaining her relationship with her dad. This really disappoints me bc we have worked together for years and raised a good kid, only to have this woman come along and create such a hostile atmosphere. K says the gf is ""nice"" to her, but being ""nice"" is not the same as being responsible. K says the gf has been drunk every time she has been around her. The gf is a professional person, some kind of nurse at the same State Correctional facility that my ex works at. In spite of my attempts to initiate a friendship with her, she has been from the start sarcastic and hostile toward me. My ex seems to be on restriction regarding communication with me and I suspect he is appeasing her. So, walk away or fight the good fight? I'm not in a position to hire an attorney.

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tl;dr: Ex's new gf is creating a hostile environment for my daughter's visits with her dad, and he is allowing it. Ex is abandoning his parenting and visitation rights in spite of my efforts to continue them. Asking advice on how to best proceed with visits/relationship with regard to my daughter’s well being and benefit. This is not a legal issue for me as I really can't afford an attorney at this time.  Edited for clarity - jg

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parenting,itsmeyourepidermis,2019/01/06,"Educational iPad Apps I do try to limit the amount of time my kids spend on their iPads, however, when they are on them I prefer them to be using applications that are somewhat educational.

What are your go-to educational iPad apps?

My kids have thoroughly enjoyed [this](https://itunes.apple.com/gb/app/maths-age-4-6/id509457434?mt=8&at=1l3vpt8) particular maths app.",10.831724137931037,13.382730275862071,8.578793103448279,59.38301724137932,56.58620689655172,12.006896551724141,33.46551724137931,11.698219412168324,4.531124137931034,308,11,44,9,4,91,43,58,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.6063,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,5,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,25,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.621034400641521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32574831354329786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342226976254672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38914790480033584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4950387924445803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChardeeMcdennis123,2019/01/06,"[UPDATE] My friend has issues feeding herself and her kids [3 & 5]  I called CPS. They said they will document it, but they need a doctor to call it in as malnutrition before they can do anything. I am just at a loss of what to do. This is wrong. She needs intervention. This post will probably be removed. ",1.4602142857142832,3.972758116666668,3.092857142857145,88.15500000000004,84.5,6.095238095238094,21.904761904761905,7.447530270364453,0.9614761904761908,237,8,48,4,7,78,50,60,0.114,0.852,0.034,-0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,4,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,0,0,5,12,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,10,1,6,8,0,5,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,0,1,35,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27207651310444725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20664132367094212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136752769196076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5128207604699114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257020717502097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19400620227453544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620925717442271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723883060250365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404930236605675,0.0,0.2707379895995326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23886217688276495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745482884155086,0.0,0.0
parenting,Disturbed_Wolf88,2019/01/06,"Please advise before something bad happens... So I've got a 6 year old autistic son, and while I have a crude sense of humor I don't share it with my kids, and we don't watch the news or anything, a few days ago he grabbed his nerf gun and comes out and says ""I'm going to shoot up my school. I'm going to kill everybody!"" Ok, what the actual fuck?! So I ask ""why the hell would you say something like that?!"" And he responds ""because I'm angry!"" (He'd been on holiday break, so it couldn't have been something that just happened) 

He's in a school that's pre k to first grade, and I have no idea where he could get THAT from... he sees 3 different therapist already, and so far I've kept this to myself, mostly as I'm clueless on how to approach this without all hell breaking loose... please advise before he says something that has lots of repercussions...",4.398746081504704,4.699203367816093,4.888286311389758,88.18989028213167,69.91954022988506,7.7065830721003135,27.887147335423197,7.348242739294969,1.3149724137931038,662,21,143,6,11,211,110,174,0.18600000000000005,0.737,0.077,-0.9716,1,0,4,2,0,0,35.0,1,1,0,1,7,10,5,0,7,1,12,1,0,1,1,24,27,15,1,3,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,10,11,0,1,1,1,0,4,5,6,0,1,4,6,11,4,16,19,4,19,2,0,2,1,20,7,3,3,7,77,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.13589288951175812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344124370684982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536714653097952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459508174473627,0.0,0.1301847201572686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627219155512755,0.08488861625438449,0.0,0.2369916664338017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995593789721842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118386581510344,0.0,0.0,0.08980801901569617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549194024316106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845031666125412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873909574036307,0.07275504204785575,0.0,0.15828376458231522,0.0,0.11137502442078284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462856495248297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720205736558546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540651354519465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803300766372769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838970595038692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612480189974786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057205638849225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322237337014234,0.0,0.2818671907306542,0.11096828503761813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288215165323882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616859038306576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565606772869448,0.0,0.0,0.13423694677523842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989228273986517,0.0,0.0,0.0896757185451793
parenting,MeYouAndLondonToo,2019/01/06,"Today the penny dropped and I forgave myself I’m a co-parent to a beautiful 4yo who is healthy, lively, funny and very very hard work. 

While things are (very much for my child’s sake) amicable with my ex (though I find it hard to move on and see his life moving on) when I have him about 70/30 % of the time I find it exhausting. I basically end most days belittling myself for not having done more with him. 

I didn’t play with him enough, I didn’t cook him nicer foods, we didn’t do enough exciting things today. He prefers his father I’m sure.

Then this morning after another 5.30 am wake up from a kid who is buzzing as soon as his little eyes open while I have had another night of insomnia from anxiety- by 10:30 am it’s already been about 3 different days and endless “mummyyyyyy....” 

when I ask for 5 mins respite he grumbles and gets frustrated so I usually give in to whatever it is he’s asking for because I feel so much that I need to prove to him (and the ex looking in) that I am worthy of looking after him and him having everything I can offer him.

I tried to count how many times he said mummmyyyyyy in the space of an hour, I lost count after 100 or so. And I suddenly realised (foolishly)! That this IS hard, its being someone beck and call for everything night and day, to be their love and support and play friend and entertainer and boo boo fixer and feeder and cleaner and doing it all thanklessly (so to speak - I know he loves me) 

I thought that because he’s not 100% with me 100% of the time I didn’t have a right to complain, I get down time from him- although my downtime consists of working to keep a roof over our heads and keeping that roof over our heads like a home. 

I’m exhausted and I’m lonely and the washing / washing up/ housework is never finished. I’m rarely 100% presses and dressed to go, somewhere along the way daily my needs go to one side one way or another but my kid, my darling boy is looked after to my absolute best ability and he’s the happiest, kindest, polite child I know and I finally realised that he’s this way because of his input and I finally forgive myself for all my short comings realising I’m doing the best I can with all I’ve got and that’s enough, more than enough for him. ",4.249397849462365,5.157711733333336,5.1490681003584235,84.00112903225809,70.55555555555556,8.384229390681003,29.627240143369175,8.654491914285503,2.1575412186379928,1760,68,358,29,31,575,221,450,0.038,0.82,0.142,0.993,2,2,0,0,0,0,51.0,3,0,1,5,11,19,1,0,16,0,29,15,4,1,6,59,61,42,0,3,5,3,5,1,1,0,6,2,1,5,20,34,3,2,9,4,0,5,7,6,0,2,11,12,56,13,56,48,14,55,0,2,5,2,48,16,0,3,31,237,76,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126029736529896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601510355169717,0.06326443545463523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462462403178856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123745348597412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357479595215553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444482761145804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123778341778914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000185534715086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864027534589979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462969157461653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324668290000794,0.3418002999287257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864888550908498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041815050852662114,0.0,0.0,0.18118521480326474,0.15117060067899832,0.0,0.0999998433784298,0.0,0.06389296834088692,0.0,0.08641352848073514,0.0793323246379459,0.09399938625404856,0.0,0.0661418684803821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222459236749683,0.0,0.16974586895153895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829537438982386,0.0,0.08144176233811166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470131719050345,0.0,0.0,0.09089831011177517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584126818245515,0.04040250737201568,0.08288602791910603,0.07302464763644563,0.0,0.208338754154598,0.0,0.09027562317223184,0.0,0.14927797987497632,0.0,0.0,0.08384370888305498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579169517673646,0.12158642027903288,0.12264037937150606,0.06378249324406401,0.0,0.0,0.15521463907022084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207783567524862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062441243761235,0.07866559587517384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590031968677257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700705132696581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938457366059059,0.07794273862851119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098829546992384,0.0,0.08125125361772116,0.06565369247976995,0.19288958464425326,0.0,0.15677778314915394,0.0,0.0,0.056147127540567256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910811595049137,0.20470577100335488,0.0,0.1969276228170365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204115745810474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kalamitykim,2019/01/06,"How do you get your kid to lie down? My daughter is 19 months old and has slept through the night maybe 3-4 times in her life. Right now, she has been sitting in her crib, like she has many times for a long time. She will sit in her crib, whining to herself, not sleeping for literally hours if I let her, maybe all night for all I know. She is exhausted but will not sleep. The thing is, if you can get her to lie down, she will fall asleep on her own.

I cannot get her to lie down. Anytime I go in there she stands up. If I lie her down, she will promptly stand up. If I try rub her back vigorously while she is down, she pushes back up. I have even tried holding her down but I don't want to smother her in her mattress and I feel like it's a terrible thing to do really. 

I am just bloody desperate. I lie in bed for hours in the middle of the night waiting for her to sleep, which never happens until I let her sleep with us (which sometimes works, or sometimes is just her pulling my hair for another hour).

Tips and tricks for getting them to lie down? ",2.348195548489663,3.466471238738741,3.1633015368309505,95.64245627980922,75.35135135135134,6.484790673025968,23.419183889772125,6.794906146795322,0.3752821409644942,813,23,196,7,17,257,113,222,0.081,0.8740000000000001,0.044,-0.8042,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,3,1,1,9,8,2,0,6,0,22,9,7,1,3,24,33,13,0,5,11,1,3,2,0,4,2,0,2,1,5,4,0,2,2,0,0,4,5,5,0,0,2,3,44,3,37,25,3,46,0,1,0,0,32,20,0,5,20,139,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445944812466753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825344309957166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783952849504218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001450052372807,0.08479395449436934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480477552705932,0.0,0.06745569000323917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495939662815873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506646474530908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523030067607616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427422709562619,0.08383603158355903,0.11597433222699975,0.0,0.0,0.10503913833926017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033557793349095,0.23848516390234206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947392309155912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154298263771846,0.0,0.0,0.3341546469927465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245478254165232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603746266711285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136275696900736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4751129224031683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23477985922485026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770806223774794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20763167524494205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116884932472472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277247805877782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07000791896436424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640956256659829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myrighthandwoman,2019/01/06,"Sleep training my 1 year old- the worst part of parenting that I've ever experienced Its 2:43 am and I have slept nary a wink. My stomach is in knots from anxiety, and I fear my son feels the same. He is on his second night of sleep training, because his pediatrician insisted that we bring our co-sleeping and night-nursing to an end. My son, a sweet, and sensitive 12-month-old, has shared a room, with us for his whole life, and has slept between his mom and dad every night for the last 8 months, but no more. I am certainly going through withdrawals from having him cuddled up next to me, and every time he awakens and cries, I have to suppress and ignore all of my maternal instincts that tell me to go comfort my child. 

We live in a one bedroom, one bathroom apartment in a dense urban neighborhood. So during sleep training, my husband and I are sleeping on a pull-out futon in the living room next to the bedroom. An added bonus- To get to the bathroom,I have to travel past his crib. About an hour ago I made this mission to the bathroom and regrettably, I knocked the toy airplane into the bathtub, which abruptly woke up my son, and he proceeded to scream for a few minutes while I listened helplessly, hiding in the bathroom. I knew if he saw me, he'd cry louder and harder and would have a harder time falling asleep. So I stayed sitting in the dark bathroom while my son rolled around in his crib, tossing and turning and bumping around, trying desperately to get back to sleep. I felt awful, because I knew I was the cause of his discomfort and stress. 

I have tried and failed at sleep training before. The first time the pediatrician told us we needed to sleep train, I cracked under the pressure and went to my baby's rescue when he wouldn't stop crying, and we abandoned ship from there. Now the doctor insists we try again, blaming his lack of weight gain on night-nursing. So here we are, 3am and I am just missing my child, who is 10 long feet away, instead of right near my heart. 

Now that he has officially fallen back asleep, I can say that sharing this painful aside has at least given me perspective, that in the end, this really isn't that bad, and we'll get through it. I just pray he doesn't learn to climb out of the crib tonight. ",8.121690476190473,6.600472368181823,7.5191558441558435,78.47242424242422,62.81818181818182,10.017316017316016,36.634199134199136,8.418075326091056,2.8674880952380946,1782,69,348,18,21,557,231,440,0.16399999999999998,0.7509999999999999,0.085,-0.9893,1,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,10,0,0,5,18,19,0,4,29,1,26,19,14,2,3,56,48,30,0,5,4,8,3,0,0,3,3,3,5,2,14,33,1,4,5,2,1,8,4,13,0,4,12,9,54,6,55,32,9,67,1,4,1,1,44,26,0,1,31,231,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821668914614845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058870989906132536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701398667453074,0.0,0.0,0.07230252396340536,0.11834854723029163,0.06425489333608704,0.09382310438841916,0.0,0.06548373280220464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905482323749022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535970565427041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876754031712592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632002557759712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961094291687017,0.12967719098544153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659668990772544,0.03891117369468485,0.0,0.07388965327949673,0.0,0.0,0.06545857922602281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206187155481032,0.0,0.0874715292972601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119301450691386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578597886932273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272926258482839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054356169898159584,0.0,0.0,0.1359067938569298,0.06810347700957732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281745542524005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012972360369646,0.12285079897982053,0.0,0.0,0.057061763723801714,0.0,0.0,0.16368677034558735,0.28887128714012683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150437063661055,0.0,0.10429450741673084,0.0,0.08188641582550257,0.0,0.08545032845314084,0.0833356512836127,0.07346303573063101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049299867387438336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571984783966947,0.0,0.061198355018478076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6160911542006312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820246623749785,0.0,0.06433850945385669,0.08815262917322747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672627766381597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462066849627527,0.0,0.0,0.07353458168517414,0.0,0.15674384612517192,0.08370583124247513,0.0,0.0,0.1851367467557017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371145394533027,0.0,0.07133881399884269,0.0,0.08591842221569433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466720492656102,0.0,0.0,0.049557023505706455
parenting,PsychoSalad8,2019/01/06,"Toddler masturbation and privacy I am a mum with 3yo daughter who for the past year or so has been exploring her body, which I have no problem with at all. But lately she's started to rub her privates on me 'because it tickles'. I don't want her to do this, and I want to establish a firm boundary with her on this without making her feel ashamed about touching herself. I've told her that each of us 'owns' our own body, and she owns hers, so if someone is touching her in a way she doesn't like, she should say no, and they should stop. I've told her that I don't want her to rub herself on me, but she hasn't taken any notice. As soon as she does, I've stopped her and moved away. I don't know if this is the right thing - I don't want her to grow up with any shame around her body at all.

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She's four in a couple of months - I don't think she fully understands yet the idea of privacy or doing things in private. And I'm at a bit of a loss because my own history means that I wasn't taught those boundaries, and don't know how best to tackle this.

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What's the best way for me to handle this? What sort of things Any books I could read that deal with this sort of thing?",4.298155467720687,4.035450462450598,4.793533596837946,90.73667720685114,70.06719367588933,7.8533860342556,27.933860342555995,7.03164865440522,1.098268722002635,929,28,218,7,15,296,124,253,0.141,0.8590000000000001,0.0,-0.9795,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,1,3,7,7,0,2,10,0,20,3,3,2,2,45,37,18,0,10,7,2,5,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,20,14,0,2,8,2,0,3,12,4,0,1,6,6,40,3,36,28,10,27,0,1,0,0,33,13,0,6,10,156,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357976763734614,0.2644394061995325,0.22198971058379627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686663817432192,0.0,0.0,0.1022333937992818,0.0,0.0,0.1326627875849414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283850569558409,0.0,0.11879561181432155,0.3626001329003973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687832494112463,0.1203995129527098,0.0,0.0,0.1121814232753213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522298808232801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055019121400718685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283663030688925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960155630999407,0.0,0.12274580163286848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531605346081468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263352130603568,0.0,0.0,0.11852925476245332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685349709933463,0.11565099672180892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388431976202405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387431931617702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411934384809488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884244463371234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929257059964102,0.0,0.08653246367497415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092196900340456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701840024781323,0.0,0.0,0.18194507778965094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28916208404334304,0.06972297562858616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079509658913376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327816871744628,0.1308886391529928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25672290255846736,0.17274138643049042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489184735164504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644394061995325,0.07007200332513168
parenting,MayonnaisePatty,2019/01/06,"Ever since my 2yr old daughter was born, I've realized that if anything ever happened to her (losing her) I'd without a doubt kill myself.. and as soon as possible. I truly believe I would, too. Is this sort of normal for parents? Is this a type of suicidal ideation /extremly unhealthy thinking? Obviously the odds of something happening to my child are so small that it's unhealthy to waste my time worrying about it. Its not often this dark thought pops into my head, but it was much more frequent when she was a newborn.

I don't think of any specific, dark scenarios.. or picture anything horrible (thank God). But, I do make what I call an ""agreement"" with myself. I agree that if it actually happened I would easily take my life --as soon as possible upon hearing that news. I haven't thought of ways or anything, just that it would be whatever was convenient and readily available. Regardless of opportunity, happiness, other children, whatever...  I wouldn't even want to live for a day ... I wouldn't care to cope with it, I wouldn't want to grieve whatsoever. Of course I love the rest of the important family in my life. My mom would grieve me, maybe it's selfish- but I wouldn't  care at that point. You could promise me the most picture perfect life with everything I've ever wanted, and I would turn it down without hesitation. I think about how I shouldn't even have any other children because then I wouldn't be able to go through with it as easily if it happened to her. I wouldn't want my life without her. And that's an easy, sure thing for me. 

TLDR: Every once in awhile I will think about losing my two year old daughter. I quickly try and usher the thought away, but following thought is always how I would have to take my life as soon as possible. I believe I would, I still believe I would and I have no problem with it. That in and of itself doesn't make me sad or scared. Is this a normal thought? I'm not very religious, and I still hope to grasp a sense of my spirituality",3.9561990497624393,5.728394819121451,4.85958823039093,82.45689422355592,72.38501291989664,8.094323580895225,30.054930399266485,8.748949900417786,2.4394866883387523,1573,68,302,30,31,511,181,387,0.108,0.7390000000000001,0.153,0.9702,1,0,1,0,0,1,59.0,0,1,0,4,21,21,1,2,13,0,35,7,1,4,6,81,66,30,4,28,16,4,0,0,0,16,5,1,0,4,29,14,0,0,11,0,0,2,16,10,0,1,9,1,50,11,50,38,4,31,0,5,0,1,17,10,0,11,18,222,79,1,0.07219011933913831,0.0,0.07044714292509074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006796232004906,0.0,0.0,0.0981835133105749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782189516579244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782499347253332,0.0,0.0,0.04400642670467591,0.0,0.0,0.244000630910226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371418318447004,0.0,0.14720527577099496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576379361288288,0.0,0.0,0.04655665483417803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536178596454044,0.19590028771374196,0.06082328907754065,0.0,0.06487982441625124,0.0,0.06805441975684848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041027308442385314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553499364802788,0.0768477244063273,0.0,0.0,0.07408788929188946,0.0,0.0813635111132719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170107722175828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986767119274217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25495008102348865,0.0,0.0,0.06374519796075627,0.0,0.0,0.16152455604622035,0.0,0.0,0.06515440119400842,0.0,0.09637493044867672,0.0,0.0725246778876946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454819527733162,0.0,0.0,0.05306804401585681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146197907744848,0.0,0.0,0.15150277312252478,0.07688012106556141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015858440147236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682429966841527,0.24415053837039544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907619471898133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227490312661898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05971641270944464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557548075739729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530224511202912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896427362652328,0.0,0.06803833314216816,0.0,0.10855597114365947,0.0,0.0,0.06646296283906439,0.0,0.0,0.047959907555376616,0.1850260542530352,0.0,0.2865544552034798,0.04209463912421304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049012352347387496,0.07852211992637133,0.07051925695973554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595644088156956,0.1703184110708861,0.05730115655794005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20876609679753969,0.0,0.0,0.07331257038067733,0.0,0.4102543163425146,0.0,0.0,0.04648807000837115
parenting,CapnKC,2019/01/06,"My son wakes up too early- help! My 5yo son wakes up around 4am every day. A later bedtime doesn’t change this and there is no way he’s going back to sleep once he’s awake. His naps in the middle of the day are also necessary. Otherwise he starts to get cranky around 4pm. 

We’ve tried consistently telling him, “it’s dark outside. It’s the middle of the night. Everyone in the house should be asleep” but he just keeps coming into the room to ask random questions because he wants attention. It’s not that he’s hungry for breakfast; he just wants someone to play with him.

 What do I do?? Is it terrible that I’m not willing to wake up that early? I have a hard time sleeping so I usually get to sleep around 3am.",1.3249549549549542,3.4485700540540587,2.84854054054054,92.2135765765766,81.56756756756756,5.838558558558557,20.67747747747748,7.03164865440522,0.4186255855855854,560,16,121,7,15,183,97,148,0.059,0.906,0.036000000000000004,-0.4993,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,8,0,10,8,7,0,0,19,20,4,0,3,5,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,7,1,1,2,2,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,19,17,0,25,0,0,0,0,16,12,0,2,10,66,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999280714778716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341173341922187,0.1519642138892859,0.0,0.0,0.12499248452928555,0.0,0.09909021444039684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195850401167714,0.14002418856745547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20966523558505834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369571039728011,0.15532543962312512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985346295522288,0.0,0.09238206998152597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561469879218145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895520553310056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756322876691028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448372139825602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254407736225892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311261679378048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209548586508745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4880082974965028,0.0,0.13772981544845345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505517010978908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420776471718292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478540135971047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036216452936566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902810617593934,0.0,0.19175480878533252,0.12902624266936255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heckapunches,2019/01/06,"Teenage school issues My husband and I are struggling to motivate my teenage stepson to do well in school. His grades are at an alltime low and he is in his junior year. He has an iep at school which allows him extra time to hand homework in but he has expressed that he doesnt care about homework and has told his case manager that he doesnt care if he fails classes.

We are also working on mental health issues, but he stopped taking meds and doesnt want to take them. We are struggling to know what to do at this point. I'm hoping that someone here might be able to shed some light that I'm not seeing. Any advice would be wonderful, I am feeling pretty hopeless about the entire situation. ",5.193008921330089,5.9895031751824845,5.161265206812653,85.17130575831307,68.34306569343065,7.256772100567722,29.820762368207625,6.937597516519254,1.5746081103000806,553,20,107,4,9,172,86,137,0.159,0.7140000000000001,0.127,-0.633,0,0,0,0,0,1,9.0,2,0,1,3,5,9,0,2,3,0,18,2,1,2,0,21,31,8,0,4,4,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,7,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,4,11,4,16,26,2,12,0,3,1,0,17,9,0,5,3,68,18,12,0.15118362521517895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773488882674868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090149046343925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281004945373368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082835635346217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644298346846556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070112393869973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501594523662454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31559285197137765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308656662489165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679309257054428,0.0,0.15235753544875796,0.16038193500312095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291739269454426,0.0,0.0,0.1538080983382017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4590177000788955,0.12047377548655636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699367290874475,0.0,0.0,0.1280973950354137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639628023450492,0.0,0.31609990111834635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273425422550173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815638764947907,0.0,0.0,0.1444624327250282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917201918457511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593223549192596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639521924841828,0.1100634797449363,0.0,0.0,0.10739650968274833,0.0,0.0,0.09735729788871793
parenting,pavelbure1994,2019/01/06,"Teaching Children to speak respectfully As the title says - we are frustrated our 12 year old son and 14 year old daughter do not speak very respectfully all though they are good kids for the most part. Any tips on how to get them to work on this ? My son really gets tied up in his  emotions lately and speaks with a disrespectful tone too much for our family. 

Thx in advance ",7.064166666666665,6.891508194444448,6.835555555555558,78.11500000000002,64.27777777777779,10.533333333333337,30.5,10.125756701596842,2.688766666666666,298,9,59,6,4,94,58,72,0.042,0.823,0.135,0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,0,2,2,3,4,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,1,8,5,5,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,7,3,12,5,4,11,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,1,5,36,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650984365859786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754289965307926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308275679267008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558533355261836,0.0,0.0,0.20537281517778413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762071834665933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999664942517762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5138684126463942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651541792532521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686042735686764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947185789830697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405688625295792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203107558690409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825740676350815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153572736635862
parenting,Missgreene18,2019/01/06,"Should I buy a gun? The more I watch the news the more I get anxiety about someone hurting my family. We currently don’t own any guns and I constantly ask myself, “What are we going to do if someone breaks in our house?” I’ve always been against having them in the house but now my views have changed. I’m starting to feel like it is necessary. Side note: I have a two year old daughter. ",2.2181735985533457,4.054943367088612,3.4494032549728786,90.43316455696205,77.35443037974684,7.0459312839059685,25.20976491862568,7.957251820313856,1.3520980108499097,302,11,65,5,7,98,60,79,0.073,0.883,0.044,0.1458,1,0,0,2,0,0,8.0,3,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,15,3,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,12,1,6,13,3,11,0,1,2,0,6,3,0,1,7,43,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18744844912457465,0.0,0.0,0.1531960348647154,0.0,0.17233623190340852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106035158112462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23831311722433615,0.0,0.0,0.24344432608625385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21237103685197284,0.0,0.1139067826814728,0.16093788106216222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117697895957093,0.0,0.12803006864632413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5198786530623496,0.24116360874398834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005892694538727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363902383484944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817528169705941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945216783101435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006282284204834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507095445379015
parenting,hf2490,2019/01/06,"Help! My daughter is scared of taking any kind of risk. Firstly apologies for any formatting issues Im on my phone.


Im wondering if anyone has any advice relating to children who seem excessively afraid of doing normal childhood activities such as learning to ride bike, playing on playground equipment and generally trying new things?

My 7 year old daughter is holding herself back from doing so many activities because she is afraid here are a few examples

*I have been trying to teach her to ride a bike which always ends in tears due to her feeling scared that she might fall off, she is unusually tall for her age (She may be 7 but she is the same size as an average 10 year old) which meant her training wheels would not hold her weight so we removed them because it was dangerous to have them buckle under her. 

*Playing at a playground sounds fun and I love taking her but she holds herself back so much that she ends up really bored, she wont swing very high, she slows herself down on the slides and even though she happily will climb up any of the ladders or ropes she will get to the top then freak out or she wont even try because she has scared herself thinking about it.

Basically anything that makes her feel even so much as nervous is of the table and I have no clue how to help her. I have tried to explain that feeling fear and nervousness doesnt always mean she is going to hurt herself but unfortunatley once the thought is there its nearly impossible to shake it for her.

I'm at a loss of what to do because she is missing out on so many experiences and she gets embarrassed when her friends want to do things that she believes she cant do.


Please help


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parenting,ineedsleephelpplease,2019/01/06,"8 year old wakes in the night, screams and cries when we send her back to bed. As the title says, our 8 year old consistently wakes multiple times in the night, when we go to put her back to bed it almost always ends with her screaming and crying. 
We have a diagnosis for ADHD, she is taking malatonin under doctors orders (she takes three drops of a 1mg/1ml dose) and it helps with GOING to sleep but not staying asleep. 
She will wake around 12am, 2am, 4am and 6am, I assume when her sleep cycle ends is when this is happening for her. 
We have tried being gentle, quiet and nice, we've tried the super nanny style of no talking to her after the first few times and taking her back to bed. We close our doors at night and she will scream outside of it until we either yell back for her to go back to bed or take her back to bed. 
We Almost always wake to her coming into our room, sleeping on our floor or trying to crawl into our bed.
Don't get me wrong, I love my child and I know she is probably feeling lonely or scared, I don't have any issue with comforting her when she needs it. But 4 times a night and being woken from a dead sleep has caused some serious issues for her dad and I. Not only can we not get a decent sleep, we wake exhausted in the mornings and most times are already in a bad mood because we've fought with her all night to sleep.
We are at our wits end. I get shocked awake by her, and I feel sick the rest of the night. I don't hide this from her either have told her ""it makes mama feel very sick when she is woken up like this at night"" because SHE is causing this and it's fucking awful.
I feel like a horrible parent because I wake angry, I don't get sleep and I can't seem to get her to understand! She's a kid, she probably won't get it right away, but it's been 4 years since this nightmare started and in not sure what else to do. 
I write this while sitting in bed, feeling sick to my stomach a exhausted and I have been woken twice already tonight. 
Before people give me suggestions keep in mind, we are already on a restricted Diet, her entire medical time is aware of the situation and we are trying all techniques suggested by specialists for about 6 weeks before we give up. Nothing works. I'm tired. Please help me understand this. ",5.5419851116625285,5.052670193548387,6.001774193548387,83.88727667493798,67.49462365591397,8.788254755996691,27.992142266335808,8.012643519586192,1.5727700578990895,1780,47,376,19,26,576,210,465,0.154,0.7509999999999999,0.096,-0.9844,1,2,0,0,0,0,45.0,19,0,0,3,14,21,2,1,19,1,31,27,15,3,3,76,69,32,1,1,12,2,5,2,0,3,9,6,9,2,16,39,1,2,10,0,0,6,11,13,0,3,7,11,66,7,57,57,8,72,0,1,0,2,64,23,1,9,41,241,82,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465463284368977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440585493236528,0.0,0.2056486645892984,0.0,0.10337550655013772,0.0,0.0,0.04224286138288543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529883288188783,0.0,0.0,0.05836258453071154,0.28659277905612485,0.05186653851444067,0.11360098985426174,0.0,0.10571691502746244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276260786163896,0.0,0.05350977899158347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646899940131413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358114458578541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518922216760536,0.0,0.16505625073395888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704546255498966,0.04437762770405795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283815355149466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742775790345326,0.19472681163177655,0.11917987771654848,0.10591050442220644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05493138107995992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327374045449483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967161449772294,0.0,0.05521397466393969,0.0,0.0,0.03413882529348117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060696140066663413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606457225496257,0.0,0.04146472957074545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257807761047582,0.0,0.0,0.0627222015803476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04606024556608044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080594906313673,0.0,0.05960458950688871,0.0,0.13036629935808686,0.0,0.0,0.04724408757224643,0.0,0.0,0.0689754899849365,0.0,0.0,0.04306530064489245,0.0,0.0,0.06818770330769854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394897834609235,0.0,0.0,0.0624464733317484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05304904953013149,0.0,0.04939930132610821,0.06219167783458005,0.0,0.0,0.056550551869129086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138524909754987,0.0698240466651317,0.4351450866829311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04396795144753134,0.06621029293369758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058546160729769474,0.0,0.1868221939380208,0.049928676060526214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110963292400287,0.07139633338101256,0.0,0.059357101305393435,0.0,0.1686981397547389,0.0,0.0,0.12933556153356626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125445158996857,0.0,0.0,0.04982789217647431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522316974738615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791707139866633,0.0,0.12000726177579052
parenting,Ranvier01,2019/01/06,"Do you use an abacus or soroban? I have a 5-year-old, and I feel like the colorful abacuses (abacii?) might capture her interest better, but the soroban seems better for actually calculating, especially with speed. Should I get a normal one now and just get a soroban when she gets a little more experience? ",6.340272727272726,8.132550981818184,6.72159090909091,71.36238636363636,66.45454545454545,10.590909090909092,33.75,10.686352973137794,3.983636363636364,244,11,42,7,4,79,44,55,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.8438,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,1,0,12,10,5,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,4,2,8,1,4,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,4,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.25080642215501875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546120658152686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514068368022616,0.0,0.0,0.12995287792969407,0.18360926645096576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028341406674215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556297317607726,0.2575933222274931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726488825516149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518169748992505,0.0,0.0,0.2696906282901254,0.0,0.17415783313824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339738711436039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22197565773585667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655071593760675
parenting,LiquidSeasoning,2019/01/06,"Help! My 5 month baby rolled off the bed and hit the back of his head on solid tile. Should i be worried? He cried for a bit and is okay now, and even smiles. He didn't go unconscious and didn't vomit. Also he fell about 2-3 feet. This is my first child, and I'm very worried it may have a permanent effect. Thank you for the help ",-0.37958333333333627,1.572863541666667,1.5227777777777796,100.17500000000004,87.19444444444444,4.711111111111111,14.555555555555555,5.985473137389443,-0.9733944444444448,253,4,63,2,8,83,55,72,0.091,0.716,0.193,0.7777,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,2,5,2,0,0,5,1,8,3,2,1,0,8,12,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,5,2,6,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,4,36,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118211490744133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036732053071122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28917586353507296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290953721423073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749480235560765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22530329197655266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505350691835783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718390741104013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550814439666957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114214038814619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24386212717741876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21855034469398324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5379886360217483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stitchmidda2,2019/01/06,"Looking for advise for child care? Not sure if this is the right place.  I don't have many people to talk to about this and am just trying to get ideas of what to do.

So currently I work 11pm-7am at a local ISP as a supervisor.  I've been here for years and am making good money for the area.  My job is close to home, has good benefits, and I'm not likely to find anything better that doesn't involve me driving over and hour away.  I own my own home (renting is way more expensive than my mortgage is) and so moving isn't really a feasible option at this point because of that and because of my current job.

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Anyways, I have a 1 year old son.  I am a single mom.  I do not get any child support (father is a severely abusive person that wants to use visitation to hurt my son and control me and he refuses to pay child support anyway)  I have been getting by pretty good and having family members watch my son.  The arrangement was my mother would watch him Mon, Tues, and every other Fri.  My grandparents watch him Sat night and Sun.  And a work friend watches him every other Fri.  Well things are falling apart because my mother is moving away and my work friend doesn't want to help anymore.  


I am trying to convince my mother to keep watching him but he will be almost 2 hours away so I can't drive him home and back there every day so I won't be able to see him 4-5 days a week which breaks my heart and will definitely hurt him.  He needs his mom.  I only have 1 friend with kids so no luck with help from my friends.  Daycares around her cost around $800 a month and a sitter would be well over $1600 a month which is more than double my mortgage payment!  I have no hope of ever affording that.  We are barely getting by on the money I make now.  


Ive applied for government assistance 3 times and was denied every time because I cant provide proof of child support (because I don't get it).  I am planning to go into the office and have them help me in person to see what they say but there is no overnight daycares here and I doubt they will pay for a sitter.  I have been trying to change my hours at work for months but they wont let me.  Been searching for jobs left right and sideways but no luck finding anything that pays enough for us to pay our basic bills.

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Seems like my only options are to send him away 5 days a week and that wont last very long, quit my job and then we are homeless, or leave him home alone every night while I work.  None of those options seem very good or safe for him.  I just don't know what to do.  I feel like a burden to all my friends and family and like my son would have been better of adopted because clearly I am doing something majorly wrong here if I can't keep him around :(  


Does anyone have any ideas?  I am stumped.  I live in northeast PA if that matters at all. ",3.8388604852686328,4.689211965337954,4.596581889081456,87.7998641681109,71.46100519930674,7.0178336221837085,26.21009532062392,6.961326702584282,1.045092235701906,2212,68,463,18,40,712,258,577,0.107,0.752,0.141,0.9696,11,1,1,0,1,0,57.0,4,0,4,10,23,33,0,1,19,0,64,1,1,4,6,84,92,41,0,10,14,11,1,4,5,9,0,1,5,7,20,33,0,5,8,0,10,8,20,5,2,0,8,10,70,28,63,71,11,63,0,2,8,0,57,26,0,15,31,306,90,15,0.05753921383458537,0.06817455951210914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761721113311913,0.059593272613677174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468742830028727,0.13983288557963808,0.07825727702246879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05706343887593104,0.04023275616650083,0.0,0.0946997406542252,0.1536662980035625,0.0,0.0,0.21623994189075327,0.04424410375508831,0.0,0.2104522241633335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177751752415123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058665063291939226,0.0,0.060868858809505724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453512097414779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132409846873907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503529537765652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05945338909250901,0.0,0.0,0.052047513095542786,0.2423963465079089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848569988870936,0.0,0.029093555374700094,0.04110602586030634,0.0,0.0,0.10517959806812274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22227326938204728,0.0,0.1503093219254949,0.0,0.032700861213898036,0.1930446505397611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681842454344968,0.1157019664762486,0.0,0.23086609174729225,0.05714942227829421,0.16999360570521724,0.0,0.12319383692850018,0.12990953744413536,0.0,0.0,0.22839516513792735,0.1022869940467172,0.0,0.0,0.03162204714304718,0.04690213893175625,0.0,0.06092571944421357,0.06251652418874451,0.058837744546872024,0.0,0.11244301384649716,0.0,0.05080817998320421,0.05092039359014253,0.0483184479997425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681574406780713,0.058335731691549486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477846364365725,0.13778175457993622,0.12231015660025628,0.0,0.04266459798161388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079933087410336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060377725781812525,0.0,0.0,0.08752232987495898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03989044601023012,0.10048204425884204,0.06011623185975104,0.0,0.054393155391190884,0.0,0.0,0.05853806619054519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120003655490872,0.0,0.0,0.03686109375821092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827634845162564,0.0,0.04575749229620014,0.0,0.0,0.09170260759807236,0.10476307850653556,0.0,0.06500293374701151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04429649792151095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19588445396686308,0.05423002809047165,0.0,0.0,0.046247840533557336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038226496944155086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671031566100943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719604766147353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921258962646745,0.04969540646623851,0.0,0.09495175481497913,0.06787623821852727,0.04567194971194408,0.09230897325245786,0.0,0.1034693268381537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944616480153733,0.0,0.0,0.12262261988218308,0.06291009767100651,0.13983288557963808,0.07410673442448894
parenting,FagnarHairyBalls,2019/01/06,"How young is too young to use starvation as a punishment? I'm hoping to get my son's grades up by locking him in the starvation crate for a few days if he's failing in school, but he's only in second grade. I don't know how else to get him to apply himself, but my wife is worried he might be too young and this might stunt his growth. I was disciplined using the starvation crate when I was around 8 years old. Is this the age I should start using it?",5.587187499999999,4.401390843750004,6.1563333333333325,85.12200000000003,67.64583333333334,9.763333333333334,28.575,8.841846274778883,1.7999274999999997,355,9,81,5,5,116,63,96,0.081,0.861,0.058,-0.2755,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,6,3,1,0,5,0,10,0,0,5,0,16,19,8,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,10,1,12,13,1,15,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,4,9,51,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983031795266911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366144672647488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608697534438828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327652855902257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212504425460264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242279354183047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4726252465183496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337486192615869,0.0,0.0,0.16941863491810585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254445028901917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767031806879955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5771780484298598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22622308156884066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344981220646924
parenting,Blackskull56,2019/01/06,"Am I giving my 9 m/o son too much Panadol/ Nurofen (Paracetamol/ ibuprofen)? My partner and I are currently in a disagreement on how much our son should be having. When he's teething he experiences quite a bit of pain, so I choose to give him a single dose of Nurofen after seeing the signs of pain such as pulling his ears, not biting down on anything, and excessive crying (obviously). He teeths sporadically, so he's usually fine, but will experience bouts of pain randomly. I rarely give another does after the first one, even after the 6-8 hour wait, because he's fine after. So, if I were to guess how much I give him, it might be 1 does every couple of days, rarely more than 2 doses a day unless he's still really upset, and never for repeated uses over multiple days. This is much less than the directions on the packet, so I feel he's at no risk of becoming used to it, or it becoming less effective, but my partner feels this is still too much. I don't want to be giving him too much so if someone could provide some insight it would be greatly appreciated ( I'm not using this to win an argument btw, I genuinely want to know if what I'm doing is right) ",8.756103896103895,6.183226363636361,9.35666233766234,69.12356493506498,62.41991341991343,12.87636363636364,37.81861471861472,11.407655852321104,4.135674978354978,914,34,178,21,10,312,139,231,0.119,0.785,0.095,-0.3994,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,0,4,15,9,0,2,10,0,18,9,3,6,2,36,36,19,0,8,9,2,2,0,2,4,6,1,0,2,8,3,0,1,6,0,0,1,5,5,0,2,1,4,17,4,28,26,12,25,0,0,1,0,21,8,0,8,16,122,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052053175238278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256348441134108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061160564992058415,0.22161439424998947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953496258306993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010577096551168,0.11101383245458413,0.11020838530535214,0.19411469144546706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559986058994273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626737439265114,0.0,0.0845328058472517,0.0,0.0,0.19628503700937655,0.0,0.0,0.10146026965037387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534110473400905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4812309733951067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061477281612267,0.11052539944469708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880537030484576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05513904005043719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643484616987846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4425269395510848,0.0,0.07738109641810814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679865694143779,0.0,0.3202763001528149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671387754955307,0.0,0.0,0.06427431202801809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568173162179926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995044928948249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850097396261686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024819518361846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599601153336936,0.1104999134880752,0.0,0.11835510208033108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127193587633633,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scarreddragon28,2019/01/07,"2 year old transition to big kid bed, going well but a question... Hi fellow parents, My daughter just turned 2 and she's really doing amazing in the new bed, much better than I expected!  We REALLY hyped the bed up for several weeks, and I also took the opportunity to get rid of the pacifier at the same time.  We went to Ikea and she ""chose"" the bedding and some accessories for her room (all she wanted was the jungle rug lol), then once the bed was together we said goodbye to binky.  ""Binky, no.  Bunnies, yes"" she says all the time now (she sleeps with 2 small stuffed bunnies).  Lack of binky has not been an issue, shockingly.  Overall, I'm really proud of her!

However, while once she's asleep she sleeps like a champ, in order to actually get her to sleep I've needed to lie down with her and/or be physically in the room with her to get her to sleep, which she hadn't needed for her crib since she was 8/9 months old.  Lying down with her at night if it's a short while is fine, but it's been taking her longer to get to sleep so some nights I'm in there for 45 minutes or longer just trying to get her to sleep.  And while trying to get her to sleep during her naps, I've actually fallen asleep three days in a row and woken up thinking, ""oops!"".  I'm afraid that having me in there lying down with her for naps and sleep is going to create a bad habit.  I'm pregnant, and if all goes well will have the kiddo in August, so while I understand it's early days yet, it's something that's not sustainable.  I'd rather address it early so there's no association with ""new baby = mom leaving me"" or anything like that.

So, what should I do?  Not worry about it for a while so she gets used to the bed?  Start slowly ""weaning"" her off needing me in there?  Just leave cold turkey and hope she sleeps?  Advice or anecdotes appreciated!",2.726166827810495,4.466396520435971,3.9458978641118065,87.85849169376817,75.62125340599455,6.8063285576162444,21.647973982596465,7.601502580125103,0.7232605959391747,1421,36,298,19,31,464,182,367,0.073,0.789,0.138,0.9807,2,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,3,0,0,4,19,14,0,1,19,2,16,11,11,1,3,50,44,28,0,11,14,3,0,2,1,2,0,2,10,1,11,18,0,0,3,2,0,5,6,3,2,1,10,3,36,11,50,31,8,52,0,0,0,0,37,21,0,9,27,186,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.15336662484033844,0.0,0.0,0.07678803504601016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284086284932125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466512329540319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561150346301334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949813879036908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013559488617872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873857747583532,0.0,0.08931831101770765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804824833429093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201771148949047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641097990358372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678100598648317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203262763838686,0.06272227066457152,0.0,0.05776576919694856,0.17479951706964544,0.0,0.15178723107586456,0.0,0.14748510558895403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491420377729418,0.16737150997989275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725443666825172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880282355909049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102219855372606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474812803333017,0.06249043261535536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877369032426978,0.0,0.06500266926764381,0.0,0.7077359855175002,0.0,0.0,0.0604951709447216,0.0,0.0,0.055619740227278086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05908281801531549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050351263851976864,0.0,0.0,0.0916419383141974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730591769859072,0.10670211371094544,0.08547310798126552,0.0,0.08180515691333165,0.0,0.06786839254582715,0.0,0.0,0.04634886307931396,0.0,0.06303260278649918,0.0,0.14130676031546358,0.07284498656390377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798023951774036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060331829288351
parenting,bighert23,2019/01/07,"I feel like I dont give my 3 year old son enough attention (or the right kind of attention) since his 8 month old brother was born. M my older son is 3. I am not his biological father, but really that doesnt matter. He has never known his sperm donor, and I have been daddy since he was 3 months in the womb.

C is mine and M's mothers 8 month old. C is a good, happy, and healthy baby. Just like M was. He is a baby and just takes a lot of attention from mom and dad.

M isnt acting out or being mean or anything at all, he is the smartest and most well behaved preschooler I have met in my life. He is advanced in everything: counting, spelling, even written word recognition! He is amazing and I love him.

Lately though he is perfectly content to go to his room and play with his toys and watch a movie by himself. I'm not sure if this is just his personal time after school to unwind or not. Because if I get home from work at a decent time and I ask him if he wants to play it's an immediate yes. So I've been trying to do that more.

He has so much energy and we have to get onto him about being loud during the babys naps and at night. He also hasnt been eating much and we dont force him to finish his plate, but we do require him to eat a certain portion before he can be done. This can lead to him crying because he wants to play and not getting his way. And it's super frustrating for us as parents because we dont want to create poor eating habits for him.

It's hard for M to get alone time with me because of work and his Mom because of C. 

Does anyone have any tips on how to make M feel important? And how to schedule alone time, and also how to get the kid to eat more than a nibble of food?",3.1817831050228307,3.4856313369863017,4.7598801369863,88.02429509132422,72.61643835616441,7.50799086757991,25.071347031963462,7.333567415737692,0.9485730593607308,1318,36,300,13,24,446,181,365,0.066,0.752,0.182,0.9945,1,2,0,0,0,0,34.0,5,0,0,7,14,16,1,0,13,1,36,8,1,5,5,66,56,36,0,6,16,9,3,2,0,0,1,1,2,2,7,25,5,1,7,6,1,4,11,1,1,0,9,5,35,15,42,44,9,35,0,0,1,2,49,11,0,9,21,186,42,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18599105551948303,0.0,0.14361031902348784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06106038868617623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278336847159556,0.0,0.0738896520916114,0.0,0.0839416799884277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736762444808365,0.0,0.076404813866321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863027591253347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857597519554334,0.09188650943740148,0.3157002007901256,0.0,0.0,0.3675110043904228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277723899482916,0.0,0.05930555467478504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069760722894162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080120684147652,0.06414610913828941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085746193961879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345582665057765,0.08613490443963777,0.05102981785374487,0.07531172719158465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558329629243577,0.08043434789541833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006685277652005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350263566012806,0.0,0.0,0.1012872128747166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342144630177804,0.08773387462153759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633638416863453,0.08103912617053863,0.0,0.05993562986674654,0.0,0.0,0.09780780848956816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21032230329824889,0.2150089501861597,0.0,0.13201219981498954,0.0,0.06925170774425381,0.0,0.0,0.08426198378127159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826590097045928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970134811951976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784013054359772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05752187650556049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766803071028326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087243685344536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148550698504698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462616435569895,0.0,0.06751102673694255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882183775390802,0.0,0.20942946039409507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06096162550811818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800650841340986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588816904652383,0.07127125061267107,0.0,0.0,0.08073213832907469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073661357206612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057821919959256216
parenting,brandiilove,2019/01/07,"Advice Needed, 3rd Old And Sleeping Arraignment. Due to unfortunate circumstances, my stepson’s father had to moved into what’s almost considered a studio apartment (we alternate weeks and weekends). As a result, he has become accustomed to sleeping with an adult in sight, or right around a corner at all times.

Our mistake is, I work from home and my amazing wife is a full time college student. So after this new arrangement came into being, our son became accustomed to having an adult near by at all time throughout the night. Initially we fought it, but there are only so many nights we could stand outside his room and run coaxing him back to bed every 30 seconds (this isn’t exaggerating, 50 times easily a night until 2 or 3 AM). For the last few months we’ve just given in to alternated sleeping on the couch with him with the TV on with nature shows playing to get him to sleep. 

He has a bedroom of his own, and for a few months prior he graduated to sleeping in a queen sized bed of his own. 

At this point, my new beautiful wife and I would like to to sleep in the same bed together more than once every other week. 

For a year when he was in a crib, and it wasn’t much of a problem other than coaxing him to sleep (every 10min routine).

But now, it’s like he’s gained a sixth sense. If one of us leaves the couch for more than a few minutes (even to go to the bathroom), he’s screaming and pounding on our bedroom door. 

Now that school and holidays have settled down, we would like to undo the damage done while he’s with us and get him back in his bedroom. 

A good friend who has a degree in child psychology has suggested that we explain to him what’s about to happen, put him back in his room with a child lock on the inside, and starting with 15min increments (adding 5min every night) sending him back to bed until he gives in and sleeps in his own room. 


He will have what can only be explained as complete freak outs and meltdowns if we do this. But we are kinda at whits end. My wife and I would like to sleep in the same bed more than two weeks a month!

Do you parents of Reddit have a more mild approach to solve this dilemma?",7.396059383753502,6.090620959999999,7.268033613445379,79.00062745098043,64.10588235294118,9.883473389355744,32.94397759103641,8.563005593585519,2.4365977591036416,1688,54,336,19,21,539,213,425,0.057,0.8440000000000001,0.099,0.9669,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,12,1,0,3,14,14,1,0,30,0,28,9,9,1,2,58,40,29,0,10,8,6,0,4,1,4,0,1,16,4,16,33,0,0,2,5,0,7,2,6,0,3,7,2,34,8,73,26,16,76,0,1,1,0,54,33,0,6,39,234,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207370992456423,0.0,0.0,0.0738561852670781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565865969247671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268558758501459,0.0,0.0,0.081457933715282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843574496671392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733197769429677,0.0,0.0,0.05888832811247341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547820534420432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532610564738041,0.0,0.0,0.04871527780522414,0.0,0.2485711352378929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056983861039269786,0.0,0.0770691458970466,0.07075367259464213,0.04191735102600959,0.06186320543241083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522236851671713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398348734972524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060121151201899564,0.0,0.07809717156225478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413422481432678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477721539745062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766144975182518,0.07839117347282859,0.0542192971883648,0.05468929146180454,0.0,0.1424684048271279,0.0,0.27686080812050445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739473004071068,0.0785479512055432,0.049979113348013735,0.11218983500115412,0.0,0.0,0.08189753721775422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697234538574114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057472721230716,0.0,0.0741453576469156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298739609112225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464521713740004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6642852378342541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522050215351714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203134511840745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720490951100458,0.0,0.1774392665572219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17748833628711802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536953956876597,0.0,0.0,0.15718287563466,0.0,0.0,0.04749657784153944
parenting,Irepeatu,2019/01/07,"I put my 20 month old to bed with a harmonica, it's epic After I taught him how to breath through the Harmonica he happily now goes to bed playing for ten mins or so each night. He actually sounds as good as a hobo on a train already. Every so often we hear him up late at night breathing a tune. It's cut down on crying. And he has a small toy to keep him busy. Highly recommend.",1.5094179894179902,3.056542728395062,3.782116402116405,88.55666666666669,78.50617283950619,7.097707231040566,22.682539682539684,7.957251820313856,0.9501132275132274,295,9,68,5,7,102,61,81,0.062,0.767,0.171,0.7959999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,6,0,1,2,2,1,0,8,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,2,15,3,1,16,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,2,8,40,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.2477830423474791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28019996729233965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789121624861969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21393315594414936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297067758588845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28617907671794296,0.0,0.0,0.26827365513642104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256900708664419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864255961337837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026714099549232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4765614187808394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664396062754217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255253295517705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KarrMadhe,2019/01/07,"Wife claims that I don’t take care of newborn I recognize that this is one-sided but she’s completely correct

I’m sorry to throw some excuses but I am really looking for anyone’s input. This is hurting our relationship and it’s not fair that I’m not holding my own. I am looking for any input at all and venting a little - sorry for that

Whenever I pick up the baby, I freak out because I feel like I am hurting her. Everyone tells me that I’m fine and that I’m being gentle but I’m honestly terrified. I read about hip issues with newborns and absolutely refuse to grab her by the legs. If anyone can provide something that worked for them - anything. I even have issues picking the baby from the bassinet because she’s flat on it and I’m scared to wiggle my hand under her neck 


My other issue is a lifelong issue that I’ve been fighting and I’ve practically lost hope. I sleep through the baby crying 

A DNA test identified a gene that makes me more prone to deep sleep and I sleep like a corpse (not sure if there is a correlation ). I’ve almost slept through finals and have been late for work quite a few times in the past because I sleep through alarms. What worked for me was getting an alarm that was originally intended for the hearing impaired because it shakes the whole dam bed and I can’t use it for the time being because it scares the crap out of my wife forget the newborn. It’s gotten to the point where I stay up so that I don’t oversleep for work because I can’t afford to lose my job. ",3.4244289617486348,4.966300190163935,4.5708401639344265,84.92686133879785,73.327868852459,7.050546448087433,27.13456284153005,7.6454224807358475,1.5316038251366124,1198,44,237,15,24,393,160,305,0.193,0.7170000000000001,0.091,-0.9867,2,0,1,0,2,0,17.0,1,0,1,7,5,19,2,5,20,0,20,10,10,6,3,36,39,15,0,3,8,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,21,12,0,2,1,1,0,2,7,12,0,0,7,6,32,7,32,30,6,21,0,4,2,0,18,12,1,5,8,152,53,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975416751175739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624188971308859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622215841063548,0.0,0.080159826855133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562800432961434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993156112876314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213214529262926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699990615763444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433814288886194,0.0,0.0,0.09307907726046008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049253236499378565,0.06958946018016916,0.0,0.10670748992199024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05089251200487861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097877341746034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967497431999472,0.0,0.0,0.20855805030903146,0.0,0.0,0.4066813897202709,0.09666402867381517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988230715459056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517885116407006,0.09763004115380433,0.0,0.0,0.1635991143718215,0.10897646118777572,0.10633411959482623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502168539939819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600728726006165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298851536049436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920835873074309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360713344890056,0.09743599189217013,0.0,0.06240310423103949,0.0,0.0,0.10458148965380314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504806868311572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38991991813348653,0.0,0.0,0.0749906933038396,0.0,0.2180842147565412,0.0,0.10382570637514188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180742485776287,0.0,0.0732399200815827,0.0,0.08514031140152135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360067890656975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084130645982955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875437482938476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836614873912233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xdraque,2019/01/07,"Need Advice, Vagrant Kid in our neighborhood. How should I address his parents? First post on this subreddit, so not sure of any rules.

I have a 9 year old son, and he's into gaming.  I also am obsessed with tech and gaming, so our house is a video game dream land.  My son's good neighborhood friend comes over a bit, but one day he brought this random kid that my son had never met before (which is fine).  

Next thing you know, this random kid's over our house everyday for six consecutive days.  Which, by itself, is not a big deal.  My son gets along fine with this kid.  What was strange, however, is that we hadn't had any contact with his parents, and this kid is over our house until bedtime basically.  So finally I send the kid home with a Post-It note with my wife and my contact information.  

No one contacts us, and the kid keeps coming over to our house.  Finally, like on the 10th day of this kid showing up to our house (because I'm uncomfortable), I force the kid to give me his mother's phone number.  I send a text to her, include my wife, introduce ourselves as the people hour kid has been hanging out with for the past two weeks, and ask her when she wants her kid home.  She explains that she is at work, but could we send the kid home by eight. Ok fine. 

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Fast forward to the week after Christmas.  My family and I go out of town for the weekend to visit family.  While we're at dinner, two states away, we get a text from the kids mother asking us to send him home.  We're like, we are out of town, and haven't seen your son.  

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So over the last week, we received several texts asking us to send over their kid home when he's not been here or already gone.  I'm really, really starting to become uncomfortable with this situation.  I don't appreciate having some parent texting/calling me asking where there kid is, especially when he's not been by our house.   For the record, we live in a nice neighborhood, but I personally find it odd that these people are so loose with a 9 year old in 2019. 

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I desperately need advice on how I should handle these parents.  The kid is fine.",4.6757091469681376,5.506318330935256,5.2158162041795135,84.19357014388491,69.52757793764988,8.259301130524152,26.643456663240837,8.418075326091056,1.6023039397053784,1652,49,338,24,28,530,199,417,0.06,0.875,0.065,0.0015,5,0,0,0,0,0,71.0,16,2,1,2,14,12,0,1,22,1,26,1,0,2,2,55,49,26,0,6,8,13,0,2,1,2,0,0,6,17,19,29,1,1,4,7,0,14,9,1,0,7,11,1,49,11,53,35,2,69,0,0,1,0,87,26,0,4,31,210,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286200860386758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262440868367129,0.052629274740403006,0.0,0.21391955591578168,0.2399038074117499,0.0895078847751874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460987354291391,0.0,0.06183188496640896,0.0,0.0,0.04011795909553807,0.07268341295292127,0.056000571098268975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184889722666045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338121934762845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254496984009596,0.0,0.0,0.12732853681556788,0.06784856299445698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240820776655209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441861298636802,0.06015033810772026,0.055979060189054304,0.0,0.0,0.05084564897074115,0.0,0.06876737846976683,0.06313219803864699,0.03740207976751606,0.05519939804453648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300705110893624,0.0,0.06481087617199081,0.4556244417469133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849610940657421,0.0,0.0,0.03616817067661012,0.05364499516138455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430415617615595,0.0,0.05811258572500427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759649365314743,0.05075773353749507,0.0,0.06999106669951076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811578240103314,0.0,0.08919088341208525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923026522244587,0.0,0.06282433483067068,0.0912505413161607,0.0574638907824088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605807152138007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432081100521882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434803925270918,0.0,0.0,0.07397466126634128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046581578557094584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202637365319335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04372210501081073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857615934800734,0.0,0.23748868091204414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038817211258786566,0.0,0.15836957129030832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047911411945187804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399038074117499,0.08476064205541038
parenting,drock1331,2019/01/07,"What's the most effective form of birth control? Is it condoms? IUD? The Pull Out Method? No, it's.... Watching your friends make their 5 and 4 year olds go cold turkey on the Nintendo Switch and 3DS for playing way too much. 

We just did this to our boys and they are screaming like banshies. I think we did the right thing, but it is not a pleasant experience at home right now...

I think I'll invite my childless friends over here, just to make sure they're truly ready to have kids....",2.399895833333332,4.516053364583335,2.5825,95.54583333333336,77.85416666666666,5.516666666666668,24.20833333333333,6.42735559955562,0.4763833333333322,377,13,82,3,9,114,75,96,0.065,0.705,0.23,0.9477,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,1,2,2,5,7,0,0,5,0,6,1,0,4,1,18,11,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,6,6,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,3,9,6,9,9,3,13,0,0,1,1,10,6,0,1,5,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27588157536053143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24061048479862684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800789324759749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979310755379618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467327097522848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017082841870093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32838008461171675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18081972877153601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581091017408227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4201221508886004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318282720417997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341468084785454,0.3152213499305205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952432914996096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839966152726742
parenting,Dushku124,2019/01/07,"Kids are fighting food My kids (4 & 6) are horribly picky. They are also very low weight and I was told by their doctor I’ve got to get their weight and iron up.

They want macaroni, potato chips, fast food, and cereal.
I have a very very tiny food budget right now and I’m so worried they’re going to continue not eating and idk what I should do?
I don’t know how to make them eat healthy food. 


The 4 year old isn’t as bad as the 6 year old but once he starts, the other follows. The 6 y/o will literally go hungry instead of eat something he doesn’t want.",0.6664005602240906,2.610356697478995,2.457331932773112,95.10739845938377,82.86554621848741,5.64733893557423,18.32002801120448,6.816661863887847,-0.08937030812324931,433,10,101,5,12,143,81,119,0.08900000000000001,0.86,0.051,-0.6407,0,0,1,0,2,0,16.0,0,0,5,0,5,3,1,0,5,0,11,10,0,2,0,13,23,11,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,2,5,9,0,1,0,1,3,4,3,0,0,3,2,10,0,8,18,0,14,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,0,8,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016334641205324,0.0,0.13570963238738942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045795275876359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819991953793716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844897667518479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6058170353264676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543858703631532,0.0,0.14236629673366738,0.0,0.10017483357974284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883478874525385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360615445448143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628601481940262,0.13338844959705626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696384794002822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642449974185828,0.0,0.0,0.0886534502413097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196828975151521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100360938420764,0.14775281617471592,0.0,0.0,0.3050444588521031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719868235787887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613153438686187
parenting,seubrother,2019/01/07,"How to break Kids (3 and 2yo) addiction to tv/youtube/snartphone? My cousin's Kids are really addicted to YouTube and holding a smartphone in general. Is this okay? I dont think so but i know nothing about parenting.

They start screaming, smacking the floor and slaping people when the battery dies out or we need to turn TV off. 

How can i advice her on how to break her Kids' addiction (if it's a problema that is) ?

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parenting,Gilded_12,2019/01/07,"My 2 year old has a tough time leaving stores where he's playing with toys. Lately he's resorted to crying his head off and even hitting us or pushing our face away with rage and sadness in his eyes. How do I nip this in the bud?
Can't always buy him a toy he's playing with, we are on a budget and more importantly he needs to learn that you're not always gonna get a toy.
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parenting,dkrispin,2019/01/07,"Sight words help. Hey everyone.  I'm a teacher of 15 years and I see a lot kids struggle to learn their sight words.  Being the father of a soon to be 6 year old I also see the things kids pay attention too.  
I started making these videos for kids to watch that is entertaining them as they learn their sight words.   
Please check them out.  
[https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpG6gF6JJPHI89\_s9QQ5seQ/playlists](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpG6gF6JJPHI89_s9QQ5seQ/playlists)",10.456617647058824,15.219229955882357,4.2102941176470585,80.01632352941179,65.61764705882354,5.752941176470588,18.794117647058822,7.1686216300943375,0.2785529411764709,399,7,57,4,8,95,49,68,0.056,0.826,0.119,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,5,0,3,2,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,8,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,8,1,8,6,1,6,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,1,5,32,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336916627832708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27923283645073993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958717848209552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484386451967021,0.0,0.0,0.19506198577877776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066402397250923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32077452212007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465729856717449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068378597609689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054962813726113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19414083645954675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763657294957967
parenting,libertyhound23,2019/01/07,"A Needy Baby We have seven-month-old G/B twins. Our daughter is independent and is calm, cool, and collected most of the time. Our son, on the other hand, is needy. He always needs to be held or played with. He can't just be by himself or even with his sister, but he needs one of us to hold him, march around the apartment with him, or play on the playmat. You can't get anything done in the household because you need to be with him so he doesn't freak out (that's an understatement!). We think the whole baby wear idea made things worse.",2.5791111111111107,4.121852345454549,3.2293939393939404,93.67853535353537,75.54545454545455,5.9797979797979774,21.313131313131315,6.42735559955562,0.0810101010101012,418,10,94,3,9,131,77,110,0.066,0.812,0.122,0.6648,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,2,0,0,4,5,0,0,8,1,11,2,2,2,0,25,18,7,0,3,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,2,12,4,15,12,2,8,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,4,2,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330172992268446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19117252264432466,0.20680643636972051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161489887747408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377352620952975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343951653666965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137314020478344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26225134110380105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21981870358647368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854287767170876,0.0,0.0,0.5167679721657514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437717795105997,0.0,0.1574202454456342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433739949410605,0.14885579178346162,0.0,0.0,0.13546267009736065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794420611129277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25936742880337943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367452064386321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Solventia,2019/01/07,"Question about buying our son his first car? My husband and I are looking to buy our son either a 2014 Cadillac Escalade ESV or a Land Rover Range Rover (Long Wheel Base) 2015, would people assume the car he’s driving is his car or his mom and dads car? 
We want to buy him a nice car because we feel he’s deserved and obviously our son can be a brat (lol) if we buy him a what he would call a “cheap ass” car. 
I assume the Range Rover has way more safety technology since it has a more tech-savvy interior.",4.948857142857143,4.515936600000003,5.619761904761906,85.94107142857145,68.71428571428571,8.142857142857144,27.97619047619048,7.1686216300943375,1.2220476190476188,393,11,88,3,6,128,67,105,0.035,0.89,0.075,0.4684,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,9,1,8,1,1,0,1,18,11,6,0,4,4,6,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,6,0,0,4,0,5,7,0,0,0,1,0,4,14,1,3,8,3,12,0,0,1,1,22,2,1,6,2,46,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866213398541092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126052411493645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547946088020166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26040425414903634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709260626387805,0.2570822011855201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585498452485339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21224033658193575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429491372628776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532438506290575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057050103828576,0.2430012935109907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349490286417445,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,phxebz,2019/01/07,1st Birthday Present Hey fellow parents. My son is going to turn 1 very soon and I would like to buy something really special for him. I want it to be something that he will keep with him through to adulthood and can be a nice memento. Doesn’t have to be expensive or extravagant but I have a budget of about £200. Any ideas? Do you have any special mementos from your own childhood? Thanks guys! ,1.4307692307692292,4.076124384615383,2.580205128205129,90.45646153846157,87.20512820512822,5.684102564102564,25.748717948717946,7.1686216300943375,1.3982625641025637,314,14,62,5,10,100,62,78,0.0,0.807,0.193,0.923,1,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,17,4,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,5,11,12,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,4,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767175679334882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741652884617033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274257948745749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126814965927573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461963225314051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353205104977074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075582238455253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774431991541766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4264720061795982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25500987766842764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301279319207844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22854100925748874,0.1633724833973977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676165971711326,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sassydray,2019/01/07,"How to encourage a four year old to play with something other than video games This is about my nephew. I’m not his guardian but his dad is in jail and his mom is an drunk/addict so his grandmother and I do a lot of the actual parenting for him. Today is orthodox Christmas, so my dad and I got my nephew a bunch of popular toys that we figured he’d like because they’re all related to cartoons he enjoys. Legos, nerf guns, TMNT toys, superhero toys, etc. He’s uninterested in everything because he knows I have a Nintendo switch and only wants to play with that. I try to limit how much he can play the Switch while he’s over because he obsesses over it and I’d like for him to spend time with us, but when I don’t let him play the switch he just pouts and won’t even touch any other toys, won’t talk to us, is very rude to us, etc. I feel horrible because me and my dad put a lot into getting him stuff he’d like but he doesn’t like any of it because all he’s interested in now is tablet app games or the Nintendo switch.

I’m in college so I’m away and don’t have as much of an influence on him. His mom seems to just let him stare at the tablet and play video games all day. I think 4 is too young to be so obsessed with video games, and I feel like he’s missing out on having a childhood and meaningful memories. I’m not against video games, I play them often in my spare time and get that they can be good for kids, but I don’t want my nephew spending his entire childhood staring at a screen and not learning how to play with others.

What can I do to help him become interested in toys or playing games/spending time with us? ",4.72296511627907,4.391705831395349,5.559279069767445,85.84037209302328,69.17441860465115,9.089302325581397,28.827906976744185,8.697196308434329,1.8210434883720927,1282,40,290,19,20,421,153,344,0.048,0.765,0.187,0.9934,1,0,1,1,0,0,26.0,5,0,2,1,15,23,1,2,14,0,27,0,0,4,3,54,42,29,0,2,11,9,3,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,11,22,0,1,8,24,2,1,9,4,0,1,1,6,40,19,44,33,10,29,1,1,3,0,50,15,0,6,18,182,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.10572502307103504,0.11810749790814867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735096100339734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178977744067468,0.0,0.0,0.3302178261205672,0.1196539363489534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987087342474146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416573311812725,0.0715580973377222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736975338441704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956075924381488,0.07739871158317438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132072255830298,0.0,0.0,0.09087114916300927,0.0866500599754008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261857554522005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954128756722415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157168079755116,0.0,0.26464928851988084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842150010636826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25377494459400024,0.0,0.0,0.15928595383569094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136854776405688,0.0,0.0,0.08239808428696532,0.0,0.0,0.12029967197106535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891245947219534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862942388846603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340606504805421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402433160973425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708025638299373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942043013527764,0.0,0.0,0.18952323008925992,0.0,0.10269444018438842,0.0,0.0,0.07355631282596213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5212827219667048,0.0,0.0,0.08939253225568433,0.12780445872048304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976794331303393
parenting,mmamamata,2019/01/07,"Am I too controlling? So MIL/FIL are super religious and well their son (my husband) is “religious” too but I’m pretty sure he try’s to be religious because his whole family is religious. I never see him reading the Bible, go to church (we live overseas due to him being in the military) he sometimes does that head, hand, amen thing at night, but that’s about it. On the other hand I myself once was a catholic because my mother put us through church/school and the other whole chebang. I’m a grown individual now and I don’t like any of that shit. It’s all bs. Some priest are molesters, a lot of people that go to church are assholes/materialistic, the bible has no morals..i don’t like it period. And my mother is okay with it she didn’t abandon me.


So we have a son that my husbands family keeps insisting/asking about when we are going to baptize him....i asked my husband if he knew what the reason behind baptizing someone was and he got defensive (which I have a gut feeling it means he doesn’t know) I don’t feel the need to baptize him because he’s only 2 years old. I’m not religious, but my husband is kind ofish. 

I want my son to decide if he wants to be religious himself when he understands what that stuff is.....right? Or should I be “comfortable” for my husband/his family’s sake?",1.9752307692307696,4.217116523076925,3.6500000000000017,86.705,79.92307692307692,6.9230769230769225,24.23076923076923,8.012643519586192,1.4659230769230769,1016,37,206,19,26,338,141,260,0.06,0.779,0.161,0.9748,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,0,1,2,10,12,3,0,12,1,24,5,5,2,3,37,43,15,0,6,7,9,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,18,9,0,4,8,1,0,5,8,4,1,0,5,5,29,8,19,33,5,17,7,1,1,0,29,3,1,5,11,129,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042144477259284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486105360449711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24316453227717824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913268386225828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635944930047548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37604555490551705,0.0,0.13446321725692092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267029389805946,0.0,0.1063450629606266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364614845006371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818629698161195,0.0,0.1384636355639222,0.07307464042022364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992094989026734,0.0,0.117411420768658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130429447594771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483896260670298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859260983567694,0.10255158216217576,0.0,0.0,0.12477959077637332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952545769532546,0.14160445856221338,0.0,0.1011266404641841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218188769416323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352742318806478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366756310446204,0.0,0.0,0.13300199009871935,0.0,0.0,0.13671120127902578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355224398389654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456869841634314,0.10595669289708523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648769603744515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266166675583708,0.0,0.1315067814570028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221426687334286,0.0,0.0,0.1253188885831246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833670717403569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027519104832918,0.0,0.0,0.13842230321876026,0.15994173548054608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685359263613952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955240941576943,0.0,0.0,0.29690359801043104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562574943819251
parenting,knockknock619,2019/01/07,"Any tips for inducing labor? My wife is 5 days past the due date We have 3 boys (7,6, and 2) and they all were born 1-2 weeks prior to the due date.

The 4th is a girl and is late no shocker there(jk).

We have tried all the wives tales....sex, pineapples, various other foods and the pressure point massages.  No dice.

My wife is very afraid of getting induced because if it doesn't work she will have a C section for the first time. She has a horrible hemorrhaging problem so this makes it more of a high risk surgery.

I'm not sure what I can do for her at this point.",1.9717948717948701,3.5816082735042762,2.8909487179487208,95.17488461538464,77.37606837606837,6.047521367521367,24.52051282051282,6.742157984588678,0.5827784615384615,436,15,101,4,10,138,85,117,0.162,0.838,0.0,-0.9406,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,1,2,1,5,0,3,10,0,13,1,0,3,3,15,16,6,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,1,0,9,1,7,14,5,17,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,1,12,60,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279646158339226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15489677574367036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638732399615369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21613701514067696,0.3072582807464553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275656889655035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26847020972228075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866354500025844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696134758816297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24256684843656395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4804125644829081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243139028633635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23948589376323395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481675374415515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725169689684521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096588058954752,0.0,0.0,0.20382339582095413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849875566691469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,recercar,2019/01/07,"When did you switch to a toddler bed and why did you decide to do it? I have a 16 month old and I don't think she's ready for a toddler bed (defined as being able to get in and out on her own), despite her room being baby proof. Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever think she's ready since she's my tiny baby, even if she's not so tiny anymore.

When did you make the switch and what made you decide that it's time?",3.9990217391304337,2.8511130326086978,5.181652173913046,90.68508695652176,70.84782608695652,7.3599999999999985,24.92173913043478,3.1291,0.2749582608695649,317,6,78,0,5,106,56,92,0.056,0.944,0.0,-0.5544,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,2,17,14,10,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,14,0,8,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,3,6,51,18,0,0.28600503765570895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28364014550829864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188903629993844,0.258707930657009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942582775250055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706248819423383,0.1909105835007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22828649240956544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30011417579386185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236586322643312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828662953713728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665209595050257,0.0,0.0,0.1667718374486308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580750612463954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31016026317952616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blackmagic1992,2019/01/07,"My "" friend"" left her 2 and 4 year old kids locked in their rooms overnight. This women is fucking nuts and I'm working on removing her from my life because I believe she is either BPD or NPD. In fact I'm almost positive. She is also a notorious liar which I'm just learning. These people are extremely deceptive.  I'm also a guy not that it matters. She is 28 and I am 26.

We are talking one night and its about 10 pm. Without getting into the full story she tells me she isn't home. I ask where she went. She tells me she had to go help out this girl we will call ""T."" T is 19 and her boyfriend is 19. They live with his parents and just had a child. So she tells me she has to go help ""T"" because her boyfriend hit her or something and punched a hole in the door to the baby's room. So she puts her 2 and 4 year old to sleep and then locks them in their rooms without telling anyone about it except me and that is only because I inquired about it.

They live in new home so they have the type of locks that require a pass code. I know the pass codes so I tell her I'll go there to check on them/sit with them until she gets back because I happened to be less than 10 minutes away. She of course is fine with that and somewhere during that text exchange tells me she taped everything down and not to take the tape off the bedroom door or the front door. I miss that part of the text because I already have it made up in my mind that I'm going to stay with them until she gets back.

She has door handles than you pull down. She has one kid locked in with a computer chair under the door handle and another kid locked with a toilet paper roll wedged between the door and the door handle and then reinforced by a shit ton of duck tape so you cant push the door handle down. 

When I get there I rip off all the tape so I can check on them. I then later look at the text messages and she said said not to. I send her a text messaging telling her I ripped off all the tape. She freaks out. Starts yelling at me telling me she had it all perfect and just goes on a rant. Telling me she planned on staying their all night and how I fucked it all up and now she has to come back. I tell her I had no idea she actually planned on leaving them all night alone locked in their rooms. 

I ask her why ""T"" can't just come over and stay here. She tells me because ""T"" just had a new baby and would be forced to get up early because she has class in the morning so ""T"" would have to get up early to leave. So you leave your 2 and 4 year old home alone all night long because ""T"" might have to get up earlier than she wants to? That's the justification? The best part was when I texted her at 9 am the next day she said "" I just woke up 30 seconds ago."" So she really didn't have class that early if she even had class at all. I'm not sure what to think about the situation. My mind is blown. ",1.7148675666988105,3.1532246770491845,2.7510993249758933,96.64201703632273,77.63934426229507,5.767920282867245,21.79684988749598,6.2272716619740125,0.01917100610736089,2223,60,533,15,51,707,247,610,0.063,0.901,0.037000000000000005,-0.8619,1,2,1,0,1,0,53.0,2,4,12,6,34,11,4,0,32,0,41,5,2,3,11,81,79,45,0,4,18,1,0,0,1,4,1,4,16,7,21,35,0,1,6,0,3,15,11,6,0,3,14,5,94,5,78,58,15,94,0,1,1,2,92,44,3,6,32,347,115,9,0.0,0.0,0.057948948725874826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05263918022441875,0.0,0.059463195809201674,0.1230051357449792,0.0655302856231993,0.0949766467883369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062267938175272375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041521764257995135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102961605114993,0.0,0.05579200100779057,0.1369848914890908,0.0,0.2895931399153983,0.0,0.0,0.06690396734628389,0.062318479580466074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479043132227631,0.0,0.060636375647892836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230587515719393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038296928616435584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03922171301640397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05336934135766107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04587892638496265,0.1097966977503748,0.2171750671745548,0.0,0.1349942265687917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05879820871202055,0.05251192511804767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960594358042597,0.0,0.17869706832334825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703583973090901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03263517869357569,0.0,0.0,0.18863311398867605,0.06451947683752399,0.0,0.041943756863490285,0.0,0.0,0.10487202332893893,0.052551820457547166,0.04986651172628317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05618934614960283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299566007677862,0.11991919692796145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470436256929732,0.06315417467794901,0.22290656341956885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18693646186987067,0.0,0.08047850813405005,0.04516321891221056,0.0,0.0,0.06593746040714465,0.12861135367151072,0.0,0.04116848690476165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969601468256632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038042077927404536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694596373859544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095548775938586,0.0,0.06674864235765793,0.0594255850484724,0.0,0.0,0.045715703307525016,0.0,0.0,0.042031380398863366,0.18988216987575865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055967491582192004,0.0,0.044648399810767535,0.04772956454011523,0.5709340650778125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038050036118076745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035025454760862954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504835743400175,0.053583649976587835,0.0,0.0,0.1144856066236374,0.0,0.043231312533699585,0.0,0.0,0.08436753200758207,0.0,0.0,0.11472153476023356
parenting,getthefacts,2019/01/07,"Having a second child when first was born prematurely Has anyone had a second child after the first was a preemie? My husband and I have already decided we want another child but are scared of having the second being a preemie and needing to be in the NICU again. I am at high risk of having another preemie and having him/her being born even earlier than the first. My daughter, 2.5 years old, still has some medical issues from being born early and its scary to think it may happen again. She was born 8 weeks early and was in the NICU for 6.5 weeks.  


Anyone have a normal pregnancy after or a high risk pregnancy? Or did you have another premature baby?",7.167531428571429,7.096566096000004,7.705485714285714,71.62360000000002,64.04,10.342857142857145,31.457142857142852,9.957137785484203,3.1205542857142863,522,17,88,10,7,173,73,125,0.112,0.879,0.009000000000000001,-0.9305,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,3,5,3,0,3,11,0,22,1,0,0,0,16,26,9,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,6,0,7,0,12,15,1,24,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,4,19,74,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556077948964986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5289685693477109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351526738583716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106332852098348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290920187325855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486969523288234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35532529889065945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550781994086673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693962401879069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468315932606368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647540269573942,0.0,0.0,0.1764480613796785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16835027214693216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428703121023772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774551483383174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918086920567716,0.0,0.2697640424086843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828488035167612
parenting,NoBreaks4Mom,2019/01/07,"Almost 3 years old & the tantrums are only getting worse I have been dealing with this ever since my daughter learned to walk, but it's just gotten to a point ever since where it's so long-running and constant, that I'm depressed and drained in every sense, and I need some support. 


My daughter is my life, she is my everything. She is the light of my life. But, oh my goodness, she has been spirited since birth. As an infant, she cried/fussed endlessly. Her pediatrician could only presume it was colic. Nothing was ever really assessed to explain her behavior otherwise. 


She is now a toddler, and is about to turn 3. As soon as she learned to walk and became mobile, the behavior took a whole new turn and became even more difficult. No more 'grumpy baby' crying for unbelievable amounts of time- now it was a moody/angry toddler running around throwing tantrums whenever she did not get her way... and the number of tantrums per hour (not day, HOUR) was mind-blowing. She throws herself on the floor, kicks, throws things, screaming at the TOP of her lungs and crying hysterically the whole time. This can go on from anywhere between a few minutes, to 30 minutes straight. There have been times where she has done this an upwards of 45+ minutes straight. She never runs out of steam- if five minutes passes from one tantrum, she can go into another nuclear meltdown ALL over again and I'm in for another long-running tantrum until she decides she's finished.... 


That's how every day and night is summed up- for me: trying to stay sane until the next tantrum, over and over and over again. 


I give her EVERY bit of attention that I can, but I am stretched thin. I have NO choice but to divide my time between her needs, the household, and a work-from-home job to keep money coming in. I have a makeshift ""office"" set up in a part of the living room where I can constantly supervise her in her play area throughout the day. I'm constantly back and forth between working, tending to her needs, and cooking/cleaning/laundry. This is not optional- I have many responsibilities. She is too young to understand that everything cannot happen when she wants it to happen. 


She wants constant attention, and even if I am trying to divide my attention to be there for her, it never ends well. She wants me to play with her and go sit and do whatever it is that she wants me to do, when she wants me to do it. I could be in the middle of working and cannot drop my task in the middle to go and amuse her. I will try to explain to her that mommy is busy but that as soon as I can, I will go play with her. Even at almost 3, she doesn't always understand everything that I am saying. She understands certain phrases, she understands certain questions. But me trying to explain that I am busy and can't play with her right now- doesn't fly. It ALWAYS ends with a long-winded, extreme tantrum. And this is happening multiple times per hour, every single day. If she doesn't get what she wants when she wants it, instant tantrum. Sometimes I'm left asking myself-- is it ME that is the the cause of this? If so, HOW? What the hell am I doing wrong??? 


She wants mommy to carry her around the house so she can look at decorations on the wall or touch things sitting up on high shelves (every day and every night), only the moment that her ""checking things out"" time is over and it's time to put her back down, que the meltdown. She wants mom to sit with her and play even after mommy sat and played with her before starting work- at which point another meltdown ensues because I cannot. She wants mommy to pay attention to her on her terms. If I am not able to appease her right then and there, the meltdowns are inevitable. 


At bedtime, she goes apesh*t running around the bedroom, rummaging through her drawers, running to the other side of the room to pull books and toys off of her shelves, rummaging through her closet.. I'm spread so thin and so exhausted by that point that I just lay there and let her have her time in hopes of her running out of steam. and even after being given some free time to play additionally before bed, she has more meltdowns when it's time to get in bed and go to sleep. 


All day every day, all night every night, if it isn't a meltdown over one thing, it's a meltdown over another.. And SO Much of it is centered around the amount of time that she wants from me VS The amount of time that I can actually give her. I'm struggling to keep everything afloat and in order in our lives- and she of course is way too young to understand that. She talks but she doesn't not say full sentences yet, and as such she only understands so much of what's being said to her. She understands enough to know when it's not the answer she wants to hear, or if it's something that satisfies her. As she gets older, the tantrums are just getting worse.. 


Naturally after reaching 2 years old, they became even more intense and multiplied in  number. And as such, my mommy sanity has been hanging on by a thread. For at least the past 6 months I have been feeling especially depressed and down about dealing with everything. I wake up and I just want to lay there and cry because I know it's going to be another day of this, day in and day out. I'm pouring coffee in my cereal and rushing out still wearing bed slippers most days. I suffered an injury to my ankle last year, and it is still an ongoing problem for me because I could not afford to get the treatment needed to heal the fracture completely. Despite all of this, I am busting my ass to be the mom that she needs and DESERVES- but at some point the constant issues are taking a toll on me emotionally AND physically. 


This kid has nice toys, she can watch her favorite cartoons while I have to work, she has my attention and companionship every moment that I can HUMANELY provide while still barely managing to keep a roof over our heads and food in our mouths. Today I kept a log of every tantrum that has happened thus far- and by 12 noon we were already at six. SIX TANTRUMS in the first four hours that she was up. That number, by the end of tonight, will be unbelievably higher. I end up looking forward to her nap-time every day (even though even naptime also starts with a tremendous tantrum), and that makes me sad because I love her so much. 


Some people have told me that this could be due to the communication gap. Others have said this is just her way, she is ""strong-willed"" and I have to learn how to deal with the tantrums. some people told me it would ""get better"" with age- I have yet to see ANY improvement whatsoever, so I have lost hope there. ""Time outs"" are something that she isn't learning anything from. Once time out ends, it's right back to business as usual. She see's no real consequence from it regarding her behavior. I can't afford day care or pre school- so not an option. I can't afford behavioral therapy, even with insurance. 


I take her to the park and take her out to see sights and have a change of pace/scenery as much as I possibly can. Even then, the meltdowns are nuclear, and of course, publicly humiliating for me. What the hell am I supposed to do to help my daughter finally understand that this behavior is unacceptable and it is affecting me emotionally and physically?????


Anyone else go through anything similar???? HOW did you DEAL??????  






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parenting,Clockwatcher930,2019/01/07,"Blocking Teen's Public Wifi Accesa Any suggestions on how to prevent a teen from accessing public WiFi spots with their iPhone? Specifically, is there a way to allow a teen to have their iPhone when they are away from home so that they are able to call the parents and parents are able to call them but also preventing the child from using public WiFi with their phone? I have been able to prevent access to mobile data while the teen is out but haven't been able to find a way to block their ability to access public WiFi or being able to use one of their friend's phones as a mobile hotspot.

Thanks in advance!",12.918277310924376,7.5146377815126035,10.886449579831936,70.00009453781514,57.73949579831933,13.580672268907565,39.834033613445385,9.516144504307137,3.637099159663864,492,12,94,5,4,150,67,119,0.057,0.851,0.093,0.5109,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,8,1,5,2,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,4,0,17,14,10,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,9,2,22,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,1,2,62,10,0,0.7425860074024996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876915236616878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100996789878586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953679967824334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033053358603602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574203153721232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474402145098694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489748624373747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063909937857177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298215528365472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673468520793453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565423544374315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357720832570335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lakpo1987,2019/01/07,"5 Month old refuses to nap in crib So my nearly 5 month old will not nap in her crib. She will sleep in there overnight with no problems. We recreate the same environment during the day (blackout curtains, white noise, hold her to sleep and then set her in) but the minute she hits the crib her eyes pop open. 

Now, my so did this until he was 6 months old and I would just hold him to nap...no big deal. However, my son is now a toddler so I do not have the luxury of sitting around with the baby for a 2 hour nap.

Sometimes she will sleep in her swing, but this is hit or miss.

Any advise for hurrying along the transition to crib naps?!",2.178056904927136,3.7529880687022943,3.10645385149202,94.0022345593338,76.70992366412213,6.595697432338652,21.832755031228317,7.348242739294969,0.4688717557251914,491,13,113,6,11,156,82,131,0.045,0.955,0.0,-0.5635,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,9,0,10,4,4,0,0,20,13,10,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,2,8,0,3,0,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,2,15,0,18,5,1,23,0,1,2,0,15,9,0,1,12,71,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261574756781335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605125105513652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116283861602955,0.1858898195139435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775672400775264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.431760814631291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5676093213201729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17253058011513406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5413151986673091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783294035960256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808576000977556,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cicatrized,2019/01/07,"Advice on sharing saliva with baby - details in post Weird title, I know, but I wasn't sure how to word it.

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I'm current;y pregnant with my first and due in a couple of months. I was given conflicting advice from my doctor and dentist and wanted to see what everyone else's thoughts were on the matter. 

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My doctor has advised that if I have a situation where my baby drops a soother (or anything that goes in the mouth), instead of cleaning it before returning it I should just stick it in my mouth and then give it back to the baby. The intention being that my body will have antibodies to fight off germs and sharing them with the baby will help them develop the same antibodies? I can't remember exactly what he said but that was the gist of it. 

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My dentist has given different information. He advised that cavities are caused by a bacteria in the mouth that reacts with certain food we eat (like sugar). He said humans are not born with this bacteria. So if a baby is not exposed to it until later in life it is more likely their body will develop an antibody for the cavity causing bacteria which could lead to better dental health in life. Due to this he recommended not sharing saliva with your baby so you don't expose them to the bacteria in your mouth.

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I'm obviously no expert int his, I've never had a kid before so I normally follow the advice I'm given by a professional. But given these are two conflicting pieces of information, what has been your experience with your children?

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parenting,SliverWaterWOLF,2019/01/07,"How can I get my parents to give spanking a try as my punishment? My best friend is spanked, and think it might work for me better then time-ours,  early bedtime, or taking something away. Like a 3 month trial. If it works better then its my punishment, if not was go back to how it is  
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parenting,dpatel_13,2019/01/07,"HELP! Still Need help overcoming Postpartum trauma after 2 years FYI... It’s a long story....but I will try to hit the main points to paint a picture. 

I started working out 4 days a week before I got pregnant. My goal was to be in good shape and healthy before pregnancy, however my pregnancy was rough, almost every symptom in the book. I was tired and nauseous all the time. I had round ligament pain, metallic taste in my mouth, sensitivity to smell etc. at 5 months I had sciatica which left me immobile. I was either seeing a physically therapist, chiropractor or massage therapist 5 days a week so I could handle standing or walking. With all those professionals I could only handle 30 mins of physical activity a day. I couldn’t sleep at night cause sciatica was the worse for me overnight. I tried stretching before and throughout the night but hardly got any relief. The best sleep I got was 5-8 am but then I’d have to get up and ready for appointments. 

With all that, I thought I’d try a natural birth (no epidural). I read books, listened and practiced hypnobirthing myself. 

Then came time to labor.... was in labor for 48 hrs ( no sleep since no epidural) pushed for 1-2 hrs. I kept complaining of a lot of back pain. They told me that I was bleeding a lot every time I pushed and that the baby might have torn me up inside as he was descending. He was born with an apar score of 9, but something didn’t feel right. I wasn’t overjoyed when I saw him. I didn’t care to hold him. I definitely didn’t feel love. 

The doctors told me that I only had a 3rd degree tear. 1st, and 2nd degree was intact but it was very deep. The baby Probably tore me up the whole way down. They worked on stitching me up for 45 mins before I started complaining saying I had enough and wanted to rest. They told me that they tried their best with getting as deep as they could and hopefully the rest  iwill heal on its own.

Here’s where it gets real...30 mins went by, my fundus wasn’t contracting, they tried straight cathing me but couldn’t find my hole because I was so beaten and swollen down there. Finally realized that I was bleeding internally. Pressed down on my abdomen and got 1000 ml of blood and blood clots. I went into shock. Tried starting and IV. I was dehydrated so they pocked multiple times until they finally got something. Rushed me to surgery. I was told that I would need conscious sedation anesthesia. I went under but when I was waking up I was hallucinating hard. I thought I was in a coma. Total mind fuck! When I finally realized that I was just awake while they were operating I complained I could feel things and I was in pain all while having the anesthesia tube in my mouth so they put me under. 

Post op-
I couldn’t walk again because of anesthesia. Bed written and lost strength in my legs. A lot of back pain, stiffness, Night sweats, tremors and on heavy pain meds. Hardly held my son only A few minutes at a time cause I was hooked up to ivs and getting blood transfusions and honestly I didn’t want to. I was too uncomfortable and in pain. 

Came home. Still a lot of pain everywhere. I couldn’t walk, sit, stand and bend. A few days later found out I had vocal cord hemorrhaging from being intubated so I had to sleep sitting up. A lot of tailbone pain. I was hardly taking care of my son cause I couldn’t do anything for myself. I had the best support though which is the only reason I don’t have to write about postpartum depression. 
3 months later sciatica acted up. Tried going to professionals again but Opted for surgery months later. 
Current status: still very sensitive about whole birthing and postpartum situation. Did end up having slight depression once my support left. It was very hard to remain strong through all of that. 1 year ago I started seeing a therapist but didn’t get anywhere so I stopped. When I talk about birth, or someone asks me about it I start crying. I have issues being around newborns cause I am reminded of the pain I went through and still have. I am still recovering from surgery! A lot of physical issues I need to address. I started working out with a professional to get me on tract the right way. I am also seeing a physical therapist too. 

I want to have another baby, my son is the best thing that happened to me but I am so scared, I am more physically and mentally weak cause of the trauma, surgery and injuries. I have less endurance and stamina. I am working on that everyday but my son is 2 and I want to have a baby that is close in age. If I had a somewhat perfect pregnancy I would be pregnant right now. I am 32 years old and happily married. I don’t know what to do. HELP!!! 


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parenting,smirkingkitty,2019/01/07,"7yo not keen to have overnights anymore at dads Basically as title, we’ve never lived together he was out of her life for several years but now is more involved. 

I mentioned she hasn’t been keen but I’m trying to promote the relationship...he was pissed off.

I feel she’s old enough to make her own decision and I can’t force her into going. Have explored the reasons but she says she would just rather spend the time with me. ",1.2736363636363637,3.8896578823529424,2.416577540106953,91.50005347593584,87.8235294117647,5.44385026737968,21.844919786096245,6.980632752743323,0.7318235294117654,340,12,69,5,11,108,66,85,0.117,0.843,0.04,-0.7663,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,3,0,9,2,1,2,1,17,13,5,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,1,2,4,1,0,0,3,2,11,2,11,9,3,11,0,0,0,0,12,4,1,0,5,46,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28762505192907384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996714614811817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664442838160388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482685043259931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20485194114866226,0.0,0.0,0.2560957715475995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935927172607943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22368374716286654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043305285387931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29819212084772945,0.0,0.3113763451823533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306380645311928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276436289648918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16911484204927568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969066940147296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20602413796555796,0.0,0.0,0.18676541194337493
parenting,kaikuhaiku,2019/01/07,"How to deal with such different toddler I have 2 kids. A 4 year old and an 14 month old. My 4 year old is an all around super little kid. Since he was a baby all I've had to do is give him the 'your in trouble' look and he hurries to stop what he's doing and apologizes. I've usually only have to tell him no once or twice for something and he doesn't push it. He does really well with time-out. He hates it and it's a really good motivator. He sleeps well and loves to help out with chores and do his chore chart with minimal prompting. He like his individual play time. He will open his sketchbook and his coloring box and sit at the counter and color for hours. If he's quiet in the other room it means he is happily entertaining himself

My 14 month old is a different story. I tell him no and he just looks at me and smiles and laughs and continues doing whatever he was doing. I flick his fingers for getting in a drawer after me telling him no and he just yells and screams at me until I comfort him and then goes right back to what he was doing. He screams and yells when he doesn't get his way and demands attention all the time. If he is quiet in the other room it's because he's doing something naughty. I think he's still too little for time-out to be effective. He's not mean or horrible or anything but he is SOO different than his brother was. 

How to help my younger? With the older it was easy and I've never had to really work hard to discipline him. I need ideas or advice to help me with a more willful second child. Again he's not a bad kid or anything I am just looking for advice",2.018906845084921,3.7005141701492548,3.7444261451363863,88.79179104477613,77.44776119402985,7.008749356664952,23.790530108080286,7.873277556716777,1.1342393206381889,1257,41,273,20,29,421,156,335,0.046,0.816,0.138,0.9814,3,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,4,15,15,1,0,15,0,28,3,2,4,4,58,40,33,0,3,13,1,2,1,0,2,0,6,4,4,10,29,0,2,7,2,0,1,8,5,2,2,7,13,29,10,34,30,4,41,0,0,5,1,53,15,0,7,24,170,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19503869479105831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642469590279432,0.08883946241670004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673684686448855,0.08332536436853408,0.06083462249684689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288513697548468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127962612031395,0.0,0.0,0.08733201884968866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427842302105902,0.09573327062653153,0.0,0.08370402228327828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939747765247594,0.09852773882258577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006731593559964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827880765877403,0.0,0.0,0.1126573648804072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875521031165588,0.20004331344508752,0.0,0.0,0.25141013356788194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006964885482181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21741386863862114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931218707992115,0.0,0.0,0.0739973565737231,0.07696870997838189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4188758188428384,0.10627932083470802,0.0,0.0758992391620723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917953263991305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522510867525718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255215649351888,0.0,0.09986791908493996,0.0,0.0,0.15365543831341355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969709289852303,0.08343379725385218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616779087546746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394514963747612,0.0,0.0,0.2327670453634357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991102720934907,0.0,0.0,0.0792132988035725,0.0,0.0,0.17945690419456134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265256570094543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853050798899562
parenting,ImRikkyBobby,2019/01/07,"Help keeping kids asleep? How? My kid is 4 and wakes up just about instantly if you so much as breath on them. Sometimes the kid falls asleep in the living room when we are watching a movie so I tried to scoop it up and put it in bed and it wakes up and then I have to spend an eternity getting it to go back to bed. lol

What can I do? I assume nyquill won't help? 

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parenting,oraerdna541,2019/01/07,"Family dress code? Just curious. Do any of you have a family dress code for the kids? I hate the basketball shorts and t-shirt look that seems so prevalent with the boys. It looks like they just rolled out of bed and came to school in the same shorts and T-shirt they slept in. Not an issue with my littles because I dress them, but I have an older son that really wants to fit in with his peers.
Note: we live in a rural, relatively low income area where “style” is not really in any of the middle schoolers vocabulary.",3.5731310679611634,5.078043242718451,4.3244538834951465,86.99017597087378,72.88349514563106,8.256796116504855,20.64199029126214,8.841846274778883,1.0577000000000003,406,8,86,8,8,130,70,103,0.048,0.88,0.07200000000000001,0.3411,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,3,0,4,3,1,0,9,0,4,1,1,0,0,17,11,5,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,10,1,15,9,1,16,0,1,2,0,9,14,0,1,2,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32205411206500184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434654250655682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708275984263361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464538900245313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337836228171951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471499047411763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568488056340485,0.2373283457857443,0.20909216257846008,0.0,0.3976922136569664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30339074579957565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396467054315111,0.0,0.2155670469848531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966638286880384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,father_dan_the_man,2019/01/07,"What age did your LO start to crawl...? So my little dude is 8 months in a few days (7 months adjusted) and he's just now starting to not hate being on his tummy with an absolute passion. The most he can do currently is scoot backwards while on his tummy, and turn in circles.  

But his baby uncle is 8 months and crawling and standing with assistance. Walking along furniture, all that jazz. It's making me worried about my little dude's development, I know I'm just being a worry-wart like most first time parents. 

I just figured if I knew what other people's babies did I might not worry as much or feel as bad...? Thanks for commenting if you do.",3.626015625000001,5.177412070312503,4.7973125,83.46643750000003,72.828125,7.307500000000001,26.08125,7.908726449838941,1.5678943750000005,507,17,97,7,10,167,90,128,0.018000000000000002,0.868,0.114,0.8993,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,1,0,4,0,11,1,0,1,1,26,21,12,0,2,9,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,3,1,12,3,13,15,5,21,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,6,13,67,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475047202147106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725238362032662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976880981776397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783673998078816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480852680626326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843961718774846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639854530758786,0.3955245868359239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170984539716266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932090880691714,0.0,0.0,0.4724868271341411,0.0,0.14504983485472994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21909587295413294,0.0,0.0,0.1367939487038873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27932231308557864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166190148032904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505644435306732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21462295697878425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007675965338224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lolipop3k,2019/01/07,"Struggling to advise Girlfriend on parenting without offending her Don't know if this is the best place to ask this, I'm new here.

My girlfriend has a 14 year old boy. He has minor setbacks like mild autism, makes him socially awkward but besides that can function fine on his own. 

Anyways, he has next to no responsibilities. Bringing the trash barrels up, that's it. She was complaining to me today because she has to go home on her lunch break to let the dogs outside, then go back to work. (Round trip, no time to eat unless while driving) I suggested just having her kid take the dogs out when he gets home from school, but she doesn't trust him to do it, she thinks he'll leave them outside too long, and when I suggested taking them out with a leash, she thinks they're too strong for him (I disagree).

He comes home from school and sits in front of a screen for 7 hours then goes to bed. Repeat next day. No activities, no friends, no responsibilities. I know this sub isn't for relationship advice, but are there any step-parents out there that can give me advice on how to go about telling her he needs more responsibilities? Not necessarily just the dog issue- literally anything. He doesn't even clean his room or make his bed, or food for himself. To make things worse, her brother  lives with them, who is  the same way. 30+ years old and won't even make himself food. I obviously don't want his to turn out like that, as that could be a very enticing role model for him. The girlfriend and I are good about talking things out, without fighting, but I figure this one could hurt pretty personally if I go about it the wrong way.

I know I need to talk this out with her, but any tips as to what I should say--or not say-- when I bring this up would be incredibly helpful. Thanks in advance!",5.228298030471944,6.014356336182335,5.220998389694042,84.81188405797101,68.25925925925927,8.041669763408894,28.366282670630497,8.04050195162591,1.5745945992815558,1418,46,294,17,23,442,192,351,0.111,0.784,0.105,0.3382,2,0,0,0,2,0,50.0,0,0,3,4,18,16,2,2,12,0,26,4,0,5,1,50,54,23,0,9,16,2,1,2,4,4,0,1,7,3,18,14,4,0,6,0,0,11,15,7,0,1,1,3,39,9,48,44,4,51,0,1,2,0,56,16,0,4,22,186,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18843623669880455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113448669933875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934343203435776,0.0,0.09013739803178407,0.0,0.0,0.07413914789968956,0.0,0.05877524629960665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118427494322406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305518579642507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396314337937148,0.0,0.0,0.062181346218547484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865922890859206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736577080548753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331769792077749,0.0,0.07449196342221284,0.0,0.05037419273140873,0.09249250392624576,0.21918527263245444,0.0808704702034181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462665437750369,0.0,0.2901440056705975,0.0,0.09495186933190072,0.0,0.10321698623313068,0.0,0.0,0.1006348768168598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896569922673875,0.0,0.0,0.10209226860539726,0.0,0.0985934819516606,0.0,0.09420949376665314,0.0,0.0851384670630968,0.08532650163708681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25743786525737417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298478989873956,0.0,0.09312067493890737,0.20508232605947666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023480085103947,0.0,0.06533503022599987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706028400901138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418808957919835,0.100735823008044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809131564934293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035163702560701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533502184899266,0.0,0.19515942525587734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828555465007534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007965624448027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498800332233353,0.15499355612845192,0.08427319239697299,0.08876833006422084,0.0,0.0,0.12811107786554768,0.12356095148951285,0.0,0.0,0.05622185139053319,0.0,0.09139256784450307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487461228360408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955458011456723,0.0568695717288568,0.15306353376732548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588616371313085,0.0,0.07019312799373005,0.0,0.09825772520390633,0.06849226435245287,0.1054174599497514,0.0,0.12417948783126467
parenting,clearwindows,2019/01/07,"Fuck American parenting culture Does anyone else ever get extremely sick of how we are taught to raise our children and structure our values in America? We’re expected to be silently pregnant, give a quick birth and get our lazy asses back to work within a month after birth. And who is expected to raise that beautiful baby you just birthed? Who gives a fuck, just drop it off at the local daycare to sit with strangers for 8 hours a day. I’m a stay at home mom with a 2 year old and family has been asking me when I will be going back to work literally since I was pregnant. Nobody fucking actually cares about how our children are raised in this country, just pay someone else to do it so you can keep doing what’s important, making money to buy shit! I am so sick of this!! I constantly feel like every single one of my most important values are the complete opposite of what American values actually are, and it is so ostracizing to do that everyday. America is a CONSUMER country that only cares about money and materialistic things. Ugh, this is such a rant but I am fucking fed up with this bullshit. Nobody values people who don’t have money or “cool” shit that just gets thrown out every season. All living beings are what are important in this world not just the handful of “wealthy” people across the globe. ",6.183340000000001,7.024503684000004,6.787750000000003,74.22762500000002,66.16,9.61,31.625,9.673873057562805,3.0444600000000004,1051,40,183,21,16,345,147,250,0.12,0.773,0.108,-0.727,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,2,0,2,18,11,6,0,12,1,25,11,4,3,2,29,44,14,0,2,8,2,2,1,0,1,2,0,1,2,19,11,1,1,1,0,5,1,2,7,0,1,4,3,14,4,31,36,3,33,0,0,0,5,18,12,7,2,18,130,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.2407959934549564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626795390027588,0.1264141507016054,0.0,0.0,0.11534068903661293,0.0,0.0,0.18973834590437635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515818182916173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935826747482992,0.133326531633063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956785390612743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796790250120332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20613103383577128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160141357874076,0.20790061470907456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163087027658179,0.0,0.062383036436105065,0.08814043783789008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562395952675834,0.1933779172521169,0.23670861077691704,0.07011790035028141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375702821333988,0.0,0.12150133322235525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966300258553044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027569112325967,0.0,0.1089440084693356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235499751288013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449746172301914,0.09847821514067584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129463237437504,0.0,0.08360333855917944,0.0938336449987535,0.0,0.0,0.1369953781193082,0.0,0.0,0.1710679299837426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532891028098831,0.1020585954722619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045367946053658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150329367465108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196608908671298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17963961519229005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945063871058952
parenting,avstaaa,2019/01/07,"Baby’s first food We’re about to introduce our second baby to food, and I’m wondering what you all gave to your children as their first foods? We started our first on rice cereal mixed with breast milk, but our pediatrician now recommends not using rice cereal. We quickly switched to vegetables (peas first I believe) for our first, as she didn’t care much for the rice cereal. I remember hearing that you should do veggies before fruit or else the baby will not like vegetables after having the sweeter fruit, but I am guessing that is probably a myth. Anyway, I am just curious what everyone else gave first! ",10.33557522123894,8.438757424778764,9.723115044247788,65.60573451327436,58.82300884955753,13.641769911504426,39.4141592920354,12.340626583579946,4.9087642477876114,491,19,83,13,5,158,75,113,0.024,0.888,0.08800000000000001,0.8035,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,6,3,1,6,5,2,0,0,4,0,8,9,1,1,1,16,17,6,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,4,8,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,3,3,15,2,12,12,2,11,0,0,0,1,15,1,0,3,11,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571580460202192,0.15321195128220588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386488681757184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272011127933936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994239823613954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6940281354568181,0.4933118271096107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498061556157603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326840247502072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643688649282338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996685513560273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466181055407301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404793811148745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962530334361734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745000300754785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747322667630045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheTaoOfBill,2019/01/07,"Had to fight the urge to punt a 3 year old bully at a playground picking on my son. This little asshole...

Took my 2 year old son to a playground. Never had an experience as bad as this.

There was this three year old little monster there. 

First incident: My son was playing on the ground and this kid just barrels right over him. I swear he had enough time to see him there. It's not like he turned a corner or something. Just ran straight into him and kept running. My son was crying. At the moment I assumed kid is 3 it was probably an accident.

So I comforted my son and told him it was an accident. Told him to dust himself off and keep playing.

Second incident happened a few minutes later. Same little buttface walked up to my son and pushed him on the ground. My son cried and tried to get back up and the little shit pushed him back on the ground, called him a baby and ran away.

No parent in site whatsoever. So I caught up to him and said ""HEY! THAT'S NOT NICE! DON'T PUSH!"" He ran away and hid because I guess I can be a bit intimidating lol

Comforted my son again and told him some kids just aren't all that nice and you should just not play with them.

Clark didn't much feel like playing on the playground anymore because he didn't want to get knocked down again. So we went to the field next door to kick a ball around with some other little kids. Thankfully he made some friends there and he was kicking the ball back and forth with them. 

But it wasn't much longer before the kid followed us out onto the field.

Third incident. He B-lined straight across the field, pushed my son down and took the ball from him.

I chased him down, took the ball from him and yelled at him again to stop pushing. Walked away and heard him whining behind me.

This whole time I still had not seen a single parent. But now I'm like a hawk on this kid making sure he doesn't get anywhere near Clark.

I watched him play with 3 older brothers it looked like. Which is my guess where he learned his bullying behavior from. Probably was on the wrong end of it himself a few times.

Finally my attention paid off. Dad came by to check on them before heading back to a park bench to bury his head in his phone again. Must be why he didn't notice his kid terrorizing the playground.

So I waited for the inevitable...

Fourth Incident. He again B-Lined it to Clark. Again knocked him down and took his ball. 

This time I was ready though. Picked the little shit up, held him like I was holding radioactive material. Took him straight to his dad who still had his face in his phone. Told him that his son had pushed my son over on 4 separate occasions and I was sick of nothing being done about it. I was shaking, adrenaline rushed, and pissed.

I am so thankful the dad was actually really apologetic about it. Made his son apologize to mine. And kept his son benched while his brothers got to play. 

I'm thankful he did the right thing in the end and actually parented his child. 

Because if he had been combative about it I don't know if I could have controlled my anger at that point. ",2.549665570175435,4.703022310855263,3.00947368421053,92.48464912280704,77.53618421052632,6.306140350877192,23.331140350877188,7.342069886334093,0.7893383771929825,2407,77,511,31,57,744,256,608,0.13699999999999998,0.8009999999999999,0.062,-0.9922,4,0,1,0,2,0,66.0,2,1,3,2,38,30,5,2,36,1,41,7,6,6,4,75,87,36,0,6,13,21,1,5,1,2,1,3,1,8,25,31,0,8,5,11,2,23,14,10,0,4,51,8,73,20,74,30,13,113,0,1,4,0,97,56,3,9,39,327,98,1,0.0,0.0,0.12917402834860586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563773705931067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05891868338070458,0.0,0.0,0.18654896279217145,0.2035687232250749,0.05526171171302169,0.12103728784391993,0.0,0.11263712306174208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225687988581933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758228647036922,0.07569800984395356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423210702043068,0.052843338184611496,0.0,0.14540223270500774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773023548832104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724053318052975,0.06838679892783317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474163138465475,0.0,0.0,0.033465125401170484,0.04728257830444309,0.0,0.07250243405889878,0.0,0.056296928475342636,0.0,0.0,0.05113436798904842,0.0,0.10373679481420432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052934191823966095,0.0,0.14582048185666804,0.0,0.058527178257591024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584981184908107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882827036084544,0.0,0.0,0.03637354594358193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167324302561994,0.39800855363176657,0.0,0.0,0.05557873215136348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525169743377165,0.044179002444108856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730718291015092,0.0,0.051045953341846084,0.0,0.07038849996030737,0.0,0.0,0.06350629396996693,0.07535206289245985,0.2083500767131665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204718351360996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256621931173371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427172515774232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04239980673230272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304325932480434,0.06295709265059746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052740877203899576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587590589573956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050952447670426136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571085540400543,0.05533362483208297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062378580657584524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280277147012305,0.0,0.0,0.04397037410546449,0.0,0.06502642794577013,0.0,0.1543720265089352,0.0,0.0,0.2529704209619471,0.36766985970837374,0.044935271528934985,0.07199027614325816,0.0,0.0,0.07961240767443882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03903762868593972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061354159480626363,0.05972166944598041,0.07389319058529649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236290925759081,0.0,0.12786291303932762
parenting,SparklesinBard,2019/01/07,"Daughter wanting to help mother with daughter moving out. (Empty nest) Not sure if I should post here but maybe some other moms and dad can help me help my mother better.  


(Backstory you don't need to read but..)  
This year has been rough on my mom. She has been divorced since I was 18 (I am 24 now) and my father does little to co-parent. My sister moved away to the south and she and my mom has had an explosive relationship and while they talk they are not on great terms. My little brother who does have challenges just failed out of school and lost a fulltime job my mom got him. This has made it so my father doesn't pay child support for him so my mom can't afford the house and my brother having to live with my father my mom living with her longtime boyfriend and me moving out. (I have just gotten a good full-time job and had been planning on moving out anyway this summer.) I have always been my moms rock, though all of this I stood by her heard her vent and did whatever I could for my mom.  


(Real question)  
My mom is handing me moving out very poorly. I just moved out this Friday and she already has plans to sleep over my house all week...She has come to my apartment crying and having an anxiety attack twice. I want to help her be good while also figuring myself out. Any advice?",2.622172234346145,4.569009216216216,3.3353298640255176,91.20676179284875,76.52895752895753,5.430988752727884,19.755078059425884,6.046907544983943,-0.04307063958368351,1013,22,206,6,23,319,142,259,0.095,0.804,0.101,-0.0426,4,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,0,1,2,6,10,10,1,0,6,0,29,2,2,1,3,44,40,21,0,6,8,20,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,23,0,0,2,2,2,7,5,3,0,1,14,3,42,7,28,23,4,30,0,2,0,0,43,16,0,3,6,146,50,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709970424634422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577473307356755,0.054912243935503945,0.057135684037812724,0.0,0.0,0.04669529294456351,0.0,0.05252936762232984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811758545537846,0.06451404787573306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072957272198684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914975273013024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482428203077595,0.0,0.07542647084363477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018030867829455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518770970969135,0.05491854151018465,0.0757046019100452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841017193351204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846288725298344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628098943661696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764291422277794,0.12126682340938842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749571439762471,0.0,0.0,0.06497351057717815,0.0,0.0,0.06898431244690968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7237880071634278,0.0,0.43788709317636537,0.0,0.050915032490626864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576312905284222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692173096938931,0.0,0.0686846677299729,0.07815703845954262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372167848946892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949374464788899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680129567670785,0.0,0.0687156755378833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792146033603439,0.0647169731538046,0.0,0.0,0.05519119867019852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746408057526923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056656712006639465,0.0810020728597316,0.0,0.05507979208371665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044218707892467804
parenting,420peanut,2019/01/07,"5 year old struggles with washing hair in the bath/shower We don’t know what to do. He screams and cries when it’s time to get his hair wet and shampoo. He’s done this for 2 years now, and we don’t know what to do. Rewards don’t work, threats to take his tv away don’t work, and we avoid spankings for things like this. Anyone have any tips to deal with this?",1.9776923076923083,3.0304088205128217,2.3389743589743617,101.44769230769234,76.1794871794872,5.2,21.974358974358974,3.1291,-0.5139641025641026,280,7,71,0,6,85,50,78,0.155,0.775,0.07,-0.7003,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,3,2,6,1,2,1,0,8,3,2,0,0,12,12,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,9,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,4,5,2,11,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,7,38,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052571714165253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856197260085469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494136779975711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29160150588789485,0.0,0.27368338604735604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716634854239888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869482387374518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917859120677924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969308724081705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785615002427002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775222930102509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19959710016413668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636355460401332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547951312697455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865242496746761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419022967836152
parenting,OnlyInMyDreams73,2019/01/07,How can I teach my teenage son respect? My 13 year old son just stormed out of the house crying and saying he is going to jump off of a bridge after an argument in which I took his iPad away from him because he was being disrespectful.  We walk on eggshells around him and are afraid to talk to him because we don't know how he's going to respond...with attitude or venom.  How do we get through to him so we can relax and be happy again?,7.646318681318682,4.996557780219785,7.675906593406597,80.55034340659344,64.6043956043956,10.41868131868132,34.837912087912095,8.07648339933343,2.43945934065934,342,11,75,3,4,111,67,91,0.058,0.8340000000000001,0.108,0.6931,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,3,0,15,14,8,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,9,0,0,1,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,1,13,3,16,10,0,15,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,4,52,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24952066890356064,0.0,0.0,0.26334499974254416,0.0,0.0,0.3417286706826221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078892830156693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644180163078035,0.0,0.3185945468781388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29837767654478003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323421102666049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404199471995098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941209110849606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22290066657620697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252893234600648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114164270688923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049984463829846
parenting,Foodie012,2019/01/07,"Might be off topic, but I need suggestions for a 11yr old girl’s birthday plans. I plan to go super extravagant this time and I want it to be her dream birthday party. I am not the parent of the child, but rather a super close friend of the mother and child. She is a very kind hearted girl, but she usually gets everything she wants when it comes to materials like toys. Last year, I went over to help out in her birthday party of 5 or 6 kids and it did not end too well. The bday girl was sad and she walked closer to her mother and away from the other kids. It wasn’t her fault,however. Some were mean and the many of them were really annoying. I even went as far to remind some of them that this is ( girl name)’s bday and not theirs. Some were blatantly disrespectful when I did their make up for them and one girl constantly said that she was ugly. My budget is less than $2k but above $1k. This is most likely going to be a one time thing. It is going to be a 2day thing and hotel cost and food cost is included in the budget. Also, the budget includes 2 adults. 

TLDR: $1k to $2k budget——————————
birthday plan needed————————————
2day plan with maybe once in a lifetime experience——————————————————
Cost for 2 adults included",2.0554063079777407,3.9098122122449017,3.539304267161413,89.52261131725417,77.89795918367345,6.7402597402597415,19.299628942486088,7.686295010490155,0.4687551020408161,932,20,201,14,22,307,130,245,0.057,0.7959999999999999,0.146,0.9752,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,5,6,7,9,1,0,14,0,20,2,1,1,1,34,33,19,0,4,9,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,11,13,14,1,0,1,3,6,7,4,2,1,2,11,1,22,7,29,17,5,28,0,1,0,0,32,11,0,6,12,130,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292318590659254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182898649418644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920451907925432,0.0,0.17463272762823762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313007477293413,0.0,0.0,0.10673560417764767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523610664303788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195407962427126,0.0,0.12485214311452278,0.0,0.08442958986774371,0.0,0.27552385958935544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191497367020578,0.10831740674654916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828204987060782,0.0,0.13172597358568905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789968015520878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786958659565468,0.16383753975663629,0.16234941981918805,0.17603031604161545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714325898017894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119824720892738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957253747150594,0.1720992552348941,0.21900935804132124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17943822778859272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352541639515978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371907878806934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472037913093292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846109871447292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798011669880584,0.13333733419782454,0.1906323201097316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529825424212592,0.2996105594494497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406542178732546
parenting,Froad1961,2019/01/07,"11 months out of the year there's nothing… Has anyone else run into this pattern with other parents? 

You chat with the parents of your kid's classmate. The parents are too busy for playdates or to text you back. OK, you and your kid have enough friends, whatever. 

A few months later they suddenly want to have your kid over and they are chatty and want to know about you. Maybe the parent finally warmed up to you? Oh, and by the way, their kid's birthday party is coming up, you should totally come!

Then, after the party, they are suddenly really busy again. No texts back, no more invites to group activities. Until next year, one month before their kid's birthday party. Then the parents totally want to get coffee with you and they want to have your kid over for a playdate! Oh, and by the way, there's a birthday party coming up…

We moved in the past year and it's been hard for the parents and the kid to find people to hang out with. It hurts when you feel like you're making friends only to realize they just wanted good numbers for their kid's birthday party.

I guess I'd just like to hear if other parents are seeing this pattern. If so, when you realize a parent is like this, do you still send your kid to the party the next year? Or do you have any other perspective to offer?",4.0756672192291745,5.482229248031498,4.582739328636553,86.01723373394117,71.48031496062994,7.079651885619563,25.179444674678827,7.475848149327749,1.1810267716535434,1015,30,198,11,19,322,118,254,0.034,0.802,0.16399999999999998,0.984,8,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,16,8,0,13,9,0,0,17,1,15,0,0,1,2,40,30,18,0,8,6,8,3,3,2,1,0,1,0,9,8,19,0,0,5,1,0,7,2,1,0,1,1,5,26,8,36,28,5,41,0,1,1,0,49,8,0,5,27,136,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741216703481052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059032202631807834,0.0865037991786797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298358425818115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183979713103146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21817501955764126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052658842566087,0.0,0.0,0.0872340064780094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04268801891303264,0.06031352259168338,0.0,0.09248389896184048,0.07716328605718713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045370914678375,0.0,0.04410878694283187,0.0,0.0,0.07081201994022401,0.0,0.0,0.0930040962462262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562857551467389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951535615923149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037913677174778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04639799189634529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373795776843435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056354610039114676,0.0,0.08481666179255958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021626463190482,0.08973083920069952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957474125947867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05720883595113679,0.0642093210145074,0.0,0.0,0.7499553245562044,0.0,0.08059359718327737,0.05852994217457564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05408507304246234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727611316499807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742223345502853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489814413794269,0.13402590559928376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746875828360532
parenting,trashymob,2019/01/07,"Overnight potty training Hello there! 

So my 3 year old has had some difficulty potty training. We finally got him to the point of peeing in the potty by cold-turkeying him during the day. 

But. 

Then we had trouble bc he wouldn't poop in the potty. Just hold it in until bed time or doing it first thing in the morning before he got into his undies. Then I looked up Jamie Glowacki (I think there was a post here) and we did cold-turkey at night. And it worked! 2nd night he was doing it and has had no trouble since! 

So here's my problem. Now, I'm walking up 2x a night to take him to pee bc he's in big boy underwear and he's also having accidents between the potty breaks. I'm exhausted. He's cranky. We're going through a ton of detergent and our water bill is way up. I don't want to put him back in pull ups bc I thought that would be undoing all the work we've worked for. But I don't have any other options for him at night.

Please halp.",0.5126267702147089,2.6748250251256347,2.406068981269989,93.92321037003201,85.18090452261308,5.025216994061215,19.59821836455002,6.351523495107088,0.024736683417085008,736,21,162,7,22,244,119,199,0.104,0.884,0.012,-0.9389,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,0,0,4,10,4,0,0,10,0,18,5,3,0,1,24,28,14,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,7,9,1,1,2,0,1,4,4,4,0,1,9,1,17,0,25,16,3,37,0,0,1,0,18,15,0,3,15,102,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293608727789248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000358785321362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438485824167295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764739850820967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432299471711087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720217211602635,0.0,0.13759452546361609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193297278631267,0.0,0.25875141689155223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583919200113584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6072100577812178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974182376700656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756590736905534,0.15291721039489867,0.0,0.15492311297532602,0.0,0.0,0.15478421983737953,0.0,0.1626153127509359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381105300200408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162476067564285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746736852879853,0.1036504456189848,0.0,0.12842081984984605,0.0943246208434661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541131531925963,0.1283990070628936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532936048922249,0.0,0.0,0.1149109591016316,0.0,0.0,0.10416931154451592
parenting,ThrabenValiant,2019/01/07,"Waking up a household... Hi, I'm a married, active duty, father of 2 (2yo and 6yo). I'm the obly one in the house who manages to get up to an alarm. What are some tips/tricks/methods that you all have used to make mornings easier?",1.6437500000000007,3.048049208333336,3.59416666666667,90.6675,77.75,5.633333333333334,22.416666666666664,5.985473137389443,0.2968166666666665,174,5,38,1,4,59,41,48,0.052000000000000005,0.828,0.12,0.4767,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,2,1,1,2,1,6,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,7,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,22,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895828837621545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6395524675099643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699791270517029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755872886025596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4787107988338555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,surrogacycentreg,2019/01/07,"How can a single male have a child? Answered  Singles can have a child through IVF and Surrogacy using egg or sperm donation services. Or Can adopt a child.

Many people live in for their child while having no sexual relationship or etc is called [**Platonic Parenting**](https://www.surrogacycentregeorgia.com/parenting/what-is-platonic-parenting/)**.**",6.913397435897437,10.049764826923075,6.523076923076926,56.013589743589755,102.65384615384615,8.656410256410256,27.41025641025641,8.07648339933343,3.927802564102565,289,12,36,9,12,90,39,52,0.049,0.913,0.038,-0.128,3,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,2,0,7,8,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,3,2,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,1,25,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.401337347857646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383430185215122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470611432294944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3984804363921519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724841511902508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219774097813377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394599961488218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brazzy42,2019/01/07,"Great example of why you should never get into a battle of wills with your child: ""The Hand Licking Incident"". Where I define ""battle of wills"" as trying to make your child do what you want, against their resistance, with escalating methods of punishment.

I've been thinking for a while about this after some experiences with my 2 year old and some posts I read here, then I just saw a blog article that gives a really good example of this parenting pitfall: https://raisingfutureadults.blogspot.com/2019/01/the-hand-licking-incident.html

I think the most important points to take away are:

* respect your child and understand the reasons for their behaviour before you try to change it.
* never see compliance as a goal in itself.
* always reconsider your basic approach before escalating your methods.",11.85160714285714,12.715378,9.610178571428571,58.73125000000002,54.15625,12.626785714285715,37.816964285714285,12.031772070788634,4.986277678571428,656,25,90,17,7,196,89,128,0.024,0.815,0.161,0.9447,1,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,0,8,2,1,4,6,3,0,8,0,6,1,1,2,2,19,16,6,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,6,6,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,4,15,3,21,11,3,14,0,0,2,0,15,5,0,3,7,68,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180717112216636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270255725833076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309440607589138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057140057411108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19022022054709076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159787227256156,0.18654475814972174,0.0,0.16310470216678938,0.0,0.21439399356604089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12980426054664926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999606990139564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405415956599648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159259825404555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382854713013194,0.0,0.18623993140854173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451367340763384,0.0,0.1245767277604362,0.1999383463135847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549602794833297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621050823720294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24920557703509302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640525756848135,0.0,0.0,0.20244081055209448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146981652988584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547085067966775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522654021298615
parenting,19jay86,2019/01/07,"Working mums, is it worth it? I have a 4yr old and 2.5yr and have just been offered a job. I’ve said yes because it’s a step back into the working world after 4yrs out and it just fell into my lap, which I see as a blessing because I know it can be tough for mums to re enter the workforce after a large absence. But the mum guilt is starting to creep in. Do you resent not spending every day with your kids, teaching them things watching them learn etc? Or do you feel like the time you do have with them is better quality because you have less of it? 
If you could choose would you stay at home with your kids or re enter the work force? Any advice, kind words, pearls of wisdom welcome and appreciated  ",4.662766122766122,4.992988874125878,4.964708624708628,87.76791763791763,69.34965034965036,6.914996114996116,27.077700077700076,5.82211442006289,0.8508529914529914,551,16,116,2,9,174,94,143,0.035,0.7879999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.9718,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,8,3,4,3,9,1,1,10,1,15,0,0,0,0,24,20,9,0,3,7,3,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,8,10,0,0,4,0,2,4,1,3,0,0,2,4,15,6,16,15,2,18,1,0,2,0,19,6,0,3,8,78,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005886818983332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392227813998309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574240101289886,0.0,0.374402804628477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810662166230755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345949562057613,0.0,0.0,0.132033307021374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22832701981455786,0.0,0.0,0.17249306311692386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351716426097456,0.14625848151915888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535993997553856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031620020438887,0.0,0.0,0.21319381164969864,0.11251373736266293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002027755319397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21482870955315114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474421874054432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314255462473196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490828254967775,0.2182139381131408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601289056375893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193791613945815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471355824275648,0.0,0.0,0.1454336504078307,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_trsh_pnd_,2019/01/07,"Three year old enjoying causing pain Last night my three year old head butted my mom and split her lip. She cried, mostly out of anger and frustration. I tried to ask him why he'd do that and ""doesn't it feel bad when you get hurt?"" but he just sat there smirking and refused to apologize. 

Then, today, we had a playdate with his very best friend and went out to lunch as well. At the restaurant, they have these large dinosaur toys lining the walls for children to play with. My son and his best friend were happily playing with some dinosaurs, when out of nowhere he whacked his friend in the head, and smirked while his friend cried. Only when I took the dinosaur away did he apologize, and even then he made a fart sound after apologizing. 

I'm at my wits end. I try to teach him empathy and kindness, but I think I'm failing. 

Help!",4.317249488752555,5.684686159509204,3.8240644171779152,91.8393277096115,70.84049079754601,7.151124744376278,27.080265848670763,7.492282038375204,1.1891394683026584,656,22,139,7,12,195,109,163,0.098,0.618,0.284,0.9922,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,1,3,7,17,2,0,6,0,7,5,3,2,0,27,17,19,0,0,4,2,1,0,4,0,1,1,0,1,3,16,1,1,2,3,0,2,1,6,1,2,7,2,20,11,20,9,4,25,0,2,0,0,29,8,0,2,15,83,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211815179545033,0.0,0.13277783568527166,0.0,0.11799900199433913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29662004202845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517789635211634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104738853555396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125170443329996,0.0,0.0,0.09334266690774852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145727623241592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.436743937404835,0.0,0.07383555979189388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900768311802586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947259885410533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512894509136937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716640664235622,0.0,0.11519730243943085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337234663670341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655160701868106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262228687029565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965899336749943,0.0,0.0,0.10748269198851812,0.15037789096875004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055422555644092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395790665266735,0.0,0.1570153191572738,0.1918984059811361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166064732409236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706656464348148,0.13100805897059256,0.12752224231955794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201506568213924
parenting,xsarahwhitex,2019/01/07,"Do you want cursive taught to your kids in school? Some people think it’s needed for signatures because of passports that can be denied without a cursive one. 

Some people think it’s good for motor skills. 

Some people think it’s phased out but what do you personally want for your kid and why?",5.419285714285714,6.865190928571433,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,68.28571428571428,7.028571428571429,26.5,7.1686216300943375,1.2672285714285714,236,7,43,2,4,72,39,56,0.036000000000000004,0.875,0.09,0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,11,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,8,9,3,2,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,3,0,28,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572562863095596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21637322881592985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191281691476118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748073358449257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5365323252216155,0.2252496952753708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610796924406316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4958908108628328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30431510600594425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23277805005163316,0.0,0.0,0.2486741410903573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nepstojirts,2019/01/07,"How to continue vaccination when you move from US to EU? Different countries have different vaccination schedules. How to handle the move between countries for infants? I am going to speak to our pediatrician too, but wanted to hear if you have any experience with it.",6.641304347826086,9.491769869565221,7.62108695652174,60.905978260869595,67.69565217391305,10.686956521739132,37.58695652173913,10.686352973137794,5.172147826086956,218,12,31,7,4,73,34,46,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,6,6,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,10,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,3,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18377796078343128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5647034459426405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643544776040466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358821104973308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30458922583628223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5744618780089551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325075164024443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939931876073116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deepikakalani,2019/01/07,Mother toddler syllabus I am looking at various mother toddler schools. But not able to come across any concrete mother toddler school syllabus. Any parents willing to share their experience about syllabus at schools? I appreciate your help and inputs. ,8.179749999999999,11.962689475000005,6.599999999999998,65.555,66.75,7.0,47.5,8.07648339933343,5.23175,209,15,23,3,4,62,29,40,0.0,0.8220000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.765,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,6,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,0,16,4,6,0.2488028546334384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383889459283282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214321628756377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24337693335623314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676730892170508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893173529192888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762661262377099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7554053155185115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shy_idle,2019/01/07,"Pretty sure my husband is sick of me being exhausted I have a baby who hardly sleeps. At 10 months old, he takes two 45 minute naps a day, then wakes every 2 hours overnight. Still. I got used to having this little sleep and very little alone time, but then Christmas came. I was looking forward to being around so much family so they could help with the baby. Boy was I wrong. Instead it just meant that I had to sit out of playing all the games. So not only was I trying to get my non-sleeper to sleep in a strange place, but I could see all the fun I waa missing out on. 

But then my mom offered to babysit New Year's Eve! We went out to an escape room and dinner with my sister and her husband, our best friends. We decided to go home to play games after the kids were in bed. We get home to a sleeping baby! I go to the bathroom and when I get out, baby is awake. He wouldn't go back to sleep for 3 1/2 more hours. So my great night out was spent looking after my baby. 

Cut back to real life and after the hecticness of the holidays and irregular bedtimes, my little one now thinks bedtime is 9:30 instead of 7:30. So there go my whole evenings. This has led to me crying. Every. Single. Night. I am so worn out. I actually took a pregnancy test because I was like, ""Maybe I'm hormonal."" Nope. Just exhausted. 

But my husband is getting pretty sick and tired of all the crying. Last night he actually just walked away when he found me crying and interpreted something I was blubbering as being offensive. Tonight, after doing the two hour bedtime fight, I swore at the baby and he got after me. 

I'm feeling like a pretty bad failure because it seems like I can't handle my life. I was into a really good routine before the holidays, but now I can't fit in the dishes or cooking, it seems, let alone any alone time to recuperate and find the energy to do everything that's slipping out of control. My husband has been trying to help with stuff around the house, but it honestly makes me feel worse. He's the one that likes I clean house (I couldn't care less) so every time he is doing the dishes and cleaning up the toys it just reinforces my feelings of being a failure because I wasn't able to give him what he wants. 

TL;DR I can't stop crying because I'm so tired from my life. ",2.323038302277432,4.314127032608695,3.739254658385093,87.7613768115942,77.58695652173913,6.207039337474121,23.561076604554863,7.1686216300943375,0.9229337474120088,1785,58,359,21,42,587,224,460,0.166,0.674,0.16,-0.4514,0,3,1,0,1,0,56.0,4,0,1,2,25,22,3,0,26,0,36,19,6,4,4,66,72,32,0,5,12,6,4,4,1,1,9,0,6,2,13,28,4,2,11,9,1,10,8,8,0,4,20,7,47,14,54,43,9,68,0,1,3,0,32,25,0,3,38,235,60,1,0.06703800833258458,0.0,0.13083885156728378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20829347708120954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04558814449741645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935608059824045,0.0,0.0,0.06298441558475276,0.10309618079691374,0.05597393677822938,0.16346299062098488,0.0,0.05704440750840845,0.0,0.07035225382860744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667362240328184,0.0683497173441171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518882670254419,0.1070487894423676,0.0,0.2945524171639337,0.04323396945846004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04427797225315764,0.0,0.16944724003738051,0.0,0.06024943925359622,0.0,0.06319746802600691,0.0,0.10168929383918704,0.04789196654762585,0.0,0.0,0.06127152512006091,0.0,0.0,0.0735037159502205,0.051793398942785104,0.0,0.14009836984807425,0.06430896616212266,0.15239698010766434,0.05622830079260952,0.10723283860435212,0.07390964085163403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060052887859227674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898683277695275,0.0,0.13448917660535967,0.0,0.19805680328747524,0.154705721841025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464492423483894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855090548409319,0.14205278350423425,0.13100553860281494,0.2015690875978556,0.0,0.0,0.11259008609107228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04474839112066612,0.0,0.06734868989082511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785141051350754,0.05350909867116276,0.0,0.04928064961654957,0.0,0.0,0.06474572618788102,0.0,0.18873188862270865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034511273824083,0.0,0.09085337880690306,0.0509854261852811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004045039480886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20460526521982333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763039299702817,0.042946264744163264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053420613200872095,0.122057770028949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025185342827993,0.0,0.0,0.05160913399518235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353664005092765,0.056046776729347166,0.0,0.0,0.0767424808378372,0.0,0.0,0.06318252949122051,0.0,0.05040423928302735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042955248863383706,0.0,0.0,0.11727120529233713,0.1541006577777897,0.0,0.0,0.07448169390571951,0.09102881433477218,0.0,0.13097278627468334,0.0,0.0,0.0578993151062555,0.0,0.05531337766257444,0.039540754209462826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214490534937143,0.0,0.07484554223803433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831745770818208,0.0,0.07329553830882705,0.0,0.043170279438745136
parenting,red-bearded,2019/01/07,"Looking for a way to schedule what apps my son can use on his tablet. My son got an iPad for Christmas and he’s a bit of a gaming addict. We have a rule that the kids can’t play video games on school days until after school on Friday. I would like to set it up so I can schedule the apps on his tablet. He can use educational apps, Netflix, kindle, all the time but can only play games from Friday afternoon until Sunday evening.

I can’t achieve this with any native setting on the device and all the parental control apps focus on adult content blocking or setting a time limit for the apps.

I would at least like to find an app that will let me turn off access to certain apps and I can turn them back on Friday afternoon.

If anyone has a suggestion, I would appreciate it. Thanks!",3.6216666666666697,5.04518776433121,4.394028662420382,86.86242303609345,72.63057324840764,6.507218683651806,25.18524416135881,6.816661863887847,0.9157180467091296,617,19,124,5,12,198,94,157,0.022,0.851,0.128,0.9407,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,3,3,6,0,0,14,0,14,1,0,3,3,20,21,9,0,4,3,3,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,2,6,5,0,3,1,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,13,6,23,15,4,26,0,0,1,0,15,10,0,2,14,82,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19511257599271584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171126340655253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514566746161246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376231315785823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19539775915358368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073918763115284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542608506840385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821336453642033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16358276511191544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314515768399266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830172604328081,0.0,0.174879344096886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029654942386966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612093022745786,0.0,0.0,0.19873402878797125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622708383043417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477901236426865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872716967234653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893536134266707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091592724224964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206450602888313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814227776874193,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nomorenoobtube,2019/01/08,"Kids jacket stolen in kindergarten . I got my daughter a new jacket about a month ago, just a poofy black winter jacket as it was getting much colder here on the west coast. She has only worn it about two weeks at school because of break and I hadn't taken any pictures of it so its hard to memorize exactly how it looked, anyways, she came home yesterday and told me she had taken it off at recess and hung it up by her friends jacket because they were hot from running. When she went back over to get it it was gone but her friends was still there, one of the other girls told her she thought she saw someone else take it but wasn't sure who. They looked in lost and found and all around the field with no luck. I'm not super angry, things are a bit tight after Christmas but I get paid tomorrow and can get her a cuter new one off Amazon. I'm telling myself maybe this kid was just really cold and maybe didn't have one. But as a parent if my daughter came home with a jacket that wasn't hers, I feel like I would go take it back to the school and apologize. Did this kids parents just not realize they had a new jacket or was it desposed of, did someone steal it and throw it away? My daughter's gladly would have loaned it to someone cold if they had asked. I love her teacher and staff, they were sorry it happened even though its not their fault. Told my daughter she would just have to try to keep a better eye on it next time and I would take a picture and write her name in it. Here's to hoping a more unique jacket  will be easier to recognize ",4.634245283018867,4.951750003144657,4.7116289308176125,89.60216037735852,69.40880503144655,7.492075471698112,25.64842767295597,6.961326702584282,0.8704925786163527,1223,31,265,9,20,380,168,318,0.076,0.792,0.132,0.972,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,6,3,19,13,0,0,15,0,28,2,1,1,3,50,62,25,0,7,14,6,4,1,2,5,0,0,2,4,25,17,0,2,5,0,2,7,8,3,0,4,32,11,33,10,34,24,4,38,0,1,5,1,42,14,0,5,17,181,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704971548599412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678039581605189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742016584876358,0.0918051577414976,0.0,0.09226355337254108,0.1510218026340449,0.0,0.11972546081101836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685125734040725,0.10721061742871853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22463273770801706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203476255766037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486117269294876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965363522834733,0.07015517998634098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767288950276424,0.1517404895588101,0.0,0.20522494816976453,0.0,0.05581018247703395,0.0,0.0785407202401413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683927298372653,0.0,0.08796926624998906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970082473347825,0.09753625951762722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728601619134672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04797629854449793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492907524567638,0.0,0.10719855103848007,0.0,0.08863069886551098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973132365085277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838351019579078,0.0,0.07218941072830573,0.0,0.0,0.2845308974443637,0.10443842236961702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19963165856512954,0.07468667520995784,0.0,0.0,0.2180823160178432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291040335275566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987703462888745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496174680079221,0.0,0.0,0.1099285531085707,0.0,0.0,0.07842385454983931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255376314607837,0.0,0.2215059476911798,0.0,0.08583245012969619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524072121392198,0.0,0.09648248720767526,0.07796103152597376,0.05726209151951461,0.0,0.0,0.2815072599182608,0.0,0.06667238071387714,0.0,0.0959286082486884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877132971803485,0.0,0.0,0.0910337857119255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27903814710657826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BekkisButt,2019/01/08,"17 year old son acting different with new friends. His father, my ex-h, is happy our son's mad at me and refuses to make him follow rules. I am at a loss. He just turned 17.  His dad has always been one of those people who loves to upset others and push their buttons. So he refuses to make our kids follow rules and rarely disciplines them when they're at his house. When they're with me he's all ""oh yeah, so and so is grounded. Blah, blah, blah."" Then they go to his house and nothing. So he is happy that our oldest is mad at me. Says he drinks sometimes with his friends ""because he hates you."" Let's him go out on school nights after hes asleep. 

I know I have no control over how he parents them at his place. But how do I keep them in line and not hate me when he plays friend instead of dad?",0.725105042016807,2.69470048809524,2.0307843137254906,98.1044117647059,82.80952380952381,4.905322128851541,18.21568627450981,5.900188976854957,-0.4839801120448173,614,14,144,4,17,196,101,168,0.105,0.747,0.149,0.8816,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,1,5,2,12,13,4,1,1,1,11,3,1,5,1,24,23,17,0,0,3,6,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,4,10,1,5,1,2,0,6,2,6,0,1,1,1,27,7,19,21,1,27,0,1,0,1,41,11,0,0,10,84,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016919723078754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536333539370304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545885515625068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634447268278159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324997686963507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625915264951675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781498150479785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33306295764408256,0.0,0.3089008665553377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610175877292831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390495485396293,0.0,0.0,0.08597439821393801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599687603019392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411916730966914,0.0,0.20884755941671146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108908452751904,0.0,0.14680674670020244,0.0,0.15010676757592128,0.0,0.1641556796160443,0.0,0.1060066404254515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370621841808906,0.0,0.0,0.10845461948434243,0.0,0.1634447268278159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440601477028927,0.0,0.15832391097987716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472147836513536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015994751438132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074113587466507
parenting,ScrewWorkn,2019/01/08,"Appropriate Rewards 3 & 4 year old boys I've read Kazdin's book on dealing with difficult children.  I am trying for a second time to implement a reward program.  It's not easy to stay on top of it. 

I'm struggling with what to use as rewards.  We are trying to avoid food rewards because they get too many sweats to begin with.  iPad time is the simplest that I can think of.  

What worked for you?  What didn't?",0.9925301204819306,3.445451686746992,2.4325421686747006,92.4056807228916,86.34939759036146,4.765783132530121,22.757831325301204,6.2581,0.4870973493975908,322,12,66,3,10,104,62,83,0.112,0.715,0.172,0.7394,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,1,6,1,7,0,2,3,0,5,2,1,1,0,8,10,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,4,1,1,1,2,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,5,4,15,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,37,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796918097028803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573581882168078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661283671110066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121408185596092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348661588024994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617108491139448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708718211589017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25820729686812804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27514016605093605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269861301200581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540404919464152,0.0,0.0,0.301044035712297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505167559905158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229478682484054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879271316033221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623204877109732
parenting,Roflattack,2019/01/08,"Where can I find a large digital countdown clock? Specifically one that I can dim the digits so that it's not too bright. I also like the ability to turn off any sound it would make once it gets to zero.  
My son is having trouble going to sleep so I figure if I can find a countdown clock and set an alarm on my phone for 20 minutes and set the clock for 20 minutes he might fall asleep just watching the clock countdown waiting for Dad to come back.
my wife and I are about to beat our heads against the wall. Bedtime is a 3 hour ordeal.  I figure it's not a crazy thing to ask for from parents.
Do you know where I can buy a large digital clock that has a dimmable display and an alarm setting that I can turn off when it goes to zero?",4.7421789321789305,4.4622392207792245,5.182034632034632,88.38670274170275,69.12987012987013,7.8834054834054825,28.799422799422803,6.937597516519254,1.2653933621933622,576,18,129,4,9,184,89,154,0.07,0.883,0.047,-0.5315,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,1,10,5,0,2,13,0,13,3,3,1,0,18,22,9,0,2,4,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,1,5,0,1,3,2,3,0,3,0,3,14,2,17,20,0,20,0,0,2,0,9,6,0,2,9,86,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497767768130362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879439142360554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045524350188232,0.0,0.0,0.16824696035439807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848048497704414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999662365004696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431618851127395,0.0,0.12435149620533645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22455628297136576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21547810903727932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024909220563205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106896703103546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460535342552125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321167292587369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330193825991609,0.1482674208106623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429562231220378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21896226531997098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14536381958265168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4759923801373036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554322596299808,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsAntics,2019/01/08,"I have no idea how to handle my overly affectionate son(5yo). My son is the sweetest little boy on the planet.  For the most part, he follows the rules.  He's respectful of adults.  He's sooo goofy and fun.  When he started kindergarten, he made friends instantly.  Despite the fact that I'm ALWAYS telling him about stranger danger, he still trys to talk to strangers.  It's terrifying, quite honestly.  That's why my husband and I are always reiterating the point.  He wants to be everyone's friend.  A few months ago, his teacher tells me that a parent complained that my son made her daughter feel uncomfortable because she told her mommy that she didn't like the way he touched her.  This was all the teacher told me so I was obviously MORTIFIED!  (At this point I had no idea what he did to this little girl.)  I made it very clear to my son that it was not okay to touch his friends.  I came to find that he was giving her hugs and she didn't like it.  At that point, from the way the parent made it sound to the teacher, they made it sound like my 5yo was dome kind of assailant.  Knowing my son, I know very well he means nothing by it.  He is always super sweet and always giving hugs and kisses to his family members.  He always talks about how much he loves us and about how sweet we are.  I love how kind and affectionate he is.  The little girls mother eventually approached me with the issue.  To which I apologized to her profusely.  She said her daughter was coming home crying, saying she was scared to go to school because of my son.  By no means do I want this little girl scared to go to school.  I want her to be able to go to school and have fun and learn like every other kid.  I'm really upset that this girl feels this way and I want to fix it.  However, I don't think my son understands that he is hurting her feelings.  I spoke to him again and had him apologize to the girl and I told him over and over to keep his hands to himself.  Winter break came and went and I didn't think about it any longer.  My son was super excited to go back to school and he was so happy to see his friends again.  Unfortunately when I picked him up from school, his teacher stopped me and told me that he didn't get his sticker today(they give a sticker to the children to show the parents that they've been good that day) because he kissed three little girls today.  Right on the mouth.  Again, I'm mortified.  I told him this wasn't acceptable behavior a while ago.  I just wish I had reiterated.  One of the girls he kissed was the one whose mother approached me about the situation.  I don't even feel like I can face her when I drop my son off to school tomorrow.  So, I'm taking him in late so I don'thave to see any of the parents.  I've spoke to him about how this is not okay.  All night I've told him the same thing over and over and over.  Ive grounded my 5yo who has never been grounded before.  All because he is overly affectionate.  I'm terrified that some over the top parent is going to accuse my very young child of assault when he didn't understand that he's only allowed to hug and kiss family.  I don't know what more I can do other than avoid that woman instead of telling her time and time again that he really, really means nothing by it and I'm trying to make it stop.  I don't know what to do.  My boy is a sweet little gentleman and I feel like in his actions that are meant to express joy and love, he's making himself out to be a tiny assailant.",3.3333668582375466,4.772534415229888,4.135804597701149,88.36743295019156,73.38218390804597,7.1095785440613035,24.67049808429119,7.662118739084242,1.0612434865900382,2707,82,573,34,54,867,259,696,0.095,0.746,0.159,0.9943,7,1,0,0,0,0,67.0,2,0,1,4,30,50,2,4,29,2,49,13,3,14,7,88,115,38,0,5,3,18,8,6,4,0,0,6,1,14,46,30,0,4,22,1,0,13,16,8,1,3,40,19,86,42,76,72,10,75,0,1,2,10,125,30,0,2,33,353,132,7,0.05202911414686438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224134086816843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646195467812385,0.0,0.0,0.07076316354842939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04000717721338656,0.0,0.1268658602686019,0.0,0.04427294401365167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901489173970295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044818474864913284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057151538791345935,0.033554474363506816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03436473919574177,0.0,0.04383677266602599,0.049716048226032164,0.0,0.0,0.09809683669017068,0.0,0.1315374170630862,0.07433921908485698,0.0,0.0,0.04755366774335689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079025810427788,0.0,0.027183064719242568,0.14973320170176901,0.14784672290534528,0.043639552441788895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055385959486783466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05218944368397143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055698242785952375,0.11746907373253958,0.0,0.054304877581096325,0.0,0.04624586724712447,0.0,0.10836063185632493,0.1143753618249264,0.0,0.058691106986359716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251278248053796,0.3128810454832855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087492060935514,0.24615602908556944,0.06945967541144903,0.0,0.0,0.17002487449022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041529142525323914,0.0,0.03824738544454656,0.0,0.0401280603232068,0.0,0.0,0.04882579907798016,0.0,0.09984667651376944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051254853994593,0.03957048583036634,0.0,0.0,0.2888608701477906,0.05634246042089355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755299049404166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055339367285440484,0.0,0.0,0.09999354841227193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04443257919917228,0.04949160210092235,0.0413756398653169,0.10418043962672052,0.31593744731077145,0.08292093548586803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848290423550358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03682647478553147,0.0,0.04155051776643251,0.08699733827258231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03911941873529386,0.08363806224686753,0.13642721712118452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03456583155028675,0.0666763110035191,0.0,0.0,0.060677189732178276,0.0,0.09863503321318318,0.29829628935619296,0.0,0.0353243532249714,0.0,0.0,0.10832828546429488,0.06258461814281939,0.0,0.0,0.12878840430239327,0.12275247820674233,0.12389486716158113,0.0,0.0,0.04678042206344571,0.04823151007153244,0.046948182906524735,0.0,0.05983091355381349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,b0ym0m,2019/01/08,Kindergarten teacher I’m just curious if anyone else is having trouble with their child’s kindergarten teacher? My sons teacher has emailed me SEVERAL times (and I say that lightly) and asked me to come in twice now to discuss all the things he can’t do right. I understand if he’s having trouble with something that she would like us to help work on it with him but it’s coming down to nit picking now it feels like. ,3.7266550522648068,5.766500585365852,3.800522648083625,88.67914634146345,73.6341463414634,6.149128919860628,30.00696864111498,6.868970318607317,1.6119212543554,336,15,64,3,7,103,59,82,0.046,0.85,0.105,0.5859,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,16,13,5,0,3,4,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,3,9,2,10,12,1,9,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,2,5,43,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757639472138338,0.2575585615103773,0.0,0.0,0.2349972830336668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330664836172435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20998761714068906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710036841570638,0.17957898110637313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848820269821804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24561364710499026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21466884906088435,0.0,0.199899739090786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839768711984752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935171254540302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669992471621069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657603405901615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26168533067952443,0.30236750122946404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300056054806996,0.0,0.0,0.17856623757848586,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gmarlon123,2019/01/08,"6mos, 102 fever, runny nose should Like I said, my  LO is six months, he is running a fever of 102 we’ve given him a little Tylenol, and has a runny nose, and he is just not feeling well, currently sleeping on his mom. Question, should we take him to urgent care/emergency??",3.6366666666666654,4.873632851851851,4.3157407407407415,88.16583333333334,72.33333333333334,6.881481481481483,26.462962962962962,7.1686216300943375,1.1762740740740742,210,7,43,2,4,67,41,54,0.061,0.8490000000000001,0.09,0.3561,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,6,6,3,0,0,9,10,2,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,4,6,2,3,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,3,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383158405762717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777976685991927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211204169805285,0.3325739932545609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388627290763084,0.2648580915744083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717178959919077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156398250557915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320628125590317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24948973081763084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29834888363549084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ratinthehat800xl,2019/01/08,"How do I get my 2 year old boy to calm down? My son is two and will be three in four months. He had two older sisters and a three month old sister. His older sisters were no where near this crazy when they were his age. I’ll give some examples. Last night I had to work overtime and got home late. So my wife had to breast feed the baby while the older two had to entertain themselves. He took this opportunity to get the canister of coffee grounds off the counter, dump it all over the couch and rug in the front room and eat a handfull. The incident before this he got ahold of a sharpie marker and redecorated the house with it. He has taken off his poopy diaper and painted himself and the floor with it.  These are extreme cases that have happened while my wife was breastfeeding and i was working late. I’m home now holding the baby watching tv with the wife and daughters while the boy climbs and jumps and kicks over all of us. Grandma watches him and the baby while my wife and I work so I don’t think he gets much of a chance to burn off all his energy. As soon as my wife and I get home from work we are off to feed babies and cook dinner and he doesn’t always get the attention he deserves. Just looking for some tips to help channel his excess energy.",4.424255514705884,5.110710984375,4.8485661764705865,87.12216911764708,70.015625,7.742279411764708,26.386948529411764,7.724431198458867,1.2483431066176474,996,29,211,11,17,316,140,256,0.03,0.905,0.066,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,1,6,8,4,1,0,18,0,18,6,1,1,3,31,32,27,0,0,1,10,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,8,21,5,1,2,4,0,4,3,1,0,6,12,4,22,3,29,18,6,38,0,0,3,1,31,14,0,2,20,137,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076069550208023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004420389254163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323295413383611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33782920732198185,0.12405824328037852,0.0,0.0,0.2068625632339847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435975213789985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668236744411724,0.0,0.3891640307470647,0.0,0.0,0.14922118347102778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541536755035497,0.2917635719862864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085986070436307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064484993873451,0.0,0.0950671606776022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136071609100005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714051128629832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286484811820156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368242336840342,0.0,0.0,0.3789888429043915,0.0,0.15555944229328034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765942440568271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327966298808546
parenting,tyrosp,2019/01/08,"wondering about a paranoid new mom Well I cannot help but question a new mom I know. Altough I don't really know her personally as she doesn't seem to be interested in being around people and supposedly has severe anxiety, I know her bf for years (He is a close friend of my partner). they just recently had a child and the thing that has peeked my interest is that they do not allow anyone in the family to take photos of the child, more specifically she does not allow it. When he was asked about it he said that he did not want to upset the mother and everyone that knows them two says that she has probably given him an ultimatium 

that goes for the father himself and the rest of the family, although they have many close relatives living abroad that are then not allowed to see the child. There are also no photos of the pregnancy and tbh you wouldn't know they even had a kid if you weren't a part of the nuclear family. The only reason I know for sure is that they went to a family event when she was in her second trimester and I know many of here family members.

  
I have a degree in criminology and also studied psychology so that's probably why I'm overthinking this but somehow I just think she's overly paranoid and this sets of red flags for me. I thought that it might be that the child has a disabilty and that they were ashamed (Which they shouldn't be) since the mom is older than thirty and that makes it slightly more likely than for moms under thirty (or so I've read) but the people who have seen the child, which are only their parents and siblings, say that the child is healthy.

My theory is that she has PPD and I really do hope that the people close to her are supportive if she ever asks for help.

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Is this a thing for other moms? 

do you not allow family members to take photos or even own any photos your children?  
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parenting,Kkisses007,2019/01/08,"How can I get my son to eat healthier foods. I would like some advice on how you got your children to eat. I have a two year old boy that will not touch anything other than chicken nuggets or cheese related items (cheese, cottage cheese, Cheezits, Cheetos...). He will eat so much bread too. What mom wants is for her baby to eat his vegetables, but he refuses. Even Chili dogs are a hard pass for him. Are there any recipes, tricks, or something worth trying to get him to eat his food?",4.1242857142857146,5.51529191489362,3.832249240121581,91.50500000000002,71.34042553191489,7.073556231003039,27.258358662613983,7.447530270364453,1.2391933130699093,376,13,79,4,7,113,72,94,0.036000000000000004,0.919,0.044,0.1901,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,6,2,1,0,2,0,8,9,0,2,0,10,12,6,0,2,4,2,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,9,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,11,1,9,8,3,4,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,3,3,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796311277145005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296887256740447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460343495968405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7746878662345373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000961725338132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661885025370488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158218450770737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110214854125435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564004908407448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397478422697107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17733796748089933,0.0,0.0,0.11130904726102586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888685598278987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656834030534395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028023237897988,0.0,0.1479125799963196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930977398397902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756241805606223,0.0,0.0,0.09750769747777972
parenting,Dirty_Dova,2019/01/08,"How do I keep from hating my husband when he travels for work? My husband got a job two years ago that requires him to frequently travel for work, for a week or two at a time. We knew there would be some travel with this job but we didn't realize how much. They're paying him more than he could reasonably expect to make anywhere else so he is still working there.

We have three kids--ages 6 years, 3 years, and 6 months.

I also work a full-time job with very demanding hours and attendance requirements. This job is the best job I can find in the city we had to move to for his job. We can't afford to live off his salary alone and I wouldn't want to stop working anyway. I miss my old job and my old friends. We don't have a good support system here. At all.

He acts like it should be so easy to take care of the kids while he's gone. One time he asked why ""the other managers' wives can do it"" (take care of their kids while their husbands are away) and I can't do it without being insame by the end of it and the house getting messy, neglecting the fact that I have to work and they are all SAHMs.

I end up very angry and hating him while he's away because I feel like a single parent a lot of the time. He always says he'll make it up to me and that ends up being like... a gift from the airport gift shop.

Right now the kids are sick (colds.and bronchitis) and I'm staying home from work the last 3 days. My boss is not happy about it. 

I'm getting sick too and he won't be home for several more days. I'm having difficulty keeping up with housework and breastfeeding and washing out pumping equipment and getting myself fed.

Is it crazy to be annoyed and upset about this? Am I just being lazy and not doing my part in this marriage? Is it selfish of him to think I can do this easily and expect me to be okay with it?

We are going to marriage counseling already for other stuff (like his drinking) and this is just another thing that we won't even have time to bring up, I feel like.

I'm just so frustrated. I haven't had a day off or a day to myself in the last two years because of my work schedule. I only get 7 days of PTO every year and if I use those on sick days like I have then I don't get vacation. 

Thank you for listening to me vent if nothing else.",2.457138314785375,3.689380462184872,3.6319191460367968,91.93724619577564,75.26050420168067,6.574517374517376,23.15898251192369,7.001395882987947,0.5749339768339765,1764,49,397,17,37,573,215,476,0.154,0.745,0.101,-0.9789,10,2,1,0,1,0,47.0,8,1,3,11,20,23,4,1,22,1,47,6,0,7,3,74,83,35,0,9,11,5,2,6,1,6,4,2,2,3,24,32,2,6,7,5,2,9,12,8,0,5,7,4,48,15,58,61,10,64,0,2,0,0,43,17,0,6,42,262,72,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059314427942373925,0.0,0.0,0.06930179411592514,0.07384027236118224,0.05351038378749102,0.055677061465838736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016422209219866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255471810786636,0.0,0.12573412463601827,0.0,0.0,0.08157921227537211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022117272333858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644473477439467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05342466747099516,0.0,0.0,0.2589204926614781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554936623509368,0.0,0.0,0.11179462185098103,0.0,0.17779544350727586,0.0,0.0,0.04419547304060721,0.0,0.056377174682258176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766655014059389,0.09560546740106493,0.0,0.0,0.06115736332996655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169689690326849,0.0,0.1747966712503424,0.0,0.038028258087958816,0.0561235355944221,0.053516520590760085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123024171327384,0.0,0.13212567104919162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342385948690719,0.0,0.06589592721300397,0.07720873620590317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4648065046640879,0.11895087970945807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908621840308508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19614217142965612,0.0,0.059085495294527016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05688712679685516,0.0,0.0,0.08933003083685301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053409399920745414,0.07111803832243421,0.0491888293596486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420492637705402,0.0,0.1404280898766626,0.0,0.04534204988827385,0.05089042956963248,0.0,0.0,0.07429908154626666,0.07246036922874806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879781359427407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057143423814052775,0.0,0.05321198469715361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559275961684002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132046405117724,0.05343688998510384,0.0559423497488223,0.0,0.0,0.07659949339021675,0.0,0.07593219560942158,0.0,0.0,0.10062065108261538,0.0,0.0,0.061604594600293765,0.0,0.0,0.04445409196052225,0.04287521416382981,0.0,0.0,0.15607027236339888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19609313447421425,0.0,0.0,0.057791436455531274,0.0,0.1104206343187678,0.03946708143449292,0.0,0.05367365458233006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037866721851672,0.0,0.0,0.06450184288172671,0.0,0.3897082836324032,0.0,0.0,0.047533148090500216,0.0,0.0,0.2154492204591052
parenting,mylifeissoperfect,2019/01/08,"Tricks on cutting toddler's fingernails My son is 2 and 1/2 and hates when we cut his fingernails. We've never had any traumatic incidents, no big fights, no injuries, nothing like that, he just pulls his hand back when you grab his hands/fingers. I've been avoiding it (I know, I know, that just makes it worse) and his fingernails have gotten so long now that they're just kind of breaking off. But enough is enough. Is bribery the only way to get this done? I'm just so tired of having to negotiate for everything.",4.976757142857141,6.1766769900000025,4.8494285714285725,85.73900000000002,69.1,8.514285714285714,29.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.1321714285714286,409,15,82,7,7,126,73,100,0.213,0.73,0.057,-0.921,0,1,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,1,0,0,10,8,5,1,1,0,8,2,1,1,1,14,15,8,0,0,5,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,4,2,9,2,7,11,2,12,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,7,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636360276187231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850289112910124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24624709602431255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4972683328491094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21626190349275512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571876400396578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23757140136995603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505781604165919,0.2644869014890235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755921506210246,0.0,0.0,0.21294916585151455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062178108016045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18558798273172444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308900944551895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183009260398388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27656773235878074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910001653218484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24522159257897785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,overwhelmed21,2019/01/08,"UPDATE: I don’t want my stepson living with us Early today I posted about my stepson and how his behavior and recent theft has made me not want to have him in my home. 

I wanted to clarify somethings and provide an update.

Clarifications: 

-I was shocked when I found about him but I was also very happy for my husband. He’s always wanted a son and unfortunately my pregnancy was very difficult so we didn’t ever plan on trying again. I welcomed him with open arms.

-We continued up until this ordeal to bond with him individually. Monday’s were strictly for him and my husband they usually got dinner together and did something like mini golf or bowling. Brandon and I bonded over painting. I’m a painter and he enjoys art. His mother asked that him and not individually bond anymore in September as I’m not his mother. I agreed.

-A lot of people claimed I was being abusive for not wanting him in my home. I want him and my husband to have a relationship as well him and my daughter. My daughter loves him! Which why it hurt to see he was stealing her favorite things. He sat there and watched her cry when we couldn’t find her stuffed puppy because it was her favorite toy. But I also won’t keep my home like a prison. 

-Many people were upset I didn’t sympathize with his situation as to why he is upset. I completely sympathize but I also have to think of my daughter. More than one person was hurt.

-In regards to me needing therapy. You’re right, which is why I go. My therapist always says “You have one person to protect right now and that’s your daughter. You must create a boundary.” Which we did. 

Updates:

-My husband and I met with Brandon’s mom for lunch to talk today. We let her know the random drop off and sleepovers need to stop for the time being. We will establish visitation in court and work out a plan (mind you this woman isn’t struggling financially, she just had a kid young and is now happy she go out on adventures) were all 27-28 now therefore we must be adults. My husband also said Brandon needs therapy, randomly meeting dad after being raised by another man for 9 years, therefore my husband will pay for his therapy.

-In regards to the Disney trip, right now he’s on what we will call the path to redemption, meaning we need to see consistency in behavior and marked improvement in his actions. 

-In regards to the Switch and Kindle, this Sunday their is a charity event at a local school. Guess who is donating those 2 things? 

-We met with Brandon after and my husband apologized to him for not knowing him, and Brandon’s mom admitted she didn’t know my husband was the father until they were testing for celiacs and his DNA didn’t line up with her long time partner. 


It’s going to take me awhile to be comfortable with him in my home because the theft is so troublesome. We explained to him and his mom that we don’t owe him fancy things, we owe him stability.

Therefore we will seek primary custody so we can get him proper help. My husband believes he has ODD and ADHD at least and his mother is not providing him with the proper help. 

Thanks for your advice.",4.093545277407446,6.0288380318257975,5.1123864219054465,80.10977745872219,72.36683417085428,7.553536389430143,29.269100605066146,8.290611406555254,2.2480901035791208,2463,102,443,40,49,807,272,597,0.102,0.778,0.12,0.8657,2,0,2,0,0,0,62.0,16,5,3,3,21,19,0,3,19,0,50,4,1,5,4,100,90,44,0,13,11,22,0,2,1,7,0,2,4,7,18,52,2,3,10,3,4,6,15,8,1,2,26,5,100,11,72,50,4,64,0,2,3,1,114,26,0,5,32,319,118,4,0.0,0.08993692327495091,0.0,0.0,0.09122499713540626,0.07417506306288571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428099618374985,0.1263207644280123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959470145188494,0.0,0.0,0.07527896272036634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709624358930368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254393267847767,0.0,0.0,0.08552075856253177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750913806127907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958663884869828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833798493492218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686618765918744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06937726850925037,0.0,0.0,0.08322768248242107,0.0,0.0,0.039658072014743286,0.0,0.12941843117432025,0.0,0.06070945208468029,0.0,0.08361969127329064,0.0,0.0,0.16160800061500322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175720440982604,0.0,0.3045620848723784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251919688336772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746928474082017,0.0,0.0,0.12514886702843894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761965394207326,0.0,0.07416827319082589,0.0,0.06702692936472432,0.06717496327399843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453308736041205,0.06850868122364683,0.07182467193574607,0.0,0.07695739089299318,0.0,0.0826845536178958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664403991476096,0.2667027208664767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22513516494653607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287256999247488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052481749174604,0.13255745207143646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269755209052252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494862223810089,0.08149529439030384,0.0,0.19447149656022944,0.07220457076916706,0.06036398479650686,0.0,0.0768215441428579,0.12097548473629452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532221262605158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687323727286672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346132678451692,0.0,0.0793540723042127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707232578087354,0.06101085970287672,0.0,0.06988461026235733,0.26041747959313594,0.0881334274216677,0.1512869410821482,0.0486378922090993,0.0,0.0,0.08852351215378404,0.0,0.14390118593125314,0.0,0.0,0.051535607134042816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130630850340332,0.0,0.08360040948073222,0.12526180951854796,0.2686301197634149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824916050613404,0.0,0.2054817333400563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526091782270416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04888136964719664
parenting,chikibooz,2019/01/08,"Is there a lockbox or safe that can open with coins and the coins could then be removed at the end of the week to go again to ration the time spent on things like video games/TV etc.,? We don't really want to ""take away"" electronic gadgets from my 5yo but would like to teach him the idea of ""purchased time"" - he has a fair amount of toys that he loves to play with and a Nintendo 2DS that his dad got him for Christmas. If we don't be diligent, he could just play with that and watch TV for hours. When we intervene he happily goes to playing with his toys or reading etc.,

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I was thinking if it'd be a good idea to teach him the concept of ""buying time"" i.e., he can give us a token and get say 30 mins of time for either of them. He can use at most 2 tokens a day so about 14-15 a week - once they're over, they're over.  They only renew at the end of the week. It'd be okay to ""carry over"" but I haven't thought it through.

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Is there something that can be bought that ""locks up"" the consoles/remotes and opens when a special coin or something is put in so that he can choose what he wants? We turn on the TV with a sleep timer so that's fine and besides it's only YouTube so helps with the timer. The console, when used, we tell our Google Assistant to set a 30 min timer - when it goes off, everyone hears it and it means it's time up. 

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I wanted to take it up a notch in a nerdy way with something like this and was wondering if anything existed that I could buy? Tried Googling for it but not sure I'm searching for the right keywords. 

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Ideas/Thoughts?",4.532454545454545,4.517830821212121,4.540151515151519,91.90022727272728,69.57575757575758,7.690909090909091,28.01515151515152,6.961326702584282,1.0710424242424241,1241,38,286,9,20,383,169,330,0.015,0.8370000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.9929,0,0,3,0,0,0,58.0,7,0,2,0,13,13,0,0,25,1,25,2,1,2,1,53,46,26,0,10,12,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,22,22,0,1,7,10,8,3,4,0,0,0,6,3,19,13,47,29,5,43,0,0,1,1,29,18,0,8,23,171,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36088243731108177,0.404717887377465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852229147295956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823282420823048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944765022578,0.0,0.0,0.05370083219898129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750108312223492,0.0,0.1857311803236154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956593610914163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350398046257856,0.0798780459906705,0.04732300063412148,0.06984106672414074,0.06659685363433512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384884444503076,0.0,0.05581264050009745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200199436098839,0.0,0.0,0.1879983858111492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220412999390396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515242617852326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070302771684684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088677472543587,0.0,0.12665780405845026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837071217779235,0.0,0.0,0.08329031758586786,0.0,0.0533434747141417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111023268889992,0.0,0.06621788407299163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833279191387887,0.0,0.0,0.19231082498262547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847890111906633,0.0,0.12521402174074464,0.0,0.07277971351531194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055319415818922316,0.05335463387173827,0.0,0.13221063901228414,0.2427705727717526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05653335959077978,0.09057143819918087,0.0,0.0,0.10016089182967663,0.14383326092434714,0.0,0.0,0.14734048944062605,0.06609409125473785,0.2003771814075924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903003599349613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915104478426742,0.0,0.404717887377465,0.0
parenting,C_Kraw,2019/01/08,"14 month age gap between baby 1 and 2 - advice needed I have a 6 mth old DD (born July 7th), and I am currently 6 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 (due Sept 1st).  There will be 14 months (maybe 13 if i deliver earlier) difference between baby 1 and 2.  I feel guilty for getting pregnant again so soon, and that my focus now wont be on my daughter who will still obviously need me as she will only be 1 year old when baby 2 comes along.  Does anyone else have this age gap? What things should I look out for? any challenges? any positives? any advice in general will be appreciated! I am getting kinda scared now!",3.60867941712204,4.812999303278686,5.365519125683061,80.73840619307833,72.36065573770493,8.045173041894353,26.67030965391621,8.515128840125781,1.8686200364298728,473,16,93,8,9,162,84,122,0.047,0.86,0.093,0.6638,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,1,1,0,14,0,0,0,1,16,21,8,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,10,1,10,11,0,21,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,2,17,53,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3644951840881584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38048325821361134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304065320234171,0.19109333473631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065495557912618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19485489094265104,0.0,0.0,0.16320915355544696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579848628378454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430101295930833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487919069701606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661470495145188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873663226012007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977282278236677,0.0,0.0,0.2765777338211847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914049436773561,0.0,0.0,0.14184317209550473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18672103357925152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489407349575331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390363904627752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960065160187053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201011707460967
parenting,Tmbgkc,2019/01/08,"My 8th grade boy loves soccer but his anxiety/inability to socially interact with his teammates is hurting his game and I need advice. He is painfully shy.   Not only will he not talk to them at pizza party events, he won't even talk to them during the game (""I got it"", ""you do the throw in"", etc).   To coach game him a deserved ""1"" out of 5 points in ""communication"" for his player eval.  I want to help him but don't know how.  I have tried to make him set a goal of saying ONE thing in a game (eg ""got it"" or whatever) but he doesn't do it.  I can't even get him to say ""good game "" to his teammates.  They say good game to him, and sometimes he says ""thanks"" super quietly in response.  Please let me know if you have any advice.  He wants to play in high school but this really holds him back.  Thanks.",1.4119715447154488,3.1839560914634184,3.064243902439024,92.5669349593496,79.54878048780488,6.324552845528456,19.469918699186987,7.3011,0.23262650406504104,605,14,139,8,15,200,99,164,0.058,0.7559999999999999,0.185,0.9726,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,2,3,2,4,9,0,0,5,0,12,3,0,2,0,20,24,9,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,1,5,4,1,1,2,9,0,1,6,2,0,1,2,5,23,7,21,19,1,13,0,1,0,1,39,9,0,2,2,82,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869417867993746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984269635110417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289558708457788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637432112681893,0.19394657042754485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670743761472174,0.0,0.0,0.2462914524934533,0.2348508776058662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984104119611946,0.15512348680637095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571739436991678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137696434273194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013349010573215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325108640953625,0.0,0.0980035506186112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088652369030722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948909319180052,0.11166329494364803,0.15622692809034835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611643703422985,0.1387924421582378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405670964539092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670289162047692,0.0,0.14858977013845154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496645929781462,0.0,0.0,0.14520882388181333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360168549161505,0.0,0.2703444272296461,0.0,0.0,0.09754074437999873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996812040610993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319658694390486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xavier86,2019/01/08,"Japanese, Spanish and other foreign language learning apps for preschooler? I want to teach my kid Japanese characters like hiragana at the same time he is learning our English alphabet. I read recommendations like Endless alphabet for young children. Does anyone have recommendations for iPad apps that teach young children Spanish, Japanese, and other foreign languages?",11.643214285714285,14.634994035714293,9.677142857142858,50.61785714285716,55.07142857142857,12.028571428571427,53.28571428571429,11.698219412168324,7.860800000000001,310,22,31,9,4,94,39,56,0.0,0.884,0.116,0.6868,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,18,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541608992195117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44324697304022254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4949066716933673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5066432496371578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295347827863786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29875046919016696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sup3rtroop3r1,2019/01/08,"Best pants brand for a tall thin waist boy. My son is a size 8 in length but a size 6 in waist, honestly could fit size 5 he’s so tiny. Size 7’s are too short while size 8 is too baggy (even with the waist bands.) anyone have any good recommendations for brands that would fit him? Thanks! ",0.8718579234972665,2.7841647377049203,1.7225409836065602,100.82075136612025,81.95081967213116,5.3781420765027335,13.44535519125683,6.42735559955562,-1.1710349726775957,223,2,57,2,6,69,46,61,0.0,0.6859999999999999,0.314,0.9686,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,6,3,3,0,0,4,7,3,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,5,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,1,25,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987276626798275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30715705094966395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610006523004872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35073191742466875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29014243297701303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684499348988956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4044329821624241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31205420567311826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,othgg,2019/01/08,"Irrational Fears of Kindergarten **\*\*\*\*\*This is a long, mostly cathartic post TL;DR at the end\*\*\*\*\***  


My child will start school in fall of 2020. Already, I am so damn nervous and scared. 

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I know my fears are irrational and related to my own experience. I know that. I'm just having trouble making myself get over it.    


I grew up in rural west Texas. My school was developmentally inappropriate even for the time. Despite being a public school, it was heavily religious and that influenced the totalitarian style to the nth degree. Most of the teachers were significantly older, meaning they were educated in southern university's during the fifties and sixties. Not exactly progressive education in terms of child development. 

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 We got in trouble for \*everything.\* I mean everything. Adults screamed, yelled, ranted and raved for the smallest thing. Our entire third grade class had to ""pull a card"" for not getting this specific question about commas correct, which meant we got behavior notes sent home to parents and had lunch detention. We had a stretch in sixth grade where we weren't allowed to talk at all outside of lunch and recess.  My second grade teacher told me I was distracting my classmates with my sneezes and made me stay inside at recess for a WEEK. We had a teacher throw a dictionary at the wall in anger, call a student with an intellectual disability stupid, and openly curse and STILL not get fired. I had significant health problems in fifth grade and all the teachers talked shit about my parents being too soft on me and how I was clearly faking in front of me. 

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This school also used corporal punishment, which my parents didn't allow, but kids were constantly getting smacked and coming out of the office crying. I was terrified they would ignore my parents non-consent and hit me anyway. 

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These things range in seriousness, but compiled together, it was just fucking traumatic for a 5-11 year old. And that's only the shit I can remember. I lived in complete terror that I was going to get in trouble, or that someone around me would get in trouble and we would all be punished. I hated school. I had headaches at the end of everyday,  I begged to be homeschooled, the works.   


Again, I logically know this was decades ago. And that even decades ago, this may not have been everyone's school experience.  And I know that as a recently educated teacher, things are a lot different now. I've worked with great people and not great people, but the ones who sucked with children were appropriately dealt with. This behavior would never be allowed now. I know I live in an area with good, progressive schools, and with options. If a school was as shit as mine, I could move my child if necessary.   


I just can't help but feel like I'm feeding my child to the wolves. I've done a good job of hiding my panic from my kid. She LOVES the school she is in now, looks forward to going everyday, and is thrilled about the fact that there's only one more year before Kinder. I just worry that as the time approaches,  I will get more and more nervous and not hide that panic as well as I do now. 

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\*\*\*\* I would LOVE to go to therapy because therapy is great! I think everyone should go if they can. But it's also expensive and just not in the budget for now. So in lieu of that: Tell me about your kid's school experiences.   


**TL;DR: Kid starting school freaks me the fuck out based on my own traumatic experience. Therapy over this issue would probably be beneficial, but it's just not in the budget currently. So, I'm trying to self-soothe by doing that thing where you just read things you wanna read to support your agenda, and the agenda I want supported is that Kindergarten in great for kids.  ;) Tell me your (good) stories!** ",4.8802296505420975,7.3616339146164975,4.982427463168136,79.5172420583142,71.64833574529666,8.004374747930061,29.70702948921733,8.794826987340809,2.603259903679628,3029,127,524,60,61,946,320,691,0.165,0.731,0.104,-0.9898,9,0,0,0,1,0,146.0,7,5,3,4,33,45,12,9,37,0,55,11,3,8,8,114,100,47,0,14,25,4,3,1,0,10,1,3,1,11,34,43,3,1,13,2,3,14,12,31,1,4,29,7,70,14,83,53,12,83,0,0,1,4,45,40,7,10,30,366,104,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107006736125405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05046188644110527,0.07313718716790225,0.0,0.24773086013850776,0.27782208272727266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040707535311999686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027875309869243945,0.0,0.03891108389889388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04669330940716848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03939054595401111,0.04794484425179426,0.04941562621826951,0.0,0.036510015698322434,0.0,0.050229962574325916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04777593388496498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04679552893291268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100271205325453,0.0,0.0,0.060405707359185136,0.0,0.0,0.08738995640534239,0.08219459498505365,0.1789226842506394,0.0,0.1029132250766425,0.023121405568183196,0.03266802846787392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454943299569996,0.16723662156177171,0.0,0.10395290157117164,0.11506320559001175,0.07314557485824444,0.20166073147073235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045146844636668335,0.0,0.048606630631866064,0.0,0.0,0.03065045457066,0.0,0.0458688227554378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04772805817985885,0.04537789533587238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565431888163298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02234034731205913,0.0,0.08075716566387661,0.040467761905546684,0.03839992803350293,0.0,0.0,0.038876234344616935,0.08254244930252617,0.04326885466217785,0.03052373540701777,0.0,0.0,0.0996222004745206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860153218540199,0.0,0.0,0.03526818368922348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047983749909776316,0.0,0.0619728313372752,0.06955627317625848,0.0,0.10730370091534618,0.20310173274155566,0.0,0.0,0.06340395105510567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043794697990613925,0.0,0.04930242178597392,0.043755434752788966,0.0,0.0,0.05122572519341008,0.0,0.09148057043948776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045150795059001096,0.0,0.05180080858378236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04578161580681172,0.5090699550366916,0.0,0.0,0.04770418364014637,0.0,0.14081712930245605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03874511025676257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473290096264929,0.048739868405054926,0.03651836847248286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037829820920524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350872479194638,0.07993641880329326,0.0,0.15688155298622625,0.0,0.15189795951603186,0.029300598698910437,0.0,0.0,0.053328624807283335,0.0,0.0,0.0436949782026712,0.0,0.031046249636960926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394942327599058,0.0,0.0,0.02697150643984094,0.0,0.03668017161643747,0.0,0.0411148833286333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658092706384187,0.04643891289757893,0.0,0.19490277414458804,0.0,0.27782208272727266,0.058894550352971926
parenting,nellynelzz,2019/01/08,"Overwhelmed This is my first time posting on here .. I am a single mother of 2 boys ... The father is an asshole who doesnt even come around .. He left for good a couple weeks ago and ive been sad since like what did i do wrong ? Was it me ? Were they not good enough for you ? I sit back and wonder everynight ... I get random thoughts and they throw me off during the middle of my day ... Im in mommy mode 24/7 .. It would be nice to get a break once in a while ... I dont know i guess i just decided to express my feelings.. I wanna take him to court but then again not i don't have the balls to as he's threatened to ""put me through a wall "" if i do ... ",-1.2579682539682544,0.7226020285714299,0.8447619047619064,102.859126984127,93.0,3.396825396825397,14.920634920634921,4.4756072100314475,-1.359484126984127,484,10,122,1,18,159,99,140,0.06,0.872,0.068,-0.457,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,2,1,6,7,0,1,9,0,16,0,0,0,0,19,25,8,0,3,5,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,5,1,0,3,5,3,0,1,5,1,21,4,17,18,2,23,0,2,0,0,11,8,0,4,10,84,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652298129756394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772741957282343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312410094081913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153893744176055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203413603180119,0.0,0.12842692430033656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23338714177159506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20576180733750685,0.0,0.13152814469632154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068967685689753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16938587464608332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080817811138832,0.0,0.0,0.33405342233806684,0.0,0.0,0.21937191361535205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151021881786953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944051585925572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636298959373884,0.0,0.0,0.09728830477406168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207446117969966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071824918760047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018773921675592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472822718554547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14972628014267872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809257541126007,0.11611841640062585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597357312998702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159556382048101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146124817296665,0.2177251052319969,0.0,0.0
parenting,Raphaelle-Gruys,2019/01/08,"How am I going to make it through My babies are growing up, my oldest (20M) went off to college a year and a half ago. It almost killed me. Now... my baby will be 18 and graduating in June his plan is to leave for college at the end of summer. I’m not sure how I’m going to handle this. My boyfriend who has adult children and has done this all before is even concerned about me. I’ve spent my life wrapped around theirs especially after their father passed. I don’t feel like I’m unhealthy about this, I just don’t know what I’ll do without high school basketball games and “what’s for dinner mom”. 
How do other mothers do this? ",3.617760683760686,4.403820400000002,4.475641025641027,88.70158119658122,71.92307692307692,6.700854700854702,25.213675213675213,6.42735559955562,0.7171111111111109,492,14,106,3,9,159,91,130,0.086,0.88,0.034,-0.7628,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,2,1,9,3,1,0,3,0,14,2,0,4,2,17,24,7,1,0,3,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,10,5,1,0,2,1,1,5,4,1,0,1,3,1,13,2,17,19,1,19,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,1,9,70,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855870498976325,0.0,0.2355957493951789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944625123262964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20020324472013126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407698730548655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20838542851093692,0.0,0.0,0.15539812055026506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896302938433365,0.16808180709825707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26742647733352665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485828777459041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26029894198277115,0.0,0.12930198715906802,0.0,0.0,0.24912418091074784,0.0,0.0,0.1661829758092822,0.1149443698785282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704910419206872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27555336782177353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381127024995527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22174561830453213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810396912152488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267984584448088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151055811803416
parenting,Pragtige,2019/01/08,"What to do when your fiancé’s firstborn isn’t thrilled that you’re expecting? Hi, all. I wasn’t sure if this was an appropriate sub to post my story and questions, so I posted on the Ask Parents sub, but would love if you would all take a look at the original post and lend some advice. 

Thank you! 

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskParents/comments/adzf0x/what_to_do_when_your_fianc%C3%A9s_firstborn_isnt/?st=JQOASSAZ&sh=1c243128",12.34629032258065,16.23870427419355,6.9460000000000015,67.34900000000003,54.645161290322584,7.540645161290323,25.30322580645161,8.238735603445708,1.4303767741935487,363,8,51,4,5,93,49,62,0.0,0.755,0.245,0.9456,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,1,3,14,11,7,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,6,4,4,7,3,7,0,0,1,1,8,2,0,4,2,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208071815976818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448294336453172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21124370943322848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18975093832086687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20393927812562304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509037538343827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.649226610264554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25312884475033065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21296625080732734,0.0,0.16989509523187635,0.0,0.0,0.2080351966266764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210334512693956,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,entombed_pit,2019/01/08,"Two under two coming real soon Hi everyone. We have a wonderful little 16 month old boy who in a month's time will have a baby brother. I've heard it's harder at first then gets easier over time but I'm just wondering if anyone who has been through this has any advice? 

My wife is a stahm, we don't have parental support nearby, I am self employed and am around a lot and for the first six months will be around mostly whenever needed but there will be times I need to work. Thanks everyone.",4.081857142857142,5.059505300000005,4.8494285714285725,85.73900000000002,71.0,8.114285714285714,24.285714285714285,8.418075326091056,1.355571428571428,390,10,80,6,7,126,75,100,0.03,0.884,0.085,0.6385,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,0,0,18,25,6,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,1,5,2,9,18,2,19,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,5,11,55,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212489270334426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586509297960088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885235557504333,0.0,0.0,0.27716948582826273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341011840300421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975103884056938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648360388231507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133434204093028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602835953376445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235026146449355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37277755665609386,0.0,0.0,0.23086372560415244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633558896242511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728598968328233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719349471375426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240413414932042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766594044794609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332564609703127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723279744979905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30414587717103786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376482006140519,0.1133340619790252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,clynshaw,2019/01/08,In search of recommendations for developmental and engaging toys for my 1-year-old  Many thanks.  ,11.190000000000005,13.585916000000005,9.92666666666667,50.61000000000002,55.66666666666666,14.0,35.0,13.023866798666859,5.4810000000000025,80,3,12,3,1,25,14,15,0.0,0.6940000000000001,0.306,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5505388999496762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5698100592813419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999415392180748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496882516588974
parenting,prettydarnfunny,2019/01/08,"Anybody use a soother in the crib, like Baby Einstein Sea Dreams Soother or similar? Our 16 month old still wakes up a few times at night and usually doesn’t fall asleep on her own. We don’t believe in cry it out, so please don’t suggest it. I’m wondering if anyone has had luck with one of those soother devices (there are a few different ones) that you attach to the crib, they play with it for a while then fall asleep again. ",4.064482758620688,4.934668494252879,4.035114942528737,91.95887931034487,70.95402298850577,7.639080459770115,28.29310344827586,7.793537801064563,1.4090551724137934,337,12,75,4,6,103,70,87,0.035,0.8140000000000001,0.152,0.8588,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,6,3,3,1,0,10,9,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,0,5,3,11,8,3,17,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,4,10,47,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642041992459096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003789918419421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928593654736965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27855146540793313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025253460204156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21280613935936055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501961073861528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797631101323634,0.0,0.36132465826919613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926585174861181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21291567166033265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554628594390847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302660673661016,0.29363405025265804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28912796150681297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thurnus,2019/01/08,"I’m a 19 year old guy and I’m very interested in your tips for good parenting and raising children. I was wondering how I’ll ever be able to raise my children to be fair, good-hearted people if I don’t get any tips from experienced parents who raised their kids to be good people. Any tips, parenting hacks? I’d be very happy to learn from a good reliable source.

How do you reward or punish your children? How do you manage their free time? Do you make them do sports? Do you give them money or pay for things they want or need? How much?

Thank you!",1.8280519480519464,3.972727714285714,3.1309090909090886,90.75045454545456,79.89285714285714,6.215584415584416,20.89610389610389,7.348242739294969,0.5675785714285722,432,12,92,6,11,140,68,112,0.038,0.721,0.241,0.9757,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,7,5,1,5,9,1,0,2,0,11,0,0,5,1,16,20,10,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,15,9,9,15,1,5,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,5,4,51,17,3,0.15507716965586235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21091558637745267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027617828924355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102142057105001,0.1487641519187137,0.0,0.5202854892834305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355077915718535,0.0,0.1650825307469179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837671927096571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351521493924552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139995631048922,0.11498775632414016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272740276602954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5165845342713601,0.0,0.0,0.2150219668054681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427742225442883,0.0,0.0,0.10302638073923136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042674472389654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559098119222759,0.09146853257394816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817457534261787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986461285364916
parenting,sneaky387b,2019/01/08,"Son Plays Well with Friend at Home but Ignores Him in Schoolyard I’m hoping to gain a little insight.  My 7 year old son has a friend, also 7, who he’s known for a couple years.  This friend is a delightful little boy who is having a rough time. He’s bullied, he’s smaller, and he recently got braces on his legs.  His family seems to be a loving family who we have frequent contact with.  

We have had this boy over several times and he’s a great kid.  Him and my son get along famously and have a great time together.  At school though, I’ve heard that my son doesn’t play with him and runs away from him.  

I’m looking at this as a teaching opportunity.  I don’t want to come right out and tell my son he has to play with this boy, but I want to confer to him that his actions affect people.  If this boy is his friend and he rejects him it affects him.  I want to let my son know that he doesn’t have to play with anyone he doesn’t want to but of this boy really is his friend that he can’t treat him like this.

Comments or suggestions?",3.2074923547400616,3.8486960183486265,4.367908256880735,89.6322905198777,72.76146788990826,7.648195718654435,23.70764525993884,7.793537801064563,0.8724962691131495,804,20,184,10,15,264,107,218,0.049,0.648,0.303,0.9964,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,3,19,0,0,9,0,19,2,1,2,0,34,34,15,0,6,5,6,1,1,5,0,0,1,1,6,15,17,0,1,4,4,0,3,5,2,1,0,3,3,23,17,27,29,0,22,0,1,1,1,51,11,0,4,9,108,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105927383603983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261838566006124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444955455116725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410166655881615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656332141883255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24974104059170235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5116873251326053,0.0,0.0692043403081056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059395318164975,0.2920729452080289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286713836352548,0.13156163626761308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279598110392414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354482624371572,0.0,0.06471275779687806,0.26551735515254393,0.0,0.0,0.11123216696404087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954938423880587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389933980310675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918303657208448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485660250122963,0.0,0.13078724444952722,0.0,0.0,0.11311922932257405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405554061932398,0.0,0.12058566368033992,0.0,0.14964092347789407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577497065981228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014025707964322,0.0,0.2317136568596317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31251090939239085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909651401240952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059845665383375
parenting,SerialEntrep,2019/01/08,"How to enjoy your job when you just want to be with your family I used to be excited about my career and had big goals. When I was dating my wife, however, I quickly realized that I want to work as little as possible. We now have two kids together, and I really wish I didn't have to work. I feel that it doesn't matter how impactful or interesting a job is - I will still always lament going to work.  I know this is likely extremely common, but does anyone else feel this way? How do you cope with spending half of your life away from where you actually want to be?",6.256115942028991,5.254591321739131,7.378913043478263,76.29735507246377,66.21739130434783,11.492753623188404,28.731884057971016,10.864195022040775,2.805144927536233,442,11,92,11,6,151,76,115,0.028,0.8640000000000001,0.108,0.6927,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,6,0,4,11,4,0,0,1,0,13,1,0,4,0,21,22,11,0,4,3,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,3,2,18,4,15,15,0,13,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,8,68,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.18568357933623345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583262824282429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304658630221647,0.19496198125418568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17877215503016702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651329037664478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895259562142194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937687357369614,0.0,0.19242023638546094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081391972164776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776424976178199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457164323664328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439876091736652,0.09296006892926743,0.1907082349540049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21450950778651956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189676172320857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195601048484758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858736564851032,0.0,0.0,0.16433883271311509,0.0,0.0,0.3366921376939009,0.15103357507483314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21880995511074453,0.0,0.0,0.4155732775395327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Infamousx14,2019/01/08,"Best gifts for kids ages between 7-10? Need to buy gifts for 4 kids. Two pair of siblings ages between 7-10. Already bought them Fuji camera and L.O.L dolls. Any other suggestions? I don't want to spend more than $200 between all 4. 

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Thank you, ",0.5350000000000001,2.9846352,1.243500000000001,97.27925000000002,97.0,3.3000000000000003,20.25,5.148860815047168,-0.2432000000000003,200,7,40,1,8,61,40,50,0.025,0.8320000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.7807,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,9,4,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560117695822046,0.0,0.0,0.3495513470387813,0.3920104390714236,0.21938808885296426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385627268692965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392136544740468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970189577682885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31514629065654265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902856673254264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920104390714236,0.0
parenting,jadajaxmom,2019/01/08,"Parents in nursing school/recently graduated: how do you manage? I would like to start a parenting/nursing blog. I went to nursing school as a married mother of two kids with a husband who worked and went to school. Just looking for other’s perspective, like single parents, fathers, blended families...tell me your experience",7.6901785714285715,9.700119089285717,7.57,65.72500000000001,63.46428571428571,9.885714285714286,42.57142857142857,10.125756701596842,5.1425857142857145,263,16,36,6,4,84,44,56,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.6124,3,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,6,3,0,1,1,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,2,8,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,3,25,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053373099156948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051078917736124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627586924216607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4661718955875591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.63733605829254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857903347894802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050566133235148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891869200835871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282073944107527,0.0,0.0,0.14911770971754404,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PMS_Avenger_0909,2019/01/08,"SIL is pregnant again; still refusing to vaccinate their toddler As a parent, I don’t get it.


The first time around, the claim was they were doing delayed vaccination because the kid stayed at home and wouldn’t ever be around other people. That was a lie. Now that one is 2, going to preschool, and they are not doing delayed vaccinations, they are straight anti-vax. 


It’s really hard to be happy for or congratulate them on bringing a newborn into a risky situation. ",7.463448275862068,7.7077939655172445,7.743126436781613,70.53951724137933,63.36781609195402,10.178390804597699,34.64137931034483,9.888512548439397,3.4594524137931035,373,15,63,7,5,122,67,87,0.113,0.7879999999999999,0.099,0.204,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,5,1,6,1,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,1,12,16,4,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,3,1,6,1,10,10,0,17,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,8,51,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46625343041424894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596382432734013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368834140010789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22275307692984148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682031365662942,0.0,0.14883115800180285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27877373016703155,0.23459102234511445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626847314001073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745513810910216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907842457423164,0.0,0.0,0.1815530555625769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677655898223239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943615587019497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27912683324624005,0.2091359062017145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270301963197416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mmhmm316,2019/01/08,"Anxiety over my toddler's speech delay My son (21 months) apparently has a speech delay. He was evaluated at 17 months and at the time it was determined he had a 24% delay so he didn't quite qualify for early intervention in our state. He now says a handful of words but still won't say simple things like ""hi"", ""bye"", or ""ya/yes"". He communicates well with gestures and baby talks a lot but is still mostly nonverbal.  Some of the things he does say are ""ball"", ""apple"", ""mom/dad"", ""where'd it go?"", And ""all gone"". I know this will get checked up on at his 2 year appointment, which is pretty soon, but I still find myself worrying way too much about it. I'm so eager to hear my little guy communicate verbally. Can anyone offer any advice or encouragement on speech delays?",5.687777777777778,5.931448859060402,6.705592841163313,76.47406413124536,67.12080536912751,10.112155108128263,27.96495152870992,9.994966539143718,2.493424459358688,596,17,117,13,9,200,112,149,0.061,0.807,0.132,0.9315,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,6,0,11,1,1,0,1,20,17,10,0,0,5,1,1,1,0,2,0,7,0,1,7,4,0,4,2,1,1,2,2,0,1,0,5,8,8,4,14,10,5,27,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,5,16,68,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036057219010062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855546777694807,0.0,0.13336769849342248,0.0,0.0,0.12190082274153022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525639075639641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934130248331368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108414015988084,0.0,0.09908001007521984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262151899875935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649101554344006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581132218623656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517248882167132,0.17473195961354002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821549499179945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418195484803864,0.2783090337726768,0.0,0.1281581106678517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736389723821994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854293744376088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41592049531076064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176784210730612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012586628986234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23164415625589374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165758922247464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838098048901326,0.0,0.0,0.15675033569518715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704817809723858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226762416733244
parenting,Raexl,2019/01/08,"My poor tired worried wife and a husband who wants to help. Hey mum's and dads. My wife just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl! (Yay!) It's been a wonderful yet tiring time so far but things are going pretty good the past two weeks! One thing though. I'm very worried about mum. She has this constant paranoia that starts up every night that she's not feeding our baby in the proper way or not producing enough milk ect. And complains that our little girl won't settle after feeds. She indeed does but I have noticed a pattern that she gets really really restless between 12-4am which Ive read is prime time for baby feeds. She often settles just fine especially during the day. The last few days she's had gas but we have been burping her well and have tried a few drops of infants friend to help which seems to be doing the job. However every single night/early early morning my wife gets this huge down and constantly complains she's not feeding her enough she won't settle ever and so on. I understand my poor wife is just exhausted from the lack of sleep and I'm not dealing to great either but we aren't fighting or anything serious we are pretty relaxed paitent and down to earth people but no matter what I say when she gets these feelings it doesn't help or she doesn't seem to want to listen to any reassurance I offer when she gets like this. I show her forum after forum that it's most likely normal and that she's just a baby and it's been like this from day dot but it doesn't get through and shell only focus on articles about not making enough milk and it drives her further into her fears. Every midwife we have seen and doctors appointment we have had has been met with. ""She's perfect you're doing great shes putting on good weight"" and so on. But every early morning the same thing happens. Baby gets a little grouchy and wiggles around and grunts and makes small cries on the breast. Which I assure my wife its either gas. (After we burp her she calms alot) or her just making my wifes milk come through more. But dear wife just won't listen to reason. And I'm very worried about her. It's starting to make her snap a little at me when I tell her it's okay and I'm starting to get frustrated with trying to console her every night and her not having a bar of it. We are going to see the baby doctors again tomorrow and I'm sure it'll turn up just fine. Really my question is how can I help my wife overcome this? Maybe it's mum's intuition but everything seems to be going fine from my perspective. Advice would be appreciated! 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parenting,Maybebattered,2019/01/08,"How do I help my son deal with anger towards me? I got a call today from my eight year old son’s school to come pick him up because he was uncontrollably angry. He wouldn’t speak to me the whole way home. 

I got him finally to talk to me after we’d been home for awhile and he said he’s angry at me because of a situation he witnessed the other day. My husband of ten years kicked my legs out from under me (detailed in another locked thread), my son is mad I didn’t fight back.

How do I let him know that wasn’t an option and he doesn’t understand?",1.5936440677966104,3.068545822033901,3.312000000000001,92.3342711864407,78.0677966101695,6.4149152542372905,21.122033898305087,7.1686216300943375,0.3557566101694918,429,11,100,5,10,143,78,118,0.16,0.8170000000000001,0.023,-0.9456,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,1,5,0,11,1,1,3,0,12,17,4,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,4,0,2,7,2,19,0,17,7,1,16,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,1,8,61,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037792300097204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943311399432954,0.0,0.2369319942068202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19843974768084915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740406922035014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253312515861271,0.20035285563830788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128866226981425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108580137738601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025995690875866,0.0,0.3898715995747895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680250190213396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872269165427056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20392393141050644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18485893616194704,0.0,0.0,0.19667936216900786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844286710683666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620067398580428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420869939617032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202311612042198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425562026133993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169702574580416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25029324029936056
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parenting,sanctespiritus,2019/01/08,"My child is 3 and will not potty train. Ive tried when she was younger. And now, currently the same problem happens. She's violently angry and refuses. I spent 1 1/2 hours yesterday trying to get her to pee because i knew she had to. All the screaming and yelling she did, throwing her stool at my washer, hitting me, spitting on me, blowing her snot on me was fucking terrible. 



I'm trying to gently introduce her but she immediately goes insanely evil over it. I don't know what to do. 



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parenting,jaydenmae1993,2019/01/08,"Will my 6 year old son ever become less clingy??? Yikes this turned into quite a story so TLDR- my 6 year old son is ridiculously clingy to me every second I’m with him and it’s wearing me out.

I’m a mom of an almost 6 year old boy who is such a love. But lately I am getting very overwhelmed with his constant need to cling to me. 

I absolutely do not mean to sound ungrateful for my healthy beautiful child who loves me. I realize that it won’t always be like this and I’m doing my very best not to take it for granted, but I am exhausted. Whenever he is with me, he wants to be physically attached to me as much as possible, preferably full-on arms and legs wrapped around me as tight as possible squeezing me for dear life. Whatever we’re doing- watching a movie, homework, running errands, making food, anything at all, he wants to be bear hugging me. The only time he’ll really willingly let go is when I’m actively playing outside or with toys and such with him which I try to do for an hour or so every day. If I’m trying to do laundry or cook or clean or absolutely anything, he tries to attach himself to me. If I tell him he has to play independently in his room while I’m doing chores, he just stands in the doorway staring at me with his arms out. If I want to do so much as pee by myself, I have to peel him off me, race to the bathroom and shut the door quick so he doesn’t follow me in and latch on. 

Usually I’m a very patient person but his clingy-ness got so bad yesterday that I yelled at him to just go to his room and then I locked myself in the bathroom and cried for 20 minutes. And I am NOT a yeller, ever. 

I don’t understand what the problem is. It doesn’t seem like separation anxiety because when I’m not around he acts just like any other 6 year old. He doesn’t ask or talk about me all the time when I’m not there except for maybe a “when will mom be home” if I’m running a little late. When I drop him off at school or leave for work (times he knows I’m leaving and there’s no changing it no matter what) he’ll whine a little but he doesn’t throw a fit or anything. 

It’s not like he’s starved of my attention. I make sure to have at least some time with him EVERY day where he has my complete undivided attention. No phone, no work, no chores or anything else besides what he wants to do. I usually shoot for an hour-ish on school days or 2+ on weekends, but even on busy days I give him no less than 20 minutes.

I don’t feel like it’s a sensory issue either because he doesn’t act like this with his dad, babysitter, grandmother, or anyone else. He’s affectionate with everyone but not at the level he is with me. Nothing has ever happened that I think would give him abandonment type issues with me. The longest I’ve been away from him is 4 days, and I never just leave without telling him where I’m going and my best honest estimate of for how long. Occasionally I do have to leave for work before he wakes up, but I always make it very clear the night before that it’s going to happen. He understands it and my husband says he doesn’t wake up upset about it the next morning. He has very predictable stable relationships with everyone in his life.

Has anybody else been through this or have some advice about what’s going on or what I can do about it? I love my son so much, but his neediness is wearing me out and I don’t want to keep having outbursts over it like I did yesterday.",4.6176731084179465,4.6182204253521135,5.65770389780544,83.9086554208975,69.3943661971831,8.689158205044219,29.04683917458238,8.428315365350997,1.862490664919751,2682,89,577,37,43,891,291,710,0.081,0.787,0.133,0.9898,0,0,0,1,0,0,63.0,0,0,0,6,33,27,1,2,25,0,54,17,8,5,8,110,103,58,0,13,39,7,3,7,0,7,3,3,8,3,30,32,2,3,11,5,0,11,25,8,0,1,4,8,73,19,91,87,13,91,0,3,2,4,67,37,0,21,48,369,103,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05957193970443995,0.0,0.0,0.061045230225214124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145152091808077,0.0,0.0,0.04145665330449283,0.0,0.0466362162971871,0.0,0.0,0.04262646203240468,0.06246338010369148,0.20066807666719128,0.1085392640497745,0.0569917945161193,0.0,0.05727636229263875,0.0,0.05090121821549815,0.07432446094262267,0.06732839367938763,0.10374935199085884,0.0,0.12795295918777935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449033937077298,0.0,0.06391811823272944,0.06587890498873633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669645451300259,0.19657914382959632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277927011561004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040265217305107404,0.16543246490496644,0.15409084008740392,0.11650473899830653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030824518420637374,0.04355168816637868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371620867185964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03185043837244448,0.11696174713601552,0.17323223062229412,0.0,0.048757354152999095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078180381924367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115045072794172,0.0,0.1200717470006603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725821570041454,0.0,0.054186353155834616,0.0,0.0,0.033503446454219044,0.0,0.13753691906242738,0.25820233204386833,0.0,0.06233838103509921,0.08611936373073134,0.20848270303001296,0.12220106599455645,0.0,0.05394997586202143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506335924348636,0.0,0.12207901135755372,0.0,0.061245117959867125,0.06640613488171655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279730276286126,0.0,0.0,0.13444355950191814,0.045202989784362234,0.047018109456410315,0.0,0.06483440858559103,0.05720926321518524,0.0,0.058495251544319324,0.0,0.2558799427004521,0.0,0.0,0.04636479857312015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053230184216216725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374523261871855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058332967715263334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484122101387929,0.0,0.0,0.03905419770534067,0.0,0.0,0.06545100958658882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04847990030785068,0.0,0.12339479622148533,0.0,0.05549805449415055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745652184126214,0.0,0.04583628257016654,0.048999422520941485,0.10656798552387968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039062367625829285,0.0,0.0,0.1421911114245925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416879557829652,0.0663097946439196,0.0,0.12692841722628384,0.0,0.0,0.1342833655194986,0.2515026161009669,0.17978658231558026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058765763584571376,0.0,0.13314447990783027,0.0,0.0,0.043306076513793694,0.0,0.0,0.15703164298354433
parenting,YaziDiLong,2019/01/08,"Trying to adopt my stepson, I need legal advice I originally posted this in the *legal advice* subreddit and havent got any help, only people's best guess based on no information at all. 

I want to adopt my step son. My wife and I have been together 7 years, we have lived together (sharing bills) for 5 years and have been married for two.

My step son has been living with us since he was 5 (now 9 years old) I have claimed him as a dependent filing my taxes for the past four years.


My stepsons biological father is a active gang member from California in jail (we think) we have not heard from him for almost two years. He has made no contact with my stepson at all, no letters, texts, calls or any attempts to contact my stepson by any of the above. He has our phone numbers and mailing address. 
He has not paid any child support in anyway since my stepson was born.  
Last we knew he was in jail, but I spent almost 2 hours going to the jail and Corrections website for EVERY state  and inmate searching for him using first and last name and date of birth. I couldnt find him. 

If I start the adoption petition for my stepson, and his biological ather did find out and decided cause problems, does he actually have any ground to stand on? 

If I can prove he hasnt had any contact with my stepson for almost two years, has paid no child support, and I cant find him, do I still need a family attorney? 
I have no criminal record and my wife doesnt either. 

I have spent the last two months studying and reading on the internet before i file the petition. 
But I cant find anything in regards to the biological father being in jail during this process. ",6.968328173374612,6.234190229102168,7.346315789473685,76.23421052631579,64.6656346749226,9.952941176470588,33.55108359133127,9.168548406835145,2.7963510835913308,1296,47,250,19,17,425,158,323,0.066,0.8859999999999999,0.048,-0.8219,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,12,0,31,0,0,5,4,56,49,19,0,7,8,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,21,0,0,9,1,6,3,13,1,0,6,16,1,39,4,35,31,4,40,0,0,0,0,39,13,0,8,21,157,41,7,0.0,0.0,0.09042475544634083,0.0,0.0,0.18109648816928864,0.0,0.0,0.27836285509890946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37808006732417176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625293920344982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884854592867821,0.0,0.09724306307105246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461827280164163,0.0,0.0,0.09518940955539006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108914969593925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807174019998234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873534966506624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387655949857774,0.07881825866767503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266195587902202,0.0,0.0741102745129879,0.0,0.10207765120842964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062109392306551776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125341485460416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22659571760814945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364450557233284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767903466726654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396193261457656,0.0,0.0,0.137415413117564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723319243488764,0.0,0.0,0.07047363438161394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884563738045149,0.06424017074181633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874459177025587,0.0,0.0,0.08866502962752568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926870860064204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330194500935712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558664785479189,0.0,0.07400000116226042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103035025023552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937407470457237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291142253384288,0.0,0.3620692791826826,0.0,0.11146098927916913,0.08003022567500012,0.0,0.0,0.054654454494594364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580277797340284
parenting,HatefulRussianBitch,2019/01/08,"Need advice: 8 y.o. son distraught after second visit with dad, wants to live with him in another state. Hello everyone, thank you in advance for any constructive advice or support. 

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**Back story:** My son (we will call him Jack) is now 8 years old and I (29 F) have been raising him alone since he was around 9 months old. Jack's father and I split because he was struggling with alcoholism at the time and there was an incident where he put Jack in danger by drinking while I was at work. After we split up, Jack and I moved several states away to live with my mother as I did not have any support where we lived at the time. Jack's father and I immediately went to court and eventually settled on joint custody with Jack's father's visits being supervised by Jack's grandparents. Jack's father stopped paying child support or following through with visits in 2013 when Jack was about 3 years old. 

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**July 2018/currently**: Jack's father called me in the beginning of July 2018 and said he would be visiting a city near where Jack and I live, and asked if he could see Jack with me present. It had been about 5 years since Jack had seen his dad and asked about his dad often, so I took Jack to see him. They instantly had a very obvious connection and Jack was very happy. Jack's father told me he was married, had another young child, was sober for a number of years, worked, owned a home, etc. (all the things adults are expected to do.) Jack saw his father a couple more times that week, and after his dad flew home, Jack often asked about him and wanted to see him.

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Jack's father's parents asked if Jack could come spend the rest of the summer (about a month) with them/Jack's dad in our home state. Jack was thrilled at the idea, so I let him go (I had family on standby, in case.) Jack had a wonderful time, we spoke daily, and his dad brought him back home to me with no issues. Everything was great until we got home and Jack lost it. The first day home he was crying, not eating, and constantly saying he missed his family, he wanted to live there and that was his home. I encouraged him to express himself and I told him it's OK to miss his family and he would be seeing them soon for his entire winter break. A few days passed and he returned to his normal self.

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This past Sunday Jack came home after a 2 week visit with his dad/grandparents for winter break, this was his second visit there. I am concerned about him. He started crying as soon as we got in the car at the airport and saying he wanted to go back. This morning he was staring off into space and I asked him what he was thinking about and he said ""My family..."" and started crying. He has told me several times that it's ""my fault"" he didn't grow up there and even asked why I didn't just leave him there when he was a baby so his dad could raise him. He will go from being his regular, happy self to distant and eventually crying. I asked Jack if he wanted his dad to come visit him before summer break, since it's somewhat far away, and he said ""no."" He keeps saying he wants to go to school in our home state and live with there permanently.

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For what it's worth, we live a comfortable life. Jack has everything he could want and more. I'm a loving mother and we spend all of our free time together, Jack gets all of my love and attention. Jack excels at school and is an all-around great child who I am so proud of. I know when he visits his dad/grandparents that they spoil him with toys, trips to amusement parks and money because they are financially very well off. I am wondering if this behavior is due to the fact it is likely more ""fun"" when he visits his dad/grandparents because there are no rules and he's being spoiled. I'm at a loss. I don't know if this behavior is normal or if I have traumatized my child. I feel like a terrible mother, especially when he says he wouldn't miss me if he moved away or that this is all my fault. 

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I scheduled an appointment tomorrow with a children's therapist so Jack can talk to a neutral person and so I can get some professional insight. It is tearing me apart watching him cry and feel so sad.  What do I say? Do I send him to live with his dad? What do I do?

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Thank you so much. 

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parenting,Karithea,2019/01/08,"How do you handle being the parent of an autistic child? Diagnosed at 6 weeks with craniosynostosis, my child had a ten hour intensive skull surgery at 10 months. She will be seeing doctors for this for the next decade. 

Around two, we noticed she wasn't speaking on par with kids her age... not only did she lack verbal skills, she lacked cognitive. She didn't understand the idea behind pointing, but she could sort her dolls from tallest to smallest with an accurate precision.

Coupled with her over abundance of energy and lack of attention, she also has sensory processing disorder.

She's now about to turn three with three diagnosis. She will be starting special ed pre-k in February. 

But how do I do this? It's not even her I'm worried about. Scar and lack of speech aside, my daughter is sweet, loving, and funny as hell. I love her, and wouldn't change a hair on her head. 

How do I handle the others? 

How do I handle the parents who look at my child with pity or annoyance when my kid doesn't act like their's? How do I handle the over abundance of commentary from the peanut gallery, giving me advice on how to parent due to their experiences with NT children? How do I handle other kid's confusion when they speak to my daughter and she wanders away as if their presence didn't even register?

How do I know if someone hurts my child if she can't even tell me? 

Because even though I love my daughter, and don't see anything wrong with her, the world does. I know this because every interaction outside of me and her father, it show up in one way or another.

My mom keeps telling me I'm the most qualified person to be her mother, but I don't feel so qualified when I'm about to tear an inlaw to shreds for telling my daughter that she's ""acting like a baby and needs to use her words""... even if she doesn't understand what was said, I know that ignorance might not last forever.

How do I protect my kid from shitty people? Because I'm fine with her getting a scraped knee. I'm not fine with people looking down on her as lesser and in turn feeling that way.",5.384535612535615,6.051460088888893,5.693888888888887,81.9844230769231,67.8641975308642,8.798670465337134,30.638651471984804,8.841846274778883,2.3495603038936377,1636,61,319,26,26,522,201,405,0.107,0.7829999999999999,0.11,0.5363,3,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,1,1,4,1,25,16,2,1,16,0,31,10,4,10,1,68,59,36,0,11,13,10,3,2,0,4,3,4,0,10,12,21,0,3,9,1,0,2,13,7,0,5,7,12,57,9,54,43,5,35,1,2,4,3,63,19,1,10,14,223,69,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746237789297424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976008135214477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458351568377186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207550407216503,0.0887875635872237,0.0,0.0,0.0937067097998826,0.0,0.0,0.18239725116441705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550910138875293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963231661018241,0.1103577001704314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123151207933248,0.0,0.0,0.11430787122325865,0.10208560694068244,0.08728100064864593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32937855006932226,0.0,0.08403318609933348,0.0,0.0,0.09756246038566672,0.0,0.0,0.10086060241067484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052108752478320114,0.09567734452621188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102359498853065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822139448965897,0.0,0.10677110829067116,0.11259155194986785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865131560459336,0.0,0.0,0.16443944457266466,0.08129941366877137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745345633565816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750884207988045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27005109410049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580577736658807,0.0,0.11681141115280963,0.07960955951214319,0.0,0.0,0.07395412830459529,0.0,0.0,0.10607201412925307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355185981097107,0.0,0.0,0.06758474396528523,0.07585489983849354,0.0,0.0,0.3322402327773173,0.0,0.0,0.1382909157442152,0.08708698013079615,0.0,0.0,0.09428422118088256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487324811491417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895582588394194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450730102547473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059475004265918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615250400092461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799163482284932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169716244142892,0.09742909226973008,0.2076606104558851,0.0,0.08614121871104985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833404690107292,0.08000344518093935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012883216881938,0.0,0.0,0.10904735201820476,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankenpoopies,2019/01/08,"Hello- looking to fill the freezer Hi-

Expecting twins 2/15. Any suggestions/recipes for easy meals to freeze?

I made some bolognese and meatloaf, just wondering about any of your favorites. 

Thanks!
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parenting,br1ckhouz,2019/01/08,"anyone use cloth diapers for big kids? I have a five year old that only needs diapers at night, I figure cloth would be a better option to help her be more aware of her bladder control.

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The only ones I found on amazon was for up to 32 lbs. I haven't weight her lately but I bet my kid is 35 lbs. Would like to have a diaper that at least fits comfortably.",1.7230451127819535,3.6008595000000017,3.3942857142857146,90.06500000000004,79.0,6.448120300751881,18.75187969924812,7.447530270364453,0.35807744360902305,286,6,61,4,7,95,55,76,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.8779,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,4,0,9,2,1,2,0,10,12,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,9,3,10,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,5,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435900207864588,0.2731782664002228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719785137106534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883309766879725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521523087586702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465011424172475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069064996196102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536043003565928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098346339063006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666995694892087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21097630033457213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359084901937453,0.0,0.15234237738086331,0.34196817504610355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417041892866865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273767546066548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31940826682280893,0.0,0.2731782664002228,0.14477530914667402
parenting,mariah_papaya111,2019/01/08,"Parents, how do you deal with your partner having a drastically different risk tolerance level? My husband is a total helicopter parent. He wants to bubble-wrap our kids (two girls, 2 & 4). We fight about this constantly. I am much more easygoing, I’m fine with them rambling around the house, going up and down stairs unassisted, etc. Is it really incumbent upon me to sink to his level of paranoia? This is driving me insane. Help. ",3.4086357243319263,6.357466544303797,4.7118143459915665,76.91542897327709,79.75949367088606,8.068073136427566,26.499296765119553,8.841846274778883,2.8189735583684965,343,14,55,9,9,113,69,79,0.111,0.7709999999999999,0.118,0.1322,3,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,2,1,0,3,3,1,1,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,8,9,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,1,11,9,4,10,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,0,1,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724037717822798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22380914014404985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716860337729785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591937570725041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626710411332866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803897825269647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288269565944944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851552986214674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900946010212301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848160522888811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5583244455634574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16106035882903474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24559206813330486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482887533824993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FallingSins,2019/01/08,"Having the race talk with my biracial son A little background... Im black and my husband is white. We have three children together ages 7, 4, and 2..all of them with very light skin. I don't really feel like I need to explain race to them or anything (although we did have the toy gun talk after Christmas) but an issue came up yesterday with my seven year old an I dont know how to handle it.

I was listening to pandora on a long drive home and a song came up that said the n-word like 7 times in a row before I slapped the radio off. I asked my son if he had heard that word before. He said no. I told him that was good and that if he ever hears anyone say it to just ignore them and to NEVER say it himself. We dont have curse words at our house, we have ""adult word."" I told him it was worse then all the adult word and that even mommy doesnt say it. He asked me why and I briefly asked what he knew about black history and if he knew what a slave was. He said he only knew about Martin Luther King Jr. I dont want to introduce things too soon. Hes my oldest and its never been an issue before. I want him to know his heritage and his history but at the same time I want him to stay young and naive for as long as possible.

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Any tips or advice. I wish in hindsight that I had just turned off radio and not said anything, but then he might repeat that word.   ",2.3403373945642016,3.3803709140893474,3.5583270852858497,93.11034910965323,75.25429553264604,6.528022492970947,21.13105279600125,6.7829847944221076,0.19584398625429555,1060,23,246,9,22,345,152,291,0.08199999999999999,0.879,0.039,-0.7909,0,0,0,1,0,0,34.0,5,0,3,1,9,4,0,0,14,0,21,1,1,1,4,57,48,26,0,8,11,3,2,2,0,1,0,11,1,3,16,21,0,1,7,4,0,3,9,1,0,2,20,17,36,3,28,27,2,32,0,0,3,0,49,10,0,6,20,152,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572073814910274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613447415789384,0.11902635240205392,0.0666129301007423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684925894753495,0.0,0.16121765143827185,0.0,0.27472481171122604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25005811303931563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22406942445354275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34440847594512564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469851982831523,0.08860613309495614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04952911842308398,0.06997925129865472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216021756695706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040268769758113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825710411428257,0.0,0.0,0.11302720859548368,0.0,0.0,0.10580848090821217,0.2044796661451254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766728903063627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571197601883057,0.09817689584761298,0.0,0.17337463034644413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391504218264634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263257785750794,0.15109825753105266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278755868264897,0.0,0.0,0.07449938285663632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042982810553033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275264244749082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37271150310471546,0.2336938430686949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044072648196354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746544147645805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507711655252557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423698985907706,0.0,0.0,0.18720088132291074,0.0,0.0,0.10654718515667773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082334125447556,0.1733296359386714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838937858307805,0.0,0.11264370507392875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982476990774328,0.0,0.0,0.11902635240205392,0.06307997042620618
parenting,CrimsonGandalf,2019/01/08,"Impulse Control - Dennis The Menace I'm a stay-at-home dad of a 7 and 4 year old. My 4 year old son is a sweet little boy that is very affectionate and fun. However, I've nicknamed him ""Dennis The Menace"" because he always seems to get into hot water. He means well and there is nothing malicious with his behavior. 

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I'm trying to teach him impulse control and to think about outcome of what he does before he actually does it. Now I know that he is only 4 years old, but I can't align myself with that excuse because 1, my daughter didn't struggle with this and 2, I know plenty of other children that are less aggressive in their play. Ironically, his behavior reminds me much of myself in my teenage years, and all of the dumb things that I did without any forethought. I wish that I had a mentor at that age. ;)

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Do you guys have any wisdom or recommendations on books about teaching impulse control or simply learning to being conscientious? I know that he is learning through constructivism, but I want him to know the difference between being constructive (playing with toys, legos, playdoh) and destructive (scratching furniture, hanging from the curtains, smashing toys on the walls to dent them). 

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Thanks everyone! I appreciate your feedback. 

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parenting,heythatsmyporkchop,2019/01/08,"Looking for a middle name for baby girl We are expecting a baby girl in May. I won the battle for the name , LAYLA is what I picked . Have not decided yet on a middle name. 
LAYLA ROSE , LAYLA GRACE , LAYLA AMAYA , i like but not completely sold on.  Any suggestions? ",1.4752941176470602,4.0071611372549025,3.6897058823529436,83.74867647058825,84.68627450980392,6.537254901960785,18.303921568627448,7.793537801064563,0.9630627450980392,202,5,37,4,6,69,34,51,0.037000000000000005,0.8340000000000001,0.129,0.5524,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,5,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,7,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,4,3,6,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,1,2,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42960913716283067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.662373960130032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30863932401272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5305077698590647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LetsGetJigglyWiggly,2019/01/08,"Trouble sleeping or waking up with your early riser? Meditate! My daughter consistently wakes up at 6 am (sometimes earlier, God help me) and having a 5 month old that wakes up in the night makes the mornings anything but enjoyable or easy. Usually the mornings entail me drinking multiple cups of coffee, being a grouchy dragon, and a surprise nap sneaking up on me at about 8 am. Not to mention being so tired I don't even attempt housework till almost noon. 

But recently I started meditating before going to bed and the difference is incredible. It hasn't even been a full week and I already notice a huge difference in my day to day attitude, patience, and energy level. Even after getting up with my son several times in the night I can wake up at 6 with my daughter bright eyed, bushy tailed and a fully functional adult with only one cup of coffee. Also no more sneak attack naps and housework is always started before 10. 

Taking that 15 minutes before bed to wind down and meditate has been an amazing change to my life. I encourage everyone to try it!",7.028942470389168,7.677299741116755,7.7038705583756375,69.06954526226737,64.27918781725886,10.221489001692053,36.721235194585454,10.125756701596842,4.063724534686972,847,40,133,18,12,282,127,197,0.084,0.762,0.154,0.9355,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,1,6,7,1,0,12,0,13,9,6,1,0,19,19,15,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,4,12,1,0,0,3,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,2,14,5,29,15,2,34,0,0,2,0,8,17,0,3,16,94,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486940502700634,0.0,0.1638654541194332,0.11874960721369125,0.12355787254559886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219688978756575,0.0,0.0,0.16893195259337054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790692074589802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570856515562847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153109251487954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102866600588517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454663738618785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942342042455455,0.0,0.0,0.14189119652266854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775813387385616,0.0,0.08439185801582015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995315675138333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488482845064348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912007094166086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852550501777755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787007937900591,0.0,0.0,0.1690599924466395,0.1558181733553635,0.0,0.10062253778405526,0.11293543597686888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661868705268766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775455299195915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860000055964218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686313744419766,0.0,0.21020788085465167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116480760173473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865873230067353,0.17067058444517932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081683730558648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354379719205642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191119358195484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhoGotSnacks,2019/01/08,"Am I ruining my son by always praising him? I have always praised my son (5) for doing the right thing. When he puts his dishes in the sink, when he helps me with laundry, when he draws a picture, etc. Basically, anytime he does something good, I tell him ""Great job making your bed, sweetie!"" Or ""I'm proud of you putting your toys away without me asking you to!""

I'm wondering... Am I raising a cocky jerk? Is he going to feel superior to others because of what I tell him?

I always make sure to show him that we help others whenever we can. If we're in the grocery store and someone knocks something down, we pick it up. When we go to the park and there's a shy kid on the outskirts, we go say hello, he introduces himself and asks that kid if they'd like to play with him.

I'm trying to show him empathy to avoid him feeling like he's better than others, but also trying to make him confident in himself.

Am I doing this right? Should I change the way I approach this?",1.7095912369756905,3.760666969543152,3.3684050227090587,89.38008816457388,79.81218274111673,5.771733903286134,24.07400480897676,6.8360192770164,0.8491583756345178,751,27,155,8,19,249,116,197,0.038,0.797,0.165,0.9688,1,1,2,0,0,0,32.0,5,4,1,4,6,14,1,1,9,0,10,1,0,4,1,25,24,12,0,3,5,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,10,10,1,1,3,4,1,6,1,3,0,0,0,3,34,11,24,22,1,20,2,1,0,0,42,9,0,4,6,100,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391478116407623,0.3555818417184944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663373543474333,0.0,0.1338336064795423,0.0,0.0,0.08683434369292592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259827588713798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068999418961754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246562932248656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886601276371004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14405092443376707,0.1017641355398713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428676674425301,0.11947775035183696,0.0,0.15704827451278988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095838711875027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135662628110676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918477719632913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852533525429257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863970746024313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432978483053073,0.0,0.1132795387182298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069484559051047,0.2193252558029055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425457249709075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490098404827203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463542959515094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934242685730088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306776521406653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731378466153296,0.15447764999931082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LTCirabisi,2019/01/08,"Interesting talk about what social media is doing to our young I have an 8 and 4 y/o boys. My wife and I decided long before this to not allow any type of social media until they were 16. The video has a great interesting talk about social media and our kids. What are other parents thoughts?  


  
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CI6rX96oYnY](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CI6rX96oYnY)",8.250217917675545,12.47989954237288,5.0971428571428605,73.53084745762712,70.52542372881356,6.083292978208232,18.59806295399516,7.447530270364453,0.7818842615012098,319,6,43,4,7,87,46,59,0.027000000000000003,0.807,0.165,0.8546,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,7,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,3,6,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,3,29,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500701930470954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647314679585405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675171290531658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147333177902333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26942871848419275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7420385051280723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39005795274633903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263314146049576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abenyishay,2019/01/08,"2.5 year old insisting on being put in time-out We've somewhat recently started doing time-out for a few minutes with our daughter, whether it be standing in the corner or staying in her room for a few minutes by herself. 

She's been insisting upon being put in time-outs in two different ways:

* Doing nothing wrong and insisting, then crying when she gets it

* Doing nothing wrong then does and immediately demands time-out

What's going on? Is she just exploring boundaries and learning rules?",5.023666666666667,7.571223311111113,5.579722222222222,75.09625000000003,71.44444444444444,7.611111111111112,34.58333333333333,8.472884824447931,3.3210000000000006,398,21,61,7,8,128,61,90,0.036000000000000004,0.901,0.063,0.3331,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,11,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,1,0,6,0,12,7,3,24,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,2,7,45,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015980741464133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989226648261385,0.0,0.0,0.1674284256201149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995859721629748,0.0,0.10873351608645797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671599881804617,0.0,0.20076175898297954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846657883240083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890880876482413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541971069131334,0.2039253233020902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462489297141084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689519376598585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186363582965715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183642792993971,0.0,0.12320601813745805
parenting,Vivalo,2019/01/08,"Cost for childcare? Just had our first child and am looking for childcare options, only require 1 day a week as can work from home the rest of the time but the local child care center is quoting us just over $800 a month for 1 day a week. That’s $200 per day, which seems a bit extortionate. 

Is that normal?  

What other options can we investigate?",3.939,5.017237757142858,4.704285714285717,86.2707142857143,71.42857142857143,6.742857142857144,26.857142857142854,6.742157984588678,1.0702285714285718,273,9,56,2,5,88,51,70,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.7041,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,9,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,7,8,2,11,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,3,8,34,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703748417653135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25250051994473377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.479150471650436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21065500132923906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484179038285026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796761408308145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976756563340136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24264907003085034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835259488451095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254555804557181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440947459362766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978981677806493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973073995645504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802956054087653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,plasterdpink,2019/01/08,"Let child go to park alone?? What age is it appropriate to let a child walk to a very safe neighborhood park alone with a buddy?

I am thinking 10, but I would love your thoughts.

Thanks.

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parenting,pingachulo,2019/01/08,"The days are long but the years are short. Today was one of those mornings where you already feel defeated. My toddler wouldn’t put on his pants and threw an insane tantrum if i got near him. 

My baby wouldn’t let me put him down and didn’t want to be picked up. He was crying for about 15mins until i managed to feed him. 

I sat down on the floor with my head hung low and my hands covering my face about to cry, because I just didn’t know what to do. My toddler comes up to me and says “papa ok?” Then hugs and kisses me. My baby stops crying and joins us. 

I’ll never forget when someone told me that when you become a parent ‘the days are long but the years are short’. ",2.9902127659574487,3.7853642269503527,3.7175106382978735,93.52350000000004,73.39716312056738,6.207375886524822,21.192198581560284,5.6839178017228535,-0.08294099290780155,520,10,119,2,10,165,89,141,0.17600000000000002,0.731,0.093,-0.9371,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,1,6,6,1,0,7,1,13,6,3,1,1,21,21,13,0,4,4,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,8,1,1,2,0,0,4,5,3,0,1,8,3,22,3,18,9,0,29,0,2,0,2,11,12,0,1,13,79,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835467949039187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139184529743543,0.18369591893401796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327661863795954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5481096301911881,0.21453526214213176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841003019311755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302748642091156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070024475990006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914093749684778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008138117228375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943896282342512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828220533916782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270797987659267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468726950811307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344106334748912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322704931783724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409289526686183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390574366460256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765924744899354,0.15893328149468253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000717894412539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098104409286027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142192200288
parenting,verbatim2242,2019/01/08,"[Advice Wanted] - 19 Month Old Sleep Regression, Hard All, 

I am the dad of a wonderful little girl. She is fun, and active, incredibly verbal, and very silly. 

This said, about two weeks ago she began going through a recent stage of sleep regression. My wife or I will put her to bed around 7:45 and she will sleep until 2. When she pops up, she will cry and yell to no end. 

We have tried the cry it out method (worked during the 9 month sleep regression phase) and it has not worked. We have tried the comforting her in her room method and it has not worked. The only thing which has worked is bringing her into our bed which I am not a fan of for obvious reasons. 

This said, what has worked for  you and your little one? Is it a good idea to introduce stuffed animals or toys in her crib so she has something to play with/temper her crying?

Any and all advice would be wonderfully appreciated.

Thanks. ",3.6869142857142885,5.3852167485714295,4.1867142857142845,87.30978571428572,72.94285714285716,7.514285714285713,21.642857142857146,8.192908349453996,0.9263714285714276,701,16,144,11,14,221,105,175,0.076,0.772,0.152,0.9402,0,0,3,0,0,0,27.0,3,2,0,5,4,6,0,0,9,0,17,4,4,1,3,27,26,13,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,4,0,3,3,1,10,13,0,0,4,2,0,3,4,0,0,2,3,4,21,6,18,18,2,23,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,4,10,95,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229993728329605,0.10114502160313772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759364335392252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015754562086504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760088635722386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106098745459878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484710582681796,0.09570380120090388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221346831051856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288078847136366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287214518404735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18215112566010894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197314268803343,0.0,0.0773188374999686,0.08678012714232416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470457307555967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731642002856332,0.11266249776977777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21707529906036524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567397940379462,0.0,0.0,0.08784171369935713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050502932904097,0.0,0.0,0.07580466081647486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493627635630206,0.0,0.11146160673246128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414654942347694,0.06730063734548453,0.0,0.09152617905247976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474786855624713,0.4153400586322797,0.0,0.0,0.08105517421747166,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,queendangalang,2019/01/08,CPS How bad does an investigation have to get before CPS can pull a child from a parents home? Will an interview with the child informing the case worker of neglect be enough to place said child in the other parents custody or do they not really go off of what the child says too much? ,7.079761904761902,6.553556500000003,7.0721428571428575,77.6061904761905,64.35714285714286,10.323809523809524,31.16666666666667,9.725611199111238,2.621780952380952,228,7,45,4,3,73,44,56,0.117,0.883,0.0,-0.782,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,8,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,8,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,4,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,8,5,2,5,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,1,0,30,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283641702797973,0.0,0.0,0.2327315093339485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23934493625808825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282602440480793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289439795286668,0.0,0.15543845903371184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743465172798196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010566936737221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6073869971356176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857531605076391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521347754714048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601646561554884,0.217501124672076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spoopyboy07,2019/01/08,How to dab on them haters I can at My son and he left the hose how can I dab on him,-4.489696969696968,-3.26494390909091,-0.9299999999999996,114.79166666666669,101.72727272727272,2.9333333333333336,7.333333333333332,3.1291,-2.9188666666666667,62,0,22,0,3,22,17,22,0.14400000000000002,0.856,0.0,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,4,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,40cats,2019/01/08,"Schedule expectations for 9mo Our poor baby has not been sleeping well ( he is up almost hourly at times) and has been extremely fussy for the last month or so. I believe this is partly due to 4 teeth that have and are emerging on top, so I have have been comfort nursing him to sleep during his frequent night walkings. 

My partner wants him on a strict schedule. Schedules are good, I agree. I am just not sure how THIS schedule is. My partner has made up his own schedule for him. Please let me know if this sounds right. 

7:30pm-7am
10am- 12pm
3pm-5pm

He had him for 2 days while I worked and stated that he had success with this schedule. I however, have not. He will go down to sleep at those initial nap times (although he is sometimes tired about a half hour or so before that) but will not stay asleep for the full 2 hours that my partner has scheduled for him. 

Is it realistic to expect him to learn to sleep for 2, 2 hour naps during the day? TIA! 




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parenting,spiceyricey1,2019/01/08,"Meal ideas for a fussy toddler (2F) Ever since she was weaned my little one has been a notorious vegetable hater. Also, it's gotten to the point where all she will eat is pasta and bread. I often blend up vegetables and mix them into pasta sauce but there's only so much pasta a two year old can eat. 
Its a difficult situation when you don't want your child to go hungry but also want her to eat a variety of healthy foods.
My partner and I also generally will eat what she eats so any ideas that the whole family can enjoy would be great, thanks. Also open to any advice at all from fellow parents of fussy eaters.",4.867743902439023,5.507402065040653,5.851778455284556,80.49278963414636,69.0,8.426422764227643,24.318089430894307,8.472884824447931,1.4312284552845531,486,11,95,7,8,161,90,123,0.07400000000000001,0.7929999999999999,0.132,0.9115,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,1,0,11,5,1,0,7,0,11,13,0,0,3,17,16,12,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,4,5,13,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,3,0,11,3,11,9,4,12,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,1,4,66,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396787850073145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058053287035145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254074268510947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6490564403419644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475375717250595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959401056171134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340178690684075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209848201936148,0.0,0.0,0.13986557760486767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28642305131642354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714884706653234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325801673421903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312011412102628,0.0,0.08596483596564793,0.09648411223036038,0.0,0.0,0.14086501102754326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992540227905014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494138834476137,0.1425979736515028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679729704752664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392554064496228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496527479423235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163666438707573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011897981232317,0.0,0.0,0.08169483709418053
parenting,Yernanwasgoodlike,2019/01/08,"My girlfriend doesn't want our kids to call me daddy because she thinks it has a sexual connection She's always had a DDlg kink, I don't. So it's her problem, not mine. The kids don't find it sexual, I don't find it sexual. It's only her who does. One is 4 and the other is 1. What am I supposed to say ""Don't call me ""Daddy"" it's wrong because your mum thinks so."" They'll either wonder what they did wrong or ask me why it's wrong which I'd have no answer for. I also can't have a ""You're the one with the problem, it's not my problem"" attitude with her because she'll just bite my head off over it. She uses lengthy, boring, repetitive arguments as a weapon. What am I supposed to say to her?",1.5742543859649132,2.674935986842108,3.7894736842105283,90.45464912280704,77.28947368421053,6.908771929824562,21.87719298245614,7.492282038375204,0.6394456140350879,538,14,125,7,12,186,80,152,0.213,0.787,0.0,-0.9795,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,2,0,4,8,1,0,8,0,17,1,1,1,0,19,23,6,0,4,5,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,15,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,9,8,0,2,2,2,24,0,10,19,1,3,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,2,1,84,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117838624764725,0.12608499475981327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165997804448086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771136159519038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094578887499784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260481470657826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769911210100056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551336806402058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053611297740596,0.11524529809369845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349808772985602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410052770409372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418845071373655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087315980439335,0.0,0.0,0.08937624624651516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673214317393767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432768554664634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.497022392083725,0.0,0.0
parenting,CommodoreSixty4,2019/01/08,"If my son starts crying when he's sleeping, our dogs run right to his room I always thought it was a cliche or something out of the movies, but it was really awesome to see our two dogs instinctively run to check on our son (2 y/o) when he was having a nightmare during his sleep.

Ever since the first time that happened, they now wait for him in the morning outside of his room right around the time he usually wakes up and when we open the door to his room, they jump right on the bed and ""greet"" him good morning.

The funny thing is for the first two years of his life, my son completely ignored the dogs and they showed little interest in him (outside of the first few weeks when we first brought him home). Now, as parents, we get to watch this bond starting to form between our son and his dogs and it's honestly such a cool thing to watch evolve. 

Just thought I'd share the experience and would to hear similar stories from others as this is the first time I've experienced this (we didn't have dogs growing up so I didn't get to experience this as a child myself).",9.003932816537462,6.0424923906976735,8.161085271317834,79.10033591731266,62.30232558139535,11.416020671834627,36.447028423772615,9.150863307647796,2.8951291989664085,844,27,181,10,9,263,116,215,0.032,0.848,0.12,0.9715,2,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,8,0,3,5,11,6,0,0,16,1,10,4,3,0,1,23,21,17,0,2,4,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,11,13,0,2,2,1,1,5,2,1,0,7,8,6,26,5,28,12,2,41,0,0,3,0,32,16,0,2,20,119,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487404637533757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220089860153472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321488654896824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844726521429815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140089495582108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24657948214323175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.536040997608952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169972498071306,0.0,0.0,0.10571503092505503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145534177473652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420544381427354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264267927672242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902465003954069,0.0,0.12632358929914053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995072869477948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074342709181696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229083174296577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043628736701694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426026776954234,0.0,0.25225884889391803,0.0,0.0,0.09703051878517932,0.0,0.0,0.1784212579176319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674686263642632,0.0,0.0,0.20012082356946367,0.22048201562810454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24624240740329514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881349215355573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110040277996442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953406386699314,0.0,0.0,0.08116459792628226
parenting,runrunrun100,2019/01/08,"How are you messing up your kids? TLDR: What do you think are the accidental or subtle things parents do that wind up screwing up their kids?

My daughter is just a baby, and so far I feel like my partner and I are doing a pretty good job -- but parenting only gets more complex, and right now, she doesn't have any awareness of our personal failings. She knows we love her, we feed her, we play with her, she has fun at daycare, she lives in a comfortable place. Simple. None of our faults really matter. She can't tell if, for example, I'm a little obsessive about exercise, or too intense about work. But as she gets bigger she'll start to be affected by those things, right? I don't even know what the things that are going to screw her up are! 

Most parents try to do their best, and they probably don't realize the things they're doing that are fucking their kids up until their kids are adults and complaining about how overbearing they were. So I'm curious: What are the things that your parents did, in good faith or unconsciously, that screwed you up? What are the things that you have done? And did you forgive your parents for these mistakes? Do your kids forgive you? ",4.897979074889868,6.125299070484584,4.966032488986787,84.72807957048458,69.30837004405286,8.318171806167399,28.28441629955947,8.660442795831766,1.9823922907488984,927,32,182,15,16,289,124,227,0.084,0.7140000000000001,0.203,0.9875,6,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,5,10,6,3,11,21,4,1,9,0,29,7,0,3,0,31,41,18,0,2,7,6,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,8,18,10,1,0,8,2,0,1,5,10,0,0,4,1,37,11,23,35,4,19,1,1,0,5,51,15,4,5,4,139,55,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055551947458332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431438953810435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122368788837805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824040867327774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989593698484109,0.08462643712384486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951253581623012,0.12377885835311304,0.0,0.06732242578784034,0.19871394326121253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755131198780727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020286579746718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057872607739032925,0.11872606164367472,0.10460060681462292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691299297136607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900926663558571,0.0,0.0,0.6576680940701639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343297877352772,0.12376342419699406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051439841595825,0.1277177868700302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588724446012743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232501315661325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384520018627617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353753558184167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4721894913076299,0.07590311964870558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042522356123241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623885343060336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ricecakesandtequila,2019/01/08,"Today I thought my toddler was really really ill... (spoiler: she wasn't). I promise I don't have health anxiety - it's just that when your kid is ill, it can escalate in your mind from 'bit ill' to 'possibly dying' very quickly.

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1. Yesterday, viral rash, spread all over, went to doctor. Doctor said ""it's a viral rash"" which I guess I knew anyway but I wanted to check because on Saturday she uttered the sentence ""mummy, I ate a mouse poo"" (we have no proof she's even seen a mouse poo, I just briefed her on mouse poo because a mouse had snuck into our living room from the (now blocked) air brick into our front garden) and between Saturday and Monday I'd spent several hours Googling the horrible and deadly diseases that vermin poo can cause (if you're in mid west America).

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2. This morning, she was grumpy, got her washed and dressed, she complained of a sore knee (she has a graze) put her down, fully clothed, her legs gave way underneath her, she tried to walk, one leg was completely straight, the other completely bent. Could hardly stay upright.

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3. I thought, ""well this is it... Leukaemia, or mouse virus, she's going to die"" I considered phoning 999, and then (ashen faced) carried her to the living room and informed Andrew that she needed to go to A&E.

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4. Tried to tempt her to walk using biscuits as bait.

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5. Took off her leggings in case the issue was just her graze being touched by tight trousers. She walked grumpily and staggeringly to retrieve biscuit.

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6. Realised this is the first time in a year she's worn a button-under vest. Unbuttoned vest. She walked, she was fine.

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Basically she was so inconvenienced by a mild graze in leggings, twinned with a button-under vest, that she refused to walk.

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So that was fun.",4.372744510978045,6.803889967065867,4.2262514970059915,84.59215169660682,72.98203592814372,6.728782435129743,29.69620758483034,7.675431598112923,2.027660998003993,1435,62,252,19,30,438,195,334,0.102,0.852,0.045,-0.9589,0,0,0,0,0,0,104.0,3,2,0,1,11,5,0,0,17,0,20,17,8,2,2,33,38,15,3,4,6,0,3,0,0,0,8,1,3,1,14,11,1,3,4,1,2,12,3,1,1,2,21,5,40,4,33,15,2,47,0,0,1,0,36,20,0,3,13,150,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.533622770237141,0.5319471455975003,0.0,0.0,0.04186228949911088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671622073751071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597424070813928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621471461488225,0.0,0.0,0.11475025129164725,0.0,0.0,0.0436911782843856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358588953215848,0.0,0.0,0.11202086396528987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03614345925556321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046546626753337525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219970970779307,0.0,0.04376629659998026,0.0,0.06028260977814245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04902029146928954,0.0,0.0,0.058167078926720836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05389028777093153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711569987628234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096641309385255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05525376474904186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04057577554147459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0370811402153062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169099391025468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055010867921460815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011281190044111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052053289094912976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182044538173595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058326523265247274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688653780035774,0.03190892155961444,0.0,0.05187019292952412,0.0,0.060798314195039165,0.07430548587862303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04726236162087852,0.0,0.045151498817615064,0.03227653765472609,0.043435889888191984,0.0,0.0,0.04920177828725419,0.050727974659581614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5319471455975003,0.035239265859431726
parenting,Taco_tuesday87,2019/01/08,"4yo son behavior My son has always been lively. He’s energetic and spirited but mostly well behaved and usually responds to reward/punishment. But recently he’s a nightmare. Does nothing he’s told, screams and cries if he’s not getting his way. Will melt down for an hour over tiny things. Today he lost it because I said he couldn’t have a biscuit. He’s become hard to reason with. Talks over us or starts fiddling whenever we try to talk to him. He promises to behave but then does what he’s been told not to do within minutes.

We have taken away toys, used rewards, reward charts, etc. we’re just at a loss.",2.567,4.955867033333334,3.748333333333335,86.00000000000001,78.66666666666666,6.333333333333332,25.833333333333336,7.492282038375204,1.4995833333333333,484,19,91,7,12,157,86,120,0.086,0.735,0.179,0.9018,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,4,2,7,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,0,18,16,9,0,2,8,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,7,3,7,4,14,7,2,13,1,2,0,0,22,6,0,3,6,51,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207675289839004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17171557639495008,0.0,0.0,0.1114130431834939,0.20185174940636968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076092483453506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198811988323385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383347403447527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548819381392616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372329817131634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17998864120964686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138657521101288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19951172816799906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536982855126834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18791487593764847,0.1804603250429808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17385323334161082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936339585415507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938023206925815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214222478776217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324170886508328,0.3492833275204104,0.0,0.12408676953595695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984615085589268,0.15785197296885475,0.2012919866717687,0.0,0.0,0.1450719067216511,0.0,0.0,0.16432944757437334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LWdkw,2019/01/08,"15 month old suddenly waking up too early... My kid has generally been a good sleeper and we have hardly had to do any (CIO) sleep training so far, things just organically happened to go in the direction we liked. 

During the holidays though my son had a bit of a cough and it would wake him up at night and he'd have trouble falling back asleep. His cough is now over but he keeps waking up somewhere between 5 and 6 and doesn't go back to sleep - he's just awake. He dropped down to 1 nap about 2 months ago but now that he's waking up so early he needs two again.

How do we get him back on schedule and/or adjust our schedule so that he doesn't wake up so early?

Our previous schedule:

6.45-7.15 wakeup, get changed, breakfast

9.45 snack

12.00 lunch

12.30 nap

14.30 wake up

16.00 snack

18.15 dinner

19.40 start bedtime routine

20.00 lights out/sleep

​

Ideally we'd go back to something like that but, I guess we might need to adjust it somehow.

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parenting,JarJar_bakes,2019/01/08,"Daughter with a narcissist I have a 19 year old daughter, who moved out when she was 18 to live with her grandmother.  There were no rules and started to date this guy who immediately moved in.  Within months she became pregnant, had a baby. 
During this period her boyfriend has quit multiple jobs on a whim and has not financially supported his new child.  Even worse, I found out this is his 4th child and he is in major debt for child support.  While she was on maternity leave (unpaid) he quit his job and unable to pay for anything leaving them in a destitute situation.  He literally sat on his duff for two weeks not looking for a job, hasn't helped with the baby. When I asked why doesn't he work fast food, he said that working that is ""beneath him"".   She admitted she was going through depression during this time. 

 She ended up catching him with multiple social media profiles, trying to score nudes with chicks...writing things about feeling unappreciated in his relationship and how he wants to branch out.  Giving his social media profile handles out to random women.  She confronted him over this and he lied and said he was hacked (which is complete BS).  She ended up leaving and moved back in with us, they are on the brink of being kicked out as they still have not paid rent.

So now we have entered this phase where he is just love bombing her.  Telling her things like ""I love you, you are so different than the other girls"" ..""I'm going to start working again""..""We are going to grow old together"" and even saying shit like ""marriage""... I told her there are so many problems with him right now that it will take a year to get his crap together.  His own mother even has said that he will never change and its repeated behavior.  Her therapist even told her he is showing signs of narcissism. 

Today, he gave her a ride to her cousins house..which kinda pissed me off because he doesn't have a valid driver's license. I expressed my displeasure and gave this as another example of something he needs to take care of if he is serious on having a future with her and her baby.  I know she is an adult, but it breaks my heart that I have to sit back and watch this happen.  
 
She is extremely wishy washy with this.  I know he is no good but he seems to pull her in like a tractor beam.  She cries about it daily and I think if she takes him back he is thinking she is going to move back in with him when they are still behind on rent.  I only gave my advice that she should not live with him and not be willing to let him have control over her.  I want her to be independent, get a degree and rely on herself to be happy and healthy..he just keeps playing her. 

As a parent, does anyone have advice on this?? Should I just step back and watch the destruction??",5.3031781701444665,6.109687509363298,5.519087212413055,82.66810112359552,68.10112359550563,8.424954521134296,28.178491171749602,8.505502328695277,1.8788032744783307,2166,69,424,31,35,686,257,534,0.075,0.865,0.06,-0.5972,8,0,1,0,0,0,69.0,2,2,4,6,28,19,5,0,18,0,47,8,5,3,1,69,90,33,0,8,12,5,1,3,0,5,0,4,2,7,26,35,1,2,8,2,5,14,11,8,0,1,17,8,71,11,71,63,2,78,0,1,3,3,107,30,3,5,35,292,97,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659329165324886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865210221727248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244712033773774,0.0,0.0617249371816611,0.0,0.07012206415297258,0.0,0.0,0.2883814154162497,0.0,0.045723991169286785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647533818861751,0.0,0.0793481895595563,0.0,0.078644135095361,0.0,0.08412750152473505,0.0,0.0,0.0823924245490146,0.0,0.0,0.06460401283932753,0.0,0.0,0.07836707069114343,0.0,0.0,0.06563973432868958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286909842382846,0.0,0.0,0.19816748533535244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03792614141260417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069959557318452,0.08224205971638905,0.0,0.0,0.07837684360758851,0.07195421030123672,0.1705143934097156,0.06291289102538232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742694050474738,0.0663290518851739,0.07984707996664804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888447290664257,0.050276073008600965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22330067310651114,0.06667028059862873,0.0,0.0,0.08244452878015468,0.0,0.0,0.23826693797437365,0.0,0.07670044418235188,0.0,0.10993490454530652,0.0,0.13246632762084073,0.0,0.06298756779892822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539473608378488,0.0,0.0,0.07604602397496586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987042194253475,0.31888521259611763,0.0,0.05561725115829968,0.057850554025305874,0.07244289367806732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741590442835748,0.0,0.0,0.05704672764891496,0.0,0.0,0.08328716234817601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177222860048837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955982078810735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053018740811038,0.0,0.06405615678261077,0.21404846718812545,0.05964912507809029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828418319944812,0.0,0.0,0.07699431512345792,0.0,0.08431178541356464,0.0,0.15292178649427704,0.0,0.05774458372713302,0.0,0.0,0.10618165702416893,0.0,0.11980247504942665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702356737542505,0.0,0.0,0.16918934247683282,0.0,0.0655600265003498,0.0,0.0,0.08708970843389492,0.09966355161069423,0.09612379718454653,0.0,0.0,0.0437375867962785,0.0,0.07109851898806026,0.14334612292044846,0.0,0.05092529736525496,0.0,0.07327161335162442,0.0,0.09022501471197394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848295700119495,0.0,0.06016664392055419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768277284644009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381947332910154,0.0,0.07643924342972402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660498530384383
parenting,AshleyParker1992,2019/01/08,Hi Im new Here My 19 Month old is constantly throwing tantrums and Im not sure how to even deal with them anymore. I want him to express himself but without having the kicking and hitting. ,1.0860526315789478,3.6708039210526335,2.27926315789474,92.2578421052632,88.73684210526315,4.092631578947368,31.28421052631579,5.6839178017228535,1.4812463157894742,151,9,29,1,5,48,33,38,0.08900000000000001,0.88,0.032,-0.2688,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,9,4,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,4,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27344277801900896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979582303193749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28425794323931264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211220866081676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5956555483610096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007918715744926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26629465166130395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893245376281116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598653327807439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626283615706056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657867935725311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Courtneyj123,2019/01/09,Mom Son question Hello everyone. New here. I have recently noticed that many of my clothes mainly panties and tights have been missing from my hamper when I go to do the laundry. Didn’t think much of it. I was recently going through my sons room yesterday doing some cleaning and found 2 pairs of my tights and some of my panties in his closet. Not really sure what to do or say? If anything. I don’t mind it I just don’t want to embaress him or have him feel uncomfortable. Any thoughts? ,2.357187500000002,4.820337010416669,3.2727499999999985,88.69725000000004,79.9375,6.756666666666668,27.30833333333333,7.908726449838941,1.8150158333333344,387,17,77,7,10,123,67,96,0.08,0.906,0.014,-0.7218,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,0,1,20,19,7,0,2,5,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,3,0,2,5,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,5,4,13,1,10,14,4,9,0,1,0,0,9,2,0,6,5,53,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541343198321775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865191413423668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21658017798536608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460443142921214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24851735880074854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576284375283571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297943058664764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228858641732078,0.26545757292036204,0.0,0.0,0.16661874470379456,0.0,0.0,0.21890644109402174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258050140894035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25390736272618103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520207783515665,0.0,0.44759226951446063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18024649516685712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136212455182876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452324533005457,0.0,0.1799400920109931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336879867104978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,countthemiles08,2019/01/09,"9 year old lying about chores My 9 year old has been skipping parts of his chores and then lying to my face about it. Obviously lying is unacceptable and needs to stop but I also want him to development a good work ethic and get his chores done properly to help out the family. I want him to understand that we all do our share of work and chores to contribute to the household. If this was an occasional slip up I wouldn’t be so upset but it’s literally almost every single day. 

For example: I’ll ask “Did you take care of the dogs?” He’ll look me in the eyes and say yes. I go check and yes, the dogs have food but no water. His chore chart specifically says food AND water. He has had the same chores for 7 months. There’s no way he “forgot.” He will even admit that he lies because he doesn’t want to do it. 

This has been going on for about 7 months since we moved into our new house. We also have a new baby (almost 4 weeks old) but the problem has been going on much longer than that so its not a reaction to the new baby. All of the post partum hormones are really kicking in for me and when he lies to me about his chores it really upsets me and I cry about it later, the stress is really not great for my mental health right now and then I get even more upset that I have to punish him.

He knows exactly what chores are expected of him. I’ve walked him through the chores many times and he has a white board that lists the chores (ex: “dogs - food and clean water”) and he can check them off as he goes. He has the opportunity to get $10 per week IF the chores are done properly. He has not received money in months. I’ve talked to him about it so many times, explaining how we all contribute, how it hurts my feelings that he lies to me, etc. but still it’s almost every day that he doesn’t do them and lies to me. His punishment is normally being grounded (no tv, iPad, or video games) but this only works for a couple days before he goes back to not doing his chores and lying. Today he lied again for the 3rd day in a row and I had him write “I will do my chores and I will not lie” 100 times. This was my boyfriend’s suggestion because grounding him does not work. 

On a positive note:
He gets about 30 - 60 mins of down time after school to have a snack and relax before homework and chores and we talk about his day during this time. I also spend 30 mins at bedtime reading to him so we definitely have positive time together daily and have a good relationship. He’s a happy kid, he’s in the gifted program at school, gets straight A’s, he’s in cub scouts, likes science and reading, just generally a normal kid without any behavioral issues other than the chores/lying. 

Any suggestions would be helpful. Sorry it’s so long. ",3.1341589077700287,4.49497382585279,4.312488831364038,87.21575508329506,73.75763016157991,7.47942048348712,21.930149054319237,8.057270187336151,0.8897101498893574,2139,50,456,32,43,701,245,557,0.145,0.755,0.1,-0.9835,0,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,8,1,2,5,27,17,2,4,30,2,45,10,2,2,5,78,68,45,0,12,17,1,1,1,0,6,1,2,16,2,24,30,7,2,6,6,4,6,13,8,0,0,11,6,50,9,61,48,9,66,0,1,3,0,67,20,0,6,39,280,74,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240781406451076,0.0,0.0,0.1789526288271268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144969290876893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973307769821069,0.0,0.0,0.05735633681310801,0.0,0.09094069512627176,0.0,0.12694391683826212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605110836826011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253418762042382,0.08193537101655382,0.24052705879685626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527561259530293,0.15266621070483782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318935238205714,0.09853409778413776,0.0,0.1256932817040105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031832282857538,0.0,0.03771575463250735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705893796068343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948551640288811,0.0,0.1271763772351699,0.12512779168968807,0.0,0.08223750330330515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940414616350787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928738367649445,0.0,0.0,0.09999435549476944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606869255717822,0.07985185148379842,0.0,0.0,0.07785425181394097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04099359310556733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03644168842339219,0.0,0.0,0.06601121951930954,0.06263815836570434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124835135822193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517078955675982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861491253462133,0.07927906706463109,0.0548334092674788,0.055308726906867584,0.0,0.2161230988230288,0.0,0.0,0.14616786313479915,0.0,0.0,0.2348140124017889,0.0,0.0,0.056730273696625276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077543485619057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143813462152537,0.0,0.0,0.0713740882278268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922357285602664,0.0,0.14335586865531338,0.0,0.0,0.08008346421934551,0.0,0.06370081959119292,0.0,0.11863646981716612,0.0,0.15098136469512285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061702943057487435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349919028249571,0.0,0.0,0.059568948817841326,0.06236191832770071,0.08544442679101212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608360082359813,0.1199078066178054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26096977394250004,0.0,0.07070411586867043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776524871317041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198817640489124,0.05920734082647864,0.11966576586221965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190364144225289,0.0,0.21721429529355785,0.0,0.0,0.0529877331286157,0.0,0.0,0.096069090771936
parenting,PavLovesDogs,2019/01/09,"40 weeks pregnant w a cold Hello fellow parents!

I’m 40 weeks and will be giving birth any day now - yay!

I also just caught a cold from my older child who caught it from my husband - boooo

Obviously I don’t want to give the cold to my new baby - anyone have any experience dealing with this? 

I’m going to discuss with my OBGYN but was wondering if anyone had any real world experience with illness and labor / newborns.

Thank you! ",2.772142857142857,5.040760261904765,4.519285714285715,81.36321428571429,77.33333333333333,6.104761904761905,23.595238095238088,7.1686216300943375,1.1258380952380949,338,11,61,4,8,114,61,84,0.042,0.848,0.11,0.5612,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,1,6,1,0,0,1,12,16,5,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,3,7,2,8,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,7,34,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616497909785628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123825837296213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826793634154835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036237254752114,0.20839553804130265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954597603547518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878186301180396,0.11487975858312592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522626730525025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22445047394073905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23007744766955154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861016336568404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922630736038745,0.0,0.3242860331088665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21921018131335387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XOXfromPNW,2019/01/09,Need middle name for Madeleine Our last name is 6 letters long and starts with Sch ,2.293125,5.122662062500002,0.8049999999999997,103.54,84.625,3.2,20.5,3.1291,-0.7774000000000001,67,2,14,0,2,18,15,16,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,5,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5157003650207437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5598820471630281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691075770466509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44779828934401794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mynameisearnestine,2019/01/09,"Potty-Training Regression - Feeling Discouraged I'm posting mainly to vent, although if anyone has any ideas I'm all ears. We potty trained our 2.5 yr old daughter a couple of months ago, and she had been accident-free for almost a month. For the past week it's like she's completely forgotten how to use the potty. They've put her back in diapers at daycare, because she was just having one accident after another. 

We were traveling for the holidays and just got back, so I'm guessing that the regression is due to her being stressed with the change. I'm trying to have sympathy, and to not lose my cool. But I just feel so unbelievably tired. We took a week off of work to train her in the first place, and don't have any more time off to take. We have to pay an extra $150/month at daycare if she wears diapers, not to mention the cost of the diapers themselves. She's more strong-willed by the day, and the thought of going through the process of potty-training all over again, plus the nice added bonus of extra tantrums and the knowledge that we could reset at any time, is just feeling overwhelming right now.

Thanks for reading my rant. I know, this too shall pass, and really it's not that big a deal. But sometimes it's hard to maintain perspective.",7.21756671899529,6.628650530612247,6.931428571428572,78.93472527472528,64.10204081632654,10.47723704866562,35.17268445839876,9.851270322608157,3.225954474097332,1000,40,194,18,13,315,146,245,0.095,0.8170000000000001,0.08900000000000001,-0.1201,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,6,0,0,4,12,10,1,2,18,1,15,3,2,2,2,40,31,16,0,3,11,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,7,14,0,1,7,3,3,5,4,5,0,2,7,6,18,5,33,21,7,34,0,3,0,0,17,11,0,4,18,127,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243347733018316,0.0,0.1404532315894582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861511492061565,0.1470780879183125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807521933472373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157073287293983,0.0,0.08550308260795167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483797593605383,0.0,0.14706318953640132,0.0,0.0,0.11198867036508196,0.15519844998525004,0.0,0.09045809447222494,0.14460509500821256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21276371020609655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930771942465415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797147509038366,0.0,0.11218121267256458,0.0,0.15451561574396655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564818524284171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833996465191955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708493041174265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685254646737002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691852864487654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33586999967955683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718252645871574,0.0,0.09504590517801152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338969980507779,0.0,0.0,0.14654508383224635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433327549170382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410031543222357,0.0,0.0,0.14030105509141402,0.0,0.08985613215990552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978391922642186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872379034628554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067090475076945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546039366673328,0.0,0.0,0.12913541560950956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135323219658877,0.16357708070885316,0.16121179750668935,0.0,0.0,0.1558374627212613,0.09522943636601656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114228189921415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22502119319968375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021132058003573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vc987,2019/01/09,"Getting ready for arrival of baby #2 and feeling...grief? Hi, just wanted to ask for some advice from anyone here who's a mother of more than 1 child. I am expecting baby #2 (am actually pretty close to my due date) and as my due date is approaching i am getting more and more emotional and crying a bit. i feel like i miss my firstborn son already. i have so much fun hanging out with him just chilling at home or doing whatever/nothing. i am sad that it will never be like this again (just us two). he's seriously the best thing that has ever happened to me. 

i am also afraid i won't be able to love my second as i love my first. i've googled and apparently these feelings are normal, but could anyone who already has two kids please tell me it gets better? or how you coped with it? any tips? ",2.7394729344729356,4.21915542592593,4.347777777777779,86.08653846153852,74.98765432098766,6.7130104463437785,24.80721747388414,7.321109707123232,1.0823963912630572,617,20,127,7,13,207,110,162,0.049,0.787,0.165,0.9574,1,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,3,9,11,0,1,3,0,16,2,0,1,2,25,27,13,0,4,6,2,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,2,10,9,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,4,0,2,19,7,16,22,7,13,0,2,0,2,15,3,0,3,10,92,29,0,0.1552296225457975,0.0,0.15148171946244374,0.0,0.0,0.15168859059161574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425994970167573,0.12413707306695634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055614663817146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170803227050394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451187426215835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290391195516346,0.1372879865402851,0.16947054370025486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239382224534729,0.0,0.1705124513450283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174612432028029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041408065628258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697752257488756,0.11089607336306292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203823763836592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433032127413404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726904256354766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570796806322873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167470524955434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28020158983336324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141116335204489,0.0,0.11972265450999975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209207172531006,0.14894700939876426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17039551097450503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792433218573745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567753212759845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312766366513278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032735709618101,0.0,0.18672212300328425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915584532383501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,octoberelectrocute,2019/01/09,"I feel like I lose my temper too easily with my three year old This is especially happens when I repeat myself over and over again or he grabs things that I asked him not to grab. The other day I whacked him with a fork when he wouldn't stop grabbing things on the table. I tried asking nicely, then I just kept moving things out of the way and pushing them to the side and then he straight-up climbed on the table to grab things while laughing in my face. I took my Fork without thinking and smacked his hand with the flat end. He screamed bloody murder and then I felt like the worst mother ever. How do I a) get him to listen to me b) not react when he laughs at my attempts at discipline? Nothing makes me see red faster than when he laughs at me when I'm angry. I was raised with strong discipline and the reason why I didn't do things was because I was afraid my dad would get angry. I want my son not to be afraid of me to do what I say. I would like some tips on positive parenting. I am a single parent and I am about to move out of my parents house and on our own and I need some of your more seasoned tips and tricks.",3.5476271186440687,4.1679760932203385,4.112500000000002,91.849343220339,71.96610169491525,6.9169491525423705,23.648305084745765,6.6274283507984215,0.4660728813559323,882,21,200,6,16,279,130,236,0.109,0.7490000000000001,0.141,0.7259,3,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,1,1,4,12,16,3,2,11,0,14,2,2,4,1,41,30,21,1,5,6,6,7,3,0,3,0,3,0,0,9,16,0,4,4,0,0,5,6,8,0,1,7,12,39,8,31,19,6,38,0,1,2,0,23,13,0,3,22,139,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541336238323783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285554420204504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765712786452426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038473868983025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294738263865605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872521417893651,0.09710124441343143,0.13050447378138125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202513524907182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201935690610337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568333813741294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992108761717121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520596648646012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072762670947424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28892280782986035,0.0,0.10078292585355292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304188644888158,0.0,0.14262513063633894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527690814994425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974835319622922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808900520566946,0.0,0.0,0.10831060808444518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363517011500016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.451495899343069,0.0870920202154439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101207333120426,0.09228072875850367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801691121822351,0.1078869352850736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264662016342227,0.0,0.0,0.1310219881986693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19310727538680827,0.0,0.0,0.08752799597421271
parenting,Haggem,2019/01/09,"Pacifier - different view than the mother I have only been a parent for a few days, our little one is doing great. all though we are one the same wavelength most of the time, we are not on the same page when it comes to the pacifier. I see it as a nessecary tool, sometimes needed to calm my little boy especially at night when sleep is precious.  She  would rather not use it at all. Any tips from others would be welcome.",4.156425702811244,5.367235746987955,4.732710843373496,85.77007028112452,71.04819277108433,7.461044176706826,24.676706827309236,7.793537801064563,1.1766080321285142,329,9,66,4,6,105,61,83,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.9201,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,8,0,10,1,1,1,2,15,14,4,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,7,4,10,10,7,11,0,0,2,0,8,5,0,1,5,53,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318055839402564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403652018687612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527030341435532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534266243834284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483435152092404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4515277050442154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670231112335746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21138577733825767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052761074409169,0.17131594494839206,0.0,0.0,0.2501180963009944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949840797588482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254168436594235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22278213168178224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22131107617909135,0.0,0.13134751668633676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945472779465829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200281958851899,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bsparky0713,2019/01/09,"Toddler Education! Looking for a safe and fun place for your child to learn? Click the link below and subscribe to Sparks Family TV! I promise you wont be disappointed!

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parenting,Complicitnote,2019/01/09,My wife wont let me hold our son So it's been a few months now and my wife just won't let me hold our son. She is always holding him never putting him down even when she goes to work (She teaches 3rd grade). I just really want to hold him you know to get some bonding time in with him before the big day. I feel she is being really selfish but I don't say anything. I don't know what to do. Maybe the doctor will let me hold him after we give him a name. ,0.3984313725490196,1.7645129607843124,2.3652941176470605,98.29049019607844,81.15686274509805,5.31764705882353,17.215686274509807,5.82211442006289,-0.6909490196078427,350,6,89,2,9,117,66,102,0.024,0.962,0.014,-0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,4,0,13,1,0,0,1,18,19,4,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,5,3,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,2,23,0,8,11,2,11,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,1,7,61,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742410298588949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232177507978425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781875103940257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504835475973329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143340232506902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830946775848166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588103137168696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094050268197197,0.2008795441473065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23016609159439705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6423898003498184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21037461697146187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714439665689113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615053917292847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050901103159544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682993243240253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665265868989253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210524527970068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351199459206808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244871697816473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lebinott,2019/01/09,"My 3 month old has a strange sleeping habit About a month ago, my baby started developing a weird sleeping habit at night only. We usually have no issues getting him to sleep, but he would sleep about 30 minutes and on the minute he'd wake up. He'd do this every night and only at night, not during any long naps during the day. It went away for a couple of weeks but this week, he's started doing it again (he just turned 3 months). Not only that, he only successfully goes back to sleep on our 3rd try of getting him down.

Has anyone experienced something like this before? Could it be that he knyk does this during a growth spurt?",5.14714,5.730936464000004,5.418949999999999,84.04122500000003,68.36,7.53,26.025,7.1686216300943375,1.1157400000000002,498,13,99,4,8,158,81,125,0.035,0.8740000000000001,0.091,0.8738,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,10,6,6,0,0,10,16,4,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,8,2,14,10,0,26,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,18,56,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645668533367657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166849879011545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397299071276136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283290260411935,0.09234539384636978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219172499655753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588582763609488,0.13288247620193885,0.0,0.07745113167767184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050956614143236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118494527135567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548902433485765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534764153086167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05867219311529968,0.0,0.0,0.10628001025680377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875752769670422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381021576456877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126019161733576,0.0,0.0,0.3653496550588608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6009070412289762,0.0,0.0,0.0924547498853198,0.0,0.0,0.17000726144234954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153640266918841,0.13062852285432458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226732020446635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266541227138975,0.0,0.0,0.11132896903984772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531181307363554,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yankeeatheartstuck,2019/01/09,"I NEED HELP WITH MY 13 yr OLD SON! Ok..I’ll try to keep this short. My son lives with myself (40f) and husband (40m) who is his stepfather. We coparent very closely with his bio dad who is very involved in his life. Well, My son doesn’t like to talk to me at all about his social life. Like AT ALL. Or his father it turns out. 

My son never has friends over or even asks. I tell him he can, and we do encourage him to have friends over. He does go to his dads 3 week ends out of the month, but he knows his dad is more than happy to accommodate any change of plans. 

My son went to a school dance and I asked if he danced with anyone in which he replied “no” well I found out from a classmate that he Has a “girlfriend” (whatever that means at 13) he does walk around our town every now and then with some friends. And I have seen him with friends at football games here and there. I’ve asked him if he’s embarrassed of us or something? (Were a very “normal” middle class family) he says no. He’s ALWAYS in his room on his Xbox. We’ve decided to limit the time on that so hopefully he’ll come out and hang more with us.

Now, I have another issue, I found out from same trusted class mate that a kid called him a “fag” and a teacher heard this and suspended the kid for 5 days. Well kid comes back to school calls my kid a “fag” AGAIN..my son reported it and kid got another 5 days. 

What I’m asking is can anyone help me understand why my son doesn’t tell me things? How do I make him closer to me? Is this “normal” behavior? I have a daughter who’s 21 so I’m new to this boy stuff. 

Any help or tips would be greatly appreciated!!",1.2459535936615715,2.939221339181288,2.6517619317110004,95.70041595925301,79.76023391812865,6.284248255046219,20.096585549896243,7.233258080335977,0.19164033201282749,1246,31,299,16,31,404,175,342,0.08800000000000001,0.7929999999999999,0.119,0.9077,1,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,5,0,0,2,14,15,0,1,12,0,20,2,0,2,3,55,44,21,0,7,7,13,0,2,6,2,2,2,1,6,17,28,0,2,6,4,0,8,5,1,3,0,7,3,41,14,43,34,6,44,0,0,1,0,77,23,0,8,15,172,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776384162551306,0.0,0.0,0.1269031307435125,0.19567983430138047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048403701813965,0.0,0.0,0.08306249611700095,0.3489156299069938,0.0,0.0,0.07174687769738575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19055257468164966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870582061644324,0.16075043823088533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034984400514286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330615425310158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264179351343151,0.0,0.0,0.06162801056992484,0.0,0.07861468331899929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796098893669396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461134749394028,0.2883532352609635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302818886557067,0.0,0.07462566796383471,0.1028706577072084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099326419363598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876239800012616,0.0,0.0,0.09267432861504107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738766095396346,0.0,0.08293503347391283,0.0,0.0,0.051278768386222535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181016801812975,0.09116960767277704,0.0,0.08239127851838297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228276004158876,0.0,0.0,0.10163804534786842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447629443460796,0.0,0.0,0.0691855283212273,0.07196366344184588,0.09011592208989737,0.0,0.0,0.18284096199853492,0.0,0.0,0.09790939220496253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420101041456817,0.0,0.18886215733515546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951141450727168,0.0,0.07183184083442183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681352780104347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749961661987047,0.16310784786074395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061988639576326984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054407723988072317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334893454375612,0.10149059160017668,0.0,0.09713527408994056,0.2244722700469853,0.0,0.0,0.23096270559257254,0.0,0.0,0.07484478215420602,0.0,0.2516810323195017,0.0864959863527833,0.08419453137478171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628220384136661,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kazall,2019/01/09,"New children's education series Hey guys I'm with a team working on a new educational series for kids. Our main goal is to make learning fun and also impart important issues to children. In this video we tackled Lions and I'd love to get the feedback of parents to let us know what's working and what isn't and how we can better tailor this program to children. 

[Let's Learn About Lions](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLdcNDjNMJM)

We'll gladly accept criticism too, please be fair and honest.",5.271346153846154,7.831297824175827,5.962733516483523,72.5728914835165,70.75824175824175,7.187362637362638,30.05631868131868,8.07648339933343,2.4259109890109896,406,17,64,6,8,132,68,91,0.03,0.711,0.259,0.9648,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,5,4,6,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,2,0,14,12,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,8,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,11,8,1,4,0,0,0,1,14,2,0,0,2,38,9,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822913109660936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160300567764625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909432188443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257060637750043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379202874045123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527520624986282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4661880712556458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057335245771305,0.0,0.15215821002668814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4403105254470832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25311119113692104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502203436158517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27419544981765226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319002261309886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wadewatts23,2019/01/09,"Wife doesn’t hold same standards while I am at work. I normally work 48 hours straight and then I am home for 4 days. We have started having a chore chart for our 11 year old and 5 year old. 

We made it pretty simple and straightforward. Clean up your toys, trash, dirty clothes, finish homework, shower and teeth brush before 8pm. If they don’t get it finished they get grounded from a certain thing 11 year old from his phone, 5 year old from Xbox until the following night and they complete their chores. 

The boys do it pretty consistently while I’m home, but when I’m at work she doesn’t hold the boys accountable and they don’t do their chores. So it turns into me having to discipline them through the phone. 

My wife is a stay at home mom and I know that is the toughest most thankless job there is, but it can’t just be me holding them to a standard. Her reasoning is that it isn’t worth the fight to get them to do it. 

I’m getting frustrated with it and not sure how to handle it. I’m on my phone so sorry if this is jumbled. ",2.8676997780244164,4.3753049764150935,3.411265260821313,92.81697558268593,74.70754716981132,6.497669256381798,23.79134295227525,7.048011613610866,0.6475823529411762,813,24,179,8,17,254,118,212,0.078,0.867,0.056,-0.7618,2,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,1,9,3,6,4,2,0,10,0,20,1,1,3,2,33,33,20,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,13,12,0,4,2,2,2,1,7,2,0,0,1,1,24,2,19,31,2,29,0,0,0,0,25,8,0,3,19,110,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083746586047335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353537365205673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213717846920288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661630415063337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832597945334733,0.0,0.1254247312351119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638594000632036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999416385517034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051186660376367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916342743003716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195194813461642,0.12478654086591627,0.0,0.0,0.534574932793866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591434373727265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094811234285672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425699862745946,0.09014662840734396,0.13574966486573814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003604494244614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846128550316407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853197574319198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781605335980751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280647131170797
parenting,iAmStrongerNow,2019/01/09,"Bedtime he’ll...yes, that topic again Please help. My 4 yo started preschool this year, and all year bedtime has been inconsistant (lately 10PM).  On weeknights, when she is in school, bedtime can go as late as 10:30. My wife and I work and some nights I think we want to kill each other! It gets pretty awful. 

We did the following:
-Told her school to wake her up after 30minutes nap. Some days NO NAP (they started by giving her 2 hour nap!!)
-vigorous exercise after school
-baths every night
-warm milk

Nothing seems to work!! Every school night she fights going to sleep!!! I pray by 9:30 she’s out. 

Our one mistake is we give her the remote around 7:30PM, and let her just watch till she goes to sleep. Some nights she just lays there, glazed over staying up. On active weekends when she’s with us, an hour of tv and she is out!!! But not on school nights.

She cries and screams at bedtime “I’m not tiiiiiiiirrrreeeeed!!” I swear, I would NEVER hit my child, but there is something about the way she says that that makes me want to strangle her!!

So today we put our foot down...NO TV, NO IPAD, no screens. It’s 8:40PM after playing games all night my wife and I finally gave up and gave her the remote.  I mean, we can’t play candy land till 10PM!!! 

I hear these picture perfect families going “dinner, bath, story...and off to bed!” “Yes mamma!”

Please help me!!! I can not take this anymore. I am so pissed off about this it is destroying my life, marriage, will to live! (Ok over dramatic, but it sucks. No adult time. No downtime)",1.3989933811362365,4.0150302414966,1.998034565177424,94.89027302813018,86.72108843537417,4.402868174296747,18.830299687442547,5.946609106918303,-0.24514532083103505,1177,32,243,9,37,361,170,294,0.133,0.755,0.112,-0.9129,0,0,1,0,1,0,79.0,8,0,1,3,12,13,5,0,5,3,15,9,5,1,4,41,38,19,1,4,8,2,1,0,0,2,2,3,3,2,12,18,2,0,3,12,0,5,10,7,0,1,5,6,42,6,36,29,6,51,1,0,2,0,41,16,2,4,28,146,54,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105212309159937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173150769544861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008503841173465,0.059210682686425424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15470993276222866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865515073620237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057477369163807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796760640918066,0.17614749869202248,0.156535405108841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034779894719738,0.0,0.12307833645101306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083124111639515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157558254004033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713425426588625,0.0,0.0,0.09388325807986912,0.06484902492297699,0.0,0.0,0.08107104564709541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128474485599996,0.0,0.0,0.10000940344723652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081052204481073,0.0,0.0,0.5169520222188282,0.0,0.08809540296033859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062213701990674886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20156243838026808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340508236656367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229569865549724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730120179047577,0.0,0.4645896038289747,0.0,0.08358154457157509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837551776019043,0.0,0.0,0.07068081175488712,0.0,0.0,0.1299689984330222,0.0978586126399214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690306593546892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882896347535245,0.0,0.0,0.05353589790462385,0.0,0.08702636182110128,0.08772961614729233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043766997392768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830534785513712,0.07287552360885327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336794161321868,0.0,0.0,0.06522010180986057,0.0,0.0,0.11824691321891415
parenting,bleumaus,2019/01/09,"Having a parent teacher confrence I called because my 4 year old daughter comes home crying and feeling defeated. A few months ago, I started to notice that when I dropped my daughter off, one of the teachers (we'll call her Mrs L) was very nasty to the children. Not just my daughter, all if the children. She would bark at them and tell them they are being bad and cant listen. She would tell they cant do this and that and would scream and yell at them if they didnt listen. She would just be nasty to everyone.  I saw a horrible change in my daughter who was now being nasty and rude over a few months. I brought this to the directors attention. She said she would deal with it.

I dont know if it was a coincidence or if Mrs L was spoken to and asked to take a leave of absence or vacation, but she disappeared and my daughters attitude came back to a loving playful happy child.

Monday, Mrs L came back and that change came again. Today my daughter came home hysterically crying that she said she cant listen and cant do anything right. I have never seen her so upset

I called a patent teacher conference because I need to know what's happening. What do I say? What will they say?",4.605381355932206,5.488451105932209,5.112500000000002,84.67985169491527,69.72033898305085,7.933898305084746,28.733050847457623,8.07648339933343,1.7837847457627118,935,33,188,12,16,299,120,236,0.136,0.799,0.065,-0.8956,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,7,1,8,8,1,1,12,0,26,1,0,0,2,39,48,20,0,10,10,7,1,0,0,7,0,9,2,6,12,17,0,0,4,1,0,7,8,5,0,1,14,12,34,3,16,24,3,28,0,1,2,1,47,6,0,6,14,131,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175890954854594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518319667529399,0.0,0.09677161054762368,0.0,0.0,0.15919174290679106,0.08642986077858293,0.12620233929407598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170980827231201,0.4735697284228014,0.0,0.0,0.21900815928536504,0.08916813963298616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274105224038449,0.0,0.10671838200007401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131762943383392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891205677080303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05233978535412308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153708257963586,0.11019257090095047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20766595096360102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377716739043355,0.0,0.0,0.109606372861142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342542057743244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652477640391671,0.0,0.0,0.07675431454897053,0.07983637321183798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785136767017125,0.10862052323581804,0.0,0.07014376094945883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494003971120592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840038484636589,0.1969310245427413,0.16463696473540698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326773737313493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782964062618572,0.0,0.18095158574178372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811916225135436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540988548850673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676668550551721,0.0,0.0,0.06665961796552577
parenting,cuntybandersnatch,2019/01/09,"Should I imitate China's social credit system with my kids at home? I watched a short documentary on YouTube regarding this, and while it had many downsides when implemented on the large scale, there were many positive effects that I think would be amplified if I used a modified version in my own home.  Basic plan:

Each child starts each week with $5, in change in a jar.

Each child has a list of basic responsibilities they must perform every day.  I'm talking making beds, putting dirty dishes in  the dishwasher, picking up toys when they are done with them etc.  If they dont do all their basic  responsibilities,  $0.10 will be deducted per item missed.

Every week, 1 child will be selected to be the secret spy.  I found this a bit problematic in the documentary, a hired spy to tell the government (or in this case, mom and dad) everything you do, so I am going to modify it.  The secret spy's job is to report any time they catch their siblings in the act of doing something good.  If they see them helping someone, picking up something that isn't theirs, without being asked, etc.  The secret spy will earn $0.10 and so will the do-gooder.

Bad behavior will also result in deductions.
There will be a list of additional daily chores they can do for extra money.  This is especially important because anyone over $5 at the end of the week gets to keep their money, and anyone under $5 doesnt get to keep their money and loses privileges such as going to friends houses, having friends over, and screen time.  

So what do you think, Reddit?  Should I do it?",6.879666136724964,6.972819891891893,7.226263910969795,74.26611287758351,64.60810810810811,10.07281399046105,31.263116057233702,9.773937934552695,2.8506727344992053,1232,41,225,23,17,402,166,296,0.047,0.875,0.078,0.8374,1,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,0,2,13,5,9,8,0,0,18,0,35,1,0,6,2,37,51,18,0,7,5,2,0,0,2,10,0,0,4,4,10,13,1,2,7,1,4,5,4,3,0,0,4,3,24,5,34,31,11,35,0,2,3,0,31,18,0,4,11,150,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986061150227277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491768271569326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462771785140696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673906932553375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426344515845183,0.07612120720386957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632858989998922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320987040775234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053252751319025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778807377661394,0.14634981347051193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060010197562717,0.0,0.2785320222607761,0.0,0.0,0.2104211833314053,0.0,0.11222748420096952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369164132099958,0.19295259619263516,0.0,0.13048160931861166,0.0,0.1419360071163442,0.20947450522448766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369950376193909,0.0,0.2505148949046607,0.0,0.0,0.14408627008654593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391683498911135,0.2219850942144912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970055194234768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335346220195076,0.2532025311000035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462493361392403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255315013117892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099507333151638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729193906781985,0.10580418943596806,0.1922661303349584,0.0,0.0,0.0883855029809404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036790438254138,0.1091441983497818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16002670142283065,0.0,0.0,0.14562849051344873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784987465167807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004959181066205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037277659553045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870594637848704,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,liluglee,2019/01/09,"Can someone please enlighten me as to why some grandparents (sorry to say, grandmas in particular) think that they are the end all, be all of EVERYTHING to do with their grandchildren? This is a real question. Not a vent. Not a dig. If there are any grandmas out there, PLEASE give your perspective. My MIL and my own mom drive me insane with all the unsolicited advice on parenting: food choices, school choices, clothing choices, diaper cream choices. They give gifts to the kids that are really about themselves or give to much after endless requests to not do so...which brings me to the undermining. God almighty the undermining. “I don’t want him to have a donut, mom.” Five minutes later....”mom, why is he eating a donut!?”. 

Okay, maybe this was a vent. I just feel like they are using my kids as their “do-over” kids. Grandpas keep their mouths shut. They don’t agree with everything, I can tell. But they sure as hell leave it be. Grandmas: PLEASE TAKE A SEAT ONCE IN A WHILE!

Anyway. I want to get a different perspective so I can stop being so damn annoyed at them all the time.

Anyone? 

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parenting,notMelorMissy,2019/01/09,"My 9yo daughter can’t handle the stress My kid is normally super confident and super smart. She enjoys being “the smartest girl in her class” (her words). But when she doesn’t get something in school, it is the end of the world... tears, yelling, muttering to herself, begging for the answers. 

We are currently have been working through a long division worksheet for 2 hours because she can’t stop stressing/crying/looking for distractions.

Any advice?",5.030411392405063,8.071701962025319,4.392895569620254,81.1561787974684,73.68354430379749,6.987974683544303,33.925632911392405,8.07648339933343,3.0471126582278485,361,19,56,6,8,108,63,79,0.097,0.675,0.229,0.9337,1,0,1,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,3,1,6,0,2,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,9,4,8,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,6,36,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026847079379396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106410343495932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888210948365832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27434709867572954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183190751031018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050419530806741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27411953963684305,0.2601124969352201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30348982827450816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31348415076518105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23846115007484106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589653769062579,0.3548182734244866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255021307816999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowAwayTheBully,2019/01/09,"My 6yo son was bullied/assaulted today. I could use some advice. As the title states, my son was bullied today.  This has happened before, but nothing to this extent.  It's usually just small teasing like all kids do.  Today was a different story.  


This happened on the bus.  My son was sitting with another kid the same age and in the same class.  (Teacher said there has never been a problem with these 2 before). The other kid kicked my son and then took my son's shoes out of his backpack.  The kid wouldn't give the shoes back and then punched my son in the crotch with the shoe.  When my son was getting off the bus, the kid said to my son, ""bye little bitch."" 


Now my initial thought was to contact the kids parents and tell them that my son has the go ahead to punch that kid square in the kisser if he messes with my son again.  But, we live a politically correct world now, so that's not happening.  


I plan on talking to the principal tomorrow to ensure this will never happen again and if it does continue, I will make a formal complaint with the school district and pursue legal action.  Also, I want the damn shoe back and if I don't get the shoe I want the bully's parent to compensate me.  


Is there anything else I should prepare for?  Any specific questions I should ask the principal?  What would you do?  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",3.3213773647527383,5.3905495114503825,4.120547626949886,85.8094673083306,74.87786259541984,6.541254563557918,25.51344175240624,7.423996415210882,1.3002367739794227,1060,37,202,13,23,339,143,262,0.039,0.873,0.08800000000000001,0.9156,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,1,1,2,12,7,3,0,24,0,23,6,6,2,4,41,40,18,0,12,7,12,0,1,0,7,0,2,0,7,12,14,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,11,3,24,2,23,20,5,34,0,0,1,0,34,10,2,5,21,139,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23749171876613545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717779936607283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527264172400266,0.1274220854821486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999885572307876,0.0,0.11360280781818158,0.0,0.0,0.1868794874172489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20680551990944684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970221338219812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696031382616418,0.0,0.0,0.10634110980976463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151259030009292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697614665655996,0.11657101688746994,0.06906140777066876,0.0,0.0,0.13397388429698076,0.0,0.0,0.4298314161223493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936749478417045,0.12179283292641445,0.1073025084248944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111412402220622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18744415043958906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165996767760312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698624352335309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627619339038292,0.0,0.0,0.1361278287555332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23118264962178006,0.0,0.0,0.12298257529817112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767146353452688,0.1062119773717244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647161771335916,0.0,0.0,0.34555420549819404,0.0,0.13501082844657591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495242641607842,0.13383476951208814,0.0,0.14334878017085667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264562133289238,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hotfire32,2019/01/09,"Looking for tips on how to deal with daycare potty training setback. My son is 32 months. He has shown signs of potty readiness since 26 months.  I decided to hold off because of different life events.  During this time he has sat on the potty several times and feels comfortable using the potty.  For the past three days I have had him in big boy underwear at home.  The first day was super rough but we marched on.  Day 2 and three were much better!  I even chanced it by leaving him in underwear while running out for a bite to eat.  Over those two days only a couple of accidents.  

Today was the fourth day and I took him to daycare.  He only goes for three hours.  I go to pick him up after three hours and very excited to see how the day went.  I was highly upset when I was told he had been put into a pull up after having two accidents within 45 minutes.  The teacher also suggested that he wear pull-ups to school so it wouldn’t be so much changing for her.  She did try to say this would mean me not having to wash so many clothes which i don’t mind since i know it’s part of the learning process. 

I am not a perfectionist and realize that potty training takes time.  I also realize that being around school friends is totally different from being at home and takes time to adjust to as well.  I strongly believe that once in underwear, putting a child into a diaper/pull-up only sets the process back.  I thought about pulling him out of daycare until potty training is at a good comfort level but don’t think this would be fair since he loves daycare and learning to go potty while playing is also something he has to learn.  Parents help...what are your thoughts?",4.641435049346491,5.811517392638037,5.0678874366497775,83.9736316351027,69.85889570552148,7.755454787943453,29.511336356361696,8.04050195162591,1.9654610829554544,1314,50,252,17,23,418,180,326,0.037000000000000005,0.841,0.122,0.9801,3,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,1,1,0,4,14,12,0,1,16,0,30,5,1,4,1,42,48,22,0,3,4,2,2,0,1,3,2,1,2,2,12,14,1,1,13,1,0,9,5,1,1,7,15,5,24,11,50,26,4,58,0,0,2,1,26,22,0,0,26,168,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304488074837014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551056201377527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386144314752106,0.0,0.05855509047546153,0.0,0.0,0.1082226702545082,0.0,0.08495408072811712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016149356149122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628458066484454,0.0,0.3716905925143604,0.09902993159022247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20071698892721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828967871157246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344434691924147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04856900250851014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170552560501378,0.0,0.0,0.07421293712063329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091821325976133,0.08056755177878264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438458079632811,0.10148886150005394,0.19270480429069514,0.0,0.18919241175790208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279008588790315,0.0,0.0,0.10170985919074173,0.0,0.0,0.06784747673898449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066318440226046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866946521787079,0.0,0.0,0.09738611394764424,0.0,0.1046335805684864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698958239014696,0.0,0.15334260566492286,0.0,0.14122501422611947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229693210423857,0.0,0.21916566424247247,0.0,0.0,0.1066592657820682,0.10401972163576736,0.09169670374582324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931264278861482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638790548266522,0.0,0.1944284120009455,0.07654451511864435,0.0,0.0,0.10851639174236416,0.0,0.2383765425357739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394891036724166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444449183440099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061549063161909334,0.0,0.15251610555149628,0.2240450395113124,0.0,0.09105023655095168,0.09178600754511096,0.10672219586456408,0.06521599095914618,0.0,0.18766629243727612,0.0,0.0,0.08296188933371468,0.0,0.07925659065042508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863662403929885,0.08904524605838908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364714225299281,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bored96,2019/01/09,"Truth about being a parent I am not sure if I'm even in the right sub but I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask after reading other posts on here over the last several days.

I'm in my early 20s and I'm with the love of my life. We've been talking about having kids lately and it may be my baby fever talking but I really really want to have one for the first time in my life. I've always been a bit skeptical in the past due to being afraid of passing on one of the many diseases that run in my family or that I would just be an awful mother. What helped you put those fears aside?

Also, what's it truly like being a parent? People either describe it as the most awful thing ever or the most amazing gift. What are things to consider before trying to concieve?

Sorry for the rant, I'm just truly curious about it all.",3.3230701754385983,4.129355532163746,5.01077485380117,84.51861842105264,72.62573099415205,7.337426900584796,21.85233918128655,7.492282038375204,0.7806409356725141,640,13,131,7,12,218,107,171,0.105,0.7040000000000001,0.191,0.9642,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,9,9,1,2,13,2,14,4,0,0,4,23,21,9,0,4,9,3,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,14,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,4,0,3,2,0,10,5,24,11,5,23,0,1,0,1,10,9,0,6,11,96,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779246639426156,0.132966884232434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149391971161133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359785240331471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744608457857774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305815437190748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554677622477772,0.14454877370816266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064576529332402,0.17982008013159867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359262920357182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711096057598778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106982636931262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302588013077579,0.18026201509020603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225743751571776,0.07807049173379726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422626282273066,0.0,0.0,0.1620127068108467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657001787188465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35487926677309206,0.0,0.15254773578376768,0.11078560166488004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304478304215016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064372049677378,0.0,0.0,0.1598438246849442,0.0,0.20474468743626836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646882250763204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805291704008065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888366666742767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061015584447182,0.0,0.0,0.2568833067395438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21232880988158645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318100350088172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849410449135766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425452259746356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351774739819186,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InsertPlayerTwo,2019/01/09,"Wife going out of town. Freaking out a bit. Got word today that at the end of next month, my wife will be going out of town for a few days for work, leaving me all alone with our (now) 9-month old daughter. I’ve never been alone with my little girl for more than a few hours, so I’m a bit (a lot) on the nervous side. I’m involved in every aspect of baby-raising - diapers, feeding, bath time, bed time, etc, so I technically know what I’m doing (lol). But without adult supervision (of me, not my baby), I’m afraid I’ll do a dumb and my baby goan die. 

Anything I can do to prepare? Anything I should worry about? Any advice on making it easier for the little Nugget who will surely miss her mommy?",2.625454545454545,3.8390596573426583,4.498181818181816,85.96727272727274,74.8041958041958,6.318881118881119,23.48951048951049,6.574015621080383,0.6849636363636362,533,15,110,4,11,182,96,143,0.146,0.815,0.039,-0.9252,0,2,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,1,4,6,1,2,9,1,9,1,0,1,3,17,19,4,1,1,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,4,6,1,0,1,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,0,11,1,22,13,8,25,0,1,0,0,9,12,1,1,11,68,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864716882100438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33629260636102404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040400410298433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26720149112110764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35448970620322706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470273344313512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849433499653838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379448098212197,0.0,0.181063881779762,0.0,0.0,0.13678741838525232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845352229464232,0.0,0.12984663977627428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988267976128145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922366725137575,0.0,0.0,0.1719058887664841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254359895469406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802471049236764,0.0,0.0,0.10837031450507817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591734677673859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521482405280218,0.0,0.17266175006756787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035968892784764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301355916297396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893359303972965,0.0,0.15388942587499635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650022582027615,0.0,0.11819320128638827,0.16487495809007394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lightscameraa,2019/01/09,"Im 19 and my parents wont let me stay at a friends house that they dont know I'm 19 and in university, and I live at home. My parents still think I'm too young to be going on vacation with friends (that they know well) or even just staying overnight at a friends house that they don't know. When I tell them that most people my age, or even younger (when I was in my last year of high school), go to other countries with friends, they just say they don't believe it. What should I do?",4.265128205128208,3.750160384615384,4.445000000000004,94.06666666666668,70.15384615384616,7.702564102564103,29.83333333333333,6.42735559955562,1.0609217948717946,376,13,94,2,6,117,62,104,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.9081,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,6,0,9,5,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,15,17,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,1,1,15,5,11,12,1,18,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,3,7,59,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704278854853942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772856454182529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998229366549508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.467478908786329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193883636060095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598235566087754,0.15173471621474702,0.0,0.0,0.34908725583512895,0.0,0.0,0.1633960207604708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24939976138020584,0.1233040796387656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468236853609088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357292468186294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33593170621116364,0.0,0.0,0.10487058466199284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029484374625722,0.0,0.15309187556395487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224643518852192,0.12080328083285825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221540355429054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692679605504573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600861716759494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741200392312127
parenting,ForgetfulGrandma,2019/01/09,"Any parents with post pyloric stenosis experience? Hi everyone, 
My son is now almost 9 months old and had pyloric stenosis surgery (laproscopic) when he was 1 month old. He has a lot of issues with vomiting and spitting up still. I've expressed concerns to his pediatrician but she said it's normal given his history. Does anyone else has experience with this?",5.319114583333332,8.160336015625003,6.085625,70.43020833333338,71.65625,8.641666666666666,35.666666666666664,9.2995712137729,4.019247916666667,291,16,44,7,6,95,54,64,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,1,0,0,9,7,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,0,6,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,7,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051644451677728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429646054741523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699872858673876,0.21540698009355427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839749719136796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17562141285485794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008851742617257,0.0,0.41129342642478006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194270298102265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787312737572354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356094995809187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598219952088398,0.0,0.0,0.4412051159584837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334371628783169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013436303086724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19997826591796386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789111966876233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slide_penguin,2019/01/09,"Son is hitting a little girl at daycare and have no idea what to do When my son started back to the in-home nanny after Christmas, he started hitting and pushing one little girl in particular. He has pushed some of other kids as well but when they are in his way or if he gets frustrated. However, he will just walk up to this girl and push her. Today, the nanny actually got him smacking her on the head. He has never shown this behavior before even when playing with my friends' kids which we did almost every weekend in the month of December. Is there a way that I can work on this behavior at home when I've never seen it or is there something I can do prevent it when I've never seen him act like this? ",7.130229770229768,5.6535040209790255,7.560359640359643,77.24405594405597,64.73426573426573,10.129470529470533,34.414585414585424,8.841846274778883,2.763594205794205,557,20,111,7,7,184,89,143,0.042,0.875,0.083,0.6249,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,1,1,14,5,1,0,6,0,13,1,1,0,3,17,21,13,0,1,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,5,10,5,0,1,1,2,0,5,4,1,1,1,4,2,11,4,16,14,1,32,0,0,2,0,20,10,0,5,16,80,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.18669970913312786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157830479756613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711247261003255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279834562770715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263643702408699,0.0,0.16119447727457092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781255570194812,0.0,0.09995626141372066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301525148787126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19634845086324448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19190851840259526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159758210362037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346878109594396,0.38350372308077424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527089704351999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44267093454543055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296426802423272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472866841934662,0.0,0.0,0.27083309248810444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813480059411541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30372017425135195,0.0,0.0,0.17201872361021464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928248316748404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SonOfLan,2019/01/09,"My 4yo daughter has all of a sudden gotten super picky about food to the point where she’s not eating very much at all. My wife and I have 2 girls a 4yo and a 10mo old. There were quite a bit of adjustment issues when number 2 came for the oldest and we are still having them.  She started throwing tantrums more and stopped sleeping as well.  We started to move past most of that but she still has a lot of jealously. Always takes the baby’s toys and wants to be treated like a baby all the time, be carried everywhere because she forgot how to walk...then we recently found out we were having a third baby girl a few months ago.  This came as a shock to us as my wife was still breastfeeding and we’d had fertility issues in the past.  We also didn’t handle the shock too well and the oldest picked up on the fact that we weren’t super excited.  We’ve gotten over that and are happy now BUT it took a hot minute. Now she’s been saying she’s scared about the new baby coming because she doesn’t want to share her mommy and daddy.  Overall she’s a great big sister, super loving, caring and sweet. Most recently she’s gotten super picky in eating to the point that she won’t eat much if anything unless it’s candy or junk food. This is obviously not acceptable so it’s putting a strain on the family during meal times.  Has anyone experienced things like this. I assume most of this is normal and will pass but damn it it frustrating... this morning she threw a fit because we asked her to drink water, refused to eat the breakfast we made her, which was eggs toast and fruit, thins she’s eaten before and liked. Last night she didn’t eat her cheese pizza which up until then was her favorite thing to eat...",3.5038177473661345,5.10002470381232,4.24992505702183,87.08748017812535,73.22287390029325,6.5767785380688615,21.72053872053872,7.0931098945946705,0.5930670359509072,1348,31,267,13,27,431,183,341,0.075,0.732,0.193,0.9938,1,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,10,0,1,5,16,26,4,2,25,0,26,18,1,3,5,55,46,28,0,4,8,4,2,3,0,2,0,1,0,2,18,25,16,3,4,2,0,9,7,8,2,1,21,6,34,18,32,20,12,50,0,0,0,1,40,15,1,7,29,181,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813289555989556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337074263556917,0.07634158192058745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641522475717103,0.0,0.07550068384930878,0.0,0.08577187824255075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677859594141431,0.0,0.07807068422969728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016491720756698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098702545910857,0.09354307342354423,0.0,0.0,0.07903267055735759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987798889762418,0.0,0.5632858871609173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649173136994218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22188378970649555,0.100596809543743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115235628677044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766731917620293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915218896876992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478676369922857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447013234944466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800076254479715,0.08280603942809345,0.08681405786816386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732322786446032,0.09751347153898866,0.13489048980939575,0.0,0.0,0.08861066956811538,0.0,0.08609916568693142,0.08989343776012276,0.0,0.0,0.09627396134985082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516745669965753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346279516229693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223195549122264,0.0,0.09758515872539816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811799163924732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296159283491026,0.09185562860356401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918141344003527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298792365552922,0.0,0.2198099149080749,0.07670533185017718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898298397302648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219064229958248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699784767115604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193526516949586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036139722620704,0.0,0.0,0.07570160564006746,0.10823054777581906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498471653121038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,N8tureSavy,2019/01/09,Children’s shows? Can we talk about how strange children’s shows are? Am I the only one that gets disturbed when I start playing a show for my son? The graphics are a trip. The content is odd to say the least. On MOST of them. Have you watched an episode of sesame-street lately? The animated shorts and stop animation are just crazy to me. I don’t want everything my son imagines to reference back o these strange cartoons. Am I the only one? I play animal planet just so he can get a bit of realism.  ,1.2940666666666694,3.8153353400000007,2.5280000000000022,91.78066666666668,85.6,5.7333333333333325,25.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.2028333333333334,394,17,82,6,12,126,72,100,0.14400000000000002,0.8,0.056,-0.8205,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,1,0,7,3,0,1,10,0,10,0,0,1,0,10,14,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,2,5,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,2,11,2,9,14,3,8,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,5,53,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226055174616124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31605602044004205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26018146352556765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025007315934687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265655102685392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923416608862775,0.4403514113227016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302198346411287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049076452506438,0.0,0.0,0.2420326657971654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23268692548147005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707529800538139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justgiveme_a_reason,2019/01/09,"How can I help my brother (13M) develop good habits? Hi everyone. So first of all, no, I am not his parent, I am his older sister. But my parents don't really know what to do either so I play a role in improving this situation.

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Let me explain. So my brother is a little over 13 years old, in 8th grade. He's quite young for his grade, and also very immature. He lacks a sense of responsibility and maturity. He is extremely stubborn and never wants to change his bad habits. For example, for many years we've tried to get him to become a neater eater, but he never takes our advice on how to improve and goes back to his old ways. Of course, being a messy eater is not the end of the world. The big problem is when his stubborn ways affect his school life. 

This year, I suggested him to take a language class, which counts as a high school credit. He chose Spanish. I figured it would be an (decently) easy A and would let him get accustomed maybe to how high school works (classes with real homework etc). Before this year, he had perfect As. He struggled a little on math homework last year (he is one year ahead) but didn't have much other academic difficulties. Yet, ever since the beginning of Spanish this year, he's been doing not too hot. He would study Spanish for hours and his grades wouldn't be good. He ended first semester with a B- and I'm pretty sure his test category was somewhere in the C range. When my parents emailed the teacher about his poor performance, we found out he wasn't doing some of the optional practice and stuff. I know my brother isn't that dumb, he probably just didn't know how to study. So in an effort to help him, I monitored his studying habits for an hour or so everyday for a couple days to try to help him develop better studying habits. I discovered he indeed had terrible studying habits. I don't think much detail is necessary but basically when some study method wasn't working, he would just keep doing it. I tried to teach him some new ones which probably helped, but I doubt anything has changed since then.

See, that is the part I am most worried about. His inability to recognize his own weakness and change makes me scared for what could happen to him in high school. Spanish is such an easy class that should not be causing too much stress. As a junior in high school who is taking many difficult classes, I do not have the time nor energy to monitor him everyday. My parents have a very hands off parenting approach, which worked for me because I am very motivated but I don't know how motivated my brother is. It seems like he wants to do well but laziness triumphs. I know ""helicopter parenting"" doesn't work, but I just don't know how to help him. I feel so helpless. My parents don't know what to do either.  I know he still has time to become more mature but this is still kind of alarming. I can't just sit back and let him ""fail"" like this because although it's not bad right now, High school is going to be horrible for him, especially if he wants to take any hard classes.

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How can I influence him without becoming ""naggy""? I feel like sometimes when I try to help him I get impatient easily or speak in a condescending manner which probably isn't helpful. So, how can I help him in a healthy way? 

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TLDR: My brother is stubborn and isn't doing well in his Spanish class. How can I help him instill healthy habits?

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Also I am so sorry this post was all over the place. Im not an experienced reddit user haha",4.526964809384165,5.9201683181818225,5.197635190615838,82.09245278592378,70.36363636363636,8.329900293255132,29.1825219941349,8.784430282132071,2.2561358592375367,2771,106,533,49,50,894,288,682,0.116,0.731,0.153,0.9837,7,0,1,0,0,0,100.0,2,0,0,16,41,32,4,5,30,1,69,3,1,15,7,101,100,52,0,13,26,13,5,3,0,6,2,2,2,0,24,15,0,4,17,1,2,2,27,17,2,4,10,9,71,15,63,75,16,73,0,2,1,0,78,26,1,10,43,352,95,30,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04571620121816818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482534301135631,0.0,0.20275919599486406,0.2273878276283601,0.03181431918623219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03849875552355225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194710025849801,0.07812437687054756,0.057037458050599225,0.15500578334770193,0.0398092312874207,0.0,0.0,0.04137611927854346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04805944328423281,0.14847191543181235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03735274152265893,0.051764947008638526,0.0,0.030171425470435883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287242029585347,0.0,0.052175862414068436,0.0,0.04231826757774304,0.0,0.04470354765466688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04731018978272291,0.0334220733701691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958787957387069,0.0,0.051295588061211525,0.0,0.0,0.07332719347795623,0.0,0.0265880867800941,0.07847939978416668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04137040990614423,0.0,0.04190874104377621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28222136767369865,0.24714617608003855,0.0,0.0,0.09214445884645336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053410470209455,0.0,0.0,0.041583239297582085,0.0,0.0487177163403605,0.20568748403390275,0.03813471859143475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351760166723418,0.03304450199731617,0.06856802464032755,0.09377852307309407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031228285640445632,0.09486205800206912,0.04700021772289299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317355535459206,0.0,0.07216449098255252,0.0451837033859181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818262596639404,0.0,0.06340329101734515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363632038124106,0.050661867833006066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04887870013955475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04480556917923967,0.04759554109699177,0.15132126750883942,0.04476539966559342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497599091419427,0.0,0.05324975626889189,0.029970646743577627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03995277164064503,0.0,0.0,0.04683834912182984,0.28408381670922034,0.03728031614871075,0.04258985420080845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739943094460122,0.05258650656602696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04626998308807487,0.052370190885213434,0.0,0.0,0.07472257419185636,0.0,0.05359023154576635,0.04890817192652508,0.05355580507683581,0.0,0.0,0.0440928048813466,0.0,0.14070119102832382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029976916435832862,0.0,0.0,0.054559558523466715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270514422693748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580362427289473,0.08278219189347542,0.11140346620362096,0.0,0.0,0.08412779782942044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045097532262682635,0.0,0.13623550203343046,0.04751081797360718,0.0,0.132934352495252,0.0,0.2273878276283601,0.21088884954522252
parenting,hanniballectress,2019/01/09,"Does your office have a baby room? Hey parents, I’m trying to get my company to have a baby play room where our partners or nannies can bring our babies to chill and play during the workday, and I’m looking for examples of how other companies have already done it. 

Does your office have a play area like that? How is it physically set up? What are the rules associated with it?",5.0009459459459435,5.957831797297299,6.287405405405406,76.34543243243247,68.86486486486487,8.622702702702702,29.664864864864867,8.841846274778883,2.4045600000000005,299,11,55,5,5,101,52,74,0.0,0.8590000000000001,0.141,0.8645,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,6,13,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,4,7,12,0,7,0,0,1,0,7,5,0,1,1,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844550442628117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6097537268468373,0.35652208857078505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201845641585224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020487778887242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925583459714551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38684386949218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365327204384768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Krisbist,2019/01/09,"The glamour of being a SAHM Is trying to take a shit while your toddler sits at your feet screaming like he’s being murdered because he wants to watch paw patrol, you haven’t had time to shower in three days, you can smell your husbands birthday almost burning in the oven and you still have to clean your whole house to host a birthday dinner in two hours. And then your cat waltzes into the bathroom and pukes all over the floor. I just wanted to take a shit in peace. ",6.861935483870969,6.317558634408603,5.874752688172045,86.07212903225809,64.80645161290322,7.440000000000001,30.42795698924732,3.1291,1.1670705376344088,375,11,74,0,5,112,65,93,0.161,0.725,0.114,-0.7184,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,8,0,0,2,6,3,0,8,0,7,4,3,0,1,9,11,5,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,1,3,9,2,14,8,2,15,0,0,1,0,11,8,2,1,7,49,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25162266817170315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531792009286394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205612951192214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474621951697117,0.289945739530038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276371332844707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.51587481167135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067416391322304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778656473839838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465245798687231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706040124227585,0.0,0.24546604303198075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29642531858308946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805474269016834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,your-conscience-,2019/01/09,"Maternity leave worries I don’t know whether I want advice or just to vent, but I’m pregnant with my third kid and don’t know what to do about maternity leave. 

My husband has a well paid job in engineering. We live in the UK, so his job may be affected by Brexit-he could lose it in the next 6 months, we don’t know. I work in technical sales and my skills are fairly sought after. I’m really happy with my job, been there around a year. My basic is low but my commission can be really good. 

I get 6 weeks of paid maternity leave, then would be entitled to about £150 a week in benefits for up to a year thereafter. He could also take the leave, but as he usually earns a little more than me, and his income is stable, it falls to me to take leave to look after the little one. 

My issue is, there is nobody else in my workplace who is skilled enough to look after my client base. I would lose my commission and the company would lose up to £250,000 in revenue. 

So my choices are, 

1) Earn basically nothing and have time with my children, lose clients and have to rebuild when I return to work. 

2) Go back to work and put a 6 week old baby into full time childcare, doubling my childcare costs. Meaning my childcare costs would be my entire basic salary. 

3) leave work entirely and become a stay at home mum?

I feel so selfish for wanting to go back to work! And I do want to spend time cuddling my final child. But I don’t think I can be fulfilled and give up work. Besides, who would look after my clients‽ 

I’m thinking of maybe going back 1-2 days a week to begin with, but I still feel like putting a newborn into childcare is wrong. 

Has anyone experienced similar? Any ideas? 

Thanks for reading. 
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parenting,Nitaax3,2019/01/09,"What should I do? I have 3 daughters aged 7, 4, and 3 years old with my ex husband and I'm not sure if i should just cut him off completely and move on with our lives. We broke up 3 years ago and he has been in and out of their lives ever since. In the first year we separated, he was in between jobs and places to live so he wouldn't see them or call. The next 2 years he was in a relationship and doing well with calling and picking the girls up. Well in February 2018 they started to have problems with getting back together and breaking up, he tried to commit suicide and had to be hospitalized, since this was the first time it had happened. And ever since then he has been going back and forth with her, and not calling/seeing them again. He is crashing with friends, jobless, and doesn't have a car. I don't expect for him to see them or even give me money (he is on child support but he doesn't pay), but i think the least he can do is call. We were together for 10 years so we still have mutual friends so i see him partying and going to bars all the time..which really annoys me. 

A couple of months ago my oldest daughter was having a really difficult time without him being around and she had to start seeing the counselor at school and she is in a group with other kids going through the same thing. She started to get back on track where we weren't arguing all the time and she was back to being happy. 

Lately she has been bringing him up a lot more but hes dropped off again. My question is..Is it doing more harm for him to call/see them every once and awhile or will it be better if i just completely block him on everything and explain to them that we aren't going to be seeing him anymore...i'm having a really hard time with this. My friends/family all have my side and are too close to the situation, they hate him so they are all for cutting him off. I just want to do whats best for my girls...",3.4738752260397803,4.3857608278481015,4.4003933092224266,88.64030063291142,72.36708860759494,7.4656419529837255,24.74005424954792,7.7094869923839395,1.0375117540687162,1497,42,327,18,28,485,178,395,0.087,0.825,0.08800000000000001,0.0611,2,0,0,0,0,2,40.0,7,0,9,4,22,18,5,0,17,0,49,1,0,1,8,73,72,34,1,8,14,4,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,4,10,38,1,1,3,1,2,7,9,9,2,2,13,6,49,9,52,50,10,65,0,1,5,0,62,24,0,7,32,241,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495029080764787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506956769445762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593713092649274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849676120015235,0.07458103378051043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444322064260588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683206333051227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330704108588668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569767738302785,0.1525585385377126,0.07104975852015183,0.0,0.07578833580880219,0.0,0.07949668890462186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345826622981928,0.0,0.0,0.13030280647867634,0.0,0.088115527977116,0.08089485285493231,0.19170159337138745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457074255689647,0.08976844798596846,0.07554109196280735,0.08325618546216641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368227060762687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951253645068868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233888198395734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169242950895464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730959805031471,0.08962704281855402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896835088547159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848777835547443,0.08980629162859866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810454073072027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069025908838692,0.0,0.0,0.09446636883394938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206752997971302,0.0,0.0,0.0905364346781976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534417557727894,0.3359914567286338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20927033544437795,0.09478791368028833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790628265858836,0.0,0.06734424261073083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224086132092027,0.09569412075650048,0.07947789758133472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056023603822447116,0.05403381120122998,0.0,0.0,0.24586091858296485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725300048057321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04973868628961897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164153239111675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128893274060557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715215009132351
parenting,montyque,2019/01/09,"Help! 5yo resisting sleep with all her might. So for the last few weeks, my kindergartener has refused to go to sleep. She starts hitting and kicking us and laughing at us when we're trying to do bedtime. Comes out of her room repeatedly. My wife and I are sadly considering putting a knob on her door that locks from the outside. Recently we have told her that if she stays in her room, she can read books until she's tired. We hoped that she would read herself to sleep quickly, but we realized she is resisting as long as possible--she has been getting 7-8 hours of sleep per night and is (nearly) impossible to wake for school (BTW these are books she's read over and over, not page-turners that might keep older kids up--we think she is just using books as a tool to keep herself awake). She is also definitely not a joy to be around during the day, certainly due to being overtired. Last night I don't even know when she went to sleep, just that it was after my wife and I did. 

​

Is this a phase? It doesn't seem to be related to any sort of bad dream or fear, but who knows... has anyone been through a situation where sleep resistance starts suddenly and (hopefully) ends at some point? Any advice on getting back to normal?",3.8951979121357114,5.54141316528926,4.2980295780774265,86.93355154414965,72.30578512396694,7.739364941278818,25.959982601130925,8.371475516178862,1.5600132231404955,974,32,199,16,19,306,147,242,0.08,0.861,0.058,-0.8136,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,5,0,0,0,11,8,0,1,8,0,25,8,7,1,2,41,43,19,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,1,10,14,0,3,5,7,0,4,4,3,0,0,6,0,28,5,35,30,3,41,0,1,0,0,29,14,0,9,22,132,38,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564595882293936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827358229550711,0.0,0.1060515593725119,0.11893336617356864,0.13312178097846514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843908142905578,0.0,0.0,0.08713281816475034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526269905841848,0.08172464830978357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431385618694906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312368134883113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866914998180609,0.0,0.0,0.06464797579982064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014077932529368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227518970097743,0.0,0.055626735940145916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560604724170087,0.0,0.0,0.19443132102315752,0.09639082952814786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399821890714556,0.0,0.0,0.10758317677367678,0.15956845174927678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661959297277821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076677225410336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837051088454817,0.09590037044182677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252703383271006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839515451378204,0.0,0.0,0.29371564190580673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664343433512074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905849681008078,0.0,0.08910511662431475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100197896507986,0.5876964806453611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855813292613314,0.10432569937142903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271673583239272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249719767874578,0.0,0.09352731776231564,0.0,0.06645323042973188,0.10646394795160924,0.0,0.0,0.2354721132083756,0.08453579356377283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785124105208295,0.0,0.0,0.09073456015867576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953023909531457,0.0,0.11893336617356864,0.0
parenting,Mg248975310,2019/01/09,"My son (1.5yrs) had a wipeout this morning and lodged his tooth into his gum, I’m devastated. I attempted to put my 2 toddler sons down for a nap. My youngest, 11mnths is in a crib and my oldest has a toddler bed. I heard my oldest running around (clearly not ready for nap time) his room so I went in to bring them back downstairs. He had pushed his mattress off the bed and it was on a weird angle, half on bed half on floor. He excitedly runs towards me and trips and smashes his face against the bed frame. I pick him up to soothe him and notice he’s bleeding from his mouth. It’s shouldn’t be to big of a deal, maybe his tooth went through his lip, maybe he bit his tongue. I look in his mouth and I see he’s missing his right top front tooth. I bring him downstairs and try to stop the bleeding. It stops and he’s back to himself. I take a peek in his mouth again and I can see the end of the tooth peeking threw the hole where his tooth once sat so cute and perfect. I called the dentist and had him checked out only for them to tell me that it should come out on his own but we will check get it checked every month or so.

I am devastated. I feel like the worst mom ever. My poor son has a huge gap in his mouth because I couldn’t stand my ground with my SO and say I wanted to keep him in the crib. He had started climbing up and over the rails so we figured that we would rather him fall off a toddler bed then out of a crib. Worst mistake ever. I’m going to Walmart today to buy a new crib. 

My son did such an amazing job handling this, he cried for maybe 5 minutes.. then he was back to himself, peeking out the window watching the train go by like he always does saying “choo choo”. We cuddled and watched bobs burgers music videos while we waited to see the dentist and he was talking to everybody in the waiting room. I wish I felt as good as him right now. 😭",2.7988757916959908,3.8197884336734655,3.4985608726249136,94.055306122449,74.10204081632655,5.917100633356793,25.762139338494016,5.501188778358388,0.4422256157635469,1454,48,333,5,29,459,196,392,0.093,0.826,0.081,-0.7261,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,5,0,2,4,17,12,0,0,26,0,19,16,11,1,4,53,46,28,0,8,4,5,2,2,0,4,4,3,9,0,9,29,0,5,3,3,5,16,3,5,0,2,14,11,58,7,51,26,4,71,0,1,6,1,54,34,0,1,22,205,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309716671917547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029988017973524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858211244510875,0.0,0.07553007852195512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352699133154337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651874876069447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067314064986154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610155493122075,0.0,0.12773848436230933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084282924832769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974122315720068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415459470332832,0.10439356575847787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264904628126429,0.08851628078432215,0.11896624718483075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473416909371363,0.0,0.14083378543746075,0.1039239024781846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295454342773422,0.11013062070744332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106542991648125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404725878251082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734314525738372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511361876850398,0.0988981397909926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196662257151648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410643115466509,0.0,0.1319525809225104,0.0,0.09423376456334716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245566708586877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162485723053426,0.0,0.19706517238330395,0.0,0.0,0.2962037898187001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769913438805223,0.0,0.0,0.207176801608162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931595864341842,0.099588484964438,0.10829662553165344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722487971982362,0.0,0.11744549381266695,0.0,0.0,0.08412195896265676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308116066915163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22971852223899866,0.0,0.0,0.1424822592679257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801708934262513,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aylazora,2019/01/09,"Am I doing enough as a mom and a spouse? I am 22 years old, and my son is 3 and his dad/my partner is 25. My spouse works as a welder and his hours are 4pm - 2am. He also cooks for our dinner/his lunch before he leaves work nearly everyday unless there’s left overs or unless I do it. He enjoys cooking and is good at it, but me I don’t really have experience at all and I try to learn from him sometimes. He buys the groceries and pays the house bills because he has most of the income. 
As for me, I am a stay at home mom. I work from home sort of, as a little self-business doing commissions and selling artwork. It helps pay for my car, my insurance, and my phone. I get child tax which helps pay for whatever my son needs. I make breakfast for my son in he morning, and lunch if he’s hungry again, and his dad usually sleeps until 12pm (sometimes 11am sometimes 1pm) I do most of the cleaning, I don’t ever expect my spouse to clean cause I feel like he does so much. I need to improve my cleaning though.. 
and since he works nights, I give my son his baths and put him to bed every night. And then try to find the time for my business, and sometime work on it during the day while my son is playing. 

I just don’t feel like I am doing enough sometimes. I struggled with depression for a long time which made me not want to do anything before... but I think I’m overcoming it, and getting myself to do more. Except for right now I am feeling really down and crappy about myself. 
I will learn how to make some good dinner meals, cause I hate the fact I never really cook around here. I am 22 and still feel like a teenager sometimes. I just want to be a good house wife, a good mother, a good spouse. I want to make my family’s life easier, and find better balance.",2.7979329329329303,3.7320069594594614,4.105795795795797,90.03384884884888,74.0,6.886886886886888,22.89289289289289,7.0931098945946705,0.6012592592592592,1365,34,304,13,27,450,180,370,0.069,0.784,0.147,0.9838,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,1,0,0,6,14,14,1,1,17,0,25,10,1,7,4,61,44,36,0,7,10,14,4,3,1,1,1,0,7,2,7,21,8,0,9,5,7,2,5,3,0,0,1,4,50,11,42,41,8,34,0,1,0,0,36,12,0,6,22,188,57,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349442700128008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533766031274509,0.0706809143024889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04840018863639154,0.0,0.1351234342927146,0.0,0.0,0.07022094064384067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312691345068744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051205040831323774,0.0,0.06838524652221621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694815881620851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407839405395466,0.0,0.0,0.07181989532952328,0.06689610780249833,0.0,0.0,0.07766632648822416,0.07484922090758278,0.0,0.1605837418544087,0.17016550642566813,0.0,0.0,0.14513638164012116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296419272078638,0.07616564658296361,0.0,0.33297572187165064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838893296621408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643740212896363,0.0,0.1592850220719439,0.0,0.07819088266539093,0.1832289031734739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407085244067196,0.086265989603752,0.0,0.05608104514920322,0.11636932782216552,0.07957749804967451,0.0,0.07026459325864214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512815956319335,0.15899603181276134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18597959010630175,0.0,0.0,0.0583665508260611,0.11774499026268002,0.06123651186043739,0.0,0.0,0.1490189956978777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331468091327085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981676285069703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259287550896442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780532478282765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282926710980347,0.0,0.0,0.06567871686611224,0.0,0.07945518397332887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711589862953809,0.0,0.0,0.08462753727162572,0.0634072206211268,0.0,0.0,0.08300386545995503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05087493236267791,0.07800797840871551,0.0,0.09259504244075584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781184825782654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744550770291679,0.0,0.14049271620147455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890128795511017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112960824669417
parenting,silentkunoichi,2019/01/09,Brother: Tough love or not? Hello I have a brother who is 20 years old he still lives with my parents his only claim is that he is super ADHD. he still has not finished his GED and I am trying to get him to finish it but he does not want to study he still does not know how to drive because again he does not want to study. He is very aggressive not with me but with everyone else that includes my mom and dad and our older brother who is down syndrome mind you he can give as good as he gets if he has to but he shouldn't have to. The last time I saw my brother last week I warned him that if he got violent or aggressive again I would take matters into my own hands and deal with him. He I said okay and normally he listens to me but he's still doing it and he's been raising his hand at my mom and my dad like he's going to hit them but he doesn't my mom is disabled as well and if he hits her she'll go down. my parents said that he'll smack my brother and they can hear him from another room but my brother is so scared of him sometimes that he won't admit that he smacked him and they can only punish him so much apparently and I know a lot of it is because they were so relaxed I'm dealing with him when he was younger now I just don't know how to help does anybody have any suggestions?,1.3976595744680829,2.8444231099290818,2.9265425531914886,95.00875,78.53900709219856,5.834751773049646,22.742907801418447,6.42735559955562,0.2813375886524825,1015,31,240,8,24,333,135,282,0.093,0.8,0.106,0.7175,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,4,1,15,13,4,1,3,1,27,3,2,2,0,49,50,31,0,8,18,13,2,1,0,5,0,4,1,0,11,17,0,0,4,1,0,3,10,6,1,0,7,7,39,7,25,36,3,25,0,0,1,1,69,5,0,6,18,150,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293443536489769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522012649756364,0.11598659389200765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485640803912693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280727560008541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871901192280685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240234564919396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569474989516962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155806758341724,0.10610935415273473,0.12572698722356254,0.09277631158256154,0.08846672499436023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466805050796775,0.0,0.07414106296135244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236880786401466,0.18032750219203636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054039560582157815,0.0,0.09767264772962414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403858372148348,0.09983187878363424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168684560253074,0.3886432087911416,0.0,0.0,0.08131273467927712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837652475464336,0.0,0.0,0.11606895470281142,0.0,0.0,0.16825120870652596,0.0,0.0,0.2456436383355603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21043516902975395,0.0,0.1107421637803196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093983486037098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35334035910266354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316664994114094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449889544646313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509846040753908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126669467809012,0.1304839477997804,0.0,0.0887264789818399,0.0,0.0994537012979518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857577237494237,0.0,0.0,0.07123066569427078
parenting,5MinFunLearn,2019/01/09,"how to easy deal with kids stay at home days one of the effective ways I found was to come up with a time table, specifically lists things to do and time needed, eg, 9-9:30 reading, 9:30-10 making cookies, 10-10:15 snack time, 10:15-10:30 tv time",9.27551020408163,6.0309680816326505,8.173163265306123,80.10219387755103,62.06122448979593,11.432653061224489,32.66326530612245,8.841846274778883,2.2671142857142863,192,4,42,2,2,59,40,49,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,3,0,9,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,8,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,17,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22596849766136176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691769785694823,0.2704440459637797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876242161857395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631318941261365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751029965664734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945095772889978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775721628045918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623945234416133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796019850184691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427610041118946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6118518511582672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082202119017498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lereas,2019/01/09,"Advice on deciding whether or not to move with a young family? Originally posted on NoStupidQuestions because my post ended up being more about myself, but someone suggested I post here too. 

https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/comments/ae6szm/anyone_have_advice_on_deciding_to_move_for_a_new/

I'm not super worried about the 1 year old not liking the move, but I'm kind of worried about the 5 year old. However, next year he'll be going into Kindergarten and so he'll be in a different school from most of his friends anyway. 

I imagine we can probably find a decent house in a good school district, or if absolutely necessary could maybe do private school, but it just feels so overwhelming. I have only lived in the city I grew up in, the city I went to college in, and the city I have now lived in over a decade. 


It's just really stressful imagining having to sell my house, find a new house, buy a new house, move all our shit....


Any suggestions?
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parenting,Ddelly15,2019/01/09,"Speech therapy for 19 month old For context I'm bilingual English and Spanish and my wife's primary language is Chinese and is fluent in English. I've kept Spanish from him thus far since pediatrician said it's best to teach him a third language after he grasp the first 2.

Last month at my son's 18 month check up, our pediatrician recommended that our son take speech therapy as she felt his vocabulary has not developed for his age. She expects 20+ words and we can count 10 or so. This past week I took him to the initial session and the therapist says that his comprehension is great but lacks vocabulary. I see this as an opportunity to help him develop as I don't see him behind to be honest. He seems on par or advanced compared to his peers at daycare of the same age. My wife doesn't like the idea I think she feels it is an admittance of regression or something of the sort and is rather against me taking him. In my view it can only help as I don't see it hurting him in any way.

Does anyone else have experience with a speech therapist at this age? What were the results if I may ask? How did little one take to the experience? Thank you in advance. 

(I'm on mobile so please excuse any grammar or format errors)

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parenting,LaRiataMayor,2019/01/09,"I have a 3 year old that wakes up every night at 2am and walk to our room. My step son Nash has extreme nightmares and talks about monsters all the time.  I have removed all TV shows that have remotely some monsters.  However, he continues to wake up and go to our room every single night.  It’s getting to the point that my wife is running the thought of taking him to a sleep specialist.   I really think it has to be a reason why he wants to sleep with somebody at night... have anybody experience anything similar to my issue?",4.747994505494503,5.614074403846153,5.521593406593407,81.9376923076923,69.38461538461539,8.635164835164835,31.203296703296704,8.841846274778883,2.4847873626373618,414,17,81,7,7,135,69,104,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,8,4,4,1,2,11,14,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,4,0,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,0,15,12,4,19,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,7,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225709479580228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33225456966853995,0.0,0.0,0.19287364192597706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030150821021056,0.0,0.11205831613121936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20579803934327345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5551022762887924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690055343456554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186392809728513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631447441954813,0.20272732784794428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946320470083782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482500289950836,0.15848069263365516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634089870357407,0.0,0.15653383538476145,0.11497352757212492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629811383770305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791853003376426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697335124101167
parenting,i-love-cheeeese,2019/01/09,"Which sleep training methods have worked for your baby? I have a 4 month old I am co-sleeping with and she exclusively breastfeeds. From 0-3 months she was in bassinet and used to feed 2-3 times a night. From 3-4 months she sleeps in my bed and now wakes up a lot more. Want to move her to the crib in her own room. 

I don’t mind waking up for 2-3 feedings a night but after the feeding I want to sleep!! It takes forever to put her to sleep after I feed her. 

Which methods have you found to be successful? What steps did you take? How long did you stick to one method before it worked? 

Thank you kindly! ",1.1440288713910791,2.978433842519689,2.1957677165354355,98.17008202099736,80.65354330708661,5.178215223097113,19.24475065616798,5.985473137389443,-0.3830257217847768,466,11,111,3,12,147,78,127,0.0,0.8590000000000001,0.141,0.9541,0,0,3,0,0,0,17.0,0,5,0,3,2,3,0,0,6,0,9,10,6,2,0,12,16,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,4,4,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,0,18,3,20,11,3,20,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,11,68,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887903718824992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531798008530953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548171429731638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236349155678874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877256671650342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14106266593689548,0.0,0.3345346410987573,0.14848477022863327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26220817764219306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659735526200893,0.0,0.09466801979030076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404425511953603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6990316535252447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100822042998421,0.0,0.0,0.12862199647268938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146336385971865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066064202132662,0.0,0.0,0.16480377290009748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341444419839494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_ndk,2019/01/09,"Post natal OCD Hey all

Had a baby 5 months ago, he’s a great kid and we’re loving having him. However, wife has been diagnosed with post natal OCD, which neither of us knew was even a thing beforehand (despite her having a medical background). Tends to result in her having compulsions to check stuff over and over, and tidy the place up the whole time when she should/could be resting. Also elevates her stress levels a lot at an already tricky time of life!

Just wondering if any of you have suffered from it, or had a partner who did - what were the things which helped most? What can a partner do to support you? I don’t want to be an enabler (by always tidying and checking too), but don’t want her to feel unsupported either. Any advice out there?",4.304445828144459,5.811604986301376,4.7808841843088405,84.42619551681197,71.05479452054793,7.5008717310087185,26.97135740971357,8.00094639256281,1.6502958904109586,592,20,113,8,11,188,107,146,0.062,0.865,0.07200000000000001,-0.3031,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,0,1,6,5,0,1,12,0,17,4,0,1,1,22,25,9,0,3,5,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,9,6,0,2,3,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,7,1,10,3,17,16,7,15,0,1,0,1,18,8,0,5,5,85,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757631756763971,0.15944053989911178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848683195600186,0.14383894066339334,0.14966309291111862,0.0,0.0,0.2446303771159557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436085303525405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825604138360516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879993329004244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094575857671848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983031280760367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056052705921015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704482119973615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291581701861398,0.1623362741607849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811962805536232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356749031322455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879219036258922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445242131711493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206036132284194,0.0,0.2059037742722568,0.0,0.20411004006399927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389902311726404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097628633626658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163569005427232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21217949798896474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20081419659639974,0.0,0.0,0.1950572287898887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arcspin,2019/01/09,"Parents with 2 or More Kids - Did You Have Doubts? Currently have a 14 month old daughter - she's been a blessing, completely healthy and a really happy misdemeanor. But over the past 2-3 months, we have had our challenges, while nothing serious - it seems like a daunting task to have 2 kids during these challenging times. 

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Have you ever doubted having a 2nd child, and what was a reassurance you fell on to overcome the fear?",5.841561181434598,7.778748113924053,5.527278481012663,78.88602320675106,67.86075949367088,8.810970464135021,33.41983122362869,9.2995712137729,3.2257071729957794,347,16,59,7,6,107,62,79,0.08800000000000001,0.6809999999999999,0.231,0.8798,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,3,0,2,1,10,0,3,8,0,10,0,0,0,1,10,11,5,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,4,0,6,6,5,7,1,11,1,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,9,39,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26297099462311657,0.2949133966685009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544717959824522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954075840640366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731108383423259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583642101019934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857350653837367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874499676160268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23288219566680146,0.0,0.2546782914422888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694954144936945,0.0,0.2316895864835472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548317293300604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220949708645004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152336026699974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949133966685009,0.0
parenting,oliveisacat,2019/01/09,Should we Facetime with our baby? (One week absence) My husband and I are overseas for work and our 20 month old daughter is with her grandparents. This is the first time I've been away from her for more than a few hours. It's been two days and my mom says she's doing ok but every so often she seems randomly upset and seems to look for us. I'm agonizing over whether we should try to Facetime with her or not. Might it upset her even more? :(,2.2176098901098875,4.019086736263739,3.109986263736264,93.02563873626372,77.24175824175825,5.868681318681317,22.36401098901099,6.6274283507984215,0.3590978021978022,347,10,76,3,8,110,65,91,0.166,0.8170000000000001,0.016,-0.9509,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,2,3,3,0,2,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,20,13,8,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,3,9,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,2,2,14,1,12,8,3,9,0,0,1,0,15,2,0,6,7,57,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22231167349808906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259990924806247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628485267845116,0.0,0.1993620122936232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012683028867667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330224017996567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870066448833948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510157435082828,0.0,0.277125729336908,0.18886731205679827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482922099071732,0.0,0.1603393990243509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816920867622847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308187488390279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797464901771994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064901026253986,0.0,0.23114272815830486,0.0,0.2846239504590695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18980177429951275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226170890597114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikclink,2019/01/09,Growing up What will be your response when your child grows up to the age where they realize that you were an inattentive parent and you let them play video games instead of teaching them life skills. Will you be able to accept the criticism? ,6.584666666666667,7.836728355555558,5.206666666666667,84.45000000000002,65.44444444444444,8.666666666666668,30.555555555555557,8.841846274778883,2.324555555555555,196,7,36,3,3,57,36,45,0.057,0.81,0.132,0.4215,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,5,3,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,2,5,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,2,28,10,1,0.5145151007768545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5261265500089332,0.3634172316979391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5713081306556798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,up_in_the_air_too,2019/01/09,"Would you microchip your child with GPS? My biggest fear as a parent is my kids being kidnapped and hurt.  I have not lost a child to death, but I imagine that is a pain I would learn to live with.  Having my child kidnapped and  never knowing where or how they are would break me. ",3.9053571428571416,4.975238821428572,3.7771428571428594,92.91785714285713,71.5,5.6000000000000005,24.714285714285715,3.1291,0.16937142857142895,218,6,46,0,4,66,41,56,0.194,0.78,0.026,-0.8664,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,1,1,2,4,0,1,3,0,9,1,0,1,1,15,11,6,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,10,0,5,6,0,4,0,2,0,0,8,2,0,1,1,36,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223335435332136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066484192692918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15742428375053125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529387584030163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31269173872530465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22092629230230654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304800779433877,0.0,0.318066512654552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6104531442649088,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,queenhippolotamus,2019/01/09,"Can’t find childcare openings!!! I got a job recently and have called literally every child care center in the WHOLE COUNTY. No openings. Anywhere. I’ve looked on babysitting pages on Facebook and all the private providers I meet are not people I want to leave my kids with. I’m dealing for now. But it makes me sick to pick up my kid and here that the new sitter told the kids to “shut up,” which in my mind is no way for anyone, and much less a paid provider to speak to a child. But I am legitimately out of options. I can find the government office that deals with financial assistance for childcare, for which I probably don’t qualify bc my husband has a decent income, but I can’t find any resources for when childcare is simply nonexistent.",5.133333333333333,6.317244555555559,5.431555555555558,81.76899999999998,68.72222222222221,8.26,31.06666666666667,8.548686976883017,2.360388333333334,592,24,112,9,10,188,95,144,0.064,0.92,0.016,-0.5166,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,9,0,10,1,0,2,1,22,18,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,5,9,0,0,3,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,3,2,12,1,20,15,5,16,0,0,1,0,12,11,0,1,4,73,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293072305059688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329559747911617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19416247300995396,0.0,0.19386866372976494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39206868966498265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020797780992893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5213757639950213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207880834027054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886926519080097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20133938587341807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967651650847756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692533528621985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199537891336516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978073443660752,0.0,0.0,0.1836462227789756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182475275110214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20501181563016188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774831208848505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169466104803866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215427772526744,0.15093071350703274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122935664351551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waxberry52,2019/01/09,"My kindergartener was left in his classroom when the rest of the class went to PE (about 30 min) teacher didn’t know until I messaged her. What should I do? My kindergartener got sent to his desk during a group activity, shortly after it was time for the class to go to PE. My son thought he was still in trouble and stayed in his seat.  When I emailed the teacher she seemed confused, apparently she didn’t realize she left him in there until I emailed her. She obviously freaked out and called me apologizing. My kid goes to a great school, his teacher is also a great educator however I think she’s overwhelmed (has 3 young kids of her own). The class size is 23. My son has said stuff like she never smiles and isn’t very happy. Should I request a classroom change? I don’t want to overreact but leaving him unattended when anything could have happened in those 30 minutes makes my skin crawl. If I went to the principal I’m afraid she’d be fired, which I don’t think needs to happen. ",3.709695595854922,5.600889538860109,4.093649611398963,87.19778011658032,73.30051813471502,7.312046632124352,28.12467616580311,8.07648339933343,1.7512282383419686,783,31,158,12,16,245,115,193,0.08,0.857,0.063,-0.4923,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,3,10,0,19,1,1,1,2,21,36,11,0,6,2,2,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,6,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,11,3,32,4,21,20,2,25,0,1,0,0,30,9,0,3,12,100,37,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498768767713368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890635919391278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236161550475476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856588639220372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347714558630258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593178486757233,0.0,0.13500316865156115,0.3722007489024728,0.0,0.0,0.2985350014707199,0.1796885938950389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276695814695404,0.0,0.0,0.17873269368637698,0.3667990093541711,0.0,0.0,0.08246616919066913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267396577346828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516156709946655,0.13018741215330856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605655381532139,0.0,0.0,0.17083257258730392,0.0,0.15366734600069507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991619280030507,0.13480228892383292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19323330834346206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21631786614059886,0.0,0.13400674522935566,0.09842746253298497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927601563957775,0.09956142500052004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129548465529846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,buhbamala,2019/01/09,"Not sure if we figured it out?! I have six month old baby. She is EBF and very healthy and happy baby. Together with my husband I went trough hell in first three months. She had colics, was hungry, intolerant to food I ate, I had every possible theory. Things improved but we are still super exhausted. When I talk to other people, their babies wake only once in the night, they take pacifier, they eat and nap on schedule. My baby is pretty much mess in the afternoon. Sometimes I blame myself because I coslept with her because I was uterly tired to constantly get up in the middle of the night to soothe her. So, she sleep out of her crib. I dont think thar we have any strenght to make some order of this mess. Are relatives and friends billshitting us, or did they realy figured it out and we didnt. Also, nobody of those people breastfeed so I wander if that is the key. Sorry for bad spelling. ",2.486954022988506,4.9619771206896575,3.642068965517243,86.16816091954023,79.51724137931033,6.16551724137931,22.88505747126437,7.3871296695380915,1.1058643678160909,705,23,131,10,18,228,116,174,0.139,0.741,0.12,-0.4394,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,0,4,2,5,9,1,0,5,0,14,8,3,1,1,25,20,13,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,7,14,3,0,3,1,0,1,3,5,0,3,8,0,28,4,21,12,2,23,1,0,0,0,18,10,1,4,11,95,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146654485413567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179417165293312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372628775586694,0.20042721450770834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765248821520044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266960243456502,0.0,0.0,0.16821702741005626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850979640791053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983422085022473,0.1987869697376705,0.0,0.1270110945670689,0.0,0.0858895518766909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750014315793065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097348745663435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624368869488301,0.0,0.12084916951846585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085469608480492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250479691818785,0.17507520685096425,0.0,0.1250297319531899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279414535366128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185330552794524,0.0,0.16724871779164074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451362743241468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259076302865136,0.18402663514648046,0.0,0.0,0.131285982212193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494025092002398,0.0,0.12360450815807195,0.13213439618405165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921666900927854,0.1053376161229752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18894775799019892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19774682737871785,0.0,0.0,0.1356430121314502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239572245316174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DariosDentist,2019/01/09,"Are there any good resources out there to supplement birthing classes? My wife and I were supposed to attend a birthing class in November but it got snowed out and now we're just a few weeks out from having our second and we realized we never scheduled a make-up day for our missed class.

My wife has a few videos and books excerpts we're going to go over together but I would look really awesome if I brought something to the table too. 

Help me /r/parenting you're my only hope.",2.3583157894736817,4.851722147368419,3.1444736842105283,89.43881578947371,80.15789473684211,6.326315789473685,25.28947368421053,7.554174236665415,1.4018210526315786,384,15,75,6,10,121,68,95,0.029,0.81,0.16,0.9279,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,1,17,12,7,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,1,0,1,3,1,11,2,11,8,2,16,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,2,7,49,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083080169171796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755097604071392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481772844713333,0.2569265751404941,0.2449919842574255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053197530598584,0.0,0.0,0.30424474951603403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25723154360334777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204470892977637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362527690820204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23297006573573176,0.0,0.0,0.34013196701855325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623635358451194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358200026754475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457113241540417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21760084811463468,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bi11y1,2019/01/09,"Am I bringing up my daughter wrong? I’m not sure if this is right place to put this. Ok. So first time posting... quick backstory time 

My daughter is two and half years old. I live at home at my parents but I’m in the process of purchasing my first home. Other than my wife, my daughter, and my parents we have my siblings living here too. Two sisters and a brother. I wouldn’t say I’m a strict parent but Me and the wife decided very early on certain things for my daughter. We’ve never given her a mobile or iPad to use yet. And I have been very vocal about not giving her junk food like sweets and chocolates and fizzy drinks. Well. That’s what me and my wife decided.

My aunt on the other hand, she had a baby boy, who is six weeks older than my daughter. It’s her sixth child. My first. I do not like to go to hers for many reasons including the fact that I hate it when my mother or my aunt start to compare the differences between them. But unfortunately I had to go over to hers this weekend. 
So we visited. My wife me and my daughter. My aunt began to offer my daughter some chocolate. I replied saying no thank you. If you have something else she can have that. Juice or crisps. She must have misheard me because she asked again. I replied no. Again she asked a third time. I said no once again. And that was that. Or so I thought. Last night my mother got a phone call about how disrespectful I’ve become and how I kept saying no to her offering food and how I don’t remember when I was kid I used to go into her cupboards lookin for sweets... well we’ve got into a argument. But this is probably the 100th argument about how I am trying to raise my daughter and how they think I’m doing it wrong. In fact I’ve heard ‘my daughter is going to grow up and resent me and hate me and she won’t listen to me’ so many times now. 

Am I doing it wrong? Bringing up my daughter with a good start. Is that the wrong way? Should I just give up fighting against everyone who sneaks behind my back as I’m work and feeds her crap and takes her out and spoils her?!?! Shall I just give her a mobile to watch YouTube on when we’re out at a family function because everyone else is doing the same thing?!",1.1555,3.3866532666666664,2.462250000000001,94.10737500000002,83.0,5.261111111111112,21.375,6.528864054313183,0.2839666666666667,1710,54,371,17,48,549,203,450,0.128,0.804,0.069,-0.9812,3,0,2,0,2,0,51.0,2,2,2,4,28,20,5,0,18,1,31,6,2,8,6,65,65,42,0,5,15,24,1,2,0,5,0,6,2,3,21,26,4,1,6,2,1,9,11,9,2,8,13,10,73,11,45,47,2,59,0,0,1,0,69,19,1,7,31,260,94,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15834475442561965,0.0,0.0,0.0651202798385719,0.0,0.10325072772052724,0.09353186764472504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086476494765162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848152656041174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296255353075986,0.0,0.0,0.1414928599995764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618471083665389,0.0,0.0,0.07983684305531459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161081532537591,0.2048115006456224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437229686047911,0.19252185511534414,0.07103275124565504,0.13546636555927333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672248518451364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989907381830607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690324846259833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274911125004089,0.0,0.14956311091347504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717218273137542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531704308175859,0.0,0.0,0.07947448234953361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886640400023943,0.09019055898962598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28210989140433584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848152656041174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110823626790853,0.0,0.0913085980328916,0.0,0.0,0.08513540009671362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707395083948889,0.0,0.0,0.09593563637275412,0.07232357274212897,0.08055821987343108,0.2020432408033916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519739571367783,0.0,0.0,0.11988600598891995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981797132683446,0.0,0.0636752621055258,0.0,0.0,0.07796985342218887,0.0,0.0,0.11252664047762102,0.05426501359985941,0.0,0.06723326170032964,0.1975303358246152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057497977296858536,0.0,0.16545684675256508,0.0,0.0,0.14628745984715982,0.0,0.13975387271809736,0.0,0.06722184186345816,0.06793205941164518,0.0,0.1522903832724677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616542847765254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703746097048413,0.0,0.0545366599621814
parenting,ReadyInFive,2019/01/09,"Parenting Resources for Survivors of Child Abuse? Hi everyone, I’m a survivor of child abuse and one of my main goals in life is to end the cycle. Through therapy, I’ve come to realize that I have absolutely no idea what healthy parenting looks like. Actually, it seems like I still hold a lot of toxic beliefs about how to raise kids. It kind of feels like a minefield: once in a while I stumble on a harmful belief and someone tells me how wrong it is, but I have no idea how many are still buried beneath the surface. More than that, I really have no idea how to act around kids at all, since I can’t relate to them and don’t remember enough about what it was like to be that age. I’m nowhere near having a kid, but I figure this journey is going to take a long time and so I want to get started now.

Does anyone know any resources that could help me learn how to raise emotionally healthy kids, or even how to deal with kids in general? These don’t need to be specifically for survivors of abuse, but it would be helpful to have stuff that really goes over the basics, since there’s a lot of intuition that others seem to have built up that I just don’t have. Some people I’ve talked haven’t believed how little I know about all this, so please just know that I am earnestly lost and looking for help. A few starter questions to give you an idea of where I am: 
- How should someone act around a child?
- What does a supportive home environment look like?
- What does a supportive parent look like?
- How do you deal with a kid that’s hurt, sad, etc...?
- How do you approach healthy discipline?

I need to re-evaluate a lot of things and don’t know where to start, so any and all guidance is welcome. Thank you.",4.182671065493647,5.222379636363637,4.4849743401759525,88.2141281769306,70.81818181818181,7.912072336265888,27.69806940371457,8.212053250817874,1.5858239491691104,1340,46,286,19,24,420,169,341,0.091,0.753,0.156,0.9658,3,0,0,0,3,0,42.0,0,4,1,2,27,16,0,0,18,0,29,1,0,10,3,62,56,25,0,6,6,3,1,6,0,2,1,0,1,9,24,12,0,2,18,0,0,6,9,5,0,1,2,5,21,11,46,48,12,32,2,3,4,0,28,15,0,8,17,188,45,2,0.0,0.2883804807191748,0.07917203620786395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034356182628843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0567285981114018,0.0,0.0,0.14444736898188285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140671990870132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988706982880892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477640648948015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672847509335641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21299454106684884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126132077140653,0.07185787930177498,0.08382988732444771,0.09048237786301848,0.05358618148119485,0.0,0.0,0.07752403321303569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04102221094803805,0.057959917320499585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042387536566577316,0.0778281334097401,0.046108549114130704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631409573275787,0.0,0.08138088826230433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685228568478508,0.3663475557084816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448532740195343,0.1783496409158631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730514030200747,0.23781870113004636,0.08131445622111616,0.0,0.07179827630240206,0.2725180255213378,0.0,0.088563940057988,0.2069237202877651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225397894613834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031503993746892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864017400271276,0.05497638438692569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702587251843321,0.0,0.0,0.05624593728637235,0.0,0.0,0.08905734376665593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088515396062127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394903919097406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919054722143276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771701329422934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342246056525878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748386372713048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114849709752179,0.0,0.12958245211682326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928754479085296,0.0,0.1841327237499412,0.0,0.0,0.0610003253581527,0.0652099286534302,0.07091196564390091,0.07469441459069001,0.09278023260709108,0.0,0.05389975206713031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04730806892258176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04785309541406317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057633049828649585,0.0887038818110868,0.0,0.0
parenting,LougiBoard,2019/01/09,"My daughter's friend wears make up to school (4-5 years old) My daughter is 4 years old, her friend is already 5, because of the months they were born, it is almost a full year between them. My daughter looks up to her.

Her friend is really shallow, as her mother is. One day her friend told her that her hair is ugly, and since then my daughter asks for ponytails a lot more, we have been dealing with boosting her self steam again. (FYI: my daughter has a really beautiful hair, straight, blonde, healthy).

Her friend wears princess dresses to school a lot. Her friend wears glitter in her eyes sometimes. Her friend wears a colorful wig, or a tiara to school sometimes. Her friend wears short-skirts. 

And today, she wear a lot of make up, including really red lipstick. When her friend wears something ""special"", sometimes my daughter will ask for that too.

So, what would be a good answer to my daughter if she asks for lipstick? I don't want to say anything negative about her friend, but it is a big no from us. Her friend's clothes and make ups are just the opposite of what we are trying to teach to our daughter about women in the world. 
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parenting,anchlynn,2019/01/09,"Will I mess my kids up by continually letting them sleep with me? I have a 9, 8 & 5 year old. I’m a single mom who works graveyard and is gone 3 nights a week. On the nights I’m home my kids beg to sleep and cuddle with me so we all pile in my bed. Just curious if this is not a good idea... they all have their own room but it’s basically for aesthetic purposes at this point. I would just hate for them to end up with some sort of attachment issue. ",0.028787878787877474,1.8197565757575769,2.4548383838383856,95.09559090909092,84.25252525252526,6.384242424242425,17.980808080808078,7.554174236665415,0.09442141414141414,347,8,88,6,10,119,73,99,0.107,0.85,0.043,-0.7263,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,4,1,3,3,1,0,5,0,7,3,2,0,2,17,11,5,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,13,1,14,7,5,15,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,3,7,56,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23621505038195956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19309321916975652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285745593933456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21524093071155126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21868301494773504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24610811491404214,0.0,0.2275470577481757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229312286244053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553320893211192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091774962868328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287660870372787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060910569142648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43633730173742413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748754390460554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871475431108673,0.0,0.0,0.15486890554130292,0.0,0.0,0.14039206874621873
parenting,just_visiting_earth,2019/01/09,"Worried about almost-16-month-old developmental delay This is my first post here. I apologize if this is inappropriate for this sub.

My son was born prematurely at 34 weeks. He is now almost 16-months old, but, gestationally, he’s closer to about 14.5-months.

He walks and runs very well, although he’s been walking on his tip toes a lot lately. He’s very interactive and smiley and laughs a lot. He makes good eye contact and can respond to a handful of simple commands and questions like “clap!” or “do you want to turn on the light switch?”

However, he does not point or wave and doesn’t have any words except mama and dada, though he does babble a fair amount.

When we had his 15-month check-up, the doctor went down a list of questions and there were a lot of nos. She suggested we might want to start the process of screening him for possible autism.

I had been worried already, but this put the fear of god into me. (My wife isn’t as convinced.)

When I picked him up from daycare today, I saw a nine-month old waving. Then I saw a 13 month-old pointing, throwing a ball, and handing me a piece of paper. I felt so sick to my stomach knowing my son doesn’t do any of that.

Sometimes, if I open my mouth and ask for a Cheerio, he’ll feed me one. One time, he even pulled a “joke” where he went to give it to me then pulled it away at last second and ate it then giggled. That said, he’s no where near the devopmental level of the 13-month-old I mentioned.

We’ve tried and tried to model pointing and waving and he just doesn’t do it. We’ve read countless books to him since the day he was born. He flips the pages as we read. He used to repeat words from books when we’d prompt him like “toot” or “duck” but he doesn’t do that as much anymore, either.

The hospital is making us start with a hearing test that’s not scheduled until next month. It seems like a waste of time. We know he can hear. We’ve put in a call to a speech therapist already.

Any insights on how worried we should be? Thank you.",2.9806952316179216,4.653228845386536,3.6857492632056257,90.28076324340664,74.76059850374065,6.157364165344216,24.370966523086228,6.714681859716394,0.6778804655029096,1561,49,330,13,33,494,212,401,0.063,0.82,0.117,0.9632,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,7,2,0,1,16,11,0,1,25,0,27,10,6,5,0,58,51,36,0,5,13,3,3,3,0,3,2,4,0,0,13,22,2,1,7,6,0,10,8,1,1,4,14,12,34,10,44,32,8,57,0,0,4,0,51,19,0,13,30,195,47,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115630519303794,0.0,0.16657893539442858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397848077705165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485175360332957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705597231232919,0.0,0.07091203741154166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706927266945053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867567367617105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725272175298037,0.13209883468390274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985108134722789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493130499234479,0.0,0.0,0.07246864383784828,0.0,0.0,0.0641997120505981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724033044055101,0.0,0.06330555475310592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701335171181468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295909702640124,0.061522884283613376,0.08514003647955573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062105087751503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925005836879124,0.0,0.0,0.10076142029086768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006794026809529,0.0,0.0,0.4819527715355573,0.0,0.055483427715090336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026941347438699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959959951919295,0.0,0.10228876678629843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140471979213122,0.08508767060911816,0.07228499251322479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174813414198854,0.1691004314213448,0.0,0.1509925322636346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717948088674403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871037124267187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062434395866916875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464753695525506,0.0,0.10684437788444792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694880141674358,0.0,0.08763326904607882,0.0,0.0,0.0741546308627808,0.0,0.08802114004213989,0.0,0.0715422723913209,0.0,0.0,0.1024862837529968,0.08209604189799602,0.0,0.0,0.0907881439853756,0.06518689362756189,0.0,0.12455094707957375,0.08903521341748456,0.0,0.06054216725609653,0.0,0.06786184561038246,0.13993372208531354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22994814156566815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zero1829,2019/01/09,"3 year old told me he doesn't love me anymore My 3 year old son told me he doesn't love me anymore. Me and his dad have been separated for 3 years. His dad spoils him and never disciplines him. I reward him when he is deserving of it. I discipline him when he acts out. My son told me he wants dad and I don't love you anymore. I don't know what to do anymore. I take him out all the time and he still prefers his dad because he buys him everything and doesn't discipline him. I hate his dad with a passion. We have court next week, I don't know if the judge will believe me or not and if he will deny it. But the thing that shocked me the most was when I asked him who told you to say that? He responded with ""dad.""",0.8075824175824167,2.3495538974358965,2.44673992673993,97.3673076923077,80.53846153846153,6.252014652014653,21.399267399267398,7.1686216300943375,0.2729575091575094,552,16,139,7,14,181,74,156,0.116,0.845,0.039,-0.8958,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,2,0,1,4,7,1,0,5,0,14,4,0,0,2,26,27,13,0,4,5,8,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,11,0,3,3,0,1,1,8,2,0,0,6,1,33,5,8,19,2,16,0,0,0,4,43,2,0,4,13,85,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5270390494993119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420460315768801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098920427638535,0.0,0.0,0.14968584075967434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940449944565625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131170094247011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603092626199612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597294874600505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246853386247487,0.0,0.1412963402487552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27882493443975226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565427584768887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610083324388328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989292906439333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826517036126984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747076011989328,0.0,0.0,0.5078073079162977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836328474713268,0.0,0.10657093771769073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566692240378713
parenting,lavendher,2019/01/09,"How to handle a kindergartner’s potentially dangerous temper tantrums? (Nanny struggling) I am a nanny for two girls (newly 6 and 8), and the younger one in kindergarten is really challenging me. She has zero emotional regulation and throws about 1-2 temper tantrums per day while I’m working with her from after school until bedtime. 

The worst part is that these tantrums are usually over nothing...but the root cause is plain and simple: her parents do not discipline or punish in effective manner and it shows. Big big pushovers. They’ve basically made me the “bad cop” who is in charge of discipline because they completely lack that. Which is fine, I realize that’s what I signed up for with this job, it is just difficult to be the strict enforcer of these kids as a college student when I have two well-educated and very successful adults in front of me who just simply don’t know how to say no and have me do it instead. They are at home in the house with me and the kids 90% of the time while I’m working, always in earshot, making me feel very self-conscious when it comes to when I have to discipline the kids because I actually enforce rules. And these kids don’t have any respect or listen to a thing I say, extremely spoiled, so I have to be strict so often with them, have tried reward/punishment systems, nothing seems to work because I feel like it is such a fundamental deep issue with the lack of discipline by mom/dad. Anyways...

So, with the 5 yr old, about once a week, these tantrums will turn into full-blown major absolute meltdowns — I’m talking screaming, crying, kicking, on the floor, inconsolable, repeating the same thing over and over and fighting ...and I don’t know what to do, because usually the parents are listening it unfold so I don’t want to be too “tough” on her because I know she’s not used to that. So I usually try to keep calm and send the 5yr old upstairs to her room to cry it out (“you can come downstairs when you have stopped crying”), but in the middle of these major meltdowns, she’s typically impossible to communicate with, won’t listen to a thing I say, resulting in me yelling (which I hate doing) and then it takes *forever* for me to finally get her upstairs. And then when she gets to her bedroom it results in her throwing stuffed animals and toys and pillows onto the ground, spitting, crying so hard she chokes, thrashing even more to the point where we are all worried she is going to hurt herself. Then I give up on letting her cry it out and just distract her in an attempt to calm her down, being nice to her, until everything is “okay” and by that time it’s either time to go to their sport or dinner is ready and we have to move on. 

I have no idea what to do....am seeking instead advice on how to deal with these tantrums “in the moment”, especially: how to beat communicate with (my biggest weakness) in the middle of her meltdown, also any general advice. Thanks in advance. ",8.436963755199054,7.091170616755793,8.099429590017827,74.00117052881761,62.08377896613191,11.163161021984553,38.603089720736776,10.082433333333334,3.772591681521094,2320,100,432,40,27,741,271,561,0.124,0.8170000000000001,0.058,-0.987,3,0,0,0,3,0,78.0,2,2,4,9,29,30,11,2,28,1,41,3,1,12,1,80,69,48,0,3,10,2,3,1,0,2,1,8,4,6,33,36,1,6,9,3,0,10,9,20,0,4,1,11,53,10,85,61,10,78,0,1,0,0,48,40,0,5,28,312,86,9,0.0,0.0,0.08155611769520832,0.0,0.0,0.16333498974280136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683405613109245,0.06954021981976567,0.0,0.0,0.11366630121254112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978075580863484,0.25472951539627564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585346624070886,0.0,0.14398311235464842,0.08762569456122579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4590102884936339,0.05389828264843747,0.08616107080997512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094009442908754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519980454011654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511087570666616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451499858894734,0.05970524524826719,0.0,0.09155117512227756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732787702864096,0.08017174639412232,0.0949940013778204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486584193481231,0.08251197141781864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383148418509215,0.0,0.0,0.0964331152975644,0.0894676399986618,0.0943448147912644,0.0,0.08722948866211436,0.08293424785468191,0.07428436509553862,0.0,0.0,0.1377901687463563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546002427877883,0.0,0.040830009576784385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907969046119442,0.05578625934409865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978807979805184,0.0,0.08882588067488076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08019145723974044,0.0,0.1753935998379619,0.08900352720779575,0.05663187016872221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559795819340105,0.09050244161107897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900439447721293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353961121010575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938407391470214,0.0,0.08458129731525774,0.0,0.07608258356636913,0.08718585470819745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987156283659504,0.0,0.08736963644283993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283720809319482,0.06717357378800169,0.0,0.0769436629309266,0.0,0.0,0.16656845272192705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619792372852505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348244969460285,0.0909044567102173,0.163279207121356,0.0,0.0,0.07218105785420198,0.2761346899048696,0.1379145195706208,0.04929407993780667,0.0,0.0670379800930318,0.0,0.07514301620325797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252848881497172,0.0848734011095747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ditzydiva,2019/01/09,"Mixed feelings about kids dropping naps So my 15mo toddler dropped his morning nap this week, my 4yo dropped her afternoon nap last month.
There goes the hour of peace and quiet in the house in the morning & 2 hours in the afternoon.
I am sorta glad I have a little more flexibility in the morning to do stuff with the kids but I am really dreading having to entertain them All. Day. Long.",3.4579428571428568,5.819498680000002,4.164571428571431,84.28800000000003,75.53333333333333,6.9523809523809526,28.04761904761905,7.957251820313856,1.9257619047619048,311,13,58,5,7,99,56,75,0.064,0.825,0.111,0.1831,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,7,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,6,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,2,9,6,2,17,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,9,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30633956592146205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233848948738568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142957589968629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568673398331203,0.3262343012784388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304639862575337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28337133524336083,0.0,0.25020856523541474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22567366234797775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112510002349025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32366003424531026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267902320409687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnknowinglyMe,2019/01/09,"Mental health as a parent. I’ve been on a long journey very long to figuring out where my toxic habits are rooted and how I can heal so that my children won’t suffer.
 
One of the things that I noticed two years ago was that I NEED to move from my hometown. Yes it’s a need a lot and 98% of the trauma happened here and it’s haunting living here. I use to just make it but now that I am a 22 year old mother of a toddler girl wife and I have twin boys on the way I’m dedicated to being better for them and getting a different environment. 

So we have a moved planned and we were offered a stepping stone to stay with a family member as we save up for our own in a different state well said person is looking for houses and that’s cool but I have a deadline which is March. I’ll be in my third trimester coming to a close. I want this move so bad I’ve been holding on strong because I know this move is going to be a big sigh of relief. The move is to AZ from WI.

It’s getting near and everyday it’s harder for me. With this uncertainty it’s hard because if we don’t have the help we can’t go and I really need this. I need this for me I am so stuck I am still so hurt and scared to live in this town. The one time I chanced it I seen my rapist and he acknowledged me and smiled I broke down in front of my daughter and from that day on I said I can’t do outing in certain parts of this city. I don’t want to live like this.  Everyday I look at my girl and she’s so bright she deserves everything to play outside and to go places with mommy without paranoia and distractions. 

I can’t do it here I’ve tried. I am scared I am begging for a change and a chance to heal properly. My environment is oppressive and I promise my children when we’re out I will be all that I can give I will fight through this pain for them I will do it. My daughter is the reason I am here. Tonight it’s just hard and I seen a picture of AZ and it made me sigh like that’s it I’m almost there. Sorry for the vent. ",0.2959404388714759,2.157652850574713,2.3714289446186,95.6693064263323,83.71264367816093,5.425809822361547,20.4610762800418,6.574015621080383,0.07988505747126418,1550,46,370,16,44,520,197,435,0.131,0.7170000000000001,0.151,0.6153,3,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,6,0,2,3,19,25,2,3,25,2,39,5,0,6,2,59,66,33,0,7,6,5,2,2,0,4,4,2,0,6,31,32,0,1,4,1,0,12,7,11,3,4,10,10,54,12,53,48,4,50,0,3,5,1,28,20,0,3,17,252,85,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406277480323013,0.0,0.094960468933566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918069164783008,0.11561731585428225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387112636064536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031959656372864,0.08168930165440785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115874282642007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981583438577618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522881444617553,0.0,0.08939909387679745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909152778779166,0.09097141835937966,0.16168549575726987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385955322371794,0.0,0.16990154596353693,0.0,0.0,0.1008018958845266,0.0,0.0,0.06356383666757498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942330272196966,0.10151953118163996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211714288644245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266017144163004,0.0,0.2512149669507045,0.16784652913622955,0.15926985669600496,0.0,0.0,0.08062270673457059,0.0,0.08973225516767562,0.06330104264597776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556827014717786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5039566128627662,0.0,0.2812666667836897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796676888873592,0.099510147065891,0.0,0.12852112584067654,0.0,0.10090784849196298,0.0,0.1052996240000603,0.10269372751184568,0.0,0.0,0.0828035742668757,0.0990791719288809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06075175593967281,0.09750300747650774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041374346485112,0.0,0.18988658995664526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061565698729655,0.0,0.10107820839510956,0.07573289340945774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300211350246906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055297254876627316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438464840758314,0.0,0.09263700573144594,0.0,0.0,0.08190433047818202,0.0,0.07824626518683153,0.11186864625894387,0.07527316363397316,0.0,0.0,0.08526528448323023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141458630989054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213729393854035
parenting,slpy7,2019/01/09,"Teenager going down wrong path and I feel helpless not sure what to do ‘You pay for your raising’ I’ve always heard that and always joked that if it was true, I’d run away. Well that day is here. No I’m not running away but I feel helpless and totally scared. My teenager has been vaping and I grounded her, took her phone only to find pics on there of her vaping, drinking, cussing, sneaking out, sexting, etc. I know that a lot of kids are doing this but she’s only  14. We have tried to raise her right and she is a good kid, makes straight A’s, but just recently she’s been sneaking around to do these things.
From about 15-21 was bad, I did all sorts of things sex, drugs, jail, etc. I was lucky and got out. Went to rehab, sobered up and  have a successful career and family. Just recently my spouse and I have been having problems and I’ve been drinking and partying some. She’s seen us go through this and I’m afraid I haven’t been the best role model. After I saw all those pics and videos of her being drunk or messed up, I have stopped.
I’m just not sure what else to do. I’ve taken her phone-no social media. And told her she’s not going anywhere or doing anything for a long time because I can’t even trust her to go to McDonald’s without getting into something (yes, this happened) Part of me feels like I am overreacting because many of us have went through the same thing at that age or near it. And we ended up okay. But as a parent I am totally freaked out that she is going down that same road I did. She is just like me- always looking for fun. I am so scared Its like I’m paralyzed. I know that how I handle this can make or break the situation. I love her so much. I just never thought she would start making bad decisions. I feel like I have failed as a parent. I am so worried about her. ",1.3558187599364118,3.4080217967914486,2.644675531146124,94.10521679433442,81.03208556149733,5.5405694464518,21.33805463217228,6.643151254067905,0.2767601676542859,1408,42,311,14,37,453,189,374,0.138,0.7170000000000001,0.145,0.7191,2,0,4,0,0,0,45.0,4,2,0,3,16,29,0,3,10,2,37,7,0,4,8,71,70,30,0,3,19,3,4,4,0,1,2,1,0,2,22,22,3,1,9,5,1,10,9,12,1,0,20,8,50,17,41,48,13,41,0,3,3,2,35,19,0,9,15,216,72,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396226114855125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899439413299411,0.0854544833005302,0.0,0.0,0.1803779300661873,0.0,0.160300969056809,0.11703337887991608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073915748269004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061907805661609014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807398600601666,0.11132187530068637,0.0,0.08019017327391283,0.0,0.08502166553930407,0.0,0.21411604524433728,0.06340273945866448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049404016947607,0.0,0.1941486018121727,0.13715541713704618,0.0,0.0,0.08773623419815027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015259275693012,0.0,0.27277632455731,0.08051471474290475,0.07677469610139953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488665207814859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055109312043734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759011781719398,0.0,0.0,0.08495114374925036,0.08061028464951646,0.0,0.0,0.08161016119318504,0.0866377969268546,0.0,0.19222903211533213,0.09732224712430093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056619869869951,0.0,0.0740360326659809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460146220848592,0.0,0.0,0.21317863505919327,0.10395150442371692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185272553918143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956381578020606,0.0,0.0,0.08197784439436907,0.0,0.0,0.19221229157940387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790061053305254,0.0,0.09785318888456912,0.0,0.0739004139050315,0.0,0.0,0.0679446269825744,0.0,0.0,0.08025478588205498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18094529861337807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132126097088015,0.0,0.0,0.07620804195400252,0.05597452711280805,0.0,0.0,0.09172581332961506,0.10665220634189188,0.06517322163603728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309364966006129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630960051698963,0.17797369852539136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253421804256456,0.0,0.0,0.09748596362529308,0.0,0.06819096157796649,0.10495372038058308,0.0,0.0
parenting,life-isbeautiful,2019/01/09,Transitioning from co-sleeping to independent sleeping My son will be 3 in February and has been co-sleeping since he was a baby. I am wanting to get him to sleep independently. What has been your experience with transitioning your child from co-sleeping to sleeping independently? What's your best advice?,6.175849056603774,9.254029981132078,7.023245283018872,63.58920754716985,69.94339622641509,9.52301886792453,35.12830188679245,9.888512548439397,4.289772830188679,251,13,38,7,5,83,36,53,0.0,0.908,0.092,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,3,3,3,0,6,10,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,1,8,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379694609020292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16516815185067876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539548776127654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822283138272747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019231466314948,0.0,0.9450051529990912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283104577529916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HollyheadHarpy7,2019/01/09,"For the last 2ish weeks, 18m old has been waking up around midnight, crying for an hour, then falling back asleep. He used to be a great sleeper so this change has me concerned- any advice? The title pretty much says it all. My normally great and sound sleeper has been waking up at roughly the same time every night crying for the past 2 weeks. He starts to fall back asleep then works himself back into a fit in 10-15 minute cycles. He eventually falls back asleep after 1-2 hours of on-and-off crying/whining. Comforting him, distracting him, and letting him cry it out have made no difference. 

His evening/bedtime routine has not changed here, but I cannot speak for what goes on when he has his once a week overnight stay with the ex-husband (he always just replies “fine” when I ask how our son’s night was, despite me asking for more details). 

The only thing that I can possibly come up with is he has 2 teeth popping through right now. I’ve tried Tylenol at bedtime and/or when he wakes up. Doesn’t seem to make a difference either way. 

Is there any advice anyone can offer in helping to get him to sleep through the night again? I haven’t had this issue with him since he was sleep trained at 3 months. I feel so bad that apparently something is going on with him but I can’t figure out what it is or how to help! (Not gunna lie, the added stress on my already strained sleep cycle isn’t great either). 

Thanks Reddit! ",4.494107142857144,5.710220196428577,4.324999999999998,88.99000000000002,70.25,6.742857142857144,26.857142857142854,6.742157984588678,1.0351928571428577,1125,36,227,8,20,343,171,280,0.084,0.812,0.104,0.7689,1,0,1,1,0,0,37.0,1,0,0,1,17,10,0,3,13,0,25,11,10,5,1,30,37,14,0,1,8,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,10,11,0,0,3,0,0,5,8,4,0,0,6,5,20,6,35,29,6,51,0,0,0,0,26,18,0,2,26,135,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893025030921909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688830005350196,0.0,0.08059594394435628,0.0,0.0,0.13173732934166546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677273226348968,0.0,0.0,0.08622664659883147,0.1811035432309936,0.0,0.0,0.2979199016156624,0.08087472110562706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493176365788715,0.08343700151038938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191911176915839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20239783791644386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160940054676454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04897573020610494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060576958213376,0.0,0.05504822410642413,0.0,0.0,0.32036811782110525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984750337261386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19077675135851907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109750870399707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895447884683372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904672927562504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165202980471322,0.06465533532415353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731336548275318,0.0,0.07120383205193323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726918943824673,0.09490301731259417,0.0,0.0,0.1016391145827332,0.10315358950951428,0.0,0.07366700218931037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246459246630986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091959970255057,0.0,0.0985422544481574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271859292236107,0.0,0.07702759490012051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817843337495437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012425368526324,0.0,0.2907922514807699,0.0,0.0,0.07456817509371083,0.0,0.0,0.06855857191847912,0.10324072376342977,0.0,0.0,0.1109537177475718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917640986075474,0.0,0.0,0.06435001074806702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648031070434036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576212426391251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365663076331073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768835935749576,0.2330876706914788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051581512064835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deadlyhater,2019/01/09,"To my son - January 2019  

Hello my son!

I just recently watched The Princess Diaries. there's this scene where Princess Mia's father left her a diary with a letter he wrote for her. The letter would be given to her on her 16th birthday so, as a millennial, I thought it would be cool to give you a similar letter. Via a website of course, that I hope will keep running decades from now. ***Fingers crossed.***

I am 24 right now, I will turn 25 next month on February 5th. How old are you? How's our family? How's school? Do you have a girlfriend yet? I wonder what you look like.

I had you when I was 21. Right now you're this adorable but completely naughty baby boy. I bring you sweets everyday and sometimes crackers. Anything I run into that I think you might like. Why? Cause every morning when I get ready for work, you'd always ask me where I'm going. I give you the same answer everyday. Our conversations go a little like this:

>*You: Where are you going Mama?*  
*Me: I'm going to work sweetie*  
*You: In the office?*  
*Me: Yeah! The office we went to last time, Do you remember?*  
*You: Yes! Come home ok?*  
*Me: Of course baby, I always come home, right?*  
*You: Yes, I'll be alone here.*  
*Me: Don't worry, you have your baby sister and Grandma*  
*You: But Mama isn't here*  
*Me: I'll be home soon*

Then I kiss your forehead and you shout goodbye as I walk out the door. You'll keep saying goodbye and I would say it back, until I'm already outside and your goodbyes turn faint as I get farther away.

I'm writing this as I am worried. I want to share my worries with you. Sweetie, the world isn't like the sugar-coated candy I keep bringing you home, It's different from all the movies we watch and it's very different from what we have at home. I don't know what kind of friends you may have now, but I pray that they be kind to you. I pray that you go through your teenage years with merit. I know along the way, you'll have your troubles, you'll get hurt, you'll hurt others too, I'm sure. But please learn from your mistakes. Please live through life with dignity, with grace and with passion. Passion for things much greater than our own. Passion for life and for love.

When I was young, I didn't have much of a family. Maybe that's why I'm worried about you. I don't know how the world will treat you. I want you to be safe, but I don't want you to be entitled either. I know that to be a good person, you need to have your share of forthcomings. I only pray that you will always choose to do the right thing.

Live your life and be brave. Be compassionate and be a better person than I could ever be.

I love you.

With all my heart,  
Your mother",-0.4502533454592701,1.7538897728119167,1.0843387033909335,98.4100003248019,99.13035381750466,3.83845654150968,17.41737040405353,5.742656918730078,-0.4551620371573337,2036,60,447,18,86,648,233,537,0.048,0.706,0.246,0.9988,2,1,0,0,0,0,112.0,6,42,1,3,25,33,0,0,22,5,51,13,3,5,4,71,95,29,0,10,7,5,1,4,2,13,4,3,6,3,21,25,0,4,11,0,0,14,7,4,0,0,8,9,97,29,51,60,8,57,3,2,3,6,81,19,0,4,27,285,118,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585894452025475,0.08082684143844185,0.0,0.1828352283227823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060273769649651976,0.0,0.0684734782260761,0.0,0.06881537560998524,0.0563203003443603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477857916383224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524201171209921,0.0,0.1261868565185086,0.0767951933119543,0.0,0.0,0.05847956661722248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304928551176716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625360942882423,0.0617114321640249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380963039645157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658831901948115,0.0,0.11480127886320815,0.14052510039031346,0.20813195078837726,0.061433794424082123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679477841570694,0.0,0.0,0.3673497292009443,0.07274805802456878,0.0,0.0,0.1568189500412093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19530854070143908,0.0,0.15254521205287186,0.16101247772660485,0.0597038323129245,0.0,0.0,0.07958008231527637,0.0,0.1552037208336696,0.14313374605834284,0.07340997158121522,0.12935201365787796,0.0,0.06150671552943113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221157456137658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358368492664864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770056516483682,0.0,0.0,0.05846285449220275,0.0,0.10768588966594747,0.054309676735615584,0.0,0.0,0.07789608139695196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685751007556645,0.0,0.0,0.055705545903718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790809241383835,0.0,0.16080036389177707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231985188093837,0.0,0.08297144710733388,0.2502007269570248,0.0,0.11649352073632485,0.0,0.07412708236352533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244042734414577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903183047045458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732043848938796,0.046931952253752816,0.0,0.05814774600908078,0.042709306027026495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933740350786124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060434169703219125,0.12960405336292385,0.05813786938318051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789814534532626,0.1321830704433052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943025513308102,0.10664535977850252,0.2975323289768008,0.0,0.15609182229129534,0.0,0.0,0.04716688989148031
parenting,banbeta,2019/01/10,"Should I be worried? Hey y’all,

So recently my son has been talking to one of his older friends who is 20 (they’ve been friends for 9 years) and my son 17.
My son looks up to him as a role model. However lately my son has been asking him a lot of questions (in regards to dating and females). My sons dad isn’t his in life and really doesn’t have that male figure in his life.
Should I be worried that his friend may be giving him wrong information? He doesn’t want 2 talk to me about it, but will talk to his friend...",2.572272727272729,3.4286701818181835,3.932500000000001,91.35875,74.45454545454545,6.954545454545455,23.75,7.1686216300943375,0.6599999999999997,400,11,93,4,8,132,70,110,0.05,0.861,0.08900000000000001,0.4871,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,17,2,0,0,0,12,21,6,0,3,1,6,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,1,17,4,14,11,1,9,0,0,1,0,31,4,0,3,5,61,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780438166140102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.554712167591098,0.0,0.0,0.17218876702193595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247912752034106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535664423730568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073129969187682,0.0,0.0,0.1526009456261874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216310276011842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20107642205279574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498963232984785,0.0,0.17723048895891327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4328158746905268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587129790394534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645734799931288,0.0,0.0,0.19625052497017828,0.0,0.11558943693497252
parenting,Samanthamarcy,2019/01/10,"A joke from my psychiatrist on motherhood and real life cognitive behavior tools One day a mom was at the grocery store with her small child. As she’s going through the aisles, the child starts fussing. 

Another woman, an aisle away, hears the cries then hears the mother say gently, “it’s ok Suzie we’ll be done soon.” 

A few aisles later the cries return, followed by the calm voice: “you’re doing great, Suzie, hang in there.” 

The nearby woman hears this pattern repeat throughout her shopping, “there there Suzie, I love you, we’re almost done.”

At the check out finally, the two women are adjacent in line. The second woman hears the first resume her comforting speeches and can’t help herself and says to the mother, “Suzie is so lucky to have a mother like you.”

The mother looks at her confused, and says, “this is baby Jane, I am Suzie.”",6.219999999999999,7.032500840764332,5.79032484076433,81.51223885350319,66.07006369426752,8.318216560509553,27.16496815286624,8.238735603445708,1.7236705732484068,660,18,120,8,10,203,104,157,0.046,0.78,0.174,0.9675,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,2,0,1,5,9,0,1,19,1,12,2,0,0,0,10,21,7,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,1,9,0,6,3,6,0,0,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,4,3,10,12,8,15,16,1,21,0,0,1,1,29,9,0,3,10,75,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278460124373726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951942292429093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396923101894265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132597203281481,0.09195959966402346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918408367205261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620181199334776,0.0,0.12128809676051287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103792837118629,0.0,0.0,0.1572074243739847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6428430853449575,0.0,0.09557595043524088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071646027290997,0.06966291225733863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197407891614139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869422580918918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670012207215395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662356299754243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230012975331187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401830024190877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009268642276176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392909920551463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Proper_Parfait,2019/01/10,"Help finding a homeschool curriculum for 3 year old? I'm looking for a homeschool curriculum to use with my 3 year old, and I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed with all of the options out there. I was hoping to get some recommendations from the community. I'm particularly looking for a program/curriculum that is secular and focuses on early reading and math skills with some handwriting and science lessons. 

My daughter is actually in private preschool, so my work with her at home would be intended to supplement that (in light of the fact that her preschool is very progressive and doesn't introduce formal reading or math instruction for several years). Because she is in preschool for 10 hours a week, I'd only want to work with her formally for about 5 hours a week at home. 

Any recommendations? I don't necessarily need a whole preschool kit with materials (though I'm open to any recommendations), but I am looking for something where I can basically follow a curriculum without trying to piece together a lesson plan on my own. Price isn't really a concern within reason. Thanks in advance!",9.757244897959183,9.388964316326534,9.513183673469387,61.767530612244904,58.89795918367346,12.942040816326532,44.6,12.161744961471696,5.760334285714285,890,49,141,25,10,290,114,196,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.8706,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,8,5,3,0,1,12,0,12,0,0,3,2,32,27,9,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,13,0,0,5,2,1,2,4,1,0,0,1,5,12,2,34,24,6,24,0,1,3,0,6,12,0,5,10,90,15,7,0.0,0.0,0.1390041475032814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19373270511659954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683213505554999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720236302444046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019062783748295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442076353489073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547676503966104,0.0,0.28576455874549794,0.141478372300712,0.2805559843875879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35884957901122305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561992819296684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989406375880003,0.0,0.0,0.10833457519813064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491608124996205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849637648736855,0.0,0.09125284802951247,0.14645547253826582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092042394610725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965983862513157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114268523011952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994985365621118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670967440685993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230253069476096,0.0,0.11753066945194415,0.0840167697084483,0.0,0.2285189029717958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903289685890634,0.0,0.13731029207617862,0.0,0.2074008891040194,0.0,0.0,0.10118765846077657,0.0,0.0,0.2751865131333077
parenting,jennaslmn6,2019/01/10,"Daycare vs Nanny I am torn. My 7 month old has been in daycare for 4 months. It’s an OK daycare - I’m not completely comfortable with one of the teachers in his room and it’s clear there are some other issues with how the daycare is run and how the staff is treated. So far, we have had a pretty good experience there but it’s hard to shake some of the doubts I have. We live in a small town so not much to choose from if we wanted to switch daycares, but I have been speaking to a teacher at the daycare that I really like and she is willing to leave and be a full time nanny to my son. She’s young but she has experience and my son seems to really like her. I trust her with him. I think it would be great to have the one-on-one care at home. This would be a huge change for my family and I don’t know what to do. My concerns:

• My son would lose the social benefits of daycare 

• If the nanny is sick or out of town for more than a few days, we really don’t have a backup. My grandparents could take care of him for a day or two, but not much more than that. 

• Tax stuff is hard

• I worry he wouldn’t get the same “education” from a nanny than he would from daycare

Please share your experiences that you’ve had with a nanny. I really don’t know the first thing about this. 

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parenting,DefNotIWBM,2019/01/10,"How to handle my 2 year old being mean to my 13 year old Brief family structure history: my oldest daughter, “A” was mine from a relationship I had in college. I met my now husband when she was four, we got married, A is now 13. My husband and I are white, A is biracial (half black) (and beautiful, thank you for very much).

Two years ago my husband and I had a baby, B. I was very cautious about this because I don’t want my oldest to feel left out or excluded being the only person of color in her white family (she has no contact with her dad’s side).

B is now 2.5 and A is 13. B has started being a total dick to A, and I don’t know how to handle it. For instance, A spends most of her time in her room, like most teenagers, or because she’s working on homework, or just to get away from this bossy, willful toddler. Sometimes when she comes out of her room, B comes and pushes on A’s legs, trying to push her back into her room and telling her to go back to her room.

If A touches ANYTHING that belongs to B, B freaks out and yells and snatches it away. I’ve just resigned myself to telling A not to touch B’s stuff so B doesn’t yell at A. If A sits on the couch, B will yell at her for sitting there. She often refuses to give A affection. 

This has been going on for a long time, which has affected A’s feelings for B. So when A interacts with B, she’s not usually smiling and cheerful but rather Stone-faced. They don’t spend much time together.

This all makes my heart hurt. I need them to be close and take care of each other after I’m gone. I have tried everything with B. I’ve scolded her, corrected her, spoken to her sharply and told her that’s not nice, I’ve tried ignoring it, I’ve tried two-minute time outs. I’m really just out of ideas, but their dynamic right now isn’t acceptable and I feel like it’s driving my 13 year old away from us.

Thoughts?",3.5198445799724567,3.991715480818417,4.730754475703325,87.93055233130043,71.94117647058823,7.856816840448554,27.826185323627787,7.882392219407189,1.4958502065709218,1447,50,322,18,26,479,191,391,0.065,0.866,0.069,0.5811,0,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,2,1,3,1,22,12,0,0,20,0,27,3,3,5,3,64,52,27,0,5,14,5,5,2,0,2,0,3,6,1,13,27,0,2,8,0,2,9,9,4,0,3,11,12,47,8,51,35,7,64,0,2,4,1,41,26,1,8,29,211,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930125058679302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634695660172423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957504542622077,0.16136659637841758,0.0,0.12792649653194116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698127870491632,0.0,0.0,0.18077268249265008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430268775147578,0.0,0.19783391074746565,0.0,0.15916453071407685,0.07496071703066197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482064642404588,0.10065667715313867,0.1192662123283008,0.0,0.08392065570143062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434040559732258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232779326931018,0.11845115007015962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057665786906176665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400478108437816,0.0,0.0,0.10252522308610333,0.0,0.0,0.0928581426959712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004037892321477,0.0,0.0,0.11429755528538064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542685797761003,0.07780292036489454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330313441099822,0.0,0.0,0.07980261368390235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161924473003988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721968277935972,0.0,0.0,0.11265360346648952,0.0,0.08960809751013646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377665894224404,0.0,0.07426871009995206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011766910000254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889293738404844,0.0,0.1834237188892754,0.09660377610516924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330125907701827,0.24473787622319115,0.0,0.0,0.10026337830372736,0.0,0.2849574024570428,0.0,0.20499918208392315,0.0,0.12621568826868568,0.0,0.11556357271591235,0.17315348480631254,0.061889362687309275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638896908302792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702812462649063
parenting,halfcast0,2019/01/10,"Caught my son doing something very disturbing ... now what? Peanut butter, and the dog ...

So this just happened. He is 14. I understand masturbating but this is a whole new level. Not sure where he even got the idea from but he woke up in the middle of the night, cake downstairs and was letting the dog lick peanut butter off of his private. 

I am at a lost for what to do. Any suggestions?",1.5766666666666684,4.168126400000002,2.449333333333332,92.34466666666668,85.0,5.466666666666668,20.333333333333336,6.937597516519254,0.4471333333333338,300,9,61,4,9,94,58,75,0.103,0.897,0.0,-0.7935,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,7,0,7,0,0,0,1,9,13,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,3,4,1,9,7,1,11,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519456004217356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18958480124157007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295691893605817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25382529524280434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240290995482724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935141138990314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133340818277241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772214942542943,0.0,0.2693641689213436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22097460459085147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705283617561879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29881496192372176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368350485926156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32046583271444545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cjc160,2019/01/10,"Toddler keeps telling us that she peed in her pants on purpose. Our daughter is just over 2.5 yrs and potty training has been pretty slow and steady. Overall it has been going pretty good. About a month ago we let her know that my wife was expecting (daughter is only child).  Since then, it seems like she has been peeing and pooping in her pants on purpose. It’s usually when she has been playing. She sometimes claims she did it on purpose and seems happy about it, which is infuriating. She is pretty advanced for her age in every way possible which makes this issue a little more frustrating. 

Do you guys think this has anything to do with another one on the way? Does she want to be a baby?

Do you think her acting happy about it is her way of “brushing off” the accident?

Any experience with a scenario like this? 

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parenting,amommyhasnoname,2019/01/10,"Baby bawls her eyes out for no reason Last Evening, my almost 2 year old child (21months) was happily playing with me. She saw her daddy clean the carpet with a cleaning liquid (he had dropped food and was cleaning it) and she wanted to walk on the wet patch, touch it etc. Now to begin with, I tried to distract her while he was cleaning it because I knew she would want to play on it. But she ran really fast towards daddy and jumped on the wet carpet. 

When I tried to get her off the patch she threw a tantrum which I thought would get over soon. I tried to distract her, I tried to show her her room where we were playing but she kept crying, lying on the ground and kicked me when I tried to carry her. It went on and on and on and the only way she would be quiet is if I showed her YouTube. 

Please don't give me hate for this -- I try my best to not leave her to devices and play with her as much as possible. 

In future, should I let her cry even if it goes on for quite some time? Last evening it was around 10 minutes at a stretch. That's when I gave up. And why do you think her reaction was so extreme? Usually she gets distracted easily.

I should also add that she is healthy and I touched her hands when she touched the damp carpet patch. There was no burning or scratch or anything like that.
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parenting,Poisonous_Pineapple,2019/01/10,"Anyone experienced with creating laws? I'd like to introduce the ""Parental Sanity Act of 2019."" It's a short law. It states: Any child's toy that makes noise and/or uses batteries must:
a. Have an easily accessible on/off switch
b. If the toy does not have a on/off switch, the battery compartment must be easily opened without the use of micro screwdrivers, proprietary fasteners, or other devices designed to not allow anyone without a doctoral degree in electronics access. 


That's all. ",4.9809173126615,8.10914512790698,5.699457364341086,71.2198320413437,74.46511627906976,9.8687338501292,29.32299741602067,9.994966539143718,3.9681540051679587,395,17,59,13,9,128,65,86,0.02,0.853,0.127,0.7866,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,0,5,1,0,4,3,17,8,2,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,32,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18970949734749526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901253015516908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855381142583923,0.244128952970628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629088851974647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621496619788475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097637116893073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4818818614648576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5378351884310244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nomothro,2019/01/10,"My daughter (11) bought these shoes and I am not happy [https://www.amazon.com/Susanny-Womens-Office-Lolita-Platform/dp/B01KT1UQK8/ref=sr\_1\_5?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1547171757&sr=1-5&nodeID=679337011&psd=1&keywords=platform+boots+pink](https://www.amazon.com/Susanny-Womens-Office-Lolita-Platform/dp/B01KT1UQK8/ref=sr_1_5?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1547171757&sr=1-5&nodeID=679337011&psd=1&keywords=platform+boots+pink)  


I don't know how to explain this to her. I'm not making her return them, but I told her she can't wear them out of the house. I told her children don't wear four inch heels.

She doesn't seem to understand, and I don't know how to explain. How would you explain that heels are worn to make you look sexy and that an eleven year old isn't mature enough for that?

I'm not a prude about her clothing choices. The only other thing that has come up in the past is I had her pull her shirt down when she was tying it tight to show her belly.

There's also the fact that she can't walk in them. They make her look clumsy. But of course I shouldn't say that to her directly.

I am just looking for ways to explain to a child that her boots are too mature for her to wear at her age. Any ideas?",12.310468384074946,15.897450573770492,7.884906323185014,61.81340163934426,54.19125683060109,5.884309133489461,19.6288056206089,5.773587663045528,-0.3807686182669787,1057,12,160,3,14,285,101,183,0.068,0.906,0.027000000000000003,-0.7315,0,0,0,0,0,0,96.0,0,2,4,0,9,1,0,0,7,0,17,8,7,6,1,31,38,10,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,12,5,0,2,9,1,1,3,11,0,0,2,6,5,32,1,22,30,1,17,0,0,3,1,33,7,0,1,6,109,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05682557566223439,0.0,0.9239041936477004,0.0,0.04832231779506392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121073385958005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342257924197769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564325283092263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199214003917656,0.0,0.08021656505097789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810394992087924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790141048943568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229659928404334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456409841948082,0.0,0.0,0.054043304332808524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783352060158916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056508689501356686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468912496570198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720820871385919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579916789609794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397455927500357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640304780006813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047802523726882,0.0,0.0,0.04575943998903001
parenting,Wurzelburt0,2019/01/10,"My 5/son wants to marry me. My son started this last weekend when he got back from my dads house. 

I’m not sure, (because I’m not allowed there because my step moms a bitch) but I’m thinking maybe he saw their wedding photo or something and started asking questions about marriage.

But almost as soon as I got him back into the house he asked if I would marry him. I laughed and said no of course, and he’s just baffled as to why!

I simply stated, ‘Because you don’t marry family it’s called incest and it’s wrong.’ Lol

Still didn’t care. He actually got really upset and was like, ‘Well who am I supposed to marry then?!’ 

I told him he’d figure out when he’s older. He can marry his future gf or bf. As long as they’re nice! 

And we dropped the subject. 

Today he just asked me again, and it’s really kind of bugging/concerning me now. 

1. I’ve always wanted to be married and I’m currently single and convinced I will be forever. And this is just sort of rubbing it in! 

2. It’s an awkward thing to have to talk about and keep having to turn down my son! 

I know he don’t know what incest is or romance is and it’s just silly banter. 

But, when I turned him down again I asked him why he wanted to marry me so bad. 
And he said, ‘Because I never want to leave you mommy.’ 😭

Now, he is an only child. He’s not very co-dependent. As in he can be away from me. Do his own thing. Go to his dads, school etc. without a meltdown. He’s social. Love to party and has friends. Very intelligent for his age and very very curious about life the universe and EVERYTHING! I mean, he asked about how he got here at 4 and I showed him his birthing video. 

(From behind me so no graphics really.)

The, Never wanting to leave me, thing just worries me. 
Have I exposed him to too much? He talks about never wanting to get big and he wants to stay little forever. 

(Could be Peter Pan influence) 

I’m so scared I’ve confused him or overwhelmed him with the world talking so correctly with him. 

It is winter and we’re all bored and emotional. But, wow... When he says those deep statements it always just hits me so hard. Like, my baby is feeling things. Deep things. 

I just hope he’ll be alright in the long run feeling everything around him so deeply... ",0.5683406432748512,2.88671891885965,2.4015789473684244,92.88494152046783,86.78508771929825,4.8690058479532174,20.28654970760234,6.334428289652162,0.1911216374269009,1721,54,363,17,54,568,221,456,0.08,0.774,0.146,0.9862,3,0,1,0,0,0,70.0,1,2,1,0,36,24,1,5,10,2,27,4,0,3,6,78,70,46,0,11,20,5,4,2,3,3,1,3,0,1,18,26,0,1,9,3,0,3,12,8,1,0,10,8,51,16,47,49,5,49,0,1,1,3,70,15,1,10,30,224,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.07532469836792104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729298609900062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845378692346773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871399941030816,0.3608034538521603,0.0,0.07252099890775245,0.11870615842907607,0.06444905093219994,0.18821321519338072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881793900019587,0.0,0.07869867062889511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162861931916929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868265083105376,0.0,0.0,0.08608541786458629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874382981051206,0.0,0.0727663100012355,0.0,0.07805750146260036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05963553036551129,0.0,0.040327728821499285,0.0,0.043867920045479306,0.0,0.2469383100280438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914560331176131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666545143110925,0.0,0.17812999264173562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860855509558811,0.0,0.08037979200584326,0.08484140076139687,0.06291881021609905,0.0,0.1634626422717063,0.0,0.0,0.05452041673965893,0.07542066107718383,0.07736300821828196,0.0,0.13661852757243867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966550258113079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754607581360888,0.08408074539754712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904020666045895,0.0,0.0,0.05674232115730365,0.0,0.17859724996734735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058705221003735986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646862119640518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483465071329869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684760008349448,0.06138327674007056,0.07727900737397116,0.0781187345337989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868380573625608,0.0,0.059423365531722276,0.0,0.0,0.10926862765046427,0.0822725144908539,0.061642718736251025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727491095961056,0.0,0.0,0.18612322386848226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564025608677633,0.04945918013181979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316553362919817,0.07375677951120557,0.0,0.0,0.1679175266185864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547539015046594,0.3186938350303966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940159965827751,0.0,0.13930096613250698,0.0,0.0,0.07440681820810514,0.0,0.0,0.07838851969303465,0.0,0.0548323916157558,0.0843933472159475,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rodi0715,2019/01/10,"At what age should coed sleep overs stop for kids? I have 12 year old boy/girl twins, and my friend who I’ve been friends with for 6+ years has a 14 year old son. Occasionally my twins will sleep at her house, and her son will sleeps at my house. The 3 of them usually play fortnite together, but recently when they’ve been playing (online) I’ve noticed that my son will be playing with his other friends, but my daughter and the 14 year old  will be playing together. I’ll ask her “who are you playing with, and she will say “Chris” (not his real name). And when the 3 of them are all together, it’ll be my daughter and “Chris” hanging out more than my son and the boy. My daughter, and “Chris” will make brownies & cookies together, play monopoly, uno, walk to the corner store together etc. Sometimes my son goes sometimes he doesn’t. During the sleepovers my son and “Chris” sleep in the play room and my daughter sleeps in her room. The 3 of them are all really good friends so, I’m just looking for advice on the situation really. Possibly if someone has been in this situation before? What did you do? 

(I have a really great and open relationship with my kids, and “Chris” we talk about A LOT, but I know I can’t assume they tell me everything). ",4.906036585365853,5.555205731707318,5.3721036585365844,83.93181402439026,68.91869918699186,8.914227642276423,29.602642276422767,9.017664075816787,2.1930983739837404,974,35,202,17,16,312,123,246,0.006,0.836,0.157,0.9895,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,2,4,0,5,13,0,0,12,0,25,5,5,1,2,35,30,19,0,2,6,10,0,0,4,8,0,1,2,3,8,19,0,1,2,7,1,2,3,0,0,0,4,2,31,13,22,15,5,28,0,0,1,0,40,13,0,3,13,123,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032038759161412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443172413018884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873396969549103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898689492264982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778649771668273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949182230774912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32638560329833005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858323768685733,0.0,0.11643878955294865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24372662051280775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05804218475643489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868838482400025,0.0,0.0,0.08978846077667711,0.0,0.0,0.07049754858086398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024118745437774,0.332469472879006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906287495914784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021080256238499,0.202975323314142,0.0,0.10428017166616996,0.11338891943881155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398775733376725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237427045725172,0.5284467443902262,0.0,0.08948561688714747,0.0,0.2089080661131525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829726089198382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848877902398891,0.092310483838584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631788272661595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720454341051719
parenting,eatmmm,2019/01/10,"6 year old won’t sound out words I just sent my kindergarten to bed because she wouldn’t let me help her sound out words on her homework. She refuses to go slow and make the sounds to decode words and then just either makes up a word instead or just says “I can’t read it” and gives up. I spent 10 minutes trying to teach her the difference between p and d and b. 

She did not go to bed on a good note and now I feel like shit. ",3.134193548387099,3.280775053763442,3.9044623655913995,94.67669354838716,72.65591397849462,7.060215053763441,24.10215053763441,6.42735559955562,0.3652021505376335,332,8,82,2,6,106,63,93,0.041,0.868,0.091,0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,4,0,5,1,1,2,0,23,13,8,0,1,6,0,1,1,0,2,0,4,3,0,1,8,0,1,1,1,1,3,4,1,0,0,3,5,12,2,12,7,1,14,0,0,0,0,11,6,1,1,6,49,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700081733892552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862253386722988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852020465507764,0.1957139662510307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628032160795929,0.3113906106976201,0.2297809957904749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362669290924932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28013820624904995,0.0,0.1338408892403295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657350382915995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28747036325363656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27402977950178337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178605232581725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28121153091082696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859978988216148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641845224125538
parenting,yeetlestopthirty,2019/01/10,"New single mom ISO help and a hug... Single/ Separated Parents of babies: When did you start the Single Parent adventure, and what kinds of things helped you maintain a good routine when switching back and forth between parent houses?

I never imagined I'd be a single mom, but here we are. I was always the primary caregiver, alone with her 12+ hours every day while my SO worked, so it's not the ""needing a break"" from her, its more of dealing with the fact that the man I love is never going to walk in the door with dinner in hand and a smile on his face ready to take the baby so I can chill. He wont be there to help in the night if it gets hard. We wont ever snuggle her together in our bed again.

My parents (had to move back in with them) are helping some, but it's hard because the only person I want is Him. It's just me and my beautiful six month old angel.  Im struggling with loneliness, exhaustion, frustration, and a lot of anger towards her dad and myself for not being able to make it work. I dont let my feelings show around her because I know she can sense emotions, but I'm really really struggling. Everything is new and uncomfortable and I just need some advice.

It's a heartbreaking situation, and I'm trying to make the best of it. I feel guilty for bringing stress like this into my daughters life, but I know it's something that people do every day, and I know we can adjust. ",5.7381382978723385,5.435223549645394,6.47311170212766,80.04562500000002,67.04964539007092,9.177659574468086,30.036347517730498,8.660442795831766,2.1714390070921987,1099,35,219,15,16,363,164,282,0.141,0.718,0.141,0.0516,4,1,1,0,3,0,35.0,4,2,1,3,14,14,2,3,17,0,19,7,2,2,4,49,37,22,0,4,9,8,5,1,0,2,2,0,2,2,14,21,1,0,7,1,0,4,7,7,0,1,3,5,33,7,29,28,9,32,1,1,0,2,32,9,0,4,19,156,47,2,0.10148150776611256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916655488621152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051042368242764,0.0,0.0,0.08444074397549511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903400572408989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560660307850047,0.0,0.12372437043384275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649858148904966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089435430694374,0.1046229784688094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893557130705187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141530371993548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917958337004142,0.1710050943089805,0.0,0.09120503561478684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026241990093652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053019899313023484,0.0,0.057674279505745975,0.08511787395669072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181499591781636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27208366206899937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993884325657466,0.11709603479404815,0.0,0.0,0.10961744270156612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567737394325047,0.1673147480926463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377171727335903,0.07167939009993891,0.04957873866556727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627594888968898,0.0915910228615104,0.0,0.13547938890140482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23770783077222565,0.08100157130885235,0.10785878255641616,0.0,0.15049450428211325,0.1565375898514684,0.19602294514362484,0.0,0.0952335204926281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648777137348203,0.0,0.0,0.07718125958800666,0.0,0.0,0.4507328193900562,0.0,0.0,0.07035449977155624,0.08860973825714093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300233049149807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406946663760854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812542261624376,0.0,0.0,0.07182913351930842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162467242758576,0.212181011829502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630146431064666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741980447737389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889928235206902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059856422575656286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477594925853082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsMiaWallace024,2019/01/10,"How to teach kids to respect other adults when those adults might be in the wrong My 4 year old son is in a three day a week preschool program. He most likely won't start kindergarten next year for several reasons, the main one being his birthday is right before the cutoff date and probably needs more time to gain some emotional maturity. 

Today his teachers talked to me at pick up, saying he basically threw a fit because he didn't want to do a letter tracing worksheet and write his name at the top. He's been very hesitant to practice writing his name lately, even at home. He keeps saying 'But I don't know how to do that' when we talk about it, even when I assure him it's ok and that's how we learn new things. He gets embarrassed easily and feels bad about being wrong, and I think he's just afraid to try. 

Anyway, his teachers basically told me that they were trying to force him to do the worksheet, because 'He has to learn that this is just what is life is now.' I, of course, apologized for the tantrum, but told them I really don't care if he learns to write his name yet, especially because he's not starting kindergarten next year and won't face that pressure for a while. 

I guess my question is how do you balance teaching your child to be kind and respectful to other adults in their lives who you know aren't necessarily making the best decisions? I don't think his teachers meant any real harm, but I do think it's patently ridiculous to try to force a four year old to do a worksheet just because they have to apparently learn that school means doing uninteresting work. I told him it's okay to be frustrated, but not okay to scream hurtful things at anyone for any reason. But I'm having a hard time telling him that the methods his teachers were using are 100% okay as well. If he were older, then yes, he has to do his work. But he's four, for Christ's sake. Or am I just being a dickhead, overly permissive parent?",7.562733269204344,6.342936255874674,7.244947093582523,79.02330081077369,63.72584856396867,10.047492098392196,33.212725024048375,8.841846274778883,2.518872584856397,1538,50,308,19,19,486,193,383,0.102,0.778,0.121,0.5638,2,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,3,4,5,19,24,3,3,17,5,38,2,1,9,1,62,61,26,0,4,15,2,2,1,0,3,1,3,1,5,19,9,0,1,16,0,0,1,9,12,1,4,10,5,36,12,39,42,5,39,1,1,0,0,60,12,0,8,27,195,55,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822634202610584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106338127413958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485838385124045,0.24781542985881866,0.0,0.0864812537323238,0.0,0.10665639945678873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036204863254635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554416192405006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432219814112655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342538110370832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513881378063297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053098468366642025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195898606096008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104221183377413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194507327072347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087990413587864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903350944594222,0.0,0.10583397498110976,0.11170845882372077,0.0,0.11464519986638427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178561025344876,0.04965220833689872,0.0,0.0897428217706312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784007645357983,0.0,0.0,0.11070692375205664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078153756385776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753587594329361,0.0,0.0981567136745588,0.21617333821881293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329114664388454,0.0,0.06886839962252707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128501876761932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957636798732467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385097751542005,0.0,0.0,0.11567934205576096,0.0651079918333463,0.20898902151276186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679307964070157,0.0,0.16164351792039722,0.0,0.10285689959990202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481510850722484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387115114877078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337572854023194,0.08883075237564148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503942488429754,0.19536483618706152,0.0,0.0,0.11852474593455548,0.0,0.09633514920055022,0.2913408816823773,0.0,0.207004148170291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777732260421463,0.0,0.08385695386044363,0.05994512252672553,0.0,0.08152297265089767,0.0,0.09137927554414653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479784542137912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22223703682078205,0.0,0.2617904227885706
parenting,nmwhitney12,2019/01/10,"The curse of the blippi Look, I love blippi. As far as things for my kid to watch I’m okay with his small screen time being focused on blippi, or I was. 

If you don’t know who blippi is, and you’re brave, whisk right on over to YouTube and do a quick search. 

But blippi is my 3 year old sons first obsession and I’m at the point where I’m hearing 

Blippi!! In my sleep. 

And the excavator song.

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parenting,azknight,2019/01/10,"Toddler is easy to put to bed but still cries after we leave the room. I know bedtime problems aren't exactly rare among toddlers, but most of the problems I read about describe difficulties putting your child to bed, how they fight and resist, etc. This isn't the case with my almost 2 year old. She's perfectly happy during her bedtime routine - pajamas, brushing teeth, reading, etc - and is even smiling as we tuck her into bed and leave the room. She gives off signs of being tired, like rubbing her eyes, slumping over us when we hug her, etc. However, about 70% of the time, 2 minutes or so after we close the door she'll start to cry, and often will sit up. It's not a scared cry or a pained cry...just generally sad. Usually this will last for around a half-hour, after which she'll calm back down and go to sleep.

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We've tried to console her in various ways, however what we've found is that doing anything basically resets the clock, even if it's coming in for just a quick hug. So at this point we're letting her just cry it out, although it feels crappy to just listen. However we've found that going in the room and leaving just ends up her more upset than the first time. We've really tried to pinpoint any variable that leads to cry nights vs no cry nights, but it seems completely random, and it's just strange that she's so content up to and including us putting her in the crib and leaving the room.

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Just curious if anyone else has had something like this, and if there were any helpful solutions, if any. The only change I can think of this point is converted her crib to a toddler bed, but I still don't feel quite confident about letting her roam around the room at will when we're asleep.

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parenting,3InaRow,2019/01/10,"As parents, can we come together and agree on some rules to help each other out regarding our children's birthday parties.... My oldest son has a s 5th birthday coming up at the beginning of February. I have read horror story after annoyance story after disappointment stories about RSVPs, failing to respond, no shows and showing up without notice and with way too many people. For me, the most important thing I need to know is who's (actually) coming. 

This is what I propose:

A) Invitations sent out within 2-3 weeks max before the party. Not any earlier. I personally can't commit to something any earlier than 3 weeks. For one, I always love celebrating once I'm there and see how happy everyone is, but seeing it on my calendar for weeks on end, creeping closer and closer, has the opposite effect on me. (I know some kids schedules fill fast, but I think the average parent doesn't want to think about dragging their kids to a kid's birthday party on a weekend is something to *look forward to.*)

B) If you're invited to a party, make a decision within one week of receiving the invitation. If you don't think you can go, just let the person inviting know. ""We aren't going to be able to make it. I'm sorry. I hope Jimmy has a happy birthday."" Easy peasy. Done. If you say you'll come, then commit. Put it on your calendar and go! No need to stay the 4 hours as some parties go on and on for, but show up for at least an hour. Let the kids play a little and wish a happy birthday. Don't back out. If your kids is sincerely sick the day off the party, have someone drop off a card, or send a text with a picture of your sick kid blowing a kiss to the birthday kid. A very small gesture like this will go so far, and negate any feeling of someone simply blowing off the party because they're not important enough.

C) Finally, if you're throwing the party, then move it along. If you want to throw a 6 hour party, that's fine. However, do the planned activity, food and cake in the first 1.5 hours. (So it's easy to wrap up for some parents around the 2 hour mark). We all want to celebrate with your kids and we want you to celebrate with ours. But as our kids get older, they're going to more and more parties, and *we all* have other things we want to do with our weekends in addition to the party. Do the official party stuff up front so you give people a chance to celebrate properly with your kid, but also feel like they are able to get some things on their weekend checklist done too.

What do you all think? Anything to add? Anything you strongly disagree with? ",3.7910916476263035,5.317209049504953,4.9986138613861435,82.2880908860117,72.36633663366338,7.793348565625792,27.998222899213,8.384062270229773,2.0134315816197006,2010,76,385,33,39,665,235,505,0.07,0.713,0.217,0.9982,4,0,2,0,0,0,78.0,10,14,3,5,13,15,1,0,36,0,30,5,0,4,5,88,71,35,0,15,16,4,2,2,0,2,2,1,0,13,17,38,1,0,11,8,0,20,11,3,0,3,3,6,39,12,77,63,14,81,0,2,3,2,53,33,0,14,29,257,56,2,0.1518852400152275,0.0,0.07410904227279369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060731285782775826,0.06319034348278163,0.0,0.0,0.15493075736574502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249886110713702,0.06760503257720242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058395187127678286,0.0,0.04629391628272657,0.0,0.06462157618821836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616713708697285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04897670732870988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543133396457026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726262036291544,0.07846902720981111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256642786675815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679774099253607,0.05425342290749223,0.0,0.08319142817240101,0.0,0.06459675378317084,0.09183011755899734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935376907585585,0.07285108107781821,0.2589596462921505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425269934361574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05090273738937751,0.0,0.0,0.07542815708626248,0.3739409161581703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520823365527922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531294845541918,0.0,0.07420345625162744,0.0761144560897547,0.0,0.0,0.06377267416880289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854117955471521,0.0,0.10138457711838188,0.07699389702218334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071498658695504,0.0,0.11262098094040306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646117622296458,0.0,0.0808764118091145,0.10292136945522556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25297587694590085,0.0,0.0,0.10529810129134058,0.13262033309448426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634330860004453,0.0,0.0,0.07596317115911906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603926195436292,0.0,0.0,0.12103287164382065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869187097866874,0.1169286782051703,0.0,0.08501154558464795,0.0,0.08094472844100158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693613079606771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513587067767988,0.1946438578891273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266061486084977,0.22396462442964096,0.060279716924046975,0.24366635592753766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733026512617416,0.07320597566862493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HerrelZaneth,2019/01/10,"Consent, bodily integrity, kindness, sharing... What is something you find important to teach your child and how do you go about doing it? I read someone's advice of labeling body parts with left and right and have used this suggestion with my 2 month old during bath time.  I'd love to read more suggestions.",6.2603571428571465,7.915164321428572,5.884285714285718,77.8107142857143,66.5,9.885714285714286,31.857142857142854,10.125756701596842,3.4025857142857148,246,10,42,6,4,76,49,56,0.0,0.777,0.223,0.91,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,2,0,8,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,5,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,6,7,2,6,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,3,24,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408195791069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27374072007352823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252428769466566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005826593254625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566306830295525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267759185690324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22242288845053207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967070887153272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585986808921545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668719045594134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930159666010906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21045951750756053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20880890764601345,0.18972254721948092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370189965234828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284615132754567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsCrimson,2019/01/10,"How much do you censor your kids language? So, a bit of context, my 9 year old twin boys were watching Garfield in the car while we were out and I'm hearing Garfield tell Odie to shut up and that he's a dummy. So, if my 9 year olds told me to shut up, that'd be worthy of a smack upside the head.(not literally, but there'd definitely be a no tv and no video games punishment).

They say ""oh my god"" and although I don't have an issue with it, the school has a different view on the subject so they know they aren't allowed to say it. I overheard one of them saying ""shit"" while playing a game... He got told not to say it, but I didn't punish him for it. They know better than to name call each other or others and understand what bullying is, but I just mean like, expressively, what do you allow your kids to say? 

I personally swear like a sailor. My husband is constantly telling me to watch my language. But i usually follow up an f-bomb with ""only mommy says that"". They know they aren't allowed to say it. Funnily enough, my husband only swears when he plays video games and he dropped an f-bomb around our 3 year old which she then repeated. I found hilarious, him, not so much. No worries, she will learn the same as her brothers, those words are for grown ups to use and there are times and places when it's not appropriate either. ",3.437656826568265,4.602071612546126,4.368300738007382,87.87805996309963,72.7269372693727,7.486420664206643,26.096125461254612,7.908726449838941,1.3024788191881922,1041,34,225,14,20,337,155,271,0.065,0.79,0.145,0.9664,3,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,2,4,7,1,10,8,3,0,15,0,18,1,1,5,0,40,31,26,0,1,11,3,0,2,0,1,0,8,0,4,15,14,0,0,7,8,0,3,10,3,0,1,7,11,33,5,26,20,7,30,0,0,3,0,47,11,1,2,17,146,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838598188187778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774571059375846,0.12065890932001723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285299043846532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943255391242405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154695839374573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419641401010805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211791679063512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883927158397797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342511713031052,0.0,0.12456375618688957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535387321660301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822162424639421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798870474632696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203883744839464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248942076512826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479155625412807,0.0,0.07489102219510313,0.16811045375358388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650155610902347,0.1154695839374573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6152280180921944,0.0,0.11185185648391427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344690383916466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931982123654803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644449372070949,0.0,0.0,0.21121265637076334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505492566997493,0.0,0.09545355273841262,0.12172185690314165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223813989073612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21351322744885406
parenting,roraverse,2019/01/10,"I’ll buy you some skittles if you buy me some condoms. The title pretty much sums it up. My son who is 13, almost 14 was asked by a girl from to school to buy condoms for her. Because she was too embarrassed. So he bought her the condoms and she bought him some skittles for his troubles. He told me several hours after he came home from school. I know her mom and feel like if it was my kid needing condoms I would want to know. I don’t want to break my sons confidence by telling the other mother. But I have concerns about the possible outcomes for this girl. I know her Mom decently well and don’t think that it will end badly in terms of her mothers reaction, but I really don’t know. I also want my son to keep talking to me and being honest with me. Advice ? Suggestions? Do I mind my own business and leave it alone ? ",2.2250000000000014,4.096903404761907,3.4577619047619064,90.22057142857143,77.45238095238095,6.3847619047619055,24.29523809523809,7.3011,0.9898423809523812,644,22,135,8,15,209,99,168,0.057,0.846,0.097,0.6898,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,0,5,6,0,1,5,0,12,4,0,0,0,28,28,11,0,7,4,7,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,8,7,0,1,6,0,5,1,3,3,1,0,7,1,28,3,19,18,6,8,0,0,0,4,30,2,0,6,5,90,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394363448321827,0.0,0.0,0.1577508581281577,0.16316114071805635,0.0,0.125982528596929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727611736433446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153707216173055,0.09603328098162102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018071237191247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953129567657999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965559658474848,0.11254468458599493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802276511477592,0.0,0.15514251528268985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002639809256834,0.0,0.0,0.3463135389222163,0.0,0.0,0.1668092629855786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696477135894046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906777262800653,0.3690115831510682,0.0,0.0,0.11580804813625782,0.11681191801773527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775996447858748,0.0,0.16027207830983214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092243372324193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188723331974326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779723172603292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662252107077845,0.13769455126436242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094354613387853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053364927264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787587584049804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164495970613936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190998390883124,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,threenagerprobs425,2019/01/10,"Having ""The Talk"" with my 4 year old Warning: Possibly misleading title. 

Two days ago, when picking my daughter up from her friends house, her friend's mom mentions she caught the girls playing inappropriately with their Barbies. I asked my daughter about it on the way home, and she responds, ashamed, they we're making them ""sex"". I asked where she learned that word, and what did she think sex was. She responded she only knew the word from her friend, and she didn't know what it meant. 

She insists it was her friend who was instigating the entire incident and she only knows the word.

I don't want to make sex a shameful thing, but I also believe four is a little young to be discussing the nitty gritty details. 

We had an open conversation where I explained that sex is an adult thing, only between two consenting adults, not for children and definitely not between children and adults without getting to detailed. 

To cover my bases, about half an hour later, we discussed keeping our privates to ourself, and that nobody other than mommy, when we need to wash in the bath or check things out if it's hurting (she's very prone to UTIs, thanks to Kidney Reflux) and sometimes doesn't wipe very well, or the doctor should ever be looking at or touching her private areas. 

Is there anything else I'm missing? 

Any advice is appreciated.

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parenting,Infiltrator41,2019/01/10,A Short Moment of Luxury. My wife is watching the kids and I have the night off from child duties to work on some projects. It's break time and I'm sitting in the bathroom enjoying a nice peaceful shit whilst browsing reddit. It brings back memories of simpler times. I hope you too will get a short moment of luxury soon.  Happy shitting r/parenting.,2.441082089552239,5.23889808955224,3.350876865671644,85.95527052238809,83.02985074626865,6.335074626865673,24.792910447761198,7.6454224807358475,1.6584343283582084,280,11,50,5,8,89,54,67,0.086,0.6990000000000001,0.215,0.8625,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,3,6,2,0,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,5,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,8,6,1,16,0,0,1,0,4,5,2,2,8,29,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22974086238753436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560985094655797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180533839912363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29675270702380785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803817206874144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317561999628487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6133800380259898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34843822702038296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21751301728982567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Say_Meow,2019/01/10,"Kindergarten info sessions Kindergarten information sessions are starting up in my area next week.  Our first child will be registering.  (She'll be 4 this year; we have two years of kindergarten in my area.)

Any tips on what questions should we make sure are answered or what we should look for?",6.536730769230768,8.721803057692313,4.6838461538461535,84.63615384615386,66.5,6.7384615384615385,32.230769230769226,7.1686216300943375,1.9587923076923075,237,10,41,2,4,67,40,52,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,1,12,12,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,1,6,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,2,6,27,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221765002460344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277902482247328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743571992882029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180839128338235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34746369634007485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365994084241753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312496184161855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079237690809453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191517838988828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620700003738628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42078578569423
parenting,ARandomAmalgamation,2019/01/10,"Looking for Suggestions/Advice Regarding Frustrations/Concerns About My 7-Year-Old Son Hey there all,

As the proud parent of a seven-year-old boy, I've never been hesitant to sacrifice for my kiddo. I want the absolute best life for him as I had a pretty harsh childhood and want to keep things as smooth as possible realizing that life will eventually hit him like a ton of bricks.

I've got a few worries, one that concerns me more than the others.

- **Picky Eating:** I realize that this is far from uncommon. However, he's started not eating plenty of things he previously did. I can think of maybe five or six things that aren't candy that I know he'll eat and, honestly, it's frustrating to me (and probably to him). I want him to get fruits and veggies in, but he already has it built up in his mind that he'll hate them so, naturally, he hates them right out of the gate. Even getting him back into eating noodles, chicken, just basic stuff is a no-go. I realize this may be a phase, but you can understand the concern.

- **Sensitivity:** I have absolutely no problem with my son being a sensitive person. His mother is much the same way and I think he's just learning how to handle strong emotions. However, he will go from on top of the world while playing a game to literal tears of frustration in a snap when dealt a bad hand even if he's clearly winning. This also happens when he realizes he's not going to get his way (duh) or didn't follow directions properly to get extra privileges. Frustration goes through the roof very easily as well. I wish I could help him understand that these aren't life or death moments, but I also understand that his world is small and simple. 

- **Attention Span:** Alright, here's the biggie for me. I am not anxious to diagnose him with ADD or ADHD and shove pills at him. That said, I do want him to at least be evaluated by a specialist. I understand that catching the signs of a psychological issue is hard, especially at his age. I was (properly) diagnosed with Bi-Polar Disorder when I was in my mid-teens (am in my mid-30s now). Can you imagine how difficult it is to figure out what's a potential illness and what's just being an angsty teenager? 

Any suggestions or advice would be awesome if you've dealt with any or all of these scenarios. I'm very curious to hear how you all have approached these situations, what worked and what didn't.

Thanks in advance.",3.1901298701298693,5.5625652207792236,4.646991341991342,80.44762987012989,76.44588744588745,8.442424242424243,27.599567099567103,9.157702336890667,2.652180086580086,1900,79,353,49,44,632,244,462,0.108,0.743,0.149,0.9356,3,0,0,0,0,0,78.0,0,3,2,7,20,19,5,0,24,2,34,13,1,3,5,70,67,35,1,10,17,4,3,1,0,6,7,2,1,2,28,17,5,1,15,2,0,6,9,8,1,3,9,7,44,11,55,45,11,40,1,0,1,0,42,21,0,9,12,244,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084928072298245,0.1764310456748341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099620523980397,0.14438550403030087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277996534911552,0.0,0.0,0.10198486654164376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694157748983871,0.07537571548315661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473786861185064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207710909984237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325411217664048,0.0,0.0,0.10346278063793067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694947686657159,0.0,0.10154703742179093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192513527125432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886594989228938,0.0,0.15391580538545455,0.0,0.07220103139356655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982973743711692,0.0,0.08086851934594698,0.17825541754233176,0.0,0.0,0.10174629872502174,0.0,0.060509318218417825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422347240215996,0.0,0.08024042020472621,0.0,0.0,0.0496126877935798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129135467866776,0.04410372386154967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758081241368532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069320436558301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115184772705014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636239003590902,0.0,0.06962551713277526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945650452981927,0.0,0.06117256374842036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023951968509263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788245028559244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177131112383472,0.0,0.0918419604149502,0.09733153946897284,0.0863808241126753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709421485534035,0.08587203972112875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147269561565757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389699204167347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334308669448918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311293820345465,0.0,0.0,0.17992376487392508,0.11568893678723367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37591714300711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897238454480874,0.2129857437821744,0.14331192232638046,0.0,0.0,0.0811679172036444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381160372961017,0.0,0.0,0.06572115421152341,0.09167847582028484,0.0,0.06412865185614848,0.0,0.0,0.11626806644655495
parenting,MomEverChanging,2019/01/10,"Truth Is....It's Hard Most Days The truth is, parenting is hard.  Some days we feel that we have this whole parenting thing down and then someone throws a fit, throws a tantrum or quite frankly, just doesn't listen.

Some days I wish it was like how they display it on television where you have this perfectly clean house and your children are willing to help you at any beck and call but honestly, it's not at all like that.  Some days I will have to say my childs name 10 times with my voice raising each time till they will even register that they need to stop and listen.

But, even though some days I feel a little frazzled or stressed, I have that complete breakthrough of happiness when they hug me, wants me to join in with their game or with my older, feels proud to introduce me to his friends (yes, I'm aware as he gets older that will end as well).  I will always cherish these moments with them because the wonderful moments with them outweighs the stress. As I look back on the past, I never even think about those moments because I remember the moments where they wanted me to sing, play, cuddle and just be with them.

For that, I will never forget how blessed I am (even when they aren't listening at the store).

http://www.everchanginggrowth.com

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parenting,halfinifinities,2019/01/10,"""We ought to stop thinking of children as construction projects, and instead think of ourselves as gardeners, providing a secure and stable environment in which our children will prove remarkably capable of raising themselves"" Brilliant line from an article I just read. Thought I'd share.

[https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-diabolical-genius-of-the-baby-advice-industry](https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-diabolical-genius-of-the-baby-advice-industry)",27.39035460992908,33.47786023404256,16.63063829787234,3.7333333333333485,21.127659574468087,13.07517730496454,53.9645390070922,12.45797560212912,7.9876581560283695,409,18,29,8,3,104,41,47,0.041,0.708,0.251,0.8832,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,3,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,8,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,20,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018910839396244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194898994442617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6430090748419015,0.0,0.3983376630411866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hannibal1234567890,2019/01/10,"Giving up on an adult child is it ever right to give up on your child? We’ve  supported oir daughter for 45 years and despite all that We’ve suffered in doing so, we still love her. She suffers from a sever and enduring mental illness. During episodes of illness she become very nasty to wards those closest to her. Mostly the aggression is verbal, but it can also be physical. She is self destructive and cares for no one, not even herself when at her worst. She has almost bankrupted us financially and emotionally. We have lived through five serious suicide attempts and countless self harming incidents. She trades houses and walks out of jobs.Yet when well, she is loving, kind, intelligent and good company. As she has aged, episodes of illness have become more severe and more frequent. She is entirely neglectful of her three children and we have brought them up as their father is entirely absent. Now, in our early 70s, we have begun to feel we want to live our final decade in peace, helping out grandchildren, but cutting ourselves off entirely from our daughter. The kids don’t want o know her and haven’t seen her for years. Can we do this?",5.744887440758294,7.648608995260666,5.547437796208531,78.77859745260666,68.05213270142181,8.308175355450237,32.14484597156398,8.841846274778883,2.8538836492891,922,40,155,16,16,286,134,211,0.195,0.652,0.153,-0.9082,1,0,0,1,0,1,26.0,10,1,2,1,9,16,3,0,4,0,19,5,0,0,2,30,31,18,1,2,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,5,18,0,1,2,0,1,2,4,9,1,3,2,2,28,7,29,28,5,28,0,3,1,2,43,14,0,2,12,116,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726492135336774,0.0,0.0,0.11760828046116074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248447278669861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499431465351121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542896791904615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713541971807847,0.13302922463471473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436076928899284,0.0,0.0,0.16110313968091744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821573844474333,0.0,0.1233516197692407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857494926986378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969391843304882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314615653455285,0.08082338929585108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597231793134612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654648313240861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820750092280574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965543400177672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255931903072079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068429195036526,0.3322844593736104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744675144358475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086586013180687,0.1668882621498255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769017688908205,0.0,0.0,0.12134449438107665,0.17348616301333208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222960622045754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894108062877788
parenting,TheAngryHippii,2019/01/10,"[A Different Perspective on Raising Children & Education] Leading Humanity into a direction of prosperity begins in the Household: A break down of Jacque Fresco's demonstration | Societal Engineering Series - Episode #5: Raising Children: Educate Creatively! Link to Presentation: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VnE6bvpEU8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VnE6bvpEU8)

  
Children are born scientists... it is we adults who snuff out their creative nature. Every interaction with your child, no matter how insignificant it may be, is a moment that you will never have back. So, not only should you appreciate and cherish every fleeting moment you have (which requires a change of perspective & mind), but you should also use every interaction as an opportunity to be the parent you wish you had when you were a child -- or for those who had great parents, be the parent that you had.

  
This is the fifth episode of a seven-part series called Societal Engineering. Based on the works of the late Jacque Fresco — who provides a solution to the world’s problems. This series will be a psychological and sociological breakdown of our society — providing alternative solutions to the world’s problems. Such as new social paradigms which render war & divisions obsolete, free-clean electricity, a resource based economy, a revamped education system and better ways to raise children.

([00:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VnE6bvpEU8&t=0s)) Indoctrination  
([2:58](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VnE6bvpEU8&t=178s)) Part 1: Raising Children  
([5:58](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VnE6bvpEU8&t=358s)) Part 2: Creativity & Education  
([9:10](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0VnE6bvpEU8&t=550s)) Part 3: New Value System

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Societal influence on Children:

News release: The food and beverage industry is marketing our children and youth to death

[https://www.heartandstroke.ca/what-we-do/media-centre/news-releases/the-food-and-beverage-industry-is-marketing--our-children-and-youth-to-death](https://www.heartandstroke.ca/what-we-do/media-centre/news-releases/the-food-and-beverage-industry-is-marketing--our-children-and-youth-to-death)

What if we didn’t… advertise to our children

[https://mic.com/articles/188512/what-if-we-didnt-advertise-food-to-children#.Hcm7uqhan](https://mic.com/articles/188512/what-if-we-didnt-advertise-food-to-children#.Hcm7uqhan)

Children as Consumers : Advertising and Marketing

[https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/afad/423524b4d080b2ae1bfbf4073fae5a37924b.pdf](https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/afad/423524b4d080b2ae1bfbf4073fae5a37924b.pdf)",23.713215240641713,30.444580522058832,13.178877005347596,22.59767379679144,30.544117647058826,13.327807486631016,43.981283422459896,12.324508414480073,7.400398529411764,2250,86,162,57,22,552,167,272,0.081,0.7859999999999999,0.133,0.9043,5,0,0,0,0,0,284.0,5,9,1,5,6,7,1,0,21,0,20,1,0,4,1,31,23,16,2,6,4,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,16,13,11,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,15,4,25,10,3,26,0,0,0,0,41,9,0,3,12,115,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614164250406835,0.0,0.6656966455997592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0590539717171754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792279796858045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842073911109802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124354572737619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023899129340177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941203339129019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643304895364866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467157186116922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663302970704173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754546636583855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923240539447117,0.14834661201034782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840937836222654,0.0,0.0,0.2558298212081581,0.3326649162399003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697324207713355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828728180644155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632999380382469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609597618133969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831548044427956,0.0,0.0,0.055910852939532685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WolverFink,2019/01/10,"Dishonest 17 year old, not sure what to do So I have a pretty good marriage. We've been together for seven years, and have been married for almost four of those seven years. My son from a previous marriage doesn't live with us, he only visits on holidays, so it's pretty much me, my wife, and my 17 year old Step Daughter (SD). Her dad isn't involved, so I have been the only consistent male authority figure, apart from her uncle.

For the most part, my relationship with wife and SD has been positive. However, in the last couple years, SD has become more dishonest with us. Her mom stresses out every time she is disrespectful or caught in a lie (to clarify, she isn't overtly disrespectful, she's more prone to passive aggressive behavior like just not doing the things she's asked to do, or she is disrespectful by lying to our faces even though we almost always find out about it).

She tells us very little about her friends or life outside of the house. She's ditched a couple classes recently, won't give us a straight answer as to why. I suspect it has to do with her sleazy weasel-looking boyfriend (the ditching, that is; the dishonesty started before he was in the picture).

The thing is, my wife has medical issues (I won't go into detail because that is a whole separate discussion) that are already stressful, and when SD lies to us or is disrespectful, my wife stresses out about it. Big time. And that stress makes her issues worse. So essentially, when SD lies and we catch her in her bullshit, it causes my wife to stress and her stomach and other symptoms to become worse.

We've had several heart to hearts with her, and while I believe that SD is at her core a good person, it disgusts me that she still feels the need to lie to us. She knows her actions stress out her mom and make her condition worse, but apparently being secretive and dishonest and hanging out covertly with her shady ass boyfriend are more important than honesty, integrity, or her mother's health. 

Some examples of her dishonesty:

\- lying about having people in my house while we're gone.

\- when we took her phone away, one of her friends gave her a burner phone. we caught her with it.

\- when we took away the burner phone, she got her hands on another one. we ended up catching her and taking that away too.

\- lying about where she is or who she's with after school.

\- ditching 7th period and lying about that.

And the biggest one of all:

\- earlier this year, she stole my car. This was shortly after we got a new car. The old car stayed in the driveway, because I wanted to fix the CV boots and power steering leak. One day, though, the old car goes missing. SD stole it, thinking she would just return it before we got home. But her mom came home early that day because she wasn't feeling well, noticed the car was missing, called me, so I go home and call the cops. We file a police report and cancel the insurance. SD sees our new car in the drive way, so she hides the old car somewhere in the neighborhood, and comes home like nothing happened. She played it off; we legitimately believed someone had just stolen my car from my drive way, so the next day i drop a couple hundred dollars on security cameras.

Well, fast forward to a few weeks later. We think she's at her friend's house, spending the night. Cops pound on our door a little before midnight, tell me that they've found my stolen car (yay) and our daughter (um, what?).

Yeah. She lied about stealing the car, let us believe that it was someone else, let us blow hundreds of dollars on security cameras, let's her mom stress out (wife felt unsafe at home after that) only to get busted by the cops a couple weeks later (she was in the car with a couple of her friends). She had been hiding it on streets in the neighborhood we normally don't drive down, and occasionally using it for joy rides with her friends.

I let her know how lucky she was that a) she didn't get into an accident, since we cancelled that car's insurance after it was stolen and it had a power steering leak b) she's reeeeally lucky nobody got hurt, at all, because that is a hell of a thing to live with on your conscience and c) she is lucky the cops didn't shoot her (black teen in a stolen car? they crept up on her and her friends with guns drawn. she is damn lucky she didn't get shot).

Now, months have passed and we lifted the grounding and allowed her to have a life again, trusting that she had learned something, and also realizing that we can't just keep her grounded forever or the punishment will lose it's meaning She did her time, so ungrounded. Fine.

Yesterday, she's home 2 hours later than she should be with no explanation, and we get a phone call notifying us that she ditched 7th period at school. When her mom confronts her, she tries to deflect with ""I had a bad day and I don't want to talk about it."" My attitude is I don't care if you had a bad day, that is a deflection, and it's disingenuous. Wife is at her wit's end, tells her to do her chores before she does anything else. So, instead of doing her chores right away like her mother asked, she sulks in her room for about a half hour then goes and takes a big long hot shower, basically ignoring what her mom asked.

I feel like a) if I confront SD on this, it'll be fruitless and just fall on deaf ears but b) if I DON'T confront SD on this, then I am not doing everything I should as a parent, and I am also letting her walk all over us if I don't. I feel like no matter what action I take, nothing will change or improve.

So I feel like I have to say something, but I have no idea, at this point, how to get through to our little liar. She will either a) sit there with her arms folded and just nod and ""agree"" to get me to shut up and get it over with quicker or b) lie to my face that she understands and will do better.

We're tired of the lies and the secrets. We have always been candid, open and honest with her. I personally am tired of my wife being stressed out all the time, in large part because of her.

I don't ask much. I told her that once she's 18, we'll only have three rules: 1) contribute to the house 2) don't let people in without our permission and 3) above all else, DON'T LIE TO US!

Pretty simple! I'm really not asking for anything unreasonable. I want to be a good parent, but also want to keep a sane household. Any advice on how to get through to her is greatly appreciated.

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TL;DR:   My stepdaughter is 17, and constantly lies to us. The stress she causes is aggravating my wife's medical conditions, making my wife more miserable (which therefore inhibits my ability to be happy in our house). We're at our wit's end, I feel like no matter what action I take, nothing will improve. How do we get through to her that she needs to stop with the bullshit?

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parenting,taffna,2019/01/10,"Sos mothers son lying Short story - do not care to add more detail 
My SO’s child (under age of 5) has been sick, slight fever & ear infection. He had to stay home from school, got picked up from our house in the morning. mother said she was staying home with him and instead had him stay with her boyfriend of only a few months and go to work instead while lying to his father (my SO) about her day with him. 
Should I tell my SO? Was approached from an outside source about the situation and not sure what to do 
Edit : title does not make sense I apologize  ",3.965608108108107,5.109438747747749,4.17260135135135,89.85998310810812,71.43243243243244,6.631081081081081,23.78490990990991,6.6274283507984215,0.572377477477477,435,11,91,3,8,135,81,111,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.9323,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,4,0,9,4,1,2,1,14,14,7,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,3,2,2,1,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,7,2,13,2,18,6,2,13,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,4,59,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20861804028788447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19630833202934656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417298507129085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684938839908572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942545973022977,0.0,0.15399258770310287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3862685459615986,0.0,0.0,0.22216640675414315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852258009594936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368435037769465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643606968916562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315053611794446,0.0,0.0,0.1948617219836853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21642409640780785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6156691070825978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814675679691608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682892780198124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017210569610997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Infidel8,2019/01/10,"Baby always cries violently when not being held My 7 month old is generally a very chill kid. But for the last few weeks, he has begun melting down every time I put him down. 

And I'm not talking about a whimper, I'm talking about prolonged breathless crying with flailing arms and legs. I couldn't imagine him crying any harder if he was being attacked by a pack of jackals.

He'll actually be happy and smiling one moment. Then when I put him on the playmat or in his crib so I can shave or change clothes, he'll immediately explode into tears. He won't stop until I pick him up again.

So, naturally, my concern is finding the balance between ""abandoning"" him and depriving him of the opportunity to learn how to soothe himself.

I know I'm not the only one who has dealt with this. Just wondering whether anyone has tips on how to approach this.",5.324057649667402,6.30773131707317,6.34161862527716,76.15105321507764,68.14634146341463,8.158758314855879,33.20177383592018,8.296473431620573,2.639629268292683,672,30,121,9,11,224,111,164,0.122,0.797,0.08199999999999999,-0.7725,0,0,0,1,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,10,6,2,0,8,0,12,2,2,3,0,29,20,17,0,2,9,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,3,5,0,0,3,5,4,0,2,2,0,16,2,20,11,1,23,0,2,0,0,17,7,0,4,13,83,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.16777117272790898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430529623114236,0.0,0.0,0.11691292568228873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021193199291218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558621194789616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187078920004485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.566545072799197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485178694270612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713368775533584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301427580718416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944838918046033,0.14013946030078234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722658259588605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804033269690161,0.0,0.2329977331066467,0.13075450664190552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34565839797555103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373457649414398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763689486263985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024916097643492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185374033521853,0.0,0.0,0.13790554106009095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644218728809728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greenpotatoes9,2019/01/10,"How do you decide what activities to do with a young kid? Kiddo just turned 4. He has wide and varied interests in lots of things. He also has plenty of ""free play"" time, and time with friends.

We let him try an activity, he finishes the session, then he can choose whether or not to go back. We never do more than 2 activities at a time (and one of them is a swim class, that he loves and is non-negotiable for us).

So far he has tried gymnastics, rock climbing, baby crossfit, and he just started ice skating.

There are SO many other activities out there - team sports (soccer, t-ball, etc.), individual activities (e.g. martial arts, skiing). He HATES all things art related, but loves music and performing, so there are local musical theatre companies...

Basically, when there are a million options, how to you narrow it down? We've been suggesting things to him (basically a short list of 3 activities) and letting him choose, which has worked so far, given his age. He chose baby crossfit over skating last session, then said he'd actually like to try skating this session, so we switched him over.

So, more experience parents...in a world of opportunities, how do you choose which ones to offer/make known?",6.0553996983408735,7.306753212669688,6.654642533936652,73.5937888386124,66.64705882352942,9.6942383107089,32.83288084464555,9.888512548439397,3.2888205731523383,944,40,168,21,15,309,138,221,0.01,0.8909999999999999,0.099,0.9563,1,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,4,3,1,5,18,9,1,0,8,0,18,2,0,3,2,31,26,23,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,10,13,0,0,5,9,1,3,2,1,0,3,3,1,14,9,21,20,5,29,0,0,0,2,30,13,0,3,14,110,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.16601686993266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604841816102745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308151595102735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189733672094068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641430377642089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314376864769852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668561486743688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796262026538544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386740890875224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347927442749413,0.0,0.08311418665845262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463367792639828,0.30708781930497603,0.0,0.0,0.17247943564685575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312104221704929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305613874113193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618272588620632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204149232417833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33906926827691924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29760271055042514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34650989324303183,0.18504649059387426,0.0,0.0,0.20463870174032345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385258659094042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SailorTits,2019/01/10,"Need more help with potty training woes [Hey all, I got some pretty great advice from everyone here about a week ago](https://reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/aaznzc/potty_training_the_nonverbal_child/) about my non-verbal son and potty training. I don’t think I thanked everyone individually but I wanted you all to know I followed every single bit of advice.  

So two days ago we finally had success! 3 pees on the potty in one day. I was over the freaking moon. He got so much praise and rewarded generously, he was finally  understanding and was clearly excited to be a big boy.  I bought us all a pizza to celebrate and life was good. I ditched the pull ups and he got to pick out his very own underwear. 

However. That “it finally clicked!” was entirely temporary. Yesterday he only peed on the potty once right before bed.  I was totally prepared for that as it’s a brand new concept for him but today is the same story. A ton of pee (and poop) in his underwear and none on the potty. I haven’t changed anything, i still put him on the potty every 45 minutes and plan his food/drinks accordingly.  He seems to wait until he gets up to go, it doesn’t matter how long I have him sit. 

I feel like I really set myself up for disappointment here. Is this normal? One good day and then totally losing it? ",3.5164071038251383,6.08555648770492,4.8176229508196755,78.63058743169401,76.3360655737705,8.165027322404372,26.150273224043712,8.959647251330699,2.4146207650273235,1029,39,184,25,24,340,154,244,0.053,0.738,0.208,0.9909,3,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,2,1,0,5,8,13,0,0,12,0,14,5,3,2,6,34,30,17,0,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,12,1,1,5,0,1,4,4,4,0,3,11,2,25,9,28,18,14,34,1,3,1,0,20,13,0,2,16,120,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382290568349142,0.21610538894305847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030932113021804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372379342792204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330779316676021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894890446313373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23583686007348184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941083962714988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20540383992334493,0.2329520763136727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163384965448405,0.08708191849149582,0.0,0.4005905311994451,0.0,0.0,0.1473960974954957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368518408911646,0.0,0.06927582200497268,0.20447973468235311,0.2924720569263876,0.13438983162191293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817037486444684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699038581844924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860981483001214,0.05955181242766476,0.0,0.0,0.1078733706644594,0.0,0.13636949167411222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896069596317104,0.09038370813401833,0.0,0.11772709406198445,0.0,0.0,0.1194313648042802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981435499571695,0.16519861467939514,0.09270675329035796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401118818876875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253829197497702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808915347517342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409779085175866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096876519305922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734562310335002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222467567005837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810548929084501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155423480151416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907384809135048,0.1268971485207171,0.14662485517135496,0.0,0.0,0.10057626345979348,0.07189691681874373,0.0,0.09777693557778902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YurtleMcGurtle,2019/01/10,"Ideas for Relationship Building Resources My husband and I are expecting our second child in about a month and we're looking for ways to be more intentional about connecting on an emotional level. Since our first son was born we've felt more disconnected and are worried that with baby #2 things will get worse. We have a strong, loving relationship but sometimes feel more like roommates taking care of a kid together.  


We're not normally the type of people who like sappy activities, but now we're thinking some sort of guide or ideas for how to be more intentional, even in our conversations, might be helpful. Anyone have any awesome resources for this? Please no super conservative Christian stuff--we are Christian, but we have an egalitarian marriage and don't believe in gender roles.  The materials do not need to be faith based. Looking for things like a list of questions to ask each other, at-home date ideas... or other things I'm not aware of! What has worked for you?",7.6374884437596275,8.603841254237294,7.152121212121212,72.44510015408322,63.01129943502825,9.826194144838214,34.17000513610683,9.800150414767053,3.3429706214689263,790,32,133,15,11,247,115,177,0.045,0.737,0.218,0.9897,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,1,0,4,5,8,0,0,8,0,16,1,0,3,0,33,28,10,0,3,8,2,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,8,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,4,8,8,22,20,6,11,3,0,2,1,20,5,0,6,8,87,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795402251734224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071805341084523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466054489088933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228687477514786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686120318318832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620287277635261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951388905805073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283235212655532,0.10290418312313199,0.1383036473889888,0.0,0.0,0.12252270592765335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525640177962784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096548831927466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4878202605631208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21111606350183754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419192961191787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000422304045747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280661526906894,0.0,0.0,0.11497356415580386,0.0,0.0,0.10680588822901314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113133067532774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986111951201744,0.0,0.0,0.15811570538908232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613608672804298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092960553153333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915366720872525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246198193823745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489450884433834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083022361214761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870868462253139,0.0922967903341708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433444558031874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048648515447339,0.1462824241613209,0.1467918877692881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,albyshell,2019/01/10,"Just discovered a new use for our Roomba Earlier this week we transitioned our 2 1/2 year old out of her crib. She’s done super well staying in her bed at night, but naps have become non existent (which I pretty much expected). When I was attempting to put her down for her nap today I told her I was going to turn the Roomba on, so she asked me to close her door all the way so it wouldn’t come in her room. 5 minutes later she’s asleep. Now I have clean floors and a sleeping toddler without even lifting a finger. Thanks Roomba. ",3.505833333333332,4.710303657407408,4.534259259259262,86.5991666666667,72.6111111111111,7.622222222222224,24.61111111111111,8.07648339933343,1.294422222222222,417,12,86,6,8,136,82,108,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.9403,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,5,0,6,3,3,1,1,12,13,5,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,1,0,4,1,19,3,13,8,2,23,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,0,9,57,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075208401253501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451588854020913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912156586455221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271620682033556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661534689212738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261560487461371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631804522865099,0.0,0.0,0.21438915609198675,0.0,0.2083126959971347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329301135859373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258329248130133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22315067924497414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22213978166903176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366005805111117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20436887278414465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104105828927593,0.21211089702286048,0.0,0.0,0.24144992116634675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917189911178659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619697158747455,0.1780585418403845,0.0,0.19958620286698134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21398028844711575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294750128017247
parenting,afro_die_tea,2019/01/10,"At what age is it appropriate for a child to have a cell phone? My daughters father wants to get our child one. I'm not sure how i feel about it. Does your kid have a phone? How old were they when they got it? Was it a smartphone, or something basic?",0.04930817610063088,2.150284905660378,1.4361320754717006,100.49935534591197,86.73584905660377,4.2880503144654085,16.38050314465409,5.46131890053228,-0.9539157232704404,192,4,47,1,6,61,40,53,0.06,0.94,0.0,-0.4445,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,2,1,7,10,4,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,6,1,5,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,1,3,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792920241221898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191520592008805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264460083534897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466485483407402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548052915683463,0.0,0.2936991343805208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33367076006559465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084967331591031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556445436939502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momin_inRealLifE,2019/01/10,Anyone else have a child with Wolf- Parkinson's White syndrome? My almost 12 year old daughter was diagnosed at birth with this and I was looking around Reddit but didn't see any groups for parents on this subject.,4.17625,6.964816124999999,3.3550000000000004,88.82000000000002,75.25,5.0,27.5,5.985473137389443,1.0979999999999994,175,7,30,1,4,51,37,40,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,6,3,0,6,0,0,3,0,4,3,0,1,3,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32296182354381514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21932780497095367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255167170050316,0.3304645927056605,0.0,0.2871152956119093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273557054794609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694279388916141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708394552584285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384353396569365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581254280592196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257010368873724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076952842381918
parenting,JaneStuartMill,2019/01/10,"Need advice from moms who've done it twice! (Or more!) I have a wonderful boy and am currently pregnant with my second. The due date is one week before his two year birthday. 

In some ways, I feel more confident having some idea of what's coming and what my strengths and weaknesses are. For the most part though, I'm freaking out! Mostly about the first three months when my newborn will be most demanding, have no schedule, and my husband and I will be sleep deprived. When I Google for pro-tips most articles seem to be discussing after your second kid is past that most difficult and demanding early phase. This worries me even more - why aren't they talking about it? Is it because the experience is just hell and there's nothing to be done?!

Please share any survival tips for life with a toddler and another that's freshly hatched.",5.12166666666667,6.917751777070067,4.694665605095544,84.7070090233546,69.44585987261146,7.781104033970277,30.28078556263269,8.344100000000001,2.21367983014862,667,27,123,10,12,202,108,157,0.157,0.759,0.084,-0.9114,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,1,3,8,7,1,0,6,0,18,3,1,0,0,26,24,12,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,8,12,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,0,7,2,1,12,2,14,16,11,17,1,1,0,0,11,2,1,10,13,92,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139045933226408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623126630741413,0.19464384471815704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131551883058832,0.0,0.1579530791377272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989937567709506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799173471516827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226034656303546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815767261740247,0.0,0.0,0.09385750376361383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789240628602455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20954786622942875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311123242085352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21740158594863807,0.1481639877800255,0.0,0.0,0.13763847745864144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781120540815562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578420531847373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010136282541204,0.1771999273698609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037603479818322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898589582085913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575891040268733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919822658429954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18237547693280165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813285103564649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734036925951205,0.14889706144323728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16749755895429436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130223631950314,0.0,0.18851105004016147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953632025331833
parenting,ilirgamer,2019/01/10,"I need help as a teenager I know this is probably not the place to post this i couldnt find any other suitable community to post my problem.

So i want to get a new computer and my mom said if i get %80 or more in my OVERALL grade she would get me a computer. Now here is the catch, i got the grade asked me for and i told her about it but now she is making stuff up saying that she didnt want the overall grade but rather only maths grade and i know she didnt promise on that because i remember asking her 10 if she is sure on overall grade because thats too easy.
And i normally wouldnt complain but i have been asking for a computer since i was a 5th grader (now im in 10th grade) and she had done this before too so i think she is being unfair to me. We dont have any financial problems either and thats why i truly dont know why she is doing this. I posted this here in the hopes of viewing the story from my moms perspective or at least understanding why she does this.",3.2054285714285733,3.6181685904761913,4.813333333333336,87.27000000000002,72.61904761904762,7.904761904761906,25.47619047619048,7.957251820313856,1.2193333333333336,764,22,173,10,14,259,108,210,0.059,0.8320000000000001,0.109,0.8425,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,11,0,21,0,0,1,1,36,40,16,0,13,10,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,13,7,0,0,7,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,9,3,34,3,17,27,3,16,0,0,1,0,22,8,0,5,4,123,47,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379735923222766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33776624602622257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682987480131532,0.0,0.10247975007377066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105391871170981,0.12324493766546347,0.28229353656360245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007372773601083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887640684889713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963214009914571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072380949886593,0.0,0.0,0.1196173034252696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008848080190966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856074780346608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039007044771647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820997262640433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929966321325652,0.0,0.11631509779641075,0.0,0.0,0.11799892784115235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159484620998333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582702082507094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460250336096623,0.0,0.12984731743239514,0.2304765413107631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642729488283814,0.0,0.11455951545686904,0.0957732838194034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996235556746507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786715648056194,0.0,0.0,0.11350682940013895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716870698021211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507904681668076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537516837459314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206919787945402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32601658809010564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555226249895402,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EvolvingSomewhere,2019/01/10,"How to instill courage in children? Or help them when fearful? My 5yr old son is probably going to have to have a surgical procedure done soon, and understandably he seems pretty terrified. 

I remember my mom always knowing what to say and always calmed me down in those situations. I’m not so sure I have that same gift. 

What are things you guys say or do to help them in those moments?",3.3958494208494194,5.79383514864865,4.319343629343631,82.92391891891893,75.8918918918919,8.012355212355214,28.138996138996138,8.841846274778883,2.4384888030888034,307,13,58,7,7,99,55,74,0.109,0.6890000000000001,0.202,0.8001,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,2,0,4,4,0,1,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,12,12,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,6,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,8,3,9,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,3,4,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591174966824543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22083323369883465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428293984734365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264128608979505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136710026645086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892857138929565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859530258387185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527365259640277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264405788160523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954112082426816,0.23266353603544626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444536973643519,0.0,0.0,0.3432177315908028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645168668076396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24256265031658564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338425787008066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336462630979008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22465023214869054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Circe_13,2019/01/10,"So I’d like to know your thoughts about a daycare suspension policy for preschoolers. One of the other parents at the daycare I use for my approached me and asked what I thought about this new “three strikes policy” for suspending kids.  This applies to all age groups, but this poor mother was approached by the center’s director and was told that this center-wide policy was made specifically for her 4 y.o. son.  The policy is this: 

Strike one- One day suspension
Strike two- Two day suspension (consecutive)
Strike three- Three day suspension (consecutive), parent conference and final decision.
 
3 warnings maximum will be given for the same offense before a strike is issued.
Strikes issued from warnings can be, but are not limited to;
 
Physical violence
Safety disobedience
Foul Language
Bullying

Now this little guy definitely has a hard time with self control.  My daughter was in his class last year, and I know him from elsewhere as well, so I’m pretty comfortable saying that I know he can be challenging at times.  But he’s 4!  Nothing he is doing is outside the realm of normal behavior for his age.  And he’s not overly aggressive.  He’s just very energetic, and is struggling with learning to control his impulses.  I’ve been around plenty of little kids with my current job, lots of friends are early childhood educators, and I obviously have a child of similar age, and I have spoken to others about this.  I never thought suspension would be an appropriate punishment for a small child.  Most of my cohorts agree. The child will never understand the reasoning behind the suspension.  Not to mention, this daycare is an accredited preschool, meaning there are certain standards they must meet per the state.  

And the parent is paying good money for two children to be enrolled.  

I really want to email the director and tell her I completely disagree with suspending students, especially preschoolers, backing this up with research showing that it can be more harmful than helpful.  But I’m afraid of backlash.  My child is very easy and doesn’t have any behavior or discipline issues, but I disagree with this new policy, and how it was created just to deal with one student.  Should I say something or just keep my mouth shut?

TL;DR

A new policy was put in place at my daughter’s daycare, with a 3 strikes policy that can lead to up to 3 day out of center suspension for a preschooler.  Is this acceptable?   Should I just keep my mouth shut?",7.0856804281345545,8.690132965596334,6.966073394495415,71.00476758409789,64.52752293577981,10.49223241590214,36.322324159021406,10.577609850970193,4.3194228746177386,1967,95,310,51,30,624,220,436,0.118,0.7509999999999999,0.131,0.7329,5,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,0,1,1,5,15,14,3,2,22,0,41,2,2,7,6,73,59,23,0,6,14,7,1,1,1,6,0,2,0,9,20,22,0,6,12,1,3,4,6,6,1,10,13,3,29,8,55,34,5,45,0,0,0,0,41,18,0,4,23,217,49,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444390777812445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436154109394935,0.08859311249585544,0.0,0.0,0.07286895354920264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063860850791939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936000589547984,0.0,0.21257552231540108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24446407910470186,0.0976992484511295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381116344283793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321572443409292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948495098336199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383291601367064,0.0,0.0,0.08489142977138364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351943351502168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967322273835383,0.09404030857662063,0.16846417003125766,0.0,0.0,0.1562422078082482,0.07724667228191598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04629772137700067,0.18996020179198198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056638693806244,0.0,0.08966957180518448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322760018245976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617825937156825,0.2745758345823416,0.0,0.0,0.09285023958086636,0.09093021977178684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568626922508275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31567819769006644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990099591843919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641075904059687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095265676536077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060709317194180185,0.0974348957774291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507229347041002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988612653079296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295524545603918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906965799832704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828293757911366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22570007849847165,0.11051725285459048,0.0,0.0,0.09055266232631047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777168796793659,0.09865440842601088,0.0,0.08184711539061552,0.0,0.156383210954573,0.055895249649753065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852057215676968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731881564556659,0.0,0.0,0.061025986856385835
parenting,sneakyrabbit,2019/01/10,RANT! Why do parental controls have to be such a nightmare to manage!? Need YouTube Kids help please! I have sat here with just one of my kids tablets for the better part of an hour trying to find the channels my 7 year old likes and I approve of on YouTube kids so that a. he doesn't get upset that he's on youtube kids and b. so I can manage what he sees and how much.  It's been soooo frustrating. There doesn't seem to be any way to search just for channels themselves without having thousands of videos to sift through to find it. I'm searching from within the parental controls.  Am I missing something here?,2.9168479880774965,5.002698926229511,2.566602086438152,96.41543219076007,76.13114754098359,4.764232488822653,27.484351713859912,4.851557810540192,0.5303016393442626,487,20,102,1,11,143,80,122,0.066,0.8220000000000001,0.113,0.7084,2,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,4,9,5,1,1,6,0,11,0,0,3,0,14,18,6,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,4,0,2,3,3,0,0,3,3,0,2,2,1,6,2,20,14,2,7,0,1,1,0,10,3,0,1,4,64,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132551990117147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707954315772089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331920882645395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530090983187832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089515300764013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294416015072836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018038533509346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943467356294939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196249931443486,0.14319308630432478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264278366011446,0.0,0.13086041709013613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288649862331415,0.2091258371234662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198340487840026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538884698946563,0.175805577126941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867015159940636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111310517560815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328651261656176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425717617599354,0.0,0.0,0.18615695768902785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436038917735184
parenting,alien-kitten,2019/01/10,"Child/baby nicknames! So just out of sheer curiosity, I was wondering if any of y’all had any unusual nicknames for you LOs. 

For example; I call me son “Bug” or “Buddha” (we are not religious but when he was a baby he had a big ole belly) 
And I call my daughter “Moofer” (when she was born she was IUGR and I always jokingly made it seem like she was heavy to pick up by saying “oofer doofer” eventually added the moofer and now we just call her Moofer! ",2.2693681318681307,4.083700483516484,4.017678571428572,86.51794642857145,77.13186813186812,7.626923076923077,22.36401098901099,8.472884824447931,1.2815153846153846,348,10,74,7,8,117,65,91,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.5905,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,2,0,16,11,9,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,1,14,2,8,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,4,5,47,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21001544592456228,0.0,0.0,0.3432787385144604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7731800674359234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330896696324845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23882519351863715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007171068387014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297737590734816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27371498268745525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,funnypumpkin,2019/01/10,"I can't to get the children to do their chores, help! Our children are 10, 8 & 5 and over the years we have tried a million and one different things to get them to help out around the house. 

Chore charts, money rewards, extra game time, lists, losses for not doing them but nothing has worked. They don't do anything around the house unless they are TOLD to do it. We try our best to give age appropriate chores but they just don't get done. 

So my question is, when it comes to chores how do you go about them, do they have a list and they are expected to do it themselves, do you tell them to do each chore or are they expected to remember their own jobs. 

Also what chores would you suggest for the above ages, maybe we have been getting that wrong?


Few examples of their jobs :- 

10 year old - Hoover the downstairs, take out the recycling, feed the cat, clean out the car etc

8 year old - Clean the kitchen cupboard doors, take out the recycling, clear the table after meals

5 year old - tidy up the shoe rack, help her brothers take out the recycling, keep her room tidy, make her bed 

Please help as I don't want to have to nag and nag to get anything done. ",8.541391304347826,5.972034269565217,7.283478260869567,83.80913043478263,62.82608695652174,10.765217391304347,33.434782608695656,8.548686976883017,2.2519043478260867,902,24,199,9,10,271,125,230,0.055,0.815,0.129,0.9615,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,3,13,4,8,6,2,0,16,0,27,4,1,2,1,34,42,13,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,12,2,6,16,3,3,2,1,1,3,5,4,0,2,4,0,27,2,29,37,6,25,0,1,0,0,37,10,0,2,12,126,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145488278909623,0.0,0.12391068158088725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821960754116004,0.2036120345752536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120015381430082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851234105988717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948346943008108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340631232529279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275433480010758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29874592461549976,0.10970601058672806,0.06499429904894061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30661652040372056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26391572701281146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269723657613899,0.10164979197954703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633721645667342,0.0,0.11489153888026442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973298266024913,0.0,0.3600095978839462,0.0,0.07749433968587634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553462957481026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811109846471674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954933217583042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579569384365261,0.0,0.09995702727057693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597672604799481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668513405987578,0.0,0.0,0.10927735300575483,0.0,0.15528795850849356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745339971684224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325656367716275,0.0,0.0,0.08123915732837016,0.12503639199232158,0.0,0.2945803309105885
parenting,Trundlebuns,2019/01/10,"Non-game for toddlers My 3 year old, Oliver, has seen me gaming throughout his life and has recently developed interest in playing. Eager to encourage his interest, we started with something soooooooper simple: Castle Crashers. Well, I should say [the opening room of Castle Crashers](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Ua5nFablYUI/maxresdefault.jpg). His hand-eye coordination is such that just trying to ""break the barrels and see what fruits we can find"" is completely delightful and poses plenty of challenge (and even frustration at times). We've probably logged 10 hours wandering around that mess-hall, ""dancing"" with the peasants playing instruments, pretending to sleep in the bunk beds, beating on the practice targets, and ... you get the idea ... while this is boring, more importantly it's not really supporting the gameplay experience we're trying to have with his limited, completely normal, 3-year-old capabilities. 

I'm trying to find a game that supports objective-free play. One with mechanics that reward the most basic inputs but also provide incentive to try more complex, sequenced inputs.

Simulators are close, but usually require specific sequences of inputs to ""walk over to the button, push the button, climb into the tractor, turn on the machine..."" etc.

The ideal game would be something where every input does something fixed and specific but that can interact with other buttons. One that has eater-egg-like ""interactivity gates"" that can be discovered and ""mastered"" by a developing child. These tiers of interactivity would ideally correspond to developmental stages and capabilities. The main requirement is that every input has an effect. There's no getting stuck running against a wall, or having to jump over a pit, or any requirement to achieve any objective whatsoever. It's just digital play, where the game asks nothing of you but to have fun -- even if all you can do is press the A button.

I have this idea of a face-making game where there's just a cartoon face on screen and moving the analog sticks around makes the face contort in different ways. The buttons are mapped to actions or emotions the face can make/feel (sneezing, laughing, smiling, feeling afraid). In terms of ""interactivity gates"": the difficulty to unlock an easter egg corresponds to the level of interest a child capable of unlocking it would have in it. That is, a kid that can only mash the buttons should be able to find delight in discovering that that each button does a different thing -- and can play in that space indefinitely. But a child that can observe that inputs can be combined to do different things should be able to discover that, for example, when the face is contorted and held in a certain position, the face magically changes into a new form. Sneeze 10 times in 10 seconds and POOF! the face turns into a dog and sneezing is now barking! If designed correctly, the game should be fun for any age child and be able to grow with them -- Having easter-eggs that reach the level of complex sequences and precise inputs, like Mortal Kombat fatalities, that kids can explore, share, and have fun discovering.

I'm also posting this to /r/gaming. I'd love any help finding this non-game! For my Oliver!",10.172631347962383,10.253057841818183,9.313460815047026,62.06936363636366,57.85454545454546,12.168025078369904,40.96551724137932,11.549179879218116,5.106616300940439,2583,121,380,63,29,816,279,550,0.038,0.795,0.16699999999999998,0.9972,3,0,3,0,0,0,116.0,2,3,1,13,19,29,1,1,44,0,47,11,7,2,4,79,64,30,2,12,14,0,2,1,0,7,1,1,4,6,31,32,2,5,11,13,0,10,2,4,1,3,3,7,15,25,62,47,9,59,0,0,3,1,32,31,0,7,15,255,46,5,0.26688631293426873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228592535344378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419891262892489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839026779711454,0.08316755852984813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411011040741207,0.0,0.18655014759132565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788393931601965,0.0,0.0,0.15570267397593576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007039337846606,0.0,0.0,0.09921626237748038,0.11751726175221333,0.0,0.14990881957294155,0.0,0.0,0.08702200850601317,0.0,0.0,0.08996382590401375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32523900662492594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295805545454047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059629423279270136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760975269548774,0.0,0.0,0.2008547745260856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283656519714531,0.0434623905171007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029177245350794,0.0,0.11876579085987207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455263797224664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592015470193236,0.0,0.0,0.08716397378197294,0.08536153840803168,0.0,0.18670152687625088,0.0,0.12056604847755205,0.06765968911478935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520110453337028,0.0,0.095916194997745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056991402026769285,0.0,0.08783934553929787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074623602585445,0.0,0.0,0.07089127917373103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902635167922132,0.0,0.0,0.20546212258233132,0.0,0.0,0.06296783531706315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20190628344794065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820493823160765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374903687656503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415977168062427,0.19353044675898406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797918942760417,0.0,0.0,0.07061397755729885,0.0,0.0,0.07998761569519165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895883793661037,0.0,0.0,0.11457735687879002
parenting,CommentToBeDeleted,2019/01/10,"Toddler HATES diaper changes all of a sudden My daughter is around 1 and half and has for the most part been great with diaper changes. When she got old enough to really move around I set the changing pad on the floor. The last few months we've had a routine that when it's time to change her diaper and I call her in, she will come over, grab a little book and lay down making noises and flipping through it while I change her diaper.

In the last week, out of nowhere she's done a complete 180. When I call her in for a diaper change, she goes and stands in a corner or behind toys far away from me or my wife. When I attempt to lay her down she cries and throws a fit trying to get out. My wife has literally had to hold her down a few times in order to change her diaper, which I'm sure only makes future diaper changes even more intimidating for her.

Is it normal for children to get to a point where they all of a sudden hate diaper changes and what are some things I could do to help make it a better or at least bearable experience for her and us?",6.36844870725605,5.038904935779819,6.645512927439532,82.71587572977481,66.1559633027523,10.129107589658046,28.07506255212677,9.095868883498916,1.81465504587156,828,18,184,12,11,268,121,218,0.062,0.87,0.069,0.1375,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,2,8,5,2,0,16,0,12,0,0,3,3,29,22,17,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,15,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,2,0,1,5,1,26,3,37,15,10,44,0,0,0,0,23,23,0,5,15,129,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384176131488342,0.0,0.0,0.08118257050985805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642029886316798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646317581654494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8226678829183941,0.07443230009228285,0.09059648575050837,0.0,0.0,0.06898925564535799,0.0,0.0949144409504091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842474172808414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928191359746254,0.0,0.05707125439051764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452299025639831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028857125143162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910786898749485,0.09526443286152496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061878208743045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05791704017587845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408670819127067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660288694484625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303277566183886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06896954009115579,0.09183736201047032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466087870373132,0.0,0.0,0.09067000180721876,0.0,0.0,0.06571670020010069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357076372245343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816828960309269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055354775198899725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143792568036305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740521859891318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007696671632518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058664933774112665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393742966059934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931078194190646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RichLavishness3,2019/01/10,"What intelligence milestones are common for a child of 17 months? I'm using a throw away because I believe my child is advanced for her age and I don't want to give the impression that I'm trying to brag or something.  


She seems just super smart to me.  If I mute the TV, she can go to the buttons on the TV and hit the mute button and turn the audio back on.  When she poops, she goes and gets her wipes and brings them to me as if to say she knows she needs them.  At around 1 year she knew that the TV remote controlled the TV and would bring it to us if she wanted us to turn on her favorite kids show.  


Then again, I'm a new dad and I don't know if she's advanced at all.  I know physically she's been behind the whole way.  Slow to crawl, slow to walk, gross motor skills just behind the average, and the doctor attributed it all to her enormous head.  ""A head that big is hard to balance"" she told us.  


I guess I just don't know what to think.  I'm overly paranoid that she's going to be behind her peers and that I will have my shitty genes to blame.  That's all.",2.760842511013216,3.457349057268725,3.8224201541850213,92.92719851321587,73.84581497797356,6.5560572687224665,21.67648678414097,6.322622252153567,0.10005748898678446,824,17,194,5,16,267,119,227,0.061,0.855,0.083,0.7076,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,2,5,7,4,0,0,15,0,12,4,3,3,3,36,38,17,0,8,8,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,3,10,10,0,1,7,5,0,8,3,1,0,0,3,3,34,3,30,31,4,30,0,0,0,0,29,10,0,7,11,126,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795110754658304,0.0,0.0,0.13504005312255848,0.11052030571605703,0.0,0.08761711421822636,0.0,0.0,0.16193567431450473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612065946451739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471148204195688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509354151746574,0.1378799203924367,0.16337133637259948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833595632117786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287547894409027,0.0,0.29501904809667484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31596330548024376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472475309976965,0.0,0.0,0.10657475261069901,0.0,0.13881634405426865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143007001649246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130847350060357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065118460836824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209705344647638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373411780498421,0.0,0.09758394842062264,0.31267621869944384,0.0,0.0,0.5186722692311826,0.1241374793291128,0.0,0.0,0.16955259485632165,0.11408701762281563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047058476251996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210241430964416,0.0,0.0,0.09255808400538837
parenting,MrT845,2019/01/10,"Best way to handle wetting the bed Hi, my step-son is 6, almost 7. He was wearing pull-ups at night (and waking up with a wet one every single morning) up until about Thanksgiving, when he adamantly did not want to wear them anymore. We have been working with him in terms of no beverages before bed time and waking him up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. But he often times still wets the bed. What seems to me to be the bigger issue is that he not only wets the bed but it doesn't even wake him up so he ends up sleeping in it. His doctor is not concerned by this apparently, and I have read several articles that say all kids are different when it comes to this. However, this weekend we are going on a cub scout trip where the whole group will be sleeping on the bunker of a ship. We mentioned to him that it would probably be a good idea to wear a pull-up that night, because if he ended up wetting the bed there may not be an adequate way to clean it up/he might feel embarrassed. We told him that we would bring our over night bag in the bathroom and absolutely no one would know. He became very upset and said he didn't want to go. It made me feel so sad, because he wasn't even irrationally upset, he had a look of genuine sadness and shame on his face. I don't want him to feel ashamed and I don't want to handle the situation wrong, but I do feel that if he wets the bed in front of all of his friends that he will be more upset than if he were to just discreetly wear a pull-up. Any advice on this? Also, any advice in general about kids wetting the bed at an older age? Thanks! ",4.589324324324323,4.511352159159164,5.467463963963965,85.51903378378378,69.45045045045046,8.461801801801801,27.46081081081081,8.07648339933343,1.492033153153153,1251,36,274,15,20,411,163,333,0.136,0.807,0.058,-0.9775,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,6,0,1,2,14,13,0,6,23,0,30,11,10,2,2,49,50,19,0,10,11,0,11,0,1,7,1,2,8,2,18,15,0,0,7,2,0,6,11,9,0,2,10,14,23,4,45,28,7,46,0,2,1,0,38,22,0,8,16,178,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177979261629185,0.0,0.0,0.1115921741943768,0.0,0.0,0.08911941553570008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156755278023434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051963616324284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358669327941454,0.0,0.094828176724081,0.0,0.11695056974714335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599664873615056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643224109031458,0.0,0.11406469841716355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974074922630008,0.0,0.0,0.14721160447454826,0.0,0.09389394172895904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253918949187796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609912527118975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12666910213534666,0.09347151591802244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580344871676608,0.0,0.11631556570197557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124511970940106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093582465377083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054482729706282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822140699154605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41831973064483663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510307607316448,0.08475598600858038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015236527961175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147126771123032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600601552354423,0.08862244372116655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145180125804892,0.0,0.12589673403460608,0.0,0.0,0.12526447702397586,0.22304318320226232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899701453143419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260000165379764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299644150447588,0.0,0.0,0.10648675646569583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624933845250197,0.0,0.09195058694262503,0.2629234164576569,0.1769135321831803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442001970678385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113045545671148,0.0,0.0,0.23749370177686105,0.12184335964593178,0.0,0.0
parenting,198919902016,2019/01/10,"How to take a s*** by yourself Make a safe space for your toddler ( like their room) make it so there are no choking hazards and that they cant get out. Make up a bucket of toys ( rarely used toys work best) put toddler in space with toys. Tell them what you are going to do and that you will be back. 
Go take a sh*t 
Go take a shower
Take a breath (sometimes the most important thing in the terrible 2 stage)
Toddler may cry for a minute but will eventually figure out cool toys are more fun. 
Don't feel guilty for taking a moment to yourself we all need one and you are doing a great job. This will also help toddler learn some independent play skills. 

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parenting,firexcracker,2019/01/10,"Traditional alarm clocks do nothing to wake up 9 yr old. Anyone ever try using one of those vibrating alarm wristbands? My stepdaughter is 10 next month, and really awesome at getting ready for school in the morning by herself  ...if I can ever get her out of bed.

She has an alarm clock but it doesn't seem to phase her.  It can go off for an hour and she just won't hear it.

I was wondering if anyone had any experience or luck with a vibrating alarm wristband?  And if so, can you recommend one?  I spent hours searching for one but there are so many.  Most are bulky/not made for small kids wrists.  Some don't really have alarms, just short burst ""reminder"" vibrations.  All I want/need is just simple watch/wristband that has a vibrating alarm.. a million bonus points if it's not huge/bulky.

I should mention that I am not opposed to waking her up myself (I know she's still young), however we are having an issue at Mom's house, where Mom's boyfriend is responsible for getting her ready in the morning but sleeps in a lot.  Kiddo is getting sent to school half asleep, without brushed hair or teeth or breakfast. 

It seems that a FitBit does what I'm looking for, but they are a little pricey for a 9 year old to have.  Are there more affordable alternatives?",4.139905090595342,5.800236459016392,4.4102243313201015,86.31665660051769,71.70491803278688,7.5958584987057804,26.77653149266609,8.20500826718156,1.6289213114754095,992,34,197,15,19,310,147,244,0.034,0.855,0.111,0.9654,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,1,1,1,11,8,0,6,12,0,25,8,7,2,3,38,41,16,0,5,17,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,10,6,1,1,4,0,2,2,6,6,0,5,5,4,20,2,26,34,5,29,0,0,1,0,17,14,0,14,13,130,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030591953059856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570827808501725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621078485950607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24024339758330035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990009291808796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775219797459671,0.0,0.0754710987584113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967088545874466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615548689591134,0.15322889998616324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860465414611434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298127799342959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309660516013985,0.0,0.0,0.1115153003766116,0.0,0.0,0.11289851758756085,0.0,0.12565490540489832,0.0,0.13463442870324044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110584358504388,0.105996600915107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123018666125198,0.0,0.0,0.12742146453753755,0.0,0.2786943912872115,0.0,0.2699582755364438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553526267881548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701451976553237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26879353854799504,0.0,0.24178521148065674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328920298879349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060511578542461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901598526646286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146932157144188,0.0,0.0,0.07832659581091939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801072673291145,0.14401173406695725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855163513252817
parenting,kay547,2019/01/10,"Parents who enjoyed their careers, but either considered or decided to become stay-at-home parents - how did you decide, one way or the other? I have just ended my 12 week maternity leave for my first child. It had been difficult at times, of course, but having my daughter and seeing her develop these past few months has been the most rewarding thing in my life so far. 

I also have a career I enjoy. It does not bring me the joy that my personal life does - even before the baby came, my marriage and personal life was a priority. But it is intellectually stimulating and I’ve put a lot of effort into getting where I am.

I’m wrestling right now with whether I want to be a SAHM or not. In my career, it’s very difficult to be out of practice for a significant length of time and get back into it, at least at the level I would want to be. So I’m afraid that, once our child(ren) are in school full time, I’ll be left with nothing to do all day and no career to go back to. 

I’m not really looking for an answer, but wondering how those of you who made the decision or considered making the decision - what did you do, and what was your thought process?",8.561869565217393,5.997598839130441,8.925217391304347,72.03869565217394,62.78260869565217,12.330434782608695,36.91304347826087,10.793553405168565,3.701904347826087,903,32,182,18,10,303,138,230,0.045,0.833,0.122,0.9612,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,4,1,3,11,7,0,1,13,0,21,3,0,5,1,44,37,20,0,3,14,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,15,12,0,0,7,0,0,4,4,3,0,2,10,2,21,4,26,22,7,32,0,0,2,0,16,15,0,7,12,135,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447295004198045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013923310198305,0.0,0.0,0.1580923305685037,0.12180579362483974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371966744586502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231663876364336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505341884683983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678392168473515,0.0,0.0,0.09454587725535613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175900564898345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957463728916476,0.0,0.08135256337488814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515698140127122,0.15552738696316168,0.0,0.3033224953524204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020569052795052,0.0,0.0,0.12169670189079285,0.0,0.1354471953302293,0.09555035334680333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425691867919067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735142246032006,0.0,0.0,0.15244468035328734,0.09699871023677303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178910128467089,0.0,0.1366480343490469,0.0,0.2499772657403765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390019310098254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917023085850126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224498941125032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487031286959434,0.11406797740687692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525734509908302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950991319435848,0.0,0.0,0.11364108620498276,0.2504068821798017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810955987696505,0.16886117876843273,0.11362178381456554,0.1148222297185223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523457210968392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016860523428703,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsLeb,2019/01/10,"Explaining a miscarriage to my 5 year old. Hi guys. Just looking for a bit of advice please.

My SIL sadly found out she lost her baby at her 12 week scan today. We had been told about the pregnancy at Christmas and had excitedly told our 5 year old son (obviously in hindsight we shouldn’t have said anything at that stage).

He has been excited about having another cousin etc and I am just not sure how to explain the situation to him. He is a very empathetic little boy and I imagine he will be concerned about his Auntie which I will obviously assure him she is ok just not sure on the best way to explain a miscarriage to him.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ",4.052272727272726,6.054791196969699,5.3596969696969685,78.00954545454545,72.63636363636363,8.73939393939394,28.66666666666667,9.339509955726095,2.671930303030304,546,22,102,13,11,182,91,132,0.063,0.7559999999999999,0.181,0.9527,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,1,0,2,7,11,0,0,7,1,16,0,0,1,5,24,26,4,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,2,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,9,3,17,9,16,11,3,15,0,2,2,0,27,7,0,0,6,69,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788947874188634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683581142743378,0.1801564081724307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138392571629105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803026368462958,0.0,0.18757060852744514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161212240279246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188379377810876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941970453963636,0.0,0.17011763033992908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219745884822885,0.0,0.0,0.14427604163490956,0.0,0.1875494977436997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605686705319823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18859436564010268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342942289027412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931201836761189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238553436436906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581783729537229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16285456391088549,0.3283411619368067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176017544134134,0.0,0.13637375352418307,0.13781458034743105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204797507567447,0.0,0.0,0.2212783469641188
parenting,MeteorMeatier,2019/01/10,"Persistent stomach issue My toddler has had an ongoing stomach issue for maybe two months now. It let up for about three weeks and then started up again.


She's waking up in the night coughing until she vomits. Has also vomited in the car a couple of times. She also has a slight cough and runny nose during the day. 


More concerning is that she's having diarrhea several times a day. She's not dehydrated, but she is very lethargic, will hardly move. 


Again, these same symptoms lasted several weeks, then she was perfectly fine for about three weeks, now all the same symptoms are cropping back up. Pediatrician thought it was a virus the first time around. Stool culture turned up nothing and blood work was normal. And maybe it is just back to back viruses? But it seems odd. I'm worried that something else is going on. Food allergies crossed my mind but there doesn't seem to be any foods I could point to as even being a possible culprit. 


Wondering if anyone has any suggestions about other things to consider, or if anyone has had a similar experience. 
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parenting,overwatch1981,2019/01/10,"Toddler (2.5F) only speaks ""Mama"" and ""Papa"" Hello. I'm not a native English speaker so please bear with any grammatical errors etc on this post. Okay. So I have two daughters aged, 7 and 2.5 years old. I remember my eldest started speaking before aged 2 and by age 3 she was already able to speak full sentences though it's not yet that good. I believe speaking at 2 years old is already a bit late compared to other children. My mom told me I started speaking at age 1. But I also know each child is different and has their own pace of development. However, I'm starting to be concerned with my youngest. At her age, she can only say ""Mama"" and ""Papa"" and some baby words. When I try to teach her by asking her to say some words, she would just stare at me and smile. She passed the hearing test when she was born so I think (and hope) she doesn't have any hearing issues. As much as I don't want to worry about her because I'd like to think she's just a bit late, I really can't help it. I haven't discussed this with her ped yet. Should I? Any thoughts or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks all in advance!",2.332456805731141,4.396964592920355,3.696523388116308,87.72848082595873,77.84955752212389,5.897682258744206,25.363674673409186,6.868970318607317,1.0277975558364942,882,33,177,9,21,289,137,226,0.039,0.866,0.095,0.9,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,1,1,12,6,0,0,4,1,17,0,0,0,1,33,33,19,0,5,6,2,0,1,0,3,0,10,0,2,6,12,0,0,5,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,4,11,29,6,22,24,10,29,0,0,1,0,31,7,0,4,20,110,35,2,0.12119455201043293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674824036739221,0.0969192394563576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472493539161021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330054606781803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387907401839752,0.0,0.1031276373603386,0.1365447581291338,0.0,0.0,0.2646261233632424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662251190541216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516396182463436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855152727744266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165224018977734,0.0,0.13361742144585628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27319013653500834,0.0,0.08123415354107913,0.0,0.0,0.12037353604768508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649562496575806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660535627358229,0.0,0.27342546706176946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05920953633901579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194159455242036,0.0,0.0,0.08909194055154851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543465904338512,0.0,0.0,0.184347836079214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303522406653576,0.0,0.0,0.11607087955753324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764033338174875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728980196186416,0.0,0.0,0.19275754430365594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573463830937609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157966048962356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531315061351667,0.11907303201189999,0.09621493673345667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580658812439483,0.0,0.08228314539575356,0.0,0.11838946705702688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148368681832128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307895049014585,0.0,0.17218626501328269,0.0,0.0,0.156090635950497
parenting,ooo-a-throwaway,2019/01/10,"Speech therapy for 4 year old My child was recently diagnosed with needing speech only therapy(ex: dat instead of cat, wess instead of dress, dup instead of cup, and they can't hear the mistake when they say it) and I've been looking online for activities/lessons to help teach them and still make it fun but was wondering if you guys had any advice for ways to create supplemental help at home until they start therapy next month. 
Also if you can help me figure out how to even get them interested in doing the activities with me as well because they're very independent and don't like it when I try to help with anything that they think they can do on their own. They're amazing with other trusted adults/peers but when I try they refuse to do anything and I'd really appreciate any advice you guys have for me.",9.434285714285714,7.4106064777070095,8.94058234758872,70.91076433121022,60.65605095541401,12.283530482256598,37.715195632393076,10.914260884657429,3.898114467697909,655,24,123,13,7,210,100,157,0.031,0.7509999999999999,0.218,0.986,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,9,0,11,7,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,3,0,23,20,16,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,3,5,10,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,5,18,6,22,16,1,16,0,0,1,0,22,4,0,3,12,80,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29378637732301377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202126700682759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044486053448979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474048502571969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916350644076456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525739462122332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928644579043122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853718505738844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29768537439549764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694241305101159,0.0,0.4030314126559661,0.0,0.15078549968461485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734398711416095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262328524814507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034128671947458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998580680555815,0.0,0.0,0.1114620631693751,0.0,0.0,0.1598694462421648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773794207590527,0.0,0.0,0.11432686492742318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963002994365622,0.0,0.14842511285777468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195423076291302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639888088833288,0.0,0.1200475640534598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34381324739103786,0.0,0.0,0.09632044492246783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041179164245051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403162099161393,0.0,0.11931882602187052,0.0,0.0,0.13515777939706666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301809635698075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096802617444774
parenting,trying2bgooddad,2019/01/10,"Should I get my middle schooler a smartphone to prevent bullying? I'm a bit old school I guess in that my kids just have dumb phones with text and talk, they do have laptops though. My kid says he's being significantly bullied and made fun of because he doesn't have a smartphone. He says 75% of the bullying is because of this. He's honestly hurting from the teasing and I feel for him, but it doesn't feel like a good reason to give in to the smartphone demands. I'm also open to a smartphone eventually, I just want to be thoughtful about it and the timing. Any thoughts?",3.109999999999996,5.123224561403512,3.968280701754389,86.91663157894739,75.3157894736842,6.314385964912281,28.94385964912281,7.1686216300943375,1.5736238596491223,456,20,90,5,10,146,72,114,0.163,0.7490000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.8264,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,5,7,2,0,9,0,10,0,0,2,0,19,21,7,0,2,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,6,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,4,9,4,14,15,1,6,0,1,0,0,14,4,1,1,3,55,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353657067312067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756892859257276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645650383055571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369101853077269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944565203108252,0.1550264058679774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337468635742542,0.2081682713798161,0.0,0.1820111389928698,0.0,0.0,0.23905237420239825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323053295034438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601630744373644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053327163865381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277072917300733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311439006628567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451376981233041,0.0,0.21961779860230568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441813814446244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21320354710687306,0.3445509944550041,0.1265357204198164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799351232124329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Purple_Smoose,2019/01/10,"Have any of you paid someone to talk to your baby in Chinese or another language that you don’t speak? We have been paying a girl to talk to our baby in Chinese. She is five months old and I’m wondering if it’s enough exposure and how this will evolve. She was getting an hour a day during the week since birth but I just changed to three hours, twice a week.  How should we continue with the language once she is a little older? My husband and I do not speak any Chinese. Have any of you done this and how did it go? Any advice would be amazing. ",2.017964601769912,3.7994046460177024,3.123194690265489,92.79735840707966,77.76106194690266,5.935929203539826,23.689380530973448,6.742157984588678,0.6149794690265487,427,14,93,4,10,137,75,113,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.7744,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,7,0,15,0,0,3,0,18,20,10,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,5,7,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,5,2,13,1,10,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,3,10,66,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931925535484652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4991595866744377,0.1924213071776262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941242754713668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834573748885074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877896335849643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961002896440354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587394535092666,0.0,0.10429029087442523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614315123552909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392051917758126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647217972170914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925579434417261,0.19542715554075168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179748045599847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548344519745574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29498921817440354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943937655907018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990036700439513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035690009964065,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thegeraschool,2019/01/10,"5 Secrets To Choosing The Perfect School For Your Child The academic year is about to begin. And as you scout for that perfect school for your child, remember, enrolling your child in a school that carries on the age-old teaching methodology is just not enough. Today’s competitive world demands education that not only makes your child a pro in all the traditional subjects but focuses on your child’s overall development as well. Here are 5 secrets that will help you in choosing the perfect school -

* The stronger the base, the brighter the future  
Young minds are full of questions. It’s in their nature to be curious about a number of things that happen around them. So it is essential to choose a school that understands this need. Look for a school that focuses on building a solid foundation with good oral and written language capabilities, exposure to social sciences and scientific processes as an everyday occurrence, so that they understand and get the answers to their queries.
* Talent matters  
This is an era where the world will offer your child a number of platforms to showcase his talent. He might be the next singing sensation, acting superstar or a legendary cricketer. And for that, he will need a school that recognises his talent and nurtures it to its full potential. Look for a school that maintains the right balance between academics and co-curricular activities, has facilities for music, theatre, sports, etc. and pays special attention towards nurturing talent.
* Teaching methodology  
The perfect teaching methodology is where there is more one-on-one interaction between a teacher and a student, the teacher knows the strengths and weakness of a student, and takes necessary steps to shape out a perfect individual out of him.
* Leadership qualities  
When you make entrepreneurship a part of the curriculum, right from the beginning, you mold the leaders of tomorrow. Choose a school that focuses on inducing entrepreneurship and leadership qualities.
* Infrastructure  
The best-in-class infrastructure with dedicated spaces for sports and cultural activities is a must. Zero-in on a school that has state-of-the-art computer and science labs, a well-stocked library and a sprawling campus where your child can make the most of his childhood.

Guess what, you can find all the above essentials at The Gera School. Situated in Kadamba Plateau in Goa, the school offers a curriculum that takes pride in all the three aspects listed above and more. Admissions are open from Nursery to Grade 4 for the academic year 2019. If you wish to know more about [**The Gera School.**](http://thegeraschool.com/)",7.440883457489378,10.341319184510253,6.374427137843995,70.49375669519179,65.58314350797266,9.848451640706768,37.83297420427261,10.15720250813581,4.6360946992550645,2138,114,310,56,37,645,218,439,0.011,0.804,0.185,0.9977,0,0,3,0,0,0,69.0,0,13,4,7,14,17,0,0,50,0,21,1,0,4,9,64,41,25,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,7,22,22,0,0,16,3,1,2,2,1,1,1,1,2,21,16,57,33,12,45,0,0,2,0,39,30,0,6,13,215,43,24,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997789241029027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070573848947004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961622074740739,0.07514075697946458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157938369031176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03520057340810807,0.0,0.0,0.05651081969932398,0.0,0.0,0.07422098280356491,0.0,0.0595793490144636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045159935438872666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405490075494008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315579459694833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491968778045485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147405869568786,0.06802938257589858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991518117044247,0.0,0.0,0.07165390730580429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069856151871909,0.0,0.045654935650359406,0.05124160228630476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296038671589304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547524090420102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632256043485622,0.11507549144779583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8864301632705341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573214370504427,0.0,0.06868016525571907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013149904248618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044760850311217966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386347093479193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027917028653014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115614614572295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747774161514277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677437672286949
parenting,BobMyJohnson,2019/01/10,"We are pregnant with our first! Well she is but I’m excited!! So ya, we are expecting our first lil feller in July. I barely any experience with newborns, toddlers, basically any age under 6 I haven’t dealt with before. I’m looking for parenting advice, thing we will need like baby monitor, good strollers, car seats. I’m looking for everyone’s opinion on what works and is good quality and what to avoid! Thank you for any help 

- soon to be dad.",2.093372093023259,4.756811127906979,3.680279069767444,83.99437209302326,83.06976744186046,7.1609302325581385,26.041860465116287,8.238735603445708,2.1155944186046507,351,15,66,8,10,116,63,86,0.029,0.726,0.245,0.9673,1,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,2,0,3,3,7,0,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,14,4,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,0,2,10,6,11,12,0,8,0,0,2,0,12,3,0,1,5,39,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115451550891769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4416485779859645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18421150013075754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20685924616773846,0.0,0.21176238728580554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682814818170457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631521507970186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510431605611004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576289528428008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36358320761996493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605197603413724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403792899003625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993089066033335,0.0,0.0,0.14382200743600834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464465074651685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760255466534975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fleabagfriend,2019/01/10,"My 3 yr old son has temper tantrums he could have only learned from the Devil himself. Tantrums...typical for toddlers, yes. But I do feel like I'm failing in correcting this. I'm not a fan of spanking, but sometimes it is called for. Never have I spanked my children out of anger, I just have to throw that out there. With my third child (all 3 are boys, all 3 VERY different ways of dealing with anger) gets so wildly bent out of shape when a toy wont do what he wants it to do. For example, if he wants an action figure to stand up and he cannot get it positioned and balanced just right for it to stand up, he flips out and throws said toy, reaches for whatever is closest and throws that too. He has broken two 65"" televisions because of throwing remotes at them. Now, this tantrum can and does sometimes go on for 20 minutes, depending on how tired he is etc. As for my methods of dealing with this I've tried a few things....I do feel like he needs to be calmed down first because he will kick and scream and throw even when I'm trying to discipline him. I try to calmly talk to him and then set him in time out in a room that is without TV, toys, books etc. I'm consistent with the ""consequences"". I always take the toy away tbat he throws. Spanking? Yes, sometimes. But I do not like spanking and it's obviously not effective at all. These tantrums are out of my control as of this point. And as for getting him to not throw these tantrums, well he does not seem to think of consequences at the time that he decides to throw something. He even throws at his 8 year old brother if big brother has a toy that 3 year old wants. Any ideas or suggestions are welcome. Criticism is not welcome, please, we all have different parenting ways and who is to say who has got it down perfectly. Thanks parents",4.548052460538536,5.314781487465184,4.706145543175488,87.96426938254412,69.77994428969359,8.100324976787372,30.835770659238623,8.212053250817874,1.9950584029712168,1410,57,298,19,24,440,178,359,0.12,0.775,0.106,-0.6684,4,0,2,0,0,0,48.0,1,0,1,5,12,20,7,0,10,2,28,1,0,4,8,63,48,25,0,7,15,5,2,3,0,2,1,3,1,3,20,22,0,2,9,7,0,11,10,10,1,3,2,5,19,10,58,42,7,56,1,1,0,0,40,27,0,5,16,182,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939891275970796,0.0,0.0,0.07306306891289384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009436718041448,0.0,0.0,0.13098918457983713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970852975750127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205034003338071,0.08578231430885297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22153240448729844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450443247042232,0.0,0.0,0.188043411256881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23964860658080456,0.1419265720823095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865005899208566,0.15351070287326546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138864006326518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839932229596494,0.0,0.061060782262997174,0.0,0.08592979998471982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128698886364077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746966893087774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966559995632283,0.08286456087364379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33822147466238595,0.0,0.0,0.0817131679298675,0.0,0.0,0.23859941363308296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793715441352134,0.10156578434476556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175340482862827,0.1022003017836946,0.08544081624405621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780958801124977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827127700676318,0.31878352730164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078171307118064,0.08635642047718227,0.0,0.09891656695366284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884338773765554,0.0,0.0,0.12529857266228095,0.12348678700203505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883467537850965,0.0,0.10495353358638247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864947605390322,0.19011316745985368,0.17056217318841346,0.0,0.0,0.0966017071482852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356858772372372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837602457369905
parenting,htown64,2019/01/10,"Toddler moaning at night I’m writing this listening to minute forty five of our toddlers now almost nightly moaning. He’s been an okay sleeper up until a month ago, when he started moaning/crying almost every night starting anywhere from 11pm-2am. He is laying down and he looks like he’s still asleep. 

We have mostly not gone into his room to do anything, as waking him up further has made the situation worse. He had an ear infection over Christmas so we thought it was that but the moaning has continued. 

Has anyone else dealt with this? It’s not to the level of night terrors but I don’t think he’s actually awake so we are a bit flummoxed as to how to handle it. ",3.370128205128207,5.66591080769231,4.247307692307693,83.90685897435898,75.53846153846155,5.871794871794872,29.294871794871803,6.816661863887847,1.6854102564102569,535,24,95,5,12,172,92,130,0.086,0.889,0.025,-0.775,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,7,1,11,4,3,2,0,18,20,10,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,6,3,7,2,18,14,2,23,0,0,1,0,15,9,0,3,14,62,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.1665699357016198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130740174156695,0.0,0.34184505225127443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935121783467098,0.17489325010783618,0.14046426907635215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635052247653305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749620850394813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259054961624862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438146520942663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339107184231599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333757271772946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151208919302282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624404400284273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6407283091865286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918639994364738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24163214292662044,0.0,0.13631416944038086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937199395305636,0.0,0.13550970329346348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17394886001270116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Miss_Alyssa17,2019/01/11,"My sons father walked out on us cause he has ADHD Sometimes I feel like I’m in a nightmare . We’ve been together 12 years so we’re not I’m married. I have a son and he took his mattress and mine. I used to have an online boutique if anyone has resources or helps me with a cheap even used mattress I will send boutique bling jewelry free. I’m sorry but I have to feed my son and y’all just really don’t wan to know it’s so sad. His father took his Xbox , flat screen.. I mean how do I restart over. I have nothing. ",-0.6506250000000016,1.447755187500004,1.5425000000000004,98.2525,90.875,4.271428571428571,18.714285714285715,5.773587663045528,-0.3739178571428576,399,12,94,3,14,133,77,112,0.066,0.877,0.057,-0.4473,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,4,0,17,20,9,0,1,5,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,1,0,3,1,2,4,2,1,0,0,3,2,17,3,8,16,0,9,0,1,1,0,14,4,0,2,2,52,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27068304966478723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748626142994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23137355888531616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487624878232889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388320622889485,0.16090457010181786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509671212931422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378068165924873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003614692289147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453418233627657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611454570439487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442882964362425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22275852413304065,0.25212687906001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5004782973961671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709243169681909,0.3890533247198038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504092763363427
parenting,llama_llama_llama257,2019/01/11,"13 year old and internet interactions that remind me so much of everything I everything I ever see on r/creepyastriks Asking for my sister. So, my niece is freshly 13 has a few things that aren’t exactly neuro typical (not officially diagnosed, but definite sensory issues and a lot of social things that look like autism spectrum to me - and I have a lot of experience working with people autism and studied a fair amount about it in college/etc. maybe some ODD, type behavior too.) 

There have been some tears in her relationship with her mama, damaged trust between them, and there is a lot of very rocky co parenting. 

Her father allowed her a deviant art account (against mothers wishes because it’s hard to monitor), and just recently she discovered the irl friend she thought her daughter has been talking to for years is actually an internet stranger who’s true identity we have no way of knowing. They’re on “I love you” terms and she’s (the 13yo) is heavily emotionally invested. 

So much of the conversation looks like everything we have seen on r/creepyastriks and she has also found writings that are uh.... way more sexually explicit than anything I ever would have written at 13. 

Her mom is reasonable and sex positive and has explained all the dangers and done every single thing right in terms of following all safety and discussion advice regarding this stuff. She has had every uncomfortable conversation and done it matter of factly and with a straight face. 

She’s cutting her own screentime to set a better example, and shes got therapy lined up for her daughter and such. 

I just. dear god, the role play you guys. 13 thinks shes grown, but MERCY its so young. 

I cant even advise cause it feels so out of my depth. so just like... anyone got some insight on this one? Something beyond what I can find on the google machine? ",7.115873485488869,7.950462097633135,7.2699830938292465,71.60780078895462,64.11834319526629,10.93513665821358,36.213581290504365,10.813802987103665,4.1919522118906745,1471,68,249,38,21,475,204,338,0.065,0.767,0.168,0.9905,3,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,2,2,1,2,19,13,2,0,15,0,27,4,1,3,8,57,44,25,0,2,6,7,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,17,22,0,0,9,2,2,2,4,3,1,1,11,6,34,10,35,32,17,29,0,1,4,2,44,15,0,6,12,178,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.1093076610211534,0.0,0.0,0.10945693711428753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957604357220908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832147143830102,0.0,0.0921764221443034,0.0,0.10471620194560044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828154234873465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990656083669732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150672917070672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368993339993698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22925455577371706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599854687371048,0.0,0.0,0.1249231112595327,0.07398294197443737,0.20264273188130896,0.1887500667485976,0.0,0.30200778455747745,0.1095693366200836,0.0,0.0,0.05663668819725269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023770388970213,0.0,0.0,0.12281549663022075,0.08654027801306312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917263308403264,0.0,0.0,0.11090959901529332,0.0,0.0,0.1003408487742976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691154075480399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061558926062265436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417037638999132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881239221739356,0.0,0.0,0.285686069953628,0.10109530215191097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253121953641312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118722897182622,0.0,0.0,0.1646835776579069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753786655230998,0.0,0.07590230435601468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437619196293855,0.0,0.0,0.07765509315150297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115167104251531,0.11059844498093974,0.12025908634047615,0.0,0.09565772956816994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925914908845302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418223971190584,0.0,0.08623239438080292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822706682091087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003109074709822,0.0,0.0,0.1280956092710969,0.0,0.2232476052255262,0.07177283697607903,0.0,0.088925103142337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092421721270864,0.0,0.17781999771986592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880839806512653,0.0,0.0,0.08154614984107869,0.0,0.0,0.07957018887003864,0.0,0.0,0.14426425223251554
parenting,ABinYVR,2019/01/11,"Let’s try this again I am feeling very accomplished in my sneaky parenting skills. I needed to get my 8 year old to read more instead of watching endless YouTube videos. I offered to make her a YouTube channel where she reads bedtime stories to younger kids. It worked like a charm and she’s made five videos in two days! Muahahahaaa! I’m certain my Star Parent medal is in the mail. 😁
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parenting,dflybird,2019/01/11,"Ear infection in kids and tubes My doctors are saying that we would have to put tubes in our daughters ear because she has been getting ear infections often.
My wife has heard stories of people who had them and had hearing problems in the future, I’m looking for people who have had experience with these and what their experience are. I want to make an informed decision",10.616521739130434,8.562577318840585,9.626376811594204,67.0117391304348,58.42028985507246,12.098550724637684,43.28985507246377,10.504223727775694,4.634802898550724,301,14,50,5,3,95,51,69,0.039,0.942,0.019,-0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,11,6,3,1,0,12,18,3,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,5,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,8,0,8,12,0,5,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,1,1,38,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673141447459329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28093130637291985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369679481854364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339905835798847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30934723163961897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23048537029250166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18321061570372585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38056537825262654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626303771326621,0.0,0.2759177967895821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21826927378963384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188930468071622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497535703086785,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,v_sweets,2019/01/11,"Tips on how to keep my toddler from twisting/pulling/scracthing my ears? My two year old does it from the moment I get home from work, to the moment she falls asleep every night. She does show signs of discomfort that I can't figure out. She is speech delayed and only knows a handful of words, she tries to talk but it comes out as jibberish. When I get home she appears to be tense, then when I pick her up she begins the ear pulling and it looks like it actually stimulates her in some way. I feel bad because it obviously makes her feel good, but my ears are left raw and even bleeding some night from her little fingers. Her pediatrician said to take her back if this behavior does not improve or gets worse within the next 6 months. Has anyone else had children that do this?",3.4793212669683267,5.435230496732029,3.730718954248367,89.27746606334844,74.09803921568627,6.5377576671694335,24.841126194067375,7.321109707123232,0.980593162393162,618,20,126,7,13,191,104,153,0.116,0.825,0.059,-0.8488,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,5,0,7,7,6,4,1,27,21,12,0,1,5,0,4,1,0,0,1,5,2,1,9,6,0,2,4,1,0,4,2,2,0,1,2,10,21,2,18,18,2,27,0,0,1,0,15,8,0,5,15,77,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.15503767631649534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108808681884663,0.16278473654891906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216396060033545,0.13265278605598904,0.09684784727948327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368555039102425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170939677287544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327184727788794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493448769848948,0.0,0.13385782606592808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606624906311856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24901463277294916,0.0,0.0,0.13325560403024728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187262679371833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412141195109283,0.0,0.0,0.08731275341611798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17261658728899834,0.0,0.0,0.07761759617374259,0.15923304423246648,0.0,0.0,0.13341377667823245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604933466084523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681135947606462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896383294324294,0.2981841464609221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671107531924914,0.0,0.0,0.12083050114066785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112513679374284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194531447094297,0.12769654912813858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786471818771058,0.0,0.1551963824314193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126106436600804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566184351406937,0.0,0.1619057301107565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230936346418393
parenting,turniptruckjumper,2019/01/11,"Parents who forbid or severely restrict electronics - how does it work for your family? I’m the parent who monitors electronic time and I’m sick of it. I’d rather smash and burn the iPhone and xBox than have one more argument or discussion over restrictions and screen time. 

I want my kids to be “normal” but I don’t want them melting their brains in front of a screen like their friends seem to be doing. 

Any guidance on what works for your family is much appreciated! ",4.825569823434993,6.7128253932584325,5.1460995184590725,80.81314606741573,70.34831460674158,9.580096308186198,27.32102728731942,9.957137785484203,2.710828571428572,376,13,71,10,7,119,67,89,0.099,0.748,0.153,0.8045,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,3,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,6,2,1,1,0,16,11,8,0,4,4,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,8,2,10,9,2,6,0,0,2,0,12,3,0,3,3,44,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934861246044634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451677013217497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921902745902049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140749427181644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967727798514978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729486597152836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144540916330144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21518022302070255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148819679016803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877223457785584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999331053589258,0.0,0.2481072260714401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256123486856212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25907423265088114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31977084088208696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LemonadeCake,2019/01/11,"Dd9 meltdowns getting even worse I've posted before about my 9 year old daughter melting down completely when something is challenging, especially schoolwork or things like practicing her sport or instrument. It is becoming worse and worse.

Today before school she had a complete, screaming and crying meltdown over leggings. She has always been more of an anxious kid, but this was beyond the pale. Then tonight, she came downstairs after everyone was asleep screaming and crying that she couldn't sleep and I needed to ""fix it"" and please ""help her."" It was not a normal response to the slightly annoying situation. She's had trouble sleeping before, as I do, so I've taught her some relaxation and meditation techniques. She would not or could not stop shrieking long enough for me to talk to her, and I'm not proud to say I lost my temper and yelled back. She woke everyone in the house up, and now I likely won't be able to sleep tonight.

Is this normal prepubescent mood swings? Anxiety? Some kind of serious issue? Shit parenting? I cannot deal with her screaming multiple times a day that she needs help with routine things or tiny discomforts (things she's been able to do before), and I don't know where this is coming from. I don't know how to fix the problem. I am starting to lose my own temper in response to her over-the-top responses. What do I do?

Tl; dr: 9 year old has meltdown fits every time there's even a slight struggle. Reactions far beyond normal. Help.",5.377751129648942,7.253543810218978,5.174483837330552,81.20334549878345,68.92700729927007,7.992770246784843,30.565867222801533,8.563005593585519,2.461999860966284,1180,48,206,19,21,364,158,274,0.215,0.7070000000000001,0.077,-0.9907,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,0,4,12,21,4,2,9,0,26,7,6,1,0,38,38,20,0,9,9,2,0,2,0,2,1,5,0,1,12,14,0,1,2,2,0,2,9,14,0,0,11,5,28,6,26,22,5,31,0,2,0,0,24,10,1,6,20,135,40,3,0.19289770360041852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025317105419985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378310763504367,0.10895974946004426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416321360203627,0.0,0.0,0.10652017921189033,0.3282834763535173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031179219214472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308214566090089,0.20224957219264714,0.0,0.0,0.07700656004796809,0.0,0.21188906962670775,0.062201530396704466,0.099434531151145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996574463128464,0.0,0.12740711396650567,0.0,0.08126231744654475,0.18432202223968155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050390544286053926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19394289692141908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128902550671994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006675430810371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043663720072757,0.10601153318802436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942400743397977,0.0,0.0,0.08535419877481845,0.0,0.10790159450360083,0.10528531509798536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303120302178307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834981902019389,0.0,0.0,0.2024136910422448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709503597205797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587187623001723,0.0,0.0,0.09237133909947337,0.0,0.0,0.09228852547084533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669999812497831,0.0,0.09761138718025966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900336036567196,0.0,0.10841255047191413,0.2895555180225208,0.0,0.0,0.0742510381803668,0.0,0.0,0.06826699372370397,0.0,0.0,0.08063555879867551,0.0,0.10082928119242912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775219336594352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222899443189104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248020221164456,0.0,0.09142223403836633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948688595210305,0.06851449706612242,0.0,0.0,0.12421979671903012
parenting,roamingdakota,2019/01/11,"After four kids I’m done. Looking for how to communicate that I just don’t want anymore kids. Wife doesn’t use reddit and really doesn’t care about it so this shouldn’t get back to her. 

I love my wife and our four kids (ages 8 boy, 6 girl, 4 boy, 1.5 boy). Ever since our last kid my wife continues to ask about wanting a fifth. I could have been done at 2 but she wanted a big family. After the last kid (premie with complications)  I had a vasectomy and considered the family complete. Unfortunately this has stopped her desire to have another kid and I’m lost. We work opposite schedules so that we don’t use daycare (full time childcare is insanely expensive) and she also is going back to school. Her largest issue is the fact that she only had one girl and wants another but there is no guarantee that if I get a reversal that we will get a girl. 

It seems like anytime we are together she brings it up again and I have to be the bad guy over and over again. I’ve gotten to the point of just saying “no, I don’t want another kid” because she will look for any reason she can to argue her point. The worst phrase she has brought up is “it just seems like you’re making this family decision on your own when I want more kids.” My response is well if you get your way then you are making the decision for the family. 

She will also try to bargain but I know if I grant her this she won’t keep up her end. I feel like it’s a manipulation tactic. 

I just want to enjoy the family I have with no more infants. Thoughts?",2.5510868486352365,4.212854083870969,4.17161290322581,86.39049627791564,75.90322580645163,7.866004962779157,22.89081885856079,8.617729084823388,1.3598287841191072,1186,34,254,24,26,397,154,310,0.103,0.777,0.12,0.1127,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,4,0,2,19,11,1,0,15,0,32,1,0,7,2,52,65,21,0,13,10,3,1,3,0,5,0,1,0,16,14,14,0,2,8,0,2,3,10,4,1,3,9,4,41,7,27,49,5,32,0,1,2,1,48,11,0,5,20,172,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616607834601326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639885983293338,0.3071536016594265,0.0,0.0,0.0968330977940938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912806479555608,0.0,0.0,0.15015897079191226,0.08152570418051898,0.059520717073328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955095456472993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237416277063338,0.0,0.0,0.07795796082325505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19984017763230524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648046477168699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883213844941595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4602336712226716,0.0,0.0493699494504966,0.06975436287167942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405243786335547,0.0,0.05549132253948502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966794046623914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191127060858636,0.0,0.08678732558622065,0.0,0.0,0.05366064232668754,0.15918001071774085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431065876488878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398678707712433,0.0,0.10658609428287764,0.0,0.08812432569397002,0.0,0.1303515281232284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616370145411192,0.0742599683343266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846035864321572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625509777713666,0.10039065305965332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764761138851271,0.0,0.09881735650783753,0.0,0.1777764121137217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076919603961558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163179513372243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751561729257914,0.05693493639986692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629146185271029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866001240217054,0.0,0.0,0.4031361043031631,0.07750245095671968,0.0,0.0,0.08779049809977403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108341648641743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ciriz578,2019/01/11,"Grey Unicorn Beanie(9): Elle why are you making that face? Are you stressing out?

Ellie(7): Yes. Because I have to draw a grey unicorn and I wanted any color but grey.

Beanie: So get another colored pencil.

Ellie: No because I HAD to close my eyes and then color my picture with whatever color I grabbed out of the bag. 

Beanie: What do you mean you had to?

Ellie: I was dared to. 

Beanie: By who? 

Ellie: By myself. 

Beanie: You dared yourself?

Ellie: Yep, I'm trying to take more risks.

**Follow @dannickisay on Twitter :)",-0.08124999999999716,0.7485605416666701,1.2721833333333343,92.78115,125.875,2.786,19.465,5.108053359733372,0.01392300000000013,396,15,70,3,25,125,64,96,0.075,0.7959999999999999,0.129,0.5378,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,5,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,2,7,2,2,1,0,10,14,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,9,13,0,12,11,1,6,0,0,8,0,6,4,0,0,1,44,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23388320103403934,0.3606390619055466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193112915486145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968846703979852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295749711203468,0.0,0.0,0.3746390062014692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3939689805935964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25859145966926106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23350490261954304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20285796379217472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103420127166796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blightnow,2019/01/11,"Grandma isn’t fun to play with. My wife and I are in a bit of a pickle. 

Our 18-month-old son is either with myself, my wife, or my mother-in-law 95% of the time. No daycare or nannying - we are very, very fortunate with our schedules. 

The remaining 5% of the time is when we want a date night or have work functions that the MIL can’t cover. Rare but it happens. My mom covers that 5%. 

My mom has been around our son pretty consistently since his birth. She lives about an hour away, so it can be challenging. When she does come over to hang (not to relieve us due to obligations), our son is his normal, energetic self. When it’s just my mom and my son... not so much. 

Due to his closeness to us, he has developed rather bad separation anxiety.  The past two times my mom has helped she has reported that our little guy is, “lethargic” and “seems out of it.” So much so that she called in a semi-panic for me to bring him to the doctor. 

I rush home to find my little guy is exceptionally happy to see me. Back to his normal self. 

“It’s so weird,” she proclaims. “You should take him in to be safe...”

So we did. Reluctantly. The doctor does a full scan before he reports my son’s looking as healthy as ever. 

I’m pretty sure that my son’s change in behavior is because he misses his parents and is ambivalent about his grandma. 

How do I approach this conversation? 

TL;DR: My mom says my son is “out of it” anytime she’s alone with him. I’m pretty sure he just missed his parents and is indifferent about her. ",1.77918743598498,3.8195144389438944,3.478226926140892,88.73495049504953,79.52805280528054,6.423534767269832,22.329463980880842,7.503015589744147,0.8437339023557526,1157,36,246,17,29,385,156,303,0.078,0.7829999999999999,0.14,0.9695,3,1,0,0,0,0,52.0,10,1,0,2,19,12,0,0,13,0,25,2,0,1,3,39,37,21,0,5,11,16,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,4,12,17,0,1,2,1,0,5,5,4,0,1,2,4,47,8,37,32,5,34,0,2,3,0,56,13,0,4,16,166,59,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964907811659462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127092439309371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293654905962103,0.0,0.0,0.08753152829673956,0.07163808842973055,0.0777888337217431,0.05679248293475525,0.0,0.0792765023480149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171198539558632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951318206008444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855615370015648,0.08025334675659138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907165284471309,0.16305853432182432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427302237435977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515106768934315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844958767101815,0.08238544910308611,0.0991758114379548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062446495709355565,0.0,0.09345203141399804,0.0,0.09174869963396767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867514911534279,0.08226634922335503,0.0,0.07823508573602432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5455682609356243,0.07436336657225012,0.0,0.1369739017610875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742898538790747,0.18256372158067188,0.0,0.0,0.09776093290727056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689728194682253,0.0,0.08893647743299689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843467133254845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408849996336322,0.0,0.0,0.07424039538366815,0.08481386269869777,0.19438270268619795,0.0,0.0,0.0770670014288067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561370750764455,0.0,0.07004844065181715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629756778583795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100860936368307,0.0,0.2241319043801989,0.0,0.0,0.15374166568378686,0.05495109566116023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782518619148148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JemmyLee,2019/01/11,"Preemie baby seems more underdeveloped than first thought? Hi all! I guess I’m looking for a little reassurance, perhaps from experts or those who may have been in a similar situation. Apologies, this may be a long post.

Our daughter was born 15 weeks premature. She had no major issues, was breathing on her own pretty quickly, no brain, sight or hearing problems. She did contract NEC and needed an operation early on which slowed her weight gain a little, and she’s been on the lighter side ever since, but otherwise she did brilliantly for being born at 25 weeks!

For those who don’t know, preemies have their actual age and an adjusted age; our daughter is 11 months as of yesterday, but her adjusted age is roughly 8-9 months. So when I say her age here, I will refer to her adjusted age, as this is what the GPs use when talking about how she is getting on.

Weight-wise she is doing good, gradually piling on the pounds, although she is still rather skinny, but not unhealthily so. She’s in the 25th percentile for her age, and at her last check two weeks ago she was 15lb 9oz (roughly 7060g). Also, apologies for all the numbers!

So my dilemma is this: she cannot sit unaided, cannot roll from her back to her belly, HATES tummy time, has not even tried to crawl. In fact she only learned to roll from belly to back because she hates tummy time so much and wanted to get out of it! I realise that her development will be a little behind, but most of the babies in her friends group are crawling, sitting, rolling, some before 8 months!

In other ways, she is very developed. She laughs and smiles constantly. Likes to bang her toys, splashes and kicks in the bath, babbles, makes eye contact and holds her head up, recognises her name, and she even started solids when her adjusted age was around 4 months.

But I cannot shake the worry that she won’t learn to crawl, and thus won’t learn to walk. She’s had a difficult time enough already, I can’t bear to see her miss these milestones too.

I can’t figure out whether she hasn’t learnt because she refuses to (eg: hating tummy time, likes to be held) or because she literally can’t. She spends most of her time on her back or propped up. I also think maybe her being skinny makes her struggle to use her core muscles to hold herself up, as she has long scrawny legs. Like she is off balance, if that makes sense?

My partner is not concerned, and says I shouldn’t take her to the GP just yet, but I worry that the longer I leave it, the more likely she will have problems later on.

Am I being daft? I do tend to worry about her a lot (considering how she was born), but I also really want her to have the best start! If she struggles, I will feel like a terrible mother. I already feel guilty that I couldn’t successfully carry her for nine months, and she ended up in hospital.

Have you been through something similar? Is 8-9 months still okay for a child to not sit/roll/crawl?",5.945278691896341,6.114107421328676,5.9893582887700525,82.08639037433156,66.56993006993008,8.827313862607982,30.98436857260387,8.4952907291091,2.182561949814892,2303,81,456,30,34,728,277,572,0.075,0.809,0.116,0.9816,1,0,1,0,0,0,85.0,2,1,1,4,29,23,3,3,23,1,58,8,7,8,4,81,88,42,0,10,20,3,5,5,2,9,0,3,1,2,18,15,3,4,15,2,2,2,18,11,0,3,14,12,76,12,64,58,13,82,0,1,4,0,77,28,0,14,53,313,94,4,0.0,0.0,0.07711214286747585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004648186274598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440111885468398,0.1895768495523849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034457295324417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822845583128907,0.0,0.1445096162414894,0.0,0.06724021877120827,0.0,0.08292663812461992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821247823757206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539257159390391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998828526178442,0.08164880629008164,0.0,0.10438395878190007,0.07147813403885336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990979499528493,0.0564519196307031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721439049458187,0.0,0.0,0.0610506731146957,0.0,0.0825694003105002,0.0,0.0,0.06627824552075627,0.0,0.0,0.08704946322173683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23404773699600984,0.08109734002840761,0.0,0.08906130799140567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247637310431989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0434273376352199,0.06441186473441883,0.0,0.08367079389274433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19302595689583613,0.2375964645718309,0.0,0.13986046601942528,0.06635691692579115,0.0,0.0,0.06717999707037492,0.0,0.0,0.15823943520684305,0.0,0.07938623328756332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784381668301638,0.0,0.058088808458841776,0.05859234518363082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060098287642592466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567933809193082,0.08039177076265305,0.0,0.15122297866857906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506222496285567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256797865298845,0.0,0.0,0.06296872691664414,0.07193686040356019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06536617891346391,0.08882181573374287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083347363923707,0.0,0.0,0.11186155681844756,0.0,0.12621098356641486,0.0,0.0,0.16521776852689818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059413222512434985,0.06351330059895252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05063283952103231,0.0,0.06273307098474916,0.23038605196187756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05364940804628012,0.0,0.07719107960658808,0.0,0.0,0.13649585593027275,0.0,0.06519979394049698,0.09321611283388134,0.06272241552316697,0.1901552861233581,0.192450197782246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407460047253316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DMommyChakra,2019/01/11,"Pregnancy Your Baby Development Week 4 Watch video, like, share and comment.

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parenting,HeartsPlayer721,2019/01/11,"Experiences with cloth diapers? I'm pregnant with #4, and I'm incredibly tempted this time to try cloth diapers.

I'm a stay at home mom with the two oldest in school full time, so I have time, and after having 3 other kids (one of which has an intestinal issue), I'm not hesitant about scraping and cleaning them.

I'm more concerned with their effectiveness and numbers.

-- I know there are 2 parts: the other for absorbing pee and the outer waterproof part to keep it in, rather than soaking into clothes.  Are the waterproof pieces machine washable, and do you get to use those a couple times before washing them or are they one time use?
- I assume there are multiple sizes, to change as they grow? Just like disposable diapers?
- How many do you need to make it a day or two?  With infants, I typically did laundry every other day and not every day.

Anything you can think of in your experiences (good or bad) that surprised you or that I'm leaving out?",5.1180769230769245,6.561716055555558,5.805555555555558,78.10115384615384,69.0,8.871794871794874,31.068376068376068,9.265573868473778,2.815632478632478,750,31,136,15,13,244,112,180,0.0,0.958,0.042,0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,5,5,1,7,4,0,0,8,0,11,4,2,5,0,32,25,14,0,2,8,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,2,10,14,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,0,14,3,23,24,5,20,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,5,11,94,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180040452671697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197310455796636,0.0,0.0,0.1220208359207392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516956967505149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866676901602866,0.0,0.277438858106225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416374046924246,0.0,0.0,0.28054082937106417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491935207441272,0.0,0.0,0.12027514290696505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438395319406111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966988766266684,0.0,0.12745841743963632,0.0,0.0,0.0788075966571768,0.0,0.0,0.15183740326133804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005684706342981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957190429201498,0.14538270697821468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794559113859742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632753831735724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19433991362970654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105713555560564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512607446976178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284281211248116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918834220991929,0.0,0.0,0.4180816058990047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097357589491708,0.0,0.2801573293885031,0.0,0.0,0.24769905191712954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skatepunkrevival,2019/01/11,"Any other young parents feel out of place in parent social circles/schools? I'm a 23 year old single parent of a 6 year old daughter (I'm hispanic it's normal for us). A lot of the time I'll go to little school shit they throw like PTA meetings, just to stay involved and active in whatever goes on around there.

I feel like an outsider, most people in these things are way older then me, and I just kinda get treated like a dumb kid (no argument there though. I am indeed a dumb kid)

Same thing happens when I invite my kids friends to birthday parties and meet their parents. Its really alienating lol. Especially to someone who has not much of a social life outside of his kid any more.


I just wanted to vent and see if anyone maybe has gone through the same thing.",4.94802631578947,5.6947019605263165,5.398526315789473,83.43068421052634,68.86842105263158,7.658947368421052,29.01578947368421,7.554174236665415,1.7051242105263158,606,21,117,6,10,194,107,152,0.08,0.7879999999999999,0.132,0.7397,4,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,2,0,8,8,3,0,9,1,4,2,1,0,0,20,14,8,0,3,5,5,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,4,8,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,3,11,5,18,13,7,22,0,0,1,0,20,8,3,4,12,72,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443284558268785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967746401069164,0.0,0.0,0.1141723413283886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296971181522038,0.09162395286702996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908793239546504,0.0,0.06700688738132443,0.0,0.07288912279566093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134136845834795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058887101297916,0.18797377973079754,0.1285431768822872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903609523732648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288473544321199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428069555743046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256606874220516,0.0,0.0,0.2691598511639736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5696390159028016,0.0,0.0,0.08891446615410879,0.0,0.13399706440072354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216214159469029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595977209848356,0.1022010182266609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164983852399578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614755188937171,0.10866833177534972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367006095847397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556167384936902,0.0,0.12600789937579815,0.0,0.07478534265713607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427254075330554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756469291444086,0.10180124398241554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518142534901528
parenting,istherelifeafterlyme,2019/01/11,"God entered into my body like a body my same size. Herxing again eh Laci?? laci I have Fuсking had ENOUGH, you GIVE HER BACK, yahtahey, Chechnya Bitcha, flashdance Lol, Me may mo moo, Blood, blood, blood, hollie said, dan said, ryan (Buttinski) begged,  Antifa activity, Yahtahey, the Great Mesa, 9_11, SteelRodz, Grim Face JumpingMan, Ooh we Gotta Doozie here John, AllauAkbar, NiggеrMcClusky, kill her, slut, slut, slut, slut, slut..Where Were You when the Council Begged to Abuse. God Entered Into My Body Like A Body My PerfecT Size Like You Floating Into Me OR Me Floating INTO YOU (raped) the Council had Blood Gurshing out Her ears Bathtub mommy no mommy PleasePlease no Yah tahey Meet Me In ShipRock lol FuckYou haha<Council Abuse nuh reading   Laci Will Get HErs For Violating The Un Human Rights Convention Ngẽxgumа nаbuxgu i duü̃хü̃gü rü guxü̃mа nаwüxigu, rü tataxumа yа tеxé yа tоgüаrü yеxerа ixĩsсẽ. Rü guxü̃mа nаxããẽgü rü ngẽmaca̱x rü name nixĩ na nügümaã namecümaxü̃ ĩ guxü̃ma ĩ duü̃xü̃gü  AFUCK YOU. YAH TAHEY YA HTEA HET!!!!!!",4.0059790209790185,7.356741136363643,2.8056818181818173,87.0040034965035,86.5,5.4349650349650345,30.63286713286713,7.010146845296331,2.2001676573426567,824,42,133,12,26,235,120,176,0.193,0.69,0.117,-0.9654,0,0,0,0,2,0,47.0,1,6,0,1,4,13,3,0,6,4,6,15,10,0,1,11,11,2,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,3,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,8,0,0,5,3,21,5,8,3,2,12,1,1,0,5,17,7,0,2,6,50,21,1,0.0,0.3836782256955107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450024868312633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7193904345661232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672982634713394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459227951685674,0.15532063783256475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850842960391122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791315163199408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23730591194808295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619557050034104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827186883054246,0.3080305684365771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,billysimonsjr,2019/01/11,"I'm a songwriter and illustrator making kids music videos - enjoy! Hi there! I'm a soon to be dad working on making some quirky little music videos for kids. My brother's little ones love them, but I'll admit it - they're a little odd. Have a look and if you like, I'd love to know! Thanks!

[https://youtu.be/Hmd0TmqszBI](https://youtu.be/Hmd0TmqszBI)",4.233811475409837,7.597549983606559,3.8263729508196733,81.21037909836069,81.95081967213116,5.017213114754099,15.821721311475413,6.6274283507984215,-0.10485409836065562,283,5,47,3,8,85,45,61,0.038,0.657,0.305,0.9578,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,1,1,2,5,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,2,0,9,12,4,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,4,11,1,5,0,0,1,2,10,4,0,2,2,22,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265276040651788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117923075217837,0.7257600535640849,0.0,0.0,0.20269324995721927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4356986631318906,0.0,0.3222378502941318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356117362828593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222461971938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757230440635229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,danondorf_campbell,2019/01/11,"How Much Deep Sleep for a 9/yo? For Christmas, my daughter got a watch that does things like monitor her steps, lets us award her points for doing chores, ETC. One of the things it does is track her sleep patterns. I'm a little concerned that during the night it says she's only getting about 3 hours of ""deep sleep"" and the rest is time spent in a ""light sleep"" state. I guess it means she moves around a lot. Is this something I should be concerned about? Is 3 hours too little or is that normal?

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 Any help anyone can offer would be great. Thank you. ",2.2008599508599542,4.4686974234234205,2.058968058968059,98.27380835380836,79.27027027027026,4.396723996723997,18.1990171990172,4.851557810540192,-0.7310432432432425,438,9,94,1,11,129,77,111,0.0,0.856,0.14400000000000002,0.9417,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,8,0,12,4,4,1,0,10,19,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,9,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,10,4,9,12,4,14,0,0,1,0,11,7,0,3,5,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931735514116465,0.1674545455073802,0.0937157000094897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963601354637522,0.0,0.0,0.12268034559168205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411973679769835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369486428769122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200017101619878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021945118188574,0.15193629410061635,0.15181353419703408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237130989265008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27143068541689863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092032401297305,0.0,0.06732713017075527,0.2762441617626811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716135177790846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501157695884297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647049297118156,0.101306395043103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129325590029169,0.13502479130111752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338379623674728,0.10481090989580788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302752364293697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095922471206358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5516391249373195,0.0,0.0,0.10609306811151664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687716862331433,0.0,0.0,0.18311002152571945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803582686982049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576877021804962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789645211700833,0.0,0.1674545455073802,0.0
parenting,madeforroses,2019/01/11,"No Stranger Danger So from what I’ve heard and read and the babies I’ve known, when they’re little they go to anyone and as they get older (say 6mo or so), they learn “stranger danger.” Well my child is the opposite lol. Literally from when she was born to probably 5mo, she would not go to anyone (including my DH) except me. It was pure torture. And yes, I mean when she was a tiny infant and not supposed to know who was who, she would cry until back in my arms. When she was older, around 4mo, I had to go the dr and left her with my MIL and she screamed the whole 2hrs until I got back. Now she’s fixing to be a year old and they say she’s supposed to start learning who is who and only go to people she knows...y’all if some random person in the store smiles at her she will reach out to them to hold her! She goes to anyone! Now while I wished she would go to someone else in the beginning, I did feel loved and special and now I’m just wondering what happened? I feel like this isn’t normal. I also get frustrated bc I don’t let strangers hold her and when she reaches for them, I’ve had some actually try to hold her! I say “no, we can’t go to strangers” to my girl so I don’t have to say no directly to the stranger and then sometimes my baby will start to cry! Bc she couldn’t go to a stranger!! I’m a SAHM, this is our first baby...is this normal? Is something wrong? Will she grow out of it? 😫

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parenting,_see_pee,2019/01/11,"6yo constant eating - happy medium? My 6 year old son is starting to get to the age where he’s always hungry. He will eat a meal and  ten minutes later he’s asking for a snack. My husband tends to tell him no when this happens but I wonder if that’s fair. I imagine he’s going through constant growth spurts at this age and I can understand why he would be hungry all the time. If he’s *needing* those extra calories, whether it be because of him growing or because he is burning more, it doesn’t seem right to say no to his constant snacking (as long as what he’s eating is healthy.) 

At the same time, obviously I know the importance of teaching him that he can’t just eat and eat and eat. And what he’s wanting is what I’d consider “middle of the road healthy”; not junk food but not raw broccoli, either. 

So I’m wondering how other parents handle this. How do you draw the line between making sure they’re fully fed and also instilling good eating habits and self control. ",3.238057692307692,4.959241841025643,4.230817307692308,86.4369951923077,74.1794871794872,6.105769230769233,28.08493589743589,6.6274283507984215,1.3381858974358978,769,31,148,6,16,249,124,195,0.023,0.852,0.125,0.9636,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,1,7,3,0,0,8,0,12,12,0,4,3,34,28,20,0,5,10,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,12,7,12,1,6,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,1,1,11,3,15,23,5,22,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,6,13,88,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405411989481415,0.08745753755805713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826096177344266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128144640426249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34075034589112285,0.11788656411174407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7528557127726568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709593765011254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05491412814693844,0.0,0.059734794230039676,0.08815885919467471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294587246518583,0.11188847571868328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057764120243405985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301648703756613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015981376612311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793559211388351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029223365290106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670900984687728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976089978239676,0.0,0.08358539455329292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568556767602364,0.109649641350518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439535521324478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906220964287096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186824911148417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257760509948044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942021091744976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061994898185887326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484282066877413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22796835988139444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466507705203276,0.0,0.0,0.06768553438014123
parenting,vintage_life,2019/01/11,"Help! How to talk about death of a pet? We have just found out it is time for our family dog to be put to sleep in the next day or two. 😭

My son will be 3 in about 6 weeks and I need advice on how to talk to him about death. He’s very sensitive and quite bright and understands a lot. I don’t want to use the phrase ‘sleep’ at all as I’ve read about other kids getting terrified they will go to sleep and never wake up, but I’m just not sure what the best approach is. 

Advice and experiences would be so appreciated. ",3.3493749999999984,3.2969601875000016,4.662500000000001,90.1325,72.125,8.542857142857143,22.25,8.418075326091056,0.7277892857142851,399,7,100,6,7,133,81,112,0.083,0.774,0.14300000000000002,0.8484,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,1,2,9,3,0,0,5,0,10,4,4,3,3,24,18,11,2,3,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,0,2,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,1,7,3,20,11,3,14,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,2,5,63,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33838868786489323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170397918382647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116635766304306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693680867864207,0.1632247837097531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18984349393397573,0.0,0.0,0.09046061033303783,0.0,0.09840174334934018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605479476252015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720086410473754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838410564261407,0.13353935127662794,0.0,0.18414064204240915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405757461127874,0.0,0.1841599904863332,0.17319088698403615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5198072228972814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318620084898966,0.0,0.0,0.2783332282826961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096167730088318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691365602080092,0.18024904330406047,0.0,0.14954085156184266,0.0,0.14286195930372084,0.10212483593336567,0.0,0.13888569838290665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229965524102879,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-Primum_Non_Nocere-,2019/01/11,"Other than “don’t talk to strangers”, what are some safety tips for kids that use the internet in 2019? All the ones you look up say “don’t give your address out” etc, but I think there are more dangers online these days than predators. There’s a ton of inappropriate content, and it’s often disguised as child-friendly videos. I think we need a more updated list for 2019. How have all of you discussed this with your children? 

(For reference, I’m asking for a friend to give advice to his 7 year old. She just started a YouTube channel, for YT kids but her dad would like to talk to her about general internet safety too.) ",5.2449793388429775,6.1025728677686,5.131890495867771,85.20874483471077,68.25619834710744,8.033471074380165,30.001033057851238,8.07648339933343,1.8943958677685944,491,18,98,6,8,152,87,121,0.06,0.83,0.11,0.7287,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,4,0,0,7,3,1,0,6,0,6,0,0,2,2,19,16,5,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,3,6,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,11,2,20,15,7,8,0,0,1,0,21,3,0,2,6,66,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22052078019664395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096971248301905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553760170565666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25168018296346445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487020581609917,0.0,0.0,0.4329638393438848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025029703050217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895048189048673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733043483097373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23680127288507066,0.0,0.1529189087196434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794607577457471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972942271416182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627678043425431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891987008619761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490524618751184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603085249105223,0.0,0.0,0.1453232033323868
parenting,ktodo3891,2019/01/11,"Need parenting advice! My son is 16 months old. He is in no way exposed to violence. I'm a sahm. My husband and I rarely even raise our voices to each other let alone get violent. He doesn't watch violent tv. He doesn't have a tablet or anything. He grabbed a 2 year old girl who took a toy from him and shook the crap out of her and shoved her. I didn't even know what to do. I picked him up and put him on the couch and told him ""That was an bad thing to do and we don't ever do that!"" I was so upset the two year old came over to me and hugged me. She just had her butt handed to her and was consoling me.. how do I handle this behavior?? Where did it come from??",0.03265306122449019,1.6208469251700706,2.070986394557824,98.91627551020409,83.14965986394559,5.83265306122449,17.302721088435373,6.868970318607317,-0.3613727891156469,506,10,131,6,14,169,94,147,0.194,0.7879999999999999,0.018000000000000002,-0.9779,1,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,0,7,7,3,2,8,0,17,4,3,2,1,20,25,11,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,8,13,0,0,1,2,0,5,5,6,0,1,9,4,21,1,14,15,1,19,0,0,1,2,21,6,2,1,7,87,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206260168579266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19296375503197133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533194667429556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155563311573673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21309207995609547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604918828193725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461155455532459,0.16853049222684607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734068931933834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023925804188838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905173457913198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487130094420316,0.0,0.0,0.13814849684177605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.586511472327261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068781905791916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729571060307335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377787069826755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802975692912534,0.2070002508756345,0.0,0.0,0.18200042315806145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788633900306095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23995852418456526
parenting,First-Hour,2019/01/11,"Does anyone have any experience with an 18 month old losing her hair? Just to start, yes we have seen a doctor and we are awaiting bloodwork results taken today to see where to start. 

My daughter is 19 months and recently we noticed her hair was getting thin and in some areas we noticed she is loosing hair all together.  For background, she had cradle cap real bad and it just finally cleared up a few months ago.  I still remember her hair being more plentiful though.  She has a decent diet, as best a kid can have.  She just recently had an ear infection and finished antibiotics a weeks ago.  No other health problems.  She hits her milestones well and her height and weight are on track.  I’m just looking for advice and support if anyone else has dealt with this.  My wife and I are so afraid for her right now.  

Like I said up top we are waiting for a CBC, BMP, and thyroid studies to come back.  The pediatrician was dumbfounded and just ordered us to use an anti fungal shampoo, though they stated it was not an infection they just didn’t know what else to do.  I had to call them back and request the bloodwork be done.  They told us to see a dermatologist and ask their opinion but the next appointment isn’t until February.",4.983168961201501,6.403924778723407,5.367133917396746,81.20411764705884,69.29787234042553,8.082603254067584,29.993742177722158,8.4952907291091,2.2639962453066342,973,38,180,15,17,310,145,235,0.047,0.9,0.053,0.0644,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,7,0,5,3,15,8,0,1,14,1,24,12,5,2,2,41,42,20,0,2,9,2,6,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,5,21,2,1,2,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,12,12,29,4,20,27,5,33,0,1,4,0,31,10,0,3,21,129,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168907213113195,0.21207081225463015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134531344720164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728137168734822,0.12256424068258838,0.0,0.0,0.11182801840711556,0.0,0.0,0.1839599140212778,0.09987722646524813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553321049795052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214481096592256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304154600484414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243555399298765,0.10467976816446443,0.12241220654802143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199853366913277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170107544463032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103723719936866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062496214390670324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714985906114054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573970970021903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844001065655013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045019319271403,0.13382354326064552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864372602791271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272166194849906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723750248351587,0.12552046827646662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144596383179185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361530978967053,0.0,0.0,0.23621950970972005,0.0,0.1355054943134244,0.10215433852814236,0.11378546927592999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190642395003066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933449463628536,0.0,0.0955282302858262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574271014475714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350509627314147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338523168357716,0.11430149030957334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287774888770589,0.1033127798382662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595149037775264,0.14566423850600074,0.10755223212537787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlueGuy99,2019/01/11,"I never thought that as an adult/parent, I would be more nervous about seeing my kids’ report cards than I ever was about my own grades. Is this normal?  It’s not so much the grades themselves, but we just moved to a new city this year and I see the grade trends as an indicator of how my oldest is adjusting...",4.462619047619048,4.8134018888888885,4.974722222222223,87.44875,69.7936507936508,7.56984126984127,23.686507936507937,7.1686216300943375,0.7030031746031749,241,5,52,2,4,77,51,63,0.03,0.97,0.0,-0.177,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,5,0,5,0,0,1,2,12,8,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,2,8,0,7,4,3,6,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,5,40,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30042865375401884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35299934139413275,0.2441521838549781,0.0,0.2561574718873282,0.3207711458158006,0.0,0.0,0.32541477422727505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5293257892235632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636724127627469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23593409444539415,0.0,0.0,0.2138794452713479
parenting,HungryTechnology0,2019/01/11,"Asking about homework sends son into rage. My 15 year old son must really hate school. When I ask him about his homework, he escalated into a rage, screaming, spit dripping from his mouth, throwing the remote, crying.

I though it was a simple request. ""Show me the home you said you finished.""

""Why are you harassing me""

""I'm not. Show me your homework. ""

SCREAM!

It's an effective way of shutting down the conversation.  Part of me wants to provoke him to see how far he would go. Part of me thinks that is a bad idea.

Obviously I have to find a way of dealing with this. However, I'm out of my depth. I don't know how to approach this kind of outburst.  I never screamed like that, ever. My side of the family avoided strong emotions like they would kill us. I will be going to a therapist for advice but I'm still coming off the adrenaline rush from the conversation and I want to vent.

Anyone else have kids who did this and you all survived? (sort of joking)",1.8120066208301504,4.333078171122995,3.1534453781512655,88.31431372549022,82.79679144385027,5.914845938375349,22.80850522026993,7.2636822038024595,0.9848922332569394,746,26,147,11,21,242,123,187,0.14400000000000002,0.7959999999999999,0.061,-0.8975,1,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,5,1,3,8,15,5,1,12,0,12,2,2,4,5,28,27,7,1,5,2,2,0,2,0,4,0,4,4,1,8,7,0,1,5,3,0,7,3,10,0,0,3,5,26,5,25,19,3,25,0,0,1,0,25,9,0,1,9,97,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479145158680079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105839637352269,0.1550938356776097,0.0,0.0,0.2830162568526364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638549435844693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038965129665633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627003119878128,0.0,0.15605318977391133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644807765723856,0.17026800267065648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369205203919498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426957562466037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834710292177982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205121506776774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944401471846233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183388956965313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087542144498502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746565147749345,0.1576259014236639,0.08318758943845818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790097599898638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674390546587488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588346712926073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32783238562306605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969698615633358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398510345348886,0.0,0.0,0.1531919359541365,0.1206202564431661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208822374944762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574927085416928,0.0,0.09699014711790648,0.14871774665556606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820763995377513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856088228593173,0.2402968653044009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658557585112613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505418065825668,0.0,0.0,0.09747567211638768
parenting,GSDLVR76,2019/01/11,"21 y/o daughter made me ugly cry in a happy way. So my oldest daughter is 21 and is in the Air Force living in Mississippi.  We have always been really close but some days I wonder if I was too hard on her or didn’t do enough as a parent.  Well last night she randomly sent her father and I this text;

“I was just in the car driving with Jordan and one of his friends from back home called. They were talking about how their parents were growing up and just how strict, and cold, and church based they were. I just wanted to say thank you for always creating an environment that always allowed me to feel completely loved and supported in everything I did and that you were always proud of who I was as person. I truly think it paid off and made me the independent person I am today. I just wanted to let you know I’m grateful for y’all and sometimes I forget how cool you are. That’s all ❤️”

I seriously ugly cried because nothing has ever felt so meaningful to me.  I just wanted to share this because even though as parents we sometimes doubt ourselves, we shouldn’t!  ",4.279221183800622,5.315013962616825,5.247831775700939,82.84872585669783,70.58878504672897,7.762741433021808,26.41619937694704,8.021203637495839,1.5442651713395643,844,26,166,11,15,277,135,214,0.08900000000000001,0.7090000000000001,0.202,0.9836,4,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,5,3,1,17,11,0,1,6,1,19,1,0,7,2,46,35,22,0,5,8,6,3,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,7,15,0,0,6,0,1,4,2,2,1,1,15,6,33,9,23,18,3,22,1,0,0,1,31,10,0,6,7,121,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40440061125609417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342823629088924,0.0,0.14813408988095092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406805386210673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127393487301817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669304781042713,0.07835932394653773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554498369266429,0.0,0.08025152478341444,0.10990633641853996,0.0,0.0,0.10919897911770314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061435521016220115,0.0,0.11666184583771147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938728452854517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934210485606015,0.1088427399248558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218773234209741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677482063680586,0.099041086760861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424495545840822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072892937612034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966111822011726,0.2299379786498747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402224828355664,0.0,0.11658531713488494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233351495064413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047438011547004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21218330528227794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778378740960865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966239891758747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24033896557867215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788006007333928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976594349663064,0.0,0.11186355321494597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785415734551251,0.11937599016235435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151705497797219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21499668943190892,0.09644335284026152,0.0,0.0,0.10924570616466063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317647207107308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Is_itover,2019/01/11,"My newborn was misdiagnosed and I'm pretty angry. Need advice that I'm not going too far. This may be a little long winded.

I have a newborn daughter and a 4 year old son who is in preschool. Two weeks before Christmas  my son brought home a cold and naturally passed  it along to the baby. My son got better after a week but the baby didn't. She developed a horrible cough that sounded like a seal bark, and her congestion was terrible.  I took her in to our pediatrician and was told it was just a cold and it will pass. I waited a couple of days and it got worse so I took her back two more times that same week. I was told she had bronchiolitis and nothing could help her, not even breathing treatments. She didn't think running any tests were necessary. Just suction her nose and do steam showers to help with congestion. Over the weekend there was no improvement and she started to sound wheezy. So I took her in this past Tuesday making it the 4th time in 7 days. Still got the same diagnosis. At this point I knew something didn't feel right and I made an appointment at a different pracrice for that afternoon for a second opinion. The new doctor was surprised that our doctor didn't order tests esepcially since it's for a barely 3 month old. She ordered tests and today she called to tell me that the baby has confirmed RSV. She was prescribed breathing treatments and has a follow up appointment with her. I'm so angry that the pediatrician we have gone to for years brushed me off. Even when I asked about testing and breathing treatments. 

I called our regular pediatrician's office and left a message for the office manager. It's been a few hours and she hasn't called me back. I want them to be aware that this happened and to discuss this with their providers. More as a cautionary tale for them to just order some damn testing after a certain point. Especially with newborns! I plan on making myself a nuisance until I get to speak to the manager. I want to tell someone other than the doctor so she can't just make up an excuse and nobody else would know about this issue. My sister's friend had the same thing happen with her son a few years ago at the same prarice just a differnt doctor. He was admitted the hospital by the second opinion doctor because his RSV was so bad. Am I going overboard? Should I just let it go? We're obviously switching to the new doctor. ",4.068370818586594,6.019499605206074,4.729602123530086,82.76136060052521,72.47071583514102,7.282132663546068,27.532880465806603,8.032893268588372,1.81520043383948,1902,71,354,28,38,609,226,461,0.075,0.858,0.067,-0.8621,2,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,4,0,3,2,21,8,1,0,38,0,35,13,4,4,2,60,70,27,0,6,9,6,1,1,1,4,9,3,2,3,25,25,0,1,5,1,0,12,9,3,0,4,30,8,49,5,46,32,9,64,0,0,0,0,52,18,1,4,32,247,74,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08080470092648277,0.07330059378208413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05623272447233671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730493473918815,0.0,0.0,0.12716856965370915,0.0690435418941112,0.050407674047443014,0.0,0.07036396162800214,0.0,0.0,0.07313348123230502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533103092127304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602204529459392,0.0914960331359717,0.0,0.10665772512591652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639450875639078,0.0,0.5078265346736401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907773072752066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923326848920943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041811060787010496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388687156154174,0.0,0.043202641374978264,0.0,0.14098562500108106,0.0,0.19840667132109802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624677950465692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085208599660988,0.0,0.08294582830618619,0.0,0.08143399102199736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630793382864642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045444818217625166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984402763373682,0.0845571633351883,0.0,0.04039865209374585,0.08287811878863137,0.0,0.07317894441830129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07824423593668209,0.16559067995921925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066003177701367,0.0,0.0,0.061314338405469335,0.0,0.15972699137561086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934425721420348,0.0,0.17354061614896985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893792864313688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563394708668763,0.0,0.0,0.0841264882316625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061767333203944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840286050356419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006382701811739,0.0636595817662959,0.0,0.0,0.058529124647882125,0.0,0.06603714984120689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455118032614678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054936234737278634,0.05298506224819482,0.0,0.0,0.09643558939052012,0.0,0.07838141156875703,0.1580296132370934,0.27561827429962216,0.0,0.0,0.16155420855911118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754660389896412,0.0,0.1989892284805442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426920679284132,0.05874132315244506,0.0,0.0,0.15975090382612392
parenting,cakemama75,2019/01/11,"How do I deal with my step daughter who vehemently hates me? **Hi! This is my first post so bare with me!** 

I am 25 and my husband is 35, we got married about 6 months back but have been together for about 4 years. My husband has a 15 year old daughter, Ali, who has always been a little finicky with me. Which I understand why, she is very close to her mom and but her parents have been split up for 11 years and her mom has since remarried. 

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About a year ago Ali decided she wanted to come live with her dad. The school district we are in has a better field hockey team and she was super pressed about going. My husband asked how I'd feel about her living with us and I was thrilled. To me Ali would be a welcomed addition! I think shes wonderful! I have a totally fine relationship with her mom and her and I spoke about Ali living with us and her mom was fine with it as Ali cares about field hockey and is actively pursuing scholarships for it. 

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So Ali moves in and she is happy to have her new home and school but not so happy to see me. 

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She lashed out when I told her if she wanted a part time job just to let me know because I can always a helping hand a my bakery and I know she loves cake decorating. Well I guess that wasn't up her alley as I later heard her and her friend in the living room and Ali told her ""She is 25 years old why I fucking work for her? Honestly I'm shocked she works, she looks like such a gold digger."" I was hurt and spoke to my husband about it and apologized for over stepping any boundaries I just know Ali was complaining about wanting money but nowhere being flexible I wasn't trying to force her to work. He told me not to worry and he would talk to her. 

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Well I guess she put two and two together and later in the week lets me know ""I know you heard what I said about you. You're so nosy. This is my house now so back out of my business. I'm trying to get a scholarship to go to school so I don't end married to a guy 10 years older than me and running a bakery."" I wanted to scream ""I PUT DOWN MONEY ON THIS HOUSE TOO!'

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Since then she refuses to speak with me. For Christmas we went to Bali, the reason this is important is I have been saving for this trip since I was 18 and due to my lack of shopping and some other great things career wise I paid in full for me, my husband and step daughter as a Christmas gift. We stayed in a beautiful Airbnb that was 2 bedrooms with a pool and stunning views. Well apparently this trip was a waste of her time, she had wanted to stay local to train some more, we mentioned ""Hey Ali, we asked if you wanted to join us and you said yes. You knew where Bali was."" I felt defeated that our trip was hated. Due to her attitude we left her in the Airbnb to mope while we explored. Our last day I was throwing up pretty bad (I was sugar overloaded from all the fruits I ate) well she decided it was time to announce ""Dad, I  hope she isn't pregnant. The last thing you need is paying for that for 18 years."" 

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Since getting home she hasn't spoken to me aside to tell me to turn down the tv. She  hates everything, she hate our home (Its spacious cottage style house that we loved), she hates our dog, she won't acknowledge my parents if they stop by.... she just hates me.

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I just don't know how to deal with this. I want a relationship with her, I don't want to be seen as the evil stepmom. I've tried to invite her shopping, to go to my gym and rock climb with me, to go to paint nights.... I know she loves cooking so I've tried to do cooking classes. She rejects it all. 

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I feel so defeated. She never seemed to hate me like this before. She used to be happy to go shoe shopping with, she used to love our Thursday dates which were me picking her up from school getting our nails done and then going to eat breakfast for dinner. But in the last year she has decided I'm the worst.

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I feel so sad and it makes me feel like I won't be a good mother.",1.6631256440623226,3.685391935601462,2.7390110278850166,93.98033222080379,79.82624544349939,5.722374148299676,21.596336342802648,6.764953529238486,0.3354700124582801,3125,92,688,32,79,995,317,823,0.103,0.7340000000000001,0.163,0.9952,4,0,0,0,0,0,122.0,18,6,1,10,37,47,9,0,30,1,64,15,2,8,4,124,141,56,0,16,14,17,7,3,1,4,0,8,5,1,28,56,8,2,23,12,9,21,12,19,4,3,38,21,144,28,105,92,10,89,0,5,4,5,130,25,1,10,43,452,172,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0327507779174338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06148477321351083,0.36028293958526475,0.40404557022374576,0.02512483700146884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690798428479764,0.0,0.0,0.05681904290145466,0.03084872291661782,0.02252219870101109,0.0,0.03143868776180068,0.0,0.0,0.03267611186464161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037669344218752544,0.0,0.0,0.031826075013300266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023827388623633275,0.07618028692337861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03780902188674248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03780541804692903,0.0,0.0,0.03272356764358484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03320506586448788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472489351988829,0.02639453451010908,0.0354743634621208,0.0,0.0,0.03142661154998695,0.0,0.0,0.028544717503544613,0.03415637599939308,0.05790894889575692,0.0,0.12598503383719034,0.03098890967944389,0.029549432432941506,0.04073356570455823,0.08140130844524791,0.036582770994161504,0.0,0.11799047423788707,0.0,0.2553386302359371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02476441091972842,0.0,0.11118083477370674,0.0366961380232536,0.0,0.127893647152187,0.039551913766759546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0366636274244912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421335285983943,0.09034880643820126,0.0,0.0,0.04014240055118743,0.07556044869027495,0.0,0.054150473329835136,0.03703002557838199,0.1304974861369411,0.0,0.0310256931073368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338236978745027,0.0,0.024662026616337224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730848329610564,0.02949028518334777,0.03926820437827472,0.0,0.027395307140918677,0.028495361830895908,0.03568308899048155,0.0,0.034671718498315976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753811921423615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820492687396453,0.04000937955149065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035384463700031,0.037587798282231716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428272671000491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03798707991283543,0.0,0.07933327060273836,0.0,0.0,0.0702890245926449,0.0,0.0,0.1495670245797816,0.029441518490985957,0.03363463912107572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222498633465088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875994964927384,0.0,0.030888866947905005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029696138155738117,0.03229280528503485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909112820694175,0.023673778302409472,0.0,0.0,0.06463127531112257,0.0,0.0,0.1059116816207361,0.0,0.10033679360333404,0.04018710265376866,0.07218258042869287,0.03846253302505728,0.13332600614114914,0.06381970008118197,0.0,0.030484671247184212,0.1743356770283462,0.0,0.029636194804926075,0.0,0.13287709822634994,0.03424970756296414,0.06667680662605201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04006682356526131,0.08069231567631246,0.03752088958452132,0.0,0.05249136275379408,0.0,0.40404557022374576,0.19033829890011025
parenting,psych406,2019/01/11,"Awww the fresh smell of pee! We were given a lot of cloth diapers for a baby shower gift. I never intended to use these but now that we have them, why not? It will save us a shit ton (pun intended) of money. Well no matter how many times I wash them, make sure there are no gaps and even have people show me, I cannot get them to stop leaking! If I don’t change them every hour, I’ll be putting a new outfit on her along with the new diaper. Sometimes they don’t even last the hour! It’s driving me crazy.  I have to buy disposables because there is no way the cloth could deal with her sleeping for 5-6 hours at night and constantly being peed on just isn’t that fun. Does anyone have any miracle advice or am I stuck with the pungent smell of pee soaked clothes forever?",2.4452211538461555,3.9181688875000056,3.517500000000002,91.76519230769232,75.75,6.9230769230769225,21.68269230769231,7.61054688173877,0.6276586538461535,602,15,134,8,13,194,111,160,0.151,0.7340000000000001,0.115,-0.8115,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,5,0,8,5,1,0,9,0,16,5,4,5,2,25,21,6,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,8,0,1,0,1,2,2,9,1,1,0,3,2,18,4,16,14,2,18,0,0,0,0,11,3,1,3,12,84,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967690100809054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112060407418396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142561647655418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960981337267356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728602020813096,0.0,0.0,0.1765821197462845,0.0,0.13046512727580015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168462774524181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14299630279660533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585414708991585,0.0,0.13767526535123653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537206141505005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4827612938612431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319640572139185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389205883580962,0.0,0.0,0.1090737143942778,0.1656664272336829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260275567071931,0.3156340002224385,0.0,0.15334397208617478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328404529517976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16426656745694915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773228154579953,0.0,0.0,0.16352242150403312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616111424906489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661340585881754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400672524404346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528242716210747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655538913329376,0.1411289479099824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970281702441155,0.0,0.0,0.1469201911804789,0.0,0.1474470666136321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zigzagzombies,2019/01/11,"Struggling to quit, need some encouragement I've been smoking since I was 14, and I'll be 30 this year. Over the years I've quit just to save money, because I felt like a break, ect. All no problem. I quit the moment I found out I was pregnant, cold turkey and had no problems staying away from them till recently. I work in the restaurant business so I'm constantly around smokers and over the holidays I picked it back up casually at parties and whatnot. 

But the holidays have been insane for me this year. My son's first Christmas and now he will be turning one in a few days, so even though we just saw all the grandparents over the holidays they'll all be back next weekend for his first birthday party. 

I thought I'd just quit cold turkey again but it isn't this easy this time around and I'm finding myself bumming them at work. I never ever smoke around my son and when I have a cigarette at home I wait until he's in bed asleep so I have time to air out. I'm also trying to rationalize it to myself ""they smoked in the car with babies in the 70's, those babies turned out okay!"". And finally making excuses to postpone quitting.

I just need some advice and words of encouragement, I really do want to quit. But all this family stuff is stressful and I do genuinely enjoy smoking.",4.091646792763157,5.453764558593754,4.967861842105265,83.44358552631581,71.3828125,7.889473684210527,27.92680921052632,8.371475516178862,1.9070578125,1021,37,200,16,19,332,142,256,0.084,0.812,0.104,0.5062,1,0,4,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,4,10,19,11,0,2,12,1,17,1,1,2,6,47,31,21,0,5,7,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,10,18,0,1,4,5,1,1,4,4,0,3,9,4,26,7,33,17,7,46,0,0,1,0,13,20,0,2,24,139,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033105807893963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210771712660886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742027351950987,0.0,0.0,0.096464846708774,0.15789869897978145,0.0,0.06258862683100089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095324871735247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621571697859448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781467711212973,0.09287378323234996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967911507777362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858236872309876,0.11247346674282603,0.09384144035386263,0.17466753481547548,0.0,0.1125758590571055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029895862712892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016093696350889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853515508309793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226174658397248,0.07918789775921051,0.0,0.10919410792376497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957401428762088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964887630248104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6552334884910269,0.0,0.0,0.06577507795853904,0.0,0.10137739369809794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849323280856233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943596500650532,0.0,0.0,0.117611798233693,0.1073363163898414,0.1175362441858569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087589300825243,0.08151104830143213,0.11973913162329425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970835991221745,0.2233579061091344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055931071445082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949461791127033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983545143558468
parenting,Thrgd456,2019/01/11,"Perfect example of miscommunication Here is a great example of a situation that leaves me feeling like there is an unbridgable gap between men and women or at least between me and my daughters. This morning I noticed that my 15 year old daughter was wearing the same pants that she had worn the day before. So I ask her if she needs some pants. She says she does. I just picked her up from school. I say, let's go to Target and buy some jeans. She declines and tells me that she thinks they probably don't have any because summer clothing is coming out. WTF? OK, do you have any other pants at home? Yes but they are dirty. OK, the pants you have worn for five days in a row aren't dirty?

You tell me you need pants. I'm here, driving you to a store that sells pants, and now you don't want to buy pants?

Never had this problem with my son.",2.085264705882352,4.138405570588237,2.8525735294117682,93.53533088235297,78.58823529411767,5.4264705882352935,22.389705882352942,6.322622252153567,0.2458529411764707,657,20,143,5,16,206,106,170,0.119,0.795,0.087,-0.8285,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,6,2,1,6,6,0,0,8,3,15,1,1,1,2,24,26,9,0,5,4,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,8,8,0,0,2,0,4,3,4,1,0,1,5,3,27,5,15,20,4,15,0,0,0,0,26,5,0,4,8,93,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524588536453533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353165250765326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315353937018012,0.0,0.1579507773919964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989704556927234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394218604058254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624391937945822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385613604030152,0.132608500595154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549334514803248,0.0,0.0,0.20464907497826265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861941505176896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19654705445460866,0.0,0.18981122401072836,0.0,0.09068560604263318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752729434883242,0.143163244832533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113320473469585,0.1947792207517446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001320721015446,0.17761532812310726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952283670045933,0.0,0.1878595250506031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864707314903405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244838803442144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189391782189697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948475299931744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953457832960072
parenting,hmmmnono,2019/01/11,"What do I do when my 16 month old throws tantrums? I admit that I am impatient and I get flustered easily when my toddler does something he’s not supposed to do. Like when I tell him to not jump on the couch, sometimes he listens. But sometimes he gets up there and jumps on purpose. And then when I go towards him to pick him up off the couch, he starts laughing like it’s a game. I am working on remaining calm and being levelheaded but it is driving me nuts. 

I don’t know the right way to react and discipline him at this age. I’m currently reading “ No Bad Kids” ( I’m only only page 20 or so” and they said to avoid yelling and don’t do timeouts. But then how do I get him to understand that he shouldn’t be doing something if I don’t give timeouts ? I would just appreciate any extra tips on how to deal with toddlers around this age and how to get them to listen more. Of course, I know it’s normal for them to test boundaries but I just want to make sure I’m doing my best and that we’ll have a healthy relationship. ",2.9606161971831,4.115834600938971,4.116428990610332,89.26084066901409,73.88262910798122,7.015140845070423,26.927523474178404,7.413659706084162,1.2323523474178404,802,29,176,9,16,262,120,213,0.084,0.785,0.13,0.8343,1,1,2,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,3,2,12,9,1,1,5,0,19,0,0,6,1,38,38,25,0,5,10,0,0,2,0,3,0,4,2,1,9,11,0,2,4,2,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,4,26,6,24,32,4,29,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,2,14,116,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760916902120977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539585522896542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440263502512946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149609295944585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782996689756058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513461565938446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614284599802454,0.1659055035979578,0.09828916261781603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009313018522275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689852998198496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544275716323305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380437984297873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16945030022268068,0.0,0.0,0.1814776702376356,0.0,0.0,0.2630663595524474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299274052761862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856792151681892,0.0,0.1476948868603749,0.164511192115775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26628446627923824,0.34209591157738,0.0,0.12241202570155647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299950068249966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511623734997623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004282166142496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020079956382162,0.13727643632829206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125906703295673,0.0,0.0,0.12285583293343738,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xCaffeineQueen,2019/01/11,"Love your kids This might be controversial, but I feel it’s important. 

My job involves talking with people who are struggling, and a lot of the people I talk to are kids to young adults. It’s just by chance, I don’t specialize in this age group. But I would like to share a trend that I see that’s alarming to me. 

A lot of kids see themselves as burdens. Especially children who are violent, I would like to say something on their behalf: they’re expressing their emotions the only way they know how. If they knew how to in a more conducive way to where they’re understood, they would in a heartbeat. You can bring them to counselors and therapists, but in the end, it boils down to your relationship with your child. And only you hold the key that they need because of the patterns in the family.

If they’re different than you expect, or you find them difficult to understand, spend time with them and get to know them. Not their materialistic likes, but what they enjoy pouring their time into- then keep yourself updated on that by asking them and listening. They can tell if you don’t care and you’re asking only because you feel like you have to. Kids are purely human, and feel those small things we’ve learned to either ignore, or pretend isn’t there. Connection is insanely important, you validate their existence by choosing to set aside time for them, and loving them from your heart- not what you’ve been told you should do. 

Every relationship is different, just ensure that you understand them when they’re struggling. Or just be there with your presence to display their importance to you with your time. Time’s something we don’t get back which makes it most precious. It’s almost an instinctual appreciation of those who show us they care with their time. Not everything an be understood immediately either, but again, it can take time and just be there with them for the ride. 

Don’t treat them like there’s something wrong with them, we’re here to give them love and guidance. They won’t take your guidance sometimes but that doesn’t mean they’re not listening or choosing a wrong path, it means they’re discovering their selves and they need support, to know someone will always have their back in a genuine way. Where you want them to enjoy existence and get through the hard times. 

I understand not every case is the same, and this might not apply to a lot of people, but to those who it does, you’ll feel it. Please, adjust yourself to meet them where they are instead of expecting them to, or passing them off to someone else to ‘fix.’ 

A disclaimer, this is my opinion and you’re entitled to be upset with me, but there isn’t a reason to be because I’m just a random person sharing my thoughts. Have a good day everyone! And love your children with your presence and appreciation of their existence, and the contribution their life adds to yours. ❤️",6.1079184637502575,7.227874780036969,5.735158656808384,80.71045620250568,66.44916820702403,8.968597247894847,30.554579995892386,9.150863307647796,2.489123187512836,2300,84,429,40,36,709,220,541,0.073,0.752,0.175,0.9965,3,0,3,0,0,0,58.0,2,23,37,0,21,30,1,4,24,0,39,7,1,4,1,107,82,38,0,12,29,0,5,5,0,9,1,3,0,10,30,30,1,3,22,2,1,3,14,10,0,0,6,10,74,20,65,61,8,40,0,0,2,4,98,15,0,17,23,300,104,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562106939723548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283760807762899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119958045129394,0.0,0.0,0.11613843761899192,0.0,0.13810649574385658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399269541676572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048703313994373235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578019363298687,0.0,0.0,0.06608692328228095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308618350277782,0.08494837296182174,0.0668871530630454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725552369107598,0.07216135413360088,0.06787133808687602,0.0,0.0711923093686159,0.0,0.1527380952139054,0.053950574369955685,0.0,0.0,0.06902272366417005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836621149313788,0.07244441837931913,0.0,0.06334150260025814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676499218163862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949002310936896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494065702427062,0.06712449043542136,0.0,0.0,0.124509307607522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05334109116388835,0.18447311111767356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19260989449935875,0.2726343007906688,0.0,0.05040931866288213,0.0,0.0,0.16452400673290615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022681315939485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199231831331152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723061230607947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706547366845725,0.06594001594869134,0.0,0.08289685476094236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764580122259593,0.0,0.1621576434327944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060055501339346035,0.0,0.0,0.12035725292325294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797349888654866,0.17441395431155804,0.07468992530899783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789708421714352,0.0,0.0,0.08569772582387877,0.0,0.0,0.11356132796492213,0.12139814092633583,0.06600667242218286,0.0,0.0,0.0876830313042788,0.05017126864312135,0.0,0.0,0.0599534122800257,0.3522844902063415,0.0,0.0,0.07216135413360088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235852890032648,0.09083969772873898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04454288588254922,0.17982968686358575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609389532297449,0.16513568665358302,0.0,0.0
parenting,lifesabeachblonde,2019/01/11,"I broke up with my live-in BF and he has moved out. How do I explain this to my kids? So my ex-bf and I were together for 2 years and have lived together with me, my 8 year old, and 9 year old for 6 months. Unfortunately the relationship didn't work out and it's not going to get any better so I asked him to move out yesterday. His things were gone by the time I got off work and I gave my kids a lame excuse why he wasn't there last night. Luckily they will be with their dad for the weekend so it gives me some time to get my ducks in a row. I will have to tell them soon what is going on and I know it is going to hurt them because they love him a lot and will more than likely never see him again. Does anyone have any insight on the best way to tell them?",1.943382642998028,2.4864464497041467,3.5877071005917185,94.42444033530576,75.62721893491123,7.053451676528598,20.00049309664694,7.1686216300943375,0.012455226824457988,586,10,151,6,12,196,101,169,0.068,0.835,0.097,0.7059,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,6,4,7,7,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,1,1,22,29,12,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,6,14,0,0,3,1,0,6,4,3,0,0,7,1,26,4,23,18,4,30,0,3,1,1,25,8,0,2,16,98,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20556043901222976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568043426662277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129527309864445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213339478042888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861185338797826,0.133670835351405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322634223639222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792857292371235,0.14498702965918833,0.2576886256319739,0.0,0.12088027283764205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617982388740201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306245937133605,0.12319907663866544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383925230208263,0.0,0.2669183539253781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849361902164955,0.13640953416134072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063831436061505,0.32127529148739203,0.0,0.0,0.11656830027253227,0.0,0.0,0.14183442613788133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31719150705194993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226753961052104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204388204755307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642056237395746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041054062594172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17626161881299554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996770639791332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638012498532345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22006309048381767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919871501091253
parenting,Abyss_95,2019/01/11,Transition from bed to crib..to own room.. I need help.. my daughter will be 5 months end of January and has been sleeping with us in bed since a month old.. im a light sleeper so usually every sound or movement she does wakes me up. How can I successfully get her to sleep in her own bed again? I also nurse to sleep is this something I should stop? I read that a consistent bed time routine would help.  And I would like to get her in her own room when shes 6 or 7 months old.. will that be an even harder transition if I tried to get her to sleep in her very own room AND her own bed? First time mom.. if you have any tips or tricks it would be appreciated.. ,0.6800411099691672,2.623531870503601,2.2893371017471758,96.33303956834536,82.81294964028775,5.9858170606372045,19.281089414182944,7.1686216300943375,0.07894203494347353,506,13,123,7,14,165,84,139,0.028,0.903,0.068,0.7383,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,2,6,3,1,0,4,0,15,5,5,1,0,16,19,12,0,7,5,2,0,1,0,6,0,1,8,0,4,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,20,2,14,9,5,22,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,5,14,76,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204199970395183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527627398391646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260691918882105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409153525490105,0.0,0.0,0.0925380987173798,0.0,0.1180445913851926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917332845771793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959740000662292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878189935879305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133755265812093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684482760097842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408940251725754,0.3354916679652345,0.0,0.0,0.10388615810240356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940334733324341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014301674698132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589638844241446,0.0,0.5608251381833984,0.0,0.0,0.1078597526792588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713413902781887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339282371231442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951221677324718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685291874005369,0.0,0.15430597630189805,0.11560138240445275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985799346217005,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crunluathamac,2019/01/11,"Advice on night wakings x-post from Sleeptrain  

Hi there, looking for some advice so that parents and kid can get some better sleep.

Son is 8 month old, EBF, and coslept for the first six months. We did Ferber at 6 months and it worked like a charm within a week. We had him in bed at 7 with one waking for milk between 12-4.

Fast forward to when he was 7 months old, we had just moved houses and he started to wake at night again. We did Ferber again and it worked for about 3 days but since then nights have been crap and we've just kind of dealt with it. He's starting to learn how to crawl and stand so we know that can mess with sleep but it's been long enough now that I don't think it's that or that it's the 8 month regression.

His schedule now is 630-7AM wake up, 1st nap around 9 for 1-2 hrs, second nap at 130-230 for 1ish hour and then bed at 7. He goes to bed very easily for naps and nighttime, no crying and falls asleep quickly.

His night wakings seem random but a common time for him to wake is around 10 or 11PM. We're sometimes successful in giving him milk and putting him back in the crib but sometimes he'll wake immediately and cry and then one of us needs to sit with him for an hour or so before we can put him back in the crib. Some nights he's wide awake from 1-3AM ready to play and won't go to sleep no matter how hard we try. Usually we end up feeding him 2 times a night in order to get him back in his crib.

We have the in-laws living with us so my wife is reluctant to go back to Ferber and less so to try CIO but we're wearing down and may attempt it all again. It seems like he has gained stamina now and we'd be looking at hour long crying fests instead of what we had before.

In addition, a few times he's started screaming after about 1 hr and he's inconsolable for about 30 mins. I was thinking it might be night terrors as it didn't seem like he was fully awake. This isn't common but still leads to him spending the night in our bed.

What should we do? Should we go back to Ferber or go straight CIO and just deal with long screaming sessions? Should we wait until he's mastered crawling, or standing?",3.2697832883330946,3.8722020462555085,3.8189697314196382,93.76707758988206,72.59030837004406,6.5629103311070045,23.45573397754725,6.0311780096671335,0.2411379280943584,1675,40,391,8,31,527,212,454,0.08800000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.085,-0.625,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,17,0,0,9,31,13,1,1,12,0,33,16,13,3,1,78,54,43,0,4,14,3,1,3,0,7,0,2,4,1,18,41,3,1,7,4,1,10,6,5,0,5,11,5,32,8,64,33,7,93,0,0,2,0,47,24,1,14,60,231,50,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706107512511526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486170752336692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696294380001233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935147485504236,0.0,0.0,0.06202456942735244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311045921029894,0.04522825500417778,0.07230128105277482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211464820624715,0.07246336812223159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965281481539514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328039590774152,0.06727539379492185,0.15942670924071942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282299219469324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20719271712964,0.08092097401273994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302993688588194,0.038541790096099086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278639657262033,0.0,0.061926357873640786,0.18618938038553307,0.11778361294264393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439718747801316,0.0,0.0,0.27988676381755284,0.07453743207995593,0.0,0.05200074405376905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5265004404618764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717994840976678,0.0,0.09504424035405556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787142158294001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716546125510935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100068451116132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153202969535613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058012525847856475,0.0,0.2105429034216048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872136046054775,0.0,0.14891580548641328,0.0,0.05600616456503553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987335531278033,0.0,0.0,0.1226806616196844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522776832732853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871628135418051,0.0,0.07723864012501494,0.057864859077282074,0.0,0.0,0.05625431293218644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211141718557253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThotRobot,2019/01/11,"Military School for my child? I've heard Reddit was really good for replies (unlike Facebook 🙄)

I have an 8 year old, a 13 year old and a 16 year old, they're all male and some of them are more better behaved than the others. 

The youngest is always picking fights with other kids. The middle child is always playing video games and rarely leaves his room and the oldest is beginning to get really close to people who look like drug addicts and I'm concerned for his own sobriety.

What could I expect if I sent all three to a military boarding school? ",3.7946313603322963,5.779469065420562,4.155077881619938,86.44815160955349,73.29906542056074,6.9985462097611615,24.038421599169265,7.793537801064563,1.2371212876427828,438,13,83,6,9,137,77,107,0.026,0.87,0.104,0.8098,0,0,1,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,0,5,1,0,8,0,7,2,0,1,2,14,13,6,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,4,4,7,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,7,4,9,9,5,12,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,2,9,47,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200287721193788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057483737074508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16249011811434208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466897207312237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21306304601375015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598889840308676,0.0,0.0,0.1541000843339702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19453858945503086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975891260422197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428299910570706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5783664624027031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737200595009568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23539829323010325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718796714654039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549392534607454
parenting,ItsallvowelsbutY,2019/01/11,"School testing shows my 8 year old has low average intelligence She's wonderful. So well behaved, kind, interesting, a great artist. Academically not doing so hot. Testing was done and she scored low average or low on everything - IQ came out to 89. I am wondering where to best focus my energies? I already have daily tutoring in place. I don't know if I should work on her weaknesses (math, reading) or her strengths more (art, friendship) to best prepare her for adult life.  I feel like I should be dilligent about teaching her real world skills, taking care of herself, budgeting, staying out of trouble with the law, filing taxes, learning a second language, not falling prey to scams or propeganda. Also, should I keep this information secret from people? I know how damning perception can be. I want to give her the best chance to enjoy the richness that comes from having a deep understanding of different concepts, genius ideas and humor etc, and also the company of others with the same appreciation. Please, please point me in the direction of great blogs, books, podcasts, theories, studies, and share your own relevant personal experiences. Thank you.",7.567257142857144,9.41059504,7.386428571428571,67.55000000000001,63.6,10.714285714285717,36.785714285714285,10.7630783206399,4.577921428571429,928,45,139,25,14,295,145,200,0.073,0.628,0.299,0.9946,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,0,6,8,22,1,0,9,0,14,2,0,1,0,36,28,13,0,5,6,0,2,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,3,10,0,1,11,6,3,3,3,6,1,1,3,2,22,16,23,20,7,20,0,3,0,0,16,14,1,6,3,96,25,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684337877623554,0.212828184504342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189386334013072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219385705260385,0.1356712619672862,0.0,0.0,0.11462593390119155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390272946701324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617433006889146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484055217875738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959255683828078,0.13016562275045798,0.0,0.0,0.06728296453305008,0.09506350270475117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765054390934716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29341494407081536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021709598201355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827657541337055,0.0,0.1385694031545275,0.14626091923012438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398956402874796,0.06501009600911585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963203637519642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225230225549663,0.11618947449020275,0.1390272946701324,0.2921364774633698,0.12579187032633005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310358572692282,0.15146003340455033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467149079893825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418323305463527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005025650070178,0.0,0.0,0.12251074555899072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852803923701412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848670384000989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964373137365004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886122192386613,0.09687477997398564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856911559918697
parenting,Life_with_lemonz,2019/01/11,"I think my son has Munchausen Sydrome This has all really started about a month ago.

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So start, my son 12, on the spectrum with ADHD and well as a LD.

in the last month he's been convinced he had mouth cancer, then HIV, then kidney failure now he believes he has heart disease. Its never ending imaginary  Symptoms of things. I get interrupted in sleep, in washroom, in shower. I get question after question after question. He's constantly hounding me about blood tests and seeing a Doctor.

There is nothing wrong with him at all, but all it takes is one symptom of something and that's it, he's dying of something. It's become an obsession and im not even sure what to do. I need to constantly reassure him that he's ok, until next week when its something else. I also should note that while he thinks he needs to see a Dr, he seems resistant to any tests or medicine, and believes all medicine to be poison.

Im so lost right now. Im wondering if this behavior has anything to do with his father recently getting awarded visitation. He was abusive to me and was out of the picture for several years and has only recently gotten every other weekend visitations. Thinking back, on the very first visit he had with my son, my oldest daughter told me my son drank his pop too quickly and his tummy hurt, his father told him it was an ulcer. Im pretty sure he doesnt have an ulcer but i think that's when his concerns about his health started.

I cant talk to their father about it. Long story short, he's crazy. At this point im wondering if i bring my son to his Pedi maybe and bring up my concerns.",3.591258519961052,5.4144534082278515,4.5721518987341785,83.92985881207402,73.46202531645571,6.886854917234664,27.97663096397273,7.61054688173877,1.7262370009737098,1271,50,238,16,26,413,171,316,0.111,0.831,0.058,-0.9593,1,0,3,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,1,3,17,12,1,1,11,1,20,16,5,0,7,40,45,24,1,5,6,9,0,0,0,1,10,0,1,0,17,14,1,0,10,1,0,5,4,5,1,2,11,2,29,7,36,32,4,50,0,2,2,1,44,13,0,9,32,151,46,4,0.0,0.10163255903009256,0.0,0.0,0.10308813742760606,0.0,0.07603676375196987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859640312605958,0.0,0.0929401121747514,0.10422930562167028,0.05833178375804299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058774600857877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595776369957859,0.0,0.0,0.09473474069497063,0.0,0.19328420911916167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853904612991596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890237196859752,0.0,0.0,0.08779712016784713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165626935391163,0.0,0.07597359025516028,0.0,0.0,0.05665536799511967,0.0,0.07227141963643519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296247569982983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444593827396278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117769382539938,0.0,0.1016469985084826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182681188835186,0.0,0.4632732277930584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992028166713192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591057345176533,0.0,0.0,0.09363650247860784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617523828638704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369338983713601,0.0,0.0,0.12720616910157995,0.06615705743005768,0.0,0.09122556695345788,0.0,0.0,0.08230602549834333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058125195757333076,0.06523781320426468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108766108193631,0.0,0.0,0.08726676798786391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882719966567747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054951397032931816,0.0,0.16939027924161673,0.0,0.0,0.07325369504952729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670745724831695,0.07808880494928991,0.0,0.09690439583990144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858396569226432,0.0,0.0,0.19810761398618332,0.0,0.0,0.18214171238603336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168895173072528,0.1783117672946484,0.06449416221607421,0.06894487352288957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05698689855855148,0.21985157023566249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392855429311634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077559353009223,0.0,0.0,0.068805704358246,0.0,0.07712446213763048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860445333789707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378445949477396,0.10422930562167028,0.05523803244806074
parenting,cmaronchick,2019/01/11,"STRONG Resistance to Pull-out Class Our 8 yo son tested into an accelerated class two years ago. It requires taking a bus to a different school one day a week. While Mom and I were over the moon proud of him, he has resented it almost the entire time. 

The reason he provides (which we think is the honest answer) is that he misses his friends. He is the only kid in his grade from his school that qualified, so he misses his friends once a week.

Today he was in a particularly sour mood about it. Ultimately we told him that he cannot take the obstinate position minutes before we have to get him to the bus, and I ushered him into our car to get him to school, and he was crying.

While we believe that the class offers valuable challenges for him - it focuses on long-term projects and extended curriculum - it's only going to be valuable if he's interested.

I'm embarrassed to say that we bribed him before - for each week that he went to the class without incident, he would get to spend $5 on Roblox (or whatever the free-to-play game of the week was), but today that didn't work. And ultimately, he's going to figure out that $5 is an arbitrary number.

Any suggestions on how we can turn this into less of a battle? Thanks!",7.39932098765432,6.088121329218107,7.943713991769549,74.17754629629631,64.10288065843622,11.227572016460906,33.007201646090536,10.317481424215053,3.121581893004115,965,31,190,19,12,322,134,243,0.048,0.85,0.102,0.8772,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,8,0,0,5,3,16,2,1,19,0,15,0,0,2,0,28,30,12,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,15,16,0,1,4,1,1,4,3,5,0,2,7,2,21,10,29,21,2,26,0,2,0,0,41,10,0,3,12,115,36,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181675523373824,0.0,0.13348650706517431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065251820350972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22686684211758104,0.15018999211737485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643016651157256,0.08597121568668238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927619284345422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598346751088115,0.0,0.20894034232388528,0.0,0.15152152128228072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179714419538246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612614690630935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419663309936414,0.09033146300360936,0.20277014238369934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370605689141455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601012611612537,0.0,0.4047377725546272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20045874950658032,0.0,0.0,0.12273007443864906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085416976770021,0.0,0.0,0.07773168652881954,0.0,0.2527166309556643,0.12737940874371714,0.0,0.0,0.1449984353989679,0.1302204007513728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277195014446077,0.0,0.0,0.12357581615892585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850203835716198,0.0,0.0970482132255906,0.0,0.0,0.09469661867432534,0.0,0.0,0.0858445673939028
parenting,brynn-bunny,2019/01/11,"I’m concerned about my stepdaughters (4) relationship with food Her mother is anorexic, which is one of the main reasons my husband ended up leaving her. He tried helping her for a long time but it got to the point where nothing was helping. They couldn’t go out to eat or for drinks, she had basically no sex drive, and it caused a lot of stress for him.

Now it seems his daughter is picking up on some of her moms behaviours. She started saying something was too many calories the other day, and that it was too much to eat. I asked her if she knew what calories were and she just said too many make you fat. I told her that was true but you’d need to eat huge amounts to get fat and she needs calories to grow and for her hair and nails etc to grow healthily. She’s also saying certain foods are bad and certain foods are good. Now I’m all for healthy eating and there are foods that aren’t always good to eat but I don’t like the fact that she’s already thinking so much about food at her age. 

Does anyone have any advice on helping her have a healthy relationship with food, even though she’s around an anorexic mother half the time? ",4.755385735080059,5.4211016855895195,4.534305676855894,89.74544687045125,69.26200873362446,6.980029112081515,28.367103347889376,6.42735559955562,1.0718224745269291,902,30,191,5,15,275,130,229,0.045,0.804,0.15,0.9749,1,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,1,0,15,8,0,1,9,0,18,16,3,4,5,35,33,16,0,4,6,5,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,11,12,14,0,4,1,0,4,4,2,0,2,10,4,27,6,27,21,8,23,0,0,0,1,38,10,0,5,10,126,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852915300640764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631850090298527,0.06979985019481072,0.07262610122619399,0.0,0.0,0.05935514957577599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061030011545705726,0.0,0.0,0.07770000396800998,0.08159743294400343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287731111769898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966325596867178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05629004541096985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638157668409702,0.0,0.0,0.08550370264105428,0.0,0.4465593633142833,0.0,0.0,0.07730646181005878,0.0,0.09734315229892908,0.05764932297578314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6332546758765731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045601547229708425,0.0,0.04960470342075232,0.14641697927083655,0.06980785514485101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755110269026456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241965292466747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042641861303797136,0.0,0.0,0.07724233944742352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742045309224995,0.0,0.0,0.05826180199970603,0.1769816795015812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222430646118323,0.0,0.0,0.12832548292670592,0.12943785887474538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374999253761377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059144937219960524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251025328202022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897410323514333,0.0,0.1874176593737011,0.0,0.0,0.08302572406714387,0.1388212267428416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945878557707596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671943967347457,0.0,0.0,0.061779061580473374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998190407846172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05592715495352773,0.08575469476744155,0.0,0.1017903522622009,0.0,0.0,0.0834022485937354,0.0,0.059259144566106925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wolv90,2019/01/11,"Celiacs and siblings Hello all,

My youngest (5) just got diagnosed with celiacs. It's a bit of a relief to know what wrong as she was still struggling with potty training, and a huge daunting task what with gluten being poison for her. On the flip side her older brother (8) is getting a little jealous of the attention she has been receiving and acting out. He doesn't seem to get that fact that he still gets to eat literally everything while she needs to spend the rest of her life being 'that' girl who asks about kitchen conditions before ordering anything at a restaurant. 

I don't know if this is a rant, or a request for advice, but  has anyone been through something similar? I don't know if I should reward him in some way because of his behavior, but I don't want him to feel he is any less important to us or we don't love him as much?

Also, to any parents of celiacs, are there any non-obvious foods we should know about? I know anything with flour or breads or pasta (that don't specifically say ""Gluten-Free"") are off the menu, but are there foods that you thought were safe only to have a flare up?

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Thanks",6.149856643356642,6.317706468181823,6.028181818181817,81.98534965034966,66.13636363636363,8.951048951048953,32.37762237762238,8.617729084823388,2.4281748251748247,893,34,174,12,13,280,137,220,0.071,0.8420000000000001,0.087,0.7602,1,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,3,1,0,1,8,9,2,1,12,0,23,10,0,0,2,37,40,16,0,6,10,2,1,0,0,2,3,1,1,1,10,10,6,1,9,0,1,2,6,4,0,0,6,2,20,5,30,30,6,17,0,0,0,1,27,9,0,8,4,119,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356492819362879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101101775373656,0.0,0.15040695973089666,0.1686765015297316,0.2831986979173498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706329850711874,0.0,0.22846730056543466,0.0,0.1297741191696644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462087861491116,0.0,0.11812209883327225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155099979920644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408952071533235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204331175674842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475877178868935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018948536066724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357134524413696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757672065138786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102374897949932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814479162885948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804976897548487,0.0,0.1391299908669505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528676121934662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204565213015636,0.10293022412975228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055757402691325,0.0,0.0,0.15413861902719234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039196805963046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637277346252682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686725470117177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22171709948481275,0.0,0.0,0.14512050926954675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780302178441186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020431144326076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669784247333808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187720901446534,0.11018559280270417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177338495236334,0.1686765015297316,0.0
parenting,hurcor,2019/01/11,"How the heck did you get your kid to poop in the potty? We did the 3 day potty training method with our 2.5 year old boy and was so astounded with the results. He peed and pooped in the potty after the 2nd night. We were singing in rejoice and he gets up at night to go potty too, which I hear a lot of boys have problems wetting the bed. It's been two weeks and now he likes to poop in his underwear. We constantly tell him we dont poop in our pants anymore. We go in the potty. Having poop in your underwear is really yucky. Tell mommy and daddy when you need to go potty. It's just poop too. He goes pee in the potty just fine. We have one of those sesame street seats you put over the top of a normal sized toilet. A step stool to get up to it. I just cant help but feel frustrated by this as we usually have to strip all the clothing off and give him a bath everytime he poos. And I know being frustrated doesn't help at all. We dont want to use pull ups either. We threw all the diapers away when starting the training. Maybe I'm just getting ahead of myself and really want him to understand.",2.4605627705627704,3.707686333333335,3.7691125541125565,90.89747835497835,75.27705627705629,7.2112554112554115,21.924242424242426,7.793537801064563,0.722941125541126,857,21,193,12,18,281,130,231,0.087,0.8740000000000001,0.039,-0.9066,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,11,5,0,2,11,5,2,0,17,0,15,7,7,3,3,40,34,14,0,5,6,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,6,19,0,0,3,2,0,7,4,3,0,2,6,3,24,2,35,27,5,39,0,0,0,0,34,18,1,1,15,124,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141637963241106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344679263113627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649915819444444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984652186410049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578769182200074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719900714448989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190735616259641,0.14646345207359412,0.2603127035492523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720801449267096,0.0,0.20467481134782686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390829556164756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745911673348826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298020868182354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533864125443535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320942256729427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865574903336164,0.14959284283698845,0.0,0.0,0.16021075540501015,0.0,0.10345913087035792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609302666006732,0.0,0.1534844007096936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19561994426218665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806686620245537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668960651246978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14914503801171047,0.1589440531491046,0.0,0.13186549355778154,0.1681541679364145,0.0,0.18010786690340008,0.0,0.12246975307483332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832016483736324
parenting,FamilyOnStandby,2019/01/11,"Wife Consistently Undermining Potty Training... ...and I've about had it. I hear consistency is key for potty training, so we try our hardest to make sure we're on the same page. But in this instance, she's constantly going against the norm and I am at the end of my rope. And I fear for my kid's progress. 

The thing is: she puts the toilet paper rolls on backwards. Like, she objectively knows she's wrong. The paper folds over, not under. It's common sense and I think she's deliberately undermining.

How do I address this? ",1.991402640264024,4.669010376237626,3.581608910891092,84.37525165016504,83.85148514851484,6.138943894389437,23.26815181518152,7.492282038375204,1.209494389438944,412,15,80,7,12,136,69,101,0.112,0.813,0.075,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,6,0,5,0,0,2,1,13,10,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,14,2,12,9,2,12,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,4,51,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382762382192823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772533185950408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35224787487434633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790322205040907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528096610264443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203412588372718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293155682891324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20895119985485985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146834831543013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950288271025345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20796446092297435,0.20057817868501995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125280876057201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422512025591967,0.0,0.0
parenting,chris5878,2019/01/11,"Question About TV The days that I have custody of my daughter, I tend to leave the tv on all day on one specific channel, such as Disney or Nick JR. I think part of it is she can view it at any time and it also sort of serves its purpose as background noise. I won't change the channel to anything that I have interests in until she goes to bed, but I feel like I may not be setting up any boundaries by leaving the tv on all day on something child related. Is this normal or am I overthinking this?",6.6325,4.8261718653846195,7.045076923076923,81.59992307692309,65.92307692307692,9.858461538461539,36.184615384615384,8.238735603445708,2.7012215384615392,390,16,84,4,5,128,72,104,0.011,0.94,0.049,0.5647,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,2,13,12,8,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,8,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,11,2,18,9,3,13,0,0,1,0,5,7,0,5,6,61,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488862780909934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31444457625168204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025591583395104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24457639268209086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44730995380215777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690044733892037,0.16516760325462884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4896097273602844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295146338682435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22652454860739665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666546925149147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250364458054508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25899421091469504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17798719874145208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814207921313513,0.0,0.0,0.134813172961239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ddsrjaljh,2019/01/11,"A Victory for the new year! My 2 year old was born at 28 weeks she has since been involved in multiple intervention programs and thousands of appointments that felt like we were going no where. Well today she had developmental therapy and was evaluated, all of her skills are at 3 year old levels and we may be released from all developmental therapy before January is over! I’m so excited because it’s one less thing to think about during the week. She will still have her developmental pediatrics and audiology and cardiology but something has been resolved and I have hope that our year will be much smoother until we begin potty training haha",8.142271062271064,8.913473923076925,8.678998778998778,62.60846153846156,61.905982905982896,11.813919413919413,37.227106227106226,11.491704259439757,4.685269597069596,527,24,85,15,7,176,88,117,0.013,0.856,0.13,0.9223,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,3,1,17,1,0,0,2,17,23,9,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,9,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,7,1,11,6,11,11,4,21,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,15,64,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135589534154797,0.0,0.1585166939685094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886493416195293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587131373873412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18502523148965874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101052047837087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369425329325132,0.0,0.0,0.17991734706650106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3909541774612824,0.0,0.12623303381857426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409870413974855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341299448658895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876920556680728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260713166568811,0.0,0.12376094392851555,0.11936532143689067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657849192959402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29885672442039113,0.0,0.16749457288547034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4798514191469441
parenting,WarSport223,2019/01/11,"What exactly constitutes “screen time” and specifically, “BAD” screen time? 
We’ve all read articles & studies warning against screen time for children / infants.

Last night I read another article that claimed that “screen time is even worse than we thought for kids brains.”

https://thefederalist.com/2019/01/10/screen-time-worse-kids-brains-thought/


My question is this;

I of course and obviously want the best for my daughter, but most of all, I want her to have an appreciation, a deep love, for classical and other types of music.

To that end, I thought she might enjoy music more if she could **see** people performing instead of merely hearing the music; if she could watch opera singers singing, watch symphony orchestras playing all the different instruments, the conductor moving about, etc. I’ve also found some wonderful waltzes with women dressed up in huge ball gowns and the men decked to the nines dancing to the music, and figure that is also good exposure for her.

Boy, was I right; my daughter LOVES watching opera, symphonies, and all sorts of music videos! I’ve also introduced her to some of my other favorite genres; Michael Jackson, Frank Sinatra / Rat Pack, and some soft 80’s power ballads. (To Be With You / Mr. Big, More Than Words / Extreme, G&R Patience; that type of super soft stuff).

She seems to absolutely love it; she seems enthralled by these, claps for them, if she’s fussy, her favorite operatic aria calms her right down, etc. It is a point of pride for me that I have my daughter addicted to opera!

Additionally, we always watch these together; I never just turn on the TV or iPad, plop her in front of it & leave her; I always watch these WITH my daughter. In fact, as she gets older, I have a couple librettos to my favorite operas and I’d love to show her how to follow the music in the libretto, translate the operas from Italian / German to English with her, explain the storyline, etc. We will often dance together too!

Is “screen time” horribly negative in this context?

I should say that as a one year-old, she doesn’t have much of an attention span of course, so we watch maybe 15-20 minutes of music videos several times per week, usually on the weekends. (I work full time but mom is full time stay at home.) I pay attention to her cues and if she turns away or squirms out of my arms to grab a toy instead, I always let her do what she wants & never force her to continue watching even for a second; these are recordings, not live shows.

As she gets older and is able to watch something like a full opera or an entire Frank Sinatra performance, is that still considered “bad screen time” for her? Even in light of studies showing how thoroughly beneficial music is for kids brains?

I always took “screen time” to mean giving kids an iPad and letting them do whatever they want; play a game (even an “educational” game), watch stupid random garbage on YouTube, etc, or plopping them in front of the TV for more mindless garbage. 

So again; when we’re talking about the quality of this type of programming; opera / classical music, Frank Sinatra, Jazz, all sorts of good music (obviously no rap, hard metal, etc - kid-appropriate stuff only) how negative is this sort of “screen time” for my daughter, along with the fact that it’s an activity we always do together as father & daughter?

Thanks! 

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parenting,Fortnoir_,2019/01/11,"11 y/o is being extremely defiant. So I don't really know how this subreddit works, but I'm 14, and I couldn't find a subreddit that could help me with my problem, so I came here. But anyways, here is the story

So my brother recently got assigned a project in his class, it was nothing to crazy, but he got very overwhelmed about it, but he was also getting a small fever, so he stayed home from school for 2 days before going back. In those two days he completed the project and other homework.

Skip to today, the day he went back to school. He woke up being very defiant, and he didn't eat breakfast. He wasn't answering any questions my parents asked him if he was feeling better. He ended up being 20 minutes late to school because he was arguing with my parents. When my parents got back from dropping my brother off at school, they were arguing about my dad not staying calm long enough to get my brother to calm down. I heard that he went over 60 mph to get past a dude who wouldn't move at an intersection. Whenever we ask my brother why he's being defiant, he either replies ""school"" or ""I don't care"" my brothers teacher recently went on a break for 2 months to recover from surgery, and they have a long term sub. Also, my brother says that classroom has like 6 troublemakers/bullies in it, and one had been taken out of the class. One of the troublemakers is apparently held back for a few years. He should be in 7th or 8th grade, but he's in fifth grade. 

My brother has always been a really good student, so when. Stuff like this happens, we know something is wrong. We try to talk to him but he never cracks. If anyone knows how to help me, please respond.

And I was just typing things as I went along, so sorry if it's choppy.",4.332466281310212,5.309433552023123,5.106488439306361,84.12925096339116,70.41618497109826,8.078805394990367,29.73458574181117,8.344100000000001,2.0511603082851635,1363,53,274,20,24,442,184,346,0.104,0.812,0.085,-0.7834,4,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,3,0,2,2,22,12,2,1,14,0,29,3,0,2,1,44,54,30,0,8,14,11,1,2,0,2,1,2,2,0,14,14,2,1,7,0,0,7,8,5,0,3,23,3,29,7,39,22,4,48,0,1,0,0,48,16,0,6,23,170,43,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787506150238896,0.07172886578762787,0.0,0.0,0.05862186577337398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602760362083217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117872823784268,0.0,0.0,0.2651430778353648,0.0,0.05254932834369208,0.0,0.07335349216218,0.0,0.0,0.07624067943655866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985947300649245,0.08789100762857227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038354639976776,0.0,0.0,0.06882710225515191,0.0,0.0,0.1667838853095431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088208498312797,0.0,0.0,0.07635140438586753,0.08907206403699859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043587473598300966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878914926054248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351145334413821,0.0,0.04899187831962176,0.07230405926953343,0.2068363104200848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623015920318578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155618221768464,0.0,0.08646992047875278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212685186325452,0.0,0.09724218147738464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423011272128007,0.0,0.0,0.15257614840402164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688074330406866,0.09162150608539507,0.0,0.0,0.06648605427039572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271533061833547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116828500834852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871589506378359,0.0,0.0822917384986851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462641165491792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824858528364645,0.0,0.0,0.09656852122753663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044933699562164,0.0,0.1702326514513147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855310262696426,0.0,0.4362166627452298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636426551462532,0.0,0.09649863266373243,0.0,0.18376458308515609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868327523280468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928773407968684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057270292504635764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171157686609454,0.0,0.0,0.058527046826229265,0.0,0.08420905458648797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422551163928658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196489210124654,0.07778595355665636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275774178147528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425084648423784,0.0,0.05551272934130022
parenting,nsrdnh,2019/01/11,"What's up snack bitches? I'm having a morning. I'm a stay at home dad with 3 under 3. This morning my beautiful gifts to the world broke the safety handle off their bedroom door, then tore down the baby gate that blocked the kitchen and threw a full dozen eggs around the house. They also found a bag of popcorn that they apparently thought would really tie the living room together. 

So this morning we have already changed two poop diapers, had a bath, gave daddy chest pains, mopped the kitchen, swept the living room, and started a load of laundry. All before 7:30. We ate chicken nuggets for breakfast. 

Give me a little perspective. These little girls are running me ragged. Tell me your funny stories/ frustrating moments. 

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parenting,phenixia,2019/01/11,"5yo don't wanna wear pants! We live in Quebec. Some days are cold af. I don't mind her wearing dress or cutesy leggings. But when it's -30°C out, it's pants time. It's not a garbage bag, they are cute, mostly pink or ""girly colored"" because this is what she chooses when we go shopping. Please, help.",0.41476190476190666,2.5645050793650803,1.4057142857142857,101.01428571428572,85.50793650793649,3.6,20.11111111111111,3.1291,-0.7319460317460313,232,7,54,0,7,72,52,63,0.0,0.8140000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.8858,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,3,0,0,12,6,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,3,6,2,7,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,4,4,28,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27527298342376194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912254012451493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25663773322414035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026779652867371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987447319764136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4559571420481199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4956884410885351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26331419671112505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,samfoyd,2019/01/11,"Son won't sleep in bed, but will sleep behind the door My 21 month old son has begun to get out of bed after we leave the room and sleep behind his door.  Even on nights where he no issues going to bed and falling asleep he still ends up sleeping there.  We just added twins to the family 2 months ago and as expected he has gotten less attention and has acted up a bit, because even negative attention is still attention.  we have tried a night light and that doesn't really work for the whole night.  My concern is that this is a safety issue for him.  The other thing I could think of is that his room is the last room in the house and 2 walls are exposed to the outside, which causes his room to be just a bit chillier and there is a vent by the door along with the hallway being warmer.  Not sure yet about a space heater, I just don't want him messing with it and somehow getting it blocked and causing  fire.  Any suggestions, similar situations, or advice would definitely be appreciated!!!",7.232461538461537,6.2917628358974405,7.143205128205127,78.58096153846154,64.23076923076923,10.466666666666667,31.294871794871803,9.642632912329526,2.572425641025641,783,23,157,13,10,250,121,195,0.111,0.8190000000000001,0.07,-0.6599,0,0,0,1,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,1,13,2,0,0,16,0,20,5,5,2,1,35,26,12,0,4,6,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,10,0,9,16,0,1,4,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,2,12,1,24,18,4,30,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,2,14,109,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249501080359608,0.11334634009108452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869539137873612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794650862949065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791951940705853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26270916963794216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209135851910503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325216874158467,0.0,0.0,0.16890983497687365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054158481103233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361041239800486,0.0,0.07266973692297912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754129771763722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669197591873157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042286340717892,0.0,0.1353926422577685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412436627928007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599834244878052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417485918405486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191484525685826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372781424471373,0.5118371938392167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422943003162455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051309134896568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494912284567567,0.08193198138592782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681326868085258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754192426676133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275888827857786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308866574551193,0.0,0.0,0.09083301577653367,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RealChipperJones,2019/01/11,"Potty Training Regression? Hi.

My daughter is 4.5.  She had been doing very well with potty training for like a year, year and a half ish.  No real accidents, except the occasional bed wetting.

In the past few months, however, its almost like she has stopped trying.  She is having accidents almost every day, then not telling anyone about it.  When asked why, she usually says she didn't know it right away.  This started around the time she had a UTI, so thats plausible, but that has been long since treated.  She doesn't really have accidents at school, so it would seem with structure and prompting she is still doing fine, but we can't easily maintain the same level of structure at home, nor have we ever needed to.  (We also have a 3 month old, so that doesn't make it easier!)

We initially tried being patient and gentle, ""accidents happen"". Then we progressed to asking her why and trying to get an explanation, but that wasn't very useful.  When we stopped accepting her pat answer, she started ducking behind something to hide when we ask her that question.  We've told her that if she can't use the potty like a big girl, then she is going to need to wear diapers again, and she didn't like that suggestion, but we haven't carried through with that threat yet.

Is this common behavior?  Does anyone have any suggestions?

Thanks.",5.476388888888892,7.041098879032263,5.627688172043011,79.25458781362008,68.2741935483871,8.575627240143369,28.697132616487465,8.998388855275968,2.4200154121863804,1054,37,184,19,18,333,145,248,0.106,0.8,0.094,-0.2672,1,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,8,0,0,1,14,10,1,0,11,0,28,1,1,3,1,42,45,21,0,4,7,1,1,4,0,1,0,1,2,1,15,17,0,2,5,0,0,1,11,1,1,1,8,2,25,9,20,35,2,34,0,0,0,0,36,8,0,5,29,130,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24491684912105866,0.0,0.0,0.09779738859866152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316319608412856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101972966010506,0.0,0.0,0.1088663866894939,0.3429813603899912,0.0,0.1148979709805009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886864269663134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701912276179143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062070396375068,0.1030368326714246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389286255883066,0.0,0.06950173164012509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814298715511536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266949980666975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720884260728212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23898404760803996,0.0,0.0,0.10822514756301023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163129397442646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522565413150691,0.0,0.0,0.1813569018905042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283255650938368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674217281529035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369957567957111,0.0,0.0,0.13919580978927035,0.07834380353431916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443725552025156,0.0,0.09725202432112036,0.0,0.12376669142292228,0.0,0.11133063622587464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116174441399632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414685720355756,0.0,0.0,0.1731187352346316,0.0,0.0976630688378428,0.2044842638107467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688916699714048,0.11259064224832427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130982808700352,0.0,0.0,0.11685586850056175,0.0,0.2490860470179065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112431707147525,0.13468807739389455,0.2018084887349967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995577975532662,0.0,0.2207001917418096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687319032481074,0.0,0.0,0.15750491508486147
parenting,forumfitness,2019/01/11,Perfect Easter or Spring dress for 6mo-2t https://rover.ebay.com/rover/0/0/0?mpre=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ebay.com%2Fulk%2Fitm%2F303025774781,50.05666666666666,64.536268,15.453333333333335,0.3000000000000398,-19.888888888888886,8.044444444444443,31.222222222222214,8.841846274778883,3.4820222222222217,128,2,6,1,1,21,9,9,0.0,0.654,0.34600000000000003,0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,calithrowaway251,2019/01/11,"5 year old kid talking about killing and death Lately my 5 year old has been using words like ""kill"" and ""die"" a lot. My wife gets very triggered by it and today she got really mad that he said he wanted to kick her outside the house until she was 'dead'. She smacked him a couple of times and told me (in front of him) that he was exhibiting psychopathic and antisocial behavior. And this isn't the first time she's used those words to describe him (in his presence) regarding such language.

In my opinion, he's not really clear what the concept of death and its permanence means. We've tried to explain it to him a few times but it never really sticks. He thinks it's like sleeping except you don't wake up ever, which makes me think that he may think killing someone is just a way of getting them out of his sight for an extended period. Today I tried to talk to him about what happens after someone dies (e.g. cremation, or decomposition if you leave the body there) and he seemed quite disturbed by it so I think I was getting somewhere. Unfortunately I only had a brief time with him today and the above situation happened before I could really finish going somewhere with him.

I'm really really mad at my wife because I don't want my kid having ideas that he is psychopathic or other labels especially when he hasn't conceptualized death properly. I think my wife is being a terrible parent in this scenario. Am I overreacting here?",7.381648484848482,7.109668352727272,7.7367272727272764,72.24775757575759,63.65454545454546,10.824242424242424,33.24242424242424,10.355215969177356,3.3275696969696966,1147,41,209,24,15,377,159,275,0.147,0.835,0.018000000000000002,-0.9886,1,0,0,0,0,1,27.0,0,2,1,2,9,9,5,1,12,0,18,3,3,4,3,43,41,16,10,4,7,4,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,17,12,0,0,9,0,0,3,6,7,0,1,8,2,33,2,28,30,2,31,0,0,1,0,37,7,0,7,22,133,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603651972231652,0.0,0.08426364638606132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999531938154927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079064028654325,0.10957014362915958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554625389691208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957448861788113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423127907958641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521065094420064,0.0,0.05627863362505337,0.0,0.07919996357047633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513634292553104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426245629066226,0.0,0.1117880537517981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286720657184723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170539468936476,0.10485400431859028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675798962252292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841881781589121,0.0,0.0,0.06610047803864337,0.0,0.0,0.10786810635754283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637478736879554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078217993197322,0.0,0.0,0.07531356903454361,0.0,0.0,0.1099564113441291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532610785338443,0.0,0.0,0.3806307076259064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419619479621312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901493522469711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130912732188772,0.09909729664455418,0.0,0.16780844647494422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918634413406688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31725861120705795,0.0,0.0,0.23097091793650096,0.0,0.2815945859865426,0.09462337779342116,0.0,0.13446401070809685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105296127020014,0.0,0.08170664048164246,0.11681594308971377,0.07860205601215019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275387130798991
parenting,pappasat,2019/01/11,"How to teach my kid the words ""me""/""you"" I recently realized that for some reason, when I talk to my 3yo, I've always used his name in the 3rd person. Like ""Alright Johnny is going to bed now!"" ""No that is daddy's and this is Johnny's"" etc. As a result of my stupidity my kid now lacks the concept of ""me"" and ""you"". So now when I point to him and tell him ""you"" he points to himself and says ""you"". So he's ""you"" and I am ""me"". I've found it quite difficult to teach this, does anyone else have this problem?

I should also note that we're a multilingual family and he's had to up with four languages, so he's already behind in talking. But I'd like to fix this mess at least.",1.9337762237762242,2.975585034965036,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,76.27272727272727,6.878321678321679,22.090909090909093,7.348242739294969,0.5912573426573426,512,13,118,6,11,176,87,143,0.101,0.8490000000000001,0.05,-0.8012,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,4,0,1,10,7,1,0,5,1,7,0,0,4,0,20,10,15,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,2,1,19,3,18,7,4,13,0,0,0,0,20,6,0,1,8,80,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22858131552651584,0.16564773570504213,0.1723549432789272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448353140355353,0.2122367853602698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812673693709784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303675158788026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310129995939083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527074340520664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271155111900706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772098047538025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20239378025907545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086442269743827,0.0,0.0,0.39162366653996894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19820255528695335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203161641905322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297178672101255,0.20452323247367935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472400595107256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329784556356289,0.1810472522649421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789002416805398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ahmadmerheb3d,2019/01/11,"Why is My kid Crazy about baby sharks all of a sudden ! i never imagined my self singing about shark !  
from singing about sheeps and wheels and buses  
now its sharks...  
all day Long , doo dooo doo   
i am sure all parents here know what i am talking about   
in case you dont yet have a blast [https://youtu.be/XuLw-bypI04](https://youtu.be/XuLw-bypI04)  


disclaimer : DO NOT SHOW IT TO YOUR KIDS ",5.077953091684434,8.225509417910446,3.1130063965884887,89.79164179104478,74.22388059701494,4.425586353944564,20.01918976545842,5.288315135182226,-0.4615228144989336,309,7,58,1,7,85,52,67,0.046,0.918,0.036000000000000004,-0.1739,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,5,10,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,8,7,3,7,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,6,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22605276654905476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108002224756795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263352694397293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101941808597029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703382849642776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892047190921991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656629245366749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303556385860104,0.0,0.0,0.2817301674120235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31628469322747593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,etwaitu,2019/01/11,"I cured my son of the big gay I cured my son of the Big Gay. The other day, he came home for Christmas with his new partner. I was excited to meet her (and maybe MEAT her after my son fell asleep hehe), but imagine my horror when it turned out to be another man.

I immediately started to protest, but my son said ""Dad, this is who I am. Zander and I are in love.""

Without missing a beat, I turned around and said, ""You forgot to say no homo.""

But my boy simply scoffed at me and said, ""Actually, dad, I AM a homosexual. That's right, your son is in love with another man."" Then my son grabbed Zander's hand and looked at me defiantly.

For a second, I was utterly devastated. But then I thought to myself What would Trump do? So I stared straight at my son, penetrating his soul with my eyes (no homo), and said, ""But that's gay.""

As soon as I uttered those fateful words, my son began to convulse. He dropped to floor in some sort of manic state, spit pouring from his mouth as his eyes rolled back into his head. Zander tried to help him, but I pushed that dainty little queer away with my heteronormative strength.

After a full minute, my son opened his eyes and said, ""Dad, you cured me of my homosexuality."" Then, with manly tears of joy in his eyes, he pointed to Zander and exclaimed, ""Let's get that homo!""

After we wiped Zander's blood off our hands and threw the little fairy into the cold, my son and I sat down with a beer and watched some football.

As we watched, my son turned to me and said, ""Dad, I love you. No homo.""

""No homo indeed, son,"" I replied. ""No homo indeed.""",2.668461538461536,4.294964547770704,3.926369426751595,88.42278294953456,75.4968152866242,6.3594316511513975,23.2234198922097,7.010146845296331,0.6322233219010291,1204,35,259,12,26,394,154,314,0.081,0.8109999999999999,0.108,0.9001,0,0,1,0,0,0,73.0,3,4,0,2,6,8,1,0,10,0,11,25,11,0,0,41,33,27,0,1,7,16,3,0,1,1,0,7,1,5,10,26,1,1,2,1,0,4,6,2,0,1,14,19,53,6,46,16,3,43,1,1,8,13,54,24,7,3,13,164,63,0,0.0,0.0,0.11218331869062136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410888931072333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233780766969072,0.0,0.0,0.10800768550698067,0.08839631017533392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148237414493685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413899030632866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060061288693827874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798101314606015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705453795715718,0.0,0.11531316561426415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755327999799778,0.0,0.0,0.2304380686245879,0.0,0.0,0.09653653603695772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112647291182377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549168233921565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102803712787973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867333333250943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981742858745332,0.6561135248887525,0.09141994386981307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136851221577085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126453802247778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804955765219079,0.37512686696166503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081629240681913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166351537384939,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ariel626,2019/01/11,"Routine HHEEEELLLLLPPPPP Hi all, I have been really struggling with getting my 2 boys into routine. They have had past issues with physical abuse (smacking to excess) by their father. Constequently I have trouble with them sleeping and going to bed. Some nights they will be awake until 12 or 1am. The boys are constantly running at a sleep debt and are then acting out. I honestly don’t know what to do, I put them in bed every time they walk back out on repeat but I just can’t make them stay and the cycle of them walking out and being taken back can continues for hours. I’m a single mum and I’m exhausted and at my wits end. Please help! ",2.884285714285713,5.180756714285717,4.051031746031747,84.72035714285717,77.09523809523809,6.73968253968254,23.198412698412696,7.793537801064563,1.2647269841269837,510,16,96,8,12,166,90,126,0.094,0.838,0.068,-0.3157,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,8,0,3,4,0,1,4,0,14,3,2,1,1,20,21,10,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,13,0,0,1,0,1,6,2,3,0,0,3,0,15,1,18,15,3,27,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,2,12,67,16,0,0.0,0.2568716956218233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3334105283311368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342830024181857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19201981272106208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266274394911827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326867578487385,0.0,0.12321202701450402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453159875092623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350361999581766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226282122188975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914721454452512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471520293171006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20345143797513746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069594441923975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379805059329952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794315684985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388871702862245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339116998674841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23107918651007264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22664567971669936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264174036720404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VandalEyes05,2019/01/11,"5 year old. Finger sucking Can’t seem to get my 5year old to stop sucking her fingers. We tried the nail polish, it hasn’t deterred much. Snuck in her room and put socks on her hand to try to stop it, she pulled them off. 

She does it in her sleep and when watching tv or when she needs comforting.  I’m worried about it affecting her teeth and fingers. It isn’t all the time but it’s time to put it to an end. She doesn’t do it in public or at school so it seems like it could be controlled. 

Any suggestions on getting this kid to stop? ",0.9805023923444978,2.8521590438596505,2.114976076555024,98.358014354067,81.36842105263158,5.1980861244019145,20.889952153110045,6.11248444174946,-0.10746315789473647,417,12,99,3,11,132,73,114,0.066,0.868,0.066,0.249,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,1,4,4,2,0,3,0,7,6,6,2,1,17,15,9,0,2,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,11,4,0,4,2,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,5,12,2,15,13,2,22,0,0,1,0,14,8,2,4,12,59,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202569346897535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201257779202146,0.14326863826909558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570295910253176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893102248798352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18750051052805056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766556454820766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190941439614529,0.1330528572770737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765852398104754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.360774529165097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816033661568844,0.0,0.3267117842864453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957009006569574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500608791494247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092663974738869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436566418159151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182230538285936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555379899396573
parenting,daddiosaur,2019/01/11,"Are my girls being mean girls? Mainly my oldest, the younger one just goes along with the older one. 

Anyway, my girls are 12 and 10, Anna and Kate. Anna and Kate go to their best friend Leah’s house after school because her mom is a stay at home mom and my wife and I don’t get home until 6:30. They could stay home alone but all 3 prefer this arrangement.


We’ve been friends with Leah’s family for 20+ years. They are like family. 



Today I got off early so i picked Anna and Kate up. They asked if Leah could spend the night. I know this is weird for a school night to some but it’s really not a big deal to us. We’ve been doing it for ages. The parents agree so I take the 3 back to my house. 



30 minutes after we get home they come downstairs and ask if they can go to Jessica’s house. I say sure and start to take them over there. Leah brings her overnight bag but it’s just a small tote so I think nothing of it. The whole way there Anna is talking about how excited she is because Jessica’s house is so cool(they are wealthy and have a high tech house) and how fun and pretty Jessica is. Leah isn’t as excited but again, I think nothing of it. 


As we are nearing Leah’s house(in the path of Jessica’s house), she shyly asks if I could drop her off at home. 



I’m confused and ask why she isn’t going. Anna says Jessica didn’t invite her, just Anna and Kate. I know Jessica’s parents and Jessica, she’s a very nice kid, I can’t imagine she would exclude her if she knew they had sleepover plans. Knowing this, I offer to call Jessica’s parents before we get there to see if it’s ok for Leah to join. After all, they aren’t sleeping over at Jessica’s, just hanging out for a few hours. And I figured my kids just didn’t want to be “awkward” and invite someone else. 




Anna gets really defensive and says “no don’t call them. You don’t want to go, right Leah?”. Leah says yeah. 



We’ve passed Leah’s house at this point so I say I’ll drop her off after I drop them off at Jessica’s. We pull up and Jessica and her dad were outside. Jessica is surprised to see Leah and when she doesn’t get out of the car, her dad asks if she’s coming too. Leah says no and Jessica says “aw why not?”. Again, Anna pipes in and says Leah doesn’t want to. 




I question Leah about it when we are alone in the car and she doesn’t say much. 




I don’t want to believe it...but I think my kids just blew off their best friend for a new friend? We know Jessica and her family through sports so they’ve only been friends with her starting this year. 




Should I talk to my kids, especially Anna, about this? It’s possible Leah didn’t want to go but it did NOT seem that way. And if she really didn’t want to go, Anna and Kate shouldn’t have went either. It seemed like Anna didn’t want her to go for whatever reason. 



Is this preteen drama or do I need to step in? ",0.16131151457238244,2.357528356187295,1.9096072623029168,96.58741137123751,87.34448160535118,5.22316292403249,17.907405637840426,6.6770525081376135,-0.1253132154801717,2199,56,506,27,70,718,219,598,0.048,0.802,0.15,0.9958,4,2,0,0,0,0,68.0,7,1,12,3,27,20,1,2,17,3,49,1,1,4,3,102,97,52,0,22,23,8,0,2,5,3,0,9,5,7,18,40,0,1,16,2,1,17,22,4,0,2,14,11,69,16,65,75,10,72,0,0,2,0,82,25,0,13,25,298,87,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199657442898234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527320624171888,0.0,0.0,0.04157506243509361,0.0,0.0659188729239329,0.0,0.04600800505707968,0.06091627892698079,0.1134823549336162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041923277793153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314983063243787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950703130607685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055741878487040215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04516699331747953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291189209599065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20886455522671152,0.0,0.14124185853601687,0.0,0.2150971907855521,0.0,0.04324323098690108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057125958734708576,0.2711737656522161,0.0,0.0532462269615477,0.4367116217519057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118857743537993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05282992449045354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889605536482425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664790481255078,0.0,0.0,0.039746304253229024,0.0400908409100675,0.0,0.05221934678587454,0.0,0.10147857392103818,0.0,0.10375967761623467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327594227330059,0.041121257073693164,0.0,0.0,0.18010881368703213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05111186891587642,0.060953704259131984,0.0,0.05500673649472823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605686911697153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039123054389284,0.0555910532263679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617389636126888,0.0,0.38697439746016943,0.0,0.10943968901272012,0.08617061512772274,0.09844320847613326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05410718762723466,0.0,0.04581175978705943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653941593062816,0.11525888705068482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095858232768352,0.0,0.08130502522933389,0.08691584615723047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393404331406364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125027494758482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503731550181907,0.0,0.0,0.04461187819066691,0.22323552989012832,0.08583354615192798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050121707709281975,0.0975761736521544,0.06036514771899028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038408455552078016,0.0,0.0,0.06963621927147068
parenting,haylopuppy,2019/01/11,"My 14 yr old daughter is on day 3 of a 4 day sleepover with friends and she hasn’t eaten the entire time because she “doesn’t like eating in front of people”  Her friends mother called me and told me her friends were worried because she kept refusing food and has only had a few drinks of water and some hot chips.  I believe it could be social anxiety but I have no idea what I should be doing or saying to address this, I tried to bribe her into eating by offering to shout her and her friends lunch which is when she had the few hot chips.  I have never had an issue like this with her before, she is always so practical, mature and smart.",7.663641025641028,5.629359261538465,7.5646153846153865,79.41871794871795,64.07692307692308,9.8974358974359,33.205128205128204,7.793537801064563,2.273897435897436,504,15,102,4,6,162,85,130,0.071,0.764,0.166,0.9345,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,5,0,17,7,0,0,1,18,20,10,0,2,2,2,2,2,4,1,0,2,1,0,5,9,7,2,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,7,4,19,7,12,9,3,10,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,2,8,73,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114794735256125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976850702816553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068129685036024,0.0,0.14434488453349764,0.1911178986573408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321389381949878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543786171529265,0.0,0.0,0.21879804180580892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661754095988259,0.0,0.34715308374639503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051204643653932,0.0,0.5242310344895214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149460536159404,0.0,0.17705240658113933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574788107041544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083115123585298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800092277583104,0.0,0.0,0.12901326838254507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760191540535482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348986856852609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291911644733635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989141578545998,0.0,0.0,0.16209125913188868,0.0,0.11516942911920937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227018238504369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankie_2,2019/01/11,"Another baby? We have 2, a 9 year old girl and a 6 year old boy. I’m 33 Hubs is 36. We decided no more years ago but every time I’m late I kinda hope I am pregnant and end up sad. Should we try? Anyone else kinda start over after their kids wee getting older? How was your experience? ",-1.5005555555555574,0.4837467580645196,1.9418279569892505,93.41051971326168,97.54838709677419,4.691039426523298,14.953405017921147,6.42735559955562,-0.3780164874551968,217,5,50,3,9,78,51,62,0.11,0.8340000000000001,0.056,-0.5105,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,12,10,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,3,8,1,14,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,3,12,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585032843158554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435044670051949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237465654152006,0.23793834644425815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399124650807775,0.0,0.2056793021487094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19565661049049712,0.0,0.0,0.2271571648801777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132613744699218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23064832485204795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26195594156469393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873547537239261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436755706779188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541021105196066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766313985799904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4486290536419614
parenting,lspitting,2019/01/12,"Two demanding jobs.. what gives? Literally.. My husband and I have a 16 month girl. I currently work a demanding job, high stress and around 50-55 hours a week. My husband has been offered a job to double his salary, and give tons of growth potential.. however it is also about 50-55 hours a week. We are trying to figure out how we will make it work without sacrificing too much for our girl. We are planning on a house cleaner ever other week.. but what are ways you have saved on time/cutout/paid help for? We are good at meal planning but out baby goes to bed at 7, not sure how we can get home, prep and coo before she goes to bed. 
Any suggestions on what you may have done is appreciated! Thanks! ",1.933782117163414,4.188672064748204,3.223150051387464,89.63807553956836,80.15107913669065,6.561356628982527,21.439362795477905,7.7094869923839395,0.825488797533402,543,16,115,9,14,176,92,139,0.049,0.7909999999999999,0.16,0.9598,6,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,2,0,4,7,5,0,1,6,0,15,1,0,3,2,24,20,9,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,12,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,0,14,4,17,16,3,19,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,1,8,74,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386448942682413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053296715757544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788383919304284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179893093553458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585049828461883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010575550984974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092298692499159,0.2971668340489952,0.0,0.1299133474511982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381867427794764,0.1636484842270611,0.15536606017315485,0.0,0.30506846715810515,0.17872083906955946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4611095986618796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338945338190456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236307345140493,0.0,0.11386106401950973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774245570160417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459808279982271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260076486866205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031688446568788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515930428310423,0.0,0.1513038172068582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294349219439987,0.3727272736585853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930724226093087,0.0,0.2255217313018776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ClusterHugtastic,2019/01/12,"How to handle birthday party ruined by my daughter's classmates mother? tldr: I don't think anyone is going to show up to my 4, turning 5, years old daughters birthday party and I don't know how to soften the blow.

 My daughter really wanted a birthday party with ""all her friends"" after attending 4 or 5 birthday parties this year that all, or nearly all, of her 28 preschool classmates attended.  I sent out invites, rsvps were coming in, then a week and a half later another mother sent out an RSVP for her daughter's birthday party, on the same day and time as my daughter's party.  At that point I stopped getting rsvps, and parents started backing out to go to the other (fancier) party. After about half the parents pulled out, I talked with my daughter about how it was a super busy weekend and that it sounded like most of her friends couldnt come to the party, and talked about how we could do something awesome with just us instead and try again next year.  She was determined and excited to have the party, even if it was small since her 2 best friends were still coming.  So I kept the plans and crossed my fingers.  As of tonight, we're now down to 3 parents still saying they're coming, and only one of her best friends.  At school her friends are telling her that they're going to the other kids party.  Because it seemed to be standard for most of the kids to attend, I rented, and have paid for, a large space, got a large cake, lots of pizza, decorations, etc so it's going to look even more empty.  It's to late to get any money back to do anything fancy just her and I, we dont have any family nearby to attend.  At this point I think there I a very good chance no one will show up. I just need help to figure out how to handle this.  I'll try to make it as fun and awesome as I can, but what do I say to her?  How can I help make this less just horking awful?",5.082849213691027,5.283223723404255,5.535652173913046,84.49195652173913,68.41489361702128,7.390194264569843,29.64569842738205,6.498293943080001,1.4640214153561524,1464,50,291,8,23,470,180,376,0.028,0.8140000000000001,0.159,0.9883,4,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,3,0,0,4,25,13,0,0,17,1,22,2,1,8,3,62,48,30,0,5,8,11,1,1,5,1,0,3,1,2,18,27,1,2,5,3,3,16,5,1,0,4,10,5,34,12,57,34,12,57,0,1,1,0,41,18,0,7,24,205,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357254625312398,0.10298191055211996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867082383147115,0.0,0.08081858946525539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103509399024356,0.0,0.059867998895614324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061309970416922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383974094256545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841281728378915,0.0,0.0,0.06333742521066606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151015701545597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095302834362675,0.12973376218711016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925837935942153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793846104157481,0.0,0.10262150495936327,0.0,0.22326037721738184,0.08237401841153064,0.0785476325711465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316563933454936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05397373273568427,0.0,0.11078533250166682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04798052091545315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247179528712363,0.0,0.0,0.08349476169867227,0.0,0.0,0.131112082068986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282158546909122,0.0,0.0,0.10444761394492816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305503687962547,0.0,0.13309948536757613,0.07469324834831396,0.0,0.0,0.32715226400634634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18568068148492287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291594006709078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562013141450431,0.0,0.09939391998571502,0.0,0.08940683653876783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124045503924562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560697538420144,0.0,0.0,0.06951365314897777,0.0,0.15686151319110264,0.08210808708658343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787520480688474,0.08584000420234117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585820346217275,0.0,0.0,0.057267131128642484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335649703606012,0.10682444681503288,0.0,0.0,0.1181347240912237,0.0,0.0,0.08103366322212838,0.05792689391894635,0.0,0.07877826234486926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18973235949816494
parenting,agitatedpenalty,2019/01/12,"My son's teacher just quit in the middle of their lesson. My son is in 2nd grade. He told me that his teacher packed some of her belongings, grabbed her jacket, and just left her class by themselves. My son told me that before she left she told them that his class is the worst class she has ever taught. She couldn't take their misbehavior anymore, and told them to find another teacher. And she just left the classroom, leaving them by themselves. He said the students were upset and some began arguing with each other saying things like, ""If it weren't for you, she wouln't have left!"" Some students he said were crying.

The assistant principal had to cover the rest of their class. They are currently looking for a substitute to teach his class. I'm very outraged that the teacher just quit and left my son's class by themselves. I understand if the class can be rowdy, but to just up and quit is not right.

How do you guys feel about this?",5.065743589743589,6.496384377777782,4.6255555555555565,86.56115384615386,69.1111111111111,7.538461538461537,27.73504273504273,7.882392219407189,1.5929658119658119,748,25,144,9,13,226,97,180,0.062,0.929,0.01,-0.8094,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,7,4,8,5,2,1,9,0,14,0,0,1,1,27,27,10,0,3,9,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,8,8,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,12,6,28,1,17,13,6,13,0,0,1,0,37,10,0,5,4,99,36,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442373887001253,0.0,0.0,0.11767730551243187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096960785379347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034074395919318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733336827146413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059997281476765515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845168061504534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174905285319725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256421737251014,0.6446138071462479,0.0,0.0,0.05797052873873509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964321953177202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37862362701461816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133367449631704,0.2257427314815671,0.09436196812691368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921639292731495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883140673221453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535329651332771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352763913137263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790565448218017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MMM_102011,2019/01/12,"Transitioning from Working at Home to Office - Advice/Reassurance Needed **Background:** two boys, 4 and 5, in preschool and kindergarten with before and after school daycare. 

**Situation:** I am moving from a job where I worked from home and traveled frequently to a new job in an office that’s 40 minutes from our home but with no travel. I start this Monday. This move is undoubtedly the right thing my career and sanity - my old job was a dumpster fire and this new role is something I’ve always wanted to do. It’s at a big, stable company that is the best in class in my field - I know this is a good move for me. 

With my new commute and working schedule, I will go from being with my kids from 4-7:30pm (bedtime) every day to only from about 6-8pm (new bedtime). Their schedule will not change - my husband is wonderful and is adjusting his schedule so they will be  picked up from daycare at the same time as usual - he is a great father and takes good care of them. 

**Additional Context:** Moving closer to my new job is not an option - we are currently building a home where we live now, and have to stay here for my husband’s job and to be in the best school district in the tri-county area (my kids have IEPs so this is imperative). 

**Question/Worry:** I am worried that this change, however good for me personally, will negatively impact them. I’m scared that they will feel abandoned, not think of me as their mom anymore, or think that I love my job more than them. I guess I’m just wanting advice on how to handle this/reassurance that things will be ok.

**TLDR;** I am starting a job that will reduce my weekday time with my kids - please help me navigate this change! ",1.6034191930704367,4.2875678785046745,2.9026669705949395,88.19670389788011,86.72585669781931,5.250087379378467,21.84795988146797,6.807656815369643,0.7506891725552771,1303,45,248,17,41,420,166,321,0.053,0.784,0.162,0.9922,9,0,1,0,0,0,66.0,3,0,7,5,9,11,0,1,15,1,28,1,0,2,1,41,45,18,0,3,6,4,2,0,0,7,0,0,4,5,17,19,0,1,6,2,0,7,5,2,0,1,1,2,36,9,42,33,4,45,0,1,0,1,24,17,0,4,20,169,53,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397432165077626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298945004635483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507523380319901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441613260629978,0.0,0.158887446104428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718240311975844,0.0,0.24024544768813635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048821001591126484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378151315657309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038276793599328784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04302272785446987,0.1904836865673338,0.0,0.08346082348705389,0.08339338968063642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05074090845675793,0.0,0.30373784259380504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5258522151842214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041603391407267584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668455330855108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832327485063261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866031270638552,0.0,0.32183351666677146,0.0,0.056131469320545635,0.0,0.3655633800031104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943565913422272,0.0,0.0,0.05757416226394616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609935463368859,0.0,0.0830971682676648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480265200236115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646483981921609,0.0,0.0,0.07579009215998958,0.15322728101532382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509130346683272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827847048178963,0.0,0.0,0.1071633764619706,0.08068739063017644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05691786983845109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058500686576054,0.09701252507574804,0.0,0.0,0.08828393925555039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051396135320702585,0.0,0.07394905773403791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833741600707673,0.0,0.08930104028635663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209470571570901,0.1653340923863367,0.15375645556806947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maybeimthemonster,2019/01/12,11 w/o with suspected reflux So I suspect that my 11 w/o has silent reflux. She doesn’t sick up often but I can hear her bringing up fluid and swallowing it back down. Has anyone dealt with a baby with reflux - can you give me any pointers on what might help? ,1.3810256410256407,3.852386846153848,2.7669230769230784,90.66141025641028,84.38461538461539,5.005128205128205,18.28205128205128,6.42735559955562,0.05002820512820527,204,5,40,2,6,66,42,52,0.101,0.8320000000000001,0.067,0.0525,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,0,9,9,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,7,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,1,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951704080071761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034994189616295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337593807040249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163824606125212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4892084213004876,0.0,0.2909360675576231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604608347470492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myacc0unt79,2019/01/12,"My son lost his girlfriend. My son is 17 and in his senior year of high school. He had a lovely girl friend who was also 17, they didnt go to the same school, but met through mutual friends. They dated for almost 2 years.

She passed away from a car accident last weekend, and he is understandably heart broken. We let him take last week off of school and my husband was able to take some last minute vacation time to be home and available for him so he was home as well.

I don’t know where to go from here. Do we ask him to go back to school? Do we give it more time? He’s still distraught, but I don’t know if routine would be good for him? 

I know there isn’t a right answer I just don’t know where to go from here and what to do?",1.5884615384615373,2.946718458598728,2.5735031847133776,98.1221460068594,77.78980891719746,5.849877511024008,19.08329250367467,6.297961479604792,-0.3699422831945127,566,11,140,4,13,179,92,157,0.09,0.812,0.098,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,2,1,11,7,0,1,4,0,18,2,1,0,0,22,34,11,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,3,8,0,0,6,1,0,6,5,2,1,0,7,0,19,5,21,23,3,26,0,1,0,1,28,7,0,3,13,87,22,5,0.12840109913065134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857515327900562,0.0,0.0,0.10268231258474247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003769481286986,0.0,0.12063705933896415,0.09873251950462376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984047413512867,0.0,0.0,0.1231740343210471,0.29189321456175915,0.10769675000190426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521559206970102,0.0,0.1356628109410618,0.25759354322748995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822635444134611,0.3139920997736766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312988233017156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016496753016755,0.0,0.11588700507902447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096538370858899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5197950693109532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254128362819953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308329366459698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974342695473894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367007250298055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299561668770316,0.0,0.11544800847054595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121245681490653,0.0,0.0,0.16537219608948145
parenting,Frankie_M_99,2019/01/12,"I want another kid but SO is very reluctant I've got one 18mo bio kid with my SO, who also has two more boys from a previous marriage (11yo and 7yo). I'd really like to have another kid because 1) I want another kid, 2) I want my bio kid to have a fulltime sibling (his brothers are with us 60% of the time at the moment), and 3) I know I won't regret having another kid but I am concerned I will regret *not* having one.

Another factor (but not a reason to have another kid per se) is that I didn't really get to enjoy the first 6months of my son's life because I was so exhausted and stressed and consumed with looking after my two stepsons as well as a newborn that I just couldn't enjoy it. My stepkids are overall good kids and I do love them, but not in the same way as I love my baby. The older boys were with us about 90% of the time back then, and my SO works Mon-Fri fairly long hours so I did virtually everything for all the kids. I nearly lost my mind. (Arrangements have changed so that I'm doing a lot less for my stepkids now, which has improved my mental health a lot.)

Anyway, SO said to me this morning that he feels our family is complete. Not really sure what to say to that. I don't feel like our family is ever complete because we're essentially blending two families into one, which sometimes works for me and is wonderful, and sometimes doesn't work and becomes jarring and awful. (To be clear - I don't think an extra kid would help/change/fix that. It's just an observation from my point of view.)

Not really after advice, just a space to vent and maybe get some support? Thanks for reading!",3.496626016260162,4.621505573170737,5.065609756097562,83.08650406504066,72.53658536585365,8.14959349593496,27.38617886178861,8.59863814320734,1.9451276422764217,1260,45,255,22,24,426,174,328,0.062,0.753,0.185,0.9924,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,4,0,1,5,17,16,0,1,16,1,30,5,0,1,4,50,49,27,0,7,12,4,2,2,0,3,3,2,0,13,13,16,0,0,6,1,0,0,11,5,1,7,7,6,35,11,33,37,8,20,0,3,2,2,30,6,0,4,15,179,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453387715932119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917981137956322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.544262325145212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651873048459009,0.0,0.15820203813478034,0.09554045392622283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151319318087513,0.0,0.18140239789901652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825075438662084,0.0,0.0,0.07774713244620259,0.0,0.24465399069698404,0.0,0.08748132313949775,0.06180079204745662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358301713610768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903929285568011,0.0,0.0,0.07255817154658406,0.06918774522085865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195315458848652,0.0,0.0,0.05798398182933422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519220929868775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754211867242193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110262441320136,0.08452613905722957,0.0,0.0,0.07655618828084856,0.07264429714115105,0.0,0.09443287526035334,0.14709072980529486,0.1561523294694601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690815346812815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717895473577739,0.0,0.08734765550055001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758586410793115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177730672772293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653065359719016,0.0,0.2216750213445244,0.08894385408782711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228819853604342,0.06879403218449415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111575162884524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909375516155176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981673947762613,0.08153205323561273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796442472079419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543034863086706,0.0,0.0,0.10088613872529316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535150207411647,0.0,0.2081151251696017,0.0,0.0,0.07137753566598229,0.15307264064017098,0.06866542331632539,0.0,0.0,0.07778040101645824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938134154330504,0.1889349107115169,0.0,0.0,0.061452263774388324,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crab_claw,2019/01/12,"Monitoring Text & iMessage on Kid’s iPhone 6 ? My daughter is 13, and like most her age, her life exists on her phone.  

I don’t want to spy, but need any advice on methods to monitor her text messages and iMessage.  

I could just simply take her phone every night, but seems like she would just delete anything she doesn’t want seen before she hands it over.

Thoughts?

Thanks in advance.



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parenting,sentry_mvm,2019/01/12,"I don't know what to do with my child I was cleaning my son's room after he left to spend the night at a friends house. When I brought out the vacuum to clean under his bed I found a DVD titled My Pico with a little boy in a swimsuit. He is 15 and works part time so he is able to buy things without my permission. I was curious as to what the contents of the DVD where, but what I didn't expect was for it to be sexual in nature. It involved the little boy on the cover doing various sexual acts with an older man. I don't know if I should bring this up with him or not. What should I do r/Parenting?",3.4477272727272736,3.163683318181821,5.326818181818184,86.26022727272729,71.87878787878788,8.721212121212123,24.833333333333336,8.472884824447931,1.2905424242424246,466,11,109,7,8,162,84,132,0.0,0.952,0.048,0.5499,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,11,0,14,0,0,0,0,17,19,7,0,4,5,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,4,8,6,0,0,3,2,2,3,5,0,0,0,6,0,15,1,22,10,2,20,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,2,5,80,23,1,0.24950040114289554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735643118168158,0.19276339101049625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28788996435381425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27423779093789136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710829158700772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001298961048005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341392248519119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770406690873982,0.2701846208011568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657569800879274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454856903354988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405094832591737,0.0,0.18163926356746385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bloop3210,2019/01/12,"Single mom to a 10 YO looking for advice on how much privacy is too much. My son enjoys video games and spends the majority of the day in his bedroom either online gaming with his friends or watching YouTube. Sometimes he’s so quiet in there it doesn’t even seem like he’s home. I ask what he’s doing and he says that he’s watching tv, Do you allow your kid(s) complete privacy in their rooms? I’m struggling with respecting his independence and being a controlling parent because my son is sneaky and thinks he’s untouchable when he closes his door (dirty room and stealing lots of snacks from the kitchen).",5.608141025641025,6.801151128205131,5.645373931623932,80.63677884615387,67.63247863247864,8.243162393162393,30.86431623931624,8.472884824447931,2.3467957264957264,490,19,89,7,8,154,86,117,0.069,0.815,0.115,0.6808,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,2,1,1,6,6,0,1,5,0,6,2,0,4,0,17,11,9,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,2,6,0,3,8,2,1,2,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,10,4,11,10,6,9,0,0,3,0,23,7,0,3,3,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234339560700158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241899820063384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618595275715124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25143622688388323,0.0,0.2689673112292293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465761375706022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839224610764208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527661441207646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24054898717918516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715905480722125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013800058803049,0.0,0.0,0.20387788992970413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808625786287963,0.0,0.0,0.3525758920386126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662806301232509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070654065142773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831402123881766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371782261329733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507014847802992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366056762228714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontbuyphonesattarge,2019/01/12,Regression with potty training among other things. I’m going to try to keep this short but I am just at a loss of what I can do at this point. My son (3) has been almost completely potty trained for months now. He has the occasional accident and can not wipe himself yet but he has been accident free for the past few weeks. He just spent almost a week at his dads house and today he has had 4 accidents! That is just unheard of with him. He even pooped himself which has only happened once or twice since potty training started. I feel that he has regressed since spending so much time at his dads and I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m having to start all over. Any advice from anyone that has dealt with this? Thank you. ,2.218349420849421,4.32387239864865,3.0436679536679527,92.0698648648649,78.3918918918919,5.850193050193052,21.382239382239387,6.868970318607317,0.4057185328185322,577,16,121,6,14,182,93,148,0.093,0.833,0.07400000000000001,-0.4551,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,8,4,0,0,4,0,18,1,1,0,1,21,30,7,0,0,8,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,1,3,0,3,1,2,1,0,1,4,2,12,4,18,26,3,19,0,1,0,0,15,8,0,3,11,82,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549775067404808,0.0,0.0,0.380170696214972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290895676154072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327321699685138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903107433323156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253796213041977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19196550795584846,0.13561318018185478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788364214465396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786429706682018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903605597743905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872787217448598,0.0,0.0,0.10432451902557152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274038524653774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151891982228008,0.0,0.13954544149449405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20216065308603226,0.0,0.14437276826035755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18121233094461456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944884304294118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140554105787999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687225086317933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476814275721422,0.0,0.0,0.1261133060010728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069024890731824,0.0,0.1799347732737671,0.0,0.0,0.1288807694694052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045371854878284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anwh,2019/01/12,"Baby Gate that Accommodates Bannister & Hand Rail? We are in need of a baby gate for the top of our stairs. Unfortunately, the gate will need to be installed on the banister on one side, and attach to the wall beneath the hand rail on the other. I'm not sure if we have an odd configuration or what, but I have had a heck of a time finding a gate that (a) is appropriate for the top of the stairs and (b) also can accommodate the banister.  The closest I can find is this gate, which is 2 inches too tall by my measurements: [https://www.safety1st.com/ready-to-install-gate-white-ga110who2.html](https://www.safety1st.com/ready-to-install-gate-white-ga110who2.html) 

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Does anyone have recommendations? ",11.171339285714293,13.061712741071432,8.560714285714287,62.18428571428571,55.51785714285714,10.32857142857143,30.285714285714285,10.290406445055957,2.9550214285714285,585,16,89,11,7,170,71,112,0.044,0.882,0.07400000000000001,0.5153,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,16,0,12,2,2,0,1,13,15,6,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,6,1,14,12,0,15,0,0,0,0,3,14,1,2,1,63,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527387527996265,0.0,0.5291465746379195,0.2967103156863776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17073914671233534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136870843915672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463595472151707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621187185913412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546541377807195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23014055224142524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423856677118645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967103156863776,0.0
parenting,DepressedFruitLoop98,2019/01/12,"He doesn’t care that I’m exhausted and anxious...because I’m always tired and anxious. My bf(30m) doesn’t seem to care that I(21f) don’t feel good most days due to my anxiety, ibs, and sleep deprivation. It is true that I feel these things most days, but sometimes they hit a point where I can’t cope and function normally...i.e. I need more help taking care of my 2 month old from the man who helped me freaking make her! I’m so fed up with this man.

He has a 6 year old son from a previous relationship who I can’t stand. I had a job interview today and I pray that I get it..I want out! ",0.865714285714283,2.6608205714285766,2.646269841269841,94.79178571428574,81.38095238095238,6.422222222222223,20.81746031746032,7.492282038375204,0.43901269841269785,456,13,110,7,12,151,83,126,0.101,0.722,0.177,0.8799,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,0,2,8,0,0,5,0,8,4,1,1,1,17,24,7,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,10,7,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,2,13,5,8,21,3,13,1,1,0,0,13,4,0,3,8,55,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599638091941585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503226326816333,0.3692846375489564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963239200864188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999183587359169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081243047425108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528181779257864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539141276840863,0.0,0.0,0.13708693534278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910271988735336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621904214818827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909843822025077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045740750444776,0.0,0.0,0.12118976555067075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430086197054451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450500089700533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754749529775006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879095928719327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635594872619418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616477750174168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228876312140412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858323813298347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18785190563539447,0.15492338559916627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640200289370728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525093632078696
parenting,jsam290,2019/01/12,"Maternity Leave - NJ Disability/FLI confusion! My wife works in NJ for a small private school. She doesn't qualify for FMLA, so we researched and believe she can take 6 weeks through short term disability and 6 weeks through family leave insurance (FLI). On her paystubs it lists Disability and FLI with $0 next to it. We are wondering if this will affect her ability to collect Disability/FLI. Is this an error? Should the employer have been contributing to this? Unfortunately, there is no HR to speak to in the school. Thanks!",4.770093567251461,7.5151076,5.543508771929827,74.11900584795325,73.0,10.116959064327489,31.60818713450293,10.25414643259724,3.924836257309942,422,20,74,14,9,137,67,95,0.134,0.813,0.053,-0.7179,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,12,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,7,1,13,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,3,4,45,12,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26883513629397865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494309718573646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5053134208143492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537676288941808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4829781830070734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940727769266496,0.0,0.0,0.2196827886061752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828019059239017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25876561626847805,0.1737131033950598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amightygirl,2019/01/12,"It’s the most wonderful time of the year! Just venting! I despise winter and all the viruses.  3 year old had a stomach bug a few weeks ago, and the 14 month old is sick tonight. I loathe vomit 😑😑 anyone with me?",-0.6193333333333335,1.5523522888888903,1.495000000000001,97.7025,92.77777777777777,3.888888888888889,20.833333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.15033333333333276,163,6,37,1,6,54,36,45,0.2,0.716,0.084,-0.6695,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,6,0,2,3,1,0,1,7,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,2,3,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784511815638888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21964218038662786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507300673791951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6592387199435863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316771000812526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519706091041107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406531103287168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404569964408262
parenting,Manatee_Groupie,2019/01/12,"My Kid Is Starting To Date tl:dr - my teenage son is starting to date,  I lo ind of feel like I'm flying blind here, need some advice.

He's a teenager. He told me that he liked someone in his science class and he wanted to ask them out. We talked about asking them in person (not via text) and not in a crowd, and how to accept their answer, no matter what it was etc. 

He came home BEAMING the next day! They said 'yes!' (SIDE NOTE: I was almost as anxious as I was the first time I asked someone out)

Anyhow - this is the first time he has shown any sort of interest in dating, he's a year or two behind his peers, but he's pretty secure. 

I have no idea what, if anything, to say to help him prepare for the dating thing.  I see a lot of young relationships like this get kind of intense end possessive (especially with social media) nowadays. We're in a somewhat unique community in that they have a lot of time together,  Their house is 4 down from ours, and so they ride the same bus, go to the same activities at the Youth Center etc.  

I was raised in a SUPER strict house, and basically hid everything about my social life, my parents beat the crap out of me when they showed up to school unexpectedly and saw me holding hands with a boy (I was 17!) I don't want to make that same mistake with my kids,  but I also don't want to just have 'free range' dating teens LOL. 

Any advice? ",3.8158044577636265,4.483477120996444,4.749424985952427,87.35322157707438,71.38434163701069,7.339277018168197,24.39801460947743,7.273561745256523,0.8328533807829186,1065,27,232,10,19,347,168,281,0.071,0.792,0.13699999999999998,0.9733,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,0,8,4,8,11,1,0,16,2,15,4,2,2,0,44,34,16,0,6,7,2,2,3,0,0,2,3,1,4,9,14,0,2,4,1,1,3,6,2,0,3,9,8,31,10,39,25,9,37,0,0,3,0,39,15,1,9,22,142,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296011747796288,0.0,0.0,0.11763975324575035,0.0,0.0,0.0939491154170338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15978154057713034,0.0,0.0,0.13271952834684736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667644358263576,0.0,0.3294852334493885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436639771464964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576520520295396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405285516810016,0.0,0.26204362974606776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055839004743152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059401671965930374,0.0839280944707205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998577108493239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137871373537284,0.0,0.0667668769187482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874470445336601,0.0,0.1178425227976318,0.0,0.0,0.27111345333715925,0.0,0.13262118756397998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233786498299618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297995323785119,0.17218511807889628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975544419214392,0.0,0.0,0.07841914768008615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711030402513148,0.0,0.0,0.12494184721237707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044819516322712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025794433622288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195199060612072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261300938508262,0.0,0.0,0.11175086065652913,0.0934252109223514,0.0,0.11889654053028237,0.09361675025284323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395131552918332,0.19908169708532653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166306608698465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944263778395407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804882568109803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055114773097252,0.0,0.0,0.11225765466980228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476138037288462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787913259535054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565359187034716
parenting,CassandraKillz,2019/01/12,Husband being an ass Hello y’all my husband (27) just found out last month that he has a daughter (3) and has been going to see his ex and their daughter without me. We have a child together (2). He doesn’t feel like I need to be apart of this..and it pisses me off. What would y’all do in this situation? Btw we live in Texas. ,0.3241428571428564,2.1559379857142846,2.4699999999999998,95.165,83.42857142857143,5.142857142857143,20.0,6.18269132825596,-0.10928571428571401,249,7,59,2,7,84,56,70,0.086,0.877,0.037000000000000005,-0.5267,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,9,2,2,0,0,11,14,2,0,2,2,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,2,10,1,8,9,0,8,0,0,1,1,15,5,2,0,3,37,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349803713614767,0.2451338349465785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762269347570728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501003435993344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796986802521548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676371445564603,0.0,0.3029921707407309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27388498546521345,0.0,0.0,0.2544283058456949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734320747949483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856951625412699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307673616695945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437513919497487,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noahthedon,2019/01/12,Found this amazing diy print kit I’ve been looking for a product forever that’ll let me capture my child’s footprint and handprint to have for a keep sake. I found this company called babyprint that sends you over a diy kit. it’s a fun activity and I would recommend it to anyone![Diy Footprint Kit](https://baby-print-store.myshopify.com/products/balleenshiny-baby-handprint-footprint-non-toxic-newborn-imprint-hand-inkpad-watermark-infant-souvenirs-casting-clay-toys-gift),8.174505494505496,11.546243923076926,5.699304029304031,74.04807692307695,64.8974358974359,8.046886446886448,41.912087912087905,8.841846274778883,4.535393406593407,398,24,52,7,7,112,59,78,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.8718,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,9,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,2,5,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423358914228378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7351861622084034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979927052878492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428240087405424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28153227434129763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815765675602416,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m0hemian,2019/01/12,"I just need to vent It just seems I’m not allowed to punish my children. I don’t beat them, I don’t have cruel punishments. I have a 4 year old almost 5. No matter if I ground her for not listening, take toys away, or don’t let her do something she wants until she calms down and will talk about what she’s doing wrong, my punishments are reversed or ignored. Or I’m told I’m being too harsh. I’m not screaming. Again I’m not beating, I’m not causing harm in any way.

To me it’s fair that if you don’t clean your room, you don’t get to go to mamas. If you don’t listen, your tablet is taken away, or any other toys. Or TV. You get timeouts too when you are acting up. I always try and talk to them about what’s being done wrong.

I’m told I’m too harsh, or that it’s been enough and to stop when the problem has NOT been fixed, not even talked about with the little one. Not just my wife but other family too. Then I’ll finally go “fine I’ll stop” once I stop punishing, im not being hard enough when there’s a problem. What do you fricking do????

I wish I wasn’t on antibiotics. I could use a beer or two.",0.6717768595041314,2.2347032024793454,2.5966942148760346,96.03776859504136,81.02479338842974,5.55702479338843,18.438016528925623,6.351523495107088,-0.2949322314049585,853,18,206,7,22,285,123,242,0.156,0.759,0.084,-0.9427,1,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,0,8,2,2,16,14,5,0,5,0,26,1,0,3,0,43,49,19,0,9,23,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,10,4,1,4,1,4,0,3,17,12,0,2,7,4,29,2,19,36,2,25,0,0,0,0,24,9,0,12,12,131,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225870646981944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990086265969301,0.0,0.0,0.17963740395085898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24818638770543106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568219983533736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054548657524262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135163355234077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729472038643061,0.0,0.08723737361383692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451295416402253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446868179238498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801234802768514,0.0,0.15012783574709307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831743750170702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426687040908553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506040699179012,0.0,0.0,0.1323785237441652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793539864444407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859539110704786,0.14066053350484178,0.08950059982130319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527648049193481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202403672147369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016813795917048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312735443326911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930747119389856,0.3184818969383352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524155617182932,0.0,0.08967342316789137,0.0,0.12902264159889293,0.0,0.0,0.11407442407323605,0.0,0.0,0.0779040089781395,0.1048386909408082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151885097384879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28881676076385604,0.0,0.08505497439853921
parenting,Thrwawaytrain999666,2019/01/12,"Trigger warning, possible csc first,  yes,  child services is involved.   Second,   they are worthless child abusers themselves here. 
This is a throw away for obvious reasons.   I want some advice on what other parents would do,   or people that have been through this. 
One of my children, 8f, has been acting very weird.  Been in counseling and it's only getting worse.   She makes Barbie videos.  I check them.   She made one where the mom and dad were in bed,   two kids were in their room.  One child goes into parents room,  rubs dad's Dick,  kisses it's mom then cries about it,   saying she was sleep walking,   then that she was definitly awake.   Then becomes upset at ""the camera man"" (herself) for wanting to tell mom.  The barbies were meant to represent mom, stepdad and her 100% because of other identifying stuff in video. 
I called her counselor and CPS.  She was interviewed and insists there is no sexual abuse going on,   but she hates her step dad.   Cps has him out of the home.   She cries to me not to let him come back,  because ""he's an asshole"" but won't explain beyond ""he yells"".  Side note,  her step brother was removed from us by CPS at 16 (she was 6) because he was a drug addict and showed her porn.   Cps refused to do anything,   and step brother hasn't had contact since.   Don't know if that's relevant but there it is.
All they can do,  is have husband take a lie detector, which we're waiting for.
Kind of want to divorce over this,   he says it's a witch hunt and he didn't do anything. 
Lie detectors are garbage tho. 
Advice?",2.4272597273029604,4.970803917525775,2.871655027158852,91.19369471233792,80.27147766323024,5.266866201086357,25.53829952333444,6.532088108194933,0.9474779071056424,1184,47,229,11,31,365,177,291,0.112,0.866,0.022,-0.9731,3,0,1,0,3,0,54.0,1,0,4,1,8,7,1,1,9,1,35,6,2,4,2,33,49,17,0,5,6,12,1,0,0,2,2,3,4,6,16,11,0,2,4,3,1,9,6,5,0,6,16,4,26,2,30,30,2,31,0,1,0,3,54,17,1,3,5,148,42,2,0.0,0.25946651821927585,0.0,0.11936533379037567,0.0,0.21399381534082926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802095397437504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287383083928577,0.08419462945723986,0.0,0.20024077253283804,0.12092824168311996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180628295152344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431994824237117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405494697005705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269790352311136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313609590843797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05720643696858975,0.0,0.06222833460650979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810330109180208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098320646096768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140218316107908,0.06017539775753818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119657011846219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360648814078492,0.07308853111899004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5129552569584488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22258923185487514,0.08327561762632632,0.0,0.0,0.24316170868112494,0.0,0.0,0.07590980572929121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123438769386234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257873959513164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17414908572209534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057510845007567,0.0,0.10957372873126554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534518132148806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232635228007558,0.0,0.09570315289625192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696036578795697,0.0,0.13170858584080272,0.0,0.0,0.0903445559346702,0.19374834974828747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158440579931228,0.07778185993780806,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,warlocktx,2019/01/12,"Trampoline - yea/nay? We are considering getting a backyard trampoline for our 9 year old twins.  Are we insane?

Any tips, horror stories, or other advice we should consider before we go forward?",4.675000000000002,8.0521636969697,5.863863636363639,67.71579545454549,78.6969696969697,8.148484848484847,32.49242424242424,8.841846274778883,4.012278787878788,154,8,20,4,4,51,28,33,0.199,0.8009999999999999,0.0,-0.787,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,12,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.473829630892492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.329742338939516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4126063160194529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253335404766997,0.0,0.2755745886458923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5088112767692489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122537464890909
parenting,zebutron,2019/01/12,"When the hugs go away. How to prepare? My daughter is three and a half.  Hugs are a very regular part of our lives and I relish it. Hugs from our kid make me feel good. I know that it won't last forever. Or maybe I think it won't last forever. I can't really be sure. 

Part of this is because my daughter has become affectionate after being so unaffectionate. The first two+ years she didn't care about affection. 

Am I just being too needy? Or do the hugs always go away? And how do you deal with i?",0.1826064227035076,2.500048873786412,2.393203883495147,92.0163778939507,89.3883495145631,5.887677371172518,17.631814787154592,7.321109707123232,0.2937190440627333,386,10,86,7,13,130,70,103,0.08900000000000001,0.735,0.175,0.8907,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,0,1,7,8,0,0,5,0,14,4,0,4,1,15,21,9,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,1,1,13,8,9,15,2,10,0,0,0,4,8,2,0,2,6,63,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679831639925286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793522057759539,0.0,0.0,0.12306624876784608,0.22296435764488198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20583358437107246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20813292401370925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020783145681125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172191961735658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22946998087028286,0.1693302202987645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094983868361012,0.3291238372300506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826674368815468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347587392766029,0.0,0.2028190134734699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372401045116325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933167760058029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027271831034526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293587330666951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972107501063779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657495056837207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300062926440549
parenting,Girl_on_a_Buffalo,2019/01/12,"Tips for caring for a toddler and baby at the same time? I'll be the sole caregiver for our 1-month old and 2-year old during the day.  I'm breastfeeding the baby.  Other than baby wearing, any tips or tricks?",2.535,4.832036097560977,3.9489634146341466,85.00685975609757,78.26829268292683,6.051219512195122,22.445121951219512,7.1686216300943375,0.9717268292682926,164,5,30,2,4,54,30,41,0.037000000000000005,0.877,0.087,0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,17,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24484348819751794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670906854477577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321997529738069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873851198241933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7556149946596148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099455994202635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231857688457642
parenting,iamcag07,2019/01/12,"Need Nanny/Babysitting Advice tl;dr:  We have an amazing babysitter/nanny that our children (and tbh, my husband and I) LOVE, but that makes every other babysitter pale in comparison to her in their eyes.  Should we be concerned?


I have 3 girls ages 10, 9, and 4 who are a handful; they’re smart and sweet, but stubborn, sassy, and are more of a handful than I think your average children.

My husband has a very good job, so we can afford nannies and babysitters.  And because of the demands of his job and travel, and my need for sanity with three crazy girls, we have a big Rolodex for babysitters.  And my intention has always been to keep consistency in their lives, but they can be overwhelming so even our occasional babysitters have to be on rotation to avoid burnout.  And thus, our girls (while they like them) never seem to deeply connect with them (despite our best efforts).

Until we met Isabel.  Isabel was a God send.  She was like a hispanic Mary Poppins: young, artistic, knows everything about science, math, music, history, and is extremely patient and thoughtful.  She was a gem who I was connected with via a college job board posting at the nearby private U.

I mean, my husband and I learned new parenting techniques from her when meltdowns happened or fights came up.  And our girls ADORE her; we’d come home to artsy craft projects, our girls playing board games nicely and fairly (OMG), hearing conversations about something new they learned, etc.

We all love her, and know from her references that there are a couple other families who feel the same way.

The only problem is Isabel has a life of her own outside of being nanny, which sounds so bad.  AND she is in such high demand (and we were late to the game), that we can really only hire her either months in advance for extended periods when my husband and I travel or for the occasional night out.

And when we do, our kiddos go through growing pains with their other current babysitters.  For example, recently we were able to have her stay overnight for a weekend, and the girls couldn’t stop talking about her with our regular after school babysitter.  I felt so bad, because our normal babysitter is good and I think was annoyed at the comparison. 

But she is no Isabel.

And even for weeks after we last see her, every time we have to get a sitter and I tell the girls its someone else, they are disappointed.

I’m not sure what to do.  I thought about slowly fading Isabel out, but that breaks my heart because she is a great influence on our girls and the fact that they connected with her is so hard to let go.

But we’re struggling with how to coach our girls etiquette when they meet new sitters and hold them to such a high (like too ridiculously high and I’m the parent of said children and saying that) standard. 

SOS,

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parenting,warnerbros14,2019/01/12,"Friend's wedding on my daughter's birthday One of my close friends from high school is getting married on my daughter's third birthday. She wants me to be a bridesmaid and is very set on that day. (It's also her cousin's birthday who died a few years ago, that's why she picked that day). The biggest problem with this is that she's already married to the guy. They got married secretly in the fall and are now planning a wedding for everyone. I'm a super sentimental person and I know I could celebrate my daughter's birthday another day, but it's just not the same for me. (Probably a little selfish, I know). What your thoughts parents? What would you do? Be in the wedding and celebrate your daughter's birthday a different day or would you back out of being in the wedding?",3.6589827935222665,5.690990940789478,4.34105263157895,84.76467611336035,73.80263157894737,6.7821862348178135,34.06072874493927,7.61054688173877,2.5255459514170044,621,34,115,8,13,198,86,152,0.054000000000000006,0.85,0.097,0.7375,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,4,1,2,4,5,0,0,12,0,11,0,0,1,0,22,18,7,1,5,4,6,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,10,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,2,0,18,3,15,10,2,21,0,0,0,0,25,11,0,1,8,81,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482481160929476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927407319616392,0.13967487129924394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18314536351410693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343021169636915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945113125801473,0.0,0.0,0.4505628494194295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126863834052506,0.18248165331445226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689431719244008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698824755288818,0.0,0.09125220502019718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969088982025096,0.0,0.0,0.1729400334122148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18453699747605848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919762189124905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505436812871844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835357054697546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939383334240409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525056461252177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883121209430145,0.16712523285064032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676439977934652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386598675422119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441121030686773,0.10301850089156406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157602730088018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481457194683977,0.0,0.0,0.11247477595622356
parenting,rninnj,2019/01/12,How far apart are your kids? What is your experience like? Have a 15 month old and we’re trying for #2. But now I’m wondering if I want to stop trying for a few months..... ,-1.3086486486486493,0.7009359729729745,1.3284324324324324,98.71859459459463,94.67567567567568,5.122162162162162,12.805405405405404,6.742157984588678,-0.8071794594594595,129,2,33,2,5,44,32,37,0.062,0.82,0.118,0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,6,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,6,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276737016845597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365380010522526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5347540222274589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515040704758793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800574111058136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548574524050961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975792704466994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632703944060187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cleverpseudonym4,2019/01/12,"Snowpants question (just a simple, practical question) My children are shortish. As a result all pants have to be tailored. My problem is Snowpants. Silly question but can they be shortened? I assume that given all the layers with the elastic under the outer material etc you cant. My issue is that they aren't cheap, but they become so frayed that I can't pass them down or donate them, which is a huge waste. Any tips from snow-dwelling parents?",3.3830388219544862,6.210538602409643,3.787389558232935,84.3346854082999,78.63855421686749,4.6527443105756365,27.29451137884873,5.82211442006289,1.192136278447122,356,15,58,2,9,111,60,83,0.07400000000000001,0.8759999999999999,0.05,-0.4423,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,5,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,1,2,13,12,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,11,1,6,9,3,5,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,5,0,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275399449077602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26432343521516943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26691848957011993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498004697205821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26574990778335683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290084401273097,0.0,0.0,0.8043199767442835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scrambledeggnog33,2019/01/12,"So many diapers New parent here! My newborn wakes to be fed, and usually we change a dirty diaper before commencing feeding because wet diapers make him really fussy. However lately he wets himself post feeding and wakes up fussing. This is resulting in at least two diaper changes in an hours time. During the day this isn’t such a big deal; but at night, it sometimes causes him to fully wake up and putting him back to bed becomes difficult. Is the the norm and I just need to keep doing this routine or is there a better way to do things?",5.517898351648357,6.575203894230771,6.20236263736264,77.05692307692307,67.75,9.78901098901099,32.164835164835175,9.957137785484203,3.293441208791209,431,18,77,10,7,141,79,104,0.052000000000000005,0.911,0.037000000000000005,-0.1635,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,7,0,7,6,3,3,0,13,11,7,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,7,1,11,9,1,18,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,8,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168960066199985,0.0,0.12025487063947425,0.21787086430478864,0.16786351013324635,0.0,0.0,0.17447060375624254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20265216342648185,0.4173741629698493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722379260790664,0.2033782462996754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427268250444407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534396634804109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225308357469592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168025288409174,0.20000233010933205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627431185090928,0.0,0.19052603644663554,0.0,0.18512593189563126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219046646584877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18893155865387926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19831233641629392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263771693308287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951065500082765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105841375528315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503059351918972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192705583213912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217266678355686,0.0,0.0,0.15658492827901352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,erickaclark,2019/01/12,"Is this a stutter? I am not looking for medical advice, just curious if anyone else has a kid that repeats him/herself this way. 

He speaks normally 90% of the time, but out of the blue he will come up and say something like ""I have to, I have to, I have to eat all my dinner."" 

He is 3 and speaks great for his age most of the time. 

Does this seam like a stutter? Anyone have kids that have weird speech habits like this?",2.162561576354684,3.5132329080459823,3.2272577996715945,94.06137931034485,76.24137931034483,6.3507389162561605,22.773399014778327,6.868970318607317,0.4306433497536939,321,9,74,3,7,103,57,87,0.064,0.75,0.18600000000000005,0.9266,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,6,0,10,3,0,0,1,11,12,4,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,1,1,4,0,2,6,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,6,6,4,10,11,2,8,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,2,7,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407719577076534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445668133222831,0.2524582947478237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21224537310137245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21561978941181087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25212110055262976,0.2058293672344543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27164866692170603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611248767152005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069076946039828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24821458209519398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414123944213099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959412529540835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896850301155946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873469660059987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19557494526764907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,phe0chroma,2019/01/12,"Parenting advice for my brother and his newborn First time posting to this subreddit (disclosure: 27 year old medical student with no children but is a budding pediatrician) but am looking for some advice. My brother and his wife are 1.5 months from their due date and are rightfully freaking out about their first born child. They are discussing things like how to discipline your kids and finding they don't agree on everything but want to potentially read a book that will discuss the pros/cons to certain parenting styles. I have never discussed specific books with parents in my clinic besides what to expect when you are expecting... it sounds like they want a more comprehensive book. Any suggestions?

​

I saw the recommended AAP book for newborn-5yr on the recommended reading list sidebar. Anyone read this? ",9.164524380495603,10.83670610791367,7.666426858513192,67.6063709032774,59.863309352517994,10.782094324540367,41.343725019984014,10.746095033038511,5.011843485211831,675,36,97,16,9,203,101,139,0.054000000000000006,0.8140000000000001,0.133,0.8685,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,5,2,3,4,0,0,6,0,9,2,0,1,2,20,13,9,0,4,3,6,0,2,1,1,2,1,0,4,6,7,0,1,1,7,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,3,14,3,16,11,2,17,0,0,2,0,24,5,0,1,13,66,20,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988104303789799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656594407565392,0.18578166171418756,0.10397244472353816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069063012605478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741031931610448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974138076695453,0.2601013198245307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939153886412782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839156574124033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402355575033386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203768907745545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792046382895292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604354251830166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5093085613733994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642917667121322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4588029564813311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305697386338152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157527815233153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915310507692199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036043917529346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18578166171418756,0.0984580430313192
parenting,godfathercactus,2019/01/12,"How do you stay at home parents battle your loneliness? I’ve been a stay at home parent for about a year now. I’m staying at home due to the cost of daycare after the birth of our 3rd child and because I am trying to finish my degree. 

My husband works almost 24/7. I appreciate all he does for our family, but that doesn’t mean it’s not isolating being home alone all the time. As I was making breakfast this morning, he told me he had to go into the office to finish a project that was due later today. I just broke down crying. There are days I don’t feel like I could spend one more second alone. 

I do have family and friends in the metroplex. However, we are all busy with our own lives. It can be difficult to coordinate schedules. I understand that. 

I think about trying to meet new people, but A) I have terrible social anxiety and B) I just don’t know how to. Trying to chat up another mom at the local park seems so awkward. We’re not religious, so churches aren’t really an option. 

I have been trying to keep busy during the day doing things around the house/with the kids or running errands. Unfortunately, I can only do so much because of the lack of finances. 

I will be starting a weekend class on campus in a couple of weeks. I am really excited that I will be out of the house and around other people for a few hours. Even if I don’t talk with anyone, it feels nice to be in that type of setting. Most of my classes have been online. 

I genuinely enjoy spending time with my kids, and I am thankful for the opportunity to be at home with them while they’re young. But no matter how much I enjoy it, it does not replace the void I feel of always being alone. 

So how do you other stay at home parents deal with your loneliness? ",3.3732478632478617,4.772586894586893,4.877150997150999,83.25025641025643,73.21652421652422,7.47920227920228,24.68091168091168,8.045849151850463,1.4007937321937325,1364,41,270,20,27,458,183,351,0.12,0.785,0.095,-0.7379,5,3,0,0,0,0,37.0,4,4,1,2,17,13,1,1,21,0,37,1,0,5,3,48,52,20,0,3,10,5,3,1,1,2,0,0,6,3,14,15,1,1,8,2,4,2,9,5,0,2,7,3,35,8,49,35,10,46,1,1,0,0,27,17,0,6,23,196,49,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867307024913239,0.26911575356882744,0.0,0.0,0.07206919890035947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082159051720504,0.06625893269744282,0.0,0.0,0.0605620288948175,0.0,0.0,0.15420838915994473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559731998815666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915366732339301,0.09583596219508857,0.09514063620879296,0.1117168183432735,0.08929450274626671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159175418833726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057207263695359875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330261004601565,0.0,0.13138285137342634,0.06187655440757005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691721594788208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922433087918754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5212811742764006,0.0,0.0852966474883276,0.09994011213904856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698587518320754,0.0,0.0,0.04760040114738842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04231488035153542,0.0,0.07648112526772292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057815046184742286,0.0,0.0,0.09434726852166088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144044290436437,0.0,0.0,0.12734147361463855,0.0,0.0,0.08365165888809496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586914094586871,0.06587331289078348,0.0,0.0,0.28852143836779204,0.0,0.0,0.12009350460112055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109733877560248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788494897213334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829134557507523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130533515841355,0.3692729877652712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961648471521588,0.0,0.07974188408180749,0.0,0.0,0.05754202379023645,0.05549830138511266,0.0,0.0,0.10100981629833604,0.0,0.08209927510997002,0.08276271397136843,0.0,0.2352189642177617,0.0,0.0,0.09016749344325076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947595986502489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630555094566499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055776121488457384
parenting,hodl_4_life,2019/01/12,"I have a daughter who is nearly 4, my mom keeps calling me daddy thinking my daughter needs a reminder who I am. It makes me uncomfortable to be called daddy by my mom. I ask literally all the time for her to not call me daddy, to just call me my name or if talking to my daughter to refer to me as “your dad”. I know she means well but I’m not sure how to get her to stop.",1.7734552845528415,2.4703405731707377,4.130243902439022,89.79260162601628,76.1951219512195,6.442276422764228,24.642276422764226,6.42735559955562,0.5938471544715447,285,9,68,2,6,100,53,82,0.08800000000000001,0.892,0.019,-0.6697,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,2,2,18,13,5,0,2,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,18,2,12,12,1,3,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,2,2,49,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696039379216786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7410035957572269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478486891600613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125512373969922,0.0,0.0,0.09970411531745137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210997784249468,0.0,0.0,0.19762041314406706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.424955646313707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452120850647814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167589433672074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709869367388459,0.0,0.0,0.14581914968635282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624710943276435,0.0,0.0,0.10578791490874254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631190676590749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,plzsendhelpz,2019/01/12,"Just need a little guidance Im writing this in the middle of the night, for the 10th time in the last week before deleting, so forgive if im sounding a little clinical...

I'm a 30 year old single male, no kids of my own. I've recently taken in my 12 year old nephew. He comes from a background of neglect and abuse from my brother and his partner.

He's got several siblings, but he's the main one that has been passed around to various family members and through several indigenous communities for years now. 

Due to his father's abuse of my sister, mother and I, we've never had much to do with him over the years and before late last year, I had not really had any kind of relationship with my nieces and nephews.

I decided to take him in at the start of last month, and he's been living with me ever since. His physical health has improved dramatically, he's  no longer malnourished, his hygiene has improved and I've made s point of teaching him about dental health and telling him how to wash properly. His personality is so much better, he's always happy and laughing and smiling. He has a routine now and he looks forward to doing things during the day. I make sure he keeps close contact with his siblings and maintain a friendly relationship with my brother for his sake. 

So with that out of the way, holy shit what am I doing? I *think* I'm doing okay. He's happy and healthy and his quality of life is so so so much better with me. I want him to stay with me until he's older and ready to be independent.

But what am i doing? Schools back soon and that's another can of worms. Then sports. And activities. And friends. I'm basically winging every day. Some days are fun. Some days boring. Other days are hard work. I get that's life. I went from single and kinds lonely to having this awesome kid in my life nearly over night.

I'm not sure I had a real purpose for this post past hopefully getting some general, non specific advice from you guys.

I'm heading to sleep but I want to thank anyone who made it this far into my post and especially those that reply. Just know I'm dedicated to making his life better and doing what I can from the outside to make the lives of  his siblings better in some way too.",3.4354747474747462,5.190916163636363,4.7312121212121205,82.91126262626263,73.72727272727272,7.343434343434343,26.31313131313132,8.07648339933343,1.6641464646464652,1752,62,339,27,36,580,216,440,0.056,0.75,0.194,0.9971,0,2,0,0,2,0,46.0,0,1,0,5,17,22,1,0,18,1,26,11,3,7,4,71,54,35,0,5,8,7,1,0,3,0,8,1,0,6,17,35,0,2,4,1,0,4,5,4,0,1,11,3,40,18,57,42,12,62,0,2,1,0,49,20,1,6,35,218,57,3,0.0,0.1875010266099891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732030386804081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658385681596017,0.0,0.0,0.05380790094730623,0.08296975086260623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055326232677956416,0.0,0.0,0.07043827110196144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084245307110809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465956391290124,0.0,0.0,0.2799195060175625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815941897482093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25514628549002666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157334207768326,0.06666645760823849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459226816868245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226398379498135,0.0,0.08267938178632678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328371138518754,0.0,0.0,0.07834646321951268,0.0,0.168460655091925,0.07088070543674213,0.0,0.08120536073714953,0.16821293647768615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858925253081138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093775191944546,0.0,0.0,0.07033018082501423,0.0,0.16479359749150335,0.043485182341205166,0.19349298175545845,0.08925675769282053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235540895804068,0.0,0.15860862685646948,0.13973813656021905,0.0,0.06644530356330282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974049849033388,0.15845020828443074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315704034062476,0.0,0.17449854621763425,0.05867038950236396,0.061026290708467476,0.0,0.0,0.1485074227165099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605733354911434,0.0,0.05361733474200708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553402907776513,0.0,0.06908913892966481,0.0,0.0,0.07479896129430401,0.0,0.15156028417087936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006188672504074,0.050689677873195435,0.0,0.0781266642271394,0.16990186906161533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007900352847774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787780793517399,0.08122095867168586,0.0654532458995267,0.0,0.07918241924853654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05600527755213197,0.08433701617835766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14914927229190106,0.0,0.059492360230172535,0.0,0.06915897874227878,0.07284792325156472,0.0,0.0,0.052567317427695284,0.05070028187128401,0.0,0.0,0.04613858469789146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334027560630956,0.1256119220946086,0.06346952358040403,0.0,0.0,0.07334992350057595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057604143247655074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547704173438307
parenting,mwadej69,2019/01/12,It's the simple things... My 16 yr old just brought me breakfast in bed ...any parent who has been through the teen years or are in them understand the minefield on a daily. One day is love and the next day..God help me! But today she did a just because and it just made me so proud as a parent. We are going through alot right now and knowing her heart just changed mine. I love her.❤️😍,0.2998238482384821,2.391756109756102,1.490162601626018,100.60673441734421,85.46341463414635,4.132249322493226,20.08672086720868,5.033348758259628,-0.5234514905149048,299,9,71,1,9,94,63,82,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.9467,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,8,0,6,4,1,1,0,14,13,7,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,10,3,6,9,1,12,0,0,0,2,10,4,0,2,6,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686603307978874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316524353673974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22846611003036005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785637212769917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227399149959951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559237946045093,0.14475917965659593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869067768427435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898401317453137,0.2043546822817143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968502368250784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22662268377695086,0.0,0.14634589194589168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4796150763559083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18443597824791733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347992105865925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20471295126311445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483089730135528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907667789536338
parenting,kanjirodriguez,2019/01/12,"Survey: How does personality relate to parenting? Are you interested in how your own personality can potentially shape how you parent? You are enthusiastically invited to participate in an anonymous survey exploring the relationship between personality and parenting styles! 

You must be at least **18 years of age and a parent** to take this brief, 15-25 minute survey. 

This study is being conducted by a research lab in the psychology department at SUNY New Paltz, with Julie Planke as the principal investigator. If you choose to participate, you will be asked various questions about yourself and your approaches to parenting. 

SURVEY LINK: [https://newpaltz.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_5sYrlD9iZBLe56d](https://newpaltz.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_5sYrlD9iZBLe56d)

Thank you for your consideration - you participation would be *greatly* appreciated! 

Sincerely, 

Julie Planke

Principal Investigator 

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parenting,alveress85,2019/01/12,"Coaching Soccer changed my life I was knee deep in work, focused on all the wrong things, when my five year old son kept asking me to go outside and play.  I kept telling him, Daddy has work to do.  I found myself working during the day, checking emails at night and not turning off work.  As i looked at the disappointment in his face, I started to realized I was missing out on my children growing up.  

As a Dad in his early 30s, with 3 children and a loving supportive wife, I had it all right?  Wrong.  My priorities were off.  See working in corporate America, it is easy to get sucked in and forget about what is really important.  Business trips, long hours, last minute projects that need to be finished over the weekend.  

Until one day, my wife asked me... “Do you want to coach your son’s soccer team?  They need volunteers.”   At first I wanted to say no.  I don’t have time, I may have to travel for work, and might miss practice or games were all my excuses.  But then it hit me, why not, I thought.  So I signed up to coach, and told my boss and my customers at work that coaching is my number one priority in my life right now.  

Fast forward, the season is wrapping up, mighty Mexico has grown this season, in team work, in passion for the game, and most importantly we have achieved our motto, “Work Hard, Have Fun.”  Looking back, I haven’t missed a single practice or game and fulfilled my commitment, not to the team but to myself.  I also never missed a beat with work, in fact my work team tells me I’m a better leader who motivates them to achieve their goals.  

So I ask you, what positive influence has refocused your life to what was important? 

TL:DR: Coached son’s soccer team, found myself along the way, which has made me a better leader and a better person.  What positive influence has refocused your life to what is important?",4.451974286336892,5.855846144475922,4.914631728045325,84.00909729788627,70.55807365439094,8.037001525386795,28.30780126389192,8.502166056373571,1.9911805186315101,1431,52,278,23,26,455,188,353,0.054000000000000006,0.8029999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.985,0,0,0,0,1,0,55.0,2,5,3,25,7,16,1,0,15,0,27,8,2,5,6,48,57,22,0,4,7,6,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,3,14,15,0,2,5,19,1,6,7,8,0,4,13,5,48,8,45,40,5,55,0,5,3,2,41,26,1,5,24,184,62,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898313510617686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24192802958960524,0.0,0.0,0.0663296195899344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288733451655165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125302372620936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112628120799735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337382267162076,0.0,0.18916213887801636,0.0,0.0,0.045067971991601084,0.0,0.04902428799524832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07727318657567196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495001022482086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031447739383492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437156454279111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633854117375932,0.14487554286283222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785419637699523,0.08162253328660951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150961372354653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127923330518475,0.06653003689622068,0.0,0.0,0.08095039201949361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905167297541296,0.0,0.11690578657987473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532004499629445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526120136109322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733336770856134,0.0,0.06859845267059475,0.0,0.0,0.06873909245687494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061056196250338826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788830761213604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507923668311806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057308178612839336,0.0,0.0,0.06848184134693931,0.050299661123991764,0.0,0.0,0.08242637436675089,0.0,0.0,0.09382753018452816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175830626273907,0.06847020943384953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783741142293017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6907918381185365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886263927949308,0.0,0.05554945276593316
parenting,gibbonmann,2019/01/12,"5yo won’t use manners with me or say goodbye etc I’ve a 5yo daughter, her mum and I aren’t together (she’s married) and my daughter and I spend half the week every week together. Been like that since she was a year old. Her mum and I communicate brilliantly, I do feel her mum perhaps isn’t quite understanding though too with this and doesn’t do anything to help it change.  Step-dad and her get along great, although I have to speak with him and mum as there’s another issue with his behaviour that needs sorting out, he’s not quite aware how influence is his behaviour is it seems. Anyway I digress.. 

My daughter’s just not saying please or thank you to me at all, and won’t say it to anyone else in my presence either. 
She has no issues when with her mum or stepdad etc just with me, likewise I never get a goodnight, goodbye or an I love you from her yet it’s always there for her mum too so I know it’s a normal thing for her otherwise. 

We have a great relationship and she shows me loads of affection with hugs and drawings and needing to hold my hand and call me from mums etc etc but this manners and not verbally giving affection...
I have to admit it really does upset me a lot that it’s come to this. It’s not a great feeling in shops or when someone gives her something and I’m constantly having to say thanks on her behalf. Or likewise if I do something for her too, I’ve tried the usual insisting on manners before giving or doing, 

I’ve tried talking to her, I’ve tried playing games with toys that focus on manners being used, we all use manners around her, perhaps more so than normal as an encouragement. She will have characters in games same thank you too.

I know she can be shy and quiet but not always either. I get she may feel anxious with the spotlight on her with strangers or whatever, but in the home setting it’s just weird she’s the same. She’s never had a negative moment I can think of with me where vocalising thanks or please could be associated with too. 

I know it may seems a small thing maybe, I’m kind of at the end of my tether with it to be honest and I don’t really know what to do to to help her understand and encourage her that manners are necessary sometimes when with me as well as her mum. Any advice and suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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parenting,fhaselton,2019/01/12,"ADULT CHILDREN PARENTING INPUT SOUGHT hi all--i have a 19 yr old son and his 20 yr old gf living with my husband and i. he moved out when he was 16 (against our wishes) and then needed somewhere to live. we also have two other sons living locally who are 21 and also 19. they have all worked since 14 y/o, everyone moved out by 16 or before. the two other boys are my stepsons, tho i don't consider them that. we've all been together since the boys were about 10 + 11 and the other 19 year old also lived with us for a year while he was going to college.   
anyway, lss, i am well aware that I enable and it's just really going south now. i also work really hard to be mindful, empathic, and kind, (i'm a social worker, shocking) and I've got to get this back on the right track asap. I never have opportunity to speak to my son alone as his gf monitors his texts, etc. so today I drafted this note and I'm going to try to slip it to him before he goes to work on Monday, maybe he can read it on his lunch break or something. 

I'm looking for input on the content of the note, how you'd feel if you received such a note, etc. Thanks. (I know it's super long but normally we exchange about 10 words per week...)  
  

There are many things I have to say to you.   
 The first is, I am so proud to have you for a son. You have integrity, you’re honest, you’re kind, and an incredibly hard worker.  
 The second is, I hope you understand how much I wanted another child. I was so over the moon thrilled to have a son.  
 And then everything went not the way I hoped. And no matter what I did or how I tried, I couldn’t fix anything. I couldn’t get anything right. I found out later that’s because I worked on the wrong problems—the problem was my deep, deep fractures. It was killing me. Through it all, I felt so bound to you. You were such a beautiful mystery to me. A son! And I also believed I understood you, because my older sister made frightening choices, too. I tried so hard to protect you. I know I failed.   
 You were always so tender and hopeful. Nothing has ever broken my heart open as much as your loving spirit.   
 I loved the time we lived alone together in TOWN A and even parts of TOWN B weren’t so bad. I’m sorry for all of the mistakes I made and all of my poor choices. Again, I was broken inside in a way I did not understand. I was always trying so hard to do my best. I never understood why all I could seem to do was hurt people. I would give my left arm to have spared you all the pain I caused, and I would give my right arm for more time with you. I’d be happily armless. 

Funny, but not wise or healthy. How would I care for myself with no arms? In my effort to make up for all the wrongs I’ve done, all the ways I’ve hurt you, I have hurt myself. I can’t do that anymore. I don’t *want* to do that anymore.  
 How did you feel when you lived with ROOMIE and you struggled to pay your bills, you cleaned and did the dishes, and he slept and fucked GIRLFRIEND? I would be surprised if you didn’t feel angry and resentful. I know it didn’t feel fair.   
 Perhaps you and I didn’t communicate clearly enough when you moved in. I expected you to pay rent, $500, plus the electric (whatever the increased amount is), plus shares of the heat, plowing, and food. Before you moved in, I was already straining my budget by paying for your truck each month. I know how you feel about the truck. Here is how it seemed to me:  
 I didn’t feel right about not telling you about your inheritance. I could have hid it from you, or refused to give it to you, but those did not feel like ethical choices. I try so hard to do the right thing all the time, while also being true to myself.   
 I believed your decision to put money into the green truck was a good one. I never expected you to decide you didn’t it. You abandoned it over here. You would have had no way to get to and from work—perhaps I should have *not* helped at that moment. In fact, I can see now I made a huge mistake. But because I thought I was “HELPING,” we offered you the Taco, with the expectation you would make payments.  
 I think you may have made one?   
 So now you have moved in, and all of my expenses have gone up. If I had the money to support you and A, I would. I just don’t. I’ve tried to be understanding and patient but maybe I’ve been TOO patient and understanding. Your expenses went down considerably when you moved in, so I don’t understand why you can’t pay your bills. Your budget is not my business but because I am struggling to make up the difference, I think about it. You buy gas, your food, pot, a small rent, and the debt to your uncle. You make a good wage, plus side jobs. Five hundred, if I take off $250 for the Taco, is $250 per month. Where would you and Arin be able to live for $250 per month?   
 On the other hand, I’ve got the mortgage ($1300), electric ($150), heat, plowing ($150), food, gas, and THREE car payments, one of them being yours.   
 I know our relationship is not the same as you & Evan, but this seems too far imbalanced in your favor—far enough that it’s hurting me financially. I already went through all of our savings and whatever extra money we ever had, helping you and ROOMIE and A.   
 I do not feel I am being like your uncle, I don’t believe I have given you things or help “with strings attached.” Instead I’m asking you to try to see my side of this and to understand what a terrible position I am in. I want more than anything to help you. But I also need to survive.   
 It also feels so hurtful and disrespectful that you did not even plan to talk to me about skipping rent this month, and to hear you call me names. That just cannot continue.   
 I love you and I hope we can work together to figure out how to make this situation work.   
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parenting,PotterQuoter,2019/01/12,"Nostalgic movies to watch with your kids once they're old enough. Suggestions! My kids are just in the toddler stage now, but I've mentally been compiling a list of movies that I adored in my childhood for us to watch together when they're a bit older! 

So far, I've got: 

Matilda
The Goonies
Jumanji
The Little Rascals
Hook
Madeline
The Sandlot

Don't worry, I've got a Disney movies list too, and my VHS collection is ready to go. (Oh, and Pixar too!) 

I feel like there's a couple more of these types of movies that I'm forgetting, and they're on the tip of my tongue. 

Any suggestions I can add to my list? 

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parenting,Ousimanie,2019/01/12,"My Dad has too much reliance on ""discipline"" I feel like my dad over exaggerates when he says that his children need discipline. He wants me to be civil and well disciplined, but he does so by screaming at you for the most minor things. Sometimes he'll call me and I'll say ""huh?"" and he'll get mad at me for saying ""huh"" instead of ""yes.""  not only that, he forces you to actually go to him when he calls you to get his demands, even if you can hear him from where you are, and if i don't do so he gets mad. Just the other day I had a cold and i had to take cold medication that required you to eat some food first. My mom made eggs and brought some bread as well. As I started eating only the eggs, my dad asked me ""why aren't you eating the eggs?"" to which I replied that I'd rather do that than eat it with the bread. He said ""you have to eat something heavy before you eat the cold medication."" I replied ""I know-"" before he cut me off and raised his voice at me, saying things like ""I DON'T CARE IF YOU KNOW"" or questioning me with ""SO YOU KNOW BUT YOU DON'T DO IT?"" Worst thing is that i hadn't even finished my sentence. It's not like I can retaliate either, becausw in my family if you as much as sound hostile when talking to my parents they'll get mad at you.
Please help.",1.7678309721543748,3.3640860599250964,3.0355186451717984,93.97576941866146,77.91385767790263,6.141605601693535,21.72105520273571,6.8959733430537185,0.285412115290669,986,27,230,10,23,319,132,267,0.107,0.8059999999999999,0.087,-0.8235,1,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,0,14,1,2,15,13,5,0,7,3,18,14,0,1,0,36,39,24,0,7,12,5,1,3,0,3,2,9,0,1,14,9,12,4,5,0,0,2,7,7,2,1,6,13,45,6,29,29,7,18,0,0,0,0,48,9,0,9,10,151,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.09597302835779244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194168940181192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737305391717164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084770224556373,0.0,0.10027188839303916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342603786495245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606460946301157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6038046168852672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991526708693393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927133235785334,0.0,0.049727479589874994,0.07025951402855411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365438133491462,0.11892225572350297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553015654368226,0.0,0.055893182790561984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084484388056602,0.0,0.06592029405773926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214773515753092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414294516591095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930588359235198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814963301209246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518346956355388,0.0,0.0,0.14459354011395747,0.07292346700210738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959549688794932,0.0,0.0,0.1092033228666682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795608384186003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110171771197905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355104761421136,0.31283969730586564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571275383586845,0.09726824813864353,0.0,0.06961090669684754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394512299850453,0.0790480405914285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19601323957496747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058007936932735614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685252875613633,0.0,0.08874337277530055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sad_muso,2019/01/12,"5 year old wakes up EVERY night and comes downstairs - help! For some unknown reason our 5 year old wakes up regular as clockwork every night between 10:30-11:30pm and comes downstairs then demands that we go upstairs to bed. He then sleeps in our bed and we are powerless to do anything because he will simply refuse to go into his own bedroom. If we put him in there he’ll be straight back to our rook again. So he’s basically controlling the situation.

We need to put a stop to this but aren’t sure of the best approach - he’s too old for a stair gate on his bedroom door.

Any advice for taming this seriously stubborn kid? 😩",4.5113821138211385,5.888302739837401,4.897723577235773,84.29016260162601,70.3821138211382,7.417886178861789,30.739837398373986,7.793537801064563,1.9895788617886183,499,21,97,6,9,158,83,123,0.08800000000000001,0.816,0.097,0.4904,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,7,0,0,2,5,4,1,0,4,0,5,3,3,2,1,20,11,9,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,1,3,10,0,4,1,0,0,7,1,2,0,0,0,0,10,2,18,8,3,27,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,2,12,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945043789424107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096300633867806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427719852134531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546970587835346,0.0,0.09946854091332642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712396429726694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811176019354571,0.0,0.0,0.18301201652251936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27496001248606666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546956951319324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937119654542653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099046213713052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062529814045424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5136667839888155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280671900197676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776867403794116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18341290999369173,0.16329050444825224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641965274181034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378830390487458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015569042409504
parenting,Pennycrayon82,2019/01/12,"Using Peppa Pig (or other cartoon) as an occasional babysitter for 9 month old:- awful mother or totally normal?! I was one of those people that said I'd never sit my child in front of the TV. Oh how times have changed when reality hits!! Sometimes it's a case of: upset whiny 9 month old not wanting to play on her mat whilst I'm making lunch vs 9 month old that lights up and loves watching a bit of Peppa whilst I make lunch. Feel bad this has become a bit of a daily habit, but only ever for a maximum half hour or so a day. Peppa has been a lifesaver on a number of occasions, especially when she had an ear infection and needed distraction from antibiotics!!! 

I pretty much interact with her all the time normally, do baby groups etc... but it's hard to not feel a bit guilty!!",4.817499999999999,5.331991903846159,6.151692307692312,78.7433076923077,69.06410256410257,9.060512820512821,27.138461538461538,9.120678840339163,2.099858461538461,611,18,119,11,10,207,111,156,0.081,0.8079999999999999,0.112,0.8359,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,13,1,7,5,1,4,4,25,18,12,0,4,8,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,7,3,2,0,2,2,0,1,3,3,0,2,4,7,7,2,17,13,7,22,0,0,1,1,9,4,0,3,16,72,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844654929361853,0.0,0.15667239764366986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4646206832848823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500682779123873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148748130597853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15821056389621865,0.0,0.12831981431284464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345659960847149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270780250855738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970278706958658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803351276997546,0.0,0.18938430347266932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396921026935565,0.0,0.10428287217236584,0.10518683727852693,0.10941059987687668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779838932253752,0.0,0.0,0.44657226254394417,0.0,0.0961274999646724,0.10789035296620206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983473430419798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443218577997157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134940633340258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030242677615978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543854036227582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252084587102327,0.0,0.0,0.08367226180881368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bieuwkje,2019/01/12,"To Japanse/azian parents: from what age do your children eat raw fish sushi(salmon mostly) Hy there!

Ive noticed a big difference in Japanse and even usa Food advice according to sushi with where i am from (the netherlands)

I am wondering what the advice is/what you do with babys/goddlers/young children and raw fush sushi. Mainly salmon sushi.

Thnx for helping!.
Love bieuwk ",4.585863539445629,7.611196626865674,2.9368869936034123,91.05432835820896,75.26865671641791,5.619616204690832,28.974413646055442,6.868970318607317,1.5216115138592758,302,13,53,3,7,84,50,67,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.6988,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,7,2,4,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,2,1,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5457179153485919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917344577452138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857205687882322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844278577952999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33764433324982696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871610456709413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520147146282405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31790361347455753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310050317441924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028115071864449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,carbniece,2019/01/12,"I'm a free spirit. How do I square that with being a parent? I am facing a philosophical dilemma with my daughter. 

Already from a small age, I was free spirited and had a kind of innate contempt for authority. Even though I was a well-behaved student with good grades, I was kicked out of my first school because I was insubordinate and never did my homework (it was one of those strict Catholic schools). My childhood was a bumpy ride but in the end I turned out OK as an adult.  I am grateful for my parents for always giving me a lot of autonomy.

Now my daughter is approaching her 1st birthday and I need to start thinking about how to go about the topic of discipline. Yet the whole idea of discipline goes against my grain and I am wary to impose on her what I sometimes found very traumatizing as a child. 

In my ideal world, I would not need to discipline my daughter. Rather, she should learn by experiencing, and reasoning about, the consequences of her actions. Of course this is an impossible ideal. *Some* rules are needed. If it's a question of safety or being a nuisance to her surroundings, discipline might be the only option.  Still, I want to keep the rules to an absolute minimum.

Yet, I'm worried that what worked for me might not work for my daughter. I'm new to parenting and kind of making it up as I go along. Maybe I'm being too naive?  

An example: Partly because of my upbringing,  I could never function in an institutional setting like a large corporation. Which is fine, because I never wanted that for my life anyhow (I run my own business). But what if my daughter turns out the same and suffers for it? Maybe I *should* impose rules on my daughter just so she doesn't became a maladapted member of society?   

Thoughts?",4.529553799674645,6.336010341389732,5.381646525679759,79.15375261445506,70.96374622356495,8.113455728561467,30.25342784104113,8.730908602173464,2.517965280037184,1377,58,250,25,26,449,179,331,0.071,0.804,0.125,0.9462,3,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,0,5,15,12,1,0,25,1,27,2,1,4,3,59,47,19,0,14,9,9,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,2,13,14,0,5,7,0,2,6,6,2,0,2,10,2,41,12,49,27,6,32,2,1,1,0,19,12,0,10,14,192,54,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625939368407987,0.0,0.09520214102681968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20923829672643726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913507752201557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133740563332393,0.0,0.0,0.07556978666592262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732102920465824,0.0,0.12544974060131248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097569424767656,0.13004894634087216,0.0959655666070346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916019515305294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016969837058686,0.0,0.23829046935941095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081443961449647,0.055897210850498036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972712302937842,0.0,0.0,0.07637265661800598,0.0,0.2298897563863069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24275169169128816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25451100403470345,0.2647308574643081,0.11050236644925586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753031705089311,0.08701748485372585,0.0,0.0,0.38113173288810337,0.12389989896293782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281705750635348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763729944974866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23158743576331894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131589985692234,0.0,0.08098326681162292,0.0,0.09137167448245943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331227758642511,0.11241179695898824,0.09083243913216492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489005335364985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440405549362677,0.13496943099085554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287249658261532,0.0,0.0,0.1277398528434237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659043240121274,0.1161936146132647,0.0,0.08127687325483272,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bestminipc,2019/01/12,"for parents that's seen alot of kids show, and knows alot about play **goal**

**looking for highly rated high quality shows related to play**

\- looking for any kind of **media**,

\- including the subset of **kids shows**

\- and including **cartoons**, a subset of kids shows

​

since you have seen alot of kids show, and knows alot about play

then what do you recommend and why?

​

**examples**

was recommended [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby\_Looney\_Tunes](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_Looney_Tunes) once on the web

the person had seen alot of carttons apparently and knew (some) about cartoons it seemed

​

this show has:

\- ""Looney Tunes characters as toddler and preschool versions of themselves.""

\- and ran from 2002 - 2005 (so pretty old show)

​

**play**, since you know alot about play, is a **fully positive** quality

but not all **positive** things are **play**, ofc

**doing good** is **positive** for instance but it's not **play**

​

this show is probabaly positive, but i havent really seen it much, so i dont know what its about, or if it's about play, or largely represents play

this is a lowly rated show (and **looking for highly rated high quality shows related to play)**

​

seems like there's a muppet version of loony tunes also [https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/WesternAnimation/BabyLooneyTunes](https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/WesternAnimation/BabyLooneyTunes)

​

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parenting,mcmanybucks,2019/01/12,"Is there any sort of reputable ""test"" for how you'd do as a parent? I'm miles away from the concept, I don't even have any ladies sparing me a second thought much less an SO.. but for shits and giggles I'd love to see if I knew stuff.. y'know?",1.7244339622641505,2.6011425283018887,2.9359905660377343,97.61266509433963,76.54716981132076,5.300000000000002,22.683962264150942,3.1291,-0.2741283018867926,186,5,46,0,4,60,45,53,0.076,0.7709999999999999,0.153,0.6381,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,4,0,5,2,1,1,0,7,10,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,4,2,7,7,2,2,0,0,1,1,3,2,1,2,0,30,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43695942677541255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018507819643507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122007551284945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656570888766995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899654823674233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23617592517707975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567406371006627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560165672411494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297867313025715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367785866324575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550584436504719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rarelyusedaccount45,2019/01/12,"Just found out we are expecting baby #2! Overwhelmed with emotion. (TW: miscarriage.) Advice about anxiety needed. Hello, all! First time poster here, but just had to share as we're not telling anyone IRL until we get to the 12 week mark - took a pregnancy test yesterday and found out I'm pregnant! This will be baby #2. :) 

We had tried for a bit. Got pregnant last year; had a miscarriage. 

I have always wanted two children, as has hubby. Our little one is just about 2 yrs old now. And in roughly 9 months we'll have another. It makes my stomach flip over every time I think about it. 

I need some advice. Parents of 2 or more, how was it going from 1 to 2 kids? How did the age gap work out? Any tips that stem from your own experiences? 

And advice on a deeper level; I am anxiety ridden and can easily recognize it and need to get myself under control. My anxiety doesn't center around one or two categories, it's all over the place. Our toddler, the pregnancy, finances, everything. It all comes to a head every single night when I lay in bed and try to sleep, but I may have developed a bit of insomnia. I often lay awake for 4 hours every night before falling asleep, and the sleep itself is not restful. My anxiety makes stressful thoughts pop up like weeds. When it starts, there is little I can do to stop it, and often cry myself to sleep over it all. How do I manage my anxiety? It isn't healthy for me or for the baby growing inside me. 

I go to a therapist, and while it makes me feel like I've gotten something off my chest whenever we talk, none of the therapeutic suggestions she has given me have worked. I briefly tried taking a low-dose antidepressant last year, and for the most part it was fine; I felt good for a while. The side effects were far outweighed by the relief I felt. However, I like doing my research, and found out that many antidepressants are often not 100% safe to take during pregnancy, and I decided that I didn't want to take the risk, so I slowly weaned myself off them. The anxiety has returned full force. 

Bad, intrusive thoughts pop in all the time. Things that I'm sure everyone has fleeting thoughts about, but I mull over these for hours, in tears.  What if I have another miscarriage? What if I suffer a medical emergency during this pregnancy? What if my toddler can't handle my attention being on a newborn? What if my anxiety puts me at higher risk of PPD once the baby is born? 

Last night I had a terrible dream: that I was in an empty parking lot with my toddler and newborn, and a mugger held me at knifepoint and robbed me. I think I must have read *something* somewhere about some muggers targeting women who are alone, only with young children or a stroller, knowing the mother will be easy to rob since she will want to protect her children. What the hell do I do about intrusive thoughts like that? I can't live happily thinking of all the bad things in the world. 

How can I be the best mother I can be to my children, and the best partner I can be to my husband? 

My hubby is very supportive and knows of my anxiety, but I feel lonely. He can't put himself in my shoes because this is all so personal, and I don't expect him to. I do have an upcoming appointment with my therapist though. 

I apologize if this seems like more of a rant, I just had to say all this to someone, even if it is to anonymous readers on these subs.



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parenting,Nhin07,2019/01/12,"My 5 Year old son won't stop peeing in his underwear. My son, who will be 6 end of February. He had a hard time potty training, he didn't fully get trained until 4 years old. He never had any accidents or wetting the bed in the middle of the night. 

So this problem started about 2 weeks ago. I asked his doctor for advice, and she wanted a urine test done. Results came back normal, nothing wrong. I've read that sometimes big changes to his life might cause this regression. The only thing I can think of is that our master bathroom is being redone because there was a leak from the shower and it cause mold to grow on our walls and under the linoleum floors. We are currently in the process of having it redone. It should have been done already, but landlord is lagging (that's another story). Anyways, we only have one other guest bathroom, and there is 6 people in the house who are sharing it. The master bathroom is his main bathroom.

He and his sister sleeps in our room, in their own bunk bed. We have a little light strip that we leave on at night so they can see where they is going if they needs to use the bathroom. Now, if he needs to use the bathroom, he has to open our room door and walk the dark hallway to get to the bathroom. My husband thinks that he is scared of the darkness so he holds in his pee and ends up wetting himself. 

BUT his accidents happens throughout the day. I had to put him in pull ups and pack extra in his backpack so he can change, to avoid him wetting his pants. I don't like the pull ups because I feel like it made it worse. Today, I decided that since it is friday, I will have him go without pull ups all weekend. It's been about 8 hours since he's been out of school, he's already had to change his underwear and pants 11 times. 

The guy who is doing our bathroom is a really close friend of ours, so when he heard that we are having this problem, he reinstalled our toilet  two days ago, so potty time is more accessible. My son won't use it because he's scared of getting sick if he went in our bathroom.

I don't know what to do, I'm trying my hardest to be patient with him and not make him feel bad for having accidents. My room stink of pee and parts of my couch is wet. I've tried googling, but I can't seem to find anything. What can I do to stop this from happening?",4.528255649717514,4.903754184322036,4.971,87.44575141242939,69.65677966101696,7.479774011299435,28.23333333333333,7.03164865440522,1.3043209604519772,1813,59,382,14,30,577,229,472,0.102,0.856,0.042,-0.9829,2,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,13,0,4,2,15,12,0,3,22,0,53,8,5,8,2,60,81,26,0,10,9,5,7,2,2,6,3,1,9,1,27,21,0,4,8,2,0,10,9,8,0,2,15,11,51,4,52,57,6,68,0,0,1,0,63,30,0,6,30,246,78,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882980017141004,0.1601960252610458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994273323844017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144738047312821,0.0947495397378153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435795386818797,0.0,0.08447369004334941,0.0,0.0,0.06948067657275883,0.07544618952380491,0.16524645862476828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334689643563864,0.0,0.18564765629754296,0.2867642781763755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654846671060075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248650906641942,0.0,0.1849377453119935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006292986624765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137669157141462,0.06455265776884317,0.0,0.0,0.08258670664770272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981132322712091,0.0,0.14162691743586184,0.0,0.10270647470815683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946985199976197,0.15980875171028175,0.0,0.08094412899400169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898564806753431,0.10426242892901837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496590741735143,0.0,0.0,0.09567738632696812,0.0,0.0,0.06382340212556993,0.08828991904979222,0.0905636948216414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550009590582311,0.06031549309728435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958568722952345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340004602591311,0.06969061490986596,0.0,0.0,0.16959204774929826,0.08853286827654652,0.08670212597999541,0.0,0.18963364069782426,0.0,0.061229758266794526,0.13744454466968312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978502494424348,0.0,0.06264371842454025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292317520179729,0.0,0.09083599170144324,0.0,0.0,0.0903836906149104,0.0,0.057886441721352475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093072131292368,0.09144837302875106,0.07200461393307707,0.08225965673044074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949219104190994,0.0,0.09042449448292704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089367596982196,0.0,0.06395673381905607,0.0,0.0,0.15108873817734944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003066273844315,0.11579710248465283,0.0,0.0,0.15806759519569702,0.0,0.08564999231107194,0.0,0.0,0.12269598269706908,0.0,0.08826784593417991,0.0,0.0,0.2341241094821865,0.0,0.0,0.05329621977137065,0.0,0.07248073043608505,0.0,0.0,0.08376391900937699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710308107248302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208378325179284,0.0,0.09879364205534796,0.0,0.11637677361289267
parenting,Tokatoya,2019/01/12,"What chores should my kids be doing? I want my kids (10F & 7F) to learn about responsibility and focus/ concentration. 
What do your kids do to learn about these things at home and do you pay them pocket money for it?",3.1085714285714303,5.460749619047622,3.676428571428573,87.40607142857145,76.61904761904762,6.104761904761905,15.261904761904766,7.1686216300943375,-0.3832095238095237,172,2,36,2,4,54,32,42,0.042,0.927,0.031,-0.1179,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,5,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,6,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,25,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6287730174736464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5821050731381481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38553670018981606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34228588800981075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BrodyNoPants,2019/01/12,"Appreciation for We Bare Bears? Ice Bear is hilarious! The writing is almost as good as Teen Titans Go! I am dreading the crossover from cartoons to ""real life"" shows. When does that happen, by the way?",1.766306306306305,4.509811621621623,3.3987837837837844,81.67853603603606,94.94594594594594,4.628828828828829,22.382882882882885,6.42735559955562,0.91903963963964,158,6,27,2,6,52,33,37,0.076,0.7120000000000001,0.213,0.7324,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4087509188580836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357216458738992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319880953236254,0.3423767687508227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609677776465448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883220271800235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4646182192588658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32400824412805473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wtf_ever_man,2019/01/13,"Advice? Venting? Son goes to hypochondriac mom So I don't get all worried and everything when my kids get sick.  I don't over react and I feel I don't under react.  I find out what medicine to give them.  If its still around in a couple days I might make a doc apt depending how bad and what it is.

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My wife has fibromyalgia.  She complains about her pains and aches and headaches, openly.  My son is a high functioning autisitc, not extreme but its there.  Hes starting to turn to her for medical advice.  I'm fine with that but I feel like I need to rope in some restraint here.

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I've talked to him a bit and he says he turns to her because shes more scientific.  I tell him also that not everything is something which isn't convincing him of anything because he worries about things and has pointed things out about his hand and ignores me when I say don't worry about it but its ok when she says its ok don't worry about it(which usually isn't the case but sometimes it is.)

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This seems to be turning into a wife and I thing because of our different philosophies on using medication which is something we have never seen eye to eye on.

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I feel like this is a big part of being a father and I look out for my kids but if they don't turn to me and turn to her I feel like I've lost them in some part.

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I know I should probably let this go but I feel like this is going to start eating at me because I don't want them turning out like her where everything is something and everything hurts all the time.

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Hes 13 in April and she is 9 last week.  He already brings worries to her, his foot hurts, his hand has flecky stuff on it.  My daughter complained about her foot.  I don't try to dismiss things and I don't feel I do.  I just like to use logical reasoning.

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I'm kind of looking for thoughts or advice or feedback maybe?  Anyone been there before?  ",2.6041558441558443,4.64703876623377,3.2890909090909086,91.07363636363638,76.92207792207795,6.166233766233766,25.80519480519481,7.110495986334442,1.0803818181818188,1515,57,313,17,35,476,177,385,0.099,0.7879999999999999,0.114,0.8339,1,0,3,0,0,0,57.0,2,0,4,1,19,19,0,0,9,2,34,11,6,8,3,65,68,30,0,5,13,7,8,6,0,2,4,3,0,2,23,23,1,1,12,0,0,3,14,8,0,0,4,16,55,11,45,59,8,37,0,3,5,0,46,21,0,9,19,209,78,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553777518325509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054784573645533255,0.03970114772961835,0.0,0.3765329184495895,0.4222693917122624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034712990035851266,0.0,0.040853665855298114,0.04419464121364595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04145156310143812,0.1210527052496142,0.0,0.0422443014288505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054199562830304165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05493133010012169,0.0,0.03201696568589461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051868535899064636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05079930459307126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847116545985475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061224644664278,0.17733225387257406,0.0,0.0,0.04537469822603921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187500426470598,0.04762407867467135,0.056428879233829776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245274636896596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629215696979798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051697704965675766,0.02728363433136592,0.04046736133762045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05076545170644143,0.0,0.14552445287744822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337871743221102,0.0,0.054193462752797406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03313847238537579,0.0,0.049875149569514235,0.0,0.0,0.1000243782266334,0.0,0.052665578152210166,0.0,0.058143710639008486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036811193309508015,0.038289341579045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05282585895812377,0.0,0.0,0.1075215544974548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469306416219393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352578644457175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510434044320856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184392663209643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04519501081746003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465761017781037,0.04910024759252502,0.0,0.07027807777690355,0.0,0.03964662021366233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056831732233059165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03990282994724896,0.043391982858194636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192792480201232,0.0,0.0,0.03941264333559808,0.028948441875824918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033705746447643944,0.32399750732358024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857548084625867,0.0546770351913718,0.0,0.029281950895930005,0.0,0.039822283806152194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520849123055687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4222693917122624,0.0
parenting,sciencegrad1,2019/01/13,"I worry about my relationship with my mother. Idk what to do.... Ever since I was little I was always bigger (I'm 23, female, 5'11). I was always taller and physically bigger than other kids. Since we were poor, my parents would buy a lot of junk food or take us out to eat on days they were tired and didn't feel like cooking. This didn't really help, since around 6 to 7 I began gaining weight. Not a significant amount, but my face was really round and I had a belly. My mom put me on a diet and told me that if I lose weight then boys would love me (at the time I would look at older women on the bus and want to be as pretty as them. My mom would always say that if i loat weigh I would be). Fast forward to my teens, I basically stayed bigger. Every year I was on another diet. My mother would start to make fun of me and say that I have a big butt or that I look like a cow etc etc (during my teen years, my hips developed faster than my boobs so my body was a little weird). She would tell me that guys don't lile big girls, that yes there are guys who do, but we don't want those ones and they are a minority. She would say that since I was big I needed to hide myself, so I wasn't allowed to show my arms, legs, or anything. On the hottest days I would be wearing sweaters and long dress pants. I wouldhave layers and layers of clothing. Every time I had a crush my mom would use it as ""motivation"" to lose weight. This lasted throughout high school. During university I gained more weight since I had a job and went out with friends a lot (this was my first time going out with friends in my life). At this point my fashion choices changed and I started to buy clothing I liked myself. Sometimes I would by short, black dresses and find myself sexy (I have a  hourglass shape, but still bigger). I started to have a little more confidence in myself and by my last year of university I was able to look at myself in the mirror without hating the person I saw. I started to do my masters, I moved out and got depressed and went through some dark days. I gained weight. Some days I just thought about killing myself. The days I went back home to see my mom, she would always mention the weight and how it is her dream for me to be a tall, thin, beautiful girl and be like other girls. It hurts me. She wonders why I don't have a boyfriend and why I don't show much interest in men (I just focus on studying or gaming). Every time a guy shows interest I freak out and worry about him being grossed out by me. While I have been with some guys, I don't see myself getting married or having kids (which would be my dream) because of how I look. During my time in graduate school I began to notice how short life is. It made me sad to think that even though I may achieve everything I set my mind to, my mother will still be disappointed that I am not the girl she wanted...that I will always be fat. That it won't be until I achieve her dream that she will be happy. It worries me that she might die without seeing her dream. I'm still depressed and hate myself a lot and think I'm worthy of nothing....but sometimes I just don't want to hear about how fat I am and stuff. Sometimes I just want to live my life and enjoy the time I have. 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parenting,JCLawyer,2019/01/13,"Parents, is an iWatch worth it to help with a newborn? I'm thinking that having easy access to a timer, texts, calls, and my calendar without needing to keep track of my phone in the house will be helpful with a newborn. Any thoughts before I bite a $400 bullet?",5.89551282051282,5.785493423076925,5.920000000000003,83.49166666666667,66.69230769230771,7.702564102564103,34.641025641025635,6.42735559955562,2.1246717948717944,206,9,40,1,3,65,43,52,0.0,0.794,0.206,0.8645,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,9,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,8,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21612308426635693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704346366095871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245216245951345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260454201313433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667124219086199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824859422001597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23565359939940544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528926579856945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364112143913926,0.0,0.25230725844140817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063594637483366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rundownadream,2019/01/13,"Our 2 year old acts out after being with his bio dad My fiancee and I are expecting and she has a two year old from another man. He takes his son two weekends a month.

My stepson clearly doesn't want to go with his father, crying and throwing a fit every time, but due to the law and this man's stubbornness, he still has to go. 

Every single time my stepson comes home he is extremely definat for a day, sometimes longer. He says, ""STOP STOP STOP STOP"" when we try to play with him, and tonight he blurted out to my finacee, ""I can't handle you!!"" 

This is extremely out of character for him as he's a total momma's boy and usually won't do anything unless he's attached with her at the hip.

Up until now we have dismissed it due to him needing time to adjust but with another one on the way we are getting a little worried. He comes home absolutely starving, too, and usually eats almost triple what he normally does. 

My fiancee and the biological dad don't communicate and as such most communication goes thru her mother. Lately she has said that the biological dad is increasingly agitated when he drops our son off, and has mentioned that HE is completely exhausted when doing the trade-off.

Honestly as bad as it sounds we are just hoping this guy gives up. He's kind of an idiot (wanted his son to sunbathe as an infant because he thought he was too ""pale"") and often he sends him home with his diaper on wrong, clothes wet, etc.

Anyone else found themselves in a similar situation?",5.308619559278823,6.139634595155712,6.388472045164821,76.35202513203426,68.10034602076124,9.406009834274268,31.47350209433619,9.549672527348893,2.8951550173010383,1174,47,220,24,19,393,162,289,0.157,0.797,0.046,-0.9892,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,1,0,0,10,9,2,0,15,0,20,3,1,0,2,50,34,23,0,6,4,9,1,0,2,1,1,3,3,5,8,26,1,5,3,3,0,8,4,5,0,3,4,4,27,4,38,28,6,49,0,0,0,0,56,12,0,4,27,139,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130009944624723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330997389867208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771826636978962,0.11388572688875002,0.09146651100482116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280513200489293,0.0677556613652169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149078558554367,0.11653806348954307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220924305608752,0.0716821877043399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726761591767813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373361619632577,0.09285108705167376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396099636942462,0.0,0.0,0.18729637857275286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186961386399292,0.0,0.0,0.05807099007049745,0.10662466207121007,0.12633756592889608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005541138265552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33447582499532863,0.11039646414287294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574502804510872,0.0,0.0,0.12538139927315614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140092966685056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887184152387787,0.0,0.0,0.08241589457040283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890284292733264,0.0,0.0,0.2332652605600069,0.0,0.07531773088135375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057285616563015,0.08839048858528581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249366172001084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992962914682268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876407901609712,0.3717036043703025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357053924581101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824023254493492,0.1944363808221766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546316747434123,0.0,0.2171536864992885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448307899103273,0.0,0.13111762813901198,0.08822524459052546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112877642301255,0.0,0.0,0.1215244540520874,0.0,0.1431531785185824
parenting,apatheticpessimist,2019/01/13,"My mom passively insulted me by pointed out my back rolls because I’ve gained some weight. I’m 17F and I’m graduating in May. I bought my grad dress in a size 4 in November when I was about 120lbs. I was in a health phase and lost some pounds.

Now it’s January, I’m about 130/135lbs. I gained weight because I struggle with bulimia but my parents don’t know.

My dress hasn’t come in yet and I don’t know if it will fit or not. I think it will but it’ll be a little tight. I didn’t gain a drastic amount of weight; not enough for people to notice but enough that I notice.

Anyways, my parents tell me, “I don’t know why you did that. Get down to one size, buy your dress and then gain weight. That was idiotic. You’re dress shows a lot of skin so you can’t have any back fat showing!”

I’m getting mad at them because...
- 1) that’s not a very supportive/good way to talk to your teenage daughter 

and

-  2) even if it doesn’t fit, I can just get it altered (and I’ll pay for them). It’s not like the alterations are going to turn it into a completely different dress.

My mom says she’s so stressed over this and they keep making me feel worse about myself. They keep telling me that I need to workout and get back down but I don’t want to force myself. I’m already struggling with my food relationship, I don’t need extra stress. 

I am eating healthy and trying to take care of myself but it’s really hard and lonely when other people are pushing stress onto me.

tl:dr Bought grad dress at a lower weight than I am at now. Parents tell me I need to lose weight or it’s not going to look good. Struggling with ED and stress and parents are not helping. Help.

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parenting,--Danni--,2019/01/13,"How do I tell my parents about a very bad grade? Im in my 10th year of high school, and where I live this year counts for 50% of the grades for cegep (university-like) and i just got a terrible grade. I got 40% in maths and they really care about maths. I know they'll be very upset if I don't tell them so how what is a good way of telling them about it?",0.36994575045207867,1.7476600632911428,1.9557323688969284,101.1420253164557,81.27848101265823,6.033273056057867,16.349005424954793,6.868970318607317,-0.6595475587703441,271,4,74,3,7,88,52,79,0.131,0.787,0.08199999999999999,-0.5794,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,4,0,8,5,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,8,9,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,12,2,10,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,2,42,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440872923641265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297032211413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520129997674275,0.3341259198454756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22069654687771773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256296776304864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479673229788047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444767379194976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319400503926498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381591309463373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21140092867976487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5477193154930773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344700997041736,0.0,0.1658017446146618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690278372780392
parenting,sexyDEATHparty,2019/01/13,"Do you take your toddler to your doctor appointments? I feel like this is a terribly dumb question, but I've been putting off making doctor's appointments. Other than the obvious ""get a babysitter,"" what's the general feel for taking your children along to appointments? Is it as annoying for staff as it is convenient for you? I get a two hour block each week where the grandparents come over to watch my LO and I get the fuck out and take a break, and I'd really rather not spend that time making small talk in the doctor's office. ",5.407337031900141,6.507017029126214,5.614590846047157,81.01650485436893,68.02912621359225,9.769209431345352,28.30651872399445,9.957137785484203,2.655228571428572,426,14,81,10,7,135,68,103,0.165,0.818,0.017,-0.9468,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,5,0,0,2,5,3,0,9,0,5,4,0,2,1,18,17,6,0,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,4,0,1,1,3,9,1,14,16,1,12,0,0,1,1,8,6,2,1,4,52,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177382357125816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766664557686183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189915528943101,0.13416498161647147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361888145020074,0.29435461576534944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184946030880124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175002064711583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25071708283686944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887917489064291,0.21037995866885464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203100485374079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236086544958236,0.15094722842029526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950819964444763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18345416496237027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064253281914167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,its504,2019/01/13,"Can someone teach me how to hold a baby This is the first kid I’ve ever had to handle. He was born 2 days ago and even though I’m only his uncle good God is it scary thinking I could be doing something wrong.

Just looking for some tips with head support and what else should I be aware of.",2.01467741935484,3.3409665967741944,3.1395483870967773,94.6393225806452,76.58064516129033,4.960000000000001,20.464516129032265,3.1291,-0.4455909677419352,227,5,51,0,5,73,55,62,0.097,0.785,0.118,0.1027,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,10,1,1,1,1,11,14,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,4,2,5,8,1,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,5,33,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484967605866088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238217118920381,0.0,0.0,0.1807904807982964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341808084869632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851561629129006,0.2535756870164409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23844963884746015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351285727889117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877007631694923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23540766730989374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21320456643703584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375237791396737,0.21581271082539785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181166081800837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796249613925279,0.2754240538362676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30649824148011023,0.0,0.0
parenting,npc1124,2019/01/13,"Indecisive Sooo I don't even know where to post this but anyone else ever feel so torn over whether they want to have kids or not?  I know people who definitely want kids and people who definitely don't want kids... I seem to be the only person who is consistently unsure.  One day I definitely want to expand my family, the next day the thought exhausts me and I think I want other things out of life.  I hate being so unsure.  I'm 32 so it's not like I can sit on this for too much longer...",1.4340594059405944,3.508406712871288,3.5371188118811894,87.69241089108914,80.88118811881188,6.4162376237623775,18.020792079207922,7.554174236665415,0.3033239603960389,382,8,83,6,10,130,67,101,0.181,0.637,0.182,-0.4282,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,8,4,1,1,3,0,7,2,0,0,1,21,20,8,0,5,5,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,8,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,1,11,1,9,17,1,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,5,55,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572901314763128,0.19889271910238235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25037492604583583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215732805006725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282104577396673,0.175587214557487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18299339132506248,0.0,0.09814986434491277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164737470750726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21335994156956897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710844971356245,0.09483428901546384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269611555202594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064424274443157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153666136097436,0.147632434292443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691483948343327,0.16949284620059138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590754156919267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671408343432662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896070765942674,0.1243804049473607,0.0,0.1541048230058961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5724672945253694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,omgitsblol,2019/01/13,"My girlfriend (28) and I (31) have her son on weekend iso advice on sleeping habits and his behavior So as I stated, my girlfriend has been divorced for 4 years. She got visitation on weekends because she essentially could not afford a halfway decent lawyer because he was the breadwinner. He got sole custody and she has visitation on the weekends. I have read many step-parenting books and I'm still new in the child's life so I tend to engage but not overstep bounds when it comes to disciplinary measures. This is where things get a little tricky. My girlfriend is in the early childhood development field. She also is a very soft and kind soul but can also be a bit feisty. For the most part she does very well when her son (5) is misbehaving, she's very good with redirection, not raising her voice, and they have a very strong connection. Partly because wow she was married she was a stay-at-home mother so they have a very strong bond. Since her and I have moved in together and he visits he has a tendency to test my boundaries which I've encountered before and I'm not saying I'm perfect and can definitely use some help with it. But I digress because that's not what I actually am asking advice for, I'm more asking if something is healthy. So again ever since we moved in together we built him his own room so he would have his own space. But every weekend he tends to want and throw tantrums if he does not get things his way or if we will not buy him something at the store, granted I know he's 5 but still there is a limit to the amount you should spoil a child. I know his grandparents do so because her ex-husband lives with his parents and they have said that they do many times. But you my main point is every weekend she sleeps in his bed every night. For the first few weekends I would just say little things here there, but it is now becoming a constant. There is always an excuse. He was sick so he needed to get up every 10 minutes. ""If I leave him in his room he comes and gets me all the time and I have to go back in there.""  "" He doesn't sleep well unless I'm in there"" 

I've thought about it for a couple weeks now and I've done a lot of googling I wouldn't say research but googling. And I can't really find many answers. The most I have found is for parents that are together or single parent that sleeping together is normal or somewhat normal until they reach the age of eight. I also realize I'm a little bit older than my girlfriend and as anyone around my age can probably attest we were raised a bit differently, and not to go off on a ranch of political views or participation trophies. Because I consider myself to be very liberal. But I guess my main questions are
 is this healthy?
Am I overreacting?
Could that's also be playing into the fact of him throwing tantrums in stores?
I also forgot to mention that a lot of times he revert back to being 3 years old, saying things like I want my mommy or refusing to put on his pants or refusing to tie his own shoes if we need to go somewhere. I know some of this could also be a power struggle especially if I am present. but being a chef sometimes I sleep late and I hear the way he talks to her and I know he is a child but he calls her ugly says he hates her, she does great at redirecting and then they have a great day. But he's still revert back to being a toddler essentially. So with all of this text for anyone that is hung in there and read all this I greatly appreciate it I'm just wondering if some of these other issues, if they are issues I guess, could be stemming from the fact of the co-dependency that she is having by sleeping in his bed every night. Because at this point I know that he wants her there but I'm also getting the sense that she needs it also. And without sounding like a snowflake it hurts me a bit because I end up sleeping in my bed alone 2 out of 7 days.


I have many many many more questions revolving around this whole situation. But I apologize for the Long Branch but really I just really want to know if it is healthy for her to be sleeping in his bed every weekend. If that could be part of the issue of him throwing his tantrums and going out of his way for the extra attention, just as a side no I don't want anyone to think that she is not a good mother she will be the first to dress up in Knight armor and build a castle out of cardboard and play with him in his room from the second they wake up to the second they go to bed.

Any advice over any of the mouth vomit that I just spewed because I have so many questions but really it's just that major one will be greatly appreciated and if anyone has any questions or would like me to delve deeper into some of the exact scenarios or situations or exact examples of what's happened I'm more than happy to share. I love her with all my heart, I know falling in love with somebody that has a child means that you are going to fall for that child as well or the relationship ultimately won't work. But I do find us differing in some of the areas as far as discipline (I don't like using the word discipline because for some reason for me my mind always goes to punishment, timeouts, being put in a corner, wooden spoons, and that is very much not the case)



Tldr:, my girlfriend has weekend visitation of her five-year-old son. He comes over on Friday and leave Sunday and she sleeps in his bed with him all weekend. This has been going on for about seven months now. He has developed a habit of reverting back to being three and refusing to do menial regular children chores. I picking up your toys, tying your shoes, brushing your teeth, etc etc. Is this healthy? Or an I over thinking it.",4.2506134361233485,5.317143338325991,5.069997246696037,83.98270512114539,70.68281938325991,7.789537444933922,27.139041850220266,8.07648339933343,1.6098019823788543,4479,147,899,60,80,1455,403,1135,0.054000000000000006,0.8320000000000001,0.114,0.9971,8,1,2,0,2,0,88.0,6,6,9,8,53,32,5,1,60,0,94,20,15,4,11,191,156,98,0,31,57,8,1,4,5,9,3,9,10,6,46,54,0,8,23,15,3,23,18,7,3,8,14,12,131,25,132,114,40,138,1,1,1,2,142,60,0,40,55,636,177,8,0.0,0.0,0.03758657010100002,0.0,0.0,0.1129137006899475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03989150156400776,0.0,0.2464131944380739,0.06409766479720846,0.0,0.0,0.07857766871541946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772659296257288,0.0,0.0,0.06857574239834037,0.07201549879247894,0.0,0.0,0.11846731395913658,0.0,0.2347931475359672,0.04253847325640978,0.03277472396006475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820026847987968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03932967610407133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953572151576526,0.0,0.04162267781657866,0.0,0.15376154637575706,0.04261779979538588,0.0,0.04967994152590794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048313684001711,0.0,0.0,0.1011182057755924,0.0394157753951705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034114206821639015,0.0,0.0859122084349199,0.0,0.034840399914151415,0.19471098958127905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040680796364353,0.06552426910149196,0.0,0.042231379122526336,0.0,0.0,0.1006164670557072,0.0,0.15322879233376022,0.06461166370952752,0.06161036354341602,0.16985840910296202,0.08486058433783307,0.0,0.0340600338398661,0.04100155464888258,0.0,0.038027092087167404,0.0,0.0,0.043410920402753135,0.04564226487482182,0.025816813286777728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041232734191052695,0.0,0.0,0.12060372844349768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04010903133225269,0.14817371515558214,0.0,0.04344831529151134,0.08156687243047436,0.0,0.0,0.027205359067108387,0.07526890982808389,0.1158110232616236,0.034010795218506036,0.03408591056425492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549074050789057,0.06952533108322992,0.0,0.0,0.27334796042629583,0.0,0.04195578474928401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038890708122336186,0.0,0.03074352096725208,0.08187393625691491,0.028314075968218364,0.08567854067074843,0.0,0.03719949765608392,0.0,0.07229029478667343,0.07547602886996521,0.0,0.0,0.08083322283943913,0.0,0.026099792611541515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830412107727018,0.1251289220989858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282112722438454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152732596184276,0.0,0.0,0.07743948734016423,0.17258928147369093,0.0,0.07705389167914445,0.0,0.09869868290933416,0.039601400275518124,0.0,0.041352330996669816,0.0,0.0,0.03663803330311443,0.15314942404086151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372253122800146,0.08658837063604775,0.34689905004230315,0.0,0.0,0.05930380187613547,0.03809382583651425,0.0,0.0,0.04105348843471735,0.09227803439766792,0.0,0.0,0.04026583238219331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03095812198360398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235466493137817,0.04935966506184737,0.0,0.030577816703545424,0.06737788242175867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04633063441962377,0.06653181803333189,0.0,0.22246115515280385,0.11359021514921412,0.09171786881933153,0.030895631246363568,0.0,0.10389293872519424,0.0,0.0,0.04300232211424685,0.0,0.03712855343822197,0.04176952588662508,0.0280404872708346,0.0,0.0,0.0820830979450216,0.0,0.0,0.07441013345656222
parenting,Thr0wgway111,2019/01/13,"Basically called my wife lazy My wife and I have different parenting styles with our two toddlers 4 and 2. She is more of the hands-off approach. Letting them play downstairs while she sits on the couch and watches TV or is on her phone. When I’m with them, I’m in the same room as them. Either interacting and playing or just on my phone and letting them play by themselves. 

I basically called her out and said she was lazy. And that all she does is yell at them from another floor or another room when one of them eventually ends up crying. I feel like she doesn’t step up unless she has to. For example, if I’m out for an errand she’ll be more hands on because she has to. I feel like I’m usually the one preparing their meals and getting them to eat while she sits on the couch and is on her phone. But when anyone else is in the room that does more, she goes back to her lazy ways. Like if we’re at her in-laws place or aunts, she’ll basically do her own thing while the kids are running around. 

Granted I’m not hovering over them as she claims I am. I at least within earshot or can visually see if one of them pushes the other because they never tell the truth on what happens. So at least if I can see what happens I can discipline on the spot rather than trying to figure out why one of them is crying. 

I don’t know how we can continue to co-exist like this. She thinks I’m hovering and I think she’s lazy. How can we come to a middle ground?",3.161611161116109,4.15375088118812,4.229548454845485,89.26954320432046,73.19141914191421,7.7533153315331536,24.663816381638163,8.150884317080207,1.1524534653465346,1139,33,257,17,22,371,146,303,0.061,0.877,0.062,-0.1436,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,12,0,11,8,0,0,12,0,25,3,1,2,3,47,43,32,0,5,15,4,3,4,0,2,0,2,5,1,7,19,2,1,6,4,0,5,4,0,0,5,2,8,48,8,43,36,9,48,0,0,3,0,48,29,0,9,15,181,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693338441333321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979915435231851,0.13158865277242207,0.0,0.11432727067851982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875244653487836,0.0,0.15657583158709373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622766808431955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106285009628523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821420890944518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417889546300668,0.0,0.0,0.22477469102859127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141289728808522,0.10728429090609404,0.0,0.11374821535654045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987311428222464,0.18349656910224493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709781425026236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22713516890626656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058012830597876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626506462764357,0.0,0.25097180800774554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905083056671901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481018739507111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260300087227007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417889546300668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221634999222454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046794055105274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112250870994168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532120159082722,0.16458168999023404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719351241958967,0.0,0.12545453162414244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144421202570542,0.0,0.0,0.10193938602618234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158854047027084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThrowawayMan001,2019/01/13,"Non-biological daughter is 3, should I stay in her life? Backstory:

3 years ago, I met someone and they told me they were pregnant (not my kid they were 14 weeks along). The dad was an abusive psychopath (according to her). I was 22 at the time and had a pretty stable job with a good income. I understand please don't judge me for my past actions - I didn't immediately ask her to date me, we hung out as friends for weeks, it was very organic and there was good chemistry there.

Fast-forward 6 months\~ later and there is a beautiful little girl in the world with no dad on the birth certificate. Her mom and I had been living together at the time (I had bought my first condo) and because life is as is, I lost my job a month after getting my mortgage. She stuck by me during that time and we struggled together.

2 years ago I asked her to marry me and we got married this June. We are now separated - with zero chance of making it work. My soon-to-be ex-wife wants to keep everything civil - but she has already started up another relationship - which I knew about before we broke up (and why we basically broke up). She has said that everyone involved wants to make sure the little girl is looked after and her mom says that no matter what decision I make - that she wouldn't defame me to the child.

I don't know what I should do... She isn't my kid - but she is my child... I am no father, I am barely a dad. I supported her and her mom for 3 years and I've done that being laid off for almost 2 of those years. Has anyone had experience where they raised a kid from pregnancy that wasn't theirs? Were you ever given an option to stay in their lives or leave it?  


What should I do?",2.97919370698132,4.477511619469031,4.274218289085546,86.7813765978368,74.39823008849558,7.382104228121928,23.764995083579155,8.045849151850463,1.15744523107178,1305,38,276,20,27,430,178,339,0.075,0.858,0.067,-0.6627,4,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,6,1,6,3,7,9,0,1,15,0,37,2,0,3,2,46,60,17,0,6,4,8,0,0,1,4,2,2,1,7,15,23,0,1,4,0,1,1,10,4,0,2,24,3,58,5,35,31,0,42,0,3,1,0,51,15,0,3,24,187,73,4,0.0,0.12408290100801743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856661353338963,0.0,0.10486772128126473,0.0,0.1155674806020419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981409082478233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322668655894889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19580889778238356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383985141636724,0.0,0.08911390855231273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717081273860964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473044580508982,0.0,0.10006995183855126,0.09412076055276206,0.10244188881807953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890796781657463,0.0,0.0,0.08091086258228672,0.0,0.05471488733198387,0.0,0.0,0.17567799802797313,0.08375875734868997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078483151877608,0.09308506756433177,0.0,0.0,0.0575545390157548,0.0,0.0,0.11088945889405882,0.0,0.0,0.14794180314032088,0.0,0.20992544842098892,0.1849495299235097,0.0,0.08794326274962096,0.0,0.11432053840492075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971577451842413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36796063403984597,0.16718220537204473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997258812121856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495743619412226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654374776021892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243627398212024,0.0,0.0,0.09961817995137363,0.08328212793154967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873379680817793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412543212238079,0.22324745243209684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948210300906644,0.0,0.0,0.1188415516703246,0.09870278965303457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319929894443024,0.0,0.0,0.10006995183855126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902320976799404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640971997150856,0.12353993348750812,0.0,0.1680093758171185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449870957167952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624160073659722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697598241170305
parenting,Typical_Link,2019/01/13,"My girlfriend is pregnant (throwaway for obvious reasons)

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I am 17 years old and so is my girlfriend. We are juniors in high school. We have been together for 8 months in total but we took a break around the start of the school year until about the start of December, during that time she told me she had sex with three other guys. She hasn't had her period for a while (I think she said about 2 or 3 months). She had mentioned it to me and was feeling paranoid about it, but I just chalked it up to stress from exams and school. But she bought a test at cvs and it said she was pregnant.

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I have no idea what to do. Her parents are Pakistani and would never let her get an abortion (she hasn't told them yet). She also isn't sure if she's okay with the idea of an abortion because of her religion. What should I do? What is the first steps in preparing for a child? Should we tell our parents? Can her normal doctor take care of her during a pregnancy? If I take her to her doctor, will he tell her parents? ",2.591159420289856,4.435666111111111,3.203212560386476,92.57989130434784,76.29468599033817,5.952657004830918,24.060386473429947,6.691623216298621,0.6457227053140091,803,26,170,7,18,251,114,207,0.061,0.898,0.041,-0.6128,3,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,0,1,1,8,4,0,1,12,1,25,3,0,1,4,32,39,15,0,6,7,3,1,0,2,4,2,2,0,2,9,12,0,0,5,0,1,2,5,1,0,2,12,3,35,3,26,22,1,24,0,0,0,1,40,7,0,3,14,128,44,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910270427829986,0.0,0.24144750900365744,0.2707755092894099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918761224646623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792072783010357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360033317286725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280866190731834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056337407620308776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947739764685243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821246272164226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103235285751166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117721572689243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515597172809088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393471699506574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778691024052087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593413729405182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916815223043623,0.0,0.0,0.11691677090505005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711568833513327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455853622782668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197227553925133,0.0,0.0,0.3382896127405748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772760082528206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763147782438694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501223238086932,0.0,0.16754826788964516,0.0,0.19477235484445987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139357369740193,0.0,0.0,0.06497002236171813,0.0,0.0,0.2129335771309533,0.12379195659830344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914972268830105,0.0,0.2707755092894099,0.14350192855126215
parenting,throwaway76151,2019/01/13,"Getting erection while playing with nephews This is hard subject for me but I need answers.. 
I'm in my early 20s and I have two nephews age 2 and 5 and sometimes when I play with them I get erection or semi erection and I feel disgusted I need to stop playing with them until it's gone... I don't feel any sexual attraction.. I changed them hundreds of times and didn't get any feeling but I get erection when they jump on me playing catch or tickling... I'm not attracted to boys or kids in any shape or form..  
This happened today when my nephew hugged me.. 
I'm writing this because I feel extremely ashamed and worried.. 

I don't know is it just reaction to touch or am I sick ? ",1.7527841501564119,4.008384408759127,3.127158498435872,90.07184306569343,80.82481751824818,5.666110531803963,29.49374348279457,6.868970318607317,1.61080646506778,532,27,107,6,14,173,79,137,0.16,0.75,0.09,-0.8943,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,4,0,4,9,1,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,0,28,23,18,0,2,9,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,9,0,1,6,4,0,3,4,2,0,1,2,6,21,7,12,21,1,17,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,5,10,66,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244910069200479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683957318259315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011399790720867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208325184410993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348389165669788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399856214592056,0.0,0.18639283755937136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143516628174298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30856748145146023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057898478172298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395862419019914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213292343780129,0.0,0.1972291913225984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032574131490675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21130857086871527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,upatmidnightagain,2019/01/13,"Nauseated from Anger Husband, son, & dog were playing with a racecar track in the living room. The dog was chasing the car, my son & husband were laughing. It was a beautiful moment. Until, the dog stopped squatted, & PISSED ON THE F***ING RUG IN  THE MIDDLE OF THE F***ING LIVING ROOM as if to claim the track as her own. As I grabbed the dog (who didn't stop peeing) my son grabs the car remote & presses on the gas, causing the dog to jump towards the car while still peeing. I was so angry that I puked a little. ",4.584230235783637,5.479470252427183,4.812649098474342,86.76601941747576,69.77669902912622,6.662413314840499,30.248266296809987,6.18269132825596,1.4041606102635225,408,16,81,2,7,128,61,103,0.154,0.752,0.093,-0.8422,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,16,0,6,3,3,1,0,5,6,7,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,6,3,6,2,14,0,1,19,0,0,0,0,7,9,1,1,6,50,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8280297764824969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19626557446757947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191486776020358,0.3374092038666109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152576350736385,0.3194601923380345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dadof14yearoldboy,2019/01/13,"I just found out that my son [14M] has got a girl [13F] pregnant. I have no idea as to what to do now. Any and all advice on how to proceed is welcome. My 14 year old son, who is my only child, has been close friends with a 13 year old girl in his class for several months. It had struck me as odd that he would want to be friends with a girl, given how he normally spurns girls and only hangs out with other boys and only makes friends with other boys. Yet I never read much into that, given their age and relative innocence (or so I believed).

I have now found out that my son was having unprotected sex with her for the past several weeks, while I was at work. I am a single father, so when I am at work, there is no one else at home. My son had decided to take advantage of this and engage in this inappropriate behavior with the girl after school while I was still at work. He had apparently used the ridiculously unreliable ""pull out method"" as birth control, but had ""accidentally"" released inside her several times. Now the girl is pregnant (which was confirmed by a pregnancy test my son had bought earlier today and had her use before telling me just now).

I feel betrayed. My son and I are very close. We hunt, fish, and work out at the gym together. I have never hidden anything from him and he has never hidden anything from me (or so I believed). When he confessed, I was so shocked that I did not even say a word. He just gave the pregnancy test with the positive result and I just took it and walked away.

I have no idea as to how to proceed. If it helps with the legal aspect of this, we are located in West Virginia.

Any and all advice on how to proceed is welcome.",4.835267857142857,5.15191318154762,5.6809523809523785,82.8307142857143,68.9702380952381,8.9,28.79761904761905,8.841846274778883,2.0222833333333337,1303,43,272,21,21,428,164,336,0.065,0.852,0.083,0.6443,1,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,2,0,1,6,22,9,1,0,14,0,33,1,0,9,5,64,47,32,0,4,9,7,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,9,16,30,0,1,7,2,1,4,7,2,0,1,21,2,35,7,45,24,4,52,1,0,0,1,41,20,0,3,28,195,51,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084750527010056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507968055667175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556205180727136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022078101470484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076904215013094,0.2403630534596025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964043590383745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910981284979913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045509464142959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053935990116388215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339181764765765,0.2472409172297865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531442846278929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149922654619235,0.0,0.10699956641874923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408368257976678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120362498608783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514365991061196,0.0,0.07841535318902333,0.0,0.24681342160736025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451479094331992,0.0,0.0,0.22386623972742328,0.0,0.07228293298681401,0.2433839792851916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182940253042087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669972308810363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482894649530268,0.0,0.10795660160192294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615231153732297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518748374488322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020320869056287,0.0,0.09323503023637056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06220063421412971,0.0,0.10111149920870756,0.0,0.11851524643401505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18425874166784026,0.0,0.08801462803834477,0.06291723487456087,0.0,0.08556492674883041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106306157266647,0.0,0.0,0.07577591587817678,0.0,0.0,0.13738506841115988
parenting,soyolivia,2019/01/13,Am i wrong for giving my new babysitter the boot? Last week was my first time taking my three-year-old daughter to a babysitter. I had thought that it would be a good fit because she watches her three-year-old grandson as well however upon dropping her off for the first time I had noticed that some things had seemed a little off. I only ended up using her for 2 days last week but upon the first day of dropping her off I realized that the woman's house was extremely dirty and packed with stuff compared to last time I had been there. I also noticed that the woman was very secretive of her whole house except for the living room and would not allow me to go into other areas even though she allows my daughter to run freely in the house. after the first day of picking her up my daughter seemed fine and happy but when I went to change her diaper at home and pulled it off she ran over to the couch and started grinding on the couch like she was having sex.  I had never seen her display this type of behavior before so that very much startled me but thought maybe im reading too much into her an told her to stop. The second day upon picking her up my daughter was asleep she would not wake up. when I put her in the car she stayed asleep and when I got home all she wanted to do was go to sleep she slept for 5 hours after getting home and slept till 10 at night. I also noticed that during my daughters naps the babysitter wouldnt answer the phone when i called. I don't have any proof that she has done anything wrong but my instincts are telling me that something is off I think that she may have given my daughter Benadryl or something to dose her to sleep on the second day and on the first day the behavior that my daughter display to me was over-sexualized and I'm still not sure what might have happened. Am I being overly paranoid as a mother that this woman has violated my daughter or maybe try to dose her to sleep. She did tell me she used to do this to her kids when they were little but i had told her never give my daughter something without calling me. When i was younger i was molested by an older female woman and ofcourse my worst fear it's that someone does something to my own daughter. Has anyone else been in a similar situation where their instincts were telling them that maybe something was off? what happened did you listen to your instincts even with no proof?  were you right or wrong? is my own experience making me project things onto my babysitter since there is no evidence or am I right to trust my instincts? The whole time i was away from her my instincts were telling me somethings wrong but this also was the first time leaving her. Thank you for reading. 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parenting,hellblazer153,2019/01/13,"How is it possible to deal with more than one child? We have one nearing 2 years old, and would love another. Sometimes it seems IMPOSSIBLE to deal with another lil monster. Where do you find the time?
What do you do with the others when one needs all your attention?  Parents tell us billions before and after you will have multiple children and work through it.

All advice and encouragement is welcome :) ",4.624422700587086,7.378386589041098,4.641526418786693,80.35958904109589,73.5205479452055,8.007045009784736,30.976516634050878,8.841846274778883,2.925506457925636,323,15,55,7,7,100,53,73,0.0,0.836,0.16399999999999998,0.9266,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,4,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,1,2,16,12,6,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,6,3,9,10,3,7,0,0,0,1,15,2,0,1,5,45,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19137384931002516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41071335223848654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664651975761982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038075566672708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789953979273894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675441712543485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521384058122924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20550249764724587,0.0,0.39812139474389396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174585845903705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207816372067732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828656193599732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19369205085123345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117392604726514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419663547134278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235572967558798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257479701998976,0.0,0.0,0.1391200387645173,0.0,0.0,0.12611537466438538
parenting,allshallbefree,2019/01/13,"DAE get SO ANNOYED at your kid I LOVE my daughter. She is everything to me. But she is annoying the FUCK out of me today. I was getting so irritated with her (she kept hitting me, I put her in time out multiple times but she didn’t quit. She’s also been VERY whiny lately, over everything.) I finally just put her out of the room and locked her out. Don’t worry her daddy was in the other room with her but I just couldn’t be around her any more right now. Is this normal or am I a horrible mom? I just can’t deal with her right now! 😭",-0.4078136645962722,1.7136007217391338,2.08139751552795,94.77054347826088,89.6086956521739,5.720496894409938,17.77950310559006,7.1686216300943375,0.15868944099378934,413,11,97,7,14,141,71,115,0.16,0.8140000000000001,0.026,-0.9383,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,9,4,3,0,4,0,12,2,0,0,0,19,18,8,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,9,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,5,0,25,1,15,10,1,22,0,0,0,2,19,13,1,1,7,72,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739497426222293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384272621983653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752094036102782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291031709854024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35377395995464345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21560407502102036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819547120357956,0.2056581592225569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220188405946085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763558029223267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305104099725949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928394727156288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3957121255484718,0.0,0.2093397585226695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361623327609419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22953186618218305,0.0,0.18656008414606234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623951433953608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19987784007881187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ranknerok,2019/01/13,Paw Patrol toy question. Does anyone know if there is Ryder toy with out the helmet? Every single one I find is one of him with a helmet and is also bow legged (to ride his bike.) ,2.303693693693696,3.730482432432435,3.890270270270271,89.1382882882883,76.02702702702703,4.933333333333334,15.036036036036036,3.1291,-0.9369207207207212,138,1,28,0,3,46,31,37,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,8,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,20,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30592629886067435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674889057711766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347733983796689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223161407187815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496451433784689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102403015476511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184535980965375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285452345575471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,carolmandm,2019/01/13,"Am I right for being mad at my neighbors for smoking Marijuana? So let me explained.  We moved in recently, bought a condo in a third floor. We have two kids an almost 3 years old and a 1.5 yo. And someone on my floor smokes so much that my place is filled with the smell.  

I used to smoke and drink a lot and all that youngsters may do. But think I always respected others. My husband says people
Smoke all the time and we kind of should suck it up. I am about to go knock on their door (I actually don’t know for sure which neighbor is) and just ask them to do it by the window or balcony. 

I am so pissed!! I don’t want my kids to just get use to that smell!! 

I guess I am looking for some perspective",1.040849420849419,2.8539096486486493,2.565289575289576,95.49959459459463,80.8918918918919,5.57992277992278,20.03088803088803,6.5431188927421005,-0.03286254826254842,540,14,127,5,14,176,96,148,0.086,0.866,0.048,-0.8258,0,0,4,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,2,0,6,6,3,0,8,0,15,2,1,2,3,29,28,11,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,5,2,7,10,1,0,3,1,1,3,2,3,0,2,1,4,20,3,19,23,5,17,0,0,1,0,13,10,2,6,4,89,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.1996626573436448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20487998402824276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024578258328954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127584427358849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043268913139772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689643205479556,0.0,0.11628039246353088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253928694091649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21306215911049614,0.11244425730081528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092200564024138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17181468279651546,0.0,0.0,0.1739458435030311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174602209820269,0.15040647850690433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146960474233857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184570514135178,0.0,0.21376620598327054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020204184837137,0.0,0.0,0.1747295322451775,0.0,0.16270822739334515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335914856073786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928355619878388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110110692939367,0.0,0.0,0.11930544176077112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998670443377953,0.0,0.0,0.35342196829195244,0.0,0.0,0.12067993511504276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317573886923793
parenting,parentthrowaway9876,2019/01/13,"What is your philosophy on telling teens how to dress?  I'm a believer in letting kids decide how to dress, but I'm having a strange issue with my daughter. I've heard parents complain that their teen won't wear a hat or dress warm enough in the winter, but I have the opposite problem. My daughter LOVES wearing this full suit every day to school.   


Should I gently encourage her to dress less warmly or let her decide how she dresses?   


https://i.imgur.com/QDbhMd7.jpg ",6.598980392156861,8.258725388235295,5.622058823529412,79.98759803921571,65.70588235294117,8.019607843137255,31.81372549019608,8.344100000000001,2.458607843137255,378,15,64,5,6,113,62,85,0.092,0.698,0.21,0.9249,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,3,6,0,0,5,0,7,3,2,3,0,12,11,7,0,2,4,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,9,4,8,6,3,6,0,0,0,1,14,4,0,2,2,42,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067954634500333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175614756936306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813647525953916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22942943743409866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28421657790092075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5569023966637884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457666765314189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30236344011745336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605599390434173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27558807515747497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380073301569422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mollified9,2019/01/13,"Highlander with captain seats vs Sienna Two full time kiddos in car seats and an 11 year old who is with us for summers and breaks. I’m mom- looking for vehicle that makes the most sense.

I feel like the highlander is the best choice for the majority of the year. Two boys in the captain seats, dog up front with me for day to day stuff like grocery store and play dates etc.

During summers if all of us are going somewhere (three boys with dad and the dog) I feel like we’re still good in the highlander. 11 year old and dog can be in back seat we can car top carry if going on a trip- our longest trips in the summer are 2 hours into the mountains. While the 11 year old is with us we can fold down half of the third row for more storage space if needed.

My hang ups with the sienna are size and expense. It’s a big adjustment from my Rav where the highlander would be middle of the road. We can get an awesome highlander for less money and better gas mileage than the van and I just don’t think we’re at van family stage yet. 

Does it make sense to buy a vehicle for the 3% of the year that it will be nice? (Whole family road trip somewhere) or do you buy for day to day practicality? Any advice or insight?",3.825577604535791,4.565119646586346,4.386609969288919,89.70076541459959,71.40963855421687,7.304606661941887,24.68721946609969,7.285733465282438,0.8308958658162062,948,25,209,9,17,301,137,249,0.0,0.884,0.116,0.9812,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,7,1,0,3,5,8,0,0,23,0,17,0,0,2,1,36,28,14,0,5,7,2,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,18,0,0,5,1,5,9,1,0,0,5,0,3,14,8,35,23,9,52,0,0,1,0,15,19,0,6,25,128,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635087225788784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096962759315839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915551560326842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12495344690250597,0.10530506560968893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071534009570299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041963142758831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13279115370311728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22449149915221084,0.0,0.12040768264267845,0.17012294484962096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062207581368276615,0.0,0.13533701427943454,0.09986773152462257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725698849465215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451033251494047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998627320741696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589562639312362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394498048490966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828665502867536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748222905894028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508704193385722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630320256545908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629331138574255,0.0,0.0,0.06942891201651108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326222715666884,0.0,0.4296687403425098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293402810823082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458176452614632,0.0,0.0,0.3833761483148181
parenting,2196F3,2019/01/13,"Right to be upset or just overthinking it My 6th grade daughter plays volleyball at school. She went to all her practices. She loves it, because she gets to be with her friends. She is not good at it, but I think it’ll be good for her. Lesson in teamwork, how to handle losing and winning. She improved a lot. 

Here’s the issue. Coaches put her in, she gets to served once. Then when it’s almost her turn to serve again, coach would substitute her. Just her. No one else. This happened on every game. I know she’s not a good player. Another mom said to me, it’s only sixth grade sport, why so serious.  Am I wrong to be upset?",0.2935014005602241,2.7000247460317475,1.722810457516342,95.91205882352942,91.22222222222223,4.552007469654528,18.522875816993466,6.2272716619740125,-0.0998799253034548,482,14,103,5,17,154,84,126,0.182,0.715,0.103,-0.8841,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,3,7,12,0,2,3,0,8,1,0,1,1,16,17,7,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,5,0,2,3,5,0,1,2,1,19,7,15,9,2,11,0,1,0,1,20,6,0,3,3,68,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858063295278567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457038731551815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131124842263368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500722608136633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633792247090622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335917870309794,0.0,0.1938894497081521,0.0,0.0,0.4669036896229113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408549742151998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19367100324073974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197606576672864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20758835886126176,0.0,0.1577520560206108,0.1674704521408147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731953991293387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760980685176088,0.1257367351247511,0.14112278732321948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653382524543466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846278591138652,0.17650510705163122,0.0,0.0,0.1877913645682512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889602388992646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20183033971823167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201115920793775,0.1674343463947246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181280656317326,0.2028750456436036,0.0,0.0
parenting,davesaunders,2019/01/13,"3 1/2 y/o STILL not potty trained. So frustrated. Need advice/support My 3 1/2 y/o daughter is so wonderful but the fact that she still goes in her pants is really starting to get me down (and her as well). She has an expressive speech delay, so I don't know if that's related somehow. She can ask for a puppy, or to go see cats at the pet store, but seems utterly incapable of saying that she needs to go potty. Once in a blue moon, she'll tell me after she's had an accident and one time recently at daycare she went into the bathroom on her own initiative and was trying to get her pants off to poo (she got help in the nick of time). For the most part though, I'll try to get her on the potty every 30 minutes or so. She almost never goes, but within minutes of pulling up her pants, she'll go in them. 

At daycare, I'm told she's clearly embarrassed that she's wearing pull-ups--and doesn't want the other kids to know--but her insistence on wearing underwear leads to 5-6 full changes a day, which is even more embarrassing for her. I try to be encouraging and I tell her how much I love her and how proud I am of her, but I can see on her face that she feels awful every time she has an accident at home.

Funny parenthetical story: For Thanksgiving, we drove about 4 hours North. When we were about 10 minutes away, she goes potty, Potty, POTTY, POTTY!!! We got there, got her inside and she went in the toilet. Good thing too, because she insisted on wearing underwear that morning. So there's a glimmer of hope, but I don't know how to get results here.",3.125645245559035,4.3313732507837015,4.6119318181818185,85.67123106060608,73.54545454545455,7.824503657262277,25.83085161964472,8.344100000000001,1.5626644723093004,1213,40,256,20,24,406,165,319,0.08900000000000001,0.8,0.11,0.8775,1,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,3,0,1,2,21,9,1,2,15,1,17,5,4,5,3,40,46,25,0,5,9,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,9,10,0,1,5,0,1,8,5,3,1,1,10,6,44,6,43,33,6,43,0,0,3,1,45,22,0,9,13,168,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610127206985902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772808062993018,0.0,0.1183159129384792,0.0,0.0,0.07676610470788339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321784193243014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121479764385285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317595172646487,0.0,0.2122038678277063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367427839067571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26317409435136985,0.0,0.21470772963959792,0.10562458474041146,0.30215453486393545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440860445865694,0.0,0.12631862630364318,0.12507746740293,0.12401624156853144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20762443851950976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365725324176895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257345639315367,0.1867518393210852,0.09712541652966483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411194376858013,0.08533381120778727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637053205685892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067434576202309,0.0,0.12434124238983647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014504124377684,0.0,0.0,0.2007007149916184,0.1146424584409894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913430337911006,0.0,0.20113662671874166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290451491922676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013773208660886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366267295193157,0.0,0.12372614254794817,0.0,0.22029337871506025,0.0,0.0,0.12033205326323128,0.0,0.2564957657795541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742771110779526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132267032532858,0.23347779423283896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656632791296075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nraesmith,2019/01/13,"Tips to foster independence in an only child? Our son is 2 years 8 months old and for the most part, is a lovely, well behaved and bright child. I work full time and my husband is a SAHD.  Son goes to daycare 2-3 days per week to build social skills, and he really likes it. We are happy being a family of 3 and will have no more children. 

It does not surprise me, but our son demands our attention 100% of the time we are together. We read constantly, play legos, etc etc and while I like playing with him, I also want him to explore on his own and learn more independence. I would also like 30 minutes in the evenings to read by myself or whatever. 

Whenever I tell him to play in his room or read by himself, he will usually whine and cry, and just constantly bring me things like books asking me to read and toys to play with. It gets old and I hate telling him no repeatedly. I also feel guilt because of this. I know he misses me during the day and wants to play but it is every second that I'm home he needs my attention.  He has playdates and things with friends but it's never enough. When we are home as a family, he requests 100% of our attention. It is hard to get chores done or work on the house. 

And while the TV instantly makes him a focused, quiet zombie, we only watch tv together about 2-3 hours per month. (As much as this would be the easiest solution!)  As a family we have reserved screen time for special occasions. 

Any tips to foster independence in a healthy way? I don't want to banish him to his room or completely ignore him but I also, selfishly, want time to myself, or just be able to get work done. Thanks in advance. ",3.439090909090908,4.7644301818181845,4.7192121212121245,84.73881818181822,72.93939393939394,8.18909090909091,25.624242424242425,8.726425361277474,1.7347369696969692,1280,41,264,24,25,424,167,330,0.086,0.737,0.177,0.9841,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,10,0,0,5,10,23,1,1,15,0,21,1,0,4,1,56,39,34,0,7,12,4,2,4,1,4,0,1,5,3,11,23,0,1,7,13,0,3,5,6,1,1,2,6,39,17,38,30,10,35,0,2,3,1,41,10,0,6,25,173,50,9,0.09268566663689584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29648277649246624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302943164002668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664858666019938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650032210459659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971791580501833,0.20032055689634576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181085261701596,0.1195491745738166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110985147163294,0.18969923349133674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576907007634053,0.20673803729926293,0.06121800867432885,0.0,0.07809167164160792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621273930765298,0.0,0.04686465794429555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160871612692875,0.0,0.1452733060738872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866561561794356,0.08302815198639826,0.09150790703110216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859425615282803,0.0,0.09127671153156633,0.10694681508316783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050937618444049336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112613993971505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365243282982658,0.0,0.06186840219612452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796162967346166,0.0,0.06813462952760553,0.06872524739544067,0.07148490000047678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451603145621293,0.0,0.0,0.14098325210691212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036954481548016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708429947784099,0.0,0.059376811399729786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448136495508573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620227158535439,0.08533250912721717,0.0,0.0,0.12315247694026148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161830302974431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208016726818964,0.0,0.21867363034103507,0.07356956801369935,0.07434685106289039,0.0,0.08333554540764987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242880757786624,0.0,0.0,0.13168247659432314,0.0,0.0,0.059686530495213275
parenting,nevergiveup2018,2019/01/13,"Is it wrong to pay an 8 year old to play with his 1 year old brother? My 1 year old loves to be around his brother, but due to age difference the older one isn't so interested. Today I told him I will pay him $10 for an hour of playing with him. He agreed. It's working out well. Am I bad parent?",-0.7568230277185499,0.9415148955223884,2.0562899786780378,97.36776119402988,86.61194029850746,5.0226012793176995,18.526652452025584,6.18269132825596,-0.3662989339019189,226,6,58,2,7,79,48,67,0.187,0.655,0.158,-0.4897,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,9,5,10,4,0,13,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,0,11,33,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18154280891650884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027478881515226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130656442255603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20083204371107535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405668614395185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6419773150746536,0.0,0.13818967165719706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22644246805359355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330378969219655,0.1948658649476188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833594529992184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846500072766616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222967742220386,0.0,0.3939767669181961
parenting,Blanca1989,2019/01/13,"What should we name our son?? Our daughter’s name is Sophia Madilyn, and now we are having a boy! We are torn between two names.

Sergio Martine ‘Gio’
               Or
Benjamin Thomas ‘Ben’",0.995454545454546,3.592033393939397,1.2870303030303027,97.59054545454543,93.84848484848484,2.64,21.75151515151515,3.1291,-0.3826921212121208,134,5,26,0,5,40,28,33,0.081,0.919,0.0,-0.3923,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,5,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,1,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myotherusernameisnot,2019/01/13,"When you have a family day out is it more about what the children want or is that not normal? So we went to a museum that is quite a long journey away from home to meet family and have a day out it was for one of the children’s birthdays.
First we went to a children’s area that was mainly about cause and effect playing with boats in water etc it was great but my husband said we might as well have just taken then to a play centre and wouldn’t come in went and had a coffee. 
Then we went to another amazing area with so much to do but again mostly for the children they were having the best time but my husband started getting the hump as he was bord I said feel free to go do your own thing but he didn’t want to a bit later he still wanted to leave the place the children were having an amazing time. I said ok we can but rest of family are staying.
He sat their with the hump as everyone else didn’t want to do what he wanted we wanted to do what the children were enjoying so to the point is it normal to just do what the children want all day or would you drag them away to do things the adults are more interested in?

TLDR- do you spend all day doing kid oriented things or is it more normal to do grown up things more?",3.349656799656799,4.09589436679537,4.281898326898329,89.99166773916775,72.51351351351352,7.145516945516945,22.883097383097386,7.1686216300943375,0.590436121836122,967,22,215,9,18,313,122,259,0.013,0.815,0.172,0.9923,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,6,4,3,4,11,11,0,0,21,1,35,3,0,2,2,46,56,21,0,12,11,2,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,9,16,16,1,0,2,3,2,8,4,0,1,2,19,4,17,12,36,34,14,36,0,0,0,2,33,12,0,5,15,164,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659932990622248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102575405072816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668585404824568,0.0,0.11098634448789957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044327804374572,0.0,0.08757105226873703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622490512846091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492385022650424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337772581754048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714044645471087,0.0,0.0,0.2875078828234906,0.0,0.05140232932800611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647190838088277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311313221898183,0.0,0.05777569691217348,0.0,0.0,0.1120804626368537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197322676643054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764321703151256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996586381836046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784515029681084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473176630847407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29881552329659883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688874185523382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062130189389254,0.0,0.09610151975577257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812787895346247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901056999935773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195544154586535,0.10835598898917524,0.08118577381502756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27015343565581434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185574781286556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197317402193972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140451115347227,0.3769591983845795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221631742916375,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ds260690,2019/01/13,Ex Child Maintenance processor. AMA (UK) As the title suggest. Feel free to AMA,1.178571428571427,1.7850275714285748,2.632142857142856,82.42535714285714,130.42857142857142,7.114285714285713,24.92857142857143,7.1686216300943375,2.918057142857143,62,3,10,2,4,20,13,14,0.0,0.7979999999999999,0.202,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bestdayever31,2019/01/13,The love you have for your child Bf and I will be TTC soon. Most of my friends have kids - and they look So happy. As in some of my male friends who were not even sure they wanted to be parents are now transformed. Said they ve never been happier. They say they can't describe the love they feel - that it is completely new and unconditional. I'd love to know what happened for you when you became a parent. ,2.692752613240419,4.475801585365859,3.2249128919860617,92.80597560975613,75.82926829268294,6.149128919860628,22.68989547038328,6.868970318607317,0.4236285714285719,318,9,70,3,7,99,62,82,0.048,0.7140000000000001,0.238,0.9665,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,6,0,5,7,0,0,3,0,10,3,0,0,2,11,19,6,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,1,0,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,13,7,8,13,2,6,0,0,1,3,24,1,0,2,5,50,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155285716506284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577221941005474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039386735827996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31763445195938617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817784097239722,0.21882530814049586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297187963762102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262088905916267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5565850659130706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585426206690798,0.1985337289518133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4565060856978065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955371935496661,0.16347170342329598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374040454963434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124620173371604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TK47KA,2019/01/13,"Overwhelmed. Am I a bad momma? TW: talk of abuse. 
Back story. I have a two year old son (turned 2 November 6th). And I love him to pieces. But I had him when I was 19 & not at all ready to be a parent. I was in a terrible emotional state, and the “father” was a horrible abusive man. He got me pregnant when I was drunk one night & later told me he knew I was unconscious but he wanted a do-over, because he had already lost rights to his first kid. 
I’m terrified of “dad.” He did a lot of bad things to me. Luckily he doesn’t come around anymore, but for the first few months I would lock every door and window, I didn’t leave the house until my son was 6 months old bc I was afraid he would find me and take him.

Now at two, son makes facial expressions like his. He throws terrible fits, he tries to bite me when he’s mad. I do everything I can as a single mom to take care of him the best I can, but some days I put on the tv for him for hours on end because I can’t handle it. He’s a sweet boy, but he can also be terrible. I think I’m afraid he’ll be just as bad as his dad. And it can be really hard to prioritize taking care of a child who reminds you of someone who used to hurt you everyday. 
Am I terrible for associating a bad man with my sweet two year old who’s probably acting out because he’s, well, two?

What can I do on days I feel weak and incapable of anything other than a tv day? 
Again, I love my son so much. I don’t know if any of this made sense or if it’s just a ramble. 
Parenting is hard.",0.7223909430826794,2.123401837349398,3.1272372247611138,93.03246987951808,80.32530120481928,6.868466971333611,20.183215621105113,7.753152298057669,0.4723746157041959,1158,29,285,19,29,401,170,332,0.199,0.682,0.12,-0.9792,2,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,0,2,0,4,12,24,1,3,18,0,31,5,1,3,1,35,54,23,0,5,11,11,3,1,0,3,1,0,2,5,10,10,1,0,5,3,0,4,5,15,1,7,16,5,40,9,34,31,8,39,0,3,0,2,48,10,0,5,25,174,50,0,0.0,0.2185103913394941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017573541854889,0.07374126478070303,0.0,0.1998215972937203,0.0,0.06270677929464859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144873431666442,0.0,0.0,0.07588196219451877,0.08208751953013034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090472234200748,0.307970007421904,0.16863327826866606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676996733134408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803093162048126,0.0,0.0,0.07943178543038018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840579019509373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372519075938208,0.08167175507804553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769191457012488,0.0,0.08287348238346713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04662475427695127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427936791697932,0.1568696023244631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374972174929005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652062494102291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080945926087704,0.1063993463876801,0.098713998706068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05067686498917432,0.0,0.0,0.09763834848123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045049735441682864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065941955768283,0.07839466628383554,0.1664484196170084,0.08725246873595154,0.061551693246766064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079966451036634,0.1472042030935623,0.0,0.06778584329478493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653396635022867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902804341499812,0.0,0.0624846967980945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047792543228623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941927164639364,0.0,0.0,0.0926977267342403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059072857088851516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874786252108794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813025206567867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079940438296128,0.07411587112491114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061261025128601425,0.05908521480130775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811175496353565,0.0,0.06260535313372527,0.10029930846731204,0.3603077814670517,0.0,0.0,0.07964087184739517,0.0,0.0,0.0543885559434701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290894455659502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100838420902286,0.0,0.0,0.1187619814185292
parenting,Beastyqt,2019/01/13,"7 Favorite Toddler Potty Training Resources Today I've put together 7 of my favorite toddler potty training resources that I've found helpful. If you have additional resources that have been helpful to you, please share them!

1. What to do when potty training goes wrong?


I read so many articles with kids learn to potty train easily and perfectly. Sometimes it is nice to find some we can relate to when it all goes downhill. Potty training is not for the faint of heart! This post from Mums Make Lists has some useful ideas.

2. Three Reasons Kids Don't Need Potty Training and what to do instead


Janet Lansbury is not a fan of adult-led potty training and explains why in this article. I think she makes some great points!



3. Potty Training Books for Toddlers


This list put together by No Time for Flashcards includes 12 awesome books about potty training. My almost 3 year old is ready to potty train so we need to grab a few of these to start reading!



4. Twelve Tips for Handling Accidents


How you handle your child's accidents can really determine how he/she feels about potty training and how successful the experience ends up being.



5. What helps constipation in kids?


As kids beging potty training some struggle with constripation. Here are some natural ideas that can be helpful shared by Your Kids Table.



6. Fifty Helpful Potty Training Tips


This list put together by Honey Bear Lane comprises a good range of ideas so if you are struggling you might find something useful.



7. When your child won't poop in the potty.


This post from Happy Hooligans shares 10 suggestions for how to get your child comfortable and pooping on the toilet.



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parenting,StinkiePete,2019/01/13,"Newborn twins about to be released from NICU, help? Our first children are about to be released from the NICU after a short stay just to make sure they good and ready to be babies, no real health problems. 

My husband has a lot of experience with babies and twins actually. I don’t have as much and none with newborns. 

The nurses in the NICU have been wonderful teachers but as I face this reality I’m looking for help from parents of twins on anything and everything. Strategies, coping mechanisms, whatever you got!",5.881398496240599,7.642852357894737,5.8502255639097775,77.29157894736842,67.52631578947367,8.375939849624057,33.57142857142857,8.841846274778883,3.0044586466165413,414,19,70,7,7,130,68,95,0.035,0.828,0.13699999999999998,0.8378,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,9,2,1,1,1,14,14,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,1,6,2,19,9,3,6,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,2,2,51,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.2336340431604661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19701775692988185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21517034003817806,0.2341933482229234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036458750316868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008095469634199,0.1914816688055756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25448644751082633,0.0,0.0,0.32094902266957553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104790525247693,0.0,0.0,0.20354166998100606,0.0,0.0,0.159811056382909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759972253129701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265841500309664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290873694550821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27250614713355764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25518403150569097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22564535908583844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596348426463188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,There_is_no_winner,2019/01/13,"Feeling like a failure for years when in reality winning was never possible I have a child who has ADHD and is also on the spectrum of autism. It's been over six years now since it was apparent something was a bit off with them. Their speech wasn't developing as you would expect for a child their age, behavior consisting of specific patterns and extreme mood swings. Thus started the long series doctor visits and testing, hoping to find answers and solutions as to what might be happening.

If you've never had a child with these conditions, than you truly do not know how maddening it can get and how much of an utter failure it can make you feel. For over six years, if there has been one consistent thing with their behavior, it is that for some reason, they take joy in making others frustrated and upset. It is like a drug, where the shear amount of happiness they get from it overtakes their behavior and it cannot be stopped unless something much more extreme happens.

Best example would be what has been happening at night recently, which is the refusal to sleep and to keep others up. It always starts the same, kicking the walls and window some to make noise. So the thought process starts *do I just ignore it hoping it stops or go in to tell them to stop*. This is how it plays out:

If I ignore them, they push it further. Kicking on the wall/window not working? Let's start jumping on and off the bed, slamming into the floor. Still ignoring them? They'll start throwing things and breaking things. Still not getting attention/frustrated? Comes out of the room and start banging against the door and throwing toys/item everywhere. Still being ignore even at this point, while just hoping and praying they will get bored and just go to sleep after having been through this for several months? They head to the front door saying ""I am just going to leave then"" and start to unlock the door. No choice at this point, have to stop them and the moment you do they start laughing and running away from you.

So ignoring is not possible, thus have to go in and try to get the situation to stop. As soon as you go into their room, they throw their covers over themselves to ""hide"" and are giggling uncontrollably knowing they got you to react to their actions. You try to get the cover off just to talk to them at their level but it is now a game, where they are holding the cover tight and are laughing more, knowing it will push you to being upset even if your voice is calm. Cover finally off and you try to talk to them, but they keep turning their head away to avoid eye contact and are still giggling. This leaves with three options at this point: Punishment, Incentive, or a talk/explanation.

Start with talk; ask them why they are doing this. They respond, as they have every time for several years ""I don't know"" and start laughing even more while trying to covering themselves again to hide. You try explaining how it is important to sleep as they have school the next day and will have to wake up early. But it just goes through one ear and out the other. They don't care, this is fun, why would you stop when you are having so much fun, again like a drug. You try the empathy approach, saying how it hurts or upsets you when they behave. Or you bring up if they like it when people do mean things to them, how does it make them feel. For a moment they might say they don't like it, or it makes them sad, but then they go right back to acting out again.

Now incentive. You try telling them that if they calm down and go to sleep, they'll get something in the morning. Maybe a treat, maybe go to the store for a new toy, more time on TV/a game, something you know they would like/enjoy. But none of it works. As far as they are concern, right now, this moment, is the most fun they have ever had. So they say yes they want that, but go right back to acting out again, banging or throwing things. Or they'll pretend to do so until you leave or just turn away, and they go right back to behaving how they were, laughing and giggling because they just fooled you into thinking they were going to behave.

So now comes the punishment option, which is essentially the only way that ever ultimately ends the misbehaving aside from locking the door to the room and just holding it closed crying until it all stops due to over-exhaustion, which has been done countless times. First they are told of a privilege they will lose. Maybe no TV, a favorite toy, or a dessert. The moment you utter what will be lost if they don't stop the behavior, they cut you off by saying ""I want it!"" in a laughing tone and go back to laughing and acting out again. It never works, and they do lose those things, and they are enforced, but it never sticks. They act confused as to why they can't do something, you tell them why but they don't listen and act out doing something else.

A time out? Doesn't work as they will not sit in time out. The moment you turn away or walk a little bit, they get up and run to their bedroom, back under their covers. You could try dragging them to the spot, but it never sticks. The longest I have tried to get a timeout to work, with just constant dragging and placing them back in their spot was over 4 hours, and at that point I just didn't give a fuck anymore and went with the locking the door to the room and crying route.

So now that leaves the last option, the option I told myself I would never resort to, the one that you had mentally condemn as it should never be used, because you should be able to talk and guide your child to do the right thing and behave, using positive reinforcement and consequences to actions, but none of those work. You've tried spanking before, but it is completely ineffective. They laugh and say it doesn't hurt. Occasionally they'll even taunt you saying ""hit me, hit me"". At this point (and honestly for idk how long) I have already given up on even trying to spank or any other form of physical punishment, it doesn't work and it just makes you feel horrible inside.

So you try holding them down, as this whole time they are laughing and moving around everywhere, trying to just keep them still and to relax. It use to work at first, as they really didn't like being held down, but now whenever you do it they spit, bite you, piss on themselves, or just pretend to sleep, faking to have calmed down. The moment you let them loose, they run away, laughing because they tricked you and got away again. The last straw which has happened once and got them to completely stop was dragging them into the bathroom, putting them in the tub and dumping a tub of cold water on them. That finally got them to stop and now they are crying and you feel like the worst parent in the entire world.

I go into a long descriptive narrative so that others can get a glimpse of what it is like. Of what has been dealt with and endured time and time again, on a daily basis for over six years now. I haven’t even gone into the countless number of doctor visits, testing, and who knows how many different medications have been tried to help improve the behavior. Several meetings with their school to get them the additional help they need just to be able to pass the 1st grade, because the school system will try to stonewall having to spend more money on a student due to budget restraints. Extra activities like sports and art you try to get them to try to maybe give them focus on something, only to be ended due to them not wanting to be a part of it at all and they start with their behavior again.

Through and through, you feel like you have failed. That as a parent and as just a human being, you are failing this child and yourself, because nothing ever seems to go right. It keeps getting worse, not better, no matter what you do. No matter how many different doctors, psychologist, psychiatrist, or counselors you see, it doesn't help, it doesn't make it better.

Because the reality of it all is that there is no other feeling to have other than feeling like a complete failure and utter garbage, because making it better is not possible. There is no winning or happy moments in this scenario, there is only pain and anguish and misery. It doesn’t matter if they were taken to Disneyland all day, bought the toy they wanted and got to eat all the junk food they wanted, by night time (and this is assuming they weren’t acting out during the day, which more often than not they do) they act up again to upset you. All the effort and energy you put into trying to make them happy, to help make them into a well-adjusted individual, just gets thrown into your face as a complete waste of time. This is who they are, this is how they were born and there is unfortunately no changing/improving it. The only options left is just dealing and bearing with it as you have year after year, or just walking away, abandoning them. And I am well beyond the point of just walking away, because my own sanity and mental well-being is at its breaking point and has been now for a long time.",6.971454246008848,6.748000904212352,6.484588322273513,80.72402231799386,64.48182342758223,9.182749086362762,30.91994253702635,8.504598959399027,2.185726105981919,7129,223,1365,85,96,2208,511,1733,0.116,0.773,0.111,-0.4375,7,1,9,0,2,0,205.0,0,47,106,24,98,87,9,8,92,1,155,25,13,28,16,299,273,156,0,26,65,2,9,11,0,20,7,11,12,6,106,107,4,27,23,12,5,49,43,37,1,9,40,23,171,49,233,195,31,292,1,9,2,1,198,110,2,40,139,1018,277,20,0.05380422433432184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03233111095222936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02968714973985885,0.021513609380613162,0.022384712406350826,0.0,0.0,0.01829435878640391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026679666456643547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023948583407764037,0.02514984335809613,0.0,0.20220335955541904,0.1241163821295858,0.0,0.13119422304578982,0.0,0.02289171602006744,0.0,0.02823210699101038,0.0713781961046922,0.0587402778011513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027428496286209574,0.0,0.0,0.04634757511241015,0.1128254110926616,0.02907162610226289,0.0,0.0214791475206878,0.0,0.08865212096927255,0.05204891037482258,0.02773489637656169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056213962783967855,0.0,0.08260635522956107,0.023542219647617248,0.027530200960851108,0.0,0.0,0.062395818517122864,0.027527576866670837,0.022473262712027143,0.0,0.04765457282034511,0.0,0.0,0.10661154819928358,0.0730035018905551,0.02266618977941675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882012983795636,0.07687549723006375,0.0,0.05893989782854123,0.02458804314793024,0.04576584573287341,0.03253014081747566,0.0,0.0,0.024870569203680068,0.19677340569052576,0.051613914675525084,0.2140472642562202,0.0,0.10758038327397476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951577957753224,0.08591339593405763,0.0,0.0,0.055218656686110465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212767485384515,0.0,0.0,0.08015960243247186,0.026493161466827068,0.0,0.057598534955327726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564733348624613,0.0,0.0,0.08870818377634887,0.043857623986633454,0.0,0.11394180970668948,0.029229223584138195,0.05501846472957178,0.0,0.15771615752041454,0.026962983829946028,0.0,0.09523009083134913,0.0,0.060193164442525475,0.029366833336576192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957368769904436,0.054549038568065,0.10810715024620786,0.029304286774465588,0.0,0.027101047762671138,0.054222003240376924,0.0570777794076482,0.0,0.0,0.021473009270706705,0.028592687775526524,0.059328443518685575,0.01994757529652429,0.14523997156146046,0.02598222756871557,0.028610701487584024,0.05049161973964709,0.0,0.025813302178368323,0.0,0.0,0.028649871468065805,0.0546887023098103,0.08184107423491259,0.028625744085796094,0.0,0.05974322382260201,0.029132365885342508,0.0,0.01865053728489164,0.0,0.028106981391983928,0.0,0.17801834070351136,0.0909842680555334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05408810628247148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017234181922235005,0.02765985184829579,0.026562590270077225,0.0,0.0,0.137845540800671,0.0,0.14975547556931154,0.0,0.08167912124516824,0.021437500369023442,0.02449067254431157,0.0,0.0911751881013114,0.0,0.02225370518343196,0.03023910123020355,0.13460770275417175,0.0,0.0,0.1449739218519581,0.0,0.0,0.2094559880196072,0.0,0.10742030763784836,0.22491370368589095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02022704034053665,0.1081144936303331,0.07054089537807193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510797558930414,0.0172377872170372,0.0,0.02135727206563645,0.17255521740299462,0.0,0.0,0.051412242080823636,0.0,0.32876582868865856,0.08778531870568249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970436211332898,0.0,0.0,0.07933781382941768,0.021353644448042997,0.0,0.0,0.07256468895619997,0.02493852749968673,0.09709988749995524,0.030035247504823226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668046448242146,0.0,0.02741555061007775,0.09555244312122772,0.0,0.0,0.12126854750680495
parenting,Administrative_East,2019/01/13,"I’m going to be with my baby alone My wife for the first time is leaving me alone with our 6 month old. I’ve been with him alone before but that was never more than a couple of hours now it’s like 5 days. 

I mean I’m not going to lie. I don’t really know whar I’m supposed to do with him. Change, feed, I know all of that. 

What am I supposed to do with him for most of the day though? ",-1.8785903983656767,-0.10039655056179342,0.8238815117466807,103.56654749744638,93.15730337078651,3.685801838610828,11.461695607763026,4.851557810540192,-1.7701775280898877,293,3,79,1,11,100,58,89,0.056,0.903,0.041,0.1901,0,3,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,0,2,13,16,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,11,1,15,13,3,11,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,10,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6192703356155624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959681060463613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21084191201613212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22053100825780625,0.0,0.257074922860835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953166516907242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265431696194609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962786749437528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21906942275261215,0.0,0.0,0.21103886995447246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737204087580788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21710533057618905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590861027283053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371896308652522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091406902643464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276820962145818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581953950598754,0.0,0.11621835959064145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jungleboogie519,2019/01/13,"Having Trouble Finding Healthy Breakfast Options So, I have a picky two year old who only wants to eat fruit, pancakes and sausage for breakfast. I don't feel like it's healthy to eap pancakes and sausage every day, but I have to feed him something. He will sometimes eat oatmeal, but not as much as he used to. I've tried boiled eggs, but now he says that he doesn't like them. I've given him a mixture of regular and fruity cheerios, but he always wants that and that's not healthy either. This morning I tried a healthy muffin recipe that I found online, but they were horrible!!! Please provide some suggestions..... I'm at my witts end!! What do you all feed your children for breakfast?? ",4.016590909090908,6.010246871212125,3.571818181818184,90.82772727272727,72.71212121212122,5.70909090909091,30.93939393939393,6.11248444174946,1.4264757575757572,545,25,105,3,11,162,85,132,0.081,0.805,0.114,0.6659999999999999,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,2,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,8,10,0,1,1,21,15,12,0,2,8,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,4,10,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,3,12,2,10,11,4,6,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,7,59,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793364631051387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389976534826032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4410776590297386,0.0,0.0,0.19089373107072624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815915359250802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897737284668163,0.15397316170987632,0.0,0.0,0.1969885792044088,0.0,0.0,0.2363151976861381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21059207247338046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843779196310528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261602560916675,0.0,0.0,0.16391866604739408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365848922352667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713964221378208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659238930279595,0.21316258597805085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926585680270213,0.0,0.2105394229386118,0.0,0.0,0.18614688955988395,0.0,0.0,0.2542478574551625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387928894185693
parenting,JupiterUnleashed,2019/01/13,"How to travel in a big city with a toddler? My wife and I are traveling to Washington DC with our 2 yr old and I would love to hear suggestions on how to get around the city and go site seeing. Since we won’t be driving there, we will be using taxis and Uber’s to get around the city. Do you bring your own car seat and then lug it around with you all day? I would love to hear suggestions and tips to make life easier when traveling with a toddler in a big city. Thank you everyone!",3.2642436974789923,3.9010868529411806,4.206582633053223,90.85676470588238,72.62745098039215,8.573669467787116,23.394957983193283,8.841846274778883,1.180460504201681,377,9,89,7,7,122,63,102,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.9366,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,4,0,0,7,3,0,0,6,0,8,3,0,4,1,22,20,10,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,15,0,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,0,0,3,11,3,17,14,2,20,0,0,1,2,14,9,0,0,4,56,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5320824066698546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848966668502534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037694932294869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20818343851343946,0.0,0.11322946645375938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4491031608908865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072510599700447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35963353992240776,0.0,0.13299046864780614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090629244058092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876397356677532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480870440522105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834282117670833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207450050224954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830607168335729,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emotional_Nebula,2019/01/13,"WWYD - Torn on buying a graphic thriller / book that my niece (14) requested for her birthday My niece is an avid reader. She told me some books she wants for her birthday. One of the books is a thriller, about a college student who is kidnapped, kept in a pine box, starved, abused, and raped by her captor. It is, apparently, well written and has great reciews on amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Find-D-D-Warren-Flora-Novel-ebook/dp/B00YOAZYYO

Now, with my teens, I never censored their reading material. But, my son read mostly non fiction and true-life adventure stories, and my daughter read a lot of Harry Potter and others in the fantasy genre. 

I'm just sort of wrestling with this. I don't believe in censorship, but I also know there are some things that cannot be un-read. And, in the age of the internet, she had access to reading all kinds of stuff that may be more awful than this book. 

I guess I'm just wondering what other parents would do in this situation. I of course ran it by my sister, and she is equally torn. Opinions?",6.541719457013577,8.08284538502674,5.858502673796793,78.68060468942822,65.7379679144385,7.892883587001232,31.496914849856022,8.139509932561175,2.2487707939119708,825,32,145,10,13,251,121,187,0.085,0.8490000000000001,0.067,-0.8109,2,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,0,0,1,0,7,5,1,0,10,1,15,1,0,0,2,28,25,10,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,1,2,9,1,1,3,1,1,1,5,0,20,4,22,16,7,11,0,0,0,1,15,7,0,9,3,105,34,10,0.0,0.18120871515981116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230594401718455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172310839800821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978425356429725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861672624284565,0.16848048905752758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592633203556417,0.08405174268117949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002399259451985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795664194684866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363600151483107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982160591885373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.76490619615615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191080105433434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507953946909674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10160644155068464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614058223539106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902078869704755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375112938680748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658567450128249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864408247201338,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sago_fava,2019/01/13,"adopting 11 yr old from italy; where to live in nyc? i'm writing a story, but i'm also wondering in general because adopting a preteen might be in my future. my character (A) already has a parental connection with the child (B) (was with the father romantically), but the child has never lived in america before. A lives in nyc, and is in the process of moving. should she move to a place in nyc with a larger italian/italian immigrant population to raise B? there's culture shock for B whether she does or not. also, general question: how do you help your adopted child connect with their culture when you're not a part of their culture?",5.712086776859504,6.685698586776862,6.3996590909090925,76.11948863636366,67.26446280991736,9.02520661157025,36.61260330578513,9.188382445141503,3.4748917355371898,503,26,89,9,8,165,78,121,0.03,0.934,0.036000000000000004,0.1754,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,2,0,6,1,0,0,12,0,8,0,0,1,1,20,11,9,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,18,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,4,4,61,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21488671956034666,0.3114471403427256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187041214069758,0.0,0.1656988226813422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704074118120328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305217878330729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.515844044913647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20657518293564786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139291870951659,0.0,0.0,0.1501859092539895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20433383168007596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622192591230446,0.21087098603231447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034488686516744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813944781392505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21117374693391466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mpskierbg,2019/01/13,"baby stuff for a tall parent Hello guys, I am specifically looking to buy a stroller for my soon to be baby. All the strollers I have used in the past are too short (I'm 6'8"" tall), and I tend to run into them. Does anyone have any experience with using a stroller and are comfortable with it?  
Also, any other baby stuff you have used and worked id love to hear about it.",2.751754385964912,4.144898736842109,4.100000000000001,88.22833333333338,74.78947368421053,6.64561403508772,21.87719298245614,7.1686216300943375,0.5336561403508773,288,7,62,3,6,95,51,76,0.0,0.898,0.102,0.8176,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,3,1,10,15,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,11,14,1,8,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,2,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663841116794575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829734965964449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547916977584302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820731813863502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035208970369852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060103837250704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344967750569023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471653373110546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778069864129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23102407059478106,0.0,0.19861514706812572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4763538498786488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390865923623517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146888789802804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,INTJam_on_toast,2019/01/13,"How to navigate my mom asking to barrow money? I'm hoping this sub will be a good place for this - sorry if not.  Can't seem to find one that gives advice regsrding being someone's child.

I'm 24.  Since I was 16, my mom has really struggled with money.  She would take money I made at my jobs to pay our bills and such with no agreement that it would happen.  Once I began college, she would ask to barrow thousands of dollars of my student loan money every year, planning to pay me back with her income tax return.  She repays me with most of her return, then can't pay her bills, and the cycle continues.

We've lived in pretty bad poverty for years - I'm talking no food and power being shut off for weeks in the winter time.  It's a wonder we're still in our house with how many payments she's missed.  I am finishing my master's degree and just got my first full time job.  My first paycheck last week was great.

Now I'm dealing with my mom wanting to barrow $2400 of my student loan refund.  I'm expecting about $9,000, $3,000 of which is going to paying off my credit cards so I can get my score up.  I'm saving this money away so that I can move out in a couple of months to my own apartment, which I've been telling my mom for months at this point.

I thought she was going to ask for like $1200 like normal, and I was going to just give it to her to help out.  It jumped to $2400, so I've agreed to loan her the money as long as she gives me $2,000 of it back with her income tax return.

She is really guilting me about this.  Like she always has, she's reminding me all she does for me, and telling me she won't be able to pay off payday loans and loans against her retirement now that she has to pay me back.  The thing is - she has a live in boyfriend of three years.  He's never had a job, and brings in foodstamps that sort of help.  It's been three years, which I can't overemphasize, and he has never gotten the job or the disability assistance he says he's going to.  He says he's taking week long trips to see his kids 4 hours away, and ends up staying there for four or five months at a time.  My mom is miserable because she misses him, etc. etc. but he does this every single time, and he has for years.  She just can't seem to get rid of him.  I told her recently that she should put some fire under his ass to get a job and not rely on me, to which she responded that she can't count on him for that since he's not dependable.  (But he's still in our house - and has been for three years, if I haven't already said it.)

I need to save for my future so I can get out of this shit hole.  But then it also feels like my mom is all I have.  My sister jumped ship because of my mom's money problems years ago and stopped talking to me.  My dad stopped talking to me when he moved out when I was 15, when he found out I'm gay.  

I know I'm doing the best thing for me in having her pay me back the $2000 if she wants such a substantial loan.  I'm coming from nothing and I need to be able to make a life for myself.  I deal with pretty bad depression, and the idea that my future will be better because I've worked my ass off for it is what keeps me from wanting to end things.

I just want to know if I'm dealing with this situation the right way.  There are two sides to every story of course, but when it comes to money it's pretty black and white here.  

Honestly I just hope I have normal relationships when I'm older.  These people be cray cray.",3.569324206487618,3.7866266898907135,4.58923381002209,89.89986571328916,71.71857923497271,7.3226834089059425,23.088129287292176,6.855684769269737,0.4983270201139405,2675,55,612,20,47,875,284,732,0.08199999999999999,0.836,0.083,0.56,8,0,0,0,0,0,78.0,3,0,0,8,32,25,1,3,19,0,51,6,3,5,4,94,109,43,0,20,18,9,2,4,0,7,1,3,0,2,37,33,1,3,10,0,28,13,14,10,0,10,17,8,93,15,101,78,10,105,0,4,3,3,81,34,3,15,60,387,130,19,0.1082640618109891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052897194100267136,0.0479847792578732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059736042182433564,0.0432893655577599,0.04504218613995424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181842482881314,0.0,0.10171764990640796,0.1664967615818734,0.09039596941929297,0.09899515081393123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680822675440826,0.04787538234307862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325990289499596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989606258924664,0.0,0.0,0.16742324080219262,0.046623838898460564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474261006943448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588982428851796,0.0,0.12074304723153464,0.0,0.0,0.136825712199684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027370781311359418,0.03867193369497651,0.0,0.0,0.04947569556319558,0.09208935566970572,0.06545666664200513,0.05935297784722576,0.0,0.0,0.11312700772375373,0.1557851298259571,0.12305792254693723,0.045403379246718056,0.04329433017025689,0.0596807551761645,0.0,0.0,0.0478687761559514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256711852342737,0.0,0.0,0.1075306416904948,0.053309146374653935,0.12492219151869807,0.0,0.06110847391885565,0.0,0.0,0.2685884398215489,0.048115036285383515,0.0,0.0,0.05949909702150071,0.04412483009389945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0382350543028942,0.10578470394371173,0.0,0.0955991500686641,0.0958102878313824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122103650052981,0.0361335509715264,0.0548813829799583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44379146248238543,0.12962301185719907,0.11506756411679188,0.0,0.08027643002390232,0.08349991873633666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106075793937928,0.05194114360276898,0.0,0.0,0.057648846235981425,0.03668126508953424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03752833437153789,0.0,0.05655645088077123,0.0,0.05117226622435185,0.0,0.0,0.16521520874185813,0.0,0.05179704288609768,0.0,0.05441764242728255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935673025586045,0.0,0.05344884998230809,0.05811754284546479,0.0,0.046228458620900484,0.051491957501471834,0.08609592735335582,0.0,0.0,0.043136220134011694,0.09855953575892996,0.0,0.0,0.05556575182630364,0.08955715069999523,0.06084667078096216,0.0,0.0,0.04586589412114562,0.0,0.0,0.060596376744055665,0.0,0.0576975424493633,0.08645981961264576,0.0905136034177704,0.0,0.05659055202641128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140110085312807,0.13052782787084893,0.09462756195449146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788874800785016,0.0,0.0,0.04297478593243472,0.12625929015701995,0.0,0.0,0.05172547530742117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052879128502940666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771389736248054,0.04296748649414295,0.13026434999585512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587038783991688,0.03940876320857652,0.0,0.0,0.11536152489426653,0.0,0.0,0.2440147718035322
parenting,mamasbesties,2019/01/13,"Will ignoring a potty request set back potty training? We are working on daytime training our 3 year old. She wears underwear or goes naked at home and is getting the hang of getting to the potty (usually after she’s started peeing but she’s understanding it) 
However now she’s in the habit of prolonging bed and nap time by saying she needs to go. Usually this is just a ruse, I’ll put her on, she won’t go, I’ll put a diaper on and she’ll go to bed. But a few times she’s peed in her diaper a few mins later. I don’t want to just let her sit because she will just sit forever sometimes and not pee. At this point in training (just a few days into doing it seriously) will it mess up her potty training if I cut her off after a few minutes and make her put a diaper on? ",2.785777096114522,3.7728327668711694,5.127131901840492,82.49699642126791,74.0920245398773,8.378118609406954,27.080265848670763,8.841846274778883,2.023433946830266,603,22,127,12,12,213,88,163,0.055,0.936,0.01,-0.7691,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,11,0,11,3,3,1,0,21,21,9,0,3,9,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,0,5,7,0,1,1,1,0,7,3,4,0,0,0,1,19,0,21,15,4,37,0,0,0,0,19,13,0,2,14,86,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988875395207606,0.0,0.11089952071209024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11732628831051978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009614359401075,0.0,0.3101757527077862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18248516278624025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860301841703801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143605372852995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489475303989715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908992184095612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197750853570545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5486532797277627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446737087662446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992803758091447,0.0,0.1287671370243986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216334308405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18938987860276288,0.0,0.0,0.4007283924256157,0.0,0.10730381657072297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244324340396954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715344936676393
parenting,Gonnaroff,2019/01/13,"Preschool violence Our 4.5 year old gets targeted by the same kid (also 4.5) at preschool. And mainly only my son.

The kid shows sudden outbursts of violence that are not rooted in the dynamics of the situation. It’s frightening.

We have escalated this to school leadership, but on Friday our son came home with a bloody spot on his eyeball stating that the boy scratched him there out of the sudden. 

Medically evaluated, no action required and no loss of vision. That’s a relief.

What would you do now? I trust that the teachers usually have them separated, but there will always be non-observed moments. 

I’m thinking of getting this evaluated by an attorney to put more formal demands on the school and force them to be transparent about the next steps.  

Would also love to hear from educators.

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parenting,aprilmay3,2019/01/13,"I lost my mother and only parent when I was seven. My only child is seven, going on eight. And no one I know can relate to the flood of emotions that have blindsided me. This has triggered and emotional rollercoaster I wasn't prepared for, and none of the people who I count on for support with everything else can relate to this no matter how hard they seem to try. It occurred to me today that maybe someone in the world of Reddit may have had a similar experience, and hearing someone else's story might help me not feel so alone with these feelings. ",6.898909657320871,6.773874607476635,7.1350934579439285,75.67061526479753,64.60747663551402,9.37632398753894,31.852024922118375,8.841846274778883,2.6262660436137075,441,15,78,6,6,143,75,107,0.113,0.813,0.07400000000000001,-0.5077,1,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,0,17,19,8,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,7,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,1,0,4,4,4,11,1,14,13,1,7,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,3,2,63,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19225812231866746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101423903462266,0.4176206260003362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668335114085143,0.1815831058575023,0.0,0.0,0.18772160287872044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549858900926434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628925141703582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20922005233036267,0.0,0.12442479857027587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020181497164382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263857555117412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864916680129732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969255551361133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578862473627755,0.282362053042422,0.0,0.0,0.2061216753521864,0.0,0.0,0.12869342313348406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689918331265383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145697254288392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21065228595642504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595683939397844,0.0,0.0,0.1260315193217111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,220-240volts,2019/01/13,"Alexa-like smart assistant for parenting ""20:00: It is bed time!"" I've set up a Raspberry Pi at home to speak aloud (using a text-to-speak engine, crontab, Python, etc) pre-programmed things, such as time, reminders, the weather in the morning, etc, for the whole family. 

For our kids (2-5 years) it announces:

* some reminders (e.g., ""*it's bed time*"" at 20:00)
* some very simple, random math problems ( ""*F**our plus three equals what?*"") written in Python, every hour
* some very simple random facts (e.g., ""*Did you know that there are sixty minutes in one hour?""*)

Other possible applications for kids is to say ""*Don't make noise please*"" when the microphone detects high level of noise.

The machine currently doesn't recognize voice commands, but it is possible.

We can't say yet whether it is really useful for the kids.

Anyway, to help us in parenting and perhaps some home education, **what other things could this ""semi-smart"" machine say for the kids?** 

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parenting,sheaKitten13,2019/01/13,"Indoor Activities During a Cold Winter Hey all. Mom to a 2.5 year old girl with a lot of energy. 

Winter has finally caught up to us here and the temperatures are reaching below -25 degrees Celsius, lower with the windchill. This seems to be the norm for the forseeable future, according  to the weather network. Indoor activities to keep her entertained and burn some of that abundance of energy are a must. 

I take her to our local library where they have a play area. I also take her to the gym to go swimming at the pool when the timings match with my time off/her naps. She is certainly a toddler that responds more to physical activity, more so than independent play and/or puzzle solving activities.  

We have a treadmill that we walk on and she has a small trampoline set up beside it so we can burn energy together. 

However, I am looking for other ideas and input on things we can do indoors so that we aren't in front of the tv/iPad all the time. Does anyone have any ideas on how to ward off cabin fever until the temperature comes back up a bit and we can do outdoor activities again? ",5.617969924812031,6.665074464114834,6.605348598769653,74.29494019138755,67.51674641148325,9.607792207792206,31.196514012303492,9.784248007369934,3.0649805878332184,869,34,155,19,14,290,129,209,0.011,0.8909999999999999,0.099,0.9349,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,8,0,1,0,10,4,0,0,20,0,17,1,0,2,4,28,25,12,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,8,15,0,1,3,7,0,6,1,0,0,0,1,2,18,4,31,22,7,34,0,0,1,0,18,14,0,4,13,115,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108358070633372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369793774677305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084461159863698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548873157763874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21990950268951415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351419801482884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762728406712897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22065683216416854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144773695729874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4547801365771853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790403308249782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915055516974686,0.0,0.0,0.1712486704809395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23591250230524444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136700905490086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337440071302274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029007385512211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382121007555794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352366538996671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24229561264292315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971438227678692
parenting,tommygena,2019/01/13,"Drug use How did you first noticed that your child might have a drug problem? Did he lose weight, have weird sleep patrerns or there was something odd about him in general?",4.215208333333333,6.782245937500001,2.9512500000000017,92.90208333333337,74.0,6.7666666666666675,26.291666666666664,7.793537801064563,1.3853416666666667,138,5,27,2,3,39,29,32,0.266,0.7340000000000001,0.0,-0.8299,0,0,3,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,6,4,1,2,0,6,7,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,3,0,2,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,2,1,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6087874861383012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326555558417285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936482454639029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784500521489507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988354896389609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511581381687559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626697971822442,0.0,0.0,0.2020701101392006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266986495374537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196302161930687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,badbadradbad,2019/01/13,"My wife isn’t getting along with our toddler Big surprise right? Apologies for the long rant.

I’m a stay at home dad, and my wife works a standard 9-5. We fell into this arrangement because she was having trouble spending all day with the boy when he was still under 6mo (he’s about to be 2). I teach all my yoga classes on Sunday, and bartend 2 nights a week + Friday mornings when LO visits grandparents. 

My wife picked up the boy from her mother on Friday, and decided to take him to the mall, he never got a nap (because why try when it’s not your kid and you don’t deal with the repercussions) so he fell asleep in the car for 15 minutes. And then, of course, proceeded to be an absolute mess as my wife tried to take him to the play areas and shop around. By the time they got home, she kept repeating ‘I just hate him right now, I can’t’ and kept talking about how I’m being to easy on him, how he’s a mean person who doesn’t have boundaries or discipline. Accusing me of being... idk, a lazy or bad parent. 

I want to explain to her that his life is hard, and he’s trying very hard to be good. But when he loses his routines, or is in a new scary place without being fed or napped, or when his parent doesn’t take the time to communicate what’s going on, he’s going to lose it. 

I just feel like I’ve had to personally transform so much in order to properly care for his little wellbeing, including all the hours I spend trying to teach him rules and discipline, and she just expects her life to be uninterrupted.

Am I being crazy or un-thoughtful here? Any advice?",4.201829105473967,4.720580566978192,5.222518914107702,84.84523364485985,70.43302180685359,8.1080551846907,26.81219403649311,8.11559375814309,1.5120175344904316,1226,37,258,16,21,404,182,321,0.107,0.8390000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.933,3,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,2,1,3,18,11,1,0,18,0,21,4,1,3,4,47,40,28,0,2,12,8,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,5,6,17,1,4,4,6,3,6,8,6,0,0,8,3,32,5,43,24,4,46,0,2,0,0,47,18,0,6,21,159,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880186188091313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267529350833247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822768840726718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151019970157413,0.14822220641273967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395400174614887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840593544470825,0.12533867544237412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147206550807161,0.08685333510866182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351801534653853,0.0,0.13818795652999968,0.10197149550070513,0.19446956008154445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178149685414809,0.12003032353737995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24389964259616226,0.0,0.11972706591178214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174429447775608,0.05939549346990156,0.12185027242703353,0.0,0.10759021130817356,0.0,0.27202306435465595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324310153975898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937174820880077,0.0,0.09376627608997924,0.11741806943462127,0.0,0.1140900736239194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699897067908402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230952104382192,0.1270201903956584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076490842080409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295829691069146,0.09709009828007432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742282224509929,0.09771752700111484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651711531294878,0.14178293391124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301662757197453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003122584524085,0.07170819290514081,0.0,0.09752027859222093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970269295050364,0.0,0.0,0.1171941381015718,0.0,0.0885081812605874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TiAPiTA,2019/01/13,"Daughter (14) and friend (14) partied when we weren’t home, led to depression confession. Advice please. TL/DR: Daughter and friend threw party when we said no while we were away for the day. Getting caught led to confession of depression and self harm ideation. Don’t know best course of action to handle either of these. 


We live in a rural town about 45 minutes from a bigger city and yesterday we spent the day with family. We left my daughter home under the premise that she could have a friend sleepover, curfew at 10:30 and no other friends. We’ve had trust issues with her in the past over other things but we’re working on rebuilding that trust. We told her we’d be home by 1am at latest. 
They spent most of the day at friends house and friends mom knew and approved of our arrangement. I had daughter FaceTime me when they got to our house. 

We came home early when she was unsuspecting (deliberately) and sure enough she had kids over. I could see on her face she knew she was caught. To our knowledge there was no drinking but the house was messy and one of my china cabinet shelves broke (I have a replacement already).

I’m at a loss for how to handle this. She does have a cellphone and I’ve confiscated it and she’s grounded. I’m also not allowing her to stay home by herself when we’re in the city. We took friend home last night and friends mom and I chatted about what happened.   I’d appreciate some advice on how to discipline her for this. 

Onto the other thing, she told me last night that she’s been dealing with depression for a year and has thought about self harm. The friend is clinically diagnosed and has self harmed. I don’t know if daughter said it for sympathy points or if she’s serious but I don’t take it lightly. I’m putting her into counselling. I don’t know though if I should let her have her phone to talk to her friends who she says is her life line. Advice on this too please? ",3.86456560283688,5.59248128989362,4.016617021276598,88.5886666666667,72.53723404255321,7.247375886524822,26.629078014184397,7.908726449838941,1.4334988652482274,1519,53,310,21,30,469,178,376,0.093,0.7509999999999999,0.156,0.9779,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,13,0,2,4,14,23,0,0,16,0,28,5,1,5,1,59,53,32,0,6,9,7,0,0,10,1,3,3,6,4,17,29,1,1,9,2,2,9,9,9,0,1,25,5,49,14,47,22,5,50,2,5,1,0,71,22,0,6,18,200,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092578046085301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877061191187999,0.057083289914787165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706471698356269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490986378721742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816407477761125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398370058264562,0.0,0.0,0.13810435004700686,0.07359058643346658,0.18444082595043304,0.07245012360285694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062465917531883325,0.0,0.0,0.06992611922553837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375556390441759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672915715402449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5514871590799525,0.0,0.03729358062819785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05708983647445207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312190516006315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296052515207075,0.0,0.0,0.24709196762439506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450312727767586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768724816772742,0.11636994149660285,0.0,0.0,0.07755557025875219,0.07299181920758491,0.05041844946347331,0.0,0.0,0.06303065347187299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672009239497078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397230175903274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04836955364368239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681411578732953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670961321747315,0.0674780346361007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175753257485568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579918765104296,0.056764966617916676,0.0,0.0,0.05688134552243339,0.0,0.22339757792111106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608255516272751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672756652466277,0.0,0.05366956271491252,0.05737327358422845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948446129393789,0.0,0.07013138408322656,0.056668471177613415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641504165793453,0.07930682020097422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05196615442230982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04596696731693781
parenting,nooca4,2019/01/13,"I'm not the parent, I'm the child, but I have couple of questions about my parents Basically when I was 13 my mother started to work again, following the  divorce  between her and my dad, before that she was a stay at home mum.

Because of this she decided to get a live-in nanny, who would cook, do the laundry, clean the house etc.

This was a big change for all of us (I have 2 brothers, one younger and one older than me) and as a teen who was going through changes, mood swings, outbursts, the last thing I wanted was to be living with a stranger in the house. I felt really awkward with her, she is a 60 year old woman I have nothing in common with her.

Anyway I told myself that mum was busy with work, and she needed help, so I went with it.

Now I'm 16, my older brother lives on his own and my younger brother is 13, he of course doesn't feel comfortable with her around. 

Do you think my mom made the right decision? 
Should we still have a ""nanny"" at this point? 

There's also a case where I feel like I don't have the privacy in own house, and as a 16 years old you want to feel independent and I think I can take on the responsibility. 
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parenting,sullie1986,2019/01/13,"What to tell 4 year old when dad doesn't want to see him? My step son's dad has hardly seen him in the 2 and a half years since his dad left his mumsplit up, the most he managed was once a month for 6 months then it was as and when. He hasn't seen him in over 6 months now and my partner text him to see what his intentions were and he said he won't be seeing him any more. 

We were telling him his daddy loves him but is very busy at work but last week he said daddy doesn't want to see him and he chooses to work. Neither of us know what to tell him now we know his dad isn't interested. Has anyone been in this situation before? 

We were thinking of telling him that daddy had to move for away for work until his older then maybe say daddy was too young and wasn't ready to be a dad. My parents told me that to explain why my dad wasn't around then when I was in my early 20s i found out he had another kid a couple of years younger than me and even as an adult it still sucked knowing he made an effort then but not with me and i don't want my step son going through that.",2.630174050632913,2.9921017299578057,3.6299129746835455,95.42056566455696,73.89451476793248,6.600105485232067,21.98549578059072,5.985473137389443,-0.03889852320675091,838,17,210,4,16,270,120,237,0.061,0.929,0.01,-0.8533,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,4,9,3,1,0,8,0,23,1,0,2,0,31,45,21,0,3,4,9,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,3,9,14,0,0,7,0,0,4,10,1,0,1,19,10,32,2,31,23,3,38,0,0,6,1,50,11,1,1,23,131,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024571278125503,0.12373585811818034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251005704704859,0.0,0.0,0.10504719887124953,0.0,0.0,0.11086718659926384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041139404030867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305674669785083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793950561345239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938359618542092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706351195727718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057070175582514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19455318220702011,0.0961877466925822,0.0,0.0,0.12821000768253185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650181865280507,0.11165677179402073,0.0,0.0,0.11854932208261393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825652904162377,0.1254179300661905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238237215966924,0.125668758544021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102775657427485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244947053310717,0.09384028486800344,0.0,0.0,0.3761307007139667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976128464144674,0.1326396984126927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423690935795033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125573714412406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561120551712225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275639828722013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194241863073614,0.0,0.0,0.09736437983615637,0.2088027078373352,0.0,0.09465444795149867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647885742249097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577215679861797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279691276790868
parenting,alh-i,2019/01/13,"I know I shouldn’t laugh.. But it’s so hilarious when kids freak out over such minor ridiculous things! 

This is my step-daughter’s (8) 3rd time practically melting down because she’s terrified of.... wait for it....... the Olympics. Like it’s the hunger games or something! 

The first time, we put on Cool Runnings, then she broke down crying because she didn’t want to have to compete. Her dad and I were so confused wondering where she got the idea that she would have to compete in the Olympics. We told her that people train their whole lives and still don’t make it, so that she has nothing to worry about. It’s not like she will accidentally trip and wind up in a highly esteemed athletic competition. still happened twice since then, whenever it comes up. 

It’s hilarious, I’m sorry, but it is. She’ll be doing her sports and some unsuspecting kind person will say “keep that up and you’ll get to go to the Olympics!” followed immediately by her bellowing “NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!” And crying. 

What’s crazy is, she’s a super competitive kid and *doesn’t mind competition AT ALL and often initiates it.* it’s literally JUST the Olympics. 

(I want to clarify, we don’t laugh in front of her, but privately we think it’s hysterical.) 

What random things do your little ones freak out about? ",3.0022502393871657,5.722099663900416,3.6440871369294614,85.44581790616023,79.33195020746888,6.861219278646665,25.036865624002555,8.012643519586192,1.5995456750718169,1013,38,195,19,26,319,140,241,0.115,0.757,0.128,0.7358,1,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,4,2,1,4,12,12,1,1,9,1,20,1,0,1,1,38,36,18,0,4,6,1,0,2,0,6,0,1,0,3,20,15,1,2,4,2,0,7,6,5,0,3,4,2,26,7,26,25,3,31,0,1,0,0,28,16,0,6,10,130,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19852737742204535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026932472059528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577367492833143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850874097829932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507541016281682,0.0,0.09254380050455953,0.0,0.13023531590098364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399588029073354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204582340794425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838227170567624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473666472195776,0.0,0.16956927586890044,0.08949074469965915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910748914953798,0.16320506628905204,0.1437877137733314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869470452354876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441856098953886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624612319356818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034230412612177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289040534625687,0.14218265074664885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369577319324674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949421151173687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470013009484874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535958120138724,0.0,0.18228225813131413,0.0,0.0,0.26008306112403284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636282200938084,0.10433912741914672,0.0,0.0,0.18990267864601404,0.0,0.0,0.15559736321820894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19209050818593326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818012646874985,0.0,0.0,0.17658936211423348,0.0,0.1653684861465757,0.0,0.11567445882128885,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrskariscott2015,2019/01/13,"Yuck almost a boy mom Hey Reddit-

Mom of one amazing four year old girl here.  LOVE being her mom.  She is literally sugar and spice and everything nice.  

28 weeks pregnant with a boy.  I’ve had a really hard time connecting with this pregnancy.  Initially there was no excitement at all.  A second child was never expected.  

I figured once I knew the sex of the baby and could pick names, start shopping for gender specific things etc. that the excitement would show up buttttt....... 

I don’t want a boy!!!!   They are loud, brash, and everything I’m not into.  My friends who have boys of course I love them but that’s cuz they aren’t mine - but I’ve really started to pay attention to the common “boy” traits and yeah.  Yuck.

I know there’s a whole community of “boys moms” who are (IMO) oddly obsessed with their sons.  I just can’t get on board.  

Did anyone else go through this????

PS- I already feel like a freak for this so please, weird boy moms, keep your bullshit to yourself.  Of course I will love my child and I’m already an excellent mom so that’s not concern.  Just wanted to know if anyone else out there has felt this way.  Share THOSE experiences, please :) ",1.1757428034138575,3.816506403587448,2.190371763344423,92.17121654853176,90.34529147982063,5.747374511789383,20.198032692029507,7.233258080335977,0.7339944741790831,900,29,182,16,31,283,143,223,0.083,0.7170000000000001,0.2,0.9845,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,1,4,1,8,14,0,1,12,1,16,5,0,2,2,37,33,12,0,6,7,7,3,1,1,2,0,1,0,10,11,11,1,1,7,2,2,1,7,3,0,3,6,6,18,11,20,23,3,15,0,0,0,4,33,5,0,2,9,105,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969393521334097,0.0,0.2197316158517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922790457352507,0.20401987661573656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948974275393349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663375019981612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103457770945682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895437967247632,0.0973877843647441,0.0,0.0,0.05034001069489257,0.07112495378381309,0.09559223182311401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691901944450016,0.0,0.05201545686541558,0.0,0.056581661541144426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918528892156795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849259411480978,0.0,0.0,0.10943002124516388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048639487737900514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695675940905804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6996136306354926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678602145831619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447039979970353,0.10602706232807156,0.06746374010679022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185717217119716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756006133422965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093671412672865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614256113470564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805364071024989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174449294300099,0.07902528265607553,0.07986020685536756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115404349309432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072384149231851,0.0,0.0,0.06411271766970818
parenting,Mshorrible4,2019/01/13,"Liquid penicillin is disgusting All of us have strep. My 10-year old gags on his liquid penicillin no matter what I try to hide it in. I even tried crushing one of my pills (also penicillin) and hiding it, he vomited. 

Anyone have any magic tricks up their sleeves? ",3.559591836734697,6.259450265306128,3.644244897959183,86.39004081632655,76.95918367346937,5.5526530612244915,26.126530612244892,6.742157984588678,1.2684579591836729,209,8,36,2,5,64,41,49,0.247,0.733,0.02,-0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,7,0,6,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961278803662753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518159363328335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589215866125564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24457891771576698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38856638334167626,0.0,0.25092410434206697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5028172646131138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4454239586640611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23846033784581325
parenting,bomgd3,2019/01/13,"Very cold climate - I'm a little unconvinced of danger of car seats/puffy coats Hey folks, just to give you some background, I am a physician and have a degree in engineering as well.  Recently I was told that I shouldn't put my little kiddo in a car seat with a puffy coat, because in a car accident the coat could compress and make the harness looser than it should.  That seems to make a little sense, but I live in New Hampshire where it frequently gets into negative digits Fahrenheit.  I have to question the underlying evidence for this recommendation.  I looked on YouTube and didn't find anything convincing, although I did see a popular video where a local TV reporter straps in the car seat dummy incredibly loosely and then when the dummy flies out of the car seat he declares that coats are unsafe.

The thing is, if a kid is strapped in properly with the coat somewhat compressed (not loose like the YouTube video), any decelerative force should be at least partially absorbed by the air in the coat itself.  The air shoudn't just instantaneously vanish leaving two layers of polyester in its place.  If anything, I wonder if the decelerative force might be lower?  The down padding in the middle is still there as a cushion.  And I have a hard time buying that the kid is going to somehow fly out of the seat, the straps really do not leave enough room for this.

I've seen some arguments that you need to strap the kid into the car seat WITH coat, then take coat off and if the straps are loose then the coat is too big.  That seems a little insane to be.  Pardon me, but wouldn't that be kind of like taking a fat kid out of a car seat, strapping a skinny kid in, and declaring it dangerous?  Again, the coat is providing some bulk - it's not going to magically vanish in an accident.

I love my kiddo more than anything in the world and I would never compromise her safety.  For the time being, I'm just going to continue layering her up the best I can and heed the general recommendation against puffy coats.  However, I'm naturally a little skeptical of recommendations without evidence.  What would really be helpful is a true car seat safety test with a crash test dummy coat ON and OFF, but with straps properly tightened against the body.

Have you guys seen hard evidence of the puffy coat / car seat dangers?  Or is this all sort of common wisdom without empiric evidence?",8.332856863702983,7.748521298876405,8.077899364924281,71.60864191499758,61.85393258426966,11.15486077186126,35.75232046897899,10.472087959537523,3.663596971177333,1898,73,337,38,23,608,211,445,0.121,0.795,0.085,-0.9216,2,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,3,0,1,12,14,4,0,49,0,34,5,3,2,3,62,56,25,0,12,16,0,2,2,0,7,2,0,1,6,18,20,2,0,5,3,1,13,10,4,1,1,6,7,20,10,60,36,9,67,0,0,4,1,18,40,0,16,16,230,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404032193784704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268790311351735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637061336849802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426004677199407,0.0,0.0,0.12093817548591905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692969324315089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249939267479464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951191248350297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056883914232936324,0.1044450615533061,0.18563249712049476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780568015736386,0.0,0.0,0.1950654144586483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297818318147234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133789907872045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305707560281893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638393337486204,0.5456184680978879,0.0961406822768043,0.0,0.09142954065245333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826604645552957,0.0,0.145352934246428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155016475893222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073116494969647,0.08397291347886669,0.10515440941716933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375364259884152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094517946466347,0.1219675338957932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949921861224512,0.0,0.1075032340877268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676114027264091,0.1982356748139033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694958104877372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372441320831194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233326402319742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697450019965986,0.0,0.0,0.104036960236062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635733662535828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983520462954624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978938005674496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990773291646933,0.11807282632820401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546866710824837,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jennbunny08,2019/01/13,"Any parents with autistic children that can help? 🧩❤️ So my friend has a daughter that is Autistic, and I’m just thinking of any activities I can introduce that would highly benefit her? My baby was born with his own deficiencies so I do extra activities with him to boost his development. Just wonder if any parent has any idea as too any activities that can be incorporated to benefit this beautiful child’s development? My cousin is also autistic but I am also highly aware that every case is different and everyone varies on the spectrum. The child in question is very bright and can (although rather  minimally) speak and derive words. Just wondering any tips you guys could throw out? Thank you in advance reddit fam❤️ 🧩 ",4.391607347876004,7.129925462686567,5.601641791044779,73.26075200918486,74.22388059701494,8.60068886337543,29.710677382319172,9.265573868473778,3.1639685419058567,588,26,97,15,13,195,88,134,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.9615,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,1,9,5,0,0,3,0,16,0,0,0,0,22,21,12,0,4,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,4,6,8,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,12,5,11,17,2,9,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,4,1,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420587058116657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6175126729987591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083548043502113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812175957204005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751343734611512,0.1446152126404084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169276229505344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985387235869085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014423667795811,0.3198054622704859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084840491815192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33609812244121795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953937148437007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933677340289755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697481233839286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487424844611343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282511685801549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751008958966216,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,awkwardlypanda5,2019/01/13,What age did your baby start sleeping slone and how did you do it? I'm personally not a big fan of cosleeping because I'm a pretty scary sleeper. But my 7 week old daughter is a cuddler. Most nights we can cuddle and rock until she's passed out before putting her in her crib but other nights the moment she doesn't have an arm around her she wakes up and starts crying. Even in the NICU she would cry when not being cuddled but they had the ability to put things in her incubator or bassinet to make it feel like she was which we can't do at home if we want to follow the nothing in crib rule,5.31754608294931,4.862896491935484,5.592764976958524,86.51629032258066,67.95161290322581,8.053456221198157,28.19815668202765,6.868970318607317,1.1985221198156677,471,13,103,3,7,150,92,124,0.092,0.8320000000000001,0.076,-0.4821,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,8,0,13,5,3,2,0,21,21,11,0,3,7,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,8,0,0,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,4,1,16,1,13,15,1,23,0,0,0,2,17,9,0,3,11,70,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480652989021786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970231433836492,0.0,0.16709219800462133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313955825050956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969726621978134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928807142413848,0.1402832338301881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969701598137277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959340466140217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107519836051312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685506021355189,0.0,0.1884175653306194,0.0,0.20605209204045052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145839102035487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19977385445341808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39480223137151693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19650686651739285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779763918468489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130456216505818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582119650634905,0.0,0.1575122017804158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949210038986376,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jdub519,2019/01/13,"What are some things you do with your young kids? I do some things with them already... read to them most nights, regularly take them to the local park, and just goof around.

But I feel like I could be doing more, and I'm looking for formative activities... things that will help them build skills or inspire them. The are 9, 6 and 3. Any ideas welcome!",2.267142857142858,4.672850588235296,2.427983193277313,94.9573529411765,79.88235294117645,5.650420168067227,20.00840336134453,6.868970318607317,0.10084621848739506,272,7,59,3,7,82,51,68,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.9041,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,5,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,12,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,3,6,9,4,4,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,4,3,41,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065049047471433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18888006246380235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472570907125633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217614059472708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043914548393238,0.1984252206961954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861705005737597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31354683526807275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569500682247587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332407112433781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26065030214152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27782595446064523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20883402843382184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5535758517520101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,U_smell_like_goat,2019/01/13,"I got asked why I hate my son (rant) I am a stay at home mom with a 3 year old. My husband is gone a lot between Monday-Friday. He is usually out the door by 9 and home between 10pm-midnight because of work. My son and I spend a lot of time together.

Yesterday we were going to visit my husband's grandmother in the hospital that was 2 hours away. My son was going to spend the day with my mom because a toddler doesn't need to be at a hospital all day and I also wanted a small break.

That didn't happen. My husband missed the exit for my parents' house, got irritated, and decided to just bring him with us to the hospital. I was irritated because my parents were expecting us, we were late, and now I am stuck at a hospital all day with a toddler, so I get to be the one to deal with that while husband gets to relax in a chair and visit.

We get an hour into the trip and husband says ""why do you hate our son?"". 

The question struck a nerve. I spend 60+ hours a week doing everything with the toddler, making sure he is fed, bathed, reading him books, library trips, shopping, showering with a toddler because he likes to jump in with me sometimes, and even having a constant bathroom buddy who wants to demand milk while I am pooping, but clearly I hate him because I want a chance to have a break and visit grandmother in law at the hospital without worrying about a three year old. /s

I love my husband, I do, but sometimes I just want to grab that man by the lapels and shake him a little.",6.088848684210527,5.136269134868424,6.958157894736843,79.0171052631579,66.53289473684211,9.83684210526316,34.78947368421053,9.017664075816787,2.882457894736841,1163,48,237,17,16,390,149,304,0.075,0.845,0.079,0.486,3,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,6,1,0,1,7,9,3,1,30,0,21,4,1,1,4,44,45,16,0,6,5,14,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,5,23,2,0,2,5,4,11,3,5,0,2,12,2,37,4,40,31,4,47,0,1,0,1,38,14,0,3,20,159,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795215042989591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296224270583037,0.0,0.09342641581937527,0.0,0.0,0.30308611247422124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074584649729724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19239020179744584,0.10251746429064686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567866366555103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936955455300456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585865688588724,0.0,0.11302719490980255,0.0,0.15906124834104846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793376941023437,0.0,0.0,0.2945269135071304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949128082057527,0.0,0.2937827887740416,0.11473950313079613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217176577302948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858097757404101,0.09966421703640263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690793292044769,0.0897477738922143,0.0,0.0663764481621935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329240135336408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373291792337805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086894573055208,0.0,0.0673825855825178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208309608114357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139467851924216,0.0,0.09946612465112134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907805495575669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966958525532012,0.0,0.0,0.105988972367925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937202833107764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057983805928088925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392262640042685,0.0,0.10951824664205513,0.0,0.234607301522967,0.0,0.07976414018184212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179456849491149,0.0,0.0,0.09585585475111233,0.0,0.07239293282610182,0.10098534971398276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807118841820914
parenting,DanDogTeddyCat,2019/01/13,"Young man needs advice on bonding and parenting estranged daughter? I'm a 26M and I will be meeting my estranged 8y/o daughter, Natalie in 4 days, I haven't seen her since she was a newborn.

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Basically, when I was 18 I had a casual relationship with her mother, Michelle who was 33 at the time. Michelle lied to me about her being on birth control which resulted in Natalie's unplanned pregnancy. (yes, Michelle definitely lied about it) 

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Shortly after Natalie was born we had a paternity test to confirm she was mine. I couldn't handle the gravity of the situation so I abandoned them and for the last 8 years Michelle has been a single parent and I've had zero contact with either of them.

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In November of 2018 I contacted Michelle over Facebook saying I would like to become involved in Natalie's life. Wev'e corresponded online for 2 months discussing a co-parent arrangement and things to that effect. Prior to contacting her I thought logn and hard about this and I am steadfast in my commitment to beign a father to Natalie.

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The 3 of us are having a casual meeting at a café in 4 days where we can get acquainted and I will be meeting Natalie properly for the first time. We never spoken or seen each other in person but she has been told that I am her father and we will be spending more time together.

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I was raised without a father myself, he passed when I was 4 and I had zero male influence/role-model in my upbringing so I'm anxious about my competence as a father as I never had one.

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*Can anyone give me advice or guidance on how to relate/connect with Natalie when we first meet and/or what to expect?*

*Also can anyone give me more general advice on fatherhood which will be beneficial as well as specific advice releant to my situation?* 

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*detailed and thoughtful replies are appreciated but shorter ones are great too* 

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parenting,teeesweeet,2019/01/13,"My 5 month old and his need for me to hold him all day. Please help! My 5 month old prefers to be held. I know this is normal, but my baby prefers it 24/7. During the day I don’t get much done because he cries if I put him down. We’ll do tummy time and floor playing, but I need to be right next to him or he cries. I deal with it during the daytime because I tell myself he’s so little, it’s a phase, and it’s good that he loves me so much. 

At night though? I’m honestly over it. After he unlatches from nursing I try to move him and he doesn’t tolerate it. He cries and cries. I pick him up and he’s instantly calm. I try to move him again, no luck.

I’m trying bed sharing (king sized bed, just the two of us... my husband has given up because of the crying and sleeps with another of our children in a different bedroom) to help ease his stress, but it’s not working. I usually have to let him cry with me right next to him, rubbing his belly or holding his hand and quietly shushing him.

I need sleep. I can’t sit up all night. Not only because I need to function, but it’s also starting to hurt my hips. He doesn’t have reflux or any medical conditions requiring him to not lie on his back or needing to be elevated. He’s pretty flat when I hold him, but he’s on his side, belly to belly with me.

What can I do? I don’t want to put him in the crib and walk away while he cries. I want him to know I’m here and that he’s safe. I also need sleep though. Any suggestions?",0.5502395833333331,2.2069868781250044,2.7300000000000004,94.48833333333336,81.78125,5.891666666666668,20.979166666666664,6.88968998030894,0.27302916666666643,1131,33,270,13,30,384,151,320,0.108,0.74,0.152,0.9199,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,0,0,3,11,10,0,1,7,0,18,7,5,1,2,51,36,28,0,12,14,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,12,14,0,6,4,1,0,5,9,2,0,1,3,3,50,8,37,28,4,40,0,1,0,1,44,16,0,6,18,164,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504115360656953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633026223883348,0.08197862406629766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345275290230302,0.06011565101415387,0.0,0.19063138948392944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6011399804100604,0.10083935989990332,0.08060022325238239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168153738115061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000535907906771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04084586181727312,0.0,0.0,0.06557373670758859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480491105797077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369338600328842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859314479925892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994442236233369,0.0,0.0,0.07835697262891457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056056899348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875819943177187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480517811359472,0.16618609183199715,0.11494269957235803,0.3478172048125495,0.0,0.0,0.1662907909225382,0.14673340646872352,0.0765998731607285,0.0,0.0,0.16407367237991768,0.0,0.0,0.05945946908353401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581824403955791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953724133805161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718513537876214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353071177950715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23470960365971075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533625865380438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955501043956167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683328304614395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362305120960465,0.0,0.04558742976296153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923741478535516,0.0,0.07637057213157142,0.0,0.09404100276959626,0.0,0.08610430613591044,0.0,0.09222526625210004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056916024874903916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JustTarable,2019/01/13,"Baby book search - Asian characters Hello! I am on a constant search for inclusive baby books. I have TONS of books with females, black characters, etc... but I am have very little luck finding books with Asian characters (Japanese, Filipino, Thai, mixed, whatever).  Do you have any baby/toddler books in your library with Asian characters in everyday situations? Bonus points for board books! ",5.53125,9.165059625000003,4.861250000000002,74.45875000000002,77.75,8.825000000000003,31.4375,9.188382445141503,3.9754125,312,15,44,9,8,94,43,64,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.8837,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,9,6,2,7,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,2,24,5,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24745947507424726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3932386709375826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058364866760689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325912824565188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647160254642307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439961673307765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090305762836799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300249539696444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xqyzt,2019/01/13,"Should 4 yo attend funeral? My father in law, whom we live with, passed away the other day. My 4 yo daughter is very upset as they were pretty close. We do the best we can with her questions and she's satisfied for the most part but she doesn't really understand. There will be a viewing on Wednesday and I go back and forth on if it's a good idea for her to attend. Either way it's not a decision that I can take back so I'm reaching out to the interwebz for feedback and advice. 

Fwiw, she wrote him a letter and it made her feel better and I feel like it might help for her to actually give him the letter. But it could also traumatize her to see him like that and to see people mourning. I don't know. I'm at a total loss.",1.014112554112554,2.9276795454545486,3.2023116883116884,90.389658008658,81.46753246753245,6.184588744588745,19.357575757575766,7.3011,0.3716516017316014,566,14,125,8,15,193,95,154,0.092,0.7440000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.8973,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,1,3,5,8,0,1,10,0,12,0,0,1,1,34,25,13,2,3,5,2,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,14,0,0,7,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,3,5,21,5,18,17,5,16,0,2,3,0,24,7,0,4,6,91,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.1849301085847962,0.0,0.0,0.18518265853284666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154754305097895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804672960230666,0.2914361855224107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988744135837818,0.16760228460819307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130478461336588,0.0,0.0,0.12221542104247556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916394294847142,0.13538282349470698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179101930165648,0.10770038769719867,0.1589482886246298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270215949901263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392873198016496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414731021328064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516570719492773,0.0,0.16733689815039152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793147608925477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010354719889478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052160748611669,0.0,0.1313793074932853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927953023171916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21228961885679248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140212646799822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30202282216833315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248461113938846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19728199100068727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15636194929564048,0.0,0.1504207078427888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unknownuser10111,2019/01/13,"Help? Okay. This isn’t a post about parenting but a post for advice from parents on this site. Long story short, I (F 20) have been in an on an off again relationship with an abusive guy and my mom clearly hates him and wants what’s best for me and he is not that. but for some reason i’m always going back. trust me i know, i’m very stupid for doing so and each day i am learning how to try to live life with out reaching out to him. but at the moment we are on speaking terms. my parents took it as far as sending me to a college across the US to get further away from him basically and I’ve been in contact with him regardless of what they say. i know it’s wrong. trust me. i don’t know what’s wrong with me almost when it comes to this. but if you knew my biological father story you’d understand a little more on why i am the way i am. but  my question is this. if you as a parent were my parents, and were to find out your kid was still seeing this person even after everything that’s happened in the past, how would you react? please be honest. hearing the truth helps me more with wanting to just put this in the past ",1.5726330532212884,3.2303581680672258,3.158571428571431,92.60309523809526,78.66386554621847,5.7098039215686285,20.99719887955182,6.42735559955562,0.1220341736694679,876,23,198,7,21,289,136,238,0.08800000000000001,0.767,0.145,0.9165,5,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,5,1,1,10,10,2,0,14,1,18,1,0,4,2,46,35,20,0,6,9,7,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,3,14,17,0,0,9,0,0,5,3,4,0,0,7,4,30,6,40,25,6,39,0,0,1,0,32,20,0,5,11,143,44,3,0.0,0.13010157738332845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730067646951713,0.0,0.0,0.10995435990335392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136698315834853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316589404684487,0.08443366161282223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523411143939953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945877266112307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708154719062878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252550574088698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986861147906406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036024959410776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057368848490915336,0.0,0.062405003511108385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087247214754236,0.09710065251411018,0.0,0.0,0.10841021098916874,0.0,0.0,0.1237587935808698,0.0,0.1472006415358818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181038714859742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755888117189473,0.0,0.11005397097666393,0.09696027971573204,0.09717442363350763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860288972037182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6096301379414264,0.0,0.2096435738365585,0.0,0.09587793856192628,0.0,0.12053347930535788,0.0,0.0,0.2103266568274504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038486905856934,0.12300730474041348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289835545390607,0.0,0.11789002740379807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732175121401035,0.0,0.0,0.0875007772991514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769082452922078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219979652199412,0.07455073550880423,0.0,0.0,0.11431141154004006,0.13208251215160408,0.0,0.0,0.09060104799466752,0.1295322730689362,0.08715850519929746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908239633412634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800268596633264,0.2401101818306121,0.0,0.0
parenting,alienatediguana,2019/01/13,"Help, my daughter is malicious and I don’t know what to do Hey all, I need some advice on the behaviour of my 9yo daughter. 
I have never been more angry at her than I am right now. She has a habit of being very selfish and tends to manipulate people to get her way (especially her brother) 
Some of the semi regular things she does are treat her brother badly, disrespect her belongings and our home, and she has a really bad habit of stealing food from our kitchen, always treat food and things she knows we only allow her to have sometimes. Ice blocks, chips and candy are the main things. We always find the wrappers stashed places and have had so many conversations about how it is never ok to take things without asking. She is very well taken care of and has all the good nutritious food she could ever want but she insists on thieving crap.
Her brother let it slip that some months ago she had put her fathers and my tooth brush in the toilet and kept it quiet all this time. She flips out at him pushes him over and runs out the room screaming that she’s so angry. I gave her a minute to calm down and went in and tried to talk to her about her behaviour. I explained what she had done was nasty and that we did not deserve to be treated like that by anyone let alone by the daughter we love and do everything in our power to make sure she is happy, well adjusted and has everything she needs (and a decent chunk of what she wants) she then cries and rages about how upset she is her brother snitched. Not sorry for doing it just sorry she got hurt. Leave her to simmer down. We drive home (was at my mothers for dinner and my partner had stayed at home) and told her she needs to go and tell her father what she has done. I try again to explain how upset I am that she could go out of her way to do something so nasty when all we ever do is love and care for her. I was so upset I lost it, I said that all I do is bust my ass at work so she can have a beautiful life. We moved cities so we can spend more time together and do more family things together. I literally spent the money I was given as a Christmas gift yesterday to take the whole family to the movies to see the conclusion of her favourite animated series, with popcorn and ice cream, the whole thing. All the while I’m walking to the movies and back in a pair of broken boots because I chose to use my Christmas money on a lovely family afternoon instead of on myself. Trying to explain to her why I do not deserve to be the recipient of her nastiness made me so mad so I went to their room to remove their LEGO and her favourite soft toy. I climbed up to her bed to grab the toy and there is a half a bag of stolen chips under her covers!!!!! I took all the soft toys and all the toys she plays with regularly and told her I love her but I have never been so upset with her. I said she will need to figure out how to make it up to us and change her bad behaviour before I will even think about giving her stuff back. I really don’t k ow what to do, I don’t understand why she is like this, we are not nasty people and she has a picture perfect life. I don’t know how to deal with this behaviour and worry I’m taking it all a little too personally. Help!? 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parenting,marm1909,2019/01/13,"How our kids can learn to draw and entertain mentally healthy So, I found that there are videos in youtube that shows how to draw popuplar characters for kids !

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parenting,ACurlyRoot,2019/01/13,"Tips for picking a daycare My son will be two in a few shorts weeks and I’m struggling. I’m and Introvert and he’s far from it. He extremely high energy and doesn’t sleep well at all (12am to 6am with no naps). His doctor shrugs it off because some people need less sleep but a child running in circles at 10pm clearly has too much energy. 

We live in a fairly boring and low cost place. There’s no waiting list. Everywhere is roughly the same price. How do I find a place that fits his needs? How can I be sure he’s in good hands? How to get over my insecurities about not working (even though I’m looking) and putting my child in daycare?

The only advice I can get from my family is spare no expense and don’t be afraid to drive out of the way. ",3.1609321058688167,3.8724422278481034,4.425742232451097,88.91540276179519,72.92405063291139,7.517606444188722,25.756041426927503,7.686295010490155,1.1295746835443037,584,18,132,7,11,193,105,158,0.117,0.78,0.103,-0.3145,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,9,8,0,3,8,0,12,4,3,4,3,25,21,12,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,10,0,1,1,1,3,3,6,5,1,1,0,3,10,3,19,17,6,22,0,1,1,0,9,17,0,1,1,79,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826441418403637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139372618548561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913080562677068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345084107038047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762000422404767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083034576401687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953032253989522,0.0,0.0,0.1567693973228633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19747835575335146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504301430301313,0.0,0.15695548053398267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373987410460946,0.2771795351551474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215180652171552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957833666933855,0.0,0.3905577455422338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878939662332032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740855710338353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953966176645303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615839230508226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363596740280025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258176470341628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483587141292344,0.14992616541114162,0.0,0.16805256156506385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360711065992857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loserlogan,2019/01/13,"My son fell out of bed. My son is 3 months old and he fell from our two foot bed on to the hard wood floor.

It was at 6:15 in the morning today. I heard a thud. I instantly knew it was the baby. In horror I cried out and looked for him. Jumped out of bed flipped on the light and grabbed him. My Alexa caught me running around the bed to get him. He wasn't crying when he hit the ground but instantly when I picked him up. He had a small red mark on his head from what I assume was the dresser. 

I feel like the worst father in the world. I know I didn't knock him off and he just rolled but holy hell I was terrified. He has been perfectly normal today. I googled all signs of a concussion and he thankfully had none of the symptoms. I kept him up for about 30 minutes just consoling him and he fell asleep.

His mom was at work and I told her what happened right after it happened. She wanted to kill me. And I wanted to die.  I've never had a worse day in my life. He could have died. 

He could have died...

It's been about 14 hours since the incident and he is still perfectly fine and at work with mom tonight. I could have took him home but I have PTSD from this morning. I feel so guilty. 

He was sleeping in his bed all night till 5:35am and I had brought him to our bed to sleep. I wish I could go back in time. I know he is okay but I keep watching the Alexa recording and the sound of my voice. The fear in my voice. I've never been more scared. I hate myself and I'm afraid of ever losing him. I would kill myself if he had died. And I'm so sorry. 

I feel like the worst father in the world. He is my first son and it was the 2nd night that I was trusted to watch him alone, while his mom was at work. I just want to go back in time. 

The mark on his head disappeared about 8 hours later and he never noticed he had been hurt. But I will never shake this feeling. He is fine and that's what I keep telling myself but he could have died.",-0.0043426003344499975,2.029971632211541,1.353783444816056,101.4640426421405,86.28365384615385,4.578929765886287,16.255016722408026,5.7926816847441245,-0.8630025501672245,1493,30,369,10,46,473,178,416,0.191,0.705,0.104,-0.9944,0,1,0,0,0,2,43.0,2,0,0,7,15,21,4,4,22,1,39,8,6,1,9,65,69,30,7,12,10,8,6,2,0,2,2,4,8,0,12,22,0,3,8,0,0,12,7,12,0,2,28,15,60,9,49,33,6,69,1,2,4,0,50,30,1,2,29,230,72,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421716452586596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238702923701391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505146308701232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246145404705022,0.0,0.17864003514700794,0.052441041889705775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219573925703907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735535032946569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150127335641396,0.16445995543941136,0.11618200481533544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691659618591086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04248340236802331,0.0,0.09242566109236627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438120582673992,0.0,0.07284170404129567,0.08028110613000163,0.16690400630002458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156494340463133,0.0,0.16015655047541652,0.0,0.08704871521688373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455189702925614,0.1799246060770288,0.0,0.08937650275240919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743474451227806,0.07945218798674697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828359152564624,0.09096998098344494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285703223268265,0.06490435460919153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508586210667136,0.0,0.0,0.152616056327286,0.07967081824310082,0.0,0.0925769495632028,0.08532575310686176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950521474884562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694420279635083,0.0,0.0,0.08140987010207236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726408741248288,0.0,0.16274618918185518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102478027345552,0.0,0.0,0.06493776117972025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451676548415603,0.0,0.0,0.0710723437401341,0.07486334726520455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483012649888026,0.0,0.15415303045696327,0.07769936549646811,0.09034325737494302,0.0,0.0,0.07943232436754835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388396720139093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350751288738067,0.0,0.0,0.17759349013856052,0.0,0.08286629024233459,0.057763395655728314,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TaylorAmidala,2019/01/13,Is it just me or? Do you have constant anxiety about your kid dying at any moment?,0.551764705882352,2.8542491764705886,2.995588235294118,88.72514705882355,86.64705882352942,5.752941176470588,20.264705882352946,7.1686216300943375,0.7097294117647066,64,2,13,1,2,22,17,17,0.114,0.8859999999999999,0.0,-0.264,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747683076565335,0.0,0.4215915773236504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5955455581895366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5719569438574267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sandino_vive,2019/01/13,An Open Letter to Parents About Protecting Your Children From Climate Change Hi all. There are are so many questions about how to do right by our kids. I wrote “An Open Letter to Parents About Protecting Your Children From Climate Change” to help parents respond to maybe the biggest one. Please share with parents (or anyone) who might be interested. [http://skipspitzer.com/an-open-letter-to-parents-about-protecting-your-children-from-climate-change/](http://skipspitzer.com/an-open-letter-to-parents-about-protecting-your-children-from-climate-change/). For our kids. Thanks. Skip,18.25824626865672,24.984666373134328,7.401623134328362,56.91347947761199,49.44776119402986,5.738059701492538,30.76305970149253,7.1686216300943375,2.192762686567164,505,15,49,4,8,112,46,67,0.0,0.8270000000000001,0.173,0.8957,6,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,2,2,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,7,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,3,13,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,21,4,0,3,0,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284310772052362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5121670881587866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817196989540534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636175565000475,0.16213143464845015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120240873677792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935764802923792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7167891904890316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17715063954567606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807864738422554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782064207597414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485802602635548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grellsutcliff882,2019/01/13,"Toddler sleep issues My almost 3 year old lately has been driving us insane, waking us up every single night around midnight or 1am

Our routine for bed is: bath, brush teeth, use potty (she’s been potty trained for 5+ months now) read books, lights out and snuggles for 2 minutes then bed.

We noticed that the more she began falling asleep while we snuggle her, the more often she’d wake up at night and come and wanna sleep in our bed. Which never works, she will kick and wiggle for hours on end and ask every couple hours if she can get up now.

So we started limiting the snuggles to 2 minutes and then leaving. Some nights she cries, other nights she goes to sleep. But nearly every night she wakes up at the same time wanting us to snuggle her more. She will not compromise, I offer to sing, tell her a quick story etc but nope it has to be snuggles. 

I feel mixed about what to do. Do I go the firm route and just ignore her distress, or try the gentler route. Any which way I suffer extreme insomnia as it is. Every night I get woken up an hour after falling asleep and kept up until 3/4 am and waking at 7. I’m so tired all the time im just grumpy. 

Advice please",4.2062288135593215,4.990158648305091,4.712500000000002,87.54764830508476,70.5677966101695,6.408474576271187,24.91949152542373,5.602791699666715,0.6066661016949149,915,24,184,3,16,291,145,236,0.104,0.871,0.025,-0.9589,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,0,2,10,4,0,1,9,0,14,12,10,1,2,36,27,21,0,3,8,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,4,0,7,15,0,3,1,4,0,5,3,3,0,0,5,3,27,1,29,18,8,47,0,1,0,0,24,14,0,6,27,121,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965934957916754,0.0,0.0,0.09898237690624667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722029006226936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799601790070671,0.09240989450847953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514912927843138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937385560915988,0.10858030710936416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755032754025302,0.0,0.11024207638051643,0.0,0.0,0.3331361037285825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0499807124816912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328840055085314,0.0,0.05617781399301986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29203723714932955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677321605492407,0.10317203018485864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115052815014048,0.10466616496550522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889983620302851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623796674144236,0.0,0.0,0.5565750673593377,0.0,0.0,0.11253953915255976,0.10372474981945287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850584086807362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887513272741774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29675931021345564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996539422266172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639784361815057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527857403291306,0.11361167501779515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711156344556447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567073014295777,0.08537326532493104,0.0,0.0,0.05830333733788221,0.07846124537312475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719628000669991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365511774900441
parenting,krystiannajt,2019/01/13,"My child tries guilt tripping to get what she wants My daughter is a very bright four year old. She's pretty well-behaved for the most part. She has some struggles with focus and impulse control but we're working on that. She's very good with accepting ""no"" and only tries to negotiate sometimes. Lately she's been laying on these guilt trips though. It's irritating. I don't do that to her, but I do have a relative (my forty-something aunt) who's a complete baby and uses guilt tripping to get what she wants from other people, so I assume that's where she learned that behavior. She says things to me like ""I guess I can't have a snack"", ""I just can't have snuggles"", ""You won't read me a story."" Just out of the blue. I tell her, ""well maybe if you ask you might get what you want."" She ignores that. So I thought maybe you guys might have some tips on how to handle these little guilt trips. She's otherwise very reasonable and cool. Thanks in advance. 

Tl;DR: I'm looking for ways to encourage my daughter to be direct. ",2.5200855587243964,4.659699359605913,3.2251179673321246,90.96983666061709,77.57142857142857,5.850038890329273,23.492092299714805,6.8360192770164,0.6933704433497541,802,26,164,8,19,252,117,203,0.086,0.7709999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9316,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,5,0,3,8,14,0,5,7,1,16,1,0,4,0,30,29,11,0,4,5,3,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,14,7,1,2,5,1,0,5,5,6,1,1,2,5,31,8,19,23,4,16,0,0,3,0,27,7,0,8,4,108,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172143648985787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477297990496228,0.0,0.15803007916262335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22084155434323832,0.0,0.0,0.1181792989081875,0.0,0.0,0.1552160056900904,0.1395120471462282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589400781560602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883607759317659,0.14121769712692794,0.0,0.0,0.11831957618043715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28310373393779603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989428994915138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478496769035459,0.0,0.0,0.10715995034841297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257976076141794,0.0,0.09768154526826256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334481898351942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409370131332175,0.0,0.0,0.14486751931921296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120484477397716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847084451840676,0.13935259894649674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729810587373887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315183489322805,0.1297207619277179,0.0,0.0,0.09360695768455372,0.0,0.13843243804334435,0.11185797525393852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132218663703435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169139686008194,0.0,0.34876900601268224,0.2493174368550084,0.1118389757320074,0.0,0.0,0.2533700357931761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257606557258613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073426167649748
parenting,vistadelmar,2019/01/13,"Varsity parenting tip- When you buy a birthday gift for your little kid’s friend, buy a toy your kid already has. That way there’s no jealousy, and they’ll be excited to show their friend how cool it is. Also- buy a big roll of white or kraft paper so your kids can draw on/decorate it for wrapping paper.  It’s cheap, personal, and occupies your kid for a bit.",4.19383561643836,5.047706739726029,5.136876712328768,84.23791780821921,70.64383561643834,9.127671232876713,28.298630136986297,9.3871,2.2903665753424662,284,10,59,6,5,93,54,73,0.06,0.7609999999999999,0.179,0.8378,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,5,2,0,5,4,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,1,0,4,5,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,4,5,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,15,2,0,1,1,33,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664851615991919,0.2655835497690117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36257169164059183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131656482277843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328555813779229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368762330317048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899805131803353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636087972354442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,digijin,2019/01/14,"8 year old gets a cough and completely refuses to talk for 2 months My eldest daughter (8 y.o), who otherwise is outgoing and quite talkative got a cough about 2 months ago, and since then has completely refused to even attempt any type of verbal communication. 

The odd thing about it is how absolute and unwavering her refusal to say anything is- if I have a sore throat often I forget about it and start saying something and then start coughing, she doesn't even accidentally say something. She completely refuses to even attempt to talk. Every time we ask her to even attempt to say something she will strain out a cough then continue what she's doing completely refusing to talk. I try and offer rewards like when we're out shopping and she points to something she likes, I tell her if she says a single word, a single vowel, even a single letter, at least make an attempt and I'll buy it for you but she just \*forces\* out one single cough and that is the only response she ever gives.

This is in every situation, she doesn't talk in school, she doesn't talk to her sister, grandma, me or her mum. It doesn't seem anxiety related, we haven't had any traumatic experiences recently I am aware of. Otherwise she is healthy, runs around, plays a lot, has energy. Communicates pretty well through hand signals and written notes but zero verbal. We've taken her to multiple doctors and have only been diagnosed with a common cold. We've put her on the best medication we can get for her age. I'm honestly thinking it's something psychological at this point, what kind of 8 year old, that used to be impossible to shut up a few months ago, suddenly refuses to say a single letter even in exchange for toys and candy?

Would love to know if this happened to anyone else before or where I can look next?",6.182111436950144,7.0857226217008815,6.75353372434018,74.25030058651029,66.18475073313783,9.953665689149561,32.50879765395894,10.018931242160765,3.293168914956012,1438,58,255,32,22,471,183,341,0.028,0.82,0.152,0.9928,1,0,5,0,0,0,39.0,3,1,0,7,17,10,0,1,15,0,24,12,2,3,1,47,42,25,0,4,8,3,1,2,0,2,9,6,0,0,14,21,0,6,3,3,3,2,5,1,1,2,5,9,32,9,39,34,9,40,0,0,1,1,52,15,0,8,25,171,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529353220473287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146227803243618,0.0,0.06269414548634769,0.0,0.0,0.05730373997748708,0.08397096828856741,0.06744068554397968,0.07295592301007603,0.07661538908200677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973632816157004,0.0,0.08600506297089107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34370642576662164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318100084138479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388280272027895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846157020178181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247767840786092,0.07413156445357287,0.13809858965961214,0.0,0.0,0.08016617486724817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563456367906185,0.07861719253288835,0.0,0.0,0.06554564022343032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247114269963753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534188036600454,0.04503945888126348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007660724359784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882023614873285,0.0,0.0,0.06967387089464691,0.07396616535763417,0.0,0.05470454728507924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825594533255288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962433248524145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715839678081948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719926660910101,0.0,0.055533761465852,0.12465854470975707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494495182943072,0.0,0.0,0.08337609558454659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238582738938759,0.0,0.08716755488591743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091911983669521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910359155677061,0.0,0.08294124095820607,0.0,0.07460731978111589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779271969485454,0.09211908294038842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154587506138943,0.0,0.0,0.1160141114575852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293552916792068,0.0716309053252256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05444621372875196,0.05251244533580765,0.0,0.0,0.04778770092384491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055640995724888495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078144580579299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736859709069102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821736146211427,0.0,0.0,0.10555063696027528
parenting,oxyi,2019/01/14,"How to overcome my son’s anxiety of “bad guy gonna get him”? Over the winter break, my son(6) has developed this thing that there is bad guy that’s going to come our house and kidnap him.  Only at night time.  He has been asking me to hold him to sleep every night. At first, I thought it was just a “thing” and will go away in a week or two.  But he is truly scared of it as he would listen to me on anything, because he needs me to hold/hug him to sleep.  I’ve tried to explain to him that we’ve locked all the doors and bad guy wouldn’t  be able to come in and I have alarm, cameras to detect the bad guy.  Nothing works.  I have to leave work early, and mom would tell me every morning he would wake up and said he couldn’t sleep as he doesn’t feel safe, and looking for me.  It is getting to the point that he’s begging me to hug him to sleep, and he would do anything for it.   Anyone know how to help my son overcome this? 🙏🏻🙏🏻",1.8332676518883413,2.6069046748768483,3.1155862068965554,96.82970114942528,76.14285714285714,5.807422003284072,20.922495894909687,5.2151,-0.3143941543513957,711,15,177,2,15,231,108,203,0.109,0.835,0.056,-0.8738,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,3,4,8,0,2,6,0,19,6,5,2,1,29,35,14,0,7,3,3,1,0,0,7,0,2,1,4,12,10,0,2,4,0,0,4,3,6,0,2,4,4,19,2,30,22,1,21,0,0,1,1,29,9,0,1,7,103,31,2,0.10638810719126654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138661080426414,0.0,0.0,0.07438903819483551,0.0,0.17509669472840564,0.0,0.0994585188850272,0.0,0.09995512878852876,0.0,0.3553185026820057,0.06485320268508589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18328786819695791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927313758016086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05379302360085759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049366962850157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116679000048678,0.0,0.1209256260633782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213638097349576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130970568525358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275759175802678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846812142295287,0.0,0.0,0.11264964428554625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933921551118608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246004653314964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888543344351273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996760633419491,0.0,0.10208225815313828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091294955067421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005711489709465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119945257030216,0.0,0.10651305485381576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4258597576397594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298789493080703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135906222607844,0.0,0.0,0.08446027344297415,0.062035760853722324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223054128410344,0.0,0.10392572192927982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853381223571336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549036182229666,0.0,0.0,0.3023002356990437,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DiscombobulatedBank6,2019/01/14,"How do I motivate my 9 year old to son to try harder at school? I really need some advice about how to motivate my son.  He is slightly below in all subjects and I'm worried he will find things harder the older he gets and fall further behind.  His handwriting is especially bad and he goes to ""reading recovery"" however the teacher helps them with all areas of English.  He's not stupid, I believe the problem is his attitude.  He doesn't want to put in the effort. I've tried a few different tactics to try and help but I don't know what I'm doing.  I'll give a few examples of the problems below.  A bit of a read so if you want to just throw some suggestions my way about how to motivate a child who doesn't want to put in any effort I'd be really grateful to hear your suggestions.

His teacher showed me the writing he does with the reading recovery teacher.  It can be neat when he takes the time and tries.  I praised him and said how proud I was with his fantastic handwriting during the interview.  This is the only neat writing he has ever done.  His regular school books and any writing he does at home is almost unreadable.  He doesn't care that his handwriting is terrible.

I've tried to sit down with him each day after school and write a story to practice and I do my best to make this a positive experience.  Encouraging rather than disciplining and trying to make it fun.  He groans and moans and writes down as little as he can as fast as possible.  I've also gotten fed up and told him his writings a mess and made him rewrite it or continue at a slower pace. But after a sentence or two he's back at it.  Writing like he's in a race.  He can write neatly he just doesn't want to.  He also rushes through the online learning program he does (Lexia).  He rushes through guessing the multi choice answers on the easier levels until he can no longer guess and get's stuck on the harder levels.  We make him go back and repeat the earlier ones but again he groans and moans and wants to give up before he even starts.

I've tried madlibs to try and help him with learning some more descriptive words but he will choose the same silly words over and over.  If I try to have him choose other words he gets grumpy and doesn't want to do them any more.

I've read to him since he was a baby but he no longer wants to read and he doesn't want me to read to him.  I take him to the library and of those thousands of books he cant find anything he likes, except the diary of a wimpy kid which he loves and we own the lot.

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Please help me, help him.  I don't know how to get him to want to learn, to put in an effort.  He just doesn't seem to care if he's good at school  and I'm finding it very hard to stay positive and patient with him when he has such a negative attitude.  Thanks to all who reply.

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parenting,Justadudeinhis30s,2019/01/14,"I just need to vent about the last two days so I (dad) was at a presentation yesterday for work and my wife was going to bring our 3.5yo son and my father in law to meet me for lunch afterwards. Right before my presentation I got a call from my mother in law saying that ""everything was fine, I didn't have to run out, but my son fell on some ice and they were going to the ER and would let me know what was going on later""   


I kind of had this moment of ""what do I do...do I run out of here or do I just keep my shit together and work?"" Well, I just did what I typically do and kept my shit together and worked.   


Then as soon as I got done I rushed out and went home to meet them (by this time we were all getting home about the same time) 

What I found out had happened is that my son was walking back inside because my wife forgot something in the house, he had his hands in his coat pockets and he slipped on some packed snow and face planted right into the edge of our front porch step. he smashed his front teeth In and cut his lip real bad. they ended up having to surgically remove 2 of his teeth and we are crossing our fingers he doesn't lose a third in the next few days. 

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when I saw him he looked like he had been in a fist fight with mike Tyson. 

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I have never in my life felt the pain I felt at that moment. I'm a stoic guy by nature, we own a small farm, I've been a woodworker all my life, Ive put animals down myself, I'm kind of a rough stoic mans man I guess.... but seeing my little man like that broke me. Its been so hard for me to deal with the last two days emotionally. I keep imagining him falling in my head, the pain and trauma he went through... 

but whats more is that I am also imagining how worse it could have been which scares the hell out of me. Like, we are very lucky it was only teeth. And I keep thinking about all the parents out there who have to deal with so much worse and it breaks my heart for them because I now have had just a little taste of that feeling... that heart wrenching deep wounding feeling of knowing your child has been hurt, is scared, and is now going to have to deal with something. 

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anyway.... I apologize for this sort of useless and long rant but I've been trying to hold everything together for my wife and son during all this and needed to just let this out. thanks for listening.  

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parenting,IamMDS,2019/01/14,"Kid having school anxiety and I’m not sure what to do. Any advice? I’m stumped. My 7yo son has anxiety and is on the spectrum. He’s recently so stressed about school, that he’s been refusing to go. It’s 2nd grade! School keeps trying to reason with him by using incentives. I respect the school a lot but I’m not sure if they’ve really figured him out. I don’t think we can get to him using logic. He’s in fight or flight mode. Seeing a psychologist tomorrow. I’m so exhausted and everyone’s advice feels so generic and it all still feels like guessing. Any ideas or suggestions would be super appreciated. ",1.1523243801652896,3.75763858677686,3.2552427685950427,85.19377324380166,88.75206611570248,6.991942148760329,22.438533057851238,8.07648339933343,1.697549173553719,483,18,94,12,16,163,82,121,0.145,0.725,0.131,0.4114,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,5,8,1,1,4,0,9,1,0,3,3,30,23,11,0,2,6,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,2,7,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,3,7,5,10,20,2,7,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,5,4,50,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925786821951098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036081593486211,0.0,0.2290468091939627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304890513355745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139001723888484,0.1069488050440444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821433490818354,0.0,0.08508042209243799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491620005472427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899796930857186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306408921675025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313797499727569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727327000641656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959044287923718,0.15392098702230847,0.1478149678698066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6060351072557996,0.11929497071020985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955407330843215,0.0,0.17148580707051347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821891233898855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592449146434504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163941491104504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585929545125177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634566257460656,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rodchris,2019/01/14,"Toddler doesn’t eat anything. At all. My 22month old does not eat. Anything. At all.   He had never been a fan of eating anything. He’s always liked to drink his milk and per consulting with dr we started giving pedía sure for a few months now and that’s basically what’s giving him any nourishment. Will take few bites of food here and there through out day but never will eat a plate of food or anything in whole. He goes through phases of eating one particular food for a few days to a week or so then won’t eat that particular food again and so on. He could probably go a whole day not eating anything and has done so. It drives me crazy , it has been a complete opposite of my first son who was never a picky eater and ate any and everything. Just feel hopeless as an everyday battle and struggle and waiting for the day it will no longer be. ",3.687041420118344,5.164319242603553,4.352189349112425,87.01396449704144,72.55029585798816,7.3301775147929,26.6094674556213,7.882392219407189,1.443392899408284,668,23,137,9,13,213,103,169,0.104,0.855,0.041,-0.915,0,0,1,0,0,1,13.0,1,0,0,1,8,5,1,1,10,0,14,15,0,0,6,27,22,17,0,1,6,1,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,7,12,14,1,1,1,0,2,8,3,0,2,6,1,6,2,19,10,7,23,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,2,17,92,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333005544267689,0.0,0.0,0.11986094078337264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626116457993375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240116089698333,0.0,0.0,0.0703635164017835,0.0,0.0,0.22734262647536785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712193217696478,0.0901861558978302,0.0,0.08633247757159344,0.0,0.6312429174135712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920430355545577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04456046837591195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496214255628457,0.4262618141168164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690819679102082,0.05008551458286696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043055182651861736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034340811523221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039106289613412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247614138798513,0.0,0.059718220478137005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501753690411097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062377877022245225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213114800276978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830601630026866,0.0,0.06626173982883059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069144747784975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967848703866606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Joezdaniz,2019/01/14,"The first months will be tough ""You'll see. The first months will be tough. You'll barely sleep and everything in your life will change""

Well fast forward a year later and the toughest part is know. Being able to do nothing when your child is sick every month thanks to the kindergarten (flu, nasal congestion etc.) THAT'S tough compared to the first three/four months",4.669754901960786,7.0967307794117644,2.885882352941177,94.55813725490198,72.08823529411767,5.7098039215686285,21.62745098039216,6.42735559955562,0.18316862745098075,295,7,57,2,6,81,48,68,0.13,0.799,0.071,-0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,0,3,2,5,0,0,6,0,11,6,2,0,0,3,14,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,3,0,2,4,2,4,6,2,13,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,12,33,5,0,0.18835300347445566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925250295897787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100633877419256,0.0,0.0,0.15869552902565653,0.0,0.1692795344510662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806389056055866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351388485297132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330392966140873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6013662815233544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072978674233547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20396794789663947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500929576235739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848902976097195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341013957518048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693519704098924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212931588417566
parenting,i_still_mmmbop,2019/01/14,"Ready to lose my shit Guys.. I am about ready to lose my shit. My baby will be 4 months old on Saturday and I just feel like I need to run away. I deal with him all day long while I work from home full-time, I also deal with him most of the evening and any time he wakes up at night. WHY THE HELL AM I EVEN MARRIED?! My husband can work from home 3 days a week, but I feel like I get even less work done when he works from home. 

I tried to talk to him about how I’m feeling the other day and I told him I wanted to get someone to sit with the baby 2-3 times a week for a couple hours so I could get some of my paperwork done and maybe teach my classes without a screaming baby in the background (I teach high school special ed at a cyber school).  It’s fucking hard.  My husband doesn’t get it.  He’s like “you can’t handle being responsible for him 2 days a week”? That’s not it, asshole.  

My job is very demanding and having to write IEPs takes a lot of freaking thinking and concentration.  Not to mention, most days he is working at the office, he comes home and I end up working until 7 or 8pm, and then he complains about having nothing to eat for dinner.  THEN MAKE SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF. It’s like I have an infant and a toddler.  

Help me help him get it.  I’m at my wits end here. I don’t want to resent my son, I don’t want to feel like crying every time I hear him crying.  I just want to be a good mom and not one of those who is constantly annoyed with their kids.  😩😭",1.220792987344712,2.596984319749218,2.92624172762104,95.12634854290027,78.84326018808778,5.47827702310461,21.21920352954836,5.82211442006289,-0.08357550214791587,1134,30,270,6,27,376,164,319,0.114,0.747,0.139,0.7255,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,1,8,13,18,6,0,16,0,20,6,3,2,1,42,43,20,0,6,8,4,5,5,0,1,0,2,4,3,9,15,2,0,5,0,0,2,8,11,0,1,3,7,40,7,42,35,6,38,1,2,0,1,33,10,4,5,30,162,49,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579664704914832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595097720535057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773016677806341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087409154140334,0.0,0.08891188307616663,0.0,0.06569124981923442,0.0910376033245402,0.1807541824766979,0.26530832372484564,0.16964732932985152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683952593696872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841896042254449,0.0,0.0,0.14574546988678372,0.0,0.0,0.16302895260691952,0.0,0.06932166808835084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640628608890454,0.17633547218251994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606348311225665,0.21493089881955507,0.0,0.0,0.06900979214280549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146686825802009,0.0,0.0,0.0737037621682001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927318202852627,0.0,0.1102966750226205,0.08692985057010408,0.3301209530490669,0.0,0.0810259758559972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164692898000679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20098119765973835,0.0,0.0,0.07281229016520832,0.0,0.18409316286857835,0.0,0.06994870786869246,0.0,0.0,0.0549203359595035,0.0,0.08265800361989578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636147632549637,0.06567247675980213,0.0,0.0,0.061007130326278684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721110912107403,0.0,0.07894671240678187,0.0,0.08633555593709635,0.0,0.05575282107546837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665368253423144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891169985190513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971278068411565,0.06334062312880435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061861838736110925,0.06613089465780451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05271958700011462,0.0,0.0,0.14392861579456012,0.0,0.0,0.07861891248350145,0.0,0.05586047833295305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788689399115683,0.1941157168685733,0.0,0.1979922170106188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424192418525352,0.0,0.0,0.07931180248983194,0.0,0.3593905038897063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goldenjade,2019/01/14,"Asking all parents about children and healthy living! Do you educate your child/children to make healthy decisions? If so, how do you go about that? Otherwise, how do you approach this with your own methods?

Raising kids is a tough yet very empowering job; I'd definitely love to hear your thoughts because I'm curious on how children are motivated to eat healthier and/or participate more in physical activities.",8.025915492957742,10.024173281690146,7.89729577464789,63.73467605633803,62.661971830985905,11.877183098591551,45.185915492957754,11.602472056035307,6.213183661971831,337,22,50,11,5,108,56,71,0.019,0.7509999999999999,0.231,0.9511,3,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,6,0,1,7,2,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,5,1,11,12,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,1,8,11,3,5,0,0,0,1,13,2,0,1,1,32,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040389758503442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825251316865025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33278363443524056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848313443359857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665492012492259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227329789279461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28717727487767675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29352584947184945,0.0,0.2170884300164487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611209089136221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581902015585687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683424814826379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dre6485,2019/01/14,"My wife passed away, so I started to take my 2 older kids to therapy, tonight their therapist said she doesn’t think they need therapy and we can come back if any issues come up. I’m just kind of surprised. I didn’t think their therapist would basically say, your kids are well adjusted and don’t really need to be here. I think we were boring her or something. Well I’m glad they’re doing so well considering everything they’ve been through. ",4.003251231527096,5.811105712643684,4.7192118226601,83.3648275862069,72.33333333333333,9.109359605911333,27.37110016420361,9.606745405546679,2.4742065681445,355,13,71,9,7,114,62,87,0.028,0.841,0.131,0.7655,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,2,1,3,0,8,7,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,16,22,6,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,1,3,0,4,2,13,6,7,16,0,9,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,2,4,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136694745741504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704533502749846,0.12853000304115172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879742642157514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022594533830155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446384790957487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406367197251718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24788301459019585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708221188225923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590003647249212,0.13292642690970338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868220913864478,0.0,0.0,0.11831144424244645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567792479327966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823070459849136,0.3881540172658017,0.0,0.3213138386524642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508706843782897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874038473475627,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bartender1982,2019/01/14,"Why won’t my child fall asleep?! Ok so I need some advice. My daughter is turning 5 on Thursday (yay!) and she still has trouble with falling asleep on her own. I’m divorced from her father and we have split custody. I have a room with a bed specifically for her, and he does not. She still sleeps in his bed in his room in his mother’s house. I can get her in her bed and lay down with her until she falls asleep, but that takes about half an hour every time. We have bed time rituals: changing into jammies, brushing teeth, and then I sing her 5 songs. She still takes about 30 minutes to fall asleep! I try talking to her and asking her if “mommy sits next to you on the bed, then will that be ok?” And she says she wants to snuggle and gets upset and scared. So I lay in her bed and struggle to stay awake until she falls asleep and then I sneak out and usually get ready for bed myself or watch tv for an hour before going to bed. THEN, usually around 3-4 a.m. she wakes up and crawls into my bed and I don’t usually notice it until I wake up to go to the bathroom or the morning when wake up around 7:30. 
I just need help figuring out what to do and how to keep her in her bed. She has slept through the night in her bed about 3 times since she started actually sleeping in her own bed last June (2017).
Thank you in advanced for your help!",3.48597623089983,4.123090519713262,4.093831352574988,91.86601018675724,72.11827956989248,6.877268439916997,24.3616298811545,6.5966054737557815,0.5431032258064508,1041,27,237,7,19,330,144,279,0.047,0.875,0.078,0.865,0,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,2,3,0,1,13,8,0,3,8,3,12,12,12,1,0,39,29,30,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,14,1,4,26,0,1,1,3,0,8,3,4,0,1,1,4,46,4,47,25,3,59,1,0,1,0,43,24,0,4,25,153,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.12361441238945305,0.0,0.0,0.12378322650883115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255313554272889,0.11842199943017415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778925112515496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400306126625613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108522499325106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672732529279276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854398129500664,0.0,0.1439821805241727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16981225983843334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494944487292909,0.1461634420478694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259263437877096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325526582418976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878526014467534,0.0,0.0,0.13471799513887878,0.11887387286871948,0.0,0.0,0.14421786013589266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007353212050098,0.12682160424875935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478507659187024,0.0,0.2535286295327175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965968329297991,0.13501638579306746,0.3034832645774712,0.0,0.0,0.13242594884082304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048441181722486,0.10181482501332034,0.0,0.11662332574294974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22159184307667812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600253869329406,0.13778366745964168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185366885719203,0.0,0.07471491897840432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430252922915365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pg1428,2019/01/14,"Animated short film Alike Just came across this wonderful short film that follows Copi and his son, Paste, who he is trying to raise on the right path. Sharing it incase you haven't seen it: [https://youtu.be/kQjtK32mGJQ](https://youtu.be/kQjtK32mGJQ)",9.927432432432433,14.372698432432433,3.9634459459459457,83.12192567567571,64.67567567567568,6.943243243243244,22.763513513513516,8.07648339933343,1.3418702702702707,210,5,30,3,4,50,34,37,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.8006,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,3,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,1,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5340982510621342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4457831932808979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987965286287107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31704730393943503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5064175536245566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Llemi,2019/01/14,"YouTube: To Post or Not to Post? My daughter just found out that anyone can post videos to YouTube and she’s obsessed with the idea of becoming a YouTuber. She just turned 6 and she’s in Kindergarten. I hate YouTube and rarely let my kids on it, but this kid has pretty much been a mini teenager for years now so honestly this isn’t surprising. But I’m not sure what to do. I’m hesitant to let her post anything for all the obvious reasons, but I’m also seeing the benefits of introducing her to the Internet in a completely controlled environment (which my generation didn’t really get). I wouldn’t give her the password so she’d need me for every step of the way. Without even posting anything, we’ve already been able to have several conversations about keeping herself safe on the internet, like not sharing her full name, personal information, where we live, passwords, etc. I’ve told her that people can leave really mean comments and that she shouldn’t worry about how many likes she gets, she should just be herself and not worry what people think, etc. I wouldn’t have thought to have these conversations yet if this hadn’t come up. But she’s so young and I still want to shield her from all the bad that can come with this kind of thing. Has anyone had any experience with posting kids’ videos to YouTube? ",6.191997011952193,7.0038433067729065,5.995057270916338,80.02214765936256,66.13147410358566,9.462250996015936,32.81897410358566,9.516144504307137,2.9061571713147414,1054,43,200,20,16,329,139,251,0.096,0.797,0.107,0.7067,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,15,12,1,1,11,0,23,0,0,3,4,49,42,17,0,7,14,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,4,14,13,0,3,7,2,0,3,11,3,0,0,8,1,25,9,30,26,6,23,0,0,1,0,30,8,0,2,7,137,39,0,0.103758012232092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144995466045332,0.08297524489526667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07055900633166899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510002929325386,0.0,0.17076800662283229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663360623873055,0.0,0.1145925726573343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875668035134654,0.108788301746556,0.0,0.11637343344114905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23143522166130295,0.06853118851417757,0.0,0.08742060035191045,0.0,0.0,0.10149524556456292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376530491226125,0.0,0.0,0.10841855787448187,0.09953413986554008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243955599156952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713016634137632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922248886645714,0.0,0.10804800302662253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098647534795132,0.0,0.21219919465543893,0.0,0.10138184751392523,0.0,0.0916202257358427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051943389393625,0.0,0.1130228930243366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627407754048733,0.07693525135709704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438654826592449,0.09059749414796353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5962289661279564,0.1055592001187683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294007902325033,0.10668051744712513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268170215384807,0.0,0.0,0.11721702027826965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286128259823701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779069860311024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893221288917968,0.06648394467341552,0.0,0.08237227182984737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914522713969373,0.0,0.0,0.11285892244526495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119916389188788,0.08235828057190092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001902117843572,0.0,0.0,0.21074259591091635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681675803740955
parenting,BendyZebra101,2019/01/14,"What could happen? Hi, not sure if this is the best place to post this. But I'm looking for some information. Sorry this is gonna be long.

My brother in law keeps refusing to go to school. This only started this year. He is in his 4th year of high school (we are in Scotland, year 11 for those in England) so he should be sitting his GCSE exams this year. Problem is, he has missed so much school that he has missed so much to even do the exams.

The school have already arranged multiple meetings & my mother in law is getting very upset by everything. As she has been told that potentially he can be taken away because he keeps refusing to go to school. (None of her other kids are like this)

He is too strong to physically drag him out of bed & even if that was to be done, it would be considered abuse. Which would be a completely different problem. 

We (his guidance teacher, my mother & father in law, my husband & I) have asked  (i have even asked without his brother or mum being present in case he was embarrassed about telling them) if there is anything going on. Eg bullying. Even telling him how badly i was bullied in school, so he knows he could open up to me. 

He says nothing is going on. Problem is he wakes up when everyone is asleep & goes on the computer to play games. (Even with passwords being changed. He cracks them. Devices being hidden etc.) 

What I'm looking for is advice on what is likely to happen? How i can make him see he is ruining not only his life, but his family's too by acting this way & the danger he is putting himself in?

I want what is best for him, obviously. We are all at our wits end, so any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance
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parenting,momstuff1234,2019/01/14,"Shudders/Shaking/Stimming? Curious if anyone has light to shed on this behavior. My 4 year old daughter has these moments of tensing-the best word i’ve found to describe her actions. When she is excited, learning something new or getting praise/proud of herself she will open her mouth a bit and do a subtle shiver/shudder movement. 
 I can ask her to relax and she will, or to not do them and she will try to calm and breathe through it but, I can’t seem to get much clarity. 
 She had an EEg about 2 years ago when they started and showed no abnormal activity to elude to seizures.. 

 She’s at an age now where I ask her if she knows when they are coming and she seems to be very aware that she is doing it and has even said she likes doing it.. 

 Any insight or parents familiar with these movements? 
 I am curious about Autism spectrum but, these are different than any type of example I’ve seen on youtube and we’ve had her tested and nothing else is of concern from her tests.. 

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parenting,YoungishGrasshopper,2019/01/14,"I sought put and listened to a song at work from one of the shows my kid watches. What the hell is going on? First I'm seeking out some kids song about the 5 senses to listen to at work, and now I just had to do a deep dive to find an episode of Umizoomi online to listen to the Number King song.

I told my husband the other day I was digging the opening to the channel Baby First TV. He looked at me like I was crazy.

Am I being brainwashed? If there some sort of Stockholm Syndrome I'm getting from listening to these songs over, and over, and over again.

But still, fuck that one colors song by ChuChu TV.",3.2511904761904766,4.15859284920635,4.0112698412698435,91.23928571428571,72.8888888888889,6.234920634920635,25.11111111111111,5.82211442006289,0.5409587301587293,473,14,103,2,9,151,82,126,0.087,0.882,0.03,-0.8426,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,5,6,3,2,0,10,0,7,1,0,0,0,13,18,6,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,9,0,2,4,6,0,0,1,9,0,2,0,2,0,4,4,12,9,1,24,13,2,18,1,0,3,1,9,10,2,4,7,71,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847045622366187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529297489605603,0.4707793866531345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255836008882332,0.14458202829953454,0.0,0.1572742389121582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519819331379834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323867584058145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37504407224759867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27819397951823605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210000306298814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26443107742994376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4029311148323197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,camdendrive,2019/01/14,"Is it wrong to ask parents if their kids are vaccinated before letting my 19mo play with them? Really not trying to jump on any anti-vax hating bandwagon, but I am a little concerned about my son playing with other toddlers who aren’t vaccinated. My 19mo has a reaallyyy shoddy immune system (ginger baby- grew up in a family of red heads their immune systems just suck I’m sorry I don’t make the rules) 

I have a couple acquaintances that my family often ends up at the same parties/functions with. They are mommy blogger types who I am pretty sure have anti-vax views. I don’t know that for a fact but some of the things they have said regarding their parenting style has tipped me off to that. Naturally our same aged children end up playing together and although I’m not that paranoid about it, I do have some concerns. They are constantly trying to set up play dates but since my kid is always getting sick and having health issues and I am just uncomfortable with him being around children who aren’t protected via vaccinations. I feel like my child would be susceptible to catching something even if he was completely enclosed in a glass ball. 

Is it rude to just straight out ask them if their kids are vaccinated so that I can make an educated decision on if my kid should play with them? I don’t have a problem being forward and I’ve made sure his day care has a mandatory vax rule and doesn’t have anyone there with religious exemptions or anything. I just feel weird asking friends and acquaintances that and declining their offers for play dates. 

In your opinion, is this a good idea or should I just not ask and dodge/make excuses for their requests for play dates? ",6.544905660377362,7.336972578616352,6.604081761006287,76.03423584905663,65.35220125786164,9.630440251572328,31.62327044025157,9.642632912329526,2.9472221383647788,1352,50,239,26,20,431,174,318,0.079,0.7440000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.986,4,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,12,0,12,19,3,0,13,0,37,5,1,3,3,55,54,19,0,8,17,3,2,1,1,3,4,1,0,7,15,16,0,2,5,8,0,4,9,6,0,0,3,5,36,13,33,44,4,31,0,0,2,0,39,17,1,10,10,168,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056237356096263,0.0,0.0,0.08632313341915206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875896812468724,0.0,0.10446029632371034,0.11300296363732107,0.4746847504237585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801606545850727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942316109820887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13309352801778318,0.13717637704812075,0.0,0.0,0.14045601293256066,0.0,0.081865400641908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248612315759644,0.0,0.0,0.08384226531868283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393343060703319,0.0,0.1283687323557988,0.0906855206232525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980730524670243,0.0,0.0663205884201231,0.0,0.0,0.1064707319142528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532636043217624,0.13027642903461495,0.13493062824185112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329911236230042,0.0,0.1324917360297339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697625651792673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298041195873286,0.0,0.06201617060823544,0.12722661000070992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011311351923815,0.16946604778883131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819023252545756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914298810613467,0.0,0.12146384605228255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132061925825318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207484221182853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500556942435926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772413877835054,0.0,0.1420982466576598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392777325402762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433288561547263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236701715844305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017409565849067,0.13878828810021027,0.0,0.0
parenting,corn_flakes88,2019/01/14,"Son’s first word was the F word My child said his first word today. He has sounded like he was on the verge of saying dada, but it’s never been clear enough so we declare it as jibberish.

My brother in law has been staying with us the last 2 weeks & he called me into the room. “YOUR SON IS CALLING FOR YOU!” He screamed, and excited to hear my son speak I rushed to the family room.

There my brother in law held my child and said “who is that?” pointing towards me & my son went on to say “F*ggot” ... and my brother in law started bursting out in laughter. 

My wife tends to think of her brother as someone who can do no wrong. I don’t even know if she’ll believe me. I just think he’s a bad influence on my child, and shouldn’t stay here any longer.

How do I even start this conversation with my wife? Am I over reacting? ",2.156287375415282,3.566888831395349,3.3339867109634547,93.04174418604653,76.38372093023256,6.309634551495018,24.495016611295682,6.868970318607317,0.6810318936877082,637,21,145,6,14,206,105,172,0.102,0.846,0.051,-0.8781,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,2,0,2,7,5,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,3,2,28,26,10,0,2,3,10,0,1,0,2,0,8,2,3,6,9,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,3,0,2,8,8,25,2,22,16,1,27,0,0,0,0,36,15,0,1,9,91,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345511026765633,0.0,0.10498676040249963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890461663017808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393847440489152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152876904607726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595204676998846,0.0,0.20393902473105616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14553997550979572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626387695066854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17400256231888503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084845688814101,0.12584398051517331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542447298701531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907085108444307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594326278312245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937100441050424,0.24554551669060026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080949374330764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854830060734892,0.3291066908277989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19784671958760605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14633846312082938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570555583895867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383794103996296,0.0,0.0,0.1431159868443477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687952252462732,0.0,0.0
parenting,sleepeypooped,2019/01/14,Will sleep progress be lost? I co-sleep with my 7 month old. We just got to a place where she nurses 2-3x a night vs 10-12 and now she is sick.  Will all our progress be lost?,-2.0047500000000014,-0.24270197499999924,-0.375,112.0,93.75,3.2,13.0,3.1291,-2.07715,131,2,39,0,5,41,33,40,0.197,0.669,0.134,-0.3939,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,2,0,5,2,1,0,1,6,8,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,2,1,1,6,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22078519819659567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6026899999147786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22034326628287884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590575050075588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896717061716209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884171476473269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5525057157619886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myfpilot28,2019/01/14,"Why is my toddler pushing?? So our 2 year old sons day care that we really like has noticed our son is pushing kids frequently thru the day. We have a very loving home and raise him to not hit. “Hands are for hugging” type of talking we give him. 

Today I walk into his DC to see him push a kid to the ground from behind. Totally unwarranted. 

What has been your experience on this and how to rectify? ",2.5355357142857144,4.394731625000002,4.207142857142859,85.25500000000002,76.5,7.571428571428572,25.17857142857143,8.418075326091056,1.6544821428571432,310,11,64,6,7,104,65,80,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.9264,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,5,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,7,3,1,1,1,9,12,4,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,12,4,11,10,1,13,0,0,1,2,17,3,0,0,7,43,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771149975702857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505729593910647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26586946792700644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607322999163517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726343962813163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278620937390645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453072640774012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094425092471349,0.285205067453244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412001852639672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216586895638962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21846000835813745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576316284869953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22426086181741772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452543771252397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502825683310724
parenting,irlbrita,2019/01/14,"I tore my family apart. Hello, 
I’m seeking some advice on to how to handle my current family situation. Excuse all the grammatical errors and misspelling. 
I am 20 years old living with my mother and brother. My dad and her are currently separated because he cheated on her with a friend of ours who is only 6 years older than me. We’ve been having really difficult moments as this just happened two weeks ago. We found out around June and since my dad was going to move out but then my maternal grandmother passed in October which was extreme difficult for my mom and my dad kept cheating with out us knowing and without leaving like he promised. Two weeks ago I tracked a number my mom was able to get off his phone and that’s how we found out it was a family friend of ours, also married and with kids. Also found out she was pregnant by my dad or at least what she claimed. I was really upset and angry and wanted to confront him about it right there but my mom chose not to and I gave her until Sunday to do something about it.  I think I pressured her because later she told she wanted to forgive my dad and the day everything unfolded I was so angry and upset and kept telling my dad to leave. Now fast forward to today, before leaving for work I went to look for some rolling papers hoping there was some you know what (MJ) in there and she caught me. She freaked out and had a panic attack and yelled so much. She screamed at me and asked what she had done wrong and stormed off no matter how hard is pulled her and tried to hold her down. I called my dad and the police, not knowing where she was at and afraid something would happen to her. I feel so upset at myself for causing all this and I don’t know how to fix it . I didn’t think she would have such a big blow out over it. My father went looking for her but after an hour a friend of hers called me to let me know she contacted her and she was going to pick her up. I seriously want to die, I feel so bad for causing all this and my parents splitting up. She has caught me w drugs before and I feel like that was the reason why her and my dad started having problems. I feel like I will never be able to gain her trust again. I don’t know what to tell her or how to apologize to her so that she can feel okay again. ",3.3742119815668232,4.644396092473119,4.284331797235026,88.0093548387097,73.02150537634408,6.948694316436253,24.683563748079877,7.33818517376401,0.9852531490015362,1793,53,374,19,35,579,221,465,0.171,0.755,0.07400000000000001,-0.9946,3,0,3,0,0,1,29.0,5,1,0,2,24,29,4,6,11,1,33,1,0,9,4,94,71,47,1,7,9,15,6,3,3,3,1,2,0,1,17,41,0,3,18,0,0,10,8,18,0,2,27,10,80,11,64,39,8,62,0,0,2,0,72,27,0,6,30,273,97,2,0.16002607630473378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818781484638929,0.14185346122321085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797279540506665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122856770479326,0.07480138970626275,0.09102638195554932,0.0,0.0,0.06680754471038998,0.09755041080702556,0.0,0.1361704044578819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634045158950686,0.0,0.0,0.1643908615764339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05160179029478424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304090117258123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188111796336231,0.0,0.0,0.09278972179836813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719105594208641,0.0,0.2262875141760461,0.0,0.20228498106318035,0.11432266088682375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631904993129284,0.18545362438678747,0.0,0.04180351001824801,0.0,0.09094650696635584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151053078204318,0.0,0.0716759660221687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794710007384624,0.07879672518091953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638384394809113,0.0,0.0,0.2541667632980472,0.0,0.08181875255998643,0.0,0.11727098647973375,0.0,0.07065297859535374,0.0,0.1343816004987796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28113090972982663,0.0,0.08504119690105942,0.05881878946015495,0.0,0.061710987670443126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396022389915789,0.0,0.0,0.0608535210404617,0.0,0.09387806049965652,0.08884500996353785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656167151497813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251680218268512,0.08226672937331928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833069739830837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618761199155976,0.08993800729814228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319589170610835,0.0,0.0,0.05663364022909255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398698441251659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253824812631708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584300448945881,0.07645588683800722,0.0,0.054323600711692274,0.0,0.15632222385139594,0.0,0.09624583315175493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415812889058037,0.0,0.12836326578753554,0.0,0.0,0.14834577596714169,0.07219932170054932,0.0,0.0,0.07712971350695673,0.0,0.0582504447256082,0.0,0.0,0.11367793323445224,0.08748169656245433,0.0,0.10305154647924436
parenting,dumbidiotbitch,2019/01/14,"Becoming a single parent My daughter is currently 10 months. Her father and I have been together since high school and were so in love during my pregnancy. i was so happy and thought i’d finally have the family i always wanted. after my daughter was born, things went downhill. i tried to stay with him at the risk of my own mental health because i want him to be apart of her life and figured we could still be a happy family. when it was bad, it was really bad, but when it was good nothing else felt better.  he constantly put me down for not having a job or bringing anything to the table, even though he told me i wouldn’t have to work while raising our child. he would put me down and play it off as a joke, but i knew that’s how he really felt. i realized this isn’t the kind of dynamic i want our daughter to think is normal or healthy. if she were to be in my position, i would want her to leave. so i did. i moved in with some friends of my mothers and they’re helping me so much. i’m trying to be positive and stay friends with him but it’s so hard because i still love him. i think it’d be best if i didn’t see him because when i bring our daughter over to his place, we usually end up having sex and it feels like nothing has actually changed and it’s such a mindfuck. i really can’t help myself around him and everyone encourages me to be friendly with him and let our daughter be apart of his life. i can’t move far away because i’d have nowhere to go. at times i wish i never became a mother, because we might still be happily in love or if not, it’d be so much easier for me to cut contact with him. he loves our baby so much and i could never not let him see her but at the same time i don’t trust him to be alone with her because he smokes weed and gets impatient and frustrated very easily, which is why i’m always over at his place when she is. i know i should’ve considered this before going through with the pregnancy, but even now she’s the only reason i get out of bed every day. my mental health is nonexistent right now and i know i need to be better but i have my family and his in my ear telling me what’s best for her, but i don’t even know what’s best for me. ",3.196786290322581,3.836339341935485,4.668585349462366,87.47287802419355,72.78494623655914,8.221102150537636,25.498991935483872,8.472884824447931,1.4419153225806445,1714,51,384,28,32,575,202,465,0.056,0.7190000000000001,0.226,0.9984,3,1,1,0,1,0,32.0,8,0,0,6,23,27,2,1,13,0,49,10,1,2,2,75,81,44,0,15,16,9,4,1,3,4,4,1,1,1,16,28,0,0,13,2,0,9,12,5,0,0,16,7,78,22,52,44,10,59,0,0,2,5,60,25,0,8,24,273,94,3,0.0,0.0,0.07166961491553372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606463020734053,0.0,0.0,0.12222064797763155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043719733510215,0.06537969595295864,0.0,0.0,0.06900196320231096,0.0,0.12264340281645325,0.2686204315555969,0.08111184365025385,0.06249444519329157,0.0,0.2312211799448548,0.12990844258683829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769278365533593,0.0,0.0,0.07936561603922873,0.0,0.11727625891860023,0.0,0.0,0.04736455426260515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135206655717924,0.0,0.06504855482918066,0.0,0.0,0.14552490407603055,0.0,0.06187875796068576,0.07017777833185804,0.0,0.0,0.20770611218938104,0.0,0.03713490523233065,0.052467577617812684,0.14103328230156612,0.08045303836800619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022526166795893,0.0,0.07674170246092407,0.0,0.08347851381888513,0.06160036742738866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156362531868554,0.0657903565474704,0.0,0.0,0.15613260334493392,0.0,0.0,0.09845437142243348,0.07759638986370533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728806835713773,0.0,0.0,0.07647941332484462,0.12108678799675104,0.0,0.0,0.07776536035674389,0.0,0.1502005540190665,0.103749695848231,0.03588046054744485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651401121315672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480262120500581,0.07791124426449941,0.0,0.0,0.0586213720206402,0.15611622628466246,0.16196680749628084,0.05445693324235209,0.11328728741456474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719583871304101,0.14094076624310325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055856587202224785,0.0,0.0,0.08154957941071721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346426686495573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766067300134567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114808649288307,0.07551146859731113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271978174080832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432807223972293,0.11704886525052716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060752673924248685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656058529145914,0.17595463413319745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419227689507284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04879215768244032,0.09411840925725236,0.07215721472475617,0.058305409145128925,0.08565021804358214,0.0,0.0,0.07017777833185804,0.0,0.0997257311791028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088690932323553,0.06059803230106407,0.17327395303249993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680822459384142,0.06627073733049542,0.0,0.08445563834201772,0.0,0.0,0.05346726023003555,0.0,0.0,0.10434336883246176,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sillywillybumbum0986,2019/01/14,"Son not making any more gains My son is 16 5’7 at 245 lbs , 20% body fat. He’s looking to add another 10-15 lbs before he starts dieting. Right now he’s eating 5000 calories a day with an additional 800 on Tuesday and Thursday from carbs. In addition to this he’s on a serious drug plan. 1500 mg test, 1000 mg eq, 600 mg tren weekly. 

What can he do to gain more mass cause I don’t want him to be small ",0.7361206896551735,2.3621352988505757,3.0282614942528774,92.72101293103451,81.06896551724137,6.648850574712642,21.219827586206893,7.6454224807358475,0.6157137931034478,309,9,74,5,8,106,70,87,0.016,0.8959999999999999,0.08800000000000001,0.7264,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,5,2,2,0,9,9,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,10,8,2,13,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,0,6,28,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735687353025134,0.3197364668304385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25946548436511857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386987158195259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132380688295713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19664894976624245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536117882056363,0.3120105132724663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25605701328411884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035372700640632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604010404175927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158247961721584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985042515531624,0.0,0.24458939565353946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BrokeButNotDefeated,2019/01/14,"I want to punt this kid like a football in the SuperBowl with the game on the line. My daughter started Kindergarten this year. She's full of positivity, energy, extremely kind to everyone -- especially kids who are different than her. She's not mean, she's never had a tantrum and she's got a quick wit. This wasn't her 1st year of school, the year prior she did full time pre-k, but the 1st week of K, she comes home sad because a kid named... Jimmy... we'll call this little f\*\*\* Jimmy... Well, Jimmy punches her in the shoulder, hard. Daughter tells her teacher, teacher tells boy to stop, all is well -- we thought. Parent teacher conferences roll around, teacher tells us our daughter is in the top of her class and has exceptional behavior (""not a mean bone in her body""). December, before Christmas. We get a call from the school that a boy had ""sat down"" on daughter but that she's fine and that there's no need to come over. So I came over. Daughter tells me that this isn't the first time or even the second that the boy messes with her, she tells me that on at least 3 occasions, always on the mat when she's trying to sit in her circle, that the boy forces his hand between her legs and she complains to teacher. At that very moment I called for an immediate meeting with the Principal. After about 45 minutes I believe we got our point across and we had an understanding. Little f\*\*\* Jimmy would be told to steer clear. Now today, while daughter is in her locker, looking for her snack, Jimmy slams her locker door shut on her head. It leaves a pretty big welt, she cries and goes to the nurse who calls us and says ""an accident happened and everything is fine"" -- not at all what our daughter told us. 

I'll be at the school at 8:45AM tomorrow. Teacher is aware I'm coming, she apologized and said she'd round up the necessary staff including the principal and superintendent. I'm still formulating the full plan of action. No, it doesn't include punting that little f\*\*\* down the hallway of his school. I can day dream though, right?",4.225208196181697,5.993774007653062,4.513041474654379,85.22873271889401,71.67857142857143,7.5070441079657675,26.675773535220536,8.155646560271837,1.6327403554970368,1609,55,313,24,31,504,202,392,0.062,0.84,0.097,0.8525,2,0,0,0,0,0,86.0,11,0,0,3,12,10,1,0,31,0,20,7,6,0,4,42,42,17,0,3,7,8,3,1,0,2,0,2,2,7,19,22,1,1,4,2,0,5,9,4,2,2,13,6,47,6,48,24,6,61,0,1,2,0,74,34,0,1,22,201,66,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191493678383959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693915519518729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052685645930312185,0.0,0.07354377758231526,0.09737464736821427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600191364410897,0.0,0.0,0.3530101983841828,0.09885049347959668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334995021072485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493699032216517,0.05573884579982567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029876074778644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570848131379427,0.0,0.0,0.08258556268314883,0.07767582403713391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351552798607272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045155010814307166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824857468589408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764279069510215,0.0,0.07742242264929754,0.0,0.08869996032970118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669423106932403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000135845340858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151466739157303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04222430652661559,0.2598703850781833,0.0,0.0,0.07257766896987243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882906416330191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408519307281478,0.0666585249517098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596795541689096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170230190815983,0.0,0.0,0.08792824616669209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380895476535101,0.08221272513479877,0.06873093541379473,0.0,0.34987859775461944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061174112792967625,0.0,0.06902143295693852,0.0722575947761613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777089723632268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491497339105071,0.06861409888115215,0.10079360759490633,0.0,0.0819235438941878,0.16517112536629766,0.0,0.05867887114115052,0.0,0.0,0.08997449243044528,0.3118863680276414,0.0,0.0,0.07131206934778585,0.05097741496550892,0.0,0.0693272485045608,0.0,0.15541812418799286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139590075461454,0.0,0.0,0.16697020275343294
parenting,Jaemoney22,2019/01/14,"Just A Dad Looking For Some Advice!! HELP So, this is my first time posting here, lets hope this goes right! 

So just recently I have discovered that my 16 year old son is smoking weed. He has a history of ADHD, and his mom tells me all the time that the reason he is using drugs now is because I fought her so hard about keeping him off meds when he was a young child. But needless to say, he smokes it now.  I think there are a lot of kids his age doing it, and that is what he keeps telling me, as if it will make me feel better or something! I have been feeling alot of ups and downs within the last week, it really hits you hard when you think you are a ""good"" parent and you think your kid is staying away from drugs and not succumbing to peer pressure and then BAM, you find out and it just CRUSHES you. My son and I have been pretty close all these years, his mom and I have been divorced for about 8 years and I have tried to maintain an honest and open relationship with him as best I can. I coached him through little league, went to every single one of his games growing up, I have always been a supportive dad when it comes to those things. The last couple years have been rough, it happened quickly, almost overnight, one day he woke up and decided I was the most uncool dad in the world. We used to hang out, talk, do normal things dads and sons do. Now, its like I'm from another planet. I try to talk about anything, open my mouth, and within seconds I lose him. Its the worst feeling in the world, all I ever really want to do is just have a good relationship with him. Help him grow to be a responsible, caring, hardworking young man. Now I feel like he is headed down the wrong path in life. 

Long story short, I was just hoping to get advice from some parents out there. I love this kid more than you could imagine, but lately it feels like Im more upset than happy, and Im lost about how to be a good or ""fair"" parent. If any of you found weed in your kids room, how did you handle it? Did you get rid of it, tell him to never smoke it again, or did you take another approach? He tried to tell me it was his freinds, but then he came clean and said it was his. 

I tried to tell him that is is not good for your brain, its still not developed yet, but none of that matters to a teenager. They just do what they wanna do, the more you try to stop it, the more they want to do it. The more I get on him, the more it pushes him away. I just want to do the right thing and not do something that will lead him to a life of drugs and despair, dropping out of high school, etc etc. Its weed now but what if down the road it turns into something worse. 

Am I over-reacting about it? ",4.55460442260442,4.380801731531534,4.852694512694517,90.22616707616709,69.52252252252252,7.880425880425879,25.28665028665029,7.106945922332613,0.7886576576576569,2071,47,476,16,33,653,248,555,0.057,0.8370000000000001,0.106,0.9725,3,0,8,0,1,0,69.0,1,15,3,6,34,24,1,2,28,0,51,9,3,7,5,95,89,41,0,11,22,12,8,3,0,2,5,2,2,6,39,31,0,3,13,2,0,9,6,8,0,4,20,11,66,16,68,62,20,80,0,3,1,1,81,33,0,14,38,339,105,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236514988981451,0.13394223905960154,0.0,0.0,0.06862740126342269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05702619360385276,0.0,0.0,0.046605809673740936,0.1437287963032468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639805340807156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878083622469635,0.0,0.0,0.04177799466050799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192272877525444,0.060613195235946174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650716694121391,0.0,0.07838520940298735,0.06987548962372091,0.0,0.0,0.05903640268971135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054719220989988895,0.07583211993107604,0.0,0.044199082332370604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23843478278185104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286816599776226,0.0,0.06199337829313813,0.05774327153097448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326551039290686,0.09792211999092493,0.0,0.0,0.06263929075523635,0.05829541009574129,0.0,0.07514454105678359,0.0,0.0,0.1074193416850528,0.0,0.0,0.2299339456701712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060483139443702,0.07295624890122228,0.12278689965476823,0.0,0.07033616848777179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187446047428688,0.07241046131808354,0.0,0.1361404433686954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805803965139908,0.0,0.0,0.12183322389997422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117295282184265,0.07730990036575773,0.0,0.0,0.07008116889107673,0.09681588732641756,0.10044748364360497,0.06868957295997327,0.0,0.0606508752276874,0.05755171855928463,0.07667257427337186,0.07481350186605677,0.05826558048999781,0.06185506138590095,0.0,0.045747310463449015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612637872803557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16053355454450596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285803087986112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714925806432913,0.0,0.0,0.07191542827416675,0.0,0.09288150082815452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282983528923576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563710564628257,0.0697242243877739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780991035851415,0.0704648796875894,0.06766954999750106,0.1471608078607816,0.0,0.11705617587618472,0.06519200307898898,0.054501384618636316,0.0,0.06936057217630424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828361756699968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304865745104902,0.0547317396725044,0.05729791018852805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777213763778262,0.0,0.0,0.05152941425171622,0.1101708689971231,0.2995108658530846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659382811607015,0.13174241955351962,0.0,0.0,0.07992603536612616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326521315181583,0.07454585506409997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838360564269175,0.0,0.0,0.12127027006858099,0.0,0.05497424140310031,0.0,0.0,0.06353216747107547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984250985520636,0.0,0.07493171626121288,0.0,0.1765358822356449
parenting,HoldMyBagBiyotch,2019/01/14,"10-year old boy in 5th grade -Questiin about maturity and social skills? My son turned 10 in August and our district’s school year begins in September.

When my son turned 5, we felt he would be bored in Kindergarten for another year, so we decided to put him into Kindergarten immediately 1 month after having turned 5. 

What has become clear to us over the years is that most parents held their kids back a tear to give them a maturity advantage.

My question is- what are my options at this point? My son is in 5th grade, he’s really struggling socially and maturity wise. Academically, the school district is telling me he’s above average and should, under no circumstances, be held back.

How can I help my son be more self and socially aware, more willing to be accountable for his actions, and know how to make/keep friends? ",7.44921568627451,7.899691699346409,7.158954248366015,74.0152941176471,63.37908496732026,10.72156862745098,35.30065359477124,10.504223727775694,3.694720261437909,662,28,119,15,9,209,102,153,0.047,0.865,0.08900000000000001,0.7682,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,2,2,7,5,0,1,4,0,15,0,0,2,1,22,24,10,0,2,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,4,9,0,2,4,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,3,1,16,3,18,14,3,23,0,0,0,0,27,10,0,3,11,73,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643018610539116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147571044551895,0.0,0.0,0.15422717100924913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408130778846666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788954838934224,0.0,0.0,0.13396041693037827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360124548178887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412308534090195,0.0,0.0,0.07674535932491683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932142668314077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114634800610378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653416457780855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505948778257933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320098675594702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038201353501156,0.1564346025523819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946030194649646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826568301796378,0.0,0.0,0.14568041701032194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4270521389384119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598750122520066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205607492856545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556816884790855,0.0,0.0,0.1679760022070286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919995566858793,0.0,0.0,0.3597077656658974
parenting,gaurav2204,2019/01/14,2Yo has sore throat and won’t eat.. My 2Yo has a sore throat from a cold. Doctors ruled out flu and strep and just said give it time. She won’t eat anything because swallowing hurts her throat. And ideas on what and how to get her to eat? Thanks!,0.4594117647058837,2.7389579803921578,0.6818627450980408,105.3133823529412,86.84313725490196,4.184313725490196,16.34313725490196,5.46131890053228,-1.0706627450980395,191,4,47,1,6,56,35,51,0.197,0.7509999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.7959,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,11,3,1,0,9,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,6,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,4,1,5,5,0,3,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,24,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827345455532155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687505729669714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466127522129989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7396266699554976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588143665082416,0.2311320269834964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579317267290622,0.2719924319833224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229189535431774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218255878989284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049430949583644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Verdant_Messiah,2019/01/14,"Question/help with Equifax credit freeze for minor. Has anyone else done credit freezes for their child(ren)? I had no issue doing it with Transunion and Experian, but I've tried it 3 times now with Equifax--the first times they had me send a letter, the third time they had an actual form so I thought they would get it right but they keep treating it like a dispute or I get a generic mailer back and it doesn't get frozen. I've tried calling them but their call centers aren't in the US and it's clear they're just reading from a script and hasn't been much help. Was wondering if anyone else had these issues? Thanks.",3.1540798226164064,5.2637977560975635,2.9692830746489283,93.69033259423506,75.5040650406504,5.4483370288248345,23.376940133037692,6.11248444174946,0.3365512195121956,496,15,102,3,11,148,80,123,0.075,0.7959999999999999,0.129,0.7559999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,7,1,4,5,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,1,18,20,10,0,2,6,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,1,2,1,2,1,4,0,0,2,8,2,12,5,7,11,2,10,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,3,7,64,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.15604998178377807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236268542762128,0.3276952515887677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229616199058592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32657383864025064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364438191305458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671700937678649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602013927058418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506405528730083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21436982583359887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338108900083403,0.0,0.14213616522674904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812439373953957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755291922599315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913681773618564,0.0,0.15995418523942131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136563044320395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722448221016418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695140117211748,0.2797360146534159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217138023585222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235313671307333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341656171898145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359612316009915,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kitchenmama17,2019/01/14,"Allergy parents: I had to use my son’s epipen for the first time today. My 13 month old has a severe egg allergy and last night to celebrate me hitting some major fitness goals, my husband bought Ben and Jerry’s pints for us after we put the toddler to bed. We ate them, it was great, we had fun, and we threw them away and scrubbed the area we ate in just in case any got anywhere. We each thought the other had taken the trash out before we went to bed.

This morning DS is playing independently while I try to put together our gym bag for our mommy & me HIIT class when I heard a cough and turned around to find him covered in hives, chocolate, and holding a container of the ice cream we thought we’d thrown away outside. Called 911 as I was pulling out the epipen and administered it while I was giving the operator my address to send the ambulance to, and once he had the epi scrubbed him off so he wouldn’t have any residue left on him from the ice cream for a secondary reaction. I couldn’t get my husband on the phone but my parents took over trying to contact him and after we’d been in the ER for about two hours he was able to join us. We spent most of the day in the hospital being observed after they gave him additional epi and Benadryl and steroids, and have five days of medicine to give him.

Obviously his first anaphylactic reaction when we learned he had allergies was traumatic but this was next level horrible. Because we caused this. We are always so careful and keep the house egg free and call ahead to restaurants and call companies to see if there’s cross contamination in any prepackaged food we may think about buying. But we weren’t perfect and allergy world requires perfect. I have no idea how to move past this guilt. Definitely going to find a therapist but I just want to bury myself in my bed and never move again. I can’t believe I let this happen. I can’t believe I caused this. 

Tell me this gets better. Tell me I won’t have to use his epipen again. Tell me anything that might help this be less horrible to live with. I could’ve killed my son today with a stupid container I didn’t throw away. Help.",5.644828150572836,6.025099713947991,5.707245862884163,83.12173076923078,67.22695035460993,8.871758501545736,31.162847790507364,8.730908602173464,2.2535132569558103,1701,63,345,25,26,536,225,423,0.07400000000000001,0.8190000000000001,0.107,0.8629,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,20,0,3,8,13,11,2,1,22,0,33,6,0,6,4,74,61,30,1,4,7,6,0,0,0,4,1,1,4,0,12,38,5,5,7,2,4,12,9,3,1,4,27,4,60,9,53,23,5,59,0,0,3,0,56,22,0,5,25,222,72,4,0.09127402936753498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759473042438329,0.09889537268583748,0.0,0.18620840966927008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511074911816253,0.0812532373550727,0.0,0.0,0.257264865444345,0.0,0.0,0.055639801127537636,0.0,0.07766747634185522,0.20566915025006494,0.0,0.08072446167026368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27960296709755306,0.0,0.09305995603537852,0.18752714149797536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287488541461139,0.0,0.0,0.1177283960600162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684561854692812,0.15527528550533148,0.1103689186133398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537382629580206,0.1751167318980252,0.05187313430040233,0.0,0.07300017932648227,0.10062993960333727,0.0,0.0,0.08071332273260014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235811582218685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988653317391974,0.1053179752043732,0.0,0.1030372692429083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112855109018903,0.10098119012265913,0.0,0.0,0.07440051611696083,0.0,0.0,0.09916949997203234,0.09333387903299316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059664014927015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682732124369783,0.0,0.0,0.07285405943613213,0.19401969685531836,0.0,0.0,0.07039615831366848,0.0,0.09707096571366028,0.08565449348911322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957767398768604,0.09720386241435816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20269801611903945,0.0,0.08713138890300945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835112191408894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273358411750626,0.0,0.0,0.10311367306576638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23933257419875795,0.0,0.0,0.10597618304090703,0.0,0.058484712534942036,0.0,0.14492276781961388,0.053222620530510266,0.0,0.17303421489659246,0.0,0.10140880503441256,0.12393814911182875,0.0992799339545498,0.08916146405689647,0.0,0.2195828381086486,0.15766291149791922,0.0,0.0,0.053835787349529235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461193965907493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConsigliereSalt,2019/01/14,"Does this video show good or bad parenting? From your perspective, does this video showcase good or bad parenting? 

On one hand the father is nagging and telling the kid what to do. 

On the other hand the father is encouraging and directing the son in the steps he should go. 

Which way do you see it? 

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[Kid beating Mario Bros Level 1-1](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJI-_4cBmnI&lc=z23oexkyctalfxcqg04t1aokgvol5ceuvdoy5ak1hsq0rk0h00410.1547502984929519)",9.455571428571428,13.912953914285724,4.342500000000001,79.51375000000003,67.0,8.071428571428571,28.75,8.841846274778883,2.8708571428571434,394,14,54,8,8,98,50,70,0.151,0.653,0.197,0.594,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,0,1,0,6,1,0,6,0,5,2,2,0,0,5,7,4,0,1,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,3,2,3,5,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,2,0,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418059288917877,0.2477354723940069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34046113393800065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568320209816916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586921441168553,0.3420083015262301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13815378259550834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527673179435798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246527931465932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819935585501107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182977259093875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477354723940069,0.0
parenting,foreverpregg,2019/01/14,"Parenting advice from a parent who is a social person (f, 28), to a kid (f,5) who is not My daughter is not a social butterfly. She isn't sassy or outgoing. She can sometimes be silly (what 5 year old isn't). She  likes hanging out one on one with friends, but in groups she often shies away and does her own thing. It is hard for me to witness, because I am the exact opposite. How can I bridge the gap between personalities. I do not want to force her to be more than what she is comfortable with. 

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My familial relatives have noticing her quiet observant nature and viewed as a negative, but I don't. I admire people who can keep their mouths shut naturally (I can't and it gets me into trouble). I just want to help her with her friendships, if she asks for it. Mostly, she just wants to have one on one play dates right now, but I can see some problems in the future if she doesn't try to be more outgoing. 

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parenting,toseeincolor,2019/01/14,"Trying so hard not to be angry... My husband and I live with my mom and little brother who is six. Our baby is only five months and was born back in August. I was very clear approaching November that everyone frequently around the baby needed to have a flu shot. I have over and over and over again reminded my mom. I know she doesn’t believe they work and that she never let us get them as children, but this is my baby and it is my responsibility to keep her safe. She promised she and my brother would get them. Here we are though, all the way in the middle of January and no flu shots. 

My brother started coughing really badly yesterday and she finely caved and took him to the doctor today. She calls me and I ask how it went. Her response is “you know what he has.” Yes. He has the flu. I manage to stay calm despite her telling me the pediatrician said it’s “mild” and that she wasn’t concerned about the five month old at home getting it. 

A few hours later and my slightly sore throat I woke up with is hurting much worse, general muscle fatigue, and my head feels like I’m underwater. She is using this as further proof that my brother getting the shot wouldn’t have mattered anyway. My husband is furious. I’m incredibly worried about the baby but there is simply no room for my anger here if I want to keep the peace. 

I guess I’ll just keep taking the baby’s temperature and hope I start feeling better. I just needed somewhere to say this since I have no one here to say it to. ",2.851942501942503,4.7919106161616165,4.121565656565662,85.85875874125875,75.83501683501683,6.589432789432789,24.554390054390048,7.468242284971852,1.1499889665889662,1171,39,233,15,26,384,166,297,0.14800000000000002,0.748,0.104,-0.9417,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,1,3,2,15,12,2,0,13,1,24,9,2,2,4,49,51,24,0,7,6,8,3,1,0,2,7,3,2,1,14,20,0,4,4,0,0,3,8,5,0,4,7,6,45,7,25,40,3,32,0,2,0,0,37,12,0,3,16,164,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928280331839448,0.11476442419973013,0.0,0.0,0.0943951878482918,0.10249982561812886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383089586770537,0.0,0.10857161825003823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253521174671645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565049489141375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730284509552345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241427169582413,0.08770007082207222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25654901737047303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523444622452796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996922653169504,0.0,0.12598761052768187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231387136855515,0.12192879939986402,0.1208942885917462,0.0,0.1314175719660748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273453137707603,0.0,0.0,0.13493183619397825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553084993688116,0.0,0.05997454187919615,0.12303819430963794,0.10839970271050656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875510477954713,0.19597239710002504,0.0,0.09024303600544828,0.1820505965377648,0.09468040626793447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881641356270854,0.0,0.08318563978643871,0.09336483359680184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864347052571165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167732742630561,0.19524803145186706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154869059512316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17378091869013246,0.13084627727643172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230056048039456,0.0,0.1072980207116841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061149244931355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636252714007445,0.0,0.13639134705365988,0.08334626910830556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766567394883115,0.1060255905407126,0.0,0.10129020560456152,0.07240727818264849,0.09744150986358006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380014213763848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893710501177082,0.12466916863449065,0.1251033588991034,0.08720548243219993,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BoneFrostUnion,2019/01/14,"Co-Parenting with kids' Mom during a deployment. I am married to my husband, T, and have been for a little over a year. He and his ex-gf, R, have three great kids together and 50/50 custody. I am 24 weeks pregnant with twins, and doing my prerequisites for nursing school. Next year T anticipates a 9 month deployment. No big deal. The three of us have a good set up and understanding of our respective roles (especially me as a step-mom). I get that I am an authority figure and am in no way trying to replace R in the kids' lives. However, we have a bit of an issue. 

T expects me to maintain the exact same schedule with the kids. Week on week off. R expects to keep the kids with her for 9 months straight and for the schedule to resume upon T's return. 

I know we could come to a compromise, but I don't want to make a suggestion and cause a fight. 

Tl;dr: husband is deploying. Baby momma doesn't want to share the kids while he's gone, husband doesn't want to adjust the schedule at all.",3.427956448911221,4.720181276381908,5.001085427135678,82.83667001675045,72.91959798994975,8.120737018425464,27.839530988274714,8.648137234880735,2.0147444556113907,770,29,157,14,15,260,115,199,0.07200000000000001,0.877,0.05,-0.4462,2,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,20,0,15,0,0,2,2,32,25,11,0,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,15,0,1,4,0,0,2,5,1,0,2,2,0,16,4,29,22,3,28,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,0,13,97,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275650033615565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196502471711436,0.0,0.14419953298969873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336545885728848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17258115857487458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874591393294418,0.0,0.0,0.14040645294049994,0.0,0.1845581382293555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747212061512438,0.0,0.14879204345615918,0.0,0.0,0.09199818718950803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777791143795748,0.1478165038369686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174022304569993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39211168939547175,0.2672327862857514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803088006270254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694168624787234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365302486434553,0.0,0.0,0.17426840405222166,0.20136054909798515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962090424332649,0.13287364223770928,0.402832468220742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21559911016343905
parenting,alltime_pf_guru,2019/01/14,"Does anyone else miss their children's childhood when their child is still... a child? I know that's a weird post... but I am so scared for my kids to grow up I already miss their childhood when they are still children.  it's like I'm too bust worrying I don't stop to appreciate who they are.

Any advice?",1.0788940092165902,3.429737580645164,1.9481566820276512,96.8708064516129,84.48387096774192,4.833179723502305,20.147465437788018,6.18269132825596,-0.10085990783410148,238,7,53,2,7,74,44,62,0.248,0.6659999999999999,0.086,-0.8565,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,5,0,6,5,0,1,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,4,9,0,10,0,2,0,0,11,1,0,0,8,31,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777360517798768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136433375512725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327903818345651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19873291561366654,0.2912165132929522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487224407983508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374289611644028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619962998317127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885531412280186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722037603738324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28455334892993384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45395619456298,0.2376202677023861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886387462040048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,721718sjzzjhj,2019/01/14,"I've intercepted a package sent to my 17yo son containing ""adult erotica products"", not sure what to do about it, if anything. My son frequently gets little white packages from China, usually cheap junk like knives, small electronics, etc. I usually pick up the mail and the other day noticed this one package that said ""adult erotica products"" on the customs label. Since this was a soft padded envelope, I could easily tell that it contained a ""dildo"", not sure if that's what you call it, but basically an erect cock. Now we've known for some time that my son is probably gay, which we have no problem with. I'm just wondering what he's going to do with this thing. Is he going to put it in his butt? I suppose that's what it's for but hoping somebody has another explanation. Also, it (hilariously) being from Guandong, China, is it even safe to handle, much less insert into one's butt? Sorry if I come across as unnecessarily prudish, homophobic, xenophobic, or claustrophobic. Just haven't been confronted by such a parental issue so far. For the moment, I've hidden the package away until I decide what to do. Since it comes from China, it is expected to take a long time to get here, so the kid won't miss it if it's delayed a few days, and he probably won't miss it if it never ""arrives."" Any advice welcome, including the obvious ""calm the hell down"".",6.721976744186044,6.8872239883720985,7.53737984496124,71.65839534883723,64.93023255813954,10.755968992248066,33.86666666666667,10.504223727775694,3.6040182945736436,1071,43,192,25,15,359,157,258,0.08199999999999999,0.828,0.09,0.2773,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,1,1,0,0,10,12,2,0,15,0,16,5,3,1,4,38,30,15,0,9,12,4,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,29,8,0,5,3,0,1,6,7,5,0,2,4,3,11,7,27,22,5,29,1,2,1,5,19,10,4,9,14,128,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977197625001012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438489843427567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972685863483577,0.1499844861813953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770547419312688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438592716256664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460545492907112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24642367434101375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420166947080053,0.0,0.0,0.184491259199672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952164020278992,0.09447315338049186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945958576581062,0.0,0.16257997536696595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206585578077274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149291196415175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987959086831866,0.14335847194718804,0.0,0.1265813196999705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514705468660092,0.0,0.11031727539622073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284609708653172,0.0,0.0,0.19384819932779052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882324690813365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084314684187054,0.13686501091860068,0.0,0.14378950631124815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360588738850688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366397717983135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011577693615398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26961726094698696,0.0,0.1075443880218085,0.0,0.12501874217589876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950259825099772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680951424114393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31506530539854005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551151670131907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gabberchella,2019/01/14,"At my complete end My daughter is a happy, spunky two year old who is essentially non-verbal. We have multiple people who come through-out the week to spend time with her (speech therapist, parent infant programs) and are now moving towards a behavioral therapist because my daughter refuses to interact with said people, and instead throws the biggest tantrums. It’s started to cause a slight rift between my husband and I as he gets frustrated with her extremely easily and cannot understand that she is still 2 years old. 

At two years old tantrums are expected of course, i assume they are for lots of things but mostly because of her lack of communication that she begins to get overly frustrated. Her speech therapist recommended the behavioral therapy because they suggest she won’t do well in daycare, even going as far as to say that daycares won’t accept her because of her behavior and she would be a problem child. All of our options feel exhausted and I’m stuck in a ‘make too much but definitely not enough’ financial situation that I cannot afford to put her in head start or any other daycares. 

It feels like the world is against me and everyone is telling me that my daughter cannot be a functioning member of society because of X, Y and Z. 

How do you get through the hurdles of parenting when it feels like everyone is against you? ",14.75057228915663,8.987707445783137,13.135095381526105,56.32746234939762,54.863453815261046,16.947991967871484,54.01656626506024,13.816669648895859,7.083919277108432,1090,57,182,28,8,350,146,249,0.087,0.825,0.087,-0.0138,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,2,0,8,11,4,0,11,0,20,2,1,3,1,35,36,16,0,4,4,6,3,2,0,3,1,4,0,2,12,13,0,1,6,0,1,5,6,6,1,2,2,7,27,5,33,29,6,30,0,0,0,0,34,10,0,5,17,131,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537366303711164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378291798760009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386119132873228,0.0,0.09547715090474383,0.11621156850878485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816959850507677,0.11452531665742573,0.0,0.07320747526289907,0.0,0.0,0.21182098021726514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681291189368562,0.15836542542107396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372489225091994,0.0,0.06299180824939841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798914683871822,0.0,0.0,0.1137517983279633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082997282682068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423053179975556,0.0,0.0,0.07398524750164183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780328782660268,0.08147870722525846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489176110780475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24614503704290286,0.0,0.0,0.1536822721348669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060570282948642,0.0,0.11142283653801292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543235075601773,0.08814285231945365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458659269131428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569034600568502,0.0,0.0885153960930882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968773259677258,0.0,0.1267529500278584,0.3860744964314324,0.07363586389367134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463054820580594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165453051123649,0.11538630095848827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890758418843098,0.0,0.0996567025138966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873615833471806,0.0,0.0,0.2141281772820341
parenting,Kimmy02101989,2019/01/14,"Kissing children on the lips. Is it ok? My partner (44m) has 2 children from a previous relationship. His daughter is older and living with her boyfriend and in general has a good relationship with her father and even myself. 

His son however is 13 and comes to stay with us on weekends and part of school holidays. About a year ago his son started what I believe to be learning about his sexuality. I wasn’t there at the time but was told he was caught in an awkward moment with a male cousin of a similar age. I have also been told he has been trying to look at porn.

In the last few months, my partners son has wanted to kiss his dad on the lips and my partner goes along with this. I find it really weird as they are almost the same height and to me it feels like seeing 2 men kissing. ( I’m not against 2 men kissing but when its father and son something inside me doesn’t feel right)

It makes me not want to kiss my partner on the lips. I feel like this is a place for a partner only. ( with very small children I know is different) 

We have a baby daughter together who I don’t want either of us to kiss on the lips. I feel that I would want to teach her that kissing on the lips will be special to do one day with her husband but mummy loves her so much that she wants to kiss her all over her cheeks and forehead.

Am I wrong? Or over thinking it? Is kissing kids or teenagers on the lips ok?",2.9972917326575867,4.2828102195122,4.0524311054798865,89.24403785239151,73.98257839721255,6.751282863477986,26.285872663921445,7.1686216300943375,1.0875937282229966,1091,38,235,11,22,354,149,287,0.04,0.763,0.197,0.9949,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,1,0,7,19,0,1,18,2,26,19,8,1,1,46,47,18,0,6,8,11,4,2,5,2,0,0,0,12,13,19,0,0,8,2,0,2,5,3,0,1,8,6,35,16,41,35,6,33,0,0,2,11,48,18,0,3,14,161,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954557003411792,0.0,0.13504316763207874,0.0,0.0,0.10784777927614644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194144133432572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617025674948282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697377395485965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090037016350448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907399431888416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727577956802853,0.1926885328801025,0.0,0.0,0.12325992367603203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311446957700813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411572565256237,0.10992919104381033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317719173603001,0.0,0.11908416654704612,0.0,0.11324873496350832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171673806452026,0.0,0.09002033592848571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764425082053893,0.0,0.09913788009256487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138486854623737,0.10256737902106043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604062527163025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090037016350448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639499839711133,0.0,0.0,0.28957910803782233,0.0,0.11517000855489867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136485881776407,0.10746624460487683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038220919875474,0.0,0.0,0.09545485525574512,0.14374319749621714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641307174924738,0.0,0.0,0.07863815905461058,0.0,0.0,0.2577297020657556,0.0,0.09156133036706557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32444081063148594,0.0,0.0,0.11127391876720566,0.3977206652193648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580092873045362,0.14744863033908304,0.0,0.08684564874574173
parenting,JustEnuff2BDangerous,2019/01/14,"Pediatric Blood Pressure Monitor for Home Does anyone have a recommendation for an automatic blood pressure machine that I can also get a compatible child sized cuff for? (Child is 6 years old)

I can purchase a manual one if I have to, but I'm lazy and prefer to just push a button, LOL. ",4.9700909090909065,6.422048872727274,6.72159090909091,71.36238636363636,69.36363636363636,9.863636363636363,30.113636363636363,10.125756701596842,3.219636363636363,228,9,41,6,4,79,41,55,0.121,0.789,0.09,0.0899,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,5,1,5,3,2,0,0,5,7,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35244629882583833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30816400932879523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856799681612117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302597569620182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4420814482388887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624650116953735,0.0,0.29864554378386626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838113837392236
parenting,IndianCasinoEmpire,2019/01/14,"My daughter threw out her silver medal from hockey, was proud but am concerned My daughter was in a tournament recently and her team came in with a Silver with a heartbreaking shootout, she's a 2nd-year novice (8yr old) and pretty good. I was proud of her because to me she showed me her competitive side and a hunger for success. I had a long talk about hard work, effort, and the fact that sometimes things just don't go your way. I am very much the same way; I strive for success, overwork, and get pretty down when I ""lose"" (maybe a meeting doesnt go my way for example) but I somehow figured out how to move forward to another thing.   


I suppose I am just not sure how to teach her at this age how to have a healthy competitive side, not to explode and handle emotions properly. I do not want to reprimand her and teach her that fighting for the top is a bad thing, I want to teach her how to be a gracious loser when the time comes, how to take the hits.  I grew up not knowing how to deal with this and long story short it was a very uncomfortable figure it out for myself at 22. Is there any tips on instilling healthy competition in young people?  
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parenting,drew1111,2019/01/14,"I spent some time with my brother in law, his friend and his kids... It was me, my brother in law and his friend who brought along his two boys, 4 and 6. We were on the ranch teaching the boys how to shoot a .410. (It's a Texan thing). Any way, the friends starts getting frustrated with his boys and starts cussing at them and calling them, ""asshole"" and ""stop being a shithead"". I intervened and told the friend that maybe he should not use that language around his kids. He bluntly told me that he was their father and they cannot be pussies. Mind my own kid. I lost any respect for this guy. I also felt sorry for the kids. Should have I not said anything?",2.789278278972933,4.516022167938932,2.656072172102707,97.2312421929216,75.41221374045801,5.374323386537127,24.88619014573213,5.565023196281405,0.27406259541984745,508,17,113,2,11,151,82,131,0.084,0.8009999999999999,0.115,0.7351,0,0,0,1,0,0,25.0,1,0,4,1,3,7,1,0,8,0,9,0,0,2,0,25,20,10,0,2,2,3,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,8,8,13,0,1,1,0,1,1,3,2,0,1,10,2,21,5,11,6,2,11,0,1,0,0,34,5,0,1,4,72,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232191490748106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420503345972061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645349789670412,0.158430330755469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817264640746868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087835326309295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499942883061708,0.0,0.09298156810311532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621750061725952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427441863831274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879399460622422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969817126719856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928947559108853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992219627973552,0.2519350491664477,0.0,0.0,0.1487902305521801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823483678272145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377527897717832,0.0,0.0,0.340114418421278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17385006063754185,0.0,0.0,0.153708258461939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126367706748616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BestNamesAreTaken2,2019/01/14,"Kid puked in my mouth; I think I’m going insane... Last night I had picked up my three year old daughter to take her to bed. While waiting for my wife to leave the bathroom, her and I were watching the snow and I turned to her and asked for a kiss. A common game we play is that we kiss and then open our mouths and megaphone a single note towards each other at close range...

Well, she got super close, and without any notice, vomited into my mouth. As kids vomit in two ways (like a play-doh ice cream machine, or exorcist projectile pea soup), I got the slow roll, which she continued for a good minute. I was able to let it go mostly on our shirts and her blankie as I walked her to the kitchen sink (garbage  disposal), and could spit it out of my own mouth.

So here’s my question- am I crazy now? I can change the nastiest diaper mid-meal and go right back to eating. Had I even smelled vomit before, I probably would have followed suit; yet here I am, a parent who didn’t bat an eye and only wanted to comfort my baby girl. Am I the only one? Is this insane?!",4.096451612903223,4.482034935483874,4.7563824884792645,88.56885944700463,70.61290322580646,7.6746543778801835,25.638248847926267,7.447530270364453,1.047521658986175,819,22,179,8,14,263,145,217,0.046,0.858,0.095,0.8868,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,4,0,0,1,8,8,0,0,13,0,15,14,7,1,0,28,28,16,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,1,3,1,2,3,7,18,2,1,2,2,0,5,2,0,1,3,7,5,31,8,23,18,4,30,0,0,3,2,21,12,0,3,13,117,38,0,0.17326767573213556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782796109962468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619818873926167,0.0,0.0,0.1332321474626704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743803028071925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329422645067986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834014015301746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772960885966418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144416656947068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954160392211804,0.1453287057749204,0.2771559771727929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412362814503107,0.0,0.18346545072296144,0.0,0.17717793768030046,0.0,0.08464983427436193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625999762003582,0.0,0.0,0.19726639723145867,0.18181527892059487,0.0,0.11741066127878835,0.2635557502695704,0.0,0.0,0.19239324905356384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868118599595179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940994509904284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796964835674778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027572872226234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102293036704547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846547613097167,0.16925734241231755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021977643574952,0.13753181604971704,0.0,0.0,0.15578844909451614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702385633435127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308438554763072,0.0,0.0,0.11157870236760042
parenting,tfox133,2019/01/14,"My toddler is getting the best of me My daughter will be 2 in March. And I’m currently 6 months pregnant. She used to be an excellent sleeper. Until a few months ago. Now getting her to go to sleep (nap&bedtime) is a big fight. And she has multiple wake ups during the night. 
We’ve also started turning the electronics off more during the day, and taking the pacifier away except for sleep. 
I’m just at my breaking point. My child has become a literal terror. Especially when she’s home with me. 
Sorry for the rambling/rant. I just don’t know how much more I can take. And now that there’s gonna be a baby in the mix I’m even more terrified ",1.3085641025641015,3.7619276000000044,3.129999999999999,88.05833333333334,84.53846153846153,6.235897435897436,23.28205128205128,7.554174236665415,1.2687589743589751,508,19,101,9,15,169,89,130,0.092,0.846,0.062,-0.4005,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,9,4,1,1,12,0,10,3,3,2,0,11,23,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,12,2,15,18,6,22,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,12,69,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802258451150184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259035912643366,0.0,0.2202909413190963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102046212381046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22454465262615655,0.0,0.0,0.2133657971265744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131120893140445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428716680433786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124466433697458,0.0,0.11554819274010365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039408036678333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117362131297186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32456704285015103,0.0,0.14945939207529502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079668225598706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219771497065527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4069222294555064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275936948863548,0.14390689637339646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057340769602633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22114755737279804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559826229341782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thesandboxgod,2019/01/14,"Play by yourself It's first thing in the morning here so perhaps pre coffee mummy is a bit grumpier than fair. Tell me Reddit...

I have a single child, 4 yo, who's usually stuck to me like glue. As he doesn't have anyone else here to play with, I'm usually one the floor with the cars and action figures for hours each day. For this week and the next two weeks I'm super stressed and in the past week he's been going from Xbox -> cartoons -> iPad -> movies <repeat> all the time. 

This morning he woke me up whining and whining and whining for video games. I told him to go play with some toys and as always I get ""I don't know how to play by myself"". I told him the TV isn't going back on until he figures out how to play toys by himself. He's devastated and this could literally take WEEKS if I stick to my guns.

Character building and will it even work? As I said, super stressed already maybe better having TV problem for two more weeks and then dealing with it?",3.3569514237855955,4.631540306532664,3.9930452261306537,90.06380569514238,73.07035175879399,6.311691792294807,25.32696817420436,6.42735559955562,0.7315786264656619,767,24,162,5,15,243,118,199,0.091,0.7759999999999999,0.133,0.8645,0,0,0,1,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,5,7,15,0,2,9,0,10,0,0,2,1,25,23,18,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,15,0,0,3,12,0,5,3,6,0,4,6,1,15,9,28,15,6,27,0,3,0,0,16,6,0,2,17,97,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706349541391792,0.0,0.11088885525084086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318341480525548,0.13654783392334638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247412968266773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178638693562688,0.14549309466754742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640288948529272,0.0,0.0,0.08594621757541103,0.13739246919362094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132751364637036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802162477179695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335687836367052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962652936883418,0.0,0.227216194364601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124119236835274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324008138362123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510754544039556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338846566086721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173101169625096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030519704999417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721847165042866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751856166952727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267674753667931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053138940924259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020023075383956,0.0,0.11648126922289564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853670145186175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777090842504449,0.0,0.0,0.2546847404929887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603650723405654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29354963921558386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.534493915184032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701999422213088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FuzzyGruzzy,2019/01/14,"Toddler holding poo, and I'm out of ideas I have googled for hours and can't find a specific answer to this. Every question or article is about how to get your child to poop on the potty, which isn't the issue here. My 2 year old took to potty training really well. One day, and she was pulling her own undies off at every urge, running to the potty, and peeing, without reward. Her second day, though, she tried pooping. She was constipated (Please no comments about diet. I try to keep her on a healthy diet, but she's not in my care all the time), and it was obviously uncomfortable for her. On top of that, though, when she stood up, the second turd fell in to her undies and down her leg. This majorly freaked her out, and since then, she hasn't pooped again. It's now on four days.

I put a diaper on her in the hopes she'd poop in it. The big problem now, though, is she doesn't want to go potty in a diaper, anymore. So, every time she gets the urge to poop, she rips her diaper off, goes to the toilet, does nothing or farts, and then says she's all done. She still has no problem peeing. At this point, I don't care where she does it. I just need her to poop before I have to take her in. I've been filling her with prune juice and raspberries, with no luck. I am at a loss. ",3.438092243186585,4.04478918867925,4.445251572327045,89.41420859538782,72.20754716981132,7.549266247379456,23.77882599580712,7.594959193182576,0.8126687631027254,985,24,223,11,18,321,139,265,0.126,0.825,0.05,-0.9621,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,1,0,3,16,10,0,0,14,0,17,11,9,1,3,35,30,20,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,13,2,2,4,0,0,7,10,4,1,4,7,1,35,6,41,22,4,46,0,1,0,0,30,24,0,5,15,154,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126339141735166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262675584944315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698952364983237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560795318217224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316544397180007,0.13544800308486218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345515146290017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097264923301958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830299572712906,0.0,0.07522199905507107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146117958473374,0.1303457908349248,0.0,0.0,0.14941586765785692,0.0,0.13814717600153484,0.0,0.11764571151811334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814164611952086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270008975981707,0.0,0.13888726666857878,0.0,0.08968908399542717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528913959275924,0.12512092133217453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25329711605020033,0.0,0.13305616615404575,0.14827104944082198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479180843930155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525625058475016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948775610542867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570112569100776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951660819107733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901226571631358,0.0,0.15435781798222273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705440763033484,0.17972454260017465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806807126177233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190055753384952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758821487634486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523409628863439
parenting,wesleeptheylive,2019/01/14,"Parent of sensitive child.. when to seek help of psychologist? Hi all, father of a very smart, otherwise normal 10 year old boy. Does very well in school, no behavior issues per say, has a younger sibling he gets along with so well and has some friends in school. My only concern is he is overly sensitive and fearful.  Gets sad super quick,  is very altruistic. and seems to have low self esteem often.

I realize some kids are just wired this way, so don't want to put him through the stigma of seeing a psychologist unless pros outweigh the cons. 

He doesn't self harm or isn't violent at all. I can't say he's been through any trauma per say, we're a pretty cookie cutter middle class family. 

Anyone in a similar situation decided for / against therapy? 

Thanks in advance.",3.4953131115459897,5.968833267123292,4.722348336594916,79.7801369863014,75.91780821917807,8.007045009784736,26.18199608610568,8.841846274778883,2.3260544031311157,611,23,109,14,14,201,104,146,0.092,0.723,0.185,0.9436,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,8,12,1,1,7,0,12,0,0,0,2,18,18,8,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,1,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,6,2,0,1,4,4,6,20,17,4,15,0,2,1,0,18,8,0,5,4,61,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395158455816103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688485247062963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377080142348827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410494249748287,0.17201255048093372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810100957411453,0.0,0.159728452432934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246035648329573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595484936150007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977256755234045,0.0,0.0,0.16040323675549076,0.0,0.0,0.11625864355223953,0.0,0.0,0.16973545931513687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15551588220302015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366880084345252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646866344377538,0.0,0.3094095536183732,0.12181143697598786,0.13916006828117258,0.3189373684651849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718235946498669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073503928702433,0.1748113262895257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783821420247402,0.09016212657945262,0.12133495370798833,0.0,0.0,0.2748830750884468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843828922957104
parenting,aherrmann26,2019/01/14,"Beginning to discipline?? My nearly 2 year old is beginning to hit (he is smiling when he does so, so nothing seemingly out of anger) and seems to be testing our reactions/boundaries. He's beginning to throw toys as well. We tell him no and that we don't hit or throw. I usually let him know that it hurts people. We've begun to use ""time out"" as well but he smiles and thinks it's a game. I am looking for advice on how to handle this!? TIA!",0.7695604395604398,2.9811343626373628,2.871087912087912,90.68641208791209,84.49450549450547,6.716923076923077,22.286813186813184,7.908726449838941,1.1861903296703302,341,12,74,7,10,115,65,91,0.039,0.7929999999999999,0.168,0.9228,0,0,0,1,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,0,16,17,11,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,1,4,2,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,1,8,2,14,13,0,15,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,3,9,46,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312338133758144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070780443855577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533191890262066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004662469071954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419720028915928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987110778829562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227054551959844,0.0,0.24830522226809645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405066495444848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.430841326949934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20682658478744045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516240745294258,0.0,0.0,0.13798187991687688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437386119666992,0.2606164482478464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4255207341084917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152383092643566
parenting,IT_Chef,2019/01/14,"Gymboree is filing for bankruptcy as early as this week, and could shut down all 900 stores. Got a giftcard from them? Use it ASAP. News story here - https://www.cnbc.com/2019/01/14/gymboree-reportedly-close-to-bankruptcy-to-liquidate-all-stores.html

If they do go into liquidation, gift cards may or may not be usable. Better to be safe than sorry, use those gift cards now!",9.640476190476193,14.336280296296305,6.4296825396825446,62.70500000000001,70.1111111111111,5.307936507936508,16.973544973544975,6.868970318607317,0.20797671957671948,312,5,41,3,7,87,48,54,0.061,0.7909999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.742,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,1,13,11,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,8,5,1,7,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,4,3,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281794517775709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962675680812916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21088647015358586,0.0,0.2967769414045455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153801959650843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6409671466425253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976483311154991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BG1234567,2019/01/14,"Advice on breaking a promise to my child in favor of doing the best thing for him. When my son came to live with us we promised him that we would not change school districts. When he was with his mother he switched schools 6 times in 5 years. We promised him stability. We bought a house in a district that was one of the better schools in the county. As we approach the halfway point of 8th grade we are very worried about sending him to this school because of a serious drug problem there. The drug problem started about the time he moved in with us halfway through 5th grade. We were unaware of it at the time. It's pills and heroin and it's really bad. The parents that can afford it have moved their children to private schools. We have already seen two of my son's friends sent to private school in the 7th grade and his best friend's mother teaches in another school in our county and is moving him there. It's just an all around bad situation. 

We are very much conflicted between keeping our promise to him or forcing our hand. He has made a lot of friends and doesn't want to move. He doesn't see the potential danger the situation at this high school presents. Of course he thinks that nothing like that will happen to him or his friends. His guidance counselor who he adores agrees with us and thinks he would be better off in pretty much any other school in the county. Any advice on how to go about rippng this band aid off? ",4.165118084762213,5.8625023558718885,3.9209010029116804,89.70128680038825,71.70462633451956,6.247880944678098,28.786962148172112,6.574015621080383,1.2469345195729535,1146,45,227,8,22,346,144,281,0.09,0.762,0.14800000000000002,0.9589,2,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,15,0,1,4,10,21,1,0,18,0,17,4,1,2,1,38,30,12,0,5,4,5,1,1,4,3,3,0,0,2,16,21,0,2,2,1,1,9,3,6,0,2,8,3,30,15,45,18,6,37,0,0,2,0,50,19,0,3,9,149,46,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427389321108852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059651381025047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933331784953567,0.07658411208423704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501709831605297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196321904693384,0.044521775844896895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329254717494184,0.1291879667019401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353317939154224,0.0,0.0,0.07726189728690867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939603474513565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22570825009046125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04150776981393125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458507021189053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716603809796392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427318555182305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06491732704039073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035681466501725344,0.0,0.06449170331059421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209218836682522,0.0,0.0691079761039856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105008025850797,0.10737902334388134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007955239009493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04949075935324489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109730314430183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904217472019954,0.0,0.0,0.07430338182522088,0.0,0.13977026029110245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04678842507533991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6652426199009658,0.058199854472033324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641899718407423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169491783172689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852155500041025,0.09359642590617416,0.0,0.0,0.12776279927955872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713450917562554,0.0,0.26355821820562786,0.0,0.0,0.12052390781114798,0.04307824270103301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741711170281164,0.0,0.10376467756732267,0.0,0.0,0.04703248110246259
parenting,leighathehuman,2019/01/14,"My 2 year old refuses to take naps My two year old refuses to take naps, even when she is tired. I get everything ready for her ie. get her a cup of water, change her projector to what she asks for, tuck her in, etc and then she just sits in her room and talks to herself and never goes to sleep. Now this problem is only for me; if her daddy puts her down for a nap she goes right to sleep. However, I’m the one that’s home with her most days so it’s not as easy as just always having him put her down. So, she doesn’t take her nap and after a while I just let her out of her room and she acts like a turd for the rest of the day because she’s tired. What can I do to get her to take naps. ",1.6294545454545464,2.0909469483870957,3.228035190615838,97.01659824046922,76.29032258064517,6.926686217008798,19.252199413489734,6.980632752743323,-0.1789354838709678,527,8,140,5,11,175,86,155,0.07400000000000001,0.893,0.033,-0.7454,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,7,0,7,5,2,0,1,17,16,13,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,5,7,1,2,0,5,0,3,3,1,0,2,0,0,28,1,25,15,3,24,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,2,13,95,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366374323242535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893963500236606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059737075128307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722025055413255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19169520612330784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657505826154409,0.09816210637270374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357007026186704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329434431590584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490779747594605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197401628063126,0.0,0.07260822346503112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114624903845189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119033726264912,0.0,0.10070875630632296,0.11303220481828373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220926559298247,0.0,0.29880829227656314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692066542158392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974546572378714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469749671323665,0.11945512399088948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34163364741275504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518014177250413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914128107844071
parenting,Labbisen,2019/01/14,"Grand parenting a thief! Hey, so this is a story told by my grandmother at pretty much every family gathering the last 20 years including my own confirmation party. I'd imagine part of it is some embellishment added over the years but most seems to add up.

Sharing it as I'm hopefully soon an expecting father myself and spending more and more time figuring out how I'll handle the new role and what kind of parent I'll become. Anyhow! To the story :)

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It takes place in Norway when I was around 6 and been told that I was the kind of child who would always ask question's about everything. I was visiting my grandparents for the summer.

Starting I have to add that upon arrival my grandfather gave me a wallet, I still have it to this day. Was black leather with my name imprinted on it. The reason given was that since I was starting to be a grown up it was expected that I would have to pay for things. Inside was some Norwegian coins and bills, might be relevant to say that 100,- NOK is roughly 10$ USD. Was a 200, 100 and 50 bill (20$, 10$ and 5$) along with misc assortment of coins. (We have 20, 10, 5 and 1 which is roughly 2$, 1$, 0.5$ and 0.1$) so possibly something like 35$.

I was puzzled for several reasons, as I was told to not lose it so I figured that I would leave it in my room and had no idea what I should buy, but grandfather was strange so I just along with it.

**And thus the story begins!**

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My grandmother was going to the Prix to get some food, I say Prix as that was a chain store but at the time I thought it was a specific place since we didn't have any where I grew up, I didn't even associate it with stores. Most of the time I would just stay at home with my grandfather and ask questions but he was out on an errand so I would join her this time.

We arrive at the Prix and go through the place grabbing all the items she had on her list, as we near the end I'm looking at the candy aisle and grab a pack of pastils with some flavour, proceed to put it in my pocket and we leave. When we get home and my grandmother is unpacking things from the bags I unwrap it and ask if she wants one. She starts to reply before turning to me and inquiring where I got it from. I simply answer ""From the Prix"" and hold the box towards her. She ask's if I paid for it and by now I'm having a curious frown on my face as I answer ""No, why would I do that, everyone grabs what they want"". She responds that people pay with money for what they want, I look at her incredulous and state that wasn't true!

Important to know is that everyone used cards by now, a concept entirely foreign to me. So from my point of view it was simply somewhere people just took what they wanted, went to the end where some lady would 'BEEP' stuff and hand you plastic bags. Money was bills and coins which I had observed being used by my grandfather to buy fuel at the docks for the boat and balloons once.

I was pretty sure that since we hadn't done either she was in the wrong. She informed me that since I took the box of pastils without paying I had stolen the item. The story then goes that I got a thoughtful expression as I was dealing with this information and proceeded to ask her why there wasn't any police here then. That one caught her off-guard and she asked what I meant. I explained how someone who steal was a thief and the police existed to catch them. At this point she was laughing from my rather serious demeanor which further led to me being puzzled. She told me that this could be solved easier if I just thought about it. After some time I recalled the wallet with money given me previously and asked if I went back to the Prix and paid for the pastil if it would ""unsteal"" the item and me no longer being a thief. (Serious kids can be fun at times). She agreed and I got my wallet and we got in the car again to drive back to the Prix/store.

At arrival at the Prix we enter and she tells me that the lady at the end is the one expecting the payment (I thought she was the owner for several years) So I walk up to the END of the cashier station (They have small metal things you climb onto) and reach out the opened box of pastil saying that I stole it but wanted to buy it instead. To her credit (Perhaps seeing my grandmother having the laughter of her life in the background) she scanned it and told me the price whatever it was. I hand her my wallet and start to get back down as I has now payed and could enjoy my box of pastils in peace. She quickly stopped me saying that there was too much money so I had to wait a moment. She unzip the part holding the coins and brings out a 20,- saying that would be enough. All in all I was kinda happy as it was one of the more boring looking coins. She hands me back my wallet and I again figure out everything is done. Once more I'm told to wait as I needed to get my change back and if I wanted a receipt. She then hands me back more coins that I had given her, she took one 20,- and gave me back 2x5,- and one 1,- (I was really happy then as the 5,- coins were by far the coolest looking)

I proceed to jump down from the metal thingie while shaking my head at whatever stupidity made them exchange a dull looking coin for 3 much cooler ones. We get in the car and by now I've got tons of questions about why I had to pay and just how money worked. Got a introduction to bank cards and asked more questions about stores. Was my introduction to economics!

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One would imagine the story ended there, but stick with me just a bit longer. A few days later we were visiting some friends of my grandparents and as coffee was ready there was some candy on the table, the kind of candy only grandparents have. The end of the story is that I grabbed 3 pieces, stood up towards the kind old lady living there and said ""Ok, so just what do I have to pay for these?""  


**Somehow I have never been able to live this down**!

​

My family has had quite a few laughs over this for years and I've taken it to heart as an example of how I wanna deal with situations with my own kid when I got one.

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parenting,ForniteNoob93432,2019/01/14,"Warning to parents about FanFiction.net Got my 11 year old son a kindle last Christmas. A paper white with Internet. He would often talk about fan fiction he read and he had been reading it for a good 9 months.

I should have checked this site. You can if you like, here's a Diary of Whimpy kid story: [https://www.fanfiction.net/s/13171677/1/Rodrick-s-Downward-Spiral](https://www.fanfiction.net/s/13171677/1/Rodrick-s-Downward-Spiral)

This explains a lot because for the past year his attitude at home has plummeted. His play time is always negative, and he's often disrespectful.

At an age where children are very impressionable content like this should not be accessible. It was entirely my own fault for allowing access to this site without checked.

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parenting,i_am_a_goat_baa,2019/01/14,"The tablet is in time out (Rant) I asked my three year old son to go to the library with me. He loves that place. Not today though, he wanted the tablet with him. I did not allow it.

He played for a few minutes at the library and then wanted to go home to play on his tablet. I got kicked in the shin and pushed when I said no.

I don't hate the tablet, but I don't like how he is acting around it, so I put the blasted thing in time out. I am not going to be punched because he can't watch some stupid video on his tablet right away.",-0.17064102564102512,1.6184438376068402,1.1219017094017083,104.38490384615385,84.98290598290599,3.9,14.878205128205128,3.1291,-1.5422358974358974,407,6,106,0,12,128,74,117,0.049,0.851,0.1,0.7018,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,8,0,8,1,0,2,0,16,18,8,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,7,0,0,0,3,0,6,7,2,0,1,3,2,13,4,18,14,2,25,0,0,1,1,12,12,0,1,8,66,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000767000389225,0.21004004643485152,0.0,0.2110888049359916,0.0,0.0,0.13695930581040394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38306257319511217,0.0,0.17969248059806073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218192561794816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22536653950730096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976446445888176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027772356503506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23575777663637654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23473671754760064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22585962451901945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187053757725625,0.2137166122654553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926355392580842,0.0,0.22074125889868004,0.0,0.2620186633866867,0.0,0.2129648693330471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650373262926276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446828173425735
parenting,Tintri77,2019/01/14,"Language Immersion Schools - We are thinking of putting our kid in a K-12 language immersion school, but some of husband's co-workers raised some concerns. 

1. Kids in language immersion fall behind in other subjects, especially math and science.
2. Kids in language immersion programs are no more proficient in the language than kids who take a few years of the same language in high school.

Any experience with this, you or your kids? Thoughts? Concerns? General input? 
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parenting,cashcashagogo,2019/01/14,"How do you get your kids off social media? Hey there. I'm a parent of 4 teenagers, (12, 14, 14, and 17 going on 18) and I can't believe how little time they spend off their phones. Its not even for me or my partner demanding some time with them, they forget to do what they want to do because they're so distracted and I can see the frustration. We've tried meditation, art therapy, and countless ""tricks"" to wean them out of it but it just seems to have such a hold on their attention. 

Anyway, I brought this up at my last PTO Meeting and so we were looking for options and came across [this](https://thelikemovie.com) and I can't seem to find anyone who's seen it. Does anyone know about this film or know of any way to inform kids en masse about this issue?",3.4209381898454763,5.0168382847682125,3.852599337748345,89.85364514348787,73.43708609271523,6.887637969094922,23.179359823399558,7.492282038375204,0.7716485651214127,595,16,126,7,12,186,106,151,0.052000000000000005,0.94,0.008,-0.6391,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,2,7,0,11,3,2,1,3,0,8,0,0,2,0,30,21,14,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,9,11,0,1,7,2,1,3,3,3,0,0,4,3,17,0,22,17,1,17,0,0,3,0,20,10,0,6,3,80,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179360713611774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915893748890916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710545323203692,0.0,0.0,0.2349187993902101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384793154582132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246806476252586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771855537581618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057390155453785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893760556417333,0.0,0.11850075148014373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762974098915466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22918273162781586,0.16996306834503389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20898129204955745,0.0,0.0,0.17509546188619185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152511948226506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615507221629153,0.3796384275384628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21254917259348968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23844878005656825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431671274029445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156426062243846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229843028281202,0.16550513232747865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wickerocker,2019/01/14,"I am so proud of my son! We had dinner at our friends’ place last night. They have two kids and we have one. Their youngest is a 3-year-old boy who happily plays with our 18-month old son and they had a blast.

Well, as is expected with kids that age, there were a couple bouts of tears and taking a break from toys. When our friends’ son began to cry and sat down on the floor, our little boy went over and gave him a hug! We all said “awww” and felt our hearts melt. Then, our son reached up and began to wipe away his friend’s tears, then took his hand and pulled him towards the toys. He stopped crying, the two boys went back to playing, and all the adults’ hearts were in puddles on the floor. I am so glad that my son has EMPATHY! 

Our son is already such a great guy. I hope he never loses his empathy for others.",3.2044642857142875,4.100260994047621,3.285476190476192,96.44285714285715,72.98809523809524,6.552380952380951,22.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.10716904761904766,629,14,149,4,12,191,103,168,0.064,0.752,0.184,0.9698,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,10,0,3,2,7,12,0,0,11,0,12,5,3,0,3,21,23,15,0,2,0,6,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,7,4,14,1,1,1,4,0,4,1,1,1,3,13,3,23,11,19,10,2,30,0,1,0,1,39,13,0,1,12,93,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147283598436465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747677951187054,0.11251458622221724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619053880577773,0.3214614070257201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404945638862522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339150071673507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613233893627072,0.0,0.14488436028072668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467907138272282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453333451181398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927407963906593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665569122577046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369980032737924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679490063689928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128545530489227,0.0,0.0,0.1373157258990486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070861089641965,0.0,0.09915333666419457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528780646203251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391882037105243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233391856122505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001788975960244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257201588175105,0.0,0.0,0.2858757470966962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156338933125464,0.2712887424987016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422824571389572
parenting,CuriousRedhead37,2019/01/14,"26 month old toddler hits her head My daughter who is 26 months bangs her head on the floor, me, wall, anything. Sometimes it’s when she’s frustrated but other times it’s for no apparent reason at all. I empathize with her and try to hold and comfort her but to no avail. Is this normal? Also, if she isn’t banging her head, she will hit herself on the head.

Is this normal? How do you deal with it?",0.9316531165311659,3.1805166097561006,2.2096747967479686,95.44819783197832,84.12195121951221,4.620054200542006,21.30623306233063,5.82211442006289,0.030207046070460205,310,10,67,2,9,99,56,82,0.099,0.863,0.038,-0.6237,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,0,6,4,4,2,1,13,8,8,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,13,1,8,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,5,47,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709311062198452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513632006785494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962936942060404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7550833365643209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936310381175972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604353700034658,0.0,0.0,0.19300931049844774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891162740630329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191686043640584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725423839568522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488009476665862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,landomoon,2019/01/14,"LPT: If you are planning on using short term disability when you're out on FMLA with new baby, you can't use your spouse's, it has to be with your employer. My wife is on my insurance, we missed out the first time as my wife got pregnant before taking out short term disability with her job (she her her insurance through them).

Wife (now pregnant again) and daughter are on my insurance now and I have short term disability so we thought we were all set - totally weren't aware that for my wife to get short term disability while out of work with new baby, the policy has to be with her job.

Mistake cost us a few grand so thought I would share it on here, maybe save someone else from making the same mistake. ",7.41,6.239236000000003,7.212857142857143,78.97214285714286,64.0,10.857142857142858,33.57142857142857,9.957137785484203,2.9019285714285714,560,19,116,10,7,178,83,140,0.049,0.89,0.061,0.3947,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,4,1,3,7,6,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,3,2,27,21,8,0,4,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,14,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,5,0,21,3,22,13,8,27,0,1,0,0,21,13,0,1,13,78,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822791779990996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894717244068173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220916101940166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119172624027895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132541583879418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4251459806488262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298859969848782,0.0,0.21520538767637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4137758025356692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18150167359609146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610612451856192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34012181463501096,0.12490911225901792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576714290096229,0.3700218838357976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594935220964254,0.0,0.0,0.15217051244803795,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,palekaleidoscope,2019/01/14,"We found lice- a first timer's experience Last week, I was reading a story at bedtime to my 2 year old in my lap and I saw a movement in her hair. I ran her to the bathroom, my heart racing. I found a single, solitary lice and a few nits. I yell for my husband and my 4 year old to come to the bathroom right away. As soon as my husband get to the bathroom I say ""The little one has lice."" A check of my 4 year old comes up with a few nits, but no visible lice or nymphs. We need treatment, ASAP.

It's now 8 pm and my husband races to the drugstore and gets enough lice treatments and combs to treat several households and we get to work. Our kids are tired, cranky and weirded out by all the fuss. We comb and comb but don't come up with much- a few nymphs and about 10-20 nits. Beds are stripped and laundry is done. I send a text to my dayhome lady explaining the situation and an email to my older daughter's preschool.

Once we finally get the kids to bed, my husband and I check ourselves and come up negative. So that's good, but we dive deep into google to find out what we need to do next. Neither of us has experienced this before. The only time I have had a run in with lice was when my sister had it in Kindergarten in the 80's. We tried to calm ourselves, it happens to lots and lots of people, lice doesn't discriminate, just tackle the problem head on and be diligent about it. Lice checks will now become a thing around our house.

We have no idea where our kids got lice. They don't go on playdates and the only times they're out of the house is dayhome, every weekday from 7am-5pm, and my 4 year old goes to preschool twice weekly for a few hours. Neither of those places has had any other reports of lice. I comb my kids hair everyday, often with ponytails or braids, and hadn't seen anything at all until I saw it on my 2 year old.

I think the worst thing was how terrible it made me feel. I rationally know that lice happens, but I still shed a few tears because I felt like I had failed at something, somehow. My kids took it totally in stride. They're not pleased that the combing takes so long, but as long as they were set up with some iPad time while I did it, they were great. Wish me luck in the next few weeks as we keep combing, combing, combing and try not to feel itchy. 

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parenting,aleel2theleft,2019/01/14,"Looking for a great educational game for PC to help my niece with math. What’s the most effective game out there? I had Math Blaster when I was a kid, but now everything is subscription based for $10 bucks a month. Ideally I’d prefer to buy software ONCE and have her work on it, but I’m open to all suggestions at this point if they are actually worth it. What’s the best thing out there. No app suggestions please, tablets and phones make everything worse because they won’t keep her attention and I can’t monitor progress as well. ",5.224,6.1381047333333365,5.319047619047621,83.64428571428573,68.33333333333334,10.19047619047619,31.190476190476193,10.290406445055957,2.957190476190476,427,17,90,11,7,134,79,105,0.06,0.7,0.24,0.9628,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,2,5,5,4,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,2,1,18,11,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,3,2,3,0,3,0,1,0,2,1,8,4,12,8,3,9,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,2,3,53,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.24434707900034686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526370179975126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627716082523249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500734855641686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760587491518044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16783289613205876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256046682267006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102667390549782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713901917240462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998610015850874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666599699513472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748559068984848,0.2367019613518498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663497316384296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251330376607736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228881060345944,0.0,0.2551714729342387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yellowlemonq,2019/01/14,"My brother (16) is getting a tattoo, but my parents don't know Hi all. 

So my brother, just turned 16, had spoken to me before about getting a tattoo, to remember our late grandmother. He's very hot tempered so I just entertained it and said it wasnt a good idea and that he should wait till he was 18. I found out today that he has only went and bloody booked it for this Friday. Now I am extremely skeptical about any tattooist who will knowingly tattoo a minor. Concerned for my brothers safety being the priority. Anyhow, my mum has been in intensive care over the last month and is only just out and in recovery now. I don't live anywhere near my family so all my interactions are remote, except for when I come down maybe four times a year. 

I want to tell my mums partner about it so he can have a word with him, but I'm scared about rocking the boat. 

My brother has blackmailed me to say if I said anything he will never talk to me again. 

Though I feel I have a moral responsibility to put a stop to this. I'm so conflicted. Why the hell has he put me in this difficult position! 


What the fuck do I do? 
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parenting,lrs82,2019/01/14,"Do your kids need a divorce? Mine do! 11 (male) and 9 (female) are constantly at each other’s throat and I’m done. DONE. I can’t handle the endless bitching, sniping, disrespect, and aggressive nastiness. How are you all handling challenging sibling relationships?",3.3625000000000007,6.378539777777783,4.172638888888892,75.16562500000002,95.66666666666669,7.583333333333335,32.29166666666667,8.07648339933343,3.924166666666668,210,12,30,6,8,67,39,45,0.206,0.758,0.036000000000000004,-0.7685,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,2,0,1,1,3,2,0,2,0,7,1,1,1,1,7,9,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,7,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,1,21,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067282899345865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7703257821887645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790777220427035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040865161343679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VTGCamera,2019/01/14,"When to start with grounding the kid and send it him/her to their room? Hello everyone. I have a kid that's going to be 3 in April. She is very independent and communicates pretty well verbally e.g. talks a lot and has a very extended vocabulary to the point I can say she appears more like a 4yo. However I think she is more stubborn than the average toddler. She just won't do what she is told even though we have tried everything. We talk to her a lot and explain everything with words, we get down to her eye level, we have yelled, her grandma even slapped her on her hand because she was about to eat some poisonous seeds from a tree.   
  
Cue last night. I was doing the dishes and long story short, I asked her to not do something, nicely, then asked as a favor, then firmly, then lowered myself to her level and said it again firmly and looking to my eyes, she did it. I got so mad and slapped her hand and said ""you're grounded, go to your room"". Then this morning she started moving in her sleep and started like sobbing and said something like ""I don't wanna be grounded daddy"". It broke my heart... 
  
  
What can I do so she do what she's told? Please help!",4.220957792207795,5.160186580086581,4.752313311688312,86.70561282467533,70.64502164502164,7.506601731601733,27.42451298701299,7.6454224807358475,1.4138850649350645,904,30,187,10,16,288,129,231,0.083,0.799,0.118,0.8082,2,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,4,1,1,0,10,11,3,0,11,0,21,9,6,1,0,29,39,20,0,1,2,0,2,3,0,1,1,5,2,2,9,17,2,1,2,0,0,5,3,5,1,0,9,10,36,6,22,27,5,31,0,2,3,0,41,13,1,4,16,129,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25106827784955515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185614512314987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740247243053788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773820047581086,0.0,0.0,0.12831077012912626,0.2413653059641329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015601788658622,0.0,0.15262940281017107,0.0,0.10739638086173993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159123036449364,0.0900053871757913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094565279007265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19680800539137644,0.0,0.0,0.11883401500782495,0.11276179875930405,0.0,0.0,0.22832095465713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427189182985613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601315079152292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739966292714124,0.1269384737303174,0.0,0.0,0.1366115409909742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831945100476732,0.10678524148917247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134377473587307,0.0,0.0,0.20675137514325656,0.0,0.0,0.28513328247989234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585915538202596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604152099272219,0.13192990732656415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566215402582525,0.0,0.09116764361484536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22159094738197124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073429397759965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FabulousFreyja,2019/01/14,"Potty training my son We have been attempting to potty train our 2.5 year old son. He is very aware of his bodily functions. Goes and squats to poop and will ask us to change his diaper. Knows how to put on and take off his clothes. He shows all the signs of potty training readiness. But the kid refuses to even try. On day 3 of no diapers (we put him in a pull up at night and if we go out). We have tried to let him sit in his ""mess"" (just pee) for a little, but it didnt seem to phase him. He will actively avoid using the bathroom, so much so that he wet his pants last night before dinner and it was like an adult sized pee. Last night he insisted he had to poop but was afraid to go on the potty so instead he cried and threw a tantrum. He has his own miniature toilet and an Elmo toilet cover to go over the regular toilet (which he refuses even more to use). We use the ""reward"" method. He gets a chocolate for trying, 2 for pee and a popsicle or lollipop for poop. The kid still wont try. I am about to start working full time and my husband already works full time, so he is going to need to be in preschool. It is much cheaper and eaiser to get into preschool if he is potty trained (I know thats a little selfish on my end). But I am at a loss. I dont know how to get him to a) not be afraid of the potty b) be willing to use it. 

Feeling like a failure of a mom right now. ",2.8371355932203386,3.2810155186440717,4.2825000000000015,90.63052966101696,73.47457627118644,7.255932203389831,24.91949152542373,7.1686216300943375,0.8281830508474566,1058,30,247,10,20,353,154,295,0.077,0.8809999999999999,0.042,-0.9063,0,1,1,0,0,0,38.0,7,0,0,5,13,10,1,3,20,0,23,7,6,6,1,43,44,23,0,3,9,4,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,3,7,17,1,3,5,1,0,8,5,7,0,0,6,2,24,3,42,30,7,42,0,1,0,0,39,19,0,4,16,154,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743018231299633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079540862746606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826121980238316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215786008186615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684451057714238,0.07447220089473391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533652855857128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227709557430573,0.0,0.0,0.15254107296425254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838792670434654,0.08249578279888319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809936852035148,0.0,0.26250975009901395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903870888638679,0.18825603230369647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808161195174112,0.0,0.1128310783321163,0.2314737504449109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524361246328792,0.0,0.0,0.16977568724023406,0.08562368496176144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250980490759116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117220401976887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321697200619447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986155207959606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512463792033797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817342151977113,0.0,0.09221895336102584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682327070241577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346694874283945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136013756433854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890291365497487,0.3989353261123527,0.0,0.09527945328756908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813520604735935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743624923483615
parenting,PotatoMuffinMafia,2019/01/14,"Advice Needed: How to address negative behaviors your children don’t exhibit around you? My daughter is 10 years old and has ASD and ADHD

We’ve been great about managing the ASD and ADHD at home and we rarely have issues. She has a hard time staying engaged in tasks and needs a lot of specific, repeated direction but she’s able to finish tasks we rarely, *rarely* deal with any behavior issues. She’s a very well behaved kid. 

Lately at school she’s been backsliding. She’s arguing with her teacher, refusing to show work the way they’re wanting her too, and in general isn’t following directions and is falling behind because of it. As soon as they pick up the phone and have her call me she does what I tell her to do and apologizes, but she keeps falling back into that behavior and it keeps getting worse. 

I keep getting pulled into meetings to address the behavior and now I’m running out of ideas offside of just dealing with it every time they call me at work. I’ve been asking around other places where she spends time like her dads, my moms, and my sisters and they’re all surprised with the behavior as well. 

Does anybody have any advice on how to address these behaviors when they’re behaviors I’ve never seen her take part in at home? I’ve put her on restriction and tried positive reinforcement and nothing seems to be working. She’s high functioning ASD and totally capable of following directions and I know the behavior plan at school is being utilized properly by her teacher.

Thanks in advance. ",6.248631578947368,7.4172302140350865,6.4073684210526345,75.84157894736845,66.15789473684211,10.210526315789474,35.0,10.307518312809881,3.8428947368421063,1221,57,211,30,19,390,153,285,0.07200000000000001,0.82,0.108,0.9132,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,2,2,5,14,8,1,0,9,0,16,0,0,3,3,50,33,25,0,3,3,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,7,28,0,5,3,1,1,8,4,1,2,0,4,2,31,7,39,27,4,43,0,0,1,0,40,20,0,2,14,138,38,6,0.10813764842293096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599208781489457,0.2113417170015548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707461825112758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253086721847013,0.10109410376592744,0.0,0.0,0.08315117669855275,0.0,0.0659197067812539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208412591074378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22297033443166744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926396972332002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111063273485227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299491616827333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922213914571644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687009258815332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425336272771107,0.2169417567462382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207424250968413,0.0,0.2257352198209129,0.0,0.28835313162934983,0.0,0.0,0.05942962352941966,0.0,0.12198397756549327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283059277583753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193476165027356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664950687699653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036539219687088,0.08340242093832805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376099015030824,0.0,0.11347227130943688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710253530512355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129808266767398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087082044839546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21888214679504572,0.0,0.09844445375819663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152603450468931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130605371764861,0.0,0.094517071081433,0.09955861791657288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891677972460312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341836493750098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922488503962492,0.06378238678970563,0.08583463192490423,0.0,0.0,0.1944574654834129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23617648789521156,0.0,0.11020150220072956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963710015229692
parenting,theonedonut,2019/01/14,"Weekend away from 15 month old? Yes or no? I am a stay at home mom to my 15 month old daughter and have been since she was born. She has never gone without me for more than a few hours and is extremely attached. I love her more than anything but I am dying for a break. Just some time to relax and do things I enjoy. My mother offered to take her for a whole weekend and I've been considering it, but I'm afraid that she will just cry for me and be miserable. My mother lives an hour and a half away too. But I really need some time. What would you do?",0.1123598435462867,2.166839101694915,1.9499999999999995,97.24904172099087,85.94915254237291,4.986701434159062,17.551499348109516,6.297961479604792,-0.4011520208604949,426,10,101,4,13,140,76,118,0.08199999999999999,0.809,0.109,0.4988,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,2,6,1,13,1,0,0,1,18,18,10,1,2,7,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,2,0,1,4,0,16,3,14,11,6,18,0,1,0,1,12,3,0,3,12,75,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095271421470194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446894988786039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014965212487736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037825792671628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400189339821216,0.0,0.3612962542180799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197790236359155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555871771954514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483876053033155,0.2928347311818796,0.0,0.0,0.13601593460998276,0.14147763525855342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849717653675092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175142004251368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174067344349973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955190373715578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792151454073173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186714406556852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392674473424786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480044315574086,0.0,0.17682636248520747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303081167731255,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megatronrules,2019/01/14,Developmental games/toys for a rising kindergarten boy? My son loves games and imagination but it seems like there's no end. He is an only child so he wants me to be his playmate but I've got to keep the house in shape and  work 40hrs a week. He will be 5 in July and is intended to start kindergarten despite his late birthday. My issue is that wit this new spike in wanting play-related attention I think my inability to rise to his need is causing him to lash out and be more defiant. I haven't had the defiance issue at school EVER until this year despite some defiance at home in his 3's. I want to try and get him back on track as seamlessly as possible and any suggestions would be much appreciated!,4.393191489361701,5.536809205673759,5.642333333333338,79.72350000000002,70.41843971631205,9.327943262411347,28.993617021276588,9.642632912329526,2.5776263829787243,562,21,113,13,10,188,98,141,0.064,0.8540000000000001,0.083,0.3924,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,2,1,23,23,12,0,5,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,7,0,1,4,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,13,2,19,15,3,20,0,0,0,1,15,9,0,2,10,69,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146578213842872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865290300112152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985952383112238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122616215867018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748710734083189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100291408789254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461749050615528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19391801296693345,0.0,0.0,0.22306795930544132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035564747042126,0.0,0.1718337282688686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807595640495447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944475026717814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744809087374292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211412237882826,0.1433460236973001,0.0,0.18671186614960175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470303080988296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21794182753032806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956524719677689,0.0,0.1759933462946449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683450734272534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238731133068077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312531405432923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420794749905861,0.0,0.1550714748680228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407409249040068,0.0,0.0,0.13733060356841498,0.0,0.0,0.12449321230590535
parenting,cliner90,2019/01/14,"Step parent/bio, co-parenting. 3y/o suddenly choosing sides? My fiance has been in the picture since my daughter was 18months. She took to him right away. My son was 3, same thing. 

My ex and I coparent well for the most part. 50/50 custody etc. Lately my daughter, is acting like my fiance is the worst thing ever! She ignores him, and won't play unless I am not around. I am in the shower, she wants a snack. He is literally offering her a snack, she walks past him upstairs to ask me. What the heck.

I just am curious if this is normal 3 year old behavior to choose sides? My son never did, he likes everyone equal as he always has. Or should I worry somebody is saying something? My ex isn't a huge fan of my fiance. And I vividly remember my mom like, turning me against my dad and his now wife as a kid. So I guess I'm worried. Their grandfather on dads side and his wife hate my guts. And they spend 2 days a week with them also. 
I hope I'm just being paranoid. ",0.8831102907245025,3.160864456852792,2.7570950622981094,91.24461352099678,84.63451776649747,5.612275034610062,21.64490078449469,6.980632752743323,0.6443319796954312,746,25,157,10,22,248,128,197,0.133,0.805,0.062,-0.9199,4,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,3,0,8,9,1,0,10,0,18,3,1,0,2,27,27,13,0,5,6,11,0,3,0,2,0,1,1,1,4,8,2,1,3,1,1,4,4,3,1,0,5,2,35,6,15,19,6,24,0,0,1,0,31,10,1,5,13,105,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339233979719879,0.1393460620692358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908124479909646,0.1565591538542413,0.0,0.15734087498943852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800244029742977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677011037692046,0.0,0.15148360066826574,0.0,0.1600220129270119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448391668843295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533911340001733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16633264008090692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889102093990276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454479320105748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19613547075534124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916096948376868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640822241641422,0.0,0.0,0.1757285748658258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18595242198954154,0.18135057494555526,0.15986631845781926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18970760489627486,0.14301600824474642,0.0,0.13317657805964264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853053492352224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289243731939129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222515430752866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860621358636274,0.0,0.18215614071889466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877644822611127,0.0,0.13433202482320372,0.0,0.15057305580953315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401419854494155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784333675829234
parenting,erica_60,2019/01/14,"Few Tips for parenting I was just reading a few posts on how to tackle bullies and raise your kids. Therefore, I thought to share few points which I think are very much needed. Please, everyone, add and correct, that what you think is important. :)

There is never one way to raise a kid. But I always believe the basic thing to teach your kid is emotional intelligence, that he/she should never hurt anyone (Main thing to tackle Bullying which is a rising issue). 

You should keep an open environment and friendly attitude that they are able to discuss even such topics which are considered taboos in society, this will help them not to lie or cheat and would always consider their home as a safe place. 

Always guide them, that in future what are the basic necessities they will need to live their life, but never order them how to achieve it. Its their life let them explore and understand what they desire and how to achieve it. It would decrease the pressure which as parents we should always avoid. 

And yes teach them about gender equality. It is much needed. 

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parenting,cassova,2019/01/14,Toddler cries when friends fight My LO is 1.5 and we had some friends over with two boys each a year older than mine. They all play together and get along well but one time the two older boys started a little fight (tug-o-war over a toy). My LO started bawling for what appears to be no reason. We asked him to come to us if he needed comforting but seemed to recover on his own after a minute or two. It’s got my wife and I thinking why he behaved like that. I tried doing some research on the subject and it’s only about parents fighting. He’s never done this before and I’m just curious what it could have been and if it might be a sign of something more meaningful (positive or negative).  What similar experiences have you had and discovered from it?,2.9681558838512463,4.859835443708612,4.1002649006622525,86.3539938869078,75.35761589403974,7.295160468670403,27.50942435048395,8.139509932561175,1.8329863474274075,596,24,119,10,13,194,105,151,0.083,0.7879999999999999,0.129,0.7498,1,0,1,0,4,0,15.0,3,1,1,0,4,9,3,0,7,0,12,0,0,1,2,33,23,14,0,4,7,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,10,13,0,0,4,2,0,2,3,3,1,4,5,0,13,6,16,14,6,16,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,9,10,87,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264351394901178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804025141683838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986440217472582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890520030890266,0.0,0.19110380752906694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803723706111566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018132435905498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688259247882385,0.0,0.09089496587523052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391440202511488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499559255173406,0.1743690556721138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456040618396127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900055458774082,0.13418055364210255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789023348748635,0.1323161312517988,0.0,0.0,0.19317909298274605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887568665383732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838067000521286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393476250806727,0.0,0.0,0.24628136698408234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147641143386124,0.0,0.0,0.10144645475178984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811787648342215,0.0,0.5098460582488289,0.0,0.2092709850475024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642477811104807,0.0,0.15698573826268522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203445352473797
parenting,weltonavesw,2019/01/14,"How Do I Keep From Losing My Shit? I'm a father of two (3 year old and 1 year old) and have a brother-in-law that is CONSTANTLY comparing his kids to mine. Comparing height, weight, athletic ability (mind you, his kids are 5 and 2), and intelligence. It's never directly demeaning, but inadvertently asking questions or making statements that seem inappropriate. 

He will say shit like, ""Isn't my daughter the best kid you've ever met?"" or ""I think my kid will be the toughest kid out of all of any of these kids."" Like, what do I say? ""No your kid is a douche but that's probably more reflective of her dad.""

I'm trying to enjoy my limited time with them, but don't want to create drama that is unnecessary. We live 2 hours away so it's not like we're constantly together. 

I'm sure it is just a major insecurity and evidence of extreme low self-esteem in him, as he's in his mid-30s, slightly overweight, and is trying to start a career as a male model/bodybuildel/social-media influencer. 

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Is it worth having a conversation and calling this out or just let it be and let his mid-life-crisis pass?",4.665038402457757,5.700492400921661,6.1478525345622135,76.75225499231955,69.69124423963135,9.473302611367126,29.213210445468512,9.725611199111238,2.72331975422427,869,32,167,20,15,296,133,217,0.14400000000000002,0.7290000000000001,0.127,0.3061,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,2,1,3,5,11,2,1,9,0,19,4,2,3,4,37,30,18,0,1,9,3,1,3,0,2,1,2,0,8,12,12,2,2,5,1,1,1,5,5,0,1,1,3,18,6,19,23,4,19,0,2,0,0,30,7,2,5,14,103,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082112734749714,0.16914097700839342,0.0946595090184159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013147123454952,0.0,0.1307812353582945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607986087550365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421368649920569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008474782130483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259126875533658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708212930967806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237257032678496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846790597612429,0.09831976339062004,0.2040155412040028,0.0,0.12291450851142052,0.0,0.0,0.1557271139950746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291583984266676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055044122923155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735818744046076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921300661414004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007913892045915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559337746323487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22139189705916554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672075942329494,0.14521401878991275,0.0,0.28576978230003713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189497486057925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985251604725593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119260031562505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919254801875526,0.0,0.0,0.08116755527378827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18901280072818927,0.0,0.13597635723294305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210266991449346,0.0,0.0,0.1695058352374423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914097700839342,0.17927807770684845
parenting,gudideas,2019/01/14,"5 Tips For Flying With Children If you have kids and are embarking on a plane journey with them soon, take a look at our article below - full of tips on how to make flying with children a little easier.

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[https://www.admiralexpress.co.uk/2019/01/5-tips-for-flying-with-children](https://www.admiralexpress.co.uk/2019/01/5-tips-for-flying-with-children)

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parenting,formaldehey,2019/01/14,"Teething My little girl is just shy of 17 months, she has all of her teeth apart from the back molars. It seems early but is it possible for them to get the back molars early? She’s showing signs of teething again ",4.248062015503876,5.244149,3.9953488372093036,91.94713178294576,70.62790697674419,6.663565891472868,23.635658914728683,6.42735559955562,0.4403705426356588,169,4,36,1,3,51,33,43,0.035,0.965,0.0,-0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,3,3,3,0,1,5,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,6,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,6,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608882498838448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20685403876484373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968200334757774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31602289684882284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463450153646951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604344964255936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,compressthesound,2019/01/14,"My 4 year old is occasionally awake all night. I’m not sure what to do. My 4 year old has been awake since midnight, it’s 5am now and we finally got up since we weren’t sleeping anyways. He comes into our bed every night around midnight but usually sleeps. However I would say this happens once every month or two where he will be awake all night. 

I tried to put him in his room since he clearly wasn’t sleeping in our bed, but he screams and cries and covers his ears and hyperventilates because he’s scared of being alone and he’s afraid of the dark. 

He has a pediatrician appointment next month so I’ll obviously ask about this, but I’m just fed up. It can’t be normal behavior can it?  He's always been an absolutely terrible sleeper but I feel like I’ve reached the end of my rope, and he’s always overtired which makes all of us miserable. 

He goes to sleep around 9 every night- bed time routine is bath, potty, teeth, stories, and my husband lays down in his bed and usually falls asleep with him for a couple hours. He’s awake around 7 every morning usually, ",4.854773030707609,5.5357000981308415,5.590120160213621,82.20971962616825,69.04672897196261,8.731108144192259,29.304405874499327,8.841846274778883,2.106098531375168,847,30,174,14,14,276,130,214,0.109,0.852,0.04,-0.94,2,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,0,0,9,7,0,3,5,0,16,8,7,1,6,33,25,14,0,2,7,1,1,1,0,2,0,3,6,0,7,16,1,0,1,1,0,3,4,5,0,1,6,4,17,2,20,14,3,34,0,1,0,0,24,12,0,1,20,88,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417404567318743,0.0,0.0,0.16738685680745796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686215950989536,0.0940318810555117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131469389768925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664367423939816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129359508444754,0.11048611815201016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908701854302785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389833377445124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508579783165629,0.07185678563375253,0.0,0.1101841745716732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044571618111694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894554934642693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905436675537747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049139958028531966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671401861315386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056938605122542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697156403279134,0.3775627477322018,0.09855035496864653,0.0,0.0,0.21109067139213164,0.1071180153205058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111407661777676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998793963298577,0.10070150870083973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249610830062598,0.0,0.4026240740926548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479864379622026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865097682108712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682895114741602,0.0,0.09825534537025347,0.0,0.120989419722729,0.0,0.3323351430184907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145154614449259,0.0,0.0,0.1295447958811323
parenting,mommafromthemidwest,2019/01/14,"BECAUSE I SAID SO! Of course some people will say this is horrible parenting but my oldest has been going through the ""why?"" thing. As such, I've been dropping ""because I said so"" quite a bit. Usually I'm alright with giving a quick explanation on educational stuff. Like why it's important to eat well or go to bed at a decent time. But it also depends on the tone and subject. ""wHHhyyYy do I haVe tO wEar bOoTs?!?!?"" The answer is ""because I'm not gonna let you trudge through a foot of snow in flats"" but sometimes I just feel I shouldn't have to explain myself. Like, you're seven, just do it. ",2.7663025210084022,4.491116260504203,4.321588235294119,85.27414705882354,75.47058823529412,7.1129411764705885,27.026050420168072,7.908726449838941,1.631738823529412,461,18,94,7,10,154,84,119,0.019,0.82,0.161,0.948,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,1,8,4,0,0,7,1,12,3,2,1,0,15,22,9,0,1,7,1,1,2,0,3,0,3,1,0,6,2,1,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,4,4,8,4,14,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,3,6,63,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642523176089582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577169406331986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135499768119944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001527272808619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890375511263898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876421204449702,0.2223336355985061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001934459699314,0.0,0.19112542558603784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171961818971921,0.0,0.0,0.13560786410314815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804997362319247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37213025796106103,0.15555293103046858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345832673366709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22392090391123085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995125703565644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405883679691455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21543125050332668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587236814943327,0.0,0.3530061399140387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lemonzesty22,2019/01/14,"How to support a mum whose child is seriously ill - tips and advice needed please! Hello everyone. 

My friend’s little baby is seriously ill - he is due to have brain surgery next week to remove part of his brain. The prognosis isn’t good. 

I’m going to visit her and the baby in hospital on Wednesday. I’m absolutely terrified of saying/doing the wrong thing. 

So here’s my question: to those of you who have gone through having a seriously ill child, what were the best things/worst things people did/said?

TL;DR - My friend’s son is seriously ill - I want to avoid doing/saying the wrong thing when I visit - any advice?",3.4521956856702616,5.807560906779663,4.793636363636368,79.80105546995381,75.52542372881356,7.3417565485362095,22.59167950693375,8.296473431620573,1.4946169491525432,489,14,88,9,11,162,75,118,0.238,0.66,0.102,-0.9427,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,1,4,12,0,1,7,0,9,6,2,1,0,7,16,5,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,5,1,7,0,0,2,0,8,5,12,14,2,13,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,5,51,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348573823045947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165151451633608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17980778024151314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825378734795615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637200002241379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647493317770133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737485729819853,0.14370948195777733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172484762452012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704433418343716,0.0,0.0,0.1822190149418575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554144912722828,0.0,0.11878361436416213,0.0,0.0,0.18807675164901413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919368331355301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629808763201981,0.136254187726782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19443138033575894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3414863902757209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010590969949528,0.0,0.13743633598831825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746605780967302,0.0,0.0
parenting,JcobDi,2019/01/14,"Do parents actually believe we sleep when we fake it? A few years ago, I didn’t have the phone privileges I have now, so when I was really into a game and my parents would come by my room to check on me I pretended to be asleep and had my device under my pillow. When I did this, my parents would say goodnight and went to bed. For the parents out there, do you actually believe we’re sleeping when we fake it? Or do you just move along? ",5.267802197802197,4.542195340659344,6.420087912087912,81.44991208791211,68.12087912087911,9.477802197802195,31.386813186813182,8.841846274778883,2.2824356043956042,340,12,74,5,5,115,58,91,0.076,0.894,0.029,-0.6298,4,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,2,0,0,8,3,0,0,4,0,12,3,3,0,0,14,14,9,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,3,10,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,2,0,0,5,1,16,1,10,6,1,15,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,7,58,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.31009899728410845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408425637078138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35801949206280725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686593976274106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887032701273824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.705694954103155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178623149572913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635226545570422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31800083938924983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472886119399005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22573564882639865,0.0,0.0,0.10231716501688602
parenting,baqarrizvi110,2019/01/14,"Did Someone Have reviews for this Bepanthen for Nappy Rash Hello Moms,  
I am currently in Dubai and my child rashes problem has become serious I have tired 2 ointments so far. One of them is [Bephanthan for nappy rash.](https://www.bepanthen.me/en/learn-about-your-skin/your-babys-skin/learn-about-nappy-rash/) please do not suggest the same formula I have to attach the link. if you want to suggest something please help ",9.82554794520548,10.205220287671235,7.206952054794524,75.89755136986301,58.45205479452055,9.491780821917807,36.05821917808219,8.841846274778883,3.1722904109589045,343,13,53,4,4,97,57,73,0.14300000000000002,0.7290000000000001,0.128,-0.25,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,8,3,2,0,0,7,9,3,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,6,0,7,8,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,1,30,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31600418308552136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917845274649186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351078389102321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388668683986984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6281618376410598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737843694533177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424340117057316,0.2202741192986984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32886026220204945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16876479288935126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yanalis,2019/01/14,"wtf is wrong with my 3 yo (or, wtf is wrong with his parents)? I am going crazy. Every day (naptime) and night (bedtime) it’s the same frustrating fight. Today he spent nearly 3 hours in his room before finally napping and tonight about 2 hours. We usually put him to bed by 8:30 and he oftentimes doesn’t fall asleep until 10/10:30. The problem is, we’re “babysitting” him that whole time until he finally decides to go the fuck to sleep. See, he comes to the door (there’s a baby gate) and cries and whines and calls for us. We usually can get him to go on his bed or quiet down but that only lasts a few mins and then he’s at his door again. Rinse and repeat. We can’t just ignore him cuz the baby sleeps next room over and he gets louder. We have a soothing bedtime routine. We tell him he doesn’t have to sleep but he has to rest and be quiet. We talk about feelings. We reassure him we love him and he’s safe, etc.. He’s a bright boy I’m sure he understands all of this.

This past week, we’ve tried just silently carrying him to bed every time he comes to the door (sometimes upwards of an hour or 50-75 carries). We don’t seem to be making progress after a whole week. And it makes for a very sore back. Tonight (some nights) we just run out of patience and shut/lock his door and he cries and we just pray the baby stays asleep or deal with it. He usually cries (sometimes a little, sometimes harder) then goes to sleep.

I think this is typical 3 yo behavior and yes I know this will eventually pass but in the meantime I am going insane. He’s never been a good sleeper so I’m going on four years of sleep deprivation.",0.7584584491813402,3.109520530120484,2.1956626506024115,94.4830413963547,86.16867469879519,5.091875193080013,19.95860364535064,6.551861593081955,0.15993997528575798,1264,38,273,14,39,407,174,332,0.132,0.775,0.093,-0.7844,1,0,0,0,1,0,48.0,12,0,0,1,10,15,3,0,17,1,18,10,7,3,3,61,40,29,0,1,11,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,10,1,9,33,0,2,6,1,1,11,5,9,0,1,2,5,30,6,35,35,8,56,1,2,2,2,49,12,1,6,32,153,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757719718248889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478261841624625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973915887465844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514081784481035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28960859589662524,0.05667776355035487,0.09060431165249244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980136386276514,0.0,0.0,0.14809173936444373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044436676560990575,0.0,0.0,0.19254475658095968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124713258382336,0.09183128890892904,0.0,0.24973186919111764,0.07371273970630382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596434425724487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04829862362968309,0.07163700520224164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808262907641698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931853691575833,0.0,0.11732620265797138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778138408887281,0.0,0.0934653902788028,0.16494593628971255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683957004271715,0.0,0.0,0.09758453027648728,0.0,0.0838950061893522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409290240428882,0.0,0.0883474661627294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003198923529612,0.08000608683215246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4397362112184315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607578979171387,0.0,0.0,0.09367240938505167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282941658774705,0.0,0.0,0.0706376482683544,0.07681429178972142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563123735530397,0.0,0.0,0.10249147029645203,0.0,0.08330354142454124,0.0,0.0,0.05966731345467281,0.0,0.0,0.09149010774011976,0.1057133588373473,0.0,0.29037468159354196,0.07251331718090505,0.0,0.0,0.14099012428242566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623818950241292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217422048443328,0.0,0.056594268837212997
parenting,sr5696pq,2019/01/14,"The world hates children... Just an observation, feel free to agree or disagree. Something happened today at work (I’m an NICU nurse - long story) that made me realize the world hates children and I cannot understand it. I spent my lunch break in full-blown weeping mode in a bathroom stall. It ain’t right.",3.3168421052631563,6.0483234035087765,3.2272807017543883,88.84513157894737,78.12280701754386,5.905263157894738,27.043859649122812,7.1686216300943375,1.4256807017543864,242,10,45,3,6,73,48,57,0.212,0.695,0.094,-0.743,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,0,5,0,2,1,0,1,0,7,10,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,4,2,4,8,0,9,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,1,2,21,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564185162887668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735604386918078,0.0,0.0,0.6108454291295081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737682731322841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927179330778013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641863535257176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381555774959185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932311180684773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32204809214674396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22521316434991895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IdentifyTheBoat,2019/01/14,"My 5 year old daughter has been missing school and appointments. Grandmother wants to become a Legal Guardian. What does this mean? The mother has been neglecting to get our daughter to school on time, if at all. The grandmother brought this to my attention very recently & is interested in becoming a Legal Guardian to have more control over the child's schedule. What should I know? How can this affect me & my rights as her father? Any advice or suggestions woupd be greatly appreciated.
We live in South Carolina if that helps.
Thanks in advance.",4.9533673469387764,7.999406173469392,4.727918367346941,78.6206530612245,74.0,8.409795918367351,31.228571428571428,9.120678840339163,3.2789681632653065,447,21,73,11,10,137,75,98,0.047,0.8079999999999999,0.146,0.8567,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,3,1,15,16,6,0,4,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,8,3,12,11,2,15,0,2,0,0,10,8,0,3,5,47,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889176719230174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189411439232806,0.0,0.1314695218396713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42703069436157065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168335474770112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918244559721735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100578723645773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314456311457985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958353767897055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624789350373964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071197419807926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21059063152051027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20286498688224536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908878623406844,0.0,0.0,0.16510087024078954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913160750721824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799024805437522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273098488883974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595156677861266,0.11402973528331806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449675366406855
parenting,littlegoldenbush,2019/01/14,"How many times? Parents old and new- how many times has your child fallen/been dropped/hit their head/etc? I see so many posts every time something like this happens and there is SO much guilt, sorrow and worry from the parents. Obviously sometimes it is warranted (the worry) but more often than not everything is completely fine! Accidents happen!

So, we’re all in this together- how many times has something happened to your kid and how did everything turn out? ",4.924126506024095,7.771318686746991,4.379141566265062,82.14533885542173,72.97590361445782,7.523493975903612,28.44728915662651,8.472884824447931,2.392953012048193,373,15,62,7,8,112,60,83,0.127,0.823,0.05,-0.7751,2,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,1,0,9,4,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,4,2,14,11,12,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,2,5,10,3,9,0,1,1,0,7,2,0,1,7,38,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239623180424302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146620979581826,0.0,0.0,0.11442741427453908,0.0,0.24411802318263984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3602941415584601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938222890119334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635085219441961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5507679495540164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983740026949983,0.0,0.0,0.13116801485888166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425117816444597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301606167113867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300702935672775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082245299986168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091093282386008,0.13432147819712156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167721300742462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772438785865868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27584722857675065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,creepy-rob,2019/01/14,"How early did your children start teething? My second daughter is 8 weeks tomorrow and we just noticed two little teeth already busting through. She was born three weeks early as well, it just seems too soon! Our first didn’t start until 6 months or so.",4.788191489361701,7.077081808510642,3.80526595744681,88.70875000000002,71.34042553191489,5.5510638297872354,28.77127659574468,5.985473137389443,1.2042808510638294,203,8,36,1,4,59,42,47,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.3382,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,1,0,1,7,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,1,0,7,7,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,5,1,3,4,0,13,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,12,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179222151213919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24505516999437274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887488903655009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299562852104817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280003559985699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26227269823233657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078330937805578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814289171686592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4621880882293542,0.0,0.2590338115391784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jameshomies,2019/01/14,"My parents don't support me and always compare me to my unsuccessful brother? (Need parent advice on this.) I know, this sounds strange but hear me out. I live in the stereotypical Asian home, and in my house, I am the smart one, athletic one, and musical one. Here's some of the things I do:

1. I’ve established a higher GPA than my brother. I’ve challenged myself throughout high school by taking five more AP classes than him and way more honors courses. I am in Engineering Club, Mu Alpha Theta, and Interact Club. My brother has not done a single club in high school
2. I am a varsity athlete, doing volleyball, cross country and track in high school. My brother never did any sports.
3. I am in band/marching band for four years. I also play stringed bass and have played piano for 9 years. I am in honor band playing the flute and am in indoor drumline. My brother quit the clarinet after 6th grade and has not pursued music since.

Despite all of this, my parents tell ME to act more like my brother. To them, I am the lazy one, ironically. They put me down constantly because I pursue so many things outside of academics. To them, everything besides school and homework is extraneous and useless. Despite me being more academically successful than my brother, I am constantly compared to my brother because in their eyes, he is the smarter one because he never used so much energy for outside of school things and always focused on his studies. They constantly nag me, saying how they wished I would go home at the same time as everyone else in school would because they had no clubs or extracurriculars. After every band event (which usually ends around night) they openly mock band and mock me for being ""un-normal"" because ""no one"" stays so late after school.

At home, I am more tired from my extracurriculars in and this is where they get their idea that I am not taking school seriously enough. They constantly compare me to my brother, praising him on how he is so successful because he got into a local university with a 90% percent acceptance rate, whereas I’m applying to prestigious schools and Ivy leagues.

Why are my parents like this?",5.736222570532918,7.4227164292929295,5.9456182514803215,76.75681818181822,67.78787878787878,8.391361894810172,33.60466736328805,8.841846274778883,3.0179428073841863,1710,79,290,29,29,544,207,396,0.078,0.782,0.14,0.9864,4,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,0,0,11,7,10,19,3,0,13,0,28,2,1,3,3,40,40,25,0,4,5,13,0,2,0,2,1,3,4,0,10,20,0,0,3,12,0,4,8,5,0,8,4,4,53,14,45,32,12,49,1,1,1,0,40,26,0,2,19,201,63,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660661030291121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05406637787975637,0.1125111363955554,0.0,0.0,0.04597600048018368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060185770658076815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24728055785562525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29224245817911865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918682132419499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647810613659416,0.0,0.05988093620694233,0.06985750461726221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05696295586795162,0.06460268146571924,0.06076203097520495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035322575586362384,0.0,0.03842338675905966,0.0,0.05407257844684325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619953085566185,0.0,0.0,0.2142958202616271,0.20345008059731204,0.0,0.0,0.07801096557080994,0.0,0.07632160462466835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03715578435512662,0.0,0.07626517039873852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606005543887711,0.0,0.0596994170046159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854426144912995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049699920788893896,0.05013073932348385,0.10428746416493664,0.0,0.0,0.06344586220536183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748790305266234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002843137849704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796507134929629,0.0,0.07190980870003638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053764878304622885,0.0,0.6158093915343514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055926330741895854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720615119350339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767211612116725,0.0,0.0,0.10166613952059786,0.0,0.0590926831168872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474796277582796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039422976084917315,0.07770585964942918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058391912381482586,0.0744610525150141,0.0,0.0,0.05366436609554863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100602549734481,0.0,0.07774627284427027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605407267051498,0.0,0.0,0.08707512929454242
parenting,Frankenfly,2019/01/14,"What should I teach my son about finances? I'd like to create an informal ""course"" for my high school son focusing on money and finances. Not really sure where to begin, but I know his school isn't teaching this stuff...

What are the major things you feel high schoolers need to know about money that they aren't getting from their traditional education? ",7.274076923076925,8.068866215384617,6.541346153846158,77.10740384615386,63.769230769230774,9.576923076923078,30.09615384615385,9.516144504307137,2.6109230769230773,284,9,50,5,4,87,50,65,0.026,0.916,0.059,0.2664,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,10,2,0,2,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,8,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,2,32,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344741430446462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894979143820874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5619892101512787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923223123548891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299315065967669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720124192559293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037670133414787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383185310996944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30445327003966666,0.0,0.0,0.2506581426997022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668776991877125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,porkchoplicks,2019/01/15,"Dinner I’m losing it you guys. I know that every toddler/preschooler/child goes through this, or at least most do. My son has been a picky eater for all of his short 4 years of life, so I’m pretty used to it. Lately though, it seems like it’s a tantrum/whining/freaking out every single night over just eating dinner & I find myself getting worked up or angry. Can anyone give me advice on maybe not forcing him to eat but what can I do to make dinner pleasant or for me to not get mad or for the tantrum throwing over a humanly function this boy needs to do to live? Thank you! ",4.055903361344537,4.74132890756303,4.490241596638658,89.36376575630253,70.84873949579833,6.286134453781513,25.79936974789916,5.148860815047168,0.5810915966386552,456,13,95,1,8,144,86,119,0.064,0.8079999999999999,0.128,0.8304,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,2,3,6,2,0,4,0,7,6,0,2,1,17,18,7,0,1,8,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,8,1,5,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,11,3,18,17,4,11,0,1,0,0,9,7,0,6,4,62,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138722486027654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21220879470698528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694635955232864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008170903529829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300325444835666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17900790831973604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046522923688211,0.18788194836555772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19392722768900056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076367778511324,0.0,0.2209329542213025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833816821251665,0.095684852782913,0.0,0.17294354021842473,0.0,0.0,0.21911163074621112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073472350309154,0.0,0.196762657397668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452239899042893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379663609038666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992549311524248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782990227861967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803169564846236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924265286125213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915582352499126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258476189433908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612418915255805
parenting,Raidden,2019/01/15,"My toddler HATES it when i touch her feet and wont let me trim her nails. I've never once cut her while trimming her nails but since she was a baby shes always hated me trimming her  finger or toenails. I have no idea why but she even cries when she sees me filing or cutting my own nails.  


she wakes up when i try to do them while shes asleep. its got so bad that shes has an ingrown toenail now!  


Any advice on trying to get my almost 3 year old to hold still and be comfortable with me cutting/ filing her nails?    


( she LOVES when i paint her nails but changes her mind when i say she has to let me file them first.)",3.9115909090909113,3.7427595530303037,4.4328787878787885,92.6693181818182,70.89393939393939,6.903030303030302,24.07575757575757,5.148860815047168,0.21364848484848453,479,10,113,1,8,152,83,132,0.156,0.762,0.08199999999999999,-0.8943,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,2,1,9,8,5,0,2,0,12,7,6,0,1,13,18,15,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,2,4,32,2,7,12,1,15,0,0,1,1,21,2,0,3,13,75,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18503521001753165,0.0,0.0,0.18961136822693056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755826965523484,0.0,0.0,0.1287676813761548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810325548205945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003121528151868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799723382079705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250669858563764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610650012401803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893000937413607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514442422113536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3738971051897232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375839489696505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872559961690419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089999920181329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19119425635265705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460420090575925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869589261218612,0.2016565633013291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058244837415574,0.0,0.0,0.1508911708384741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663615500034306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121889877352698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25711880774119633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086315406346736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193821110668225
parenting,sameemo,2019/01/15,What should I be reading to 1 year old? Kid is a year old. I want to get him interested in books so that he is kept away from TV and ipad etc. What are the books which usually are read to kids around this age?,0.7026086956521738,2.0780446956521783,2.2341304347826103,99.52771739130438,80.30434782608695,6.339130434782609,18.02173913043478,7.1686216300943375,-0.3217652173913046,160,3,43,2,4,52,37,46,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,9,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,7,6,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,26,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23125750892547256,0.0,0.0,0.24406999586867065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897211552379253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572329056548632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5451866534285953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5196966279773997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28610878166565623,0.0,0.153223803490906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345770481933176
parenting,Tailsandtails,2019/01/15,"TIFU - Parent win but relationship fail The other morning my daughter was feeling down because she has been outshined by a male in the mixed netball team and felt she couldn't do better because she was a girl. 

I of course pointed out that girls can do anything that a guy can do if she puts her mind to it. So far so good.

ERROR - brain to mouth filter disengaged. 

Then said, in earshot of my wife, look at your mother over there growing a moustache. 

She did not find it as funny as we did.",4.095787923416792,5.2803503608247455,4.5338733431516935,87.23804123711342,71.16494845360825,6.36759941089838,28.290132547864513,6.18269132825596,1.1507802650957288,383,14,76,2,7,121,75,97,0.116,0.7440000000000001,0.14,0.1853,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,4,3,4,0,0,6,0,12,2,2,0,0,11,16,8,0,2,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,3,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,7,4,11,3,13,8,0,11,0,1,1,0,19,8,0,1,1,55,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138472849835696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168233720963522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22983004646630303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900960040904848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313958788992981,0.0,0.2495117729011107,0.0,0.23751249292917276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179629749423608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573078459359864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822169412464404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623902234763061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885500472803221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456570318300361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612367499861258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27899845220999225,0.0,0.0,0.2471917383426407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Spidey556,2019/01/15,"Daddy Tax Ever since my kids were old enough to get snacks from the cupboard I have charged them a ""Daddy Tax"" for opening it (I would take one piece of th snack and hand the rest back). Today my youngest refused to let me help him open and pour some juice and instead waited for his mom. I asked him why and he said ""there is no mommy tax""....",3.2661428571428566,4.177259042857145,3.355714285714285,95.93928571428572,72.85714285714286,5.6000000000000005,22.57142857142857,3.1291,-0.2253428571428571,263,6,60,0,5,80,57,70,0.084,0.8370000000000001,0.08,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,5,3,1,0,1,11,10,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,6,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,10,0,6,6,4,6,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,4,39,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26524108480601283,0.0,0.0,0.21816414102138765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931599119732621,0.0,0.0,0.2566421290765245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823265168575847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017238447939092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901242179016436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33229091848898856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29771774234434883,0.0,0.19225687307799968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698838961451949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346971637064508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21332308300885827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689345861718273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560143131740325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015474475007456,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dievc,2019/01/15,"Just need to understand why it happens My daughter is 11 month old. She usually sleeps all night, from (around) 8.30pm to 7.30am.
In the last week or so she started to wake up around 1am, crying and screaming, like she is in pain. When we give her the pacifier (which in 90% of the time calls her down) she struggles against it and rejects it. When we grab her and try to smooth her she push us away and fight us. The only thing that calms her down is nursing, which takes around 40 minutes to get her back to sleep. 

Any idea why this is happening? How to fight it so she comes back to sleep all night?",2.7593388429752075,4.398681669421492,2.6843719008264486,97.36837603305788,75.28099173553719,6.162314049586778,22.843801652892562,6.742157984588678,0.28960760330578506,466,13,107,4,10,139,76,121,0.149,0.816,0.035,-0.9378,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,4,0,0,0,12,8,2,1,4,0,4,5,4,1,2,18,13,10,0,1,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,9,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,3,17,2,21,13,2,25,0,1,0,0,21,10,0,1,14,70,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940751975374443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36945285830434255,0.0,0.0,0.12997395272913326,0.2127481537305248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125948666054652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916671513302575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519587884926921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227636682426522,0.1327072808474003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24466526920430304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616778224402247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276466937807668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758539998956059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042079213874374,0.0,0.0,0.1025765433117124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25964337730836223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516340705682446,0.0,0.0,0.10521296913461632,0.14720234586898845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153164275778201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791698721003493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462185748027134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401363818490424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190621979227284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066652653488318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392303398779857,0.0,0.0,0.1440156762772711,0.3328093329553768,0.0,0.15236075672165514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096712310486267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496586845178382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eazy-_-,2019/01/15,"Need advice, my almost 5 year old is very rough and wants to fight too much. My almost 5 year old, is very rough, he is ready to fight at the drop of a hat as a form of play. I’m looking for resources or advice or past experiences that people know may help corral this behavior. TIA ",3.4278813559322034,4.018488355932206,4.5625,88.62307203389831,72.22033898305084,7.255932203389831,21.529661016949152,7.1686216300943375,0.410691525423728,219,4,49,2,4,72,44,59,0.111,0.713,0.17600000000000002,0.6523,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,9,4,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,7,8,2,7,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,5,5,24,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180053052633432,0.0,0.0,0.42834311291126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20921727397487014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336034758747854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754374989258685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960670102057158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722760696034332,0.158590517929869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488655820590036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041742162337255,0.1482785914434759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529494870887297,0.12615292635414418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27546551357487764
parenting,hoyfkd,2019/01/15,"low high chairs like in daycare? Hi, I am looking for the ""high"" chairs they have in daycares, which are very small chairs with feeding trays.  I can't find any except at discount school supply sites for nearly 200 bucks.  I think I am googling wrong.  Any idea where I should look?

Thanks!",2.6950000000000003,5.4110996111111165,1.468148148148149,100.56666666666668,80.66666666666667,3.6,20.11111111111111,3.1291,-0.7146444444444446,225,6,46,0,6,62,43,54,0.094,0.7959999999999999,0.11,0.2148,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,6,2,8,9,0,10,0,1,2,0,2,10,0,0,1,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438775188426281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23108968643354605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5342752320070137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854237401938768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352405451578315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4246410977910057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558859253005444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327795979731521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620086160914613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086181317435424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764390625429232,0.0,0.0
parenting,virginialiberty,2019/01/15,"My 7 year old son lied to me for the first time today. n an attempt to procure more time playing video games, my 7 year old son decided he would try to trick me by cutting the header with a date out of his composition notebook for school and claiming he used it as a bookmark.

He does very well in school but this pathetic attempt at trying to lie made me lose it on him and absolutely crush him.

I flipped to his vocabulary words from last week and saw that he was trying to use old homework to prove he was done with homework for the day.

What is the appropriate reaction to this situation?",7.123587570621468,6.064674296610176,7.380000000000003,77.1801129943503,64.50847457627118,10.578531073446328,35.76836158192091,9.725611199111238,3.153181920903955,469,19,96,8,6,153,80,118,0.131,0.843,0.026,-0.9164,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,4,1,5,2,0,7,0,5,0,0,3,1,14,9,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,1,1,5,1,10,2,21,3,1,17,0,1,1,0,12,4,0,0,13,56,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944780691134523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851286751451076,0.1736705013012888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435378408984656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383349063538144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986016590489005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16058208660673665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.534240904494965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34350769790769137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075922754860675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979165363696804,0.0,0.16086361468310534,0.0,0.0,0.34566236524684746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931469462288094,0.0,0.14002711187193864,0.0,0.0,0.13612975294235016,0.0,0.1525881331283695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055589947218072,0.0,0.0,0.21857314826760726
parenting,_LittleBIt,2019/01/15,"How to stop thumb sucking My 4 year old will not stop sucking his thumb. At the request of my pediatrician and dentist, we tried the bad tasting paste, he licked it off. We tried the thumb guard and he’s chewing off the top of the plastic, putting other things in his mouth and acting out in other ways. We tried sticker charts, gentle reminders and positive reinforcement. We tried only allowing it in bed... 

He had a huge callus on his thumb, he’s constantly getting us and himself sick and it’s messing with his teeth/gums. 

Do I give up? Let him stop when he’s ready? Any advice or experience is appreciated.",3.8638461538461537,5.943599700854706,4.706333333333337,82.15950000000005,73.35897435897436,7.073162393162392,28.79401709401709,7.908726449838941,1.9126929914529915,483,20,91,7,10,156,78,117,0.105,0.765,0.131,0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,6,0,5,5,1,2,0,20,9,9,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,6,12,2,4,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,2,14,0,13,6,0,22,0,0,0,0,18,11,2,1,8,54,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919018428197054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165916566262492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165347145225087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20922001594963227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18938446053138325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115148734522758,0.1857251468089665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797592380546766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031576181409389,0.0,0.0,0.14724658672800073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848194609422479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946281645769936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4855915025901167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12862365994225253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5257848451038973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328849699422593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536759525004547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467633931996652
parenting,Tobar26th,2019/01/15,"Some sleep would be lovey about now Youngest (13 month) is an allergy baby, CMPA. The first few months of his life were hell and we never really got into a good sleep routine through that and coldest till about six months. 

He’s been in his own bed for some time now and we have some nights where he sleeps through and others like tonight where he just wants to scream the house down. 

I know there’s a point we should just let him cry it out and exhaust himself to sleep but there’s that nagging part in my mind that says “did something slip through, is this him having a reaction?” And I just can’t do it, combine the fact that his brother in the next room is kept up by this and has school the next day. 

I’m not sure why I’m writing this, I just feel like the worlds crappest parent right now and want to break down in tears, at the minute the light at the end of the tunnel is probably a train. ",5.790869565217393,5.0880128695652225,4.989260869565218,92.06443478260871,67.04347826086956,8.229565217391304,28.18260869565217,6.742157984588678,0.9941430434782608,704,18,163,4,10,209,117,184,0.09,0.8640000000000001,0.046,-0.797,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,13,8,2,0,15,0,16,6,4,0,3,34,24,10,0,4,6,2,1,2,0,2,2,2,2,0,10,13,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,5,4,13,4,24,15,6,34,1,0,0,0,16,17,1,3,18,108,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544076638269522,0.09126146593662288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533479018627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155109853098958,0.1010939113033208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036730859494775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869086326642606,0.11317751030218542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328214990253007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776953286538943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470233023068022,0.0999518467026268,0.1382680985399344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288354315823093,0.0,0.33885290988857913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914030631551072,0.0,0.3009924173738404,0.1327964178818919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712877022497174,0.15324023487249508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377155080162295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525704148314811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065415750965024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084773759626162,0.0,0.1125334733981498,0.0,0.1432144551647518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5664439631681158,0.0,0.0,0.10894038375646538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337036444208278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251491625056799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669311071176301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768967705153358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052378776352522,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommysdiary,2019/01/15,"Mommy Blogging I recently started blogging. I am a mom of 3, married to my highschool sweet heart and my life is complete chaos. I figured I would share my life experiences with the world. It is unedited, raw, real things that happen in my life. Please take the time to read. Thank you so much!

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parenting,Throwingawaylater321,2019/01/15,"My son used the N word and I need advice on the best way to handle this situation My son is 7 years old and in 2nd grade. Today I got a call from the principal that he used the N word to refer to another child and also made another insult comparing her skin color to that of human waste. 

Suffice it to say, I was absolutely shocked to receive this phone call. We absolutely do not say those words nor any insults like that in this household, not even in jest. However, he goes to his dads every weekend where I just learned a few days ago that he had been watching YouTube every weekend unsupervised. 

There had been complaints from his stepmom and his teachers about his potty mouth the last two weeks and then I receive this phone call. It’s pretty obvious where the language is coming from. His dad now understands the seriousness of the matter and has banned YouTube except for supervised, educational/kid friendly videos. 

My question is: aside from grounding the crap out of my son, spanking him (I know this is controversial but this is the first spanking he’s received in over a year, it’s not something I hand out lightly), and educating him on the reason why the N word is such a terrible word, what can I do to make sure my son truly understands why what he did today was so awful? What educational materials would you suggest? How should I further talk to him and how often should we talk about it? 

I understand I should have educated him on this subject sooner, and I know they’ve touched on it at school, but I just didn’t know how to bring it up to him. I know this is white privilege on my part and I can’t imagine the kind of conversation that little girls parents are having to have with her over what my son said to her. 

I feel awful for her, for her family and for the other black children that overheard him. I’m also afraid he will now be singled out for this and I’m not sure he deserves it, as he is only 7 and doesn’t understand the weight of the issue. 

Please help me, as I am lost in this part of parenting. ",5.527750000000001,6.016391275,6.1374999999999975,79.5575,67.5,9.1,31.0,9.065960079200117,2.468525,1610,60,316,27,25,525,201,400,0.092,0.8370000000000001,0.071,-0.8029,3,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,1,0,3,18,15,3,1,20,2,33,5,4,8,3,66,54,25,0,5,9,9,5,1,1,5,0,3,0,4,29,20,1,1,14,3,0,5,8,8,0,2,12,13,44,7,51,36,5,43,0,1,4,0,60,22,1,2,16,221,73,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724195666413016,0.08821136743637585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915939138874355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676715598665474,0.20869397853336874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044316852373527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048385778130981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857207607139448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417699568014805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657267252951848,0.0,0.16768627274810685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938110398675802,0.0,0.05031624787313917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464484067233323,0.0,0.0,0.07688271009686051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958882223957893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670078361169902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386465471571622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036264154700154,0.21875673039112786,0.08111554665205592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04861652764191847,0.09973714825058408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862908306488264,0.0,0.0,0.094160643043469,0.06642502040909888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378687340899964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442108492164376,0.0,0.0,0.07568334615185349,0.0,0.0,0.2209925581287051,0.21552355729781109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092342728567812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123946044143674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147619372499344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231489073248433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465868247034427,0.15827184369710914,0.0,0.10071143802167096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185563665292857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660918511420382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18757772987349086,0.0,0.0,0.15996792264911494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886514457612308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720874631975908,0.4143819290962255,0.0,0.17189280290480385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898797905443053,0.0798225091307446,0.1211787848463072,0.0,0.0,0.17958817050400352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069045655624286,0.0,0.0,0.12816490698190985
parenting,newlywise,2019/01/15,"Guide-parents? Our daughter is 5 and we elected not to baptize her. We asked my Brother and Sister-in-law very informally to do it when she was born but nothing ever came out of it. We still think they would be the best guide-parents should something happen to my husband and I and would like to ask them again. 
I am not familiar with what to do when asking.  Should we invite them to dinner and have our daughter present them with something and ask them or is there any other ideas?
Thanks in advance. ",4.650306122448979,5.9052152551020445,4.5597959183673495,87.30663265306124,69.91836734693878,6.416326530612245,29.306122448979593,6.18269132825596,1.2766163265306123,397,15,77,2,7,122,65,98,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.9447,2,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,6,0,5,2,6,3,0,0,1,0,12,1,0,0,1,26,20,10,0,4,4,4,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,14,1,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,17,3,11,13,1,11,1,0,0,0,22,2,0,1,8,62,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884768003935246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7085241976236073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988395182846153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21670586675086234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138856779422718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754975353961127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138911951901464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256660864007717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181803808412752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917301091074753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131284555910876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444066282832427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121406216957869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563345134033072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691914105765161,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,punkaus,2019/01/15,"Father seeking advice Hello,

I am seeking help to as some well known gadgets, books or anything to help my 3yr  old daughter to increase her  knowledge and most things.

So my daughter is 3yrs old and 6months picks up things pretty quick, speaks two languages(English and Japanese).

If I left something important out please let me know and I will edit to make sure to include it.

Thank you in advance for your help, advice and insights. ",6.023461538461536,8.081050064102563,4.759487179487183,84.09384615384619,67.58974358974359,6.2256410256410275,33.51282051282051,6.42735559955562,2.065651282051282,347,16,57,2,6,101,60,78,0.0,0.725,0.275,0.9666,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,17,7,9,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,9,3,10,5,3,9,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,4,3,39,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988105711162366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679241742368402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4103317927563036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214616043275744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22171202641163684,0.20866540074417425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621178159371705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282537491302784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22399684373869247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20760260500312605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570955270556331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923243426649616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787123448305998,0.0,0.0,0.2711370860772441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993371841086003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347464468334287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,061411Mar,2019/01/15,"Help , Kindergarten son is struggling! What is the best way to help  a 5 year old boy learn his numbers , frequency words, and shapes? I have tried flashcards and they seem to help a bit but he gets feed up quickly (not sure if it is because he is tired from full-time school or just boring for him). ",2.9108474576271206,4.7129109322033935,2.612000000000002,97.35291525423729,75.27118644067797,5.397966101694917,23.664406779661018,5.6839178017228535,0.1381294915254241,231,7,51,1,5,68,50,59,0.132,0.696,0.172,0.1759,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,3,0,5,2,0,0,1,11,7,5,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,3,3,28,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876028906103426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733130994727099,0.0,0.2843303086594408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606785003482366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5236973203507633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732853568854366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26357666464441304,0.0,0.2370925281413946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27226583294135104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454592714235037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993346063271726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768199740108802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672317340647708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771321793401575
parenting,RH78100,2019/01/15,"Parents of Reddit: What tools did you use (apps, websites, et.) information about your child’s health? Parents of Reddit, where did you find health/wellness information for your child? What were your favorite tools/apps/websites? How did you decide it was worth calling the ER/your pediatrician when your child showed symptoms of being sick?

I’d love to hear any and all of your experiences!",5.176260504201681,8.304523264705884,4.336806722689079,81.27205882352945,73.70588235294117,6.238655462184874,27.36134453781513,7.447530270364453,1.6756991596638655,314,12,52,4,7,93,46,68,0.046,0.809,0.14400000000000002,0.7936,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,8,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,2,1,8,9,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,1,7,3,1,2,0,0,0,1,18,1,0,0,1,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660835753895464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501723267702096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396569487109544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22392550248976845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5208469494247172,0.27613273335014543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221122007215822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5440868691480635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546487417739337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21160128140399087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xxOneFootForwardxx,2019/01/15,"I'm tired of cooking dinner. It's pointless. My kids don't really eat what I cook, my husband never seems happy or impressed.  Yes, I said impressed. Yes, that matters to the house chef. ""Yum this is good!"" Has been said maybe 3 times to me, between all 3. 

I'm not crying. I'm just tired and need some solid advice. The family feels cared for when there is food on the table when they get home from work and school. I work from home. It is stressful to make this timeframe daily. When dinner is not prepared, chaos occurs. The kids act out, my husband is grumpy. Even if I'm just late. I believe it's because that security of me being there for them when they get home has not happened, I've abandoned them in a way. BUT THEY DO NOT LIKE MY COOKING. 

I'm keto. So I play with the menu to fit my lifestyle. Today was keto fried cod. It was delicious! Mayo and egg then dipped in parmesan a d almond flour with all kinds of seasoning. The mayo was a game changer! Cooked in coconut oil prevent from burning with the parmesan. 

Anyways. The advice I need: how can I smoothly transition from cooking dinner to not cooking dinner without horrible repercussions? I was thinking snack spread. Then maybe sandwich stuff later. 

I'm just tired of it. I'm done doing something for the family every day and feeling like crap later. 
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parenting,Dainty_B,2019/01/15,"My 8 year old suddenly won't sleep Sorry for any typos, I'm using my phone.

My 8 year old has suddenly stopped going to sleep. It's been happening for about 4 weeks now.  She goes to bed as usual (around 8, 8/30) but for some reason will NOT sleep.

She shouts me all the time, asking me stupid questions, can she have a drink, needs the toilet, etc. She keeps crying and saying she's worried about going to sleep, or she's worried about something scary she heard, or she's worried about something her dad told her. She suddenly gets a cough and a runny/blocked nose which only seems to happen at bedtime.

She has never been like this until a few weeks ago.  As far as I'm aware nothing has changed to cause this. I have bought a book on dealing with worries and anxiety that we have worked through together but it hasn't helped so far. I also bought her a ""worry monster"" 

At first I thought she was genuinely worrying and getting herself worked up. But now I'm starting to think she is just using anything possible to keep herself awake and me in there talking to her. I'm really losing my patience with her and have snapped at her tonight because she is still awake after being in bed for over 2 hours, coughing and sniffling. I've tried being nice, tried reading with her, did the worry book with her, I've got mad at her, banned electronics after 6. Nothing seems to be helping...",5.525620915032679,6.073469444444449,5.507080610021788,83.86774509803922,67.51851851851852,7.982570806100218,31.067538126361647,7.724431198458867,1.9950479302832247,1090,41,210,11,17,341,151,270,0.19,0.7929999999999999,0.017,-0.9941,0,0,3,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,4,12,5,2,0,9,0,20,8,5,4,2,37,46,18,0,1,7,1,0,1,0,2,2,3,2,0,6,13,1,4,6,4,2,2,4,3,0,1,10,4,35,2,38,31,4,38,0,1,0,0,36,12,0,6,25,134,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708677757401519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954367084066017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913730435345255,0.0,0.06652587455151157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156251275717164,0.07741482947582315,0.08129795411111773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301137353499096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933417395859608,0.09199451772469848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552393573978336,0.0,0.08965424956304806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518988702026238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969858835395074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739700357825468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908683609353486,0.0,0.09884528855615898,0.0,0.06955164641093924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380084090597104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657791098173703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564028787460355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459206679536666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04248535717867229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972885009853566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448139807450717,0.06707063950930031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688522676447132,0.0,0.1825044817086177,0.0,0.0,0.06613870117219467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803685777670697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741760954646247,0.0,0.08698577188037676,0.0,0.05571023688326386,0.08941166488654002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915586259394696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833431201207895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481001670092325,0.0,0.0,0.13389555982758528,0.0,0.09734710648051616,0.06155232011825616,0.0,0.06944815613042485,0.07270432543402246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989695336671807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557218911543149,0.0,0.06903830372254884,0.05070838069652209,0.0,0.0,0.08309614572790094,0.0,0.11808330340258574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502149059604358,0.09577661995537744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139511724749073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661909092467574,0.618200622272568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120016610606886
parenting,MentalWalls,2019/01/15,"Is bouldering the cure for lonely parents? Hey guys hello there,

I wrote a piece after my experience with climber friends, parenthood and bouldering. Anybody feels the same about this? Cheers!

[https://mentalwalls.org/mental-health-blog/parental-depression-bouldering?utm\_source=reddit&utm\_medium=social&utm\_campaign=190116](https://mentalwalls.org/mental-health-blog/parental-depression-bouldering?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=190116)",45.26322916666667,58.58080553125001,21.1525,-47.09083333333331,9.3125,8.383333333333333,33.458333333333336,8.344100000000001,4.4398583333333335,435,9,22,5,6,94,30,32,0.067,0.72,0.213,0.7563,4,2,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,2,4,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7269450045136098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640729068804839,0.0,0.0,0.08480973194925374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958839958191268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16607986205560862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565799927420991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33806639028390234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862452031889361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34196085440609875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Raudonis,2019/01/15,"Single dad wanting to hang out with a friend’s wife Hey y’all,

I started attending a baby group with a bunch of moms when my son was a baby (I was in school on the GI Bill). Five years later, a lot of us are still friends.

Two of the parents I bonded with the most. I’ve hung out with the Dad a couple times, but I’m actually interested in platonically hanging out with the mom one on one. We really click and have a lot of stuff in common, and generally talk more when our kids are playing than the Dad and I.

Is this too inappropriate? I’d never, ever make a “move” but she’s cool as hell. Thoughts?",1.23952380952381,3.1274754126984163,3.5827777777777783,88.07750000000001,80.5873015873016,6.422222222222223,20.81746031746032,7.492282038375204,0.568774603174603,466,13,105,7,12,161,85,126,0.052000000000000005,0.857,0.091,0.4039,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,3,1,0,0,5,6,1,0,14,1,6,0,0,1,2,23,11,8,0,1,2,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,12,0,0,1,1,1,4,1,1,0,4,3,2,10,5,20,8,6,22,1,0,1,0,19,8,1,3,10,73,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.18553623899697547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103715839757241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17198049058086887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29378284292789186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32327785297540634,0.0,0.0,0.12691105264592628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4453482004917729,0.0,0.20207459957329207,0.0,0.0,0.1466374366448011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25766955307356576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111132070889679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121800036367682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241837690221372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345726611184278,0.0,0.15183543304759028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21764959101047485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281664445074358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093936724393406,0.11086441125577222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572616531919864,0.0,0.2286990176933465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214165724092896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243536514678555
parenting,TeslasAndComicbooks,2019/01/15,"1 week old hates his crib and bassinet. Looking for options. We are first time parents running on fumes. Every time we get our 1 week old on a flat surface, he throws an endless fit and when he does sleep it’s short lived and ends with his back soaked in sweat (his doctor wasn’t concerned about that). 

He sleeps like a champ on his rocker, when being held or in his car seat. 

I’ve read on a lot of parenting forums that the first few weeks letting them “cry it out” isn’t really an option and so they’ve resorted to letting them sleep in a rock n play for the first 4 weeks or so until habits are more easily formed. 

Any experience here? Thanks in advance from a tired parent. ",3.709927007299272,4.872246598540151,4.0508102189781034,90.42147080291971,72.06569343065694,6.93985401459854,23.918978102189783,7.1686216300943375,0.7262239416058391,532,14,114,5,10,166,96,137,0.07200000000000001,0.812,0.116,0.7264,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,2,5,7,6,2,0,9,0,7,6,4,0,0,14,12,11,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,0,3,0,4,2,2,0,3,2,1,10,4,17,7,4,32,0,0,1,0,16,12,0,5,17,66,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731191517473948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872659977518793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410341216200921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314160859623035,0.11235793005357864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371844371147545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817697752958504,0.0,0.0,0.12559338250480798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32763408276696904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670802525478283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676190168028872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625819019731293,0.0,0.06272653011002823,0.0,0.11337372496624785,0.0,0.10781811976200772,0.0,0.0,0.10915547776044678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694545515756556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276970309455044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842814563266935,0.0,0.08225210009647993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385458374200248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182073930336986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973444875204733,0.14756932650580284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119577654188938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gohkeechan,2019/01/15,"If you are even considering marriage with someone you are not affectionate for to “start a family” and have a child ""for your parents"" For the love of God, DON'T DO IT. To no one in particular:

If you are even considering marriage with someone you are not affectionate for to “start a family” and have a child ""for your parents""

For the love of God, DON'T DO IT. 

That is a human being. 
A life. A child that will grow up to be an adult. 

What gives you the right to bring a life into this world for the sake of ""pleasing your parents""? Into a loveless family? You may live with guilt, but he or she may have a lifetime of struggle because of YOUR DECISION. 

Please, don't forget, a child is a human being. 
The ""home"" from which they see the world will shape it for them. 
The world is already cruel and unforgiving, please don't knowingly bring them into a loveless family. One that you know will not have a happy ending. Into a childhood that will scar them for life. Don't destroy another life just to save your own.

You may have chosen to forfeit love, please do not deny them of the privilege of knowing that they were born of love, and not obligation. To strip them of what could've been a safe haven, the ability to explore the world not only in the dark, but also in the light. ",4.279084444444444,5.494238224000004,5.0722666666666685,83.43457777777778,70.75999999999998,8.115555555555558,26.288888888888888,8.515128840125781,1.6909822222222224,996,31,199,16,18,323,107,250,0.067,0.7390000000000001,0.194,0.9885,3,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,13,7,0,4,14,2,2,29,0,32,8,0,0,0,34,45,10,0,2,12,3,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,7,12,11,0,1,5,0,0,4,12,4,0,2,2,2,21,10,39,33,1,23,0,0,1,4,39,14,0,6,5,156,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736208486722882,0.08504966195990014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151935284784573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483119663773818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491342403323207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419631168134282,0.0,0.0,0.14048899582515087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40103683027321213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202253647721997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321368957275367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667973491768767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534484590144905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004782723498849,0.0,0.0,0.09391077106622286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839473560505213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413374536357193,0.0808854940955057,0.0,0.0,0.3542739551936218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669702692297071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082403329263006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474878052279264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18022342162936825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055299657390225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111822097172699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mattjeast,2019/01/15,"Anybody have any free online coloring book resources? Trying to find some pages to print out to bring home. Just looking for cheap resources to print out and bring home to color after school/work. My daughter loves to color, and we've given her an app on her iPad to color as well as coloring books/blank construction paper, but I want to limit the screen time as she can turn into a beast when it comes time to put the screen away.",8.358571428571429,6.869667714285715,7.349999999999998,79.77000000000002,62.33333333333334,9.82857142857143,30.523809523809533,8.07648339933343,1.9932238095238093,344,8,66,3,4,105,61,84,0.0,0.909,0.091,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,12,10,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,6,0,1,1,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,8,5,4,19,9,2,13,0,0,8,1,5,5,0,1,4,38,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446941858128626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410463178069613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221003495583684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344909511263729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.514700668485044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154455623812412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315551788898183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25791339738780145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25965215033874545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992040910232737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741872200132164,0.2790633202539617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132557978053887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306780146371141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677854373344865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Desid_erata,2019/01/15,"Ex refuses to take our son (2yo) overnight. Is this reasonable? My ex moved out two weeks ago, and we have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Last weekend was supposed to be the first that the kids would stay overnight at his new apartment.

3 hours before I was supposed to drop them off, Ex texts me to say ""5yo can stay the night but you need to pick up 2yo by 7pm"" 

I asked him why, and he said ""he's too little"". That might be true but he's been staying the night with Grandma and Grandpa since birth with little to no problem. When I brought that up, he made another excuse about ""it's inconsiderate to my roommate"". I had asked him before moving out if the roommate was ok with 2 kids visiting, and he said yes. 

Am I in the wrong for thinking this isn't fair to my son? It has always felt like Ex has favored our daughter way more than our son. He was colicky until 12 weeks and it has felt like he doesn't like our son that much ever since.",3.011196519216824,3.825133096446706,3.7943038433647587,92.92204314720814,73.36548223350253,6.6437998549673685,25.2389412617839,6.5431188927421005,0.6120575779550399,728,22,169,5,14,232,117,197,0.084,0.795,0.121,0.8307,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,1,1,1,4,8,0,0,8,2,19,0,0,3,2,28,30,11,0,4,3,10,2,3,0,2,0,3,0,2,9,12,0,1,4,1,0,4,3,2,0,2,12,5,19,6,23,14,2,37,0,0,0,0,37,10,0,2,21,95,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831029494839406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166833194587337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281224122571637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284543644342019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20794214738077949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052400597761523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346349622213736,0.0,0.0,0.1039311363775509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203283511268526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995976940173976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908135656306112,0.2449244413340269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561511080671648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296197717041861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597282305188073,0.08982058498963813,0.0905991852808864,0.0,0.1180077585629356,0.0,0.2293260982311679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25642678115951456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691526103097286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562730082198326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23245325666636305,0.0971670124330878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214662976620276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.390701255927691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918684776598162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829169483977172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935772328947007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698536092792748,0.19602007674821795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025363443413734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679725099110044,0.13359093638689384,0.0,0.15736723373273293
parenting,faraamstuckathome,2019/01/15,"Being a stay at home Dad is making me resentful. I’ve been medically retired from the military for a few years now. I couldn’t find work and when I did, I was disqualified from that job because of my medical history. My wife is the provider and has been since I’ve been discharged. I’ve been going to school but haven’t been able to find a job with my degree. Now we have another kid on the way and my wife has been telling me I should continue school and be a stay at home dad for another year. I absolutely hate this idea. I’m sick of being stuck at home like a housemaid. The idea of staying around the house to clean it, take care of a newborn all day and go to school is not my idea of being a father and man. 

Ive has discussions about this with my wife with nothing to show for it. She tells me school and being a stay at home dad is best. It’s only making me resent my family. Never in my life did I ever think I’d be stuck at home for years doing nothing with my time besides being a house maid. I don’t know what I’m going to do. My second kid is not even born yet and I already feel resentment towards her because I feel like I’m stuck not working because “it’s the best for the family” that I stay at home to take care of the kids. ",3.2070356394129966,3.756343667924529,4.712421383647801,87.49873689727465,72.69811320754721,8.0020964360587,25.28825995807128,8.167268648758528,1.2645178197064983,972,28,220,14,18,327,120,265,0.099,0.79,0.11,0.7882,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,4,8,10,4,0,17,0,32,4,0,2,3,34,52,10,0,2,4,7,2,2,0,1,4,0,8,5,9,14,0,0,9,1,0,3,7,4,0,1,12,2,28,6,35,31,4,32,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,0,15,144,37,8,0.07887695444663394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704268063158432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541872829129473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021721234295818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424797796373706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165552994740742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084062386357525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05086911029044648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209748450572721,0.07134872108784514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487163455662218,0.0,0.0797651163110431,0.056349712017036,0.0,0.0,0.1441842147754184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344827727964518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778746625697334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4747200992624094,0.0,0.0,0.18202683041758685,0.0,0.26712744190307003,0.0,0.0,0.1565464127491024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0433487113533034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571312559432981,0.07707059142752272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530195916543453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589204666570131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060834769879242995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136913022954132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998947818835935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193107557584582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524783181021238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4203616926368836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861130677153887,0.0,0.13788386965771207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050541167497574334,0.0,0.0,0.04599378644949722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626088550197156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484672451428594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238251774329273
parenting,TiredMama90,2019/01/15,"DAE get sick of their child climbing over them? Sometimes my kid will get super clingy & just want to sit all over me. Up, down, up, down.

Drives me MENTAL! He won’t stay still and it stresses me out.

Safe to say, I don’t enjoy parenting (single parenting).",1.198235294117648,3.661287549019608,2.0700980392156865,95.36044117647059,85.27450980392156,4.968627450980391,18.303921568627448,6.42735559955562,-0.11634901960784386,199,5,42,2,6,62,42,51,0.105,0.701,0.194,0.6476,2,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,2,2,2,4,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,7,3,10,4,2,12,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,1,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975740515936798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869777941683007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27677412965164033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6099139754309405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184060182964812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716275583384785,0.0,0.0,0.2927313962282668,0.21932913117630692,0.0,0.31460101720508044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199072744512127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lloydj20,2019/01/15,"Beautiful boy- children with drug addictions Last night, I bawled my eyes out after watching the movie beautiful boy with Steve Carrell. It’s a true story about Nick Sheff. The father and son have an incredible relationship until the boy turns 18 and becomes addicted to crystal meth, and other drugs. You can sense the fathers pain and frustration throughout the movie as he loses touch with his son. During the movie, my four year old came out of his room and I just gave him the biggest hug in the world and told him how much I love him. After watching the movie, I realized that there is not a lot you can do to keep your child away from drugs as every individual has their own free will. Steve Carrell (the father of the boy) was the perfect father to this child growing up and was unable to stop it. As somebody who has defeated addiction myself, and is surrounded by addicted family members, I’m terrified of what they will eventually be exposed to someday. My brother and mother are alcoholics, my other brother likes opiates, and my cousin does crystal meth. I don’t allow these ppl to come around high and I limit my children’s contact with them but at family gatherings, my children really enjoy their uncles’ company and look up to them. I hope someday they can get their life together. I’ve watched enough loved ones suffer and cannot even fathom going through this with my children. I guess the takeaway here is cherish every single moment and take nothing for granted. Every moment is precious!! ",6.889823505816281,8.024785252707584,6.727190132370641,74.24127055756121,64.70397111913357,9.332450862414762,33.80044123545929,9.444778638647367,3.285422944243882,1213,51,198,22,18,383,169,277,0.067,0.7879999999999999,0.145,0.9767,0,0,6,0,1,0,27.0,0,3,7,4,7,16,1,0,16,0,19,14,1,2,2,38,34,20,0,1,3,10,1,1,0,2,10,0,1,10,10,24,1,3,1,0,1,4,3,5,0,2,5,6,32,12,34,26,5,27,0,3,5,3,44,13,0,3,11,139,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5144943326995994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609255185761956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503372041233908,0.0,0.0,0.11085296138588216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030771379267314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494605014076316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163562001267618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325148983768527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4104834623476223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191243093584185,0.0,0.07792950530468454,0.0,0.2982281915679981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224558700031309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164349958163773,0.0,0.0670549071320175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299763236625696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466007067110665,0.0,0.1171880207818743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487254206780347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617540497756824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333792615393143,0.057642639759565024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907962430081008,0.13199761959073755,0.0,0.10030859145710544,0.21297630710733687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673424843743435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072309749187333,0.0,0.11321200581087315,0.0,0.12380783394845794,0.0,0.07995125460127807,0.0,0.12554681626504585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558569184382614,0.0,0.0,0.1266742151203554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864267404722113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871177320693922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274193067173363,0.0,0.0,0.1283363120655606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597995909323707
parenting,whatisupinternet,2019/01/15,"Is buying The 5-Step System to Better Toddler Sleep or any ""sleepsite"" product worth it? Weigh your thoughts in, please! 
Background: I have a 2 year old that has had sleep issues from birth. Newborn to 7 months he was up every two hours. We tried sleep training, it sort of worked. Every sleep regression hits hard. We made it through the 18 month old, but in December when he hit 2... it's been a nightmare. 

He doesn't talk much yet, and he did recently start daycare. 

He won't say in the crib, throws himself out. Cry it out doesn't work, co sleeping doesn't work, me laying down in his crib with him doesn't work. 

I am full of sleep deprivation anger and willing to now pay for something.... anything to work. I am googling how to make a toddler sleep and it's full of sites that sell guides/products for sleep. 

Is it worth it? Have you tried it? Please weigh-in with your opinions, anecdotal evidence, or condolences.  All is welcome. 

Obligatory: on my mobile sorry for any formatting  issues or typos/autocorrect oddities.",2.552892133772964,5.290388709844559,2.8106382477626006,90.53689943476212,81.59067357512953,5.788883655204899,24.834903438530393,7.1686216300943375,1.1686911917098444,803,31,154,11,22,245,121,193,0.092,0.8340000000000001,0.073,-0.684,0,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,2,3,0,6,4,4,1,0,6,0,18,9,8,3,1,20,24,9,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,11,9,1,0,1,0,5,1,5,2,0,1,6,2,13,2,24,14,4,26,0,1,0,0,17,12,0,5,12,88,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798715391739887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743912607366946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322685950952707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336822755102128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857244049324926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429821268618252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267294836628208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19643911823361496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890429653013153,0.06281478754022582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502249614040665,0.0,0.0691768677707444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974914941290544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20659467168699225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291580997820374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483484516981738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7533713303433968,0.0,0.0,0.07244543783262991,0.0,0.10534111451943316,0.06660691043561517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563679327886981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470763252855409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778013888943282,0.0,0.09192540264979672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425421833188336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060599540298211935
parenting,HistoryNerdi21,2019/01/15,"My 18 Month Old Son is a Picky Eater. Help! He only eats chicken nuggets, crackers, cheese (white cheese only), bread, yogurt, applesauce, fruit packets, and fries. I've done research on whether or not its a sensory issue, but he seems to only have problems with food. Any suggestions? ",4.482399999999998,7.347006440000005,3.8859999999999992,85.01300000000002,74.6,6.4,30.0,7.554174236665415,2.1322000000000005,222,10,37,3,5,66,45,50,0.076,0.888,0.036000000000000004,-0.4574,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,0,8,4,4,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,2,2,15,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18017088579501905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711295187299885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271103675497198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320371123937784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17758626061289334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765325179414864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21147563279797074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780139751929932,0.0,0.0,0.6045051514846747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25351545835399697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24119490699524684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maximus-Festivus,2019/01/15,"Parenting advice needed   

I have been blessed to father three beautiful healthy boys aged 10, 5 and 3. I did not have a stable childhood and strived to provide my kids with a stable and safe childhood and have been very lucky to be in a financial situation where my wife can stay at home and take care of them. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a template on how to be a father, as my dad was never around and I don’t know how to have relationship with my kids. My wife on the other side is very tight with her family and she has a bond with our kids. Am the disciplinarian in the house, while I feel like she is focused on being the “loved one”. Am biased towards teaching them independence, focus, responsibility and general life lessons, while she is of the attitude; “if you messed up your shoes kicking rocks, that’s cool I will just get you new pair from amazon. Am here on the hand; “if you kick your shoes with rocks, you will have shoes with holes”. This is a real recent scenario we had arguments over btw. 

I feel like there’s a whole psychology behind this, as my wife also grew up in a dysfunctional family where, without getting too deep into it, her mom and dad were always having issues and her mom manipulated her kids by overspoiling them and vilifying her dad. In my opinion, my wife is being selfish here and cares more about being the loved one, than working as a team to raise well-rounded children. She never says no and her over spoiling the kids, is causing me to fall on the other end of the strictness spectrum to counter balance, with my concern being if I adopt her ways, we will end up raising immature, undisciplined, narcissistic kids. I have also spanked my 10 year old up until he was around 8 yrs old, as he has been the chief trouble maker in the house. 

As you can imagine, this approach caused my kids to gravitate towards mommy and am seen as the villain, especially by the 10 year old. He does not talk to me directly and often talks through his mom as the intermediary. Over the last year, I have tried to tone down some of my disciplinarian ways and tried to soften up in the hopes of building a relationship with him, buying him things, taking him to activities/hobbies and just trying to connect with him one-on-one. But I feel it’s too little too late. Just last night he did something that for some reason troubled me, we were out with two cars and he thought I was driving one car and whispered to his mom I should drive my two other sons while he rides with her, as soon as he realized I was driving the other car instead, he jumped into the front seat to ride with his mom and brothers.

I have tried talking to my wife to help me balance things out, but she is not changing her ways. I feel like there is nothing more I can do with the 10 year old and thinking of cutting my losses, taking it as a lesson learned and trying to right my wrongs and focusing my energy with the little ones. Any advice, recommendations? ",9.710018972562755,6.979577196147115,9.20853984238179,71.41745658201987,60.75131348511384,11.82840046701693,38.3275685931115,9.827888789773867,3.5352433741973144,2333,83,449,33,24,751,257,571,0.044,0.88,0.075,0.9274,1,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,4,7,3,5,22,20,2,0,33,1,52,7,4,8,2,92,71,46,0,6,12,18,6,3,0,4,1,2,1,9,14,46,0,2,13,3,1,13,9,8,0,7,15,10,73,12,88,46,5,79,1,1,1,2,80,36,0,9,29,328,87,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111388609764727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115483074375892,0.0600795376073684,0.0,0.0,0.0491012167928774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855379076317702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723364269566092,0.14834685789317892,0.07638229046692943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318623375651068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279026796480402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361350681198161,0.0,0.14603410944836034,0.15474772167304213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544725175893982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839683971865762,0.0,0.07242652985327773,0.07171489424730554,0.0,0.16662751403811246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536224875517908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03968144692178728,0.11771184377277055,0.08144929150825597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050999842142938186,0.1058257265609214,0.14473481469062932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033391330854122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228224399168717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053538373799403,0.1113763992792078,0.06973510268977037,0.0,0.06775859148729617,0.0,0.06928171471864203,0.0,0.3030639363771877,0.0,0.24463659896357334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017403121554298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218399430210774,0.0,0.07423776902590246,0.0712927694629418,0.15504021453055933,0.0,0.061661847620255984,0.0,0.057419543194406474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116035562992532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05558619032923609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695988957259743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286533533666306,0.17410459427986244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959382991640928,0.046265427340490536,0.0,0.05732193503161391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451089859175743,0.0,0.14106569248952164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915177413330727,0.0,0.17193659601897673,0.0,0.0,0.0649200948690637,0.0,0.0,0.08061322161551134,0.0,0.06960210889604804,0.0,0.052565394226043984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894377268757502,0.0,0.18598811362906428
parenting,ghost_zebra,2019/01/15,"I'm afraid of who my daughter is becoming. Advice, similar stories? Sorry in advance for the long read.

My daughter, turning 13 this month, is really worrying me. She is a sweet girl to the world and all I've ever heard from her teachers is that she is very sweet, maybe talks too much and has troubles turning in her work on time. 
She had a laptop last year but she kept breaking rules and getting caught going on it at night, she was also caught having a boyfriend 2 years older than her that she met on minecraft who lives in a different state. I saw msgs where she was telling her friends they were going to meet, that he was coming here and when im gone she will have him over.. the whole thing made me uncomfortable for obvious reasons. Ive always worked for her to be open with me about everything and have supported her thru everything, her saying she is gay, bi, pansexual now.. you do you, kid. But, i didnt want her involved with this boy. 
Looking into things further ive found she lies to me a lot. She swears like a salor, she jokes about drugs and sex and whatnot. I do know for certain she hasnt done any of these things as of now but i fear the path she is taking. 
After seeing all the lies and poor behavior, i took the laptop away. I told her to get it back, she will need to be caught up in school and show me she can make responsible choices. 
She made it clear that she is not a fan of me anymore. I sent her to a week long summer camp looking to get her around different people doing outdoor activities and she had the time of her life (yay!). Then 7th grade started. In the beginning she said she wants to get straight A's and do good so she can get into a good college. I was so damn proud. But, as soon as assignments started coming out, she wasnt turning them in. I ask her daily if she has any work and she will say no. 
The school sends out an email every friday that has all missing assignments, so every friday i will ask why the email shows she has all these. She will have an excuse for every one. ""Oh i forgot about that one, its in my bag"", ""i turned those in, the teacher just didnt update it yet"" ""i lost that and the teacher said she has to get me a copy and she hasnt"" and so on. I give her the benefit of the doubt too much. 
Well, before winter break i found notes she wrote about how i fail to see how hard she is trying and put too much pressure on her ect ect. She is failing a class and has poor grades in all besides art class... all i ask is that she turns her work in. So, i made an appt with the school counselor and went in to talk to her. She assured me that my daughter is such a sweet girl and is always with her friends smiling. We called in my daughter to discuss the missing work, i had told her if its not all turned in by break, she would be grounded over break and at home she was saying its impossible and shell never get it all done ect (about 14 assignments). So during this meeting, the counselor told her ways she can help, that she can come in during art to work on other assignments, she called a teacher about if she can retake a test she failed, she assured my daughter that im there because i love her and want her to succeed. She seemed to accept this and seemed to be motivated to work hard she stayed after school that week and seemed really upbeat. The last day she came home just beaming proud, told me she did it and she feels a huge weight off her shoulders. She was so happy. She let me know one of her teachers wasnt there that day though so that teacher can't update the work she handed in. 
I trusted her. 
I gave the laptop back, with the clear understanding that no more internet boyfriend (whom she claims she doesnt have interest in anymore anyways). And smart choices. 
For xmas she got an ipod. 
I caught her on it last night when she was supposed to be sleeping so i took it. I went thru it this morning and i do not like the way she acts towards her friends. She is acting like shes 16. I saw her telling her friend she still swears. I see her bad mouthing me, even lying aboht me to her friends to make me look worse. She told someone once i have to hide the scissors and razerblades to keep her from cutting.. Her whole life is consumed by being social.  Even without any electronics, all she ever wants is to be with and talk to her friends. (And shes been grounded so, so much. Ive also tried positive reinforcement too but nothing gets us anywhere.)
The most recent school email showed still, a ton of missing assignments. I brought it up to her and more excises of it not being updated ect. So i emailed 2 of the teachers who list missing assignments and asked for a current list as she says she has everything turned in. One teacher told me the 2 assignments she is missing and the other assured me she updates it every thursday and Friday so it is always current. She told me that before break she gave every student a list of all the missing assignments and gave them each the missing assignments they needed to do. She says if it was turned in, she either didnt complete it and got it back or didnt put her name on it and its in the no name bin. I asked my daughter and she swears she got it all in or forgot about some. I told her today she is to check the no name bin and see if its in there then. 
I think im going to set up meetings with her teachers this week so we can all sit face to face and have no room for lies or excuses. 
She constantly thinks im too hard on her and ive made it so clear that i only ask that she turn in her work, make smart choices and clean up after herself. Im not forcing study time for tests or a lot of rules i see some of her friends complain about. I just want her to handle her responsibilities. 

When i look thru her msgs with friends, they have group bames such as ""drugs for free"". One of her friends has the nickname  ""drugs"".. this particular friend ive known since they were 4, and am friends with the mom. Mom is an amazing mom and very active in the communtiy and i know her kids are good kids. I know they think these things are funny and they try to act cool, but i can see in the way MY daughter talks and behaves that she is not on a good path. 
I have tried to get her into sports, shes hated it all and doesnt try in them and flat out quit basketball last year. 
Ive tried having heart to heart talks with her, about how calling eachother thots on social media ect are NOT good things to be doing, that they need to have and SHOW respect for themselves. She turns around and tells her friends about it and complains about me. 
She has friends who are really good kids and into 4h club, sports ect and i try to ask her about doing these things but she doesnt want to. 
I tried getting her to just read a book recently and it turned into a huge fight where i had to force her to read 3 chapters and it took at least an hour. Any chore i ask gets eye rolls and attitude and a mess left behind. 
She had a sleepover this weekend and asked if they could make cotton candy, my first thought was no because ill be left with a mess. Then i thought no, she can, but she needs to clean the kitchen up first (not that messy but just to have her help). She does a half assed job, still dirty dishes out and i had to call her back to finish 3x. The next day there was sugar spilt on the counter, garbage out, the sugar turned to like a syrup on the floor, sugar still in the machine.. i ran to the store to get groceries for dinner and when i got home i had no room to even put the bags, let alone a place to cook. This all had been done from them. So, i told her the kitchen needs to get clean. She got mad saying its not fair. I told her i clean up after myself. I rinse my dishes and clean up my spills, why is it fair for me to have to clean the whole kitchen after them. So, she puts the dishes in the sink and walks away. Sticky counters, huge water spills, cotton candy mess still.. i called her down again, she got super pissy with me so i texted the friends mom to come get the friend. She cleaned more this time. That night i cleaned the kitchen and got it done all the way and explained how i didnt even want to let her because i knew id be cleaning up after them and sure enough i still was. She said shes sorry. 

As of now i have her ipod and will not be giving it back until once again all her school work is caught up. All electronics will have to charge overnight in the kitchen and not bedrooms. I just know every push i give her to make good choices is making her resent me. I see her msging her friends that she cant talk to me anymore because i made her break up with the online boyfriend. Shes very emo/goth.. she is getting better about taking showers without being forced (usually), she will go days on end without brushing her teeth. I ask her daily to brush and she will look annoyed. I can smell her breath when she talks and its awful. I tell her something is rotting and she needs to floss. She rolls her eyes. (I do take her to the dr and the dentist regualrly for her check ups and cleanings). 

I just see and know other kids who are clean, who care about being clean. Who want to do good in school. Who realize they dont need to be behaving the way my daughter is behaving. 

Im no saint. I got pregnant with her at 17. I smoked pot and cigarettes as a teenager. I didnt try in school and i dropped out. I didnt have guidance from my parents or anyone that would push me to succeed. 
I am trying to be a good mom and steer her in a better path. I got my diploma a few years back and got licensed to sell insurance. Now im currently in college at 31 years old in hopes of landing a career i want, ive battled social media addiction and have deleted fb off my phone and set an ig timer to 15 mins so im hardly ever on my phone (i dont reddit very much). Ive been reading books a lot, cleaning, cooking dinners, going to school and doing homework. Trying to show her by example i guess..
I WISH i was steered towards having goals and believeing i could succeed. I wish i was raised believing college is something to strive for. Nobody batted an eye when i had 30 missing assignments and wanted to go hang out with friends all day every day. 

She is too much like me and thats what scares me. She is setting herself up to follow in my path and im doing everything i can to stop it. Im afraid im failing. I see her path. I see her choosing drugs and sex in her not so distant future. 
Im not a believer in god, but im stuck wondering, do i start taking her to church to surround her with a more wholesome crowd? I set us up with an active acct to where we go volunteer at the homeless shelter, she enjoyed thay and thought it was great to be able to help.. i want to keep doing that. 
Sorry this is so long.. i just need help.  Oh. And where we live isnt a ""troubled"" area. There are some trailer parks but its mostly nicer housing developments in a nice small-ish city. Low crime rates and mostly upper middle class people so its not like she is just growing up in a rough crowd. Shes growing up with very lucky and fortunate people. 
I have therapy tomorrow and will be asking advice there as well, im just feeling so defeated at the moment after seeing her msgs.",2.686695111687847,4.224760449059904,3.420014316543721,92.44275365436243,75.24836029733275,6.1251007329882325,23.88293110662887,6.608569300468568,0.5494154120296577,8725,265,1901,69,186,2755,649,2287,0.094,0.7559999999999999,0.15,0.9995,9,1,8,0,1,0,244.0,6,2,15,30,113,108,8,6,107,3,193,46,14,17,31,307,393,161,0,32,50,14,9,6,17,12,10,10,27,8,98,134,17,6,29,22,7,42,46,37,2,8,104,50,354,72,272,254,46,287,2,15,21,6,346,123,2,28,109,1299,452,61,0.02140612119575457,0.0,0.0,0.023335831765532958,0.0,0.04183562777470955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02217028581042669,0.0,0.034236934772852716,0.053434822930450813,0.0,0.0,0.05822758584114665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368736068951097,0.014967657657180168,0.0,0.0,0.03811197245092264,0.22013017074484625,0.0,0.04022351101966308,0.09875991527117656,0.017873217064175387,0.052195891185993284,0.02364137906718215,0.036430065004525926,0.07235210476059066,0.0,0.03786394929531479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929021544346806,0.024482899992188598,0.0218249672022637,0.0,0.0,0.07375791193054804,0.022443910805249854,0.023132412348735528,0.0,0.03418209188575079,0.0,0.0,0.08283106372223573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472968117782716,0.0,0.0,0.018732640911709973,0.08762357611917584,0.0501756292339051,0.0,0.09929721837352637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01895946970605234,0.022118245412098992,0.0,0.05655416465543485,0.058089186435380184,0.12624906242101994,0.0,0.07695376582432609,0.0,0.0,0.024087837601165292,0.02164715611709973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03641607150757351,0.0,0.04694141401584436,0.281151374306228,0.0,0.16775722229566778,0.06160410599359779,0.08515914385862704,0.16158994967211965,0.17120430606631154,0.0236003241885658,0.02358125584456644,0.0,0.0,0.022787214058086973,0.0767027200027871,0.02113411295784816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05073271336684858,0.0573922872633807,0.0,0.06441625472334292,0.02126110834731633,0.02108071744306629,0.024699789819054126,0.0,0.0,0.32371197880356545,0.0,0.021242272268100423,0.038053488141288436,0.0,0.0,0.07058546634452573,0.06979538324590859,0.0,0.0,0.046515626625305284,0.06566762769522637,0.030239552909548575,0.0627476973077948,0.0,0.03780399438834349,0.05683123094067749,0.08987875267523683,0.0,0.02336730995812428,0.05459615625147768,0.019319860129939057,0.10127494726890224,0.08573251271652832,0.0,0.021505325919379245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253529521461578,0.017086161712142552,0.0,0.0944157725925124,0.12697894104540175,0.01650972031167829,0.0,0.022765652738835216,0.06026458395539264,0.0,0.020539750613607743,0.0,0.022462123297775288,0.045593640906518434,0.0725267085850709,0.016280319766135396,0.0,0.0,0.02376896434423488,0.0,0.0,0.044520927465354035,0.0,0.02236484058891358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607625684832072,0.0,0.022768044823225315,0.08564765598463292,0.0,0.04113992811918063,0.02200905777368637,0.042271924454209193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061086369628777525,0.10213804052194253,0.02143126164498586,0.1949772372153471,0.18763697846478636,0.05846198633678493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017707364657881017,0.0,0.02142158044047732,0.06546253446799244,0.018137337023673976,0.03295895580990385,0.0,0.07188720040107695,0.04545408827716869,0.022816077019620944,0.10256973623006163,0.017896475822308303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0242914126589294,0.02017501589596016,0.0,0.06437895645821902,0.12043800557381652,0.07483957375229436,0.0,0.024479765149306068,0.0,0.08532765450999721,0.041148534362846864,0.021031405390015183,0.05098220742746591,0.04992832565084451,0.0,0.020290499941520945,0.20454466141714256,0.07134896484548309,0.1598668627294028,0.2794045552624864,0.0,0.022284527092191003,0.05149785626461415,0.0,0.023575818263100425,0.08831145908433065,0.13888473384205308,0.08495591316131579,0.051512097677725036,0.02606688877380309,0.03849334745358221,0.0396873776144314,0.03863138974001111,0.07169750957520256,0.049231965901646337,0.06190421086047351,0.02321402531280044,0.15583911176182308,0.021738955152138667,0.021814666274570103,0.030412588651685862,0.0,0.0,0.06892420111407135
parenting,Jasonsg83,2019/01/15,"Sad Dad Ending Paternity Leave Hi all. So I took an extended paternity leave to bond with my daughter. She’s now 11 months old and I’ll be honest, it wasn’t an easy 5.5 months - my daughter hates the car seat and stroller, and so I was limited to a few blocks to use the carrier.  I love my little girl so much, but I am an extremely social guy and I felt extremely isolated. I had a lot of break downs and truthfully it hurt my relationship with my wife, while I was trying to be a good dad, since she knew I had everything handled and she went back to her life.

So we hired a nanny - she has 16 years of exp and came recommended by a friend. She started yesterday and she’s nice, but it sucks seeing another person play with your child, let alone doing this differently. I am biting my tongue. I know this is the best thing for her and ultimately me, but it sucks. I wish I was a happier house husband, but my daughter has cystic fibrosis (a mild case thank god), and I just care about her happiness and health. This is safer than daycare (germ-wise), but I just feel guilty.",3.207761969904241,4.722785190697678,4.545143638850892,85.00195622435021,73.83720930232559,8.593707250341998,25.205198358413128,9.168548406835145,1.871123119015048,836,27,178,19,17,277,131,215,0.12,0.649,0.231,0.9871,1,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,1,0,2,9,16,3,0,13,0,16,3,0,1,2,34,33,21,0,1,7,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,8,16,0,2,4,1,0,5,1,5,0,0,11,3,33,11,15,19,5,18,0,2,1,1,27,2,2,1,10,115,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593681777086755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613514391341125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832043921319575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148240426163785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599209997301105,0.1568859004037095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076670909329974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628764929838524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829300095756147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780386442593623,0.0,0.14774420867758814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888350594337545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906311746113494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15236052248089274,0.0,0.16380288511151764,0.0,0.15191978571595802,0.0,0.16356201567119635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755118390935132,0.1647264568226517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456572038382464,0.0,0.0,0.3258629861245745,0.0,0.15734769576610705,0.1086865203977964,0.0,0.1542232556823958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081909131431646,0.13887826836435468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456432433378264,0.0,0.1131158896919352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146601302498662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435778556570552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520425094480068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261851735160775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272870571755245,0.0,0.0,0.15685626722124982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891357438334301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14166750089482102,0.0,0.0,0.10222776650762526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17096087688500194,0.10447107943177192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328986649274684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264374177516034,0.0,0.0,0.17694874928204687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909050722665816
parenting,yeauxleauxx,2019/01/15,"3 year old says daycare teacher hit her My 3 year old daughter loves her daycare and came home yesterday her normal happy, peppy self. This morning my husband was getting her ready to go to school and she cries and screams saying she doesn't want to go because her teacher hit her. she was adamant that she wanted to go to her grandma's house instead and was scared to go inside the daycare. I do not see this happening from the teacher but I want to trust what my child is saying. My daughter has also been testing boundaries of saying papa and mama hit her every once in awhile which isn't true. My husband calmly approached the teacher today and she said nothing ever happened. Not sure what to do - any advice is appreciated.",4.676958796599081,6.561590992805755,4.958325703073908,82.02060170045783,70.72661870503597,5.917854807063441,31.34139960758666,6.11248444174946,1.7524762589928058,584,26,99,3,11,184,82,139,0.08800000000000001,0.79,0.122,0.8408,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,1,3,0,11,1,0,0,3,17,28,8,0,4,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,2,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,0,6,7,20,6,11,19,0,14,0,0,1,1,25,1,0,0,7,63,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090642320936575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531329340804967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805805827960047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790039404750671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649215298629927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839226627382838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043331602160566,0.12149114294283643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533633067813293,0.0,0.32779908289268833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550236603763761,0.1534990628142189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464009955802445,0.0,0.0,0.16638254151070575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301422989264009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128122452540134,0.13835971618073492,0.0,0.30261837767766137,0.15356377334233365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137163183775459,0.4586810087982909,0.14436510619709428,0.1459338025963437,0.11490534787788904,0.0,0.15042762069203214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359027928731293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366807156467684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551511773577841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571467752503115
parenting,Im_a_haxor,2019/01/15,"What are your children interested in? Hello Parents,

I am a student of engineering at a university in the US and have been tasked to design a solution for something that relates to sustainability which 3rd-5th graders can understand. This is where you come in. What are your children interested in? What do they play with and talk about? 

Cheers!",5.471499999999999,8.581775149999999,5.616666666666671,72.60500000000002,72.5,8.666666666666666,35.0,9.2995712137729,3.8445,279,15,45,7,6,88,47,60,0.0,0.784,0.21600000000000005,0.9191,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,1,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,10,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,4,11,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,0,38,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35941018476579034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632890299116397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212071515386524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335356920290169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4343553546995385,0.5018811826597098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsBlargyB,2019/01/15,"Time for another baby?  I have a seventeen month old and am starting to get the ""baby fever""  again. My husband and I have always said we would have more than one  child. He has never wavered on that. After having a baby, I went back  and forth for a while on whether or not I wanted to have another for  obvious reasons (time, money, worrying about balancing my time/attention  between two babies). But now, I am starting to really want another one  despite all those concerns. I just don't feel like our family is  ""complete."" How did you know it was time for another baby? Do you think  there is such a thing as ""good timing"" in regard to adding to a family?  Thanks for any advice/words of wisdom!!! ",3.1641478696741885,5.314327413533839,4.791146616541358,80.45308583959901,75.61654135338345,8.042355889724309,25.369047619047624,8.841846274778883,2.1919679197994992,538,19,97,12,12,181,93,133,0.035,0.871,0.094,0.8271,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,2,0,0,8,4,0,0,6,0,15,1,0,2,3,20,26,9,0,3,5,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,4,2,12,4,19,21,2,18,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,15,77,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795363449711872,0.0,0.0,0.09639999256985853,0.5945805895317064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900280294766662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863009026458696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26727279714076513,0.0,0.07167687475623792,0.10127161941431254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740624671243695,0.0,0.0,0.11889950421058508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779062401764435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925557668089223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314952102541145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093321587962224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875069867510354,0.0,0.19211716419887065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081351408095008,0.14575036730124352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484388870020214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067344181240246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051130292292193,0.0,0.0,0.0941774148448902,0.09083251176194028,0.0,0.0,0.4132998262110419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847652457590884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722454725986205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141066564517606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439616693613129,0.0,0.100700493681843,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elliemoms,2019/01/15,"What’s a typical day like for you? Hi moms, as we all know sharing our parenting struggles helps us to not feel alone in this crazy parenting journey. I started a blog series called Mommy Diaries (google ellie Mommy Diaries) and I’d love to get some good stories/inspiration from this group! Anyone care to share a typical day?!",6.424836065573771,7.51348849180328,6.606680327868855,74.85788934426232,65.72131147540983,9.378688524590164,34.92213114754098,9.516144504307137,3.453652459016393,262,12,44,5,4,84,50,61,0.068,0.611,0.321,0.953,2,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,1,0,0,0,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,6,2,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,6,7,6,2,5,0,0,0,1,14,1,0,1,4,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462572218451725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625377876063893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427889749378999,0.0,0.2424215833773244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066829751186633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202232702777934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422461264967967,0.0,0.0,0.1994295549187679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937170744742196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067175432679048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616203889842085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459601931692648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27847245641809404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5280291986849756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829428957829864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485680315094689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860071160819605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thunderheart26,2019/01/15,"How to be open minded but realistic when my little boy says he wants to be a girl. In today's society of gender questions and who is what, when and assigning genders is child abuse and you're not a good mom if you don't let your kids choose their gender... Parenting is hard enough, now we have brand new hurdles to get through like gender and the internet and cyberbullies... So I'm reaching out to other parents for advice.

My son will be six in March and he has a big sister who is 8 and she is very girly. My kids have always been stereotypical boy/girl all on their own. He turns her fairy wands and funny shaped Doritos into guns. My daughter has never played with dolls but he has a vivid imagination and can turn a spoon and fork into characters and play with them all day. 

He's always been very textile focused as well, stealing my soft pillow from me in his sleep and he loves rubbing on my leg or back when I'm wearing soft clothes. Recently he's started saying he wants to wear my clothes when he grows up, which makes sense because they're soft. Then he asked to grow his hair out, which makes sense because Thor had long hair as well as other super hot dudes. Now he's just saying he wants to be a girl. Like I didn't get the hint before so he's just coming out and saying it. I honestly don't believe he truly wants to be a girl but is in his Oedipus stage and that's where this is coming from. My husband and I haven't made a big deal about it and I'm letting him wear his sister's pajamas to bed and clipping his hair back when he asks. We aren't opposed to having an LGBTQ child, but really feel like it's a phase. 

Have any of you raised Tom boys who grew into young women or boys who played dress up and grew out of it or vice versa?  ",5.170318337279667,4.9301937955801085,5.573188634569854,85.8084990791897,68.22651933701657,8.331702183635885,27.182846619310713,7.62386473244151,1.3000548276769273,1382,36,298,13,21,443,190,362,0.063,0.8240000000000001,0.113,0.9641,2,0,0,1,1,0,28.0,2,3,3,1,18,13,0,0,12,0,31,9,8,4,3,60,52,38,0,5,11,8,10,3,0,1,0,4,2,11,15,32,0,1,4,3,0,6,7,1,2,1,5,15,28,12,38,39,4,47,0,0,1,1,63,21,0,5,22,175,43,1,0.0,0.136191413538703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232324077813363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128743613060734,0.0,0.0,0.07816676230586296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21491672386604774,0.0,0.0,0.17677171878428455,0.0,0.14013920586743936,0.0,0.09781000502973412,0.12950401872127748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980304382112225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413022511565269,0.11850358233138092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187692470346965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058119809789796376,0.08211696279283233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010837572007248,0.0,0.0,0.09641068464998738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296843319295257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350787641787202,0.0,0.16846943832016664,0.11520541237327002,0.0,0.1017229950676373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374264312997153,0.1087640453073772,0.1534537933430094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160620105203812,0.1346225748253206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865292041198053,0.111014910675634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552663599993418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876506991781966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736369182205237,0.0,0.1134946408404452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365636542452404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150283366426953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135889230428239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089547274257909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500550113590631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968386152807404,0.2711909220925445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20669930221526786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Almostsuicide1234,2019/01/15,"Kids (16m and 12f) very angry over separation. What to tell them? Separated about a year ago, and my kids are suddenly expressing deep anger towards me for leaving. It's a long story, but  basically I (39m) was very depressed and unhappy for years and years, to the point of contemplating suicide several times. Breaking up was a last ditch effort, and it worked. I'm the happiest I've been in my adult life in my freedom, and I don't regret anything other than the pain I have caused. The issue is, mainly, I absolutely refuse to disparage their mother, so explaining the causes/ issues between us that led to this is out. The other issue is that my son in particular is genius level intelligent, so ""mommy and daddy fell out of love"" ain't gonna cut it. I'm completely willing to accept ""blame"", but something tells me this isn't the right thing to do, because it's not the story. Please give me some advice. I know therapy, but I need to work out paying for it. Thank you for any advice. 

Tl;dr Need to talk to teenagers about why I left ",4.810820367751064,5.900861821782179,6.043083451202264,77.43554455445545,69.39603960396039,8.939745403111743,28.785007072135787,9.23628265651192,2.455377934936352,816,29,153,16,14,274,128,202,0.14800000000000002,0.7070000000000001,0.145,0.0657,0,0,1,0,0,1,34.0,1,1,2,3,4,8,2,0,11,0,14,3,0,3,0,25,24,12,1,3,4,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,13,10,0,1,3,0,1,2,4,5,0,0,3,0,18,3,28,19,2,25,0,2,0,1,17,14,0,1,8,99,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636036871354291,0.1195617740591193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172209870602044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099362628254353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222076554008992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771150295481053,0.0,0.0,0.1414176852768318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617077286506185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293878793934819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223347650337401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412577180543216,0.10994409159896723,0.0,0.1428170022065297,0.14654603432600866,0.0,0.09526877052270118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936334983092985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217332363845008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002160137510067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352037998303538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805624071335946,0.12750390909436546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518561948634096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237446873119448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383616474468746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475353377691994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841033973470136,0.23577974843578925,0.12417812792125148,0.1542454768054752,0.0,0.08960737350701578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786488182090654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224239378008104,0.0,0.0,0.22257800319192905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217069913408681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19638650903744914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605722611986194
parenting,MevalemadresWey,2019/01/15,"My youngest friend had her first ""time of the month"". Yesterday, I had to pick up my daughter earlier from school, she was feeling uncomfortable and had some stomach issues. She was really down, crying ocasionally and wanted nothing to eat, so I became a little worried. I carpet-bombed her with questions but she limited her answers to yes or no. As soon as we got back home she went to sleep and did it for most of the afternoon. 

Everything went back to normal and earlier she came down from her bedroom, said good morning and surprised me with good news, her lack of comfort was due to period cramps. I hugged her way to hard and did not congratulate her because somebody told me once that it was awkward and incorrect, but were effusive enough to show my support. I reminded her of our plan to go cup shopping in the upcoming weekend and catch the new Dragon Ball Super movie on Friday.

Before she left to school I hugged her even more and reminded her of how normal this situation is and she shouldn't feel ashamed or awkward. She nodded and said goodbye. 

Aaaaaand now I'm here at home crying my eyes out because I feel very happy for her. I remembered when she was so little that I could bath her in the kitchen's sink (our bathroom was too cold), her first steps, her first day of school, her terrible accident with the rock and the seesaw and many other good and bad memories I had the opportunity to share with her.

I'm very happy and thankful for having an awesome daughter and without doubt, a very good friend. My little buddy, who is going through many changes, grants me the privilege to accompany her.

When I pick her up at school, I'll surprise her with a ""cramps-pack"" for her next episodes, ice-cream and a flyer of the store where I'll take her to buy her cup. Any suggestions or your comments are more than welcome.

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parenting,rosepetaIs,2019/01/15,"Boyfriends ex annoyed at me for being topless around her daughter I’ve been with my partner for like a year now and up until now I’ve tried to cover up around his daughter, I mean she’s seen me lots of times in underwear and stuff but I’ve kinda avoided being naked around her, Now I know her more and she’s become more comfortable with me I don’t think it matters if she sees me topless etc. Anyway I was sitting topless doing my make up the other day and she walked into our room, she was embarrassed and said sorry and I said it was fine did she want something, but she just walked out. I didn’t want her to be embarrassed so I put a top on and went downstairs. I spoke to her about it and said she didn’t need to be embarrassed and it wasn’t a big deal. I personally don’t see nudity as a big deal and think everyone gets way too uptight about it. I want her to grow up to not see it as wrong and embrace her body. She’s only 6 and I feel like she’s already seeing nudity as a bad thing and that kinda makes me sad. Anyway she apparently mentioned it to her mom and I guess her mom wants to teach her that nudity is wrong because my partner got a message from her telling me to stop getting naked around her child and telling her it’s ok and that it was inappropriate...
He told her to calm down and said it wasn’t a big deal, she replied asking him how he would feel if she had a boyfriend getting naked around his daughter. He said that was different but that men are topless around kids all the time ( this is my boyfriends idea of being a feminist 😂 ) 

I personally don’t really care what her mom says and am just gonna ignore her, I know everyone has different opinions on this topic but do you see it as inappropriate? It’s not like I’m walking around topless 24/7. ",2.3101788147138973,4.097392166212536,3.5765454700272485,89.84762474455042,76.9291553133515,6.658344686648502,24.27528950953679,7.531066641456977,1.0055995231607628,1403,47,303,19,32,457,164,367,0.112,0.79,0.098,-0.8409,3,1,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,0,1,19,19,1,5,11,1,28,1,1,3,1,67,65,31,0,8,10,7,2,3,2,2,0,7,1,7,23,29,0,4,8,0,0,6,9,11,0,0,22,15,58,8,42,36,5,40,0,1,6,0,67,23,0,7,12,203,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871183363196319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4919477057868554,0.0738033974718348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591620551089131,0.04812445176890137,0.08718911629383044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087690667568148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049021159466628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091332466334339,0.24416807118529354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496251605784054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804511491445371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150871640955479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983444649151225,0.05639869001499054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237373160195287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313993828025602,0.0,0.08696738258558505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911987450698299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677277830364524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570636937448925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711665174126973,0.0,0.0,0.10539348543870196,0.0,0.0,0.08599480695168188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773800908497257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05853709731893065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06004161979538504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378643531604288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936204511546263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050574516922355366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754763043783115,0.06278064030433803,0.0,0.0,0.3145467623813886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077611257081885,0.0,0.08837303805326698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600198352586828,0.0,0.0,0.09037372444187286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380037154500742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244789070193805,0.10117019365882976,0.0,0.0,0.09206752658457723,0.0,0.0,0.0754358204777395,0.0,0.053598820973383546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862564350871473,0.06266327333461602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318328115268999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608062713289762,0.17262905002869733,0.0,0.05083832181969576
parenting,StayCalm07,2019/01/15,"3 year old demands I do things for him that he could do himself. What to do? I have a 3 year old who will demand I do things he can do himself. For instance, he will ask me to move his cup three inches or will ask me to bring him his stuffie that is 5 feet away. My wife and I avoid doing these things but it causes a big tantrum with him refusing to eat because I havent moved his cup 3 inches. This seemed to come up suddenly 4 months ago. It feels like an anxiety issue because when I dont do it he looks really anxious and insistent. Of course, anxiety could be an outcome rather than the cause. 

Do you have a young one that does this? How do you respond? What do you think is the cause?",1.9125799086757984,3.31339411643836,3.1371917808219187,94.24062785388128,77.01369863013699,6.510502283105023,23.125570776255714,7.1686216300943375,0.5761844748858445,535,16,125,6,12,173,86,146,0.126,0.851,0.023,-0.9161,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,0,0,3,3,1,1,7,0,23,2,1,4,0,18,31,6,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,15,4,1,2,3,0,0,4,2,2,0,2,0,2,20,1,12,25,0,18,0,0,1,0,21,5,0,2,10,86,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021350489649866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22474846048246616,0.1659494749586097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746538869278605,0.0,0.1380126355585473,0.0,0.0,0.17909158910530185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.452704715293617,0.0,0.12653698745808067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345673199811296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854875557397907,0.0,0.17215978058192247,0.0,0.0,0.15031020027611294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427449748501062,0.10494177748502756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332015723657064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717654497842098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335475668805175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725014299818755,0.3122521569397785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082830670899481,0.0,0.0995398158586326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410466271234133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372764020828887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29277142115209914,0.09412434888328176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891910558453289
parenting,viennaa99,2019/01/15,I’m pregnant and I’m worried I’m gonna be too protective of my child because I get very paranoid about bad stuff happening to them... I’m wondering if anyone has any advice or books I could read which may help me. I don’t want to be too overprotective but this world scares me. The thought of my child being kidnaped or abused by someone terrifies me. Also what age do you start letting your kids do stuff/walk to places on their own? ,1.9777525252525263,4.29172925,2.9733333333333327,91.16055555555555,80.36363636363636,6.183838383838387,24.550505050505052,7.3871296695380915,1.0998444444444444,346,13,72,5,9,110,66,88,0.198,0.769,0.033,-0.944,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,2,2,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,21,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,12,0,8,13,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,5,2,44,16,2,0.0,0.254775131847071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101246160471552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195924039954527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622762665485844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035382450942938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795408876549786,0.13108016035707826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716837852143795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234418699723274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015012764856107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441299314334196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21988252262709548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22466035729202946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150879738918268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21528232581135406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821940379974999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219918771064547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4923153140026942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707096292602017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742209135799553,0.12683013770215032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331906279513215,0.0,0.21837318322116067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seniorboomerang,2019/01/15,"I need help!!! 19 y/o and girlfriend can’t sleep over This is just some background info So as I write this I am currently 19 in community college, I get decent to good grades and work almost everyday. My mother has two jobs and is barely home so I baby sit my brother a lot (dad out of the picture), I have a girlfriend of one year who I love very much and who regularly talks to my mom. I would like for her to sleep over and I have no way of telling my mom, I feel like I am an adult and I should be able to make that decision and before you say it’s her house her rules, she’s barely home she works 8am-4:30pm then goes straight to job number 2 which is 6pm-12am and she has a rule where if she’s not home I can’t have anyone over. My question is how do I get her to let my girlfriend over when she’s not their and how do I get her to let her spend the night. My mom is old school as in when my girlfriend comes over which is rare she has to stay in the living room but she barely comes over,I go to her house whenever my mom doesn’t work her second job which is usually 4 days out the week.",1.3414285714285723,2.7123378067226938,2.7846134453781524,96.293474789916,78.49579831932773,5.936470588235295,20.303361344537816,6.508806274219699,-0.08410151260504195,850,20,208,7,20,277,124,238,0.006999999999999999,0.931,0.062,0.8306,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,1,3,8,4,0,0,8,0,25,3,2,3,0,32,35,20,0,4,5,7,1,2,4,2,0,1,4,1,9,13,0,0,4,0,1,3,6,0,0,3,0,2,41,4,25,30,3,30,0,0,0,1,38,13,0,5,13,137,50,9,0.10709170070327803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723686889021662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488100713779794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911271496220296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450003521729927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906528747826182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054148781621150215,0.0765063323803554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678529807115543,0.0,0.06086268143888408,0.08982343761858405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178130958524016,0.0,0.3222651225868287,0.0,0.0,0.24713888840922965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188159652825085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21901703930762276,0.0,0.10463919110575028,0.0,0.094563933731904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104553430246906,0.09665444102385848,0.0,0.07148454180012245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5016980221964198,0.0,0.0,0.07872472214592073,0.07940713911746823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049830651926568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237472512500574,0.0,0.07256810795153949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996721387474768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516361874537462,0.0,0.1083825184647504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21433808209754227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414550394551545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607625246377057,0.09360286667244444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461303055437916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794637852314688,0.08836186863040456,0.0,0.08500440730990264,0.0859025026323628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23389210070395786,0.0,0.0,0.07607487156860983,0.0,0.0,0.06896354411358345
parenting,Joseph-starleen,2019/01/15,"I want some advice My girlfriend recently forgot to turn off the gas. Thus, her mom's pan is burnt. Her mom got really mad. Any advice to help her. Her mom says that she wanna kill my girlfriend. My girlfriend is so scared and keep texting me that she wanna kill herself. I kept comforting her. But I think there must be some issue in this. What can my girlfriend and her mom do? ",1.3254666666666708,3.854534346666668,2.2920000000000016,93.47266666666668,85.53333333333333,4.933333333333334,19.0,6.42735559955562,0.059800000000000075,296,8,60,3,9,93,50,75,0.19,0.733,0.077,-0.9175,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,1,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,14,13,4,2,4,1,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,17,1,6,8,2,3,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,2,1,41,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31273018010154485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881588478270646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797884558731076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725487632796286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670143901341933,0.0,0.1422289425654466,0.3540664216763758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7496318977123402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025098925996718,0.0,0.15799579510308326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725058164799954,0.16020322080815935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253133709785753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740506866519228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438116426348657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brizzlyk,2019/01/15,"Research have shown that for any relationship to be healthy, you need to counter any negative interaction with five positive interactions. A research done on economically advanced countries like US and Canada, it was found that the children rank low on social and emotional well-being. At first, it was believed that the main cause of this was race, social class and child poverty. An important aspect has been neglected though, the devastating effect when as a parent you do not connect with your child.

Connection is very important in every relationship, even the one between a parent and their kid. It is this connection that causes your kid to willingly follow your rules. It is this connection that allows them to be able to tell you whatever they are going through, you become their best friend.

I know parenting can be very tough especially for new parents, but our duty is more than just providing their basic needs – food, clothing and shelter. We would need to do much more than that to help our children grow into upstanding adults.

Read more on article: https://thezeroed.com/ways-to-connect-with-your-child-in-record-time/",11.497297297297301,12.15805345945946,9.293108108108113,61.38614864864867,54.94594594594594,12.372972972972974,39.58108108108108,11.792908689023552,5.024902702702702,930,39,132,23,10,277,124,185,0.063,0.8370000000000001,0.101,0.6655,4,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,4,7,5,5,4,6,0,0,8,0,20,1,0,4,0,24,27,9,0,4,3,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,7,13,9,1,2,3,1,0,4,2,3,0,3,6,0,17,3,23,16,6,14,0,2,0,0,36,7,0,0,4,102,30,5,0.12598243815301233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713447561318661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391377050025249,0.0,0.14193906624318214,0.13221079634281924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25883733488578764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289237743988059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417132861495435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321021223139259,0.0,0.10614563772191596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716059753479393,0.1523384642879106,0.1381332408142893,0.0973337192040674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159872286878344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844433726981417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923665328350395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061548655662809475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261158776758464,0.2802431447183434,0.0,0.121674623814441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536896054360732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595543542101616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601653078996944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27051598193004905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25684646070890943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101142038464698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377710583755852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515413612895966,0.0,0.0,0.2078974108490145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327334178214225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949430945116534,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IngridAndHilda,2019/01/15,"I am burnt out! I’m an 18 year old mother of 2, I’m getting married and I own an inherited farm together with my fiancé. My life was lovely until my fiancé got hit in the head by a horse and is set to be bedridden for a year. Now there’s just a mountain of things to do and I have to do them all alone!

Ahem
I have to cook, clean, take care of the babies, feed the chickens and horses, repair anything broken, babysit my little brothers on Sundays, keep up the garden and visit my alcoholic brother. 

There’s just too much to do! How do I do all this without leaving my little girls alone? They need their mama but their mama needs to work! ",2.9038636363636385,4.096265295454547,4.308000000000003,87.68700000000004,74.07575757575758,6.1890909090909085,24.56363636363637,6.2581,0.6940854545454539,497,15,103,3,10,165,88,132,0.04,0.901,0.059,0.5374,0,2,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,4,1,7,2,0,0,9,0,11,6,1,1,2,17,22,8,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,7,3,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,15,2,18,18,4,14,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,6,72,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216690602906484,0.0,0.4199999611164964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668556099039794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672907545487215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593462415364303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216706114138205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20809200995679386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18022392309633245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146953731123957,0.0,0.0,0.14321659128338274,0.0,0.4064409992079594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830003585144215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905318601030992,0.3006904757436695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21276430516792688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524515709922427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470586968972914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545505168994087,0.0,0.1476129388679616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611437852937486
parenting,ClassicLego,2019/01/15,"2.5m has stopped sleeping through the night I'm knackered and I need help! My son has happily slept through, in his own room/bed, since he was a year old.

Through November/December he had a series of typical winter colds, low fevers etc. Nothing bad but enough to disrupt his sleep. So we could all get some rest (I also have a 6.5f at school), and so I could monitor his temperature, I bought him into my bed the first time he woke during the night. This was after he had started climbing out of his cot during the night to come into us, so we also bought him his first toddler bed so he didn't hurt himself climbing.

After a few weeks I transitioned him back to his bed. We have a foam mattress in his room so I can lie down with him to help him drift off. He goes down ok and I leave (much screaming if I leave before), but then wakes up at 11pm, 1pm etc and I have to go hold his hand until he falls back asleep. Honestly it's worse than when he was newborn!

I'm exhausted and don't know what to do. Husband can't help as kid screams bloody murder if he goes in at night (they have a lovely relationship during the day!). Nurse suggested a reward chart, which I thought might work, but then last night when I went in he'd wet through his nappy, and as he's not super verbal yet I don't want him to feel he CAN'T call us when he needs to, just to get a sticker, and I don't think he'll get that nuance yet.

I'm not a fan of leave to cry, not least because my daughter needs her sleep too.

Please heeeeeeeeeeelp!",2.761357142857144,3.952369361904765,3.5763690476190497,92.79883928571432,74.42857142857143,6.646825396825397,24.23611111111111,6.996647511020387,0.6542301587301584,1179,35,268,11,24,375,171,315,0.132,0.745,0.124,0.5658,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,0,1,7,16,12,1,0,14,1,23,10,7,0,1,39,47,27,1,8,9,3,3,0,0,2,2,2,5,2,5,15,0,2,4,0,2,7,9,7,0,2,12,6,40,5,38,30,10,51,0,2,0,1,49,16,0,4,28,164,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16186115429710754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15563497910597984,0.08449878951500357,0.06169132293079945,0.0,0.08611478235234415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333775813999573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717588799077643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160187486481614,0.0,0.11116478548615888,0.06526641318159701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456791056738472,0.22573221790661074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05117037637291246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216340797703736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862037780311933,0.0,0.057514984142799576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20349912877352375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833799652991943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556175425502936,0.08249249948734863,0.0,0.3214724313957812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133805003975363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735849917358567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439453929442172,0.2251182615944568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4748524357769208,0.0,0.09710529769532457,0.0,0.10619365398986387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110885467651661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865223419972572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242103508233297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837146929799643,0.0,0.30382291171521497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163074269427969,0.0,0.0,0.08460874940083705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648456539094707,0.0,0.08034246248554783,0.05901124381887976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24346520838151664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059691100171274776,0.0,0.08117751239219365,0.0,0.0,0.09381454260313446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736756917105955,0.0,0.10313268659225514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517026611959173
parenting,shawnb666,2019/01/15,"Ever since I started paying child support for my out of state daughter, her mom stopped letting me see her/visit We had a mutual agreement for me to pay monthly and continually visit monthly/ spend time w my daughter who lives out of state w her mom. 

Her mom asked for more money but didn’t like that we can discuss more money after you bring our daughter to visit my city(which I’ll gladly help pay for) she didn’t like that so she took me to child support court and now gets a percentage of each of my checks.

Once the courts set up the money being taken out of my check her mom said I can’t see her anymore because she probably feels bad that we didn’t work out - although she says it’s because I never consistently sent money 

I was 22-24 and didn’t have a steady Income and still sent what I could on my own terms w absolute no law involved. 

I know I have to get a lawyer for custody/visitation but I’m looking for any advice on anything that might help. I do not get shitty w her and let her say just about whatever she wants because I don’t want a paper trail of me being an ass( which I can  say I bite my
Tongue 99% of the time for that reason) ",3.991929916317993,4.630776673640167,4.997968096234313,85.83494377615064,70.96652719665272,7.313912133891214,27.07139121338912,7.1686216300943375,1.230750836820083,911,29,191,8,16,299,132,239,0.051,0.823,0.127,0.9567,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,0,1,6,7,0,0,9,0,19,1,1,1,2,28,40,9,0,3,4,7,1,2,0,1,0,4,0,2,9,13,0,1,3,0,10,6,9,1,0,0,11,8,39,6,27,23,5,29,0,0,3,1,40,7,1,1,15,123,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534089896386558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026677801490374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170574432255371,0.0,0.0,0.09713145346188344,0.0,0.11034532106335254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985529814281652,0.2158562449701773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424008712859153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067679924173251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059681247285281326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18500278214025376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582306363896006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486808473233832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413943525832329,0.0,0.11533034083401855,0.0,0.10422567866454682,0.0,0.09911835134530596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252148135605115,0.0,0.5529572933834199,0.18842631092648252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103465556418007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257017477426875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725999800033602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213580215712331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122768186223876,0.28159475640354176,0.0,0.0,0.1881147192317704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763847067955983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354466726628737,0.0,0.09426164740868416,0.0986812303018898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26788586878831344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376524811660727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113948059990033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392383469721032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592974075175705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,weeblebloooop,2019/01/15,What’s your opinion on children watching adult themed cartoons? Do you censor your kids tv intake? Bobs burgers? South Park? King of the hill? Do you stop censoring at a certain age? Has censoring tv had negative effects? Has not censoring had negative effects? ,3.3625000000000007,6.378539777777783,3.648194444444447,78.92562500000003,95.66666666666669,6.6944444444444455,34.513888888888886,7.6454224807358475,3.782388888888889,210,13,30,5,8,65,35,45,0.253,0.708,0.039,-0.9092,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,3,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,2,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tenpoundpony,2019/01/15,"My wife is pregnant with our first. HELP! We are fairly financially stable and have good jobs and a house - all the usual problems I guess people face aren’t huge for us. Not boasting, I just want to keep focussed. 

I need to know all the little things. The things I don’t know that I don’t know. The best resources to find out while dodging all the hearsay and the ‘may/possible/could’ kind of ‘research’ or help websites that are just sponsored garbage.

I am just at the start of such a huge journey and I just want to be as organised as possible. 

Any insight is more appreciated than you could ever know!",2.4863276836158192,4.909041050847456,3.0450000000000017,90.74569209039551,79.16949152542372,5.628248587570622,25.08757062146893,6.816661863887847,0.9071841807909607,476,18,96,5,12,148,76,118,0.053,0.7490000000000001,0.197,0.9621,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,0,2,6,4,0,0,9,0,11,1,1,0,4,30,21,8,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,1,6,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,12,3,13,19,5,11,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,5,68,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464076132465893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19234734325719754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926779047946546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579267524018318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752007835984975,0.15590297319006274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373159614293905,0.0,0.0,0.2019101866580456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457054770632897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21148742906874668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188306793174694,0.16291301328991073,0.0,0.1908641583406597,0.4029167566790777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837007173296805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359042424262234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270674306459132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066274194395652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537994330982865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973077019177096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435341408838571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22047048383288986,0.0,0.20186362836208346,0.0,0.2162136565263348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cabdybar,2019/01/15,"Coparenting advice The father of my 2 and a half year old has recently decided that he wants to be a part of our sons life. We are currently FaceTiming maybe once a week, and a week ago they spent about an hour together supervised at a playground. Now he wants to have our son for the day on two seperate occasions mid February.

I have my reservations because my son doesn’t know him and they don’t really have a rapport. To me I think it’s unfair to put someone that young in a situation where they’re going to feel scared in a strange environment with strange people.

Am I overreacting? Should I let him take our son or should I insist that they have more supervised visits to familiarise the two before I leave our son with him for the day? ",6.857602739726026,6.500108698630136,7.287773972602737,75.31809931506851,64.75342465753424,11.683561643835617,33.31849315068493,11.20814326018867,3.63085205479452,594,22,117,16,8,195,93,146,0.084,0.916,0.0,-0.8466,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,5,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,13,0,13,1,0,0,0,15,21,4,0,4,1,6,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,4,0,1,3,2,1,0,3,1,1,21,0,17,16,2,21,0,0,0,0,20,6,0,1,12,79,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315154008012613,0.16614276751288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425378756176342,0.0,0.15948661142911108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24174987833971634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947687459729834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651910945791834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457788593413188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030050028004195,0.0,0.0,0.19845817930698506,0.0,0.19165685303057545,0.1323852654140489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18829565954023544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19667315607699332,0.19960368695452327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296522610595552,0.0,0.12993831437940834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18841594885343985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007056496422533,0.0,0.1850615964849809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876471698848099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106758525066144,0.0,0.0,0.15880632778965115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092181295295572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009568305719405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36617797931023216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210986555093604,0.0,0.3006853416339898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069687253949332
parenting,aiydee,2019/01/15,"A lesson that was painful for me to learn. How sometimes doing what you think is best, may be the worst. I'm putting this here on my personal experience of me.  Not my son.  But what my parents did in their best efforts to 'provide the best' and how it backfired spectacularly.  
  
When I was 9 I started to learn to play the saxophone.  Alto Sax.  Student Yamaha.  A good sax.  Not amazing.  But it was good.
My parents found a teacher.  Mr D.  (I won't say his full name because I'm going to be badmouthing the bastard in a bit)
Mr D was a technically excellent teacher.  
If you wanted to play saxophone and have a chance to play saxophone for anyone that was doing something like touring and need a saxophonist or if you wanted to play in an orchestra that had saxophones.  Mr D..  He was DA MAN!  
I wanted to play for fun.  
Right off.  We did not ....  hit it off.    
I remember doing a scale.  I did a little trill at the end for shits and giggles.  I got in trouble and he told my parents.  I then had to 'drill' scales without flourishes.  I tried to protest.  
But I was 9.  And my parents didn't listen to me.  (Lesson for other parents starts HERE!)
He was boring.  He drilled technique and all that into me.  And it was painful to a 9 yr old.  It was painful for a 9 year old.  A 10 year old.  An 11 year old.  Up til 16.  
My parents never listened to me when it came to this.  What did I know.  Because ""Mr D was the best"" and they were trying to do what was right.  They got the best to teach me.  
At 16 I pretty much told him to 'f off' and never come back.  
I got in trouble with my parents.  So much trouble.  
It was bad.  Apparently I was ""So rude"" and ""So inconsiderate""
I didn't touch a saxophone again til I was 25.  I thought.  OK..  I wanted to play the saxophone.  I really did.  I wanted to play the Pink Panther theme.  That was it.  Ever since I picked up a saxophone, I wanted to play ""The Pink Panther Theme"".  
I went out and paid several thousand dollars (let's just say that if I told you how much I spent on a saxophone, you'd think I was a professional)  
A beautiful tenor sax.  
I took it home.  And I wailed on it.  For 1 hour.  
And I felt nothing.  
I may as well have been blowing on a recorder.  
This fucking teacher had robbed me of my love of playing the saxophone all for ""taa taa tee tee taa taaaaaa""..   
(If you play sax you'd understand that last bit)
I had that tenor sax for 12 years.  
I've played it for maybe 5 hours in total.  
My message to parents is this.  
Listen to your child.  Just because you think you are doing your best, or bought the best, you may have actually done your best to harm your child by not listening to them.  
I told my parents how much I hated Mr D.  But he was The Best.
And years later.  I recognize how excellent he was technically.
If you wanted to be technically excellent on the Sax, he was DA MAN!  
But I didn't want to be the best.  
I wanted to play the saxophone.  
And this arsehole took it away from me.  
Tomorrow, I'm selling my Tenor and Alto saxophones.  
I tried to play them the other day.  
Technically, I was fine.  
I hated every moment.  ",0.1992622001654248,2.5168829096774203,2.4883870967741935,91.3796319272126,89.25806451612901,5.566583953680729,22.14226633581473,7.063681054816773,0.7967675765095121,2324,88,503,37,78,787,230,620,0.09,0.74,0.17,0.9946,10,0,1,0,0,0,108.0,1,15,5,16,18,53,7,0,37,1,58,6,1,6,6,81,106,43,0,15,19,10,2,1,0,4,3,6,1,10,31,23,0,0,13,14,5,7,11,17,1,1,53,10,82,36,70,41,21,61,0,0,2,2,63,25,3,10,30,350,113,8,0.0,0.0,0.04997270718185644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035806602407135193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811264726545851,0.03937664686610682,0.0427574702609761,0.09364979974437042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5374080463176025,0.0,0.1118141764740464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05856958288816895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411211639402205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03302564139285345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052404701915492735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045356074354698815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04632157439027251,0.04314588624468947,0.0,0.0,0.0500923386693461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049168779040172514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05614814911562853,0.0,0.047341999698472026,0.0,0.0,0.029103318972511567,0.08590354859229081,0.12286981687007956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111679425619884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136691556920655,0.0,0.1008613218219798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028143189212911774,0.041742261798408516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05236478745834994,0.0,0.025018185888131345,0.0513249842371252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0462182237246946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05144643687529009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505783606945258,0.0379709083430855,0.07899124961208387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04913652493984957,0.0,0.21494139873186088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347031989253008,0.0,0.5117549371164322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04471382215206363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209807782228594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051479302511033664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032805869004603784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580099422897077,0.08746460522042054,0.0,0.08144708391426561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785172147650616,0.05256541849165424,0.042360707366843484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03942327695721429,0.05064712206645629,0.0,0.07249214735741212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843819542866117,0.0,0.040654315524951266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957300075567208,0.1137904173072054,0.10430287860308483,0.0,0.0,0.05331049250971728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718401541087812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04604314245953285,0.047471360695508634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049363757429008184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488494873725792
parenting,IceQueensCrown,2019/01/15,"Terrified of the worst case scenario (rant?) Three days into the new year my 2 year old was diagnosed with HSP (Henoch-Schonlein purpura), which causes inflation in the blood vessels all over his body. He has to have regular hospital appointments to monitor his kidneys and he is in so much pain with his joints swelling.

The doctors have told us he should be fine but I'm so scared of something happening to him. I cant even explain how amazing he is and it's killing me that he's struggling.

 Even with being sore and tired he does everything he can to make people smile. Everytime I see him limp my heart breaks. I try so hard not to think about the possibilities and just deal with this as it comes but it creeps in. I try not to get upset in front of him, I know he's already scared and sore last thing he needs is mum breaking down into a blubbering wreck.

I know most likely I'm worrying about nothing and he will get over it eventually. I'm just scared and I know if I say it out loud I'll crumble. I just need to get it out of my system so I can pick myself up and get on with life. ",1.8401842751842776,4.018438563063064,3.0688779688779704,91.03326781326784,80.03603603603604,6.73906633906634,23.604422604422606,7.84624498591911,1.147335135135135,859,30,185,15,22,277,132,222,0.211,0.738,0.051,-0.9917,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,12,11,1,5,6,0,14,11,4,4,1,40,33,17,1,4,8,1,2,1,0,2,7,2,0,0,10,18,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,8,0,1,2,5,22,3,32,27,4,24,0,0,1,0,22,13,0,2,7,112,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032532604872753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131290094025665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993841330293524,0.0,0.11734394176256263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785248265257684,0.14043979894562053,0.0,0.13826334705960955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942988119321129,0.11920955280146907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799478436972725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242833316380335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846833117777439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046143534619752,0.0,0.12202893592639046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614247585637157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507104241692878,0.0,0.22459358285019196,0.11103982166164858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621824269877033,0.06655161411071388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909298244852642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013948452513548,0.20201506622277804,0.0,0.13156489811129898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070951911384124,0.0,0.14294298844032147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495073965646366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443978700895707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357081970485714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832989496805596,0.4091485758005965,0.0,0.10855199171634884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487102169470257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240972240289107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050042279744692,0.08728611559096834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656815154552972,0.0,0.130166791379762,0.0,0.18497277562991235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385934168260838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834093837979214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544612595164388
parenting,Wiperforlada,2019/01/15,"Can't put the phone down I love my kids.  They're all absolutely amazing.  I love family activities; camping, hiking, playing games, bike rides, etc.  We all get along great, no major behavior/parenting issues.

The problem I have is I can't put my phone down when we're just at home.  I want to be around the kids, I like them to be playing near me, but I just can't bring myself to engage.  Kid wants to play cars with me, I suggest he play with his sibling.  Kid wants to snuggle, I give a hug then ask for my space.   I find myself looking forward to kids bedtime. 

Later on I play back these moments in my mind and often cry... What's wrong with me?  Who wouldn't want to engage with these kids?  I feel like I've won the lottery (many very healthy happy kids), but I'm not appreciating it. I fear that soon, too soon, they will be grown up and I will have missed my chance.

Even as it's happening, I know it's wrong, I know I'll feel badly about it later, but I just do it anyways.  Why is this even difficult?  It's not like the internet is exciting to look at.   To make matters worse, people are always commenting on how great of a parent I am, which makes me feel like a total sham.

How do I fix this??  
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parenting,SaintLaurentDon1,2019/01/15,"My lil guy said 'I love you"" for the first time. Out of nowhere, my 2 yr old son while watching Paw Patrol said: ""I love you dada"". I haven't smiled so hard in my life. ",0.5215315315315294,1.5056739459459472,1.9767567567567568,102.8572072072072,79.81081081081079,4.933333333333334,17.738738738738736,3.1291,-1.1166504504504502,124,2,34,0,3,40,30,37,0.109,0.696,0.195,0.6892,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,8,2,4,3,0,6,0,0,1,2,8,2,0,0,4,17,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25276911136739266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942409015634035,0.0,0.0,0.2662022229736431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098970207564588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5364075447590653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118255599988405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5653455275285966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327979082259176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,naomiisawesome69,2019/01/16,"Putting 3 year old to bed. Have a question. What's your guys routine to putting kids to sleep and making sure they stay in bed/fall asleep quick.

I have 2 boys, a 7 yr old and a 3yr old. 
My oldest has never given me a problem at all. As soon as his head touches the pillow, hes out. Been like that since he was a baby. 
My youngest though, he has a lot of energy and I always try to get him tired before bed. We go on walks, go to the park, go swimming he will even wrestle with dad for a bit but he will lay in bed talking to himself, playing with toys or get up and try to get on my bed or walk around the room. Kills me because I dont fall asleep until they do. 
I've tried eadlier bed times too to get the ball rolling but he doesnt end up falling asleep until close to 11pm or even midnight. ",1.7743766578249345,2.601922839080462,3.1932183908045992,96.00823607427056,76.35632183908045,5.8136162687886825,23.154730327144122,5.369823440869387,0.03353987621573795,610,17,150,2,13,200,110,174,0.041,0.895,0.064,-0.0657,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,2,0,7,5,1,0,11,0,12,6,5,1,3,22,21,14,1,1,5,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,7,3,2,10,0,0,1,4,0,10,3,2,0,0,3,1,16,3,26,16,3,34,0,0,0,0,19,11,0,5,13,84,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12025368143682187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865500649288436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809912328839968,0.0,0.1229773729430794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778033074496858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937842598373162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280033827309695,0.0,0.0,0.1909105184811415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020266180341083,0.0,0.24640513956609306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309926374556134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483210199434334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989191438756648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060603169553742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286723191888305,0.0,0.0,0.09646939680524833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146409053637182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549538267704046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828780590800424,0.0,0.2905685712793853,0.16189744618162047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954989304031165,0.0,0.14462613154994214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404096656930805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621004813808651,0.0,0.0,0.11616111603057085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419918950923456,0.0,0.08427180027299716,0.1661065027235115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943623644622006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930672748912847
parenting,BeyonceSometimes,2019/01/16,"What to do when other’s don’t share? I feel like I’m constantly talking to my 4 year old about sharing and she doesn’t a great job at sharing. But whenever we come across a kid who won’t share, I tell her it’s ok not to share sometimes. I want her to want to share but it doesn’t seem fair and it makes me feel like a hypocrite. I’d like to know how other parents handle sharing. ",1.2792857142857128,2.5930607380952395,2.8566666666666656,95.955,78.52380952380952,5.752380952380952,22.714285714285715,6.18269132825596,0.1789000000000005,298,9,72,2,7,98,52,84,0.0,0.631,0.369,0.9737,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,3,12,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,2,0,15,14,6,0,2,3,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,9,12,9,13,0,7,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,1,7,40,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20634659241137732,0.0,0.2588627762082568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24224204743576136,0.34226163623189026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26409893385810074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23771120319808398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316475306195003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35108839668118313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989798151714255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251361920613183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659860979903395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807254481490285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369158840738053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253699721543588,0.20937267090542425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825794012888501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542589659854478
parenting,hr1989,2019/01/16,"How much does a failed child affect the parents ? I am wondering how much does a Child who has grown up and horribly failed in life affect the lives of the parents. Despite great parenting, and given all the help and opportunities in life by my parents, I have unfortunately horribly failed. I am now 29 living back at home, in £25000 debt and no university degree or job. I have been unemployed for 3 years and now have a worn out, muted personality. I wanted to know how much this affects my parents. Or parents in general. 

I came to think of this sitting in a coffee shop today next to these older women who non stop for 2 hours were just all talking about their sons and daughters and what they are doing etc. They seemed very proud to tell their stories and in some cases felt the need to one up each other. And I guess it made me think what do my parents think of me.",6.0977192982456145,6.160275175438597,6.536309941520468,78.65744736842106,66.2514619883041,9.179181286549706,29.965497076023393,8.841846274778883,2.202774970760234,689,22,135,10,10,224,105,171,0.172,0.7809999999999999,0.047,-0.9674,11,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,4,5,8,6,0,0,9,0,11,2,0,7,2,37,25,14,0,2,3,9,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,9,12,0,1,7,1,2,2,1,3,0,1,7,1,16,3,22,18,8,22,0,3,0,0,22,10,0,6,9,95,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782930889681829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157648129375064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771506375193692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288325167219734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971837979249284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159164624393003,0.11150148358849224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784334577624286,0.0,0.10152849104969587,0.0,0.0996779512297817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044184619750182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05562599004534986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298453969932598,0.0,0.0,0.17875220419367932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577358343644687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232175162258071,0.07505081792707156,0.0,0.0,0.10764499024022267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858697993295383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7867233041570109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837842104899445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214378082106664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462160023817196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135405989059215,0.08846775972741484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456650906091025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594149103611477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351428584356925,0.0597001663804325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976507271280364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651801645342936
parenting,Juliana187,2019/01/16,"Racked with guilt over my 20 month old getting pneumonia twice this winter FTM here and first time poster. I just put DS to sleep and finally balled my eyes out. It’s been a rough week. Currently on his second day of antibiotics for bacterial pneumonia. He had his first pneumonia in early December and got better within a week. Stayed home over the holidays and returned to daycare full-time last week. And then the cough started again. That fucking cough. Then the high fever. My heart sunk, I just knew it. Hospital thought it was the flu, told us to wait another week. I waited 5 days and took him to his pediatrician who quickly ordered an x ray which showed a possible secondary infection. 

So here we are again, and I’m just a mess. DH is a great dad but he just doesn’t seem as affected as me when it comes to our baby boy getting sick. His calm demeanor makes me feel worse somehow. I just can’t stand to watch my highly energetic toddler (he’s what parenting books call “spirited”) suffer like this. Nothing prepared me for the emotional roller coaster motherhood entailed. One minute he’s climbing the sofa and I think we’re over the “hump”, and the next he’s balled up in my arms, feverish and weak, clinging to me for comfort. 

As a backstory, I had a pretty uneventful pregnancy followed by a very traumatic labor. I suffered a post partum hemorrage that left me with a lot of physical pain and very low milk supply. I supplemented with formula for two weeks but DS would get so fussy whenever I tried to breastfeed that I kinda just gave up. I had little to no milk left and I just needed something to go right. It gave me such satisfaction to see him content and full on the formula that I didn’t seek outside help (lactation consultant). I needed to feel in control of my life again and formula + sleep training was my salvation. 

Forward to today. DS has been in a great educational daycare full-time (yay Canada!) since he was a year old. Socially, he’s thriving. He loves interacting with other children his age and I’m really happy with his development. However, he’s been sick non stop since October. I knew his first winter in daycare would be rough (runny nose, common cold, etc) but I didn’t expect two fucking pneumonias back to back. I’m so angry at myself. Angry for not trying harder to breastfeed, angry for putting him in daycare in the first place. I don’t know what to do next. I tried working from home at the end of my maternity leave (again, yay Canada!), but that option was quickly discarded. Not sure why I thought I could be a stay at home mom AND a full time freelancer.

It goes against every fiber of my being to send my little boy back to daycare where I know he’ll get sick again. Not sure I can handle it emotionally. But then again, every other young family I know had a tough first year of daycare with their little ones. 

I just feel so drained and so, so very guilty. Any advice is appreciated.",3.4674928013163324,5.8041074313725485,4.456002673796792,82.3307008432744,75.3992869875223,7.666543260660907,27.18774852598382,8.560254945171566,2.17052417386535,2323,92,430,47,52,753,286,561,0.155,0.745,0.1,-0.9868,5,0,1,0,0,0,71.0,3,0,1,9,31,22,2,1,27,2,28,23,6,3,2,72,66,35,0,6,16,3,5,1,0,3,11,0,4,3,20,26,2,4,12,6,0,9,9,10,0,11,22,10,55,12,61,37,4,96,1,3,3,4,41,33,2,5,52,266,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100653731189929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049414093519478716,0.07619466576902262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762266951954438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426550936183002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419819109685638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625937054625757,0.0,0.0,0.08149898960046413,0.058016387275335535,0.0,0.0,0.0937246923993453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347470988506935,0.06435884267573783,0.0,0.0810397019560919,0.0,0.0,0.12244531055362715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850126561760699,0.0,0.11022348751184878,0.0,0.0,0.07959999192462965,0.0,0.3090403177621808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343536165286817,0.15185601488982706,0.0,0.04129669407554542,0.0,0.05811613494660785,0.16022489817459906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735230717526967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610733234400557,0.04870522810041395,0.15354726513318706,0.21866411180142084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980290045271524,0.05923095634344555,0.0,0.07694081145945082,0.15789955849797438,0.0,0.051324817056170514,0.035500018740925315,0.2184856140780396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617764365312949,0.06558220550984513,0.0,0.04850386450381018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510333939918678,0.0579998075163971,0.0,0.0,0.10775904886284901,0.0,0.0,0.15455823245535774,0.0,0.0,0.06972318312880248,0.0,0.1524975415344092,0.0,0.0984781768685356,0.0,0.07731974713273032,0.0,0.08068490630344485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759185398772182,0.0,0.0,0.08191787758163528,0.06959214096822648,0.07392553350300002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460950216041391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04655049609445371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06205476165171465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057903895972896885,0.06615068598954846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202170222993829,0.0,0.14543319478964506,0.07407191977237748,0.0,0.05594038980555074,0.0,0.0,0.05143203830336291,0.15490056780591768,0.0,0.06075045820139175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697014675617378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04656023419878419,0.0,0.11537438961311185,0.08474206571821814,0.0,0.06887708959135846,0.0694336808381596,0.08073251124214957,0.1480025035267869,0.0,0.14196457392229853,0.0,0.08740598974701387,0.0,0.0,0.1798665275915055,0.0,0.0,0.2914338711066052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655680663322774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052900344957455145,0.0,0.07405094639016194,0.10323701236068612,0.0,0.0,0.09358662209070936
parenting,swiftsausages72,2019/01/16,"Need help guiding my 18 year old son in his crucial 2 months to exams. Apparently this subreddit is not for seeking advice as it says in Rule 5 but this is my last shot.

I have a son who is going to be writing some major exams in 2 months. The problem is, he lacks motivation and his mood is always off. I've tried talking to him, in fact just got off from a lecture with him, but his response has been minimal.

He keeps showing signs of mild depression in his actions. He doesn't smile, he takes a bit too much stress. He's never states his preference in what he wants to eat. And worst of all, he keeps getting distracted even when he knows he should be studying for his exams.

I'm not sure about the cause of this but it may be related to when we had to move to another country he did not adjust to that well for 2 years. That was 2 years and we have already moved back to our original country. He's in a much more expensive school as he constantly is reminded of by my husband.

He never got good grades in any of his exams. He was always an average student. I keep telling him he's smart just that his intelligence is not directed towards studies. He's also extremely unfit, has a lot of breathing issues that come up when he's under pressure. 

One of his distractions is video games. I haven't spoken to him about this at all but I know he has been playing video games, occasionally, after everyone has slept. He plays till 3 am then goes to sleep and wakes up at 12pm. Which is probably the cause of his tiredness but I'm sure there is more to it. 

How do I help my son? He can't mess up these exams. Its the final major one that decides his future and what he's going to do when he grows up. I am very worried about this. I hope this doest get removed from here. Took a lot of time to write this out. 

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parenting,Droewors,2019/01/16,"I’m the grandparent who is thinking of moving away from family I feel guilty. Am I selfish for wanting to move into an active lifestyle retirement community in a warmer climate, rather than waiting for that half day a week to see my grandchildren?",10.857999999999995,9.14754024444445,10.229444444444443,61.7975,57.66666666666667,13.444444444444445,44.72222222222222,12.161744961471696,5.6665555555555525,201,10,31,5,2,65,40,45,0.126,0.769,0.105,-0.25,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,10,8,0,7,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132048779663224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149911212562669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142643315350174,0.0,0.16855800794365716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7086227888717938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656466124695715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21360511728755316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19662573641263026,0.0,0.2674031490198887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,antrikshabisaria,2019/01/16,"17 Funny Tweets That Sum Up How Parents Feel About 'Baby Shark' Now that it’s cracked Billboard’s Hot 100 chart, there’s no doubt the children’s song “Baby Shark” has become somewhat of a phenomenon. And parents know the wrath of the addictive tune all too well. Read the 17 funny tweets...  
[https://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/baby-shark-tweets\_us\_5c3ca02be4b01c93e00bed6c](https://www.huffingtonpost.in/entry/baby-shark-tweets_us_5c3ca02be4b01c93e00bed6c)",16.54309523809524,22.608076642857146,6.803571428571432,62.90809523809526,50.42857142857143,5.8761904761904775,25.404761904761905,7.1686216300943375,1.2957119047619043,396,9,43,3,6,89,42,56,0.08,0.785,0.135,0.4939,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,5,0,1,1,0,1,1,7,3,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,4,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,22,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499061079061772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544875973587714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229273977196007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639743929358484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7128013165518275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32105817202039705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28859175715469704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tomcontomcon,2019/01/16,"Testing positive approach with an asshole partner I've read about breaking cycle of destructive behavior in relationship by not doing a name calling, act selfish, etc. and offer compassion instead. It's just it's near impossible with my partner who gets cynical when I try to be nice to him when he acts distressed.

Don't write me off with coupe counseling. I don't have money for that.",6.500140845070425,8.119432816901412,7.0663098591549325,69.69242253521128,65.90140845070422,10.187042253521126,39.55211267605634,10.355215969177356,4.710930140845071,314,18,49,8,5,103,60,71,0.16,0.7190000000000001,0.121,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,1,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,12,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,2,35,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44892764730433227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4903214242770674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296968513845281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.439764901897836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720151932032633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984907256328275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Voltz_sc2,2019/01/16,"Not a parent, but a big brother. How to stop coddling. I have a hard time talking to my brother's as adults or like grown ups even though they are 15. I'm 23. I like to still talk silly even though they are cursing and stuff lol. I try and talk more mature but it's just more fun to act Goofy and I don't want that feeling to go away.",-0.8975375375375378,1.1007640810810813,0.8518018018018019,103.60025525525526,90.62162162162159,3.2888888888888888,16.33033033033033,3.1291,-1.3209201201201195,258,6,65,0,9,83,52,74,0.09,0.657,0.253,0.9441,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,1,0,12,8,10,0,1,5,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,7,4,8,8,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,5,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21185134853399584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978625123403729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401240466282715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128148786682292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199100298420514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203219618754977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25037531642233063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007326551290215,0.18851624042011952,0.0,0.0,0.25812731458090843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5437108777305834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430773426279769,0.0,0.13148259377463595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309006913243967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299737758230173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,medicinecrowh,2019/01/16,"2.5 yr old bad sleeper We have a gal who does not like to go to bed. We have a solid routine then as soon as we close the door she flips out and screams at the top of her lungs kicks the door. We have tried being firm, we have tried talking to her, we have tried just letting her cry it out. It just doesn't seem right and I am concerned that she will develop some bad habits from it. She just seems miserable. Please help with any tips or past experiences ",3.0058195488721786,4.053048589473686,3.2418045112781964,95.99263157894735,73.63157894736842,6.69172932330827,23.045112781954884,6.868970318607317,0.30814285714285683,356,9,85,3,7,109,65,95,0.165,0.757,0.078,-0.8809,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,6,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,5,0,10,1,1,0,0,20,13,6,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,5,12,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,1,13,1,11,10,1,11,0,1,0,0,15,6,0,4,5,54,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150957786670454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37069732494825663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438407037822058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942610513332212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714446425138906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615950410976906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879223536539848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269952655502496,0.0,0.1084509271383727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329364934484271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21191032631151124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24367347363552724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957444737122905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041746162874785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842357697238667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45214085218992606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gotBooched,2019/01/16,"The guilt of having raising an only child is killing me Hello all - 

Long story short my wife can’t carry.  We successfully did IVF and with her sister as a gestational carrier.  One round of IVF, one transplant....we were very fortunate.  Our daughter is now 5 years old.  

I work for myself and the company is growing.  I’m working at times 70+ hours a week.  Other than that, family life is great.  We get along well, we’re in my opinion a loving family and really value hanging out together.  Every second I spend with my wife and daughter is cherished,

Right now we are joking that my wife is a single mom.  She works three days a week and is getting our kid on the school bus, getting her off the bus, taking care of the house, cooking stuff.  So it’s pretty much just the two of them most of the time, and my wife has her hands full.  

Seeing my daughter play by herself and sometimes eat breakfast or dinner by herself just breaks my heart.  She’s not complaining, she’s not asking for siblings....but I see her eating eggs and toast on her little plate and watching a cartoon by herself while lunches are being packed and school clothes prepared and I look at that and I think “she shouldn’t be by herself”.  It devastates me.  I really can’t put it into words.   watching her play in the leaves by herself.  Or ride her bike.  It’s gotten so bad that I’m pretty much always looking to ensure she’s playing with a cousin or friend on the weekend.  I don’t even know if that is a sensible thing I am doing.  I just hate the fact that she is alone at times.  

I have two siblings - one I am very close with, the other I have a terrible relationship with.  I know having a sibling isn’t a guaranteed great thing but I just can’t help but feel I’m failing for not providing a means for a second child (adoption).  Straight up - we can’t afford it.  The company is consuming me and our money right now and we just can’t swing it.  We are 3-4 years away from that and I feel like at that point the age gap would be something to consider.

We knew what we were getting into with the IVF / GC thing.  I just never would have expected this feeling.  

Any advice for feeling better out there would be so greatly appreciated.  I don’t know if this is a normal feeling or not.  ",2.343824404761904,4.446055138392862,3.6887500000000015,87.61458333333337,77.97321428571428,6.230952380952381,24.059523809523807,7.2636822038024595,1.0483550595238105,1754,60,349,22,42,574,219,448,0.045,0.8140000000000001,0.141,0.9855,1,1,1,0,1,0,55.0,11,0,1,6,15,22,2,1,29,0,42,11,2,0,3,76,70,28,1,8,18,10,7,1,1,4,1,0,0,3,23,35,7,0,11,7,2,5,14,7,1,8,5,13,58,15,43,57,6,48,0,1,7,1,50,24,0,8,19,253,81,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988731236188095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526939175028724,0.0,0.0,0.07653942943267772,0.0,0.0,0.06255339617187952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599416539315305,0.0,0.08642354594955322,0.0,0.07680417532208945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135383209475484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378550047161588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593231343243473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824856793258574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060755654141532875,0.0,0.07750187724713177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343176819642372,0.0,0.23255354193829286,0.06571456658153345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106788483878414,0.0,0.19223482176682444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042435108567933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081678530861066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900343788144222,0.0616560420724094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058733593394047,0.10613908961491801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176849267232148,0.0,0.1516587224574872,0.0,0.0,0.09739952143636303,0.0,0.0,0.06497218477757359,0.044939542107250915,0.09219378657556834,0.0,0.08140440543459469,0.15448955727250532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302064028485771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001993391263232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773248127862067,0.0,0.0,0.13524007318377732,0.0,0.07094500384479625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012640638045584,0.0,0.0,0.0965234657909817,0.0,0.1869955706922046,0.06995923168886052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695617143046945,0.0,0.0,0.1871649505260213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247098463458177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785672535087766,0.0,0.0,0.09875816319393227,0.0,0.15711048461998425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18618877691109714,0.14660130690286222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081504721191736,0.09097615969814796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053015616227626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916176087824995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833335351234616,0.05894069016046913,0.0,0.0,0.16091271634495027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971322759230687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179558916805205,0.0,0.0,0.14757067952728686,0.0,0.08270614618352241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20089994574817135,0.0,0.0,0.19603189921677672,0.0,0.0,0.11847148517902975
parenting,lovescrap41,2019/01/16,"Questions about a 4 yo boy I have a 4.5 year old son who has never really had any issues, but recently, since he started school really he's been acting so weird. He's more anxious, agitated, he's not sleeping in his own bed and he will occasionally wet himself. He's become SUPER clingy. He's seeing a child therapist and has been since November but I don't feel like it's making much of a difference and I don't know how to help him....suggesions?",1.99973137973138,4.210861769230772,4.432454212454214,81.29310134310134,79.65934065934066,8.0004884004884,23.2979242979243,8.841846274778883,1.9242590964590969,355,12,70,9,9,124,66,91,0.142,0.748,0.11,-0.2226,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,9,1,1,2,1,12,14,7,0,0,3,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,3,5,2,4,10,3,7,0,0,1,0,15,1,0,1,6,36,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800722940147085,0.0,0.0,0.2458788369061255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24037369672234746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273944930913848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004871849071113,0.15548685645022767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458840050494359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271666237268588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961294243093408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633119102900168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452808720986333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999537803657518,0.0,0.16786256385013618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283836149310964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24381413122433615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788601171642727,0.0,0.2148998736442403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202700948525656,0.17343625277920227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36007922295311595,0.0,0.21780389652736126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405146486700896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527046108543666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015734842154096
parenting,unseasonedearlobe,2019/01/16,"How did you KNOW you were one and done? My son just turned one. He is amazing. He is my whole world. 

I always thought I would want two or three kids. 

Buuuut I’m not sure anymore. My son is great. But my pregnancy was a nightmare and obviously, raising a baby is difficult. I’m just not sure I want to do it again.

If you are one and done, how did you know? Do you have regrets? 
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parenting,throwaway7363828,2019/01/16,"Advice on helping 5 year old more independent? My 5 year old has been driving me up the wall since, well pretty much forever, lol. 

He never wants to play with his own toys, he’s always messing with stuff that isn’t his, he’s constantly getting into things he shouldn’t be getting into. I feel like I’m taking care of an overgrown 2 year old! 

He won’t play in his own room. He begs me and other family members to follow him to the bathroom or his room or anywhere for that matter. Anywhere in the house I go, he’s right next to me. He’s the same way over at his dads and his other grandparents houses. 

I just had a baby in December and she’s constantly in my arms, so it’s really hard to find time to myself to get a breather. I told my son he needed to go to his room and play because I was trying to get baby to sleep, and he was jumping all over the couch where I was sitting and being a hellion over all. He starts crying and throwing a fit when I tell him he needs to go to his room and play, he finally went and was screaming “mommy” over and over while my baby was drifting off to sleep, and every time he yelled she popped her eyes back open. 

I’m just at my wits end with this. This isn’t new behavior, he has done this since I can remember. I can’t even run outside to grab the mail or get something out of my car in 20 degree weather without him trying to follow me outside in just his underwear and no shoes. I just don’t know what else to do. I’m lucky he sleeps in his own room at night. 

I’d love to hear anyone’s input on this, because I need all the help I can get before I pull my hair out, haha. ",2.9062596899224817,3.5690751686046567,4.441279069767443,88.75003875968996,73.47674418604652,7.128682170542637,24.21705426356589,7.1686216300943375,0.8168240310077519,1254,34,280,12,24,421,173,344,0.053,0.85,0.097,0.9392,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,0,12,2,21,8,7,1,4,45,48,18,0,5,8,2,4,1,0,2,0,3,6,0,12,20,0,0,4,5,0,13,9,2,1,0,10,8,41,10,48,34,9,68,0,0,1,1,41,33,0,4,21,171,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174071256613026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663265020690537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280015797482453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005859030624536,0.0,0.12693599797007046,0.0,0.08859484055911589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061529530212074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22502429062691345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143662699586034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654656743727324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697535497425342,0.0,0.09221565734150704,0.0,0.0,0.06876747543519021,0.0,0.08772201558982004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815106945722256,0.0,0.05264405497257492,0.07438031746975372,0.0,0.11405372244948038,0.09515991551013153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263771142890555,0.0,0.1775141518343291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326726768471577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734602482976295,0.0,0.1395731942501473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24027120902374574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05721929708156515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050865699688294096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396853547330884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653706096928617,0.23160154329024246,0.08030049018617003,0.1005556467153064,0.11072828853699447,0.09770558477320224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32775591785604075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592315496796023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669921985004204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794285631410895,0.0889142874385568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225125987474282,0.0,0.3125728438990021,0.0,0.0,0.0801533962294772,0.0,0.0,0.07369366855234251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918763207308287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828209175676164,0.0,0.09100176054136848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916988249181323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142147014754548,0.0,0.0,0.09948706741653483,0.0,0.14137552907505885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141017091391799,0.08264224156773572,0.0,0.0,0.09361256917365043,0.09651634965578976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036387418725316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20114140145312276
parenting,ddaidone0134,2019/01/16,"Taking my toddler daughter away from her mother for a short time My wife has borderline personality disorder, recently diagnosed, and has made huge mistakes and made living as a family a very toxic place for me and our daughter.  She has a dcfs case against her now that will be unfounded I’m sure. 

But in the meantime, my wife is checking in to rehab and has some court issues to settle along with physical health.

I am hopeful she will get better and we can try to be a family again one day soon.

All that said, I’m worried how this is going to effect our daughter, 21months, being away from her mother for at minimum a few months with limited visitations and if there is any advice anybody has as I don’t want her to be negatively effected by this long term.

Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.",9.196748120300754,7.516524802631579,9.414097744360905,66.24368421052634,60.842105263157904,12.63308270676692,39.47744360902256,11.491704259439757,4.5595759398496245,638,27,112,15,7,213,102,152,0.06,0.84,0.101,0.7501,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,4,5,5,0,0,7,0,18,3,0,5,2,25,29,11,0,4,2,7,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,4,10,0,1,3,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,4,1,15,4,22,19,4,19,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,3,9,84,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916461694842536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23544638334801501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252918718277467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310492083899402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164395764506088,0.0,0.0,0.17570667096605533,0.0,0.0,0.19840319585580735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263922111223104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044471665092398,0.0,0.09838445443184908,0.0,0.0,0.1908583670701285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18401167314074215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194087627134716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806856333645306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286248993950816,0.15320009800512588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276085685334935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817763255369306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730626290484793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115612766188466,0.18086687794957693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092880609985586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467068650465694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315752947929502,0.0,0.13015989107945908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743287001047536,0.10094393860999004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753277826867173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283685884774364,0.10210689287867836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580527491898335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SMRoz,2019/01/16,Podcast My 5yr old daughter is wanting to learn about American history.  I help her but feel that I could use some help.  Is there a good podcast geared toward Kindergarten aged that covers either science or history? I have googled and haven't had great luck.,5.289255319148936,7.702597872340426,4.558457446808512,83.30875,70.27659574468085,7.253191489361702,33.026595744680854,8.07648339933343,2.6491744680851066,208,10,35,3,4,62,39,47,0.142,0.6859999999999999,0.172,0.1504,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,9,3,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,3,3,7,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,2,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060854530203673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938406698118778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32154805318816165,0.0,0.4226608450313121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5139224452851562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022766779972854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311039421591661,0.0,0.0,0.2261183844864738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ecjg2010,2019/01/16,"My daughter has been reading Grimm Tales and came up with her own....I think I may have to stop her reading these..here is just one of her made up rhymes... Eden had a little lamb, little lamb, little lamb

Eden had a little lamb, and she was quite cold

Eden had a little lamb, little lamb, Little lamb and she sheared some wool

Eden had a little lamb, little lamb, little lamb
Eden had a little lamb and she wanted food

Eden killed the little lamb, little lamb, little lamb

Eden killed the little lamb, Little lamb, Little.lamb

Eden killed the little lamb and she ate good food",5.695324675324677,6.3703050000000045,4.69857142857143,89.36500000000002,67.18181818181819,6.285714285714287,20.259740259740266,3.1291,-0.2740259740259741,450,5,88,0,7,132,46,110,0.136,0.8390000000000001,0.025,-0.93,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,3,0,8,0,11,3,0,1,0,14,16,5,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,10,1,9,1,5,5,1,21,0,0,0,0,8,19,0,2,1,41,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422518940490733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580322230555486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04709929119204983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863781649290729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9567776209395698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05313425021049397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038051387681008964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059726666024760726,0.11233834491531708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046947238674128436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03598120067518375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03312107017663141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nickinfull,2019/01/16,"Gone from toddler for 4 months I’m leaving my 2 year old and soon to be new born for about 4 months for military training. It keeps me awake at night knowing I’ll miss out on 4 months of their lives, but I soon realize it could be a lot worse. Anything I can do to help them/wife while I’m gone? 4 months isn’t extremely long compared to typical deployments but it’s the longest I’ve been away. 

And for anyone in similar situations, how did they react when you came back?",3.4968367346938765,4.465251744897961,4.5597959183673495,87.30663265306124,72.36734693877553,8.457142857142857,28.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,1.964677551020408,373,14,82,7,7,122,74,98,0.065,0.895,0.04,-0.3094,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,2,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,13,16,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,5,0,7,0,15,8,1,23,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,1,15,46,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885166906806848,0.0,0.16341432085506585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18657233378727173,0.15269566985147262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271224800435765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854987531391554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331039074496006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650692123310135,0.0,0.0,0.10913430854675467,0.0,0.0,0.21026741988523556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534967188881787,0.17573694455169614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882551240033544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6340182615173139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178968520188835,0.0,0.18635376488774014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837617896830168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22321210490480944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20236986252380734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787893180174487
parenting,Unholy_bunnies,2019/01/16,"Please Help I need Advice!  

Please help I need advice and I’m at a complete loss on what steps I should take from here. A little bit of a backstory here..

My daughter is now four, me and her father split up before she was born because of his mental and physical abuse. I’d be here forever listing all the awful things he had done, sadly in that time I never called the cops out of fear and was able to show no proof (including my phone he had broken at the time) At the time she was born I had nowhere to live but with my mother who was an addicted at the time, my daughter was born and due to his aggressive manners towards me and the new born i refused for him to see her. Same day he called child protective services with a huge list of lies from my child played on the floor that was covered in dog shit, I never bathed her ect. Ect. CPS came and found alls of his claims to be false beside the fact my mother had tested dirty for meth in which CPS stated I purposely put my child in harm and my mother was forced to move. Fine and dandy I jumped through every hoop offered to me from parenting classes, anger management and everything in between for CPS proving I was far from incapable of being a mother. It wasn’t long after we ended up in court for custody of the newborn, his family is made of money so they had an excellent lawyer when I on the other hand do not have finances in that manner. Once in court his claim was filled with lie after lie about how i was the abusive one, how I did everything that he did to me and as much as I tried I felt that his lies were winning. I gave into 50/50 custody out of risk of losing my daughter to this monster I was now bound too forever. Over the years his emotional abuse to this girl is appalling from striking fear of the potty into her by spanking everytime she used the restroom in her diaper. Shoving her into ice cold showers every time she cried. Screaming at her when she does nothing wrong, so close to her face that she feels his spit. Spanking her when she has nightmares and gets up in the middle of the night. Never just letting her be a kid….but is always making sure he looks good to the outside world. Every time we exchange her she cries and begs to live with me she doesn’t want to go with her dad. Telling me she has nightmares of him killing or hurting her. Or dreams involving decapitated heads and her father. In this time he has broken into my home, emotionally attacked me every other week over some insane drama or some dumb bullshit. Today comes and we go to exchange her and he confronts me claiming his friend said I was talking shit about his gf, I don’t associate with anyone and I’m not a highschool kid I could care less to talk meaningless shit to people I don’t even know let alone talk bad about someone at all. I tell him he is being childish which pushed his buttons, so now he is claiming that my bf sleeps in the same bed as my child. Which is false, the only time they have ever laid in the same bed is if my bf is laying behind me and lays in front of while watching tv. Once my child is asleep I move her to her own room and her own bed. With this claim he is stating that he refuses to return my daughter to me until this is investigated, which of course the father sister boyfriend is a cop and I know he will use to the fullest against me. I don’t know what to do any more, I fear going back to court knowing well his family will throw money at the court system. I could call the cops if he does not return her on our scheduled exchange but I fear his influence there. I could call CPS, but with that and all of the above….I fear for my daughter psychological involvement in everything above…

I feel like a failure as a mother, I worked hard to give my daughter everything but I have failed to protect her these years from her father out of fear….the fear that he will use his ability of being a snake against me and against her. 

I don’t want to lose her, she needs to be with me….not treated like a piece of property used for control….she is her own being and I am failing the one thing I love the most in the world…

There is alot of details...I could go on and on about but this is really the jist of it all. 

I just need help...I need advice, just something to tell me where to go from here…..",4.639078341013825,5.159437124423963,5.041866359447006,86.52208525345625,69.46082949308756,7.812903225806451,27.36635944700461,7.6454224807358475,1.3799755760368668,3376,103,705,35,56,1073,354,868,0.182,0.7390000000000001,0.079,-0.9988,2,1,2,0,2,0,65.0,4,0,2,8,30,40,9,7,44,1,70,11,9,9,13,114,109,48,1,14,16,18,5,2,4,4,1,2,7,8,30,46,0,5,9,6,6,16,13,27,1,3,28,11,124,13,132,63,20,110,0,7,3,1,125,51,4,9,42,488,154,11,0.05511057238426379,0.1958910495836008,0.0,0.060078658524855326,0.0,0.16156024052432089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057077932511082716,0.0,0.0,0.04585641103961372,0.0,0.0,0.03747707904335176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038534593595709606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269623210764869,0.0,0.042376628390881146,0.04601502597071392,0.033594893407607844,0.0,0.04689503801355521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016647153050932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22509622454285905,0.06303181318359527,0.05618890147286856,0.0,0.0,0.047472878285473696,0.0577823866223832,0.0,0.061811193076037975,0.1760052306429839,0.0,0.12107275194199515,0.03554176000394986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645526655412573,0.05639724953114825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239839525040906,0.048811609447949884,0.0,0.0,0.0364000132996193,0.049850667861379865,0.185732136532956,0.0,0.1981193156350208,0.0,0.1039066858570908,0.4341030090840946,0.05573112256981362,0.03937100392293109,0.05291479198073076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060425898070990865,0.0425782915163966,0.0,0.028792999465785236,0.05286708276075351,0.15660304154808044,0.04622413341252369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936824803670964,0.0,0.05655934666677244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108183649644908,0.0,0.055280397542830435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05899700756132361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06097168303258185,0.0,0.12114931726564572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127085882368514,0.0,0.053848483848830564,0.0552352715958805,0.0973272901755925,0.04877112233149742,0.046279000850451626,0.123309267519041,0.0,0.0,0.04973944323720001,0.05214695610788439,0.03678673500710398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553849481837796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714763357780653,0.04051261180616415,0.2043189555970225,0.12751401264529144,0.053226134224435034,0.0,0.05171753889007377,0.0,0.052880080543057685,0.0,0.0,0.11738192194946324,0.0746887002408016,0.04191407367573479,0.0,0.0,0.0611937687361938,0.0,0.0,0.038206731823053855,0.0,0.0,0.1209897181672726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05540134688841563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0353052438562164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242277453152527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04391599100039843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971063177672407,0.0,0.0,0.05515037258054915,0.0,0.04669500914061967,0.04242681108036746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05194106226533452,0.0,0.041436291837608885,0.1328873715932758,0.14450720808195486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322603096017355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570833435579796,0.0,0.05223837871019176,0.0,0.0,0.037416461095934536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903913600972323,0.0,0.0,0.06501128691586745,0.0,0.04420637694817496,0.0,0.04955102308712494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040121153059493285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025475949960193,0.0,0.07097880348875019
parenting,sidianmsjones,2019/01/16,"Suggestions for shows that give kids perspective Just watched an episode of Rich House Poor House and it did give my daughter some perspective. Was wondering what shows, movies, or documentaries you all might suggest.",11.408285714285714,12.579732257142865,7.417857142857144,73.04964285714289,55.0,12.714285714285715,43.214285714285715,12.161744961471696,5.534428571428572,179,9,28,5,2,48,31,35,0.078,0.831,0.091,0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,6,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,4,0,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5705414705625207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6862653476740425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154695822280358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32249224120752235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mag0tbrain,2019/01/16,"Can you all tell me if im in the wrong? I feel guilty right now for being mad and a little disrespectful to my dad an hour ago. I'm not usually one to do that. I'll appreciate it if someone can tell me if im wrong :) 

CONTEXT: 

i'm turning 20 this month. My family and i live just outside the border (somewhere in south east asia). We wake up every morning at 4am to pass through the traffic during peak hours. By the time we reach there, it's 6am. My dad is not a good dad honestly he's done things that most dads wouldnt do but forgiving him is the only way i can heal emotionally. 

WHAT HAPPENED: 

It's not a big issue (for me at least).

Class starts at 1pm on Thursdays for me. I WANT to spend the morning on my own (doing project, getting breakfast) while waiting for class. It's very peaceful and therapeutic in the morning in mcdonalds with a cup of tea on your table, right? 

My dad always has a problem with this.  He thinks i'm crazy for wanting to wait that long. My frustation has built up from all that at this point so i got mad at him. Then, he gets super mad from that one sentence i said. Says he doesnt want to send me to the country in the morning anymore if i start late. I might have to lie on this one. Because i have always been doing what he wants. Like i dont have a mind on my own. 

I was only ""standing up for myself"" because he doesnt do that to my twin sister directly. He's only mad when she's not around. And when she's rude to him, he doesnt get as mad as when i did it to him just now. 

Im thinking maybe he is simply looking out for my safety. Or doesnt want me to be loitering around early in the morning. 

What are your thoughts? Thank you.





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parenting,motherofrobots,2019/01/16,"He ate the dinner and even asked for more cauliflower! Obligatory first time posting/sorry about the formatting on mobile. 

I read a post here not so long ago about fussy eaters and staving them out, and it shined up my spine a whole bunch.

My 6 yo is so fussy, he survives on a Rota of noodles, toasted sandwichs, French fries and not much else. 

Well, not any more. For the past couple of weeks the snacks are gone, so are treats and lollies. I chat to him everyday about the importance of eating lots of different foods and have been serving small plates that he has to eat ALL of.

Last night I made boiled potatoes with a bit of cheese, carrots and peas and spicy roasted cauliflower.  

After the standard negotiation from him eg: i dont like it/its yuck/i just have to eat 1 piece right? He ate it all with no fuss and asked for more cauliflower. *happy mum dance*

So I just wanted to thank you all for posting your woes and tips for fussy eaters  - I think I see a light at the end of the tunnel.

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parenting,yycmomma,2019/01/16,How to lose weight with small kids around? I'm a Sahm with 3 kids under 7. How on Earth do parents find time to workout and resist snacking and to portion control? I try working out at home with them but typically one of the 3 is upset which I have to deal with or they're interrupting me counting sets. I try portion control but sometimes they drive me to have some hidden cupboard dark chocolate and avoiding carbs that they eat are just so hard to resist. Working out in the evening just cuts into my finally 2 hours alone time and mornings already start at 6. tips would be greatly appreciated...,4.577062801932367,6.374527382608697,4.7846376811594205,83.51772946859906,70.82608695652175,6.502415458937199,31.90821256038648,6.937597516519254,1.9134444444444445,479,22,88,4,9,150,83,115,0.162,0.838,0.0,-0.9525,1,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,3,5,7,5,1,2,3,0,7,3,0,4,0,25,9,10,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,12,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,9,1,20,7,3,17,0,1,0,0,7,10,0,2,5,56,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426163433518293,0.2069835589630436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669733561254258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207420577060039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337213608568046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192667128438745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388546260033953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20546920004735408,0.17143177176966928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067919911774338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802214316388844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881438219803026,0.0,0.18471456157422636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098381877468323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270994615329793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208269658742703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550740320484455,0.0,0.1327600607925064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21874228919481892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25468977462082065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22840465199825785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27310031817413305,0.0,0.0,0.13324138503125654,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,matnerlander,2019/01/16,"Help for a pregnant friend My friend is about 15 weeks pregnant and for all 15 weeks she has had crippling insomnia that has caused her depression and anxiety. She has had three nights of 7 hour sleep in this time span and all other nights she does not sleep even for a minute. Her doctor put her on sleeping pills and anti depressants and those don't work. Her doctors don't seem to be worried but she is missing work and is actually losing her mind.
If anyone has suffered from this and found some sort of relief we are open to ANY suggestions we are all worried about her and her baby. ",5.048021739130434,6.2227749652173925,4.791902173913043,86.31046195652176,68.91304347826087,7.836956521739133,27.41847826086957,8.07648339933343,1.5853695652173911,471,15,93,6,8,144,72,115,0.171,0.753,0.076,-0.8831,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,2,0,14,7,3,1,3,23,17,10,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,5,11,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,0,14,3,12,13,4,11,0,5,0,0,17,4,0,4,6,64,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.14930661487643515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404572421528384,0.0,0.11704511851600888,0.0,0.0,0.10698164852627394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717386729606025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635585614789521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132054040991127,0.1338919456795626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010555209178367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775737295007942,0.2364159262011021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255314566846316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067487216972386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116864986507985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448709377552408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871615892063174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380796493877014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928609311445295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593335928807308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921593993903337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454558691293001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22277266707997367,0.3107592801334388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chrosed,2019/01/16,"Stepmom to a toddler looking for advice. I started dating my boyfriend in August 2017. He has a daughter, born May 2016.  We live together and we alternate weeks with her bio mom and her boyfriend.  My stepdaughter is very up and down with how she feels about me.  I also try to keep in mind that she's still very young and probably doesn't totally understand everything that's going on in her life.  It just seems like more often than not she tells me she hates me, or if I offer to do something for her she says ""I want daddy to do it."" The other day I asked if she wanted to watch Peppa Pig on TV and she said: ""I want daddy to put it on."" I try to keep my cool and I love her more than anything and would do anything for her, it just seems like this step parent job is a lot harder than I expected. I feel like I try 10x as hard as her parents, yet she still doesn't know how to feel about me.  Any advice? ",1.5981886087768444,3.34624251322752,3.0432368502956737,93.04582633053222,78.89417989417991,6.140180516651106,21.170557111733576,7.048011613610866,0.39043143479614006,701,19,157,8,17,229,106,189,0.023,0.887,0.09,0.8834,3,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,11,6,1,0,4,1,10,2,0,2,1,38,29,15,0,7,6,4,4,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,8,11,0,2,7,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,9,35,5,28,26,4,21,0,0,2,1,28,8,0,8,13,109,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617558613006052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710629703013842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107913932462842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204311522512071,0.0,0.12520942187418874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637580606262597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037048518875365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316188481694566,0.09568187391282963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611729944758555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997780125679065,0.13223126398141474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290799180692325,0.23809188707661205,0.0,0.0,0.0736061602717059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946009494563998,0.1962989254264336,0.0,0.11826543114175599,0.0,0.1124701197066907,0.0,0.0,0.11386518033756755,0.1208799030279289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523430822322055,0.1568608944141457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974338412060207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440259563143795,0.0,0.0,0.13463981507697556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274011024129525,0.10650902189695814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438554313775617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031082874153173,0.0,0.0,0.09479857766762556,0.0,0.2139183839099772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706348230505295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727954654029285,0.0,0.0,0.13942913953879646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101776179685986,0.2369917377432622,0.0,0.10743309958714917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514227179489612,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IronGoddess_RS,2019/01/16,"My toddler gave me a great idea for a project. So today my toddler was playing by himself. He told me he wants me to “get your phone and take pictures of me at night time and morning time and make a movie” and then tried putting a legos goblet (cup) inside his belly button... 😂

So I plan to do that, I’ve seen pictures of people taking a picture every single day for several years and always liked them, I didn’t want to do it myself but I’ll try to do it for my child and when he’s old enough maybe he’ll do it himself. 

I’m going to take a picture of him everyday (just once instead of twice a day like he suggested), and make a movie for him. I’m sure when he’s an adult he will enjoy it and so will he future spouse and children. So excited to see this 15+ years from now. ",3.111268372346217,3.4107551077844356,4.603962983124664,89.09491562329889,72.77245508982034,7.030811105062603,25.96026129559064,6.574015621080383,0.8618431137724549,601,18,136,4,11,202,99,167,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.9586,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,1,1,9,7,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,2,1,17,24,17,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,3,6,9,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,2,17,7,17,16,2,18,0,0,2,0,23,1,0,0,17,80,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819416583050113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297206151341924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840257765659634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005763871076164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305033780127356,0.0,0.10121881142721276,0.0,0.0,0.19635680430752392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20105416929456674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402214792433265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23776738669304245,0.0,0.17892623166451888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713557299545578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18688687127652415,0.1896715814922204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347269712703672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790405354863581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419233102935537,0.0,0.0,0.20120325425429567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678579334983693,0.0,0.40172899915863397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770406353093795,0.0,0.16881877106795684,0.17018298449261834,0.0,0.24183755835803955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100969791495812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293822027540645
parenting,ThinkingThings__,2019/01/16,"Does this make me a bad SAHM? Due to the end of a work contract, I’m now a SAHM (temporarily) to a one year old. Should I be playing and engaging with my child all day long? Or is it okay to take breaks away from them? Not leaving them unsupervised, just not focusing on them 100%. I really feel like I should be attentive... but I find it a little dull to focus on kid-friendly play after a while. I try not to go on my phone often and deleted much of my social media. However I like reading and playing the piano and I do daily chores and need to start a job hunt. Should I really only be doing these things during nap times? Or is it okay to let my kid play without my attention while I do other things? My child is likely to be my only so i don’t want to mess this up. Any advice? ",1.2543636363636388,2.9619905575757635,3.5751515151515143,89.0227272727273,79.78787878787878,6.581818181818183,20.090909090909093,7.554174236665415,0.5629272727272725,602,15,133,9,15,208,99,165,0.052000000000000005,0.8029999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.9016,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,3,1,4,13,0,0,9,2,15,0,0,1,1,26,23,11,0,5,8,0,1,3,0,3,0,0,1,3,9,6,0,0,4,6,0,1,5,3,0,1,0,1,21,10,20,15,2,20,0,1,0,0,8,6,0,3,15,94,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986104706413122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516693443448546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293018399417215,0.0,0.15368219417567475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870330499755898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610719182606997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302229723789174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306613459105197,0.1314923145675511,0.0,0.0,0.16822726724133766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220409804084316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046053915301961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265089041984264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19489268784187916,0.0,0.18821355391286795,0.0,0.2697668742876057,0.1844762130558575,0.0,0.16288707730133842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286130526252385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530508660630133,0.13647796451453575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313973426562392,0.0,0.1247236428861408,0.2799714516483135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18410954852812086,0.0,0.23582676429146499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762572507640815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027843086125446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383900174729932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24456222443289785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732671418341302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496448101912863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856320309124268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774270205449838,0.0,0.1339976823867334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852843750493187
parenting,Auroreos14,2019/01/16,"Weight limits on bassinet I am a bit unsure of what to do regarding where my son sleeps and am hoping people here might have some insight. He is about to turn 4 months old and I believe he is around 14 lbs (I havent weighed him). He currently sleeps in our room in a bassinet but that bassinet is only for up to 15 lbs as it then becomes a fall hazard which i get as I could definitely see it falling over. I assumed i could transfer him to a pack n play using the bassinet setting but I just read that it too has a 15lb limit due to a fall hazard which I dont really get as its seems so stable. I wasnt sure if this means the mattress may not be able to support his weight when being held up in the bassinet position. 

The problem is I know we are supposed to keep baby in our room until 6 months old but i cannot fit his full crib in our room. Has anyone had this issue? What do people suggest? Is it dangerous to use the pack n play? ",2.904357142857143,3.5895425500000044,4.200428571428572,90.39200000000001,73.5,6.914285714285715,25.785714285714285,6.868970318607317,0.8715214285714286,730,23,166,6,14,241,118,200,0.084,0.818,0.099,0.6041,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,2,8,7,1,0,11,0,24,5,2,2,1,29,37,13,0,5,6,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,13,4,3,4,5,3,0,3,5,2,0,0,3,3,21,5,25,28,3,29,0,0,1,0,13,16,0,7,9,110,34,2,0.1474710686625413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311520008198387,0.0,0.0,0.1312805167918413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287020912434333,0.0,0.16614939423876215,0.0,0.0,0.1610002123075773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23548729699393625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728349941652893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409509346456238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647204602161426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539214814972089,0.0,0.13107906171357478,0.0,0.0,0.08104624263530369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606392263987086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644349919121953,0.0,0.0,0.2354200001007551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094921585148879,0.0,0.0,0.11215839301872407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20447574134278865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110989630719678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751097642809416,0.0,0.0944737427977524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751534858042136,0.13425212228438713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29515514100932144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673484211070228,0.13898973696603542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040617532144988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547353086979614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591600653875339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drewbieVS,2019/01/16,"Do you think 7-8 years old too young for a laptop? My 7 and 8 daughters told me they wanted laptops for their birthdays for simple games like Minecraft and Roblox. Their mother doesn’t think their old enough but hasn’t articulated a reason for her opinion. Everyone else I’ve asked thinks it comes down to whether or not they will take care of them, and based how well they take care of their tablets I’m convinced they’re responsible enough to take care of a laptop.  

Are there any other angles I should consider as to why they might be too young? Currently, I don’t see any reason against getting them and it seems like it would benefit them learning how to type and learning the basics of navigating applications and operating systems.",6.521502797761791,7.537221374100722,5.88369304556355,80.38766586730617,65.4748201438849,8.767705835331737,31.27178257394085,8.841846274778883,2.401699600319744,597,22,111,9,9,182,89,139,0.0,0.787,0.213,0.9854,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,11,0,6,8,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,4,0,26,27,12,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,8,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,1,17,8,15,21,2,9,0,0,1,0,18,1,0,4,8,68,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20564992232980514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135678089584192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4624924161108948,0.0,0.0,0.1302501953378865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263128373392461,0.0,0.0,0.3124715122814133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448338575523292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899866071381112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774279111080071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040519701986136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173295849257574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109289836648096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049124916887655,0.13765185665554508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410632744956836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906592390346003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448338575523292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918495281705066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595195129057566,0.0,0.13643949315019835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741208662042558,0.0,0.0,0.09737141872528997
parenting,MGoBlue297,2019/01/16,11 year old girl. My daughter started muddle school this year. A boy is picking on her by saying things to her like your little sister has a boys name. And throwing a piece of food at her during lunch also calling her a dumb blonde. I reached out to the boys dad who happens to work in the township school system but different school. Waiting to hear back. My daughter was called down today and told by vp that he will be checking in on her to make sure it stops. The boy went up to her after and said do you know my dad works in the school system. Everybody here knows him. Now also one of her friends asked her why she told on the boy said he was only joking around. I am afraid she is going to get labeled a rat or something else. Don’t know what to do. ,2.4903126550868464,4.136985038709678,3.143870967741936,93.75888337468984,76.03225806451613,5.285359801488834,22.24565756823821,5.369823440869387,0.027764267990074483,591,16,127,2,13,185,102,155,0.026,0.895,0.079,0.81,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,2,6,6,1,1,10,0,11,2,0,2,1,16,27,7,0,0,2,5,0,1,1,1,0,4,0,6,6,5,2,2,3,1,1,3,1,2,0,1,7,5,18,4,24,18,1,26,0,0,1,0,38,12,1,1,10,81,24,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141226866457569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917886324670915,0.12515687008355464,0.0,0.0,0.10294310579627493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734066552406975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987291166904986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118370075532628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618845314510438,0.0,0.10343299442718856,0.0,0.0699451773949113,0.0,0.07608535216818495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183869389732754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088904516821394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22072580083626114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540551219280122,0.13417986808984245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936389933633161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048133164367216,0.0,0.09071848165638396,0.10181944823346316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546952614991114,0.10646431887273207,0.0,0.5419624565536749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306501171727647,0.0,0.0,0.09475878964743163,0.0,0.0,0.11192711935187616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617743484995675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894189248190099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689968858745554,0.255850313307916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241052678504526,0.1208031182532944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492801862267628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724247245306503
parenting,jellybeannc,2019/01/16,"How to support son when he doesn't know what he wants to do, major life change This is long so I'll apologize in advance. 18 y.o son who is currently working full time doing landscaping, ok pay, good benefits, and possibility of advancement to a supervisory role within 6 months which would almost double his salary.  He originally was headed into the USMC, spent from spring 2017-June 2018 training, getting in shape and preparing himself for bootcamp and life as a marine, was truly 100% excited and really wanted to make this his career so he made it to Parris Island June 2018, but suffered a head injury the beginning of his second week during PT, so long story short, because of this, and the subsequent effects(memory loss, depressive thoughts) he was separated and sent home. Even though he's doing well, he wants to do more, including going to college, but his father and I do not have the money to send him, he's saving his money so he can pay his own way but I know that will take a while. He does live at home and is expected to contribute to the household in the form of cooking/cleaning, yard work, etc which he does with no complaint and we do handle the big bills like car insurance, medical etc since he is actively saving with a purpose in mind.  What can I suggest to him as far as balancing work and college? are there any programs he can look into to help him with expenses? scholarships etc?  he really doesn't want to take out loans and be indebted to anyone so he will need to work to pay for college, and the fields he's interested in, primarily vocational programs like welding, HVAC etc  really don't offer night programs so he's in a hard spot so to speak.    ",7.220880503144658,7.264194735849056,7.664150943396226,71.58069182389937,63.9056603773585,10.966037735849056,34.01886792452831,10.62613485830676,3.6489924528301887,1338,52,237,31,18,441,182,318,0.084,0.821,0.095,0.4278,3,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,0,7,13,14,0,0,14,1,25,5,2,4,0,41,44,29,0,7,4,3,1,2,0,3,3,1,3,0,10,19,0,0,3,1,10,6,5,3,1,1,7,3,14,11,41,33,10,36,0,3,1,0,40,16,0,1,15,145,24,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170307517958702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585909077058599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799965493583838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800097909145808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800707771129168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607945443883974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952395706283969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49763924976465,0.07367895213370937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058281243250196776,0.0,0.06339749333187744,0.093564408482212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992855645632044,0.0,0.22896878424044895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477086103006132,0.0,0.2237912239737137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226119709678848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758475683917925,0.10899720918542373,0.0,0.09850233700637306,0.1974397733424601,0.09367546820352354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555306810922628,0.07446173344591095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123767641276578,0.0,0.0,0.11263557977022574,0.0,0.08903963120012523,0.0,0.0,0.08271429147856912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468386483789698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257579623260602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21438893585610136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922768521816916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265877299372643,0.0,0.0,0.16774623337478445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959913707339343,0.08855971718687851,0.06504678723764523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631847113569677,0.08854467496673206,0.08948017420651222,0.0,0.10029851989781527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32484433359814746,0.0,0.0,0.07924324149006479,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Marie91,2019/01/16,"2.5 year old still terrified of the doctor..help please! I have a 2.5 year old daughter who, after she was born, spent a week in the NICU and underwent a minor surgery. She has visits regularly with her pediatrician and specialist. At her 2 year old well check up, she was a mess and the pediatrician seemed surprised at how afraid my daughter was. I personally thought it made sense. My daughter has very big boundaries when it comes to touch that she doesn’t necessarily want at the time. She gets overwhelmed and just screams. She does fine with other strangers as long as they don’t try and touch her. She’s shy, but doesn’t freak out. I have no clue if this is still developmentally appropriate or not. 

Her appointment with her specialist includes an ultrasound and office visit after that. The last time she went, she was 1.5 and wasn’t able to grasp or understand what was going on.

Now, I know she’s able to comprehend more and I’ve tried to explain what’s going to happen but am doing so very unsuccessfully apparently. Any mention of a doctor sends her into a freak out. She loves Daniel tiger and I’ve been watching the doctor episode and the new dentist episode and she’s cool with the idea of a doctor then, but any application to real life and she goes back to freakout mode. 

I’m taking her to this specialist appointment by myself, another first. Her dad has always been there before and has a much more calming presence than I do. 

What else can I do to explain to her what’s going on, and do you all have any tips for the morning of? It’s all being done in the morning and will run into her nap time, but she hasn’t been napping lately anyway so I’m not too concerned about that. ",4.779546605876393,6.203645337386021,5.250474924012161,81.83532738095239,69.790273556231,8.036524822695036,27.690096251266464,8.472884824447931,1.8515622087132733,1352,46,263,21,24,432,171,329,0.08,0.857,0.062,-0.8385,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,1,1,14,12,0,2,19,1,30,6,0,2,2,48,50,29,0,2,10,4,2,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,14,24,0,0,8,2,2,9,8,6,1,1,14,5,35,6,38,34,5,46,0,1,1,1,39,13,0,4,24,181,49,3,0.2275550978632503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946720352405221,0.0,0.0,0.23211790461571524,0.11930568050205173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748791205945637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681631402836276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800928385191048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4658245699962813,0.09956749980343713,0.1164339352782974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504654251617374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677912499795256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944407332162024,0.0,0.1939872091874599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061311076411042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626269272106914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844100369295053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252916535285738,0.0927438880664406,0.12834603099607514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803644476122791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068955043382376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268868008288454,0.10765906782514692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363958987731268,0.0,0.0,0.10988706575094674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581711944797858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934616712244924,0.0,0.12489358197022735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295037597596586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357880736146254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172579509849476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554655700590806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032666477616677,0.19903381127052536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544949743402238,0.0,0.0,0.11844644101859725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775678723492256,0.06710894623451699,0.0,0.0912654867969946,0.0,0.1022996806238444,0.10547292774810152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21980703350548306
parenting,Gordon___Shumway,2019/01/16,"How on Earth do you fit 3 car seats in anything but a mini-van?! Kid #3 is on the way. I thought my big Subaru Outback would last at least 10 years, but there's no way I can fit three car seats in the back. How in the hell did my parents do it with a family of 5 in a Corolla? Oh yeah, [car seats didn't take up a whole lot of space back then](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d4/a0/2e/d4a02e3c60cdca0ca8447224982ba0ab.jpg). 

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I assumed something with a third row would do enough until I actually looked inside them. There is ZERO trunk space in the Pilot, Ascent, Highlander, LR Discovery etc. Not to mention that even if I give up on ever using the trunk, how is my oldest supposed to get into the back row when there are two car seats shackled down in the middle row??

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I assume MANY of you have already addressed this problem so I'm open to advice. I don't have a real problem driving a mini-van, but if there are better solutions out there, I'd love to hear them. We live in the Northeast, so being able to get around in the winter is important to me. ",5.57663736263736,5.999003638095237,5.60047619047619,83.6817032967033,67.3809523809524,7.985347985347985,28.534798534798533,7.61054688173877,1.5995897435897444,844,26,165,8,13,265,125,210,0.083,0.809,0.108,0.5231,1,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,1,2,2,1,17,5,1,0,16,1,18,1,0,4,1,27,28,12,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,3,7,0,0,3,0,0,5,4,3,0,4,3,2,16,2,30,22,5,42,1,0,1,1,11,25,1,5,10,115,19,0,0.13299474565362815,0.0,0.12978368703523835,0.0,0.0,0.12996092622938246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676300895263025,0.0,0.0,0.2881995027021765,0.32320634593896097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944334378620717,0.1183935201552022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067942503957452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762304482726615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741912399664616,0.14832429697711572,0.08784177520090222,0.12030136153658963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537560997298866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896853089664435,0.12758067864349304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989474411533654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840846827995247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743679698884606,0.0,0.1116820907664408,0.0,0.0,0.1130673768176035,0.1200329504139455,0.0,0.0,0.1348357977420361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767492618133066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25451602051558736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137713680907952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238585273955833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999549733121356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558297239173303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991654161123073,0.0,0.0,0.11486475922544527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111300774079848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848388400609708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889513030133436,0.0,0.32320634593896097,0.08564425579692052
parenting,TheTiesThatBindUs,2019/01/16,"7 year old sleep issues Our 7 year old has always been a fairly awful sleeper. Used to wake between 6-12 times a night (and breastfeed each time) for the first couple of years etc

After a lot of awful night's sleep we got her I. To a routine of me putting her to bed at night, us listening to a bedtime meditation and then her going to sleep. She would sometimes still wake during the night to pee, but I'd take her and she would go back to sleep

The last month she'll wake up and want me to stay with her and it takes her FOREVER to go back to sleep. The last week I've spent 3 hours awake during the night, on 5 of 7 nights. It's honestly driving me insane and I need some suggestions of things we can do. I'm typing this on 3 hours sleep so excuse any typos or anything that doesn't make sense

She tosses and turns and says she can't sleep. She gets upset, says she's trying to sleep but she doesn't know how

Parents of Reddit who have dealt with something similar, what did you find that finally helped?

We tried playing the meditation in the middle of the night but it doesn't help

Thanks in advance",2.8867006307617658,4.288885445414845,3.6965574963609917,91.21976103833092,74.45851528384279,6.486268801552645,21.89252789907812,6.937597516519254,0.40442629791363416,873,21,190,8,18,278,133,229,0.076,0.88,0.044,-0.8011,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,5,1,0,2,5,4,0,1,13,2,13,12,12,3,0,29,30,15,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,9,14,0,0,2,1,1,6,4,1,0,1,4,3,25,3,29,23,4,41,0,0,0,0,29,7,0,3,27,111,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538176399794962,0.0,0.0,0.0534345685105663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466158768172049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084062636685325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694316515740329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763332883040102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607647978527598,0.07181730124945802,0.06683694814913861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04105286596107146,0.0,0.13397014120899173,0.0,0.06284463344753456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533605546071273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476362609798125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201322711014981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04318347146232475,0.1281003199393949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680274786117235,0.0,0.0,0.05245028060333447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271884127780056,0.0,0.0,0.058263319925372876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5161696460591234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16490518697061954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724966596706939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899086965828636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497403180900413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6290642573568191,0.0,0.0,0.06049186332628325,0.07771395536801025,0.0,0.0,0.08375186523950065,0.06275112295454233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815917523664675,0.0,0.0,0.0723424864621686,0.0,0.0,0.05220259246421118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163692772310128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669627969356506,0.08546843467555325,0.0,0.0,0.09451759639240544,0.06786468179101715,0.0,0.0,0.04634632892077331,0.0,0.06302915643208877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163667724955276,0.0,0.0,0.151801654556525
parenting,lucille_2_is_NOT_a_b,2019/01/16,"Poop on toilet? My 2.5 year old son will only poop in his diaper. He will wear underwear and tell us when he has to potty (it’s been months since he’s had any accident in underwear), but for poop he demands a diaper. We’ve tried watching episodes of Daniel Tiger where he poops on the toilet, bribing him with donuts (my wife’s idea), telling him about everyone in his family that poops on the toilet and no luck. 

He does still have a pretty full diaper overnight (which probably means he’s not 100% ready to be fully toilet trained), but during the day we’re hoping he could be out of pull-ups sooner than later. 

What are some tricks that you have used that worked for your kids? ",6.981428571428572,6.172995820895526,6.581684434968017,81.97067164179107,64.67164179104478,10.343710021321963,28.09808102345416,9.606745405546679,2.1024767590618336,536,12,110,9,7,167,94,134,0.066,0.845,0.08900000000000001,0.7265,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,1,4,3,1,0,5,0,11,6,6,1,0,14,14,5,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,9,2,16,7,2,16,0,0,1,0,20,9,0,3,7,58,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197940037391125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843686126692554,0.0,0.0,0.14413117328021804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19557572185447936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21355221613803965,0.0,0.0,0.21068445319783247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219738600686772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522905773726729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24344378419419116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838586808578352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23451290178741324,0.0,0.0,0.16997257916225278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273674867612132,0.24095769963614386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848714573363084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847768411445245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906764595785556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173357867340706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26882836382707226,0.19302174477418213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627018150811138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391884678365224
parenting,sjharper79,2019/01/16,"[serious] Advice for unruly 10 year old boy Hi Redditors.

I have a 10 year old boy who is consistently disrespectful and destructive. I have been having a very difficult time getting through to him. My wife and I are doing are best at trying to raise him to be a good person, but he keeps screwing up. I expect boys to do stupid things, and I don't fault him for that. But it's getting increasingly difficult to get him to stop doing things that he already knows are wrong. 

For instance.... Today, his 5th grade teach confiscated a paper from him on which he wrote a very short story about two girls in the classroom. He then showed it to another boy. This is his story. Names are redacted for obvious privacy reasons. 

""One day I met \[girl1\] and \[girl2\]. I saw them having sex. I \[was\] like what the fuck is going on and then I saw a baby.""

He showed this to his friend and they laughed about it. I've gotten some advice from my coworkers already about how to handle this, but I honestly can use all the help I can get. I have another boy (6) and a girl (2), but the 10 yo is the only one who is a problem. 

Taking away electronics and his pokemon cards, lecturing him, even spankings are becoming ineffective. One coworker suggested I have him read it to me a couple of times to make him feel very uncomfortable about it and then have him explain why he wrote it. Maybe him being uncomfortable will make him think twice about writing this type of garbage again. Another coworker suggested that I try to get to the root of what is going on in school. We already know that girl1 and my son are basically enemies because she's a monster. She's really not a good person at all. I don't like talking about 5th graders that way, but it's simply true. 

Please offer some assistance. 

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parenting,bebinn04,2019/01/16,"In Need of Birthday Party Invitation Advice... So this might be a silly question, but I’m an introverted social-anxiety ridden parent trying to help my extroverted kid and could use some advice! 

So my second grader’s birthday is in March. She has always wanted a birthday party, but because of a lot of outside forces that just wasn’t possible until this year. We recently moved to a new area (a year ago next month), but she has gotten to know some kids well at school and would like to invite them. Since most of these kids are in her class we figured it would be best to just invite the whole class (around 9 kids.... it’s a small school) and then she would like to invite a couple from some of the extra-curricular activities she is in. 

I’ve met most of these kids and they’re all a good bunch; however, due to my working schedule I’ve only had one or two passing interactions at best with some of the parents either on a field trip I helped chaperone and just in passing during drop off/pick up. My daughter wants to have the party at a bowling alley, so it’s not like I’m asking them to come to our house or anything.... but I still worry about coming off the wrong way. Would it be weird to invite their kids (and them as well obviously) to a party considering all this? 

The other thing is that I was thinking of just giving my daughter the invites and then having her give them out before/after classes with my contact to RSVP. Would there be a better way to invite them? Any and all other advice/suggestions are welcome! Thank you in advance. ",5.1559900990099035,5.979104161716176,5.896057755775575,79.77458168316832,68.43894389438944,7.908184818481848,27.03118811881189,7.908726449838941,1.6325354455445544,1223,36,228,14,20,400,165,303,0.038,0.7440000000000001,0.218,0.9955,3,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,1,6,5,13,14,0,0,20,0,23,0,0,1,4,54,39,21,0,9,12,4,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,6,14,16,0,0,4,0,0,8,2,2,2,3,5,0,25,12,42,23,15,41,0,0,0,0,36,16,0,11,17,170,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178509489136663,0.0988098695265927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275050556684884,0.0,0.0,0.07580222589676333,0.0,0.08527289882192626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172886415886207,0.09923036661618076,0.10420775768951432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679500047513154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233958082560906,0.09858460028404033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204003810448467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899831972482743,0.12333748786869805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138609866205365,0.0,0.09349427149231948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494296238123083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861938343618914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126002979038338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633732553777305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476631186599327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825018790928205,0.0,0.0,0.08897288603692884,0.11847309889684987,0.0,0.0826522878650209,0.0,0.10765672120351112,0.11854773826992465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553376453164667,0.08477661979329858,0.0,0.0,0.24754457922665254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256636926665214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248699399794762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006143978940472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256236206276791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220768035926714,0.0,0.0,0.11362783358515645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901868079154021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026249795514767,0.0,0.0,0.07405454589918374,0.07142434757304998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567961828003301,0.0,0.10888827392486536,0.0,0.0,0.09627277028572608,0.0,0.0,0.13149371248851585,0.17695660165719282,0.0,0.0,0.2004466698763328,0.0,0.0,0.12445030967239175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115020660858661,0.11320140894713565,0.0,0.39591919908370254,0.1218730223254742,0.0,0.14356378440572895
parenting,TinyAdministrator,2019/01/16,"Back to work Full-Time? For starters, I currently work 28 hours a week and my 2 year old daughter is in daycare 3-4 days a week. I occasionally go online and check to see what jobs are available out there to keep my options open. It's crossed my mind to go back to work full-time here recently.

I went to a particular company's website that I check fairly regularly, and, from what I can read in the job description, my dream job has come available. My husband is aware of what my dream job entails, but he probably isn't expecting me to go back to work full-time anytime soon. I plan to talk to him about this tonight, and I think he would be open to the idea. Not entirely sure until I try.

My biggest reservation here is putting my daughter in daycare 5 days a week. Her in-home daycare is absolutely wonderful and I know with 100% certainty that she is in a nurturing, educational environment. But, I worry about whether or not I'll have as big of an influence on her as I have now? Will her future sibling(s) be missing out if they start full-time daycare as soon as they're 3 months old? And don't get me wrong, I love my daughter dearly and I do enjoy the bonding time we get together, but damn..... being a part-time stay at home parent is hard as hell. After I've been home with her for 4-5 days, I'm ready to go back to work. It's even better when she wakes up in a bad mood the morning I return to work, because someone else can deal with it and not me (sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's honestly how I feel).  I often wonderful if I'm better suited as a full-time working mom. 

The biggest plus to this whole situation would be less financial stress on my husband. We've had conversations about when to have our next baby, and his biggest reservation is obviously money. I'm thinking he would be less stressed with having a second (or even third) baby if I contributed more to our household income.

Has anyone else on here been in the same situation? I'm just not sure when my dream job will come available again. 

\*I feel it necessary to point out that I don't want this post to become a contentious ""stay at home parent vs. full-time working parent"" thing. I'm simply looking for others experiences in this situation, so please keep it civil. Being a parent is hard, period, and we're all here doing what's best for our families!

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parenting,cheesyfacecares,2019/01/16,"Gave my LO eggs for the first time today! I'm just sharing because I'm so happy! He's been less than thrilled with his breakfasts (infant oatmeal and some baby food fruit) lately since he can't use his hands, and also is bored of it after a year I'd suspect, and he's also been rejecting most proteins lately - meat, fish, cheese, beans, and lentils - so it was great to be able to give him a breakfast he enjoyed!

Any advice on how to get him to start being more of a fan of veggies again is appreciated - he's so tired of purees but it's all we get from WIC that can actually span a month ($11 of veggies does not, especially since that's meant to be for me, too, at least, and usually gets used for dinners, which are with four adults, a 10 year old, and him). I've been trying some steamed veggies, but he isn't a huge fan - although he does sometimes accept green beans with a bit of pepper and parmesan. I try not to deliberately salt anything, either, and I'm trying to focus on more flavors than sweet.

(Side note - he JUST started ""reading"" to himself while playing while I wrote this. OMG I'm so proud!! Gtg read with him!!!!!)",4.8739269981120215,5.090858585903085,5.44458464443046,84.90701541850221,68.86784140969164,7.542983008181246,29.430144745122718,6.868970318607317,1.4254118313404658,877,30,183,6,14,283,141,227,0.042,0.8059999999999999,0.152,0.9792,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,1,0,0,2,11,11,0,0,8,0,13,8,1,3,2,32,28,20,0,0,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,7,13,6,0,3,3,0,0,4,2,0,2,7,6,12,9,28,18,10,22,0,1,1,0,22,6,0,3,16,105,19,2,0.14395404261327774,0.0,0.1404783799702641,0.0,0.0,0.1406702243802155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23023999173735024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789368537148986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184619113913804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775304824393737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716053076354208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519503055601073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224472351078973,0.17406979973755032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256301373443139,0.13809383490914828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587098401835528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324175517637967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247728605290525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490274341224113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510555520462034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879859972432663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381605432594672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14237422903987018,0.0,0.2037828245781382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394075989554728,0.1654539954888216,0.13645160029299055,0.0,0.0,0.29320603662865563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486601461289016,0.15854504026457358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540336744853986
parenting,foxfirek,2019/01/16,"Any success stories dealing with teen drug addicts? It's a pretty bad situation. I am the aunt in this situation, I live far away and cannot take her in. My niece is a drug addict and is giving her mom hell at the worst time possible as well. I think she started with the easy stuff, alcohol and pot then moved to opioids. She has already been in rehab multiple times, she has injured herself in her worst times. She talks a good game, says she wants to be clean goes to meetings but then does all the typical drug addict behavior, steals and lies. Her birth father (whom she had almost no relationship with) died earlier this month (also a drug addict) and then her brother was in a horrific car accident, like it's amazing he is alive and will take many months to mostly recover. He finally came home from the hospital and she stole all his pain meds, they can't get more. Her mom is at a loss what to do. They are not rich, and are dealing with a pile of medical bills already, they cant just send her to boarding school. They already are dealing with the strain of a bedridden child, and have another to care for as well. Have any of you succeeded with drug addict teens? What turned them around?",4.5257308760414015,5.887931772532191,4.8977833880333295,84.35958091391066,70.3304721030043,8.40080787679879,28.72734158040899,8.841846274778883,2.1522887654632674,945,35,187,17,17,299,142,233,0.184,0.685,0.13,-0.9574,0,0,7,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,5,3,5,17,1,1,14,0,21,15,0,0,2,26,31,16,1,1,3,5,0,1,0,1,15,1,2,1,8,17,1,0,1,1,2,4,5,8,2,0,4,1,26,9,29,25,6,25,1,1,0,0,41,10,1,2,12,123,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640436350925681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098245388257274,0.08524949597980144,0.0,0.28184276398708263,0.06808170296242652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578820445688595,0.08927051889669826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578739174318024,0.0,0.0,0.07998628228593647,0.0,0.07108341113007713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973707217650018,0.08679988112764164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633085332260878,0.0,0.0,0.08835574700808728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450141799867509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936425946973242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932602369413324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044479049517371125,0.08166837896651846,0.0,0.07140643757509059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539643612223642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04159221727478635,0.0,0.0751749633492668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631260740523637,0.0,0.0,0.09456478458833087,0.08576364156780664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19941604025241152,0.13590644071050972,0.0904840671591351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058867675099813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597589758838301,0.0,0.08661197826542702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140215473085764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677020473368326,0.0,0.08616024663682094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913885737518943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06025834880848986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974581676852819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12802048488566412,0.06842755867740594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455048886856712,0.0,0.0,0.14892712178781592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260144569957604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050214293466629464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309154658566404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pokemom3005,2019/01/16,"I feel like such a failure My daughter is nearly 3 1/2 and for the life of me I can’t get her to potty train. I’ve tried bribing with candy, toys, phone time, and outings. I’ve tried naked, underwear, and pull-ups. We’ve tried reading books and watching potty training videos. I’ve celebrated, danced, sang, cried and I’ve gotten angry. We’ve potty trained her dolls and made sticker charts. She watches us go. I’m at the end of my rope. 

We started right after her 2nd birthday but really buckled down 6 months ago. She’s okay at peeing in the potty but she’ll never tell me she has to go. As long as I put her on the potty every hour she won’t have any pee accidents. Pooping on the other hand has been absolute hell. She’s never pooped on the potty. She will sit there for half an hour and nothing, then poop as soon as she’s off. She doesn’t mind cleaning it or sitting in it. She doesn’t come and tell us when she’s pooped. I don’t know what else to do. 

Anyone that says girls are easier to potty train are liars. My son was fully potty trained in 3 days. 

Does anyone have any advice on what I can do?I’m scared she won’t be able to go to school. Some blogs I’ve read have said they’re 7 year olds aren’t potty trained. I don’t think I can change a 7 year olds diaper. ",1.1648241349728323,3.0883501449814124,2.613773234200746,94.75075421790106,81.00743494423791,5.179353731770089,18.8963397197598,6.093298490706669,-0.2434502144695454,995,23,223,7,26,323,153,269,0.093,0.852,0.056,-0.8873,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,3,0,0,0,4,5,2,1,9,1,24,8,7,1,2,22,37,17,0,0,3,2,2,1,0,4,1,3,1,1,6,11,0,0,3,8,0,6,10,3,0,1,5,7,31,2,28,27,1,40,1,0,2,0,27,13,1,2,20,117,37,4,0.13073194668962093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774974527040564,0.11588598282605292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780441347682885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282163358909248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382970651600963,0.1126139962754502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360290473925594,0.0843112904306981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440440753512955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920976630217634,0.0,0.11578970146944205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014730350863222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610200030176057,0.09339492883654328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830204638321148,0.0,0.2228939340678159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25748926708800296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184685896484518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233984014986144,0.06386902562685362,0.0,0.0,0.11569365892586668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370172892395034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200199866772575,0.0,0.10434899259213147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165707331180935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254408287087913,0.0,0.2743623731405243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142171482903395,0.0,0.0,0.2615346492220804,0.0,0.08375023263218477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164436816571524,0.12435601861638933,0.10396329120371066,0.13088548500880556,0.13230770949542778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253274474055057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285309673010569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376775271406359,0.0,0.0,0.0762308494331842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662752309956797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145088705351497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683741749057562
parenting,Darth_Kahuna,2019/01/16,"7mo experiencing intermittent constipation Has happened twice in 3 weeks, never happened before. Keeps her up most of the night. She's formula fed 100% (out of necessity). Eats 32oz/day (pure Bliss) along w small amount of solid food (whole rolled oats, peanut butter, fruit, nutbutters, pureed cooked leafy greens). She'll go 3-5 days wo a BM then have a day or 2 of major discomfort, then a hard, compact, BM or 2 & back to normal (which is one BM a day avg). Any advice?",4.2963563402889235,6.052167977528093,5.013515248796152,81.76370786516856,71.47191011235954,8.231781701444623,23.950240770465488,8.841846274778883,1.5846487961476727,366,10,72,7,7,118,73,89,0.053,0.927,0.02,-0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,0,4,5,0,0,3,10,9,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,5,3,0,9,7,4,14,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,3,9,31,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042086524410855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264251024847521,0.0,0.14211065390903815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068942737298875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782294371145085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390881983515106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138343297367282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526942669759059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876571604098853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695930734731139,0.0,0.18720119576888306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18574721947193945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611749561967914,0.0,0.0,0.19610955436875965,0.2047518332978379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160735443867695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762771527064896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23331392551469984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HuckChaser,2019/01/16,"How did your toddler ""tell"" you that they were ready to drop from two naps per day to one? My daughter just turned 18 months a few days ago, and still naps twice per day.  I know that all kids are different, and we definitely plan to follow her lead, but I was just hoping to get some other parents experiences on a few things:

When did your kid(s) drop the second nap?  How did you know they were ready (I'm guessing most kids just start fighting the nap, but I'm wondering if anybody noticed any less-obvious signs)?  Did they drop the morning or afternoon nap?  Any other related anecdotes or advice you care to share?

Thanks!",4.508416666666669,6.038540341666671,4.458333333333336,86.84666666666668,70.58333333333334,7.666666666666668,26.66666666666667,8.167268648758528,1.5419166666666668,491,16,98,7,9,151,80,120,0.075,0.7559999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9281,2,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,1,5,3,2,7,5,1,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,1,23,21,10,0,2,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,3,5,0,2,0,1,0,4,7,0,13,4,7,14,5,15,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,8,9,61,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19850503659047586,0.18007042763581904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27628291178551906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20711370396551287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930234637222339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122369729145661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870887810659196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613172016746618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237804619298572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017628186753031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22327971515777675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214357648100056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23127504760294054,0.0,0.0,0.13765221374466374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22556177056926294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378279848355452,0.0,0.16222703252730294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755240110315215,0.1870230579444106,0.0,0.0,0.1349564958675869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209568511182315,0.19843724259649725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22029553226474444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jshep1207,2019/01/16,"At odds with the school counselor because she implied that I lied My son is ADHD, has an IEP plan in place, takes Concerta and Ritalin. He has meltdowns at times, especially when he doesn't get his way or is asked to do something he doesn't want to. They don't happen too often, but at times can be bad. 

As of late, when he doesn't get his way, he resorts to saying that he wants to kill himself (this is the ONLY time he ever says this). This is more to manipulate adults rather than an actual threat. One of these episodes happened yesterday at school. The school counselor called me about it, and I told her I had a doctor's appointment scheduled for this Thursday at 3pm, and I couldn't get him into a counselor to be evaluated until I got a reference from his doctor because of insurance reasons. She wanted me to take him to the ER, but our county has zero psychiatric beds for children. Anyway, after I told her that I had an appointment scheduled she said ""do you really have an appointment scheduled?"" Which was very upsetting for obvious reasons. I promptly hung up, drove to the school, stood in the office with my phone on speaker while I confirmed the appointment and when I made it. She still has not apologized and said that she didn't say that. 

While I was there, I spoke to the school nurse who said she didn't see any signs that he would be in immediate danger from self-harm, so he could wait until his appointment and to just keep an eye on him. After I got him home, he asked if he was grounded and if he could play video games. We talked about what he said, and why he shouldn't say something so serious unless he really means it. Which, I think he needs counseling for that. He says he doesn't want to die, he just gets very upset and can't help himself.

So, I got two different suggestions from two different people, and one implied I was lying. The school nurse was very polite and friendly. I still want nothing to do with his counselor until she at least apologizes. Should I just look the other way on this, or straight out ask for an apology? ",6.036518151815178,6.222913361386138,6.10470297029703,81.27688943894391,66.37623762376238,9.505610561056104,30.447194719471945,9.2995712137729,2.4400531353135317,1634,55,322,28,24,518,193,404,0.113,0.8420000000000001,0.045,-0.9817,2,0,2,0,0,1,47.0,2,1,1,1,19,9,3,2,19,0,37,4,1,4,2,54,73,30,2,15,12,1,0,0,1,3,3,11,2,2,21,17,0,2,5,3,0,1,11,7,1,5,22,14,46,2,52,42,2,44,0,0,3,0,72,18,0,5,22,219,67,8,0.0,0.0,0.0750378328832782,0.0,0.0924121144186191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229082229442699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21565762513877995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420360410491717,0.09374821336237883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851776990878574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278782756516014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980423717878071,0.16067654366692366,0.0,0.15740933374170388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955537840562677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940841527987663,0.0,0.16069658114468174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449840532240533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359949109698985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154068902233997,0.0,0.07713134315867161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834726727320603,0.08507225012816061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674022165746023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457192159066867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275933142704162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376053351087237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057016216157871086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378224144398837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421125795785048,0.058481648894730724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0533088883981354,0.0,0.08033827183346183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985210309699586,0.15812048015198252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925766956424616,0.3057475278129388,0.0,0.4669273696949949,0.06127487360018415,0.0,0.08021761923279816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183941169031036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281591900729415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563002391483285,0.061804798297464526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049270820510261784,0.0,0.0,0.13451321223530802,0.0,0.0,0.14695177053181993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502292924618496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033777534127036,0.22677151862057165,0.18310556388576468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938522718055695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05462356873380877,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bashful-y-sappy,2019/01/16,"Daughter pees the bed because scared We have a very small house (2 bed and 1 bathroom between the two rooms).  My oldest two share a room (7 year old and 4 year old).  My son has always asked his sister to go with him to the bathroom or his room so he isn’t by himself, but now my daughter is acting the same.  She has been potty trained day and night since a few months before she turned 3.  The last week she has peed the bed twice.  When we ask her why she says she wakes up but no one is awake and she is scared to go in the bathroom by herself when we are asleep.  I have tried keeping lights and doors open but she won’t go.  I am so frustrated because we have never had any problems with her wetting the bed until now.

Anyone else gone through this?  Is it a phase?  Any tips? ",1.7710846560846534,3.383201117283953,2.471005291005291,97.95666666666668,77.95061728395062,4.875485008818342,21.447971781305114,4.65589566412798,-0.34556578483245204,599,16,139,1,14,186,101,162,0.092,0.8809999999999999,0.027000000000000003,-0.9136,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,0,0,6,5,1,2,12,0,16,3,3,0,1,20,24,14,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,8,0,2,12,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,4,0,4,3,3,23,1,12,20,2,28,0,0,0,0,27,7,0,1,16,88,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312008074024598,0.0,0.0,0.21759015479208735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186501722348134,0.16392322416588148,0.0,0.0,0.299128183347528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950503679416768,0.0,0.13613519037258615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317689182629294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364668227200666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727689637600236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846008558459642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422017460526534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304088777240575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276982556649483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339005803855957,0.0,0.0,0.15013479678525285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357540461083714,0.0,0.1084097684601888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308374486261808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722624924413498,0.32034517463555323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234099134316413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861910492302312,0.17401740529834725,0.31256359688728264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200412673469128,0.0,0.0,0.1283300706523057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443613014679116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20604979406491447
parenting,BeliverStew,2019/01/16,"Irresponsible teenage daughter. My oldest daughter has always been a free spirit who does almost whatever she wants. In the past she was never disrespectful to us about her choices, when we said no she accepted it and when we said yes she never had any kind of attitude.

She turned fifteen in October and her entire personality suddenly flipped, she was more distant to us and didn’t take being told no the way she used to. I tried to talk to her but she would brush me off. 

Nearing the end of December I found out she was sneaking out at night to have unprotected sex and drink with boys from her grade and the grade above her. I won’t go into to much detail about her sexual activities but it involves stuff like knife play and bondage... (I know this because she accidentally sent a text meant for someone to me.)

I tried to keep her from leaving but she argued the point of “my body my choice” a philosophy I agree with but she’s only fifteen and it seems like really hardcore stuff and I’m conflicted. I’ve asked her what she would do if she got pregnant and she said she’d keep it, and leave it to the father on whether or not he wants to be involved. When I asked who would be paying for everything for the child she said I would because “you already have four kids, another one won’t be that difficult.” She reinforced by saying that I can’t force her to get an abortion because it’s her body. 

She’s over the age of consent so as long as the guy isn’t 18+ I don’t think there’s anything I can do. She’s definitely not being forced by the boys because she told me that she got a good portion of them involved and it started with a group of her friends wanting to be rebellious.

I’m at my wits end I don’t want her to get hurt or in trouble. I need advice.",3.3496218487394955,4.854513380952382,4.454768907563025,85.83324579831934,73.45378151260505,7.564985994397758,27.31582633053221,8.192908349453996,1.6729624649859942,1395,52,291,22,28,456,185,357,0.083,0.813,0.105,0.7947,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,4,1,1,0,7,12,1,0,16,1,29,4,2,1,2,51,61,25,0,10,10,3,0,2,1,6,0,5,0,6,16,19,1,3,6,2,2,2,13,4,0,2,17,6,60,9,46,31,3,30,1,1,0,1,69,13,0,5,16,200,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518425961461792,0.0,0.0,0.0975382885099818,0.0,0.10749021841621292,0.0,0.08104980258553449,0.0,0.0,0.06623958982141308,0.10213894554455777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015704373829721,0.0,0.18212338869741213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375117822645569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163927689202129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524086529355274,0.0,0.0,0.095421041504156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254605059349076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754245620491373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680092485817644,0.07525582669023352,0.0,0.1017814900748042,0.0,0.0553582162843117,0.08169974062156811,0.15580935181383873,0.0,0.0,0.09644750113372996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427540462884953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315830009711528,0.0,0.10143361951362932,0.053531927298401484,0.0,0.0,0.20627830760840252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517554659277197,0.0,0.0,0.0862014655579578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716048010446667,0.07222549972921193,0.15025140894493744,0.0,0.0,0.09140916661858084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600499551368863,0.07408184199237038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298528683677136,0.0,0.08505137987629915,0.0,0.0,0.09208039020244467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240093762044657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706225960942013,0.07746135915479231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867499116675108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825319990547789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894464470042361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22301370273423052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323737722111721,0.07829145361624076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062413991548800736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861516911849289,0.0,0.13226489891043033,0.10595002848141996,0.0,0.0,0.2343354495208764,0.08412772500088174,0.0,0.0,0.2298109185130413,0.07731654691728608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767784195197006,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rmcgown,2019/01/16,"TLDR: I (24 f) tried everything but can’t get my daughter (2 f) on a normal sleep schedule and my relationship with my husband (28 m) is suffering because of it. First post on reddit, so please don’t be too critical.
My two year old daughter will not get on a normal sleep schedule. She wakes up around 11:30 and naps at 3:00, then goes to bed between 11:30 and 12:30. I’ve tried skipping naps, waking her up early, putting her in bed early. I even spent $200 on a class called taking cara babies (which everyone recommended) and that didn’t work. We have talked to her doctor to see if it was a melatonin issue, and it’s not. My husband and I haven’t been intimate in 8 months because there’s always a child awake. I’m hoping someone has some advice on what I can do. ",3.2605913978494603,4.669281419354841,4.444919354838714,86.20071236559141,73.51612903225806,6.973118279569893,25.81989247311828,7.492282038375204,1.2582795698924736,600,20,122,7,12,197,105,155,0.048,0.899,0.052000000000000005,0.1498,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,5,0,13,5,4,0,0,17,20,10,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,6,9,0,0,0,2,1,1,6,1,0,2,4,1,14,1,17,14,1,22,0,1,1,0,13,11,0,3,9,73,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209701868230734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654134461133025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567792138850378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21471548864878792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983256137810874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802606193762052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163219443446756,0.0,0.0,0.16828492024471164,0.15828032683124826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980287548986418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840250800903072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492140336264195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838177473616749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405728871677693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34510956963942224,0.0,0.0,0.18480250726192726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332079836188776,0.0,0.0,0.16866897665693653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704368227364767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908102834126014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034042842075134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524833091184533,0.0,0.1492212162045031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324161613159215,0.14155413731442162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391403249966141,0.0,0.17203824362829012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821342934177993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341194247800475
parenting,achecheche,2019/01/16,"4 mo. Keeps Turning In Her Crib Hi All!!  

LO has been so excited to turn over that she's practicing in her crib.  The problem is the practice turns her (this AM she was literally turned 180 deg. from the way we put her down) almost 90 deg. in the crib, which leads to her hitting her head on the posts and getting her arm caught.  We move her back but she seems to just keep turning back - and it's interrupting her sleep.  We are avoiding bumpers, etc. because of safety but I would appreciate any tips or pointers, thank you!",1.4272977346278315,3.9290226601941782,2.3070145631067973,93.81029530744335,84.53398058252426,5.375080906148868,23.14644012944984,6.816661863887847,0.6262498381877024,406,15,87,5,12,127,75,103,0.068,0.813,0.119,0.7707,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,0,1,4,4,0,1,5,0,7,3,3,1,1,18,19,6,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,3,0,17,2,11,14,2,14,0,0,0,0,17,6,0,3,2,55,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560558545990593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888275059884663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22362028649822668,0.0,0.08863965791935488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216888880032285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596992769565994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492310477029103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584914708678977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454619903701158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926112630778678,0.0,0.0,0.13913627460260622,0.0,0.1461756814310533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237441625977928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551348921850726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387258933558188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7908133391612728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541848079974913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329401005613613,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KReedDub,2019/01/16,"Limiting Girlfriend Time? I don’t want to make limitations arbitrarily, but the amount of time my son (17, but soon to be 18) wants to spend with his girlfriend seems excessive.

He is attending an early college program, works part time, and is all around a respectful and productive teenager.  
She (18) graduated HS last year, works full time, and recently moved into a shared house with other young women. 
She has been a very positive influence on him, as he had some social anxiety, and I like her. 

Is it perfectly normal and appropriate to spend every spare moment together? 
It just seems there should be more balance with other friends. 
I’m also concerned about pairing off at such a young age, he hasn’t dated anyone else,  but is that none my business?
As long as he is home by curfew, should I let it go?
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parenting,FacelessOldWoman1234,2019/01/16,"My picky kid just keeps getting pickier My 6-yo (almost 7) has always been very discerning about his food, and we have tried a bunch of strategies to deal with mealtime stress, but I feel like I'm chasing a receding horizon. 

A few months ago I asked on Facebook for lunch ideas and received 100+ suggestions. Together, kid and I sat down and picked the 20 or 30 that he would most likely enjoy. Well, over the next few months that list got cut and cut and cut until there's nothing left. There are no vegetables he'll eat anymore (he used to be willing to eat raw carrots and cucumber). No rice, pasta, or potatoes. Just bread. There is no protein he'll eat other than nuts and cheddar cheese, but he can't have nuts at school. 

So, I'm looking for advice - not about foods to try but about food strategies. When I was a kid I had to sit at the table until my meal was done, even if the rest of the family was going to bed - I never want to do that to my kids. I sort of just want to set a rule that we don't talk about food - what's served is served and you eat it or you don't (Ellen Satter style), but I can't get my wife on board for more than a day or two - she just starts begging him to eat. We've offered dessert rewards, but dinner becomes a negotiation. 

I always try to cook something that has an element he likes, but then he doesn't like that thing anymore. Someone advised me to just cook separate meals; if all he'll eat is toast, let him have toast every night and he'll eventually get bored of it and want to try the rice we're eating. I suspect he'll just suddenly stop liking toast and then what do I do?

I'm at my wits' end. We just had an episode where he had to eat last night-s dinner for breakfast, and I don't want to do that again. It was awful. 

Anyway, thanks for reading and for any advice you have. 

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parenting,jmsteveCT,2019/01/16,"Make-up lessons? My daughter threw me for a loop last night when she asked me if I would teach her how to do make-up. 

She's old enough (10) to start playing around with it. I sort of figured that I would give her free rein to experiment at home over the next couple of years and then she could wear it out of the house later. 

I also assumed that she'd just pursue YouTube tutorials because I don't really wear make-up. (A combination of make-up being expensive and me being lazy and being bad at it because I rarely do it...)

So, uh... if you're a parent who doesn't wear make-up and your child wants to learn, how would you facilitate that? ",4.553863636363637,4.544557416666667,5.326818181818184,86.26022727272729,69.53030303030303,8.41818181818182,26.34848484848485,8.07648339933343,1.2661484848484852,497,13,112,6,8,162,82,132,0.052000000000000005,0.906,0.042,-0.3094,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,0,1,7,3,0,0,5,0,12,3,3,2,0,23,17,12,0,7,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,8,7,0,1,4,1,2,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,18,3,15,8,1,15,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,4,9,71,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371501645512508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526732263766043,0.16033130907867946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319708686979676,0.20909217231486635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369304687449411,0.18976380767526968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720751100999124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776195897848425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452043833382846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203058614322395,0.0,0.0,0.19789039296535832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979709866848536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5723949055055519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823944251997489,0.160943099626791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799626004430229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19043278217823947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986863453376296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139006656798965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011563799391714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654905060001671,0.0,0.0,0.1104417271823513
parenting,summersummermom,2019/01/16,"Sharing bathroom w teenage son   We only have one bathroom and our shower has a door not a curtain. Sometimes someone else will use the sink and mirror when someone else in taking a shower or sometimes even pee.   
I’m 37 mom and I realized that my 14y son has been coming into the bathroom more and more often when I’m taking a shower.  ",2.9813636363636387,5.117935924242428,4.2545454545454575,84.1518181818182,76.12121212121212,5.006060606060606,27.66666666666667,5.46131890053228,1.1399575757575755,265,11,46,1,6,87,44,66,0.0,0.953,0.047,0.4215,3,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,5,1,1,1,0,12,11,7,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,2,9,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,2,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21421459411789226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154781205865176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424986974614875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29124937040792115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685110549971848,0.189131280944942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4214091410357931,0.0,0.4918989875614109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37395071705437255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147784661461207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Runningoutofbacon,2019/01/16,"8 year old Son struggling to fit in at school For a long time, my son has struggled with fitting in at school.  Usually, he ends up making a couple friends at school and hangs out with them for the rest of the year.  This year, he hasn't managed to do this.  He continues to try to play with a boy he was playing with last year who has found a larger group that seems to want to exclude my son.  He 

I've asked him to try to make friends with someone else as the likelihood of him turning a group this size is low.  He is a smart boy, fairly stubborn, but he lacks social skills to even understand why they might be excluding him (assuming they aren't just being mean).  He takes this rejection fairly personally, but continues to subject himself to it rather than moving on. He complains about having a bad day at school daily. 

During winter break, we had his friend who is part of this group over and he went to his house a couple of times. I was hoping maybe his friend might influence the group without my involvement.  It didn't work.   The problem continues.  

We are meeting with the school today, I think they are planning on teaching him some social skills.  

Does anyone have any insight into how we might proceed from here?  The school has good intentions, but I'm not counting on them to change much.  

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parenting,FeelsBadManx,2019/01/16,"Friend wants me to be good influence in kids life. weird? So a friend of mine, an ex-gf actually, has been asking me to be 'a good influence' for her nephews. They are two boys, 12 and 14, and their parents are kinda trashy (divorced, fight all the time, generally kinda terrible people). I've met the kids a few times and they really like me, I'm not really a kid type person so i just sorta hunt out and talked video games with them. They are cool, but is it weird to just ask a friend to be a male rolemodel in your nephews life? Mind you, I get sorta frustrated with the friend from time to time and we will go months without talking. I think it would be kind of rude to try and be friends iwth them but then if/when I argue with the friend I wouldnt be able to hang out. I dunno, I feel uncomfortable trying to be a good influence for other peoples children. Figured I'd ask parents since they have a better pulse on this sort of situation I feel. Thanks in advance!",2.8381122448979603,4.433333882653064,4.0579081632653065,87.78798469387758,74.96938775510203,7.348979591836735,23.47448979591837,8.07648339933343,1.1276387755102038,755,22,161,12,16,247,117,196,0.101,0.705,0.194,0.9694,2,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,1,2,7,2,4,21,4,0,13,1,17,2,0,3,1,37,29,11,0,3,6,4,2,1,6,3,2,0,0,7,4,12,0,0,4,2,0,3,3,7,0,1,2,3,23,14,24,17,2,15,0,0,0,0,38,6,0,6,7,98,27,1,0.11945222585386085,0.0,0.1165681412426323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350151189244967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564578658557024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079726905902125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5537309602838099,0.0,0.062408857799835724,0.0,0.06788745273037418,0.30057257902124784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439111142303468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687452794851768,0.05835832378720825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061269611056795,0.0,0.09534562703584176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26527512118571145,0.0,0.0,0.16562626593834787,0.10430107612845292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530483092620753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881211561155584,0.13426930671180967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19202234874287594,0.0,0.10997556065355364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654016305767368,0.0,0.0,0.2786142140189615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220044060946753,0.0,0.1166874675719483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045601770906093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514768306050174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485543399479213,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,soulvisser,2019/01/16,2.5 YO lost it when her toast was too big This will be funny one day right?,-1.1105882352941163,0.7790076470588225,0.2191176470588232,108.63102941176471,90.1764705882353,3.4000000000000004,8.5,3.1291,-2.5314470588235296,58,0,16,0,2,18,17,17,0.114,0.743,0.14400000000000002,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,9,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38568517449609613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6528293575168108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.405246172137492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5107213683663667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamalogic,2019/01/16,"Kids’ Kindergarten teacher forcing a playdate TL/DR: teacher pushing my kid into a playdate with a barely verbal kid with autism. My kid not interested, we’re feeling set up, but also not wanting to reject the family or kid.

Got an  email from my kids’ teacher that one of my boys specifically named another kid he wanted a play date with. I have volunteered in the classroom and talk with my kids about who they play with so was  surprised to learn  that the kid mentioned  was a barely verbal kid with autism who has a full time aide in the classroom ( let’s call him V). This kid doesn’t make eye contact, much less play with anyone.

So I asked my kid who he wants to have a playdate with and V was not mentioned. I asked my kid if he told the teacher he wanted to play with V. My kid shrugged and said no.

Got an email just now from the teacher who said she spoke to V’s mom who is “thrilled” and gave her number to set it up.

We’re feeling like we’re getting set up by the teacher. My boy is a very sweet, laid back kid in class, but very interactive, physical  and verbal in play. Second, we can’t host because our house is not particularly organized which would  overwhelm V. Outside is not a good choice given bad weather and V’s tendency to freak out if he sees any kind of wildlife. Bug, bee, spider, squirrel-you name it, he’ll screech and squeal at it and flip out. 

I think the push is coming from the school and I am not happy being thrust into a social experiment. I know V pretty well and he shows no signs of even noticing kids much less wanting a playdate. The teacher put words in my kid’s mouth I think to manufacture some hope for V’s mom, or to meet some goal before school conferences coming up.

The clincher is my boy is a twin. There’s no way we can exclude his brother from this scenario. Usually the boys have playdates with another set of twins and share a couple of friends at school and do three way play dates. I do think though, for a kid who barely even notices other kids, that a 3 way date would be hard. 

I dread calling the mom because we have 3 kids total and are busy and stretched as it is. I work weekends frequently and  there are after school things 4 of the 5 days. I can’t/won’t host and logistically can’t spend half the day chatting it up with a new mon and going on the playdate too. I also have no guts and could not imagine telling the mom the truth-that this is all a forced match by the teacher. 

Any suggestions?

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parenting,nmmb,2019/01/16,"Do I tell this mom her son might not have the allergy she thinks he does? My son has a friend (and I consider the mom a friend) who has an allergy to artificial food dyes. This is what the mom has always told me, that if her son has artificial food dyes he breaks out into hives, usually vomits, gets a migraine and become belligerent all within an hour after eating it. She has left parties before when she finds out that her son ate something with artificial dye in it. 

I am a hobby baker so I bake a lot of cakes and cupcakes with artificial food dye. Because of this - I keep dye free cupcakes in my freezer for when this boy comes over. Recently, they were over for a party where I had made two cakes - one decorated and one that was just chocolate. I had pulled out a cupcake for the kid but my husband didn't know. When she went to get cake - she asked my husband if the cakes had artificial color, he said he didn't know for sure. She told my husband to give her son a piece of chocolate because she figured since it had no decorations - it must have no color. What neither of them knew was that I had used the left over colored buttercream to start the chocolate buttercream so it had a lot of artificial color in it. I did not figure any of this out until the next day when I found the dye free cupcake sitting in the frig and asked my husband what the kid ate.

The party went on for another 3 hours and this kid was fine. No vomiting or hives. He did not complain of a headache that I heard of and I didn't see any belligerent behavior (or none of the kids complained about any). He didn't want to leave when it was time to go because he was having a fun. The kid was at school the next day.

Do I tell her or just let it be?",3.7140625000000007,4.698503963068184,4.718245454545457,86.3131181818182,71.86931818181819,7.904727272727272,26.86409090909091,8.238735603445708,1.5426703181818182,1353,45,290,20,25,442,154,352,0.045,0.878,0.077,0.8785,2,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,2,0,11,9,0,0,28,0,35,10,0,2,3,44,61,21,0,4,11,12,0,0,2,2,3,2,1,6,23,15,7,1,8,0,2,5,12,2,0,3,30,7,34,9,40,27,6,42,0,0,5,0,53,18,0,8,17,198,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509109568969146,0.0,0.0,0.2086272549519722,0.1072317823328951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19120439779761086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187015919355024,0.11294156533803043,0.08701837052917255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880906101736728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190248573372096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949113253806162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464068667697828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346662554079564,0.0,0.3709708583497776,0.1121262165600463,0.15801644287406058,0.0,0.10685650347210447,0.0981000888653062,0.05811847936443607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014171186632397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908961466468622,0.0,0.0,0.11240225646187732,0.0,0.0,0.10828186282681274,0.22221832613115505,0.10457095364950243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388087023065354,0.0,0.09676382280045764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084849941595264,0.0,0.35930793871791866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21751594515357792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859225340680445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097247931565788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727563110265404,0.0,0.0,0.10349572207370528,0.08149045483071914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459309741573252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787271345402355,0.0,0.0,0.07238235223712405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963817664584732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876492282441467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655260686372414,0.0,0.0,0.059630439045972226,0.0,0.0,0.19543355889976874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989619441317343,0.0,0.0,0.08832248901101837,0.11262836280374645,0.0,0.06031742901869565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895978461830758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mbe8819,2019/01/16,"Two separate birthday parties for our daughter? Our daughter is turning 5 soon and my wife threw out the idea of having two separate parties: one for school friends, and one for family members. 

When I asked why we needed an extra party, she took a deep breath and said, *“I feel terrible for saying this, but I’m embarrassed of a lot of my family members, and I don’t want the parents from school meeting them.”*

I don’t judge my wife for this, God knows we’ve all got family members we’re not exactly proud of. 

To be blunt, my only concern is having two separate parties sounds a little “bratty”. I don’t want my daughter to think that’s the norm and she’ll always be entitled to having two parties.

I’d love any feedback from parents who’ve dealt with issues like this. 

I love my wife very much and I’ll always have her back. I completely understand where she’s coming from, I’m just unsure if this is the best solution.",3.5284249084249097,5.344701659340664,4.7024395604395615,82.95922710622709,73.61538461538461,7.71047619047619,27.51794871794872,8.447377352677275,2.0697372893772896,730,28,137,13,15,240,103,182,0.056,0.7070000000000001,0.237,0.988,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,2,5,8,0,1,8,0,13,3,1,0,2,25,31,9,0,4,4,8,1,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,5,10,0,0,5,0,0,3,4,2,0,6,4,4,21,6,17,24,5,10,0,0,0,2,23,4,0,2,4,88,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21279814734885014,0.0,0.0,0.08695679412833145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954230136095602,0.0,0.0,0.098325052135896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419292493874213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101497077446748,0.13407050992298614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616367332222128,0.0,0.06465551579190883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879296423940967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227027194365942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435100903898113,0.0,0.1334643004407749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027466193450231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062471404438284125,0.12816052540352652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871151306896246,0.2308174829010477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940000377391888,0.09481486717688978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329765542931685,0.09725180213443396,0.0,0.0,0.28397164804517416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163478395156405,0.10168830270664747,0.0,0.2588249421082973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193469537581602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206959714397008,0.0,0.1390871356448437,0.4996462890981242,0.13311841846848702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550712355094242,0.15084348184717505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538385993463778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankieyamamoto,2019/01/16,"Parenting tips, tricks, and advice? Hey Redditors, what kind of blogs, pages, groups etc... do you all go to for parenting advice, tricks, tips, ideas that kinda thing? Other than this page of course :) ",4.0150000000000015,7.177669029411764,2.995588235294118,88.72514705882355,79.29411764705883,6.929411764705884,17.323529411764707,8.07648339933343,0.8012000000000006,153,3,27,3,4,44,29,34,0.079,0.8420000000000001,0.079,0.3313,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,15,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5395965854457782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30792056701040305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691199681715026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116793284527958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875120054542871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6131449523740597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834262384589065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snicketjacques,2019/01/16,"Sick kid and missing class I started a new class this week, today was the second day. My daughter woke up with a fever, a cough, a stuffy nose, and a headache. 

I’m not worried about missing the content, since it’s review of other courses I’ve had. But oof. The appearances! 

Obviously I care about my child, we’re staying home, etc etc etc. but dang if these sicknesses just don’t crop up at the most inconvenient of times. My first year she got sick *every* test day. ",1.3870355731225317,3.9253447391304377,2.421818181818181,92.59590909090907,85.30434782608695,5.084584980237153,22.49407114624506,6.574015621080383,0.5316608695652172,364,13,75,4,11,115,69,92,0.151,0.81,0.039,-0.8775,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,9,0,3,6,1,0,1,11,11,5,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,4,1,6,1,8,7,4,14,0,2,0,0,4,3,1,3,9,43,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21005775496917847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657401059064308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6893220483032885,0.0,0.0,0.17358621811008465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524604171878322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477821863400294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066613850291712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898168442164044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042725571973666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582662216146935,0.21959684390491724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013571313063234,0.0,0.19528903871507586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526203669489206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20922991875837826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267431574938912
parenting,wishiwasbabymama,2019/01/16,"Twins help, how much harder is it than 1? Have any of you had twins after 1 or the other way around? Do you have any tips or advice? We don’t have any family to helps so I just want to be prepared as much as possible. Hi all, I wanted to ask how of any tips or advice for twins? I understand the first year will probably be really tough, but My thought has been at least they can play with each other later instead of me constantly having to entertain one. 

How does it compare to having had 1 kid? 

What are some things you wish you knew or prepared? Anything you’d do differently? How much help do you need? We don’t have any family in town so I’m really worried about that. 

Thank you! ",1.4435866261398154,3.5298237588652523,3.2343110435663647,89.81250000000001,80.91489361702128,6.8654508611955425,19.291286727456946,7.957251820313856,0.7100776089159067,534,13,115,10,14,178,87,141,0.033,0.792,0.174,0.9605,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,7,1,1,10,4,0,0,2,0,22,0,0,4,1,24,32,13,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,5,0,15,3,18,23,7,10,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,5,5,85,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856472554969869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969612915607261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027534618276416,0.13011135378209832,0.1366377338907128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579445666747088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270370432238922,0.0,0.0,0.12790360152968153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27556897241432543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432167790259263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29389930692141725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223282134298753,0.10837409387895974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904025042539998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477086331184154,0.0,0.0,0.15758273730264727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18726474990600045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456238726750278,0.0,0.0,0.09710069154466043,0.0,0.0,0.11603289991055032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215533607411735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241521450677574,0.11601319126106352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807415940137824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484302544716291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412077663363587
parenting,kazmcmac,2019/01/16,"Anyone else have a new baby and miss their significant other even though they all are technically together? or any advice? My husband and I have an almost 4 month old that I absolutely adore being around but I feel like I don’t get to actually spend time with my husband. The three of us hang out all night, do the nighttime routine together but at the end of it I feel like I don’t actually get to see/be with him. I’ve tried to focus on him and talk to him but it feels like my mind is really where the baby is. Even when the baby is laying on her mat playing fine.

Not only that, we have gone out a couple times the two of us and the whole time I just can’t wait to get home because I feel like I’m missing an arm when our daughter isn’t there. I set up for our grandparents to babysit because I want some alone time and she’s in my mind the whole time! I mean, I figure that’s normal she will be a part of us forever and a big part the next 18 years (possibly more, I know) but does it ever get to the point where you feel like you can relax and focus on your significant other? She is only 4 months, does it get easier to spend quality time with your partner when they get a little older?",3.4199789915966434,3.972677043650794,5.034827264239032,85.36768907563028,72.21428571428571,8.151633986928102,23.95051353874884,8.313332769828598,1.1761925303454719,933,23,207,14,17,317,132,252,0.026,0.826,0.147,0.9824,1,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,4,3,0,12,11,0,0,17,0,17,1,1,0,3,39,36,16,0,2,7,3,5,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,9,14,0,1,8,2,2,2,5,2,0,2,1,5,37,9,25,32,8,36,0,2,0,0,25,14,0,3,24,139,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.18297063219643375,0.0,0.0,0.09161025309200764,0.0,0.0,0.093875892219352,0.09709549502413008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375240625728938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555134841302478,0.09605673558175183,0.0,0.08345631768373496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429681006967828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373127623016784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640804325198499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831510199792993,0.0,0.08303362041631346,0.0,0.0,0.12384041098633734,0.08480116676167876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23701107836710064,0.33487084651775945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938793064185113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403770123435416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05152189477719455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22900466807315945,0.09396093730887936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211993857441316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931914863712224,0.0,0.14965881303366835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054318584049707,0.0997029240455293,0.08797690839601434,0.09185393001346512,0.0,0.0,0.09837360688714376,0.0,0.0,0.14260039048306908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030416530956679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862292867970466,0.1056876983741622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060057888896051986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470566465999774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535174313236458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210773080951007,0.0,0.3279941135793652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364928882901394,0.0,0.09157896610275452,0.0,0.3383048299049855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529547767016836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20933439901580947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037116060241406
parenting,SometimesILook4Ants,2019/01/16,"6yo daughter keeps waking up in middle of the night and comes into our bedroom Our daughter has always slept I our bed.  She’s always been a fitful sleeper.  Within the past two weeks we have stopped letting her fall asleep in our bed at bedtime.   Which was a difficult step, but working ok.  But she wakes up (usually around midnight) and comes into our bed to sleep.   We have to lay down with her in her bed for her to fall asleep. And she knows that we get up after she falls asleep and go into our room or the living room.  We’ve tried explaining that if she wakes up to just remember that mom and dad are still in the house and to try and turn over in her bed and go back to sleep. But she doesn’t.  We’ve tried rewarding her with staying in her bed, setting up a cot beside our bed, gentle reassurance, nightlight in her room, weighted blanket, etc, but it never fails-she comes into our room.  I know she’s only 6 and it’s a tough transition, but what else can we do, aside from getting up ourselves and putting her back in her room to sleep?   Or is that what we have to do?  I know bad phases come and go, but you know when your in a bad phase, they seem to be unending.   Needing advise.  My husband and I never get uninterrupted sleep and it’s frustrating.  Also because she is a fitful sleeper she tosses and turns in our bed and ends up kicking us all night.    Side note-she’s a very very emotional child.  ",3.259309347895922,4.691338710247353,4.020457757789913,89.14943382589144,73.5583038869258,6.7002248634757455,24.52441374879537,7.1686216300943375,0.8827257950530036,1097,33,230,11,22,350,141,283,0.065,0.8740000000000001,0.06,-0.1035,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,15,2,1,2,7,8,1,0,11,1,15,12,11,0,3,54,36,26,0,2,10,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,14,1,10,31,1,2,7,0,0,12,3,5,0,1,3,1,42,3,41,31,2,63,0,0,0,0,46,35,0,4,14,154,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849879361595709,0.1768583295609764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460712248523677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343755517986605,0.17747007328713887,0.06478414462828216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661853931729391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877897626923409,0.11954486970915815,0.09412794759155567,0.0,0.11852451817680015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657262331879247,0.0,0.18119529006599944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262687499472555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446194416227928,0.0,0.0,0.2336234497347107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086732050700918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384261421092188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244677862091651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788014333553416,0.16393138756964407,0.0,0.0,0.19946344098324206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082679048936528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145134213216901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683554866133198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038865544079196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674860586511144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4254062866296027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327481914023152,0.08487120953301162,0.08885050923855878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164608827038501,0.2311929758790817,0.10381505802817367,0.0,0.127835524693121,0.0,0.11704670121594968,0.1753757150659146,0.0,0.0,0.08524725121033955,0.12941410168197848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736933559881587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wybroczyna,2019/01/16,"Everyday is a loosing battle - putting a child to sleep. Hey there fellow parents. This is my first post so go easy on me. Me and my wife are struggling with our son - 1 year and 3 months old. The problem is putting him to sleep. As for the night sleep there is no problem at all - after the ordinary routine (bath, diaper, clothes, food) I take him to his bed and just put him inside with his beloved plush fox and leave the room. All the lights are off and he just falls asleep. As for the nap during the day - this is our nightmare. If I do the same what I do in the evening he won’t stop screaming and crying for one of us to go to the sleeping room. If I lay down on our bed, just beside his he will eventually stop crying and go to sleep. But here goes the worst part - there is no way to leave the room. Just as I get up to go away, he stands up and starts screaming. It does not matter if I stay there 10, 20, 30 minutes. He’s like in a standby mode, checking now and then if I’m in the room. I’m helpless. Any tips? Of course we tried to ignore his cries for help but it does not seem to work. ",1.382844827586208,2.8869957327586206,2.4124482758620687,98.42737931034485,78.74137931034483,5.329655172413793,21.082758620689653,5.6839178017228535,-0.2472903448275865,838,22,204,4,20,265,130,232,0.14,0.826,0.033,-0.9331,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,5,0,0,2,12,10,1,1,16,0,12,7,6,0,2,34,22,20,0,6,12,3,0,1,1,2,0,2,7,1,5,12,1,3,1,2,1,8,5,9,0,2,0,3,22,1,33,20,5,40,0,1,0,0,24,15,0,5,14,127,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441239305407786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028078931582666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605929318247449,0.07056973176026603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19151618509699994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227383152490979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307639969480153,0.13231650548001106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716977011403303,0.0,0.2487537957301305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334491678508391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317294316838356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053459269609702466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734156930896038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268745403626696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482257583017108,0.0,0.07414885392465834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150292626569505,0.11849603947127126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479839613289928,0.0,0.0,0.20940888256257728,0.0,0.33000545178166035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961592930386896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5475174835257962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745120424588135,0.1166319274007334,0.0,0.18296751602314848,0.0,0.11439421637939555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227358464508203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429203344643277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162416632760093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685605231409944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966231860792382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046577212705668
parenting,XuanMan,2019/01/16,Trying to get a grip on parenting First...I love my kids...I want nothing but the best for them...but that brings myself into question...because I cant stand parenting.....I knew it wouldn't be easy but I'm drowning with a 3 year old and a set of 6 month old twins. I'm waiting for this to get better but I'm slowly going mad on this journey and completely losing sight of any light in my life for the next 18 years and maybe beyond since this journey is sucking all hope from me. Not sure how to cope and feel like I should be doing better since there are parents in much harder situations still standing and pushing forward...how do I find a light at the end of this tunnel or any hope for my own future at this point? I feel like I'm completely losing my will to push and I'm trying not to let my frustration and constant feeling of being lost completely ruin the relationship with my children's father who is absolutely dad of the year at this point picking up all the slack I'm leaving when I struggle day to day. WHAT DO I DO??? i can't be the only one getting ripped apart by parenthood and not having a clue how to put myself back together. When does it get better?... :(,4.208708158995815,4.9013974309623425,5.294202405857742,83.71109440376571,70.50627615062761,7.816004184100419,27.48980125523013,7.8658589789855275,1.5826336820083675,922,30,187,11,16,305,136,239,0.16399999999999998,0.731,0.105,-0.9594,4,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,0,7,10,18,3,1,12,0,18,2,0,3,3,35,41,16,1,5,7,4,4,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,11,11,0,1,5,0,0,7,6,8,0,1,2,7,16,10,30,31,5,39,0,4,1,1,8,13,1,3,18,115,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791350661067432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362545672759163,0.0,0.0662957014657283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413108250483076,0.2885534115914408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420809056022166,0.11752492147622777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027524256140822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517174944840667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096324160007312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496854831819052,0.1553883973264563,0.0,0.0,0.09939959430028826,0.09250647705651452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272788395219968,0.0,0.06180765847434106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21603540965346035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515525646495944,0.0,0.11120879039136762,0.07681648216350415,0.1062638588046755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433368157539295,0.118718325894331,0.0,0.09815513446987753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925845959744383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680676201327735,0.0,0.0799470319882061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566158817123667,0.0,0.0,0.1043528250151352,0.0,0.22823899530778405,0.0,0.07369482787086526,0.08271265760259237,0.0,0.0,0.2415178863332132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561620990774754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932825740955934,0.1218298702585817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676157585677607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17992560478303535,0.1222445550548254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685144185386783,0.0,0.0,0.11369376112094662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249977923655564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767426136011325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06414619056807498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210102894630073
parenting,sonosfigata,2019/01/16,"English speaking toddler friend for my toddler I'm sad for my daughter. She's three and we moved to Italy from the US five months ago. Im staying home with her until Sept and then she'll be going to a bilingual school, but in the meantime, she tries to talk to Italian kids at the park in English and they look at her like she has three heads. It's just a sad spectacle because she's so enthusiastic and doesn't understand why they don't respond. I'm so happy because it's the first time she tries to talk to a kid on her own and then it doesn't go over well. I want her to keep her English as much as possible so How the heck can i find other English speaking expat parents with English speaking kids? It sounds like it would be easy but im not sure where to start. Does anyone have experience with this?",2.215169660678644,4.110425287425152,3.2370299401197613,91.68436726546908,77.562874251497,5.650938123752495,25.50459081836328,6.42735559955562,0.7472118962075847,641,24,137,5,15,205,96,167,0.062,0.7879999999999999,0.15,0.9564,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,2,1,7,8,0,0,8,0,10,1,1,1,1,20,19,16,0,2,4,2,0,2,1,2,0,4,1,3,7,9,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,2,1,4,0,5,19,6,23,15,2,19,0,2,1,0,27,7,1,0,10,89,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469752719040217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593403555556442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214520011113574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509622729552404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621881603376058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154188308260585,0.1410328264331903,0.0,0.0,0.12809978520460402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884605067065362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176501477073482,0.0,0.0,0.17016277312433248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631496471704832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35819361719731024,0.0,0.0,0.14737424345983222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200695164042506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923362956316795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234319790133708,0.17622344819502378,0.12188504248576135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841057579294352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869191355743539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780253404139112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173569484989548,0.17672503908200465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626833962856507,0.0,0.0,0.26653400361618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668166545849018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22514011054952124,0.0,0.0,0.17260784655945527,0.19944183772646187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779551495849097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490777386331885,0.0,0.14961235131974146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177824284479779,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigstarlivealittle,2019/01/16,"My son (26/m) has been very secretly with me (48/f) and been hanging out with this girl for the last month. What should I do? For the last month or so, my 26-year-old has been very secretive with me. Like a couple weeks ago, he went outside at 3am and sat in someone's car for like an hour (the person was a girl that looked like she was in her early twenties). They ended up leaving and I followed them at a distance and they went to a private area by a river and I drove home. He came home like 45 minutes later.

A couple days later my son was sleeping on the couch and I heard someone come into the house at like 2am. It was the same girl. They talked for a bit and then went into the bedroom and closed the door and locked it.

What on earth is he doing?

Tl;dr- my son has been very secretive with me and I am very concerned. What should I do?",0.410191120258748,2.4429093016759817,1.9277859453102013,98.02123493090271,84.47486033519553,4.438812114084093,18.91825933548956,5.399115186594226,-0.5022022346368717,651,17,151,3,19,210,97,179,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.9009,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,4,0,1,5,0,0,16,0,18,1,1,0,0,27,28,13,0,2,1,3,0,5,0,2,0,1,5,4,7,20,0,0,3,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,15,2,19,5,21,11,2,35,0,0,1,0,21,13,0,1,18,95,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896797695085508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652121712217298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534990793068969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560897173691215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969989027258181,0.0,0.08655355386433472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886913498623827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692446781382504,0.0,0.1321686041960691,0.15485890141724792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187961203847828,0.0,0.14210770926078214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278381294851851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270156549512468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424831964672691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14082952781682653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718592132949153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343056940134141,0.0,0.2274293106699877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107871925624113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44294516306543696,0.0,0.0,0.10765417998168147,0.0,0.0,0.3732386232348322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642604770144792
parenting,hunter2068,2019/01/16,View Baby Tooth Keepsake Book 50%off by Gifthing on Etsy Flash Sale: Just $9.25 on all Baby Tooth Boxes at our etsy store [https://etsy.me/2RS4A6E](https://etsy.me/2RS4A6E) . No coupon code required!,12.780689655172415,15.815772068965526,6.340862068965517,75.4278448275862,52.44827586206897,7.179310344827586,28.29310344827586,7.1686216300943375,1.637675862068965,166,4,21,1,2,40,25,29,0.084,0.916,0.0,-0.3595,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,1,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amac275,2019/01/16,"The turdler food battle Hi parents.
Apologies in advance. This is my first ever reddit post so could be some errors.
I’ve become very lazy with my 2 year old and his poor eating habits and need a good kick up the bum/encouragement to get back into trying to get him to eat something of substance. 
Im totally sick of wasting so much food so he basically lives off snacks of fruit, crackers and yoghurts. We don’t have set meal times and he generally grazes over the day. Anything I try and make him as a healthier alternative just gets left on the plate. Eg. homemade sausage rolls. 
Husband and I do sit at the table for dinner and encourage him to eat what we are having but he won’t even touch it. If I try put it in his mouth he gags and has a tantrum. 
I don’t think he is old enough to understand the consequences of not eating his dinner so I do want to give him something. 
Looking for advice on getting him to try more or establishing a better eating routine. 
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parenting,Christmas_Benoit,2019/01/17,"Is it illegal for a CPS Worker to tell you who called and made a report?.... Hypothetically, If a CPS worker tells a person who has been reported the full name of the person who made a report/who called them in the first place, Is that illegal?....
Confidentiality laws?
What can happen if you ""let it be known"" the worker investigating told you?
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parenting,kowaikowaito,2019/01/17,"Should I move into the cottage or wait till schools out? Hi guys!

Im a single mama and recently applied and got accepted into a cottage  (6 month lease) that is literally perfect for my daughter and I. I make 2.5-3k +on average a month and my place is $1390. I haven’t signed lease yet. Would be signing tomorrow and am seriously having freak out feelings.

Here’s the issues:

1. Taking out deposit etc, I would have $3k in savings left. 

2. I would be moving daughter 15mins from my parents house and her old school(school A), and opt to be finishing off the school year at school A rather than transferring her to the new neighborhood school (school B) because I wouldn’t have anyone to pick her up as well as knowing that I want to ultimately put her in another school (school C)  if we get accepted into it (we find out in March). I wouldn’t want her to start school B out in the middle of the year then transfer to school C six months later. It’s too much for a kid.

3. I would also need to work towards getting my dog approved as an emotional service animal to bring her over, which is doable just another worry. 

4. No parking, but I’ve always found street parking in that neighborhood. 

5. I could finish out the school year and move in July to another place but risk a higher rent price. But I would also be able to save atleast another 5k as I’m living with my parents at the moment. 

And here’s the pros!:

1. Place is perfect for me and daughter- wood floors, a tiny backyard, a cottage, and walking distance to EVERYTHING.

2. The rent is doable for me and would help me strive to be more proactive in making it. 

3. Literally in my desired neighborhood and it’s a cute place. 

4. The hugest, living with my parents my daughter has basically gained so much weight and has a double chin now. I’m not sure if it’s healthy to have her live with them for 6 more months. She’s gained Way too much weight over the last year and a half we’ve been at my parents and it’s hard....

I just feel like it came on quickly, I need to make the decision tonight and sign papers tomorrow and be ready to be moved in on the 23rd. I don’t know what to do and since I’m self employed I’m always scared that people won’t rent to me because my income is bank statements :/.  I just don’t feel as confident even though I did get approved for it. I know the pros 

Any advice? Thanks! 
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parenting,HamburgerMountain,2019/01/17,"How do you educate your toddler? Hi all, we have a sweet, smart, happy and loving 19 month old. She is the kind of kid that would go and hug random kids on the playground. She is happy, laid back and content 95% of the time and most of the people that meet her comment on how awesome she is. We are first time parents with not much support around so we don't have much experience raising a toddler. As any normal toddler I would think she has her tantrums and I use distraction to stop her from crying, overall I try not to use the word no and instead I redirect. She has been going to daycare since she was 3 months with  no problems, a few months ago we moved her to a in-home daycare that has been around for 40 years, they are kind of old school, lately the daycare owner keeps telling us that our kid doesn't know limits, that I need to tell her no more often and I need to teach her limits. What am I doing wrong? Should I tell her no all the time or try to find another daycare? How do educate your toddler? Thank you!",2.757743212669684,4.339279355769236,3.5346493212669685,91.51329185520365,75.15384615384616,6.047963800904977,24.735294117647058,6.522977012572876,0.6775680995475111,798,26,170,6,17,253,116,208,0.125,0.758,0.117,0.6902,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,4,1,3,9,14,1,1,11,0,22,2,0,5,2,43,34,13,0,7,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,6,15,0,4,3,0,0,3,8,4,0,1,3,1,32,10,20,28,7,21,0,0,0,2,36,4,0,4,14,120,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081482801940134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296620980161057,0.12793076176666884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21721703598997652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381276053279884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401454429330512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934232460408192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150851310177178,0.10377567213898764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867420975491665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597488808820205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084418539840004,0.0,0.25409465789850155,0.06704964694524729,0.0,0.13762467508639722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011245242083216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29214484306758937,0.12966985946177478,0.17937245572598468,0.18092732698724712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953701634168905,0.0,0.0,0.2560432080006936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546987078810052,0.0,0.0,0.08458150446032896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167403746334396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234735288030262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009221254851496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019999538935954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844753547134508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31990794505900233,0.11232395201626087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817458307569099,0.0,0.0,0.2134227556140868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656640293512838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675456265143433,0.2107428050618462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333483257022225,0.13339110586518288,0.0,0.0785659188500656
parenting,itsaproblemnow,2019/01/17,"I'm(30M) at my wit's end with my stepson(18M) I honestly don't know what to do with the situation at this point. My stepson is 18 years old, he will be 19 in April. He went to High School for 5 years and barely completed his Junior year. He's unmotivated to do anything school related. In June his mom and I agreed that we would let him work full-time as long as he gets his license, his GED, get a car, and pay insurance for his car. We think he'd do great at a trade school. He currently drives one of our two vehicles.

Now we're at the present. He only has his license, which he got two months ago when his mom and I told him we will not let him drive in the winter if he didn't have one because of snow. Admittedly, thus far I've let things slide with him. I'm definitely the more strict parent, but I've held my tongue.

It ended being he didn't work for 5 weeks due to no snow and just started working again this week. During this 5 week period he had no desire to look for another job, made excuses that he couldn't apply since he didn't have a GED. He claimed he had a job, they just hadn't called him in. He donated plasma to put the two bills he does have: his phone and his braces. We tried to get him to take practice tests for his GED and register for the first exam, but that didn't happen after weeks of him saying he would.

He spends all his free time with his girlfriend. He has two sisters that would love to spend time with him (16F and 2F), and they were really close to him until recently, especially the 16 year old who has since built up some resentment. He picks up his girlfriend after she gets off school and pretty much just lives out of his room. I'm okay with her spending the night a couple times a week, but no more, which I think is reasonable.

This past week we have come to find the following:
-	He brought some friends over who ended up doing LSD at my house, which included my 16 year old daughter and his girlfriend.
-	He’s snuck his girlfriend in at night on multiple occasions, probably on a nightly basis.

Yesterday when my wife and I found out we were furious. His friend that brought the drugs, who my wife has known since he was in elementary school, is no longer allowed at the house. My wife was crying and crying asking him why he’s making such dumb decisions. She cried her heart out to him - his face just showed a smirk, uncaring. He said LSD wasn’t “that bad”. I told him all the repercussions from LSD, the long term effects on not only his health, but his sister’s too (we had a separate discussion with her earlier). He also denied, denied, denied, and denied that his girlfriend has been staying over. Come to find out a couple days ago when we suspected she was over (he said she wasn’t). His sister confirmed that as soon as my wife and I left, his girlfriend came out of his room and ate some dinner my wife made earlier. I have no idea why he’s sneaking around our backs. Yes, I think being young and exploring relationships is good, but he’s not doing it in a mature manner sneaking behind my wife and I. We absolutely have no problem with her being over, she’s over almost every day, but we ask him to still spend time with his sisters, which he seldomly does.

He said he wouldn’t do LSD again, admitted that it was stupid and he did it because he was bored. we told him he needs to focus on getting his GED, getting a car, and pay for his insurance, which I think is asking for the basics of being a functional adult. We had him drop off his girlfriend (who was in the room this whole time), and had him drop her off. It turns out he went to my sister in laws house, who was already on the phone with my wife that was telling her what happened. She scolded him as well, he left her house. He didn’t come home for another two hours and didn’t pick up his phone. My wife was just about to call the police and report the car stolen when he showed up.

He’s no longer driving any of the cars, that privilege has been taken away. I’m dropping him off at work in the morning and my wife picking him up - which equally as difficult as I work nights and my wife has the 2 year old.

I’ve lost complete trust in him and his decision making. My wife still believes he has a chance and will listen. Today he took a GED practice exam - he didn’t do so well, but that’s okay. I told him he needs to study, and told him my experience at failing certification tests 3 times until I passed, it just took a lot of time to study and know the material. He says he just sucks at tests and has never been good at it.

He wants his driving privileges back, specifically so he can pick up his girlfriend, but I don’t trust him with, especially since he still doesn’t have insurance. My wife is more lenient and had him pick up some medicine as she wasn’t feeling well earlier. Today his girlfriend is staying over, he asked if she could stay over and I said yes, since he asked. He wants to take her to school in the morning, but I’m still not willing to let him do that. My wife is okay with it as long as he signs up for with a GED exam. We tried talking to him earlier today saying we have no problem with him having girlfriend over, but he needs to have his priorities straight at the same time. 

I really don’t know what to do. This kid just doesn’t care about what my wife and I have to say. He just gives one line answers, even when we tell him how we feel, and want him to do the same. He just shuts down and goes to his room after we’re tired of trying to get answers out of him. He doesn’t seem to respect mine or my wife’s authority. He doesn’t make enough to live on his own, and whatever he does makes goes to everything else except what little we ask him to do. Maybe we’ve been too lenient and he knows he’ll get away with doing what he’s been doing - I don’t know. I’ve suggested having him go to counseling to my wife, she’s not up for the idea, and neither is he. Is he just being a teenager and I’m not seeing it? 

I really draw the line at him doing drugs - ESPECIALLY since he got his 16 year old sister involved! I’m still furious about it two days later and will probably be for a while. I feel like I’ve failed as a parent and there’s no way to make my stepson understand that my wife and I are only trying to help him. If I come down hard on him I think he’s just going to recluse himself further away.

tl;dr I feel like my stepson is taking a series of bad decisions and don't know how to help him before it gets worse",4.614123550278457,4.78256404672193,5.224581855275975,86.42847018765968,69.42200452147702,8.553050158986895,26.657681915929928,8.369477278821654,1.4602352528167335,5058,139,1110,69,82,1631,420,1327,0.101,0.812,0.08800000000000001,-0.97,8,0,2,0,0,0,143.0,19,0,2,10,45,37,6,0,48,5,114,9,2,18,3,201,212,81,0,18,33,28,5,2,12,10,4,9,5,2,49,89,2,1,34,2,10,27,39,15,3,10,59,16,166,23,166,129,19,199,0,3,2,1,265,81,2,11,86,685,215,27,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780436383295932,0.0,0.038297178509699464,0.0,0.04220467824090447,0.03058478060930884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02600813931177724,0.08020713691141086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03147265201953182,0.034046456662462685,0.2145253530983084,0.0,0.10779825367263793,0.0588166037955386,0.06386651448993731,0.0466280025131451,0.0,0.032543963212202195,0.04308939581197624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781055263097445,0.043742474605786376,0.038993667985481116,0.0,0.0,0.13177987863477006,0.08019901227112881,0.0,0.0,0.030535787973691133,0.08463547155521467,0.12603211401795145,0.07399523141858569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040625125796697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870489309916353,0.0,0.03194906988699453,0.0,0.10162204507073602,0.039517654712962084,0.0,0.025260683089841345,0.0,0.032223344274212216,0.0,0.034372441055432607,0.0374112763680094,0.0,0.0,0.07735196214842538,0.05464494998063445,0.0,0.0,0.06991108669745981,0.03253146244257764,0.0,0.04193403582097922,0.05909650195176296,0.0,0.17983448133709914,0.03668841031763514,0.04347141052822298,0.06415674497836074,0.06117657640962702,0.04216561689326175,0.0,0.0,0.06764044692743001,0.0,0.034260308041399734,0.0,0.0,0.04065300270901775,0.0,0.045320906159810576,0.051270083792920966,0.0404082962783899,0.03836318937346346,0.0,0.03766395107276073,0.17651992685065135,0.0,0.08634865603119668,0.0,0.0,0.07590518733916701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611181559774848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310733683831746,0.15643378509338626,0.0,0.037369477702580284,0.038331873114437726,0.06754266304469686,0.10153775398467167,0.0321164490950882,0.0,0.041749301053997316,0.032514816180078975,0.034517908066072134,0.07237732148602874,0.12764529057660332,0.0,0.038422579564420085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958494831516076,0.03052706154263646,0.0,0.02811472181489508,0.08507529396926454,0.02949716012860557,0.0,0.0,0.14356262447875118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006602278035824,0.0,0.07774808644897302,0.08726190208326695,0.0,0.0,0.0849338370507793,0.0,0.03650949984014749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036154203592212115,0.0,0.0,0.038909255176067886,0.0824698795358318,0.07319124096510489,0.0,0.038447125141937016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350282285232942,0.03932257416686447,0.03776265439482097,0.04106117690981074,0.0,0.0,0.14552028684505075,0.12165690189863995,0.0,0.23223792525449366,0.030476580382155838,0.03481711662094165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18982161814079748,0.042989358995328984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027070244984970373,0.12229331532860027,0.15271386980971646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626719676547194,0.030740151593065795,0.06685621710279613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025408501183586115,0.12253033205532825,0.0,0.0,0.1784092993549222,0.04395738650591928,0.10875631710874158,0.18272528296572735,0.0849839489030699,0.10386428799438546,0.041599942092949885,0.22416081038415386,0.039814742564938485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676742685171623,0.030357366776451462,0.18406860504904174,0.0,0.10316144782790776,0.0709076174809115,0.06902093237434384,0.04269955074619502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921529702373464,0.0,0.03897526379038182,0.08150516608839488,0.0,0.0,0.17240119287689068
parenting,MountainSports,2019/01/17,"Whenever you’re greeting your child after time apart, always let your face reflect what your heart feels. A joyous face can do wonders for your child, and we never really know how much time we have together. ",8.769210526315792,8.482368552631579,7.656842105263159,74.00789473684213,60.842105263157904,10.757894736842106,32.1578947368421,10.125756701596842,3.1265368421052617,167,5,28,3,2,51,31,38,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.7717,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,3,1,1,9,7,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,2,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,4,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29828298320368674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125759430948213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4247989679532792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970105103508288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665687432769399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635230806980601,0.0,0.2764808615255771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229650625101658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180636082826469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887548424075742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Janisneptunus,2019/01/17,"Not sure if I should bring this up to a parent at preschool.. Ok, here’s the thing. I bring my son to school every day (M-F) and there is this sweet little girl (we’ll call her S) who is in my sons class. 2 or 3 days a week her mom brings her to school and her mother is super kind and I can tell that there is so much love between her and her daughter. 

On the day’s this mom doesn’t bring her child I have noticed another woman (J) bringing her with her own kid. This lady is downright cruel to S. It’s been a few months and I’ve witnessed J screaming at S because she’s crying. Another time yanking her arm because she asked where her mom was. She told her she needs to ‘shut the hell up and get in the car’ when I was parked right next to them and I noticed J put her child in the car seat nicely. But with S she grabbed her on a leg and arm and forced her into her seat.  S was crying one morning that she was cold and her coat was wide open asking for it to get zipped (we were walking up to the school together) and J said ‘well you should have thought about that before) S had a meltdown (it was 12 degrees) and J just dragged her in total meltdown. 

Maybe this isn’t much but I get such a bad feeling from this woman. I don’t even know the parents of the little girl she brings to school. I would want to know if I had a sitter and things were like that. Give me your criticism and advice. Thanks in advance! ",1.9282751937984488,3.1716297940199314,2.904572259136213,96.5763046788483,76.64119601328903,5.5482281284606865,21.51176633444075,5.46131890053228,-0.17118947951273578,1092,27,259,4,24,347,157,301,0.084,0.835,0.08,-0.2695,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,2,1,2,11,14,2,0,15,1,26,4,3,0,2,37,48,21,0,7,7,9,2,1,0,4,0,2,0,7,16,19,0,0,4,0,0,11,4,4,1,1,14,6,43,10,30,30,5,39,1,0,0,1,55,20,1,3,9,165,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334572749416336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217934703810624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19773935496101505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830371233367364,0.12893848219205106,0.0,0.08999247222551164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799098685763624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23234091980598945,0.20461594566210103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985231966178129,0.0,0.08910587796887796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347454349552739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576294515199233,0.10145293998089347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013093176796952,0.11624392506107893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05166813369200225,0.2119950790326281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545094009183397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624836630183758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715883151895835,0.08441521765769898,0.0,0.15548894924428122,0.0784183944211569,0.0,0.0,0.11247508735110652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408129129245471,0.0,0.0,0.07166452002914515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348640183114677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631624116970627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903169585527536,0.1006003040161496,0.0,0.0,0.42813193754552187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967588899118836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243736267607196,0.0973679777270474,0.0,0.0,0.14052214981600114,0.0,0.0,0.0839602287349108,0.06166847985093784,0.0,0.0,0.10105652986988638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237894967085698,0.0,0.08483288036890396,0.0,0.09508935823071134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512761888299481,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yutzell,2019/01/17,"Issues with our nanny of 6 months So sorry about the length, feel free to skip to TLDR!

So my husband and I just had yet another “heated” discussion with our nanny and I feel like we are not on the same page. She works about 30 hrs/wk and does a (mostly) great job taking care of our 11m son, but lately we’ve been butting heads more and more. I guess I want to know if I’m overreacting and being unreasonable (anxious first time parent here!) or if our nanny really is out of line. I’ll just give you today’s discussion for an example but have had several similar instances: 

We went out to dinner tonight and told her we’d be home around 7:30. Our son’s bedtime is 6:30ish and he sleeps through the night (thank you sleep training.)  We get home at almost 8pm and she is sitting on the couch with the lights on holding our son and watching TV. I don’t “blow up” at her but I obviously show surprise that he’s awake. I ask if he’s sick and she says that he was “restless” and she got him out of bed to cuddle. (I checked nanny cam later and confirmed timeline, but baby was neither crying nor standing up in his crib. Just lying awake quietly) I told her that was VERY unusual as we haven’t picked him up after bedtime in almost 6 months and especially not to have pre-bed screen time. I said was wasn’t mad but in the future could she please text and let us know what was happening and let us decide. 

As soon as DH puts baby back to bed, She proceeds to have a near meltdown, holding back tears, about how “disrespectful” we were to her and how I micromanage her and don’t give her the benefit of the doubt or time to explain herself before accusing her of doing something wrong. She said that I was clearly not on the same page with her and that as long as baby is safe, fed, and happy the other stuff is “minuscule” and I shouldn’t harp on it and hold her to unrealistic standards.  

I do agree that we trust her with baby and she keeps him safe, plays with him, makes him meals etc but I’m so fed up with how personally she takes feedback about her performance. Am I wrong? Should she have more freedom to make childcare decisions? Am I micromanaging? She’s been with him for 6 months, is that long enough to have “benefit of the doubt” on situations like this?  Please advise!

TLDR: we went out and left 11month old with long time nanny. She kept him up and watching TV without asking and got upset when we confronted her about the decision. Feels she should have more leeway to make care decisions without being micromanaged. 
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parenting,mariatsigua,2019/01/17,"The Single Parent's Anthem  I’m the one who explained why you left, the one who dealt with their anger, their frustration and tears.

I have defended you because it’s better than telling them to give up on you.

And because it hurts less than hating you.

I have paid for all their flights to see you, and even some of yours, so you saw them at all.

I reminded you to call them on their birthdays, to text them during their bad weeks, and then pretended I didn’t.

***But I am the one who has been there, since day one and every day in between.***

I’m the full-time mother, the part-time father, their financial advisers, their #1 fans, their Lyft service, their advocates, their therapists, and their life teachers.

I planned all their birthday parties and checked off their Christmas lists.

I reemed them when they missed classes, praised them when they got As, and consoled them when they didn’t get the grades they thought they deserved.

Then I helped them look at colleges, filled out their financial aid, and edit their college applications.

I signed their car notes, reviewed their leases, scheduled all their appointments, taught them how to budget and even cook themselves dinner.

I have had the hard conversations with them, the ones about sex, heartbreak, adulting, and how to care for their mental health.

I watched and hurt with them for every single disappointment they have had since you left, and to be honest, even all the years before that.

I've taken all of their calls, including the scary ones that come after 2am.

I've picked them up, literally and figuratively, when they were lost.

I've taught them about love and loyalty, and also what bull shit smells like.

And while you complain about child support, I creatively find ways to pay the other 90% of their expenses you think you shouldn’t have to cover.

I am the ride-or-die parent, the real-deal-superwoman-single mom, who has sacrificed much to give them lives that don’t lack, despite your absence.

So, when you ask me with callousness and undeserved annoyance, “What the hell do you want,” my simple answer is this-

Be a good dad, a better man.

Respect the mother of your children.

And show some gratitude that while our children may carry your name, ***they bear all of my heart.***

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Maria's Random Rants

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parenting,yikesyikesyikes11,2019/01/17,"Just turned 18, pregnant, and got kicked out with all of my stuff taken I’m still in high school. My parents found out through someone else (someone’s mom from my job contacted my mom). Obviously I was going to tell them but i wanted to wait a bit because i knew they wouldn’t be happy.



They kicked me out immediately. Took my car(in their name but I paid for it), cell phone, and laptop. They said I could only take my clothes. I can’t have my bed or any of the furniture in my room. 



I’m really upset by it. Like, I know this isn’t ideal and I’ve done some shitty stuff(I got in trouble a lot for drinking and smoking pot) but I didn’t expect them to kick me out and take everything. I literally have NOTHING. 




I’m staying at my boyfriend’s mom’s house for now. My bf lives an hour and half away. I feel shitty for staying in her house but I feel like if I move now I’ll struggle more because I’ll be in between jobs and trying to finish school(I’m still in high school) .




Honestly, what would you experienced moms do in my situation? How do I start my life from scratch at this point? ",1.147627055306426,3.4005358161434978,2.6382343049327366,92.69723187593424,83.2152466367713,5.510388639760836,22.296150971599406,6.816661863887847,0.5055173393124064,849,29,186,10,24,276,132,223,0.08900000000000001,0.82,0.091,0.0952,3,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,6,1,6,8,0,2,4,0,14,2,0,1,2,37,35,14,0,7,7,5,3,2,1,2,1,1,2,0,6,12,1,1,5,1,1,3,4,3,0,1,11,5,35,5,30,19,5,30,0,0,0,0,20,18,0,4,9,113,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979226097745657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642473538822724,0.0,0.0,0.12512520335437047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204592754661137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194210504121223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502663649788584,0.0,0.1005388205052853,0.0,0.0,0.08573461549132827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922376778982682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378613142341596,0.07331925141644992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252904857097996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058327279631073474,0.0,0.16416597647777828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925207820430256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168695211686069,0.0,0.0,0.10107037151719432,0.2368436406541293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036898749584509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640304009594738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249095898506032,0.10028015880508236,0.0,0.09062461389141514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725278303344458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4807984160275871,0.0,0.10907998200841787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847673500650536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805512177780448,0.0,0.0,0.1139590274068648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701899787183736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574772783747425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762510992477176,0.0,0.0,0.3116026428096884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536098473976325,0.0,0.0,0.17391698325886315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264239783040577,0.2187809202571984,0.16392170356932373,0.0,0.0,0.10729168457276074,0.23497474221594306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433073055257052,0.0,0.08970358271441052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402626442507673,0.06967937428206694,0.11163251551346147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06053412937630503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290576428736566,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jadesavage,2019/01/17,"how do i approach my 5 year old over the death of great grandpa? 5 year old daughter and ggpa are good buddies, hes not doing well and will die fairly soon. How do I approach her about it? do i take her to funeral? visitation/wake? etc",0.14761904761904887,2.4157103265306152,2.5256122448979603,91.50093537414969,88.59183673469389,4.899319727891157,22.452380952380953,6.42735559955562,0.5304666666666664,182,7,39,2,6,62,38,49,0.233,0.642,0.125,-0.7248,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,0,5,8,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,3,4,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037165604346249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32637358041871634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454545216080989,0.0,0.3226392276084696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6141578440478908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22003062987565425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26312062053167395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769041617106056
parenting,Particip8nTrofyWife,2019/01/17,"My teenager lost twenty pounds in three months when I stopped letting him get hot lunch at school He’s always been a big kid- off the charts for height, but sometimes his weight would creep up to concerning levels too. Generally, he would pack on the pounds, and then shoot up a couple inches and even out. I didn’t worry when he started gaining in 7th grade, until he got to 240lbs at 13 years old (at 6’2”). I started reworking his die, adding more fruit and veg and enforcing a little more portion control at dinner. 

By 9th grade it wasn’t getting any better, and he was unhappy with his body. I felt really helpless because I wanted to satisfy his big appetite without harming his health or his self esteem. Eventually he told me he was eating either corn dogs or pizza for lunch every day, and always with curly fries. I knew school lunch wasn’t great, but he seemed to love it so I didn’t think too much about it. I switched from hot lunch back to bag lunch. 3 months later he is down 20 pounds without any extra effort, and an inch taller. I feel a little stupid now for not realizing that his weight gain began when we started doing school lunch, but,looking back, it totally did. 
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parenting,agitated-alligator,2019/01/17,Help with a crazy two year old. So my son was the sweetest baby I've ever personally dealt with. But ever since he turned two he is just wild. I know terrible twos and what not but he is always going 100 miles an hour. We try to discipline him and tell him no but everything is a game to him. Hell just laugh and try to keep playing. For example at a resturant he will try to climb out of the booth and wont sto no matter what. Any suggestions on how to go about this? ,0.8375757575757561,2.8294279595959617,2.693222222222225,93.38650000000004,82.53535353535355,6.384242424242425,18.990909090909085,7.554174236665415,0.3575527272727275,364,9,84,6,10,121,71,99,0.154,0.765,0.08199999999999999,-0.7852,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,7,4,1,0,6,0,6,0,0,1,2,21,11,9,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,2,1,2,0,3,4,2,0,2,1,0,6,2,13,8,0,12,1,0,0,0,14,4,1,0,5,52,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774917857103564,0.0,0.0,0.1452691099057643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864635309520044,0.0,0.0,0.19198812562304116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428106462396325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318516499984546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103729368058481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898755124822008,0.0,0.0,0.11740011451074794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415854004069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652498127174302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670889599612552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18671353290144416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4351024256406896,0.2323575126821025,0.4173519298439402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756445096827818
parenting,benegesseritpadawan,2019/01/17,"Thoughts on newer AAP recommendations for transitioning from rear facing car seats? I only just found out that the AAP now says that children should remain in rear facing car seats until they reach the limit on weight or height, whichever comes first. Sure, makes sense. My kid turns 2 next month and last measured 75 percentile for weight and 90 percentile for height. She's been using a regular infant cat seat, and I just realized I think she's probably surpassed the limits. I order a new convertible car seat. I notice that the weight and height limit are exceptionally higher for rear facing than on the original infant cat seat. Significantly. To the point that most girls will probably not exceed the limit until they are 5 years old. Does everyone leave their kids rear facing this long? I'm just having a really hard time imagining cramming a 5 year old (especially one like mine that is all legs and gets car sick easily) into a rear facing seat. For reference the limits are 45"" and 40 lbs; it's the Graco 4ever all-in-one. Thanks in advance for any words of wisdom or some personal experiences. ",7.091210967250571,8.201338326732674,6.943267326732677,72.95851104341206,64.24752475247524,9.77974105102818,27.914699162223915,9.851270322608157,2.6404565118050267,890,25,149,18,13,282,126,202,0.032,0.892,0.076,0.8256,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,3,7,4,4,0,0,14,0,8,10,6,3,2,36,18,10,0,1,7,0,4,1,0,2,1,1,0,7,7,9,3,5,6,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,3,5,12,4,20,13,3,34,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,4,17,79,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926441888686433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257399935155922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773909049845453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948032815494266,0.0,0.1427864009788929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416177398127197,0.0,0.16004826979166198,0.0,0.0,0.07626315691985558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307602027137141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898480864022487,0.0,0.15456086298933175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131343468643513,0.0,0.0,0.12917861370935935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743592527585264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651164229888475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097847052784235,0.1552404591092439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661875000156347,0.3063413444207257,0.0,0.09891286375656813,0.11101655392594148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274551340325114,0.0,0.0,0.13798857222643346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147601052754682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351194395359497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160809845504432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375747388469299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343893116321884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353150613107464,0.0,0.11588365710743727,0.08511612082366223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877314513283802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607097593751834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5332554037282347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18799943489314144
parenting,doodieeater,2019/01/17,"5th grade band/orchestra concert I don't know if this belongs here or not. I just want to get some opinions on something that I observed tonight.

There is a boy in my daughter's class that is in a wheelchair. He is not mentally handicapped but he does have some muscular handicaps. I can't remember what his condition is called but if I heard it maybe it would jog my memory. Anyway, he plays the drum. He has only one drumstick and he was trying to keep up and he was doing a pretty decent job of it. He has an assistant that helps him throughout his day helping him with getting his materials together, eating lunch, etc. 

Tonight after a couple songs the assistant took his hand and basically played the drum for him. My question is this. Did she over step her role or did she do the right thing? I don't have an opinion either way....I'm just curious. Is she actually helping or hindering his progress? ",3.415948275862072,5.707567764367816,4.452399425287356,82.51066810344828,75.3793103448276,8.02816091954023,29.26580459770115,8.841846274778883,2.5896218390804595,717,32,134,16,16,233,113,174,0.006,0.825,0.168,0.9836,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,10,0,20,4,2,0,0,26,27,10,0,4,12,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,10,4,2,1,3,7,0,3,5,0,0,1,6,4,21,2,11,20,4,13,0,0,0,0,28,6,0,10,4,94,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.19332055924787295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022859483865086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21919789084821767,0.0,0.12776044812525506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733618154760276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270946294331094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22093790596254306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070019331743919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3983540479367923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965872779279046,0.1760836024258967,0.0,0.0,0.1088725703384376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19902171623098372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964185750535612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424014190064304,0.1506667321756638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154260411971892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219213958937078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22441278685527724,0.16917941161435782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250984744567778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161124447503278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22010041432040534,0.13449935614743094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684664952787513,0.15724543496547522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072712990206507,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Katycosmo,2019/01/17,"Hi, my wonderful people! Check this out 👇🤔 So I’m needing advice on what to do with my soon-to-be 3 year daughter. Not to brag or anything, but she really is a wonderful kid. Hyper active, always busy, learns quickly, no health problems. Seriously, nothing. Besides this whole potty training business, it’s been pretty smooth sailing. Up until recently, she’s never showed too much attention to technology. Never sat long enough when she was younger to make it through 5 minutes of any given thing on tv, although we usually keep it on something age appropriate and have it an option at all times. Well, now she’s graduating to things to she sees us using (i.e. phones/ipad/tablets) and finds them MUCH more interesting than she once did. I started allowing her access to the iPad (limiting her to using certain applications I approved) and manage her usage. When I think she’s spent enough time I’ll redirect her to other things. Offer a choice of coloring or a specific toy I know she likes for example. And that was going pretty well, but all good things must come to an end. Now, when I tell her time is up, I’ll get whining, crying, sometimes even full blown tantrums but most of the time it’s really just pouting with an attitude. I never give into her, instead I make her take a break until inevitably she’s in my face pestering me about being able to use it again. She’ll even do this now if I’m actively trying my hardest to play with her and interact in other ways. Sometimes I allow it, and feel extremely guilty. I have seen kids become extremely dependent, and it’s really quite sad. Since she’s always been such an active girl with a huge imagination, I feel like I’m failing as a parent by letting her sit around too often now. Does anyone else experience this conflict with their toddler? What do you do instead? And if so could you offer me ideas on how to combat the backlash and attitude I receive when it’s time for her to move on to a different activity? Any advice is greatly appreciated! I can’t wait to hear your ideas! ♥️",3.824602604400539,5.951843213740465,5.101656189193236,79.07378648405931,73.6055979643766,7.982308037718905,28.098263732974104,8.757208317658263,2.4063121389013613,1625,65,291,33,34,539,229,393,0.091,0.759,0.15,0.9781,3,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,2,3,2,4,26,15,1,0,14,0,20,2,1,9,7,66,49,27,0,6,9,2,3,2,0,2,1,1,0,3,22,19,0,4,12,4,2,4,6,6,2,0,9,7,46,9,46,35,10,49,0,3,3,0,41,15,0,10,29,203,68,4,0.0940579466344023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838246737307441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652749284965795,0.0,0.0,0.12792525819163458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576750324296332,0.09637348158083184,0.07740167582367034,0.08373151394732001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387961230013533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102259256576963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509761682279521,0.0,0.10331823775697238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827053501949473,0.0,0.0,0.08231074294508256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857334516094347,0.0,0.08330742284044032,0.19437400429466134,0.0,0.12424877334080195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200672011336522,0.0,0.0,0.09511704788687053,0.06719501586928338,0.0,0.0,0.08596725922046708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04914139501789135,0.09022895306468172,0.05345529863856161,0.07889134308788445,0.0,0.1036992182181498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997919892449507,0.10601014178031244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123599459552543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836030246702525,0.0,0.0,0.05169178764245655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618062305453053,0.0,0.09190392335034064,0.0,0.0,0.08323832294047713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255688195007778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996871190684728,0.13828682644466594,0.06974277562549501,0.2176298607987964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025113655255786,0.0,0.0,0.10016864344634116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444021872997936,0.0,0.0,0.06520793719634538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138149233877466,0.0,0.09000075212596371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004220406718654,0.0,0.0,0.18076778731611007,0.0,0.0928708750662415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495200574421591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780570542397902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724104025746707,0.1860514285537836,0.0,0.06657469874142445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071987021318253,0.0,0.0822107911302819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499516812954655,0.06026853430989819,0.0,0.0,0.274229725382451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385917163898848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314012875167348,0.2437075992807615,0.10359153981118527,0.0,0.0,0.07465882000134383,0.0,0.0,0.16913877985922118,0.0,0.0,0.105012338414388,0.0,0.0,0.20400366176326132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605702338216404
parenting,Orange__Taco,2019/01/17,"3 year old just started daycare and now has trouble sleeping at her regular bedtime. Ever since she started daycare about a week ago she's been having a real hard time going to bed, more than usual, like staying up 2 hours after we normally put her down. I thought it could be stress due to a big change but the other glaring difference is that she used to never take naps and now she takes one for two hours. I thought that daycare would wear her out and make her even more tired at the end of the day but now I'm thinking we'll need to delay her bedtime? Has anyone else experienced the same thing?",5.863678571428572,5.845679058333335,5.9440476190476215,82.98000000000002,66.75,8.19047619047619,32.14285714285714,7.447530270364453,2.0202857142857145,477,18,94,4,7,151,87,120,0.106,0.878,0.016,-0.8647,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,7,0,9,3,2,2,2,22,21,5,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,5,5,0,1,3,1,0,2,1,2,0,2,3,2,13,1,14,14,3,29,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,21,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399949246394372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358674192621968,0.16644618148894774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184742025443386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297007366968524,0.0,0.0,0.10476489679708917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972257345659786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357036505719984,0.0,0.1438798536073055,0.0,0.0,0.10729473262785774,0.14694264080290415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232239193597397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552063291306336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.319955208312299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793634143677115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843465534888573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045241594356755,0.12528916569768495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916360068766236,0.0,0.0,0.17046083365725506,0.0,0.1100783131134575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330413543222316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849002867115783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437786363475107,0.0,0.16256434940419778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22996169086187965,0.1731469219536306,0.0,0.0,0.18608252641976394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442799027138064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792258987104857,0.10408949884626137,0.0,0.2579295959562786,0.09472417078216293,0.18670896647560267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868714588511396,0.0,0.0,0.14030207838207284,0.1789124555147494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030521049700644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539771077106944,0.0,0.0,0.10461056263749163
parenting,secretsquirrelz,2019/01/17,"Pets & Kids & Birthdays So about 6 months ago we lost our (not suppose to be an outdoor) cat. I think the kids left the door open. Well, this cat loved to sleep with our nearly 7 year old, and he is still upset some nights about the missing cat. Last night he cried for 20 minutes he “misses his friend”. 

My question to the room at large is how do you feel about 1) replacement pets and 2) birthday pets? I have this idea of getting him a special cuddly plushy cat for bed time... but my other idea is rescuing another feline. 

The hard part is we do have a 6-year old tuxedo cat (who isn’t super cuddly with the kids) AND a dog. 
I like the idea about giving him a kitten for his birthday; but don’t want to set a bad precedent for his brother... and I know “pets aren’t gifts”.  

Thanks in advance. ",3.1714814814814822,4.292906827160497,3.660185185185188,92.86583333333336,73.32098765432099,6.140740740740743,23.37654320987655,5.985473137389443,0.2965209876543211,614,16,135,3,12,192,102,162,0.085,0.769,0.145,0.9062,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,4,1,0,3,8,12,0,1,13,0,12,2,1,1,0,22,23,8,0,1,3,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,7,3,4,9,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,1,2,16,7,18,21,2,19,0,3,0,1,22,6,0,2,12,76,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327501828695995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258054272295671,0.0,0.0,0.15765368236397825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255348535905479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515094654642082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760208015169994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615900412722477,0.0,0.07855097103868904,0.14422813752956362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468287061827436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091760202911063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262769326272376,0.12255422716586856,0.0,0.0,0.1633542623332343,0.0,0.0,0.0734527623687338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412332619614056,0.0,0.1356955384189343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000686844773123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821840707755293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155312610364866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628129507280006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842491153960495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045724307033329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006863653615718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842084896935286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633735247844397,0.0,0.0,0.08766951450451063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867953687465778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518150424304928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363921927727384
parenting,Gurlytroubles,2019/01/17,"When I share to my ex what our 4 year old says to me he doesn’t believe me and calls me manipulative My kids dad and I have recently separated for many many reasons. One being lack of his support with child care and lack of support when I’m having a hard day with the kids. Anyways, he demands that I tell him everything that goes on with the kids during the day and I’ve been mostly complying with that through texts and calls because I want him involved with their lives. 

I’ve been a stay home mom and am looking for work, but for the last half a year I make my own small income from things I can do at home.  

Today my 4 year old daughter was playing with her Christmas present that I bought for her. She was talking to herself and said “I love the present daddy got me”

I corrected her and told her it was a gift from mommy. She said “no, it’s from daddy. Daddy makes the money, you don’t work Mom”   

It hurt a lot more than I expected. I texted this interaction to her dad, and he told me to get bent, there’s no way she would have said that. She doesn’t understand money. She would only say something like that if I took the time to explain to her something toxic AF (whatever that means...) He then called me a manipulative b*tch and said he was done talking to me for the night. Then he texted his mom and now she’s texting me saying I need to stop making up stories about our kids because I am being a toxic parent in doing so. 

I replied to my ex that I would be cutting down on communication with him because of his reaction to this. I thanked him for his support /s, and told him to have a good night. 

He has now said he’s saving all our texts for court to prove how crazy I am and how I’m horribly influencing our kids by the shit I fill their heads with. He’s blown up my phone demanding I face time so he can get the truth from our 4 year old. 


Meanwhile I’ve been crying myself dry because my kid hurt me feelings and now I’m being attacked for telling her dad about it. 

I don’t get it. I don’t know where she would have picked it up that I make no money and daddy buys her everything, or if she just said it of her own accord. 

I feel so fucking alone and overwhelmed with being a single parent to two toddlers. I don’t sleep more than 4 hours a night, I can’t eat more than one meal a day without getting sick, my hairs starting to fall out, my entire body hurts, and I wake up crying. Then I have these interactions with my ex and I want to just load up the kids and drive into the sunset. I’m so done with today. Send wine. ",3.3655673632044127,4.159754264650289,4.351163337250295,89.3319388954172,72.51606805293005,7.079977520053134,25.2613804731007,7.113659591113569,0.8637500740816435,1982,58,442,18,37,644,223,529,0.105,0.8009999999999999,0.094,-0.7748,3,1,3,0,1,0,43.0,5,1,2,2,18,20,4,1,23,0,39,13,7,11,4,74,81,34,0,12,7,12,4,1,0,4,1,9,2,8,21,32,3,1,8,2,5,5,11,8,0,4,21,14,84,12,63,51,11,54,0,4,1,2,92,15,2,5,33,290,105,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989631017136187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677634933817934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645581040859222,0.0,0.0,0.07603488138943668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749629838399961,0.0,0.0,0.20673570551099507,0.0,0.06880762341511121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826287937803095,0.13057084088267334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812552321426247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069056178756862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213061557010194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824703800512599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239076112775005,0.1410369530139245,0.0,0.0,0.0566049999406834,0.05397562025950885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045520966830002,0.0,0.06926126199372598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539018121581828,0.0,0.06646122551755419,0.0,0.21673909468713345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03708915987366968,0.05501101561792642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0329708011815654,0.0,0.05959236926574438,0.0,0.05667218933054041,0.0,0.0,0.05737514172720201,0.060909766687557126,0.0,0.1801927243772524,0.13684270782773145,0.0,0.07351326546616525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371203212901232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050040849295041503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999629001233576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21244916063151895,0.0,0.09146204721611616,0.051327000914331115,0.0,0.0,0.14987293519466874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938800617561361,0.066635395873025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851742711235096,0.16100541557428447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927456570447454,0.0,0.0,0.06753586505971906,0.0,0.0,0.10390977445720677,0.0,0.0,0.047767735607078005,0.07193229757584321,0.0,0.056422259764555775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22975077473884825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848719209111893,0.11797344663961735,0.06213307905074364,0.0,0.0,0.04483544819721914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870457254969024,0.0,0.12793981002965268,0.1934605248740404,0.07498068089707229,0.0,0.0,0.06592511648763914,0.0702564789185242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079611311675113,0.05356813987866517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505518182031607,0.0,0.09826286395830884,0.0,0.0,0.19176367392724766,0.0,0.0,0.17383798767688466
parenting,aiaor,2019/01/17,"Children's movie Pahuna is a great children's movie on Netflix.  If they're slow readers, they will want to do some 10-second replays to read all the subtitles.  But that helps them improve their reading speed.  It's basically about a brother and sister surviving alone without their parents, and taking care of their baby brother.",7.664655172413795,9.429037362068973,6.54431034482759,73.96922413793105,63.31034482758621,7.8689655172413815,40.36206896551725,8.07648339933343,3.7057793103448256,269,15,39,3,4,81,47,58,0.032,0.711,0.258,0.9231,1,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,5,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,8,6,4,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,6,5,2,3,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,2,25,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31436042724954216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30946403095913977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33463745386882143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20344645192237126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370286630684173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6072144030635036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282130734707013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902694642054928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29258732974162577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamawithsomedrama,2019/01/17,"Inviting sister (f10) to move and then stay with us? Can I as a mom of (f1) survive this? This isn’t set in stone, but my boyfriend (m20) and I (f18) are thinking of taking my sister (f10) with us when we move to Texas this upcoming fall. we are currently in a Midwest state.


We are moving to go to university with our one year old  child. We are for sure taking our three bodies down as well as our dog.


My sister has been having a really hard time in her house with a new stepmom. (We don’t have the same dad, and our mom died a few years back). She’s just at that point where’s she’s becoming her own person and she’s being crucified where she is and is thriving.


She will survive okay if we do not take her, but we have the blessing of her parents to take her, I just don’t know if we should or if this would even help her?


Any advice on how to go about this? Do we need legal guardianship? How do we do financing and school for her? How much money should we ask from her parents?


Thank you in advance—",1.1348571428571432,2.9968120571428614,2.55261904761905,95.4632142857143,80.80952380952381,5.533333333333334,19.547619047619047,6.508806274219699,-0.07263809523809561,772,19,178,7,20,250,117,210,0.032,0.8590000000000001,0.109,0.9379,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,17,1,0,2,12,5,0,0,7,1,24,1,1,3,1,41,35,20,1,7,9,8,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,6,21,0,0,2,0,2,6,4,0,1,2,1,1,37,5,27,29,4,28,2,0,0,0,43,10,0,4,9,132,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645737079741293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880028316176402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209803227373796,0.0,0.0,0.09950784287356508,0.0,0.0,0.14292251833582553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374467337359922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430652911279525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547369013419713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470926918314442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592540641192675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674039493874143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932107612136708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112002349214555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031254572865237,0.0,0.4126251459016072,0.0951308011770234,0.09595543251862128,0.0,0.12498440773339295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579339935140713,0.0,0.08769116055480917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873876547268104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299529906935402,0.0,0.0,0.12233371456736895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290297722254045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309692245851832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793320503519413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196683074713807,0.0,0.3891990631635276,0.0,0.0,0.11914279149971505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829203200633098,0.0,0.0,0.07545966352080946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113271558871163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635459466235035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192872689149294,0.0,0.0,0.1666708252427192
parenting,dfc44,2019/01/17,"Melatonin helping get our ASD child asleep but not through the night. Our almost 6 year old daughter is on the spectrum. She has issues falling asleep and has forever but once she’s asleep she sleeps through the night. We started 3mg of melatonin after discussing it with her doctors because her going to sleep at 10pm was really hard on her and us. She was starting to have multiple meltdowns (something she doesn’t do often) and always seemed overtired. 

A few days ago we started on it and now her bedtimes 7.30-8pm following a routine of dinner/bath/book/bed. She still fights but not as much and it’s the earliest she’s gone to sleep in about 3 years. Overall it’s taken a huge amount of stress off of us. 

But! Not she wakes up at midnight. Sometimes for a few hours but last night it was until 5am. Obviously that’s negates the benefit of going to bed a few hours earlier. We’ve been giving her a half dose to get back to sleep and it helps but I would prefer not to rely on it so heavily. Is it just an adjustment period? Should we be doing anything else?",2.3465341419586707,4.649108797169814,3.3754447439353115,88.84305031446544,78.95283018867924,6.113566936208446,25.66127583108716,7.2636822038024595,1.2753766397124888,843,33,166,11,21,270,129,212,0.054000000000000006,0.87,0.076,0.6718,0,0,1,0,1,0,22.0,7,0,0,0,7,3,1,1,12,0,15,10,8,0,1,29,27,15,0,3,11,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,9,10,0,0,3,0,0,5,6,2,0,1,6,1,21,1,29,18,5,35,0,0,0,0,27,10,0,3,20,114,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127931871035656,0.0,0.12741542216441887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587631760343884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471009614159606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784196505478704,0.0,0.07756611395525218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206116843973348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302385387488254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629514720988974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329583666528824,0.12206302059508002,0.14463018791667534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398467935366025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170576518299531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506173255087394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280856847896444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371997732755296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353820016199843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358226632812373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352005882483772,0.13550957616904827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151508429995777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583719180987513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5093393251593109,0.0,0.0,0.09795783017047736,0.125846519237703,0.0,0.2701896192154739,0.0,0.10161637462268404,0.0,0.14575635552621172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061151747166012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903897323498102,0.0,0.0,0.16388056044759086
parenting,Tbables,2019/01/17,"Parenting advice for a 5yr old daughter This is my first child. She is 5 years old and loads of fun. Her mother and I feel we are good parents but have hit a bit of a lull as of late. 5 year old is smart as can be and when she first started kindergarten this year it was wonderful. They have a color system and highest color you can land on is pink. You earn colors by doing your work, helping others, etc. She hit pink something like 15 days in a row and when we had her first parent / teacher conference there was nothing but fantastic feedback and how she's the youngest but one of the smartest and gets along with everybody. 

Since the holidays have ended and they're back to school, we have been getting nothing but low colors on the color charts, phone calls home telling us she had a meltdown and downright refuses to do her work. She was disciplined yesterday for said phone call and grounded her from her tv, tablet and toys until further notice. We had her write sentences and discussed what being kind was all about at the dinner table. Today, we received a letter home stating she was a huge distraction and was pushing kids. I'm a 36 year old male and I found myself crying like a baby because I don't know what to do. Is there a better way to discipline a 5 year old? Bullying is not tolerated in our household and I would hate to see her end up being the bully. 

Parents, has anything similar happened with you? Is this just a kids will be kids deal? Wasn't there so I'm not sure what exactly happened with said meltdown or the pushing but any disciplinary advice is welcome for sure. ",4.2374946409431935,5.870181520900324,4.640598874598068,84.8720022775992,71.41157556270095,7.2412111468381575,28.71396034297964,7.793537801064563,1.8176783494105044,1267,49,239,16,24,400,174,311,0.092,0.7609999999999999,0.146,0.9481,4,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,7,4,1,7,12,13,1,1,20,0,37,1,0,1,4,47,54,28,0,1,9,6,1,2,0,2,0,2,2,5,8,24,1,3,4,3,0,3,4,3,0,4,14,11,32,10,28,32,3,41,0,1,8,0,52,11,0,2,26,163,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672458938365188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149212253962301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441209659145416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953126797352133,0.0,0.055122260188328664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997359245679894,0.09872071502293717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18466813551270372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932765157624064,0.058316664938284725,0.09322423740146406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017947749116326,0.0,0.10084781341368013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04572161312744657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307464579759009,0.0,0.09914638023016603,0.0,0.0,0.09448669408761998,0.0,0.0,0.07584422662189891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992511425886266,0.0,0.0,0.08927599830882094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606099928452667,0.0,0.18140735972569474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416375580805987,0.049695232746615935,0.0,0.10200337468862243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835420614223669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353051388542912,0.10294949822012532,0.4744292995746562,0.0,0.06127434187466746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016251876443829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202982503682754,0.0,0.0,0.09151495990609863,0.07205704310417795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480052086423693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696136073705616,0.0,0.0,0.06400330303673939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044904497298236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903546357811032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571235717710456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877017970797552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177518143147288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806208988756687,0.1316610004483788,0.0,0.0,0.06423534828383973,0.0,0.0,0.2911537794072236
parenting,TardigradeInAHat,2019/01/17,"What's something you wish you knew before being a parent that no one talks about? For example, apparently kids sometimes cough so much they end up vomiting.

Or how newborn size diapers often suck and there *will* be a blowout.

Or how ""cradle cap"" is a thing.

 I knew about post partum depression, the gross things about birth, or kids swearing when they shouldn't before I had kids because they were regularly discussed in mom's groups and my family. But theres a lot no one talks about--not necessarily because it's ""taboo"" but because it's just...looked over. ",4.501143162393163,6.797736144230767,4.6878205128205135,82.03495726495727,72.17307692307692,7.699145299145299,26.94017094017094,8.515128840125781,1.99410811965812,445,16,81,8,9,139,75,104,0.115,0.865,0.019,-0.7351,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,3,0,10,3,1,0,5,0,7,2,0,2,0,16,11,11,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,4,0,8,0,7,3,2,7,0,1,0,0,15,3,1,5,3,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379469886222364,0.0,0.3531341211790112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871928772857498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837832480352448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956123597989252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742475855296569,0.0,0.0,0.1764089235564298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243021277001996,0.0,0.0,0.1525362402169382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28121449132757104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304039900558466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872746577043168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974349611320054,0.2052226240793821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335609847806334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757073155914002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386145483192663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ItsDaveDude,2019/01/17,"Help with 4 year old who always seems she's a hair away from total meltdowns. My 4 year old girl is bright and caring. However, I'm not sure if everything is ok with her. Each day, she will whine and cry about new random things, if we try and console her or appease her, she has none of it and keeps saying no and sobbing. When she is in this state, if we try to hug her, she just tries to run away and cry by herself, and she just continues to work herself up until she is gasping and hysterical.  I usually will pick her up and sit her down in front of me and not let her run away and she will calm down, but it takes a good long time.  

Afterwards, I will say, its ok to be upset or sad, but we have to stop being sad because it hurts us and hurts you if you don't do something else and just let it continue. She will say she was upset because of not knowing where a toy is or whatever it might be that time, and she will say she won't cry like that in the future and she knows she shouldn't.  I always try to give her a solution like, if you are upset because you can't find a toy, tell me to help you find and we will get it together. She says ok, and she will in the future.

What then happens is sometimes she will ask and avoid a meltdown, but the thing is, it will just be something else that will bring her to this point.

Like I said, she is very smart and aware, I just don't know what to make of the fact she can just lose herself to this emotion to the point of gasping and looking hysterical.

What should I be doing to address this at home, and can anyone explain these situations and why they happen to me?",8.042886554621848,4.615289179411769,7.937310924369751,81.41147058823529,64.55882352941177,11.126050420168069,34.285714285714285,8.418075326091056,2.3763949579831927,1251,34,290,12,14,405,155,340,0.154,0.7509999999999999,0.095,-0.9699,1,1,2,0,0,0,33.0,5,5,1,2,9,24,0,4,11,3,41,2,1,2,3,68,59,36,0,7,20,0,1,3,0,15,0,6,2,1,22,29,0,3,7,2,0,4,10,11,0,0,2,9,52,13,36,35,3,40,0,7,2,1,56,15,1,11,22,211,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632114273709166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568080197757972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781556318501194,0.0,0.2647621146844706,0.0,0.0,0.17178379233837274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577192248857963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30954610013331746,0.060579626847654215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693952392161445,0.10566305068967298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844217774467863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170785725452906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049076611942349815,0.09011000428269668,0.0,0.0787873406712462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613096368976485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259238934082037,0.0,0.09422341084860401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20111647272369326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349281084623017,0.0,0.0,0.15487092715692607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921076563781751,0.0,0.13767414968384634,0.0,0.0,0.08312858990255584,0.07888086020757169,0.10508806277926172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270164109560794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964907678876177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072199433852156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713575846110093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759588994597333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935269719579393,0.3735002367299584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855139402514846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055856955818405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446298879570932,0.09290307852605256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853298836092065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885316362992449,0.0,0.07062664024499296,0.0,0.08210241268701256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481108506188499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095472833911356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550999445046709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299097617867407,0.0,0.1034549751380292,0.07750534638513126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476077946689213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838503441505463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098076822767374
parenting,Notstrongbad,2019/01/17,"[HELP] Should we have 5 y/o and 12 y/o boys share a room? Howdy all. This is my first post here so mods please let me know if I'm breaking any rules.

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So here's my situation:

We have a large family (me, wife, 5 kiddos 12-1). We are in the process of looking for a new house (new build). The area of town I work on and the part of town I live in create a massive commute for me so moving is a bit of a necessity. Plus, we are currently leasing so we need to be out in the next 6 months.

The 5 bedroom (new) homes near the area where I work are a bit above my budget, but 4br homes sit right in my sweet spot. They get lower priced the farther out you get from the city, but the commute increases, and depending on the area, increases exponentially.

My 8 and 10 y/o girls share a room. My 1 y/o has her own room. Currently, the 12 y/o has his own area as well as the 5 y/o. 

**Would it be ill-advised to have the boys share a room?**

12y/o is a very loving boy and the 5y/o thinks big brother hung the moon. We are at a bit of an impasse since wife and I can't decide whether it would be worth it or not.

We are also trying to downsize a little, as we are having a bit of a challenge having the big kids keeping their crap cleaned up.

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Am I crazy? We have friends who have 3 girls in large-ish room (9, 13, 16), by design not because of money, and they have no problems at all. In fact they report it has fostered a very close relationship between the girls.

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I'm a bit concerned that our budget will blow up just because we are too proud/snobbish to let them share a room (""they *deserve* separate rooms!"" and such attitude from us).

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Don't know how to proceed and need some perspective/advice from you kind internet strangers.

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TL;DR: Should we room a 5y/o and12y/o boys together due to financial realities around building a new home?",0.8185372139803846,2.940295260309284,2.5466079959768666,93.66004651747551,83.51030927835052,5.537943173246165,22.350012572290677,6.807656815369643,0.495865401056073,1443,50,324,17,41,475,197,388,0.042,0.852,0.106,0.9717,3,0,0,0,0,0,94.0,13,2,6,4,14,12,1,0,37,0,34,2,1,2,3,51,46,24,0,8,8,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,13,8,7,25,0,1,4,0,5,3,5,2,1,1,0,2,37,10,40,36,13,54,0,0,1,1,43,37,1,4,11,192,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908666118003555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056538305705189675,0.0,0.3830139945351216,0.4295377072357695,0.04807803430131104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293747859596978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619542818326349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38592731288990745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664912707036277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060136895932336565,0.0,0.0,0.054622201416726426,0.0,0.07387506450822093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04738833519918394,0.0,0.21275186730907628,0.0,0.0,0.08157764571558078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284089857795727,0.0,0.07362257301759312,0.07770911153908867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445899069411321,0.0,0.0,0.07085939860353296,0.06242888873627244,0.0,0.059369712024371885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380899256636259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643160759679953,0.07514230149788484,0.0,0.10484545761144948,0.0,0.2731277860804926,0.07518964198553495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656058912295767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760673948766539,0.0,0.0,0.06771050731211231,0.0,0.0,0.06764980284618781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590472537295788,0.0,0.060376923803626026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848329606039264,0.07946911740175408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04530133768423394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048000269656104065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504270490240705,0.0,0.0,0.116668861955254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356727494402899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294004881069586,0.0,0.0,0.10044568801986392,0.0,0.4295377072357695,0.0
parenting,MarieMerck,2019/01/17,How do you prevent the work stress to transfer to your family life? I have some very stressful time at work and come home all occupied with it. I noticed that I can not give full attention to my 2yo. Do you have an advice? ,2.407,4.304639422222223,3.4819444444444483,90.13625000000003,77.0,7.166666666666668,24.583333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.3366666666666664,174,6,37,3,4,56,37,45,0.14400000000000002,0.8320000000000001,0.023,-0.7686,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,2,1,2,0,2,2,0,5,1,0,1,1,9,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,5,7,3,4,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,27,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548999381959773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469947497628487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459064902091505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502314198948424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616541645033386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18424631295667065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969798467223866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5976063778236783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210393389055882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152288531087902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37980431579055457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xxisnotabelle,2019/01/17,"I'm so fucking stressed out and I don't know what the fuck to do Hey guys,

First off, thanks for reading. I've never lurked on this sub before, and I'm posting here today because I need help. I have two kids, ages nearly 4, and 15 mo. My oldest, a little girl, is a lamb. While she's currently in therapy for speech delay and sensory processing disorder, she hardly gave me any issues. She's as obient/defiant as any other almost-four-year-old. She's awesome. My son is...

My son is a little ball breaker. He's a incredible little fuck - walking at 8 months, running at 10 months, jumping off furniture at 12 months. He can say, thank you and please in the right context, knows some Spanish and speaks about 50+ words. He's so fucking smart. We know he's special, as it relates to his little brain. I worked with his age group in the past, and I've never seen anything like him before. Pretty crazy. 

More details about him: He throws tantrums maybe twice an hour, where he throws himself on the floor and turns a violent shade of puce. I'm learning how to deal with this right along with him (though, that's not the issue at hand). 

Here's the problem. In addition to his tantrums, he also... Cries.  He cries so fucking much. Since he was born, he's been a crier. He'd cry about three hours a day as a newborn, for weeks on end.

Today, it seems like all he's done cycle between peace and sweetness, followed by just as much ugly-crying - the kind of crying that pierces your soul. He's cried soooo much today. Normally, I try to do what I can to comfort him, and usually it works. However, when I'm driving and he's in the carseat, what can I do? When I'm trying to have a meditative pee in the bathroom, and I hear him screaming right outside my door until I come out, what then? At the store, in the car, outside, inside, during laundry time, when we play, when I change his diaper, when I breathe, when the sun shines- all is well until I scramble to placate him. My nerves are so shot. I look at my face in the mirror, and I see a haggard looking woman, with a deeply lined face, sallow skin, who just wants to feel normal again. Since he's been born, I look like I've aged at least ten years. I had some asshole assume I was in my mid-thirtees last week.

I'm in my mid-twenties.

I love my baby so fucking much. He goes to daycare twice a week while I go to school, and his sitter says that he never cries in her care. His dad and grandparents don't experience his crying like I do, either. He only cries incessantly with me. 

I am about to have a fucking nervous breakdown. 

Between work,  nursing school curriculum, my two kids (especially my son), and duties to my husband, I'm usually little stressed anyway. My son's crying the just compounds the situation. Especially today. 

You know how people feel a weight on their chest when they're extremely stressed out? It feels kind of like a cinderblock, from your sternum to xiphoid process. I have that right now, and I've had it for about five hours. I haven't had this pain since my mom was dying, years and years ago. 

So, that's where I am right now. 

Idk what to do. Help. I need advice. 



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parenting,mommiewills,2019/01/17,Realistic ways to handle frustration? I have a 14 month old and almost 3 year old. Younger one is a daredevil and older one NEVER stops talking. Older one also whines alottttt and by the end of the day I’m breathing fire cuz I’m just so worn out. I don’t want to let my frustrations out on them but “counting to 10” and doing yoga don’t help when all hell is breaking loose. I love my girls to death & we’re such a close family. I just need new ideas on how to cope. ❤️,-0.06047854785478535,2.1074911287128733,2.1796287128712883,94.42673679867987,88.20792079207922,5.346864686468646,18.317656765676567,6.816661863887847,0.05474191419141894,368,10,84,5,12,124,74,101,0.218,0.665,0.117,-0.9064,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,7,5,3,0,5,0,7,2,1,2,2,19,13,10,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,4,0,3,1,1,7,1,11,11,1,19,1,1,0,1,5,5,1,1,12,48,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21120609734786036,0.0,0.0,0.16867279528429485,0.0,0.22853193170701105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602606996503344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18681267897636009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883677846370906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137535361590794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23810321492695455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21568017885808527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19036370132073566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16835447891507865,0.0,0.0,0.1563946441939536,0.1626746490483584,0.20370802844813096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44265050592793503,0.0,0.4287749268785629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176338718563094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16952965472923004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440618952961074,0.1674186248730579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13582568348222074
parenting,awesomedickface,2019/01/17,"Daughter Keeps Getting in Trouble for Not Paying Attention Hey everyone! I am about to sit in the corner and cry because I am so frustrated and don't know what to do... 

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So in the classroom, the main form of discipline is clipping a clothespin with the child's name on it either up or down to a certain color depending on behavior. Green(best), blue, yellow, and red(worst). Okay that's fine. The month before winter break our girl came home with more and more reds(1 one week, two the next, etc), and on the last day of school the teacher sent her home saying she was sick when she wasn't. In more recent times, her first entire week back was green. Then all of a sudden this week she has had 3 out of the 4 days be red. On top of that she scored super low(the lowest possible) on her report card in many areas, but when I tested her here at home she passed with flying colors. What the hell?

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I did message her teacher asking what was up, because to be honest I am just bewildered. Our daughter has no issues at home and knows quite a lot. I got a very straightforward answer stating that at school our girl gets distracted easily, plays with her pencil and whatever is close by, and sometimes doesn't do her in-school work. I was hoping she would have advice on what to do and why all of a sudden our daughter is having trouble but no luck.

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I've tried contacting the hearing center for an appointment but so far they haven't called me back. We have tried talking with our 5 year-old to figure out what's going on but it's hard to determine. What are some steps we can take to ensure we handle this situation the best? When I pressed the teacher for information she seemed affronted that I should dare think to question her decisions and such, so I feel like in her mind our girl is already a lost cause... ",5.897819203268647,6.385665646067412,5.802369765066395,82.28405005107255,66.69662921348315,8.607558733401431,29.38406537282943,8.438071523408619,2.0221168539325847,1454,47,278,19,22,455,199,356,0.09,0.8,0.109,0.7956,1,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,9,0,1,7,13,16,2,1,21,1,31,1,0,2,3,56,48,23,0,3,8,3,3,1,0,2,1,2,4,4,14,22,0,2,11,1,1,5,7,6,0,3,11,11,37,10,46,33,12,55,1,1,6,0,45,27,1,8,21,195,51,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824127966958407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964961080133307,0.0,0.0,0.2935239112603545,0.32917749654206657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441942471101932,0.0,0.0,0.13887208530359418,0.0,0.11009353693816748,0.0,0.07683966335480233,0.0,0.18953105962736025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220761326236,0.10328050708201283,0.0,0.0927641987436862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919161914287464,0.116473596756709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007096990694809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628665868349464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04565899589858387,0.06451118957413285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681014774469166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435729150220216,0.0,0.0513202483785783,0.0,0.07222211237555334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089213102803412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177600622156638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362317832951359,0.08968945884421563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425098341254448,0.0,0.08026384849681982,0.0,0.0,0.09925434703417374,0.07360752378109595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411660109876263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857441816074274,0.07677084419711287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155123530765116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117846189616803,0.0,0.07207754989312469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603634208652137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475591065899476,0.0,0.06119042468045381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180102592340423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115800138579896,0.09604643303525996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891615330364503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181113226534354,0.0,0.2741688816204492,0.0,0.08220681367827212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150232322660904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931018783684802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789525822652867,0.07258067754332767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786135760105202,0.0,0.0,0.05265535121064436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261716362010908,0.0,0.0882111432615345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450794046695577,0.0,0.0,0.21730250790188485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148278028550959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574034322366551,0.0,0.0,0.06414737589552191,0.0,0.32917749654206657,0.05815100697674809
parenting,LionEatingCubs,2019/01/17,"Screaming baby. My 10 month old screams like he’s being burned whenever mom isn’t around. She is stay at home and I work most of the day. She finds it difficult doing everyday tasks like paperwork, dishes, even going to the bathroom without a screaming fit. Does anyone have any ideas on how to correct this behavior so she can have a little peace?",3.9090909090909065,6.276088393939396,4.433333333333334,82.87000000000003,74.15151515151516,7.4303030303030315,27.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.164048484848485,278,11,49,5,6,88,57,66,0.129,0.728,0.14300000000000002,0.2455,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,1,1,8,8,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,5,2,7,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,6,30,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788007650625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838460998605398,0.0,0.0,0.2340625919424757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956748077999753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23009097686395666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736621527715259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403123814050809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942863400598158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637392674648861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968148850522594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569076981290132,0.26352397443659314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079393167042502,0.2098674531653928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27589980058780583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802473753909501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534542142422442,0.0,0.19141547434710326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bluevegan18,2019/01/17,Schools that only allow vaccinated children? I know there are schools who highly recommend vaccination and only let children in as long as they have *certain* vaccinations but is there anywhere in the US that doesn’t accept children that have not been vaccinated since birth or have anti-vaxx parents?,6.573529411764701,9.890698901960787,6.203686274509806,68.75258823529413,69.78431372549021,8.00156862745098,35.69019607843137,8.841846274778883,3.853577254901962,248,13,34,5,5,77,39,51,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.7275,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,1,8,9,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,4,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,2,26,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927878062695849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522954658417754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28336943760503724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452385523168891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42151774486855603,0.0,0.0,0.3077040375178488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5609114870818175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22923285676737554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333359011070893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExtensionSwing9,2019/01/17,"Am I in the wrong for being okay with my teenager having sex? I really hope this is allowed here because I have no idea where else to post.

My 15 year old daughter has been dating a boy for a year now, their relationship is sweet and I like that it's relatively drama-free compared to other teenage relationships. Months ago, my daughter goes to me, and tells me she wants to have sex with her boyfriend. We had a very long talk about it, and I agreed to put her on BCP. I also bought a box of condoms for her as well. I basically have a ""dont ask, don't tell"" policy in place, where she is allowed to have sex in her room in the house but not be loud or disruptive about it, and I will look the other way. I did this because I would much rather she be doing this in a safe place rather than in the backs of cars or in hidden places in public, which I often resorted to as a teen.

So I brought this up the other day with my mother-in-law, and she was aghast by this, actually calling me ""sick"" and ""encouraging [my daughter] to get knocked up"". I then decided to talk to some of my friends, and they had similar reactions. One of them even said to be careful, or CPS might get involved. 

I'm not sure what to make of this. Am I wrong for how I approached this? I honestly don't feel like it is, and I feel like I am trying to protect my daughter from much of the problems I faced in my youth, wherein my parents forbade me from having boyfriends, and basically shaming me for being even remotely sexual (even to this day, I cannot talk to my parents about my own sexuality or anything sex related). If I am wrong, what can I do to fix this? ",6.226995798319329,4.891658226190478,6.9384733893557415,80.52025210084034,66.44047619047619,10.16778711484594,33.15756302521008,9.168548406835145,2.555373109243698,1268,45,278,19,17,422,171,336,0.076,0.8059999999999999,0.118,0.9192,4,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,1,0,3,0,18,18,0,1,13,1,35,7,1,4,1,40,49,21,0,7,10,6,2,3,1,3,1,2,1,1,20,13,0,2,4,0,1,4,7,5,1,1,8,6,50,13,51,33,4,37,0,0,1,5,33,18,0,9,16,208,70,0,0.0,0.0,0.107246420707924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741960453456043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788688701734601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904382296381412,0.0,0.10274154385775816,0.0,0.0,0.08450621697363421,0.0,0.13398788243947835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222005568556516,0.0,0.1120502427795354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175264982454014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880183015101812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180724005628346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177634846289034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113735365228626,0.15702497939628265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490836760447716,0.0,0.11483629314412228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915536916965933,0.0,0.12680969552803964,0.0,0.12406357713750743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107457692916846,0.0,0.0,0.09725792735979108,0.0922882125287917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335901718247279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658639564501573,0.0,0.0,0.08772102841086521,0.0,0.16157810063988132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532142731460902,0.0,0.07447099672264257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440616016241617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34446592214628186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525369714926856,0.0,0.0,0.10515933410687436,0.0,0.11047972475770332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040467141700446,0.0,0.0,0.23598266484039654,0.0,0.0,0.10453994400069506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357932766968143,0.0,0.0,0.26500005978139163,0.19211466232104454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461479829383945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067890310128766,0.06482179123799385,0.0872334020671079,0.0,0.0,0.0988131823429162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806971507435051,0.3604747692289186,0.0,0.14154382724416995
parenting,ElephantRattle,2019/01/17,"Teaching Kids about other races and diversity It's time to start teaching my kids about diversity and other races. It's hard when you live in an area where YOU ARE the diversity.

We were in church last week and she (5) saw this girl from preschool who is also half asian/half white walk past us during Communion. She immediately turns to my wife who is white, ""How much England am I?""

Yeeaaah. About that. 

We've never really thought much about it, but need to be more proactive about it. ",3.8808870967741917,5.995372290322582,4.042674731182796,86.78401209677419,73.40860215053762,7.230645161290322,24.528225806451612,8.07648339933343,1.248054838709677,385,12,78,6,8,119,65,93,0.013,0.942,0.045,0.6046,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,0,0,9,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,1,9,11,7,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,10,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,9,0,11,7,3,12,1,0,3,0,12,4,0,0,7,51,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22840376071359325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25585219327943043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23281184661502555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522005706871805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4199152693600865,0.2117776303473008,0.22028153119051655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726489090042377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297031865828675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021575971718322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22674397271387595,0.16654261575174964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106637690448414,0.0,0.0,0.3435559905570917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291006658919233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zempaxochimeh,2019/01/17,"Hello! I breastfeed but am looking for reliable information about formula. I nurse my almost 10 month old and nurses my first child until she was 2 because I was a student and she was able to be with me. Now I am at work and pumping but my milk supply continues to decline. 

I think I will need to start supplementing with formula but I have never used it before and I don’t even know what I’m looking for. I went to target and was overwhelmed with the choices. 

Can anyone point me to some factual information? And anecdotal is fine too as long as it’s not shaming me or trying to scare mes",3.150338983050851,5.0118864067796665,4.912000000000003,80.86308474576272,74.76271186440678,7.770847457627119,27.90169491525424,8.548686976883017,2.1958413559322043,468,19,89,9,10,159,80,118,0.042,0.926,0.032,-0.4753,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,3,2,0,12,1,0,1,2,24,21,13,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,9,1,0,4,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,5,2,17,1,16,14,1,12,0,1,2,0,6,2,0,3,9,67,20,2,0.2429674839053753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24329683855089826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698885140220237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148110723046064,0.0,0.20674743340270327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160477731638585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666801768991555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352857500575024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501857751542366,0.4080629871120569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393432760826235,0.0,0.0,0.18015731068602592,0.18739150205808885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25495350282867496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296828063216964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432528374095491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719736356550013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568375308955415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495897276723628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20984589580018367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252332917673412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688322201188034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twobeanz,2019/01/17,"I need tips on helping my daughter with her severe needle phobia. My daughter is 8, and even though she gets semi regular jabs or blood work, every time she knows it's coming (even just seeing a needle sends her into panic) she will scream and cry up to an hour. She's also getting too big and strong to hold. 

I hate seeing her upset by this, and because of her medical issues she needs them. Most of the time she doesn't even feel the jab, so I know it's a mental thing for her. 

Any advice from parents who have been there? I'd appreciate it.",3.5412837837837827,4.579722441441444,4.704132882882885,86.0491722972973,72.33333333333334,6.631081081081081,21.98310810810811,6.6274283507984215,0.4859810810810812,425,9,86,3,8,140,81,111,0.147,0.7829999999999999,0.07,-0.8442,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,2,9,5,1,2,5,0,5,2,1,0,0,16,16,8,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,7,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,4,17,1,11,14,1,9,0,0,2,0,18,4,0,2,3,59,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814459768536396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848956271883573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626990145421996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318982130482175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994831550027958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20396259322695173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679229712880122,0.0,0.15644481357371426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388623039008928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940220154783414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18332220523723425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445850797850375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18285904013827256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938034196550758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040915773436299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870547456870588,0.1871234484288426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753612079385557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178574299070832,0.20617751823703653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29592849802783244,0.0,0.0,0.20976743251911825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335864946317115,0.0,0.18243129593494906,0.0,0.21654494750669495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517846567475733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Messymesses,2019/01/17,"Is it normal for a six year old to not remember parts of her day? Hi there, this is actually about a six year old that I’m [18f] babysit, so if this is not the correct forum since it’s not my child please delete this post. 

So I babysit this 6 year old girl once a week, and I’ve noticed several times that when I ask about her day after picking her up at school she doesn’t remember. 

For example, last week when I picked her up I asked which classes she had that day. Math and science she said, so I said “Oh science? That’s fun, what are you learning?”

She sort of blinked and just said: “I don’t remember.” And then started talking about something else completely. 

Please not that she is a very sweet kid who loves to talk, so I really don’t think that’s the problem. She talks about all kinds of subjects on the way home. 

Do any of you as parents have any insights? Is this normal for kids her age? I haven’t brought it up with her parents yet, I come to reddit first lol

I’d be thankful for any response and advice.",0.8986459627329211,3.13412243809524,2.018488612836439,96.85332298136649,84.14285714285714,5.175983436853001,22.46376811594203,6.498293943080001,0.3307991718426506,792,28,179,8,23,250,117,210,0.023,0.877,0.1,0.9492,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,0,1,13,6,0,0,7,1,14,1,0,2,2,27,26,14,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,17,7,0,0,6,0,0,2,8,1,0,3,5,4,24,5,23,20,2,30,0,0,0,1,31,5,0,2,21,110,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.1038562856220624,0.0,0.0,0.10399811704010074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171196995015855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898762222009694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916764533676205,0.11158548762942094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059076227068979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890514837251011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052578073358672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675381334587322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082615420543143,0.0,0.08675127901456572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960534922918688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085494896415032,0.0,0.12116654510225908,0.33502810670431143,0.11334006576439733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363466420635904,0.11524883345454387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23364726673666936,0.0,0.0,0.10192655346216906,0.0,0.0,0.10183517330217523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817913004038947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616792530431465,0.0,0.3037060876638209,0.0,0.0,0.10770865044222296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023092700435975,0.0,0.08803656979065558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193182524465382,0.0,0.0,0.07532877030165673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566232207737105,0.0,0.0979826315914926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819339273439272,0.0,0.0,0.062057773850255564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781247894538663,0.0,0.08447589263178441,0.1707368080978946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20560429038016692
parenting,coffeeeveryday,2019/01/17,"Your kid's cell phone at school Are they allowed to bring their phone to school? If so, what are your rules for phone use while they're at school?

I realize teachers and schools have their own rules, but that's not my question.

Thanks in advance for your answers!",3.064117647058822,5.509633450980395,1.8076078431372584,100.27023529411764,77.23529411764707,4.864313725490196,23.925490196078428,5.6839178017228535,0.10475372549019599,210,7,45,1,5,58,37,51,0.076,0.924,0.0,-0.5805,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,9,6,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,7,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,2,1,27,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554133489724057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9229969128081068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099127277531768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969196964262972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Galbd,2019/01/17,"Winter kids birthday party ideas? I want to celebrate for my son this year his birthday party with some kind of ""Winter Wonderland"" theme. Any cool ideas or inspiration?? I'm a DIY person so feel free to send over even complicated stuff!",3.572093023255814,6.602810860465118,4.2291162790697685,80.05948837209301,79.93023255813951,7.1609302325581385,22.55348837209302,8.238735603445708,1.7391990697674418,189,6,32,4,5,60,37,43,0.0,0.617,0.383,0.9613,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,5,6,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,3,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21322300640450426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070951223261244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585390031449315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7079137733479808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32651140143677365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737775243622303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35893679515978194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493839968680936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019142667623476
parenting,BatmanAndWhiskey,2019/01/17,"Debt I’m constantly worrying over my finances, and just wanted to get a general gauge for how many of you are struggling with debt? I feel like I’m the only one drowning in this mountain of debt, and with children, the expenses never let up. 

I’m well educated, but those graduate degrees put me at nearly $200k in student loans and currently have about $10k in credit card debt and owe $15k on my car. It’s madness and I’m struggling trying to figure out how to pay it off while still affording to live. 

So my questions are - how do you manage your debt? If you care to share, what are the sources and rough amounts of it? Have you had success paying it back?

Are there parents out there with no debt? Is that a thing? If so - please for the love of god tell me how. ",3.185384615384617,4.538062923076922,4.154358974358973,88.43230769230772,73.61538461538461,7.2512820512820495,27.102564102564106,7.793537801064563,1.4578948717948716,600,22,127,8,12,194,100,156,0.16399999999999998,0.664,0.173,0.7715,10,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,5,0,1,13,10,1,2,6,0,10,1,0,4,1,25,20,16,1,3,4,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,11,0,0,3,0,13,2,2,3,1,1,1,2,11,7,26,18,1,19,0,0,0,1,11,11,0,3,7,87,20,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16053313075376408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21285743131455429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256088555381751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055616259041404,0.14914708320747164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907499070946852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134839794898841,0.0,0.10199567576329924,0.0,0.1843499022096582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842529120450455,0.0,0.0,0.2116625007276593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610181873217691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414696182408577,0.1587808592921832,0.0,0.0,0.2318171041648256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22916946184641915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987398010849007,0.23387292885758404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672595184379618,0.0,0.0,0.4365085976001409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247632724892746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869914206339115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174279241973195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313940277019775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18771150915677676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120185615979568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aithne1,2019/01/17,"Sibling aggression - how much, how to address it? I have a sweet little 2.5-year-old girl and another sweet little 15-month-old girl, and they are darling to us, to their little daycare pals, and to everyone else... except each other. The older will wait for the younger to pick up a toy and then she will run over and snatch it away. Randomly, she will walk over and say ""Down, baby"" and push her down. The younger is now catching on and, when the older approaches, will lean over (slowly, like a turtle going for a strawberry) with her mouth open and ready to bite. The little one doesn't always lose when they wrangle over a toy, either. 

So, my question is - how normal is this, and how do you address it with your kids? I'd hate for this to be their default dynamic, but nothing seems to sink in long-term.",6.203433691756272,6.2282360387096825,5.971827956989246,82.92218637992829,66.03225806451613,8.695340501792115,30.77060931899641,8.167268648758528,2.061845878136201,626,21,122,7,9,195,97,155,0.026,0.884,0.09,0.7743,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,2,4,1,9,7,2,0,10,0,12,1,1,5,0,27,16,19,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,2,3,6,14,0,1,2,2,0,6,1,3,0,1,0,3,13,4,24,11,3,27,0,1,0,0,17,15,0,3,7,89,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786175220293456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373335346588487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566488494241978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384071110209098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583174634830891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416161979827367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16357792636924778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094447612197757,0.6642326473421468,0.0,0.1466244790878982,0.0,0.1853571975830165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322468043989526,0.0,0.12179626628630574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623344254779441,0.15897756486002682,0.0,0.3477134392372021,0.0,0.11227127081600087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856031793879388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317579853427853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083182523395694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19929657225331845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066945929302418
parenting,1234__throwaway_1234,2019/01/17,"Tales of teen individuation Now that I'm in the midst of this with my own child, I'm curious to hear from other parents. 

No judgement. I'm just looking to commisserate as I've found this to be a fascinating process.",4.686201550387602,5.791111883720928,6.465116279069767,74.2401550387597,69.69767441860466,9.454263565891472,32.93798449612403,9.725611199111238,3.0729286821705437,173,8,35,4,3,60,34,43,0.051,0.8140000000000001,0.135,0.5574,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,9,5,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220818019136764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5366637798127569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3998521317197885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5287162304174086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1DietCokedUpChick,2019/01/17,"What’s the age difference between your kids? Pros and cons? DD is 15 and DS is 9. I always figured I’d have them three years apart but TBH I don’t like the newborn stage and I just wasn’t ready to dive back in. After DD turned 5, DH and I decided if we were gonna have another kid we better do it. 😆

Pros: 
DD was fairly self-sufficient. Potty trained, fed herself, slept all night, etc. I didn’t have two in diapers. I wasn’t rushing her out of the crib so the new baby could use it. She was in school by then so daycare was cheaper AND I could give the new baby more of my attention on my maternity leave. DD was old enough to understand what was going on and thought it was great that she had a real live baby doll to play with.

Cons:
DD was fairly self-sufficient. 😆 Starting over was rough. Now that they’re older, they don’t get along as much as I’d like, but whether that’s just a sibling thing or an age difference thing I can’t say. My sister and I are two years apart and hated each other’s guts growing up, but we’re fine now. 😁",0.1314864864864873,2.241348058558561,2.1182450450450467,95.69207027027029,86.43243243243242,5.3538018018018025,19.240360360360363,6.742157984588678,0.07063690090090091,807,23,187,10,25,268,133,222,0.033,0.8420000000000001,0.125,0.9631,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,1,2,1,7,7,1,0,8,0,25,3,2,1,1,32,37,19,0,3,8,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,11,14,1,0,5,1,0,3,6,1,0,3,16,2,21,6,20,18,6,29,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,2,17,116,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558490784849213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826207658456146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160549822968316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348431759251558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410088379142583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31537708449719754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559498652478468,0.1683255827415065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885410355094334,0.14478472183512953,0.085776353167367,0.0,0.0,0.1663996084878897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901100907879022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981187754779105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747244122734487,0.0,0.13327295454158372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095008320611296,0.0,0.0,0.2915360801320771,0.0,0.1416365173028908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583744567529034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717900929681154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002469273145107,0.0,0.15274807092317227,0.0,0.0,0.3149034488990459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682822875740176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20054086531761187,0.0,0.0,0.11982066133211385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416726677825375,0.29487114410993026,0.15712227314550714,0.0,0.13035408174608756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943864836615877
parenting,ItsYourBuoy,2019/01/17,"Six Year Old Self Harming and ""Big Feelings"" Hi Everyone - I'd aprreciate a little help from anyone who has experienced a similar situation.

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Within the past few weeks we have noticed a change in our 6 year old son's behavior.  Whenever he feels guilty over a mistake he made such as a poor decision that resulted in a behaviorial issue or getting caught in a lie, he withdraws initially and hides.  When we go talk to him about the issue, we have found him inflicting physical harm by punching himself and his feelings are ""big feelings"".  His feelings involve calling himself the ""worst boy alive"", wishing he was dead, and statements about cutting himself with a knife.  Most recently I noticed deep scratches on his thigh and hip that appear self inflicted.  

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My wife and I don't yell, name call, or invoke physical punishments on our children.  Reprecussions are tied to the behavior and are age appropriate.  An example would be no playing with legos for a day if they refuse to clean up after playing with them.  Access to candy taken away if they get caught lying about eating it. 

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My wife has made a ""Calm box"" for our son filled with tactile toys and affirmations to read about himself when he has his big feelings.  We also scheduled a meeting with a child psychologist a few weeks ago that is coming up next week.

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So I battle with the same feelings my son is vocalizing, but keep them to myself largely because when I try to talk to my wife about them, she does not understand me.  I understand the feelings my son is going through and completely empathize with him.  I tell him that I have those same feelings too and that he can talk to me about them whenever with no judgement.  It's just hard to rationalize with a six year old sometime.

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Anyway, thank you for hearing me out and I'd appreciate the advice of anyone who has gone through similar experience either as a parent or growing up. ",8.175932203389834,8.438806056497183,7.846333333333337,70.33390677966104,61.88135593220339,10.582824858757062,39.451412429378536,10.241411754978122,4.244581242937853,1560,77,255,31,20,496,193,354,0.09,0.858,0.052000000000000005,-0.8535,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,7,1,6,0,15,11,3,0,23,0,18,3,2,3,0,62,46,24,1,5,9,8,11,0,0,1,0,2,1,5,10,26,1,2,14,4,1,9,4,7,0,2,8,14,43,4,48,36,7,46,0,0,0,0,61,17,0,7,20,180,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679100747861463,0.06160345559770315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557542517094408,0.0,0.3764910413782911,0.4222224279421447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718556215733493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06529319115794394,0.0,0.0,0.04236373472221629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192509301646755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351689052567037,0.05986411082734475,0.0728645770292231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04481876677206645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06081586977046766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111111674592807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640580764676507,0.0,0.06797981051095074,0.0,0.0,0.3162505410131496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619809014340954,0.0,0.0,0.07261692879485143,0.0,0.07899164469243658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062254204475437384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832633683262677,0.0,0.046581284033704616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507022917574375,0.0,0.06177068118745521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965262145072154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315164056823703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390911824606745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824188694302174,0.21877111268252972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716638817510571,0.0,0.06634119767977516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951418004883678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861829745925459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499766211394324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811571168388863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873270149611953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757324661834602,0.060742019671018374,0.06398200302565052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047182796887616785,0.0,0.0,0.144694269635838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723499044994872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991624995456446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936751949554388,0.0,0.4222224279421447,0.13425822633582707
parenting,lacilynnn,2019/01/17,"20 Week Ultrasound Recently Revealed Agenesis of the Corpus Callosum They were noticing some brain abnormalities, so I was referred to a better ultrasound technician. Upon viewing in her office, there is no Corpus Callosum in my son's brain. That is the section of the brain that helps the left side communicate to the right side, or vice versa. From what she tells me about this condition is that it varies GREATLY in each case. Some people go about their regular lives and wouldn't even know this part of the brain is missing, whereas in other cases it can be very debilitating and can cause seizures. Everything else is fine and he doesn't appear to have any sort of heart defects, which is a great sign she said, because other organ issues likely point to some disorder. I have been wide-ranged tested with the non-invasive blood testing at 12 weeks and it came back negative, but now she is suggesting I might want an Amniocentesis.. which frightens the shit out of me. I know that I will carry this baby to term and love and accept him, so I really don't want to go through with the Amnio. Plus I fucking HATE needles.   


Upon further research online (which is scary as hell, lemme tell you...) I have found that it occurs in roughly 7 out of 1,000 pregnancies. This number has been in incline since the recent developments in technologies of sonograms and MRI's. Honestly, I'm wondering if I even have this part of my brain now. I have read cases where babies hit every milestone and you wouldn't know they're affected. I've also read cases where children lose their ability to walk in their teens. Fuck. 

I don't even know what I'm looking for here. Support? Similar situations? They want me to do a follow-up ultrasound in 2 weeks and they're working with my insurance at the moment to get an MRI of the baby covered. I just want him to be okay. ",5.483151862464184,6.963831893982808,5.948382808022924,77.2799266475645,68.16905444126074,9.02239541547278,30.005845272206308,9.3871,2.7487395071633234,1477,56,262,30,25,476,200,349,0.104,0.777,0.12,-0.1851,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,2,5,3,16,18,5,0,17,1,30,13,8,2,0,45,56,17,0,7,4,1,1,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,21,17,0,0,9,2,0,5,7,8,0,0,7,4,31,10,44,42,8,39,1,2,2,3,22,24,4,9,11,178,52,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691173185571587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540282444284365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395323375982481,0.0,0.05862785926224935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505965661122247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5368198560548579,0.0,0.10999946413091932,0.0,0.09879901290799037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022576947615614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034251831252813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190569575350176,0.0,0.08103223776463228,0.0,0.08643658437351055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105451772235682,0.0,0.17782590692719447,0.05024787249468693,0.0,0.10931781766382227,0.0,0.0,0.21206826110358545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495366566000503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396875545873615,0.06446459412726738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038252098200293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142276107830724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449526004129442,0.0,0.0,0.04698662523304527,0.0,0.08492497061322048,0.0,0.08076342781439994,0.1075960904849938,0.0,0.0,0.08680239114057804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202729786189928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949675634031188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20829798232882174,0.0,0.06667617214958163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091719334729656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19240360139903426,0.0,0.06161266365420018,0.0,0.1899239485203668,0.0,0.0,0.08213358564494848,0.09148518526553467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872305010161647,0.07955759424574489,0.10810559977309477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913912879265908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812373148535012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935508603143705,0.2269078537333921,0.0,0.23143921441566126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429852450258598,0.07001710904308027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tolndakoti,2019/01/17,"What age will my baby be safe around un-vaccinated children? My first child will be born this spring, and we're already setting up plans for some friends to visit us. I just discovered that 1 of my friends don't vaccinate their 2 kids (elementary school age). I'm not gonna preach about this, it's their choice. I plan on fully vaccinate all my kids.

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The question is: Looking at this Immunization schedule, what age would my child be relatively safe around un-vaccinated children?

[https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/immunization-chart.html](https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/immunization-chart.html)",12.601794871794873,15.266011175824175,8.219505494505494,63.14632783882783,52.62637362637364,10.022710622710623,36.04578754578755,10.125756701596842,3.731306227106227,511,19,71,9,6,138,67,91,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.9074,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,2,3,4,4,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,1,11,11,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,6,7,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,10,4,9,4,2,14,1,0,1,0,13,5,0,2,7,41,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27116285739222323,0.0,0.0,0.26624215873416585,0.2985819005673139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4374934181455817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901295019298555,0.0,0.0,0.37969194409339296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20634651107173954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275267434396169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486860937050332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955760580666362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745554809714325,0.0,0.2985819005673139,0.0
parenting,huligoogoo,2019/01/17,"Would you send your kid to preK with low grade fever, phlegm cough I know it sounds silly to be asking this question. My daughter is preK 3 hours a day , Monday through Friday. I kept her home yesterday because of these symptoms-low grade fever, phlegm-y cough, sneezing. She been spitting out the phlegm that comes up. In class it maybe uncomfortable to do that (and gross ).

Lots of kids in her class have been like this too. She really loves going to class. I know it’s not cool be coughing on your classmates but many kids have a cough in class. 

Prek is a cesspool of germs and kids get sick all the time. ",2.9332973805855147,5.159780711864407,2.3936363636363645,97.00783513097076,76.62711864406779,5.307858243451464,20.896764252696453,6.11248444174946,-0.09707796610169517,476,12,102,3,11,138,79,118,0.096,0.8590000000000001,0.045,-0.7214,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,3,0,0,1,6,0,0,5,1,10,9,1,0,1,14,18,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,7,1,1,4,8,5,0,1,3,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,3,2,11,4,15,12,2,15,0,1,0,1,16,7,0,2,6,56,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643482546666456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723716694309788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243578069543976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236082585720173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773368457001107,0.0,0.16070256501244656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836375843094055,0.0,0.2784677778958353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31080185036059066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814529703565076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403977371589781,0.2552075627488669,0.0,0.0,0.2866805755784064,0.2840766846701868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167628919936428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18114728775373007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488326281588814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008690170239105,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EmilieMELK,2019/01/17,"Let your kids learn in fun ways :) Hello everyone! 

I hope I am not annoying you right now but I am posting this message to ask you to check out our new colorful kids channel. We started a few weeks ago so it is still fresh. Our inspiration was my little sister who loves to draw but nobody had time for her when she was learning and the internet was full of stuff we didn't like. We wanted her to watch something creative, positive and fun but at the same time educational and interesting. We couldn’t find a channel, which would fit our needs and so we decided to start our own. We focus on coloring using various methods (**pencil crayons, markers, water colors** and more) while **play dough** and **animal videos** are coming soon. We would love to enrich as many kids as possible and allow parents to either take a short break and rest or do other necessary things. 

We hope you check it out and love it as much as we do. If anything, don't hesitate to message me!

Link: [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkglUg9wdyOA9wX4R8cMxoA/videos](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkglUg9wdyOA9wX4R8cMxoA/videos)

Thank you!

Emilie",4.298172932330829,7.721837636842108,3.4522180451127835,82.39802631578952,85.78947368421052,6.2932330827067675,22.04887218045113,7.5804360353943165,1.4749924812030075,901,29,145,17,28,264,130,190,0.012,0.7090000000000001,0.279,0.9962,1,0,2,0,0,0,53.0,13,5,0,0,6,13,1,0,5,0,16,4,0,2,0,44,30,22,0,8,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,9,21,1,0,6,4,2,1,4,1,0,0,5,4,26,12,19,21,9,26,0,0,4,3,34,10,0,4,13,106,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144294485771865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395391925578914,0.0,0.15217715478513796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022039842102155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554309045956516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487778032932243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32335417370712993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645339106053395,0.0,0.07952599602499144,0.16314813994410024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4407454192698975,0.0,0.0,0.1650331846476615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196618948271094,0.12069917137317572,0.0,0.1572137611391637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074772255169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18350978500816026,0.1558980677277684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901307389330747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253158554585243,0.0,0.0,0.2304327839103465,0.0,0.12999617174322994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863439451842133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223901638240696,0.0,0.0,0.1498657848925016,0.0,0.0,0.10814367705157084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898364401055221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405894972715562,0.0,0.0,0.0960117532624483,0.12920704157588964,0.13057215008426584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23126822254781496,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,applebees1,2019/01/17,"18 month old and night feedings 18 month old daughter cries and cries until she gets milk in the middle of the night.  I have started giving water in the sippy cup but she cries until she gets milk. I am finding it hard to let her cry it out because I did that once and it was almost two hours and she also pooped herself. She is also in the 18 month sleep regression. 
Any advice, tips on how to stop the dependence on milk to go to sleep? ",2.1453333333333333,3.9779810333333367,3.2197222222222237,92.01625,77.55555555555556,5.3888888888888875,20.13888888888889,5.985473137389443,-0.027111111111111086,343,8,72,2,8,110,55,90,0.162,0.821,0.017,-0.9201,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,6,8,3,2,0,11,11,10,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,10,0,13,8,0,20,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,2,12,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603742748746586,0.0,0.0,0.13940180765339907,0.0,0.0,0.22265732722531772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466967998295052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848630119834208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6116762017522878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723824887218668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454661950586942,0.133545888162822,0.07911801136136548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247075909397297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709685849526118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235482396280402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333556982777957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612841225200886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921614549006812,0.14825740519805353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786272706633079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853574679318704,0.0,0.0,0.11638838289072875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599096760564944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dr-Mike-PediaCast,2019/01/17,"Worried about fever? I'm a pediatrician who has been podcasting for over a decade. I recently did an episode on fever truths and myths. We get lots of questions from parents about fever, so i thought it would be a good resource to share here. We also cover teething necklaces and ibuprofen allergies in this episode. It's [PediaCast 421](https://www.pediacast.org/ibuprofen-allergy-fever-truths-myths-pediacast-421/), and you can listen wherever podcasts are found. Hope you find it helpful! \~ Dr Mike",6.504123159303878,10.10682540963856,4.640401606425705,78.21902275769749,72.01204819277109,8.02623828647925,35.72824631860776,8.841846274778883,3.7603290495314585,411,22,62,9,9,117,65,83,0.027000000000000003,0.799,0.173,0.8932,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,2,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,7,6,1,0,1,13,13,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,6,4,9,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,3,1,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364247507124577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702113749910838,0.0,0.0,0.3241561249690562,0.0,0.0,0.15446071024215066,0.0,0.0,0.2479704306496649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816255893068,0.0,0.0,0.29363915164920484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513442031196665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32827538487673963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311866309846823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29191074690327823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347066749555495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30023873846726584,0.0,0.21001555011276016,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SarahStew28,2019/01/17,"Kids say some funny things I've heard some funny things from children. once, when my cousin's daughter 'K' was about 4 or 5, she was showing how high she could count. K got to something like 115. My cousin asked, ""K, can you count to 116?"". "" No. I can count to 115, but I can't count to 116. ""

A few years later when K's sister E was about the same age, I was sitting on the couch next to E as she was looking at a grade school level 'all about the human body' book. She got to the page where there was a drawing of the internal system of the male anatomy. ""I know what that is!"" ""What is it?"" She leans in and whispers in my ear, ""A butt!""

Another cousin's daughter, 'C' was about 2 1/2, and her cousin and I were playing with her. I told her, ""C, you're awesome."" "" i not awesome, I'm C! "". A few minutes later, she came up with an idea of what to play next. Her cousin told her, ""C, you're a genius!"" only to be told "" I'm not a genius, I'm C! "" Her and her cousin went into another room to play and about 20 minutes later, C comes running back into the living room, stomps, crosses her arms and says ""I'm not C, I'm a genius!""

What are some cute/funny things you've heard kids say?",1.6716273684210528,2.577080028000005,3.22957894736842,95.34373684210527,76.72,5.743157894736843,21.157894736842106,5.399115186594226,-0.19124000000000008,877,20,213,3,19,290,120,250,0.026,0.906,0.068,0.8279,0,0,1,0,0,0,63.0,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,0,16,0,16,4,4,1,1,26,34,12,0,1,5,9,0,1,0,0,0,7,3,5,9,12,0,0,2,5,0,5,5,0,0,0,17,8,25,4,28,15,8,29,0,0,1,1,38,12,1,4,11,119,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31699383515994645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413074884112959,0.0,0.0,0.11622719327847207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789671499735115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287856565669404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020477582776382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068323234256005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24178144644986374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970125979828953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063314245008246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306964031864282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384563588118642,0.0,0.1334707148261791,0.0,0.12693030523724896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215054910148655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609728268607911,0.0,0.11495853556971596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606083827906913,0.0,0.15297472982843227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636483030557013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012576640684876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332990089794751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012018426835787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973374643644003
parenting,Plzspeaksoftly,2019/01/17,"What is something that you wish you knew before you had 2 kids? I am currently expecting our 2nd child. In 4 months I will have 2 kids under 5. What is something you wish you knew before the 2nd kid came along to prepare you.  Anything that I should know or prepare for?
 

Looking for insight, anecdotes etc. ",2.645988700564974,5.1083580338983055,3.0450000000000017,90.74569209039551,78.83050847457628,5.289265536723164,26.78248587570621,6.42735559955562,1.0738790960451978,240,10,46,2,6,74,40,59,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.6966,1,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,11,14,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,10,0,6,8,1,5,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,1,2,30,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949439905316694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332509387335762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29116718301815203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839195915002771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990834013478398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21377976659614267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320017546550576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919701637245301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5854997908990217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,melkphilly,2019/01/17,"Heartwarming moment at preschool for my 3 year old My daughter (DD) just turned 3 and started in a new preschool a few weeks ago. She's younger than all the kids in her class by about 6-12 months, and they've all been together since the fall. It's been hard for me to watch DD struggle to fit in and find her niche and not know how to help her. 

Today, on the way to school she found a boring grey rock. She was so excited about this uninspiring rock and wanted to bring it to school to show everyone. As I showed enthusiasm for the rock, I worried about the other kids not reflecting back her same level of amazement.

We arrive at school and she is still quite excited about the rock. The other kids are getting ready for circle time with the teacher. So I tell the teacher that DD has a rock she wants to show her. The teacher announces to the class that DD has a rock she would like to share in circle time. 

Then, DD has a moment of self doubt and puts the rock away in her cubby before going to join the circle. One of the little boys immediately asks where the rock is. So I bring it over to her. **And the kids are all amazed and delighted by this rock!!** They pass it around. They comment on its unique characteristics. DD is the center of attention and I leave her happy and smiling for the first time since we started there. I was so happy for the kindness, and enthusiasm for rocks, that these little preschoolers showed today.",3.5404347826086955,5.3054530496453935,3.8371292013567695,89.39021739130438,73.46808510638297,6.748319457292629,23.253777366635827,7.423996415210882,0.7910102991057655,1128,31,233,13,23,350,138,282,0.039,0.782,0.18,0.9918,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,0,2,2,15,13,0,2,25,0,13,0,0,1,3,33,25,19,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,6,13,16,0,0,5,14,0,6,2,3,0,2,5,3,27,10,44,19,5,44,0,0,2,0,30,18,0,1,20,154,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768411723921147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181849359228806,0.12411308740639156,0.0,0.12473280092164528,0.10208458136615946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296935375807456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268582870334599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134063440951028,0.11292596003074155,0.0,0.14556496688110065,0.0,0.0,0.06936184893306045,0.0,0.07545081590560515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826519080621109,0.11892727489128672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898652256091773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824956557949908,0.07296166427978956,0.0,0.0,0.1405741338625113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486004360947656,0.2661216709125893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596811433561258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822085749534734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930974609398097,0.0,0.08996190808924175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346090802831073,0.0,0.14120706672881822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030819504533977,0.0,0.0,0.13849808993722335,0.0,0.0,0.21964161106063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879370414773723,0.0,0.10602265661257787,0.0,0.0,0.1387900343047876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160384737342095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322410356239221,0.0,0.25168274232144205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444052325148835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661109108693794,0.10537905553084906,0.10649241470659736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482466828471304,0.0,0.09430920547806508,0.0,0.0,0.08549336881151172
parenting,holdstheenemy,2019/01/17,"Child and Multiple Antibiotic Courses My 5 year old developed an ear infection in December and was put on Amoxicillin and we finished the course in 10 days and she got better. A week after she got really sick again. The doctor thought it was pneumonia and the ear still looked inflamed so she tried to prescribe Amoxicillin again but I said she already took that, so the doctor then prescribed Zithromax for 5 days. Gave my daughter the first dose but then later on her fever got worse so we ended up at the ER.

At the ER they ran more tests and concluded that it was the flu and put her on an IV of fluids and was able to get her fever to come down and we came home. The doctor told us to continue the zithromax just “in case” it develops into pneumonia and for the ear infection. I gave her the second dose yesterday. They also gave her tamiflu. 

Shes getting better but Im nervous about her taking another course of antibiotics within a month. Shes gotten sick about 3 times in the past 2 months.

Anyone else go through something similar? Im super nervous about antibiotic resistance now.

Thank you

-Nervous single father",2.9089084507042244,5.709858816901412,3.9923767605633813,82.24659330985915,80.54929577464789,7.681455399061034,25.77640845070423,8.59863814320734,2.3586183098591547,900,36,159,22,24,291,123,213,0.107,0.83,0.063,-0.8396,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,1,2,5,12,7,0,3,17,0,6,17,3,1,0,22,26,19,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,14,4,1,1,5,16,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,3,2,2,17,5,23,4,26,9,2,42,0,0,1,0,27,13,0,0,22,103,28,4,0.13221331404015088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590067973563006,0.10573093947055397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386371876623126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244662328954326,0.13546816448073298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233863864135024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121680923318412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389006307870232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053329964265332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059777878337061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044725863863744,0.0,0.11710175324888715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246057738134954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381519993653615,0.0,0.07513987322603545,0.0,0.3172291954620056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262073399697755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856261341639225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102588501970083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21106281175651115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138735632411833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621256849963935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658217963454484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469923448951315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257651381964532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178426850620907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558572337936464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940795800824287,0.0,0.0,0.1217242561492209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496260297739034,0.07709464664811888,0.0,0.0,0.1263354874424633,0.1468938566573257,0.08976416152339634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590363377943113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605354553884516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473666230633322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514103945808299
parenting,anjak82,2019/01/17,"Feeling devastated - going back to work Firstly, as I know there are mostly people from the US on here - I know that I am lucky compared to a lot of you. I can't even imagine how I would feel if I had to go back to work after just a few short weeks after having a baby. It sucks and I feel for you!

So... I'm going back to work next week. I've been on maternity leave for a year and I had enough vacation days to strech my time home with my DD for a further two months. My DD is 13 months old right now and is just the most awesome little person ever (yes, I know I might be biased just a little bit 😏)!

My MIL will take care of my DD when me and my husband are at work. DD absolutely loves her grandma and my MIL just adores her grand daughter, so the situation couldn't be more perfect. We are having a 'try-out week', so the transition will be easier for my DD, and my MIL comes over every day, learning about DD's routine. Everything is going great and I know it will be smooth sailing, but... I feel like I'm dieing a little bit inside...

I see them playing, interacting and just having fun, and I feel so sad and angry that I won't be there for the better part of my DD's day. I'm jealous at my MIL, who is going to spend all this time with the person I love most and I'm so afraid my DD will love her more than me, even though I know that shouldn't matter - I will still love her like I've never loved anyone before. 

Man, I just feel like crying...I wish I could be a SAHM, but that just isn't an option...

Has anyone else been here? Did anything help or do I just need to get through this, and it will be better in time?

Thanks all for listening, you guys are great, I love this community!",2.5033169059352893,3.315567359331478,4.060181058495825,90.54609760017144,74.57103064066851,6.748703664023997,21.328583672594817,6.8449194561589275,0.2603035354617527,1298,27,301,11,26,434,172,359,0.052000000000000005,0.773,0.175,0.9918,0,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,2,3,1,8,29,25,2,1,16,1,40,6,0,1,5,61,76,25,1,7,12,2,7,3,0,10,0,1,1,4,11,16,0,0,13,1,1,6,6,4,0,2,5,9,46,21,32,52,13,43,0,1,1,6,26,12,1,9,28,203,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510555988179964,0.08433590305335822,0.06773378030301287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987298483063908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003939969967067,0.0,0.0,0.14559228914761185,0.17972151112559576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392011384671659,0.0,0.0,0.07090242460554168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571751095858701,0.0,0.0,0.15924863101039796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542436062817489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875910168829437,0.0,0.0,0.08504781042147186,0.0,0.10872941737795114,0.07445373752825353,0.06934938054611091,0.0,0.07397455319246928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497092145388747,0.11760397675926393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001249620317337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0430033641843646,0.0,0.23389218744208465,0.0,0.0,0.1814932296914002,0.0,0.08149943595593769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05517038395098728,0.0,0.08256323105953836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261759936322603,0.0,0.0,0.08715397248457492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063692588603933,0.24748750157994284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997667099574405,0.44572571768326735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731746895683637,0.0,0.0,0.13139746078864126,0.0,0.0,0.06103151891312104,0.06348223093731781,0.0,0.08753718399355527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637006997164105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913326622835431,0.0,0.0570631067747401,0.1437391203652121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029194112906742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559008750552582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251942911420016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573254583372806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061886569006460876,0.0,0.0,0.07577961290900109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086875541803612,0.0,0.14398615358607125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040451052384001,0.0,0.09900830366746248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19807136760093255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465196774580498,0.0,0.0,0.2396894507033563,0.0,0.0,0.05847037199116889,0.0,0.0,0.05300467808892675
parenting,rGar86,2019/01/17,I think I sheltered my kid. My son is 14. I just realized that it might be my fault that he can't think for himself very well. He has a hard time stepping out of his comfort zone. I told him the bus driver would pick him up at the other stop sign on our road at the corner of our street and the next. There are only 2 stop signs. The one he always go to and the other one. But he couldn't wrap his head around where to go. This is just one small example. It's just minor things like that really. It just has me worried. Should I have made him do more things out of his comfort zone so he wouldn't be so thrown off when it happens? The thought of this kid being a legal adult in just 4 short years has me worried! He is my oldest so I sometimes feel as though I have no idea what I'm doing as a parent! ,0.7631896551724111,2.3959275459770097,2.282284482758623,98.06928879310345,81.01149425287356,5.039655172413793,17.771551724137932,5.602791699666715,-0.6475620689655175,619,12,150,3,16,201,105,174,0.091,0.843,0.066,-0.5091,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,10,0,20,1,1,2,0,28,30,10,0,4,6,2,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,14,5,0,2,6,0,0,3,4,1,1,3,3,2,22,4,18,19,1,25,0,0,0,0,21,15,0,1,8,105,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429293138093366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437371897378774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768247298945464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971084209675474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334793057553367,0.0,0.1553433656245825,0.0,0.17797105666400578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576138703768453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847204939158282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16408691802983508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396305384533806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844259560528051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35252600196297074,0.13188787390194204,0.0,0.0,0.1925538452096602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109236448380973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715092059860744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899609074572918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23041486285324106,0.22223120877455715,0.1703767113855274,0.13767000159343096,0.10111811088733924,0.0,0.0,0.16570289097400995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308331466606716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559184901755409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352217231240026,0.0,0.12318712761000385,0.0,0.0,0.1116718403066425
parenting,glow200,2019/01/17,"Should I allow my 10 year old to start a YouTube channel? My daughter is a very good singer and really wants to start posting covers on YouTube. She’s also wants to do other videos like vlogs, make up vids etc...

I originally said to her she’s too young and she can start one when she’s a teenager but she keeps bugging me. Would you allow your child to have one? 

What I worry about is trolls and creeps commenting on her vids. I spoke to her about this and I said there’s some people on the internet who purposely try and make you feel bad,  but she just said she knew and she’d ignore them. 

What I was thinking is that I could watch her videos before hand to make sure she’s not doing anything inappropriate, and monitor the comments. Or even turn the comments off. Tbh I think she’s a great singer and she has a great personality, but the likelihood of her channel becoming big is very small so I kinda feel like I’m just worrying about nothing. 

Anyway I thought I’d get other people thoughts on this. There’s tons of kids with channels on there tbh so maybe I’m being over protective ",2.489846390168971,4.746930488479264,3.2851612903225806,89.91440860215056,78.21658986175116,6.34531490015361,22.775729646697393,7.447530270364453,0.8542540706605224,864,27,178,12,21,273,121,217,0.067,0.799,0.134,0.9307,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,3,1,0,15,8,0,0,9,0,15,1,1,6,1,39,39,16,0,5,7,1,3,2,0,2,0,4,0,3,8,9,0,3,7,5,0,0,1,2,0,2,8,8,33,6,21,26,3,19,0,0,1,0,32,10,0,3,10,115,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611890714028843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091995224612724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079766775356156,0.0,0.14655501881482375,0.11291661216106698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594891916437044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799385544126845,0.08764607853015775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341926527641906,0.09479980331975477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932946621542571,0.0,0.0,0.11130116886811446,0.0,0.29260103191632075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794848461818015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296595252670937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26573174894975604,0.0,0.13331343471027046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732774721283893,0.0,0.13924470705247732,0.0,0.1798398157917479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18399280188060144,0.11586717316430613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708843939085926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501002870734324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786798572466624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28177394997732313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506672414581058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005562466307886,0.0,0.2106955026473159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009354091552403,0.14433781456191022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189802466411068,0.15653797462855132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695234463507996,0.0,0.0942651756775576,0.0,0.0,0.08545345482904944
parenting,bobjanis,2019/01/17,"What to do if you live in a hot region? My husband and I were having a conversation this morning that we are conflicted about and when I tried to do some research, we came up short. So here I am, asking y'all. 

We have a newborn (5wks) and granted it's January, but pretty soon due to the region we live in, it's gonna start warming up. We live in an area where it's 80°+ for more than half the year, during the summer it's 90°+ and often reaches over 100°. 

What do we do for our baby? Everything I have read said not to take baby outside if it is over 80°. Is this accurate? Do we just never take him outside until he is 3 or 4? Any advice?


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parenting,freakzy369,2019/01/17,"Princess LO MUST have a blanket... It's 26 Degrees Celsius and I am Melting Relevant background, single mum to 22 month old F LO. We've been living without her dad for just over 3 months. When we first moved here, our rooms were at opposite ends of the hallway. She would wake up multiple times a night screaming just because she moved in her sleep and realised I wasn't there, so I made the decision to just move her into my bed.

All was fine and dandy, we slept great for about two months. But now we're going through a proper Aussie summer, which our area usually doesn't get; we get snow and days in the negatives in winter. She started to wake up more frequently in  the night, stretch herself horizontally across the bed and kicking me in the ribs and face. It's in the cards for me to set up her cot in my room and get her back in it.

So, it's 9.30pm and 26 degrees. And my sweet little girl, who's real cute about deciding it's sleep time by flopping onto her pillow and pretending to snore (her pretend snores are much cuter than her real ones) and then sitting up to shout 'GOOD. NIGHT!!!' right in my face, suddenly woke up and dragged the all seasons doona from the foot of the bed all the way up under my chin, patted me on the head and whispered 'sweet dreams' to me, then snuggled back down on her pillow, pulling the doona up over her shoulders.

Princess LO must have her blankie on, y'see.

I'm cooking under this blanket. But I appreciate how adorable my kid is.

She'll be back in her own cot tomorrow night >.>",5.248196235622167,5.720860672185433,5.0659010108051605,87.05283548274662,68.10596026490066,8.079749041477868,30.795399093760892,7.85451343220497,1.8412092715231785,1201,45,250,13,19,370,172,302,0.017,0.887,0.096,0.9747,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,5,0,0,1,15,8,0,0,16,0,15,12,11,2,5,35,24,21,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,4,0,3,7,2,8,17,1,0,2,4,0,5,4,1,0,3,7,5,36,7,48,12,7,71,0,0,0,0,27,35,0,0,28,163,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866002135888594,0.0,0.0757359578594762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012495248165262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004035498341463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056790484629322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473186306000914,0.0,0.07060883457165736,0.10420717749409224,0.0,0.1369757747287849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750676847642958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452178821305583,0.10970678575879067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755952377548885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29750314685879603,0.3961445032287368,0.09133118606157367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.466365801308057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303696812036562,0.0,0.08418869179586995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28282615913426434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610085136195438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990037266500184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248660785615054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793818404935683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489146488608254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136507945137505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683354286369506,0.0,0.0,0.09861645907983424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976357010801322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825700568322742,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pregnancyinsomnia,2019/01/17,"I am done with parenting for the day but he isn't. My 2 year old is alone in the room he shares with his brother tonight because his brother is at a sleepover. So I'm sitting in the room with him because he's scared.

Problem is, I am soooo done with parenting today and just want to clock off. The minutes sitting here feel like hours. 

This kid has been known to take up to 2 hours to get to sleep on any one night so I don't know how long I'll be here.

There's no point to this post really, other than to share with others who (hopefully) can relate to the feeling of being a 'prisoner to parenting' where you do the right thing as a parent but would much rather be doing something else. ",4.267521367521368,4.4995748041958015,4.882191142191144,88.35952602952604,70.18881118881119,8.033877233877233,27.77700077700078,7.793537801064563,1.414209634809635,539,17,119,6,9,173,95,143,0.118,0.8009999999999999,0.081,-0.8126,4,1,1,0,0,1,11.0,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,1,9,0,18,1,1,1,0,19,26,7,0,5,4,6,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,2,8,4,24,19,1,24,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,1,11,80,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846772287722315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748314875588317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477007680900528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244911198930716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933943415978608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975081704501868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496448097038284,0.1024095134961804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489463751442295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14237923539476574,0.2823424237425268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878159943454599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003373655724544,0.0,0.0,0.12686054235265004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053789960157056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134524585842919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042207058240606,0.0,0.09713790217662684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6366943649736456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551240881481036,0.0,0.13729000265019084,0.0,0.0,0.13716691811547846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183390025452927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242040944696032,0.0,0.0,0.14351870075218415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345386864309986,0.0,0.0,0.11035809730531553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077816175701765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523559801227097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358793634018589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455174622734038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018319705602067,0.0,0.0,0.09231292079893123
parenting,KLA0310,2019/01/17,"In law issues Hi all- first post to this sub. Since my first child was born three years ago, I’ve been having on going issues with my in laws. My husbands parents are divorced and father in law is remarried.

My father in law has ridiculous expectations regarding seeing the his grandchildren. He wants to see them AT LEAST once a week and even then complains.  My husband works 6 days a week and I work 3 so I always have to be the one accommodating his demands (or else it would be on the one day we have as a family).

A few examples of how difficult he can be...

~ On the birth of my second child he just happened to be in the city near the hospital shopping (despite living an hour from the hospital) and just happened to be driving past the hospital.

~ he has sent messages to my husband stating things such as “there have been 12 weeks to this year and I have only seen the children 11 times “

~ he sends a weekly messages saying “are we seeing you this week?” Which is his way I insinuating that he won’t and he is hard done by.

~ There has been several occasions where he has stopped talking to my husband for several days when we have said no or plans have changed (because we have two children under three!)

It wouldn’t be so bad if he and his wife were helpful but they’re just not. I have to “watch them watching the kids” because they haven’t proven themselves capable and I worry about the kids safety. They also don’t help tidy up if I cook them dinner or offer to help cook. 

Does anyone have any advice to navigate this? I’ve almost resigned myself to this being my life because we’ve not managed to find a solution in three years...
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parenting,tastetherainbowmoth,2019/01/17,"When does my 7 month old understand that we hate each other? So my wife and I are 3-4 years in in our marriage and its not looking good, we hate each other and without our daughter we would be long ago at least living separatedly. 

But now that my daughter is here I wont leave her and she probably wont leave me for the sake of the child.

I am not here for a relationship advice. I just want to know, *when* will my child understand that there is something fishy and mommy and daddy are not loving each other?",2.4178739316239337,4.197032817307694,3.7801282051282072,88.5426495726496,76.59615384615384,6.545299145299146,22.132478632478627,7.3871296695380915,0.68660811965812,399,11,85,5,9,131,68,104,0.127,0.8390000000000001,0.034,-0.9138,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,0,8,4,2,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,0,23,18,10,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,7,12,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,1,16,2,8,13,4,11,0,0,1,1,15,3,0,0,8,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910707569301086,0.1733265487872013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711106092431617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400223466316888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3860930192464883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745879529079502,0.0,0.0,0.4140784677275179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265756980295527,0.1730388967601342,0.1641969031570078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647447858032822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607108223402216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517702872181404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081562882968347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099272577927701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052941641361686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.407109603543078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532932632158333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884850314659639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889970446181482,0.0,0.0,0.1259156367733992
parenting,eleanor_dashwood,2019/01/17,"I stole my daughter’s hat She’s two, so when I say “her hat” I mean the hat that is mine, that I leant her one time and now she is definitely sure is hers. Yesterday I wanted to wear it to work so I was faced with the choice of asking her permission and royally angering her if she said no and I wore it anyway, or hoping she didn’t notice. She’s two, I risked the latter, and totally got away with it. She and hubby drop me at the train station each day, and I had my hat! This morning we had a tricky one, as we occasionally do, where every. Single. Thing. Is a fight. So very last thing, as I’m getting out the car at the station, hubby cheers me up with: “you know what she said, when you got out yesterday? “Oh, my hat!””. Turns out she’s no fool after all. Despite having lived my whole day before 8am, I’ve been giggling ever since! ",-0.5034016798418968,1.6805445738636386,1.8761660079051368,95.24077075098816,91.89772727272728,4.87905138339921,16.17490118577075,6.498293943080001,-0.3418065217391302,639,15,147,8,23,216,105,176,0.111,0.8140000000000001,0.076,-0.6341,0,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,2,2,0,1,9,8,2,1,8,0,11,2,2,0,4,25,24,15,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,9,15,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,4,10,3,33,4,16,14,5,21,0,0,0,0,23,8,0,3,11,105,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712301986092487,0.0,0.16795748781496672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521175562248907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305798611004275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170499252095408,0.15061891363460628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933983828705672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859526125001429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755597438679188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824567193781257,0.14571897049632312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785454242752125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947296780694538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035274224364228,0.0,0.0,0.2422743010669927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400967219584733,0.14216269922353514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787791559555086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684857885655986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23752971217317326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104240479442782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19444716948007795,0.3492587801377903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750150284819805,0.10544141247756753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995869792827351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014451026931206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kk78952,2019/01/17,"Is prone position good for sleeping? My 7-month-old is usually sleeping in prone position, even I put her back but a few moment later she's back to prone position again. I read some articles online saying this position may not good for baby breathing at night and may cause to sudden death. Is this true? If so, how to train her to sleep in supine position?",3.907843137254904,6.145578411764706,4.794705882352943,80.87284313725492,73.70588235294117,8.650980392156864,27.509803921568626,9.2995712137729,2.657433333333334,284,11,51,7,6,92,48,68,0.07200000000000001,0.7929999999999999,0.135,0.5705,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,1,0,5,4,4,2,1,10,5,5,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,9,3,2,12,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,4,8,35,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266978349491141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822861537722774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031089764167665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563597407744711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695630871174882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19935526522350108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229141356468425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21355521627111074,0.0,0.0,0.2124918574136255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689363372418879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6377633616521805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23396644567464306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ayeeebenks,2019/01/17,"To every parent: Congratu-freaking-lations At 24 I was positive I would never have nor want kids.
Now I’m 26, and a SAHM of a 9 month old daughter. 
I truly never appreciated all that raising a child meant. I’m an imperfect person, with faults and doubts and shortcomings of my own. And here I am, with this incredible responsibility. 
In a world full of evil and tumult, I’m now tasked with raising a human being; a human who has just started crawling and standing, who babbles and laughs, and is completely dependent on myself and my husband to sustain her.
But one day, she’ll be a person of her own, independent and self-determining, and she’ll make her own decisions about how to act.
But her future self depends on who I am now, how I’m able to conquer myself and my demons, and the example I set for her from my actions.
I’m in awe of those who have come before me, who have raised children with empathy and compassion and love. 
The ability to model and convey love in times of turmoil is something I hope to achieve.
To all the SAHM, your contributions are BEAUTIFUL and SELFLESS.
To all the working moms, you are STRONG and CAPABLE.
To the fathers, thank you for being present, loving, and understanding.
Raising a baby to be a child to be an adult who loves and accepts not only the similarities but the differences in us is the scariest thing I have ever undertaken.
So to all those who have, and who are, and all those who wish to one day, you are the best among us.
CONGRATU-FUCKING-LATIONS.",5.933333333333334,6.522711777777778,6.793055555555558,74.85750000000002,66.6388888888889,9.455555555555557,33.70833333333333,9.444778638647367,3.1112416666666665,1184,51,217,22,18,394,149,288,0.04,0.81,0.15,0.9812,1,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,2,4,0,5,10,14,1,2,20,0,24,4,0,6,8,55,42,29,0,4,5,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,10,15,27,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,4,0,2,2,0,28,10,35,32,10,29,1,0,0,4,41,10,0,4,14,170,43,2,0.1383368396385291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177144615427056,0.0,0.14517597849586866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916493816769337,0.145043544392483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17843163449129473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453255392683695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513359138658506,0.11655475381443073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739969558629855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994175952183718,0.0,0.0923409146618826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201843464007326,0.1104191455890391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338779784976344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451612424394514,0.0,0.18748124544923409,0.105211400241839,0.0,0.0,0.153606689357363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24158078494343024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886309877733221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649845768023353,0.0,0.0,0.09791552711195696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273619757985971,0.0,0.0,0.091904849324301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066532366862161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401352877439014,0.3328043702386795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159465220272999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908053845309242,0.0,0.0,0.10071086684065744,0.0,0.0,0.09827052180138122,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisIsAMonster,2019/01/17,Any advice for winter activities for SAHM with 3 yr old and 16 month old? I went to the library today and it was filled with sick kids putting toys in their mouths. Also my kids are not that quiet to sit and look at books. I know they are getting bored being in the house all day and would like to get them some extra stimulation. We go outside when it’s not too cold but even then I’m still lacking new ideas for them the rest of the day. I think it’s starting to show in their behavior; they are bored and act out to me or each other.,5.492861356932154,4.48250343362832,5.747920353982303,87.39704277286134,67.76106194690266,8.5952802359882,26.79793510324484,7.1686216300943375,1.0136678466076692,420,9,97,3,6,134,81,113,0.058,0.926,0.016,-0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,6,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,6,2,1,1,1,22,15,10,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,5,10,0,0,3,3,0,5,2,2,0,0,2,3,12,1,16,11,6,23,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,2,13,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173143919295369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778431221771085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123105692037805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868429486721835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688477927667548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23237647395527364,0.0,0.12638788344666027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25660519948310384,0.0,0.2510483037388748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221829824352301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864724965089266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867494049826284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775074997262795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21478313518606898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4667163301278999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22356075923248556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740694522951945,0.0,0.17759886365470448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249686530355568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079725063447027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20615534634744584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797762723760467,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sweetiemelon,2019/01/17,"it's interesting to play clays and learn number at the same time Have you ever played clays together with your toddlers? It's amazing that we can use the clays to make various things, and show to kids what are they. For instance, they can [learn the numbers](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vN0Ot8cJpKc) when they play clays. Why not do this with your kids? 

​",6.055052083333332,9.079062734375004,3.8731250000000017,86.29270833333338,70.09375,6.7666666666666675,26.291666666666664,7.793537801064563,1.4364354166666669,301,10,53,4,6,83,46,64,0.0,0.773,0.227,0.9266,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,3,3,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,2,1,12,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,5,7,7,2,4,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,3,35,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896499028802001,0.4369796620902687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252983672739279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400502410203484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389166417943674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096982736151105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310597637101435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324502599685948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369796620902687,0.0
parenting,Projectmayhem59,2019/01/17,"Co Parenting Hey All,

Not sure if this is right sub. Please let me know if it isn’t.

I 32 M and my Wife (32) have 3 kids. We live in California. 

We have a 10 year old she is my step daughter.

We are priced out the area where her father (Paul)lives and where she goes to school to buy home.

I sold my place about 20 miles away and we rented close to her dad this past year because we thought it was convenient.  

We are moving back to the area where I came from the houses are a little cheaper. 

Back story, Paul  is 50  and owned a house. My wife was 22 and they never got married. Lasted about a year after my Step Daughter was born.

My wife has always catered to him. They never went to court for child support (400) or any type of mediation. My wife lived at her parents house for 4 years before she met me after the break up. 

We would like my SD to go to a school near us for the next 8 years but if there is a problem with Paul  are we going to have to go to court? 

If so will the judge be considerate of the driving and things we missed be so far away?

Any other things we might run into would be great as well. ",1.0272495164410067,2.7969517191489395,2.2839941972920705,97.71295454545456,80.74468085106382,5.123791102514507,17.915860735009673,5.852544927426893,-0.5915957446808511,854,17,205,5,22,273,138,235,0.033,0.892,0.075,0.8729,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,11,0,2,0,11,7,0,0,13,0,24,0,0,0,4,39,36,15,0,7,7,10,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,2,7,21,0,0,3,0,4,10,4,2,1,0,9,0,33,5,31,19,2,46,0,1,0,0,34,19,0,6,17,134,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557992030885888,0.0,0.0,0.15622924459910106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21584575939210296,0.17665380577034642,0.0,0.07002286402025443,0.0,0.09774476228295496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137913640486384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19584750605571852,0.0,0.09187095436799733,0.12664309423139633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522262366370915,0.0,0.0,0.397629005164134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312880700432491,0.09363328260561046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746097914745345,0.0,0.05611902107404276,0.11512856627204784,0.2028622482213923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185748711343394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208719814624708,0.0,0.0,0.17718757153165474,0.0,0.1221641144421399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053532717214215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25509608827221514,0.0,0.10965512588850164,0.0,0.0,0.12001329267943688,0.1260912853671575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991378650904866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809720108295653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23250641651594006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035158491038848,0.10826234499227327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262725636468336,0.0,0.0,0.09119287864824208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817284482037387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328071322019716,0.10648439112240188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631987891209645,0.0,0.0,0.3698582285044239
parenting,tryingfatherhood,2019/01/17,"I feel like I'm losing my son I'd welcome any and all ideas, thoughts, criticisms, and input. 

tl;dr 13yo son starting to exhibit entitled, defiant, and aggressive behavior, not sure what to do.

Gonna just lay it out here in detail:

My son is 13, very much hitting puberty, figuring out identity, middle school has been rough, and he hasn't had things the easiest. We became family when he was 3 through adoption, so there's some history there, and his mom and I divorced 2 years ago and co-parent 50/50, so he's got that to struggle with as well. That said some of our dad-son conflicts have gotten pretty intense.

I've got what I consider some pretty reasonable and consistent rules around my house, you do a chore of some kind, clean up your stuff, and do your homework before you get any screen time and even then there are limits. But I've been met with increasing resistance lately and he's really flown off the handle. There are two triggers that I've identified. One is he is struggling in science at school and to me it seems clear that if he'd implement some basic school work habits, taking notes, writing legibly, turning in assignments complete not half done, he'd be fine in science and be building skills for future academic success. But, he sees me as being unreasonable, wants me not to intervene and just let him do it how he wants (and get the failing grade or whatever else might come with it). The trigger is when he isn't allowed to have screen time because he didn't actually take notes or write legibly he flips out (I'll talk about that in a second). The second trigger is when I occasionally have taken away his phone for misbehavior (specifically related to the phone) it's an immediate trigger and he starts screaming at me to give him his phone over and over. 

These meltdowns look like this: he gets wild eyed, super demanding, and is beginning to get physically aggressive (tries to grab back his phone or laptop, my phone, shot me with a nerf gun, threw a pillow at me, grabbed my arm). He's been upset and walked off and biked off in the cold late at night to try and go to his mom's (I've had to follow for his safety). I'm still physically stronger then him, but I really want to avoid any physical struggles at all costs which he knows and I'm worried he's pushing the limits on that. He also devolves into really negative talk to me and himself, ""I hate you"" ""you don't love me"" ""nobody loves me"" etc. We've been able to reconcile at the end of each of these episodes, but they still leave me worried.

His mom and I are not on the best of terms, especially as it relates to this. The rules at the two houses are very different, stricter at mine. My bias is that it feels like my son is getting validation from mom that he's right and undermining my parenting or emboldening his feeling of righteousness about his demands. Willing to acknowledge that's just my perspective, but trying to figure out what co-parenting approaches might work regardless. 

There's been some teasing at school too, and though I think it hasn't been major, his mom has described it as such. I might be under-estimating it and his mom might be over-estimating, he's maybe feeling stuck in the middle and also just isn't a big fan of school anyways right now. Regardless, the impact on him is that he's struggling with identity, friendships, and just wanting to be liked and not picked on (even if he might be dishing it out at times too). 

Part of me just wants to drop any and all conflict so I can just love on my son and not have these negative blow-ups, but I also worry that'd be giving in to some problematic behaviors and I know I need to strike some kind of a balance. 

The truth is I'm scared. He's an amazing, wonderful, and beautiful kid. He's incredibly internally motivated which is a good thing. I'm just worried about the kind of behaviors I'm seeing develop, this sense of entitlement, this toying with physical force to get what he wants, the real lack of empathy about how his behavior impacts others in his family. He does see a counselor but I'm not sure how much he's sharing about some of this.

I love my son deeply and I am committed to doing whatever it takes to support his well being and growth and what I can for him to grow into a healthy and whole person that does good in the world. 

Would welcome any and all input, questions, thoughts, resources, etc. There might be factors I'm not thinking about, approaches I'm not aware of. 

Thanks in advance.",6.250036016007114,6.592504203468209,6.571719653179192,77.57468041351713,65.92485549132948,10.214539795464653,32.70397954646509,10.08076165802769,3.1499146287238773,3556,139,678,77,52,1149,369,865,0.123,0.753,0.124,0.6802,5,1,0,1,1,0,113.0,2,6,1,12,48,42,4,7,29,0,67,7,2,11,9,158,134,71,0,13,30,13,7,4,0,9,0,2,4,2,43,56,1,5,20,2,1,12,17,14,2,6,21,17,70,28,104,89,25,83,0,2,7,4,94,47,0,24,27,443,113,15,0.05299535850297391,0.0,0.05171582522653286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04697718775592693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714110714439772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18019330535149994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04717710473611363,0.0,0.0,0.049790883814068425,0.04075015948053013,0.0,0.03230547865827897,0.0,0.0450951467934413,0.0,0.05561535919507722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045650808820579314,0.05556462511147894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055368870148525665,0.0,0.0,0.09275319071074256,0.05423265134401499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0442708218133596,0.0,0.04693815777786916,0.0,0.11820766684235365,0.07000586896016912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991861506095982,0.0,0.10718418236584276,0.07571978940699578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612732509026826,0.10167595373088598,0.030118483515756037,0.08889998472908121,0.08477045882592207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052321944858727536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222990568387966,0.0,0.0598253091326502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555953220608896,0.05824972616975287,0.0,0.11956214541338606,0.05611443272895342,0.0,0.05419134461468178,0.0,0.10356342106238854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04450275392039702,0.05928825047711389,0.0,0.0,0.19132152050348908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053240960676557834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373182035075727,0.0,0.3724051402479744,0.0,0.0,0.0779153724475752,0.03929538682820583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04973255395100119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03591102645227326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05884507403970759,0.05738880889873505,0.0,0.0,0.046273502918528345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783066354563492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059366930080890876,0.0,0.0,0.060320320136888414,0.10185055104214556,0.05448805490555194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051549319964072,0.05041072175131365,0.0,0.0530575989765167,0.2681706604608449,0.1266913181840244,0.04824498401464004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502077502803642,0.0,0.08464432351474059,0.0,0.0,0.2216090209330352,0.06066700645746929,0.0,0.0601385048057635,0.09989499642949372,0.0,0.11953774272148325,0.08519132347237783,0.0,0.04879100595857379,0.0,0.0,0.07041552273175695,0.0679145717398349,0.052067670657040016,0.08414479002474554,0.09270605916140366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794110915047336,0.05764373205095232,0.10353752946127576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745344177576662,0.18754821304468208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529838356174072,0.0,0.0,0.059167425195210635,0.0,0.0,0.05747120566583357,0.07716250432367702,0.21527743606275512,0.0,0.03764638216939597,0.0,0.0,0.034127273354835626
parenting,bitchtoast,2019/01/17,"Two moms with a 4 year old son. How do we talk about erections? Honestly, I thought we'd have a few more years before we had to worry about this. But our son sometimes gets erections. He doesn't masturbate yet, but he will point it out, usually saying ""the bones in my penis got harder!"" Today, he had an erection in the shower at the gym after going for a swim. He asked me why his penis gets bigger and harder. I said that this happens to all penises. He kept asking what it means. Then he whispered to me ""mommy, my penis gets bigger when I want to see somebody's butt.""

How do I breach this topic in an age appropriate way? I feel like this would be an easier conversation to have with a dad, but we have none of those around here lol.",2.3821115126484247,4.190069369127522,3.768590604026848,88.45791430046465,76.78523489932886,6.195353639648943,20.85751161590088,7.010146845296331,0.4495571502323181,572,14,118,6,13,188,101,149,0.013,0.8859999999999999,0.101,0.9153,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,10,1,12,3,3,2,1,20,27,8,0,2,3,4,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,9,8,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,6,5,15,2,18,17,4,22,0,0,1,2,22,9,1,0,11,78,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053129090973698,0.358170266776062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16300562824837586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685978551562106,0.1368523302480657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002505914838252,0.0,0.10886941669936433,0.0,0.15321007780633528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939813805886733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358779000737713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208667784968803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22435575357699206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010126811188208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810885365110831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221986075721286,0.1523382354772896,0.0,0.0,0.15265055763683902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894602688471568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397072846368082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207927390321968,0.0,0.0,0.1815789068743275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18712878477174205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21097909471030485,0.0,0.11298856036637847,0.15205344263376186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728554136232269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19454107708001026,0.0,0.13608054553873536,0.0,0.0,0.2467200144215129
parenting,turtle8889,2019/01/17,"How did you decide you were done growing your family? We always wanted 4, then #2 came and almost broke us, making us decide 3 was a more reasonable number.  Now that things are calming down a bit, we are seriously considering if 2 might be our number.  How did you decide you were done growing your family, and for those who ""gave up"" on big families, how did you process those emotions?",7.1802054794520584,6.902838219178082,7.691883561643834,72.42083904109589,64.06849315068493,10.587671232876714,30.578767123287676,10.125756701596842,2.9469479452054794,302,9,54,6,4,100,50,73,0.055,0.818,0.127,0.5283,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,7,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,5,0,17,16,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,10,0,12,1,4,4,2,9,0,1,0,0,14,4,0,3,2,44,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19323878322329133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605724835997492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21068111402659973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207144990030289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39496533723881017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170733680280496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5457651688968466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881377477434355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047183057675656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841269463984199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820547213419953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642556048834409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382294825775632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,roonilwazlib_yo,2019/01/17,"My grandmother is feeding my son unhealthy food. I have maybe a bigger problem than some, as we currently live with my grandmother. My grandfather passed away about 6 months ago and it was devastating to everyone, but especially to my grandmother. So we are staying with her to keep her company, (and for her to keep us company, honestly). But she feeds my 7 year old WAY too much junk. I don’t get it, because she is and has always been a very fit, healthy, attractive, health conscious woman. But when it comes to my son she just doesn’t see it. I try to get him to try new foods, and he’s more willing when it’s just he and I, but when she’s around she always butts in like “oh you don’t want that? You can save it for tomorrow” or, “well he has to eat something, I’ll make him a corn dog”. Like she has this mindset that he has to eat regularly 3 times a day, (which I’m not opposing by they way) but she’ll cook him stuff she’ll know he will eat and it’s always extraordinarily unhealthy. Every time she has lunch with him at school she brings fast food, which is technically against school rules but she does it anyway. I don’t get it. And I don’t know how to talk to her about it. She’s taken care of me almost my whole life. She’s done an extraordinary amount for my son. She’s grieving the loss of her husband of 55 years. She’s giving us room and board and she babysits all the time. I’ve tried to say things to her in a passive way but she blows them off. I feel bad for my son, because I grew up overweight and it was so hard for me and I don’t want him to go through that, but I don’t know how to regulate her or express to her that concern. She grew up homecoming queen, super beautiful so she doesn’t know how it feels. And if I try to tell her she just turns it around on me saying I eat unhealthy so what am I complaining about? Idk what to do. I can’t leave her right now. She’s straight up told me she doesn’t know what she’ll do once we move out (having to live in this house without her husband). I love her dearly, I miss my grandpa, I can’t abandon her, and she loves my son so much. She just doesn’t feed him well. ",1.7138974358974366,3.3250820888888915,3.0437777777777804,93.79146153846158,78.1111111111111,6.5709401709401725,22.427350427350426,7.419758726546812,0.5639863247863244,1660,49,392,22,39,539,203,450,0.104,0.765,0.131,0.9457,1,1,1,0,0,0,52.0,5,2,2,3,25,19,0,0,8,0,36,18,1,4,1,63,64,36,1,4,17,8,3,2,0,5,3,2,1,1,26,23,13,4,8,1,0,7,14,7,2,0,6,6,86,12,52,53,7,46,0,4,1,3,77,18,1,5,19,256,112,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688451639007353,0.0,0.0868516385192091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21650907342376785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544234150909689,0.0,0.0,0.08148951023991442,0.0,0.0724193223341115,0.10574456335259233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884311609419302,0.0,0.0,0.07471371801184756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593629732352714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590156576084073,0.08875906307546036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550024113369761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307719152404653,0.08287811709387513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771069980475316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31463753113656884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594490920894178,0.08320321952554917,0.04929296856896564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769668694561367,0.0,0.0,0.09219425642831112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000794671752851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541864463317534,0.0,0.0,0.23833387226604602,0.0,0.0,0.09183885262106976,0.0,0.0,0.061262835938624964,0.08474776720833728,0.0,0.15317553886892832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565617620125465,0.0,0.0578956626427755,0.0,0.08713602727833833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923030409363487,0.09218458598881378,0.12751903671007808,0.0,0.0,0.08376830154244158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101281216299012,0.09236894973465784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299278759483089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407041856805639,0.0,0.13794882127402025,0.0,0.17555901086852393,0.06911582120814025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677212154988413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924469741597734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992897547752315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971355692718867,0.07580939675625444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762225954982071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517259943717,0.0,0.0,0.08287811709387513,0.0,0.23554695011432025,0.09434175763527464,0.0,0.0,0.2086608045407801,0.0,0.0,0.07156468808340864,0.10231599881117193,0.20653639366636212,0.0,0.0,0.1559686835867639,0.0,0.0,0.09683548738197262,0.0,0.08360854463686468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170778979920257
parenting,Shell831,2019/01/17,"Car seat in Mazda CX-5 Does anyone own a Mazda CX-5 and use a rear facing convertible car seat? We just bought the Graco Milestone and it doesn’t fit well unless the driver’s seat is pretty far forward. I’m wondering if there’s another carseat that may fit better. We’d like to install it either behind the driver or passenger seat, not the middle. ",4.833382352941179,6.321280279411766,5.6787058823529435,78.57217647058825,69.73529411764707,7.792941176470588,25.364705882352943,8.238735603445708,1.7548023529411765,281,8,48,4,5,92,51,68,0.0,0.778,0.222,0.9287,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,4,1,1,1,0,12,8,5,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,4,5,2,8,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,4,2,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39240840961201706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616673998567593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309723333918023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32748754361482113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282783649911127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807222033044982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232109612632682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33647396174677285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4058319466503527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nikolailies,2019/01/18,"Okay, so am I doing this right? FTM. I don’t post often but talking to my bf is a dead end since he’s a FTP as well.  My son is a week shy from being a month old and I have no idea if we’re doing this right. 

Okay, baby hates his bassinet all of a sudden and I was basically bullied by his screams to give in and co sleep last night. I know letting a baby so young cry it out is frowned upon so I’m lost at what I should do? If I don’t put him in bed he screams all night - he went on and off about every hour or so until 6 am last night. 

We all need sleep so do I continue to let him cry at night or is co sleeping my only option until he’s old enough to sleep train? 

Oh and this only happens at night! During the day he’s much more easier to put down for sleep. I swaddle him sometimes if he allows it but it’s really a hit or miss. ",-0.3861169590643279,1.0782180842105262,2.3140350877193008,97.27269005847955,83.94736842105263,5.064327485380117,17.397660818713447,5.82211442006289,-0.620637426900585,636,13,163,4,18,222,108,190,0.207,0.74,0.052000000000000005,-0.9876,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,8,8,1,0,8,2,18,5,5,1,3,25,28,21,1,5,8,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,7,7,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,5,1,0,3,2,18,3,23,20,6,35,0,2,0,0,16,12,0,8,19,101,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322665881463783,0.06818349463791669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936404418546664,0.1092415719189514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907737077438091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142048265306887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349174187238857,0.0,0.0,0.10438096140144587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041172420213814,0.0,0.0,0.11934998403185497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058103367863967775,0.17235900127724324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162207336057774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541067674140687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438821112251707,0.0,0.07771960222416144,0.0783933064194126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4960759589853888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218799558435147,0.0,0.0,0.16081634772195338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012547547305977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21256445590088108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772976084732857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057612780669693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745632005289508,0.0,0.529003787756583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456413956555004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497727168894673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480574021299565,0.0,0.09505893677152737,0.09800758231866584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,neuroqueeer,2019/01/18,"I really, really hate ""Rainman"" too. **Please explain, don’t downvote**

> Every.Single.Time. Someone says to me “Oh, she must be so interesting!”/ “Autism is a gift!”/“Rainman is (insert bullshit here)” I want to choke the life out of them. They have no idea.

> Please, please, please stop making this seem like something so amazing. It’s not. It’s fucking awful.

I have a ton of empathy for caregivers, including my own. I just don't have good language skills yet.

I am profoundly Autistic. I did not learn how to actually communicate until my 30s. I promise you on my life, Autism is an amazing and beautiful gift.

>She’s four now, but she won’t always be. Society is fucking ugly in how they treat people who a different. She’s never going to be able to live on her own, she’s never going to have a job, go to college, get married, have a normal life.

Yes. The ugliness and pain comes from the society which does not provide support, not from Autism. We are creating a global non-profit mutual aid network so that we can support one another. Please connect with us.",1.053526852685266,3.61273878712872,2.861629162916291,85.44870237023703,96.77227722772278,5.616801680168017,23.44794479447945,7.106945922332613,1.5325755775577548,833,35,148,16,33,275,133,202,0.14800000000000002,0.695,0.157,-0.6422,2,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,3,1,3,1,10,13,3,0,10,2,20,6,0,3,3,26,34,9,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,6,7,0,1,4,0,0,4,10,4,0,2,1,1,23,9,18,28,3,15,0,0,0,2,15,5,2,1,7,102,29,3,0.11916017896371425,0.0,0.11628314560611955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915081462072184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494983741085527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264594301392026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449702506582208,0.0,0.0,0.10427787561742197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22032333066082185,0.06225627535352499,0.0,0.20316442725744188,0.09994590459836514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764600691861896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345173378231998,0.0,0.0,0.11824809090424115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524990751616756,0.058215644428540825,0.0,0.10522062114064064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954034475223314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838073520176671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675167528287375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074602115548338,0.0,0.12679483183468293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261066442767906,0.0,0.0,0.6540104668599943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267412382984338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476095705132208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847895158523048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009640329465586,0.09173532740588712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962324525327762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704431179520308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333502348748944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028376088657844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EmotionSix,2019/01/18,"I love you My mom (born 1951) told me her parents never said “I love you” during her childhood and teen years. Was this common for the Babyboomer generation? She was raised in a safe, affluent home by her parents without much nurture or empathy. How could a parent never say ‘I love you’ to their child?",3.7710526315789465,5.948466807017546,4.382315789473683,83.94821052631579,73.91228070175438,6.665263157894738,27.18947368421053,7.554174236665415,1.6305536842105273,236,9,43,3,5,75,45,57,0.031,0.728,0.241,0.9415,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,1,2,8,8,3,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,2,12,5,5,3,1,7,0,0,0,3,19,1,0,1,6,30,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046557378393302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903521684893684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5102625988355765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071561837962395,0.0,0.0,0.13853573234457106,0.0,0.2906954376007013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6277692196707273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926337348988625,0.14986657266488249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007633908093484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166340117304844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135851138532687
parenting,wgsharpe1128,2019/01/18,"2 Year Old With Aggressive Behavior - Please Help My almost 2-year-old son has had frequent aggressive behavior towards my wife and I and other children. This has been going on for about six months. We feel like we have tried everything including timeouts, explaining why we don’t bite/hit/pinch, and even have resorted to trying the “bite back” method, which he laughed at. We have not been able to spot any particular patterns for when he acts out. He bites/hits/pinches when he’s happy, angry, frustrated, doesn’t want to share, excited, etc.

His communication and motor skills seem to be on point for his age. He displays affectionate behaviors toward us and other children as well. For example, when we ask him to apologize he will hug whoever he hurt. 

We keep hearing that he will grow out of this but it is becoming a problem at daycare. Does anyone have any expertise on how to care for him and also teach him that this is not appropriate behavior? We are struggling quite a bit and entertaining taking him to see an Occupational Therapist. ",6.129293233082706,7.9523182000000014,6.471278195488722,72.83894736842106,67.0,10.4812030075188,33.045112781954884,10.608840637214634,3.920195488721804,838,37,142,24,14,270,128,190,0.081,0.774,0.145,0.8379,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,0,2,9,16,3,1,4,0,17,1,0,1,0,28,28,14,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,9,17,0,1,3,1,0,3,4,6,1,1,3,3,17,10,25,22,2,22,0,1,1,1,32,10,0,2,10,92,26,1,0.15842205308778462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863680214926013,0.0,0.0,0.12669005861799004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546485724674752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077238301518437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148103234231896,0.0,0.0,0.12181678001476225,0.0,0.0,0.17496471104687433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729558510198435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152184139936138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386362062444967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668246617136882,0.10463627195051477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423795262023484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010295009127756,0.11317674638013628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003490360743406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864322135805382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785531675940456,0.0,0.1061869627911842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959408439330975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081279983807155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739701293169672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264509713401211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332474590515751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389984104070755,0.1497600467008093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158850943940316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685013540148236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624186533860715,0.14422148721491754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561712700280698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191136680542445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394021401359287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21511634989985065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905622238716896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344143148503732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424404514496391,0.0,0.1429512619376535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20403721623499205
parenting,Gennaveffa_,2019/01/18,"Parents who adopted older children My husband and I are looking into our options for starting a family. We have absolutely zero knowledge regarding the adoption of toddler or school age children. Any and all personal stories or information would be appreciated. 

What was the experience like for you? Did it take much time to feel a bond with your child? What was the reason behind the decision to adopt an older child?

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parenting,MoseBot,2019/01/18,"I think my 2 year old is playing mind games with me... And winning. My 2yo refuses to get in bed without cratering unless I offer to hold his hand or read him a book.  I know, seems like a normal 2 year old and, honestly, he's the perfect kid outside of bedtime.  The problem is, if I read a book, he just keeps squirming the whole time and doesn't seem to relax. If I hold his hand, he will settle down for a bit (to the point I think he's about to doze off) but then he'll just start kicking and then looks me in the eyes and GRINS. 

Now, it's possible he just loves seeing me and can't contain his grin but I interpret it as his way of telling me he has the upper hand, that he's the boss. Makes me enraged. To the point I have to leave the room to calm down. At which point, he starts screaming.

Am I the only one who gets this mad? My wife seems so patient and never seems to lose her cool. I know I'm not the first to have a toddler who hates bedtime but does anyone else get this angry?",1.7124167591564934,2.933077372641513,3.077302996670369,95.21131520532741,77.16037735849056,5.931631520532743,22.376248612652613,6.2272716619740125,0.15937480577136487,761,21,181,5,17,248,121,212,0.128,0.7170000000000001,0.156,0.5307,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,4,6,17,3,0,16,1,9,5,4,2,2,41,30,18,0,4,12,1,3,1,0,2,0,1,2,1,8,8,0,5,9,7,0,0,5,6,0,2,0,8,24,11,24,28,2,24,0,1,3,1,24,11,0,7,13,106,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900580658164931,0.1319680529015636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061329178372478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271138389073332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759361601101038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955491633101087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018738177038392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716066730842512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448095680927435,0.0,0.0,0.14156725386027535,0.0,0.0,0.13637774227838562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292385425749351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815729233421968,0.1440912319787611,0.0,0.0,0.11624459050296605,0.0,0.08597319689424518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004855552976455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933641672568347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619400630075436,0.0,0.0,0.27030219753306856,0.0,0.08727638278224029,0.09795614935840234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365265234222156,0.1451996019395808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324162023531175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25766430581047817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263477148363499,0.4690088931633134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232678162706106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257451588340543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650562165783633,0.0,0.0,0.07510274053158303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022333005500268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379758418879401,0.0,0.12415599963779698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588247493227734
parenting,MarvelousMissJ,2019/01/18,"My 6 yer old son's class is running his poor teacher out of the classroom This poor woman, I saw her on Wednesday, and she looked like she just got off an 18 hour shift instead of 9.  I didn't work Thursday, but today, my son got 2 negative points on the classroom management system (excessive talking and horseplay) before the teacher had to get a ride home because of her migraine.

He's not the only one, and he's not the worst one in the class, but it's ridiculous.  I am a car circle monitor, and a teacher at the school.  I lectured the worst culprits and grounded my son for the long weekend. (grounding in this case just means he has to do some extra reading assignments before he does anything, about 45 minutes of work total)

How do you keep your kids from participating in mob mentality?",7.402012987012987,6.639768649350652,7.395422077922081,76.32741883116887,63.805194805194795,9.51818181818182,38.08116883116883,8.472884824447931,3.2024311688311693,628,29,116,7,8,202,103,154,0.079,0.852,0.068,-0.1945,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,2,5,4,1,0,13,0,7,1,0,1,1,17,14,8,0,0,6,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,6,0,1,1,2,2,3,4,3,0,2,5,2,14,1,17,9,5,22,0,0,2,0,18,11,0,1,8,75,17,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680992374017978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356781275609753,0.0,0.34497607753306964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738955400585646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590561855656468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242453174661628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333083751080444,0.0,0.19962476636230225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18017457660042546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903200597631896,0.0,0.0,0.1793886004948133,0.17022214782002734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22080646766492532,0.0,0.0,0.20428016380961905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21270604890131284,0.0,0.27471792258348576,0.15416719276256413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162287119500104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276104645853416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051494875468285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629275581803084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921417675247424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951450429481933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alkaladar,2019/01/18,"My 4.5 year old son is favoring his mum. So I'm at a bit of a loss. My 4.5 year old son is preferring his mum over me in a lot of ways. If I go to the shops he refuses to go, saying he wants to stay home. If his mum then says she is going he wants to go to the shops.

He says he loves me a little but loves mum a lot.

There are other little things but it's killing me inside. I'm not a passive parent. I cook dinners, make breakfasts and we build things, rock climb and go to playgrounds. 


I refuse to pull back from him as I'm sure it would make it worse but It's been going on for a couple of months and breaks my heart. I feel that the amount of time and effort (not unwilling time or effort) I put in gets me 1/2 the affection.",0.1933333333333352,1.7124531481481462,2.2429876543209883,98.21744444444448,82.33333333333334,5.554567901234568,16.97283950617284,6.42735559955562,-0.5376967901234568,558,10,142,5,15,187,89,162,0.098,0.8009999999999999,0.1,0.0675,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,4,3,6,1,0,11,0,6,6,1,3,1,26,23,13,1,6,8,7,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,8,5,3,2,2,4,2,9,2,2,0,0,1,4,18,4,19,21,4,28,0,1,0,2,25,7,0,5,9,80,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454428788386716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484323118541351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043634845380804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874509302966911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710331080949995,0.0,0.4636127246767395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111239190891058,0.0,0.0,0.13637823523251089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041879039847786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725338166028292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23117542216737375,0.2454171023238871,0.0,0.18150773956890748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852139376343917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28533277025330483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509666818333305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667662053791066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243608102406842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491449396874242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814000482467575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065059802966016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855788968841145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038460238841598,0.10791814171066502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855411346822488,0.09658156594905712,0.0,0.0,0.1751066271043193
parenting,Darry6602,2019/01/18,"Son acting extremely delusional and refuses to talk to anyone. It's getting worse and is beginning to create problems. I never thought I'd be asking for parenting advice on the Internet, but here I go. I honestly don't know what else to do, he is an adult as well which makes it more difficult, and he refuses to see a doctor for the current state that he is in. 

For a start, he is twenty-two and still at home with us. He has always been different from my other children (not in a bad way, because he's got Aspergers) and very anti-social, which I think could've contributed to his worsening health. This is going to be long so here goes -

I started noticing was wrong a couple of years ago when his friends called me and my husband one night to admit that they took a drug (which, from what I remember, was called Chachura or Jatora, my apologies if this is spelt horribly wrong. I've tried Googling it and I can't find anything.)

Anyway, me and my husband had to try search for him one night in the streets because he had a ""bad trip"" and ran away from his friends screaming and crying. And they lost him. We eventually found him curled up in a corner at a construction site and I had to phone an ambulance because he wouldn't let us touch him. Before that time, I never thought my son would take other drugs. I let him smoke pot when he turned twenty as long as he didn't do it in the house. If he was a teenager, this would've been different. But I have less control of my son now that he's adult and he can make choices of his own, and I really don't have a say in some of them.

But anyway, since then, he's not been the same at all and I don't know if this has anything to do with the story above. But he's still using pot everyday, and he's been acting increasingly irrational and delusional to a point where asking him to go to a doctor is useless because he thinks there's nothing wrong with him.

Just last month also, he accused me and my husband of trying to kill him because the batteries ran out in the carbon monoxide detector and we genuinely forgot to change them. He wasn't just over-reacting here, but he was showing severe paranoia and even got angry at us. I've heard him talk and shout profanities to himself numerous times when he thought I wasn't in the house to hear him. I've been scared to confront him during these because I don't know he'll react and I can't overpower or control him. My son doesn't communicate with his parents at all and is outside all the time, so I don't know what he does besides going to work.

But recently, his paranoia is turning concerning, because I know now that another mental illness is coming out of him and it's heart-breaking. I'll give you a few examples that only span a few days between them -

I caught him last Sunday burning a lot of his documents and bank cards (including my old passport too) and I immediately stopped him and asked what the fuck he was doing. He claimed that if he burnt anything ""with his name on it"", that death will not ""come for him"" because he believes ""death"" has the ability to track him down using his proof of existence. He didn't talk to me for the rest of the day and sat in his room. I really don't understand what world he is in right now but he's told me today that his great-gran (who he has never met as she died before I was even born) told him to go hang himself and he thinks she's a witch. The way he told me this was really casual which scares me, like what he was saying was normal. 

I'm waiting until my husband gets home so I can discuss this with him. He doesn't seem to acknowledge the severity of our son's problem and just says ""Oh, leave him alone. He's just acting weird."" Because my son has been anti-social for most of his life, my husband might assume that these signs are less of a concern. But I know something is up and I don't know what. 

What can I do? I can't exactly force my son to see a doctor and he's not helping himself at all. What do I need to do in this situation so that he does? Please help. 


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parenting,generic_username19,2019/01/18,"Is it okay to let a baby ""cry it out"" in your opinion? Just wondering other people's opinions on this. I'm a first time mom and my baby isn't even here yet but I've been wondering if this is ever okay or not. I am leaning towards no because that is what the latest pyschology seems to say but would like other input. 

Also wondering if there really is such a thing as ""spoiling"" a baby? By always holding them, etc?",2.539428571428573,4.1060302705882386,4.8327731092437,82.04176470588239,75.70588235294117,7.2100840336134455,25.084033613445378,7.957251820313856,1.5868151260504209,323,11,62,5,7,113,65,85,0.058,0.851,0.091,0.4098,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,8,3,0,0,5,2,9,0,0,0,1,18,14,8,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,4,3,8,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,9,6,53,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667107582608767,0.17346100845715173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707937575969666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289908997718845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23249549513309636,0.13769030047622507,0.188570080463286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732168297740514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317134217565667,0.0,0.10184630786126912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441536994029692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452457315409434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354911699990174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578110059271148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18978026968641787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384960236497099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215586191224724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6782197859463956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808877454820785,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lilandmil,2019/01/18,"Are there any other parents or parents to be here that are concerned about vaccines? I will be giving birth soon and I am very concerned about vaccination after seeing my nephew go from a bright happy talkative child to a non verbal, angry and aggressive child. The change in behaviour was so dramatic and if I hadn’t witnessed it myself I probably wouldn’t have believed it. I’m currently expecting my first and I’m very concerned about getting her vaccinated. I realise most kids are fine and I’ve tried to do as much research into it as possible. I feel like there’s a risk either way and don’t know what to do. There’s also the issue of school. If we don’t vaccinate her she’ll most likely have to be homeschooled, which I’m not totally against, but it isn’t really ideal. 

I was wondering if there were any other parents here who were concerned about this, or anyone who’s kids aren’t vaccinated who I could talk to? ",5.485666666666668,6.464763122222222,6.190000000000001,77.40000000000002,67.77777777777777,9.333333333333334,31.11111111111111,9.516144504307137,2.8826111111111112,742,29,135,15,12,243,106,180,0.03,0.8809999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.8652,5,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,13,8,1,1,5,0,24,0,0,0,1,26,34,16,0,7,8,4,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,4,13,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,7,2,0,1,5,3,15,6,18,22,5,9,0,0,2,0,17,2,0,8,7,102,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661512433597994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323446573780233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194504371036994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247034142934846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807187099165916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363962855909205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637832049155539,0.12204316145504115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531050077473287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925321511883186,0.16387862320345226,0.09708835630107564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818549529898089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783053151220424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388537384112544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692079331622858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558194434928716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5690696391079797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258859005819007,0.0,0.0,0.18418691620975405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944002303289604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289216184272233,0.13613181900596924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730913049987248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598442375374016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281910306355206,0.0,0.13559931946726445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526115001168195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tolaly,2019/01/18,"Conflicted about possible new job In a perfect world, I could work part time and have my two year old in day care part time with endless money, but that just isnt the case. I found out I'm being laid off soon.  It's totally unexpected. So naturally I began to look immediately and snagged an interview already and had the interview today.


The job itself sounds perfect for me. I'm qualified for it and the agency it's with is well known for being a very supportive environment. The problem is the hours. I would be away several evenings a week until about 6 or 7, with one evening for sure until after 9 PM. There would also be weekends often. My son is in daycare and goes to bed at 7 PM, so I effectively wouldn't be seeing him several days a week. The schedule would be 10/11-6/7 so I could maybe drop him off at daycare later but still, not seeing him in the evenings seems hard.


Furthermore, my husband works Tuesday and Wednesday evenings already so we would see one another less as well. 


I keep swinging back and forth in whether or not to take the position if I'm offered it, but was wondering if anyone else has had to do similar and if it did/did not work for them and any perspectives others may have.",5.025609243697481,5.951886466386554,5.878476890756303,79.41082457983194,68.78991596638657,9.311344537815128,32.101890756302524,9.516144504307137,2.91693193277311,961,41,186,20,16,316,140,238,0.034,0.856,0.11,0.9578,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,1,6,19,8,0,0,14,0,25,0,0,1,4,48,40,26,0,11,13,2,1,0,0,6,0,1,1,0,8,14,0,2,5,1,1,0,5,1,2,3,5,6,16,7,29,21,4,36,0,0,4,0,10,12,0,9,23,137,24,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432157418369893,0.08812648757034097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749394280464263,0.11555376748271892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07705404150423599,0.1129123941683413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035360427978656,0.08473660101618652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123557183862422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759706419796922,0.0,0.0,0.14213910125590964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205752842389947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291142879561173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082804626778945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871709231249236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852429378072256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21871196769459744,0.09795036477244627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253981214174023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107101935324565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643134837929848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563582094822693,0.0,0.1493480447369485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386706047013009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423336047488165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544602345792188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26344416360636913,0.10032147146403428,0.0,0.2489880998513234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800545030235403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250530685621185,0.1038617095474649,0.0,0.08285629750075363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285164106853969,0.0,0.10445622557953413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764888329275868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092611535405247,0.0,0.0,0.17679075792800505,0.0,0.19816514115035505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950663964276548,0.2406796105451755,0.0,0.0,0.31313020672865205,0.0,0.0,0.07096485468776426
parenting,10sion,2019/01/18,Pump Backflow Protector Won't Snap Back Need some help with my Spectra breast pump as it stopped working today. The backflow protector normally pulsates about half way back and forth. Now it is being sucked all the way to the tube and not releasing. Plz help...need to pump.,4.2940000000000005,7.1118124000000025,3.649999999999999,86.705,75.0,7.2,30.0,8.238735603445708,2.3884,220,10,39,4,5,65,37,50,0.116,0.833,0.051,-0.3447,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,9,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,2,7,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,5,23,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4787298082865405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173059272572568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308196242986543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050007940891714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26025467162137705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950691215267987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4941793792615127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22662482412757595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wichitabyeb,2019/01/18,"Baby Video Monitors.... worth it? First time Father to be and first time posting here. We are expecting at the end of June and have been purchasing some things to get a jump start. 

What’s your guys take on baby monitors. Are they worth it?

If so, which one do you guys have. I just purchased one of the new Owlet Video Cams today and am back and forth whether we should keep it or return it for something else. ",2.181759259259259,4.433445740740744,2.489614197530866,95.24701388888893,79.24691358024691,6.0253086419753075,20.001543209876548,7.1686216300943375,0.2688876543209875,319,8,69,4,8,97,61,81,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.4871,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,13,8,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,6,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,6,0,7,10,1,15,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,3,11,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812509527098451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969103614122796,0.0,0.20877429497542507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009995940098123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315181227751093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4667915372638636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951509407241173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22765585426604876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194543452215369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257506437720496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146559131193116,0.0,0.0,0.166840904676205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722899762232888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565991488547503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748956365517694,0.0,0.2234310814419908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spare_drive,2019/01/18,"My [40M] son [15M] is becoming more distant towards me. My son hasn't really been wanting to spend any time with me. He's been spending more time with his friends. In the past, he always wanted to be around me, but now that's starting to change. When I ask him if he wants to go out with me, he refuses.

Whenever we do go out together, it's not the same. He just seems a little annoyed and as if he's ready to go home or would rather be doing something else.

We still talk, but he's just becoming a little distant. He's been wanting to go out more on his own now, instead of always going out with me.

Could it be because he's growing up?",2.4091176470588245,3.2948863823529417,4.203705882352942,89.14717647058825,74.88235294117645,7.2047058823529415,26.835294117647056,7.554174236665415,1.3003170588235298,492,18,111,6,10,167,80,136,0.023,0.92,0.057,0.5251,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,9,2,1,0,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,30,24,8,0,9,9,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,12,0,1,1,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,3,0,13,1,21,16,5,25,0,0,0,0,20,11,0,4,8,73,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690499385053571,0.0,0.0,0.10994325093675204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439233342868695,0.1511425227646742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855442020530893,0.35711047040351057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102870104733686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908281363375887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505712829641245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249082347968042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459412737968796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621712997404202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32407783534041545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433526614043475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357192672825966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718111679050258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446384980161568,0.0,0.0,0.11443305119310268,0.0,0.12911234524500725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994671244704606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885457676661449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38143592902981804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484793049433666,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Secretitnerd1,2019/01/18,"2 month old hasn't napped all day I work from home and my wife is a SAHM. Be hasn't slept since he woke up at 730 this morning except for 10 minutes or so after nursing each time. 

My wife went to a doctors appointment and he's now in the next room fussing, but I need him to sleep, so I'm hoping if I wait it out he'll get tired and fall asleep.",2.5530769230769224,2.505140461538464,3.806820512820515,95.55484615384614,73.87179487179488,6.752820512820513,23.29230769230769,5.6839178017228535,0.0863969230769226,268,6,69,1,5,88,64,78,0.053,0.8909999999999999,0.056,0.0689,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,4,5,3,0,1,13,13,8,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,6,1,10,8,2,14,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,3,7,36,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18707520813561498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969053720165869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155288785113094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29097016790939034,0.2881112054245178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23153612533022064,0.0,0.0,0.21508789176516094,0.0,0.0,0.3084994227824299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043862678275216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399541027275543,0.0,0.29028577729736404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914581607299428,0.3334000207327023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268903624821496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21117899221680206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BreachedandCleared,2019/01/18,"How do i tell my SO that i want to be included in decisions about our child..? So I don't even know how to start the conversation... Basically we've not been together long, and my GF is pregnant, we found out 3 days ago... I feel horrible for having to go to reddit for this but every attempt I make just digs a deeper hole for me... Just for a little back story this will be my 3rd child and her first, she is really good with my kids (her biggest problem is not wanting to overstep which I understand and respect).

So when I'm trying to talk about baby names and doctors last night she kinda got offended... She basically told me that it was her decision and hers alone (the doctor part I can completely understand I was just trying to give her some insight as to what to expect). And then today she went out for some errands and to hang out with her ex bf (I'm not 100% fine with but that's not the issue). So when she got home I naturally asked how it went and what happened... She told me he was super excited to be a God Father, which I immediately said ""What..?"" And then shit hit the fan...

Currently she is napping because that's what she does when I upset her (this is the second time). I just don't know how to start the conversation as to this is OUR child and we need to be a team to raise a child together... She's currently watching me and my ex wife fight nearly everyday (not in front of my kids) about dumb shit like ""you didn't send blah blah blah"" or "" the kids aren't going to blah blah blah"" or "" this person isn't watching them because...."" You get the idea... 

I just want to be able to have a say in my child's life, I'm not asking her let me make every decision, just to be included...



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parenting,jeremyjava,2019/01/18,"Any book suggestions for a tween boy with many questions about puberty? Hopefully something with humor, but that gets into the gory details of things like zits and not wearing out any sensitive parts of the body? We talk with him candidly, but a book would be a nice thing for him to read on his own, so he won't feel any embarrassment or shyness about asking questions. On a related note, we went to NEMO, the Science Museum in Amsterdam last summer, which had an amazing video about going through puberty. I can't imagine the US having something like it in a museum, but seeing if I can find a copy online or ask them for access to it. Anyone else seen it?",8.582857142857144,7.149660619047619,8.520634920634922,71.37714285714289,61.85714285714285,11.89206349206349,36.873015873015866,10.864195022040775,3.9187396825396816,522,20,95,11,6,170,90,126,0.022,0.81,0.168,0.9612,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,1,0,4,7,0,1,11,0,7,3,2,0,0,22,16,8,0,3,7,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,7,8,0,0,5,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,3,9,6,21,10,2,10,0,0,2,0,15,6,0,6,4,66,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613786490327711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385863333101943,0.18149826478673795,0.0,0.0,0.3311992336817736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967597894846056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14797562121110594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956602407595124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190043278554545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254701374948443,0.0,0.1006713028045828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593747019848952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439067520872198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308083449480602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958958545565568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19182261136144288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968689985088607,0.0,0.17718539970035085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115562457345626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272738147553358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14237638354408408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536451984255044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130745585750541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642082035948184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258333719521328,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thcharmed1,2019/01/18,"Asking fathers, was it hard for you to bond with your child at first? My husband doesnt seem to have a strong bond with our 15 month old son. He acts like spending time with him is a chore and its breaking my heart. I get kids are tough, but my love for our son makes me want to spend time with him and do all the things he needs. I have to ask him to do the simplest things like play with him or change his diaper etc etc. Is this something I need to worry about? Its causing alot of fights and I cant take it anymore. I'm on the brink of marriage counseling over this. 

Just some examples, he just sits on his phone while hes supposed to be watching him,has left him in a soiled diaper too long causing a rash bc he doesnt pay attention, and would rather be playing video games than spend time with him. I've talked to him multiple times about this and he will change for a day or two then it's right back to square one.

So my question is, how long did it take for you to really bond with your son(daughter)?am I wrong for my concern? Need advice .",3.120619266055044,4.171495041284409,3.364116972477067,95.211129587156,73.35779816513761,6.917889908256881,22.799311926605505,7.1686216300943375,0.4231000000000007,821,20,192,8,16,252,129,218,0.078,0.8240000000000001,0.098,0.5505,0,0,1,0,1,1,21.0,2,4,0,2,9,9,1,0,9,0,18,3,2,4,1,33,31,12,0,6,6,4,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,2,11,12,0,0,3,4,4,1,3,3,0,3,2,3,27,6,32,25,5,24,0,0,2,1,36,8,0,6,15,120,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318195939296196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337813799878906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25222060076298786,0.0,0.0,0.10372731425374604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277152349906688,0.2854058602226464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699727772241182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008911857539415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147431510886096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047801151962635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084103839093045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985336017853485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656577035605664,0.0,0.0,0.13180752736518672,0.0,0.0,0.238758850087079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174963076065827,0.0,0.09004466299806567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767334057178883,0.0,0.0,0.3000728088094437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155150188518198,0.0,0.09140956436671782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511152911124908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641834575652392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115201132064745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280498240613065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385014883969826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20285121436770434,0.10842493985494588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923888269022625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31463764083199897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177457453408875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956562902741131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699425073962693,0.0,0.09582681794576273,0.14748847681435698,0.0,0.0
parenting,Adenoidsagain,2019/01/18,"Any stories of adenoid regrowth or return of sleep apnea in toddlers? My son had issues with failure to thrive, dysphagia and ear infections related to large adenoids and had them removed in June 2018 at 11 months old. Symptoms have returned with lack of growth, barely eating, chronic congestion and sleep apnea (that I can hear). Just wanted to hear other similar stories to see if I should be searching in another direction also.",9.8622,9.982114386666673,9.029166666666667,63.72375000000001,58.46666666666667,11.233333333333334,44.08333333333333,10.686352973137794,5.302533333333334,349,19,47,7,4,110,59,75,0.07200000000000001,0.895,0.033,-0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,8,3,0,0,11,10,6,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,13,6,1,11,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,2,5,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926774261304694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384558728895068,0.25264370692724825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465389495757229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5431075671564617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514758841678944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923138086389089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528231064582525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199578837275974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4822224898697106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25042604863676937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211102835441433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,foohwybs,2019/01/18,"Parents of *homeschooled children, how do they get socializing in? Asking specifically parents who homeschool their kids.

I have a 6 year old who’s been homeschooled since the beginning of the year. We live in an area where public school is horrendous. We made the decision to pull him out because keeping him in public school was doing more harm than good.

Kiddo had a lot of behavioral issues that have gotten a lot better since, his math skills have improved tremendously (he’s above average in of his other subjects except math where he was below average) it’s pretty amazing. 

But one thing we’re struggling with is socialization.

The only thing the public school was good for was the socialization. For the past home school year, we’ve been going to homeschool meet ups. We tried a few but some were not a good fit. We finally found a group who is a little family to us. We see them every Friday. I take kiddo to the park every day at around 12-1pm but there’s not many kids his age when we go. By the time all the kids get out of school (and kids his age can go to the park), it’s time for me to start dinner, so we can’t be at the park at that time.

Kiddo is interested in joining Boy Scouts so we are currently pursuing that.

Also looking into our nearest ymca for any child activities that aren’t too pricey.

I’m constantly on the search for activities at the library (we go to the library at least 4 times a week) but not many kiddos show up. It’s not consistent. I don’t have much (or any) income to put him in activities like classes. I had to quit my job to homeschool him and our house is running on one income. We don’t have enough money to put him in activities. He was in karate (before homeschooling) but we realized it wasn’t a very sociable activity, he had issues paying attention to the instructor, it just wasn’t a good fit for the moment.

Apart from me and my partner, kiddo doesn’t really see many people. We moved not very long ago and all our friends and family are in our home state. Kiddo is an only child. 

I haven’t made many mom friends around here. I have a couple who we’ve done play dates with but the parent has a wonky schedule and can’t meet up much. We drive 40 mins (one way) to meet with the homeschool group. 

It feels like I’m looking for something that doesn’t exist. A place where kids meet up and the parents are there. Is there anything like that? Or do I just have to accept the fact that if I want my kid to have constant socialization, I’m going to have to fork over $200 to put him in a club? 

Where do you take your kids to socialize?



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parenting,TracyIvenson,2019/01/18,"When Kids Start Masturbating I found this on Quora when one asked what to do as they saw [their toddler daughter was ""humping"" things.](https://www.quora.com/How-are-you-supposed-to-react-when-your-toddler-daughter-is-humping-things)

People give detail advice on how to check if she got an infection and stay as casual as possible.

What are your opinion and real experience? ",7.747142857142857,10.410275460317461,6.555746031746036,70.50314285714288,64.23809523809524,8.84952380952381,33.234920634920634,9.3871,3.519021587301588,306,13,43,6,5,92,48,63,0.0,0.964,0.036000000000000004,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,0,7,9,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,5,1,7,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,8,2,0,2,3,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298858698857956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859147047951161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991655918785365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353326019362036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933850713830091,0.0,0.0,0.2446044143302561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20724190278112697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21202767691845267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344783328888651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34810750781934685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21647178737132605,0.325979718905947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imaminxkitty,2019/01/18,"Moms to be, and current moms. Have you dealt with this before? (xpost/r/pregnant) It was suggested to post my question here in parenting, so here I am.

So, I'm pregnant with my first. And I've already come to the conclusion that when I need a baby sitter I will not leave my child in the care of anyone besides my immediate family which includes my mom, sister and step-father (I'm even weary about him)
When I've told this to my friends they seem to want to step in and say ""And me too!"".. And out of politeness I usually smile and nod, but when I think of it now it's kind of annoying and.. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I don't trust anyone but my mom mostly. And I could see how the fact that I don't trust my friends or anyone outside of my family like that could be a little offensive, but if that's the decision I want to make with my baby then I don't think people should feel obligated to step in. Anyone else dealing or have dealt with this before? Am I weird for being annoyed about it?",2.3977563025210067,3.839476842857145,4.005742296918768,88.34533613445379,75.80952380952381,7.226890756302521,23.305322128851554,7.928766900206844,1.053935574229692,787,23,171,12,17,263,107,210,0.103,0.787,0.109,-0.6597,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,1,2,13,12,3,0,6,0,16,0,0,2,1,42,32,23,0,8,8,6,2,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,12,15,0,0,8,0,0,3,5,5,0,1,2,4,26,7,26,23,1,18,0,1,1,0,17,6,0,6,9,117,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003168875575027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119580034818156,0.12073387342670283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005344749287194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201386365272402,0.0,0.0,0.10150272953804504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816018712628366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148068928516825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843438416632637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782761101854338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221650047912544,0.0,0.11915985011564767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022872286709752,0.0,0.0,0.18207502742901016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614270544205486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270497759055662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247681746637562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057567270929663815,0.11809966103261685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865446859067671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5520185250566344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737170543883517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083964532532194,0.0,0.0,0.08169059275166632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285147940146767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199997115468914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937055621676372,0.0,0.0,0.09389767627114046,0.10727077330112401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510053071369249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125945184881318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977644524703424,0.0,0.20850293823749647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iamliamsmall,2019/01/18,"Pooping My daughter is 5 weeks old, she has problems pooing like all normal babies... I'm reading conflicting information about stimulating her button with a warm cloth. Some sites say it's fine, others say don't do it cus baby needs to learn how to poop themselves! My daughter has now gone 4 days without a poop and is visibly trying to push, but nothing is happening! You can tell it's doing her head in!

 I have tried the washcloth thing and like a shot she was pooping! 
But now I've read that it 'could' stop her learning herself, I'm a little confused! 

Help please! ",3.992111111111111,5.885807645454545,4.623939393939394,83.68035353535353,72.54545454545455,6.707070707070707,28.58585858585859,7.3871296695380915,1.70310101010101,451,18,83,5,9,144,81,110,0.081,0.77,0.149,0.768,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,5,0,12,5,5,2,1,20,17,5,0,4,3,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,3,0,2,3,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,3,10,4,7,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,8,50,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672036881640079,0.0,0.0,0.13505765333883468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18518815045926296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21492387080276854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403688535897617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462267101204232,0.20989242407927364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552812166449198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051857355185432,0.20094276664183894,0.0,0.2197495619598603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298787034179348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038528956924212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4189504846893967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33307610574164986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508330225250748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830410612935933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912839296223398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843629258257961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798294548635062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187202904080465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BamaBrat52,2019/01/18,"To wax or not to wax At what age would you start having your daughters upper lip waxed? No one else in the family notices it, but I do. She's blonde just like me, but I've always had trouble with my upper lip too, it's bizarre. However, I don't remember getting waxed until late high school and she's still in elementary. ",1.3392857142857153,3.600579984848487,3.1053246753246766,89.59227272727274,82.48484848484848,6.195670995670996,21.549783549783545,7.447530270364453,0.8203965367965371,253,8,53,4,7,84,52,66,0.122,0.8290000000000001,0.049,-0.5927,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,0,9,7,5,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,1,8,1,7,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,1,6,34,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521965046516588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25319415327773936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857278010751732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15835285970014465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32023293315865003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419005445577353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807525381494366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450718136615977,0.0,0.0,0.20538272305516586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433437167166357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067448966525659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21452980578882536,0.0,0.2420493560344799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21530758786307366,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mountainskygirl,2019/01/18,"Job hunting and young adults How do some of you deal with the transition of young people looking for professional, career oriented opportunities?

I have a college age child that needs to start writing cover letters and emails for professional internships in their chosen field. Unfortunately my college student is more shy and introverted, so it’s like asking them be on American Idol dancing in their underwear, lol!

My kid is a great student, has had part time jobs, is responsible and respectful, but is really being completely unmotivated about this next transition phase. They’re pursuing a field they’re talented and passionate about, so the reluctance is beyond me! They understand how critical this is to their success, but they are not following through and are kind of dragging their feet.

Any advice or strategies you have would appreciated!",10.630140845070422,11.476080570422539,9.780387323943664,56.55677816901414,56.67605633802818,13.86056338028169,43.102112676056336,13.023866798666859,6.3946309859154935,699,36,98,24,8,222,102,142,0.083,0.727,0.189,0.955,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,7,2,7,8,0,0,5,1,16,2,1,2,0,18,22,13,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,13,8,15,18,3,12,0,0,1,1,17,4,0,2,7,70,17,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315493719877633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113730868921675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152064032387947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484424749111373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442898715977325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612433724670201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.470281916624676,0.0,0.0,0.2467518368259661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115764088155832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989822535860257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756988936144757,0.0,0.0,0.2520039915717696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25659882859640776,0.0,0.16427454051731086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179923630191275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771774290137856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817018010474738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24667817970980346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683258069113301,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vettaleda,2019/01/18,"Question about spanking I would expect that this subreddit is most likely against spanking, due to the consensus delivered by current and past research, but I recognize this is a controversial issue among parents and in society. 

My question is simple. How many spankings are typically given in one punishment session? To clarify, how many strikes do you think are delivered on average? ",8.494761904761905,11.343585142857144,8.24146031746032,58.417428571428616,62.650793650793645,12.024126984126985,47.52063492063492,11.602472056035307,7.167116825396825,316,22,38,11,5,101,50,63,0.151,0.8490000000000001,0.0,-0.8782,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,0,11,9,5,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,1,9,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,3,4,32,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791722656434428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067377161807234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5423511746592803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812465915496547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29699705502316315,0.0,0.255333193681327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992618307487559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138586473932946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000510780294846,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hollyfkinwood,2019/01/18,"Going from one to two kids Parents of more than one: what was it like transitioning from having one child to two? I'm due in May with my second daughter and I'm curious about what experiences you folks have had.

What were the awesome things? What were the difficult things? Anything you wish you knew beforehand? 

Thanks in advance ❤️",2.543690476190477,5.4547805714285715,3.027281746031747,87.38473214285717,84.55555555555556,6.324603174603175,23.74801587301588,7.6454224807358475,1.4409063492063487,268,10,50,5,8,83,47,63,0.035,0.75,0.215,0.9179,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,13,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,5,0,4,2,10,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,2,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028798565654053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24996755733792356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522950509469856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484413747903653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194823899129529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837473864039965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23526727847135065,0.0,0.0,0.33953938988886223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992517021822371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938588625446588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yjygwzs,2019/01/18,"Good online parenting course? Hello everyone! First time poster here. I am a first time dad to a two year old daughter. 
I really want to be the best dad I can for my daughter. I think taking some online courses on parenting would be very helpful.
Does anyone have any experience or suggestions for taking the online courses? Thanks very much in advance!",3.3234375000000007,6.408879468750005,4.123750000000001,79.74625000000002,82.4375,6.95,25.1875,8.07648339933343,2.2066625,282,11,45,6,8,90,46,64,0.0,0.772,0.228,0.9396,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,11,1,0,2,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,3,6,8,3,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,6,29,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455311155013336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834988219399005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207644218942501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315058392414145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18906585424804934,0.0,0.1935472423472518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366030489496028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659574635517618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326228920315287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545151635847808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20762314206079674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43940521519351344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675562066603607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975355678813882,0.0,0.0,0.18216497151714392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678213723539802,0.0,0.0,0.2307501323904165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932826628055454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32651414778545396,0.11670427850433285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055566186592294,0.0,0.0,0.12741679857799634
parenting,TheGear,2019/01/18,"Chapter Books - Age Appropriate to read to your children? Hi all, i'm looking for some fun books to read to my 6 year old. Not just any old books, but chapter books full of adventure, but age appropriate context, ones that feature characters, story lines, places. 

You see, I started reading The Hobbit to my son and he seems to really enjoy it. It has some scary parts, some adventure, fantasy elements and lots of characters. It's been great but sometimes I think it may be above his head in terms of what events are transpiring or what things look like in the world of Tolkien. I don't often have to describe things to him, he listens mostly without asking, but I do show him pictures of characters, specifcally what a troll, gobling, dwarf, or halfling are (Even though we've played the Lego games) when he requests it. (We plan to watch the animated movie or perhaps the movie trilogy, but we're still debating that given his age, he didn't make it through Harry Potter but that was a year ago.)

So given that, do you have any recommendations, they can be fiction or non-fiction, but age appropriate would be best, chapter books so they last at least awhile and he can become invested and appreciate the story.  (We bought the Kindle edition so if that helps with selection, it works for us :) ) Thanks Parents!",5.83165532328634,7.268047342975207,5.711351482741858,79.46964754496842,67.30578512396694,8.999902771025766,32.00388915896937,9.325443323948027,2.868570928536704,1035,43,188,20,17,323,146,242,0.016,0.8109999999999999,0.173,0.9922,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,3,2,3,9,9,0,0,9,0,18,1,1,1,1,34,32,21,0,2,15,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,17,7,0,0,2,12,2,0,4,0,0,1,6,5,18,9,22,21,11,21,0,0,4,0,26,6,0,13,16,121,35,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319408715616662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204360320099556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047035206650466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594745339245015,0.0,0.0,0.15768583335250913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992435717966911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656592742411257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420740469225264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071434378533033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247980622550385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734081582471602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523566849152202,0.0,0.0,0.12774343760013296,0.0,0.0,0.10029795722304194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153396549719401,0.0,0.10181827852281387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684302093768955,0.16271408271522833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698696470758294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508940772646902,0.0,0.09625871492417136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973566520417908,0.13678866089388447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860837504534827,0.0,0.10635293559422104,0.0,0.11999572496838865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833679303766774,0.0,0.0,0.19964863202560196,0.09627885171082876,0.14762709721033465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807411081645872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484273692850566,0.0,0.10938915053274167,0.0,0.0,0.10673852027577477,0.0,0.0,0.19352163204162026
parenting,Jessicajf7,2019/01/18,"14 year old daughter missing school I forced my daughter to go to school today.  She missed two days last week, a 4 day school week.  And two days this week.  She says she's sick, with sore throat, headache and stomachache.  She missed the bus, and i told her she would lose her phone all weekend if she didnt go.  She gave me her phone, I got upset and told her i was canceling her line.  I yelled. She yelled. I took her to school.  I apologized for yelling and held her hand while driving her to school.  At this point, I'm thinking online schooling.  I'm looking for advice, what can I do to keep her going to school.  Thanks",1.2688133640552977,3.666828346774196,1.3771889400921675,100.96435483870968,84.08064516129029,4.188018433179724,19.3410138248848,5.288315135182226,-0.5702953917050695,481,13,108,2,14,142,73,124,0.162,0.773,0.066,-0.8834,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,1,2,0,5,4,2,0,1,12,23,7,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,6,0,2,1,1,0,5,1,5,0,2,8,6,27,1,10,14,1,19,0,4,1,0,26,2,0,1,12,57,30,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788479690719477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136029256069255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823416639972476,0.0,0.0882995799134006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813149839274166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999339972969904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271094035788956,0.12351301817724199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584965920123227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436677488848548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779711093415522,0.0,0.7821380180891785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016444971364688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074195701760376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464939009041234,0.210990109906078,0.12266209434926965,0.0,0.0,0.21569590358065505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265676529399876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842731481831969,0.0,0.0,0.07109608565431749
parenting,whoda_whada,2019/01/18,"Anyone else really worried about the mental health of our children in a digitally connected world? I'm a parent- I have 3 children: 23yrs, 18 and 8.  I can REALLY tell a difference in my older kids who didn't really grow up with social media, online gaining, etc. vs. my youngest who has seen it his whole life. Of course the 8yr old isn't on social media, but he plays online games.  We monitor his usage and don't let it get out of hand.  But as I look around at this generation of kids I can't help but notice the lack of basic social skills. So many don't know how to hold a conversation- or even make eye contact. There are so many wonderful things about this generation, so I don't want to seem like I'm picking on them, but I do worry.  I worry as an employer too, many young people coming in without real life social skills.  Even in a digital world you need to be able to communicate in person effectively.  I feel like we're failing our kids.  No money in school budgets to teach meditation or mindfulness and it's getting harder and harder for us parents to regulate usage. All I can do try and instill this at home, but it's a battle I don't think I can win up against so many apps and platforms vying for our kids attention.  Thoughts, suggestions?",4.657866761162296,5.604129461847389,6.0926340656744635,77.46944011339477,69.64257028112449,9.23231750531538,28.301677297424998,9.478462496947786,2.4948717694306644,992,34,189,21,17,337,148,249,0.124,0.7809999999999999,0.095,-0.7673,3,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,1,1,6,12,6,1,0,10,0,17,5,2,4,1,38,33,20,0,3,9,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,7,10,11,0,1,8,2,2,2,9,2,0,0,3,5,22,4,34,28,4,22,0,1,3,0,31,17,0,4,5,120,32,4,0.10724183093847814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498598168895171,0.10988192904972388,0.0,0.09546796612373633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237934151283504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204488807051896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895867887779149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960298959415715,0.14166443582613775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422469197897623,0.07661358545037981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205886084402646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139930514335038,0.0,0.0,0.07188193871728528,0.0,0.1075723003957198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05893730566761555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966203799093813,0.15149615341915093,0.10478588320484566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900561284430238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158475489789892,0.43490553720268105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080745420381574,0.0,0.10828367803834857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951845878457581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209553531752695,0.11253226155222444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815872408427685,0.0,0.0,0.07434798256694701,0.09363943026522817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122064681832694,0.2061055889496374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853445827784364,0.0,0.09762893516490256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372781654382155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373408711526733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712467072358788,0.06871623503003386,0.0,0.08513803473639221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281016366856156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289987182806175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325401042754468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973167441623705,0.0,0.1033772980910315,0.11629919102254906,0.0,0.3267278548811328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SgtMac02,2019/01/18,"My son got in his first fight yesterday...  

So, apparently my son, who is a little runt of a first grader, has taken to sitting in the back of the bus with the bigger kids. So, a couple of 4th graders were teasing him and making fun of him. It was hard to get him to tell me exactly what went down, but from what I can gather, they were acting like he was a baby and making fun of him (He's complained about this happening before, but he says it wasn't the same people). He admitted that he threw the first punch. My little runt of a 1st grader punched a 4th grader in the eye for making fun of him and calling him a baby. Then 2 of them proceeded to fight him. Apparently they kicked him and hit him in the head. He doesn't have any visible damage though. The only noticeable things were a red ear and some weird red dots on his forehead, that went away after a few hours.

I have very mixed feelings about how to handle this situation. I absolutely don't approve of him throwing the first punch. But at the same time, I'm proud of him for being braver than I ever was and standing up to these little assholes who thought it was a good idea to pick on a little kid. He told me this morning that there were actually 3 of them making fun of him, and one of them was threatening to fight him before my son threw the punch. To me, this makes my son's position even more defensible. Last night we told him no video games or electronics for a week (that's a HUGE deal for him) but the more I think about it and the more I learn about how it went down, the less I feel like punishing him. The assholes seem to have deserved it.",4.832181818181816,4.892003157575759,5.505606060606059,84.9784090909091,68.93939393939394,8.660606060606062,26.5,8.395991825355821,1.4724363636363642,1262,33,273,17,20,410,159,330,0.117,0.764,0.119,0.3846,2,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,1,0,5,6,13,17,6,0,28,0,19,4,4,8,2,37,43,19,0,0,5,4,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,20,10,0,1,8,2,0,7,4,9,0,5,20,8,39,8,46,21,8,41,0,1,3,0,53,17,0,3,17,189,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.1081023842784048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533216710427698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407864965999472,0.08518068464100348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885261567963764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311571522282625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225726571539006,0.0,0.0,0.11420623553156233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316717189493076,0.10020414977509992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202437184289864,0.0791391197578277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3769074804610934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787641680080901,0.0,0.0,0.0929145021802425,0.08859849644973833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979597461752626,0.0,0.09923444424376876,0.0,0.11368917384093373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909304283585207,0.0,0.0,0.1250537631199604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029805027692522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824010534331303,0.4441106741640937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697225797093589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039567218507684,0.0,0.0,0.12612036278667527,0.0,0.0,0.07506537050063168,0.08425090969627075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679883223751845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809432648519902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084723155070817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451800325736476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682399148921464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359532468223817,0.07098143653479051,0.10883785218921696,0.08794457389431623,0.06459496674698663,0.0,0.0,0.21170436509185006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140263669681012,0.0,0.0,0.08885863734157072,0.0,0.0,0.3080742008302378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notevenhere78,2019/01/18,So my dumb sister went to jail for GTA. And I have temp custody of her to girls. Age 2 and 3. The three year old can barley talk don't know colors. And two year old is a total mean butt. So I am a parent of a 5yr girl a 12 yr boy and a 14 yr girl... I need advice my kids have from day one been very well behaved and manners are always a must....my sister's girls are really pushing it. I have time out chairs and they have a hard time listen to me I have spanked them but don't believe in hitting.  I NEED HELP! only serious respectful help please.,-0.3087071751777621,1.6205664033613485,1.9615126050420209,97.30351001939242,86.64705882352942,4.669941822883,16.71687136393019,5.873414542411696,-0.6236365869424696,418,9,100,3,13,141,81,119,0.043,0.8079999999999999,0.149,0.9349,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,0,4,4,1,0,8,0,13,1,1,0,1,13,20,9,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,1,3,2,3,12,2,9,17,1,12,0,0,1,1,16,2,2,0,8,57,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959168651390009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668240453514457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258839862080834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292996998314388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17959998749755726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687689321730662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018426180562588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21839278419624653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973221317754904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4207618257399416,0.0,0.13585746064436202,0.15248195768535486,0.0,0.0,0.22262082486250034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007821559737287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284392622249774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114656164551136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338150892781848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19584995506455805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542554889172634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026491684131365,0.18585657778769016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582184445697161
parenting,starrsann,2019/01/18,"My hatred for pregnancy!!! Pregnancy, how dare you take over my body like that!! My hormones were so out of wack uggghhh. From the moment I was bent over the toilet thinking I had food poisoning or a stomach bug, I didn’t want it to be you. But it was and I dealt with it. I never thought someone can be in so much pain. No medicine was able to cure what I had brewing. Not one bit! From vomiting my soul up everyday to having a nasty taste in my mouth that made me spit every minute. How about the many hospital visits of getting IV pumped into my system, the urine dripping out when I laugh or cough, the heartburn or the best of it all the “hemorrhoids”. At six months I had to get them surgically removed, (very painful experience) only to have more return at 8 months. Talking about pain in my ass! Let’s not forget my big elephant feet and high blood pressure you gave me...I hate seeing other pregnant women smiling, living their best pregnant life. Maybe I’m just a little envious, but pregnancy why do you hate me so much?? I was hoping to have another child one day, but I guess not.. I hate you too pregnancy ",2.7559589041095904,4.855473488584477,3.8211392694063946,87.17006506849317,76.67123287671231,6.754429223744293,25.561872146118716,7.7348632917899725,1.4314107762557082,870,32,172,13,20,281,140,219,0.15,0.773,0.077,-0.9514,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,5,2,2,10,14,5,1,10,0,17,19,8,3,2,27,32,14,0,2,10,0,0,1,0,0,9,0,0,2,8,6,2,0,2,0,0,2,6,9,0,3,12,2,28,5,26,17,7,26,1,0,1,1,12,15,1,5,9,119,36,0,0.13421367054282135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073473586965907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281697933818483,0.0,0.14652656719685228,0.14908113166688647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655671428018458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308080602047205,0.0,0.0,0.1312867233751009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16229170316662994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024220678731225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478514894859286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39752463995699866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418041117703349,0.0,0.1333044583372665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724257138442136,0.09479908467418406,0.06557002003286243,0.13451735708028242,0.11851312999774287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269962202184095,0.0,0.1360715962618516,0.13483567160369056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21425614270834584,0.0,0.19732498134366336,0.0,0.10351385673295994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818933132738211,0.102075544347438,0.4284384246747728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695091872012538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371880751110952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091197715081272,0.1078758644588376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599870077334698,0.0,0.1065506625985211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074033419049224,0.07916270024245392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110696206385775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Reference_account2,2019/01/18,"Best child-safe insecticide for indoor use I have several small kids in my house. 

I also have an ant & roach problem.

The thing is most of the readily available pesticides are pretty toxic for indoor use and I am loath to use them in a house where there are children.

Question:
Any recommendations for CHILD safe indoor insecticides? NONE of that hippie-dippy organic crap; that stuff doesn’t seem to work where we live.",4.179902597402599,7.0881713246753275,4.561152597402599,79.50458603896107,76.01298701298701,7.486363636363637,23.910714285714285,8.472884824447931,1.8831311688311687,340,11,58,7,8,107,58,77,0.066,0.8059999999999999,0.128,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,2,4,4,1,0,4,0,7,1,1,3,0,10,11,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,9,11,3,5,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,3,0,38,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639621900451777,0.0,0.22214961194412253,0.0,0.13942723784852562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151660379223592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4731535295734367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104499580620426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858893098461653,0.0,0.1961857486254193,0.0,0.0,0.229680205504268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665135333651675,0.0,0.2316252200238032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23470997222686776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621263310805926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5312395361283534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926407535422415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tinypandamaker,2019/01/18,"Four year old experiencing first heartbreak. My four-year-old son (Alex) is in full day Pre-K. At the beginning of the year he got on extremely well with a little girl who we will call Kate. 

Alex and Kate became best friends, inseparable friends. They had play dates on the weekends, always together in school, and quite upset if the other missed school.

Last week Alex came home and said Kate didn't want to be his friend anymore. I asked if he upset Kate and he said he didnt know. I told him to try and apologize because he might not have known that he hurt Kate's feelings. The next day the teacher called me and said Alex was crying in school and could not be consoled. Apparently he tried to apologize and Kate yelled ""I don't want to be your friend anymore."" I came and got Alex and we went home and talked, I told him even if she doesn't want to be your friend, you have other friends and you can still be sweet. 

This morning at drop off Alex told Kate ""Good Morning"" and she ran away, he looked so heart broken until another friend came up and started talking to him. 

My heart was so crushed at the look on his face, for y'all with older kids, does it get better? How can I help my bear? 

Tl;Dr: My son's best friend no longer wants to be his friend. He is heart broken. Neither me or Kate's parents know why. ",3.2496915584415578,4.808262291666669,3.3924025974025973,93.1318181818182,73.81060606060606,6.392207792207793,22.798701298701296,6.868970318607317,0.40137467532467497,1031,27,227,9,21,315,141,264,0.119,0.6970000000000001,0.184,0.9675,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,5,1,5,6,21,0,2,8,0,22,4,4,1,0,38,49,22,0,8,6,3,1,0,9,2,0,4,2,2,6,21,0,0,4,2,0,5,8,5,1,2,18,9,28,16,24,22,4,36,0,3,2,0,54,14,0,5,16,121,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515152417520928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210393816633818,0.0,0.0,0.15530429005139929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319953894439356,0.0,0.07356503419185001,0.0,0.0,0.04773069807226192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434115996237303,0.06924961680213959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990525405906197,0.26866158563242465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251584445462657,0.0,0.08600841350507986,0.100993504883165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685204913365186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05171613505512712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03959062099607075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660158394124042,0.0,0.0,0.5444465612465623,0.0,0.04090829958653686,0.0,0.0,0.06567397398157795,0.12524665610024271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783561428777136,0.05248255892946716,0.0,0.15708172860783198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382132132137651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860628044552405,0.06382460934860414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847675060297463,0.0,0.0,0.1315038562484993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306348228734918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327249311048453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432447854834034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694241901626759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328124290708291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22344249701127394,0.0,0.0,0.2377300697821182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05542084672211841,0.0,0.06253014685138511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586847519110828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244558164535659,0.0,0.10632055210499047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847324871325684,0.0,0.06280720124279696,0.0,0.07040072708215954,0.07258449640965636,0.07065319349455447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126708981095033
parenting,theflimbles,2019/01/18,"Proud Dad Post Just a short post really to boast about my amazing daughter.

My daughter and I have had a really testing time in 2017, and onwards.   Her stepmother and I divorced, I lost my job and her grandmother (my mum) passed away all with 8 months of each other.  This was the year she was starting her GCSE’s and the pressure of all of that was making her school life really tough.  Towards the end of year 10 I made the decision to move to a different part of the country and for us to start again.  My daughter was upset about being moved away from her friends (one who was pregnant and others who were trying drugs).  My family also didn’t agree with the move.

However since the summer she has been working hard on her studies and she has made new friends.  Yesterday we had her parents evening after the mocks and there was nothing short of upmost praise from all of her teachers with how she has conducted herself, how she has worked and extolling how very gifted she is.  She has gone from being on the cusp of not doing very well in her GCSE’s to a point where she could do exceptionally well.

The amount of pride I have for her is so high, I know her grandmother would be some very pleased for her 😁

That’s all I wanted to do, thank you for reading if do 😁",4.7252611764705845,5.659626152,4.87169411764706,86.32772941176472,69.47999999999999,7.962352941176473,27.90588235294117,8.124751697461798,1.6468235294117646,998,33,203,13,17,312,136,250,0.067,0.828,0.105,0.9176,4,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,2,1,0,6,14,14,1,2,14,0,29,2,0,6,4,35,39,16,0,4,4,6,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,7,15,0,0,2,1,0,5,2,5,2,1,15,1,37,9,36,19,8,31,1,1,0,0,36,12,0,2,12,155,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737365920012883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22880029884958936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721767991536973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721619969886247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120617931444107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784569086109697,0.0,0.0,0.08042317444657497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147871218351681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881472590723532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907554322293632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864907291413424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083078080403813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691764503174225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600465955595535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291846897990167,0.0,0.0,0.23042979206637476,0.08127760785261011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718989732198104,0.3882437278393762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175992613687678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168346810001782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250961777418851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352031686803189,0.13185723591175244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365897877996485,0.1151051937959182,0.0,0.2332301890211139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179574077627955,0.0,0.2340130836345374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323044412157325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007234381797576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236865899428594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121028177184069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100086206042816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266894171501034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646564415643604,0.0,0.0,0.3014011614320889,0.07181884832835801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189587427312172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17728952266812004,0.0,0.0,0.08649679249648007,0.0,0.0,0.15682248926663506
parenting,rlprlprlp,2019/01/18,"19 month and still crawling... My 19 month old son is still crawling and shows little interest in walking. He can stand and take a few steps on his own, but it is a rare occasion and only when he’s distracted. Otherwise he’s pretty stubborn and prefers to crawl or be held 99% of the time. If you put him on his feet or try and encourage him to walk, he bends his knees, throws back his head and flops right to the ground. Especially frustrating as our first walked at 12 months . We’ve done a few physical therapy classes with little to no results. I know in time he’ll get there, but curious if anyone has experienced something similar and if any advise on how to speed up the process? Thanks. ",5.069452614379081,5.890320830882356,5.487156862745099,82.63692810457519,68.63235294117646,9.573856209150328,30.552287581699343,9.725611199111238,2.692754248366013,547,21,111,12,9,175,97,136,0.108,0.777,0.115,0.2457,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,0,1,6,6,2,1,6,0,6,3,3,2,0,22,12,18,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,0,2,2,1,0,6,1,3,0,1,2,1,10,3,15,8,3,31,0,0,0,0,16,12,0,5,12,64,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127770873694525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349820552584264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844024190670554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755279457480246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420458996040918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085842050710477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981206013810092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060928785784103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869650507277933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4622617534166672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025690083008688,0.0,0.0,0.14681996826959415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639689740750915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940642671761817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485998923855788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148616025843506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083331211147958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514635584871308,0.0,0.0,0.17773056154105604,0.2207646037729762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22513302235804472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106537134437354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hendrixski,2019/01/18,"What exactly is toxic masculinity and how should we teach our sons masculinity? How would you define toxic masculinity? How does it differ from masculinity? How should one teach their son(s) masculinity but not toxic masculinity?

Are there any good resources for parents about avoiding toxic masculinity, or about the positive promotion of masculinity? Links appreciated. ",9.14166666666667,13.36831078571429,8.910714285714286,47.800952380952396,66.14285714285714,12.304761904761904,36.11904761904762,11.20814326018867,6.262319047619048,308,15,35,12,6,99,40,56,0.045,0.7509999999999999,0.204,0.9195,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,1,1,1,7,2,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,4,1,15,5,7,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,27,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29764018201922915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4572867054372245,0.0,0.0,0.3830202863552151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671086390342715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965860587578981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4859963724497989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31091821140099885,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momof3boysx,2019/01/18,My baby never slept well (especially through the night) until I started using music - by far one of the best things I've ever used to get him to fall asleep quickly. Best time is 45 seconds from awake to asleep! I heard about it through a teacher who uses it help group of 30 children sleep.  **My baby never slept well (especially through the night) until I started using music from www.SleepBaby.org - by far one of the best things I've ever used to get him to fall asleep quickly. Best time is 45 seconds from awake to asleep! I heard about it through a teacher who uses it help group of 30 children sleep.** ,3.130745920745924,5.439441282051288,3.5855322455322463,88.30062937062941,76.35042735042734,5.28018648018648,25.166278166278172,6.11248444174946,0.768699145299145,478,17,90,3,11,149,49,117,0.029,0.7909999999999999,0.18,0.9689,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,4,8,6,0,0,6,0,2,8,8,6,4,10,16,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,4,2,8,6,23,12,4,18,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,0,14,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990804533991304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508974890930596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423261896235108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938197900064788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339411244907253,0.0,0.0,0.22314470259466893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611289724926843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379562862345299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830513619455634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797349653013082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865408977170746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6161085436962702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21379687717816492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wondersparrow,2019/01/18,"A little PSA regarding electrical safety I am sitting in my home office doing some work on my computer.  My 2yo is playing with the dogs right next to me, like he often does.  He wanders off to go play with the dogs.  I smell smoke, I look, I see fire right next to me.  WTF.  

There was a bin of camping dishes and stuff on the floor.  My LO had reached in, found a random cord, plugged it in, then left the room.  I didn't even see him do it.  I will add that all our outlets are protected with supposedly tamper proof covers.  At the other end of the cord was  a hotplate.  It got hot, started a fire.  I quickly grabbed the whole bin, took it outside, and put out the fire.  Nobody hurt, no real damage aside from the bin of camping gear.  

Needless to say, we had a discussion about playing with cords and power outlets.  That bin had been there for months.  I had completely forgot that there was anything in there except plastic containers, pots and pans.  I didn't even consider it a risk.  I scoured the whole house after that looking for similar potential risks and found none.  Its easy to get complacent sometimes.  It is also easy to forget that our little ones are fast learners and child proofing gear is only going to work for a short while.  ",3.242035714285713,5.276709275000002,3.912142857142858,87.37000000000002,75.0,6.571428571428572,26.011904761904763,7.447530270364453,1.3469404761904764,966,35,187,12,21,306,145,240,0.132,0.805,0.063,-0.9446,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,3,0,0,3,10,8,0,2,18,0,19,1,0,0,3,26,32,9,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,14,13,1,3,2,3,0,4,4,4,0,1,15,11,20,4,30,16,5,32,0,2,4,0,9,17,0,3,11,125,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287921720836848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615608327610012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799520457070126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352308151347345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12501879115661516,0.0,0.0,0.18645915233160787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095318026521417,0.0,0.0,0.07374610318522748,0.0,0.16043988852010693,0.0,0.11289216268736045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158698214676568,0.0,0.0,0.1628704764888476,0.1511061538554563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336207976143262,0.0,0.0,0.06895974577089121,0.2829428065258903,0.0,0.0,0.23706428891385106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266619351049725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002335433877568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564825994029977,0.1073524696819796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189676379804209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066189775452588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410861030020939,0.0,0.11224974955463712,0.0,0.0,0.22495976549059266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396029543208015,0.0,0.0999081243241676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615852894418322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682508483540988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31518237288990125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20552069935969106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zzzzaaaap,2019/01/18,"Do any of you run a successful (or in progress) business from home? I want so bad to start a bookkeeping business from home, but I find that trying to build a business (on the side until it become fulltime) is almost impossible when I'm juggling so much already. I try to get productive when the kiddo is asleep, but I find that I'm far too mentally exhausted by then. ",9.540833333333335,6.649125861111113,9.503333333333336,69.67500000000003,61.22222222222222,12.933333333333335,42.05555555555557,11.20814326018867,4.594188888888889,290,13,55,6,3,96,51,72,0.087,0.861,0.052000000000000005,-0.5339,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,7,8,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,10,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,5,36,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466093198329749,0.0,0.2717711173454456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747577224714394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056297397271353,0.0,0.2719919199168244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4501826560115434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866877419304654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940687750987888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24818776026788197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104081537778505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431505304665673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344097713457459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525965948975136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peejaysayshi,2019/01/18,"Please help me figure out this hand/finger game type thing that my toddler is doing! He says something like ""wind blow, kitty cat came in back!"" (or maybe came in fast?)  He starts with his hands behind his back and with the ""came in back"" he sort of brings them around to clap in front of himself. 

It seems like a sort of a ""where is thumbkin/here i am"" kind of situation, but he isn't singing. It's just spoken.  I've tried googling all kinds of related phrases and versions and different translations but I can't find anything that seems right! He's got some speech delays and doesn't usually come up with spontaneous language on his own so I'm 99% positive it's something he learned somewhere. 

Any ideas?",2.6466527632950982,5.124268540145987,2.7826329509906143,92.54191605839416,78.92700729927007,5.958081334723673,24.38425443169969,7.1686216300943375,0.9461349322210632,558,20,113,7,14,169,96,137,0.0,0.897,0.103,0.9106,1,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,3,0,7,1,1,0,1,28,17,8,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,13,0,1,6,2,0,6,3,0,0,0,4,3,9,4,18,13,4,23,0,0,0,0,14,10,0,6,9,60,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432148187004783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624023801545664,0.13656404900307967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35387971394029616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5263675017465228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132145864560263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027683637016907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402104947992533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122692958352052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282494746667732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317693600984346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194979174126376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989304863026318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411715499443845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683939492142515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310080633179605,0.0,0.12199477376720785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27931050020899817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243500510647378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361991871247316,0.0,0.0,0.10858170350304712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191626797262948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415274529121336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689552648956013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thesealiferocks,2019/01/18,"Daughter doesn’t like mom. What should I do? Hi all,

So my daughter just turned 2 and for a long time, she has just not liked mom/my wife. Whenever I am not there, our daughter will cry or just not behave. Things are always harder for my wife when I’m not there to help out. 

If we are out and our daughter wants to be picked up, she will always go to me. If my wife tries to pick her up, she will cry and just yell “DADDY!”

This also happens in the morning. Our wake up call is now our daughter crying “daddy” from her room.  (Still in crib). If I go in there, she stops crying but if my wife goes in, she will be crying for another 10-15 minutes and it’s a huge struggle for my wife. 

These are just small examples, but there are plenty more similar. I feel like my wife is at a breaking point. Our daughter is adopted so I feel that has a lot to do with it (no contact with birth mom). We want to adopt again, but worried this could continue to child number 2. 

One thing I tired to do is make my wife the “hero” in situations. If she wanted cheese after daycare, my wife would get it for her. If she fell and hurt herself, my wife would pick her up and give her kisses. 

Any insight would be great. This has been very hard on our family and not sure where to go next. 

Thank you. ",1.1814716981132098,3.019169109433964,2.4368301886792487,96.47147169811323,80.54716981132076,5.2966037735849065,19.279245283018867,6.152001189255117,-0.25460452830188673,974,23,226,7,25,312,137,265,0.123,0.77,0.107,-0.1949,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,8,1,0,1,17,10,0,1,6,0,29,3,1,4,2,52,44,21,0,14,20,17,3,3,0,8,1,1,1,1,11,13,0,1,3,0,0,4,7,2,0,1,1,4,38,8,31,31,3,34,0,1,0,1,45,18,0,8,14,159,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596128742603065,0.17888385561609693,0.0,0.0,0.07309822383082491,0.1127147001270674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976131695104993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582358920004403,0.0,0.5903743933079999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013338602444821,0.0,0.10870233689340987,0.07679228292774956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05616011635474983,0.10311608982274313,0.1832704865354271,0.0,0.0,0.11851027344477255,0.0,0.0,0.0950547916989845,0.0,0.09629168914014537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720495998578221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507237421245965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754543680335098,0.0,0.0,0.09512700849883254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913858266620891,0.0,0.0,0.07175172287157079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776798789013609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431892670928825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283933896662644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161465358700206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082547499894593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584322395079702,0.08986809784702396,0.0,0.11237394324593124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130990707921164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896416150238654,0.0,0.0,0.14282577345950392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267943056888167,0.12354620372141488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297998984883973,0.1169203933432795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869213050438933,0.19020464202968915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916331059264836,0.0,0.2290776284561097,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Atton2,2019/01/18,"Get Your Kids Eyes Checked Growing up reading was a struggle. I didn’t struggle with what was written on the page, or comprehension. I just couldn’t stare at a page for more than 20 minutes. It’s not out of boredom. It’s a frustration that I could never, and still can’t explain. Because of this I have only completed maybe a dozen books in my life. Not from lack of trying. I’ve started dozens for each one I’ve finished. 

Flash forward to adult me. I work as a computer technician and stare at a screen for several hours a day. I mention headaches by quitting time daily to a coworker and she suggests I go see an eye doctor. I go and turns out I’m “borderline” farsighted. He suggests I get glasses because of my job requires looking at a screen for large chunks of time.

Since I started wearing the glasses my frustration from screens and pages of words is nearly gone. I can finish articles I couldn’t before. My reading speed has rose from an abysmal 100 words per minute to 170 in only a few months. If my parents or I knew this was the problem I would have gotten glasses in elementary school I would have more than likely enjoyed reading. Probably would have done better in school as well. 

My daughter is about to start kindergarten and I’m noticing the same pushback towards reading and letters I had. She will be tested before she starts and glasses will be purchased even if she’s “borderline.”

TLDR: Get your child’s vision tested and get the glasses even if they’re borderline needing glasses.",3.660250354884504,6.102902951219512,4.055903987611305,84.91630920118726,75.23693379790942,6.3424441863466265,31.535552974577364,7.3871296695380915,2.1868385340043868,1205,60,214,15,27,377,160,287,0.051,0.888,0.061,0.1748,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,0,4,6,9,2,2,17,0,25,5,3,0,1,37,46,16,0,12,8,2,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,3,6,13,0,1,2,5,2,5,7,5,1,3,10,9,29,4,37,26,9,32,0,0,9,0,17,14,0,5,16,145,35,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397328477041378,0.0,0.19505277559070727,0.0,0.0,0.10136501820624552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016852281571215,0.0,0.0,0.09150837223298897,0.0,0.0,0.0739152715490425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731025941751977,0.0,0.11728788932373245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514003170991596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395202009116525,0.0,0.13027330486893104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128697532711698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373474533278327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095385949622537,0.05599364389591576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624523137006567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514317940515813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148222122938936,0.0,0.0,0.08498336089091993,0.0883958557476923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048654488097428,0.0,0.0,0.07766407121271374,0.1743352122755998,0.0,0.0,0.1272630852479562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357114283536234,0.10966822484161373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121903991579263,0.4585721442046629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319869669988017,0.09133094139904754,0.0,0.0,0.12947896004953455,0.0,0.09480824765169626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244919118061895,0.0,0.09152930755039243,0.0,0.0,0.2396347373417045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336623815739011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781403852827859,0.12466496653671548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304997069955683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834389158815875,0.0,0.0,0.24425127276081435,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cleavage_McNamara,2019/01/18,"Explaining Grandma’s Passing to Four-Year-Old My MIL passed away last night rather unexpectedly. (She had been diagnosed with cancer, but we all expected to have months with her.)

I’m not sure how to explain this to my almost four-year-old.

It’s also my daughter’s birthday this weekend. We had a small party planned with my side of the family on Sunday & a fun day planned on Monday.

My gut is telling me to act like everything is OK and go through with the birthday plans for my daughter’s sake, but does that make me an asshole?",4.151928571428569,5.688325371428577,4.58779761904762,85.54741071428572,71.47619047619048,7.5357142857142865,30.267857142857146,8.07648339933343,2.0326428571428568,424,18,84,6,8,134,75,105,0.047,0.813,0.14,0.9002,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,5,1,6,3,1,2,2,19,11,5,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,12,4,15,8,1,16,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,8,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327342590476146,0.0,0.0,0.1858655527701224,0.0,0.2518261094846659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21836549211037487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498911584561399,0.0,0.0,0.23590059878837494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20339161090203373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208883393294048,0.0,0.2191041399290115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208918923985824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894526711265284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135482827005606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514162285213404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855147905276373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810967762632247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4877697131277131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190523483791534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031446278242786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993406933021076
parenting,ColumbusNanny,2019/01/18,"Urgent- Any Parents from Tucson? I am a nanny (Columbus, OH) and recently discovered a disturbing post from a nanny located in the Tucson area. I am trying to locate the parents for which this nanny works. If any of you are located in or near Tucson and are on parenting or nanny Facebook groups please message me directly. I will send the post so you can share it and hopefully we can help these parents. Please be aware that this post is sexual and NSFW. ",3.7708139534883713,6.196961372093022,5.342034883720931,75.90979651162795,74.81395348837209,8.951162790697676,28.19186046511628,9.516144504307137,3.153213953488372,362,15,60,10,8,122,57,86,0.036000000000000004,0.8059999999999999,0.157,0.8387,4,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,1,1,3,0,1,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,10,8,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,2,9,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,4,1,45,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22047717775108105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865717114762924,0.0,0.0,0.16100922257243092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7200043211105975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35589048398838663,0.0,0.0,0.4657622271755825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600614977786861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006028156999846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801611572294385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mshepard83,2019/01/18,"Does it sound crazy that I won't let my son dye his hair until he's 13? My 12-yr-old has been begging me to let him dye his hair green for weeks. I've told him repeatedly that he has to wait until he's 13, because that's how old I was when my mom finally let me color my hair, and while I understand these are different times, I feel he's too young to make a decision regarding something like that when he's still not quite independent enough to make other not-so-big decisions.

My husband, as he so often does, made a bold move this morning and told him ""we'll start looking at hair colors today"", which started a huge argument among us all. I was furious because he knew I'd already said he had to wait, and of course now I'm the bad guy. What would you do in this situation? Do you think it's unreasonable for me to tell him to wait?",8.696883116883113,4.938237454545455,8.965714285714286,75.565,63.65909090909091,12.784415584415585,37.074675324675326,10.608840637214634,3.4459879870129866,656,21,148,12,7,220,109,176,0.076,0.88,0.044,-0.7383,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,0,1,8,4,1,0,4,0,15,4,4,5,1,21,32,11,0,1,1,3,5,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,12,3,0,3,6,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,9,11,23,2,16,17,2,21,0,0,4,0,26,4,0,1,17,84,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049538299051133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143536132206588,0.17731634106326907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195263886034094,0.0,0.0,0.2545490282428869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027720604434386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353825042342638,0.0,0.0,0.15932114666287106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400732328031984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44616322107542333,0.0,0.07105407369529639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213200082676375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376177525323388,0.1941631179471636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033621851062786,0.0,0.15457847639377525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052272065999197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469211501085292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383456475889542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634793564137369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196592905470693,0.0,0.0,0.20588472736176366,0.0,0.11614765018783507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711996177251375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319133987433044,0.0,0.0,0.08480656061869134,0.0,0.13785902017285398,0.2779460997592525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140696773361953,0.17494502417642288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666226942602728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331558326618533,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeeEyeEngiOh,2019/01/18,"Things you say as a parent that sound ridiculous to you but you push on because you’re the adult Be me. Be sick. Coughing. Ears bleeding. Dying basically. 6 year old isn’t doing the greatest at brushing teeth. Try to show him a better back and forth quicker motion. He gets frustrated and starts copping attitude. 

Say, “I’m sick! I don’t have the patience for your.. impatience!”

Laugh to self when you realize it’s stupid but you got away with it because your the authority. 

What ya got fam?",0.7258760951188991,3.055776606382981,2.0068961201501883,90.52264705882357,102.08510638297872,4.7649561952440544,22.550688360450568,6.522977012572876,0.9528155193992488,387,16,73,6,17,123,72,94,0.21,0.6509999999999999,0.139,-0.8456,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,8,0,1,3,5,3,0,6,0,6,6,2,0,0,6,11,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,5,11,2,9,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,5,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23924967741820916,0.19580818341896347,0.0,0.3104614642590551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252149905624865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642838667530687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304279114833473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073296831691296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672096799552727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827558762407978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40501177259334814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656528442853934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18024078757214526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917646171654552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728889143700212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398461959015198
parenting,Disbride,2019/01/18,"Abdominal Migraines Has anyone here had any experiences with these and can offer tips/advice? 

It looks like my 5 year old daughter has been suffering from abdominal migraines, we're still doing a few more tests to rule everything else out, but it's starting to look like these are the culprits.

I asked the doctor about pain relief options and she told me that children's paracetamol or children's ibuprofen were all we could use, but more often than not they don't help much and it's so hard to watch her writhe in pain sobbing because of it.

I've been trying to write a food diary to work out if there are trigger foods, but so far no luck.

I just want to help my poor little baby and I don't know how.",6.294571428571429,6.195894028571432,6.237857142857145,81.50964285714288,65.85714285714286,8.714285714285714,30.357142857142854,8.07648339933343,1.955214285714285,564,18,111,6,8,178,102,140,0.155,0.7170000000000001,0.128,-0.7374,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,1,1,9,8,0,0,4,0,13,8,0,3,1,26,21,12,0,3,7,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,0,2,7,8,2,0,1,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,5,4,10,4,14,15,5,9,0,2,3,0,13,5,1,5,6,72,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739678680153795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106581766881475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448200877137575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16643307294559884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852481953526788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142141661688287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222021438907232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487203764659775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600009763007043,0.17414651272173473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.430546721306926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947900604866824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386581578147688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784007671607693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395194326226748,0.17843181727634108,0.0,0.0,0.29899902670507666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308717914899136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868114766799233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788707934055305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600983501024707,0.0,0.14217418090736042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011432864014187,0.0,0.12086999767545345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375988654682862,0.0,0.0,0.10500611052247448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12960722460105611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464483226640415
parenting,cavoletto,2019/01/18,"Almost 8yo, not interested in any kind of physical activity Hey Fellow Parents, I'd like some insight please! 

So, we have 3 daughters, age 7, 5 and 2. We are no sportspeople, however we like to hike and walk a lot, I also do yoga and pilates, but that's about it as far as role modelling goes. However, our oldest does not want to do any kind of sport. We feel that she should, as movement is part of a healthy lifestyle, and till now our stance was that we didn't care what she would choose but she would have to do at least one physical activity after school. She did ballet for 3 years but bailed out of that last year, then she choose gymnastics and is already checking out of that one too. She also has swimming lessons (non negotiable, we spend our summers on the beach and it's not like not being able to swim is an option), she hates that too and still can't swim.  I would have wanted for her to find something she finds pleasure in doing but honestly at this point it seems like she'll just choose whatever seems to demand least effort and provide most snacks. I am now just annoyed and frustrated by the amount of time, energy and money that we are wasting on trying to get her to move. She really needs to develop her gross motor skills, she still can't even ride a bike or use her roller skates because every time she gets to try and learn something new and physical she will just completely abandon and cry when she realises she needs to put one foot outside her safe space, which she will not do (not sure how ''normal'' that is btw) but forcing her into doing things she's not interested in feels equally wrong. So, what on earth do we do? ps. Also note that 5yo sister loves to run, do gymnastics and learn new skills, same parents, totally different kid...",7.212009043927653,6.478094994186048,6.990658914728678,78.9819896640827,64.17441860465115,10.435142118863054,32.48320413436693,9.725611199111238,2.7906394056847548,1394,46,275,24,18,441,193,344,0.123,0.7829999999999999,0.093,-0.8906,5,0,2,0,0,0,40.0,11,0,0,4,18,20,3,0,6,0,33,3,1,2,2,75,47,32,0,9,16,4,2,4,1,7,0,0,0,1,17,25,1,2,13,9,3,9,11,6,0,3,3,2,37,14,38,36,10,41,0,1,0,1,43,14,0,8,22,188,54,3,0.1121968214377969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234890987267504,0.0,0.12381198240731275,0.2691712727046333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259537194129286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683941409752344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439213698200484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763623264367365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324293999255813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722179852633866,0.0,0.0,0.09818419452125343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410494240624052,0.0,0.09453066107057342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346016811247607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509172435469114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172364168964326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077113299013698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336714484308328,0.0,0.09145538418208242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192547986966092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538572539011192,0.10126201180398273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924746521179867,0.0,0.16638504291072806,0.0,0.21672077857454186,0.0,0.0,0.10992906336826744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280824096484377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24916258521608134,0.12149822411670072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231584178655614,0.10606226147628696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278879451500455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187615677685914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354917319747178,0.0,0.204279544838108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274918916713486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920105306153436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057441764102824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453858275098489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084573768663352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523485539269607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690203035446944,0.0,0.0,0.13235318440683988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23910420859602766,0.12266961129013038,0.0,0.1445021489773112
parenting,Hypnocorg,2019/01/18,"How to teach a 4 year old to be aware of strangers and danger? Hi there! I was just hoping some more experienced parents might have some insight! My boy is going to be 4 soon and he starts preschool in September. I’m a SAHM so he’s never been away from me other than here and there he stayed with my mom/husband/in-laws.

We’ve taught him about not talking to strangers or taking things from them but never really made it a huge deal. 

With him going to preschool I want him to know to not talk to strangers. I also want to teach him if anyone does anything that scares him or makes him uncomfortable that he needs to tell us or go to a teacher immediately. Being he’s so young he doesn’t really understand what this means.

How did you guys make sure your toddlers knew about this stuff??",2.408375527426159,4.574752791139243,3.006607594936713,92.2677172995781,78.0506329113924,5.9854852320675125,21.29282700421941,7.03164865440522,0.3863632067510547,623,17,133,7,15,194,104,158,0.057,0.8640000000000001,0.079,0.3652,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,1,0,12,4,1,1,4,0,10,0,0,5,3,33,28,13,0,5,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,5,0,0,5,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,6,1,16,2,21,18,3,14,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,8,7,85,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238747917492352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575396451428395,0.0,0.13623066704448533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553638965601393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067117616161126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487086096017854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28225167916970684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391706581793786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644250314603502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909800290021655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566441045199459,0.2210071533793358,0.0,0.0,0.18032867411762865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561867929726113,0.0,0.19388606429712688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227506348394786,0.2553593384976975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17371320768275736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838198012181277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21210665862351927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574092999514728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171746673610954,0.1764505462494613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895111400486274,0.0,0.0,0.15602562054696634,0.0,0.12447036824356493,0.26612001772034005,0.14469494096545366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10998174105863047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233974863192095,0.1991320607121262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952872340536404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660652070841993
parenting,BSR2018,2019/01/18,"How to help 11 year old struggling with school My child is smart (among many other great qualities) however there are struggles with math and reading comprehension.  

We really need some strategies for helping with school and mainly to get the reading comprension + math to grade level.

Started getting calls home that although a capable kid there is concerns relating to effort and paying attention in class. 

Any advice would be great ",7.622648401826483,10.441706630136984,6.289246575342473,71.641997716895,64.89041095890411,9.250228310502283,35.454337899543376,9.725611199111238,4.105294063926941,356,17,49,8,6,106,60,73,0.061,0.727,0.212,0.9201,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,2,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,12,9,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,10,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,3,30,4,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840235801206184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280636789529188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192295206624998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19677827268301998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152457013505167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524531060079595,0.0,0.18889975590481914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092635724305265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396364807583074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19760957663296624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767408097258003,0.0,0.12064225734686936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38117866031546177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329347099283942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937447406061838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377672912087135,0.0,0.0,0.1212715469624907
parenting,chessofthewest,2019/01/18,"Good tools or websites for young (2 and 5) year old girls' hair? Like the title says, I'm just trying to find some good websites that can show me how to style my daughters' hair. My wife often does it, but I'd like to help out a bit in the mornings, since I often see her running out the house with barely a second to spare. I figure if I could learn some basic styles (for example, my girls are super into braids after watching Frozen, go figure), I might be able to help out with that in the mornings since it's really one of the only things I can't do for them.",7.821794871794871,4.846021948717951,7.756512820512822,81.13015384615386,64.55555555555556,10.043760683760684,30.23760683760684,6.742157984588678,1.5999586324786317,436,8,95,2,5,141,81,117,0.0,0.823,0.177,0.9655,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,1,4,5,0,0,7,0,7,2,2,1,0,22,10,5,0,2,4,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,5,7,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,11,5,18,7,3,12,0,0,2,0,9,6,0,7,6,60,16,1,0.22007645187676125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24026648614811966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571313903972055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925903861063917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011458899942676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507451926538712,0.3691793727553809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950252133609725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539386774357449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503647579203106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334663370479386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23093321540070186,0.0,0.14912949941503495,0.16737805867700928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098661045187266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501362775438287,0.0,0.0,0.17537243875150102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640990303995189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620901563466987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941746462661326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172201951872992
parenting,bbgow,2019/01/18,"Tried white noise on my little ones and they are sleeping through the night I have two little children and I found playing white noise helps them calm down and also helps them sleep through the night. 

Found a YouTube channel that just does white noise.  Works magic for me and hope it does the same for you

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqZbZ6qAXPzsTPXZ6BH61pQ",10.053813559322032,12.290143152542374,5.162500000000001,84.32137711864408,58.152542372881356,6.5779661016949165,28.309322033898304,5.985473137389443,0.9066237288135592,302,8,50,1,4,75,41,59,0.0,0.807,0.193,0.8807,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,3,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,9,5,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,8,3,6,3,1,6,0,0,3,0,7,4,0,1,2,31,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915861715513754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483327281431265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4364368826611557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668018365783444,0.0,0.0,0.1976747408139811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3989466523100211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37353919714313577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486313213256987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3983334539501277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351235493574047,0.0,0.1944165468922702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489111067480082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mermaid911,2019/01/19,"Perfect Parenting Moment or complete parenting fail? Tonight my daughter went to a dance with friends.  She was supposed to clean her room before she left and I never had a chance to check it. After a long day cleaning house and chasing kids, I was tired.  The pit in my stomach when I walked in her room rose to fire in my neck. 

I whipped out my phone and started to type.  I have no idea where this came from, I started a text my daughter that she wasn’t measuring up and how dare she show so little appreciation for .....and this is what came out. 

———-

Text sent Jan 19, 2019 at 9:39 PM

I appreciate the effort you made on your room.    In the future I suggest that you organize your desk and closet and making your bed.  I imagine that your subconscious will respect you for it.  If you choose not to, I understand.  I get that I am old school about how things “should” be.  It is possible that keeping your room this way is a positive thing for you in some way.  I will leave it up to you to decide what a world looks like that in which you feel happy, safe, secure and accomplished in.  And that is how the world of your room should be. 

Have fun at the dance. 😘”

———-
I think maybe the meditation practice I have been toying with mught be working.  Is my subconscious getting thru to the every day me?  Or was I just afraid of Karma 🤣.
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parenting,tibberzzzz,2019/01/19,"The Nicest Thing you can do for a Young Parent with a Screaming Toddler Setting: Costco

Toddler is melting hard, screaming bloody murder, soooo many awkward glares, I mean, you’d think I beat my child..

Random stranger comes up to me and tells me with a warm smile, you’re doing a great job.

That assurance nearly brought me to tears. Thank you stranger.",5.431692307692308,7.3422995538461535,4.003076923076922,89.51692307692308,68.84615384615384,5.815384615384616,29.92307692307693,5.6839178017228535,1.2255230769230765,281,11,51,1,5,80,51,65,0.226,0.562,0.212,-0.0258,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,1,0,8,1,1,5,0,5,0,0,0,1,8,10,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,4,9,4,7,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,1,28,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772168440953421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3548043712160204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882848146883993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31935370866364765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262719200216582,0.0,0.3505530495772158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573396865750751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812822367936235,0.29628584994479884,0.0,0.0,0.21380091055716124,0.20620733489957932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Firegrl124,2019/01/19,"When to stop spoon feeding the toddler So mine is 2 yrs, 3 months. She can eat with a spoon and fork. But she takes 3 bites and yhen, satiated, she will play or read or whatever. However, when I feed her, she eats most of her portion. 

What's people's experience here, with the caveat that every kid is different. ",2.120860215053764,4.286297000000005,3.475483870967744,88.5498924731183,79.0,7.359139784946238,23.23655913978495,8.344100000000001,1.3441849462365592,242,8,52,5,6,79,49,62,0.038,0.92,0.042,0.0516,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,4,0,0,0,9,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,4,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,4,31,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250856251692302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6367684533813308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621573754891937,0.0,0.0,0.3043644986962797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24835703790742936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21571229896392224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112342974159789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26013541245203764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23394614892020826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,choose_your_own-,2019/01/19,"The Brambly Hedge My kids are 3 & 4, and we read the Brambly Hedge almost every single night. We have the complete collection and usually read 10 pages of a story before bed.  

This collection is so amazing, the pictures are beautiful, the stories are delightful and well written, and the kids love it so much, they are entranced every night. 

Apparently the creator spent 5 years researching, drawing and building the world of the Brambly Hedge before even writing the first story. She takes great care to make sure everything is perfect. And it shows. 

I love this collection so much and wanted to share it with you in the hopes that it may bring you great joy like it has for us. I know my kids will always remember the world of the Brambly Hedge and their special time reading it with Dad. 

What’s your special story book world?",6.630000000000003,7.744741183006536,6.0332091503268,79.0584411764706,65.27450980392156,8.73437908496732,33.600653594771245,8.841846274778883,2.8849900653594767,663,28,114,10,10,203,92,153,0.0,0.695,0.305,0.9954,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,3,2,2,5,15,0,0,14,0,10,2,0,1,2,22,21,11,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,10,12,0,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,13,15,9,17,4,11,0,0,0,2,17,4,0,3,7,73,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960416178150954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431413308143945,0.16187661489254318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542595839626516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15232492942729234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566447774147185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867837440627486,0.0,0.2517546512581642,0.0,0.13427256086711373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708095895408772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32943167182506816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483895393077643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210723434219873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299009490335437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26968162687849423,0.0,0.09972675505185574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21965479205066932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804066374348911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4483262116466911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692429343996745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080927792770673,0.0,0.11233144027455633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711729794030265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971177799411694,0.0,0.16454479953330525,0.0,0.08812095833746332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433001708426365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962097580558515
parenting,abboriginal,2019/01/19,"Advice Required for Stay at Home Dad Alright serious questions. I'm a 32 year old disabled stay at home dad ( My knees are the worst you are probably likely to encounter, causing me grief constantly but enough about me). I have a 6 month old daughter named Zelda she is wonderful. What activities do you guys suggest throughout the day to help her further develop? She is partially crawling as it is. I'm thinking about taking her to swimming classes and wonder what your thoughts on them were? Also any unwritten tips/ secret manoeuvre that you think I should know? Thanks in advance :)",4.470441558441557,7.474907819047622,4.652727272727272,78.70636363636366,75.57142857142857,7.246753246753247,33.354978354978364,8.296473431620573,3.194238095238095,471,25,73,9,11,147,82,105,0.05,0.789,0.16,0.9402,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,4,1,2,3,6,0,0,4,1,9,1,1,1,0,14,19,4,1,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,1,0,1,8,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,14,3,11,16,2,15,0,1,0,0,18,5,0,3,7,47,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123608350145975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013411375512555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191647440415662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800130068546039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893650891947576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301106814536513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106298003643406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350864969176247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745527696028762,0.0,0.3515468436634204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630371250432453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561020440586634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398696550899408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677560228187241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889312797085799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19630154998885568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735510499086491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175373419973704,0.0,0.0,0.16133140255245285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22456501761491893,0.0,0.13911577272766132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800663681466932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284458615797564
parenting,Yoshilaidanegg,2019/01/19,"My almost 2 yo found a sharpie and drew over everything I’m not mad at him but I’m fucking pissed at this situation. My wife’s little sister was supposed to be watching him but instead she was staring at a tablet while this happened right in front of her. I spent a few hours scrubbing the big screen tv with alcohol and water. Then I started on the leather couch only to learn that I was fucking the couch up even more by using the rubbing alcohol. 

Tldr hide your sharpies ",4.274604863221885,5.702946734042556,4.710972644376903,85.20500000000001,71.02127659574468,7.073556231003039,31.51367781155016,7.447530270364453,1.9998316109422487,379,17,73,4,7,120,71,94,0.091,0.889,0.02,-0.8164,0,0,2,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,4,4,0,7,0,4,6,1,1,0,10,13,6,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,3,3,0,2,1,1,1,1,4,0,0,5,5,10,0,12,7,2,15,0,0,3,2,7,10,3,1,4,47,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036414031082318,0.23595305433810015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556337976231147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21177232286267664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25836012515066603,0.0,0.4356790084671024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20837005061977507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23205167168667226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361668115462186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921000210397872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201229842006596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648620852425443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678270395994568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20351181030249865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blood1111Diamond,2019/01/19,Protein is good for everyone but at what age would you recommend someone to start using it in a shake? I’ve got children who always want to sample everything I eat or drink? I have a chubby almost 14 year old boy who wants to lose weight. Got me thinking at what ages would it be great to add this to a daily routine. It has so many vitamins and minerals but I’m just not sure because he’s still growing :) TIA ,1.3477380952380962,3.6385573452380977,3.0809523809523824,89.59738095238096,82.6904761904762,6.114285714285715,23.619047619047624,7.3871296695380915,1.120890476190476,323,12,66,5,9,107,67,84,0.081,0.675,0.244,0.9532,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,0,6,4,0,1,1,15,14,5,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,8,2,3,0,1,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,2,4,3,9,9,0,11,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,2,6,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20942852310378304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402540799764574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749286085310746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20488249384440527,0.0,0.2140075650044904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998470259919596,0.18796605509431769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542091703389015,0.3345447509343024,0.2305831190535146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23397977625586894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120402201368816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194625128528964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720789379112709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480339191521403,0.0,0.1670234803517556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19711670293489464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401168167657215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18063414345447346,0.0,0.0,0.2467182990010363,0.0,0.0,0.2546822861186225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971412381358228,0.0,0.0,0.13468253354633355
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Together as a country, we will help take care of each other.",10.00780580075662,12.556923366120223,8.148087431693991,61.717414880201765,58.508196721311464,11.313829340058847,38.12063892391761,11.20814326018867,5.0948364018495145,948,44,126,26,13,283,109,183,0.037000000000000005,0.684,0.278,0.9947,5,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,3,0,1,3,17,0,0,14,0,11,1,0,3,0,21,24,7,0,8,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,12,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,5,24,27,23,1,18,0,1,1,0,19,8,0,5,6,73,9,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921459565731207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6687914657825731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619656898138077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586370636757905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455904988889828,0.0,0.0,0.1446388923359091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263804327180224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018714094802272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990222185017331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918301021425989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567243429594492,0.0,0.0,0.09095154206223484,0.0,0.0,0.1440086722406956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045424958401534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476955681460663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863954492169627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529974262350073,0.0,0.1243540306071434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330717762230093,0.0,0.0,0.07738003899198621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955088427080282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TroubadourJane,2019/01/19,"""You got this, Mama!"" I've been feeling not great for a few days now. Not only headaches but also I have a heat rash that showed up across my chest despite the snow outside, which means I can't breastfeed on that side and have to pump. On top of that I just started taking my 2 year old back to daycare for the first time since October. (He goes sporadically a few times a week to get used to other kids.) He's fine once I leave, but cries like the world is ending every time I drop him off and makes my heart ache. And my 7 week old has terrible gas so he's awfully colicky right now.

So I'm in Target yesterday, doing a speed run to grab medicine, milk, bread, and an ice scraper because, silly me, I didn't have one in my van since this is my first New England winter after living in places where the temperature ranges from cool-ish to hellfire. The baby is screaming because he just sat in a car for the 1.5 hour round trip to daycare and I'm sure he's hungry again. Or gassy. Or knows that I'm tired and in pain and wants to contribute to my horrible day the only way he knows how.

As I'm trying not to cry because Target is out of ice scrapers (how can they be out of ice scrapers?! Doesn't everyone who lives here already own one?!) I see two women go by with 5 toddlers between two shopping baskets. When I emerge from the aisle and pass them I hear one woman call out, ""It's ok, you got this Mama!""

Thank you, kind stranger, for what I needed to hear. I *do* got this. ",2.3363606557377072,3.8282699147541024,3.4827540983606533,91.8224918032787,76.08196721311475,6.060327868852459,23.347540983606557,6.55674776486733,0.4798891803278696,1144,34,252,9,25,370,186,305,0.122,0.7929999999999999,0.085,-0.9407,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,3,2,3,14,11,0,0,15,2,16,7,3,4,1,32,40,19,0,2,9,0,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,3,13,12,2,0,4,2,1,5,6,3,0,7,6,8,25,8,38,33,3,51,0,0,2,0,19,19,0,2,26,146,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247289440272463,0.09038825902022413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691137082969548,0.0,0.20670202065162355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154139804561386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483113744760965,0.14578710959024907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001090471472695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523076284120416,0.1080028685981354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057150231676555134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922827102229686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05905233967147264,0.0,0.0642362808645354,0.0,0.27119587541528195,0.12461350467675655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547810007734943,0.13393844008014294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130957611818153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770101909931732,0.1242342021823604,0.0,0.0,0.11968007816347875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521965439574306,0.0,0.1996111660955198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544690762854894,0.0,0.0,0.12312036611393705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380865204108641,0.0,0.10916291515080656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372072420914744,0.12037087581804246,0.2297716065400725,0.17192540976189816,0.12026950593447285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808995270801248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652508966333513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900684911499594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699546251800744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800016304415701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065273263882928,0.0,0.08498280921473346,0.0,0.0,0.1040607758613936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977221878060641,0.12990878332930844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673842985921472,0.0,0.2208233963378441,0.0,0.0,0.09761969467904484,0.0,0.0,0.06666670143201546,0.08971617506148426,0.18132810305441327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278617182751497
parenting,RainyDaizzzy,2019/01/19,"Adjusting your only child to a new baby My son is (almost) 5. I’m pregnant with our second. He’s very excited and talks about it often, but I think he may be having trouble adjusting to the idea. It seems like he’s regressing. He’s been acting out the last month or two and has pretty much given up trying not to pee in his pants. He won’t listen and has started throwing fits/tantrums again when he doesn’t like something. I’ve tried to give him more one on one attention and focus on him and not even bring up the new baby, but even then, there’s my ever-growing belly that’s constantly prevalent. Is there anything else I can do to help him adjust so when the baby comes he understands that he’s still just as important? I wasn’t really expecting this problem because he’s been begging for a sibling for the last year, but here we are. ",5.522117647058824,5.493948741176472,6.241176470588236,80.5952941176471,67.47058823529412,9.15294117647059,29.94117647058824,8.841846274778883,2.2642823529411764,666,22,131,10,10,219,113,170,0.049,0.843,0.108,0.8468,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,0,0,13,5,0,0,7,0,15,1,1,0,0,29,25,14,0,2,7,1,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,9,0,0,8,0,0,4,5,2,0,4,4,1,12,3,16,18,2,23,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,5,15,85,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17769055292031327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602623892522126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817187937268136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152857471552725,0.0,0.19176042108525412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823671388930054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344081167359052,0.16051369370702104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022621949700056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189410015561276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003194625711565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892908849987218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173386223573443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163890541361118,0.0,0.13044617538141198,0.0,0.0,0.3427646518143667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404894391217429,0.13495872919312546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805304551143896,0.0,0.16979569490634303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367902059700802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154382500787262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660968751023764,0.0,0.0,0.1256000307659602,0.0,0.14171180761118793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426275967573616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370280161451884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409538180172041,0.0,0.17334287576884985,0.18473171904692806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464148427355016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427198883839312
parenting,gahsakee,2019/01/19,"Oral B Magic Timer I've seen a few posts about these but it looks like new ones have come out:

  
Jasmine

Buzz Lightyear

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Has anyone unlocked these without paying?

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Also still can't get ant man to scan.  Found multiple pictures of the toothbrush but it still won't scan.  Anyone successfully scan to unlock Ant Man?

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Thank you!",3.9641666666666673,7.228068968253972,2.8399801587301603,88.7275892857143,81.53968253968253,4.419841269841268,25.33531746031746,5.985473137389443,0.8810650793650789,287,11,47,2,8,82,50,63,0.052000000000000005,0.838,0.109,0.5733,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,10,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,2,5,1,3,6,7,1,6,0,0,5,0,3,1,0,0,4,24,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362315859112665,0.0,0.4618383161739181,0.5179366139969656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986944860575518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239131482179587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578590094587508,0.0,0.0,0.07423213400058447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694142316354481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931334200266865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722396420617594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962786390350365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360755617744589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22693420587326826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308102862803153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696226048903104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5179366139969656,0.0
parenting,offmlc,2019/01/19,"Seriously... A little rant. What is WITH strangers coming up to you when you have a fresh baby and wanting to touch them?? I was in the store today wearing my 6 week old and this lady out of nowhere comes up to me with grabby hands saying “Oh what a cute baby look at that little foot!” And I immediately stepped back and asked her not to touch. She said back to me “Oh I wasn’t going to touch”

Then what were you just doing??? My god. 

Anyone else have experienced like this? This isn’t even our first time dealing with it. Some guy tried to do this in Walmart once except he was legit trying to reach into her carrier. What is wrong with people?",1.787352415026831,4.00765227906977,3.098604651162791,90.52121645796066,80.47286821705426,5.209540846750151,18.450208706022657,6.297961479604792,-0.1461716159809181,500,11,104,4,13,162,87,129,0.04,0.866,0.094,0.7223,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,3,1,1,5,4,0,0,4,0,11,3,3,0,0,17,18,6,0,1,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,10,12,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,2,0,1,5,8,15,2,21,13,1,23,0,0,1,0,14,9,0,1,10,74,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594735883646886,0.1992126755122175,0.0,0.0,0.18176230375223767,0.0,0.0,0.29900357930730753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349620077474418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044493271607644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241818866248942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841670841564395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537887403777266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049692184421897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19251256110042286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498684783601592,0.3897323722604944,0.0,0.0,0.16326908754294173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20401764966389266,0.2070576172620486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347906853673355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18494389262831215,0.15461556247612912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337151341284392,0.0,0.1842933570302525,0.0,0.0,0.2640053307097097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467764320415835,0.0,0.15595701495870612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257458939983576,0.0,0.0
parenting,ACMarriott,2019/01/19,"Other adults disciplining my child? Hey Reddit friends, I am having a disagreement with my wife, and I am looking to see if I am crazy or not for feeling this way. We have 3 kids, 11G, 7B, 9 monthB. The 11 year old has a friend who lives across the street and she too is 11. They were at our house wrestling around and my daughters friends shirt got ripped. Everyone there, including the girls who’s shirt was ripped, says it was an accident. When she went home, and showed her mother, her mother text my daughter disciplining her.  I am upset that this happened, and feel the parents should have come to us directly. I would never discipline someone else kid, especially for something as minor as this. My wife feels like it’s no big deal and just wants to sweep it under the rug. Thoughts? Am I crazy? 

FYI: We know the neighbor girls parents pretty well, but we are by no means friends. We have a friendly neighborly relationship that really only consist of Hi’s and Bye’s in passing. 

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parenting,lwinthings,2019/01/19,"Moms Should Earn More Than $160,000 a Year, Study Says Source : https://lwinthings.com/stories/moms-should-earn-more-than-160000-a-year-study-says/?fbclid=IwAR0zkiUA5ME_KLj Definitely true! Stay at home moms wear many different hats and do a lot of stuff. I'm pretty sure if they got paid they would be making more than some company executives out there!
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parenting,uselessfoster,2019/01/19,"scared of reading aloud? Read aloud Pro-tips 
This started as a response to a thread about being nervous to read aloud, but it got long so I’m posting a new thread. 

I’m a podcaster, and one thing I’ve learned is slowing down, pausing and giving reaction time doesn’t just make it easier for me to get through my script without flubbing—it’s actually better for audience comprehension! Here are a few tips for reading aloud that my librarian friend recommends:

1- I’d recommend reading so slowly that you feel like you’re going too slow—if you’re nervous you’re probably reading faster than you think anyway. 

2- stop frequently and check in with the kid. This can mean scanning the room to get attention in a group reading setting or just make eye contact with the kid on your lap. You can also see if they’re scared, excited etc. and respond to their emotions (“oh no!”)

3- also stop to ask predictive (what’s going to happen?), textual (how many boats do we see in this picture?) or contextual (have you ever felt that way? Or do you remember when you wouldn’t get out of your bath last week?) questions. This stuff is gold because it’s more active than just passively letting a story happen and it develops great cognitive skills. Also gives you a chance to read ahead a little

4-speaking of reading ahead, this is a useful skill for parents to use. Before reading aloud, at least skim through the book and note any words that are going to potentially trip you up. Not that you need to google how to pronounce them (but certainly storytime readers [and podcasters, I would add] do), but just so you can be confident when you hit them and not freak out. Once, I was reading an ABC book aloud and it was all simple words I knew and then X hit like a Mack truck and I lost my flow and was flustered. Good thing I used tip 3 and stopped and talked about x is an unusual first letter and makes so many sounds so then I got it together for Z and the big finale!

5- if nighttime reading aloud really freaks you out, and especially if your kids are young, add in some wordless books. I love the David Wiesner books for example. Just talking through the sequences of events in the pictures helps kids learn cause and effect. Honestly just sitting next to a kid with a book does a lot to help them develop good associations with books and reading. ",5.860013916808412,6.743977022421527,5.859052110715942,80.44831838565025,66.89237668161435,9.201051492191123,32.419669089222204,9.314750747691287,2.8155238286686246,1856,76,350,34,29,584,241,446,0.064,0.772,0.16399999999999998,0.9952,1,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,1,15,4,8,24,18,0,4,24,0,23,2,1,10,3,80,57,43,0,6,18,1,2,2,1,2,0,1,2,5,20,29,0,3,11,20,1,5,6,7,0,2,8,7,31,11,51,42,7,48,0,1,4,1,40,15,0,9,26,213,51,21,0.0,0.0,0.05993969416735018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735913127078248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041769541785176896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742193237280139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037442707376805766,0.0,0.05226619309255191,0.0,0.0,0.05432338605131926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309803182278448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053751418061056634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909226942180388,0.0,0.0,0.0685025460555888,0.0,0.055560348015549516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03105716230208176,0.043880388639171736,0.05897542367526532,0.06728556474449794,0.0,0.05224611663060588,0.0,0.0,0.0474550250988961,0.0,0.09627247573767678,0.117844500094648,0.10472380646413354,0.1030368919533235,0.09825068737073632,0.06771874279846378,0.0,0.0,0.10863178024519214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823406811862234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050067697892470335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628088715300052,0.0,0.060016056576617134,0.061561681001630834,0.0,0.054357156004046565,0.0,0.0,0.06705013203644311,0.05221938243218169,0.055436384203379235,0.0,0.12300038617540325,0.12454595279411244,0.0,0.06690732619831012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04554415323265423,0.0,0.05932242571464125,0.06532373751065881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541317011420403,0.041621610664747566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820263866514767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882596710888568,0.0,0.06622405851483881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880748043980553,0.0,0.7987111747645093,0.0,0.03934895397750302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957994464572735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298967451358345,0.0,0.09789187780652288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04347530269197982,0.0,0.0,0.1540563807759461,0.0,0.0,0.07031429542467646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873847806311928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161302422783691,0.039357185559360935,0.0,0.0,0.035816069899005806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914847302905166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875447969792813,0.049269584403100135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05920929023273482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04363292326587632,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curiositykilledagirl,2019/01/19,"8 year old having panic attacks My 8 year old daughter has always been a worrier, and constantly worries about the “what if’s.” I’ve worried about it a bit because mental illness runs in the family. In the past couple of months, though, she’s had legitimate panic attacks. The first time was when she was about to get her ears pierced. The piercer said the word “infection” and Daughter immediately said she didn’t feel well with nausea, burning face, legs went numb. The second incident happened today. I questioned her about some YouTube videos she’d been watching, and when I started to investigate, she had a meltdown. She said she couldn’t breathe, she started bawling crying, and jumped on top of me, saying that she didn’t want to die. 
I just kept telling her that she was okay and that her body was breathing, it just didn’t feel like it. She calmed down pretty quickly but my question is, where do we go from here? I really want to get ahead of this so that it doesn’t get in the way of her life. ",4.864152479644705,6.273080067357515,4.826843079200593,85.01037564766841,69.5699481865285,7.37957068837898,29.8478904515174,7.7094869923839395,1.8232874907475936,795,31,153,9,14,246,117,193,0.12,0.8140000000000001,0.066,-0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,1,23.0,1,0,0,3,14,9,2,2,11,1,18,10,6,0,0,21,34,11,1,4,4,2,2,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,10,7,0,1,4,1,0,4,5,5,1,2,16,8,24,4,20,16,2,28,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,4,17,102,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048756397505758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867781103305304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683300673992198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760338086305945,0.14000237726647008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362048049006583,0.0,0.0,0.13946121227485678,0.13844936867508578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308099487577478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881959257791383,0.0,0.12745954166534773,0.09004322689956874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720982836034824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755258888688101,0.0,0.07163161615527637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145703514109256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902600261129573,0.06157693183147357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701899348009882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060417769747587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645162186550121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957623077311096,0.0,0.0,0.12031974333442333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282283136338676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28238799909343704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074465384506835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35967961023450923,0.1002323181322329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842396871238198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016479159313536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383397048039638,0.0,0.07349512182050416,0.0,0.11947148201440165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868368787997652,0.10004493610824647,0.0,0.0,0.11332538087353893,0.1168406356306342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560001179819069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16233166215695588
parenting,katwoman88,2019/01/19,"Mouth breathing = lifelong problems. Freaking out. So I came across an article that explains how anyone who is primarily a mouth breather will have boat load of problems including sleep problems, cognitive impairment, cavities, recessed jaw, etc. I want to focus on my 5 month old though. He is a mouth breather unless he is nursing. He sometimes snorts when he laughs. He has choked numerous times on milk or his own spit. It's scary. A quick Google search will explain why I'm upset. He has a pediatrician appointment the 1st week of February. I don't want him to think I'm crazy. I read it can affect my LO developmentally and even physically if it's that bad. Is anyone familiar with this? ",3.8785456730769248,6.642967984375005,4.659375000000002,79.19427884615384,76.1875,8.000961538461539,30.15865384615385,8.841846274778883,2.867448798076924,554,26,98,13,13,178,94,128,0.194,0.762,0.044,-0.9633,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,1,6,0,11,8,7,2,0,17,19,8,0,6,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,4,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,1,8,1,10,16,2,11,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,6,53,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905572172714043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734804580916955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376351549252559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317200565431769,0.13723106416979367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658411661542719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180211556441468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5964275698618225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078276471066231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20792147124486146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549124827747176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313153726862648,0.20413436642500266,0.0,0.12115318656064612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450979348022816,0.0,0.1666617015151622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748139086412285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_chronoclast,2019/01/19,"I panic when my kid gets sick We have a healthy 2.5 year old. But whenever he gets sick, I panic. 

I know kids need to get sick...he’s in daycare, I know it’s bound to happen. 

But the advice I need is more for me...what helps YOU when your child is sick?",-1.4496428571428552,0.45028046428571855,0.8050000000000033,103.54000000000002,92.57142857142857,3.9142857142857146,13.357142857142858,5.288315135182226,-1.4166857142857143,190,3,50,1,7,63,39,56,0.27,0.639,0.091,-0.8987,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,8,11,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,0,4,11,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,4,24,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517027853260949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037224954555528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277758677665566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264947759623492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831168779257359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819824733000257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27028536676129555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6044258777457417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658721460111579
parenting,jokerlian,2019/01/19,"Long term have me downs? I have a five year old and another on the way. Have a bunch of clothing for 2-4 year age. 

Can I reasonably store them for the next baby or will they be no good then? 

I plan to store them in my dry basement, either in a plastic bin with a lid, or a wooden dresser we no longer use. ",1.5792537313432824,2.3512711044776107,3.3733134328358254,94.74444776119404,76.76119402985073,6.554029850746268,22.35522388059701,6.742157984588678,0.2738382089552238,232,6,58,2,5,78,51,67,0.076,0.878,0.046,-0.2168,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,2,0,8,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,9,1,9,5,3,13,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,8,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512849749271033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809887177000291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964714341406301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562846838743617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515344185428467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444438989396451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28933924870721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659136639847189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4314681856379095
parenting,brimc96,2019/01/19,Feeding 2.5 year old. What are you all feeding your 2.5 that he or she actually eats? All my son seems to want to eat is chicken nuggets or oatmeal.  For every single meal. When given any other food he spits it out.,1.1623255813953506,3.594515000000005,2.582604651162793,91.86413953488373,85.04651162790697,4.370232558139535,22.55348837209302,5.6839178017228535,0.2371060465116277,167,6,34,1,5,54,37,43,0.0,0.97,0.03,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,2,7,5,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,4,3,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,3,20,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.3016242365897004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21018969697243184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6325461425071586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604190514070337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737491169123278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243347166889043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813811132077277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230746692968394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904183540436227
parenting,thleen93,2019/01/19,"Parenting Blogs Hi Y'all,

I am looking for some great parenting websites to look at and some parenting blogs that may be interesting!  Any suggestions will help!  (All ages, I'm just trying to learn)

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parenting,slypai88,2019/01/19,"My 10yr old answered questions about his life so far and its the cutest sweetest thing I've read. Too add fill to who Brandon is, he is my SO who I've been with for two years and from their interactions I know he's a really good father to him and my daughters. He sent them to Brandon via email since he's trying to become more tech savvy.

Here are the questions:

1. when have you had a bad day what makes you feel better?   when i had a project and i was late to make it. cat cheer me up.
2. what do you enjoy about school the most?  science class and experiments.
3. what would you like to celebrate? i would like to celebrate all the holidays even if im not part of that culture.
4. who is a good friend to you?  my friends rex and elijah.
5. who gives the best hugs? my mom brandon my dad and my sisters.
6. what do you like to do every single day?  eat.
7. what is your favorite book? the childrens science dictionary.
8. what do you enjoy most about school ? science and recess.
9. what are you thankful for? im thankful for a family that can support me and having food and water and a roofover my head.
10. who taught you a lot about life?  brandon.
11. what's the best part about being a kid ? that im able to learn and not as stressful as a adult.
12. what's the thing you liked the most about today?  pajamia day.
13. what's the best thing you every found in nature? a tennis ball.
14. who makes you laugh? rex.
15. which game is most fun to play?  tom clancys rainbow six siege.
16. what are the best things about where we live.  the best thing about where i live is that we have freedom and we arent in war
17. what song makes you happy no matter what?  legend by: twenty one pilots.
18. what is the nicest thing you've seen someone do? the nicest thing i have every seen somebody do is they stood up to a bully for a other person.
19. what is your oldest toy or book and most beloved?  my first pooh bear.
20. what time of day do you like best? the morning
21. if you were to send a thank you note to someone who would you send it to?  my parents and aunts and family and siblings epcilly brandon",-0.6666828169782981,1.4953098515081216,0.8721669851235171,100.09867493517127,98.97679814385151,3.4633683635867345,16.083014876484235,5.319838191461821,-0.8564767571993999,1610,42,363,10,68,511,212,431,0.018000000000000002,0.718,0.264,0.999,2,0,0,0,0,0,67.0,3,19,3,8,17,31,1,1,28,0,34,7,1,4,1,49,51,26,1,5,5,7,1,5,2,3,2,1,0,4,39,22,3,0,7,9,0,4,4,3,0,4,11,4,45,28,38,36,17,24,0,0,2,1,61,7,0,11,18,237,84,9,0.07703412879191042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432027982353593,0.0,0.0850781429865434,0.0,0.0,0.4850553932342794,0.06813042680436965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872256078524989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882514534546027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050880315540885006,0.0,0.19471372788574726,0.0,0.0,0.07535415964887622,0.14524184152624162,0.0,0.03895077013377784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552519059749606,0.09314997431359168,0.08446394608118248,0.11903275362642265,0.0,0.0,0.07389815576307368,0.0,0.12922514474233826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200426254279297,0.0,0.0,0.07905924048719461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496302346543992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04233594256752175,0.0,0.08689785264774695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882296667113864,0.1881749209179138,0.0,0.13604509410784246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549166153236761,0.0,0.0,0.20568351659365436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022144060352648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083435963185004,0.0,0.052200319328321566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553728364890592,0.16684090912117916,0.0,0.0,0.06726322991623351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259170867105475,0.0,0.07705497532119429,0.0,0.0493500354757005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592530198653626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372342738539022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054153468037813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824233425998051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741741645733253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127680277899464,0.0,0.0,0.3582463653618292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491921999061658,0.0,0.0730193467304751,0.0,0.0,0.05230111679668832,0.0,0.07525115033299147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416850462992838,0.0,0.0,0.049607453278868036
parenting,boobopbadaboop,2019/01/19,Any ideas on how to stop toddler from climbing on top bunk? We live in a 2 bedroom condo. I have 2 boys (6 & 2) and we recently received custody of my husband’s brother who is 15 years old. We gave him our boys’ room and purchased a bunk bed and put that in our room for our boys. It was a great idea until I realized that my adventure seeking toddler loves climbing to the top and jumping and he thinks it’s funny when he scares the living crap out of us. One day he climbed to the top and saw me coming to get him down and he threw himself before I was at a good distance to catch him but I made a dash for him and caught him before he hit the floor. That scared him but not enough to keep him from going up again. I imagine I am not the only parent who has had this issue and was wondering if anyone here has a solution to this (and yes we have tried disciplining him but that doesn’t work). I found a ladder cover on amazon but our kids bunk beds are shorter than average (still high enough for him to really hurt himself if he fell off) so I don’t believe that would work. Thank you in advance. ,4.375111801242234,4.358196386956525,5.233664596273293,86.8008695652174,69.91304347826087,7.962732919254659,28.16770186335404,7.447530270364453,1.3945962732919253,859,27,188,8,14,281,136,230,0.06,0.826,0.114,0.8157,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,9,1,0,9,6,9,1,2,12,1,14,2,1,2,0,37,29,20,0,3,8,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,4,11,16,0,3,7,0,1,13,4,4,0,1,10,1,32,5,28,17,2,40,0,1,1,1,39,18,1,3,9,124,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638996964029125,0.0,0.09815466839368246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092436103936883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24564171077501246,0.16261929800158562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433425295536538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308595430503283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982791077476569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582589715886812,0.0,0.0,0.07541055457802477,0.0,0.08203051040777795,0.1210637168826118,0.0,0.15913295811588546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250083345112636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545166235261486,0.3258796639536722,0.0,0.15065118583863366,0.0,0.12829408795759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25490588212038545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302705195190453,0.1365759369503824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145826376700938,0.0,0.09780704355868848,0.1097754176068836,0.0,0.0,0.16027006990360174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509937730487196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246650464024772,0.0,0.14251618600452667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28901467916058915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526837095571076,0.12067288206291432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288687393563406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248584811764987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799590643359052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362062780445112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565282107265608,0.21015930668296506,0.0,0.0,0.1025334473678365,0.0,0.0,0.09294882495190776
parenting,comraderudy,2019/01/19,"Advice/Strategy Request: Signed up kid for a class, get here and he refuses to go. **Background:**

My son, 5, did this kids gymnastics/parkour class with a friend a few months ago. he loved it.

My wife asked him if he wanted to sign up for that class now that soccer is over. He says yes.

I brought him to the class this morning. On the drive over he kept asking what friends would be in the class. I told him I didn't think any would be.

We walk in and he won't budge when all the kids run to the gym. He says he DOESN'T want to do it and only had fun last time cause his friend was here.

I'm pissed. This shit is not cheap and we opted for this over another 2 month soccer season at the y. I sat down in the back row of the viewing area and told him we were going to be here for an hour regardless. He could sit in the front row and watch or go play and have fun. He sat and watched. I checked in with him a few times but he wasn't having it. 

**Question:**

What the hell do you do? You can't force him to participate but I don't want to let him off the hook after he agreed to do this.

any suggestions would be appreciated. 👍",-0.6422822580645153,1.495970508333336,1.048521505376346,101.334435483871,91.83333333333334,4.430107526881722,15.658602150537634,6.0311780096671335,-0.8245067204301075,862,19,214,8,31,277,131,240,0.057,0.846,0.098,0.7849,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,2,0,0,6,10,3,0,16,1,27,3,2,1,1,34,45,13,0,9,5,2,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,3,12,13,0,2,2,4,2,8,7,3,0,0,12,5,21,7,31,23,3,36,1,0,3,1,44,15,3,3,12,129,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577855782971415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20832568572059015,0.1606151693172886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863920197757693,0.0,0.0,0.1177805260362602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735078941859554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229611838777588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550230702359671,0.0,0.08002653236026898,0.0,0.26115511279864284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508444787249077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485637919544702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662969560595302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382445468570773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24452233789845165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649491319401213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158873347295775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436185188688231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572298083764012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814702674804136,0.0,0.0,0.17863273099574353,0.0,0.0,0.2927265915950124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710360826945637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264289577118381,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ADreamWoven,2019/01/19,"Son learning numbers I’m just super happy and wanted to share, my son is 2 and starting to recognize his numbers visually. He pointed to the 2 in 12 in his book and said two then did the same for one. I know it’s not much but I love watching him learn things!",1.4541818181818194,3.211438781818188,3.2890909090909126,91.0736363636364,79.36363636363637,5.854545454545455,25.54545454545455,6.742157984588678,0.9383818181818184,203,8,44,2,5,68,43,55,0.081,0.8,0.119,-0.1139,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,11,8,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,6,4,6,6,2,5,0,0,1,1,9,3,0,0,2,29,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942026756502506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20351310186569244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33421990669841223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27222100724759524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509321456099154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500633505430022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522503203191177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621078524185746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460180054558844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617397911668868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841887276207544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spicymashedpotato,2019/01/19,"Am I meant to be a parent? I (25f) don't know where else to post this. Ever since I was a little girl I've known that I want to be a parent. I was great with kids, I always babysat my younger sibling and cousins and was in general always happy around babies/children. I even broke up with a guy after a 2 year relationship because he was vehemently against having kids. Now I'm happily married to my best friend and love of my life. In the last few years my feelings towards having children have changed quite drastically and I feel kind of lost.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis at 17 and as per usual every doctor I've gone to for treatment has told me to get pregnant as soon as possible otherwise I was likely to face serious infertility issues. This used to cause me a lot of concern and stress initially. Ever since I started dating my now husband, my views and opinions have changed in many ways. I grew up in an ultra conservative Muslim household with a lot of decisions being forced on me. I've grown to become independent, more open, liberal and empathetic. I'm also working in the development sector and witnessing the hard realities of life for a lot of people has opened my eyes. I've told my husband about possible fertility issues, he's been with me to a couple of checkups. He's 100% supportive and says he's ready to have children whenever I decide it's a good time. 

Except, I don't know if I want to have children at all. I don't know if it's because I know it'll be a difficult road trying to get pregnant because of endometriosis, whether or not I'm giving up even before trying. Or if it's because I'm worried about what kind of a future my children are likely to have because of the condition of the world today. I don't feel like parenting is for me. But I know I still love children, I love my nieces and nephews. I feel time is running out, and if I don't decide soon I'll regret not having kids for the rest of my life. I'm also worried about depriving my husband of fatherhood (even though he said he's also down with not having children, if it happens that we can't get pregnant). ",5.798785714285714,5.943452735714287,6.892000000000002,75.57300000000002,66.8809523809524,9.577142857142855,33.70476190476191,9.3871,3.063936190476192,1679,71,314,30,25,567,193,420,0.076,0.816,0.109,0.9556,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,0,4,19,21,0,1,19,0,33,11,2,3,3,65,66,28,0,8,13,8,5,3,1,1,6,2,0,11,10,23,0,1,14,0,0,4,9,7,0,0,13,9,41,14,61,48,8,45,0,4,2,3,36,21,0,11,21,210,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021957237486511,0.14025519213855298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750269448704005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568811057677321,0.09308048520541873,0.07171595440879641,0.0,0.08844651471548348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657863344809864,0.17831383615888652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325406343172353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855422850798473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626400922101764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040500950910779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699816045700924,0.15247191920652142,0.0710094180539721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704577206745201,0.06020954970863479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511441172756277,0.0,0.13209824692223598,0.08084892256405338,0.0,0.07068994897584803,0.0,0.09291884454939776,0.0,0.08345031308693715,0.07452840295461254,0.08971747946594236,0.0754982014178009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759325570750519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17552901229067366,0.23159003813922854,0.06869933559254145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858807533289994,0.12352464918258327,0.08447056207487533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200142439519993,0.21495517244561946,0.2281975958194253,0.0,0.0,0.08544655104845875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807484361683705,0.0,0.0,0.05842904395853615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900257605289281,0.08071680996095712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896420066402299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048503011247858,0.0,0.0,0.080169447931757,0.06702272840272096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943434428094054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596537195706139,0.0,0.06730600605373159,0.0,0.09654229629667473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563978777180944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828045357545127,0.0,0.09828852969761813,0.0,0.0798874538685023,0.16106603829482116,0.0,0.11444098701098865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279074012380092,0.09282236018500248,0.0,0.09942089154865087,0.06689743094641921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061356742749867466,0.17118058025885585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085469348274918
parenting,dhale82,2019/01/19,"Some honest advice please? My son is 12 and he’s into his xbox. My dad decided for Christmas he wanted to buy my son a guitar. He has never expressed interest in playing the guitar and I told my dad not to buy it. He did anyway, and now signed him up for guitar lessons. My son really doesn’t want anything to do with it. Do I MAKE my son go to this lesson or is it wrong of me to tell my dad he doesn’t want to go?  Help!",-0.4216129032258067,1.4391860322580676,2.374634408602152,94.60195161290324,86.52688172043011,5.0103225806451634,16.82688172043011,6.2581,-0.3918679569892478,323,7,76,3,10,113,58,93,0.057,0.802,0.141,0.7452,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,1,17,15,4,0,3,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,5,2,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,12,3,13,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,2,2,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28170823141102075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372335417439511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32767739680200725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19323099235735652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924321112286988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234274265653886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164497596674102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468240281133372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519733189477621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27546814940935505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5101129194735209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31519379417191445,0.0,0.0
parenting,schoolmeonce,2019/01/19,"Education focused parents with a teen who doesn't care about school and doesn't want to continue after high school. At a loss for how to handle this. I'm an elementary school teacher and have always stressed the importance of education to our kids. I read to them every night, helped them with homework when they were having a hard time, paid for tutoring services when one was struggling with math, and let them fail when they needed to fail. 

My two middle schoolers are doing great in school. My daughter, 13 and in 8th grade, has 4.0 GPA and my younger son, 11 and in 6th grade, has straight As. I know they are still young but this is where my oldest fell apart so I think these years are very important to focus on. 

My oldest was a good student but his last school related certificate dates back to 5th grade when he made the principal's list (top 10 students in each grade). Once he got to middle school his whole attitude around school changed. He has never been bullied. Quite the opposite actually. Middle school is where all of the elementary schools come together in our area and he became very popular. This seems to be when he stopped caring as much about school and it has persisted until now. He is 15 and in 10th grade. Getting him to care about school is a struggle. He does well enough to continue playing football and isn't failing but he just wants to get school done and over with. He has no intention of going to college. He doesn't hate school. He has only missed two days of school since starting high school and his teachers all say that he's respectful in class and doesn't start problems. He just puts zero effort into what he's doing. He got a C in Spanish for not handing in assignments. He got a B in gym for not changing. It's things like that. He has two huge test this week and when I asked him if he brought home review sheets to study, he said that he didn't and probably threw out anything that would help him on these test but it's fine because he knows what he's doing. Unlike my other kids he doesn't care about getting the best grade possible. He only cares that he passes. 

I don't know what to do. The only things he really cares about is putting up videos of him riding his bike for his Instagram and YouTube pages. He has a decent following and thinks this is what he'll do after high school. He has always been extremely strong willed and it's hard to get him to do anything he doesn't want to do. Getting him to join an extracurricular activity was a struggle in middle school and getting him to practice anything resulted in meltdowns. Back in middle school my husband told him that he could go inside after catch the ball 10 times in a row. My son refused until it was too dark to see. Now he plays on the line and doesn't have to catch. Right now he refuses to take his phone to school because he wants a $800 phone that I refuse to buy for him so he makes everyone's life harder by not bringing his phone to school since I have to pick him up everyday. When I take away his bike or Instagram he becomes worse and completely stops trying. He fails on purpose if I do that. I'm at a complete loss. Do I just accept that he will never go to college? We never made college mandatory but I will admit that it was an expectation. It got my husband and I out of poverty. I would even be okay with trade school but he doesnt want to do that either. He fixes bikes and dirtbikes for extra cash and I suggested doing something with that. He said he doesn't want to. Can I change him at this point? I just worry so much about his future if he doesn't have a plan. ",3.907505729564555,5.447702872549024,4.280752228163993,87.49374866310161,72.09523809523809,7.321578813343519,25.866972243442827,7.877588486780915,1.3448737254901961,2857,92,579,38,55,896,306,714,0.09,0.7909999999999999,0.119,0.9847,1,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,3,0,6,13,33,32,1,4,24,1,66,2,1,7,5,92,122,49,0,15,18,6,3,1,0,6,1,3,2,2,35,37,0,5,8,9,4,15,20,13,1,5,22,7,54,19,92,90,11,101,0,7,1,0,96,46,0,5,41,353,89,49,0.0,0.0,0.037600263462987615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641210165562083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512209094925166,0.0343003627947282,0.03602086756971252,0.0,0.0362007246575555,0.0592552367061752,0.0,0.046975737253671934,0.042553970672405315,0.0,0.0,0.040435440199661096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357068117588544,0.0,0.1222806542796299,0.03319066130016269,0.08079710743325264,0.0,0.0,0.030763512811460468,0.0,0.0,0.024849020343974657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033718348227839624,0.03943013516460565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03981236305702995,0.0,0.025449068107563262,0.0,0.032463654295147415,0.03681759637797484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078374780705887,0.0,0.06569340682494218,0.032317601363093716,0.12326561828110286,0.042480072779408684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903161799946048,0.038040945938047833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516524374929212,0.12212894011321035,0.03864928813351227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352615590205954,0.03140754483141167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03940010288920602,0.027215270395242557,0.018824082860599424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291708531356729,0.02571944457669916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05664878243773204,0.0285699182242288,0.08915141776919751,0.0,0.0,0.0361583156230002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04103378344534574,0.026109301164917657,0.08791266971737799,0.0,0.0,0.04278362140988996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03642382853704109,0.043437411304334136,0.0,0.0,0.04154245500142379,0.036868537354540085,0.0,0.07746769972904233,0.0,0.040981987934049086,0.03854098179481477,0.0,0.02468366008702469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03290488333968065,0.07330276219729692,0.030641043743376818,0.0,0.8188945503093562,0.030703863671169705,0.03507677005582045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374574632010822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02966270357880018,0.0,0.0,0.0545442501187137,0.0,0.030770550898680662,0.06442653832653007,0.044136620433261296,0.12084150552114513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05794036416526285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05119597715013701,0.049377647542277546,0.0,0.0,0.04493495280945088,0.0,0.0,0.03681759637797484,0.0,0.02615971755110288,0.0,0.11291626022589747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358348604339434,0.13635791736094374,0.0,0.030906886997057383,0.0,0.03464359617024841,0.0,0.0,0.04301798851747108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03912964879773,0.039265927179560726,0.05474200138147954,0.0,0.0,0.024812414068505914
parenting,wrapupwarm,2019/01/19,"Preschool teaching kids about private parts and privacy Hi all, my 4yo goes to a fantastic preschool and they’re currently teaching a thing called PANTS. It’s a uk (I think) campaign to teach kids that what’s in their pants is private. It sounds like a great idea, I’m all up for giving kids body autonomy and correct language. However my son seems to have gone to the extreme. He often won’t let me in the bathroom because it’s private, he has refused to wee outdoors several times (in very secluded spots when miles from a toilet) and yesterday almost wouldn’t get in the bath with his sister incase she saw his “private part”. His sister is 6 months old. Is this all good? Can I deal with it in some way? I know the world has changed from the days of kids running naked down the street (did that ever happen?!) but surely my son should still feel comfortable in his naked body just playing in the garden without worrying about “being seen”....?",4.5450714285714255,6.299344761111112,4.502063492063492,85.685,70.83333333333333,7.365079365079365,29.523809523809533,7.957251820313856,1.949880952380953,747,30,141,10,14,230,120,180,0.009000000000000001,0.856,0.136,0.9681,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,0,12,0,13,2,2,0,6,26,24,6,0,2,3,4,1,1,0,3,0,1,2,4,9,6,0,1,5,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,4,13,6,23,15,6,24,0,0,2,0,21,12,0,4,10,86,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761860947755515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725601714882188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39087621359912417,0.0,0.0,0.1796621604567778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612921931111664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347163910392652,0.1813942383939907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915466741173104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896438761608587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192535326720004,0.1687849598567702,0.0,0.14757648985010122,0.0,0.1939828379875108,0.0,0.0,0.15558987184915685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862341153148966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966961934702073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991833053433134,0.0,0.0859591045140852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043968687687666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846273970524058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810681857713791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017607686777846,0.0,0.1987706940445223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051197183114408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658285203487845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689175996352393,0.11274011055886148,0.0,0.0,0.10259645406065952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517518762133114,0.0,0.1396590064371828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696071970614413,0.0,0.0,0.17868331729689454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dramallama1986,2019/01/19,"Ryan’s toy review 🙄 Ok, so I have a three year old daughter who is completely obsessed with Ryan’s toy review.... MAN is that channel annoying! The boy is ok but the mom..... Ryan, ryan, Ryan, Ryan etc etc where’s ryan have you seen Ryan?????? Omg woman SHUT UP! because of her I would never ever name any future kids RYAN 😳",-0.2831965811965809,1.9936332615384629,1.5682051282051293,96.682905982906,93.30769230769228,4.11965811965812,16.45299145299145,5.82211442006289,-0.5411367521367523,242,6,53,2,9,79,46,65,0.08,0.868,0.052000000000000005,-0.4,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,1,1,3,2,6,0,0,0,2,6,7,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,4,2,3,5,2,8,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,0,5,26,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198692819732506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811057505439987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063457884643177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6517171820865428,0.0,0.26429407028943125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421983743810115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22534768250029774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30659437795618555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20755670726427897,0.0,0.0,0.1881547197168906
parenting,slingslang566,2019/01/19,"Bullies in the school Our kid (11y) went skiing with his school. Being together in a room with 3 other kids, 2 of them made fun of him, that he is stupid and stuff. He said that he needs to go to the toilet and locked him self. So they stopped. But next day was the same situation.
When asked what he did, when they called him such and such, he said to one back that he is fat (which is true) and then boy replied back 'Shut up'. When I asked what he said to the other guy, he said, he did not want to because the other guys could become aggresive.

What would be the best advice?
What could he do next time?

Our son is non violent, skinny and smallest in the class and as such an easy target.",2.537784891165174,3.7703315492957765,3.0727144686299646,96.02523047375162,75.05633802816901,6.290396927016643,19.247119078104998,6.574015621080383,-0.2280084507042255,528,9,125,4,11,164,87,142,0.073,0.8590000000000001,0.068,0.2639,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,3,1,9,5,2,0,9,0,13,2,2,1,1,19,24,13,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,6,12,8,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,1,9,4,10,3,14,10,2,19,0,0,0,0,33,6,0,0,11,79,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393459324260285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26662132496885504,0.0,0.0,0.21929940598137648,0.0,0.08692692703558039,0.1574892112385212,0.0,0.0,0.1496486810161884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560935533725072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22770713477719265,0.0,0.0,0.09196445248669274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104220484365146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823905345285904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493046677418985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573523023083194,0.0,0.0,0.3033109602431141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662866194336882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5425765923903922,0.0,0.0,0.2886352705873219,0.0,0.0,0.1487616858801004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028706662438902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921901227484274,0.0,0.0,0.16324155105635754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315052817843878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410848824043335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321905498587974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129812192564476,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,makingahome23,2019/01/19,Behaviour change since starting school My 3 year old started school for the first time last week. It has been a rough start as I expected. What I didn't see coming was how much her behaviour has changed at home. She is being unreasonably stubborn and nothing seems to work. ,3.9876470588235335,6.662545411764711,3.6585882352941184,86.99964705882354,75.27450980392156,7.217254901960787,27.84705882352941,8.238735603445708,2.0080870588235293,220,9,41,4,5,66,47,51,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,6,13,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,2,5,0,4,9,1,11,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,9,24,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4425413883889526,0.1801786401109604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791713649910354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20981131150643229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704988239243079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376163329897538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007011444284312,0.0,0.2194853256479817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233758495662067,0.16667882427508493,0.1904175596559026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302490271200266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441479211599991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196681797685895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677809555775747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227589012977974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469653359125885
parenting,dreaminck,2019/01/19,"True nightmares or fibbing? Hi all. I have an 8 year old who has done great in the past going to sleep and staying there all night no problem. In the last few weeks it has become a chore every night to get her to sleep. First, it starts off with me needing to stay with her until she falls asleep (Before it was take her up, tuck her in, read a story, kiss her goodnight and she would go to sleep and stay there all night)  Now I cant leave the room without her grabbing me or starting to cry or coming up with some reason that she wont be to sleep because she will have a bad dream or she will hear a sound or she ""just cant""

Its ranged anywhere from saying she has nightmares, but they are mostly very short no details such as ""You were gone. You were there and then you werent"" 

One night she had 3 or 4 different reasons why she couldn't sleep alone, which led me to believe she just wanted to be close to me and making some of it up. Twice she has brought her self to full on panic attacks where we had to breathe together to calm her down. 

Weve recently added a fan to help with the noise and its helped a bit but not much.

If she does finally fall asleep, within the hour she is back up and we do it all over again. Multiple times until I'm in bed and so exhausted where she wont even wake me up anymore she will just slip into the bed and I find her there.

She is a very intelligent 8 year old who surprises me each and everyday with all of her knowledge. She has such an active mind, but I feel like this could be part of the issue. I'm having trouble coming up with ways to help her.

I just feel awful if she truly is having nightmares. I want to be there for her through them but sometimes I think it's just a phase to try and wear me down to sleep in my room.

Any advice or help would be great. Thank you
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parenting,unsuitablewoodchuck,2019/01/19,"Fellow parents, is letting your child sleep at a children's museum weird? So my wife said she would have to do work this weekend, so I said I would take our 2yo son to a nearby children's museum, which is open from 10-5. Tickets are $16 for kids and $7 for adults. She asked that I bring him back when it's time for his nap (usually 1230-230), but I told her that the website says no reentry so I was planning on just letting him sleep on me for that time, since he does that on weekends anyways.

She said she was highly against that because it's ""super weird"" and that 99% of people wouldn't do that. She said that I would be seen as a cheapskate and that people wouldn't want to socialize with me or our son. She also said that if this museum was in our town that there was no way she was letting that happen because then our family would be ostracized. She then said again that she would bet that 29 out of 30 people would say that's super weird.

I think that it's fine, it's not something that everyone does but it's certainly fine to let him sleep on me during his nap. I would just read a book or browse my phone during that time, which is what I do anyways on weekends.

I'm curious, what do you all think?? I think I may just get a monthly membership with unlimited access instead..",5.9538345864661695,4.9677207744360885,6.237293233082711,84.18533834586471,66.81954887218046,9.40451127819549,30.27819548872181,8.418075326091056,1.9330030075187965,1010,30,220,12,14,325,132,266,0.048,0.867,0.084,0.9233,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,4,2,0,4,14,8,0,0,6,0,30,3,3,0,2,33,48,16,0,11,9,4,0,0,1,10,0,8,0,5,29,7,0,0,3,11,1,1,5,3,0,0,13,9,37,5,23,19,1,26,0,0,1,0,44,11,0,5,13,153,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403732538822833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655112692732482,0.0,0.0,0.0711893946382505,0.0,0.11287354447192376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620372430841358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846551102918224,0.0,0.0,0.08727752001413236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048369969004655386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186944092460002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781734968654712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.378683084133228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389760343387085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280070683726597,0.0,0.0,0.1925528915019444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260647042359263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5283967685772529,0.1472489168166854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658430450281309,0.0,0.2779448333077939,0.09437509514798252,0.0,0.07127369760008356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960970336677416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796730040718786,0.0,0.0,0.16195490557899295,0.0,0.0,0.08846551102918224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196535055602836,0.0,0.05460691819916145,0.07348681916893829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740037390772062,0.0,0.0,0.4603702743219946,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xNoooooch,2019/01/20,"Single, separated dad I live in Washington state and my 6yo lives in Virginia. Mom and I separated when our child was 2, she got married and moved with our child. I allowed it, because I do not want to fight Mom in court over custody, that happened to me as a kid. I've visited my child like 2-4 times a year for the past 2 and half years, but I'm having trouble trying to move to Virginia because I really don't like it there. But Mom insists that they are going to stay there and raise our child, my child, there.  

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I am willing to move there but it's been almost 3 years since my baby left. And I don't like where she lives, but I'm missing out on my baby's childhood and I feel terrible for not being there enough. The reason I didn't immediately move there is because they weren't sure if they were going to move again, since Step-dad is in the military. Just a few months ago they decided to stay there so now I have to move there and the thought of it is so overwhelming. I love my child and I would do anything but it's just hard to accept moving to this new place.",2.9600470588235304,4.150350395555557,4.098875816993466,89.24917647058822,73.93333333333334,7.071895424836601,24.79084967320261,7.5105763829236425,0.9789633986928096,849,26,187,10,17,277,116,225,0.071,0.84,0.08900000000000001,0.7009,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,3,0,4,0,16,11,1,1,7,0,19,1,0,2,1,31,30,19,0,3,10,4,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,7,8,11,0,0,5,0,0,10,6,5,0,1,7,2,28,6,23,20,3,35,0,2,0,1,23,10,0,2,15,122,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834408669761626,0.0,0.09425793848498132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019901841432876,0.11437866626945015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746124945640373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721429448692332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972618039227544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047595128241838335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699288299755133,0.0,0.07528463192764896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323914885750124,0.0,0.0843222956235506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227288991240914,0.0,0.0,0.1379619883595441,0.0,0.24935644450020425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495630701092084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307329498959838,0.07513393939149611,0.7003195827367961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091166900705612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985806067093123,0.0,0.0,0.09834617075605294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030230619672279,0.09678166698240437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573118005114814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20066083615791133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871673153323219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747289755579941,0.05488815827348022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063908322032664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05552051340885103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686749285740354,0.0,0.11437866626945015,0.18185055847031026
parenting,frostyjack06,2019/01/20,"Don't Trust Daughter's Friend's Parents Essentially the problem is in the title, however here is some context. My daughter has the friend that wants her to come over, but every time she's gone over it's been a disaster. She has come back with the flu, stayed up all night fighting with another girl at the sleep over, or disappears and it takes forever to get ahold of anyone to find out where the kids are. The parents are almost never around, and when they are they just let the kids run wild. My daughter's friend is a good kid, I don't mind them being friends (they are only 11), but the parents don't pay attention to anything going on, never answer the door, and never answer their phones. My wife and I are fresh out of ideas on how to approach this eloquently without creating any weird tension, but we keep circling back around to straight up tell them ""No"" and why not. So, before we pulled the trigger on that I figured I would reach out to the Reddit community for any useful inputs. Thanks in advance!",6.799703153988865,6.65807418367347,6.47031539888683,80.40974953617811,64.81632653061224,9.16808905380334,32.61410018552876,8.575989854853784,2.4578734693877538,804,29,153,10,11,251,121,196,0.111,0.743,0.146,0.7704,4,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,2,0,6,1,10,11,1,1,14,0,17,2,1,3,4,43,27,12,0,3,7,7,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,4,5,16,0,1,6,0,1,9,9,4,0,0,2,0,18,7,29,22,2,36,0,0,0,0,29,18,0,3,8,107,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318357980510092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906299813296014,0.1380541898331271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920578662640862,0.0,0.10834276459102117,0.2344058732038477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024727199699835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203069073970356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268222639753989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092697879002376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203324143714476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40687250601818986,0.0,0.06878552092627441,0.0,0.07482389463677877,0.1104279218955397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862510009218746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702308412005373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346285398982026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293637193132035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046267477491758,0.0,0.0,0.12355148541595552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013133210916884,0.0,0.0,0.438569652838313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12597828402077293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175241126715787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032919612747613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898992714149064,0.0,0.11507430938008058,0.12121238066840065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677044783540815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370966143794965,0.0,0.0,0.07765490430945407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880026226333827,0.0,0.0,0.12691296783821293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352558974043958,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HechizoDeAmor,2019/01/20,"Disorganized mom of 3 boys 4 if you count my husband (zing!?)

Anyway, yeah. Everything is chaos. I have an almost 5 year old, 3 year old, and an 18m old. 

Everything is disorganized and chaotic and unpleasant, and I just want to enjoy motherhood but have no idea how. I'm a stay at home mom, and having so much trouble finding balance, and finding a routine. 

Are there any simple tips on getting organized and on track with so many littles? Any life hacks I might be missing? I kind of do everything - school things, meals, husbands work lunch, laundry, bath, bed, etc. What makes things easier? ",3.266363636363636,5.828935818181819,4.079090909090908,83.62863636363637,77.18181818181819,7.2727272727272725,28.181818181818183,8.296473431620573,2.241272727272728,460,20,84,9,11,147,82,110,0.17800000000000002,0.747,0.07400000000000001,-0.8994,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,0,4,1,9,3,0,2,0,19,14,12,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,3,8,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,7,12,2,10,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,3,5,47,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495278137612223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20309277929194736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16653728856491015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.402612111230618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27296141278122765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780163560625094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978554711201264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857019576905044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549942078600734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547294304285333,0.0,0.14966327565679008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967586114471297,0.1513925136682754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584106471160801,0.0,0.3497761973270548,0.0,0.0,0.1097713474224082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4700756505814032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511252725269373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916100341496478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984103153692549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807598725754974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087106665093151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923213179804156
parenting,BounceHopRabbit,2019/01/20,"Perspective from PARENTS who elected to circumcise their child as a baby. So I know this topic has been floated bunch, but I still haven't found a lot of insight from PARENTS who chose to circumcise their child. I keep hearing people describe circumcision as infant ""mutilation"" and that it causes extreme pain for babies. Even if the procedure is rather quick and they don't remember it, who wants to let their child suffer?

But I want to hear directly from parents. What was the procedure actually like? Do they numb the penis? Did your child cry? How quickly was it done? Was their a recovery period? Did you feel bad as it was happening? Do you regret getting your child circumcised? ",4.627795698924731,7.415895112903229,5.093225806451613,76.95150537634409,73.67741935483872,8.649462365591399,29.68817204301075,9.2995712137729,3.17434623655914,550,24,90,14,12,175,82,124,0.188,0.778,0.034,-0.9755,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,4,6,0,7,6,0,0,6,0,15,2,0,2,0,18,25,10,0,5,4,3,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,6,10,2,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,9,3,14,1,12,15,2,4,0,2,0,0,24,0,0,2,5,71,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.17221286692529456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734816165391051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128709377806898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938480642865116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805938574508346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655920931763375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923040120413292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19349429472698265,0.0,0.0,0.09220022047766883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605510317579716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.397797353593856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685792608026022,0.0,0.0,0.0969853260328514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045630670595872,0.0,0.08621613196551642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003162232704345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778045079313904,0.0,0.5878594527160366,0.0,0.0,0.1223446380431023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991029174238004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093211853019932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20817751183938693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,daworldismyclassroom,2019/01/20,"Not sure if I said the right thing to my 11 yo son about gaming. Need advice. I grew up in a household that had 4 boys gaming all day and night.  It effected their lives in negative ways. They have come out of the addiction to lead normal lives but it still effects 2 of them after work hours. I was so scared of my son's being addicted to gaming that I never bought a console or gaming device.  

One of my brothers bought my son a Nintendo on his birthday last year. Fine. As long as he limits it to an hour a day. When he exceeds his limit, it gets taken away for the day. Lately, we have had alot of issues happen around the house. The house got flooded because a hose broke and we were out, husband's car had a bleak head gasket, retailing the house, interstate visitors etc. I have been distracted by alot of things.  My son has been constantly playing on his device. He stopped interacting with his other siblings, wasn't leaving his room until he needed to charge his device, doesn't want to go anywhere if he can't play his game. His behaviour started to change and he was nasty with his sister because she asked if he can cut her a slice of cake, to which he ignored her, and put it away. She is 4 and half. I asked him why wouldn't he slice it for her while he was slicing a piece for himself. He said I didn't  want to. Ok. He is normally a sweet and gentle boy.  But he got angry that why should he cut a slice for anyone. He wasn't just upset. He was angry. Like hate angry. I told him that I felt his behaviour has been changing for the last few weeks since he has been playing his game constantly. I asked him if he thought about it all the time. He said yes. I asked him if he felt joy in other things and he said the only happiness he feels is when he games. I felt that he is becoming addicted to it. He didn't start crying til I told him that it was confiscated not for being angry but for overuse. I sat with him to explain that I feel that he isn't addicted yet but could very well be at the beginning of it and I feared it can get worse if he didn't gain control now. I suggested that he speak with a counselor maybe to help him but he got upset that I thought there was something wrong with his mind. I explained that no that isn't what I think. I explained that I sometimes see a counselor to help me get a better perspective on things and to help me where I feel I need guidance or clarity. 

I don't know if I have over reacted or am I projecting my fears from what I saw my brother's go through on to my son? I do fear him being a slave to gaming. Is an hour a day unreasonable at 11? I did ask him if he felt he had other interests and he said no. I asked if we limited the DS, would he explore other interests to find out what he loves and doesn't love and he said he may. I feel he is telling me what I want to hear so he can have quicker access to the games. Any advise would be great. Thank you",1.8946426247792518,3.569927499178984,3.345836354060168,91.54054837810206,77.78489326765187,6.566669764848036,22.65641168634012,7.427112045954479,0.736058437896955,2273,68,505,30,53,746,258,609,0.149,0.731,0.12,-0.957,0,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,3,1,3,10,14,31,3,7,31,2,57,7,1,5,4,93,116,38,0,22,20,9,8,1,0,5,4,8,1,2,37,25,0,6,19,13,3,8,18,13,1,2,43,19,78,18,66,62,7,60,0,1,2,2,120,20,0,15,32,323,115,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744735313100607,0.0,0.0615082665858618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0428041607485268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04401199295019519,0.0,0.0,0.056033612648248236,0.3530655380062627,0.0,0.11827614740909492,0.0,0.0,0.07674030391138305,0.0695168364128485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055668959954215606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317306792125694,0.054220786816819334,0.0,0.1360404670566686,0.07059718398609573,0.05025575883534784,0.0,0.06914116132685913,0.16237500331707494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019933347909876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124889070093138,0.12730575541464628,0.0,0.24174490859312056,0.0,0.057529786295538225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865711595133103,0.0,0.07154518906212763,0.0,0.15102649093565246,0.06939611565148293,0.0,0.0,0.05566127835359674,0.06700518728112438,0.0,0.0621442881587578,0.06459882755952533,0.0,0.07094259904390551,0.0,0.1265703525704852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859618402704871,0.21788719389891126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569730896271972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034592442788927064,0.10261571936412857,0.07100371017849681,0.06664873576066298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030751318106509117,0.0,0.11116162412432204,0.05570356637849586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361905347023127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323582984284287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355561889172658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001680455239487,0.0485463865228577,0.0,0.0,0.059068793638057226,0.12334374862064885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04265256541882141,0.047871840416549516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327622692135376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375393544160538,0.35924563896810563,0.0,0.0630180458450308,0.0,0.0501583150607191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206802736534648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0484574595429572,0.06225334517894274,0.0,0.08910434567796792,0.0,0.050267256365430564,0.0526241036350081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059324089160812526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05501593615754395,0.05795048983809922,0.0,0.0,0.1672691084900274,0.04033205118592728,0.0,0.09994120234778917,0.03670322315773098,0.0,0.0,0.1202916101167342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05193549189410387,0.11137822023415003,0.04996211346856325,0.05048997716206274,0.0,0.05659432409398275,0.0,0.11359455780163327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04582406977310703,0.0,0.06414543679963614,0.08942739525399825,0.0688195152162562,0.0,0.04053395024137449
parenting,bisexualdanielles,2019/01/20,Brushing teeth I need some advice on how to start my 15 month old on brushing his teeth. He’s got quite a few now and we really need to start incorporating it into our morning and bedtime routine. Any advice? I’ve tried a few times just to get him used to it but he hates it.,0.25354679802955715,2.525693517241379,2.289704433497537,93.40431034482759,87.9655172413793,4.693596059113301,18.630541871921178,6.18269132825596,-0.18686995073891666,216,6,48,2,7,72,42,58,0.069,0.931,0.0,-0.5927,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,11,8,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,7,7,3,9,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,6,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5012971911650708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442863166580336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401053728230886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20514628872926705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532404084047036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473566024189305,0.0,0.0,0.38038264195508975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269153348849357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728190665541536,0.0,0.0,0.1643203134733036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36310369880618704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956707201292305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17414649906923296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215334363727761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MILBitchFest,2019/01/20,"[QUESTION] Elementary School Students and Emergency Medication on Field Trips My DS is in kindergarten and has asthma. He has a rescue inhaler at the school office. For school field trips, do in case of emergency medications get brought along with the teacher?

His second one is coming up, so this just went through my head. With the first one we went along and we always keep a rescue inhaler on us so it wasn't a problem, this time though we won't be there so I didn't know if the teacher does or can take the one out of the office and bring it along just in case he needs it during the field trip? I don't want him to miss out on this trip, but I'm also a bit nervous about him being a 30 minute drive away from his rescue inhaler in case he has an attack. ",4.590064935064933,5.148273590909092,4.974441558441558,86.82737662337664,69.58441558441558,7.458701298701298,26.43896103896104,7.1686216300943375,1.0844254545454546,599,17,126,5,10,190,90,154,0.085,0.848,0.068,-0.168,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,0,0,1,9,4,1,1,13,0,13,4,1,0,0,26,26,12,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,15,0,1,2,0,0,10,4,4,0,5,5,3,12,0,24,18,1,24,0,1,0,0,12,12,0,3,2,88,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221558680973433,0.13756910028495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880885147085484,0.15533444066463212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18049924030517744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142418497340052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468276012849393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063093836007853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637891499165364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16967787616285318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695428484290388,0.0,0.0,0.09086190021485398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33310830086272364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259125498662145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360988265534994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581999720244633,0.0,0.0,0.18520918231794686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.501973088498345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430875548285147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624374158214149,0.0,0.09640616074643822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988735069492316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751683621355167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065280203993182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,questioner45,2019/01/20,"Causality -- when do children start showing their understanding of it? When do children start learning causality? 

My child is 6 and basically does not understand that if X is not done (put your legos away) then legos will be taken away. And I've taken legos away before to demonstrate that I can do it and what it feels like for him when it's done.

But going forward, telling child to do x, if not, then something bad will happen does not seem to register. Does he not want his legos? Why not act in a way that will not benefit him? 

I remember when I was a kid, I was very calculating and would do things to get certain things. Does my child lack vision or imagination? ",4.188604651162791,5.835234565891478,5.082860465116282,81.59731395348838,71.55813953488372,8.26077519379845,27.62868217054264,8.841846274778883,2.1319575193798443,525,19,101,10,10,171,75,129,0.046,0.873,0.08,0.6606,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,17,0,0,0,1,26,29,14,0,5,11,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,6,10,4,0,0,7,1,0,4,7,1,0,0,6,1,11,3,10,18,1,17,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,4,10,72,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42612446801140536,0.0,0.1262315649074154,0.0,0.0,0.12864567410244068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5292053621109917,0.30942558064931985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644271265338377,0.10800522942941797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898692447240306,0.0,0.0859208338443908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13369070685753107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386042103350904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198076211353645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712609691528437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763140674657978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638812852381325,0.0,0.0,0.2140163379304702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321406839887208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20087865398455945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147738560963702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474188210712657,0.0891717032742512,0.12000209954352906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641922335303044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739612920839693,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fahutmagawds,2019/01/20,"OUCH!!!!! My son is 13 months. In the last 2 weeks he has officially developed problems with biting, pinching, and pulling mom's hair. He occasionally bites dad, but mainly me. Any tips on how to help him stop and how to keep your cool when you are actively being hurt? So far our attempts to address the behavior make our son laugh, so he thinks it is a game, a fun game that gets exciting reactions from Mom and Dad. I know that is a developmental stage that all kiddos go through, but seriously, OUCH!!! How do I make it stop? ",3.785,5.398029019607847,4.884460784313728,82.75257352941178,72.52941176470588,8.629411764705884,27.45588235294117,9.188382445141503,2.1465058823529413,408,15,85,9,8,134,75,102,0.115,0.684,0.201,0.9264,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,2,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,1,7,1,1,5,1,18,14,11,0,1,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,9,4,8,13,2,12,0,1,0,0,17,3,0,0,6,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453723569647852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264111467713463,0.0,0.137508216839289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217688163093713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590171055560542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150601182215535,0.0,0.0,0.13297176753254145,0.1972250653665768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230127770291905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5667479545187503,0.19312563117066947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23151760918436676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4045692938113379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550345596328448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408116237648826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ossyemate,2019/01/20,"I thought I would post something for parents to hear from my chidhood, protect children from sexual sites. As a kid, i found out what porn was, I heard my mum have loud  s e x and it made me majorly curiouse and sexually active at a young age, even the kid friendly picture books that teach you about sexual education started this, and I remember that once I owned a console i started talking to older guys, i liked how smart they were and i never got along with anyone my own age from being shy and because of this I got sexuallu groomed my pedophiles online, i knew it wasn't ok but i was also oblivious about legal stuff because i was just a kid right? But i knew my mum would be bloody pissed so I became secretive because of the grooming, i used to change passwords lock my phone and delete messages, all while being a kid, and you think your little angels wouldn't do that? Well i did, i was a kid and i did that as a kid and i kept secrerts, i watched porn, i got groomed and sent pictures, got involved with weird men and people, got sexually touched by people ages 5 - 9 my own age who tried to use me, kids, kids tried to touch me as I was a child myself, my mums ex bf's kids tried touching me. Kids getting other kids sexually touched i was a victim of that and of older men online but in my opinion i let that happen i never told anyone and i bet if you let your kid know how to use a tablet she'll start to know the type of term ""daddy"" is used for in the bed, you better fucking protect your kids because nobody took the effort to properly inspect my private life and now all i know about socially is sex and dating, i dont have a job, i'm lazy, i dont have friends and every bf i had used me for sex.",3.495977337110478,4.407237045325778,4.758726345609071,86.0941348441927,72.31444759206799,7.347716713881018,27.717733711048158,7.554174236665415,1.4594334050991504,1339,48,282,15,25,444,179,353,0.081,0.863,0.057,-0.8737,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,7,1,2,11,11,3,0,16,1,28,7,1,8,4,53,60,28,0,4,5,5,4,1,4,4,1,3,1,18,14,20,0,3,10,1,1,2,6,4,1,0,26,8,56,7,33,25,7,26,1,0,1,5,47,7,2,3,17,182,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808414326671438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136860051352884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24649348142929284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894056646068812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693954633811764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23695285685800505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676882326603732,0.0,0.08517247024688693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108396877710968,0.1562033726651322,0.09345584044510244,0.052815219511203534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40425351956914063,0.0,0.0,0.1000947409974298,0.08939332777484517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393548975364967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003159736496288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666884061404144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067422268944504,0.07140267657255908,0.04938734323600147,0.10131848186098022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565356110091183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593328687686234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076572793635967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122481988151476,0.0,0.0,0.14016580179068494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968160320592669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451497497752505,0.08633009000607672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304826464022927,0.0,0.07782382460822444,0.0,0.0,0.2146555257521944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115723572677685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125210793345561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477422686183157,0.0,0.0802539658084473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659558358880417,0.1123144264265947,0.2058999037383162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365454130838713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089182127277363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362250908444554,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shegotsparkle,2019/01/20,"Do you stop talking to people because of their parenting style? Let me start from the beginning. 

I’m from a culture that thrives on making sure kids from a young age learn respect and discipline with the fear of the parent. This has been all I’ve known growing up, and when I had kids I tried to do the same, and it really really affected me. I didn’t realise at the time but the way I was speaking to my children and expecting them to behave was hurting them. I hated it, but I swear to you I wasn’t able to mentally handle anything else but screaming and yelling to get my way.

Fast forward to last year. Pre teen tells the school he’s depressed and wants to kill him self. School tells me, and I go into hibernation mode. I stopped talking to everyone just to focus on my kids and my kids alone. I started feeling new emotions of how painful my childhood was, and I can’t believe i was expecting my children to go through it. I had absolutely zero support growing up and when I was a teen I became such a rebel my parents could not control me (I’ve realised it was because there way of raising me was from a combination of yelling, screaming, making me feel worthless etc). 

The last 6 months have been up and down. My pre teen had anger issues prior, but after trying gentle parenting he’s changed and is honestly the best best kid you can ever ever ever meet. I’m so proud of him. 

Now that it’s the holidays people have invited us out to go visit them. When I go there, omg, I cannot believe how bad their parenting is. I could not believe i was talking to my kids in the tone they are talking to their kids. You can tell their kids hate them, so much, they do not respect their parents at all. Their youngest is 7 and he stays up til 2 am on his iPad and they don’t care. Ive also caught him Almost touching my daughter inappropriately, and thank God I caught them in time. When I told his mother, she laughed it off and said boys will be boys. She makes sure her boys all know that they are men and they can get away with everything. I actually feel nauseous writing this because I can’t believe people in this day and age still have that mentality.

I’ve tried speaking to the parents to tell them I’ve been through this and I’ve seen the light and if you want your child to learn proper respect maybe try speaking to them at their level? Got an earful after that. Don’t get involved blah blah blah. Right. But I’m showing you an example, they knew how difficult my son used to be and I know it was from me. He went from being An aggressive angry child who didn’t want to listen to me, to a child who asked me what I needed him to help me with for the bbq we were preparing. 

I don’t want to see them again. I don’t want my kids around that environment. Their daughter is 18 and she got engaged just so she can get out of that house. That’s exactly what happened to me. There teenage boys are rebelling to the point where hard drugs are involved. 

They are also family members as well. The kids love me, whenever I go over they tell me all their problems. But they are not allowed over my house. I worry about them so much. But I don’t like the parents for what they are doing and I know they are so upset with me because the kids speak to me about their problems and everything. 

I just can’t handle the mother and father anymore as a real person. My blood boils when I look at them . All they care about is looks and beauty and not what is inside. No empathy what so ever to anyone but their own brothers and sisters, not their kids. And to make matters worse, it’s my husbands sister and family unity is a really big thing for them. My husband hates the way they raise their kids, but because he owes his sister money he feels like he can’t get away from her until he repays his debt. 

So my question is, with the culture thing in mind, if it’s best to cut ties with this family for the way they are raising their kids? 
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parenting,AntiqueChoice,2019/01/20,"Kids who started daycare late ? Hi all, 

My 3 year-old boy just got a spot in our local daycare, so he will be starting in March. (We previously had one spot around 16 months, which we turned down because it was too young for us, and have been on the waiting list again since then.) So far he's been at home with mum, and haven't really taken part in a lot of organised group activities, although he has played on one-to-one with many other kids. He is quite timid though. 

I was just wondering if parents who also put their children in daycare for the first time sometime between three and four could give feedback as to how it went. Did their kids love it, hate it, did their kids change a lot after that, etc.. I think it's good for him to go at this age, but hearing the news this morning made me a little bit nervous.",5.003454545454545,5.10581592121212,5.076515151515153,88.05477272727276,68.57575757575758,7.8121212121212125,28.62121212121212,7.1686216300943375,1.307375757575758,637,20,138,5,10,199,119,165,0.039,0.921,0.039,0.0054,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,3,2,10,6,1,2,7,0,14,1,0,2,1,22,29,13,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,12,8,0,1,2,1,0,3,1,3,0,4,11,1,12,3,21,15,6,28,0,0,0,1,27,13,0,4,12,91,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730884130799786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171803302136018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704429546648724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380060622726942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840807102422795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710490995557816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754542300387285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541188483656086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271513850744842,0.09047465429076737,0.13352590246800514,0.12732344163896575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717291577570786,0.0,0.0,0.179425261352297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596863894628832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795798212562666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955603585003253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706851898730647,0.1436804447415306,0.15063493593539629,0.0,0.16139957669826646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706858627418527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670492355305488,0.0,0.21575041796485808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676812073463094,0.17239356166640096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003577125394994,0.0,0.1693243524587792,0.0,0.0,0.10198491999153547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168842901208055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574487385480999,0.0,0.2253592443237145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200625466837757,0.1564090867973762,0.0,0.09282836400555164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315934006475575,0.0,0.0,0.1914929725570047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757612187445365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726410780798358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251688990416837
parenting,shredsofvanity,2019/01/20,"Don’t know what’s going on with my 5 yo. My son will be 5 in exactly a month from now. 

About a month and a half ago, he developed (what I think) was a tick. He was clearing his throat every few minutes. Initially I thought it was just a sore throat but he kept doing it and it lasted about 2-3 weeks. After that, it switched over to him grimacing his face every couple of minutes. Now, it has developed into him licking his finger tips/palm of his hands and rubbing them onto his face, the corners of his mouth. His wrists are now raw and pink and so is the area around his mouth. 

I’ve done some googling and it could be a number of things. My husband said he had ticks when he was a kid but never anything as serious as this. 

We are calling his pediatrician first thing tomorrow but I’m freaking out here. ",1.6813409090909095,3.7448311454545484,3.0924810606060618,91.2587215909091,79.96969696969697,6.0643939393939394,23.03977272727273,7.1686216300943375,0.7627045454545454,629,21,135,8,16,205,107,165,0.055,0.927,0.018000000000000002,-0.7761,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,1,10,2,0,0,9,0,16,10,9,0,3,24,23,13,0,1,4,2,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,12,11,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,9,6,18,0,19,10,2,23,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,1,13,95,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20577367222472373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910273266972786,0.206649366431172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23703579034227826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534090935803826,0.2568529634064935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237554701646292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3911675006052056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974539133245553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192767066170324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757532573373745,0.1892210085185276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705758863151497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903682349463787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22081354439863887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30844035980653256,0.14874273548560912,0.0,0.1842892611189316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862046956915385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KeepinItMithril,2019/01/20,"My toddler just choked. My 15 month old was playing in the backyard today while I watched her. We live in Arizona, so our backyard is 90% rocks, 10% weeds. She was eating puffs and stacking the rocks on a broom. She plays in the yard all the time. 


Suddenly, she put a rock in her mouth instead of a puff and swallowed. She whipped around and had a terrified look on her face. I knew immediately that her airway was blocked. I jumped up, flipped her ass over on my lap, and delivered 5 back blows. She vomited up the rock. 


I said ""WE DON'T EAT ROCKS"" in a panicked tone, and she looked at me with wide eyes. She reached down, picked up the rock again (GROSS) and looked up at me. I raised my eyebrows at her and said ""Seriously?"". Then she threw the rock back in the yard.


Now, however, she is continuously picking up rocks and other objects, holding them up to her (closed) mouth, and laughing hysterically. I'm not sure how to curb this behavior. It seems like no matter what I do, be it say ""please set that down"" or no reaction at all, she thinks it's the most amazing thing in the world.


Just wanted to share this story for others, I have read others like it. Probably because I'm a bit freaked out. I never thought it would be me, my husband or our child. I'm indescribably glad I was watching.


Including a picture of my kid looking very proud of herself about 15 minutes after the incident, clutching a rock. 


Rock eater https://imgur.com/a/hcLdZsE",3.1110024993057483,5.4084463610108315,3.5599458483754525,88.51520896973066,76.36462093862816,6.572007775617883,27.260344348792003,7.61054688173877,1.4981281310747026,1130,46,227,16,26,352,162,277,0.084,0.813,0.102,0.498,2,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,4,0,1,1,11,13,0,0,19,0,13,9,5,3,4,38,28,15,0,2,5,1,0,2,0,1,1,3,5,2,14,15,3,3,4,15,0,3,5,3,0,0,10,10,41,10,35,15,4,46,0,0,7,1,30,28,1,4,16,151,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280298355455126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466978160992956,0.0,0.09778723733397454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513117126811206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32828831999419383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567409191126598,0.0,0.14164901058025064,0.0,0.5388313735464911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804138505985027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237216111653523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832811411285814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608703414898308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295404581830792,0.0,0.0,0.161260956868299,0.0,0.0,0.160457987641667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051819949313373,0.1275681103423267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603540631348574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118884056255988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065723171323694,0.10278718379949664,0.0,0.1273512557978857,0.09353902997286644,0.0,0.15205426238139988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235882614616862,0.09461667381848854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395391310881595,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cut_the_fat,2019/01/20,"Two kids close in age: always feel like you are trying to stop WW III??? Behavior strategies? We have two kids... one is 3 and the other 1.5.  I guess you could say that my wife and I are trying to figure out how to not always be in the mode of preventing WWIII. Teaching the concept of sharing and not always being fixated on what the other kid is doing is a challenge- and the minute one gets upset over something in this area it is tantrum city.  
  
I think my wife and I need a good behavior book to read for really understanding some good techniques to put in to use for this and just general behavior. Any recommendations??",4.365775941230488,5.80945608264463,5.354159779614328,80.62194674012858,70.81818181818181,8.352984389348027,26.66758494031221,8.841846274778883,2.013902846648301,490,16,93,9,9,161,79,121,0.068,0.826,0.105,0.6868,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,0,1,2,7,1,1,7,0,11,0,0,2,0,25,18,7,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,7,9,0,2,4,2,0,1,2,2,0,4,0,2,9,5,17,15,1,12,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,2,3,66,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4780217675590896,0.0,0.0,0.13022431804776224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289452725763858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682648189170552,0.13680527585377514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004911843967773,0.0,0.0,0.3212366814410265,0.0,0.0,0.21095519703985027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355561140461746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199237152967645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595262305122874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250706836373027,0.0,0.0,0.1915485148811817,0.0,0.12267768518905744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522858565124252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742351007374474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009981013305008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270334867704626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26002736896023193,0.0,0.3741288873119751,0.19935481106941305,0.0,0.1653916584732226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acrylicsky,2019/01/20,"Dealing with overly critical, judgmental and harsh parents? (inadvertently) My mom thinks she is helping, she means well but she is incredibly judgemental by nature. She'll say things with good intentions but they give you some insight into how she actually feels. Now, maybe I'm being overly paranoid, or too sensitive, but she'll say things like, don't worry about not being beautiful because you are incredibly smart. Or, you need to work on your time management, because even I could've done better than that. etc. I feel like its the source of a lot of my anxiety and internalized self-esteem issues. ",5.951547248182763,8.472111112149536,6.250404984423678,71.42572170301143,68.7196261682243,9.615368639667706,30.580477673935622,9.994966539143718,3.534878296988577,487,20,77,13,9,156,82,107,0.102,0.698,0.201,0.9198,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,4,1,2,6,6,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,2,0,21,16,8,0,1,6,2,2,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,4,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,15,6,12,11,3,6,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,4,4,56,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.18292062666590067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339596704976307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285311459318057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16578108976294528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966068116666548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324898624608855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918227259479351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090522620571452,0.12380656563433486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895570429472056,0.1339117307774446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981564725921395,0.0,0.1572211295672169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564135679962693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956453198207779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315366522158352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936020847774165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831508244509254,0.204184058773548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195349338729839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898911507664796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20813702135458076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981297686253187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19554745407606186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24906209054344985,0.1201080710592939,0.0,0.0,0.10930149113447628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853680633541793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646319655705458,0.1903608969746472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alyssabuzzi,2019/01/20,"I dont know if I want kids, this choice will end my engagement So, my fiance has always wanted children and that has always been his vision. As we get older and closer to getting married, making bigger adult decisions, I still don't know if I want kids. I want to want kids, but it terrifies me. This topic will make our break our relationship and future marriage. I don't know if I'm looking for advice, stories, kind words, encouragement or what. I just need help. ",4.204904761904763,5.874688855555558,5.157619047619047,80.985,71.55555555555556,7.365079365079365,25.079365079365076,7.957251820313856,1.500603174603174,367,11,67,5,7,120,62,90,0.1,0.736,0.16399999999999998,0.8404,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,0,23,23,10,0,9,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,5,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,14,3,4,20,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,2,0,4,4,42,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964174148162183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33450053106828337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235573550705948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802864324175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21003112528875945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472780611024632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931327722655585,0.331397317560276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879156055641473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683415931856177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490408813186021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158015697305077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16052093634307427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5927827076350443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pmatti65,2019/01/20,"Parents of 19 year old that will not get a job or do anything. He failed 1st semester in college and is not going back. We have never been able to make him get or keep a job, but now that he is not a student he HAS to do something. I can’t physically make him.  ",2.2213157894736852,2.7539517894736854,4.25171052631579,89.96072368421055,74.96491228070175,7.1035087719298255,26.530701754385966,7.1686216300943375,1.025670175438596,200,7,48,2,4,69,42,57,0.04,0.96,0.0,-0.2846,3,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,1,12,15,4,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,13,0,7,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,2,5,32,6,5,0.26602084647749136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189124902058841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455361045430173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779698253579104,0.0,0.15118577750597112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.527969284877836,0.2364515512687653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35514196141890403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051716764684268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791441288551168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953846685685731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479584422103864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130870329545278
parenting,boringusername,2019/01/20,Older child hurt younger one So basically they were playing upstairs and the 2 year old cried out so I went to investigate. Little one was really upset and holding her arm strangely. We went to a&e they think it is nursemaids elbow. After taking it turned out the 2 year old took something the 7 year old didn’t want her to have so she pulled her to try and get her out of the room ( or so she says). Should the 7 year old be punished or would having to take her little sister to hospital be punishment enough? Should I not leave them aloe anymore? I don’t trust the 7 year old she has a tendency to lash out. I’m worried more happened she isn’t telling me. Also any experience of nursemaids elbow? How long until they feel better etc. She is ment to be going to nursery tomorrow but not sure if she should stay home. ,1.2042652643879634,3.798523723926383,2.5672042068361094,90.48182004089979,87.83435582822085,5.067952088810985,21.258837277242183,6.655083550727371,0.5551831142272863,649,22,128,8,21,209,100,163,0.101,0.851,0.048,-0.8179,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,4,1,6,8,2,1,7,0,17,3,3,1,1,24,30,14,0,6,6,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,2,8,0,1,2,1,0,5,5,4,0,2,6,2,20,4,17,17,3,28,0,1,0,0,20,7,0,3,15,83,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343684416654674,0.0,0.1265960076964237,0.0,0.07945515421473166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587380773824375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333541694981503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834316897570075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072687368300472,0.13030739932321034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429186446429444,0.0,0.0,0.059077775688206685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104403734912975,0.0,0.06640282078710226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332115799108027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171999692595157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125079554054099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371660804639505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342085954813392,0.0,0.10339965506895868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6130192227045305,0.0,0.15834751125791086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485064649620839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291579633751183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994908096573995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245358118136589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012024463259873,0.0,0.17569816229463506,0.0,0.10212324258257847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486630483427004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298134534909348,0.07932663810613515,0.12708828473640524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891521377137241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21662355827945745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865661329614888,0.0,0.08299972895944169,0.0,0.0,0.3762053981482998
parenting,jackjones121,2019/01/20,"beauty treatment with subtle compliments(pun intended) my 12yo daughter is getting ready for a party.

mum has (almost) convinced her over the last couple of years that her skin a dark(which is not good according to M). and has become even darker because she has been in the sun last couple of days.

now she has been applying D some cream for the last couple of days and claims that her face looks much more ""white""

now even D wishes she had better skin and looks forward to ""beauty treatment"" from mum",6.663731884057974,7.7702489239130434,5.78130434782609,80.92384057971016,65.19565217391305,7.872463768115942,28.3768115942029,7.793537801064563,1.8048202898550727,399,12,68,4,6,120,60,92,0.023,0.7809999999999999,0.195,0.9485,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,5,0,9,3,3,1,0,9,13,3,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,7,3,11,10,3,11,0,0,4,0,9,3,0,2,9,45,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325510559426264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155938709730036,0.20211688689990487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618548464443923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6074813947302768,0.0,0.23604878957598235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417488351440649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561362002620563,0.0,0.0,0.15349761435579373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475254660978489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30735962800719313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345312243730184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21044905324106075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178505274303314
parenting,Pagan_Unicorn,2019/01/20,Apraxia Who is going through this with one of there kids? My oldest he is 4 now has been going to speech since he was 1 year old and was diagnosed with apraxia and has also been taught sign language. I worry about him in school ( he just started pre-k) I know it is hard on him because the kids at school might not understand him and the teacher has to help him talk and tell the kids what he is saying. what do you do for your kids that have this? what helps yall and your child?,2.4354000000000013,3.8228563400000013,2.9730000000000025,96.01150000000004,75.6,5.8000000000000025,21.5,5.985473137389443,-0.04289999999999994,374,9,86,2,8,116,67,100,0.043,0.899,0.058,0.3695,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,15,1,0,0,0,13,21,6,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,5,8,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,3,11,0,11,15,0,10,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,1,5,59,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18455986304175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068529488024512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23424341710965996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623225477994308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20673935316588135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093826228094815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683421269762088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448279822282087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421715861521259,0.0,0.15638689026499294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353067036275206,0.0,0.4671364735900053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909089594480972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335185694979729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549742894582316,0.20171755406063044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24025686267604185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343748710080657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486189251727236
parenting,Life2058,2019/01/20,"Desperatly Looking for a Child Neurologist or/and Child Psychiatrist in Miami A soon to be a 4 year old girl: 

daily frustration attacks with long and heart tearing crying scenes, makes life at home unbearable.

EVERYTHING needs to be according to a certain order which only she knows- tiny things become huge issues for her.

For example- if you hand her the doll upside down - a scene. Also, anger attacks when a fun activity ends.

When she cries, she says :help me, please"" but when the parents come to hug her, she won't let them.

PLEASE - need your recommendation on Child Neurologist or/and Child Psychiatrist in Miami- THIS IS URGENT.

Thanks!",5.547631578947367,8.166305342105263,5.831438596491227,73.55873684210529,70.14035087719299,9.121403508771932,27.18947368421053,9.642632912329526,2.8473957894736843,515,18,85,13,10,164,84,114,0.123,0.698,0.179,0.7955,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,1,0,5,9,4,1,8,0,5,4,2,1,1,10,12,7,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,5,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,3,11,4,13,8,0,16,0,0,1,1,18,6,0,1,8,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675784233333754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38910056007601496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886877651068232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731127300905875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756962261279778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514654384796114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369411782015782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264946210276008,0.11462541002558692,0.0,0.17153848741825742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784915856950563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398345326388996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487085481084952,0.12079048654536086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15133980445697615,0.14360659760024316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415151049313126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536057347766809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944781194985376,0.0,0.0,0.13006195902086876,0.0,0.0,0.18988804341170565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754385671972602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359952162249015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744442179324494,0.0,0.0,0.11361244807274147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012580526202316
parenting,Debaser626,2019/01/20,"Non verbal (mostly) almost 3 year old My daughter will be 3 in a few months. She’s personable... likes to cuddle, laugh and shows empathy. She also understands simple verbal commands like: “Pick up your toys,” “Sit on your butt (when she’s jumping on her chair)” “Put this in the trash” etc. 

However, she speaks very little. She’ll occasionally say “Dada” or speak in gibberish... and she has silent, pretend conversations when she’s playing (she mimics pointing and hand gestures). 

Her hearing tests were fine, and she’ll come if called from across the house, but I ‘m starting to get worried there’s something wrong. 

We have started thinking about speech therapy, and basically have set her 3rd birthday as a goalpost to see if she makes progress on her own. 

Has anyone had a similar experience? If so, what happened and what should we do? 

Thanks. ",4.57383458646617,7.1597166842105295,4.636390977443612,81.15973684210526,72.94736842105263,7.237593984962406,29.27819548872181,8.192908349453996,2.2773537593984963,664,28,114,11,14,206,112,152,0.052000000000000005,0.8270000000000001,0.12,0.8229,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,2,2,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,0,12,3,2,2,0,21,23,16,0,4,5,1,1,2,0,4,0,5,0,1,3,9,0,0,2,4,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,7,20,6,14,16,4,22,0,0,1,2,26,10,1,6,9,72,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19123349457028804,0.0,0.0,0.15272233371193095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353389389393291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950064381071976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16450772410683578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129871818990468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18680982240969307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977635617208927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887822476207334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152422750773592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203590694311346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660110455711396,0.1914067389388034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747704103696006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524341187767159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003957371137954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675167096155558,0.0,0.0,0.18053274328272806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19198223950653887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187068208418653,0.0,0.0,0.15218204567095886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702159178070345,0.0,0.0,0.2703456363522235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582377080490422,0.2183961202792284,0.0,0.0,0.12236882455381745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19881131332380575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575740610465976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19394399558959047,0.0,0.0,0.20880076603481104,0.0,0.12298139320250102
parenting,underscores_are_good,2019/01/20,"A quick tip on helping your kids not to interrupt. I just learned a cool trick recently.

When your kid wants to speak with you while you’re currently in a conversation, teach them to put their hand on your wrist. When they do this, put your hand on their wrist to let them know you acknowledge them. Finish your sentence, and then turn to the child.

This is a great way of mutual respect, for the child and the adult.

When starting out, your kids won’t always remember to do that, so just tap on your wrist to remind them what they need to do. Eventually they will catch on.",4.536160714285714,5.762718866071433,4.303928571428571,89.14107142857144,70.16071428571428,8.457142857142857,24.714285714285715,8.841846274778883,1.4055321428571426,451,12,97,8,8,137,69,112,0.01,0.809,0.181,0.9598,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,9,9,0,7,4,1,0,7,1,7,5,5,0,0,13,12,8,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,4,4,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,4,19,3,18,9,0,21,0,0,0,0,27,7,0,0,10,67,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288738131015323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30325708355952496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184368417095047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511670100680278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812697698558921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395516088695248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5530270348614359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27159077188954234,0.0,0.3115918904503812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469046465429146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991887240091373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223883197290093,0.21833159791016032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,baby_storyTeller,2019/01/20,"Baby Sleep Music Baby lullabies can be quiet useful to calm down your little ones at bedtime.

Please enjoy, and feel free to let me know if this kind of music actually works. Thanks!

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qw5T8AvqjdU](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qw5T8AvqjdU)",14.300142857142859,19.960800657142862,7.039642857142859,60.17660714285717,56.714285714285715,6.928571428571428,20.17857142857143,8.07648339933343,1.58,233,4,23,3,4,57,32,35,0.0,0.623,0.377,0.9481,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,5,7,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,6,5,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,14,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.3177200476823569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462351409312073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33904246418689393,0.1789307788773622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329285865502188,0.0,0.0,0.3263176513486186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22062208205632397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573901198362192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258160869227671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997512013339192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811974109521329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370268138004181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,merdogfish,2019/01/20,"GPS tracker for adult with Down syndrome? My uncle is 49 yrs old, has Down syndrome, and is developing Alzheimer’s. He has wondered out of the house once before, and we had to call the police to look for him. He has a medical ID bracelet with his and our information on it already, but that isn’t helpful when he there is a chance of him taking off. Now that Alzheimer’s is starting to set in, we want to look into some sort of gps watch/bracelet for him that gives a live monitoring of his location. 

From what we have seen, the watches with gps need WiFi or cellphone service(Apple Watch, etc) which isn’t exactly necessary or helpful since he isn’t able to use the phone portion. Other watches need to be synced after the fact to find locations so they aren’t helpful in the first place (ie fitbit, Garmin, etc). We are hoping to find something that uses satellite services.

Our other issue is that the bracelet needs to be hard to remove for him. While he can’t put on a standard watch buckle, he knows how to remove it easily. We don’t want to risk him taking it off and setting it down somewhere and we can’t find him.

So my question is, has anyone had experience with or seen something that gives a live feed of a gps location that can be used for children/adults with special needs that is hard for the person to remove on their own?",7.6865633226089525,6.4573225057034245,7.240684410646392,79.18365896460955,63.48669201520913,9.917402749341912,35.059666569172265,8.617729084823388,2.7151891781222584,1061,39,209,12,13,333,132,263,0.022,0.8759999999999999,0.102,0.9697,1,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,8,0,2,1,6,3,0,1,14,0,26,2,0,4,2,45,47,14,0,7,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,16,18,1,0,7,0,0,4,7,1,0,1,4,10,20,2,43,40,5,26,0,0,8,0,36,13,0,8,7,140,36,1,0.11910226756080687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143231391884996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327907474417118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134725739773814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161673161140225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656610231857695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650487160779947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265719444932163,0.10130832794380074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285074955210773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338447533001492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23949521813387434,0.0,0.0,0.1182954254936942,0.0,0.137428025788629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431182359291412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545549145803327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033896862177476,0.0,0.2000318161569728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998300437346313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532512890279432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497779464717082,0.12684002787474846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039955060454788,0.1244365199755977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197306751656468,0.13342179750253402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852262649517236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18338148875726776,0.0,0.0,0.08430119799554599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910016549128605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30859835595775875,0.0,0.0,0.14049920648142195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916132860711105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TastefulEssences,2019/01/20,"Parenting problem: Realizing that some of your mom friends aren’t YOUR friends at all. They’re literally just your kids friends parents. Even more disappointing when you really thought you found a friend, and hang out a couple of times - but that’s still inevitably what the relationship becomes. 

Not ALWAYS, but that just happened to me and it stings. 😂 ",8.122741935483871,9.508359177419354,6.632419354838714,75.11862903225808,62.064516129032256,10.070967741935485,38.08064516129032,10.125756701596842,3.9335354838709686,287,14,49,6,4,85,50,62,0.066,0.802,0.132,0.486,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,5,0,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,14,4,5,0,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,6,4,5,2,3,6,0,1,0,0,14,2,0,1,3,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478444453261035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21871869151551573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191265622141824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080299649651606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171397155440413,0.6120182506752121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512537390624813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319410690307295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4397980985184248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18949672899748984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126868956074849,0.0,0.0,0.2126199422388832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815432786711087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722097073131286,0.11547822596220984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,who_is_Dandelo,2019/01/20,"My 8 year old daughter came into the kitchen walking oddly and told me, ""Don’t be wondering why I’m trying to avoid walking on my fake toe."" Me: ???

Me: You have a fake toe? Why? You have 10 real toes and I don’t see a fake toe at all. And why are you avoiding walking on it?

8yo: Never mind.

I *wasn’t* wondering anything. Now I’m afraid I’ll never get answers... ",-1.8305394605394625,-0.025676311688311408,1.1251948051948055,97.54515484515488,104.32467532467531,3.4081918081918086,18.91008991008991,5.369823440869387,-0.3306355644355645,272,10,62,2,13,94,49,77,0.193,0.807,0.0,-0.9308,0,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,0,0,1,6,0,3,3,0,7,5,4,0,3,15,15,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,2,3,0,0,4,5,6,0,0,3,1,10,0,5,11,1,13,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,2,5,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344808981423954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24106798052522016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012011052677573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212820485662904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251220187022226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211706416899485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399056380475158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795866608490825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014024828381353,0.0,0.14310092410835068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5705691183935616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571483119894808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573079967801652
parenting,alwaysbeencrazy,2019/01/20,"I’m considering freelance writing a few articles focused on children (especially 4/5 and younger), behavior, and daycare issues. My husband has been encouraging me to start a blog, but I’d like to start here. Are there questions or issues you’d wish were covered more you don’t mind sharing? Title pretty much says it all. I’ve done various forms of child care for 20+ years. I’ve won a few awards for dedication to children and tried to take any opportunity to explore new learning experiences and working in different environments so I may have a different perspective than the usual “mommy blogger”. My husband has been trying to get me to blog, or write a book or anything, but I’ve never had the confidence. But the other day I read something about freelance writing articles and it’s intrigued me ever since. I have done in-home daycare, worked at a daycare center, co-taught at an NAEYC accredited preschool, managed a community center (w/gym, etc) hourly drop off daycare for nearly 7 years, substitute taught elementary school (although I wouldn’t count that as one of my expertise), co-owned a daycare and am now exclusively caring for a nearly non-verbal child with SPD and his baby brother. (That is to say I only care for them at this time. He is now in kindergarten so I only have him half days).  But I digress, are there any parents out there willing to throw some thoughts my way on issues, wonderings, questions, etc that could help me get an idea (or a few) to start with? Maybe try a few things out? I’d really appreciate any help or advice. So go ahead- challenge me! (Please? Haha)",4.929621212121212,6.990696848484852,5.684734848484856,76.34710227272731,70.41414141414141,8.182323232323233,32.240319865319854,8.841846274778883,2.9450764309764312,1272,59,217,24,24,414,178,297,0.02,0.778,0.203,0.9955,3,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,0,2,1,7,11,11,0,0,16,1,22,0,0,0,3,39,38,21,0,3,9,4,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,4,8,11,0,0,7,4,0,3,3,0,0,2,9,2,21,11,35,24,12,35,0,0,0,0,25,14,0,10,17,143,29,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380677016567992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167202194238953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874182753555179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249258311273833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481604663074567,0.0,0.0,0.13701918120597406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22197557348082986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742043590886204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23694916084413736,0.0,0.0960911571652352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391336760913594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100162768606564,0.0,0.06037298244346501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240751938313184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461519556127732,0.0,0.0,0.11992079003748253,0.0,0.33262970152849203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051898633926189305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672235813325448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072620623086702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809130579885731,0.0,0.08193115930389283,0.10259763907838083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198422750586746,0.16158547172165394,0.0,0.0,0.11795589309883905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166086887352997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807414579326613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380039237779712,0.0,0.10625879200264654,0.0,0.06805368677463372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895679052522278,0.0,0.10751047653103322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787459068042153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178107829728254,0.0,0.0,0.22557051708596398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987177308003304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705745213799995,0.0,0.0,0.08433478943611901,0.061943593311244625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163696815698088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169973861075876,0.0,0.0,0.08432046483675262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215930872791292,0.0,0.1152019519459873,0.15467347538896192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681733172368876
parenting,evepalastry,2019/01/20,"Parenting is so hard so not fair   It is hard when u take your job do seriously and want so badly to be good at it    I agree that your husband needs to back you    You may take this more seriously than it is but I saw my niece treat my brother so disrespectfully bc of his wife so there is truth in that stuff happening.   Her behavior needs to be dealt with as disrespect even if it is bc she can take it out on the safe person   Mothers are not punching bags and it will impact future relationships.   i agree with the one comment about disengagement and changing roles.   Walk away.   Very practical advice    You are aloud to be human too!!!!   You don’t want her to grow up to be manipulative.  Right now is the time to practice not reacting bc the teen years will really try you    Make sure she goes to bed on time    Do not appear to be a servant and keep a strict routine to give her boundaries  i wish I had been better with this    Good luck bc we all have to support each other   Parenting is so hard and it comes with practice,    you also need support!!!!!",2.579547777210017,4.675703490291267,3.818032703117016,87.00016607051609,77.20388349514563,7.055288707204905,23.463464486458868,8.032893268588372,1.2071689320388352,813,26,169,14,19,265,124,206,0.067,0.748,0.185,0.9842,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,8,0,1,14,13,0,0,6,0,24,0,0,3,3,36,42,16,0,7,6,6,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,13,13,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,1,3,4,22,10,26,31,3,19,0,0,1,0,27,8,0,4,7,119,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516644781764858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061588181087507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299578706589553,0.10636091487908486,0.11549291310497806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233437858650108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632610814000996,0.1191519702750338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913602347135164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269086057426946,0.0,0.23203550192335934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231749801537074,0.0,0.3717274516553043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726302860884526,0.12294675836652205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233086584141716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076915536175325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373042158364364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071799468162161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077724769215185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861247765960566,0.0,0.0,0.14850583203754095,0.0,0.11812604895503742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15834535108690176,0.0,0.3139318457714186,0.13036664576932894,0.0,0.3120023047888259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131309084328166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391141260680493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412995918506168,0.16317154564675745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906322682285445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907469474035322
parenting,medramokat,2019/01/20,"I don't love my kid. I never did. I gave birth to my girl 2 years ago. It was a very painful and terrible birth. I had a tear. I thought when I saw my kid everything would change, the pain will go away like most moms do but it never did. In fact the moment I saw her, what I felt was hatred. I know it wasn't her fault. I can't help but feel that way. I talk to my friends about it and they said I'm just having baby blues. Now 2 years have passed and I can't really love the kid no matter how hard I try. What should I do? Luckily my husband is really patient. He is a stay at home dad while I work.",-1.3368055555555536,0.5098310000000019,1.1613657407407416,101.76427083333334,90.85185185185185,4.856481481481481,14.363425925925926,6.322622252153567,-0.90987962962963,455,8,121,5,16,154,84,135,0.192,0.703,0.105,-0.8971,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,5,8,0,0,6,0,18,4,0,1,3,18,30,8,0,2,3,3,3,1,1,3,2,1,1,4,7,3,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,12,7,23,4,6,15,1,18,0,0,3,2,18,3,0,1,12,74,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333487607384756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311780942766525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492205570027624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656005036482821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931671092933443,0.0,0.1769179582387805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235838634912545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471888607162463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506026609083033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350521867947795,0.0,0.18482724202085385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012641694805557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001985513104048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326026773256009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21580242928296772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842244788848984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3921300710544721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23608263112660904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17527292252621476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963960466523569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810075833213668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462814134634713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510006472337798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203333529553506,0.0,0.14625656698366596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414306691512626,0.0,0.0,0.1308926195883491,0.0,0.0,0.2373140764879917
parenting,youngmilf19,2019/01/20,"Daughter tries running off! So I’m a young single mom! But my 3 year old daughter tries running off in public allll the time!! That is when she isn’t in her stroller haha I’m used to it by now and just keep track of her whenever we go anywhere. I’ve tried the backpack leash thing but I don’t like it

Any other moms deal with this?",-0.2376682316118917,1.9805444507042256,1.6134272300469519,97.54608763693271,90.40845070422534,4.282316118935838,19.156494522691702,5.82211442006289,-0.26682284820031343,260,8,59,2,9,85,56,71,0.0,0.905,0.095,0.752,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,8,8,5,0,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,8,8,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,7,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17242078766461338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613960256752569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409671438459748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22536439743893635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387035271639744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5939028227366946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660551307889024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844549065712502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478454088579195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5164257080697838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21898337003884813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327608123975595
parenting,fembot1357,2019/01/20,"Getting an X Preemie to use the toilet Anyone here have a kid with history of upper GI ( asthsma, reflux, dysphagia) issues who also has toileting  issues especially poop? Kiddo is 4 and has only pooped on a toilet 2x in her life. Once last summer and once a year ago. Miralax and XLax have helped getting her cleaned out but not consistently. For example yesterday had miralax, x lax AND magnesium citrate and no poop. ",6.74526315789474,7.938329315789478,7.727473684210532,66.7333157894737,65.05263157894737,10.290526315789474,36.252631578947366,10.355215969177356,4.282492631578949,332,16,50,8,5,112,60,76,0.039,0.961,0.0,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,6,4,3,1,0,10,9,7,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,7,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,5,31,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269795121744323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20476907945822886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17904134820719625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26755893664632996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162993575352542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5345149802046351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087210270504621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086097524789385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5453857326608397,0.0,0.19474325688995556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211514552122172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648926261437773
parenting,louisfromphillys,2019/01/20,"Are all mothers in general impatient when dealing with kids homework ? When my kids got homework, I'm always the one who help them when they need. My wife tried to help do homework but she easily gets frustrated. She is not that patient. It was the same thing with  my parents. When ever I needed help with homework I would always go to my dad. If my dad wasn't here then my mom would tell me to wait for my dad to get home so I could finish my homework with him. I even witnessed that at my aunt and uncles house, when my cousins do homework, my uncle was always the one helping them and checking their homework. I even saw that at a family friends house once. The dad is always the one who checks and correct the homeworks. Why does it seem like mother's in general are impatient with that ? ",3.41,5.252993333333336,3.9156410256410266,88.36269230769231,74.0,6.594871794871796,26.743589743589745,7.321109707123232,1.33364358974359,624,23,123,7,13,196,87,156,0.054000000000000006,0.821,0.125,0.8981,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,4,0,10,3,1,0,7,0,12,0,0,0,3,24,22,12,0,6,3,11,0,1,1,2,0,0,9,2,9,8,0,1,1,0,2,1,2,1,0,3,5,1,24,2,14,14,2,13,0,0,1,0,29,4,0,2,9,88,33,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4764260904723943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428811429645415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757424632573554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526548771489374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18908932945602436,0.1294811252025269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494257126356982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059200069444436,0.0,0.1495727190316697,0.0,0.08135152004851097,0.0,0.11448461004171785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837831990163532,0.0,0.14358419621162044,0.0,0.0,0.3303358274705485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993248614627169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764746370891526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122775834776976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244272528820432,0.29099239875736976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894346798679507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031209829186385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511337497260752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509791232088717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718476585449047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291643794298542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336949648911604,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DignityThief80,2019/01/20,"20 month old is literally always in my face, is there anything to be done? We have tons of toys, but she'll play with them for 5 minutes at a time at best and then runs back to mommy or daddy. Sometimes she'll Watch PAW Patrol or pajanimals but only if she's sitting on one of us.  We used to put it on occasionally just so that we could get something done in the kitchen or whatever, but if we put it on now and leave the room she'll jump up and follow and hug my leg for the entire time I'm standing.

This is relatively new behavior, it used to be that she would run around the house and get into everything, but recently she needs constant contact with one of us at almost all times, and its getting a bit exhausting.  

Is this just normal behaviour, like separation anxiety?  She's been waking up in the middle of the night a lot more, demanding to hold one of our hands while she sleeps recently as well.",10.018149882903986,6.0085001202185815,9.952162373145981,70.27377049180329,61.459016393442624,13.517252146760342,39.2576112412178,11.20814326018867,4.032807025761125,714,24,148,14,7,238,116,183,0.049,0.851,0.1,0.9173,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,7,0,1,1,8,6,0,0,9,0,15,8,5,2,1,35,23,19,0,6,11,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,2,0,8,14,1,1,0,2,0,6,0,1,1,3,3,2,18,5,28,13,6,37,0,0,1,1,17,15,0,7,15,107,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378874507013679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457808855467864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534072771701404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331601759344745,0.1225828976777648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058834080195385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450848401266045,0.0,0.15033359887432046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880563527046015,0.0,0.10994287628221418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818314344503767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375659137177078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582893870797865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888822400626548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580525456013316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727365063127783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706828773193255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991145711822682,0.0,0.0,0.10210339124695834,0.0,0.1329922813916294,0.0,0.1292228636396754,0.13491753790061606,0.0,0.0,0.14449381571012687,0.0,0.2799288578045847,0.10472765609931868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27685465503812473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27192583625448563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780023621776466,0.0,0.0,0.10600879586628707,0.1361896026599934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408833146471573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312741922889699,0.237858541725185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238095477281676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781869063865012,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yanksqt,2019/01/20,"Youtube advice please!!!! Asking for some advice. I feel like this is the best place to get an honest answer. I recently started uploading videos to youtube about my son with a speech disability. I think this information is very helpful and informative to others who might be going through the same thing. Am I totally out of line here? I want to contribute to the world about not only what my son is going through but about his disability in general. I used youtube as a way to find answers in the early stages of trying to figure out what was going on. I do not have a Facebook so, admittedly, I feel a little out of touch. As parents what do you use youtube for? What information might be helpful, especially if you have a child with special needs. I want this to be worth doing. Thanks so much REDDIT! ",3.31331140350877,5.843249848684213,4.3541052631578925,81.89440350877193,76.82894736842105,7.211228070175438,26.580701754385963,8.238735603445708,1.9631091228070168,635,25,117,12,15,206,91,152,0.0,0.828,0.172,0.9737,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,2,1,32,31,7,0,4,4,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,10,6,0,0,11,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,4,14,5,28,25,5,17,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,4,4,90,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381411430407588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174788530671533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157105547454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496556170821495,0.12360364368693193,0.0,0.0,0.15813474169125225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903944347879353,0.0,0.2949892756459485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319397921010146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452754752915691,0.17340885801775735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670881756891056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718767457183264,0.128290187547853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158750633396704,0.0,0.0,0.19211531414172545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076632676302887,0.1899211161011274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708337798879622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246258499004982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592911486643238,0.0,0.0,0.11494505267286195,0.11086254455041522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174674370605568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988629129269185,0.0,0.1427574500814579,0.20410025508385726,0.1373331349974619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nhmom3,2019/01/20,"Youtube advice please!! Asking for some advice. I feel like this is the best place to get an honest answer. I recently started uploading videos to youtube about my son with a speech disability. I think this information is very helpful and informative to others who might be going through the same thing. Am I totally out of line here? I want to contribute to the world about not only what my son is going through but about his disability in general. I used youtube as a way to find answers in the early stages of trying to figure out what was going on. I do not have a Facebook so, admittedly, I feel a little out of touch. As parents what do you use youtube for? What information might be helpful, especially if you have a child with special needs. I want this to be worth doing. Thanks so much REDDIT! ",3.67521616541353,6.037903006578947,4.636390977443612,81.15973684210526,74.85526315789474,7.5007518796992505,27.304511278195488,8.418075326091056,2.0841300751879697,635,25,117,12,14,206,91,152,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.9748,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,10,0,15,0,0,2,1,32,31,7,0,4,4,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,10,6,0,0,11,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,4,14,5,28,25,5,17,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,4,4,90,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381411430407588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174788530671533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157105547454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496556170821495,0.12360364368693193,0.0,0.0,0.15813474169125225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903944347879353,0.0,0.2949892756459485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319397921010146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452754752915691,0.17340885801775735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670881756891056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718767457183264,0.128290187547853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158750633396704,0.0,0.0,0.19211531414172545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076632676302887,0.1899211161011274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708337798879622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246258499004982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592911486643238,0.0,0.0,0.11494505267286195,0.11086254455041522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174674370605568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988629129269185,0.0,0.1427574500814579,0.20410025508385726,0.1373331349974619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SnowCrimson,2019/01/20,"A lesson about following your gut Friday night I noticed my 10 month old daughter felt warm. I took her temperature and she was at 101. I gave her some ibuprofen and we all went to sleep. I woke up about 6 hours later and checked on her and her temperature was 104. I considered going to the ER but I thought i was over reacting gave her more ibuprofen since it was time and watched her. At 8 am she was still running a 102 fever even with the ibuprofen in her system. I called the doctor on call who was more than unhelpful and just said “you can take her to urgent care or keep her home and watch her” like I didn’t already know those were my choices. I told my husband let’s take her to urgent care because something isn’t right. 

We take her and they look her over. Minus the fever and a little lethargy, she was fine. Plenty of wet diapers, her vital signs were good. The doctor at urgent care said we could do blood work and a catheter but she didn’t think it was necessary because she hadn’t even had the fever for 24 hours. She said she probably had picked up a virus and it would pass and we could start seeing other symptoms soon (cough, runny nose, etc). She said it we went home and we thought we needed to come back we were more than welcome to but she thought we were good to go home. 

We got home and an hour later she was at 104.6F and I was losing my mind. It took 3 hours for ibuprofen to kick in and get her to even 102F. I looked at my husband and said were going back. This isn’t just some normal fever. We went back and her heart rate was almost 200 and she was just so tired she just wanted to lay on me. The same doctor saw us and I said “I know we were just here but something is wrong. I don’t think it’s something that we can just watch at home”. She was so nice and said let’s do blood work and give her a catheter to rule out a UTI. 

She has a UTI. Her white blood cell count is through the roof. She had to get antibiotic shots last night and we have to go for more today. They said the threshold to go to the ER for us should be low. Any lethargy, vomiting or higher temperature we need to go. 

It’s been a long 36 hours but I think it’s important to remind people to follow their guts about their own kid. The first time we were in urgent care I should have pushed harder for testing. I knew something was wrong but the doctor really said she didn’t think it was necessary and I finally agreed because she’s a doctor but I’m proud of myself for taking her back. I won’t lie, I felt kinda dumb for going back hours just after I left (people who work there were like “oh you’re back”) but I knew something was wrong with my child. She is much better today even though she still had a fever.  And I’ll remember now to trust my
Mommy intuition a lot more and I think we all should  because it’s a real thing!",2.0897060493703457,3.805735751277684,2.9100671409960945,94.69905668570671,77.34752981260647,5.830497377826768,20.19804923673047,6.522977012572876,-0.01011785416040345,2214,51,499,18,51,697,236,587,0.054000000000000006,0.8240000000000001,0.122,0.9903,0,0,5,0,0,0,44.0,19,2,4,8,30,22,1,0,26,0,57,26,8,2,2,104,121,39,0,10,17,3,4,2,0,5,18,9,5,2,17,47,0,1,16,0,1,18,8,6,2,1,60,22,96,16,54,51,14,72,0,2,8,0,87,21,1,7,34,327,113,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051764812920480366,0.0,0.057046428967506536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035154194597990115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23850037605169505,0.0,0.12605053013695688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04571979492357105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557221484229153,0.0,0.21082492307787454,0.0,0.0,0.044530439510607776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254808387188314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645587747089983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057653297871477965,0.13657554788878265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927011079230637,0.056629058772752976,0.0,0.043971517821950384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054016734074135264,0.049590303263756234,0.2056551767865948,0.08671818736073973,0.041345004464986464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125851355224685,0.0,0.0,0.259270186241963,0.0,0.3054534235153322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594865845548577,0.0,0.0,0.0568201522541771,0.04213811115854519,0.0,0.0,0.05616648420542626,0.10572274427149853,0.0,0.05051087566986697,0.05181170827396369,0.0,0.045748216482415185,0.08682112070769457,0.05783318893510416,0.0,0.043949017713649965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052196948970488814,0.0,0.04126224675706452,0.0,0.0380015805783394,0.0766619865631177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702401962371156,0.05064986750855872,0.0,0.058854801960425376,0.05424493164791597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716772448518301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055735671032079735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058839929379418135,0.0331169729480584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058560060983511235,0.04414702388451877,0.44256180520483895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04119401332760635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04276242155729832,0.0,0.05173207142439268,0.0,0.0,0.19898567483956334,0.0,0.0,0.03658980170050026,0.0,0.08256696925138159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053730626450483696,0.15547203825500014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03434368696443327,0.16561950417109672,0.05078981771745408,0.12311954308596765,0.06028723501159825,0.05941549684595855,0.09800113442871704,0.04939653758653325,0.11486951225654662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243648098648302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03049089589749651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437646203860713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290315506053634,0.0,0.0,0.03672245875371626,0.1695602428183254,0.0,0.0
parenting,medicinemaiden,2019/01/20,"How to balance career and being a mother So I am not a mother, yet. I am only 19, but I know that what I want most out of life is to be a stable and present mother. 

I am an only child. My father is an addict and my mother, a functioning alcoholic. Long story short, my parents weren't the greatest and I very much felt like nothing more than an annoyance to them. I grew up in daycare centers and bars. I didn't have any guidance, whatsoever. I've basically always taken care of myself. 

I've realized that all I want out of life is to break this cycle. I don't want to be my parents. I want to have a family, and be the most amazing mother I can. Or atleast be present and sober. 

I am currently in college, just taking general education courses, and I'm confused about what career path I want to follow. Family to me is more important than career. I want a job that allows me to have the most time with my future children, but also makes a decent wage. My boyfriend, who I plan to be with for quite some time, is studying to be an elementary school teacher. I was considering teaching, but I know they don't make much and I'm not sure what I would do in the summer. 

Any advice would be much appreciated! ",2.485999219359876,4.2564392704918035,4.610281030444966,82.70396174863392,76.37704918032787,7.10663544106167,25.143637782982047,7.957251820313856,1.5186883684621386,938,33,186,15,21,324,125,244,0.055,0.809,0.135,0.9449,5,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,2,2,6,6,1,1,15,0,29,5,0,4,2,44,46,16,0,8,7,8,1,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,8,13,2,0,4,1,1,2,6,2,0,0,5,1,30,4,26,31,11,20,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,6,10,139,38,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088871370066853,0.0,0.13525389035220695,0.0,0.1479195532218998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068744197409697,0.1151692638715274,0.0,0.0,0.18824881876382565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111951357880545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609636526319832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289652421929046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735182747362648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213442757185378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19552794548957805,0.06762075470876068,0.0,0.0,0.1224896176949936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847811939466949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052446260043061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280934577173867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053601455732252,0.0,0.0,0.30737866915854883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721742217604525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400795938572553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045098319264664,0.0,0.10406804894479578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141744829106938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420379269227683,0.4898313161254443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966467888553371,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vinto37,2019/01/20,"Two year old and taking off Pjs Pretty much what the title says. He unzips his PJs when he wakes up in the morning and then proceeds to take off his diaper. I tried taking the handle part of the zipper and that failed. Inside out I feel won’t work. Backwards is the only solution I’ve seen but it involves cutting the feet off. 

Any ideas parents?",2.2020496894409973,4.5465614202898585,3.303561076604556,88.93434782608698,79.72463768115942,5.1022774327122145,20.002070393374744,6.18269132825596,0.1854331262939964,274,7,52,2,7,88,54,69,0.057,0.889,0.055,-0.0387,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,6,0,2,2,2,0,0,7,7,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,3,4,0,8,5,2,12,0,1,1,0,7,7,0,0,5,32,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144404573367353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747483756132086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846024999364345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853305073016007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645479621597421,0.0,0.0,0.1917416871212108,0.0,0.0,0.279939300330423,0.2730115183314684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25648740357401284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20048869320192628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5686680254314864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116674060705847,0.0,0.2462756996088753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835397254962884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235114291284944
parenting,Brokens_Reddit,2019/01/20,"Can A Parent Take Away Their Childs Phone, Even If The CHILD payed 100% Of The Phone + Its Phone Bills Like 4G? So my dad is very strict, I'd probably say more controlling and abusive instead. My parents split because of this. I'm the only and olddest (I'm 14) child living with my dad. Everyone else moved to live with my mom. Anyways whenever I am in debth even if it's as little as 30cent my dad has a 'rule' that he is allowed to take away MY phone that I PAID FOR 100% + ITS 4G etc. Away from me! I don't think it's okay. If he bought me the phone or helped pay some of the price then I could see why he could take it from me but he DIDNT pay a single penny/cent! Opinions?",-0.4965858505564391,1.49932175,1.5188076311605734,99.6796104928458,88.25675675675676,4.563434022257551,16.813990461049286,5.900188976854957,-0.6728899841017486,521,12,128,4,17,172,92,148,0.058,0.929,0.013,-0.6198,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,1,5,2,0,0,8,1,9,0,0,2,0,16,18,11,0,5,5,6,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,4,0,1,1,0,7,1,2,0,0,0,3,2,14,2,16,13,4,7,0,0,1,0,21,5,0,6,2,72,22,3,0.0,0.18647006899288868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4435922707673487,0.0,0.0,0.09593764653629906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651552935045078,0.2513109269479408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147115075829793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755207758931635,0.20789657329674036,0.0,0.0,0.15038374080441602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548878166987803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688812622984555,0.15773653151410294,0.27793959784040523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18432205205465493,0.0,0.16727048552275428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969490530630532,0.0,0.0,0.34950467524969137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968271695896256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515523101984236,0.0,0.0,0.12541182288536154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549914808651736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084302181621832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985533311880165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201135491207986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dearmschris1,2019/01/20,"Has anyone sent their teenager to a residential treatment center? Which one? How are they now? I found this sub after being on the r/troubledteens sub.  My 17 year old daughter is in an acute facility in San Diego right now.  Every adult is recommending long term residential care for substance abuse and mental health.  They want 90 days minimum.  I agree she needs help desperately.  She turns 18 in July and then it would be so much harder to get her help.  I am so afraid of these programs though.  I've been researching them for days on end and only get more frightened of them.  The acute care facility is recommending a transport company and many people on the the r/troubledteens sub were talking about how traumatizing that was, even maybe more so than the treatment centers.  Has anyone sent their teenager to a 90 day program and believe it helped their child?  the other sub is horror story after horror story and while I believe the writers, I wonder if there are places that can be beneficial.  She is doing any kind of drug she can get a hold of, not going to school.  She's been to programs 2 years ago - McLean in Belmont, MA and she is terrified of being institutionalized.  Many people on the other sub recommended situations like a short term facility and then outpatient. They have all been to long term and say they were traumatized by the experience.  She is advocating for short term and outpatient, obviously, but I'm not sure that's enough.  And then I don't want to waste time and then come summer, she's 18 and we can't do anything legally.  Any advice, sharing, etc.  would be greatly appreciated.  ",5.436521739130434,7.387279491582498,5.934302444737227,75.516139657444,68.8989898989899,8.666900892987849,28.73795930317669,9.20300075937882,2.5532191187234674,1287,47,225,26,23,415,165,297,0.071,0.831,0.098,0.8081,0,0,1,0,1,0,34.0,1,0,9,0,11,8,0,1,15,0,32,2,0,2,3,32,48,26,0,6,4,2,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,2,10,15,0,1,2,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,9,1,26,7,28,32,10,44,0,0,0,0,31,14,0,2,26,150,36,6,0.0,0.1426224109204181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762717623618404,0.1067034685378848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637156382217487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833530641061106,0.0,0.09905678468846536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712384708256617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24545674584106866,0.0,0.0,0.10369074598555786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328920264506215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959455166161572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661481627420824,0.12437756474623378,0.13424779837165213,0.0795052811044042,0.0,0.10141950775969008,0.0,0.0,0.11774796562446492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198286419775704,0.0,0.0,0.1886698912049703,0.0,0.06841079280712818,0.0,0.0,0.1327117406966545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279509503612106,0.0,0.0,0.24205060546295046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535003462874394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058808204412002525,0.0,0.0,0.21305276780124374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440788105180976,0.1209309335840586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130774805779584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848806079849353,0.08925511024398143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631129380989206,0.0,0.08156791124070302,0.09154914813876884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690306834059607,0.0,0.12576424379780035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279794877249154,0.0,0.09572550106168808,0.0,0.12182397882111334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530438029984582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345019910500892,0.0,0.0,0.09675131843847716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826593551448733,0.0,0.07019050834059401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093134014879448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419983173813614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053946561168686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101915833054612,0.0,0.0,0.15503262807561585
parenting,Slenthik,2019/01/20,"My 2yo doesn't like to eat his veggies. He eats them but won't keep them down. We can get him to eat them. But a little while after he's finished his meal he just throws them up. No problem with non-veggie foods. Somehow he manages to keep down chips, bread, chocolate, ice cream, milk, biscuits... Just veggies get thrown up. 

I think we'd better just let him eat what he wants for a while. I don't want to see him developing some kind of eating disorder. What do you think? 
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parenting,dav956able,2019/01/20,"10 yo daughter eager to start chatting with friends on social media. Are there appropriate chat sites or apps? As the title says, I have a 10 yo daughter, she has been able to use her laptop for a long time now.
For most recent birthday she got a smartphone (only to be used in emergencies, but we'll see how long that lasts)

Her friends (boys and girls 9 10 11 age range) have been showing her they're new snap chat and Facebook pages and more.
Clearly this all terrifies me, what responsible parent would allow theyre kids to use these apps.

I have heard horror stories of kids in my local area being groomed on some of these places.

Are there appropriate places my child can socialize without having to worry about inappropriate pictures etc,

Thanks. ",7.539357142857143,7.74985465,6.743571428571433,77.8839285714286,63.21428571428571,9.0,32.5,8.472884824447931,2.441428571428572,601,21,108,7,8,184,104,140,0.064,0.78,0.156,0.9052,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,5,2,17,22,7,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,2,0,3,0,5,5,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,11,4,17,14,6,18,0,0,1,0,23,9,0,3,9,64,16,1,0.17291614972501207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928472152632928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671891766809781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829684112598792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094974083695389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30605070230546644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700349491314664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151052376599925,0.0,0.0,0.19200292102295144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613211462724588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707338370937121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750986260738585,0.0,0.0,0.13779178380145982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35253247760088124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239094076990187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591979586494025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082879745949533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44803210397686977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668499780771906,0.0,0.0,0.1756047435953997,0.0,0.12283467155794404,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OssToYouGoodSir,2019/01/20,"15 month old insufferable when mom enters the room When we're alone together, I can work while he plays, watches TV and comes for attention every once in a while.

When mom comes home/wakes up, he initially rejoices with a happy laugh and scream, but minutes later he is throwing tantrums and crying. This will continue for hours.

All his basic needs are met and it seems he just wants her to hold him all the time, preferably standing up, not sitting still.

Why is this?",7.333977272727274,7.440650806818187,6.426272727272727,80.33690909090909,63.65909090909091,9.76727272727273,32.372727272727275,9.3871,2.701924545454545,373,13,70,6,5,113,70,88,0.114,0.7979999999999999,0.087,-0.5499,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,2,18,11,10,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,7,0,1,3,2,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,2,4,3,7,9,2,22,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,1,12,38,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22349955371349328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37177825627227135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370417500725544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18181741961882175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297188324906967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164609619931156,0.0,0.21251557065041246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5054752852696028,0.17224629172549855,0.0,0.0,0.16000998418180218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264415793029245,0.22981567495146374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19645255466712305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233494768591118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583237081429108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272820595701761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947223062447821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710204292221672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pallavtasse,2019/01/20,"Child oversaying ""I love you!"" Our son is 5 and a half and this habit began when he just turned 5. Which started with daily saying he loved us.

Of course we were touched by it. Who doesn't love to hear their son loves them! It has slowly progressed to the point he probably says it maybe 15 times a day?

It's a little exhausting and we feel like it doesn't mean anything any more. We don't want to be the parents who say he can't tell us he loves us. So we just tend to pretend we haven't heard him half the time. Or sometimes I mix it up by saying I don't love him and he laughs and says I must be joking and I agree I was and we move on.

It seems silly writing this down but just wondered how those who have had the same approached it? Is it a sign of insecurity? He can creep up a little extrs if he wants something (like an extra 30 an hour on his iPad). So may be this is just part of him trying to learn how to please people?",1.3534064969271284,2.7589420696517406,2.7584899034240604,96.34456540825286,78.55223880597015,5.525431665203396,19.286215978928887,5.900188976854957,-0.3758670763827921,720,15,174,4,17,234,117,201,0.038,0.826,0.136,0.9501,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,10,1,2,1,9,13,0,1,11,0,20,7,0,2,1,35,38,15,0,4,7,3,2,2,0,2,1,7,0,1,17,14,0,0,5,2,0,2,6,2,0,2,5,9,23,11,17,28,4,17,0,0,0,6,47,8,0,5,9,113,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731597192312127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853114625420185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693817461031127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054396892497030835,0.07685688603214598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212531804577726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594699038594982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051186501181124,0.2156516497424976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5825838824430882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808097801133387,0.11718876937540723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434306247879356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945752053571215,0.11650125230388388,0.0,0.07458408830857677,0.0,0.0,0.11809316570192313,0.10170013902673122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599202002776987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277692013425453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979389738686546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282218533960185,0.10640174167302116,0.0,0.0761473744384232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940317570101352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546432188569706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304138578243227,0.11701875505475945,0.0,0.0,0.38822513256245894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269097704258892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666852056989213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lasagnaheadass,2019/01/20,"How much does a baby cost At what point are you financially stable enough to have a kid? Is there a set amount you need in savings? A set salary? Can someone write out how much a baby costs? SO wants to wait until we’re financially stable but I want to know what that means. We’re not in debt, we’re okay. At what point is it like “yeah, this is good.”",-0.4812162162162146,1.7338827702702737,1.1689729729729734,99.86183783783785,92.91891891891892,4.0410810810810815,12.805405405405404,5.6839178017228535,-1.2859632432432428,271,4,65,2,10,87,50,74,0.0,0.735,0.265,0.9554,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,2,6,0,0,2,0,13,12,5,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,9,12,4,10,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,2,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459519476713272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29040355622135083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357344714992794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544597387215587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730861937264935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061498242383617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41321355007140464,0.20839772412866608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5313730975074935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381358500154307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33154545539728514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mydadisindianajones,2019/01/20,"Last night my son told me he's getting married... ...to Zero Suit Samus from Super Smash Bros. 

He is six years old and he told me last night, while playing SSB, that he was going to marry the REAL Samus. My husband says he has good taste in women. I think this is his official first 'crush' and it is adorably cute.",4.462619047619048,4.8134018888888885,4.6001190476190486,90.13446428571429,69.7936507936508,6.934920634920636,25.273809523809533,5.985473137389443,0.6017333333333332,241,6,52,1,4,75,49,63,0.0,0.792,0.208,0.9287,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,4,10,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,6,5,4,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,0,8,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146040761310443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181500077544878,0.0,0.14338645105472622,0.21161512501872612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113121794750788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.473528118319191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647437254322258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871697250755906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20063705315282804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166201415124742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4821620375150459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247128139650518
parenting,username99380u3,2019/01/20,Question about liability regarding child seatbelt My soon to be ex wife texted me a photo of a birthday invitation for on of our sons on the weekend I have him. I texted the parent of the child's birthday letting her know my son would like to attend. She offered to give my son a ride from their place to the laser tag establishment. My wife and I had not yet met the kid's parents. When I arrived I met her and she said it was no problem to give him a ride as they were picking up the other kids who were attending the party. My youngest wasn't feeling well so I accepted their offer to drive him. I picked my son back up from their house after the party a few hours later. He told me when we got to the car that he told me that they didn't have a seatbelt for him in their car. Apparently only one of the 3 work so 2 of the 3 kids they were driving were transported in their vehicle knowing there were not enough seat belts. I was floored. Who offers to give someone else's child a ride in their car without proper functioning seat belts? If there was an accident my son and his friend could have died. I cannot believe the level of stupidity but I now blame myself for having accepted the offer not knowing these people well. They blatantly  had zero disregard for my son and their own son's safety and only buckled up of the other kids. To add to matters my wife and I are going through divorce and I am not sure how best to handle informing her. Am I at fault here? I feel horrible for having put my son in a potentially life threatening or fatal position. ,3.9510869565217375,5.195591691082806,5.066831902520079,83.05192882857936,71.57961783439491,8.008640265854334,27.98338410412628,8.456263369488248,1.9266243699806151,1237,45,247,20,23,408,163,314,0.146,0.8009999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.9827,3,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,2,0,11,2,15,12,1,0,23,0,25,1,0,3,2,36,40,16,2,4,8,14,2,1,1,1,1,1,0,7,8,9,0,1,9,1,0,13,9,4,2,2,18,3,51,8,40,18,4,36,0,0,0,0,64,13,0,3,11,182,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107011894598244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274126723752602,0.15158724873143498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532844072865142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991222533820134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206661644353956,0.0,0.0,0.1492514129069077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607255574288064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159868264225893,0.0,0.0,0.4156975243335464,0.0820920356929144,0.0,0.11552672510888272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225029177711598,0.16667138194338532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23815136296594894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477059027234297,0.10202653766908833,0.07056905814901313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978804017057168,0.2197155047699033,0.0,0.0,0.3207805542993393,0.0,0.0,0.1001407240090156,0.0,0.15091540920814564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382153901312965,0.0,0.14520820608720467,0.16181266698337327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740129934329254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238869434332834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613872039977615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27604883796409996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597487453422035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924086598597296,0.0,0.10515846615883227,0.0,0.0,0.10261035045613827,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rainandzombies,2019/01/21,Does a first cuddly toy mean anything? My husband has done awful things to our children. He put nail varnish in the yougest's OJ and he threw our eldest's first cuddly toy into an open fire when she was two. Since then she only uses dish cloths. Are my children scared for life or something?,3.440526315789473,5.535845684210528,3.3472280701754364,91.36926315789476,74.6140350877193,4.5600000000000005,23.68070175438596,3.1291,0.09967649122806987,232,7,44,0,5,70,48,57,0.145,0.855,0.0,-0.8253,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,3,1,4,2,0,1,0,6,7,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,3,3,1,6,0,4,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,4,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275396156360489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419709213416562,0.28296006880100266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4703891146935377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19530328139448927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30119442330473806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21029410600007928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27796335916268805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768292068476936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287273514180139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128666465494473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18369728072528926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701046854044468,0.0,0.0,0.2388110803279295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twoboysmother,2019/01/21,"Teenage sons want new underwear because of gym locker room I have two teenage boys, ages 13 and 14. We recently moved to a new city and they started at a new school. They are in 7th and 8th grades, respectively. At their old school, they did not have to change clothes for gym, but at this school, they do.

The problem, as they told me, is that they got made fun of for wearing ""tighty whities"". I've never heard this term or ever called them that. They've worn the same type of underwear since they're out of diapers, and this is the first time they've ever mentioned wanting to wear another type. 

This whole thing just seems odd to me. Who cares what type of underwear they wear? Why should they care? Isn't it weird of the other kids to be commenting on their underwear?

I'm willing to get them another type of underwear (within price and modesty limits, of course), but I'd rather them just learn how to ignore or fight off bullies (metaphorically, preferably; I don't want punches thrown in the locker room over their underwear choices). 

Maybe I'm making too big a deal out of a small situation, but any advice would be appreciated. I hope my family is not the only one that this has happened to.",4.673078686019861,6.12662083549784,4.67651133180545,85.7364476699771,70.08225108225108,8.205856888209826,27.441049146931487,8.671277953709913,1.8443122485357777,947,32,190,16,17,293,137,231,0.065,0.8220000000000001,0.113,0.8938,0,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,1,0,14,2,7,9,1,0,10,0,16,3,3,3,3,37,34,12,0,9,10,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,2,13,8,0,2,3,2,1,1,5,4,0,3,6,1,21,5,31,23,3,29,0,0,0,0,26,15,0,4,13,116,34,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778807805343045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889288828698941,0.2742499568392618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971689408920764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353199007099714,0.0,0.26665985531522673,0.0,0.13833856278798218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481933857736084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365800279206693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327942480916602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123389406916616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683225411992177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458965427506174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564051756968365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298852828321476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237388470530284,0.08729077431110291,0.0,0.13137722144145236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389890627932234,0.0,0.0,0.1008587914200935,0.3788988451250483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722234936591982,0.0,0.08861393210148177,0.09945737084253227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513035278807175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912075828556638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.397042229844408,0.0,0.1190491656759579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817526674667256,0.14699227902921433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256051025678952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687855746110625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762537233779027,0.0,0.0,0.12495746113501592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774443551245065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313966803285798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800064466567706,0.14600134601655193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289609022618488,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stevespods,2019/01/21,"TEACH COLORS! Fun Kids Educational Channel Hey Reddit Parents!

My girlfriend has created a channel that has fun, cute, educational videos that kids seem to love. I am showing friends and family but thought I would also reach out to Reddit parents as well to see if they would like to support her content.

You can see one of the videos she has made here that focuses on colours:

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XyhvO1AdSWc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XyhvO1AdSWc)

This seems to be her passion and supporting her creative side would really help build her confidence as she grows.

Thanks :)",9.619038461538462,13.258852593406596,6.092403846153848,71.64322115384617,61.52747252747253,8.506043956043957,33.35302197802198,9.188382445141503,3.34766923076923,490,20,68,9,8,133,66,91,0.0,0.581,0.419,0.9939,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,1,0,3,11,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,1,0,12,19,7,0,4,2,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,4,11,11,10,13,0,4,0,0,4,2,17,3,0,3,1,44,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070350435245305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776540150302673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559610632602668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263141526947135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920672166581706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008360383299906,0.1783160736531292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769868816160504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185031452459357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072598160441662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30034071670745915,0.3431158492356122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277019584445902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349956463303814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960835658755609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943930272961324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40160870562567696,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Warlocksocks,2019/01/21,"Serious questions seeking advice re: modeling. Please I’m not looking for judgement, just advice. 

Our oldest daughter is turning four this April. Since the day she was born she has been nothing short of a joy and blessing to my wife and I after many failed attempts to get pregnant, and miscarriages. 

Since she was born it has become a nearly daily occurrence where someone will stop us wherever we are to comment on our daughters appearance. She is almost a spitting image of Shirley Temple with very tight ringlets of dark hair and strikingly bright blue eyes. My wife and I are very modest and humble and always just chalked our feeling of how beautiful our daughter was up to parental bias. 

This was until a friend of mine sat me down and told me we need to be looking at getting her into child modeling. Family had done the same but it’s easy to again explain that away with familial bias. After my friend did it, it has happened several times since with strangers. My wife and I have always kind of pushed against it because well, she’s our little girl and we just want her to stay a little girl and have fun. 

Our daughter does not shy away from the spotlight though, wherever we go she will start singing and dancing in the middle of the store, or wherever. The reason I am looking for advice now is because my daughter while playing I spy in the car with me yesterday told me that she really wants to go on stage and sing and dance. I feel like she really loves the adulation and attention. 

My questions are pretty straightforward:
How does one get involved in this industry when you’re from a small town? We live in a small city about 2.5 hours from NYC
Are there any other parents here involved with something similar with their children?
If so what kind of advice can you offer?

Thank you for taking the time to read. ",6.468778160614897,7.397976478134113,5.902699443413731,80.51226808905383,65.5597667638484,8.80196130400212,33.083620461171485,8.841846274778883,2.7629953352769685,1464,60,260,22,22,448,196,343,0.027000000000000003,0.8370000000000001,0.136,0.991,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,12,2,1,2,16,15,0,0,16,0,25,4,3,3,0,52,50,25,0,4,8,10,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,4,12,27,0,2,7,6,1,7,2,2,1,2,11,10,42,13,47,36,1,48,1,1,6,1,51,21,0,6,19,180,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820726834634794,0.0,0.0,0.09788045781500347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266825887714664,0.0,0.0,0.0664719616905565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367484380019206,0.0,0.0,0.11917249287254585,0.10795493723218456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303934483967231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171079789217875,0.10003009588742924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842961462843907,0.0,0.09884860664159817,0.06983115897203518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103965595895796,0.0,0.15320781712192247,0.0,0.11110483147704396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086438194270519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626204638521924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035789076781036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0477547136391488,0.19593826153002572,0.0863132355714542,0.0,0.2462509926173794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822134621399437,0.0,0.0,0.09910108477395448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724788704764817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379179962199384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623654441400142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21707507388330635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729790202783768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944481181321904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190001617610083,0.0,0.09777440752959042,0.0,0.12523968660265608,0.10050117819886692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104273669160389,0.0,0.24257435677801106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282152552884385,0.07525115171127382,0.0,0.0,0.06918650604044188,0.10418631483122903,0.0,0.08172166769901043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349429768638452,0.0,0.0,0.08999318461347693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603687002910254,0.0,0.1139952378925971,0.0,0.0,0.18680472083896926,0.0,0.0,0.1063217066005086,0.0,0.0,0.117578755131841,0.0,0.0,0.16130460063669844,0.1153085534848244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878871510921432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yellowcupcake3,2019/01/21,"Preparing toddler for the new baby! Looking for a book and any advice. My daughter will be around 19 months when our newest addition to the family comes home. She enjoys reading books so I have been wanting to get her a book about being a big sister to get her familiar with the idea. Any recommendations? And just for fun, since we're on the topic, any other advice or fun stories to share about bringing the newbie home with other siblings?! I'm getting excited :) We find out the gender next week!",3.112127659574469,5.822049148936178,4.2696170212765985,81.19400000000002,78.78723404255321,6.313191489361702,24.293617021276606,7.554174236665415,1.5327438297872344,396,14,67,6,10,129,68,94,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.9567,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,13,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,9,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,5,14,9,0,12,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,1,6,43,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3902656968156921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073841586272525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777646981381176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201357088662464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882481189132156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825112572872184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129862881831143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40060678538145933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254234989296465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768766674480753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938909396564455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19285996010984224,0.21237050337646754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19974208540310054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651840159825466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778118384866408,0.0,0.16017770629135272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dsmamabear,2019/01/21,"Coparenting with Jerks Hey everyone. I’m trying to deal with the stress and anger of coparenting with my jerk ex-husband. 
What are some ways you deal with exes who are jerks?",2.6768181818181813,5.55768145454546,3.360833333333337,85.66125000000002,82.93939393939394,6.936363636363637,20.37121212121212,8.07648339933343,1.1601575757575762,140,4,27,3,4,44,26,33,0.335,0.665,0.0,-0.9022,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7495284587263331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34735066289151634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164010112962142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468003380542853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885383812873642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abbydoobie1221,2019/01/21,"My daughter (5) acts out of control every time we see my boyfriend. Need advice! I have been a single mom to my daughter (5) for basically her entire life. I had never had a boyfriend since she’s been born up until last April when I met the current guy I am with now. He met my daughter in June. 

He is absolutely everything I ever wished for for us, and he makes such an effort to be such a great role model to my daughter. He treats her like a princess, and I know she really has begun to love him as well. 
Our relationship is a little unique in that I only get to see him on the weekends as he is a truck driver, and during the week he just sleeps and works. We basically have a routine now where my daughter and I will go over late Saturday afternoon, sleep over, and then go home Sunday evening. He lives with his parents currently, and we enjoy spending the time with them too. 

This is where the problems lie. Whenever we go over to see him it’s like a switch goes off in my daughter. She becomes incredibly hyper, and won’t settle down  at all. She won’t listen, and I have to beg her to do anything. Even small things like getting her coat on or sitting at the dinner table become her running away, screaming (not meanly just singing and screaming in high pitch voices), and just getting so fresh. She also whines non stop. I try so hard to reason with her, and to not go off in front of everybody. My boyfriend and I take her out to do things, and he will do just about anything to make her happy. She thinks this behavior is hilarious, but for me it becomes so embarrassing and anxiety inducing. I don’t understand where the behavior comes from. She never acts like this any other time of the week, or when we are with anybody else. 

I should also note that her relationship with her father is minimum. He has not seen her since the end of November. Mostly their relationship is when it’s convenient for him. I’m just wondering if that has anything to do with any of it?

Anyways, just wondering if any of you other parents have gone through this? Any advice would be so appreciated!!",4.272730236348817,5.6058885183374105,5.16220782396088,82.33457497962513,70.90709046454771,8.093920130399349,28.30325998370008,8.548686976883017,2.0181363651181745,1640,60,321,27,30,535,200,409,0.042,0.883,0.075,0.9232,4,0,0,1,1,0,49.0,7,1,2,3,29,15,0,1,18,0,33,5,2,5,4,66,62,33,0,7,14,10,1,4,0,6,1,4,1,1,15,30,1,2,8,2,1,10,8,5,1,0,8,9,55,10,56,46,3,65,0,1,4,1,61,25,0,7,33,234,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778462171897358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549322721262906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24744386239699945,0.0,0.06958982797887384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245753093550749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854668863743304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30139910822000465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836037827595912,0.0,0.0,0.1020276976255886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599160745468732,0.0,0.08057013433226187,0.0,0.0,0.12016624710454504,0.0822852401625335,0.07664397547798325,0.0,0.08175565226726941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258016859252504,0.0,0.2067955265080828,0.0,0.0,0.10029190265541416,0.0,0.09007204854155906,0.0,0.09683651105136057,0.08148894127958695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611207461003712,0.09124774016550598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04999331550808379,0.0741505892712207,0.1026152130064195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425297958866716,0.17776834758605306,0.09117325371343553,0.08032589923104731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210164894289175,0.0,0.1214429196123208,0.0,0.0,0.09909018934366848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653994389028136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745118993313984,0.14031936588135288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918482272270393,0.0,0.0,0.20201711122146088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704353635668384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827605916502086,0.09352965925973923,0.0,0.29299489923129074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746777053169566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049838115465708,0.0,0.1820662329123739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605283710109037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839617946109693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086942466772822,0.058288250191792464,0.0,0.0,0.15913150395456346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061760907514265814,0.0,0.0,0.09470029326693666,0.10942260678680664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593715590775935,0.0,0.08179063611266246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460804462454808,0.0,0.19730057505224352,0.0662253658121159,0.0,0.0,0.06462064580519201,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,420Sailor,2019/01/21,"Settle this debate about if you would do this... Wife and I were chatting about an upcoming vacation and how to make sure we enjoy ourselves while also keeping our 6 month old on schedule for sleeping. 

While thinking of ways to not have to lock ourselves in a hotel room and be quiet while baby sleeps, one of us says “Hey, why not bring the Nest Cam and we can relax in the lobby restaurant or lounge while watching baby sleep.” 

The other says “No way. You can’t just leave a baby in a hotel room alone.”

One side asks how is this different than watching baby on a monitor when we are downstairs eating dinner. 

I would love your thoughts on this!",5.561619999999998,6.248363352000003,5.607749999999999,82.68762500000003,67.48,7.53,28.425,7.1686216300943375,1.5578200000000004,509,16,94,4,8,160,87,125,0.042,0.8490000000000001,0.109,0.8622,1,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,5,3,0,0,7,4,0,0,8,0,10,6,3,3,1,21,17,14,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,5,7,2,1,2,4,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,5,10,4,15,12,0,20,0,0,2,1,15,9,0,2,8,68,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382806955587666,0.0,0.14194020051478198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593095774902372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544124809845086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816185146348497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577629473227316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793828397942786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019336070561432,0.0,0.11847721499559336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416723334340383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624788147810725,0.0,0.24054619673265484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28229735027499914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5328602183410124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672840060397085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372963647012503,0.0,0.1409087348298219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135008899826139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817696018416969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015882386205166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521702926990265,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BubbleYum666,2019/01/21,"Is US public school (with No Child Left Behind) as bad as they say? I want to get a feeling what other parents with school aged kids think because with my acquaintances and the Facebook groups I'm in, I might be in a (liberal middle class) bubble. 

Everything I hear and read about public education makes it sound like the schools are utter shit. Even teachers I've met make it sound awful.

Specifically, I've heard that the No Child Left Behind standards of the early 00's have made it so teachers are forced to ""teach to the test."" And it's mainly math and English, with little else and zero arts. 

I attended public school but I graduated high school before No Child Left Behind. I had assumed my kids would attend public school but I'm starting to feel guilty. I'm wondering if I should look into private school or home school.",3.5411603375527427,5.988894170886077,3.97749367088608,85.30695780590722,75.64556962025316,6.2386497890295365,23.191561181434608,7.3011,1.0241480168776371,661,20,120,8,15,207,100,158,0.12,0.853,0.027000000000000003,-0.9221,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,7,1,9,1,1,3,0,27,26,12,0,4,4,1,2,1,0,3,0,5,1,5,7,10,0,0,5,2,0,2,3,2,0,1,4,8,11,1,18,18,1,14,0,0,1,0,17,9,1,5,4,68,18,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406197183109768,0.06137240876700616,0.0,0.08566961077067868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410359745852293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649690678413638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048294540085138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181170078140976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052600129174459234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347148670519047,0.0,0.0,0.106371894274326,0.10098829943103464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281610088191481,0.0,0.0,0.04918621294844705,0.1009058616620378,0.0,0.0,0.08454421102224256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952640113298724,0.1344067689494885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680350789825747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179106727038576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070530138654599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006323142993334,0.0,0.8151325447779773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334457818867283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126044655986442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451043338720429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211033057768562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938252618724176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918105760839147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715188027250294,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,82booklover,2019/01/21,"Questions about Daycare My daughter’s daycare center is constantly calling to send my child home because ‘ she pooped twice in an hour’ ( teething) or ‘she has sleep in her eye’. ( ear infection). They also close when it rains too much due problems with plumbing and teacher work days (they do not teach any curriculum). It appears to be very excessive and unfortunately I do not have any other options. Does anyone else experience this or is it just me? For the record, if I thought my child had a stomach virus or pink eye I would not send her to school. My daughter’s doctors office thinks it’s ridiculous that they send her home so many times and I have to take her there to get a note for her to go back. If the daycare shuts down for extra days due to power outage or something of that nature ( not weather related), are there any rules that protect the parents from having to keep paying for days when they do not receive care? They also will not allow her to have her pacifier, they said it was against the law for a child to use one in a full time facility? This is from when she was an infant. Just wanted to see if anyone else is frustrated too? We pay a fortune for childcare and would like to have it 5 days a week. ",4.627689075630252,5.876980676470591,4.793529411764705,85.63088235294119,69.96638655462185,7.280672268907563,29.12605042016807,7.5105763829236425,1.6439092436974792,963,36,189,10,17,301,135,238,0.075,0.903,0.021,-0.8961,2,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,6,2,14,5,2,0,12,0,21,9,7,2,0,35,33,17,0,7,15,3,0,1,0,3,2,2,2,4,12,7,0,2,3,0,2,6,6,3,0,2,5,6,26,2,28,24,3,29,0,0,4,0,31,8,0,10,16,134,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21877696027215424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790594642634218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912892416542268,0.2803088044724787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518072661932996,0.0,0.08338405940930163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396747768504659,0.0,0.13946341908904675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781810611828675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528650847880779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000724670411754,0.11970318790872955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285359009988085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380389135770782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071465539387106,0.0,0.07773917995027978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744169417032485,0.0,0.13470759906366295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158253241036092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682719784035518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868050489059347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055415234346793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269038217385996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518857281631477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088664441832562,0.0,0.0,0.15323269706589693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011572005604954,0.0,0.0,0.13843570324545065,0.10900149490476764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368857429581909,0.0,0.0,0.1053052823460196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284676835753546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764755886476247,0.0,0.10859356464926584,0.15952314933916387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181400122984926,0.0,0.1128635650583316,0.08068049129812442,0.0,0.10972224608642016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958253385988904,0.0,0.0,0.19433905936284415,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LivytheHistorian,2019/01/21,Anyone done Disney California with a toddler/preschooler? Looking for tips and advice on must dos with my almost four year old at Disney California. I’ve been to the Florida one a long time ago and have zero frame of reference for the Cali Park. So bring on the stories. TIA,3.6969230769230776,6.230557923076925,4.804461538461538,79.14053846153845,75.53846153846155,7.236923076923077,25.784615384615392,8.238735603445708,1.9581107692307689,220,8,38,4,5,72,43,52,0.0,0.921,0.079,0.6166,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,6,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,9,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,5,25,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437127129042569,0.3117930721537501,0.0,0.35221316939944264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24594225031715974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599484298942575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112756216543427,0.2953699662958708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690881550932748,0.0,0.2383456693900585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510030771658605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22650669211659075
parenting,icandoyouonebetter,2019/01/21,"Baby starting daycare- help! I have done a lot of research and managed to snag a spot at a pretty good daycare in my city. My baby is only 14 weeks old, and tomorrow he is enrolling and doing a test run. He has never been away from me for longer than three hours, and I’m nervous as hell. It seems like I constantly see stories in the media about daycare providers harming children and I’m terrified. I have so much guilt about sending him off, even though the center is good and has an educational curriculum. I would really appreciate any reassurance, research or experiences any other parents have about sending their little ones off to daycare and going to work. If you have any tips, or things you wish you would’ve known, that would be great too. ",6.360297339593114,7.168386704225353,6.518262910798125,76.43182316118937,65.76056338028171,8.846322378716746,33.383411580594675,8.841846274778883,2.831917683881064,600,25,106,9,9,192,99,142,0.104,0.728,0.168,0.8545,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,1,1,7,9,1,2,7,0,15,0,0,0,1,17,22,13,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,4,0,2,2,1,12,5,17,17,2,19,1,0,1,0,13,8,1,5,8,74,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564800309832249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417050724218746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882786573110846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881590359960592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115411679174429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092563215073833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930666695155227,0.2931210388089602,0.0,0.19264738929542435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712205962344488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720800590463428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536733064951453,0.17513167899317453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855455492016847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845128703126332,0.0,0.1347674078809231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18335635463197875,0.0,0.11840584011869915,0.13289483122270934,0.0,0.0,0.1940239841871065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776963747675684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194054913027307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924220912353633,0.15907336626422303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236792535762824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116087034403374,0.0,0.17167752905543296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016292114541626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009381232446937,0.0,0.0,0.12721010860341714,0.0,0.0,0.3723829655040203,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JK326,2019/01/21,Yikes puberty? My DD will be 10 in a couple of months. I noticed recently that she's got a little something going on in the boob department.... It looks like she's growing little chi-chi's! I'm nervous about the puberty stage. Any helpful tips on encouraging open communication with tweens?,3.305555555555556,6.173302518518517,4.9644444444444495,75.50000000000003,79.37037037037038,8.044444444444443,29.37037037037037,8.841846274778883,3.0601703703703698,232,11,39,6,6,78,43,54,0.034,0.7609999999999999,0.205,0.8487,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,2,7,3,0,13,0,0,1,1,4,7,1,0,3,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999669340074488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32541379167003265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714264444081098,0.0,0.23521699974059665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19712765888484907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436814045986861,0.5895268233412573,0.0,0.0,0.2469682104433507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23474618059292202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348324692813109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903862487994037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264109728988287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Concept666,2019/01/21,"My [28m] daughter [11f] has decided she wants to walk around the house nude I’m a single dad who takes care of my 11 year old girl. She’s been watching a bunch of videos on YouTube about feminism and free the nipple and how it’s unfair that women can’t go topless like men can. I’m assuming this led to videos about the perks of the freedom of nudism or something because she’s been walking around the house in less and less clothing and today was the day I finally said something because she walked to the kitchen in just underwear and nothing on top.    
    
I said what are you doing walking around like this where are your clothes.   
   
She tells me that the human body is natural and that societies around the world go naturally for centuries. I tell her that’s great but we live in America and our society prefers shirts for women. She replies “why does it only apply to women” and walked away.  
   
I know being nude does not equate to sexual things in most societies but I’m not sure how I feel about this. I’ve always raised her to be free thinking and have as much personal choice in her life so long as it does not negatively impact anyone else.    
    
Should I just allow this to continue hoping it’s a phase? Or should i contradict my previous philosophy of free thinking? ",4.291376518218623,5.918756680161947,4.719676113360325,84.37927125506077,71.2672064777328,8.114979757085022,27.97975708502025,8.6894789155246,2.056778137651821,1008,37,196,18,19,319,145,247,0.035,0.845,0.12,0.9649,0,0,2,0,1,0,15.0,2,2,0,1,13,9,0,0,12,0,15,6,4,4,1,40,30,18,0,5,9,2,1,2,0,2,1,2,1,7,15,14,1,0,7,2,3,8,5,0,0,0,5,4,24,12,31,21,6,30,0,0,1,2,27,15,0,5,9,126,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731871790957506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018331539913972,0.1321515894165748,0.0,0.4592654523169268,0.0,0.0,0.12117759718424938,0.0,0.0,0.15724566345581498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326373281978208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150006138959458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317912434487465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386044167283229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077432534185945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521435592383161,0.0,0.0,0.14128736956401125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660054948619008,0.0,0.0,0.14219696418553354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810269206695224,0.0,0.2976429561075183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088207030276439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109986345333627,0.1260227330708181,0.0,0.11388854646992184,0.11414007771139865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948125127901958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375635855875347,0.0,0.1353390621495058,0.0,0.0,0.09809238331716637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261723969200298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453722314694869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19858470677975432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215587544424642,0.0,0.09697422048789787,0.0,0.2254621611018284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568620594254504,0.16528577094478505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222545703371697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607363728743738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163811628053652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305658921484263
parenting,thenixnerd,2019/01/21,"Help! My four kids have lice! I have four kids who have lice. No idea where they got it from but they have it now. For what it's worth, 3 of them are in school. So, it could have come from anywhere honestly. The point is, now they have it. Like most people, I went immediately to Google and began researching.

 

I read how lice is now resistant to Nix and Rid. I stumbled upon the [Cetaphil method](https://www.seattlechildrens.org/conditions/a-z/lice-head/) and that sounded good. Seemed like many pediatricians recommended it and it is supposed to have a high success rate. I also went to Sally beauty supply and got special lice combs, specially made for nit picking. I figured we would take a two-pronged approach. 

 

We did our first Cetaphil treatment last week. We did the second Cetaphil treatment yesterday. My wife picked through their hair twice in-between treatments to remove any eggs or crawlers the Cetaphil didn't get. We have now done two Cetaphil treatments and two all-day nit picking sessions on all 4 kids. We've also washed their bedding and we've been putting them in the dryer on hot every few days.

 

The problem is: We just washed out the second round of Cetaphil and found eggs AND a crawling louse on one of our kids. There should DEFINITELY be now crawlers at this point. 

 

What are we doing wrong? Should we try Nix?",4.691102608695651,7.301471832000004,3.847530434782609,86.83759130434788,72.68,6.747826086956523,28.869565217391305,7.7425588080867325,1.7958313043478262,1098,45,202,15,23,322,143,250,0.048,0.8,0.152,0.9825,0,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,9,0,7,2,12,10,1,0,10,0,25,5,1,5,1,37,36,15,0,5,3,1,3,2,0,3,2,1,1,4,12,18,2,0,4,1,1,6,2,3,0,9,12,4,24,7,21,19,3,29,0,0,1,0,23,12,0,3,13,128,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962848753129248,0.0,0.5409465563475258,0.0,0.0848782533482193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751678340840208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965435499819901,0.0,0.0,0.16099026856213947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772873863275944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516173980177664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061672916270034,0.0,0.1368528395537557,0.0,0.0,0.06521051174999716,0.0,0.0,0.10468862053127563,0.1996513817934556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809585693802053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366064002489781,0.13187354803709386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409005660696249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174061205017372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121956282912324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810265540554868,0.0,0.1265424814703802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845776483001088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653077417088394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359804071576378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943077932325613,0.0,0.12547321394999966,0.0,0.0,0.1248484431962781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631910611081654,0.0,0.11362658473874655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384509588740812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474096555446205,0.0,0.36577737888985895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011879682175204,0.0,0.0,0.2314088927591245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866475802707392,0.13646524416503292,0.0,0.0
parenting,RavingNative,2019/01/21,"My grown son had his first true heartbreak yesterday. He's 22. She cheated on him. He kicked her out. His dad and I are offering support, but this is our first time dealing with something like this as parents. Any advice? It's much appreciated! ",1.6172360248447184,4.366593456521741,2.620683229813668,87.9780434782609,92.69565217391305,5.237267080745342,26.13664596273292,6.868970318607317,1.4641776397515534,193,9,36,3,7,61,41,46,0.085,0.695,0.221,0.8043,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,4,3,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,8,3,4,3,1,7,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,0,5,23,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31527553897231825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21940310789625636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326228884677076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5488669434402639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762333956534194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23717411191478044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582483850749144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483804620523445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661227822221262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18813127251637984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goober413,2019/01/21,"Screen time control in the Modern World. I know I'm not the only one that wants some help pumping the breaks as much as I can on my children's exposure to the internet.  Not sure how many people know about a app called Google family link for android so I thought I would share.

It gives android users the ability to help control content and screen time on their kids phone/tablet.   You can set approved apps, bed times with no app access,  ratings for Google play, and even approved/not approved web sites.  

I know we can't stop then from getting to things fully and we need to teach them proper safety on the internet but having a helpful tool is great.  This app has stopped access to some websites/apps that would have been a very long conversation, I know this because I got an email stating it was blocked.

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parenting,Lewdogg13,2019/01/21,"Potty 101. Fellow Parents of Reddit, I need your help. 

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My son is 5, fully potty trained, however he cannot figure out how to wipe his own bum to save his life. He is going to school this upcoming year and need to figure out how to help him learn. 

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ANY advice or tips would be appreciated. ",3.6454999999999984,5.546985883333335,4.823333333333334,81.855,73.5,6.8000000000000025,23.666666666666664,7.554174236665415,1.1595666666666662,243,7,45,3,5,80,46,60,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.181,0.8979,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,13,8,4,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,8,6,1,4,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,1,25,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19193838021991705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42563982370521947,0.4773411848945172,0.13357166014874572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116294480673024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633110399052914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873655333414028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29128440951743256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21810006247810287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19878652123655316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953042692544465,0.0,0.4773411848945172,0.12648740055751198
parenting,thegoodhope,2019/01/21,"Wow, babies really are soothed with nature sounds for longer sleep! I was skeptical until I tried with our 1 month old. I was surprised at how the rain sounds seemed to keep her calm and peacefully sleeping longer. I just used these on Spotify. I'm sure anything similar would work as well. 

---> https://open.spotify.com/album/75UijTvaqXG4uUreQ2P97A?si=KhRKp7lHTpyR9JMlfcjl0g",9.51421052631579,13.784969456140356,5.504473684210527,72.51881578947369,64.96491228070175,8.010526315789475,25.28947368421053,8.841846274778883,2.2165578947368423,317,9,45,6,6,84,49,57,0.037000000000000005,0.6759999999999999,0.287,0.927,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,3,6,1,0,1,0,4,2,2,2,1,10,8,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,6,5,8,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,24,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23379955376528266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525313522392166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267750859382424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981272228968992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820090997595662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586444359476972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5686333568843477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26777172314600883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19289305656674496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24538111246606706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554503557880144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068365532161126,0.0,0.0,0.20182465556875606,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,420Momm,2019/01/21,"What the fu k am I doing wrong? SOS My two year old is driving me insane. Usually I am calm and collected but I would like to walk down the street to the local bridge. We are out of town visiting family where nothing is toddler  proofed. I am constantly having to tell him to stop playing with stuff. I understand he is curious, but how many times do I have to repeat myself? 
""Dont touch the toilet, there are germs""
Instantly does it again.
I repeat myself 50×.
Still does it again.
51× later I can't keep my cool so I snap by YELLING ""DONT TOUCH THE TOILET, THERE ARE GERMS!!""
Does it again.
I slap his hand lightly then feel guilty AF for hitting him. He cries and is upset at me. Then touches the toilet again. 

This is his behavior all fucking day. Throwing things and constantly doing things to piss me off. And yes, he does know better.  I assume there is a communication issue, but I literally do not know what i can do differently. I engage with him all day and give him activities. I thought maybe i am helicoptering so I try to give him more space. Same attitude. 
His dad thinks that I should start spanking him, but this is not an option. 

Someone please give me ideas or at least let me know if this is normal.

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parenting,Compulsive-Gremlin,2019/01/21,"I have a really great partner Today I woke up with a 103 degree fever and a very sore throat. Our doctor’s office is closed but I’m reasonably sure it’s a virus considering our 3YO daughter had similar symptoms last week and that’s what her doctor said.

My husband tucked me back into bed and declared it Daddy Daughter Day. He has the day off of work and was going to spend it with our daughter anyway. 

He did all of the errands I had planned and took her everywhere. She came home delighted with their adventures. 

I know this is what partners do with one another but it makes me so happy that he has a wonderful relationship with our daughter.",4.195952380952384,5.977054468253968,5.057333333333336,81.24600000000002,71.77777777777777,8.214603174603175,28.473015873015875,8.841846274778883,2.3347358730158727,517,20,96,10,10,168,85,126,0.014,0.7979999999999999,0.187,0.9775,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,1,2,3,4,0,0,7,0,10,6,1,2,2,21,19,8,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,5,1,2,2,9,13,0,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,8,1,15,4,11,11,1,13,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,1,6,64,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20947020388922205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360635553829727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284770514727008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576627934278202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089342906520373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353061058340133,0.0,0.0,0.2202407593105295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126527282687143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20037980183174886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978519178942757,0.16283450260712784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334416897145798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536540635156608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797407547673706,0.20539089027151924,0.0,0.2144720140984316,0.0,0.0,0.19002152008691287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882754145462565,0.2076315143769715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18935312405903007,0.0,0.2219454002416173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482640364726034,0.0,0.0,0.16023880880581204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21663577672471454,0.14543073235125825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,copterplane,2019/01/21,"Some mid-back pain building up Our son started walking about 4 months ago, and since then he's all over the place. He explores every part of the house. Out in public, I'd have to catch him before he runs off. Long story short, I carry him a lot, not to mention up and down the stairs at home.

So I've built up a lot of aches and pains in my upper and mid-back. I thought this would get better, or that I'd build more muscle from doing this over time, but things just seem to be getting worse. Doctor says I'm not injured, though.

As a dad, this pain and fatigue has been one of the hardest parts about adjusting to parenthood. Can anyone relate? Any tips?",3.1609701492537283,4.3258479328358215,3.6374925373134346,92.85041791044777,73.40298507462686,5.957014925373135,22.35522388059701,5.6839178017228535,0.1070471641791042,509,12,111,2,10,159,99,134,0.126,0.838,0.036000000000000004,-0.9037,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,7,0,7,6,0,0,1,20,13,11,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,1,6,1,1,0,5,6,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,4,0,1,2,1,6,1,22,9,7,25,0,1,0,0,11,15,0,5,6,68,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436011850212429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016398987444874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327255717509856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491324607003733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378481094247294,0.0,0.0,0.14327379940344634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658115084787348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364900475882069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692742221417312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16249689972154305,0.0,0.0,0.1869235934287676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336286508555138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754492997359304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930501710888714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977383279451457,0.0,0.5171309175306852,0.0,0.0,0.3508554410550578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692531151061177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882707167415147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474766201805928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400616994122394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466280454260375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762407235514863,0.0,0.15916191591744233,0.1286080770064042,0.09446216053767788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16508949425741087,0.11507851681917225,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imataloss34,2019/01/21,"My 5yo stepdaughter humps until she’s dripping sweat My step-daughter has discovered that humping is ""fun"" and that ""she just likes it"" and I am just not sure how to handle it. I know that this is a part of growing up and learning about your body, but it just feels like a kick in the gut when i walk in on it. Here's the hard part. Her mom just tells her to go in her room and shut her door to ""bounce"" and her dad (my husband) will wait for her to finish ""bouncing"" when he goes to pick her up. which can usually take up to 30 minutes. I understand that you shouldn't shame a child or tell them that what they are doing is WRONG or dirty, but wow people. Should we just give her the ok to hump to her hearts content? I walked in on her Sunday and she was ""bouncing"" on one of her favorite stuffed animals. She had it flipped over (like normal sex position) and was holding it's long, fluffy arms up, over it's head and was going to town on this thing. I mean in a way that a woman would do to a man. It was SHOCKING! When she saw me she stopped and kind of grinned. I asked what she was doing in her room all alone and she said ""bouncing on my teddy bear"" I stayed very calm and didn't act like anything was wrong and just said ""are you playing a game with your bear?"" she said ""not really"" I said ""well why are you doing it?"" and she said ""I like it"". I asked why? She said ""I dunno"". So I just asked her to come downstairs and play with the family and after lots of hesitation, she did. I understand kids feeling themselves, rocking back and forth or rubbing up against things and stuff like that. But MAN, she is taking this to a whole new level. I have 2 kids of my own and she has a brother. So there are 3 other kids in the house, all older. My daughter and son never went through a humping phase, so it's not something that I know how to handle. My husband and his ex deal with this differently than I would as the parent. If she's doing it in the living room, they basically just say, ""go finish in your room"". Is that the proper response to have in this case? Do you want to tell a 5yo girl to go finish masturbating? Help me understand what I should do in this situation. Another question...is it possible that she has figured out how to climax at such a young age? When she comes out of her room flush cheeks, and dripping with sweat, I would imagine that she is getting some serious satisfaction with the humping. Sorry about the rambling. Looking forward to advice.

Thank you!",2.5792980459115924,4.235865047808765,3.433579965850882,91.73401062417,75.81274900398407,6.294896604059951,23.70536900018972,6.971451493551832,0.6573424777082151,1922,59,418,19,42,611,231,502,0.065,0.8240000000000001,0.111,0.9749,2,1,1,0,0,0,78.0,1,8,3,0,25,22,0,1,22,1,40,14,8,4,4,82,73,40,0,9,18,9,4,6,0,7,0,7,6,8,38,31,0,3,11,4,0,12,6,5,1,1,17,13,73,17,64,49,8,67,0,0,2,6,80,35,0,7,26,301,111,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218286721214317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710363638501457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818759984962465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920824628288384,0.0,0.2358702320658646,0.0,0.0,0.06466874794151824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934176420862063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448917347356637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670480039068702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786801212771787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928326924867703,0.0,0.08504834043712356,0.060082022227243424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043939484938679364,0.08067767963801104,0.1911869444134858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533829164396966,0.0,0.08631224975221306,0.0,0.0,0.09966050631275328,0.05637136304691603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704166782429803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757861559344875,0.09243980655177557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465260329537414,0.0,0.07426303407317301,0.07442704945255266,0.07062395368922683,0.0,0.0,0.07149996144707088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161102680443747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849848627925216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648641468650078,0.0812256092276112,0.0,0.0,0.08240146794080495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056989252252443987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338459797910764,0.18214713584664355,0.0,0.0583052876964117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481163721616856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421276103955324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05387747922963109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799978650454061,0.06688077019525157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945334426550907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474532910950273,0.0,0.09414457738635663,0.0,0.08964085052592746,0.0,0.07031249555954848,0.0,0.0,0.09627592625346706,0.0,0.0,0.07926452837324886,0.0,0.1264674993848325,0.0,0.2205248640591567,0.07742922497409267,0.0,0.0,0.11174640170146884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262657418327552,0.0,0.0,0.09262575679121401,0.06939242269122181,0.04960515603243035,0.06675573812656865,0.0,0.0,0.07561721505326685,0.07796279530091604,0.15177677697682998,0.093896155378873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922956109552846,0.18390325055662293,0.0,0.0
parenting,teenage_sage,2019/01/21,"I'm a dad taking my 13-year-old daughter and her friends around a theme park next week. How do I use the hippest new teen lingo to embarrass them? Planning some good-natured fun. How often should I ""dab"" or ""yeet?""",2.4357142857142877,4.620770904761908,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,78.04761904761905,5.152380952380953,27.16666666666667,5.985473137389443,0.7779809523809531,166,7,35,1,4,50,38,42,0.054000000000000006,0.7809999999999999,0.165,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,4,3,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,9,5,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,3,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32233742240068713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27975031735138833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30370443554473514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497093803056717,0.3850874857004489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799531989468589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722470859821114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127300410095855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29044725703577595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331744897931515
parenting,Prais3th3Sun,2019/01/21,"Is there any scientific evidence about the difference on food absorption on infants when it's blended or mashed? Hi all,

First trip dad here with a 7 month old big boy! I am from a very narrow minded family that thinks that ""if that worked for my children, it is the right way to do it"" and I am more of a scientific and proved methods adopter.

When my boy got 6mo we started a mixed method for introducing him solid food, on one side we used the BLW method for him to discover and feel the food, and the other part we would mash the food with the fork and give to him, saving the fibers and the taste of it all. We are not doing by self-taught methods, we took him to a nutritionist that does the follow up regularly keeping him measured and stuff, everything professionally done.

No salt, no sugar, no milk until he is 1yo. 

My older sister, mother of 3, insists that he can't absorb the mashed food and tells me to blend everything on our nutribullet blender and I am trying to find a paper or any scientific proof that the absorption is the same processed or not, but couldn't find nothing interesting to prove them wrong.  

P.S: He still breastfeed and we are planning to keep it up until he is 2yo at least.",9.429533898305088,6.7389625466101695,9.014,72.47083050847458,61.245762711864394,12.32135593220339,36.73559322033898,10.577609850970193,3.535835254237288,955,31,190,17,10,308,139,236,0.04,0.943,0.016,-0.6752,0,0,4,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,1,3,6,3,0,0,19,0,16,8,0,1,5,42,26,19,0,3,7,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,13,18,8,2,6,0,0,3,7,1,0,2,3,4,20,2,28,21,6,25,0,0,0,0,27,11,0,4,10,129,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118028568252504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238166186453124,0.0,0.0,0.10370797174984203,0.12127579073897528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130163870051109,0.0,0.111719681324399,0.0,0.05992168070795713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21663004783217496,0.10080364356920027,0.7165074014715094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136845736126219,0.0,0.0,0.09478242507642023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067238152591308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11966024599665515,0.0,0.0945927050279619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137125238467184,0.0,0.12435519686660693,0.0,0.0803047245767438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833363308412382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012059869826575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363066994733812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388123748240779,0.0,0.09464139232931552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356643829420311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358203679147814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593574337903261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166779251700625,0.08045979092575045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235367388310436,0.0,0.0977822865133763,0.0,0.09406688019742236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627591953685901,0.0,0.0,0.08418535057587602,0.12957092171782414,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yana_1,2019/01/21,"Need help with my research! Hello Parents!

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I am conducting a study for a small children's museum. Your input would be very valuable. The study is anonymous and will take 10-15 mins. Thanks in advance!

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parenting,bunglkitten,2019/01/21,"My son is troublesome at school and we're unsure about homeschool My oldest son recently turned 18. He's a junior in high school (held back in middle school). He's always been in special ed classes despite never having a learning disability diagnosis. He's bullied a lot for his quirks and mannerisms. The bullying is mainly name calling, taunting, etc but one time 2 kids grabbed him by his backpack and slid him down the hallway. He's also been suspended twice in high school for a food fight and arguing with a teacher. He's also banned from riding the school bus after he launched a kid across the bus. My wife and I are concerned now that he is 18 and can get into serious trouble for this. We think homeschooling would be a good option, but my wife works from home and is afraid he will disrupt her. She also fears leaving him home alone for too long when she's out shopping or picking up our other kids. Last time we left him home alone for over an hour he rummaged through the fridge and broke our coffee table. Also I'm not even sure if he could handle working on the computer for hours a day without playing games or getting distracted and like I said my wife would be working in the other room unable to keep track of him. We've had plenty of parent/teacher conferences and meetings with the principals. I love my son, but I'm just at a loss for what to do right now.",6.236473048327137,6.483358156133832,6.232302509293683,80.32495934014871,65.95167286245352,8.806784386617101,32.42588289962825,8.472884824447931,2.4640053903345724,1100,42,206,14,16,348,164,269,0.179,0.764,0.057,-0.9855,1,2,0,0,1,0,21.0,4,0,0,4,12,15,2,3,18,0,17,2,0,2,2,40,27,21,0,4,9,6,1,1,0,3,0,1,4,3,5,16,1,3,2,3,1,2,3,9,0,2,5,2,23,6,34,16,3,37,0,2,0,1,41,20,0,5,16,131,28,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848512222794045,0.0,0.3374002907548797,0.08776547371420051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110545027004913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770400654128737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421495540838518,0.0,0.0,0.06802406321524809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176349512104575,0.06966669082943559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869116590328906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754343978193775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021495928167388,0.0,0.0,0.08846926468959702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288488983125934,0.3174066723144526,0.0,0.2077475755876316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375297502748876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597798969429928,0.0,0.11168511709272312,0.11460127821130095,0.0,0.0,0.05153082836881232,0.0,0.0,0.09334399613828023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967293711484979,0.09519728428424824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135051327461257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147407537049907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711993982367536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104146002674045,0.0,0.0,0.09007694602864072,0.1003329640472186,0.0,0.0,0.5337427495537824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941100560612624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758552593504114,0.0,0.0,0.1230091982771244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472889683958926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167624955255708,0.0,0.2303659569771709,0.0,0.0,0.14985594244587178,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,neillao,2019/01/21,"Sensory play Anyone know of any sensory play ideas specific to age?

I follow tonnes of accounts on Instagram but none mention ages. I know a lot of it is common sense (I know my 6 month old can't play with small fluffy pom poms unattended) but it would be great to see accounts with age specific stuff.",5.104322033898306,6.111316677966106,5.5625,81.4535805084746,68.66101694915254,9.967796610169492,30.00423728813559,10.125756701596842,2.93255593220339,240,9,47,6,4,77,43,59,0.0,0.805,0.195,0.9032,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,9,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,3,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,8,7,2,9,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,6,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20438308560645108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015029299832394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33135545699118435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392823405408792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4955203002859161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25551533614716665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23989470979789665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31537478345033576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23949800724181056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440557891453555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350082165071907,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agirlmakesnoclaim,2019/01/21,"How do I talk to my children about the meaning of MLK day? I have a 4 year old and a 6 year old.  They are out of school today and I am off work, so I wanted to talk to them about why today is a holiday.  They encounter diversity at school and in their daily lives (we are white), and I feel like it’s time to start an age appropriate conversation about civil rights. Does anyone have book or video recommendations? Suggestions for how to talk to a kindergartener and a preschooler about race?

Thanks!",4.41,5.605222857142858,5.161836734693877,82.99030612244898,70.42857142857143,8.457142857142857,25.22448979591837,8.841846274778883,1.6010040816326527,392,11,81,7,7,127,67,98,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.8373,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,4,1,7,2,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,2,0,13,12,9,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,11,2,17,12,0,15,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,1,11,52,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313918769255467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211871754805853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444235334184934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950135464570048,0.13424379548803486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180391827566316,0.0,0.16592902816642424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469037976566834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943623788605229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047513407992298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803523235416798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300451122605902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531077025627979,0.0,0.1730033819917921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957252913697192,0.0,0.3562356825812644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083489161505147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695606260658768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680158820958466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24201729776007755
parenting,meeechellleee,2019/01/21,"I need to vent My three year old had a complete meltdown on the way to daycare this morning, screaming, crying, wouldn't get out of the car, trying to kick me, wouldn't put his shoes on, the whole thing.  He was completely glazed over and would not listen at all.

Well I was kind of mean to him and eventually got him and his sister in the building and left feeling like the worst parent on the planet (flashbacks of my mother, just not great).  I had my husband call daycare and he stopped crying as soon as I left and I am so annoyed but also still feeling guilty about yelling at him because that is something I really make an effort not to do.

Today I am exhausted and feel like an ineffective mean mom.  Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day because I am at the breaking point today.",6.118477633477633,6.180377500000002,6.331385281385285,80.14644300144303,66.20779220779221,8.662626262626263,32.69552669552669,8.167268648758528,2.3812375180375183,621,24,118,7,9,199,99,154,0.127,0.77,0.104,-0.4278,1,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,0,3,7,12,1,0,11,0,14,2,1,1,1,26,25,12,0,5,5,5,3,2,0,4,1,3,0,0,3,8,0,1,5,0,0,2,5,5,1,1,5,6,17,7,20,15,3,25,0,0,0,0,14,12,0,1,11,86,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354928743340145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311147421469525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557854522965514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498758337313272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977474585342493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119385187744416,0.09157175163227822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538310906313607,0.20287525391783826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418387259202103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356230975895767,0.1565443876671922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410280282916201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147860651303421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30854492628292474,0.0,0.0,0.13873820509259702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947793739268566,0.0,0.0,0.3093372965099155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662968777818949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528372626238963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489945353826469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766300238173528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422636925400458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273908711318425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096237837853773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931077713566344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339333323720326,0.11870993070346535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094331793351783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691796827388941,0.0,0.0,0.09640183496976357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270498912035112,0.0,0.0,0.1276659900566327,0.0,0.0,0.15852667452128494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086556501963216,0.0,0.0,0.09143685292323438
parenting,Penguinbaby1991,2019/01/21,"Stepparents - do you correct people who call you mom/dad in front of step kids? If so, how? Every time this happens I’m torn between correcting the person so that my stepkids don’t feel like I’m taking their mom’s place, and not correcting them so the kids don’t feel like I’m quick to shake the impression of them being “mine”. 



How do you handle it?",5.754295774647889,5.389192563380284,6.12404929577465,82.77086267605638,67.02816901408451,9.353521126760565,29.017605633802816,8.841846274778883,2.0191380281690146,276,8,57,4,4,89,49,71,0.053,0.841,0.106,0.5775,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,3,0,6,4,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,2,3,10,12,7,0,1,2,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,8,3,5,11,0,7,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,1,4,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26122273813568864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215540964151944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587024543237588,0.3655183988549138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262224402026796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24996329323628666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992309789150178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735467793479168,0.22337379473252986,0.26727941165173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19234621342924807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491717932401542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,painfullyunsatisfied,2019/01/21,"Parents of toddlers, what are some of your favorite items or little gadgets that have made your lives so much easier? My daughter is nearing her first birthday so I wanted to do a large baby/toddler haul and splurge on some maybe less necessary but definitely worthwhile purchases for her and our household. I’ve already got her a new car seat and plan on getting a better baby gate (the one I have is trying to kill me) but wanted some other ideas besides diapers, wipes and clothes. I’m open to anything! ",8.199052631578947,7.770597115789478,7.718947368421055,73.56263157894739,62.05263157894736,9.705263157894738,40.05263157894737,8.841846274778883,3.7101157894736847,406,20,68,5,5,128,72,95,0.064,0.794,0.142,0.7083,1,0,0,0,0,1,9.0,1,2,0,3,2,2,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,15,12,9,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,10,1,9,10,6,8,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,4,2,49,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801294248503303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889665023441004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450940554947088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159244008818701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262597608957874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302677189150686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865653804129056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28084705053496395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544240595246666,0.2241539106585677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240198696982818,0.0,0.0,0.25502611471671754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660871685548036,0.0,0.0,0.2451695945529763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201510707609988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818700190955016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17234726380497067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994542265144115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cdeeter,2019/01/21,Maintaining the family with a disability I deal with chronic pain due to a genetic disorder called Chiari. I have a wonderful husband that helps when he can but I am at home and my job is to maintain the house and take care of the kids. Daily I feel like I’m at my wits end and every muscle is in spasm. I’m at the point where I can’t stand for more then ten minutes at a time without feeling faint. How do you guys manage keep up a home and keeping the kids happy while having an ailment. ,2.7691176470588243,4.1298258627451006,4.306029411764708,86.89963235294121,74.68627450980392,7.452941176470588,25.495098039215684,8.07648339933343,1.4192509803921567,386,13,82,6,8,129,75,102,0.054000000000000006,0.784,0.162,0.9216,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,11,0,8,3,0,1,0,14,17,9,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,2,3,1,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,8,3,13,17,1,15,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,1,7,53,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20136814966704986,0.0,0.20106343665948725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033094896153668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260137858771922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746649193564393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615354941338892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859071347071296,0.0,0.1994253444906471,0.1408831485573898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19526375654162373,0.0,0.20992817665902985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218222057313053,0.0,0.3956249870886371,0.0,0.0,0.22754786203165225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569533484741256,0.3505693745910836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634430410404698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098398112228608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642227826947666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482734671956165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499170478674993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900983899761887,0.21386019345806248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TwoNipperSnappers,2019/01/21,"One of my twins is currently whining a lot. Wondering what I can do to help?  

Hi everyone,

One of my twins is currently whining… a lot. Wondering what I can do to help?

I have adorable twin boy angels, Twin A & Twin B, 3 years and 2 months old. They are most of the time adorable sweet little boys, but Twin B whines a lot more than Twin A. I hate using the word whine, but that’s the best way of describing it. It’s not a full-on cry, it’s a lengthy howling yow (accompanied by tears), and it happens most of the time when he doesn’t get his way. For instance, this morning he whined because he didn’t want porridge for breakfast (I then let him have a banana first instead, and afterwards he ate the porridge no question) , then he whined because he didn’t want to wear the socks that I had chosen out for him (I let him choose another pair of socks himself), and then he whined because I wouldn’t let him take a certain toy to daycare (our rule is that they only have 1 teddy they can take to daycare, so I didn’t budge on this).

I am looking for ways to reduce his whining, if possible, because I want him to learn how to regulate his emotions, and to learn that whining every time you don’t get your way is not the solution in life J

I try to lead my example, am generally very calm around him, and explain when he wines that “it’s better to talk to papa in his nice voice because papa can hear that voice better”.

I have read up on whining and the main things I read seem to suggest it’s normally either 1) a stage; 2) a symptom of an underlying problem; or 3) been encouraged by a parent who constantly accedes to the child’s wishes when he whines, so it’s the most logical course of action for the child to employ to get his way.

I don’t think with him that it’s 2: we are attentive parents and spend lot of time with the boys, showering them with love. However, that makes me think it could then perhaps be 3? Should I be putting my foot down more and just patiently waiting for him to stop whining when he does so?

Any practical advice is appreciated, especially potential tips or behaviors I can perform to encourage to him to regulate his emotions better (if such a thing is possible with a 3 year-old?!)",6.545943653733673,5.49407187668162,7.0533261844414135,79.03174985377271,65.65919282511211,10.5367907974264,35.31058685903685,9.761364909221204,3.1447821407681813,1731,71,359,31,23,570,206,446,0.096,0.763,0.14,0.9705,7,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,2,2,4,7,12,26,1,0,27,0,37,8,2,4,1,63,61,27,0,11,10,2,0,0,0,2,2,3,1,5,24,16,3,2,12,4,1,3,10,13,0,3,6,5,46,13,51,47,12,40,1,11,1,1,53,10,0,15,21,233,70,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465074027529147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386013919156892,0.0,0.058909218148219415,0.09083578930267444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711624882733134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640345719213704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090909518553518,0.22984318687805924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361283355033154,0.0,0.06916447860825549,0.0,0.09515551022140666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580772680294598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19488705874044374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298684440894089,0.08277565285532601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368474133182644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577683720036873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766038238246184,0.0,0.0,0.08552606484490105,0.0,0.0,0.09763473853935864,0.0,0.11612828255141648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657454228466749,0.06118709519962265,0.0,0.08682284604288261,0.0,0.0,0.07274472361165807,0.0,0.0,0.2945881481854671,0.07818410044288067,0.0,0.05782408482228438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914471297933092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487590537519203,0.0,0.0,0.1818005816048496,0.0,0.1174011702086708,0.06588361133449677,0.0,0.0,0.19237769665144785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953174803780795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289018158634327,0.0,0.0870838953532001,0.09704188033243652,0.0,0.17330055427841634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886181682310016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242391269161592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003845006288379,0.13026519768477007,0.06962736835561431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510203948848992,0.11101395565891173,0.0,0.0,0.2020512157632684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058813934418023475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481777163403079,0.0,0.07147621091321467,0.15328425456770084,0.3438017461383098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961658472594066,0.0,0.1878862139303996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115696827327882
parenting,swrevenge2013,2019/01/21,"One of my biggest fears is happening. I am pretty sure my 5 week old has colic. Her fussiness has escalated over the past 2-3 weeks and we have a rare day where she isn't fussy. I had hoped that she (and I...) would be spared colic, but alas here it is. 
Crying all the time, not sleeping well... I feel like she is hardly ever happy. And it takes so long to get her to sleep sometimes that I feel all I am ever doing is trying to get her to sleep or stay asleep. 
I have anxiety (am bipolar 2) that I take meds for, but I still struggle. I see a psychiatrist so I have support with that. And my husband is great, supportive, and an active parent as well. 
Am I a terrible person for wanting time to pass quickly to when this coloc time has passed? 
I don't even mind the lack of sleep as much, I worry more that she is just never happy. (She has started smiling and has calm periods, so I realize it is a bit irrational to think that way.)
Any parents have tips on dealing with a colicky baby? I am able to eventually soothe her, it is a fough few hours before she exhausts herself for the night and finally falls asleep. I need tips on how my husband and I can survive!
(Also we don't live near family, so we can't enlist them for help.)",2.242347073216634,3.77534567588933,3.986832298136648,87.9371014492754,76.43083003952569,6.716280820628648,23.90532655750048,7.447530270364453,0.9842630905326558,948,30,202,12,21,319,144,253,0.115,0.72,0.165,0.9497,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,0,1,1,17,15,0,2,11,0,31,8,6,1,6,35,46,20,0,5,5,4,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,11,13,0,0,4,0,0,3,6,4,2,1,1,4,37,11,22,43,7,31,0,0,1,0,22,6,0,2,21,149,48,0,0.10904745107055408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720520722336315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415600612440966,0.0,0.08342100159297483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279134913676053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190515735268342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978350452718145,0.07032658466996382,0.11242313379623294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202481298109598,0.19727932515542068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028002318947055,0.12270869945039252,0.11027533554113687,0.0779035208335148,0.0,0.11945615245049356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394558483360047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202251997766064,0.0,0.0,0.09643030084695334,0.2321660787874361,0.09768509705697168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309220783097688,0.0,0.0,0.1083087239863681,0.10738977336822997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327507639355935,0.0,0.09629089713721653,0.09650356267427504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112713515126465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010683964730536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016242369739003,0.08085730323358048,0.08410411682772911,0.0,0.0,0.10233364575279097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442695614283893,0.0,0.07389337501562307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421685790361452,0.0,0.10409813102312636,0.0,0.09521602811854166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094046100507222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689670008214731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365048153422912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785071744488188,0.0,0.0771843471318886,0.11623007361616518,0.0870854352872795,0.0,0.0,0.11400007259896375,0.0,0.0,0.2474915104082093,0.10277593211042337,0.0,0.1639802241646493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987320350292267,0.0,0.0,0.1907593369668356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740360612142228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431901196344753,0.08655679091875998,0.17494257521589612,0.0,0.1960935091696502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074297985138763,0.0,0.07746418051630341,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaystory78987,2019/01/21,"My mom bought me some Playboys as a teen. Thoughts? Wondering what you all think of this anecdote. In hindsight it's kind of bizarre and out of character for her, but I can understand it.

When I was a teenager pornography wasn't as widespread and easily accessible as today. Our Internet was still dialup, and waiting for a single picture would take quite awhile. Plus I could only access Internet on the family computer in the living room. So needless to say, I didn't get to see much porn. Yes I saw some and cleared history, but it wasn't a regular occurrence. My mom, who did most of the parenting in this regard was actually pretty strict about allowing porn and movies with nudity, even though I knew that my dad had a few issues of Playboy that I got around to from time to time. But she was kind of adamant about not allowing it with us. She actually later changed the movie rental store accounts to let me get access to R-rated movies once I got a few years older with the condition I not watch them around my younger brothers, but that was as noted a few years later.

Despite all that she was empathetic and understood that I was sexually frustrated. She found some SI swimsuit issue and lingerie catalogs in my room once (I can't even remember where I got the catalogs) and wasn't angry or even demanding that I throw them out, just basically said that I should hide them. Some of my friends talked about finding porno mags, watching nudity-filled movies and other things that I didn't get access to. I was getting kind of angry at her for being restrictive.

One day, she had a surprising convo. She sat down with me and told me about how I would be opting to stay at home for the next week in the summer while she and my dad took my brothers on a camping trip for the weekend. I was never fond of camping and at that point in her opinion old enough to stay home alone. This had already been discussed earlier, but then she made a very surprising offer: She would buy me a Playboy I could look at during this time.

She explained to me that while she had some moral concerns about pornography and wondered how her church would feel about it, she also felt sorry for me. She knew that I was feeling frustrated and uncool and quite frankly my desire to see female nudity was pretty normal. I think she was also concerned about how I'd end up if I was still so sexually frustrated once I became an adult. I made a joke about how the PG-13 porn substitutes I had in my room were in a way even more frustrating because the only parts that were covered up were the ones I really wanted to see. She didn't want me getting hooked on porn, but couldn't fault me for just acting out on something so normal. But she set the following rules:

1-I don't tell my brothers about it.

2-I don't tell anyone else in the family about it.

3-I don't show them to my friends, and if any friends I had over found it, I would say I stole it from an uncle or something.

4-I would hide it in my room and better than the above mentioned porn substitutes. She said she never wanted to see it ever again. If she did find it, she threatened she would throw it out, just as any other porn magazine she would find.

5-This was only happening once. I couldn't ask her to buy me any later issues for any reason.

Needless to say, I took the deal. No teenage boy at the time would not.

The next day was a little awkward, with me tagging along on a trip to a gas station. I went inside and got a soda and hotdog per her request to kind of mask what was happening. And there was the ""adult"" aisle that was so common in those days. The latest issue of Playboy and a few special editions. She actually took me outside and very discreetly told me that I could get a special edition as well, since she was concerned I might get bored with a standard issue too quickly. But only one. I went with one simply labeled ""Nudes"". We went back inside, I grabbed a soda and hot dog, she grabbed the magazines and paid but not before I walked out the door per her request. I could still see inside and her very awkward look on her face.

I loved those two magazines to death, needless to say. I held onto them for quite awhile, despite getting bored with them about six months later. Not sure where they eventually ended up, I might've just thrown them out while prepping for college, as they weren't special anymore and I could just buy my own and had been able to for a few months anyway. I never brought it up to my mom ever again and I wonder if she'd even remember that today. But as strange as it was, I have to stay thankful to her for that, and give her credit for the empathy. I know now it wasn't easy. Frankly we'd be better off today if teenage boys were still getting nudes via such relatively vanilla means now, and giving the hormones some satisfaction without going overboard.

Unorthodox parenting but understandable. Your thoughts?",5.85563118216329,6.365265465825447,5.945692847849723,81.14397690210127,66.79179810725553,8.971116933112334,30.734837548343396,8.890055958807707,2.3749058475467395,3882,139,745,60,59,1229,364,951,0.064,0.8340000000000001,0.101,0.9917,3,1,2,0,0,0,98.0,4,2,9,5,54,30,4,2,48,1,73,12,3,9,9,157,145,74,1,28,29,10,6,0,3,11,0,6,7,4,44,49,2,3,26,3,8,15,24,9,1,6,73,22,126,21,120,48,20,115,2,0,10,9,92,46,0,19,49,537,170,5,0.04620247173947762,0.0,0.13526084289316942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047851826785673464,0.05098557646175412,0.07389619991513395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256770605324396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045820436991057666,0.03230584250121851,0.047339892252600484,0.0,0.08225999068195185,0.04319307420118285,0.0,0.0,0.035526848859277836,0.0,0.028164597936547082,0.0,0.039314900477456866,0.0,0.0,0.08172466329905445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048876088871239384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844445707731542,0.0,0.0,0.08939031611052606,0.047632719619675315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03859623656664978,0.0,0.08184335268204455,0.047739504006078834,0.0,0.1525814841901806,0.08358556165956818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711115688259148,0.0,0.04672271588085367,0.0,0.04436161838500762,0.0,0.1266846664245984,0.0,0.0,0.10131725101641967,0.10708774516720164,0.0,0.2172499609246178,0.08864324181469732,0.02625792942592419,0.0,0.1478093493047105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171338634642786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268969254795847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24111688358503455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19245105795503986,0.02539167016899501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04724515766684784,0.0,0.0,0.04630701450779591,0.04079762901448062,0.0,0.07759687974261696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041699534609810684,0.08743579177784995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05032803644300913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802704239903964,0.0,0.16233532948906926,0.0737567442903178,0.0,0.033964132853049334,0.0,0.10690258349255888,0.0,0.0982737057010966,0.0,0.0905372251821852,0.0,0.0,0.04848172199828291,0.1968164980679539,0.12523196232014785,0.14055624688394455,0.0,0.0,0.10260475434559006,0.05003277449585127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043676269752437095,0.0,0.0,0.0940090476949362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742604760878253,0.0,0.0,0.029598486478212886,0.0475038359589849,0.0,0.0,0.10467678769447432,0.0,0.08789826176762396,0.14696823983464394,0.0,0.0,0.18408694061091152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03821916206606497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113783998718018,0.0,0.05171988446027051,0.0,0.14773706231942438,0.14758941445325044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043545282830664334,0.0,0.03473850877953364,0.03713579666566795,0.08076599351335784,0.04253702847986562,0.0,0.0,0.030694869238897374,0.05920935663322975,0.04539369390127482,0.07335920338994252,0.10776413128689956,0.0,0.13138362268740966,0.08829688342099863,0.15399793833589068,0.0,0.0,0.0451331014077533,0.09619680499695353,0.05557588474229051,0.0,0.0,0.11436563369803884,0.08175424469012878,0.036673371518756784,0.037060835939275165,0.0,0.041541570787582666,0.12849046255575775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04453753401780754,0.15031382920791309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29538819279045664,0.0,0.0,0.05950575398536979
parenting,Scruffles_thePenguin,2019/01/21,"Potty training tips? My 3 y/o is having trouble pooping in his potty training toilet. He has little to no issues going pee, but will not tell myself or his mom when he needs to poop. 

Any tips for getting him comfortable pooping on a potty training toilet?",2.8867346938775498,5.419471551020411,4.607510204081635,79.48391836734696,78.38775510204081,4.736326530612245,26.126530612244892,5.6839178017228535,1.2072334693877549,202,8,31,1,5,68,39,49,0.065,0.841,0.094,0.5422,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,4,4,0,0,4,7,3,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,1,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28145411190477104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21623638502730969,0.0,0.2352188116342536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4319855225586227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148187294653954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847338705360734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068884324007725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617513153172626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProEditor,2019/01/21,"Need Help A close friend's young son very unexpectedly passed away in his sleep a few nights ago, and having 3 kids of my own, I'm having a really difficult time processing everything...

Those of you that have experienced the tragic and sudden loss of a child, or know someone who has, how have you dealt with it? 

I'm devasted for them, and I can hardly sleep the last few nights (getting up and checking on them repeatedly). Thanks to all. ",6.426785714285713,6.727432869047616,6.695333333333334,76.98300000000003,65.54761904761905,10.529523809523807,28.704761904761906,10.355215969177356,2.6737219047619045,347,10,68,8,5,112,65,84,0.097,0.836,0.067,-0.3597,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,2,1,1,5,0,0,6,0,6,2,2,1,1,11,12,6,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,2,10,12,4,14,0,2,0,0,11,5,0,1,8,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173112377859409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23032708233425586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203255746158763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894027649841955,0.0,0.12808108350021732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21960680777850333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643192965850483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347283724220386,0.19983047943742116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177608236749745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4601145097701009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704976800756754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4906553402990362,0.0,0.20771532927266054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22570175875079215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294930106141104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20227494012277072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quavo_ranchero,2019/01/21,"How did you introduce your kid to new hobbies/interests? We had our first kid in November and I'm already looking ahead to what sort of personality she develops, being supportive of any crazy thing she takes interest in ... whether that's soccer, singing, Legos, gymnastics, or anything else. 

I had a rough time in my childhood because my dad tried forcing me into cub scouts and it really wasn't for me. I wasn't a very easy kid and it was a constant battle to get me out to meetings and events, my dad finally gave up. I'd like to take a different approach and try to respect my girl's wishes when it comes to stuff like that. 

My question for you is where you draw the balance -- how did you introduce your kid to ____ and what can you do to support them? ",4.137272727272727,5.519545405405406,5.124840294840297,82.28404176904179,71.29729729729729,8.625061425061427,31.697788697788692,9.095868883498916,2.746694594594594,592,27,116,12,11,194,96,148,0.05,0.833,0.117,0.8533,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,7,1,2,4,7,1,0,5,0,11,0,0,2,0,17,21,11,0,1,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,9,10,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,8,2,22,6,20,12,0,18,0,0,1,0,23,7,0,3,11,80,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123882096191175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088174994305032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158381025350772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173239364052828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579022547752278,0.0,0.20798462205639065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20108334777677786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077852112892707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21083430852457952,0.0,0.16370931736601144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005542121314226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880558458081131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162082989222495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858824051346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680516661303761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21560311806747806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329701823139914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203246106582899,0.0,0.4368104981804392,0.0,0.0,0.289417133100678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278641681541566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122269889522236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26134010600170826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588025076157431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22132347605559485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yardgnomefriend,2019/01/21,"Stay at home parents, when your kids started school did you go back to work? Back part time? Keep staying home? I'm a stay at home mom to three kids, ages 5, 3, and 2. I've been home since the oldest was born, so 5.5 years. We just set an official preschool start date for the two year old, so in a few short months  I will have 30 hours a week with no kids at home.  We could also expand that by adding on afterschool programs. 

I am really torn about what I want to do next.  The extra income would mean living more comfortably with more savings.  I'm kind of dreading having a boss again, though.  Full disclosure I was never a very good employee.  I thought I was just kind of lazy/not that good a worker honestly. But it turns out I do awesome when I manage myself, and I'm not lazy.  I wonder if the things I've learned about myself in the past 5 years will make me a better employee: how to motivate myself, how to get tasks done, that the issue isn't that I'm just inherently a little lazy, and that I can be on time for things.

I think about everything I could get done in the house with no kids home.  The house could be so clean. I could do the yard work as well (which my husband largely takes care of now).  Managing a shopping list and meal planning would be so much easier and I could make some really great meals. 

And then there's the fact that when I kid gets sick at school, right now it's no problem at all, I just go pick them up.  If  a kid seems sick in the morning, I keep them home. If there's a school event during the day, I go.  If a teacher needs to speak to me, I can do that any time. I've got to admit, I've been a little judgey the past couple years about the parents who send their sick kids to school and spread the disease, and now it's suddenly dawning on me why they would choose to do that.

And most recently, when my close friend had a medical scare and had to go to the hospital,  I was the one who picked her son up from preschool and took him back to my house until late that evening when her husband picked him up.  There's just so much freedom in not working and that freedom can be so valuable to my family and to my community.

I guess after typing that all out it is skewed heavily to continuing to stay home, but I honestly am torn.  The point about having more money fits in one sentence, but is obviously no small thing. Just like having fee time can solve a lot of problems for myself and my community, having extra savings can too. And then there is also the life outside of the home that a job builds.

Any way, I so appreciate anyone who read all that, and anyone who is willing to share their thoughts and their experiences as a stay at home parent facing this decision.  What did you do? How did you decide? How did it work out?

Thank you!",4.0168913892505085,4.682943478798588,4.645802492095964,88.28362655756,70.92579505300353,7.936693323414544,24.965408220197137,8.032893268588372,1.1345519434628972,2163,57,475,28,38,692,252,566,0.057,0.8340000000000001,0.109,0.9781,9,0,0,0,0,0,64.0,2,5,6,8,44,22,0,2,38,0,52,8,1,11,6,89,85,48,0,16,15,7,0,1,1,6,5,1,12,7,29,26,2,2,12,3,3,6,8,4,1,4,18,1,53,18,61,52,16,87,0,0,0,0,40,30,0,10,45,325,82,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033358612935934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681626108737677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898383433564549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028820149155118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995170197856205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758481498464641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254722101970653,0.062493710164173565,0.0,0.03642473193828881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559667816115825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037304307013536576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507603095837184,0.05524798100023405,0.053244031507160935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04363607358506462,0.0,0.08852493127441914,0.0,0.12839485289362393,0.09474497990216353,0.04517197298871895,0.062269065029123084,0.06221875351886558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.566537408872229,0.0,0.05562112430467577,0.19550996073098692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895012949403556,0.05604738403845912,0.10040349906730893,0.0,0.1176298256164287,0.0,0.0,0.06371155798717024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03989328009927474,0.027593126919698827,0.1132149877324552,0.04987260696335842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801701842172911,0.0,0.0,0.0754012722706875,0.0,0.0,0.06152294732296532,0.0,0.05689735248403398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614833818734933,0.04508155507740818,0.0,0.08303815145876227,0.04187897946925306,0.04356062397645413,0.0,0.06006679821422878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059265940804279674,0.0,0.07654420841252843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881420578717924,0.0611620076458921,0.10783252266802264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053391569255550886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080868840305441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05649498093211545,0.0,0.07236467993344647,0.0,0.055766886753628384,0.0,0.0,0.048233352402528636,0.0,0.0,0.05654602938354274,0.22864187356739726,0.0,0.05141699466852667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046720588775225454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995324008138896,0.30099920922539586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04246570295151041,0.0,0.0,0.05199891645694764,0.0,0.0,0.11256780256518277,0.03618990911057945,0.05549101526830725,0.08967714071112058,0.13173506142995936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275102121798433,0.0,0.06143369148258821,0.05517245687849524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04660166482969919,0.03331318846633495,0.0448309543460724,0.04530460590925367,0.0,0.05078203029382631,0.0,0.050964141438608265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124982183468576,0.16447156754023312,0.0,0.0,0.12036466821332775,0.0,0.0,0.14548429172280058
parenting,Mullein911,2019/01/21,Reasoning with 5 year old boy Our 5 year old is very stubborn (like me) and when he wants something and doesn’t give up and eventually leads into tantrums. I usually don’t give in.  A lot of times I’ll take things away or just sit him down until he’s ready to be nice. Our weekness is usually when we are sleeping and wakes my wife up to go sleep in his room (which  I want to stop). He and his brother share a room now and were hoping that would’ve fixed it. Our other weekness is in stores when he occasionally acts up. I just want to be able to reason with him. I wont give In when he wants something either. I would rather drag him our over my shoulder if I have to. My younger son Is a breeeze compared to my oldest.  Any ideas? ,3.0408199643493745,3.9389027908496734,3.871146761734998,92.08197860962568,73.37908496732027,6.8708259061200225,25.02020202020202,6.980632752743323,0.7028875816993461,569,17,132,5,11,182,94,153,0.05,0.862,0.08800000000000001,0.5434,0,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,0,1,8,6,2,0,3,0,13,4,4,3,0,29,23,13,0,8,6,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,5,10,0,2,3,0,1,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,21,4,22,18,2,34,0,0,0,0,23,13,0,4,18,82,26,1,0.1434767117159119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756908399290716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480109362163614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129078068525969,0.08154112169027172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250474830132542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196774348189166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009547405575191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197876952510354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011093471302351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950359113130992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871606577624293,0.0,0.0,0.22091076463366535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995295545637512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787663131327906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531955194474803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366242441069985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31603865543585263,0.11838331326244192,0.3385051276938558,0.0,0.2301767275133323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384347891003946,0.0,0.0,0.18478859655254898
parenting,Begbe,2019/01/21,"Negative Son - Confession Our four year old son is constantly negative about everything. He is unhappy with his toys, with the time we spend with him, the activities we do with him, and, it seems, just life in general. He remembers none of the fun or nice things we do with him, but even at four he can fire off all the times we've let him down - and boy does he! We have been to multiple therapists and had several tests conducted. Most recently, we have has him IQ and Autism/Asperger's Spectrum tested in an effort to better understand him and how we can communicate with him. The Doctor doesn't think he's on the spectrum, rather believes he has high Anxiety coupled with ODD - an apparently unique and difficult combination. We are starting CPIT Therapy Friday and really hoping it is a start to rectifying this.

My wife and I love our son more than anything and we are doing everything we know how to make him and his life more enjoyable, but God is it proving more and more difficult to work with him. Am I looking at this selfishly, is this just him and the way he is - is it wrong to try and change him? I don't know anymore and  the self doubt makes it harder and makes me feel guiltier to think my own outlook is wrong and I should accept and work with him as is. This is more a confession than anything (I couldn't find right flair), but if anyone has any experience or advice on how to help him I am all for it ears. I hate feeling like I don't know or can't relate to my son, but I feel like I am failing him and don't know how to fix our relationship.",6.345033100056746,5.836601048231512,6.949207490069983,77.82402685833179,65.84887459807075,11.304785322489126,32.44202761490448,10.843485225782073,3.276863287308493,1230,44,254,31,17,406,153,311,0.15,0.742,0.108,-0.9312,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,12,0,0,5,9,17,1,1,12,0,35,5,1,7,3,79,55,31,0,5,11,5,4,2,0,1,3,1,0,2,11,36,0,0,17,1,1,0,9,8,0,2,2,6,42,9,33,50,10,19,2,1,1,1,47,10,0,8,10,181,53,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187756390813234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265704482419263,0.0,0.09298415365548997,0.0,0.12054330036646115,0.08498943117840571,0.0,0.20004786790238796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694336524355213,0.0,0.10749963643219317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858203562514006,0.0,0.0,0.1313505835270251,0.0,0.0,0.13449093536053527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440988479369346,0.10636777858102756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028153761469761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184796356999878,0.11889760780697314,0.0,0.0,0.1843754908577716,0.17366832843438865,0.0,0.0,0.11109298819087787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200038295829168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147129564729312,0.12842250330609642,0.0,0.120724935460696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26719917355520845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429142115355885,0.17170638584447825,0.11876476654060845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206999972675873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970212978529746,0.0,0.24340339872010044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754454476858942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786698425927645,0.0,0.12001433011318012,0.13049743773217293,0.1376905840391031,0.1038016252059434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065305113477024,0.12680143584818096,0.13731503606720438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720650928773936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900112917283566,0.141127000560298,0.08075132157940268,0.15576654719677271,0.0,0.0,0.14175163856449766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252334976244513,0.0,0.0,0.12653611707484064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647942116525586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697729019920105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657880754830627,0.0,0.07827315110057838
parenting,nobodysaynothing,2019/01/21,"LPT: replace ""no"" with ""here's how"" Just an idea that's been working well for us lately. I read one of those books on how to raise an adult instead of a shitty millennial or whatever (tbh I'm not a huge fan of the ""back in my day!"" vibe in some of those books but whatev) ... and one of the points was to empower kids by teaching life skills like laundry, chores, etc.

Now I'll admit something clicked for me thinking of chores as skills rather than punishments. And I noticed I often will tell my 2.5 year old ""no"" when he shows signs of independence, like opening the refrigerator to look for milk, trying to pour his own cereal, things like that, just because I'm not used to him doing it or think he'll make a mess or something.

So I tried something new: whenever I'm about to say ""no"" to something fundamentally safe but below his skill level, I've started saying, ""here's how,"" and showing him how to do it without making a mess.

It has been going great. In just a month, I've learned that my 2 year old can wash hands _almost_ by himself (he still forgets to turn the water off), can get his own plate, bowl, and cup for snacks and meals, can put his milk back in the fridge to save for later and retrieve it when he's thirsty again, and can put his clothes in the laundry after bath time.

All of these leaps were initiated by him, not by me nagging. He wanted the independence, and asked for it by trying to do things on his own. He just needed a bit of scaffolding from me to show him how to use a step stool, put the things he needs on shelves that are safe for him to reach, etc 

So I'm sharing the idea in case it resonates with anyone. Tldr instead of saying ""no"" because my son is incompetent,  I've been saying ""here's how"" so that he can learn the skill.
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parenting,cyrano2729,2019/01/21,"Grade-School Kids and Physical Boundaries Hi all, looking for some advice on a difficult situation. My son is 9, he's got some light signs of autism and possibly ADHD, which means he has some difficulty with impulse control. His mother and I split up 4 years ago, and I now live with my girlfriend of 2 years, and my son is with us a few nights a week and every other weekend.

My son and my girlfriend have a great relationship - she's great with him and he adores her. However, he has always had difficulty with physical boundaries - getting too close, climbing on people, and occasionally wanting to touch women near their breasts or butt. I have talked to him about it in terms of behavior in the moment, when he is getting inappropriate with someone, and I even have to tell him sometimes to give my girlfriend some physical space because he can be very in her face even when not being wholly inappropriate.

The living situation is new-ish, only about 4 months now, and she's like the most exciting thing in his world. He always wants to play with her, asks about her when she's not around, and wants her attention constantly. She has begun to feel that some of his pre-teen sexual development feelings are getting mixed up in his affection for her as a friend and his recognition for her as a pseudo-mother-figure, and some of his physical closeness which is already somewhat inappropriate is maybe more pointed toward her now, and has begun to make her uncomfortable. Of course, she is also adjusting to living with a child (she doesn't have kids of her own yet), so it's even more overwhelming for her.

Has anybody dealt with this type of behavior? I'm mostly looking for advice on how to talk to him about it - I want to establish that it's not okay to touch anybody's private parts, and that he needs to be sensitive to people's physical spcae, but I also want to convey that she's his friend and it's okay for him to like her very much and hug her sometimes but that she needs some more boundaries. He's \*very\* cuddly with his mother, and I'm trying to figure out how to differentiate that relationship without making it seem like she is rejecting him. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Tl;dr My developmentally-challenged pre-teen son is being overly physical/affectionate with my girlfriend, in a new-ish cohabitation arrangement. Need advice on how to talk to him about boundaries with her.",9.033721781574133,8.09081281655481,8.753777709985766,68.49124008541796,60.655480984340045,11.706691071791743,36.87299166158226,10.832165505486646,3.9282850111856815,1927,74,338,40,22,622,196,447,0.033,0.878,0.09,0.975,2,0,0,2,0,0,57.0,1,0,1,2,23,16,0,1,11,2,28,4,3,7,1,78,53,33,0,9,7,6,4,3,6,1,0,0,0,4,17,35,0,1,8,2,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,7,54,13,71,44,19,42,0,2,2,3,74,22,1,12,22,241,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157168808924448,0.27215688440423,0.0822941446061915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244762129975103,0.14848297165131005,0.1544951643795341,0.0,0.0,0.06313214832998623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264435707446854,0.08678979459718729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05659239855074603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032350588018243,0.10412426766813594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395332006959264,0.0,0.07821893469659225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388206302321916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434508283071432,0.0,0.14551005250727744,0.08905743445919974,0.0,0.0,0.07425000016176453,0.2047056075961066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606598578921153,0.0,0.2459295552148073,0.0,0.15591891475184558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239384536002878,0.0,0.09326695628638218,0.10112639644549548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410137858326656,0.0,0.06824566596621194,0.20651173902520012,0.0,0.1793245517881354,0.0,0.08712096619624814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060650360049521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053311328100392,0.0,0.1287225750900632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776070123949528,0.1046594449076116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19934377313183005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395570984692801,0.0,0.08451505678994736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870471018087425,0.0,0.0,0.07866024563775642,0.0,0.18363576592306446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238558998929489,0.08114337908448906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167658694593384,0.0,0.0,0.07370198014120563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303003414858545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167113502674136,0.0,0.0,0.2298000325561021,0.2737874931466889,0.0,0.07446801132487263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949127842270843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594853728248876,0.0,0.0,0.1195675987702578
parenting,youdontnome235,2019/01/21,"6 y.o focuses on misunderstandings and can’t seem to get past them Ive about had enough for today and its only 1 pm. 6 y.o is homeschooled and has some issues letting go of misunderstandings. 

Almost every single day at least 3-5 times a day there will be a miscommunication either his fault or mine and ill try to redirect to the issue at hand but he just will not drop it and will keep at it until i send him to his room and i go cool off.

Latest issue: i sat him down in the kitchen this morning to discuss screen time. I thought he was doing better but the peace lasted a week  before he started to slip up on his screen time and i had to modify our screen time agreement.

I left the paper in the kitchen and he isn’t allowed screen time until 1pm. 20 minutes ago, he starts asking where the paper is because he wants to check something on it. I tell him it’s in the kitchen. He says “but you said earlier that it was in the living room!” * mad scrunched up face* (i never said it was in the living room. In fact, he sat with me in the kitchen table while i was writing down our agreement. I tell him i never said it was in the living room and to just look on the kitchen table. He proceeds to freak out, starts looking  flabbergasted (the look whenever a misunderstanding/miscommunication (that’s what i call it when he says i did/said something that i absolutely did not. 

This has been going on for the past year and a half or so. I cant tell if he’s just being defiant or what. Even after he’s told that the paper is in the kitchen, he continues to fight me about “BUT YOU SAID THE LIVINGROOM!”

No i did not. It’s in the kitchen. Why are we still fucking arguing? After the 3rd time of trying to speak to him with an open mind (maybe he forgot or got distracted is my go to excuse to try and become as patient as a saint when i try to communicate with him.

It’s like this for a lot of things. I sent him to his room. When i confront him after he’s calmed down, he’s able to see that getting stuck on the miscommunication/misunderstanding is a waste of time, but then 2 hours later AND HERE WE GO AGAIN.

Anyone have any kiddos who get stuck on the blame train? i try to be as patient and open minded as possible (he has adhd and has had problems with impulsivity which therapy has helped him with tremendously. Am i missing something? We’ve brought it up with the therapist but he doesn’t seem too concerned (is this all 6 year olds?) i am losing my ever loving mind. 

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parenting,Epwavl,2019/01/21,"Wondering about connecting with second child We are talking about having a second child. I’m feeling strangely ambivalent about this- I definitely want more than one child for our family, but don’t have the same feelings of excitement and anticipatory connection that I had with my first. The love that I have for our daughter has changed my life and makes me happy every day, and Want to have equal love for my children, but I worry about what will happen if the connection with the second isn’t as natural or easy. I know this is probably dumb but I feel afraid sometimes that I won’t feel totally the same way for the next baby. Did anyone have mixed feelings about a second child and worry about connecting as strongly? How did this change after #2 was born?",7.8439436619718315,7.997858852112678,7.453626760563381,73.23846830985919,62.59154929577465,10.761971830985916,33.24295774647887,10.411451182825502,3.4097014084507045,615,22,107,13,8,194,86,142,0.083,0.6859999999999999,0.231,0.9728,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,2,7,7,1,1,8,0,16,3,0,2,1,27,30,12,0,3,5,1,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,7,8,0,0,7,0,0,0,3,2,0,6,4,5,14,5,19,24,5,6,0,0,0,2,12,0,1,3,5,85,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319376838137053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37276412596660413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362578247822384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844481071396073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660930477826485,0.0,0.4454261979204973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498642333161374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580122992984302,0.18755391357992526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682754856176064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444580716703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180305734566866,0.0,0.11760592467949625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737644959519667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938860098936364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995895573596525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425305406230573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161211653636374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783884492244675,0.13984872353894706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19106685381814015,0.0,0.3578520924522687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mothersmurf,2019/01/21,"Is this parenting advise? So I hope I’m allowed to post this here, but I need help! I washed some crayons with in the pocket of my sweater and when I dried it they melted and melted onto some of my kids clothes well I’ve spent a day spraying with stain remover and washing (so about 4 rounds of that) and there are like 4 pieces that were stained bad and it’s not getting the bad stains out (the mild stains are out) well how do I get crayon out of clothes. ",5.8192631578947385,4.799725031578949,5.234736842105264,91.37315789473686,67.10526315789474,8.021052631578947,30.578947368421048,5.6839178017228535,1.1503263157894734,358,11,83,1,5,108,64,95,0.094,0.762,0.14300000000000002,0.4567,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,0,4,0,5,2,0,2,0,18,11,10,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,10,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,2,1,8,4,13,9,3,9,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,3,3,54,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4839931669009453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691686703049096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30284922592224306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942674531434024,0.0,0.0,0.2878673471007977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159667239673598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490584062743773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218227665902476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775777572958145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.521185331990966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GhostOnToast,2019/01/21,"12 Month Old - Tantrums and Mealtimes I'm hoping someone can help me as I'm at the end of my tether with this issue and I have no idea how to proceed.   



My son turned one very recently and it's like a tantrum switch has been flipped overnight. He's gone from being a chilled out, happy little dude to throwing hideous tantrums when he doesn't get his way.   



A lot of things seem to cause the tantrums but the worst trigger is mealtimes and I'm really at a loss with this. A few things are happening and I wondered if anyone else had experienced similar with their little ones and had any tips on how to proceed. I'm a first time parent and I'm tying myself up in knots trying to work out the 'right' thing to do. 



Firstly, his chair has become a problem. He used to love his chair, would even chill in it and eat a snack while watching me cook. Suddenly this has changed and half the time he refuses to sit in it at all, despite being interested in the food on the plate that's waiting on the table for him. The other half of the time he will sit in the chair for varying amounts of time, until something doesn't go his way (see below) and then he starts climbing out of it screaming. We used to harness him in but that in itself caused tantrums when he inevitably tried to climb out and found himself restrained - basically he's coming out of the chair regardless when this happens so we stopped using the harness and adding another element of frustration.   



The other issue is playing with food / bowls / cups etc, and specifically wanting my plate etc to mess around with. We've started serving him on exactly the same plates as us, given him metal toddler cutlery etc as we thought that might be a cause, but the novelty of that has worn off already. What he wants to do is grab food off my plate, even though it's exactly the same as his (recently he has even reached over to grab a handful of my food then thrown it on the floor in rage), and he wants to basically spend the meal moving pieces of food back and forth between his plate, my plate, putting pieces in my cup of water etc. It is relentless. If I deny him access to my plate / cup, he throws a tantrum and the meal is over.   



I've tried taking him down from the table every time he climbs out of his chair or throws a tantrum about me stopping him messing about with my food / plate etc, but it just escalates into the most awful feral screaming. He's never been much of a crier and has always been a happy baby so this is hard to deal with. I don't know if he is just too young to understand why he's being taken down from the table. Also, I want him to eat, he has been slow to gain weight at times and I'm not comfortable stopping the meal every time he does this - sometimes we get less than a minute into the meal before it all goes to pieces. At the moment he seems to calm down and eat if I lift him to sit on my lap, but then I can't eat my meal (if I try, he starts reaching for my plate again and the cycle repeats).   



I really don't know what to do. I feel like I'd be able to handle it better if he was a bit older and could understand consequences a bit more but he's only 12 months. It's making me so stressed out, I now absolutely dread mealtimes because I know it will degenerate into a tantrum within minutes. Or, I let him do what he wants to do and mess around with food / my plate etc, but is that not setting him up for bad table behaviour? Or is he too young for this to matter right now?   



Is the relentless moving around of pieces of food between plates / cups etc pretty standard too? He does eat bites while he's doing this but he spends the vast majority of each meal playing with food or trying to stack things (he loves stacking).   



I really don't want mealtimes to become negative experiences for him but the stress of this is making them absolutely unbearable and I fear that's an inevitability at this point.   



Any help would be so appreciated! 
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parenting,Gwentastic,2019/01/21,"Confession I've had cats since I was 11 years old.  I have two of the furry assholes right now.


I also have a 17/18 month old. She's not very affectionate.  It's just the way she is.  She's clear about her boundaries, and even though I wish I could hug and kiss her more, I respect them.  I actually encourage her to be clear about her boundaries for later in life, but that's another post for a different day.  


The one thing I can do to be affectionate with her is stroke her hair.  She doesn't mind that. Today, as she was watching ""Little Baby Bum"" (don't get me started), that's exactly what I did.  As I ran my fingers through her adorable curls, I realized that I was actually petting her like I do my cats.  

And that's not all.  Today someone asked me about her, and I replied, ""she's very friendly.  She loves people.""  This is exactly how I introduce one of my cats to visitors.

My only defense is that before I had my daughter I had very little experience with small children.  But yeah, I confess that sometimes I treat my daughter like my cats.


At least I don't hold out my hand to let her sniff it.  I guess there's that.
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parenting,StopLookingBuy,2019/01/21,"I have adhd but I feel Im an asshole to my godson who also has adhd. HELP I am at an age where I see how much my childhood and how my parents were, molded me into how I am.   As a kid, my mom always told me i talked too much, fidgetted around too much, etc. My parents did a great job of using the fear of others opinions to control me. Everything i did, my parents reminded me of how people are going to make fun of me if i did *this*. It is something that has had a negative effect on my life and how introverted ive been.

My godson is 7 and Ive known him for 2 years (Wifes family)  and he has adhd. Hes usually bouncing around, always talking, asking questions that dont require an answer (The sky is blue right?), overexaggerates his emotions, etc.  He has a great heart and that means everything, but i feel im no better than my parents around him.

I was constantly asking him to stop bouncing around or lower his voice, ""Youre looking at the same thing Im watching"", etc. Anytime he would talk back to his mom or my wife, Id get angry and step out of place by disciplining him. I am supposed to have a child of my own in a year or so but times like this make me feel as if im not cut out to be a dad.",1.9701562500000025,3.110276953125002,4.198093750000002,87.76253125000002,76.34375,6.838750000000001,24.128125,7.365786028017652,0.9473084374999998,924,29,205,11,20,321,138,256,0.084,0.8029999999999999,0.114,0.8725,6,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,0,4,15,7,1,1,13,0,26,2,1,10,0,45,40,23,0,3,9,9,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,9,13,0,4,8,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,8,8,39,5,29,30,8,26,0,0,4,0,32,15,0,7,10,149,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086285379544959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845536299977689,0.14245434936670592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30481337492094884,0.1600514005815727,0.0,0.0,0.06582214884373236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570743148627815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250464125362283,0.09600918490568597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032413636727547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628998915018216,0.0,0.0,0.28640437511975503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386593480562138,0.0,0.0806973277729677,0.09632530936589163,0.12984783302656305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472316860635958,0.0,0.04864921586058545,0.0,0.0,0.18875156551943545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143800350506316,0.05737677575501656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36985655843642057,0.0,0.08494612433622048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060462760031178585,0.041820492255935975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188356879692531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427912219810225,0.0,0.0,0.09324495732470292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20051051647446053,0.0,0.0,0.1887805093711164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802006442711173,0.0,0.0,0.05934519296090995,0.0,0.08943518402588918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589309484903677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073103079129018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821318745760012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590009587685351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156655564879975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20640935073416994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05686972857582825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0499148314397254,0.0,0.0,0.08179575151733276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393207599768231,0.0942777855508842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080873798214094,0.0,0.0,0.1102489165700565
parenting,Blue-Cat-Lullabies,2019/01/21,"Need help putting the little ones to sleep? Try this out We are a small company based in Charlotte, North Carolina, and we have been designing animated lullaby videos built specifically to help parents put babies, toddlers, and kids to sleep. We use soft music and cute animals that drift off to sleep after a couple minutes to help promote sleep in even the fussiest children. We are even creating videos for adhd children, and so far we have received pretty positive results from parents all over the world. 


https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LN9qUg3IaWk

Hope it works for your family as well :)",8.783571428571427,11.0650845,7.088367346938777,69.17806122448981,61.14285714285714,10.089795918367347,36.448979591836725,10.290406445055957,4.247024489795919,483,22,69,11,7,143,71,98,0.0,0.735,0.265,0.9819,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,1,0,2,4,3,0,0,5,0,5,4,4,2,1,15,8,6,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,10,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,1,6,3,15,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,1,1,44,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878661681688111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296501997054844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649566782427412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736450994436473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31433384504801826,0.0,0.0,0.15526095358713513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667362813526498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590924112548788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592642445073404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471495473875744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903355826823168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31428939407028483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6257312558123237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613096564042716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350102221379581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055038276399348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380276466803706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,What_was,2019/01/21,"Child seeks too much approval I think I need some help in how to deal with this issue, my youngest shows a bit of insecurity, whenever he does anything he keeps asking if he’s good at it but it feels somewhat needy like he needs the approval. Not just with me, asks others as well like his teachers at school, his trainers at judo, etc. 

I am clueless as to how to tackle it psychologically. ",3.9912280701754383,5.692227947368423,4.721052631578949,83.77570175438599,72.15789473684211,6.64561403508772,27.14035087719298,7.1686216300943375,1.2593140350877192,308,11,61,3,6,99,59,76,0.09,0.7,0.21,0.8592,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,15,8,6,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,7,4,12,8,5,4,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,2,39,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958048800711054,0.0,0.44488477392539183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259769562356612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453063609312451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20822346518234888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653667201357505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030994132888476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995733271610597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948660128924455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483482183826257,0.0,0.2114925813290254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324915642740433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491375463947675,0.3528599522389128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408086395886281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524627601021795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21393721875709032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,templet1,2019/01/21,"I Played Myself About 18 months ago, I thought it would be a good idea to introduce my son, aged 8 at the time, to some basic financial life lesson, like delayed gratification and the importance of saving.  We had just moved to a new country so we were introducing pocket money in the new currency and decided to add an extra twist: he'd get the money each week but if he didn't spend any of it for six months, I'd double the amount in the pot.  It was a pretty small amount weekly (£2), but six months worth doubled could get him a decently cool toy of some sort (he had his eye on a second-hand Nintendo 3DS).

It all seemed to be going great. I watched him struggle with decisions over the six month period, carefully weighing up whether buying this little toy, magazine or bag of sweets was worth it if it meant losing his savings bonus, and each time he decided to delay the gratification for the big prize at the end.  Awesome.  Six months later he got himself the thing he wanted and I felt like the whole thing had been a big success.

So we decided to carry on.  Here's where it started to go wrong. Again, for the next six months he didn't spend any pocket money and got his bonus.  But this time, instead of using the money to buy something big immediately, he decided to wait until he found something he wanted. With nothing on the horizon, he started spending the saved money on small things while still saving the 'new' pocket money. Now he's realised that he can have his cake and eat it. As long as he doesn't spend more than he saved in the previous six months, he can always leave the current money untouched and get his bonus but now without actually having to delay gratification.

In a way, I'm quite proud that he worked out how to optimise the outcome and feel like he's still learning some important lessons about budgeting.  At the same time, I worry that I'm sending the wrong message carrying on with the bonus scheme now he's found a loophole (albeit one that involved not spending anything for six months to give him a buffer). 

​

Suggestions for moving forward would be appreciated!",6.9037720619888105,6.9219749282178284,7.003504089539392,76.1365023676281,64.56930693069307,9.699354283254413,32.66422729229445,9.318704503766252,2.8204687042617307,1677,61,308,27,23,539,207,404,0.058,0.722,0.22,0.9976,1,0,2,0,0,0,45.0,3,0,0,12,15,25,0,1,33,1,21,4,1,2,1,67,45,23,0,7,11,1,2,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,17,18,2,4,16,4,22,6,5,4,0,8,16,6,20,21,48,22,14,67,0,1,2,0,37,23,0,8,42,189,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.08576907711332707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791019521695965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313247178451243,0.09523001671455827,0.10679735890393023,0.11953798230464185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232692187417117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961087792102805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017392591411711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993458133179515,0.0,0.0,0.07784546522023031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044440402731639836,0.06278945011711366,0.08438928044698403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19273620353381185,0.0,0.0,0.13775848392522333,0.08431319308853738,0.09990112403249513,0.07371892077717652,0.1405891521236404,0.09690029543498704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921840229466856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306402995249807,0.0,0.0,0.062080113547271776,0.12881751874273634,0.08809001511274046,0.0,0.07778089577760564,0.0,0.09832770732771594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5612309744655901,0.18682875116088685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546574407668661,0.0934732276784675,0.0,0.0,0.08433392214094405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059557313134075786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894168898621946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348304930982533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001279562217882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532579170059486,0.0,0.0,0.12441960677019245,0.0,0.14037996065886055,0.0,0.0,0.09188290587144468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517291001449806,0.0,0.0,0.06977575000209428,0.2050001291289502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759097280765034,0.0,0.0,0.103680946638897,0.06976389831347382,0.1410019467971499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812732238025727,0.0,0.08472392544443476,0.0,0.06398579887882594,0.089257722049037,0.0,0.12487069252713448,0.19219033496452795,0.10679735890393023,0.0
parenting,cutie-pa-tattooie88,2019/01/21,Can I just throw everything away? I hate clutter. And things. I hate cleaning. I feel like a maid. I feel like all these things that build up over time with dust or grime or germs just is a waste and i dont want to clean it anymore. No one notices the little things. Its not just doing dishes trash or laundry. Its every fucking thing. I fantasize about living in a tiny home or even just traveling. With my family I want them with me. But Omg. I grew up with hoarders so my hubbys book collection gives me anxiety. I just want a room to myself with very few essentials and just breath. Am i crazy? Any other parents feel this way or am i just awful :( i just cant. I want to throw it all away. ,-0.000319148936171132,2.354192709219859,1.553826241134754,96.47925,93.53900709219856,4.80581560283688,16.979078014184395,6.508806274219699,-0.16120453900709242,536,14,117,7,20,172,87,141,0.226,0.7390000000000001,0.035,-0.9698,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,0,11,5,3,0,5,1,7,3,1,0,2,32,18,10,0,4,15,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,12,8,1,0,3,2,0,4,4,3,0,1,0,3,20,2,15,18,3,14,0,0,0,1,3,8,1,5,3,84,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645427758603854,0.0,0.11975459472810975,0.0,0.15524810965166055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29415368991969665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834666605307124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339485410404632,0.0,0.1318938196614522,0.0,0.14069031765635867,0.0,0.14757435026460886,0.0,0.2374577959517203,0.22366800654899047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447210316930583,0.0,0.15016984372947526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309106646940478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157024905230307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295753013728053,0.15689672421392134,0.13822990784666575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822468973658862,0.0,0.0,0.1060772588330249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738219362304926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159995616169024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128119879023412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916396850165254,0.3693313225164516,0.1242561611525263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RocMerc,2019/01/21,Sleep training is my favorite thing ever. We decided two weeks ago to start sleep training my five month old son. The first night was super rough. He cried for a very long time. Every twenty mins we would go in and rock him a bit to calm down. The next night the crying was shorter. Third night he learned how to get to his side and loves sleeping that way. After a week he learned how to get one his belly and is loving sleeping like that. It's now been two weeks and I can get my son to sleep in five minutes. He's knows the routine. As soon as I turn the brown noise on he calms right down and starts to look sleepy. It was hard hearing him cry those first couple days but having a kid who can put himself to sleep is the greatest parenting accomplishment I've made. Just wanted to share my story! ,2.2575925925925944,4.289424882716052,2.6071851851851875,95.60633333333335,77.95061728395062,5.060740740740742,20.676543209876534,5.6839178017228535,-0.17510419753086426,629,16,136,3,15,192,103,162,0.042,0.8220000000000001,0.136,0.9441,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,4,6,7,0,0,10,0,11,8,6,3,1,19,25,10,0,2,2,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,7,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,8,5,5,13,7,18,19,2,32,0,0,2,2,21,7,0,0,23,80,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049382453010513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145238955915568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295714728345126,0.3364128019605349,0.06583756668478688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234339180839707,0.08601256608520144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367002874557252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000848203687698,0.0,0.058018304044686435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914497571832896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150592886818822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610425773376821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049874473659690124,0.0,0.0,0.0903436413513291,0.08572723478686217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842747185637063,0.09659703683160167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148474211673744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857051301491907,0.2874047527530899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712296624307567,0.0,0.06917668514667473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335535520511215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262547127063254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718160398853134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6129633983335477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451518227893684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782196064385836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952765765245392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110411674828522,0.1994480187283489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423233480607309,0.06021346350197016,0.08103178223254312,0.2456637169820668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251956247212303,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fatstrat228,2019/01/21,"Quick question My daughter is 6 and we were at a friend’s house last night.  There were some friends of theirs there we didn’t know and all the kids were playing downstairs.  They started talking about Pennywise from the movie IT.  They are about 7 or so.  My daughter asked them to stop, then they started egging her on, going into graphic detail about what Pennywise does to these kids in the sewer, as well as the language in the movie.  My 6 year old couldn’t go to sleep last night because she was so scared.  

So I guess I have a couple questions: 

1.  What parent in their right mind would allow their 6-7 year old kid watch a movie like this??

2.  Should I confront the parents of these kids about this?  Is it even worth it?  

One thing is for sure.  When these people are involved in anything we’re interested in, we are out.  ",2.7227777777777797,4.87015090740741,2.6800246913580246,95.08411111111113,76.96296296296295,5.060740740740742,23.14567901234568,5.6839178017228535,0.1653279012345683,645,20,135,3,15,193,103,162,0.047,0.836,0.118,0.8631,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,7,0,13,9,1,1,9,0,15,1,1,1,2,21,22,10,0,3,1,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,4,11,7,0,1,3,1,1,2,2,2,1,1,5,1,18,7,22,14,2,26,0,0,1,0,27,10,0,5,15,91,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406828939867845,0.0,0.1409466731891386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919060857390252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668206761188947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319371055943951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958009696970427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232964222463702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17136857544248846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608670699859182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396472781789066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285752989857181,0.24579024635977306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365707807851524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522315618089024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28296899208890464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164089406700077,0.0,0.10216353427263702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33481753836367795,0.0,0.0,0.10452276565170876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377868022815261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875408482122006,0.0,0.0,0.15094394025927546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087575392572294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21342713583870326,0.0,0.0,0.1260478557969588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209599250738614,0.0,0.0,0.12118070068073238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016281043222744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355575242060575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710046008056696,0.0,0.0,0.19417784482725045
parenting,stevesmithisalegend,2019/01/21,"Should I be grounded for This? 

Me and my two friends had planned a day of fishing for sharks. We had prepared the whole day before by catching eels as bait. We were keen to go and had all the gear, rods and bait ready. The plan was to wake up at 4:30 to catch the early bus in and fish at sunrise. I smartly went to bed early knowing we had a big day ahead while on of my friends stayed downstairs and played Xbox, It was his house and at 2:30 he wanted his bed to sleep in and woke me up. I didn’t want to sleep on the uncomfortable couch and I was really mad about my friend waking me up. I explained how annoyed I was to my other friend who was still up at the time and we decided we would just leave early to go fishing because we were bored. We played the Xbox for an hour until we decided to catch an Uber to a McDonald’s. we ate there for a while and walked around taking some Instagram pictures for 30 minutes. We than caught another Uber to the fishing spot and arrived at 4:30 an hour before we were supposed to go. We thought our other friend would just meet us there but he didn’t wake up to his Alarm. Whole we were out the hosts dad walked downstairs at 4:30 and noticed we were gone and thought we had snuck out, when they went to check their sons room he was still there asleep and were confused. His mum than told my mum and I’m in deep trouble. Furthermore his mum now thinks I am rude because it looks like I ditched their son leaving all the food and mess we made for him to clean up. 

I think my parents are over reacting. I know I can be potentially dangerous walking around at night but we were in a lit up popular place and tradesman were the even out driving to work. The only thing I did do wrong was catch an Uber on my parents account but it cost like 20 dollars all up and had to use it cause no busses ran that early,

Another reason I am in trouble is for going into my own house while the house sitter was home. My family is on holidays at the beach and I’m stayed in my home city to hang out with my friend for two nights. While we are away we get a house Sitter to help look after the dog. After the fishing trip I went to the city and bought school books, went to the post office to get my textbooks. I still had my fishing rod and wanted to drop it off back at my house. Secondly I wanted to see my dog that I hadn’t seen in 3 weeks. I went in dropped of all of my stuff. I was so tired from a lack of sleep that night so I went to bed. This was about 12 during the day. I slept for 5 hours . While I was asleep the house sitter texted my mum asking what I was doing there. She freaked out and thought I was staying there and was annoyed that I went in. I didn’t even think she would be home because it was her last day sitting. The deal was I was staying at my friends house for 2 nights and my mum rung my friends mum wondering why i wasn’t there. Thats when my friends mum told my mum everything about leaving early to go fishing.

My mum claims I’m being sneaky and not doing what she says. I was literally doing the right thing getting ready for the new school year. 

I’m now badly grounded for this and need your opinions on whether what I did is worth grounding and if so to what extent.",2.879370269717424,4.085265070044709,3.4338739370561946,93.87720756260778,74.15648286140089,6.395382951988545,24.33420998801905,6.615977163443126,0.5251553198328516,2526,75,574,19,51,790,268,671,0.091,0.8170000000000001,0.092,-0.4773,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,21,1,3,4,27,30,5,2,34,0,60,12,9,6,4,98,111,45,0,11,8,14,0,2,9,4,1,1,9,0,24,55,2,0,13,7,6,25,7,14,0,3,61,6,91,16,100,42,10,123,0,0,5,0,70,51,0,5,41,382,115,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299854077022944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959316108117508,0.05037176821538425,0.0,0.050623281300769735,0.04143141531967004,0.04498865823757457,0.09853667228208456,0.0,0.09169808312496193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05535096612892304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17374499527581047,0.05554928322478523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117621792594349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048425063299099486,0.0,0.05079452070285504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515351566769112,0.0,0.3746572230408199,0.0,0.08445230999708474,0.0,0.1531100019297017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03611551837442063,0.0,0.16214209553252176,0.0,0.15918676347582458,0.4352027276922865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05922353747717622,0.04392047374762285,0.0,0.17115763943930773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052647390398702115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049349028565107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050983815329378034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03995232196831901,0.0,0.052038922317557634,0.0,0.2022559051467076,0.0,0.0,0.061344249026696274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040979177913368414,0.0,0.0,0.11965767658998824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056294519681585393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05160341802879048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034517758413359134,0.055398979084524035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04601435969116723,0.0,0.04284859464674868,0.0,0.10906156100235156,0.04293644235991012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176072128789026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297213059456039,0.1290890943752243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168122954074425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04051205302591867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159272023573282,0.1035749380080961,0.0,0.12832726743685524,0.03141863564649497,0.061928660247878686,0.0,0.10297183583430944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526845634388872,0.0,0.06481260332534756,0.04653616753499619,0.0,0.0,0.12712241303544292,0.0,0.043220351232847135,0.0,0.0,0.3496397159507442,0.04861951779625212,0.12031315694995118,0.0,0.0,0.058432001769244325,0.03922624849195447,0.0,0.0,0.11482724839556682,0.05891077371205019,0.0,0.034697808649501505
parenting,Warden_CauseyJr,2019/01/21,"New child guilt - normal? New to this sub, not new to parenting. I (33M) and my wife (34F) are expecting our third child (girl) in a little under 2 weeks. We have 2 boys (5 & 3). I’m starting to have an extreme sense of guilt and/or sadness that my boys have no idea what’s coming. They’re excited about the idea of a little sister, but my sense of guilt comes from the fact that our days will no longer be spent with having just the two boys. They love each other and are best buds. 

I had the same sense of guilt with our firstborn when his little bro was born. They are 21 months apart, so he was way too young to understand. After having #2, we couldn’t imagine our lives without him. And as I mentioned, they’re the best of friends so it all turned out well. I know that when baby sis arrives it’ll feel like she’s always belonged. But right now, I’m already missing my time with my 2 boys. 

So I guess my main cause of the guilt is me just knowing I’ll never get to spend the same amount of quality time with just the 2 of them ever again. Is this a normal feeling?",2.303693693693696,3.730482432432435,3.092972972972973,94.8545045045045,76.02702702702703,5.834234234234235,20.89189189189189,6.139981653823899,-0.036199999999999566,828,19,188,5,18,261,133,222,0.086,0.7809999999999999,0.133,0.9521,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,6,0,3,2,14,14,0,5,12,0,17,1,0,1,4,40,33,11,0,4,7,5,2,1,2,2,0,0,0,7,9,13,0,0,8,0,2,2,6,7,1,2,4,2,24,7,25,25,8,29,0,2,0,1,29,8,0,1,19,117,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460819470073156,0.0,0.11014874786474158,0.14343104840151735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778441981466728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359882357400033,0.0,0.22806312060326714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537258526321005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974309634499387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338681599582312,0.09457056681872457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227458692089003,0.0,0.0691618198311826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458288244580433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988763407341136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550250770771614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467299703458662,0.3980313242786922,0.11689182496912848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947593079916533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566251829017413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020977475098248,0.3835532636933272,0.0,0.0,0.2594038363217195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698963243315116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130497266937137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369752970979517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543808583565896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398878962285086,0.12931365663912686,0.13780972526984514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050751582420828,0.1061853066580342,0.0,0.1190233388249411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760725945908113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Train4fitness,2019/01/21,"What to do about Au pair who misinterpreted her driving experience? This is our a second time having an au pair at home. 
The first one was OK, we never really bonded with her but our kids liked her. 
Our current au pair we interviewed a total of 3 times. And we definitely asked her about her driving experience. Every time she said she had good driving experience. 

She's from a latin american city of 8 million people, so traffic shouldn't be a walk in the park there. 

Fast foward to today and my wife and I took her on separate occasions to drive to see how her driving is, and on a 8 min drive to the supermarket I was floored to realize how poor her driving skills are.

One thing is to get used to driving in a new city/country but another completely different is to not to have even have the basics down. 
My wife says the same thing. Her driving is terrible. We're shocked she even has a driving license from her home country. 

Now driving where we live is extremely important. You need to drive to get places as public transportation is non-existent. And one of the reasons for going with an au pair was to have her drive our kids to activities. 

She drove terrible on the streets, I can't imagine her driving in highways.
 
The main point here is that we don't feel comfortable having her drive our kids. And honestly I don't know how many months of practice it will take for us to feel comfortable. 

At this point we think our options are to rematch with another au pair or to ask for a refund from the program and take a $1,200 loss in cancellation fees.

Let me finish by saying she seems like a nice girl, but her misleading answers on her driving seem to be a deal breaker.

What would you do in this situation?",4.419313432835819,5.8967334985074675,5.275402985074628,81.10743283582092,70.73134328358209,8.82268656716418,30.414925373134327,9.281916038205594,2.660674029850747,1362,57,265,29,25,444,170,335,0.08900000000000001,0.835,0.076,-0.6553,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,13,2,0,3,12,12,0,0,22,1,31,0,0,5,2,42,50,16,0,3,5,2,2,2,0,3,0,3,2,4,10,16,0,0,10,0,3,21,6,4,0,6,7,6,43,8,47,37,3,52,0,1,1,0,51,18,0,4,15,185,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531114160490226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256607827850477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654288847200096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442778147129745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609707607976148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594313801350941,0.0,0.10168791223765364,0.0,0.0,0.3541787490120857,0.0,0.0,0.1220506393039753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266024747998427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261128012584319,0.0,0.06859184045305028,0.10123042160515427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421271113865857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632896908271285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341537919072125,0.0,0.11792767804141395,0.0,0.10657292945045288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236237983842807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633491572460194,0.0,0.0,0.08949132191370658,0.09308483330881676,0.11656473816104615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24535133672626724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367238680465819,0.0,0.12609707607976148,0.0,0.2281852219075425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07731815518404637,0.12409110726718625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148053879167037,0.1919576729544187,0.0,0.0,0.09617561122247066,0.21974627271396224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566246034147464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149018630769606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036432571739884,0.07733432971117267,0.0,0.0,0.21112879789261266,0.0,0.11440156278559238,0.0,0.1340928530590248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517718276433106,0.1042388262891682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573587837006827,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mundatis,2019/01/21,"What is the going rate for weekly allowance? I have two kids, 12 (F) and 8 (M), and was curious to know your thoughts on weekly allowance. How much money? Should they get the same? What is expected to receive? Thanks for the help!",0.4458116883116894,2.877899750000001,1.6114285714285717,94.705,96.95454545454544,4.3324675324675335,19.92207792207792,6.18269132825596,0.2230168831168835,175,6,35,2,7,55,35,44,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.8463,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,3,0,10,10,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,5,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899046201723772,0.0,0.2164589460572711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25529119407980955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931788162961976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799855343453621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506567560528722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30237067804955176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720576517877652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6110268145893291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IsadoraBucher,2019/01/21,"Fitness for 2 year olds My two year old son likes to copy random men's fitness routines when we go to the park! Does anyone else's child do this? lol 

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stMOhE5Euv8&list=PLqeUNeZI8joBN9TaeaLNVjlHY5SlY8F07](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stMOhE5Euv8&list=PLqeUNeZI8joBN9TaeaLNVjlHY5SlY8F07)",23.83181818181818,32.100401878787885,11.299151515151518,25.80872727272728,45.36363636363636,3.852121212121212,18.72121212121212,5.6839178017228535,-0.2884496969696966,294,4,27,1,5,68,29,33,0.0,0.701,0.299,0.8774,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,6,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544141608268878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889221112239398,0.2621426139573411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238909807808198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21372499727102146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540215301062578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499255139904153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369308939686009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499226047220309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295105492000866
parenting,ReginaldHardwick,2019/01/21,"Spend time with your children. That is all. I don’t usually post on subs like this, but after four years of raising my son, I had the urge to try to pass on what I have learned. I am happy to be argued against on this, it is just my intuition from the experience.

Being a dad is a really simple thing to do, and there is only one thing you need to do to be a good dad, and its this: Spend time with your child. Sounds obvious I know, but I see so many posts and see things in parenting books that complicate the task so much – what pram to buy, elaborate decorations for children’s rooms, etc, etc. That’s all great and if you want to do that stuff then good for you. But that is 10% of parenting. 90% of being a good parent is (to repeat) spending lots and lots of time with your child.

Beware though – it might be simple, but it is no means easy. The fact of the matter is that a lot of the time (maybe even most of the time), spending time with your kid will suck. It will be boring – especially when he/she is a baby, but even when you can properly interact with them. Hiding in the kid’s same favourite hiding place during hide and seek so they can find you every time gets really, really dull. Reading the same book for the thousandth time will drive you crazy. You will have a million other things to do around the house, for work, with your friends. But you need to drop all that, and spend time with the kid as your only focus. Do that, and you are being a good dad. Don’t do that, and you aren’t.

One final note – taking your kid to the park and playing with your phone is not spending time with them, its spending time with your phone. Sitting in the same room with them while they watch TV is not spending time with them (unless you are actively watching and discussing the show together). Spending time with them means focussing just on them.

I won’t say good luck, because you don’t need luck. I will say get tough, because when your business is failing, you have no clean shirt for work tomorrow, the game is on and you really want to watch it, you will need to be fucking tough to forget all that, and sit down to build lego or play princess instead. 
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parenting,krammiit,2019/01/21,"I woke up to the TV blasting for the third time this week. My 14 year old teen was gifted a TV for her room by my parents a few years ago. I didn't really want it in her room, but figure no real harm can come from it if she just has basic cable right?

She has the local channels and it hasn't been a problem. However, she started sleeping with it on meaning I will wake up to what sounds like voices in the house (we live alone) and have to get out of bed to turn it off.

I was even really nice about it. First time was a warning. Second time was a ""if I have to get up at 3am and turn it off again it's gone from your room"". 

At 4am this morning, I wake up to voices. She is totally asleep and the TV is blasting. I had to get up and do this again. I couldn't get back to sleep and now have to work 8-5  in 6 degree weather as she stays tucked in bed all day.

Am I the ""mean mom"" for taking it away? Why is it so hard to listen, not once but 3 times?

She was also just sent home a letter from school stating she has 60/20 vision in one eye so glasses are needed immediately. I'm sure TV in the pitch dark isn't helping this. Thanks.",1.4078673684210514,2.247808372000001,3.3239789473684205,94.66693684210527,77.28,6.063157894736843,19.95789473684211,6.05967700443912,-0.2182399999999997,863,17,215,5,19,292,142,250,0.066,0.85,0.084,0.7452,2,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,2,11,6,0,0,13,0,25,6,6,0,3,28,44,14,0,6,7,2,1,1,0,1,0,4,6,0,15,10,0,0,3,5,0,3,6,2,0,4,11,6,22,4,39,31,3,44,0,0,1,0,17,23,0,2,17,143,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110407652271934,0.0,0.0,0.14149558663754755,0.0,0.10925378255786702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835759847697578,0.10505121033816052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768475953595073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810764441955457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023524519645336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620764488691597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855101557628996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223833609576844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157251539562368,0.0,0.13703951660058578,0.0,0.0,0.15763943145142176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674490890374625,0.0,0.12063665775354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976352427553086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000596160404354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130090285859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335815696380816,0.14549426701516546,0.09257624611504778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516987007931467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072547466808074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550178745663665,0.1750426468179112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667147118186065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826523781854486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734343722085211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669929293120336,0.14561716661047405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287613400219755,0.0,0.10272012604010622,0.0,0.0,0.1257799796345214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31865343497169785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29720344153521233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058114384606055,0.0,0.10958713751918137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327696631037262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945991101947416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595569770369393
parenting,size_queen10,2019/01/21,"After 3 years of divorce my exhusband sees our kids as little as possible and now ge wants to stop paying for dance class! I have 2 children,  15 year old boy and 11 year old girl.  My ex only takes them 1 night over the weekend.  Only he didnt even do that this weekend supposedly because it was going to snow in our area.  It wasnt supposed to snow till the afternoon anyway and then it didnt snow at all.  But the main issue was he didnt tell me he wasnt coming to get her.  He waited till she texted him at 7pm.  My poor girl was hungry and I had kept telling her, oh, well your dad is gonna be here soon.  I felt aweful.  He doesnt usually not show up for them, this is new.

Now, my son is at a boarding school, that I paid for,  I got a great scholarship but my ex has no idea how much I paid.  I'm also the one my son comes to when he needs money for food or anything. I also pay for my daughter to go to 4H and girl scouts.

My daighter started dance back in Sept.  I told him she was starting dance.  Dont you think at that point he would have said, oh, no, please not this year I cant afford it.  (He's always paid for dance it was part of our divorce agreement.  I took less money per month for support and he would pay for dance)  My son started dance in Nov which my ex takes him to, again said nothing about the cost. Now all of a sudden the dance teacher sends us an email with a $500 balance that has gone unpaid!!  WTF?!?!?  He just didnt pay it!  And now hes like, oh, no one asked me and I cant afford it and you still get support for our son but he doesnt live with you.  This is fucking bullshit!!  I'm so fucking pissed off.

I work for a daycare.  I barely make my rent each month but I'm trying to do whats best for my kids.  
He has a girlfriend he lives with so he's not doing things on his own.  He knows it's gonna be a pain in my ass to take him back to court.

TLDR:My ex is an ass and wont pay for dance class.",0.14393867924528436,1.7239377806603784,2.0973018867924544,98.90571698113207,82.75,4.806037735849057,18.147169811320754,5.341637118332708,-0.6881045283018867,1465,32,368,6,40,487,205,424,0.108,0.8270000000000001,0.064,-0.9578,3,0,0,0,2,0,52.0,5,4,2,2,21,11,3,0,15,0,36,7,3,2,2,40,76,26,0,4,9,11,1,1,1,5,1,2,1,7,19,16,1,3,4,11,14,15,18,4,1,2,23,4,49,7,47,46,9,63,0,0,1,4,65,15,5,1,34,218,68,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637518499142834,0.08655592378056817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560251532958092,0.0,0.0972479737635134,0.0,0.0,0.15997537242545912,0.0,0.06341178839079316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916629423326632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17921414874670333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191482168654298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870657134619176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987891764124708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578568525051634,0.0,0.0,0.1923361849189836,0.1086960191900548,0.0,0.11823795731707995,0.0,0.08319713281019969,0.11468632717213162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174299221275027,0.0,0.10857355630489217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05716862066600925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05082065035238088,0.10425892148694173,0.18370939459109464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943652499669484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16606120463244467,0.0,0.0764692757271575,0.07713214159871219,0.0,0.10046658935180587,0.0,0.09761905157428788,0.0,0.09981339832812533,0.0,0.2183104266641828,0.0,0.14097809442016426,0.15822918907788033,0.11068838760462496,0.0,0.0,0.11264736376081055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418661629310847,0.09833587475597697,0.11727091877239144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19790042761073584,0.0,0.0,0.10527738253712203,0.08289329852907355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088520470375436,0.0,0.08307333855000851,0.08696834267979281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360893755031538,0.0,0.0,0.23463828307107304,0.0,0.18184232920276894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910862200998469,0.06665408826428418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939895644299994,0.11557398760404147,0.07062515973961805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251275182713044,0.0,0.1145672400543818,0.0,0.06135578284032533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935296609643808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757303807139649,0.0,0.0,0.14779068560204653,0.0,0.0,0.2679510134145003
parenting,bhavna1singh,2019/01/21,"Couvade Syndrome Pregnancy  

You find out that you are pregnant and you start to experience morning sickness. At the same time, your partner also tells you that he has been feeling nauseated and has been throwing up. It is surprising to see that in the first few weeks of your [**pregnancy**](https://healtheoz.com/pregnancy-nutrition-myths/) your partner is also experiencing symptoms very similar to yours.

This is known as **couvade syndrome pregnancy** that is also known as sympathetic pregnancy and is a condition that affects men. **Couvade syndrome pregnancy** is a reality and even though it is present this problem is not recognized as a medical condition. [Read more......](https://healtheoz.com/couvade-syndrome-pregnancy/)",7.1759821428571415,11.314147491071427,6.315000000000001,62.25500000000002,78.55357142857143,9.942857142857145,41.82142857142857,9.516144504307137,6.223346428571428,597,39,70,20,16,182,67,112,0.029,0.907,0.064,0.4166,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,0,8,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,13,3,0,1,0,13,16,11,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,9,5,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,3,8,1,11,14,2,10,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,0,5,59,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5734271511571506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786894932619527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338051933181771,0.0,0.0,0.12085454052509788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845786521147173,0.20330834988067495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407852061918004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287076772616695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390824008262677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19046617650340414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917797189334918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484309285373278,0.0,0.0,0.20891202174550386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23483369559103945,0.0,0.13937315421663599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19721465033103303,0.0,0.0,0.1917255970452931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vladdani,2019/01/21,Are You Interested In Travelling Parents Live Podcast? I have an experience of traveling with my family throughout South East Asia and not only. I thought that somebody might need a piece of advice as long as we have a lot of questions from our friends and family. Let me know if you find it valuable. I can make a live show for those interested.,4.058512820512823,6.525273646153848,4.973461538461539,78.70070512820514,74.07692307692308,8.64102564102564,30.833333333333336,9.2995712137729,3.098794871794873,277,13,50,7,6,90,52,65,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.8909999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,14,10,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,4,9,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,4,1,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22604207189343745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22627419073249666,0.4361335897710852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114212090772732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871634507625428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12712677293464186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23653916386755106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408517508732346,0.2047098748665281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966589871350793,0.0,0.0,0.1544071073219687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24539271102642984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151997261344146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17592838481317497,0.0,0.0,0.2568521727970839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591300161043209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18364130303265808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontdothedishes,2019/01/21,"I finally put my baby to sleep! I don’t know if this is the right place to post this, but I’ve been struggling a lot with Depression after having  my baby boy and after one year of co-sleeping and depression naps, I’ve finally put my son to sleep by himself in the cot! After a week of hours of crying and screaming and fighting, tonight it took me just 15 minutes to get him to sleep! I just really wanted to rant guys I’m sorry! I feel like a good Mumma :) ",2.8933928571428567,3.846237625000001,4.7544047619047625,85.40250000000003,73.79166666666666,7.5690476190476215,25.17261904761905,7.957251820313856,1.3572994047619051,356,11,75,5,7,122,64,96,0.265,0.639,0.096,-0.9666,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,1,1,5,0,4,3,3,0,0,13,10,6,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,5,0,1,2,2,10,2,15,8,1,16,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,2,10,47,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16831732962493046,0.0,0.0,0.26395569698768817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747832255803384,0.10946843346115187,0.0,0.3357146823696924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005700216172283,0.0,0.0,0.1285230999614181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172302549473435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090191219330376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421188599812432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486104726626401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027172658304026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038334586109967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009403948799278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467531775800724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080794519430794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816386052713688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308586476815103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6133676350249512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152983576963535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601905694164389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024555350601545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037975955482908,0.0,0.12291286356280498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867589917277844
parenting,spacefoxtho,2019/01/21,"Want a cure for baby fever? Try clipping the nails of a toddler, who has night terrors, in the middle of the night because he wont let you do it when hes awake. NERVEWRACKING to say the least. ",1.2325000000000017,3.2899092500000013,2.1750000000000007,97.28,81.5,4.0,22.5,3.1291,-0.2795000000000001,150,5,33,0,4,47,33,40,0.093,0.8740000000000001,0.033,-0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,5,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413181071353804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048029389648045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7429925994542218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148109687720165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687691089780559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334938306043187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway2019_x,2019/01/21,"I'm scared for my siblings and don't know what to do Say hypothetic situation:  
 

You have two parents, they’ve grown to the point where they are no longer speaking to each other but still live in the same house. The overall atmosphere in the house is very hostile. Every day, it’s either explosive fights or tense silence. They are also currently raising 4 children, the youngest being a toddler. The nutritional health of the kids are generally poor, and the parents are not making necessary food changes to prevent their children from developing major health problems later in life.   
 

The behavioral issues are also severely problematic. 1 child is developing depression, 1 child is obese, with tooth decay and is developing a learning disability and another child has a speech impediment that the mother has been ignoring for 6 years now and refuses to address it. The parents are so exhausted from work, and fighting with each other over finances that they’ve resulted to either yelling or hitting the children and taking a hands-off approach with a “devil may care” attitude when it comes to raising their kids. The father is approaching retirement age and the mother is early 40’s.   
 

You are the 5th child. The oldest, college-aged child that survive the chaos while you still lived at home. As a result of the environment you grew up in, you ended up developing a myriad of mental disorders and being around your family worsens your mental state. However, as you observe how your siblings are being raised, you realize that they’re going to end up just as mentally f\*\*\*ed up as you are. 

How do you save them? Specifically the kids?   
 Do you threaten to call CPS if the parents don’t start feeding their kids properly, healthy meals and address their overall health? Do you take the kids to live with you and try to provide somewhat of a “normal” environment?   
 How do you save your siblings while still maintaining your sanity and keeping on track for your career goals? ",8.35401904761905,9.202480611428571,7.935714285714287,67.85261904761907,61.457142857142856,11.009523809523811,38.38095238095238,10.813802987103665,4.521180952380953,1594,76,247,38,21,505,191,350,0.17600000000000002,0.779,0.045,-0.995,6,0,0,0,4,0,39.0,0,19,7,3,14,13,3,1,29,0,30,10,1,6,0,49,41,29,0,3,8,7,0,0,0,1,6,4,3,13,10,20,4,4,3,0,2,6,4,10,0,1,1,4,27,3,40,35,7,39,1,1,0,0,52,14,0,5,18,176,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730966879116488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096904182733569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312313631531566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681627820525896,0.0,0.106654642368398,0.0,0.11066120112057158,0.09011037274292523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746338872980252,0.0,0.09009856050518802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988962241744415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18530295530375449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813659850516024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986149411118549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649218895845465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059451033753271924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33357965709300835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493017082315367,0.0,0.0,0.24140675450385826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918338420351738,0.0,0.09298023522707137,0.0,0.0,0.057489721134618324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388759559312498,0.0,0.0,0.2771118598405615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982653092049143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31626023007729165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249345146231437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4646184103018741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988882004041625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009555439281904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318833565797099,0.10473067496809127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817705909876315,0.0,0.0,0.11758357051715852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404195211314671,0.0,0.2506198161503648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573041213182176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102184189888283,0.0,0.10218663824014547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631240540598634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615573749976637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673640051984716
parenting,BadWeb,2019/01/21,"What is on the standard curriculum in your household? This weekend my youngest was helping me with chores around the house. He picks up a lot about using tools by helping me. My oldest has zero interest in learning about this stuff, which is fine by me. It got me thinking though, what do other parents consider essentials skills that all the kids in the household should learn?",6.4264705882352935,8.31005341176471,5.158117647058828,82.30452941176472,66.35294117647061,7.792941176470588,34.188235294117646,8.238735603445708,2.7549494117647058,304,14,51,4,5,89,52,68,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.8205,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,2,1,11,9,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,9,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,2,11,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,2,42,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28223519451501416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535679867351694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4250140393625753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658246758567829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26953834168952645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520383671432448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629380069832996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314814222504998,0.3114928149582747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738230742731179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lumpyfishballs,2019/01/21,"I just paid my 6 year old $2 to do the washing. He earned two dollars. He’s so pleased with himself, because he negotiated it up from a dollar. 
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parenting,dubya98,2019/01/21,"[Serious] How do I know if I'm ready to have a kid? My partner and I haven't been together a long time. 1.5 years. But I've known since we started dating that she has PCOS and her ultimate dream in life is to want to have a kid which will only become more difficult as she gets older, she's 25 and I'm 26. She set a date in late May for when she would want to start trying to have a kid which is something we talked about and I agreed to. She has put no pressure on me and asks if I'm sure all the time saying that if I choose to back out it's okay and she'll just try to have a child via sperm donor and raise them herself.

As the date keeps getting closer I find myself feeling more and more anxious at the thought of it. Honestly she is someone who I would trust wholeheartedly to raise our child and I have 0 doubts she is going to be the most amazing and caring of moms. She's one of the few people I know who I would trust the care of a child with. In saying that, the idea of having a kid still feels mind boggling and occasionally anxiety inducing especially at the thought we haven't been together that long but we seem really good for each other and very compatible with similar ideals/morals/goals. I also am anxious at the idea of having a kid severely limiting my freedom in pursuing other goals/hobbies/travel at a young age (we tell ourselves a child is only limiting if you make it out that way but I don't know is this is naive youth talking)

I flip back and forth from positive thoughts to negative ones and the thought of our relationship ending if I decide I can't do it makes me sad as well and wonder if it's something I'll come to regret later. How did you known you were ready to have a kid with someone, or did you ever really know?",4.415686718284693,4.69433503561644,5.4057057772483645,84.57177486599169,69.87671232876714,8.758784991066111,27.3764145324598,8.716276077567194,1.749459797498511,1388,42,300,22,23,458,181,365,0.08900000000000001,0.787,0.125,0.8524,0,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,7,4,1,2,11,16,0,2,22,1,36,1,0,5,3,78,65,32,0,12,11,1,2,0,1,6,1,2,0,11,17,27,0,3,20,1,0,3,6,6,1,2,9,4,43,10,41,49,7,39,0,2,0,0,45,12,0,12,22,204,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839047798508937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026379383138935,0.2370603013860342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808638024947602,0.0,0.0,0.16135457226526198,0.0,0.0,0.1158763025465883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213946614147354,0.0,0.0,0.09037960617463574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929283034436474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949064790586486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610178045748228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958953149512173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096331230078564,0.0,0.1192573252942748,0.0880022262072544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368846475397957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325804328678117,0.0,0.0,0.2306459599300405,0.0,0.11835474436309484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410835831240846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857024468796325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007031983186471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593966157344016,0.12288146615067573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219351253291534,0.15959333450176447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727385720036308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547394837130683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442934790834862,0.0,0.0,0.11264520916614565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668737745995202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551556188811967,0.0,0.1185301506930171,0.0,0.08679121207644297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779737352650013,0.1615456494392763,0.0,0.0,0.1485263520433686,0.0,0.08378954088467379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988862045314328,0.0,0.0,0.16866203390154522,0.09170502560293547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331802077800475,0.1223598198802416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246808453297047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657029120092072,0.12376950209400432,0.08328090394919316,0.0,0.0,0.09433601066348213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378166277128444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22359725592655946,0.0,0.0,0.0675652766141952
parenting,MyDerailment,2019/01/21,"Pregnant with alcoholic boyfriend’s kid I am 24 weeks pregnant and tonight my boyfriend told me, whole drunk, that the only reason he’s with me is so he doesn’t have to pay child support. He also told me he picks drink not only over me but also over our son. Currently I’m at my moms unsure of what to do from here.
I love him more than anything but all his drinking has turned my mild depression to serve in the past 5 months. I really am at lost of where to go from here. ",3.3396103896103853,4.201151676767677,3.9903607503607503,91.6436363636364,72.63636363636363,7.273304473304473,25.25396825396825,7.447530270364453,0.9380695526695524,372,11,84,4,7,118,70,99,0.131,0.797,0.073,-0.6304,1,0,3,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,2,0,7,5,0,2,1,9,15,6,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,4,0,1,3,1,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,13,2,16,12,3,12,0,2,0,1,14,6,0,0,5,53,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20958295432061813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136596966368972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613825943515255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891006574612707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842281230815366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145436690258943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140782579197847,0.0,0.17699778054398085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296827633873326,0.15653388175302047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29830241479717745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18721008318660445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563369023481036,0.20163470913384007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254437133557167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747848157228709,0.0,0.0,0.21331238866261107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730836729321673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189508616175421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grrockasaurus,2019/01/21,WTF? I was diagnosed with cancer and had to move in with my parents. My finances quickly were gone due to not being about to work. Now they just told me they are selling the house and moving into a retirement community. I was told I have 3 months to figure it out. What do I do? I have no money ans nobody is going to give me any. I applied for housing assistance but have not heard back. I hear they are really backed up and its near impossible to get assistance. Any ideas?,0.9221228070175442,3.4242208526315814,3.0238157894736837,87.48379385964914,87.84210526315788,6.114035087719299,20.54824561403509,7.492282038375204,0.9656140350877194,371,12,74,7,12,125,68,95,0.083,0.899,0.017,-0.7199,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,0,3,0,13,2,0,0,0,13,21,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,7,0,0,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,8,2,14,0,15,12,0,15,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,6,60,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26874025686455616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038738954454208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005529038789198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103234273719483,0.1895493694208405,0.11229674960185472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227018583743001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4559919676960069,0.0,0.2230586329490412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577169797105265,0.4200205291127061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21940382693181454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658324160762605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776174749850083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385017795060925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,paradoxlove,2019/01/22,"My 9yr old found Pornhub and I am lost. I always assumed my 9 yr old boy was just playing games, watching goofy yt videos, or watching a movie.  I had a feeling to check up on him. As I walked to his room I see that his door is closed. Hmm that's odd....he never closes his door because he is afraid of the dark. I opened the door and he immediately shuts the phone off. 
 ""Let me see your tablet!"" I said,but he zooms right past me. ""I have to pee"". I'm right on his tail and I literally have to pry the tablet out of his hands. 
   Password Protected? Haha he doesn't know that I watch him every time that he unlocks it, plus his greasy fingertips gives it away. Can you believe that in the quick moments that just past, he had all the windows closed and shut down the tablet.
   
Oh the horror!!!
My 9 yr old son has found PornHub...the page that came up was 2 woman eating each other out. I haven't even had the sex talk with him yet. I took his tablet, told him to stay in the room until further notice. I'm dumbfounded about my next move and lil bit mortified about the sex talk. I am a single mother by the way.
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parenting,twice6swept,2019/01/22,"5 Year old Son Struggling with Numbers, attitude and participation in school how can I help? Got an email from my step sons awesome teacher. She's stating he has tantrums when play or free time is over (drastically improved from the start of the year but still problematic for his teacher and classmates) and that he refuses to participate in the work. He's behind on recognizing numbers and letters despite being in special school programs to help with comprehending these skills. 

I've been practicing with flash cards and such at home. I'm not sure how to bring up his engagement and skills as he really dislikes the work and will start goofing off during practice, or just melt into his emotions as he dislikes it. Gamifying it hasn't worked very well, but I would still like to try and keep it fun and productive for him.   
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parenting,typewriter3000,2019/01/22,"Appropriate sex Ed resources for 14M who just started dating? We live in a school district that teaches abstinence only, and I am alarmed at the lack of information my 14 year old has. I have tried talking about it but he seems mortified and does not want to engage - he is also not much of a reader so books aren’t ideal. Does anyone have informational videos (especially relating to contraception, consent, LGBT issues, etc) they recommend?",6.258902953586496,8.299747569620255,7.020949367088613,68.1771624472574,66.9746835443038,9.823628691983123,33.41983122362869,10.125756701596842,3.8397578059071726,354,16,56,9,6,117,69,79,0.086,0.784,0.13,0.773,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,1,4,3,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,13,9,5,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,8,9,3,6,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,1,4,36,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156778309608522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188579495184535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720300326896917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30078517200436306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814952136612385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381487585097497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825946429247096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28300325737576154,0.0,0.0,0.2051178984219912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729493285433424,0.0,0.2455234284345395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089402001988845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167734764454157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18310761024475244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590751909377376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367702214720007
parenting,smittyace09,2019/01/22,"3 yo has constantly crying and throwing tantrums. Wife and I at odds New to the sub, so please be patient with me. 

My wife and I have differing opinions on our 3 year old and his behavior. He is much worse for her than he is for me, this is something we have found to be a common issue with other parents. She took to the internet right away and found all these symptoms of side effects of all sorts of things. He has been crying, screaming, and can't seem to calm himself down for quite a few minutes. He acts like he is either tired or wants a drink afterward, well, because he exhausts himself. My wife is dead set that he has something wrong (not just a 3 year old being 3) like ADHD, needs his adenoids out, or possible autism. This angers me instantly, though maybe it shouldn't. Does anyone else experience this type of behavior or have issues to where is causes a rift between you and your partner? I am hoping we're not the only ones going through this right now. Thanks in advance. ",5.622495682210713,6.0922352176165795,5.600634715025908,83.55497625215892,67.29015544041451,8.298618307426597,31.10924006908463,8.07648339933343,2.0899882556131257,779,29,152,9,12,244,126,193,0.153,0.772,0.075,-0.9457,1,0,3,0,0,0,23.0,2,2,0,3,6,11,2,0,8,0,19,4,0,2,2,31,28,12,1,4,7,4,0,2,1,1,3,1,0,1,9,11,1,0,4,1,0,5,4,5,1,1,4,1,18,6,23,20,5,25,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,7,11,101,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840777979339482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216332183331488,0.1350530240796631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238380939850244,0.0,0.0,0.08034902367378279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540327630898252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243778237770774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28957012287571043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771146081484795,0.0,0.0,0.11534619862885775,0.0,0.0,0.129121805237509,0.0,0.0,0.11010879447309664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893366082804833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28904166211857296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490960807682517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091523176351502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27514692353812203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287896065354738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241900097088918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689415488257212,0.09773407167024978,0.0,0.12730113076931454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766209577968763,0.0,0.08931661236426515,0.10024603612147892,0.0,0.0,0.14635735000602682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468576535362665,0.0,0.14859388242797486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401941900743324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251268765546749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999318764899848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294470391905275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699913429912114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121351233773732,0.0,0.0,0.08756747675561513,0.0,0.12950083626725956,0.0,0.0,0.15149407646214422,0.0,0.0,0.14644370237346738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774386077205403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851135465088106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343237635840166,0.0,0.14411151834151156,0.0,0.16976025173405834
parenting,Natural_Blonde_,2019/01/22,"Existential dread thanks to Spiderman, what do I do? So I took my kids 5,4,4&3 to see Spiderman Into the Spiderverse the other day. Now my five year old keeps going on and on about how there's infinite versions of us and nothing we do matters because it's been done already and that free will is an illusion because the universe has predetermined what's going to happen. Not her exact words but that's what she was up all night telling me about. Now the other three are worried about other versions of themselves coming here or them going to the other worlds. I tried telling them that it was just a movie, I tried showing them Rick and Morty, I tried buying more switch games and nothing's working. What do I do?",5.983738848337389,6.976631445255477,5.764184914841852,80.8486780210868,66.66423357664235,8.132684509326845,32.010543390105425,8.167268648758528,2.3539511759935117,576,23,104,7,9,179,86,137,0.048,0.921,0.031,-0.2725,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,1,10,3,0,1,7,0,13,0,0,1,2,18,22,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,13,8,0,1,0,2,2,5,1,1,0,3,5,1,16,3,13,16,4,17,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,1,7,82,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293081117435904,0.0,0.0,0.1992482958777312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241992776114055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840778073918668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185959547667293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188186675438152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31353237256181515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626162233109515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345279978973695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257138932264804,0.0,0.35290113035755777,0.0,0.19296506688752327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653913823177395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214616704640637,0.16930422863495778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431220431608088,0.374554405339358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22120097790687376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387650057014325,0.18675255581972425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842124541684047
parenting,Emuhline,2019/01/22,"Baby won't sleep. He's 8 months in 2 days and he's very healthy (24lbs)
He won't sleep in his own bed and he doesn't wanna sleep without being nursed to sleep and I'm losing all hope in life. I'm desperately seeking any advice on this. I'm a first time mom and nothing seems to work, I've tried letting him cry in his bed but it does not seem to do anything but make it worse. He only falls asleep on his own during the day, my husband has tried putting him to bed without me in the room but it doesn't work.

Does anyone have anything they used that helped? Or a method to try?",0.8096933333333318,2.6203583360000025,2.0661000000000023,98.80288333333336,81.64,4.486666666666667,19.216666666666672,4.7782277997778095,-0.6624533333333336,452,11,108,1,12,144,77,125,0.085,0.882,0.033,-0.7362,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,4,0,9,6,5,2,1,18,17,8,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,0,8,1,15,13,3,15,0,1,0,0,14,8,0,4,5,54,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347404738042898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376711814826502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641300450082052,0.0,0.2269366404861057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146115073093647,0.17784995493552697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413297035380221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172856483819172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092421990417156,0.0,0.0,0.13695177840995748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409976414824646,0.09739286592289584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425901579548312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203988719905158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149026141924105,0.11005918386062924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230520858455905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486841554224327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861338108153914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25105223012239136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5519417877470414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040235813691421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808463587208113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908911801794345,0.0,0.11377028119142142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658341114337052,0.0,0.200765107377892,0.0,0.14051747881239696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cecate,2019/01/22,"If you don't punish, how would you handle these situations? I have been looking into non punitive parenting methods. We have been opting for a more natural consequence approach to parenting. Right now that means if our kids throws their food on the floor then they clean it up and don't get anymore. We don't consider that to be a punishment but a natural consequence for throwing food.

I'm wondering how this applies as they get older. There are obvious ones where it can still be used. A kid staying up too late at night has to suffer the consequences of being tired the next day. A kid not doing homework has to suffer the bad grade. I'm wondering more about things where natural consequences don't really apply. For example, doing things that break trust or breaking household rules. How do you handle that. A child drinking alcohol or doing drugs in your home? Having inappropriate content on their phone? Taking the car passed curfew? A kid failing in high school? Spending too much time online? 

Most of my mom groups are for younger kids. I'm wondering how to apply this to older kids just so I can see what direction we are headed in. ",4.242971698113209,6.841072259433965,4.796830188679248,79.55147169811325,74.04716981132076,8.202264150943396,27.581132075471697,8.982922981607832,2.6102916981132083,917,36,156,21,20,292,130,212,0.122,0.802,0.077,-0.9231,2,0,4,0,0,0,21.0,4,4,4,1,14,7,2,0,12,0,24,7,1,5,1,24,37,13,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,7,12,5,4,0,4,1,1,5,5,6,0,1,2,2,15,1,23,31,4,32,0,3,2,0,24,14,0,8,10,112,27,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514371892807854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405310922489406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831591176825025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138657757994123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388147886136925,0.16433025019685873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426951553176816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480677197272597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14542794508373724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971677898384672,0.14213945336799402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984692067460649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899465589413555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435588127325942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596059649207612,0.0,0.0,0.10416785610444207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507025260826442,0.13297847038233634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602147865134487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146883605875268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077843658519727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210134094807399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434107899008719,0.1129187783078806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927987448466036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510363213213525,0.1131640321410764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065428638936817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828207602745026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262803712436101,0.16286651322475593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238571470674647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610118974385002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066159725574192,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m_e_l_f,2019/01/22,"How Involved To Get? My daughter is 6 (grade 1) and is in a competitive gymnastics program that requires her to be at the gym by 4 pm three days per week. Luckily a school classmate of hers is in the same gymnastics class, so we have set up a carpool as neither my husband or I would be able to get her there on time with our work schedules. The girls have been close for the last couple of years because they see each other so often.

Recently my daughter who is typically easy going said the other girl is starting to be mean, calling my daughter dumb and lying to her.  She is also threatening my daughter  that if she plays with anyone else at recess she won’t be friends with her anymore. I have also witnessed her physically block my daughter from giving her other good friend a hug in the hallway after school.  

Today my daughter said she doesn’t know if she wants to be friends with her anymore because of her behaviour and said the friendship doesn’t make her happy anymore. 

I encouraged her to play with whomever she wants and to tell the other girl the same, which has temporarily helped in the past, but now it has escalated where the other girl has isolated her from all of her previous friends due to threats. 

I understand it is in some ways typical childhood behaviour, but my daughter is worried about losing all of her friends when she is normally an outgoing social butterfly.

My question is, do I talk to the other girl’s mom who we carpool with and risk her blowing up and potentially losing our carpool and this the chance for our daughter to participate in the gymnastics program which she enjoys, or let the 6 year olds deal with it and risk my daughter succumbing to peer pressure? ",10.021677018633538,7.819987440993793,9.320993788819877,69.20118012422361,59.683229813664596,12.18136645962733,43.18633540372671,10.608840637214634,4.593736645962734,1364,65,240,24,14,435,164,322,0.093,0.779,0.128,0.7998,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,1,4,11,19,2,3,20,0,28,1,0,2,2,43,43,21,0,6,6,11,0,0,5,2,0,3,0,5,16,19,0,2,4,3,0,1,4,7,0,1,4,4,44,12,43,31,7,33,0,2,1,1,65,13,1,7,17,183,60,8,0.11237762809081707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797366971666153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33434523088989265,0.07857705047109871,0.11514416015272345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370087180654576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475012285277672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243437080258418,0.0,0.07247427334936235,0.11585640007654185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387708828759736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341133834910294,0.0,0.11742534492379984,0.10780286082513654,0.06386679578746696,0.09425702272212556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962807475617808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532435529054032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617598054698421,0.09160276573623637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491373854010754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251443641499224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501293937720363,0.0,0.0,0.12241218162146565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161531981946106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010621549933987,0.0,0.0,0.1179214167295332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727716180635162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258886622901044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109593504016126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320690575596779,0.0,0.0,0.2274643183662694,0.08955042000782464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455483979017725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795414635671578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032488067050372,0.0982230001958342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655282986567014,0.0,0.10652085145893747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169890740524559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256647330382015,0.08920013043046361,0.09014255474042177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181225166120573,0.1141249362661041,0.0,0.07982984272405177,0.0,0.0,0.14473501609044326
parenting,jrappleyea13,2019/01/22,"4 year old possibly taking a toy from school Today my 4 year old son came home with a Spiderman action figure. When. Questioned about why he brought it home he says that his teacher let him take it home. My husband and I are suspicious about if he is telling the truth. So we sent a message to his teacher asking if what he says is true or if he is lying about it. 

Here is where I need some advice. This would be the first time my son brought something home possibly without asking. My husband and I are not sure how to handle if he did bring the toy home and lied about his teacher saying he could. How should we go about teaching him right from wrong?",3.0050034698126282,4.785328320610688,3.376682859125605,92.06482997918111,74.95419847328245,5.985010409437892,24.88619014573213,6.574015621080383,0.7192534351145037,514,17,107,4,11,159,78,131,0.111,0.851,0.038,-0.8343,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,11,4,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,2,3,26,23,12,0,8,7,4,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,0,6,7,0,0,2,2,0,7,2,1,0,1,5,3,14,3,11,13,1,17,0,0,0,0,27,2,0,7,8,66,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228922136669693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23513915523609985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383710426097318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040994155099246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697225973804396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147288607778535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6307427871221052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859916396590634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932502031413902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639300713343412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835533092026983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088112465023794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739922430603292,0.0,0.30003063338602604,0.0,0.12727686674194952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096816977659397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852827344064165,0.0,0.189113272431942,0.0,0.10992067500265587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733322623597251,0.0,0.11920674252343433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347976006831585,0.0,0.0,0.12122913590808425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933702065797605,0.13749993355132858,0.0,0.16197194784787808
parenting,chocolatedessert,2019/01/22,"Time out isn't working for my 2.5 year old - what to do? My 2.5 year old boy is pushing boundaries, like they do, and I'm searching for a response that works. Time outs worked fine for his older brother (maybe actually time ins -- he'd sit with me), but they're just not working for little bro. If I'm with him, it's fun play time. If I'm not, he doesn't stay put. If I try to keep him in place, I have to restrain him too strongly. Anyway, ""time out"" doesn't feel like the right response anyway. He's usually not out of control, he's calmly and deliberately breaking a rule. He doesn't need to calm down, but he does need to obey some rules.

Is there a better way to do a time out, or some other strategy to try? The other strategy I hear about most is ""natural consequences"". That makes sense to me when there is a clear cut consequence, like, ""if you keep putting your fingers in your milk, I will take it away"". But often there isn't such a clean solution, and I think there's a strong temptation to just do something retaliative with a loose connection to the infraction to justify it. At least, a lot of the examples I read strike me that way.

Anyway, have you had a similar situation with a little one? Any suggestions would be a big help.",4.122381176470586,4.907005223999999,5.06049411764706,84.97412941176471,70.75999999999998,8.762352941176474,27.90588235294117,9.007467420416297,1.9815035294117642,966,33,207,18,17,316,134,250,0.059,0.777,0.16399999999999998,0.982,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,0,4,1,8,15,12,1,0,16,0,20,2,1,3,1,42,32,12,0,7,13,2,2,3,0,2,0,1,1,1,9,12,1,4,2,2,0,3,8,1,0,1,1,3,21,11,33,27,5,37,0,0,0,0,21,16,0,10,16,131,30,5,0.0,0.0,0.1206244210061995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405826662151553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613459719825894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932199572526323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863785226616462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817095035177696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625003559465074,0.08830619753162318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393161739647266,0.0,0.08285241634377988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21973847658981785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116714248034496,0.24777711098282554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508783634425553,0.0,0.0,0.08250987692464605,0.0,0.124181718599527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330881364086254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594134201889581,0.0,0.08376056564058015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914495464739806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485220997373128,0.0,0.0,0.12364231486266852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556129493700472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894154276084875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516014291212073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175060292587687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293848282742656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920356929544448,0.0,0.0,0.4324639377261079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784461025884373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613770097125946,0.0,0.0,0.19622992631899436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35995490226293786,0.0,0.0,0.08780819086362948,0.0,0.0,0.15920011218675592
parenting,koosloops,2019/01/22,"Fathers: was I out of line? W 16yr old son Son 16 yrs old..
Playing corn hole.

Having a nice family time.

Suddenly kid thinks it would be funny to throw one bean bag at my nuts... misses

I say ""stop, dont"" and hold up a hand.

He laughs and tries again, misses..

I start to walk to him to explain this is not fun for me.

Now point blank, he winds up and does a third throw hitting me in the gut.

I react and end up slapping him in the face...  enough to make him take notice but not a full force at all.  At all....


Wife is furious, says ""any real man would just play like that""... among other things


WTF?

Which one of you would enjoy or play along to your 16 yr old son whipping bean bags at your nuts?",-0.05989726027397424,1.9389623767123323,1.4660102739726035,100.80463184931507,86.1917808219178,4.471917808219176,14.60445205479452,5.602791699666715,-1.107861643835616,521,8,128,3,16,167,103,146,0.108,0.747,0.145,0.4835,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,3,0,0,3,11,1,0,6,0,9,3,3,2,2,23,17,6,0,3,5,5,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,2,6,6,0,2,2,3,0,3,3,3,0,3,1,3,13,8,21,11,4,26,0,2,0,0,18,13,0,1,11,73,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068979570181312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531048192570446,0.0,0.2080006015695284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719109713260346,0.18338019558986574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730861913809394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670583034299502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846663736542486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020576521778861,0.5586937598752524,0.0,0.2405247207998557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677722267248062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200659230341453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822721468047044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561845727097695,0.0,0.0,0.1483779194740726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343989777690168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790719744213547,0.11371948270314272,0.0,0.0,0.10348770836856244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049458391166308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782216684527031,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hangry_lady,2019/01/22,"kids and FOMO My son is 11 and we got him a phone just before he entered middle school this year. It's really convenient for him to have a phone but I was also nervous about having all of the internet at his fingers and decided on a parent monitoring app. We made it clear that we do want to give him privacy (i.e. not reading his text messages) but we also needed to make sure he learned how to safely navigate interacting with other people online. 

I really feel like 11 is way too young to be let loose on social media and want him to grow up more before having his whole world put online for others to see. He can facetime, call, text, video chat with multiple people on his phone and he also plays online with his friends with his gaming console. But he cannot stop obsessing over the fact that we won't allow him to have Snapchat or Instagram and keeps saying he feels left out. I get why he feels left out, but I also don't think my parenting practices should be influenced by what other kids are doing.

Tonight he downloaded Snapchat without my permission and approved it from my phone while it was left unattended. While I have to give him credit for how well thought out his plan was, it confirms for me that he cannot be trusted to follow certain rules without being monitored. He's not allowed to use his phone for anything other than calling the rest of the week as punishment and we talked again about why we don't think he's ready for social media, also the negatives of social media we are trying to protect him from.

Has anyone else had to deal with their kids' fear of missing out over lack of social media? What are your rules and what have you been willing to compromise on? He's my oldest and this is such new territory for me and I really worry about getting this right and giving him a happy adolescents. ",7.269541882876204,6.78101089859155,7.352616753150485,75.62658265381765,63.95774647887324,10.177909562638996,32.20533728687917,9.549672527348893,2.8606619718309862,1459,48,266,24,19,471,183,355,0.08199999999999999,0.784,0.135,0.9629,3,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,8,2,1,2,15,15,1,3,9,0,33,1,1,8,5,68,55,27,0,5,10,3,4,1,1,3,0,1,0,3,18,29,0,4,8,5,1,4,10,5,1,0,8,6,40,10,53,39,5,33,0,1,1,0,67,18,0,1,11,192,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822268922014342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668405779640685,0.0979459290932034,0.07866457585183044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626845466366607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522149245722933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985517870106448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985536236225636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756826646112873,0.1450034927928019,0.06829138214986441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385461602468824,0.0,0.09988639017729134,0.2751034359472088,0.0,0.0,0.07645414552837539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176011455625628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496710705072782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115849626449131,0.09774992385159256,0.0,0.04670172236285607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045204218024967,0.06380881176750303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088071162447845,0.0,0.0923239417464735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21228856922898184,0.0,0.0,0.13254376386911845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609697937548363,0.0,0.0,0.0956184821700266,0.0,0.18371722789685446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163556957818234,0.0,0.07601908302297733,0.0,0.0967448282587066,0.07617493650324322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897785246074104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991970519911165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009490688567094,0.0,0.0,0.07683372170825606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250377367797967,0.0,0.07588985728173576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490110966943738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256132581660974,0.0,0.0,0.11276600026549327,0.07587696708767942,0.07667862845301866,0.0,0.08594923970401208,0.0,0.17251493031969786,0.10672573910926199,0.0,0.18429573627323512,0.0,0.0,0.0970789391356015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06155850893564795
parenting,CrazyOrNotHereICome,2019/01/22,"White 10-year-old boy called black 8-year-old boy the n-word. I’m the mom of the white boy. The child I thought knew better. The one I had a long talk with just yesterday about MLK and discrimination. As quickly as I patted myself on the back last night, I’m kicking myself in the ass today. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to explain to him why it’s wrong. I want to do better than “we just don’t say that word.”  I need help. ",-0.4532918660287066,1.5694050105263169,1.4413397129186618,100.1111961722488,88.36842105263158,4.296650717703351,16.004784688995215,5.565023196281405,-0.9593157894736841,336,7,84,2,11,110,61,95,0.075,0.8140000000000001,0.111,0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,8,0,6,1,1,1,0,14,15,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,4,11,2,12,12,0,9,0,0,3,1,12,2,1,0,7,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262434273480206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740950881085794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21595704376663544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175867256406333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324610149652113,0.17239425978328318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871638215395426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476969494758435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568186857894387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198470975375418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44385068914228587,0.0,0.14331249615166058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818697811245698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699893100175804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790107507272695,0.0,0.0,0.20046974773256535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247434990287195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083869244371932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312333716095005,0.0,0.2723879105951841
parenting,Hippobottomous,2019/01/22,"Kids can need deodorant before starting puberty. For the sake of their teachers and peers, please teach proper hygiene before it's needed. I just saw this pop up on the teachers sub and I remembered how much of an issue this was back when I was teaching elementary and middle school. So many kids come to school without deodorant or without deodorant applied properly. I have realized that a lot of parents connect body odor with puberty but this is an issue that can happen before puberty. Sometimes way before puberty. 

My oldest is 7 and isn't smelly yet but we have started talking about proper hygiene. Have them help with laundry, don't let them miss too many showers, show them how to properly wash their body and hair, and teach them to use deodorant and how to apply it. Their teachers will thank you. ",5.486126126126127,7.703354729729736,5.564594594594592,77.13423423423424,69.27027027027026,8.446846846846848,32.6036036036036,9.075114841892004,3.1959171171171166,652,30,105,13,12,205,91,148,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.8448,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,7,0,10,2,0,0,5,0,13,4,3,4,0,26,23,15,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,7,11,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,3,14,1,15,18,2,11,0,1,1,0,14,3,0,2,6,75,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093484909697111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840311120035168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159200855817717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224988348441228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575327922270035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531842936962986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968545560770454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541640653127436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089940098577648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883513819330684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453858965332466,0.21088954283913247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15790416845650185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610070464323228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109293592694193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878423782145421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064646968944192,0.0,0.2013098511826302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430068966807212,0.0,0.13092520231763322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282128564045446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287738606460665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741651619962122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vroomscreech,2019/01/22,"My toddler and I are yelling at each other and it's ridiculous. I have a 2 year old, and her and i have developed the bad habit of getting louder and louder to try to talk over each other. She obviously thinks it's normal and kind of fun.

It's gotten to where I ask her to back up so i can shut the fridge and we end up hollering at each other for 20 seconds before she calmly backs up so i can shut the fridge. My wife just shakes her head at us. 

It's not malicious or abusive, I've never once raised my voice in anger, she just won't even look up at me until i get loud. Instead she just starts talking at a higher volume than me to delay whatever instruction she is avoiding. She stops and her head snaps up right away if i mention something interesting, like snack or grandma.

I'm obviously failing as a dad here and need to break the cycle. Advice? ",3.2961057692307705,4.430703846590912,4.641136363636363,85.90141608391609,73.0340909090909,7.233566433566433,25.470279720279716,7.61054688173877,1.2145966783216786,671,21,140,8,13,223,108,176,0.115,0.807,0.078,-0.6833,0,1,1,0,1,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,11,11,2,2,7,0,7,3,2,0,3,29,16,16,0,3,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,7,13,1,3,1,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,1,4,25,5,25,14,3,29,0,1,1,0,18,17,0,3,11,100,32,2,0.0,0.2214175421595839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826130976563058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747038654308671,0.0,0.17557618557725158,0.28739227003777656,0.15603368261851164,0.0,0.0,0.15901774091026524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551669842688976,0.0,0.0,0.12342985802327215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527002953942285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3835774493544906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19460263220905769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912981907660338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156928802674088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856621135392552,0.14413031800504558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309883583465147,0.0,0.0,0.19609496180785332,0.19901687729428105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959111200940546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386630095227784,0.0,0.0,0.13227181874958052,0.0,0.0,0.15623673222461118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004077548696095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974261689871467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687656025809166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247888595286096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203420389597742
parenting,GumTastesBad,2019/01/22,"IEPs are so sad I don't find IEPs particularly challenging at this age. I have been lucky to work with so many wonderful, skilled teachers and staff who are genuinely looking out for my kid's potential. I feel that I know my kid well and can suggest valuable ideas to the IEP team. We have 2 years of Special Education behind us and that label does not cause me anxiety. There is no stigma here - just love and support.

But IEP meetings are just plain sad. It is really stinking sad. We sit in these board rooms to hold 2hour+ meetings that review long, detailed reports (from the teacher, school psych, the OT, the Speech therapist, whatever whomever might as well be the lunch lady too) on all of the places that our kid has""deficits"" that can be remedied with intervention. Or worse, showing deficits that barely scratch the edge of normal so they legally do not need to provide intervention. And then we plan for next year and think about ways to monitor his growth and success in very technical terms. I know that this meeting is not the whole of our child. I know that my child's future is not determined by numbers on a chart, taken at a snapshot in time. I know we, as parents, are strong enough and mature enough to face the facts while still holding hope and faith in our kid's abilities. But the whole process is just a shitbowl of sadness. 

Thanks for reading. Just needed to let it off my chest.  ",5.831628787878785,7.059887390151516,5.282272727272732,83.31424242424245,67.14393939393939,8.290909090909091,32.09090909090909,8.515128840125781,2.4087818181818186,1117,46,210,16,18,339,165,264,0.086,0.741,0.173,0.9677,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,8,0,1,7,14,18,0,0,13,0,20,4,2,1,2,47,35,19,0,4,11,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,14,16,1,2,9,3,0,1,6,5,2,0,2,5,22,13,33,29,6,26,1,4,1,1,24,12,0,5,11,139,36,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855048205947693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457668570757697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417463822218197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932341611737133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174716560385347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296908876132527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093530376596658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018394755268828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31193055972499273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509884912287624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557399274419262,0.11915737508566512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806718782714066,0.0,0.0,0.14386084300770027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052982927180306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21042900651947136,0.0,0.0,0.1509086041877605,0.0,0.13902850392995889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575593405261024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825170685298794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193496190146734,0.0,0.09090257151964848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360689692445155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331877824863774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102253777483774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063929050799813,0.0,0.16475284594391673,0.0,0.09092158783095848,0.0,0.0,0.08274102679854026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068409363676476,0.0,0.0,0.11707952481825235,0.0,0.11263088671119485,0.0,0.0,0.25516410187638605,0.0,0.0,0.31684488961962426,0.0,0.0,0.1538807693204448,0.1033023876083264,0.0,0.14460471992974894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275346820410412
parenting,Elsie1492,2019/01/22,"Leaving kids home alone - no judgement please! So, I mentioned this to a friend with very young kids and she joked about calling CPS... but I feel like I need a real answer.

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When do most people start to leave their kids home alone?  I'm not asking about the law says because my understanding is that it is not specific. 

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My kids are 7 and 4 - almost 8 and almost 5. They are super responsible kids and play extremely well together. As an example, the older one knows how to make scrambled eggs and will occasionally go downstairs and make scrambled eggs for her and her little sister so my husband and I can sleep in.

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I don't have an especial need to leave them home alone, but lately there have been lots of times when they don't want to come with me and will tell me, ""Mom, you go we'll just stay here."" These are incredibly quick errands within 1 mile of home, and I am usually back within 30-40 mins if not sooner. It feels like a drag to force them into the car with me when they would just be drawing or crafting at home. We live in a safe area, the house has sturdy locks, they know not to answer the door and won't go into the yard if I'm not home. The 7 year old knows how to use the phone and will sometimes call me if she has an issue (it's usually a crafting based issue, like she can't find glitter glue).  I obviously have my cell phone at the ready and always pick up, and in case of any emergency could be back home within minutes. And, to be clear, the 4 year old will only stay home if my 7 year old is at home - I would not leave the 4 year old by herself.

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Is this normal? Or am I pushing the envelope here? We listened to Anne of Green Gables audiobook the other day and I was reminded that Anne, when she was younger than 10, supposedly took care of three sets of twins. Kids used to do a heck of a lot more than just craft on their own for 30 mins... and part of me thinks if they can stay home alone and feel self confident and capable, I should be encouraging that.  Then every time I read some crazy story about a parent being arrested for leaving a child in a park for 5 minutes while they were in the bathroom and I get nervous.

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So, please be honest with me. How old were your kids when you started leaving them home alone?",4.900751874062968,5.303676710869566,5.217946026986507,85.90456521739132,68.84782608695652,8.170914542728637,27.1664167916042,7.990435384864732,1.4324857571214389,1797,52,379,21,29,570,226,460,0.07,0.794,0.136,0.9904,1,5,0,0,0,0,71.0,3,3,11,1,25,13,0,1,27,0,42,3,1,8,2,85,70,43,0,13,18,4,3,3,1,9,0,2,13,9,10,29,2,1,11,4,0,7,11,1,1,2,6,6,48,12,49,48,7,60,0,0,1,0,49,18,1,13,34,243,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795137005945502,0.2532768674515451,0.0,0.0,0.04069652711554917,0.2649664959265713,0.2971512863197975,0.03326005958429214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045723673531949886,0.0,0.0,0.07521659751720389,0.0,0.029814707682326577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988390279608517,0.0,0.04986637856172657,0.0,0.0,0.04213110521730485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03905016484583251,0.0,0.0,0.031542507731047026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04120826706277052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419016521647698,0.06988175011480159,0.0,0.0,0.04470229264165751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03778727021907355,0.0,0.025553135470742932,0.0,0.08338899336757971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5396611207053145,0.0,0.0,0.05643486462533062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209738363824424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063795819420637,0.0,0.05517191763475688,0.3107278662428189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168396632235452,0.04902005362553573,0.043187883808572115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316202174694005,0.0,0.0,0.06529478974775604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05728208164181758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253137982814938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047920813733206134,0.0,0.0,0.2566108652733422,0.0,0.03314226566868838,0.0371977919160338,0.0,0.0,0.05430808500307209,0.05296409874162936,0.0,0.033907609915006645,0.0,0.0,0.1073756370040279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04892262147146832,0.055669588778087885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03889470674433117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102315623132357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048944707670604125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04837263326192895,0.0,0.06923663014630127,0.15639269329613278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042748959042457145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03133915960837594,0.0,0.0,0.05703891247084985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05434012734130099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091639560095142,0.0,0.0844840118655366,0.10773355739918772,0.04035536557031708,0.028848023000565732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04397541170255023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694876489248395,0.0,0.2971512863197975,0.12598416384194594
parenting,reitrelant,2019/01/22,"Single parent considering reducing visit time from only child. I do 12-14 hour days Monday-Friday due to long hours and commuting. I love my child dearly, but I want to reduce the amount of time they come to stay (I collect and take them home). At the moment it's one week being Friday evening-Sunday afternoon and the next Saturday morning to Sunday afternoon.

My child wakes me up anywhere between 4am-6:30am average. The Mother of my child does not work and her retired Father takes care of the child a lot during the week and the child is also at Kindergarten, so she doesn't see much of him, gets every single weekend child free and also has a partner who works full time to support her. My ex has also complained I don't see the child enough, claiming other parents book weeks off to spend time with their kids. 

I have no time to myself. I come home, ,dinner and it's time for bed. I can't have a coffee with a friend at weekends because I don't get much help, my parents are very busy and can only watch my child for a couple of hours max. If I want to make any rare weekend plans, I have to book time off in the week to accommodate. I do want to see my child every week because I don't want to miss any of their firsts and I feel incredibly guility if I don't see them for whatever reason (if they're away with their Mother). 

But I'm honestly worn the heck down. I have no life, can't afford to move closer to work, was in a great relationship that ended because we were just constantly stuck in my house and my child (aged 4, only child) always wants attention and is extremely loud, excitable and prone to tantrums, plus they can't play or entertain themself at all so there's literally no time to sit down and think, then they refuse to sleep and keep getting up, even though I give them attention. I am a firm but fair parent. My ex has different methods so the lack of consistency is evident in my child's behaviour, but my ex just doesn't listen to me. I've wondered if I should give up my job and career to have my child full time, but I've been strongly discouraged from it, plus my ex wouldn't allow it to happen. 

Am I wrong for my thoughts? I understand Parenthood isn't a walk in the park, but why does my ex get to sit on her butt all week and get weekends to herself whereas I'm working, paying her child maintenance and having zero me time at all. This is more of a vent if anything. I take responsibility for being a parent but I'm just so tired and miserable, my weekends are just me constantly disciplining my child after trying my hardest and generally not having a great time. ",6.884387959387957,6.028842040540546,7.200330330330331,77.6106856856857,64.8880308880309,10.145116545116542,32.11954811954812,9.348350401419415,2.6364309166309163,2059,67,407,32,27,672,236,518,0.101,0.8,0.099,-0.2322,9,0,1,0,1,0,53.0,1,0,9,7,14,19,1,1,23,0,38,7,3,3,3,73,77,43,0,13,19,13,1,0,2,2,2,2,3,18,8,27,1,4,8,9,3,5,16,6,0,3,6,8,64,14,63,67,14,71,0,3,5,2,59,22,2,8,41,264,72,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097437856382066,0.0558307860727036,0.0,0.0,0.09125767740051208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521581322114093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304063854824023,0.0,0.0,0.1227066792485228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841072963782405,0.0,0.0,0.11559771258689,0.0,0.14501787722236487,0.0,0.0,0.07424249450563837,0.0,0.043272562209757545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010297191935796,0.0,0.0,0.11743556092771705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594287791645677,0.06933001515774118,0.0,0.044317496932305266,0.0,0.1130656646094669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033926688888702636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707339670407122,0.0,0.0,0.051839632258608034,0.0,0.17527928561363335,0.12873274296820802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795123240886385,0.0,0.0,0.05933440692290014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04497427431258908,0.0,0.13460922820853075,0.0,0.19823359845682464,0.07742190985960018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658426248976626,0.05963965180070958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04739319558402899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937948556556786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704419239931846,0.060558429057009124,0.0,0.04478833571865504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131439553300331,0.0986492798593638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135932439722102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045467239483593984,0.1530928147955557,0.0,0.0,0.3725211081544894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898776465436066,0.0,0.07203797994161094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21387319619025072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671463069954302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151738016005654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614184472902545,0.0,0.0,0.15134769770140805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299359281507428,0.06592329668612625,0.05326819778371512,0.4303782534111181,0.07711910777312518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045555035548685945,0.0,0.0,0.06985122790253365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05536275308320538,0.1978802510828552,0.0,0.3229310866448883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054537297914465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276475583041779,0.19539213494224086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336096548372219,0.0,0.0
parenting,TreasureDive,2019/01/22,"managing a 14-year-old who keeps bucking the rules and fleeing the house. I'm not going to be long winded here.  We are truly exhausted at this point and I just don't have the energy.  I am reaching out here as I feel we are just at a point of 'no clue what more to do.'
  
Her behavior has progressively gotten worse.  It started with a lot of shouting at us, ignoring to do her easy chores (like putting away the dishes), ignoring to do her homework, failing classes, etc.
  
One night she decides to sneak out of the house.  We called the police, no one could find where she was, she ended up showing back up to the house at 7AM the next morning.  Said that she ""slept in the park"" for no apparant reason (even though the police and us checked the park that very night).
  
Then it turns out she's doing drugs and associating with people who sell bags of them.  I'm talking big time drug dealers.  Keep in mind she's 14.
  
Now we find she's sexually active.  Is this normal at 14?  I didn't really think it was.  Oh, and the nude photo taking and wearing bracelets while taking photos (and the bracelets have disgusting messages on them)

Top it all off we've had many of her 'friends' in our home, while they take photos of throwing up gang signs and talking about how many drugs they're selling.
  
So we took her phone and said it would be gone for a week.  Things were turning up and her behavior was improving.  So she asks if she can go grab lunch with a friend down the street and that she'll walk back home (literally a  third of a mile away).  We oblige, despite her not having her phone to get in touch with us, and we drop her off at the restaurant.  She doesn't come home until 9 PM.  Turns out, she wasn't even with the friend she said she was with.  In fact, she cant even say WHERE she was.  Just a ""I DONT KNOW"" response.  Pleading the 5th.  Where did you go?  I dont know.  Did you eat lunch?  Yeah.  Okay. Then where did you go after lunch?  I dont know.  She is pathologically lying, as well.  
  
So today we drop her off at school.  She doesn't come home.  We find out hours after the bus drop off that she ended up getting off the bus at her grandparents house, a totally different stop, about 20 minutes away.  
  
I don't know what we are to do anymore to ensure her to stop leaving the house.  She yells at us, has no respect towards us, yells at her little sister; very volatile behavior (slams doors, screams, etc.).  And we found a journal with some disturbing things in them about how she hates all of us in the family.  
  
What would you do in this situation?  Other than ""take away her phone.""  or ""tell her she cant go out."" 
  
The only thing I can think of is counseling (not sure that would even help) or a boarding school (but those mostly suck, from what I've read, and I'm not ready to give up on our daughter)",2.334364937388191,4.2411899302325615,3.082185688729876,92.87763989266548,77.24686940966009,6.189352415026834,22.092343470482998,7.087006719466742,0.479322833631485,2157,61,472,24,50,678,253,559,0.1,0.838,0.062,-0.963,2,0,3,0,0,0,89.0,19,4,4,3,26,17,3,1,33,2,48,13,3,3,5,87,89,31,0,6,11,2,3,1,3,4,5,8,7,0,24,40,5,6,13,2,4,13,19,9,1,3,20,11,73,8,82,62,9,93,0,1,0,1,86,54,1,6,24,324,97,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05842557256992498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055075426097570095,0.0,0.22140170074438809,0.09060046662643503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601564581522379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149615691675462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047037000790449424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061551237295546075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713575282269356,0.0,0.20496010109925436,0.060282404298850435,0.0,0.0,0.10435833997881702,0.0,0.1314064768244201,0.15564514287142306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555376547269425,0.0,0.029788033535052837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153543391852887,0.0,0.0,0.06459473971189307,0.136547428123329,0.0,0.06155891316110895,0.056514434361339135,0.16740723811840827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05816409898062134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394879440146067,0.0,0.23637698433568696,0.0,0.0580171468935814,0.3398867562365588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472863730889988,0.0,0.0,0.12950752681994215,0.0,0.0,0.06238004776582458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028781771633818364,0.059046006853880686,0.0,0.05213588962730517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050085474646384916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945647134147375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059485037443011965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265432960924644,0.11057116467575713,0.05772194208005633,0.0,0.0,0.06181897321228981,0.0,0.07984154651381706,0.04480576649714661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04084265151430287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138309608451118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059223539842819965,0.0,0.0,0.058928647136553575,0.0,0.037740987062831,0.06057207214573576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811841862213656,0.0468497472187406,0.0,0.11924560435097338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622034822832754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04169871548272332,0.0,0.0,0.09850731783341644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055524526808799435,0.0,0.17718008809612354,0.09470360064245552,0.05149230043482237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741694937947998,0.07549776453394498,0.057881433076761975,0.0,0.034352471770219266,0.0,0.05584235540515818,0.0,0.06545418240350083,0.0,0.1922403159330235,0.0,0.0,0.4251883788601376,0.0,0.0,0.09721830213643556,0.0,0.0,0.04725621800802087,0.0,0.05296959649669555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060037078961108575,0.12554968501315936,0.0,0.0,0.037937850183301744
parenting,lets_be_friends,2019/01/22,"Constantly saying 'no' to tv My k5yr old is allowed to watch low to average amount of tv. I think it's entirely reasonable. We monitor what he watches etc. BUT he asks constantly to 'watch'. We end up saying 'no' over and over and over. I think we're doing everything 'right'. We are very consistent about when he can and can't watch and have had always the same rules about tv. If we let him watch a show, he asks constantly afterwards. This can mean every 5 minutes for hours... it seems like a fixation. I'm losing ideas about  what to do!

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I'm starting to be concerned that we're harming our relationship with our son because we say no to him so often. He has started to hit himself on the head and freaking out, telling us that ""(insert blank here) is getting in my head. only watching will get it out!"".  I sit with him, hug him, hold him down, try to tell him stories, sing to him ... talk to him about how horrible that must be and ask questions about what's going on...",2.7692167022249308,4.716414388601034,3.816921670222495,87.91798232246265,76.09844559585494,7.235476988722953,26.37884791222189,8.124751697461798,1.6492739408716854,759,29,155,13,17,245,119,193,0.107,0.856,0.037000000000000005,-0.9358,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,8,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,4,0,16,3,2,3,1,30,31,11,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,10,15,0,1,7,5,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,9,22,2,30,24,3,24,0,2,6,1,34,12,0,4,11,100,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650377859716198,0.13868472333132925,0.15553039559473253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589798207106788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802579853857795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149579374059469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336737280038535,0.0,0.1427505175874119,0.0,0.0,0.10784301420032387,0.0,0.11503547295701776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374632557280153,0.0,0.07274365911571529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627237500027785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605128678808866,0.0,0.0,0.1444930616032231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088563033429046,0.0,0.06253288113492335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319593083158114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394262840602747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13431134653382282,0.0,0.0,0.09734750543406673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338596172319354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160225978357507,0.0,0.13742090351902145,0.0,0.10930876015986933,0.0,0.3053651155985543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652368451313815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119390647212866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287916041737878,0.22375008345011524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403065091400992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690157816773407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396466146169369,0.0,0.0,0.10561095072572964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553039559473253,0.0
parenting,epicnormalcy,2019/01/22,"Birthday Party Blues My children are smart. My children are social. Teachers have never had anything but good things to say about my girls. 

My eldest has lots of friends who attend her birthday parties and come over for play dates and sleep overs and she gets invited to go to their houses. It has never been a problem. 

My twins though. Despite being social and having lots of friends at school, that’s it, it’s only at school. I have sent little cards with my girls to pass along to friends inviting them for play dates and my phone number. We never hear back. They are in second grade, I started doing this in kindergarten. We have had a grand total of 1 play date on all that time. She moved away. 

I decided we would try for a big birth day party with the girls in their classes. We made cute invitations with my number on them. All the relevant information on there. There party is less than 5 days away, we passed them out last Monday. We have heard back from no one. Not a single person, out of 16 girls, has RSVP’d yes or no. 

I am heartbroken for my girls. I have no idea why this is happening. The teachers tell me they are kind and have lots of friends. I have a good respectable job, a stable relationship with a home in a good neighborhood. Not that any of that should matter mind you. I have no idea what is going on. I have no idea Why my girls can’t make friends outside of school. I have no idea what to do. 

Do I give up? Do I just cancel the party? Will people show despite not RSVPing? Please send me some guidance. My girls are amazing and it makes them so sad that big sister has all these friends and it just doesn’t happen for them. Am I to blame? Is there a password to get into the cool parents club? ",2.18989649818872,4.4754182199413535,2.682174400552011,93.69620277729861,79.41055718475074,5.067483180955667,20.87985164740383,6.068283710208149,0.044468966706917364,1347,37,279,9,34,415,175,341,0.08199999999999999,0.6579999999999999,0.26,0.9972,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,1,9,0,10,21,0,0,14,2,39,1,1,3,7,55,54,12,0,3,7,2,0,0,6,3,0,3,1,10,17,23,0,0,6,5,0,9,14,2,0,2,6,5,44,19,46,44,10,45,0,1,1,0,50,21,0,5,15,203,61,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283048017524633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603165359392616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361272841326336,0.14208919040500093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958847952176414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917181937996718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282961056685742,0.0,0.09654316869402972,0.08863188594501407,0.10501826234630646,0.2324848605170618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340583648728085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413374505799566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267781829733307,0.0,0.0,0.10660923904986476,0.0,0.4172022808621701,0.0,0.0,0.09168590092395186,0.0,0.0,0.09621320175950644,0.0,0.07531271269462306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260216445803714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356479433896837,0.0,0.08742459059164832,0.12334623100707763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329069845014012,0.0,0.0,0.0981992494742343,0.0,0.0,0.2137777769262234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260795957932408,0.07026912028284753,0.0,0.0,0.102591609900561,0.0,0.0,0.06405374612019511,0.08067409613499264,0.0,0.10141988493719056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840772419996422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919561837458687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347470604580185,0.0,0.2805202668234573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245983090281253,0.1883662718599192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539631576400601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075564677875742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06138187398800656,0.0,0.0907757572515492,0.0,0.05387516294333203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272885393220172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674081414426606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563341140643246,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,briedaniellemm,2019/01/22,Growth Hormone Therapy - Omnitrope Does anyone have any experience giving their child Omnitrope for Growth Hormone Therapy through the Omnitrope Pen5?  I am sure it is a long shot.  We have been doing injection therapy for 3 years.  Our insurance just changed and we had to change medicines and this one has been impossible to administer.  It is very hard to press down.  Thanks for all your help!,4.776911764705883,8.128821397058825,4.73088235294118,76.28397058823529,77.67647058823529,9.870588235294116,32.029411764705884,9.827888789773867,4.227523529411766,317,16,52,11,8,98,52,68,0.022,0.768,0.209,0.9201,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,0,2,7,12,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,2,8,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,2,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555697783752918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938207521427545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217472858027924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744424160627062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19499124872787305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912235998393686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856809217304934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361235744569552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640825052973347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507688888379696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787412482747126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18352405769169397,0.6838826512640567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447509308805966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283674226629154
parenting,Katsune94,2019/01/22,"Need help with a picky eater.... My partner and I are having trouble with getting his daughter to eat. She will be 7 in two months. When it comes down to dinner time all she ever wants is Mac and Cheese and a Hot Dog. I greatly want to break this habbit or at least get her to have a few more options nothing outrageous but more than just Hotdogs, Pizza, mac and cheese, and mashed potatoes....

What age did y'alls little ones start eating what you were going to eat for dinner and not demanded and throw a fit to have their own separate meal because they think your foods nasty even though they have never tried it.... Please I need your words of wisdom for my sanity...",5.691569767441857,6.157211364341087,5.1514631782945735,86.84952034883725,67.13953488372093,7.69031007751938,26.20251937984496,7.1686216300943375,1.0918751937984497,522,13,104,4,8,158,97,129,0.068,0.823,0.109,0.5682,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,4,3,0,5,4,1,0,4,0,10,8,0,0,3,24,20,11,0,4,4,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,10,8,0,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,2,1,16,2,15,16,6,16,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,7,74,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443315118527984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170526252694614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5762572086879848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398813636712565,0.16980464688054658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269933194204984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961532439450891,0.0,0.10668633064028646,0.0,0.0,0.20696337619896685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582561837821168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881460407866632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983733638454905,0.0,0.0,0.2783859040976479,0.14478222538405075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801236330192714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720479899710274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20606159607228486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328700896468547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028421769872767,0.18443520652294948,0.0,0.10946178919087364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745042817845628,0.0,0.18337641561543924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214457517138108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,garbagehumanoid,2019/01/22,"Watched my 5 year old niece for 5 days and became concerned with her lying habit. Normal? or should I tell her parents? So last week I babysat my husband's niece and nephew while their parents were out town for a few days. Everything was fine, except every once in a while, the brother would come crying to me and tell me that his sister had hurt him or spit on him etc. When I would ask her why she did that she would always say ""I didn't!"" and then I would ask ""then why is there spit on his face?"" And she would backpedal and say it was an accident and blahblahblah. This happened a lot. Then there was water on the couch and the niece told me that my 2 year old had deliberately poured her water on it. ""Why did you do that?"" I asked. and she said ""no"" and looked confused. and because I'd developed a distrust for the niece, I asked my daughter who did it and she pointed to the niece. In addition, the niece was constantly lying to me about random things like she told me she had to wear her uniform underneath the outfit her mom had set out for her, and that she wasn't allowed to take her vitamin before brushing her teeth, and she would end up backpedalling again each time, and it would come out she'd been fibbing. She was also mean a lot to my daughter, saying things like that her birthmark was gross or that she didn't talk right. And she would also talk bad about her other cousins, saying they were mean or rude. And she bragged about how her parents had a lot of money when I told her the reason we didn't join them on their vacation was because we didn't have the money. Basically for a five year old, she just seems really catty. I know kids can be mean, and I shouldn't be sensitive to it, but I'm a little concerned this is abnormal meanness. 

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I only have the one kid and she's 2, so my question is for those of you that have raised 5 year olds, or even spent a lot of time with one, is this behavior normal testing the boundaries? Or is it something I should bring up with her parents?

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TLDR: 

My niece lied, sometimes maliciously while I was babysitting her for a few days, and I'm wondering if this is normal behavior for a 5 year old, or if it's something I should mention to her parents. ",4.484275037369208,5.280184452914803,4.680197309417043,87.9870373692078,69.94170403587444,7.561016442451423,27.422720478325854,7.554174236665415,1.32938379671151,1750,56,367,18,30,547,185,446,0.063,0.921,0.015,-0.9527,6,0,2,0,0,0,58.0,2,2,4,0,15,9,2,1,23,0,50,8,5,3,0,76,74,43,0,17,12,13,0,2,0,12,1,5,1,2,24,32,2,0,9,0,3,3,7,6,0,3,29,8,70,3,39,30,8,49,0,1,2,0,78,17,0,18,30,265,94,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184089943208594,0.05298225891945535,0.13798252074240144,0.15474289828558285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381081317273209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531655217862502,0.07763073038383929,0.0,0.05418228312559222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969983354344708,0.0,0.06880948003257313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994341408380543,0.12319429420822002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639667979712872,0.0,0.07101386432785269,0.04205638613205115,0.0,0.05364848624411448,0.0,0.05722650682830449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630712249560106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816483582604949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034993822836128306,0.051903190612193735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622162582944887,0.06381854564787655,0.0,0.0,0.053470516989961484,0.0,0.0,0.2165350255048316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27744065345136404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457476831807064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871623802420462,0.0,0.0,0.3340782191771605,0.06781123119095879,0.08629493597083455,0.04842730282443,0.0,0.0,0.3535148113354842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06019295444873946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132997767307188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04079149520856887,0.06546795892201894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054377648466917096,0.060569001161171074,0.20254597326926066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057966844974348425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803943391230477,0.06297567782190827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478752761725245,0.10235825219434967,0.11130858464133067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460497548803919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425818965913837,0.0,0.0,0.1825310510209929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05107581810831085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723689125590364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690522452719508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618601259598295,0.0,0.15474289828558285,0.20502135137578906
parenting,obionecannotmeme,2019/01/22,"Starting to worry about my daughter's development My daughter is officially one year old as of a few days ago.  The past year has been nothing short of amazing and stressful. 

My daughter was born under weight , not by much she was 6 pounds 2 ounces, but she never caught up. At one year now she is just slightly over 15 pounds. 

Our family doctor was, umm...busy. That's the kindest way I cant put it. The person I was before I became a parent would say "" she didnt give 2 fu*ks about doing her job""  Anyways we would consistently asked to be referred to a specialist and she would say well try ""blank"" and come back in a month and see if anything changes. It got to the point where she was in the first percentile and she kind of clued it that this may not be normal and finally referred us at 11 months.  

In Canada I cant exactly pay more and see someone, the waiting list is the waiting list. Because it was an emergency we were bumped to the front of the list and seen someone in under 3 weeks, that doctor was great but we were referred to a behavioral specialist and a child nutritionist. Waiting list is at best 3 months. 

My daughter is not crawling, not speaking, eats very little, and my wife has not been able to get more then 3 hours of sleep in a year now. Should I be panicked because it seems like no one else is in the system is? As a first time parent I see my friends kids and I feel like my daughter is super delayed but no one is helping us address it. 


Any advice or am I panicking here? ",2.5459345391903554,4.5176286112956845,3.5371797711332604,89.55883228743696,76.8405315614618,6.0539436446413175,25.433862433862444,6.937597516519254,0.9950833271810016,1176,43,241,12,27,377,160,301,0.08,0.809,0.11,0.9241,3,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,6,0,0,4,10,10,0,1,19,0,35,5,1,0,2,43,51,19,0,6,11,8,2,2,1,5,2,3,1,3,10,15,2,4,5,0,1,4,11,1,1,6,15,9,29,9,30,28,5,48,0,0,4,0,32,17,0,4,27,167,39,4,0.10247877584538094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014107371132557,0.09084125157141557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968908172182059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433130076315704,0.0,0.0958038217975645,0.0,0.0,0.07879985298777492,0.0,0.12494022116347145,0.0,0.08720189032592901,0.0,0.10754515281169072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084089566436536,0.08827639129985243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609033256267023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20978273895057972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486137154426133,0.0856078674295125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660786948953652,0.0,0.05181634821011373,0.07321085794016775,0.0,0.11226048981562484,0.0,0.17433678876554826,0.0,0.0,0.07917484800854661,0.0,0.05354093072371917,0.09830697975812423,0.0,0.0,0.08196163865788614,0.11298321215139237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868936328927454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009209514302972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169437229202233,0.0,0.0,0.1067158751840618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013190695028272,0.1027106555374709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453927435256957,0.0,0.07533369160542952,0.0,0.07903794954809291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040744202414872,0.0983311492915116,0.0,0.1075342364641265,0.0,0.2777690827375791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22758110606164256,0.0,0.09782758725960433,0.0,0.08948051427753506,0.0,0.0,0.09687556724152434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301947455242316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299047149825655,0.0,0.0,0.244986949130798,0.09329282869598547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025527847917096,0.0,0.17365986843518802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253500499872523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173890914912424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975619830792653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957636191549628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246538698926254,0.0,0.0,0.08455572251806673,0.0,0.08134288227168224,0.08220229255869585,0.12479154103672167,0.09214072669121323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407217130914116,0.0,0.21839394630251893,0.0,0.0,0.2639718869831202
parenting,UnderTheMoon22,2019/01/22,"Play learning with toddlers I'm not sure I'm positing in the right subreddit. Please correct me if I'm wrong. My cousin has recently asked me to tutor her three year old daughter. This confused me because I wouldn't know how to tutor a toddler. But I'm up for a challenge! Do you guys know any good books I can read on the subject of play learning at home for young children? Or any other resources that might help me.
Thanks!",2.0768104575163413,4.516654458823531,2.669803921568626,92.74300653594773,80.88235294117645,4.718954248366012,27.091503267973856,5.82211442006289,0.8706993464052291,339,15,67,2,9,105,65,85,0.081,0.727,0.192,0.8451,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,1,8,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,1,2,15,13,4,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,9,6,10,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,4,4,37,12,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305947084450303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272395887028059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481744879114343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038773338092941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406795815276154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292609594525764,0.0,0.2438211218016384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26717212388284783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25786107157776994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550632658184789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668201579696712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24313786541388224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24000436113692114,0.0,0.0,0.20758223388017405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290925650324869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223788119627278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26576116866196925,0.0,0.15653045437450572
parenting,_rtm,2019/01/22,"Selective screen limiting time  So, I'm gonna ask for ""technical"" advice. My kid is 9 yo. and uses android smartphone. I'm actually trying to endorse his passion in tech and gaming, as long as it is not interferes with behavior and school.

Anyway it ain't always easy. 

I'd like to limit my kid's activity for specific apps – games, YouTube and that sort of stuff. But I don't want the device to be entirely blocked after kid riches the screen time limit, so he could use not only phone, but also messengers, maps, calculator, translate, flashlight etc.

The google family link only can restrict entire phone usage after limit been reached, so it is not exactly what am I looking for.

I'm in search for the app that will allow me to select the group of apps and set time rule for that group, but will not affect the allowed ones. I would appreciate if anyone could suggest me the way to do so. ",5.706060606060608,6.46864145614035,6.6891015417331205,74.79320574162679,67.18713450292398,9.493035619351408,30.750132908027645,9.573946990214177,2.890106432748538,703,26,125,14,11,235,110,171,0.046,0.865,0.08800000000000001,0.7343,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,5,1,33,24,16,0,5,8,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,8,6,0,7,1,2,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,3,8,3,19,16,1,11,0,0,3,1,13,3,0,2,7,78,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.19875551492594748,0.0,0.0,0.1990269455510275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628772631204515,0.16947229207249478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241293098811153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19040680629658308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252327120415858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271492873654562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920048234765451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995043634641027,0.0,0.0,0.1802442385062965,0.17103406418299236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380141286110423,0.3098050621443499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20612799843936672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331569119249744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562901770332137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828063032869156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518162395941123,0.0,0.0,0.12013164085930016,0.16166618552062506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468348982930734,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bradzen321,2019/01/22,"How to make a kid Happy TIL...to share this..Here, Let's share some techniques and resources that we have successfully used to overcome those prickly difficult moments in our sustained effort to raise our kids and make them happy and balanced. Enjoy!

I will recommend the two resources below:
first it's always rewarding to say good night prayers with your kid before they go to bed, you will all certainly have a restful night. Trust me and Try it..I use this booklet below, its simple and written in five languages - English, Spanish, French, Italian and there's a german version by same author.....www.amazon.com/dp/B07M9GNPGS

www.amazon.com/dp/B07M6FKMGV

Secondly, make your kid laugh, kids are silly and positive clean jokes and riddles create a healthy diversion and evoke priceless chuckles and laughter from your kid...it has always worked for me...I use the booklet below..you can try it too, its healing and creates infectious laughter..you will treasure  
....
www.amazon.com/dp/B07MYY3VCY
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parenting,aew322-,2019/01/22,"2.5 Year Old Fighting Naps My 2.5 year old has been fighting naps for a while now, but she is so tired and cranky without one. She gets out of bed, turns on her lights and/or opens her curtains, and plays with toys. 

What are some good strategies for helping her stay in bed and fall asleep?",4.534999999999997,5.642299649122808,3.0096052631578982,98.86598684210527,70.05263157894737,5.7,24.77631578947368,3.1291,-0.05292631578947393,228,6,51,0,4,63,45,57,0.127,0.738,0.135,0.1376,0,0,0,0,4,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,9,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,6,2,8,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,6,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476702257846534,0.0,0.0,0.23706902178908365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894508303987633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5931762770497766,0.0,0.191527410008596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012617160889718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248585826128741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30743634458962976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724594705876633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640279280233869
parenting,astraydoge,2019/01/22,"If your children are LGBT don't push your bigotry onto them. If your child is gay or lesbian or something don't try to fix them, don't try to shame them and just be an empathetic human being, it's not hard.

If your child is trans, please understand that being trans is not something one can catch or use for attention and help your child transition. You can't change your child's brain structure. So don't abuse or shame your children.

And if your child is not LGBT or anything like that, don't push your bigoted agendas onto them. Maybe they're closeted.

Anecdote: i knew i was trans since i was 16 and had signs i was trans since i was 5 or something. I can't control the fact that my brain has the brain structure of a woman and my body doesn't. I don't wanna be in constant distress over the fact that i am running on hormones that don't match my brain structure. I don't like the fact that what's considered normal puberty to everyone else made me not be able to think or sleep and wish i was dead. Ok?

I had to move out and cut ties with my parents to be able to start hormones and *be able* to be happy

Because when i was 17 my dad was talking how the f*ggots need to be killed. Because my mom acted visibly disgusted if i brought up any trans topic. Because when they found me ""crossdressing"" when i was 8 they punished me and shamed me.

In return i cut ties and haven't talked to them since i was 17. I haven't had an emotional connection to them because they're just horrible people. 

And like they lost their child. Because of their hatred.

Also like i don't wanna lose my family either. I don't want to not have people to come home to that i know genuinely love and care for me. But those people would rather me be dead. 

Don't hate your children for who they are. Not everyone's the same and it's OK for people to be different. And if at least one parent decides to rethink their views or be better to their child, I'd be happy for making this post

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parenting,iamsheriff,2019/01/22,"I need to vent. My second son is 15 months old. In the last 12 months, he’s had 6 strep throats, 3 double ear infections, RSV, whooping cough, and the flu. He’s on 3 different allergy meds and has been on a near constant steroid or Albuterol in his nebulizer. He’s had an actual cough for the entire 12 months. He was a late bloomer in sitting and crawling. At his current age, he’s not walking. He can stand with assistance, he can crawl very quickly, but he flat out refuses to walk. Buckles his legs in and everything. He also still curls his legs up like a newborn. Is this normal? 

We’ve tried everything. He can take one step then falls. My family tells me he’s just stubborn and maybe a lack of confidence or even maybe lazy. However, I just have this gut feeling that there’s something off in his ear? I feel like maybe his ears and all of the infections is throwing off his coordination and equilibrium. We see the doctor on Thursday but I’ve just had major anxiety today and I can’t stop thinking about what to do to help my child. Maybe it’s all the antibiotics or meds? I don’t know. His vocabulary isn’t the best either. He says 3 words clearly and the rest is babble. 

Has anyone else had any experience with this? Am I overthinking this? Is he a late developer because he’s had such a tough year? ",2.4288461538461554,4.647521115384619,3.8060000000000014,86.29899999999998,78.23076923076924,7.390769230769233,25.784615384615392,8.364918446050245,1.7809953846153852,1030,40,210,21,25,338,151,260,0.069,0.8290000000000001,0.101,0.9083,3,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,1,10,5,1,0,15,0,23,13,7,0,3,37,30,16,0,3,10,1,2,2,0,0,6,4,0,2,7,13,0,3,4,0,0,5,4,2,0,2,7,7,19,3,24,23,8,38,0,0,1,0,30,14,0,3,19,122,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.12449562030788293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202235602763468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675594840379082,0.0,0.09759517115647913,0.0,0.0,0.08920399612475885,0.1307165279744119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776905013674767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388297704441462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786416477283872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328960341815774,0.0,0.13057928176648498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657324714536827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426264149524935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293138841629559,0.1247936549168382,0.12026715137803412,0.0,0.12901235948936096,0.09114020815208593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855113987755077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011234724092873,0.10399133984747752,0.28782221676594355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246542261473347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5126683289829845,0.0,0.2834160046281961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054894636287621,0.0,0.0,0.0945958715148917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499723980257516,0.0,0.0,0.13386938728167647,0.0,0.08644869330587074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145343134278048,0.0,0.0,0.1016614300416718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821411718794804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101882233488003,0.1066591177099912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592115737060684,0.0,0.11150691043123433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174544928616047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209269826721737,0.0,0.0,0.08661562349980381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526343178555243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215466053410568
parenting,THISisLIFE2018,2019/01/22,"Fish Stuck in a toilet Maybe some of you mamas or daddys have had this problem.   


I flushed a dead sucker fish down the toilet and it has been almost 2 days. Our toilet still isnt flushing.   
I think he's stuck a few feet into the pipes. HOW DO I GET HIM OUT OR THROUGH!?   
TIA!",-0.7515517241379293,1.4073075517241378,1.0719827586206918,100.29004310344831,94.17241379310344,2.9000000000000004,14.14655172413793,3.1291,-1.4745241379310348,210,4,48,0,8,68,48,58,0.247,0.6890000000000001,0.065,-0.8854,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,5,0,6,1,1,1,0,10,10,4,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,6,6,2,6,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,4,2,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636296824751648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985980254270908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24189946658947906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465147800870426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430304415248312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3697540431157373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29667302477648844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GleepGloopGlop,2019/01/22,"I need more SAT words, ""10-dollar words"", and high-brow graphic phrases to stave off swearing at my naughty toddlers! Please help! The longer the list, the better my life will be. Be my Shakespearean inspiration. WARNING: PG-13 Long rant and plea for advisement. Ahhh, swearing. It's a love hate thing for me, and most people, but when you become a parent swearing takes on a whole new significance. It's extra bad. 


There are many types of swearers, it's a spectrum! 


You know, there's **prudes,** those who swear once in a blood moon, so when they do you take them grave serious and it's a bit of a shock! For prudes, profanity just isn't to be done, or isn't necessary. They are the Halley's Comet of the profane. 

 **Example:** My granma saying my bad grades were ""bullshit"" while grasping my upper arms and staring into my face. I was 11. She's a God fearing woman. She sternly told me she loved me after, and I was way too smart to be getting bad grades and she was disappointed. First and last time I've heard her swear in all of me life, and it was at me! It was astonishing. Seared into my brain for the *rest of my life.*

Then there's the **loose lips** lot, ironically a little tight butthole still, and the only swear when they're mad, which hopefully is not very often. Often the swearing is emotionally charged. These are the practical, reserved, mature swearers.

**Example:** My beautiful mother! She is so kind, so pure. She'll only swear out of frantic frustration, like driving in the city, ""Who ever designed these streets was fucking drunk!!"" *Horns honking in the background, my mom's face is red, scoffs in outrage at other drivers* 
Or in real anger. ""I am tired of dealing with your shit attitude!"" 

Then, there's more **liberal cursers.** Day to day activities might be leant a swear, it's no surprise when it comes out. Someone cuts you off ""Oh, what the fuck?!"" Paycheck less than you thought? A bill more than expected? ""Are you fucking serious."" Sometimes they can tone it down in front of others. Sometimes they let one slip in prudish company. They're kind of the wildcard honestly, you don't know if your going to get swearing (often partnered with yelling, but not always) from moment to moment. I mean, you might not hear a curse all morning, all lunch... but surely you'll get one or two by dinner. You just can't call it with this lot, however it's a question of when, not if. 

**Example:** my darling husband. He can be quite professional. Swearing is directly correlated to mood. Negative mood = expect a couple f-bombs to be dropped. Positive/good mood = clean mouth. Put him in front of that wolf in Dark Souls 2? Batten down the hatches mate, get some ear mufflers. 



Then there's the **casual curser.** The potty mouth pirate. They just don't give a fuck. Swear words are just words to them. No added significance, no weight. Adjectives: mere sentence enhancers, colorful accessories, or just proper English in their eyes. College essay? Resume? You might even find a dirty word buried in it. Not saying it's a sure thing, but it's happened. They'll curse in front of a priest. Mum and dad. Grands. Their own, or yours!  On the job. In front of babies, I mean they'll describe baby animals and humans with swear words to their very faces. ""Ugh, shit babies are just so fucking cute it makes my ovaries want to explode!"" 
These lot are a handful sometimes, Ill have to admit. Real cheeky. And don't get them drunk!  They are everywhere. They can be real intelligent, they can be real dumb. They can be real creative, or they can be incredibly motivated. Women. Men. Any. All. 

**Example:** My good friend, she does it all and doesn't care. ""Oh that wine and cheese dinner you made that one time was fucking excellent,"" or ""Yeah, I got promoted to the *mutha-fuckin manager* bitchhhh!!!"". Aye-yi-yi. God bless her sweet soul, she means well. 



There's another type: **the closeted curser.** They swear in secret. They don't really fit into any one place on this ordered list. When they swear, it's intentional. It doesn't slip out. Usually, it's an act of catharsis. Only in the most intimate of company will this person let loose their unholy stream of profanity. Their 4 most trusted humans will only ever hear it.  They are also all around you, but you mostly cannot tell who they are. They might swear online and not in real life. They are illusive. They are everywhere, and nowhere. It's your lawyer. Your old principal. Your manager. Usually these people are nice, but you can see they've got more going on behind the eyes, gears churning if you will. If you overhear one for the first time, the diarrhea of the mouth, it shocks you. It taints them in your eyes, *""Not him! No.""* You can't believe it. The rare time they swear in public, it is to make a point -a statement piece.  
I used to be one of these, at least in part although my embodiment of the classification was nothing like the following anecdote. 


**Example:** An old boss I had. This guy was a couple millionare, just enough money to be a cheapskate. Nice man. Fingers in a few pies. I worked for him as a personal chef/maid/landscaper/whatever-er. I had a room on the property he was flipping. Never had heard him swear. One day I had come home from the beach earlier than I had said that morning. I was keeping to myself in my room, quietly reading on my day off.  I heard him arrive in the house, and go to the kitchen to get some food or water, a floor below me (it was an open concept and old and the house was made entirely of wood and almost perfectly hollow, no walls, so you could hear and feel everything everyone was doing).
Out of nowhere it was like a demon had possessed the man and my blood ran cold at what I overheard. All I could hear was a growling, wretched, howling, bone chilling stream of inhumanity. Partial profanities mashed into tortured angry howling and strange sounds. ""Ughhhrachshitholeagreamtafuckholjngbrigetickpussyfucktardicmatelleyroichhhhhgriditchickfuckinggreasyfuckettysuckbreambasketereeeeeecheckit.."" *howls*.. all at a very loud octave. It was... Whoa. Idk. I couldn't escape. I came downstairs an hour later and he realized I had been there the whole time. His face turned scarlet red and he acted *really* embarrassed. I had to tell my coworkers about it when they got home because I felt a little unsafe. 



Alright. So now, you're one of the later types (you do swear to express... something) and suddenly your somebodies mum or dad. 
Now what? 
Time to evolve? Easier said than done, depending on how fancy of folk you are, and your stress levels. Some of us are more stressed than others. Some of us have different morals. It's okay. It's flexible. At the point of parenting it's black and white. Either you swear, or ya don't. Do you try not to? God bless, but it's hardly relevant. Even if shite slips your lips one time in front of the toddler he is going to catch it like a 3rd baseman in the 16th inning (I just made that up, but you know what I mean). Anyways, the kid will pick it up if they hear once. If they hear it 274 times. 

My husband and I, we swore a bit before kids. More than we liked. We don't find it tasteful or anything. We are decent enough folk to be a little ashamed that we cursed at all, but a weird case of causation or correlation came up - the more we wanted to quit cursing, the more imperative it became that we did not, the more stressful our life became.  This coincides with the aging of our children, who after 1.5 years have half-sponge and half - parrot for a brain, as we all know. 

What now? We try. We really do. Now I've got a threenager. Oh my goodness. It is mayhem. A mayhem you cannot help to (lovingly, lovingly) react to. I'm losing my grip comrades. 
Please help. 
I deal with this by being creative. 

Writing with sharpie on the wall?
""Ohhhh, wow! You insolent little halfling, you'll have me locked up in St. Limricks asylum yet!""

Breaks dad's favorite mug?
""Ugh. You little miscreants have really done it this time haven't you?"" 

Spill expensive chocolate protein powder all over the white carpet?
""I WONDER IF THESE CREATURES ARE TOO LARGE TO LEAVE ON THE DOORSTEP OF THE FIREHOUSE DARLING? YOU KNOW? RING THE DOORBELL AND SCAMPER OFF WITH THEM WRAPPED UP IN A  WEE MOSES BASKET OR SOMETHING?"" (Kidding of course, but. You know. A mind wanders. Scrubbing a white carpet for 90 minutes can do that to a parent's brain.)

Poop? Poop out of a diaper? 
""Holy shmmitty shwerger he was number one menjensen, what in the ever loving fraud against my very womb and soul have you done this time?!""

Push the little brother onto the floor with a juicy headsmack? 
""Oh wow that was uhhhhh ffffreakishly horrible, why would you ever do something so mean spirited to your sibling?! Please apologize you grumpy human bridge troll of a child!""

Disclaimer: we love the children. We are loving them dearly, day in - day out.  
They are also little fucking assholes. That have caused us thousands of dollars in unnecessary damages. We are simple folk. We can't afford it, yet they tax us anyways. With compounding yearly interest.  Monetarily, emotionally. Whatever.  We pay in emotional currency; peace, and happiness. We are always running low in our stock of peace and happiness. I would never tell anyone but the husband, my own mum, and Reddit this, and I say it half heartedly. This parenting though. The returns may not be coming in this early in the game as often as we like. They come. Hoping we are investing in a happy future for everyone by dealing with such discrepancies now. God knows, we love and deserve them haha. 

I am quickly running out of creative ways to react to horrible things. 

So you know. What are some good, long, juicy, sharp things I say to my kids that they won't understand, or be able to correctly repeat? 
I need it. I need options like a fix. Usually it just blurts out, I don't pre-plan my frustration/mortification creativity, but my explitive tank is running at an all-time low. I'm on a medication that makes me 30 shades of forgetful, I am losing words. I need some support. Some good spirited fellow human beings to help channel that inevitable shock and stress into a long thin stream of uninterpretable frustration that actually feels good to say. Instead me devolving into actual swearing like I have accidentally done in the past. 
My goal is, never again. To swear in front of the  cherubs, the sprouts. They are sweet and innocent, even in their naughty mischieving nature. They can't help it, they're little explorers. Little scientists. Little curious, angelic, freakishly smart, and simple monstrosities. The fruit of our loins. They don't deserve to be utterly tainted by us. As much as they can't help their nature, I can't help mine and if I can't say ""What the fuck?"" in good faith, I can't, then I need more options. 

Please help. 

Be the wind beneath my gentley profane wings. Help me stave off anxiety by blurting forth some new expressive language. I'll only use what I learn here for good. 



Signed,

An
Tired,
Onry,
Mother
In 
Crisis
MELTDOWN


Mods, if it's illegal, kick me out. I'll flee to another sub. I don't mean to break a rule. 
I'm sorry in advance for any typing errors, spelling or grammar errors. It's the medication I mentioned. ",2.063487409244555,4.925269724470136,3.0528519711182653,85.9695806748405,88.50867052023123,5.898404570940922,22.983005647005488,7.339717979777587,1.3325851337746937,8772,328,1591,157,289,2787,790,2076,0.115,0.721,0.165,0.9993,9,0,4,0,1,0,485.0,28,48,46,14,67,110,19,8,119,4,162,69,28,17,23,288,264,110,1,26,57,17,11,8,5,18,10,23,9,20,100,95,12,5,32,8,8,30,45,45,1,16,54,51,224,62,220,167,53,230,12,7,12,20,244,119,11,57,83,1055,324,24,0.029450779702155736,0.0,0.05747942532651565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029490701715394987,0.0,0.0,0.04710355577508061,0.049010815929931735,0.0,0.0,0.0600826203232025,0.06176342075699371,0.022529765861820258,0.0,0.0,0.020592669932482783,0.0,0.02423548232581587,0.02621743786280533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737705126742302,0.01795292195417977,0.03252607235078276,0.02506044437411414,0.03318094356913902,0.0,0.02604682135432997,0.06430524749937147,0.0,0.0,0.09863043031570308,0.03007253887047104,0.06736769240406422,0.03002703269792381,0.030254063344749508,0.0,0.10147695585262724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0470281023208327,0.06517345515530565,0.0,0.11395989903404813,0.0910873820805763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030769796509820563,0.0,0.0,0.025772575782658645,0.1506918636380936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938448959504373,0.0,0.06086105624396211,0.0,0.058355886709066024,0.10655966531823173,0.0,0.05628296418169421,0.026468461799059945,0.0,0.0,0.033140314969062085,0.029782398228657893,0.0,0.028277367013064762,0.0,0.05383495820382005,0.050101636339431765,0.03561199971744395,0.0,0.02275359934206777,0.2178141701688101,0.0923209011496232,0.028251871474431717,0.0669502271928787,0.19761533385111507,0.09421791563096216,0.0,0.0,0.029160902150123045,0.026043227227922724,0.0940527078839043,0.026382113890467827,0.029076547742124505,0.0,0.0,0.19915901485081047,0.034899315747030216,0.17766213154706165,0.031116365715335662,0.05908306662212647,0.05850253882376988,0.029003085598817768,0.06796449127782958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029225354524532537,0.026177206180864488,0.0,0.06133691010342435,0.1294830265590161,0.02400631620046202,0.0,0.031184123347691026,0.0,0.06023083519365328,0.10400978333330936,0.11510530676903878,0.2951741825899651,0.0,0.07818903982325279,0.0,0.06589577853802901,0.0,0.07511399919877278,0.21264382813123286,0.08360111953272742,0.05897587242072368,0.029858468135329694,0.0,0.19248319732539304,0.0,0.05933712434150925,0.0,0.12497049278345113,0.02973689202561295,0.034492397243864416,0.0,0.0,0.021649711731228156,0.10918689989836937,0.06814277066784173,0.056887493111532426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02825881741613939,0.0,0.09271091742907246,0.06272823842665053,0.19956610518350165,0.1119932253322468,0.0,0.0,0.13080642237778012,0.031892324459903705,0.02811410165089209,0.04083492489297374,0.05143056973278759,0.030769796509820563,0.12931244883922488,0.05568101230358531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02960616796060221,0.032991613393982155,0.06264905876274326,0.02945874950140085,0.20112860938362964,0.07546769443005898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056028871314883016,0.14052265252138085,0.0,0.0,0.023468458417316183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060461604290372985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024953550070244104,0.06801794714890297,0.08738272253975725,0.03296773670571583,0.0,0.0,0.0235194307132646,0.0,0.13494307458008584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03342039579847706,0.05551402266724093,0.0,0.0442866422825289,0.0,0.07722383866603501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826315761101002,0.0,0.028935241527592144,0.023380629399496075,0.1717298648122365,0.06769867776583458,0.0,0.02814148209084711,0.0,0.03999029243562335,0.03203399131166222,0.02876913240334414,0.03065930030747468,0.17712830901415552,0.050872035626130234,0.09730761920132472,0.09719991035776744,0.034741665823444685,0.04675331621322605,0.0,0.03586311559097992,0.02647978784869309,0.0,0.026574747905445596,0.06576148757896008,0.0,0.0,0.03193811430083576,0.021440518380262747,0.0,0.0,0.041841977832523865,0.0,0.0,0.03793067309289405
parenting,Nazeone,2019/01/22,"Snacky three year old- Montessori shelf? My three year old is constantly asking for snacks and with a new baby coming soon I am trying to think of creative ways to keep up with her snack demands. I am thinking of creating a little shelf area where she can serve herself, has anyone had success with a Montessori style snack corner for almost three year olds or any other advice?
I like this idea: https://www.howwemontessori.com/how-we-montessori/2016/09/montessori-kitchen-areas-0-5-years.html",10.881999999999998,14.367389133333335,5.962333333333337,74.57950000000002,57.66666666666666,6.6000000000000005,25.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.320333333333334,415,10,55,3,6,106,58,75,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.8924,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,6,3,0,0,0,11,11,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,7,2,10,10,0,16,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,2,10,35,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905151982786724,0.0,0.0,0.1952268836305338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258125492406914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363223844365876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226371486921011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794301846910406,0.0,0.21068531104713198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220089046747738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329171866318452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952488794041021,0.19540374573436028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18829609591690905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6137413637315051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498483262553428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236680908825044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475223871896227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3766485707969055
parenting,Focacciaro,2019/01/22,"Can you recommend any good educational books/videos/documentaries about pedagogy and education methods? Hi! A month from now I'll (20m) become an Au Pair, and I'll be responsible for 2 girls (age 9 and 6) and a little boy (age 3).

I would love to prepare by reading (or watching, if you have any good movies or documentaries recommendations!) about the subjec and I thought this was a great place to ask (do tell me if posts like this are not allowed here).

  
Mainly I'm interested in how to positively interact and cope with children, not that I'm incapable of doing that, but I would like a professional perspective on it.

Thank you very much in advance!!",4.479024390243907,6.4604180813008165,5.899682926829271,74.67245121951221,71.4390243902439,9.472845528455288,30.186178861788626,9.888512548439397,3.1250559349593505,516,22,97,14,10,174,90,123,0.0,0.775,0.225,0.9702,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,3,0,1,5,8,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,2,0,19,15,12,0,4,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,5,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,7,8,13,10,2,11,0,0,1,1,11,5,0,4,6,58,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30507639209006904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096991636301714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477322913412953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762804415112053,0.0,0.2473020872012802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917264620754653,0.2248171122820679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024481399660416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17904175467719433,0.0,0.16489333960196395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343557534790945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148265582979977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437026626904266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196056446580123,0.2065141104333881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780767389210897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507888265303216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31868615831979985,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VengefulTerror,2019/01/22,"I let something slip to my niece that I shouldn't have and I do not know if I should press it or just let it go So my niece and her mom my little sister have been living with me and I've been going through a hard time these last few months. My niece has been through a roller coaster that I would not wish on my worst enemy. The story itself is hard to believe and there are details my niece is not entirely aware of that or she hasn't fully come to terms with. I'll just give the clip notes my little sister and I were abused by our mother. My little sister at a young age gave birth and the kid was sold/adopted illegally. 

My sister found the kid and inserted herself into the kids life as a step mom yeah you can imagine my reaction to this. 

Oh gets better the people who adopted the kid was her real Dad and her ""foster"" mom knew that he knocked up a teenager but said nothing. That's why the ""adoption"" was illegal and under the table. Anyway the ""foster"" mom died and for reasons I do not know I guess the Dad married my sister or something like that probably didn't want what he did to get out so he married her when she showed up I guess. 

Eventually this whole time bomb went off and the kid found out the truth her Dad got arrested and she's been living with her bio mom my little sister. A few months ago when all hell broke lose my little sister and her moved in with me.

Anyway yesterday I was talking to my niece again I have no idea how much she really knows or understands she's between 13 and 15 and I'll leave it at that. The point is I was talking to my niece and she asked what I thought of her dad and I said ""You don't want to know what I think of your Dad."" and that just slipped out and she just got up and left and hasn't said a word to me and I do not know if I was right to say that.

Again I do not know what she knows or if she even understands I just love my sister and I know what he did and that upsets me. I just don't know if I said the right thing or even if I should try talking to her.",1.340142185733832,3.0495462505800504,2.6554988399071924,95.70750788268192,79.53364269141531,5.627009340234399,19.17193170325421,6.42735559955562,-0.1823532512344581,1578,35,368,13,39,509,178,431,0.122,0.8420000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.9876,1,0,2,0,1,0,25.0,1,3,0,2,18,9,1,1,22,1,37,2,0,2,2,90,74,42,1,12,24,19,3,1,0,4,1,5,0,5,24,33,0,0,19,2,0,6,13,5,0,0,26,8,66,4,37,42,7,43,1,2,0,1,64,22,1,13,16,253,90,0,0.0,0.08929565075404645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668068615536233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045645616304838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491097438895719,0.0,0.06665455357900912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492060104859274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821736516101313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955624461519733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526849701759486,0.0,0.0,0.07875060029307572,0.07229733929075932,0.08566376382069986,0.0,0.12055315733339085,0.0,0.16604692435994434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350251533511886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507833984003065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37276957390253296,0.06143284309631618,0.0,0.0798010548856306,0.0818847052370536,0.15413241319967985,0.053232796291119946,0.03681971752375532,0.3776795467849357,0.13309802154051573,0.0,0.0,0.0843145818340597,0.0,0.0,0.0680201973717163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.441335107436715,0.12031185362299665,0.08010147117642391,0.0554022255126098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231511415232159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052248864691527126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124464377888129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125662587245076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578230134150408,0.04828099188614079,0.07748816211209167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287232444407742,0.286758937240413,0.05993357464578431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603990216684905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817275115219416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05006940925037585,0.04829109200054585,0.0,0.05983169285109709,0.0878923176039702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116814550093629,0.0,0.0,0.156916035721939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890490684261053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986446175964044,0.06800553257596333,0.08414275465014595,0.08666646691810585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353740318923874,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TKCKMK,2019/01/22,"Baby food: 9-month old baby prefers sweet, store-bought food pouches and won't eat homemade food. My son goes to daycare so I mostly fed him fruit pouches. I then realized he didn't eat enough protein (he didn't drink a lot of formula each day) and the store-bought food was so sweet so I started making home-cooked meals consisting of meat/fish and vegetables. My son fusses every time and only eats if I mix the homemade food (25%) with sweet, store-bought stuff (75%). I gave him pureed mixed fruits and vegetables too but he didn't like those, either. My cooking is noticeably less sweet than what he is used to. Is there anyway to make him like my food more? My plan so far is to keep increasing the ratio of homemade food into the blend. I put a lot of time and efforts into making food for him and it's discouraging that he doesn't like it. ",3.776669737448181,5.344981185628748,4.117005988023951,88.4260939659143,72.47305389221556,7.0546292031321975,24.822201750345464,7.61054688173877,1.1097032703823126,666,20,135,8,13,208,95,167,0.073,0.865,0.062,-0.4301,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,0,6,0,10,19,0,4,1,26,18,14,0,2,3,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,11,19,2,2,2,0,2,5,1,0,0,6,6,15,7,13,11,9,11,0,1,0,0,12,3,0,4,9,75,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755849287871925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743045459704235,0.0,0.2739733153056739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221850937309456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519648616721145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8633660294224162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952444583352559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932898580908115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080827625580274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175333164108745,0.0,0.0,0.17872404388829494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123803604871473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161105691557906,0.09365225357081887,0.0,0.0,0.06787820611345037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972031857718761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317119927817036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021692338716205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040841097751971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708284383713941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Penetrative,2019/01/22,"Why would you make your kid go to a school that he/she is getting continuously bullied at? Just read another story about a child committing suicide, doesn't seem as rare as it once was.  But in many of them, the parents acknowledge the child was having a really hard time and was getting bullied.  They say the school refused to take action...

In such case I have to wonder why the parent didn't remove the child from school if the bullying wasn't stopped.  

I have not been in the situation before so I can't truly know what I would do.  But I have a niece that struggles with depression and getting bullied at school.  Her mom talks to the school and I suppose its been fixed some what over time...But at the height of her troubles I asked my SIL ""Why dont you just pull her out of school until its resolved, or have her switch schools, or homeschool her.""...It seems to me there are several options nowadays for when a child is getting harassed at school.  There are options to put a stop to it immediately without having to wait for the actions of others that may or may not help.  

I get that the parents probably dont realize just how close to the edge the kid is at the time, they think they can tough it out a bit longer.  Like this mom in the case that I most recently read about, her 10 year old boy was having major bullying issues and she set him up to switch schools at the end of the year, he just had to finish out the year...

I just feel like I would not be able to ask that of my kid.  Your new school wont have you for another 4 months, just hang tight and plug your ears, sticks & stones until then...I feel like I would not make my son go to school if he was being verbally/physically harassed everyday.

Im really not blaming the mother, im not, she could never have known he was going to do that.  She couldn't have.  My heart breaks for her.  I mean to put absolutely no blame on her.  

I just want to understand why people force their kids to continue going to a school when they do know that school is the source of your child's abuse...I dont get it. 

Can someone please, shed a little more light on this?  I want to understand.   

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parenting,KoKoRein,2019/01/22,"Bedroom coordinations I have 5 people in my family. Myself, my husband, 15 year old son, 12 year old daughter, and 4 year old son. We live in a 3 bedroom house. For the past 2 years, our sons have shared a bedroom and our daughter had her own room. The boys room was more our oldest and decorated for him as our youngest, only went in him room to sleep. And he has a play room downstairs. Neither of the boys spend any time in their room.

Our 15 year old isn’t digging this set up anymore, rightfully so. He wants to have his own room. To play his video games, watch tv, sleep in, etc. And he needs privacy. 

But mixing our 12 & 4 year old is not an option, because our pre teen girls need privacy as well. We have a finished basement, unfortunately though, there are no windows. My son wants to move down there but I’m fairly certain that’s illegal and my biggest concern is if there was a fire. 

We can’t move right now, I love our house as well, it’s close to their school, it’s just a perfect house- besides the bedroom issue. 

Any suggestions that I haven’t considered? ",2.0430418335558507,4.238180602803741,3.1067156208277718,90.93933021806856,79.42056074766356,5.945349354695151,24.209167779261236,7.07126945348624,0.8619317311971519,835,30,176,10,21,267,122,214,0.053,0.841,0.106,0.8885,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,11,0,2,1,9,8,0,0,11,0,14,3,2,0,2,22,21,14,0,5,5,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,11,3,5,10,0,0,0,5,1,3,6,0,2,0,4,2,26,8,18,17,5,37,0,0,1,1,35,17,0,2,16,99,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612370474902405,0.0,0.14576489474999965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628846898717102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533268102395122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952808181682588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103473585988376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709955215877076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186250540654093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463719272476626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672931953964807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278194154209263,0.0,0.15893731218262114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623089109849402,0.0,0.0,0.08151116220690396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231034480741112,0.07430141816130753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305315663299293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10846648276100218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145041305200942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052985642057582,0.0,0.06249440903658578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264287884321458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927257899873832,0.09935198819084616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4141018223985873
parenting,hanimal16,2019/01/22,"Heart attack from the school I just got an automated call on my cell phone and my home phone as well as my husband getting a call on his cell phone stating our 9-year old was marked absent today after her dropping her off myself at the school at 9:00am. Panicked, I called the school and spoke with the office, they put me on hold to call the classroom, “sorry no one is answering in the classroom. I have to go find *daughter’s name*.”

I’m put on hold again and she finally comes back and tells me my daughter is in P.E. and it was a mistake and they’re changing her to present. 

My husband was gearing up to leave for work and I was getting the baby ready to leave the house. 
There’s a nightmare I never want to almost experience again. ",2.467755102040816,4.660769891156466,3.1145238095238104,91.43464285714286,77.9795918367347,5.28843537414966,24.105442176870746,6.18269132825596,0.5468585034013604,582,20,118,4,14,182,88,147,0.108,0.861,0.032,-0.7919,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,1,6,3,1,0,12,0,7,1,1,0,1,19,15,9,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,9,0,2,2,0,0,4,2,2,1,1,6,1,20,1,22,9,0,25,0,0,0,0,23,10,0,1,9,78,21,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348542382355855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320848237877055,0.0,0.10355421220446782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5500593862194019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246478483765065,0.11600773111502835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173474841628646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752624711556547,0.123087479387289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072079303622273,0.0,0.07653702152399018,0.0,0.10770924818249862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958659395181832,0.0,0.0,0.13508667950396547,0.0,0.0,0.15539304196271894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851957365871777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038671049421757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131527813610475,0.0,0.09125701840493962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27076447796544645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088848019401176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075392449816832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770898770554425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276530096796611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943284844270378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108601732970305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804258987967852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672414910756453
parenting,liz_eliza,2019/01/22,"How do I redshirt my child for kindergarten? My son is currently 3.5 and we are planning on putting him into a private school for kindergarten, which means that applications are due this fall if he's going to start kindergarten with his correct age group.  He has a birthday very close to the cut off for my state and would be the absolute youngest in the class.  We are considering red shirting him for a year and having him start kindergarten at 6.  My question is, how do we do this?  His daycare, and most others in the area, automatically put kids in pre-k at 4 and kindergarten at 5.  Do I just have him do kindergarten twice?  For parents who have done this, do your kids get bored in the repeat year because they've already learned everything?  Is there a solution I'm not seeing?

Also, because I know people will ask: this is my second child.  My daughter also had a birthday close to the cut off but it was so obvious that she was ready for school that we did not hold her back.  I do not see the same readiness in my son, which is why I'm considering this option.  He does not have any delays or learning disabilities, I just think he needs an extra year of growth and development in a way that my daughter didn't, which is fine.  All kids are different.",5.852185792349728,6.285273836065572,5.842524590163936,82.1472841530055,66.78688524590164,8.473879781420765,31.840437158469943,8.238735603445708,2.1896227322404367,992,38,196,12,15,312,137,244,0.028,0.923,0.05,0.8032,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,4,1,0,1,9,4,2,0,14,0,31,1,1,2,3,41,44,14,0,3,9,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,15,14,0,2,6,0,0,5,5,3,0,2,6,3,26,1,24,35,4,34,0,0,3,0,31,16,0,5,11,138,41,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18402068725059745,0.2667113022403719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340059608898848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589544633137722,0.0,0.0,0.12822597284619364,0.0,0.20330724993598864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422575348647226,0.0,0.0,0.1459303259801472,0.17065048498613353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987059466244154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712374032226486,0.0,0.09477194442159327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164538128629406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816474481006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236483309181063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851641064019129,0.0,0.0,0.1156084271758374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352740353116528,0.18680619809969784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375343239363515,0.26576775375279843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360631708997733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685126319485573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759213207255586,0.0,0.13236408213880824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047241134862835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845951130858245,0.0,0.0,0.32215845647936
parenting,_Dadadadada_,2019/01/22,"Seeking recommendation for a growth chart that can be moved (not permanently affixed to wall) We want to use a growth chart for our little ones, preferably one that just tapes or sticks to the wall so we can bring it with if we move. Any preferred ones out there?",4.5078,6.409990780000001,3.916999999999998,89.24350000000004,71.2,6.6000000000000005,24.5,7.1686216300943375,0.7332000000000001,209,6,43,2,4,62,38,50,0.0,0.8740000000000001,0.126,0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,13,6,3,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,7,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,0,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20309093091201286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993238270946628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6348312772704364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6071149905906357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579360474906758,0.0,0.0,0.17615037132774708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElvisAaron,2019/01/22,"Just want to give a shoutout to anyone loving someone else’s kids as their own It’s easy for parents to love our own kids. Hell, we made them. They’re part of us. Even when they’re a pain in the ass, we have that bond that makes it all easier. 

But you? You came along and decided you love your partner so much that you have enough left over to love their kids too. You have no bond with them from nature, your love is just so damn big that it makes up for it and fills in all the empty spaces. Sometimes you deal with exes, latent trauma, learning to parent, and all sorts of other inconvenient shit that you could have passed on in order to have an easier go of it with a childless someone else—but here you are, selflessly being a gift to the family you are helping to create. 

You’re the real MVP here. You’re a rarity. You are something special. I hope you see this because you should be damn proud of who you are. Not just anyone can do what you do.",3.5289010989010983,4.539027153846156,4.1231684981685,90.30980769230771,72.33333333333334,7.007326007326008,21.62087912087912,7.1686216300943375,0.4295494505494499,745,15,162,7,14,236,111,195,0.133,0.669,0.198,0.9351,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,4,16,4,1,10,14,4,0,10,0,17,8,2,3,3,29,31,8,0,4,5,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,14,10,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,6,0,0,2,1,25,8,26,25,8,15,1,0,1,6,39,9,5,2,1,116,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933240398252264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427103940937533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811201864496016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110374987262292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425214306729599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548345124931235,0.0,0.0,0.14284093927220176,0.0,0.09130753647753354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303222533335608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261432208566726,0.07856611375904969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266069784175687,0.0,0.0,0.13730549732654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020033628795662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6238440066449575,0.13080792190432505,0.1845552154556843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162377551466932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470992336078615,0.0,0.30700275986636544,0.14970261321675316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734965976550128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016097486584857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419034252728379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342639940997211,0.10642544464088403,0.13672487174401082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628810337999253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815387126738227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,McCann08091997,2019/01/22,Acceptable age for closing the bathroom door on your children? At what age am I allowed to close the bathroom door so I get to poo alone and not with my (currently 10 months old) son pulling at my leg and trying to get me to pick him up? ,2.4776530612244905,3.9833452857142895,3.3956632653061227,92.53594387755103,75.73469387755101,6.53265306122449,28.5765306122449,7.1686216300943375,1.3444244897959186,185,8,41,2,4,59,37,49,0.04,0.906,0.054000000000000006,0.168,2,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,0,9,3,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,10,3,0,12,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,5,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4958003475895589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5002136032348559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821026480347684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5023267915381997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32501342639440417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,urko37,2019/01/22,"I’m worried that Wait Until 8th is driving my “smartphone deprived” kid into a depression (long) When our kid started 6th grade/middle school last Fall, my wife and I (along with a number of other parents in our kid’s friends’ circle) agreed with the principles behind the [“Wait Until 8th” campaign] (https://www.waituntil8th.org/why-wait) and decided to hold off on getting them a smartphone. For some context: We waited until our kids were 4 before we let them watch television and definitely noticed a positive difference (lots more reading, for starters). They didn’t grow up with tablets and we’ve enjoyed being able to interact with them on car trips and at restaurants. In our minds, the Wait Until 8th campaign was an extension of those ideas - i.e., giving the kids strong social foundations before introducing certain technologies.

Unfortunately, it seemed like every parent in that circle quickly caved and now our kid is the only one 6th grader in his group toting around a flip phone. As you can imagine, this had led to a lot of misery. Embarrassment, questions about not being able to afford it, etc. Our kid is incredibly down about this and as parents, we can see how truly hurtful this is and want to be able to help without caving in.

We’ve tried having gentle conversations to hear and acknowledge their side while trying to share our own. Understandably, it doesn’t register very well with a sad pre-teen.

Our kid is obsessed and I don’t see an easy way out. We get long essays trying to make a case for owning a phone (all sincere and well thought-out and we make it a point to express pride for the effort, but content-wise, it’s not nearly enough to sway us). For the first time, we’re hearing disappointment about an upcoming birthday and how the fact that we’re not getting a smartphone is overshadowing everything else.

My kid is genuinely not spoiled; instead they’re really struggling with feeling like they don’t fit in and worse, feeling left out by not owning something. We’ve tried explaining how placing so much self-worth into your *stuff* as opposed to your sense of self is a tricky road to go down: Getting a phone will only solve the “problem” for a month before we get, “How come I can’t have social media?”, “How come I can’t get unlimited data?”, “You’re the only parents that monitor my phone”, and then needing bigger things like expensive clothes, a car, etc.  Again, it doesn’t sink in. And why should it? I wouldn’t have gotten it, either.

But I’m worried about the emotional toll it’s taking. Our kid is sad and preoccupied and we feel so helpless.  Even my parents (who handled these things when I was a kid with, “No. End of story. Go do your homework.”) are questioning our decision. We went into the year thinking we had a “Wait Until 8th” support network; now we’re an island and our kid genuinely feels like a pariah. It’s only halfway through 6th grade...how are we going to survive another year and a half?

**TL; DR: We’re suddenly the only family in our social circle holding off on a smartphone for our 12 year old, which is creating a lot of pain for our kid. How do we help them without caving?**",6.576172713809701,7.434845030821923,6.4673880044428005,76.80726767863756,65.30136986301369,8.984746390225842,32.564605701592,8.994212911058018,2.8082267308404303,2494,98,433,39,37,787,288,584,0.096,0.795,0.11,-0.6749,6,0,1,0,0,0,98.0,26,4,7,5,23,26,0,3,38,0,38,2,0,9,3,102,78,42,0,5,10,6,4,4,1,3,2,2,1,14,25,47,0,8,15,1,1,13,16,12,2,3,8,9,49,14,77,63,14,72,0,7,3,0,80,31,0,7,31,292,74,3,0.21244629508781301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425615464442513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630407479527641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807761497107348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220024479584049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06099322755284256,0.0,0.0,0.07398705382593325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915720634423231,0.07965782916140453,0.06272145334888735,0.0731712711000219,0.15795585110988733,0.04677292475892414,0.0,0.05966505544835224,0.0,0.06364434380291344,0.0,0.06675848659090608,0.0,0.14322564012445207,0.10118111710634034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023557002448453,0.0,0.0,0.05471182686300791,0.0,0.22198884157182447,0.06793261485479735,0.12073812532519565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962827646026015,0.0,0.09493218228110437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580938427009665,0.07994200270074228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772402844195197,0.0,0.0,0.07694117374079296,0.07241357680138469,0.0,0.13838737160405576,0.0,0.0,0.12533885723845448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806142429322526,0.0,0.0,0.09453970109575488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150339880254936,0.0,0.056524201961070164,0.0,0.05205749042451685,0.052508745303460905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062383834734604,0.0743088831270753,0.0,0.04798636923494461,0.269291634351635,0.07535261218364837,0.0,0.393160782285062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398705382593325,0.0,0.06694347252301414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776080430005978,0.0,0.0,0.15865898074469734,0.0,0.0708345953574699,0.0,0.045366178877180516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166899753175086,0.11286146111362595,0.06446770937437142,0.14775187906128776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21656224384922587,0.0,0.054517179048499724,0.0,0.0,0.050123527039411316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403166488724819,0.08106672684825482,0.0,0.08036051268771734,0.0,0.0,0.053244391546130934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409325233764868,0.04537566922895001,0.0,0.056219542606094464,0.04129304770451756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19231611869808432,0.0,0.0,0.07372136183580531,0.08518224505608399,0.0,0.0,0.058430147541118437,0.04176877637883309,0.05620999349321023,0.0,0.0,0.12734315537220134,0.06564661465158499,0.06389991246979085,0.0,0.0,0.1365270982006215,0.0,0.0,0.14383301670016185,0.07216697482974516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368084487111642
parenting,Zlatan86,2019/01/22,"Kids nursery Rhyme videos and songs Does anyone like type of YouTube video for their kids? 

https://youtu.be/x8L7lj9bi80",9.663333333333334,14.257017294117654,1.1964705882352966,96.57745098039216,81.94117647058823,4.619607843137255,23.31372549019608,6.42735559955562,0.80658431372549,102,3,14,1,3,21,16,17,0.0,0.865,0.135,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5721724979985795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7160974809857295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997787266225634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acr159,2019/01/22,"Training potties with themes; do they subconsciously give kids the urge to go more often when seeing Elmo for example? Like when we hear running water it can give us the urge to go to the bathroom, has anyone experienced kids associating a themed potty creating additional urges to go to the bathroom?  If we buy an Elmo theme potty, will our kid see Elmo and run to pee?",10.275217391304347,8.136501159420295,10.48144927536232,60.8813043478261,59.14492753623188,12.678260869565218,38.94202898550725,11.20814326018867,4.3987159420289865,296,11,49,6,3,100,50,69,0.0,0.926,0.07400000000000001,0.6416,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,4,2,1,0,0,7,12,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,8,11,1,7,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,2,3,30,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19719767994572487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5410860784103327,0.4808420733285807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178614510051612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778264012581293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44947309571522825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392400471121386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fit_sax_guy83,2019/01/22,"My 4 year old son really impressed me today My son was delayed in speech so we put him in early intervention when he was 3. He’s now 4 and a half and his use of vocabulary is blowing my mind. He’s currently being tested and is getting just about everything right. He’s now surpassed his age for vocabulary. 

I knew he eventually would but needed a little guidance. My wife was a little concerned about him when he starts kindergarten but I think he’ll be just fine. ",3.313586956521738,5.337527315217397,4.927608695652175,80.21684782608699,74.76086956521739,7.643478260869566,26.71739130434783,8.472884824447931,2.0057347826086955,371,14,70,7,8,125,61,92,0.017,0.93,0.052000000000000005,0.4491,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,15,15,8,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,12,2,6,7,0,18,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,0,12,42,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455632145743963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275239107089413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5477002909079967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758863304070279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20259799252413435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867109176052565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746735277186825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503935231912246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23333855058803146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19339494588427308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750759695760334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589918940334129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359846351316764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19409610310392336,0.0,0.0,0.17595238602026422
parenting,Justturtlin,2019/01/22,"UK parents, long distance gifts for a friend living in England? Hello! I have a friend living in England who has had twins. I was going to send her some preemie pyjamas from my city in Canada, but I’m worried that by the time it got there they’d have grown past that stage. Also the cost of sending anything more than a card is wild.

Can anyone point me in the direction of stores in the UK that I can ship directly to her, or maybe something better like a gift card?

Thank you for all advice! ",3.1693181818181806,4.7931767777777825,3.8968560606060616,89.16528409090913,74.15151515151516,6.162121212121212,24.49621212121212,6.6274283507984215,0.7762212121212126,387,12,78,3,8,123,73,99,0.027000000000000003,0.789,0.184,0.9481,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,1,2,5,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,0,1,4,13,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,5,14,9,3,14,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,2,4,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310161248515285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18905618055049944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653026596702038,0.0,0.1945444519813448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20908453638805505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652979920181262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435667469047005,0.0,0.18907786233457047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549748899402905,0.0,0.4175069313903548,0.2092145130964871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375046017866822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625042016392888,0.0,0.2256791272024539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234829057400007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819991871846512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176536315969404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785198078413852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400848006685904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,4fgtr32hu,2019/01/22,The difference between first and second son. I’ve noticed a similar dynamic between my two sons but saw a hilarious example with my nephews this weekend. First son (5) is sensitive and whiny. Second son (2) is a brute due to normal picking on from first son. We are at a birthday party. The house’s boxer dog starts sniffing at first sons face. He runs away. Dogs instincts kick it he chases and knocks over first son. Lots of tears ensue. Dog starts sniffing second sons face. Second son picks up a handful of snow and rocks and chucks it in the dogs face. The dog runs away scared. Classic second son.,2.2664285714285697,5.065049552631585,3.0085213032581457,87.99631578947371,84.17543859649123,5.3624060150375925,23.932330827067666,6.868970318607317,1.0859593984962412,475,18,86,6,14,149,71,114,0.053,0.871,0.076,0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,1,9,0,3,4,4,2,0,12,6,6,0,1,1,11,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,11,1,2,3,1,15,5,1,19,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,1,9,51,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375916409340093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770572340012787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7640905172724863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073027034279382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273990683886274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602796256024686,0.0,0.20454329666765408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798702948253341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543275455847601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550102444259752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,psychedelik_mess,2019/01/22,"Tip for those who hate endless toy clutter This is actually a tip of my mother’s. She and my dad hated the idea of a house overflowing with kids toys because they’re tidy military folks who often had to pack up and move while managing three young children. I like it because the insane hoarding-level abundance of cheap kids toys in houses I babysat in back in high school still haunt me to this day. 
So, when we were younger (think like up until 5 or 6, then they got more lenient) they had a rather limited toy collection for us - but they’d rotate the toys out to make things exciting. We’d be delighted to be reintroduces old toy we forgot about. They really only did this when we were young dumb babies so we didn’t really notice. Idk writing this out it seems like a terribly cold parenting move but I swear I have fond memories 😂  My parents always made sure we had quality, imagination-driven toys, rather than an over abundance of meh toys. 
I hope this doesn’t break any sub rules, I just thought of it and wanted to share. ",4.066175373134328,5.831441472636815,4.6317630597014965,84.23033115671645,72.08457711442786,8.20907960199005,26.492848258706466,8.841846274778883,1.985798258706468,820,28,159,16,16,261,132,201,0.113,0.753,0.135,0.8286,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,0,4,1,11,12,3,0,8,0,14,0,0,2,1,31,25,13,0,4,6,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,12,11,0,3,4,8,1,2,2,4,0,1,11,1,22,8,24,10,1,24,0,0,0,0,23,10,1,4,14,98,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.15047952028229455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830893885742756,0.0,0.0,0.10486307442103096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857230206028133,0.0,0.18800098073243635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944793776583744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332992775768532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044863396490304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292354209088222,0.0,0.15315800266771493,0.0,0.3558582566064758,0.0,0.17407599665261542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22600684392056306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459102544476812,0.10293145114896576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277859783017533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175560713268737,0.1618097177138676,0.0,0.0,0.11727804672458444,0.0,0.0,0.34244753800924543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757230330915135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606129134812785,0.0,0.14038028047989673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314641738117965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453341513498607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244537368095072,0.09880681716691024,0.0,0.1224196615031662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548677421497045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909527048543416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pmags3000,2019/01/22,"My 9 year old has never had friends He's almost 10, and while he certainly is friendly with other kids, he doesn't have anyone he calls a close friend.  He has ADHD and is a very in you face kind of kid, but he sees his older brothers having friends over, or them going to a friends house and he's starting to take note.  

We switched his school for a few reasons but he never had any close friends at the last school.  He went the whole school year and didn't get invited to a single birthday party.  For his birthday last year we went away for the weekend (to City Museum in St. Louis) because we were worried no one would go to his party.  This year we're having a party and will pack it with family and his brothers friends if we have to.  

So Reddit parents, I'm not sure I can help him make at least one close friend.  Any ideas?  ",4.25068449197861,4.6973334588235325,4.5972727272727285,89.6286363636364,70.29411764705883,7.122994652406418,26.631016042780754,6.574015621080383,0.9209411764705884,648,19,140,4,11,204,102,170,0.139,0.7490000000000001,0.112,-0.6347,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,1,1,0,1,11,0,0,9,0,16,1,1,2,4,29,26,12,0,2,5,3,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,2,3,15,0,0,2,2,0,4,6,0,0,2,6,1,14,11,18,18,4,26,0,0,1,0,36,9,0,3,13,82,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816239431218132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678608699321676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503979327749908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456623664145498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019322695437123,0.0,0.0,0.06500768628983415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889292438411552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053214272268596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6591278463835101,0.0,0.05571579745483735,0.0,0.1212136770130194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147956900628782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305000654249135,0.0,0.1203853058308117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105074205101294,0.0,0.17385415884023975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07118404871698503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449704286953426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119023456878688,0.0,0.1445261199593495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841279782106055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964525297122099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237807621137093,0.08497949171687416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548142313305421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050837906635407,0.0,0.08018115813349444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879904298596172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771553162540728,0.0,0.11906145878082434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829964923968843,0.0,0.07575508253266898,0.0,0.0,0.2746945932788429
parenting,areyousayingpanorpam,2019/01/22,"Silly old smartphone My 5 year old (ughh school delay this morning) just came over to me and said, ""Who needs your silly old phone when I have this?!"" And proudly held up the mostly unused TV remote like it's an amazing piece of new technology.  She then proceeds to ""teach"" me how to use the remote to turn on/off the TV.   

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Apparently using a smartphone to operate the TV is now passe.  I'm old. ",2.9336166365280287,4.948085291139243,4.046871609403259,86.14962025316456,75.83544303797468,6.033273056057867,23.943942133815554,6.868970318607317,0.8636169981916817,314,10,61,3,7,102,60,79,0.028,0.82,0.152,0.8439,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,3,0,11,10,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,5,8,7,2,15,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,12,35,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19371518735893906,0.21724526681041725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20448422100275396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734609331271208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256798547000115,0.0,0.17267319539372342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7504257724499727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006698159956876,0.0,0.0,0.18094156637203965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944684618165444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088284073451805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724526681041725,0.11513269733197265
parenting,cpov87,2019/01/22,"New Experience I want to preface this with I now have a great dad who adopted me. However, growing up I did not. My mom was responsible for me soley. My sisters dad, who I thought was my dad, was useless and never really took care of me. I never witnessed a ""good dad"" and never had one take care of me when I was sick. This past weekend I witnessed what a truly good, involved, and loving father does. My husband, who is sick himself, took point on caring for our daughter who is only 4.5months old and is sick for the first time. Diagnosed with RSV she's got her work cut out for her to heal. He has rocked her, learned to suction her, let her scream at him for hours bc she's sick and uncomfortable and as a baby is the only way to let you know so. I worked 2 of the 3 days and couldn't be here (separate mom guilt issue there) and he really stepped up. I did stay home on Saturday because he was vomiting so much but even then he was trying to take care of her. It makes my heart Happy. I just had to tell the world that good men exist. Good dad's exist. I have one of them. He's AMAZING.",1.7887168141592935,3.5132172079646047,3.4886814159292037,90.17700442477877,78.24778761061947,6.289911504424777,23.24690265486725,7.1686216300943375,0.7577670796460185,843,27,184,10,20,281,128,226,0.131,0.75,0.119,0.4677,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,1,1,3,8,16,1,1,8,0,21,9,1,1,3,23,35,14,0,2,3,11,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,1,9,11,0,0,3,2,0,4,5,4,0,3,14,1,33,12,25,17,1,29,0,1,0,1,37,8,0,0,15,122,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797151353538806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4547410977808635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191054878099146,0.0,0.0,0.11317373013432505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975774856106332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364702625081357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109071842711144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484484089226262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740954640682888,0.08917955450275597,0.12293302929201587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869757512244065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321322132814577,0.0,0.0,0.11184712641395722,0.0,0.10980851085853946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638070994753233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127942094065436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280398165859557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063628415842456,0.0,0.07442946837544823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611831602803208,0.0,0.0,0.08196792019328182,0.0,0.2579951759724377,0.1076907986870788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700419194513148,0.0,0.15111534773343038,0.16960690969350053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644273092570214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540687168130047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428640258819542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884792099342785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767354712657048,0.0,0.09745899504158348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852134330833768,0.06501860176469865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477690367082428,0.07570357378341001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576766764728269,0.08850630760614711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235178752620485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,younggreezyy,2019/01/22,"Preschool pushing for clinical evaluation. I feel backed into a corner a little. Let me preface by saying that I am diagnosed ADHD, and I am a 30 year old mom to a 4.5 year old boy. While I have been on medication in the past, I chose to stop taking it due to the negative effects it had on me personally. I have it well managed with diet and exercise. 

That being said, my son is ""impulsive and disruptive"" in class. I work all day, so I am not with him or see this behavior obviously. But if two different preschools tell me the same thing-its obviously a thing. He is at a really great preschool now, academically he is progressing faster, but the teacher is having trouble keeping my son under control. He isn't acting out in a malicious way, he just doesn't think before he does things.

Luckily this new teacher is willing to keep him and work with me so long as I take him to get a clinical evaluation. Now, I have worked in a school system before..and I've seen how many kids are medicated. I am so worried that the ONLY recourse they are going offer- is medication. I am all for modern medicine.. hes fully vaccinated, etc. However, having been on several medications myself, it makes me upset to think that my 4.5 year old will have to use them too. 

*I guess my question is, have any of the parents here been through this? Did you have a good or bad experience? Is there anything I need to be doing, documenting, or bringing up to the doctors when we visit?* 

I want him to succeed in school, but I don't want to strip him of his personality. But unfortunately, for him to be able to continue school, it seems he needs to ""fall in line"" more. ",4.156191588785045,5.579736087227417,5.910985202492213,76.50610397196262,71.30529595015577,9.212928348909657,29.88590342679128,9.621722640351123,2.84510062305296,1288,53,248,31,24,443,181,321,0.078,0.857,0.065,-0.7134,3,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,1,1,2,7,14,7,0,1,17,0,39,10,0,5,4,43,60,19,0,5,10,4,1,0,0,2,9,2,0,4,14,10,1,4,6,1,0,6,5,3,1,1,7,5,38,4,39,47,5,44,0,0,2,0,32,16,0,7,20,180,52,11,0.10007798049355343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120274284454208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805645855579733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235565074962421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695378955447263,0.08356093345207925,0.0,0.0,0.08515899030845678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224596492692787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454201817358549,0.0,0.0,0.10157704357601703,0.0,0.10456018910341536,0.0,0.1024340537022849,0.08757891514351801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161340266972317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978954683815452,0.0,0.0,0.0506024339444007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05228661424156325,0.0,0.056876622612451924,0.08394066187036855,0.0,0.11033632680045044,0.11024717840493492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790781473622727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233651554528526,0.0,0.0,0.10030442788337046,0.0,0.0885658634664081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680282909770131,0.10146336436030533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40327214643885606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721012120757827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841310890496706,0.0,0.0966559371860428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150450167988932,0.0,0.0,0.07611381385186433,0.0,0.0,0.11112475390759152,0.0,0.09553575644062852,0.0,0.1747684647586258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211024207457987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411251694731918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519707707630301,0.07958602692448548,0.0,0.3038527775035738,0.07974919331354817,0.0911072347752492,0.0,0.11305963189310997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366967288793706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049237294561288,0.0,0.08747256606691317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994620899676531,0.12825185785705784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977616450428843,0.0,0.0,0.08643524281101721,0.0,0.0,0.1180571716523264,0.07943724266922686,0.0,0.0,0.08998212334598947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185738851669058,0.1016340470919807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193340814757112
parenting,lesetoilesdansleciel,2019/01/22,"Any tips for managing frustration with intense 5-year-old? Hi there, from what I have been reading on a few people's posts, it seems like others also experience frustration with their older children. I was diagnosed with post-partum anxiety in September 2018 but I think I may have been experiencing it even during my third pregnancy in the summer of 2017. Particularly since that time, I have acutely felt that my oldest has been getting the short end of the stick. I have 3 children total, who are currently 5, 3, and 1. While the 3-year-old is also stubborn and intense and can drive me bonkers sometimes, I haven't been as frustrated with her usually because she's still more like a 'baby' and my expectations aren't as high with her. Her personality is also far less dramatic and sensitive than my oldest.

My oldest has been a notably difficult child since she was around 15 months old. She 'overreacts' to almost everything and will scream and cry several times a day, over a colouring page getting wet, forgetting a toy in another room - things that are totally reversible and solveable! It seems like almost anything can send her stomping off and yelling. Particularly being asked to do something or being told not to do something. She just turned 5 in December and is in Kindergarten, which seems to be going well. This whole time I have been trying to acknowledge her feelings, not shame her, and to tell her it's okay to feel disappointed, it's okay to be sad, it's normal to be angry, etc. What's not okay is to grab toys from her sister's hand, to hit (this only happens very rarely), to throw toys in anger, etc. However, we are actually quite similar, and I do find we set each other off sometimes. I am always hopeful that she will be helpful to me and be a leader in setting a good example when it comes to sitting at the table for meals, getting ready to go for the day, etc. But when she's home things tend to be more difficult and stressful. She can't 'read the room' and will ask me for stuff like reminding me I'd told her she could have a special snack, or asking questions that could totally wait, while I'm changing a difficult diaper or dealing with a tantrum from the 3-year-old. I get exasperated with her.

I know it's hard being the oldest. She gets the least attention and because her sisters are 3 and 1, I truly have to watch them more because they are dangers to themselves where as she is sensible and can play more independently. But I don't feel that my expectations for her are unrealistic. She's a super intense kid and she tends to really get in the baby's face and get very loud and excited. I often have to ask her to give the baby space and to tone it down. When she doesn't comply as quickly as I'd like I find this really frustrating. I ended up really yelling at her yesterday and I feel terribly now. I'd like to find some strategies to manage my frustration towards her.",7.163368274743732,7.032533143626572,7.496773035269591,73.31695198934386,64.06283662477558,10.849574332541845,34.66433080442462,10.456487797536301,3.5714147101407314,2319,93,425,51,31,759,262,557,0.125,0.747,0.128,-0.5246,2,0,2,0,2,0,62.0,2,0,3,2,16,34,9,2,24,3,56,5,2,1,3,79,91,42,0,6,10,2,9,6,0,4,1,4,3,5,27,35,2,2,16,6,0,6,8,18,1,1,11,16,62,16,65,64,17,61,0,2,2,0,54,25,0,13,32,300,89,4,0.0,0.0,0.07315477078348465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501327135390563,0.0,0.0,0.1798478223941209,0.06237666756232785,0.0,0.0,0.05097859269175655,0.07860706439939781,0.05734781960900125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616895922080273,0.06673451053098894,0.2803276432441462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709342600326485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930275314769543,0.06457548421052338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970648718631954,0.0,0.08234524494533613,0.09669210904583236,0.07728535349266201,0.0,0.07608763137519256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327930148343593,0.0,0.25081649770135483,0.04951350263528585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737347302630126,0.07332989865906572,0.0,0.0,0.15161769648346618,0.0,0.07197790480507647,0.0,0.20554923810566567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741618719296722,0.07191300783458289,0.0852083766734861,0.06287686580484668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629107050038713,0.0,0.06715368093809554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024728389100865,0.07920436185956031,0.07519574476213754,0.07445689990102466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041198659670258764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21974390709767447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983613890262211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344952700915737,0.0,0.0,0.31465152966177024,0.0,0.0,0.057014061514663386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051971110593693734,0.06545631795540034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435909942400557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397766337795118,0.07973422676992804,0.1499700496378438,0.0,0.1440729928029282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047352467982935,0.0,0.08468881641017763,0.0,0.12402321236552162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542303597216108,0.14828408603646664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05986693683916201,0.0,0.08587185443876523,0.0,0.08581669019252905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552248547537852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960648220301603,0.04803437735667386,0.0,0.0,0.13113762525272815,0.0,0.0,0.14326403997040474,0.0,0.05089613648838973,0.08154010859965033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825630682946964,0.1237075200735792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674023026313326,0.0,0.0,0.08369545316244763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482450094158725
parenting,toshamh23,2019/01/22,"My 9yo sons father is in jail My sons father has a very lengthy list of offenses ranging from aggregated assault with a deadly weapon to drug dealer charges, domestic violence and DWI's...that's right more than one! For years he has skated by with well paid attorney's but it looks like he got locked up for not finishing his community service in time!! Now that he's on probation in Dallas and Kaufman (and he's defaulted on his deferred adjudication for 5 different charges) I think he may have finally dug his own grave. This is the same man who legally kidnapped my child (by obtaining a false protective order) 2 years ago and who has encouraged my son to participate in animal cruelty (yes I called CPS). While I'm honestly pretty stoked he finally is behind bars I do not know how to tell my son. My son knows his dad isn't always honest, he doesn't really trust him, but he still loves his father. Has anyone ever been through something like this or have any suggestions? 
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parenting,brohan-of-dudendorf,2019/01/22,"Wearing shorts in cold weather I never remember this being a thing when I was a kid (33yo now), but wearing shorts year round is really popular here, no matter the weather. The rule I have for my 9yo is that if the forecasted high temp is below freezing, you have to wear long pants. It’s 11 degrees this morning with a high of 28, and he’s annoyed about the long pants. I choose not to fight it above that temp. Not really looking for advice or anything, just wondering if this is a nationwide phenomenon!",5.913095238095237,6.327123234693879,6.433061224489798,78.03217687074832,66.65306122448979,9.798639455782316,32.65986394557823,9.725611199111238,3.0505251700680267,399,16,75,8,6,130,68,98,0.086,0.8320000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.1083,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,5,3,2,0,8,0,8,3,3,0,1,14,10,6,0,2,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,4,6,1,9,8,0,12,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,4,6,52,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483104246634988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20910841404885488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369560051022387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497534068337751,0.21338588597449173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598298769388492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255749087647254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28785370181427195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881740320329008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755682077779317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363658019324434
parenting,linzeims,2019/01/22,"Parents are the cause of the toddlers delay. Is that possible? My little nephew is two but he still doesn’t speak and doesn’t do a lot of other things children his age are supposed to do. He was under suspicion for autism for a few months but now the psychologist thinks that his delay is caused by overprotective parenting which leads to him not trying or learning. It’s true that my sister and brother in law are extremely overprotective but could it really cause the delay? I’m really scared my baby will have those issues, it’s really hard to find that fine line and not cross into bulldozer parent territory. How do you do it?",5.214916666666666,6.920517991666671,5.933333333333334,76.27166666666669,69.08333333333334,9.333333333333334,25.833333333333336,9.725611199111238,2.458083333333333,509,15,90,12,9,166,81,120,0.138,0.816,0.046,-0.8983,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,1,6,0,16,0,0,5,1,25,18,8,0,1,6,6,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,12,4,0,3,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,1,2,7,2,11,15,2,13,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,2,7,67,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194780981543682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345828540729167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406240027586116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099823333858184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593468987466807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894317219344834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433051855397174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345443933658205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5615036792651101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19002806417798465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32395495051267004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875973350056875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346136439853403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198494730014166,0.1080075733609105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444237435905673,0.0,0.16466035229869452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ssfritz,2019/01/22,"Sleeping Situation My three year old just became a big sister six weeks ago. If that isn’t a big enough change and adjustment, we are also in the process of moving into a new house. She has definitely been feeling the whole whirlwind of toddler emotions and has been expressing her frustrations. And to be honest, I kinda fucked up as a parent, but she was our first and I thought I was making the best choice for us.

Long story short, we fell into co-sleeping when she was a newborn and recently just broke her of the habit of being in our bed. However, when her brother came she had to at least be in our room. And when I say ‘had to’ I am being very literal. When we try to put her in a different room she screams, cries, stalls, and throws tantrums, and doesn’t fall asleep until an unacceptable hour. And with a newborn there is only so much of that shit you can take before you just say ‘whatever, just do anything to make her sleep.’

So. Needless to say we are doing things differently with our son. But I am hoping with the new house and a new room for her we can do something to rectify the situation. Has anyone been through this?? How do I help transition her to sleeping comfortably on her own in her own room without feeling like the world’s worst parent? My husband suggested just letting her scream it out until she gets used to the fact that we aren’t going to cave, but I reallllyyyy hate to do that. I am at a loss.
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parenting,ysoaddicted,2019/01/22,"My(37f) husband(42m) shaved his head to support our daughter (15f) with cancer and wants me to do the same. Guys I'm really in a pickle right now.

Our family was apalled when we learned that our only daughter had cancer. She's about to start her chemo and she shaved her head since it is about to start falling off.

 My husband also followed her suit in a move to support her. 

Yesterday in our daughter's presence he suggested that I shave my head too and she was laughing and thought that would be funny and said ""girls can go it out together"".

 Now I dont want to disappoint her and I also love my long hair. What do I do??

Tldr: Husband thinks I should shave my head to support my daughter.",2.1309593326381666,4.480489233576645,2.9548957247132432,91.3068795620438,80.02189781021897,5.666110531803963,25.114181438998962,6.868970318607317,0.9950400417101148,543,21,109,6,14,171,81,137,0.079,0.777,0.14300000000000002,0.8554,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,3,0,12,8,5,0,0,17,26,9,0,4,0,6,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,6,9,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,5,2,25,5,15,18,1,17,0,1,0,1,26,6,0,0,7,74,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23700303923185675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366882728700914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969330598791072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421554944674663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672400676762118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6083121258444858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311368803466223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337405231720868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749458360794602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269949514581094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949295262822143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654707514180188,0.14095552414094953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257812413838612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976872177517614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044673536574693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494938501001612,0.0,0.1176403805541534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480379671230514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526462122235784,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nacho_Scout,2019/01/22,"I need a check. Can’t tell if this is me or what. My kids are older, 9 and 6. My 9 yr old, M, is now free to play up and down our street as long as I know where he’s going, and has made some good friends in our neighborhood. It’s been a blessing. 

He’s really become close friends with one kid in particular, B. Super nice kid and family. 

The issue that I’m questioning myself on is if I’m being super weird about M playing with B when a member of their family is sick. 

When my other child is ill and M has plans to have a friend over I will out of courtesy say something to M’s friends parents. Most of the time, the sleepover or play date is canceled. Sometimes parents are just like, eh, and lets their kids come over anyway. Either way it’s the parents call to make and I don’t question it. 

Three times this has happened with Bs mom. Once their other child was sick with a stomach virus but they planned to bring him to Bs birthday party anyway and called to let me know he would be there and if I had an issue with it. I did. M didn’t go. It really sucked bc it was a small party. I do t remember why they didn’t keep the sick one home. Anyway, she called to tell me they promised to keep the sick child sequestered at the party somehow and if so, would I change my mind. I didn’t and felt pretty guilty.

The second time she called to tell me the entire family minus B came down with a stomach virus the night before but did I mind if B played with M outside. I did. Again she called to tell me B was very upset and crying and was there any way I’d reconsider. An hour after that, she texted me and another mom, who’s son was already playing with M, wondering if we had a problem with the three boys playing. Other mom didn’t care, so B ended up coming up to play outside. At that point I didn’t want to deal with it anymore and gave in. 

This last time she texted her husband had the flu. We were supposed to keep her kids that afternoon so she could attend a get together and then have them all sleep over there that night. In what should not have been a surprise, I responded that we’d need to reschedule it. She called to offer more details, such as he’d been keeping himself away from the rest of the family, he didn’t seem terribly ill, etc. that B was upset. I just said I was really sorry but that we’d simply need to do it another weekend. 

I’ve run this past a few close girlfriends and they think I’m in the right and that it’s odd she doesn’t take my first answer as the answer. But, good friends can be biased 😊 so I’m looking for some outside perspective. I really like this mom and we get along well. I love B and love the friendship he has with M. I remark often I hope theirs is a friendship that continues through school and beyond if they’re so lucky. 

Is this odd? Am I being inflexible? 

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parenting,BaileyBaggins,2019/01/22,"Raising girls - shifting the focus away from ""pretty"" I have a 3.5 year old girl. I work very hard to raise a self-confident little person who knows her value in many ways, and I purposely shift the focus away from anything related to her physical appearance - not that she's not pretty, I just don't want her thinking that's important.

She's always had clothes with unicorns and swans, dinosaurs and trucks (although she's leaning more and more towards the former). I've scolded my family a gazillion times for using ""pretty"" out of context, i.e. ""Oh, look at that! you ate all your food, such a pretty girl!"" (this might be cultural, VERY typical in Spain, where I'm from). ""Pretty"" and ""beautiful"" are the first things that come out of any stranger's mouth when addressing her. 

This morning, she chose her own clothes, as usual, and was thrilled to see her favourite leggings (bring red with a lot of different-coloured flowers) were clean. She matched them with a pink t-shirt with more flowers and was delighted saying how pretty she was gonna be today. Our conversation went sort of like:  


\- I'm going to be SO pretty today!

\- You're pretty every day, no matter what you wear, love.

\- No, but today I'm gonna be even prettier than yesterday!

\- But you know there are other things more important than being pretty, right? You're also fun, and smart, and you can run so fast! 

\- But being pretty is more fun than those. 

​

So what should my approach be? Reinforce that she's always pretty, because she's also beautiful inside? Or work on the idea that being pretty should not be her goal?  


How do I keep her from growing up to be an insecure girl or a narcissistic, selfie-obsessed person?  
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parenting,lvnamuerte,2019/01/22,"Book/Articles/Etc. recommendations on how to parent two 11 year old boys(fraternal twins). Hi all!
I'll try to make this short and as clear as possible.
I'm a 25 year old female who will soon be getting shared custody of my two 11 year old nephews. My mom, who is 57 years old will also be getting custody of them.

One of my nephews has been diagnosed with autism, and the other one with ADHD. I'm not a professional to disagree or dissaprove their diagnosis, but I do have mixed feelings about it. They are high maintenance, I will admit that.

Their biological dad has never been in the picture, they grew up with my dad as their paternal figure. Up until two years ago when my dad decided to leave this world by his own will. That, among other experiences, has really messed up my sister, my nephews mom. Leaving my mom and me to have no choice but to get custody of these boys. 

I know there's no right or perfect way to raise children, but I have very little to no experience in this field. Any book, articles, videos, etc that you guys might think are appropriate, link them my way.

Thank you all in advance 🙏",4.435447674418604,5.899629925581403,5.292485465116279,81.05175145348838,70.67441860465118,8.537790697674419,27.85610465116279,9.017664075816787,2.171052325581395,874,31,171,17,16,285,128,215,0.06,0.868,0.07200000000000001,0.3908,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,7,2,6,4,0,0,4,0,19,1,0,2,5,27,30,15,0,0,6,11,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,12,6,0,0,7,2,0,2,5,1,0,5,2,1,24,3,29,21,4,31,0,0,0,0,29,13,0,3,14,115,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016307573757274,0.0,0.09600696342038292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661247586990871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365196982570202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992857264694582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24158021560391996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21188860649865066,0.0,0.0,0.0547628985855098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975664982260638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724022389657817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443150863377265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952228727145568,0.0,0.0,0.2293613793296711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855132418906917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722952686252627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489582487510985,0.0,0.3805409432245012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353246349892382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4545967972946246,0.0,0.14678224762642664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026128299021367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209903325353565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938376259737836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924929530663468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971385151120464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939827729379842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353284017771357,0.0,0.3173984314026351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936400609137468,0.0,0.17193693366556986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487283978809198
parenting,SmallNoodle,2019/01/22,"Please help, I am raising my kid like I'm a Drill Instructor from the Marine Corps. I have never been able to kick the habits I learned from there and am stuck in that mode for the last 10 years. Much like the scene from Full Metal Jacket: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ZYlXEUo-Lo  this is true to nature USMC training.  Every day I find myself yelling and screaming to my 9 year old boy, but it has been like this for years.  I do not do this with is 3 sisters, only the boy for some reason, I get triggered and go into Drill Instructor mode.  I treat him like he is a USMC recruit out of habit, and I don't think it's a good idea.  I've instilled discipline in him over the years, but sometimes I think I go overboard and forget he is a child.  Never do I harm him physically, but I do get in his face like I went through and give him real hard screaming.  How can I break this, I know it's not a good thing that's happening.",4.108039702233247,5.0816539892473145,4.200752688172045,90.4288213399504,70.93548387096773,7.013399503722082,24.52274607113317,7.010146845296331,0.7061708850289494,726,19,157,6,13,224,106,186,0.092,0.767,0.141,0.8445,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,0,0,0,0,2,12,0,0,11,0,16,1,1,3,3,30,28,10,0,0,5,1,1,5,0,0,0,3,0,4,10,9,0,1,7,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,4,4,23,9,18,24,3,20,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,1,14,96,33,3,0.16214888727282506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457261804821764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661743095151824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820114539258702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694322023030642,0.15554798783879567,0.1843058987194401,0.27200558708519235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338772551043544,0.0,0.14525355370917975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086849811871238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304635690062646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911278788539717,0.13217298485104553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960887793242074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191980892356175,0.0,0.2501184360532466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014798081408666,0.0,0.0,0.12332153547968265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799078582858052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456093262560289,0.0,0.16671606197550387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036939564913574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772451569553948,0.20779691935863984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031364300209532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176742685744146
parenting,mavico76,2019/01/22,"🆘 Where do babies come out of? My 5  1/2 year old said he knows babies are in mommy’s belly’s but he doesn’t understand how they came out. 

I accept that you may disagree with me on this but I refuse to try and explain the inner workings of a vagina to someone who can’t hold attention to anything that doesn’t involve cars or legos and would appreciate some good lies to hold me off for a few years. 

Please help me 🙏🏼",1.6494662921348322,3.407425674157306,3.333019662921348,90.981327247191,78.7752808988764,5.798314606741574,21.2373595505618,6.6274283507984215,0.3035269662921349,331,9,72,3,8,110,70,89,0.103,0.7170000000000001,0.18,0.8126,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,7,1,1,1,0,22,13,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,3,5,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,1,8,2,13,9,2,13,0,0,0,1,10,7,0,3,3,44,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341736269962137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32546777201583754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24512846999574214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23868051631826465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907386366858623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563900686818244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986042187324409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123680885874861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27068749521717195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411119055863053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320168046158154,0.0,0.0,0.2962433120845999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071674863444704,0.0,0.0,0.20214756979067947,0.0,0.0,0.3665024352789181
parenting,_strawberryfields_,2019/01/22,"Did any of you have crippling anxiety that caused you to constantly check that your newborn was still breathing? If so, how did you manage it? My daughter is now two months old and I lose sleep because of my constant concern for her. I spend hours reading about SIDS statistics and suggested prevention. She doesn't have any of this risk factors, which I know should be reassuring. Unfortunately, I can still barely sleep because of my worrying. When I do sleep, I always wake up in a panic. What advice can you give? ",4.934026315789474,7.207620968421054,5.064407894736847,79.90398026315792,70.89473684210526,8.118421052631579,30.822368421052627,8.841846274778883,2.7191315789473682,412,18,72,8,8,129,72,95,0.157,0.815,0.028,-0.8937,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,5,0,1,7,4,0,2,1,0,12,5,5,2,0,8,14,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,3,0,1,3,0,16,1,9,9,0,11,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,1,9,54,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17166442150371758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146172986270721,0.0,0.0,0.23892565668683555,0.0,0.13438842400463574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141757621892584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18046329986621595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796775518909929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685203701590378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730013080829132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654461114543224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653177668595487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402195316312202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843379725253587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611297270841625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571931030803686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5273959172520754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805834065411356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160579419149588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840321079360466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AcceptablePlankton5,2019/01/22,"Angry Child I feel like I am completely failing as a parent. My 6 year old has extreme rage. I have tried to redirect, deescalate, talk about feelings, have him punch pillows, etc. But the second he doesn't get his way, he loses his mind. I'm talking will flat out attack you, grab a knife from the kitchen (butter of course, the rest are out of his reach), threaten to ""axe murder"" me or kill himself. I don't know where he gets this stuff. He watches paw patrol and peppa pig.  If put in his room he knocks every single thing over that's not bolted down and then pees on it. After these episodes he is apologetic, but then it happens again and again. He is incredibly smart. He gets along well with other kids. He loves animals but can be mean to them. I'm very worried about him. I've tried being ""tough"" with him and that's like throwing gas on a fire. Whenever I bring his behavior up with other parents they are just like ""I wouldn't put up with that, my mamma would whip me, etc"" I'm looking for like actual real advice.",2.6610784313725517,4.589147264705887,3.5221568627450983,89.99637254901963,76.35294117647058,6.101960784313726,22.60784313725491,6.937597516519254,0.6282666666666672,798,23,163,8,18,254,138,204,0.118,0.775,0.107,0.4026,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,2,2,7,14,4,0,6,0,16,3,1,0,0,26,30,12,2,3,7,2,4,4,0,3,0,0,3,2,11,11,1,0,4,0,0,4,4,7,1,1,0,7,22,7,25,25,4,23,0,2,2,1,28,11,0,2,11,102,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.14279911724767969,0.0,0.0,0.14299413097431693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664740012115981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342652623952724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263981654175681,0.0,0.0,0.1232911886520209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479799128962173,0.10453975198245244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22935760252973386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294010800317631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189489693114945,0.0,0.08042034948223367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859620830196373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288219219332874,0.16370830000692976,0.0,0.0,0.13207052250790174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593986631270731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775380605582364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355102679946026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249691787933963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29420855381518585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655807830415978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751535782786342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23523255668316576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972166106079068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986999148249747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073938906657633,0.0,0.11615168811666028,0.0,0.0,0.1315702204125856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486074509033132,0.0,0.10395019547325017,0.0,0.0,0.09423313826655352
parenting,forgot-my-toothbrush,2019/01/23,"Little incidents that make you question yourself and feel like a total failure. I have a few kids. My oldest is 5. I usually feel like I have things under control. Rarely does a situation arise that makes me seriously question my ability to handle what comes up in day to day life. 

Then my 5 year old pukes in his carseat 20 minutes from home. He's never thrown up (that he can remember) and is beside himself. Soaking wet, stinking, covered in vomit. 

It's -40 with the wind. I have extra clothes, but nothing for the carseat. My immediate instinct is to pull over and help him. My rational head tells me that as soon as I open the door to the car he's going to go from wet, stinking and sad, to wet, stinking and covered in vomit ice. We live in the country, so there wasn't any warm place to pull into to get him warm and changed. Even if I could, I'd be putting him back into a freezing, puke soaked seat. I decide to get him home as quickly as I can manage. I did manage to keep him calm.

I made that poor kid sit, covered in vomit until we got home. 

He's fine. I'm traumatized. He keeps bringing it up and I feel like a total monster. 

Please, share your shitty parenting moments and remind me that I'm not alone in my failure.",2.669036098310293,4.407116879032259,4.003617511520737,87.39268817204304,75.7741935483871,6.336712749615978,27.132104454685106,7.07126945348624,1.3091491551459296,958,38,194,10,21,315,143,248,0.17800000000000002,0.73,0.092,-0.9783,1,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,2,0,1,6,13,0,0,10,0,12,5,1,4,3,35,29,17,0,2,3,1,9,3,0,0,4,0,4,2,10,15,0,3,7,0,1,8,3,5,0,0,4,12,31,8,33,23,4,39,0,1,0,0,24,17,0,3,16,119,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712192050414554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003355285008342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180404954786787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005699725474588,0.11404709238723305,0.0,0.0,0.1484929311620243,0.10570711912110237,0.0,0.0,0.17076842749665974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586028794992626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744604982058696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008295909406219,0.283750344445657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834248053945206,0.0,0.15048694911781388,0.0,0.10588886154706892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587608899291695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874198464301297,0.0,0.3984107663237663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235358597558593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351493268061346,0.1940454181698263,0.1326951798635067,0.11690774664753488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252759246065911,0.17675019158312175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211165410681992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703715571810625,0.0,0.13892691828732814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700965369346847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832523042524886,0.1453306189141523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330941530228145,0.2966267601650721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997841383527266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881820951122374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157195961564911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795775840518925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145815056483064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525843019606556
parenting,HobGadlingson,2019/01/23,"So tired I’m having auditory hallucinations. My kids plain wore me out today and yesterday. About to crash. Parents: what weird things happen to you when your kids run you ragged? Parents: what weird effects does putting in a full crazy day with your kids have on you? Today we had lots of no TV / no phone fun, i pulled out every stop I could think of. Sometimes I hear funny (harmless) unintelligible auditory phrases or crowd noise, as I am now. But I swear I’m starting to smell colors, too. 👃 🌈 ",2.6557894736842123,5.223081157894743,3.765526315789476,84.98618421052633,79.52631578947368,5.905263157894738,23.184210526315788,7.1686216300943375,0.8906631578947368,390,13,76,5,10,126,73,95,0.198,0.74,0.062,-0.8642,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,5,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,0,12,12,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,3,5,0,1,2,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,3,13,2,12,9,2,16,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,2,8,45,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18225355478384533,0.0,0.0,0.14721408177086753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19975900878504396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19232577348450014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018567837567086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572748111060796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940654302770351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069295653111404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22947255313583326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257630512200691,0.0,0.1615693815280326,0.0,0.0,0.19084240646363168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516512253238031,0.14626502257068896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623606751728049,0.4327430579782812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fmjk45a,2019/01/23,"My son is amazing.   Yesterday we got a letter from his school stating one of the students in his class lost his 2mo old brother over the weekend. Over dinner, my wife did some social media stalking and found out who it was. We sat him down and explained to him what happened. After that 1 million questions of ""What if"" came up. What if people are talking about it and he hears it? etc. We tried our best to guide him as to what to do or say. At the end of dinner I tell him not to worry and I know he'll do the right thing. 

   Fast forward to today my son is in class and another child goes up to the little boy and asks, ""I heard your little brother died, is that true?"" My son saw the little boy getting visibly upset went over to him and said, ""If you don't want to hear it, just say you don't want to hear it."" Now mind you my son is in first grade. It doesn't sound like much but the little boy said thank you to my son. I'm so proud of him I just had to share.",0.59368932038835,2.3913534660194173,2.174572815533981,97.81739320388351,82.3009708737864,4.702524271844661,18.55242718446602,5.341637118332708,-0.5786166990291264,738,17,175,3,20,240,117,206,0.044,0.87,0.086,0.9156,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,5,0,4,5,9,0,1,8,0,13,2,0,0,1,29,36,14,1,5,8,8,0,1,0,1,0,9,0,4,14,12,2,0,4,1,0,3,4,2,0,3,13,10,28,7,31,22,4,29,0,1,1,0,49,17,0,6,11,118,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372811244682342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922492871389233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13383665637673384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586229575170664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235777518996347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295523726527773,0.0,0.14223156262268527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847840317216756,0.0,0.13983193200901373,0.0,0.0,0.06663005221544452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199875477732448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277586560227762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4312125009648528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008808985728995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230554921576755,0.5112810889940269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921592119892634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877066690545708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375047720319664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382307131576507,0.0,0.08641878389331913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841442654755867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286469666604384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089113792975664,0.24262371195225144,0.20283666121884653,0.0,0.12906889411080796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000251285963005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025051537099578,0.11146833140755097,0.11741405959184775,0.0,0.0,0.08472639802956111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088514450348598,0.0,0.0,0.08658565633294908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044300775071615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822316827362835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951463702200425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,enviromental-lass,2019/01/23,"My four year old rapid fires questions I'm losing my mind. I will answer as many as I can but then I snap and tell him to stop because it gets to be too many. It's usually him saying why and i explain, then why and i explain further. Sometimes the why doesnt even have an answer. Sometimes he needs to just do what i say for his safety and I'll explain when we are in the car. I know he is curious. I want him to understand the world. I dont want to tell him to shut up but by 10am I want to scream. Its 6pm and I've snapped at him three times. I hate it. I dont scream, I dont break things. I just get so annoyed and angry. I ask him to stop. Sometimes I have to yell at him to stop because he continues or ignores my pleas. I wanted a child so bad and now I hate myself for even slightly regretting this decision. He gives me a reason to get out of bed and I hate every single early morning rousing. I will be sunshine and rainbows with a smile on my face as long as I fucking can because he doesnt deserve my bullshit. I am trying so hard to stay strong and be everything he needs. Everything I didnt have.  Just one more year. Just one more year of this and I can work again. I always wanted two kids, now I know I only needed one. 

I love him to death. He is my everything and I want to wake him up every night to tell him I'm sorry for my mistakes. ",-0.29169286081150503,1.6981255050847466,2.0563636363636384,96.24151515151516,87.16949152542372,4.796096558808424,19.786851566512574,6.11248444174946,-0.09884180790960427,1044,32,245,9,33,354,142,295,0.206,0.687,0.107,-0.9881,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,3,14,15,5,0,7,0,22,4,2,1,0,49,49,25,1,11,7,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,1,2,8,15,0,4,11,0,0,1,6,12,0,6,1,8,50,3,33,43,3,32,0,2,1,2,33,10,1,2,19,160,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525014109122442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454561429084938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755104273995915,0.16538715600856346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179715656301533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946447942262994,0.0,0.1523927534059066,0.0,0.2438346043078885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360678518545607,0.14174750420621707,0.08675461831043572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101304803334336,0.2678609949895979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994027117546326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003316773857717,0.0,0.10117494553430642,0.0,0.0,0.08162217750021672,0.0,0.0,0.18337617093856184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913147548386468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20117183034240016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486822256994754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489755114746533,0.0,0.1838456751287823,0.06878078520105631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130921167578873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298344854125093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383695011137432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26833106428804593,0.1012358921798064,0.0,0.09639292809724864,0.0,0.2268260716753015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23713560547667376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060081775223788235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273406007022047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061400225459665635,0.0,0.08834300067637245,0.09414724607703152,0.0,0.0,0.09960266844797826,0.0,0.32004958971047553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24481374056789185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583861143998747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471379211515378
parenting,larking94,2019/01/23,"Nephew wants to call me son? What should i do? Hey everyone,

My nephew and I have been inseparable for the past 2 years as he's been living with me due to family troubles. His own father was terrible and he has now left completely. Every since he moved in with me, we have grown pretty attached. We do things together, have great conversations and he has said time she time again how much he loves being with me as I've been like the father never really had. Recently, he wrote me a very heartfelt letter just saying how much he appreciated all the support and how much he looks up to me. He ended by saying ""Love you dad."" 

I know it would mean a lot to him to be able to call me Dad regularly but do you think it's right even though I'm his uncle? Don't get me wrong, I really care about my nephew, and it's nice that he thinks of me in that way, but should I reciprocate and call him son?

Any help?",3.5579251559251546,4.431740659459461,4.885405405405408,85.38320166320169,72.13513513513513,8.503118503118504,21.798336798336802,8.841846274778883,1.0882224532224538,702,14,156,13,13,234,111,185,0.021,0.805,0.174,0.9817,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,0,0,9,11,0,0,5,0,19,2,0,3,2,29,33,14,0,4,3,9,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,7,11,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,7,4,25,8,18,21,6,18,0,0,1,2,41,5,0,1,11,97,32,0,0.1380153772691335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385518929195977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227873937081133,0.0,0.1407158753685973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470649721424922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224065912616085,0.0,0.0,0.091157855032239,0.0,0.1162839079036566,0.13187960749971345,0.0,0.0,0.13010861463531592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210733824849556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216244067630336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250879814420712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584964193318006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499541112304573,0.0,0.0,0.06742734190771436,0.0,0.12187010668757245,0.0,0.11589815684508165,0.0,0.0,0.11733573827762055,0.2491285329309691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033920644036822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668850408314593,0.3043715476369602,0.0,0.10644596732807736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317512943688421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041125610648206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683236952863873,0.0,0.1362735347540934,0.0,0.0,0.11786437808463038,0.131284228986326,0.2195107350720736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141677462885831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566182145687962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169128401010172,0.17686936187475644,0.13559940742457868,0.0,0.16095575275179028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387714038663695,0.08140504536845766,0.10955018238921473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804216415736854,0.1508981490269012,0.0,0.08887737794943253
parenting,ittybittymomma,2019/01/23,"12 month old losing weight Hello, this is an embarrassing post but I’m out of options and I could really use some advice. My DD is recently 12 months old and she’s only 16.07 lbs. she nurses a ton, but she’s never been great with eating solid food. She can handle it and all, but she chooses not to. We see an occupational therapist to help with that aspect. Her pediatrician has referred us to nutritionists and they’ve given us advice that’s reached no end. I offer my DD three full meals and two snacks and the breast and a soppy cup of milk a day but...out of all of that, she usually will have the breast, and a few bites of a meal. Most times she’ll just clamp her mouth down, or spit things out. We know she’s a picky eater even though we offer her a variety of foods, so I’m lost now. She’s losing weight now. And they’re considering a G tube. And a swallow test. And all sorts of invasive tests. I’m NOT against them, but I want to of course try my best to not let it get there. Please, if anyone has any advice to offer to help fatten her up, I could really use the help. ",1.7999333333333354,3.54679196,3.4819444444444443,90.13625000000002,78.28888888888889,6.633333333333333,18.36111111111111,7.554174236665415,0.21351111111111096,841,16,189,12,20,280,130,225,0.078,0.815,0.107,0.7745,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,1,4,7,6,0,1,14,0,12,14,4,2,4,44,23,19,0,4,10,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,18,10,0,3,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,3,3,26,2,22,15,9,18,0,3,1,2,26,5,0,6,12,120,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35271414424418995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181899098842806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412772944505673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626419621760754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19212503678897425,0.0,0.0,0.07759385244811147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311328261809655,0.0,0.0,0.10656424501313816,0.0,0.0,0.07946756887576949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29097311684685945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286013275196284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264879072102848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419357921115907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612251508546044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303123936903075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692056079466477,0.13133910295394965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207013183977628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927950996345874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525027595951513,0.0,0.0,0.09150572306866074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320708138562443,0.0,0.0,0.11522944870981422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154154993006503,0.0,0.1187975134472566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958762572652229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969612404637155,0.07993258973462629,0.0,0.11820983770641888,0.0,0.07015721444537401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168665145130112,0.0,0.11753122810849355,0.0,0.2894506153240067,0.2078287499147216,0.1325110518767436,0.0,0.07096548122337007,0.0,0.0,0.2930248962749237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ladym01,2019/01/23,Crying in my room I got a call at work that my daughter who is 13 cursed a teacher out and walked out of the office as if she didn’t care. When she came home today I told her to tell me the honest truth about what happened. She told me but mentioned nothing about the cursing. My daughter was not raised to curse any adult out but she has an extremely smart mouth. Never heard a curse word come out though. Anyway I took her phone away from her and told her to get in the shower and go to bed. She wouldn’t move. I asked her multiple times before I started to get upset and that’s when I had to raise my voice. She started crying and still wouldn’t move. Then she just got a ball of rage in her body out of nowhere and started throwing her PlayStation games that brought her. She had her fists balled as if she would hit me. I grabbed her arms and asked her to cut it out. She kept coming at me. I have never seen her act this way before. It took about 30 mins before she calmed down but I am extremely hurt. As a single mom I go above and beyond to do for her. I give her my last. It hurts that she would do this to me. I feel as though I could just die right now and she wouldn’t care. At this point I don’t know what to do. I have a conference with her teacher on Monday after school. I’m just literally in tears and extremely heart broken that my one and only child would even think to hit me ,1.896224489795916,3.462718921768708,2.6426585034013645,97.0618653061225,77.46938775510205,5.520326530612245,19.242993197278913,5.927762680638738,-0.3795103129251705,1089,22,255,6,25,340,147,294,0.124,0.7959999999999999,0.081,-0.9474,1,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,15,11,2,1,11,0,20,4,4,0,3,45,53,25,1,9,9,3,2,0,0,6,0,2,4,2,14,21,0,1,3,3,0,13,8,5,0,1,16,5,55,6,42,28,1,50,0,2,1,0,46,20,0,2,16,175,69,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728822487338102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038714235815336,0.0,0.100693851298593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27359249270188674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904656755243495,0.0,0.0,0.10943701753808706,0.12257893101209502,0.21854283192604484,0.0,0.0,0.18464246476143475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557001589781812,0.0,0.23545203220656905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123007841274214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078766251094658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054190583164833966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119883727560719,0.10281142431466203,0.12181933190018045,0.0,0.17143427313734666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477394400142056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700214790395445,0.0,0.0,0.1075046344769816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22946476563240256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058900232490586873,0.08736141828166417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552133021977638,0.0,0.2278187944988617,0.0,0.0,0.16531896693282933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283670130067757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262412876759053,0.08151094004814267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131442420362663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152632886070768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084661871354854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275757182736695,0.0,0.08558959263598236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936751258111174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867301063901098,0.21059655442881375,0.0,0.06249423870800594,0.0,0.1015887739330784,0.30722911847138884,0.2381493434837999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507002864687636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780242199075006,0.0,0.0,0.2284007985628936,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JSS35,2019/01/23,"Stopping nail biting... Has anyone here heard of or used [Mavala](https://www.amazon.com/Mavala-Stop-Biting-Sucking-0-3-Fluid/dp/B0000YUXI0%3Fpsc%3D1%26SubscriptionId%3D14H876SFAKFS0EHBYQ02%26tag%3Dhubpages-20%26linkCode%3Dxm2%26camp%3D2025%26creative%3D165953%26creativeASIN%3DB0000YUXI0)?

What is in it? Is it safe? Is there a more natural alternative (other than waiting for kids to grow out of a bad habit)?",22.083488372093026,29.711992697674425,9.991906976744186,38.7432093023256,40.62790697674419,7.1609302325581385,27.20465116279069,8.238735603445708,2.4185013953488377,358,8,31,4,5,81,37,43,0.122,0.7190000000000001,0.159,0.3722,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,7,6,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215748192090772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839997331405833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7689988786291678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972084657527989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ewrviuc,2019/01/23,Nanit floor stand Has anyone been able to find only the floor stand for the Nanit? ,1.9987500000000007,4.755171375000003,0.8049999999999997,103.54,85.25,3.2,8.0,3.1291,-2.39865,66,0,14,0,2,18,12,16,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0.5869465608633192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41040668254292495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5364585231955639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463993083615468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bebemill,2019/01/23,Online boutiques? What are some of your favorite online boutiques/retailers to get cute baby girl clothes? There are so many out there but some just don’t look legit and are selling the exact same things for twice the price as others.  ,4.756627906976743,7.4276278604651225,3.695523255813953,87.71444767441862,72.72093023255816,5.230232558139536,24.703488372093023,5.985473137389443,0.7486790697674417,190,6,32,1,4,55,36,43,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,5,6,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,0,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333964837274474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367818315216581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6480663638184913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4246678006390021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,s_elendur,2019/01/23,"Changing schools So I have a 4 year old that is currently attending daycare. I've been applying to charter schools in my area for kindergarden as I would like to avoid public school, and recently I got a call that one of the schools has an opening mid term. I took them with me to the school to see it, met with the teachers and the founder of the school, did the tour everything. Although I'm not in love with the school, I decided to enroll them anyways so that they would get used to the school environment. I would like to start  in February, but in the meantime I am still open to seeing other schools just in case they are accepted to one of the other schools. All of the schools I've applied to have lotteries and acceptance isn't guaranteed.  

The father is a bit concerned about the kid having stability. He's saying its not good to pull them in and out of schools, when my thought is although yes, I might switch schools by next September, where ever they go in September is where I plan to keep them until 8th grade. I don't think four months in one system will hurt the kid too much, and I'm hoping it helps get them ready for school where ever they goes in September. If no other school pans out, I will just keep them where they are enrolled. I'm just wondering you guys thoughts on this. I would like to take him out of daycare sooner rather than later. I'm regretting not enrolling them in preschool last year, but unfortunately our circumstances didn't allow for that at the time. I want to do whats best for my kid, but I'm hoping this won't be a major disruption. ",7.915673076923077,6.428054349358977,7.385461538461537,79.15953846153849,63.198717948717956,11.14051282051282,36.184615384615384,10.047579312681364,3.2690100000000006,1255,48,257,22,15,393,161,312,0.071,0.8029999999999999,0.126,0.9582,1,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,12,3,17,13,0,1,20,1,26,1,0,3,3,49,52,16,0,10,11,1,0,3,0,8,0,1,0,4,13,13,0,3,7,0,0,4,8,3,0,4,8,3,32,10,47,35,6,45,0,2,2,1,27,23,0,5,20,176,45,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06204514048903214,0.0,0.06454617060104119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037041454070567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254348772931125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069588968907656,0.0,0.0,0.0531352546569691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177785761266925,0.0,0.03360052992729911,0.04958892760758153,0.04728545408405456,0.0,0.0,0.058540310107056424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039628389415630835,0.0,0.0,0.11744344352457375,0.0,0.0,0.0632915778196022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510112202119888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04819251433540335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665241628848612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053360127445085996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627193507604155,0.0,0.0,0.04719080574990433,0.0,0.04346164710371027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628771700904985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203884261041519,0.0,0.12018827426006436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058376076769060065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047016376089911535,0.0,0.8975229079237391,0.09422553708465778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041847023857957945,0.0,0.04721509507517509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044452564592700375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037883142407389936,0.0,0.0938729047886391,0.03447465201521135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568698102408653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05106263047006452,0.0,0.0,0.03487182736099943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411554436074435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799496429833136,0.0,0.0,0.0761455648387075
parenting,pennynotrcutt,2019/01/23,"6 year old is talking about wanting to be skinny. I’m very worried. Hi all, my beautiful, healthy, happy 6 year old daughter has started talking about how she wants to be skinny. The other night she was running in circles and said “when I got tired I just ran some more, because I want to be skinny.”  I have no idea where this is coming from as we are a very body positive family and don’t discuss things like this. I’m at a loss and she’s mentioned it more than once now. Help me. ",1.8633333333333333,3.7222137171717233,3.241414141414144,91.41545454545457,78.49494949494951,5.612121212121212,25.141414141414145,6.42735559955562,0.7753111111111117,374,14,79,3,9,122,73,99,0.093,0.711,0.196,0.9014,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,3,0,10,5,4,1,1,13,20,6,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,4,1,10,2,10,13,4,14,0,1,0,0,12,3,0,1,9,51,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585066729728595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21109897318517207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370835177734175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915905770469576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199765844613794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023081813140027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738425623364805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21453952308203225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284718827864197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783458967615464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3988439570752254,0.202393468279374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18077787410621876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345159893789451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055045794743129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625854244185092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21843065475171555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31361676124153265,0.3362832951876385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19300158717449906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447676094210343
parenting,worriedguy1492,2019/01/23,"Is it wrong that this is disturbing to me? My gf (25) has a 3yo daughter that I help to take care of, I’m 37 and have a teenage son so I figured I got this no problem.. Now I have to care for a little girl who is potty training so changing a girls diapers and taking care of wiping is a part of life now. I’ve never cared for a little girl and never anticipated what it’s like and it weirds me out. Having to strip down a little girl and clean her vagina or go wipe her when she potty’s isn’t something I was conditioned for. I am an adult and a parent but it’s still just weird. It seems wrong to be touching her down there and, when you wipe the clitoris area she goes crazy. If you’ve ever had a kid you know a poop in a diaper can be an awful mess and with a girl it’s way worse- you have to clean it all up and with a little girl going crazy laughing, wiggling and bucking because you have to clean her clitoris area I feel just wrong. She also knows when it’s coming and holds her self open (her moms technique to get her to stay calm because she can participate) and that itself is weird to me..

I’ve been fine doing this I guess I just wonder am I weird for feeling strange? ",1.0526190476190465,2.8941479920634947,2.7399206349206366,94.12035714285715,80.98412698412699,5.152380952380953,19.62698412698413,5.985473137389443,-0.18693968253968274,922,23,209,6,24,304,129,252,0.165,0.7240000000000001,0.11,-0.9371,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,4,0,0,14,18,0,1,16,1,22,3,2,0,4,37,41,21,0,2,6,4,3,1,1,0,1,0,3,9,17,17,0,1,7,0,1,3,4,10,0,0,4,3,29,8,24,35,2,26,0,0,0,1,31,12,0,5,10,142,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945307713301232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441168108889089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820831064632654,0.0,0.12504822672624802,0.1018255920507022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692576377154604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195388768550396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061758720419028384,0.0,0.13436048538437506,0.0,0.09454161252963372,0.0,0.130219268676318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923222711674036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299278809568987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349369709008896,0.057750382396949025,0.4739012619803907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384435999718087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823383554470593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125582346001013,0.12800757739398466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131089438145986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761198295686723,0.12331656301805308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100217457014052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599383523681926,0.0944009381027026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775517731947876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938278856267481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819136602357598,0.0,0.0,0.1204638933319154,0.0,0.3877251673908117,0.0,0.0
parenting,chasingbliss,2019/01/23,"How to turn down play date from a pushy parent? I met a woman and her son at a park near our home. She seemed friendly. We exchanged numbers. Long story short my son (almost 3) does not like her son (3, nonverbal). Her son has pushed my son and doesn’t communicate. She is a recovering drug addict and to be honest not a friendship I want to cultivate (no judgement on her past just not someone whose company I enjoy). 
However she keeps messaging me “what u up to?” “Let’s get together”  etc.
I made the mistake of inviting her on a library outing. Not only did her kid hit his head and she demanded an ambulance...I had to walk home and pick her up from the hospital since she doesn’t drive. Plus she would ask me to buy her kid food when I bought food for my own. It’s my fault for being too generous. I don’t want any sort of relationship with her and my son is very adamant about how much he dislikes the kid. If my son liked the kid I would arrange play dates.

We keep running into them occasionally. Thankfully my son has been nice to her kid (we have lots of talks about being nice even if you don’t like someone). But then this woman will keep messaging me nonstop. If I don’t answer she will send “?” And another “u there?” “What u up to?”

Do I keep ignoring her? She doesn’t seem to get the hint. Or do I say my kid doesn’t want to play with her kid? I don’t want to be rude. I know she is a single mom living with her parents and has no job or car. 

TLDR:
Parent I met at a local park isn’t getting the hint neither my child or I want to spend time with them. Do I ignore constant texts and Facebook messages or be direct? (If so what to say?)",0.7828070175438597,2.8848947953216384,2.744239766081872,92.30828947368424,83.50292397660819,5.905263157894738,20.903508771929825,7.1686216300943375,0.5049789473684211,1268,39,283,18,36,424,171,342,0.105,0.807,0.08800000000000001,0.4991,5,0,1,0,1,0,44.0,4,1,2,0,11,17,1,0,15,0,32,5,1,4,0,57,55,24,0,12,14,12,0,3,1,4,2,2,2,10,6,18,2,6,4,3,4,6,16,5,0,0,7,2,57,12,37,37,6,26,0,0,0,0,66,12,0,13,11,186,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941977430228902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969308486755742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449407877531984,0.11486705572812488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240940577252347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183787871591381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586321037274324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703694822361095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217117650991235,0.07235316965412092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26492351012928,0.0,0.08463387978214505,0.0,0.1716975835737478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242435466225573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21976431431718696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870610421828218,0.3894730653620404,0.0,0.0,0.06020284273971585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201676684912994,0.0,0.1605538625272581,0.0,0.0967298813888641,0.09694351645496857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313089448067598,0.0,0.10365374130946314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829730179602974,0.0,0.0,0.08052787923496706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833135982284787,0.0,0.0,0.3649089159418943,0.0,0.10457270797176543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760989552765372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422851217762392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945056408671535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061641822665864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563355406176835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804779330377381,0.0,0.10085394222374312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387633233328276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915305920857085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038576056014637,0.3230611918283067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556346698598054,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kungfoojesus,2019/01/23,"Is it socially acceptable to invite an adult friend with a child your kid’s age to their 5yo birthday party at a random party place? I was under the impression that at 5yo it still doesn’t matter too much if you invite extra kids to your kids’ 5th birthday at a local bouncy house party place. To me I thought this was acceptable and the kids will be kids and run around playing with everyone but apparently not everyone feels this way. Any thoughts?

This is not a family party, it’s kids from their school, their class and other classes. ",6.862168284789648,7.07970183495146,6.800145631067963,76.88461974110034,64.63106796116503,9.973462783171524,29.788025889967642,9.725611199111238,2.658858899676376,431,13,78,8,6,137,66,103,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.924,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,3,0,3,5,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,17,10,5,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,8,6,0,0,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,1,9,5,12,4,2,12,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,2,2,54,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709418059448552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20564716865820848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4414783888580287,0.0,0.0,0.2177749185592405,0.0,0.11680519476435568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847713823012087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665536059190952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16981834544975913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4827109014653914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337936477850826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354847921497369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448424899282795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667910085351683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18336435381186128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,droptopx,2019/01/23,"Parents please read Hi parents Im pretty sure this is breaking the rules but I think its important that parents read this greentext;

https://www.reddit.com/r/greentext/comments/aiyp9m/anon_gets_bullied_by_parents/?st=JR9QRQ2V&sh=0ef97b00

As you can see by the amount of comments this is a real problem.  Please dont make your child feel like they did something wrong bc they fell in love. I know most parents don’t think it is a bog deal but it does affect the child growing up. I just think if more parents were able to see this it might help

Thanks",8.169807692307693,11.44966767032967,4.5363598901098925,82.79926510989013,64.6043956043956,5.429120879120879,25.660714285714285,5.985473137389443,0.609976923076923,462,13,75,2,8,121,65,91,0.071,0.659,0.27,0.9604,6,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,2,0,1,6,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,2,1,16,19,4,0,2,4,5,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,3,7,4,6,16,3,5,0,0,2,1,16,2,0,3,1,42,16,2,0.12565406308479996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361461248546677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295438215890339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996071737329692,0.0,0.14726562611275545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353446977783217,0.08976728777465005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422326981176832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572795047706718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06905618693376438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06138822819134631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340769779619572,0.0,0.08387506282889448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329910398603875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6976198344992995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758608561202976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12783535560834736,0.0,0.12023396842026067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513761337176001,0.14302183296581664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002600395843916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673463666477217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842746740266966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568537913269222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24154214980814315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373829924779427,0.0,0.0
parenting,mychippednailpolish,2019/01/23,"Book reccomendations for my 10 year old :) Hi everyone :) hope you're all well :)

So my 10 year old is a massive book lover. She is forever reading and I love that about her. She approached me the other day though and said that she didn't find the books she reads challenging anymore, she feels like she needs something different but she's worried about things not being age appropriate. She currently has a lot of Jaquelin Wilson. She's on the final Harry Potter book and has loved them. I bought her some Terry Pratchett for Christmas from the younger readers section. She has 3 boxes, a cupboard and a window ledge full of books. I'm just a bit stumped for books that are more challenging than that but not super age inappropriate if that makes sense. She's questioned my books before but I read Stephen King and Game of Thrones type of things and she's absolutely too young for those!! I'm open to any suggestions, I'm just a but stuck! Thanks :)",2.6981058792232,5.5285514469273735,2.896296887470072,89.47942271880821,82.01675977653629,5.867624368183027,24.16626762436818,7.2636822038024595,1.1374993881351425,755,28,144,11,21,230,112,179,0.058,0.767,0.175,0.9607,2,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,4,8,10,0,0,10,0,8,3,0,1,1,25,21,13,0,3,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,9,7,0,0,3,11,1,1,3,0,1,0,4,2,22,10,14,16,7,15,0,0,0,3,23,4,0,5,11,88,31,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028108511574827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082895288746205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379946306033302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704751643784788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458616200118206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943301721729428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496027794973816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199796820622418,0.1158542006354001,0.0,0.17764918587836845,0.14822033999036924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107129055305272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922801592698209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787103981923296,0.29272931152966425,0.0,0.1082496597388526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024691735922885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34034003580919986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166738926677076,0.0,0.486641321454087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426070034506548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484630295043725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930424497470565,0.0,0.0,0.21547693574694046,0.0,0.15933109191561826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581020544110454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469139352614642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088641822886517
parenting,branden-branden,2019/01/23,"My daughter says some foods hurt and others dont. But whike she complains that mashed potatoes may hurt for example, skittles dont seem too. My daugther was adopted about 9 months ago. We have been dealing with this issue for about 4 months now. We've tried 4 different medications for trying to help and gone to the doctor a bunch. My wife and I find it hard to believe her as her pain seems to be predetermined as you can see her face sadden when before she even takes a bite. Then an argument ensues. She walks away and cries in her room. I'd take her to the hospital (because if it's too painful to eat, then it's to painful to survive and that's a major issue). Doctors have found absolutely nothing wrong with her. We have a specialist appointment coming up that I hope yeilds something helpful. I'm trying to trust her and follow thru with her that it is a medical issue and not a psychological problem, but things like mashed potatoes for example didn't hurt before and now they do. Whereas things like cookies or skittles that, while they hurt, she pushes herself to eat. But she doesn't push herself when there is a dinner in front of her. And things that did seem to hurt before now dont seem to hurt. There is too much ambiguity and fluidity to her pain that it makes no sense. The only thing we can get her to eat is chicken noodle soup and I'm afraid she'll tell us that hurts eventually. I'm worried because when she came home, she was 112, now 9 months later she is 106. 

What can I be doing? Am I doing anything wrong? This will sound bad, but I'm honestly just tired of hearing about it every dinner. I have nothing more too add to this conversation. It's like the allegory of the man with a toothache: the first day of complaints are met with empathy, second day of compleints are met with nothing but a hollow empathy and by the third day, his complaints are met with annoyance. I love her dearly, but GOD I want to talk about something different and have dinners like we used to. I think it may be related to anxiety as she has had attacks and does this little breathing thing while eating occasionally. Plus when she had to take a pill (Lord, what a nightmare), she would stand there for half an hour psyching herself out. On that, a tiny vitamin D pill caused immense pain, but her other medication (bigger) didn't cause nearly any pain.

Sorry for the ramble, but I'm frustrated and scared. ",5.3961124542377545,6.3211430728051425,5.698437521585963,81.03916280997446,67.95074946466809,8.424093389514402,30.053809490916628,8.558390810932622,2.185286026110381,1913,70,366,28,31,610,229,467,0.183,0.722,0.095,-0.9932,2,0,2,0,0,0,51.0,5,1,2,2,23,32,3,2,22,0,41,26,2,4,0,62,70,37,0,5,12,2,1,4,0,5,15,3,2,1,30,31,8,0,7,0,0,8,8,23,0,4,14,5,48,9,54,48,5,41,1,7,1,1,53,10,0,11,26,250,78,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422187321900678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04159643871593872,0.0,0.04679346639249751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05033617458230466,0.0,0.0,0.0695875997584906,0.05746948931160949,0.0,0.05107284923643682,0.07457507150872526,0.0,0.1561487680955091,0.06891555719205412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699600668241254,0.0,0.1256730766792485,0.0,0.052690943976361634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719033920038983,0.11834518694619275,0.06306167550829665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781539299760364,0.0,0.12521638438646934,0.053528659202696935,0.0,0.21506584444243848,0.0,0.0,0.250361147390145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040400985378970286,0.0,0.051536803508196435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055906579830928435,0.05202959610493079,0.07396476830555082,0.06706771792588284,0.0,0.0,0.03195783311557348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05479464665847651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689409492412672,0.0,0.08199944151666216,0.0,0.06135664057284607,0.060753773499372735,0.060238305163521036,0.0,0.4583723786548932,0.0,0.0,0.19153096602861794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953467108645673,0.06130655452732928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520664243837674,0.0,0.04083021428944386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486142404217126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647149833524892,0.0,0.044965627451071716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760774654069582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046521133489919785,0.3905233378656248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852965744400356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0486433670199756,0.06123998779911271,0.0,0.04874309511113955,0.222740741339058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941804586731944,0.0,0.06847273464967034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797250623868526,0.049164640981471636,0.05346365812945034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318700036113305,0.03919407987694908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030378882499749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458747351766535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357775154742906,0.052829641106552826,0.0,0.0,0.036078558962827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211922425919824,0.0,0.043452097893742665,0.1337555367092269,0.0,0.0
parenting,kellyann03,2019/01/23,"Getting Kids Back Outside with New Playgrounds Hey everyone! I am not a parent yet, however, have lots of experience nannying. I have noticed that the kids I watch just aren't as excited to go to playgrounds or even play outside anymore and really want to improve that. I'm actually studying industrial design with an emphasis in childhood development and for my senior project am looking to improve the interaction between child and play equipment to encourage children to get back outside and play! I know this isn't exactly asking for advice on my kids, but I know you are all the experts on kids and would greatly appreciate your expertise on my project. If you are interested and willing, I have put together a survey you can fill out or I am open to any and all questions and insights on this thread! Thank you in advance!

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parenting,letmesleep18,2019/01/23,"Nap advice for 5 month old I’m having a really hard time getting my 5 month old to nap and am desperately looking for advice. He does well at night and I can lay him in his crib awake and he’ll put himself to sleep. During the day it’s a completely different story. I usually nurse him before his nap and he’s well asleep on me but when I get him in his crib, he wakes up and rolls around all over the place. He doesn’t cry or anything, but is just very active. I’ve tried reducing the time between his naps hoping that would help, but hasn’t. I’ve rocked him for an hour straight and he is calm but not even asleep. Again, any advice is greatly appreciated!",2.0869464720194664,3.839454817518252,3.418704379562044,90.88649939172753,77.46715328467154,6.610462287104625,20.905717761557177,7.492282038375204,0.5083922141119217,518,13,115,7,12,169,89,137,0.051,0.7759999999999999,0.173,0.9554,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,6,0,9,4,4,0,1,17,15,12,0,2,7,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,2,14,5,13,13,1,22,0,0,1,0,16,9,0,2,12,63,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4562399774837743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583384651697436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807036225805504,0.13854383912924634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324298046225325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631752632083157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095242443514136,0.10036857912138812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260039443991944,0.0,0.0,0.1361930029877032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279225380162388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262067183519255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158280233273868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941405570816245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431561662304907,0.0,0.0,0.15457586606797416,0.15326435964038224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306901390927499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484450200137631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604836376912586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266153490927955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260039443991944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564512975154706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970066651141514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574255561091288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18149839727845854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566266373787604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140463548505008,0.12841118203896407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27986041100458303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055520138950736,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,turtletreestar,2019/01/23,"I messed up I smoked weed while my kid (3 years old) was sleeping in the car on our way home and my boyfriend (his dad, we just didn’t get married) found out and is rightfully very upset with me. My son may have gotten contact high. He was already sick and acting grumpy and super tired, but when he woke up in the car in the garage he was screaming his head off, even though we got him out of the car fast, he was crying more than I’ve ever seen him cry for about an hour. He knew I didn’t want his dad to know I smoke weed sometimes and we’ve fought about it before in front of him. This has been a problem before, the main problem we’ve had in our relationship, and which caused our separation, being impulsive and relying too much on weed to escape my own dissatisfaction with myself. We’ve been pretty stable for the last eight months or so, things have been really nice, but then I go and fuck it up. I could have gotten pulled over, could have gotten in an accident, and knew that he would be really mad if he found out but did it anyway, just because I wanted to get high.  I was going to just wait and do it in a less stupid totally reckless way, which he would have been okay with, but I had just gotten it that day and literally had no impulse control. I’ve smoked in front of my kid before and I’m just so ashamed that I put him in the position of having to keep that kind of secret. I feel like a really terrible mom, terrible partner, and just a narcissistic piece of shit, that I can’t think outside of my own selfish desires and realize the risk that I was taking. How deluded I was and now I’m trying to talk my partner into not leaving me, but he doesn’t trust me at all anymore. I feel so sorry for my son who knows we’re fighting and knows his dad might leave because it’s happened before. He’s probably traumatized, and I don’t know what to do to remedy this situation. I just want to go back in time and not be such a shithead.",7.632729287891383,5.246781002493768,7.870403158769744,78.31482612912166,64.41147132169576,11.105624826821835,33.000969797727905,9.444778638647367,2.6193706289830985,1526,43,329,22,18,502,198,401,0.208,0.7190000000000001,0.073,-0.9964,0,0,3,0,2,0,37.0,5,0,0,2,22,22,6,3,15,1,39,6,3,3,3,76,73,33,0,11,16,6,2,1,2,4,2,1,1,4,19,27,0,3,13,0,0,11,8,16,0,1,29,4,42,6,47,35,9,52,0,0,1,1,40,25,2,4,15,222,61,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125591137144824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115621192578933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843140939415214,0.0,0.12435603956505352,0.0,0.34717664568018713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478170372225616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440124364237825,0.16287678874238307,0.0,0.22408357943084106,0.06578131473192765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736978503153777,0.0922644931433274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314814217757157,0.07286854674834528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236746305487116,0.0,0.09429700229464463,0.10658117998233924,0.0,0.1739061987291555,0.0,0.08157841153827453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019792443322087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468103390787868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215536391006037,0.10231393236763976,0.0,0.10044907646344192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906619461678286,0.0,0.10621690495685193,0.2242252878789328,0.0831433015432009,0.0,0.21600573359169092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049831860654950516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820547474602664,0.0,0.11946071863117835,0.08141512113736192,0.0,0.07498145470391804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703143983420804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377027998910723,0.10997283874204017,0.19519971619427684,0.0,0.1025377875444142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960306994534144,0.0,0.0,0.1095094163414908,0.0,0.08710711558130886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047011410522749,0.0,0.11465184309776748,0.10207327987980903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088022931299877,0.11418022037331288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669101795720967,0.08198342844871713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776401321467672,0.06535723599438302,0.10021410579885814,0.0,0.05947679691806323,0.11723355496443155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925104449619446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841603662694864,0.18048605043468852,0.16192509652880707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491520277594716,0.0,0.0,0.06568440914392297
parenting,staralfur92,2019/01/23,"18 month old son's foreskin starting to retract I just noticed when I was changing his diaper that the opening of his foreskin looked open than usual, like it had been stretched and it's a little red. I gently pulled it back and almost the entire head of penis came out. I didn't go any further because I was scared to hurt him, but is this normal? I thought this didn't start happening until 3 years or older. 

He has been obsessed with taking his penis out of his diaper playing with it lately, so I'm thinking he did this himself because I've caught him stretching his foreskin out really far. We havent left him with anyone else lately so I know nobody else forced it back. 

My concern is whether to continue to just leave it and clean the outside, or to start pulling back and cleaning it now that it's been pulled back before. I dont want him to get an infection now that it might have been exposed to bacteria. 

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parenting,bang__your__head,2019/01/23,"I hate fighting with my son I am emotional at the moment because this just happened.  My son is 9 and is ADHD and medicated ( very low dose ) for it.  He’s bright and the medicine has helped greatly.  He’s able to focus without losing any of his spark. 

We are sitting in the doctor’s office for a follow up and he is insisting that he doesn’t want to take it anymore.  When I gently asked why, and whether it’s because it makes him feel bad or anything like that he simply says he just doesn’t want to and he thinks it’s “annoying” to have to swallow a pill every day.   

I’ve tried repeatedly explaining to him the difference in his behaviors on and off the medicine and he just doesn’t get it.  He has been insisting that he doesn’t need it because he is focusing and remembering his belongings and not distracting others.  What he doesn’t grasp is that he is doing all this because of the medicine. 

When we have tried him off of it all of the prior issues return which always result in him being very frustrated and depressed because of the trouble he gets in at school.  

Of course none of this is computing to him now and he thinks that he is able to do all these things off medicine.   

Anyway, I finally had to get stern with him because nothing I was saying was getting through and he just kept getting rude with me.  

I finally told him, I’m sorry but this is non negotiable.  The medicine is a ‘must do’ and that we can see how you are without it again soon.  (We periodically pull him off to give him the opportunity to adjust on his own ). 

He just screamed at me to leave him alone, sat there and cried, and basically broke my heart.  He said I only want him medicated which really hurt because that’s actually the last thing I want.  He doesn’t see that I want him well, and happy, and successful.  

Anyway, I just don’t know how to communicate this with him and I don’t know how to make him understand.  

Sorry for the wall of text.  
If you stuck with me, thank you.  ",3.6375618073316263,5.087564644501279,4.703230179028137,84.55655029838023,72.6317135549872,7.975481670929241,27.099829497016195,8.548686976883017,1.8136618243819267,1540,55,317,27,30,504,177,391,0.104,0.802,0.093,-0.6573,0,1,0,0,3,1,34.0,4,3,0,3,18,22,5,1,15,0,35,7,1,6,4,68,70,28,0,8,13,2,1,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,29,28,1,1,10,0,0,2,12,14,1,0,9,8,42,8,47,59,5,33,0,5,3,0,56,16,0,2,15,215,71,4,0.19153157299693727,0.0,0.09345359324172403,0.0,0.11509186525840932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991844733623405,0.0,0.0,0.07968480600393121,0.0,0.0,0.06512401876770678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497392717201357,0.0,0.0,0.07880708251440982,0.0,0.08952808294515195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996043158664695,0.408645542085007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051942196536674,0.06176100978566426,0.0,0.08248293158414947,0.0,0.0,0.1000548641822583,0.0,0.0980203404250107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077236200883058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068680546946337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048422059093553516,0.0,0.0,0.2098134762288188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501683542918755,0.0918672686823488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558211769748732,0.0,0.0,0.08468536872922905,0.10194446048518396,0.0,0.09454888771522077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348291809496985,0.06418978803378156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025192551217182,0.0,0.0,0.09995460037195668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526074353575286,0.07806189768550996,0.0,0.10140214041390196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04678632596642949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713741915229057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784881224249414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929479096509665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100911724473988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188985496282538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283419600369888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061350015054029976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848396767839136,0.0,0.09109519310448863,0.1523135943616009,0.0,0.09692008862778212,0.15262586600220845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144039150492312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720039532476669,0.0,0.0,0.08816826966859909,0.0,0.0,0.12724506648500336,0.12272569827048127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915083129519072,0.0,0.13003736560227314,0.0,0.0,0.09969556110676203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803360653149176,0.2824257104138413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610494307072854,0.0,0.08641372689963941,0.0,0.0,0.1846296015489264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Floradee72,2019/01/23,"Special preschool vs traditional  So my son is almost 4 years old  and has been diagnosed with ADHD.  He qualifies in our city, to go to a special preschool, that would be five days a week, and it has teachers who have experience with special needs children.   


 This special preschool is only available to children who have “needs“ (hearing impaired, vision impaired, ADHD, autism, developmentally delayed, socially delayed etc. etc....).  

 Here’s my question:  would it stunt his progress if he went to a special-needs preschool?   


 If he’s surrounded all day, every day of the week, by kids who have ADHD, is that going to stunt his progress with him being able to self regulate and trying to learn How to handle his impulses?   


 Wouldn’t it be better for him to continue in the preschool we go to now, where he is surrounded mostly by “developmentally typical” children, so he has examples of expected behavior, so he has something to work towards? (Right now he has a special teacher come to the class for 45 minutes a day to work one on one with him).   

If that makes any sense. I’m trying my best to explain it. ",8.022632293080054,7.942333995024878,7.798055178652195,71.70012211668931,62.28358208955224,10.493170511080962,40.66078697421981,10.018931242160765,4.200199999999999,867,45,149,16,11,277,107,201,0.018000000000000002,0.845,0.13699999999999998,0.9748,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,0,6,8,7,0,0,8,0,19,1,0,2,1,29,30,10,0,9,4,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,11,9,0,2,3,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,2,1,11,7,28,22,5,26,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,6,13,99,22,5,0.13211846584142292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4763421642972238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229755906733456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984508730740741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865017883898156,0.11684804654349425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380835975393165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408219223189714,0.0,0.0,0.13409746175718645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946940267047992,0.0,0.0,0.11131550569410607,0.0,0.0,0.129237211138872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252579064267623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890711308090435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819010186585037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592833670882606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386361051824524,0.0,0.1790537834138382,0.10048204675848472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800291847374106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128284479455422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782837383934646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467813785460162,0.0,0.10171124972896456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939953164491867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119549280699615,0.0,0.0,0.12247514147326763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236763331177933,0.0,0.0,0.18770633493955446,0.0,0.0,0.08507996032782254
parenting,Alphalfalfa,2019/01/23,"I know he didn't learn this at home... So ok, sometimes I'm lazy and let my kids (6 & 8 years old) play games on an old phone or tablet of mine while I'm doing household chores like dishes and whatnot.

Today my 8 year old was playing some racing game that I downloaded for him last night. He told me that this game was rated T, I read about it and saw that it was a game about driving though traffic and the intent was to crash and rack up points. I didn't see a problem with it and I just reiterated that he knows it's fake and that behavior is not alright in real life. No problem, he understood.

As I was doing dishes in the kitchen, I was just keeping one ear fixed on my kids and listening to them talk and laugh in the living room. One thing I didn't realize about this game is that the cops start chasing you while your driving around. At this point I'm thinking it's getting very borderline acceptable for his age but decide to let it go and I was just going to keep cleaning.

A few more minutes pass and I hear him say ""why do the cops keep chasing me?! I'm not black!"". At this point I am blown away and dumbfounded. MY WIFE AND I NEVER TEACH ANYTHING REMOTELY CLOSE TO THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR! I go to him and immediately start questing what he said and he verified that I heard him correctly. I snatch the phone away, delete that game and tell him he's lost game privileges and send him to his room. Hen I get paper and a pencil and now I'm having him write 100 line of ""I will not be racist, hateful or rude"".

My wife and I take a lot of pride in being equal and fair to everyone regardless of their gender or race so I can't imagine him picking this stuff up at home because it's not possible. Obviously he learned it at school and I have no clue how I can prevent that from happening again. I guess I should just keep teaching him good morals and hope that it carries on through his life. I don't know. I'm just ranting. Thanks for reading. ",3.438870303654141,4.4579541119403,4.28735117515869,89.01425373134329,72.55721393034827,7.534877337450677,26.54863612969635,7.873277556716777,1.317737931034482,1531,51,336,20,29,493,208,402,0.045,0.8420000000000001,0.113,0.9776,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,2,2,2,15,18,2,0,12,2,27,6,1,3,3,71,63,34,0,5,13,2,0,1,0,2,2,6,7,2,29,26,3,5,11,11,0,7,12,6,0,2,16,9,48,12,40,41,5,46,1,1,3,0,47,23,0,7,17,210,77,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108399870075863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436797527383036,0.09126751098310901,0.0,0.0,0.19264811017029548,0.0,0.0,0.062497277964623926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796544724346028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712842986076808,0.0,0.17479913448130532,0.08599171545226995,0.0,0.0,0.11294102028232172,0.0,0.09066105313182216,0.0,0.0,0.10122057518710124,0.0,0.0,0.11555125810029958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20567854342093567,0.10182881204065246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645098296975257,0.0,0.0,0.16903244336520598,0.0835702076974509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096741276292806,0.14483053748270205,0.050087726462495735,0.0,0.09052998968989344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119163392026009,0.08716167947370994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790723220538893,0.0,0.0,0.0962112117589642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227430048271918,0.0,0.1389449403256264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907530912380501,0.11557966418668468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620198527193536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051021734264974,0.11669400891368965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752317627034356,0.08153067689454238,0.0,0.10375909601007016,0.08169783018338969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139820718898547,0.0,0.14513309892862886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736469859989004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708479432805318,0.08240437913869045,0.08960992019245864,0.09438971927398322,0.0,0.0,0.06811195314177948,0.06569281812490829,0.10072866340860093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718014089405673,0.09796544724346028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459249462664226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251137006696364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204334234405618
parenting,drbzy,2019/01/23,"Organizing a a kid’s closet? Any ideas? I’m losing my mind. Have a 5 (6 next month) year old stepdaughter. She is usually a good cleaner but because of some ADHD-related behaviors, is absolutely horrible with organization. So when I ask her to pick up, she will do it. But that usually results in her picking her stuff off the ground and putting them out of sight: dirty socks will end up back in the underwear drawer, toys pushed under the bed, etc. To help her organizational skills, we’ve Done a couple of things: an art kit to teach her how to keep her markers organized, a bookcase for all her books, those boxes/bins for toys. Some tricks work better than others (she keeps all her books on the shelf, but will throw any and everything in the bins). 

I’ve grown tired of cleaning her closet every weekend because everything is just thrown in there - no rhyme or reason. This is partly our fault though because we haven’t created a good organizational plan for her. She just has three big tote boxes in the closet and more toys than what will fit in there. Some of the toys are too big so they literally just get thrown inside the door when she cleans. I recognized this is our failing, and want to model good cleaning and organizational skills for her now since she is really quick to help clean and likes to help out with household chores (I know I am blessed haha). 

Do you have any techniques for consistently keeping toys organized? Any specific types of furniture, especially for bigger toys (think, Barbie houses, cars, and big stupid stuffed animals)? 

TL;DR - how do you keep your kids closets and toys organized? ",6.318478260869561,7.529037595317727,6.302707357859532,76.50289046822745,66.02341137123746,9.592040133779264,30.000167224080272,9.766711354998122,2.764840668896321,1287,45,234,27,20,407,174,299,0.094,0.769,0.138,0.9305,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,3,3,2,10,17,12,2,0,16,1,20,1,0,6,2,43,30,19,0,1,7,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,11,2,9,13,0,4,4,11,0,5,2,5,0,1,1,1,30,7,36,25,8,37,1,2,1,0,34,19,0,4,14,149,39,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444921942210673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270400509058523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123981188427696,0.0,0.0,0.09244887181669677,0.0,0.21987190432100456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633300115532067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303137814882185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303626528818737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648742942445197,0.0,0.1340873947362203,0.0,0.0,0.10129832843350607,0.0,0.2161085946551501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628148207610447,0.0,0.0,0.3025277715778725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417613955276988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872841202492553,0.0,0.13572418871246794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274611258252759,0.0,0.0,0.06607485144442328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058737938456841075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450577711760178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139726882986825,0.0,0.09596584016670756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278651711737704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616037296821747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019656131964275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208636036287782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702193609208709,0.12361569298670567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945487788074604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763372646845726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987497126292484,0.07703804865183035,0.11812462752855107,0.0,0.0,0.1381858362515987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648310656720729,0.0,0.0709143265868792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752832580548865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742369502485012
parenting,BlantantlyAnonymous,2019/01/23,"He never knew I was gone. My baby monitor has wifi, so I can listen to it through my phone from anywhere. So today I took my extremely annoying dog on a walk to the park in the pouring, freezing rain while my 14 month old was asleep alone in a locked house. I was gone for 30 minutes, and I feel like I should go to fucking jail. But he never knew I was gone. I just needed to tell someone.",2.635040650406502,3.5459230731707336,4.130243902439022,89.79260162601628,74.3658536585366,6.930081300813008,25.861788617886177,7.1686216300943375,1.0278715447154472,300,10,67,3,6,100,57,82,0.083,0.884,0.033,-0.4391,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,4,0,7,2,1,0,2,10,18,5,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,6,2,2,0,0,10,3,12,1,10,7,0,15,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,7,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887140404053876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095077436743655,0.1991480965993066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577115828431884,0.0,0.0,0.1584272410579696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216546767506795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618935250222525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225056918577258,0.0,0.0,0.2066989766679844,0.4299978897796444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925145137431983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361946931616196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24365084763679515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642344023010612,0.0,0.3097155669743849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tercesmuidem,2019/01/23,"What are good rules for court-ordered access visits by a mentally-ill grandparent? Hi r/parenting, thanks for reading!

I am in the midst of a court case: my mentally-ill parent is seeking access to my ten-year-old special needs kid.  The outcome is not yet final, but is likely to be that the grandparent is granted ""access visits"".  And yes, **of course** I am asking that any visits be supervised, although I prefer they just not happen at all!

My lawyer has asked me to come up with a list of rules to be followed during these visits.  I've made a draft based on some stuff I've found online and also some specific behaviours I've observed in my parent and my kid... but I feel completely at a loss to imagine *in advance* the million potential weird behaviours that could take place. I don't know how to come up with comprehensive rules for a person who quite honestly shouldn't be allowed around children ever. :-(

This is my rough draft... would love to hear your advice/ suggestions/ thoughts about how I can best protect my babe!


1. Must have current standard first aid certificate
2. No meeting with additional people without my prior consent
3. No asking child to keep secrets
4. No judgemental talk towards child or anyone else (including no negative talk towards me or child's other parent)
5. Respect child's need for reduced stimulation when she asks or shows signs of needing a break ('sleepy', trying to lie her head down, crying, etc)
6. Respect child's boundaries (if she says ""no"" you must STOP)
7. No roughhousing, aggressive play, inappropriate touching, or physically restraining child
8. No engaging in or encouraging any legal/ social rule breaking (including trespassing)
9. No instructions, advice or discussions about health related topics. No offering or administering any medicine or product without prior permission
10. Act and encourage child to act in accordance with my values.


I'd be happy to share more details if it will help- just ask!",4.689983626688496,7.615505071633244,5.204301268931643,75.51056160458451,74.21489971346705,8.229259107654523,30.888334015554648,9.002800196639251,3.2610194187474417,1566,73,245,37,35,500,221,349,0.109,0.7090000000000001,0.181,0.9875,9,0,0,0,0,0,71.0,0,2,1,5,11,18,1,0,11,1,23,3,1,5,4,59,45,21,0,11,18,3,3,1,0,5,1,2,0,12,10,12,0,4,7,3,0,10,16,3,0,2,3,5,23,15,42,31,6,36,0,1,0,1,47,15,0,12,10,154,33,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625751557294813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030542526500667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20486607843916865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702156382488989,0.1028916286280128,0.0,0.08939463113930349,0.469393310645545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538405331851568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17300498784541266,0.10528791866347853,0.0,0.0,0.0801767869566797,0.0,0.11030608810033377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838875935345313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199426961783053,0.0,0.09083517261773788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05077510849890951,0.0,0.0,0.11000463651771816,0.0,0.08541676199399185,0.0,0.11010478128644192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422709900913478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880061827170865,0.10689840826465656,0.0,0.0,0.10305936185065473,0.1067412159187927,0.1131800570026552,0.0,0.06730906353321868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892574515878143,0.0,0.0,0.055187922341114116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04905988761487982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063250516371674,0.09501934402806546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337932545665687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537335633288987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4460158136086592,0.0,0.0,0.06961822637877599,0.08768242027702887,0.10491698783156801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680848236633747,0.10044665917713302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985760440946202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236501805735423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395518531027818,0.0,0.0,0.11495628430202755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550295478837707,0.16142675521697697,0.0,0.09245276930365456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972185352016928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817823808990812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360159865661766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133512042730834,0.0,0.0,0.06466685546750722
parenting,Lizziloo87,2019/01/23,"Nutrition and meal advice wanted :) I need help when it comes to meals for a 22 month old. He’s not too picky but lately is starting to refuse veggies. 

I tried hiding them in stuff he likes but he picks them out. 

I’m going to try smoothies later.

But I’d love to know how often people give their kids treats too. And carbs. What’s ok? What’s not? I just feel like all he ever wants is carbs and refuses to eat the good stuff. 

Are there any good resources for food planning you use? 

My child is already prone to be bigger (in the 90th percentile somewhere and always has been)  and I’m not the healthiest eater myself so I feel like my bad habits will eventually fail him. I am working on changing those. 

Thanks for the advice and tips! ",1.108843537414966,3.615679918367349,1.9637074829932004,95.5295068027211,86.55102040816327,4.355102040816326,17.69047619047619,5.82211442006289,-0.4171523809523814,576,14,120,4,18,179,102,147,0.12,0.7140000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.8443,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,3,3,9,11,0,0,5,1,9,5,0,3,2,29,24,12,0,3,7,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,8,4,2,3,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,2,13,9,13,21,1,14,0,1,0,1,16,5,0,1,10,68,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168075412869602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888310497300408,0.0,0.13488148556745885,0.0,0.0,0.1102346211030244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534803358233713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17148195907488212,0.13963614251835674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587036699187446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663014364260488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639268410705941,0.2316107770762833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19601385264770693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555025894684211,0.09212605352015138,0.2719261992990948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865326029443567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908677934998799,0.0,0.18285762298715175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375839059061292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630298889584328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938792053522286,0.0,0.0,0.12019625450718745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700983212771244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123808128490297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473632016931633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711350128823304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924133958770344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201126404304488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000370344584656,0.0,0.0,0.1912234027710854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801186801707968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,floridamom2018,2019/01/23,"My Childs Best Friend Is Not Allowed To Be Friends Anymore! So my daughter has a best friend for like 2 years now and Ive known the mother and we were like pals. Recently she began picking up her kid from class early everyday and then tells my child when she picks up her kid that ""they have plans"" and did this every day after school for a month. It upset me how she would tell my child she couldnt play with her child instead of telling me directly so theres that and the fact that I sent this mom a nice text message asking if my child could play with hers and she completely didnt reply and ignored me. Its been a week now since I sent the message and I think this is absolutely out of character of this other mom to act this way towards me and my child. Even worse its caused my child to feel rejected and hurt which is upsetting.

Parents what would you do about this? This has been going on a month and a half now. ",3.4979559270516734,4.733396835106383,3.7694832826747735,91.955,72.67021276595744,7.073556231003039,24.06686930091185,7.447530270364453,0.7904699088145901,727,20,160,8,14,225,112,188,0.095,0.769,0.136,0.8549,2,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,1,3,11,15,0,2,9,0,18,0,0,5,1,31,25,17,0,5,2,5,1,2,4,2,0,0,0,9,16,15,0,1,3,2,0,4,3,5,0,1,8,1,27,10,18,12,2,25,0,2,0,0,38,5,0,1,17,114,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518544402559072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314704390603164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213811395529805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729698319937716,0.0,0.0,0.16054398277393397,0.0,0.0,0.12225429913933206,0.0,0.0,0.09875008699656376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113467874449704,0.0,0.12901066687924828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742235051913071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549016698336221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702193687133565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391871501496216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961393200882914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586658736017997,0.2444387233035368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002224947991254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118806990201925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496617067827978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266629007428445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40150232763199417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811346529940576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153996491488267,0.12282406861534235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604292126238978,0.2175448900583278,0.0,0.0,0.09860461353977876
parenting,coreenis,2019/01/23,"Nature or Nurture? TL;DR: mom and grandma treat first born/daughters like garbage, other kids like gold. How do I stop this disgusting tradition? 


So I’m having my first born in a couple months,  (a girl!) and while I’m so excited it’s a girl and so excited to meet her, and I’m a mature parent (I’m 35) I’m still nervous of repeating the mistakes of my mom and grandma (and probably her mom, etc) 
I’m the third born, and my whole life I’ve noticed that my mom is SO HARD on her first born/my sister.  It’s hard to watch. My mom has no problem complaining about that sister to me and my other siblings, she’s frequently joked that she’s not sure they are related because they are ‘so different’. It’s true though, my sister is very different from my mom, but in a lot of way I would say are good ways, she’s refused to make any of the same mistakes as my mom did.  My mom always praises me for being like her, though I see just as many differences if not more than her and my sister share... even if my sister and I do the same thing... I’m not as wrong as she would be, etc. (Eg: how we choose our diets, how we dress, how we clean the house, etc etc etc) 

I’ve also spent all of my adult life really disliking my mom’s mom because of the way she treated my mom. My grandma had 4 kids but the oldest was my mom and she was treated like a workhorse and berated no matter how hard she worked. I’ve seen and heard the things my grandma has said to my mom and they are burned into my memory as things you wouldn’t say to any human or animal and in a tone of complete disgust. Grandma didn’t know I heard her voicemails to my mom when I was younger, I didn’t know a person could have that much hate in their voice for anyone, let alone their own child.  My grandma had some pretty serious issues, apparently, and I think she took most of everything out on my mom. My mom’s Dad favoured my mom, maybe it came down to jealousy early on, maybe it was because she was so young when she had her, maybe it was the way she was raised? 

Meanwhile my mom did a pretty great job of raising many kids, we had the necessities and she worked dual jobs and thankfully we are all basically  successful/thriving adults today. Yet still, I see my sister get the cold shoulder some days, and my mom doesn’t hesitate to complain about her. I feel like we all treat my mom with the same amount of love and respect. 

My mom would spend her life trying so hard to get grandmas approval, buy her anything she could (with what little we had), cleaned her house when she had a family at home... I even watched my mom get yelled at by grandma on her deathbed, even while my mom wiped her butt when the nurses were busy so my grandma could be comfortable (grandma had no trouble asking for this from my mom) and my mom constantly doted on her around the clock: she still communicated she disliked my mom to the point I swear I wanted to hold a pillow over her head... only to see grandma smile and perk up and attempt looking healthy when her other children made short visits. 

My mom finally cried in the car later that she didn’t get a smile out of my grandma that whole last week before she died, and admitted that seeing her smile at her other kids was a breaking point for her.

So, how do I give my first born my unconditional love and acceptance and not repeat this horrible tradition? I’ve always thought I would rather forgo having babies than risk being a super villain in some way to my daughter.  Now with the baby being born in about 10 weeks I’m getting anxious, can I be a caring mother, or are we all somewhat prone to being hard on the first  born/girl? I’m debating seeing a therapist about this. ",5.499972584609567,5.381199502710029,5.925439591605219,83.14891378332389,67.52303523035229,8.870536333270309,29.62891535892103,8.428315365350997,1.9540765992311084,2875,92,593,37,43,927,294,738,0.113,0.738,0.149,0.9904,6,1,0,0,0,0,87.0,9,1,5,11,38,42,4,2,34,0,55,9,3,8,6,102,98,63,1,15,13,37,6,5,0,5,3,7,4,12,25,42,1,3,8,1,3,4,12,14,0,6,30,23,111,28,70,52,24,75,1,0,9,3,118,27,1,11,43,399,136,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0291389969635761,0.0,0.022499257495343667,0.04682054038254987,0.0,0.0,0.038265033241555765,0.0,0.0,0.031784129416027235,0.0,0.019672390999095804,0.0,0.023152407430814544,0.02504579009534107,0.026302085887609256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051451837195007316,0.0,0.023940502225066503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03217852736009408,0.028685135522150962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029498629580019912,0.030403545491190124,0.0,0.06738965028582114,0.03113043856821117,0.030904575516330995,0.018144512095531057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0291993093096616,0.08818411646791584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688777575233873,0.055747983345706686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025285595863137268,0.0,0.02652283001926476,0.0,0.01422571683919322,0.020099388910775208,0.0,0.03082011750172905,0.0,0.11965653106121732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349592803163092,0.02698930560842596,0.0,0.023597997052362304,0.0,0.031018534481256424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260155340559537,0.0277771273935038,0.028874252417340537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028221332926399306,0.0,0.0,0.06492718286923466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029365249398398168,0.05583856810980122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030924119293016812,0.022933482656295745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028769570532051706,0.0596169743556145,0.06872580778305097,0.02819829556724308,0.0,0.0,0.02362600756425096,0.0,0.0,0.02391906062673227,0.050785213188207834,0.026621671963894963,0.01878008737376301,0.05704820809716438,0.08479506741913029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8896755028444184,0.022456797287436957,0.0,0.02068219398411356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032031468494653235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02139765776083773,0.0,0.0,0.031240182728193656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02456607813379533,0.0,0.0,0.053192648105030285,0.0,0.0,0.05724607688648504,0.03033389513217412,0.026921046090100667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01802376765004324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026762480711783814,0.04474758208777487,0.0,0.0,0.11209830770977686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740506771358229,0.02352181469846907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02651656058741484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02590259195883926,0.0,0.032666479785279534,0.056074204160835465,0.01802753812177888,0.05528427220466185,0.02233575757101384,0.0,0.0,0.026668344343461613,0.0,0.03125861476278395,0.019101570402020124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023214020424554557,0.0165945367035834,0.11165981876883037,0.04513581438547926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282263060482657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04096469881591268,0.0,0.0,0.0799441501073646,0.030760806792695158,0.0,0.0
parenting,ffbrittney,2019/01/23,"Help. Seriously. I’m not sure if this is like something super serious that I should take more action to or not but my mom is seriously controlling. Like not even in a discrete manipulative way, she’s so blatant about it. Anyways I have 4 siblings, me being the oldest and 3 brothers and 1 sister. We all went through emotional abuse. Not that saying of “i hit my kids when they misbehave severely” or that african mindset (i’m african and this is the only way i can describe it idk) of punishing children so they grow up “okay” honestly it wasn’t even bad for the rest, i paved way for all my siblings in terms of who gets the blame and who gets belittled and bullied. I’m now with my dad who also experienced SEVERE financial and emotional abuse. He doesn’t even want to date or anything anymore because he’s afraid all she will want is money and legal problems like my mom did. Not saying he’s an angel as he did his fair share of shit but she is the worst. Anyways I had a childhood that most people cannot or will not endure, it was the worst and everything was physical me and her, verbal and just overall bad, my brothers and sisters KNOW not to do what i did and rebel because they aren’t as strong in the sense of not crying or anything of a such. I ran away 16 times, lived in the shelter for 1 month until my dad had to come pick me up and take me to his apartment that he just moved in from the shelter because of who? my mom again. i lost the weight i gained, look so much healthier and started looking how i want to. i don’t think i have mental health issues and idk why i don’t from the shit and bullying i’ve been through. i make myself laugh a lot and the people around me so i have tons of friends literally lol and i’m happy with life. but it’s not about me, more so my younger brother, the 4th born. he is just like me, very open and funny and nice to everyone, extroverted and literally my twin, just like my dad. my mom passes down the hatred and love she has for my dad onto me, then when i left onto him since he showed rebellion a bit towards my mom, she bullies him (he’s been receiving it since 7 yrs old, he’s 10 now) switches his schools everywhere to benefit her plane on finding her dream house, so he doesn’t even have solid friends, he cant even speak for himself anymore. my dad asked him when he had the day off to go school shopping what colour pants he wanted and he instantly freaked out saying “i’m sorry i don’t know please i don’t know” and he looked st his feet the whole time. she picks out hand me downs for him all the time, screams, cussed him out and makes my siblings bully him and the last born also. they love when i come over because i’m the only one who really protects them from all this and i’m always prepared to argue back with ANYONE. she loves me but hates that i don’t fall under her control, she hates my dad for not doing the same and leaving. she is super religious also. I’m just afraid my brothers mental health is seriously damaged as he can’t even pick out what to wear, he barely eats and he never asks for anything in terms of toys and stuff. he cries all the time, i get so angry. and some of my anger issues come from that, idc if it’s done to me, just don’t do it to them. my dad been through even more hell and she wonders why she has no friends, her siblings ditched her and she only has us. so my question is, any tips to fix this or do something? i recently fell out of contact because she drained my dad of all his money, mind you he was born in nigeria, doesn’t have a degree here so the work is not high paying at all. she threatens with child support even tho he pays for groceries, bus fare for all the children since she refuses to drive her car, gets them uniforms for school, supplies, money for haircuts and MANY more, Yet HE CANT SEE THEM? like he literally has not seen them in months almost a year because she’s not ready for him to, yet demands loads of cash and he agrees because he doesn’t want to be a deadbeat, which he isn’t. he put his foot down and stopped, which means we had no contact for 2 weeks now. i honestly don’t care but any tips? 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parenting,Skrait,2019/01/23,"Why have kids? Don't you care that they'll die? 

I mean, parenting is a lot about keeping your kids from dying, but like, they're gonna die regardless. The only way to keep them from dying is not having them, the way to succeed as a parent is not to be a parent. ",2.5596428571428578,3.295281392857145,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142859,74.35714285714286,7.028571428571429,21.142857142857142,7.1686216300943375,0.3972285714285717,202,4,46,2,4,68,40,56,0.165,0.71,0.125,-0.3451,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,3,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,13,2,4,1,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,7,10,1,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,30,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412431277980566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6682647980369506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28616320621163005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864404868451855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368548314742831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534850901686666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242842193940695,0.0,0.0,0.5362296633482179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555482578271291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525452052341534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mjcollins79,2019/01/23,"I want children one day but I’m schizophrenic I(female) have always wanted to be a mother one day when I’m older. The problem is that I’ve suffered from schizophrenia my entire life and it easily gets passed down in genetics. The chances of a child being born with schizophrenia when one parent has it is 25-50% I think. It’s an awful mental disorder to live with and while I’ve learned to cope I would feel horrible bringing a child Into this world to go through all I have to go through. I really don’t know if I should not try to have children or not because of the reason I’ve listed above, I would feel almost guilty bringing someone to this world who would go through that.  ",7.192412698412696,6.3586625481481525,6.878095238095237,80.10000000000005,64.25925925925927,9.492063492063492,34.1005291005291,8.418075326091056,2.587719576719577,544,20,105,6,7,171,84,135,0.17,0.7829999999999999,0.047,-0.9636,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,7,1,13,2,0,1,1,25,27,8,0,8,5,2,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,8,5,0,0,6,0,0,6,3,2,0,3,0,2,8,0,18,21,1,18,0,1,0,0,7,5,0,3,7,68,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19230558742735987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979704109210094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706900825061785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477066109221009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22010050645911544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942077079626692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033572219213258,0.0,0.32743124153944786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554305270780212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564724688570595,0.0,0.0,0.16957948338059686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19353645297315306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904045158871482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132435346689193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18376137794024652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230291114231512,0.19745451280176146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271932594100558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305484842754948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038612564125368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22654654063029234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4092703288578715,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Touchit88,2019/01/23,"Baby proof light switch https://www.amazon.com/ILIVABLE-Optional-Protects-Circuits-Accidentally/dp/B07KVR3BPP/ref=sr_1_6?s=hi&ie=UTF8&qid=1548264765&sr=1-6&keywords=light+switch+child+proof

I'm looking for something exactly like this, but for a reasonable price, since i need 6-7 of these. Please let me know if someone has some good examples.",26.276999999999994,34.91242177142857,12.771071428571432,19.085178571428607,31.285714285714285,8.071428571428571,28.75,8.841846274778883,2.8708571428571434,322,7,27,4,4,74,33,35,0.0,0.7659999999999999,0.234,0.8201,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,8,6,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8405583397207619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626720644190462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658723099620686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983221466005612,0.0,0.09475184699894934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286515401831392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380793690728685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289363125644215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994080067544704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604335054962778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643291712400784,0.14930851993626226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UpsettingTree,2019/01/23,"Crib question So, about 2-3 months ago I transitioned my daughter from a bassinet to a pack n’ play in preparation for a full sized crib. She’s seven months old now, and I have the crib set up. The problem is not that she won’t sleep in it, but she rolls around a lot so she hits her head on the wood slats sometimes. I know crib bumpers are not safe for sleep, and the crib mesh things just don’t do much and also aren’t certified as safe, so is there anything I can do to cushion the crib slats a bit? Maybe like a sleeve type solution? Any input would be greatly appreciated, thank you for reading. ",3.4008943089430868,4.501996406504071,3.7465040650406496,92.5438211382114,72.73983739837401,7.092682926829268,25.861788617886177,7.3871296695380915,0.9337252032520325,470,15,107,5,9,146,84,123,0.065,0.8009999999999999,0.135,0.8673,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,9,7,0,0,11,0,12,3,3,0,0,15,15,9,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,11,6,13,11,4,12,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,6,67,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392048061281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659234666063505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109503317076444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074019895982792,0.1847031759769862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22651686078696695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287498941351205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293662947514785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402680901597677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136533861213397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763939746889973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084437903519417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312206774449125,0.0,0.15252331431734262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217717701051986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19853247569895469,0.0,0.0,0.2324275852721081,0.0,0.20753838043566106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152641479679557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520523354300976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910217638422001,0.0,0.0,0.13784197609607896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738942522278295,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lubadubdub124,2019/01/23,"Howwww do you guys do it?! I mean seriously! I'm a first time mom.. of a 4 year old boy. He's my everything! Love him with everything I have! But I'm seriously have lost all patience that I have ever had! He does not listen, rebels, continuously does what I tell him NOT to do, and just proceeds doing whatever the fuck he wants! This angers me so badly that he doesn't listen to a word I say! I'm almost ready to send him to live with his father (his father and I are not together). I can't handle this and I need advice. When he gets in trouble he just screams and cries for minutes on end which feel like they're never ending. He kicks me and hits me when he gets in trouble as well. WHAT DO I DO? HOW DO PARENTS HANDLE THIS?!",0.33999999999999986,2.471174111111111,2.573594771241829,92.64117647058826,85.66666666666667,5.430065359477124,18.15032679738562,6.794906146795322,-0.012422222222222334,561,14,127,7,17,190,92,153,0.17600000000000002,0.7440000000000001,0.079,-0.936,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,2,8,13,3,0,4,0,14,2,0,1,3,23,29,11,0,2,6,4,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,9,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,10,1,1,2,5,19,3,12,26,1,16,0,1,0,2,26,3,1,1,13,78,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580045372879846,0.0,0.0,0.1801482245637161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021262194969653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976164864869046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148710271113056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31868372046242593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273378896204851,0.0,0.0,0.32337286823826444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096504749057006,0.12852370727377666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302655259596468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631867740640469,0.18798520058662954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813359613204974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789218061179363,0.0,0.1588588416079499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19638685548985946,0.0,0.16237070446799526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19596858353953286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070180643361355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339679979224925,0.13875332945204036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18877935757179035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997624961615212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306716405629902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724433601635565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049036762470168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611224983521332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175562093443502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585250632785868
parenting,Psykogummibear,2019/01/23,"To the mom/dad pooping with the door open Hi ! I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. I too have a little crotch goblin that is morally affronted by the idea of pooping in solitude.

So he sits with me, wether in solidarity, or because he knows I hold him and rub his tummy when he’s having a tough poop and feels this is an activity we do together .

I also know the feeling of them crawling out the room , and suddenly there’s a sound - it’s never an alarming sound - but a sound that makes you go “what are they doing” and suddenly you poop with a speed you never knew possible.

I see you, I know you , and when we pass in the grocery store just know I have experienced what you have and we share a bond .

Hang in there - I hear this gets better.",3.4007142857142867,4.345254785714288,4.658311688311688,86.60032467532469,72.57142857142857,7.677922077922077,25.038961038961038,8.00094639256281,1.2060597402597404,583,17,127,8,11,193,91,154,0.009000000000000001,0.897,0.094,0.848,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,8,2,1,9,4,0,1,14,0,10,5,5,1,2,33,24,12,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,8,14,0,1,9,0,1,3,3,2,0,0,1,9,24,2,13,23,0,19,1,0,1,0,21,8,0,1,7,89,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22063618436497476,0.0,0.1703610570749192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986190581033075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840887683951654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21543005664742412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130006394888432,0.0,0.12107059953655162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401017625788467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24048641228434975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5853821679403798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21351333223066266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220004982901055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494996888800256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286057496641278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24016078704574695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975836826348073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565138272123366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chemical_Spider,2019/01/23,"Keeping a clean room At what age should I reasonably expect my child to be able to clean their own room with minimal direction? Not a deep clean, not anything drastic; just picking up and putting away toys. 
When can I say ""please clean your room"" and expect them to put things away?",7.220880503144658,7.26419473584906,5.771698113207545,85.14861635220126,63.9056603773585,9.330817610062894,32.76100628930818,8.841846274778883,2.41716855345912,223,8,44,3,3,65,40,53,0.0,0.7659999999999999,0.234,0.9092,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,12,4,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,1,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,8,2,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,2,28,8,0,0.2734211697245815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500232568983397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5137763788615322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430292985950931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30013433752131635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5497275900140431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28112250070838185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217435488487166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18164887582564831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DampishDrake,2019/01/23,"My 2 year old is waking up twice a night screaming. I just want her to sleep through the night so i can sleep through the night. She has never slept through the night regularly. I think the longest stretch was about a month of her only waking up around once a week. Oh God was that nice. But the last month it's been way different.

We used to listen to her cry for a few minutes to see if it was just a soft whiny, will probably go back to sleep cry or a screaming cry like she needed us, was hurt or had a nightmare. If it was the former, which it almost always was, we would just let her cry and she'd usually put herself back to sleep in about 10 minutes. Now, twice a night she wakes up and instantly screams bloody murder. 

She's definitely awake when we go in her room, so it's not night terrors. Sometimes she doesn't seem to recognize us right away, but as soon as we start talking to her, she snuggles right in and continues crying for a few minutes. Each night though it seems like she cries longer and it takes her longer to go back to sleep. And now after the second time she won't go back to sleep. She talks extremely well for her age, but she won't tell me what's wrong. When I try to ask her, she just starts crying again.

She's her normal self all day long once she stops crying. She doesn't fight going to bed at bedtime. Doesn't show any signs of discomfort or anxiety or anything. She's high energy, goes nonstop all day long still.

She hasn't napped since I weaned her from the breast at about 20 months, but she started sleeping longer at night. About 12 hours, 9-9, with the interruptions. Before that she slept about 10 hours at night and only took one nap, about an hour and a half to two hours. So she'd been getting the same amount of sleep. But now she wakes up for good with her second nightmare. Anywhere between 4 and 7. And she still won't nap most days. I'm at a loss. It's been 2 1/2 years since I slept through the night. I'm always tired, foggy brained and crabby. All I want to do is get a good night's sleep. But it seems like that is the only thing my daughter won't do. Any advice is appreciated.",2.6115525114155247,4.185974744292238,3.1102511415525136,94.43377853881279,75.5296803652968,6.1452054794520565,21.755707762557076,6.691623216298621,0.2068694063926939,1670,42,377,14,36,518,199,438,0.128,0.787,0.085,-0.9627,1,0,0,0,1,0,50.0,6,0,0,1,29,17,2,2,25,0,31,19,18,1,4,54,59,30,1,7,17,1,1,3,0,6,1,4,2,1,15,18,0,1,4,4,0,7,10,10,1,7,14,6,51,7,53,36,9,79,0,2,1,1,49,19,0,11,55,234,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899362582253018,0.0,0.0,0.05020530106528396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343656224134313,0.0,0.0,0.06819021740543729,0.0,0.038354925865754126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04125875668786735,0.04463286000330721,0.04687164240967578,0.0,0.04710567889116549,0.15421007061628111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04266318132319662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05596984993198061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4405880867742705,0.09700330456001018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05238284637651167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05238937888023139,0.0,0.1424710212495963,0.0841056396933123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05297284967554333,0.0,0.0,0.1975007116973032,0.0,0.05367305663313891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04086862170809002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126882438223397,0.0,0.07348371153120159,0.0,0.0,0.08873993170718975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200574330820495,0.0,0.0,0.03717620038129524,0.03866900545826018,0.0,0.0,0.5175554421089928,0.0491239454702609,0.0,0.0,0.05261070157508257,0.10678925601356187,0.033974357374933116,0.11439511306322935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05405652964572179,0.0,0.0,0.05040187209500892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563402435794908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03995296659097063,0.13692944677922655,0.052304177437023,0.0,0.0,0.08294824717565416,0.0,0.451561913712307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049587108679778766,0.0,0.1064623963645694,0.0,0.08007948479755055,0.041917059053201616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037697038043082685,0.08059698523908036,0.04382224276498282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03330901912830172,0.032125981337810285,0.049259679417228586,0.0,0.029235484621574968,0.057625493821008025,0.0,0.0,0.05570442662394472,0.03403996098151724,0.0,0.04897689338273392,0.0,0.12061808724745325,0.04330256175424328,0.055219193777251006,0.0,0.05914460120374133,0.0397966847133396,0.04021714781074312,0.0,0.04507948755910703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0356161259661071,0.054817307736781465,0.0,0.06457360291442307
parenting,LittleLearnersVideos,2019/01/23,"Is your child struggling with reading? Hi all - early years teacher here.

It can be really stressful and frustrating when your child has a hard time with reading.  In my latest video I talk about what you can do to support them: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7s2KbQpJ-A",8.371279069767441,11.940071651162796,4.793197674418604,79.84468023255816,65.04651162790697,7.090697674418602,29.3546511627907,8.07648339933343,2.2519348837209305,223,8,32,3,4,59,38,43,0.226,0.72,0.054000000000000006,-0.8233,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,1,0,3,4,1,2,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,4,7,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,1,5,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,5,24,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27900593892913106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6230862392938195,0.0,0.1995285047162495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.356775042567798,0.3256043987437793,0.0,0.0,0.3534397943944261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250338813290388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816141510609678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005692778151594
parenting,iCONx05,2019/01/23,"Harboring a runaway. Can I get into trouble for harboring a runaway minor? 

Background: Late last night I woke up and found a girl sleeping in my living room. Luckily I live with my brother so I wasn’t walking around nude but you can imagine my shock when I saw her. My brother never mentioned anyone coming over yet alone staying the night. I was pretty tired so I didn’t press the matter. This morning as I was dropping my brother off at work I found out she was a minor, she works with my brother and that she had runaway from home. I didn’t have a chance to question her personally (what’s been going on in her home) due to the fact that I leave work so early in the morning. So many questions flooded my mind when I found out she was a minor. 

Parents and fellow redditors: have you ever dealt with this situation? What steps should be taken? Thoughts? Advice?

Thanks",2.191806290875114,4.8097236213017736,3.2398941139831834,87.67666459047025,82.01775147928994,4.978013080037372,25.462784179383373,6.339386263674448,1.010069822485208,688,28,126,6,19,220,100,169,0.078,0.831,0.09,0.4606,1,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,3,9,3,0,0,10,0,15,3,2,0,3,25,26,11,0,1,1,5,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,2,6,11,0,0,7,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,16,2,28,1,20,8,0,30,0,0,1,1,20,13,0,2,11,92,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594182371753052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440814561998869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972726256029444,0.0,0.0,0.12384207710115268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983547988608274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583771874725647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575981120845866,0.0,0.0,0.0726819824909984,0.0,0.0790624091620617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790879005904124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339750578869688,0.15692807468247724,0.14730297552971386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24568264966089096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104104040554571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046675705901934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729426604147496,0.0,0.0,0.2611004984425201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447103498638387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147008062981185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153023403388965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116818623550863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637138290218686,0.13921572912314134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482783591454517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280786422897866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044197849987937,0.0,0.15989252869398188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038327022150589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Karterhall,2019/01/23,"My daughter was invited to a birthday party for a classmate... AGAIN. Should I feel guilty for wanting to decline? To preface, my daughter (5) has been invited to more than 8 birthday parties over the course of the school year and has attended ALL of them. She's received yet another invitation from a classmate this week. Honestly, I'm thinking of declining because carting my kid to countless birthday parties is exhausting and expensive. I asked her if she was interested in going and of course she said yes because she's a sweet, outgoing kid and obviously won't turn down an opportunity to have cake with her friends... 
I haven't RSVPd as of yet (the party is on Saturday) but I can't bring myself to say we will be there. I should also mention that my anxiety flys through the roof when I have to spend any time with parents of kids who also attend the parties. It's awkward, I don't like feeling judged by them and I honestly can't wait for it to be over for the majority of the party. I suck it up and take my kid because I know she will have fun. I just don't feel like doing it again. I know that's selfish but it's not like I decline every party invite. 
Should I feel guilty for not wanting to take her? Should I just suck it up for the 11th time and go? I would also feel terrible for the kid  in the event that no one else attended the party (I've heard horror stories). I know it's not my responsibility to be sure there are kids at this party but, nonetheless, would hate to hear that my kid could have been one of few that actually showed up. 

TLDR; my kid was invited to another classmates party and I don't feel like taking her but feel guilty. Should I just take her or opt out?  ",3.7009763313609447,5.1817152514792895,4.980591715976335,82.50863905325447,72.52071005917159,8.040236686390534,29.27218934911243,8.617729084823388,2.20963550295858,1337,55,266,24,26,444,153,338,0.153,0.7020000000000001,0.145,-0.8029,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,2,1,13,19,3,1,16,1,35,1,0,0,3,49,65,19,0,11,12,3,7,4,1,10,1,4,0,8,15,12,0,1,11,1,2,7,11,7,0,2,7,12,41,12,46,44,4,29,0,0,0,0,33,11,2,2,15,189,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.11953793422027185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29387881245143715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330113804696622,0.25689441694061704,0.09370871939967093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145167533824319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240163527832376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780268626204604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232926889635452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320773883680208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335618246196794,0.1750216140931359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463971659340167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923402693663867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093894229479313,0.0,0.0,0.1380613270538271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019609637300064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23938044806119946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660122370292138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601675229841792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652126818646055,0.09741333528265697,0.0,0.12397198199799266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545055560668735,0.0,0.3684054739192755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849016789032286,0.0,0.0,0.1428562179734354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323992452860406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445020349564913,0.0,0.09825849833324707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403457203609132,0.0,0.0,0.078883083457297
parenting,icanteventell,2019/01/23,"My children go to a school where their sweaters are being stolen I honestly don't really know what to expect by writing this im just venting. But this is the THIRD time my son comes home without his sweater. He's 6. I told him to stop being so careless but i know due to his age he can't help it sometimes. He takes it off when he plays in gym and gets overheated. I get that. But i told him to keep it in his book bag then but he tells me he cant because they tell him to leave his book bag in the classroom. So he sets his sweaters to a chair or to a corner on the floor and then he cant find them afterwards. I have told the school that this is the THIRD time his sweaters have gone missing. Sweaters aren't cheap. His were fleece lined so if i were to calculate how much  at $20 each, we have lost $60+ dollars worth of sweaters!! And the teachers swear they are never in their classrooms. The staff never finds them. Apparently the main office never receives them. And the lost and found is always bone dry. NO ONE puts anything in that lost and found box! I'm just livid because i just got back from my son's school and went to the lost and found to see if the sweater he lost yesterday evening when he was in after school was in there but like i expected it isnt. So i called the main office to let them know if they had seen his sweater. Some woman picked up and told me she hadn't recieved anything and to check the lost and found. I told her as nicely as i could, but im sure she could pick up my frustration that NOTHING ever gets put there because i have been rummaging through their lost and found almost daily and NOTHING is ever there but the same torn sweater, one glove and sock that has been there since October. They're so old theyre gathering dust. And that they need to have a talk with the children about taking other people's properties. This woman changed her tone and condescendingly goes ""our children DO add things to the lost and found, come back later and you will probably see the sweater""  I know its partially not the staff's fault. They cant stop parents and children from being thieves with no morals. There's been countless times that i have seen children drop their gloves, hats etc and chased them to hand it back to them. But i'm just livid and i needed to vent....",3.5973172223921708,4.896784907922914,3.5614658917100037,93.2937130620985,72.51177730192721,6.707592535943714,25.120159070052004,6.9916214562510826,0.7385381339859283,1820,55,401,16,35,552,213,467,0.146,0.805,0.049,-0.9923,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,1,15,8,25,17,1,0,22,0,37,2,2,3,6,80,81,45,0,9,18,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,20,28,0,3,12,4,4,8,15,12,0,4,33,5,55,5,42,41,7,49,1,9,4,0,66,15,0,6,25,252,75,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377231292435076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05299183994204086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481627583298088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691177033237585,0.0,0.11646715305225125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503050954112215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737132594598362,0.10971967106272697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169615109147838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102670608756406,0.04206399137942289,0.11521523610000922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164156700635963,0.0,0.0,0.4189703615704937,0.0,0.0,0.0998198933072246,0.0,0.0361942119935366,0.0,0.050935498726715545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042687372210354235,0.0,0.06388223395833237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758358121958192,0.0,0.0,0.05660702821390901,0.0,0.0,0.14000060371237252,0.0,0.0,0.06743426085932554,0.0,0.06512323285375594,0.0,0.03111375457156621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5561661918282842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046816525580506266,0.09444469941417008,0.14735566947507844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221683732899248,0.0,0.0668277264118588,0.0,0.08631054107615498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707157478049761,0.0,0.0,0.044151842055993665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06866426156251387,0.0,0.0,0.12804400694804724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04079887171996836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578144608134437,0.1014989665885036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268170355689802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298706599983528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648866753465984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060023285634072825,0.0,0.09576786735243643,0.05118838105106024,0.11132871307838037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0423101374950639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114074271574082,0.0,0.0,0.30427343156701786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059037544627048535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061391015329577414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,infauxmation,2019/01/23,"Daughter finds the silver lining... of my death. I (dad) do not want another cat. My 6 year old daughter (who overheard me discussing my life insurance policy with my wife) apparently does. 

A fluffy white expensive cat apparently... as I learned from my wife upon coming home last night. Conversation went like this; 

Devil child: “Mom, when dad dies we can get that cat!”

Surprisingly unfazed wife: “Those cats are very expensive.”

Devil child: “That’s ok, we’ll have lots of money after dad dies.”
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parenting,mom2fourgirls,2019/01/23,"Parents SUCK! Laid up with completely destroyed ankle.   Daughter went out with friends yesterday.  One of her friends mom was driving a few kids home one of whom lives past us (literally would take three min to drop my kid home).  The OM(other mom) REFUSES to drive my kid home and leaves her ALONE at the mall until I can drag myself there.  Mind you, I have driven OM’s kid home more times than I can count.  Yes.  She had room.  She just didn’t want to.  She was never my favorite OM but seriously?   ",1.8717613636363637,4.450887729166666,2.3178030303030326,93.9893181818182,83.16666666666666,5.5742424242424224,22.26893939393939,6.980632752743323,0.589304166666667,386,13,81,5,11,118,73,96,0.136,0.7929999999999999,0.071,-0.6609999999999999,1,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,1,2,5,2,0,3,1,8,0,0,0,1,11,13,3,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,4,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,4,2,3,0,3,6,0,14,2,12,6,2,15,0,0,0,0,19,4,1,0,6,48,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686675107966539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074920009751374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25164101529607674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.653422900178681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243875007113346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380296416056554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644359995220655,0.3814650039299172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560295580899145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207080144643888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082996694030254,0.0,0.1554624606245851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224458541755374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496141003527496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958931720995519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605544082783067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096718304652645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568672746541588,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jimmybarrymurphy,2019/01/23,"Specific question about toddler-proofing In one of our upstairs bedrooms, where my son loves to play, there is a window opening (see here https://m.imgur.com/gallery/DG5Wh7o) that has no glass, and opens out into our kitchen. There is a two story drop the other side of the window opening.

Long term we are going to have glass put in, but right now we can't afford it. Any ideas on other ways (besides keeping the room locked) that could stop him trying to climb through the opening?",6.931666666666668,8.5942966627907,5.093023255813954,84.0773643410853,64.93023255813954,6.663565891472868,30.6124031007752,6.42735559955562,1.6114170542635664,387,14,65,2,6,110,68,86,0.068,0.885,0.047,-0.2263,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,6,0,7,2,0,0,0,15,11,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,9,1,2,2,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,6,2,12,10,1,22,0,0,1,1,8,13,0,1,4,46,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19698101491710385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312726194767581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462236039026906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269946707423785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574660998536552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25634295470016943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26143248781319844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628338643006268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911916781249406,0.3244892510583297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24737092315121095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23082419172375326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24217153570715705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666240457955256,0.0,0.2829590088753243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299212891069196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,i_R_Batman,2019/01/23,"19 month old not talking So my 19 month old is not talking. He says mama and dada but that’s it. He understands everything we say to him such as go get your ball and simple commands like that. He tells us when he wants something by using simple signing that my wife taught him. These are things like eat, more, and please. My question is when should we be worried? He is obviously very smart and understands us but doesn’t even try to imitate how sounds. We read to him every day and night because he loves books and will sit and flip through them. Is there something we need to be doing? The pediatrician says he is doing great, but I just want to hear it from somewhere else that we are doing everything we can.",3.344261904761904,5.3085442357142885,3.794285714285717,88.63904761904762,74.5,6.666666666666666,24.523809523809533,7.492282038375204,1.048023809523809,563,18,114,7,12,176,88,140,0.018000000000000002,0.816,0.16699999999999998,0.9765,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,8,1,1,0,8,5,0,0,1,0,16,2,0,2,1,30,27,15,0,4,6,1,0,2,0,2,0,5,0,0,8,13,1,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,17,5,9,22,1,10,0,0,0,1,30,0,0,1,10,72,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630479433283678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130626640634892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486990690925078,0.11827047083756816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351110668577828,0.0,0.1192857918165406,0.0,0.25448282543695633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396879838164128,0.0,0.0804621888732831,0.0,0.0,0.1560905334885075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956899068295133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833597467691225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777990889068358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22601283572294145,0.0,0.0,0.10497848721917802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286160795787832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971251395379621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541041634097985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860005496281798,0.0,0.14161657492356192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33776614904012586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21798772569762204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22759048794782435,0.12374564115847884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405830620073577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612234634493393,0.0,0.0,0.2947759271920897,0.3406024338323547,0.12227816127122765,0.0,0.11681689328912025,0.16701305399338978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377959726604386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elizaraven,2019/01/23,"Eating food hot & in peace is a long lost memory ... I was trying to make 3 different meals with a 3 year old asking twenty times for a cheese sandwich & a snot ridden 11 month year old who thinks it’s funny to dive down the kitchen steps just so he could cry at mummy’s feet. 

Sit down to eat, my 3 year thinks the crusts are some sort of devils work & he wouldn’t even attempt to eat them even if I covered them in chocolate. 11 month year old wants food but then doesn’t want his food, wants juice but (heres a shocker) doesn’t want that either that belongs on the floor (with the spoon he’s just launched out of my hand)

Come to the conclusion I will just eat my (now freezing cold) lunch & let him figure it out ... queue tears & mumumumumumum with candle sticks hanging from his nose & then 3 year old spills juice.

I sit silently cleaning up & resume feeding 11 month old thinking oh how I miss eating my food in peace & at a temperature that is edible. 

Any parents relate? ",8.134198771635957,5.966823949748743,7.383082077051928,81.51182021217201,63.2713567839196,10.050474595198214,31.65884980457845,7.793537801064563,1.9159978782802904,782,19,166,6,9,242,119,199,0.063,0.867,0.07,0.3446,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,2,4,9,3,0,0,11,0,10,17,3,3,0,29,22,7,0,7,7,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,6,14,0,5,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,2,5,14,0,23,16,2,36,1,2,0,0,11,12,0,3,18,80,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6282077671412358,0.0,0.049285070206156655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775377098752415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624302693516066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786490283071472,0.0,0.07960971388153514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757203117835738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707969692513968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573730166652436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505452785143717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410997369438034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413755419306902,0.0,0.0,0.0791143575800703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04837721785583031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354509908771626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802484020994408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804742329265823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393159874761808,0.0,0.0,0.04226039942117693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920535321992208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709890910193285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276221882184971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333556538014541
parenting,cbryner94,2019/01/23,"Hand in his pants My 2 year old (24 month) old son constantly has his hand in his pants. When I wake him up it's in his pants along with many many times a day. It's like his diaper is bugging his little growing penis, but I think he's also starting to use it as a comfort measure. He was only weaned a little while ago and this came about quickly after. My hubby and others i've asked say it's normal, but should I be worried and/or intervene? ",1.956370967741936,3.592852526881721,3.5351478494623656,90.42272177419355,77.49462365591398,5.940322580645162,21.302419354838708,6.6274283507984215,0.3461193548387098,347,9,74,3,8,115,65,93,0.032,0.85,0.118,0.6812,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,5,3,3,1,0,11,10,8,0,2,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,12,2,10,6,0,21,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,14,44,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801376059509104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251075435403167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997835015508904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324235258151509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196029408451799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310566959216697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928045731042642,0.40734911230550575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41205570158635796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220406688141714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991072988648293,0.0,0.0,0.4264793709756016,0.0,0.0,0.15455396716281833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160451788482838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438364390855571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021180009707692,0.0,0.0,0.11849614924619638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551228880901718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20637443299648256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308636300604598
parenting,steeltwinkletoes,2019/01/23,Would you let a 15(M) stay on his own at home for 3 nights? We may have to head out of town for my youngest son’s competition. My husband wants to leave my oldest(15M) at home by himself from Thursday to Sunday. I think my son is way too young to be left on his own for 4 days and 3 nights. My husband says I make no sense. He thinks I am coddling him and I should let him grow up. What do you think?,-0.1631565656565641,1.6190697045454527,1.3642424242424271,102.6969191919192,84.9090909090909,4.3656565656565665,18.868686868686872,5.033348758259628,-0.8139055555555554,306,8,80,1,9,98,62,88,0.047,0.953,0.0,-0.4137,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,10,1,1,1,0,12,15,2,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,17,0,16,9,2,17,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,1,6,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347898891405041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21449776449524052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41929486078421735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22130440082558755,0.2270827829937501,0.4274402312080097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395113785276136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922710261302786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620787588998684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227697934008544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017627785388518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327560811982068,0.16589715407124506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847000395587254,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,micksack,2019/01/23,"The difference between raising a girl or a boy is very straight forward. With boys you only have to worry about the one prick, with girls you have to worry about all the pricks. 

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As told to me by our midwife and she cleaned up our daughter after she was born, I thought it was hilarious my wife not so much..",4.382857142857144,6.2103818888888895,4.120825396825399,87.96028571428577,71.38095238095238,6.309841269841268,31.647619047619052,6.742157984588678,1.7212438095238087,261,12,50,2,5,79,49,63,0.146,0.7829999999999999,0.071,-0.6378,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,5,0,5,2,2,0,1,7,7,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,4,0,9,0,12,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,13,3,2,1,3,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289038889899391,0.4810017276910488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678977814805646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549784508458402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411928351101296,0.15053108468331344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713055381892466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18912607486586566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633090739849267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020054330554633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4810017276910488,0.0
parenting,Thelindseyj919,2019/01/23,"Go with awful public school or move to charter? Daughter will be starting intermediate school next year (grades 5&6) and it’s a lower performing school where there’s a lot of disciplinary issues. The only other school in our district is pretty much the same, maybe less fighting. We have a few charter schools here and am thinking of trying one. But is it worth it? I need advice, pros & cons, etc... 
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parenting,pattyjh83,2019/01/23,"Have 2 kids, wife wants another, I feel I'm at my limit. Advice? Long story short. I'm 35, my wife is 36. We have two kids. 3 Yr old boy (born premie at 34 weeks but doing great), and an 18 month old girl (born premie at 30 weeks and has some development delays and issues). I absolutely love being a Dad and my kids bring me so much joy. However i have become quite a stressful person since we've had kids and so has my wife. I barely struggle to handle the workload of two kids let alone thinking of a third. My job (I run a business so can't walk away from it so please don't suggest it) is very stressful at times and drains me a lot right now as I'm fighting to take the business to the next level. We have financial stresses in our marriage and money is tight and the idea of my wife taking another 18 mo ths off or so to have a third means we go down to one wage again which will be very difficult.

However, my wife is super keen on a third and doesn't feel like our family is complete. I want to give her that and I feel I'm being selfish by saying no, but I am utterly overwhlemed and feel like having a third will give me a breakdown (I don't mean that as a joke). I've explained to my wife that I am overwhlemed by all this and this is a bug decision and she understands that. However I don't want her to resent me in the future that I took her dream away from her.

For those who have 2 that decided to keep it that, do you regret it? Why did you stop at two? For those that went on to have three, how did that go? How did you cope? Is it a big step up? How did you manage!? Did you have to get a bigger house, bigger car, bigger debt lol??

Any advice would be great as I'm a bit lost. Thanks. ",1.0230361305361306,2.661681491758241,3.007972027972027,93.1430885780886,80.23626373626374,6.170362970362973,19.272061272061283,7.106945922332613,0.148799633699634,1309,30,305,16,33,441,180,364,0.13699999999999998,0.754,0.109,-0.8388,6,1,0,0,2,0,44.0,5,5,0,4,10,20,2,4,20,1,41,1,0,3,1,47,72,27,0,5,3,7,5,2,0,3,0,1,0,8,20,16,0,5,12,2,3,9,6,10,0,9,9,6,39,10,37,55,5,45,0,2,0,1,39,21,0,3,17,197,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19452341989305585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308533767139412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768530635497891,0.2087363716652441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702754900168825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099254905866726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866337937195937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104357613781313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383009620937036,0.0,0.2013058755342823,0.14221164135786066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052001464347476566,0.19096070366724066,0.11313288136508233,0.0,0.0,0.21946919484353306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484679068558445,0.0,0.11235973413456896,0.0,0.10388575330243877,0.09877034641722912,0.08846878899446207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177841387830563,0.0,0.09725280675804937,0.0,0.0,0.08808286132611909,0.0,0.0,0.10865114947559673,0.08461871369736533,0.08983169284728955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21683948051985785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944564922008833,0.0,0.07316761634941217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058536195680808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888459307806187,0.0,0.06744559189372888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690767437361209,0.0,0.10925646220295723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058647420601046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499995151233145,0.0,0.07915199715458203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233406103270455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321337257650292,0.34204138255259325,0.10405266197056974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967164884961312,0.0,0.0,0.09163587346465696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377621223511863,0.0,0.0,0.058038023879061325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058393197231554,0.0,0.0,0.29168547856788224,0.10361652618233108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424897103816855,0.17612000389658888,0.0,0.15967744781388918,0.0,0.0,0.09226734282224956,0.0898123256081657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070481628941859,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ViolentDelights_xox,2019/01/23,"Severe odour from toddler So I have two kids. My first is 3, other is 2. My 3 year old was 3 months premature (born at 28 weeks) due to myself having sepsis. Shes absolutely fine now, just as a sidenote. However, from kind of 18 months upward, she has a really really severe smell from her armpits. Its as though shes been running all day and not showered. Even after I scrub her armpits, they smell about 5 minutes afterward. I have to put deodorant on her. Ive read that giving her organic milk can work or it could be that she is pre-pubescent. Ive been waiting for a doctors appointment but thought id ask on here in case somebody has had experience with it? I dont know whether the prematurity thing comes in to it because my second was full term and she doesnt have this issue. Any help is appreciated. ",2.925962732919256,4.8536265341614975,4.359596273291928,84.28920807453419,75.58385093167702,7.58136645962733,26.40683229813665,8.418075326091056,1.8033900621118009,636,24,129,12,14,211,115,161,0.026,0.901,0.07400000000000001,0.8106,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,2,7,2,0,0,4,0,24,4,2,0,1,14,30,9,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,9,4,1,1,2,1,0,3,3,0,0,3,6,3,20,2,18,22,3,22,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,13,88,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265562079953569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398088909480228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344646984779573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031098505528962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858785120205112,0.0,0.0,0.1200208363724884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048398463939212,0.0,0.0,0.21811096159637572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291906871535052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204413690054327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829884936873098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852665396463324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247407073349934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942428528541432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379730888277585,0.10227716904398394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970907763730338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19528346277971811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708460101500446,0.0,0.0,0.18615304770967173,0.0,0.2384442917563362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204861255897385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363835498159137,0.0,0.18284494378556687,0.1477447445581347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179528213140606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492803489114724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548497164726392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984402796163668
parenting,throwawayf0rreasons3,2019/01/23,"I need help/advice foe kinship adoption and legal advice Things are bad at home... I cant provide for my daughter and she is at constant risk because of my abusive ex and his stalker tendencies( mutual friends have told me rumors of his boasting about sacrificing my child. God knows what he joined a cult shortly before i became pregnant. Which in itself is another shitfest). If it wasnt for friends wed be homeless. My immeadiate family is abusive to us (except my adopted eldest bro, he got away) and everything is shit. Ive been extremly mentally unstable since christmas and im seriously considering suicide. 
I just cant take it anymore... My kid is 3... And i have failed her so much. I cant provide a home, cant hold a job. And she deserves so much better. If it wasnt for foodstamps shed be starving. Im so scared about how much longer i can fight. I never wanted her to deal with poverty and here we are. Shes behind on learning because i can only afford people who give her youtube and dont feed her. And i know theres assistance for child care but i have been on the list for over a year. 
My ex avoids anyway the government can follow him ( homeless, destroyed his phone, and quits his jobs sparatically,). Hes dangerous. He raped me. He shows signs of being a child predator. And he has stalked me. ( i was stupid and listened to the wrong ppl and didnt call the police). Ive been collecting evidence on him being dangerous and not fit. When all of a sudden he finally pays a payment of child support (hes done this before waits until the 6month mark and pays. Just so i cant take him to court)... I should have never listened to my family and take him to court then. 
What im asking is i have an older brother who got away from the abuse and is living a productive life. My daughter has stayed at his place before (when i was trying to find a job).... What do i say to ask him to adopt my kid to give her the life i cant give her. And if he were to agree would we be able to win and take cuatody away from my ex?
I know some people will think im a terrible mom and i am i made stupid choices and mistakes, i was fucked up before having my kid and shouldve been smart and had her adopted then. Am you are right i am stupid and terrible, but i love my kid so much and i want her to be safe and have the best chance at life. Even if it is with me out of the picture. 
I need advice and i need help. Please",1.602392037786771,3.6534693522267214,3.257353238866397,90.03956562078272,80.17408906882591,6.140958164642375,23.2471322537112,7.251919499444523,0.8774265856950072,1876,64,397,25,48,621,227,494,0.17600000000000002,0.722,0.103,-0.9908,4,1,0,0,2,2,66.0,3,1,0,5,16,31,11,3,20,0,61,8,1,2,3,68,91,45,1,12,10,8,0,0,2,3,3,3,2,8,13,33,1,4,6,1,2,1,13,21,0,0,17,3,73,10,47,65,7,32,0,1,0,3,71,18,2,5,12,269,86,9,0.07661931219205602,0.2723440681948188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22461451534644525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034202939426797,0.0,0.0,0.07598576947117185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432574281054032,0.0,0.21595909787388734,0.0,0.06397392528955846,0.0934128431150656,0.0,0.2607895655857772,0.0,0.08040724110964982,0.06776355523151187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823688430074746,0.0,0.07811849518927662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279825697028442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789911465273013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840815802947784,0.08979726325822829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506063330889097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886049735644985,0.0,0.1444597371810201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393271138400482,0.07002866326766298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839178107432174,0.07083331949440752,0.0,0.2205006776459856,0.0,0.0,0.12255892653472047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271261979310023,0.0,0.15371083457099075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310480204296176,0.0,0.2280985343903919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632391063789916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623554583105236,0.0,0.0,0.06765625639645736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915192067100116,0.07249904577358911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721424563503981,0.0,0.0,0.08973561241526702,0.0,0.0,0.2252960415688509,0.1704367474518898,0.1181870739865646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827243952049657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623636760574108,0.0,0.08005087365138276,0.08410499643925055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149406977380856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654324739712065,0.0,0.06093075232913321,0.07670929785133009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864862291604371,0.0633802868073942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166599227285694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380909172052546,0.08694668749561686,0.0,0.0,0.2304327495094885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05090246647778168,0.0490945615004396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321303624799921,0.0,0.05201948355466393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921635986799572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038411093760436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054428161065775915,0.08377118998088093,0.0,0.049340324988858264
parenting,rurymason,2019/01/23,"I got so sick of my kid and my neice watching garbage content on YouTube that I quit my job and started my own channel. It's early days yet (I started it just before Xmas), but there needs to be more independent creators making quality entertainment on that platform. So many people (and large operations) are just doing the bare minimum to get clicks (and sometimes making downright exploitative, harmful content), and our little ones are sucking all this trash up with their little spongy eyeballs. No bueno.

My channel is called Kigu Studios. I've just started a fun and very original colouring show for kids there. I'm really proud of it and the wee guys are digging it.

Bye!",4.953835920177383,7.510570089430896,4.983917220990391,79.24643015521066,71.6829268292683,7.074353288987436,33.133037694013304,8.00094639256281,2.76069756097561,543,27,88,8,11,169,89,123,0.036000000000000004,0.84,0.124,0.929,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,2,8,5,1,0,3,0,6,1,0,4,1,18,16,10,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,7,8,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,3,10,3,9,14,3,13,0,0,3,0,7,6,1,0,8,56,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853000067153448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22236004962472786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043891734352368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377201555573363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741647129086495,0.0,0.0,0.21561929563486928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21609586441523912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365108391502765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907165675772185,0.2207771842905351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146827232875607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756163170376846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096922751905728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316174213861425,0.0,0.0,0.13950435271537198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537286452573126,0.0,0.4624006496805777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967702181519968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoVst,2019/01/23,"Emotional/Psychological Abuse? So my dad, he's in his 50's now, likes to make fun of my younger siblings to the point of tears. He did this with me and my older siblings when we were growing up too. So, what he would do is that whenever my little brother tries to talk to him/ask him for anything he would do the following, in no particular order:

1. Ignore him while he repeats himself several times. After a while my little brother would get exasperated at him and start yelling it what he's been saying

2. Mock him by repeating back what he said but in the same way that kids do when they make fun of one another

3. Pretend to not understand what he's saying and repeating the wing words

4. Ask him unrelated questions that he clearly can't answer and refuses to continue until he's answered it. When he does he either presents another question or mocks him for being wrong

Of course, what would happen is that my brother ends up crying from frustration (he's 7 and has speech development issues, a common trait along my siblings), sometimes throwing a fit. 

What would the happen is that my dad would either:

1. Tell him he's being unreasonable and refuses to hear him out any longer

2. Tell him he's too hungry/sleepy

3. Make fun of him some more, repeating the process

I remembered him doing this a lot to my older brother when he was young (as a kid he was very irritable and had anger issues that persisted to this very day) to the point of physical fights and sometimes he got punished for getting too angry. It's not as bad now, but I have no idea why my dad does this. He's also clearly enjoying getting a rise out of them, he's very gleeful about it which angers me to no end. I do feel like he's largely responsible for my siblings' poor social skills and speech impediments. With the exception of one sibling, everyone else has a poor social life, or none at all.

I have no idea how to handle this, because my dad's very stubborn and hard headed. He refuses to listen to me if he thinks he's done nothing wrong, along with being very confrontational. Am I overreacting?",6.208018518518517,6.415342372839504,6.811990740740742,76.28020833333333,66.01234567901236,9.910493827160494,33.1712962962963,9.725611199111238,3.069907407407406,1651,66,312,32,24,543,197,405,0.185,0.718,0.097,-0.9908,0,0,0,0,3,0,44.0,1,0,2,2,15,19,9,0,15,0,30,2,1,4,3,60,48,28,0,7,10,8,2,2,0,6,1,8,0,2,22,18,0,5,10,1,2,4,8,13,0,2,9,10,36,6,48,30,8,46,0,0,0,0,67,14,0,7,28,198,58,0,0.0,0.10541980750250024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115258812652688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050546669035065,0.1865942885242928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321813666087493,0.0,0.16635762174968702,0.0,0.0,0.06841562210832626,0.07428969098434972,0.05423781030769748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773391559226907,0.057380960067561826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572374012522824,0.09105143703934462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432647759464557,0.0,0.15760935937077786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501860428716859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04498799888277165,0.06356314385304676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945594864080516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116074821442964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735907745752467,0.0,0.0797033537136345,0.0,0.09131313733964724,0.0,0.10028032294794284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008819496320631,0.0,0.18573177324712875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284506681391057,0.08693654172120648,0.17835092653891765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564263262907782,0.0,0.0,0.1781727893236598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537308759255126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205823607367572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16821864378234622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993428004170755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007903568760844,0.0,0.0846347826244382,0.14151161559924014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051545344404572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813958632150656,0.0,0.0,0.17599540031710864,0.0,0.06297635469431942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151404396808707,0.1555346412314976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057011036705529365,0.0,0.0,0.05188153691986661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06040760108043885,0.0,0.0,0.09262521825069207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36706492078037417,0.0,0.07062353143685257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802853228877801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792280603187744,0.1945585107964805,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaToSa3,2019/01/23,Oh crap potty training 37 months Is it too late? Have we missed the window? He’s shown great interest lately in using the potty but we honestly haven’t really given it a good honest to god try yet (mostly my fault as I just had a babygirl in October and things were just too crazy) but on Friday I’d really like us to potty train. I’ve started reading the book and im about halfway done right now and I feel pretty confident that this will work. My only concern is that we’ve missed the opportune window of time and that might make things more difficult. I’m really just looking for some feedback/experience from anyone who potty trained using this method at around this age.,6.195227272727273,6.59359640151515,6.667727272727273,76.64659090909092,66.04545454545455,9.630303030303034,28.62121212121212,9.516144504307137,2.4941030303030303,543,16,98,10,8,177,94,132,0.087,0.679,0.234,0.9768,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,2,9,12,1,0,6,0,9,1,1,3,0,19,19,7,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,11,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,0,0,4,2,7,7,12,13,3,14,0,2,1,0,5,6,1,3,9,61,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780119285553995,0.0,0.0,0.16270934480415614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870432536404063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878994946447144,0.0,0.0,0.09241701130063944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330379374993286,0.0,0.20151112833805887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742938875407645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123584618515074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929509600574906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348576333522773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200436481810945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938963973811444,0.0,0.0,0.14589001820782282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900934493805842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594884863586256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282541014134807,0.0,0.3512728583219738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608966124053664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936975700172396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24285643707499305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657812534209032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409287121755826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198569612849079,0.3157194699534091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330630672672731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marieennui,2019/01/23,"How do you and your partner deal with different opinions when it comes to discipline? My kid has been whining a lot recently. I dont think it’s a behavior that is okay to have so what I would do is tell her I dont understand her when she’s whininh, tell her to talk to me instead, then step away. This usually works with her. However, my husband thinks it’s unkind and will alienate her. My husband likes to talk to her, hug her and assure her, then try to figure out what she wants (ex. Keep asking her questions like, “do you want to get food?”, “do you want to watch something”). He does this until he hits on what she was crying about. See this also works because she will stop whining, but I think it validates her whining. Like it’s okay to whine to get what she wants. Now this is just an example but we differ on hundreds of discipline/coping methods. I can show him an article or a study but you bet your ass he will find another one that will support him. Regardless of who is correct, how do you guys come to a compromise on different parenting style? Or how do you figure out which method to implement on your kid? ",3.640779936974788,5.0268980937500025,4.562216386554621,85.82248949579831,72.52678571428571,8.306302521008401,28.355042016806717,8.841846274778883,2.1376148109243696,879,34,180,17,17,285,120,224,0.081,0.8140000000000001,0.105,0.5661,4,0,3,0,0,0,27.0,1,9,0,2,11,13,0,0,6,2,22,3,1,3,2,41,39,18,0,6,6,4,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,4,17,10,1,3,8,1,1,3,2,5,0,1,2,2,36,8,26,31,1,19,0,4,2,2,46,7,1,6,12,129,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269446282484704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465567965083464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200518986886578,0.0,0.12065133413663455,0.0,0.0,0.07828138007348721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221238530699192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105926749522066,0.0,0.13239155896641186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025030813674874,0.0,0.0,0.1123779630671953,0.0,0.30100587714764243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737016501128318,0.0,0.1552814907886963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418442542975426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715231928962326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414230126640768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188213142072215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917493978837184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701820332939209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425910959277595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385563720063882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679559672029064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233115911680536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886113592300204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736177074398053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572528708051674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20643230339493987,0.2244829998807748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24685192529402475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718623323247099,0.0,0.0,0.13368588947705154,0.0,0.0,0.14143240382051198,0.0,0.3029730261906449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697718093819,0.0,0.0,0.09122324984462048,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aarxnw,2019/01/23,"Do you think it has a detrimental effect on a kid when you always focus on what they haven't done, instead of what they have done, even if what they did do wasn't as much as they could have or should have done? For example.
Kid does 2 out of 5 pieces of homework, this is better than last month when they did 0 out of 5 pieces of homework. They are told off for not doing what they were asked to do, instead of being praised for making an improvement.
If this was the norm for that kid, being told off for what they hadn't done instead of being praised for that they did do, do you think this would have any sort of a negative effect?",9.503282442748088,5.332552458015272,8.499755725190841,80.7885648854962,62.587786259541986,11.701374045801527,34.5969465648855,8.238735603445708,2.3898384732824427,496,11,112,4,5,154,65,131,0.03,0.8740000000000001,0.095,0.8256,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,9,5,6,3,0,0,5,0,31,0,0,3,0,15,37,7,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,11,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,13,0,12,3,24,18,3,10,2,0,0,0,20,6,0,4,4,97,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321650470730652,0.0,0.0,0.1252192861910061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214297969584405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16285396808539224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701819024839058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611392874735449,0.7537431955417245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162056913370947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500960059261882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291269267700332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697617580612074,0.0,0.1353616787005475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23597475440724555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519010603216344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080544512266876,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maksdaddy09,2019/01/23,"New Teacher problem My son is a 9 year old Autistic, asthmatic, and has stickler syndrome which causes extremity pain. While he may be a pain in the ass he really does have a heart of gold! 

That being said the other day the new to teaching teacher shushed him when he asked politely to go to the nurse for his inhaler. They were in line going from classroom to another classroom. His nurse is amazing and told him that if you need to get your inhaler and can't get your teacher to answer just leave and she'll back him. So I told him the same thing. So today he wanted to go to the nurse for his neck hurting. His teacher again said ""not right now"" My wife talked to the teacher regarding the asthma issue already. Now a 2nd issue.  That he's been blown off for. Granted his neck is fine but he's got aches and pains

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My question is do we say anything higher than the teacher about these issues if they progress?",3.2223825966850828,5.298062022099455,3.6859633977900574,88.78485669889506,75.1878453038674,5.850966850828731,27.33459944751381,6.6274283507984215,1.1886046961325962,730,29,141,6,16,228,113,181,0.096,0.856,0.048,-0.7809,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,3,2,1,9,7,0,0,13,0,14,8,4,1,0,19,27,12,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,7,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,7,5,20,2,19,16,1,19,0,1,0,1,32,4,1,4,12,91,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443126094641741,0.0,0.0,0.14169381841528064,0.1589049976240492,0.0,0.13712817758337592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761604468991233,0.0,0.12225624738063308,0.0,0.0,0.10055730700166947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343411527441262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433855660083411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444140578321978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664827036607324,0.0,0.2229660176985792,0.0,0.10459209438067868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496808656781413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999651286085898,0.0,0.0,0.4094829448339479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384710222262053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969674309844406,0.0,0.2526051232934008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722555080135598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174589877850488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513327211387695,0.0,0.0,0.14649706136102536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377731735690212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168047382038597,0.2487924704071189,0.10399691280731063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511136861174047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868805843619266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395867450277355,0.24992075285442195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713402629241795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589049976240492,0.08421431345592016
parenting,EvenArmy,2019/01/23,"I need to rant about my child's father. We have a 7 year old child together but we broke up before I even knew I was pregnant. We were young(19 years old at the time) and didn't have a clue for what was in store but it hit me much harder. We had a custody agreement right from the beginning and now it's every other weekend with 1 day a week. He just graduated college but he has been paying the state minimum in child support for the past 7 years(Which is $140 a month) and nothing else. I just need to rant.

Let's look at my background first:

I was 19. I had 30 days to find my own place when my parents found out. Luckily, we live in a cheap state, and I got income based apartments. I've been working at the same gas station for the past 7 years and just got into a management position(Which isn't saying much) so the past 7 years I was making about $9-12/hr. The luckiest part was I had my grandparents help to babysit because, without them, I'd be homeless trying to afford a sitter. My child support basically covered my car insurance, it wasn't enough for much and he'd usually not pay it for 3-4 months at a time and then pay it in one big chunk just to satisfy the court when they threatened to take his license.

Speaking of court; it wasn't any easier on me. I have to supply all clothing for visitations so he doesn't even need to buy clothes for our child. I have to constantly supply a current phone number and address so he can get access to any information about me, at anytime. I don't mind but, there goes privacy. To top it all off, he gets to file our child on taxes every other year(You'll see later why that's a kick).

His background:

His parents would never kick him out. He didn't start college until 22 and worked less than 20 hours a week as a server at a restaurant, refusing to work anymore. Yet, his parents supported him through it all. They paid his phone, his car insurance, his gas, his food, and didn't make him pay rent or have his own car. His bills were his hobbies and $140 a month in child support. That's it. He only got our child every other weekend and 1 day a week. That's it. All the other time he had was his free time to go to college, play video games, hang out with friends.

This is where the taxes are a kick. He'll get to claim our child every other year when he doesn't need any extra income. Just knowing it hurts me more than it helps him.

Our lives now:

He graduated college and got a big boy job making great money. Probably 4-5x as much as I make. He gets to walk around with his head held high knowing he supports his ""baby momma"" and child. In reality, he got my income based rent taken away because he now pays too much in child support. He doesn't understand that part. Then he loves to brag about how much stuff they do together on his weekends and all the toys/electronics he buys our child, knowing I can't really afford any of those activities or items.

Our son goes on and on about their time together and, while I'm happy that he's happy, he's too young to understand the struggle. He's too young to understand the circumstances on why mom can't afford to do these things with him or get him these expensive things. 

I feel like I'm ""losing"" in life just because I got pregnant so young with no real support. I don't want my son to get older and start resenting me for having the ""boring"" side of the parenting. It's a depressing life right now and I'm just hoping to better days.",3.610651730021537,4.727249957203995,4.566879248132921,86.80184246594506,72.2524964336662,7.609308830522223,26.29859304634835,7.994972329748466,1.427773830102654,2704,88,567,37,51,879,292,701,0.051,0.809,0.14,0.9967,15,0,0,0,1,0,86.0,12,0,5,7,33,25,1,1,35,0,44,5,1,5,6,84,98,41,0,7,16,9,1,1,1,2,2,2,3,13,31,34,1,2,11,6,18,7,17,7,0,2,30,5,70,19,82,62,21,101,0,4,2,1,94,38,0,4,55,343,101,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534288352267053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0559384206420232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05021224439297645,0.0,0.0,0.052994180982464716,0.0,0.0,0.1031515561644797,0.0,0.04799634365853954,0.0,0.0,0.049885475703149766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095356747801677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455057592136569,0.0,0.04858138501932974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04711898571996698,0.0,0.0,0.058281252465024726,0.0,0.07450969746517487,0.0,0.19009395942687526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028519969538821733,0.040295611529742086,0.0,0.0,0.05155297959246576,0.047977907328858836,0.06820492690751309,0.06184496894645521,0.0435782206088358,0.0,0.1768151287460962,0.0,0.032056156550898086,0.0,0.2706725022453714,0.06218650831760094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008795008373095,0.0,0.0,0.0578876135879494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561391785879654,0.059594784513107436,0.0,0.05602270886271878,0.055547381474080657,0.0,0.060382521684282375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055973076070072736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299583460938764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576777454868581,0.07968077868359379,0.027556543781377445,0.0,0.0996129711052129,0.0,0.04736583918217671,0.0631025608553291,0.0,0.0,0.05090754826357129,0.0,0.15060260959517524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695278454329705,0.06606063831148243,0.13506535701863145,0.0,0.2487841768920124,0.1672938242370793,0.04350287103178303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05412194180762179,0.0,0.11837473130685562,0.0,0.03822136281381157,0.04289840395669186,0.0,0.0,0.2505234906238545,0.1221618373557906,0.16153433646385962,0.0,0.0,0.0589310271414883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060813931202392923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420102873030882,0.03613436919662364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096338808651223,0.0,0.04485537328295512,0.0,0.0,0.04494733527140296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984723758121375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058966560056089086,0.06457001911990734,0.0,0.4480526141521672,0.0,0.0,0.042409401659905775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494570631757333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644505078384908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03829516727820435,0.0,0.0,0.17615820676443278,0.0,0.0,0.062121935563192725,0.0,0.033269021635039,0.0,0.1357336223476509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179314572939673,0.0,0.0,0.054372229420962336,0.0,0.12319013258910347,0.0,0.0,0.040068362663936166,0.0,0.0,0.2179371116236181
parenting,Jessban12,2019/01/23,"What is your childs favorite meal? Looking for whole food ideas in particular!

 I've watched so many Netflix ""food"" documentaries this month & I am ready to start cutting out the processed sugar filled deliciousness that we have been living off of! 
And also just looking for new meal ideas lol. ",6.717884615384616,8.947951173076921,5.364615384615386,79.75538461538463,66.11538461538461,7.507692307692308,32.230769230769226,8.07648339933343,2.3937923076923084,239,10,40,3,4,70,46,52,0.026,0.773,0.201,0.8802,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,4,5,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,5,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,7,6,1,7,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,3,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757461520716916,0.0,0.23811550377950866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5314819074639789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4961763246856856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940566990231644,0.0,0.36909483960464906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280742059458375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754144869864187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21225060084839376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555094059751245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24535999897117736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Marycate93,2019/01/23,"First Time Mom: How should I discourage my 6 month baby’s bad habits? I’m going to list the things that I’m trying to discourage before they become bad habits as an older baby/toddler:

1) Ear-piercing screeching bloody murder, with no warning. (She can go from being fine and happy, then rolls over on a toy or drops the binky or something, and she’s straight up screaming. She is not crying or being ignored, she just seems to have a temper and short fuse. So you can only imagine how much worse for other normal things that babies fuss about, such as when I want her to go to sleep and she doesn’t want to, which will be the next bullet.)

2.) Sleeping. She sometimes wakes up every hour for no reason. Screaming, actually, and I’ve wondered about night terrors but I think she’s too young for that, in addition to she already loves to scream. She still sleeps in a bassinet in our room, we live with family so I’m not able to put her bed in the nursery to start sleep training or cry it out. How even do you sleep train?? Most babies at 6 months sleep through the night, with the exception of waking up like once to eat and be changed, I thought??

That’s pretty much it. She’s all around a good baby besides that, and I know she’s so young but is there a way to start discouraging these habits and encouraging better ones? When she’s screaming, my husband, in a somewhat louder voice than normal, says “Hey” or “no” when she’s screaming. I’m worried that’s going to do more harm than good. Or is that acceptable?  I try to ignore the screaming and not pick her up in a screaming fit for no reason until she stops.. but that is hard and doesn’t seem to work. She’s a smart little baby already. I don’t know what to do! And the sleep issue?! Other parents of babies, who mastered the baby life, please help!",2.691380571030642,4.671833328690808,3.3791843662952665,90.81732808147636,76.43732590529248,5.490285515320334,22.36081128133705,6.158741222570753,0.3259282033426181,1411,40,286,9,32,444,189,359,0.185,0.6809999999999999,0.134,-0.9398,1,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,2,2,1,4,18,28,2,1,18,0,19,12,9,6,1,61,39,33,1,5,14,3,1,1,0,2,1,9,2,0,18,18,1,6,11,1,0,5,10,18,0,2,1,10,32,10,50,32,6,47,0,3,0,1,32,20,0,11,21,188,50,1,0.08637767865935575,0.0,0.08429215424158668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063983263529194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689444713816053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442435073650282,0.0,0.09539735972970582,0.07350104252246475,0.0,0.0,0.07639403736659894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137613075013727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976364804796889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838592947963844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057051642107215125,0.0,0.07277691970923983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142918802350516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347280934159041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636170142599088,0.14489899739652282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195064511929234,0.07737743377363113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057897137242044185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506461402110492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901558548949134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494182643946132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101110892854353,0.042199770687882776,0.08657312624707086,0.07627307276864446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795922739980307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011644932817614,0.13789167802954808,0.0,0.1269950651154289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186364118762398,0.16211920007476086,0.16926357073693965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198940870974737,0.05853175053147373,0.06569411694771216,0.0,0.0,0.0959121900421265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948167524378934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787715253258717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683342472758444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762127968776673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869099701608049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572699890654944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6050804171009952,0.0,0.0,0.06649775706353574,0.08542973286562712,0.0,0.12227713107712836,0.0,0.06898132575595771,0.07221560709564058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114770983100585,0.0553473287071171,0.0,0.06857422837519409,0.0503675190571616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172895476599247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189558568354533,0.06856258076980014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367290788099003,0.06288397881719868,0.08772072555087616,0.08802623400542135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sleepisgoals,2019/01/23,"Stepson wasn’t taught how to bathe I have two stepchildren - a girl, who’s 10 and a boy who will soon be nine. My wife taught my stepdaughter how to take care of herself re: bathing and personal hygiene and my stepson learned this from his father, which makes complete and perfect sense to me. 

The problem, though, is that my stepson’s father is a foul, disgusting slob who doesn’t know the difference in a bar of soap and an ostrich. He also doesn’t wash bath towels until they smell worse than old fish. Ergo, my wife left him. In addition, my stepson doesn’t understand the first thing about hygiene. 

God bless her, my wife tried to teach this boy how to clean himself after her divorce from his father but has had no success. I have also tried to help but not in the same capacity I would if he were A) my biological child and B) younger than he is. I also have had little success. Although, I was finally able to get him to understand that soap is the foundation upon which cleanliness is built. Thank everyone’s gods. 

Just like virtually every other boy in America, I learned how to make soap into lather and what to do with it once made by showering with my father when I was very young. And if he were four or five years old, I would just drag him in the shower with me, teach him how to clean himself, and be done with it. 

But he is not four or five years old. He is nine. And he isn’t my biological child. 

I’m more concerned about his age than my relation to him, though. Our family dynamic is very stable and in the kids’ minds, they’ve got a mom and two dads. Ultimately, I’m not going to let the fact that he isn’t biologically mine stop me from doing what his biological father apparently can’t. But I do often worry about how others, such as his teachers, might perceive some things. 

I am desperate to avoid having to teach this child how to bathe the same way the rest of us learned but at this point I’m all out of ideas. I’ve tried everything I know to try and I’m at a loss. 

The closest I’ve come to actually showing him how to bathe (and the closest I’ve come to having any real success) was by having him take a shower in a swimsuit while I stood outside the shower and showed him how to make lather and use it to wash himself. When it came to the “swimsuit regions” I just sort of tried to explain and over-exaggerate the importance of making sure he made plenty of lather and used it on “everything between his legs.” 

The boy asked me what “everything between his legs” meant. I just sort of spaced out for a second because I had no idea how to explain his genitals to him. I had not prepared for that. That was a mistake because, apparently, he hasn’t discovered them yet. So I said something like “there are three things between your legs; you need to clean all of them all over. You need to move them all around - up, down, left, right, front, back - and clean every part of all of them.” And he looked at me like I was reciting the tax code.

This child is never clean. He smells. He doesn’t know how to use soap. He is going to end up with some kind of infection, chaffing, or other skin condition on his genitals (...again...) because he doesn’t know what his genitals are or how to wash them. He needs to be shown how to shower...properly. His father can’t or won’t. His grandfather is disabled. He has no uncles or other male family. Basically, he has me. 

I’m only hesitant to do this because I’m concerned about the way it would be perceived by other adults due to his age. I wouldn’t blame a teacher one bit for asking questions (or worse) if a nine year old boy came to class one day and said his stepdad taught him how to shower. My wife thinks I’m just overreacting and being paranoid and it isn’t as big of a deal as I seem to think it is. 

Help?",4.095952767712107,5.0964603841059635,4.9696338872922645,84.80517680869674,70.98675496688743,8.029239035361739,27.225415469199053,8.334251077139745,1.667367612145446,2950,98,612,44,53,960,295,755,0.059,0.853,0.087,0.9766,10,1,1,0,1,0,95.0,2,3,6,6,39,18,1,1,33,0,65,9,4,23,9,134,117,66,0,12,24,12,1,3,0,7,4,2,15,14,36,37,1,2,20,8,1,8,22,5,0,14,25,6,80,13,101,79,13,66,1,1,1,0,99,30,0,18,29,423,116,18,0.07237388456674651,0.0,0.07062647127878358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363210802018866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04921672331163919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442810141897982,0.13531962462728053,0.0,0.0,0.05565104985854368,0.0,0.17647379312711478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901353727512538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555288664302972,0.07378999878235444,0.0,0.0,0.12468738626511285,0.0758826409974574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046675168203467336,0.07461429706170865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561530537614343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406361158779767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410178001910495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195623841505968,0.06915634821821201,0.19513494226072564,0.0,0.1364553145175021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928205293534117,0.0,0.06156118924025851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037812367564198215,0.0,0.08226349291221276,0.0,0.05788400696820588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702137849815748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634026125927001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753662635828484,0.15909917686914846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726887468979664,0.0740072004501992,0.0,0.10607467275958793,0.07253764563756583,0.0,0.0,0.060775835207462485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696383900875134,0.1932405197629088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677725437517766,0.0730769919370923,0.08476341889091246,0.0,0.07692198559208402,0.0,0.1609929550802431,0.055819201486332376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037768690199945,0.07707582503551591,0.098084834466564,0.055043600505153084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837386420222156,0.0,0.0,0.06319408441281972,0.0,0.0,0.06841671422241323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925203322376627,0.0,0.0,0.08107531425634938,0.0,0.0,0.0823773252967309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061806901975814614,0.1376882753515561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588646633655941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557169522075668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060507808185828287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821152969441675,0.0,0.10883230830625268,0.0,0.0,0.06663214917100904,0.0,0.0,0.14424597902123756,0.09274852580199093,0.1422139482490914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456855843713356,0.0,0.14139753776995365,0.15068753247221953,0.08705687197242618,0.18752339690066666,0.0,0.11943206874784774,0.0,0.11489404168409635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349919288948989,0.1475103428949059,0.15423699326407567,0.0,0.0,0.13981922636991356
parenting,thisisathrowaway-1,2019/01/24,"I didn't know where else to post this. Single parent issues/custody issues/relationship issues? I'm using a throwaway because my baby mama follows my main account. 

I'm going through a very delicate situation, and before anyone asks or suggests, yes I have a lawyer, and I've already filed back in August and my trial is in March. Now. To my story. 


Postscript: I was verbose af. And I'm going through a lot, so I'm sorry if you feel like you have to decipher my thoughts. I just need guidance and someone to talk to.



My baby mama, she and I were together for 3 years, with bumps in the road. We had physical chemistry, and mentally we were pretty compatible aside from out anxiety disorders. This woman, I love her to death, and I'm proud that she is the mother of my daughter. She is a good mom. Lemme tell ya. 

But we had been stuck at my parents house due to circumstances, we gave birth in NY, grandma punched my baby mama in the face 3 days after a C-section because they got into a fight, I made us move back to OR to get away from that madness. After we got to OR, we were in my parents house from November 2017 to July 2018, she hated it here (I'm still here... been stuck paying legal bills, and I make $15/hr, housing is expensive) so in July, she and our daughter went to visit her side of the family back in NY, and 1 week in, her mom got into a care accident and she asked to stay longer. So I said yes. And then her brother offers her a chance of a lifetime to do schooling for software design or coding.. and after 8 months she could he offered a 60k/year job. She was so sure of it. So she said she was done with living here at my parents house, gave me the ultimatum to either drop everything, my job, our financial stability (jobs are hard to come by in NY) everything on pause... or for me to stay here. 

I wasn't ready, I wasn't expecting this, we hadn't talked about this before, why when we're planning to get a place and you were gonna work full time right when you got back... why? Why...? 

She started losing empathy for me (it was already low), losing interest in me, pulling away, I didn't feel like I was taken into consideration and our livelihood. You wanted me to move back in with your mother after she punched you in the face? What the fuck bro, and she tried taking control of finances when I paid the bills and had a stable job. She couldn't keep one for more than 2 months (twice) at a time while we were here between November and July. I'm sure I could have handled things differently, but she had no compassion or consideration for us or me. 

I broke up with her, and she filed for custody THE DAY we broke up. I found a lawyer and filed for custody 3 weeks later. Between July and December, this was the time period where NY courts were doing their thing first, to establish jurisdiction. My OR lawyer finds a pro bono lawyer in NY to represent me, and during the NY custody battle, she signs in an affidavit that she doesn't know who the dad is because the night our daughter was conceived she was drunk and we had a threesome... that never happened. So she attacked my acknowledgment of paternity. Then tried to say that I was violent and pushed her around when she was pregnant... that never happened. I was so protective over her. 

While this is all going on, she and I aren't talking. She is giving me monthly updates with pictures of our daughter. She was 8 months old and just learned to get in crawling position. She is 15 months now, and can crawl, walk, babble, dance... I haven't seen my kid since I dropped them off at the airport. 7 months ago. 

December rolls around and her custody case was dismissed and sent to the state that holds jurisdiction. It's a whole new ballgame folks. I send her a message trying to reach out an arm in good faith, and she bites. We start talking, she comes to OR without our daughter. It was a big deal but I got passed it. We start being flirty before she visits for the first trial we have (temp custody for me) and in the honeymoon phase... we got two motels two days apart and we have lots of sex. Good sex, like, goddamn. That was my first problem. I was a fool and fell for her game. 

Then we talk about making an agreement to settle out of this temp custody hearing. We do. She was supposed to visit two weeks ago but this shutdown has made flying unsafe and we didn't want to put our kid at risk. So we haven't followed this agreement we made back in December. 

I'm trying to salvage this relationship and I've been forgiving and apologetic, and I've been trying to be there for her and I get to see my daughter on camera more times than none in comparison. 

We're passed the honeymoon phase and we're butting heads again. And she is closing herself off from me. All signs lead to, ""just cut the cord bro."" But my heart wants my family back together. I can't reason with her because when I try to talk about tough topics, she shuts her self away and doesn't confront her feelings. I can't deal with that, because nothing gets resolved. 

Convince me to keep at it. Or Convince me to cut it off. Tell me how. I can't deal with this, back and forth, I love you but you overwhelm me from her, and I love you but you don't talk to me enough, from me. 

I was betrayed, and I shouldn't have forgiven so easily. But I think I'm being played, because she said the measure of my love would be defined by me dropping the case or not. 

Again, I'm naive, this is my first long term relationship, first kid, I thought we'd be fine, but there is a lot of unspoken and seemingly forever locked gates that lead down a path of conversation and getting our feelings in the open. 

She also picked up swinging and having multiple sex partners while we were broken up, and we were sexually vanilla when we were together the first 3 years. She never wanted us to flirt or do anything with anyone else. I was down, I liked monogamy. But now, flirting is okay, she romanticizes the thoughts of having other men desire her. She loves being flirted with. But she wants to stay monogamous until we are back together. I agreed. But I know what she truly wants. So I try to open that door to opening up the relationship while we're separated (she ""plans"" to move back....) and she has a problem with me having sex with other women, but won't talk about it with me...

TL;DR I need a therapist, and I just vented. Don't have insurance either. :)

Pls help.",3.1843970266394983,4.963374157686214,4.179362010414308,86.5058726888537,74.45958795562598,6.9312323598219,25.80668628782733,7.692491063671839,1.3590142389253643,4985,174,1000,67,105,1613,466,1262,0.078,0.816,0.105,0.9899,10,0,0,0,2,1,201.0,36,12,3,16,54,52,10,2,53,3,98,16,5,12,7,201,188,104,1,18,35,18,5,4,1,4,0,5,2,8,39,102,1,5,21,5,7,26,26,21,0,11,69,12,192,31,156,105,16,179,1,6,2,10,182,67,1,17,82,700,231,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272051302153708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052944914131268,0.032802327325707537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03137889453186255,0.0,0.0,0.05736191151776378,0.042028105451076166,0.033754573771196436,0.0730299837679859,0.07669316472446135,0.046664248705824425,0.11561415618045308,0.3154054813295765,0.0,0.15002628469218868,0.0,0.10471068085126592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04182090031080397,0.0,0.0,0.07066728333182945,0.0,0.0,0.0460055220152869,0.06549956496706458,0.0,0.0,0.07936024889435288,0.126864228106938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042855403175083136,0.0470105364012311,0.0,0.0,0.041975971920087375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853106854499577,0.0,0.0,0.04238287864796182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372922349102758,0.0,0.0773368234108239,0.0,0.08296035907827062,0.05860697707330046,0.0,0.0,0.03748999181717228,0.20934091888184544,0.0,0.044974459246866265,0.0,0.03792076621652055,0.12858224262196047,0.03934850014692095,0.06993495174964427,0.10321263584403187,0.19683653543461788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254471133578777,0.0,0.03674434853757026,0.04049708863139849,0.04209661937842715,0.0,0.04623061598007746,0.04860689430936472,0.02749370826089853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931848797707848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042812458276307225,0.16281737198799384,0.07291791640677107,0.0,0.0,0.06762777061767683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015789652044647,0.0,0.03621991882079721,0.0362999131786986,0.0,0.09177799261304548,0.0,0.10461689984621388,0.18510312914217208,0.11643754882551367,0.05476008027083135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04133680841461217,0.0,0.0,0.09608029678643827,0.19644254006036027,0.13078791479496216,0.0,0.0608291135768626,0.09490754706504287,0.03961573896233584,0.0,0.03849290485392868,0.0,0.03935817428084698,0.0,0.04304181584785217,0.0,0.027795068111647676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218391425178376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042855403175083136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03928420203857913,0.04173036715837676,0.0,0.07849796518669096,0.0,0.04123473042845405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04217365380473948,0.0,0.17615325512120247,0.0,0.03502941223341352,0.11705341643441527,0.03261940610664447,0.0,0.04151271912520271,0.032686282050996364,0.03734152847216613,0.04279104261905473,0.0,0.0,0.033930769529288744,0.046106298531300736,0.0,0.0,0.034754680570234675,0.0,0.0,0.045916639320071936,0.08709891185361272,0.13116018095397966,0.03275727499022273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773185426337156,0.0,0.030840663988185867,0.263751707747274,0.07170362099955715,0.0,0.0,0.047625418870694165,0.05450148446877835,0.02628287651135348,0.0,0.09769186797346646,0.09567242463084898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949411776918633,0.0,0.12020678470354805,0.0,0.14801992780354498,0.035426649578250945,0.0,0.0338444011616601,0.1451619703135708,0.0,0.09870724119837816,0.0,0.0,0.03802438389548225,0.11103793313035874,0.04579547776161082,0.0,0.03954018666209541,0.0,0.029861817876360695,0.0,0.0,0.02913823022981958,0.0,0.0,0.07924333953164639
parenting,AnnaBkAnna,2019/01/24,"Help with Non-Binary Teen So.  My teen has recently come out as NB.  I’m working really hard on accepting pronouns and using them as well as enforcing them with other adults. (Side note - how do I handle adults who are not wanting to use the gender pronouns my child prefers?). However, I can’t help but feel like I’m mucking it up. How do I handle this? Is there therapy?  For my kid and for me? And what happened to girls who didn’t feel feminine just being tomboys? Help me, parents of NB kids - I am trying to understand this, but I’m awfully alone. ",1.213408609738888,3.704349550458719,3.1607339449541314,87.33562455892731,85.60550458715595,7.023570924488357,23.980945659844746,8.139509932561175,1.7749810868031055,427,17,85,10,13,143,75,109,0.039,0.826,0.136,0.8643,2,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,2,1,6,3,0,0,1,1,9,0,0,4,0,21,20,11,0,2,4,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,7,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,3,11,3,14,18,0,6,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,0,2,54,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354155064604626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19579986858389967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298606461058363,0.16238403215768246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20100171219694254,0.0,0.20361724055739244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570656357983965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110478913627352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25239109802125903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561497758363115,0.0,0.22443252625471105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599387468404566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432260334845366,0.0,0.0,0.2366285791937239,0.0,0.39263053592807895,0.0,0.0,0.13406814474204812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043710884837079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654779903852405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quadgrandemocha,2019/01/24,"Does anyone use the Ovia parenting app? If so, is your community section working? Just noticed mine just freezes on the load screen now. It was always amusing to scroll through when I had time to kill.",3.562567567567569,6.426953837837843,3.32560810810811,87.69489864864866,78.18918918918921,5.8621621621621625,30.871621621621625,7.1686216300943375,1.958897297297297,160,8,29,2,4,48,34,37,0.14800000000000002,0.79,0.062,-0.5514,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,5,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,3,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,1,4,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,3,20,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076255362782167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585074747760539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235327670425253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40902561420431294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42091345349439857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4105154655058971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21557891153404224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31930782918256656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26915083291985004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stuffishappening,2019/01/24,"Is there such thing as not enough sweets? Also, meal advice please. 

Today, my 2 year old weirded me out because she spent the entire day playing with a toy cupcake tray and pretending to munch on the cupcakes.. Maybe this is just random but I found it bizarre. She doesn’t typically do one thing repetitively, all day long. And this wasn’t varied play at all. She literally just went “mmm cupcake” *munch munch* “mmm. Try it!” Repeat. Repeat repeat. 
I tried to change it up but she kept returning back to the cupcakes. 
The culprit may be that I put some maple syrup on a spinach pancake in the morning and she really liked it.. I have done this before without the same result. Other than this I usually don’t give her any sweets at all except on special occasions but I give her plenty of fruit.. and I thought this was ok but it’s making me wonder. She has also been a carboholic these past couple days - she kept asking for bread and I ended up giving her a box of little naan bites yesterday throughout the day.

She has been on a cold so I’m hoping this is all it is.. but i would like to know how much sweet stuff you incorporate into your toddler’s diet. 
My daughter is around 60th percentile in height and weight, still has a tiny bit of Michelin arms remaining from babyhood, and doesn’t seem skinny to me so I have always guessed there was no issue with food.  

She often refuses what I give her (most often at dinner time, since lunch foods are the tastier things like chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese) and I don’t attempt to give her something tastier and junkier that she might prefer, because that’s what I’ve read you’re supposed to do. I do however try very hard to make those healthy meals desirable to her, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I have figured this is all just normal and expected but I am worried now. I gave her bologna last week and since then she’s been demanding it, and I don’t want to be feeding her bologna every day. I refused to give her more and she forgot about it after a couple days, but now this cupcake thing is making me wonder if she’s acquiring a sweet tooth. What if she gets so stubborn that she starves herself unless she gets what she wants? At bed time for the past couple days she has held my hand on her stomach which makes me more worried.

I don’t want to be evil and keep her hungry all night.. but I don’t want to give in to her desires for unhealthy food.  I’m not really sure if I’m giving her too much or too little junk food. 
What’s also concerning me is that when she was 1 she was in a nursery where I would walk in on them giving her chocolate cookies all the time and maybe she acquired bad habits there.

TLDR: how much sweets do you give a 2 year old? Bonus question: chicken nuggets - yay or nay?




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parenting,alwaystiredmom,2019/01/24,"5 year old, preschool? Has anyone delayed kindergarten? Is that even possible? My son turned 5 this month. He's never been to daycare or preschool. I know I'm supposed to be getting him ready for kindergarten but i just don't feel like he's ready. He's also tiny for his age. Is it possible to put him in Pre-K even though he's five? Has anyone done this???",0.22123287671232816,2.6184511917808244,1.3200136986301378,98.60084246575344,91.87671232876713,4.015890410958904,20.9986301369863,5.6839178017228535,-0.08005643835616416,279,10,61,2,10,87,51,73,0.06,0.852,0.08800000000000001,0.4301,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,1,7,13,4,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,6,1,6,10,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,7,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18871384548558906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300066729849879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24149039793364505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117263260031917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931903664237985,0.16858480658963002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232902837727118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968893465146675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528835094693304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835770799456952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200302267589635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476222648679257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5320660300706819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237225989163784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23185004226857134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566794623973537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151963966699169
parenting,LaurnUQ,2019/01/24,"Please offer advice, 18yr old in highschool My x is horrible. He was ordered supervised visits with my younger son. He has let my 18 yr old daughter come live with him at his mother's. She has no rules at all. She is allowed out for weeks at a time without being checked on at all, she's sleeping at her boyfriends, skipping school, etc. He says she can do whatever she wants because she is 18. I am very worried for her safety and she will never graduate highschool living like this. Is there anything I can do? Are my hands tied because she is 18? Thanks for any advice, feeling so helpless. ",2.883011857707512,5.195287182608702,3.4681422924901213,88.81841897233204,77.17391304347827,5.5731225296442695,28.715415019762844,6.574015621080383,1.4122173913043476,466,21,88,4,11,146,79,115,0.1,0.804,0.096,-0.3441,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,17,2,2,1,3,12,21,2,0,1,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,3,18,2,14,17,3,16,0,1,0,0,21,8,0,0,6,59,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777114695609921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142641922026832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904013388683902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23562436867297645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664801676758808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554089297557333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772028751231908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19762594291575086,0.0,0.0944192236073918,0.0,0.3413120116803566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490574195407364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4055969541535965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21214627483108084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536916078299521,0.0,0.19559389054744286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340397309354984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793189349575222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269402574676185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946337016595435,0.11399235034259746,0.0,0.15502504403503378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18629998480432194,0.0,0.0,0.1962693793302783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dana_Bear,2019/01/24,"Biting I'm a daycare worker with a child in my classroom (2 years old) who bites everyone, teachers and other kids, completely unprovoked, meaning that it's not like someone took his toy and he's mad. I try to sit down with him and talk, but he doesn't have the ability to focus at all. His eyes are always looking around for something else to do, and he can't stop moving. I've never had a child like him before, and I'm wondering how to handle his biting habit. What are your suggestions for helping an overactive toddler learn to stop biting? It might be helpful to note that he's almost completely non communicative, so he can't ""tell"" me what's wrong. ",5.655058139534884,6.1116311240310095,6.249137596899228,78.97975290697677,67.2170542635659,9.240697674418604,30.85368217054264,9.188382445141503,2.597224031007752,521,19,98,9,8,170,89,129,0.099,0.815,0.086,-0.1899,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,3,4,1,0,5,0,10,1,1,1,2,20,16,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,8,0,2,3,1,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,2,9,2,14,12,1,12,0,0,2,0,20,4,0,3,7,57,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987611258495604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157778259961415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688011777871132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613518662027738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976239836921247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840240526625698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811891515283885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25419533713271425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527660343696215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923226570499208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065507607492746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20115587267596988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153506745803373,0.0,0.0,0.14624591981618387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897332121271688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066362639511533,0.14597802741669705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170600735434887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240862935334246,0.16573542881755235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067376863998752,0.12873890458916865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20563379756986103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073186909465738,0.0,0.12210846700283495
parenting,CantMatchTheThatch,2019/01/24,"17 year old came home crying and drunk, very regretful of his decision to drink. (Thankfully) sober friend dropped off my son  tonight. He was crying and profusely apologizing to me and wife for drinking. Friend explains his soda was spiked and he kept drinking. I don't know how to really handle this. I feel punishment isnt what he needs but what else can I do?",4.184901960784317,6.491452000000002,4.447647058823531,83.36107843137258,73.11764705882355,8.650980392156864,27.509803921568626,9.2995712137729,2.513168627450981,288,11,54,7,6,90,52,68,0.158,0.782,0.06,-0.6055,0,0,3,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,0,14,13,6,0,2,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,5,1,4,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,1,7,3,6,9,0,6,0,1,0,0,11,1,0,0,3,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23631078095850064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.453910416330114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6072076613837347,0.0,0.0,0.1725990521554688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446998454420303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31925812734630504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207250168688508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354936630271685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532012789196543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21680609323964767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236188721545722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19022193483700767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17047776097162678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305230832461504
parenting,damaj1,2019/01/24,"Home schooling VS Traditional school? I am not sure which way is actually ""BETTER"" for my child, who is 11 yrs old and has autism?  I think that home schooling which is what we have been doing now for a little over 3 years is great but I wonder if that is More for ME?  It is much easier than fighting with the hurrying in the morning to make it to school.  Also it is helpful for ME to not worry about what might or could be happening with my son while he is at school, i.e. bullying, teachers not understanding him correctly and many other things.  I wonder if I am doing the right thing for HIM?  Does anyone else homeschool now or have homeschooled and now do not?  I am curious on your thoughts and how you felt  about it.  Also with other parents who only believe in traditional public or private school and why, if you have an opinion on this?  I would love to hear from parents who currently homeschool and how you manage your weekly schedule?  That task is very difficult for me but more so because of my son's autism.  ",5.393369777430692,6.273538208121831,5.713908629441626,81.08734869191727,67.93401015228426,8.498086684888715,29.367044123389306,8.617729084823388,2.1412103865677468,805,28,153,12,13,257,116,197,0.076,0.831,0.093,0.6814,3,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,1,5,0,1,10,6,1,0,5,0,24,1,0,3,2,38,34,20,0,5,13,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,19,10,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,2,21,4,24,27,3,18,0,0,0,1,22,8,0,10,9,123,40,7,0.0,0.0,0.10802190989435956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704477832670568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740020096912084,0.11341964457573273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747836836080058,0.0,0.0,0.12471484800255707,0.0,0.0979003312364004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838058840265134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686954394986362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247108992120376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628412424735642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220411287436896,0.0,0.0,0.0978868222496036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476079939128715,0.0,0.07419622144638335,0.0,0.2220713120454114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094501649502593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999061503812018,0.0,0.07388946961321154,0.1122268963607855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174294213470523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137322864954792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615530614484385,0.0,0.0,0.08418819100501973,0.0,0.0,0.24582638903277024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945325382281502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6721727469776516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432830043740543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470810766022853,0.07092859600382617,0.0,0.08787910553798435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523692717610905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133459406354737,0.0,0.08786417892243313,0.08879248853130263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988461114217548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400870284003429,0.0,0.11241568561845576,0.0,0.07863423013628572,0.0,0.0,0.07128365894053011
parenting,umme99,2019/01/24,"Dealing with Bad Teachers: What Happened and How did you Handle It? There are wonderful teachers that make your child’s year great and, unfortunately let’s face it, some people that probably should’ve chosen a different profession.

If you’ve had a year with a bad teacher please share the situation and how you handled it, and how you child got through it.",3.5738846153846167,6.700406753846156,3.7356730769230784,82.75120192307695,81.46153846153845,6.9423076923076925,28.125,8.07648339933343,2.3482692307692306,289,13,50,6,8,89,44,65,0.129,0.7020000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.4404,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,4,1,1,4,0,13,8,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,4,2,3,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,3,2,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4172476163896721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25759610228093344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610519525710722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983696378028676,0.2754730437823651,0.0,0.0,0.22095158532918707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555001806279631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678440544879367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17322241427566146,0.0,0.0,0.2742727535625113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26939281824821404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28085464995505705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709639986410129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218050619891073
parenting,thenapkeeper,2019/01/24,"How to help my 5 year old Fundraise Growing up, I was heavily involved in sports, Girl Scouts, 4-H, and all things band related- and I did alot of fundraising! 

My 5 year old is required to participate in a gymnastics meet at the end of the year and has brought  home a sponsor form for a compete-a-thon- where the athletes are wagering how much they can complete fitness wise. She is fundraising for her leotard. 

My SO quickly asked ‘can’t we just pay for it’ and yes, we can, but that’s not the point. 

I’m rusty- it’s been years since I had to ask people to come and have a bidding war over my livestock animal, sell citrus for musical instruments and girlscout cookies. 

Ideas to help get my sort of shy child rolling? How have you helped your child fundraise? ",3.3887266112266134,5.477275804054057,3.360810810810808,91.24448024948029,74.74324324324324,6.716008316008318,29.62785862785863,7.61054688173877,1.7229671517671519,601,27,123,8,13,182,103,148,0.065,0.847,0.08800000000000001,-0.2362,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,1,1,7,2,1,0,9,1,13,0,0,3,1,20,19,11,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,9,0,1,1,2,3,3,2,1,0,0,5,1,15,1,17,14,4,19,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,2,8,76,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36118022410631107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640091279629746,0.2025375798723216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710934044983026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092460297938223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884381514387146,0.0,0.19376766151724809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21806811982498706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200393630589206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4054038648612828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339214153413759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261035118543287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979420052253124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833515506422627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4975867533749728
parenting,Throwawayformykids19,2019/01/24,"Mother concerned about losing children. Husband and I are married. Long term marriage with four kids. Two are grown, two at home.

I’ve been blind concerning my husbands behavior for years. Last summer I was practically forced to open my eyes to her verbally and emotionally abusive behaviors towards myself and children. Yes, I feel incredible guilt.

I’m processing my situation with the help of a therapist and making an exit plan. It’s as if he can sense it and his behavior has improved. My kids are also seeing a counselor.

Apparently they have discussed their home life with friends and I believe a teacher from their school plans to report the abusive behavior. It’s a long story and for privacy I can’t disclose how I know about the coming report. But I know.

What will happen? Could I lose my kids? If so, I will leave tomorrow ahead of the report. I can not lose my kids. He has not been physically abusive but has done some extreme things, almost exclusively when I was away from home and my kids were afraid to tell me.

Im in TN and the report will be made to social services. Could I lose my kids?

Edited to add - children are 14 and 15 years old, male and female. Son was forced to stay outside in cold weather as punishment and daughter has been locked in a dark closet. Those are examples of the abuse.",3.395564516129032,6.016301427419361,4.26589677419355,82.14684516129033,77.06451612903227,7.032516129032259,27.258709677419358,8.109356740369918,2.0624143225806453,1046,43,186,19,25,336,145,248,0.151,0.818,0.031,-0.9823,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,0,0,3,7,6,8,1,2,12,1,27,3,1,3,0,34,36,22,0,4,6,5,1,0,1,3,2,0,4,10,6,18,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,7,0,3,9,5,27,1,28,21,2,22,0,4,3,0,28,8,0,4,11,126,33,7,0.0,0.5099132207024433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773732132278396,0.0,0.0,0.08604086421816709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108573308276947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121874934007862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268052948571584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718060770420855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010343456853876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102592870724542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054401482858731136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312490720715994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514278660491364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211629820777797,0.0,0.3237690676963721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621725650892525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825892253144413,0.0877014127105483,0.0,0.11392383774732835,0.0,0.0,0.07599504112066736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904301405157868,0.0,0.4814693617453351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180565572797737,0.07181814546838562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289915487691755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888831740847922,0.08573647619028593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093732655441558,0.0,0.10967596012720407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467819755833099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403969201811407,0.0,0.0,0.12492199586019287,0.07147899565637834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020247614513501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385707656072933
parenting,5134912065,2019/01/24,"I’m exhausted—normal or do I need help? I go to bed almost every night by 830 pm. I’m a 41 yo SAHM to four kids- age 11,9,5,3.  My husband just got a promotion and works a lot. He is also in night school one night a week. I fed my kids McDonald’s and everyone brushed their teeth and are in bed- at 745. 😳

I’m so tired. Anyone else or do you think I might have a problem?",-1.855522088353414,0.04052520481927502,1.1821987951807245,98.90614959839355,98.1566265060241,4.6943775100401615,16.555220883534137,6.42735559955562,-0.3331116465863455,284,8,71,4,12,99,62,83,0.091,0.872,0.036000000000000004,-0.625,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,2,3,1,0,0,5,0,6,3,1,0,0,12,14,7,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,8,0,6,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,5,5,36,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090938234372555,0.0,0.0,0.1684358336161486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472731079166178,0.21580904631152475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759492176327278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745969552827662,0.20126013491632788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970239977072905,0.0,0.16845515056925564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411767410324672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906488322170774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22343864261450708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617493160950946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5929687049032017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427241860407239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153859926014425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131626022171502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495927197673696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24208115579741196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894976475413295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333668667334197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dooda07,2019/01/24,Kids in the movies... So my son loves toy story. I can't blame him. I can watch it at least once a week and it's entertaining. He gets all excited about buzz lightyear. I keep turning on my baby monitor now and again to see what his toys are up to. I'm always disappointed 😔,-0.5891379310344824,1.6100610344827615,1.8857758620689644,94.45556034482763,93.82758620689656,5.658620689655173,17.594827586206893,7.1686216300943375,0.1944413793103448,212,6,50,4,8,72,51,58,0.052000000000000005,0.758,0.19,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,9,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,7,3,7,9,2,7,0,1,2,1,6,4,0,0,3,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335100994595501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040815318140169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35796212164596797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36347669871097255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288909435020621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32092115211911604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4380511585340015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32304318081064204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kilshok,2019/01/24,"Any good tips or resources for child discipline (girl. ages 5-10) Me and my S.O. are having slight issues with discipline. She's a wonderful kid (age of 5) but she pushes boundaries and has problems with listening, arguing, and altogether needing attention. 
She's wonderful at school. Gets the top 2 best colored days (behavior colors) consistently, yet ..at home it a different story. 

Don't get me wrong she isn't hell child or anything. She just doesn't necessarily seem to take to punishments very long before pulling the same things again. If you would like a little more back story just ask or message me. 

But any tips or resources would be greatly appreciated!!
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parenting,onefineday0410,2019/01/24,"4.5 year old- conecerning feedback from teacher Hi, I had a parent/teacher conference this morning w my boy’s teacher and she expressed concerns around his ability to understand questions and follow directions (ie place these into pattern).He knows all his letters and numbers to 30. I can understand her concerns as I have observed the same but chalked it up to him not being interested in the question at hand.  He is socially great. Super friendly, sweet kid. I’m gonna get him in with a specialist but wanted to see if anyone had/has similar experience.",4.859200000000001,7.8173945200000015,5.419999999999997,74.015,73.8,8.0,37.0,8.841846274778883,4.043,452,27,67,10,10,145,81,100,0.026,0.745,0.229,0.976,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,1,18,14,7,0,2,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,10,5,13,11,2,10,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,3,2,44,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696967915707094,0.0,0.0,0.1998450333608016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21959576727636512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344157897461626,0.0,0.117287545199834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475026754840911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337465953840958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355660697214672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492712482116799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345458409089631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5029637231409875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788906635300513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288408172608564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4674071451855055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324109053262234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456516821579232
parenting,IllithidShadows,2019/01/24,"Blanket-washing advice needed! Hi Parents!

I am an older sibling in desperate need of reassurance. One of our cats spit up a hairball or vomited over some blankets and a beloved Winnie the Pooh baby blanket was in the mix. One of my own blankets said to wash on a gentle cycle with cold water, so the washing machine was set to that. I tried to read the tag on the baby blanket, but it was very faded and completely unreadable. The blanket used to be mine and it's so precious because it was given to me by our late grandpa. It's one of the only gifts we have left that he gave us and has been with us for forever. It's a quilted kind of blanket, made out of either cotton or polyester if I have to guess, but I'm no fabric expert. 

Will the baby blanket be okay? It's with one pillow and a few other soft blankets. If it turns out okay, should I hang dry?

Thank you very much!",2.5609683426443226,4.220920776536314,4.226011173184356,86.01875605214153,75.87150837988827,6.114115456238363,27.0171322160149,6.742157984588678,1.2590242830540035,685,27,135,6,15,230,109,179,0.025,0.856,0.12,0.9531,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,14,2,13,5,1,2,0,25,24,13,0,5,7,2,1,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,10,11,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,9,3,13,6,25,11,5,14,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,6,3,98,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16852148262539246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512724963738528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808162719670832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997913541516712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958582666615158,0.0,0.0,0.1945372740179668,0.0,0.18737336526558312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318152899219726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267746083648719,0.25574708143986924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4674411399399456,0.13116015083503388,0.0,0.0,0.19149138305423025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250213200631373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640446373201468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877382030839074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708593917696587,0.18758202202950566,0.0,0.0,0.4148853764775319,0.1489461493365716,0.0,0.2845876361238641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anonmommy2,2019/01/24,"Talk to me about potty training How you did it, when you did it, how long it took. We are starting soon as hes about to turn 2. I know every kid is diffrent but we are very close to family and our family is very they do this at this time they do that at this age etc. I know not to push him but i do think once he understands what hes meant to do on there it will go well. Pee at least i hope. 

Hes almost 2, will be like 2 and 2 weeks when we start. He will sit on his small potty (we havent had an sucess getting him to sit on the seat for the big potty although we've heard alot of advice to go straight to big potty but with my son eager to sit on the small one i dont get why? I get its easier but he likes his own potty) 

Anyways he sits on his small potty clothed and naked, even once imitated me wiping my taking some toilet paper and putting it in his small potty. So i think were gonna go ahead with the date we have in mind to start. 

I was thinking putting him in pull ups (heard the give them underwear only thing but i'm so unsure about that. I've heard it works wonders but im not sure if my son would hate the feel.) And having him try to go for at least 3-5 minutes every hour. High praise for when he does go and a small treat/toy from his prize box. As well as letting him keep track of when he goes with stickers. 

Of course i've heard so much to the contrary of what we want to do. Mentally i feel like i'm about to do it all wrong (i've heard no small potty. No rewards. Start when they tell you they have to go. No pull ups. His pediatrican said we should start at 2 and a half.) But him bieng my only i'm hoping it'll work out (not instantly of course like the 3 day method i understand it will take time)


Anyways sorry that was super long. I'm not good at short and sweet. ",0.5630851663846599,2.120038644670053,2.275287648054146,98.24314015792444,81.33502538071066,5.393006204173718,17.289622109419064,6.139981653823899,-0.6026269599548786,1382,25,346,10,36,454,182,394,0.066,0.792,0.142,0.9871,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,8,3,5,7,22,18,1,0,12,0,33,1,1,2,2,57,79,30,0,6,12,2,2,4,0,8,0,6,0,1,19,20,0,1,11,0,0,12,9,2,2,2,14,9,47,16,52,55,8,66,1,0,0,0,50,29,0,7,25,209,66,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462968126909076,0.0,0.0,0.09696999473024942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062452966336293415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474422080383141,0.0,0.11349426444488142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800077649979918,0.06396106453335793,0.0,0.16318160481039012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258186294734802,0.0,0.09792913804351856,0.06918160446617258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517827107738412,0.09289652902918843,0.33021407429040694,0.08122372802066795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956081923223879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231542974324913,0.0,0.19236540846655115,0.09536663741745297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460244057368508,0.0,0.0,0.08607470822187872,0.0,0.0,0.1064400613815334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902415730376003,0.0,0.1892420380250002,0.0,0.0,0.17139844851879912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759065805618786,0.0,0.09777950659995213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07118760525771689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062601632328999,0.06562042624397199,0.14730042811592214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469933125557196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211580328910562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840302429808413,0.3427147397913802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126935224276332,0.0,0.14562133889528406,0.0778352989432811,0.08464131396129614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433534588590811,0.1861510343487829,0.0,0.0,0.11293487857005358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759138659783143,0.06574713759217157,0.10533272482489438,0.0,0.20162505578474899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980417974003405,0.05711798899076138,0.0,0.07767818394719479,0.0,0.1741392872184832,0.0,0.0873818869831613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050174663639626,0.14099949024017638,0.0,0.0,0.06879145177825599,0.10587794375438617,0.0,0.0
parenting,WisdomPassingThrough,2019/01/24,"What does it mean to be...? Asked a general question to my husband. What does it mean to you, to be Japanese? He did not know how to respond. He returned the question, what does mean to you, to be Native American? I gave my answer and wondered.

So I pose it to you all...

What does it mean to You to be ____?

Spanish, German, African, Pursian, Incan, Filipino, Russian, Chinese. So on and so forth.

How will this effect how you raise and educate your offspring?",0.8184482758620709,3.367257885057473,2.4283045977011497,90.56590517241379,90.83908045977013,4.739080459770115,26.790229885057467,6.42735559955562,1.280533333333333,344,17,66,4,12,112,49,87,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,6,0,1,6,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,4,1,19,14,9,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,10,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,10,0,11,7,1,2,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,3,1,49,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045305203908513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5633432777016966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844599149162838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7012241500307625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36056938551207257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452778241465527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MalboroUsesBadBreath,2019/01/24,"What are some parenting books you read where the advice actually worked for you? Looking to read some parenting books but the selection out there is daunting, with so much contradicting advice it makes my head spin. Plus, some of the books have advice that sounds nice in theory (see: Bringing Up Bebe) but there is no way of knowing if it actually works on real kids! 

​

So what are the books you read that actually gave you advice that changed your parenting for the better?

​",7.258901515151514,8.841660420454549,6.489090909090908,74.66196969696973,64.11363636363636,9.957575757575757,31.71212121212121,10.125756701596842,3.277380303030302,399,15,67,9,6,122,55,88,0.063,0.8540000000000001,0.083,0.465,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,5,0,3,5,2,0,0,5,0,5,1,1,1,0,12,11,6,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,3,0,0,1,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,2,11,10,4,7,0,0,2,0,10,5,0,4,0,47,13,9,0.0,0.0,0.3496951443859255,0.0,0.0,0.4668969411127197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588460049991378,0.2902873552947236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564298329423316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263612630918368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258919272626352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564607743099392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030712320388048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797331725581122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780880029980666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979021232394168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584441424667129,0.13595917669479812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518543267890113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481310092455418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392067110632378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902873552947236,0.0
parenting,IVdBooks,2019/01/24,"Afraid to hurt my future baby Parents of Reddit,

I’m ridiculously clumsy. It’s not that time yet, but if I ever take a moment to think about having children I am plagued by irrational fears that I will drop and accidentally kill my future baby in a freak accident. Please bring me some comfort.",7.752619047619048,7.39353521428572,8.125714285714286,70.05261904761906,62.92857142857143,10.323809523809524,32.95238095238096,9.725611199111238,3.1453523809523816,236,8,40,4,3,78,47,56,0.412,0.505,0.08199999999999999,-0.9771,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,2,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,7,7,3,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,6,6,1,9,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,2,6,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157253439616025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927653981027575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373652978066412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861594322248436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875659948281133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831395046742522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624335451091845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236498040763207,0.0,0.0,0.20352718066221714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BaconNCaffeine,2019/01/24,"Beaching it with Kids Hi all!  
Mods, if this isn’t parenting enough, delete away!

I’m on the hunt for a new beach cart.  I currently have the stand up one that you pull, and once we put in the beach bag with towels, a soft cooler, and some toys, she’s full!!!  I have a 6 and 2 year old (they’ll be 7 and almost 3 this summer), so we have a LOT of crap at the beach!

I’m hoping to get a wagon, but the common sense in me says that inflatable tires are better than hard tires for sand.  Do you have any recommendations that won’t break the single-mom bank?  How do you manage two littles with only one adult and so much gear?  (Super small tent, bag, toys, boogie boards, swimmies, blanket, lunch, snacks, diapers n wipes, mom’s chair, etc)",3.6226,4.138955393333333,4.341333333333335,90.654,71.73333333333333,7.333333333333332,21.0,7.1686216300943375,0.26580000000000004,559,9,128,5,10,179,109,150,0.025,0.922,0.053,0.7076,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,3,1,2,3,4,1,0,11,0,11,5,1,1,1,18,15,10,0,2,2,2,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,6,10,2,0,0,6,1,2,2,1,0,3,0,4,10,3,14,12,7,19,0,0,0,0,13,9,1,5,6,71,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817046591102668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233981267456013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048640568745693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16048545879882786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749532623238552,0.20237439769003526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480467229996896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625513376161278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802294156416935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18186927101047076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542696830404335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4250444322130533,0.0,0.0,0.1333930107164853,0.0,0.0,0.17525392652953706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19041036289816515,0.19324757494583428,0.2459221992225568,0.13800750506409332,0.0,0.0,0.20148839299388785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241609537674155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443032277319391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171201243148178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772587660577395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116853442327033
parenting,pinkibee,2019/01/24,"Mothers dog bit my toddler. My mother lives with my partner and I and our 2.5yo daughter. She has a cat and a dog, her dog is blind and will sometimes lash out if you bump into him while he is sleeping. This dog also adores our daughter, so he follows her around the house so he can be close to her.

Yesterday I was reading a book on the sofa while my daughter played with her Duplo on her room. (Her bedroom is right next to the lounge room, so I can hear her, but not see her.) Anyway- Ms2.5 decides to come show me her tower- and trips over in her doorway. I get up quickly and see her surrounded by duplo on the floor, crying, and the dog standing by her.

I scoop her up and we cuddle for a bit. She is in hysterics. At first I thought it was just the shock of the tumble that was upsetting her, but she asked to watch Octonauts on the couch and I was happy to let her have some screen time to calm her down. 

I go to sit her down and notice blood on her foot. OMG. What? I look back to her doorway and mums dog is still standing there. Completely still. I ask DD if he bit her. She says yes. FUCK. I clean her wound as best I can, call my partner, he comes home from work and we take her to a nurse's walk in clinic. The wound isn't too bad, but risk of infection is high. 

WWYD re: the dog? Obviously he can't be inside when my daughter is awake- but that's not a forever solution. This isn't the first time he has bitten someone- not even the first time he has drawn blood. This far my mum has kinda had her head in the sand about it- but I can't have this dog in my home! If it was a behavior that he expresses when he was awake maybe we could get a trainer and work on it- but because he is asleep when the biting occurs I don't think we can help him? 

For a bit of background this dog was her late partners pet, so I think he reminds her of her dead bf- which is why I am reluctant to ask for euthanasia- but he isn't safe! ",1.2842488076311582,2.9890210735294147,2.6796581875993652,95.49109697933227,79.68627450980392,5.979438261791202,21.076046634870163,6.885778809224403,0.2257532326444092,1490,41,350,16,37,483,193,408,0.095,0.826,0.078,-0.85,1,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,6,1,0,6,19,11,1,2,23,1,39,13,6,0,1,48,57,34,1,4,14,8,1,0,4,1,5,2,9,3,14,25,0,1,4,4,0,6,9,5,0,3,9,9,64,6,44,43,6,55,0,0,6,2,72,28,1,5,18,234,78,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873052395020977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718670508329227,0.3061847585367254,0.0,0.0,0.08394694319805894,0.09115450941000187,0.06655056609553593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145698436228072,0.0,0.4767525458996786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147736791079332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880849500398944,0.11446532940032755,0.0,0.0,0.08716538844869043,0.0,0.11992090706648136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210743197137573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785863161338126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10092825255242682,0.11407629074974435,0.0,0.062045269445310025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621619716402465,0.0,0.0,0.11204252065925492,0.0,0.12304538517628212,0.0,0.07317605121991975,0.1153467807901427,0.2190179147660884,0.0,0.0,0.1259704515086364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315137851731675,0.0,0.0,0.11163631716260336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640135152599354,0.0,0.09167743643549936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967848859243157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610623310598353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429365853999184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109202082022552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323275127064212,0.0,0.08681838438716194,0.0,0.0,0.17399275695044308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925138148478546,0.0,0.09250153749381228,0.0,0.10797443199556844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743706603534896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820841621741304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399067088041308,0.0,0.0866708007853914,0.1909781552206333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851123518875476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895781636326065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Parenting111111,2019/01/24,"how do you forgive yourself for hitting your kid? Acknowledging that this is probably ENTIRELY too intense for this sub, but looking for some words to get me through at least this evening. Trigger warning : discussion of trauma, and well, you read the title.

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My son was born when I was 19. My relationship with his father lasted less than a year, and most of the time he was beating me up (while I was pregnant). There was some cult stuff happening also. His rights were terminated as a result of the abuse, and my family of origin removed support after I was in a homeless shelter. For about five years prior to my son's birth I was in a relationship in which I was raped on a regular basis, there was physical abuse in that relationship as well and a lot of, um, very creative abuse. My parents were not physically abusive but were in other ways - my stepfather works in the medical field and was fond of bringing home psychiatric medications to give me  (from doctors who had never met me). I have been suicidal for most of my life.

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Eleven years later I'm finally in therapy for my own trauma issues. It's been really hard to find a therapist I can afford and who is able to listen to me talk about things that happened to me. I've caused secondary trauma in therapists.

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Although I did complete college with a Bachelor's (it took me six years because I was working full-time to support us), I haven't been able to hold a job for more than two years at a time and usually end up getting fired over issues relating to executive functioning - I do have abundant coping strategies in place, but nobody wants to work with Sheldon Cooper and I am that. My son has a dual diagnosis of autism & ADHD and I have many of the same traits as him although I can't afford an autism diagnosis for myself.  I live in this specific expensive town because it means we're close to the Autism center that has provided services for him since he was diagnosed, and because he has had access to supportive and challenging schools and good advocacy when we need it.

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I get stuck in thinking about all the times I lost my shit and hit my kid. I didn't realize I was experiencing PTSD triggers, sensory triggers, and meltdowns, and it's only through the constant work over the past seven years to develop adequate coping strategies for/with my son's autism that I've realized what was happening for me when he was very young. We were constantly in crisis, with breaks that would last three months to a year, until I lost my job or the person I was dating (and lost housing as a result - we've been homeless six times and I haven't completed a year lease in that time). The crisis was just because I couldn't make enough money to survive and I had/have very little social support (I don't do friendships well). I really slipped through the cracks. I was always just functional enough to stay out of any kind of assistance programs, but living in the projects really spun my PTSD out of control. I am a smart, articulate person with no addiction issues, so I don't really qualify for help in ways that would have helped.

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Right now we're living in ""nontraditional"" housing - in a ""tiny house"" on a friend's farm - and we're at the easiest place in our lives and our relationship. We have good routines, we have enough space around the house that I feel safe when I go home, he gets to play outside, we're not living in some crazy ghetto with abusive landlords and rats, and I just got a job making just enough money that my kid is transitioning off Medicaid to private insurance and we actually won't qualify for any government aid. He's in a great charter school (although I'm in the middle of a fight about his IEP that is pretty stressful) and he gets to do cool afterschool programs a few days a week. 

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But I still can't be around kids under the age of six without crying. I was so busy with work and school that I completely missed his childhood and I was a completely traumatized asshole although I didn't know it. Most of the time I was either ignoring him or yelling at him. I put a lot of effort into doing things with and for him, but I don't think I was really able to interact with him in the ways I should have. And I have a story in my head about people who hit their kids, and that story is that they get their kids taken away and they go to jail or disappear.  He and I have always talked about these things : I apologize, tell him it is not his fault, listen to his feelings and validate them, and talk about a plan / solutions / whatever to not do it again. And then I try really hard to put those solutions in place and sometimes it works. I've finally realized I yell when he is overwhelmed and when he won't stop doing something and I ask over and over and he doesn't stop and we get into this terrible feedback loop (and dear god, the shrieking -and  he used to destroy things so I couldn't just walk away because if your kid breaks the wall you get kicked out and you're homeless again) - which is completely normal for a young child, especially an autistic/ADHD one, I just couldn't handle it. We still talk about it. 

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Like he just had something happen at school that involved disciplinary action and he said was afraid to tell me because he was afraid I would hit him even though it's been over four years since I last did. We were sitting in the parking lot in the car for two hours talking before he finally would tell me what had happened at school, and we just had  a calm conversation about it, and talked about solutions. But I recognize that I have damaged him.  I  spent half an hour sitting in the car in a parking lot crying because he told me, right after I got out of therapy, that he had told his teachers he didn't feel safe at home (during that disciplinary action). He told me he clarified with them that it was because ""sometimes we yell at each other and the loud noise scares me"", that they asked if he gets hurt and he said no. But now I'm terrified that we'll have to go back into shelter and I won't survive it. Being in shelter is deeply, incredibly traumatizing in ways that make it hard for me to stay alive. It's all just one day at a time. Didn't yell at my kid today. Okay, didn't yell at my kid today ,either...

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I've never told a therapist or anyone. I might tell my current therapist. I am afraid of getting sucked into a requirement that we move into housing that I can't afford and/or which exacerbates my PTSD/suicidal symptoms (proximity to other people, the risk of losing housing, inspections of my living space, supervision, and people in shelters or low-income housing often behave in ways that are not safe for me - I can't handle a stranger touching me, for example, and that's happened and I started screaming and got kicked out of the shelter). Panic attacks in caseworker offices because of how the chairs are arranged, let me tell you how much fun that is. And yes, I'm medicated - I've been on almost every medication used for anxiety and depression since I was nine years old, and while it's possible for me to numb out the hypervigilance, it prevents me from being able to function at my job. 

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If you've gone through anything like this, how the fuck do you live with yourself?

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parenting,princesskeestrr,2019/01/24,"Family meetings This morning at breakfast I suggested that we have weekly family meetings in which everyone gets a chance to talk about their feelings from the week. My husband was skeptical because our 2 kids are so young (3yrs and 16mo) and kinda laughed so I said, “fine, let’s have a practice one right now.”  

Of course he suggested that the baby goes first because he loves being difficult, so I started by talking about teething issues and some behavior things we are working on and lo and behold, the baby took over and started babbling conversationally (it was so cute). My three year old went next and basically said that this week he wants more cookies and not to have to stop playing ever, then we talked about all the great things he is up to. He still has to stop playing to eat and sleep, but I don’t mind baking some cookies tonight. Each of us took a turn, basically my husband wants to buy the kids more pants so he doesn’t have to do laundry as much. For some reason we have a disproportionate number of shirts. Easy. I apologized for having a giant meltdown on Monday and said my goal for this week is to get into a better routine so I’m not so overwhelmed. 

So all in all, I think it was good and should help all of us communicate better, but I would love to hear from other parents who have family meetings. How do you structure them? Or is it more casual? Is it hard to keep it going, or do you fall into a schedule? I don’t want this to turn into a performance review or be stressful, but I would like everyone to have a chance to feel heard and practice expressing themselves even if they are still tiny. Would definitely love to hear from some veteran parents on tips and tricks or even general family communication advice. TIA!

TL; DR Weekly family meetings, yay or nay? ",4.487017543859646,6.31115963157895,5.221345029239767,80.18885964912283,71.10526315789474,7.9906432748538,28.456140350877188,8.626192665926032,2.2192701754385964,1422,54,260,25,27,460,181,342,0.043,0.764,0.193,0.9956,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,7,2,3,6,18,20,2,2,14,1,32,10,3,2,5,59,59,33,0,8,11,4,3,1,0,4,1,6,1,2,17,21,3,3,4,3,1,5,5,5,0,3,10,9,25,15,41,42,13,40,0,1,0,3,47,13,0,11,23,185,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418218342308094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502923750571028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238064273185414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815023532483351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379901092917186,0.07792520087956968,0.0,0.16463494988870808,0.0,0.0,0.40606022524409263,0.0,0.08711736688408804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732768832275487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001685889287307,0.0,0.048959518475939545,0.07225630139341592,0.0,0.09497774625899287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717109540097812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418862591054967,0.0,0.057742745961574235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991544097218525,0.0,0.07657171384755727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809149160881714,0.0,0.042087238757248575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332540127651649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698425535439419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332820699473743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161867320013443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039714158028103,0.0,0.058375666960796935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913128520005284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857381313606998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356935749019812,0.2458375430832445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620955438095199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195106102015354,0.0,0.13759475369453444,0.14404606699470046,0.09868148668219218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20772590558985152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446492929748214,0.05519973686826746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914257285843923,0.0,0.1874071357473435,0.0,0.0,0.20724928548025373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243579904823218,0.0,0.34551099831034043,0.0,0.0,0.07985944707010757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627162893860262,0.0,0.0,0.18358979552313195,0.0,0.0,0.05547606238127599
parenting,purplejojo1,2019/01/24,"I’m in an abusive relationship with my mother and it’s starting to effect me. I’m 18F and I still live at home with my family. 
I’m in college full time, and I’ve had two jobs for 9 months now. I’ve never been the type to brag on myself but I feel like my hard work goes so unnoticed it’s hurtful and makes me feel worthless. I love my mom, don’t get me wrong. But she’s hurt me so many times (emotionally, and physically) it’s starting to effect me. I’m the oldest out of 2, so I always seem to get the worst of it. I was the one who made all the mistakes. I ruined everything, and I was the one who made every situation worse. 
My mom has issues where she’s so short tempered, one little thing sets her off. 
I try to be as independent as I can, I keep my own medical/health insurance. I bought and paid for my own car, and i wake up at 3am for work everyday then go to class 5 days a week. I nearly help out at the house everyday, I clean, pick up my siblings, and etc. 
But its like nothing seems to pay off anymore. I always get the blame for every situation, but for someone who is always supposed to love you, tells you she doesn’t want to see you and just wish you were to move out and not come home from work is hurtful. I try to be as optimistic as possible and think, she can’t help she’s like this and I try so hard to give it time. But everything now is towards me and it’s to the point where it’s driving me from feeling like absolute shit all the time. Now my biological father was never around, so I’ve always had a stepdad, but even then it’s just never been the same to have someone you’re able to just talk to. Sometimes I wish someone would appreciate the stuff I do. And it’s hard to look at anything when you have to keep every little thing to yourself without showing emotion.. and maybe I’m overreacting, but seeing relationships with other families, it’s something I would always want to have in my life. ",2.0859246825280984,3.66125117369727,3.9363691431907775,87.95215552474095,76.9652605459057,6.924799299372356,23.76361115165669,7.724431198458867,1.0302857101153116,1505,48,330,22,34,509,185,403,0.128,0.745,0.127,-0.5018,1,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,0,5,0,5,18,16,2,0,15,0,24,5,2,7,5,64,59,36,0,7,12,4,6,4,0,2,1,0,3,0,19,24,0,2,8,1,3,5,8,10,0,4,12,9,49,6,55,43,8,53,0,5,3,2,27,25,1,2,26,220,68,9,0.0742746750952918,0.08800334450316931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30901239849724355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736605194939637,0.0,0.0,0.061121728990961084,0.0661202079803792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398105586540255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04790102084590204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709802476849087,0.0,0.0,0.08283589635491967,0.04905772239929605,0.0,0.1877388516247576,0.0,0.13350657743390185,0.0,0.1400391068060773,0.0,0.11266652229738283,0.10612368545771657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641635648938167,0.07125103633313179,0.042212009517213586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960655955720413,0.0,0.0,0.07895050638590426,0.0,0.0,0.09956949814683584,0.0,0.14900711021483426,0.0,0.0,0.08570300275119844,0.2385377276246369,0.0,0.0,0.07752346363307455,0.07370615426169784,0.1320374878797423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246239958290662,0.1451474179712201,0.14888547420551454,0.06558589888427166,0.0,0.06237202052511302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407158830085494,0.14056098692335495,0.049578922378411536,0.07530286267539474,0.07461889432808781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397920356982885,0.059285337039327535,0.07894222510977203,0.0,0.0,0.1718556249658969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126855395299739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099132626480946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021357566168307,0.08373353619493709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948640906230788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837459935269105,0.13523374929009488,0.0,0.0,0.0762418866295557,0.0,0.16697569358800546,0.0,0.0,0.18879807353342945,0.05718027362066413,0.07345955286776809,0.0,0.10514399464420447,0.0,0.05931585147560919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502673292378311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969917036690759,0.06491933982210933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868958754704693,0.04759221272112965,0.0,0.0,0.1732406413967179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512828866159465,0.0,0.07255556503569942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761825552335634,0.0,0.05957866418210591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708244215851908,0.07159813629389956,0.0,0.16221854422945015,0.0,0.07569223938511851,0.10552519628631858,0.08120769738286697,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwyo123,2019/01/24,"When did you feel financially ready for kiddo #2? My husband and I are trying to pay down debt and build a savings (we are following Dave Ramsey's baby steps currently)...we've felt for awhile now that we're ready for kiddo #2, but we're not sure if we should totally pay off debt before doing so. There's a necessary home renovation that would be around $2k that needs to happen before baby would arrive.

The financial issue is pretty much the only thing holding us back. We don't have much savings yet aside from the emergency fund. At our current rate it will take about 2 years to pay off our debt. 

We have decent health insurance (does ""good"" health insurance even exist in the US anymore?).

Do you have any guidance or opinions?",5.150142857142857,6.529199442857145,5.547142857142859,80.22785714285716,68.85714285714286,8.457142857142857,26.857142857142854,8.841846274778883,2.039657142857143,582,18,106,10,10,186,99,140,0.131,0.815,0.054000000000000006,-0.8494,5,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,8,2,0,0,9,4,0,0,6,0,15,2,0,0,2,23,21,7,0,5,4,1,2,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,5,7,0,1,2,0,7,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,12,4,14,14,3,14,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,3,6,68,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192599016933865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778113563909928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15960957031818415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786593054969845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051317813331981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690128715815044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842192019819316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065637552373114,0.0,0.17215024680531169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15038320434530625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585489905344548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811620315651936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984638556189558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713623411051836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26360327084716345,0.13294414403382554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363610789686433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240633853977006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898236492290394,0.0,0.13480668825342665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191148904729492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172877887514125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313369359870897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25473046367306296,0.0,0.0,0.11545938367275155
parenting,Breezy111,2019/01/24,"Daughter keeps touching herself in class Hi all, I'm having a bit of an issue with my 7yo daugter (lets call her Sarah) touching herself in class. This has been an issue in the past (first grade) and I thought we had dealt with it because the teacher said she stopped. Now it's happening again in her second grade class . I'm at a loss on how to get this behavior to stop in the classroom. The school social worker called me a couple of months ago to let me know that she was doing this pretty regularly in class. She said it was normal, but obviously we needed to get her to stop doing it in class. They interviewed Sarah to make sure she wasn't being sexually abused or touched by anyone at home or by other kids in class. They determined that they couldn't find any evidence of abuse.  The social worker decided to have the teacher tap on Sarah's desk when she was doing it to get her to stop. I had a conversation with Sarah about how she shouldn't be embarrassed and that she wasn't in trouble but that it was't something that was appropriate for the classroom. I told her that she was free to do it in private in her bedroom if she liked and did my best to not associate shame with the behavior. I thought it was taken care of, however I just received a call from her teacher that she's continuing to do it in class and that when the teacher taps on her desk, she sometimes doesn't even notice and continues touching herself.  

My daughter is a smart kid and doesn't have any learning disabilities or behavior problems and seems to be able to control herself in other areas but with this it's almost like she doesn't realize she's doing it. My husband is a full time student and I work from home so I can be there for my kids when they're done with school, I do homework with them and try and make sure they have a stable home life. She has a comfortable and secure family, my husband and I spend a lot of time with our kids and work hard on making sure they get the things they need as well as try to do a lot of activities on the weekends. I'm sure there are things we could do better, but for the most part she seems pretty balanced and happy. 

Has anyone dealt with this  before? I'm worried about her inability to control this behavior in class and am concerned other kids will start to notice it and make fun of her. Would love any advise on how to proceed. Maybe scheduling an appointment with the pediatrician? I know this isn't a crazy huge deal but still not sure how to help her.

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parenting,kitty_whereareyou,2019/01/24,"Daycare sent DD home for no reason. My 3 year old was sent home today for having a fever, but when we picked her up 40 min later she looked fine and didn’t have a fever per a thermometer under the arm.  Her class ran around and she got pink cheeks, which prompted them to check her temp via her forehead.  Of course her face would be hot.  Now they won’t let her go back to daycare tomorrow without a doctors note.  So, we have to pay a copay and take time off work because they made a mistake.  I wouldn’t be so upset except this has happened before and it’s getting frustrating.  Anyone else have similar experiences? Anyone know of daycare policies where they aren’t allowed to take a temp under the arm to verify before sending the kids home?  ",4.839041095890412,5.8531657808219215,5.136876712328768,84.23791780821921,69.27397260273972,7.4838356164383555,27.61369863013699,7.554174236665415,1.5183117808219175,588,19,113,6,10,186,100,146,0.105,0.88,0.015,-0.9163,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,4,1,7,4,1,1,10,0,14,8,5,4,0,18,26,8,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,3,1,3,7,0,0,2,0,2,5,6,3,0,0,7,3,16,1,16,13,0,21,0,0,2,0,18,6,0,0,10,71,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24561617102753805,0.179958827439671,0.0,0.15635239925487088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505248447182205,0.0,0.10706547435566603,0.0,0.29890492158616394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797698791327369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672051721319462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180474541934965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176204575272216,0.0,0.09981742597277198,0.0,0.14047136526823886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531346284612849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528528718369377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652441044785448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17959870146221713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748917696038294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619009693391049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842994022147955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058204637328476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26411134497773103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241418908901248,0.0,0.166481456819001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693058859562324,0.0,0.12786438200271705,0.0,0.0,0.12476607473847573,0.0,0.0,0.1131031906027673
parenting,iolta,2019/01/24,"Good secrets, bad secrets, and... private stuff?? A lot of the abuse prevention material, anti-bullying, suicide prevention, etc I've read talks about how, from an early age, you should encourage your child to be open and honest and not keep secrets from adults, even if someone else tells them to. I've also heard people talk about how to teach them it's ok to keep good secrets like surprise parties, by explaining that good secrets are ones you only keep for a short period of time. 

So I was on board with that idea until my four year old went to school one day after we'd all been and explained in detail to his teachers about how dad had been ""pooping and throwing up at the same time and it smelled gross and sounded gross.""  The teacher laughed and told his dad at the end of the day. Dad was pretty embarrassed and gave him a lecture once he got home about the importance of ""keeping family secrets and not telling people our embarrassing family secrets ever!"" Dad's phrasing made me uncomfortable because of the potential for setting up abuse, but at the same time, I don't want my kid blabbing personal stuff to everyone we know either. 

So, how can we talk about this third category of embarrassing stuff without increasing the risk that kids keep secrets about abuse? Every example or explanation I try to come up with seems like it could also be used inappropriately to convince a child to cover up abuse or other harmful issues.",9.198964719491034,8.217818977443613,8.58172932330827,69.98007229612493,60.35338345864662,11.492886061307113,39.25853094274147,10.560738912317856,4.150454945054944,1152,50,198,22,13,365,161,266,0.12,0.775,0.106,-0.8763,0,0,0,0,4,1,30.0,4,3,2,0,16,19,0,4,14,1,13,1,1,6,2,58,31,23,1,4,8,4,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,6,11,16,0,7,13,1,0,4,4,8,0,4,11,3,18,11,41,15,7,30,0,0,0,0,42,11,0,5,16,132,29,4,0.0,0.44625320595824014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059821923377995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861903174748912,0.05739859829802583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110984719308283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517849074154402,0.0,0.0,0.12144983944551364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865796215148478,0.0,0.08339713804088228,0.0,0.10501244164497672,0.06219128949385218,0.08517242262824595,0.07933322013067473,0.08997318821784071,0.0,0.0,0.17752990163200508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692890760763316,0.07530774524589033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444939425220923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629432002178976,0.0,0.09827778244837236,0.0,0.4184652910470159,0.0,0.0,0.05174745542008578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920028962704437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005081805202209,0.0,0.08909574886233793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880428231375513,0.10027651678605544,0.12760947476477488,0.07161234443454267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305563214970786,0.08221621583008082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579379718429472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941847200867158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952941770523101,0.0,0.08571903504798667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978081786614964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233694046539344,0.10299492508676257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270448894841739,0.16459865069824364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471502886197767,0.0,0.0,0.08997318821784071,0.0,0.06392794268229182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132335073253304,0.0,0.0,0.055537558896920566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728655813444984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076614656570538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060635462951084636
parenting,soulbrush,2019/01/24,"Art tutorials for kids. Drawing Dino. [https://youtu.be/eGzGyUtY03o](https://youtu.be/eGzGyUtY03o)

Making art tutorials for kids (and my son).

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parenting,looseassociations,2019/01/24,"Anybody else leave for work before kids wake up? My 3.5 year old hates it and freaks out when he wakes up and I’m gone. This has been my schedule 3x a week for the past 3 years, but mornings still often start with tears, unless I wake him up to have a cup of milk before I leave. I’m due with another baby and it just seems crazy to me when I imagine intentionally waking up 2 kids to have a morning milk and snuggle ritual at 6am when I need to get on the road by 6:15.

Do other people’s kids do this?",3.251218872870248,3.3910380275229355,4.664508519003935,89.35477064220186,72.39449541284405,7.32948885976409,22.910878112712968,6.868970318607317,0.4530382699868936,391,8,92,3,7,131,76,109,0.112,0.888,0.0,-0.8105,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,5,0,6,6,4,1,0,15,14,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,7,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,18,12,0,21,1,0,0,0,5,8,0,2,12,53,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24533052710240036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981704350159804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544600287789826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223597216610345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309899515429859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954659132767688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348054480425326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455047336244565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334408594889288,0.1622004339363893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129910604398136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560016294532687,0.0,0.1868430946121204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18767094649595328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032779632701775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013289066303805
parenting,femmefetal1591,2019/01/24,My husband says he hates out daughter... My husband says he hates our 8 mo old daughter and I don't know what to do? He says he feels like his life is over. Like our life together is over and it breaks my 💔 heart. What can I do?,-0.9667333333333304,0.9930068600000012,0.8760000000000012,103.62466666666668,90.4,4.133333333333334,18.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.7406666666666664,173,5,45,1,6,56,30,50,0.118,0.7859999999999999,0.096,-0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,0,5,10,2,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,8,2,4,10,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,3,23,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259581146869946,0.17796510096327148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918915000848051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951979878592982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690500832171135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519092348999677,0.243406312006554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614003139395901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5943097075834921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nachosmmm,2019/01/24,"Help me help my 15 year old son Ok I might ramble and jump around but try to stay with me here. Single mom to a teenage boy. His father and I have been split since he was a baby. his father gets  him every other weekend and is a decent parent. ADHD has been a thing since he was young. Therapy on and off his whole life. Starting 6th grade in a public middle school wasnt going well and there was bullying going on in and out of school so I put him in a private school to repeat 6 7 and 8th grade. Also, he wanted to do football around 5/6 grade and it did not go well. Practice ended with crying everytime. It stressed him out so bad that he had stomach pains (psychosomatic). He also peed the bed until about a year ago. Had him diagnosed at the Kennedy Krieger institute with a math learning disability, ADHD and ""situational depression"". He did wonderful at the private school. He wasnt an A student but he tried because all of his peers were trying hard and it helped him to feel like one of the group when he did well. Well, I can no longer afford private school and he did not want to go back to that specific public school that he was at for 6th grade because the same kids would be there and he was worried about bullying. I moved to put him into a different public high school. We started in September and his spirits were good, we started the IEP process (individualized education plan) because of his learning ""disabilities"". Shortly after, things started to go bad. First he skipped school, his grades are not good at all. He is not participating in class and is not doing homework. Then he punched a kid in the face for talking shit about my son's girlfriend. Hit him so hard he broke his hand and needed to  have surgery and pins put in his hand. Last week he was caught being high at school and was suspended for three days. Today was  his first day back and he got a referral for being disrespectful and distracting in class. His father and I have talked about him going to live with him, I am considering alternative schools. We went back to the therapist in December but she is retiring so she can no longer see him. He wants to be a marine when he grows up and knows that he needs to graduate and cannot smoke weed but did it anyways. I am at a loss. I took his social life and the majority of his other privileges away and he just doesnt care. he snuck out recently also. I dont know what to do. Since I know someone will ask, I have dealt with the normal amount of anxiety and depression for a single working mother. His father has bipolar. I dont know if we need to look into him being bipolar? He seems compulsive. Any questions, please ask. I need help. Thank you. 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parenting,TreeAmanda86,2019/01/24,"Should I go away for a weekend if I have a 6 month old at home? We just had a baby. My friend is getting married and her maid of honor is planning a bachelorette party - a weekend getaway (Friday-Sunday). Is it appropriate for me to go away for the weekend? The baby will be at home with dad and is formula fed.

Honest answers please! Thank you.",1.6559627329192566,3.8648395652173946,3.8166045548654246,85.25608695652177,80.8840579710145,5.681987577639752,25.799171842650104,6.868970318607317,1.265143271221533,266,11,51,3,7,91,50,69,0.0,0.752,0.248,0.9505,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,7,0,9,1,0,0,0,8,14,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,1,4,1,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,10,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,5,38,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5112619195171924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102106712903938,0.0,0.1421521514980434,0.0,0.3092621081544553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.545842919610959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21717407587470045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855053669491588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986654580231776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25049749523131576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DaddyConfused,2019/01/24,"My Wife's Sexually Abusive Father Expects a Normal Relationship With My Daughter Throw away account, because obvious reasons. It's also a bit of a long post.   


I'm at a loss. We relocated cities because of this, thinking that maybe the distance would solve the issue, but it hasn't. It has made things somewhat easier, as we're not expected to see him all the time, but when the family comes to visit/we go visit, he's still there, and he still tries to get to know my daughter.   


Backstory:

My wife and her three sisters were sexually abused growing up. Not ""hard core"" abused or whatever(think penetration), but there was inappropriate touching, tickling, asking the kids to touch him because he was ""lonely"", he pinned one of my wife's sisters to the wall by her throat in anger, and, as icing on the cake, got arrested for snipping pics up ladies skirts(not in America, and the charge didn't come back with him), but there was no denying it.  


Fast forward to now. My wonderful wife and I have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. My wife's father is still married to my wife's mom, and her two youngest sisters still lives with them in their family home.   


We have no problems what so-ever with our daughter knowing her grandmother or her aunts. However, along with them comes the sexually abusive father, who still denies any wrongdoing to the kids as they grew up. And we are at a complete loss of what to do. Her mom has a super busy job, and she works at least 60 hours a week, we're thinking so she can just forget the problems, and pretend they never happened. How her two sisters still live at home is beyond me, but they do. One is still in highschool, and the other in college. By all means, he should carry the ""sex offender"" title after his name. But he got lucky.   


We've tried just going over there and keeping an eye on him with our daughter, but it makes the whole experience a living hell, because we don't want her to grow accustomed to things. And it makes it impossible to enjoy the rest of her family, because we're so on-edge the entire time he's there.   


If he was divorced from my mother-in-law, it would be a complete estrangement. No contact, no need to see him again, unless he came clean and admitted his wrong, and for sure showed signs that he had changed, and wasn't still viewing pornography(where it all began). Even then it would be maybe once a year...at best? 

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But here we are, trying to wade through keeping a relationship with her mom and sisters and grandparents(who all live in the same city) and who all seem to just sweep the past under the rug for a sense of ""normalcy"", I suppose as a way to cope. We are now pregnant with our second child, and we are truly at a loss of how to deal with this situation, and have met no-one who can relate. I know we probably could/should go to counselling, and we definitely need to have a sit down discussion with him to just say what exactly we feel, but I must admit I'm a bit stubborn when it comes to ""needing counselling"", and honestly I'm absolutely terrified of the extended ramifications of basically excommunicating him from our family, like what that would do to my other in-laws that still live around him/are involved in his life.  


I know I just need to grow a pair and talk to the man, but goodness. He is also a very prideful, manipulative man who knows how to weasel his way into and out of things very well.

  
Thank you for reading. Any advice would be wonderful. Have any of you out in the redditspace experienced a similar situation? How did you handle it/cope with it? 

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parenting,DisassterWalking,2019/01/24,"Lunch ideas? I have an almost 3yo daughter and I’m struggling to think of easy lunches. She eats everything and has no food allergies. 

Typically if I have leftovers from dinner, we can eat those but I’d like some different ideas. 

She typically turns down PB&J sandwiches because she just likes bread but nothing on it 🤷🏻‍♀️

For breakfast she has sausage, yogurt or cereal. She always has a good meal for dinner with plenty of protein and veggies and she LOVES her veggies. 

Any fun lunch ideas? ",2.4556327543424317,5.41624558064516,3.1870967741935488,84.95449131513648,87.81720430107526,5.872291149710505,26.50868486352357,7.321109707123232,1.8617682382134009,401,18,69,7,13,126,70,93,0.034,0.7390000000000001,0.228,0.9726,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,0,6,13,0,0,0,17,10,8,0,1,5,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,12,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,5,9,10,1,2,0,0,0,1,10,2,0,4,2,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18658475502603744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504329419090676,0.20189083094012175,0.0,0.12671226683036116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358636281867585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946774613704371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3813286604737589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746334177987812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253136024836565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628658573403267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6310390266084971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206497486024925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817206047929018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879074481850685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947948436382358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939413230670325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20267589693440607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MyDamnCoffee,2019/01/24,"On bullying I just saw a picture on Facebook of an overweight boy sitting by himself at a table in the cafeteria while other children gathered at other tables and it struck a cord in me that hasn't been strummed in years and yet, I live with it every day.

I am a small, attractive, bubbly, loving and compassionate individual. I am well liked among my colleagues and I pride myself on being a good mother. Every day I look for ways that I can be better and while I usually mess something up in the process, the fact is that I try and that is what matters.

But I wasn't always this way. I wasn't confident or outgoing and to this day I am excessively hard on myself and I go out of my way to resolve conflict because I hate anyone being angry with me. And that stems from being severely bullied all throughout my school career.

I was bullied for being white. I was bullied for my mothers occupation. I was bullied for the clothes I wore and the shoes on my feet. I was called every name in the book, including It and Titless. I was called a slut even though I was a 12 year old virgin. Nasty rumors were spread about me. Someone poured vinegar in my hair in the fifth grade. I had eggs thrown at me as I walked out of school in high school. I realized when I was an adult that the reason I had to eat lunch in the office at school was because the kids had told the teachers I was doing something horrible during lunch. I sat by myself at lunch until the 7th grade when I finally made friends in the most unpopular crew in my grade but it was just nice to have friends finally and they accepted me with open arms. I was still viciously bullied but it wasn't so bad when I had friends.

When I got home from school the bullying did not end there. My brother would cause me physical harm and antagonize me and my mother would come home from work and scream and scream and scream at us until i learned to eventually just clean the house before she got home so she would stop talking at us. This was when I was 11. My mom would on occasion physically assault me and she never apologized, not even when I was 10 and she came up behind me and clamped her hand down over my mouth so hard she gave me a fat, bloody lip. She would hit us so hard with wooden spoons they would break and we used to think that was funny but now that I'm older, I know it was child abuse. 

I had no support. When I turned 14 I went way off the rails and was using drugs and having sex and just being wild becaUse that's what my much older friends did and j wanted to be like them. I was raped a couple of times but I didn't think of it as rape because of what rape is portrayed as in movies. I think 13 reasons why, at the end when Hannah is being raped, that is the most accurate version of rape I've seen just from my experience. I experienced my first real depressive episode at 14 and I had all the signs. I cut my beautiful long hair completely off, I was withdrawn. During my teenage years my mother sought to humiliate me for her own amusement

Anyway  I started dressing in all black and I was smoking cigarettes and running away. When I was 17 i dropped out of school. When I was 18 i moved far away from my family and started doing drugs because, once again, that's what the people who accepted me did. The people who didn't hurt me were druggies and losers so I went with them.

My whole future went down the tubes because I was so badly bullied every where I went with no reprieve. I sought comfort in people who ended up raping me or manipulating me or using me. But I thought they liked me because they were nice and nice is all I needed.

Please for the love of God talk to your kids. If they are acting out negatively there is almost certainly something going on. Check yourself and make sure that you aren't adding to the stress they're already under. School is a full time job and they are under just as much stress as you, maybe more because at the root children want to please their parents and if you're always yelling or angry or punishing then you're just as bad as the bullies at school.

A ""bad"" kid isn't bad just to be that way. Especially if they're young. Something is going on. And if I had any positive source of support growing up, I would not have gone the way I did. My story is not unique. Bullied kids all over the world go to a dark place as teenagers.

Find out who your kid sits with at lunch, and if they sit alone, you need to find out why and change it before its too late to save your child.",3.9910375670840783,5.1330376854928055,4.646604651162793,86.49244722719143,71.36987818383167,7.461684981684983,26.73837635232984,7.7755630220614735,1.388214665644433,3542,116,731,43,65,1134,368,903,0.18,0.684,0.136,-0.9945,2,1,8,0,2,0,67.0,4,6,10,6,38,55,11,2,42,0,83,30,9,10,9,134,127,83,0,16,28,7,6,3,4,7,4,4,4,11,35,54,9,2,14,2,1,16,16,27,1,1,59,16,130,28,112,51,14,135,0,3,5,11,68,63,0,13,48,517,165,17,0.0,0.06046646105897021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110277027442181,0.05285541004825228,0.056316837442857225,0.0,0.08492807297704306,0.0,0.0,0.03470459235471604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035683873888538505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589547860158004,0.0,0.21305458686602025,0.2488768304621631,0.0,0.08685165542580095,0.0,0.0,0.045135064634775186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422200599343852,0.05836883337105591,0.0,0.05242555649896417,0.05398677317827335,0.043960920404085724,0.05350774991542835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056467698512804074,0.0,0.09873733417799864,0.0,0.04395515772852295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836552849750055,0.052220104832584366,0.0,0.0,0.135601843951807,0.0,0.0,0.06741441198276224,0.0,0.1719920081842703,0.0,0.0,0.049920645235603626,0.04810992835685747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180961035312756,0.09328755647705578,0.043409147007343656,0.0,0.0,0.15771370533199952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601426487156084,0.04280455542375625,0.08163245053796828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714822236268573,0.05038510626091236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05391979154214559,0.1535725604211067,0.0,0.0,0.058885912890566675,0.05463251538881726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050642965124023234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028046727340282424,0.0,0.05756811427501106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479730525682561,0.0,0.04506359642684432,0.04516312269797509,0.042855363867622266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921196179403838,0.048289218382520566,0.03406531872469875,0.0,0.05127010221742475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059769925774507626,0.0,0.05424063150618765,0.07503112376134853,0.07568152316389094,0.039360252020085286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355116968767051,0.05434910957650888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05666676413553385,0.0,0.0,0.1061408002148122,0.0,0.05331924135298608,0.11203911711609342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808740000004822,0.0,0.10494206374703284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4131897546197542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576534324572256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04324059661507743,0.1571526085852627,0.0,0.0,0.0722436777105602,0.0,0.0407554922335982,0.04266636777239332,0.11691761367601512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158246301123629,0.04809855619495322,0.0,0.0,0.08203773573886035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981007946956644,0.050140244707963084,0.04051497128161292,0.059516195412711935,0.0,0.0,0.04876478384098883,0.0,0.034648458813677244,0.05550989307650569,0.0,0.0,0.1841613815500752,0.13222991309683976,0.056206291257336984,0.0,0.0602018692081314,0.2430485379157304,0.0,0.0,0.04588532780285744,0.18923460306173,0.09209975743667848,0.0569771825893433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03715306254578251,0.0,0.0,0.2537695950993064,0.0,0.0,0.09859187950799812
parenting,KlausSchnitzel,2019/01/24,"Punishing a small child? Hello, my little sister just turned 3. My mom is a single mom and we have some problems with the small one. She has this since about 4 months i guess? She starts crying, sometimes without a big reason. For example after waking up, when she doesn't get the spoon she wished for etc. and then she starts crying like REALLY really loud, screaming ""mama"" at the top of her lungs etc.. We don't know what kind of punishment she should be getting for this kind of misbehaving. We always let her out of the living room, and then she should wait outside (screaming and crying most of the time) till she stops crying or till she promises us to behave again. But since a week or so she just loses it. She stays behind the door and screams and screams and doesn't stop. We have no idea how to punish such a misbehaviour. The whole neighbourhood probably hears it..  


Thank you for your ideas!",3.7731589147286826,5.924573098837211,3.7692093023255815,88.46261240310079,73.82558139534882,6.6796899224806205,21.350387596899225,7.554174236665415,0.7320522480620157,711,17,137,9,15,217,110,172,0.222,0.72,0.057,-0.9855,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,5,2,0,2,8,14,3,0,12,0,11,2,2,2,0,34,22,17,0,4,6,3,0,1,0,2,0,6,2,1,5,13,0,3,4,0,0,0,5,9,0,1,0,6,23,5,21,18,6,24,0,1,0,0,26,9,0,5,15,99,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983513662760891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193459454127201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636471424069261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350861187982475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020996067514548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332193098273142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26686546173810183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24617296396166485,0.06495929689197945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086689072295152,0.0,0.05774625443161387,0.1184668469451914,0.10437223223214916,0.0,0.0,0.13223488995382593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27686740819998423,0.09434563024512924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800949697930174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743894053118818,0.11310085884996665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144311956597611,0.12152866522878768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19555152371534265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690222505165986,0.0,0.16732428179698994,0.12598482926728774,0.0,0.19763997544544687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882212330011297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892301837552803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856700109961766,0.0,0.0,0.14217931994946706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481242583971396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196540455448388,0.13592347214812506,0.11393999984420496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bruskhi,2019/01/24,"Do noisy toys for babies (toys with speakers and such) potentially make them prefer noisy play as they age? I'm not referring to toys that make noise when you shake them, squeeze them, or anything like that, but toys that play sounds and such every time you push a button, or things like that.",12.187636363636365,7.925575490909092,9.295000000000002,77.40250000000002,57.72727272727273,12.454545454545455,36.59090909090909,8.841846274778883,2.8113636363636374,232,5,47,2,2,66,39,55,0.068,0.769,0.16399999999999998,0.775,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,4,0,4,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,11,4,7,0,1,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,4,4,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,5,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715488249245868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804110849252183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411635066476928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6027640465946332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29995879444787976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632752615262697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,I_like_big_book,2019/01/24,"It's 3am and I'm at the end of my rope. My son is almost 5 months old, as such he is still getting up every couple of hours to feed, or because he wants some comfort. My wife is the one that usually goes in to him because 1)breasts, and 2)she doesn't have to get up to go to work in the morning. I'm trying to do the good husband thing and get up some of the times, usually if he was just fed a little while ago to comfort him back to sleep. My wife, whether out of nerves or concern, usually gets up as well, until I shoo her out of the room. 
Anyways, this last night he doesn't want to settle, and he doesn't seem to want anyone but his mother, no matter how I swaddle him or hold him, he screams until she takes over. After the 3rd or 4th time of this, I'm exhausted and frustrated with my son who doesn't seem to get how much I freakin' love him. My wife comes in and takes him in her arms, and he immediately starts to quiet down, I start to leave the room in a huff, and as I look back, my son seems to be looking at me and I grunt out ""Yeah, I fucking hate you too.""

I'm not proud of the comment, but I felt like it was a flippant way of me blowing off the frustration that I felt from the way this whole night was going. My wife on the other hand seems to think I mean some kind of physical harm to my son. I feel like my wife is overeacting, I feel like getting upset is acceptable since parenting is not full of the rainbows and unicorns I was promised. And since I am not taking out my frustration in a physical way, but rather using words that are gibberish to a 4 month old, I don't see the harm. My wife seems to think that I have a deep seated desire to hurt my son, despite my attempts to demonstrate the opposite. 

Am I acting out inappropriately, is my wife right to be concerned about some subconscious anger I am unaware about? Or does my wife need to relax and let me vent in my own way, and focus on what I do rather than what I say, especially at 3am in the morning when I am suffering from severe lack of sleep? 

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parenting,jpstroud,2019/01/24,"Looking for ""Parental Controls""/App Mgmt for Android with a light touch My wife talked me into Tablets for our 11, 9, & 7 year olds with the ""it's for education!"" argument, and now (of course) all they do is play click-to-win games and watch videos on Netflix, Hulu, YouTube, etc.  My kids are homeschooled, so this is turning into a major problem.

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Besides hard core porn, I don't really care to limit *content*, but I would like the ability to say ""Khan Academy, Audible & Kindle, Hangouts, and a couple other apps are unlimited, but everything else locks out after 2 hours"", and I can't figure a bloody way to do it.  Google Family Link is a nice thought, but the ""YT Kids-only"" bs annoys me (and them), and there's no ""by app"" granularity.  I've seen a bunch of recommendations for Qustodio, but most of those rec's seem to indicate the app-level controls don't allow for the kind of grouping I'm looking for.

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Has anybody figured out how to make something like this work?",4.353102836879433,6.202359452127659,5.177787234042555,80.2636666666667,71.5,7.992056737588652,30.08652482269504,8.648137234880735,2.4508924822695035,779,33,143,14,15,253,130,188,0.08199999999999999,0.82,0.098,0.721,1,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,1,0,2,3,4,8,1,0,11,0,12,1,0,4,1,30,21,12,0,2,4,2,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,6,12,0,2,5,5,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,9,10,6,25,18,5,11,0,0,4,1,10,5,0,2,7,83,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5839416178034739,0.3274357428836063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737139515275115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111685059391006,0.0,0.1490818049135545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255387171689883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026523141832912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109120343201844,0.0,0.12701624366850692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069616830513286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268691490517293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030585372907795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316495101216044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22628706902809426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993671309770199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413818030933151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960736311965114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892327656994584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631474326079122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714674463300138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265775784918842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372564825469148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829495478903997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696460461044106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655307845648094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069464362469736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808874397697473,0.0,0.0,0.0957119361181786,0.0,0.3274357428836063,0.08676497498559116
parenting,BlueNap550,2019/01/24,"Flying with kid (SS4) - how to deal with the carseat and a rental car? I would rather not bring our own carseat, but the car rental companies are charging so much I could just buy a carseat when we land and it would be cheaper than the fees they charge.  So we are going to bring our own and will check it on the plane.

Any advice, gate check it?  Pray it doesn't get destroyed while checking it?

Also any tips on where to get the cheapest car rentals/deals?  Kayak looked like it was a good place to start.",3.162896039603962,4.6764569108910905,2.418898514851488,100.20676361386141,73.95049504950495,5.446039603960396,22.525990099009906,5.148860815047168,-0.23459504950495005,392,10,91,1,8,112,67,101,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.9377,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,1,0,8,3,1,0,8,0,9,0,0,1,0,15,16,10,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,0,0,0,5,6,2,1,0,0,1,1,7,2,9,10,3,14,1,0,1,0,7,5,0,0,4,56,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779714958325335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22748294881053255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868857716715152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22711855223817584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932662716457199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972377277367873,0.0,0.161665450248539,0.23859196049490056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389730253730356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388751660115023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091111885070563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972006647556338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20134259692320064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4041451370192731,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wielkasowa,2019/01/24,My toddler (26 months) keeps waking up between 4:30-5am! HELP! Our son keeps waking up so early in the mornings and we just cannot break the cycle. He has been an early riser since birth. I feel like we have tried everything to push his wake up time. He usually wakes between 4:30-5am and will go for a nap around 10:30/11am for 2-3 hours. Then he falls asleep between 6:30-7:00pm. The days are so long and we can’t participate in any morning programs because he naps so early! Has anyone else encountered early wakings their little one and find a solution? ,3.3762616822429905,5.722759943925233,3.6914112149532734,87.65487383177572,75.72897196261681,6.149158878504673,24.718691588785052,7.1686216300943375,1.0999278504672891,442,15,83,5,10,137,80,107,0.0,0.913,0.087,0.8446,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,6,0,8,6,6,0,0,13,12,8,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,2,2,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,8,1,12,10,0,23,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,0,13,44,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297262602912232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757132817083428,0.24555337381878345,0.0,0.21334246109469526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460905742806961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545567079771674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001997819318682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538514980571585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117603117157325,0.17120853765846492,0.0,0.0,0.2190389948902518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620063023436665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063471693036124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360104634698201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260301575183228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708261482143822,0.24019580744271785,0.0,0.21208584243071374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912891700908121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239544174273987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982438857226928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974390706759002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270902314631353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639445175422478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CoffeeBean_9313,2019/01/24,"Healthy non fruit/veggie snacks My 2 year old is very particular about textures and doesn’t like many fruits and veggies but I’ll sneak them into his diet with veggie pasta, puréed veggie sauces, chopped up berries in pancakes, stuff like that. He loves bananas and applesauce so he eats that often. I always give him a serving of vegetables at dinner but he always plays with it, rarely even tasting it. I leave fruits and veggies out for him to check out at his leisure but he usually plays with it or just doesn’t go near it. 

I’m learning that the snacks I typically give him are loaded with sugar and I want to cut back on that. I give him danimals yogurt, raisins, peanut butter granola clusters, cereal (non sugary cereals like Cheerios and Chex), veggie chips, stuff like that. He’s only allowed juice once a day and I give him v8 healthy greens juice but that also seems high in sugar as well. 

It seems like every food product that seems healthy that he likes, has more sugar than I’d like. I don’t know how much is normal for a 2 year old but I could use some tips on different snacks for my little one",3.8243055555555583,5.770202449074078,3.9492592592592617,88.12166666666668,73.12037037037038,6.466666666666668,24.962962962962962,7.1686216300943375,1.030196296296296,883,28,171,9,18,272,129,216,0.017,0.785,0.198,0.9905,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,9,12,1,0,4,0,8,16,0,3,0,34,21,17,0,3,7,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,15,14,15,0,5,2,1,1,3,1,1,1,0,8,18,11,24,20,3,21,0,0,1,1,19,13,0,6,14,94,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686301894761813,0.20157015808860468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313707168047836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670785763870596,0.0,0.0,0.07811512087758632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265490612461094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394034643118332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800014247614501,0.0,0.10205240465379213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646392386445867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647736701663252,0.0688377025727847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797442028612604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656672011593724,0.0,0.0,0.12825309176723554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142263322245551,0.12139831896166675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931936461294901,0.0,0.0,0.1228009782764364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904026046975577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867604786657962,0.0,0.0,0.25419905012306715,0.12899337316028686,0.08207692650633568,0.0921204501771499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308009042179537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27731657500722273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046124622584148,0.13340124904727388,0.09994019139073262,0.07144222085901288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890524716920813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600009154453767
parenting,BeforeIMetTheMonster,2019/01/24,"(24F) who has custody of an out of control (16M) and I don't know what to do anymore I (24F) have custody of my (16M) and he has been a troubled kid since I took custody of him just 2 weeks after turning 22. 

My oldest sister who is now 37 years old has custody of none of her 4 children and was not around for them often as they were growing up. She has a SEVERE drug and substance abuse problem. Her drug of addiction is heroine. All of her children have bounced around from different family members homes and currently all 4 of her children live apart. I came upon gaining custody of my nephew through most curious circumstances. My mother received a very out of the blue Facebook message from my oldest sisters, ex- fiancé's brother. He told my mother that the nephew I currently have custody of stole a large sum of money from his mother who did have custody of him and that after having them in their custody for 9 years they did not want him or his older brother living with them anymore. And, that my mom had 3 days to decide if we wanted them or not or she was giving them to the state to deal with them. My mother has been in declining health since I was a child with a slew of medical problems. Too many to count and even more medications for all of them. It has been a long time since they had seen my mom and had no idea that since then she had brain surgery, 3 strokes, hand and shoulder surgery. The works. The point I'm making is my mom hadn't been able to be a mother to me since I was 13 years old. I was her mother and also when my mom was healthier and even when she wasn't she was physically and mentally abusive. And, my other sister who also lived in the house with me had her first child who was very young at the time. But, how do I let my nephews go to foster care? Possibly to be never seen by my family again. I remember bickering with my sister about it, she stated it may not be good for me. I was 6 months sober from my own addiction and I had struggled with mental health my whole life, medications, psychiatrists, depression, PTSD and anxiety so severe I attempted suicide and couldn't get out of bed some days. And, although that wasn't who I was anymore that could easily become a reality again and my sister had her concerns for me. 

I disregarded her warnings and I messaged them back and stated that I would take them. The arrangements were made and in just a few days I was on my way with my sister to pick ""the boys"" up. When we arrive at a steakhouse which was half way between our town and the town my nephew lived in I see only one of my nephews standing in the parking lot and Roseanne (his current guardian) The handout was uneventful except for me crying when I had seen my nephew for the first time since he was 5 years old when my mom had lost custody to my oldest sister and then she lost custody of her children a short time later they were placed somewhere else. The oldest nephew decided to stay with my sisters ex- fiancé so I only had the one nephew come to stay with me. Life was good at first with him although I had no idea what I was doing. I suddenly was responsible for a teenager that seemed like a dream at first. I only worked at McDonald's when I first gained custody of him. But, I worked hard and saved and tried to replace everything that his old guardian did not let him bring along with him. Like an Xbox 360 and eventually a PS4, clothes and shoes and everything. I tried. Even when I had to go without. I was okay with that. Having him with me was my choice not his. If he were to have it his way..he would still be living with his mother regardless of everything she had done. He made friends quickly in school. But, the trouble started soon after. He was jumped in school by a group of 4 boys within the first 2 months of living with me. And, he told me he was unsure why. I raised all hell in the school and come to find out..he was jumped because he himself had left bruises of 2 girls and the leader of the kids was one of the girls' older brother. He would verbally attack my sister and her son and isolate himself to his room. But, him and I still maintained a good relationship. Then, I started receiving calls/messages from different parents stating that my nephew was up to some very distasteful forms of bullying. The school began getting involved and one night I was followed to work with a parent who pulled up to the drive thru and asked me who I was and if I was my nephews aunt like she had thought. I confirmed my identity and she asked me to sit in her car with her and talk and I kinda just told my manager what I was doing. I didn't ask. But, my manager didn't mind. So, apparently my nephew and this woman's daughter were boyfriend/girlfriend at some time and their relationship had gone sour. They were 14 years old so it wasn't that strange to me that they were upset at each other. Until she showed me the text messages that my nephew had sent to her daughter. Pure harassment. The things I read were disgusting. Detailing what an awful person she was, how ugly she was and so much more. But, the piece de resistance was multiple texts telling her no one would care if she was dead, no one would miss her, that she should kill herself and how to do it.  

I confronted my nephew when I got home and broke down in tears because I had been bullied in highschool and in passing I've brought up that behavior like that would never be tolerated. He stated that it was the daughter's fault and now 3 years later that has become a pattern of excuses. At the time I thought it was a teenager acting like a tennager then I realize that his behaviors are a little more sociopathic then the average child. 2 more incidences involved a girl that he had sex with being harassed by him again. He called her a ""beached whale"" and other awful things during the school day and when he was sent to the principle, confronted about it and told to stop he continued right after he had left the main office, right outside the doors. He was sent immediately back to the office and received OSS. Another girl he had been receiving nude pictures from..he was going to her house and once I realized he was when her parents were present he was no longer allowed there. His phone had been taken away because of the incident with the girl prior that I had mentioned. I kept it stored away in my sisters bedroom because he never goes in there and my sister looked through it and presented me with the nude photos of at least 5+ girls. I confronted him about it. Told him it was child pornograhy and that I was going to call the police if it didn't stop. He discussed this with one of the girls and one of those girls was a teachers daughter. The teacher decided it may be in their best interest to transfer the girl into a new school district away from all of this. My nephew went to school and threatened suicide if the girl was transferred. He was released from the hospital the same day and that caused me to put him into therapy immediately. He had to see a psychiatrist every 2 weeks and saw the school counselor. After a few sessions with the therapist, the therapist had a private sit down with just her and I in her office and stated that she saw certain sociopathic qualities in my nephew and that I should be concerned. She stated she would continue to see him but that I should enroll him in PINS (Person In Need of Supervision) And, that I didn't she would submit paperwork to have him taken out of my custody and into a Group Home or Foster home. I enrolled him in PINS immediately. Speaking with his PINS officer he would also see her once every 2 weeks and we were given an outline on rules that he must follow. No drugs, no bullying, no disrespect, etc. He would get angry and stab and punch his wall and slash his mattress with a knife, stabbed the bathroom wall. I was scared for my life some of the times and would booby trap my door at night so I could hear him coming in. I decided to move away the beginning of this school year. My sister found her own apartment and my nephew, myself and my boyfriend found one in a different school district. He had been discharged from therapy a bit before we moved because the therapist and psychiatrist said they saw massive improvement in him and I thought I did too. His PINS officer was ready to discharge him off of PINS as well as long as he stood on it for the first quarter of school and maintained his behavior and grades. 

Starting out at this school was okay for the first month or so. He started habitually using different kinds of drugs which had never been a problem prior to this. And, his friends and himself took a bunch of benadryl one day trying to trip and I received a call from the school and poison control that my nephew had taken upwards to 20 benadryl pills and that his life was in danger from the massive amount of medication that he had taken. I had to call his PINS officer and beg him for an explanation. He also has been smoking weed and although weed is not an addictive drug it was outlined in his PINS papers that he must abstain from using any and all substances. I received a call at work 2 months ago from my boyfriend who had come home to find out room ransacked and property of ours missing..I had to leave work early and confront him about it and he apologized for it. Yesterday I was cleaning my living room with my sister who was visiting and 40+ Xbox games that belonged to my boyfriend are missing and I confronted him about it and he states he has absolutely no idea where they are. I know in my heart of hearts that he stole them and although they're not in his room I know he stole them and probably gave them away or sold them. He is now in severe trouble with PINS and was told at his last appointment that he is one more screw up from appearing in front of a judge.

I tried to sit with him last night and have a heart to heart with him about how much I cared about him and that I've been trying everything for him and that since it's not working to please tell me what I can do to help or change things. He sat on his video game, and kept playing while stating that he was moving out when he was 17 so that I shouldn't care.

So, at this point I'm willing to ride the wave until he's 17 and let him peacefully move out. But, that was not what I wanted. I wanted him to graduate highschool and maybe try college or save up to have a apartment and eventually home of his own. And, I know that if he were to move out when he was 17 he would become a criminal  and a ""leech off society""

He wants to leave to be able to have no consequences for his actions and be able to do whatever he wants and from the angry and abusive behavior that he has shown..I know it's going to land him in jail or atleast severe legal trouble.

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I've been depressed and anxious for weeks because you hear all these stories where a parents child was troubled and they sought out the help and they child changed their life around. I tried every resource and my nephew does not give a fuck plain as day. I love him like if he was my son.

And, all the love and care I've given him doesn't mean anything in the end. ",5.390754070686151,5.9366096239199635,5.535108502556753,83.55599870444709,67.8130968622101,8.565438181514816,30.32673779121314,8.503006320051611,2.112315415443907,8829,319,1763,123,139,2787,637,2199,0.099,0.852,0.049,-0.9981,15,0,5,0,1,2,177.0,6,1,27,23,66,62,15,3,110,4,203,37,10,14,16,315,312,183,4,40,42,59,3,6,2,21,22,4,16,27,98,168,0,8,24,10,3,47,39,34,1,21,171,20,283,28,276,104,39,293,1,7,12,7,339,107,3,29,128,1256,381,36,0.08052703274695402,0.09541136592729983,0.0,0.08778635193064184,0.0,0.0,0.02379411860234924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858632519921647,0.0,0.02908366877916192,0.03261638630350412,0.018253714552514816,0.02814653837217012,0.0205343198797462,0.030324208631826177,0.07986117822579424,0.0,0.0,0.02208896220096052,0.07168613186715801,0.07528190526803169,0.0305370416698537,0.12609633008930618,0.04128021169688037,0.0,0.09817706347529548,0.08893578098136251,0.022840857923814628,0.0,0.028169384248271936,0.0,0.029304887813682283,0.0,0.0,0.029964933478097425,0.13704517316108095,0.030700490938737987,0.13683779455152975,0.027574481607728414,0.05679128209518644,0.09248921114763756,0.0,0.0,0.060211943052190936,0.04286285540276767,0.0,0.029485054738126137,0.12117764000202245,0.02767327827732246,0.046238543538356346,0.0,0.0,0.11217814655377073,0.0,0.0,0.02348991633965232,0.027469037629578842,0.0,0.0,0.1556429872426758,0.0,0.02242333428564264,0.0,0.023774349774726374,0.0,0.02993630929087583,0.05318734566082954,0.0,0.06784749819175227,0.0,0.09649667282655497,0.0,0.05060914650096311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04906683270700857,0.1826566744461476,0.0,0.058862489987083925,0.04147665716290342,0.02481531472641353,0.042072050979575226,0.05149924500907234,0.07627561409381975,0.06754225448895401,0.021468274790726168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02404546807336384,0.0,0.0,0.05706431346413093,0.06050654562152725,0.1272332287035818,0.03598371507552278,0.0,0.16155035923623387,0.0,0.0,0.06194492268240628,0.0,0.090905218187197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029697076887335312,0.027952170924096572,0.07375925205647288,0.04376018632577062,0.0,0.056844333662259675,0.058328571132322274,0.08234434685715099,0.0947977078274311,0.07868288124524675,0.02690308067433794,0.16591597222478058,0.047509259962076014,0.02254080875199881,0.0,0.05860317918718476,0.02282040118917274,0.04845252735959552,0.050797750298242544,0.0179174732204163,0.02721392399594748,0.02696674265438971,0.02923918199000604,0.0,0.10816335149204986,0.054101539232462366,0.0,0.02710311579927246,0.15718714583382795,0.0857012123545505,0.14264581968610074,0.03946442308543502,0.019903258142513144,0.08280988265140048,0.02592450334090348,0.0,0.07556916518221485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083262460496626,0.05717244117164388,0.2000797386328546,0.061244437091128714,0.0,0.0,0.11922098684489013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046875399281460964,0.028044536638442683,0.029464833380689906,0.05074938305539617,0.030260710004395463,0.0,0.0,0.028940587063559682,0.07705349492551174,0.031377263997593996,0.02698396987545884,0.0,0.0,0.02684960816855136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057637264513005236,0.030407143431810807,0.04584643064911135,0.0255332162157674,0.0,0.02687386927804852,0.3531565105163965,0.08555949230566169,0.02443626207632993,0.0,0.1212968345273047,0.0,0.15542985180724356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599659766487597,0.057220734963742685,0.0428726615818175,0.044882803425527085,0.0,0.02806144630680804,0.0,0.058722335839248636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0201821023042773,0.021574859537405053,0.04692278399565394,0.0,0.061393119964423176,0.09349809163972037,0.053498582376755484,0.0,0.0,0.06392946904423727,0.10956390754398143,0.0,0.0,0.15389406139977932,0.059645664237106,0.1275693283711598,0.029196762569708164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04636633415933794,0.0,0.06644323548934764,0.09499386059525894,0.06391861036968688,0.08612523780515942,0.0,0.0241344911157878,0.0248831220407482,0.024221040625139738,0.02996851875861485,0.0,0.025875061984732942,0.0,0.1367908241282653,0.0,0.0,0.22881637451998174,0.0,0.03261638630350412,0.1209991274486436
parenting,PotentialReindeer,2019/01/24,"Parenting teens? Is there a subreddit for parenting teenagers?  I read the “about” but didn’t see anything there (one reddit for teens themselves, and another for the troubled teen industry). ",6.982795698924733,10.35582061290323,5.569032258064516,73.54021505376346,68.67741935483872,10.58494623655914,39.36559139784946,10.504223727775694,5.418539784946238,153,9,22,5,3,45,25,31,0.139,0.861,0.0,-0.6553,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,15,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35341372956892475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27735355625355257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22838567120801626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7484816258151418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33712920696828097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26857564930316025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PristineUndies,2019/01/24,"Third hand smoke We were lucky enough to skirt around taking our daughter to any kind of daycare since a family member has been able to watch her since she was a baby (now toddler) a few days a week, which is fantastic. But the downside is that this family member smokes.  


I don't know a ton about Third Hand Smoke, mostly because there's relatively little info on the subject so far. But essentially it boils down to...  


>Thirdhand smoke is residual nicotine and other chemicals left on indoor surfaces by tobacco smoke. People are exposed to these chemicals by touching contaminated surfaces or breathing in the off-gassing from these surfaces. This residue is thought to react with common indoor pollutants to create a toxic mix including cancer causing compounds, posing a potential health hazard to nonsmokers — **especially children**.  
>  
>[http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-l.../expert-answers/third-hand-smoke/faq-20057791](http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/expert-answers/third-hand-smoke/faq-20057791)  


We could shell out major money and try to get our kid into a daycare center but I guess there's no guarantee their employees smoke or not on their own time as well. Our family member takes precautions by smoking outside, wearing a smoking jacket that gets removed after, washing up, etc. but obviously that's not going to completely remove third hand smoke from the equation as you can ALWAYS smell at least a hint of smoke on someone who's been smoking and even being able to smell it means third hand smoke is present to some degree.  


So I guess I'm not sure how much I should stress over this. It certainly makes sense to me that third hand smoke would be a danger. But at the same time is it worse than all of the other shit my kid is probably exposed to? Charcoal smoke? Coal tar driveways and parking lots? Allergens from outside? The small quarter sized spot of black mold on the basement ceiling tile I've been too lazy to replace that could be shooting tiny fucking spores all over me when I'm down there?  


Does it seem like a hazard we should be trying to avoid at all cost by putting the kid in a daycare that specifically doesn't hire smokers? Should we just stick to the script we have going now and just try to be even more diligent with cleaning the house? I'm not sure how irrational I'm being with this but I have to admit it's kind of stressing me out.",7.019513888888887,8.671907108796297,5.9232222222222255,78.24400000000003,64.7175925925926,8.352592592592591,32.91851851851852,8.648137234880735,2.7740457407407413,1949,80,319,28,30,582,238,432,0.098,0.813,0.09,-0.6632,1,1,16,1,0,0,78.0,8,1,2,0,18,14,3,3,24,0,31,13,8,5,7,63,50,20,0,6,14,1,6,1,0,4,3,0,2,4,22,17,1,1,6,0,2,5,7,6,1,6,6,10,22,8,58,32,16,42,0,0,2,1,20,27,2,9,11,212,44,1,0.2288890515967704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522701342406928,0.0,0.0,0.07782620201291325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018798916090415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976432069101142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756605319046012,0.0,0.0,0.11999290790138545,0.0,0.0,0.18274928282838224,0.0,0.0,0.07380725138056271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015117575421664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825178809984538,0.1276358983093539,0.15117905987560884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236643408622635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580211996608703,0.11958508241209476,0.0,0.1300829227727086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521470955136928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24329835851277776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320536171551741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383527248418064,0.06289571839587674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434431214010867,0.0,0.0,0.05591181448880305,0.1147034805056853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729664325881553,0.0,0.0,0.07639260964672909,0.0,0.0,0.12466363915683334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412989461772319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934142427894662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339055531415632,0.0,0.0,0.11504835821750592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418599805106166,0.0,0.0,0.11747566112001538,0.18933938875504372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696847532244823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621916352687195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157252223392968,0.0,0.17209608120683278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908561699063353,0.1334670466630709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23310096204339176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180049540808513,0.0,0.10289937292776326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166287490579256,0.08129810755331587,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aaronkellysbones,2019/01/24,"12 year old girl with 1 undeveloped breast and lump in other? Advice or info! My 12 yo niece has 1 breast that is totally undeveloped and the other breast is bigger and has a lump in it? She went to Primary doc yesterday and they are sending her tommorow for a scan and they said possibly a biopsy? She said the breast with the lump is sore and tender. Im just wondering if anyone went through this with their child and was everything ok? We are very worried and hoping for the best. I know that anyone can get cancer but is 12 years old too young for breast cancer? Any advice is appreciated. We were not too worried about it until the doctor mentioned the biopsy we thought it was something to do with developing breasts, ",4.405879659908437,6.223182302158276,5.1281098757357775,80.80333551340749,71.3021582733813,7.932243296272074,26.305428384565076,8.575989854853784,1.8855697841726613,576,19,107,10,11,186,83,139,0.112,0.8170000000000001,0.071,-0.7967,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,3,1,4,4,0,0,9,1,14,14,6,0,1,26,23,12,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,8,15,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,8,3,11,4,14,15,2,13,0,0,1,6,15,3,0,4,7,73,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375712877909135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745946088822792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415477782600533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126506130224948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679216608959514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552348035122708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902420967945238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17155568367028146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865734941562414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492557755460923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624933240625156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947223768064022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286035620660464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297275251740018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712498438246612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251686686921733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202370774138787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873137523321726,0.0,0.35082285010541164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22245949271115972
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parenting,stayawayfrommycan,2019/01/24,"Any advice for two under 2 Any advice for 2 under 2 welcomed and thanks for reading.

This probably has been posted before but I'm new to the sub. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with a 16 month old who will be about 21 months when the new baby arrives. I'm very nervous about how things will work out between the two. I've been trying to figure it out but I'm really stumped on this. 

I've got a lot of work to do with my son to get him prepared. I had so many plans for him this year and I feel like they'll be put on the backburner while I try to accommodate the little one. 

Also I'm very nervous about how he'll react to the new baby. He's a very sweet boy but he's very clingy of me. I'm hoping he'll grow out of it by then. I feel bad I won't be able to always be there for him like how he wants me too. I won't always be able to pick him up and he can't always crawl and stand all over me. I just don't want him to be upset.

Then I have no clue what to do about sleeping arrangements. I've got to get him in his own bed, so I can recover; I shouldn't have ever co slept with him and I won't be making the same mistake with the new baby but do I put them in separate rooms? When will I get to sleep? When will I get to pump milk? I didn't think about all these things before, I feel think I'm going to have a really tough time with this and I'm not making it any easier for myself. I can't figure it out, my partner is supportive of whatever I want to do with the children but he hasn't got a plan either, he just says we'll see when the time comes, but that just doesn't work for me. 
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parenting,wanttobeinvienna,2019/01/24,"Anyone else have a LO with Ectodermal Dysplasia? Cross posting from r/dentistry Hi! First time posting here- I just found this sub and am excited to see if anyone has any history with Ectodermal Dysplasia.

My 2 1/2 year old son was diagnosed a few months ago. We don’t know what type he specifically has, although we think it’s A.D.U.L.T., and we’ve ruled out H.E.D.  We’re considering genetic testing.

He has all the classic signs, no sweat, no tears, little saliva, coned teeth. 

He is missing 5 baby teeth. The dentist who diagnosed him (Dr. Tim Wright, who is an expert in this disorder) said he didn’t recommend x-rays to determine what permanent teeth he will have.  His 4 middle lower teeth are extremely coned, his top 4 middle teeth are just mildly coned. They are all widely spaced out. 

Today we go back to his regular dentist & we start developing a plan for the future. Some kids have their teeth built out, some have dentures. 

My question to all of you is - do you have any advice or questions I should ask his dentist? There are painfully little resources on ectodermal dysplasia, its a guessing game & I just keep stumbling on information.  Would be grateful for any feedback!

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parenting,Ash327,2019/01/24,"Success stories? I have seen this article pasted around regarding gas/consitipation and was wondering if anyone had any success stories with this.

[https://www.babydoc.com.au/faq/colic-bore-your-baby-to-sleep/](https://www.babydoc.com.au/faq/colic-bore-your-baby-to-sleep/)

Interested to know if alot of people have found the suspected gas/colic to be overtiredness?

Also, stupid question time...

*""Generally the first 24 hours can be hell on wheels, but if you persevere, things will improve. He will eventually start to, as the psychologists say, ‘return to base’.*

*By the second day he will be calmer. Do not take him out of the room, even though he appears improved. Give it another day, to be sure he loses some of his fatigue and stress.""*

This doesnt mean keep your baby under bedroom rest for literally 48 hours does it?

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parenting,billa5401,2019/01/24,"Are circumcisions are necessary in the modern world? Up until now, I never thought the whole process of getting circumcised would be somewhat painful—either physically or mentally. My son will turn 5 soon—I can’t believe how fast he’s grown right before my eyes! Watching him grow make me amazed how fast he picks things up, from learning three languages to playing with our cat. This winter, the time came when we finally let his grandma take control and take Adam (his name is another story) to the hospital and get the procedure.

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I’m gonna be honest with you here. The reason he got circumcised at such a late age is just due to the fact that my husband and I were either too busy to get it done, too tired, or not ready to spend quality-time taking proper care of our son. That would also mean that one of us would have to take a vacation to look after him, which we didn’t have the ability to do. I have to admit that he has the best grandma ever, and I am going to be forever thankful. She was the one who stepped up and said that we shouldn’t wait another year or so because Adam would grow and it would be much harder to get through and recover. So we didn’t have a choice but let her take control of the situation.

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On the day when my mother in law came to take Adam to the hospital, I said I had to go to work. I could have taken a day off, but I knew the ordeal would be very emotional. Adam would certainly cry, and I am the type of parent who hates when their kid cries. I just can’t stand when my son cries—I can’t handle any situation when Adam is hysterical. That’s weird.

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Anyway, when I got back home and saw my son watching cartoons, I was shocked by the way he looked. His eyes were swollen because he had been crying constantly. Right when I came home he started complaining and telling me that he was hurt. I hadn’t known that such procedures were so painful even if kids, or in some cases adults, get local anesthesia. I thought that he would recover in a day or two, but it’s been almost two weeks, and he’s still at home with his grandma.

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On the first day, he couldn’t walk, and we had to make sure that nothing touched his wound. This became tricky especially when we had to get him to sleep. We built him a fort bed, which he was so excited about sleeping in. On the second day, he was complaining too, but now he was proud of himself because we talked to him so much about how strong he is because he is now a Man. He has been basically struggling all week. During the first week, he wore a special type of circumcision underwear that would allow him to wear his pants. Now, he’s almost fully recovered. I had no idea this kind of underwear even existed. I could write more about how hard it was for the whole family and Adam in particular, but that’s not the point.

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After seeing how much pain Adam went through, I have started questioning whether it’s really necessary to get circumcised nowadays. We don’t live in the Medieval era—when people had problems with hygiene and therefore had to remove the foreskin for their health. It wasn’t a religious decision either because neither myself nor my husband are practicing Muslims. However, my mother in law, I should say, practices Islam and prays five times a day.

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When I was a teenager, I used to watch Sex in the City. There was an episode where Miranda dated a man who was not circumcised, and she was taken aback the first time they were intimate. That fact made me realize that the issue of foreskin and circumcision is, for some, a big deal. However, nowadays, in Kyrgyzstan at least, it seems like it’s absolutely necessary to get circumcised even if you are not Muslim or Jew. In fact, many people get circumcised immediately after they are born, while they are infants.

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Growing up in a family with almost no men, I was completely unaware of these cultures and practices. If I had to make a decision again, I don’t know what my choice would be. I hope Adam will appreciate the decision we made.

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parenting,ShubhVivaah,2019/01/24,"Gender Reveal Ideas | Baby Girl Name | Dominos Effect While baby gender reveal parties have been a great trend over the last couple of years, we haven’t really seen baby name reveal parties till now. We think your baby’s name is also important so you might want to consider throwing a party to reveal baby name to your friends and family. 

[https://youtu.be/005SnNS6fNo](https://youtu.be/005SnNS6fNo)",8.043897435897437,11.500532184615386,6.062692307692312,70.89147435897438,65.61538461538461,7.410256410256411,23.14102564102564,8.344100000000001,1.95848717948718,332,8,41,5,6,96,46,65,0.0,0.736,0.264,0.949,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,16,8,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,5,2,6,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,1,0,1,5,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634713514745708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645444176662336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105882881491624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545422090082218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632339957097936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3719234967411845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685562254987017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34950805821667946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110623616091916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21110651467886926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19432574667374386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216329717961369
parenting,throwaway009876123,2019/01/24,"My future child seems to have been rejected due to my decision to breakup with the father.... I’m struggling here. I discovered I was 6 weeks pregnant back in Nov 2018 and couldn’t bring myself to abort. The father of my of child was completely supportive up until the day I broke-up with him. He was not a good partner and I had to call it quits as I didn’t want our future child to witness such a dysfunctional relationship. He didn’t understand, didn’t agree, and reacted so poorly. This was 2 weeks ago.

The day after, he rejected the gender reveal appointment. I don’t know if I should accept that declined offer (which was emailed while we were together) as his answer or give this more time. I haven’t spoken to his family since Nov 2018 and feel reaching out would only make the rejection worse.

I’m having a hard time understanding how the father and his family could reject a child they haven’t even met? An innocent being that was not responsible for anything between me and the father... I just don’t get it or maybe I don’t want to. Trying to move on but its been difficult since this is my first child.",4.5249770642201845,5.924661623853211,5.3668692660550485,80.8524139908257,70.37614678899081,8.93623853211009,26.01032110091743,9.354420925462401,2.145944036697248,886,27,170,19,16,289,128,218,0.098,0.8490000000000001,0.053,-0.8514,0,2,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,1,2,7,9,0,1,13,0,26,0,0,3,0,35,41,16,0,7,7,4,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,9,10,0,0,9,0,1,2,11,6,0,1,14,2,23,3,23,22,1,21,0,4,0,0,26,4,0,4,15,116,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470351978691542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433364069234888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255224459017747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668756895460535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115534610215155,0.0,0.0,0.13033485603214806,0.0,0.0,0.2105542048413489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781930686133892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30777864708877983,0.0,0.08253968146413387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388529248900225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528681622466153,0.1565958828675785,0.0,0.13691901658883426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623209723751285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971312253918172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089648027738272,0.0,0.16399777795899814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734996159044991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415232748005844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736271644279085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526001247001174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860870419177208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270069699784025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065519924346986,0.0,0.0,0.18524423738026716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903745726674414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083009413653454,0.0,0.0,0.33987979904951005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925678388009208,0.0,0.2618845703253161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635678107639024,0.11596190124147375,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,miarm2018,2019/01/24,"Should I be worried? My(28f) daughter(10mths) absolutely hates being touch by my mother.  She'll cry, move her body away, and push my moms hands away. My mom says its because we didn't have a bond while I was pregnant. Which is true but I didn't speak to any of my family during this time and she's fine with everyone else. Should I be worried?",1.521470588235296,4.064806735294121,2.127941176470589,94.94573529411768,84.58823529411767,5.1647058823529415,18.794117647058822,6.6274283507984215,-0.0060058823529414145,270,7,57,3,8,83,54,68,0.135,0.8029999999999999,0.062,-0.5868,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,11,2,2,0,1,8,12,4,0,2,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,4,12,2,6,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,2,36,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500407084302766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006741998449077,0.0,0.0,0.12998335057024382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23685104692693945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23422372217761894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781267447750387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037509070399087,0.0,0.0,0.2010147645132259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052100088125614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994660339303169,0.0,0.2266303056697623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956947409791642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243364354740736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4330919027326846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,prakashmathoor,2019/01/24,"Reasons why you should store cord blood ?  Storing or preservation of cord blood or cord blood cells actually means extraction and [cryopreservation of cord blood](https://www.cordlifeindia.com/how-is-cord-lining-collected-processed-and-stored). Cord here means umbilical cord which supplies nutrition from mother to baby in the womb and is said to be rich sources of stem cells. Stem cells are an undifferentiated form of cells found in the umbilical cord and in bone marrow of an adult, which later differentiates to form other types of cells and further continues to multiply as the same type of cell.  ",12.304489795918364,12.568883734693875,10.115224489795915,57.45120408163265,53.48979591836735,13.146122448979595,38.98775510204082,12.340626583579946,5.014364897959183,498,19,74,13,5,150,60,98,0.0,0.961,0.039,0.5574,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,4,5,5,1,0,12,8,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,16,4,3,6,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,2,2,39,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.31370182078676034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35246792908938546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7003355737446026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305178242854574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057852239868828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900706385817578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twiddle_dee,2019/01/24,"Thinking about private school vs public. Thoughts? My daughter is 6 and finishing kindergarten. We've been talking about sending her to private school. Concerns are the cost, not just for her, but since we have two younger boys they would feel bad if they stayed in public school while big sister was at a different school. Have noticed daughter being 'rude' and feel that a private school may offer more structure. ",6.484583333333332,9.09122940277778,4.331666666666667,85.38000000000002,67.47222222222223,5.911111111111111,34.22222222222222,6.42735559955562,2.1440388888888893,335,16,53,2,6,93,56,72,0.066,0.934,0.0,-0.6956,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,13,5,0,2,5,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,3,2,6,0,6,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,2,2,34,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178340605423448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774142429519281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172104577759514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332865014364695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8592787712654133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14046774368733805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180993779744422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648602652881828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880673831979984,0.0,0.13480936291948786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587870004580832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062742791294248,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gozenurhole,2019/01/24,"Are all four year olds this crazy? I am ashamed to admit that I have lost control of my own daughter. She is going to be 4 next week, and her anger is out of this world. I truly believe she has an anger management problem or some other underlying issue. She will completely lose her mind over the smallest thing and it’s not like a “normal” child her age. She will SCREAM and say rotten things. She will call us all stupid, idiot, or dumb. (We have never called her any of those names). She will tell me she hates me. Today, she said she wishes I was die. She hears the word “hate” from my younger brother and I feel like she’s picked up on his bad habits. I’m not blaming him, as it is my responsibility as her mother to teach her right from wrong. I have told her how much words hurt. I’ve explained to her how to express frustration in positive ways. I’ve told her to take deep breaths when she breaks down. I have just held her and let her cry. She’s usually only like this when it’s her and her little brother together which is most of the time. When it’s just the two of us, she’s a totally different child. She started acting out worse when my 18 month old started to throw his tantrums. Maybe she’s mimicking him a bit? 

Her pediatrician told me this is normal behavior, but I’m terrified she’s going to be the “bad kid” when she starts school and I feel like I’ve failed her. I am calling a child psychiatrist tomorrow to see if they can help us. 

I. Thought. I.  Did. But. I. Do. Not. Know. What. I. Am. Doing.",1.2355952380952395,3.4985608928571423,2.5318181818181853,93.53439393939396,82.92857142857143,5.811255411255412,20.37229437229437,7.106945922332613,0.3514748917748913,1177,34,261,16,33,378,170,308,0.21,0.753,0.038,-0.9933,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,4,0,1,4,9,24,9,1,10,0,26,1,1,4,4,45,51,21,1,5,10,4,2,4,0,4,0,4,0,4,15,10,0,2,6,0,0,4,4,20,0,2,9,8,62,4,26,35,8,38,0,4,1,0,65,12,1,5,24,173,77,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856329737540143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836647838628974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135933264339709,0.0,0.0,0.11007292416794487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088555680305208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571130563478827,0.0,0.11308189752724447,0.0,0.0,0.11074965428675536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463866134476453,0.10533888320456826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195857380984773,0.14405636292057192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460040303709967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990842588524852,0.0,0.0,0.11363518007997785,0.0,0.06757972878059723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793342162570176,0.0,0.0,0.10523332434054576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055409845687966135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309864921844493,0.0,0.19702867489064987,0.10105142793168756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279547651340666,0.11006053562948152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129055050902597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180278556451093,0.0,0.08047619145123452,0.0,0.07411672205048694,0.0,0.07776113997942198,0.0,0.10722671710527114,0.0,0.19757084283834173,0.0,0.0,0.2115941737374934,0.0,0.0,0.07668065844511647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647427598353313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610254228399435,0.09590604100417996,0.08017873022993759,0.0,0.10203855634185834,0.08034311177273863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140897395250068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580656955974474,0.0,0.08812400302196348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396503314826405,0.0,0.0,0.08004243345505227,0.0587908735971617,0.0,0.09556869386145717,0.28902293463901235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848970815147913,0.0,0.36383402632207296,0.0,0.1110426142585576,0.0,0.0,0.08002883792941902,0.08087436497067353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159418124494831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027475502768697,0.0,0.11023444460747978,0.0,0.0649268957876889
parenting,Whatnowpurplecow,2019/01/25,"Apology template I use this with my 4 year old instead of having him just say “I’m sorry” which can be sort of meaningless. 
It’s 3 parts. 
1. Apologize for what you did 
2. Promise not to do it again
3. Ask how to help make things better. 
It also works with adults. 
Examples: 
I’m sorry I hit you, I won’t do it again, how can I help you feel better. 
He still needs prompting. 
Anyway. It was an idea I had while biking to work one day, and I thought I’d share it. Having a template helps me avoid getting overly emotional. I’m not a parenting expert. I just work at a coffee shop. Just wanted to share in case it helps anyone here",-0.6167537163519512,1.5870564045801565,1.781390116512657,94.57119325030136,95.6412213740458,4.5899558055443945,16.818400964242667,6.339386263674448,-0.16983358778625934,483,13,105,6,19,163,88,131,0.06,0.733,0.206,0.946,1,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,0,5,12,6,0,1,4,0,11,0,0,4,0,19,23,5,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,11,3,0,1,3,2,1,0,3,1,0,1,4,2,13,5,12,16,1,10,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,7,69,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635201511648565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192203856256704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939825628844026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015939260297529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099609970703754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179409005857825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862119631237586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908132094619603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571410421187145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247830159145315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381276728826295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264265814373262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891530277267415,0.0,0.11553794673443595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893245529759368,0.1846392543111237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559165209165636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38173061542264347,0.0,0.0,0.13616474252853594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132753045289825,0.0,0.0,0.13536115823339165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726074192407684,0.0,0.0,0.1005676973974077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37238690432421456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979900828796643
parenting,Alisonia333,2019/01/25,"Speech delay Hi parents of reddit. I am the mom of a very sweet 20 month old with a speech delay. He got evaluated by early intervention at 18 months and has been receiving services once weekly for an hour for 3 weeks. She has been giving us tips mostly for how to encourage his communication. He says maybe 4 words regularly and has said around 25 distinct words total. He occasionally repeats a word we say, but usually doesn't. He follows some simple commands and not others. He's behind in receptive, but more in expressive. He's not super consistent in his skills. I am concerned we haven't made more progress and wonder if I should look into private speech therapy or hold off on it (insurance will only cover a limited number of sessions). What type of progress should I expect? He is developing normally in all other arenas. Thank you for any insight or commiseration! 
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parenting,bjetn,2019/01/25,Daddy's girl to a fault My almost 4 year old daughter has had an extreme preference for me over her mother almost her whole life.  It's to the point where she'll tantrum if mom even tries to take her out of the car or take her to go potty when I'm around. My wife is a great mom.  It's draining on me and absolutely crushing my wife.  Now her 23 m.o sister is seemingly starting to pick up on the daddy preference behavior. What can we do? ,2.7527329192546617,3.9335197391304364,4.285714285714288,87.745,74.43478260869566,7.431055900621117,25.099378881987576,7.957251820313856,1.2591161490683231,344,11,75,5,7,115,67,92,0.09,0.866,0.044,-0.4927,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,6,0,7,1,0,1,0,12,13,4,0,3,2,7,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,12,1,13,11,1,15,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,5,5,48,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4426316534306956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196751301171516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597913420715114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256086157508871,0.0,0.0,0.2436711717374004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611029813426908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5177030702823202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319193524608733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893177431384125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120487327432746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643642381431222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323533954462733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005551099447548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24675672573045265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232720459549447
parenting,ootrebmun,2019/01/25,"Still not 100% sure, but not ready now. My wife and I have been together for just under 10 years. We've been not actively trying, but no protection, for the past 5 years. My mindset is if it's going to happen it will happen, and I'm ok with that. I didn't plan on meeting her and falling in love, but it happened and I'm happy. She has a different mindset. She's determined to get pregnant. Her cousin isn't helping, she waited to long and can't conceve now, so my wife is afraid that will be her. We're only 34 (her) and 35 (me). She's already dragged me to a fertility doctor and we've done 3 specimen samples (which checked out fine). So the ""doc"" is pushing IUI at $500 a pop. I'm not on board with paying for a kid when I'm not 100% sure I want one right now. I don't know if telling her this will push her away. She went to spend the weekend with her parents, and we haven't really spoken since Monday, the last fertility doctor appointment. Any input from anyone is appreciated. I know you all are set on no kids, but I'd like to hear from other POVs. Thank you. ",2.160347222222221,3.503597276785716,3.960654761904763,88.83156746031747,76.23214285714286,6.942063492063492,24.051587301587304,7.594959193182576,0.975309325396826,826,26,184,11,18,279,131,224,0.094,0.784,0.121,0.9217,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,2,0,1,10,9,0,1,8,1,19,3,0,0,3,32,36,17,0,3,12,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,2,8,13,0,2,2,1,3,5,12,1,0,1,5,2,25,8,22,27,1,27,0,0,0,1,26,9,0,2,13,113,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969753766430244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073650572288687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138612280670095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299315586860365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17013271370186767,0.0,0.3333464424899997,0.0,0.16664143804368742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507696521475885,0.0,0.09254549206756724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4319955369636633,0.17334577235169152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835320536051461,0.0,0.10914794517377796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898476091469678,0.13273600037836358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955519869887795,0.0,0.0,0.14410791355767474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696908834111747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034432101929913,0.12384684660438795,0.0,0.0,0.18081409477035096,0.0,0.15544881506219368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431921158555084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906412076685548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470259221285086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004390752774905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30694877432388235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423289797679195,0.1499208169808968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055739305315848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604700965733727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509539320526399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20972671508480226
parenting,inviteonly,2019/01/25,"Don't let older relatives make you feel guilty - grandma got busted by my mom I am very lucky to live near my mom and grandma, and spend a lot of time with them. My grandma loves to cook, and loves giving me advice, since I tend to be really self-deprecating about my cooking abilities. The problem is that her advice is usually pretty unrealistic and tends to fall back on, ""Well when I had kids you know we only had one car so I couldn't go out to eat all the time"" etc. I just take all her advice and shrug it off because I'm pretty happy with our lives, but occasionally I'll feel a little guilty about what we're eating.

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After a visit with my grandma, I saw my mom and mentioned that she had been making some comments about how I should be cooking, and her response was brilliant: ""WHAT? When we were kids we NEVER ate like that!! What is she talking about? We never had fish, rarely had chicken. We never had any of the fresh vegetables she's telling you to make. And when Hamburger Helper came out we ate that all the time! Plus, MY grandma lived with us and SHE cooked probably half the time if not more. And what is she going on about having only one car....we had two cars by the time I was in elementary school!""

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So if you're feeling bad about your parenting because of some older relative, just remember that they probably have some selective memory. It sure made me feel a lot better to hear my grandma get busted, even if it wasn't to her face. :)",5.936452395391142,5.949722123711339,6.292067919951485,80.43996967859309,66.59450171821304,9.183828582979583,29.48878107944209,8.841846274778883,2.1374829593693145,1162,36,230,17,17,375,153,291,0.048,0.809,0.142,0.9774,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,8,4,2,1,17,11,0,0,10,0,25,12,1,5,7,58,50,21,0,6,7,4,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,12,24,9,0,6,4,1,7,7,2,1,4,18,6,41,9,32,27,10,31,0,0,1,2,39,8,0,9,17,163,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672521504001558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19755152330803294,0.2215475924989604,0.06199439869950313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009920898493839,0.07611782825701513,0.11114501286342962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062682781853386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042669134575896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865663175658168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167155229862576,0.0602127218760429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18438029434296616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047629237235155365,0.08745246669193624,0.10362079055367356,0.0,0.07291188776606625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704538583632592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274804348449318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010115027942244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322099446345468,0.0,0.04453794775770225,0.09136991294410406,0.2414974826816821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550081267825328,0.16455748173817678,0.0862612367462816,0.1825573050326558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203092464678673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21093304871922816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354967834392415,0.13866810652815809,0.0,0.0,0.10122642942819647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549238371647486,0.1965796372956671,0.08723128785394177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058401759680193975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327062844120954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922624667530708,0.0,0.0,0.0951035545289758,0.0,0.0,0.07541150186188443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592064817079406,0.0,0.06854370891173782,0.07327387750036862,0.07968103617344201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26579124671607113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905362590001532,0.0,0.1096586295762979,0.0,0.10040386569053696,0.07521954723171863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819670571892247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215475924989604,0.0
parenting,wrentintin,2019/01/25,"Four year old son having poop anxiety So within the last few months my four year old son has been having serious anxiety when he has to go poop. He is mildly autistic, verbal, but still in diapers. We've tried getting him to use the toilet with no success. 

When he feels the pressure to go, even if it's just gas, he'll start yelling. He'll say things like ""ow! that really hurts!"" Or ""help me Mommy!"" etc. I respond ""try to relax, just push it out, everybody poops,"" and so on. I'll ask if he wants to try sitting on the toilet, sometimes he'll say yes but he ends up standing on the seat dancing and singing.

When he finally does poop (in the diaper) he runs around screaming like a woman in labor and cries afterward for a minute. The poop is always soft, never hard, although it is very dark. It stinks like really bad tooth decay. 

Does anyone have any experience with anything like this? I plan on bringing it up to his doctor but I'm curious if anyone has any insight. Thanks.",2.0153626943005167,4.3783706787564824,3.397334196891194,87.89309974093267,80.55440414507774,6.347046632124353,22.603367875647674,7.554174236665415,1.0801898445595857,763,25,150,12,20,249,121,193,0.125,0.706,0.16899999999999998,0.9199,0,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,0,0,0,2,11,14,0,1,9,1,10,7,6,1,1,21,24,16,0,4,9,2,3,4,0,3,1,4,0,1,8,7,0,0,2,3,0,6,2,7,0,2,1,8,6,7,21,20,2,36,0,1,0,0,20,12,0,4,20,80,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848773599319015,0.0,0.0,0.19367299563188792,0.0,0.21787035361665444,0.0,0.0,0.1991379896097415,0.0,0.1171826004935028,0.12676568618433412,0.13312424774502502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889757888439555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641909105882093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575185409459754,0.2492294076120595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612363162645165,0.0,0.15881300986291227,0.09405348277840787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929397020193288,0.0,0.0,0.07200143216563229,0.0,0.0,0.1559916188914816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439782664646065,0.0,0.1618577592271674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756192225263285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544733857581736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244153866022306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160745440433376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27827668119958243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366186919269845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982722170658324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29884850244014804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18244944680022246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264834899140104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083668080475972,0.0,0.10079105190647417,0.0,0.11372037148075714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311022663336091,0.0,0.0,0.09460385611886406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900396038607151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298738987170905,0.0,0.11749444585352505,0.08399087527816403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834011327581296
parenting,lauriscristina5,2019/01/25,"Just a toddler mom venting I’m struggling.

I love my 3 year old but I hate these toddler years. It’s rough, I’m 25 and feel way older than that. I suck at this mom thing, I’m tired(he refuses to sleep through the night and won’t sleep in his own room) I’m also in college and I’m exhausted, I love him but I find myself yelling at him more than I’d like to admit and every night while we read I just I just feel this immense feeling of guilt with him and I look at his eyes and wonder how he got stuck with me. I feel as if I have zero patience, I’m overwhelmed with parenting and school, I have no friends anymore and I’m just feeling like I’m sucking at this mom thing. I don’t recognize who I am anymore. I found a used version of the 1-2-3 method and I ordered it and I’m hoping I can possibly find better methods on dealing with myself and just being the parent that my son deserves. ",0.03191761363636303,2.154070932291667,2.071969696969699,95.75181818181822,87.07291666666666,4.532575757575757,22.78977272727273,5.852544927426893,0.23810625,697,27,157,5,22,232,106,192,0.112,0.713,0.175,0.908,2,0,2,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,7,14,3,3,5,0,7,6,3,2,0,38,34,18,0,2,8,6,6,2,1,1,1,1,1,0,11,16,0,1,10,1,0,0,3,7,0,1,3,9,27,7,19,29,3,17,0,1,2,2,20,8,2,3,9,95,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078349841626144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499692240859012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114603658053994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992798351917986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618292176463333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318614405570879,0.09003349247752564,0.0,0.0,0.23037222288617826,0.0,0.0,0.13818176061935844,0.09736790802823887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007950567056769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244252649337805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251729393221715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314054970556898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583067892027327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22748801617042266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4428028082974322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23653502246121766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224381112541858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27987544985982044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207615705406731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606079455641245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275457384674863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522354098251272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175045965779492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745306572616914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884659634698922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000341204182175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667056930591776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16231411275357702
parenting,B1G_H1TT3R,2019/01/25,"Am I evil? Am I being too clingy by making a reddit account specifically to spy on my eldest? Like I'll use this for other such things as it seems there are many interesting communities here but I find myself really wanting to keep peering into their profile. I think I already know the answer to my question. Yes, yes I am. Maybe if I find something so very interesting I'll forget my plans.
Guess it's time to find a new hobby. Haha",1.7100000000000009,4.278218604651165,3.954697674418604,82.02693023255813,83.88372093023256,5.765581395348837,21.390697674418604,7.1686216300943375,0.9514083720930238,344,11,63,5,10,118,64,86,0.06,0.733,0.207,0.9211,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,5,5,1,0,3,3,5,0,0,2,0,17,13,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,4,9,12,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,3,41,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422599094333573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6019470200094781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24184013514147176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513084407703632,0.0,0.0,0.1206494883924036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725263953114014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146539852090197,0.2225718073135399,0.22055020991608665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21202615114049814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24592698413083264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063833639215867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19985442066811024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900707875203272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584784085872013,0.1406677571482742,0.0,0.0,0.12801134407743892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18960585753609308,0.0,0.1811375555251964,0.12948613633426348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UtterDisbelief,2019/01/25,"How much time a week do you devote to caring for your own body? Parents of kids (not babies), how many hours (or minutes) would you say you spend on your physical appearance/health?  I don't mean cooking and eating, but things like hair, moisturizing, makeup, gym, buying clothing etc?  Prior to kids, I devoted hours and hours a week to it - now I am lucky if I spend an average of 45 minutes a day (including shower and dressing).  What about you?",3.8585714285714303,5.812979142857145,4.682857142857143,82.86214285714287,73.04761904761905,7.6571428571428575,26.285714285714285,8.418075326091056,1.874971428571429,344,12,64,6,7,111,62,84,0.0,0.821,0.179,0.9356,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,6,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,0,4,4,2,2,0,12,6,8,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,3,3,2,0,1,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,10,5,8,5,3,10,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,3,10,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288578085171295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100658364622416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328751648254783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21082466205714756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297828561323412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900496824128704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6087072436620996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065801702307788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888657721956344,0.0,0.2244318991815285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145901527263808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287768559072571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384685116220762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688012259757704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201403350782126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33053678954971194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463609501652729,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FakeThrowawayAcct39,2019/01/25,"My [39M] son [16M] came out and my wife [37F] took it extremely badly. Writing this on a throwaway account since I know my son is on reddit.

The long and short of it is that my son came out to me and my wife and my wife took it extremely badly. And I don't know how to handle either one of them although for completely different reasons. 

Basically here's how things happened. Wednesday, when I came home from work my son said he had something to tell me. He was obviously fidgety about something, and after abit of rambling he eventually told me he was gay. To be honest, I already knew. He's a good kid and pretty damn smart, but I'm a programmer and therefore the 'computer guy', I'm 
the one that everyone calls to fix their computers and laptop. So without drawing a picture, I already knew he was gay. 

So when he finally came out to me, I was actually kind of relieved. He and I have always had a good relationship but he never told me and I was kind of wondering if maybe we didn't have such a good relationship. In any case, I did the dad thing of telling him that I loved him and all I really wanted from him was for him to be safe and happy. He was just really relieved I guess. 

Anyway he asked me to be there when he told his mother, which now that I think about it is probably why he came to me first. Now, she is a deeply religious woman. She wasn't always but somewhere along the line she turned
from being just somewhat religious to being deeply deeply devout and if I'm being honest, I couldn't really pin down when or how that happened. I'm not religious in the slightest although I do do the occasional church-going and church-related functions to make her happy.

Anyway when she got home I waited for my son to take the lead on when to tell her. Its when he told her that things went to hell. I don't think she really believed it at first, probably thought it was some kind of joke or something but when she realized it wasn't, first started crying and then went into what I can only call a rage. He tried to calm her down and I tried to help to get her to not see this as the end of the world. But she kept going on
about how this wasn't the plan for him and about grandkids and a bunch of other things. But she just kept working herself into some kind of frenzy.

Eventually she went to his room and starts dumping his clothes and tells him to get out of the house. My son is bawling at this point, and I just completely flip out. I order him 
to go to my bedroom and stay in there. And I just unleash on her. I pretty much say what kind of mother is she and that
I'll be 3 weeks dead and buried before I let him leave and she gets angry at me for backing her up on this and that being gay is wrong and bunch of other bullshit. Anyway, after a hell of a heated fight she leaves and goes to stay at her parents. 

I try talking to my son, he's just devastated and blaming himself for everything. And I'm not sure what to do here. I let my son skip school the last couple of days as a kind of mental health day although I let him know that he will go back on Monday. I haven't spoken to my wife since that night, and I'm not even surewhat I could or should say to her, and I'm not sure how to handle my son either. He's not the usual self and I don't know how to get him to stop blaming himself. He says he wants to spend the night at a friend's house which is fine, I figure his friends can offer different kinds of support than I can. But I'm at a complete loss. I think I did my best although writing this I realized that since I knew he was gay for awhile I should tried to slowly ease her into the idea to make this less explosive or maybe if I stayed calm earlier I could have handled it less emotionally. I just don't where to go from here or how to handle any of this.


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parenting,_fuzzy_owl_,2019/01/25,"Hard time NOT being a single parent anymore Hi, I’m new to this sub and I’m a bit shy, but here goes. I need to vent and get some advice.

I was a single mom for 12 years (3 kids) until I was married last year. Before marriage I raised my kids completely alone with some help from mom, but all parenting decisions were 100% mine. I struggled to make ends meet, but we were always happy and life was good (of course with some struggles).

Now my husband and I decided to move in with my parents (they suggested we do) to save money as we are having financial troubles and could. I longer pay rent. So with everyone stressed from the move and rearranging stuff, or just In general, I’m seeing my husband and mom get increasingly annoyed with my kids doing regular kid stuff. My mom is understanding and has raised many kids, so I believe she is just readjusting to us being here. My husband over analyzes every misbehavior the kids portray and every time they disobey. For me, I see a behavior, I correct it and continue to work on it and move on. It’s not a big discussion, debate, family meeting, or reoccurring conversation. I feel like he can’t do this. He has to point out every single thing and go on and on about how we need to correct it. It’s exhausting and all he talks about. I’m sure he’s having a hard time adjusting to being a parent to 3 kids (and one on the way) as his kids are grown. He’s a great dad to my kids who have never even had a father figure, but I feel he needs to lay off sometime and pick and choose his battles as do I.

It’s to the point now that I get extremely anxious when my kids misbehave (again nothing extreme, just normal things) because I’m worried about my mom and husband getting upset, stressed out, or yelling at them. I am working on not raising my voice or yelling at my kids and I HATE when my mom and husband do it. I’m also having a hard time adjusting to having others involved in raising them. 

Thanks for listening.",4.656384615384614,5.429507305128205,5.7512820512820495,80.54538461538462,69.53846153846155,8.76923076923077,30.64102564102564,8.950670267944501,2.47748717948718,1539,61,301,27,26,512,192,390,0.13,0.7909999999999999,0.079,-0.9457,6,1,0,0,4,0,48.0,5,0,4,2,18,17,3,5,14,0,28,2,0,3,6,74,51,38,0,5,14,17,5,1,0,0,2,4,1,11,16,31,0,0,10,0,3,6,5,10,0,1,6,11,43,7,48,41,10,42,0,0,2,0,58,18,0,7,18,205,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522955314977965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797339867207421,0.0,0.06156545129548361,0.0640582850155533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697194882705543,0.07634914610360102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692977946121017,0.0,0.06550917620422722,0.0867365417166544,0.0,0.0,0.08404846551013481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071806116571081,0.0,0.0,0.06146683186248885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818649604705276,0.0,0.0,0.05084834102046607,0.0,0.19459136468886165,0.07356315320735707,0.0,0.0,0.07257528387802882,0.0,0.07785258490311911,0.054998612701392766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160887441857463,0.0,0.04375275797804335,0.06457196814156403,0.0,0.08487702646446385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195272892042367,0.2068922468041918,0.0760074586473406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051601904342379566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275363575016622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437728973699504,0.037611333375653366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138856492369205,0.07805143520463849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.540988458549883,0.0,0.24547090571944416,0.0,0.1712518044258768,0.0593761321505123,0.07435328668611994,0.0,0.0,0.07542965854514133,0.07386987324730544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216751528301456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419341191348477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555277599119806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269530059008706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07614084414740027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763737609405321,0.16096437680140688,0.17626045809361313,0.0,0.0,0.07255812862740395,0.0,0.0,0.06187820438844871,0.0,0.07087810626633949,0.0,0.0,0.10229178113726277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956396631391489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014484803850068,0.09260434039191133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110767998008504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209303997285996,0.0781827341444667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991525573167404
parenting,LionelHutzsTie,2019/01/25,"My daughter adores her friend at daycare. How do I reach out to her parents? For months my 3 year old daughter has been talking about her friend at her daycare centre, how much fun they have together, and how she would like to see her more. I have seen them playing together many times (at home time) and they really do get along well. Because of different schedules, I've only crossed paths with a parent of this child once or twice. I want to reach out in some way to see if they'd be interested in getting the kids together to play, without seeming creepy or making them feel obligated. Do I leave a note in the child's cubby for her parents? Do I invite her to my daughter's birthday even though they'd be the only new faces there? Any suggestions or advice appreciated! ",6.214333333333336,6.531348299999998,6.25,79.93833333333335,66.0,9.066666666666668,32.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.5754666666666672,615,24,118,9,9,195,95,150,0.008,0.7809999999999999,0.211,0.9795,4,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,6,0,8,9,0,0,5,0,13,1,1,4,0,20,22,10,0,3,5,6,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,3,1,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,4,22,9,22,15,3,17,0,0,3,0,27,8,0,6,8,78,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640995760349255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884710851970356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757182528061632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722989252885084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057189167053071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093175483692762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473257807476293,0.0,0.16725074725459715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055443977895134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16948170568422166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819782003735055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068420976131046,0.1622769398476084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775932721239955,0.0,0.11766340297175396,0.0,0.0,0.15458810974328396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795731005204673,0.17045996009861286,0.0,0.2434675189391459,0.0,0.0,0.5331870804541569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253930688907012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25509611528909504,0.14571371007178144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865113402585535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725932179665866,0.0,0.18666595229109545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440824608758172,0.1270491347450053,0.0,0.0,0.14391424638477535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429329037131592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137028880560564,0.0,0.0,0.10307416857383432
parenting,IrishEyesMesmerize29,2019/01/25,"We all have that one friend who seems to be the ""expert"" on how to raise children..... I'm (F 33) pretty frustrated. I have a 4yo and a 19mo. The ""parenting expert"" is my best friend (F 33). Lately, I'll admit, that I've been having some struggles at home (lack of sleep and poor communication with my husband (M 34) added to those struggles) and my best friend reached out to me. I've been dealing with some post partum anxiety and I really haven't gotten the help or support I need. I am scheduled to see a counselor and I'm considering medication to help. I understand she's just trying to help however, I can't talk to her without getting her analysis of my parenting and how I'm usually doing it wrong. 

In addition to this, she will ask, ""well, are you doing _________”. I give my answer and her response may include, ""oh, ok......good"" or ""you should really do ________”. I'm not asking for her advice or opinion, I'm usually just venting about how being a parent sucked on a particular day. We've all been there right? She even went so far to say that I'm ruining my kids. She later apologized but the comment still carries some weight.

Her questions and ""analysis"" are adding to my anxiety that nothing I do is right or good enough. I love my kids more than anything and I always do everything in my power to give them my best. Again, I'm just frustrated.",1.9955934343434336,4.314001412878788,3.956666666666667,84.11055555555558,80.32575757575758,7.244444444444446,24.92929292929293,8.285830014693849,1.8230641414141424,1039,40,203,22,27,352,146,264,0.09,0.78,0.13,0.9289,5,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,1,2,1,4,13,17,3,2,9,0,23,4,1,3,2,42,45,18,0,3,10,4,1,0,3,3,1,1,1,3,8,14,1,0,5,0,1,1,4,7,1,1,5,3,34,10,26,35,11,19,0,1,1,1,39,9,1,11,8,139,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106203570846377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904327930461282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16628408361717745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943668110634764,0.0,0.203207487168786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421676690449473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009141260871403,0.11204719089738327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229838147864232,0.0,0.07178396204528863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767708954471477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519041768205795,0.0,0.05678227542965101,0.20851688328271867,0.0,0.1823159464887153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854336258209967,0.0,0.1090177062958521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259892828829833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980904670584364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948648341622408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805869164551271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428407438780687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364627560937892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620381511574652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408807630211707,0.11056947616323748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174960525371585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924996477959006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856290286761664,0.0,0.08642892194739757,0.0,0.0,0.08660611756388586,0.098940736050371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876128586873544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679422163859378,0.0,0.0,0.22723771283521454,0.0,0.0,0.12333194946536682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735511495769742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378848466540737,0.0,0.0,0.11314262401216928,0.0,0.0,0.2393974914061275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323463667638221,0.0977188862903135,0.1007500411582014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476633742597964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882757661005185,0.0,0.0
parenting,donutsforkife,2019/01/25,"Toddler sharing turns to screaming What do you guys do about your kid is stealing toys or not sharing? I’m a pretty hands off parent, especially when my boy (1.5) is on play dates. They have fun when you stand back and let them.. The sharing issue is the one time I feel like I should intervene. I have resorted to removing the offending you. Any better ideas out there? ",3.791032863849765,5.7979700985915485,4.3151408450704265,85.20163145539908,73.36619718309859,7.550234741784037,27.32629107981221,8.344100000000001,1.8964910798122068,291,11,56,5,6,92,56,71,0.14,0.632,0.228,0.7672,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,2,1,5,10,1,0,4,0,9,1,1,0,0,7,12,4,0,1,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,3,0,1,0,3,10,7,6,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,6,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069953455546524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22693789940890546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610198204244068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492273496965524,0.21084199633523454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29222657686687303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3331675301182263,0.0,0.308040599319968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30179194559657696,0.0,0.1441863389683641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998873654936952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277085946010395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002548283106312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209354594565926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210183133634877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheRealGerk,2019/01/25,"3 1/2 year-old no nap My 3 1/2-year-old son who did not take a nap today just fell asleep at about 5:30 PM. My question for the group is, “Will he sleep until tomorrow morning?” If you do not know the answer some positive vibes are also welcomed. Wish us luck!!",0.8491194968553479,3.1487501698113256,2.1040566037735857,95.71067610062893,85.0377358490566,5.0427672955974865,20.154088050314463,6.42735559955562,0.08570691823899379,201,6,44,2,6,64,47,53,0.038,0.748,0.214,0.8774,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,2,2,0,0,10,8,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,4,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,3,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176976788340053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496073590754913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5713072313338369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30495352372775314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724209027348783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046787990761183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580368113534001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274523215385269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130445167574293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35060705516006724
parenting,Gangreen90210,2019/01/25,"Is it weird to not be ready to spend night away from almost 2 year old? I haven’t spent a night away yet. He’s in daycare during the day and all I want to do after each workday is run right home to be with him. I avoid after work drinks with colleagues like the plague (nothing wrong with them, but I get enough at work), opt-out of girl’s trips, and generally try to only do solo things when he’s napping/after bedtime. I’m happy to do a girls night out if it’s after I put him down for bed. My boss just nicely asked if I’d attend a conference far away in his place. He won’t be upset with me if I don’t go, and there are other logistical reasons why it’s difficult (husband leaves for work before daycare opens, I have an important social engagement during that time, several others), but mostly, the thought of being away from him for days on end to do work-things breaks my heart. Am I bordering on dependency??! He’s almost 2. I have many wonderful mom friends and none of them feel this way, and frequently take trips away for work and pleasure. Makes me feel super lame, but maybe I’ll grow out of it?",5.310813283632665,4.988077180616745,5.931013215859032,83.64105388004069,67.94273127753304,8.922941375804811,27.593697051846828,8.384062270229773,1.6313974246018297,868,23,185,11,13,283,136,227,0.071,0.765,0.163,0.9797,0,1,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,2,5,4,13,0,2,7,0,17,2,1,4,1,37,29,13,0,4,8,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,9,14,1,1,5,1,2,7,5,6,0,0,2,2,19,7,37,22,5,41,0,1,0,0,17,17,0,8,16,111,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22373920873468697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444140322153793,0.0,0.5248144667191034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506392979243557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409794813423304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094412699306014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894913428312853,0.11543472836111678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129761217316631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631317697677496,0.0,0.05836813009806815,0.0,0.06349200758811775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118926063794509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238656316113293,0.0,0.0,0.11206242821235222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829340566784508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05457985220690775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457274249351104,0.11326468422318202,0.11223591245908167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084296435503384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314519788937738,0.0,0.10719659215779932,0.0,0.11722942091393222,0.0,0.0,0.08496669852518901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672170419126933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123076123636867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486488002343365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540670230072083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620972688514706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388259998853495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399815641413295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422058453353315,0.0,0.0,0.0886917437917626,0.06514376029436222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584930050972906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589426810251743,0.08867667914637227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080826706107662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115358412134135,0.4066607725679587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214627537085113,0.0,0.07194283529160618
parenting,heartscookbrains,2019/01/25,"Potty training a child with speech delay! My three year old son has a speech delay and is in a preschool where he receives therapy. He’s made amazing progress, and I think he’s ready to potty train. 

We have had some issues with him getting into his diaper which is obviously not ideal. 

My plan is to just do no diaper this weekend and try to at least get him in a routine of using the potty. 

Basically, I’m open to any suggestions or tricks you guys might have!  This is my first time potty training so I’m definitely taking any tips 😅",3.921425233644861,5.286659401869162,5.286063084112153,80.98647780373835,71.80373831775701,7.966822429906544,26.45911214953271,8.472884824447931,1.8182158878504675,424,14,82,7,8,142,75,107,0.099,0.7879999999999999,0.113,0.5553,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,4,3,3,1,0,5,0,10,0,0,2,1,20,18,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,3,8,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,2,9,2,11,15,2,14,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,7,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757429628287924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349931292046056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886768980978301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27354841667290924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28835165890246417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614111383629205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29307632747227985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28989643439304663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771889727173926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31593614448131285,0.0,0.0,0.17702116037965307,0.0,0.0,0.16109389336791086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187567605448812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386065548798022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790731429506046
parenting,U53R-N4M3,2019/01/25,"Looking for kid's book recommendations on guides abuse to let kids know what is and isn't appropriate Looking for books like : ""I said No!""  nd ""Some Secrets should never be kept.""

Nothing too graphic. Enough info to inform him but not graphic or scary. This is for a conservative Christian family. 
Hopefully allowed to ask this here.",3.93937046004843,7.098341000000001,4.497142857142858,77.83254237288135,79.67796610169492,6.761259079903147,28.767554479418894,7.957251820313856,2.4288334140435834,265,12,43,5,7,84,50,59,0.041,0.8170000000000001,0.142,0.7531,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,15,13,3,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,2,2,7,8,2,2,1,0,2,0,7,1,0,3,2,29,5,2,0.0,0.3413495296547934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693331418642502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976826920239462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715935599459538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28614674673877305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583313628463357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946001642072407,0.0,0.14075034061148484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4838602439501535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22219927012178053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764382138926187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27404758105446625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strangerthaaang,2019/01/25,"5 year old keeping his hands to himself I need advice. I have a smart five year old boy who is having a very hard time keeping his hands to himself. Sometimes he hurts other kids and sometimes it’s just touching people. Even when told to stop. It’s as though he can’t control himself. 

What strategies have worked for you? Any advice is helpful. ",2.0192910447761183,4.712344268656717,2.2941604477611968,93.53138992537315,83.92537313432835,3.35,24.792910447761198,3.1291,0.16559850746268626,274,11,51,0,8,83,49,67,0.105,0.812,0.083,-0.1263,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,6,2,2,1,0,7,10,4,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,8,1,5,9,0,7,0,1,0,0,13,0,0,0,7,32,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784497089740088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168329297285208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21718612161364112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789880476023338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346531895547246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979424217765267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072979119379239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34423605616890945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358319045444792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406389695919431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134247075509021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830340484842212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618934966886602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025241576456556,0.0,0.11291428691996498,0.0,0.0,0.18503335961006068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977504231328366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097378151137216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24939837397305506
parenting,thatonemom125,2019/01/25,"BIRTHDAY party no shows.. This is my first post on here.  Im not big on airing my issues on Facebook. But sometimes you just need an outlet. My daughter is turning 11. She is a good kid. She has some things that make her feel different socially from the other kids. She has a learning disability, she has allergies and asthma so she cant run and play as much as other kids. She is a bit overweight even though noone else in the family is and it makes her feel very uncomfortable. She is aware how other kids look at her and whisper about her. Her father and I get along very well but we were divorced about 5 years ago. So she didnt get to do all those things that her older sibling did.. like b-day parties. This year we decided to come together and have a party. She invited a few kids. 10 total.  Not one child RSVP'D to her party. She goes to every bday party shes invited to, always takes wonderful gifts for them. Whether they're nice kids or not. I know its not always feasable to make it to parties..but really! Not one kid is coming! She's so upset. All she wanted was a party...her first bday party.  
So please,  when the awkward kid at school hands out invitations that they took the time to make and decorate and glitter and put stickers on, think twice before you blow that kid off. You dont know how much this affects them. How long this will be a memory for them. 
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parenting,ahhhmberr,2019/01/25,"Accommodations for parenting with back pain? Any recommendations for products that can help me with my baby and toddler? I have metal rods in my spine which limits bending, twisting, and heavy lifting. Anything that will make my life easier! For example, I need a step stool for the toddler to walk up to changing table so I don’t have to lift them. Light weight equipment (carseats, strollers, etc). Thank you! ",4.46125,7.616043736111113,4.145000000000003,81.37500000000003,76.91666666666667,6.377777777777778,29.83333333333333,7.6454224807358475,2.2231333333333336,327,15,54,5,8,99,58,72,0.044,0.8370000000000001,0.119,0.6852,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,5,4,1,1,0,7,8,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,9,1,11,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20757240362192508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511849828908133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347092899719653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229014811027757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404212143889567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045946924387434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21559872665892987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037488299980508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263302146345839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247949039772164,0.0,0.3389308341923529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810222711159266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37169782532183604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hoomster85,2019/01/25,"Destruction addiction Lately I see a lot of videos of destroying soap, destroying make up.  Wonder if we are building a generation which enjoys destroying things? 

Videos of things being destroyed: car, a house, a building.

 Subconsciously we are promoting a culture to destroy. Hk85",6.1839999999999975,10.045470400000003,6.215,63.86250000000001,78.33333333333334,10.111111111111112,36.388888888888886,9.725611199111238,5.5312222222222225,228,13,28,8,6,72,32,45,0.366,0.534,0.1,-0.9468,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,5,0,3,1,0,1,0,6,6,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,3,1,5,5,1,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,1,21,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37310244388634656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949099409681026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38607231329229424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29096826329704123,0.0,0.0,0.2284541810811507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27272851908237433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4547506848215503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711549544781158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,college3709,2019/01/25,"Has anyone ever tried understanding your child through art? Recently my boyfriend has disclosed that his 6 y/o daughter is getting in trouble a lot in class; so much so that she has to have her own chaperone at all times in class. 


It’s come to my attention that his little girl has taken up drawing lately. It occurred to me today that maybe he can figure out what’s going on in his daughter’s mind through her art. Has anyone had experience with this? 


Background story: boyfriend is in his mid-twenties. He and the baby mama have a decent relationship. He gets his little girl at least once a month, if not more. Baby mama has 3 other kids by different baby daddies, most of whom are in jail or deadbeats. “Whoopings” are the punishment of choice at her house. Her brothers are very loud and sometimes bully her for “being a tattle tale”. Around me, his little girl is actually really sweet, considerate and affectionate. She’s intelligent for her age and says things that are genuinely funny. ",4.976811594202901,7.0961133478260905,5.61139130434783,76.67998550724639,70.41304347826087,7.950144927536233,29.11449275362319,8.648137234880735,2.469791014492754,792,31,133,14,15,256,118,184,0.048,0.8690000000000001,0.083,0.7602,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,4,4,1,0,6,0,18,0,0,0,2,20,24,8,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,12,8,0,0,4,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,3,19,2,24,21,7,25,0,0,0,0,29,16,0,4,7,96,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.16863789984461036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24166592410277066,0.0,0.0,0.15383778231514458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886074991530074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805499561829635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631678696621798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904160826753264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057247201289536,0.0,0.09821206147931227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993998549566796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19493751685397875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5196038821636432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691711572566685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361114813261838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448911469168651,0.0,0.13793551249328273,0.0,0.12703543564870426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18403730255010856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070668697977593,0.0,0.17062929819764394,0.1855335624990173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742566647216065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091378034371926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480746771349568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076706083272163,0.0,0.1638039341620896,0.0,0.0,0.11732683290075158,0.0,0.0,0.17990159035819878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258657471525502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unicorn_lover_83,2019/01/25,"Please help at a lose I have a 13 year old boy. His behavior is out of control.  He gets kicked out of school every year. This year he was placed in a alternative school. At home he punches walls, slams, doors,hits his self in the head and bangs his head on walls. I have done everything I can think of. Grounded talked to him beat his ass. He is in therapy and on medication. He has ADHD and mood disorder. I am at my wits end. Its has just gotten worse and worse. To the point he is calling me and his step mom names. He has also started saying hes gonna make it so we lose r to foster kids we have had for 2 years cause he dont get what he wants. I just need help. I need advice on something that may work or a place that could help. I am in Indiana.  Any help would be very much appreciate it",0.29290598290598524,2.305810917159768,2.105986193293888,96.68634286653518,84.79881656804734,5.649046679815911,17.672912557527944,6.937597516519254,-0.17843221564760015,611,14,148,8,18,201,108,169,0.102,0.805,0.092,-0.4062,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,5,4,3,0,0,6,0,21,4,3,3,0,23,31,8,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,3,7,9,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,1,18,0,19,22,1,26,0,2,0,1,30,18,1,2,7,81,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464932173580801,0.11911366376577552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747879866570686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289227926881905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446767186404725,0.0,0.0,0.12521898617100025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671478165283393,0.09732265096190326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970138665835186,0.0,0.0,0.12474015258023473,0.14285916927046954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796213753050604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270117444902196,0.0,0.10955070445303773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736944359745767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501973621658616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268126222296943,0.0,0.1222698851719747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27273700353750185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813653675642537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227956467810438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276108846164864,0.0,0.0,0.08960630917530214,0.18076610407839425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790752496244445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547071234526506,0.1338032974151488,0.11522947893278553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693521099561,0.0,0.24672700503785905,0.0,0.0,0.12716230122151995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384015943428008,0.0,0.0,0.08627738725443547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797399191353837,0.0,0.0,0.13939671376569113,0.0,0.0,0.07810492232354428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057553337727136,0.07189639491943511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874047574912376,0.0,0.24844133691834255,0.08659018763652099,0.0,0.0,0.3139836375268327
parenting,Krinava0607,2019/01/25,"Advice on weening? I would like to stop nursing my 2.5 year old son, but he isn't able to fall asleep during naps and bedtime without it. The only other way he will sleep is if we are on a long car drive and I am too tired to keep doing that. Any advice? Saying no will simply cause a temper tantrum, which I would like to avoid or lessen as much as possible. Thanks :)",2.5658333333333303,3.912799355263161,3.4789473684210535,92.68096491228071,75.1842105263158,5.592982456140351,20.561403508771924,5.46131890053228,-0.14621228070175452,285,6,62,1,6,91,61,76,0.203,0.6579999999999999,0.139,-0.7149,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,1,3,0,9,3,2,1,0,13,11,7,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,4,3,0,3,0,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,1,5,3,9,7,1,10,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,6,38,9,0,0.2190012200814132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280109152773712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489283395271932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497457968610304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465834690659825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21398586790572854,0.0,0.0,0.1938091882055577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099109536318304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22980494050494046,0.0,0.0,0.16656029644484674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468909701038168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741585602740779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191593801434281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309482621355735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20162689970910447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517096861026564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17383297483290644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21110936108171896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111443665877349,0.0,0.0,0.14102960549538493
parenting,betterdads,2019/01/25,"How to Put Kids To Sleep I Six Tips for Bedtime I Better Dad Brand New episode from your new favorite Youtube channel, BETTER DAD. This week we tackle handling bedtime and a few tips to keep kids in their rooms! Watch, giggle and consider SUBSCRIBING for more fun from us. 

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[https://youtu.be/PzwV0LcOMAE](https://youtu.be/PzwV0LcOMAE)",7.2098584905660354,11.351258169811326,3.691863207547169,80.39364386792452,80.50943396226415,4.914150943396227,27.379716981132077,6.6274283507984215,1.5519452830188682,285,11,40,3,8,75,41,53,0.0,0.735,0.265,0.9453,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,1,2,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,5,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,4,8,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,3,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27190259770345904,0.30492989832068385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44388711484175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230545594829353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847352551074392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522725575373771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25112973459032545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301860150133141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012957517917192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30492989832068385,0.0
parenting,GreasyPorkGoodness,2019/01/25,"Can't get 7 YO to take responsibility for actions - advice wanted Just to start off my 7 YO is a good smart kid, like we all say ;)  She is in a phase where she just does not listen to what I'm telling her to do - don't go in that room again \*immediately goes into room.  That part is annoying but kinda par for the course with kids.  

What worries me is the lack of remorse or willingness to accept responsibility.  It is always but I wanted to, but my sister, but I needed, but, but, but you get the idea.

I feel like I can't get her to recognize that she was in the wrong.  If I can't get her to recognize that she was wrong how do I motivate her to not do it again?",1.02924713584288,2.7388369219858184,3.5364539007092226,89.02615384615385,80.48936170212768,6.60796508456083,19.356792144026187,7.61054688173877,0.3572003273322424,510,12,120,8,13,178,75,141,0.128,0.743,0.129,-0.4118,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,6,9,1,0,6,0,14,0,0,2,1,27,27,10,0,5,13,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,8,3,0,0,4,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,2,3,19,5,18,25,3,13,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,3,5,85,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074352380048758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663198891969475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185765579850076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733394525500126,0.1516511774692737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4436251897874819,0.0,0.12064226603174677,0.17804840011771125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396355997152702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20741624969979602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574011689223592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298759811988654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881168732637628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025119531840755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596063554649135,0.0,0.18554000046433405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504136858913528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21557823203921134,0.0,0.0,0.4641845173229331,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rebailey0794,2019/01/25,"Any hope of my toddler staying awesome with eating? My son is almost 2 and the only food he’s turned down is raw mushrooms. He’s had spicy food, ethnic food, boring food, cooked and raw vegetables of many kinds, the kid loves everything. Any chance he’ll stay this way or am I doomed that the pickiness is definitely coming? Tell me there’s hope! ",3.4854228855721385,5.683305626865669,3.91126865671642,86.90978855721393,74.82089552238807,6.854726368159205,23.106965174129357,7.793537801064563,1.1092308457711448,275,8,53,4,6,86,50,67,0.083,0.6759999999999999,0.242,0.9091,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,3,0,5,8,0,0,0,8,11,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,4,4,9,0,5,1,1,0,1,7,1,0,4,0,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197060513580815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064106455605419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073200611748229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552933605956644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639648847410565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7340587822406381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014735394508513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803976852663398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697372968336569,0.0,0.0,0.15386576809006675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542403018486133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235223386816795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264919460880967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16507660928282272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046389783462955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wanax96,2019/01/25,"Family Bed once a week? What is everyone's opinion on having a family sleep together once a week?  I have 4 and 2 year old who are great sleepers in their own room, but I wouldn't love the idea of once a week having the whole family sleep together. They are just too adorable at this age.   
The biggest worry if course is that they will expect this and never want to sleep alone again, ruining they're normal routine. Any one else try this?",3.516009852216752,5.20284526436782,4.3123152709359625,86.28206896551725,73.36781609195403,8.189819376026273,22.773399014778327,8.841846274778883,1.4706433497536948,346,9,70,7,7,111,64,87,0.168,0.757,0.075,-0.8139,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,3,0,3,4,0,0,7,0,9,4,3,0,1,12,11,4,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,5,3,5,9,2,13,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,2,8,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525784993079747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018226357043801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230664793770866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077002771794556,0.0,0.0,0.4166389399194272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242019064001242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663057036447277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296153647598566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362182565844785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434176161840734,0.0,0.0,0.15458695902032166,0.4706711519410075,0.099827457798966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422774642186972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002022204158174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689281618405863,0.0,0.35451227950235564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644768814836945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961003128235476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486888226799678
parenting,Sonu2020,2019/01/25,"Can't stop blaming myself for daughters scar 2 months ago, my 3 year old daughter got into an accident. I was washing her hands at the sink. She was on a stepstool and slipped on it. She bumped her lip on the sink. It started bleeding a lot so I held a clean washcloth on it tightly. She was crying a lot. After about 5 minutes, the bleeding had stopped but she had clearly cut open her lip. I asked my husband if she should take her to the doctor. He said since the bleeding had stopped, it will heal on it's own. So I put some polysporin on it. But now as I think back, she obviously had a clear cut and I should have taken her to the doctor for stitches.  My husband is a dentist himself and like an idiot I trusted his judgement. It took several days for the cut to heal on it's own and now she has 2 hypertrophic scars on her lip. Whenever I see her lip, I can't stop blaming myself that I was so stupid not to take her to the doctor for stitches. I also blame my husband for giving me stupid advice. She probably wouldn't get getting hypertrophic scars on her lip if the doc had stitched her lip. I have now booked an appointment with the doc to see what can be done about the scars. 
But I still blame myself every day that I did this to my lovely daughter. Any words of advice what I should do?
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parenting,rosepetalmemories,2019/01/25,"Two kids with issues and my dating. I'm 36/f, I have two kids. One has ADD and dyslexia, I am constantly trying to deal with his failing grades, emailing teachers, tutoring after school and Doctor for medications. My second child is the real fun. They have ADHD, ODD, OCD and we have a neurology appointment next week for possible autism. With all the doctors, therapists, psychiatrist and school counselors it's a real madhouse. 

Unfortunately the kids dad and I didn't work out. I loved him a lot but he was an alcoholic and a lier and in the end we didn't work out. We have been broken up for several years now and have a good co-parenting relationship (surprise surprise after we broke up he got off the booze, his 4th dwi and jail helped). 

I've been seeing someone for a couple years now and it's pretty obvious we don't have a future. 

Should I even expect a future with a guy when I'm dealing with all this? Yesterday I forgot to give my youngest their meds. Usually I don't forget and when I do forget I run to the school and bring them but this time I was so frazzled with work, catching up with house cleaning, grocery shopping, my eldest latest report card and tutoring and a dental appointment for my youngest that I forgot until it was too late to give them. 

It. Was. Unbearable. Jumping, yelling, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, defiant, cussing, calling names, trying to hurt themself. Even when on the meds are given it's no picnic but at least it's tolerable. I felt so terrible and the guilt was soul crushing. The poor kid was shaking and his eyes were bouncing around when I tried to put my child on. My lap to calm down. 

Last night, it wasn't bearable.

My bf was there (a rare occurrence, he usually doesn't come over when my kids are there). He got up and left the room and stayed gone the rest of the evening in the bedroom. I kinda wanted him to just go home but I didn't want to seem rude or make him drive the 20 min at 9pm. 

This isn't about my bf though. I know we don't have a future. He's more of a friendly companion for now. This is ""should I even expect a future with a guy"" while I deal as a single mom with special needs kids? 
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parenting,_life_goes_on,2019/01/25,"It’s my daughter’a 1st year at college.   My daughter always got good grades in high school but her college grades have not been good at all. 
  I was taking a look at her photos on Instagram and saw quite a few of her dressed  up to go out. And nearly every guy in her photos was a black guy. 
   ... I only mention that because she didn’t go out a lot in high school and she never dated any black guys. 

    It’s like she’s a different girl. ",0.997,2.9959167000000018,2.6011111111111127,94.225,82.0,4.888888888888889,20.0,5.82211442006289,-0.1283333333333334,333,9,73,2,9,109,59,90,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.8422,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,2,10,11,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,6,4,11,3,13,5,3,18,0,0,4,0,13,13,0,1,4,46,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088709735260394,0.0,0.0,0.12331553093460505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054148890468374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894588038744196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278443259736255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611624712947127,0.30419412074050384,0.1450319438518702,0.0,0.0,0.5386570859672078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3831854674414206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885922081622315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227759757890896,0.0,0.0,0.15416642353464596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985844657002866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791513055157062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287445942743384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670459045224179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634302507954987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167752271620929
parenting,According_Use,2019/01/25,"Division of labor while sick? Not sure if parenting or relationships question My husband and I usually split house and kid labor 50/50. I drop the kids off, he picks them up. He cooks dinner and does the dishes, I put the kids to bed.

I came down with a stomach virus yesterday afternoon and left work early, so he had to take over kid duty for the rest of the day. I had to ask him to put them to bed, and asked him to get them up, get them ready, and drop them off this morning (usually my job) as well because I am still having considerable bowel distress and have been up all night running to the toilet.

The problem: He has had plans with friends for this evening that have been in the works for weeks. After he dropped the kids off today he let me know that he'd like to leave a little early, and said dinner was prepped. So he is obviously still planning to go.

I'm kind of gobsmacked as I'm too sick to get out of bed. I just assumed that he would cancel his plans for the evening. Is it unreasonable to ask him to do so, especially when I've already asked him to take over ""my"" duties last night and this morning? 

He's usually such a reasonable person that I'm wondering if I am way off here. I feel guilty asking him to cancel as technically I am sure I could survive picking up the kids and taking care of them for the evening, but I am absolutely miserable and don't expect to turn around in the next 4 hours (when he wants to leave for his event).",6.038004237288137,5.376393332203392,6.520625000000003,81.152123940678,66.52542372881356,9.815677966101696,31.318855932203395,9.188382445141503,2.3766313559322034,1143,38,242,18,16,373,151,295,0.093,0.875,0.032,-0.912,3,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,6,6,16,10,0,2,16,0,22,8,2,3,4,42,45,24,0,7,6,2,1,1,1,1,2,1,3,7,8,16,4,2,7,1,0,5,2,3,1,0,8,2,30,7,48,33,2,48,0,1,0,0,42,17,0,6,23,157,38,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283692259399584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910253923295828,0.477956111165239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233148230933705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694832011251395,0.1042520800897691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163939372471367,0.0,0.0,0.06594367060641468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948085752073504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026081843019972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05170136184675556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899915002602917,0.0,0.16026635194751798,0.0,0.05811180643086681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006969963737857,0.11798434529374288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014687009267529,0.0,0.0,0.10647906053339902,0.056194675440031136,0.08334850880433267,0.0,0.2165388606645445,0.11109640595162372,0.10455894722685324,0.0,0.04995485143655653,0.10248272892422336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874548541721303,0.1919119564569933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353803886628636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928194685077487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784074580781654,0.0,0.20558172526939508,0.11454492877939094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513143192649199,0.0,0.1097796982160192,0.0,0.0,0.09726446230003988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633161424275249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274140057171305,0.0,0.2306409007139953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692233694378673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112201215956078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378462937838907,0.0,0.06031050361043803,0.08116237317483188,0.0820198763327839,0.0,0.09193625595088936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088724228941718,0.14888042130782175,0.0,0.0,0.07263643510822558,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skindelicious,2019/01/25,"My son is making me hairless. My wife (23f) usually gets up in the mornings to do the whole morning thing with our son (1.5), but lately I've (23m) been taking over mornings to let her sleep off her morning sickness from her pregnancy. It's actually been an amazing bonding time with him and it's helped me to be more productive with my extra time in the mornings. 

But every day, no matter whats going on,  if he's on my lap watching tv or just standing next to me while I cook,  he will start grabbing and pulling any exposed body hair he can find. I'm missing little patches of arm and leg hair all over! The thing is that it's just sweet and innocent  fidgeting too! 

The kicker is his reaction. If I wince or turn to tell him to stop, he does the same thing I do to him when hes upset: he puts his hand on me gently and in a soft voice just says ""hey"". Ugh! They must be this cute as a survival mechanism! 

Do any of your kiddos have totally innocent habits or ticks that just get to you? ",4.147918552036199,4.4496417254901965,5.164313725490198,85.98671945701359,70.47058823529412,8.237707390648566,28.927601809954748,8.139509932561175,1.753018552036199,768,27,166,10,13,253,129,204,0.076,0.787,0.138,0.9503,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,1,1,6,6,0,1,9,0,16,9,7,1,3,27,25,15,0,3,11,3,5,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,10,8,1,1,1,2,0,3,1,3,0,0,2,9,24,3,25,18,6,25,0,1,1,0,25,11,0,5,10,109,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.18549940455281225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585340228117036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111459823616725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259165370118814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16634813011152333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601581474897383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373786592691245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986272722080034,0.0,0.10803193671828017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741262315980742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442862686701408,0.0,0.0,0.19437884078822146,0.0,0.0,0.1905190763434544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688585703935554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021617657500822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19109190798568387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116637081195186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19022624023500287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454594445542625,0.0,0.0,0.15892288239860994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292324125347172,0.0,0.1661461297784145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788599760556785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216848027665268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20676220334520587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20935613416175092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21222753566356373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ralphpi,2019/01/25,"Sport/Activity suggestion: 5yo likes to ""fight"" Hey people,  
We have a 5yo boy that likes to fight and wrestle. When he was 3 we started ""play fighting"". I would lay down on the floor and try to grab him . At some point around age 4 I learned that now I needed to use my weight to contain him as he was getting stronger and better at this ""game"". He is 5, obviously still getting stronger, and kicks and punches hard. I (father) can handle it. And he knows he is not supposed to fight anyone else.

We never had problems at school.

We enrolled him in Karate at school last Fall but he was somewhat disappointed on the repetition and would come home complaining that the classes are always the same.

We understand and appreciate the forging of discipline that repetition can bring... That's not supposed to be the focus here.

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Anyone has any take on how to handle and channel this energy and interest into something more instructive and productive?  
Thanks!",4.547435714285714,7.096624468571433,4.723625000000002,80.67743750000002,72.88571428571429,7.575,29.794642857142854,8.472884824447931,2.4810071428571434,762,33,132,14,16,238,112,175,0.057,0.797,0.146,0.9405,0,0,1,0,5,0,32.0,5,0,0,1,6,13,4,0,7,0,14,1,0,2,2,38,25,15,0,4,3,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,8,19,1,2,3,3,0,3,3,7,0,0,4,3,13,6,21,18,4,25,0,1,0,0,24,13,0,2,11,87,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575173349874426,0.1897917529460651,0.21284526303446835,0.11911855099866515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24495958968059686,0.17947776135668475,0.0,0.1559344378947911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491965569204874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088957350598997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632830380797487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303349475567532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569138876771334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570528499072724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626638131581718,0.14278326670335847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171154036901539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988300344391646,0.13509843710749458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143770670847175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558802199528633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760973295789516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545536881310664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485096460002813,0.0,0.0,0.12398304696593095,0.0,0.13988739964104072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170266115841753,0.0,0.0,0.16126886401843146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892588064534065,0.0,0.0,0.18235346965296853,0.0,0.1512867565746866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330439687125796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488650999332537,0.0,0.21284526303446835,0.0
parenting,_Sal__Paradise,2019/01/25,"Would like to start co-sleeping with my 3 year old daughter. This may seem like a silly question, but for various reasons, we would like to start co-sleeping. I am just not sure how it works logistically. Do you stay with them in your bed until they fall asleep and then come back later? I don't want to go to sleep at 8 pm! What about all the movement, restlessness, kicking, etc?",3.4715999999999987,5.116423560000001,3.9170000000000016,89.24350000000004,73.4,6.6000000000000005,25.833333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.0151333333333334,297,10,62,3,6,93,63,75,0.08800000000000001,0.8,0.113,0.2206,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,2,1,4,6,0,1,2,0,6,2,2,2,2,18,12,5,0,3,3,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,8,5,11,9,3,15,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,3,11,40,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518486723000352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011012465214342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22024057690218865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223150514891073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28943386089114914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20722032357609765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212209627208808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030406481617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179776885812183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5928629415225538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795524049021162,0.21048566068601746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612102100462802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647785557209893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437666009441548,0.0,0.0,0.28056592770164684,0.0,0.0,0.12716959183014076
parenting,itsmesurvivor,2019/01/25,Single mom Husband left me (30F) and  our 1.5 year daughter for another woman (affair partner has an 8 year old kid) I don’t want to get into the infidelity part- already been through hell. Just keeping everything together for the sake of my daughter. I feel terrible looking at my daughter and just so sad. I am trying to be an amazing and an awesome mother.  Just looking for some support to make it through. Thanks ,3.3719230769230784,6.0408958717948735,4.399679487179489,80.88490384615386,77.46153846153847,6.464102564102564,34.108974358974365,7.6454224807358475,2.8491743589743597,330,19,55,5,8,107,59,78,0.128,0.71,0.162,0.2752,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,12,14,4,0,1,3,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,7,3,11,12,3,6,1,1,2,0,11,3,1,1,3,39,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665572661975386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532870292553993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170902445452645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213532021028554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262003005650213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147014108510648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624456035671124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40568359848136404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123700555126255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829013264718269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534668856025474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615759302024613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741089358259797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238748310054365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16399710776911194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14247289447302394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111015351030073
parenting,FrugalityPays,2019/01/25,"It’s driving me insane! Elastic in shirts, please help Is there anything I can do to save my shirts’ collar elastic? Just from carrying the baby around and her wiggling on my chest has all my shirts just going to hell and the feeling of a loose collar is in the same category of a wet sock.",4.416379310344826,5.373967706896554,5.120172413793104,84.17956896551725,70.20689655172413,7.179310344827586,28.29310344827586,7.1686216300943375,1.4685379310344824,229,8,45,2,4,74,43,58,0.14400000000000002,0.706,0.15,-0.2942,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,5,0,5,4,4,0,1,9,7,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,1,9,7,2,6,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276664069699013,0.4626405738498192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627744533854268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953558209041455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483419908045369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5704713199852602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SuperBubber,2019/01/25,"Kindergarten versus waiting a year Do any of you have kids who were right on the edge of the kindergarten age cut off? I'm really interested in whether you chose to start kindergarten or wait an extra year, and how you feel about that decision.

I'm in the position of having to decide between enrolling my son in kindergarten or doing a year of pre-K. His birthday is 5 days before the cut off, so he is right on the cusp, and I'm so torn. I have discussed this with his teachers AND the kindergarten teachers and they all pretty much said that they could see either way working out well...he is definitely academically ready and very eager to learn, so I think he'd like the additional activities they do in kindergarten. However, emotionally, I'm not totally sure. He is big for his age, so I don't have any concerns about him being the smallest, which I know is sometimes a reason people choose to wait a year.

Financially, it doesn't make a huge difference either way in our case, so that's not a deciding factor.",6.9679174397031485,6.868068862244897,7.1927643784786675,75.23015769944342,64.4591836734694,9.984415584415583,33.63450834879406,9.573946990214177,3.0184857142857138,811,31,151,14,11,263,115,196,0.057,0.855,0.08800000000000001,0.7901,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,3,3,1,8,6,2,0,15,0,18,0,0,3,3,34,32,14,0,1,8,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,8,0,3,9,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,3,17,4,23,27,6,24,0,0,1,0,19,14,0,2,9,101,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25186781842418005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758099645026122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785721901516802,0.0,0.0,0.11943067314285045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19348161278407866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20831110930957186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936364080279064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177425449826376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047330060572452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361415203236505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613418407663164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12838575522733206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884023516681994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186359099479546,0.19040368193018545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162983741447922,0.17615580234687725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475705301687385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315525833977955,0.0,0.13107672692073638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17453710872546022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866072791909008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279915332301935,0.0,0.29398657287356045,0.0,0.0,0.1665058804503373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481876858743352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.477018936518251
parenting,peaches_n_cream_82,2019/01/25,"How to know your kid is too old for Dora the Explorer Dora: Who do we ask for help when we don't know which way to go?

Kid: Why are you asking me when you already know?

Dora: The map! That's right! First we go through the forest, then we go...

Kid: I don't want to go with you. 
(Then, to himself) I've seen this one before.

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parenting,Petite_Vlogger,2019/01/25,"Love TruTube Please Check my Channel out on Youtube and Subscribe!!!

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parenting,vbtribe,2019/01/25,"A love letter to my daughter, Anaya | Taste Of Freedom | Off Grid Living Youtube Sharing how much I love my daughter, words do not do the feeling I have for her justice.. I am 27 and becoming a father has changed my life, I am now seeing life for all that it is. Thanks for welcoming me",2.1923728813559293,3.815984508474582,3.612000000000002,90.18342372881357,76.79661016949152,6.07593220338983,28.749152542372883,6.742157984588678,1.3472820338983054,222,10,47,2,5,73,45,59,0.021,0.6609999999999999,0.318,0.9675,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,7,5,0,1,1,6,12,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,9,5,6,12,2,2,0,0,1,2,9,1,0,0,1,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384048792437084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241402967531885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154929694053799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4328517478468411,0.0,0.0,0.2705649302344618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5530925176317668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252460120316693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24416845511188034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821004166431134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smashedavocadowfeta,2019/01/25,"Story time ! Not my story but had to share! 

“I thought I'd share another epic parenting fail with you all. I'm a mother of 7 children so these unfortunate events are part of daily life 🤦‍♀️

A few months ago I witnessed my 5yr old little girl talking to herself. Or at least I thought she was. I continued to watch her, and quickly realised she must have an imaginary friend. Aww bless her 😍

The days go on and one tea time, I decided to up my parenting game, and offer to cook her imaginary friend a portion of spag bol too. Why not 🤷‍♀️

""Oh mummy don't be silly, she's dead! She can't eat food!""

Holy shit on a cracker....She's fucking what now?! (Didn't actually say that part out loud) 

""Thanks for offering though mum 😊😊😊""

Fuck. Fuckety fuck fuck.  Do we move house? Call a priest or just be done with it and burn the place down!. I'm equipped for a lot of childlike circumstances but the adoption of fucking Casper.  Absolutley not. 

After I calm down, I ask my daughter some questions to try find out a little bit more about our new addition. 

With confidence and zero fear, she proceeds to tell me her friend is the same age as her. She's a little black girl. She loves summer.  She's allowed to play during the day but at night time she has to go home. My daughter dosnt know her name so calls her Sally. (Ok... So at least I know we can sleep easy 🙄)

For weeks I watch my darling little psycho play with her dead friend. Sometimes my other children join in too. They can all see her which is even more terrifying. They chase each other, giggle and Love to play hide and seek. 

Then one day I noticed that her ""friend"" wasn't around as much. 
Probing... I ask her where she's gone. 

""Oh she's not around today cos you have the blinds shut""

Hmmmm. Thinking of all the last few months events I have a sudden brainwave and open the blinds. 

""Mummy mummy she's here she's here!""

Omfg. I had spent weeks and weeks googling spirits. I watched hours of the ghost whisperer, looking up priests and dreaming about Ghost busters! For what?!.... 

Sally the fucking SHADOW! 😱🙄🤦‍♀️”",-0.1390702822357497,2.1619495995203906,1.4002494004796162,96.45000332042059,97.3693045563549,4.196849289798931,18.88540859619997,6.050645929021933,-0.08584889134845941,1601,52,343,17,65,512,225,417,0.133,0.7120000000000001,0.156,0.8933,3,0,0,0,0,0,75.0,3,2,2,1,17,27,7,1,20,1,21,17,2,2,4,51,45,22,4,1,10,6,0,0,5,1,3,3,1,4,9,23,4,0,8,6,1,4,8,9,0,3,10,11,54,18,44,32,18,55,4,1,8,8,63,22,7,5,29,200,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0819385416191744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443064549835184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088045497906273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949478783174994,0.15699344018825873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166894360246672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17147700860506865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245304953685258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592620034205466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591801012061122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055458641356421146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448490697113418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674325096836565,0.0,0.10153181958288356,0.0,0.32435897472621045,0.4657503623141618,0.0,0.0,0.09543943673922284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422457750586268,0.0,0.08268943271174026,0.09688529879273997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229085277396036,0.06844336135724055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059307551612046025,0.0,0.33662329652967365,0.0,0.0,0.07051015309726685,0.0,0.0,0.07138474929152383,0.15156488658693942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340414549944861,0.0892423931671058,0.061724549111455126,0.0,0.0,0.08109472555529391,0.0,0.07879624706541967,0.0,0.0,0.09559565835853423,0.08810801805064361,0.0,0.11379484413746585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646824360494632,0.18185363129471244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087726425155138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406095039434832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677300121827742,0.0,0.0,0.06690989848425105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618972182422646,0.0,0.0,0.08402647296971362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304435667716747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748855667832067,0.07338983972769296,0.0773044586423205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05380191593846818,0.08249600543851487,0.13331898600241168,0.1468834588575622,0.0,0.07958979262130464,0.0,0.0,0.05700728952117225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20205698151719406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576610499844115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,caliphornian,2019/01/25,"Facebook knowingly duped game-playing kids and their parents out of money Facebook orchestrated a multi-year effort that duped children and their parents out of money, in some cases hundreds or even thousands of dollars, and then often refused to give the money back, according to court documents unsealed tonight in response to a Reveal legal action.
The records are part of a class action lawsuit focused on how Facebook targeted children in an effort to expand revenue for online games, such as Angry Birds, PetVille and Ninja Saga.
The more than 135 pages of unsealed documents, which include internal Facebook memos, secret strategies and employee emails, paint a troubling picture of how the social media giant conducted business.

https://www.revealnews.org/article/facebook-knowingly-duped-game-playing-kids-and-their-parents-out-of-money/",18.50181818181818,17.721155214876035,13.449652892561991,41.73811570247938,42.305785123966935,12.985785123966945,54.77851239669421,11.20814326018867,6.9528102479338845,715,37,66,10,5,201,86,121,0.128,0.8220000000000001,0.05,-0.8779,4,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,2,2,6,1,0,0,9,0,1,0,0,2,0,16,3,10,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,7,0,1,3,1,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,19,3,4,12,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,3,3,50,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455272548433196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108991602465242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063082221193315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548269189802496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7091049298555204,0.3457781978587481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32549311811131715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20562313985798789
parenting,candymi,2019/01/25,"Should we consider parenting and work us for more years? Hi there, 
My partner [32 NB] and I [31 NB] have been in a five years relationship... Lately, as things getting serious when we are thinking about kids, I start to question our thing. I love my partner with all my heart, but I doubt on the parenting skills and my kids future. 
[32NB] is Not a person who stands for itself even when it comes to save money. Let people rip it off even when its very obvious. Lets just say not standing for me, mostly in public. Not even repeating what people has told him/her to back me up. We are flying out to an European airport and the lady brought a rule to only me. My partner stayed muted and I got to defend myself. 
My father was in the military, I’m used with strong figure and I can’t take this anymore... all our disputes are around this. I’m Always asking for a stand up and speak up.  We are very happy beside this... if we don’t experience any confrontation we are doing well... it’s driving me nuts..... Any advice? Thank you.",2.665273631840794,4.659450975124379,3.969975124378113,86.48889303482588,76.56218905472636,6.655721393034828,22.609452736318413,7.594959193182576,0.9972407960199008,790,23,156,11,18,259,130,201,0.048,0.853,0.099,0.9253,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,9,1,0,3,12,9,1,1,8,0,16,2,1,1,3,35,30,13,0,2,6,3,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,6,12,18,0,0,3,0,1,3,5,3,1,1,5,2,27,6,24,22,4,27,0,0,0,1,29,10,0,4,10,114,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197892461556202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089565919815738,0.0,0.0,0.19760884347680194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409190544470826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934183497136467,0.13582961604835286,0.0,0.0,0.11172157409975282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515730699897745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28789454972027656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212472040869287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590974897056882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620431941763645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466741239664675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217325207700238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389716333146062,0.0,0.0,0.2971444725671365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113286979907707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050209669332156,0.0,0.0,0.3226620157338881,0.0,0.0,0.20145615083418106,0.12686449945398445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276174038720131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599062246774772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554305844879666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283934079227584,0.1548633187309263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924247456058987,0.0,0.0,0.13376654366731253,0.0,0.0,0.19305281601186194,0.09309807563710464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883396812042584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747699423044564,0.12548675562891667,0.0,0.2397643665737777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063611966680302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057752479304902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871282344677188
parenting,harveybot2000,2019/01/25,"Ex wife let’s my 7yo son go to the shops alone. Is this ok? My ex wife and I have a decent relationship. Recently she told me that she lets our 7yo son go to the shops by himself. Sometimes with money, sometimes with her debit card.

The round trip takes 8-10 mins and there is one road for my son to cross. So not super dangerous in that respect.

However, my concern is that he’s too young to be doing this and not equipped to deal with situations where he might be approached by a stranger.

Fellow parents, how would you feel? Do you allow your young children to be unsupervised?",2.4324901185770758,4.632866652173917,3.3655335968379454,89.55407114624504,78.13043478260869,6.2687747035573125,24.367588932806324,7.348242739294969,1.0142173913043475,455,16,94,6,11,145,78,115,0.046,0.866,0.08900000000000001,0.629,2,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,3,0,1,5,4,1,0,5,1,13,0,0,2,0,13,18,5,0,1,2,8,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,1,2,4,5,2,1,0,1,1,2,14,3,13,10,0,12,0,0,1,0,23,3,0,1,4,61,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317630352451292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307018230564465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314717927011787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543525642296516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4576494515265449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237389525213553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163548419488326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484752505293528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22095045596012933,0.24025021296507376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515320658378908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44263767237759866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682506766292303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138262536558244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589630804908561,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JasmineRose2020,2019/01/25,"I’m thinking of leaving my job to be a stay at home mom to my new baby. Any advice for those who have done it? Background** I’m currently on maternity leave. My husband is a full time student and will graduate with his medical doctorate in 2 years. Once he is actually working in his field, I plan to stay home and raise our baby (and future children). In the mean time, I’m thinking I could resign, live off of my savings and be more present for my child. What’s your advice?",1.5721875000000018,3.840361843750003,3.5185833333333365,86.93475000000002,81.60416666666666,6.34,26.266666666666666,7.554174236665415,1.5464741666666668,371,16,75,6,10,125,67,96,0.045,0.955,0.0,-0.4515,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,8,2,0,0,0,10,14,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,11,1,14,9,2,16,0,1,0,0,10,7,0,0,7,46,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.17151476816691796,0.0,0.0,0.34349799488957805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952168550812142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032871799027555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989608939008772,0.0,0.179861784697458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35259985348565703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441301395749506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722053695620705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519781776841046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914523372363552,0.0,0.17705801801798346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584602170939156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974848195151726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871768760760905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746699702794353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252376709854201,0.0,0.0,0.2049721811468388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795415119339806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318259646798808
parenting,Lefty1992,2019/01/25,"4 Year Old Won't Sleep in Her Bed Last week we let our 4 year old daughter sleep in our bed twice. She's been sleeping in her own room since she was 2, and we've never really had a problem until now. Now she has started screaming and crying that she wants to sleep in our bed. Our daughter is very emotional. She'll cry and cry, if we leave her to fall asleep she won't. If we go in and talk to her, she won't calm down. Literally hours. She also lets out these short ear piercing screams, while kicking and punching. I'd go in and lay by her until she falls asleep, but that's not an option. She doesn't go to sleep if I do. She'll just lay up trying to talk to me. It'll be 10-11 at night, and she'll still be trying to stay up. So now she's been in her room screaming and yelling for a couple hours. At first, I thought she'd eventually calm down. When she didn't, I went in and talked to her again, but she just said she wants to sleep in my bed. How do I resolve this? She's not sleeping in our bed every night. That is a step backward. When she comes in our room, she also lays awake and won't listen when we tell her to go to sleep. ",1.4218674698795155,2.579290092369476,2.7241345381526116,97.70668373493977,77.79518072289156,5.6225702811244975,20.08052208835341,5.6839178017228535,-0.3819945381526105,879,19,220,4,20,284,115,249,0.078,0.894,0.028,-0.8252,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,10,0,0,2,14,7,0,0,4,0,24,11,11,1,1,33,36,25,0,6,9,2,0,0,0,8,0,7,8,0,6,16,0,0,2,0,0,9,9,4,0,2,8,7,44,3,33,15,1,57,0,0,0,0,46,23,0,4,24,142,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429469403995566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769889879941294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889217338712376,0.29452402031405894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053528852202492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530262407764743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602266438154856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031763840075156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760335193501789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285287479158427,0.0,0.09463563733659938,0.0,0.1827847912322058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689318135827433,0.0,0.0,0.1677455054125998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756888264661875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552018153780758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725616591079492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501646634435321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393224940190593,0.0,0.7155195178085324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326036380477085,0.09526227810737194,0.07137530500784751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155096683761996,0.07811803363585729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095407941669701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213600513866112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737440601039755,0.10543184590052876,0.0,0.07169154993427929,0.0,0.0,0.08285188554559547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510964674971425
parenting,robotco,2019/01/26,"how can i get my toddler to stop humping yes, i know. normal development and all that, but the instant he's left to his own devices, back on the floor just grinding up a storm. ok, i get it. sometimes you just gotta do it kid. but I'd really like him to focus on play time or reading a book or something. something that's beneficial so he can learn how to spend time when he's alone. i just can't get him to stop or cool it down a bit.",0.5063040935672518,2.192295115789477,2.6866666666666674,94.60111111111117,82.05263157894737,5.485380116959064,22.13450292397661,6.42735559955562,0.21462573099415214,336,11,81,3,9,114,63,95,0.07,0.7440000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.907,0,1,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,0,5,3,4,1,0,2,1,17,9,10,0,1,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,2,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,4,9,8,3,12,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,3,7,48,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25186569712090595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869937922020994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654943798532729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811614347406734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364778604633648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642205614121673,0.0,0.0,0.11880761379063733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382690783994339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24325020847493906,0.0,0.15579015329861412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744304630269808,0.24051558913923496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066260938208777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836055577645153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jinjoz,2019/01/26,"About to spend 10 days away from my kids. Any tips on surviving? I made I took a guess at how many days it would take me to get lonely from being in my house all by myself. I said two days but it's the night before my wife and kids heads off to Hawaii and I'm already lonely lol

She will FaceTime me plenty and send me photos for sure. Just wondering if there's anything else I can do to cope.",0.30363398692810506,2.303063494117648,1.8368627450980384,98.71477124183008,84.64705882352942,4.718954248366012,15.326797385620914,5.82211442006289,-0.8860065359477116,307,5,73,2,9,99,65,85,0.059,0.845,0.097,0.5023,0,4,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,1,5,1,1,2,2,13,13,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,3,1,12,1,14,7,1,11,0,2,0,0,6,5,0,3,4,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390613864280408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147318783164211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827160731827238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353509809508888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433987154134704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41913369202863343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097019715858872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131825038989991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23864715435621464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22232933676270025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24996694800171465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049846550379394,0.0,0.21963322351033307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032966573707668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20606887065938745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20417530620073776,0.0,0.1628820668038842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406887280709936,0.0,0.0,0.21162027665664365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349307059203749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389082299455412,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AHops17,2019/01/26,"How long is it funny? My wife(30) and I(31) have a newborn going on 6 days. Our child gets alittle cranky at the end of the night because she has to poop. We do little bicycle kicks and rock her. Everytime she let's out these monster farts and fills the diaper. Neither of us can listen to that and not laugh and smile at each other. 

How long before the novelty/humor of this last?",2.466729323308272,4.52925702631579,3.549548872180452,88.9518421052632,77.42105263157895,6.448120300751881,22.69924812030075,7.447530270364453,0.9130774436090232,298,9,60,4,7,96,62,76,0.07,0.893,0.038,-0.3599,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,6,1,1,2,0,11,9,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,8,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,9,8,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,6,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18324228716572724,0.0,0.25578750669235895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386140964936865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662413851700757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705050801790113,0.0,0.17083727078521502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450282075655183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073827209563908,0.0,0.0,0.3012790478792586,0.0,0.5320410989391156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820916857159444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615834408280808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,basicbeliever,2019/01/26,"15, pregnant, and single. Hi everyone! I’ve been searching Reddit far and wide for a teen parent/pregnant teen subreddit but couldn’t find a really active one. I posted something similar to this on r/teenparenting (I think it’s called) but am a little anxious for more advice. 
Long story short, I’ve had a very specific life plan and followed it to a T, but got knocked up around five months ago which kind of deterred the whole thing. I’ve received some good advice on my last post but am now seeking advice from other teen parents here. 
I have no idea what I’m doing. 
Due on May 23, I have time, but stress has been eating away at me. My teachers are kind and supportive and have even agreed to let me bring my daughter to school a couple days a week. I still want to finish high school and go on to University and maybe even medical school, but how will I do that with a kid? 
On top of that, I need to know what I’m supposed to when I have her. Should I take time off before or wait until the moment I go into labour? How much time should I take off after she’s born? I have so many questions and I’m so, so anxious besides being in the most supportive environment possible. Hell, my parents AND neighbour are even helping me design my daughter’s nursery!
I’m just really, really scared and need some advice. 
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parenting,BigBearHat03,2019/01/26,"Sleep At what age did your babies sleep by themselves? 

9 month and she’s slowly getting there. Just want an idea of how long I have left of close snuggles and occasional face slaps.",1.5828571428571436,4.33182442857143,1.6371428571428588,95.79285714285713,90.42857142857142,3.942857142857144,18.42857142857143,5.6839178017228535,-0.3788857142857141,145,4,29,1,5,43,32,35,0.0,0.96,0.04,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,1,0,7,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,4,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791832158986609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871617607769845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726286469610384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30351011372501263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737485779494814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6864183169756208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022875642591198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megwead,2019/01/26,"My (almost) 1-year old chipped her tooth today It’s two days before her first birthday. I was sitting on the couch giving her bites of my cereal as she was standing next to our coffee table. She lost her footing and clipped her chin on the edge of the table. 

My initial conclusion was that she had just bitten her tongue and my only urgency was to comfort her and wipe away the blood from her lip. About an hour later, she was in the bath when she gave me a big grin and I saw the chunk missing from her top tooth.

I’m devastated and totally heartbroken. I know it’s a baby tooth and an easy fix at the dentist, but she hasn’t even started walking yet and I know there are worse falls down the road. ",3.9461267605633807,4.931062908450709,4.573352112676059,87.56566197183098,71.32394366197184,7.370140845070423,26.171830985915488,7.554174236665415,1.2213526760563376,551,17,115,6,10,176,93,142,0.08800000000000001,0.85,0.062,-0.7047,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,4,6,4,0,0,12,0,8,7,6,0,1,14,17,10,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,7,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,2,0,2,9,1,25,2,14,8,1,23,0,2,1,0,18,9,0,1,10,78,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257754969890466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418414507359283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190335837861555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660056030977593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700142637814849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189494487238984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469273315880449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534931019071465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829272590233328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809891029804098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737542469934483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27010434182574106,0.0,0.0,0.19576889490140645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18219332213367626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439908311144638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25144830150066433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26231874868323485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576105233671393
parenting,Mammasweetstuff,2019/01/26,"Any mom's aware of any freezable water filled pacifiers? I have a 4 month old boy who is obviously teething. The only thing he likes to do is suck on ice cubes but I am worried about him sucking one down his throat on accident. Does anyone know of a freezable pacifier or a frozen pacifer of any kind? If not I should make one, there has got to be something out there. My guys prefers his binki to frozen teethers.  thnaks in advance!",2.8333235294117634,5.07226425882353,2.8525735294117682,93.53533088235297,77.0,5.661764705882352,27.095588235294123,6.6274283507984215,0.9892647058823528,342,14,71,3,8,103,68,85,0.108,0.818,0.07400000000000001,-0.4682,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,2,0,4,0,8,3,2,1,1,10,13,3,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,1,0,7,2,12,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,5,2,2,3,41,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992535329869162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111376238454773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21415593135668246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572476614862214,0.0,0.0,0.2423110600905745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548379956375648,0.13449159283434076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955772476477924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335235552113775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28661285231159184,0.19533299613336588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567922460989828,0.0,0.3316569168965668,0.18612042256796085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18839724498219165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258094990623884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485248187519138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,papabooboo7,2019/01/26,"My college aged son is obsessed with north korea after I put on a kim jung un mask and I am at my wits end! Hi ya'll i am at my wits end!

He copies whatever shit he sees on tv in boodleville arkansas. (he saw a documentary on that traitor of Dixie land Abraham Lincoln and wore a top hat reciting “four scour and 7 years ago”

So this all started when I let my son watch the history channel when the jesus channel, fox news, and college football was not playing in our home of boodleville Arkansas.

So now he dresses as a north Korean soldier and sings the north Korean anthem ALL DAY!  

He also kept me up all night bawling over kim jung ills death. (I finally had enough and put on a kim jung un mask and pretended to be kim jung un to shut him up! The doofus fainted with joy believing that kim jung un came to visit)

Now my son paints massive portraits and makes head sculpts of kim jung un (they are really beautiful quite frankly and accurate) and hangs them in his room yearning for his arrival again.

He also put some icbms into his room too and is building war heads. Sadly he recently made friends with an oriental rice eatn’ China-man in his college class who is willing to fund his projects too. I tried to talk to that boys parents, but the Russian commmie neighbors backed the Chinese boys parents so now I am screwed. 

When I ask him why he does this shit that goes against the jesus channel and fox news of boodleville Arkansas. He says: “America is a warmonger!”

He also refuses to watch the jesus channel in boodleville Arkansas. He now figured out a way to flood our tv with north Korean propaganda non stop. (I can’t turn the tv off and watch college football and fox news!) He tells me it is better than shakespeare and that it is “normal” north Korean tv. Not the American hate-monger term of “propaganda”

Also there is this weird camera in my bedroom too!

My idiot son also is trying to get north Korean citizenship. I cought the doofus at the airport demanding to see kim jung un claiming he saw him in his bedroom and to tell him to see him before he leaves since he believes he saw him in his bedroom (my plan backfired with the whole kim jung un mask!) (the airport thought he was insane and told him to stop screwing around) . 


What do I do? I am sick of these slant-eyed rice eat’n oriental commies  in Boodleville Arkansas (however if they watch the jesus channel they can stay in boodleville)



Should I BAPTIZE the tv? To get out the darksided stuff that goes against the jesus channel in boodleville Arkansas?


Thanks ya'll
 




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parenting,BZB97,2019/01/26,What is the best baby formula to use? Me and my fiancée just had a little girl who is our second child and for our son we used enfamil and we’re using the same thing for our daughter. But is there any other brands we should consider looking at?  Btw she didn’t produce any milk so we can’t breast feed. ,1.6133333333333333,3.594130253968256,2.927222222222224,92.77750000000002,79.7936507936508,5.469841269841268,21.61111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.2888539682539681,238,7,51,2,6,77,50,63,0.0,0.927,0.073,0.6767,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,6,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,7,3,1,4,0,14,11,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,9,1,4,8,2,2,0,0,1,1,12,2,0,0,0,37,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956688978210576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053008522113672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29157660616917463,0.0,0.0,0.24429813803760525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327321993469374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7537801256854569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThePandaChoke,2019/01/26,"Did I do the right thing? This is probably more of an AITA post, but maybe its a spot check too.

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Happy hetero father of 4, oldest girl is 9-going-on-19.  About 6 months ago, she tells me she thinks she's gay.  I ask a couple of questions to make sure she understands what that means, she does-ish.  She explains that social media she watches with other kids at her daycare helped her realize it.  Ok, no prob, thanks for telling me, i love you...

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Flash forward to now, she has a ""girlfriend"", and the girlfriend is having a sleepover for their birthday.  So by my mind, I wouldnt let her stay over at a boys house on principle.  Why would I let her stay at her ""girlfirends"" house? 

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I call GF's mom and delicately explain my concerns.  GF mom is floored.  She had no idea and doesnt believe it.  Fine, not my problem.  So i explain that perhaps she should talk to her daughter about it, and see what the reality is.  Theyre 9-10, and its a weird modern world.

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So I told my daughter about what I did, telling her all of the above, and explaining about what is and is not appropriate.  She understood and was very upset.  When I again stated that if this was not a romantic ""girlfriend"" , I would have no problem letting her sleep over, she started to waffle on her position.

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I dont care if she's gay or not.  I care that she is safe.  I wanted GF's mom to know the clear stakes of a sleepover with my daughter.  Honestly, if GF mom is cool and is going to watch closely, I'm probably 50/50 about letting her go.  But because mom had no idea, and I've seen the digital evidence, I think it may be prudent to stick to my guns.  At the end of the day, I cant help but think---- ""She's 9.  What does she know about love or sexuality?""  I know thats flawed thinking, and I need to keep supporting her reality, while guiding her on the path to making good choices.

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Did I do the right thing?",3.233743967487936,4.9099863359580045,4.038396410126158,87.99969265938532,74.09186351706037,6.9108796884260455,28.03835407670816,7.601502580125103,1.5439576835153668,1498,60,308,19,31,479,188,381,0.079,0.777,0.14300000000000002,0.9845,0,0,0,1,0,0,96.0,0,1,1,0,13,18,0,1,19,2,35,5,1,2,3,61,68,24,0,11,12,9,0,0,7,5,0,0,0,3,22,14,0,2,18,0,1,3,12,4,0,0,10,5,57,14,36,48,2,32,0,0,4,4,66,15,0,7,12,206,79,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05234140988972786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838629841536298,0.4304898214128077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520077078381703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03599437047875433,0.0,0.0,0.0665255036873911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060293366623167574,0.0,0.1204042597706619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533414160179063,0.0,0.03808028980855273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05167223715896616,0.0,0.06920238917711767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229792316399787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711529430606687,0.04952563959417002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285639780056591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915562713624377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626411815847686,0.0,0.13331326018751113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052483493203924134,0.0,0.0,0.09735170214709518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415173420503182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658405285377756,0.0,0.07882837147205267,0.0,0.059320429315035124,0.0643192561555171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059620417845543436,0.3457743893347036,0.047130578346504234,0.0,0.0,0.04378244094637273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565504954697772,0.0,0.12732483646556042,0.11299959256693748,0.0,0.0,0.06614590974247246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085125903126313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047052640734142434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059089425247471614,0.06019075868693285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04179361647177463,0.1258720271585532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700558889450975,0.05565089359131927,0.0,0.0,0.047459567014561686,0.15482847114420115,0.05436234401851064,0.0,0.0,0.07845611697855066,0.15133917574585073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056421730946329386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146978284109906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04871977933242006,0.034827322089678155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05328053694710175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389028011771911,0.0,0.4304898214128077,0.0
parenting,maliciousmiinx,2019/01/26,"Seeking advice for moving to another as city as a single mother [23F] with my son [1M] I apologize for format and grammar, I am typing on my phone. 

It has always been a huge goal of mine to finally leave my hometown. The city I have in mind is larger than the one I currently live in. I have a lot of friends there, and it would be a good opportunity for me as far as college/university.  The field I work in I make a little more than minimum wage, and it’s fairly easy for me to find a job as it’s in high demand.

I currently live with roommates right now, but I will be on my own when it comes to moving. My roommates are going their separate ways when the lease ends so even if I wanted to stay in my hometown, I would have to get my own place.

My lease ends in the summertime, what is the best way to approach this to make sure that it goes along smoothly? Any advice for being able to afford and maintain a household by myself? 

TLDR; Lease with roommates is ending in the summertime, and looking to move to another city a few hours away by myself. How can I successfully move and maintain life in a new city? ",4.105212922173276,4.6755914449339215,5.490854625550663,82.64999706314245,70.67400881057269,8.344082232011749,27.46813509544787,8.447377352677275,1.7847206461086635,866,28,179,13,15,292,125,227,0.011,0.878,0.112,0.968,5,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,1,5,7,6,0,0,16,0,17,1,0,3,1,23,24,17,0,4,2,2,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,9,11,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,0,0,1,1,2,26,6,42,17,7,38,0,0,1,0,6,17,0,2,11,133,35,6,0.12281374333618772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400243371905449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219087285955937,0.0,0.0,0.08351755693131709,0.2575618364310796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538755464555996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288854466254966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579316521210784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263295706367124,0.0,0.0,0.08111731918955252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345364527364453,0.11224953645071728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488559344887608,0.0,0.06416511194283392,0.0,0.06979788058178131,0.10301034105180834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975946277709102,0.0,0.0,0.12094679824147266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187368978969015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004202128838746,0.0,0.0,0.08674697895223829,0.0,0.12309163515090045,0.21689357083587404,0.0,0.10313261297074636,0.0,0.0,0.10441185272340386,0.0,0.0,0.16395825468250302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400687050680125,0.0,0.0,0.5221262919335834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861427861496465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322177092926057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283142222135197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488226576621136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090310950786158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575049965340613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243872781405213,0.19496766590211764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940986785336827,0.0,0.0,0.17448671913517771,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hippiedivanerd,2019/01/26,"My 8 year old hid from me for 20 minutes when it was time to leave a birthday party. It was a family party and I was there with my two girls, 8 and 15 months. My husband wasn’t able to come so I was on my own. After being there for over 2 hours we did all the party stuff (presents, cake, etc) and families were slowly starting to leave and my 15 month old was getting fussy. She was showing signs of being tired and hungry plus she was over-stimulated with all the people around. 

My 8 year old was having a blast. This is a fun house with lots of kids her age, including girls who she usually doesn’t get to play with. It’s also important to note that she didn’t eat anything while at the party (she’s a very picky eater) so I know she was hungry which I’m sure affected her behavior. 

I gave her a 10 minute warning. After a generous 10 minutes I went upstairs to get her and she was nowhere to be found. None of the other kids claimed to know where she was (not sure yet if they were in on it or not). After looking in the room they were playing I called her name and asked her to come out if she was hiding. Fast forward 20 minutes later most people in the house are helping me search for her, I’m calling her name in every room on all floors and starting to panic. 

The mother of the house helps me look and finds her hiding in a closet in the first room I checked. At this point I am feeling exhausted, panicked, embarrassed and pissed off. I spoke to her on the spot about how that was scary and why that was dangerous. Even after this she refused to take off her dress up clothes and cooperate. I had to guide her down the stairs as she was scream-crying and basically drag her out of the house with my 15 m/o on my hip. 

I am the type of person to always tell mothers that the behavior of their kids doesn’t reflect their parenting, and I would never judge parenting based on a kid having a tantrum. But I 100% feel like I have done something wrong and I have no idea where to go from here. I have spoken with her about this and how scary it was, she says she understands. 

I still feel like I need some more tricks or tools or something because I have no idea what I would have done in this situation if the mother hadn’t found her, I don’t think she ever would have come out. Just needed to vent about this, thanks for reading!",3.5593159769126856,4.50141010229645,4.217146629006511,89.92040986123054,72.19415448851774,7.221932948544762,24.52664865528675,7.39963492309942,0.8712627532850301,1825,50,400,19,34,581,225,479,0.115,0.7979999999999999,0.087,-0.8981,2,0,2,0,0,0,44.0,1,0,4,1,20,16,4,2,25,0,47,5,2,3,7,76,77,32,0,8,10,6,3,2,0,3,2,2,4,7,20,31,1,1,13,4,1,6,12,8,0,2,31,7,66,8,68,40,10,65,0,0,2,0,60,33,1,9,30,283,86,2,0.08540125890720647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829535589346801,0.0710606887630069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027795942178491,0.0760252265457388,0.07983864875570189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05205981476400606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440846755484293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22069686781291808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938092727753878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747902770917033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738680830973138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524497848480586,0.056406726069754526,0.07725032799591255,0.07195424395541546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101741276062276,0.0,0.1295443275726057,0.12202135285457336,0.0,0.0,0.07805520346693133,0.07264226719921649,0.0,0.1872761447614602,0.0,0.0,0.13385589891612396,0.0,0.048535503509749264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144853273284471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.084103037250019,0.39416634634563774,0.0,0.1928152524585494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386859691906392,0.0,0.0,0.1808552044287972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344548263569879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343109725076195,0.0,0.0,0.0726050963449879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363329401683926,0.0,0.0,0.12664790272854246,0.06586671568984835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26884276555521225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019997659844387,0.1896559829177037,0.0,0.0,0.11841295980988625,0.07456908519765652,0.0,0.0,0.08073179379365912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542436970072888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679145088385522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599459318418176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314921228695564,0.0,0.0,0.12089490122477607,0.0,0.06820155568059848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776400937657134,0.0,0.0,0.1609793516753155,0.0,0.06421111838041156,0.0,0.07464446449775608,0.07862600518076289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472167835604142,0.0,0.0,0.0497981608475237,0.09815618408113627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342462066407888,0.08890572235956057,0.0,0.0,0.09405742128730918,0.07046498254181484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916782260558089,0.07706135284766595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819998121375748,0.0933728701008066,0.0,0.1099912214919642
parenting,Squeeze__me_macaroni,2019/01/26,Need advice please My 10 month is in a cast his forearm is broken and I'm just wondering can he crawl on it put pressure cause he is crawling everywhere and we are always trying to hold him and put him in his walker and hi chair he just gets over it and wants to crawl. We are just worried when he is crawling and putting pressure on it wouldn't it do damage or something. Thank you ,1.083445850914206,3.4547552911392434,2.1725738396624514,95.12049226441636,84.69620253164557,4.523769338959212,21.436005625879048,5.82211442006289,0.07517609001406456,304,10,64,2,9,96,52,79,0.113,0.8009999999999999,0.086,-0.312,0,0,1,0,0,0,2.0,2,1,0,0,4,4,0,2,1,0,9,1,1,1,0,18,15,8,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,7,14,0,10,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,2,2,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246611050499331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129988809776585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361763958644367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201161942448025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835084675665992,0.0,0.0,0.17047209956399606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25236732467337075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6933559268995527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699257373212252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116662004616607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609082041949046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560428771184918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493228311292897,0.0,0.23348031077295414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bowtient2,2019/01/26,"Advice for 7 yo son discovering women/porn. So I found out through the history on my ipad that he has been looking up things like ""naked girls"" and ""girl boobs"" online. I grew up in a Catholic household and was always *restricted* from viewing porn. Obviously this didn't work and I just became more secretive and tech savvy. In some ways I feel the underground nature of it made me more of a freaky/kinky person. 

So my question is how should I handle this in our new technological age? I had to sneak onto the computer and wait for dial up to see anything. Nowadays kids can access anything instantly. I haven't talked to him about what I found yet, mainly because I don't want to be restrictive but I also don't want his interests to become directed towards a deviant view of women. He's still too young to fully understand what I consider to be natural behavior, but I also want to steer him towards a healthy interest. Do I buy him his own tablet and monitor his searches? Do I place restrictions and wait till he's older for the talk? I'm a single parent (dad) and I'm trying to put myself in a young boy's mindset but I don't have a good example from my childhood to draw upon. This seems early for his age but that doesn't matter since he's already interested and attempting to view things.

How do you go about having the conversation with a 7 yo who honestly doesn't even fully understand what he's looking for but has access to the world wide web?",4.823496503496507,5.978502153846152,5.912874125874126,78.14008041958044,69.41958041958043,9.216503496503496,29.68461538461539,9.516144504307137,2.721694265734266,1160,44,217,25,20,386,164,286,0.038,0.882,0.08,0.9428,1,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,1,0,2,13,6,0,0,14,0,22,2,1,3,1,40,40,21,0,4,6,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,6,12,11,0,5,8,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,7,7,29,6,40,30,6,31,0,0,6,2,29,16,1,3,12,148,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495199590316208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885074400918995,0.244724669230364,0.12731688213130735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25182898820395777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327369907983693,0.16898792811771707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106190383809607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736663862700509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355359378533493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695931726954068,0.1283378356893252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475313610139124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569803420220413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478210818894258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777836519965526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16989990417318307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360274993129298,0.1598632661429594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381767983575498,0.1714066282760266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192945158850747,0.1392948907735765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265717561338887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219427614496885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459678729366003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330657679786907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038839948247697,0.0,0.0,0.3185783749493717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.270748435142096,0.12145250668907465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139336898029244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YoureProbablyRiiight,2019/01/26,"Mother-in-Law demands we teach our baby to suck his thumb instead of using pacifier. Any pros/cons to this? I'm not absolutely against it TBH, but the wife and I wanted to work with the pacifier instead after reading a few things and our personal experience with the classic ""kid who still sucks thumb at 12"" case.

Any/all input is appreciated. Not judging anyone, just want to not be judged ourselves either. Open to all information.

Thanks",4.1006481481481485,6.828940592592595,5.111836419753086,76.4470138888889,75.17283950617283,7.50679012345679,28.64351851851852,8.472884824447931,2.5101222222222224,352,15,59,7,8,115,64,81,0.062,0.8220000000000001,0.116,0.6757,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,4,3,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,1,17,9,3,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,11,8,3,4,0,0,0,0,9,2,2,0,2,39,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365361712738633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24321066271413186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402442584791203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037115388506725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479238977974277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777773037292853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202349199247104,0.0,0.0,0.23108264361885236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004132426444505,0.0,0.0,0.4103180207528416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532242152812249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmfc77,2019/01/26,"I don’t plan activities for my kids (13 and 10) they don’t have “a thing” (sports, music, gymnastics) and I’m afraid I’m ruining their lives How bad is it to not have “a thing” for the kids to do?  They don’t do Battle of the Books, Girl Scouts, karate, gymnastics, soccer, softball, swimming, Science Olympiad, STEM classes, yoga, golf, tennis. No cooking classes, no dance.  Nothing.   No Gymboree, no “read along at the library”, no play dates. 

As an introvert, I struggle to find a reason to leave the house.  When the girls say they don’t want to do something, I think “sweet, I’m tired anyway”.  They watch a lot of YouTube and sit around.  A Lot. 

I’m embarrassed and sad, scared for them, afraid I’ve waited too long to force them into “something” and now they are too old to feel good about their participation with other kids that have been doing this “thing” since they were three...

I don’t even know where to start looking for things to do.  We have a healthy social life and I hear other parents talk about the 1,000 activities their kids do and I feel like a piece of sh!t parent.  Like the absolute worst.  

Am I ruining their lives because I’m not forcing them into something?  Am I scarring them forever by not providing a rigid schedule and a million sportsing activities?  They are happy, well adjusted and socially appropriate kids.  Everyone at school loves them.  They are calm and relaxed, but I worry myself sick that they are going to feel lost because I haven’t exposed them to “things” and made them get really good at something.  

Where do I find the things?  The things they want to do, that will make them happy and well rounded? All the other parents seem to know where to find things to do, but I feel so lost, so unaccomplished.  

Thanks for the safe space to type this all out.  I’m recognizing how much I have worried about this since they were born, hence the “Gymboree” and library time references.   ",3.949118279569895,6.0854499333333365,4.049587813620075,86.71290322580647,73.27777777777777,6.978494623655914,26.335125448028673,7.831003766801068,1.4888996415770603,1496,53,288,21,31,461,175,360,0.127,0.755,0.118,0.4947,3,0,4,0,0,0,58.0,1,0,23,3,19,29,1,6,22,0,31,5,0,5,2,52,59,21,0,2,5,3,5,2,0,1,3,2,0,7,18,20,1,3,14,11,0,3,14,14,2,2,6,10,39,15,38,52,7,24,0,5,3,1,40,11,0,3,11,195,57,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015685340907408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751816685429507,0.10977805999779364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947217625374551,0.0,0.0,0.08603940119832691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211263369652209,0.06432633046911422,0.0,0.0,0.2468914511560222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047043453666020765,0.0,0.05117318838406842,0.15104663764037732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19170368358209186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148436346088116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389687567655298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989699301774537,0.0,0.0,0.09534193298947664,0.0,0.0,0.06359963166031163,0.0879803668227812,0.0,0.15901823188847047,0.07968471768174147,0.07561296400554017,0.0,0.19658389932871811,0.15310170923267288,0.08126680917989851,0.08520032504430068,0.060104021669827236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619154696465357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639814069523644,0.0,0.09448438423148224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999443904006421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900667974405091,0.0,0.057683486761811925,0.09257861528468396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160535491526553,0.0901481811397067,0.09112774698409902,0.0,0.0819712471338739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896805826258686,0.0,0.0,0.1835738375351496,0.0,0.2772762488504219,0.0,0.0,0.06373249588114524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413189885442433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237269503392306,0.0,0.08289897258805022,0.0,0.0,0.4785615196103474,0.057695553825739515,0.0,0.0,0.05250446543154932,0.1034905282900038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621871706798873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191791768503164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288491823825606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,foolhardywaffle,2019/01/26,"My niece is cutting herself. Ways to support her and my sister? Anyone have experience with a teenager who's cutting? Got a text from my sister saying that my niece (14) is cutting herself. She says they aren't deep, but there's a lot of them, and most do bleed.

My niece was in counseling about a year ago due to sexual assault that happened to her on the school bus, but I don't think she goes anymore. I've suggested she go back in light of the self harm, but that seems like such a ""no shit"" suggestion.

I had bouts of self harm as a young teenager, and got sent to therapy, but then just lied to the therapist every time and convinced her I was fine. So the suggestion seems kind of empty ... But I haven't told my sister that part.

I'm just kind of at a loss. I live in a different state and feel like I can't help...",3.336873767258385,4.226047337278112,4.355754437869823,88.91793145956609,72.66863905325444,7.7635108481262325,25.917652859960555,8.07648339933343,1.3168930966469428,636,20,141,9,12,207,98,169,0.195,0.727,0.078,-0.9698,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,2,1,7,15,5,0,12,0,11,2,1,0,0,19,23,13,0,0,7,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,5,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,7,4,22,7,19,16,3,17,0,1,0,0,24,6,1,4,9,90,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498311667445354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220426447912895,0.11436262430913527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576498101938613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088190554496435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780354592098507,0.0,0.0,0.15998980419507322,0.0,0.0,0.08269916506252695,0.11684491544275608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295302290783757,0.0,0.2616224152531353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446326202978808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962858613009782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406381993903688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981105166517187,0.0,0.14442353328227062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905002927240215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711593166458686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601336522480465,0.0,0.16552807867624886,0.0,0.29779169339353256,0.3412505477139602,0.0,0.16788856809870373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856021672515112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18704130259172286,0.18990189628487927,0.0,0.10480050795728757,0.0,0.0,0.0953712076994988,0.0,0.0,0.15628540419526762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982366917039026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532513100384236
parenting,majorsamanthacarter,2019/01/26,"Funny things my toddler says My two year old can’t pronounce certain letters yet so she has some rather hilarious and vastly inappropriate words that do not mean what it sounds like. 

For instance she loves My Little Pony, but “pony” sounds like “horney” 

When we stop off at the coffee drive through she screams for a “smoothie” of course it sounds like she’s screaming “mommy! I want a nudie”

And she’s also very picky about her boots being on in her car seat cause they’re dirty. So “my boots yucky!” comes out as “my bukkake!”

So, ya know, some kids say lellow, mine says bukkake. ",2.6356060606060616,5.292694590909093,2.2522727272727288,95.24174242424245,80.36363636363636,4.393939393939394,20.984848484848484,5.46131890053228,-0.1926060606060611,455,13,92,2,12,133,85,110,0.135,0.7190000000000001,0.146,-0.6621,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,0,8,7,0,0,3,0,4,2,1,1,1,17,9,9,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,8,0,1,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,8,16,5,11,8,2,15,0,0,0,1,15,7,0,2,8,53,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733211136643088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406424513193121,0.0,0.20178829476996346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873937196609989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34333268144587115,0.2347831365830425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142255949357866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551702885567384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24580921224769625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5588623779771654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958460723224348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562734401073114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22883123053525514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328333214263832,0.13816854171624854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508513096117647
parenting,five_year_plan,2019/01/26,"3yo girl humping stuffies Hi all - my friends 3yo girl has started humping her stuffed bear at night. She puts it between her legs and rubs herself on it. My friend knows this is normal, but is wondering if she should do anything. Should she ignore it? Any advice is welcome!",2.25344537815126,5.156386333333336,1.8278991596638683,94.93411764705887,87.62745098039215,3.698599439775911,28.85434173669468,5.288315135182226,0.9553282913165266,217,11,40,1,7,63,39,51,0.055,0.8009999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.636,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,0,1,10,10,3,0,4,2,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,3,3,8,1,5,0,0,0,2,12,2,0,2,2,26,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202184945542061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22284295553046995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696639967334605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5063506850134268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18009188955698685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30751834222978264,0.3210702535474745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294226817063916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23194329002432815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553698430552497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BiBoFieTo,2019/01/26,"If all kids came with a pause button that was 100% safe to press, would you ever use it? Pause button fine print:

- Kids do not age when paused, and remain completely motionless

* Kids can't be harmed when paused and do not perceive the passage of time

* Paused kids don't know they were paused (unless you tell them)",2.9594999999999985,5.445854616666669,2.273333333333337,96.57500000000002,77.83333333333334,5.333333333333334,16.666666666666668,6.42735559955562,-0.4728333333333329,247,4,51,2,6,71,45,60,0.0,0.882,0.118,0.7394,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,2,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,2,15,11,6,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,1,4,2,4,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,1,5,29,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4715783367188496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4323042666670552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729623795831353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265974539093003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603813449603089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404240998114452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35610763987850724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29289663349220163,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sparkchaser1987,2019/01/26,"Perk of being a dad #42 Our 10 year old daughter is having her birthday party with her friends at our house today. All of her friends are from school, so it's a group of 7 tweens in the house. After playing a board game, they relocated to our finished basement. Said basement is roughly divided in half, with the stairs leading up to the ground floor being on the other side of the dividing wall. 

Making use of the wall, I snuck down the stairs, stopping just short of the doorway into the half where they were playing. I called forth my tried and tested ""evil laugh"" and was rewarded with a chorus of shrieks in near perfect unison. 

Totally worth it. ",5.843709677419355,6.663269983870968,5.585645161290324,82.62346774193551,66.90322580645162,7.812903225806451,31.62903225806452,7.6454224807358475,2.0835354838709685,514,20,95,5,8,159,85,124,0.044,0.7709999999999999,0.185,0.9531,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,2,3,3,8,1,0,13,0,8,0,0,3,3,14,11,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,6,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,11,7,23,6,2,25,0,0,0,0,16,18,0,0,6,67,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259775995963353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3931054146306712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.587098531583484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698173435670544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669553000446554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419974567364869,0.0,0.0,0.2574714883989032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269400980268932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24114623662854115,0.0,0.0,0.1727243265205409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197242769954088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382850850584946
parenting,EngineeredGal,2019/01/26,"Things you didn’t realise you said A LOT until your kid says it... Ok so...... I’m the proud owner of a three year old human male. He’s pretty cool. 

The more his speech develops the more of myself I’m noticing. He’s developing my verbal tics and common sayings! I never knew it but I start every task or activity with OK..... So... 

Every Single Time. 

I told my other half, he hadn’t noticed either, until now! It seems I also say “to be fair...”. 

I need some new expressions!! 
(I swear too much too... eeek!)",-1.2844815007816557,0.46440199009901295,1.6712767066180303,92.54838457529965,108.3069306930693,3.710474205315269,13.236581552892131,5.750287758089431,-0.7178831683168316,375,8,78,4,19,130,75,101,0.014,0.894,0.092,0.7405,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,3,0,1,6,4,0,0,5,3,3,0,0,0,1,11,11,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,6,13,4,6,5,7,10,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,4,10,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264297058242902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342712965759385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290646478791855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950775457520896,0.1508037468165149,0.15685924997617334,0.19642574146264166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630991213079863,0.2134131739875121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069106502944585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934610226146484,0.4852079904398837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514957967758924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395346218078295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351166831416744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859255587476207,0.0,0.0,0.1943383750349054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097009867953524
parenting,throwaway122097,2019/01/26,"I hate my baby I don’t want anyone I know to know I feel this way, and I don’t think this is the right place to post this but I don’t know where else. 

I hate my baby. Proper, deep hate. I want her to grow up safe, and loved, and I’m doing my best for her. I’m breastfeeding and everything. She’s well looked after. 

But recently, there’s been this growing sensation of deep resentment. I wish she hadn’t been born. And most recently, every time I look at her, I feel nothing. I don’t want to see her. 

Every week I go to college (uk) two days.  I do a science course, which i love. And at the end of every day, i consider not going back. Leaving my baby with my mum, and running away. 

I don’t know what to do! I want to love her, but I can’t! It’s not an option to have her adopted, as my family is not accepting of that. It could kill my already frail father. 

I hate my baby, but more than anything, I hate myself because of it. ",-0.3053454545454528,1.6416707200000042,2.2924545454545457,94.81872727272727,86.8,5.4363636363636365,18.090909090909093,6.7829847944221076,-0.031050000000000025,704,18,166,9,22,243,101,200,0.16,0.655,0.185,0.355,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,0,1,4,14,7,0,4,0,16,3,0,0,0,32,43,12,1,6,7,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,1,8,0,0,5,10,7,1,1,3,5,38,7,21,39,3,26,0,0,3,3,13,9,0,2,10,111,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331512730828223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813580540424894,0.0,0.0919579120675855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498958827403336,0.08592622058966562,0.0,0.06811967660573932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172711391388038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892205494362688,0.0,0.0,0.14413459617761953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334992670735508,0.0,0.09897429975018214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824539340490845,0.0,0.1004306186260422,0.0,0.10534472831749304,0.0,0.11300485464468835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701631067910574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5516330528423318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363103165395233,0.0,0.24565198683657724,0.0,0.0,0.1183234909113852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876779624403028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025669479070559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722385517862056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675138970820233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702233188296237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206725286526537,0.0,0.0,0.09543096683058093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904755459322992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160269489691096,0.0,0.0,0.06516032813161833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091601690546666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636441072576192,0.08869923204755377,0.08963636422609242,0.0,0.10047359362700303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285030495574674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aishwaryawins21,2019/01/26,"Healthy Evening Snacks / Lunch Box Recipes for Kids Hello dear mummies. . 

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Every home has a child who is a picky eater, wants the food to  
look attractive, smell yummy and taste delicious!  while, as a parent, we want to ensure the food is also healthy and nutritious. It is always challenging to please the taste buds of the kid and meet our parenting goals!

I have tried few recipes that are simple, easy, quick and most importantly kids friendly ""healthy snacks"". I have found it to be working with my kid!! 

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parenting,godbullseye,2019/01/26,"My son has been having a lot of bed wetting problems I have a 4 year old son with my ex wife. My girlfriend and I have 50/50 custody but my ex has primary placement due to being the nicer school district (full day UPK with an after school program which is a godsend). He is a very bright and sweet natured kid who has been tested as gifted intellectually.

My son has been effectively potty trained for about a full year now with accidents rarely happening but we have noticed a SERIOUS regression in the last two weeks. We went from having an accident once every two months to now having them multiple times a night. We have debated if it is something medical but my sister who is a pediatric nurse said that this is normal for a boy his age. We have tried everything including the waking him up before we go to bed (10:00 pm) to make sure he goes, all the way to buying him a small alarm, a behavior chart and bed pads but none of which works. We also cut him off from all liquids after 6:00 pm as his bedtime is 7:30pm.

When I ask him what he does at his moms he tells me that he wears Pull UPS but I feel like that’s a step backwards. 

Does anyone have any advice?",5.5333004926108345,5.730407206896551,6.029753694581281,81.34775862068967,67.44827586206897,9.214778325123154,29.5024630541872,9.04235418022936,2.216432512315272,920,30,185,15,14,298,144,232,0.071,0.8240000000000001,0.105,0.8869,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,1,2,5,8,1,1,18,0,23,4,2,2,3,27,30,13,0,3,6,8,2,1,1,0,2,1,3,2,10,12,0,0,2,0,1,4,1,4,0,2,5,5,25,4,24,24,6,30,0,0,1,0,35,9,0,2,17,121,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595347076370064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762731408956085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852943518643277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159187921885236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919890478533487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580279249538502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292496739936552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793236790884079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446488085807046,0.0,0.1434328526545461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069555324483986,0.11401403010986612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070098354266297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141128502365943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009046164071406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779695975105089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568116476585876,0.0,0.0,0.1065302759602928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16077422778157915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691463709300207,0.12738645803944718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976821642047827,0.15636829618294862,0.0,0.18169889789309854,0.16746712194087818,0.16996246793322445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527099641253446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181050007208133,0.0,0.0,0.3230354230598597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286330634218927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041551515045545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949224498313728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306058124191208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835389238098247,0.0,0.31180041819842685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316818155718809,0.0,0.12667833828865008,0.12801673034000915,0.0,0.0,0.14794529480496468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618637822703155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055466874548054
parenting,great9,2019/01/26,"Child at a separate table I don't have kids and am just wondering about this out of curiosity.

Recently I've learned that an acquientance of mine (and his wife) tell their child to sit at a separate table. During all occasions (dining, friend visiting etc.).

I don't see the benefit of this... other than a psychological experiment perhaps?",4.500874316939887,7.3145417377049196,6.365163934426231,67.53550546448089,74.24590163934427,11.279781420765028,31.478142076502728,10.864195022040775,4.719620765027322,270,13,44,11,6,93,47,61,0.044,0.9,0.056,0.1828,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,1,7,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,9,6,2,6,0,0,1,0,9,3,0,1,1,32,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4426662214882249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38825997642516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066562903240204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919066315957608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162906355906544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34692204859392994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43043843324301023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deloris_by_the_Sea,2019/01/26,"Saw three year old daughter face down floating and not moving in water during swim class with instructors back towards her.. Hi, looking for some kind of insight or advice. Today was my three year old daughters first day of swim class, no prior experience other than splash pads. The class is three kids, one instructor. They all stay on the stairs and one by one the instructor would help them swim with a noodle, work on kicking, real basic stuff. Parents are allowed to sit by pool but not in so kids can gain confidence and whatever. So my husband and I are poolside the instructor turns her back and my daughter gets excited and tries to swim by herself which ended up with her floating face down for a couple seconds, so people are yelling at the instructor to get her, but by this point I jump into the pool to retrieve her myself. Fully clothed, backpack on, winter boots whole thing. I pick her up patting her back and she is coughing but then immediately wants to join back in the class. Instructor is very sorry, she’s a teenager, nice girl, I let my kid finish out the class with a little floaty thing on her instructor put them on all the kids after the incident. After class I’m sitting there soaked and she comes over apologizing and I’m nice about it “things happen so quick” type of thing.

The aftermath on the ride home it’s really hitting me, the visual of my daughter floating face down without anyone getting her terrified the living hell out of me. Doctor says we need to monitor her for 24 hours for fever and cough to make sure there’s no water in her lungs..

Wondering what I should do with this? Let her continue class, just make sure myself or my husband is also in the water just in case? Go to a different swim class with a new instructor? I know things happen, but I don’t know which direction to take this or what to expect? I feel like maybe the manager or someone should reach out to us? I don’t know. Any suggestions or real life advice is greatly appreciated, I’m shaken up I apologize if this isn’t explained well. ",4.934371637710554,6.501615843989768,5.270833406826,81.2875959079284,69.58823529411765,8.15525178587177,28.316518211482496,8.641336200584522,2.147220054678544,1629,58,298,27,29,517,200,391,0.052000000000000005,0.838,0.109,0.9736,3,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,2,0,3,3,16,10,1,0,22,0,19,12,4,4,4,61,44,26,0,7,15,7,1,1,0,3,5,2,1,5,17,22,3,0,7,7,0,11,8,1,1,8,2,5,41,9,60,36,4,65,1,0,2,0,40,28,1,8,24,211,58,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968110954485281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053194126464529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848131344193052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041369417644958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30973675062469364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674648987712005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142566152846001,0.0,0.0649449335230444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521292520191768,0.0,0.1030735170117982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891927335730592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850659874234846,0.0,0.0,0.050918328890563434,0.0719420544234759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565769544481555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783906897351122,0.0,0.05723168532856201,0.0,0.0,0.11102512149464874,0.0,0.0,0.178102193004328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749892094024508,0.0,0.1010130545912077,0.0,0.09917190953015584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048664025575964,0.1660307696208315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059507399100388,0.07112932027758126,0.04919826991531059,0.10093059661432356,0.08892236048143712,0.0,0.08456493525957849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443971594545173,0.0,0.10116943326303507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070310709746379,0.0,0.0746698024367494,0.0,0.09725932954671944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113411619465414,0.0,0.2047163395195841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181847050216397,0.0,0.0,0.06981459719792323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519663512877656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123406354540168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292435194611665,0.06451275105684214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008285724925288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853251010686717,0.0,0.0,0.11272846783331633,0.0,0.10733571720857872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152805393267346,0.0,0.0,0.1898222730423915,0.0,0.07571592455004786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345121142239686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545441847302977,0.0,0.0,0.06837054716122642,0.10953565879829907,0.0,0.0,0.12113299170828473,0.0,0.0,0.08309030330149336,0.059397082566104736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054385320351416,0.0,0.0,0.11243100797893958,0.0,0.09707384351870206,0.1092078210511288,0.07331279086986985,0.0,0.0,0.07153633405714231,0.0,0.0,0.1296985200960735
parenting,mysticaldancer,2019/01/26,"My daughter (7) asked her friend (6) to lick her ""down there"" Yesterday my daughter had a sleepover. Her friend's aunt is a friend of mine from 5th grade, and the girls frequently have sleepovers/playdates, sometimes at my place, sometimes at theirs. Today when I picked her up my friend told me that the girl's mom overheard my daughter asking her friend to pretend they were husband and wife. She found it weird and went outside to peek through the window and heard my daughter tell her friend that she'd really like her (the friend) to lick her ""there"", pointing to her vagina. The friend refused, and the mom then entered the room and told them that it was time to get up and have breakfast and didn't say anything about what she'd heard. 

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When my friend told me this, I was mortified. I have no idea where she got this from. I know that kids are curious and might experiment, but she's far too young to understand certain aspects of sexuality. I try to be frank and honest whenever she asks me a question, but so far she has only asked basic stuff such as where babies come from. I told her daddies plant a seed in mommies' bellies and that was it, she hasn't asked for more details and I left it at that, thinking she would probe for more info when she was ready. Because of this, I thought she was far more innocent than I was at her age, and now this happens.

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I haven't talked to her yet because I honestly don't know how to approach the subject. I'm not even sure I should say anything. The more I think about it, the more confused I get. Am I overreacting? Is this normal? How do I talk to her about it without making her feel ashamed? I don't want her to grow up thinking that sex is dirty, I just want to make sure her behavior is appropriate.",5.432098506680639,6.0121975504322815,5.115830495153264,86.47755501702909,67.73198847262248,7.922923762116848,31.0465024888656,7.686295010490155,1.838165417867436,1398,53,285,14,22,428,171,347,0.071,0.8240000000000001,0.105,0.9183,0,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,0,0,3,0,19,18,0,2,14,0,30,3,1,5,3,47,61,23,0,5,5,9,1,1,9,3,0,4,2,3,20,14,1,1,12,1,0,5,8,3,0,0,19,7,59,15,37,36,5,35,0,0,0,2,69,18,0,3,13,197,79,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431098461311514,0.19548408607785545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238868794606945,0.0,0.3759974693032293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980695886452523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929097212447513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312912125756263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868465913954201,0.0,0.0,0.0406723143815813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819707947041794,0.5593219087214812,0.0,0.0840519890690611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433432014941673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113183546822545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908057038757187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884142090044887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739707791298296,0.0,0.0,0.03929837338782434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073871533383584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533293947461118,0.0,0.18841808691241335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881302309643427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117739255715651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404150851092164,0.0,0.0760407412495395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010995431687233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051531205948332916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793645108099966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911221723958335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208327216811207,0.0,0.0,0.15162538390448502,0.0,0.0,0.1293074487063768,0.07030712615021957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546259579682135,0.0,0.06385948519488319,0.04690455749549955,0.0,0.07624665227309912,0.30745118589172865,0.0,0.054612719018307936,0.0,0.0,0.08373971036523316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948898704303342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456764715803013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754020934793074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05714147207641632,0.0,0.19548408607785545,0.0
parenting,RedboxRobinHood,2019/01/26,"Need some advice about my 2 year old son Lately, he has gotten into the worse habbit of wanting to pour things out. I know this sounds like average toddler behavior, and he has poured things out in the past, but, lately it has escalated. I began noticing the other day. We were on the store, him in the buggy and I'd gotten him a cup of ice cream. He dropped something on the floor and when I bent down to get it, he just casually poured his ice cream all over me. Since then, I have seen him pour out 4 sodas of mine or my wife's. We have tried punishing him over and over for it every time, but he just keeps on. Any advice on how to work with him on this?",3.6459286293592874,4.058165255474453,4.644476885644772,88.87641524736419,71.62773722627738,7.548742903487429,22.52149229521493,7.3871296695380915,0.5781847526358472,508,10,115,5,9,166,86,137,0.052000000000000005,0.92,0.028,-0.631,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,7,0,6,1,0,1,1,23,15,10,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,11,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,4,16,2,24,10,2,28,0,0,3,0,15,17,0,2,11,75,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4154078071546201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454303088527073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707881844327294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908470078615138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104994085180354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889264832893585,0.0,0.0,0.11681332933525475,0.0,0.4795370961058968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038424453394969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760503146546934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419925006047112,0.22303815861002252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20290547123494368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17582567572857796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363334659190776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28242095501729764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394110819377492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144309237268762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536900810361304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474079661124945,0.0,0.2166092195324282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368768811065328
parenting,Estrella_Luna12,2019/01/26,Step-mother? I’ve been with my boyfriend since High school 2007 and we have two children together. We separated for about a year in 2011-2012. He found some fun times and met a few girls. He also reconnected with an old friend. He needed a loving family environment at the time and she provided it. It was as something he needed and wanted after the separation. That’s wen it happened the decision to have a child with this woman. It was something that changed the lives of everyone involved.  These three people will be forever be in twined with each other for the rest of your lives because of this one simple minor decision in life. My children will forever have a halfsister they never know about just because Of two adult chose to do this without thinking about anybody else besides their feelings at the time.,5.418399999999997,7.546761973333332,5.490333333333336,77.96350000000002,69.26666666666667,8.466666666666667,30.5,9.075114841892004,2.8067999999999995,656,27,111,13,12,206,100,150,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.8859999999999999,0,0,3,0,0,0,13.0,2,1,2,0,5,3,0,0,12,0,11,2,0,0,1,24,21,6,0,3,2,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,6,11,11,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,1,8,3,23,12,4,13,0,0,0,1,20,6,0,1,7,80,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065420099900405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144342482440382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860617253941516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469283352076367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806449590839231,0.0,0.0,0.1658075812219198,0.0,0.08893212747437984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19284749426217104,0.13588737761505135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553345206761982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18583087776140825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666112963188536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423192033044447,0.0,0.0,0.3106172126997475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874198481949384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26083119903891544,0.1356524195032457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184560447724126,0.0,0.1191834060473138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193567214121286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800378253269308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549288622222836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708078644282933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269922889778294,0.0,0.0,0.3076777520343041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436258061662227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374081462351463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695456943370571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326339231608265
parenting,LOLZ_HUNTER,2019/01/26,The 4 yr old has food aversion. I have food for him covered but I need meal ideas that are for one (me) that do not have left overs.  So the 4 yr old has food aversion due to an early birth and a lengthy stay in the NICU. He receives therapy for this issue. He is fed according to his plan. But I tend to eat what he does and thats not always the most adult or healthy. So Im looking for meals that I can cook separately for myself that are better than the kids foods he eats. I do not do left overs well. So ideally these meals are small and produce no leftovers. What can I try? ,1.2777383592017737,2.9214180894308974,2.5855432372505547,96.44155210643015,79.48780487804878,5.773540280857352,21.750923872875084,6.574015621080383,0.15004715447154515,447,13,107,4,11,144,76,123,0.067,0.8190000000000001,0.114,0.7897,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,7,0,13,11,0,1,0,14,17,9,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,3,11,0,1,1,0,1,4,0,1,1,1,1,10,3,12,16,1,13,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,2,5,67,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021621202258985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777792571024488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643255884928795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956715241186625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6988073350504799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309664087306924,0.15605965926839527,0.1507961684735177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139487768133689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132406466841487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071276636327564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30320804622381425,0.0,0.09790117041740798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539929694958204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522173047803662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809021504884306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990193001000794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,daisyduke28,2019/01/26,"Daughter has an audition for a broadway show but I’d have to leave my son for at least 8 months if she got the part... I have a 9 year old daughter who is extremely talented and has been invited to audition for a broadway show. We live in Iowa so we would have to travel over for the auditions and then move over there for at least 8 months if she was cast. My daughters dream is to be on broadway, that’s what she wants to do as a career so having the opportunity now would be great for her. The problem is I also have a 5 year old son and it would mean probably leaving him at home with my husband and having his grandparents look after him while my husband is at work. Or I could take him with us and homeschool him or put him in a school there but I don’t feel like it would be fair to drag him around with us, and my husband needs to stay at home for work. My husband doesn’t think we should let her audition, he thinks it will be too stressful for everyone and that it’s unfair on my son, but I feel like it’s unfair on her if she misses out on this possibly life changing opportunity. We haven’t told my daughter yet but we need to get back to her agent ASAP. Just wondering what other parents would do in this situation? I would FaceTime my son everyday and have them fly over a few times. It’s a really hard decision to make, I don’t wanna be away from my son for that long but I also don’t wanna take this opportunity away from my daughter because she’s worked so hard for it. ",4.504346349745333,4.57747777419355,5.580254668930394,84.11511884550087,69.64516129032258,8.977928692699493,28.573853989813237,8.841846274778883,1.9179032258064512,1170,38,257,19,19,389,142,310,0.08199999999999999,0.81,0.108,0.9081,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,0,1,6,13,10,0,1,13,0,37,1,0,1,0,51,54,26,0,17,11,15,4,2,0,8,1,0,2,0,17,18,0,0,7,4,4,3,5,3,0,0,4,5,43,7,48,35,4,38,0,1,1,0,42,19,0,6,17,194,60,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577718678828013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227016988793282,0.0,0.0,0.19476452970534205,0.07970018845498604,0.0,0.0631838689716919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964759383558816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275581720375644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990416892378528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481676198141993,0.14809467159000453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415266789137018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828980994181097,0.11427411294933068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18569946792014894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793811444320626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21950004223561592,0.0,0.10598879693913392,0.07321081814624457,0.10127597389721993,0.0,0.0915245462340396,0.09172668493414084,0.08703960719260892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918695101615789,0.0,0.0,0.11290486260026746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546433496111748,0.11016318225090264,0.0,0.15370981490837776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175257589093104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509067818134805,0.11224247813365516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116849414816071,0.0,0.0,0.11175186115326777,0.09917872372317477,0.0,0.10419653368687852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640062448656682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048989866507848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650655741352615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047674352134557,0.0,0.0,0.11873033209672493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586328567111185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282903025424167,0.0,0.0,0.06043894862639064,0.0,0.0,0.0990416892378528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493555510683237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061135253271007876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240363180641494,0.2263745546515244,0.0,0.0,0.4417784556130898,0.0,0.0,0.13349396186460466
parenting,blairvengeance,2019/01/26,"DCFS Left A Card on My Door? This is probably stupid of me to be so worried about, but I picked my daughter up at daycare yesterday evening and returned home. When I got back (was gone for ~30 minutes) there was a car from a DCFS case worker stuck in my door. 

We've had some really bad luck in the last few months, but my daughter has and will always be well fed, dressed appropriately in clean clothes, and my apartment is always pretty clean and well stocked with food. We have two dogs and my five year old so it's rarely super clean, but it's not filthy by any stretch of the imagination. 

My question is what do I do? I'm scared to death and just thinking all of the worst case scenarios and what ifs and everything. 

My post history will show you that there have been two car accidents (rear ended and avoiding being hit head on, daughter wasn't with me either time,) being injured in the first wreck and losing my job from it... what do I do? Please help. ",5.1531403508771945,5.633303594736844,5.055526315789475,87.017850877193,68.31578947368422,8.228070175438598,28.991228070175442,8.07648339933343,1.6590175438596484,753,25,159,9,12,233,122,190,0.206,0.6609999999999999,0.132,-0.9613,1,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,4,11,10,1,2,7,0,21,4,1,1,1,28,28,17,1,1,7,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,6,0,8,13,2,1,3,1,0,3,2,6,2,4,9,0,17,4,20,12,5,26,0,1,0,0,7,11,0,4,11,107,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28566644948318565,0.0,0.0,0.116733340710708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199442236150796,0.14332727740702353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203805584032926,0.0,0.0,0.1133785039507376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427516073653166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601222500401614,0.2075695604174895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372906006833377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617065292602144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505875310648316,0.0,0.17218699124139325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034409861378924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992419803744768,0.0,0.0,0.18650694212318775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920414171210807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701579468007793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012621709294613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884289591642844,0.0,0.0,0.16440093349540613,0.17463791956893507,0.18507637995210066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192296269347049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996852383226056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718596250436748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999152863452892,0.0,0.0,0.10009517250493036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353698873377003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086823524268021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17432705284347616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054213751965933
parenting,burnertimesinfinity,2019/01/26,"Resenting my mother in law So quick back story, wife and I have three kids 5yo, 2yo and four month old.  In all that time we never got help from MIL. Don’t get me wrong she has watched the kids for sleepovers etc. when I say no help it’s when we need it. What brought me here was this weekend. Wife is down for the count sick and MIL is away with my wife’s sister helping her out. It’s always that way. Whenever we REALLY need help she is always not free. I guess I am more pissed cause she will fly and take time off of work to help my sister in law but can’t drive 45 minutes to our house. Anyone else dealt with this? Ok rant over!!",0.89275213675214,2.735286377777779,1.833333333333336,100.4146153846154,81.51851851851852,5.0427350427350435,16.31054131054131,5.873414542411696,-0.8467663817663817,491,8,120,3,13,153,94,135,0.158,0.807,0.035,-0.9071,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,1,6,5,2,0,2,1,10,2,1,1,2,20,17,8,0,2,2,6,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,8,10,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,3,0,2,3,2,17,3,16,13,3,21,0,0,1,0,22,8,1,1,10,72,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28827940597107915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112515457775007,0.17749271719423476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162753555082125,0.13320175939005724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177953034320111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470989636250886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319518496999025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050456189159377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385463812149028,0.0,0.19083034398106968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5805559080759736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998820342096535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826906159434418,0.0,0.0,0.25689296572842785,0.13360423324675338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177380983071506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109743926290038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775798268780376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302460149603848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020214619007434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750044729305935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611216085875018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939779500482468,0.0,0.0
parenting,motnock,2019/01/26,"That’s a lot of teeth... So my daughter’s 6th birthday is coming up. She’s been thinking of her birthday wishes and has a list of three things she wants. All rather pricey. I’m trying to teach her about the value and cost of things. So I explained to her that she should think about what she would enjoy the most, because she simply can’t have everything. She wouldn’t probably be interested in it all for long enough to enjoy that many presents at it is. This is the conversation that unfolded. 

(Note she was using Japanese through the entire conversation, but the last line she delivered in English as is and her most serious tone.)

Me: We can’t afford to buy you everything. 
Wife: Think about what you really want the most. 
Daughter: Well, what about my tooth fairy money? 
Me: You’ve lost two teeth. That’s not going to be enough. 
Daughter: How many teeth do I need to lose. 
Me: Just for the doll, 5 or 6 probably. 
Daughter: And the プリキュア? (Its a Japanese anime that’s popular with young girls but is mainly just a season long commercial to sell overpriced toys.)
Me: Another 5 to 6 teeth. (She gets $10 per tooth. I remember getting $0.50... darn inflation) 
Me: It’s too many teeth dear. 
Daughter without even pausing: How about I use your teeth? 

We died. 🤣🤣🤣",1.2374681508967242,3.8773708816326575,2.4287198515769965,90.87327149041435,89.16326530612244,5.908472479901053,21.301793444650585,7.348242739294969,0.9585374149659858,986,34,197,18,33,314,136,245,0.055,0.8540000000000001,0.09,0.655,1,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,2,3,0,2,15,9,0,0,12,0,17,8,8,4,2,38,33,12,1,8,8,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,16,8,0,0,5,1,4,2,5,3,1,2,3,0,29,6,27,25,9,12,0,2,0,0,28,4,1,5,6,130,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746044429436864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572536350152545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113834379853415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594938923621814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906120899381366,0.0,0.09288329430637764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527742854162394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694437726328385,0.0,0.07992198397101341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463037537118224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24890224472616884,0.0,0.1573264670454767,0.1535117875907112,0.11955667350051115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277233601916136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042736854455404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032409719521281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008972960154596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930381281311742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685364009558908,0.2703257276125713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547700269420407,0.0,0.1373728654975857,0.0,0.0,0.24291442681269165,0.0,0.0,0.16589176619630602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644122469679633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617149578986741,0.1355601206074304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989790989095168,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eced,2019/01/26,"Staying dry at night but won’t take himself in the morning. My three year old is staying dry all night but if he wakes up before I do he doesn’t seem to understand that it’s ok to go potty and go back to bed 🤷‍♀️. Other than setting my alarm for the butt crack of dawn to wake him to go when I know he hasn’t already woken up, any ideas?

Also, recommendations for a really good durable and waterproof mattress protector? Trash bags don’t stay in place even with tape as that was my preference. ",3.751648351648349,4.3702597692307705,4.954285714285714,86.005,71.5,8.250549450549451,27.357142857142854,8.418075326091056,1.642671978021978,392,13,86,6,7,130,79,104,0.031,0.895,0.07400000000000001,0.6541,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,3,1,7,3,3,0,1,12,15,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,2,0,7,2,16,12,1,19,0,0,0,1,5,6,1,2,6,48,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067054444391321,0.14979478419037576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737981237031148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403275578314903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939025387638775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371900326113762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31936426036735005,0.1571099346951912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21145448876271009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294276992770893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515626387238693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655433140678347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19570306113530173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999802153446412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052345534163235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5989547877285634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140836671755837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500027959314847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120623950711416
parenting,Ali_Gunningham,2019/01/26,"Any good books for new parents? Our son Matthew was born 6th December last year and its been wonderful. I got my wife and I what to expect when you're expecting a few weeks after we found out we were having him and it was quite helpful throughout and covered the pregnancy well.

The dad focused books have been quite patronising for the most part. I liked this one since it focused on mental health and the relationship rather than just nuts and bolts stuff for taking care of baby https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07MTVR53L

Does anyone have any books they liked that are a bit more modern and address what being a parent is actually like? ",6.771379310344829,8.313893206896553,5.8322413793103465,79.07439655172416,65.20689655172413,8.558620689655173,29.15517241379311,8.841846274778883,2.2194000000000003,516,17,91,8,8,155,89,116,0.018000000000000002,0.753,0.229,0.9774,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,1,2,4,6,0,0,7,0,11,1,0,0,0,17,16,8,0,3,2,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,8,10,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,0,9,6,9,8,5,10,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,11,60,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.16982882036672778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23669363373226354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168628419538632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899964076566864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743585685604102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522954037246405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19081563653098224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596866114991475,0.13918821715878268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849864540091821,0.0,0.0,0.11664908328533215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185821582298944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255067770191134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538197327726815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807989630848238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179276794643309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864809065612309,0.18845824609453216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702060584747834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684380015807994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395996070077088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992234697352697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308493982693939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395968984388853,0.0,0.15647446397938322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887288275982997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207003950525876
parenting,leopardspot_polkadot,2019/01/26,"How to quiet my emotional reaction My daughter (6) has been honing her attitude for a while since she started school. She's kind and sweet and funny  but you know the way you'll ask for something and get a *voice* and a ""fine"" or ""whatever"". It can go a little further but I can tell it's just a flash of a moment and that the sensible thing to do it ignore it. I get that there will be different perspectives but, for me, that doesn't need punished, it needs to be ignored so she can learn my modelled good behaviours instead.

Unfortunately, for a variety of reasons not worth going into, when I feel disrespected my emotional reaction is very intense. Particularly, my ""self"" finds the idea of ignoring disrespect as tantamount to allowing or even encouraging it so it's very hard to do. It can create a spiral.

We have had some pretty intense and heavy experiences together and separately and they play into my reaction so I understand why I feel like that but in the moment emotion is louder than logic. I am aware that I need to access therapy and I am working towards that. 

I am sure, however, that I'm not the only person who feels hurt when their kid is rude. I wondered if anyone had any touchstones or thought processes they invoke, that might help?",4.911657329598505,6.5926430882352935,6.225490196078433,73.97915032679741,69.79831932773111,9.82670401493931,31.709617180205413,10.125756701596842,3.524326984126983,997,44,175,27,18,336,145,238,0.126,0.706,0.168,0.7915,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,1,2,3,1,10,14,2,0,13,0,23,0,0,3,1,46,40,25,0,4,11,1,4,1,0,3,0,2,0,3,18,12,0,3,12,1,1,2,3,6,0,0,4,7,27,8,19,31,1,15,0,1,0,0,19,6,0,7,7,130,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330458670513067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593742151406208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282688159570747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14335076254527535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630138637437998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906230763889995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421351053929007,0.0,0.0,0.20812598623178533,0.09801978550531736,0.0,0.0,0.12540353179858646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433686393781382,0.0,0.15595433199591482,0.11508163853616643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290936479049595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196609417709664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688154861218494,0.15488854406216548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287863152898314,0.0754046691045754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703177860261134,0.13751616506285633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555357418799375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305208882783291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435112397417703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980273231543798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958753179869066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107031982713647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885950197723465,0.0,0.0,0.14313547732798745,0.0,0.0,0.1134979798439873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056276576008285,0.0,0.0,0.09711490660869963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293147564164879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199238367394498,0.0,0.15690668516644002,0.0,0.09115337599940457,0.0,0.0,0.10892600645365114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283598127723598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22641815757005845,0.0,0.10890750493828057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238068108600664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879373797034154,0.0998873898368391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Link_Slater,2019/01/26,"How much TV is too much for a 26 month old? Thanks in advance for the help!

I’m a first time dad and I genuinely have no clue what I’m doing. Right now, I watch our son from about 9am to 3pm everyday, cook all of our meals, then work from 6pm to 2am-ish five nights a week. I don’t mind doing all this. The problem is there’s at least one day every week where I’m fighting exhaustion to stay energetic and fun for my kid. On these days, I would desperately love to throw the TV on for a few hours, but I always feel like a terrible dad whenever I do. What’s the right thing to do here?


TL;DR Is it okay to watch a few episodes of Sesame Street or an animated movie once or twice a week?",2.682980132450332,2.9166005099337764,4.2089337748344375,91.7813476821192,73.70198675496688,8.159205298013246,23.047019867549672,8.238735603445708,0.7821041059602649,531,12,135,8,10,178,101,151,0.08900000000000001,0.794,0.117,0.6164,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,2,0,0,3,7,9,1,0,12,1,10,4,0,1,2,12,16,7,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,2,2,0,1,3,0,2,2,4,0,4,0,3,9,5,19,15,7,25,0,0,2,1,9,8,0,2,15,80,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768685876750474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444355484012863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596696978572892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582155967274672,0.13538543018046026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119645232537275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702404068724996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866284156207884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925846362047344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710394769914106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135029703366527,0.0,0.15126445757786885,0.0,0.2786221752357689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17784157254951832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988580556550945,0.2018211426567324,0.12841635727036813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133473719006235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236796900995524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199162179151955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447463555752096,0.0,0.0,0.12590151017430212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050435470212966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.456038614476053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379649748563282,0.0,0.0,0.13462191811829816,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,4evercreatureteachin,2019/01/26,"My ex husband's birthday is tomorrow We've had like 3 revisions to our divorce decree.  Our most recent settlement has no provisions for parent birthdays. 

I've got 2 teenage boys. They asked me if they can go to dinner with dad tomorrow. 

I said sure, as long as dad texts/ emails me to ask/ coordinate details. 

Dad tells oldest kid that he won't capitulate to my manipulative demands. 

Am I wrong in asking for him to ask me rather than the kids if he can have them during authorized time? 

Same dude who hasn't paid child support in years or informed me when he moved and has generally been a dick to me...",4.3247928436911485,5.9104062627118665,5.323333333333334,80.24925612052732,71.11864406779661,8.63427495291902,29.212806026365357,9.150863307647796,2.46819472693032,481,19,93,10,9,158,90,118,0.092,0.867,0.041,-0.7234,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,3,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,11,2,1,1,1,12,20,7,0,3,4,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,5,1,15,3,14,14,2,12,0,0,0,1,29,2,1,4,9,53,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7463933806689368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343684766622375,0.0,0.15963774569528874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751410635184717,0.0,0.0,0.17663904607913564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121424037052351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22163133466722973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708016933457756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898645846845724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22650285181048616,0.188119921221505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17445853315723736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163879217815049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21823043495687047,0.0,0.12853536622422768
parenting,Machamix,2019/01/26,"I can’t decide if I want to keep my daughter in an academically reputable charter school or switch to elementary school closest to home. So my 6 yo daughter has been attending this charter school since kindergarten last year, and she’s been doing great in school ever since besides being a bit too talkative occasionally but her teachers say it’s nothing to worry about. I really love the atmosphere, and she loves all of the staff and friends she’s made. Some of her classmates from school surprisingly showed up to her birthday party, and it was a good turnout considering I have no other friends that are parents and no family with kids her age. 

The parents get really involved in the extra curricular activities/programs, it’s a small school (with majority of students selected by raffle process), and it encourages post secondary education very much (each classroom represents uni teacher graduated from). 

Now this year the school has moved from down the street a few minutes away to downtown 25-30 minutes away with a ton of traffic in between. She hasn’t missed a day but she’s been late multiple times, and despite all of what’s happened this past year she’s still doing really well academically. 

The elementary school I’m considering switching her to is literally walking distance, even if I were coming from elsewhere I’d be able to drop my car off home and walk her back myself until she’s old enough. The only thing is academically and from reviews online it’s seemingly dull in comparison to what she has going for her now.

Some background for why I worry: I’m currently attending a community college to eventually transfer for software development, but I’ve been working entry level jobs ever since I had her before I graduated high school (just turned 18 when I gave birth). Her father is a drug addict now and is already nearly not present in her life at all, though his family makes up for it (she’s very much loved and has a ton of people supporting her) I still worry how it’s going to affect her when she’s older and just hope she doesn’t have to deal with any unnecessary hardships and just cut the bullshit to succeed and be happy in life. 

Anyways, am I worrying too much about the switch affecting her in a negative way? It’s just a little over an hour commute back and forth but having to do that twice a day feels like a huge chunk of my day taken off considering all of my other school, work, and family obligations. Maybe I am blowing this out of proportion, but I’m just feeling a little anxious right now and don’t have anybody so far to take my concerns about the switch seriously and give me a definitive opinion of which route to take. ",10.251690654035345,8.28769047895792,9.879957187101477,64.62698260156678,59.04008016032064,12.760102022226276,41.51949353251959,11.389717465364855,4.726317835671342,2155,94,369,46,22,703,255,499,0.066,0.782,0.152,0.9939,5,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,0,3,29,19,1,0,28,0,32,7,0,5,6,60,59,33,0,4,14,5,2,1,2,0,4,1,2,1,20,25,0,1,4,1,0,9,8,4,1,1,10,3,45,15,64,46,17,71,0,2,0,3,42,29,0,8,31,261,65,25,0.06500949603003374,0.0,0.0,0.07086994643475268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173959543266767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04420868657103104,0.0,0.0,0.07344222629657939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221571230039291,0.0999765793007742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531829294592845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097353235294357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599992449570354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577724051385153,0.06702193584957329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539037624583071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717218753271079,0.0,0.04293815900867797,0.1176096220461056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18385550148040106,0.0,0.0657415090191686,0.046442796953367615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045235073955333,0.0,0.03396477850769348,0.06236303232147208,0.07389278947658418,0.0545268809153442,0.0,0.07167319887679421,0.0,0.0,0.057487682642201166,0.0692038173706376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868610182473782,0.13041965013687565,0.0645690980658888,0.06402125842383248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064511893680012,0.05778342707740668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052991415966329565,0.07333354313621315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918362592104345,0.03176035600379158,0.13031318725898575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602082492186974,0.06151355700747256,0.043394343407057265,0.0,0.0653107766323279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909480604649683,0.14336837901167315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062378364756621035,0.0,0.0682165303092117,0.0,0.0,0.049442651170926014,0.0,0.0,0.1443707039723767,0.0,0.06205891993847115,0.04506939908830642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226112691227585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494024346036925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551775440379725,0.0,0.05169816053319313,0.0,0.657930806737443,0.0,0.0591822035998262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613295807169185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383333501154876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737720056975,0.0,0.0,0.09775810096596003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04318942049638197,0.0,0.0638714997782683,0.0,0.03790755992763116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071166373395556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072792851399514,0.03834428509647685,0.05160151200567623,0.0,0.0,0.05845134425761039,0.0,0.058660958586836835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465537473845084,0.2640811954181264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255919520698721
parenting,paigeybaby3,2019/01/26,"Daughter doesn’t understand why her dad and I spit and I’m running out of things to say Hey Reddit. I’ll try to make this as simple and short as possible. 

My daughter is 8 and her dad and I separated 3 years ago. Recently, she has been incessantly asking why we can’t be together and why we broke up and why we weren’t happy. She’s been adding in things like she’s sad now (understandable) and that she was happier then (she was 4 when we split) and that she hasn’t been happy since. 

The last time her and I had a conversation I tried to explain to her that her dad and I weren’t happy with each other anymore and that we’re happier now. She said “well I’m not happier. So you care more about your happiness than mine?” That pretty much took my breath away. I didn’t think she could comprehend that concept and to be honest, I didn’t know what to say. I ended up explaining that we knew that ending our relationship was the best for everyone because eventually her dad and I would have gotten more upset and she would have seen us be unhappy. And by her recollection of events, it was clear we did our job right because she didn’t know we were unhappy. 

The problem is, I have the same answers and she wants to have this conversation at least once a week. It is very hard on me, obviously, because it leaves me feeling selfish and like a failure as a parent. I fear that continued conversations like this will lead me to lash out due to pure frustration. And I don’t want that. 

My daughter is very smart, she understands how to argue and with conversations like this, she has an answer for everything. 

I know I shouldn’t be upset but I don’t know how many more of the same conversation I can have. It’s like she’s completely unreceptive to my explanations. I’m trying my hardest to be diplomatic and explain in terms she can understand but I think we’re past that. It’s not like I can say “your dad left me and made me move out”. But part of me wishes I could because I have a feeling she blames me for all of this. 

Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? Anything I could say to her, a better explanation, literally anything. Thanks in advance. ",3.5610568993952723,5.189614992990652,4.868944474986262,82.5756981858164,73.1355140186916,8.586695986805939,26.606926882902695,9.168548406835145,2.114823034634415,1699,60,347,38,34,564,191,428,0.067,0.795,0.138,0.9769,4,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,10,3,0,4,8,26,2,3,13,0,48,2,2,5,4,81,79,33,0,10,5,9,3,6,0,4,0,5,0,0,25,36,0,0,19,0,0,5,13,9,1,0,21,9,71,17,41,46,12,36,0,2,1,0,63,14,0,0,23,244,96,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373171748662301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248959794784114,0.05815954919443207,0.0,0.13689577225298985,0.0,0.0777596103171647,0.0,0.07814787462080436,0.0,0.0,0.20281660435510715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728951535782674,0.07356362205010562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480486945517553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720988711063908,0.0,0.0,0.19923107878315005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473409181750666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947953895405932,0.07475445443211519,0.0,0.0,0.09359766291022943,0.08411395222605594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35417541672049235,0.07451058341130706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254070257849938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828484231936385,0.06780065589433397,0.0,0.08807282211931265,0.09037245295781132,0.0,0.0,0.24381756130421475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870443609489801,0.05552153856337569,0.08432879524999602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840437801890197,0.0611449354846153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858118157131534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235862302182468,0.09007298322325548,0.07940220881426929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376998401480713,0.0,0.08462128535928337,0.0,0.07958950716843458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212761562790409,0.0893013642319805,0.0,0.07103301721074437,0.07912072373884654,0.2645839239252055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880517777140274,0.0934948458533829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657854458884306,0.0,0.0,0.11051869379038654,0.10659339683684503,0.0,0.0,0.048501391774098415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241311557550344,0.1694159174964943,0.0,0.0,0.34636229111539096,0.1000521315168121,0.0,0.0,0.13726007814144062,0.09812033258338833,0.0,0.06671986687596063,0.0,0.07478644241342007,0.0,0.3002185463475837,0.0,0.09564986748016112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181736305258989,0.0,0.0,0.053563497471600566
parenting,Jollyoldstdick,2019/01/26,"How do you stop the hair splitting I have a defiant 10 year old. He's already lost technology, can't play with friends in winter, so there is no a whole lot of recourse I have here. But here is the typical situation:

Him: Enter kitchen
Me: ""Leave kitchen. Dinner in an hour.""
Him: No
Me: Now
Him: NO
Me: Say no again, you lose dessert.
Him: Nope (didn't say 'NO')...
(I didn't engage, but he lost dessert)

Similar situation: he does something very irresponsible, like breaking a basic rules in the house, I call him on it. He screams at me, calling me mean, and I tell him not to talk to me like that in my house. He proceeds to walk outside, and keep talking back. he's technically not in my house now. ( The rule broken was he took food into his room).

I don't push back when he does this, but he constantly seeks out minor technicalities in what I say and uses it against me. He gets it from Mom and Dad (me), because I did it when I was his age and his mom still does it, but to a far lesser degree.

The point is, he justifies poor behavior by simply arguing the rule - any rule - never applied to him in the first place because he complied with some minor detail. This is the kid who threatens to tell his teachers to call child protective services because I took away his iPad and made him eat chicken and vegetables for dinner instead of girl scout cookies. He leaves to said school officials that he built a slime lab in our minivan.

Anyone ever been here? I need to make this kid understand that even if he doesn't break 10% of a fair rule, he still broke 90% of it, and is responsible for the outcome.",4.183662173788356,5.127319750788644,4.993583309435046,84.92523014052196,70.73501577287067,8.034929739030687,29.23558933180384,8.296473431620573,1.8842315457413248,1239,47,259,18,22,402,170,317,0.147,0.813,0.04,-0.9812,0,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,1,2,0,4,19,11,1,0,16,0,17,10,1,4,2,32,30,17,0,2,7,3,1,2,1,0,0,5,3,4,14,12,9,3,2,1,1,5,14,6,0,1,12,6,37,5,33,18,3,44,0,4,0,0,53,17,0,3,22,161,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980641740721298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766692035780236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957632084519999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348837247363123,0.15302665050501688,0.0,0.18197226422143412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30481767832075035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752972711979474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612329058165933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181861923822297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572221912276333,0.09000811317384791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846390374888497,0.12032203334506213,0.0,0.07687743907892416,0.0,0.05198733870000362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799253791472053,0.34444678131085904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844475738417233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21072319212894344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722638906229296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11132082058660424,0.2172432710813332,0.08459572791928575,0.0,0.0941541874640838,0.06642046636211539,0.0,0.0,0.10839028918486328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330784794033613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378181463918371,0.07674451298789597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044139258944599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396171265445404,0.0,0.09406453824884613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465219274576897,0.2373914890565957,0.0,0.10070453332495127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369593583748912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660393284892446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589298971690219,0.0831907685444665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995695537456833,0.17394378982237574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22110778603494852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358837984953853,0.0,0.08594050903493837,0.0,0.08210217727169361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109395658874904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407806004851085
parenting,slynnry,2019/01/26,"Remember those movies where the kids hated medicine? Those are not my kids. My kids are connoisseurs of medicine. They’re sommeliers. I mean, I only give them meds when warranted. But when it is responsibly dispensed—I swear, they take that teensy teaspoon of ibuprofen, (poured into the measuring lid), swirl it around in the glass, admire its legs, sip, and swoosh. They sniff. They savor. 
They can tell the difference between a Benedryl ‘18 and a Tylenol ‘19. 
Then comes the critique: 
“I like the pink one better. I only like pink medicine. “
Dude. ",3.666875000000001,6.837618604166671,2.7716666666666683,89.44000000000004,81.70833333333334,6.116666666666667,25.70833333333333,7.492282038375204,1.5815583333333336,430,17,76,7,12,124,68,96,0.055,0.8220000000000001,0.124,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,5,1,4,5,1,0,8,0,4,3,1,0,0,9,9,6,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,4,11,4,6,9,0,8,0,0,2,0,10,4,0,0,5,44,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23737904974909674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23583424644431425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22969925091252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785972105549112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25579930576467896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632661249786676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605478506795344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904649360530646,0.2961930499122366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069199842672534,0.4056055446275491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020675809431379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200491007485504,0.0,0.2330677967904151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ridemyscooterbaby,2019/01/27,"Tball help! My son just started tball. He’s 4, so not the greatest yet. Anyways, one great advantage he has is he’s not afraid of the ball. However, he keeps getting hit in the face. I don’t want him to get hurt or start fearing the ball either. Tips??? ",-0.2343681318681305,2.039586057692312,1.3763736263736277,98.42576923076923,92.26923076923076,4.509890109890111,20.89010989010989,6.18269132825596,0.09032637362637352,193,7,44,2,7,62,42,52,0.185,0.654,0.161,-0.5367,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,2,4,0,3,1,1,0,0,7,10,2,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,3,2,3,9,2,4,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,1,3,23,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799798949938328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528440245394833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37228948714590376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22633741194290816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614896323750555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001423512456829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22881830713663026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4780182700933801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991703238763296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-Wait4It-,2019/01/27,"Coming out Hi redditor parents, 

I just have a question about coming-out. Some of my friends have told me their parents are fine with me being gay but would not be fine with their own child being gay. My parents are not outright homophobic but I am scared they will feel the same way of ""gay is ok as long as it isn't my own kid."" Ever since I was tiny my mom has been excited for grandkids and I feel like I will be a disappointment to them. I know I need to tell them eventually... I have a girlfriend for over a year and I'm sure they already put 2 and 2 together... I'm just nervous as to how to do it. If I was your kid, would you be disappointed in me? And, how would you want your kid to come out to you? I can always adopt or maybe use a sperm bank or something but I just know my mom has always wanted to meet my husband and hold *our* baby. ",1.6306666666666665,3.0317162888888918,3.381111111111114,92.195,77.77777777777777,6.355555555555558,22.555555555555557,7.03164865440522,0.4734555555555553,652,19,153,7,15,218,99,180,0.083,0.7979999999999999,0.119,0.3632,3,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,5,6,0,7,11,0,2,6,1,25,3,0,3,2,41,38,16,0,7,11,7,2,1,2,5,0,0,0,4,2,11,0,1,5,0,1,3,3,4,0,0,4,2,32,7,21,24,4,11,0,2,0,3,30,4,0,5,4,109,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430349677813838,0.0,0.2477763311712189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25651060222639666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467926631302876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056622148725246,0.10636683819547456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150318202002083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163651781045666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273999133768815,0.0,0.0,0.1317627075956938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957972530049954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487556564903282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039983299790283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4959732073742941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967528163180127,0.16679054961800407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906457320004424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231631062580088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462257244365046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032678913884794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013616865702676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227049792762694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859290452004155,0.0,0.0,0.17563801649040692,0.11818172113235773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173009332606923,0.0,0.0,0.09588009135828776
parenting,kayriggs,2019/01/27,"Feeling like a single parent First post here.

My fiance started a third shift full time job in November. He is also a full time student but has easy ass classes (he brags how easy they are). I'm a SAHM (job searching but right now I'm home pretty much all day every day). Usually my almost 7 month old sleeps pretty decent, but it's still broken sleep and she's up every 2-3 hours. I stay up until he leaves at 11:15pm and chat with him for a bit before finally falling asleep 12:30am-ish because I also have a hard time falling asleep. But he comes home at 7am and then sleeps as long as he wants (his strict rule is ""never wake me up for anything""), but my sleep ends exactly when my baby wakes up. And then from 5pm to 11pm he expects me to carry half the weight as well. Yesterday I took the baby out in 5 degree weather and snow because we needed food for dinner and he was still sleeping at 7pm. 

Am I the asshole for not wanting to be on baby duty from 11pm to 5pm straight? There are some days where he goes 48 hours and changes maybe 1 diaper. Or when I pass her off, he turns on a video and puts her down on the floor. I understand wanting to sleep but I'm wearing very thin lately, getting terrible sleep, and I don't think he understands it. ",3.087386569872958,4.077877831417627,4.280012099213554,88.84382940108894,73.36781609195403,6.874047186932849,25.23109497882637,7.0608816371341465,0.9488114942528728,978,30,210,9,19,321,158,261,0.071,0.835,0.094,0.705,3,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,0,1,1,12,3,0,0,11,0,10,16,13,1,3,37,26,27,0,5,8,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,13,3,1,4,2,0,6,3,1,1,3,2,4,20,2,31,23,7,57,0,0,0,1,19,22,1,3,28,115,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117735298486854,0.0,0.0,0.14563158154710745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492962182130497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101125486420936,0.0,0.07748018357472522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940730313257992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632297912923968,0.07843489375818156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761667463972757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064675114479629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534337175517344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04603960024818103,0.06504894207758559,0.0,0.09974512394849876,0.0,0.0774504219283326,0.11010276730849693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04757191760098708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156643181611625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826690213350177,0.0,0.17933954904255806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071394104536911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027127932153052,0.09641295922476567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04448434835069361,0.0,0.0,0.08057985815679526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147590595080156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267837407810157,0.0,0.06693511153410002,0.0675153315064059,0.0702264001097601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554577716913353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110460799581997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872044903382626,0.18526915201693828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153434369667657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775955427741238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6378377800577121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444843663238523,0.0970513687370954,0.14543156394457893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834367842180491,0.0,0.0,0.15928282737865662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116426077211874,0.0,0.09904052340039472,0.0,0.18958069383234855,0.0,0.0,0.10028303417643883,0.07512902390655304,0.16111789193606849,0.0,0.0,0.11087915034822432,0.08186841354081309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zmanzim2016,2019/01/27,I told my daughter that if she’d rather take a friend to the Panic at the Disco concert she could. Even though I really wanted to go with her because it’s a fun her and I bonding tradition going to concerts. But knew she’d be happier with a friend and she took me up on it and invited someone else. I don’t expect her to pick me but man it still hurts. All that matters is that she’s having the best time just sucks that’s not with her old man anymore.,1.967242268041236,3.399284319587629,3.6150386597938144,90.74049613402063,76.93814432989691,6.499484536082474,23.465206185567013,7.1686216300943375,0.7578670103092784,357,11,79,4,8,119,64,97,0.095,0.75,0.155,0.6059,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,1,6,0,7,0,0,1,1,19,15,7,0,5,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,7,6,0,0,1,2,0,3,2,3,0,0,3,2,16,4,10,8,2,9,0,1,0,0,15,3,1,1,3,58,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359701496783295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504454403204453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24970081703343164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997380134628786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19876632170553066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571555315787376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36765997758818103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27045082691322114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25471710706632034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24967547120579975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791684907759449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242891039819148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016037445690946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001726361900104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889945305210198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23377247027186945,0.0,0.13874331990050426,0.0,0.0,0.2273595601134196,0.2643574130204986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034175303430224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angryranter1990,2019/01/27,"Why can't children just keep something they don't want to eat on their plate? I have two kids, 3 and 5 year olds.  Every time they don't like something that is on their play, my Wife and I just say ""Just leave it on your plate if you don't like it"" (we aren't the type to force or kids to clear their plate or eat foods they hate), yet they insist on putting it on our plates getting upset if they can't.   They cannot just leave things on their plate if they don't like it, I don't understand this?  

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My neices and nephews do the same thing.  Do they think that it'll ruin their other food if they don't take it off that instant?",5.49656512605042,4.1637179632353,5.0886134453781535,93.18411764705887,67.89705882352939,8.065546218487395,26.046218487394967,5.288315135182226,0.4406630252100832,497,9,122,1,7,151,72,136,0.128,0.8340000000000001,0.038,-0.8356,0,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,14,0,5,7,1,1,2,0,15,4,0,0,1,20,22,9,0,5,10,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,3,13,4,4,1,2,1,0,1,10,3,0,1,0,1,23,4,10,21,1,12,0,1,0,0,24,7,0,6,7,78,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822224968456877,0.2043565891028992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441793780667468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169854359516654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067268139586356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786688542322868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604250979870674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948573167411985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561557687277726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464921325502517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647617078651034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906692215660085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13374314651081304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25894570327773603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645010852673086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22346207035571494,0.10776267944582628,0.0,0.0,0.09806686135406023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428700516127825,0.17508086643828638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991966694098882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517559057774754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043565891028992,0.1083021308883595
parenting,Fucksteamboatwilly,2019/01/27,"They Never Stop Eating!! I have a 15 year old daughter and twin 6 year old boys. They never stop eating! We eat breakfast, lunch and dinner. But, in between meals they are constantly snacking. I'm at the grocery store 4 times a week buying more snacks. I am also a single mom, on a budget. Any suggestions for snack recipes that I can make in a large quantity, be almost healthy, and have inexpensive ingredients, would be greatly appreciated. I know I can Google ideas, but I want recipes from people who've actually made them.  Who've had success with their kids actually eating them and the recipes are budget friendly. ",4.638684210526319,7.031597254385967,5.106877192982456,78.75347368421055,72.0701754385965,7.3670175438596495,28.94385964912281,8.238735603445708,2.2262554385964917,493,20,85,8,10,157,79,114,0.0,0.831,0.16899999999999998,0.9482,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,1,0,6,1,1,3,0,0,7,0,11,11,0,2,2,19,16,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,11,2,2,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,13,3,8,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,11,51,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.2959493254674889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184134550155104,0.0,0.0,0.12126309091963562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031175407893784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638644253900589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6206450990763921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715343949578523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717899991912585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711783560074386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333506761756086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348145615288002,0.10121807100321553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759401107598285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233901747162278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182325190940841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512516790957048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25354862976838943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842005181001576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943872096545055,0.0,0.12163308866283468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771771851769583,0.0,0.0,0.1952969615232288
parenting,AlessiaMorningstar,2019/01/27,"He loves my son more than his father ever did I recently started taking things slow with a life long friend. I’ve known him much longer than my son’s father. We finally moved closer to each other and I was excited that he finally would be out of my son’s life. Turns like there was more emotions there than I thought. 

I’m trying to keep my toddler out of my relationship because if things go south it’s going to hurt him. Except my not-boyfriend absolutely loves my son and my son loves him. 

Maybe because my son’s father was completely hands-off, it’s weird that he doesn’t see him an annoyance. He spoils him like crazy. If my son looks at a toy it’s brought. He plans fun days for son and actually enjoys spending time with him. He actually respects me as a mother and doesn’t undermine me. It’s so weird for someone to finally see him as an amazing little person. ",3.417771428571431,5.049225262857141,4.523857142857144,84.89264285714287,73.5142857142857,7.742857142857144,26.214285714285715,8.418075326091056,1.7045999999999997,691,24,140,12,14,226,97,175,0.076,0.741,0.183,0.9689,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,4,15,1,0,5,0,8,5,0,0,1,18,23,9,0,3,3,12,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,9,10,0,1,2,1,1,4,2,4,0,0,6,3,24,11,19,15,4,20,0,1,3,3,33,6,0,2,12,79,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.2731021109067274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059950946894545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14671347061769785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902429834911118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574019094404161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265742888460068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598579460708157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810922300884672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905037557521914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979747707456936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437581317182755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19767275836123985,0.13672501976411333,0.14024616963819936,0.0,0.12383324818228453,0.11750557961306153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788756455290536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057804051060696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872296647394415,0.1028643195497126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218108548730144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816354912877946,0.15023196923472085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22301146878513267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856185339515975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904285551023118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052096069473956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592595027157355,0.0,0.0,0.1110884322008816,0.08159404572946127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500297904777363,0.15220316832129066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940193735116684,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thefamousbrownbear,2019/01/27,"Tips for Flying Internationally with Kids What airlines have you found to be the most kid-friendly?

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[https://www.ourglobetrotters.com/delta-international-long-haul-with-kids/](https://www.ourglobetrotters.com/delta-international-long-haul-with-kids/)",41.23140350877193,53.79932231578948,21.65894736842105,-48.94070175438594,10.052631578947368,6.7438596491228076,32.64912280701754,7.793537801064563,3.3965649122807022,240,5,13,2,3,56,19,19,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599937278856834,0.4037212287320081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642959793687808,0.2566962329561418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5880632093806505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037212287320081,0.0
parenting,martimartimarti,2019/01/27,"Needing some help with developing creativity in my 10 year old son Hey there! I'm a 41 year old dad with a 10 year old kid. Lately i've been struggeling to try and develop the creative side of my son, any advice? Recommended toys? Activities?

Thank you!",1.2944897959183663,3.97183355102041,3.2746938775510226,84.05244897959186,91.04081632653059,6.881632653061224,23.3265306122449,7.957251820313856,1.7180530612244898,200,8,40,5,7,67,39,49,0.0,0.746,0.254,0.9122,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,7,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22633933227183345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575115947830126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552520264151459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612808528458481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717455328002441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7291481819282462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21324735523917326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725682493931387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4474728881766883
parenting,aylakunori,2019/01/27,"I(22f) need income to support my son and I after my son’s dad (25m) broke up with me My son’s dad just decided to break up with me, and I live under his roof with our 3 year old son.. 2 years ago I moved with him to a city 20 hours away from home just for us to live out here cause he had a better job opportunity. Now he’s breaking up with me and I have no where to go. I can’t move back home for multiple reasons such as I have no where to really stay out there, I was a foster child and don’t have any close family.. and I also wouldn’t want to deal with my son’s dad‘s anger of me taking his son all the way back that way. So I’m stuck with trying to live out here in this expensive city, or at least around here. 
I have been making about just under 1 thousand dollars a month with my artwork. I have strong aspirations towards being a successful artist, but I know that isn’t a dream that is easily achievable. I sometimes have strong beliefs in myself cause I feel myself improving, but I’m scared to put all my energy into that dream in case I never succeed. It’s important that I find a good path so that I can provide for my son and I. 
I’m just feeling lost. I’ve been depressed and anxious under the same roof with his dad after he broke up with me. 
I don’t want to be stuck here with this tension. I want to just finally be happy. I feel like my whole life has just been this constant struggle. I feel like I’m failing.. 
I just need to know where to begin from here. I’m scared and I just don’t know what to do. I never been on my own before, and now I need to somehow do it in a big city with our 3 year old son all alone. Any advise would be so appreciated",2.7120775623268685,3.2753310332409984,4.293123545706372,90.00222271468145,73.84764542936288,7.327246537396121,22.750249307479223,7.404127859558343,0.6048804653739612,1297,30,305,14,25,436,165,361,0.126,0.716,0.157,0.8919,2,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,0,0,9,29,21,1,4,10,0,28,1,0,4,5,67,54,17,0,8,11,12,4,2,0,2,1,0,2,1,12,27,0,0,11,3,2,4,10,10,0,1,9,4,48,11,57,39,7,53,1,5,0,0,25,25,0,2,21,206,60,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350976472371564,0.0,0.0,0.10925494331678412,0.0,0.08435963342857031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347247583871414,0.0,0.0,0.11917271078555385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390770659027993,0.0,0.0,0.0991105269014742,0.16222928649012208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976349518291661,0.0,0.0,0.09329657879429902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167328263432738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399629312640495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875467942699267,0.09085764847394036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944578030526154,0.0,0.2133539310017393,0.15072293661265718,0.0,0.1155582052078565,0.0964151700436864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059951913725148936,0.08847929232321357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229515945585383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21162843271867016,0.0,0.10388556146787102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468170200492063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173922230646956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451010481569517,0.10307333835990674,0.0,0.2794465506239003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515386615989945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041482533079342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842004313937897,0.22423653946739397,0.0,0.2346565994621075,0.1627194680530513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22138623098118948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604572989380914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757904932080723,0.10846041318912762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21122607946974736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433146458048936,0.0,0.0,0.11243739583716676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102801614890549,0.0,0.0,0.11970783488446447,0.0,0.0,0.07931471090156712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162020690495824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689045633503335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666069760581688,0.16746475090546528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777486634699942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493646400566321,0.0,0.0,0.2037946578658266
parenting,Phod,2019/01/27,"Never thought I’d have to make this post but I’m sure many have had to. I need advice for my 14 year old daughter’s first display of extreme trust breaking. Where do I go from here? My wife and I trusted our 14 year old daughter implicitly. She gets straight As and does well in school. We went out of town and thought she was at a friend’s house but she ended up spending 4 hours at our house throwing a party. There was alcohol and pot. We’ve learned the pot wasn’t necessarily the first time. We got a Walgreens drug test and it was positive. We’ve learned her boyfriend of 1 month was also a heavy pot smoker and may have been the one to introduce. She may also have gotten physical with him beyond what we would consider moral. 

Where do I go from here? This is a day I never expected to happen but obviously many parents do. I need advice and how to feel about this, how to reconnect with my teenager, how to build trust. I’m basically lost right now.",2.3562406447898674,4.44125022279793,3.448661485319516,89.43484599884859,77.86010362694302,6.5686816350028785,25.22999424294761,7.594959193182576,1.2083255037420837,755,28,159,11,18,243,114,193,0.015,0.833,0.152,0.9815,1,0,3,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,3,14,7,0,0,8,0,18,2,0,4,5,36,34,16,0,4,3,4,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,5,13,1,0,5,0,1,4,3,1,1,3,13,1,20,6,23,18,0,31,1,1,0,0,16,11,0,2,14,101,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732079058301752,0.0,0.14939604051999444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235845796723038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015482202196948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233366310928932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211532209272006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381497038685635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068346412512681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378154497578863,0.0,0.0,0.10800360739686694,0.0,0.07303599320990431,0.0,0.15889499380218938,0.0,0.11180511066159106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236183535881997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766779590431932,0.3226043547021261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260040683321752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331281137924068,0.28345601251735403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158131736873632,0.0,0.0,0.20730925058879635,0.21563372427375255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933781560411629,0.0,0.09472725149955122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522341405299012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388290582775164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938232815934326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147782510219573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317531046195479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22195981219429686,0.08151433370458698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569055856912514,0.12958937038450422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930482818551813,0.0,0.0,0.18004402131885058
parenting,greenbeanz17,2019/01/27,"My neighbor woke me up several times yelling at his 2 month old. Did I do the right thing? Seeking internet advice because my family is upset with me I live in an apartment and my wall is next to the family’s room. The family has the husband, wife, a three year old boy & two month old baby. One morning I was woken up hearing the infant cry & the Dad yelling vile things like “shut up damn it, zip IT! Quiet” aggressively and very loud. 

I told my mom about it & she told the wife, who apparently didn’t know, and blamed it on the husband working too much. It happened two other times, baby crying and Dad yelling at her. This was around 10am each time. 

At 4pm yesterday after work, I came home & tried to nap & again heard him yelling loudly & a loud shriek. I wrote on the apartment managers door saying the yelling happens regularly, please confront  them before I call law enforcement for a welfare check. 

My parents for angry with me & said since I played country music one night (I don’t anymore)  I can’t complain to the manager. But this wasn’t only about the noise but about what I was hearing. My mother told the wife again, & she cried for hours about how she was a foster kid and doesn’t want her children taken away, and that they are “good parents”. Everyone else is telling me to call CPS anyway because that’s how shaken baby happens. Ultimately I don’t want to be involved. But it’s affecting my life and stress & if something happens to that child & I didn’t do anything it would  be wrong. 

Did I do the right thing here?

(Tl;dr) neighbor yells at his 2mo babt and three year old son & it wakes me up. I told the manager to confront them before I call for a welfare check. My family thinks I’m in the wrong here for speaking up.  ",4.275428571428569,5.437227114285713,4.771714285714285,85.78728571428572,70.71428571428571,7.428571428571428,28.285714285714285,7.699297019823105,1.6059142857142854,1390,50,278,16,25,442,178,350,0.113,0.853,0.034,-0.9749,3,0,1,0,5,0,58.0,0,0,3,2,13,13,5,2,22,0,24,2,1,3,0,27,46,14,0,4,4,12,0,1,2,1,1,16,5,5,19,13,0,0,2,2,2,1,7,10,0,6,20,16,40,3,34,23,2,41,0,0,0,0,48,22,1,1,19,167,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05744290300314148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7006151085388717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058297788706387875,0.0,0.0,0.0483741041546164,0.05233009406590526,0.0,0.0,0.05522936704549882,0.0,0.0,0.07166818508630242,0.0,0.10004146234985713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007466589154555,0.06723307019846275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937139141165253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04910636807465272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05617049280994999,0.0,0.0,0.22166474836987804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04930510879538128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079294762132967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325073542750928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05896499974973514,0.0,0.05789025630688515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03230606951005847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0415207754021476,0.02871882238373766,0.0,0.051907221148326514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884694079472714,0.09384142484601772,0.0,0.04321289735951625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251729693754751,0.055164666016509566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467350702682588,0.0,0.0796669232994343,0.04470777081306676,0.0,0.0,0.13054502929069448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452702059465394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040218237328834,0.055916907701990815,0.04674728109916287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640902426364287,0.0,0.04862661251130115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525468368416941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733670756913117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137968048430156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716014416942418,0.03766632085065932,0.0,0.0,0.10283201615553983,0.0,0.0,0.22468197123979994,0.0,0.03991037903532396,0.0,0.11484656988525348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0485028369175208,0.06934448171712276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559069345618085,0.0,0.0,0.041758364172302914,0.1285418353245968,0.0,0.07570975094214856
parenting,softandteeth,2019/01/27,"5yo said she wants a new family Yesterday, my daughter (5) was being a bit of a stink at the grocery store. We told her that she needs to start behaving, or she'll be in time out when we get home. She pouted and said ""I need a new family"".

Obviously that was a bit upsetting and jarring. When we got home, we had a talk with her about it and said ""if you got a new family, you'd never see mommy and daddy again - is that what you want?"" Also said ""even if you're not behaving and we have to do things like put you in time out, we still love you very much"" among other things. She got sad and apologized, then moved on with her day. 

Just wondering if other parents have run into this, and how did you handle it? I'm dwelling on it a bit. Am I overreacting? Should I just drop it?",3.1745622895622922,3.7133414506172855,4.721537598204264,87.44237373737377,72.76543209876544,8.60695847362514,22.75196408529741,8.841846274778883,1.176720987654321,593,13,137,11,11,200,97,162,0.07400000000000001,0.8640000000000001,0.062,-0.4329,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,6,0,0,10,6,0,2,9,0,14,1,0,1,2,34,32,16,0,8,7,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,2,0,13,18,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,4,0,0,12,6,24,2,15,15,4,27,0,1,1,1,30,9,0,5,15,97,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951673745277662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897643058262037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674766949870902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860095251775186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365588529090828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217462519107129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855348662070908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23874122609026116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813929362216917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740566449703637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648231071542587,0.08748155806250013,0.17647976548982394,0.09178314277690468,0.34480411980415904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213974597273465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963178695435807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527998358554802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483069951044323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423157177262741,0.0,0.095036666958091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565082571843604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812180438473153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878426028155452,0.0,0.0,0.11371332468802305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981906792477932,0.14038316508102716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905465141067862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cambero92,2019/01/27,"Parents with three kids For parents that have three children, do they tend to favor the youngest child or the oldest child? Why or why not?",5.1780769230769215,7.025692192307695,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,69.38461538461539,5.2,28.384615384615394,3.1291,0.6528307692307691,111,4,21,0,2,31,20,26,0.0,0.8909999999999999,0.109,0.4696,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,14,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7760594862095537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6306597132084492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pollyporkchop,2019/01/27,"Advice: hiring a nanny during maternity leave? Hi everyone,


I’m not pregnant but we will start to try soon.


Hearing from everyone I know about how tiring, draining and depressing the first year can be, I am thinking of hiring a nanny to help me on weekday afternoons (noon-5). The main goal here would be to allow me to nap to help make up for the missed sleep I’ll have every night or to get outside on my own for some fresh air and a break.


To afford this, my husband and I would need to start saving up now and cut back a lot but I think it would make a huge difference to my well-being. My husband is not supportive of this as he thinks it’ll be wasted money as the baby will cry when I’m gone and he thinks I won’t ever be able to nap due to the crying anyway. I also sense some annoyance as his mother raised his siblings and him without a nanny and I think he thinks I should be able to do it on my own, but his mother is a much more energetic person who still to this day sleeps 5-6 hours a night max. I would at least like to try it.


Has anyone done something similar? Did it help?",3.7292105263157884,4.173161570175441,5.088000000000001,85.65700000000002,71.45614035087719,7.834385964912281,24.410526315789475,7.793537801064563,1.085124210526316,850,21,183,10,15,285,132,228,0.117,0.773,0.109,-0.2341,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,2,11,7,2,0,13,0,23,3,2,4,1,37,42,17,0,6,7,4,0,1,0,9,1,1,0,1,9,8,0,0,7,2,1,1,4,4,0,1,3,1,21,3,30,25,9,26,0,2,0,0,19,8,0,4,17,128,30,3,0.23328493705903125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398167027784305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327893994129048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155912606831613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969085838930113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562525491426117,0.07522474261087643,0.0,0.10046398722658838,0.0,0.0,0.12186655352943447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936574270577825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550979069229666,0.09827631048453328,0.2229137545662528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921602414437332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06094087556632224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146453934916014,0.0,0.2345489638128655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486933566554508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410365023973774,0.0,0.0,0.12350753232985998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056985618284857674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916525556964674,0.0,0.0,0.15571950697412731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085745635423636,0.0864889124432837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189221102748674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184770441022688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334534126506224,0.0,0.0,0.08979707090943828,0.0,0.0,0.16512027916136385,0.0,0.0931508260408902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236449101150533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484387041035687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340633587743887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838515903763614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487558740535996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243917726625688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33143785202981285,0.0,0.0,0.07511392545945715
parenting,iaspiretobeclever,2019/01/27,"Coitus interruptus Last night the 3 year old walked in on some adult activities (stealthy husband hid just in time and kid didn't see anything) and he totally cock blocked us, which sucked, but today the kid was throwing a fit for no goddamn reason and went to dramatically throw himself into the couch and smacked his face into the wall instead so I guess you could say we're square.",10.849166666666667,8.282417805555559,9.175555555555556,72.02500000000003,58.444444444444436,11.822222222222226,42.05555555555557,9.725611199111238,3.9204388888888886,310,13,58,4,3,94,63,72,0.174,0.784,0.042,-0.7927,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,0,3,2,2,1,1,14,7,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,6,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,3,3,5,0,7,3,2,17,0,0,2,1,10,7,2,2,6,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24310449848038676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23586787082450755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254371105206976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24080574844009986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27723052860921626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30999233248520963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30373972507498914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349288844835201,0.0,0.0,0.2354105330749755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226107612808958,0.0,0.2800224769840016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553524386324805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738561843380449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19024001947444397
parenting,ScarletteRose187,2019/01/27,"Need help picking a car seat! We have narrowed it down to three different car seats. Really wanting peoples opinions if they’ve tried any of these! :) We have a relatively small car (Prius). We’re getting it for our one year old and our almost three year old. They weigh 24 and 34 lbs. We’re buying online or it would probably be so much easier to pick, lol.

1. Cosco MightyFit 65 Convertible Car Seat.

2. Safety 1st Guid 65 Sport Convertible Car seat

3. Cosco Easy Elite 3-in-1 Convertible Car seat


(Also interested in any other car seat or brand that is comfortable and good that’s under $100! 😊 )

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parenting,twinsfan82,2019/01/27,Help with my Step son with adhd and autism spectrum disorder So I am a step father to 2 and father of 2. My wifes oldest son has some disabilities. And i am finding it hard to parent him and discipline him with out his anger and mine getting out of control. He isnt on meds as of yet due to a custody battle we are fighting with his bio dad who refuses to let him be on meds. We have phyiscal custody right now but not legal. And we are in a court battle to habe him permanently and habe all the rights. I just need advice on how to handle him better and communicate better. He is 13 but when he was tested they say his is mentally 7 or 8. Please help.,2.379685828877001,3.8123142279411804,4.3288770053475965,86.04767379679144,75.83823529411767,7.0042780748663125,23.39304812834225,7.686295010490155,1.0219058823529412,509,15,108,7,11,174,86,136,0.096,0.7929999999999999,0.111,0.7307,1,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,3,0,1,3,6,6,4,0,4,0,12,0,0,2,1,30,14,15,0,1,5,7,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,17,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,2,18,2,20,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,2,5,76,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23873742861897745,0.19411745003399794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513776977366813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280168334498165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276689011737433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156153695376087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378587485985652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795043614253653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663004010644013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20313200519940933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413083915204071,0.0,0.2001914138877565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729567568872146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22057614496900785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21805688851485225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33929022735994513,0.0,0.15797361429480214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TeamMarsh,2019/01/27,Splitting up. How to co parent Me and hubby are currently going through a separation. Were currently living together but may fully separate within next few weeks/months. Our kids are 1.5 and 3. What arrangements do you do for split parenting? Were keeping it amicable and want things to be kept and smooth as possible.,4.852202380952384,8.013446482142857,5.75,70.46166666666669,75.25,10.161904761904765,30.76190476190476,10.125756701596842,4.297319047619048,257,12,39,9,6,84,48,56,0.0,0.973,0.027000000000000003,0.1154,4,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,0,10,12,7,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,7,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,29,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412513387274667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27232824871682304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27054275676525696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24455285040277885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258429460260473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6804065277427078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454020163061957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354796940510636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071326912877125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WildPipe,2019/01/27,"How to deal with my niece? My brother and his girlfriend moved in with my mother and I. I'm a college student, and she's a real estate agent working from home.

My niece is pretty big brat. She is only two years and two months old, but nonetheless, she doesn't behave well at all. She has my brother and his girlfriend wrapped around their fingers. They constantly baby her. If she wants something, she gets it. And I mean anything. If she wants them to sit down, she'll start crying and tell them to sit down. Instead of saying, ""I'm cooking dinner right now, can you give a minute?"", they will say, ""oh whats wrong baby, you want me to sit down, ok I'm gonna sit down"". This issue doesn't seem like a big issue at all, but this situation applies to everything. She will cry and throw fits over every little thing, and they will cater to her and baby talk her. And when I really say she cries and throws fits over everything little thing, it is every little thing. I'm scared of what she is growing up to be, and it so hard for my mom and I seeing her becoming this spoiled child. 

I have only been stern with her once, if you can call it that. My brother said I yelled at her, which is laughable. 

She was crying and throwing a fit because they didn't put her favorite music on, panic at the disco. And it was out of nowhere. She didn't ask for them to play it; she just started bawling and throwing a fit, and they had to console her ask what was wrong. My brother picked her up as she was screeching, and started trying to baby her. As I walked by her, I simply said in a nice voice, ""you got to be nice for you parents [her name], you can't cry all the time."" She then wailed and acted as if I had just cut off her leg. That's literally the sternest talk she has probably gotten in her life, which is laughable. She now is more hesitant around me as well, simply because of that situation. I really don't think they have ever told her no, or been stern but in a nice way. 

Since I'm living in this house, I suppose I don't have to baby her like they do. They let her run everything, even letting her play with my wallet, taking out of my information, and hiding it around the house. They said it was my fault because I left it on the table, of which is taller than her. She had to crawl up on a chair to get it. 


How do I handle her? It's driving me crazy. ",3.2178260869565207,4.2111504927536245,4.132786749482404,90.01185093167703,73.05797101449275,6.679420289855073,23.94492753623189,6.742157984588678,0.6212626915113875,1820,49,397,14,35,587,209,483,0.13699999999999998,0.795,0.068,-0.9903,1,0,1,0,0,0,73.0,0,6,13,1,16,16,1,2,14,1,42,5,2,3,4,56,70,38,0,7,10,7,2,2,2,5,1,8,1,1,27,30,2,0,4,3,0,11,8,6,2,2,18,11,88,10,61,43,4,68,0,0,1,0,87,39,0,6,15,281,115,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435712551712207,0.20886057680930967,0.14622467645226997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302151317700434,0.08637271966436308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985738153202956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451323255212835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4295297695285757,0.0,0.08062726656693928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165452696049432,0.07074208039015265,0.13178437017318514,0.0,0.21086035285124946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171913317374843,0.07502261412131372,0.0,0.0,0.06254872649846595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005748811721615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844730060285016,0.0,0.0,0.18047915189273536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325412785013482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849713793578318,0.15994249127982002,0.05523942615212731,0.07641530067188884,0.23514978983670945,0.06905760024021168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851895932560819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091594279369684,0.062423526627153,0.08312092563254922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206436152272856,0.08328716259118242,0.0,0.118958838332624,0.0,0.09175824858625307,0.08683884676028501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956392799659542,0.08431962431026838,0.0,0.0,0.07861893738718204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901589678286377,0.10020192331285936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678775727337226,0.22317631574142094,0.1865783784439906,0.07829815464046078,0.0,0.062320299788204525,0.07119608297157892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06469306376940144,0.17581432737514593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602070345073627,0.0,0.0,0.16606447590077272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058801408566822276,0.1257185313307909,0.06835575777049847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587038221556787,0.05011144249836695,0.0,0.0,0.04560272544271491,0.0,0.0,0.07472947601415318,0.0,0.0530969475900288,0.0,0.15279239259278024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838431507251245,0.06207652481236505,0.0,0.0,0.14063372103222507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05693512157094158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101263526751734,0.0,0.05036229641256231
parenting,Kn0wtt,2019/01/27,"Stepfather/bio mother Vs. bio father In need of advice reddit community.....

Backstory:

I am a step father, married to my wife who has a daughter of 17 1/2.. she moved to her bio father's last year in hopes to make a connection with him.  I've been in her life for 10yrs as a father and he has not. There is no custody agreement between mother/father as he was lnt around at time of birth. He's never sent child support or been required too.. only time he's ever really done anything for her (or older sister) is when we've asked. 

So with that said, I've told her and her sister's that if they ever needed me to get them, to ask.. I'll make arrangements to fly out, drive or whatever even if their mother and I split, I'd get them home. 

She sent me a message saying she wants help, and if I could get her from bio dad's house. I travel allot as a trucker so getting around to her isn't that difficult. She also said he wouldn't allow her to leave until she turns 18 and if I or her mother tried to get her, he'd take us to court. Her mother gave me written permission to pick her up but in the back of my mind I see it on playing out badly. 

So redit, I ask you, what would you do?? 

(I'd put a tldr but I still barely understand it's use 😂)",1.3723342701272971,2.940148144486696,3.5410481071251465,90.04162340882792,78.96197718631178,6.094825591006777,19.799801620102496,6.8959733430537185,0.2465534468507191,954,22,210,10,23,327,146,263,0.034,0.918,0.047,0.2953,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,2,4,1,14,6,0,0,8,0,15,1,0,5,3,42,42,24,0,11,12,13,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,1,7,11,0,1,1,2,0,7,5,2,0,0,11,4,39,4,36,27,1,31,0,0,1,0,58,11,0,10,13,135,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894071392914191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055209410536386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085841975124028,0.2349282273727693,0.3700683262692393,0.0,0.0,0.10146195686941203,0.11017333746613277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535191093761076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503139623807742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715220440347081,0.2387139564671505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34469401895210106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844378448935661,0.0,0.13235732818285187,0.13105683528836867,0.0,0.15225341186795185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755744593040237,0.0,0.1397167575753136,0.0,0.0,0.09320069396478237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615625699284967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323260967967765,0.0,0.0,0.14024273044788524,0.0,0.19567957006083425,0.10176852778316092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035446653004323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326469160465194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453100837475615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510306973660549,0.10493250661169927,0.0,0.0,0.1051476380720921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537601338464067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149736110449056,0.0,0.0,0.0992105180354681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388304890212146,0.0,0.0,0.12608456512496574,0.0,0.08958587566014724,0.14352448995788775,0.0,0.13736535033316405,0.15872046640097975,0.11396305404662,0.0,0.0,0.077827951863463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373400380888436,0.0,0.0,0.08497193584857894
parenting,toomanykidsatonce,2019/01/27,"Your kid does not hate you lol My poor daughter lol 



My grand daughter is 3, almost 4. She has recently discovered the phrase “I hate you”. Not a nice phrase but many parents have heard it before. Sometimes it comes out during the toddler years, sometimes it comes out during the teen years but it’s definitely not uncommon to hear as a parent. Am I right? 




Anyway, granddaughter threw a fit and said I hate you to her dad. My daughter and her husband were heart broken. They stopped what they were doing and dad said “we really work so hard to give you nice things and you really hate us? Wow” then they got all sad and mopey and say they just “give up” because their own child hates them. 



Wtf kids! It’s just a little word. Tell her to not say it and move on. She doesn’t even know what she’s saying! It doesn’t take a child psychiatrist to know that your kid doesn’t really hate you for making them put on a jacket(which is what their original argument with her was about). Right? Lol 



I tried to tell them that she didn’t mean it but they were still all sad and insisted she did mean it.



It’s gonna be a long road for them....",1.5581975036710745,3.8651614625550685,2.3419218061674023,95.11849210719532,81.95154185022027,5.8978707782672535,18.268906020558003,7.1686216300943375,0.07744654919236416,880,20,194,12,24,274,119,227,0.157,0.701,0.142,-0.4641,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,8,11,1,7,12,6,0,10,3,16,1,1,2,2,34,39,14,0,0,9,8,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,5,16,14,0,1,4,0,1,5,8,8,0,0,11,8,37,4,16,26,3,23,0,2,0,0,54,10,0,1,8,120,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233379659979792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229728547530671,0.0,0.08696064413897578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606434495874354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943176576292405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749900921899703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607002213303595,0.0,0.0,0.08173488975681588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154688494002414,0.6053800044195448,0.0,0.0,0.11518149185601136,0.12110188199639725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232769086755448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242650396787456,0.0,0.09043959431490116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821613346518426,0.10360995931633944,0.0,0.22264120799916245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861739436417664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269514973013879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027344686273818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640671234765286,0.0,0.10090549602575408,0.0,0.0,0.17454839717569448,0.19442220046803307,0.2438093314897316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214746195865094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161327126027063,0.0854398181903979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683812150632005,0.0,0.17864633345500106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789399358410414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938387718894441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292832175816518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439937062517095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162080111357088
parenting,BumsRush,2019/01/27,"Swimming help for toddler? I'm taking my 3.5 year old niece swimming later today. She's only been in pools a handful of times (all with me) and she's very clingy. She's ok if I'm holding her (her arms wrapped around my neck), but refuses to walk on her own in the pool. There are two pools where we go: a small, hot-tub sized warm kids pool and that's up to her chest and a big ""colder"" that is decently deep. Even in the kids pool where she can touch down, she still clings to me and doesn't like to put her feet down. Any suggestions for getting her more comfortable? We have a puddle jumper floatation thing, but she still gets upset if I'm not holder her. I bring a bucket and toys for her to play with, which she enjoys from the steps. I certainly don't want to push her into anything, but was hoping to make a bit of progress. Any thoughts? Thanks!",3.1718549450549465,4.311118422857145,3.482857142857142,94.06868131868131,73.34285714285714,6.527472527472527,22.60439560439561,6.67199483983844,0.3115978021978023,664,16,150,5,13,205,112,175,0.04,0.779,0.181,0.9802,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,1,8,10,0,1,9,1,8,5,5,1,2,25,21,10,0,4,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,11,0,2,1,9,0,8,3,1,0,1,3,3,24,9,24,18,4,29,0,0,0,0,23,14,0,3,8,90,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053111680427189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472971161635704,0.19983673815960448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24507640628475624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826836643834865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23456535361743244,0.0,0.12757839926313205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504656771176292,0.0,0.0,0.22296146163816705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967065684466952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984360201211155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355562918054956,0.0,0.0,0.17072881769366788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256665989107094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585435267705981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878266640878414,0.0,0.0,0.20667303635577916,0.0,0.0,0.14913598934512515,0.0,0.0,0.17821378045268302,0.13089736765374022,0.0,0.2127828639235401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192864767812557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852213127856706,0.13240540919213442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445591675805187
parenting,mrawesomekid,2019/01/27,"Anyone know of any marketing companies or products that promote unhealthy parenting methods? I know not all chemical products are healthy for our children, and sometimes, tools and accessories can try to promote good parenting, but can ultimately have the opposite effect on children. Anything we should beware of on the shelves?",11.87358974358974,13.248381230769231,9.777692307692307,55.83397435897436,54.0,13.087179487179489,55.794871794871796,12.45797560212912,8.039094871794871,272,20,31,8,3,82,42,52,0.039,0.8220000000000001,0.139,0.5514,2,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,1,11,7,4,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,23,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21600809801931614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22210333577299296,0.0,0.2613930824064899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26642383547235426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491365157970218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7054098095557947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31415699904608463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21565871199826891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,upcomingdad,2019/01/27,"My latest blog post - how to get more people to your parenting blog Hi everyone 

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parenting,rockbandit,2019/01/27,"It’s just over a month past Christmas... Is anyone else still singing Christmas songs to their little ones at bedtime every night because they insist? 😂😭😭

Our almost 3-year-old wants me to sing ""Rudolph Shiny Nose"" every. single. night.

I guess it wouldn't be so bad if it had just replaced ""Wheels on the Bus"", but she still wants that one too. ",3.1339303482587053,5.244510776119405,2.678432835820896,95.74859452736321,75.56716417910448,4.466666666666667,21.61442786069652,3.1291,-0.33718706467661663,270,7,55,0,6,79,57,67,0.044,0.956,0.0,-0.4109,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,9,7,3,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,6,0,5,4,1,10,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,3,6,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148029847580472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999191976925633,0.21979310152240947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179108729055028,0.1307646477219281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919741973241582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614715651824781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23630937556884696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21499758146054032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122159361139755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40261034151542296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250944718735492,0.0,0.29071804030744064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047761700173528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34261944430993385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530497099174436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381388254654873
parenting,laurenmcmahon,2019/01/27,Mom Fail So I was on my way to work with my SIL we had my 6 month old son in the back seat as we were supposed to drop him off at my parents to babysit while we are at work. We get halfway to work and realize the baby is in the backseat. 😂 had to turn around and drop him off. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m a hotness mom 👏🏼,-3.1732000000000014,-1.6358335866666636,0.39366666666666816,105.5985,98.2,3.5333333333333337,16.833333333333336,4.935628992294339,-1.1172666666666666,231,7,68,1,10,83,52,75,0.109,0.8909999999999999,0.0,-0.7717,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,4,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,9,5,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,11,0,15,5,0,15,0,1,0,0,10,8,0,0,4,41,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21785340293371325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881751956289364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785652169496106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5732281052205952,0.1953338141634736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25679332151272705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717334965158072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26618596574211084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424798656502626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5344789884784648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwawaydunoughway,2019/01/27,"How do I get over my bitterness towards my SO? Hi there! 

So, long story short, my SO and I dont live together because life took one of its famous turns for the worst. He lives with his mom,dad and younger sister so he gets tons of help when he has the little one. I live with family as well but I get ZERO help. I have never gotten help except for the 6 months SO and I *did* live together and even then we were constantly at odds over who should be doing what (I was a stay at home mom, he worked). There was even a point where he spent 3 months in another state looking for work while I was with our LO 24/7 with no help. 

When I ask him to wash LOs blankets and coat, his mom does it but *I* alone have to wash all of her other clothes as well as mine. His mom helps him clean up after LO but I have to clean up myself. Etc. I don't want to be bitter about it but I am. Besides this he is a grade A+ dad.

I feel like I had to learn how to be a parent 100% of the time while he is part time with an assistant. 

I just don't want to be bitter anymore.

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parenting,Dancersep38,2019/01/27,"Difficult transitions So we're starting to discuss having a second child ( we ultimately want 3 or 4.) It feels like life is just starting to feel normal again after having the first (almost 1 year) and it's made me curious; What do you think is the hardest transition? 0 kids to 1? 1 to 2? Some other transition?

For us, so far, going from no children or pets to puppies was honestly the harder transition than adding the baby. We were totally carefree adults and then suddenly every decision had to be refocused around dealing with these helpless beings. The baby was a major adjustment in scope, but we'd already pretty dramatically changed our lifestyle for the dogs. This has me thinking adding #2 might be the smoothest transition yet? Or am I just kidding myself? 🤣",5.657636363636364,7.745825542857144,6.3993506493506525,71.85110389610394,68.57142857142857,9.376623376623376,34.15584415584415,9.800150414767053,3.8632142857142853,616,30,96,15,11,202,104,140,0.038,0.851,0.11,0.8425,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,1,0,1,7,4,0,0,9,0,16,1,0,1,1,25,25,9,0,2,6,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,5,6,6,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,5,2,10,2,14,15,3,13,0,1,0,0,13,3,0,6,10,72,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291643098560556,0.0,0.25254617541405033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037286569850389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420972786860213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359385143667537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928194383819601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23143100499252345,0.16349340521598965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946631691776816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300630513765708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164640940648073,0.11180654686120206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165472702300361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24277802040346574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22422841457439585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23282688063243254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239682008450793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932809159795514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752832881559355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498406969955648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737452851403438
parenting,Mylifey023,2019/01/27,My child never listens to me If I tell him not to mess with something he messes with it while looking at me smiling . I can repeat my self a million &one times &he DOES NOT LISTEN .. its annoying.  I shouldn't have to scream at the top of my lungs for him to stop doing something even popping his hand doesn't do anything.. when he gets upset he will literally bang his damn head on the floor or wall until he starts crying cuz it hurts 😑😑 I'm at my wits end... please any advice ,1.1012121212121215,3.421453060606062,2.580606060606062,92.59090909090912,84.05050505050505,4.4080808080808085,20.11111111111111,5.565023196281405,-0.1145434343434344,379,11,78,2,11,123,74,99,0.14800000000000002,0.72,0.132,-0.4082,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,7,2,1,3,0,7,3,3,1,1,10,13,6,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,1,0,5,13,0,13,11,0,16,0,1,1,0,13,7,1,2,9,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21465702139573992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4760203594470542,0.0,0.1493817686570149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076804213654324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24129497659550986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223294186657186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456064176975124,0.0,0.0,0.14508863829932284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476746040330713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22544273606260426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23515913085935114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844657901626497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694214990756745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411294923523012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22916162555216665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382223075779766,0.0,0.0,0.15548213677871262,0.0,0.0,0.18365227906630816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919995090154451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809017382506827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jaazeps,2019/01/27,"House guests during flu season Our daughter is exactly 5 months old, has been breast fed since birth, and has been perfectly healthy so far. We haven't gotten her a flu shot because our doctor hasn't recommended it, but so far the flu season here in Latvia has been relatively mild (although it's expected to get worse).

My birthday is coming up next week, and I decided to invite about 20 people in a Facebook event expecting that as usual only 5 or 6 people would actually come since we live quite a ways from most of our friends and they're usually busy with other things. This time though, almost everyone has said that they're going to come, including our two best friends who have a son just a week older than our daughter. I sent a message out to everyone to confirm how many people were actually coming, and it looks like there could be up to 15 not including my wife my daughter and myself.

My wife and I are wondering - should we move the party outside of our apartment and keep that many people away from our daughter? My wife says that she's happy staying home for a few hours with our daughter, but I feel bad celebrating away from them especially since our friends' son would be there regardless. Are we overreacting to the threat of germs as long as we don't allow anyone to touch her aside from us? Latvia is not the kind of place where people would even think to touch babies uninvited. Or should I just cancel the while thing altogether? Thank you for your input!",9.223386257870246,7.6052776512455535,8.50334519572954,72.59716397481522,60.74377224199289,11.635477689570218,35.49438817410348,10.389873798559362,3.4367791404325216,1184,39,219,21,13,373,164,281,0.07200000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.152,0.9828,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,15,2,1,3,12,11,1,0,12,0,25,6,1,2,2,47,41,20,0,9,8,10,3,1,4,5,4,2,1,0,12,19,1,1,4,0,0,7,5,2,0,1,8,6,32,9,33,25,3,37,0,0,1,1,40,12,0,5,17,144,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.1981716257219011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016749953469612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709972804232628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907953773983652,0.0,0.0847794513366876,0.06189622999722296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655719113558106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498617670651609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106931687812227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392778673365116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706446624965312,0.0,0.0,0.19404659056653092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051340338228360455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534252893246635,0.0,0.053049077894694895,0.0,0.057706019544801174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080884039174175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185024727222652,0.0,0.0999938428649838,0.11716047656513608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025106768641003,0.0,0.10573553165245733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496060234641818,0.0,0.08965934591045173,0.08985736517828749,0.08526580650000044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588588484771328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104614911821395,0.10791814076600496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079861303977878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065463750708539,0.0,0.0,0.07722373495509656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519660907491402,0.0,0.10608492626439514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799747696183476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658527771250627,0.08074658118310947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25197825130029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822531189733044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348195575594186,0.0,0.0,0.13491381559401727,0.06506103805235589,0.0997599370836716,0.0,0.05920724903132256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918724320212224,0.0,0.12213693772792045,0.0,0.22365810586672125,0.0,0.0,0.08059562729823459,0.16289428525518318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011293167137504,0.0,0.0,0.10347524070291506,0.21638767411265056,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,4wisa2,2019/01/27,"Parents and Teens Nicotine addiction Parenting has its challenges, and products made & marketed with no forethought of consequences to teens, make it even harder ...",16.8808,15.237288280000007,12.568,49.48400000000001,46.2,16.400000000000002,61.0,14.554592549557764,9.1082,137,9,15,4,1,39,23,25,0.08,0.873,0.047,-0.2263,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,2,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619508856609968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35974360847819914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929612570191775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141654193221575,0.22162597573461293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7373379943840183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MichelKungFoucault,2019/01/27,"My daughter is not a good friend. My daughter will be 8 next month and is in the second grade. She splits her week between my house (where it is just me, my husband, and her) and her dad's house (where it is her dad, his wife, and their 9 month old son).



Full disclosure: I had her at 18. Her dad and I never REALLY lived together after she was born. Maybe a couple months when she was just over 1? It's a complicated story but for essentially as long as DD has known, we've been split and civil so it's always been her life. I was also in college for the first 6 years of her life and was basically always stressed and tired, as well as dealing with my own depression and anxiety. I wasn't the best mom, certainly, but have been working on that recently through spending time with her, being more physically affectionate (she likes to cuddle) and trying to share her interests. We also have put her in sports and extracurricular activities (only one at a time, so like in spring she would do soccer and then choir in winter).



All that was just to establish that, despite the fact that her parents are divorced, I've tried to do whatever I can to provide for her (getting  degrees and then a good, stable job), support her (reinforcing ideas that she can do whatever she wants and she should always stand up for herself and always believe in herself) and engage her (activities she likes). I thought I was giving her as stable and as good a life as I could. However, I'm afraid that I failed.



I love her to death, and I think that 80% of the time she is a great, intelligent, funny, creative girl. She wants to be an aeronautical engineer! She makes great jokes! But that remaining 20%? That's awful. It is attitude-filled disrespect, meanness, and entitlement. That 20% was all that was there when her best friend (since they were 2.5!) slept over last night. DD ignored her friend, whined at us about not wanting to do what the friend wanted, and constantly complained. The 20% feels like it's growing no matter what I do.



I've asked her a million times about how she feels, what is going on. I've tried to give her tools like writing in a diary, meditation, deep breaths, time outs...I have an MA in teaching so I know how to deal with kids her age, but DD proves impervious to nearly everything I suggest or try to equip her with. Her dad doesn't want her to see a therapist or anything which I've suggested. I try so hard not to yell, I try to talk with her, I try to avoid grounding. But after her behavior last night, I did yell. I did ground her. I made her write a note to her friend and to us. My husband agreed it was what should happen. But tomorrow will come and new challenges and issues will arise.



I don't know what to do. I don't know what I need from you all. I guess...am I alone? Are all 8 yo girls like this? Did I fail? Is the damage from being the kid of a teen mom irreparable? Am I approaching this wrong? Am I a shitty mother?",3.4495891641098564,5.031973814113599,4.365129461947165,86.26295723265736,73.33734939759036,7.668352914764648,25.19497867245379,8.321376580360154,1.4585987128638782,2290,73,475,38,46,740,270,581,0.16,0.7020000000000001,0.13699999999999998,-0.9437,3,2,0,0,1,0,100.0,3,1,2,7,19,39,0,3,24,1,56,8,2,4,8,81,84,50,1,10,14,15,3,6,5,6,4,3,0,4,27,30,0,2,11,4,1,5,9,11,1,4,21,7,87,28,63,52,9,62,0,5,1,2,90,23,0,2,39,325,114,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767184031162552,0.0,0.11847402355694295,0.2465422605781099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056666465355420075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095665299012493,0.0,0.06924926175208783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345611759805713,0.15547234541356014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380825746774764,0.0,0.08004776080906899,0.0,0.059142122187134626,0.08196155613205225,0.0,0.0,0.1527342394543602,0.06379989307767953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657300314378455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749081569589474,0.0529185346624917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300737116601544,0.0,0.0,0.2861472366682243,0.0,0.038700647391412164,0.14211720671670758,0.04209800440261041,0.18638946146935087,0.0,0.16333386048827422,0.08160094584888794,0.0,0.06550346073304388,0.0,0.06635582242380911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094307655102806,0.0,0.08362061542495351,0.0,0.07731409024722992,0.07350709056727367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212752482021268,0.12076051687603585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569621314317255,0.2171331113111849,0.0,0.06540876616767817,0.06555322624437225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685474559381899,0.07009068170423913,0.04944502089415862,0.0,0.07441736552866006,0.08068838427377119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17350932499099786,0.1773756621565786,0.0,0.0,0.054924988730946166,0.057130493897930686,0.07154120414149975,0.07877862012952666,0.13902700473528493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777282821133187,0.0,0.050194510918824715,0.05633667266898777,0.0,0.0,0.08225049527143702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446490573118933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047453749831477966,0.0,0.07313921364181754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059027448132677525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061274841089822674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485160373553581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405838357548821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595379363759833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086005711441912,0.0,0.047463676891455885,0.0,0.05880654215318229,0.21596594688461945,0.08513725357276013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520400465607184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820398574535107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845404595504667,0.0,0.059417755651200374,0.0,0.06660149022186104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392680951275743,0.0,0.0,0.05262009826890858,0.08098837371283371,0.0,0.04770127630062703
parenting,dinomama713,2019/01/27,"A surprising tip of the hat. I mentioned to a coworker that LO was cranky after getting vaccines yesterday and she, without skipping a beat, goes “Way to go for vaccinating her!” ... I sometimes forget that keeping your children safe is a debated topic.",7.205378787878788,8.774843931818182,7.830000000000003,65.04833333333336,64.22727272727272,10.412121212121212,44.21212121212121,10.504223727775694,5.527266666666668,199,13,28,5,3,66,38,44,0.044,0.833,0.123,0.5255,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,6,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637656412396873,0.0,0.2869204490008025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487378798200177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993140135539678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007300062337107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.486661726082695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Needimprovenentguy,2019/01/27,How much maternity leave should my gf take for the development of the child? Pretty much as the title suggests. If money was no object should my gf look after the child for years or should the child go into nursery at some point so that it was interact with other children and learn new things?,7.752619047619048,7.39353521428572,7.282857142857143,76.09547619047622,62.92857142857143,9.609523809523813,29.380952380952376,8.841846274778883,2.1614238095238103,236,6,43,3,3,74,43,56,0.063,0.884,0.053,0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,11,8,6,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,8,3,3,7,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,3,3,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386715709400648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36119831662221696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864560687754451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5015269690597141,0.0,0.0,0.3294571811374152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224699903799784,0.0,0.0,0.3470431069050425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25648084544413136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266259056527972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21967100239993406
parenting,kcoolthanks,2019/01/27,"I can’t be the only mom going through this... I’m a 28yo single mom (life clearly didn’t go as planned for me) and I’m the only one out of my friend group that has a child. 

The majority of my friends treat me like I am less than for being a mother. They never want to be around us, they don’t seem to care about my daughter and they treat us as a major inconveniences. Mind you, these are friends that I’ve had for my entire life. 

I thought having a child was supposed to be the happiest time in my life. But it’s so hard to enjoy the miracle that I created, because of how I am treated for it. I have lost the majority of my friends and I feel so alone.

How do I get past these feelings? I just want to be the best mom for my daughter but I can’t seem to pull myself together. I have zero encouragement or help from anyone in my life. I feel so lost. ",1.2241598360655743,2.754089322404376,3.3143408469945363,91.67183913934427,79.27322404371586,6.323633879781423,22.91290983606557,7.1686216300943375,0.6198090163934431,658,21,154,8,16,224,97,183,0.055,0.746,0.199,0.9725,0,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,1,3,4,8,14,0,0,12,0,19,4,0,2,2,22,35,13,0,2,4,6,4,1,4,0,4,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,6,0,0,3,5,2,0,2,6,4,29,12,25,24,6,10,0,2,0,0,21,4,0,3,4,111,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192756686632034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906726206800418,0.0,0.0,0.11339546627679868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764984384356455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133677757958085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987269738208565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932219093062779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39365479119219343,0.0,0.06655094526359627,0.0,0.14478631111098475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410772180074108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538032482185894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598898699452825,0.06223157655751789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27810127242803845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861778311492034,0.4475587762168216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982435341153261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631618264434925,0.1937569044366386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215989023160442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319244679578223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112572351557753,0.07427647276571618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064456152670267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026439333613398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hosedatwork99,2019/01/27,"What questions do I need to ask the physician when getting the results of an autism screening (that will almost definitely confirm our daughter is autistic)? I have a four year old girl - and I'm fairly certain the doctor will tell us this week that she's autistic.  I anticipate this diagnosis because she's had very obvious developmental delays.  This has been a heartbreaking hell for my spouse and I, but I think we're ready just to hear that formal and final yes/no.  But from the reading and research I've done, I realize there's a very wide and very deep spectrum of issues that ""autism"" can include.  She seems moderate- to high-functioning... she can follow directions, she's just a jerk about things sometimes (sorry for lack of better way to describe it - she's her own worst enemy in terms of growth).  But anyway, I guess my real question is... what kind of things should I be asking the doctor during that assessment results meeting? ",6.2246339113680165,7.671570225433527,6.1978179190751455,76.30497350674376,66.39884393063585,8.541233140655107,32.33574181117534,8.841846274778883,2.8201487475915226,751,31,126,12,12,237,115,173,0.124,0.816,0.06,-0.9225,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,0,1,6,7,2,0,10,0,14,3,0,2,2,26,24,9,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,13,5,0,1,5,1,0,2,0,4,0,1,3,2,19,3,14,17,4,13,1,1,1,0,19,3,1,5,7,87,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384357589843894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872565614997837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365466233768163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587795151873594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31450451100105403,0.0,0.15722226879926762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829997849593964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026811128522578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692466210224608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731581664437212,0.0,0.0,0.162324145990458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035535367446455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15998753905448576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391863973763072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121441937598627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34421342890864265,0.0,0.15367689139882384,0.17487062409067242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986382109277407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519492554748718,0.17198215739430447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428403749810922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041369538130648,0.09844330665059614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480436792967925,0.0,0.0,0.3802956758394239,0.0,0.12194856230902035,0.12323698295515448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893610605066212
parenting,SMVR2,2019/01/27,"To all parents. Nothing in the world is more shameful than failing your children, you may think that parenting produces no result, but do you want your kid to end up like these
https://youtu.be/-XegW4wTG9s",10.481470588235293,11.685085970588233,7.698823529411764,70.14470588235297,56.941176470588246,9.15294117647059,40.52941176470589,8.841846274778883,3.7529882352941186,169,8,25,2,2,48,31,34,0.154,0.728,0.118,-0.1099,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,4,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,7,5,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,5,4,2,4,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,1,2,19,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205599675595693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681928982612266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472787948429745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8037543831387006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319082591265241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347396920991726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cranberrylime,2019/01/27,"Don’t know if this is normal toddler behavior or something more? My kid is going to be 3 in the spring. She’s been a relatively very happy kid, good sleeper, easygoing etc.

Until about 2 weeks ago it all changed on a dime. She’s had some big changes (we moved but not far so her schedule is the same), and recently her baby brother was in and out of the hospital (he’s ok now!). Also it is winter so despite our best efforts to get outside and run around, it’s not easy when there’s frostbite warnings.

She wakes up MISERABLE. I mean crying/tantruming. Right now she’s melting down because I made her the breakfast she asked for. She’s in the other room pounding on her little legs with her fists saying “I DONT WANT THAT!!!” She’s also telling us to get away from her, leVe her alone, etc.

Is this normal toddler behavior? Is it all the changes? It’s weird because I feel when she’s out of the house at grandmas or something then she’s her old self. She’s okay at day care (3x week, other two days she’s at our home with a family member) 

Any advice? We are stumped. It’s so sad to see her being so incredible miserable and havig so many huge meltdowns. She seemed really happy in the new house originally so I’m not sure if that’s even a issue or not. I don’t even know if we are supposed to be coddling her when she’s saying “go away leave me alone!” (I do - it’s what I would want. But I was out of the house a lot when the baby was in the hospital so my husband thinks it’s a reverse psychology thing...) just now she told me “I don’t want to be happy right now”

I don’t know. Any insight?? Is this normal? It’s such a radical change and I miss seeing my kid generally happy :(",0.5418965517241361,2.7971120977011523,2.5869080459770117,92.01139655172415,86.06896551724138,5.319080459770115,21.34367816091953,6.742157984588678,0.4687491954022982,1302,44,281,16,40,436,173,348,0.131,0.764,0.105,-0.8823,0,2,2,0,0,0,49.0,6,0,0,2,24,15,0,2,18,2,25,3,2,2,3,51,47,28,0,10,13,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,18,14,1,0,8,0,1,4,9,5,0,1,7,5,46,10,33,35,9,51,0,4,2,0,42,25,0,9,22,190,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563393348038333,0.07768134898139786,0.0,0.0,0.18152267637096275,0.0,0.1401601243179168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191868624392521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801193115217141,0.08192500638278348,0.0,0.16466813815030446,0.0,0.0,0.10684050201997253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196540560931117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934766317717448,0.0,0.3708162909721415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303204434741422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270519948430333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546787406615587,0.11576151313474048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261257407122137,0.0,0.04430986758352907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156922989041694,0.0,0.09960768366696192,0.0735023856053347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731477454311054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08790302373756237,0.0,0.0,0.3033500780341544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914660629835876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448238143286513,0.0,0.0,0.09279067223774032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783126761129995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450242550680615,0.0,0.0829204442142708,0.0,0.08884608681717311,0.0,0.09545800531867607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931399887926885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463647781411443,0.0,0.0,0.25758514141812017,0.0,0.0,0.09195607068062987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561399307294945,0.0,0.08652699527525308,0.0,0.0,0.14967617159197688,0.0,0.13937852548348978,0.0,0.0,0.13966427778945176,0.07977777340173746,0.09142030980953604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492829817720092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259304621907627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659508678722952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821945774460543,0.05615167489010324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837370674769788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560468754047948,0.0,0.10541168454539646,0.0,0.0,0.07230638587290249,0.15506460565557578,0.0,0.14058778065828256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06225195442481461,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bxbx19,2019/01/27,"Ugh why cant I get myself to sleep earlier! I've always been a nightowl, and have been trying to be better but last night my wife has been out of town and I was up on the couch until 2 just flipping through. Little man starts babbling to get me up at 630. Usuall I just stay up because I want a few mindless hours before I wake up to hit another work day. Only one solution just venting for a moment :)

Hes going to start walking any day I think so that will be interesting. I let the dog out when we came downstairs and the cat ran into the snow, had to quick put the little one in his high chair and run outside in boots and my pjs.

Yet it's still all worth it",2.182282398452614,3.3670200070922007,3.719729206963251,91.22454545454548,75.87943262411348,6.2620245003223705,22.747259832366208,6.574015621080383,0.4147248226950353,515,14,116,4,11,171,103,141,0.041,0.8420000000000001,0.117,0.8687,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,2,8,3,0,0,8,0,13,2,2,0,1,17,23,9,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,10,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,1,0,2,7,0,14,2,21,11,2,36,0,0,0,0,5,15,0,0,14,76,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539953471653204,0.0,0.0,0.1258558109363921,0.1940649067175048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281862570573475,0.0,0.15748327214246735,0.0,0.0,0.16368180047227016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21167391284246345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387132157353788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933857381396079,0.0,0.1051811042495614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955395130620451,0.0,0.0,0.18225937074954005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085898601385525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18924941769923215,0.0,0.0,0.37098301556266017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367823114270384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508201593223872,0.14075615994526305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860492230876465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520639926447185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26199087862371473,0.1972629182000121,0.1477993307843682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858714012767214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12565224328586444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383147837084195,0.0,0.10916069826773772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669993633805502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473516034066127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monsignorcurmudgeon,2019/01/27,"Are sleepovers ever a good idea and why do kids have them? So I often hear about problems with sleepovers. For one, I imagine they would be annoying to host. Secondly, why is it ever a good idea to let your kid sleep somewhere else? You don’t know what the parents, kids, and siblings are like unsupervised. I will only let my girl sleep over at her maternal grandmother’s, she’s the only person I trust completely, and that’s only if I really need to. 
why do people have them and why are they worth the risk? 
Can we just stop having sleepovers because they seem like a really bad idea. 

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parenting,Entropy125,2019/01/27,"How do you decompress/relax with young children? Hi everyone,
I'm a father of a 4 year old twin (boy and girl), and they are are the most precious thing in my life, but I really have problems relaxing since I have kids...

I have a fulltime job, and are studying in the evening, and trying to balance it with being a good and involved father for my kids...
Before I had children I was someone that had a lot interests, and loved engaging in activities. (I played in a band, was a hobby indie game developer, and worked out).
Ofcourse I knew that my ""self-time"" would be much less when our children were born, but lately I get more and more frustrated with my life existing out of: work, study, sitting on the couch, or playing with my kids/keeping them entertained..
My wife is totally fine spending hours a day playing with the kids and does  make me feel guilty by saying ""We don't see you as much during the week because you are always working"", ""they grow up fast, and I don't want you to miss anything"". but for me I feel the tension of not being able to engage in my own activities build up during the week.
1 way to get my ""self-time"" is by staying up way past bedtime, but since my kids wake up at 6:30 in the morning, it's not benefiting my mood/health a lot...
Is it normal to take/demand time for yourself during the day (on weekends) while the kids are around? ",8.303166047087982,6.005274059479557,8.242462825278809,75.89472273853782,63.05204460966543,11.048451053283769,36.91480793060718,9.2995712137729,3.1834384138785623,1058,39,212,14,12,344,150,269,0.07,0.802,0.129,0.946,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,2,4,3,3,4,17,1,1,19,0,23,4,1,2,1,39,34,19,0,4,7,3,2,0,0,1,2,1,1,10,6,19,0,0,3,8,1,1,4,4,0,0,6,4,31,13,35,24,10,37,0,1,1,1,28,16,0,4,16,145,37,4,0.1389978362670259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565733465867024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438337586456407,0.12373754353024465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08473179085710639,0.0,0.11827692098885427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928421077628215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163794320716352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180675993455546,0.0,0.0,0.13281838917455507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056296486857814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452412650507892,0.0,0.0,0.1165847903531071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774820011999393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688486974108605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793390477704087,0.12354766343892905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567956136288009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963565648195581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363419795691249,0.1254509740688427,0.0,0.09278213504412718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20435880590457087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361883675066614,0.0,0.0,0.1458548472094577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268916264988315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13300215723971914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904557315566966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105366583641776,0.0,0.0,0.110763279394292,0.0,0.29001011505638263,0.0,0.0,0.2299608930481817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777241560402342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815319921005107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450907437864387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234398611320413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105075611829217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437040676770916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198452514004953,0.22066002522407907,0.2229913600663444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30357624077590484,0.0,0.0,0.0987400748413456,0.0,0.0,0.08951004933289172
parenting,Quirky_Aardvark,2019/01/27,"Missing milestones-- 10 month old not putting things in mouth Hi! A google search on this topic wasn't helpful. It was mostly anecdotal drivel from mommy forums and really hard to find actual information about this milestone and when to reach out for help from an occupational therapist. 

My friend's baby did not crawl, but went straight to standing and cruising (she does a bit of scooting but not crawling). Now that she is 10 months, she is expecting her baby to start to self-feed but she doesn't put anything in her mouth. Like not even toys. 

I feel like this is something she should really be paying attention to, as baby milestones are pretty important for development right?

Otherwise she seems to be a normal healthy baby: interested in people, waves, makes gestures and sounds to react to or draw someone's attention, can understand speech, makes good eye contact, follows where you point, etc. ",8.029937500000003,9.14006211875,7.1700000000000035,72.15500000000002,62.1875,10.15,34.75,10.125756701596842,3.6753875,729,30,116,15,10,224,114,160,0.027000000000000003,0.802,0.171,0.9773,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,0,4,0,12,3,3,3,0,27,21,10,0,3,8,0,2,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,6,5,0,0,7,2,1,5,6,1,0,0,4,5,11,5,21,14,3,21,0,1,1,0,15,9,0,3,8,72,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.1663848269005755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403081714448752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18614343155316607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920697400923605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901541945790632,0.11261460431057894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621065965447845,0.1218062749481882,0.0,0.0,0.1558352428031364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172900273060156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14300853274427816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527358155723179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22856706522049505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659679905732558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22762209302524986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721852725963072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705522697238456,0.0,0.0,0.17891259768868742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820424214786247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117898780569556,0.0,0.0,0.17346127814866438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428021142056727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845519858630885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560731267337176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521812286538808,0.1778702046364629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446533121746827,0.13126035154567486,0.0,0.0,0.12068180883037315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19796533297497773,0.11327359187943475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17749802979323445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805655881946484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Doelephanteatspinach,2019/01/27,"Is my adult kid a psychopath or just a bad person? Today, I'm seriously considering for the first time that my son might have an anti social personality disorder. What strikes me the most is the lack of empathy toward anybody including his wife, his daughter or us. He met his wife partying with drugs and alcohol. Somehow she got pregnant in the very beginning and they decided to pursue the pregnancy. Later on, they got married and sent us their marriage certificate via text, not even a call. Our grand daughter is 3 now but the resentment and the lack of  love is threatening their marriage. It's hard for a grand parent to realize that the baby is more a burden than anything else and that what they call ""discipline"" is no more than a tool for their own comfort. They used to live 2k miles away and we didn't see them often so I'm not aware that the little one was hurt but it's not hard to imagine the probability.

On the verge of divorce after beating his wife, we tried to help and offered them to come live with us to give it another chance. They moved but their relationship is seriously damaged. Despite his fortune, he's ungrateful and constantly looking for the slightest excuse to be negative and angry. He almost immediately found a good job through one of my business connections. They also decided to look for a house to rent, without the proper funds they demanded us to front the deposit. You would think he would be appreciative but his ego is so big that he can't see his luck, we didn't even get a thank you.

The level of verbal violence is high, I can see in his eyes the hate and the desire to harm. In multiple occasions, He threatened to kill his wife and daughter and commit suicide. So far, I thought it was a form of emotional blackmail but I'm concerned that it might be something he wishes for.

We learned that he was using cocaine and hoped that with sobriety, things would change. In theory, he's been sober for months and since they relocated he attends AA meetings but his behavior is still the same. Perhaps he's still using and lies but that level of violence is not normal. He's ungrateful and almost seems like he gets a kick out of ruining the day making his life and ours miserable. There's clearly a distortion of reality in his mind and a certain level of paranoia. The exaggerations, the lies and disregard for ethical and moral values are astonishing. He will imagine controversial scenarios and get wind up in irrational rage on a dime.

About a year and half ago, he assaulted a cyclist trying to get her off the road with his car. He got charged and spent a cpl days in jail. He was quick in calling us to bail him out but to these days, he shows no remorse but  worse. Then he beat his sister, tried to strangle her but again it's her fault and never apologize whatsoever despite realizing the trauma he caused. Finally, we learned about him beating his wife. He was apologetic right after but the verbal abuse and the belittle never stopped. His wife isn't a saint either but nobody deserves a beating.

At times and when the universe conceives it, he might be joyful. He will talk and laugh loudly. At times he can be charming but it doesn't last very long and you can bet that he will find something to rant about with no restrain.

At this point, it only comes to my mind that we need to protect ourselves. Today, he sent his daughter to the living room at 7am, I took care of her while he stayed in the room. When he got out around 9am, the baby was watching a cartoon. That was enough to trigger his anger. He started to yell at her complaining about the music, the high pitch laugh and everything else. The truth is that he wanted to watch his show. I told him, ""she's just a happy kid having a good time, you can watch your show later"", he exploded in rage with threats and being totally disrespectful toward his mother. I was over it, I'm done. 

We are emotionally hi-jacked, it's so disruptive that it's taking a toll on our work. I realize that we are unable to help him. We are just enabling his behavior whether it is related to drug use or mental health.

Thanks for the read, any insight?",5.585396226415097,6.589263111949682,6.052704402515726,78.38433962264153,67.56603773584905,9.320754716981133,31.729559748427672,9.50408208654531,2.8878427672955973,3294,133,613,66,53,1064,372,795,0.211,0.67,0.119,-0.9982,3,0,6,0,2,2,82.0,17,5,14,7,25,39,8,1,57,0,53,7,1,7,7,134,100,56,2,11,26,14,2,1,0,9,5,2,3,5,33,51,1,5,15,4,6,9,16,20,1,4,24,13,79,19,91,61,11,89,2,4,9,1,140,44,0,15,36,407,112,6,0.0,0.076824518747136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057476539389361876,0.06929398966217061,0.1298553169549349,0.0,0.0,0.05185233657634944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044093263592298,0.06799014699634626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335760181880758,0.0577211376025628,0.0,0.0,0.06091909353193204,0.0,0.054138495345011486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986259484947787,0.0,0.06610846167437265,0.06660829950269133,0.06859187383377313,0.11170743233778248,0.0,0.070068751124334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254488529302574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431198804607328,0.0,0.0,0.06635359139331481,0.0,0.0,0.15038708407628712,0.0,0.10833060705869736,0.14587201667061653,0.0,0.06699680991861716,0.0,0.08565210641558706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827379981318428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102879312141863,0.0592623704606811,0.05515267091306189,0.0,0.07109345550552391,0.0,0.0,0.13550440402136732,0.06220021076960797,0.0,0.10876903701733484,0.20743313291024615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902313544226177,0.11616738707168485,0.06401584403530534,0.0,0.06892163806025974,0.0,0.0,0.08692145531751957,0.1370135431650736,0.0,0.06440051677087799,0.0,0.07481638315812164,0.06941230938913606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434346173801589,0.0,0.0717355930677471,0.0,0.0,0.05285306245364856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04579824349893431,0.031677433954305015,0.06498647846199676,0.17176410101780976,0.05738115156112762,0.10889814443258418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852041934898504,0.0,0.04328104656960972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534323255858525,0.2063542320943392,0.1309393576492904,0.0,0.051754481747498464,0.06891440873213517,0.0,0.04807786410259585,0.1000168478939104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352920283082053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787420554505579,0.04931356300936215,0.0,0.0,0.07199688566896917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323116347444576,0.0,0.0,0.061294535908577474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990823321128246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648573114759674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961364191379919,0.0,0.05537280495872473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550066934131353,0.059027686767110475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053636123573109054,0.0,0.0,0.06609597486643208,0.0,0.09983363763132608,0.0,0.0,0.045893919335085916,0.06911056219386667,0.1035622400356878,0.05420894680119805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092417889702114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875143380757113,0.0521157469518194,0.0,0.11939148807266542,0.0,0.0,0.0430766586852968,0.041546703242402734,0.0,0.05147553067027398,0.15123435339742927,0.0,0.12292103124890558,0.061957174023107686,0.07203936458462053,0.13206583254945586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38997126841369145,0.22400295435918224,0.0,0.10699919324834296,0.0382441732870904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456252971196754,0.06250321956539498,0.0,0.04720412109579802,0.0,0.06607725986420124,0.1381809259550618,0.0,0.0,0.04175468274988967
parenting,duplex78,2019/01/27,"Co sleeping at 11: Update I posted here a few weeks back regarding my son still sleeping in his parents bed. The general opinion was that this was very inappropriate for his age and I did agree totally. His mother and I are separated so I only have a say as to what goes on in my house. He was sleeping with me once per week because I lived in a small one bed apartment until November of last year. I now have a 3 bed house and he has his own bedroom. 

For several weeks now i've been transitioning him into his own bed. I followed some suggestions from here and I sit at the side of him until he falls asleep. Last week he slept all the way through but occasionally he comes down into my bedroom at around 6am saying he's scared and sobbing slightly. I've been resisting letting him back into my bed and I've been telling him to go back to his bedroom and sleep plus I've gone back up and sat beside him. Am I doing the right thing by not letting him back in my bed even if he's scared? 

P.S. I discussed with his mother what I was going to do and it may be an ideal opportunity to get him sleeping in his own bed at her house but, It appears that she's not taken my advice. I'm afraid that he may not want to come to stay at my house if he's been made to stay in his own bed when he's frightened. ",2.6273861661452926,3.820054175182485,4.227038581856103,87.99604622871045,74.76642335766424,6.970872436565868,25.091414668057013,7.447530270364453,1.0189341675356274,1020,33,226,12,21,342,139,274,0.061,0.901,0.038,-0.7378,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,14,6,0,3,9,0,21,7,7,1,2,36,35,19,0,4,7,4,0,0,0,2,0,2,11,0,9,18,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,4,0,1,14,2,37,2,39,16,8,55,0,1,0,0,37,22,1,7,20,153,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387967719439053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552374761057263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693641623407663,0.0,0.058564119580115474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655136860826085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345412993969939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05019324345891764,0.0,0.10919896831409093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4434131228949997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662172165958754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964786480826929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483264094776398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909049043909032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231270613341774,0.06510034008911543,0.07306648641664165,0.0,0.0,0.10667571247637338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200966526033892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820442907481639,0.0,0.1527993687597869,0.19236808740478026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853312480262854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4807029710598487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047982601794947,0.07672259458729426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397047443708346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382544485998717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792688118944824,0.05666529038809001,0.07625685691907244,0.3082501277066471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186671118038641
parenting,TheDeuceIsLoose24,2019/01/27,"Fellow parents, what do you do during the day? I'm running out of ideas. I'm confused as to what to do all day. I enjoy hanging out with my kids, but what are we suppose to do. Am I supposed to hang out with them all the time or do I let them do their own thing while I pick up a hobby? My 8 year old is independent, but my 4 year old wants to be around dad all day which makes it hard because I feel like I have to entertain him all the time. It's exhausting which has me thinking I'm doing it all wrong. 

Also, we live in a rural area that takes about 30 minutes to get to a place with activities and over an hour to get somewhere with a zoo and a decent museum. ",3.2242452107279718,3.0841500758620697,4.934712643678161,88.37877394636017,72.3793103448276,7.823754789272032,25.766283524904214,7.3871296695380915,0.9869846743295012,511,14,122,5,9,175,90,145,0.078,0.862,0.059,-0.4039,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,3,0,3,6,0,1,9,0,14,1,0,3,5,28,24,8,0,1,3,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,10,12,0,0,3,2,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,2,17,3,23,22,6,23,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,2,12,86,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578409642445555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570587205971205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031815711688212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38187223985035906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979888729363466,0.14100496103303192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062409064114564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680950946315244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943749223028564,0.0,0.0,0.2228127005926157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018296272497248,0.0,0.0964276067439802,0.0,0.1742860149759462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174955219234344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142243718748108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191619241663724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20621518994912968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840166959807616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112738580853248,0.12647012910030248,0.0,0.0,0.2301822612371916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641707176458367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579891719112534,0.0,0.25420645710975176
parenting,roxytr,2019/01/27,"Moving back VS staying Long story short, my (26M)husband and I (26F) moved to CO June2018 (we were born and raised in CA) I found out he cheated on me on his work trip mid November 2018 and I left him so that our 2year old and I can be surrounded by family and friends in California while I went through this betrayal and hard time in my marriage. His affair lasted up until the week before Christmas when he flew down to see his daughter and I and told his AP that he wanted to work on his marriage and to cut off all communication, since then I have still stayed in California because I was not going to rush back to him and him suffer no consequences. He is an OUTSTANDING father & with time living apart I feel like I can move forward and fight for my family as well. 

The only question is do my daughter and I move back to CO knowing we have no family out there OR do we wait until our lease is up (June, costs 3500 to break the lease) and have him move back while we continue to visit each other every month. We have our family out here however, my in-laws are low key alcoholics and we always avoided going to family functions w them and this behavior worries me and I don’t want to expose my daughter to that neither does my husband and my parents just divorced so they really are doing their own thing, despite that, everyone LOVES our daughter and is always wanting to spend any chance they can with her but she is most happiest when she’s with mom and dad... but part of me feels like we need family to help out w our daughter so him and I can focus on our relationship. The other part of me feels like maybe we move back to CO within the next few months and just plan to move closer to family and in the meantime she will be with mom and dad together? Thoughts? Thanks in advance ",3.896749895963378,5.342489415730338,4.7994132334581785,84.13743029546403,71.97752808988764,7.970703287557219,26.106533499791926,8.515128840125781,1.7288607157719516,1416,46,281,24,27,460,187,356,0.064,0.851,0.085,0.9293,2,1,1,0,2,0,27.0,14,0,4,4,16,13,3,1,7,0,24,2,0,0,1,62,43,37,0,4,7,12,4,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,9,40,1,2,7,0,2,16,5,6,1,0,7,5,57,7,48,33,8,70,0,2,1,1,60,27,0,3,29,201,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942326809997191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367694631449815,0.08052344859502898,0.0,0.050538742433034765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857295128243313,0.0,0.04530352173466782,0.0,0.06323908661112344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503612337356669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261606326708548,0.07101396913562782,0.0,0.0,0.4904223271068035,0.0,0.1127321387214413,0.15927823704905214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148577682273657,0.057417850139726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447318716459334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06657426980932347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04981374346447779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04084319200906762,0.06057903390504814,0.0,0.0,0.08074665089296182,0.0,0.0,0.10892396333092487,0.0,0.06562409578664953,0.0657690314346637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707483546462073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466235200223244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408052819551192,0.11863972905144204,0.5529174046923215,0.0,0.055105805119763575,0.0,0.0,0.0790379641173355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798416832477624,0.0,0.0,0.056522136406812,0.0,0.0,0.08252126888244815,0.16095815689790172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832530926314226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04760997044942665,0.0,0.0,0.07978964657815782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592217700662648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061476561577113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15842605502796833,0.059350396733459085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842196713076998,0.0,0.0,0.049373531936797714,0.0,0.0,0.05900013685090839,0.08667076794372634,0.0,0.0,0.07101396913562782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150392594152804,0.0,0.059613362500773225,0.0,0.06682074636064271,0.06889346779962051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820867967029008,0.07547346772675985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LisaMBandel,2019/01/27,"Weird baby making science experiment So I’ve heard of theories or crazy things people do to ensure or help nudge the sex of their baby.
I was wondering if there was any way one could ensure having twins that are one boy one girl. 

Yeah I know it sounds crazy and why would anybody wanna do that but... the hubs and I are going to start trying soon and it’s been my lifelong dream to have one boy one girl twins and he’s weirdly on board with it. 
Thanks in advance!",1.1816634429400388,3.6307426595744685,2.304429400386848,93.76136363636364,85.17021276595744,4.69477756286267,17.056092843326887,6.11248444174946,-0.3686468085106385,366,8,76,3,11,116,66,94,0.085,0.765,0.15,0.7644,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,2,1,11,1,0,1,0,15,18,9,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,6,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,0,5,4,2,5,1,9,12,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,4,2,49,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487055273362438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459305330617195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139047132105904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427723008470762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465722856142055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017727615307325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459663070828482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7408943572229449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160072098920818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547782794976212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132524502456867,0.0,0.0,0.14527700432678725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846500101810967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735729027330983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19731888588658625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371421604292239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533943122585586,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,komugitomeruem,2019/01/27,"How can I stop being a fear based parent? I have raised my son for 6 years telling him things like “you’ll turn into a mummy if you don’t drink enough water” or “you’ll choke if you run around with candy in your mouth” etc. I fear that this is making him timid and I feel terrible about it. 

Does anyone have any tips or resources that I can study so I can break out of this bad habit? Thank you. ",0.9778571428571432,2.8008170238095254,1.850238095238094,100.49892857142858,81.14285714285714,4.6761904761904765,14.071428571428573,5.148860815047168,-1.3065428571428568,306,3,74,1,8,95,64,84,0.242,0.7020000000000001,0.056,-0.9492,1,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,6,0,0,4,7,0,3,2,0,10,3,1,2,0,13,14,7,0,2,4,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,5,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,15,2,8,11,2,8,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,4,3,48,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999476713111466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645094411361656,0.0,0.0,0.20944423743853247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644442823840025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589035091349456,0.0,0.0,0.23047949656733216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24310151093758176,0.26239332383439906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5294985752223527,0.11896188557275934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494326470575855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704759418863287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612445534375077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967000651182384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056403335586825,0.2166092025785092,0.0,0.0,0.15630596181010376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559111579664388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150910136688298
parenting,ciman91,2019/01/27,"Today I feel like it is not possible to be a good parent and a good spouse. Too much shit has piled up in my marriage. Had a huge fight. Feel like I don't deserve to sleep so I should just stay awake to punish myself for being a shit spouse. Also know that if I do that it means I won't be my best self to my two small children tomorrow. They are so perfect, sweet and innocent. I'm an awful person. 

Does anyone else feel like babies are the reason your marriage is falling apart yet are one of the biggest reasons you won't quit either? 

(For context: I don't think my spouse is a bad person we just haven't communicated well for a while now. I also think I had undiagnosed PPD that took a serious toll on the relationship. Whoops.)

I just need to scream into the void. Thanks to anyone reading. Tell me it gets easier after baby/toddlerhood. ",2.196088235294116,4.276755005882354,3.8243382352941175,86.56827205882351,78.35294117647058,6.367647058823527,21.213235294117645,7.413659706084162,0.7409117647058827,661,18,133,9,16,220,108,170,0.163,0.6679999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.3044,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,1,2,1,3,11,17,4,0,12,1,19,3,3,2,1,22,31,8,0,3,6,4,3,3,0,3,0,1,0,4,6,4,0,0,9,1,0,2,6,7,1,2,3,5,19,10,15,22,3,17,0,0,0,0,17,8,2,1,9,92,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254807188739886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458654078561705,0.1425702777175663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161800851170579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602386947282764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217665408401482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623761492312805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110673555183156,0.2982151910435521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269740825180351,0.0,0.0,0.2334160914196664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647033601998962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20393734345483155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515694648051392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228742869666256,0.1031740965109887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942881088101679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450381935955795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429917219998389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15686484052657296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479976087132777,0.13918244161981022,0.0,0.0,0.2861280312673358,0.0,0.14938942782418518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451583592585336,0.0,0.2856602487143841,0.0,0.0,0.13924527576543375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830982920752706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161867694895367,0.12810582523709338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831672226111334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318929883640577,0.0,0.15459497822913135,0.0,0.0,0.13592423843349585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251078741879532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mommyongo,2019/01/28,"Just bought one actually! I didn’t know this freezable pacifier even exsisted until last week. My sister showed me this pacifier. You fill that bad boy with water and pop in the freezer and my babe left me the heck alone for at least 40 minutes. It was wonderful. They are like 6 bucks. 
 At Www.Nippii.com I think you can find them cheaper on amazon. ",1.7649087893864035,4.534019985074629,2.9879601990049776,86.89978441127697,87.955223880597,6.559867330016584,22.369817578772803,7.793537801064563,1.4516514096185746,277,10,53,6,9,89,58,67,0.078,0.8059999999999999,0.116,0.4003,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,8,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,1,0,4,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,10,1,7,5,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,1,1,4,33,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.32405258826237554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34392455328466875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772647248266635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21932921819123014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035061232057418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824970833221734,0.27068151274004004,0.0,0.0,0.3607952158275913,0.0,0.0,0.16223271357253344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22501934404108428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21277715918311504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663666635311762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601159386898416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,topher78714,2019/01/28,"Any ideas why 5mo is throwing up at night? Hey all.  So I have a 5 month old child.  He is 100% happy and healthy most of the time, however the past few days he has been vomiting in the middle of the night.  Saturday night he vomited twice at night (around midnight) and nothing Sunday, but then again just did it now (Monday night at about 11).  He is eating fine, peeing, pooping, doesn't have a fever, etc.  And it 100% is more than spit up and occurs maybe 2 hours or so after his last feeding.  

We didnt change anything in his routine. And he is still on strictly breastmilk so neither his nor my wife's diet changed.  We are at a loss as to what could be causing it.  Thoughts?",2.7606417112299435,4.287890411764707,3.461229946524064,92.26826203208557,75.02941176470588,6.12192513368984,25.59893048128342,6.574015621080383,0.7849941176470585,520,18,112,4,11,164,99,136,0.022,0.927,0.051,0.4234,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,7,0,15,9,3,1,1,17,16,13,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,8,3,0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,4,0,7,2,17,10,6,32,0,1,0,0,13,11,0,2,20,73,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267322501077136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424566954791058,0.13440636655393373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551005383874389,0.3194387678427862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205471791703408,0.0,0.0,0.09737117233558053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544927114763648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838531198520806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16072359673213624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868727350814825,0.0,0.0,0.17044077786168482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307082605606225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516821372656048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051272953868986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7084338805222108,0.0,0.1448717068345863,0.0,0.1584306549039475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412980671865025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057475799615135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986317891835725,0.08803906498795132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623815289460592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Franco2305,2019/01/28,"The English legal system protects pedophiles and criminalises the victims of child sex exploitation. Helpless I have never spoken out; I have ever reason to fear being arrested and, even, incarcerated. I am waiting for the police, after twice being issued with PINs after this man made false and malicious accusations I was harassing him, subsequent to my discovering he was paying 14 and 15 year old boys for sex, predominantly in the region of South Wales.

After being discharged from care, into a bed and breakfast, Nick, who had previously collected me from my foster homes for sex, wasted no time, inviting me to stay with him; within three weeks this lovely, caring, “good guy” as he liked to repeatedly assert was moving into his home, at the other end of the country.

The better life Nick promised me, convincing me I was unsafe and a victim, that I needed saving - crying his eyes out, actually begging me “please, you can trust me”; “please, you have to let me help you” - tuned out to be the most degrading, humiliating and cruel experience of my life.

Within weeks, what began as having to sit in the kitchen during the evenings as Nick pleasured himself over the web camera with other young males, became being kicked out of the flat late at night because I objected to Nick inviting other people other for sex \[he even had photos of me online\]. The most bizarre things as Nick’s initial and numerous conversations about “monogamy”; I would have been very happy with someone helping me out, but I was controlled to be in a “relationship” with this 35 year old man, who was, after two months, abruptly asking me to leave, immediately, because I wasn’t prepared to his latest term, an open relationship; he had someone heading over. I was 16, street homeless, destitute and, allegedly, naive and immature - was this the natural, progression of a loving relationship.

Nick, a housing case-law worker for Shelter Cymru, the homelessness charity, had, in the meantime, alluding to our apparent relationship, was putting utilities in my name … which unbeknown to me, became telephone, council tax and, through him position at Shelter, under the guise of a colleague, lied I was a service user, living at his home address, as a sole occupier, setting up monthly payments to himself, as my alleged landlord. Nick stole thousands of pounds of entitlement, a year’s worth of payments, that should have housed me under a duty owed to me as a relevant child. The homelessness I experienced was in his full knowledge, my lack of safety and wellbeing were too.

How radical is it to learn he worked with the looked-after children in my home county, on a project called HYPE. That he would not only know my specific vulnerabilities, but also the likely failings of my county \[that I would not be treated in accord of procedural safeguards owe to careleavers\]. Nick, however, continued to help himself to my identity, for many years, listing me on his telephone directory and even as a director of his company \[which is on company’s house\].

So, what I later learnt was Nick was locked up for fraud. Allegedly, it was his crack addiction; he did the 12 steps and got recovery. He moved to Aberystwyth and took out a large loan with Natwest; in his words, had they connected who he was, or called the police, he’d have gone straight back to prison. When I first stayed, he would be anxious about me not answering the door, reminding me to ignore it, even if I think it’s him; he would return and greet me with “did the door go”, “did you answer the door” or “has anyone stopped you looking for …”. I was too young to understand.

I saw a post, that I commented on, after learning he was now working with social services child services in Brighton and Hove, teaching them on child sex exploitation and trafficking. I’ve felt sick ever since. I’ve decided, tonight, as oppose to sitting waiting for the police, worrying over this, for sharing so little, I’m better asking out of the ordinary and get the information out there. Ultimately, if I’m banged up, I hope someone will take this serious and verify these FACTS. I have already named victims to the police and I have credible witnesses to verify that Nick, having full knowledge of his age continued with a 15 year old, who he described as a “transaction” who “liked rich men and money”.

His name is Nicholas Robert Barnes, from the Cardiff, with connections in Edinburgh, London and Sydney; he is director of Train on the Tracks, Suicide Safer-London and is involved with West Sussex Safeguarding Children Board. My record is already tarnished with two PINs I cannot appeal, yet will restrict my employment now and in the future; he is capable of seeing me through to a conviction, sentence. No one has ever validated this experience for me, but, I really think it’s serious. The most distressing aspect has been that knowing is actually safeguarding any potential victims. If there are other victims, please speak out.",12.666035776497388,9.499382878132119,11.522634329358173,58.445529947742216,55.64009111617312,14.611871901380141,46.78024922953236,12.627914446148155,5.941931019697173,3949,184,615,94,34,1268,417,878,0.103,0.787,0.11,0.5423,5,0,0,0,0,1,144.0,1,5,2,9,23,35,7,2,52,0,72,15,2,4,5,108,103,48,1,12,11,0,1,3,0,8,4,1,11,12,35,50,2,9,15,0,8,8,8,15,0,7,36,7,83,20,135,49,7,112,0,2,4,7,85,51,0,9,49,449,118,18,0.0,0.0,0.1313548529358024,0.07336954189131198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853972712421326,0.0538216988639137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576793471008729,0.0,0.0,0.07603254651559553,0.0,0.0470593976048154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583730342467253,0.0,0.0,0.0517513854050356,0.0,0.08205382742305764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904699356361954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744653494003126,0.0,0.13723854898440774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548535588337295,0.0,0.0,0.07392851774336476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960994323287186,0.0,0.0,0.22226297708743345,0.1826366011044784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166930811207514,0.0,0.07573390259695566,0.0,0.0,0.06462085110129602,0.0,0.0,0.0572473805698716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0351627222103748,0.0,0.03824950056904231,0.05645005358095116,0.05382787137014811,0.0,0.0,0.06663994971497628,0.0,0.07164464816250879,0.0,0.0,0.06907167131396914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533412479949322,0.0,0.2700391482016264,0.0668464614939566,0.0,0.23297377381409626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024621192550018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397526947566815,0.0,0.07592003008107681,0.07126351582325717,0.0,0.06882125607659126,0.09507534020058522,0.09864164801289374,0.06745467812926187,0.059429245501143674,0.0,0.05651705905151867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148607355247433,0.06368315096581202,0.0,0.068234062336655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744025497752753,0.14306358397964314,0.0,0.04990387115805182,0.051907754057887535,0.0,0.0,0.06315873605168787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21186761793913286,0.0,0.04560584287062635,0.05118650216058177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046659004709000765,0.0,0.0,0.2216334488848289,0.0,0.0,0.06445708779244201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765749337900194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04311563592952066,0.06919806855566385,0.0,0.2890303287596689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053631293050080166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05567323445355096,0.0,0.0,0.06860631343275846,0.1710752959559099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347079079983652,0.0,0.05626781362432884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361789363426524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060302317739535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044712718941987216,0.08624931096049814,0.0,0.0,0.039244566223404116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477543430105743,0.0,0.0,0.13148931585398554,0.0700641640052226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555315221833294,0.0,0.0,0.10797183908560187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799388642835287,0.06834884638926703,0.0,0.239048442704196,0.0,0.0,0.21670267045861932
parenting,Life_Of_Jasmine,2019/01/28,Deciding to take my situation by the horns So I have been struggling with the fact that I havent seen my daughter in almost 2 years so now that I have found an amazing job its time to take care of business 😈,7.232499999999997,4.903760886363639,7.471818181818183,80.67772727272728,65.13636363636364,10.618181818181819,35.63636363636364,8.841846274778883,2.701809090909091,165,6,37,2,2,54,34,44,0.068,0.777,0.155,0.6041,1,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,9,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,5,2,6,6,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,3,24,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231605080462026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32903764838920285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3538491567179853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202528209441701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627542193478453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33738019285728016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4852951265046151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18818240032063185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782305734073467
parenting,amylucha,2019/01/28,"He contradicts everything! Do all kids go through a stage where they will contradict every single thing you say? Like, you say, ""the sky is blue"" and they say, ""no it isn't"". But with EVERY SINGLE THING?

Our LO (2.5 years old) just started doing this. He'll even contradict himself in the same breath. ""I don't like french fries! I like french fries!""

How long will this phase last? What's the best way to deal with it? ",1.343703703703703,3.920667876543213,1.554185185185187,98.34683333333336,86.28395061728395,5.215308641975309,16.741975308641976,6.742157984588678,-0.2701861728395061,322,7,70,4,10,96,58,81,0.172,0.753,0.075,-0.7619,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,2,2,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,1,8,10,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,3,0,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,8,4,5,7,5,11,0,0,1,0,13,3,0,0,8,43,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330913203118672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22898622540585026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467019242676198,0.0,0.3742754378060338,0.0,0.19961864161286905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262305447646949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104974389692102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255359881805281,0.0,0.0,0.19656084836642046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330676604276213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.529893675444931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15721099130878574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951207616303293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630101711676674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430319127674852
parenting,Mamaconcerned,2019/01/28,"Can I help my son through his father’s break up? My 10 year old son is having a hard time with my ex husband’s break up. 

Three years ago my ex tried to commit suicide. He was sent to an inpatient facility for awhile and when he got out he started dating a girl about ten years younger than us. She’s different than any other woman he’s ever dated. She’s been a great friend to our son.

She’s never tried to over step her boundaries and parent him, but has been a great friend to him. She has come to his games and school events. She has been very involved about helping with his school work. 

I even like her. I follow her on social media and I always like to interact with her. I’ve never been able to like anyone else he’s seen.


Two weeks ago my ex told me she broke up with him. He is heartbroken, and told me she wanted to say goodbye to our son. So I took I’m to my son to my ex’s apartment. I could see her stuff was gone. We all sat down with him and they explained they aren’t together anymore, and so she won’t see him because she’s moving to Chicago. 

My son is so upset. He sobbed all the way home has been emotional tonight. He is confused why she is moving that far and why he won’t see her when she comes back...

Is it my place to help him through this? How can I? ",1.4143137254901958,3.0327161176470585,2.712352941176473,95.8022549019608,79.0,5.562745098039216,20.15686274509804,6.21433560688645,-0.12679460784313698,992,24,232,7,24,320,138,272,0.087,0.7859999999999999,0.127,0.8638,3,0,0,0,0,2,27.0,4,0,2,1,11,11,0,2,6,0,24,0,0,1,6,29,42,15,1,2,1,13,1,3,2,2,0,1,1,2,5,17,0,0,1,1,0,9,5,4,0,3,15,6,50,7,33,24,2,41,0,2,4,0,70,10,1,1,22,143,55,3,0.1141866288527792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243911370209275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950124225056315,0.0,0.0,0.07765082324623808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324245295949205,0.07984194586522539,0.11699769521117324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780246926782727,0.0,0.0696071091066829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19672333996314603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116873168839018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930072376607535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538827629830897,0.12844458835930778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07541919143751567,0.10328834310521363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764406123989548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913254782406291,0.251782322848802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228879091245563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296106711075521,0.0,0.11453849894797442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735745720417355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427246311843775,0.0,0.0,0.17613553510728364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981965872253013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679073826454704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930072376607535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908057903794222,0.0,0.2311259290643635,0.2729758782089708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639888825415988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082188361735043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071637112483095,0.12490163872513055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658314154860029,0.0,0.0,0.2182204344586149,0.12686554612638812,0.15505045116772845,0.0,0.1115437444230606,0.0,0.13735245508110802,0.0,0.0,0.09421592739472852,0.06735023217090894,0.09063603103325464,0.09159362603442392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060713438913245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312922576100924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205973356765165
parenting,prong-fastner,2019/01/28,"18 Month Old Son and his Favorite: Dad Hello everyone. Love the subreddit. Was hoping to get some advice. My son is 18 months old and wants to be with me (dad) every second if I'm around. I'm very playful with him as I'm a kid at heart and absolutely love being a dad. I grew up in a loud, large family which made me the way I am. We play constantly. I do all kinds of things to make him laugh as I'm a goof.  My wife, on the other hand, isn't the most funny, playful person when it comes to a toddler. I love her and think she's a great mom. The problem is she keeps telling me she thinks our son hates her because he comes or wants me all the time. He cries historically if I don't put him to bed. My wife is struggling with him not showing her the attention she thinks he should. Tonight she got very upset. It doesn't help that she hears other mothers talk about how much their sons love them and all that. I feel bad. Deep down she knows he doesn't hate her, he just loves playing with his dad more. I always support her and try to talk he through it when she gets upset when he throws fits or doesn't want to play were her and runs to find me. I just feel like I say the same things over and over. Like, ""he doesn't hate you, you know he loves you, it's just a phase, etc"" I just feel like it's not helping. I can't stop being the dad I want to be. When it's just him and her he's perfectly fine.     
Thanks for reading.    
PS. We are going to Disney this weekend and she's already dreading that he will not want to ride or do anything with her as he'll scream for me.",0.7329247032640964,2.4839048991097954,2.137959013353118,98.49177531528193,81.6112759643917,5.1620548961424335,18.54311943620178,5.985473137389443,-0.4878545252225517,1209,27,296,8,32,389,165,337,0.102,0.6859999999999999,0.212,0.993,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,3,2,1,12,32,3,4,16,0,22,8,2,3,4,63,62,23,0,10,13,13,4,3,0,3,0,4,1,2,15,20,0,2,10,8,0,8,10,10,0,1,4,8,53,22,32,51,9,33,0,0,0,6,73,10,0,8,17,176,68,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239735930597837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434301189180692,0.0,0.07867674509939826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781012534193256,0.08417336609291258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894888385208758,0.057639418466231586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290029940522074,0.0,0.1021795980646071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386344926551484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545302930060786,0.0,0.0,0.07966606866674833,0.09035067754620596,0.0,0.0,0.0891373708928012,0.0,0.1434284724356445,0.13509920945518247,0.0,0.0,0.08642090941913866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880142942978024,0.0,0.05373738285373058,0.0,0.07562370459707775,0.10424644016489246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800583616091779,0.0,0.0,0.10656955849681506,0.11204729066734943,0.12675549692294125,0.0,0.0,0.09391374633072352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404419877647755,0.0,0.09846374417212328,0.10392913158032906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858335208909955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5120336382511812,0.08946955682740429,0.06311572379035031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074084339678886,0.15094466672076573,0.0,0.06950828379549738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19843764633304964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256116019305358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904756871122918,0.0,0.09505317900997108,0.0,0.0,0.09457987921614136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519336771786593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905162153986847,0.0,0.09884867539470453,0.0,0.0,0.10729908945474037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199831568067765,0.08264461840437885,0.08705288782693597,0.0,0.0,0.1256353395715451,0.1817597161401628,0.0,0.0,0.055135367748631856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419615720958502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560343859982965,0.2788528546665475,0.07505279543842666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,prettypenny44,2019/01/28,Baby Shower/Registry suggestions Hi all! Fairly new to reddit and completely new to throwing baby showers 😅. The jest of my issue is that I’m helping to throw a baby shower for some first-time parent  and I would love advice. I’m working on locations currently. Are there any items that you wish you had put on your own registry or items that you swear by? Advice and input is greatly appreciated!,3.227899999999998,5.97378770666667,4.743583333333337,77.75137500000002,78.6,6.416666666666668,25.375,7.6454224807358475,1.8341000000000007,318,12,51,5,8,106,55,75,0.015,0.816,0.16899999999999998,0.9198,5,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,1,8,9,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,8,7,5,8,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,2,3,34,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4605833008428714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026204884057793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470929939947993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20045873948648654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598243600948799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579630240822512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459757451976278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269920935306666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4552184716852829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616809795287032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23691102902108666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710061085263754,0.0,0.0,0.17156881900329016,0.0,0.0,0.16741150083610967,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hugaluga,2019/01/28,"Seeking your curriculum advice for young children. 😀 Hello good parents of Reddit,

I'd like to ask for your help if your willing to give it. 

Background: I'm helping put together a curriculum for young children. Most of the kids will be 3-5 years old, but some may be a bit  younger or older. I can basically teach whatever I want as long as I manage to make it entertaining. 

So my questions to you are: 

What do you have the most trouble teaching your young children?

What are the most important things to teach young children?

Any input, advice or resources you can offer would be greatly appreciated. 

Edit: I'm not that far, but here are some examples of learning objectives I've already outlined:

Alphabet

Numbers

Shapes

Colors

Sharing / Taking Turns

Manners

Going to bed / sleeping

Potty Training

Vocabulary: Food, Animals, Emotions

Thank you in advance!!!",4.545986842105262,7.582758203947371,5.1939473684210515,74.74513157894737,75.51315789473685,7.221052631578948,34.5,8.278499904357787,3.4164921052631567,685,38,102,13,16,220,105,152,0.025,0.802,0.174,0.9689,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,8,0,1,2,7,0,0,5,0,14,2,1,1,0,17,24,8,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,5,6,0,1,0,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,12,6,15,17,6,14,0,0,1,0,22,3,0,10,9,65,18,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787554872377069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21386156815400514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178968990678672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811755249837468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21157787181383755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21799733425103304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343420297488294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859092709775124,0.11014020735291193,0.16254906636666236,0.0,0.21366363462129584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597982256079473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468020413462436,0.0,0.0,0.1715056576591504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936206670912898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335902451033294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21519040469087036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482111501797625,0.21709877874809105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393855354166606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571242454217692,0.0,0.0,0.1784237081665559,0.0,0.0,0.1287511748472027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079722016436367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114307432193054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766896118973326,0.0,0.0,0.1247999409307826
parenting,Magnicello,2019/01/28,"Brother (5m) keeps on forbidding my grandmother to do tasks around the house and refuses to leave her be. Help  

Grandma is visiting my parents house for a checkup because there's no specialist in her town for a few weeks. She's very old, and my parents forbid her from doing stuff around the house, but she's very insisting. My brother picked up on this and is now forbidding her to do anything, even to the point of pulling her from the sink when cleaning the plates, which is dangerous since she can't keep up with him and might slip. He also tries to take clothes away from her when she's folding them, and shouts at her whenever she tries to do things. We try to stop him from doing it, we've gotten to shouting at him at points but he just won't stop.",6.691539735099338,5.956364933774832,6.228203642384106,84.02786837748346,65.2251655629139,9.934105960264901,33.44453642384106,9.188382445141503,2.5952708609271533,599,22,126,9,8,185,90,151,0.129,0.8590000000000001,0.012,-0.9437,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,0,9,4,1,0,7,0,12,1,0,1,0,22,16,10,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,5,9,0,8,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,1,2,21,0,27,12,1,23,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,1,7,88,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167279223194818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011651569623645,0.25987906856784593,0.0,0.0,0.13713864575992926,0.0,0.0,0.08897872972824968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640831141193798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978370653486379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052710179403443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25948027399133483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545555475731678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484548601287715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316540460347222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241530635842261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27596765347729824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074351281627012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440660594692397,0.0,0.0,0.16709466614319193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974729306700344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969724645175124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973013611487263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24087233753389944,0.0,0.0,0.11708408236372105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slipping_slowly_into,2019/01/28,"Scared of the dark I have a 6 year old girl. She is absolutely terrified at night when it’s time for bed. Her room basically has to be lit for her to sleep. We’ve tried night lights. We’ve tried talking to her. She told me it’s her brain making her think things are there when she knows there isn’t anything there. 
I’m at a lose for what to do to comfort her.  Anyone with any experience with this that has any advise on what to do would be greatly appreciated.  I work second shift so I can’t be there at bed time. Her step dad is there most nights or it’s the baby sitter. ",0.5966519546027769,2.686232549180332,2.288032786885246,95.37354981084492,84.1639344262295,5.393190416141237,16.761664564943253,6.67199483983844,-0.4240070617906686,449,9,107,5,13,147,75,122,0.083,0.866,0.051,-0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,1,4,0,14,2,2,1,0,8,19,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,8,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,2,14,2,16,14,1,15,0,1,1,0,15,5,0,2,9,67,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26406033450863625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575574637589727,0.0,0.15977073408685105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21673808733536173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18991812589334636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140535077908434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670098250471276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172066717861584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295981143597107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5465961182625392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373009480305013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438024218816316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942924342509443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560521999517938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898610780015754,0.12440490295025752,0.0,0.0,0.22642344143867216,0.0,0.0,0.18552076626745054,0.0,0.26363322556949764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134512838509736,0.0,0.0,0.13792016647481836,0.0,0.0,0.12502766404621246
parenting,CatsAbound01,2019/01/28,"Is letting a 4-month old's stomach/back exposed to air bad? Every time I hold my baby and the baby's shirt starts lifting up (stomach and/or back getting exposed), my girlfriend is quick to tell me to pull the shirt down so that the baby's back/stomach doesn't get exposed to the air, for fear the baby will get sick (a cold) - we are in the Philippines, which is a fairly warm climate. I'm telling her that's it's ridiculous and that the baby won't get sick, but she's pretty firm on the fact that it's not good. Is there any research/data on this or is this some sort of myth?",4.885088547815823,4.5491248760330585,5.291924439197167,87.90983471074381,68.83471074380165,6.914285714285715,30.508854781582052,3.1291,1.108807792207792,454,16,97,0,7,145,74,121,0.138,0.813,0.049,-0.752,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,4,5,1,1,11,0,10,5,3,0,1,10,16,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,2,7,2,11,13,1,13,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,3,5,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754192722575804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.50049226741134,0.18115460933358946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280024798711703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24414311059179036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4534157666746742,0.0,0.0,0.18197783557611952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218588367589096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317738260884946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276656270777035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207288428740568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356716094439493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379269543281148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265125675960153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nicky_W_85,2019/01/28,"My 3rd his 1st....hes not excited at all So back story....

I have 2 kids 8 and 4 from a previous relationship. I've been with my current be for 1 and 1/2 years but have known each other for almost 20 years. My current bt has no kids of his own. Hes taken to my other 2 nicely so far. I found out a couple months ago that my new bf and I are expecting now. He was not really excited like a new dad normally is.

I'm having a hard time understanding why he isn't excited. I've tried to talk about baby stuff and we have only ever had one good conversation about it without ending in one of us upset.

Any advice.....?",0.5260000000000034,2.4079316000000013,3.740769230769235,86.05423076923078,83.0,7.0769230769230775,19.23076923076923,8.139509932561175,0.8918461538461537,468,12,103,10,13,170,93,130,0.136,0.804,0.06,-0.7717,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,0,7,7,0,1,4,0,13,0,0,0,2,20,17,7,0,2,4,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,5,1,13,6,14,11,3,17,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,14,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611342962323374,0.16882959463726058,0.0,0.19071625358721905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951802418186956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645050576986954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21073824082771647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868932622850802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722802355563488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088274520678824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974719967326922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061302818287194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304819654197494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202182084937585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36789119726291614,0.0,0.0,0.1866084784419171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258118645604975,0.14485195075141513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201232177744666,0.0,0.0,0.20448069891461526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180289327084797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308298873891896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105763695318256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930853302140966,0.0,0.0,0.19827357614873656,0.22909761744858184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718587916104287,0.0,0.0,0.18359479075913934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452975157434771
parenting,leeniquelee,2019/01/28,"Mommy guilt How do other mom's deal with mommy guilt? I've been work, work, working since the holidays making sure we don't find behind on bills and we can have a nice family vacation this summer. But I don't see my boys and I they notice now. I'm hurting Cause I want to be there but I don't wanna keep missing my booooys! ",-0.19014492753623452,2.06986969565218,2.1072463768115948,93.6098550724638,91.17391304347824,4.8057971014492775,16.36231884057971,6.42735559955562,-0.23052463768115936,255,6,55,3,9,86,52,69,0.077,0.78,0.142,0.4895,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,1,3,3,6,0,2,2,0,8,0,0,3,1,15,14,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,9,2,5,12,0,3,0,2,1,0,6,1,0,0,2,33,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550931845157886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560071584364891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340941260512837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22696010730853025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26583184346200656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071834815411626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575562026128274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29082954425849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827141228122587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978789997604904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20541298411009445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340387911881232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646565106474993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5423400535293426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meta4ia,2019/01/28,"Please advise: Our 4-year-old is relentlessly combative and driving me and my wife crazy. We have a very intelligent little boy who has been a somewhat difficult child since he was born. He didn't sleep through the night until he was 2 years old. Now he's four years old, and no matter if it's going to bed, getting dressed, eating his dinner, or going to preschool, he doesn't want to and will not do it.

We have a very happy household and he is a generally very happy little guy. Until it comes time to do things that he doesn't want to do. And then, he turns into a little monster. We've tried talking to him, giving him options, letting him be the leader, putting our foot down, and all kinds of other things. But nothing seems to change. He seems to be getting worse if anything.

We thought maybe this was a phase he was going through. The terrible twos. The trying threes. And now it's the Fearsome fours. Have any of you parents out their experience this with your child when they were younger and they grew up to be a great kid? Do any of you have any advice or recommendations. Thank you.",3.195644367929169,5.284023537383182,3.6353418593212012,89.0599040826365,75.30841121495327,6.000590260698477,24.347270044269557,6.8360192770164,0.7850691588785046,863,28,173,8,19,269,125,214,0.081,0.813,0.106,0.8190000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,5,4,3,0,3,7,0,0,12,0,25,4,2,0,1,32,39,18,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,11,16,2,0,3,0,0,7,5,2,0,3,8,0,18,5,21,26,2,27,0,0,0,0,37,7,0,8,13,112,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422013685376635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384604884832413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961876316803916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365042040298922,0.10068737154038956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960407218106935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433742761004725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213674585056088,0.11212818342673188,0.1992878780244277,0.0,0.0,0.12886778097977053,0.0,0.115736013741148,0.0,0.24885570951601024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171930473933446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195243674857306,0.0,0.0,0.3514529462400756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742820176257768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969006391535344,0.0,0.11215575101023068,0.0,0.3679581639239612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297886277643959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830627871791406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750321866830638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21281816274205376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668972223552376,0.0,0.11697091592417347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394894263750707,0.0,0.10761338674388768,0.0,0.0,0.1553083961199614,0.0,0.0,0.09279482615202113,0.06815745922864265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587165243041804,0.1271389492527998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28933081621304,0.13788537447959578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911733131954598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258132248287621
parenting,HartlineBling,2019/01/28,"Three boys (14, 11, and 9) want to share a room and use extra bedroom as a hangout spot. Any problems with this at their ages? I have 3 boys and we live in a 3 bedroom house. My wife and I have the master and the younger two boys shared while our oldest had his own room. 

Recently we got a new TV for the family room and were going to sell the old one. We don't allow TV's in the bedrooms but our oldest suggest making his bedroom into a hangout spot where they can go when they have friends over and moving in with the younger boys. We haven't officially moved him yet but he's been bunking with them in the bigger room and we allowed him to setup the TV in his old bedroom. 

It seems to be going well and we were going to move his bed to their room. It's a good sized room and they have a bunkbed, so we would just move his single bed in and set up the pullout couch and futon in his old bedroom. It's nothing that can't be undone. The same restrictions on gaming time would apply and the boys are all involved in sports that keep them busy. They never fought over the other TV even when that was our only one. It's mainly for weekends when one or all have friends over. 

Are we missing any potential issues? The oldest will be 15 soon and everyone talks about how they really need their space but he doesn't mind sharing and isn't a super private teen. ",3.8364210526315774,4.534921514285717,4.443796992481205,89.45067669172936,71.35714285714286,6.894736842105264,25.09398496240601,6.5966054737557815,0.7416785714285714,1064,29,229,7,19,339,146,280,0.047,0.8740000000000001,0.079,0.8340000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,11,0,10,2,12,11,1,0,21,0,24,0,0,5,3,50,37,26,0,5,5,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,16,5,9,27,0,2,1,9,1,8,6,3,1,5,7,0,32,8,28,24,7,51,0,1,0,0,47,24,0,2,18,158,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711814662759817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313091372310957,0.0,0.0,0.120266896023595,0.0,0.0,0.11865184864273673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944819222669896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861219599795296,0.10556739128120604,0.10066364154319207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452282857637014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136762270256191,0.0,0.1118722647150909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113878580060643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401411474381082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708512258750082,0.0,0.0,0.5350871572305136,0.0,0.09332535859216064,0.09707282518872133,0.12155866910280595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076834634953255,0.0,0.39621418057156504,0.0,0.2558628143086781,0.09572401014913942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043329779162502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063066232492741,0.0,0.12427391425982155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458038199556556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116341196434812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07339136485010044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294925492098968,0.0,0.0,0.10870468370154443,0.0,0.0,0.07423689160695753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316539340909187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17881804452091793,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IbelieveinMenow,2019/01/28,"Birthday money My 10 year old got a bunch of gift cards from different store at his birthday party.  I had told him I would buy them from him if he wanted to make one large purchase at one store. 

However he decided he wanted to buy skins, decals, upgrades etc. for video games he plays. I had thought he would buy a game for his new switch. I think it's dumb and a waste of money to spend money in games to look ""cooler"".  He's arguing it's his money to do what he wants with. 

My question is would you veto purchases made with birthday money? It's a over $100. Or I could just decide not to buy the gift cards and he will have to find something at each store he has a gift card for.",2.493706293706296,3.6745883006993054,3.6730069930069966,91.88335664335665,75.08391608391608,6.598601398601399,22.090909090909093,6.980632752743323,0.4330755244755249,529,13,119,5,11,172,84,143,0.064,0.8420000000000001,0.094,0.5106,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,1,0,1,3,2,0,6,0,11,1,1,2,0,25,21,4,0,8,4,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,6,5,15,0,1,2,0,2,6,2,14,1,21,10,3,8,0,0,1,0,22,5,1,3,3,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925135998681004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22147735710345876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364173367759045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374883189350608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695423541319338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801252392681466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20058365784218812,0.14150045215545273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20473472456280625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244074055190755,0.0,0.2872906457432439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746973233138385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631950470795148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583029432787153,0.0,0.16829100592729326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20255906068361196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750996041926518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517604136594402,0.0,0.0,0.13651025002859926
parenting,smoffatt34920,2019/01/28,"At what age should my son start talking? My son is 19 months old today.  He doesn't say muxh besides mama and hi.  He mostly grunts and points when he wants something, or grabs our hands to lead us where he wants.  I am confident he will develop in time, but my wife is Panicked that he isn't speaking more.  Is this normal?  Is there more we can be doing to help him develop?  Any tips appreciated.",1.810917721518987,4.05256330379747,3.048591772151898,90.79415348101269,80.51898734177216,5.975316455696203,21.26740506329114,7.1686216300943375,0.5429354430379747,307,9,65,4,8,99,61,79,0.046,0.831,0.123,0.7677,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,12,1,1,1,0,11,15,5,0,4,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,4,12,3,12,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,2,7,37,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054809700049137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025332612939373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411833519493708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960552510246969,0.0,0.0,0.3170688818312818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856413807549397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402918746921397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326195775536471,0.0,0.0,0.2138722855603721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428668999239384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17619347663572502,0.0,0.2864148701780533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634644749756691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3564467305813136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squish059,2019/01/28,"I am no longer enjoying being a parent. 36 year old male here.
I have a 14 year old and a 15 month old. 
I loved being a dad to my older son, up until a few (3) years ago. The stress he causes now, far outweighs the fun. I realize parenting is not all fun, but he just has the type of personality that is hard to like. He’s not smart, funny, or athletic. He routinely lies, does not do schoolwork and has poor grades. I have emailed his teachers over the past 3 years, no less than 50 times trying to help reduce this behavior. I monitor his Google Classroom and Online PowerSchool, but he still somehow “forgets” to turn in projects; or gets extremely low grades (50% or lower) for in class assignments. His teachers all swear he is a wonderful student. No major behavioral problems. He is of average intelligence according to testing. 

Everyone says it is ‘maturity’. 

I’m exhausted. My wife, his stepmother is exhausted. It stresses our marriage. I have less time, energy, and patience for our youngest. The youngest is a sweetheart, but all of the combined stress makes me strongly consider not having any more children. My wife and I have always wanted more children, but I don’t think I can do it anymore. 

I would never do it, but sometimes I fantasize about leaving and never coming back. Just disappearing and starting a new life somewhere else. 

Unfortunately I also know I will get empty nest syndrome as soon as they’re grow up and leave the house. 

I’m not asking for advice. Just ranting.",4.037374100719422,6.390357600719426,5.0460805755395715,78.69064604316549,73.71223021582733,8.189007194244605,30.544460431654677,8.954980946260402,2.90199781294964,1175,54,205,26,25,384,169,278,0.172,0.7120000000000001,0.116,-0.926,4,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,2,0,0,1,11,15,0,3,15,0,24,4,0,2,5,41,38,20,0,3,16,6,1,1,1,2,3,1,0,4,6,9,0,0,4,0,1,3,11,7,0,0,0,2,24,8,21,34,9,32,0,1,0,1,30,7,0,5,23,134,30,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117952350366995,0.10699844465434492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652841706036797,0.10043692886251708,0.0,0.0,0.08208411073863572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970775917680986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284366680288012,0.0,0.0,0.0928153406390982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399814817622536,0.0,0.10397739358926546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563049446829816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083424112592787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153396033595944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612763945200034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812872406972113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090658053595448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927833369286324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633677322370904,0.0,0.0,0.2556201131431654,0.0,0.0,0.08525810486067502,0.058970776594436176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894173374711502,0.0,0.08057208584860706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09634625030850348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186191570988342,0.11657845294757717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799814241784819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680591026662339,0.0,0.11522738293445732,0.0,0.10539568410767948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549918770539107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599012916550037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938116272247487,0.0,0.08543621519522172,0.0,0.09639584016769688,0.0,0.4148043975068431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734342872207631,0.0,0.0,0.14076909260498652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195134237899948,0.1312932929397321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119543212386414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090033508611487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574596589128991,0.0,0.0,0.3109224152142122
parenting,hellomondayyyyy,2019/01/28,"Am I being unreasonable? Disagreement with husband over when's an appropriate age to drive... On a throwaway. He's on Reddit, but don't think he frequents r/parenting much.

Anywho, we live in a pretty rural area and he wants to beginning teaching our 10 year old son how to drive. I'm fine with him learning all there is to learn about cars and even helping his dad work on them. My husband's really passionate about it, and my son seems to share that passion. I just don't really think a kid this young should be driving a motorized vehicle, even in the country.

Hubby claims this is totally normal and his dad taught him how when he was around that age and that I'm just being an overprotective mom.

I think he's absolutely crazy. A go-cart or something smaller with supervision, fine, but I don't want my 10-year-old driving a truck just yet! Even if we do live in the middle of nowhere!

Am I being unreasonable?",3.7137827715355813,5.687750078651687,4.749235955056181,82.14876029962551,73.49438202247191,8.117453183520599,27.59700374531836,8.841846274778883,2.20803925093633,726,28,140,15,15,237,105,178,0.038,0.8240000000000001,0.138,0.9621,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,1,15,5,0,0,10,0,14,2,0,2,2,32,24,13,0,5,7,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,11,0,0,6,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,16,5,19,17,3,25,0,0,0,2,23,10,0,3,10,89,22,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677300800093206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712104444362812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647007951092212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255705722826721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308506725393464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194112510774081,0.0,0.0,0.13771702508322994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355418295717807,0.0,0.0,0.39316525779731576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080197599774969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059291805666886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400305947678403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054800522591826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442240809778501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36012121174565737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220996885456872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363863151726406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412826333490194
parenting,marandabarber18,2019/01/28,"Getting my toddler to listen to me. I have a 3 year old, almost 4. He has absolutely no problem listening to his step dad, he’s an angel when he’s around. But with just me he constantly back talks and ignores everything I say. I can put him in time out( which usually doesn’t last because he won’t sit there) spank him(which I hate doing, doesn’t really have an effect either). He’s usually a great, fun, very energetic little boy. But the times he just doesn’t wanna listen are very hard. He will tell me he doesn’t like me and I’m being mean. Or ask me why I don’t like him. I try and stay calm, but after the 5th time of him jumping off the couch, me telling him to stop I dunno what to do. This is usually how something will go 

Me: please stop jumping on the couch I don’t want you go get hurt 
Him: I won’t get hurt, I’m trying to jump high
Me: I understand you wanna go high and have fun, but you need to stop jumping on the couch. 
Him: I don’t want to, stop telling me to stop because I don’t want to. 

He is very strong willed and stubborn. He always has to explain why he is doing something, and let him know I understand his point but he needs to understand mine and listen because I make the rules. This causes more argument from him. 

I’m at a loss, I don’t know how to break this cycle of him just not listening to me. 
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parenting,zOneNzOnly,2019/01/28,"How do i get my kid to hold my hand when he walks? My 18month old absolutely refuses to let us hold his hand when he walks. He doesn't really even walk much, most of the time it's running. It makes it difficult when taking him places because he just runs off and when we try to hold his hand to guide him, he just pulls away and throws a tantrum. So it's a constant chasing him or leaving him in the stroller. It doesn't matter if it's at home, the park, or at the mall, he will act this way. 

We bought one of those backpack leashes a while back but I've always thought it was degrading, so we haven't actually used it yet. 

Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks",3.1836956521739097,4.168542876811596,4.157217391304346,89.83669565217392,73.13043478260869,7.548985507246377,26.118840579710145,7.908726449838941,1.1918527536231889,519,17,119,7,10,168,90,138,0.069,0.828,0.102,0.6920000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,12,4,1,0,7,0,9,3,3,3,0,22,16,14,0,2,6,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,10,5,0,4,1,1,1,8,3,3,0,1,3,3,14,1,11,9,2,25,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,4,10,73,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.21724612792684986,0.0,0.0,0.2175428102720988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523862976760694,0.0,0.0,0.15139001531728366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20915989771564966,0.17118192198941912,0.0,0.13570778612914555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405743744454599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703916931744568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631036199788965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223307163855376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357236528234379,0.0,0.2276452078859816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860134563198474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636521596249203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336034469562992,0.0,0.15085385203584573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23259171819770974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261680858293002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738339849620298,0.0,0.0,0.2049596438948024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673632527394292,0.1298121822475824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114514692779735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677858316151573,0.1922731950911712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767063059062542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814367692927525,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stashthesocks,2019/01/28,"Walked in on my son masturbating As the title says. But he was doing it in the kitchen. When he was meant to be washing dishes. With the light on. In full view of anyone who looked through the window. Or -like me- walked in the kitchen. He's 12. I mean I know it was going to be happening, but why do it in a place he's so likely to be caught out? How do I even begin to talk to him about this. I'm mortified. He's mortified. Any advice appreciated. ",-0.6218380566801613,1.5654465894736869,1.9168421052631608,94.33558704453442,93.63157894736842,5.02834008097166,16.781376518218618,6.67199483983844,-0.1596801619433199,346,9,80,5,13,118,62,95,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,6,0,9,4,0,1,0,9,18,7,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,5,2,3,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,4,6,2,18,10,1,16,0,0,2,0,10,10,0,1,4,52,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31246699937230754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21744861970823945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358450557772225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21119929437958368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817276911434378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827638233650518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573242426081956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31243839662010153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685189217859369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483137498854381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340824556471633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542869856885605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570119858788707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885347985847745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jf_reebiz,2019/01/28,"pick up responsibilities My girlfriend has a five year old daughter in Kindergarten. We live an hour away from the baby daddy who lives with his mother (sad). She goes to school down there so we typically have her over the weekends and we had her all last summer. The mother, my girlfriend ultimately would like to change that situation but that is another story. Anyways we usually pick her up Friday nights after school at their house and they pick her up from my house on Sunday. Well last night they did not show up and they have pulled this shit before saying lack of gas and other bs excuses. So I the bigger person will typically make the drive and drop her back off so she can make school in the morning. Anyways last night I was fed up with and my gfs daughter took the day off school today and my gf took the day off work. While I sit here at work feeling guilty yet they blame it on us for her missing school today. Still no call today about them coming to get her so I guess I will just end up taking her home tonight. The dad doesn't even work so he is literally sitting at home most likely reading this post.",4.173779210314262,5.824600022831053,4.4131130808487775,86.36763094278808,71.60273972602741,6.796776792908945,23.384636046199304,7.285733465282438,0.7934042976094546,891,23,177,9,17,278,136,219,0.103,0.871,0.027000000000000003,-0.9624,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,6,3,16,6,1,0,11,0,13,2,1,5,1,28,24,14,0,2,3,5,1,2,3,3,0,1,2,1,7,14,1,0,1,3,0,5,3,3,1,1,6,2,32,3,30,15,3,54,0,2,0,0,36,20,1,2,27,123,39,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667061880224613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557675179423147,0.07822250942140355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656298747971547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387560439338224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761467580070637,0.08762961589803335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121221589967189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090100763673255,0.0,0.0,0.0671903474010543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143670492224352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05314865192218802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206479890582537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20408284386039016,0.0,0.10018153302009536,0.234760777571246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24876555471313044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939826963911652,0.0,0.1796552760756731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580838471307335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863943517944761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674636444110568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888249166174512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742724987281066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175547273582523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089814389850038,0.0,0.5147705501487659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442227234799534,0.0,0.1143464709632654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124006725376857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648675347076124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28927858770114784,0.0,0.22604697703551205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236619085121485,0.0,0.1120389579804082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914656384297642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22217746378348885,0.0,0.0,0.07226461249395398,0.0,0.0,0.06550946046728738
parenting,mybrainisfull,2019/01/28,"As a parent with a picky eater, this Orville scene gave me a good laugh. I now want to say this every night to my daughter.
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parenting,smurfalert15,2019/01/28,"My 4yo will not pick up & I’m loosing it My daughter is 4 yo she does some chores after dinner helps me with dishes, puts her dishes in the sink garbage in the garbage, however this child will not pick up her own toys and I’m going insane, I put her In time out I ground her from playing with her toys, from the tv, her tablet and she finds something to make her happy. I’ve spanked her but then put her in timeout thrown away toys nothing motivates this child to pick up her own toys I help her pick them up, I play music I try to incentivize! So far absolutely nothing works. I’m also 95% sure she had adhd if that makes any difference. Please help before I loose my shit.",1.875146651909244,3.851616071942448,2.841870503597125,93.73194798007748,78.92805755395683,5.715771997786387,21.483674598782514,6.67199483983844,0.2795164360819036,530,15,116,5,13,168,85,139,0.065,0.787,0.14800000000000002,0.8818,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,2,2,5,1,0,3,0,4,4,1,7,1,19,10,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,4,5,3,0,2,7,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,25,4,18,7,3,19,0,0,0,0,21,12,1,2,3,66,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208732788679336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13889394915035122,0.0,0.18818507423348907,0.0,0.11811015502153943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318056307551182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477911393018379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146139846464102,0.0,0.0,0.15199085382526145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874279179637724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870785016459027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488840614152816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492474493556194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318690295686799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333063659132733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190651389242726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5237970916962612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828274009620354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337093861550744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369383828034398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127574752412266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791911571566785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264430347417987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jsaunty,2019/01/28,"Not sure where I should post this but Im concerned my 3 year old nephew is being sexually abused. Created a throwaway account to post this. 

My nephew has come home from his fathers house a few different times now showing alarming signs that are getting harder to ignore.

There were a few times when he first started talking that he would come home and say some weird phrases like “mama, daddy do bum bum” also he would stick his fingers in his butt when my sister was changing him...
This last weekend he came home and he was crying non stop, my sister has another little one who is 7 months so she was getting overwhelmed and told him to please go cry in his bedroom. He, then went right to his bedroom and cried in the fetal position. She said this was very weird because usually he will just continue to cry in her face until she gives him what he wants. 
When she went to go change him, he wouldn’t let her and fought her the whole time. When she finally got his pull up off he had a very red sore bum and scratched under his testicles. He said “mama it was in me” but wouldn’t elaborate further and told her to call daddy about the scratches.. she didn’t want to call the father because they don’t have the greatest relationship and she has been accusatory of this thing in the past so she pretended to call and she said ok I called him and he told me to ask you about the scratches and you need to tell me.. he go very angry and said tell daddy come here right now and tell you about the scratches! This kid is the sweetest little boy in the world and this is very unlike him! Yesterday we had a birthday party and he came into the restaurant waddling because his butt hurt! But he was his happy go lucky self and so excited to see and play with his cousins. She is taking him to the doctor today but I’m wondering what else we should do? He also refused to take a bath which is his favorite thing ever to do! 

I will edit if I’m missing any details which I’m sure I am.. ",3.5186386280114337,5.06907493164557,4.047202939975502,88.74092282564312,73.10126582278481,6.71702735810535,25.65332788893425,7.233258080335977,1.0895781951817072,1558,51,317,16,31,491,194,395,0.132,0.77,0.098,-0.9368,1,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,2,3,1,1,19,16,1,2,18,1,37,6,4,0,3,52,73,33,0,10,7,7,5,1,0,8,2,5,6,3,17,26,0,3,1,5,1,12,5,8,0,2,24,12,49,8,33,39,5,58,0,3,2,2,86,18,2,4,27,201,66,2,0.0,0.08956025648434092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089652206935175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051402912259767036,0.07926134914613854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066523656701602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823452112235765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087380813962866,0.1729066856519138,0.0,0.0,0.15992565689904273,0.19533893191654897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33212257753192914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897410973774023,0.0,0.07736824375828892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314466469497396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837431228845639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280373288982812,0.0,0.06429571487493912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898395835615847,0.07251157469976117,0.17183521469209345,0.0,0.060455193503846726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046558331083356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22746490631984576,0.0,0.0,0.08721921821504278,0.0809192733445298,0.0,0.08164877377768222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161488423912996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729457337589428,0.0,0.036928823713836684,0.1515194829459964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06033418412650845,0.0,0.0,0.05604806786255714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931763176262055,0.0,0.051220863568808776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215797310349142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297370053963044,0.0,0.0,0.14478617177299669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115398216980495,0.0,0.1291046841616733,0.2876086769238828,0.060111173074760285,0.0,0.0,0.06023441233461476,0.0,0.07885550584562881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053502075297740495,0.0,0.0,0.06319554301721261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424829220663459,0.0,0.1136665998561354,0.060755338790221276,0.1982035827644985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043555529561757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222914735169258,0.0,0.07164925511741052,0.216684744156422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325028078179376,0.24947439560228685,0.08916835469928887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014297586717092,0.0,0.08439209103837067,0.0,0.0,0.08197272747012405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073920962699634,0.0,0.0,0.04867664851648438
parenting,ladysayrune,2019/01/28,"Irregular Birthmark Behavior My daughter (18mo) has a birthmark that hasn't caused any trouble up until about a month ago. Her famoly practitioner said it wasn't a problem at her 1 year check up so I didn't think anything of it until this started happening.

The birthmark is really light and only about half an inch long. But recently it has started to do this thing where it turns bright red and a small white spot appears. It goes away on its own. I don't know how often it happens because it doesn't seem to hurt her. But she also kind of squirms when I touch it during these episodes. 

I have a picture but I don't know how to link to it.

Has anyone had something similar happen with their kiddos birthmarks? We just moved on base and I have no idea where to take her to get this looked at. ",2.9932368896925867,5.02251378481013,3.6734538878842713,88.82683544303801,75.70886075949366,6.286437613019893,25.84267631103075,7.1686216300943375,1.1495663652802892,630,23,126,7,14,199,104,158,0.019,0.932,0.049,0.3173,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,0,11,5,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,3,0,21,29,13,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,16,5,0,0,6,0,1,2,7,3,0,1,4,7,14,2,20,25,1,23,0,1,4,0,9,11,0,3,10,89,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595522300336981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393970167845022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240087190978186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585473508615566,0.0,0.14811824876527888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691086020124967,0.0,0.0,0.10972157782229394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490157614419409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403849844949924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774995385695857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268537863425134,0.20318929123988305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743418404169745,0.197838017838004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592874378093481,0.1511481203926346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366806117384412,0.19130322930856605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689218301314934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222823214867647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530761578269128,0.0,0.1777205884721166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121380519453444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385814381800148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856679338807212,0.0,0.0,0.25479881888139216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533173820095834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195788234409893,0.11533173749323787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957798334795813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590907904117025
parenting,ONUBrass2010,2019/01/28,"4 year old naps at prek but not at home Ok parent elite. My 4 year old is about the best kid I can ask for. Does what he's told for the most part, good reports from school, with the occasional normal hiccup once in a while.

Biggest issue is naps. At school he naps every day, Monday thru Friday. On weekends though, no nap. We've talked with his teachers, aligned his nap schedule at home with that of school, even down to the same routine. We don't do lots of things that deviate his schedule on the weekends and he wakes and sleeps at the same time morning and night.

What could we be doing to improve our chances?? We are open to any and all advice. He naps (or tries) in his bed in his room with lights off. No toys except maybe a stuffed toy to snuggle with. 

Sincerely,

Very tired and frustrated mom and dad.",3.175584045584042,4.763586074074077,3.2551851851851867,93.91987179487178,74.06172839506172,5.972269705603041,23.57264957264957,6.297961479604792,0.3620877492877495,632,18,137,4,13,192,107,162,0.095,0.792,0.113,0.6609,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,2,3,5,1,0,8,1,9,4,2,0,1,26,11,10,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,5,15,0,0,0,10,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,11,4,29,8,7,28,0,0,0,0,20,15,0,3,13,83,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495229059341119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405434678046542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304685683778096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057810418417245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216873467724053,0.0,0.0,0.0986809728784114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390304168603107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106389567636373,0.0,0.1289203737084289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834036511141805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069697960948252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970621663422047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008650552609755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537225085681452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792074236174725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435926935521028,0.14992062649677432,0.0,0.0,0.32112360947661145,0.16295425796335766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699032527458692,0.16569858160985027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645731345929869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312388638746746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229863603699056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165529189285437,0.0,0.1503348708774215,0.0,0.08922333351780043,0.17586637337714714,0.0,0.14621084370049234,0.0,0.10388604228388564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262520649689208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707120247385174
parenting,chiburbsmom,2019/01/28,"Daycare issues - dealbreakers or normal?  I need some perspective on whether I am being too reactionary or whether I need to follow my mom gut with regard to child care.

My 2.5 year old has been going to the same daycare for the past year and a half and our 3-month-old is due to start there shortly.  The owner/head teacher genuinely loves the kids, and I feel like our child has learned a lot there and seems happy upon arrival and departure.  However, I’ve observed that they will sometimes have the toddlers buckled into their little chairs.  It doesn’t seem to be as punishment, but more containment as they’re trying to get kids ready to go home for the day, etc.  It’s made me slightly uneasy but I figured it wasn’t abnormal.  In the last week, our child has now complained twice that “Ms. Mary kept me in the chair.”  Now I’m really questioning the practice and wondering whether it’s normal/appropriate. 

On top of that my anxiety is in high gear with the baby, as I’ve observed some things that are not 100% in line with safe sleep guidelines (for example, a baby bundled in a fleece blanket sleeping in a bouncer chair placed inside a crib).  We plan to firmly emphasize the sleep environment requirements (basically everything required by DCFS licensing standards), but between this and the chair thing I’m seriously considering pulling the toddler, not starting the baby there, and using our four weeks of Bright Horizons backup care while we look for a new solution.

Finally, the communication is not ideal - the setup doesn't allow us to talk much to the teachers at the end of the day and there have been personnel changes that we don't hear about unless we ask.

Would these things be dealbreakers for you? Would you try to communicate more with the owner before making a switch?  This daycare works very well for us logistically, and other options are going to be a challenge to implement, so we don't want to pull the plug if we're being overly nitpicky and these are things that are going to be an issue everywhere.  But obviously the health and safety of our kids is #1, so we’ll make whatever change we need to to achieve that.",9.31561888389315,8.093734801507539,8.678468659084901,70.15181301243061,60.28140703517589,11.796032795556734,38.78656440095214,10.771109862388434,4.145766834170853,1713,71,298,34,19,543,224,398,0.055,0.852,0.093,0.9484,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,14,2,2,8,11,13,1,0,32,0,31,6,4,5,1,69,60,29,0,9,14,1,1,1,0,4,1,1,1,6,20,23,0,5,7,0,0,7,8,3,1,3,5,4,28,10,50,45,8,42,0,0,2,1,32,17,0,11,19,207,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756899955594159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924969694445044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419195010846141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20175495702063775,0.0,0.20933402785051616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761819637098962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763282345922438,0.0,0.11034595402045032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892226258908642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050027807734477375,0.0706838449953131,0.0,0.10838560405494096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051692862980421056,0.0,0.2249229943183021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532509282379496,0.0,0.0,0.10154254894429657,0.10517021401233212,0.11151428915661754,0.0,0.0,0.10453715308289636,0.09924641644509567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065384918854264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065054815727672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048337831225412096,0.09916540059277656,0.0,0.0,0.08308596166495097,0.0,0.0,0.0841165460939495,0.08929858895174646,0.09362086295087507,0.13208847202452614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587911788492848,0.07897418103619051,0.0,0.0727334049918484,0.22009166058291896,0.0,0.09555834107213199,0.0,0.0,0.1938833738080505,0.0,0.0,0.20764497277525684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445088076654624,0.0,0.0,0.10337283465245403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083715146459684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338447424758341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801452961556764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970389371742812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785569782909898,0.0,0.14006264082451506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795254496932184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629294102910227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434960112042296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23802894366422134,0.08545370986667565,0.0,0.08163711984932982,0.0583582747382086,0.0,0.15872984606263785,0.0,0.08896031307978823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729786294419424,0.07203060834927594,0.0,0.0,0.14057044071229574,0.0,0.0,0.12743019592724925
parenting,JasonH94612,2019/01/28,"My Wife Hates My Mom (and Im Not Too Thrilled About her Either) Im looking for advice about how to handle a very negative situation.  I am a middle-aged only child of divorced parents and neither my mother nor I have a solid grounding of clear communication.  I also, frankly, dont have a particularly strong bond with her and am basically indifferent to whether I see her or have a relationship with her.  

She, on the other hand, wants to move closer to us and this has caused a lot of tension with my wife, who strongly dislikes my mother and considers any time spent with her time wasted that creates tensions in the family that spill over onto our kids (ages 13 and 7), completely ruining the week preparing for her visits, the weekend she visits, and a number of days afterwards, as we recover and repair. My wife also deeply resents the emotional work she has to put into dealing with these dynamics.

Frankly, I dont know why I shouldnt just cut my mom off (for lack of a better term): she is not really doing anything for me or my family (caretaking, helping), she has no bond with me or the kids and she makes my wife furious.  It seems the best thing to do would be to Defend the Family and respect my wife's feelings and just tell my mom we dont want her to move here and that visits will be few and far between.

But I also feel guilty and dont want to hurt an old woman's feelings.  That's really all there is on the other side of the coin, if Im truly honest with myself.

Unfortunately, I cannot control whether she moves here or not--she is an able bodied adult--so even if I strongly discourage her, she just may do it anyway.  

I dont know if Im looking for a) courage to just cut her off; b) some advice on a better way to think about this situation and make my wife feel better; or c) something else entirely. I suspect it's b); part of me just feels like a) is a nuclear option and, like, who really likes their mom anyway?

OK, enough, Let the opining begin! Any advice, book recommendations or anything else welcome",5.599727763923526,5.742508643391522,6.728245012468829,76.58377233998341,67.30423940149626,9.576101413133832,30.67342061512884,9.408791572840183,2.6258153782211133,1590,56,307,29,24,537,199,401,0.121,0.732,0.147,0.9042,2,0,1,0,1,0,55.0,4,0,1,9,19,27,5,2,25,1,28,2,2,5,2,74,48,34,0,9,20,13,6,3,0,4,0,0,0,4,15,26,0,2,10,2,2,7,13,10,0,0,1,9,49,17,44,40,11,31,0,3,3,0,50,13,0,14,13,220,64,2,0.0744398130820295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822517142921585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858847488200588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124325109147814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225152469667557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811999125808643,0.19750789615142975,0.0,0.08268585107952724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647019342547945,0.0,0.0,0.07804872773979678,0.0,0.08349058011727943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800752118582307,0.07674417864634872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.436214532666698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436982384370095,0.08373477039235999,0.0,0.07691622593006939,0.0,0.04916679448208285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105256924000915,0.0,0.1881950308019842,0.053179817339579834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349390409640061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04989543758496882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968935950514677,0.0,0.3216310882586029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182034900117678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611975232801538,0.0,0.10910259771504947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250213896858159,0.0,0.0,0.06328606708943459,0.0,0.0,0.09937830653375287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487320375964693,0.0,0.2373532219661003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781120617052057,0.0,0.0,0.05661483223533011,0.0,0.0,0.08265660306964819,0.08061106346100891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483257256177432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306415120210125,0.0,0.0,0.07992050092774393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05931889327128824,0.0677672100660244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673469376202126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730740491076688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506367770126946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945450411408426,0.047698026475051516,0.0,0.0,0.08681290727450147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954192960524272,0.0,0.0,0.06142064176056945,0.1317195912745013,0.059086858736422776,0.059711127914097085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717035293427641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054193070497612364,0.0,0.0,0.05287990743089745,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sweet_limes,2019/01/28,"Share your birth stories and advice I am a mom of a 15 month old and am hoping to have another soon. I don’t have many friends that are parents but I love to hear birth stories. Most of the mom friends that I do have don’t seem very willing to share their experiences and no one I know seems to want to hear my birth story. This kind of hurts because I feel that it was one of the single most transformative times in my life and my friends and family don’t care or get it. Even talking to my husband about the pain and trauma I went through, his main reply is “by everything worked out and our baby is here and it was all worth it.” Of course all those things are true, but he doesn’t get it. Speaking about the bad and ugly of childbirth in my mind does not negate the good but highlight it. In working through my trauma I feel empowered to do it again, now equipped with tools I didn’t have the first time around. 

So what is your birth story? Did your birth go according to how you planned/hoped it would? If you have multiple children, is there anything you did differently the next time around that improved your birthing experience? Dad’s are welcome to reply too! I’ll post my own story in a separate comment seeing how this is getting a bit long.",4.138277999114648,5.2922689123506,4.2810026560424985,89.20648849048254,71.03187250996015,7.330765825586543,27.88866755201417,7.594959193182576,1.3772282425852147,991,35,210,11,18,307,138,251,0.11,0.727,0.163,0.9213,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,7,1,3,14,17,0,0,11,0,28,3,0,2,3,35,45,17,0,4,6,5,2,0,3,2,2,3,0,1,17,13,0,0,5,0,1,2,8,5,0,3,6,6,26,12,28,37,8,27,0,1,1,1,29,7,0,7,17,147,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987539102534565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286341469234897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095006254677462,0.21841133231725585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242747621653348,0.0747807932933639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392798768919978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507408716683802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816798281374184,0.0,0.0,0.10735264527743593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081024869982713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025127695873348,0.2399969781359023,0.11564591532708915,0.0,0.12405509094297552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434624849149,0.0,0.0,0.28433235772236665,0.0,0.19227594937323608,0.0,0.06971833211095739,0.1028929404224279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765245152493784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184273607614005,0.0,0.0,0.1313248110015217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277458568417027,0.06741829734472965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664811363617529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856242862586807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071786947255907,0.0,0.0,0.12437195122795802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386554018504572,0.2873480801698128,0.09791703508766568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046494909608414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872548862326869,0.0,0.16625384656801945,0.0,0.13053354342296086,0.0,0.1362147072527077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748756419726307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775511430943604,0.2233551909385417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860053179158457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814990037099826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459619034044725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121871001206886,0.07235616957620869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371981641868747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861593529890116,0.0,0.0,0.08714392852777368,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ufo_underwear,2019/01/28,"3 y/o is driving me nuts. My oldest daughter is 6 and she was so easy at this age. Really, she's always been a very low maintenance kid, well behaved, independent, entertains herself with no problem etc.

My three year old is constantly underfoot, up my ass, or needing something. I love her so much. She's very bright and very affectionate. She always wants to cuddle and be held. In some ways, she's amazing because I really get the chance to appreciate her sweetness at this age. 

But she cannot stand to be left alone for a moment. Doesn't matter if I'm trying to pee, trying to cook, whatever. She will freak the fuck out if I'm out of sight any longer than two minutes. 

If I'm busy or focused on something else, she's constantly seeking negative attention.  She'll run through the house and knock things over, throwbpapers in the air, drop books on the floor. She'll throw her toys, which I take away. She'll sit and scream, so I move her to time out. She gets up so I stand there and make sure she can't leave the area. It's just all very frustrating. I'm trying very hard to be consistent with discipline and also to be encouraging/give positive reinforcement when she does sit down to color or play quietly on her own. 

I've tried offering her choices, laying out consequences, letting her choose. It works sometimes but not often. We do several activities together throughout the day. Reading, puzzles, toys, playing outside when we can. I let her help me cook sometimes and try to find tasks around the house so she can help me clean. Usually that's more of a fight than anything, though. 

She wears me out, wears on my patience. I need space occasionally. She's very hell-bent on testing boundaries right now. 

Does anyone have a kid who went through a similar phase? It makes me feel incompetent sometimes. Plus its exhausting.

I'm getting ready to enroll her in a tumbling/gymnastics class to help her burn off some steam and be around kids her own age, and also to get used to taking instruction from someone. 

If anyone has any helpful advice or tips that worked for them, please feel free to pass them along :) maybe I'm not speaking to her in a way that gets through? Or maybe there is something I'm not doing?",3.655964086687305,5.88941075058824,4.1534891640866896,85.20443808049538,74.43529411764706,7.579566563467492,27.184210526315788,8.452757503120043,1.972058823529412,1759,68,338,33,38,554,236,425,0.08199999999999999,0.773,0.146,0.9826,0,1,3,0,1,0,62.0,2,0,2,2,18,19,3,0,15,0,26,10,4,4,2,60,52,32,0,8,15,1,3,0,0,4,1,3,1,3,12,23,2,2,5,9,1,6,8,8,1,2,4,10,50,12,54,37,8,59,0,1,3,4,47,31,2,13,15,206,62,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263711747460177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875850852688416,0.0,0.13525512828588834,0.14073171519475666,0.0,0.0,0.11501583954540527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826131457109294,0.0,0.06959078178091102,0.15056370429414676,0.0,0.0,0.07945273400157346,0.0,0.0,0.05155077407773407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277205132692986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054538206686905163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480089129740571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706442135613199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431367341905314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551842906113694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729197996104636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818009448517138,0.22091176067623425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575470980889099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22673178039829275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951560945963904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954340143693107,0.09188142992714428,0.17294934972177975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632430232663016,0.0,0.11289719794016292,0.0,0.16991624018642362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988049342855013,0.062165891499615884,0.12540953997961424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873800731200489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282829910032313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091843793646182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845890905132417,0.0,0.10835055362187658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722190776033209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553574162413436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165267165933886,0.1953095900296055,0.25091441935977354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797026480694656,0.0,0.12716652457994707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05618202940602602,0.0,0.08308586773120194,0.0,0.04931123460531907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287074512983578,0.0,0.08260889501566214,0.0,0.0,0.07303804979853193,0.09313772815167072,0.4186558571371734,0.04987933915491578,0.13424943569878026,0.0,0.0,0.07603517491460471,0.07839371991365837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231304098520967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445786385688948
parenting,EBsillyme,2019/01/28,"Finance education in high school Please take a minute and complete this short survey. 
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parenting,00lunastar00,2019/01/28,"Husband caught the kid (8M) that we are babysitting rubbing himself in the playroom, how do I approach this without embarrassing him? Is this normal? Not sure if this is the right subreddit but,

This is not the first time this has happened. At first we just shrug it off as he was just itching. Then when it happened again, maybe we were just at the wrong place, on the wrong time, maybe it so happened that he is hard and trying to get it down because, awkward. But today, my husband went passed the playroom, and there he is, rubbing himself while watching pokemon and quickly trying to hide it. I asked my husband if he was positive and that maybe he was just itching etc. Husband is totally positive and saying that there is definitely no doubt about it. Kids 8 man, didn't think we had to worry about that! His brother (6) was also in the playroom but at the toy section while he was doing this. The playroom is downstairs and they usually hang out there while I make school lunches/feed my own kids breakfast, I can hear them and always check on them. I have daughters (7 and 9) and this makes me very uncomfortable.

I babysit these kids sometimes, maybe once or twice a week, before school for about 2 hours. They are my friend's kids.

Is it normal for 8 year olds to do that? I understand that it is a natural urge but you'd think one would want to do it in private? Or is that something that has to be taught? 

Should I talk to this kid about privacy and that if he must do whatever he wants to his body, to do it in private where nobody can see or hear him?

I know I need to approach their mom, but this is all so awkward and uncomfortable!

How do I put this into proper non-awkward words and approach my friend???",4.430833333333332,5.61149400593472,4.5924814540059335,87.14650655291794,70.36498516320475,7.159693372898119,29.768669634025716,7.333567415737692,1.6294135509396632,1348,53,271,13,24,420,165,337,0.102,0.831,0.067,-0.8863,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,4,1,5,2,20,9,0,4,12,0,39,4,3,4,4,57,59,34,0,11,18,7,3,0,2,3,2,3,0,7,31,18,1,0,4,1,1,8,5,6,0,4,11,8,33,3,31,43,5,42,0,0,2,0,45,17,0,7,17,200,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880477818802727,0.09161290606973163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292963319823743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671165872862376,0.0,0.0936878969651812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222974626763298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227917913467309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18730381924129733,0.0,0.0,0.17012761936086093,0.0,0.05752326219437681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920860244231014,0.0,0.09862892816245986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481838042518655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842737082751434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060508665917410234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469866316361558,0.0,0.44244527341625856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289490366101898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163854459175035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21575133400746332,0.0,0.0,0.11553254669623683,0.11725404088591895,0.07460733106347933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150321790793689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068198041579212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402570790471257,0.0,0.08755678599947989,0.0,0.22285631153545185,0.08773629395032942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476117886736159,0.10889276853497117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376895074421542,0.0,0.0,0.08849506547086325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109663349674398,0.0,0.0,0.1284016327898179,0.0,0.104362935814529,0.0,0.0,0.14950279178553408,0.0,0.0,0.1146190915592163,0.0,0.0,0.12126076810616622,0.09084490931882434,0.1298809214822911,0.0,0.08831643312726238,0.0,0.0,0.10206479028508868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613349766804543,0.0,0.0,0.11181297591268276,0.0,0.07821263760274924,0.2407564611858817,0.0,0.07090147603722702
parenting,darth_jewbacca,2019/01/28,"PSA: Don't assume that other parents' child-proofing is good enough for your kid This should be obvious, but the lazy side of us wants to trust people when they emphatically promise ""My house is child proofed.""

I had my 1 & 3-year old kdis at a friend's house who also have a 1 yo. I heard the promise. I didn't look around closely. I later discovered my 1 yo with a foil-wrapped Hershey's kiss in his mouth, and not long after that my 3 yo came running to me crying that she burned her fingers on some candles. Candles that were not in a 1 yo's reach, but were accessible for a 3 yo. I also noticed a phone charger plugged in the wall dangling to the floor. 

Check your surroundings. One kid's proofing is might not be good enough for your kid.",4.3985430463576165,5.058268092715236,4.834099337748344,87.2992284768212,70.05960264900662,7.364503311258278,29.669536423841052,7.1686216300943375,1.4948193377483443,586,22,124,5,10,186,96,151,0.059,0.805,0.13699999999999998,0.907,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,3,1,0,4,7,0,0,10,0,13,3,2,0,3,18,17,6,0,2,5,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,7,5,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,6,3,18,7,15,7,3,18,0,0,1,1,17,11,0,3,5,76,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947749320811581,0.0,0.19969279732919226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406921596859425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079413885117046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024487730474845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808696270482518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239244979055793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309170112827104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253230562044207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16310282400933288,0.15476854684076374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955169196689357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098307900144093,0.1933955511329967,0.0,0.1248888414752958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464725877758552,0.0,0.0,0.12777286145172048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216944534234952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870699690266296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868543043904972
parenting,ktk256,2019/01/28,"Parental advice! Please no hate I ll try to make this long story short.

When i was little my mom worked alot so i spent alot of time taking care of my little newborn brother from age 8-11.

At 19 i had my 1st kid who died in the womb at 39 weeks. Its always been a serious trigger for me to be around newborns but i started working at a daycare to help move foward. The kids i worked with were age 3-7.

Now im 21 and i just recently had my second kid. Its difficult but i love my son so much. Hes 9 days old. But im realizing i hate doing the little things. Waking up in the middle of the night, changing him etc. I know im a dad and dont have that instinctive mother feeling but i just dont get the same joy my girlfriend does around him. To me hes cute and mine but all he does is sleep eat pee on repeat and i dont know how i can feel so much joy with someone i cant in anyway communicate or have stay awake for any more than a feeding...

Thoughts? advice? Im really struggling here emotionally with this. My girlfriend is supportive but i feel like a terrible parent.",0.2623144104803501,2.331746358078604,2.513404366812228,93.35768733624457,85.41921397379912,5.410724890829695,20.07703056768559,6.742157984588678,0.21864806986899588,832,25,189,10,25,282,140,229,0.101,0.748,0.151,0.932,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,3,12,13,2,1,13,0,18,7,4,3,1,32,34,16,1,0,9,7,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,7,9,2,0,7,0,1,1,5,6,0,1,7,3,29,7,24,26,8,30,0,0,0,2,22,15,0,3,14,118,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826901984313464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441345755157599,0.0,0.0,0.06898860484851588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180621728991981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343372588082136,0.0,0.10731928857640748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542602836514952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528774921466308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755690784128195,0.0,0.3566914143774181,0.0,0.0,0.1038073618794049,0.0,0.1141161494598818,0.0,0.0,0.11314213369281903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388655509754007,0.07247498208135547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05300276631086492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031920562883132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799893504373923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383280824283719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150712101707626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049562717649918764,0.30503479111224663,0.0,0.0897789201408741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915614258759875,0.0,0.06771780485177291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881550859139516,0.0,0.1078239287604206,0.14915295634666492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520274645998546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064533606099679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252935841477561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136022430830254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499064440586598,0.0,0.10016836694256202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152197978948074,0.0,0.0859571667864951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180592244732263,0.10813083173286073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060562235247353,0.0,0.0,0.11512279926638395,0.0,0.0,0.07627680803687634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739801824860679,0.0,0.0,0.08053894757292365,0.05915556139440833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887701804058302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813760396730596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221567617739346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,winesarahtops,2019/01/28,He fell in the toilet My three year old has recently decided that when he throws a tantrum he should try and make himself puke. No idea where this came from but kids are weird. The other day while going catastrophic he was in the bathroom trying to make himself puke and the little shit flat fell into the toilet. I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard in my entire life. Parenting win or fail? What have your little snot rags done that you probably shouldn’t have laughed so hard at?,4.592345864661652,6.033629978947372,4.483909774436093,87.08736842105263,70.26315789473685,7.533834586466164,25.150375939849624,7.957251820313856,1.2639323308270685,388,11,77,5,7,119,70,95,0.255,0.636,0.109,-0.9395,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,2,5,7,2,0,6,0,9,2,1,2,1,14,14,8,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,5,3,4,0,1,3,2,7,3,7,9,0,20,0,1,0,0,10,8,1,1,7,46,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390563977850047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479677464989556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21389394715059884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890651796959529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187875046069686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744710787943503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23595142765041105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763280884805674,0.0,0.4189739876251619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790370104523209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21932509154887805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320853737517173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253525035480192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20637616439815695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454992460283487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392776729953215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838136476069142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459819910056495
parenting,shayshuy,2019/01/28,"this is a really cool app called 'langu' doesn't require wifi and its FREE. 

you can learn new word with you kid and learn new languages

you can download here: [https://appsite.skygear.io/langu/](https://appsite.skygear.io/langu/)",14.9771875,17.812842343750006,6.8750000000000036,74.27000000000002,47.4375,8.9,28.5,8.841846274778883,1.97395,193,4,26,2,2,44,26,32,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.7668,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,7,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,14,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484691168602686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8483581617771121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28136076586605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lurkmode_off,2019/01/28,"How paranoid does a vaccinated person need to be about spreading measles? My friend just had a baby. We live in the part of the Pacific NW that is currently undergoing a measles outbreak. I have two fully vaccinated kids; one is school age so there's a possible exposure risk there although I'm not worried about him catching it. Obviously the newborn can't be vaccinated for a while.

I was going to send my friend flowers from a local farm, but... is that a hazard, if the farmer who sells them to me came into contact with the virus? If I visit her later, could I be a carrier for the measles even though I'm immune? (I've actually had a blood test in the past to verify the antibodies.) Or can it only be spread by infected people?",4.790559440559441,5.937384314685318,6.407979020979023,74.5904300699301,69.4895104895105,9.636083916083916,31.782517482517484,9.888512548439397,3.2081977622377638,579,25,108,14,10,199,99,143,0.053,0.863,0.084,0.6307,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,0,9,3,0,1,17,0,14,3,1,1,1,14,19,9,0,4,6,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,2,4,0,11,2,15,10,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,3,5,79,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.2316206089134975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714666308350937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18950568196743384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077077027871712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676828055093922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667540170866888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489220100255644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209585526877672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599296510830628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083536861588793,0.18051634231405764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570283042708881,0.2265786516286429,0.16454949079465445,0.2072459808115217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675779031665458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402121648319288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331964254551562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318577100353045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24104174402988046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mumonthebrink,2019/01/28,"Parenting with a Candy Jar The candy jar in our household is a powerful parenting tool- used as reward and punishment.  My kids have unlimited access to their candy jars on Saturdays, but no other day of the week. ( I've explained in more detail here: [https://mumonthebrink.com/2019/kids-sweetie-jar-parenting-hack-tool/](https://mumonthebrink.com/2019/kids-sweetie-jar-parenting-hack-tool/)\_  )

What's your attitude to giving your kids candy?",16.04660714285714,21.35146616071429,11.956571428571428,29.2884285714286,48.10714285714285,10.194285714285718,29.057142857142853,10.355215969177356,3.917461428571431,379,10,37,8,5,110,45,56,0.083,0.7929999999999999,0.124,0.3506,5,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,2,1,2,1,2,1,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,5,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,3,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330589044233547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466666925585776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8025349728099291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121145505385927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898756217734443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bsuguy89,2019/01/28,"A rebelous 12 year old girl So I have a 12 year old daughter. I started dating her mom a few years ago and we got married. She's actually not my biological child but I have always treated her as she is. Her dad is a flake and can't stay out of trouble and is in and out of her life he's sitting in jail waiting to go to prison. Anyways for the last 2 years on and off Violet has been acting out bad. She will flat out tell her parents no, call us names, say we only care about ourself, and so on. She also throws things, punches walls and kicks things, and beats her sister. It's so bad sometimes we have had to take her to the hospital for stictches from Violet's violence. We've tried counseling, medication, a behavioral specialist, and rewarding her for positive behavior. I'll take her on walks one on one so we can talk and on Saturdays I take her out for hot chocolate and we sit and hang out one on one. It kills me to see her like this. I'm about at my wit's end because we have tried everything and noting works. I had to take the dogs of the hinges to her room because she wouldn't leave it open and would lock us out. Any advice would be appreciated. We've tried taking things from her, grounding her, even had the police come talk to her about beating up her sister. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys",2.9881414141414133,4.610913362962965,4.274141414141415,86.27818181818184,74.62962962962962,7.575757575757577,25.235690235690235,8.296473431620573,1.4717407407407408,1048,35,221,18,22,345,144,270,0.116,0.778,0.105,-0.644,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,8,0,0,4,10,11,2,0,10,0,21,2,0,0,0,37,35,21,1,4,2,6,1,1,0,5,2,1,1,3,7,29,0,1,0,0,0,6,4,5,0,4,5,3,37,6,39,23,1,43,0,0,1,0,45,22,0,0,13,143,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.10370389668949001,0.0,0.0,0.20769103999492566,0.094201676265701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849838399402575,0.08842490270202141,0.0,0.0,0.14453407900158513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746151964559162,0.12956204436872684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851324440000452,0.0,0.10834904069094638,0.0,0.0,0.09154193597382927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941234108451152,0.0,0.0,0.07019013397255684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550835320106067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039551895924509,0.0,0.08499358625620307,0.11716271837335088,0.0,0.10522370976293144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175716768387541,0.0,0.0,0.08662398835777843,0.0,0.11252426716623544,0.0,0.0,0.07506143121105976,0.051918007068530544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705554165874116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446178715361905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22302434534181376,0.0,0.28804439344492394,0.08082289482751955,0.0,0.0,0.11799992462980848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450993004209151,0.0,0.0,0.08468319136267474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510344967476012,0.0,0.0752182399584088,0.11326935955946214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995079413114047,0.17083111735182666,0.09288440100083374,0.09783886110567724,0.0,0.0,0.2118025980265342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164504497966824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556587266409478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736560657819172,0.0,0.0,0.22647283554658085,0.0,0.0,0.2737368080104117
parenting,MAlopez0530,2019/01/28,"2 year old waking in the night and throwing a fit I have a 2.5 year old daughter. Lately she's been waking up in the night and will cry out. So I go to her room to check on her. This prompts a full blown tantrum. 

This problem started a few weeks ago (and was at its worst) when she was sick and had a nasty ear infection. During that time, I knew this was happening because she wasn't feeling well and was probably in pain. Now, she's healthy (as far as I know), and the night tantrums are FAR less than they had been, but it's still happening. 

I don't think they're nightmares or night terrors as she is totally present and aware of what's going on. She's not crying in fear, she's crying in anger. My only theory is she wakes up (much like I do as an adult) and can't fall back to sleep. But, she knows when a parent comes into her room, they're going to make her go back to sleep, which she doesn't want to do. So she throws a tantrum. 

I've thought to simply NOT go in her room, but the one night I chose this option, it turns out she was running a fever and now I feel terribly guilty for ""ignoring it"" for the few minutes that I did. So I feel compelled to go check to rule out any illness or injury, but by then the tantrum has begun.

I can't figure out any other reason this could be happening. Any other thoughts or opinions? Suggestions?? ",3.1483928571428565,4.030262767857145,3.861428571428572,92.31357142857144,73.10714285714286,7.028571428571429,25.07142857142857,7.1686216300943375,0.8133357142857142,1045,31,238,10,20,332,145,280,0.188,0.748,0.064,-0.9879,1,0,0,1,0,0,38.0,0,0,1,0,11,14,5,2,15,0,25,11,6,3,1,44,48,26,0,3,9,2,3,1,0,1,5,1,3,1,15,15,0,1,11,0,2,11,7,12,1,1,14,4,30,2,34,31,7,58,0,0,0,0,22,23,0,5,25,157,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247914525786506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128367872509833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044127364374428,0.0,0.06359646450072799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986803982374914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329621906163089,0.0,0.34379327584683705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739631408480627,0.1582518352608124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557469161165956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767667313619731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467022921149207,0.0,0.11768483322664935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096865690210309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963874713313349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669197956076955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895167527667706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21894621886272628,0.0,0.07069433463947218,0.07934500241623392,0.11101074881468588,0.0,0.115842229170931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248160941059528,0.09982636842505303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726501489636983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20880368152777312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384283183596993,0.0,0.08331527559975971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684820702428572,0.0,0.16564717112954933,0.06083361961423508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347727107978915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06153447118179154,0.0,0.08368442334910793,0.0,0.09380205028486452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436568771354448
parenting,IThinkYouAreNice,2019/01/28,"How to teach teen to be calm when upset Unfortunately, my teenager has learned from us to get very frustrated and upset when certain things go wrong. What is the best way for us as parents to talk to our teenager about the value of learning to remain calm during upsetting situations?",12.402692307692304,9.068256961538461,11.115384615384617,61.679615384615424,56.30769230769231,13.476923076923079,45.23076923076921,11.20814326018867,5.065276923076923,230,10,38,4,2,73,41,52,0.244,0.5710000000000001,0.185,-0.6361,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,0,0,1,4,9,1,3,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,4,11,4,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,27,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848309664342044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180197473452238,0.0,0.15425013685940173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013717712373566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050793350366362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21815131060588494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031459008747466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6529523092644934,0.0,0.0,0.22394396709384096,0.0,0.21543483052700052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29674726644406785,0.0,0.0
parenting,chooseausername46,2019/01/28,"4 year old won't fall asleep alone Hi

Every night at 8pm i stay next to my daughter for her to go asleep. It lasts around 30 minutes, sometimes more, sometimes less. Sometimes i don't mind it, but more and more after a long day taking care of her and her little sister (2) with my wife,  it really annoys me (i don't show it to her).  I feel maybe it's time to cut the cord. I've talked to her about it but she wants me to stay. She's a good sleeper, she just prefers not to go to bed alone. I don't know what to think or what to do. Any advice ?

Thanks",-1.1485792349726758,0.8035256721311477,0.8328196721311478,103.57802732240437,91.45901639344262,3.5812021857923497,13.87103825136612,4.604124745555138,-1.5070738797814207,420,7,108,1,15,137,76,122,0.056,0.818,0.127,0.8267,0,2,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,3,0,5,2,2,0,0,15,14,5,0,2,5,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,0,4,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,17,3,17,13,4,17,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,9,61,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625419270347254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3445485267192122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311440167895954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480745903617635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695909642197427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072731658946388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014552382923126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841046413607776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890655280292849,0.1395150136444145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141409153356184,0.13558630160887947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671269100015945,0.0,0.14720240911403984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671071908025168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795226628806312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17690056362011122,0.1560953686142938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745419873115478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065593060309249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4935326217794522,0.0,0.0,0.3545847712493325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506421201033655,0.1336948335014338,0.0,0.1531401356879734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658159764383074,0.0,0.0,0.09699204597345043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981094713032609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711513668436068
parenting,johnnyx101,2019/01/28,"Toddler HATES HATES car seat!! Help! We have an issue we are struggling with. Our DD is 3.5 years old and hates being in her car seat. On good days she will happily jump in it and get buckled in, which basically really makes our day, and rarely happens anymore. I would say it’s becoming one in three times she will start flipping out when trying to get her buckled in. Everything from her avoiding her car seat to throwing a huge tantrum just trying to get her in. During those days it can take upwards of 20+ minutes just to get her buckled in. My wife and I are about to give up because everyday is a struggle with this and we are at the breaking point. 

Things we have tried that are working less and less:

Bribing. It used to work but has become less effective over time. 
Putting a towel in her car seat as extra cushion. This is hit or miss and she seems to be fighting this more often. 
Saying she’s a big girl and letting her buckle herself in. Which works sometimes. 
Threatening liberties and toys being taken away. It’s like she doesn’t care. 

I mean, she’s complaining about everything to stall her being buckled in. She says her diaper is hurting her. We have straight up taken it off and let her ride in nothing but pants or shorts, and even then she still complains about something. 

She has always been anti-car seat and it was a struggle since day 1, and everyone kept saying “oh it gets better! One day she’ll jump in it and buckle herself in.” Its been years of this non stop struggle each. And. Every. Day. To the point where we need to start heading out the door a half hour early so we are not late. Also, she does this in parking lots after we go shopping. A trunk full of groceries just sitting there and here we are 15-20+ minutes of trying to bribe and convince and sometimes threatening to take toys and liberties away just to get her in her fu***** car seat! It’s so damn exhausting! 

We’ve been considering just putting her in her booster seats already, despite her being nearly 5lbs away from this mark because right now, it’s just getting to that point that we are cracking. Any help or advice on this??",2.68631671968894,5.072509516908212,3.2263096500530253,89.91641039236481,78.2270531400966,5.6815364675385895,25.314952279957577,6.807656815369643,1.014544079179922,1676,63,325,17,41,522,206,414,0.132,0.78,0.08800000000000001,-0.9524,1,1,1,0,2,0,53.0,12,0,0,5,20,21,6,5,11,0,33,2,1,3,0,58,61,30,0,2,12,1,0,1,0,4,1,4,1,1,26,34,0,3,3,3,1,12,2,16,0,4,7,4,46,5,56,42,8,76,0,2,0,0,54,39,1,6,24,226,72,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853876812158922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869270374860827,0.06427360659673337,0.06687609566265182,0.0,0.0,0.05465584127582149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970760998903557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265369379913487,0.0,0.0,0.09798827489412257,0.17752952565989344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108266547084187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194479822750929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31100045836424256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033423993504301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05308506959788549,0.0,0.06771703153827596,0.07679906619334323,0.14446667330311824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29393804271284496,0.07710032259304488,0.045677364408585816,0.06741237480073746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107285697706868,0.0,0.0,0.2380526769179241,0.08248504827463758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774356167474984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915041160675973,0.0,0.08604008538899616,0.0,0.0,0.08388767886398983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066332444431628,0.0,0.0,0.16437200727328447,0.0,0.03926578940131432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832955679555959,0.0,0.0,0.053649056995028886,0.0,0.0,0.08754887041117118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959495612683556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711927830530126,0.0,0.08433708716898862,0.0,0.1089245440055932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279330777148144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159248795762934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051488479189571314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863740608553473,0.0,0.2556607468366364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316781784747815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648470124071881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187443395909972,0.15898029039648098,0.0,0.11377569117573602,0.0,0.06418533005286313,0.06719474474584518,0.0,0.3360898300239031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085976002106395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053395707824348326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373133378343566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182697489734196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694157617361596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553572178498844,0.0,0.0,0.057094093602581636,0.0,0.0,0.10351410292518626
parenting,Morribeck,2019/01/28,"Delegating chores! Looking for different ideas on how to get my kids to start doing chores! I've heard of chore charts with reward systems but looking to see what other parents have utilized and what seems to work best.

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I have an 8 year old daughter, boy and girl almost 6 year old twins, and a 4 year old boy. My girls have recently started helping with laundry, which I am enjoying immensely. We have cats and dogs that they can help take care of, and whatever other age appropriate cleaning I can find for them. They seem to be pretty forgetful though, picking up their rooms turns into hours-long affairs because they get distracted easily.",6.000102707749767,7.951432184873951,5.630532212885154,78.2446965452848,67.48739495798321,8.650233426704013,32.54995331465919,9.150863307647796,3.0504614379084973,526,23,88,10,9,162,88,119,0.042,0.7290000000000001,0.229,0.9811,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,5,3,2,5,0,1,2,0,9,0,0,2,0,18,22,8,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,6,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,11,4,14,20,1,15,0,0,3,0,17,4,0,3,10,51,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519667404350826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443300256454074,0.18440625126816249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251210964701832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926382835360806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15473047498422365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855796598448565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870682357182876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585777392609346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203444426431322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713197199982719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343037277123157,0.2548820708603221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777429869390792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851265382360234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543955171623505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984569939281733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093388496259624,0.2763150670691098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148344631760901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410540070291242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910443234229848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650724112888021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104838305622992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440625126816249,0.29318736502428105
parenting,timmablimma,2019/01/28,"How to get twin 2 year olds to keep their clothes on during sleep? Nothing like being woken up at 3:30 in the morning to a screaming 2 year old. Go in her room and my eyes can’t open and pick her up and she’s cold/naked. I bring her to the potty as she has shown interest but is no where near potty trained and when I go to get her clothes find she pissed the bed.


Sometime during this cry she stripped herself down and then went back to sleep. What can I do to make sure she stays clothed at night? Snaps/zipper outfits haven’t mattered so far...kid just wants to be naked. Not that I can blame her, it’s just not ideal. Thankfully so far she hasn’t done this at daycare. Maybe more importantly so, thankfully her identical twin sister isn’t doing this at the moment but after finally getting them where they will nearly sleep through the night after two years of saying “lol, no.” I’m not looking forward to the prospect of having to be even more rabbit earred to prevent another piss the bed incident. 

I just want sleep and to not wake to a room that smells like pee and seeing my daughter naked in the morning again. Be it 3 am or 6am there hasn’t been a predictable way of determining when she’s going to do it.. what do other parents do?",3.8866666666666654,4.951906079365081,4.292222222222222,89.22500000000002,71.53968253968254,7.028571428571429,26.698412698412696,7.1686216300943375,1.1177841269841275,980,32,207,9,18,308,144,252,0.124,0.7809999999999999,0.095,-0.8657,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,3,1,15,10,2,0,11,1,23,10,10,3,1,29,41,18,0,3,10,3,0,2,0,1,0,3,4,0,11,8,0,2,1,0,0,6,11,3,0,1,4,7,24,7,34,32,2,43,0,0,3,0,21,20,2,1,19,138,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886888813864914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183378546723673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14547283627031302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552624707946356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747159191540675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507527873313178,0.1210425312770359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075743334399852,0.0,0.2257963572197121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177136716962426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294013978983228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11121143949378187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840090925118595,0.0,0.13304803310516136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24856119800972845,0.0,0.12707426196914495,0.0,0.2779349948322836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705259370644522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531705376615512,0.0,0.0,0.1055329736208559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301196837088944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309808877476518,0.0,0.0,0.14115731991306005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248177401675178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243855381026913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936904661692009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622633739696068,0.1051201659453132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276790294872045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558499999288492
parenting,Sora20XX,2019/01/28,"Toddler won’t eat solids My DD (1F) has been refusing to eat pretty much anything that is solids over the past few days, and only eating solids intermittently for weeks beforehand. There’s nothing we can do to entice her to eat, and my fiancé (26M) and I (24FtM) are at our wit’s end. How do we convince our daughter to eat solids? And is this because the one day a week my Nan has her, she insists on feeding her purées? (I really hope it isn’t, because I’ve had this fight with her too many times, with too few results to be able to take that anymore, either).",6.0836842105263145,5.129821929824561,6.414736842105267,82.91315789473687,66.54385964912281,9.003508771929825,31.280701754385966,7.793537801064563,1.905922807017544,436,14,93,4,6,141,78,114,0.049,0.875,0.076,0.4684,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,4,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,3,0,13,6,0,2,0,13,15,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,6,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,14,2,12,11,4,10,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,7,60,19,0,0.15228608273816407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102687358513892,0.0,0.0,0.12531847047833353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18566436513773524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964238501056455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7791334045168785,0.0,0.0,0.13488026840192918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125444144110636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439418565067126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119477930738072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612260356563234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031929908581786,0.11582042819607925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537429750301378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549296939797114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755836411007823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450018198226188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879923949686025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24430941963529645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PLANTBASEDPERMIE,2019/01/28,"How vital are routines and schedules for newborns ​

Hey there,

I’ll become a dad in a couple of months, and even though it will still be a while, I can’t stop thinking about it and am a bit afraid of the unknown so I’d like to plan. I have read a lot and recently found this [baby schedule](https://babynurseusa.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/Baby-Binder.pdf). I was wondering how important it is to give babies routines. I don’t remember my time as a baby, but ever since a small kid I disliked routines, however, I remember enjoying listening to the same audiobook every night or my mom caressing me in a certain way while singing a specific song. So maybe routines have been more important than I gave them credit for. 

I am wondering:

How important is it to have a routine and schedule for the baby?

Do some experienced parents here keep a strict schedule for their daily lives and follow it as close as possible?",7.683176470588232,8.191762729411764,7.490588235294119,71.63764705882356,62.88235294117647,11.03529411764706,38.17647058823529,10.793553405168565,4.396870588235293,744,36,123,18,10,237,108,170,0.033,0.838,0.129,0.9209,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,2,1,12,6,0,1,14,0,15,0,0,3,2,25,24,19,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,6,7,0,2,6,3,1,1,2,1,0,0,4,4,13,5,17,18,5,18,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,5,13,90,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17821513415963947,0.19986246250494927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165638202359968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.179570691473095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18199513823569952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863817324783644,0.14878251409049842,0.13858236712903288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803449666146432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577851977359172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619830254996086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035712609978307,0.0,0.14523976852432982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983589520243495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524330876178486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926382018421109,0.1312871939694302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543543103581865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263672584208065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854276547484009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452554724872018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240518024995734,0.0,0.37264990103272094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360604129641672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135476809340488,0.1375135113571378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539280663629344,0.16160178309247686,0.0,0.09591021501383956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055739068808225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567453352483483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986246250494927,0.0
parenting,PineappleConch,2019/01/28,"Two month old that wakes up when laid down. Our 2 month old son won’t stay asleep. He will usually fall asleep in my wife’s arms at night (I work nights) but the second his head hits the bassinet, he’s up. Sometimes he cries, sometimes he coos and sometimes he just lays there. My wife is getting hardly any sleep and I can’t really help when I’m at work. Any tips, tricks or advice to help my wife get some sleep?",1.6348837209302332,3.5305173139534887,1.9118023255813985,100.50281976744188,79.34883720930233,5.230232558139536,17.726744186046513,5.985473137389443,-0.6505069767441864,323,6,77,2,8,97,60,86,0.06,0.85,0.09,0.5689,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,2,0,4,7,7,0,0,6,8,6,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,7,0,7,5,1,17,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,2,9,32,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878343336628306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22099766367259735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848773167888715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978872885755694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555920250750634,0.0,0.16676170863991815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178273616329605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593960759298642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30497188034270045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410120270812451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409531114457612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32521487271929606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4821205555638749,0.0,0.0,0.17319281377271578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872920520507144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895987546277925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365894385670273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShootThe42Messengers,2019/01/28,"What should I do as a ""Step-Dad""? 6 year old boy throws tantrums/emotionally unstable - cries/ gives up at hard tasks constantly. So some context. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years - she has her son from her Biological dad (we'll just say bio. dad for the sake of brevity) where he doesn't keep discipline consistent nor is a great role model. She left her ex because the bio. dad refused to work, pick up after himself, or overall be a productive member in the household. The last straw was that her ex hit her and then she finally left him. My girlfriend's 6 year old son doesn't know of his bio dad's past - just to point that out. She has full custody of her child, but she lets her ex have 1 day out of the week with him - just a courtesy. At their time together, all they do is play video games. 

Mind you, this 6 year old has missed some milestones - learning to tie his shoes, how to ride a bike - and has had some emotional issues: when he tries something new or a difficult task like learning new vocabulary or proper pronunciation (despite given proper guidance and supervision), he'll often give up and cry. In this case, he'll even retort, ""When am I going to my dad or grandpa's so I can play games?"" - because that's all he does with them and is overindulged. He'll say the same when we would discipline him too - because, in my opinion, lacks a consistent structure between his mom and his bio dad (who seems to over indulge him - lets him play video games all day, buys toys and video game consoles when he breaks it, etc). I get why the 6 yr old would want to be with his dad, since there's that over indulgence aspect to it too, but since his bio dad lives with his parents (broken household), there's cousins and stuff his age there that he plays around with.

Despite all this, I have taught him how to tie his shoes, ride a bike, read more difficult words, etc. 

What am I to do? I want my girlfriend's son to grow up to be emotionally stable and a productive person. Should we all have a heart to heart about his bio dad? or are children that age not yet ready for that yet - or at all?",4.6263909774436085,5.427211095693785,4.685731373889271,88.05761961722489,69.62200956937801,7.885304169514698,27.60799726589201,7.957251820313856,1.437731784005468,1650,53,352,20,28,512,200,418,0.056,0.879,0.066,0.6184,1,0,1,0,0,0,67.0,3,1,3,1,23,9,0,0,17,0,33,4,4,3,6,65,49,29,0,7,12,19,1,1,3,8,0,2,0,4,16,20,0,4,4,15,1,5,4,3,0,0,5,3,49,6,45,30,15,55,0,1,0,0,81,20,0,13,30,216,65,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974366514220378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662185725080783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794821723858406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105151866538489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137693974581702,0.12550702777925232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515204239687686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328364240460723,0.0,0.0,0.21704103506231628,0.06426886963184669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065925973397224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050837715737750484,0.1866871652930112,0.055300531779253606,0.0,0.0,0.1072788303238419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087165943344783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306131943639627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156087836875954,0.0,0.08648893262910086,0.0,0.0,0.053476145827496525,0.07931635829236854,0.0,0.0,0.21144379103745534,0.1990013988225508,0.0,0.047538185767493794,0.0,0.08592187690191708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825005897237997,0.1139621470996205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795506767098716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40841986656144996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080454095666209,0.0,0.09288839407885956,0.0,0.08496275442768507,0.0,0.0,0.09198444036715546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733108198638464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476128535657824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858258983376349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098298933838956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490995038311274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139065872285334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056739182193581275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606353795713671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478572518648407,0.0,0.07805200106913818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780240203439152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083901684966994,0.0,0.0,0.13824500509419818,0.0,0.0,0.2506442747970458
parenting,shittyswampdonkey,2019/01/29,"Stepsons (10,5) share a room, preparing to split them up I’ve found lots of articles about how to keep the peace between siblings who share a room, but none about how to transition them into their own! The 10 year old is definitely ready for his own space, the age gap is really starting to make a difference, and we think it’s time to start getting the 5 year old to be more independent from his older brother. We will be putting the 5 year old in his own room in about two weeks (once my best friend moves out) and I’m looking for advice on how to make the transition smooth. I’m definitely expecting to wake up to him on the floor of his brother’s room a few nights at first but any advice would be much appreciated! ",4.381041666666665,5.378101687500003,5.021833333333333,84.7065,70.31944444444444,8.815555555555557,27.594444444444445,9.120678840339163,1.974416111111112,569,19,121,11,10,183,88,144,0.0,0.8,0.2,0.9848,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,3,2,6,4,0,0,11,0,7,1,1,6,0,20,18,7,0,2,2,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,2,6,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,2,11,4,27,12,9,31,0,0,1,0,16,15,0,1,14,76,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218391856401465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198540458041728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281742205119355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205148972232948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140073418538443,0.0,0.1805588593173823,0.1272283572658117,0.0,0.08603647286731887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637169663273056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382864611145479,0.0,0.0,0.1400017433440618,0.0,0.0,0.21984516980086954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750246480878871,0.12105589174851905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453737762777373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5183996407680117,0.17537468708182946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554497853001301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549573547274747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23311720230290986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551780459262043,0.0,0.0,0.09602396642866796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086463511172455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209324563019784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698118667630407,0.0,0.0,0.3181380551080459
parenting,smashlers,2019/01/29,"Travel supervision hacks Hello! I thought I would bring my question to the hive mind. First some set up. My husband and I along with our 3.5 yr old need a family vacation but also need some time apart. We have figured out some local hacks to get an hour or two of just mom and dad time without getting a sitter in the form of visiting our local IKEA and taking advantage of smaland, going to the big mall and shacking up by the crazy kid play area, and other local favs like playing hide and seek with very slow seeking processes. We’re not proud. We’re tired. 

We were watching Hotel Transylvania 3 tonight and the two werewolves and their 100,000 insane pups are on the cruise ship hanging out in this kid fun area. The parent wolves are like “wait, we just drop them off here and get to go do our own thing?” And the fish concierge is like “we want you to enjoy your trip as much as we want them to enjoy their trip”. (It’s funny, if you haven’t seen it it’s on Netflix—my kid thinks it’s funny and I do too.)

IS THIS A REAL THING? I’m not trying to ditch him 100% of the day, but a solid 3 hour beach lounge would do me GOOD. Do resorts do this? What is this service called? I might go on more vacation if I didn’t think that hanging out with my kid all day in an unknown space sounded very un-vacation like.",2.9473702914001407,4.347086089552241,3.74087420042644,90.97271144278606,74.29850746268656,6.448045486851457,23.955934612651035,6.868970318607317,0.6639397299218189,1024,30,221,9,21,326,155,268,0.05,0.7609999999999999,0.189,0.9912,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,8,3,4,3,5,12,0,0,15,0,17,1,0,0,1,52,35,19,0,8,10,4,0,4,0,3,1,1,0,4,13,23,0,1,5,7,0,11,5,0,0,3,4,3,26,12,31,28,8,43,0,0,2,0,28,20,0,8,14,136,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484328142455932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466398443949148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523058454970268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538086013320888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215290814635843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22508778918351116,0.0,0.2448472410341127,0.1204515934404159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28284994343189057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28063849790572065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523454146543269,0.14500316179509734,0.16819197695391128,0.0,0.0,0.10556841818830877,0.21296705382972184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069245914648902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594597109505102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087384823970308,0.0,0.0,0.16345736615064785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797535853316484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19081357419413386,0.1840364406994223,0.0,0.11400872642528476,0.16747798223816324,0.16505629298681102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750041865978128,0.0,0.2805683362601307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369833121083505,0.1694074614821592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843300627196226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040300336783858,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,established82,2019/01/29,"Car Seats and LATCH system I'm currently researching our next car seat for my son. We have already narrowed it down to the Nuna Rava, Uppababy Knox, or the Chicco NextFit Zip.

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However, I've been eyeing the Clek Foonf for a little while and I'm a bit confused. According to the NHTSA, the recommended weight limit for using the LATCH system is a combined 65 pounds. Meaning the weight of the car seat and the weight of the child should not exceed a combined 65 pounds. That being said, the Foonf is already 36 pounds. When forward facing, it uses the Rigid LATCH system... up to 65 pounds. But by the time you'd even turn the child forward facing, you've already exceeded the LATCH system recommendation. How is this even a legit product?  What am I missing? (Other than the varying standards between the USA and Europe)",4.772262443438912,7.049307241830068,4.964705882352941,80.43040723981903,71.35294117647058,6.7991955756661655,28.109100050276517,7.61054688173877,1.8728807440925093,660,25,110,8,13,207,92,153,0.044,0.944,0.012,-0.5514,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,2,22,0,9,6,3,3,0,17,17,9,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,6,5,3,2,1,0,0,5,1,3,0,0,2,5,5,0,13,12,1,18,0,1,1,0,7,6,0,2,7,66,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5227722976936098,0.0,0.0,0.17109524315989935,0.19187773688282445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723966444648811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859591701831315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582671417652859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201010609641496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793890382824148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020841662937184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207849623260247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176055845214494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727667983589817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5768749234346571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187773688282445,0.0
parenting,EnlightenMePixie,2019/01/29,Ringworm and Day Care? My daughter has ringworm above her diaper private area and we’ve been treating it over 7 days now with a prescription cream her pediatrician gave. Also my daughter has had an eczema spot on her hip. She’s always gotten eczema (in different spots each time) in the winter and her father and I do as well. Anyhow-they called me and asked about the two areas and said her eczema looks like the beginning of impetigo. Which we had it looking really good (moisturize and cover with aquaphor jelly) but the weather has been insanely cold for a week now and it’s gotten worse due to that. So after I told her it was ringworm she said “oh we have never dealt with this before” and basically was worried it was contagious. I told her it’s no longer contagious 48 hours into treating it and it’s been a week. She acted surprised and like she wasn’t sure what to say. She asked me to have her pediatrician fax a note from the doctor about it because she didn’t know much. I’m just really surprised a daycare not knowing how to deal with ringworm. Also the only reason they saw it is because they change her diaper and it’s in that area. Which the doctor said protects it from spreading anyhow. Kids can have it anywhere on their body. I’m just writing here to see if anyone else had experiences with their kids having ringworm and how it was dealt with. I don’t mind having my pediatrician fax a note but the whole thing was so bizarre considering ring worm is so common. ,3.7736236933797898,5.919827658536588,4.5108933797909385,83.16886271777007,73.80836236933797,7.100710801393729,25.06885017421603,7.976525956113202,1.5025047804878051,1186,39,221,18,25,380,149,287,0.069,0.858,0.07400000000000001,-0.3799,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,4,0,15,10,0,0,15,0,26,4,2,3,2,39,46,24,0,1,6,3,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,2,21,23,0,1,3,0,0,1,6,0,1,1,22,11,30,10,26,24,3,25,0,0,5,0,38,10,0,2,16,154,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810338048530355,0.1082648253144994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097835939669888,0.13331662008182082,0.0,0.0,0.2432770498386029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586319201078292,0.0,0.11071697465090437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452672664898625,0.0,0.0,0.1328603944170074,0.0,0.13265934827125048,0.0,0.1376427926021398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678248406694283,0.13414126823770522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594087675916214,0.0,0.2663532877988811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869310347155416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272759347190335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913300050668658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12813555279008598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301391423115706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713373256158322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21852507988361405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137750757513658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564836717028508,0.0,0.1003515247647521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895715259535737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670803371319698,0.1337783114752493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713031001654755,0.10347144903489323,0.0,0.0,0.10368358505125863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263040009712342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644160402706577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587020726918665,0.0,0.0,0.24865798170040124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710194821284607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873834517693168,0.0,0.11698763023665312,0.0,0.0,0.14526703606274055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213653866483432,0.13259673583560475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SavesNinePatterns,2019/01/29,"A challenge for all parents out there! Tell me what you ROCK at parenting. We all knock ourselves for not being perfect but what do you always (well, 99% of the time) get right? Post it but the rule is you can't say what you're rubbish at! It'll be difficult to not put a 'but...' but do your best! Mine is I'm good at getting my kid to get plenty of sleep every night. What's yours? ",-0.7689225589225614,1.3776702222222212,1.1213243546576876,100.13868686868686,93.69135802469135,3.9331088664422,17.240179573512904,5.565023196281405,-0.6705901234567904,292,8,69,2,11,95,59,81,0.061,0.8,0.139,0.8311,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,5,0,3,2,6,0,0,4,0,8,1,1,0,3,11,12,4,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,9,5,10,9,3,9,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,2,47,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978926822575369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495867392358244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038109092411505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727673251359663,0.0,0.0,0.19947958286862916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318629519161315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5281616575789836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22777432739411566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390837156217441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031045661215512,0.0,0.18913107306188728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380006396060803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787292597744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867993391500766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21383672740645626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QueenDesire12,2019/01/29,Teething is torture Help how do you cope with teething babies? I haven’t slept in days! ,2.214117647058824,4.9294907058823565,0.9132352941176478,103.65455882352943,83.11764705882355,3.4000000000000004,26.14705882352941,3.1291,-0.05027058823529407,70,3,15,0,2,19,16,17,0.211,0.654,0.136,-0.3595,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,3,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6933423541658614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7206083401680423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alliecomma,2019/01/29,"How do you fix it after you fuck up? So I messed up pretty big time and lost it on DD (4). The entire story is in my post history if you're curious, but suffice to say it wasn't my finest moment. I apologized and I've tried to talk to her about it, but I'm a bit at a loss on how to address it without blowing it up into something bigger than it is. Advice, personal experience, anything would help. ",4.136823529411768,3.7645808000000014,6.310588235294119,80.09764705882355,70.41176470588233,9.15294117647059,29.94117647058824,8.841846274778883,2.2450470588235296,308,11,66,5,5,110,62,85,0.099,0.7829999999999999,0.118,0.399,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,2,4,4,1,0,3,0,5,1,0,2,0,10,8,8,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,1,7,0,16,5,1,14,0,2,0,1,8,10,1,1,3,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27001766991894205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22738862775670304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30167095067180577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702949465672317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554542993760255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185212132606563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30163699806989275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412728271520031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264639122822879,0.2811177823855051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21974153912018413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127253951745774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220963420382341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611249893009258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760381159898235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26636357037960845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962905007223472,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Westane,2019/01/29,"Snapping - Need Either Vindication or Condemnation... I've stepped away from a situation to collect myself, and also get with some fellow parents, before I lose my crap... Sorry if the post get's a little disjointed...

My daughter will be 9 next month, and over the last couple years she's picked up the worst attitude. I mean, a little girl with a bad attitude is well within acceptable parameters, but lately things have gotten royally out of hand. She's become completely unresponsive to any kind of threats or punishments, and any time we try to sit down with her to get her to open up about what's really going on, she just generates a prefabricated apology and calls that the end of it...

It's becoming more and more routine. She'll trash her room and lose her mind when we ask her to clean it. She'll leave all her activities on the table and have a mental, sobbing breakdown when we ask her to help us clear it.

""Emi, you need to do two pages of homework before you can play tonight.""

""No. Plus I don't even have homework.""

""Yes you do, it's right here.""

""NO!""

""Emi, if you don't do your homework, your teacher will be upset and you'll miss recess.""

""Nuh uh!""

""Yes, we've talked to your teacher about it an-""

""I CAN'T I'M HUNGRY!""

Then we proceed to go around with her on food, why she didn't eat when we offered it to her, why she can't eat WHILE she does her homework, etc... Then back to the homework...

""Okay, you've had food, let's knock out those couple of pages, I'll help you.""

""I'm too tired...""

""Emi, we need to get this done...""

""No... I don't want to.""

""Emi, come sit down...""

""NO!""

You get the idea. Substitute ""homework"" with ""clean your room"", ""clear the table"", ""help us clean all your toys out of the living room"", ""literally anything else""...

So tonight, as the above argument played out, and she was destroying the toys in her now-thrashed bedroom, I finally snapped.

""Okay, fine. Tomorrow, while I'm at work and you're at school, mommy's going to take everything in your room that's not furniture and put it in a box. If you're going to treat your things this way, you don't need them!""

""NO!""

""Yep! Sorry! You think you have it SO bad, huh?""

""Mhm...""

""Well...""

""You're not gonna do it anyway, I know you won't!""

So I have the boxes out for tomorrow, and when she gets home there won't be any toys or dolls in her bedroom, or activities by the table. We're not throwing anything out, and if she finishes her homework and reading I'll be more than happy to give her one box at a time, but...

Anyway, I'm trying to be a good parent, I've tried everything... I never start off this way, it's a constant escalation that seems to repeat every day. I feel horrible, and have no idea if anything I'm doing is the right thing. The worst part of all this is that her younger sister is taking on the brunt of Emi's anger, and she's picking up a lot of her habits...

Well, back into the fray, I guess...",2.012616330401229,3.9512681230502618,3.3802857983715384,90.21818122363564,78.34142114384748,6.573087865014224,22.151957097544226,7.5680677535414835,0.7762249043523757,2205,65,477,32,53,720,255,577,0.104,0.7879999999999999,0.108,0.6047,2,0,0,0,0,0,177.0,8,18,1,3,23,27,5,1,29,6,39,7,2,2,6,79,75,41,0,10,16,4,2,0,1,8,1,0,17,1,24,38,4,0,8,6,0,8,19,14,4,2,5,2,69,13,69,56,15,80,0,4,0,0,71,37,2,13,30,303,93,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046242204467917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542448627393659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665291017563326,0.0673057380449268,0.14136358214675734,0.0,0.0710347148634951,0.11627333108409366,0.12625639539287414,0.0,0.16700268857148134,0.128670979457266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720260210603297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512823110284953,0.07927188671785887,0.0817036739778359,0.0,0.0,0.16731411830249746,0.0,0.04875988233575383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661636824867461,0.07737161161668216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472847358471115,0.06315945738235808,0.0,0.06696484172523545,0.0,0.08432113738110712,0.049937323455902745,0.0,0.0637016647621604,0.0,0.1359003397373978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03822887469052727,0.0,0.0,0.08282313104073752,0.0,0.0,0.18284715209633506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370073849841572,0.07252856174152385,0.1718754699476214,0.06341507303004583,0.0,0.0,0.08328898908019466,0.0,0.0,0.08048443371133608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520321569812156,0.0,0.07583939791846414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070087736251469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873244566287613,0.041551307914079856,0.061629318550012135,0.08528732829510345,0.08005627583380467,0.0,0.07731268091460655,0.0,0.0,0.15155497890364622,0.06676184882926815,0.0,0.0,0.16916847602561716,0.0,0.06427786956192015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235754974117455,0.0,0.0,0.07619348260041227,0.0,0.0763409252810952,0.0,0.06034831841209965,0.0,0.0,0.22424479221665464,0.058312327546087186,0.0,0.08040827913773954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051232862907564916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790395089756624,0.08187437868546953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241004517028682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760053288081743,0.0,0.0,0.07562687427535858,0.0,0.048435404889147146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291349290800976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651772750902182,0.0,0.06882923982372682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498477723965417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927038120662474,0.05351460904826565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136932281466776,0.060769571738293476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506886259910397,0.048445537305891816,0.0,0.0,0.08817341615170557,0.08689845086196411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399537672771346,0.0,0.07385648053986098,0.0,0.18189041399443515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04459462193432942,0.12002570465679785,0.0,0.0,0.20393773873966214,0.0,0.13644605781035693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504236993717398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048688051830571
parenting,thedefenders2019,2019/01/29,"My Adult Daughter [29F] Hates Me, Should I Let Her Go? Hi! Dad here, so let me explain my situation. I am the father to 3 beautiful children 29F, 23M, and 11M (yeah no more, but I caught baby fever).

My oldest lived with me full time when she got kicked out of her mothers house at 18. She stayed with me until she was 26. I charged her $40 every 6 weeks when she was working. Also in my household was my mother. She raised my daughter until she was age 13. Me and my daughter argued a lot because she treated my mother very poorly. My mom cried to me saying that my daughter (the girl she raised for 13 years) doesn’t love her. My mom eventually died of cancer and as part of her wishes I tried to maintain a connection with my daughter.

However, my daughter is known for being self absorbed, self centered, and inconsiderate. She doesn’t think about anyone but her self, and after years of arguing about this I’ve just let it go when she moved out. Her mom still tells me about this and I notice how she treats her brother 23M... but after years of saying the same thing... I’m just over it.

Anyways, recently she got pregnant. I haven’t met the baby father, but I keep pretending to everyone that I have... she’s due in June...

She was planning to throw a gender reveal party at my house and started inviting people over without my permission for feb 3. I wasn’t too happy that she didn’t consult me first, but I said ok. She ends up having the gender reveal this past Sunday with the baby father’s family and didn’t invite any of us... and honestly I’m just hurt. She did call me after she posted the pics online, because she wanted to tell me first before I heard it from someone else. I congratulated her, and that was that.

I just don’t know what I did wrong, or what I’m doing wrong... and I’m just so hurt by the things she’s doing that I kinda just don’t want anything to do with her from this point on. 

I’ve done so much for her and sacrificed... and I can’t even get an invitation or meet the baby father... 

I tried talking to hurt but nothing ever changes, and yet here I am like a dummy. Any time she needs help I’m there, but I’m just trash to her otherwise idk",2.158186070686071,3.9410985157657663,3.7328828828828833,88.57691268191269,77.35585585585585,6.085377685377686,21.970200970200967,6.900799576094004,0.5499040887040882,1687,47,352,17,39,560,209,444,0.111,0.802,0.087,-0.9353,1,0,0,0,0,0,71.0,1,0,0,4,27,15,3,0,14,2,31,3,0,1,1,55,57,34,1,5,17,18,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,6,17,21,0,1,6,1,1,5,11,8,0,2,18,4,78,7,47,34,6,48,0,3,0,1,75,13,0,4,29,243,95,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732966799297603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246574423439706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408749030105708,0.0,0.07542447111470317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174439403792373,0.0,0.07799187725690812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359027020335044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695911417171714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067900153835807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09512369148551963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379515508206053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656621047815654,0.0,0.08117935743385561,0.0,0.0,0.06053743614821538,0.0829074318672224,0.07722351131773515,0.08758053066784098,0.0,0.0,0.08640442393069259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592383811802768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788609147826338,0.0,0.10417959521385554,0.0,0.14661017182285058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756873075161496,0.0,0.09049059580526957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143459012744972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115157330188428,0.2943565609809897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146740819550725,0.0,0.0,0.05037133501847938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811711457732593,0.0,0.044778131340832264,0.0,0.0809332755730804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792202615312784,0.08272245244073226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220366054145538,0.0,0.09741503841298277,0.06737716358028775,0.06796121543424914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794569587207603,0.1043501233060108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992537170363813,0.08749531861492071,0.06354221821656042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664384821538358,0.0,0.08778040516842088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049851387957687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718514303256296,0.1457758862752289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28684928269569976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302435472455714,0.0,0.0,0.07765920608386596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648740662105541,0.097692314201326,0.07319601065159202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07366902777859005,0.16022147776357562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178336686720695,0.05872899103035025,0.0,0.0,0.10688984072138843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445581301537667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024999500507897,0.0,0.0,0.07562519008876757,0.10812129650028997,0.0,0.07352032263878518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539902800723687,0.08835240186946314,0.0,0.06672612236537984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004212814873546,0.0,0.17706895113092785
parenting,porkchute,2019/01/29,"Parents are treating suicidal ideation with sterilization and surgery? Suicidal ideation, attempts and self-harm are often symptoms of mental pathology. Have any parents dealt with suicidal ideation or self-harm in children? What was the result? How do you keep your suicidal or mentally ill child from transitioning by mistake?

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[https://www.9news.com.au/2019/01/29/10/23/transgender-news-australia-child-self-harm-and-mental-health](https://www.9news.com.au/2019/01/29/10/23/transgender-news-australia-child-self-harm-and-mental-health)",15.665539906103284,20.621819802816894,7.639084507042259,61.37064553990615,48.15492957746479,11.493896713615026,48.45305164319249,11.20814326018867,7.097054460093894,470,26,44,12,6,112,46,71,0.349,0.6509999999999999,0.0,-0.978,2,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,2,0,11,6,5,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,0,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070631271671826,0.14658286821536076,0.08203489527607882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25645547187470275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072245695734869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4862806518028155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678983815155558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5033880672984032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5278137397273823,0.0,0.0,0.12538436349884546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658286821536076,0.0
parenting,n0thinginside,2019/01/29,"Question about adoption, am I doing the right thing, and what we should call eachother? Anyways, I am a bit.. caught up in a question I have. Regardless for a little back story, my parents know these people who do a fosterhome type situation, they take in disabled kids, slow kids ect, except this one girl, who is basically just normal except for being a bit shy. Anyways they ask my dad if i'd be okay with her hanging here with my little sister who is the same age, because we are always doing something fun or going out, so basically every weekend for 3 days she'd come over, and just hangout in normalcy for a while, we are pretty well off so theres pools, Tvs, games, small motorcycles that are good starters for kids, also my little sister.

Anyways after a while it started becoming a problem, she didn't want to leave, when she knew it was time, she'd get teary eyed, and in a small voice protest as best she could but in the end she had to go back, it was her ""Home""

These people are good people, and the kids aren't bad they just.. aren't able to communicate with her, she felt lonely and awkward there, so I get the bright idea and say hey, let's try to get custody of her.

Thats when my past comes up to haunt me, had to literally have my psychiatrist come with the interview with CPS, whatever they brought to tell them I was a sane individual and that what I've done in my teenage years is basically null at this point after 13+ years of therapy.

Anyways after fighting back and forth with them for 8 months it starts happening, everything is in motion and in a week she will stay for three days, and never go back.

So that day comes, 6 PM hits and she goes into her normal routine of the tears and stuff, but this time I say, well Claire, I guess were just gonna have to keep ya, to which I guess she really couldn't muster anything but crying, which everyone did basically.

The living situation as of now is me, my gf and my little sister, as well as my parents who live right behind our house (Super gated community and we had our house built in the front).

My issue is.. we never really established what to call eachother.. Mom? Sister? She always called us her big sisters before she finally was able to stay.

Which brings up another point.. is this good for her? this is a pretty atypical living situation, but she is 8 and a half years old and needs therapy so, unfortunately some might consider unadoptable. we have everything here, I was adopted, my little sister was adopted, we understand her struggles and can help, but I don't think this will ever be a traditional family.. am I hurting her? We are quite young too, 23 and 22 it's just she went from a shy timid kid, to a brave and outgoing one, our monthly visits from the agency are dwindling to almost none and everything is moving perfectly.",5.669382729325732,6.148268656307131,6.3026933003548775,78.53030406495323,67.19012797074954,9.360339821486182,29.250940961393706,9.325443323948027,2.384514184320896,2213,72,427,40,34,724,261,547,0.07200000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.099,0.9553,2,2,1,0,2,0,79.0,12,1,6,4,32,22,2,3,26,1,55,1,1,0,4,82,86,41,0,10,14,10,1,0,1,5,0,3,2,6,29,40,0,1,8,4,0,16,8,9,3,4,18,6,67,13,61,54,6,84,0,2,2,0,78,29,0,9,37,306,96,2,0.13266536838214196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642260148097816,0.0,0.0,0.053046223582260736,0.11038821409502124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955560302761721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054586147178268186,0.0,0.06201210546448897,0.0,0.0,0.2040229586827756,0.055385020581474605,0.040435788605161525,0.07325923819471819,0.056444228613558085,0.0,0.06961205965713038,0.0,0.14483622224413426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031992609933496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22855893573340136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05296125078693294,0.0,0.07286333884100091,0.12833728121158244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788136614351112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058751069609526974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000171046866285,0.055888147336187514,0.06338372236929952,0.17884661818430098,0.0,0.06253255119762897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636897791774027,0.07266421321533012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396826912777428,0.0,0.11309517918927807,0.16691012509975547,0.0,0.0,0.1461458600988112,0.0,0.0586577735631104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044461399980301984,0.0,0.06653709068012638,0.0,0.0,0.15307802311967553,0.07101051035174771,0.07488152640964943,0.0,0.06923408852308367,0.0,0.05895953751176014,0.0,0.0,0.036454708481854635,0.0,0.0,0.07023673487484543,0.0,0.06782966376222291,0.0,0.0,0.33241387890427365,0.1757189262354786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036849545956499,0.0,0.07768803802511044,0.10589223134118286,0.07050114565736923,0.0,0.04918484482928965,0.10231971065684346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299838934897138,0.0,0.0,0.06960499370001366,0.0,0.08989748702245932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730919170051734,0.0,0.06332205276004242,0.13796019346272825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541165435774548,0.0,0.0,0.13496837370549813,0.0,0.06347142034617677,0.0,0.0,0.14861557448387264,0.07055297468869236,0.0,0.0,0.08498883207650562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329549972709155,0.0,0.10550082573546787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236821487838516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051066141012025376,0.0,0.0,0.0939012305657838,0.14140363100642706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934532388632937,0.07593505344312652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04987392330728158,0.0,0.05797768971440126,0.0,0.15171441064647914,0.0,0.04406848791533981,0.04250330563324239,0.0,0.0,0.07735824317025859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04503553837399097,0.0,0.0,0.06905466359065733,0.07979005175387176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03912473575647974,0.0,0.05320807813224642,0.0,0.17892314796867814,0.061491062803848126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281482214497122
parenting,untzmambp,2019/01/29,"Help! Advice on getting 3 year old to stay in bed throughout the night from bedtime onwards. As soon as my 3 year old turned 3(a month or so ago), it became a nightmare trying to put her down for the night. It takes me an hour to get her to sleep. She would cry or constantly ask for me to go back to her room. She has a night light on. We limit naps to at most 1.5 hours now(used to be 2.5 hours). Some days she doesn't even nap and still takes forever to get her down at night. Once she's down she usually wakes up a few times at night and would call me again. This is new behavior and nothing has changed really aside from her turning 3 and a new baby 6 months ago. She used to sleep 12 hours a night without calling for us.",2.8561140819964344,3.7083203986928126,3.4855258467023162,94.84668449197862,73.77124183006535,6.8708259061200225,23.713012477718358,6.980632752743323,0.4906000000000002,563,15,134,5,11,177,96,153,0.023,0.958,0.018000000000000002,-0.1759,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,8,0,7,3,3,1,0,14,17,9,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,5,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,17,0,28,14,3,42,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,4,28,78,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955384462454583,0.17333211455559416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914005406542882,0.0,0.0,0.07517809865434984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966555643966924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342632541251212,0.0,0.0,0.10565323630895547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739433073688752,0.06305272602813149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457530706825365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324033812415594,0.0,0.05556420769711942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553230157252571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851299186608784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560760939042055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18885124757000707,0.0,0.5504958353423117,0.0,0.09381170854950346,0.0,0.20518361725559256,0.10412047918438057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982845516529439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263313544334871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567862324681098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420843017391176,0.07807821349462715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701979623789596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700971767420863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663785324689046,0.21268855043386573,0.0,0.0,0.2352074265020317,0.08444076956937414,0.10767841505576888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424554199767712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890416473400208,0.0,0.0,0.12591968010822716
parenting,sugarbunnypaws,2019/01/29,"Safest car for a 1YO? A couple of days ago I was in a car accident with my baby in the back. Lucky for me I bought a high priced seat so nothing happened to him, but I banged my head due to the impact. 

I was planning in buying a SUV but read it loses control in bad weather (snow, heavy rain). I'd like some advices about brands of SUV's or sedan. Like, which brand or model is ""safest"" in case of a car accident. Also, have you ever experienced something like that? I dont really know how to react in these scenarios. ",1.4834579439252311,3.3598291682243016,3.360570093457945,90.02683644859816,79.74766355140187,6.149158878504673,20.980373831775697,7.1686216300943375,0.5233857943925226,399,11,86,5,10,134,75,107,0.128,0.752,0.121,-0.4137,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,3,6,6,0,0,8,0,5,1,1,3,1,12,8,7,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,3,3,1,2,0,0,3,1,10,4,16,5,1,15,0,1,0,0,2,7,0,4,8,53,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22820433559179,0.2070116355946063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867551024837596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957135298592425,0.19498909623073316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619254997815445,0.0,0.258398226980328,0.0,0.1506085352647749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736972466120189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21124266405880945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20651118540531133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396707522663076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24673891269855885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834283684656206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422751691728252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26126207823629377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407982819050487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23359475486086506,0.0,0.14960629591105004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797840025946758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JasonABCD,2019/01/29,"For the Magic Timer (Oral B's brushing app), how do you make your selfie pic your profile picture? For your main pofile picture, you can select between a bunch of disney characters.

There is also an option in the app to take a selfie. If you take a selfie, is there a way to then select to make that selfie pic your main profile pic? I can't find a way to do this.",3.7796000000000016,4.334950426666674,4.8919999999999995,86.70600000000002,71.4,6.533333333333332,24.333333333333336,5.6839178017228535,0.5727333333333333,282,7,58,1,5,93,45,75,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,7,0,0,4,0,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,3,0,6,10,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,9,10,3,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,1,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820569735039311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223647372225186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708648370177758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5303784855864188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.559919464905927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scottmbeggs,2019/01/29,"Child hates daycare Our child is just over 13 months now, and was a joyful baby who hit the stranger danger wall pretty hard and is now generally shy around people that aren't us. We put her into an in-home daycare back in September with two other girls about her age, and she was super happy the first couple of weeks, but then it's like she just shut down. She cries every time I drop her off (she stops almost immediately after I leave). She cries every time I pick her up (she reaches out for me and wants to be held). This has been for months.  


For a while she wasn't eating,  and we thought she'd started to eat normally only to find out that it's because the nanny is hand-feeding her -- she won't self-feed at all at daycare still. But the worse part is that she apparently just sits all day. She may crawl around a little, but not much. She engages with her own toys and ones that are put right in front of her, but she won't go exploring or crawl toward the toy or book bin on her own. She sits. All day. No smiles. Not crying or upset. But not engaging. Like she's frozen.   


She really seems petrified by being there, but we don't know what else to do because we don't have options to move her. Finding this nanny took almost two months, if we switched we'd have to find another couple to do a share for economic reasons (which will take even longer) and getting on a wait list for another daycare is laughable. I feel like we're stuck, and I feel awful dropping her off every day knowing she's just going to sit there for hours. Anyone else have this problem? What can we do? Thanks, everyone.  


(We're taking her to the pediatrician to get advice on making changes, too.)",3.6954464285714255,4.974679223214288,4.401599999999998,87.4434,72.24404761904762,7.042666666666666,23.856666666666666,7.404127859558343,0.8823168095238088,1313,35,272,14,25,420,184,336,0.134,0.768,0.097,-0.9279,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,9,0,0,2,15,14,2,1,12,1,29,2,0,3,3,65,51,20,0,4,17,0,3,3,0,4,0,0,0,3,14,21,2,3,11,3,0,8,10,4,0,4,8,3,43,10,41,34,7,56,0,0,0,0,42,22,0,9,24,184,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313734777557343,0.0,0.0,0.1908815078284907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19988495011948132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666440548763675,0.09765795078721856,0.0,0.1696949811146607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328870203192576,0.0,0.11620207771292596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082698659706008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092084397474706,0.3140858007655304,0.1844042028020485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950550292259735,0.15924114702608674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295238271594035,0.0,0.24091228577506216,0.0910742746284872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963847713000858,0.06809059344198287,0.0,0.0,0.2613391017701148,0.08107195940469121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959270657348557,0.0,0.10833550553805077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146092187231276,0.08538043156305443,0.09410042746738836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386268194308664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476147527069138,0.0,0.0,0.10092117411044076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969323318736954,0.0955272166606364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362120260712407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22823031997079524,0.10130109847149356,0.07006495910457931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338508666300856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458557588170255,0.0724887319545725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321312527270153,0.0,0.0660770309134843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696611585381294,0.0,0.09120028536644836,0.0,0.19162887461552594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061059022281713886,0.09799615194586364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139554660578435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676805939062246,0.0994307378211457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746200870527698,0.0,0.07611593038954467,0.07968472717061036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332485434107425,0.0,0.0,0.08775007369589098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566672771684461,0.11115386758474603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058946438033869,0.0,0.0,0.1862110784973659,0.0,0.11464806443070424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562172241682436,0.0,0.07645317976177056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713061653402258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fuckthisshitimtired,2019/01/29,"Apps for limiting screen time without invading privacy? Two of my younger siblings are in high school (I'm in college, no longer home) and my mom sent me here to ask this because she is terrible with the internet and apps and such. Keeping that in mind - we're looking for an easy to use app that keeps track of how long they're on their phones. She doesn't want access to their texts or searches or anything. She just wants to be able to see how much time they're spending on their phones and to possibly set a daily limit. 

If you can't think of an app - anyone else in this situation? My siblings are constantly telling her that they're too busy with homework to help out around the house but are usually on their phones instead. She's hardly home in the evenings so it's hard for her to take away the phones. I can tell that she's really frustrated and any suggestions would be so helpful! ",5.5973295454545475,6.103252710227274,5.332954545454548,85.32568181818183,67.35227272727272,9.127272727272727,31.34090909090909,9.095868883498916,2.3966204545454546,711,27,146,12,11,219,113,176,0.07,0.88,0.049,-0.4109,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,4,2,11,2,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,3,0,27,22,13,0,4,6,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,7,9,0,4,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,1,1,5,17,0,28,18,1,19,0,0,3,0,24,12,0,3,5,91,24,3,0.15128098459681974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287625717184486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577918188818916,0.15500524627909726,0.12449136034791895,0.1346721497224338,0.14142729916623098,0.0,0.14213346489420264,0.0,0.0,0.0922194840708878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634810007947815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637585067868864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999196635612534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27103609517022503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20280091021790767,0.15983666612894928,0.3034943244962895,0.0,0.0,0.17455794485093756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689309801020489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338789108332255,0.1270379259717592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275066908176813,0.17717846077177,0.0,0.0,0.11120893029184477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054657974729387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691447250372426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531044329182883,0.1205513583085624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004616511160991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113744473265978,0.0,0.2644524970338584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693474647121238,0.0,0.0,0.17642631737571446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777953996428822,0.0,0.0,0.13065819845513532,0.1666146317168786,0.0,0.1784588885407229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14582947067680965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074656709940888,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pcbzelephant,2019/01/29,"Teaching preschooler another language. What’s the best way to do it? My daughter is 3 and lately has expressed she wants to learn Spanish. She ask multiple times a day how to say certain words in Spanish and I ask siri(or if I know them I’ll tell her, I took a few years in high school but have forgotten a lot of it). Once she learns the word she easily remembers it. Anyways what the best way to teach her? I was thinking of trying to brush up on my Spanish skills and then just start narrating our day and point stuff out in Spanish and maybe getting some story books in Spanish. Or is there a better way to go about it? I really want to teach her since she seems extremely interested in learning it and has a great memory.",3.344583333333333,5.171328736111113,4.249722222222221,85.96750000000002,74.1388888888889,7.5777777777777775,27.972222222222214,8.344100000000001,1.9579972222222213,574,23,114,10,12,185,93,144,0.015,0.7959999999999999,0.189,0.9811,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,4,5,6,0,0,8,0,7,0,0,1,1,26,18,11,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,7,0,0,7,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,17,6,18,16,5,22,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,5,7,77,25,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222358545791974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070909223703647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34472675049633056,0.14525999073380869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118468846610303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581042745485078,0.0,0.09334334168233596,0.0,0.0,0.1810789913227644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353223005570587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026390870445633,0.0,0.18527377359083289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963391385540685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500462851417907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749139215232621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526315517043546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521856433539348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605581958659625,0.0,0.0,0.13061298936420065,0.0,0.16622314716130548,0.0,0.14952107482375473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358638849879425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625236431728556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880194635178626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355602086026525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524057547260933,0.0,0.0,0.09577168066688804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18248052417860444,0.11151052617165652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375009284008934,0.3911064341126825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576740146230892
parenting,kitkatpineapple,2019/01/29,"Father calls toddler Idiot - Could this be damaging? I wish he wouldn't. Our child is only 1.5 years old and he doesn't understand the word yet, but still! 

He's just a little baby, playing, laughing, babbling away. He's a happy little boy who is excited to spend time with his dad.

We are separated but I am facilitating visits as we don't yet have a custody agreement.

I left the marriage because of narcissistic abuse. 

I don't know what to do. I've said in the past things like ""hey, don't call him names, it could be damaging"". To no avail. 

What would you suggest I say/ do? Or is it not a big deal?",1.6825956284152994,3.79627023770492,3.5602459016393446,87.64534153005467,80.22950819672131,6.361748633879781,23.281420765027317,7.492282038375204,1.0093748633879782,467,16,98,7,12,157,86,122,0.098,0.718,0.184,0.9036,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,3,1,0,0,4,9,1,0,7,0,18,0,0,0,0,18,22,5,0,5,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,7,4,0,0,2,1,1,1,7,3,0,0,1,2,11,6,8,15,0,14,0,2,0,0,25,6,0,1,8,61,18,0,0.0,0.2315353591159897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835992522694752,0.0,0.0,0.11912344733659115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990820557853662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120466787776155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014647530171221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802338514527247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739522328630116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21231946318851408,0.0,0.0,0.09547012029615197,0.3917152459596212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050556471731316,0.0,0.0,0.14862225897233242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654616312448766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588484700266852,0.15540221289095452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560590344629605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298253448361358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394832306012224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034343799229788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247181287302324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881753219650744,0.0,0.0,0.1258411458077677
parenting,RaikuFA,2019/01/29,"I think I’d be a bad parent Me and my girlfriend are talking about becoming parents. Part of me wants to be one and another part thinks I’d be terrible and I’m a terrible person for my reason. I have aspergers and I’d hate for my child to have it. I was beaten a lot by other kids at school a lot and I don’t want my child to deal with that.

I feel terrible that I think this way and I hate it.",-0.2916229712858893,1.4233407865168566,2.7183520599250954,93.1865418227216,84.95505617977528,6.652184769038702,20.001248439450688,7.793537801064563,0.6388716604244693,306,9,75,6,9,109,50,89,0.258,0.728,0.015,-0.9709,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,7,3,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,16,17,6,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,7,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,1,1,13,0,10,13,4,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,0,52,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013951227088766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140233629048322,0.0,0.20026389267518488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694247814819132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168550906101064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35805015580084804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083192607603593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287338181829885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026893110513886,0.3927237801060001,0.0,0.0,0.15832969296310867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18643665292732106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835148655472914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574556968650848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485653542445621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21390536062236945,0.1439307057943803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rhyno001,2019/01/29,"Help us with my step-son hitting kids in nuts. My step-son is in Kindergarten, and thinks it’s funny to hit his classmates in the nuts. We’re pretty sure he learned that from weekends at his dad’s house. We’ve tried spankings, grounding...you name it, we’ve tried it. His mom and I are at wit’s end. He himself has apparently never been hit in the nuts, or so he says. Either way, any advice would be greatly appreciated.",1.5226928104575137,3.8249072823529424,2.669803921568626,92.74300653594773,82.05882352941177,4.718954248366012,22.38562091503268,5.82211442006289,0.14493464052287575,329,11,70,2,9,105,61,85,0.078,0.7559999999999999,0.166,0.8313,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,2,11,10,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,2,9,4,1,10,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,3,35,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561262907171956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782406094061956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321475215300477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889720468253512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756836748298024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30243435484780906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069745895679312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20215178541026968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666553447359861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084366750821742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470311675215974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794650931753105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559046221210589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152804345610059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080470074901469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619210316172324,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lauracasasanunez,2019/01/29,My daughter (9 F) eats a lot of candies and I don't know how to stop it Hi! My Little daughter is a very picky eater but she loves to eat sugar and candies. She's capable of eating granulated sugar with a spoon. I feel so guilty of her behavior and I don't know how to keep her away from candies. I'm afraid that she developes a desease. ,0.2745833333333323,2.3895095138888927,2.8338888888888896,90.77500000000002,85.80555555555556,5.822222222222222,22.88888888888889,7.1686216300943375,0.8720222222222218,263,10,58,4,8,91,48,72,0.09,0.789,0.121,0.4969,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,4,0,3,6,0,2,0,13,9,7,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,10,1,9,9,1,3,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,1,1,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23142629662791706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7561423529343001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245470881509516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21894105241105602,0.0,0.0,0.2707427017643589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24687793546150666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20941295163123247,0.22231394365625887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593503735778848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20324027821145335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EscapeRoomm,2019/01/29,"Adjusting to caring for 5 kids under 5 (w/ newborn twins) So a little background: my partner and I have 3 kids (4 year old twins and a 2 year old) -- all of whom were adopted as newborns. Looking to add just one more to the family, we decided to go through the same process. The kiddos (especially the older two) are incredibly excited. However, our birth mother just found out, at 7 months, that she's actually pregnant with two babies, not one. Obviously we're very excited, but we were not expecting to find this out, especially so late along. We know how to take care of twins, clearly, but when we were doing so the first time we had no other kids. One baby can take away from the amount of time you can focus on your other kids, so I would imagine two is even more difficult in this sense. And because the kids are all so young, I'm worried about explaining to them what's going to happen and whether they'll be able to grasp it. I also don't want to risk pushing responsibilities on them too early or not getting to be as involved in their life temporarily. I know I'm probably overreacting and it'll fall in place, but if anyone has any advice on balancing caring for \*5\* kids under 5 and/or preparing the current 3 for the new arrivals, please let me know! Thanks!",7.176963562753037,6.494645643724695,7.7285020242914975,73.49412955465587,64.22267206477733,10.838866396761134,34.384615384615394,10.214889679676881,3.3353627530364367,1002,38,191,20,13,333,157,247,0.044,0.847,0.109,0.9479,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,6,2,4,1,14,8,0,1,11,0,19,1,0,1,4,45,38,21,0,4,11,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,9,9,15,0,0,10,0,0,4,5,2,0,7,5,1,19,6,36,27,6,34,0,0,1,0,26,14,0,2,16,131,28,0,0.12949670808067115,0.0,0.1263701069620186,0.0,0.0,0.12654268439785432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355847066624073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806220212619179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054710923844034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166642001274901,0.0,0.0,0.07893999130098805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960915731742597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855313543747422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207797146657633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835764515506055,0.1101498337399949,0.0,0.14198645639989438,0.0,0.0,0.06765668519262867,0.0,0.14719192691010846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145135112862915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135040123889404,0.0,0.14607792719457838,0.0,0.0,0.13241915768288828,0.0914673545900146,0.0,0.12978972150270612,0.0,0.0,0.108744620208432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033630369193315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506872760937593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27177002287933777,0.0,0.26325096238982865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529649797496612,0.14214849834098015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396193536559235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473081682499446,0.0,0.0,0.11922317036925333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102114373355965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794984015615723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684834615894624,0.07638051356999445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151019297571856,0.0,0.09199074597844416,0.0,0.0,0.16678326857520612
parenting,llcoolness,2019/01/29,"6 year old tyrant vs kindergarten teacher It's like a battle of the wills since my 6 year old daughter started kindergarten. We never had issues like this in preschool, so I chalked it up to just a kid who handles change poorly. Her first month in school went about as poorly as possible. I was getting phone calls from the principal, emails and calls from the teacher, my daughter even got a half day suspension from school due to her behavior. It was baffling, and so unlike her. She's strong willed, don't get me wrong... But the way she was acting was beyond her norm. So my husband and I weathered the storm, did everything we were asked to do, star charts at home, conversations about school, grounding her from stuff. Which frankly got old, and frustrating for me. I felt like I had to ground her everyday. The teacher would send these daily reports home that talked about all the bad things my kid did that day. It started to feel like she was being boxed into the stereotypical ""bad kid"" with little hope of ever being seen as anything but. Then one day, she turned it around. I have no idea what changed, but her attitude did a 180 and she started doing really well in school. My husband and I were so pleased, the teacher stopped harassing me, everything was great. Then Christmas break happened and I worked a ton so our schedule got all messed up. No big deal, so I thought. School resumed, I started getting emails from the teacher and calls from the principal and vice principal about her behavior. I figured it was an adjustment thing again, and it would resolve as she readjusted. So then today I get approached by her teacher who wants to ask me how it's going *insert internal eye roll* I immediately know this isn't a ""just checking in conversation"" as she claims. Nope, my kid is refusing to do her work in school, being defiant, and just general debauchery. The whole conversation I'm thinking what do you want me to do? Like she's just complaining about my kids behavior but she's offered no solutions. So I pipe up with a genius idea (not really, but something my mom did when I was in school) and I offered to come to the classroom to help her and get a better idea of what is going on. I was immediately shot down, that wouldn't be a good idea. The way this teacher describes my daughters behavior is not the behavior we see at home, so my thinking is I should witness this behavior first hand in the environment that it's happening in. I know my daughter has told me kids taunt her and tease her in class- I think it's normal kid stuff, doesn't sound like bullying by any means. So, I'm wondering why a teacher wouldn't want a parent to come and assess and help? When I was struggling in school my mom thought it was 100% my fault and I was being a POS, she sat in my class for a week and observed the teacher. Low and behold it was not me, the teacher was awful, she would refuse to answer questions I asked and respond with ""you already know the answer, go sit down."" She would send back my 3rd grade math homework so many times that my mom would do it with a calculator and she'd still mark it all wrong. This was at a private school, and I think that teacher was ready for retirement. Anyways, I mention this because I feel it's important to my intrinsic bias, as I've been a victim of a terrible teacher and it took me a long time (tutoring, summer school, etc) to get caught up and be successful in school again. My daughters teacher has thrown a lot of red flags my way- for example she doesn't participate with the other kindergarten teachers, progress notes that just tally the amount of times my daughter did something wrong without addressing ANY improvements, her phone calls about how she's never seen a child act out like my daughter in all her 17 years of teaching, telling me that the girl who has a reading deficit can do her homework faster than my daughter, and now telling me I shouldn't come to the classroom because it wouldn't be helpful. I'm not a teacher, maybe she's right? I love my daughter, but she is not perfect, she  is a boundary pusher- but she responds to set boundaries once they have been identified. I don't claim to be a perfect parent and I'm not trying to put all blame on this teacher. I'm just trying to navigate these murky waters with little experience in the matter, and do what is best for my daughter. 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parenting,ycomt,2019/01/29,"I want to have a baby with my 54 year old husband, but I don't know if I should. I'm 30 years old, and my husband is 54. Huge age gap, I know. It's working for us. I ADORE him. He has a 22 year old daughter that lives with him during the school year and we are very friendly with each other. 

Before we got married, we sat down and talked about all the important stuff - kids, finances, religion, etc. He told me that he would be happy to have kids if I wanted them, but it would have to be before he turned 60. I told him I would be happy either way. 

To be honest, I had never thought much about having kids until I met my husband. We're such a good team and we would make such an awesome person together. If I did have kids, I would only want them *with him*. I never thought about having kids in an abstract way while I was growing up or dating other guys. 

We spoke to a doctor regarding his advanced paternal age and are comfortable in that regard. Financially, they will be taken care of even when he is gone and I will not have to be a caretaker to him in addition to any kids. He is a great dad to his daughter. The world would benefit from having more of him!

I suppose my biggest mental hurdle is the fact that he will barely be around to see any kids we have graduate high school. Physically, he is in excellent shape and can keep up with his young nieces and nephews no problem, but I know that this could change very quickly. I'm scared of having kids and them resenting me when they lose their dad too soon. When I married him, I knew it meant that I would likely be widowed in my 40's or 50's. I decided not to miss out on the years that we could have together just because we wouldn't get a lifetime. But I made that choice for me.

Any advice or thoughts or anecdotes would be great. We've been married for a year now, and the ""kids?"" conversation has come back up. I know he is on board for whatever I choose. ",2.7606762731291954,4.137094507614215,3.922104142786967,89.58036269854266,74.73604060913706,6.911282135254628,24.13099721630916,7.4822170145007005,0.9346773538562304,1492,45,323,18,31,486,186,394,0.049,0.767,0.183,0.996,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,9,0,6,5,16,18,1,1,16,0,51,1,0,2,4,77,82,26,0,19,15,8,0,1,1,13,1,1,0,11,15,28,0,1,11,1,1,4,7,5,0,0,18,2,57,13,41,40,6,48,0,2,1,0,61,18,0,7,25,225,72,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480904311008768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705814758145172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726046163348656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673525538954712,0.0,0.05290566702620828,0.0,0.1477018090948719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848699937291102,0.0,0.09181107748070244,0.07476089478462866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858764209027066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883204808997291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679249033977456,0.05732320564360253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705283705413335,0.0,0.04534358314343274,0.0,0.0,0.07279435541665387,0.0694129580270713,0.1913699894547852,0.0,0.0859345895490324,0.0,0.1847766530305889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169716705742148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714190243882739,0.0,0.0,0.19078749147801247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04240063990986245,0.0,0.07663612954680454,0.0,0.0,0.09709450435599036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212169221079478,0.05793221992561714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746273067002783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379977827503916,0.0,0.13387379667767732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27321084220804737,0.0,0.0,0.06600681831894778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578066133734722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304519205263355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689076222501088,0.1756698647757556,0.06915946327922816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935244969023732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975757642886031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670191688516645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658608982896771,0.0,0.0,0.09440132821725296,0.0,0.0,0.10439628002099656,0.0,0.0,0.14321975290401368,0.1535709068987824,0.13777787182838405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318330404323892,0.0,0.0,0.4932183747192441,0.0,0.0,0.33533497764670056
parenting,Jenicanoelle,2019/01/29,My son (7) is driving me nuts with the fart noises. My son makes fart noises from the time he wakes up on the morning until he goes to bed at night. When he's walking every step is a nasty fart sound. He sits down an makes fart noises. He sits doing his homework and it fart noises every five seconds. He punctuates his speech with it. It's not just a plain raspberry either. It's the nastiest wet sounding fart noise he can make. Please someone tell me this is a stage he will outgrow soon. I have a 6 year old son and I don't think I can take two of them doing this. I fear for my sanity!,1.1332795698924727,3.053425016129033,2.7141935483870974,94.0079569892473,81.09677419354837,5.423655913978496,19.204301075268816,6.42735559955562,-0.062347311827956726,458,11,102,4,12,150,79,124,0.11,0.871,0.019,-0.901,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,9,0,10,1,1,3,0,11,15,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,3,0,4,12,0,11,14,1,17,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,7,58,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4284372373046055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861046441694958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091463677779965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385986603704962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667951312113814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790927922408912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154272393089129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116616790657004,0.0,0.22222781028257466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291467609652438,0.0,0.0,0.14825662312276766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483676572479128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373021406831625
parenting,Muffymcgoober,2019/01/29,"How does everyone handle video game time? My 6 yo is a great kid. He's funny, super smart and extremely sweet. And like his dad he loves playing video games. He plays things like let's go pikachu, minecraft and lego games. When I was growing up, even though we had a Nintendo, I didn't play games much. I mostly went outside or read books. I'm not saying he has to do exactly that but he has a room full of toys and things to do but all he wants to do is play video games. My husband is susceptible to more structured time but I'm just not sure how much is too much and is it really as bad as I think it is? Am I overreacting to try to control something they bond over? What do you guys do?",1.1593300492610863,3.077666455172416,2.527906403940886,95.38594827586208,81.0,6.0738916256157625,20.701970443349754,7.1686216300943375,0.2910591133004927,536,15,126,7,14,173,93,145,0.078,0.774,0.149,0.6796,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,1,2,7,13,0,0,3,0,18,1,0,3,3,22,25,15,0,1,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,6,0,1,1,16,0,3,3,1,0,0,4,2,11,12,11,20,7,10,0,0,0,1,21,4,0,2,5,74,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705718793329664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22912627222035795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17877373467278498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493024387756758,0.0,0.0,0.19520586126254266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610153223912335,0.0,0.0,0.22522815200290075,0.0,0.202277158005794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889823820550305,0.0,0.19960951657773046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437782291689486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4505253786140889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043432023080541,0.0,0.13087207206394336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624579527817106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572708207247095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253894609963806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271439632021944,0.1308994497719944,0.20071184328526925,0.0,0.2382438569294525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869808725489582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049430760021533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893769476749481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catrinah,2019/01/29,"Returning to work Going back to work in a couple of weeks after staying home for the past 6years. I found an awesome part time job less than a mile from my house. 

I’m starting to feel super anxious. I have so much respect for the moms out there working and having to arrange childcare. 

Any words of wisdom or support would be appreciated! ",4.634615384615387,6.347247846153848,5.092307692307696,81.70769230769233,70.53846153846153,6.430769230769231,29.92307692307693,6.742157984588678,1.6741384615384622,270,11,48,2,5,86,55,65,0.026,0.6970000000000001,0.277,0.9641,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,4,3,4,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,10,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,13,7,3,12,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,7,33,3,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552597662472,0.0,0.0,0.2417568251011296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455125079284405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367847139604674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082038174717732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346377587227321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161999358233765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21465743985323385,0.0,0.0,0.2469249572289932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123599921162484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250631868319302,0.0,0.0,0.1573131511100531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317389773728439,0.204285303020951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146888409369433,0.2280933920278624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428423916065398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478395328630924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716562854586951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673792727180308,0.0,0.0,0.15201803754312426,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sgraves0789,2019/01/29,"6 y/o needs tonsils out.. My 6 year old has had bouts of confirmed tonsillitis for the past 3 years. It was a fight to get a referral from our GP for and ENT. 

Now that the ENT has agreed to remove them our 6 year old is terrified. We (my partner/ her dad) have explained everything to her, even told her she gets all the popsicles she wants after. Told her that she’ll feel much better once they’re out. But she’s terrified. I don’t want to book the surgery and force her into it if she’s truly scared but she needs this. This time it’s so bad she’s refusing to eat, and complaining of pain which are things she doesn’t normally do when this flares up. 

Any suggestions on what we can tell, or show her (she’s very visual) to set her mind at ease? ",2.6419230769230744,3.8596185769230793,3.624871794871794,92.22846153846157,74.76923076923076,7.764102564102564,22.615384615384606,8.344100000000001,0.9353307692307692,582,15,136,10,12,187,104,156,0.158,0.7809999999999999,0.061,-0.9567,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,4,0,1,1,4,6,1,1,6,0,12,2,0,0,1,22,22,9,0,6,4,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,11,8,1,1,2,2,0,1,2,5,0,0,4,1,24,1,18,17,2,18,0,0,0,0,31,6,0,2,10,83,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439312557564333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527320978596091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617795047293045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871747113932085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081815181212364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643983571948058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249077976806996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19113822579949544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846989157965998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446860151432874,0.27126845687909457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792245676919039,0.0,0.0,0.383891405932377,0.19480579236817788,0.0,0.0,0.19464173739759769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461959672996902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18313667534300068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988175297520532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152514413007155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666319739600608,0.0,0.0,0.3495793189558621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092967720990574,0.21578408412792946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533870077776758
parenting,Donald_Beeblebrox,2019/01/29,"Mild ADD - any non-drastic solutions? My ten year old has mild symptoms of ADD, he comes home with 80s when he could be getting 100s. I know it isn't something to be worried about, but if there is anything we can do to help him focus, that doesn't have the side effects or the permanence of medication, I would be grateful. 
Are there any exercises, protocols or supplements that have any science and/or research behind them that have been shown to work.",7.018235294117645,7.3616661176470615,6.449411764705888,79.1023529411765,64.29411764705883,9.623529411764707,35.82352941176471,9.3871,3.1971647058823525,360,16,67,6,5,111,65,85,0.018000000000000002,0.879,0.103,0.8074,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,16,3,0,1,0,13,19,5,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,8,13,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,3,3,44,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5354114187539443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21596850980282906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22607170181501224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095396543081445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371158148542384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591024085532458,0.0,0.26325207151684704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423199791717706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643840577988069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753901409296017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20204170739016705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727791213099071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19106187950932926,0.2665239542872021,0.0,0.1864322211171214,0.0,0.0,0.16900490845533073
parenting,gabbybeek,2019/01/29,16 year old stepdaughter has hickeys alll over! Hi- she is not even trying to hide them. Is this the new normal?  Back in my day (!!!) we would never show them off but she actually seems proud of them.  We have already had the sex/ protection/ etc talk numerous times.  Say something or ignore? ,1.6572222222222237,4.424160555555559,2.5573148148148164,88.7504166666667,91.59259259259258,5.662962962962964,19.712962962962962,7.1686216300943375,0.8248962962962967,226,7,42,4,8,71,48,54,0.098,0.835,0.067,0.4728,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,1,10,7,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,8,1,5,5,1,10,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,2,7,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.2720576638584911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30765038556543944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21437138712515572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797957195328839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109232188640991,0.1841373804078436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501911790091005,0.2692559709978524,0.0,0.0,0.2731538424030403,0.0,0.0,0.2925419599175604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22170405234566315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537988630447148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21462524716932027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407988602507287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256399770927812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892793025547998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804357255958785,0.0,0.0,0.17953085389447182
parenting,rhenni,2019/01/29,"Help with discipline I need serious help with a discipline system... or “behavior management” or whatever you want to call it. My kids are out of control!

There’s a ton of advice out there but so much of it doesn’t fit my situation well. First of all I should preface with the fact that have moderate-severe, medium-functioning depression. Not going to go into detail on that other than to say I’ve been trying to treat it fairly unsuccessfully for 12+ years and obviously it makes everything about parenting much harder.

My kids are 7 and 4 and we’ve really never had a discipline system. Besides yelling, of course. And then eventually I simply give up and let them do whatever because I’m too tired to fight. We have no authority and the kids walk all over us. I’m so sick of it.

A quick browse online makes it pretty clear that “positive parenting” is the current popular method. And to give it credit, it seems to be backed up with a fair amount of research. I’ve read quite a bit about it and gave it a shot, but I finally realized it’s just too hard for someone in my condition. I’m not sure I could ever summon the patience, compassion, empathy and understanding it requires, as hard as that is to admit. And it’s waaaay too vague and situation dependent. I need something simple and clear cut that doesn’t require a lot of thought to execute.

My daughter thinks a token system is stupid, so that won’t work unless she buys into it. She has an attitude, so she says that about most things we try. 

Time-outs or simply having house rules with consequences (some of which seem arbitrary) don’t seem to be popular practices anymore. And besides, my time-outs just seem to make my kids more upset and they trash their rooms or something.

What am I supposed to do??? What does everyone else do when their kids break the rules? What do you do when your kids won’t stop hitting each other, making messes that they refuse to clean up, get into things that are off limits, or just in general disobeying or refusing to listen?
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parenting,AshleighsAdvice,2019/01/29,"How to convince a 10yo that the consequences he faces are in direct correlation to his negative choices?? **We are at our wits end A little back story.
We have 3 kids. Our youngest is almost 5, and the oldest is said 10yo. Our middle is 8, autistic with sensory issues and ADHD. Our eldest has always ""acted out"" and we try very, very hard to make sure he knows he is moved and included and had opportunities catered for him. He is an incredibly smart kid and phenomenally creative. We pause his talents and share them and try our hardest to encourage his strengths in positive ways. 

A few months ago, we started noticing he was sleeping in a lot, and often. Eventually, we realized he was sneaking tablets into his room before bed and staying up all night on them. We got a handle on it. Then it was his school computer. Then it went to the Xbox in his brother's room. We installed cameras and a door chime so we can hear when his door is opened at night. The behavior had only gotten worse. Now, we recently learned, he had figured out that if he goes to the bathroom, the chime goes off. Then he'll slip something in between the chime, so although we confirm his door is closed, it won't chime when reopened. With this, we have caught him on our personal computers from 1030 to 545 am several times!! Not to mention he will sneak any sweet in the house with utter disregard, even down to just full cups of plain sugar. 
He had also taken to blatant destruction lately including, but not limited to peeing in our recycling bin, cutting up his sister's bed, and destroying family photos. He maintains that he isn't doing any of this and has even figured out how to clear the history. He is becoming more and more aggressive with his sister, and his attitude is intolerable. 
We are at our with end. We are looking at putting into one of those scared straight programs. He's lost almost all privileges, and is basically left with Legos, books, and art. 
We are genuinely concerned for the safety and well being of our other two children, but don't want to propagate his idea that we prefer them. We truly don't. These are just not struggles we face with them. He's destroyed TV's, books.... It just goes on. I I'm sure his lack of sleep isn't helping, but he has school. I let him sleep as long as I can. 

I don't know what to do. I'm so torn up about this. Any suggestions or advice would be wonderful. ",3.7102847152847183,5.691869625541128,4.686709956709958,82.5605044955045,73.52380952380952,7.8553446553446555,28.07992007992008,8.617729084823388,2.19217042957043,1885,75,357,36,39,613,241,462,0.081,0.8109999999999999,0.108,0.8758,0,0,1,0,0,0,67.0,27,0,4,4,18,20,5,2,17,0,44,7,6,3,6,88,62,37,0,5,11,3,1,0,0,4,0,2,7,4,16,50,1,2,9,5,0,5,10,8,1,2,14,6,51,12,58,41,8,60,0,1,1,0,78,34,0,7,19,244,67,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257233992666534,0.10779459559597092,0.09778401223058927,0.0,0.22092098856735595,0.0,0.0,0.08821563663773455,0.09178755739882044,0.0,0.0,0.22504571111290064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482232086231865,0.0,0.0,0.12182979108627205,0.09386650406789714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19540554100765256,0.0,0.0,0.14571870036538198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039913577622762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822575359016475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988169548732059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432847158503227,0.0,0.07393911272467893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728403977530148,0.0,0.1245276492564795,0.0,0.115135984876019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124803991684162,0.0,0.12443557019803715,0.0,0.11985318322387176,0.11280043267225083,0.0,0.0,0.11056056387985973,0.0,0.09762173028630723,0.09263342574392344,0.0,0.1204174461378307,0.09378243532705197,0.0,0.0,0.07363342386439399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880491576206809,0.1172430953206306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070387307588283,0.0,0.0,0.12558976163022978,0.0,0.0,0.07474956287435636,0.08389645757506937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631927732342184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089298512915734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891876718435474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493098603292547,0.0,0.11044051709099673,0.223281165987464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461998854812255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311718824504497,0.0,0.0,0.08492276802744184,0.0,0.0,0.07807866683084137,0.11757680839216905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532096879613035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793355284244056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432320917113442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978780469919445,0.0,0.10775778128490718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820361930696836,0.06506426357926802,0.08755970726220602,0.0,0.0,0.09918280285499788,0.10225936714157323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196275329832948,0.0,0.0,0.11241629463726513,0.0783617425890976,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slllightly,2019/01/29,"I often put on movies outside of my 3 year old’s preferences I have to be sneaky about it, like start the movie while he is in another room. Otherwise, if I try to do it while he’s watching me, he will say no to everything I suggest.

He’s really into superheroes. So Hulk, Iron Man, and Cpt America being his favorites. Lots of Marvel Cartoons on Netflix.

So, at least a couple of times per week I’ll put on something that shows a different kind of protagonist. Sometimes it’ll be a strong female lead: Brave, Zootopia, etc.

Sometimes it’s someone of a different culture/race: Coco, Moana, etc.

I do this because I want my son to see others represented as a protagonist and be more rounded. (Before you take up arms, know this isn’t the ONLY way I do this, just one small way)

Anyone else do this?

What are some ways that you help to diversify your children’s tv habits/preferences?

PS - it works, my son stays glued to these movies/shows.

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parenting,mizzcece,2019/01/29,Wtf Parenting : needing a time out from the kids so you don’t loose your cool then feeling obligated to cut it short because you hear the kids getting into shit ,5.919677419354841,6.7581062903225835,6.061451612903228,79.21217741935486,66.74193548387098,8.780645161290323,34.854838709677416,8.841846274778883,2.9436967741935485,129,6,24,2,2,41,28,31,0.31,0.5920000000000001,0.098,-0.8505,1,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,3,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,5,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,1,4,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,0,2,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636240294490069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186651244775734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594286717916684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4874146404511567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206641301924892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.480196430322735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44391469507470815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521713125812082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bootyfulgina,2019/01/29,"coparenting with my ex? Just for a little backstory... my ex and i have a 4 year old. I havent been with him since the child was several months old. He has biweekly visitation meaning every other weekend.

My issue is how do i convince the other parent that he has to do some parenting also. I have tried to talk to him about our childs bedtime and the childs diet and other aspects of raising a healthy kid. Every single weekend he gets our kid he doesnt follow a single thing that i have been trying to instill in our childs life. I understand that he wants to do fun things with the kid but i personally think he should have to do some parenting also. We recently got into a huge argument because again our kid came back from his house an absolute wreck. He comes back kicking and screaming about wanting to stay up until midnight and later, or only wanting to eat chicken nuggets and drink coke (which i allow absolutely none of). I told him that it isnt fair for him to only ever spend time having fun with the kid and then expect me to clean up his mess everytime. He says to me something along the lines of ""our kid is always well behaved when they are with me, it must be something you are doing wrong for the kid to misbehave."" How do i get it through someones skull that the child doesnt through fits with him because he gives the kid whatever they want at anytime?",6.026361524163566,6.221059970260228,6.407767193308551,79.06696677509295,66.39776951672863,9.104182156133831,32.05413568773234,8.841846274778883,2.5596559479553904,1088,41,206,16,16,352,147,269,0.073,0.843,0.084,-0.203,4,0,3,0,0,0,22.0,6,1,2,0,13,7,0,0,15,0,27,6,1,3,2,37,42,16,0,7,3,5,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,14,14,18,4,0,3,3,1,4,5,3,1,0,6,2,32,4,36,33,5,30,0,0,0,0,49,8,0,3,17,150,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903552008543826,0.10354731270188226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913793902209838,0.0,0.15171972049268664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233069535795365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071974204095007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190766797417946,0.0,0.12733720040689775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256665265366687,0.20969874423614165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003362678048375,0.11937795013079035,0.0,0.0,0.09952917317175937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359157866359498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298871237786042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789842286458915,0.0,0.12472550316184125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555591383342186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932995185470676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26116592635745633,0.0,0.0,0.189290421780361,0.0,0.0,0.4145407477218065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865963329748496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287336066409835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989628021641306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405862111247691,0.0,0.10294129884601799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544093188898032,0.19160602298716226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264066383391615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002331123422974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535002530400106,0.07973864085672391,0.0,0.0,0.07256425209238253,0.0,0.0,0.11891150109075213,0.0,0.1689785096331072,0.0,0.0,0.1295505123072297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29360099941592893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189003164395776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136059893965364,0.0,0.08013780618053551
parenting,Bulliedhomeschool,2019/01/29,"Has anyone else ever homeschooled due to bullying not being handled by the school? I have an 12 year old son with auditory and sensory processing disorder. He is also academically gifted and has a high IQ. 

He has dealt with bullying issues since starting kindergarten. Now that he is in junior high and still struggles with auditory and sensory processing disorder and has a high IQ, it makes him very quirky and the kids find him flat out weird. He can't play sports, is awful is gym, weights 58 pounds, and can't eat in the cafeteria because it overwhelms him. From what we hear most of the bullying happens in gym, but it happens in Spanish and computer class as well. Kids purposefully mess with him, pretend that they are talking and he can't hear them, trip him, hide his clothes, make fun of what he is wearing, pants him, etc. 

It is brutal and we have gone to the school so many times. They do nothing about it. I have gone above their heads and things are fine for a week and then they are pushing him into urinals or making up rumors about him. It also gets worse every time I report a problem. 

I don't know what to do. He is such a bright kid and I'm thinking that he would do well with homeschooling. There aren't any other options for education here and we can't move.",5.140932163187851,6.235748439516129,5.467960151802656,81.84326375711575,68.63709677419354,8.577229601518027,29.910815939278933,8.841846274778883,2.293548102466793,1015,38,196,17,17,323,142,248,0.14800000000000002,0.7929999999999999,0.059,-0.9553,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,5,0,14,12,1,2,11,1,28,6,3,3,1,38,42,21,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,14,24,3,0,3,5,0,5,7,6,2,0,2,4,21,6,24,38,2,26,0,1,1,0,33,10,0,3,11,129,35,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007338566793136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534823538209275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775656077026459,0.12859550501326245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650715966610179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876809984450952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842374730626446,0.10484397612094333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997212263170825,0.0,0.11352716495503755,0.10574403416350137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147100108113224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557159091613478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22196869666481947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880514051773215,0.0,0.2829082750804811,0.0,0.0,0.3978112475653717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099542874493245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897469540253838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513282517049801,0.12724316380615885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339278380644554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042618252058075,0.0,0.1316972056255432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009208323043193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540371031757972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381967962335964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888336383134472,0.0,0.10022907944612433,0.0,0.0,0.13120589333558147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087679331439688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338046462020059,0.08041903725860595,0.0,0.0,0.14636686128487245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355541399127433,0.0,0.0,0.1006731677460241,0.1528322307447096,0.2256895409042649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790111388531133,0.08915570643454768,0.0,0.0,0.08082160859294342
parenting,simplydecent,2019/01/29,"Am I the only one that can't concentrate on something if their kid is talking? I'm sitting in a library ready to rage. Even typing this he(3)  is still talking to me to show me this and that. I play along. This kid is not deprived of attention by any means (I'm a SAHM.)  We made a deal, talked about it all day. He can look at books and games, but mommy wants to find a book for her to read while he plays and looks at books to bring home. He will not STFU. This doesn't happen just at the library, this happens daily. I just want to finish a thought and fill my brain with knowledge. It's almost like things never get accomplished or finished. 

If I'm working on something, he interrupts, then I just kinda sit there to try and finish the thought, start where I left off or get completely side tracked and start something else. Sometimes I end up just sitting there and staring off into space, not accomplishing anything because it's almost pointless. Things seem to take twice as long to get finished then it does for someone else. 

I get an idea and get excited about it then a quarter or half way through i just give up because it seems fucking pointless and a waste of time because the kids seen to always need something. 

I love my dudes (3&5) and I'm trying to enjoy them the best I can. but fuck guys.. it feels like my brain is wasting away. Before staying at home my brain would melt from all of the information that I could take in. 

Help me reddit. I just want to use my brain!

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parenting,drdavidge,2019/01/29,"Sleep training a standing 10 month old? How? Hi, our almost 10 month old son is a terrible sleeper. A few months ago, before he could stand, we did the Ferber method for just 2 days and he had been sleeping well through the night for a month or two. Then he got sick, and had a bit of a sleep regression at the same time. Our doctor, who is a proponent for sleep training, said it’s best to avoid it while he is sick... which has been a lot lately in the winter here. Now, he can stand up and is back to waking up 4-5 times a night where he immediately stands up and cries. If we run in there, give him his pacifier, and lay him down, he usually goes back to sleep right away. But at the 3rd + time during the night, it’s much more difficult to get him back to sleep. If we do manage to, it’s only for 20 minutes or so. Around 5am, my wife usually can’t take it anymore and... brings him in our bed where he usually sleeps until wake up time (say ~6:30). Our 3.5 year old daughter usually wakes up around 6 and wanders in our room too because she realizes her brother is not there (they sleep in the same room). She generally sleeps through the night and through our son crying though. 

We tried a night of the Ferber method again last weekend but it was a failure - as soon as we laid him down and left he would get back up and start crying right away. We did it for almost an hour and then the next morning he woke up with a raspy lost voice. 

Any advice on how exactly to sleep train a 10 month old who can stand up and is pretty stubborn about it? Or any advice in general for how to make this better? Thanks in advance. ",4.207039897039898,4.4401586786786815,4.733024453024456,89.37243243243246,70.32132132132132,8.024538824538826,25.76705276705277,7.793537801064563,1.0863142857142851,1252,33,284,14,21,399,173,333,0.081,0.8690000000000001,0.05,-0.8314,0,1,2,0,0,1,47.0,12,0,1,4,23,9,1,1,24,0,20,16,13,4,1,47,32,30,0,4,9,5,0,0,0,1,3,3,3,0,12,21,0,2,1,1,0,3,2,5,1,1,11,3,23,4,48,19,8,82,0,1,0,0,43,31,0,8,43,178,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406383320174892,0.056271185564088916,0.0,0.127132091014637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633714708953819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295509763586081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302130850297115,0.0,0.0,0.11928309021214,0.19524879163128034,0.0,0.03869681586223469,0.0,0.054016800376336084,0.0,0.06661833853783225,0.0561428970903739,0.06930371356288492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05068361073769118,0.0,0.20918938174569784,0.04093934532267708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497446494531464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633135488363202,0.06089579573731031,0.0,0.0,0.05077075115404913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251500818187335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05174466863448818,0.07160819955796943,0.0,0.06897120050395576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929591353642413,0.05396842183665127,0.0,0.0,0.042373389713460295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533456325943801,0.0,0.046665100559786524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751169503968077,0.2978583761221183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664463058309308,0.0,0.0,0.04827939685317607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458197656914567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842313807129493,0.060384012189617114,0.05048184006825557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6352583967418848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044931467318749765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0477290561931253,0.0,0.0,0.058443850756202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236877295964807,0.0,0.14806278273021514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043098749791477466,0.0,0.06201073128763125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27965698522216986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707613930852917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04509436724643905,0.0,0.0,0.040879035623073365
parenting,seacanmiss,2019/01/29,"Single mom advice or blogs etc. on the internet? I’ve been searching to no avail. There has to be useful advice, support, or info for single moms on the web. Anyone have any leads? 

I must say, babies are hard. But imagine having no one to grab you a water, answer the phone, wake up to feed the baby, stir your dinner.... id love to stumble upon strategies for how we do this!! I hate putting baby down to cry when I need to go to the bathroom!! Also doesn’t help when I have to hold him when he sleeps! ",1.2338834951456334,3.1905565145631134,2.9765145631067966,92.06787864077671,80.94174757281553,4.508349514563107,18.066990291262137,4.935628992294339,-0.4974031067961162,383,8,80,1,10,127,76,103,0.131,0.759,0.11,0.4124,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,1,2,0,1,6,3,1,0,6,0,10,6,2,3,1,13,16,8,0,2,3,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,3,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,3,8,2,16,13,3,11,0,0,0,1,11,5,0,2,3,56,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4129489341187295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689720756442043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368745485841625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774197507137804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320970046668529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23564913746652696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008349122994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892783026929144,0.20860950065064046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162619944223806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070146839780894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4949309546030958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667213912325378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317857098561332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124092574268225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802980780578072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114470196950486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397744099780692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824905426044436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wakenbakery,2019/01/29,"My 2.5 yo is driving me nuts. So, typically whenever we go pretty much to anyones house (friends, family, etc.) the tv is always running in the background. I discovered pretty early that that doesn't work for my daughter. If anything is on she will stop what shes doing to watch it.  No matter what it is, even something super visually boring like an interview. Shes now 2.5 and I've found that it pretty much applies to anything that really grabs her attention or that shes super interested in. If she likes it, she will do it for hours on end. Now, she also just figured out how to truly play with princesses and characters. She got a set of the classics (most of which, she hasn't even seen the movies to) she insists on me being Rapunzel while she gets to control the other 7 and comes up with her own story lines and gives them quests and its really something to see. But, that means 24/7 its ""mama, play princess?"" and its driving me insane. I have a whole house to clean and cooking, and an almost one year old to deal with and try to convince him not to take the princesses.

So, my questions are, anyone with this sort of experience? I need good ways to channel it, and maybe take advantage of this sponge state she seems to be in? Whats a good balance for playing with her? She loves playing with other people especially when someone new comes over. She has a half sister (4) who comes over alternating weekends, but, doesn't really like coplay and is behind developmentally. so Its a lot of asking to play and following big sister around to get a reaction. I want to encourage solo play but I feel like I'm saying no so much that she feels like I'm ignoring her just like her sister does and everything else I'm doing is more important. she can solo play she just would rather be around people. I know its only a matter of time before the little boy will be ready to start playing but hes still in destructo baby mode. So, I feel like I'm dealing with a small but crucial window. Any ideas would be helpful!",3.9524501354346206,5.6390880076335925,4.907374209964708,82.45902240827384,72.23155216284988,7.615497004021997,26.163424443897235,8.259297600419973,1.7202115899203814,1589,53,301,25,31,518,205,393,0.035,0.768,0.197,0.9953,0,0,2,0,0,0,51.0,1,0,1,5,19,27,0,0,17,0,30,2,0,2,0,65,59,30,0,7,13,4,4,7,1,5,0,1,2,1,27,27,1,3,11,12,0,8,6,2,0,2,3,8,39,25,47,46,9,42,0,0,3,1,43,16,0,9,22,209,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483661337341913,0.0,0.0,0.07573813859475963,0.07880483561088593,0.0,0.0,0.06440484517281994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244439522399104,0.0,0.15587360988781732,0.1686208108733168,0.08853941187611591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058972950220647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244748266454862,0.0,0.0,0.10622333494572878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952800563137729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287981170218167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911657480839898,0.0,0.08388338230668606,0.0,0.10562471322632153,0.12510778751667098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511765174160557,0.09264282359131112,0.08928249193734747,0.0,0.14366198268537542,0.20297873873962016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384268755814728,0.07317134480156817,0.0,0.09896228414759277,0.09085276565994807,0.053824870571315325,0.1588735425318306,0.07574682457351034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348093127879625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326853060723857,0.21856116699562603,0.0,0.10691406555277873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204916725407724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238876064412998,0.09492252881011044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051755170937633,0.08547787667679535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514714829546687,0.10316502888376786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088643424881924,0.07022495368903554,0.0,0.09146980024529378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938035742664893,0.0,0.06417674880162935,0.07202987784947823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131752582835038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890569592884676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609489439096904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18201755492080984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531578707976623,0.0,0.0,0.07547019867049536,0.08621881705779477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024597729631539,0.14582204742513294,0.0,0.0,0.0670349737882954,0.0,0.07563411609674947,0.07918032237293139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424176071592963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055225131470390564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430067244597577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055861368804367616,0.07517498594013261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057383583573913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894872057565181,0.0,0.0,0.13455602083590806,0.0,0.0,0.060988996020167524
parenting,bigtonybt,2019/01/29,"How to get custody of my child? Please help. This might be the wrong place to post but I can’t find anywhere else. Please direct me to the right sub if needed. 

TDLR: Ex was pregnant and didn’t put my last name on my son. How do I go about getting custody and my last name on his birth certificate? This is in California. 

My father was never around in my life and I promised myself if I had a son I would be different. My ex and I broke up and found out she was pregnant after. 

Fast forward 9 months later my son was born on January 13th at a whopping 5 LB’s. Now the kicker is I JUST found out today. His last name isn’t my last name it’s hers, and she never told me. I’ve been texting her once a month at least to ask if I can help. I came up with rotating schedules to have joint custody with alternating holidays. I even have options for summer/school year she could help decide but she never wanted to meet up and would always make excuses. 

Today she messaged me with help for the “birth bill” and told me my son was born. I’m so excited to meet him but I’m nervous. I want custody and I know courts are biased towards the mother. Her whole family smokes and does drugs so I’m scared for my sons future there. Is there anything I can do? What are my first steps I should take? 

To add too, her family has threatened me multiple times and I saved the texts. Basically if I go near my son they’ll kick my ass is what the context says. 

I’m seeing him for the first time in an hour so wish me luck :)",0.873350759996125,3.0024096645367457,2.472669183851292,94.22832607222384,83.34504792332268,5.455281246974539,19.38900183948107,6.714681859716394,0.07236826411075592,1167,31,261,13,33,381,167,313,0.073,0.785,0.142,0.9723,1,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,2,13,8,0,2,12,0,31,3,1,3,3,54,53,23,0,12,8,10,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,5,19,0,0,5,1,1,6,6,4,0,2,13,2,51,4,34,32,2,52,0,1,1,1,41,19,1,7,28,168,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912419616565718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023693677175207,0.09761643077444554,0.10251286689290467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541640637060725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755080337518323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456640906951225,0.0,0.0,0.09596005807021486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716528980409253,0.0,0.09160290011530778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242626586964017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20674644246895232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022292220636644,0.18654541839700828,0.0,0.2404626681357358,0.0,0.0,0.11458069629415107,0.0,0.12463922394527488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939984407181879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798834395709216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602636638480213,0.3575346936332703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745275390945215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319573836882029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632690350485266,0.0,0.0,0.17505156670881966,0.0,0.0,0.08130798677720226,0.2537186925162231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677927446650267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456640906951225,0.2407370959825273,0.0,0.0,0.10501942875987172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023382453869927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936449939579887,0.0,0.0872022649828011,0.10978404602232264,0.11097697859603704,0.08738104609859712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244710969141461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788172931368835,0.0,0.2078807320162639,0.20956060258723788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935502830558918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242618316611552,0.12609813878083814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557919028521501,0.119890814201297,0.0,0.07061439305351754
parenting,angerona_81,2019/01/29,"Wth kid?? So this morning (I was at work until after his bed time) I was greeted with a notice from my son's school saying he had two overdue books and the cost of replacing them. Two thoughts on this. 

First: Ugh! Seriously? (He is official restricted from screen time until they are found or 2 weeks, whichever comes first). 

Secondly: One of the books seems very age and level appropriate for a not quite 7 year old (one of the splat the cat books) but the other just had me scratching my head. He got a book on Russian culture. I can't say I'm real surprised, sent as he had tried to get a dictionary from the library as well, but Lol, he certainly has some eclectic taste in reading materials.",3.6510303030303035,5.4384479481481485,4.492659932659934,84.71151515151516,73.22222222222223,7.575757575757577,27.828282828282827,8.296473431620573,1.892777777777778,543,21,107,9,11,175,100,135,0.053,0.843,0.104,0.8373,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,4,3,5,0,0,10,1,9,2,1,0,1,16,17,10,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,4,1,1,3,5,1,2,2,2,1,7,9,5,9,3,18,8,1,18,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,3,11,66,12,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223096215838775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3203894559414979,0.0,0.2064958337767595,0.0,0.0,0.09839546653714497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062595223655462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328251330419066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21441672830124864,0.19762229050896865,0.0,0.2552366770255912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003137953045736,0.1883825243057468,0.2143625452940046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995376297609896,0.0,0.19060159236259105,0.0,0.17144997817613186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951422109498502,0.21963529328001768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278647662282728,0.0,0.3679451352115612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539325994317746,0.0,0.0,0.15106821673446455,0.0,0.16933268935194395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710761805098312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127934937488875
parenting,Ahelplessparent,2019/01/29,"My daughter doesn't clean her room Hello, i want to say at fiest that english is nit my first language, so im sorry for any mistakes.

My 15 year old daughter is a great kid. She has good grades, doesn't talk back, she deosn't ask me for money and helps me with house chores. But she doesn't clean her room, it's a real mess, dirty clothes are everywhere, thrash is on the floor and even when I threat that she will not get her pocketmoney if she doesn't clean her room, but still she doesn't do that. What should I do? ",2.2324999999999977,3.783030583333337,2.5288888888888903,98.305,76.5,5.540740740740741,20.333333333333336,5.82211442006289,-0.305822222222222,405,9,95,2,9,123,72,108,0.131,0.7979999999999999,0.071,-0.5229,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,3,0,14,0,0,0,0,11,17,7,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,1,0,1,18,2,6,15,0,12,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,1,6,58,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17824547314777953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24503978419227074,0.0,0.0,0.20154831621756766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312281956848696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22295273974638785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694295137531756,0.0,0.0,0.219847510565874,0.0,0.2889799321516268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17568846879902034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024426075268869,0.0,0.0,0.28312645478902165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750429534233888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983413835006748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20844236279906198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934134594718613,0.0,0.0,0.20932336338367008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067608103972654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460073052732332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879184203070755
parenting,dishsoap1994,2019/01/29,"Child not wanting to do schoolwork Sorry in advance this is going to be all over the place but I really need advice.

I just got a call from my child's teacher that my 6 year old is outright telling her teacher that she doesn't want to do her schoolwork. Normally my kid gets warnings throughout the day by getting blocks taken away. (The kids all each get two warning blocks and then if they burn those out they have a card that has green for good, yellow for warning, and red for being bad.) yesterday my 6 year old comes home and says she's switched her card to yellow for not sitting right in her chair. Usually that's all it is. She fidgets. (However, I'm beginning to wonder if I should get ahold of our pcp to get that checked out. It's hard to gauge because she's just a stubborn person in general but I'd hate for her to have an underlying reason for this and me just dismiss it. She's 6 so I'm not sure if she just has the attitude of ""if I don't want to do it I don't have to"" or what's going on.) she's fallen out of multiple chairs for jacking around. You'd think she would learn not to do it but she still does anyway. She's never gotten severely hurt. Sitting at the dinner table I have to tell her at least 20 times to ""sit in the chair the right way please! You're going to mess around and fall."" To no avail.

When she gets in trouble at school she gets grounded at home. Mostly from the tv or the iPad because she's a very tech happy kid. She could watch tv all day if you let her without getting bored. We implemented a new rule: 1 hour of screen time during the week and 2 on the weekends. I still feel like that's a bit much. But it's winter and freezing cold out so I can't make her go outside and play right now.

I feel lost like I'm doing something wrong. I am going to call our pcp and see what they say just to make sure she doesn't have ADD or something along those lines. I don't think so, but I'm very ignorant on those kinds of things. I've done research and stuff and she does show some signs but she's also just stubborn. What can I do to help her? I don't like seeing her in trouble but she knows the consequences ahead of time and just does it anyways. On a few occasions after being grounded from screen time she has continued to act up so that's when I take her favorite toy and put it up until she's done behaving that way. All groundings last 1 day, and maybe that's the issue. Maybe I need to put my foot down and ground for more than that so she gets the picture that she can't be doing that? My biggest fear is she's going to mess around in a chair one of these days and really hurt herself or someone else. Especially in class where her and other kids all sit together.


Edit: here I titled it one thing and went on a tangent on something else. She's always telling me ""I don't want to do ____."" Usually my response is something like ""That's too bad sometimes in life we have to do things we don't want to."" Well now she's getting comfortable with her teacher and telling her and straight up refusing to do schoolwork. It's progressed into me getting a phone call from her teacher. How is the best way to handle this? What I'm doing clearly isn't working.

Sorry if this was rambly here's a TL;DR
6 year old messes around in chair and doesn't listen. Not sure if it's an attention disorder or she's just very stubborn. What can I do differently to make sure this doesn't happen?

Thank you!",2.3312125468164813,3.9617825800561803,3.4068202247191017,91.77319850187271,76.42977528089888,6.207340823970037,23.664419475655432,6.88968998030894,0.6499634082397003,2695,84,587,26,60,867,281,712,0.14,0.774,0.087,-0.9841,2,0,4,0,0,0,64.0,5,3,3,6,32,34,4,1,28,0,55,3,1,5,12,118,107,51,0,18,33,0,4,4,0,2,1,3,2,7,43,38,1,7,9,6,1,14,21,18,1,3,8,17,81,16,90,90,15,104,0,3,9,0,73,47,0,15,40,389,124,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917262965654471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04842498056438824,0.050385746252034264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156234531450902,0.0,0.0,0.05689243947455005,0.0,0.10112005583421202,0.07382626490928829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635476459642051,0.0,0.06610924184183653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549709290882654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521618754044938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04834741036835214,0.0,0.0,0.15620918081554275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326600076958594,0.06940008521184947,0.0,0.15897353745379733,0.12393545154392135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117012824719128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814004088937765,0.06123580403442106,0.04325976168599351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34800639762916274,0.0,0.2064852682933774,0.050789789345520836,0.048430534151524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053547667542045416,0.06446081725484283,0.05424445485575213,0.059784499752640025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04058804349329058,0.0,0.12148111987649765,0.0,0.05963345370937171,0.0,0.12964853486009914,0.0,0.0,0.06320260264944909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305763186585822,0.033278873226040395,0.04935956007146861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192052756179722,0.042771053297732654,0.11833442616868155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610180134825891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126071710502402,0.0,0.12166918523354744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451412860699421,0.08979998929527172,0.04670294759275215,0.0584833926643835,0.0,0.0,0.05933002474871597,0.0,0.0,0.1906235867222809,0.0,0.08206586195715022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05287338288467865,0.06326600076958594,0.0664700649317615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121746911415689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758483570678043,0.06225955693769347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513825495445127,0.0,0.09630988015281464,0.0,0.061283841138838724,0.09650733360014538,0.0,0.0,0.06840873969043881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130717447039663,0.18646958965294533,0.0598894155798133,0.13557040295210498,0.0,0.0,0.09671694261161032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931979769373943,0.0,0.0,0.22828556566290775,0.0,0.04552904247895512,0.0,0.21170732300927794,0.05574995141211485,0.0,0.0,0.1206880825829012,0.07760106602198573,0.0,0.0,0.14123800598946765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059152420854956915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338326561704186,0.14989007812097954,0.1785814748580837,0.14419474655524314,0.04857273478529258,0.0,0.05444528298648989,0.05613412831438014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583718573262226,0.0656681874152434,0.04408400464764513,0.0,0.0,0.04301579636557839,0.06620625020134299,0.0,0.11698429622308586
parenting,Roupert2,2019/01/29,"My whole life is an ELI5. Because I have a 5 year old. Today I tried to ELI5 evolution. I think I must have sounded like an idiot. Nothing makes you realize how little you remember from school as trying to explain science concepts like weather, evolution, and the solar system. 

Thank goodness for national geographic ""first big books"" because otherwise she'd think Pluto was a planet (only half kidding).",5.9138497652582185,8.448043788732399,6.475704225352112,69.71149061032864,68.85915492957747,8.67699530516432,35.77699530516432,9.2995712137729,4.044237558685444,323,17,45,7,6,105,58,71,0.046,0.8079999999999999,0.146,0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,1,5,1,0,5,0,6,1,0,2,1,9,11,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,8,4,5,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,28,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904603355013289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264860140118907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982616310696985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827743494634848,0.2327861037568766,0.23878116421725654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902844611708425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285997123062092,0.0,0.2499949984911775,0.0,0.0,0.18119384625468646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269881847252334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411137158282229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193413091024244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053118249948322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225825645911585,0.0,0.0,0.32350148313720856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659887871456509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534200959107411
parenting,newgirlwhodis,2019/01/29,"Help! Is this normal? 4 year old with a crush? My oldest is 4 and in pre-k, he’ll be in kindergarten next year (2020). He’s at a weird cutoff. Anyways, he used to be REALLY excited about going to school and seeing his teachers, his friends, his lunch monitor ladies and now all he talks about is this girl Josie. He only wants to go to school to see Josie, he wants to “huggie Josie” (Speech delay/autism) and I’m starting to get the feeling that he has a crush on Josie. We used to say “do you want to say ‘teacher’s name’” and he’d scream YEAH!, do you want to see ‘friends name’ and he’d say YEAHHHH! And now he just says no to all of those. But when we say “do you want to see Josie?” He gets all excited, giggly and says yes!

Is this normal? Do 4 year olds have crushes? I’m feeling like this might be a crush, but I was so not prepared for this at all and I’m mildly freaking out a little bit because he’s borderline obsessed about it. She’s all he talks about, and his speech isn’t great at all which says a lot haha. I remember being in kindergarten and having my first crush, I think I was 5. I remember his name and everything and even kissing him! I’m 28 now and I remember crushing on him so vividly. I’m not ready for this!
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parenting,Nergelt,2019/01/29,"In-laws see my baby more than I do My wife and I have a 10 month old son who is just fantastic. Always happy and smiling, sleeps through the night, he’s just a breeze. My wife is on mat leave and will be for another few months. 

I work your typical 8-5 mon-fri job, with about 3 nights away per month for work. My concern is my in-laws are spending so much time over at our house, they see my son more than I do. I get about 2 hours with him when I get home from work before he goes to bed, and weekends obviously. 

We still go out (very occasionally) but when we do, we alternate babysitting between her parents and mine. My parents come over once week otherwise to see the baby. My in laws are over every day for a couple hours during the day 5 days a week, and then the occasional babysitting on the weekends. My wife has no problem with this obviously as it’s company for her and a break from the routine. Or she’ll head out to the store with her parents or solo while they babysit. But I can’t help but feel a little jealous as they see him so often. I wanted to try to keep even visiting hours between grandparents but that’s just not possible and now I think they’re seeing him more than even I do. I come home to find things that grandma is trying to teach him which is great, but also, I wanted to teach him.

Am I being ridiculous? Like I said, it’s amazing my wife has someone to rely on to help her or to keep her company, I don’t want that to change. But is it fair for me to want her to scale it back or am I just being selfish? I’ve asked her to contact my parents more often to help out, but my parents don’t live as close and my wife feels weird asking. I want to be there all day with them, but I’m working so on one hand I’m glad someone else is there, but on the other hand I can’t help but feel left out.

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parenting,Alderm10,2019/01/29,"Father of 3 - Looking for advice of others who have connected well with their fathers or repaired their broken relationships and what worked best. I'm a lurker here, reading some of the great stories or funny kid moments occasionally. I'm a father of 3. (1 still in the womb to be born in March 2019). I really try to be intentional with my kids but I do feel that women are better equipped to handle children.

My father recently had open heart surgery which was an interesting and scary moment for our family. It's spurred me to think of ways to get closer to him and build a better relationship, repair our history etc. I'd like to do a lot of research on this so I'm wondering if anyone on here has repaired a broken relationship with their kids or father and what did they do that worked best?

I'd like to turn this into a research project. Even as far as talking to fathers who were absent or distant that had to come back around when their kids were adults. Maybe you weren't even in the kids life for 20 years.

How did you repair your relationship? What helped? What didn't? Were there any books that you read that really helped?",4.3944064171122985,6.0737484727272735,5.0116042780748655,82.18152406417114,71.0909090909091,7.72192513368984,25.668449197860962,8.313332769828598,1.6143101604278072,904,28,172,14,17,290,128,220,0.045,0.813,0.142,0.9708,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,4,5,6,12,9,0,0,10,0,18,3,2,2,0,24,28,15,0,1,6,6,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,8,16,11,0,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,10,2,17,9,31,16,5,21,0,0,1,1,35,10,0,8,11,118,33,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850064506308667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942476471665117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091948120123289,0.0,0.0,0.1170632139415565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111567176716106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27600306243066663,0.2326027918254532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327592970065765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665767929698742,0.1737095156875018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396685083846808,0.0,0.066490541024228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870351874904898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497962828524694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582857818095647,0.17628385964961402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288260418182068,0.12848888231016736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042719624936946,0.0,0.0,0.11179691679796816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210980209565346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630719228461028,0.0,0.16848501567873447,0.0,0.12984075653593227,0.5647287628124751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501636978327916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056950207245046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426013090247568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928012308972179,0.14303464731918766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437887727600566,0.0,0.0,0.11823463018315325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260654785770754,0.19146767913026014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468193044752344
parenting,mekramer79,2019/01/29,"This shit is hard. I need some advice, redditors. Our three year old was two months premature and her pediatrician says she is healthy and smart. Our daycare helped us navigate the biting phase she went through really well, but keeps asking us to speak to her Ped about how agressive she is and ""get her tested"".  Today she told my husband she is the most agressive kid she has ever had. This has been a year of issues starting when she first went into another daycare and got kicked out for biting. For the first two years she stayed with my retired in-laws. 

I am personally someone who yells(Italian and Irish) and am confrontational...I know I get frustrated and feel like I battle with her all the time. Going to the bathroom ends in a fit, getting dressed ends in a fit, trying to leave and get her ready ends in a fit. It is exhausting and, frankly, I'd rather leave her in diapers. 

We talk about feelings, have tried time out over and over. Just seems like nothing is working. I never though parenting would be easy, but I wish it was easier and she wasn't having such a negative time. ",5.060869565217395,6.51196175362319,5.126299516908214,82.8888695652174,69.14492753623188,8.418550724637681,28.29275362318841,8.841846274778883,2.1077223188405805,861,30,165,15,15,269,125,207,0.076,0.75,0.174,0.974,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,0,3,10,8,3,0,10,0,19,2,1,1,3,35,37,16,0,4,4,2,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,2,5,17,0,1,4,0,0,3,3,4,1,5,9,5,28,4,21,26,3,34,0,0,0,0,31,12,1,3,20,114,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782569734272892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643469133829688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272249930070327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320384254979112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906810397234404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219339305110692,0.08613968345022997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051241608214313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25198441618815937,0.0,0.06852625070318796,0.0,0.09643582670240547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801261930478126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081970593722013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585025837571664,0.0,0.10717369417081024,0.0,0.0,0.06626554316409007,0.0,0.0,0.2553456373884044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781491175823082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624279714338806,0.0,0.0,0.08940574739958945,0.09299582256216857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156961455115097,0.0,0.12652447122873872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388563518422675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528251398351243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724422104807857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588705839055886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976807208865644,0.0,0.0,0.1237697682961633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216384916046922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534447683644672,0.12851821896586388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691460705434528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118465534664413,0.0,0.2109269096658054,0.0,0.11429216828855886,0.11521575580981952,0.0,0.16372669190456834,0.0,0.2355709143636143,0.0,0.2900767192360321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841251220606957,0.2235507480995152,0.0,0.0,0.13865671492138149,0.0,0.0,0.08778093215423609,0.0,0.0,0.08565389493327205,0.0,0.0,0.2329414183658631
parenting,Toomanykids01,2019/01/29,"Son has gone into ""screw it"" mode since tearing his ACL and finding out that his might miss his whole senior football season. Experimenting with weed and alcohol and no longer caring about school. My 17 year old son is a high school junior. He is a very talented athlete and plays football, basketball, and runs track. He was being looked at and recruited by two colleges during his junior season. He fell in love with one of the schools. 

Earlier this month he tore his ACL in a non contact injury playing basketball. He was upset but hopeful that he would be good to go by the middle of football season. Because of further ligament damage it's looking like he'll have a longer recovery than we initially thought. The doctors are targeting November for a return to sports, which means he will miss his entire senior season of football. At first he was hopeful that staying in touch with those schools would help him get a scholarship offer but his guidance counselor and coaches told him that it's unlikely. 

Now my son has gone into what I call ""screw it"" mode because nothing else seems to matter to him anymore. He went out a couple of weekends ago and when he came home he smelled like weed. We questioned him and he admitted to smoking weed. Regardless of my feelings on it weed is illegal where we live and he's putting himself in danger of being arrested over it. He also admitted to drinking when he sleeps over his friends house and said that he has come home drunk a few times without us realizing. He hasn't driven in this instances, thank god, but it's still poor decision making. 

He has completely given up on school. He has never been an amazing student but he used to at least try and bring home Cs and Bs. He even got a couple As first semester after he found out that he was being recruited and needed to keep his grades up to play. Now he's not even trying on test or handing in homework. We have grounded him but he snuck out this weekend after we went to bed. When we found out we grounded him further but this seems futile at this point. I don't think grounding him over and over again is the answer. 

He is already in therapy for different reasons but I know the therapist has addressed this with him as well. He feels like since his chances of getting into the school that he liked on a football scholarship is unlikely, there is no point in trying anymore. I have talked to him about other schools but he doesn't want to hear it. We have talked about potentially walking on to a college team and he doesn't want to hear that either. 

Do we have to wait this out? The injury is still fresh but junior year is so important and I don't want him to screw this up. ",5.471356449375868,6.586937333980582,5.545852981969489,81.50932038834951,67.89320388349515,8.293481276005549,31.607489597780862,8.505502328695277,2.4456751733703186,2137,87,393,31,35,672,239,515,0.102,0.778,0.12,0.8965,1,0,2,0,0,1,40.0,10,0,0,4,18,25,4,1,19,0,40,10,2,3,1,88,87,34,0,9,13,3,4,4,1,5,2,3,6,0,28,41,3,2,18,10,3,13,10,8,1,4,18,10,39,17,74,60,4,85,0,3,2,4,81,43,3,7,32,254,67,24,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702689544044231,0.08080794440795863,0.0,0.0,0.08344148947462073,0.060468169777960976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499767493569424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218669927336012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720994120940597,0.08648181638961283,0.07709310608211024,0.0,0.0,0.06513442238147908,0.07927942253343148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733002366807434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900012000255227,0.0,0.07739372512825786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407254304290675,0.0,0.0,0.06316546150364502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998841412855446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396461135125773,0.0,0.0,0.07646501767656619,0.05401837199923372,0.0,0.0,0.06910946188865406,0.1286337815681065,0.0,0.16581282238959769,0.05841888092888889,0.0,0.07900997186463067,0.0,0.04297295223213031,0.06342110145089794,0.060475104530352985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704440485740895,0.0,0.050682203199735334,0.07988992142896546,0.2275398222950745,0.15020273488180913,0.0,0.08724794402113295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720884322260041,0.0,0.0,0.041555257901978525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776394515287755,0.0,0.06676819540433901,0.0,0.12699276292705905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682442274797297,0.0,0.050472666131167236,0.0,0.0,0.08236537888882772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021408204243195,0.0,0.0,0.06035405529835905,0.0,0.0,0.05606652739432202,0.0583178708851471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255328992158631,0.0,0.07934375516702814,0.0,0.051237733252173984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429585877320604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601255409527351,0.08470453863321957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774337573978618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192585033948166,0.0,0.0,0.5356750105435985,0.0,0.137671565861969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250967050125088,0.0,0.07566820870974257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059403845833933,0.12077023961771093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155069734023285,0.0,0.06961484522680311,0.08647074307286264,0.0877932192257192,0.0,0.04845014267924127,0.0,0.0600287534467729,0.04409089908624774,0.0,0.0,0.07225203655529673,0.0,0.15401001597506958,0.0,0.07386350155120854,0.0,0.09095385251248808,0.06530587418665121,0.0,0.062389140110580235,0.13379658368546868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798570855095587,0.1401891322078496,0.0,0.08441988572505013,0.0,0.07288881354043622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074274660496542,0.0,0.0,0.09738536051610974
parenting,Mcarhart169,2019/01/29,"Anxiety as a parent about school Hi,

 I am a father, I have a daughter (2 yo) and twin boys on the way. My daughter is still about a year and a half away from starting school but my wife and I have been looking into schools for her, as well as private and charter school options. The one thing that I can't get past is that every time I think of my daughter going to school I just get this extreme anxiety about the situation. I remember how kids were when I went to school and it seems they have only gotten worse. I am 22 years old, so not far out of school but so much has changed since. How does everyone else deal with this anxiety? I am just not sure how I would react if my daughter came home crying or upset because of how someone treated her or worse. 

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parenting,keyjunkrock,2019/01/29,"Single dad here. Does anyone else have a fear of dating as a single parent? I've spent so much time screwed up and in my head over woman that the thought of feeling that way while my son is with me, and not giving him all my attention scares me. It's getting bad I think. I've dated but I won't let it get serious. I've had a few girls over the years fall in love with me but I can't reciprocate it.

I'm starting to feel like when my son gets older I will be completely alone, all because I can't settle or love someone. 

I have spent so much time screwed up and sulking/paranoid over girls I've been seeing, that the thought of being that way when my son is with me breaks my heart. I never want to not be present when he's with me, and I have a bad habit of dating girls that use jealousy as a weapon.",2.2941929746554024,3.2860858092485583,3.5144508670520227,93.568154735438,75.30057803468208,6.247932414406402,23.134281903068032,6.297961479604792,0.29339875500222323,627,17,147,4,13,204,94,173,0.171,0.74,0.09,-0.8631,1,1,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,6,11,3,2,8,0,15,6,2,1,3,24,33,15,0,1,5,5,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,8,8,0,0,6,0,2,1,6,8,0,0,6,3,20,3,19,21,7,25,0,0,1,4,14,7,2,1,15,94,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101604341561935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545677009389832,0.1691864577087645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757390582656615,0.10065651464202947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731267182348077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449890988502975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379377990714007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580755864914986,0.1669807517143311,0.1179628101437128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588074565814312,0.15839955868959804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946226430408493,0.0,0.0,0.19566973529174744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884788894100147,0.0,0.08067000893882062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980571443252641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24276655704646785,0.0,0.1273518559816603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833478500455898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531539571793466,0.0,0.13158043210667833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399068844852502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687382533381464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580316975099158,0.0,0.2621760036050649,0.19256731239699051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261193280794196,0.0,0.0,0.09739292031601283,0.26213147196823705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633281204311233
parenting,denilee_1,2019/01/29,"My 2 year old has had stranger danger since 6 months and it’s especially bad with my mom I have no idea what to do anymore. My 2-year-old developed this horrible stranger danger at 6 months. He was terrified of everyone except my husband, myself, and daycare provider. He cries when we have visitors or go to someone’s house. On a rare occasion he will relax after an hour or so in a group, but he never lets my mom near him. Ever. My stepdad and brother-in-law can hold him on occasion and that’s the extent. He tells my mom to go away, has tried to hit her if she gets close, but mostly screams and says he’s scared of her. She hasn’t held him since he was a baby. I feel so bad. It hurts her feelings and she keeps saying how weird it is. 

I have talked to his doctor twice about it and he says it’s one of the more peculiar cases he’s seen but he’s not worried. Has anyone else experienced this? 
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parenting,potomac_ginger,2019/01/29,"Am I overreacting? FedEx and milk frustrations I'm a bit frustrated, so please stay with me if I digress and vent a bit...

Background: My daughter is 5 months old, and I took the week from work to care for her and our son this week while my wife travels on business.  Daughter  is breast fed, and my wife signed up for a milk shipment through ""milk stork"" while she was at a conference.  For those unfamiliar it is a service that sends you a cold pack box that you fill with bags of milk, activate the cold pack, and send it via FedEx to your destination.  You pay a rather ridiculous sum to have the device shipped to your hotel, and then shipped from your hotel back home ($250-300).My wife confirmed twice with the desk staff that the parcel was guaranteed to our home by 10:30  AM, despite the cold and weather events elsewhere in the country (not on our route, and not affecting airports at the hubs).

Frustrations: started with minor things, after paying a ridiculous sum for the service, FedEx charges $10 to pick up the package at the hotel (which has a manned FedEx desk in the lobby), and surprise, they charge  $10 to drop it off there as well.  Then the package was an hour late (not a huge deal in the scheme of things, but there's about  a $40 price difference between the ""guaranteed by 10:30"" and the end of day.

Ended with what I view as more major issue.   The box was beat to heck (image shows the damage)   [https://imgur.com/a/qt7aZmZ](https://imgur.com/a/qt7aZmZ)   While the internal compartment was intact, the damage was enough to burst one of the bags of milk, so it was leaking on arrival.  There was about 1.5 oz remaining from an 8 oz bag in there.   Meaning we lost about 1/3 of the 23 oz in the shipment.  

I called FedEx and the customer service rep was unhelpful to say the least.  ""There is  no guarantee of the delivery time when there are weather events and there are weather events currently.""   ""There is no value associated with the damage to the shipment so  nothing we can do.""  ""I apologize for the situation.""

I am livid, but admittedly this is an emotional issue for me given the content of the package and what we  paid for it.   Am I overreacting?  It's frustrating when the only response is a rote apology and not an acknowledgement of the fact that this is a big deal to a new(er) parent.

Thanks for reading.",6.2497881773399016,7.152304388505748,5.713986042692943,81.76693965517242,66.0344827586207,8.880952380952381,31.627668308702802,8.942964678507748,2.483697865353038,1839,70,348,29,28,562,209,435,0.091,0.852,0.057,-0.9502,2,0,0,0,0,0,87.0,6,6,1,3,19,14,6,0,51,0,27,7,1,2,1,39,38,30,0,2,8,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,19,24,6,0,3,6,4,5,6,10,1,2,14,5,28,4,62,24,6,47,0,4,1,1,32,16,1,1,24,237,47,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728031881640936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046338745175118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246293092612095,0.0,0.14224735409224498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997722304260848,0.28767276079746723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457660563236875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693836977860642,0.2471421263256965,0.14415883688969236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798947862482076,0.0,0.13739659953905412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912399717237108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573817776645801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229979422153656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15197542051635926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136150962428072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474683724935332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338707706372738,0.0,0.14640011033193676,0.0,0.09454064513944,0.1061093191594,0.0,0.0,0.1549176342922356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531482804479744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395552205772985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094988812404633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682347640350475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875117993964187,0.1487070544815905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844893716575534,0.0,0.0,0.1853784089334988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135375591024893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500903731694787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22382498999090228,0.0,0.12544295656163906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157037628861013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,st_thomas66,2019/01/29,"17 year old sneaking out to smoke pot So my friend and her sister are raising their 17M nephew (son of a third sister not in the picture) and last night she caught him trying to sneak back into the house after being out  smoking pot. She's taking his phone, his bedroom door and grounding him for probably a month. So that covers the ""punishment"" category, what can she do or who can she talk to for help with the ""prevention and understanding"" category?",8.981511627906977,7.368002848837211,8.574069767441861,71.88459302325583,61.20930232558139,11.390697674418604,35.45348837209303,10.125756701596842,3.3700325581395347,359,12,66,6,4,115,64,86,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.7334,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,8,7,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,11,1,12,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,1,7,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23634083478267065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374655403866554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060169003487335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35465212351162123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505393877924184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453317853417413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884364985680521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322522571426518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313860188473381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310964362919014,0.24704429089807775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20867723520754156,0.0,0.0,0.3199725549324714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19792973515580745
parenting,happyhygge,2019/01/29,"Toddler that hits My daughter just turned 2, and she's started hitting me in face when she gets upset. I'm not sure where this came from because she's never seen anyone in our family smack another person.

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Last night, I was trying to get her to sleep and she did it like 4 times. I tried popping her on the hand (not hard, obviously) and even popping her butt (also not hard). It seemed to hurt her feelings temporarily, but didn't really deter the hitting.

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What should I do?",4.790661654135338,6.281202652631581,5.229172932330831,81.7442105263158,69.84210526315789,7.533834586466164,28.308270676691734,7.957251820313856,1.845616541353384,392,14,72,5,7,125,71,95,0.073,0.885,0.042,-0.2098,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,2,0,5,4,4,0,3,15,17,6,0,1,5,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,5,14,2,7,8,0,11,0,1,1,1,11,4,1,1,7,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044838229836425,0.0,0.3534846356752779,0.3964214940378821,0.0,0.1710473485576101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405850092182122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943748780386127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18656779405883275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774035906664346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377664221602047,0.0,0.08247924399689212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044873448339207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29225004541533195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462517736445346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296597514831351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969303386391942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580952828549194,0.0,0.0,0.15307868610360986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424315959151998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449995220314788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14849988945524645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323952674351574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545839454656767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374029269457865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511758799714394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214978835472703,0.17742959215732546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964214940378821,0.0
parenting,Embededpower,2019/01/29,"Best sleeping position for newborn? So my and my gf are about to have our first baby.

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Recently my mom told me to have the baby sleep on it's stomach because if he throws up he wont be able to get it out of his mouth and will choke.

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Everything i've read and been told has said to have the baby sleep on it's back but now im worried he will choke to death if he ends up throwing up while we are asleep.

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any advice is welcomed.",2.3306250000000013,3.905527479166668,3.3483333333333327,92.43000000000002,76.29166666666666,6.0500000000000025,25.541666666666664,6.6274283507984215,0.8015041666666662,362,13,79,3,8,116,65,96,0.14300000000000002,0.8029999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.8873,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,12,6,6,0,0,8,16,8,1,2,3,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,1,7,2,14,8,1,14,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,2,6,50,10,1,0.12566133569250915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279480288907435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40846201416624656,0.4580768315550034,0.08545401738171836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662581053619676,0.0,0.07660198389180398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187381912096874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112986451630813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293630583072695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068874679459252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565286141897163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573580614137887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717303761514194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256953414345802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407540909985774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953270639990138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772562604189283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401495827048561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761518614213396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4580768315550034,0.0
parenting,brookelyndodger,2019/01/29,"Why does my child wear sweatshirts in the summer and t-shirts in the winter? So my daughter (14) lives in a sweatshirt during the warmer months, but today, when it’s ridiculously chilly......a t-shirt? I give up. Anyone else experiencing this anomaly?",3.4800000000000004,6.391074777777781,3.6533333333333333,84.90000000000002,79.0,5.377777777777778,22.333333333333336,6.742157984588678,0.7484666666666668,195,6,34,2,5,60,38,45,0.086,0.8759999999999999,0.038,-0.466,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,5,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26330182115449713,0.3858336102176328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32953308928203423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145703250836246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612338387703083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325123007670557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300569240584497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569379864974937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397898156561119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thiby,2019/01/29,"A milestone. Today my almost 4 year old had a milestone.


When he walked in on me pooping in the bathroom, instead of staying and asking me for stuff he smelled it, said “yuck!” and left.

My fortress of solitude is back!",1.722142857142856,4.336301214285714,2.295523809523811,93.56614285714286,84.47619047619048,3.3600000000000003,29.82857142857143,3.1291,0.8173371428571428,169,9,32,0,5,52,34,42,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,6,2,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,5,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32636149557053623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046909189286154,0.0,0.0,0.25061212765621954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541127022786836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419978943405227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100242648330864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34738702990711423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731000752059436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30893376209914897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20988159790263236
parenting,Gartencook,2019/01/29,"21 mo old wakes hungry 3:30-5am everyday Hi I'm new here, but really struggling with my 21 mo old who wakes every morning between 3:30-5am starving and demanding a cup of milk and sandwich before going back to sleep (closer to 5am he usually won't go back to sleep until naptime and is super cranky). He's been doing this for months and I'm exhausted! I'm a SAHM and he eats plenty during the day and has a high protein snack before bed around 7pm.  He's been breaking in two of his 2yr molars and is extremely active (2x as much as all of his friends the same age).  Is this normal? Is anyone else going through this? Giving him Motrin't affect wake up time. He naps 80 min during the day so night sleep is crucial.  Any advice would be appreciated! Dr recommendations and internet searches haven't helped.  Thank you!",2.558268633540372,4.924332447204972,3.9455551242236018,84.69733889751555,78.56521739130434,6.261024844720497,23.10597826086957,7.413659706084162,1.1029779503105588,648,21,122,9,16,213,114,161,0.092,0.779,0.13,0.8656,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,1,6,0,13,12,6,1,1,16,21,13,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,4,10,4,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,1,2,0,5,3,16,16,3,24,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,15,61,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105496625023754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051205214540166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808677400161977,0.1583867139504213,0.0,0.13761004719007286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377268126344411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26307444312234074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938418043129205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817516581890406,0.12913276287207734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024133377982966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942905693496768,0.0,0.0,0.14828837917529533,0.2635561864857697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036125245004059,0.16332353210401496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338524449412125,0.0,0.1136349733553634,0.0,0.0,0.14929549280459845,0.0,0.14506399098377326,0.15145676198711594,0.0,0.0,0.3244139464024263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902867936782417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640785305608598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160184054807358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231760660104387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013754480670688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100337753667992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170249360245394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981005417444482,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DfromD,2019/01/29,"Can I take my 2 year old along to IVF scans? We're a few months away from the first bunch of scans for IVF and struggling to find babysitters.  How long do these scans last and can I take my 2 year old with me or do the scans take a long time?

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Many thanks in advance.",1.7133898305084756,3.2180335593220377,1.612000000000002,104.52240677966104,77.81355932203391,4.7200000000000015,18.57966101694916,3.1291,-1.0710230508474576,216,4,55,0,5,63,41,59,0.05,0.892,0.058,0.1179,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,8,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,5,1,9,8,2,13,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,1,10,30,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472403027320347,0.24080599917483764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619323720833725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112962555705325,0.1685687317820373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154020396677346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507597288297913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009197493042992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15818249973722034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159055582533406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071769862339408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4470119343332799,0.0,0.0,0.18245418940547672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115558243744291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24080599917483764,0.2552381888523649
parenting,throwaway08151009,2019/01/29,"Blended family problem My husband and I have our own kids. I have one and he has 2 younger ones. Our parenting styles are different. I tried my best to be a stepmom but my husband wanted to do everything, so, I started to disengaged. I still do my part as a wife but stopped doing stuff for his kids. I take over when he's not around as a nanny now. He doesn't like that I'm miserable when his kids are around but I can't handle the whining and how they manipulate him anymore. My blood pressure would Spike to 150/100 when I hear them whine. It has gotten so bad that I stopped eating supper with them. My blood pressure went to 211/95 last night. He just ignores them when they whine. It sounds like nails on a chalkboard to me. It's hard to implement rules when he doesn't go with it. I didn't want to give up but I have to think of my own sanity. ",1.382939682539682,3.5665650114285725,2.5639523809523834,93.99665873015877,81.74285714285716,5.946031746031745,22.865079365079364,7.1686216300943375,0.703526984126984,667,23,147,9,18,213,102,175,0.222,0.753,0.025,-0.9867,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,5,1,13,12,0,3,5,0,16,4,2,2,0,23,27,17,0,4,6,4,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,3,7,7,2,3,1,0,0,2,5,9,0,2,3,3,29,3,20,22,4,19,0,4,0,0,24,5,0,0,14,102,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18046934981394114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239909527045747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194072235370903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19097052809206108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012414061798671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620487280658304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354653341370531,0.0,0.17154892965348195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456608083877992,0.10342004053522467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630129965113733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509796856987195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483331303656746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778066481772847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077030929668582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466206380817776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206063626348192,0.1970601520979818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741245801656293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288021621394828,0.0,0.14532470342325934,0.30427689142516073,0.0,0.0,0.20831673891216884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682183114429547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660161705339166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354842808203548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21466600717400133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686917582159219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292691369380109,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Noble_House_Of_Black,2019/01/29,"What’s your best response to a smart mouth? My son (4) has recently started being a smart mouth all the time. 

“You’re not my best friend anymore!”

“I’ll hit you right in the head!” (He hasn’t, thankfully. He just says that.)

“I’m NOT going to bed!”

“You’re ugly!” (We use “ugly” for being bad. As in  “Stop being ugly to your sister.”

Help please. It feels like whatever my response is, it makes it worse. ",-0.6687037037037022,1.52053043209877,1.4647222222222211,96.58375000000002,96.53086419753086,4.181481481481482,15.391975308641975,5.985473137389443,-0.5733135802469138,299,7,66,3,12,99,56,81,0.204,0.555,0.242,0.6046,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,3,0,2,1,8,0,0,4,0,6,3,3,2,1,9,14,1,0,0,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,7,7,7,10,3,8,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,5,35,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359103621939417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986176094690162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992751012514173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027791036004253,0.1699395907446558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378341200206816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519115154972575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441307375385019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594441400404049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621483319810152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878494498582602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611178423327189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348751361493421,0.0,0.0,0.2031459145735085,0.0,0.18916957676093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16837077738139508,0.0,0.0,0.1988760743510232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900545813863653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387081666657253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544961134072906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424172912611233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheSushiBoy,2019/01/29,"Psychosomatic issues and book recommendations Hi everyone,

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Long story short.  I live abroad in Japan, and my 11 year old son hasn't eaten in almost a month, and has been hospitalized with an IV.  Physically, he's fine--but whenever something gets in his mouth other than liquid, his throat spasms shut.  The doctors diagnosed him with Psychosomatic disorder with a 'give it time he'll eat when he's hungry enough' solution.  

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I'm asking the community for some advice for books or articles on these types of mental disorders in children.  I've read 'The Body Keeps the Score' which is great, but focused mainly on experiences with young adults from abusive families.

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Any ideas?",7.518751147842058,9.745554685950411,7.207052341597798,67.33764921946742,64.12396694214877,10.336455463728193,32.452708907254355,10.504223727775694,3.8858863177226812,571,23,87,15,9,180,96,121,0.063,0.8740000000000001,0.063,-0.2617,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,4,8,3,0,0,13,11,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,7,2,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,15,8,3,15,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,3,7,44,9,5,0.0,0.14420667533103762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893379100892572,0.0,0.0,0.12187517629472545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956188265705146,0.4436736154005512,0.08276710418543848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378259985881548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351925857216359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235332829082224,0.0,0.0,0.2789808490343075,0.12457553882212125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453991140644224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575916352888886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629930423888232,0.0,0.11905592213815605,0.11473753709499765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358855192100872,0.11675550652648055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418591636301871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739599216100695,0.0,0.12703381915524442,0.0,0.10818161090181118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747232937672968,0.10770968993027466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265524700091494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714791407744228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12771437265388924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217431285140004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369845202937767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097019172702439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4436736154005512,0.07837737322745401
parenting,Heartfly,2019/01/29,"Barely Surviving My little one is a year old now and I love her more than anything. My life revolves around her and I'm quite alright with that. But I'm incredibly tired. I have been doing this on my own pretty much since a few months into pregnancy and I'm broken.

This part is a long rant...I had hypermesis and barely ate anything my whole pregnancy. I lost my job from being so sick (I was a contract employee so apparently it was legal to let me go)  I was fired on my birthday. I moved into my grandparents while they were away in Florida for the winter and thank goodness my mom came to help after my little one was born because I ended up with bad gallstones and an emergency removal a little over a month after she was born. Problem is my mom triggers severe anxiety in me and depression. I couldn't find my own place so I moved in with my mom and hour away from everyone else. The constant bickering of my parents drove me insane, I constantly took my little one for walks or managed to convince them to take the car for a bit just to escape and not have my little one around it. 

No where seemed to be willing to rent to me. I have good credit, I had promise of returned employment, I had a cosigner. But still I was constantly refused. 

I ended up with a kidney stone, when my daughter was about 6 months. My parents have never been good about taking me to the doctor and didnt help a lot with my little one other than them cooking, doing dishes and laundry. Which did take weight off me. But I drove myself to the hospital when my gallbladder was bad. It then took an hour to get my mother to leave with me to go to the hospital with my kidney stone, after I had picked her up in the car from down the street. 

I dont like leaving my little one alone with them. They dont feed her enough, have spilled beer on her and I'm afraid they wont take her to the doctors if needed. But them and my grandparents are in florida right now anyways.

I live with my aunt now, which has been a huge help to my mental health, but she wont touch my little one much as she smokes medical marijuana for a lot of pain. And I completely understand.
But Im so tired.

I went back to a job while I was pregnant that caused a nervous breakdown years ago. They gave me a 3 month contract after my maternity leave. I was disappointed and I quit 2 weeks ago. they immediately let me go so I started my new job a week early. 

My little one has been sick for 5 weeks now. Maybe more. She got hand foot and mouth from the daycare and then a cold requiring antibiotics and now tonight shes shot up a fever again with a cold ontop of a cold. I took her to the doctor saturday to confirm. For the last 5 weeks she has been waking up every hour and a half. Week before it was waking up to puke atleast once a night in the bed.

I have been making sure she is getting all fluids, she doesnt eat sugary foods or drinks, I make sure she eats a ton of veggies and fruits. She had pedialyte while puking and we've spent so much time going to doctors.

I'm tired of the stress, I'm tired of crying so much, I need more than an hour of sleep at a time. Ontop of everything, I'm trying to finalize my divorce so I can qualify for subsidized living. And my girls father doesn't really see her. He has seen her 3x now, each time at my request. He gives me money if I ask, but I rarely do. 

And now with my little ones fever, I dont want to take off time at work. I dont have a babysitter. I've only been there a week . Thankfully we got hit with a bunch of snow tonight. So I know I won't be the only one missing at work. 

Sorry for the rant. But I felt maybe this was the only place others could relate to the mess my life is. My daughter is happy and thats what matters most to me. I shielded her from the yelling as much as I could and am always there to make her smile. She giggles so excitedly when I pick her up from daycare. It melts my heart. I'm getting there, things are slowly making steps to getting better. Tonight just broke me. 



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parenting,DunkelDunkel,2019/01/29,"3rd grade teacher telling weird stories to class/ sharing medical info on other students My daughter's teacher often tells quirky stories to the class. I just thought she was a bit odd until my daughter started telling me about kids in other classes with mental problems. Then I wondered why the hell her teacher is discussing other children's mental problems with 8 year olds...

Then, the other day, my daughter asked my wife what does ""gay"" mean. Wife tells her to ask me. Long story short, the teacher told the class a long convoluted story about a girl parking in front of her house that ended with teacher's daughter fighting the girl and it all happened bc the girl is gay. WTF? 

I don't want to ask the teacher or report her to admin bc I'm pretty sure she would take it out on my daughter. 

To top it all off, I corresponded via e-mail with the teacher a few times and she makes simple (their, there) grammar mistakes often. 

This is a charter school, so this teacher may not even be certified. 

Thanks for letting me vent.",4.847800687285222,6.643264123711344,4.781835051546395,83.81488316151206,70.1340206185567,5.998075601374572,32.52096219931272,6.079149491110277,1.8334327147766327,816,38,142,4,15,252,117,194,0.123,0.813,0.064,-0.8946,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,0,0,1,1,8,9,2,0,14,0,9,3,0,1,3,26,23,7,0,5,3,7,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,11,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,3,0,20,3,21,16,4,20,1,0,0,2,31,8,1,5,11,90,31,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39100004178885217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220406974254808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991054952708967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200220275669485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12347949646497895,0.0,0.0,0.0920816863936517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232834123951866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086513267161714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256034455907074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24675415113885898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305998238209286,0.0,0.0,0.15186280606555014,0.0,0.1404450206289245,0.2809932084664825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462916272103411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183424178161275,0.0,0.26680089660842626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109449406639754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867800488371596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313961224986611,0.0,0.1048220394564097,0.0,0.4874162107834141,0.12835375594193124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067920849788668,0.08129347242156396,0.0,0.0,0.13321612992332624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223003772772289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579952463850194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118862505077493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903576395145447,0.0,0.0,0.08977809801399281
parenting,tiredmama18,2019/01/29,"Baby Has the Flu Hello parents, I’m looking for some advice, my son who will be 1 next week seems to have the flu. It’s 4am and he’s thrown up five times in the last 45 or so minutes. I’ll be calling his pediatrician in the morning but I’m wondering if anyone can offer any advice to keep him from getting dehydrated? From what I’ve been able to find, Pedialyte seems to be the most recommended. Can anyone offer any other advice? ",2.1786797752808984,4.068083089887644,4.52627808988764,82.42627106741574,77.65168539325842,6.6971910112359545,23.484550561797754,7.6454224807358475,1.176785393258427,341,11,68,5,8,119,65,89,0.047,0.922,0.031,0.1026,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,9,2,0,0,0,11,17,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,10,12,2,7,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,7,4,39,7,0,0.19784064225058395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5799827576571712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26907684195019305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276669554171326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201741564771356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808227628315981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336357000455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584985306073575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126652887299806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613631205149715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040576748664708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21967862035777352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36021338066011643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536246948861564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586958296498407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454973720398288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LiitleLaureates,2019/01/29,"What should parents keep in mind while selecting kindergarten for their kids? Parents must be very careful before selecting kindergarten for their kids. Kids below age of 15 years go through mental development stage. Brain of an individual develops tills they reach 15 years. So, parents must make sure that the kindergarten they are selecting must include following skills development training for their students: 1. **Good Oral and Written Communication Skills** 2. **Accessing and Analysing Information Skills** 3. **Curiosity and Imagination Skills** 4. **Physical Development Skills** 5. **Critical Thinking and Problem Solving Skills** 6. **Social Development Skillings** 7. **Entrepreneurship Skills**                                                                                                                                                                                  [Little Laureates](http://www.littlelaureates.org/) focuses on providing all above-mentioned skills to its students. It prepares its students to qualify for future competitions. ",8.147871900826447,9.45441394214876,5.776526859504132,59.03569938016531,128.58677685950414,8.813305785123967,39.388636363636365,7.461004344511776,6.0254080991735535,721,44,74,23,40,207,85,121,0.022,0.917,0.061,0.4576,3,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,0,0,5,9,1,4,0,0,2,0,6,1,1,1,5,17,13,7,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,13,7,1,13,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,6,38,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018114417409966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326073221122444,0.0,0.0,0.2039083866351596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366185387926475,0.16774644495065066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776488048801034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044768310534214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349831707415954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154807404499464,0.0,0.2019380915019932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6662128460269392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19136835070987224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038698716735813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18849306409300096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814881807259193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501694574290152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575806418225425
parenting,WindyCityGSH,2019/01/29,"5 yo becomes Satan incarnate at bedtime Hey everybody,

My wife and I have been married for a little over a year and I've been the step-parent and main father figure of our 5 year old son for over 3 years. This kid calls me Dad, we love each other. Its awesome. 

Our lives have changed dramatically over the past few months. We moved to a new place and recently welcomed a new baby girl. I wonder if that's to blame for what's happening to us with his regard to his behavior.

Hes always been a creature of habit but lately the bedtime demands and whining are reaching new heights. He will literally refuse to go to sleep until his demands are met (50 drinks of water, bathroom trips, blankets, being tucked in, medicine he is convinced he needs) and its exhausting. The screaming and crying are REALLY bad, and we live in an apartment complex and I'm concerned about neighbors and noise. Obviously the baby feeds off of this as well. Worse yet, he will wake up in the middle of the night and we have to repeat this whole process again.

I will say that he tends to do this more to my wife than me, but when I work nights there isnt a lot I can do to help her. I know shes at her end and feeling like a failure and I'm looking for any help I can get.",3.867976190476192,4.9285733373015885,4.6668253968253985,86.53928571428574,71.57936507936508,7.187301587301588,27.88888888888889,7.3871296695380915,1.4138555555555556,979,35,202,10,18,316,155,252,0.122,0.7759999999999999,0.102,-0.8477,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,15,0,21,7,2,0,1,31,34,19,0,2,3,5,1,1,1,3,1,2,1,2,10,19,3,1,5,1,0,3,1,4,1,0,4,4,25,5,34,26,6,37,1,1,1,1,36,15,0,3,20,130,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692751199949715,0.0,0.0,0.0955613732126152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733195815738542,0.0,0.15519809833526926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349106754963767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865612387845026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435939418896386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766035967462115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446285960995708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710533309878738,0.10039061996487096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341817020151775,0.0,0.07986322350413567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426521397040555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18838101231481666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722850484348001,0.0,0.15851758168348687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865309668423085,0.14084231050579848,0.2481711418727067,0.0,0.11800505762632192,0.0,0.0,0.11946877270520825,0.12682870757028614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121651912960709,0.14935513944875276,0.0,0.1041970210518979,0.0,0.4071578634558727,0.0,0.26374515632850537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474566610721234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414638772141516,0.0,0.0,0.14681803117776168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900234935759964,0.0,0.13875083745373468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175059917648543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062582974751742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903348442362612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634826222231033,0.0,0.0,0.1568904124956147,0.0,0.0,0.15239265751018016,0.10230339661219767,0.0,0.1432063126271486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714792122350543
parenting,ytf0rd,2019/01/29,"i dont think my 27 year old son is making any progress so ever since he was little he liked computers and video games

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but he never stopped and hes gotten worse

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he dropped out of school at 15

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he has many body pillows and got sex things we make him keep locked away from our other kids.

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he never even asked a girl out once and is very sexist

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its not that there is anything wrong with the things hes doing hes not doing anything else and its ruining his life i dont know what to do",15.322777777777777,6.787844981481483,12.653703703703707,68.46166666666669,57.51851851851853,15.140740740740744,48.03703703703704,7.793537801064563,4.399292592592592,430,13,88,2,3,130,77,108,0.098,0.851,0.051,-0.7987,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,13,3,1,2,3,21,21,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,7,9,0,2,2,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,10,1,8,18,0,12,0,1,0,1,18,5,0,0,7,51,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652420247625171,0.5217537622059234,0.05839975129914635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133998811925286,0.0,0.08028401620814668,0.0,0.08068488521352503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539071665408216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20129594769959167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717397624363935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05672138219535239,0.07768125690460863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868420698664937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633200694870151,0.0,0.0,0.047196114124789114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065792849914375,0.041955485124255766,0.08607197269586707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146480051466859,0.08706646467298068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246828578479705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011415433362266,0.09145690144281024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691277318039826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103888490274944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717975661917574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11410659810896695,0.05502693470572624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070858060458968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751666872017319,0.0,0.09389373609656636,0.5217537622059234,0.05530239518478855
parenting,cagecreature,2019/01/29,"Medicine time? In your experience, how did you get a toddler to take their medicine without a fuss? 

My baby cousin is 3 years old with a cold. We decided to give her child medicine that does not taste bad at all. I figured it was her mom's way of teaching her that medicine is gross but it's good for you. Therefore, the baby doesn't want to take it because ""it's medicine and medicine is gross"". 

Trying to feed her medicine ended up in her stomping and kicking her feet, cry-yelling ""I don't want it"". Although I disagree with it, my aunt teaches the baby through extrinsic motivation. ""If you finish your medicine I'll give you chocolate"". If she doesn't comply my aunt will offer giving 2 snacks if she finishes her medicine. Soon enough it turns to spanking as discipline which I think is unnecessary.

I'd like to find out a way to get my baby cousin to eat/drink her medicine without a fuss (also so I can teach my future children a better way fuss-free). Anyone have ideas or advice? ",4.038566493955096,5.662794860103631,4.101575129533678,88.57326079447323,71.90155440414506,6.597443868739205,30.483246977547488,7.03164865440522,1.6198817962003451,780,34,156,7,15,240,113,193,0.043,0.852,0.104,0.926,0,0,1,0,1,0,28.0,1,6,1,2,4,6,0,0,8,0,12,4,1,3,1,26,23,12,0,5,8,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,10,6,3,1,6,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,2,28,3,21,20,2,16,0,0,0,0,29,5,0,4,9,94,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399975343230798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602845454334605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019390463447848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158502297360292,0.09606828916383277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937973840987428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379122166912113,0.0,0.0,0.15438284568678087,0.0,0.1612587599064612,0.0,0.0,0.1395821607201707,0.1628374914396594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415789321435244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403873489360705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646734915936202,0.4535376968415858,0.0,0.13218298868054398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779052760017921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699282826496384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457305172018992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536916658937406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23698325920158494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098034431488442,0.0,0.0,0.09189475870810468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699648188904584,0.17141781979863094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590691848815635,0.3752741012970263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30383140610111103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148584392465937
parenting,businessbitchPI,2019/01/29,"Best letter I’ve ever read! Dear Mom Who Thinks I Need to Vaccinate My Kids Against Measles

Yeah, I’m totally going there. I know this vaccination subject is pretty touchy with the undertones of intolerance, discrimination, and bigotry and all, but after seeing a letter written to a “mom who decided not to vaccinate her kids against measles,” I just couldn’t sit by while parents are thrown under the bus and innocent kids get sick and die.

To be perfectly frank, I was a bit offended that this letter wasn’t written to dads too but for the sake of prioritizing stupid, there are more important things to address…like the fact that kids in this country do not “get sick and die” from measles. Hello? When was the last time a kid died from measles in America? Here’s a clue…it wasn’t yesterday. Disney ain’t deadly and neither are the measles.

So here goes.

Dear Mom who thinks I should vaccinate my kid against the measles,
I get it. You’re like a mama bear. A mama bear that spends a little too much time watching CNN and reading anti-vaxxer hate articles on TIME. Ain’t nobody subjecting my kiddo to a bullshit rash!

I totally agree. We should all protect our children from anything that’s going to hurt them. So I hope you don’t mind that I demand a little something more from the scientific community before I shoot my kid up with a harmful vaccine that doesn’t work. You know…like studies that aren’t done by the makers of the vaccines or the “Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation” and studies that aren’t manipulated by the CDC. My kid is worth a proper safety study and so is yours. At least I think so.

But go ahead … walk down the street and tackle my kid to the ground and shove a big ole shot in his leg with the MMR vaccine. I’ll shove a big ole lawsuit in your face. You wouldn’t want me to tackle your child to the ground because he’s not in quarantine for six weeks after receiving a live vaccine, would you? You know … to protect MY baby bear.

Oh wait, you didn’t know live vaccines shed? They do and here’s the thing: some kids are immunocompromised. They can’t receive the MMR vaccine and they can’t be around recently vaccinated children either. (Read that sentence again … very slowly.)

My child has cancer so when your super healthy vaccinated kid (try not to laugh) sheds and infects my kid with vaccine strain measles, guess what happens to my kid?

HE DIES.

As in gone forever. (FYI, I’m using the same warped creative license you used to make your point. None of my kids actually have cancer.)

So thank God I didn’t risk my perfectly healthy child’s life by giving him a shot that has NEVER been proven safe or effective, could put a cancer patient at risk, and could put him in the immunocompromised category everyone is blubbering on about. Thank God I put my child first. We’d have a problem if I didn’t.

Since you brought up MMR and autism in your letter as if this was the only reason one would choose not to vaccinate, I felt it necessary to bring a few things to your attention. Did you know the MMR vaccine can cause brain encephalitis and brain encephalitis causes autism? Of course you didn’t. You admitted that you didn’t do your research and what do all of those parents with vaccine-injured children know? They were just parents who (like you) followed the CDC’s vaccination schedule only to end up with neurologically damaged children for life.

Actually, they’re really space aliens whose kids get paid a bajillon dollars to “pretend” to be autistic. It’s all a huge elaborate fraud. Except that it’s not. The only elaborate fraud is the fact that the CDC manipulated the studies that show vaccines don’t cause autism. Dr. Thompson, a senior research scientist at the CDC admitted it and no major media outlet picked it up. They’re too busy reporting on a rash.

But the CDC says there is no “causal connection” between autism and the MMR vaccine. How convenient. I guess we should all pack up, go home, and vaccinate our kids…said no parent with a functioning brain ever.

The CDC says there’s a relationship between mitochondrial disease and autism. (I’m one of those stupid parents who got their children genetically tested for this mutation when I was deciding whether or not to vaccinate.) Page 11 of the insert for the Tripedia vaccine we had as kids lists autism as an adverse reaction. Brain encephalopathy, encephalitis, and neurological damage are listed as possible adverse reactions on every single vaccine package insert (I hope you haven’t left reading the package inserts up to the “professionals” too.)

Children have been awarded money for suffering autism post-vaccine. Scientists at the CDC have admitted to manipulating autism studies so that parents won’t question the safety of the MMR vaccine. Oh, and then there are thousands of alien parents whose children just woke up one day with autism.

While we’re talking about the CDC, let’s just see what the experts have to say about measles, shall we?

Measles is an illness characterized by a generalized rash lasting ≥3 days, a temperature of ≥101°F [≥38.3°C], and cough, coryza, and/or conjunctivitis.”

You mean it’s not a death sentence? No. It’s a rash. Do you want to vaccinate your kid and subject them to neurological damage or death…for a RASH? I guess it’s your choice. The CDC’s clinical definition is based off of how measles presents in the office setting. Go ahead. Ask a doctor who has actually seen measles (in America). I dare you.

Maybe you’re thinking I’m being all melodramatic about this, but here’s another little thing being used to manipulate parents like you:

The CDC says measles can be dangerous (but of course, the MMR vaccine is perfectly safe). They just leave out the “in third-world countries” part. Then they make some blanket statement about children having to be treated in hospitals but if you dig a little further my friends, you’ll find out these hospitalizations were for diarrhea and dehydration. Gasp!

It’s true; measles could cause pneumonia, lifelong brain damage, deafness, and death. (So could countless other things we care nothing about and don’t vaccinate for.) But it doesn’t…at least according to the CDC’s MMWR data that everyone fails to read. Hey, do you know what’s more likely to cause brain damage, deafness, pneumonia, and death? The MMR vaccine.

And guess what, I already knew this, but there is a handful of kids who can’t be vaccinated for all sorts of reasons, like kids who are less than one and are no longer protected against measles because we vaccinate their mommies with junk MMR vaccines, kids who are allergic to the shots, and kids with immune system problems (oh wait, these kids can be vaccinated with MMR according to the CDC).

Yes, there are a few kiddos out there whose parents would LOVE to get them vaccinated but can’t. I’m sorry. (Actually, I’m not because I think your kid is better off without vaccines.) There are also a lot of parents who wish they could take back their decision to vaccinate…but they can’t.

So no, I will not vaccinate my kiddos. I will not avoid public places. I will also not put up with the intolerant sewage and bigotry coming out of your mouth or anyone else’s who thinks they have the right to weigh-in on my parenting. You want to vaccinate your kiddo and put every single child at risk? You go right ahead.

We can still be friends but don’t take it personal when I avoid your recently vaccinated child for 3-6 weeks until the risk of viral shedding has passed and don’t be mad when I call your bluff when you say you’ll assault my unvaccinated child on the street when your temporary junk immunity to measles has long worn off. Whoa, you didn’t know you were just as much of a risk to that immunocompromised kid as my child is? Better get your booster.

And oh, by the way, if this Disney measles outbreak taught you anything, it’s that the vaccinated can get measles and it is no more deadly than your seasonal sinus infection.

Signed,
Lazarus T. Jones
A Dad who didn’t vaccinate his children because he didn’t use “not being a scientist” as an excuse to opt out of making an informed decision",6.142908299196852,7.475226057142859,6.087547011579528,77.44284585362708,66.5016611295681,9.193497403477084,33.14985646550333,9.4475651724863,3.0764201206334865,6476,279,1158,126,103,2038,522,1505,0.131,0.752,0.117,-0.9848,15,3,1,1,0,0,179.0,10,46,15,15,55,56,7,8,97,2,119,39,15,23,18,218,202,93,9,26,43,16,2,5,2,14,23,7,2,42,70,65,0,9,32,7,6,20,53,28,0,7,34,13,122,28,165,134,34,126,0,8,4,1,180,60,0,20,47,741,192,16,0.0,0.0,0.15685610481047074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04434431329633005,0.06427065197356405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0421366843208638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028097758240520274,0.041173507473011316,0.0661364189748925,0.035772497358051485,0.0375668443416671,0.0,0.0,0.030899203766558362,0.0,0.09798377042576213,0.0,0.03419383254976348,0.0,0.04217088566586072,0.07107939783889372,0.04387078760933448,0.0,0.0,0.26915344103075045,0.04103260673004285,0.0,0.040970515634576564,0.20640144295064408,0.0,0.03461516867263386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041924794764742,0.0,0.0,0.05183102697337199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681960699352796,0.0,0.0,0.04113027722619182,0.0,0.04112243402335844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033568780136371615,0.0,0.03559131350880244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269789988668658,0.06771391862271177,0.07679553578152454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038583176665123335,0.0,0.036727671677809375,0.03418069803321741,0.0,0.0,0.062092495583257315,0.0,0.1469622652694582,0.038548389166315665,0.13702579393404152,0.0,0.03213901140556637,0.0,0.17706990389658886,0.0,0.03553479489800585,0.0,0.0,0.03967362229404019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040308073880172914,0.07982404407570436,0.0,0.0,0.043018065086244534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667367992759636,0.06551104553781795,0.0,0.04254931301471821,0.043660299469007416,0.04109111279510149,0.056766640874253524,0.09815996093516992,0.16110067996910946,0.07096684859972774,0.035561792055381326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03416320786126917,0.036267849760131636,0.0,0.0804698861650463,0.0,0.040370474953804525,0.043772422918313535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040574631929692184,0.1411899052534237,0.0,0.0,0.05908008705966403,0.029796108289357543,0.030992566810452926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038557866586751886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891953680281634,0.09168578664968252,0.0,0.0,0.4908183310811016,0.043515621108902315,0.0,0.0,0.0350873325135129,0.041983982954982735,0.0,0.037987099958945135,0.04530169813141773,0.03848539849338623,0.04088182338000049,0.0,0.07690179039815946,0.0,0.2019813245472009,0.045015550686149285,0.0,0.2009755957513695,0.0,0.025743056145920533,0.08263219250341775,0.07935418760103259,0.043142840298683885,0.0,0.06863425086084697,0.038224418830982515,0.1597806214058986,0.0,0.0,0.06404328074498986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03324082248735821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030935794812303886,0.0,0.044982972034780085,0.0,0.0,0.032091189743859536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042710208140906,0.03229857375617741,0.0,0.07399250723470897,0.0,0.0,0.13348313313085566,0.1544906486987131,0.0,0.0,0.07029526875327853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027282464403788426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388251414617614,0.0,0.03315621033099705,0.07110512602644349,0.0318963830384533,0.06446675448096187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620989827845265,0.03873617793481484,0.0,0.029254608750358443,0.0,0.0,0.08563720352665202,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayangry123456,2019/01/29,When did your kid take over clipping their nails? Just curious- when did your kids start clipping their own nails? What age is a good age to start having them do it? My kids have no interest in clipping their nails & would happily grow talons if I let them. Ugh.,2.1217647058823523,4.814199509803924,1.83872549019608,97.01926470588238,83.31372549019608,5.752941176470588,20.264705882352946,7.1686216300943375,0.3891411764705888,209,6,44,3,6,61,38,51,0.083,0.713,0.205,0.8095,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,5,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,11,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,9,2,3,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,6,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424467864774661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425043985680871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175652887097938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5780641134954879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30702819430005457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900799482134306,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DancingBearsGalore,2019/01/29,"My ex and father of our son is moving out at the end of the week. I feel so scared being a parent on my own. There. I said it.

That being said, for the full 2 years of my son's life I have been the primary parent with his dad spending time with him on weekends/holidays. It's not really a big change, right? So why am I feeling like the end of the world is coming? His father gets him in the mornings and I pick him up from daycare. We will live a block away from each other. We decided on every other weekend and 50/50 (minus bedtime, he's with me every night besides his dad's weekend) during the week. His dad and I work exactly opposite shifts. 

My son's father is a wonderful person. He and I just didn't have the same goals and got pregnant too early. He really didn't want to be a father and I pushed him, hoping he would change his mind. Dumb, I know. The fear of raising our son by myself makes me sick to my stomach. I love my boy. He is the absolute most perfect thing to ever have happened in my life. I know without a doubt his father loves him too and we are in the best situation possible for two parents splitting up. 

Tl;dr: why am I so scared to be a single mom?",1.156463414634146,3.1111040975609785,3.277418699186992,89.82149390243902,81.1951219512195,5.888617886178862,20.819105691056908,6.996647511020387,0.496076422764228,912,26,194,11,24,310,132,246,0.086,0.7979999999999999,0.117,0.8327,3,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,5,0,0,4,9,11,1,4,19,0,19,6,1,2,3,39,35,11,0,3,3,17,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,2,6,17,0,1,6,2,1,3,4,5,0,1,6,4,38,6,29,23,7,29,0,0,0,2,44,15,1,4,12,136,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421458257761492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757526175052708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571998952687753,0.10471772490007004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21534151181493172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996275582452078,0.20484798353285966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367947375588157,0.12293411675069227,0.08684626057532792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351284156344421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722685989940116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749977594220544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074175294340175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336181977524749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173030525403005,0.05939065548183916,0.0,0.10734436973242907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194348234911869,0.0,0.08114576860667069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274627879234327,0.1423757871086518,0.0,0.12920465441263002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408078055500145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049515726588711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061461138143214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704658808097198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557556629043255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381608520155296,0.23127283957292435,0.0,0.2434161057394648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366444685043268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076257057240438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088569257694545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875161478049345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170235200104215,0.0,0.19502467039182145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21938751450074095,0.0,0.0,0.11718459219483722,0.13183236091705536,0.08850097193376229,0.0,0.0,0.08635648728573134,0.0,0.0,0.07828405487418517
parenting,onetundred,2019/01/30,"Husband actively encouraging me to resent my child. What do I do? Hi guys! I have been lurking around this subreddit and decided to sign up and make an account so I could post for advice. I’m a 38 year old mom warrior to my beautiful 6 year old daughter Haillie. 

My husband and I constantly argue over how we parent our child. We are very much divided in our methods. Last week I caught my daughter listening to Taylor Swift on her phone when I came back from work early. This was NOT during the allotted “Music hour” time I give her every day to listen to music.

Needless to say I punished her by sending her to her room. We are a household that does not believe in having gadgets in bedrooms. I let her leave when I feel it is certain to do so as a matter of principle and value. 

My husband however was furious with me during the punishment and wouldn’t talk to me. He made me feel so cruel about keeping her in there that I unlocked her door after the second day. I am a proud mom and don’t enjoy the idea of my husband shaming me in front of our daughter. How do I let him know that what he did was not okay?",3.8760499999999993,4.9090335244444425,5.313041666666667,82.01756250000003,71.53333333333333,7.936111111111113,30.0625,8.278499904357787,2.1987833333333326,873,36,170,13,16,294,133,225,0.1,0.797,0.104,0.2496,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,6,0,0,2,11,12,6,1,9,1,20,0,0,4,1,31,32,14,0,2,3,10,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,3,8,12,0,1,5,0,1,4,5,7,0,1,8,5,39,5,29,20,2,31,0,0,0,0,40,10,0,1,16,126,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234653412081825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387866567384498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987972614038199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564920910601964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831141337820816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847567657698145,0.0,0.12447579980959494,0.0,0.0,0.2010889784113897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643170042516098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135493849146115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765840664669262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495562918489245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436840693858692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353297703699745,0.0,0.0,0.17599542594458825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385736831953922,0.0,0.0,0.08568017045821111,0.1270816920975703,0.0,0.16507868714682908,0.0,0.3188426074597833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475191173683111,0.10406641315521446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651832434138729,0.0,0.0,0.1146065884184322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271877885364713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311174853097475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493119067612948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398026357824594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530886575161554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090908249403155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863624073817193,0.0,0.0,0.12505592264971407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349918631665812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20079274465909047
parenting,yeahbruzzycuzcuz,2019/01/30,"help Im 16 and ive broke my trust with parents, due to sneaking out and using drugs on multiple occasions. I love to rebel and going out with mates late at night truly is what I look forward to. Naturally my parents won't let me out of the house at all and there is a big party on Friday. Should I sneak out? Should I just not come home from school and go party? Is this dumb and should I just stop being a little shit and enjoying myself.",1.2924154589371994,3.2903179999999987,3.018405797101451,91.62900966183577,80.95652173913044,5.828019323671497,18.917874396135264,6.937597516519254,0.13752512077294687,344,8,75,4,9,114,63,92,0.126,0.665,0.209,0.8686,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,3,0,3,0,10,3,1,1,1,23,16,7,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,2,14,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,1,10,3,15,10,1,18,0,1,1,1,5,11,2,0,5,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573283246502031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500444107173042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24507742129688745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452187970168046,0.0,0.2162789615089334,0.0,0.0,0.2487902276139995,0.0,0.0,0.2329007004221237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24322259010241365,0.0,0.0,0.22048047319230704,0.0,0.0,0.2161024108078304,0.0,0.0,0.18106190781011955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19460053848272948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202339637559168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.478828855846328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21821342332473428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213252245473121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802634081479414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622173262320946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mypatronusisakelpie,2019/01/30,"How do you explain the boundaries of hugging to a ten-year-old? I am a nanny for a ten-year old that is constantly wanting hugs for every reason. Full, squish your guts out hugs and hang-off-you while you're trying to walk. At first it was cute, but its gotten to the point its actually making me uncomfortable but she and the parents are offended when I say ""please don't do that."" since she's ""just showing affection.""

I have tried to explain boundaries, as I can bearly walk in a straight line without the kid wanting to hang off me for hugs, but now she is ""air hugging"" me everywhere I go and then ""surprise hugging"" me whenever I'm busy with something like dishes or cooking,

How do you explain you a ten year old to respect boundaries in that aspect?",4.905472972972972,5.838645628378379,5.410378378378379,82.6332702702703,69.06756756756756,7.811891891891893,32.36756756756757,7.908726449838941,2.274492432432432,595,26,114,7,10,191,89,148,0.038,0.735,0.227,0.981,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,4,0,1,5,11,1,0,9,0,11,9,1,5,0,21,20,13,0,2,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,5,2,0,4,2,0,4,2,1,0,2,2,1,16,10,18,18,1,22,0,0,0,6,13,9,0,1,10,77,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.18226620676667932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20183825182009796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736664004989884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887137278283242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061489731612206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124920579986014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246742754277584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5879692481149655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073923868591617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20502370547155707,0.1765634719528346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19203659688744995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853158728461285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545028453153549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437891111873269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536169722757784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203303742312728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800451751711876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608324125794372
parenting,pikachiu132,2019/01/30,"my almost 4 yr old won't go to classes on her own. Respect it or push her? I've been struggling to get my daughter ever since she was about 2.5 to go to independent classes like dance soccer gymnastics. She seems to have seperation anxiety but anyone have strategies to over come this?

The current teacher who seems to have experience in this thinks we should respect her wishes and take her out of the class for now. Return when shes ready and asks for it. But will she ? She'd rather stay home know we're not going in the class with her. She's totally fine at preschool. 

My long story below.

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In hindsight 2.5 seems way too young. but she finally warmed up to it at this one school around age 3, only if it was the same teacher. I was living the dream drinking coffee outside for 45 mins watching her from the window. But we can't keep going to the class, she's done the same for 3 terms and learning nothing new. 

Also took her to gymnastics. Which the staff worked well with her to do things on her own. Needed warm up time in the beginning but was ok. But then we missed 1 class and when we returned it was back to screaming and not participating unless I was with her etc. 

Now I enrolled her in an independent dance class at a school I believe she can grow in. I went with her to watch the class and manage her expectations. This strategy seemed to work well with gymnastics. But on her first class with dad she had to have in the room. Next class dad stayed then left and she screamed and was asked to leave then come back and she enjoyed the last 15 mins on her own. Next class we hyped it up and she said yeah dad will watch thru the window. It was great. But then as soon as we got there she did a 180 and refused to go in. 

Clearly pushing her is not doing well but I guess putting her in these classes isn't super important. Just nice to do and learn skills. She'd rather just stay home with us if she had the choice I think. 
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parenting,salito82,2019/01/30,"Toddler crying standing on his crib My son is 2yo and last two nights we have been having problems at bed time. He just doesn’t want to go to sleep. He stands on his crib, cries and throws his pacifier to the floor.

I think something is happening because we have had the perfect “sleeper”, before this, we just put him in his sleep sack, gave him his pacifier and he was good until next day! 

Has anyone experienced something similar?

Thanks!",3.5054518072289165,6.000279228915668,3.6682981927710863,87.2417243975904,75.98795180722891,6.559638554216868,26.037650602409638,7.6454224807358475,1.4959650602409638,348,13,65,5,8,107,61,83,0.091,0.7879999999999999,0.121,0.4374,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,0,10,2,2,0,1,12,16,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,4,1,12,3,8,12,0,16,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,0,6,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473617022357889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847159440462266,0.0,0.17933321681272213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629992211084398,0.13591668591571876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977440852209485,0.1767675833177101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636603745910826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178984713053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241356274269325,0.19777513800315302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165983778930094,0.0,0.2118625375756221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218055530920433,0.0,0.0,0.32449217795488977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940308142283799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350404587255314,0.0,0.0,0.12289035509443515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058726885199217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430614949482875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LuluMac666,2019/01/30,"Anyone else's kiddo say sinister things in their sleep? My 3yo sleeps in my bed and I was getting up to pee around 2:30am Tuesday. House in total darkness. I get to the door and just as it opens he says ""don't come in"" in what can only be described as the most unsettling tone I've heard him have. I have never moved so fast in my life.",1.0219919517102625,2.9796185633802814,2.3262776659959776,96.4498591549296,81.67605633802819,5.183903420523139,18.593561368209254,6.18269132825596,-0.3013678068410468,262,6,60,2,7,84,56,71,0.086,0.914,0.0,-0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,6,4,3,0,2,10,10,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,12,7,2,14,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,2,3,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495376640518598,0.2563713498725733,0.0,0.2227413693625256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155351356569989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901968293030124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261450464769012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28871058900702445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673185067125366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659353298872447,0.0,0.0,0.1929786087430119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902971945646965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.397956609552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5007845938559814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16622946708346106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tootsie-Roll,2019/01/30,"Hello Parents, Should we have a second child? Do you regret having a second child if so why? Ok so basically everyone I ask says YES but I'm not sure. We have an awesome 16mo little dude. He's a lunatic but great fun. 

I'm 40 this year so if we are to have a second baby time is of the essence. A family friend once told me that for siblings to get on, its best if they are born with 2.5 years of each other or after 6 years. She is a psychologist so I took this pretty seriously. My only sibling is a younger brother who I have a pretty strained relationship with. There is 4.5 years in the difference between us. So her logic seemed right to me. 

My husband has 3 siblings and the ages are quite close, as are they. 

My worry is my 16 month old misses out on being a sibling, and resents us. Money isn't an issue but I'm not a natural mother, I find motherhood hard. I'm doing the best I can and hoping it's enough. 

Please I need advice, can anyone tell me the pros and cons?

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parenting,captnsnail,2019/01/30,"Crib to toddler bed? Hey all. Back for some advice! Being 7 months pregnant is making it hard to get my child in and out of his crib and with a scheduled c section coming soon I won’t be able to lift him up so I’m really thinking of getting him his own bed.  He’s 2 so I’m feeling like he’s about ready for a big boy bed anyways. 

I’m sure I could google it but I like hearing from y’all and your experiences since they’re more personal. Any tips or recommendations on a smooth transition? 

It sounds as simple as just putting him in bed but keeping in there seems that’ll be where the challenge is lol. 

TIA for any advice. ",0.040498428378985096,2.3529611145038203,1.9175841939829361,95.03948361023802,90.52671755725193,4.6090704984283795,19.919622810956444,6.2272716619740125,0.015255590480467431,490,16,109,5,17,161,93,131,0.009000000000000001,0.82,0.171,0.9611,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,9,4,0,0,4,1,8,0,0,1,2,19,20,10,0,1,4,0,3,2,0,2,0,2,4,3,4,6,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,11,4,19,14,5,15,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,3,6,64,15,1,0.2164199442465282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229661295347997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943459668875028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664135783196667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642661883689826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727937152297133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117002332045111,0.0,0.0,0.10942842650278363,0.1546104514124693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261409769300403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386976083565866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439210060882865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192363990342092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21146370593043634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444619933129661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274433473087267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896954760967385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21756181955745896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386441580337164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19702058907738346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902481430272338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039732362275176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867316161883406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OverloadUT,2019/01/30,"My 4yo is extremely interested in spelling and reading words - how can I best engage with this interest in a fun way?? My kid just turned 4, and he has been extremely interested in reading words and spelling words out. All day long he'll spout out a string of letters and ask what it spells, and he has been looking at all sorts of signs and book titles and whatnot and asking what each word says.

My wife and I want to figure out how to engage with this newfound interest. He can already identify every letter and can generally say what letter a word starts with, so I'm trying to figure out the next step. He uses the Homer app and likes it a lot, and we're not really interested in adding another ""screen time"" way to engage here.

We bought some word and letter flash cards, but could use some advice for some fun ways to use them...",9.226231375985977,6.664416846625769,8.838667835232254,73.16809815950923,61.51533742331289,12.013672217353196,34.942156003505694,10.290406445055957,3.2481260297984225,658,19,129,11,7,212,95,163,0.0,0.836,0.16399999999999998,0.967,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,1,5,12,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,5,2,49,21,17,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,22,0,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,4,7,12,20,16,8,18,0,0,2,0,17,9,0,5,6,77,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430279819208066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855447921281033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630766499949888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143732220050097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645076974002222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342447488808278,0.0,0.0,0.10843529204404576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141663767246455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214387908235425,0.0,0.0,0.1487971021340552,0.1411938230455574,0.0,0.0,0.14294516770818896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178816986698644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33636759588378345,0.0,0.10771369869724022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674206452290259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900915225376965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804279330592812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415486699987402,0.18288618536834764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4356525126888505,0.0,0.0,0.09917232407874436,0.40038106268282014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,axolotl4life,2019/01/30,"Step daughter tells step mom she’s the mom she always wanted. Background:

9 year old step daughter of mine was on the phone talking to her step mom who lives in another state with her biological father. I overheard the daughter tell her step mom she is the mom she wishes she always had. Biological mom has 100% custody. Dad and step mom see her every other weekend. 

I’m not sure what to do. Currently feel I should tell her Mom, my wife. But there’s a bit of me that feels like I should just have the conversation with the kid, and ask how she thought that would make her mama feel if she heard that. Then leave it at that. Kids are kids and say things they don’t mean and shouldn’t say a lot. 

Third option is leave it be. 

Give me your perspective please so I have more POV’s please. ",1.3517369901547127,3.789683512658229,2.1725738396624514,95.12049226441636,84.12658227848101,5.030098452883263,18.271448663853725,6.42735559955562,-0.23520365682137806,617,15,135,6,18,192,96,158,0.029,0.914,0.058,0.6529,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,0,4,2,0,0,8,0,15,0,0,2,1,26,28,9,0,7,4,14,3,1,0,4,0,3,0,3,10,6,0,0,5,1,0,6,3,0,0,1,4,7,23,2,9,19,3,15,0,0,1,0,44,3,0,3,6,80,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475666687378549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298174370320808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289761637902877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680833685172582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471112556665213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345077370241209,0.06334826213016362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506356158306308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877845578620032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04332132191555307,0.0,0.07830019654224406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538691495626522,0.0,0.0,0.0591901526490056,0.0,0.0,0.0965912784704752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8308252880893312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304776902168994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467343013447846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410332210780654,0.0,0.0,0.07066118291128483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835735871542541,0.0,0.0,0.0712722834124146,0.2325132606522637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058910636532115215,0.0,0.0,0.07039673851605666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523018418964797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196998144324612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299100683179867,0.0,0.0,0.05710273298964396
parenting,iDroidGuy,2019/01/30,I have sole custody and have issues with my ex not knowing how to discipline our daughter (4) Anytime that my daughter goes to my ex’s house I get multiple FaceTimes a day basically rattling on our daughter. “She did this or that” “She just wont listen”. She rarely sees her mother so I’m thinking it’s a lack of authority thing but I can’t stand it. I’m about to leave to pick her up a day early because she can’t handle her own child’s behavior. ,1.6144086021505366,3.6540549569892478,3.6658064516129047,87.18537634408602,80.07526881720429,6.2838709677419375,26.46236559139785,7.3871296695380915,1.4182172043010757,353,15,73,5,9,120,64,93,0.037000000000000005,0.949,0.014,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,2,0,12,13,5,0,1,4,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,15,0,9,11,2,6,0,0,1,0,17,2,0,1,3,48,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205539124367156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.466670581665411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18902898740941065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174761773140343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776320340097646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883941576909533,0.0,0.0,0.3831008917543426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883129741224309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403681926375896,0.23183102573912698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thinkinthatheneedsit,2019/01/30,"I want to start teaching my kids about money. How do I go about doing this? Long story short: my wife and I are great with money. It's simple. We don't live beyond our means and we save a lot.  Our kids are 10 7 & 6

However....neither of us have the slightest clue how to teach our kids the concept and value of the dollar. How far it will go, etc. Simple math only goes so far. It's a no brainier for them to figure out how many candy bars they can buy with $5. ",-0.3774077407740784,1.527189297029704,1.893879387938796,97.83822682268229,86.72277227722772,4.068766876687668,15.122412241224122,4.851557810540192,-1.097324752475248,353,6,84,1,11,119,71,101,0.025,0.862,0.113,0.8194,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,2,0,8,2,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,4,0,17,13,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,8,1,0,2,1,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,13,2,12,12,2,9,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,2,53,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089465354594615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31800386361453703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241006063335802,0.0,0.0,0.3143652767527122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517817777267532,0.2523378563237311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424138418960861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890848330946834,0.0,0.31059850268798705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21686003921011496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20182190332957886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34298549688229185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818157951844434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smashbeezy,2019/01/30,5 Common Parenting Myths! My friend is a parent coach. I used to work with her in early childhood development and she is AMAZING. give her a listen.,1.7510714285714322,4.54181910714286,3.5757142857142874,81.89428571428573,90.07142857142857,5.6571428571428575,21.285714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.1946857142857144,117,4,20,2,4,39,25,28,0.0,0.733,0.267,0.8412,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,3,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,13,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779761109558517,0.0,0.0,0.3451473870847111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7990177737154317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107466736837186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26193446700996864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,leisure-curd,2019/01/30,"How can I not be so mean to my family by the end of the day? I'm a Father and Husband. Family is great. I'm great... until about 9pm. After a long day of sleep deprivation, not getting to do what I wanted, and the night process of getting everyone to bed, I get in a bad mood. It usually ends with me yelling at everyone. How are all you getting through this? My wife is having a hard enough time with other family issues and my attitude at night doesn't help. I'm actually a really nice guy. It's just at night I turn into Mr. Hyde. Thanks.",0.9805023923444978,2.8521590438596505,3.771116427432218,86.48433014354067,81.36842105263158,7.654226475279107,21.767145135566192,8.575989854853784,1.3952561403508774,417,13,92,10,11,148,76,114,0.08900000000000001,0.818,0.093,0.3601,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,0,8,0,8,1,1,2,1,14,19,7,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,9,4,18,18,2,17,0,1,0,0,7,5,0,0,12,59,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.14240477952251365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184387176177275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822311002780392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584979735031308,0.15078274089721327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788811147515193,0.0,0.0,0.4127040887085395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049656463763589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217725005680777,0.0,0.14449176615028614,0.0,0.0,0.13072291835098826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781253235393428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231102769277388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914178031364712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589584859927634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41083092164506346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348528038803597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603349194228787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435099248203886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509185120449103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872787328856575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071919044086205,0.0,0.08607217684812568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ejmajor,2019/01/30,"Understanding the link between teenagers' poor sleep, and high-risk behaviour such as: smoking, alcohol / drug use, unsafe sex, and dangerous driving. A new sleep psychology study in Australia analysed data from more than 500,000 teenagers, and found links between  insufficient sleep and high-risk behaviours. The researchers suggest that governments and school districts should play a greater role in encouraging better quality sleep for adolescents. The study doesn't prove that poor sleep is the cause of poor behaviour, it might just be a symptom of other issues such as poor family environment which could cause poor sleep.  
[https://news.flinders.edu.au/blog/2019/01/30/lack-of-sleep-a-risky-business-for-teens/](https://news.flinders.edu.au/blog/2019/01/30/lack-of-sleep-a-risky-business-for-teens/)",17.23296610169492,16.48058009322034,11.314,55.98100000000001,44.677966101694906,15.202711864406776,51.56610169491525,13.662883650711644,7.158038644067798,673,33,84,17,5,177,76,118,0.163,0.738,0.098,-0.8126,0,0,2,0,0,0,57.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,7,0,6,10,6,3,1,17,9,7,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,5,1,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,11,4,2,4,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,1,39,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533552565343988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544801439956964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22173072364510227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616673271644866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251549627751893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173901758478043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183306243618617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280505004781252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264226414583473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448791805005837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423149504118533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922256888249546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.86399748843831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217201686308644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235034392179682,0.0,0.09320973801225667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sharkezz,2019/01/30,"LEARN COLORS FOR CHILDREN - EASY AND FAST Hey there! If you want to learn your little toddlers colors with speaking included I would be very thankful to check out my new video recreated in GTA Editor. There are also superheroes whos good to know :D Thanks for support!

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FneYK6KRceg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FneYK6KRceg)",11.373466666666666,16.398216480000002,4.888000000000002,74.86066666666667,64.2,7.333333333333335,26.333333333333336,8.344100000000001,2.433533333333333,304,9,36,5,6,73,44,50,0.0,0.647,0.353,0.9698,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,9,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,8,7,0,5,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,1,2,20,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25553377811286593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680126374807866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560928487068836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202602132151313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086110125437689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626070203782861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5883738330056418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636516491934594,0.18847131558794214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699005421828602,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deadmeadowaltz,2019/01/30,"Warning: Strong willed child. I have a strong willed 4 yr old girl. It seems her behavior has gotten even worse because she now has a 1 month old brother. Everyday she fights with me over everything and anything...example: today she asked me what time daddy was coming home. I said idk let’s call him. She said no but I was already on the phone with him. After the phone call she starts screaming at me that she isn’t my baby anymore, she doesn’t want her brother around and she is Mum’s baby (my mother). Unfortunately right now due to financial circumstances I live with my mom and stepdad. They’re always second parenting and I’ve asked them to stop but they could care less. I feel like this is the reason she does not listen to me because they let her do whatever she wants and then they talk to me like I’m the asshole for trying to discipline her. I also have anxiety and I think it is manifesting itself as anger. I am very quick to explode and get angry with her when she does not comply. I have tried doing different things in disciplining her like being nice, spanking, yelling, not yelling, but she doesn’t seem to take me seriously and doesn’t care what I do to her, she just keeps on going. I tell my husband what’s going on and we try to rectify it and it works when he is here but  when it is only me it doesn’t. Please help. 😢",1.5781660470879828,4.025456066914504,2.9092304832713767,90.17546902106571,83.12639405204462,5.9658488228004956,20.86257744733581,7.3011,0.6801746220570011,1058,32,217,16,30,342,148,269,0.111,0.772,0.117,0.5786,2,0,0,0,3,0,28.0,1,0,4,3,11,12,2,0,6,0,27,0,0,1,0,37,49,20,0,3,8,7,1,3,0,2,0,6,1,2,13,17,0,4,5,0,0,3,9,4,0,1,5,7,49,8,23,38,1,28,0,0,0,0,50,8,0,2,20,149,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392786616965022,0.09705451089783844,0.10098432465474257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284290200098128,0.0,0.1203601837821044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080394278902902,0.2269173622234561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796437600337412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478518237957637,0.0,0.2474767710638219,0.0,0.0,0.10454408542644067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689904284501136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267992405900928,0.0,0.0,0.21241239188882696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801595824258964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907387231623436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061365135728802526,0.08670225497372258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340752666677026,0.0,0.13794758055487552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134753310440024,0.0,0.12173769132708485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078736371702855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482052216440481,0.0,0.17787652757403102,0.0,0.107166374843071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421397042797448,0.09687135131082272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25470158527405745,0.0,0.0,0.09230256637434517,0.0,0.0,0.1347600317775563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332209030568802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478210165246145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364394079709936,0.2308893505870193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22096991753408268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590185492784988,0.0,0.0,0.1014654915373078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125040212595327,0.09754754875967153,0.10607722733536083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062865274467723,0.07776496159766541,0.0,0.0,0.07076815226217391,0.0,0.11503860148475835,0.0,0.0,0.2471939671518977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013776671269477,0.14316691505715964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835422254442127,0.0,0.12367998360395048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vaulhartz,2019/01/30,"I recorded a song about my 3yo daughter, and what it's like to be a parent, I'd love you guys to hear it https://vaul.bandcamp.com/

I wrote the song Cupid about my little one and parenthood in general, originally it wasn't going to be released and was just something fun to show the family but it came together so well it ended up being the ""single"" from the EP. I think you guys could definitely relate to a lot of the sentiments, would really love it if you'd have a listen and let me know your thoughts :) indie rap from Adelaide, Australia. ",5.4482857142857135,6.418097638095237,6.442857142857148,75.58714285714288,67.85714285714286,9.428571428571429,28.333333333333336,9.606745405546679,2.5294761904761907,432,14,80,9,7,144,72,105,0.0,0.79,0.21,0.9734,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,4,0,0,5,5,0,0,9,0,10,2,0,1,0,17,20,7,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,2,7,5,0,0,3,4,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,4,10,5,12,8,2,7,0,0,0,2,13,3,0,2,3,59,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510534452361211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525562609072826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19441488512688293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069282966008599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474885658321305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346858079728518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24739631636401105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063334351081335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244571269284477,0.0,0.1072382873677904,0.22000010046209026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866139649572588,0.3962208274876502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874120359702162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24373258029966136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061951667465838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898446283123006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406489334937939,0.0,0.1742612030504495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19735994306181456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592893738059507,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamaworkerbee,2019/01/30,"Toddler insists on waking up at the crack of dawn! My 20 month old sleeps between 6:30-7pm every night. She is a champion sleeper, having slept through the night ever since she was 2 months old. However, she will wake up any time between 5-6am daily, which is a tad too early, as she shares a room with my 5 year old and this tends to wake him up. The 5yo doesn't get the best quality of sleep every night, so this affects him quite a bit...

She takes a nap during the day any time between 11 to 12, for a period of approximately 1.5h each time. 

We have tried pushing her bedtime back, but she wakes up even earlier if we do so. 

Any tips? ",4.556769230769233,4.6766444846153865,5.361346153846156,85.56740384615388,69.53846153846155,8.346153846153845,27.788461538461537,8.07648339933343,1.5401538461538462,493,15,107,6,8,161,91,130,0.018000000000000002,0.947,0.035,0.2865,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,11,0,8,7,7,1,1,9,12,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,13,2,18,9,3,25,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,1,17,64,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31280495205657344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178997896891886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090830652383453,0.0,0.16739449571958034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888389399452577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127171687949256,0.13869398014654247,0.25837095431206203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010756661017154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24476993933327104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316639046036675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4826759206825516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308323203325306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683452978153234,0.0,0.3068775207197145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528359566720943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26822041968363786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409966676522237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873822342027863
parenting,sarahsarah86,2019/01/30,"Did anyone who regretted kids at first have a change of heart as the kids got older? LO is 12 months old and right now, I really regret becoming a mother. I love my LO but if I really understood what I was getting into with parenthood, I wouldn't have begged my husband to start trying for a baby. We needed IVF. This makes it even worse. We PAID for this and I regret it.

I honestly thought this was what I wanted more than anything but instead I feel trapped. I miss my freedom. I miss having friends (the huge lifestyle change has seen us grow apart) that were my friends because they liked me and because we had common interests, not because we happened to have children in the same month. I miss being able to just go somewhere because I wanted to. I miss sleeping. I miss going out to eat. I used to have beautiful skin and pregnancy destroyed it and it won't seem to recover. It is wrinkly and dry. I have a huge belly roll that won't budge. I miss travelling with my husband. 

I deeply regret not going to University and wanted to do it part time while LO was young but I can't handle it, she is just too much. She is a very clingy and high needs baby. I really really dislike being a mother. I have tried outsourcing things and getting baby sitters and everything. I just hate being a mother. I love my child but despise motherhood. I hate the way I have no identity to anyone anymore other than ""LO's mum"". I miss my old relationship with my husband. The one where we did not always yell at each other because we are stressed. He is upset because he wants to take a lower stress job but feels trapped in his higher paying one because we have LO now. I hate this. I get no enjoyment out of motherhood. I love my daughter but taking care of her is a horrible chore. 

I am sick of the crying, the babbling, the getting into everything, the mess, everything. She has some health needs which will be expensive for us over the coming years. People think we must be well off because my husband is a doctor, but he has some debts, student loans, we have the IVF bills, we live in a high COL area. I am at home with her more than I want to because childcare is so so so expensive. My mother came to visit us and was saying jokingly how she wishes she could take LO home with her and all I could think was ""please, take her, free me from this prison"". 

I went to two therapists who said I don't have Post Partum Depression in the sense they can treat. I just really dislike the one job you can't quit. 

Did anyone feel like this when their LO was very young but started to enjoy it more or hate it less as the child got older and was not so demanding? Because that is the only hope left that I will not hate my life forever. ",2.548333333333332,4.652378648148153,3.7653333333333343,87.30300000000004,77.33333333333334,6.764444444444447,23.94814814814815,7.770157013224466,1.2631303703703702,2130,71,422,33,50,693,244,540,0.19,0.672,0.138,-0.985,5,4,0,0,0,0,58.0,13,1,3,2,17,40,7,3,26,0,56,11,3,3,2,87,114,32,0,19,19,10,4,2,2,6,4,3,3,5,27,35,1,0,8,2,8,9,13,23,1,5,21,8,79,18,46,80,11,51,0,12,1,3,56,22,0,6,20,298,106,6,0.06631790289999921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05518180782923437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576953952470188,0.13911305902717708,0.0,0.05457398343516375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042677806731916,0.07324291342003647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585001362668033,0.06761552186308505,0.0,0.14031109565616648,0.05712700115991697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589889825755346,0.0,0.07284710228683453,0.0,0.0,0.05711951259119428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787918374830737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785977094930834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04380234940641109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788067647703645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005969730087996,0.047377523082703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640997432822292,0.0,0.0,0.10247409454373684,0.0,0.13859346837899353,0.0,0.11306997754422485,0.0,0.10608097040970872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058644702516231585,0.0,0.0,0.32737599637952153,0.0,0.0704928296177503,0.0,0.0785870342447521,0.0,0.14013701103875667,0.13304452767997715,0.06586864131196862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162057121592144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205459554441418,0.0,0.04684229607166202,0.06479915502054583,0.0,0.05855992326100401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956348977314573,0.0,0.04426771515270506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586863477015937,0.0,0.048751289267206316,0.14752165406775894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917896644302927,0.0,0.13481618197756984,0.050437753554606383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718158262082395,0.0,0.045976483668151685,0.0,0.0,0.07279714249172413,0.0,0.0,0.06351421901663824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053725296617246,0.0,0.0,0.21242473382347826,0.0,0.0,0.07120060893227753,0.0,0.05663512672173409,0.06308351230485386,0.05273865819179609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037332807391741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636579689634985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388030601798482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193386741428827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945123846379995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700019671881855,0.04405866788235136,0.08498766875753194,0.0,0.052649007120960885,0.03867050249543735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005100569524534,0.0,0.06478295476511756,0.0,0.2393168150420544,0.057277375218898786,0.0,0.10943843053029946,0.1955800868401778,0.05264006447772803,0.0,0.0,0.0596277591670575,0.06147736039893718,0.0,0.0,0.07626231544669071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758360875204936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042706555149744176
parenting,squishy0071,2019/01/30,"4 yr old potty training nightmare So my daughter was in daycare from 6 months until just about 4 years old before I was able to stay home with her. She pees in the potty just fine but it has been an absolute nightmare getting her to poop in the potty. We went through a major move back in September to be closer to family and I gave her the benefit of the doubt because of the move but she just refuses to poop on the potty.

She will sit in it and won't say anything about it until you smell it.
We celebrate everytime she actually manages to go in the potty but it's it's been almost a month since the last time she did. 

I'm at wits end here and I'm starting to get fed up with it. I've tried no pants and that seems to work but because of money issues it's been fairly cold in the house so she hasn't been naked. She gets excited and happy when she does poop in the potty but when she has an accident she freaks out and starts crying or does just doesn't want us to clean it.

HELP!",1.8408665603402448,3.4542844449760786,3.504840510366826,90.6152724614567,77.75598086124401,6.5583200425305685,21.65895800106326,7.3871296695380915,0.6199662945241893,775,21,171,10,18,258,115,209,0.077,0.802,0.121,0.9154,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,1,0,1,12,6,0,1,14,0,14,5,4,0,0,26,27,18,0,1,10,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,10,11,1,1,1,0,1,4,4,2,0,0,10,3,20,4,32,14,1,34,0,0,0,0,22,13,0,4,15,113,30,2,0.1543269677754049,0.0,0.1506008586160566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453616574275966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699794496930775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866791218407315,0.0,0.18815257428951915,0.0,0.1313208828586004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16952092746515462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701051389826805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366878867781522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548573047024965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418884131558552,0.0,0.08770757225313061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428392689522364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344211342698972,0.0,0.15480253173055356,0.0,0.0,0.1780726004774949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107725895252892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579707648295968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463646266263448,0.3280502867230128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238803841800581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227269990059276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049347534717518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766086251469613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218466844215951,0.16449201379213607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998929597443807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477788083127924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563634045545235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102604406779384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306264526352871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235187056580996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938150743896937
parenting,Svargas05,2019/01/30,"I had a horrible dream about my son, and the scary thing is it could actually happen in real life :( So, I had a nightmare the other night that terrified me more than any other dream I have ever had. There were no ghosts or monsters in this dream.

In my dream, I was getting ready to pack my son away in a neighborhood that was a little sketchy (I don't know why we were there in the dream). We were leaving someone's house and as I opened the passenger door to whatever vehicle I was driving in the dream, a group of guys drove up to the front of the house and begin to unleash gunfire.

I recall gripping my son as tight as I could and ducking behind a car. The guys quickly drove away and I stood up unharmed, but my son was struggling to breathe. I pulled him away from me to find 2 bullet holes in his back. 

I felt my heart fall out of my chest in real life; I was horrified and woke up in the biggest tear-filled panic ever. I even broke down in tears re-counting the dream to my wife the next morning and I tear up thinking about it now.

It's such a shame that I know there are parents who have had to live out my nightmare in real life. The school shootings; the ""stray bullets"" the ""caught in a crossfire"" and the mass shootings plaguing our society today - it's all very real. There are parents who have felt the pain I felt x10 by something I saw in a dream. This dream was way too real and I cannot stop thinking about it.

It surely made me want to hold my son a little closer at night and as I drop him off at school. There was no purpose to this post beyond sharing my sentiments of this dream and the horrors we deal with today.",4.941417910447762,4.899087582089557,5.313843283582092,86.79852611940302,68.70149253731344,7.894029850746268,29.287313432835823,7.1686216300943375,1.4644955223880602,1280,42,273,10,20,408,161,335,0.139,0.774,0.08800000000000001,-0.9746,2,0,1,3,0,0,33.0,4,0,0,0,18,7,0,3,27,0,24,7,3,1,4,44,42,18,1,3,2,8,5,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,18,18,0,3,8,10,0,8,4,5,0,0,24,6,41,2,53,16,2,56,0,1,1,0,22,33,0,1,12,194,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.09210190521310066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418208220335805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266021198043287,0.07257289832376017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071054721583094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973023115991926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06233753284499709,0.17074541262248988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718606904838267,0.0,0.08626220929443029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04930999709066434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690337493824385,0.08346050197836186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118415312149014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21780520935861347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037382800114959,0.0,0.0,0.09993548670354402,0.0,0.0,0.1999915444815105,0.0,0.18918842303535904,0.08333984795685521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930525828065737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037489786942208,0.1771397033668725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042767180297567,0.11073536380305324,0.20959709751213385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039057876412727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5371292426772752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19103652425546114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799684231442647,0.07265883963999965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890645409970731,0.0,0.09866715338553064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889526508772785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627023137672361,0.12095062626519652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892365158284346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778739251448572,0.05566815594344581,0.07491497129290624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516386163381866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iberostar2u,2019/01/30,"Looking for car seat laws in Ireland - any Irish parents out there? Hi all,

My husband and I are taking a trip to Ireland in June for a friend's wedding (we live in the US). We will be bringing our 1 year old and renting a car as the venue/hotel is an hour west from Dublin.

We planned to bring our “travel” car seat, a Cosco Apt50 seat that is lightweight to travel with.

In the US, the law is that a child needs to be rear-facing until 1 year and 20 pounds at minimum, although it is recommended to keep your child rear-facing until they outgrow the height or weight limit of the seat. 

My question is, what is the requirement for child car seats in Ireland? We planned to just install the seat in the rental car as we would in the US, but wanted to know if any Irish parents of littles can help me understand the law (can the front seat touch the child’s car seat, is there a recline requirement, can we face him forward if we need to etc etc)? He will be 13 months old and probably 25 pounds at the time of the trip. 

Thanks!

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parenting,iliketothinkicansing,2019/01/30,"My soster keeps telling me that my son is too young for potty training My sister, who is an early childhood interventionist, keeps telling me that she believes that my son is too young for potty training. She doesn't have any kids (she unfortunately miscarried during the summer), but has potty trained kids before. I have my degree in early childhood ed, but I have never potty trained before. My son will be turning 2 in March oh, and I plan to start potty training a week or two after his birthday. He has a lot of interest in the potty, and likes to sit on it to read an Elmo book. He has had one tiny poop in the potty, but that's it. He has also told me when he has started pooping, but I have not been able to catch him before so then he can sit on the potty. I'm also pregnant right now, and I'm very adamant on not having two kids in diapers. Is 24 months too young?",5.594745762711868,5.216514830508476,6.312999999999999,81.3271271186441,67.36158192090396,8.20994350282486,29.564406779661017,7.1686216300943375,1.6203722033898305,683,21,138,5,10,225,96,177,0.01,0.945,0.045,0.7906,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,8,0,20,2,2,0,1,14,28,13,0,0,7,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,3,0,2,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,3,3,0,18,2,16,23,1,30,0,0,0,0,21,9,0,2,19,93,25,2,0.17776172255500172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843119706073869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088406704660574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4537863993743687,0.2002765884129959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160055733293402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684539854894108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112665969690778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188771099764452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371007990970024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204559437128084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780982740168344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180753978842082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516413243179901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107431613563043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985894371256804,0.0,0.0,0.1933537085762186,0.3472947462954288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667203782149565,0.0,0.0,0.14258973141181025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mandalins,2019/01/30,"Working moms, tell me your secrets? I have two under 5, one in diapers. I've never been able to master the working mom thing. I have a very stressful and high demand job, but it pays well so at least there's that. My husband works evenings and weekends. How do you keep the house clean, give your kids enough attention, plan and cook meals and deal with the stress of work, and get enough sleep and take care of yourself?! I miss more work than I should because either a kid is sick or I have an exhaustion headache. 

My eldest still wakes every night and is up at the crack of dawn and my littlest is VERY busy. 

Tell me your secrets? Does it get easier once they're in school?

I am exhausted.",2.8776763990267646,4.826583087591247,2.988047445255475,93.97409063260339,75.78832116788321,6.0265206812652075,23.095498783454985,6.816661863887847,0.5099250608272508,541,16,115,5,12,164,99,137,0.142,0.764,0.094,-0.731,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,4,0,7,6,7,0,2,7,0,10,7,2,1,1,19,17,12,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,4,9,2,1,3,2,1,0,1,5,1,2,1,0,15,2,12,15,5,11,0,1,0,0,15,7,0,1,4,72,19,8,0.13588518604800895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283434817416849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854400344885814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14009166011700064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891404202472212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808114431749246,0.0,0.08975088382099815,0.0,0.1144891299254652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419888025117167,0.13035345244956567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357015967413503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679326040509112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484507972447446,0.12078099690662822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182941751712787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480303253622288,0.0,0.0,0.12751904199110586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144713288328413,0.09207931880238696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752306284443544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598332070426464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851808510799052,0.0,0.31131204301974896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216874878804247,0.0,0.2375392839759573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027607961681826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274008187912487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22423901907507424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217710141195637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4946301691385273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lisa-Bron,2019/01/30,"My 14 year old son has not come home since yesterday, after arguing with his father. What should I do? Yesterday morning, he got into a fight with has dad right before he left for school, which ended with him being slapped before he left for the bus. They have always been very close, and he acted kind of shocked. .Since then, he has not come home. Some information: We have never detected any drugs on him, nor has he ever seen high or drunk. This is second semester of freshman year. We called the school and he attended all his classes yesterday. He has several family friends he hangs out with,  none of whom have seen him, a part from in classes. He also has a group of school friends we do not know. He is not responding to his phone. Should I alert the police? What should I do?",2.7240618101545238,5.129920920529802,3.4181192052980163,88.48620750551876,78.20529801324503,6.940573951434878,21.987196467991165,8.021203637495839,1.1435109050772625,613,18,121,11,15,193,93,151,0.071,0.8759999999999999,0.053,-0.4084,0,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,3,0,1,0,2,6,2,0,6,0,19,2,0,0,3,28,25,6,0,3,5,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,5,14,1,0,2,1,0,5,7,3,0,1,4,2,14,3,17,17,4,25,0,0,2,0,34,9,0,2,11,78,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179304469292767,0.12270554381465852,0.0,0.0,0.10028358653333802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509695377901012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058175082267988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540619823663903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101655594047546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061325441725774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339363397127432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902010760348216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278674801089499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794397170523628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580848856279692,0.2958457100763401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356567254280332,0.08104479025306686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32044975249754465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373674120951972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547433061436089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969393457806366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593722998181267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4477377599833846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665973460709001,0.0,0.24397481163522855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216768955268699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899296627003158
parenting,throwaway_93889,2019/01/30,"Should our anxious child proceed with full evaluation? This is going to be VERY lengthy post, my apologies in advance, but the back story is important to share. Hoping other parents with experience could provide insight. 

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Our 6 year old dd is a great kid. Last year she was a model student, excelled academically, loved going to school. Fast forward to this year: She started 1st grade at a new school because we moved over the summer. We knew there would be an adjustment period but she is a very extroverted kid, and never had issues making friends previously. One the first day she was teased by some boys at her table for how she speaks (she is on an IEP for speech). This was very upsetting to her. We emailed teacher, who got back to us right away and said she would keep an eye on things and ensured it wouldn't happen again. We checked in a week later to see how our daughter was doing, and she said she did great and no concerns, she was adjusting well. However, We noticed over the next few weeks our daughter shows less interest in school compared to last year. We thought, ""it must be the adjustment from kindergarten to first grade"" or ""she must be adjusting to her new school""... until she came home one day and burst into tears, saying how those boys had been teasing her daily over the past few weeks. Everything ranging from how she speaks, to her lunch, to being plain old rude (saying things like ""every time you talk you make me want to gag!""). We were saddened by this and also surprised that our daughter didn't know how to stick up for herself and/or tell the teacher. The previous year we had maybe 3 or 4 contacts throughout the entire year, since there were zero issues and if conflict arose my daughter could handle herself. Now I was going to contact her teacher again for the 3rd time in less than a month! 

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So that bullying issue was handled wonderfully, all the kids were brought individually to the principal, the teacher switched our daughter's seat to a different table. Sadly at the new table, our daughter was threatened (physically) by a girl at that table and I asked my daughter why she didn't tell her teacher? She said her teacher doesn't like her and that she is afraid to talk to her. I assure her that the teacher likes her and that even if she doesn't like her teacher she needs to inform the teacher if someone threatens you. I also reiterate the previous conversations I had about sticking up for yourself, and to know when someone might be acting playfully or jokingly. I talk to the teacher AGAIN and teacher says she even checked in with daughter at end of day to ask if there were any problems, that my daughter smiled and said no. 

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My daughter's negative attitude towards school continues. She tells me she is lonely at recess, choosing to run around alone by herself. Her teacher notices this and checks in with my daughter but my daughter says ""It's ok, I like to run around by myself!""... so I do not fault the teacher, she does her job and regularly checks in with my daughter. It seems like my daughter, for whatever reason, has a negative association with her teacher and cannot be herself around her. My daughter puts on a happy front at school but at home paints a different picture. 

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So as time has passed my daughter had started to say she is ""bored, not learning anything"" at school despite her coming home with material that I know she has never learned before. She also had a disagreement with a student over something and now she gets very frustrated and comes home upset on days she has to partner with the student. It seems like once my daughter has a bad experience with you, no matter what she isn't going to like you and just gets anxious and shuts down rather than working through problems properly. I've checked in with her teacher a handful of times about the material being challenging enough since my daughter says she is bored, but the teacher says my daughter is already being given advanced work and that she isn't noticing any behavior issues.  It seems like the ""meltdowns"" and expressing being upset only happens at home. 

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At school, teachers aren't seeing it. Her speech therapist even said how my daughter loves to talk to her and almost gloats in the attention from sharing stories. I should note that my daughter loves her speech therapist and said she gets excited to talk to her since she feels she cant talk to her teacher.  The staff at school has been great at following up and hearing my concerns but I requested a full evaluation because if we are halfway through the school year and my child STILL stresses about going to school, says she has a bad day, gets anxious about working with a particular partner in class, etc.  I fear there's a bigger picture here that maybe we are missing out on. The teacher even noticed last week how my daughter wasn't enjoying class, and asked for her to come over to her desk. My daughter seemed fine when she went to the teacher's desk, but later that day at home while having dinner she broke down and was sooo upset telling us the story. She said she felt so embarrassed being called over to the teacher's desk. It's such a drastic change from our daughter's normal demeanor and we seemed very concerned that she has anxiety or something else affecting her experience at school. 

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BUT then I met with the principal, her teacher, and her speech therapist in a meeting. They reiterated that at school my daughter is all smiles, happy, and even though she initially wasn't raising her hand and being shy that she seems to have come out of her shell a bit. I should mention she recently made a new friend, so that seems to have been a positive thing for her. The meeting left me wondering: **Could my daughter be dramatizing what happens at school for attention?** Even though she does tend to be a worrier/over achiever/anxious kid at times, if it isn't affecting her academically then should  we have her go through a full eval, such as psychological/cognitive/social/emotional testing etc....?? My fear is that she is making a bigger deal about things to us at home. Possibly because she wants attention, or maybe she felt lonely at school and knew if she said she feels sad/frustrated at school that mom and dad will be extra attentive?? idk. 

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On one hand I feel like it could be beneficial to do the eval if she has anxiety where she is just holding it together all day, and having a meltdown at home. **On the other hand, what if it is situational?** Like what if this was just an unlucky combination of: new kid at a new school, gets teased the first day, which turns into a social anxiety and a negative attitude towards teacher, and then adopts a coping mechanism of shutting down when presented with conflict.... The latter can be learned behavior that could be curbed by some strategies I discussed with the principal. The teacher is already finding ways to ""discreetly"" check in with my daughter and give some positive reinforcement at the end of the day. The first day she did that, my daughter came home from school saying she had a great day. It brought tears to my eyes, she hadn't yet said that about school this year! 

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I am now torn if I should sign the consent form to proceed with the evaluation.... At a minimum it could shed light on an anxiety disorder that could be added to her current IEP (for speech), BUT what if she is totally ""normal"" and the stress of being at a new school/bullying just triggered some stress and caused her to shut down? We all get anxious at times, especially when faced with new situations. I struggle with this being a pattern this year though, it's been multiple occasions where my daughter seems self conscious and/or stressed by a disagreement with her classmate or not knowing how to stick up for herself. Could this just be because she's on edge from being new student and not liking her teacher? Or does it signify some generalized anxiety?  Would you proceed with an evaluation? Would you give the new strategies the principal suggested some time to work, especially since daughter said she had a great day after the first time they were implemented? Maybe next year she'll get a teacher she loves and won't be bullied the first day and will go back to how she felt in kindergarten.... :-/ 

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**TL;DR: If your kid is keeping it together at school but having meltdowns and negative attitude towards school at home, is it worth proceeding with an evaluation? Would you give the teacher and staff time to implement other changes to see if that helps and see how she does next year with new teacher? Could it just be the child dramatizing minimal conflicts for attention?** ",7.366601999961313,8.063882752970612,6.7125150383938434,76.29794259298662,63.55909943714822,9.570674970825838,36.37196572600144,9.456605762562187,3.4282313185431623,6978,318,1209,119,97,2151,486,1599,0.119,0.772,0.109,-0.894,6,5,2,0,0,0,234.0,24,9,2,14,69,70,5,13,96,1,135,13,7,19,10,253,228,110,0,45,42,33,10,12,4,18,0,28,10,15,67,96,2,7,41,3,7,27,28,30,1,10,59,45,188,40,199,117,24,221,0,5,6,4,254,89,0,40,117,872,255,47,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021897798846203145,0.022648813967518482,0.048264106675847414,0.052463868065498014,0.0,0.213247235755268,0.23914982227179196,0.029742191209678005,0.0,0.0836453953614557,0.098819164594166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017995628657231474,0.05840188403684295,0.061331320117586435,0.0,0.020545851911758582,0.05044578512769556,0.03651799275381504,0.053322498385854,0.0,0.018608189631999898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02387436196137465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022329831732570558,0.050022688209788765,0.0,0.022464619519642355,0.04626721772870857,0.07534991836514547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571394843721871,0.0,0.0,0.18334096514914106,0.022545108053345773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04569513611532113,0.025062800727044456,0.0,0.07654788084511019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01826803782768233,0.024598731520956485,0.03873738985297432,0.022595650318181792,0.04877754785086319,0.08666226263309734,0.0,0.018424864142144042,0.0,0.019653688062012387,0.06417375663423087,0.0,0.0492155092066528,0.033171589397695635,0.015622614631175816,0.06299057588335777,0.0,0.0199870979167919,0.11160625118531238,0.0,0.0,0.0337905653265346,0.0,0.0799764605766974,0.0629337820998273,0.08699723690436567,0.0,0.017489961616599284,0.12054859298849648,0.0,0.0,0.05801381296179588,0.0465581162509786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024647000534264392,0.0,0.014657763644925156,0.0,0.21935542948317666,0.02172001262496823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129869110669356,0.021700769983818438,0.038874842710502025,0.0,0.0,0.04807266535992187,0.053476396214910224,0.0,0.0,0.023759814894303632,0.0,0.0,0.12820411386361394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894745637526729,0.020692177447571344,0.04379149073872927,0.0,0.08787800576387783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02319865714872361,0.0,0.02561171937713448,0.017454953055014575,0.0232423884583029,0.0,0.016214960184327287,0.033732139241895165,0.2323244089522441,0.06977109426643194,0.0,0.04285229860650936,0.0,0.09958815973640787,0.04589390107433927,0.023288871867134988,0.044455284279118136,0.016631717645313383,0.0,0.0,0.024281998718301355,0.0,0.02087562882139093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02465305953213097,0.02094364801564099,0.0,0.0,0.041849742835544136,0.0,0.021983536263897558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02248410595059421,0.021592165324321386,0.0,0.0,0.01867528527856885,0.20801623601120156,0.15651391451844018,0.0,0.4868982978675495,0.06970435449280588,0.15926357937352068,0.022813255413859725,0.0,0.0,0.07235825670821877,0.04916144595709618,0.0,0.04458366114253511,0.03705763431540273,0.033670348911384096,0.0,0.0,0.030956785980888312,0.0,0.017463937199819944,0.0,0.10019959278555712,0.02286134417397836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546077005379297,0.07645492700535786,0.0,0.0,0.07617184193628806,0.05811292315028035,0.0,0.06445605513076852,0.017360872739780146,0.11476347577795447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02378627354321681,0.0,0.0,0.07891409539574204,0.0,0.0,0.09021759237133756,0.025796809351154252,0.017357923926504978,0.0701652609777207,0.0,0.0196620980198012,0.02027199920050589,0.01973260893002836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047430163529927266,0.06368111049785193,0.0,0.0,0.0776725510591692,0.0,0.23914982227179196,0.15490612655738484
parenting,Myrisa,2019/01/30,"Xbox rules I’ve had it with HCBD and his giving gifts with conditions.  My kids are great kids and obey all his rules and still fall short of his insane expectations.  

I’m buying an Xbox for my children at my home, it’s very uncharacteristic of me.  Because dad has given one to our 15 yr old son with extreme rules making it impossible to play.  He won’t even allow the game system to make an appearance at my home even though I buy games for them when they have good behavior.  

So I’m headed to Costco now. 

Here’s the rules I’m setting for my three.    17 f, 15 m, 12 f.

Please offer suggestions as I’m not a gamer and haven’t any idea what world I’m entering into...

VIDEO GAME RULES

-$250 divided by 3.  $84.00 each.  Either pay me or payment can be earned by chores to pay for Xbox.  So you three will own the game system and mom will not manage fairness in playing.  It’s between you three.

-it is a privilege that I, (M, G, O) must earn.

-NO GTA, games rated M will be discussed with mom for permission.

-grades and all assignments must be turned in prior to playing.

-gaming will always be done in a common area.

-if I began to become aggressive during play, I will take a time out and go get exercise to calm down.

-online play will be respect towards other online gamers.  If they become inappropriate, I will block them.  I will never give any personal information to anyone. (Phone numbers, address, names, etc.)

-kids input on fair rules so they feel heard on the buy in...",2.3960162002945538,4.6090401958762905,3.709949680903289,86.97490979381443,78.3127147766323,6.493912616593027,22.076705940108,7.5804360353943165,0.9127200785468821,1151,34,231,17,28,376,180,291,0.044,0.84,0.117,0.9621,0,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,1,2,5,2,10,11,1,0,10,0,24,2,1,4,5,36,42,16,0,5,6,4,1,0,0,11,1,1,4,5,8,14,0,1,3,16,5,4,6,1,0,4,5,2,24,10,36,21,6,31,0,0,0,0,36,15,0,4,9,136,32,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013110232473818,0.0,0.0,0.2127045487100898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935328405691402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533542666122513,0.3454464953493333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16004384301317678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441899673193229,0.20659156475297025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907675556575823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170863516731493,0.3000519055190311,0.08888147136701934,0.13117462310299766,0.0,0.17242330189115904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050384148371202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137488916428236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654811530982398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20878643874973435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663300510306839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061955025254673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16410763833342534,0.0,0.10597561685694584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655591333319567,0.0,0.17167201966008036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489526594060472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758770934819797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536548537123426,0.0,0.09119373422406817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701101490416871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290402051131454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bianicole91,2019/01/30,Beyond ready to ditch the Pull-Ups because of bedwetting What helped get your little ones out of Pull-Ups at night? That’s the only time either of our kids wear them but we are beyond ready to ditch them. What helped you help your kids stop bed wetting? ,3.848399999999998,5.5868116400000005,3.2089999999999996,94.31950000000002,72.6,5.8000000000000025,18.5,5.985473137389443,-0.3666,202,3,42,1,4,59,36,50,0.051,0.7859999999999999,0.163,0.7278,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,9,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,0,3,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20726939173736814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764329278140198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6837126946894285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407833746403212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190801261917908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304023007416335,0.2585959851278298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842669469682525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826491037847854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bouncebackbounce,2019/01/30,"How to handle an 8 year old girl who is obsessed with boys? Reposting because my original post was unclear. She is in therapy and her therapist doesn't believe she has ""daddy issues."" She has a positive father figure in her life and he spends one on one time with her. He took her out this weekend. 

Every since she was 2 my daughter has been obsessed with boys. I wasn't too worried at first. Everyone told me it was normal. My oldest had a preschool boyfriend and has no interest in dating at 16. My older son would point out all the pretty girls he saw as a toddler but he's a normal preteen boy now who hangs out solely with boys. I was told that she would grow out of this and believed it because I saw it happen with my oldest two.

It has not happened. If anything it has gotten worse. On the first day of school she talked about the 3 cutest boys in her class. We were watching a football game and she commented that she wants to the cute guy to win because he's cute. We were picking school clothes and she said that she had to look cute for all of the cute boys at school. That was a red flag. We talked about how she shouldn't be dressing for others and should wear what makes her happy. How she shouldn't be seeking attention from boys.

In the beginning of the school year my boys (11 and 10) had their friend (10) over to play. My 8 year old was playing with them and they started wrestling. At one point my daughter held neighbor boy down and tried to kiss him. He was very upset by this. My daughter is always talking about how cute he is but we told her not to tell him because it makes him uncomfortable and to never touch him without his consent. We role played and it looked like she understood. Then she does this.

We were worried about sexual abuse because I know this is one of the signs. We contacted her pediatrician and he told us to bring her in. He didn't think there were any signs of sexual abuse but we decided to speak with a therapist who deals with sexual abuse just to be sure. She also determined that sexual abuse was highly unlikely.

I am not sure what to do. She talks about kissing boys and how she can't wait until she is old enough to date her brothers' friend. We keep trying to stress consent and boundaries and while she appears to understand it, it's like she can't help herself once she gets around boys she thinks are cute. We were getting Valentine's Day cards for her class and she kept talking about how she hopes the cute boy in class gives her the best Valentine and how she'll be sad if he gives another girl a better Valentine.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to overreact but my daughter is placing such a high importance on being valued by boys and is not respectful of people's boundaries. Please help.",3.585703384207033,5.2786010474452585,3.8880756469807567,89.36991373589917,73.19708029197079,6.952621101526211,25.593231585932315,7.604176662624187,1.1975459854014605,2186,72,447,27,44,679,237,548,0.097,0.713,0.19,0.9961,0,0,0,0,4,0,44.0,11,0,3,5,20,30,0,4,20,0,53,4,1,11,5,97,89,37,0,12,12,7,1,2,3,6,1,2,1,17,26,42,0,4,9,5,1,5,16,5,0,7,31,9,75,25,68,47,4,57,0,1,6,2,118,26,0,5,27,298,101,7,0.0,0.3384327321028121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05710588305541035,0.059418145337248374,0.0,0.0,0.04856068058814614,0.07487873526348343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587636579326643,0.063569296031698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21765181943242468,0.0,0.0,0.16090734993979805,0.07493951255289184,0.06315560300067333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210600714617476,0.07361971303899889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249064107639279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378475580680309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016530094766547,0.06823451685726116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214811976975168,0.0,0.0,0.11034108671729552,0.0,0.074616682298814,0.137004354933977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070629979302624,0.12629377667917166,0.07601638346383371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572811545453813,0.1508954058699232,0.0,0.07092541285985515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745326150600718,0.0,0.06347174646516393,0.0,0.0,0.07848921860217159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05043840470992866,0.06977382152206124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199314266534863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953323436169792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507514990178407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399316392278072,0.0,0.0,0.22479571750145044,0.07604842965505555,0.1935547918097827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950612341559755,0.0,0.07460737824205499,0.07838581885709958,0.1350094838783948,0.0,0.06839024027975196,0.07264879235986338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792646797860284,0.0,0.0,0.2890795473305385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907039880066951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054377417775307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179895667435641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460458490685714,0.0,0.0,0.2869799074911317,0.06241475726390176,0.0,0.08166260298212452,0.1658230877028864,0.0,0.09151221847852643,0.0,0.0,0.04163925808028757,0.0,0.0,0.27293806742904464,0.07933820924922028,0.09696427055676818,0.0,0.06975637756418084,0.07433945862938877,0.08589643252126772,0.0,0.0,0.05892003928951304,0.08423795074567847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068835886341062,0.0,0.0,0.1450389456767835,0.07277203928642505,0.1014540432709866,0.0,0.0,0.13795548209982886
parenting,ImDonaldo,2019/01/30,"Advice and Resources for Slow to Warm Children My daughter is 16 months old and has always had strong stranger anxiety and generally froze and just observed for majority of visits outside the home(library/gymboree).  She's a bit better at the library now, walking around a bit and not as hesitant but still refuses to go on any equipment at the gymboree.

After reading some articles online, I abandoned the sink or swim strategy of making her do a lot of these things and letting her move at her own pace, even if it means going somewhere and letting her just stare and observe for 1 hour.

Any tips/articles/books for children with the slow to warm temperament?",11.5295,9.131729616666668,10.290000000000003,64.03500000000003,57.0,12.933333333333335,47.33333333333333,11.20814326018867,5.460383333333333,534,28,85,10,5,168,86,120,0.045,0.877,0.078,0.2311,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,1,0,23,10,12,0,1,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,10,0,2,1,2,0,6,1,1,0,0,1,4,7,4,18,7,6,19,0,1,1,0,10,5,0,4,8,62,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308201803004368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441016096056615,0.0,0.0,0.26873505615284743,0.0,0.15115530567951904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589640560809447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17475171592730776,0.43143277219035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050589677389565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22458915282831104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19819822031273807,0.0,0.1945857003675208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4040969782317052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798339256811565,0.0,0.0,0.13189241998260415,0.0,0.0,0.21523271856097526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771392754204006,0.2100062003984387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20733677615307267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19764281231908298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779510362761273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126957892829186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,McLeod3013,2019/01/30,"For parents of adult children with large age gap My brother and I are 12 years apart and now that he has turned 20 he has no interest in me (33 yr old sister) 
He doesn’t want to come over, avoids all of my family plans... doesn’t like kids so he avoids mine like the plague. 

When I ask him how he feels he is content with everything he has going on. He sees no problem with any of it. 

I don’t push him into anything and just reply that it’s fine I understand but still try to just let him know what we are doing and he is welcome to come over. I even offered to play video games with him and nothing. 

I understand the 20-year-olds need for space and developing his own independence and I’m not his mother. He is kind of stuck in this area where he doesn’t really have a Wish to go to college. And he was injured in Boot Camp for the Marines and was just discharged and then rejected by the army because of the injury. He is looking into gun smithing so he is not completely lost. 

Do I keep giving him space? Anything I can do to build our relationship? ",2.187208343439241,3.9628768986175134,3.328726655348049,91.53940577249577,77.24884792626726,6.5960708222168325,23.863448944943,7.475848149327749,0.886673732718894,825,27,182,11,19,266,130,217,0.111,0.7809999999999999,0.108,-0.2177,1,3,0,1,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,12,12,0,2,6,0,22,1,0,2,1,39,42,16,0,4,6,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,6,19,0,3,4,3,0,5,8,5,0,0,4,3,21,7,28,37,2,25,0,2,2,0,36,13,0,0,9,112,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844061438530153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624496647314839,0.0,0.1490767999736018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972074391687676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27472728501388555,0.16719439363809788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532410493565623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331546679641988,0.0,0.1503279489851582,0.0,0.08062951177254599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297187191944958,0.18125350719501487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173844145978912,0.0,0.16605664450879631,0.08763694191221237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306218183074073,0.0,0.1558115739364177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390913628982853,0.0,0.17407319309468186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824012778517065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300948124052507,0.0,0.3346601327356257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770652902439067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525849858525743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215636950687487,0.0,0.0,0.17120406800755336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707172402400402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127347717334193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826521524458686,0.17345044275849772,0.0,0.3320141509223184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405567449614767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833750979934363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053784674560719
parenting,TheCoolerBean,2019/01/30,"I am a father of a soon to be born Trisomy 13 baby. Just looking for advice.

My wife is over 6mo pregnant and the baby has what the doctor has concluded as more of the severe abnormalities. 

At first we thought we knew what we were in for; understanding the unavoidable circumstances. But, the further along we get, the harder everything becomes. I believe the stress and anxiety had boiled over into everything else we do.

Living day to day wondering if this is the last day she kicks or waiting for the phone call from a crying wife is tough. Just looking for... Honestly I don't know. It's hard to know what to ask for when you've never experienced anything like this.",4.650078740157476,6.500045858267717,5.437015748031494,78.70198031496064,70.73228346456693,8.54456692913386,29.23543307086614,9.120678840339163,2.597258897637796,532,21,96,11,10,173,86,127,0.11,0.857,0.033,-0.8306,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,12,0,11,2,0,1,1,23,22,7,0,1,5,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,9,1,1,7,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,4,4,10,2,19,17,1,15,0,0,2,0,12,6,0,3,10,70,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780144713125796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935959495950612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991043499025042,0.0,0.1703044121154579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011925155471835,0.0,0.20524327170241824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860159959982048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20010525353298986,0.3524538485755938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18645877251348494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217970704600658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274454016203554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495375739576311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517633597420072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318858919797538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200231798302603,0.14849291034291828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899908806978904,0.0,0.16085949781331838,0.0,0.3059539343045504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050077836186464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580031172919905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20867518476900648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446226766401399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896454538762938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975556559279431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jassdsu,2019/01/30,"Some Feedback on our Health Product for Kids. My wife and I have been working on a product for three years- the goal is to help reduce the amount of sugar and candy our kids eat.  If you anyone has time to give us feedback it would
be appreciated.  Any marketing tips or suggestions?  

http://switcherookangaroo.com/
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parenting,Heather66204,2019/01/30,"My (34F) DD (4F) hates going to Grandmas everyday. Help me help her! I was a SAHM for almost 4 years. I started working full time last November, so DD goes to Grandma and Grandpa’s Monday thru Friday, unless I happen to have an odd day off during the week. Every single morning, she whines, cries, begs to not have to go to grandmas. She does the wet noodle when I try to get her pajamas off and clean clothes on. We have discussed with her why she has to go to grandmas. I have been very compassionate with her and coddled her, we have bought crafts and games that she gets to pick for Grandmas house only. She gets to take her tablet so she can do her ABC Mouse while she’s there. I don’t know what else to do to help her adjust (which really, it’s nearly February, shouldn’t she have gotten used to it by now??) but I’m at a loss at how to help her be comfortable with going. It’s really starting to drag me down; I dread mornings and having to wake her and get her ready. I need help! Has anyone else been through this? What worked for you? Any ideas?? 


TLDR; 4 year old hates going to grandmas everyday. I need help finding a way to help her adjust and be comfortable. ",3.2470809792843696,4.565016627118645,4.123333333333335,88.85264595103581,73.40677966101694,6.9393596986817325,23.704331450094166,7.3871296695380915,0.8645506591337089,908,25,191,10,18,292,132,236,0.08199999999999999,0.769,0.14800000000000002,0.9562,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,1,0,3,6,8,2,1,6,0,19,1,1,3,0,27,41,14,0,3,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,12,0,0,5,1,1,5,3,5,0,0,5,1,35,3,36,33,2,29,0,2,0,0,34,8,0,1,15,122,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088017371502895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209138428346789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844078090347818,0.12368835713954625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260144679939298,0.0778521793339339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563985447878307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20168635227242002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170888835999853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033272728505383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522776314648526,0.0,0.3430299476864889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674923444659397,0.0,0.0,0.23836517530313825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5663962481716397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392906752678057,0.0,0.1362742759034685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634265138319352,0.09840008896956473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901956426123772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667169822158614,0.0,0.0,0.09181036561094287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466820865466252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088757154592218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076381199794957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039078313868989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195860415911119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426032861255366,0.0,0.09960378497028584,0.0,0.0958191676846091,0.09683152397321708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892789782504296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576615242040666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547498316065744
parenting,whimsical_potatoes,2019/01/30,"Has anyone NOT “sleep trained” their child? Hi all. I’m a bit nervous posting this as I know I’m not parent of the year. In fact, this is my first child and I don’t really know what the hell I’m doing. Maybe I’ll give a TL;DR before going into detail with my situation. 

**TL;DR: I am in a one bedroom apartment and share a room (And often a bed) with a needy, breastfed 6 month old. Up until recently, he fell asleep in his side-car crib while I watched tv and relaxed. However, he wasn’t sleeping well so I have given him the bedroom and myself the living room. It’s been about a week with little to no progress. My anxiety is at an all-time high, and I’m wondering if I should just give up and let myself in my own bedroom again?** 

That wasn’t a very good summary so maybe I should move on to my story. 

First of all, I am a 23 year old stay-at home mom with a general anxiety disorder. I am not medicated as I didn’t like what it did to me. So, I manage my anxiety by giving myself “my time.” Up until recently, it was time in my bedroom. I had a whole ritual. I would get my fuzziest blankets, my fuzziest pajamas, a glass of wine and some cheese, and would sit in front of my 55 inch tv and decompress until bedtime. I’m laughing right now at how foolish that sounds, having a 55 inch tv in the room with a baby. But maybe I didn’t want to admit it was a problem because I enjoyed it so much. Frasier is even funnier on a big screen. Sometimes my anxiety gets so bad from a hard day that I repeat to myself “Bed, tv, wine (or sometimes tea, popcorn, whatever), pajamas.” It was one thing I had for myself at the end of the day. My husband would come home from work and watch our son for the evening. It was my time. 

Well, lately our son has woken up at 3 am *ready* to play. I mean energy at a 10! The only thing to get him to sleep is breastfeeding him (because he still demands to nurse at least 2-3 times a night) and having his head on my chest while I gently pat his back. This often takes hours. So, we resolved that the big screen had to go out in the living room, and my evenings would be spent there while our son got the bedroom with peace and quiet. 

We will put him to bed around 7, we will usually struggle with “Cry It Out” until 7:30, and I hang out in the living room, until I’m ready to use my bedroom strictly for sleep. 

I am actually shocked at how negatively this has affected my anxiety. Perhaps you have to have an anxiety disorder to understand, but this small change has completely thrown off my evenings. I don’t completely decompress. I do not feel at ease. I want to be in my own bed for the evening, and being out in the living room is surprisingly stressing me out. Perhaps because it is less closed-off.

What’s more, I haven’t been this exhausted since our son was a newborn. Seriously. I am a zombie. I am constantly fighting with my husband, we aren’t having sex (this is often the one thing we indulged in at the end of the day together), and the house is a wreck. If I was treading water before, now I am sinking.

Even worse, sleep training doesn’t seem to be working. Perhaps his internal clock has improved. He will know when it is time for bed (about 7:30). However, come 3am, he is up again for play, or to demand me. Early this morning, I found myself patting his back for an hour again and wondering “Why am I doing this?” **If I could choose between not sleeping and having my bedroom, and not sleeping and not having my bedroom, I’ll pick the former. **

I talked to a couple of my friends about this, who are also young moms, and they basically said, “It’s not worth the anxiety. If it makes no difference, have your tv time in your bedroom.” (Albeit maybe a smaller tv!) I find this advice liberating, but I don’t want to create a greater problem down the road. And, as I always worry, I don’t want to be selfish. 

So what do you all think? I know I haven’t given this new setup a long time at all, but I’m already coming apart at the seams. Though sleep is scarce, I was at least getting by before. Does anyone have any insight or helpful stories? 

I really hope I don’t come across as prissy. I don’t have any family nearby or friends I trust with my son. It’s just my husband and me. Though I want to do what’s best for my son, my anxiety often seeps into the next day if I don’t decompress fully. I love my son, but I need to take care of myself too, even if that just means so I can take care of him.

Thanks for any insight! And please be gentle. I dunno if I’ve made any huge mistakes as a parent already. I’m honestly trying my best. ",1.8965911978451968,3.7044493201707596,3.6709227778624793,88.61174270722168,78.21024546424759,6.5536870457895,24.068315800172787,7.492282038375204,1.0699374498145051,3531,121,747,49,84,1184,352,937,0.086,0.785,0.129,0.9935,5,0,2,0,3,0,145.0,9,4,2,8,44,36,2,3,54,0,88,19,11,7,5,133,146,68,0,24,27,14,2,1,2,9,2,3,22,3,39,51,4,0,19,11,2,11,26,13,2,5,25,9,116,23,111,104,17,129,2,0,4,2,61,62,1,21,55,524,155,3,0.0,0.0,0.04851439610128883,0.0,0.0,0.04858064982443236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972286135485852,0.039756844291156015,0.04136663029884542,0.0,0.0,0.1352308598357329,0.0,0.3042530029152331,0.0,0.0,0.06952337746680333,0.0,0.0,0.04425664167697649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645510323268874,0.041509715312825934,0.09091689715890199,0.0,0.12691069730781412,0.0,0.10434506472580256,0.0,0.0542755991531594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013749424096223,0.0,0.052591582707803314,0.1712993198321453,0.10424987786890756,0.053723951745628974,0.0,0.03969315926393455,0.05500839301598758,0.05460928641495491,0.12824752857205454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051941302034725134,0.11395475431907648,0.0,0.04350568722521987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806497309964717,0.0,0.0,0.2298527296905886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04686661430738031,0.0,0.025137256614931762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045438354186043466,0.08457463229273603,0.0,0.05450962535683541,0.07681893999047168,0.0,0.10389555894961508,0.1430726708411616,0.056508043054638,0.04169834913832547,0.0397614037787684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044534624902766315,0.0,0.0510216462750967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03332272943506564,0.05252633209086637,0.09973583697825876,0.049377935240387874,0.09791797151121072,0.057364113018613765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928764167689023,0.0,0.0560803705238852,0.0,0.0,0.05083667033025077,0.0,0.02428810141294789,0.04982721080350717,0.17559603725656503,0.043995963508875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044869476546828164,0.04704127090673304,0.033184962199197955,0.0,0.19978047676984434,0.10830781072056496,0.0,0.050082350988423015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164505603781603,0.03968181586523276,0.0528388805265576,0.03654604006359129,0.03686283556699138,0.0,0.04801478717549184,0.05287216961035128,0.0466538977370843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433447320249001,0.0,0.1010639443967883,0.037810285426935916,0.0,0.0,0.11040462829576456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05457183442750765,0.0,0.0,0.0476129601428034,0.0,0.0,0.09514054744079173,0.0,0.049977025738263806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06369704637151169,0.0,0.09817457839398004,0.0,0.0,0.042456099957367814,0.0472900840716034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525841469480719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04112453081333112,0.05588142918487079,0.3980049937030355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833826021794913,0.0,0.0,0.052989277657142966,0.039702240278793176,0.0,0.056948044749187986,0.05197262044098713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213784898609057,0.039958809447862384,0.0,0.045770635562442236,0.0,0.0,0.09908475442063808,0.03185518571929631,0.09768892161199083,0.0,0.20292337460287085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033753032087695936,0.0,0.0,0.05175477767412673,0.0,0.0429375567487875,0.054753741358054255,0.04101985123650115,0.14661515206552395,0.0,0.03987815030894664,0.0,0.08939900905912318,0.0,0.04485980292436709,0.05550471039841645,0.0,0.0,0.10782698811737827,0.0723858177362251,0.05048771221898655,0.05066354777935933,0.1412636451876275,0.0,0.0,0.06402930051453634
parenting,linzrap,2019/01/30,"Bed wetting My 9 year old son still wets the bed.  We have tried everything! Medication from the doctor, setting alarms to wake him up in the middle of the night, limiting the amount of water he has at night, expensive pee alarms that should wake him up when he wets the bed, and more. Has anyone else had this problem? He will be 10 soon and it is hindering his ability to have sleep overs with his friends and is causing low self esteem. I am desperate to help him!",5.096849816849815,5.897017824175826,5.237087912087912,84.52874542124542,68.56043956043956,9.143589743589745,28.353479853479854,9.2995712137729,2.1646029304029297,366,12,75,7,6,115,66,91,0.121,0.799,0.08,-0.4954,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,2,6,0,11,7,4,1,0,9,11,4,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,2,2,0,3,1,3,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,8,1,12,7,2,15,0,1,0,0,13,7,0,0,7,47,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729207015801769,0.2533921652326787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540493231998522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531261153739846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065907522828982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22226088210261186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19106645105296616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576265315157754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24913275462884305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4641560880438269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25950393899933016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236636521579225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579919990547295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474825923711962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974972877746568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790317736935376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592556629163818
parenting,Mothra3,2019/01/30,"Long Distance Co-parenting? I (39F) have 3 kids (12,8,8) and split up with their dad (41m) almost 6 years ago. Since then my parents retired and moved out to the coast, where my brothers and their families live. I have always wanted to move out there and my ex and I used to talk about it before we split. I have no family here now and am very lonely, it’s hard taking care of everything all by myself! I have friends, but not super close ones who would be there if I need anything. My ex has never given me financial support, even though for the first 5 years he only takes them every second weekend, and honestly I don’t feel like I owe him anything but he is the only reason I am still here.  For the last year we have been sharing parenting week for week. My career is doing fairly well here and the kids have their schools and friends and of course their dad. I know I want to move out there sooner or later, but I just don’t know when. The kids are getting older and I am hoping that at some point it would be ok to go. 

I am looking for advice from anyone who has been in this circumstance. Can long distance co-parenting work? How do you arrange your time? What age would you recommend I make the move?",3.9949600580973126,4.946997370370372,4.552607116920843,87.88202614379088,71.18106995884773,7.363737593802954,24.582183490680226,7.5105763829236425,1.0081040426046963,943,25,196,10,17,300,149,243,0.036000000000000004,0.812,0.152,0.9832,5,2,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,3,5,3,16,12,0,0,7,1,27,0,0,4,2,43,45,20,0,8,7,7,2,1,2,3,0,0,0,3,8,18,0,0,4,1,1,5,5,1,1,3,3,3,33,11,21,37,2,34,0,1,1,0,29,9,0,5,21,136,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989544919318103,0.09968976541523177,0.0,0.11261330468648585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357644318733624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863524699394761,0.0,0.1850914082492859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569590731059503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466134019717668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427933628751772,0.0,0.09475312354538952,0.0,0.10107256795466947,0.0,0.2120361769587879,0.0,0.05686358904554785,0.08034205966620253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565914865020994,0.0,0.0,0.17377396035882572,0.0,0.058756156829968764,0.0,0.06391409745402286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100742839505575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169900759016113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236110932722131,0.09167060949490673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05494269476574733,0.0,0.0993049982893999,0.19904864138161468,0.09443879701156507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750684962123642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4781123785965103,0.0,0.08338830147001276,0.08673674694096385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620638811857429,0.17106310089025498,0.0,0.0,0.2497489486743604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631186168965047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115628492699234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138163926350252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302878415424007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981138673899082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761924931857935,0.0,0.0,0.1691131390847963,0.090391777989126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049222232045992,0.0,0.06557683088216876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713007345967174,0.0,0.09279198598133262,0.1326646560142473,0.0,0.18041863404597175,0.0,0.10111581765047332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187284427119268,0.0,0.0,0.23966690130737456,0.0,0.0,0.2172633167835266
parenting,MleMAP,2019/01/30,"Umbrella Stroller or Travel Stroller? I'm going on a trip with my 1 y/o soon, and I'm trying to decide on a lightweight stroller to take with us. We will be flying, but I don't necessarily need to bring the stroller to the gate or on the plane (can use carrier instead). Knowing that I will be using it in the future to take the kiddo around town on crowded public transit with stairs and to festivals, amusement parks, etc., what type of stroller would you recommend? I can't decide if a tri-fold travel stroller or an umbrella stroller would be a better fit for our needs. ",6.8683480825958725,6.199628061946907,6.8965929203539815,79.16164454277286,64.84070796460176,9.657227138643067,35.64749262536873,8.841846274778883,2.906676696165192,453,19,89,6,6,145,73,113,0.0,0.845,0.155,0.9532,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,10,0,10,0,0,2,0,21,21,7,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,3,7,0,0,3,3,0,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,17,14,1,17,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,4,2,58,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22119552254139666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197560375717407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771154226382448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412141278420238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365554190966358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36848228273227146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37364471053769466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33739657086897584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988849564498807,0.4292054228163377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35301916988467746,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WitsEndThrowaway128,2019/01/30,"Our six year old routinely won't do what we ask and it's making me resent her I'm at my wit's end with our just turned six year old daughter, after yet another morning of almost being late to school.  She just won't do what we ask of her.  She knows the routine, and yet I still have to tell her approximately TWENTY FUCKING TIMES to brush her teeth and go pee.  Today, it took her 33 minutes to pee, wash her hands, brush her teeth, and put on clothes.  Then, during the breakfast I have to tell her fifty fucking times to eat, she got peanut butter ALL OVER herself, all up her sleeve and down the front of her shirt.  And that was it:  I lost it, because I'm so tired of this shitty kid who never fucking listens and constantly stalls, and now we're behind YET AGAIN even though we woke up a half hour earlier than usual.  During dinner, she gets up from her seat and runs around the house about a thousand times, and no matter how many times we put her back in her seat, no matter how many times we tell her that she needs to sit down while we're eating dinner, she gets up again.  After dinner, her dad will take her upstairs so that they can pee, wash hands, brush, floss, and do a shower (every other night).  He basically has to threaten her with bodily harm to get her to cooperate.  She will stall, dance around, try to hug us, play in the mirror, do everything but the task at hand.  Sometimes, we can get her to cooperate if we turn things into a game, but honestly, we don't always have the energy for that.  And of course we don't want to yell and threaten her either, but that is often the only thing that works.  Her behavior is draining, it eats up a huge amount of time, and it's making me feel resentful of her.  This morning, I actually swore at her, said ""I don't like you right now,""  and told her that she was acting like a jerk.  Now I feel terribly guilty.  I normally adore my sweet little girl.  If she sucks, it's my fault.  She's only six, and I'm her mother.  I don't know what to do.  Something needs to change.  I could really use some advice. ",4.606129807692309,4.865862737980769,5.201442307692306,86.2685576923077,69.45673076923077,8.13076923076923,24.413461538461537,7.882392219407189,1.0325076923076923,1593,35,343,18,26,513,208,416,0.113,0.821,0.066,-0.9467,1,0,1,0,0,0,61.0,12,1,1,2,22,18,7,0,14,0,25,23,9,5,3,60,59,28,0,7,8,3,5,2,0,4,3,3,1,2,23,30,7,0,4,3,0,8,9,11,0,5,8,13,64,7,48,45,5,61,0,1,0,4,66,20,4,5,34,228,87,2,0.0,0.0,0.09144726401780852,0.0,0.0,0.0915721490457458,0.0,0.0,0.09383684581112513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797407504707864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826291429539212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668432103133404,0.17521205882190294,0.0,0.0,0.07205706524957396,0.0,0.057124634928374614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913256137320314,0.0,0.0,0.10126702163014292,0.0,0.07481966398863439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876656137682225,0.0,0.0,0.08299908370446249,0.0,0.0,0.061894450620815174,0.0,0.07895456286452635,0.0,0.08422034147120587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476499872531652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598996486103329,0.19583804752937725,0.0,0.053257448794770144,0.0,0.07494830156154675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228529377320292,0.10812854760488752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300092988320976,0.0,0.10570875578471883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156376667098816,0.09392185552729722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229533553585364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510406161978102,0.1900140930935321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896928447802193,0.07227478823676271,0.0,0.0,0.08794031559035828,0.09181572461308213,0.0,0.0,0.196665379430614,0.0,0.0,0.1425410777785133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884084987050023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003290862910975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002767207205823,0.08913949571775442,0.0,0.0,0.09483933817771187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214239571280386,0.09268140560203582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483678125752903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045812038424157,0.0,0.24571953261000495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451327751218565,0.0,0.0920694198441172,0.0,0.32785768886209155,0.10770564987630336,0.0888259497318157,0.08954374640996872,0.10411505520724178,0.063622814767823,0.20385874384658453,0.0,0.0,0.11272137219488347,0.08093519457787694,0.10320812468692712,0.0,0.05527247826379078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682218631748947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069210006868154
parenting,morgan4609,2019/01/30,My 14 month old always wants my food Whenever my 14 month old sees me eating he runs up to me and starts screaming for some. If I give him some of his food he’ll throw it and wait for mine. I tried to show him my food is gross because I hate to share and I gave him a small piece of a spicy Cheeto and he loved it! Is anyone else’s toddler/baby like this,0.6084267631103089,2.045374037974682,2.1050994575045223,100.07113924050631,80.77215189873421,5.020614828209767,16.349005424954793,5.288315135182226,-0.983851356238698,275,4,70,1,7,89,52,79,0.118,0.778,0.105,-0.2714,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,2,5,0,0,0,9,11,5,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,2,15,3,8,9,3,9,0,0,1,1,11,2,0,3,6,38,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535813131086454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905923840015654,0.1891190560913447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251529996161796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888664605171796,0.15418885596982074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.669567022126175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706130520345115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822297506446724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017409639045693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658628166654835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946522519765418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38736114789085024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708249972903809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306432431309819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253144128969884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886720727878757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,COOKIEEE,2019/01/30,"Games/Apps/etc to help kido understand time? Just curious if anyone has suggestion for books, games, apps and etc. Anything that will help my kido better visualize and understand time.

Exemple: I like to tell him 'theres two days left before X', but just pointing at, and counting, the empty box on the calendar isn't very interesting to him. Same thing with '15 minutes before bed' - i'd like to have something interactive showing progress.",5.2760439560439565,7.927874076923079,5.699304029304031,74.04807692307695,71.05128205128206,9.072527472527472,31.655677655677657,9.606745405546679,3.533598534798536,350,16,56,9,7,112,60,78,0.064,0.746,0.19,0.8219,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,6,5,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,8,5,2,7,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,5,31,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216721706116456,0.0,0.16731638431019474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460234779331865,0.0,0.0,0.17982146644293573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131125636414651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4535147450180553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27256441682094584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090955507669324,0.0,0.0,0.19866536473875412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922046676876635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652693066801113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777120737609778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507786207977066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371169648879243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19861569696681333,0.42332999227853535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776164527797582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jimmy155,2019/01/30,"Why being a parent you should think about it! Being a parent our first concern is health of our children. We want to protect them from everything that is not good for them. I always preach my kids that they should use Eco products like [**Eco friendly crayons**](https://www.crayonblocks.com) or bamboo stick tooth brushes, organic mattress etc. In the market we live in, there are millions (more like billions) of products we can choose from. But our choice is often motivated by price but there is an emerging growing consciousness with regards to the product itself and its impact on the environment while or after using it.   
In my opinion we should use Eco friendly products for our kids, so that they can also learn to protect environment and this will also build a sense of responsibility in them.   
Any thoughts?",7.137922077922077,9.593778714285717,6.0622077922077935,74.26824675324677,65.42857142857143,7.376623376623378,32.01298701298701,8.00094639256281,2.5243571428571427,660,27,100,8,11,198,91,140,0.011,0.85,0.139,0.9422,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,8,1,5,2,7,5,0,0,7,0,13,2,1,4,0,27,19,10,0,4,5,2,0,2,2,4,1,0,1,3,8,7,0,2,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,17,5,19,12,2,9,1,0,0,0,21,5,0,4,5,83,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119237012790397,0.16227686908148145,0.0,0.0,0.13262405215751824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750502525798124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17527637639393304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588862125138848,0.0,0.0,0.3013524905885285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635781666321226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20730302491109165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905592514910115,0.0,0.17221112127850707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331055559157175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496448865163685,0.0,0.154828490981621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5053183368960182,0.0,0.0,0.1150311140415157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759802119144754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_garbage_man9898,2019/01/30,"Help! My 5 year old son soils his pants often My son has turned 5 years and got into school now. He often soils his pants, saying he is not able to control his poops before getting into toilet.

He very well knows he shouldn't do it. But, says he is not able to control it. His bowel movements are also not regular. I always have the nightmare before he gets back home.

Help pls. Advice needed. Thanks.",1.1215189873417728,3.675660708860765,2.278341772151901,92.79877848101269,87.48101265822784,3.666329113924052,15.49493670886076,4.935628992294339,-0.8076643037974685,312,6,60,1,10,99,55,79,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.883,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,7,2,2,2,0,14,14,3,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,2,7,2,4,12,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,2,5,32,9,1,0.3649872827042177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17833067422724744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14594009905614486,0.15184932886575653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403263455395586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31057729499768033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093642730513665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19069079091839908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595683610068802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24464328199491445,0.0,0.1830560018981749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029373266608717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531672269405548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914963778642922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902525367232385,0.0,0.18469330791885585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801562616305174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985006774227828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057636639573524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640837001808005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350398434833971
parenting,BebedeParis,2019/01/30,"BebedeParis new website Hi folks,

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parenting,disposabledad2019,2019/01/30,"I am tired, angry and lost. And I need parental advice. For those who don’t want to read a rant, here’s the **tl;dr:** my kid chose to go with my ex and I’m angry and sad and lost. I don’t know what I did wrong and I don’t know how to go about this feeling. *I need advise.*

**RANT:**
I [39M] had raised my kid for the first 15 years. 5 years ago, the mother and I decided to go our separate ways. After 2 years, my kid decided to go with the mother. It has been 3 years now and I still cannot come to terms with that decision.

While I respect the decision, I find myself angry. I’m angry I’ve been left alone. I find myself lacking. I cannot understand where I’ve fallen short. I did my best to give the best quality of life. I never failed to show how much I love(d) my kid.

I haven’t seen my kid in over 2 years. Every time I reach out, the whole exchange feels “transactional”. I get nonchalant responses. I don’t even get a message unless I send a message first. The only time I do, it’s about something the game set up under my email address. So I have decided to give up as I find this an exercise in futility. I will still be here for the kid, but I am done trying to reach out.

**For the parents who live separately from their kids,** how do you deal with this? Am I wrong to feel this way? Is this normal? Is my kid’s behaviour normal?",-1.4064912280701731,0.5711974736842116,1.2884210526315805,97.10561403508773,100.57894736842104,4.63859649122807,15.105263157894735,6.42735559955562,-0.4136105263157899,1020,25,240,15,45,348,140,285,0.109,0.838,0.053,-0.9224,2,1,1,0,0,0,56.0,1,1,1,7,13,9,0,0,15,0,24,3,0,3,1,41,47,16,0,6,2,5,3,0,0,1,3,0,1,8,12,15,0,0,14,4,1,8,8,6,0,2,9,4,41,3,34,36,6,39,0,4,1,0,28,11,0,0,17,155,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697888432173626,0.0970440537867044,0.0,0.0,0.11338433613883706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297770542219408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430406029428454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286516430719028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203217104796084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230800349365851,0.0,0.09223842768108344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660633818583965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001778148587551,0.18624081475434864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439360138841935,0.21003911034307668,0.24887140962653626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203305227389886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894622130924047,0.0,0.07732628395281871,0.0,0.0,0.09666949816909357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390124285818907,0.0,0.0988065527823778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047761004658717,0.1623504434849718,0.08443480130946895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21452688147337146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326159006678686,0.0,0.0,0.24312074872857864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950583473193164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428013414643687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748556837114486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127672915605406,0.12582679754690956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432715964621553,0.0,0.0,0.113968594366415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645719044488501,0.1737942378773346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222262776328156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393900971707797,0.0,0.3524954461138842
parenting,AltitudinousOne,2019/01/30,"My daughter is 7 and considers herself smart. I have questions. Ive always been very wary of the word 'gifted' and if I had the choice between raising a child with good values, and raising a child with a razor sharp IQ, I would always choose the former. I dont even now what gifted means, and I think labelling a kid with that risks doing them more harm than good. 

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So Ms 7 tends to think she's great at everything she does. Doesnt matter what it is; first attempt at a cartwheel and falling over - she's amazing; the best first cartwheel ever; First attempt at throwing a frizbee - amazing, best throw ever. She's been doing Tae Kwan Do for a few months and is still a white belt. Needless to say shes the best white belt in the class. 

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I guess what I would like to see her doing is being less obsessed with her own excellence at everything she does and to start to get a bit more perspective about what it means to be a beginner at something, and it being perfectly ok to be starting out, having a go, and just giving things your best shot. 

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Today she was talking about reading something (she's admittedly good at reading) and she talked about not wanting to boast about it but everyone says she's so smart. 

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I mean, its nice to think we're smart. I like to think Im smart sometimes. What I would like to see her doing here is not being so convinced of her own intellectual prowess on this matter, and to be able to get some perspective on it that she is still a beginner, and even though she has read a lot more probably than many other kids, there are still kids that are way ahead of her; the important thing being to do your best, and not get too hung up on comparing yourself to others. 

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Thanks for reading this long post. Needless to say we do have conversations with her about this, but I feel like we havent done too well at teaching her humility. Dont get me wrong - I really do want her feeling good about herself, but I would prefer her to think more realistically about the actual extent of her talents.",6.936584090909093,6.6351858175000045,6.6344090909090925,79.88095454545456,64.575,9.272727272727273,32.68181818181819,8.575989854853784,2.438025000000001,1637,58,315,20,22,513,183,400,0.025,0.746,0.229,0.9979,1,0,2,0,0,0,59.0,2,2,1,13,25,32,0,2,21,1,42,0,0,0,3,58,68,21,0,8,8,1,3,4,0,4,0,3,0,5,21,21,0,0,14,4,0,4,7,4,1,3,5,10,45,28,53,52,17,38,0,0,4,0,44,14,0,5,22,236,66,7,0.06077407107684332,0.0,0.059306726605850624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011377912905216,0.32924340310310524,0.3692357420596597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31889319066462424,0.0,0.06634954526950504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063675982971668,0.06219297501840417,0.14245351736079412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802814015446796,0.10994725334047467,0.0,0.05807222932952321,0.10923963269828373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145839278594106,0.043417008520530466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508318143454305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700777512147918,0.058300026770268375,0.034539305131987635,0.2038976296519357,0.0,0.0670036279135382,0.06694949102050013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564642564594778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876456524496308,0.0,0.0,0.053783140454519915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05166794192818402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061615369204278216,0.0,0.19860233979637607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04850928371507741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820476058671351,0.0,0.06552472760544667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680808684056281,0.0,0.2431620696143417,0.0,0.038933426140855085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498994183871874,0.0,0.0,0.09685813240547347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357369813485386,0.06010711028397168,0.0,0.08603240062123375,0.0,0.14560275500110526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769579250133956,0.0,0.05595259939359882,0.0,0.0,0.0807511847131429,0.19470785398302776,0.059710216266185785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760671325523675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050144973414009135,0.07169224344601705,0.048239628820637766,0.0,0.0,0.05464318857060379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268862559882395,0.06644690624901821,0.3692357420596597,0.0
parenting,RichChef,2019/01/30,"How to teach my son (3M) to get in the tub w/ hands and knees first? Ok so my son (3M) really likes to take a bath surprisingly but he doesn't like when the watear touches his penis and testocles, like most men don't. I'm trying to show him how most guys get in the water, with hands and knees first and then roll over, but he keeps just sliding down into the watyer and then freaking out when the water touch his penis and tesicles. 

How have you other fathers tought your sons how to get in a bath? Seems like no matter how I do it and show him how the correct way to get in, hands and knees first and then roll over into the water, he just wants to try and sit down and then freak out when the water touches his penis and testicles. 

Any advice? ",7.25458791208791,4.770237480769231,7.170659340659344,83.34576923076925,65.21794871794873,9.683516483516485,28.695970695970693,6.868970318607317,1.3296970695970698,581,10,130,3,7,186,79,156,0.116,0.845,0.039,-0.9381,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,3,12,8,0,0,10,1,4,10,6,6,1,34,13,28,0,1,4,4,6,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,17,4,1,1,4,0,1,3,2,0,3,0,6,10,6,20,13,2,25,0,0,0,0,16,12,0,3,14,82,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20595448719336346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332559615216825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5378229321664262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404584261936816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20868781999779407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733522246307946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41187126886790576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501973078362242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187008867398392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846702522068734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861875433929021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431306937045412,0.1672933091708978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thebureau1,2019/01/30,"PSA: Facebook is paying teens to download an app that records their online activity https://www.google.com/9to5mac.com/2019/01/29/facebook-paying-teens-vpn/

Facebook has repackaged an app that Apple pulled from the App Store in August and is now bypassing the App Store by paying kids to download and use the app for ""research"". The app creates a VPN that intercepts all device activity and allows it to be tracked by FB.

This may not be as relevant to those of us with <10 year olds, but it's downright scary if you have a phone-using kid.

Search your kids' phones and remove the Facebook Research app and any related root certificates installed with that name. 


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parenting,marckolind,2019/01/30,"Started A Kids channel on Youtube, and need some advice from someone who actually HAS kids. Okay, so this is a very odd post, and I'm sorry if it is against the rules here, but I'm a person who loves everything about art, paintings, and drawings.   
Painting makes me feel relaxed and I use it as a way to escape stress. I decided to make a Youtube channel out of it, targetting kids - But here's the thing. I don't know if my attempts are too ""try hard"", like in the video here: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1msCGCdjoWEI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1msCGCdjoWE)  


\- I try to explain, and engage with the kid watching. Please note, that I'm NOT a native english speaker, and that I had to pitch my voice to make it sound ""okay"". 

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What do you guys think? Would your kids even like this? Or should I keep it more simple, and only voice over numbers and colors?   


Again, I apologize if this post is against the rules, but I thought this would be a good sub to ask in, as I assume there's a lot of parents here. ;)   


Regards. Marc   
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parenting,nathanHALEhuskies,2019/01/30,"City vs. Suburban Living—How did you make a decision? I live in a middle to lower middle class area in a city that I love. My husband and I own a bungalow that’s perfect for a family of 3, maybe someday 4. 

The issues: 

the public school system is terrible. The area is mostly great, but there are a few issues with cars being broken into and other issues you normally wouldn’t have to deal with in the suburbs. It was fine when it was just my husband and I but now we have a toddler and hope to have another soon—I don’t think I’d be comfortable with them being outside by themselves when they’re older. 



What we like: 

Diversity of the neighborhood, being in an actual city, we love our neighbors, owning our house outright, and other things that I feel we would miss out on moving to the suburbs. 


Parents of reddit, how did you decide where to move, what were your most important factors? any regrets?
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parenting,edielakelady,2019/01/30,"3.5 year old obsessed with food... I am a ftm,so I don't know what's normal per se, but I have a lot of friends and my wonderful son seems an outlier...simply put, he loves food, and he doesn't discriminate! For instance,tonight he ate what we were eating: organic greens with wild salmon and red onions and capers, a little broccoli with cheddar cheese, a homemade blueberry muffin...he was begging for more, as always...

Never in his life have I seen him leave any food unfinished--I am getting worried he doesn't know how to stop or follow his hunger. He will eat until he gets a belly ache, unless we monitor his portions. We give him really healthy food, but he gets cookies, cheese, yummy stuff, but not junk--we don't really eat fried food or chips, etc...if we have something like pizza at a restaurant from time to time, he loses it--we have to hide the leftovers or he wants more. 

He has also started begging for food constantly at home, even right after meals, which I think is boredom? It's so hard to know. He goes to school 3 days a week and we stick to their meal and snack schedule to be consistent. He's not overweight right now, I don't think. All of my friends say he looks slim.
 
At his 3 year appt. his dr. said he was gaining too rapidly on his growth curve, so we have really tried to be careful with portions...any thoughts? It's all sort of nervewracking, especially when we go to unpredictable places like playgroups or holiday parties...

I have starting talking to him about what 'hungry' means, because he says he's hungry minutes after a huge meal...idk!",4.841773614363781,5.893503216393444,5.008056206088996,85.0257923497268,69.29508196721312,7.776736924277909,29.60577673692428,7.957251820313856,1.877315378610461,1231,46,241,15,21,386,178,305,0.075,0.7609999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.9877,0,0,1,0,0,0,66.0,7,0,1,2,9,8,0,1,10,0,21,19,0,1,3,45,45,21,0,2,10,1,1,2,2,1,3,3,1,0,7,17,16,1,9,1,0,4,8,2,0,0,7,8,26,6,32,35,6,32,0,1,4,1,42,10,0,8,20,125,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310828166861917,0.07606849370191025,0.0,0.0,0.12433702884913822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055728585810724415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320845222958736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879219205143162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895812789796642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806354537193579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195710416167177,0.060381833633678626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6632702087861578,0.0,0.1412612294169804,0.0,0.1432890221149308,0.08769808323095102,0.05195590849623759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189407281809867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917013886824518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072558888414908,0.0,0.0,0.09680023666060728,0.0,0.0,0.06457242058355515,0.08932607157096628,0.09162653191251427,0.0,0.0,0.07676950299669448,0.10227523291733767,0.0,0.07772173912449419,0.08250982662722886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995828274885486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050848978299054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957187200040066,0.0,0.0,0.09592957125537548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955141034731027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190202441307953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175697355660978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614380716453208,0.08696104653377998,0.14540119094773413,0.0,0.09252159252301256,0.0,0.08322503932031593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037933275395411,0.0,0.0,0.12941463406132067,0.0,0.0,0.07643094242948377,0.0,0.0,0.10465365676847584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347967245244508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171560737123471,0.0,0.07257701086898602,0.1066150962152954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062067958889436926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392169335974272,0.0,0.07333134953718007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991407386490902,0.0,0.09284111834124976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774254774297313
parenting,TorieT,2019/01/31,My son's stepmother spanked him for bullying My son is 13 in the 8th grade. His dad has main custody and I get him every other weekend. Well my son has apparently been bullying another student who has a speech defect. He got ISS for 3 days and when he went home his stepmother spanked him. He told me it was with her hand and there wasn't bruising but he said it hurt a lot and he was crying. Then she made him write an apology letter which he has to give to the other student and she grounded him with no electronics for 2 weeks. I'm LIVID. Yes I'm upset at what my son did and he deserved to be punished but this woman doesn't have the right to touch my kid. His father supports what she did and I just don't know what to do?? because I'm 2 seconds from cussing everyone out.,1.1280392156862753,3.307128419753088,2.7672113289760354,92.19598039215693,82.7037037037037,6.033986928104575,23.72694262890341,7.285733465282438,0.950107770515614,612,23,133,9,17,201,100,162,0.179,0.755,0.066,-0.972,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,1,1,6,1,16,1,1,1,0,17,28,11,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,10,10,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,4,1,1,11,4,20,2,14,16,2,11,0,1,0,0,34,5,0,1,5,84,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560735077586155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488670038989997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682511537799669,0.15749403520616992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057558745457998,0.2333513249171349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758866389992096,0.2342666821407913,0.0,0.0,0.1953155431938556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24496065686825996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614298443546173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342103967031923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207617011502498,0.0,0.2310756287881361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085524009968135,0.2322978461605617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771244817047557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333513249171349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195889024253142,0.0,0.21957242898826945,0.2263833747762152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jejunum12,2019/01/31,"First time vacationing with a 1 year old We are planning on taking a trip to Disneyland in April and it's going to be the first time travelling so far with a 1 year old. 

We are going to be taking a 5 hour flight and renting a car to drive. 

I'm nervous about the flight given that we will be picking her up from daycare and going straight to the airport the day of. 

Just looking for any advice for flying, driving and any other  general vacationing advice is much appreciated.

Thanks",5.52498245614035,6.0975023578947365,6.608157894736844,75.88627192982459,67.52631578947367,8.85964912280702,31.62280701754386,8.841846274778883,2.598438596491228,384,15,71,6,6,129,62,95,0.023,0.888,0.08900000000000001,0.7184,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,9,0,7,0,0,1,0,12,16,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,9,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,1,0,2,1,1,4,1,15,11,1,24,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,11,47,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937699240293738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740280625948052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993861693204234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427593769646742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435189921463764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841826088382486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919334784873366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14811176334015766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228409637897352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029773681198127,0.0,0.0,0.18549669213291164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23497045513838197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594943963324961
parenting,yoimprisonmike,2019/01/31,"Toddler scared to put on helmet I have a 3-year old who loves four-wheelers and snowmobiles. Talks about them constantly, always asks dad if he can help work in them, etc. We bought him a snowmobiling helmet for when he's ready to ride. Well, he wants to go riding but when we tried on the helmet he freaked out. I can understand how at first, it's probably really weird and scary to have such a huge thing over your head. But now my husband and I are unsure of whether we make him put it on again, or wait. We already decided he can't go riding without a helmet, so that's not an option. I don't want to traumatized my child, but I also don't know if he just needs a little nudge forward and he'll get over it?",3.7667346938775514,4.465891285714289,4.672251700680273,87.74715306122452,71.51700680272108,8.05687074829932,24.90408163265306,8.238735603445708,1.2454930612244892,557,15,122,8,10,181,98,147,0.108,0.8009999999999999,0.091,-0.5316,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,1,2,2,11,5,0,1,7,0,8,2,1,2,0,29,22,16,0,5,10,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,1,3,0,1,8,5,3,1,1,1,0,16,2,17,20,1,25,0,0,0,1,24,11,0,4,8,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21171828048428534,0.15342747367082427,0.15963987318879536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17935981180019325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073285830127804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21397057292666413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319293445782812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023703729173758,0.0,0.2180727983454137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968999911860683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859728391913255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543924615300494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19229049010175894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731578688966406,0.0,0.12806562001746588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225907096566595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132099171406465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068536216223299,0.0,0.0,0.3857372956690783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122908106507442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920817008639373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420688673329122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274608504196121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302578847561464,0.0,0.0,0.19972925242215075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263237214557403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250192203594505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18494269896769486,0.0,0.1396737259065643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235492151604278
parenting,ireaditonreddit2016,2019/01/31,"What could your kids do that doesn’t seem obvious to ease your stress? My dad is pretty stressed around the house right now, but won’t let me help him. How can I lend a hand in a way that will help without interfering with his duties?

I’m 17 and he’s 66. ",1.1116363636363644,2.7838132545454566,2.2163636363636385,98.76454545454548,80.0909090909091,5.854545454545455,18.272727272727273,6.742157984588678,-0.3616181818181817,199,4,50,2,5,63,49,55,0.06,0.6809999999999999,0.259,0.9187,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,2,3,0,8,1,1,1,1,10,10,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,7,0,5,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,1,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298126531301928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061157353091614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460716661199305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978761719763751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639809448302005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626364103607444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22046293173300566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23501458681378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5914312861744432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20491139709802764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488521764142195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Swampwich,2019/01/31,"Has anyone dealt with a homeschool co op graduation? Ok so a little background: My stepdaughter is in a homeschool co op that her mother put her in against our wishes. She just moved in with us a few months ago because her mother is mentally unstable. It's too late to put her in public school because she only has 4 months left. 
So normally her father deals with the co op because I'm a full time student and I work. Today I received an email saying that the mothers are getting together to plan the graduation. What should I expect? What's some good advice about how to plan? Maybe some ideas? Are these women going to eat me alive? I feel like I should mention that we are younger than all the other parents.",2.4536956521739133,5.056490311594203,3.474811594202901,86.53613043478262,80.66666666666666,5.7089855072463775,24.417391304347824,7.03164865440522,1.154109565217392,565,21,104,7,15,181,90,138,0.019,0.885,0.096,0.8504,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,10,1,9,1,0,1,1,17,14,4,0,5,1,5,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,8,5,1,0,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,17,3,14,12,5,18,0,0,0,0,22,7,0,2,7,69,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900652633333782,0.15331136173070087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093194067071306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162894903497902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783057421521824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697289927540302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874496417275739,0.12355682170953065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036019270528634,0.0,0.0982925105064777,0.14506378912533335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524156398505474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19509719717585292,0.0,0.1879126690412368,0.0,0.0,0.08449552786693545,0.17334316945559933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737533592598666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17429476565349272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276097000851943,0.18382042408672314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16945607197537166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153766001015266,0.0,0.0,0.19204253943518068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477287169694411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753823677166074,0.0,0.1750364851343678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084960275162863,0.0,0.16393811184811635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803975615629167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888606874517847,0.0,0.0,0.12591099188266636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zydbzz,2019/01/31,"Advice on disciplining my 2 year old I am a first time parent to a 2 year old whom is our only child. She is amazing and it goes without saying we love her dearly. However lately she has been very violent towards us and I am not sure how to discipline her or even mentally handle it. It has become extremely stressful and exhausting. She can be the sweetest little girl, hugs us, kisses us, plays with us. She is very smart, picks up after herself, takes dishes to the sink(she’s only 2!) but when she gets hyper she gets aggressive and will not stop. Somethings she does includes picking things up and throwing them at us. Hitting us. Clawing our skin(this is the fu**ing worst) running and diving onto us(wife is 6 months pregnant so this is obviously stressful). 

We do not spank her or yell at her, when she does these things we tell her no in a serious tone repeatedly. We have established a time out where she sits in a corner for about 1 minute. 

But it doesn’t really do anything. When she gets in these fits she sees it as playful. She doesn’t scream or cry as if she’s upset, she just laughs and gets hyper. The physical pain is not like it is going to kill me, yes it hurts, but more than anything it is mentally exhausting. I have to get up and leave the room to get away from her so she will stop attacking me. She seems to get like this more so at bed time when we are trying to go to sleep, which obviously prevents us from going to sleep and just causes more stress. 

Is this normal? How can I discipline her? I do not want to spank her at all and will not yell at her. Any advice at this point would be so appreciated. 



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parenting,jinalaska,2019/01/31,"Back with another childcare worker question (sorry if not in the right place) I couldn’t find a more appropriate sub, so let me know if this needs to be deleted. 

I work at a daycare with 4-5 year olds. One boy in particular was the “perfect” child my first week or two, and has recently become very defiant with me (just as opposed to the lead teacher who’s been with him longer). 
Due to his behavior (seems almost like a sociopath, which I absolutely do not want to label this child as, and I do not treat him as such, I have a soft spot for him) I’m beginning to suspect he may have RAD. I don’t claim to have any authority to diagnose, but many of his behaviors line up with what I’ve read about. 
He’s not been abused to my knowledge, but his dad died in a car accident last year. I’ve noticed his mom seems tired when he begins to act up, so it’s not a school thing like I thought. 
I’m just wondering how I can help to support him to the fullest appropriate extent, whether he’s “just a normal child having normal responses to trauma” or has a disorder of sorts.
Any advice or stories would be appreciated!",6.175610119047619,5.424835102678577,6.966785714285713,78.36154761904764,66.27678571428572,10.502380952380953,33.39880952380953,9.928628108626363,2.968477380952382,869,33,182,17,12,290,137,224,0.115,0.784,0.1,-0.5413,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,0,5,10,6,0,0,12,0,19,2,0,2,1,45,31,17,1,8,16,2,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,4,7,7,0,1,9,1,0,3,7,1,0,3,4,1,20,5,30,21,2,23,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,12,14,116,27,5,0.0,0.17285704245885028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256304928345495,0.0,0.0,0.1460888164510854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842183878847325,0.15297949037356032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218121504677503,0.0,0.0,0.16112520683248802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807634861374427,0.15141188060655866,0.0,0.16720378705086955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333417801242778,0.12409485582483445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778769810364522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017790778201632,0.11892068065797265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918348692102895,0.0,0.14254999927951667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479106300361676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086583895310825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817636780605358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28588451421997196,0.0,0.16609793169869294,0.15308811943525386,0.0,0.098859553737886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242509988203642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343136898036595,0.0,0.14593053398054798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404981518921994,0.0,0.0,0.12459016280102295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764953518656684,0.0,0.2656274721702831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331309044080247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555543895307234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969235335382734,0.0,0.0,0.11582120051998515,0.0,0.16768030488998692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251436075307453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037539832347505,0.0860503234318882,0.0,0.11702500333719675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582126245389712,0.10621042471279073,0.0,0.0,0.10363681879320942,0.0,0.0,0.1878981108286492
parenting,Elliooatt,2019/01/31,"Need advice on raising my 8 year old sister. I just got temporary custody of my siblings(14yr brother, 11 yr brother, and 8 yr sister,) because my mother is back in jail for drug problems. My brothers I feel like I know what they need and how to talk about things, but I feel so uncomfortable with my sister. I love her to death, but I haven't really seen her since I moved out 2 years ago. She was going into kindergarten basically when I was leaving for college. I have been no contact with my mom since, but keep in touch with my 14 year old brother, and helped all of them when I could through him. My mom is going to be in jail for around 3-5 years this time, so I want to get permanent custody. We are going to have a lot of struggles as I am just in my second year of college, but we are going to do our best to stick together. What I have no clue know how to do is help her with her hair, or other girl things. Any single dads have advice for raising a girl without the mom around? Any idea what I should do here just in general to make sure she feels loved and safe? To her I am kind of a stranger. It's been a little awkward and uncomfortable. When she was little she just wanted to ride on my shoulders all the time. When I asked her if she wanted to do that today, she gave me the death glare. :D",4.696166666666667,4.527982792592597,5.3260648148148135,86.9335416666667,69.22222222222223,7.935185185185183,27.615740740740733,7.1686216300943375,1.2121296296296291,1014,29,223,8,16,328,138,270,0.108,0.7659999999999999,0.126,0.7971,0,0,1,0,1,0,30.0,3,0,2,1,17,10,0,2,7,0,24,5,2,3,3,50,47,20,2,9,11,12,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,9,15,0,2,6,0,0,6,4,3,0,1,8,6,45,7,40,36,5,35,0,0,1,2,40,13,0,3,17,158,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21246195042605368,0.09636560091038836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478541988545118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355139225141615,0.10162996102906073,0.0,0.0,0.08359192606287935,0.0,0.06626911938145995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408532023087167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679676029720597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607006162983084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16490240213139304,0.07766304621004691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05679692731265914,0.0,0.24713150370643666,0.0,0.08694599011175025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573316978837755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272130665144428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662719004183723,0.0,0.11320561155749242,0.1194892698638736,0.0,0.0,0.11510908353574052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053110625495847774,0.21791364318636847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242206909877516,0.19623155590110666,0.0,0.07256533022033164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819624677041867,0.0,0.11554241920983635,0.0,0.1612154215948552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281474800500455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402159268620532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964294815620185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985346137882308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364817419642385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024586806779928,0.0,0.0,0.0873776557402715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444453038934574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678033070772102,0.0,0.10304516561602373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236141107063293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047933709343683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500310854449667
parenting,basic_glitch,2019/01/31,"ISO help w/ self-care through daughter’s depression The short version: she is the light of my life. The one thing that matters most. She was adopted at 18-ish after a lifetime of severe trauma. Now it’s 5 years later. She lives at home; she’d love to be independent, but isn’t there right now. Pretty much all of the mental health diagnoses have been applied to her at one time or another. 

I keep starting to type out her day-to-day situation / all the resources that we already make use of / are trying—but for the purposes of this question, it doesn’t really matter.

When she’s depressed—when she’s having a bad day, has had a falling out with an online friend, has panic-attack erased her gaming profile, won’t see her counselor, is convinced that there’s no help in the world, wants to cry on me and be held one minute, then yell at me the next, asks for $ beyond the stated Fun Things budget for a Fun Thing then hears the calm “no” as “I don’t care about you” and spins into hyperventilation for a night and a day—

It’s so hard to not let it take me over. I try so hard to DO things, to keep up life—I know it’s best for HER if I’m solid!—but her sadness devastates me, and I can’t get my head out of it and into the game. The physical musts are easier: I can usually do work visits (my job is mobile), make dinner, run errands, clean the litter boxes—but getting out of bed, or sitting down to write 3 late work reports, or exercising—those things get near-impossible; I just want to sit and cry. Or I get overwhelmed with something tiny—I’m putting away the groceries + she asks for a cup of water—then she can hear stress in my voice, which pushes her over. It doesn’t help that my dad just died—I was doing better before I had grief-head too.

Please know that we all (me, my spouse, the kiddo) are actively in counseling, and we have about 1000 professionals on the “how to help our daughter” question, keeping eyes peeled for crises, etc. And I know all the pat answers: carve time for yourself, see friends, exercise, water, sleep, nature. I think I want the magic answer. How do you be ok when your kid is sad?",5.0750725689404925,5.2941124433962266,5.492169811320757,84.73222060957913,68.43396226415095,8.221190130624093,27.62844702467344,7.882392219407189,1.4806791727140782,1652,48,345,18,26,529,232,424,0.104,0.722,0.174,0.9851,1,0,1,0,0,0,65.0,4,3,0,4,17,18,0,2,26,1,35,10,3,6,5,58,64,23,0,5,9,4,2,0,2,2,4,4,3,1,19,19,2,4,8,3,1,5,9,7,0,3,6,10,44,11,54,51,9,49,0,4,3,1,44,24,0,8,17,220,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932538669706964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438059027624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828950834304676,0.10239639347411222,0.08456490036631628,0.0,0.07515240623916056,0.0,0.0,0.07658965464104242,0.0,0.09445719675776736,0.07960421699807067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176852692224327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19773777035851064,0.2321892668687456,0.0,0.07752322816681817,0.09135560037485188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038202581808668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907896359968064,0.0,0.18810057341476294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125787407494885,0.0,0.18474708674631854,0.09567364052444613,0.2028897271780456,0.0,0.2413202095585461,0.0,0.09028474515792237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931844050251794,0.24000809613703955,0.0,0.0,0.14839711346473072,0.0,0.10153224988154567,0.0,0.0,0.09203864858414976,0.12714975466303013,0.0,0.0,0.07947816930591317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123517840999986,0.0,0.12016125581351415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070627336293767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616578380731539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957238742631215,0.08446583285273122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297399893495672,0.0,0.0,0.10560427224497973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880107919807984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156986802264697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904822813792333,0.2016577390388117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057661035122389535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686581435890111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344846390645452,0.0,0.09389733165555787,0.1016827246209937,0.0,0.0,0.10117207106040224,0.09007238650810187,0.0,0.0,0.06929208175984053,0.0,0.0,0.06370768983876918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310315455703632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767435140004728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989845333078125,0.0576730974895593,0.0,0.0,0.1049680591546736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06110910566698505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773748105434085,0.0991304176057064,0.0,0.15926606172757826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310528954359209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796180445004037
parenting,shawnjwelch,2019/01/31,"As a disabled parent to all parents. Help me find a cure. And it won't cost you anything. Please The FSH Society it's made up of individuals who have the most prevalent type of muscular dystrophy you may have never heard of it. facioscapulohumeral muscular dystrophy.   We donate our time and our bodies to research to cure this disease. 

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parenting,AnonyMissCatLady,2019/01/31,"My 8 year old son has really bad anger problems, he's stubborn like me and talks back and is rude to me. I don't know how to correct this behaviour I get mad and yell, I give warning and implement a strike system where when he gets to 3 he gets his games and privileges taken away until they are earned back, I've tried explaining his behaviour and trying distraction tools to help.

Right now he's getting bullied but before this he was angry as well. I feel guilty because I want him to be better than I am and I don't know what to do. I enrolled him in soccer and I'm planning on getting him into martial arts so he learns confidence and can stand up for himself while getting his anger out. 

He basically is angsty and acts like a teenager. He's mean to his cousin who is 1.5 and I think it's because he's been the center of attention for 7 years without competition. 

Help.",3.3437720706260023,4.8629846292134875,4.483178170144464,85.5659550561798,73.49438202247191,7.557624398073836,27.32102728731942,8.192908349453996,1.7508285714285714,696,26,141,11,14,228,116,178,0.192,0.696,0.112,-0.9213,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,3,8,13,5,1,3,0,13,0,0,1,1,28,29,18,0,2,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,13,0,1,8,3,0,1,3,8,1,0,3,2,21,5,20,25,0,21,0,0,0,0,27,9,0,0,11,83,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383039469172414,0.2681661460911693,0.1455952566946872,0.21259390932102654,0.0,0.14837968583645145,0.0,0.0,0.15421989777586584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816888532888509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5466202475989977,0.16727571750475656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337588349764906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19166310975140932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038094977019014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994473203515103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297649470180544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685265512330624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170864154647796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891469924483666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401554569799228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173201037167348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367774066382797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285047989098013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678343701133407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16809060242392934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224582663941198
parenting,steamthief,2019/01/31,"Wife wakes up the baby constantly My wife is brilliant, but she has this terrible habit of being an insufferable moron when she’s tired and right on the verge of sleep. She’s been pretty good the past couple months, but now that out daughter is 4 months old, my wife is getting worse. 

Example: tonight, she was lying in bed, right on the edge of sleep. I got the baby down in her crib (which is in our bedroom), when my wife suddenly says “lemme ask you a question. What was that game we played with the chairs and music and running around?”  I responded “musical chairs?” She started singing Frere Jacques at the top of her lungs “No! It was the one with the chairs and this song!” 

Obviously the baby is awake at this point, screaming and crying. It takes another 30 minutes of cooing to get her down again. 

Episodes like this occur a few times a week. 

How do I delicately tell my wife that she’s a raging idiot at night and she needs to sleep elsewhere?",3.415978260869565,5.465350163043481,3.7091304347826117,88.95271739130438,74.54347826086956,6.773913043478261,24.54347826086957,7.6454224807358475,1.1254086956521738,746,24,150,10,16,231,114,184,0.193,0.7090000000000001,0.098,-0.977,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,0,1,6,8,3,0,15,0,12,6,5,1,1,17,19,11,0,1,2,6,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,11,11,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,5,0,1,5,3,20,3,22,13,1,34,0,0,0,0,25,18,0,1,16,96,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17378185035831006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475344081532732,0.15493472794642724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909473299619494,0.0,0.0,0.18337655998191896,0.1820460940011699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731736663534402,0.0,0.0,0.1390060571245695,0.1325490356150467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096707141224617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645674410116806,0.0,0.0,0.12288633800826275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552592627616424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390525094813872,0.0,0.1123026108415894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820757808335664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666796348622242,0.0,0.0,0.16860650114039313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565498968944386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28306420651728004,0.0,0.131794764998009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4975476190947517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730420619144788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460797261043825,0.0,0.14485490398333722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663821499224068,0.19048170170570647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293822308117914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889253800885112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anonymousmary911,2019/01/31,"My 15 year old Son’s binge drinking Dad allowed him to drink Tequila “Mom, have you ever tried tequila?”  My 15 year old asks me in the car. 
“Ummm, yeah.”
“Dad asked me if I wanted to try the tequila while we all went on a tequila tasting in Mexico.”  

I don’t want him to stop telling me things if I flip out. So I told him, “Watch your Dad and his antics to get you to drink alcohol. That’s a bad path in this family. It would not be good for you. I know your Jamaican friends are cool with underage drinking, but really be safe.”

I’m terrified as his dad is a binge drinker. He drinks copious amounts on the weekends and gets belligerent. His Dads grandma asked me when my son was 3 if she could give him a sip of her crown and coke. They party hard, and do other messed up stuff that I can’t get i to talking about here. ",2.029774436090229,3.4394545380116988,3.3197702589807854,93.01644736842104,76.71929824561403,6.757059314954053,24.49498746867168,7.447530270364453,0.8924917293233077,630,21,145,8,14,205,113,171,0.092,0.825,0.083,-0.3581,2,0,11,0,0,0,18.0,1,5,1,1,5,6,0,0,7,2,11,8,0,1,2,22,24,12,0,7,5,8,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,7,7,8,2,1,10,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,4,30,4,18,17,2,18,0,0,1,0,33,7,0,3,9,88,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390839688130993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650001976632008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866450084435553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039091043107738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6374560906088302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772237058742994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268783853602645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054865115971832,0.0,0.2039840366548513,0.12484563548765028,0.0,0.10915830814550884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165831359930917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152353937974755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242265480713074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731277091631666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337334642092092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880590803108067,0.0,0.0,0.14898332784490792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460452571798376,0.1137512751061724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864616495942524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243578223968544,0.0,0.1767179734263178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352417809039245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064445541082022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924503057662783,0.0,0.0,0.16761647068380375
parenting,DeepDishBedPan,2019/01/31,"Toddler attention tantrum I've got a 22 month old, she's always been really chill and Independent. Over the last couple months she ramped up in general fussiness and is throwing a lot for sobbing tantrums now. We do our beat to ignore and distract with mixed results. I'm having a hard time decided if/when it's neessary to escalate to time outs. Finding the triggers has been tricky. She often just wants us to pick her up and let her point us to what she wants while fussing instead of talking...she talks fine and typically knows the words.

Any thoughts on if I should go the route of timeouts or stick with ignore/distract. We pretty consistent but I suppose we don't turn every meltdown and fit into a battle",4.081004901960785,6.361749404411768,4.360882352941179,83.98313725490198,73.33823529411767,6.886274509803924,30.450980392156865,7.793537801064563,2.1611833333333337,573,26,103,8,12,179,99,136,0.111,0.838,0.051,-0.6059,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,6,0,0,1,4,7,3,1,8,0,9,0,0,4,0,34,17,10,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,13,0,1,5,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,4,1,14,1,17,11,1,19,0,1,0,0,13,9,1,4,8,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506260032433706,0.0,0.0,0.134900747337432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194964473849212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713818594220473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130973787864696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274020216844295,0.0,0.15865736833905505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17770364513168374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902085925406753,0.16170083688961912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028502910660449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865001181555686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31667958762837245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20815956395115812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18752702857795486,0.0,0.0,0.20181711343023892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708311060273927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594450634649094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15748635939535727,0.23134630592381655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157733473455989,0.0,0.0,0.4772376663751649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340115989342158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BJB0919,2019/01/31,"Effective punishment for a 7 year old boy who won’t behave at school. So my son is 7, he’s in first grade and is constantly being sent home with notes from the teacher regarding his behavior.  The unacceptable behavior is typically him trying to be funny/silly while the teacher is trying to give a lesson. 

He really doesn’t act that bad at home. He does act silly sometimes, but he’s 7, and I want him to be a kid. 

He is very intelligent, and always tells me that the only things they teach at school are things he already knows. I sometimes wonder if he’s just bored. 

I have tried yelling. 

I have tried rationally explaining to him that this is unacceptable. 

I have tried explaining to him that just because he knows what the teacher is talking about doesn’t mean he can distract the other kids. 

I have tried taking away toys/games/tv, etc. 

NOTHING has worked. 

Any advice is appreciated.

PS: I’m Dad (34)",3.3362928571428583,5.584662782857144,4.588767857142859,81.64429464285716,75.45714285714286,7.803571428571428,25.223214285714285,8.660442795831766,1.9239214285714288,717,25,136,15,16,236,104,175,0.091,0.831,0.078,-0.3314,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,0,1,4,4,5,1,1,9,0,21,0,0,1,0,19,32,7,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,10,4,0,0,10,0,0,3,3,4,0,1,1,1,14,1,14,27,1,13,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,2,5,79,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680117147981244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448759975121507,0.0,0.11648678034373085,0.0,0.0,0.09520117635626306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152960099352198,0.0,0.11688970203383744,0.0853394515689955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128450446602962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251027929748222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15613106319029546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907939495389255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342956441062468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808521373520927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387481912752746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249523668923254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432866173187208,0.0,0.1469008567342327,0.0,0.0,0.10647225508682978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968417049708075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833641603977149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769166169600381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525856943703224,0.11252241300109132,0.122361512267695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18601247656586825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5702831494366234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551026434106695,0.08257248361946498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151818248056643,0.1019177872324342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015197770179144
parenting,ak22801,2019/01/31,"Parents with babies, would you be interested in a safe invention/solution that would keep your child’s pacifier from falling out of their mouth constantly? I have two kids, one is a 3 months old, and one of the most annoying thing is having to walk to them every 10 seconds as they are trying to fall asleep and re inserting the pacifier. I have an idea that I think would be perfectly safe, nothing that wraps around the neck, that would tremendously help the issue. I’m just wondering if other people actually care about it enough and would be interested.",9.356213592233011,8.337417825242717,8.826524271844663,68.47163106796118,60.067961165048544,13.28854368932039,37.10485436893204,12.340626583579946,4.644174368932039,448,17,79,13,5,143,76,103,0.041,0.764,0.194,0.9517,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,3,1,3,7,1,0,7,0,14,3,3,0,1,21,19,5,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,7,6,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,4,0,0,8,6,12,11,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,3,59,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.17359493160059836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15835977157680886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137066116283646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223584086515194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380787274393626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987995635772605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923588464232765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200816102254496,0.0,0.18567089196724465,0.0,0.1581167623248887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199006201232747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069020605554086,0.0,0.18666557964935224,0.0,0.2410856697493559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975257391370845,0.0,0.0,0.12332649384442028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818217923329498,0.11398469795481372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077559997537965,0.0,0.17377263406505342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19291406398066602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6318395876967827,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ancestryquestions2,2019/01/31,"I’m scared to send my child to school. I guess I need to vent. Everyday I see articles about children being neglected in schools. Recently, a teacher at the school local to me was caught with CP on his computer. I’m absolutely terrified to send my child to a school. There are more and more school shootings every year and more and more shootings in my city. I am considering homeschool because my anxiety about it is that bad. But I also worry about him being rejected from colleges due to being homeschooled (is that a thing?) I don’t know what to do. I have a couple more years until I really have to worry about it but it’s really eating away at me. ",3.412166193181818,5.405624804687502,4.896619318181821,80.68190340909092,74.390625,8.404545454545454,26.48011363636364,9.095868883498916,2.33185,517,19,97,12,11,173,75,128,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.909,0,1,0,2,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,5,0,12,1,0,0,0,10,19,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,4,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,2,1,16,0,22,14,5,16,0,2,1,0,7,7,0,1,6,74,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013882548266412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492548978522955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411459700686479,0.0,0.12543572138878278,0.09157877455604473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662265666819949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372272939592305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657520038084294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549521149415478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256244393215441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113935939318022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924822876218704,0.0,0.14833393785145346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040637368517185,0.7602035777481235,0.1197138085968748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980609403298576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051315845329849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934863065075849
parenting,Drizzt1985,2019/01/31,"First time away from the kids and I want to make sure my wife has a good time. Basically the title. My wife has been away from 2 of our kids once when she and a girlfriend went away for a night. She didn't have a great time as all she could think of was the kids (we were fine and had a blast). Since then we've had a 3rd and a foster kid. It will be my first time away from any of them and her first time away from the last 2 and it's going to be 5 days. 
I want to make sure I'm doing everything I can to make sure she has a blast and really gets the relaxation and rest she deserves. For context we're going to vegas (a pity trip paid for by my parents) we don't have a ton of cash but I know she'll go crazy if we just ""netflix and chill"" which will just miss home more.",1.9502408477841973,2.3355204739884385,3.1966618497109813,97.82173651252407,75.47398843930637,6.691522157996148,19.040944123314066,6.42735559955562,-0.4038396917148366,594,8,158,4,12,193,94,173,0.055,0.8640000000000001,0.081,0.0477,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,1,3,3,9,0,0,15,0,20,0,0,3,4,28,35,14,0,4,4,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,3,12,0,0,2,2,2,5,2,2,0,3,8,0,20,7,23,21,4,23,0,2,0,0,20,5,0,1,13,102,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403570741180978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5805171473785333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866513374850176,0.0,0.0,0.0796960974770133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106186278600907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153402586856477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06456319810346467,0.0,0.21069273884622888,0.10364942652883692,0.0,0.13624263549203788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395649373165114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791396794224251,0.10073068152180843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474631997960766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596741467492015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160407774803434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721618056178211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916575193524614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222308851914487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34940587868167045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918231296931508,0.0,0.0,0.3602898957036084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457762884724126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145559035281717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,researchgirl212,2019/01/31,"Redesigning Pregnancy Products Hi all!  
I am working on a project building a brand & suite of products to support women through the pregnancy process because I believe a lot of them treat us more like patients than people.  
I'd love to hear more perspectives on pregnancy & the existing products from women who have had children, are about to, or are planning to in the near future.  
If you have ten minutes, it would mean the world if you could take this quick survey.  
[https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSce1w7r0TOJY7tW9l9OYPpRNF0dKOuXc9DwRS1LLxMwPr5rsQ/viewform?usp=sf\_link](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSce1w7r0TOJY7tW9l9OYPpRNF0dKOuXc9DwRS1LLxMwPr5rsQ/viewform?usp=sf_link)  
Thanks!",20.01886363636364,23.276158613636362,12.862636363636366,34.191454545454576,36.727272727272734,10.221818181818184,42.6,9.888512548439397,4.471242727272727,610,22,64,7,5,161,65,88,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.9454,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,2,1,2,2,5,0,0,7,0,8,1,0,0,1,8,14,3,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,5,14,11,4,7,0,0,0,1,11,5,0,4,3,47,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5275946848759262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841575771040252,0.0,0.0,0.2743049233951214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438928820173806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744059914905999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11894610640691472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20698768208311905,0.21973926413681832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652078925321131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687899700813624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27628446099592835,0.0,0.0,0.1830575431561101,0.0,0.0,0.22415250971490372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29286187798725144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17724751376026868,0.0,0.0,0.17295259401130772,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,one_throwaway_a_day,2019/01/31,"9-y.o. niece jealous of her newborn baby sister Hi folks. I've never posted here, and honestly I have no idea where to post this, can't even find stuff on google about it. I'll just expose the situation here.

My brother has two daughters, one 9-y.o. girl and one newborn baby girl, she's 6 months old. The older sister was fine at first with her, but now she's acting jealous because of all the attention the baby is getting, which is quite common I believe. However there's something quite disconcerting about this. She is ripping out her own hair strands secretly, like she does it hidden so she doesn't get scolded. She's currently seeing a psychologist about it, but I don't think it's having any effect. The right side of her head is almost hairless, and we're getting really concerned about it.

What can be done about this situation? I mean, I know I'm not the parent in this scenario, and to be honest the parents have no idea I'm posting here, I just have no idea what to do about it.",3.739561855670104,5.611805572164951,4.588234536082479,83.76317654639178,73.17525773195877,6.911855670103092,26.55798969072165,7.6454224807358475,1.5270422680412374,787,28,148,10,16,254,116,194,0.077,0.8640000000000001,0.059,-0.34,4,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,4,16,6,2,0,8,0,18,2,2,1,2,24,27,7,0,0,5,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,14,6,0,0,10,0,0,1,8,2,0,4,2,2,17,4,17,23,2,19,0,0,1,0,22,7,0,1,9,101,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342932178412194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120036655851002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817530787210969,0.0,0.0,0.15109764853718102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736181008209545,0.13724254828351942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885793300972002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257541104497445,0.11407510794530355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21020304991440547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376370112076419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541864176139154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370413079791585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552006707823378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608665582491834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704645839012128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343499717204743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072737853348807,0.0,0.1817547421948331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978297285859361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853250144146756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852880130546514,0.0,0.0,0.08591521173248172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453042252219885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068694407155794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30149371713908035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324552556409992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352549352862618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593318471592165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100737317919842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrezedentA,2019/01/31,"Six year old boy sent home from school for cursing, teacher mentioned she thinks he may be a candidate for medication... Six year old son has been struggling at kindergarten, repeatedly being disruptive, saying potty words, acting out for attention, he showed his butt to another boy, gets possessive over legos, messes up other kids’ work, etc.  This is all “normal” stuff, but the frequency, despite repeated interventions by us as parents, discipline charts, rewarding good behavior, taking away things when he does poorly, etc. we don’t seem to be making improvement

When I picked him up today, the head of the school said that they love him, he is excelling academcally, they think he is a loving kid, he’s not mean spirited, but the level of lack of impulse control, she said she felt like it’s someone with diabetes, he just cannot help himself, and she recommended we talk to the pediatrician about medicating him

I know there are risks, but if the pediatrician recommends that, I think we would say yes, but I would love to hear others’ experiences.  We talked previously to his pediatrician, and implemented what he recommended, the consistency, consequences, etc. so it may now be to that level that we have to either medicate, go to some behavioral specialist, etc....

I feel I am running out of time, in that, logistically, this will interfere directly with him getting into a really great school next year, and even if he got in, if he is behaving like this, even the current school said, our lives as parents would be really difficult if he is “in the big leagues” at this other school, and getting in trouble as much as he is now.  So now we have to go to plan B, a lesser private school, or public school.  If he is advanced, even bored at this really good kindergarten, it could be a disaster in a public school with large class sizes, etc.  But is that better than getting kicked out of the great school, when maybe he just needs a few years to develop, with meds or not, then apply to that school later....

Of course, I am blaming myself, thinking all kinds of drastic thoughts that I have ruined his life, but I suppose all that matters is what is best for him, I can deal with myself....

Thanks",10.787880882352944,8.474989567500002,10.017970588235292,65.14714705882355,58.325,13.611764705882356,40.52941176470589,12.108454555606663,4.8187426470588255,1737,68,303,42,17,557,212,400,0.085,0.736,0.179,0.9943,4,0,0,0,0,0,73.0,8,0,2,8,15,22,0,2,17,1,34,10,2,3,3,68,63,27,0,12,18,3,2,2,0,6,5,6,1,4,24,19,0,3,11,1,1,6,4,7,0,2,8,8,35,15,52,42,14,45,1,1,0,4,61,19,1,11,22,212,59,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668895709758462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05993297868303419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694386365051944,0.056417234807330775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154611670409489,0.05093127209429213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576487975144868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05582322079689263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35571459242867715,0.12639844678429718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239904133914919,0.0,0.0,0.032254234233312785,0.0,0.061248581268590764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331095534789875,0.0,0.0725068643993459,0.10700836140178437,0.051018838315232976,0.14065780839614608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546713331273629,0.0,0.07189617466167968,0.0,0.042757216388262236,0.0,0.06398675672192063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066427661413775,0.03505741743670327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04505689418873708,0.062329324480884934,0.0,0.05632790207454925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271939758229568,0.0,0.04258044384846516,0.0,0.06408581484932017,0.06948621223453845,0.07085651510389859,0.192785701058886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046893125792052806,0.04729961391950651,0.0,0.0,0.06784158546651896,0.0,0.0625008373936809,0.0,0.0,0.13387413705612694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14166290283953048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259687791963735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18203722131545227,0.10145703097766258,0.0,0.6455907284888882,0.0,0.058072188662290074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05404921677152808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668735173061405,0.07302450019478594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796228035837368,0.10254426880060427,0.0,0.05872943189678361,0.0,0.0,0.042379364449488616,0.1634966993375944,0.0,0.05064228148342838,0.03719656987985031,0.0,0.06046563662077191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673173831643629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04644001444149695,0.0,0.0,0.1359441516529735,0.0,0.0,0.16431515087165655
parenting,Atkena2578,2019/01/31,"Frustrated by doctors That’s great i waited over 3 months to see a developmental specialist to learn... nothing new.
Ok so this area and this area is weak but this area not, she is borderline ASD but not enough to be diagnosed. And the areas that are weak she still does better than what we see in ASD kids. 

Great i learned nothing new ! 
I was just told to keep getting her the private speech therapy and have the district give her some services as well (evaluation next week) but there is no name nor diagnosis on my daughter’s problems, she has communication (expressive mainly) issues which basically affects her social interaction, i already knew that when her speech therapist diagnosed the expressive disorder and therapy is helping with that and she s already progressed a lot, even in some areas she has progressed from the last evaluation i attended so i am just thinking of keep doing my things privately with the therapy and she ll just do fine in the end. 

Is it due to the fact that the diagnostic of PDS-NOS no longer exists? 
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parenting,crankyneymar,2019/01/31,"Help save my son (8) from Fortnite! I feel such a failure that we’ve gotten to this point with my son and Fortnite. He is obsessed with the game. He can, and does, play for hours a day. If he’s not playing, he is watching YouTube videos on Fortnite! My wife and I have tried limiting his hours especially on school nights, limit his overall screen time, schedule other fun events and play dates for him. He is great and has a lot of fun doing these other things. But if we don’t push him, he could spend all day on the PS4 and be perfectly happy. And if we try to get him off the game, he tries to argue and gets quite unhappy.

Sorry for the rambling message. As I said, I feel horrible so please go easy on shaming as awful parents. I’d very much appreciate any ideas how best to wean him off this addiction. Thanks in advance!",3.2555189990732174,4.728528861445788,3.9622891566265084,89.39832715477293,73.63855421686749,6.794439295644115,26.02224281742354,7.321109707123232,1.1158587581093609,645,22,136,7,13,205,110,166,0.101,0.6659999999999999,0.233,0.9822,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,6,4,14,1,2,7,1,10,1,0,1,2,28,18,16,0,4,5,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,12,0,2,3,6,1,3,2,3,0,0,2,5,15,11,20,14,4,20,0,0,2,0,25,8,0,4,9,79,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19135555113418384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936763055841244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842097750752016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014784425593346,0.0,0.0,0.2264069551759718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360904474609174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750828557966905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834162218952396,0.0,0.0997587564719833,0.0,0.0,0.1935244086186219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868568452459559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765525298691652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457268928875331,0.0,0.0,0.19815401534088029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492308434268049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903605623695066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472468594683032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490727040197925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926811847162809,0.16593427026033172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866996560984411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697092043613054,0.0,0.0,0.17764753391948993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964934582213213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160608082734906,0.0,0.0,0.11661551585706414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235399329364936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35752367198118346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448321027880025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Problemsolved321,2019/01/31,In case anyone needs to hear it You’re doing an amazing job and one day you’ll look back and see how strong you were! Keep it parents!!,0.6191954022988497,2.6303120689655195,1.6075862068965527,100.75436781609196,83.48275862068967,3.866666666666666,16.563218390804597,3.1291,-1.1832160919540229,106,2,25,0,3,33,25,29,0.0,0.758,0.242,0.8392,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,8,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,2,2,6,0,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,2,14,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453294899134587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26978970471209457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262756925342635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954447519854739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481744398152998,0.3118605144824288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946340576849866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601582654908241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377518357221649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895885402980886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27959001680950235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheAaarrrggg,2019/01/31,"My Comic About Being a Mom Thought you guys might enjoy my comic strip about being a mom (but everyone is animals, because I hate drawing people) :)

[**Litterbox Comics**](https://litterboxcomics.com/)

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It's still a pretty new venture for me, so if you like it, I'd SUPER appreciate an upvote and telling all your parent friends!  

You can follow me on [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/litterboxcomics), [Instagram](https://www.instagram.com/litterboxcomics/), [Twitter](https://twitter.com/LitterboxComics) and [WebToon](https://www.webtoons.com/en/challenge/litterbox-comics/list?title_no=196742)  
Hope you like! :D",13.998531468531468,19.82869917948718,8.506223776223777,46.706958041958075,63.615384615384606,9.503030303030306,35.2960372960373,9.339509955726095,5.1814974358974375,528,22,48,13,11,141,61,78,0.041,0.596,0.363,0.9821,1,0,0,0,0,0,75.0,0,5,0,1,4,7,1,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,8,9,5,0,2,2,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,6,4,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,3,4,32,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22980286714754575,0.2577164231050349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929003126612892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20266411833610967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386266134622196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100055890824034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093981011160767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21065637930632625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20723602471297986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22499734250159475,0.0,0.496801927784765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20484091062762486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355043719651475,0.0,0.0,0.14703870293753007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21577500845494788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937788400353254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537878385673484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683782903862532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577164231050349,0.0
parenting,teraNEX42,2019/01/31,"Names I need to name my daughter, I like the name of Aurora most, but my wife loves the name of Lenca, what do you think will like my daughter in the future?",12.339999999999995,4.8620654242424255,10.867878787878787,75.9218181818182,61.42424242424243,14.412121212121216,39.06060606060606,8.841846274778883,3.141387878787878,121,2,29,1,1,38,23,33,0.0,0.736,0.264,0.8765,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,4,4,1,2,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,3,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5914023535586519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.546273946686354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487952216294349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878284162095246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LJGHunter,2019/01/31,"Help! Bed wetting regression My four and half year old has been potty trained for about two years. She's very good at taking herself to the bathroom during the day, and at first she would call for us at night to help her too. 

Last year however she fell at school and broke her arm. Ever since she's regressed on her nighttime potties. She no longer calls for us, just wets herself in her nighttime diaper and doesn't think twice about it. She still does great during the day, but I *cannot* get her to go at night. Right now I'm waking her up at night and either get there too late after she's already wet or too early (in which case she won't go). 

I don't know what to do. Four and a half seems old to not have any nighttime control, especially since she was doing so well before. Does anyone have any tips?",3.085863039399624,4.584506329268294,3.432439024390245,92.92306754221391,74.12195121951221,6.021763602251407,21.76172607879925,6.297961479604792,0.16087767354596672,634,15,137,4,13,196,101,164,0.022,0.903,0.076,0.8294,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,12,4,0,0,4,0,12,2,2,1,1,17,21,9,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,1,3,0,0,3,6,1,1,7,2,3,22,3,21,17,1,32,0,1,0,0,23,11,0,2,18,90,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740146032879695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166885164285998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339755853116216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366104191065733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727865515782424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981381622363812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17228745916443325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337817935267084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208246989250494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361738249244364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395730745785163,0.0,0.15182557151217332,0.11203494842175014,0.0,0.14726503707135422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906273752685245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340839356606244,0.10888006896636117,0.15067650276210495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37604848642632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803254221186381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407087012326228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518331281840676,0.0,0.12160011752893403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209864315374309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066718115651796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043049974317826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558837850360887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048170714831295,0.0,0.3213444718517041,0.0,0.0,0.11021196312362744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009844005657265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488664137495767,0.0,0.0,0.25805048145300125
parenting,linzphun,2019/01/31,"So my two year really likes these ABC videos on youtube.. and now she knows her alphabet and can identify letters when I draw them. But then things start auto-playing and these other ABC videos start playing that I think are made by non-english speakers..and this one really had us laughing outloud
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO9DdMjoK6w&feature=youtu.be&t=14

My favorite was G for gun, K for king (his salute), and X for X-mas

Is anyone else ever like WTF  ",9.557692307692307,11.249534256410255,6.529897435897437,76.03176923076926,59.0,8.804102564102564,30.98461538461539,8.841846274778883,2.4117815384615384,384,12,61,5,5,106,63,78,0.084,0.7490000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.7117,0,0,0,1,0,0,27.0,1,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,10,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,9,4,5,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,9,37,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5154362517998092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663152518319208,0.24371276190646565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869913016831653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21515541246756356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072007078689227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324099806539157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22506618931402286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117816266434942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30475476578467225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367130342749916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15802172338401466,0.1524092593915511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323518764849728,0.0,0.28611286848028245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317220807895382
parenting,runningsword,2019/01/31,"Weaning from Breastfeeding Any tips on weaning a toddler from breastfeeding?

When is the best time? 

How did you do it? 

How do I limit my pain from engorgement? ",2.8215517241379287,5.867884172413793,3.106465517241382,85.70383620689658,86.58620689655174,7.037931034482759,27.9396551724138,8.07648339933343,2.5416827586206896,127,6,22,3,4,39,23,29,0.099,0.747,0.154,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3902814380761947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6022877021828873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6106853319236616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346540725371833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mutantfish123,2019/01/31,"What is parenting in other countries like? I live in the US, where parenting is expected to be hard. Some of it is self inflicted, for example, many parents have unrealistic expectations of what a child is supposed to do. There are plenty posts on reddit of parents complaining about their children doing perfectly normal things such as crying, having no concept of time, and temper tantrums. Is this complaining about a child simply being a child normal worldwide, or do other countries/ cultures have a better grasp on parenting than we do? ",10.103225806451617,10.36390770967742,9.427440860215057,60.60116129032259,57.9247311827957,12.171182795698929,41.18064516129033,11.602472056035307,5.342661935483871,439,21,60,11,5,140,67,93,0.154,0.753,0.093,-0.5204,5,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,2,5,7,2,0,5,0,15,0,0,0,1,10,15,3,0,4,1,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,4,3,15,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,2,53,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373447996755594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660989761979591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545600185106768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387440934181598,0.0,0.13352272080205596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330495243107092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963107644295462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8395136125794891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481903083992909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774680403679506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004583490375436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817277107690259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818890832881056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elephantsinthecloset,2019/01/31,"First Trial with Nanny and she kissed the baby multiple times This is also posted in r/Nanny but I wanted to get other parents perspectives.

First  time parent to a 3 month old preemie baby. We had a potential nanny  come meet the baby and take care of her for a couple of hours so we  could get to know her. She kissed the baby on the face within just a  couple of minutes of holding her for the first time. I was sort of  confused and let it go for a minute. Then she did it again twice in a  row a few minutes later. At that point I told her not to kiss the baby  as we are worried about germs, her being a preemie and still so little.  Also it is flu season. Either way isn't it weird? Even if it were a  close friends baby or family members baby I wouldn't kiss a newborn that  wasn't mine and this woman is basically a complete stranger.  My  problem now is that I feel uncomfortable with her when she is otherwise a  very nice person and seems to care about the baby. I also mentioned the  first time we spoke that I would like her caregiver to have had the flu  shot. She went out and got it the next day. I want to specify I did not  hire her and did not ask her to before she did it. So now I feel bad  since she thought she had the job and she got he flu shot for apparently  the first time in her life. But, I just cant shake the weird feeling I  got. Am I overthinking this? What do you think about it having  experience in your field? ( Or as  parent yourself)

Edit:  I wanted to add that this is not a professional Nanny. She is a mother  in her 40s, her children are leaving for college and she is looking to  start nannying. She has experience with her own children but no  professional experience. She seems to really just like babies a lot. I am not sure if just have paranoia left over from being in the NICU.",2.7175609756097567,4.26144941463415,4.300766937669377,86.13586585365856,75.17886178861791,6.871219512195122,23.140108401084014,7.554174236665415,0.9437822222222224,1410,40,292,18,30,472,174,369,0.111,0.794,0.096,-0.8245,5,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,2,0,5,19,17,0,2,29,0,35,9,1,0,1,58,62,27,0,9,17,4,3,2,1,2,4,1,0,5,19,21,0,1,8,0,0,4,10,6,0,6,17,5,49,11,41,39,4,45,0,0,1,4,48,15,0,9,26,223,68,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22944127833015826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940716095559463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985243223990296,0.0,0.0,0.08137956605193224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501544779535446,0.0,0.0,0.08238232439413604,0.10027298724899844,0.0,0.0,0.07635791492724713,0.2116398025296917,0.0,0.06167759166774335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316696631637954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28065236705429786,0.09015752372884617,0.0,0.14506997208342734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067415328842112,0.0,0.0,0.07388847591584101,0.0,0.09993218477322988,0.0,0.05435239250648101,0.0,0.2294675916526809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418262840689423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490440925209667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05255928603638353,0.0,0.0,0.10126518061133664,0.10390927133758243,0.09779473894860287,0.06755084551942958,0.09344626710624757,0.09585283696612143,0.0,0.0,0.08031052252134074,0.0,0.0,0.08130668086550233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633609357845256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171043837254892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035435546715887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31857884474222714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835060500958464,0.0,0.0,0.09040734774995883,0.0,0.0915932726806642,0.0,0.0,0.09151115661151817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061267152050203014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412764532190586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911145102830051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769196411119323,0.0,0.07637538411772947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013621241137497,0.0,0.07190670039698277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061279968796935126,0.0,0.07592465026348115,0.27883188478118925,0.0,0.0,0.09138471634513122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891007843991434,0.16922654960302042,0.07591175415969849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886559375504915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097123446608381,0.0,0.06793738267232394,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,somedudeborn,2019/01/31,"Brother and sister sharing a room My 4 year old daughter and my stepson (9 years old) are sharing a room, bunk beds.  2 people now have told my wife that ""they need their own rooms, you can't have them in the same room anymore..""  She gets kinda pissed and vents on me about it, saying that it's not an issue and they are fine together in the same room.  We only have a 2 bedroom condo at the moment.  Anyways, is it really inappropriate?  The 9 year old boy elects to sleep on the couch  in the living room every night this week for the first time ever.....just randomly all the sudden grabbing all his bedding and sleeping on the couch.  Not sure if I should allow that, but giving him his space...for now.  Thank you in advance for any feedback.",4.355136986301371,5.249071500000003,4.894410958904111,85.97627397260277,70.30136986301369,6.935890410958903,25.558904109589037,6.742157984588678,0.9419419178082182,573,16,115,4,10,183,98,146,0.028,0.882,0.091,0.7944,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,4,2,4,6,1,0,13,0,8,3,3,1,3,20,13,7,0,3,4,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,12,1,7,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,2,16,5,12,11,5,29,0,0,0,0,21,14,1,3,14,74,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102524025711595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17649774340791233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098343864852094,0.14994682764208112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513806124625554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298162415589414,0.17072438824305985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857537319367437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15715016988716826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196199555258156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701215061178185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5602465902429072,0.0,0.0,0.1353536872735584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338151788658573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401170339588232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152834622959776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561956941259785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773397768274226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385023869238927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377534153681116,0.0,0.0,0.17005731172750693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275625335850675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438192208943965
parenting,jessipowers,2019/01/31,"Calming Kits I have a 6 year old daughter and 3 year old son. My 6 year old daughter is highly intelligent and creative, but tends to be high strung, argumentative, and controlling. My son is bright, happy, and tends to be very easy going but is high energy and butts heads with his sister BIG TIME. Today is day 4 of being home with the flu and snow/cold days, and I can't take the arguing and fighting anymore. I put together a calm down kit and set it in a corner. Of course they immediately started fighting over it. I put together a second calm down kit for the little one and set it in the corner. They immediately started fighting over what was in the other ones calm down kit. I give up. ",4.917972424979722,5.646154211678837,6.108710462287108,78.37860502838606,68.92700729927007,8.716626115166262,28.360908353609084,8.841846274778883,2.091469424168694,545,18,107,9,9,183,79,137,0.105,0.6779999999999999,0.217,0.9484,0,0,0,0,6,0,16.0,0,0,2,1,0,10,4,0,9,0,10,3,2,1,0,15,17,12,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,12,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,3,1,1,10,6,16,13,0,33,0,0,1,1,13,16,1,0,12,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053549776687358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024607613310855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957847722529342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456113844227306,0.08626610167926499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615839268804575,0.0,0.0,0.1557809574525596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4811253400449451,0.15225835808035285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521340680445568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4778361337997079,0.0,0.205714491416406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051829757966074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148763500406737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412764814588244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851032535904284,0.0,0.14387974987030486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252431500490935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932445285690627
parenting,asldjf23sdf,2019/01/31,"Extermly worried my youngest is emotionaly disturbed, and I have no idea what to do. I have two children, and also have a lot of experience with kids in genearl. All through college I did work at a daycare center so I have seen a lot of children, and have been trained in dealing with them to a certain point. It's to the point with my youngest child that my family is on the verge of falling apart. No one in the house is getting any sleep, and all of our moods are pretty much determined by the moods of my youngest child. I can't take it anymore, my husband can't take it anymore, and we have no idea what to do.

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My youngest is 3 years old. About 25% of the days are normal days for someone her age that I have expereince with. Another 50% of her days are bad days that I would say for someone her age.... The last 25% are hell on earth. Constant screaming, constant crying... And I know you guys may be thinking constant... what is constant. I litterally had a night last night where no one in my house slept until 2am. That's because when she got home from daycare she litterally would not stop screaming, and crying until she just couldn't anymore. I would ask her what she wanted what we could do what was going on, and all I would get is screaming in return. No one in my family will watch her because they know this is a behavior issue she has. She ended up passing out on my bedroom floor. I didn't want to take her to bed and risk waking her up. Then when she woke up this morning she was just as bad until right before we left for daycare. I have had many many many day's and nights like this. 

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We have also had to remove her bedroom door. At first she found out how to lock her door, and she would lock it. So we changed the door knob. Then to stop us from getting into her room she would put crap and toys in front of the door so we couldn't open the door. 

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She is violent on a regular basis. Keep in mind I have never hit any of my kids EVER. I don't know where she is getting this kind of attitude from. It's from a 3 year old so it's not like it's painful or anything, but I have had a daycare already ask to remove her because of her violence, and I think in general just how difficult she is. 

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My entire family can't take it anymore. I'm afraid my husband may leave. My family won't even watch her pretty much under any circumstance. What's weird is my oldest is the EXACT opposite. He's so understanding. Compassionate. He doesn't always listen (and what kid does), but he's easy to work with and get things done with. But my youngest it unbarable, and I have no fucking clue what to do. ",3.1715896751223838,4.6375243383177605,4.001034712950602,89.06508566978194,73.84112149532709,6.814864263462392,26.756786826880283,7.35660576581511,1.246117935024477,2071,75,435,23,42,663,213,535,0.094,0.856,0.05,-0.9337,0,0,0,0,0,3,79.0,8,1,2,3,19,22,4,3,19,0,62,6,4,2,7,80,92,37,0,12,9,2,0,2,0,10,1,5,10,8,27,32,0,3,9,1,0,7,18,15,0,5,15,8,71,5,66,62,7,77,1,0,3,1,57,35,3,5,37,306,98,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558983673797766,0.0950629574939956,0.04945606584076583,0.2575984025552829,0.28888820983027225,0.12125690912137305,0.062324524608522634,0.0,0.0,0.2357807984193864,0.0,0.0,0.04891131016067275,0.0,0.11113051500720328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925426357968843,0.10869611615559344,0.0,0.05057622336820233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287610951815424,0.0,0.0,0.256919674197597,0.0,0.04745533981867365,0.0,0.13057676900168635,0.1916586561182884,0.061276590754719536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201342522497638,0.060824343266661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052643242589703806,0.0,0.0,0.03925735602805012,0.05376386542393745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058140462418189785,0.2241263884609205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505567960565168,0.0,0.06516923426267993,0.0,0.05494823814156122,0.15526601897637354,0.0,0.03377922588392472,0.0,0.04753692986346365,0.0,0.0,0.0588516420038561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05961982018654205,0.0,0.0,0.13716386033139746,0.0,0.13419351805745708,0.0,0.06203643511209714,0.0,0.05283003793525865,0.0,0.061894139221858775,0.09799450843543503,0.09689762817265928,0.0,0.06293484522579007,0.06457810937260378,0.0,0.0,0.05807550356159781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106185255784243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18077834510444526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060014087177042715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738557385732641,0.0,0.04584121945026731,0.0,0.0,0.16733184851254346,0.058235311145923487,0.0,0.0,0.12473756114256138,0.0,0.12082746532909072,0.0,0.0632448011191061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237371826265953,0.0,0.0,0.12093691035991246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975026386198563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050758586321021225,0.0,0.04726642084577207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947958847303155,0.0,0.10072098509840564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993834250452473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787558974510828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394870785384386,0.07616922871995756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058060984267456935,0.061875663396669,0.07149498857877752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011456878573773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865411985950507,0.060360817441819224,0.0,0.25333260481338565,0.0,0.28888820983027225,0.0765505258491764
parenting,oldladymilar,2019/01/31,"Just a vent My boyfriend is out of a job, we have a newborn and a 7 year old. I had to go back to work 3 weeks after giving birth because we have bills. I'm no where near as in debt as most, but I'm still stressing over money. I work full time, clean the house, do the laundry, pay all the bills, and have to be a milk machine on top of it. I try and do my hair and makeup every day so that I still look attractive to my boyfriend and feel confident about myself. I feel like a bad mom because I'm not around and when I am, I'm exhausted. My boyfriend is amazing and I love him so much, he is fantastic with our kids. His mom even calls him Mr. Mom! I need to know I'm not alone. Is anybody else feeling like a struggling crap parent? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel? ",2.1942110453648915,2.7995746094674594,3.517884615384613,94.92503205128209,75.09467455621302,6.580078895463513,24.142504930966467,6.42735559955562,0.3980765285996064,595,17,147,4,12,195,105,169,0.121,0.657,0.222,0.9691,3,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,3,12,10,1,2,13,0,13,5,2,0,1,23,27,13,0,1,4,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,12,1,0,4,0,5,1,3,5,0,0,1,6,19,5,20,25,4,23,0,0,1,1,17,10,1,1,14,92,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594277040523286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340372113473084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577729852818205,0.12571777418091615,0.18356939429905372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374649763354736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710373652755674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578002683945835,0.0,0.13335832729704378,0.0,0.0,0.09944857262704453,0.0,0.12685981538753313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283947211028408,0.21513124793667135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443829666314315,0.08557111681699983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373495703870376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14941524956037885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274809254627001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711958517203808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643898064815626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589326444710886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5290293540632585,0.0,0.0,0.11068461388608104,0.11164407181678086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799551553781202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671876574437291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404871842762823,0.0,0.17247483814014433,0.15740609423480212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779726037660737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222561234022813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207763594019089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21923021681750415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696068838806604
parenting,QB1,2019/01/31,"Early Intervention and my 15 m/o son. PLEASE HELP!! **WARNING** Long Post First, let me preface this by saying I am turning to this subreddit in a time of some very difficult emotion. I would like honest and erudite feedback, however please understand that I have some pretty strong feelings at the moment, so just keep that in mind.

My son is 15 months old, he is my first child, and that experience of being a parent so far has been blissful to me. I happily rock my son to sleep every night and miss him everyday when I go to work. This whole situation was perpetuated because of concerns my wife had about our son's development. My initial response when she raised her concerns with me was that she is home all day with him and has the TV on non-stop. I recommended she try to keep the TV off during the day to encourage him to interact more and be more engaged. She dismissed my suggestion, as if it were an old wives tale, and instead pursued a free service in our state called 'Early Intervention' to come and assess our son.

Early Intervention specialists were scheduled to come and meet with us for the first time yesterday, however due to the snow they needed to reschedule. I had called off yesterday to be present for the assessment and to process anything they said through my own filters. After arriving at work this morning, my wife texted me to say that they would be by shortly this morning to evaluate him. She agreed to have them come without me present because their next available time wasn't until March.

We are awaiting their full write-up, and I was unable to witness the evaluation, but based on what they saw from him with his attention and engagement, they recommended he meet with occupational therapists 3 days a week to develop his speech, sensory skills, as well as social personal skills, or at least that's what I took from my wife's jumbled and sloppily communicated summary of the meeting this morning. I am beyond livid with my wife over what has transpired this morning, to not only allow them to evaluate him without me present, but to agree to have our 15 month old son meeting with counselors 3 days a week. I am really pissed off right now.

When I look at my son I see a younger version of myself, I don't see anything wrong with him and I think this is too much, too soon, to start labeling my child. I took a while to grow into myself, had many quiet phases as a kid, but never had a problem keeping myself busy, just like him. I wasn't always the most social person, but have also had phases where I was extremely social, but in general I am very independent. The challenges that I overcame helped me to develop strong character and mindfulness. I might be slightly on the spectrum, but I have a great job and have always been very self aware. After some dark year in my late 20s, and losing my mother suddenly to a brain aneurysm, starting a family has been the best thing that's ever happened to me. I never struggled in school, if anything it was too easy, which was why I wasn't the most engaged kid. To put it another way, I have always felt more at peace in my own head, rather than in the world and I don't believe that is something that is ""wrong"" with me. I am able to empathize and connect with people, no issues.

I guess what I'm struggling with and why I am so angry at my wife right now is, where do we draw the line? Where do you say a child is challenged rather than just chalking it up to everyone being a different individual. My son is a happy baby, and communicates with us nonverbally about whatever he needs. To me a problem is something that negatively impacts one's life, which in this case is not present. If anything, he is so clever with nonverbal communication and was an early walker, crawler, and climber, that he just hasn't found the need to do all the trivial items on these early developmental checklists. He does enough of them for me as an 15 month old child. 

I don't believe there is anything wrong with my son, I believe my wife has the TV on too much and then wants my son to be super engaged as a 15 month old. I think he is like me and is just independent and less interested with what other people are doing or what others care about. Now that my wife is apparently trying to have my son labelled and categorized as if there is something wrong with him at 15 months old, based on the way he's developing as a new person, I find myself no longer wanting her in his life or mine, or maybe that's just how angry I feel right now. The way she's treating this whole situation with him, allowing her worry to direct and contaminate our lives. She's driving these decisions towards putting my toddler in front of therapists 3 times a week, as if there is something wrong with him, because she's worried there might be, and disregarding my opinion that he may just be extremely independent like his father.

**tl;dr** Wife is letting her worries drive a narrative that my 15 month old son is developmentally challenged and it's making me really mad.

Please just help me out here, share your thoughts and experiences. My wife has friends who have gone through these programs but none that I would consider credible sources. Please try to help me wrap my head around all of this, because I am not the type to harbor anger or bitterness towards someone, especially my wife, I would rather just get something resolved and do the right thing, but this does not sit well with me.",7.670076416337283,7.208678972946862,7.528028107158544,74.60758893280634,63.1352657004831,10.580412823891084,36.11286780851998,9.975734382208264,3.4513033816425107,4327,179,804,79,55,1384,405,1035,0.064,0.7959999999999999,0.14,0.9977,6,0,5,0,0,0,109.0,9,2,10,16,47,45,4,2,46,0,91,7,5,7,6,149,129,71,0,19,36,26,3,4,1,7,2,6,1,10,50,59,0,4,13,4,1,13,19,16,2,4,28,14,135,30,127,83,25,133,0,2,4,0,116,46,1,20,72,580,185,12,0.0471444548890432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037701403541945434,0.11768388939366875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049435071551907774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19397934702896785,0.041968560056114435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495528848540305,0.0,0.0,0.15934696939347845,0.04947519682432408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526288032635145,0.09627951901552836,0.0,0.048066913772591036,0.0,0.0,0.12183232029476868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161709295996075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04925592117332266,0.0,0.0,0.08251286034855368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053031166280023904,0.0,0.04871282440754817,0.0,0.0,0.042644858518119236,0.039721236567685336,0.045048546977710255,0.0,0.09223264638624086,0.044443596320352746,0.0,0.047675305848547934,0.0,0.045266069931274786,0.0,0.043089177674772085,0.1203031477345926,0.0,0.051691461410972,0.036423688900398016,0.0,0.02463103186390704,0.0,0.02679328015783251,0.0,0.0,0.051976927949716534,0.05193493217312227,0.0,0.04168968576142765,0.050186148876962995,0.0,0.0,0.0967676237834462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639973739866894,0.0,0.04728973217760491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049206562390247836,0.04678359696864887,0.12571247298671154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05318099858275597,0.0,0.0,0.09641679851717926,0.06659904543060277,0.09212959720155073,0.0,0.04162941739347835,0.041721359027325634,0.03958946847242503,0.0527425859363087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03146928972112812,0.04779707764269978,0.047362941581467935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002563292169224,0.09520492012910882,0.0,0.2257815246485921,0.0,0.06931319770790073,0.1048710478050201,0.07272141994776747,0.045532408307530886,0.050138662616677133,0.04424187726040783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462912239859133,0.0,0.031946302740898117,0.035855482353617164,0.0,0.0,0.05234833798419765,0.0,0.0,0.06536805795920407,0.12349415868815082,0.0,0.2070018170162844,0.0,0.0,0.04515135585270063,0.047962859359631516,0.0,0.09022175266221552,0.0,0.09478639709860584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06040389000936335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104442752927095,0.04484517257101957,0.11247348830289212,0.0,0.04771270527003511,0.07513605346683314,0.0,0.04918194827283553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598468514102484,0.047178502050543664,0.14417350415453986,0.039945343637947626,0.1814705232162925,0.0,0.0,0.06673817564328482,0.0,0.0,0.03941487527618965,0.0,0.09857124081721444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947669156944456,0.06264136197379289,0.06041652616648796,0.0,0.03742743109518748,0.1099612430858576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475844810237186,0.09602397067909657,0.05127962904826305,0.0,0.04907904017799456,0.11341794897578365,0.0,0.0,0.11669733795058193,0.05561404192853042,0.11226322169152624,0.11344931400692695,0.0,0.08477705353334107,0.0,0.08508107537297348,0.10527020051614193,0.0,0.09089114431848336,0.0,0.06864344929394246,0.1436324471583663,0.0,0.1339602724507409,0.2577253028032652,0.0,0.030359483256874417
parenting,rhymeswithmacarena,2019/01/31,"Infant ibuprofen recalls. Heads up, friends! Mods, I know links are discouraged but because this is a safety issue I'm hoping you'll allow it.

https://www.fda.gov/Safety/Recalls/ucm630112.htm",9.529999999999998,13.99917607407408,5.745629629629632,63.48733333333337,84.55555555555556,5.122962962962963,27.62222222222222,6.742157984588678,2.284546666666667,162,6,17,2,5,44,26,27,0.058,0.564,0.379,0.8818,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,6,6,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,9,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906209453337069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683340554486505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4892806354918179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4735179928030462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4976006886465852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620080430311908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moribundmaverick,2019/01/31,"I need to post this here and be okay with it. <Disclaimer> I love my kid but don't always like him. I've never (and will never) actually hurt him, unless pretending that my eyes can shoot lasers at him counts. 

 

This morning, after you  
Destroyed my ($90) toothbrush;  
Threw the tantrums to end all tantrums,  
In which you intentionally banged your head against the hard tile   
And then had the audacity to expect me to comfort you for your poor decision,

You wanted me to hold you  
And carry you to the car when we  
were trying to leave, but I already had my  
arms full of my things, your things, and my back ached of worries.

So I told you to get over it,  
“It’s time to learn to walk yourself  
to the car,” I yelled in the yard, while you   
cried on the doorstep. This was not my finest moment.

And I hated you for it,  
but not nearly as much as I  
hated myself for talking like that  
to a toddler that didn’t even ask to be here.

And as I drove you to  
daycare, marinating in guilt,  
I couldn’t help wondering what the   
*actual fuck* was wrong with me. I wanted  
to squeeze your little arms so you could understand  
the pressure pot I am cooking in right now-- that you did this  
To me.   
Right? 

Other moms laugh with a knowing nod,  
That, “we’ve all been there before,” but I’m not sure  
How far down this road they’ve walked. Like, does everyone   
really get to that point where they wish their family gone?   
Imagine the last two years spinning back into  
a vortex that ends with a different decision  
Like an April Fools joke gone wrong? 

Because that’s the shit that gets me the most:  
The question that gnaws to the bone:  
I wish my family away an easy  
3 days of the week.  
So what does that   
make me,  
Really? ",2.989464285714284,4.728006636904767,3.523928571428573,91.17107142857144,74.89285714285714,6.704761904761906,22.119047619047624,7.447530270364453,0.6208047619047612,1314,34,282,16,28,411,185,336,0.19,0.701,0.11,-0.9865,1,0,0,1,0,0,49.0,1,16,2,0,13,23,7,2,21,1,16,9,6,3,5,47,39,22,0,8,8,1,2,4,0,1,0,1,1,1,26,13,1,1,8,4,1,8,8,13,0,1,13,4,49,10,45,21,5,46,0,1,1,2,30,19,2,3,22,194,75,1,0.0,0.0,0.21885769947463785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374519186924922,0.0,0.09330638191724956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483230013997184,0.0,0.10535574206370024,0.17245178082467852,0.0,0.06835724566520616,0.0,0.09541972927486167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953170831239451,0.0,0.1231764564251797,0.07231863457598024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171585630717072,0.0,0.0,0.19626245785468635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986389501442503,0.0,0.0,0.07406496639680878,0.0,0.0,0.1071510370053811,0.0,0.0,0.2114242413337164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366819937162024,0.17575976033385302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045209604213147,0.22142275471116304,0.11508419175065995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516259595551802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004422489008837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061627176056349285,0.09140604845383092,0.0,0.11873614701677665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913652140475728,0.11239002856931052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120738587745864,0.0,0.07485184880902122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133267542734345,0.0,0.0,0.08243308065225045,0.08314764313936561,0.1729728500180619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600504604871283,0.0,0.10739557491631584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561831591647335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436747661775803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152756938239898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510629713474788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568713257411884,0.0,0.0,0.0901309076510617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899674562738846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538757638997947,0.0,0.0,0.1071510370053811,0.0,0.0761331846487781,0.0,0.10954086784810996,0.1167378395778878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228178630603352,0.0,0.08994897326659726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25790241425156346,0.0,0.12160703037186517,0.0,0.11387985253815633,0.0,0.0,0.24520687401136124,0.0,0.07221209855072991
parenting,NeeuroPtyLtd,2019/01/31,"How Cognitive Training is Helpful for Behavior Management  While tracking a child’s developmental milestones, it is important to understand that each child has their own pace in reaching a milestone.  

We can learn more here: [https://www.neeuro.com/behavior-management/](https://www.neeuro.com/behavior-management/)",17.947162162162154,24.384336621621628,11.93641891891892,25.959763513513536,47.64864864864865,11.267567567567568,44.38513513513514,10.686352973137794,6.7683567567567575,273,13,24,7,4,75,34,37,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.6597,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,19,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5413529174466362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8407954678588695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dagger_guacamole,2019/01/31,"I think my 7yo has anxiety. Where do I start? My 7yo daughter has always been on the sensitive side, but I am realizing she might have actual anxiety. It clicked when I saw an article that said something like, ""Kids don't say they're anxious. They say their stomachs hurt."" She's complained about stomach aches off and on for a year or so, and we had her throughly checked out, but never found anything. The doctor said it's most likely just constipation. Other things that clicked when I read that - she can't sleep alone. She's been coming into our room for years. We got her out of our bed, but she'll still come in and sleep on the floor next to our bed (where she's made herself a little comfy spot). I tell her as long as she doesn't wake us up, she's fine (my husband disagrees, but that's another story). She says that she's scared. We've tried having her sleep with her sister, with our dog, with a light on, with music on, etc., and nothing has helped her be comfortable. I thought it was just a bad habit that she's gotten herself into (i.e. wakes up and just automatically comes in) and being scared was just an excuse, but now I'm considering that it might actually be anxiety.  As she's laying down to try to go to sleep, she'll sometimes cry or jump and say things like, ""I just had a horrible thought about you and dad burning up in a fire!"" I know she's prone to imagining these types of things, so I try to be really conscious of what she watches/reads/listens to and avoid things that might trigger bad dreams or thoughts later.  She worries a lot about friends/family/etc, but it didn't seem that far out of the realm of normal that I didn't think it might be something more serious than normal kid problems.   


So now knowing that this might be actual anxiety, what do I do? Is this something I'd talk to our pedi about? Are there things that you know work that I can try at home? I learned about ""Take 5"" where they take 5 breaths, list 5 things they can smell, 5 they can hear, 5 they can touch, etc. and we've been trying that a bit but not sure it's making a huge difference yet (we just started, so absolutely might need more time). ",5.261338568623955,5.3880586542923465,5.440197215777264,85.58436507228274,68.02552204176334,8.672532571836516,28.64188827413885,8.384062270229773,1.7178680349812605,1684,52,360,22,26,532,210,431,0.134,0.8079999999999999,0.058,-0.9871,0,2,3,0,0,0,67.0,9,2,6,1,25,15,0,3,15,0,41,10,9,3,2,74,69,29,0,4,17,4,2,3,0,8,1,7,4,2,33,25,0,1,14,2,1,5,7,9,0,0,19,14,58,6,48,36,7,48,0,1,3,0,59,28,0,12,18,241,91,5,0.0,0.0,0.20678831056653707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315641546273167,0.0,0.0,0.058773864259929226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406681237443948,0.2161419067111549,0.0797972895081683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058126473573826075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179543199743021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711497586843942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253703949715444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758907998783117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379839772344539,0.0,0.07229777509362845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363296303913697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744748118078305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04014342028942381,0.0,0.056493152369309525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961062391967585,0.0,0.04734505959122224,0.0,0.07085252656625284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756160814930723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645721994035504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352587812422112,0.07079468893307336,0.0,0.06250963079599914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06005123439474574,0.0,0.06683641502614858,0.04714931938318845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4495945623422261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052374855727876715,0.05447796066420632,0.0,0.07512097788379621,0.0,0.13841433661324362,0.06777605585415168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758802421787449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065397756029575,0.0,0.04525050179518896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437985941739305,0.2246867117806376,0.14143563995496522,0.0,0.0,0.06430332619977573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28274349766566664,0.0,0.0,0.1631345047870225,0.06985968540164918,0.0,0.09999143883898763,0.0,0.056409092645528174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665725222251283,0.0,0.10621725236170827,0.05677362708807807,0.06173798341270935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815599851607708,0.09051993589591527,0.0,0.16822857312993203,0.041187756507788637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397821761105166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496504286296444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05142302134882395,0.07173313183394363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097307152921784
parenting,moretaj,2019/01/31,"Found an independent author making fabulous Street Sign books for kids. My daughter became obsessed with books about street signs so I have gone down the rabbit hole to find books.   I found these books that appear to be by an independent author on Amazon - they're really great and I'm slowly picking up his other offerings.  So far my daughter loves them.  SHaring for those who have sign obsessed kids.

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[https://www.amazon.com/Dustin-Lee-Carlton/e/B01CYPBADY/ref=dp\_byline\_cont\_book\_1](https://www.amazon.com/Dustin-Lee-Carlton/e/B01CYPBADY/ref=dp_byline_cont_book_1)",14.56908408408409,20.408923445945945,8.665315315315317,47.581336336336356,57.78378378378378,6.5321321321321335,24.43843843843844,7.793537801064563,1.8740798798798808,501,12,52,6,9,132,55,74,0.041,0.765,0.194,0.9273,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,2,3,0,3,1,0,4,0,13,10,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,3,10,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,1,0,30,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045512768372998,0.34154432750478586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569030521002972,0.0,0.0,0.6163818815126033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098929278684603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536866855658132,0.0,0.1876238306937958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18006776340990094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34154432750478586,0.0
parenting,Momof3dragons2012,2019/01/31,"Night time tantrums! About to lose my mind. My daughter is 2 1/2 and she throws epic tantrums.  I’m talking head banging, screaming until she is hoarse, kicking.  They can last up to an hour (her pedi is aware of this and my daughter is otherwise developmentally “normal”).  
During the day I handle them fine.  Giving her space but being present to let her “scream it out”, ready to comfort when it’s over.  

But she has recently started this at night.   For example, she was crying at 4AM so I went in (she is still in a crib).  I attempted to sooth without picking her up and she started really crying, so I rocked her to sleep to try to avoid the tantrum.  After rocking her for 1 1/2 hours she finally seemed asleep and when I went to put her back in her crib she erupted into a screaming tantrum.  I let her scream for 15 minutes and then my husband came in and sat with her for another hour.  So basically for almost 3 hours we were dealing with this.  

Sometimes it longer.

The problem is that her brothers are asleep down the hall, and although I shut their door and put on white noise you can seriously hear her from the mailbox across the street.  So a door and a fan aren’t going to muffle her.  My 6 year old is being woken up and has trouble falling back to sleep, so he is tired in the morning for school, and if my 3 year old is woken at any point in the night he is basically done sleeping.  

Help!",3.4438142292490106,5.061940311594206,4.138234519104085,87.7383201581028,73.42028985507247,6.612384716732542,27.40052700922266,7.1686216300943375,1.2902811594202896,1090,41,222,11,22,347,151,276,0.172,0.773,0.055,-0.9878,1,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,3,2,11,15,4,1,13,0,23,7,6,1,0,28,36,24,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,7,17,0,1,1,2,0,8,2,13,0,0,9,6,39,2,43,23,0,58,0,1,1,0,37,23,0,3,27,151,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845401948760472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365261247748152,0.11356954648019316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665631083663382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387458757909525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23794075493586006,0.06984918630692873,0.11165997118434913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083587276661977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11864524755724493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389813877673217,0.0615534797607543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115443754857697,0.0,0.12207009001352648,0.0,0.07259603557218051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4266431149846541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828482652453687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150290748887624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211680569469719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935940074844124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049169210135177,0.1061180637560942,0.0,0.0,0.2273003819441707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023853154079097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363536666207726,0.0,0.21775730858762612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938436800682779,0.0,0.1069402973015971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961267231445716,0.0,0.09859881044640027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32515626537744924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711859379346364,0.0,0.15332079236023333,0.0,0.08649427272129606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705322767007266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315480141738149,0.12448319793401287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353348179002488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20080372568821767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440427934323056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13949257628709488
parenting,puneapplepickle,2019/01/31,"General anesthesia for dental work 3yo My daughter is going under for caps on her teeth next Friday, early in the morning. She was going to stay with her dad over the weekend after.  Is there anyone here who can tell me what to expect for after care? Will she be ok over the weekend? I’ve recently gotten really nervous about this.",3.4823809523809537,5.927404460317465,4.800238095238097,79.3489285714286,75.82539682539681,6.73968253968254,23.198412698412696,7.793537801064563,1.5242507936507932,263,8,43,4,6,87,51,63,0.036000000000000004,0.879,0.086,0.5215,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,3,1,6,1,1,0,0,3,10,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,14,6,0,15,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,7,34,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508966800119915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658429353367627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078536145098256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38161125951057706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298705564011629,0.0,0.3542934287447118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824565009592323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136262369509046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612266839113774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meow_mixxer,2019/01/31,"Teenage son missing the bus My 17 year old son misses the bus 2 or 3 days out of the week. He refuses to get out of bed until 10 minutes before the bus comes and leaves the house 2 minutes before the bus comes. I tell him to leave the house 10 minutes before the bus comes; he refuses. I don't think there are any issues at school or on the bus. He gets upset with himself each time he misses it and immediately apologises. Academics are important to him and he has goals for college etc. I put an alarm clock in his room. He unplugs it. When he finally does get up, he's sometimes stomping and yelling at his school. He goes to bed 9 hours before it's time to get up but sometimes stays up for a few hours. I think he just wants to stay in bed as long as possible.

I'm frustrated. When he misses the bus, I have to get the younger 3 ready and in the car (45 minutes before they're supposed to leave) and drive the 15 minutes to the school and the 15 minutes back to the elementary so the littles aren't late. This is my gas and my time and it means waking up the toddler. Not to mention my sanity. I'm tired of the stress of battling in the morning.

I need a solution!! Please help.",2.4199795918367357,3.9113471102040833,3.780969387755104,89.7734948979592,75.85714285714286,6.6959183673469385,25.719387755102037,7.365786028017652,1.0928734693877549,922,33,202,11,20,303,123,245,0.107,0.831,0.062,-0.8531,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,0,0,1,6,9,2,3,23,0,7,2,1,0,0,28,26,18,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,5,16,0,2,3,0,0,6,3,9,0,0,0,1,15,0,34,26,3,40,0,4,0,0,23,15,0,2,17,106,20,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025890436091416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944417113748042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43957454461492895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26699458711855745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663072951996919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904131474613278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522544002402076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317840359770075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26989357860445645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925101158912428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034922917439893,0.2384272190663683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783580069000692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654574684945244,0.32819242823809525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355048374807947,0.0,0.09143203544490174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254218340694802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660802990439892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084135053668148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341072002350094,0.0,0.11647406471573582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386182786541154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31368607311411706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20436573214321693,0.0,0.0,0.22024372813066376,0.0,0.0,0.11834894001071845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903033567116971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240234955659475,0.0,0.0,0.1807344099602558,0.11874735741193927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093887125672556,0.0,0.08287443123706605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653257261858123
parenting,TH4CV,2019/01/31,"Dads of all ages...when did you know, or did you? Men who have become fathers, and play an active role in their child’s life: did you know when you were ready to be a father, or do you hold to the often used statement of “you are never truly ready?” 
Husband says he knew when to ask to move in together, and knew when to propose, thinks he will also know when he is ready to be a father. Do you feel like this fits into those category? ",3.497,3.982159366666668,4.420000000000002,90.09000000000002,72.0,6.8888888888888875,21.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,0.20266666666666744,333,6,75,2,6,108,58,90,0.025,0.8140000000000001,0.161,0.9049,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,7,1,0,6,2,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,1,2,18,21,9,0,0,2,5,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,8,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,2,8,2,11,12,1,10,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,3,6,50,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471633227743057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28893891032724395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413437472705608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627517679412564,0.22079980861361093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5095706878268894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21830541857560945,0.15099608523101313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284927039725765,0.0,0.0,0.2383739874718256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457850237328799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803970084530445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669374138480459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,polarrrburrrr,2019/01/31,"My one-year-old won’t go to sleep until 11:00 PM or later.. So lately my (33) one-year-old son won’t go to sleep until 11:00 at best, sometimes 11:30 or midnight.. he usually takes only one nap during the day, waking up from that around 2 or 3 in the afternoon.. I feel like I need to stay up until he goes to bed because of how frustrated my wife (34) gets.. she’s been with him all day so I understand.. he’s off of formula and breast milk.. any tips would be appreciated..",1.932348484848486,3.2489734848484884,4.016047979797978,88.31073863636368,76.77777777777777,7.374242424242425,21.465909090909093,8.07648339933343,0.8374333333333337,361,9,82,6,8,124,71,99,0.037000000000000005,0.892,0.07200000000000001,0.5106,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,2,0,5,5,4,1,1,12,12,10,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,2,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,8,2,17,7,2,18,0,0,0,1,7,6,0,3,10,43,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261827714643288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518199201833386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311171695950675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472699458866355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393333682612066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382144609699493,0.13255948748251484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694406725670973,0.0,0.21090870800706815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931247752313564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065208795138134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758560025506014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894144577340683,0.0,0.3772076466745615,0.14112183005635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713750931044619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835171976330564,0.0,0.0,0.1977753870911753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951317116326206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316778112257088,0.0,0.0,0.20436101170968746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181191244794854,0.0,0.0,0.2389807948765759
parenting,Ipsey,2019/01/31,"How to talk to a daycare/school about racism? For reference I am an American (Puerto Rican) with a very diverse family, living in Denmark. My husband is Danish and our daughter (3yo, almost 4) has lived her whole life here in Denmark. Most of the caretakers at her daycare are also Danish.

**I understand this is a potentially controversial subject, I'm just trying to figure out how to navigate it respectfully.**

I went into a meeting yesterday with my daughter's daycare to go over some issues that I haven't been able to address (development, behavior, transition to preschool later this year). with them for several months because I've been busy. It mostly went well, except for one issue that just went off the rails and I dropped it because it was clear that they were not understanding my concern.

A few months back, my daughter came home in 'war paint' and with a 'feather headband' made out of construction paper. I was angry about it then, but my husband convinced me to let it go because it was likely a one time thing and it wasn't meant to be malicious. I get that it can look like a fun game to kids but I don't want my daughter learning about other cultures through stereotypes. I'm an active and participating member in my city's International Community and I want her to participate in a healthy, respectful manner.

So I brought up my concern with the head of the daycare, that while I understand that there are differences between the my culture and Danish culture, I'd like to know about these things before they do them so I can give context and talk about them to my daughter so she understands there's more to Native American life than war paint and feather headbands; and also so that she doesn't feel like I'm being Mean Mommy who won't let her play with the other kids in their fun game. 

Her response was nothing at all what I expected. She defended it as 'an easy way to teach children about culture' where they put up the teepee and make smoke signals and do war paint and headbands. She says that 'stripes on cheeks' are an easy way to paint children's faces. Furthermore she went on to say that they do this to other cultures, like they talk about how Chinese people have different eyes (and pulled her eyes back to emphasise this) and wear rice paddy hats. My husband even brought up that these are negative stereotypes but the only compromise we could come to on this is they would tell us when these 'culture days' are happening and invite me to come and talk about my culture.

It felt really awful to sit there in this meeting and have it defended. I've had to deal with a lot of this 'easy to understand' racism as an adult and I don't want to face it from my daughter. I've dealt with things that are relatively mild such as people asking me why black women are always loud (I don't know, I'm not a black woman and that hasn't been my experience) to outright racist caricatures and stereotypes in theme parks put on display as a joke. 

So far my husband and I are agreeing that when these days happen we'll keep her home and have a special treat, like taking her to the zoo, and educating her personally on different cultures. But if this is happening with her at 3, how do we address it with schools and teachers as she gets older? How do I balance my desire to teach my daughter to be culturally aware and respectful while also not wanting to be Mean Mommy who won't let her have any fun?",6.838797453050697,7.0413351852986255,6.8150580317562675,76.80895280889824,64.6814701378254,9.691448375916822,34.48895784637705,9.414487439383343,3.1018906584992343,2728,113,500,46,38,869,279,653,0.067,0.8140000000000001,0.119,0.9888,2,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,5,0,10,0,35,21,3,0,27,1,53,9,7,7,2,93,96,54,3,9,11,11,2,6,0,4,2,3,4,8,48,44,0,1,15,4,0,14,13,3,1,2,20,10,69,18,89,64,8,60,0,0,5,0,76,26,0,6,22,360,117,5,0.07406932059439092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416972528409004,0.0,0.0,0.17769962675647796,0.06163160830409311,0.0,0.0,0.05036967794941609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06924481613244747,0.0,0.0,0.11390947102156378,0.0,0.1354559110432874,0.0,0.06302753636258704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471557046782872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760832229241326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059138325419150185,0.0,0.0,0.09553716836274992,0.07636221715986391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321600255096042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048922087688195434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245400832961264,0.06982596345567188,0.0,0.037451674026593086,0.05291513743238293,0.07111816339119321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739632582420196,0.0710540415837628,0.0841906036439106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964977667517964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601649192935392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148595135598862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546182537738167,0.0,0.06583621542400109,0.0,0.0,0.08141312303719568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22722269597331274,0.10463470325173248,0.2171191719391282,0.0,0.13080913419541465,0.0,0.062199574464208936,0.0,0.0,0.06297108762538102,0.0,0.07008618206766097,0.049441846654456376,0.0,0.0,0.16136640858537676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824285007180935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107151077094148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038257712768626,0.05633305600345009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270068140586956,0.0646744737561427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892025056197167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474507034261168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780579332300305,0.0,0.14992421362764605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367724927776715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569091104629791,0.2381364567910948,0.06473985093695593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762509610386293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043190416488287024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028820664569393,0.0,0.0,0.3855438746682527,0.08909627276015034,0.0,0.0,0.06111494665715544,0.17475201742598073,0.11758555808948215,0.0,0.0,0.06659721458215723,0.2746520090390763,0.06683604109060269,0.08269575127570407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05261672019762778,0.0,0.0,0.047698214004720525
parenting,JohnishC,2019/01/31,"Is this rare?  

Are there any parents out there whose child/children has/have the same \[birth\] mark as they do, in the same place too?

I'm still processing what might be an uncommon similarity between me and my boy.",5.0474796747967465,6.557554073170736,4.705853658536586,85.66577235772358,69.2439024390244,8.393495934959349,30.739837398373986,8.841846274778883,2.2488471544715454,171,7,35,3,3,52,38,41,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,2,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188006495219872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4973236110891808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5205478579915523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4897971024011079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743849592831709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QWin15,2019/01/31,"5 month old son can't reliably roll from tummy to back, Ferber method sleep training Our son is extremely good at rolling from back to front, but can't reverse himself consistently.  We have been doing Ferber method for sleep training although he really is such a good sleeper that we rarely have him CIO floor longer than the first block before he sleeps. However, he has begun to roll into his stomach and fall asleep that way. I know SIDs risk is higher if they can't reverse themselves, so I've been going in, disrupting his sleep to rotate him. I feel like this might undo some of the gains we have had with his sleep training, but I also don't want to lose my son to SIDs. Any advice?",7.438368869936035,6.743429126865674,6.84586353944563,80.07664179104479,63.70149253731344,9.44818763326226,31.083155650319828,8.418075326091056,2.178446908315565,549,16,105,6,7,170,91,134,0.056,0.8320000000000001,0.112,0.8312,1,0,2,1,0,0,12.0,4,0,1,3,5,5,0,1,3,0,16,7,7,0,0,16,20,7,0,3,3,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,3,1,15,3,15,16,1,14,0,1,0,0,17,4,0,3,7,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528856619601266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511671784682818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063945192074461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406079192065647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313137389644575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791081661386632,0.1117712249732496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330802355447942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891677653244122,0.2624534555917441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598337765250195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643583351998963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503272088434058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597364707908166,0.0,0.0,0.12488059975033182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417282455535942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002288476441477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7828381406181045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228099936056863,0.1241864096414647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trryan16,2019/01/31,"Why do some parents think it's acceptable for their kids to constantly scream in public places and not make any effort to quiet them down? This has happened on multiple occasions and I'm fascinated as to why the parents don't make any effort to calm them down. Once was on a long haul flight where the kid wouldn't be quiet for literally hours and one today is in a cafe. High pitched screaming whilst the 2 ladies have a chat about normal things. It's like they're oblivious to everyone else in the cafe. 

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If parents allow their kids to be deeply annoying, surely they're going to grow up to be arse holes?",5.6164999999999985,6.628092316666668,5.698333333333334,80.92500000000003,67.5,9.0,28.333333333333336,9.188382445141503,2.252083333333334,498,16,94,9,8,157,82,120,0.067,0.807,0.126,0.7465,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,4,2,2,7,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,3,1,14,16,5,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,3,4,3,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,1,4,4,4,20,11,1,18,0,0,0,0,12,11,0,2,6,53,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18213884988728807,0.20426278176624604,0.2286307549443703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165894472782865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042796142525849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062902036579088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553645195855713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865237244009682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760938553494626,0.0,0.0,0.16554697482825576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212632780643457,0.0,0.0,0.1487653093939901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22441927736373768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647046330991208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902353996881,0.11391051782687865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5599733717719826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563120002960833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584344962503501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167974644340783,0.10771321233544927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593413930120542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033724882534134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426278176624604,0.0
parenting,d8911,2019/01/31,"Toddler with the stomach flu hydration tips? This is my little girl's first bout with the stomach flu and so far it's been really rough. We ended up in the children's hospital on Sunday night when she was vomiting every 10-20 minutes for 6 hours straight. She started crying without tears so we brought her in and thankfully the anti nausea meds worked. She kept vomiting on and off all day Monday and into Tuesday morning. As soon as the vomiting stopped though, the diarrhea started. She's just shy of 2 years old so she gets dehydrated fast. She absolutely hates any form of Pedialyte, moderately tolerates some coconut water, and begrudgingly drinks plain water.

Does anyone have tips for how to keep her fluids up other than Pedialyte/Gatorade? She's taken to calling them fake bad juice and is now reluctant to drink even plain water we give her because she's worried it'll be electrolyte water. 

She's been sleeping in the bed with me waking 2-3 times a night needing her diaper changed (and sometimes her pants). I'm deliriously exhausted so not as creative as normal with food ideas. ",6.439765458422179,7.968780641791046,6.505803127221039,73.99085820895525,65.96517412935324,9.52395167022033,34.75515280739161,9.784248007369934,3.657554086709311,883,41,144,19,14,281,136,201,0.162,0.8079999999999999,0.03,-0.9768,0,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,2,11,5,1,0,8,0,8,17,4,1,1,27,20,18,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,4,15,7,3,1,2,0,1,2,4,0,1,6,1,20,1,26,12,3,32,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,1,19,88,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995461105611434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130572701816076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500423225337754,0.09856460354960404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651033675221844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104637295026606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776086569323638,0.10427654708531303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149583677538666,0.0,0.0,0.3167889032358441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432091739504009,0.0,0.0,0.10679459037261936,0.0,0.13623063319235038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753326437852678,0.1955159523734944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447624890235254,0.15510759298785992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963520635293568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923188665659804,0.0,0.0,0.18252810736116512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371732667463905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162055660684721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960092148914558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989094063640708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034698551004764,0.15842167757317094,0.0,0.0,0.16966624976961114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358262851704787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180657408437502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991535019941416,0.0,0.22888975046117985,0.0,0.0,0.1351799158347735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886224748323815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885941113419494,0.0,0.09428262477854972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558632007966945,0.0,0.11771210276757132,0.16420384420819387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412293233693684
parenting,boosnow,2019/01/31,"Parents please help. Dropping our son to kindergarden is becoming a nightmare. I don’t know what we’re doing wrong or where to turn to. He’s 3 years old, and a good kid I would say. Very energic, a bit stong willed at times, but nothing crazy. A normal tantrum every couple days, they go away fast. He eats, he sleeps in his room, so pretty much we don’t have extraordinary issues with him.

Except dropping him off at the kindergarten. 

He used to love it, and I think he still does, cause he seems happy when we pick him up, and that’s also the feedback we receive, that he loved his day. He’s not crying when we pick him up, just his normal happy self. He started kindergarten about 14 months ago.

In the morning he’s sleepy, and he’s usually cranky when he’s sleepy, but he’s not resisting. We change clothes, we talk, he knows where we’re about to go and he’s fine. We’re trying to have him sleep earlier in the evenings but he just won’t.. not something I can force him. In the car we talk about where we are going, how me will then go to work, but when I come back I will pick him up too, and he’s agreeing, not upset. We get there, we change, he’s smiling at the kids, all good until we get in front of the door of his class.

That’s when he starts hiding behind me, makes a sad face, starts clinging to me, tells me I should stay too. I think if I were to come inside too he would go in hapily, and play with the other kids while not even minding me. A lady there comes and helps me get him inside, he starts crying and screaming for me. I tell him again I will pick him up later and to have fun and I leave. The lady is doing a nice job of calming him in few minutes, and he’a having a great rest of the day.

But I hate it. I hate see him in distress, I hate to do this to him, I hate he’s the only kid from 100 there to do this, I hate that this started recently when he used to run inside and just not even care about me.

I’ve read that sometimes this happens, but this behaviour passes after a while. It started beginning of december, it lasted about a month and then it seemed to go away, at least to be better, but now it’s starting again this past two weeks, and it’s hard to take it. I must be doing something wrong, or I could be doing more.

Should I ask that I stay with him inside the class for 10 minutes each morning, hopefully he will then accept that I’m leaving since he’s having fun and hopefully wants to stay? 

Should I give him a few weeks break and not take him to kindergarten for a while, maybe he will miss the kids and want back?

I’ve read about separation anxiety, but he doesn’t feel anxios honestly, he just wants me involved in his activity. And he was never like this, he’s been going for a year, why would anxiety start now?

Doea anyone have the tinyest of advice? Anything that would give some hope? Every day it feels like it’s worse than the previous day, and his crying is louder. I’m scared this is becoming like the normal thing to do when he’s there, “i need to cry when we get here that’s how it’s done”. Anything I could try? Anyone else that went through the same?

Thank you very much.",2.7297990726429653,3.99621907573416,3.55459072642968,92.62547496136015,74.6259659969088,6.412476043276661,21.904451313755803,6.742157984588678,0.29492039567233386,2430,58,545,20,50,773,264,647,0.109,0.7240000000000001,0.166,0.9923,2,0,2,0,0,0,84.0,13,1,1,2,43,39,6,3,30,0,46,6,3,10,3,106,108,50,0,21,23,2,3,3,0,15,0,2,2,6,32,39,1,0,9,3,0,16,12,14,0,1,5,6,70,25,67,83,12,99,0,2,1,2,90,24,0,9,56,339,102,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056640377276826824,0.05138034345563648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046352666506626894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088682453482021,0.0,0.0,0.08105758863889369,0.05938952857019759,0.09539655436968936,0.0,0.05418720221453188,0.0,0.10891553256096133,0.08913931591051606,0.0,0.0,0.12803026520081615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126320524760335,0.0632801418686394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059096728895646176,0.05954355188749608,0.12263348048742274,0.1497889304324971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925568317485838,0.06413450921462449,0.25467675681898777,0.18690539415882226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072345773532212,0.05931585915791041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05931020535243925,0.04842031076129532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114851242578797,0.0,0.09767197286458076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05861525951256798,0.04140848965175716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211322548701984,0.11120600600901688,0.23059035053563,0.09723254981360054,0.0,0.06390396592561083,0.0,0.0,0.05125613158447979,0.12340452097798778,0.05192310035972486,0.2861303140447269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770221163845017,0.0,0.0,0.17270980676094555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060497890320583884,0.05751893204335391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370945302959473,0.047247251320306334,0.0,0.12274803853357848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495278875471117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462701050770787,0.0,0.038690482438431886,0.0,0.05823121766424694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852569795743625,0.0,0.09253038111919157,0.0,0.08521835358961362,0.04297852996107837,0.04470432676302018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037311025972285,0.055616673434022816,0.0,0.06082199339165655,0.0,0.0,0.044083165607412315,0.0,0.0,0.06436060265125328,0.0,0.05533185580213151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362552378021175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589687973321146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159565615692297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723107018251392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609418221738649,0.05803066953493636,0.0,0.04618868399816197,0.10553393964589336,0.0604676280526421,0.0,0.0,0.047947257787155015,0.0,0.11600891035253058,0.0,0.0,0.08924487529032557,0.057326488834759964,0.0,0.3282097861860391,0.18534124320941053,0.04628900346646097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871613162378857,0.09317627700902016,0.10132372616455347,0.05336417021645238,0.0,0.0,0.03850777276582914,0.0742801812608488,0.0,0.0,0.03379845543244913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870559486515796,0.06304665928983665,0.05662103329713741,0.0,0.0,0.10012214420291166,0.06383760981060996,0.09565042288529677,0.10256352137118803,0.0,0.0929881953725858,0.0,0.0,0.0537319065298738,0.0523022267380702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04219745969731189,0.0,0.05906883647658132,0.1646998586441925,0.1267459976429593,0.0,0.07465202196802924
parenting,Ameldur,2019/01/31,"Isofix vs seatbelt chairs Hi,

First time parent here.

My daughter is 6 months and I'm are looking for a new car seat.. I find so much conflicting information online and would like more opinions or data on it.

In your opinion, what is the best? Isofix or seatbelt fastened car seats? Do you have any examples of good seats?

Thank you 😊 ",1.9251562500000008,4.663298703125005,2.4643750000000004,91.643125,85.40625,5.075,23.625,6.6274283507984215,0.7904125,263,10,51,3,8,81,55,64,0.043,0.7759999999999999,0.182,0.8645,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,9,5,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,4,4,8,3,8,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,4,5,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21716792124919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351365335788099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918787305073414,0.2716376588559543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26785435847684497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560175392316974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681722980746801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549009145786305,0.0,0.2347578817480117,0.0,0.0,0.3084287575421765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545987011012892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940131798740022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621467018446095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268560017347015,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Institutionation,2019/01/31,"I am a teen working retail and have a genuine question. Crying kids in the middle of the store, I understand temper tantrums but why do so many parents practically ignore them? Is there a method to it or just lazy parenting? I ask because it annoys the ever living hell out of me and if I understand the general situation more I can be more tolerant towards it. ",5.129130434782611,6.59717698550725,6.722434782608698,71.44539130434784,69.0,9.577971014492757,34.08985507246377,9.888512548439397,3.752215072463769,288,14,48,7,5,99,54,69,0.28800000000000003,0.6729999999999999,0.039,-0.9616,2,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,1,4,5,4,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,1,13,9,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,0,6,8,2,5,1,0,0,0,6,4,1,3,1,40,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190911266155457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286117871237305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574289467527708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198832465004835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20694054936661246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376000944718594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5204489757080321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625322378784073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634258457213849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4879455045369597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21146974400299387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061388312310402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poofacemcguillicutty,2019/01/31,"how to talk to young daughter about sex A friend has told me that the third graders at my daughter's school are all talking about sex. I talk to my daughter openly and honestly about so so many topics, in fact I probably tell her too much because she's very mature, but I still have not had the sex talk with her. Partly because I feel like she's so innocent and little girlish and also I guess I am just clueless as to what I should say. I raising her to be a strong woman with feminist values and I don't know what the correct message I should be telling her if I start the sex talk... We talk a lot about respecting yourself, respecting others, standing up for yourself, and for others, being in control of her body and what happens to it....I guess there's just so much I want to tell her in terms of sex/consent/sexuality and I'm scared I won't say it all right or say too much....

(She's 8 and a half by the way) am I overthinking this (yes, probably) Like do I just tell her the basics then say "" sex is only for adults""...?? Ahh, help! I'm clueless! Any suggestions on books or resources would be so so helpful.... I just don't know where to start!",2.322957446808509,3.9995427744680874,3.5542021276595754,90.50875,76.57446808510639,6.402127659574468,25.36702127659575,7.1686216300943375,1.0074723404255317,892,32,192,10,20,290,122,235,0.044,0.79,0.166,0.9812,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,0,2,21,8,0,1,10,1,18,6,1,2,4,37,30,22,0,5,9,3,1,2,1,4,0,4,0,2,8,12,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,1,0,2,2,5,30,7,27,20,8,18,0,0,0,5,36,10,0,6,8,133,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871859800258901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413965604373254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291931525318504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211004287718975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227902257294887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055125510895306255,0.07788634449248423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423121461263959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402031507423369,0.0,0.09640903968038078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615218459781312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983282770807825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065266603731488,0.10927009633978356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268780280735572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053262385884396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24043424792534016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291721460245169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180617266610426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350913469609839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931053947781184,0.0,0.3467991598317432,0.10915145074207663,0.11033750942524748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433465871174115,0.0,0.08706623449738853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5257733139279369,0.38116505613624396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417653848415187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995572949350357,0.06430483076505733,0.08653770668555169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744710104200023,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darenchu,2019/01/31,"Getting my 1 year old daughter to sleep through the night! I know you probably get asked this hundreds of times but I need some help. I have zero problem getting her to go to sleep initially. Diaper change, nurse and into her crib around 8 pm. She'll fuss for a few minutes then she's out. Then around midnight she'll wake up screaming bloody murder and for the rest of the night I can't put her down AT ALL. I will get her to sleep in my arms but she'll snap awake the moment I try to put her down and it starts all over again. What gives? ",0.9512536873156314,3.1196337345132754,1.7621460176991164,99.20097713864307,83.3362831858407,4.828613569321534,19.151179941002948,5.985473137389443,-0.3601793510324485,424,11,98,3,12,131,76,113,0.153,0.816,0.031,-0.9441,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,5,0,6,5,5,0,2,15,16,7,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,1,0,1,18,0,20,12,5,23,0,0,0,0,14,10,0,1,10,63,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30738823764540507,0.16140340944752676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263963679765866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.360807683938212,0.16562055049304533,0.09812034481816627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572291396782808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488331665752606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280169668346597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32403858181023704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116597096012507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18614470795501084,0.16520167424756332,0.0,0.3471196476355293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5183207351173078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220177537202663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006729581508935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721726565193907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118022683740136
parenting,exilica,2019/01/31,"Is it safe to give a one week old gripe water? Specifically Mommy's Bliss Original gripe water. I read on their site that it is safe for newborns two weeks and older but I'm wondering, since it's all natural and there are essentially no side effects, would it be safe to give to a one week old at a lower dose? 

Our newborn has been crying every time my girlfriend stops nursing and she hasn't been able to sleep more than an hour for the last four days.

We're tired and desperate :(",3.181159793814434,4.914709835051546,4.101636597938143,87.2518363402062,74.36082474226805,7.32422680412371,23.465206185567013,8.07648339933343,1.1568360824742263,382,11,79,6,8,123,72,97,0.199,0.669,0.132,-0.8645,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,5,0,9,5,1,2,1,14,13,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,5,4,2,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,5,3,9,9,2,16,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,12,46,10,1,0.1877764424329454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20626360471013672,0.12110027101175437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820975148131036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.360264547913024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849219711125525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306286277076653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3940795778716735,0.0,0.2544843541701812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18782725740505435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15533061360874714,0.0,0.18791205233397285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698951394644828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094939536407996,0.2158213975460936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834302992727526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4518688068579175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20363554181177526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339099713503308,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jfager16,2019/01/31,"Toddler puking for the first time....how do we deal with this???? First time parents, kiddo woke up puking. I never knew a small human could produce so much vomit. I mean....everywhere.... now it’s 10:25 pm and she is running laps in between puking sessions. She is 19mo. 

Soooo do we just hang with her and hope she falls asleep soon??? 

So much vomit. Encouragement or wise words from the more experienced would be appreciated. ",1.3833766233766234,3.8663285714285713,2.4926623376623382,86.98756493506494,100.94805194805195,4.277922077922079,18.48701298701299,6.18269132825596,0.2710935064935067,328,10,58,4,14,104,61,77,0.098,0.747,0.155,0.7117,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,3,0,7,3,1,1,1,15,10,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,1,8,3,7,5,3,12,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,6,41,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473701135152507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901911128367315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788495158885879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27957083281896306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066116950469425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138369418272641,0.0,0.2170929276942731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125476362007609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32826377993659256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995365713390906,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RobzStorm,2019/01/31,"Never dated a parent/New to this My SO is 40M, and has 3 kids from a previous marriage. They're all under 13. I'm 20F and haven't met them yet. We've been together a year and he'll send me pictures or videos of them talking to me. His youngest has said he wants me to be his step mommy and he loves me. I've never even met or talked to them not through their dad. Im unsure how to handle this situation. Ive never been with anyone with kids. ",0.0030612244897980645,1.8195627755102064,2.440163265306122,95.02269387755103,84.51020408163265,5.144489795918368,17.963265306122448,6.2581,-0.32143999999999995,344,8,82,3,10,118,67,98,0.023,0.935,0.042,0.4019,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,1,4,15,15,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,5,1,12,1,11,8,1,9,0,0,0,1,20,1,0,2,6,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512973247559946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542861871470066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27054329668429017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260528676909664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5795181118491529,0.24189897382162864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781098059676052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23824791239933735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815311942568822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40262575632140746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772971793762402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612901253979614
parenting,ShakeItLikeIDo,2019/01/31,"Just found out I will be a father So today I (m26) went over to my gf’s (24f) house to pick her up because we were going to go out to eat pizza. She comes out of her house with a gift and hands me it. I open it and inside theres a baby blanket, a love note and two pregnancy tests. At first I was happy and well tbh didnt really think much of it. A couple hours later passed and now im freaking out. I know my life is drastically going to change. No more being selfish, way less video games or if any at all, no more bar hopping, no more mostly saving money for vacations, no more messing around in life. I did want kids but I didnt know they were going to come this early. I thought I’ll start being a father closer to 30. My gf is so excited and happy and im freaking out and she can tell. I dont want to ruin this moment for her. Im glad im going to have a baby with this woman because I love her and want to spend the rest of my life with her but im freaking out right now",0.03717357910906571,1.68507259447005,2.6870046082949344,94.20288786482337,83.42396313364057,5.054992319508449,16.78494623655914,5.916634753146586,-0.5469440860215053,751,14,178,5,21,262,119,217,0.08,0.759,0.16,0.9625,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,1,8,14,0,0,8,0,15,9,1,1,1,40,34,15,0,4,5,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,6,23,3,0,5,3,2,9,7,6,1,2,9,1,24,8,30,21,9,34,0,1,0,2,19,15,0,3,9,118,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570181002387892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909891527998947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571998156917947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776241037991962,0.1917856409832012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317410161773795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046688772075218,0.0,0.0,0.11390874196296805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468922632661332,0.0,0.12205726735002545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163302477954841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23700564942601685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962834498382144,0.25689800042377336,0.0,0.0,0.6012266318652331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235775618422262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358870480199117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094233482179455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183343314919955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131481245265647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506716491284824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879327769611419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729909136058894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132973111394343,0.0,0.08837610388086826,0.0,0.0,0.10551889106672238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874402867423208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19697928242299587,0.08836109284817205,0.0,0.0,0.1000905682081378,0.10319529058649587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,digitalcascade,2019/02/01,"Recommendation for a toddler bank account? My 2 year-old son is starting to get money from relatives. I'm looking for an account with:

\-nearby brick & mortar branch (Phoenix, AZ)

\-gives him withdrawal rights as soon as possible (preferably immediately)

\-nonzero interest is slightly preferable

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I know an online option gives way better interest rates, but that is a distant tertiary goal. I'd prefer that he is able to associate a tangible place with the idea of saving money.  My nearest bank is a Chase. They heavily pushed a custodial account, but he legally has no right to that money until he's 18, and in effect changes the cash that is meant for him to assets that are no longer his. They have a checkings account with minimum age of 13, but I think it's cool that when he's 14 and has things he wants to buy, he can see a decade of savings transactions that reflect a historic effort of saving.

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They said there is technically a joint account option where he has rights to the assets immediately, but the banker was pretty cagey about it and personally felt that it was kind of ridiculous for a 2 year old to fill out the computer-based forms, even though she admitted it was not against bank policy.

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Any ideas?",8.864461426491992,8.55606193449782,8.341582969432313,69.24707605531296,60.659388646288214,11.126783114992724,39.60735080058224,10.504223727775694,4.282982241630277,1009,47,167,20,12,320,139,229,0.041,0.862,0.097,0.8234,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,3,4,8,9,1,0,17,1,16,0,0,1,0,30,30,12,0,4,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,13,7,0,0,12,0,14,3,3,1,0,0,6,5,11,8,27,24,1,20,0,0,2,0,21,8,0,2,8,101,24,2,0.10986483414338896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761540075732762,0.40049339636869385,0.07471185464319728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716651772878114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622242696656572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256468679178006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054874698843608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739984133611425,0.21078471980499613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480480499086255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440731830416374,0.060378839631574525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225879051491086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23056932435829314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592973548980624,0.11478536814187695,0.0,0.0,0.12385609300200573,0.0,0.11177203344466437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814719042015971,0.10450661606423156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754804856425352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776289507788872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298931401332424,0.07039694957151334,0.10794164173164887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480112567747072,0.08720559155592597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40049339636869385,0.14149870225652725
parenting,MKWright,2019/02/01,"Concerned about mysterious symptoms my toddler has, doctors seem to be blowing it off as normal. Is it? I'm just hoping that this manages to somehow reach someone who has had similar symptoms or their child has, so I can either have some reassurance that it's nothing, or know I'm not just overreacting and continue pressing for some kind of testing.

My two and a half year old has weighed 24 lbs for as long as I can recall. At least since she turned two. Maybe for awhile beforehand. She *is* growing, though; she's tall for her age, but very lean. Not skeletal -- she has chubby little cheeks and all -- just way skinnier than most toddlers. She eats plenty, and we eat well. Lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, whole grains, nuts and seeds, lean meats and fish, occasional cheese or yogurt. That's pretty much all we eat. She drinks milk, or water. That's it. 

She has developed, in the last few days, two new symptoms that, along with her skinniness, are kind of freaking me out. First (TMI warning), I noticed that when she uses her little potty to poop, her poops are basically sitting in grease. Like I have to use dish soap to scrub it out and it looks like the kind of grease that comes off a pizza, clear and orange. Her poops have been softer than usual during this time as well, and extra stinky. She's also very hungry ALL THE TIME. Like we normally eat a lot anyway, three regular meals plus snacks, but now she's begging for snacks between her snacks. She seems to need to eat constantly these past few days. Of course I've been obliging as much as I can (I can't let her stay up all night and eat when she needs to sleep, but other than that, I give her food whenever she asks). 

The weird oily poop and the sudden increase in appetite are scaring me along with her tendency to be super thin. Doesn't this sound like cause for at least some testing or something? Or is it totally normal and maybe just a strange virus or a phase or something else?",4.102570921985812,5.8896014202127684,4.079382978723405,88.1386666666667,72.03191489361703,6.821843971631205,25.56524822695035,7.42949916751922,1.1505467375886531,1538,49,303,17,30,471,205,376,0.046,0.843,0.11,0.9732,0,0,3,0,0,0,58.0,3,0,1,2,15,15,0,1,10,0,26,31,8,3,6,67,41,36,0,6,18,0,2,4,0,0,4,1,0,1,21,24,20,0,3,1,0,3,4,3,2,6,3,7,37,12,46,35,21,40,0,0,1,0,31,14,0,18,24,206,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668207204585426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811477018458253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583633554747651,0.0,0.07197719140769761,0.0,0.0902957270761422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777505620734762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552440880930177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185431625429195,0.0,0.5129996978656021,0.06980137915978815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107377312104844,0.10103778531929516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015574939768738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829912249411594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610361228385201,0.045920891636822815,0.06811032915349839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854429720906302,0.0,0.16328745039196715,0.16749267622685424,0.0,0.07394555657891466,0.07016706428329679,0.0,0.0,0.14207480972210598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16788902174363154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284841870606752,0.12391331729913467,0.0,0.08070013425194482,0.0,0.07841283971536507,0.2456051578540751,0.08017545631031987,0.09513050831125416,0.08767930141784112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976487109922845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500778529628593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836554062420912,0.0,0.0,0.1521348049946332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691194390918399,0.0,0.08361761634854734,0.0,0.07079780565416026,0.12865294088916704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906093460782302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605439982392741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820945957773541,0.0,0.097445834839267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088631817219962,0.24486994103009865,0.0,0.0,0.14433331054506154,0.09202653054029662,0.1378870009225044,0.0,0.06632387346958159,0.0,0.0,0.15025604521984787,0.0,0.0,0.09328871050487254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053808143819271986
parenting,PieceOfDatFancyFeast,2019/02/01,"Leaving small sleeping children with monitors in hotel rooms Hey All,

My family and I, with several other families, are headed to Cabo later this month. I'm curious as to what your opinions would be, as well as any relevant legality, regarding leaving my 3 young kids under 6 years old in the room while they're sleeping with audio/video monitors on if we stayed in the building to hit the lounge downstairs. My initial reaction to this is strongly opposed, but my wife and some of our friends don't see it that way, and I don't find myself with a strong argument against. The two littlest would be in pack-and-plays, and we could be in the door in 20 seconds if needed.

The basic argument against is: What's the difference between that, and leaving the baby asleep with a monitor while we watch TV across our big house, or if we go outside while napping? It's hard to argue with.

Feedback appreciated",9.08907894736842,7.572263134502926,8.824612573099412,69.86569078947369,60.92982456140351,12.058771929824562,41.84283625730994,10.9516,4.6223502923976625,720,35,127,15,8,233,112,171,0.064,0.835,0.101,0.765,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,1,0,2,1,5,1,0,10,0,11,4,4,0,1,29,16,16,0,7,5,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,9,15,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,1,1,2,0,3,14,4,27,9,2,24,0,0,2,0,13,13,0,6,8,89,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503502211393495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506099005050096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673684351187868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31893915455709776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460974173976685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306930751058928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613787844433758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515346886575612,0.0,0.17360759858140726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951886431146934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5373500139720097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502239270305846,0.0,0.0,0.12543045602999864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750561442371005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347991125466962,0.0,0.0,0.19110335052703628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385655708149783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18030271299007733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16524534538015384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342718260844049,0.0,0.0,0.15209571242203546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24033370146123825,0.0,0.0,0.108933892893628
parenting,IcommentB4Iread,2019/02/01,"Sleeping in their own bed? How can I get my 7 year old to sleep by herself? Its actually my niece but she refuses. Even if you put her to sleep and go in your own bed she wakes up and well call for you.  
Any suggestions??",-0.6775886524822674,1.4394361702127654,1.5245744680851097,98.0841666666667,91.55319148936172,5.686524822695036,18.471631205673766,7.1686216300943375,0.12749929078014155,168,5,42,3,6,56,38,47,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.5588,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,6,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,1,7,3,2,7,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,2,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.2452130721553099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087904444534166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25658501636189524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659680970131547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128345007190248,0.0,0.1428082378886315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636761328768633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526058449306163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7543845364630078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22593093412169254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181610768012744
parenting,notsomundane,2019/02/01,Penis Face I had to explain to my boys why they couldn’t call each other penis face. I learned “penis face” gets exponentially funnier when repeated.  We might’ve lost the thread as I dissolved into laugher. ,5.478596491228071,7.549023000000004,5.807894736842107,75.98359649122811,69.0,7.171929824561403,31.08771929824561,7.793537801064563,2.3270771929824567,166,7,27,2,3,53,31,38,0.061,0.7959999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,6,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,6,0,4,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,16,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842235371514258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477562309156721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.517658485516003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030640605022151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279026285445366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,usmlematerialsnet,2019/02/01,"How To Calculate Gestational Age (Pregnancy Duration Calculator)  

# How To Calculate Gestational Age (Online Pregnancy Duration Calculator)

[http://medbooksvn.org/how-to-calculate-gestational-age-pregnancy-duration-calculator/](http://medbooksvn.org/how-to-calculate-gestational-age-pregnancy-duration-calculator/)",56.93,73.34559866666667,37.22777777777779,-161.15499999999997,-21.0,26.844444444444452,67.1111111111111,14.06817628641468,18.789311111111115,288,11,6,11,3,77,10,18,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwwint,2019/02/01,"Wait until your father gets home My wife has started doing that dreaded 'wait until your father gets home' thing. I think that it sucks and I feel completely justified in thinking that it sucks. My wife thinks 'but parenting is teamwork and I need you to back me up'. Yes, sure, but I also think that sometimes there's solo expeditions. 

I think that a lot of this is from all of our personalities. Her parenting personality is very kind and sweet and soft - which I love to a point, she gives our boys plenty of love and care. I'm mostly nice but I can switch on stern quite easily, I'm definitely firm with them. Our 7 year old is one of those kids who tests the world and then laughs about it. Our 5 year old is quite good natured but the 7 year old can drag him into things.

So mostly the 7 year old clashes with mom. We're already trying to be on the same page with my wife and I responding in the same ways to things. But then she says ""but he just doesn't listen, he refuses to co-operate etc"". I suggest being tougher, she claims that she tries but the 7 year old doesn't fall for 'fake tough mom'. So then she goes to 'telling your dad'. And then I get home and hear the stories, that I feel like I don't need to be a part of really, and then I'm supposed to deal with it. And they do listen to me. I don't want to be that guy and I don't think it helps for her potential in gaining authority over the whole thing.

What can we do? Am I wrong in thinking that things should happen without me? Do I just suck it up and call it 'family life'? Am I supposed to be less stern to break the gap with her being such a nice, kind, empathetic, all the things that drew me to her to start with her, person?",2.079145299145296,3.715621971509975,3.2943675213675228,92.28257692307696,77.14814814814815,6.617321937321937,20.53190883190883,7.42949916751922,0.35973002849002844,1316,31,301,17,30,426,168,351,0.057,0.7340000000000001,0.209,0.9966,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,4,2,3,9,19,3,1,14,1,27,3,0,0,3,55,60,30,0,4,10,10,3,1,0,1,1,4,3,6,28,21,0,3,9,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,0,8,46,12,42,53,12,35,0,0,0,2,55,12,3,3,21,202,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039952162512188,0.06551049910412894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629905625198894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364833602541355,0.0,0.08352175823200353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589038758611743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445476870409127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136120598645896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722582990019101,0.0,0.08284129469094056,0.05852286456588091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839770188335464,0.07858405466259337,0.0,0.06870967031147374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811125709194067,0.07244059544591942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232853195671437,0.0,0.05490849879371861,0.0,0.2465139490636288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061181595577926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578617278951336,0.04002142710828447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964450271674244,0.14786997587620912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188480543023909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148362373541005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298004239978087,0.0,0.05551035347422628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192244460082294,0.08871016459714545,0.0,0.0,0.2145852199667949,0.0,0.0,0.07743982055301164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17426162591837538,0.0,0.0,0.052479332472884783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514518172165874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810198674312618,0.0,0.1159652104417386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772075753595835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160071223929487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265395848910474,0.3674321759971859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123508506607108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759165561533491,0.04831787813791273,0.06502339429589189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145950453716628,0.0,0.078966877477448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956543593726084,0.0,0.26376536598810424
parenting,forgetsit,2019/02/01,"Almost 4 year old will not poop on the potty My 3 year old will be 4 in March.

He is pee trained, has been since age 2.5 and been dry for overnights the entire time (has not ever had a night time accident). He now pees standing. 

Pooping has always been a problem. He has to poop standing up. He will hold his poop in until the end of the day so he always goes at night in a pull-up in the bathroom before bed. The only time he does not poop at night is if he is very constipated, but he only goes if a trusted family member is around to help change him. Never at daycare since potty training began.

When he has to poop he has to get a pull-up himself, puts it on and poops. I feel like i have been very no pressure and positive for a year now about this pooping standing up and i am at my wits end. I have tried the following:

- rewarding with candy (this worked for pee but never cared if he got candy for a poop)

- rewarding with a stash of various small toys he picked out (i got him to poop on his own twice using these toys - once in November and once in December). 

- high, high praise for the two times he poops on the potty.  we talk about it over and over again how proud we are. Big hugs and smiles. Call gma. Stay up late. 

- telling him that he’s a big boy and he should start going on the potty while not criticizing. We say it nicely while we help him clean up. He wipes himself the first few wipes.

- reading a book called ‘It hurts when i poop’ about a little boy who holds his poop in and explains in detail why kids need to poop. He loves it.

- telling him there are certain fun things that he cannot do anymore unless he poops on the potty (we have extra play time in our room before bed and he cant do that. This makes him very sad and it breaks my heart. cant go with dad in the attic) also if he wants to read at night he has to sit on the potty. Started this in the last 3 weeks.

Usually he goes poop everyday, or every other day. we give him miralax everyday as directed by our doctor because of constipation.

We just told him last week that we ran out of pull-ups and he held his poop in for 7 days in a row. I caved on the 7th day and gave him a pull up. We tried again and said ok, now there are really none. Held his poop in for 5 days (today was the 5th day) and he was shouting and shaking/rocking that he had to poop. I thought this was perfect now he HAS to go on the potty. I sat in the bathroom with him and made him stay on the potty (maybe 20 sec of holding him down at a time then letting him go) we did this for 5-10 minutes and he threw a absolute fit and tensed up so that he would never let the poop out even though he clearly had to go. Soon i stopped holding him because i realized he would never poop in this state. I wouldn’t let him out of the bathroom for 15 minutes saying he had to poop before we left. He continued to scream and yelling and shaking as he held it in until his face we deep red and yelling he was ALL done.  I gave up and gave him the pull-up. He pooped immediately.  

I feel like i am enabling this and not doing enough and reinforcing the wrong behavior. But i also know he is stretching out his colon by holding like this and i hate that he’s so backed up. Nothing is motivating him to poop on the potty. 

Aside from this poop issue, he is a totally normal, loving kid. We definitely had our threenager period for 6 months but his behavior has turned a corner in the last 2 months. He wants to make us happy when we express disappointment. Loves high praise and that usually gets him to do what we want generally. The 2 times he went on the potty it was totally voluntary on his part. He got up and just sat on the potty, i didn’t hold him on it. The first time was just a random, get up and went poop with no discussion on the subject. The second time he definitely did it more for the present after talking him into it.

We ask him why he wont go on the potty because he’s capable of explaining how he feels. He says ‘he afraid and ‘it hurts’. Yet the two times he went on the potty he said it felt good and didn’t appear in pain at all. 

I asked his pediatrician 6 months ago if we could have him looked at in case there was a physical reason he stands when he poops. He also does this odd leg tensing and/or crossing of his legs together when he poops which you would think would make it impossible to poop but it seems like the only way he can get it out. They said this is normal for 3 year olds to avoid the potty, wait until he’s 4.

I am literally stumped. I stalk this sub for pooping advice and i have no ideas left. ",2.5412454576425176,3.794377801470589,3.855028389734272,90.33766636384287,75.08193277310923,6.952668635021576,22.84385646150352,7.483850760857524,0.7032533045650693,3545,95,798,43,74,1164,355,952,0.065,0.805,0.13,0.9972,0,1,0,0,2,0,96.0,21,1,1,11,35,36,1,4,57,1,72,44,38,10,12,146,137,66,0,19,20,1,4,4,0,10,2,10,4,4,43,62,0,12,14,6,0,17,20,13,0,6,45,16,83,23,124,77,12,189,2,4,2,4,150,81,0,10,85,486,126,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285732421914268,0.04794861198137895,0.0,0.05416455368173723,0.0,0.0,0.12977021198082495,0.0900164735326297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05364396570876818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04815266297228255,0.10113599709914284,0.0,0.0,0.04159281724702076,0.0,0.0989205357996194,0.0,0.13808295892952252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046638779337313,0.0,0.05514961428065802,0.0,0.05722134941443629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04318744594973869,0.0,0.0,0.20930621211948947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055364666252008116,0.09467120029685318,0.05535410866921263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581754983312472,0.05589070039544772,0.0,0.03572674746549627,0.048928614586206114,0.04557419446196599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099239792903814,0.0,0.08205045389534961,0.07728557146611446,0.05193606372403736,0.0,0.0,0.09201994571846296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304174119068655,0.051889236948457,0.18444775626855306,0.04536915763319005,0.1297850945924742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057581120474899876,0.0,0.05340389137759127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640983683426265,0.07251242294952624,0.17145106387438425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158115615515683,0.061062414999620285,0.0,0.056457191088618124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029727125564074176,0.13227471646039815,0.06101726382465671,0.0,0.11754055997585265,0.16593584331902048,0.0,0.10570497148071896,0.05421362303498832,0.0,0.0,0.045423010226121684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645834162058535,0.05118242997950193,0.1083189487482424,0.0,0.05434191119016156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952531189103558,0.0,0.0,0.04010796187871237,0.16687396569854449,0.0,0.0,0.2030438215781611,0.10599584207344023,0.051901994319784615,0.0,0.17027894122128198,0.11521078984185228,0.0,0.12341645425817828,0.05755688275270913,0.0,0.0,0.058575531261165825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05175800221527207,0.0,0.054376626547866784,0.0,0.0,0.10821173630687242,0.0,0.03465222721421367,0.05561479362835543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435944034240565,0.12904655218870395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049242624539055084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948964933223864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657210242236784,0.11530810886161323,0.0,0.04522269057435534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869529639488013,0.09455623889642772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035935809892164154,0.034659476267010235,0.05314435913192057,0.04294239480780857,0.3154103137710054,0.0,0.05127216160125681,0.05168648857879235,0.0,0.07344878946189835,0.05883572587677888,0.10567854447657853,0.0,0.06506508997135316,0.0467174557452519,0.11914769644428368,0.13389278966406307,0.09571322725620036,0.04293510087127814,0.08677744442519204,0.0,0.0,0.1504293372101628,0.09761784398312427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039379059880619086,0.0,0.0,0.15369943220284224,0.05914026894762165,0.0,0.13933191544587625
parenting,throwaway881983,2019/02/01,"Someone please tell me why parenting feels so lonely? Someone, anyone please tell me why parenting feels so lonely? What exactly is it about parenting multiples and toddlers that makes me feel like I want to put a gun in my mouth and check out? Not a cry for help and yes, I understand that when a parent says this people may recommend therapy. I just want some answers as to why this feels so lonely.",4.672938596491228,6.543259013157897,5.18684210526316,80.43622807017546,70.71052631578948,9.27719298245614,28.456140350877188,9.725611199111238,2.832077192982456,319,12,58,8,6,102,51,76,0.161,0.638,0.201,0.1561,4,6,0,1,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,3,1,2,1,1,1,1,18,10,8,0,2,2,4,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,6,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,5,7,1,7,9,1,4,0,3,0,0,8,2,0,2,2,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777753494438887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360477598419264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828238876336137,0.09989983940815912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937300361546822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683174716525051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334252504086507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6210913677987482,0.0,0.0,0.09694561969781558,0.0,0.0,0.30699886237620544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405751722252857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120428298383807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23696748619577196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24444803607188914,0.0,0.159916210481236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557562555091105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495939842748628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785444068907704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,atworknotworking89,2019/02/01,"I took parenting advice from Reddit and it backfired. I was getting my four year old son ready for bed. After his clothes were off he starts cracking up hysterically while doing “the helicopter” with his little friend. 

I stopped myself from saying “don’t play with your peepee” after reading some really insightful commentary on this thread about not shaming children for self exploration. 

So, instead I say, “stop. It’s not okay to play with your pee pee in front of people”. 

His response? (While helicoptering continues)

“so i can do this behind people?”

Well, that backfired. 

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parenting,begurl01,2019/02/01,"Being a parent and trying to find friends is hard!     Maybe it’s just me, or maybe I’m not alone...but doesn’t it seem that as soon as you are blessed with being a parent, it’s really hard to find friends?

   Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love my child, but there are times where it would be nice to pick up the phone and vent to a friend about my day.  Being a parent is tuff, but feeling like you are going through it alone is really difficult. I have learned (just my personal opinion) that once you get older (over the age of 24) that it’s harder to make friends. 

   Everyone has a busy life, so trying to find friends is really difficult. Add being a parent and it makes it nearly impossible.

   *Its wired but social media is supposed to bring people together, but yet it does the opposite* 

(Topic is open for discussion all view points are welcome) 
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parenting,socialworkmdiv,2019/02/01,"""Don't work harder than they are."" ## link: [https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/dont-work-harder-than-they-are-ab816680c53f](https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/dont-work-harder-than-they-are-ab816680c53f)

**“Don’t work harder than they are.”**

**Part of an occasional series about phrases that this therapist finds himself repeating, often.**

As a clinician in private practice, one of the phrases that I hear myself saying sometimes is this: “Don’t work harder than they are.”

This is one of my favorite multi-purpose phrases. There are ways in which it applies to the relationships between parents and children, sometimes with a spouse, and quite often in situations where I have had the privilege to supervise emerging clinicians prior to licensure. In fact, that is where this phrase was first given to me, as a student myself.

Those of us who go into the field of social work can be quite passionate about our work. We want to help. But sometimes that exuberance can look more like inflicting care on others instead of empowering others to help themselves.

Here are the questions that arise:

*When is it right to step over a line and do something for someone that they don’t seem to be able to do for themselves?*

*If I know I can get something done quicker/easier/better then why not?*

*If they can’t do it, then should I?*

Back to the microcosm of our families, let’s take the case of a child and their homework. Sitting at the table, it is just you and that precious little student. We’ll imagine 2nd grade for this example. There is not a tremendous amount of homework, but it seems like a lot to your child. They are struggling with it.

You see your child’s frustration, maybe even anger. Or maybe your child leans toward the self-defeating statements of “I’m never going to get this done!” Maybe there are tears even.

As a parent, we want to fix. We want to make it better … and fast. This is partly for them, but it is also for us. Sitting there with someone who is hurting is hard.

Remember: this is their work, not yours. The challenge that they are experiencing is theirs, not yours. Your work is as listener, as resource, but NOT as savior. So as a parent, you take a deep breath. Say to yourself (NOT them), “This is not a life-threatening emergency.” Maybe you make a statement like, “Yes, it is frustrating. See how far you can get with the next one and I’ll be right back.”

Then you step away. You don’t lecture. You don’t start talking about how their boss one day isn’t going to tolerate them crying about an assignment at work or that you have to do things that you don’t like too. Fewer words are better.

Acknowledge the feeling, then let them get to work. Like any of us, your child mostly wants to be heard. You do NOT do their homework for them. The research is clear on this point. Remember where we started: “Don’t work harder than they are.”

So why this emphasis on tolerating discomfort? If we love our children or care for our clients, why is it not the right thing to help them or to fix the problem? Isn’t it better if the difficult experience is simply over?

No. Just no. Here are some reasons:

*When you fix it for them, you communicate to them that they are incompetent and unable to do this for themselves.*

People (even the little ones) have strengths of which they are not always aware. You do not want to send the message to them that they “can’t” or that they are “weak”. Don’t tell them that they can do “anything you set your mind to” either. Be clear that “Yes, this is frustrating,” then gently encourage them on to the next step.

*If we take away the discomfort, there is nothing for them to use to grow.*

Think of the analogy of weightlifting: if we do not have some resistance, then we cannot build muscle. We all need challenges in order to grow. The trick is for the challenge to actually be challenging, but not overwhelmingly so. This is the hardest part about parenting or working with anyone. You do not want the bar to be so high that they cannot reach it, but also not so low that there is no effort.

*For us, if we begin to work harder than they are, we get resentful.*

Just as they have feelings and emotions, you do too. As a clinician, I don’t want to be angry at my patients. We should all be clear that we are working together on whatever that “presenting problem” is. As a parent, this dynamic begins to compound itself as your child becomes more and more dependent on you to get them through the project, the homework, and eventually life. Then you end up angry at someone who is adult age, but unprepared for the adult world.

*We want them to be independent.*

I don’t know about you, but I want my children to leave my house, eventually. And I truly love working with my patients, children and adults. There are times we will work together for years out of necessity if there is a particularly difficult trauma or change that they are working through. But ideally, as clinicians, we are working ourselves out of a job, so that those we are working with will eventually no longer need us.

One of the guidelines I would encourage you to consider in these ongoing projects of our work and life is “Don’t work harder than they are.” Tolerate some discomfort. Acknowledge the emotion (“Yes, this is challenging.”). Gently help them move to what is next. Take care of yourself too.

link: [https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/dont-work-harder-than-they-are-ab816680c53f](https://medium.com/@jasonhobbslcsw/dont-work-harder-than-they-are-ab816680c53f)

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parenting,DJP83,2019/02/01,4 year old attention span My 4 yr old has little to no attention span is this normal??? He turned 4 last September and started kindy this week. I will ask his teacher how it is there but just want to gage against other 4 year old boys before I start to really worry. For example anything that he has to try a bit he just gives up like a puzzle or learning letters or numbers. Even fun things like video games he just gets frustrated and gives up. We are trying less screen time and essential oils but wanting to find other things that might help.  ,3.530519210799582,5.449757794392525,4.044797507788164,87.23880581516096,73.85981308411216,7.372377985462098,24.973001038421607,8.167268648758528,1.4780558670820354,432,14,85,7,9,136,75,107,0.08800000000000001,0.772,0.14,0.7302,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,21,16,8,0,3,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,3,9,14,2,15,0,0,1,0,13,5,0,4,12,47,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370900855283125,0.0,0.1557399684970263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175655414809948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187407539683387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003169364757784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522610304461182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703684996860395,0.3196182708226215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166234367306174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579378767450473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16277576135674204,0.1669678094002852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767265791730218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322367484201392,0.0,0.0,0.5244272603653246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672237243882716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23582774009377336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135113356461694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714047171983613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22620852090333946,0.18120302083078746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19651921406403244,0.0,0.13362914143995125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918110756949792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21455810734628145
parenting,caro558,2019/02/01,Stroller on an escalator?? Watching “Book club” and one of the characters goes up an escalator with a stroller like it was no big deal.... is this a thing? Seems very unsafe,2.1459374999999987,4.938916718750004,3.017500000000002,87.67750000000002,84.9375,6.95,26.75,8.07648339933343,1.949475,133,6,27,3,4,42,28,32,0.066,0.8420000000000001,0.091,0.212,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,1,17,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5351264747729341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25358574219623337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517274420837197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4725313224725465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448393730313586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282775851323616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,F100Sunday,2019/02/01,"Stop Being So Mean to Smokers I know I will be harangued for this, but please hear me out. I grew up in a tough rust belt town. Almost my entire family smoked. These are good hardworking Catholics. Who supported me and nurtured my intellectual curiosity. I went off to college met a wonderful girl from a less blue collar family and started a family. Now that we are pushing 30 with a newborn, she treats cigarette smokers like lepers. My family doesn't smoke around the baby but they do smoke on the way and in their homes when she isn't there. This is causing wars with my wife. Also, everything she reads is so vitriolic against smokers. I assume written by spoiled upper middle class ""whities"" (what my kin calls stuck up ned flanders types). Can at least one of you side with me, If you didn't grow up going to first commune parties at smoked filled Knights of Columbus halls I'm sure you wount understand. I try to protect my daughter as best as I can, but I can't make 15 50+ year olds quit smoking. ",4.386512027491406,6.067402427835053,4.781835051546395,83.81488316151206,71.11340206185567,7.853745704467355,29.428178694158074,8.447377352677275,2.1614224054982807,797,32,152,13,15,252,139,194,0.075,0.732,0.194,0.9814,0,0,8,0,0,0,23.0,1,3,2,3,8,9,1,0,7,0,14,0,0,2,1,23,28,13,1,1,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,6,9,0,2,5,1,0,6,4,2,0,2,5,2,26,7,26,20,3,30,0,0,1,0,18,16,0,4,8,97,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880896995764218,0.0,0.0,0.12682755476920174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118227304666348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16643460575606495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194219344525004,0.0,0.0,0.1629197122259312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253405006221334,0.0,0.5980331888905559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348999650304009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901326180836588,0.13302111255099558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17874695054433112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15908270075683725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871591081202591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774810115619719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586271837900668,0.0,0.0,0.17275534616753374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16641771184726808,0.0,0.10746739059825687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408857375659903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686842277770093,0.15863690561542187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225364086483224,0.0,0.0,0.13259167519454768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997057796567145,0.14947295664700078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767490735378002,0.0,0.0,0.16510193444838694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258845255969338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701821560356024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17198841463502407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212932845436497
parenting,NovaZephyrose,2019/02/01,"Message to all parents who hit their kids. In my house it's the opposite, i'm 6.3ft i show my parents who's the man in this house.

If they're bitches i'm gonna be a bitch back.

I'm normally civil to them, but not when they want to challenge me.

They once broke my keyboard before, i broke their 4k TV.

It turned out well, i got a new keyboard and they got a new 8k TV for free.

I'm not a slave or lesser citizen, don't treat me like one unless you want your ass kicked.

I shall defend every kid, toddler, baby, teens right to have freedom.

And not be controlled like slaves by their parents.

I don't care if your a woman or man if you control your kids in an abusive way i will curb stomp you.",0.7889428571428567,2.4875831133333333,2.5125714285714302,96.13200000000002,81.2,5.085714285714285,21.38095238095238,5.773587663045528,-0.05990476190476191,537,16,126,3,14,177,92,150,0.227,0.685,0.08800000000000001,-0.9673,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,6,7,3,3,11,2,0,8,0,7,1,1,2,1,20,19,10,0,6,10,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,3,0,3,1,0,5,4,1,1,2,0,24,8,11,11,1,10,0,2,0,1,26,5,3,5,6,71,29,3,0.0,0.18626457701550256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088247185385555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377157003785886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028300406869306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35264201476091184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245366974282932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251465582802417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627915199480977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360678941200934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036629820063426,0.0,0.0,0.15402947244438148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742031415671596,0.10652752528328292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5236792761320348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342539108867934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099606249466845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544951212969465,0.12478359164253268,0.0,0.0,0.14134796422237447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoodJobDad,2019/02/01,"Shy 8 y/o - Not sure I handled this right My 8 y/o daughter has always been shy and anxious around other kids.  She has a really hard time just saying ""Hi"" back to other kids, it's not improving, and it's starting to worry me.  For example, when we arrived at her dance class tonight, one of the girls said hello and gave her a big hug and my daughter could barely manage a weak ""hi"".  Shes' been in class with the same girls for years and it's just painfully obvious she's the outsider. I'm worried that people are going to give up and stop trying to be friends if she doesn't learn to reciprocate a bit.  I brought it up with her tonight and tried to explain that when someone makes an effort to say hello, she needs to say hello back.  Otherwise they are going to think she doesn't like them.  She understandably got defensive and tried to say it was because she was putting on her shoes but as I said before, this behavior has been going on for years.  It's not just dance, it's everywhere.  Her mom and I have tried to make the point that she needs to reply when someone says hello but we don't want to push it too hard.  I just don't know how to handle this. She's definitely on the sensitive side.  She definitely represses her feelings.  Mom and I are introverts so we understand but we are also parents...it's just so hard to address without sounding judgemental.  I don't want her to think we feel she's weird etc.",2.3830069930069904,4.3709618461538495,3.6769230769230794,88.29307692307694,77.39160839160841,6.777622377622378,24.63636363636364,7.748469712250963,1.2532909090909092,1112,39,230,17,26,363,142,286,0.115,0.841,0.045,-0.8483,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,5,0,2,1,17,9,1,1,10,0,21,4,1,3,2,54,46,22,0,6,13,4,5,1,1,0,2,8,1,4,16,18,0,3,9,2,0,8,9,5,0,1,10,13,36,4,32,34,3,32,0,0,0,1,51,12,0,1,13,149,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869676130297438,0.09048900032980606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285693730614958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681086504683968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724460783142936,0.0,0.06629320201301198,0.0,0.09253853526847247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872721259115325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682830280776985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128538351588128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997488582880616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402024815551823,0.0,0.0,0.10432324207058148,0.18541598468381476,0.0,0.08697758685340506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922568499102539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976634652315312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05312992624463171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518340187219153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547341835759718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612740083338222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369204945939019,0.0,0.1157180364437312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539379751177001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028042289258432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932413556147698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966825685920405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287220194852956,0.20689296673368693,0.432413203394788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18428763183737476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697405518602042,0.0,0.0,0.09092015942646783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024959148328919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393656621404761,0.0,0.0,0.06341320175468321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295337387614163,0.0,0.0,0.22642589257040865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828754431063302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483145353098136,0.0,0.0,0.22088251204558665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006331561260485
parenting,betty965,2019/02/01,"Two year old throwing food at every meal- help! My two year old son is generally a great eater. But when he’s done, he’s done. He pelts everything he’s got left on his tray onto me, the floor, the walls. A firm “no” only goes so far. Nowhere, to be precise. He will do the sign for “all done” and then immediately throw whatever is left on his tray. I’m over it. Any ideas? ",-0.007820512820511993,2.118584628205131,2.0105128205128224,96.08448717948721,87.33333333333331,5.51794871794872,17.641025641025642,6.937597516519254,-0.1623435897435903,283,7,69,4,9,94,59,78,0.028,0.8809999999999999,0.091,0.7088,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,8,2,0,0,2,7,10,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,0,4,1,7,4,1,18,0,0,0,0,9,10,0,0,6,34,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092154267872235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5459050643931975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981834929424842,0.0,0.15981030200704274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501681786893886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422163636270781,0.19604368392568366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918687360114184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007335582595578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863970143323121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731777042471552,0.0,0.0,0.13523771270852472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474024121811503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22901641841994375
parenting,sennbad1,2019/02/01,"Infertile Myrtle My PSA for the day: Be careful of your words to others. I’m not a millennial or a liberal who gets offended over every little thing but being a 33 year old without children, I’ve experienced where words can hurt, and they can hurt bad. I was married for years and went through years of infertility and testing that went as far as being put to sleep for testing. Nothing was found as to why I couldn’t conceive. The next step was fertility treatments when my world crashed and my marriage was suddenly over (not by my choice.) Society as a whole, especially in the small town I’m from, thinks it’s abnormal for a 33 year old (especially when I was married) for you not to have a child. I have even had my mother in law tell me we needed to “get busy, because she wanted grandchildren.” If only she knew.... They say unless you go through infertility, you just don’t get the problem. I think that is certainly true and the reason I’m putting this out there. I’m also an educator and and have endured comments such as “you can tell those of us that are parents, we have more compassion.” as well as “how are you a teacher and don’t want children???” and “Oh, you just don’t want kids?” I have always loved children and have always dreamed of being a mother, however God has not yet seen that as my plan for this thing we call life. Does that mean I don’t want children of my own? Absolutely not! So please understand that your words can be extremely hurtful and think before you speak! Not everyone can decide they want children and boom they get pregnant! This new legislation in New York and Virginia governor being ok with aborting fully grown fetuses is unspeakable to me. That is murder. Give me your baby you want to kill, I’m sure I’m not alone in wanting a baby! It’s sickening that in our country it’s a few hundred dollars to abort a baby yet is $1000s of dollars to adopt. That is all. ",3.565029836547609,5.433003970509387,4.730462682694803,82.57829023609791,73.63806970509384,7.708345585055783,28.654241978725253,8.460557738077197,2.1422090979849524,1503,62,291,27,31,494,192,373,0.117,0.7809999999999999,0.102,-0.9537,2,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,5,11,4,1,14,16,3,1,17,1,36,3,1,2,4,60,68,30,2,11,14,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,7,20,18,0,0,9,1,2,7,13,9,1,0,11,5,39,7,44,50,5,36,0,3,1,1,42,14,0,2,15,198,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477730167652624,0.0,0.08090228682319588,0.1683561685548955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446925187506632,0.061669757934490727,0.0,0.08608467982130201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330163509599258,0.0,0.10314531766461983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524359846645589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853090956009185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681908413173937,0.0,0.08523658463260156,0.0966682968315526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092312339852016,0.0,0.0,0.2114199066767432,0.09704749340922256,0.0574948790394915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249003767646022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192501455076236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07145642561533734,0.0,0.10139475031024824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130612164823312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019925907520732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501318953578162,0.0,0.1954132000708348,0.10759102003809777,0.0,0.0,0.09707135328812316,0.0,0.21231306526138405,0.0,0.0,0.07694118109764915,0.0,0.0,0.11233269471263356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104971433319474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680204748145768,0.0,0.20339922561442794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401533411378468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045113758662656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123890216806672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534760827781344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768468089098546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344201795501092,0.19446895882845336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053172087100072,0.12169005099145395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176916406501148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096024095427983,0.1875634970434989,0.09128643653003728,0.11294804909075798,0.0,0.0975202610051556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605899400555768
parenting,gingajenn,2019/02/01,"8 YO son with impulsive behavior problems My son is having trouble with keeping his space and not making noises at school, as well as a few other impulsive (maybe even anxiety driven) actions at school. At home he’s not the same way. Anyone else dealing with something like this? He does have an appointment with the behavioral team at his primary care. But just curious of any similar situations/other parents experiences. TIA!",6.5488,8.957926213333334,7.063666666666666,66.68350000000002,66.86666666666667,10.866666666666667,36.5,10.864195022040775,4.985800000000001,346,18,50,11,6,113,60,75,0.084,0.745,0.171,0.8087,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,13,7,4,0,1,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,3,11,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,1,32,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547451737122561,0.0,0.17407891899003006,0.0,0.0,0.15911171660420767,0.2331569442860185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23200744404498436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345991683989544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19913487602801774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009296706470685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029790274376353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22259241197402044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282561752145242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20226130098698925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111718575731304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189470055540175,0.0,0.2286095394174076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25267285004351925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21773936154348444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4605955294131958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17518292295656362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806225327754,0.0,0.0,0.20459923427776816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shake6Bake,2019/02/01,"My 5 year old step son has reverted to pooping his pants. He does not have encopresis. He can poop a lot. Several times a day. He has regular bowel movements. Soft turds most of the time. He had this problem last year and it was 100% solved. He did not poop his pants for 2 months straight after implementing the stickers.

Then he stayed the summer with his biological father. He came home with all new underwear and has been pooping himself non-stop since. Two months after he got back we had a new baby girl. He did start acting out for attention but the baby is 4 months old now and he no longer acts out, but is still pooping his pants. We have tried laxatives recommended by the doctor and then also tried fiber gummies when that didn't work. We have gone back to stickers and that didn't work. We have tried grounding and time outs and that didn't work. We have finally resorted to making him wear diapers again because we cannot go to the store constantly buying underwear for him when he knows how to go to the bathroom, he is choosing not to. We are at our wits end and I cannot have a conversation about it without getting too upset. Is it time to see a child psychologist? Any tips? Please help. ",2.5864290780141843,5.047209336170216,3.493430851063831,87.45645833333332,79.04255319148936,6.810283687943263,23.834219858156022,7.9370924344782425,1.3394432624113468,954,33,190,17,24,304,134,235,0.021,0.915,0.064,0.8391,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,0,3,11,2,0,1,12,0,26,8,7,2,1,36,36,16,0,1,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,7,21,0,0,3,0,2,8,10,2,0,1,12,2,17,0,23,24,3,46,0,0,1,0,33,6,0,2,31,115,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707135660097904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104942730671996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20590546780426705,0.0,0.08161777500468277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313387913267965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468694630900675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634762837544513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704154057108753,0.11716757288249875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858632528469447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666936418655804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995171925671981,0.0,0.152184936621656,0.0,0.10708363600928644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974328596431239,0.0,0.13430204984065836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358214832376278,0.10913778377365528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382803501205803,0.0,0.0,0.08937225740048843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32060788019027026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25862255877943663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809889412808391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697042606213748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281141356145243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066925686916004,0.0,0.0,0.1512569850653704,0.0,0.11075474883054642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476765228714608,0.1427083548811332,0.10692429951473928,0.1119375877183125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122880944640096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727064735238495,0.0,0.13079055217690602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906466617838294,0.0,0.2924193748979066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244085114240912
parenting,blessedarethegeek,2019/02/01,"How much should I tell my split parenting kid about an upcoming mediation/court ""fight""? tl;dr: Ex changed schedule, I go from 45% time to 88% time with no definitive end in sight and want to try to change the plan to permanent but need to talk to him.

I posted about this previously here:  https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/a10d98/ex_drastically_changed_parenting_plan_and_son/

It's now been 4 months and I've had him every weekday unless he didn't have school Monday after her weekends.  That's pretty rare.

Not only do I have him the weekdays and every other weekend but I'm learning that she'll take him for about an hour (I've been having to drop him off around 10 am Saturdays her place and she's still sleeping most times) and then she'll just bring him to her ex boyfriend, who she has a younger daughter with.  Her and the boyfriend do not get along but he does well with my son.

So, in those four months, I'd estimate that she's maybe spent a total of 2-3 days with him.  Some hours here and there before shuttling him off.  Did not spend Thanksgiving with him (hung out a few days later with him), did not spend Christmas with him or get him a present (the ex boyfriend did).  Etc.

So, my first step is going to mediation to ask for the change to be permanent. She lives in a different city and that's where he goes to school.  So, my drive time is way up there and I'm still paying child support.  Ideally, I get the current schedule, keep him in his current school to the end of the year and then enroll him in a school near me next year.

When that fails (because it will), we'll file in court to try to make it happen.  Assuming she doesn't get clued off in mediation and change.... something?

I don't expect my chances to be very good despite her sketchy behavior but he's hurting from her consistent lack of interest in his life and enjoys his time with me a lot more.  And I can't keep doing this without an end in sight.

So, what do I tell him?  I don't want him to be blindsided with it for when and if his mother flips out around him.  I've been kinda gently asking him after I get him how his weekend went with his mother and writing everything down.  If it goes to court, she'll figure out where that came from and, well, I don't think she'd harass him but it might damage their relationship further.

I'd like to talk to him about what I'm doing but I'm not certain exactly what I should let him know and what I shouldn't.

For reference, he's a smart kid and 11 1/2 years old.",3.3341550522648085,5.276513002032523,3.728571428571428,89.19500000000002,74.46747967479675,6.636933797909408,22.8931475029036,7.447530270364453,0.7258440185830435,1975,55,414,24,42,615,223,492,0.047,0.858,0.095,0.9768,6,0,1,0,1,0,72.0,1,0,1,4,26,15,2,0,19,0,39,2,1,3,3,81,67,38,0,11,17,8,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,3,21,35,0,2,6,3,4,7,14,5,2,2,11,2,65,10,69,42,9,74,0,3,2,0,71,24,0,9,41,274,86,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661052646391993,0.1644661039750533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053621116096905085,0.0,0.07484959833580472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006056525171353,0.0,0.0,0.3722105945388378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345705529332333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190207784238172,0.0,0.0,0.0769765658027873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337259665029263,0.0,0.0981014256799096,0.0,0.0,0.1482243794484629,0.0,0.0790550121398739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482084714839754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297838466698877,0.0,0.09998221777451986,0.07377876137658662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778493742080804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325066348886006,0.0,0.09416566242473397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637020149691686,0.0,0.0,0.04834188285213361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994760336994945,0.06213050646088136,0.042974028360015314,0.0,0.07767248823478592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478256152062403,0.0,0.0,0.058715643616101064,0.0,0.08837014191142008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331429891094613,0.0,0.0,0.14042163702926044,0.0,0.0646625495931841,0.06522307010139408,0.0,0.0,0.09354910363967404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230183401533464,0.0,0.0,0.0668994356788716,0.0,0.0,0.09767193299287373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190207784238172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424374819146352,0.08948947313159587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443879280635348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560909348029633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802601321126706,0.0,0.0,0.067717820531815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049391269318812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981878870126976,0.0,0.0,0.06613684372478193,0.1414018313946481,0.15376618280220286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636281038355739,0.0,0.0,0.2564581699264525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119441510352052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257826457449136,0.1037651086142606,0.06982052846280662,0.0,0.0,0.15817768072295507,0.08154210740696029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479269924673033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16993487445153466
parenting,RiotGirlHeather,2019/02/01,"My 4-Year-Old is a Walking Middle Finger My adorable girl is just an asshole most of the time. Don't get me wrong, she has her sweet moments, but most of the time she's doing everything she's not supposed to. She jumps on her bed and looks directly at her dad and says she's not when he asks, ""Are you seriously jumping on your bed?!"" I don't know what I'm doing wrong. She is the love of my life, and I want her to grow up to be a good person. ",3.2597250859106524,3.1000760206185625,4.583041237113402,90.999029209622,72.29896907216495,7.703780068728522,25.445017182130584,7.1686216300943375,0.7981697594501713,342,9,84,3,6,114,63,97,0.02,0.775,0.205,0.9555,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,0,2,7,0,0,6,0,10,3,1,0,0,11,17,5,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,4,18,4,10,16,2,13,0,0,1,1,19,5,0,2,4,55,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24653828540774664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370103829882104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778040387211601,0.0,0.0,0.2211919525016529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493107848599546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862699749573204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22145450443779707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23801343051248205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767249341734601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026610163841815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097170583961083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075491227156037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554616632001433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766627481056679,0.0,0.16982406127330602
parenting,CupofTia,2019/02/01,"PSA: Tyson chicken nugget recall If you feed your kids these nuggets, FYI. 

We have toddlers and rely on these from Costco, heavily!!

[https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/davidmack/chicken-nugget-recall?utm_source=dynamic&utm_campaign=bffbbuzzfeed&ref=bffbbuzzfeed](link to article)",27.726538461538468,36.62940011538462,15.484153846153848,-6.689153846153829,47.84615384615386,6.695384615384616,28.27692307692308,7.554174236665415,2.9563630769230773,257,6,18,3,5,64,25,26,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.4796,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,11,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,miauigkeit,2019/02/01,"I don't understand why so many parents complain that daycare is too expensive. My daycare costs $3000 per month full-time. I struggle to afford this, but find it reassuring. Before being accused of being a sucker for Veblen goods, I will say, of course choosing a daycare based on price alone is stupid. Many other factors need to be considered.

The fact that a daycare is expensive doesn't guarantee that is is good. 

However, the fact that a daycare is cheap DOES guarantee that it is bad.

Do you really want your kids to spend their most formative years looked after by someone who earns minimum wage and is, at best, chronically stressed, and at worst, hates their job? Because that is what you are going to get in a cheap daycare.   

There is one exception to this rule: Daycares that are subsidized or rely on some external source of funding or volunteer labor. Unfortunately they don't exist in my area, or I don't qualify for subsidies. 

So I went for the expensive option, and I am happy about it.",6.52741935483871,7.516796741935487,6.949623655913983,72.84443548387098,65.45161290322581,10.501075268817203,34.854838709677416,10.504223727775694,3.916599999999999,798,36,136,20,12,260,118,186,0.2,0.706,0.094,-0.9664,5,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,3,2,5,13,3,2,8,0,22,1,0,0,2,18,30,9,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,15,3,0,0,3,0,10,2,4,8,0,1,1,2,14,5,21,25,4,12,0,0,1,0,12,7,0,6,3,96,29,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976721970720509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935915829103256,0.11634577669739132,0.0,0.16240681447452388,0.0,0.20029457635655332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702185608441786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744415210426733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971586591001756,0.0,0.10846947648275122,0.3201666776430978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20317278300015226,0.0,0.18843358977275826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189397947592688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027335563760695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870018123028106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234170429950675,0.0,0.0,0.14151941067062354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933088869492948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21192615396245634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226905941044293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177860919525038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161714074828018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862815509954955,0.19952709830066945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869078227910575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257348815714162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692805578048154,0.172220415901524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290683468994185
parenting,FeloMack,2019/02/01,"Childhood Activity (survey) Hello everyone! I'm a senior in college and my capstone project involves childhood development and activity. We'd be thrilled to hear from some people on this subreddit!
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parenting,hugocen7,2019/02/01,"Seeking Advice: Best Therapeutic Boarding schools?  

Hello I’am parent of a teenager, my son is currently in 10th grade. Although I love him, he is out of control, he won't listen, we've tried therapy, family programs but no real progress. 

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What frightens me is that he can't be accountable for his actions. He is constantly getting in trouble at school and in various occasions the police has called me to pick up my son, feels horrible. I am worry that he may do something that would impact his life not in a positive way, I don't even want to say.

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A fellow parent told me about a therapeutic boarding school. From their experience it seems very positive and I'am willing to do what is necessary even if that means to put my teen in a inclusive therapeutic boarding school. I know it may sound bad, but I’ve heard from parents that they feel a positive progress. I'm certain that the program won’t resolve anything on it’s own, however, having a team of therapist and professionals helping us deal with the root of the issue. Which of course, it begins with us “the parents”. I’ve been researching various programs and educating myself on the subject, some programs offers inclusive therapy where the entire family is helped professionally.  Does any parent have any advice or experience that can help?",7.599383753501399,8.670254680672269,7.8022016806722725,67.38495518207284,63.117647058823536,11.052549019607845,38.975910364145655,10.93419730881044,4.77088985994398,1066,55,166,28,15,347,146,238,0.14,0.765,0.096,-0.9274,7,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,2,0,2,6,4,6,0,0,14,0,23,2,0,3,1,28,36,9,0,3,5,7,2,0,1,6,1,4,0,0,14,7,0,1,6,1,1,2,6,2,0,0,3,6,18,4,25,26,5,17,0,0,0,1,33,11,0,6,3,113,32,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180825187446281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20049768268835189,0.22485161418858374,0.1258378884735507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613870464403633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772530017549144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709738319848647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447652512845196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998470254995016,0.1037726287542597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953873496690424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809676700076086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222139320769218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810108738197561,0.17444526468319266,0.0,0.09356501314221387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048339549773920194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604903860159067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657017558214437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05084832737726912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653518677024181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350579434938132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078488166698438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5136802841940957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301136439908417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053116499426522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357815696481973,0.0,0.3745536450105339,0.0,0.08422964030211645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122887451879444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116166701550083,0.10742655870946193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840987624488364,0.0,0.06281717490600973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22258801905106926,0.0,0.0,0.07634132433041771,0.054572576633958494,0.07344060428490393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396179403451203,0.0,0.0657258219391679,0.0,0.22485161418858374,0.0
parenting,Important_Matter,2019/02/01,"Is it acceptable for me to say my son's girlfriend dresses like a tart?  

Hi all,

Ran into a bit of a tricky situation recently. My son (22) has been dating his girlfriend for just under a year now (she is also 22). She seems like a nice enough girl, she's pretty quiet around me so I don't feel like I know her really well, but she has always been polite. She is not the most conservative dresser though. Especially over the summer time I noticed that she'd wear a lot of outfits that showed a bit of skin, e.g. high waisted shorts and small tops. She has no problem wearing a short skirt or a bit of a low cut top and she has quite big boobs so you naturally notice them more anyway. Now last weekend I was bringing some stuff over to my son as he was moving in to his new flat. When I went through the drawers I found a bra and underwear set belonging to her, so I messaged my sister saying ""oh wow looks like she even dresses like a tart in the bedroom"". Only I accidentally sent this message to my son instead!!!! My son is quite a loyal person so he stuck up for her, saying that she isn't a tart and it was rude of me to speak about her this way. I tried to play the message off as a joke, saying that I obviously didn't mean to send it to him. He said that wasn't the point and that I shouldn't be saying it anyway. Now I feel that I should be entitled to my own opinions and do not feel the need to apologise. I have every right to say what I want to say.

The other day I visited my sons flat and his girlfriend was coming over too. She was a bit late due to traffic and made a 'joke' when she got there, saying something along the lines of ""sorry I'm late, was just trying to find an outfit that didn't make me look a tart"". She did smile afterwards but I still thought it was a bit inappropriate of her to bring up the situation again. I just ignored what she said.

So what do you think?? Am I really in the wrong here? I know I sent the message to the wrong person but feel like I have every right to have an opinion?",2.9105985323345043,3.914931168246444,4.343202874178264,88.17003592722826,73.81042654028438,7.151322427763339,23.802476685522088,7.4822170145007005,0.8436840544259292,1571,43,349,18,31,523,199,422,0.084,0.7829999999999999,0.133,0.959,1,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,0,2,1,4,27,21,2,0,34,0,34,5,5,2,2,50,63,23,0,5,9,7,5,6,3,2,0,12,2,3,20,12,1,2,13,5,0,10,9,7,1,0,24,23,60,14,45,34,12,55,0,1,2,1,62,23,1,7,26,239,80,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339938779030037,0.06596647904667569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057511827213027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4327606755030502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829183880087762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112839651923802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191639978439895,0.0,0.05236303191180308,0.0,0.13359195383074568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603433782060888,0.11327386711903906,0.0,0.0,0.07245956989183923,0.0,0.0,0.08692533167353945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340665870750765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376261639487649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713933033288906,0.06462296636275787,0.17886033067561394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323902896657473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314878642661954,0.0,0.0,0.06740017089753926,0.0,0.07501570684341216,0.05291934822255067,0.0,0.0,0.08635807261643061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426103068884118,0.0,0.05878437408277025,0.0,0.07656815237936067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051933429408404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060295252075062325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844673002330285,0.0,0.0,0.07494428039462485,0.0,0.0,0.08065524448419534,0.0,0.07585929629633636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686459506438261,0.0,0.0,0.10157631512274116,0.0,0.07827844837440699,0.0,0.0,0.13540766593789685,0.15082496773308735,0.5043667436666767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217262424041547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822583569370198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103284754955179,0.0,0.0887463500188642,0.0,0.0,0.06331231194169064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075548785583858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050798782160861033,0.07789121514194981,0.06293867058181397,0.046228222541818124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765047420538444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046760808346168345,0.0629279801983226,0.0,0.0,0.07128134217469508,0.07349242741650291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335828251187338,0.0,0.05105307684299525
parenting,jonesy909,2019/02/01,"Son won't wear shoes Bought our 13 month old son his first pair of shoes as he's now walking well and becoming more adventurous.
Problem: he becomes hysterical when we try to put them on him!
We have tried other shoes since, softer ones and even slippers, but no.
Any advice or tricks?! ",4.798818181818183,6.208236109090913,4.790681818181817,85.20602272727272,69.72727272727272,7.6818181818181825,26.47727272727273,8.07648339933343,1.4547272727272724,226,7,45,3,4,70,49,55,0.111,0.83,0.059,-0.4636,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,1,1,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,7,3,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,1,2,1,0,6,2,4,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,5,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530171230240271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607691140071316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5719214969700941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101658081004598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202402625413325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066703290893598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27169673869456024,0.0,0.17545331694235866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775489503944026,0.0,0.2602897103124744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21418425874717228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515842255313547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23280339142316706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,New_mom_and_dad,2019/02/01,"Runny nose My 2.5 daughters nose is flowing like the Niagra falls. She dabs or wipes with a tissue on her own pretty well. However she refuses a snot sucker or to blow her nose. 

Her upper lip is getting really red and irritated from all the wiping. We try to put Vaseline on her lip but she hated that and gets very upset. 

Any suggestions?",1.820454545454545,4.488617636363639,3.8971969696969713,81.81579545454547,84.75757575757575,6.936363636363637,20.37121212121212,8.07648339933343,1.457430303030303,268,8,48,6,8,91,51,66,0.183,0.746,0.071,-0.8903,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,1,4,0,2,5,5,0,1,9,5,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,4,9,2,6,5,2,6,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,2,1,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538944977030663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901256086833173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686111945957371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240260591087645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3798366996002195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753253321593342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23918105103093584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534838316718774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30805733360556553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33569137292759177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Deafisnotdumb,2019/02/01,"What do I do about teachers/coaches who are too lenient with my deaf son? My 14 year old is profoundly deaf. He does not use a cochlear implant nor does he benefit from a hearing aid. We started him out in a mainstream school in kindergarten but removed him when we saw that wasn't working. He attended a school for the Deaf from the middle of kindergarten until 8th grade. He asked to be mainstreamed this year. 

I have 2 other kids but neither of them are special needs so I am new to navigating this. We drew up and IEP and my son has an interpreter for most of his classes. He also has speech to text software and teachers print out any notes that he will need instead of making him copy them so he can focus on the interpreter. He also gets more time on test because his reading is slow (common for deaf kids) and he doesn't get docked for grammatical errors in the same way that hearing student would since he's fluent in ASL but English is harder for him. 

With that said, he is a smart kid and has been getting away with a lot more than he should. I know when he hasn't put his best effort into something. He had a paper recently that was B quality work at best and he was granted an A. He did very little homework for one class. We don't nag him about homework, just as we don't nag our hearing kids about homework, and figure that he can accept the consequences if he doesn't do the work. He missed a few science assignments but it wasn't reflected in his homework grade. He has a perfect 100 percent for homework and I know that's not right. 

He also plays basketball for his school. He is a good athlete but has only ever played on Deaf teams before. The coach is way more reluctant to pull him if he's not playing well than he is to pull any other kid. 

I don't know how to address this. Accommodations are meant to level the playing field but I am worried that my son is being given an advantage. I want him to keep all of his accommodations but don't want any of the ""extras"" that teachers are throwing in. ",4.6699715804913815,5.46470463118812,5.200011001100112,84.4317510084342,69.51980198019803,7.66835350201687,29.81444811147782,7.662118739084242,1.7852727539420612,1597,60,319,17,27,512,196,404,0.069,0.836,0.096,0.8834,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,6,0,2,9,16,17,2,0,23,0,44,5,0,3,3,57,67,28,0,8,13,3,0,0,0,3,5,10,6,5,17,19,0,1,9,7,0,6,14,3,1,1,11,11,33,14,49,51,13,40,0,1,1,0,60,19,0,4,13,213,50,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739911644749449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329917113641664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676706615699802,0.0,0.1073001686304288,0.0,0.0,0.06961883465785408,0.0,0.09718077858226352,0.0,0.2397040165970111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998846423662184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033057423733058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17900355075913765,0.0,0.0,0.09579046024061252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38615492678314695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151141934229076,0.0,0.0,0.1882936682957048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144642786586262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709374151008436,0.0,0.0,0.07623330102550327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936440207848133,0.0,0.1103007350875696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983984274622678,0.0,0.0773888490995609,0.08685870586531724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480843716484547,0.0,0.0,0.11423676970242072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127645127759259,0.0,0.0,0.09753118382328914,0.10863592951867312,0.0,0.0,0.34674729450436226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944722708498679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792125368063299,0.0,0.0,0.08083549833493127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659435770228611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863719805620448,0.0,0.09423179838394193,0.13472315508716975,0.18130259795381945,0.0,0.0,0.10268478728522627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494296874743569,0.11598159854983968,0.0,0.08112856904059221,0.0,0.0,0.14708966402544324
parenting,Gabbae0,2019/02/01,"Mom asking me to find out if my dad is cheating? Hey everyone, I just wanted other opinions to find out if this is as shitty as I think it is. So I’ve never had a great relationship with my dad. Recently he’s been taking a lot of vacations and my mom is hesitant about them. I just so happen to be staying in the city he’s visiting. She found out he has reservations for dinner for two at this fancy restaurant. She’s asked me to stake the place out after work and see if he turns up with another woman. Even though I really don’t like him - I feel like asking your child to get involved in something like this crosses a line. Am I crazy? ",3.7442424242424224,4.454044333333336,5.326969696969703,82.99378787878791,71.57575757575758,8.593939393939394,26.03030303030303,8.841846274778883,1.7940848484848484,500,15,104,9,9,170,87,132,0.114,0.823,0.062,-0.7857,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,1,7,5,1,0,5,0,10,1,0,0,1,22,22,10,0,4,5,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,8,1,0,5,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,3,2,16,4,22,18,1,15,0,0,1,0,22,9,0,5,6,72,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055955556528626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4561856998130563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743310500754027,0.0,0.0,0.15542528634377314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224402960992194,0.11620185860615535,0.0,0.0,0.2973302460446894,0.0,0.0,0.17834449122862225,0.0,0.0,0.084981324309629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793294002102124,0.0,0.0,0.1438366336267826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383972955810193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828476643135915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810027276462769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254507445523167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994145574279998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420193913943936,0.0,0.1606037018291786,0.17463224232676886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961619639587724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252209446302555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337022044218295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229746883525118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422373760433046,0.15980921634951706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692359827659554,0.15889179636014994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593903656596693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841589216422675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bylak,2019/02/01,"Looking for advice on what to do after a toddler hits Hey all,

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Looking for some advice on what do with my son after he gets upset and hits. He's 2 1/2, and I've been typically trying to follow the advice offered in articles like this one:   


[https://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/toddler-hits-you/](https://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/toddler-hits-you/)  


I guess my question kind of revolves around what to do after the hitting is done. Is he old enough at this point that I can talk to him about what made him mad and how he can act more appropriately to express his anger? Is it still more of a deal-with-the-hitting-at-the-time kind of age and then ensure he's getting a lot of affection when he's not upset? Any input would be greatly appreciated!",10.557593984962406,10.714943556390978,9.20947368421053,62.876315789473715,57.04511278195489,9.40451127819549,32.53383458646616,8.418075326091056,2.397664661654136,635,18,103,6,7,196,84,133,0.095,0.8140000000000001,0.09,-0.1677,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,2,2,5,0,12,0,0,3,1,16,22,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,3,2,7,4,21,14,6,16,0,0,2,0,15,6,0,4,9,69,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4910010039013912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18147280783570588,0.20351583732076575,0.11389735106768067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909952536816448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267242139006594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139802495467632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730595233383522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501077736888568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465573460314494,0.18450653838699413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348825244931534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182600973648432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28129490032177096,0.0,0.0,0.14239201770526405,0.0,0.15848087200339755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757501229710512,0.0,0.11349397190580165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832997392665815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876245086920316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375586030289358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462023545389434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371312583417208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897842702900603,0.0,0.20351583732076575,0.0
parenting,seltsame,2019/02/01,"To be fair, the dog *really* scares him My son is 2, his brother 4. The big one started to bring home lots of interesting swear words from Kindergarten and the little one is learning oh-so-quickly.

When we were visiting my mum, the little one got scared of the dog as she would always sniff around him and try to lick his face, so he ran away in terror. My mum got the dog and declared ""Look isn't she a good girl? Such a good dog!"" and patted her sides. To which my little one, in a very helpful and friendly way replied (while pointing a finger at the animal) ""No, Oma. Asshole!""

I died laughing while simultaneously trying to tell my son that this is not appropriate language to use.

(Englisch is not my first laguage, sorry for wrong words etc. thank you)",2.2779591836734667,4.659490809523814,3.1626122448979617,89.84310204081635,79.68027210884354,5.5526530612244915,22.72517006802721,6.742157984588678,0.5826076190476193,587,19,119,6,15,186,99,147,0.14,0.755,0.105,-0.5825,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,1,4,10,0,3,11,0,8,2,2,1,0,15,16,10,1,1,2,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,4,0,5,4,4,16,6,16,10,2,20,0,0,1,0,20,11,0,1,5,74,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413255054672595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280486639369693,0.0,0.0,0.14016272744032254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548288297912062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637894047885815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268953349862514,0.0,0.0,0.11525873490811366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25025593792553524,0.23863120726633166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999944971603986,0.0,0.14964312702755092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.448562915493846,0.0,0.0,0.12527649421490905,0.0,0.0,0.12683040298204887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4043621664984388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141026545735316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095570714501847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987172435722945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699861715765246,0.10559278764645444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039287858865553,0.1373480433737242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20257148969893846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288465701693991,0.0,0.1230919395717924,0.0,0.1184148494153304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597561639651706,0.16310864303802167,0.0,0.0
parenting,icucme143,2019/02/01,"How to ID an anti-vaxxer easily without a fight? I'm very immune-compromised. I'm 100% pro vaccination and pro science. I live in WA, currently in the midst of an (extremely preventable) measles outbreak. I have a young kid.

How do I identify and out the anti-vax parents around me?  What's a clever way to ask that will get the honest answer out of them?  I don't want to pre-judge people based on appearance, I want to get them to answer me honestly. 

(For ex: if I make it sound like I'm also anti-vax they might admit they are too, but I shudder to imagine spreading such stupidity or making anyone think I am that stupid for even a moment.)  A lot of times if it's asked, anti-vax parents will lie and not admit their children are not vaccinated, or dance around alternative schedule notions. 

Short of quarantining my family forever, how do we play on the playground and go to school and know who to avoid scheduling play dates with?.... 

Yes, I want to out and ostracize anti-vax parents. They are literally putting my health and life at terrible risk. ",5.008029556650246,6.112569679802959,6.050221674876847,77.51158866995074,68.95073891625616,9.34679802955665,30.263546798029555,9.606745405546679,2.8128975369458127,827,32,155,18,14,275,125,203,0.106,0.769,0.125,-0.2554,4,1,0,0,1,0,37.0,1,0,6,0,9,12,3,2,11,1,11,2,0,5,0,42,29,16,0,5,8,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,2,6,14,0,2,7,3,0,4,4,6,0,0,0,1,20,6,27,26,1,23,0,0,0,0,19,11,0,7,8,97,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174183423870264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518944012344345,0.0,0.0,0.2933055304425604,0.3080177236830731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880865116833292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553014039091023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213880715781982,0.0,0.0936250521638312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511000692177192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053632544810916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163601295879177,0.08048322464640821,0.0,0.14546768264485654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005532942074134,0.0,0.0,0.21992931618251585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747621986715952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5487699727979318,0.0,0.0,0.11420938011745703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656083413546574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667248091114618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555819184089964,0.0,0.0,0.09606071988262656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592704698892594,0.2915022467906768,0.13076226482950554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880265644818162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nipplesmctitty,2019/02/01,"Furry tendencies in my little sister My little cousin has been seeing some furry videos on tik tok and it’s influencing my little sister. She walks on all fours telling everyone she’s a dog, and although it’s cute now (she is 5), I don’t wish for her to grow up becoming a furry. I’ve raised my little siblings just as much as my parents (they work a lot so I’ve been watching them since they were babies to this day), and I feel I have a part in raising them, and I don’t want to have raised a furry. I don’t have any issue with furries, but I just don’t want my little sister to be one. I just think about the social consequences it will reciprocate... how do I stop this now without hurting her imagination and heart and telling her that she’s not really a dog??",4.356075949367089,4.655131443037977,5.583392405063293,83.17394936708862,70.0126582278481,8.345316455696205,26.559493670886077,8.238735603445708,1.53429164556962,600,17,126,8,10,201,88,158,0.02,0.911,0.069,0.599,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,4,1,8,2,0,0,7,0,15,1,1,2,1,25,21,12,0,3,6,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,1,3,1,0,2,6,1,0,2,3,3,25,1,15,16,5,16,0,1,2,0,19,10,0,2,4,91,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892512211465414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606610528253882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381662174080736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900356895300015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355439973627806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17238358048073968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572948389739671,0.0,0.0,0.15183370490367326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7289997149107967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367405920858418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069377649595484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857476863871002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152809128697967,0.1575306839853875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319230977749893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592138137220008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203349364947736,0.0,0.0,0.1482891456029811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162008989854008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25429575571455937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321180508929046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160487586408832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728422339375987,0.14022864547376754,0.0,0.1059044639311393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thestef121,2019/02/01,"How to tell a mom my kid doesn’t like her kid? Hi all, first time poster here. Hoping to get some advice/insight.

My 5YO daughter (let’s call her MD for “my daughter) goes to preschool with a little boy, we’ll call him LB. On more than one occasion, MD has told us that LB is mean to her at school - he’s not singling her out, he acts this way with all the kids, apparently. Teachers are aware, no serious harm has been done; it’s mostly dumping sand on heads and name calling. But still, not what one would consider a “friend.”

MD recently had a birthday party and specifically said she did NOT want to invite LB, which I totally agreed with. But we got an invitation to HIS birthday party. I don’t know if they invited everyone in the school. I asked MD if she wanted to go, and she said no. Now, when a 5YO turns down a birthday invitation, you know it’s for real. 

So I texted his mom: “Good morning, LB’s Mom. This is thestef121. Thank you for inviting us to LB’s birthday party! Unfortunately, we won't be able to attend, but I hope you all have a wonderful time!”

And the response: “Thank you so much texting me. We should get together some day. LB really likes MD!”

I’m so confused. Do I tell her that MD DOESN’T like her kid? Do I tell her why? Or do I just play along and let it fade on it’s own? MD goes to kinder in August (not the same school as LB), but as a parent I wonder if I would want to get that kind of feedback about my kid.

Anyway, advice is appreciated. Thank you!",1.1202323853989782,3.2121716875,2.9457003395585737,91.40974108658743,82.125,6.027843803056028,21.319609507640067,7.233258080335977,0.5549018675721564,1139,35,253,16,31,379,164,304,0.056,0.77,0.174,0.9909,2,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,6,5,1,1,11,16,1,1,13,0,25,1,1,1,4,51,49,20,0,11,13,6,1,3,1,5,0,2,0,6,11,13,0,0,5,1,0,3,10,4,0,3,8,3,40,12,31,33,12,23,0,0,0,0,52,9,0,12,13,163,51,4,0.09853125918287488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628360611556558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211342659370048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301834296242748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354451088525928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083168746658754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415084061358564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381063872623629,0.0,0.0,0.07612500642733289,0.0,0.1544355485859047,0.0,0.05599758524738671,0.0826433454186669,0.07880444897037008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112149819059207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572754521263602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026051440402921,0.10830040646373464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150977642308296,0.0,0.14441218869182829,0.09875420679180254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732942667857734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461958597067413,0.0,0.0,0.07243181265139896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335346624626929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940730293420926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215014418797098,0.0631216476696358,0.0,0.09728773154341126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18745158182846294,0.0,0.0,0.2991566838778244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868719086146005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583619904006361,0.27214303609028234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490873919386232,0.0,0.0,0.09415084061358564,0.0,0.0,0.1071737160276376,0.0,0.0,0.2370419459260783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434886856887294,0.07820952728676116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890913585555618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21370589504342288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399875590471629,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MeatManMarvin,2019/02/01,"First bad word My daughter was about 5 at the time.  Playing a game on the ipad.  I hear her say, ""damn.""  

""hay, that's a bad word."" I tell her.

""I know, that's why I say it when I loose.""

She has a point. But I explained we don't say bad words at all.",-3.4722807017543857,-2.0076845438596465,-0.6989473684210523,111.35403508771928,104.96491228070177,2.533333333333333,11.596491228070176,3.1291,-2.231329824561404,179,3,54,0,9,60,40,57,0.197,0.769,0.034,-0.8658,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,8,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,4,11,1,4,5,1,7,0,0,0,0,12,4,1,0,3,30,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6062081481779906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20585474524310668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727643995978294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133003118226672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22877896691792646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5773714582832433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21152860194814285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111877437317666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21837761636818145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jamesfouche,2019/02/01,"Are you a multitasking dad? ​

I remember watching this advertisement long ago, which showed that men can multitask. As a father of three kids, I began wondering if dads can multitask. Been reading up a bit. Studies show that men are able to multitask if they ""flex the multitasking muscle.""

Is this good news for dads? Or is this terrible news? [Are you a multitasking dad?](https://dad.thebrag.com/multitasking-dad-men-multitask)",6.130782472613461,9.930765521126762,5.934553990610333,66.5658059467919,76.88732394366197,10.479499217527387,31.83255086071988,9.994966539143718,4.7435996870109545,356,17,51,13,9,111,47,71,0.068,0.8809999999999999,0.05,-0.2982,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,10,4,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,5,1,5,8,1,4,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,4,3,33,11,1,0.2880619929881263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553495761178845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31211504905160536,0.35002685143692003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144890889409587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416127327097528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25492579901221324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28813994665446313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326318083726035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123909434936928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35002685143692003,0.0
parenting,isearnogle,2019/02/01,"Soon to be first time parent - looking for advice on all the ""best"" things? What has been a product that you would never want to parent without? (obviously focused on newborns)

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we are planning on having multiple kids, excited to start our family. Our first will be a boy! Started looking at strollers and cribs and this and that. The market is beyond flooded. Looking for some concise advise on must-have things. Something that is totally worth the money! Also - what product would you definitely not recommend?

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As far as basics I am not really concerned, know we need diapers and wipes and binky etc. etc. I do have other new parents in my life to ask as well but figured instead of reading reviews on amazon I would ask here!

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thanks so much :) ",4.522919254658382,7.443879304347828,4.757184265010352,78.51260869565219,74.79710144927536,6.551552795031056,31.596273291925467,7.7094869923839395,2.627244720496895,616,30,94,9,14,193,97,138,0.029,0.8440000000000001,0.127,0.9346,3,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,4,2,0,4,7,4,0,0,5,0,15,1,0,0,4,23,26,11,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,9,7,0,0,2,1,2,0,4,0,1,2,1,3,10,4,19,19,7,17,0,0,3,0,15,9,0,1,8,82,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504246110199683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596337811627236,0.0,0.3494110029514838,0.3918530477532421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20098584629925265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280893156284087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23976974691916586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133632481567584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286967249164854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059076210853813135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592660201846542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708051261750219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902088600472236,0.07970587024152144,0.08290644820645833,0.10381893680775173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580800354199597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752367121979288,0.0,0.06886378156706535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827545806714811,0.0,0.0,0.15217043634014946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896656843942678,0.0,0.0,0.14282924716795778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268095501410313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340308935126973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665053849204798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362094076653693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290831999217863,0.0,0.3918530477532421,0.0
parenting,muffsly,2019/02/01,"Interesting things to do for a 4yo?? Every day when I put my 1yo down for a nap my 4yo daughter paces in front of the door. My 1yo has had some issues so I still lay with him until he falls asleep, then I resume playing with my 4yo. But while I'm trying to get my 1yo down, my 4yo loses interest of whatever I've set her up with and just paces in front of the open door until I come out. Any suggestions of activities for her that a 4yo can manage for 15-20 minutes and not lose interest?

Mind you, we live in a duplex so I can hear where she is at all times. Thin walls in a small space.",1.7202362204724435,2.842500748031497,3.5787480314960654,92.02481496062993,76.95275590551181,6.969763779527558,19.786614173228344,7.554174236665415,0.2752116535433067,453,9,109,6,10,153,83,127,0.019,0.8740000000000001,0.108,0.8749,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,2,6,6,0,0,7,0,6,1,1,0,1,15,10,10,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,9,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,2,0,0,1,2,17,4,24,9,2,29,0,2,0,0,10,15,0,1,8,70,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761336421581206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249859870759196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684413973978681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200579024211656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364573128836036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943721699492772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726071452106645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23062933237271724,0.0,0.0,0.5843938322330279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637203273881755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26256100673044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085810434507841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351834826779033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229788012682074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732608041868966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ncrye1,2019/02/01,"So I just found out I'm going to be a Dad. We don't wanna tell anyone since she's just 3.5 weeks until after her 1st Dr visit the first of May. I'm so excited I want to rent a damn billboard on the interstate to show people I'm gonna be a Dad. 
Any advice from parents would be great. I'm 35 and my wife is 29. Our first kid. 
I really just needed an outlet to let internet strangers know that I'm gonna be a daddy since I'm about to explode from excitement and can't tell anyone else. ",1.8026834862385321,2.526215633027526,4.2301720183486236,89.00195527522936,76.1559633027523,7.2848623853211025,20.9644495412844,7.6454224807358475,0.5726412844036695,380,8,89,5,8,134,72,109,0.027000000000000003,0.8540000000000001,0.119,0.8517,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,2,6,4,1,0,7,0,10,1,0,0,0,14,23,5,0,4,3,4,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,1,0,2,1,0,8,3,14,13,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,2,1,1,5,49,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802643850631414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476748586855068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29770496400555746,0.21812340784110215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783611768352836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362155706179761,0.0,0.2334148116230646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098610234836599,0.0,0.0,0.2347038469210993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699472399483975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217686908523053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784976989724125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363809634286803,0.0,0.0,0.14758600858085394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637806151136578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521974165128578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721375969510836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556368852815772,0.0,0.17076160185114553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122570974762142,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pureluck347,2019/02/01,"Motivate a lazy 17 year old? Our son is now 17. He is a junior, very smart and everyone who meets him, loves him. He is not interested in sports- used to like baseball. Super sarcastic and funny, and truly cares about people.
He has a core group of friends who are all wonderful guys, and he has no interest in hanging out with just anybody. He has had the same girlfriend for about 19 months now. We live in an affluent area, yet have raised our kids to be thoughtful, courteous, and kind. (& That our money is not there money)
He is not motivated to do anything other than the bare minimum required for school. (Gets B&C's without studying, or doing much homework)
Works a few days a week because he likes working, not because he has to.

Would really like to get him to take the reigns on schooling, energy and general love for life.  

Any tips on how to motivate him??? 
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parenting,Sugarcoffeefridge,2019/02/01,"Parenting related book suggestions? (2 & 4 year old kids) I’ve almost finished listening to “How to talk so little kids will listen” on my work commute. I feel like it helps get my head back into the game, it’s nothing groundbreaking but having a reminder not to just nag / yell at my kids to get them to do things has been good for me. 

Anyone have any suggestions on what to listen to next? Anyone have something that helped them?

It doesn’t have to be a typical parenting book. Before this I read (yes, actually read the physical book) “150 healthiest foods on earth” and I found that pushed me to try to get the kids to eat different foods and I liked being able to give them solid examples of why blueberries are a better snack than cookies etc. ",3.47179487179487,5.700842888888893,4.381388888888889,83.37942307692309,74.9722222222222,8.31965811965812,24.96581196581197,9.057496981413335,2.116367094017094,592,20,112,14,13,191,99,144,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.9587,3,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,3,2,5,5,1,0,6,1,12,5,1,1,0,10,21,5,0,0,3,2,1,2,0,1,0,4,0,4,8,3,4,0,2,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,5,12,4,20,16,1,12,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,1,7,67,20,6,0.14953590043095386,0.0,0.14592546800764558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973860386553592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202208564149914,0.0,0.10168954009757014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20911795692837565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149838771311282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724403742725646,0.0,0.0,0.1322523520251257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623318885633578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301255781933396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677205701063064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560984430897108,0.1068284771465591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36163880873449705,0.1639583964831898,0.0,0.0,0.2343790083254649,0.14344846155225865,0.0,0.12542361859874204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534669749504774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004615239547388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611137520095493,0.14987425672241306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903312655612253,0.0,0.0,0.14348372946903712,0.0,0.15691277285630315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320838420957196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29915273393861563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512004181484913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019129244716582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934500768985917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152506059831712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493289131749306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886391647771293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629621715045604
parenting,grandplans,2019/02/01,"Books on raising normal tweens? Not troubled tweens, or tweens with special needs, just the normal gum popping, disrespectful, oblivious, eye rolling brand of tweens...

or in other words...tweens...",10.404999999999998,12.605940833333335,6.780000000000001,73.17000000000002,57.33333333333334,8.666666666666668,38.33333333333333,8.841846274778883,3.660333333333334,155,7,21,2,2,42,24,30,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.6346,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,8,1,2,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,10,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35390311225373633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9352820896056544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zendroid1,2019/02/01,"Booster seat recommendation My 5 1/2 year old looks a bit like Baby Huey in his current car seat that he's had since he was born so I'm looking to buy a booster seat. He's 42"" tall and 42 lbs. We have a Honda Fit. Our car seats in the back are kind of low so I was hoping to find a booster seat that sat up a bit higher since he enjoys seeing out the window as best he can. I live in a warm climate so I'd prefer one that won't make him too hot either. 

I don't mind spending for a good one that is safe and comfortable. Any suggestions? ",0.9852100840336108,2.267643193277312,3.2308319327731105,93.09431512605043,79.25210084033614,5.7684033613445385,20.303361344537816,6.2581,-0.0554880672268907,416,10,100,3,10,143,82,119,0.02,0.7609999999999999,0.22,0.9725,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,5,10,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,16,6,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,2,0,2,2,2,1,0,2,4,5,8,9,10,11,4,15,0,1,3,0,10,8,0,1,6,51,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316922579729766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618863911887097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209407253744997,0.0,0.4596936243624487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242276498785627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765845568211643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091061394839239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21923705769822616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285547779854223,0.0,0.18590393300489064,0.0,0.3535883207315758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053198661734326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257766984976495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22091829883377495,0.0,0.2853243545718355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776703500225135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483090912813062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557593871907658
parenting,arturoc123,2019/02/01,"How should I explain the word "" sex"" to my 5 year old? Tldr at the end. Excuse any errors..
So, I was watching Billy Madison today and my 5 year old daughter was around playing with her toys. She became interested in the movie because she heard kids in there as Billy is required to re-take every grade to prove to his dad he can take over the company. Anyway, later in the day she randomly asks me "" daddy, what is SEX""? Naturally I was taken aback and asked her what she said and she repeated "" daddy what does SEX mean""? I then asked her where she heard it and she said "" Billy Madison!"" Well crap. So I explained to her that she probably shouldn't be saying that word around other adults and that sex is something that only adults are allowed to do, like mommy(f28) and daddy(m26). I didn't go into detail though, just explained that she shouldn't talk about it and we can talk about it in 10 years lol And she said well I'm a big girl now, can I do that too? And I told her that she was still a little girl and not to ever speak of this again. I feel like this is going to come back and bite me. She tells her mom and grandmas everything and maybe she will ask a teacher about it and then I will look like a bad guy for allowing her to hear that. I don't know, how bad is it?

Tldr; my daughter heard the word ""sex"" on a movie and asked me what it means. I didn't know how to explain it and tried to avoid the subject after a super vague explanation. Help.",2.1541647241647226,3.9208215791245777,3.247491582491584,92.12542540792542,77.31649831649833,5.781351981351983,20.850686350686352,6.490185161304077,0.15759839419839405,1127,28,244,9,26,362,148,297,0.045,0.86,0.095,0.9178,1,1,1,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,0,2,23,12,1,1,13,1,24,6,1,5,2,49,53,25,0,3,2,4,1,3,0,5,0,9,0,6,22,22,0,2,10,2,0,3,6,4,2,0,14,12,40,8,29,33,0,34,0,0,2,5,57,13,1,1,21,165,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532857243491907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972206428230946,0.5177830552156816,0.0,0.0,0.08517662002413746,0.1849795291100468,0.0675254162303051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954200338421459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143859957242284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693708419681132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811087074613242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019936827470534,0.09332995698604858,0.0,0.0995544850314095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056009513155005165,0.07913534342986925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590824962785768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096814245816857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248477862279821,0.0,0.07424795319730053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175448773008217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235241057974506,0.1110223705684132,0.0,0.0,0.09302035155264717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128508783956828,0.2413257676551654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297345070968079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23247258596565276,0.0,0.0,0.08424688944602303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943065630036878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31610783465564274,0.08809012283637017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527748675272045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846244374405368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328655249554395,0.17806823534585364,0.09681937128182257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883265870936257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499864437144467,0.10584713153502633,0.0,0.07520673093714404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919417025671232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400007990596132
parenting,silent_ghost123,2019/02/01,"Was told post here, extremely squimish after having baby! Help! Ok my baby will be two this year, after having her I became so squimish about everything for some reason I can’t stand smells or seeing a lot of blood or bodily fluids and even certain foods. I wasn’t like this before and now it’s getting to the point that I’m annoyed with myself! There was nothing during birth that I saw that made me feel like this it just started during my pregnancy I would gag easily or get really nauseous and I thought it would go away after having the baby but it didn’t! Is this normal? Am I the only one? #irritatedwithmyself",3.374795454545456,5.643416525000003,4.6928787878787865,80.84727272727275,75.41666666666666,6.696969696969697,21.74242424242424,7.686295010490155,1.084833333333333,493,13,88,7,11,163,84,120,0.031,0.867,0.103,0.7374,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,7,5,1,0,4,1,14,2,1,2,1,19,25,8,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,11,4,1,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,8,4,12,4,9,13,2,12,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,5,9,67,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132110667144024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233467981545431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415285081621197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925791273008812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834532628575244,0.15308014874037634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591056435046844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239026797250052,0.0,0.1217790480542604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362593534687648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20937068135622625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821713771858666,0.0,0.20275489578520572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20994681106262936,0.2056053894581946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520022609111186,0.16296797117889955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202561842053,0.0,0.20521896168407966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727188647270108,0.22031333195295588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075171483007318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516669749064186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701126888174588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204751681573018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20931833717803305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30443369307605345,0.0,0.0,0.13798791893573478
parenting,talosguideu,2019/02/01,"In-home child care stories, advice, LPTs, etc? I am currently a SAHM with my first ever LO (1 month old). We've just moved to a small town in Colorado and there is a desperate need for child care here. I've dabbled in nannying before and am considering taking on a kiddo or two for extra money since I'm home anyway. Health and Human Service workers here have advised getting licensed since there is such a desperate need, there are even grants available to make home and safety improvements. 

Not sure what I would even charge monetarily, I was paid hourly to nanny after school kids. What do you charge (or pay) for in home daycare? ",6.939075630252103,7.262845092436978,6.707226890756306,77.25394957983195,64.46218487394958,9.15294117647059,31.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.485383193277311,502,17,90,7,7,158,83,119,0.055,0.83,0.115,0.8019,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,2,11,3,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,2,15,18,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,5,3,12,15,2,14,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,7,55,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763019026744952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597076828989047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34979978542671303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913161966826477,0.2266055485687768,0.15517079409097392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591469807697838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962432767782809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823425745669888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5162159436803353,0.0,0.1689356590982853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450652775484302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369242767992264,0.18232344829054328,0.0,0.2543944620841503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000590417783555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736110429780004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838048873290812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167759076071855,0.0,0.12897926115064767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757294073713622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185948420952482,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,doubleendedildos,2019/02/01,"I'm losing my sh*t My 2 year old toddler has not slept in 20 hours. Twenty. That is not a typo. She will not go to bed. We are in a new area and she is in an unfamiliar bed and she won't sleep. There is nothing I can do to make it more familliar- we put her down at 7pm last night and tried milk, tylenol, apple juice, lullabies, cartoons, Graham crackers, a whole meal, laying in total darkness and silence for 6 straight hours. She has screamed at full volume every 30 minutes. I'm at my wits end and I do not know how to help her or myself at this point. Is there ANYTHING we can do???? I refuse to give her anything to make her sleep (benadryl/melatonin etc) ",0.9620542231491136,3.0212561386861334,2.351976016684045,95.62950729927007,82.5036496350365,4.498227320125131,22.19447340980188,5.288315135182226,-0.04408404588112624,509,17,113,2,14,164,90,137,0.076,0.889,0.035,-0.6662,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,14,6,3,3,1,19,22,7,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,3,8,2,1,1,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,1,18,0,15,19,5,23,0,1,0,0,14,13,0,1,8,72,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31740834248811656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081329777006202,0.0,0.2150855759039534,0.0,0.0,0.16248961620956198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850051832336453,0.10960458903193644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926740576102852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3798489010121982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059886912088166,0.15720349469417366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21575669055738173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574659427060025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626166228185226,0.0,0.18098242344959126,0.0,0.18505066819273974,0.0,0.202370077586396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231138940976768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387368845119898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859908378467479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093666000702306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153169936064796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419303146124618
parenting,evilangel88,2019/02/01,"How can I prevent my 4 month old getting mumps or measles? My second child is 4 months old and won't be able to the MMR vaccine until she is at least one year old. Where I live there has been an outbreak of mumps and I am so worried she is going to get it. My 2.5 year old is all up to date on is vaccines, so I'm not worried about him getting it. Is there anything I can do to make sure my baby doesn't get mumps or measles before she can get her vaccines?",3.4949834983498325,3.0501224752475267,4.527475247524755,92.58481023102313,71.77227722772278,6.7333333333333325,28.71452145214521,3.1291,0.6961669966996697,354,12,86,0,6,116,63,101,0.062,0.903,0.035,-0.5708,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,0,16,0,0,2,2,10,24,8,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,13,1,10,21,2,15,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,10,58,15,0,0.16206965901519851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133369520139609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790934282750866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233735382847398,0.0,0.09210792211509496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431104781642187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818275588417213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25872491118238483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6802593763413401,0.0,0.1098225953444413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527487356061946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32917921155679153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873509348658525
parenting,No1954083,2019/02/01,"Can someone help me understand why women want children? I just don't understand why anyone wants to go through so many awful things optionally.  Pregnancy = vomiting, sweating, growing everywhere.  Childbirth = pain, screaming, suffering.  Baby stage = no sleep, the risk of postpartum depression, puke, diapers, being at the beck and call 24/7.  Then it just keeps going. You're never free from this person that needs you.  My aunt even adopted and will have to take care of at least two of them forever (one autistic 19 yo and one 23 yo who shot herself in the head and the state gave her no option but take her in).  Why do people willingly sign up for a life of imprisonment?  People will say ""You won't understand until you have your own.""  If that's the case, why do so many people sign up for this without knowing why they want to?  Plus, when they post pictures on social media saying it was the hardest thing they've ever done and they were in labor for 24 hours,  why do they get mad when I'm empathetic and say that sounds horrible and tell them I hope it gets better soon?  ",4.195,6.2329685000000055,4.7654901960784315,82.26970588235295,72.33333333333334,7.9372549019607845,26.70588235294117,8.671277953709913,2.0558117647058824,850,30,156,16,17,271,138,204,0.133,0.78,0.087,-0.8462,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,4,6,1,9,10,1,1,7,1,15,6,3,0,2,29,34,16,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,4,3,5,0,3,11,8,0,1,4,0,1,3,6,6,0,3,4,5,17,5,23,25,2,22,0,2,0,0,26,8,0,4,8,100,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567147713059331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571373954427256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050696412154667,0.0,0.11033974348884104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932116205548493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074888249502146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147974110883347,0.09789317392560253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308326349334792,0.0,0.12301033820589025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106719724929166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253905809102977,0.0,0.0,0.10748906147671174,0.10657706532486394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619286208892716,0.0,0.0,0.0594760897638934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644053895555795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944064524562976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024538853591658,0.08346763078178396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666832434985955,0.0,0.11515604890057353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22508293693577427,0.09449544896577668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036469503020438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25818790670336195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830035477362283,0.11031890211467707,0.0916963171681318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273924894930353,0.0,0.09459097113540972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379603909417726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571736214218017,0.3379893743254901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149676895640996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5859222048344916,0.0,0.0,0.10432233695048901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shutupmegg23,2019/02/01,2 year old spider nightmare My 2 year old had a nightmare about spiders last night. So now he won’t enter his bedroom even after I deep cleaned it and super checked for spiders. He is currently napping on top of me because he was so afraid. So bed time should be a blast...parenting...,2.9258928571428555,4.9718812321428585,3.7387142857142885,88.20628571428574,75.96428571428572,5.908571428571428,30.84285714285714,6.742157984588678,1.7254971428571428,223,11,43,2,5,71,46,56,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.6908,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,1,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,6,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,5,1,0,14,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,10,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060071841355517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22320845467106226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754690080281589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171370251989624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7092295834231499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705753733147188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43524899045272136
parenting,Hardtwinning,2019/02/01,"My daughter's teacher recommended another year of kindergarten to help her mature, but her twin brother is ready to move up. I'm a dad of 3 and my older two are twins. Despite being womb mates these kids are so different from each other and are in separate classrooms. 

They have a September birthday in a December 31st cutoff state/district and turned 5 the day before school started. We knew they were on the young side for their grade but with a late cutoff we figured it made sense to send them. Neither are the youngest in their class and their preschool teacher recommended moving them up. Our son was an easy decision. Our daughter was harder but her teacher thought she would benefit from kindergarten. 

We are in January now and had a meeting with our daughter's teacher last week. She is concerned about her emotional maturity and social skills. My daughter is more of a wallflower and has a hard time getting involved and communicating with the other kids. One of the students mentioned that they have to be nice to my daughter because she is a little girl and they were big girls. The girl who said this is actually younger than my daughter but the teacher was concerned that the students see her as someone younger rather than as a peer. She wants our daughter to repeat the grade for another year of growth. She thinks it'll help with maturity, confidence, and leadership. 

The problem is that my son is killing it in kindergarten. His teacher raves about him and I don't want to hold him back just because of his sister. He is a friendly kid and already has made a bunch of friends in his class. I wouldn't keep him from them by allowing them to move on while he stays behind. 

My daughter is ahead academically and we are going to be getting her tested for ASD (high functioning). We have heard that autism can present differently in girls. Regardless of that, we need advice on how to handle this. If we hold her back while her brother moves forward I don't want her to resent me for life but I also don't want her to keep moving forward if she isn't ready. We have a few months before we have to make a decision but I have no clue what we will do at this point. 

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parenting,CaptPrivateAnon,2019/02/01,"Measles outbreak and travel - cancel trip? We have a 8 week old boy and a 4 yr old girl - our 4 yr old is vaccinated, but our 8 week old is too young for the MMR vaccine. 

  
We reside outside any area of outbreak, but work is taking me to Seattle, and I was thinking of bringing the family in order to see our extended family who lives there; but I'm concerned about the measles outbreak. 

  
Its a trip of convenience; as my airfare is paid for, hotel, etc., and it would be good to let the kids see their cousins, have family time, etc..

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Part of me feels that my primary role as a parent is to do everything I can to keep my kids safe; but I also worry that I'm being a bit crazy as the chances of infection are so remote. But, while we'd be avoiding most crowded places, we'll be passing through airports at a minimum.  

  


What would you do?

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parenting,Nesting_Hen,2019/02/01,"Help: 10 month old and food allergies. Did you get bloodwork done? Hi everyone, 

My 10 month old had an allergic reaction (hives) to peanut butter that I fed him. He also had a small reaction to hazelnuts that I was eating near him/possibly brushed him with. 

I took him to an old school allergist that I don’t trust 100% but, due to my insurance majorly sucking, is my only option unless I want to pay out of pocket—which I am strongly considering. 

The did the skin test and had a strong reaction to peanuts and various tree nuts. So, though I know false negatives and false positives can occur, everything is pretty indicative of him having allergies. 

The next step is getting blood work done. 

**My question: Is blood work something that is typically done, even on babies? Should I just go ahead and get it done (today)?**

I am supposed to take him today but I’m having cold feet and wondering if I am doing the right thing here. ",3.3375731092437,5.818782394285716,4.472705882352943,81.33047058823531,76.48571428571428,8.460504201680674,26.865546218487395,9.168548406835145,2.611147899159664,729,29,133,19,17,238,111,175,0.035,0.841,0.124,0.9504,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,0,5,6,4,1,0,8,0,24,8,4,0,0,19,36,13,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,8,3,0,3,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,12,4,20,3,15,23,2,18,0,0,0,0,10,5,1,4,10,90,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798790086681707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5527531079713617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817510531080454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918972400618158,0.0,0.0,0.12903227912485574,0.12136126803259913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328555379213827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116515442886152,0.0,0.07674382940045776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051149976825797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421202075888582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21556821595235545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436118663916757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4250913628859777,0.0,0.0,0.10270064003390476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373797263556654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127074880026306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153196435766356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666321151826127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039569831904418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152994732215068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971163605968098,0.0,0.1326717672253558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559958723828886,0.0,0.1500294928815373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964748102679327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644032129805054,0.1966150143260195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AnnaLemma,2019/02/01,"DNA testing for kids - yea or nay? So I'm waiting for my DNA testing (ancestry/health) results to come in, and my husband had his done a couple of months ago. This is from a 3rd-party site, not anything done by our GPs. 

Our 8-year-old said that she wants to get hers done too, and I didn't really think much of it until someone on another sub mentioned privacy issues. The context there was testing infants, so it's a bit different, but an 8-year-old doesn't really have an idea of what she's getting into either.

Thoughts? ",5.8049358974358976,5.672419365384616,6.3738461538461575,80.2378205128205,66.88461538461539,9.241025641025642,33.67948717948718,8.841846274778883,2.744191025641026,410,17,80,6,6,134,80,104,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,1,9,0,0,1,0,14,18,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,1,9,0,13,10,3,8,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,3,53,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497601919724968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18332422999147732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386998263366624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086879965110687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15060034374355405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344578612701893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826598715881055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367345822918541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826826505391006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18583584218206514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736150032636315,0.0,0.18247683026508435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954743347558868,0.0,0.12851997781277166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669088130412769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240008212151376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663031218996954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481326745220237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202384046922567,0.0,0.1387952878530734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031191125368981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22516924589303505
parenting,nicqui,2019/02/01,"I hate my 3 year old <deep breaths>

For the first time, I actually had that “I love him, but I hate him.” moment.

Whenever I sit, he gets in my lap. Whenever I move, he physically tries to stop me with all his 3 yo might. And screams “no no stop mine” 

We’re potty training, and he has all the basics down. He can hold it, he can pee on command, etc. But he just pees in his pants on purpose.

He’ll get out of bed and pee on the floor. He’ll get off my lap and pee on the floor. 

Everything’s a fight. I give up :p",-0.5909587020648992,1.1943727876106216,1.8665707964601768,98.4523045722714,86.61061946902655,5.5365781710914455,19.151179941002948,6.816661863887847,-0.10451563421828958,387,11,101,5,12,132,72,113,0.208,0.745,0.048,-0.959,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,5,0,5,5,4,0,2,15,14,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,2,6,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,1,1,16,1,14,10,3,21,0,0,0,1,15,12,0,1,7,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.2227918017401799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546193448519055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518494261227008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19419529278146874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3578383010714147,0.21901003054799292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508059308563703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20605330224322888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421944991048766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24265105495424555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395666764548033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817447866496913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312591688861616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500345129127788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702031120838802
parenting,YuuriiSama,2019/02/01,"Potty time anger I am trying to start potty training my two year old. She is fine before and after sitting on the potty but absolutely throw a fit while sitting on it. I am pretty sure she is ready, but I do not know how to fix this behavior.  Is this a sign she isn't ready?",3.117068965517241,3.751939844827589,4.916724137931039,85.63818965517244,72.9655172413793,7.179310344827586,23.12068965517241,7.1686216300943375,0.7412965517241372,213,5,46,2,4,73,41,58,0.036000000000000004,0.68,0.284,0.9474,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,1,8,9,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,7,2,5,9,0,12,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,6,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282177184083934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198059637019087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047462917503933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39241400549735933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730132770796603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635347719199759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249153429596619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618772904773901,0.0,0.3767905651253392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24838982889513114
parenting,kristigem,2019/02/01,"I need help with a bed wetting 4 year old! Background info- we are a military family. I have two boys, oldest turns 4 in March and the youngest just turned 2 in November. My husband was gone for 18 months overseas when my youngest was 4 months old and didn’t come back until he was almost 2. I did all of my oldest sons potty training in that time. We just moved several states away and resettled once he got back, but I’ve been having this problem with my oldest for over a year now.

My oldest is my wild child. He is incredibly busy and won’t settle down ever. I still have some problems during the day with potty training because he won’t stop what he’s doing to go to the potty. He stopped napping at 1.5 years and hasn’t napped since. He will intentionally keep himself awake even when he’s exhausted. 

We did have some problems with night terrors and he used to bang his head against the wall every time he went to sleep. The pediatrician told up that head banging was normal, especially in boys. But it was so hard when we moved from our first house we have to replace the drywall behind his bed because he hit a hole in it with his head. He’s been in underwear exclusively for the last year. 

At night he pees the bed. Multiple times a night. Bedtime for him is 7:30-8 (and he fights sleep every night so sometimes he doesn’t go to bed until 9 or 10) and I stay up late every night so I can make him go potty. If I don’t get up there to take him potty he will wake up about midnight with a wet bed. So I take him at 10:30-11 to go pee. 

However I have to literally shake him awake, turn on all the lights, and talk loud to him because he is such a deep sleeper and sometimes it still doesn’t work. Last night he peed in his pants standing right in front of the potty because he was still asleep after all that. If he not completely awake when he goes potty at this time he will pee for two seconds and then stop. Then later on that night he will pee in the bed sometime about 4 in the morning.

He doesn’t drink any water or juice after 5:30. We don’t do any sugar after then. This is to limit his fluid intake and also his sugar which aggravates his night terrors. And it prevents him from being wired. We do an hour of quiet relaxing time before bed. I get him up to go to the potty before I go to bed. What more could I be doing?! I don’t sleep as it is because I also have a 2yo to take care of and he’s starting to potty train too.

Please help me!! ",3.0836002900953186,4.243756694881892,4.211085785329466,88.68180066307501,73.58661417322836,6.764691255698303,23.80149191877331,7.0608816371341465,0.7340779527559054,1923,53,414,18,38,628,223,508,0.08900000000000001,0.875,0.036000000000000004,-0.9814,1,0,1,0,1,0,49.0,8,0,0,3,25,10,1,3,22,0,46,17,12,3,4,60,72,36,0,8,9,2,3,0,0,6,1,2,8,3,15,28,4,6,1,4,0,13,11,8,0,4,15,8,45,2,67,47,6,99,0,0,0,0,59,27,0,7,56,252,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745333499138109,0.0,0.0,0.10773876992296452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161697032357101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328883744986348,0.1035944744041912,0.0,0.2053163180612348,0.0,0.11464023919902525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686800712616777,0.0,0.0,0.058026417640815176,0.07062779885118993,0.0,0.0,0.05378309357420436,0.0,0.0,0.04344293171517852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598913694438696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044491980476802896,0.06093280579288402,0.17026622747055964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350291963507781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057298101826038214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038775285907442,0.0,0.2297003380678882,0.0,0.0538755629365655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060343140804462875,0.0,0.2073986067229062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030268734403477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633802299995739,0.0777267296303267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0598744605908966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981807786102693,0.07598729532981986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044964673014515365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753544718791473,0.1431903385074296,0.0,0.0499480860550046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057175582140839,0.06600047962256166,0.0,0.0,0.14137022195568638,0.07173835537801497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394327213952527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933690739385826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057526799054204186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609991145405086,0.0,0.05572256101414173,0.0,0.20223201128620427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998682877341024,0.0,0.04767918615225136,0.07179895305670662,0.16138619426748685,0.1689530009485934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519435725719323,0.054143041962418884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639668480925512,0.0,0.0,0.06436729912184246,0.0,0.0,0.21981161057912807,0.13160581556464854,0.0,0.0,0.05817915921260532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062445269619134776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04904035457175137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351573545284013
parenting,paperbrist,2019/02/01,"Question on baby walkers Hey all, I'm currently researching at a university and designing concepts for new baby walkers. Out of interest, would you guys be willing to purchase radically different designs of baby walkers (such as a large frame that can carry the baby) or rather stick to conventional designs?",10.062051282051288,10.986900076923082,10.458461538461544,50.953205128205155,57.84615384615386,13.087179487179489,50.02564102564102,12.45797560212912,7.353710256410255,252,17,30,8,3,85,43,52,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.4588,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,5,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,9,2,1,5,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,2,23,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4786605884608402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536323332126021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424761294754969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5132235787258422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32545073421738563,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WanzoThat,2019/02/01,Why do you make your children believe in Santa? This is the only sub I could think of but why do most parents make their children believe in santa. Is there some sort of effect behind it? Why do you put Santa's name in some presents instead of just putting your own. Eventually the kids will find out and say you lied to them. So why bring all the trouble?,3.1276525821596266,4.969822070422538,3.484154929577468,91.15937793427231,74.77464788732395,5.2967136150234735,25.91784037558686,5.46131890053228,0.5776178403755869,281,10,57,1,6,87,50,71,0.101,0.899,0.0,-0.8171,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,2,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,3,1,16,11,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,0,9,9,5,8,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,4,1,40,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238969760888382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501996946188316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193962509623456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25114509808171576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430748630214651,0.0,0.0,0.20888664145205288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782280948679837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496017519606198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054064871101915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6790015030144532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ayreakbarshi,2019/02/01,"My 14 year old daughter absolutely hates the woman I'm currently dating. How can I deal with this and promise her that no one would ever replace her mother? I am a 43 year old single father of two, a 14 year old daughter and a 12 year old son. I lost my wife about 5 years ago to a car accident. 

About five months ago, I started dating this amazing woman and we want to make things serious for us so I invited her over to meet the kids. I usually go to her place because I wasn't ready to introduce her to my children and I was very worried that they might reject her (which happened). To be fair, my son really likes her and bonded with her well. They played video games together after the dinner and joked around. My daughter on the other hand refused to eat with us and just stayed in her room all night long. I tried to talk to her but she refused to listen.

The next day I heard her crying and I approached her. She told me ""how could you replace mom?"" and I honestly burst in tears. I kept promising her that I would never replace their mother. She then walked away and stayed in her room.

I have no idea how to approach this. How can I explain to her that I need to move on, for my own sake. Losing my wife has been the toughest thing in my whole life but I also can't forever dwell on the loss; this'll just eat me alive. I understand that my daughter is frustrated and all. I'm hoping I can get input from other parents who dated after losing their partner and how it went with their children. 

if this isn't the right place to post, kindly refer me to the appropriate sub, thanks.",3.0192524038461537,4.634775728125003,3.9968749999999993,88.32831730769232,74.53125,6.6730769230769225,24.18269230769231,7.321109707123232,0.9638149038461541,1243,38,255,14,26,401,172,320,0.133,0.753,0.115,-0.4707,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,1,5,4,14,20,2,1,13,0,17,5,1,6,4,47,37,23,0,7,5,13,1,1,1,3,1,2,2,6,16,18,3,3,4,4,0,7,6,9,1,3,8,3,59,11,38,24,5,52,0,5,0,0,57,15,0,3,28,181,75,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977596244095514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810922492190866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027051015886448,0.0,0.0,0.0952718168759537,0.0,0.0,0.06181456144291118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096235052639494,0.0,0.11138685533507267,0.06539679352147708,0.10454243587133404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752195358545752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172516590838753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05297908265428322,0.0,0.057629879734807536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896706772168262,0.0,0.0,0.1001148476855512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007164401961397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447207720829268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559601963355357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162420868235178,0.049540571138221766,0.0,0.0,0.08973880349676497,0.0,0.2268888965074078,0.11069377181548247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768754595499818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757296534276706,0.0,0.11876241729262114,0.08093921333502782,0.10777574891854076,0.0,0.07518932405270526,0.07820854074317464,0.0,0.10784364884187228,0.09516020624350753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256231727607481,0.0,0.06871355705925059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259645719281053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118899064783548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711641099285002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496160410834445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659793552525982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177383682375724,0.2161650295100658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150419863592824,0.0,0.0933586116333488,0.0,0.0,0.1347358044893548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689527856462682,0.0,0.0688462411631635,0.0,0.0990563712773079,0.10556449849723899,0.2439515699734956,0.0,0.1116815008597766,0.08366841128132928,0.0598103429111277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911738199021807,0.0940019525028674,0.0,0.11321325645211912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029800582707299,0.0,0.14406810859105318,0.0,0.0,0.3265022719499145
parenting,Dominion_of_Gold,2019/02/01,"Taking a 2 year old in a plane. Help! Ok r/parenting. I am an idiot and I’m taking my 2 year old on an interstate holiday. The flight is 2 hours each way and I’ll also have Hubbal with me. Please help by giving me all your tips for keeping this active kid occupied for the flights, and maybe at the airport too? 
Thank you in advance! ",-0.1813968253968241,2.0665679714285723,2.2776190476190514,92.58626984126984,90.71428571428572,5.396825396825397,19.206349206349206,6.937597516519254,0.3974444444444445,258,8,56,4,9,88,53,70,0.043,0.68,0.277,0.9424,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,2,3,1,0,7,1,3,0,0,0,1,7,9,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,8,9,2,11,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,5,32,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660335870644928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22384272355340515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128081891163955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297946767090232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074049194173464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344232083425297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48970594813491297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590984624666209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561392327914331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508879981465392,0.0,0.0,0.21482978537057895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521586518247812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30052894651638473
parenting,psychomom__,2019/02/01,"I (38f) need help regarding my oldest daughters hair For some background we have 3 children. My olde st daughter is 15, second daughter is 11 and third is 8. I stay at home and take care of the children while my husband is a banker.

So it's literally a circus in the mornings. I have to pack lunches, get their clothes ready and drive them to school and.....kiss them goodbye :). 

Now my oldest daughters hair is becoming a big problem for me. She has it long, but doesn't wamt to take care of it. She needs help with shampooing,brushing etc everyday. I have asked her many times to learn to take care of her hair but she refuses. And she wont cut it. 

So, I've made up my mind and booked an appointment for her to get it cut short into a pixie or something. I talked about it to my husband and he thinks it's a bit overboard but told me to do whatever I felt like.

So....is it a good decision or is it something bad to do.

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parenting,zionhasfallen,2019/02/01,"Nearly 4yo having difficulty wiping bum, with preschool starting next week im feeling a bit anxious My nearly 4yo son Asher (dob 11/2) has had a bit of development issues centring around his speech but we have noticed is affecting other areas, one such area is going to the toilet. 

I feel like I have not prepared him well enough for preschool as I feel I have overcompensated for his speech and have done quite a lot more for him than I did with his two older brothers. 

To the point where up until a few weeks ago I was still wiping his bum everytime he did a poo. He still struggles with getting himself clean after going to the toilet and will often just call out ""me done kakka"" (kakka is Finnish for poo) and wait for me/someone to come, I have now started to show him how to wipe his bum but I'm not sure he is 'getting it' nor am I sure I know how to teach someone to wipe correctly. He also is happy to do a wee in the backyard or at my in law's farm whenever he feels it necessary to do so.

To compound this he either doesn't understand instructions or chooses to ignore them and its causing me great anxiety with preschool here in Australia starting next week. I'm really scared he is either going to make a huge mess of himself or just sit on the toilet calling out waiting for someone to help him. 

We have just been approved for the NDIS to get him some assistance and the preschool has had his two older brothers through there last year and the year before so they are familiar with Asher and have spent some time with him last year but I'm still way more anxious than I was with the first two boys starting.

I guess Im hoping for some advice on how to teach him to keep himself clean and reassurance that things wont be as bad as my imagination

Thanks for reading",9.203352219074596,6.494663745042497,8.697348441926348,74.62232105760152,61.69121813031161,11.22636449480642,37.980925401322,9.029198982220553,3.2539659678942403,1414,51,276,16,15,452,181,353,0.08199999999999999,0.794,0.124,0.969,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,2,3,20,14,0,2,16,0,33,0,0,6,3,63,61,25,0,1,13,3,4,1,0,2,0,2,3,1,7,21,0,4,8,2,1,4,5,5,1,5,10,6,36,9,55,48,12,48,0,0,0,0,35,17,0,10,26,198,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286821642842116,0.08424380425440521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600036709029873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270238723093045,0.21472757523340968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460231372997201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935120751750274,0.0,0.0,0.08086875568261394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075097022025779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19408504991907188,0.0,0.0,0.09762829503374912,0.0,0.08186521982365683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945099348117611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819773772772088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922125122795861,0.06789383764445257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083769241972794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895738255901425,0.0,0.16203368598330542,0.0,0.0,0.1047776802264011,0.10469302304821794,0.0,0.0,0.10116773857647096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370072159069877,0.0,0.0,0.09439233096438898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531067969075045,0.09919303934533442,0.0,0.08447248817664163,0.0,0.0,0.052229377318337315,0.15493427735543616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04642985770681675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079632798828927,0.0,0.0,0.06343736164134564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214402681558474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819927566671016,0.0,0.0,0.06439894824564904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983987101183301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108263347602947,0.0950618584642844,0.0,0.06088258503806297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514775566407696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24157143990577504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690682771098104,0.0,0.2276879533041873,0.0,0.0,0.0993524084364628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791408751184562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749650951234353,0.0,0.0,0.06313778875298177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055416337689742134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27850949944805786,0.09893597371825152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543526462972029,0.22869677785539824,0.0,0.08544890354280109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836004754804818
parenting,panickypigeon3490,2019/02/01,"Daughter has been accused of bullying. Hi all.

My daughter, Lisa, is 16. She is currently in Year 11 and will be finishing school soon. She is a lovely girl who has never been in any kind of trouble before. 

During her very first week of secondary school back when she was 11, Lisa came home crying saying she had been picked on by a girl called Nicole, who managed to isolate a large group of girls against her. Lisa made her own friends, but sadly this girl never left her alone. 

Lisa frequently came home complaining about Nicole over the years. The bullying was pretty extreme. At one point our dog was very ill, and the girl put a picture of a dead dog in Lisa's pocket. As well as this, most schools in our area have police checks, in which officers turn up with sniffer dogs for drugs, knives, etc. Nicole is apparently a weed smoker, and when she heard about the police, she put the stuff in Lisa's bag. Lisa didn't find out about this until one of her friends sniffed it, and managed to get rid of it before they were searched. When the police had left Nicole went up to her saying it was a shame she didn't get arrested. Lisa came home crying her eyes out.

Myself and my wife have been to the school more than a few times to complain about this girl's behaviour towards Lisa. We have tried to point out That Lisa genuinely does not feel safe at school. The teachers say that nothing physical has ever happened and so it isn't a safety problem. Lisa believes it is because Nicole is some kind of academic high achiever. Lisa says she is already studying material meant for older people and she is currently the school's ''head girl'' and the teachers absolutely adore her. 

Lisa came home crying two days ago saying that Nicola had accused her of attacking her. Apparently she has two black eyes and cuts all over her face, and she's claiming that Lisa is responsible. Lisa insists she didn't touch her. 

I was called into the school yesterday morning, where Nicole's mum was there too. She was calling Lisa a thug and a bully and saying that Nicole was afraid to go to school. She is just as snobby as her daughter, saying that Lisa was bullying Nicole ''for being pretty'' and that she attacked her out of jealousy. It was acknowledged that nobody has any video proof of this attack, but several of Nicole's friends (the same ones who spread rumours about Lisa) have come forward and claimed it happened.

Now, we aren't the sort of parents who will insist that our child is in the right. It is a possibility that Lisa *did* attack Nicole especially after five years of bullying and resentment. But she absolutely insists that it didn't happen and that it's another lie. After all the tricks the girl has pulled in the past it wouldn't be a long shot. 

Lisa will today be in a ''behavioural support unit'' in isolation from the other kids. To be honest, her mum and me regret not pulling her out of school earlier and transferring her to a different one. We would do it now but she's in the middle of coursework and has exams approaching and a move would hugely affect that. But at the very least it will keep her safe from Nicole. 

Advice? ",5.526769211913227,6.7306363919597985,5.150087020468195,84.07370020835887,67.82747068676717,8.102447195326228,28.29631899334069,8.331364938255728,1.841320415083548,2494,82,475,34,41,762,258,597,0.168,0.7659999999999999,0.065,-0.9971,6,2,2,0,0,0,59.0,6,0,1,2,19,27,7,2,36,0,61,7,4,3,7,69,81,34,1,5,8,7,2,0,3,7,2,8,4,10,38,35,0,3,4,1,1,14,11,15,1,8,31,13,47,12,73,38,11,80,0,2,3,1,83,37,0,3,31,317,85,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05694698236297531,0.051658474982807616,0.0,0.0,0.06035673143605675,0.06430940994996583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925984335148249,0.061107842347555084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651910801176459,0.0,0.044810921952321316,0.0,0.035524726804570736,0.0,0.09917777643814428,0.06565749900879556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852003095985067,0.2666105132319759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050199922091021684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204152774196293,0.03758342968898985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060886390395582315,0.0,0.0,0.05099803341571841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758207351232907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499354359054155,0.0,0.05271430200162125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02946627750508543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053263535250899184,0.04956984016203242,0.0,0.0,0.13507250839344748,0.0,0.06089398335013237,0.0,0.03311979710881029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546007721878245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059808355817765065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157217159466642,0.23382375369137398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051798704436835416,0.0,0.12137171765253285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266348664969876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05157274279031908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052596688162518085,0.05514249880022001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193854566169121,0.0,0.0,0.08989263949567454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591773701744826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795827295835935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470899877905464,0.0,0.055631377613789855,0.040401488810859545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017998938196708,0.06569783721972874,0.0,0.11857601319374285,0.0,0.05576260400689163,0.0,0.11716767122532523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04976769113238578,0.0,0.32440589127047464,0.0,0.5308090677485291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583569659209683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671248716819166,0.0,0.06613132020913777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03398141287090163,0.0,0.05523917310519033,0.0,0.0,0.039565821575903964,0.06338794279344853,0.11385506734132272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442522951013776,0.0,0.0,0.04674577903998215,0.0,0.052397444358566116,0.05402276751319663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279570508115802,0.0,0.0,0.1125841912456618
parenting,JeanLight,2019/02/01,"Kids playing less outdoor with friends compared with old times Since my lovely niece grew a bit older, I noticed that modern kids spend too much time on mobile phones and tablets playing games alone. I remembered my childhood when we spend so much time with friends outdoor, played different games and didn’t want to go home.

Of course, I understand the global trends of modern devices and global changes in lifestyle, but I do believe that interaction with friends is necessarily important for children development. Kids improve their social communication skills through team games. How to change situation?!",10.500433333333334,11.882012709999998,8.02,67.24833333333335,56.9,10.266666666666667,43.66666666666667,10.125756701596842,4.833366666666667,501,27,71,9,6,145,75,100,0.014,0.779,0.206,0.9476,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,1,2,4,7,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,13,7,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,2,8,0,0,2,7,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,7,12,6,4,15,0,0,0,1,17,4,0,0,9,38,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892858602062147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059096952928124,0.0,0.0,0.1995282908506518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38667499850926507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094693345163952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236033882741222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386760741406434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833247481310652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494944517311494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687015537376467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807524964766685,0.1917775154922832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070332224840372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118225267424393,0.20543165307277794,0.0,0.1863023967305732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31970920955712623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026123145197685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779750444353976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tetriser2,2019/02/01,"Does switching languages confuse the baby? I am not sure if this is the right subreddit but I need some answers.

I'm not married yet but soon i will be. So here is my question: if i sometimes speak English and sometimes speak my first language, which is Turkish, will my child get confused? I don't mean to mix the sentences so it will be something like Turklish. I mean speaking in a language for a time period like maybe a few hours or days or reading in that language and turning back the other one. 

My purpose here is to raise my child as bilingual. Do you think this is the right method? ",4.0168582375478925,5.625788655172413,4.084942528735635,88.7320881226054,71.93103448275863,5.845210727969349,32.71647509578544,5.82211442006289,1.6482118773946364,468,23,90,2,9,144,74,116,0.052000000000000005,0.8740000000000001,0.07400000000000001,0.536,0,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,7,5,0,2,8,0,13,0,0,0,1,20,20,11,0,3,8,0,0,2,0,3,0,3,0,2,6,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,2,0,2,0,3,12,3,6,15,2,12,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,8,10,66,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709453948988494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175697625066335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878481908621008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377797361828864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673862370285617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011949234509766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996218928611335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052473979513888,0.445086460651854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514862954291824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843936404284113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288634120914715,0.0,0.20435587209167272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489431673927864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728057190432104,0.4041170059285239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255088399019515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090756586142469,0.0,0.0,0.119129314318725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222037058159927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,metalhead_mommy,2019/02/01,"How do I get my 4 month old out of my bed?! Hey guys, so I have 2 kids one is 18.5 months and the other is just shy of 4 months. My 18.5 month old is a very good sleeper and he usually goes to bed around 8pm and wakes up between 8am-9am then naps again around 12pm-3pm. My 4 month old daughter on the other hand seems to be allergic to sleep. During the day she’ll have short naps in her bouncy chair or her swing but come night time she tends not to go to bed until 12am and then wakes up around 2am, 5am, and 8am. She also refuses to sleep anywhere except for next to me. My question is, how do I get her to sleep longer and sleep in her own bed without her waking up her big brother? ",4.5392880794702,3.269545602649007,5.290455298013246,90.75104718543051,69.79470198675497,8.344701986754968,26.82201986754967,6.6274283507984215,0.8375225165562914,530,12,132,3,8,173,88,151,0.022,0.944,0.034,0.4115,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,4,0,10,9,8,2,0,22,16,15,0,0,6,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,2,2,11,0,1,2,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,18,1,25,14,1,31,0,0,0,0,17,12,0,3,17,77,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018855368861468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402517311244166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097479156136918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216552731897735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331274525481214,0.0,0.07240705855379002,0.1068610641757944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615073842138594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084663013540328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549640277370767,0.1195607323348754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40106957710676594,0.0,0.0863327595393769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272248402802498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598450435418667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5099870624769618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429073745229453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031833849628636,0.10512226613394696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281363778382927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rossraves,2019/02/01,"This is your legacy Death, they say strips us of all our identity. Not just death, but even that edgy moment which brings us closer to death reduces us to the feeling of nothingness. The experience makes us forget all our statuses – rich or poor, all our problems – grave or simple, all our relations – deep or fickle and surely all our feats – colossal or paltry. That’s when we hear people saying it in a reclusive voice of fright, “I had a near death experience.” The experience gets etched forever, if you are alive that is. It is hard to let go. But why? For it is that moment although we think we are trapped in fear, we are actually free. Free of all our inhibitions, our little beliefs and our hopeless foundations that have been so hard until now to construct meaning for ourselves. Yes, beliefs which bought meaning to our lives, we conveniently assumed to be the ultimate. The near-death experience reduces them to nothing but a false narrative that we humans have been chasing thoughtlessly.

Post such incidents we normally tend to go free willing in all our encounters with people and events. We grandly appease to ourselves, “I want to live every moment now on” or the favourite, “I shall not worry the daily little things, life is bigger than these trivialities”. In a way unconsciously, we relive the experience of death that introduces us to the nothingness. Nothing else matters than life itself, which we campaign for and brings meaning to death.

What after me?

Yet, between the countless explanations for one to fear their own death, the most prominent question invariably remains. What after me? Which leads to the question, hence what do I leave behind apart from the momentary mourning and annual rituals of remembrance that our society is so brilliantly tuned into? Or the simple, how will I be remembered? These questions therefore lead to some mind-boggling answers within humans. There is a rush, a rat-race, the power games and the birth of egos. These egos that lead to greed, want, authority, fame and prosperity. The ego then starts building a legacy for the generations to follow based on the mentioned attributes. The anxieties of building our legacy ranges from anywhere between waging wars, where the belief amongst the authority was to conquer the world, creating hordes of communes and societies or gatherings to establish an order or to implore ourselves into forms of slavery that we call as earning a living. The scale is huge and we have witnessed interesting human dramas and acts on this scale.

The perception of legacy amongst us humans are horrifyingly meaningless and have more often than not caused annihilation. The grand plans to create a legacy of extreme nationalism have given us the world wars, cold wars, inter and intra state tensions or stand-offs. To create a legacy of financial freedom we have had recessions or depressions and famines. To create a legacy of religious following we have hatred and one-upmanship to account for. If the message of all religions is to have peace, why are hostile paths chosen to achieve that peace? All this for the candy bar which was labelled happiness. How far have we come in that cause? How much did we create in this period or in the rituals of creating a legacy? Maybe, if the choice to build a legacy was beyond property, power and control we could have done better.

Shifting from a group to even individuals, what does it mean for me to leave or create a legacy for my kin or next generations. Shower them with assets, spoils of the riches and an enviable will? Or with the religious sermons differentiating humans and sacrificial orders that demean and go on to deplete the already sparse ecological resources. What would guarantee this would bring peace and calm or resourcefulness to my next in line.  Would power, fame, property or religious believes matter 2-3 decades from now. Or will we be all swept away in the wave of technology, internet of things, AI, etc. that will reduce humanity and all their past feats to a spec of grain. Where is my free will towards the critical examination of my innate skills that does not linger in the delusion of legacy creation. I rather not follow the trend of my ancestors and the lineage of our society that have bought us horrors in the past in a bid to create legacy.  

The marvels of curiosity

In our journey, if we encounter pleasures or pain then be it may. If we amass wealth, then even better. But the essence of “figuring it out by yourself” is the biggest gift one can bestow upon the next generation. We invariably hear the rags to riches story. We stumble across heroic fables of individuals who made it on their own without a godfather-like support or without kissing the ring of a will maker. These stories are in fact narratives that didn’t have the pressure of following a legacy. All they had was nothingness around them to fall upon and build their own art or empires upon it. The dampener however remains when even these heroes fall into the traps of creating legacies for their next and eventually falling into the same circle of life like others. Would it not be wonderful to have the achievers leave behind or create a legacy for their next to achieve too, but on their own accord, skill and vision. Would it not be great to leave behind a legacy of education and curiosity instead of the boring answers of a bank balance in response to the question of what after me?

Collaborate on the canvas

Now, we spoke on the legacy of the achievers, the ones who can provide. But what of those who cannot build one of their own. Those who lurk around in desolation that they have nothing to offer and submitting themselves to the doom of their failures. We come across quite a few of these from time to time. Wouldn’t it be great for us to help make them realise or support them in constructing their own legacies? These individuals are sometimes within our own families, communes or societies. We lavishly fail to take note of them. Who would want to be in their shoes one would say? But do we really know what they could have been capable of if the right canvas was presented to them. How about creating a legacy of establishing such societies?

True happiness is formed by picking others and getting them to your speed, it is said. What a wonderful legacy would that be for the future. However, the fears of losing identity, fame and power have to be dealt with at first. This is the falsified perception we have created about fear itself, thinking what would the questions be when we breathe our last. If death brings us the freedom from all materials, what good is it to realise it later and keep scourging in our lives to build ephemeral legacies. As mentioned, they hold no relevance in the great cosmic wave of humanity. For working mindlessly all our lives and for surreal matters in the attempt to establish, “I was here”, why not have someone inscribe for us, “he was here.” If this is echoed within your family, your communities, groups and circles that you are proudly part of or even the nation, what a legacy that would be!

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parenting,thrway0219,2019/02/01,"2 year old had to get stitches, while being watch by his grandmother I was in class and i received a call ,from my mother,  saying i needed to get home ASAP my son had fallen and busted his head open.  I quickly directed her to call 911 and got off of the phone, packed my stuff up and raced to my car.  When I got home the ambulance was here assessing him, I asked my mother what happened and she told me he had fallen behind the couch, and hit his head on the metal track of the sliding glass door, which is directly behind the couch.  He also has a red mark on his nose, the entire length of the bridge of his nose.  The thing is my son is smart.. I am a stay at home mom, so i get to observe him daily, i know that he knows better than to do that, he knows he would fall... he doesn't push his boundaries.  hes never gotten seriously hurt before.  He's fine at home now, with 4 stitches in his forehead, and I just don't know what to think.  

I checked the location she said he fell for blood, and there isnt any on the carpet or door... she said she was heading toward the kitchen when he fell, so i'm going to approximate she was 15-20 feet from him when it happened, so i assumed there would be blood there.  

What i'm saying i guess is, im not so sure if her story is adding up in my mind and i'm worried if i should let her watch him anymore. ",2.139756722151088,3.2734427323943684,3.5713060179257385,92.45058258642769,75.90140845070422,6.290396927016643,21.35979513444302,6.574015621080383,0.18417464788732385,1032,24,238,8,22,340,149,284,0.036000000000000004,0.93,0.034,-0.1728,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,0,1,16,6,0,0,15,0,25,10,9,0,2,30,49,21,0,6,5,5,0,0,0,3,0,4,10,0,9,11,1,0,6,0,1,10,5,2,0,0,13,9,42,4,32,29,0,33,0,1,3,0,44,13,0,5,9,152,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946170648240098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045876917179283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733743445607055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060925748103603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067799132559188,0.0,0.0,0.1046406685860362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416272243493952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185445292716226,0.0,0.06724156894374017,0.0,0.1892558318400661,0.0,0.13033814082247022,0.0,0.2092524590387201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642782896211216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4747213880226403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665946051217444,0.0,0.1278013161849643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600929742128888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12098587344730855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194651823691196,0.13856997979268293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772963157980618,0.09125240254831243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415247978541034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250907500287251,0.18817887105798567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610885014781356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354432302405333,0.0,0.0,0.11151119687076097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860372890288407,0.07581195705852363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130557721776933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015539022302267,0.0,0.16809623238843122,0.0,0.0,0.07619146571408789
parenting,NurseLurker,2019/02/02,"YOU did this! My youngest is 2, and he's giving us a run for our money. Today was ESPECIALLY two. Cranky, argumentative, willful little contrarian. 

Cut to this morning after a sleepover with grandma. He asked to cuddle this huge knitted blanket on the way home, and proceeded to get Super-Pissed at me because it was too big. Then the color was wrong: 

2yo: ""No, I want the DARK blue one""

Me: ""This IS the dark blue one. It's the only one we have with us""

2yo: ""No, this is light. I want the DARK blue one""

Me: (holding this giant knitted blanket up showing him it's a dark blue that fades to lighter blue) ""See, it's all one blanket with different colors""

2yo: ""No, it wasn't like dat, WHO did DAT?!""

Me: ""Your grandma knitted it like that, it's always been this color""

2yo: ""No, grandma DIDN'T make it like DAT. Who put thum together like dat?!!""

Me: (oooomg - explaining again) ""this is the same blanket you had yesterday. 

2yo: ""No it's not. YOU did dis!!"" (Like he was accusing the dog of peeing on the floor.)

Okay, you little turd, I'll fold it up and hide the light blue? Now can I drive us home.....",0.1813888888888897,2.5748373240740747,1.968,93.77700000000002,92.42592592592592,4.546666666666667,19.7,6.2581,0.10703444444444443,826,27,175,9,30,270,111,216,0.11,0.847,0.043,-0.9269,1,0,0,0,0,0,73.0,5,5,0,0,3,8,1,0,13,1,18,2,1,1,1,15,26,4,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,22,7,0,1,1,1,1,3,8,2,0,6,11,12,20,6,15,14,2,23,0,0,10,1,19,11,0,0,13,109,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712063284405333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315882695545973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580381863788984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706052006418602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353942976475165,0.13502640196175608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823803693880048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343832430574409,0.28214985943990184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395601589004776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4769010286776341,0.1070516144347542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149909818234266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216465792530417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342064576313425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749858799621573,0.0,0.5079379949762977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604358895455454,0.11172590944577647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538950695108532,0.0,0.0
parenting,SharkLaser2019,2019/02/02,"Are there any expedition/adventure type of travel for a child + single parent? I have been a single full time dad for almost a decade now.  Now that I am in my mid 30's, I worked hard thsa my kid (pre teen) and I are not living in poverty anymore.    I would like for finally be able to do some fun memorable things my kid and I would cherish.  

I have always been fascinated with those ""national geographic"" type of adventures.  I always imagine there must be ""archeology"" adventure that is ""kid/family"" oriented but I am not sure where to look nor which ones are reputable.  

Even if there isn't any of that, are there any reputable single parents travel companies the people of Reddit can recommend? 

Thanks! ",3.8377272727272738,6.186999742424248,5.0590909090909095,78.38363636363638,74.30303030303031,8.642424242424243,26.15151515151515,9.2995712137729,2.5291242424242424,554,20,99,14,12,183,85,132,0.028,0.81,0.161,0.9332,2,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,4,0,19,0,0,0,2,15,21,5,0,4,4,3,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,0,0,1,2,2,12,7,12,14,5,12,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,3,5,74,18,3,0.1964712388925804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673756553926086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32695961948284386,0.0,0.0,0.4008215391984361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19484667558468374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297674003241645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852155985354452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152246387685343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599963916357558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598592317730813,0.0,0.17348770346210735,0.0,0.16498635812382292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331339961892403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363161199733439,0.0,0.0,0.13620841901209088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517181751465225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18088432002886307,0.0,0.0,0.13052676101436878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456395937811367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430334018749602,0.0,0.0,0.27913506214812045,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway982830101,2019/02/02,"My girlfriend treated me like dirt in front of her 2 year old son and now his behavior towards me has completely changed. My girlfriend and I had a disagreement, which generally leads to her being quite emotionally abusive but since it’s only a couple of days I usually block it out and get over it. This time it lasted about a week, and consisted of her yelling at me, degrading me, calling me names and blatantly ignoring me when I was trying to talk to her and resolve things. A lot of this behaviour was witnessed by her 2 year old. 

Since all of this went down he has been treating me completely differently. He will physically lash out at me, trying to kick me, throw things at me, and will say no to literally everything I say to him no matter what it is I say. He was never like this before he witnessed the way his mother treated me. Am I reading into this too much or is it possible he is attempting to replicate the behavior he has witnessed?",6.2599950592885385,6.5569537445652175,7.094505928853756,73.99160079051387,65.90217391304348,10.821343873517787,35.74901185770751,10.637119530657019,3.898973913043478,755,35,140,19,11,252,103,184,0.126,0.8240000000000001,0.049,-0.9417,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,0,4,4,8,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,1,3,23,17,10,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,2,0,4,0,0,15,10,0,2,1,1,0,4,3,2,0,0,6,4,27,6,24,8,3,27,0,0,0,0,24,10,0,2,14,105,42,2,0.0,0.17932285072442666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878615821340322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545434187452674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010631179985035,0.0,0.3173713851494164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746388814268648,0.0,0.09760705867704828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581266406273792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702463373470284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602198979520888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907318005728449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233689710429556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788215671139465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286708147235524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125833040584622,0.0,0.11672905068133607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176289215489313,0.0,0.0,0.1151071147913585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062233823593292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097742468751927,0.1513891420846177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.361074454427454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503935654343712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216479382291152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20109801821358045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825234385117256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551096587633852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668864359505714,0.0,0.0,0.1201331446671652,0.12140238491849326,0.0,0.0,0.14030128389538274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949265381394502
parenting,kingharis,2019/02/02,"Brainstorm with me: Things I can only teach my daughter while she's young? Longtime lurker & new parent here. My wife and I just had our first child, a (mostly) healthy baby girl. One of the things we've always said we'd do is to have her spend lots of time with her relatives abroad while she's little so she can learn the local languages while her brain does so effortlessly. Got me thinking: what other things can you suggest that we should expose her to that are useful and vastly easier if learned before, say, 12?   


I've heard people suggest financial literacy, so that's on our list. We'll probably also give her age-appropriate coding exposure, and see if she wants to continue.   
And I'll note I'm not thinking along physical lines (like, she can only become an olympic gymnast if we start stretching her ligaments at 4, or whatever), just skills that are useful later in life but more easily learned in childhood.  


Thanks for all ideas in advance. ",5.013248204309658,6.915534223463688,5.2176576217079,80.42733240223465,69.89385474860336,8.019313647246609,27.86951316839585,8.634040054169528,2.176514445331206,762,27,134,13,14,240,124,179,0.006999999999999999,0.905,0.08800000000000001,0.9201,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,1,0,3,7,2,0,0,4,0,13,2,1,2,1,30,26,16,0,5,8,3,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,2,9,9,0,0,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,4,4,24,2,14,19,4,21,0,0,1,0,29,9,0,6,12,88,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164918223377146,0.14738466943418033,0.19191809316992048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562393853086896,0.15072286555004188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977334062888364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500588962342526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066496996408915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991729923896684,0.0,0.0,0.14166542717733313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995593020669752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511073112038162,0.08653578432834268,0.17752876992997646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505878751011145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710713075899223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12002650388349988,0.2694276221486909,0.0,0.0,0.1966796609709466,0.0,0.0,0.12279823937893165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909739217094912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684892716195546,0.1408592797114226,0.0,0.0,0.14114806784326756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537209646754302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630756468058548,0.0,0.0,0.35302787949494346,0.22699291593659,0.0,0.0,0.10328475001727318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059634087675753,0.0,0.0,0.10447467229073504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,goosegoose125,2019/02/02,"2 year old with some pretty extreme tantrums My little dude has had tamtrums before. We handle them pretty well. But since about two weeks ago he will have an EXTREME tantrum from hell. He would do them when we tried to put him down for naps. So then we figured maybe he doesn't need naps anymore. So we cut out naps. All was well for about 4 days and now they're back. We are planning on bringing back naptime, but maybe just half the amount that he used to take ( which was 2 hours)

Hitting, SCREAMING, inconsolable, head banging. We put him in his crib and he literally won't stop for at least a half hour. Husband and I try to calm him but he isn't having any of it. What seems to work like a charm is when grandpa comes and snuggles him (of course lol) He's usually a pretty happy dude but this has come as a shock how angry he can get.

So I guess my question is, is an exorcism necessary or was there another route? But for real, is this ok?? Did this happen with anybody else? What did you do?",2.0029676915059937,4.0332846485148535,2.6345336112558653,95.11028400208444,78.75247524752477,5.440750390828557,22.512767066180306,6.339386263674448,0.2663623762376237,777,24,170,6,19,241,135,202,0.092,0.7609999999999999,0.147,0.9091,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,1,2,2,15,13,4,0,7,2,23,1,1,2,1,34,34,18,0,2,7,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,8,15,0,1,3,3,0,5,3,6,2,3,6,1,18,7,21,24,4,26,1,0,0,0,25,6,1,5,16,107,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003430054598085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208459852178676,0.14199097275914566,0.0,0.0,0.1342920188151688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824647553601047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522538197672605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233290376367631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732934327500659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131190985414388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074702361349576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917125247201735,0.0,0.1197441178793999,0.14414827114375395,0.0,0.0,0.13897146905284802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667064930484172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615531603317568,0.13571809593978468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27207850365203673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040605872607468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420917989947548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41328713662120825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722523161362008,0.15169209286954005,0.0,0.0,0.15412815841509234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232737247094726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201395639848764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132102433748897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181274516309136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838713094016539,0.0,0.1322775534554548,0.0,0.0,0.1169522305639817,0.1491368552014458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086190967195344,0.0,0.2435027586885067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858132933575003,0.0,0.0,0.09619258554318216,0.0,0.0,0.08720069425978677
parenting,skullie66,2019/02/02,"3 year old triplets My triplets are about to turn 3.  Does anyone else have higher order multiples?  I feel like we are struggling SO much.  I never have any me time. We never have date nights. I have constant therapy and doctor appointments for them.  On top of that, I work 3 days a week and we have an older son with autism.  I’m so tired and stressed.  Parents of multiples—-does it get easier?  ",1.457894736842107,4.1350026842105265,2.4345263157894763,91.14468421052635,87.94736842105263,5.67157894736842,20.757894736842104,7.1686216300943375,0.7507199999999994,308,10,61,5,10,97,57,76,0.122,0.7879999999999999,0.09,-0.5369,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,1,2,3,3,0,2,2,0,7,2,0,0,2,10,11,5,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,10,1,7,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,12,36,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461392935129049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502629988150823,0.2201903316154137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322304350461001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385926499547688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995914212082807,0.1880603407420488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952128161531106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865984072041047,0.15352452339029404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227632215360024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498923058152734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797614485554906,0.0,0.3314880845689285,0.0,0.0,0.20166898777994036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255012830854468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23862089465816724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461670963771705,0.22466002338478894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24575675138181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530985325070068,0.24699580895200035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337493687942731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237972811324193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644967838222135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838848252072275
parenting,missye812,2019/02/02,"Barbie, Life in the dream house. Is anyone else amused by this cartoon?  It cracks me up. My 5 year old looks at me like I’m crazy when I’m laughing at some dumb thing Ken said.",-0.7731578947368442,1.3498101052631597,0.4161052631578954,105.61573684210528,92.68421052631578,3.04,12.86315789473684,3.1291,-1.8474378947368424,136,2,34,0,5,42,34,38,0.126,0.642,0.232,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,3,5,4,1,7,0,0,1,0,1,4,1,1,4,15,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24920243859905805,0.36517285045018494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29772559786337344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4112365472789744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25173512448655405,0.17411852880530498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992853639215357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739807543789641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390170242469926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23677563173051205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22950924439241066
parenting,Memorandum747,2019/02/02,"Paid kids learning/educational apps that DON’T require a subscription. Hey all.  Literally my first post here.  Be nice.  🙏

I have an (almost) 3yo and a 5yo.  Sometimes we let them use iPads for long car rides and things like that.  I strive to keep the iPad/tablet time to a minimum, but of course want them to have fun AND learn if possible.

I’m looking for educational apps that are paid, but don’t require subscription.  I’d like to pay once and be done with it.  Any suggestions would be appreciated.  It’s hard to find what I’m looking for without turning up the same subscription apps with every internet/app store search.  Personal experience, links to reviews... anything is fine.  But please leave the suggestions/advice to the parameters I’ve set. ",3.511739130434784,6.377326405797103,4.244376811594203,81.01873913043481,78.42028985507247,8.027826086956521,27.31594202898551,8.841846274778883,2.509616811594201,596,25,110,15,15,190,96,138,0.033,0.805,0.162,0.9578,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,2,3,1,5,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,1,24,22,8,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,7,0,3,3,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,3,3,6,5,15,14,2,8,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,2,5,60,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001215001612165,0.0,0.0,0.19471139433886125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223117907427376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001398005633152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898762103159914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383066685458178,0.0,0.0,0.1902072703284575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772177612457535,0.165397208321034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418704481141664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17283414835501187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058921553261735,0.0,0.19883606053070324,0.0,0.1899947565939236,0.0,0.0,0.17208019342194647,0.32657437586081617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708057214687525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978432797150855,0.0,0.2134453044034739,0.0,0.2192106900759336,0.18622725216853744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19231385665265427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918248513434633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113384082040202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150338078515865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794047637817236,0.0,0.0,0.1146903566320764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18744075048493491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381301456352498,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rainbowmixtureco,2019/02/02,"Yes, I know you didn’t sweat!! My 7 yo will fight me from time to time about showering. Especially on cold days.

“But mom, I didn’t sweat the whole day, and besides, I showered yesterday.”

Ahhhh, their logic at this age.

She ends up showering anyways and when I tell her it’s time to get out, it’s always, “5 more minutes!”",0.9659340659340678,3.175388846153848,2.917582417582416,90.68384615384615,83.61538461538461,6.791208791208793,21.59340659340659,7.957251820313856,1.0457252747252743,245,8,54,5,7,82,52,65,0.044,0.8959999999999999,0.06,0.2444,3,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,3,2,2,0,0,6,5,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,10,0,8,2,2,13,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,9,32,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261075571086975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047017671073973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779004837794486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392797884559804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243568824325511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674748986621593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27424229255962645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5488723867724367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35030467457940817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Clarebear1991,2019/02/02,"Blended Families!! Two moms, sharing our blended family's journey of past present and future in hopes to inspire, help, encourage all blended families! go follow out Instagram page at bringing.up.kaos.nm  ",9.261827956989247,13.200909806451616,7.852903225806456,57.16602150537637,63.838709677419345,11.8752688172043,49.043010752688176,11.20814326018867,7.825313978494625,168,12,17,6,3,51,28,31,0.0,0.607,0.393,0.9449,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,5,3,2,9,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,3,9,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7845546559612979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765895379530434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594261547003765,0.0,0.0,0.2755315240007373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249001827995668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648200036964745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709900477704295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kelseyhart24,2019/02/02,"Fiver Birthday Party (cheap and creative idea sweeping my region) The guest activity is a hand drawn picture for the birthday kid. All children or families bring five dollars to put in box. The host provides a healthy snack. 

The birthday kid receives ~fifteen hand drawn pictures from his or her friends. With the dozens of five dollar bills chooses one big present with the cash on a separate day. ",6.069333333333329,8.710458028571429,4.805714285714289,81.38761904761904,68.71428571428572,6.3809523809523805,38.80952380952381,7.1686216300943375,3.0896666666666657,322,19,50,3,6,94,55,70,0.0,0.774,0.226,0.9501,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,0,1,3,2,0,1,8,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,0,2,0,5,3,0,0,0,4,0,2,3,1,8,2,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,2,29,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992131305931767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373762689496348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584511261826677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5237496632881314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31438848014985776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4664037582753122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EmperorJoker,2019/02/02,"My kid thought I was cheating on her mom (my wife) but the truth is VERY complicated So I'm going to try and keep this as PG as I can my kids (most of them) are old enough to know the birds and the bees but not old enough to understand that Mommy and Daddy like to spice things up. Any way apparently my oldest found out I was ""involved"" with another woman and I'm just going to give it to you straight my wife and I have been having an open marriage with her best friend (my wife's best friend) and my daughter whose fourteen found out about it some how (but completely misread the situation) as well and when she ""confronted"" the three of us the fact that BF is pregnant was overheard/slipped out. 

Any way the three of us (Me, Wife, and BF) were discussing this (BF's pregnancy) when my oldest daughter comes in and she was pissed to see BF now she starts screaming ""Mom what is this bleep doing here? Do you know she and Dad are having an affair?"" It was all down hill from there.

So she drops what she thinks is a bombshell and tells her Mom about what she thinks/thought was an affair the pregnancy and the truth of the situation just got blurted out and now she seems to be even more mortified by the truth. She has stormed off and locked herself in her room. All I can hear is loud music and I mean very loud music.

Here's some perspective on my situation she has her own mini fridge and bathroom she can last in there for days short of taking the door off it's hinges I do not know what to do.",3.7367596759675976,4.871752488448845,3.9958850885088535,90.94479072907292,71.97029702970299,7.225262526252625,24.663816381638163,7.520522993642371,0.8754237623762382,1176,33,259,13,22,365,148,303,0.045,0.851,0.104,0.9627,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,2,1,2,17,13,3,0,16,0,28,1,1,1,6,52,50,27,0,0,7,10,0,1,6,0,0,4,2,3,15,24,0,1,10,0,0,3,2,4,1,2,12,6,39,9,37,37,11,34,0,0,1,0,50,17,1,4,12,184,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262685475776727,0.11767242255553086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355358689272595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966675670031373,0.11766050284188445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237259653671672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319064533583009,0.0,0.07412023141711907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460868083614648,0.17340173996990715,0.0,0.0,0.10765162024311732,0.12755438944072955,0.0,0.08975256101867161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264800614130175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974626499906554,0.0,0.0,0.185019481129892,0.09147425286098908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482500859935213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224044508819586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942920155995713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355119609096331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942478644357238,0.10216084545468347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784198423148112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942987193450092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437545104146912,0.0,0.0980851995511798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745539612286619,0.07190602514790834,0.0,0.1781802412231343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761899929105055,0.0,0.0,0.11682494579543044,0.26997361181618434,0.0,0.0,0.185186454762284,0.0,0.17814997660057946,0.0,0.0,0.10089922956734533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,realme0929,2019/02/02,"The misery olympics. And “you’re so lucky” First of all, I’m not judging anyone parenting. You do you. Your kid is safe, happy, and loved, it’s all good.

I have noticed with some of my new mom friends they love playing the “misery olympics” and it’s almost a competition to see who has it worse and it drives me nuts. In casual conversation I just mentioned to a good friend that DD was up last night around midnight and it took an hour to get her back down, she immediately chimes in that her kid was up twice, and that hers is up every night therefore she is more tired. 

Umm, okay. I didn’t realize it was a competition.

I hear things like this a lot!!

I also hear “you’re so lucky” all the time. Now I don’t go around shouting it out but I am fortunate in that my child is a good sleeper and has been for a while, but we have had regressions and I have sleep trained her. My friend (same one) always comments on how lucky I am. Yes I am, but I also worked for it and strive for routine. I’m not judging her parenting, but when you keep your toddler out till midnight 3 days a week and have no routine, it could be why he sleeps poorly. Seriously, not judging it’s her kid, I just wish she’d stop saying how lucky I am every ten minutes because my kid sleeps.

Also, my dd is 24 and has been potty trained for the last two. She always remarks how lucky I am that she’s trained. It’s not luck. It was dedication, hard work, a lot of paper towel, and cleaner. It seriously took a lot of work to potty train her. Luck had nothing to do with it.

I know I’m not perfect, I make tons of parenting mistakes. And this post isn’t meant to judge my friend or anyone else. It’s just not luck. ",1.812307334758764,3.5842121959654207,3.193927675002328,92.10063772427256,78.3371757925072,6.091252207864647,23.00911034675095,6.968188349444268,0.5580310309565863,1300,41,292,14,31,424,163,347,0.095,0.711,0.194,0.9895,4,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,1,5,1,5,16,27,0,0,14,2,33,6,3,5,4,66,50,29,0,3,14,4,1,1,4,0,1,4,0,5,24,20,0,3,3,2,1,4,10,3,1,5,12,6,42,24,30,35,10,33,0,0,1,2,42,12,0,14,17,197,66,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09603519169909523,0.0,0.0,0.2300860311272677,0.1596015974317424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411827386459266,0.09826619803546532,0.0,0.17075189972161742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737451692317713,0.0,0.058462912075385225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657248825768309,0.0,0.0,0.06185091183068949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011647778251403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616085134718818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815769034038267,0.0,0.0,0.29638443950883364,0.0,0.050106502072532665,0.0,0.054505128131705854,0.2413221629849198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020928553302232,0.08591221020610111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618423273864296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094447290953871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524493713263248,0.0,0.0,0.05270698285420404,0.15635105604129826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04685443020238994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446054821603018,0.17311635202250816,0.0,0.06401745730122725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232299636148206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262582760780884,0.0,0.1800010431466938,0.0,0.0920236138813874,0.1091886915029401,0.0,0.0,0.06498783702367622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194740829606608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918506588806848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762676543677682,0.0,0.0,0.07642401746624625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879233469189597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018103101108742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371514500302884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05592308601830757,0.11022890468596844,0.0,0.0,0.21310838400759466,0.0,0.0,0.09368543251480248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692935641543731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653951452509258,0.0,0.11028623243734127,0.0,0.0,0.2094603559434764,0.0,0.09773557936348083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Unabridged9,2019/02/02,"Tips for my stay at home husband so he can make some dad friends My husband works from home and stays with our 15 month old every day. He’s getting a little lonely and really wants to make some dad friends, but he’s having trouble with it. 

Most people that he runs into at the park/library/other kid places are moms or nannies, and if there are dads he has trouble approaching them. I say he’s being a little socially awkward about it and he shouldn’t feel strange approaching another dad and striking up a convo. He claims “men aren’t like that and dont make friends like women do”. 

Any dads out there that can offer me some tips or advice to pass on to him?  As a dad, would you feel weirded out if another dad approached you to start a conversation?

Thank you!",4.195143540669856,5.422682342105265,4.626722488038278,86.50296650717705,70.97368421052632,7.369377990430622,27.63397129186603,7.686295010490155,1.515334210526316,604,21,121,7,11,191,94,152,0.078,0.804,0.118,0.8056,1,2,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,3,1,1,4,11,0,1,6,0,12,0,0,3,0,28,21,13,0,5,5,10,2,2,3,2,0,1,2,3,5,11,0,0,2,0,0,5,3,5,0,0,0,3,10,6,17,18,4,21,0,1,0,0,34,10,0,8,6,68,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073014904786525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489447821599393,0.3234866468018128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994777198665848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807784530860777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996127264233934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598566301258296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575167371054645,0.0,0.08058863530274799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094482603150768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071635144007994,0.3091956545741736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30888682941725104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806543385683564,0.12311992617374105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185817556450907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693670107752397,0.0,0.16115717318990772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881573556739598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266484246581208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723723378468368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091780995494659,0.32881740973267026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201157755763005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097994285122793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122949686321976,0.0,0.0,0.10957392691908398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Complementcomplement,2019/02/02,"Is it stuttering? Our four and a half year old has been doing this for a while (since about 3) but it’s becoming maybe more apparent since he hasn’t “grown out of it.” Sometimes, occasionally, he’ll start a sentence and then like, get stuck...repeating the same first two to five words of the sentence. He’ll repeat up to seven times until he either finishes the thought or someone says, “it’s ok, take your time.” It’s like he starts a thought and then keeps repeating the beginning until he figures out what he’s going to say next.

Is this stuttering? We asked our pediatrician 6 months ago, and got an ambiguous answer...like not “oh that’s normal, nothing to worry about” but also not “ok, that’s a problem let’s evaluate it.”
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parenting,bmaner1,2019/02/02,8 year old boy has concerning pictures on iPad Hey all. First time posting here. My sister called me concerned today about my 8 year old nephew. When going through his iPad she found about 20 pictures of his face photoshopped onto women’s bodies. They were not sexual at all. They were actually wearing very dressy gowns. She asked him about it and he was very embarrassed and immediately deleted all of the pictures. Is this at all normal or something she should be concerned about? Thanks in advance. ,3.8559090909090905,7.042302388888893,3.5964646464646464,83.85045454545455,80.66666666666666,5.9393939393939394,25.959595959595962,7.348242739294969,1.654444444444445,405,16,67,6,11,122,67,90,0.031,0.937,0.032,0.0276,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,2,6,2,0,1,1,0,7,3,3,0,4,11,11,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,4,0,11,1,12,5,4,16,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,1,8,44,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.21989762529466092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21066084410366714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25029999543001896,0.0,0.0,0.23009554624574166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167259922717794,0.0,0.2470717587959692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806491965622185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207836398822548,0.0,0.0,0.4729091720671235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21581175300610744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347639287736305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074611842512665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139654493714514,0.0,0.2135943116544788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.371855309010318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902208883117625
parenting,hawtgawbage,2019/02/02,"Current struggle: Trying to explain to my nonverbal two year old that I can put his green shoes on his feet, or his blue shoes on his feet, or one of each of them on his feet **BUT I CAN NOT PUT ALL FOUR OF THE GODDAMN SHOES ON YOUR FEET AT THE SAME TIME WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME?!?**",-1.8449999999999989,0.006532564516135153,0.15058064516129122,105.02587096774192,102.38709677419355,3.1251612903225805,14.264516129032259,4.935628992294339,-1.3811019354838705,217,5,55,1,10,70,41,62,0.105,0.895,0.0,-0.7773,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,7,7,0,1,8,5,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,0,2,12,0,11,5,3,11,0,0,2,0,9,5,0,2,4,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372745729842517,0.0,0.21780144596041626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6462285953054914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360163295613053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18742167081078087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21822201492708,0.0,0.3139791013465664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900301388613809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069829302497996
parenting,LRS312,2019/02/02,"How do I sort out what I want? I’m two years into parenting and one of the biggest challenges I’m trying to see my way through is that in the middle of all of this I have completely lost track of my opinion on the things I want out of life and how to get them. It’s like my opinion on anything has been erased (by me) and replaced with what is good for the family or the kids. It’s small stuff like what’s for dinner. But it’s also big stuff like what we do for holidays, where we travel, what our house looks like, what I wear, how we spend our money. Of course all of these things should be considered for the whole family but the other day my husband tried to pin down my opinion on what I wanted to do for vacation and I literally couldn’t form an opinion that was just *me*. And now that I’ve noticed this, I’ve realized I’ve completely lost myself in ALL decisions I make. How do I even find me again in all of this? For context I work full time in a great job so I do have some time that’s non-family related but that’s still be being beholden to a whole other set of people and issues. I have no idea where to find me. Can you relate? How did you solve this problem? ",1.328706128863281,3.120143497991968,3.0859891740876537,92.22001571503408,79.88353413654619,6.579430766544437,20.46464117338921,7.586124646067393,0.54162776322682,917,24,208,14,23,305,128,249,0.05,0.855,0.095,0.7038,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,2,1,4,14,10,0,0,10,0,20,3,1,6,4,45,31,17,0,6,5,2,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,26,13,1,0,5,2,2,1,2,3,0,2,5,2,30,7,35,21,9,28,0,2,2,0,11,18,0,7,11,157,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195124077811088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491086939470763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673352120672705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221851418144213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420390575331209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605499554779416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330414634650923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660665185519321,0.0,0.0,0.10692997668320572,0.0,0.14055477511367553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710278450557082,0.0,0.14391721056229195,0.0,0.13306321831042442,0.12651109271595834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900477791063341,0.2491346704542605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705690115804536,0.0,0.2783340576115452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509850647616789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514469900398744,0.0,0.0,0.08638843376438564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155913331510594,0.0,0.0,0.08838337555234202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198776126272118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159056637760974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181121591167316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918840360077136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693932845272904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867729204874272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311049519740104,0.0,0.12453619249620952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255852586359833,0.10119318000513744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846691781020997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281199331240672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209739417199731
parenting,stnal,2019/02/02,"Dealing with fears My 5yo has troubles with being alone in any room of our house. This wasn't his behavior few months ago... it started when he watched YouTube and saw a scary pacman eating stuff, also he has a character from a TV show that he is afraid of. 

I'm looking for advice on how to build his confidence so he could get over it. We currently have to accompany him when he's going to the bathroom, etc.

Obviously, we tried to logically convince him such things are not real, but with no luck. We did have success with letting him draw a smiling face on a pilates ball that reminded him of Pacman.

Other than that he is a ""normal"" kid, verbal, energized, likes to do all the fun stuff. He has a rich inner world.",4.359787234042553,5.495108134751772,5.30758156028369,82.12350000000002,70.48936170212765,8.193191489361702,28.993617021276588,8.548686976883017,2.0982646808510634,561,21,110,9,10,184,102,141,0.064,0.7240000000000001,0.212,0.9816,1,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,0,0,1,6,10,0,2,9,0,14,2,1,1,2,18,20,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,8,1,0,1,3,1,1,3,3,0,0,3,3,11,7,19,14,3,14,0,0,3,0,19,7,0,1,7,76,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542831340636825,0.1863507590485219,0.0,0.0,0.2177285086433587,0.0,0.16811593707798264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295942704010647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678466383391098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21673155868992172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151114812281056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344551631727699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365602772192769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983328507628044,0.0,0.11947505869683335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425700979722086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21496812996286432,0.0,0.10270475440605152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653508796446113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779867160190012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059747384767235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23928076542088866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879752320975365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813120257980802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396633848969153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272819485093055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shann65,2019/02/02,"Help me be a better father Not sure if this is the right place for this but I'm not real well versed on reddit sub categories. I have a 12 year old daughter that is hitting those life changing years. Her mother and I are together so I'm not in this alone. I just want to try to be a better father to her as she goes through her phases into womanhood. She is a good kid who does well in school so I'm not looking for corrective techniques but more on how to prepare for and deal with things teenage girls will face. I have no sisters so I have no experience in this. Just looking for advice on how to be a supportive, helpful dad without being overbearing or intrusive. Thanks for any help. ",2.3834200332042066,4.486132366906478,3.6058992805755374,88.25425013835087,77.84892086330936,6.579081350304373,25.080796900940786,7.61054688173877,1.3048401770890976,545,20,110,8,13,177,87,139,0.095,0.7290000000000001,0.17600000000000002,0.9253,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,9,8,0,0,6,0,12,2,1,2,2,21,21,12,0,2,11,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,8,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,2,0,0,2,11,8,21,15,1,12,0,0,2,0,19,9,0,2,3,80,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029429814600874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804908142941924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185093470683958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082547107936382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843541965366821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796643708025818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525045568174461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046917052464586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616912548557776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504278457757428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309181702046115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926852526271082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828666964178386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18207470683821236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835702942555927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882534034405995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637020316665522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19775914882903528,0.16424709535082188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044409218426764,0.0,0.0,0.11577702076864138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831766208246795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278876264027202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133787126703991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679897366830746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444789913903232
parenting,CuriousDad33,2019/02/02,"Our 11 year old's best friends parents just let us know our daughter is dating their daughter  

Hey all,

So my step daughter is 11 years old. Her mother and I have been together for nearly two years now, and always had a inkling that our daughter was/going to be gay/bi. Just her expressions, interests, some of the things she said. We of course are open thinking people and had no problem with this and would support her decision to be whatever she wanted. We didn't think we had to worry about any consequences for another couple years though.

Today one of her best friends mothers called us while we were on a walk. And she explained she found out her daughter and our daughter are ""girlfriends"" (as in dating girlfriends). They are just 11 and 12 years old. We were surprised by the call, but not by the fact that they were two girls into each-other. We've expected something like this for awhile, as I said before.

A lot was discussed, the other family isn't as supportive of the choice...they think its a ""phase"". They were not down right against it, but definitely not necessarily accepting it. It was then decided she would talk to another friends mother and get back to us. As it was hinted that they too had a daughter that was interested in girls (there is a lot of detail I am skipping here since we talked for like an hour). This other girl also happened to have a sleep over scheduled with our daughter tonight.

About 15 minutes later we get a text from that mother that something came up and the sleep over is canceled. Immediately my wife got very sad and started crying. Not because she was upset at her daughter and her decision, but worried about how other family's will react to this knowledge, since we feel obligated that we may have to tell the parents of our daughters possible sexual preference.

We live in a small town of 30,000, and although its a liberal state, and our town has a University, you can't live in a town this size and not have the majority of it be conservative thinking. Our daughter is fairly popular, has a lot of friends (her last B-day had 40 girls) and is in a lot of clubs and sports. Were worried how this will negatively impact her mood and her personality if she starts to get shunned or ignored because of the parents, or of kids not understanding.

Does anybody have experience with this sort of thing at a young age for their kids? How did you deal with the parents of friends? Were you honest? How did they take it? Did you keep it to yourselves? Did you talk with your kids?

TLDR: How did you deal with your kids friends parents about your kid being gay/bi?",5.517229946524061,6.719770741414144,5.535213903743318,81.30870320855618,67.84848484848484,8.409387997623291,31.124480095068325,8.671277953709913,2.3889524658348185,2067,82,389,32,34,648,227,495,0.06,0.838,0.102,0.9726,5,0,2,0,0,0,63.0,21,9,7,2,20,23,0,1,26,0,52,2,2,6,2,90,76,38,0,7,15,21,1,2,8,5,0,2,0,10,28,37,0,3,15,2,0,3,11,4,0,3,28,3,59,18,62,38,9,49,0,1,0,0,107,21,0,10,26,288,87,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640464958601293,0.05868851837115156,0.0,0.0,0.04796437819856423,0.14791851900381275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423497996119325,0.0,0.08599166285499517,0.0,0.060017786773519134,0.0,0.14803858094939348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404271518270698,0.08067015368465663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780426411521467,0.07747641240889304,0.04548749428150715,0.14543139496007293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06172328530318201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899411707602053,0.1329831380947233,0.0,0.035663246824505064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733501921834114,0.326958449719968,0.0,0.11055063663716637,0.0,0.040085127782604375,0.0,0.056411118316256836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623714741576695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946010139556835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626923431777777,0.0,0.0,0.038762703898998864,0.057493232978153785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212404875744424,0.0,0.06891703170775162,0.0,0.12456261464836987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398561345158425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22203533148769644,0.0,0.04779450742899482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3915888246870924,0.0,0.0,0.048898211431372525,0.06158607807951464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951456318834219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748987923336078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060234193220833177,0.13418472559932254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166900839979966,0.0,0.14116646204925834,0.0,0.0,0.10859841078136397,0.0,0.0,0.09984624065735828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160078421513666,0.0,0.0,0.05303150681903848,0.1700735572678979,0.06164833330832969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937170433931294,0.18077698268360487,0.06929762019851213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685636706204137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779960390699053,0.07342660493203447,0.254524993809286,0.0,0.0,0.058196528832141624,0.041601774103059326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148869031397106,0.0,0.10020823518711056,0.0,0.0,0.22710242243518156
parenting,solsternation1,2019/02/02,"Hey Parents! I am a parent of three and a children's book author. I just started making child friendly youtube videos. Solster Nation! In which we introduce every week a new children’s picture book written by indie authors. SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND COMMENT ON OUR CHANNEL!

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b3OfOBGD5cE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b3OfOBGD5cE)",11.82857142857143,17.123440666666674,5.767619047619046,65.92500000000001,69.41666666666666,4.40952380952381,38.107142857142854,6.18269132825596,3.223389285714286,304,15,28,2,7,76,42,48,0.0,0.836,0.16399999999999998,0.8257,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,4,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,2,4,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,4,17,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808473877352353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575322110611162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628496425524469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22250233315375206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219350411882041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7402535895422564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359347783608549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26737958694468844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shaitforbrains,2019/02/02,"Tips for a first timer? Me and the missus are expecting our first child! This means that we have to learn all about this parent-thing! Any tips, tricks or awesome wisdom for a father-to-be?",2.035,4.5199751351351365,2.049932432432432,96.84084459459463,81.43243243243244,4.781081081081081,14.655405405405405,5.985473137389443,-0.8440756756756759,148,2,31,1,4,44,31,37,0.039,0.745,0.217,0.8378,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,4,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,20,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28295412665208586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7078485264792806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4532418418290505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462016513327258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eint88,2019/02/02,What are some good indoor activites that I can do with my 9 month old? She is just starting to crawl....backwards. She LOVES books so we read a lot but I would like to add some variety into the mix. DIY projects are welcome. ,-0.10838095238095136,2.201490733333337,0.8149206349206359,100.67000000000002,97.22222222222223,3.4603174603174613,19.761904761904766,5.288315135182226,-0.4021428571428571,173,6,38,1,7,53,40,45,0.0,0.7509999999999999,0.249,0.8983,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,8,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,4,7,3,4,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,3,4,26,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362036302968364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582904447758007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34077786339889765,0.36177165802224337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199448137959931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206117194163071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009461546678535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837149746310059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847435889098117,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChanceBus,2019/02/02,"Pretend play I am as creative as a pile of bricks but me and my 3 year old son played pretend driving the other day and he loved it!

Pretending to sit in the car, hands on the wheel seeing different sites etc

Anybody know any other pretend games that are like this?",3.8572641509433967,5.263716566037736,4.271839622641512,88.03530660377363,72.01886792452831,6.809433962264151,28.34433962264151,7.1686216300943375,1.4370037735849062,210,8,42,2,4,66,46,53,0.07,0.655,0.275,0.9305,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,5,5,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,4,6,5,1,9,0,0,1,1,4,3,0,0,4,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26233200670250617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24878516313370544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.403040134775804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4302276156970141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21200520638342854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846427185014472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481660868390108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404793281011526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074030938253554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24841866585984346
parenting,rosebl0ssom,2019/02/02,"When children guilt trip you... I was planning on having a relaxing day, going for a massage and doing some retail therapy. So I said to my boyfriend it would be good for him and his daughter to just spend the day together. She came in our room this morning and he asked what she wanted to do. He said it was just gonna be the two of them and she looks at me and says ‘are you not coming?’ I said no, I thought you might like a day just with your daddy....then she looks at me all sad and says ‘oh, I wanted you to come.’ How am I supposed to say no to that??? 😩 

We compromised and I said I’d meet them later and we’d go see Mary Poppins again...for the third time...lol

Her dad isn’t too impressed about having to see it again, but we voted 2 against one so bad luck babe 🤷🏻‍♀️😂 ",-0.02811764705882069,1.7161844235294126,1.984117647058824,98.64852941176471,84.17647058823529,4.941176470588236,18.823529411764707,5.900188976854957,-0.43088235294117627,592,15,147,4,17,197,112,170,0.06,0.841,0.099,0.5071,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,5,2,1,10,8,0,1,6,0,14,0,0,1,1,26,30,13,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,3,0,7,1,2,6,12,0,0,1,1,2,4,4,3,0,3,8,11,28,5,17,16,2,15,0,1,4,0,33,5,0,3,7,96,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452569097392298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908057723868682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768157826384318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317012004232914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299103442882456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572008772287265,0.12966716191889302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552743079031356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596421502666509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400113095519456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475774311662678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5882219430921969,0.3688210460730786,0.0,0.0,0.2463847992587564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767931427674239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273136093352732,0.09014573415115468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101709677735906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236856907287025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982003084242924,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,manu_mathur14,2019/02/02,"Parenting Teenager – Your Ultimate Guide to Parenthood A checklist for parents to apply while they are busy in **parenting teenager** kids especially when the kids are undergoing hormonal changes.

Link - [https://whereispillmythoughts.com/parenting-teenager-ultimate-guide/](https://whereispillmythoughts.com/parenting-teenager-ultimate-guide/)",27.706451612903226,36.89785577419355,13.47316129032258,9.509741935483873,39.6451612903226,12.802580645161292,48.13548387096776,10.355215969177356,8.695510967741933,303,13,18,8,5,70,26,31,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,6,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30267297904570395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9530944694811732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ej_olthaus,2019/02/02,"Pullups and poop My son wears a pull-up at night and at nap time. He's 3.5 years old. He almost always waits to poop until he has a pull-up on. He pees on the potty with no issue. I stopped putting him in a pull-up for nap time, so he either doesn't poop or poops his pants. We've been trying this for a week now. Two poopy pants and no poop on the toilet. He now waits until bedtime and poops after we lay him down, even though we have him sit on the potty before bed. Or he poops in his pull-up in the morning. I don't know how to stop him from saving his poop for his pull-up and I don't think he's ready to not have one on over night. Any suggestions? Or something other than pullups we could try? Appreciate the help and advice! ",0.6364150943396254,2.338733522012582,2.050918238993713,99.23826415094341,81.70440251572326,4.7431446540880495,16.260377358490565,5.2151,-0.9838120754716986,566,9,139,2,15,182,87,159,0.075,0.889,0.036000000000000004,-0.5943,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,9,0,8,10,10,1,0,25,12,14,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,10,0,4,2,2,0,1,6,0,0,2,1,0,15,1,24,10,1,28,0,0,0,0,22,12,0,4,14,79,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045373212378432,0.0,0.0,0.2095957916858316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416440044626155,0.0,0.0,0.14233937750653708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810914535984773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711864696443698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824864067725662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402974608123491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21846740826310934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503243345743767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39285037573327664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963779548772416,0.0,0.14183526798807386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21041643133390636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611386488200244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499885068301146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411871554015373,0.20564803490011488,0.0,0.24410308929768004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28421829645433155,0.0,0.20446746708118008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789750794996328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479010321296314
parenting,evdczar,2019/02/02,"My first experience with a screaming kid in the grocery store Tears, foamy mouth, red faced and sweating, pea soup, the works. 

Fortunately she's only eight weeks and pretty cute and nobody actually got mad because she's so tiny, but I know it won't last! ",6.489374999999999,7.216860854166669,6.383333333333333,77.795,65.45833333333334,8.9,30.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,2.3122833333333332,203,7,38,3,3,64,43,48,0.118,0.7959999999999999,0.086,-0.1386,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,3,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,1,2,4,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,18,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.3587973420731249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241310048948754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35965628012471657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127438009337543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29406294088734225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20206432784013653,0.2997038469596302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796330781050455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37405721850790064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949263618116542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267671465530798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sychotics,2019/02/02,"Six year old won't listen to me Hey guys, i'm 26, I take care of my kindergarten sister on the weekends, but she doesn't listen to me anymore, ever since she started going to school. Should I be disciplining her? She does whatever she wants in our home, which is fine, but she doesn't listen to me when she does bad things. ",4.875,4.945456348484849,5.326818181818184,86.26022727272729,68.84848484848484,7.8121212121212125,25.59090909090909,7.1686216300943375,0.9738000000000002,253,6,54,2,4,81,46,66,0.07200000000000001,0.863,0.065,-0.3506,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,6,15,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,3,14,2,7,12,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,6,35,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651352824045721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22322264900681404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725769499628079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4679123755047669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24182966107328302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519388288474949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647144606730995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26816972320115656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805345364991462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705683110530088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211512808057648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18922879518532626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101083578432188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761272825954807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768753113317874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216198626267
parenting,take7pieces,2019/02/02,"Took my son to the library for the first time and it was a disaster! 
First of all, why put toys in the library? I thought the library was a place to read! 

Today was the first time my husband and I took our son to the library, our son has a delay in speech so the therapist recommends spending some time in the library. 

However, the minute we entered the kid's section, he was so excited to see the toys, a wooden kitchen, and other stuff. He showed no interest in books but kept playing with the toys. 

This was definitely not the kind of library experience I was expecting. 

He refused to leave and started to go crazy, screaming and running away from us. Then he pooped. So I had to carry this struggling screaming smelly toddler all the way out of the library (husband is injured so he can't do much). It took me almost ten minutes to put him in the car seat. When I finally sat down, my hair was so messed up I looked a crazy woman. 



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parenting,BusyIzzyB,2019/02/02,"My fiance disagrees with every decision I make as a parent. Does anyone else deal with this? Am I in the wrong? 

My fiance (26m) and I (23f) are at odds right now because he has spent the last year criticising every decision I make regarding our daughter. I am a stay at home mom and I spend all of my time with my daughter as my fiance works. He is a hard worker, working 12+ hour shifts sometimes and I don't deny that. However, he isn't around to take care of her so he doesn't know anything about why I make the choices I make. 

He disagrees with the fact that I breastfeed her, he has wanted me to wean her since 8 months saying that she's too old to be nursing. She's 20 months old, not even 2. He doesn't like the fact that she still sleeps on me to nap. She's been a super light sleeper since birth and if I try to lay her down she wakes right up and is wide awake and won't go back to sleep. My mother has even commented on how light of a sleeper she is. He doesn't like her sleeping arrangements either because she cosleeps. 
He also constantly says things like ""You hold her too much"" or ""You coddle her, you're going to spoil her"". He and his family believe in the cry it out method but I am firmly against that and believe that physical touch is the healthiest thing for a baby/toddler to have besides consistency. Everything is an issue:
- how much I feed her, it went from too little to too much but she's beeb spot on every time I take her to the pediatrician.
-If she gets a diaper rash from spiking fevers, I'm obviously not changing her enough.
- He'll make comments like ""what are you going to just have an 8 year old hanging off you tit because that seems like what you want.""

The biggest problem that we're having right now is with her naps. Mine and my daughter's bedroom is super bright, we have a huge sliding glass door that lets a ton of light shine in and when it's not night time she treats it like a play room and won't sleep. I'll try for over an hour to put her down but she won't go. Plus I have a genetic back issue that is really painful when I slouch which happens when I breastfeed her so I have been putting her to sleep in the living room. We have dark curtains out there and a comfortable couch for me to be able to lean on a little. His problem is that he feels like it's unfair for him to have to be in my room while the baby sleeps. He feels like he shouldn't have to be quiet as he goes around the house or stay in the room just because she's asleep in the living room. He has a tv, video games, a bed, and a door to exit the house all back there. 
Am I asking too much by asking him to hang back there while she naps? Also have you dealt with the nitpicking situation before and do you have any tips on dealing with it? 
I'm at my wits end with it, I'm really starting to feel like nothing I ever do is good enough for him and his family since all they do is say that I'm doing everything wrong. ",3.4936223102617885,4.175888388254489,4.404589839198324,89.4795609026645,72.1321370309951,7.40416375359279,24.383166317097807,7.447530270364453,0.8558458323623079,2294,60,513,24,42,743,253,613,0.092,0.8590000000000001,0.049,-0.9622,2,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,3,7,1,5,32,22,0,0,35,0,52,13,10,7,7,70,83,37,0,7,13,6,5,9,0,5,2,4,12,0,25,30,1,1,7,7,2,10,12,5,0,0,4,14,78,17,71,69,11,81,0,0,2,1,77,38,1,5,40,328,103,3,0.06277914145099091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040891347375668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0426919689751645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04389663539027711,0.0643246493122421,0.05166188428464647,0.11177349168457797,0.11738004539104613,0.0,0.0,0.19309313860270075,0.0,0.15307832773439986,0.0,0.05342042547253989,0.14146118852342976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400751871973376,0.0,0.06641200743805559,0.0,0.0,0.06784194920992669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895993900253505,0.0,0.12944507642624212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05493844974493076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05244391703882054,0.0,0.05560368548918141,0.12973527008239907,0.0,0.0829300616883904,0.05678732761609912,0.15868240294388525,0.0,0.11284368862748327,0.0,0.1183651747189728,0.0,0.09522906065929024,0.1345482935893605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03279951029463408,0.0,0.14271533132992242,0.05265616531289935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055515387453812716,0.0,0.056237779660027055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297259757366107,0.0,0.12364961686838465,0.1448774006911329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105022628365673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03450177432507785,0.051173379302949434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419592555060437,0.0,0.2760364567442937,0.12584238481224064,0.11087026413682896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095278220327952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352617171618822,0.10021942351646963,0.0,0.18459956970829708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058913971476081926,0.0,0.06023827938503381,0.0,0.1976284450935893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680143276243407,0.0,0.0697088071708304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014231972069996,0.0,0.12622075374692998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043585113059051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083913133923514,0.0,0.1497734791561812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057151772557325335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579466365002098,0.07056638533382956,0.3769468787768677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209017615352034,0.0,0.04443539944147912,0.13382842351238913,0.050135503457884326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440420282118392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834153440376173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982106670966467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524583222829657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405752835852568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058196893082372636,0.05664841048871363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140792534457484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727827188385608,0.0,0.08085541759886879
parenting,leelooh,2019/02/02,"Anyone with an Imagine Ink Marker Fix?? Hi! So my kids love the imagine ink marker/coloring book and so do I since they make no mess, but the marker never lasts. Any ideas on how to bring it back to life or make a dupe? I can’t even buy replacement markers without buying another book from what I can tell. ",2.9262903225806447,4.479002274193551,4.091161290322585,87.81674193548392,74.64516129032259,6.895483870967742,23.690322580645162,7.554174236665415,1.0145703225806453,239,7,49,3,5,78,51,62,0.12,0.836,0.044,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,4,0,3,2,0,3,1,12,7,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,2,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,6,7,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,3,30,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042479919458843,0.3149426888540614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21001138731409824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309502628062962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19837804367439327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390580808218651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24482496859755634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21214576802021815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27107719334136804,0.0,0.40097131085135773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316480872449693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24845224968746504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26251874324128793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895262461047353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cloudiedayz,2019/02/02,"At what age did your baby start going to sleep themselves? Ie you put them in their crib, said goodnight and walked out of the room rather than patting, rocking, etc. them until they fell asleep?",4.718333333333334,6.88628527777778,3.184444444444445,93.605,71.22222222222223,4.800000000000002,23.11111111111111,3.1291,-0.0616555555555558,154,4,29,0,3,43,35,36,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,7,2,1,11,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,19,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4995284650426027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254552690902887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4502646241950766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260568054643462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44822487500555375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31702692047919023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HambergerPattie,2019/02/02,"My daughters' dad passed away. How do I tell them? This is a question I am posting for my sister:

Yesterday I received a call that my daughters' (6 and 7) dad passed away from an OD. They usually see him every weekend, but when we tried to drop them off yesterday we couldn't find him. Turns out he was already gone.  How do I tell them that their dad is gone? When my dad passed away a year ago they took it so hard, they loved their grandpa. I don't know how to go about telling them today. My sister will be there with me and probably doing most of the talking. We already know that we won't go into details of the drug use but we just need advice how to go about it all. ",2.4279220779220765,3.7139277142857128,3.3650649350649364,93.60538961038964,75.42857142857143,6.233766233766234,24.15584415584416,6.574015621080383,0.5319999999999996,520,16,118,4,11,166,84,140,0.036000000000000004,0.919,0.045,0.4864,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,9,0,11,1,0,0,6,0,12,2,0,5,1,26,25,11,1,2,3,9,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,4,1,0,10,3,0,0,0,4,2,27,1,16,17,2,27,0,0,1,1,34,6,0,2,9,82,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004805659322307,0.13611351218461534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388942340138108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4327980703689898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679252641080646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807016930994232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293731646624495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034264187593187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617993606367022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755134898190546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687749989197012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858558460082174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385596646673155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705921316197038,0.0,0.1655537242517076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201202853844835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223601007572768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341831002876523,0.4026304801114551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455481963806272,0.0,0.1706005795292464,0.10425090827707248,0.16701916823222548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261858308401234,0.1691145036485732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888167554314814
parenting,sweesnaw,2019/02/02,"How to get smoke smell out of doll? I’m not sure if this is the right subreddit for this post. My grandma (daughters great grandma) gave my daughter (2) an old baby doll that was my great grandmothers (daughters great great grandmother.) Everyone in my family basically smokes except for my husband and I and my siblings so this thing has been through years of smoke. My daughter was given this while we were visiting for holidays and is now attached to it. My great grandma passed away when I was 16 and lived beside us for a good majority of my life, so I feel it would be very disrespectful to get rid of it since she had collected them (they’re not worth anything.) Is there any way to get the smoke smell out of this doll? Should I get a similar one and give it to my daughter in hopes she won’t notice and store the other one? ",4.934673731176797,5.866203214723928,5.246759620747351,83.83871723368658,69.0,8.872058003346348,29.54210819854993,9.095868883498916,2.2686736196319024,656,24,133,12,11,208,97,163,0.021,0.8140000000000001,0.166,0.9812,0,0,4,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,1,0,6,8,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,1,1,19,24,12,0,4,4,6,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,12,9,0,0,1,1,2,2,3,0,0,2,8,3,19,8,21,12,1,15,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,2,5,90,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228881181947543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167941023659196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275058886809991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967862907938305,0.0,0.0,0.12793719284736407,0.0,0.0686200634444329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836156688030356,0.1301873138701115,0.0,0.11382878439090854,0.0,0.7481147797743803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347926347276028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585739706221147,0.0,0.0,0.11983617983574063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450900823962374,0.14240691178574305,0.0,0.18392392303549385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997457900142032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589730404181067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226236644523263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279069512211483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016102060346352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324482278476604,0.0,0.0,0.11197661055255724,0.0,0.10772186645809212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640590900250444,0.0,0.0,0.08739407666706653
parenting,comicblops,2019/02/02,You guys suck and will always suck. fuck parents I hate this concept of family society has pushed us to cling on to. It’s really fucking stupid and makes us weak. I hate how when we get out of high school we are on our own. I hate how we dont have a godamn choice to be alive. I hate being told what to and when. I hate not being able to call my parents names when they deserve it but their conceited asses call me worse. I hate that i have to all the sudden plan for my life when up until my junior year i wasn’t able to plan squat. Fuck this shit.,1.4738983050847452,2.9190580847457634,2.9120000000000026,95.20206779661018,78.32203389830508,6.07593220338983,17.73220338983051,6.742157984588678,-0.2755993220338975,426,7,101,4,10,139,77,118,0.312,0.674,0.013,-0.9901,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,6,1,2,2,7,14,13,0,2,0,10,7,2,3,1,14,24,11,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,14,0,0,2,0,21,0,15,18,2,13,0,0,0,4,16,5,7,0,7,67,27,2,0.23440932357972585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752366767886292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393581279084484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736299072294647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049012418770714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325061463641908,0.061234598341182576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605104206264127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6942920313684706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238331601634523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827851187758206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823502185384769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26028381336212075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508430753947352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861737498959912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030890105104725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119940770356511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819655542076506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944156343825613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547595948689075
parenting,leadlovelearn,2019/02/02,"A FREE Mini Course with Lead Love Learn Join me as I walk you through the basics of what it takes to refocus and repurpose your craft, adapting to better meet the social and emotional needs of your kids.   


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parenting,SuppBrd425,2019/02/02,"Wife will not let allow me to parent My Wife (27) will not allow me (31) to make any decisions when it comes to our son. From introducing him to new foods, sleep training, temperature of the house, what to wear, caring for him when he is sick. 

She recently left the country for work but before she left she wouldn’t allow our son to be sleep trained. Four days later when she returned I sleep trained him. He ate really well and was generally  the happiest I’ve seen him. 

She returned and he started to get diarrhea and she thought that it was a good time to introduce him to eggs. He had a really bad reaction and we had to rush him to the ER. She still isn’t allowing me to care for him after making mistakes and seeing me do really well with him. 

I have so much anger and frustration with her at this point. All I want to do is have an active role in caring for my son in good times and bad. When I bring it up to her she denies it and says she listens to me all the time. 

Please provide me when any guidance. 

Thank you


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parenting,saltinthewind,2019/02/02,"The late night vomit game It’s 2.44am where I live. My 3 year old daughter woke up crying about an hour ago, having vomited in her bed. After the obligatory rinsing of sheets, ready for an early morning wash, and showering of child, we are now back in my bed, bucket on the floor, a half dozen ‘I need to vomit’ false alarms and finally, now, her eyes are closed. I wonder how long it will be before mine finally close, and how long after that hers will open again, either ready to start a new day with her usual pep and joy, or to add another set of rinsed-off-vomit sheets to be popped into the early morning wash. ",7.229207650273224,5.829728368852461,7.138360655737706,80.09994535519128,64.49180327868854,10.100546448087432,28.53005464480875,8.841846274778883,1.939569398907103,479,10,97,6,6,153,86,122,0.042,0.8859999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.5574,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,8,0,7,6,1,2,0,17,11,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,3,1,3,11,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,10,1,17,6,1,33,0,0,1,0,8,10,0,2,22,60,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866830559305393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22083111734443991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193741398499126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920399694368153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23133280180629,0.13581875014750688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4614012012497299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739731448563345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375645259497932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859625255674402,0.3727464749983677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615628026044615,0.0,0.20339755332158044,0.0,0.19763262967208936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22098792710378268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906285592568658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319447337489273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22838532518066096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561866907739234
parenting,Independent_Engineer,2019/02/02,"My teenager has been watching videoes on YouTube and fully believes in conspiracy theories. Phase or something more? We stopped monitoring our teenagers online activities for the most part. 

We recently discovered that our oldest was watching YouTube conspiracy theory videoes by Shane Dawson and now he fully believes in conspiracy theories. 

How do I get him to use his brain? ",8.683278688524588,11.751610114754099,7.93193442622951,59.92413114754101,62.60655737704918,11.437377049180329,46.626229508196715,11.20814326018867,6.6577908196721305,311,21,40,10,5,97,49,61,0.195,0.805,0.0,-0.9264,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,2,0,9,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,8,0,6,4,3,7,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,2,4,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6862416367019896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399758046232975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911353398452086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297953370432604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007039814527977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344555958719319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546154026922224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630313158341521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aarunascut,2019/02/02,"Intimate Parenting Women with kids, how do you find the time to have sex with your partner if your babies never leave you alone? I'm stuck my wife is always with the kids, a quickie is what I get ... #ThankYou",2.305243902439024,4.545214097560977,3.373353658536587,89.13368902439026,78.75609756097559,6.051219512195122,22.445121951219512,7.1686216300943375,0.8122146341463412,162,5,32,2,4,52,33,41,0.049,0.88,0.071,-0.0289,1,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,1,7,7,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,4,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,0,0,1,2,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4172156600205828,0.0,0.0,0.33519106170064505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36818397030456096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21046470584331967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4265441909010465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106912520429754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4473006902879794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23489637795222876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anon-on,2019/02/02,"My 13 year old son spent 1600 hrs this year on his phone and computer. This is with parental controls. Not quite sure yet how I feel about this. Mostly minecraft/discord combo.  While school is in 3.5hrs weekdays, 7.5hrs on weekends.  

Threatening to block access is how we get him to do chores and help around the house.  Am I doing it wrong, or is this the new norm?",2.813714285714287,5.2638592285714285,2.1328571428571443,97.58214285714287,78.14285714285714,5.142857142857143,21.42857142857143,6.18269132825596,0.029285714285714807,286,8,60,2,7,82,57,70,0.152,0.813,0.035,-0.8351,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,3,1,14,10,6,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,6,1,8,9,1,11,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,7,37,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420648813708993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049794250103213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749003109851451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206605607167705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226106279207416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137571376099554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626203281875057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853324486637982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019330233671526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28921851663691217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751957733511295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25627972080428896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972999062438044,0.0,0.3502128594943983
parenting,ZigZagZugZen,2019/02/02,"Irrational Fear of Choking I have a 6, 4, and 1 year olds.  I have an extreme fear of them choking especially during the ages of 1-2 and I don’t know how to stop it.  It seems like there is some sort of choking, gagging, coughing episode during every meal and it gives me a mini heart attack every time.  My 1 year old just stuffs her mouth full of food and can barely chew - it’s hard to watch.  My wife doesn’t have an issue with it somehow.  Honestly one of my first thoughts when she told me she was pregnant with our youngest was, “now I have to deal with 2 years of worrying about choking.”  Anybody else experience this?  How can I get over it?",2.0054325699745554,3.9310901984732856,3.169790076335879,91.78053753180666,78.31297709923662,5.893384223918575,24.65712468193384,6.816661863887847,0.7750758269720097,500,18,108,5,12,161,86,131,0.215,0.746,0.039,-0.9702,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,1,8,5,1,2,5,0,11,6,2,2,0,17,17,7,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,7,3,1,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,4,2,15,2,15,13,2,13,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,4,12,69,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966115861218392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781733539914796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443717884562699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912223648052969,0.0,0.0,0.1690544637695364,0.0,0.3889487831683529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700350997838466,0.20897876150577147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029310221471316,0.16578796916183786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481583540599592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479658093001665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803827461263552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497923010859316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844327917632806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626982076475208,0.0,0.11710961987722962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573319477917585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448811490143726,0.0,0.0,0.19784146450856788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720248831572254,0.10077472410075207,0.0,0.0,0.16514018086441182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17551056873130627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33387784239551666
parenting,hoi_ming,2019/02/02,"Baby wakes up early sometimes, what should we do? Our baby, 13 months, is sleep trained so she sleeps through the night pretty well most nights.

She usually wakes up around 6:00, but sometimes she'll wake up around 5:00 and stands up and cries a bit. In this situation we sometimes let her do that a while hoping she'll fall back asleep. It hasn't worked.

Question is, is it ok to let her stand and cry for a bit if she wakes up early, before picking her up for the day?",3.7234346504559284,5.014879063829792,3.581185410334349,93.30500000000002,72.19148936170212,6.222492401215807,23.003039513677805,6.18269132825596,0.2407890577507601,368,9,80,2,7,111,62,94,0.077,0.818,0.105,0.2047,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,5,1,11,7,7,1,0,14,12,7,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,11,3,13,7,3,21,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,4,9,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723427608782761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762072939018454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301620441592688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339965700421373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360499863589606,0.0986498429491631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519288710154416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128343820720085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209529327010585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28709479151600936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556205111654224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135593349289227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193919521856618,0.3061511637608479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.453859222134367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684694604564298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753400633429494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136042356423792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beadmaze,2019/02/02,"Correcting potty humour (age 4 ASD) My son, age 4, on the autism spectrum... is finding potty humour funny. Farts, poop,  private part words.... he is saying these words constantly and loudly. 

I've tried explaining context. I've given him boundaries (fart and poop jokes are ok at home but not mealtime, private part words are not jokes anywhere).  

I need ideas for consequences.... should o just shut the words down entirely? Non reaction is also not helpful as he has a 3 year old sister who laughs hysterically when he shouts these words.

He's also occasionally mooned us as part of the butt Jokes.... We've explained that is not ok... sometimes he gets hyper and persists.",3.7916346153846163,6.718255458333335,4.13666666666667,81.84576923076925,77.75,6.35897435897436,25.89743589743589,7.61054688173877,1.7220512820512823,525,20,88,8,13,164,83,120,0.025,0.845,0.131,0.8736,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,4,2,8,3,3,0,1,21,13,9,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,4,3,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,4,8,7,11,3,10,0,0,0,1,14,4,1,0,6,42,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285209251516513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219673448051164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877343438685354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073144314954726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376770980917763,0.0,0.2060356525968068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23187464320355886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230349717262576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553557804207413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6672933134920814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334446890989182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314851946002568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945494827150956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247074153916264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322726024719211
parenting,abjectcyborg,2019/02/02,"Birthday party loot? Hi everyone, it’s my sons 4th birthday, and today he is having a space-themed party. 

For the present for guests to take home, I bought kids a freeze-dried ice cream sandwiches (space food).  I have two problems that I need advice for. 

First, the packaging for the space food looks cool, but it seems kind of like it’s not enough on its own. Should I attach balloon or something? Or buy more stuff? Honestly, not sure what’s “enough”. 

Second, I invited one of my sons friends, and the mom mentioned she was going to bring her other son to just hang out at the facility during the party. I (of course) invited the brother, but now another issue has come up because the kid has a dairy allergy. I can pick up a dairy free cake, but I’m not sure what to do for the food, since the location does not have dairy free food. What should I do? 

Thanks for your advice


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parenting,Kickedtothekurb,2019/02/02,"Miracle cure for an attitude adjustment? I am at my wits end with my 7 year old daughter. I know kids go through phases and their attitudes come and go, but this ""phase"" is hitting hard and seems to be sticking around for a while. My daughter is driving me insane. The last year or so she has started to develop a bad attitude. Anytime she is in trouble, she just throws herself on the floor, thrashes her body around and either cries or tries to act like a thug. She talks back to me pretty nasty. Lots of eye rolls and ignoring me. She has even gotten into my face acting tough saying, ""Who are you to tell me what to do?"". About a month ago at our last parent/teacher conference I found out this attitude has made it to school. She is talking back to her teacher, not showing any respect for the peers, and apparently just lays back in her school chair like she is relaxing on the couch at home, arms and legs spread all over the place.

This was never an issue before. She has always been very polite and respectful. Never had issues in school. I have tried talking to her to see if maybe something happened at school or if my husband or I did anything to set this off and there doesn't seem to be anything. I was worried that some of the shows and games she was being exposed to may have created this attitude so I have taken them away, which has only amplified the attitude more. 

I am sure there are other moms who have dealt with similar situations, if not worse ones. Got any advice on how to tame the attitude beast?

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parenting,Dobokdude,2019/02/02,"Why do parents not like to raise by example? In my family it's very common for the adults to tell the kids not to do something(cussing, etc) but then do it themselves. And it has always pissed me off. Like if you aren't gonna follow your own rules, why should your kids since you aren't setting the example. This also applies to things like corporal punishment, hitting a child to get them to obey them yet telling them not to go beat up kids on the playground what gives?",6.861935483870969,6.317558634408603,6.255397849462367,83.34309677419357,64.80645161290322,10.020645161290323,31.50322580645161,9.3871,2.4494361290322577,375,12,77,6,5,115,66,93,0.145,0.8220000000000001,0.032,-0.9087,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,3,1,2,5,2,0,5,0,7,1,1,1,0,8,13,5,0,2,5,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,9,3,13,10,2,10,0,0,0,0,16,4,1,1,6,51,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969869706595816,0.20496312859461815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747188229244354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322144159599597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869527113738607,0.23629853354537445,0.13999285428333832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610276121543392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27351609090887696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037635755340068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4305999067010058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364817982809554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032449098024248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4445421582126263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DumplingAnarchy,2019/02/02,"Fostering independence and raising a confident woman: a how to discussion My husband has a daughter (6) from a previous relationship, I’ve always had a good relationship with her and have tried to raise her like she’s my own daughter. She’s a beautiful, smart little girl, and she’s been an only child up until a year ago. I will also note that she’s a very emotional girl - every time we pick her up she cries because she’ll miss her mom - every time we drop her off she cries because she’ll miss us (and our dog,of course). Her immediate response to anything negative or that she’s perceived as negative ends in tears.

However

Something that I’ve noticed lately is how much she depends on my husband or I for instruction. On the weekends if we’re having a nap, she’ll sit on the couch doing absolutely nothing and will wait for us to wake up. She constantly depends on validation and attention, and only like doing things that give her positive validation - and not for her own enjoyment. 

I guess I’m just looking for advice on how to make this little girl more confident and independent. I’ve tried talking to her about making her own happiness and doing things that make her feel good .. has anyone else experiences this and been able to make a positive impact? 

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parenting,behrytov,2019/02/02,Is 1.5 weeks old too early to sleep w/o held? My newborn will only sleep if being held. We’ve tried to swaddle him and put in bassinet but no luck. I’ve been told this is normal. Is it? Should he be able to sleep without being held? any tips?,-0.5171428571428578,1.6976504509803974,0.9024089635854368,101.56941176470586,93.50980392156865,2.9142857142857146,15.128851540616246,3.1291,-1.396632492997199,187,4,43,0,7,59,41,51,0.051,0.858,0.091,0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,3,3,0,0,10,13,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,0,2,1,5,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,23,4,0,0.2420221565672021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458336575907906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23713032726645425,0.0,0.0,0.2539615408084368,0.0,0.0,0.1840687560054171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432991143182285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7265908262226899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23126254223162626,0.0,0.16431715755753287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19413557544677054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333007223499852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greekangeI,2019/02/02,How would you feel about your child calling their stepmom mommy? I’ve been in my stepdaughters life for about 18 months and recently her dad and I got married. She asked me if you could call me mommy now that we’re married. I said to her she could but I’m not sure how her mom will feel about this when she finds out and I don’t really want to upset her. My husband is fine with it and just says she has two mommy’s now. Just wondering how you would feel about it? ,2.2854081632653056,3.7433513673469383,3.034438775510204,95.12573979591835,76.14285714285714,6.53265306122449,20.413265306122447,7.1686216300943375,0.18554693877550976,366,8,85,4,8,115,65,98,0.068,0.889,0.042,-0.5437,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,4,1,0,12,3,0,1,0,0,9,1,0,3,1,25,18,10,0,6,5,3,3,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,4,6,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,5,20,2,10,10,0,7,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,2,5,59,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847772288529567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335769208484631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33901859576004806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220453195293005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940441037631984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980073549819716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995821200867468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486505621306476,0.16946085599267693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600884645728764,0.0,0.2096268495860382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019519004361108,0.16883448399026735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009616676901726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739239704120654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522375112520298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23023711625924534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016325955878826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kellyelizabeth102,2019/02/02,"Financial advice needed I am due with my first at the end of summer. My boyfriend and I live in a very small studio apartment with our dog and are looking to move beforehand. He is a kitchen manager and has an incredibly inconsistent schedule. He only makes about $2000/month with no benefits. I bartend and make about $3000/month give or take. We currently only have one vehicle (mine). With his inconsistent schedule, it would be near impossible for me to go back to work without needing a babysitter (which are ridiculously expensive). With solely either of our incomes, we would barely be able to make ends meet. Average 2 bedroom apartment here (no utilities included) is $1000. Any advice on how to make this work? He is opposed to moving into my moms for a bit to make it work. Should I go without him?",4.886964679911703,6.8469905827814594,5.728096026490062,76.40728752759381,70.32450331125828,9.006843267108167,32.450883002207505,9.516144504307137,3.324165121412804,642,30,111,15,12,210,101,151,0.035,0.947,0.018000000000000002,-0.3313,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,4,5,2,1,0,6,0,13,1,0,6,0,28,25,6,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,4,12,1,1,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,2,0,1,15,1,25,20,2,21,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,1,9,76,19,4,0.14013086111011352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738685113263267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529379084685816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775198243183312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298660675741468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482286998007976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919523887437898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442629083923988,0.1592791953716781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373811767661848,0.0,0.11767463047328493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4676921896248513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411957090497772,0.2237022328233892,0.2978738572302958,0.0,0.20781051584291066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495629810340324,0.21315166882536524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536096805396424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562263610683612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27016229905741873,0.0,0.3060508075159905,0.0,0.0,0.1990898863636084,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alpha_28,2019/02/02,"Emergency SOS... kids escaping nappies. 2nd time this week I’ve scrubbed shit out of the carpet and off the walls.. Nearly 2 yo twin boys.... Tbh they spend a lot of time outside naked because they love their paddle pool and are frequently in it. The nappies get overly bloated so I just take them off and leave them nude. Once they’re inside they take any clothes they’re wearing off and their nappies. 

Not ready for toilet training because they pee randomly all over the place outside. 

Second time this week I’ve had to wash everything in their room, scrub the carpets of poo that has been mushed into it, wipe down the walls and the door... today they even finger painted their nappy bin with runny green shit. Poo on the beanbags... considering just binning it because idk how to clean a goddamn bean bag.. poo on their elephant pillows... poo everywhere. 

I can’t deal with this anymore. Thought putting on pants would stop it but no they can take them off. I do have button up onesies but it’s quite hot here and I like putting them to bed with no shirt on only pants. What else can I do to stop them from taking off their nappies??? ",3.2070238095238075,5.658704861111115,3.007539682539683,91.82000000000002,76.7777777777778,5.410582010582012,25.563492063492063,6.42735559955562,0.8343547619047622,894,33,173,7,21,267,134,216,0.104,0.855,0.04,-0.8763,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,17,1,6,4,2,0,10,0,11,9,7,1,1,24,18,10,0,1,5,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,7,2,10,11,0,2,1,1,1,2,4,2,0,1,3,3,22,2,30,14,2,33,0,0,1,2,21,22,2,2,10,103,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410951303439717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182861094785002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799749672910258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783371199482682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789081402415906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011174764897052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759146923917626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998555996626748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621049753823207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479424189725975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301554731898136,0.13817376770577175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630406510478583,0.0,0.11643526953156945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995117291353333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307804524431092,0.0,0.1628348505299897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142986181072888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25598772210483783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604320587711217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153993591450785,0.2678119105425303,0.0,0.14511568959078866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456063543141002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087539436472744,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angelsandairwaves93,2019/02/02,"How to effectively deal with a couple's unbearable 3 year old? This kid is a tornado. Never sits still and rips through your house, breaking shit and ruining your furniture with juice stains or just make a huge mess. 

The parents are enablers. They don't know discipline. The dad is always giving in to the kid, she's learned all she has to do is whine and fuss to get her way. The mom's excuse when she breaks your household items or makes a mess? ""What can you do? She's just a kid."" 

The kid is really annoying because she constantly has to be the centre of attention (loud, physically slamming doors, jumping) and when no one pays attention to her, she'll commit actions like turning off the t.v. or physically trying to grab items out of someone's hands. She has no idea of ""consequences"" because she's constantly having her wrong actions, be enabled. 

How do you deal with a kid like this without ""upsetting"" parents who are failing her, in terms of discipline? ",5.412422439439013,6.892961325966851,5.681988950276246,79.12407139821507,68.33701657458563,9.326136846578837,32.70760730981725,9.661875296680813,3.1954798980025494,764,34,139,17,13,243,105,181,0.14400000000000002,0.772,0.083,-0.9145,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,5,1,4,7,11,2,1,13,0,18,2,2,5,3,29,24,11,0,0,6,4,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,5,4,8,0,2,6,0,1,3,5,9,0,1,0,3,18,2,20,21,4,21,0,3,0,0,32,5,1,3,11,93,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013667036969266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20533122400267803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639985013207427,0.0,0.0,0.18635051934271551,0.0,0.0,0.34726164542164145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799107875245248,0.16156120338006685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943309314552421,0.0,0.1901226117167841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255773377305347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645603539385679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483968722342426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19724828534723213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989379058436196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672560677224122,0.0,0.11412390905324285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740149219551932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789242351142994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728779198978456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269941662455768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344982590724307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434427937397465,0.1831896407309724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368179938546046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234825000059072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413785943488764,0.0,0.10845520792224174
parenting,throwaway99issues,2019/02/02,Advice on teenager who keeps running away First time poster just need some advice I have a 14 female she doesn’t want to live at home or go to school she rather live in a tent and answer to nobody it’s frustrating because she is so young but the town we live in it’s common for youths to survive on their own but as homeless,2.2454901960784315,4.07033688235294,2.885882352941177,94.55813725490198,77.23529411764707,5.121568627450982,20.15686274509804,5.46131890053228,-0.2440372549019609,260,6,56,1,6,81,54,68,0.031,0.951,0.018000000000000002,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,1,0,1,2,3,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,7,6,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,6,0,12,7,2,14,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,5,37,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712955476603822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22656719479533546,0.0,0.0,0.14700204365640834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20512100902638666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370503955530573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24189186476461616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21434409482888306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.638816309926691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880874730624105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440554158223583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406157791398413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422357844898151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,missbinz,2019/02/03,"Stay the F in Bed My 5yo, who was beyond overtired at 7pm is still awake. She’s been up to go pee, to get water, for cough syrup (she has a bad cold), for snuggles. And now it’s 11pm and I want to go to bed, and she is still awake, whimpering and rolling around in her bed. 
There isn’t any real point to this, I just needed to vent. ",0.5199999999999996,1.431716933333334,2.3436666666666675,100.5235,79.66666666666666,5.533333333333334,17.833333333333332,5.46131890053228,-0.8000666666666669,250,4,68,1,6,83,53,75,0.051,0.93,0.019,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,2,0,6,3,1,0,0,9,11,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,7,0,14,9,0,13,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,3,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21198336369928267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775009130346551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602769542070854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628631962135682,0.0,0.3543204578403731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23113978239808725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946804305171992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3548107499635457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33225686300896484,0.4978872101186982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838631989289128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway369752,2019/02/03,"Serious question regarding health I have a sister that moved back in with my grandparents and I after her failed relationship, and she brought her 3 kids to live.

Not only does her living area look filthy and trashy, but she also leaves used baby diapers all over her floor and general living area, and on top of that she will not enforce her two oldest of 7 and 8 to keep their hands clean before getting into food in the kitchen.

My grandparents are too old and can't tell her what to do because she would flip out on them, and they wouldn't kick her out because they would feel sorry for her kids.

I really don't know what to do, I know that baby diapers in them self are germ infested and can cause you to get sick and that would only make it worst for my grandparents who feel defenseless in this matter",13.576603773584907,7.121004144654091,11.877408805031447,66.54667924528302,57.867924528301884,15.738867924528305,43.12075471698113,11.979248473330829,4.73818641509434,645,18,128,12,5,203,98,159,0.11,0.848,0.042,-0.9011,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,5,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,13,5,1,3,1,33,24,12,0,4,3,1,3,0,0,5,2,0,2,3,9,14,2,1,5,0,0,2,5,3,0,1,1,4,25,0,21,18,2,20,0,1,1,0,26,14,0,1,4,89,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978628845506487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479390981525736,0.0,0.19786558097502396,0.0,0.13810006522146975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672043235753975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202439283905335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412123729449346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19624629995491924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695836179084582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725107138597959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425418108816102,0.0,0.0,0.1783848497050596,0.0,0.0,0.17184569450966564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4299251804804941,0.0,0.1362859122533271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833236775066728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724926188668359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703000360855837,0.0,0.0,0.2468634872049073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180619199939888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396956022925176,0.0,0.0,0.1742427980372417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693078221403249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18167461523413375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185192937556967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585374545620908,0.0,0.0,0.1401697298946212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.345866564539187,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,searcher7nine,2019/02/03,"What is the most challenging age / phase, and why? I hoped you veteran parents would share some thoughts on which age or phase was the toughest for you and for the kiddo to get through (so far).  I'm just starting the journey - my daughter is almost 3wks old.",4.01561224489796,5.903296632653063,3.636479591836736,90.80941326530613,72.46938775510203,6.53265306122449,30.617346938775512,7.1686216300943375,1.6758530612244895,201,9,40,2,4,60,39,49,0.025,0.843,0.131,0.659,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,9,4,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,5,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,5,4,26,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772308522473287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682075024308104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741681495425814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953044672850629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183031881472232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26664448880060554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29907375007786324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399313755696737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676112136937905,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mmmwutchusay,2019/02/03,"Obese 4 Year Old I can’t even type this. My worst fear ever. My daughter is following in my footsteps. 

My daughter is a bit taller than girls age, she’ll be four this month, and she weighs 63lbs. She. Won’t. Stop. Eating. I try and limit her foods. She isn’t a picky eater st ALL. But she just eats. It breaking my FUCKING heart to tell her that she had enough and she’s full. She doesn’t understand it yet. Bullying. I was bullied since I was three and had gastric sleeve almost two years ago that failed. But my daughter is heavier than I was at her age. I have an appointment with her doctor Tuesday. Only to just tell me again how she’s gained. Which is so bizarre cause she started gaining when she turned three. Before that she was always underweight!

I’m so worried. I cry at night and imagine people laughing at my poor baby and her not understanding why. My son, her older brother is not overweight. He used to be and lost weight in 6 months time to a normal healthy weight. He’s five. So I don’t know what to do. What. Cut her food? She’s SUPER active and runs around all day. Oh, and she can read. She loves to read. She’s so smart. I can’t stop crying. Please advise.  I’m sorry if this doesn’t make sense I’m on my phone and I have a new baby. ",-0.3969775269775262,1.8558406100386118,0.9868725868725896,99.81559449559452,96.56756756756758,3.583051183051184,16.293535293535292,5.369823440869387,-0.816782674982675,974,25,218,6,39,307,148,259,0.161,0.7290000000000001,0.109,-0.9254,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,0,6,13,10,2,1,5,0,25,13,1,4,3,35,39,19,0,2,7,5,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,11,12,9,3,4,2,1,2,9,6,0,5,7,2,43,4,16,28,6,33,0,2,0,2,36,9,1,2,21,136,54,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624866739978236,0.0,0.1200224868078246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973313055009762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670082117377548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199204085809087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085608803330295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312924777855365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26332118675967586,0.07729979102359401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268179968575585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245293427722808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384743148275028,0.0,0.07916640653146939,0.10842024164371747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487583491799368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898704010190367,0.0,0.0,0.1108086483408264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203468958703738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587192717977924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084136038168453,0.0,0.10817833915479108,0.0,0.08000748776012917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134223375514609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157615450693874,0.0,0.1124805003470007,0.11743736163410133,0.0,0.0,0.12577291843215502,0.0,0.0,0.0911589391105493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309583952196922,0.0,0.0,0.13157029828143482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23978489271153225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914943931345407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417346870997018,0.08483753237252996,0.0,0.0,0.2004166715659647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095258645022405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989133603143935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813770793353156,0.13037327279326325,0.11708581395166995,0.24955699611379875,0.0,0.1035205652912118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919144047127822,0.0,0.0,0.10815501647550024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217236588413266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543718340390399
parenting,drtoniwarner,2019/02/03,"TOP 6 PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING Just posted my first blog for my February series on essential parenting. If you or someone you know may be interested, check it out or share the link! Thanks! [https://www.authenticallymepsychotherapy.com/blog/top-6-principles-of-parenting](https://www.authenticallymepsychotherapy.com/blog/top-6-principles-of-parenting)

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parenting,lostinthefishbowl,2019/02/03,"Out of control 17 yr old 17 yr old refuses to school, work, is verbally abusive and has already struck a parent.  The police escorted him from the house as he said he was going to stay with a friend, police said they would just take to detention and call us to get him. A week later things have fallen thru and now the teen calls up yelling and cursing that things fell thru and threatens to kill himself.  These threats always come up around the parents but when the police come the teen says hes fine or denies.  Now I am afraid for our safety in letting the teen back in for the whole abuse process to start again.  I am not sure the recourse as with talking with school or officers the 17 age is an in between adult stage they say.  Talking with this teen is not working, he refuses rules and structure ODD psychiatrist says, in the past.  He will be 18 in 7mos but I fear this will all just happen and his life threats continue.  ",4.065274725274726,5.636496626373629,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,71.74725274725273,6.958241758241758,27.285714285714285,7.447530270364453,1.3249186813186815,734,26,149,8,14,224,113,182,0.18600000000000005,0.775,0.039,-0.982,2,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,2,0,2,3,8,8,3,2,15,0,14,1,0,1,2,29,23,14,1,1,8,2,0,0,1,3,1,6,0,1,6,15,0,3,0,0,0,5,2,5,0,0,3,6,12,3,28,15,2,29,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,2,13,96,18,4,0.0,0.301669150958326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048327154020265,0.0,0.1059272331256708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332766450660625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788901688714886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25998349753387745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21932246904136815,0.0,0.0,0.14278240512728266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325253734215426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835485397350244,0.0,0.06651115291523345,0.0,0.0723498700145652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257462050258216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689187223788988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084315663250407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017709662359528,0.08991867086847997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671685362361429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827123387897732,0.0,0.12152619552183815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242190757322823,0.3037120580557262,0.0,0.25767714919527474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010651746179273,0.13568926274629978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998263463362,0.0,0.09571686152136996,0.20464447276606496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915041270205847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313119217539573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021156931052765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213051330192594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18535784362767985,0.0,0.0,0.09043320043154147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,prof402q,2019/02/03,"Valentine’s Day for second time dad We just had our second baby last week. With a newborn and a 21 month old at home, things are hectic and we are stretched. I’d like to do (or give) something special to my husband for Valentine’s Day. We typically don’t go too crazy for this holiday (no spending tons of money). I am exhausted myself so I don’t know what I can do that will be thoughtful but something I can do with limited energy and time. Help! ",2.4764010989011003,4.342155472527478,4.017678571428572,86.51794642857145,76.69230769230771,6.747802197802199,26.759615384615394,7.6454224807358475,1.5341527472527474,352,14,71,5,8,117,65,91,0.064,0.784,0.152,0.7871,0,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,13,1,0,0,0,14,17,6,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,8,0,1,2,1,2,1,3,1,0,2,2,0,10,2,9,13,1,11,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,9,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612047646762889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686395128659593,0.15915296474816995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770464862723715,0.0,0.28090256339937464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390244682863016,0.22826965978642394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368132088466512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235249461899179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29385446456815273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43117634890749373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18604587447420096,0.0,0.0,0.2223201708270724,0.3265866990046841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22463088464080472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mamarenbird,2019/02/03,"2.5ish year old routines Hi all

I don’t know many people with toddlers around the same age as mine and I’m curious what other kids’ routines look like. 

Ours is currently-
Wake her up at 6am to get ready for daycare
Nap for approx 2 hours at daycare from 12:30
Pick her up at 5
Play together and dinner at 6ish
Bath
Mexican stand-off from 7:00 until after 8 when she finally falls asleep 

Weekends are basically identical except she either doesn’t nap for me, or only naps in the car, and of course we fill our days with something fun - zoo/park/museum and Sundays are her days with dad.

I would love to know what your kids get up to!",5.124980314960631,5.577046094488188,5.560305118110239,83.47305610236222,68.37007874015748,8.869685039370083,27.686023622047248,8.841846274778883,1.9037881889763784,502,15,102,8,8,161,96,127,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.9476,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,4,2,1,1,18,13,8,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,9,1,0,2,6,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,13,4,25,12,3,25,0,0,1,1,14,9,0,1,14,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433288388868245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525608929538056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994285018561361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856157264397585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691829453292108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30043891658132005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353917720902425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295351420840146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24669828563334395,0.0,0.0,0.2771219071950765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868223305953839,0.0,0.0,0.20788592406237644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18949820558809508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104290051760864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417152690501024,0.0,0.0,0.1760207593546678
parenting,Dog3419,2019/02/03,"Dad Issues My dad used to hit me when I was little from the ages of 6-11.  He would do it for minor behavior issues.  I have never forgave him for that and it has affected our relationship now, I’m currently 17. Whenever he has a few drinks he gets drunk mad and always verbally or physically abuses me and says that everything is my fault.  If I try and stand up to him I usually get smacked or cursed out.  I don’t know what to do in those situations.  My mom tries to take my side, but he usually gets mad at her and I just go to my room and cry because then he starts treating her poorly and cursing her out.  I don’t know what to do anymore?  Please do you have any advice?",1.0761398176291763,3.071111978723408,3.401686930091188,88.61250000000004,81.69503546099291,7.149138804457954,22.128166160081054,8.192908349453996,1.1920634245187438,523,17,116,11,14,180,91,141,0.13699999999999998,0.8420000000000001,0.021,-0.9278,1,0,1,0,2,0,12.0,1,1,0,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,13,2,0,2,1,20,24,13,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,7,9,2,0,2,2,1,1,3,3,0,0,1,1,21,1,15,21,1,19,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,3,9,75,28,0,0.0,0.2080736381032713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160777427142462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612475091108326,0.0,0.0,0.11942340702053522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741617021741031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705254335823053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192903514672792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203466852070415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783036107444556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752528891512829,0.0,0.09980537036953446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665903655722892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930255051272696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760111644254413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20567676174955046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544418990378168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19277121812609915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885435010962898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965514351231956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973972707277173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430035252548052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320397232617914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384604871451679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167393958173564,0.3868275834698031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475100592378838,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IKnowEnough0627,2019/02/03,"19month old son throwing heavy tantrums. Help? My son is just over a year old. He is my first and only child. I'm no stranger to tantrums, as I have two significantly younger siblings that I helped take care of. However, the tantrums that my son throws are incredible, and not in a good way. He will throw himself on the floor and go dead weight. He will thrash about and bang his head on the floor. It gets worse if I try to pick him up to hold him. If I ignore the tantrum, he becomes destructive to his surroundings-- banging on the walls, trying to hit the tv, throwing anything he can get his hands on. 
My son doesn't talk yet, other than Mama and such. He tries, and he understands most of what I'm saying, but he can't communicate as effectively. I know this can spark a tantrum. What I'm having trouble with is keeping these tantrums under control. Sometimes I am able to restrain him in my arms and rock him until he calms down (takes a while and his screams get louder), but other times he will break free and pull my hair and skin and dig his nails into my cheeks and neck and slap me anywhere he can, as hard as he can. 
Parents of Reddit, I seek your advice. I've tried timeouts. I've tried getting on his level and talking to him. I've tried gentle scolding and being loud. He laughs when I scold him. I've tried giving him a slap on the wrist when he hits or messes with things he's not supposed to (after warnings), and it does not phase him. I'm about out of options and don't know what to do. Please help. ",3.2462745098039214,4.72549704248366,3.611911764705884,91.87610294117648,73.67320261437908,6.1457516339869285,25.495098039215684,6.42735559955562,0.6800352941176464,1189,39,256,8,24,369,167,306,0.125,0.768,0.107,-0.1808,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,1,0,3,7,16,7,0,12,0,19,9,8,3,0,42,38,30,1,2,9,5,5,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,12,21,1,5,4,2,1,6,7,11,0,2,0,8,32,6,38,32,1,38,0,0,0,0,44,19,0,5,11,148,44,0,0.12432292034539195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148691890210853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102307170444931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730489796570067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267555029804257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943872655984518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879582539162838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574901253539712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598143785646367,0.11926187362254892,0.07065558065510992,0.10427616712471063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136891711928457,0.0,0.12759118343776016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499930986784835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050392389612357,0.0,0.0,0.1366492513931517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26091198307253644,0.0,0.0,0.09455318312801947,0.0,0.0,0.13804589041786974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364692330669412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988665762152982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295854715043453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695072784279096,0.19985210821020494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259462404776542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724936946318397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5908497150059,0.0,0.121445428350584,0.12942454456282598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986817474145576,0.0,0.15139182419094396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669567703618187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005988461537733
parenting,ThwompKnight,2019/02/03,"Dose anybody else have kids who don't know what soap is for? How do you get them to use it? Is it just boys? My 9yo boy is reluctant at the best of times to clean himself properly. I have to remind him to use the soap most nights. Not the shampoo for some reason. He uses that by the lake full. Just tonight he asked if he had to wash everything (while he was in the shower). I told him yes of course. The phrase I used was ""From your head to your toes and your butt crack and beyond."" He replied with, ""Your supposed to wash your butt crack?!"" Is it just that age?",0.7552564102564112,2.774311982905985,1.5253205128205138,101.49259615384615,83.01709401709401,4.925641025641027,17.442307692307693,5.985473137389443,-0.6855692307692305,430,9,105,3,12,132,76,117,0.016,0.895,0.08900000000000001,0.8706,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,6,1,1,5,1,0,0,6,1,11,7,4,6,0,17,19,5,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,3,7,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,14,1,17,15,4,9,0,0,0,2,21,4,2,3,5,68,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782452676255486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332946647569384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570673071147006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997927851281674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614482993794872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281483632095994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221726384189102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20861754143866348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285658617767873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962743449541514,0.0,0.0,0.2124213007634798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7679982131220707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Areinz524,2019/02/03,"Please help. Over sensetive daughter gets upset over everything. Is this normal for her age? My daughter is  8 years old and has so many amzing qualities about her. She is the oldest of our three children and was an only child until our second child was born in 2016. 

She has always felt with her whole heart. When she is having a good time she is beaming with joy. When she is mad or sad everyone knows she is feeling those emotions too. This is not something new that has sprouted up but we always thought things would get milder as she got older but if anything she has become more intense. 

Now she is getting to the point where she is doing a dramatic run out of the room everytime she hears something from us that she doesnt want to. It will be something as  simple as saying her shirt has a big stain on it and maybe she should find something else to wear. (That one was from today) she also broke down in absolute tears when her dad took her out in the yard to look at the stars before bed and he yelled watch out when she was about to step on dog poop that he had just pointed out to her to look out for a minute before hand. She cried and ran back inside. 

I am sorry this got so long. I can give more examples or go into more detail of my concerns I just dont want to get too  long winded. Is this normal for an 8 year old to react to everything like this? Any reccomendations? We have really tried to be more careful to not hurt her feelings but at a certain point I think she needs to see that we have emotions too and our tone cant always be perfect in the heat of the moment. I want her to have the tools to deal with her emotions ina productive way when we are not around too. 

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parenting,One__One,2019/02/03,To The Wiggled Fans on Australia Day Someone had took our pram and left their creepy pram behind after the show. How did they do that? It's so disgusting to do things like that. ,3.3779047619047624,5.350543171428576,3.120000000000001,93.47333333333334,74.42857142857143,5.80952380952381,23.095238095238088,6.42735559955562,0.401380952380952,141,4,29,1,3,42,30,35,0.112,0.823,0.064,-0.4341,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,2,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,5,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136150942973361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5283526001542352,0.0,0.0,0.2375754230817889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120296713843927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230676899799326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5402831095606637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hsvakr,2019/02/03,"Moms - At what age do you casually stop being naked around your sons? My son is two right now so he sees me changing, takes showers with me sometimes, sleeps with me and although I always have pants on and 80 percent of the time a shirt sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and just take it off because it’s too hot. 

Just wanted to hear from other moms out there with sons on when and how you just stoped the casual nudity.",5.567727272727275,5.235706681818186,5.621727272727274,86.10509090909092,67.4090909090909,8.403636363636364,26.69090909090909,7.554174236665415,1.1938563636363644,340,8,73,3,5,107,68,88,0.025,0.934,0.04,0.0772,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,10,2,0,0,5,0,4,3,3,1,0,15,9,8,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,9,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,9,2,15,8,1,16,0,0,1,0,10,10,0,0,6,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947595217350232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19201474346820455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314859873636662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281772606229893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431045280249135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052399737184197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20241563449759925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842027960792024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188140375029798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158512933571448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42665677044994094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033111345420608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243523757526325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257737926577951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070318187224432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722280654683732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dmharper80,2019/02/03,"Pete the dog got in trouble.. Some preface: my 3yr old daughter  loves Mickey Mouse playhouse. She also has a 13 yr old brother that has nerf guns that he likes to share with her. Last. She also has a speech delay, so things are not always clear as other kids her age. 

Anyways, to the main story:

Mickey Mouse playhouse were having their Wizard of Oz type episode. Pete plays the witch, and Minne plays the Dorothy type character.


The scene:  Pete the Witch talks to Minne and tricks her into giving up her shoes. 


My girl started hollering, Daddy!  Pete took shoes! Pete took shoes!! 

She then proceeds to grab the nerf gun left on the floor by her brother, and points it at the screen.


She talks to Pete. Give back! Give back shoes! Now!

Pete gave back the shoes in the next scene, and she put down the nerf gun. She told Pete, thanks! 

We have never seen her use a nerf gun like this before! We about died laughing. While we don't condone threating someone, this was pretty amazing because of how much speech and passion she had. 
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parenting,MonroeFan,2019/02/03,"I am inadvertently physically abusing my kid and I need advice So here's what's happening. She's four and a half. Lately during bedtime routine, she goes bonkers. She stops listening to instructions. She runs away, she runs at me. She jumps on my legs. She falls to the ground giggling. She finds small objects and puts them in her mouth and starts laughing maniacally. 

I am trying to have her get undressed for her bath. But all this craziness is going on. I don't want to rip her clothes off her. I don't want to grab her. I leave the room and she runs after me, and all those maniacal behaviors continue. I grab her to try to calm her down. She falls to the floor, and rather than have her arm bend off, I try to let go, but she won't let go. Now there are marks on her forearms and her chest. 

Two days ago when this happened, she put a small toy in her mouth and laughed as I tried to coax her to take it out. I didn't want to leave the room with her having that in her mouth. All the maniacal behavior above occurred with that toy in her mouth! Eventually, I squeezed her cheeks to get the toy out. Now, she has a bruise on her cheek.

I am not trying to make excuses. Clearly I am doing this all wrong. I do not want to bruise her. I am trying to avoid using physical strength to stop her behavior, but when she gets in these moments, everything I try seems to backfire. 

HELP!",1.5592904986355733,3.8284364820143884,2.7076134954105697,92.72442446043169,81.6618705035971,6.136641032001985,22.176134954105677,7.372421405659032,0.6866627139667569,1074,35,237,16,29,343,139,278,0.098,0.823,0.079,0.6999,0,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,1,1,8,10,3,1,9,0,19,10,10,2,5,36,38,16,0,6,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,9,13,0,3,2,4,0,11,6,5,0,3,1,4,55,5,40,34,4,47,0,0,0,0,39,23,0,1,13,161,64,1,0.0,0.1461270008315132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120517570617036,0.10932544005626972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587348123189545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953825564808366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084189959958664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127222480376192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330598305741628,0.0,0.21027545207442336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181222920743476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266613172850518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912267619447904,0.2611793231844441,0.0,0.25222849132741354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232436247186901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144833189025747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24796332492084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122758589831246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729427659564098,0.0,0.0,0.2062203823330668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927295207925007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5861353049018948,0.0,0.12047641112004255,0.0,0.0,0.10651833695712512,0.0,0.0,0.29097514350164577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484302590981775,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittykat7210,2019/02/03,"A Second Child Hello, 

This is going to come off as really weird, but I don’t think I want a second child... but my husband does... I love our daughter so much, but she’s amazing at the moment, she’s always slept through the night and sleeps late in the morning, she’s really smart, funny, adorable and sociable. I don’t want to ruin it with a second child! I’m happy with where our lives are and our financial situation. But I know my partner wants to try for a second within a few months, and when we originally talked about it I really wanted a second hold too, but I don’t think I could handle a bad child who doesn’t sleep well, I think I’d implode! 

How do I bring this up in conversation without hurting my partners feelings? ",5.0640136054421765,5.2671500952380965,6.111972789115652,80.33421768707484,68.45578231292518,8.710204081632652,27.897959183673468,8.515128840125781,1.8730081632653064,572,17,114,8,9,191,88,147,0.071,0.667,0.261,0.9854,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,0,7,10,0,0,10,0,8,4,3,2,0,27,23,13,0,5,6,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,5,8,0,1,5,0,0,3,5,4,1,5,1,1,20,6,16,21,2,16,0,2,0,1,20,7,0,0,6,81,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455347930353303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603819028440934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066498575519655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396472392520778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15306035663143938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843711495234334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940242039750832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861893967223526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18723919056211805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961230960671788,0.0,0.1973002165894588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444413018016362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785839783591227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960733125931998,0.0,0.1285751422944425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641362930073503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361454532434514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966003073536697,0.3500621996953901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405818414727188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33621577299873945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187488684408214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4126534969379909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726040756752488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860197192607132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cavitykid,2019/02/03,"Good reward ideas for toddlers? I'm trying to implement a reward system to encourage good behavior, but I'm having a hard time thinking of ideas for a toddler. Most of what I've seen online is geared towards older kids. (My boy is 20 months)
So far my list consists of:
•getting to watch an episode of his favorite cartoon
•picking out a small toy
•going to the park/playground/ymca

If anyone has any suggestions it would be greatly appreciated! I'm really struggling with thinking of things that are simple enough for a toddler. ",6.092142857142857,7.705169642857148,6.365918367346943,74.3576530612245,66.85714285714286,8.048979591836735,34.40816326530612,8.418075326091056,3.061820408163265,427,20,67,6,7,137,73,98,0.055,0.752,0.192,0.9215,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,1,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,13,3,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,6,15,10,2,8,0,0,2,0,5,4,0,2,3,41,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995679416167133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644703966593154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430438135115222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289207180522616,0.0,0.1336802179968274,0.39458060138655976,0.0,0.2593294668735173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107097695686385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5310666031639021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187749336505784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068713380260684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459016754021985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626886433736728,0.3014373134222659,0.0,0.0,0.13715792598300444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596980692880945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709262843741826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gleamandglowcloud,2019/02/03,Sleep training help How do you sleep train without doing cry it out 😭 DD is 14 months and we have been co sleeping but are trying to transition her to her own bed. Leaving her alone to cry seems cruel but I don’t know what else to do. ,0.06946666666666701,2.2865740800000047,1.5839999999999996,98.54866666666668,88.2,4.133333333333334,18.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.5444666666666662,184,5,42,1,6,59,40,50,0.136,0.741,0.123,-0.4102,0,1,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,8,3,3,1,0,9,10,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,6,9,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22965422596974064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4871386875806423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523407421329044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862665078843912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186168743061153,0.0,0.0,0.2347890680767747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769895650578623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018624137374844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6656959477887316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505458945949961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21374801315888015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gatsby86,2019/02/03,"How involved are you with your children’s schooling? Hello,

I work in education and have read and seen conflicting reports on how engaged parents are with school. 

For example, 2016 accounted for the highest involvement with parents (defined as people attending a school event or more). But the number one thing we hear from teachers is the difficult of managing workload and engaging meaningfully with parents. 

Can you share how your household managed this? Is education and achievement solely in the hands of school or do you see it as your responsibility?",9.414193548387093,11.12057638709678,8.472204301075273,61.92830645161294,59.322580645161295,11.361290322580645,44.532258064516135,11.20814326018867,5.7988580645161285,456,27,62,12,6,142,66,93,0.053,0.8540000000000001,0.093,0.4479,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,6,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,0,7,1,1,3,0,17,10,12,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,9,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,8,3,14,9,1,5,0,0,2,0,16,3,0,2,1,49,11,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983079352110655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192279715383222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5861134731501879,0.0,0.0,0.12198126676953093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599716865136025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7122813694079673,0.14020901443435058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689306557800355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809337100898502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stupidreddithandle91,2019/02/03,"14 yo stepdaughter is banned by school from certain activities as a result of another girl's disciplinary 14 yo stepdaughter in 8th grade has a friend who has had a number of disciplinary actions at the school (California public charter school). The friend smokes weed, bangs older guys, and doesn't respect teachers. The friend's grandmother / guardian has a very permissive attitude about these things, and so the girl has had some disciplinary issues at the school.   


When they called the friend's grandmother / guardian about the latest disciplinary action, she talked to the school counselor and drew up a policy that involved my stepdaughter. (This is what the grandmother does every time the child gets in trouble- she says it was someone else's fault.) One of the provisions of the agreement they came up with was that my stepdaughter was banned from being friends with her and from being in certain places at the school and certain circles of friends at the school. It applies to activities, sports, et cetera.   


My stepdaughter was not part of any disciplinary action, and she was not accused of breaking any rule. The other girl was. There was some disagreement, but not a fight, and it had nothing to do with the reason for the disciplinary action. The idea to involve my stepchild in the matter was purely the friend's grandmother's. At no time was my stepdaughter accused of breaking any rule.  


They asked my stepchild and my wife to sign the agreement. They have refused. But the school has enacted the policy anyway, telling my stepdaughter she can't go to certain places or be in certain groups at the school, because the other girl will be there. This has made it impossible for her to socialize normally and to participate in normal school activities. She can't be friends with anyone in her grade at that school, because there is only one class for that grade.   


To me, this is obvious discrimination. My wife talked to them, and the principal blew her off and tried to say it was just a ""brainstorming"" session, and it wasn't a binding contract. Yet, he has circulated the policy to staff and enacted the provisions banning my stepchild from various places and activities. I am the ""bad cop"" parent in these situations: I will talk to the principal this week and I'm not taking any bull from him. I'd appreciate advice on effective approaches. 

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parenting,goodluck_canuck,2019/02/03,"A friend asked me how I deal with the issue of LYING in young children. I thought I’d share here and ask for further ideas from you folks. 

Our strategy is first and foremost avoiding the invitation to lie. What I mean by this is if I already KNOW what the truth is, I’m not going to ask. I’m going to state what happened and have a discussion with my kid. 

Ie. If I know my child broke something, I’m not gonna say, “Did you break this?”, I’m going to say, “I know you broke this because I saw it in your hands before you dropped it. [insert parenting moment here— ie. Time to help me clean this up, you’ve been told not to touch this before because it’s breakable etc]” 

I feel like this avoids a lot of issues, since I’m not baiting my child into additional punishment by inviting a lie when I already have the information. 

If it’s a situation where I’m not sure (ie. Multiple kids), I will trust them until evidence suggests otherwise. I want my kid to know that I’m on their side vs. their cynical adversary. However once the evidence is there I will discuss with the evidence vs. accuse, “Honey, every other kid in the room says they saw you break it. Is there something else you need to tell me?” 

But I guess the toughest scenario is where I’m preeeettty sure my kid is lying to me, but I can’t prove it at all. What to do in this scenario? 

I often tell my kid that lying even about small things isn’t okay because it makes it tough to trust them with the big things. I’m hoping the preventative measures are enough to avoid big lying issues, but I am curious to know what other people do in regards to lying? It seems like such a tricky parenting situation because when they fess up there are usually consequences... which makes them very reluctant to fess up. At the end of the day, I want to train my kid to be honest, not a cleverer liar. 

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parenting,florabeez,2019/02/03,"Is it just me, or is almost 6 yrs old just a really frustrating age to manage? My son turns 6 in April, he’s in Kindergarten and some days I just really don’t want to be around him. 

Constantly whining (I would categorize his whining as mostly entitled BS- “I want/gimme/they have more/etc”) and he’s learned some super fun new ways to be rude from being in school. 

He does feel remorse when we talk to him about his behavior, and when he’s well rested and calm (so like....20% of the time...) he does realize his behavior is obnoxious and works to dial it back. We try to be consistent and calm with consequences, but I’m still figuring out what is realistic and what isn’t in terms of how much we can expect at this point. 

I know this is developmentally normal as kids adjust to being in school and around peers who maybe don’t have as many boundaries, but man- this age can be super unlikable at times! Please tell me it passes? ",3.2711531531531537,4.938235610810813,4.528108108108111,84.56531531531532,73.97297297297297,8.392792792792793,23.144144144144143,9.029198982220553,1.5937819819819825,728,20,151,16,15,240,113,185,0.057,0.828,0.115,0.8932,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,0,3,13,10,2,0,2,0,19,0,0,1,0,37,24,18,0,4,6,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,15,0,0,7,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,0,1,15,6,25,17,6,27,0,2,0,0,19,11,0,5,14,96,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229905180433436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063500982848628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230798532267699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594201089242088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11096821147660274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30115189613065874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19189885940297371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870016424969987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456286813797468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406266238317102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17444772246167398,0.1728632312991281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648816698656246,0.0,0.0,0.1661822295250081,0.0,0.0,0.16858795875773538,0.0,0.0,0.1805541208558881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887658673330188,0.1626578050939526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045952513517955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482795675946098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374119764928406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829997869073565,0.1503931002530517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006659126607939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682138889965815,0.18715818910563212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20297774319685752,0.13657782934411886,0.0,0.0,0.15470782561704965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526595747920796,0.0,0.0,0.12223061315625393,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adblink,2019/02/03,"Long Drive with TWO Toddlers We are planning a vacation with the extended family and the plan is to drive. We have personally have done this drive a dozen times in the past but *without* kids. With adults and short stops it takes us 15-16 hours. 

My daughter will be 3yrs10mths and my son 2yrs4mths. To say the idea of doing this drive with 2 Toddlers is already giving me anxiety.  

My parents did this drive when I was little with my sisters and they stayed in a hotel to break the trip up, which is something I'm considering. 

Have any of you done that kind of drive before? Did you survive and how did you manage? What time did you leave and did you drive through?",2.3457475083056494,4.9177995271317885,2.5477574750830563,93.20808139534886,80.86046511627906,5.546179401993357,23.16777408637873,6.868970318607317,0.6630704318936882,525,18,107,6,14,159,82,129,0.046,0.93,0.024,-0.1754,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,3,5,1,3,2,1,0,0,8,0,18,0,0,1,0,18,21,9,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,7,13,0,1,1,1,0,8,1,0,0,2,8,1,15,1,16,11,0,22,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,0,7,75,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145806606492412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223282224598856,0.0,0.14875389131285935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654628211204032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979801875054573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18331036825491132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653437609905754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149430443994525,0.0,0.0,0.2195106375599653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248998846573546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589471384654895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948902112194532,0.0,0.17208233177772986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159139652931595,0.0,0.18562474403795676,0.0,0.16978643779770305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463462505827788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969728461400975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20725806940491956,0.0,0.16256909655825932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462023709680606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267709820166551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994961691743725,0.0,0.23389968088548496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874430797187931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,miz-liz,2019/02/03,"how to help daughter deal with this my daughter is a very happy, outgoing, and friendly 7 y/o. lately her behavior has changed, even her teacher has commented on her being more quiet and participating less. there is a girl in her class that is giving her a hard time over little things. i believe daughter is intimidated by this girl because the girl has a strong attitude. i've asked teacher for advice on 3 different occassions and constantly tells me it is normal. i feel like the more i try to talk to daughter about it the more she gets sad about it. should i stop asking her about it since she is so sensitive about it? when i talk about things it makes me feel better so i am unsure what will help.  additonally i got accepted into a university out of state where my mom lives. i told daughter 3 more months and she will never have to see this girl again, but she says she wants to move already. i feel like this is not a bad idea so she start to be familar with her new school and new friends and wont be so overwhelmed on her new school year. but i also dont want to teach her running away from her problems is ok. what is the best solution overall?",4.4746304347826085,5.506967017391304,5.151032608695651,83.73567934782609,70.13043478260869,8.184782608695654,28.28804347826087,8.472884824447931,1.8664130434782609,914,32,186,14,16,295,131,230,0.056,0.7609999999999999,0.183,0.9829,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,16,14,0,1,10,1,22,0,0,2,1,27,36,15,0,5,3,6,4,2,2,4,0,2,0,4,15,10,0,1,5,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,7,30,10,26,27,6,26,0,2,1,0,40,10,0,0,15,130,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004932286035805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556997750704355,0.09824451203239412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296996328876248,0.0,0.1154232771880576,0.0,0.10257609219802596,0.07488929563475309,0.0,0.0,0.13841186959601198,0.1289253479463847,0.10865240264111296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996087773719014,0.0,0.0,0.13275911400431062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665477524379307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835394669048045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439813535501443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114243209614752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635263089905826,0.17553065083121866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898299376816613,0.0,0.06418497665827297,0.1178506072985616,0.0,0.0,0.09825577913982136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307779881912559,0.11005105083481874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468989686204935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868468904197365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385821418914926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003833372857395,0.12312974278028292,0.10848035918516627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200450705286219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388250229905947,0.098059106695909,0.13057198392439814,0.0,0.0,0.09475085468797596,0.3559530003324333,0.0,0.0,0.1203686457355856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755254754833112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769665438410037,0.0,0.2486650897113078,0.09789695098056808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162424946830187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695511153466726,0.0,0.0,0.1027095764224992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974871902231912,0.1073778574628206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632345075247108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163585208058876,0.0,0.0,0.1173901260909172,0.0,0.0834082841883678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136557214798683,0.14492230787479168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911250876400021
parenting,KMFlowers,2019/02/03,"Questions to Ask Potential Nanny/Babysitter I'm going back to work tomorrow after having my daughter and I had to hire a nanny. Hiring a nanny can be stressful and emotionally draining, and with all that's happening to your family, you might forget to ask some critical questions. Here are some helpful questions I asked when making this important decision. 

1) Why do you want to work with children?

This is one of the most important questions and should be asked right up front. What's their reason for wanting to work with your child? Their answer will help you understand their motivations. If you plan on hiring them, make sure you feel comfortable with their response. 

2) What was the reason you left your last family?

Maybe the family moved, or the kids are now in school, but you have the right to know why they aren't employed at their former job. Be on the lookout for nannies that are still being used for date nights or on the weekends. This signals that the family doesn't need them on a full-time basis anymore, but still likes to keep them around. 

3) What's the youngest age you've worked with?

Sometimes maternity leave for working moms is as short as six weeks. Make sure that you find someone with experience in the age range of your child. If your child has reflux, GERT, or any special needs, make sure that you ask them if they have experience with that as well. If they don't, it doesn't mean they're not good at their jobs, but it brings tremendous peace of mind if they have worked with your child's condition before. 

4) Do you smoke or does anyone in your house?

This question is crucial for preemies. Even if they don't personally smoke, the particles from someone else in their house can linger on their clothes or in their hair. If you have a child with a compromised immune system, you need to be especially careful. Pediatricians recommend finding a non-smoker, but if that's not an option for you, make sure they at least change into a clean, smoke-free shirt when they come into your house.

5) Do you have the current flu/whooping cough vaccination?

This goes for any other vaccinations that are important for the health of your child. If they do not have the current treatments, ask if they would be willing to get them. In most cases, you would have to pay for these out of your pocket. Make sure that they bring you the documentation after their doctor's visit. 

6) If you work with other children, are they vaccinated?

Although you can't ask for the specifics, you should know if the other children they come in contact with are being vaccinated. This is especially important if your child cannot be treated for health reasons or has a compromised immune system. 

7) Are you CPR certified? 

Some hospitals offer their infant CPR classes for free to anyone that wants to learn. If they are not educated in CPR, ask if they would attend a class with you. At the very least, there are YouTube videos that describe and demonstrate it. Knowing CPR becomes increasingly more important as the child gets older and starts to put things in their mouth.

8) What's your discipline style?

Even if you're looking for a nanny for your infant, it's important to know their philosophies on discipline. You may want to keep this person around as your child gets older, so it's important to understand how they would handle tantrums or defiant behavior. Make sure it's something that you are comfortable with and don't wait until the first incident to broach this subject. 

9) Do you have reliable transportation? 

Your time is valuable, and as a working mom, you can't put your career or job on the line because you're late waiting on the nanny to show up. It's okay if the nanny gets dropped off or takes the bus, but make sure that they are punctual if your job requires you to be there at a particular time.  

10) Are you allergic to animals?

Just as the health of your baby is important to you, the health of the nanny is equally essential. If you have pets, let them know right away so they can decide if they want to work in that environment. If they're allergic, keep in mind that pet hair clings to your furniture and floors and could result in an attack for the nanny even if you leave the animals in a different room. 

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What other questions would you ask? ",5.407241666666668,7.160611907500005,5.186,81.6296666666667,68.675,8.383333333333335,28.333333333333336,8.889255770463159,2.2205833333333342,3426,120,625,61,60,1056,310,800,0.034,0.85,0.117,0.9965,8,0,5,0,0,0,96.0,0,50,37,13,19,21,2,1,44,1,72,14,4,15,8,150,127,60,0,38,41,3,3,1,0,11,10,1,4,17,41,30,0,8,25,3,2,13,13,3,1,3,2,5,90,19,106,103,11,85,0,0,1,0,127,42,0,45,28,434,131,26,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05104640469868107,0.05724687857297098,0.06407626956400278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04672296853126315,0.06588435037644692,0.0,0.0,0.08388027719519398,0.3963946878895572,0.053597302294155685,0.044263771160597584,0.03622662615790704,0.0,0.028719359951582007,0.05203208603242701,0.04008929155731211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048034362458130336,0.0,0.04983880801284839,0.08116654295497239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03761552024341573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922256465314436,0.0,0.04822166901455695,0.04122849097604825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03935647202318705,0.05299525313240711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335214178331663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217018566970173,0.1776539949866288,0.0,0.02382150986711797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611999464933445,0.040073892480226685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984574060956934,0.0,0.0267751355252901,0.03951575347530607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04166145315890591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003136578855208,0.0,0.0,0.0631570692217221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308459652828594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700765890807733,0.12562733945267224,0.0,0.0,0.12945906719459055,0.03840299856659531,0.05314498396745549,0.09977072985474232,0.051187899816299016,0.048175752128979066,0.0,0.02301680156769449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03956265815454868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515838276476223,0.0,0.047330867002839984,0.05131935479851263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04997894736487329,0.09514044656402848,0.11035524741518388,0.0,0.050073161646572786,0.0,0.10480002825774742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04421191629254023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03192466843853172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227368494335713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472220696080852,0.3166608832356494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531857693058015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070152517594405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768039382852332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983658463688867,0.03626952597322152,0.046595495124666535,0.0,0.033346489997365864,0.0,0.07524825187058523,0.0,0.053967241958298315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31082100239362725,0.0,0.035422758033624185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031299470360794016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054943388207966716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809160688619983,0.0,0.04069009786667031,0.0,0.038872769847031925,0.13894094909001514,0.0,0.03779082839543844,0.0,0.04235982090319789,0.0,0.08502345775990551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30868633520189986,0.0,0.0,0.1673369417977384,0.0,0.05724687857297098,0.0
parenting,newacccn,2019/02/03,"Daughter refusing to go to school after accident My daughter (10yrs) had a toilet accident at school on Thursday towards the end of her last lesson. She's said that she had never had to have a 'number 2' at school before and believed that she could wait until she got home. She didn't tell anyone about it until I picked her up and she was understandably very distressed.

She was still upset on Friday, so didn't go to school. I've tried my hardest to offer support and reassurance but she's now saying she can't go tomorrow either.

She's anxious that it might happen again and/or she suspects that someone in her class knew what happened and that people are going to bully her about it.

I've offered to talk to the school about it, but she doesn't want anyone to be told about it. I've also asked if she felt unable or uncomfortable with using the school toilets but she's said no.

What else can I do?",4.005288924558588,5.6888063988764035,4.6820545746388476,84.14011235955056,72.08988764044943,6.6587479935794525,24.51203852327448,7.1686216300943375,1.0618959871589086,721,21,135,7,14,231,103,178,0.15,0.823,0.026,-0.966,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,2,5,0,16,0,0,2,1,24,34,13,0,3,6,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,12,5,0,2,5,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,13,4,22,2,25,18,1,22,0,0,0,0,31,7,0,3,11,97,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424676261054578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314000697468029,0.0,0.1648106978514581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017636672342247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002839685020735,0.1327796367088259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940957921864741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845080936597753,0.0,0.10438251277243432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315707497146088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679136241475625,0.0,0.09425757123870256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084335090015471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182158684755702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606568110917828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502309191820973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089526859250437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170422400772516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224209813771392,0.09372119829499312,0.0,0.7156393531220612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985621132257884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411731945471943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373784876070366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472553708369837,0.1030084554605005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261330651084818,0.0,0.08001424809420449,0.0,0.0,0.12268881829989847,0.0,0.10178689456195132,0.0,0.09724082106452356,0.06951257665539794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jack_harbor,2019/02/03,"Can’t get 3 month old to settle for naps Wife and I are at wits end, can’t get 3 month old to settle down and go to sleep unless he’s in our arms.  Once he falls asleep, the minute we put him in crib, he starts screaming.  It’s like he gets overtired and can’t settle down, gets really grumpy/fussy.  He’s rolling, so swaddle to prevent startle reflex out of question.  However, at night after last feed (which is around 10 or 11), he does okay and finally sleeps fairly well, only waking up once or twice through night.  But we need to figure out how to get him to nap!  Can’t get anything done around house or with work having infant in arms constantly.  And by the end of the day without any good naps, he is just so insufferably cranky.  Having a little break, for all of us, would be blissful.",3.9762272727272743,4.802496850000004,4.390227272727273,89.49386363636368,71.125,7.0681818181818175,23.92045454545455,6.980632752743323,0.679875,616,15,132,5,11,194,104,160,0.046,0.879,0.076,0.5789,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,1,7,6,0,1,4,1,12,7,6,1,1,26,21,13,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,12,1,1,2,3,0,3,5,2,1,1,1,1,7,4,30,18,1,31,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,4,15,71,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281759908146024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231929982228303,0.24300933848118705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749675392893966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802449163340825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194429567197606,0.13967623491211734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24177852233467115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951767018523435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278610525131691,0.0,0.07757017727306323,0.11448098924701687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749065709684604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125722982108847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668191748940314,0.13679842252944935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788937112594028,0.0,0.0,0.10120529875559392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561724612863202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864457215120121,0.29071390964897714,0.0,0.1038064808040388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720973286401492,0.15289957371602608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743872397122676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731763148058167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966080316600778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418016674652824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272052978453288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157109050858906,0.0,0.09936604437753158,0.0,0.0,0.09695828599875736,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Acoriss,2019/02/03,"4 Years old Daughter - Console Suggestion I’m a gamer for 29 years (First C64 in 90s) and i would like to play games with my lovely daughter. I know she is a little bit young but i believe it is better than passive cartoon watching. Also parent Co-op can be fun right?

I tried retropie but using a Ps4 controller is hard for her. So i m thinking Nintendo. I can buy a used Nintendo wii for 35 euros or ask from grandfathers to buy a 330 Euro Nintendo Switch. I’m afraid she wont be able to play switch and it will be a dead investment.

Thanks for all replies in advance

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parenting,rootless_robert,2019/02/03,"My daughter swallowed an earring and I am desperate I just don't know what to say. She's as stubborn as any 2y can be, and even more. I'd say the queen of stubbornness. While my wife was changing a diaper she grabbed an earring (approx 1cm spherical kind of earring that hangs with a chain and hook, half the volume of a small marble probably), and when I reached to take it out, with all the fuzziness and hand movement, she dropped into her mouth and swallowed it (ONLY THE BALL though, no hook, no chain just the one piece ball that hangs). She coughed, and kind  of  choked  but  for  seconds. And then it was gone. She then cried and worried because she saw us.

We called the doctor (we live in the Netherlands) by phone, on a Sunday 'cause that's how it works. We were instructed to wait until it appears in the poop. However I am concerned it might have gone through the wind pipe. I don't think so cause she afterwards could breathe, respond, behave(crazy), and play as usual. However I am not 100% sure.

I don't even know what I expected by writing all this. I guess I needed to let it out and share my anxiety and worriness with other fellow parents. 

Any comment/story that might throw some light into this?",4.522190237797247,5.828450000000004,4.5637296620775984,86.96411764705887,70.27659574468085,7.571964956195245,29.993742177722158,7.928766900206844,1.9056558197747184,950,38,188,12,17,294,140,235,0.092,0.868,0.04,-0.8376,5,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,4,0,0,2,8,7,2,0,15,0,16,8,4,3,3,47,27,24,0,3,4,3,2,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,16,22,2,3,3,3,0,7,6,2,0,3,6,6,25,5,26,16,5,24,0,0,1,0,23,8,0,5,8,133,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20604829997055196,0.0,0.11589590957228753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235205692421028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546968693290994,0.0,0.0,0.31126130747228803,0.16026528593941802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095919521223017,0.0,0.16641394785294694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506509648267686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001266120717732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689263714965905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155246721332621,0.16651918654268474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154917442814983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377591846354775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214318564086685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123341907298227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265927938130852,0.11522140794024414,0.0,0.0,0.16822111459511666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334096677803794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409553170586469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278550852451385,0.0,0.11390799000566115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707409788979006,0.14884647075791574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18223399754886047,0.0,0.16685415352026456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029268544653836,0.3077080862980896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RapidlyRotting,2019/02/03,"My 2.5yo spelling a word while sitting in his car seat Toddler: can you tell me about this word?

Parents: what letters are in it?

Toddler: S, R, A, 1, oval

Parrental comedy gold",0.6714705882352945,3.1945926176470607,1.985529411764705,92.9388823529412,93.41176470588236,3.896470588235295,27.388235294117646,5.6839178017228535,1.0007835294117655,135,7,26,1,5,43,30,34,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.4329,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7857675127518768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6185219607287433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Azhi_D,2019/02/03,"Mother-in-law's husband completely disregarded what my wife and I wanted... My mother-in-law and her current husband eat a lot of wild game. Knowing this we asked are 1 and 1/2-year-old doctor if it was okay for him to eat that kind of meat, The doctor said it probably wouldn't hurt but he wouldn't recommend it until after 2 years old.

Today we're over there for a non-Super bowl party (we are from South Louisiana) at one point he takes my son outside to show him what he's cooking, I made a comment about how he can try everything but the deer meat. he proceeded to tell me how stupid that was I told him it was Dr recommendations, he told me how stupid he thought that was ,and I just ended the conversation.

About 20 minutes later my wife comes in and tells me that he snuck my son a piece of deer sausage. I was curious I immediately grabbed my son had a few choice words with him and left... Needless to say I don't think I'm welcome there again.

The man acts like a child and always gets pissed off when he doesn't get his way, he is a racist and a bigot... Yet I have always given him the benefit of the doubt and tried to be fair with him...

In a sense this was the first and only straw... It was completely disrespectful and I don't think I'm overreacting....

I guess I'm posting this to get a little input and am I overreacting?

Also sorry about the wall of text I am still extremely pissed off about the whole situation it's only been about an hour since it happened...",5.066958287190847,5.070213504983394,5.907081949058696,82.49583148763381,68.43521594684385,9.080915466961981,28.017903285345145,8.841846274778883,1.83806519010705,1159,34,249,18,18,382,163,301,0.129,0.804,0.067,-0.9712,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,2,0,0,1,16,11,4,1,20,1,22,8,2,4,0,37,43,21,0,4,4,7,1,1,0,2,3,2,0,2,16,17,3,1,4,3,0,2,5,6,0,2,15,3,31,5,29,25,4,30,0,1,0,0,40,11,2,4,16,150,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011053933337448,0.20832818818786136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170312400018639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783594373240456,0.2625085487787666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562646626170168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25619137336821873,0.0,0.0,0.11087690824779553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250836343147284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648244602541422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962122615533289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790558392100666,0.0,0.1107008369482062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328218088222255,0.0,0.1340133191315231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036109589724515,0.0687984983832071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601405907930753,0.0,0.0,0.06115915322722934,0.1254684328184088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064279592420067,0.0,0.11845323957082834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627215657981257,0.0,0.08482871449441909,0.190417933511962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834045393424752,0.0,0.11989279340802313,0.0,0.13497079192024192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907976867726346,0.0995522758384068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355447050585932,0.14071338191350505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013455451089032,0.0,0.0,0.09997304257715872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412367221995796,0.0,0.21883472166914936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042721095109505,0.0,0.09938304574346324,0.0,0.0,0.11866090851685275,0.2392395990831443,0.0,0.16998503310221774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738374597351501,0.09936616513791947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976477742636903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123029686928306
parenting,nuggetteggun,2019/02/03,"How do I get a very stubborn but sensitive 11 year old to talk to people with respect? Okay, the child in question is not mine she is my sister. But for most of my early teens before I got mentally unwell I looked after her. After 7 years I am finally at home but it is very stressful living with my younger sister.
My mum lets my little sister get away with murder. She talks back, she is cocky, sarcastic and damn right rude to my mother. It angers me a lot because as kids me and my sister would have never have gotten away with it. 
I’m worried because she is losing friends because of it and doesn’t understand when you try talk to her about it. She will talk to people like crap but gets upset when they reciprocate the term.
She has outbursts of anger, extreme anxiety (panic attacks for no reason) is VERY clingy, sensitive and constantly want hugs (like every 5 minutes). I see so much of how I was as a child in her and my biggest fear is her ending up unwell like me. I’ve tried to explain we are always here for her if she needs to talk or is worried etc. I don’t know what to do. ",3.2493212669683267,4.617879904977379,4.430226244343892,86.45447963800908,73.47963800904978,6.8289592760181,24.764705882352942,7.285733465282438,1.0675140271493215,853,26,172,9,17,280,130,221,0.238,0.6759999999999999,0.086,-0.9916,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,1,1,8,20,8,4,5,1,21,2,1,3,1,31,34,18,1,4,7,6,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,3,6,10,0,1,5,0,0,0,5,13,0,0,3,2,34,7,30,28,5,23,0,1,2,1,32,9,2,5,17,121,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690740338280272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909466480267815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249464835329422,0.2188435814372529,0.08955365080644223,0.0,0.21298617662692276,0.0,0.09910231224824052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258562427135189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315256295243094,0.0,0.12988818024260995,0.0,0.0,0.09812596901990657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105441360255715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758065304853186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997982131147543,0.0,0.1825429476865037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314692463995916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682291881100278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400558554217793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11909236219488906,0.0,0.17069532790245104,0.1167275550822467,0.10283987293568933,0.0,0.09780045367470093,0.1302934601443495,0.0,0.0990135542116194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736835043607867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856144631772281,0.08635660314405802,0.08982424034960089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220940898886945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366454465922336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148298956570215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304663685661092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974442074184907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099459645973244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928067539161476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334091538155935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46804688197779404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814286405660305,0.0,0.0,0.12124316341023925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882850675842304,0.06869350285774306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365497531964427,0.0,0.08273270597958653,0.0,0.0,0.14999803485211735
parenting,Ninja_Mathster,2019/02/03,"Failing Math? Try Ninja Mathster No fourth grade student will fail math if they use my iOS app, [Ninja Mathster](https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/ninja-mathster/id1432667953?mt=8). 

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Every student will know the answer from 1 X 1 through 12 X 12, like they know their first name. All you need to do is follow these instructions:

* Download the iOS app Ninja Mathster, free until 2/8/2019.
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* Complete one multiplication assignment every day for a week.
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If you give me 4 hours of hard work you will get better grades in math, complete your math homework faster and have more time for fun!",4.869744221295946,8.399391192307696,4.038904888215235,77.28368131868132,87.62637362637363,5.807048124289503,27.70443349753695,7.237678284180719,2.2665768851837806,895,39,127,15,29,265,110,182,0.055,0.807,0.138,0.9318,0,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,0,10,6,7,4,7,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,2,25,24,9,0,7,7,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,9,0,1,1,1,2,1,3,0,1,18,6,12,20,5,13,0,2,0,0,20,1,0,6,12,73,21,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065247610670908,0.0,0.0,0.1357949465639757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48295590796113796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804308286792255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282641902838996,0.0,0.0,0.15864937544676758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880959141712248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033411549748134,0.13060228994794165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021907720080332,0.1472909621106224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754299218569496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120741243257882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531471177422643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570065486179969,0.0,0.07501260311814036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384904926005815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20808733795741502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009518329602174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676633945067204,0.0,0.0,0.17906252358689256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424457461621288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846914748662496,0.13261052597311696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24632340019923304,0.0,0.13805221477978658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178001369705387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coolbeansam9,2019/02/03,"14 month old toys So im trying to be self conscious about ... pretty much everything lol i dont know if im going overboard here with what type of toys he gets to play with. I tend to prefer educational (example, animals, colors, numbers) but a toolbox set? He can get stabby and likes to throw everything. So my question, do you think the age suggestion is there for a very valid reason? ",2.2231000000000023,4.7194194933333335,3.956916666666668,83.39137500000002,80.73333333333333,6.95,24.041666666666664,8.07648339933343,1.6575666666666669,302,11,57,6,8,101,61,75,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.8299,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,0,11,11,5,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,6,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,9,10,1,6,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,4,30,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654490276604397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071160167747976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23666730759567176,0.0,0.12872163682883794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489304305852011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244750601981624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106534220736161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078517727377116,0.0,0.1664989917293428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376671256393251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23042560400945564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537248732831371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23287333213151584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362824128594029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512807117775042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537744116908649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868810919016415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,canucksrule,2019/02/03,"My 4 year old threatens to kill my wife My 4yo son has big tantrums and when he gets really worked up at my wife he says he's going to kill her. He'll punch her/kick her etc. He does it to me too but at a lesser degree. What can I get him to stop saying it?

He doesnt sleep well and we figured his behaviour was tied in with his lack of sleep but now I don't know.  It's awful. ",-0.9508045977011506,0.6703617356321843,1.4719540229885089,101.7267816091954,86.816091954023,4.786206896551724,14.264367816091953,5.82211442006289,-1.1493080459770115,289,4,78,2,9,98,62,87,0.193,0.7709999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.9001,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,4,4,3,0,1,1,5,2,2,0,0,10,10,5,2,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,1,2,13,1,10,8,2,11,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,0,5,43,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001241556461063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550446980470552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389573908180794,0.0,0.12996719652974176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5060130782333337,0.0,0.12567952840234292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399668834828306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650173845386524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637196558872824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4577011558018855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911912543383865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561566021171174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664857123187506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726591532444902
parenting,AAdams0033,2019/02/03,"Houdini baby! Holy crap my kid can break out of any singular swaddle! We have had to double wrap him since birth. I want to start getting my son to sleep without being wrapped up, but anything other than a full baby straight jacket, he breaks out of and is completely loose and free and keeps himself awake by rubbing and scratching his face. I want to transition slowly but it doesn't seem to be an option. He HATES his arma and hands free. I have no idea what to do. Any ideas???",2.6823286052009467,4.948326925531916,3.2960992907801447,90.03388888888891,77.61702127659575,5.879905437352246,24.274231678487002,6.937597516519254,0.9141834515366436,377,13,74,4,9,118,72,94,0.119,0.736,0.145,0.4265,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,9,4,4,0,0,18,16,7,0,2,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,1,3,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,10,4,14,13,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,5,1,2,2,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389828625380744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051029015446428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613229115171913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302173705784117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460724415811809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5627221972107013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22153555146325807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22689831279364714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061735197509206,0.0,0.24941953381385895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641302641086845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940158718150446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240258018572074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rocketplex,2019/02/03,"Leading the horses to water.... [long rant, feel free to ignore] I may not even post this, but I need to put it down and get it out. It's been such a horrible end to what was looking to be a decent weekend.

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It's Sunday evening here and my ADHD addled son remembers he didn't do the book review he got 10 days ago. This is his first assignment for Gr 6, and I have been reminding him about this since Thursday. To my regret, I give him a proper rocketing, I know I shouldn't, but he's been snotty and rude for most of the afternoon, fighting and squabbling and being a general jerk.

He scribbles down a page and a half. Now he needs cue cards, so I get him to type it out on Google Drive. It's now 25m in, and 5m to bedtime. The 5 lines he managed to get done (and this is only transcribing his written work, and adding a little bit) have vanished. I use Google Docs every day, I don't know how he can just make things vanish without a trace but apparently he can.

The other son, is in Gr. 1. He may not be ADHD but we've had teacher chats all through last year about him and potential learning difficulties. His first show and tell, so we go through everything nicely with him. He's all into it, says he's going to do well. We honestly forget about it until my wife asks him how it went. He says he told the teacher he didn't want to do it!

The red mist is well and truly all around me now, so he gets the biggest telling off he's ever gotten. Big teary blubbering all round for the next 20m.

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We're just done with supper, he's supposed to go finish off the book review, instead he's off playing imaginary Pokemon. \*sigh\* ... but wait, he asks his brother to go away, maybe he's going to do it.......no, still playing Pokemon. His mum asks him if there's anything he's supposed to do? Nope, nothing. She reminds him again, so he's back at it now. I'm waiting for him to be done, so I can send him to bed.

It's also his birthday this week, he was supposed to get Smash Bros., he isn't going to because I asked him to read 2 books over 2 months ago and have reminded him every 2nd day. He's gone through 25 pages.

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I'm a proper twat, I yelled at my 6 year old, ranted at my 11 year old. I feel crushed and broken, we're only 4 weeks into the school year and I'm dreading the start of every day.",2.210093047845625,3.56939965773196,3.6876288659793834,90.77380121596615,76.1340206185567,6.2939466032249545,24.394660322495376,6.788186056548923,0.7304882368490611,1794,58,395,16,39,593,232,485,0.096,0.855,0.049,-0.9758,1,0,0,0,2,0,92.0,2,0,0,4,30,14,3,1,21,0,35,2,0,5,5,65,73,31,0,6,11,6,3,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,20,25,2,3,6,9,1,12,9,6,3,3,17,8,40,8,54,49,8,70,0,1,3,0,65,21,0,4,36,229,60,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882503899686654,0.0,0.13885157677153326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263232589684188,0.0,0.2545784529221185,0.2855014347779106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445053254772265,0.06972123804174167,0.2928738097993497,0.0,0.07358404213499731,0.060223101550487934,0.0,0.04774303086603149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855049507831093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202039199745446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404450812618267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693681074745248,0.0,0.0,0.1034589952349205,0.07084475445482935,0.1979634602434576,0.0,0.07038879753803448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920170106706283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332375852965413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20459434794773126,0.07513150089269541,0.26706572653037525,0.0,0.06263950884405899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608504160787904,0.06384110053302654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849702764940347,0.0,0.06931056963307332,0.06576891729478893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05227908312121495,0.0,0.07868277872634638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251412725940632,0.0,0.0,0.11614629741762962,0.0,0.0,0.08329400929452724,0.0,0.0,0.07514997255486769,0.0,0.1643669371753263,0.0,0.0,0.1191314935244627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500873094298338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873304381178231,0.0,0.0,0.07834100712461592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872108022123264,0.0,0.0,0.1245661171261861,0.0,0.07926383171830856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478695837607629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543516651840809,0.0,0.06254630356889909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690993671989488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052032203435073816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483793732899176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764317177212269,0.0,0.0,0.046195054709740495,0.0,0.12564685909282802,0.0,0.14083783484523926,0.07260325099865761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549750456582588,0.0,0.057017756408966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855014347779106,0.2017415661768389
parenting,hyphyxhyna,2019/02/03,"My almost 14 month old kiddo refuses to walk, getting worried. My daughter hasn't started walking yet or showing much interest in it and I can't help but be a little worried. She can stand, started furniture ""cruising"" when she was 9 months, but will not stand on her own and try to take steps. 

When her dad and I try to get her to practice she will clumsily walk a couple steps while we hold onto her and then she just stops...wont even try standing cause I think she knows we are trying to get her to walk. I know all babies are different, but my friends baby's who were born around the same time as her or even before are all walking!! We have an appointment to see her doctor soon so I can hopefully get some answers and reassurance. But I can't help but be nervous.

Has anyone else experienced this and if so, what did you do? What was the reason behind your baby love being uninterested in walking?

Side Note- Our theory is that she might be afraid to fall because our floors are very very hard and she has fallen before and hit her little noggin so she is being very cautious, but we could be totally wrong. Please help.",2.539288358700123,4.906288212669686,3.5983155080213898,87.15651069518721,78.63800904977377,6.190127519539285,23.167626491155897,7.348242739294969,1.012247058823529,889,29,172,12,22,286,132,221,0.115,0.792,0.093,-0.2955,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,6,2,0,0,11,8,0,2,5,0,29,2,0,2,3,41,43,25,0,3,11,2,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,6,13,0,2,5,2,0,11,4,3,0,0,4,3,33,5,15,28,7,36,0,0,1,1,34,9,0,7,13,125,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790264451471928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893114367844406,0.1308739678942249,0.0,0.1137063358957859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786271811590223,0.0,0.21737679483496053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121338198233734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019816129062012,0.14133026312787772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345014244714856,0.0,0.1307365563817852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670160798653183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872826120183615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868349543407484,0.0,0.26693356920823713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442054404279707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568431757947266,0.0,0.0,0.12686421467006084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403935863962705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560370309942046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528086132111333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550081537197628,0.0,0.0,0.20390493777905366,0.0,0.09389587979725476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403062462423476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020863537622405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132720009110713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017838749049332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18081519610444008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960366884328131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184390659052836,0.0,0.0,0.07448009906178016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468797865032215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161706451069843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259431016301825,0.0,0.0,0.1396521577590877,0.0,0.0
parenting,abitfuckedup,2019/02/03,"I don’t know how to deal with this I (23F) have sole parental responsibility for my 9 year old sister and to add a bit of a background our mum passed away from cancer 2 days before my sisters second birthday, our father is currently in jail for the abuse of me and my other sister (18) and is not allowed to contact us and this whole situation has left us all without any parents. We are dealing with this fine and me and the nine year old live together without any other siblings.

So my nine year old sister comes in from playing out with her friends absolutely sobbing, her friend has told her that her mums in hospital dying from cancer - I’m a bit skeptical on whether to believe this because I don’t know the family well but from what I do know the 2 girls live with their dad and only have contact with their nana (mums mum) once or twice a week and she told my sister that she’s been in hospital dying since the start of year 3 which is near enough 3 years ago and showed no emotion at all when saying this (it could be completely true I’m not disputing that but like I said I’m a bit skeptical). 

My sister knows what happened to our mum because we have talked about it and most of the pictures of them together are of when mum was laid in a hospital bed so she knows she was ill. It was mums birthday yesterday so things are pretty raw and my sister has been asking more questions and making more conversations about mum recently which I think is her beginning to realise that we don’t have the conventional family of mother, father etc and other people do and she’s trying to process it and be able to give an explanation of why. 

When she was crying earlier she said that she doesn’t want (friends mum) to die like our mum and that she misses mum loads and it hit me that I really don’t know what to do in these sorts of situations, obviously I comforted her and told her that everything will be ok and it’s natural for her to miss mum and we all do and always will but how do I become better equipped at dealing with these sorts of things in the future? How can I support her into feeling better? 
Do you think some of the emotion comes from not actually being able to remember mum because she was so young when she died?

Thanks in advance and sorry it was so long!",8.666629955947139,6.29863467180617,8.545819383259914,74.22445594713658,62.41409691629956,11.7231718061674,36.13612334801762,10.125756701596842,3.3415853744493402,1807,61,361,30,20,588,200,454,0.079,0.8059999999999999,0.115,0.9488,5,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,10,1,3,3,15,20,2,0,16,1,41,3,0,5,5,74,72,39,4,2,10,26,1,2,3,2,3,3,1,1,32,37,0,0,11,2,0,4,11,5,1,4,13,4,54,15,56,51,13,43,1,3,0,0,80,16,1,6,25,257,86,0,0.15173300276261675,0.08988939835473839,0.07403476147376349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725107595177443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312700668795955,0.0,0.0,0.1031836450249502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092493756664205,0.0,0.07127907542024854,0.0,0.0,0.13874254522391508,0.08378859024736009,0.06455680484363423,0.08547556725423258,0.0,0.13419551049185444,0.24847971077040815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070454652174768,0.07954458327770987,0.0,0.0,0.06057322803957217,0.0,0.0833357893509101,0.04892761711187976,0.2346450949116968,0.0,0.0,0.3149498026318034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067920540410692,0.0,0.07839037632104627,0.0846112034441036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818391954127118,0.0,0.14304037111316714,0.0,0.038360382631699226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584281231661564,0.0,0.0,0.07277806115546173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708849661852254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501654704724981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242917573317868,0.0,0.0,0.07412908081980249,0.0,0.13398302131686754,0.06713946634288688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05064147878506129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238827393241485,0.08079534795634251,0.0,0.05769989297596865,0.0,0.0,0.16848154317764052,0.0,0.0,0.05259627957441902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771835064043697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498784441156672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860202345766023,0.0,0.0749090175111189,0.0,0.08594195677444885,0.0,0.1443328321352585,0.060332086956813226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275755392541148,0.1705542524687845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492633701442281,0.053698700160429706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609240670879216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06097862003829967,0.0,0.06984768148598981,0.0,0.0,0.10080466485182106,0.09722438146016152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174810797719939,0.0,0.05150837442996573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251611993155628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04474802814796768,0.0,0.060855531211267,0.0,0.06821309594233181,0.0,0.06845771721720607,0.08470223944327145,0.0,0.14626520005833213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24427769754304365
parenting,Krysten36,2019/02/03,Home remedies I have a 9 yr. Old with a cold does anyone have any good natural remedies that can help her to feel a little better. I have given her cold meds but don't want to load her up on those too much when it's just an average cold would rather take a natural approach.,1.9106896551724155,3.5459445517241366,3.3788275862069,91.49893103448278,77.6206896551724,6.708965517241379,21.944827586206888,7.554174236665415,0.7008993103448269,216,6,48,3,5,71,45,58,0.024,0.7829999999999999,0.193,0.8058,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,10,2,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,5,2,5,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128053672053014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21881023146857925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767640635356179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273850029696714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822847332250578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26247359548006005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20975258701529845,0.0,0.3138976035125112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136413657278093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475983379032907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300419737056847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32837084536765976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23528688801836165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457616145347105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229882974514,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,funnyclipsfun1,2019/02/03,Where You Can Buy Kids Nursery Rhymes For Your Kids Channel In 2019? [Nursery rhymes girl](https://www.nurseryrhymesgirl.com/2019/01/where-to-buy-nursery-rhymes-in-2019.html) is the one who's gonna help you to build your channel.Just check her out!!! You will thank me one day!,6.9339999999999975,10.702965511111113,2.3422222222222224,94.3,71.66666666666667,4.488888888888889,24.555555555555557,5.6839178017228535,0.3160222222222222,228,7,38,1,5,55,32,45,0.0,0.8420000000000001,0.158,0.7482,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,1,4,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,1,19,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34230946513060345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35577093193496995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7193411082593397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.488671304703221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChemistryUndead,2019/02/03,"Discovery channel as a child watching Daddy hard like a diamond watching mammals during mating season. My family loved the Discovery channel. We all have at least heard that hypersexual song, “The Bad Touch.”  I realized my brother and father would slowly stop trying to hide their erections and felt themselves while we all watched TV asa family. I always thought the point was to imagine horny beastiality fantasies as a family. I think this may of messed me up.

Can someone explain to me what I have got wrong?",6.612238095238098,8.879946033333333,6.730952380952385,69.70500000000001,66.44444444444444,9.142857142857146,35.079365079365076,9.606745405546679,3.8756031746031763,413,20,61,9,7,132,69,90,0.147,0.762,0.091,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,2,15,13,5,0,1,0,2,3,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,3,4,0,1,6,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,8,11,2,8,6,3,6,0,0,3,1,10,3,0,1,4,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19441619685193995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950886723241655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6607955867187403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22434142535093307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18687190250491015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093052380451008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414998686976333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087898438793365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22087554437790824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979715787448664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953425449329839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971400892014822,0.0,0.18549264939205487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863356728127054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597883639791494,0.2554604889166133,0.0,0.0
parenting,ad_student,2019/02/03,"Silly Parent Hacks What are some silly parent hacks/tricks you've used to get your kid to do something, or you remember your own parents using? My mom called cantaloupe ""Candy Cantaloupe"" to get me to eat it.",5.117692307692308,6.950309487179487,4.910769230769233,83.0092307692308,69.51282051282051,6.2256410256410275,25.820512820512814,6.42735559955562,1.1098820512820513,166,5,28,1,3,51,29,39,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.0516,3,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,5,6,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,0,16,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254739108249764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22594597269667435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23073048718135006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586125412889334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.73555734040888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501371404933725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999199409142415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.381421630998841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Outside_Anybody,2019/02/03,"Teen spends an inordinate amount of time online but has kept his promise of getting his responsibilities completed. My husband wants our 13 year old son to spend less time online. I agree that he spends too much time online BUT we had an agreement that he has followed.

We have a computer in the family room so it's easy to monitor how long the oldest is spending online. We noticed that the number was creeping up a lot. We made a rule where he has to complete his responsibilities without being reminded and could manage his own screen time if he showed us that it wouldn't interfere with anything else. He gets his homework complete, studies for test, bikes to school (exercise since he doesn't like sports), plays an instrument, taking care of hygiene, and is involved in a cooking class for teenagers. 

He still has a lot of time left over to play games, especially on the weekends. Yesterday he spent about 5 hours straight playing games and watching YouTube videos. He did this after completing his chores and doing his homework. We made him get off to shower and help with dinner. After dinner he went back on the computer. 

My husband and other two kids are extroverted. I think that has something to do with it. My husband sees him as wasting time but doesn't see our middle playing basketball as wasting time. 

Should we limit screens after a certain point or stick to our promise?

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parenting,DinosaurSprinkles,2019/02/03,"Birthday gift protocol for twins? My daughter was invited to a birthday party today, I rsvp’d a while ago and she picked out a gift. Then today, 2 hours before the party, the tells me the friend has a twin and it’s a joint party. Do I need to grab something for the other sibling? ",2.5894642857142856,4.551891874999999,3.949428571428573,86.69557142857144,76.67857142857143,5.908571428571428,23.7,6.742157984588678,0.8574614285714284,219,7,42,2,5,72,40,56,0.0,0.701,0.299,0.9474,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,4,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,5,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026795060950004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905532964134973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638075045843424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362646727686854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531847657371256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628689588043455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984469675419009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6473193658209893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SweetCookiTA,2019/02/03,"I’m getting worried about my son (16/m) artworks and people he’s around When my son started high school two years ago, he started doing photography. He got really into it. He ultimately got into drawing as well. He has taken a few art classes in college as well.



Since the previous semester started, we have been getting worried about him. He has school during the day then sport. After that, he’s either come home to produce art or go hang out with artsy people he met at college.



It’s not unusual for him to be up working on his art when we go to bed then we’d wake up to him working on it before he heads off to school.



His taste in arts has changed as well. He has started drawing more naked women or creepy things. 



During the Thanksgiving break, he sketched a portrait of a nude woman in a bathhouse and place it in a frame he carved by hands. He wants to hang it on the wall in the hallway leading to the guest bathroom and his bedroom. 



We told him we didn't want it on the wall, but he’s welcome to put it in his bedroom. A few days later, we discovered it in the trash can. We took it out and tried to give it back to him. He ripped it up and said it was ugly.



We think he turned to photography more after that. We haven’t seen much of his new drawing since then. But he didn’t really share his photography work much.



At Christmas, my sister went into my son’s bedroom and saw all of his drawings on the wall. She got everybody to come and look at them. They all say he’s extremely talented but also sarcastically said he’s making his own porn.



Next day, they all were gone. I tried explaining it was just a joke. It doesn’t help any.



I have been much more careful about what I said about any of his work. I even tried asking him if he’d think about drawing a picture for the living room wall. He still hasn’t given an answer.



Last night, I was looking for a flash drive and found one. When I put it in, I was horrified to find it was my son’s photography works.



It was quite inappropriate for a high school student in my opinion. A lot of it is quite sexually suggestive. Only one picture has anyone from his school and it was of two female water polo players with the headgear on making out. There are in addition a few of people I'd not want my son around as well.



There were also a few pictures of what seems to be taken at a party where a few women got rather rowdy. 

I can't help but feel like I failed as a parent. I wish I could take back all ribbing we gave him about his works or joking about him being a porn addict. I wish I'd have done more to stand up for him. I believe if I'd have at least show appreciation for his works, he'd have been more willing to share things with us. Since he hasn't shared anything with us, we weren't able to monitor his works. 

Tldr; Son got into arts and now is starting to go down a path I don't like.   ",2.943725047080982,4.186314359322033,4.263333333333332,87.84891713747648,74.05084745762713,6.87156308851224,24.636534839924675,7.3011,0.9443472693032012,2232,68,479,24,45,737,244,590,0.042,0.858,0.1,0.9876,1,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,13,0,3,13,28,15,0,0,30,0,45,10,5,4,4,74,97,32,0,9,14,8,2,2,1,1,1,4,6,3,25,36,2,0,8,9,0,14,11,1,4,4,36,11,62,14,88,53,21,88,0,1,4,3,91,45,0,8,29,315,87,20,0.06578830738648943,0.0,0.0,0.07171896577016319,0.0,0.0,0.05831736505879695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522177129662963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947661000000058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04600071417897063,0.0,0.05413817145200738,0.11713108301021799,0.061503186637672125,0.0,0.0,0.10117429502069096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0559810040481054,0.07412089380915413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707556394137107,0.0,0.06959530599664901,0.1133416030372396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252661020481831,0.0,0.0,0.12728404720022535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673242796688346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043452556564472125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03326454493207127,0.04699917994203343,0.0,0.0,0.060129321095571515,0.0,0.0,0.07213348336650796,0.0,0.0,0.06874335059437651,0.06311013914064413,0.11216703353964184,0.0,0.2630845964661486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751778330567867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819303136632307,0.13901791756508775,0.06599103635935948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053626251168408016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428168778654941,0.0,0.0580922807199353,0.0,0.11049121799208438,0.0,0.0,0.05593086632785784,0.0,0.0,0.08782841207012146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508592688620753,0.0,0.0,0.06353875722676282,0.06996661125760628,0.06173786986005636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915971939972553,0.05003497230209437,0.0,0.0,0.07305012983142226,0.0,0.0,0.1368279864641337,0.0,0.06873477889142712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227083955169872,0.0,0.139947925896709,0.0,0.0,0.08429134863534625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18773923708606127,0.052317502583045655,0.0,0.33290639672615696,0.0,0.05989120420863455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326230312314244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328265128935852,0.0,0.05253862726107154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0494646196987655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741365631099939,0.08430898191567697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286354700376641,0.07309323017214668,0.13399782677253613,0.07155878684846853,0.12853123380331272,0.0,0.15827046697061645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641094463846265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366063567941916,0.060986420052123215,0.0,0.0,0.15130661348498006,0.0,0.0,0.3831573704985892,0.13362243918283048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042365513002514836
parenting,fuzzypurplellama,2019/02/03,"Child skipped a grade and has now been accepted into GT program, should we decline? My daughter was able to skip Kindergarten and go into 1st grade this year. They recently did GT testing and she was accepted into the program. Here's the thing though....her scores show she's way ahead of other kids her age, which we already knew, that's why she's in 1st grade and not Kindergarten, but the scores also show she's on level with other 1st graders (50-60th percentile), pretty average. Again, that makes sense, we knew 1st grade was where she needed to be and that's why she's there. But doesn't that mean it would not be a good idea to put her in GT classes? It seems to me that she should stay in the normal classes for her current grade level since she is performing at an average acceptable rate there. Wouldn't GT be too difficult, too much? Or does it not work that way in elementary school? 

I have to sign a paper to accept or decline and am trying to figure out what would benefit her the most.",5.058648965247951,5.8556807766497485,5.0550253807106635,85.81120655993755,68.64467005076142,8.091995314330338,27.84420148379539,8.139509932561175,1.6476570870753608,791,25,159,10,13,246,111,197,0.031,0.8240000000000001,0.146,0.9708,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,3,9,7,0,0,9,0,18,0,0,1,0,41,25,11,0,7,7,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,15,14,0,0,10,2,0,2,5,1,0,0,7,0,19,6,21,10,2,25,0,0,0,0,19,13,0,4,7,106,34,13,0.19277862734040585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127360090143825,0.1541649986351228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870187589783375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956053650276304,0.16169356629310838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21762360517215024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868123070029505,0.0,0.0,0.20999244016486715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417144724883513,0.14294290948379346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888821240154307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612516917275044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379576629126136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19034563751175948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951022628282083,0.0,0.17549842207181615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946847265535094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054763667323269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807355397853842,0.0,0.18940402257139613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308840336426913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060374025526367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479054527547282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403451366861858,0.0,0.0,0.27388881154719324,0.0,0.0,0.12414311551165046
parenting,mumthrowaway9021976,2019/02/03,"My daughter may be being bullied by her teacher? Throwaway. 

My daughter is a very quiet 9 year old. She has been well liked by her teachers all throughout school because she is a polite and respectful little girl. She is shy and doesn't have many friends at school and has experienced a little schoolyard bullying by her peers in the past. I think this may be why she is being targeted. 

I first suspected something when I was picking her up at the end of the day. My daughter was the last to leave the classroom, being spoken to by her teacher. While I waited to collect her, 4 children, some of whom are not even in her class or year at school informed me that my daughter had been in trouble today. I asked my daughter about it and she didn't want to talk about it. Eventually she told me that everyone knew she being told off because her teacher made her stand up in an assembly (with her entire year group and two year groups older than her) and had told her off. She is being accused of hurting another student, she says it was an accident in play and I am biased but am inclined to believe her. I went with her the next day and spoke to her teacher about it, and she came home in tears and told me to never get involved again. Apparently her teacher had made her miss her lunch break and berated her for telling her mum about what had happened. 

Outside of this incident, my child has received more lunch time detentions and complains of being told off and punished more than she ever has been before. It mostly seems to be this teacher who is has an issue with her. One incident that particularly concerned me was one where she was daydreaming in class when her teacher hit her desk with a heavy Bible, making her jump and had the entire class laughing at her and tormenting her for the rest of the day. She says that her teacher has made so many comments about her to her class that when she is called to the front in her other lessons the other children laugh at her. 

It is horrible being in this situation as a parent. She's started to pretend she is sick to try to avoid school, she has started to misbehave more, and refuses to speak when this teacher talks to her because she is afraid of the class bullying her. This has made her seem like she is causing issues and being disruptive in class but her other teachers have said she's lovely at my recent parents evening. I have spoken to her head teacher who doesn't seem to see an issue with any of this, but the other mum's I've spoken to say that it is clear she is being targeted by her teacher, and some even say this teacher has made their own children cry. The majority of the parents say their kids love him though, and that he gets along with most of the kids. If this is the case why does my daughter leave his class in floods of tears most days? ",7.928415300546447,6.702602424408018,7.407030965391621,78.17371584699454,63.00728597449909,10.027686703096538,35.998178506375226,8.735056554316923,2.9116550091074687,2237,86,430,26,27,701,222,549,0.111,0.831,0.058,-0.9714,4,1,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,2,2,18,17,1,2,26,0,59,6,1,8,4,64,92,32,0,2,6,11,0,2,1,2,1,9,1,7,31,27,2,3,8,2,0,5,5,7,1,4,29,11,82,10,74,48,12,60,0,2,1,2,114,25,0,12,30,327,113,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956099787449991,0.07642118673568654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813309762684616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328118011885445,0.0,0.062015635653619526,0.0821109664421014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441877669562942,0.08335547056920936,0.0,0.07486798483779215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005541726872564,0.18800665761321905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377790615890286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455017663736283,0.0,0.0,0.1444099455846646,0.06592426376298739,0.0,0.06964010190902789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619918142410469,0.0,0.0,0.056307019362500516,0.0,0.07615373565658946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644476716733548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479605485508814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310472787787199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801970273527249,0.0,0.0,0.2282038100681916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940704548763862,0.0,0.1543391013214065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121111521230904,0.14609010350002075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155435287291856,0.3448047775861773,0.04864806281695254,0.14777805639939054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562096608647282,0.0,0.07750886118336768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647545258392759,0.0,0.09877094502486801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427743292447292,0.0,0.0695723451141787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196035101787164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932570743111864,0.28978608312467946,0.0,0.29503439114293456,0.058076039867184036,0.1990420408966337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819203367166223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610669634481325,0.0,0.0,0.1031698837105798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715660005526407,0.06370045919102625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046698654246334216,0.07160437258559456,0.0,0.042496998728568866,0.0,0.06908185595863316,0.3482005095451395,0.0,0.04948083458430255,0.0,0.07119331192065492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013375238208305,0.042986597873979474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655280030511327,0.06756062471693143,0.13152599044837646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877296960508202
parenting,hisriversong23,2019/02/03,Bossy Children... I have 2 daughters who are 4 years old. My Daughter Mae is the problem right now. She is an extrovert and very much has to control every situation. This has gotten to the point if she doesn't get her way by being in control she is hitting her sister or stopping and giving my Husband and I severe attitude.  ( Her father from my previous marriage is a controlling narcissist so I know she gets it from watching him ) Just trying to find ways to help get her to behave.,3.0831182795698955,5.48755688172043,4.427096774193551,81.727311827957,76.95698924731181,6.713978494623658,28.612903225806452,7.793537801064563,2.1161741935483867,382,17,67,6,9,126,69,93,0.07400000000000001,0.871,0.055,-0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,3,0,13,17,6,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,15,0,9,14,1,9,0,0,1,0,19,3,0,2,4,50,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6303828262494627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784944350473498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123340824119193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29364604493417096,0.1797220394764151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557595087407422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296200037502687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377229239462643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19659104916479486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710517160550346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926749870292935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599948507501574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21165081623468568,0.0,0.0,0.21058789976273648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663198494723055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719753667102954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458237998704186,0.0,0.2974175126674771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064648413004335
parenting,Titantap1,2019/02/03,Ex wife being controlling with me towards my son? My son is currently living in Canada and she’s denying rights for me to have him without her there. She is trying to frustrate me by saying I’m aggressive when I’m not and all these little lies saying that I neeed permission. I have no criminal record at all. All I want is my rights to my own son. ,2.7959624413145576,4.555748056338032,4.3151408450704265,85.20163145539908,75.47887323943662,7.550234741784037,24.509389671361504,8.344100000000001,1.5771953051643202,276,9,55,5,6,92,48,71,0.203,0.779,0.017,-0.9154,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,3,10,9,3,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,14,0,10,8,4,8,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,2,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507157412338933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134040657680565,0.2761167599064819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5340822465767047,0.0,0.4973376538364167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230041412510706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844365117756213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30142829091506435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NatashaD21,2019/02/03,"I'm worried my illness is affecting my son I'm a married 29yo f, I've been sick for alot of my life my immune system was never good to begin with but it got significantly worse wen I was 15 after I developed bacterial meningitis I then caught glandular fever which then led to ME (chronic fatigue syndrome) I'm struggling big time. The condition has become so much worse as I've gotten older I'm exhausted all the time and I'm afraid its having an effect on my son (5) I  take him to his skating lessons every Saturday and I try to do as many activities as I can with him , low energy stuff like colouring, watching movies together, playing games wherever we go, but I feel like it's not enough he plays his playstation when I cant get up. I feel like I'm failing he needs more. Please any advice would be appreciated ",2.4748542944785292,4.778254411042949,4.454290644171781,81.27260161042945,78.50920245398773,7.5105828220858895,26.75191717791411,8.472884824447931,2.15111073619632,651,27,124,14,16,222,116,163,0.189,0.6779999999999999,0.133,-0.8490000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,3,2,12,0,2,5,0,11,8,0,3,2,19,27,11,0,2,3,2,2,3,0,1,8,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,4,3,0,3,3,6,0,0,6,4,20,6,14,19,5,18,0,3,2,0,10,4,0,1,13,69,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18996011476892602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219496727366248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146935193649683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20086154602941247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637858014644092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965834614730445,0.2777510258525012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156313456785464,0.0,0.11047890860681657,0.1630489344341249,0.15547508838364346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730662707376426,0.2849140891649325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708557300391125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429023693573182,0.14414110351179416,0.1499290691703287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133868519351636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20322340231123293,0.2225352633826211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616051686094106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22670606311752856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198114624546156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741711241408355,0.3962093296630997,0.1380923183896095,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quesions-n-answers,2019/02/03,"Adding another baby need help with vehicles! We recently found out we’re expecting our 3rd child. My oldest is in a booster, my middle child is in this big bulky convertible car seat. And soon we will be adding another baby car seat. I’m not big on vans although if it comes down to it I will get one. But what other vehicle options are there to fit all these car seats? Currently have a Jeep Liberty and it’s way to small. ",3.1489579831932772,4.866952164705887,4.555126050420171,84.03235294117653,74.41176470588233,9.092436974789916,26.26050420168067,9.606745405546679,2.419168067226891,334,12,68,9,7,111,64,85,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.8356,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,15,12,5,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,7,7,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,9,8,1,19,0,0,0,0,6,10,0,2,4,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6741079036032409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768888815395934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524382750144256,0.0,0.0,0.16793718236989413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154519537418588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383409185868069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21781353290779468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173795346504246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551411465938637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tetaphilly,2019/02/03,What the hell is Blippi Is anyone else creeped out by the Blippi character? Came across it on Amazon Prime and really dislike it. Dude is super creepy and the whole pretense of the show seems insulting to even a 2 year old’s intelligence ,4.291,6.65657982222222,4.793055555555559,80.73625000000003,73.0,8.055555555555555,24.583333333333336,8.841846274778883,1.9846666666666668,192,6,34,4,4,61,37,45,0.193,0.65,0.157,-0.4576,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,4,1,6,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,2,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474848223930317,0.3626559135796624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048159234405328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956735380411909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337756801349337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37140310944067856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22674462580218346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222159547091273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39516415615705147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22792736261060545
parenting,saydeeyuh,2019/02/03,"Learning to get over it Hi guys! I’m not a parent, my mum passed two years ago leaving me the eldest sister of four and this thread has given me lots of ideas for troubles with the kids. 

But one thing that confuses me, or at least interests me, is the way parents seem to adapt to their children?? 

I think one of the reasons I was so ready to cope with the burdens of my mum passing at 16 and the financial stress and responsibility build up was because of my mothers attitude. She always taught us to move on. As long as you are alive, things could always be worse. From teaching all four of us “not to be silly” from a young age to eventually developing that into a pessimistic optimism in each of us, which has inevitably pushed me and my siblings though a LOT of huge challenges and achievements. 

Naturally, I’ve continued that. Some kid said something mean at school? That was a terrible thing for them to do, but you’re better than that and things could be worse. You didn’t do well in that test? Not ideal and there is room for improvement but you’re alive and you’ll live to taste strawberries and touch soft things so all is good. You want to wear shorts to school in the rain and snow? Tough luck. Have some common sense. This isn’t reasonable and I don’t care if you cry about it. 

Am I doing it wrong? A lot of you seem to just cater to the kid, with a lot more indulgence and what I was always raised to believe is coddling. I just don’t know whether I do what we’ve always done or I adopt the more popular tolerant approach. Am I an asshole? I refuse to pander to their cries and unreasonable demands.

On the one hand it’s given me a lot of great stuff in life. First in my family to ever go to university, great exam results, managing working in an office environment at 16 etc... basically, it did the works. But I feel like things are different in 2019 parenting and I should look at the options of the times.",3.071467430207587,5.017028086614175,3.9337246480553567,87.42345025053687,75.22047244094489,7.242853734192318,24.66881412550704,8.101407402915765,1.349389501312336,1515,50,312,25,33,485,205,381,0.091,0.747,0.161,0.9865,4,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,3,6,3,7,10,20,0,2,23,0,32,4,2,3,3,62,48,27,0,6,13,7,4,1,0,2,1,1,1,5,23,19,1,1,10,0,0,6,7,7,1,7,11,7,36,13,58,30,14,37,0,0,1,0,28,20,0,15,11,225,59,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636207298837135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867171431249753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052513005504816135,0.0,0.0,0.0970555699372113,0.0,0.07618798080077678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878302561211913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755905597751342,0.0,0.1892518012208793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000286959561411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815593010379967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607410441530784,0.0,0.07792280701895536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120955021641699,0.0,0.043557345320158834,0.0615417861473797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732746321631598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04500704678838307,0.0,0.048958014440510025,0.07225408168128059,0.0,0.18994965708905034,0.0,0.08529679007367909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724687323291162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047342870591121314,0.0,0.0,0.09121479195418143,0.0,0.0,0.060846544519904025,0.042085945838114716,0.0,0.07606734247893622,0.07623534280629682,0.07233984632518009,0.0,0.0,0.3661856886473353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938368252489365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155817600472603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751216209844222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28696046231030514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714218430059972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819433303196107,0.0,0.0,0.17436605744767805,0.0,0.1568457869291652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631839359581332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867845518889264,0.0,0.0986150639574371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433842388114224,0.05519804113345359,0.08463672384360077,0.0,0.050231663454242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415084809711791,0.0,0.31086437817951595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508103720745102,0.06837764788204695,0.0,0.0,0.07745442489048655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254287254857383,0.0,0.17557760415741466,0.0,0.09418569896630236,0.0,0.05547435815774788
parenting,g_junkin4200,2019/02/03,"When does a 2 year old start wanting dad again? My 2 year old son never wants me to do anything for him. Or even touch him when him mum is around. He physically pushes my hands away. When his mum is out of the room and left with me, after the initial 10 mins of him freaking out because his mums gone we are eventually the best of buds. Then mum enters and he hates me all over again. 

It's really tiring on my partner. I can never carry him when we are together. I can't even push the buggy. We are on holiday in 36 degree heat and she's doing all the heavy lifting. Now she's sick because she's so tired and the whole thing is ruining the holiday if I'm being honest.

When does this end? I basically don't want to take him on holiday again until his dependency on mummy ends. ",2.4778062678062653,3.8924970370370415,4.42061728395062,85.56431623931627,75.5432098765432,7.453751187084521,22.95536562203229,8.139509932561175,1.1399889838556505,608,17,130,10,13,208,100,162,0.096,0.812,0.092,0.2492,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,15,5,1,0,8,0,12,4,1,1,4,21,20,14,0,4,2,6,2,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,3,11,0,0,0,3,0,4,4,3,0,0,1,2,24,2,19,18,4,38,0,1,0,0,25,12,0,3,22,91,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897162889603984,0.15033660136376556,0.0,0.0,0.15866578276422236,0.0,0.0,0.20589206964188994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17722630779867826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29557132713199485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29915032531444624,0.0,0.0,0.22308372830121112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673137130397428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348568094079293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604971699452365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544166369609815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818712294413582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195322223828327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697471281154055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121945743593058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881992277580729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988246215902442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18854547486640774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750288911013954
parenting,milociepoznac,2019/02/03,"3 yr old might have pneumonia? Hi Reddit parents, 
Not sure if it’s the right place to post this but here goes. This past week my son (3) my daughter (2) my husband and I have had the stomach flu. I work part time at a grocery store bakery and I called in sick because he’s been up ALL NIGHT, coughing and crying and vomiting. Now my coworker says she’s filing a complaint for a no show and will be setting up a meeting with HR? Am I wrong for calling in sick to care for him? What would you guys do? This is my second time calling in sick. 

We’re taking him for a chest X-ray tomorrow. 
Help. ",-0.014005376344083942,2.1953492661290355,1.9081935483870964,96.10562365591394,88.59677419354837,4.5969892473118295,21.16989247311828,6.079149491110277,0.1150898924731183,455,16,102,4,15,150,90,124,0.238,0.705,0.056,-0.9782,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,7,0,11,8,2,0,2,13,13,7,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,13,2,13,7,2,18,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,2,8,63,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336810067602875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5697011254690398,0.0,0.18961301534027425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428384404660208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841436229264783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465453606908634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972891577700632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452411842683696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19514856036046815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065022576692981,0.20139185472931698,0.17753334607642474,0.0,0.0,0.19430337843662893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811180410784275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882088692048393,0.0,0.1478940889489165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17527841224770285,0.0,0.13982939751264556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21688601613490302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917722558537005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539137821038472,0.0,0.0,0.13211068280440402,0.20333351138461545,0.0,0.0
parenting,dkny1022,2019/02/03,"Irresponsible? A friend left her 2 year old son all bundled up in a gated front patio of her home. While leaving her son there, she moved her car from the driveway to the side of the road which took about a minute. Is this a dangerous situation and irresponsible of her? ",4.453461538461539,6.121099730769237,5.364615384615386,79.75538461538463,70.92307692307692,8.276923076923078,26.461538461538463,8.841846274778883,1.828984615384616,214,7,43,4,4,70,39,52,0.175,0.768,0.057,-0.7639,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,8,1,1,12,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,3,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568479232673112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3334717012024677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35201363970392513,0.36120491349254813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533388180753146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488474687436773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736846417595367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693611307929137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21408513144619168
parenting,sam27123,2019/02/03,son wants to wear female shoes my 15 year old son came to me yesterday and said he wanted to wear Tory burch revas and I looked them up and realises they are women's ballet flats what should I say to him?,1.689651162790696,3.5988876744186062,2.872267441860465,93.61677325581397,79.23255813953489,6.16046511627907,15.401162790697676,7.1686216300943375,-0.31201860465116305,162,2,36,2,4,52,35,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,7,7,3,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,5,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,3,18,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500685552373613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33044778499267874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41292066640057706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743164158425015,0.3129335192260206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642026700250653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534063826278482
parenting,lettytrrs259,2019/02/03,"Opinions for 15 year old daughter and Hooters So my daughter, who is a freshman in high school, is at a sleepover with a friend and texted me to let her dad know she's eating at Hooters without her friend's mom present but instead with her friend's father as the accompanying adult. She said she'd said yes to going not really thinking about what Hooters was until she was there. She texted me instead of her dad because she says she knows he's be uncomfortable with that situation. 

What are peoples thoughts on taking girls that age to Hooters and if the Dad of her friend should've checked directly with myself or her dad before taking her? Also, I'm very actively attempting to instill feminist ideals onto my daughter to empower her, so what should address when she comes back or am I exaggerating? 

Thanks! ",9.754511278195489,8.212822947368423,8.870676691729326,70.1397368421053,59.65789473684211,11.317293233082705,41.451127819548866,9.957137785484203,4.136023308270676,656,30,114,10,7,206,95,152,0.034,0.8390000000000001,0.126,0.9392,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,9,6,0,0,5,1,10,1,0,0,0,21,22,13,0,3,6,9,0,0,4,1,0,3,1,2,6,8,1,0,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,5,3,22,6,21,13,0,15,0,0,0,0,36,6,0,4,7,79,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382974880063496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329777163010282,0.0,0.10542066167966947,0.0,0.1471564703867374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489697312020556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695750927749587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5344421380223101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828396274839063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827172128943362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008307353778256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683958399194608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254147762947405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814680693806974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989259500052166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107877355920279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290049776997363,0.13752627610884327,0.0,0.17502126353178954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194388197057972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600538867662186,0.0,0.0,0.15921696089314535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081091176883047,0.0,0.1372924935602563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269096266436368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670489372211073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113656224210667
parenting,ThirstyLakeGeorge,2019/02/03,"Routine reminder NOT to hit your kids in any way shape or form under any circumstance Children deserve freedom from violence, just as adults do. Spanking is an ineffective tool for discipline, and medically indistinguishable from child abuse.",12.983421052631574,13.743287868421055,10.762105263157897,51.74473684210528,51.89473684210528,13.915789473684216,50.57894736842106,13.023866798666859,7.301536842105262,201,12,25,6,2,61,36,38,0.204,0.708,0.08800000000000001,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,7,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,0,16,1,0,0.0,0.5353358045185004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6145096155232115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4551636555114499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586356863608236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shanaynayyyy,2019/02/03,"Toilet training 3 year old with additional needs - help! Hi all,

My 3 year old son has a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder. His development is behind similar aged kids, he is profoundly deaf in one ear, we suspect some mild autism, and there are investigations going on into possible genetic defects underlying all of that. 

Anyway, he's still in nappies. Whilst he does sometimes show knowledge of when he needs a nappy change and can tell us what he's done, often he seems completely unaware. Another aspect of this is that due to the nervousness/anxiety/stress that can come from one of his sensory overloads or shutdowns, his number 2s are usually softer than you'd expect of a child his age - so we suspect he's not as aware as he could be. He eats amazingly well and has a good, varied diet. 

We have sat him on the toilet on occasion which he enjoys as a novelty but gives zero indication that he is aware that's where he should be going. It's hard because our elder son, who is nearly 6, toilet trained very naturally at around 18 months so we're at a bit of a loss with the youngest. 

Any advice from parents that have gone through similar would be hugely welcome! I hate the thought of this still being an issue once he goes to school etc. ",7.474182288299936,7.238929857142861,7.960924369747901,70.59470911441501,63.45378151260504,11.356690368455071,35.53458306399483,10.891193690592663,3.9397436328377484,998,41,177,24,13,331,157,238,0.08,0.8640000000000001,0.056,-0.7015,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,5,1,0,1,11,8,1,0,12,0,22,4,1,0,2,30,33,11,0,6,3,3,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,2,12,12,2,0,5,1,0,4,1,3,1,3,4,3,13,5,31,21,5,30,0,1,0,0,35,13,0,4,13,112,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14218055871845772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894474073992386,0.1525690529425425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295255222681374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869522660920402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884791661420355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391932055883786,0.1253350515577978,0.15255359834933466,0.0,0.0,0.11616961860005096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667551864401208,0.0,0.1273277105075139,0.14889664231434166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888244994382044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227055337007024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395765073203268,0.16538159046103235,0.12203819009318305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033909331957438,0.14365076601921314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752533789119584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186381624946838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613641997526898,0.0,0.0,0.21577227047405845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053547811142173,0.15495236196781378,0.1971886355652085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156012520339802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16402897598606456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472533977973981,0.0,0.13245740251055876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390285876906198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323923918520465,0.0,0.1666693395338478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717309356099782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551045719169492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17501814520235204,0.0,0.1602472911817425,0.12005243627722302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082164506690105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335876564006796,0.0,0.0,0.18739398823212802
parenting,Rejent,2019/02/03,"What does mom say, what does dad say?  **On the following infographic, you will see a comparison of what in the same situation usually say moms and dads. Enjoy!** 

[https://topcoloringpages.net/blog/what-mom-and-dad-say-comparison/](https://topcoloringpages.net/blog/what-mom-and-dad-say-comparison/)",20.951,26.87597326666668,11.8325,16.908750000000026,83.0,9.5,23.75,8.07648339933343,3.7089999999999996,258,6,23,6,8,66,24,30,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,3,2,1,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640593917952965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7068010209445222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5999000395998609,0.0,0.0,0.12022598960053267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16958720967697966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661649380077309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Catfish_Hunter803,2019/02/03,"12 year old daughter ""catfished"" from online Minecraft servers  

Throwaway  account, obviously.  I'll try to make this short.  My 12 year old  daughter (I'm her father) loves Minecraft and has been playing on the game servers  through her hand me down iPhone.  She made a ""friend"" on there who would  play with her in creating worlds and other assorted Minecraft games.   The would chat in game, mostly innocuous stuff about whatever challenge  they were attempting.  Fast forward a month and a half.

Unbeknownst  to me, the ""friend"" asked her if he could give her his phone number.   Please keep in mind that when I say everything she did wrong in this  situation that she had been told repeatedly never to take these actions  and also that I discovered most of this information within the past two  days.  So, she began a text message relationship with him; that was  about two weeks ago.  He spent quite a bit of time flattering her with  attention as well as asking for details about her in a roundabout way.   Over the next two weeks she told him her real name, her location, and  her age.  The ""friend"" said he was 14 years old so I guess she felt  safe.

At some point the ""friend"" said  that they should pretend to be boyfriend and girlfriend.  My daughter  agreed to this.  Either yesterday or the day before he asked her if he  could call her on the phone.  She agreed.  My daughter hid all of this  from me but she couldn't hide talking with someone that she knew she  wasn't supposed to be talking to.  I confiscated her phone, found the  messages, and confronted her the next day.  I don't believe anything  more than what I described happened.  I don't believe any pictures were  shared and I hope that their live discussions did not get graphic.

I  would like to find out what I can do through the legal or law  enforcement system to prevent this from happening to someone else... perhaps someone here has had a similar experience.  The  ""friend"" gave his real name and location and I was able to find  information about him through a simple Google search.  He is a 42 year  old career criminal living in South Carolina.  My family and I live in  California.

Any advice would be appreciated. I'm willing to call and make a report to any authority that will listen.",5.332640243902444,7.302374078048782,4.977118902439023,82.19958079268295,69.1951219512195,8.246951219512196,30.617378048780488,8.841846274778883,2.510664634146341,1772,73,323,32,32,541,216,410,0.028,0.8690000000000001,0.103,0.9677,0,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,0,0,3,3,11,17,1,0,23,0,32,2,1,3,3,60,60,23,0,11,7,5,2,1,6,7,0,4,0,0,20,17,0,3,8,7,2,2,6,2,1,4,23,6,51,15,49,24,7,49,0,0,0,1,83,20,0,9,28,211,71,4,0.07915469004390037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734904700894348,0.07016585680321116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329997703030528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148371067949435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513756548944477,0.0,0.22199685027997199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735481120896136,0.17836045973255496,0.0,0.0,0.08641642064295611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165157711943642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639715824861045,0.0,0.0,0.1531446803225719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612358662369604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113913148757993,0.07742847545712421,0.07461999718637853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600091555514625,0.0,0.14469190538401225,0.0,0.0,0.08678903204059857,0.3057735858810957,0.0,0.04135505855858595,0.07593239134361739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871978150620189,0.0,0.1399924619868856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861846739218573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035632544933712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03867098329761883,0.0,0.2096851244697344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144019817005096,0.07489808159987606,0.1056727405010897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992367247866211,0.0,0.06318051841324854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104897669371132,0.0,0.16836382170413586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322381277960621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556210818677166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688807996089604,0.07482676714834621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419075620507352,0.0,0.1801907328739481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498251429134766,0.0,0.0,0.15058847294676264,0.06294698655953541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897318806084993,0.0,0.0,0.2012025360225563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061318250659266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059514475990292234,0.1272430830618366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046155736309753774,0.0,0.0,0.1512713968733347,0.0,0.05374083868949312,0.0,0.23196789163975326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282930860929774,0.12698623563183134,0.0,0.07116957244558512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249168829927273,0.08654322765158963,0.0,0.2038921007992716
parenting,invisablecat,2019/02/03,"6 year old left out bu older cousins :( My child  (6F) has always been close to 2 older cousins - 10 and 11 years old. All girls.
She also got along well with her 6 year old boy cousin.

For some reason this year there has been no playdates or sleepovers during the school holidays.

All these kids are still having playdates and sleepovers but my little girl has not been included.  

I don't have family here. All these kids are from my husbands side. So my little girl has been really lonely. We have tried organising playdates but theres always an excuse, meanwhile we can see photos of the other cousins playing.

I can't bring it up with the parents and not sure why this is happening. I think the 2 older cousins are getting to an age where they don't want to play with a 6 year old but I grew up with a huge group of cousins of all ages and we never left anyone out. It really sucks.

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parenting,ShastaBeast87,2019/02/03,Quick healthy breakfast ideas for 1.5 to 2 year old Can't seem to find anything other than bananas and pears that my nearly 2 year old will eat in the morning for breakfast. As many ideas as you have and I will try them. Thanks internet...,5.343546099290776,5.955153425531917,4.5795744680851085,90.13333333333335,67.93617021276596,7.117730496453903,30.56028368794326,6.42735559955562,1.3744666666666665,189,7,39,1,3,56,37,47,0.0,0.88,0.12,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,6,6,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,9,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,5,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026209201303874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24901498550090845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22242390740140894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5494409078901313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467258217805857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5107245106490536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22154309106345965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22405044787408385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522344213550794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134278840802862
parenting,It_matches,2019/02/03,"Daughter cheered me up tonight This evening I made the mistake of reading an email from my boss that got me down. My 5 year old, sensing I was off, suggested we sing “if you’re happy and you know it” together. 

After singing a couple of verses including some silly ones like “pick your nose”, I was laughing and feeling better. I love that girl. ",2.481103896103896,5.02599840909091,3.1053246753246766,89.59227272727274,80.06060606060606,5.58961038961039,29.12554112554113,6.868970318607317,1.6088813852813857,269,13,51,3,7,84,56,66,0.032,0.6679999999999999,0.299,0.9584,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,1,1,8,0,0,3,0,2,2,1,3,0,11,7,3,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,2,11,7,7,3,1,7,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,2,5,33,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840076572020613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553170664977311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21209905606435425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236970015870744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568318137633591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418419578118312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648108823048958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688473106894502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898265138789658,0.30385483862521745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369651149609148,0.0,0.2176016075784402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212104201192449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679301813192827
parenting,QuietZ86,2019/02/03,"I've single handedly ruined my 14 year old She'll be 14 soon. 

She doesn't like life.

She doesn't have any friends.

She says she has a low status in school but I think it's just her perception because kids do seem to like her. She can't see how talented and beautiful she is. I always tell her but she doesn't believe it.

She's inherited my timidness but she's very brave and goes for what she wants.

Who she is I know its because of me. 

She' has retained a great amount of her childlike spirit. For instance she's into fantasy like mermaids, leprechauns,  possibly  believes in Santa and so on and when she talks to people she has this little voice. She has another side which is pretty mature. 

She's very disorganized/messy and doesn't stay on top of her hygiene unless I get on her to do so. This is all my fault because she doesn't have chores . She doesn't have much of a routine. I clean everything. I'm disorganized myself in time management so much so that shes usually late to school 2 to 3 times a week. 

I just feel if I was more open to her father's side of the family she would have had more love, experiences, cousins and siblings to grow up with. If I was more open to my extended family shed'd have more love. Maybe she'd be secure with herself. I feel I was so selfish, I wanted her to myself. I believed  I could be everything that she needed and now it has come back to bite me.

She's heavily dependent on me since I've spoiled her and I'm the only one she spends the majority of her time with. She has a difficult time sometimes listening to adults if they have a firm voice. She finds it easier to connect with adults than with her peers.

At school she acts out a bit because she's seeking attention. She's lonely and it's difficult because I can not fulfill all of her emotional needs. She has even latched onto a male teacher assistant at school. She really feels a connection with him.

I don't think she's ready for high school. 

I look at her and see a mess that I've made. I feel so guilty.  Because of this o don't want to have more kids.I  wish I was a better parent. Sometimes i think if she could get away from me she would become happier. She'd grow be more confident.

I want her to be more studious, assertive, and confident but how can I want these things from her when I have not set the foundation?

I want her to be successful and happy.

Do you think it is too late to fix This? ",1.9643474312402704,4.043657762195121,3.3624718906763533,89.60013751946032,79.10162601626017,7.0327624978377425,23.27296315516347,8.058908269544373,1.2274589517384542,1897,63,404,35,47,620,214,492,0.116,0.7240000000000001,0.16,0.9894,1,2,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,1,1,3,17,22,0,1,15,0,53,4,1,4,2,69,84,31,0,17,13,3,5,3,1,3,1,4,2,4,19,23,0,2,13,1,2,4,11,9,0,1,6,12,90,13,52,65,15,44,1,3,3,2,72,23,0,6,18,277,109,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783928488476991,0.0,0.0,0.05544302714127967,0.08549105369275667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659988580892968,0.0626913467646122,0.0,0.2981986805618164,0.0900432056279975,0.0,0.2755683341510243,0.0,0.07210644020802613,0.08900937317453013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023066221920768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018974568773406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170999740689297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053849632277351636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654736807607174,0.07975174179885311,0.15371798846626122,0.0,0.16489556924529278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745167163013545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298968415980821,0.0,0.08519186081784941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988683941658572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678993705446647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614065929280615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04480661951760511,0.0,0.18393822290714776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758687496604095,0.11949395581605855,0.081714230148617,0.0,0.0,0.06846445789584722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716756864654434,0.0771454226590115,0.0,0.0,0.08190759423775752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986749732203265,0.12090655611169543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555175995425064,0.0,0.05524666996869718,0.06200705027510935,0.0,0.0,0.09052914121170932,0.0,0.0,0.05652246449075767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191254532119042,0.0,0.08294506826933384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05223004682636657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483573116316656,0.0,0.4125623085003738,0.12993731331915054,0.07422162418677299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674422533680713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127001889695342,0.0,0.0,0.08689986776422122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553052637370446,0.07126059682622325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416474449992238,0.20896389224421916,0.0,0.0,0.1901626161682481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979350340266233,0.13454116778961092,0.2885301605920137,0.0,0.06539824926377467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375519119580868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583279325040882,0.0,0.0,0.052502487236667804
parenting,Dr_Pepper_queen,2019/02/03,"I just don't have the patience for my toddler My son is almost 20 months old and is the absolute opposite of me. My husband and I are generally reserved, quiet, longer type people. We aren't energetic, outgoing, etc. A great day to us is sitting together reading, playing card games or video games, and just relaxing overall. 

Our son? I have never ever seen him sit still longer than 4 seconds since he was 6 months old. He doesn't play with toys, just picks them up, throws them, grab next toy, repeat until he screams about having no more toys. He runs around the apartment all day. We have tried to see what would happen of we didn't force a nap on him. The result? He never runs his eyes, never gets tired, just keeps running and eating and screaming. He doesn't speak yet due to needing tubes (getting them Wednesday) so I have absolutely no way to communicate with him except frustrating points and grunts on his end. 

I am a daycare teacher. I work in every room, infant to 4 year olds. I enjoy it. I have so much patience for those kids. 

My son? Zero. I am tired of him after 5 minutes. I hate going places knowing we have to bring him. I dread family parties knowing I have to chase him around for 5 hours while everyone oohs and awwws at his ""free spirit."" Someone asked me what would be a dream vacation for us and I replied, ""one where he is being watched by family members so my husband and I can sleep at home for a week.""

He was a shit sleeper his entire life so far. I blame it on we can't afford to give him his own room so we room share. Finally the last few days he slept through the night and took long naps. I decide to go to bed early because we have to get up early annnnnd now he's awake and screaming at me. 

I'm tired of the tantrums, tired of the lack of sleep, tired of him. We want a 2nd kid but our son is a nightmare to us. We won't say it out loud but we hope if we have a 2nd they aren't anything like him. 

I love him but I really don't like him.",1.492351485148518,3.5811771460396082,2.865336633663368,92.50874752475252,80.75742574257426,5.624158415841586,22.228712871287126,6.742157984588678,0.4740170297029706,1533,49,331,16,40,497,220,404,0.08199999999999999,0.8290000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.7187,1,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,16,0,4,1,17,19,4,1,17,0,34,13,5,2,5,56,56,23,0,7,10,6,1,2,0,3,6,7,5,3,6,27,1,1,3,13,1,8,14,8,0,3,6,12,62,12,45,45,7,63,1,0,4,1,63,20,1,4,34,210,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052071641003087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438999735737928,0.16094708635147312,0.08451009276334155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055105889735318485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489803739040422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249990313770584,0.0,0.0,0.08006595334018911,0.0,0.10081786318331898,0.0,0.08177032661098094,0.07616436307677348,0.08637933218027581,0.0,0.0,0.17043871234032704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902678442226608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168794951598196,0.08671816867804978,0.10275073458408107,0.0,0.0,0.0996643094237938,0.0,0.0,0.07993880949499856,0.0,0.0,0.08924948472737022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067674228220443,0.08978578701246691,0.08902399515084818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035005338201069,0.0,0.0,0.09936094807251188,0.07368657964815899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385090590142405,0.08832796631870694,0.0,0.0,0.07999954209881797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158788424387645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14430992507882484,0.0,0.06645306154103406,0.06702910291368998,0.20916194122968004,0.0,0.09613948692692917,0.08483256549976306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845730408757909,0.0,0.06125614434918573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626707138326952,0.0,0.09444685483376668,0.0,0.08545549666465062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042264016452307,0.0,0.05791138704963447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718882587740806,0.0,0.0,0.07203564328432008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279242977130114,0.07477830627420087,0.0,0.18092692323275786,0.0,0.07659408213243388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219210103126839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194970325321314,0.0,0.0,0.10043570097613064,0.061374428381769326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262136299745339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0533191870096194,0.07175386532014315,0.07251196496287719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581094959061824,0.0,0.0,0.12843254277111596,0.0,0.0,0.05821346225361365
parenting,LiveshipTrader,2019/02/03,"Is my my toddler is addicted to Mario. HELP! My son has always been WAY WAY WAY more into screen time than my older daughter. First he was obsessed with our phones in general. After that he moved onto YouTube which I shut down quickly because it was weird and he seemed WAY to into like almost addicted. During the YouTube phase he found blippi which I loved and I let home continue to watch and be into. Then Christmas happened. I asked for a switch for myself and my children of course wanted to check it out. 

My son is obsessed with video games now. This obsession has been his longest yet. To be honest, it scares me. I have cut back on screen time but it hasn’t changed his obsession or outlook. He wakes me up screaming about MARIO he goes to bed taking about yoshi. I always wanted a “gamer” that I could share an interest in but I’m scared because my nearly 3 year old is utterly obsessed with Mario and  Nintendo no matter how much or little time he gets. Over that last few weeks he averages 1 hour a day and it’s still all he talks about. Is this a concern? Should I schedule his 3 year old check up a month early to discuss this? Is this normal? I have read that video games can also be beneficial in regards to problem solving and is definitely getting better at them. Has anyone ran across this? Please help! ",2.645537264292127,5.091395081712065,3.3249221789883268,88.83013094881773,78.72762645914398,5.8215504340017965,23.892397485782706,7.010146845296331,0.9532718946423228,1044,36,200,12,26,328,152,257,0.099,0.759,0.141,0.9398,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,1,2,10,17,1,7,7,0,24,4,1,1,1,31,36,14,0,6,4,3,0,1,0,1,2,1,2,1,16,14,0,0,2,6,2,2,2,11,0,1,6,4,24,6,35,24,4,48,0,0,3,1,28,18,0,4,25,131,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786661998681855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798447866131446,0.0,0.0,0.10221058975040896,0.21269835442008048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936857966243325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948624130351047,0.0,0.0,0.09827894203086776,0.0,0.15582507184313632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303864126359815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520732795353574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204686236442967,0.0,0.0,0.08242766599748763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871616194255516,0.0,0.14013841023180448,0.0,0.0,0.13355217877605546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130230433846832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713383387629198,0.0,0.12820507888079746,0.0,0.12586831014592054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041832063931832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306956361362393,0.0,0.06244210810985777,0.12810042377979522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535461985003788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201769970094984,0.13584310416640002,0.09395595587481484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522786274347425,0.0,0.0,0.2682327590999719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402983430915322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229808019827282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12784581165062134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559226643813016,0.0,0.0,0.11635453818335012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207020868129113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609813423379354,0.102729820543095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235832578418969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077274291910214,0.405802402328979,0.10252245453343482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646124757530807
parenting,taylorjes,2019/02/03,"Bedtime My 2.5 yr old old can't communicate why he doesn't want to go to sleep, but he's really good at getting pissed at me and my wife ever single night. 

We try to follow a general schedule, but we're not schedule people. I'm lucky if we get our food on the table by 7pm.

My wife is amazing when it comes to patience and persistence, but she's 20 weeks into the next one and I just can't do the tears and screaming. 

He's been seeing a counselor of sorts for almost 1 year, but we're still behind in communication and sensory skills; the kids is wearing 4 yr old clothes and benches 100 lbs :) 

I'm running out of steam. The worst part is I can't ""fix"" this. 

Thanks for listening...

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parenting,RedfieldStandard,2019/02/03,What do you guys do with all those baby teeth? My son just lost another babytooth.  After switching it out for some tooth fairy money I added it to the collection.  We recently moved and tried to get rid of a lot of clutter which leaves me wondering about the wisdom of keeping all these teeth. I can't remember ever overhearing what everyone else does with baby teeth.  Is there a cultural norm?  Are we all just making this up as we go along?,4.035546218487397,5.973747647058822,4.6939495798319335,83.03705882352945,72.52941176470588,8.621848739495798,26.26050420168067,9.23628265651192,2.2684621848739495,350,12,66,8,7,112,67,85,0.027000000000000003,0.926,0.047,0.3899,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,4,0,5,4,4,1,4,20,11,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,8,0,1,2,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,8,1,14,10,5,7,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,3,3,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692507958035664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470538238777205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145024201963057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23226753259328475,0.0,0.24535935203020345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415424965768127,0.0,0.14593105215007834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25424744983482783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282332652474953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718874675299338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803000572242648,0.21830077643994406,0.0,0.0,0.171399191602055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729110056852325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535341651377178,0.0,0.2908758249015548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743332530928461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27846134772227804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Adevomi,2019/02/04,"How do you help your kids adjust to their sibling leaving for college? My oldest is a senior who has been accepted to two schools so far. He's waiting to hear back from his number 1. 

He is my oldest of 3 and is very close to his 14 year old brother. They share a room by choice and do a lot together. They have always been exceptionally close. 

The younger one is having a hard time with his brother's college acceptances. We have taken all of the kids along on some of the tours and have left them at home for others. We have told him that he can still communicate with his brother through text and FaceTime. The oldest has promised to stay in contact, but the younger one is worried that he'll forget about him or will be too busy or will be out doing his own thing. 

I don't like seeing my son like this. He is normally so happy go lucky. I'm not sure how to make this better. We try to enjoy our time as a family but the boys are busy. It's soccer season for one and basketball for the other and next season will be track and baseball. We are always running around doing something and they want to spend time with friends. We have a vacation planned for the summer. 

Any tips? Should we take them all to college dropoff? I know it can be boring but maybe it'll give closure? Right now the younger one says that if his brother goes too far then he's not coming to dropoff. ",2.989645267618897,4.7099950685920575,3.5907110343745114,90.76971433056038,74.84837545126354,6.117030293517503,24.678857322241413,6.7026698264267655,0.7382363522210018,1082,35,226,9,23,340,157,277,0.058,0.82,0.122,0.9628,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,7,2,6,2,11,13,0,0,15,0,34,0,0,3,3,50,48,20,0,4,9,5,1,2,1,6,0,2,2,3,12,23,0,1,4,1,1,3,3,1,0,5,4,4,28,12,33,34,5,33,0,0,1,0,46,12,0,6,19,157,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482144423243665,0.0,0.0,0.1014291356846024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277776741349226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468942886244335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191368301295728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848207853621685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060814779808478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152352162354888,0.0,0.0,0.14308112178077576,0.08476707126202483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877611226248067,0.13361176635015296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681062396367692,0.0,0.09997409317240696,0.0,0.14961259218159828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197057276542183,0.0,0.0,0.1579314614387846,0.1620551405755992,0.0,0.0,0.14573721629679814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268045230977261,0.0,0.0,0.0995607670521208,0.0,0.14984420797174233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862587790573496,0.0,0.14613824445935275,0.0,0.0,0.15651095396260395,0.0,0.40427965595012055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737582319437488,0.0,0.11861242995628107,0.0,0.15095077063741788,0.11885560784367935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482524485853628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589772227979355,0.1191137561681414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057491102812006,0.0,0.11214447268427603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909060710565028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609168924207349,0.0,0.0,0.14252205662821518,0.0,0.10126507738095522,0.0,0.14570078094314787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306682252507267,0.08797428735030892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514720832000984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604962384426134
parenting,momma_b_seeks,2019/02/04,"Trouble with ""no""! First time posting! I(31F) need some advice dealing with our 15 month old son. Recently he has started thinking that when we say ""no"" that it's funny and he laughs and keeps doing the bad behavior. We remove him from the situation (when appropriate) when saying no and say it in a stearn voice. Tonight when changing a dirty diaper he kept trying to flip over and get away. I told him ""no, stop"" and tried repeatedly to straighten him back out without making a huge mess. The whole time he was cracking up laughing and Everytime he would laugh harder and try and flip more like it was a game. How do I get him to understand that I'm being serious?!",3.739026485325698,5.850392795275598,4.429262705798141,83.87069434502506,73.8031496062992,7.452827487473158,26.50608446671439,8.296473431620573,1.8179984251968508,523,19,99,9,11,167,87,127,0.11,0.758,0.132,0.639,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,2,0,24,18,13,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,6,13,0,3,2,1,0,1,5,4,0,1,4,4,9,4,12,12,3,23,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,1,16,63,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17402887527107275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732275226995005,0.13694130968197735,0.14869889749972956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883971091461528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18360443489570288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151484471570069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609083385055575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829583762988028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700647246672485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887740629881467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14215087300596765,0.0,0.0,0.13205253194862893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18687698794734445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056235212834164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584379294905553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248763377030098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018221873788605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605402428676138,0.0,0.0,0.14889240221011046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411379144402073,0.0,0.0,0.20769307930493092,0.0,0.0,0.17017398453213406,0.0,0.3627371535233755,0.0,0.0,0.18539944980322096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883271133242603,0.0,0.17167377446174548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651103565689056,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,asileenerredees,2019/02/04,"How did you get your toddler to sleep in their own bed and not lose your sanity at the same time? I am expecting baby #2 in May and my husband and I decided to transition our 2.5 y/o into a toddler...the only problem is that he is not taking well to it. He was an amazing crib sleeper and would have no issues putting himself to sleep. Ever since we turned his bed into a toddler bed, it has taken 1-2 hours to get him to settle down. 

I have tried a couple different methods so far and nothing seems to work. For about a week and a half, I would lay in my bed with my bedroom door open, it is directly across from his room, but he would just constantly run from room to room. 

I have tried sitting in his room until he fell asleep, but that was too big of a distraction. 

Currently, we are doing the cry it out method - this worked really well when we did sleep training in the crib- but he just stands at the top of the stair gate screaming his head off. We have only been on this method for 3 days and I am not sure we can take anymore/continue to put him through it. 

What has worked for parents in the past? Is the cry it out method worth it since it worked while sleep training in the crib? I am losing my mind and am running out of ideas here. ",3.3717829457364346,4.15022323255814,4.269767441860466,89.97968992248066,72.48837209302326,7.438759689922483,25.573643410852714,7.594959193182576,1.0794015503875976,966,29,215,11,18,312,141,258,0.109,0.8590000000000001,0.033,-0.9637,3,0,4,0,0,0,28.0,6,3,1,7,11,9,0,1,15,0,26,6,6,1,2,42,33,16,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,11,0,13,20,0,0,3,0,1,5,4,5,2,1,6,1,28,4,39,23,2,45,0,2,0,0,24,27,0,2,11,150,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494882021641784,0.0,0.0,0.12793611761643914,0.25401578583482465,0.07456812497069018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080281138796835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458882257228204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208178763351664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866391619435193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138666704586379,0.0,0.0,0.13052579032210726,0.0,0.1206817563022022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587080906905639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674760856764115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094465929533798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587502045681286,0.0,0.0,0.12838713091419504,0.0,0.11037650242473744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063686466845073,0.0,0.2324687667611747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407190402778202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10526004393266997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129127475242053,0.0,0.4628313144098079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089745589886778,0.0,0.17387020719994886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742147437332822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700265527945406,0.1257660644324201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274686004313264,0.0,0.20792031016897636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33670354591061336,0.0,0.0,0.2464086115058651,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PatientAstronomer,2019/02/04,"Need advice (I am 16) Hello to all of those that are reading. I am 16, I consider myself to be a good kid. I dont drink, I rarely smoke weed. But my dad does smoke weed daily in front of me all of the time. I have been caught with JUUL vapes near 10 times, I dont understand what the big deal is to him, I mean he is kind of a hypocrite in my eyes. At this point I am addicted. I know its bad, but what is the big deal if I have good grades? I rarely go out with friends, maybe 1 time a month, and if I do I am always honest about what I do. Let me know your thoughts. Thank you for reading.",0.3770454545454561,1.4667256439393983,2.3203030303030303,99.80045454545456,80.43939393939394,5.70909090909091,18.060606060606066,6.11248444174946,-0.5907212121212124,443,8,119,3,11,148,80,132,0.018000000000000002,0.8420000000000001,0.14,0.9468,0,0,3,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,0,1,7,0,0,6,0,17,3,1,0,2,16,26,5,0,3,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,4,1,0,5,3,0,3,2,1,0,0,3,1,23,6,16,21,2,15,0,0,1,0,10,8,0,2,4,76,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175066253161645,0.0,0.16291797828072616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872535260293575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920519635315765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437643700218201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589880193166507,0.0,0.3907918923923867,0.16332325565424588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880834696679874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475147166960958,0.2796755812781771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361442204588012,0.18325116787664766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048367164003872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674938040810929,0.1816082083954728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307523136548133,0.0,0.0,0.12362162025359967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576053758449239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33353253434228897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15349443528247675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235797021460347,0.2916493300081876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735625969497972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alwaystimeforwhatif,2019/02/04,"How to get a child interested in 'learning'? Hey parents! I'm looking for fun, casual activities to suit 3/4 year olds to help them start to enjoy learning.
My son is almost 4 and dislikes doing any standard learning activity such has drawing, painting, counting etc. He will do it for like 30 seconds then just stop and says he is finished or doesn't want too.
I've been trying to work in more games and physical activities that are introducing the alphabet, numbers, shapes etc but I'm struggling to find ideas that keep him engaged and doesn't end with me trying to force him to pay attention/play.

He has an older sister 7 who has always loved and thrived learning new things so they are complete opposites!

Any ideas or advice on how you helped encourage a love for learning would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you! ",5.868433014354067,7.511576776315793,6.179354066985649,75.37138755980862,67.42105263157895,8.685167464114832,34.21291866028708,9.095868883498916,3.198755263157893,658,31,112,12,11,211,112,152,0.056,0.716,0.229,0.9864,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,2,1,6,12,0,1,4,0,15,2,0,2,0,26,25,12,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,2,8,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,8,11,15,21,3,13,0,0,1,2,22,4,0,3,10,66,13,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16132270716937186,0.0,0.0,0.16531242475180186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373669724551133,0.0,0.0,0.22453187102666766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17309229683698513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621953307104607,0.0,0.3682349429413711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150888025028573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625199998970373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820108070889669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22131086933438787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727299570896885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673836752848535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065396996749173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386328779542383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979978840121057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944363608359965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323275552039855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833113964620489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312851117449989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685058824783574,0.0,0.0,0.13802149421509569,0.0,0.17258648985814062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15199143824713512,0.0,0.0,0.10967755598245534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22416869808206227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737355646224444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018649524119462,0.0,0.0,0.11727423237770553,0.0,0.0,0.10631167074232263
parenting,concerned918273,2019/02/04,"Should I report this to CPS? We recently got a new neighbor. He seems to have a 10ish year old that he has custody of and I believe he has shared custody with his 2 year old.

One day as I was leaving the house, his children's mother was blocking the driveway. Children's mother does not live with them. She seems very wirey and strung out... but anyway, I get out of my car to knock on their door to ask her to move. I noticed their 2 year old asleep in the backseat with the windows rolled down. I get to the porch and I can smell weed. The porch door and the front door were open, so I knock on the front door. The mother comes flying out eating potato salad or something like that. I ask her to move her car and she says she will and proceeds to tell me she is waiting for their eldest son to get home from school. That's the end of that and I go on my way. 

I didn't think much of it. Yeah it's concerning they're using drugs and left their son in the car, but idk... Now I believe they have an open case with CPS because I noticed a contact card for CPS in a different neighbor's door today. This particular neighbor is never home. He's a truck driver.

So I guess I'm unsure as to whether I should report this. If I should call the number on the card in my neighbor's door? Is that ""overstepping""? Should I just let it play it's course? I have no experience with this sort of thing at all and I'm not a mandated reporter. I'm concerned over the actions I've witnessed by these parents. I'm just not sure what to do or if reporting it is even necessary. ",1.2659259259259237,3.2901413796296315,2.489614197530866,95.24701388888893,81.19135802469134,5.161111111111111,21.544753086419753,6.158741222570753,0.10144938271604964,1213,37,271,9,32,388,159,324,0.033,0.922,0.045,0.5141,2,0,2,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,6,0,7,4,0,0,21,1,21,4,1,1,3,48,39,20,0,6,12,6,0,1,4,5,1,1,16,2,17,21,2,2,3,1,0,10,6,0,0,1,5,2,38,4,41,28,2,42,0,0,0,0,39,17,0,8,15,169,55,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218470728265948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232911439063315,0.0,0.0,0.26736018450106924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121156885187297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220813033403013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652067812151363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396601161724355,0.0,0.0,0.10383310230406148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759856768836573,0.12141054445005316,0.0,0.0,0.10509039098639217,0.0,0.0,0.07836847981105716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606435369640825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859722065561253,0.0,0.06743262536137176,0.0,0.0948967863659138,0.0,0.13070847629586074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380351173568297,0.0,0.0,0.13690839509807018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563526040738074,0.12891566760092146,0.12132963591341354,0.0,0.057967338976319165,0.0,0.10477182676291212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25221644512562497,0.08722281979105148,0.0,0.09151168200007156,0.11459477201432455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701720142744932,0.3735157190067725,0.0,0.08040161755925207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174892520753725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715446522277885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435677596693216,0.0,0.12008208627308672,0.0,0.21603251909563664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134405144940122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182803852295033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037070153968081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882706912371136,0.07602736489562154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246815471231814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247717038702096,0.0,0.09790026733488706,0.0,0.09418037813450657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292238555972982
parenting,giraffebaconequation,2019/02/04,"Withholding snuggles Tonight my 4 year old daughter was in a terrible mood. She broke her wrist over the weekend and today was her first day back to school since that happened. 

Usually at bed time my wife and I take turns snuggling with our daughters, each will get a few minutes with one of us then we switch places. Tonight was different because my wife got called back to work right at bedtime. I was snuggling with my 2 year old while the 4 year old was looking at a book in her room, waiting for me to come and finish it with her. 

When I went in, I finished the chapter with her then told her it was time for bed. She instantly began screaming at me for not using the correct  bookmark in the book. I looked for the one she wanted but it is nowhere to be seen. She went apeshit. Scream and kicking. I got up and turned off her light, and told her I would be back when she calmed down. She would not calm down.

I left the room and she started talking about how no one loves her and I’m hurting her heart. I came back in to talk to her once she had calmed down a bit. She then started asking if she could snuggle with me. This is where I want to know if I have been a bad parent. I told her that the way she was acting tonight did not deserve snuggles. She was livid. 

Is it horrible for me to refuse snuggle time after she acted out in such a way? I feel bad for not snuggling with her, especially since she has a freshly broken wrist and is in a cast, but I also don’t want to condone that sort of behaviour. What would you do as a parent? Am I a horrible dad, because I kind of feel like it right now. ",2.557729370708092,4.110919981762919,3.1859304289091535,93.9241798941799,75.62613981762918,5.968298998086232,25.559045367556013,6.42735559955562,0.6731228413824155,1250,44,277,9,27,391,160,329,0.149,0.799,0.052000000000000005,-0.9877,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,1,0,2,12,14,0,0,18,0,27,4,3,2,1,46,58,22,0,9,8,7,2,1,0,4,0,2,4,0,10,21,0,3,3,3,0,6,6,7,0,4,21,8,55,6,46,30,3,67,0,2,3,1,47,25,0,3,35,195,65,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703007970454576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004971709567082,0.0,0.0,0.2962681168909266,0.16085263989482554,0.11743614564160493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516060324510926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835733324132344,0.11016872569398947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297439406514921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07690668805185498,0.0,0.0,0.062120859464278186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063783247964683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974083791168784,0.06881371663620886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193294491360491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050325191357161375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540778276974306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851787868716181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414412476478247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311658215920216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030637807171468,0.052937021908988566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465605201594406,0.0,0.0,0.047058925854627134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177540491290365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693595823127946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30322676246115265,0.10258166557113536,0.19581442719970016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391228275291785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063783247964683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451993723192512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09748479219828683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936002682524947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363569126390389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242348329623678,0.15484278652127878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16850148516136912,0.0,0.09130366594498772,0.2761244546564116,0.0,0.0,0.2095451915158814,0.0,0.0,0.11586562871340653,0.08319280560739359,0.10608701812561204,0.0,0.1704427559711584,0.15291464158474016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785861895164821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012484779809988,0.0,0.0,0.20527691600345854,0.0,0.0,0.18608803880184552
parenting,rockstar_from_mars,2019/02/04,My wife and I are flying with a one-and-half year old for the first time on a six hour flight. Any tips / suggestions on how to prepare?  We'll be flying with a 1 1/2 year old boy on a flight. He won't have his own seat so one of us will have to hold him the entire flight. We have lots of youtube videos downloaded on the iPad and will try to delay his nap time until we're in the air. What other tips / tricks / suggestions do you guys have?,2.162977443609023,3.0008647263157897,3.117593984962408,96.88315789473684,75.42105263157895,6.69172932330827,18.83458646616541,6.868970318607317,-0.2379624060150376,339,5,85,3,7,108,64,95,0.048,0.952,0.0,-0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,8,0,11,0,0,1,0,9,11,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,5,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,9,0,14,6,2,16,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,10,52,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542756666274195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942805011420088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554295773903292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540472122358637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193157693666563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5413895252957793,0.0,0.34961254385088164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008472547829104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514381832154405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31030459128068144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33224677852457235
parenting,sun2865892shine,2019/02/04,"My step son has no friends I'm a step mom to 3 kids, two of whom have serious issues making friends. I'm most concerned about my step son, hes eleven and has NEVER had friends unfortunately hes easily bullied and is constantly picked on because he tells on kids ALOT I feel terrible for him but we have tried everything and he fails to see that his behaviour is affecting him making friendships; for example there is one instance where he told on a boy from his class that was misbehaving and then went back to the boy and said "" I told the teacher why you did, in case she call on you, you'll know why"" WHAT THE HELL! I couldn't believe my ears! No wonder these kids don't like him! He does this with everyone! He'll awkwardly sit next to someone and stare at them or stand in a room just staring at people. I dont know what to do, hes not in the spectrum and is such a sweet child, maybe too sweet at times where he wants to help but instead gets in the way. I feel terrible and of course I dont tell him this but I'm at a loss. It seems that all three siblings have some sort of off putting personality, not even their family wants to hangout with them, it's so sad to see...is there some sort of genetic personality thing that's hereditary or is this a learned behavior?  I just want these kids to fit in and not feel so alone. Step parenting is hard.",3.2496951010620085,4.510664654676258,4.174295991778006,88.71344124700241,73.31654676258992,8.172935936964715,26.187735525865026,8.704169506293173,1.5988052072627612,1066,36,239,20,21,344,151,278,0.16399999999999998,0.74,0.096,-0.9728,1,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,3,3,2,14,14,1,1,12,0,23,1,1,4,2,46,45,17,0,4,10,4,4,1,3,2,0,2,1,9,15,12,0,0,8,1,0,6,10,8,0,4,7,11,27,6,33,35,5,33,1,3,3,0,47,18,1,10,7,148,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193143342244665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795045267509894,0.0,0.07765211961872323,0.0,0.0,0.14351817524016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007333243961686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765687757856862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147461915477666,0.0,0.2985862583958684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413594746590447,0.0,0.0,0.12172089530294268,0.11448454836432292,0.0,0.12008632236845727,0.0,0.19322757228767676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952497463715743,0.0,0.0665528957503007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411106608974195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538282716330163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295582722978005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001385808695802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223340045141136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005965237008416,0.0,0.12797437520747929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491906311158166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098246413453949,0.0,0.13547435627643686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631871241407613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144488545236208,0.0,0.0,0.08831204414812617,0.22245363529916665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805612934742633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211713789139603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301715174160664,0.1159656326202782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079320714428474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226785059582206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462828630431149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427864967352728,0.0,0.0,0.24344179060588536,0.0,0.08648539161826438,0.0,0.12443568330620705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254031959667501,0.1011115102162012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180862678591937,0.2298885394208083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814254183328356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Raao2014,2019/02/04,"5 year old is in her own world and does not listen please help Ok. I’m embarrassed to ask for help but I am just lost. She is a very smart sweet girl who has always been the most amazing child! Until 4 1/2.... she gets super excited about stuff like over excited, seems to not listen or care about a word her dad and I say, does the things we asked her to stop doing the second we stop talking, you can see her wheels turning about something else while we are trying to talk to her about what we expect. We are great parents and have a lot of patience until recently. She has passed every hearing test it seems like she can’t hear you but it’s almost like she is in her own little world and that’s why doesn’t hear you. This is not all the time. She can be a very “there” kid and does her learning stuff just fine. I guess I don’t know what to type or why I’m typing it. Am I alone in this? I feel like I am failing her because the “phase” we thought this was has not stopped and I am now overwhelmed. Example: I will tell her not to pick up the baby if mommy is not right there and she will literally go in there and do it and say I forgot. I was getting her in the shower and I said “ go potty first” four very calms times while standing next to her and she just kept waking to get in the shower and when I said it louder (not proud but I’m so overwhelmed and frustrated ) she goes “oh I didn’t hear you” I’m crying while typing this so if I have typos I am sorry. ",1.2825103353238418,2.956197102893892,2.628602434542948,95.99983520900322,79.57877813504822,5.343178686265503,18.50264124942581,5.985473137389443,-0.3989789618741386,1133,23,264,7,28,366,154,311,0.105,0.72,0.17600000000000002,0.9807,3,1,1,0,0,0,24.0,6,4,0,5,14,22,1,3,12,1,31,1,1,1,1,55,62,28,0,3,17,2,1,4,0,2,0,10,2,3,16,19,0,5,6,0,0,3,11,6,0,3,10,13,46,16,25,49,5,33,0,4,1,0,53,12,0,10,21,178,62,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959690535409364,0.10301271817082823,0.0,0.0,0.08276041788710854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18596723588200625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060631160491052535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140821885286692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092544239540007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611198081071784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308780472901968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380109174513375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029101589754825,0.07105572947001859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460239401456322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589449418227425,0.0,0.11305318377153604,0.0,0.0,0.10965729378344533,0.10956869402595068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484039691320951,0.0,0.13333467063968502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466175773645538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943685920848276,0.09968713328729606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085746090830534,0.08455910319536726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577904992355354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436872111517387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044086874394733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917949539178892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820680431399872,0.0,0.0,0.08494007244352897,0.18922242838772527,0.1581924754718201,0.0,0.0,0.07925839996461459,0.18109308328915727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657076807854338,0.0,0.11133965492261533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494642562434794,0.0,0.0,0.22772056987255904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988770389493065,0.08693424145375997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607818607133369,0.0,0.0,0.07896178110285976,0.11599427682147664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675282231197997,0.10818618124355972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461998963034666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949811282828015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405031820721185
parenting,kookster7,2019/02/04,"A disturbing phrase from my daughter. Would like advice, please. A bit of background: My daughter is 12 and has Down syndrome. One of her favorite pastimes is to talk to a toy about her interactions at school that day. We get to hear a lot of interesting friend dynamics from listening in.

So, yesterday, I was casually listening and she said the phrase, ""You make my penis swell."" Naturally, this rung the alarm bells! As nonchalantly as I could manage, I asked her to repeat the phrase in case I misheard it. She said it again, clear as day. I asked her where she had heard it and she said ""at school"". I gently pried into who may have said this. Her first response was just ""Tim"". There is no one named Tim in her class. I asked her if Tim was someone I knew and she said that Tim was the janitor (""clean up guy"", to be specific). Shortly after that, she added in her aide and her teacher to the mix.

Now I am sure of the fact that her aide nor her teacher would have said this. And, to be fair, she does tend to mix up events and chronologies. But she has always had an amazing memory for words and emotions.

I am sitting here freaking out! What do I do? I believe that she heard this somewhere, she wouldn't know this phrase unless she heard it. But I don't want to start a big mess over it with the school if I'm wrong. Maybe they're doing sex-Ed? Idk, I'm lost and worried! Please help me wrap my mind around this. ",1.5755319148936169,3.9037998865248262,2.428482269503548,94.39400000000002,82.04964539007092,5.603971631205674,20.747517730496455,6.88968998030894,0.2890913475177306,1096,32,239,13,30,343,152,282,0.079,0.792,0.129,0.939,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,1,1,0,2,9,13,0,2,13,0,26,0,0,1,3,36,51,19,0,7,6,2,0,1,1,4,0,12,1,1,18,14,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,6,0,3,17,12,42,7,36,27,2,27,0,1,0,0,48,16,0,4,11,161,60,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783542505252154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182232385502337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823733902039593,0.3094947596121489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432975409250573,0.0,0.0,0.12047661622092368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810768724528538,0.0,0.0,0.14233678229379773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657043063623652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413198483655626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386598836066998,0.0,0.0,0.08525825689748738,0.0,0.057654754521040186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926656699457134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437556359275788,0.0,0.07396711870933605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06064698257333793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053912776981150386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046305676290735,0.09381795738497356,0.0,0.0,0.0736613140630048,0.0,0.1108641645775026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114248142255524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495557516679006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422683509855614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6298243850249382,0.0,0.0,0.335048607595232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350152256833427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810824075815448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040061560112371,0.0,0.0,0.08869735618966272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508890802928076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206856900307867,0.0,0.15678284747454374,0.12065340298436053,0.0,0.0
parenting,chicketychick,2019/02/04,"A small glimpse into the mind of a naughty 5 year old Our 5 year old has been going through a really horrible naughty phase - hitting his siblings, back-chatting, throwing things, running away etc.

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To try and combat his violent tendencies, I have started doing a restrained time out (the one where you sit on the floor with their back to you, wrap your leg over theirs so they can't run off). 

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After a long long time of this due to repeated bad behaviour, once he had settled I told him if he hits his brother or sister again we will do the same thing. ""I don't mind mummy - it means I get to be with you"".

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Well now I feel like crap because obviously he is feeling neglected, and also because this new approach obviously isn't having the intended effect! Bloody cute though",6.859418690213393,7.279059695364242,6.50432671081678,78.3128403237675,64.62913907284768,9.360117733627668,35.98307579102281,9.150863307647796,3.2122311994113333,638,29,115,10,9,199,110,151,0.145,0.797,0.058,-0.9401,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,4,3,1,8,7,2,0,10,0,13,2,2,2,2,21,22,7,0,1,2,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,2,4,0,0,5,3,4,1,1,3,2,18,3,16,15,2,31,0,1,0,0,19,9,1,2,17,77,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490944641800653,0.0,0.3857736351127449,0.4326325541693542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150505117332722,0.18251729112363704,0.09909398423218777,0.14469411968752474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236109635607665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001773039724202,0.0847859923936017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062006115934299985,0.0,0.06744935595496464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057981721153861215,0.0,0.0,0.21005855045607927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927880144302265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396686970995984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462320392763305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249072260902897,0.12639178265602896,0.0804215658673653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603032279560337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400328250650857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769325354659902,0.0,0.11660384063013485,0.0,0.13840811917125864,0.0,0.0,0.11340513227400707,0.0,0.08057685783388632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670880211193214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4326325541693542,0.15285381862459996
parenting,allthekos,2019/02/04,"Daughter has night terrors most nights.. My 10 year old daughter has night terrors sleep walking sort of activity most nights.... It's hard work as I'm tired from working 2 jobs, I'm a lone dad and I just need my 6 hours sleep, however she wakes me up almost every night. It's not easy to get back to sleep when someone bursts into your room carrying a glowing orb night light and shouting random things...

I give her a hug and send her back to bed and the next morning she has no recollection at all..

How do I get her to sleep through? She said she was afraid of the dark so I got her some cool night lights, which worked for all of three days..",3.932739609838848,4.743314572519086,4.048498727735368,91.96187446988978,71.21374045801527,7.04359626802375,26.005937234944874,6.937597516519254,0.8139560644614083,503,15,113,4,9,155,89,131,0.139,0.82,0.041,-0.9015,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,3,6,6,0,3,5,1,5,7,5,1,2,18,13,8,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,3,7,16,2,14,10,5,21,0,1,1,1,15,4,0,6,15,62,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165570953248437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17148024696959355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191121633125065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394740052548373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651306030875012,0.10696533387170976,0.0,0.0,0.08918038236230832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988618357864468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980953021802327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106510698615086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267921799528119,0.0,0.0,0.1185863640129759,0.7324763289104019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170052781025866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606637036550648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463403470113127,0.0,0.0944774514128635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407867467551828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281580881544317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435299419724688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180528049322264
parenting,mymomsucks920,2019/02/04,"Elementary school posts pics of kids on facebook. Am I nuts for being extremely concerned about this?? My kiddo will be starting kindergarten soon at our local public elementary.  It appears that most schools in our district have public facebook pages which include pics of kids at events, assemblies and such.  I feel like there are plenty of good reasons NOT to put kids on social media (too many creeps out there, kids can't consent to pics becoming permanent online, general safety and security reasons).  Not judging those of you who enjoy posting your kids on social media, every family should do what feels right.  I just feel like a public school should err heavily toward the safety and security of my kids.  We don't post pics of our kid online and I wouldn't be ok with her school posting her pics, but how to approach the school about this without seeming like a helicopter psycho-mom?  I'm very curious what the r/parenting hivemind has to say on this issue.  TIA!",6.80395833333333,8.273720267045455,6.62318181818182,73.70060606060609,65.07954545454545,9.048484848484847,32.84848484848485,9.2995712137729,3.1707893939393936,781,32,124,14,12,246,113,176,0.024,0.823,0.152,0.9696,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,2,0,0,9,8,0,0,5,1,14,0,0,3,0,25,21,6,0,3,5,0,3,3,0,4,0,1,0,7,10,7,0,2,6,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,4,14,8,24,14,2,21,0,0,0,0,23,11,0,3,6,82,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332336997732687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016415789539382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372549534540655,0.0,0.18299254185985853,0.17236569086764805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118429677338564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591331812436848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768109178574904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230662639894453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128818411543495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395272121656213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4621462469285919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127315130333942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480691322937589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302303824250016,0.0,0.09593510448819198,0.0,0.6104536412841158,0.0,0.10982307354137688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459477410044711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538724036611753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953786868985244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628942374085888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CuriousRoutine2,2019/02/04,"Boy child, 5.5 years old, acts up. Behavior ideas? He yells at family members, kicks at parents, pulls hair of little sister. 
These are not all day behaviors that would lead to therapy. He is also a kind, smart, fun, etc. child. 
We have had lots of positive discipline such as learning how to right his wrongs. We also have used timeouts. We have also taught emotions so he can say when he is angry or frustrated. 

I think now I want a tougher plan. I think it will be that when he acts in these wild ways in the house he will have to throw out a toy. 

What do you say, Reddit?

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parenting,gooZisdope,2019/02/04,"Daycare said my son had an “aggressive” moment. Picking up my son from daycare today and the head lady pulled me over to the side and said my son had been aggressive towards another boy in daycare. By pushing him down, and taking his toy away, and then throwing a temper tantrum when they intervened, at that point he just cried and sobbed up until I came and picked him up. He will be three in a few months and has been going to the same daycare for about 7 months now and this is the first time this has ever been said about him. There was one incident last week where they said he had a little trouble sharing (which they said is probably because he’s an only child) but it didn’t turn into a whole meltdown. I just hope this was a fluke and he was just having an off day as anyone can have. He’s usually a happy go lucky kid and I can’t imagine him being “aggressive” towards a peer. How can I thwart such behavior if this does continue? His mother and I were totally blown away by this and want to make sure we handle this the right way. Anyone experience anything similar? Any knowledge is appreciated. Thank you in advance. ",4.508059954751129,5.815985425339368,5.120856900452491,82.9501541289593,70.31221719457014,8.058936651583709,28.29213800904977,8.472884824447931,1.9932735294117656,893,32,172,14,16,287,139,221,0.06,0.8220000000000001,0.117,0.9588,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,3,2,13,13,5,0,15,0,24,1,1,4,3,33,38,19,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,3,9,15,0,0,2,1,0,7,2,7,0,3,17,5,20,6,26,18,4,44,0,1,0,0,30,20,1,3,16,126,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878316544584502,0.13690028765569398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825768328763708,0.0,0.10743720024616632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453250006561627,0.0,0.0,0.07958627128045306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932230688942832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434106184504895,0.08419839643898208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425121844063732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809618586344685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770969501140525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105162801580283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839698399122936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898024220261446,0.0,0.0,0.13398903972255416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12967245491589144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642129445282243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085230710938187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714774106514983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084185356764902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884687307506498,0.09929440160898112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341846529700043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076241424570266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114948748023655,0.6209475208805368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304832826490485,0.0,0.09816253687821372,0.0,0.0,0.12019924785327794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761287752644643,0.0,0.12375267064663092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200841117855267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378997467519258,0.0,0.07700583916134557,0.10362998616334748,0.10472486593235296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457621105807447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,haelseitan,2019/02/04,"Screaming. My daughter will be 4 in May. I am new to reddit and parenting has always been very hard for me (postpartum depression, anxiety, psychosis, OCD) her dad & I have been broken up for 2 years. We coparent very well together but still share a bedroom with our kid (hoping to change this soon) I have her 5 days and her dad has her 2 days. Now we all already know that 3 year old girls have attitudes like teenagers which already drives me crazy. But the past few weeks, at least 1-3 times per week my kid will throw an absolute fit about going to sleep. She will start screaming bloody murder at me “I DONT WANNA GO TO BED” and it makes me blood literally boil, especially because I am so tired and want to go to sleep myself. Most of my mood issues are triggered by exhaustion. I’m really hoping that getting a bigger house will help her go to bed easier but does anyone have experience with this? How do I get my kid to go the f*ck to sleep? We’ve always had a pretty solid bedtime routine-bath, books, song, etc. help!! ",2.974477447744775,5.023893356435644,3.974785478547856,86.55335533553357,75.83168316831683,7.261166116611661,23.598459845984607,8.167268648758528,1.3413555555555554,806,25,161,14,18,260,136,202,0.152,0.701,0.147,-0.278,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,0,0,7,11,1,0,6,0,20,7,4,3,1,22,34,9,1,4,3,4,1,1,0,5,2,3,3,4,6,8,1,0,1,2,0,7,1,5,1,0,3,4,24,5,21,25,5,27,0,1,0,0,20,6,0,4,15,95,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785213802249061,0.0,0.21001076391593168,0.1367335744980704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653977902045796,0.0,0.0,0.08823934597971443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692805725802665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349889005005494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627722710985428,0.0,0.10869263753467738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043518100036087,0.0,0.14790105469831205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074216728647534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344413894730935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318646548247511,0.0,0.35860116002819875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304704454982485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917336060165772,0.0,0.0,0.2506826837358974,0.0,0.14561351878757164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171608888644773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935415378689584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061653108978798936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423697085824022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188111602442225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242172653251374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012599141351348,0.0,0.12046859152385928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283869455573565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084454348244953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788621355218124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932234897283169,0.0,0.10078048114975348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358604302356019,0.14504401491731314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20825023047951574,0.07443381262744665,0.0,0.20245402512686608,0.0,0.11346557630026352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253248351287444
parenting,evelyntheunbeliever,2019/02/04,"Young Kids and Hard Questions My 4 year old son is getting very curious about Families, and Relationships. He thinks it's quite funny that his Uncle is my ""Baby Brother"", and that his Grandma is my Mommy, etc.

When we arrived at Daycare this morning, he casually asked me ""Who are Grandma and Grandpa's Mom and Dad?"" I replied that his ""Great Mama"" is his Grandma's mom. 

Now, all of my remaining Grandparents are unfortunately deceased, so I left it at that. He hasn't pressed me too hard yet with life/death questions, so I've managed to avoid that uncomfortable topic so far. I knew I couldn't avoid it forever though. Sure enough, today he decides to keep exploring the topic.

My remaining Grandparent - Great Mama to him - has been happily living with her current partner for some time. My kids call him Great Papa. So, the 4 year old continues his line of questioning. ""Is Great Papa grandpa's dad?""

Not knowing what else to say, I reply ""No, buddy. Grandpa's mom and dad aren't alive anymore."" I brace myself for the tough, existential questions that are sure to follow.

Unperturbed, he returns my solemn gaze. ""Why, mommy? Did they get shot by a cannonball?""",3.5281690739167364,6.243045546728975,4.46999150382328,80.34032285471538,77.17757009345793,7.255395072217502,29.353440951571788,8.296473431620573,2.525465420560747,913,42,157,18,22,295,128,214,0.08199999999999999,0.772,0.146,0.966,3,2,0,0,0,1,47.0,1,0,1,1,10,11,0,2,4,0,14,0,0,0,3,27,22,12,0,1,1,11,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,12,9,0,3,9,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,3,4,26,7,15,18,4,19,0,1,0,0,38,4,0,5,13,92,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874854754682607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251286089605878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197027537535514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160289475667824,0.0,0.0,0.113303190938143,0.12229459519458245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337321518730083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145806895913556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4835812222747893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964591396837652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746662884878447,0.0,0.0,0.060263660322689136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191407552212837,0.0,0.07745274937858453,0.0,0.0,0.0968275989935426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852807274823031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301294878925411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4913559247807632,0.11663186124533045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772870635541904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720225988160199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066975599239557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026265961084563,0.10773573112173207,0.0,0.06394086091640139,0.0,0.10394035992777953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047706926322928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989468117015282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122877784536708
parenting,wtfblippi,2019/02/04,"Blippi, the children's YouTube star, has a disgusting past... Has anyone else heard of Blippi? If you have toddlers, and have ever opened YouTube, I bet you have seen his stuff. With over 6 million subscribers across his three main channels, and over 7 BILLION views, he is nothing short of a mega-star in the kids' entertainment arena.

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Well... Not long before starting the channel, Blippi, Stevin John (previously known as Stephen Grossman) was posting videos like this: [https://imgur.com/a/qXejMVW](https://imgur.com/a/qXejMVW)",9.585435540069687,13.080461585365851,5.815156794425089,74.23524390243907,61.19512195121951,6.636933797909408,34.88501742160279,7.447530270364453,2.679970034843205,438,19,59,4,7,117,67,82,0.042,0.892,0.066,0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,1,9,10,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,3,3,3,5,3,8,7,1,11,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,2,5,37,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286555891167412,0.3213630891903769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492535221189213,0.2709833754731817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504665580831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209328743205509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392305575863168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292079260819048,0.0,0.0,0.23404987916949524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25376853904349816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524689691505841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25329159039958665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18719502803195975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30275778863060065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377925791298965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213630891903769,0.0
parenting,whyme440120,2019/02/04,So frustrating Why is it so hard to reason with an adhd child? I spent 30-40 min trying to get this child to understand that losing privileges is 100% her fault and couldve been avoided. It's like taking to a cardboard box. She keeps trying to spin it and throw 90% of the problem on someone else.,2.939000000000004,4.665008233333335,4.036666666666669,87.495,75.0,6.8000000000000025,23.666666666666664,7.554174236665415,1.0505666666666666,234,7,47,3,5,76,49,60,0.229,0.696,0.075,-0.8541,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,7,1,1,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,8,8,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,2,1,3,2,8,6,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33998101195470604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23631982860249054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779930807486985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534155189133661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514472614123157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820666136564513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164836029012904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27068928111609997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908599223761724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23969333412916435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269945390942802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841299734792041,0.0,0.0,0.29450037738434026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25526588045257514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unrelevantusername_7,2019/02/04,"What are some engaging activities/toys that I can put in a box? I want to put together an activity box so I can get the kids off YouTube.  I'm thinking Legos,train sets, some dress up clothes maybe books or drawing material. Anyone got suggestions?",3.0119148936170212,5.696945936170216,4.646212765957447,78.49400000000003,79.0,8.866382978723406,30.676595744680853,9.3871,3.3522119148936174,197,10,37,6,5,66,40,47,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,8,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,3,0,19,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603750742148599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19455192525001627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978243818700328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37410334739898304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7486846732583935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23860452837609505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963795483504467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dinosandunicorns,2019/02/04,"My son doesn't like himself My son is soon turning 7, tonight I read a book with him tonight named 'things I love about me'. Talking with him after, he couldn't tell me positive things about his self.  He called his self rubbish and useless, didn't like his self and though he was a naughty child.  I told him how amazing I think he is, how happy he makes me and the rest of the family feel and listed things he does which are good.
This honestly unset me, I was really surprised he had such negative feelings at such a young age.  I'm looking for advice on how to boost his confidence and reaffirm the great child I know he is.
He's had a tough year at school and does get in trouble and can be very hyper/giddy but he's also incredibly loving.  Help?",3.1235964912280707,4.609097500000004,3.867105263157896,89.89807017543863,74.0,6.908771929824562,25.166666666666664,7.492282038375204,1.066090350877193,588,19,125,7,12,187,94,152,0.078,0.738,0.184,0.957,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,10,13,0,0,7,0,13,2,0,4,0,20,25,13,0,1,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,9,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,3,20,10,12,17,1,11,0,1,1,2,33,4,0,0,9,75,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601258919294442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767569471424733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302515718526034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27942956436994365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050811117648386,0.0,0.16145228620349347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341291860008085,0.0,0.0,0.1339106709698598,0.0,0.17601971708319067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995524890127894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701308683454352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774197137348402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599830803865078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340696211736799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28818894918454496,0.0,0.10657065917556102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969776574676886,0.0,0.10227879993656196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615789392368474,0.0,0.0,0.4996635793265562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832428848848446,0.1395451233344475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182021883728768,0.10230019609145057,0.1568597955279755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255677483856814,0.0,0.0,0.17365831635794965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173173316626632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281230277473613
parenting,lilmrspinkiepie,2019/02/04,"4 yr old and Loose BM’s in underwear. So My son has been potty trained for awhile now. He does a great job with little no accidents except loose BMs. It happens once a week. He will go in the toilet if it is a solid stool, but not for loose stools. 

Does anyone have any tips, articles, or books I can look into to help him be more secure in going on the toilet with loose BMs? ",2.443206751054852,3.536323974683544,3.884240506329117,90.6657700421941,75.07594936708861,6.785654008438819,19.495780590717303,7.1686216300943375,0.19165654008438748,290,5,65,3,6,96,64,79,0.141,0.732,0.127,0.1963,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,11,5,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,11,8,1,11,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,2,3,37,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18628295502983366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915394195363763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4794389675115367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31136340494936504,0.0,0.0,0.3020106752494908,0.0,0.0,0.24223690480376905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18361064971010144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718349519381076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745515359629219,0.0,0.0,0.23003364334445464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28744524738287874,0.2917283289678664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21973149293580227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Melkain,2019/02/04,"That moment when you have serious questions about your child's state of mind. My nearly 5 year old son just asked for help making a book. He wanted to be able to read us a story for his bedtime instead of the other way around. Cute right? So I set him up with some blank pages to color and then helped him staple it all together when he was done.


""Daddy, I need help writing the book's name on the front!""

""Ok, what's the title? I'll write it lightly with a pencil and you can trace it with a marker.""

""Kitties burn without their mamas.""

""...""

""...""

""Well, that's awfully dark.""


After some clarification, it turned out that it was a story about two kittens who went to the beach with their mommy - and they didn't get sunburned because their mommy was there.

*Whew*, I thought we were gonna be looking at a whole lot of therapy there for a moment.",3.3406394810009274,4.834791228915666,4.104457831325302,88.37905004633923,73.4578313253012,6.312511584800742,23.01019462465245,6.67199483983844,0.5708587581093605,648,17,132,5,13,207,115,166,0.008,0.934,0.058,0.8295,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,2,3,4,0,11,4,0,0,12,2,10,1,0,1,1,26,20,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,11,10,0,0,3,4,0,2,2,1,1,1,8,3,16,3,24,9,6,20,0,0,2,0,25,7,0,4,8,91,27,5,0.19356859635610074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231708968252027,0.18096050775318112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799761969992364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980878796534924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113160234687443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892348496598024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625488694423834,0.0,0.0,0.16456509854344584,0.0,0.0,0.12920854115248134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544910211560504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352866149927015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031176801330244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21684112817321455,0.0,0.19362097876732104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530652364726828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213625596036496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367184368471445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21054704821373876,0.18908839202279304,0.0,0.2328391879437409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141717733202265,0.15364574191094596,0.0,0.0,0.17404141477801574,0.1794400281028872,0.0,0.21611242509848885,0.0,0.18659321937581186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465182965760645
parenting,Brindillethewiccan,2019/02/04,"HELP! I went through my daughter’s phone and found inappropriate texts My fourteen year old daughter was taking a shower, and she had been using her phone more than usual. Whenever i asked her what she was doing on it, she would just turn the screen away so I couldn’t see it. I got suspicious, and i took the opportunity to search through her phone while she was in the shower. When i turned it on, i looked through the recently used apps, i looked through her google history, her app store account, and her notes. Everything i found in those things was innocent and harmless things like “cute puppy fails” and  “clean vines” typical teenager things. But one thing caught my eye, i started looking through her texts, and i saw this strange contact that i had never seen before. It was under the name of  “Jayden” and i didn’t know any jaydens. When i saw the texts, i was shocked. So this jayden dude sent a text saying “Hey babe, would you let me cum inside you? I’d make you feel gooooood” to which my daughter replied (BAD GRAMMAR WARNING) “Of coarse i would baby, your so big and sexy, can’t wait to see you tomorrow.” And after that text, jayden sent an uncensored picture of his penis, Needless to say, i was downright shocked at the texts, and i started freaking out. I had no idea who this person was, and I didn’t want my daughter to be raped or murdered by this strange guy. When she got out of the shower, i questioned her about the texts and she started crying, screaming and telling me i was a horrible mom. I made her delete the contact and i took her phone away for a month. She and I haven’t talked that much since, and I don’t know how to talk to her about it. Any advice would help! This happened about 2 weeks ago.",4.854526397515528,5.868275803571433,4.541319875776399,88.52324534161491,69.23809523809524,7.272049689440994,29.19202898550725,7.255503002510835,1.4543001035196688,1354,49,277,12,23,411,174,336,0.115,0.8059999999999999,0.078,-0.9116,3,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,5,0,2,11,12,2,0,15,0,26,2,1,5,1,43,61,27,1,6,3,5,1,1,0,4,0,3,4,3,21,19,0,1,7,0,2,6,8,8,0,1,29,14,57,4,33,25,2,34,0,1,10,1,52,11,0,2,18,185,78,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464016474889104,0.0949225245759806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564007998539188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010805082207512,0.0,0.20121580785364948,0.0,0.08940974368830241,0.0,0.0,0.09111965582098568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762553090441355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962392004402158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05414432871992457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23482173245327664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128794518368176,0.0,0.0,0.10602890067238004,0.09469304957446216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143550813361675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088355322404665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769991623636322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949951426889254,0.0,0.0523152930739608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697679844942232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132442351979752,0.07147866330028799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12541419132009068,0.08547254441180445,0.0,0.07871824825304195,0.0,0.08258892935348681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123654840389414,0.0,0.07256214034511946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350065271726582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995734842371247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573143931200003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031323070533555,0.0,0.0,0.17066240500059418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858007653416762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273814707142441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051300970583433,0.1721383480420631,0.09359516928189844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28456446655610723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23794607079240115,0.0,0.23295087822993066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18497047809551329,0.11793667925461745,0.0,0.0631602653413021,0.0,0.08589543847786467,0.0,0.0,0.09926691561530857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042744623401083,0.0,0.0,0.06895787292688425
parenting,PeeeCoffee,2019/02/04,"Toddler Transition from the Crib Our nearly 3-year-old toddler started to climb out of the crib pretty regularly. So we switched him to a bed. It's not exactly a toddler bed with all of the bars and railings like his crib, but a Thomas the Tank bed that is open, but fits his same mattress.

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Anyway, he understandably struggled for a few nights to get used to this new found freedom. He would roam all over his room, look out the window, get into his drawers, jump off his bed, lay on the ground and kick the walls/door, etc. Obviously, we have made multiple trips a night into his room to try to reset him and/or prevent him from hurting himself. We have a Wyze pan that we use for a baby camera and have viewed him when he tried to climb back into his crib that had no mattress in it or when he found our ""nighttime travel bag"" which had batteries in it. But the same thing has happened pretty much every time we lay him in the bed for the past week, he roams/plays/climbs/jumps around for 1-2 hours and then falls asleep on the floor in the little nook by the door to his room. The nook has two walls about the size of his crib rails that make a 90-degree angle and are flanked by the door and then the open end opens up to the rest of his room. It sort of looks like this:  |\_\_| <-- door

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So I am wondering if he is craving his crib still because of the size and shape of the nook or maybe he feels the need to sleep by the door that we walk out of every night before bed. We still have the crib in his room just without the mattress. And we were even fed up the other day at nap time and put him back in his crib. We did everything to wear him out before naptime but he was still bouncing off the walls so we put him back in his crib which he promptly climbed out of. He did eventually sleep after a reset or two. And he did tell us he preferred the Thomas bed over the crib when asked. When my wife asked where he'd like to sleep, he pointed to the floor by the door where he falls asleep every night and said ""this bed"".

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I've been trying to follow some of the other posts here that discuss a lot of the same we are going through. One of the suggestions that we tried last night was to turn off his nightlight so that he cannot play around in his room. That worked to an extent. He fell asleep within a half hour, but even in the complete darkness, he still made his way over to the floor and even went back and got his blanket off the bed and returned to his floor spot. Every night after he has been sleeping for a bit, we do move him back to the Thomas bed where he eventually wakes up in the morning there.  


Overall, this has been really odd to us. He has been sleep trained since he was 9 months old and he has pretty much been on the same schedule for over a year in his crib. He had started to fight us when getting him upstairs for bedtime lately before the whole climbing out of the crib fiasco. But does anyone have experience with this? Should we be concerned with his preference to sleep on the floor? I fear it may have something to do with him feeling insecure without a crib and without us there.   


Any advice is appreciated!",6.9860292386185225,5.761511521193096,6.326027766875986,85.1632802688383,64.87127158555731,9.092798273155417,30.73827511773941,7.413659706084162,1.6534976844583986,2497,69,536,18,32,764,259,637,0.052000000000000005,0.899,0.049,-0.5099,0,0,1,0,1,0,77.0,20,0,0,5,32,9,1,3,57,0,41,13,11,5,4,92,70,37,0,6,15,1,2,3,0,3,0,1,25,0,24,48,2,1,8,4,0,17,6,5,0,4,23,6,57,4,100,42,16,125,0,1,3,0,85,64,0,9,45,355,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057611202259266435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19163667484051755,0.2149142827879999,0.04009215832768017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041223464233829166,0.0,0.0,0.10496682708784516,0.11023195878048568,0.0,0.0,0.2266679445422071,0.0,0.035939081163217916,0.0,0.1505018536781265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436477346136595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181433164351085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038021796407197495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051592865785422055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05221759070263645,0.0,0.06575161720554261,0.11681981095564192,0.0,0.1986921717085776,0.0,0.05298592615117337,0.057670362243393336,0.0,0.06634198446846333,0.05961993428739973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928460458468874,0.0,0.0,0.0924063605898218,0.0,0.033506100777380095,0.0,0.04715256554800012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213466974820391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161197324847716,0.0,0.06311370652104023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048057076645253854,0.06650502989775323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864088929266149,0.059089483775745265,0.0,0.0,0.09901652298979234,0.0,0.0,0.050122353723968255,0.0,0.11157134301557932,0.03935364339779997,0.0,0.059229309901345416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04705818320851588,0.06266098630154117,0.08667900958459085,0.04371518872997776,0.0,0.056940152620431,0.0,0.3319577422403121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372898386508767,0.0,0.039950167832971215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05628025252051694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05573255499957181,0.0,0.05646363082549584,0.17993859540247426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185342949725487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03776877661259147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608073601635261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876908133313422,0.0,0.3539919640117468,0.0,0.0,0.04538727325053934,0.0,0.0,0.08345883839641421,0.0,0.1883296170894128,0.0,0.0,0.061633698993131585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515302153903277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03916780205264799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875553255773496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010924230081414,0.0641272889544094,0.11518305344144032,0.06137536190320651,0.2836676365088837,0.10183825351504676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04679659473608767,0.04729101383939748,0.0,0.0,0.0546528798658804,0.0,0.06582236155056499,0.0,0.17049468131748513,0.0639353574302501,0.04292073079893994,0.0,0.0,0.04188071003680091,0.0,0.2149142827879999,0.07593156937573771
parenting,RoseGoldRiver,2019/02/04,"Boyfriend's parents want me to be involved in his child's life- unless it involves discipline/rules. So im in.. a very unique situation.  I apologize for the length of this post in advance.  


 I met my boyfriend online and moved out of state to live with him, his 7 year old son, and his parents.  My boyfriend got divorced last year and obtained 50/50 custody. His ex-wife moved over an hour away from us (and her son) and has him on the weekends, while we have him on the weekdays so that he can go to school here. I won't go into too many details, but ex-wife is extremely overbearing and has expectations of her son that he will never be able to fulfill.  


I've been living here for a year now and although things started off super rocky (culture shock, different household, no friends, isolation, depression, etc), things have gotten a lot better for me now and I feel like I have established myself in this household.  


Here's where the problem begins:  My boyfriend and I, with his son, live with grandparents. With my boyfriend at work nearly all day, grandma/grandpa and I take care of/watch over the kid the most.   


And grandma/grandpa have very, very different ways they want to raise this kid than my boyfriend and I do.  


Although the grandparents want me to essentially become the step-parent (this will be the case anyway once bf and I move out), they also don't want me disciplining or correcting any of the boy's behavior. He is not a horrible kid by any means- he's very smart, very skilled and is obviously above his peers in reading, writing, and almost everything related to school.  However, he is easily influenced by friends and is given nearly everything he wants from grandma and grandpa.  Let me give a few examples:  


Last year, we caught him watching horror/gore videos on youtube (he was allowed to watch regular youtube back then).  He was frequently having nightmares and I investigated and found these videos on his history. Exorcisms, Top 10 Jason Vorhees Murder Scenes, you name it.  I immediately brought this concern to the attention of his dad and grandparents. Dad of course said no more youtube, kids youtube only.  Find healthier alternatives to his horror kick - buy him some Goosebumps books and whatnot.  Makes sense right?  Well, Grandma and Granpa's response was: ""He's too old for kids youtube, they dont have the nerf gun videos he likes on kids youtube. He'll be so sad if he can't watch regular youtube"".  (Let me point out right now that I also found a video in the youtube history titled ""should kids be allowed to have guns?"".  


Eventually we were able to convince them kids youtube only. The boy was actually fine with this- there are more than plenty of videos he likes on there. But guess what I found out recently?  When he wants regular youtube, he just asks grandma, and she gives him her phone. When I confronted her about it? ""Its granpas fault"".  


Another example: The boy is easily influenced by friends. Granparents let his friends be over on average 4-5 days out of the week, always after school.  Friends encourage him and they all steal our food/their snacks without asking adults first. They hide snacks, and try to eat them behind our backs. I have caught them doing this multiple times before, and have stated that friends will need to go home and can come back tomorrow if they learn to ask by then.  Grandma and grampa think this is too much, just tell them its fine, they can have the snack. No big deal. The stealing continues. This has been ongoing for over 4 months. The kid will also help himself to the whole box of cheese-itz, right before dinner, therefore not having dinner. When confronting grandparents about this? ""Its okay, he can snack if thats what he wants"" or ""im not the one that buys those, X is. Not my fault"". The kid rarely finishes dinner, as anytime past lunch, he just feeds himself with unhealthy snacks or candy.  I ask kids to pick up the nerf bullets off the floor. Gpa/Gma: ""We will take care of it, let them be"".  


I've been spending time with the kid more and have set clear boundaries. You can pick one snack at the movies, you can get a small ice cream at coldstone. We can play this game you like, but we need to play fair, or we don't play at all. We can watch this movie together after you make your bed.  


I feel like I'm doing the right thing, however grandma and grandpa try to undo the rules/boundaries I put out as much as they can, and It's starting to really infuriate me. Like I said before, bf is out at work all day, and comes home in the evening, so he can't always be there to help me with this stuff when it occurs. His parents want me to spend time with the kid, take him places, become the stepmom I am sure to officially become eventually. But they still want most of the control, they don't want me disciplining him AT ALL, even when its necessary, and have even gotten in between the kid and his dad and tried to take control of a situation that involved tantrums and not listening by coddling the boy and basically telling him he did nothing wrong.  


It'll still be half a year to a year before we can move out of here. Don't get me wrong, the gparents actually do quite a bit for the child when I'm busy working from home, but this is still getting on my nerves. I'm worried about the kid and am worried this behavior will be difficult to undo once we move out. Maybe I just needed to vent, but honestly, I could seriously use some advice here. I can't seem to put my foot down, it just angers them. Please help?  


  


  


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parenting,XxpillowprincessxX,2019/02/04,"How did you deal with terrible twos? I put this in ""discipline"" bc my understanding has always been that this is the time they're pushing their boundaries, so it's an important time for *ME* to start establishing boundaries. 

My son's new thing is SPITTING. 

It drives me up the effing wall. I hate when people spit in public, on sidewalks, etc. It's just so gross. 

So when he doesn't get his way, or he's getting frustrated with his toys (more on that migraine later) he starts spitting towards/in my fucking face. I've tried putting him in time-out (eff that ""1 min for every year"" rule. He stays until his tantrum stops) but he keeps doing it and smiles about it. Idk what else I can do, besides getting a damn spit shield like they use in county jails. 

Oh and the toy thing, he gets RIDICULOUSLY MAD when his toys don't do what he wants or w/e is going on. He starts screaming and throwing toys everywhere, breaking them, spitting fucking juice onto them, etc. 

While I don't yell, I don't have a deep voice and have to get pretty loud to imitate the ""stern voice"" that works for my husband. Whenever I tell the kid he's doing something wrong, or tell him to stop, he runs over and hugs me, burying his face in my lap. Like he thinks that makes everything okay, and it doesn't. I don't baby or coddle him when he does it, but it's REALLY starting to become a pattern. 

Is this something they grow out of? Or will it just get worse if I can't find an effective way to make him stop? 

I'd like to note he turned 2 at the end of Aug, he can say a lot of words and some small phrases, but is still pretty far from coherent sentences, lol.  ",3.056790209790212,4.514412184848489,3.734545454545458,90.89412587412588,74.12121212121212,6.773892773892776,24.813519813519807,7.321109707123232,0.92509324009324,1271,40,274,14,26,402,182,330,0.133,0.767,0.101,-0.8853,1,0,2,0,0,0,52.0,0,1,5,2,13,17,8,0,12,2,24,11,7,5,0,38,46,26,0,2,11,2,0,3,0,1,1,6,0,1,21,10,0,5,4,4,0,8,7,12,0,0,2,6,31,5,31,43,5,50,0,0,0,3,37,17,3,8,24,152,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933568387088464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391270100973092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567011452417132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981842948255742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372614327950947,0.0,0.09937318353184943,0.0,0.2502584832491093,0.0,0.0,0.09453075764246872,0.0,0.10083537162812307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254596693751708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074485189353095,0.3517096099931316,0.0,0.06376410434078346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077124615319048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972579190556588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644412670143911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538582283553526,0.0,0.0,0.14978465208350106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083604999875247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777832285504355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22828923899381745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255778194785753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187623020506337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922350680805523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274936564655874,0.0,0.0,0.3176542752633392,0.11958700555975055,0.08960061806606978,0.2814049871704738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961301347884755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907731779821162,0.07189126631181501,0.0,0.0,0.19626880703665472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761743547826156,0.12203804826913853,0.0,0.11680096727314307,0.0,0.09690212934893984,0.0,0.0,0.06617665980898686,0.17811341100959774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168070570879123,0.0,0.114338263094821,0.0,0.12266973660859025,0.0,0.07225114829987328
parenting,ITadvise226,2019/02/04,"https://pregnancycentr.com/breastfeeding  **Education regarding breastfeeding should begin once a mother is**[ **pregnant**](https://pregnancycentr.com/7-weeks-pregnant-belly/)**. The biggest worry a brand new mother usually verbalizes is ‘do you think that I actually have enough milk?’ once they square measure troubled and feeling they’re not activity enough for his or her baby, is much too late. It is a small amount like ‘shutting the gate once the horse has barred.** 

 

**Why not teach them before the birth about the ways to stop this happening, to have a chance of success?**

**Often it is the new mother’s lifestyle that is the contributing factor as they have been caught up in the euphoria of the birth and a multitude of visitors! They are so busy pleasing the visitors by chatting, making tea, and showing off their newborn baby, they become exhausted. So many new mums are on a ‘high’ after the birth and try to carry on as normal. It is a few days /weeks later when they are having problems, that they realize they did too much too soon.**

## Breastfeeding mothers

**The key to establishing a good milk supply in the early days is rest. The mother’s body needs time to recover from the birth and to be able to make milk. Often it is put on overload! All the responsibilities in the house should be offloaded to another family member.**  **Expectations regarding standards may have to be lowered during this time! This will enable them to relax and reduce their stress level. Have set rest times so that if friends and relatives want to visit, these periods can then be avoided. It also gives the new mother and father the assurance of knowing there is space in the day for them. I have seen new parents weeping with tiredness because the doorbell has gone non-stop and they have been making endless cups of tea. Remember the telephone and front door need to be controlled in the day to cope with the night shift as well!** 

 

### how to increase breast milk?

**All breastfeeding mothers need to watch their fluid intake very carefully. This has a strong influence on making plenty of milk. They need to replace what they are giving out to the baby and drink enough for their own hydration and to make more milk. This is where a lot of mothers go wrong. My advice is to always have a drink beside them before they breastfeed and drink it by the time they have finished feeding. Water, unsweetened fruit juices or milk are preferable Very often when I have questioned a mother who is struggling with her milk supply, this is a key factor. She has just drunk her usual 3** [**cups of tea**](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Cups_of_Tea)**! Eating and drinking well are very important to produce good milk. It has been suggested that drinking certain herbal teas such as fennel, increases lactation, but the effectiveness of this has not yet been proved.**",4.219737335834896,7.586201048780488,3.862813008130087,80.84979174484054,82.21138211382114,6.279724828017511,24.439149468417764,7.61054688173877,1.7790306691682312,2284,83,357,40,65,688,252,492,0.049,0.88,0.07,0.8032,2,1,5,0,0,0,116.0,0,1,20,6,22,20,0,3,40,0,53,25,2,10,5,66,75,30,0,12,8,12,1,1,1,4,1,0,2,1,22,18,22,3,9,10,0,8,3,8,2,0,8,5,30,12,56,58,16,63,0,1,3,1,48,19,0,9,35,257,52,3,0.07790481571331764,0.0,0.07602386223142726,0.0,0.0,0.07612768427859995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062300452979705434,0.06482304749814792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816899919214276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04749005257248157,0.08603974828484043,0.13258252042245952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653468787396065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942915170352143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737687520342312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009686449219532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3815853036297596,0.0,0.07971607543328807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24148949970533395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344172690347192,0.0,0.03939101560245615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018906736885826,0.0,0.0,0.1494667959918788,0.04427510208706105,0.13068572650276866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889097125068187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231071507230688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989169763239123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04281444932909701,0.0,0.08788002541954716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038060357833287164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623188841688908,0.0,0.0,0.2600103471472383,0.07898325548897299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453800678454185,0.2310617348923578,0.0,0.3762047823577793,0.0,0.07310839213000052,0.07633017864049264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24889825858964715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650407843627846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551609327613344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454438736246755,0.0,0.07831585724636746,0.08727122295356643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825096956698339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026382856612864,0.08923970318670846,0.08144302833250973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049918260250506864,0.0,0.0,0.18170769814547152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289225606293326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160229639751545,0.19283889544744173,0.04595027875189007,0.061837216542542525,0.06249054401917966,0.0,0.14009157063703706,0.0,0.07029697886233112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911612194661972,0.0,0.0,0.08517668627965695,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wiredin335,2019/02/04,"5yo boy won't drink water My 5yo boy has an issue with drinking water. he has almost always had an issue consuming liquids tho, unless it's apple juice....cus kid things. Before we figured he just wasn't thirsty, his pee was clear, spirits good, yadda yadda yadda.

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now that he's older, doing swimming, recess at school, karate classes... he is still taking in almost no water. hands and skin are dry and chapping, mouth dry, he says his pee hurts and it's dark. After a while we finally got the objection to water/drinking out of him, he doesn't like going pee because it means he has to wash his hands, and he hates washing his hands. 

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any tips? we know this isn't healthy, and his mood has been diving hard because of it, complaining of headaches, etc. which also wears on mom and dad too.",3.0628602150537634,5.462267200000002,3.5896774193548424,87.73118279569893,77.0,5.165591397849463,23.23655913978495,6.079149491110277,0.5995075268817205,636,20,115,4,15,199,103,155,0.098,0.858,0.043,-0.7701,0,0,3,0,0,0,39.0,3,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,4,0,14,16,9,0,1,19,20,10,0,0,2,2,5,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,8,11,5,0,3,3,0,2,5,3,0,0,5,6,10,2,12,14,1,12,1,1,0,0,24,4,0,2,7,63,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28056989796573123,0.0,0.0,0.11203395535632887,0.11657029864348555,0.30358584134691,0.340461623078987,0.09526943337530387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17080127592357255,0.0,0.11921056319508662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.411719422509629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624300551454956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346727193020113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961924148825274,0.11750507539238934,0.11204680389701974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549764115149534,0.13831485110008207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997464115877746,0.0,0.0,0.29244565433401226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769925718887532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844336158726523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260457221083767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640776212905874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140920128059667,0.0,0.14178366293991193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188008239200273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533403737191772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930729215826618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340461623078987,0.0
parenting,lynnja,2019/02/04,"My toddler is creating issues between my boyfriend and I. My (32/f) toddler (2.5/m) is creating some issues with my boyfriend (30/m), and I need some advice/solutions. Some background information that might be pertinent...I left my son’s father about a year and half ago, and this is my first relationship (we’ve been together 4 months) since leaving his father.  My boyfriend also has a son a couple months younger than mine, but obviously they have very different personalities. We’ll say that my son is very spirited, and my boyfriend’s son is very to himself and relaxed. My boyfriend and I also come from 2 very different family situations. While I come from a very small family of just my mother and grandmother, my boyfriend comes from a very large Hispanic family with lots of children. My son’s father is still in his life and for our child, we are amicable and agree on most parenting decisions. 

So, my little boy is a spitfire. From the second he wakes up in the morning, he’s talking till the second he goes to bed. He counts upwards of 20,  he knows most of his colors, understands a lot of concepts, critically thinks, speaks in full sentences with very little speech impediment, etc. He’s extremely smart, which is most definitely a blessing, but it does make single parenting very difficult at times because he’s very demanding of my constant attention. To say he’s advanced might be an understatement, and it creates some issues between my boyfriend and I. 

Within the last month or so, I really started working with my son on interrupting me or other people while they are talking because he is very persistent. He will try to talk over adults, and repeat himself until you acknowledge him. I will often stop and say, “I am talking to Mimi, please do not interrupt people when they are talking, it is rude.” Most of the time he adheres to my request, but this is where the problem begins with my boyfriend and I. 

An example of what often happens is I will be in the kitchen cooking and doing dishes, and instead of my son entertaining himself, he’ll disrupt me to the point where we’re on the cusp of a time-out. Like many toddlers, he has a lot of trouble with self-control and listening because he gets so excited, and he really tests his Mama’s limits. So, to help me, my boyfriend will come and remove him from the kitchen, and explain to him that I am busy and reaffirm that he needs to listen to me. To which, my son responds with snotty remarks like, “I AM TALKING TO MAMA!” and will stomp back into the kitchen. This really gets under my boyfriend’s skin because he sees it as complete disrespect. I try to explain to him that he’s just a little kid, and he doesn’t realize the weight of what he says, and it will just take some time working with him to get him to understand as with everything else. 

Last night was the worst of it, we were all sitting on the couch, and my son was on my lap. We were watching a movie, and my son kept talking and talking, and I told him that we were trying to watch a movie, and that it was quiet time. Well after a few times of me trying to explain this to him, my boyfriend chimed in and reiterated that he needs to listen to me. To which, my son got an attitude and started to say, “I am talking to my Mama.” My boyfriend then said, “Stop saying that! It’s rude! You don’t talk to adults like that!” Meanwhile, my son continues to say it, getting softer and softer as if to get the last word and completely ignore my boyfriend’s request. 

Where my boyfriend stands on this is that my son is way too smart, and that he knows what he’s doing. That my son is doing it to purposely be disrespectful and manipulative. I believe he is honestly saying because of our talks about interrupting conversations. What is getting frustrating for me is that of course I defend my son, but I can see where my boyfriend is coming from. Also, my bf has gotten to the point that he feels that he can’t come over anymore when my son is home because the way my son talks to him upsets him too much. I don’t feel that’s the solution, but I’m at a loss. I haven’t talked to anyone else that’s gone through this, and I really need advice. Sorry for writing a novel, but I’m trying to cover all my bases. TIA for any thoughtful responses. ",7.8591937915742776,6.732844106666668,7.876470066518848,74.4315831485588,63.08484848484848,10.957871396895788,36.84922394678492,10.039904901763897,3.5373902439024385,3368,138,638,60,41,1092,312,825,0.067,0.831,0.102,0.9826,4,0,0,0,1,0,109.0,7,2,3,7,26,21,3,1,37,0,61,9,2,2,3,119,108,63,0,6,13,23,4,3,1,10,1,15,6,7,42,57,6,5,16,4,0,9,6,10,1,4,14,24,99,11,99,80,20,77,2,1,5,0,124,31,0,19,36,435,141,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646867035219026,0.042153254575850285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408540426809775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03233796928334595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047160233623823385,0.03325047031020776,0.04872411799117004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03656565939012736,0.0,0.1739288107009328,0.0,0.0,0.05357644164781295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457784628324713,0.09971775236547,0.051388374027658015,0.05333522553205671,0.0,0.05261697591328009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936644530849044,0.0,0.0,0.04161433503710568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944959293333634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053034654810667804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04273796482399122,0.0,0.1344874507840126,0.0,0.04808889528728435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04044893102883455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490682554885717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03803282935928719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205134917245937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03187406786342602,0.0,0.0476999767149229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890030703204754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05226825302877718,0.1162871992847044,0.0,0.050352225861041766,0.05166695075109059,0.0,0.033588400377749184,0.06969662502154661,0.1429831162262138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128470025638098,0.0,0.0,0.031742289875852696,0.04821172346748556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089336821238463,0.0,0.0,0.1138701042749603,0.0,0.03495724932725938,0.14104109026125256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462568126248189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560493316109994,0.0,0.0,0.06593513430871974,0.041521828824139864,0.0,0.05219939613180732,0.08990674120999992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04550221901241033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185580312091013,0.0,0.0,0.05105459724472528,0.0,0.0,0.045234210237869714,0.3025312275933372,0.0,0.0,0.0757878684395768,0.0,0.04960860802928773,0.0,0.0,0.03933669624962666,0.053452057989867914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053232181845396416,0.06731713794075354,0.0,0.03797623791419194,0.07951360882463165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03575426812506771,0.4968814900154577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03047032366893777,0.0,0.03775211889623021,0.1663727566178734,0.0,0.0,0.045439348943818035,0.0,0.1614283183879138,0.0,0.0,0.09900961438685292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923656747889391,0.0,0.07549141309740785,0.0,0.05790727788573144,0.04275625271372547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923894008652598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0306228556971148
parenting,grftysw0p,2019/02/04,"I need an improved system for enjoying weekends with my children. (6 & 3) Their father and I split over a year ago, and to make a long story short, they typically stay with him during the week and with me on weekends and vacations. This is still difficult for me, but I’m learning to manage my grief. 

I am hoping to achieve balance in the time we have together. I want to make the most of every second with them, but I also want to avoid the mistake of spoiling them with toys and outings simply because I don’t spend as much time with them as I’d like. As much as I want every moment to be special for them, we all thrive on routine, my son especially. Clear expectations and predictable schedules seem to make everyone happier. Of course I want them to have fun, but I’d like to keep things minimally chaotic while doing so. 

In their other household, the routine is somewhat built in- they wake up at a certain time, eat breakfast before school/daycare, go to school/daycare, come home and do schoolwork/play, eat dinner, & get ready for bed.  

I don’t want to deprive them of the laid back nature of childhood weekends and summer vacations. Of course there will be an occasional day when we will end up eating pancakes past their bedtime or watching cartoons for 3 hours, and I’m okay with that. 

What I would like, however, is to limit some of the stress (key word: some) that comes with 2 small children running around with no real structure to their days, so more of my energy and attention is available to them. I also think they’d benefit from some structure, even on weekends- and maybe this would even benefit their father as well, by making the weekly transition a little less jarring. 

Can anyone provide an example of what a typical weekend routine for your family looks like, along with any suggestions for developing that balance between fun and structure? ",8.386536134988859,7.793140988538685,7.930405921680998,72.7392319325056,61.75071633237822,10.506271887933778,38.01353072269978,9.725611199111238,3.714472652021649,1491,65,256,24,18,472,194,349,0.07,0.747,0.184,0.9907,1,1,0,0,0,0,48.0,3,1,15,2,12,20,0,2,16,1,19,6,1,4,3,65,40,27,1,11,4,3,0,4,0,4,0,0,2,2,9,29,5,3,4,6,1,4,3,6,1,1,0,2,37,14,60,33,10,46,0,2,2,0,26,14,0,8,30,180,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738756149207957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571595891077188,0.0,0.2380745955739045,0.0,0.07471109891275357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681926946231778,0.0,0.0,0.09780200578155893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447842137424412,0.0,0.06697190571964942,0.0,0.09348593628375584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927573844036347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170602485411654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372540478941604,0.0,0.0,0.09730664914781824,0.0,0.0,0.1451279055610299,0.0,0.18512984973747976,0.10497949527155524,0.0,0.0,0.10356974026425143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739926072132737,0.0,0.06243808549541813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020227174004897,0.10911946602523548,0.10819363662697376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765192478545356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146954621771927,0.1101123125123779,0.0,0.0972259374958116,0.09225785729250563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933395523822765,0.0,0.11037287627187717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152495472569373,0.08146255840110661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048773547816723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504896881171834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22237590569867266,0.0,0.1000158070726012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710011070452693,0.08773731096969774,0.0,0.12584852331228813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298857570684092,0.07039623748749149,0.0,0.0,0.19218726085046425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32400235098354035,0.0,0.17625210315505913,0.0,0.0987806809278816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608807311007314,0.0,0.0,0.07074863547960554
parenting,DMKawfi,2019/02/04,"A toddler's take on Tylenol My 2 year old recently had an ear infection and was taking Tylenol for the pain while we were waiting for the antibiotics to do their thing. We talked about how Tylenol is medicine and can help you feel better when your body hurts. He was all about it and would occasionally tell us, ""Mommy, (toddler name) ear hurt. Need Tylenol."" 

About a week later I noticed he was asking for Tylenol again out of the blue when he was upset (e.g. crying, frustrated). It happened a few times before I started asking the right questions. Turns out, his body wasn't hurting but his feelings were. He thought Tylenol would help his feelings stop hurting. 

Once I figured that out I introduced the concept of ""feelings Tylenol"" which is imaginary and also remarkably effective. I hand him an invisible cup, he takes a big sip, and he's all good again. No more tears, no more tantrum. 

Toddlers are weird and magical.",4.251960059171598,6.8657903905325455,3.8204992603550316,86.48447670118347,74.0887573964497,6.828550295857989,31.864275147929,7.8658589789855275,2.33992573964497,732,36,133,11,16,219,109,169,0.14800000000000002,0.721,0.132,-0.0061,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,2,1,2,9,11,2,1,11,0,15,14,5,2,2,29,30,12,0,3,1,0,5,0,0,2,9,2,0,0,5,11,0,2,8,0,0,0,3,9,0,0,9,8,16,2,13,19,5,19,0,4,1,0,24,6,0,1,13,81,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282882972448573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24041795260981424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109415780824301,0.0,0.0,0.11372237674360205,0.0,0.2856563719545235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124383145239294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600643714342813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785042223008766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137066845179831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237471092723086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5506086717962364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534363979998006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639409413148793,0.13492760769394566,0.13693809823808256,0.0,0.0,0.13682277633001885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404385996781144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696149788721334,0.0,0.0,0.1098103018768288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101263951235963,0.0,0.0,0.10750224441585893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900382056134645,0.10335120118226912,0.11238835831953398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854257048672815,0.0,0.0,0.10208158258166963,0.07497854774152111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986281009066484,0.0,0.0,0.15467109798652154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314258088030176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18268521529122028,0.0,0.0,0.08280408263504731
parenting,Throwaway79089,2019/02/04,"14-year-old is glued to his computer every waking hour of his life. Advice on how to proceed. Hello, I have lived alone with my 14-year-old son since about a year or so. My husband and older daughter are in a different part of the country for work-related reasons. 

My son is quite introverted, and as far as I am aware he has not made close friends in his new school.

I work quite late into the night (it’s actually for my work that I’m here, not my husband’s) and my son hates having babysitters, so my son is home alone for most of the day once school is over. 

He spends the vast majority of this considerable amount of free time glued to his computer. He barely talks to me. 

Last night I was frustrated enough that I demanded to see what he was doing a dozen hours a day. We had a fight, he cried, and I took his computer. He was not using Incognito, and it turns out that most of his online activity is innocuous (Reddit, forums, etc), which is a relief. 

A large portion of his activities consists of going on a number of bigoted communities to argue with their members, sometimes for many hours. I asked about them and he tells me something to the effect that he wants to do something good in his life for once. I was not completely sure how to respond to that, but I told him that racists are dangerous, even online, that they cannot be convinced reasonably, and that in any case he has been spending far too much time with them than is healthy. He seemed unconvinced. 

I currently still have his computer and am unsure how to proceed. His grades are excellent, so the computer isn’t a problem in that sense, but I worry that it’s stunting his emotional development (esp. with friends at school) and putting him into unnecessary contact with some unsavory people. ",6.070755142293602,6.6457614319526686,6.3273795435333895,78.36578895463512,66.33727810650889,9.870047900817132,32.663285432516204,9.842372674337009,3.0517746970977737,1396,56,266,29,21,448,178,338,0.141,0.8079999999999999,0.051,-0.9813,2,2,2,0,1,0,46.0,1,0,4,6,12,14,5,0,15,0,28,3,1,8,1,42,40,20,0,2,7,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,16,19,0,0,5,0,3,3,6,6,0,1,9,1,38,9,47,30,10,37,0,0,1,0,46,16,0,5,18,178,54,12,0.0,0.0,0.09892185543515546,0.0,0.0,0.09905694814473308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997613457159076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893462890434063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476665124667333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628382682688614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134946263947533,0.13074967948517574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590938739638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402686620902805,0.0,0.10474162838609302,0.11305361250145007,0.06695349458851284,0.0,0.08540804295806573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663540489206346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057610533317820074,0.0850237949315933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008123901590146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168171553314916,0.0,0.2994851487622146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262954360530972,0.11434903351432933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320032870604446,0.0,0.0,0.08951098647200638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591812274456422,0.0,0.10277260260066444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745181303370266,0.0,0.0,0.09790314251891882,0.0,0.19025652170539026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21274014528577487,0.2159100825415034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097731194002844,0.0,0.0702767383985091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699677040512028,0.0,0.10190418746711427,0.0,0.21563754678729413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20844913396236192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077735589428165,0.08077824152402459,0.0922828421138503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385376751802676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156078144405895,0.1002568715965758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095368774890818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553940551280114,0.0,0.0,0.08147683758259451,0.08860127325299133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821855743584303,0.0,0.0,0.09686275070803828,0.1126250692183455,0.0,0.11026073554293032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755056483800078,0.0,0.0,0.05979026451014115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22139426561268105,0.10294548774658743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958355988567532
parenting,MyHusbandIsAPenguin,2019/02/04,"My three year old is obnoxious and unpleasant Suggestions more than welcome. Tldr is that my 3 year old has a rude and obnoxious streak to rival a hormonal teen and its starting to impact relationships. 


OK so let me preface. I KNOW 3 year olds, especially girls, have attitudes. I can deal with that, that's not a problem. She is 3 and 3 months. 

What IS a problem is how my daughter expresses herself sometimes. Usually, she's a lovely and well behaved kid. She's always been articulate and started talking very early. That's not a humble brag, it's part of the problem I think. She's been able to talk for much longer than she's had a concept of manners. That's led in the past to situations where she's said things that are downright rude without meaning to (shortly after she turned two she chastised my mother for turning their television off... ""did I told you to turn the TV off nana?"")

So as I said, usually she will do as she's told and is nice. But she has huge mood swings and when she's in a bad mood she's incredibly unpleasant. But instead of moving away from the thing that's annoying her or coming to me she puts her hands on her hips, scrunches her face up into this awful angry face and uses this tone of voice that just makes me want to die. She sounds like a hormonal teenager when she talks.

I look after another child her age once a week and the girls get on like a house on fire. It's great that they're such good buddies but we had an incident today that's led to this post. The girls were playing at a soft play centre and another girl who is friends with my daughter arrived. All was fine at first but then it got into a ""you're not my best friend"" scenario where they wouldn't let the new little girl play. The girl's father went to see what was the matter and my daughter did the aforementioned hands-hips-face and told him she couldn't play with them because she's not their best friend. He (rightfully) told her off, I took her away and had a talk and then made her go back and apologise. For the rest of the time they were fine! 

It might sound like not much of a big deal and it doesn't happen often, but when it does happen people remember it. No one remembers when she behaves herself but they remember when she's a little shit to their kid. She's 3, but she's tall and articulate and much more mature than her years (again, not a humble brag, part of the problem!). So she's set this standard of acting older than she is and when she does actual 3 year old things people are outraged. If she doesn't stop then eventually she will have actual consequences where people don't want their children to play with her... 

This cliquie behaviour isn't a problem at daycare, they've told me she's inclusive and plays with everyone. It's just when she's with her ""best friend"" she's like this. Sorry for being so rambling, I'm a bit all over the place at the moment.",4.250675487170813,5.371641760831891,4.807028786405716,85.66442321511606,70.73310225303292,8.055611446929026,26.898127404150987,8.407314429234152,1.668571408039904,2284,74,467,35,41,729,253,577,0.109,0.767,0.124,0.3248,0,0,0,0,0,1,65.0,1,1,8,4,23,39,5,0,35,2,39,6,5,6,2,77,71,47,1,10,18,5,3,4,4,4,0,5,0,10,31,31,0,1,6,7,0,9,14,11,1,4,22,10,72,26,58,41,14,79,0,0,2,1,93,29,1,4,43,315,103,0,0.06564325180690679,0.0,0.12811668922125605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054620444074609226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376653461202082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334799183260248,0.050475608723393,0.05480937333830743,0.04001551702285508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666562871364408,0.0,0.07166542951998181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654584898090815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535062045481328,0.0,0.0,0.06812733164267383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488970403658368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272494018125489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055836116453084186,0.0,0.0,0.20286325404355846,0.0,0.03429588974380459,0.0,0.037306572751196664,0.05505844519264615,0.0525009050951581,0.0723719168581512,0.0,0.0,0.11609622156535886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574349915347607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03607581447373249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342493448778838,0.0,0.12827990825652386,0.13158356682307235,0.0,0.0,0.05512379884237402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924559763939539,0.06211323204712346,0.043817380309314286,0.0,0.0,0.0715047451964089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963711665006303,0.0,0.0,0.052395817319120186,0.06976838814077517,0.14476602926230112,0.0,0.0,0.06339866164410339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27552620155137353,0.06990792081037674,0.04448156628506966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217048963737894,0.06266391153845738,0.1365262966400882,0.0,0.0685832266842696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286808976024273,0.0,0.0,0.31405863332204464,0.0,0.06598959885374889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047628613941961,0.2230830237301561,0.056058978374464115,0.12488352924355435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05230917282964303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738185466091404,0.0,0.07378576537539877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492285453063333,0.07348224610565063,0.09292526298578296,0.0,0.0,0.0548806978208175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104623712082746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308313790217016,0.04206154519952953,0.0,0.0,0.038277108017654785,0.0,0.062222127248978035,0.3136247009062745,0.07293206808594342,0.0,0.2142030240949226,0.06412391867780419,0.0,0.0,0.05669469328670375,0.1445935357130935,0.05416255745817024,0.07743618134744512,0.0,0.052655057059590255,0.0,0.059021166812028326,0.060851952076600435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327775225695476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136050982548804
parenting,boymom_rn,2019/02/04,"Bad attitude and failing grades My 13 year old son has zero respect towards us when he is told to do anything like home work or chores. He has told me I should kill myself multiple times because I bring up his grades and make him do his school work. 

He doesn’t do/turn in most of his assignments at school and is disruptive in class on a regular basis. Despite my efforts, he has never been compliant with his school work and has never had passing grades.

He is rude to his 5 year old brother and says things out loud that his brother repeats (I hate my life, no one likes me, etc). 

He has always had a stable life and has never gone without. The has been in and out of therapy for years without improvement. He’s currently in therapy once a week but I have yet to see any changes. I am trying my hardest not to lose my shit on him and keep him motivated. 

He is constantly grounded from games, cell phone, and the tv which makes me feel bad that he has nothing he enjoys. I can’t justify allowing him to have those privileges. 

I feel like I’m raising a future inmate because he refuses to comply with the rules of the family. I just don’t know what to do anymore. ",4.853233190271816,5.410072892703866,5.661133047210303,82.14162804005723,69.0,9.13178826895565,30.98397711015737,9.21078282632365,2.5556068097281828,916,36,184,17,15,300,134,233,0.121,0.795,0.084,-0.8383,1,0,0,0,0,2,21.0,1,0,0,7,3,14,4,0,8,0,26,3,1,4,3,33,39,12,1,1,6,3,2,3,0,1,2,2,2,0,6,13,0,2,4,2,0,3,10,8,0,2,7,5,28,6,27,31,2,31,0,2,1,0,32,12,1,2,19,118,34,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967618112826924,0.0,0.0,0.07908054659329257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532749690500813,0.0,0.0,0.09569598557625517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941930106697646,0.14177745978249148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301840310093147,0.0,0.0,0.12566715835000258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296930383620012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962697363328716,0.0,0.11759848279479156,0.08307692567370381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481136855170758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166474059657816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336305716689853,0.1286566120948771,0.0,0.0639094245958252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642768003020336,0.17043887802967747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300977093778356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552476973127635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26906786963383944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115824866821942,0.0,0.2440516071375589,0.1238440506155382,0.07880047471886609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247772575789848,0.0,0.3530722026796655,0.09266732256482244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936904606032014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659733431180063,0.0,0.07725728233101371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780908440422713,0.0,0.0,0.2222383551567702,0.0,0.07895263640024971,0.126489100951182,0.0,0.0,0.13988141747448773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328006720926542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22419700264307024,0.0,0.25397945583440984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246590203815787
parenting,swstudent,2019/02/04,"Nanny I hired a nanny for my toddler and I have a nest cam in 2 rooms of the house which I watch from my phone. She has been really great but the past couple weeks my daughter has become a bit irritated. Sometimes when she comes, my daughter yells at her and says “go away!” Occasionally she starts screeching out of frustration, and the nanny just keeps doing what she’s doing. So I end up listening to my daughter go “EEEEEAAAHHHHHHH” like a dying dinosaur 3 times in a row and it kills me. Usually it happens when the nanny plays this song that SHE likes. I find it kind of annoying that she plays the SAME song every time she’s here (3 days a week) for at least 15 minutes and my daughter obviously doesn’t care for it. It’s an educational song but it’s just annoying. I wasn’t going to say anything if my daughter enjoyed it but she doesn’t. But I don’t want to tell her to stop playing that song because it’s going to be insulting to her.. so I don’t know what to do.

The first couple weeks were really great. My daughter REALLY liked her because she’s engaging. But as time passes it seems that the nanny is slightly more controlling than I want her to be.. in terms of deciding what songs she should listen to.. and she also decided to stick certain crafts to her bedroom wall, which she asked permission to do after she had already done it..  she is the type of person who “recommends” things because her own daughter loved them but I tell her exactly what my toddler likes and she doesn’t care.. 

This is only going to last another 4 months because that’s when my toddler starts a daily program.. but I don’t know what to do in the meantime.

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parenting,E580BAEDA44A,2019/02/04,"Any Studies Regarding (Exposing Children to Violence in a Controlled Manner) vs. (Allowing it to Occur Organically) ? Hello Folks.

I am trying to get some basis for this... I feel there's some logic to exposing children to violence, like a cartoon, in a controlled environment where it can be explained etc. rather than just allowing it to occur organically where they are blind-sided by it, etc.

Does anyone recall any studies regarding the benefit of this etc.?


Thank you for your time. ",4.992380952380955,8.188442047619048,6.452380952380956,65.42595238095242,74.95238095238095,9.447619047619048,33.142857142857146,9.725611199111238,4.43577142857143,388,20,54,12,9,131,56,84,0.119,0.792,0.08900000000000001,-0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,1,2,5,3,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,4,0,12,8,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,13,7,5,5,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,2,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29165243451931977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994108829027036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4810242794086741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765745644277373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.717470199839769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842705722328798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203579101770232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476431068386384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742708591068964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504140019877086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559034813123412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dar8702,2019/02/04,"Baby dolls HELP

So, my 5 year old son helped his 6 year old cousin care for her baby alive doll. He loved it. And im glad he did. He said he wants one. His birthday is at the end of the month and damn it he's getting 2. 
He came out and said himself he wants a black one. Fuck yea dude.  I got you. 
 The only problem I'm having is if I should bring those presents to his birthday party around his father's family they will definitely make him feel bad. maybe not on purpose but make him feel bad and be like ""why would you get him a baby doll he's a boy""

Should I use this as a learning experience for my son and for his family and everybody else or should I just dodged it and say they arrived late and we give him his presents at Mommy's home.
I would like to take them to the party just so he could learn that you can be happy about whatever you want to be happy about. no matter what you like. but, his family is very close minded.
He is a naturally open minded boy.

We co- parent.
He will tell you he has 2 homes. 
Dads family is sexist and racist. 
Learning moment? Or keep it simple? ",0.6176892285298408,2.6663580960698674,2.4046124454148483,94.81745724163031,83.75982532751092,5.388719068413391,16.528566229985444,6.6274283507984215,-0.3688909752547307,840,16,193,9,24,277,128,229,0.085,0.752,0.163,0.9466,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,6,3,0,7,13,2,0,9,1,20,2,0,3,0,46,42,17,0,11,8,6,2,3,0,7,0,3,2,2,8,16,0,1,5,0,0,2,2,5,0,2,5,6,31,8,16,26,0,19,0,0,1,2,52,7,2,3,13,106,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251609158708523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923062218693959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317114311597847,0.11741246609440345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194524022366517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962007238265248,0.0,0.10199685861607387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264778219229801,0.4342473303582339,0.0,0.1164558901777231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646281272239372,0.12033184436485465,0.1104711855802028,0.0,0.0,0.0921033218283221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24517819185575185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437755117664095,0.0,0.23102810811550695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439168336555287,0.0,0.0,0.10235877664227128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299045789065181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878288554516588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039356623738618,0.0,0.1537393030839368,0.0,0.11569288177882428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325559013329767,0.0,0.09191896437316777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416803897725725,0.0,0.1560696908960318,0.08758375097806127,0.0,0.0,0.12787064898210254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101917893620884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908551603306645,0.0915792076462436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865853768792801,0.0,0.10065420527641693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099460563056557,0.0,0.09501838971295963,0.20377161647612652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391325439330518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361156471926966,0.0,0.0,0.14831748155938365
parenting,AngelDescent,2019/02/04,"Sleephelp? Hi.

We have an almost 1 year old daughter, and we're currently struggling a bit with bedtime. Most with the fact that she wakes up about an hour after she fell asleep. This is also about the same amount of time her naps during the day are.

She is well fed, diaper is clean etc. And we're not sure what to do :/",1.1833186813186811,3.4467665846153857,2.0098901098901116,97.19153846153843,83.15384615384616,4.945054945054945,16.978021978021978,6.18269132825596,-0.4962747252747253,248,5,55,2,7,77,52,65,0.104,0.8270000000000001,0.07,-0.3318,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,6,0,6,3,2,0,2,11,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,5,2,8,6,5,9,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,7,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149431414993222,0.0,0.0,0.2515189698563219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433708844535751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20283731548732312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3507693687086729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097356916026532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33003247224817983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32880124635441993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29642836011186563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339727428386585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28278837349432945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253850617640115
parenting,Solipsistic,2019/02/04,"My wife and I are at our wits end with our almost 2.5 y/o's whining and inability to share My wife and I have a 10 mo old and a 2.5 yo. For the most part our older child is extremely well behaved. But, since his brother started crawling things have taken a major turn and we're struggling to handle it. In the past 2 months, he's become extremely whiny and will whine over the smallest of things. An example of this is if one of his toys falls over, he'll start whining and crying and wanting one of us to come pick it up and stand it back up. We've tried our best to work with him on this, telling him ""we can't understand you when you talk like that. Can you tell us in a normal voice what you need?"". Once he tells us in a normal voice we'll go over and show him how to stand the toy back up and ask him if he can do it himself the next time it falls, to which he replies ""yes"". But next time it's the same thing. I'm not sure if this is the right way to deal with it, or if there's something else we should be doing?

The second and more major issue is his inability to share anything with his brother. We've worked with him to try and identify the toys that are just his that brother can't have and toys that he will share, but it doesn't matter. Whenever brother gets near any of his toys, he starts screaming and whining and immediately moves the toys out of babies reach. When he starts the whining and screaming, we've also tried asking him to find a toy that brother can play with so he won't want to play with whatever he's after at the time. He'll go grab one of babies toys, but will never grab one of his own and if we grab one of his and ask him if baby can play with this, he says no and continues with his tantrum until either baby is moved or the toys are removed from the area. With baby crawling and now pulling up on furniture this is causing major stress in our household because there's really no where to put toys that our out of baby's reach but still within grasp of our toddler.

At this point, we're just totally unsure of what to do. We've been fighting this for 2 months and it's just getting worse as baby gets more mobile. While we understand that all toddlers go through this phase, we want to make sure we're handling it appropriately. It doesn't feel like we're actually helping him learn to share with our current approach because he never agrees to share anything. Any feedback or ideas on how to handle these two situations? Thank you r/parenting!",6.469633484162897,5.276370174509808,6.520784313725487,83.24891402714933,65.88235294117646,9.336349924585221,31.184012066365014,8.012643519586192,1.920260935143288,1959,59,422,19,26,625,219,510,0.109,0.821,0.071,-0.9513,2,0,1,0,2,0,44.0,17,5,0,3,17,26,2,2,21,1,31,0,0,5,6,89,59,45,0,13,19,7,4,2,0,8,0,5,0,1,33,41,0,0,7,14,0,12,10,11,1,7,2,9,44,15,68,48,13,68,0,5,0,0,77,25,0,11,30,272,77,4,0.0,0.0,0.08220751409817964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435565468032513,0.0,0.0,0.06736786604002508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457416467933355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138647089365148,0.0,0.2362631832205663,0.0,0.0,0.12955296740696864,0.0,0.1027056256229427,0.0930380753163829,0.0,0.0,0.0884062161838803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653918597176348,0.0,0.07256655952549082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925352893907232,0.0,0.08684924740773235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037293115633322,0.0,0.07461293038184112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0425950139263233,0.06018211667241453,0.0,0.0,0.07699516932146278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203805952654896,0.0,0.14362909113748465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056465275670002826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509835572394704,0.0,0.087926198814011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231224542728616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05623182945825952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448146114698634,0.17907068272065402,0.0,0.06246397601745712,0.12994441630882606,0.0,0.17918349924709578,0.0,0.16507749152767728,0.0,0.0,0.08839724252995476,0.08971440677285289,0.2854209712814124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354017329391463,0.09122529314682636,0.08041800678049574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963541002620843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468593609586872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396723713375605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719417475281387,0.0,0.06699219110515353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968540718428376,0.09469093190298727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485319245288561,0.0,0.0,0.2385061591402216,0.0,0.06727533968750153,0.0,0.09649830911650296,0.0880674659682775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879316034005722,0.0,0.0,0.06771009545647738,0.22089225039364035,0.07755821922272993,0.0,0.0,0.16789885066162613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736562033216355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158326708297586,0.09163051917847254,0.08229166677312974,0.17539666396799267,0.3039963161305448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906338920846365,0.06686695073763048,0.0,0.0,0.07574319055984206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265757404534405,0.0,0.08584924585353819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,5zalot,2019/02/04,Snickers Ice Cream Win Yesterday we bought some Snickers Ice Cream bars. I don't want to share them with my kids so I told them they can't have them because they have alcohol in them. They haven't even tried to sneak them. ,1.7006666666666668,4.169797733333333,1.5555555555555571,99.94000000000004,82.77777777777777,5.377777777777778,20.11111111111111,6.742157984588678,0.02424444444444429,178,5,40,2,5,52,30,45,0.071,0.843,0.087,0.3999,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,8,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,12,2,4,6,1,2,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,1,1,24,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5577127811245861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181228084139824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446855543396035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.498662409301444,0.0,0.35431068467256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078082868332517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yoloswagyeetmother,2019/02/04,My husband wants our son to wrestle...I don’t. Help. My husband wrestled since he was a child. He did it in high school and continued into college. I personally have always detested the sport. It doesn’t make sense to me and I think it is strange. I have always tried to let me husband know that I am proud of his wrestling accomplishments but that I don’t support the sport. What do I do now that he wants our son to start??  ,1.0527906976744212,3.4577742790697705,2.3081860465116293,93.83158139534883,85.27906976744184,5.300465116279072,23.71627906976744,6.742157984588678,0.6858269767441856,332,13,72,4,10,106,54,86,0.017,0.885,0.097,0.7514,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,1,0,9,19,3,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,13,2,7,16,0,6,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,3,46,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678775442846162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18844847530854314,0.2970497124301507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451232381945926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874942471974592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18766936669448653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24548875805431716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845381405382157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23256963823006194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899894894850012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3190449377044912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18014914387999748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088194580103146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33165832850179033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yalui96,2019/02/04,Not allowing dad in delivery room I hear a lot of people asking women to put themselves in the fathers shoes but why can't it be the other way around.? To me and in my culture it's right of passage for a woman. We should be able to choose who we do and dont want there. Something that I feel to be an inherent rite isn't so to some? Or maybe it's not thinker about in the same way? Unless you're the one in labor its hear say. I have heard a lot of men say they'd be mad. I say if I was met with anger that this wouldn't be the type of person I wanted in the delivery room in the first place. Maybe he just isn't good in crisis and stresses me out? Maybe it should be my choice and rightfully and unabashedly so!,2.417639860139861,3.0316141089743596,3.8588578088578096,92.65583916083915,74.57692307692307,7.211188811188811,22.51515151515152,7.348242739294969,0.5124179487179483,555,13,134,6,11,184,95,156,0.122,0.8490000000000001,0.029,-0.9393,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,1,6,4,2,1,11,0,17,1,1,1,0,30,25,11,0,6,7,2,1,0,0,3,0,6,2,4,10,10,0,0,3,0,0,1,7,3,0,2,3,7,13,1,23,12,4,19,1,0,0,0,20,15,0,5,1,93,23,2,0.15463010814846992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765357973882889,0.14455827758857698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812253351250537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818562879476282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152829099826116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969639833914642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34855874011454835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26292197664566713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4660401820028777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478136314005627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072010472438015,0.13501704607393206,0.16155555167429725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544596781166325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264106534948473,0.0,0.3689042051932577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904181179626415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17712826644347165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824096882278477,0.2454763648183336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952962142922778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,enokeenu,2019/02/04,"AVID education approach Hello:

My kid got a brochure and an invitation for AVID for high school.  I have looked at their advertising and I am trying to figure out what they are.  They advertise that they are not a remedial program.  When I look at their videos all I see are non-white people.  They give a list of all of the colleges that their students got into but none of them are really good schools like Harvard, Yale, Penn State, Rutgers. 

So I believe it is some kind of remedial help for underserved demographics.  I  believe we are not in that group.  Please advise",3.865283018867924,6.369574773584912,4.574188679245285,81.14769811320755,74.84905660377359,7.636226415094339,27.581132075471697,8.548686976883017,2.182225660377359,450,18,83,9,10,144,75,106,0.0,0.831,0.16899999999999998,0.9543,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,8,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,2,12,14,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,3,16,3,13,12,4,9,0,0,3,0,15,6,0,1,2,58,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4776143965061885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333207999818856,0.0,0.17778263339053674,0.33904877373654985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420728329333622,0.22394818582583076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22072451949383728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355332329647468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559873180725566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694690620004616,0.0,0.0,0.23266926950250666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578749371540758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42903122073731975,0.16890528716522415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390744606122913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,contactneeuro,2019/02/04,Children Learning 101: The Ultimate Guide! It is challenging to find all the benefits in a single app. The team has listed down the names with key attributes that each game provides. Click here: [https://www.neeuro.com/children-learning-101/](https://www.neeuro.com/children-learning-101/),15.443714285714286,21.635385942857145,6.357142857142858,61.95285714285717,60.99999999999999,7.371428571428572,29.857142857142854,8.238735603445708,3.1356857142857155,248,8,25,4,5,57,32,35,0.0,0.877,0.123,0.5411,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,17,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Altruistic_Tomatillo,2019/02/04,"Advise on in-law grandfather This advise pertains more so about my second child, my daughter, but some back history is necessary to fully grasp the situation.

My father in law has been raising his first grandchild (boy) since 2006. My mother in law is still married to him and they reside in the same home but she disapproved of taking on the grandson because she was left (FIL volunteered for a geo-bachelor tour) to raise their three sons during the teenage years. They all live together, but grandfather takes on the majority of childrearing with grandson. His parenting to grandson is less than positive, unhealthy diet (grandson overweight), granddad sleeping in and not taking grandson to school, and his general attitude and way of dealing with grandson, TO ME, seems emotionally abusive. 

It took me a while to pick up on this behavior so he was allowed to babysit our first born, son, a few times. I started to get uncomfortable with him over time at his constant offering of diaper changes and then later offering to take my son to the restroom while we were all at a restaurant. Granted my husband was less than thrilled to jump at those situations but I did not feel right about it so took it upon myself to handle. 

So starting at the age (at most) of two I no longer allowed my FIL to change my sons diapers or escort him to the restroom. I made up random reasons as to why he couldn't and thanked him for the offer to appear to be civil and not accusatory. My reasoning for this was because of how I felt- I felt it odd that someone would be so willing and persistent to help in this way and I did not approve of how he treated the grandson he is raising. I am going to admit that I have a bias against males in this subject matter. My father never changed or offered to change my son's diaper, an observation I made to gage my FIL's interactions. 


So here is the end all story that I want some perspective on. 


Our son was three and 1/2 years old when our daughter was born and he had not been helped with bathroom issues by granddad since (at most) two. I had constantly dodged the topic over the years trying to seem nice (but very much stood my ground on NO, thankyou). Daughter was maybe 6 months old or more (I did not know when) and granddad had taken her into a side room, with out asking or making any kind of comment, and changed her diaper. My husband had happened upon it (side room is a room off from the main rooms but does not have a door) and watched with out making his presence known (he knows how I feel) he told me that nothing seemed amiss but that he informed granddad (his dad) that mom and him were to handle diaper changes from now on. My issue with this is that for the past few years before this I would not allow him to change our son, he himself never had daughters, and he did this with out permission and in a room that was not in public view of everyone. I was not informed of this until months after the fact but it had happened during a family get together like Thanksgiving or Christmas when I would let my guard down and allowed baby girl to be watched with out me being in the room. And another story of comparison from my father: my mother told me he never wanted to change my diaper either (not that I approve, my husband does not have the same privilege) and that he may have changed me a handful of times. My father's reasoning, ""I was worried about accidentally hurting you."" My father is a large man with gorilla fingers who use to play football so maybe I can see his reasoning. My father is/was very much a ""mother hen"" so I believe him on this regard. Again as comparison- My dad had a daughter, didn't want to change me, has never offered to change my son, sure as hell has never wanted to change my daughter or offer help in that regard. Is it just me and the prudish way that I was raised or is something off with FIL/ granddad? 


Please and thank you for your advise, this is a very uncomfortable topic that I take very serious and only wish to keep my children safe and happy. 
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parenting,thezelph,2019/02/04,"“Tween” shows that are teaching my 7yr daughter to act like a little bitch. I need a list of all the shows that my daughter might watch so I can block them. Any help???

The one I found her watching is called Liv and Maddie and they act like little brats. Any others I should be aware of???",2.316724137931036,4.052828258620689,2.361586206896554,98.79203448275864,76.75862068965517,4.64,18.49655172413793,3.1291,-0.8599627586206902,221,4,50,0,5,66,43,58,0.107,0.754,0.139,0.244,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,8,3,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,9,2,3,4,1,4,0,0,2,0,7,2,1,1,2,30,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.398452550583805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991500641369943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212210479350904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636829273945847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862558433358424,0.5872558750939263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107896135110691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21722986707710026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985206949847383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darkorical,2019/02/04,"That is so not what I meant. Advice? My 16 year old daughter told me she liked 3 different boys and didn't know who to choose. I told her to not choose but just continue to be friends with all three and just hang out as friends until she could be certain. Instead she is dating all three.... They all know and have a group chat where they discuss date ideas and discuss their relationship. Two of the boys are bi and are kinda into each other so my daughter is even trying too set up a double date between hey and the third got and those two. If she was an unrelated adult and I found it about this relationship I'd be accepting a bit intrigued, but never judgemental not would I try to talk her out of it. But as my daughter I feel I should discourage it",3.3095175438596485,4.841196881578952,4.022368421052634,88.78491228070177,73.60526315789474,7.171929824561403,25.166666666666664,7.793537801064563,1.1718798245614042,594,19,126,8,12,189,96,152,0.024,0.87,0.106,0.9109,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,3,0,9,6,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,0,5,41,22,17,0,4,9,3,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,3,9,13,0,1,9,1,0,1,5,1,0,5,7,1,19,5,16,9,6,15,0,1,0,1,28,5,0,2,9,98,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823943169254064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20377580104494505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490265506270696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501176577665527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328198213211368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437693333104163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20465444407908304,0.288413970112216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492827722237755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070755355485676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051582762281204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911888104140112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439576418020645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19586002904771396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007891045634142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002392476705606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35670824877614504,0.0,0.2534491100487687,0.0,0.36466405021872206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259232926847409,0.0,0.0,0.12019786244900114
parenting,bloo_a,2019/02/05,"Any parents that have children with thyroid issues? I don’t wanna go into too much detail but my son was in hospital 3 times last week.

I’m upset because I’ve been back to his doctor twice about his thyroid and going back tomorrow.

Although is TSH levels are only slightly out of range, he is like a completely different child in the last few months and even worse since the last week.

Anyone else gone through the same thing?
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parenting,Developer_Burgundy,2019/02/05,"I'm multilingual through my own choices, (I really enjoyed learning languages as a teenager). I know that I want to eventually teach my son (3-1/2months) atleast one language but I'm not sure the best way to teach a child a second language. Does anyone have any advice or apps that I could use? I am well aware of things like DuoLingo, (currently using it to learn Hindi and brush up on German), but I'm not sure that it will translate well to teaching my young son when he reaches toddler age. Is there anything else I can use geared more towards children/toddlers?

Thanks fellow parents!",5.483909090909092,7.063487163636367,5.327045454545456,81.3605681818182,68.27272727272727,6.954545454545455,34.65909090909091,7.1686216300943375,2.4316363636363643,468,23,81,4,8,145,82,110,0.08199999999999999,0.759,0.159,0.7754,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,3,2,16,15,6,0,2,5,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,9,8,10,13,3,8,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,5,50,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986568109561614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382470770508073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214808266634765,0.0,0.16729386506966304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133447974898964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623139349647509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779041884753005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982627912827558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172521596001707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931931310744757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377574608345369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257342321613669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023551707543565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832048932516954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716605333876246,0.0,0.0,0.1350596818466797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5267429393054437,0.0,0.0,0.11990822952121752,0.16136553151663802,0.0,0.0,0.3655719325803379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Banksy0726,2019/02/05,"Teaching my son to wipe his own butt So my son (5) took to potty training like a fish to water at about 2.5 years old. He has only ever had a handful of pee accidents, never wet the bed, and never had a poop accident. All good so far. He's recently been insisting on wiping himself at home, and out of necessity, has to do it at school. 

One problem, he's pretty terrible at it. I mean, he never reaches his butt. EVER. He's got this technique where he bends over and then tries to reach his arm around, but his arm just isn't long enough. He usually ends up lightly brushing against his butt cheek, comes up empty, and then thinks he must be clean. 

This past week, my wife has been telling me that his underwear is stained because of this and wants me to teach him how to wipe. 

I'm generally really good with teaching him new things, but I'm sort of at a loss for how to go about it. Not that it's such a complicated process (I have 30 years experience, so I think of myself as somewhat of an expert), but I guess I want to know if there's a special technique akin to the bunny ears for tying shoes, or if I just teach him my method and hope for the best. 

Any and all pointers are much appreciated! Thanks :)",3.745416068866568,4.5505644024390275,4.827513151602107,86.22540172166426,71.64227642276424,7.902056432329027,27.07221425155428,8.124751697461798,1.5030595887135343,937,31,203,13,17,308,148,246,0.046,0.789,0.16399999999999998,0.9862,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,0,2,15,10,0,0,10,0,14,12,11,2,8,42,29,21,0,7,9,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,10,11,1,0,4,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,6,5,23,7,35,21,7,34,0,1,0,3,22,14,3,7,18,131,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301256626738968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348505877744041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234167314357454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897041411699375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304878380363957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416758406007254,0.15652080973772112,0.0,0.0,0.27404725008604913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817790460934935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609038701487684,0.25411087138366256,0.12115353689594822,0.0,0.16687387225592956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194822436885336,0.15045523876062142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325023181929526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400617460687804,0.0,0.0,0.13405629785866635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500768452823208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135628002171746,0.0,0.3504954498307953,0.14630170810828544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895427785936095,0.0,0.10264773668834833,0.11520845280026745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460616450056402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541110718914238,0.0,0.14494726957833914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970428823473106,0.0,0.14956963632217668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330729339697124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240144579604984,0.13946374768906888,0.0,0.0,0.10063753044970736,0.1941263663548446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830144138911335,0.10284594681665588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683539295351574,0.0,0.1786953431936977,0.0,0.12150926515770985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950981475772714
parenting,OrangeYellowBluePink,2019/02/05,"15 year old son worries so much about the/his future. Normal? My oldest is 15 and he's become very worried about his future and the future in general. It's larger scale things like global warming but he freaks out about bad grades because he is worried about not getting into his top choice college. The other day he was asking me about my 401K and retirement plan. He is worried about never getting married or getting divorced and having to leave his kids. He hasn't even dated anyone yet and is already thinking about marriage. He worries about where he'll live after college. 

It's a lot but he doesn't seem consumed by it. It's more random. He'll ask something while watching TV or driving to school. He has hobbies but does some activities so it'll look better for college applications. I don't know that it's healthy to worry as much as he does. ",3.164969879518072,5.575229759036149,3.952635542168675,85.20317018072292,76.71084337349397,5.113855421686747,27.24246987951807,5.985473137389443,1.1498204819277111,684,28,120,4,16,218,101,166,0.14400000000000002,0.7809999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.9058,0,0,1,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,3,13,5,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,0,1,22,22,15,0,1,6,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,3,7,3,19,18,5,19,0,0,2,0,21,6,0,6,13,71,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702968192450446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682571875137739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321728469058081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036805459838913,0.07569564109315596,0.13714101276208454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982228106861902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008229930769242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21733193643568352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201610611123775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462820082030174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824307438005199,0.0,0.0,0.131482898146391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06066540318161299,0.0,0.10964838519226733,0.0,0.10427533125413448,0.0,0.0,0.1055687450940384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18256513487441467,0.0,0.09577105284459987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216646748943637,0.0,0.0,0.1303002810914653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567125397324244,0.0,0.11304382866902213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559562000394238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249604026102357,0.07956602503545454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245699206383936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7566315782548412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996432625812958
parenting,TheseusScamander,2019/02/05,"I just became a father overnight. Help Very complicated situation but I just became a dad to a 4 year old girl and 2 year old boy. I'm a 28 year old man. They get here tomorrow. I found out today. I'm rushing around child proofing. They're coming with beds and toys and clothes. I have no idea what I'm doing but I won't ever give up and I'm open to any advice. Please tell me what you wish you knew, any advice you think I should hear. 

*not taking them isn't an option* ",-0.8015700141442714,1.346955356435647,1.4770367751060824,97.32240099009907,94.44554455445544,4.0738330975954735,14.144978783592643,5.773587663045528,-0.9470882602545968,365,7,85,3,14,122,68,101,0.031,0.875,0.094,0.6757,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,2,23,18,6,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,2,9,0,0,4,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,1,12,0,6,14,0,15,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,1,9,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343699461345628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326910790737501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523043737280863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737695088517405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475866840894234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187588891464496,0.0,0.0,0.08938629005362679,0.1641229632764462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19282833298385504,0.0,0.11467651509939117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931372493395629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5385834531460314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18780297715174926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923098037386736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863669883870596,0.0,0.14953823795262766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962612451213803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217118598112895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116531477002456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19674247360743002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305247126394743
parenting,PrinceChanchi,2019/02/05,"My husband is a White Step dad to black son, looking for advice and insight. Cross posted to /r/mixedrace  


I'm mixed (Identify primarily as black) and my son's mother is also black.  My son is technically mixed race, but for all anyone can see or care about, he's black too. My son's mother's husband is black. \*My\* husband is the only white parent. While race shouldn't matter in a perfect world, we all know that inevitably does as a child grows older as a POC.  


He's worried about socially doing right by my son. He wants to learn about proper haircare, ways to make sure he is being culturally sensitive, ways to broach scary topics like police violence, racism in general, that sort of thing with him. Of course I'll be having these conversations with my son as well, but he wants to take part in raising my son and these things are part of it (some, unfortunately so).  He can get ideas and information from me and the other 2 parents, obviously as well, but all the information we can get will be helpful.   


Does anyone have anything that can help out? Links, book recommendations, articles, how-to pages, videos, anything that can help, give insight, guidance, etc. that ya'll know of would be great.

Even personal anecdotes or experience with a similar family dynamic will help out.  


Thank you",5.0406644736842106,7.017732070833336,5.462982456140352,78.39394736842108,69.95833333333334,8.385964912280702,28.048245614035093,8.99025400887824,2.3420416666666664,1027,37,184,20,19,328,141,240,0.097,0.748,0.155,0.9417,2,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,2,1,0,1,9,9,0,0,8,0,23,0,0,1,6,41,37,18,0,4,5,15,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,11,12,0,0,9,2,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,9,13,9,30,29,8,15,0,0,9,0,37,7,0,4,3,109,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315165461590957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076289194618424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821227206291102,0.0,0.22150674040995394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722009010762076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23555542146170394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009972470860988,0.08889323289767742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165159831003298,0.12687634410310478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063197099774236,0.12910780723592755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483822899577218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608424588581611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193197990099988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793063928911107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575225366759661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130189147736942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898376540583802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235923493430348,0.0,0.0,0.2988851620122886,0.2914885183731163,0.0,0.0,0.1175158978247517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889683635402774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149362894477006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072481590541494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719417147531007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12684635323892687,0.0,0.1011924339262596,0.0,0.0,0.1239093327576628,0.0,0.0,0.17882681994468733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876542190302928,0.21365728435938847,0.0,0.0,0.2420191772648642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667930664805736,0.0,0.09560651607204912,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontknowmynamee92,2019/02/05,"My post was recently removed re IVF late pregnancy- let me elaborate My recent post which asked why people are sensitive about the recommended advice (by medical professionals) to fall pregnant at a younger age. Most commented saying they are not offended by the science but by the fact I commented about when it’s not my business. I just want to clarify the the original post actually stated “I’m 30 and running out of time and want children” and I was only responding to someone else’s advice that “don’t rush you have until you’re 45”, when that is not completely true. Anyway, thank you for the feedback re different cultures and returning to work. I guess I’m living in a first world country and don’t have any of those issues to think about. And to whoever said I’m stirring the pot, I really wasn’t, this is obviously a women who is really wanting a child and I think offering the advice to just wait until your 45ish is bad advice. ",6.546251904520062,7.1486237877095045,7.500497714575927,70.27125444388015,65.31284916201118,11.425292026409345,34.70848146267141,11.20814326018867,4.240269273743017,754,33,130,22,11,254,111,179,0.047,0.882,0.071,0.0496,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,1,2,8,4,1,0,12,0,14,1,0,1,3,26,27,12,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,7,8,0,1,2,0,0,4,6,2,0,1,4,2,14,2,21,22,1,24,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,2,12,86,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.13441497275352762,0.0,0.0,0.5383941466666029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366834280646266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287688831677304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500766166667713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441841617539508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390962804533092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150646109146106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171620983546132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173681850947596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376541788858502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537741540135355,0.0,0.0,0.1408491129736889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162748823148585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875918046030564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047579459683242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549200058458794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3957523078478366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17648033244877334,0.0,0.27200448403737465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310228689382312,0.10953686704774987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670717769853435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268130539890174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651725115069605,0.0,0.0,0.08031766138432625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437289537191808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428948255314327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027680957259233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Usermomof3,2019/02/05,"Need advice on how to deal with my son's feelings regarding not seeing my partner as often. I am a single mom, I have a 5 yr old son, we divorced when he was 2. Bio Dad is still involved. 

I met my current partner when my son was 3. About 6 months go, they have developed a very strong bond and relationship,  its absolutely beautiful.  My SO doesn't live with us, but does spend a lot of time with us. Due to family circumstances, on his end, we are unable to live together at this time. 

Today my son said he misses him and why isn't he here. He said he misses playing with him. He asked me why he doesn't sleep here all the time. (We've been working on the house non stop with little time for liesure). Sometimes he asks me when he's coming back. 

I told him my bf has things to do and take care of at his house and I will tell him he misses him and ask him when he will be back. I told him he has responsibilities at his house that he needs to take care of. Also, my son has been mouthing off a little when my SO is here, he does it to me sometimes, but will usually get it together if I say stop. But when my bf is around, he pushes more buttons. So I m not sure if he's acting out for attention. 

My bf still does not feel comfortable doing discipline (time outs, etc.) But he will speak to him calmly to correct his behavior. This has worked so far. 

My friend said maybe its too inconsistent with the sleepovers, sending mixed messages, sleeping sometimes and not others, and maybe I should decide if it should be all or nothing, but living together right now is not an option. 

Do you have any experience or advice as to what I should/can do? ",3.4612263681592057,4.440495862686569,4.5773320895522405,87.10669465174131,72.4626865671642,7.7325870646766175,25.00310945273632,8.07648339933343,1.2271915422885575,1274,37,277,18,24,418,166,335,0.057,0.8740000000000001,0.069,0.7411,1,0,0,0,2,0,43.0,4,1,1,3,25,11,0,0,9,0,32,3,3,1,4,53,56,31,0,7,15,7,2,0,6,6,0,5,0,2,11,19,0,3,4,1,1,5,8,3,0,0,10,8,43,8,33,38,6,44,0,3,1,0,66,14,0,8,25,178,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721994886496415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704612668006904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05991759321232135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843628166427898,0.2471119268969281,0.0,0.0,0.13550178650248618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17966735014775798,0.0,0.0,0.07589867413190647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083719513097882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23131608327415895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803901033903507,0.0,0.0982655665622762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618815871833857,0.08306195005250899,0.0,0.08910178745631149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680733081626769,0.0,0.04603366306530627,0.0,0.05007475277588203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050001687197774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766180619693282,0.2334073437708272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749076858554495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770360013002911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319297406762154,0.07032829352197899,0.0,0.0,0.13066439946258793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454359933837442,0.0,0.09245627116417657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459680546186218,0.0,0.07524517198862135,0.251437403310521,0.0700683416069402,0.0,0.0,0.07021199494320315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634659232470265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614281331984645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072898363774136,0.14732724948352025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304231597745752,0.0,0.13249500451627702,0.0,0.07701173029064036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058536145927344525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25688726940191986,0.0,0.08351765947415006,0.16838512041326972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197015527229912,0.0,0.09704034731509316,0.07269970073411215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901053510846005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828977015242876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bungiti,2019/02/05,Any recommendations for guides directed at pre-teen/teens about social media and internet use? I have found a lot of resources for parents but not a lot of books geared towards teens about using social media / the internet.  Any suggestions?  Thanks!,6.360714285714287,9.520646738095241,5.92404761904762,71.29178571428572,69.71428571428572,8.961904761904762,29.54761904761905,9.516144504307137,3.3967904761904766,201,8,29,5,4,62,32,42,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.6707,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,5,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,8,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,18,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492648346771981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815673184611449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4366433815798701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851453750730989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5235493554753571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364264115780261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.443584509557202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mysteriousdebora,2019/02/05,"Boring Birthday Mom Can someone help me feel better about sucking at birthday parties? My son is turning three, and we are doing a party at home, just like the past two years, with food and family and only one other child his age. 

I don’t have it together enough to get a goody bag together for the one child. We will probably have minimum decorations. The only thing I have together is food and cake. I’m not doing invitations, homemade decorations, or anything. 

Is this bad? Is this normal? I feel the most bad about not being social enough to have other friends with kids. I want him to have a great, happy childhood and feel bad that I don’t put out all the stops I see others doing. Just need some company in my pity party I guess! ",3.173496503496505,5.357789986013987,4.4608391608391615,82.67279720279723,75.71328671328672,7.197202797202798,24.28671328671329,8.139509932561175,1.5709832167832167,580,19,108,10,13,191,90,143,0.114,0.705,0.181,0.8676,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,4,11,1,0,8,0,18,2,0,0,1,26,29,6,0,3,5,2,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,8,10,2,1,3,0,0,1,4,6,0,4,0,4,14,5,12,27,5,10,0,1,1,0,12,4,1,4,6,79,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244592559907646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788421867598574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376123334797854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125467724183453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257747065101095,0.0,0.2294174554890756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657647848382308,0.0,0.11684917210041007,0.0,0.07901768788841453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674480764030125,0.16661008290826845,0.0,0.0,0.1609998911207748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101374305531848,0.0,0.15170802904982192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388918780565787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713276924290586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214400557494718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818502047487633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049709482831771,0.23005266928003265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437757529552128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306442562113482,0.0,0.0,0.15203995478930993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052027001575424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417214371431529,0.12814683175348449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644506044014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047844557830916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645078348953338,0.14774142995313674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920643340487218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739487105940203
parenting,ScruffyMayfield,2019/02/05,"Why is Reddit (or at least this sub) so pro-foreskin? Why are any and all comments about circumcising downvoted to hell? What’s going on here? 

I’m seeing posts about painful foreskin, infections, needing to pull it back to pee straight, examining their kid’s foreskin on a daily basis, etc... 

Someone clue me in on the anti-circumcising movement on Reddit? I’ll get downvoted for even mentioning that I’ve been circumcised. ",5.007650375939853,7.701281907894735,5.567969924812033,74.48078947368421,72.02631578947368,8.553383458646618,33.22556390977444,9.23628265651192,3.554919548872181,339,17,54,8,7,109,61,76,0.112,0.863,0.025,-0.8205,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,6,2,1,0,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,5,8,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,12,7,3,12,1,0,1,0,4,7,1,1,1,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094761673432086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368619414010575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435434095680875,0.2034559648692444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093696009315034,0.0,0.17506489713264095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22840601683243497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32777378144002123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950149224428422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24546612795519404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26099930406845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5559121399232593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InGenScientist,2019/02/05,"Two very different parenting styles Step father here. Me and my spouse are butting heads day after day after day. Her son is 7 years old and has extreme behaviour problems. Her parenting thoughts are “if he punches a wall his punishment is a sore hand and fixing the wall”. Where my parenting is grounded, early bed time and a long chat. 

Things have gotten so bad that he gets sent home from school most days, in school suspension, full tantrum every day. During a serious situation he can’t help but act out. Stern talking to usually leads in his mom getting laughed at. 

She has recently learned in her parenting course that if he gets in trouble at school he shouldn’t get in trouble at home since they dealt with it there. She has invited me to the course but I think if I attend I’ll call the instructor a fuckin quack for lack of a better term

I think it’s worth mentioning he has been diagnosed with ADHD.

Anyone have advice ",4.241355932203391,6.373885790960458,4.412000000000003,84.4478305084746,72.4463276836158,8.335819209039547,28.18418079096045,9.029198982220553,2.3857001129943507,743,29,140,16,15,231,117,177,0.117,0.807,0.077,-0.6592,5,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,2,4,10,3,0,9,0,14,5,2,1,0,22,23,11,0,6,6,8,1,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,5,7,0,0,4,1,1,5,2,8,0,1,4,1,15,2,18,18,4,34,0,0,0,1,28,14,1,4,15,79,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209202162342696,0.11553505065071636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08267064115099912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871887425334984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456669428335644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072820462870608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812496529726753,0.0,0.0,0.12000310405290647,0.0,0.12352739173176022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961565295471247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24708559290599236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134025600685977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792484918792543,0.0,0.2371928950851442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463169782196988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847201962321895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406471187220618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5251310704291804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313216277708768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673994613444573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589716257909993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978028241218709,0.13289784666613202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503049239121714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854816106188887,0.15151672564560548,0.0,0.09386308959972724,0.0689420948101911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549559279784435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302159667270967,0.09755387396877796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613760318986564
parenting,UnfashionableBark,2019/02/05,"Not diagnosed yet My son is a 2 year old with speech delay when I say speech delay he can only say about three words. He was evaluated and we were told that it seemed he just had a speech delay. He has been in speech therapy for two months now, he attends twice a week for an hour each day. He was attending another small group near our home with a different therapist that he had only seen three times before, she told a supervisor that he needed a psychological evaluation. I’ve seen plenty of progress within these two months from him saying an actual word to him trying to sound out words. It was hard for him to follow a routine or complete a puzzle but now he sits in class and participates with activities.He has another evaluation in a couple of months and I don’t know why I feel fearful of the outcome of things I just want what’s best for him and if anyone has some been in my position and has some parenting tips I would love to hear them. ",6.050750360750363,6.058809640211643,6.781808561808562,77.0430735930736,66.35449735449734,10.470610870610873,28.822029822029823,10.230975488527342,2.618170370370372,758,22,152,17,11,251,115,189,0.056,0.8640000000000001,0.08,0.8176,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,1,2,7,3,0,1,12,0,16,2,0,0,0,32,28,9,0,4,6,2,2,0,0,1,1,9,1,0,8,11,0,3,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,5,12,13,15,2,24,15,4,28,0,0,2,1,27,8,0,6,16,99,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.13697303993056315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943635378933843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814435634719856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943770239295375,0.0,0.14730123288976546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471668600623358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530785537068267,0.0,0.09052186187900108,0.0,0.0,0.14246444980904882,0.0,0.14664838912544642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794624458344256,0.0709712318560715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573675950461244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819814677877733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079450512389508,0.0,0.13822827139518393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713927055833268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668216233962126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33610676742287965,0.0,0.0,0.10407662578195333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472862811098588,0.0,0.0,0.2135032135515791,0.0,0.0,0.1558553622774354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348644281953285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12778027021593952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605161508325048,0.16297107112208115,0.0932502591288056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184619625744816,0.0,0.0,0.2682437639721261,0.0,0.09529656727609424,0.0,0.27422650794200554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827891293807658,0.0,0.1125899096676427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665485033365775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970911970451063,0.0,0.0,0.09038850981256076
parenting,kimmyKat,2019/02/05,"Nosey Lady in the wild. So I was at self checkout today and my nephew (7) suddenly had to use the restroom. The restroom was a few aisles over and it's a local store, so the kids know exactly where it is (we had actually already gone to the restroom as soon as we walked in so I was a little annoyed that he had to go again). I asked my daughter (also 7) to go with him because I didn't want him to go alone and she's more familiar with the store. 

So I continue scanning, glancing over once in a while to make sure my daughter is still standing by the door to the boys bathroom. 

  They come back. I keep scanning.

  Then I see this lady just standing real close to us staring at me. I look up at her and she says:

  ""Don't make her take care of him.""

  Me: What?

  Her: She shouldn't have to take care of him.

  Me: Thank you for your input.

  Her: My mom made me take care of my brother and now I hate him.

  Me: That's her cousin and she just escorted him to the restroom. Have a great day. 


  So my nephew does live with us and so he is essentially like a brother but rude lady didn't know that and totally faltered when I said it was her cousin. It's none of her damn business, anyway. I kind of feel guilty in case rude lady was just trying to pass along some advice but damn. She just came out of nowhere with her unsolicited advice and it was more like she was barking orders at me. Get bent, lady. 

  I asked my daughter if she spoke to her and this is how that went down. 

  Rude lady: Where's your Mom?

  Kiddo: She asked me to help [nephew] to the bathroom.

  Rude lady: Well how can you be looking after him if he's in there and you're out here? 

  Kiddo: Well I am very responsible. 

  What the heck? Was she supposed to go in and watch him poop? 


Do you guys think any of that was warranted? 
  

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parenting,BurkeyBurkey,2019/02/05,"Advice needed! I tried to help a 10 year old who was out in the cold, and I was chastised for it! I was walking to my daughter’s elementary school to pick her up, and in the yard was a boy crying very loudly. It was -10 C (about 10 F) and the kid had only a t-shirt on. 

There was nobody in the yard with him, so I walked in his direction, waved and asked if he was ok. He started to walk away from me and then I asked where his jacket was. He kept walking away, at which point a woman came out of the school and asked why I was following him. 

I said I saw him with no jacket and nobody around, so I was trying to see if he was ok. This woman (turns out to be his mom) said she was waiting inside in purpose so he would come back in and accused me of following her kid. ‘Is this what you do, follow random kids around?’ 

So after me hurling some insults at her terrible parenting skills, and her blaming me for her son running further away, and that I should mind my own business, we separated and carried on our ways. 

I immediately was left with the feeling of rage. Then I had time to think about it, and I’m not sure anymore if I actually did the right thing, by approaching the kid. Which in turn left me feeling dejected and sad, that in this scenario, maybe the right thing is to just mind my own business? 

So the advice I’m seeking is, despite my attempt at ‘doing the right thing’, did I do the wrong thing? What could I have done differently?

And also is it a legitimate practice to leave your kid outside until he decides to come in himself? ",4.296455696202528,4.5807029493670886,5.3593417721519,84.78027848101266,70.13924050632912,7.965569620253165,28.458227848101266,7.7348632917899725,1.5554625316455697,1196,40,256,13,20,396,160,316,0.117,0.852,0.032,-0.9807,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,2,0,2,13,8,2,0,17,2,30,0,0,1,1,46,54,26,0,7,5,4,2,0,0,2,0,3,2,8,18,25,0,2,4,2,0,12,2,5,0,0,23,8,41,3,46,27,3,52,0,1,2,0,43,30,0,5,9,186,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.10444969534327167,0.0,0.0,0.20918467430352375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855950111251785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614891749546906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905658159868852,0.3001868841180076,0.0,0.3016857580327359,0.08230250071978712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241832460245115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440054094069105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545789962373218,0.0,0.11757176812109126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182769670950866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095328922187249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823916223603212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174260048980415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333349854180873,0.2325853996511795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752998909116304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21614755505206587,0.12535686859481465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936431768464455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231412545101548,0.0,0.0,0.08140414209094288,0.0,0.0,0.11884853483390476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118167915696867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742192253667617,0.20362759390940696,0.0,0.0,0.2166481432903324,0.08529220039832673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575918069343995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087823115722663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28443440144491033,0.0685830333028807,0.0,0.0,0.062412356974991576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533805228085095,0.23284440400197426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831421823191668,0.0,0.08495856747033921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658149178703004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603384710860978,0.1170248218273476,0.0,0.06892635453838451
parenting,Thehappycachorro,2019/02/05,"My half latino daughters won't learn Spanish and wife blames me for it We have 2 beautiful daughters under 2.

I'm latino myself but my wife is white and speaks ZERO Spanish. Since we started going out 7 years ago she's been saying she'll take classes and learn it along the way. This never happened and I've never said anything to her about it because I understand she's a busy person and it's not a big deal. 

Her mom watches them everyday.  She doesn't speak Spanish either.  I see them a couple of minutes in the morning and 2 hours tops at night.  We do spend the weekends together. 

For sometime she's been on my case about speaking/teaching them Spanish. 

The problem I have with this request is that I don't want to spend the few hours a week I see them speaking something they don't understand.  When we communicate in English there's this huge bond that's being created between us. When I try to speak Spanish my oldest looks at me like I'm a stranger and that breaks my heart. 

There's also no conversational Spanish in the house.  They know random words in Spanish but nothing even close to understanding basic sentences. 

I've made my peace with it.  Maybe they'll be interested in learning it during school years and I'll be the first one there to help them with it.  But she can't really expect them to grow up fluid Spanish speakers with the amount of Spanish they hear from me.  I'm not risking building a strong relationship with my 2 daughters.

Am I the asshole here? 
Any similar stories you'd care to share? 

Sorry for the long post. ",3.4548773608045096,5.638001056291393,4.127851361295072,85.38998405690462,74.86092715231787,6.195928378709836,28.072602403728233,7.0931098945946705,1.5280106450821682,1237,51,230,13,27,393,164,302,0.049,0.82,0.131,0.979,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,5,1,10,3,10,7,0,1,16,0,19,1,1,1,2,41,38,14,0,3,6,6,0,1,0,3,0,8,0,1,13,20,0,0,7,1,2,2,10,2,0,4,4,13,42,5,33,27,3,37,0,0,5,0,44,15,0,1,18,150,55,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188980543613928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726362440256997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121292456481124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037747068711556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176433586529999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675436192601428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841217185762404,0.0,0.0,0.13828202674631448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859152719494769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140908157322177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762291073902624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861061856754936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117413405298724,0.1589445652073912,0.08990443778724302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26418184606207484,0.15476788419004187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371427962706989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552908898731458,0.0,0.0,0.11870073163968226,0.11263532594480324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691694484116306,0.0,0.0,0.1347515025731928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709130581888778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689847969772385,0.0,0.0,0.1258718153568272,0.0,0.1287012467533993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088988462824922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171170461306532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845935748950504,0.0,0.0,0.12834418988850838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592704198943159,0.0,0.0,0.14400530492086958,0.0,0.0,0.12758824062278035,0.1066654719378982,0.0,0.13574660931712046,0.2137683126091367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095363089153276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325974215126436,0.1326578906913738,0.15014743024030952,0.09493782635372754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084898444879717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106539064791648,0.0,0.0,0.4189018368375101,0.16134174243557278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911328418176508,0.10646606328015544,0.10759090699660022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172750502802817
parenting,Plopplop13,2019/02/05,"My kids are scared of everything and i don't know what to do So on Halloween this year my kids (twins just turned 3) saw a t-rex costume and lost it.  we had to leave where we where and take them home and it took an hour to calm them down.  Sense then they have these episodes that happen like once a week.  From going to a indoor playground to going out to eat to going to the park to even going in my parents back yard.  they say there is a t rex and run inside and yell close the door and will not calm down until the door is closed or we leave where we are. They scream that they want to go home and i don't know what to do.  we can't take them to birthday party's (we tried) cant take them to restaurants.  My wife says it's just a phase and that i'm blowing this out of proportion and this will pass but it's now been 3 months sense this behavior started and it seems to be escalating.  

​

Is this just a phase? will this pass?  is this more Sirius then my wife believes?  i'm lost over here. ",0.8450905432595591,2.75877908920188,1.7722870556673378,100.42169014084507,82.05164319248827,4.808316566063045,17.185110663983902,5.622346879071545,-0.803903018108652,778,15,189,4,21,242,110,213,0.056,0.913,0.031,-0.6046,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,8,2,12,7,0,1,10,0,19,1,0,0,0,31,40,17,0,1,6,3,0,1,0,3,0,4,5,2,18,21,1,0,3,1,0,9,5,4,0,0,6,5,21,3,25,30,1,31,0,2,1,0,21,12,0,2,11,122,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312868538191365,0.17172882810929058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867240645305784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922811020417876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461369098557825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334572358390232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270163744287146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40159941998972776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497576648112632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835267485298008,0.0,0.13917948114908346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553401998616265,0.0,0.0,0.2992916110827581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904565731048425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085521244336257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280655548597104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15050956643683966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692787182486365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477918543048567,0.14149385020576996,0.0,0.0,0.12865958266163904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003259202170027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318782903652604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570204609107478,0.0959523450225077,0.1537241365130175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335883792583391,0.0,0.113364690536893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172882810929058,0.09101051304899237
parenting,Themattmans808,2019/02/05,"Teenagers...hang in there! 

So not sure this is the correct forum but thought I would submit here and hope my experience as a parent could help some see the road ahead

Most of the posts here are of much younger kids and not teenagers but i have one boy in college and one girl who will go in a few years. I am so not looking forward to seeing my little girl go off to college. 

 My girl - despite being tortuous as an infant is the sweetest, easiest girl in the world now. Fits of colick would plague her to the point she would kick and scream in airports, at the dr's etc. 

As for my son, one thing i have learned over the 19 years of raising him is that he - pretty much - has been dogged by the same issues over the years. I call it Grit. He lacked that and a growth mind set. He always seemed to believe that if he wasn't good at something he never would be. 

His sister had grit and a learning disability that really has required her to learn and plan way ahead in school - to the point that she will study 2 weeks ahead for a test now. She has straight As. My boy however didn't' have that same grit. Things came easy early on and when things got hard his mother and i helped to much. We wouldn't let him fail. He got C's and a few D's in college and barely got into college. As a parent when you see your kids getting older it is natural to ask yourself what you could have done better. 

He never wanted to ride a bike after he fell off. He said it was stupid.  Anything that was hard - he had a hard time with following through and working to get better at it. School was easy in elementary school but being popular was more important.  When it came to high school and college where critical thinking was required he always took the easy route in his analysis. Over the years his mother and i could have been better parents. We never let him fail . We always tried to help him and make things better.   He eventually got into issues with marijuana, and had a lot of anxiety . We sent him to outward bound and he was arrested once  for possession and once for a fake id. 

So why am i posting? Well despite him seeming like a kid on the wrong path I think he is FINALLY turning it around. Despite all the trouble he got into he always wanted to do better and figure it out. He insisted on going to school 2k miles from home because he was worried about his reputation if he stayed close to home. 

This summer we were looking at pulling the plug on college because he was on academic probation but ultimately let him go back because I felt that he needed to fail or succeed on his own and college as expensive as it was - was a good chance for him to prove that. We got him diagnosed finally with ADD recently and sent him back with fingers crossed.

I am happy to report that he has straight B's so far - but still early.  He is not smoking pot and he doesn't drink (to much). He and i started going to the gym when his mother got sick and a way to relieve the stress of all of it. So last night i was texting with him and listening to a song that i thought he may like. This is what i got back from him....

https://imgur.com/a/HGc4bV2

So for what it is worth I wanted to share this with all of you. I went from being really happy that he thought i was a good father and cool ...but as you can see at the end of the text a friend of  his with 8 people in the car got into a drunk driving accident...

Hang in there and count every opportunity to hug your kids. It goes quick..


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parenting,AreYouCuriousYet,2019/02/05,"7yo foreskin care? Hey there. So confused about all this foreskin business. We'd been retracting and cleaning per doctors  orders but it kept getting inflamed and causing my son pain, so we decided to not mess with it.

What is the proper protocol at this stage? How to clean inside there when not retracting? ",4.305515151515149,7.377369036363639,4.0759090909090885,82.16719696969697,76.81818181818181,6.575757575757575,32.803030303030305,7.793537801064563,2.8118484848484844,247,13,39,4,6,75,45,55,0.149,0.725,0.126,-0.376,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,2,1,13,6,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,3,1,5,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,28,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4781032163232245,0.4817180950740912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799675455759349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24499545802353664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4989723160268788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MarcoPolenta,2019/02/05,"What does your 2nd-grader read on their own? Fostering a 2nd-grader and I've been helping him get back into reading, but I can't figure out where he's at as far as reading levels go. Report card said he's about right for our location but a little low nationally. He reads things like *Elephant and Piggie* with very little issue, and ""Level 2"" readers usually give him just a tad too much challenge. He can get through most Dolch words except 3rd grade and some of 2nd. When I look at reading levels sometimes these look normal for his age/grade (8/2nd), but then other times people are suggesting chapter books, which he absolutely would not be able to read. Help? Where is/was your 2nd-grader/8 year old?",3.8017661691542273,6.0782209925373145,3.999328358208956,86.27844527363185,74.1492537313433,6.257711442786071,23.85323383084577,7.1686216300943375,0.9904248756218904,559,17,103,6,12,173,102,134,0.017,0.901,0.081,0.8009,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,2,1,1,7,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,19,13,11,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,0,1,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,9,2,15,9,4,24,0,1,2,0,17,16,0,2,8,57,14,10,0.12913758959669192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929883521216556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130091748989245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493812121363669,0.12388054308581165,0.07339186814472011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731164084062042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347860925398602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309010328533597,0.2588595808758961,0.0,0.0,0.2168861022563816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493098711506716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652741929833064,0.0,0.0,0.13550817700096396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952774468742816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7750352163746334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110282795919773,0.12283941991691325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772037815074413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857932763607956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530116699081718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222681051951955,0.1065520357997332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173563851103796,0.0,0.0,0.08316037375808243
parenting,freyday18,2019/02/05,"I have a new little brother! Hello parents of Reddit! I am a 20f and although I don’t have kids of my own, I thought I would reach out to all of you because out of everyone, you know little kids best! 

Last night, I met my little brother for the first time! He turns 6 in April, and up until a month ago, he had no idea I exist. We share the same abusive father who decided he didn’t want anything to do with us or my other siblings, and we have different mothers. We will call him Tony for anonymous purpose. 

Our father is SO abusive. Multiple times he has left Tony on the curb waiting for him to pick him up but never show. He is manipulative, narcissistic, and quite honestly a sociopath and we are so better off without him. His mom showed me a video of Tony BAWLING after my dad promised to see him and then never showed. It broke my heart. Tony is 5 and in the video is crying out the the void, asking God to just ‘kill me already. Just put a knife in me. Why won’t you just kill me!?’ He is in therapy but his therapist doesn’t think he can handle anything other than sand therapy, where he just goes in and plays. 

I am the big sister. He calls me ‘sissy’, he brought me flowers and a framed picture of himself. He very obviously had abandonment issues and is depressed. Since he knew he was going to see me, his mom says he hasn’t mentioned our dad, hasn’t cried about him and doesn’t talk about him. 

How do I do the big sister thing when he is so little and so obviously traumatized?? How do I appropriately relate to him that our dad sucks and makes me sad too? How can I help transition him into living a deadbeat-fatherless life? My youngest full brother is 15 this year so I have no experience with a brother with such a big age gap. 

While I have you all here, what are some age appropriate questions I can ask him to get to know him? What are some games we can play? 

Thank you in advance for your advice! ",2.9703850962740685,4.497728330749356,4.219278152871548,87.04759189797451,74.4780361757106,6.957372676502459,25.66216554138535,7.601502580125103,1.23524896224056,1492,51,312,19,31,490,197,387,0.113,0.797,0.09,-0.9385,5,0,0,0,0,2,44.0,9,6,0,5,19,15,3,0,18,0,39,2,1,6,6,61,58,29,2,2,8,15,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,9,25,0,3,8,8,0,4,12,7,0,1,8,4,57,8,42,47,8,47,0,4,2,0,76,24,1,4,19,214,66,0,0.0,0.24053409133821516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918969175341603,0.08997822180175183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120134954495577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706023648148965,0.0,0.18978729108283768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187661848190663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065234290149137,0.08977308717331238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20729628516401127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22299735824650133,0.0,0.0,0.08742626688162798,0.0,0.0,0.10605131377852388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969925539304953,0.0,0.09929154799594464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634025828794081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05303226955590439,0.0,0.05768773567700827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028413264815785,0.06803678569536846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458699832062255,0.0,0.10594504099614764,0.0,0.0,0.2246008953463411,0.0,0.11156918988902374,0.08274027328159622,0.0,0.0,0.11028568022278364,0.0,0.07169611384850462,0.0,0.4069394459229103,0.08963093778873486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775549901623139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377632911491679,0.08102047004543629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565741121389782,0.09803433994305484,0.0,0.09525573973095484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270949532770395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204074658626387,0.11370903746432855,0.10796325849370418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072099702695515,0.0,0.0,0.16177298063824944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08396613774455282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158602254788325,0.0,0.09345233645914154,0.23216005003501286,0.11785534299736107,0.06743553440834647,0.06504042378321029,0.0,0.08058377844630728,0.11837697901273635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040849305218267,0.0,0.0,0.12209823924135595,0.0,0.0,0.08375240789540163,0.05987038786972203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159264110850034,0.0,0.0,0.09784737587071247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210637091497793,0.0,0.0,0.06536601099590078
parenting,ThePeacefulBard,2019/02/05,"Parents who came from terrible homes, how did you teach yourself to be a good parent? My male parent is a walking sack of shit. Sorry for the dramatic opening but there really is no better word for it.

I vowed I would never have a kid because I cannot trust myself to be a better dad than the walking sack of shit (WSS) was. In every single way that a parent can be terrible to their children the WSS was. I have never felt even a single iota of love for him and never will. The concept of a loving father-child relationship is completely foreign to me.

Because of what the WSS did to me I have certain... psychiatric issues that I’d rather not get into. 

But I’ve found out that my girlfriend is pregnant and she wants to keep the child. So do I, amazingly enough. Despite everything that has happened to me I still have the capacity for love. 

I have a great relationship with all of the kids in my extended friends and family. I’ve been told a hundred times that I would be a great dad someday. They do not understand that there’s a frightening possibility that I will be just as bad as the WSS was or worse.

So those of you who came from a similar back ground and now have kids, how? How did you learn to be a good parent when all you have ever known is abuse? How do you break the cycle and become a good parent? 

I am terrified. ",3.6616292134831454,4.973798411985023,4.996275280898878,83.01958146067415,72.37078651685394,8.036629213483144,26.08408239700375,8.548686976883017,1.7535619475655428,1044,34,209,18,20,348,135,267,0.147,0.687,0.165,0.8651,7,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,0,5,2,2,16,19,2,0,24,0,36,5,2,4,7,39,49,17,0,4,7,8,1,0,2,4,0,0,1,6,12,11,0,1,5,0,0,4,7,5,0,0,12,1,27,14,29,27,5,21,0,0,0,3,33,6,2,1,9,163,39,2,0.0,0.11132078832056597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224525605740828,0.07844813190607386,0.1145476536767723,0.10376542828549623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619034380539427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149179704061338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850956708109723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708017462044448,0.0,0.062056099816802386,0.0849872772099346,0.07916076780662627,0.0,0.08444029900129194,0.0,0.08857199606089422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021111025187198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301632395976497,0.07258905887262553,0.0,0.04908737901182564,0.0,0.0,0.2364138782077941,0.0,0.2071704649837903,0.0,0.0,0.08308370583750681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424408281373572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806414896724512,0.0,0.08351112859188403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543929719711512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217390643009462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6259525109952551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591964783512686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018969605213933,0.0,0.0,0.20174406874494386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928860083799133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517443612553948,0.0,0.0,0.07503223182537817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478565865399746,0.0,0.0,0.08977760703022901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781000893771284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541683291242155,0.07457675535355382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574772192660166,0.13348524541419432,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,For_Ever_Love,2019/02/05,"Getting your child to sleep through the night 1st time mom(early 30s) my daughter(11.5 months) was breastfed for the 1st 4ish months. Very needy and clingy(this is fine for the most part) but will absolutely refuse to sleep unless I’m holding her or at least sitting right next to her. She will open her eyes and if I did manage to sneak out of her room/sight she immediately fusses. If I leave the room even if she’s with daddy she will fuse until she sees me again, also making daycare drop off very difficult.What can I do to wean her off of being right on me at all times and what can I do to help her sleep through the night?
Healthy child for the most part with the exception of a few bugs she has gotten while being in daycare along with an ear infection.",8.312685714285713,6.57305430666667,7.005809523809526,83.00100000000002,62.6,9.904761904761905,32.76190476190476,7.957251820313856,2.0541904761904757,606,17,127,5,7,181,93,150,0.06,0.884,0.056,0.119,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,9,0,13,6,5,1,1,22,18,12,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,1,9,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,20,1,28,10,7,23,0,0,2,0,17,11,0,6,10,90,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862770626246074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449585334942085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056807252207733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619266142346565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355232085400489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571228235296925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302509374208128,0.2767321809266562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18435939091456646,0.325353933231271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754417019696477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29607942274477345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813728099183673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5204247250547998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021632283503937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860633427793709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrun220,2019/02/05,Screen Time and Educational Games Hi there parents! I'm a children's therapist and looking for feedback: 2-3 games or apps (device not important) that you love for your kiddo and 1-2 that you absolutely hate and why. Please keep in mind that they should have some educational value but doesn't have to be explicitly math or ela etc. Thanks into advance for your consideration and replies!!,6.500140845070425,8.119432816901412,6.900112676056343,70.88397183098594,65.90140845070422,9.623661971830987,32.50985915492957,9.888512548439397,3.24867661971831,314,13,55,7,5,102,56,71,0.034,0.82,0.146,0.8009,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,1,1,1,3,1,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,16,11,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,2,6,9,2,4,0,0,2,1,11,2,0,3,1,32,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312476347017108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29323851727081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26399850473473435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24941583515904345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26806552750438234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998981241916782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297974168713755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260307163918935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734493582391537,0.0,0.3448545978491822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731904742449918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680077339906737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nj3_17,2019/02/05,"When to start chores? Hey y’all! I’m a relatively new step parent and my stepson is 6 years old. I have some experience raising children since I’ve helped my sister (single mom) with my nieces since they were little. I noticed that during clean up time that my stepson doesn’t help out. When I was a kid, as soon as I could reach the knobs on the laundry or sink, I had chores and my mom always stressed the importance of a clean house. I didn’t want to make it less fun, so I had made it a game by giving him “points” for putting away his toys but this is really the first time that he’s been required to do so. 

My boyfriend (his dad) is a great dad and is pretty much the sole parent. He’s had him put away his shoes and hang up his backpack/coats but housework was not something he had him contribute to before. I talked to him about giving him small things to do and he agreed wholeheartedly he was old enough (we have pretty awesome communication so I’m so thankful for that!)

I was wondering if you guys had any tips for me in how to start him off and how you guys had your kids be more responsible around the house (set the table, put dishes away, maybe gather trash, etc). Thanks for your help!",5.468324514991182,5.239681679012347,5.455828924162258,86.86194444444445,67.60082304526749,8.424338624338624,26.82216343327455,7.7094869923839395,1.1858385655496768,940,23,207,9,14,294,143,243,0.006999999999999999,0.7709999999999999,0.222,0.9951,2,0,1,0,1,0,27.0,1,5,1,2,11,5,0,1,12,0,24,2,1,4,0,24,36,20,0,3,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,8,10,1,1,1,2,0,5,3,1,0,1,14,0,33,4,27,20,7,31,0,0,0,0,43,13,0,4,12,132,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091145505572306,0.0,0.0,0.07449050720146247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09751323594498816,0.0,0.0,0.3087474461454657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320991005784572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745824938451302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131834195323547,0.12216531908624435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715049309372048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317410631738664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21016023178086074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076750863216555,0.0,0.21692233593640656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202657310590506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527873817623661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978719531018426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364877169310216,0.07311835977919094,0.0,0.11004698973010152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565823013179299,0.0,0.0,0.08052401837417124,0.0,0.0,0.1057937767819349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471126417228087,0.2298862208490447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432609470687499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355008217866944,0.0,0.0,0.22288177698155906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303518738417528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017370587176028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122414735384235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432873524271735,0.0,0.0,0.15506501674921205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254769434329273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804357190521528,0.0,0.20169821368413487,0.0,0.0,0.07277306991112678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774653964180072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460914057070627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879074117588664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053974332303076
parenting,AnonJamie123,2019/02/05,"Are video games alright? Hello! My husband and I are getting ready to start a family. We have talked already settled many of the big arguments.

The biggest one we can not settle is: Video games and Movies. 

I was raised with Disney movies and Barbie games. All age appropriate. His mother raised them watching rated R movies and video games. 

We had an argument last night about his mother letting our niece watch Tag. She is 7 and has been having issues posting nudes on apps. I told him to tell his mother she didn't need to watch that. It wasn't my place to step in but my husband refused and said it was fine and not our issue. 

He also wants our child to be raised cussing, playing M rated games and watching R rated movies. I have issues with all of this but he will not budge on it. I feel like when we have a child it will be the cause of us having some major issues. 

I feel it's too much for a child. No dropping F bombs. It's rude and will get them in trouble at school and every where else. 
No rated R movies because it normalizes adult behaviors to a child. 
No M video games for the same reasons. 

He thinks it's because I believe video games make kids violent. I do think that because my brothers played nonstop games and we're very violent towards everyone till they became teenagers. My husband's brother is also bi-polar and can become violent. 

I'm on here looking for other opinions on this matter. 

TL:DR- husband wants to expose children to adult content video games and Movies and cursing. Wife doesnt. Advice please! ",2.740190156599553,5.1938287684563775,3.25178523489933,89.44125727069351,78.4295302013423,5.315615212527964,24.02729306487696,6.42735559955562,0.750316420581655,1215,42,229,10,30,378,162,298,0.141,0.809,0.05,-0.985,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,8,0,3,0,7,10,4,0,9,1,27,1,1,3,2,43,42,20,0,4,5,10,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,8,13,20,0,1,5,17,0,1,9,5,0,1,8,8,30,5,26,28,6,21,0,0,5,1,53,12,0,2,7,139,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990301066153856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669760573299664,0.2126169076159949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24310870076108226,0.14681679135094364,0.0,0.1497727612568777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365613547710572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105053404425236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120038737590834,0.12702554614894304,0.0,0.0,0.12531973779774316,0.0,0.1344323439827296,0.09496913211613008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389066011950577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5550004056580096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836015731309744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359355330110562,0.0,0.06494555976910639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163232094798543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873546389239835,0.13477570974467815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977228721553682,0.09856997259153842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475094090023538,0.130248543663115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900805203575141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888928073987394,0.14592323517852562,0.0,0.0,0.12731544125923533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366798118590177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645208159091004,0.0,0.0,0.1345378009232701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409241561405894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684850179005828,0.11619146722744247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035937333377946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702554614894304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990501224013234,0.0,0.0,0.109685691561706,0.15681757844525415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Moomao6,2019/02/05,"My 4 year old daughter hates her skin and says black girls arent pretty... I'm white and my husband is black. Together we have a very beautiful 4 year old girl who has her daddy's dark skin. I dont know what happened or when it happened but now she is saying black girls are ugly, shes too dark, her hair is too fuzzy.

And I know all parents think this but my daughter is blessed with such a beautiful chocolate skin tone and she has the perfect ringlet curly hair that other girls would kill for. Nothing about her is ugly and I have absolutely no idea where she got this idea that black girls are ugly.

She has dolls of all colors, we watch cartoons and movies with girls of color. She has no free access to internet or screen time unless someone is with her. Shes also homeschooled and dad or I accompany her to play groups and play places for kid socialization. We dont hover or hear everything that the kids talk about but neither of us have ever witnessed bullying or her being withdrawn from the others.


I am considering taking her to therapy but her dad thinks this is making the situation bigger than it is  and she'll grow out of it.. I strongly disagree and since I grew up with body image issues I want to nip this self hatred in the butt before my babyv brainwashes herself for life.


Is this normal behavior? What should we be saying to her? Is therapy too big a reaction? 







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parenting,RoseAudine,2019/02/05,"I think the second kid is easier emotionally My older son is 2.5 years old and we just had a baby in December. Even though balancing two kids has been a big challenge, I'm finding that this newborn stage is easier the second time around.

I remember being so overwhelmed when our first son was a baby. I couldn't handle the crying... I probably should've gotten more help than I did. 

But now, the little newborn cries don't affect me the same way. I don't get stressed as quickly when the baby cries. I don't feel as panicky when he makes weird noises or when he spits up. It's just been emotionally easier this time. 

I know I am lucky in some ways have had two ""good"" babies, but does everyone feel this way about the 2nd kid? Am I being lulled into a false sense of security here?",3.1382692307692324,4.913771160256413,4.5207692307692335,84.02423076923078,74.57692307692308,7.620512820512822,22.256410256410255,8.384062270229773,1.2687717948717947,615,16,122,11,13,204,102,156,0.033,0.8390000000000001,0.128,0.8694,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,14,7,0,2,11,0,19,1,1,2,0,21,27,12,0,1,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,4,0,1,6,0,0,0,4,3,0,5,7,2,14,4,10,17,3,23,0,1,0,0,12,7,0,3,12,83,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372244948259959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.507973365611161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348960455497996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467917409165174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181336960638422,0.0,0.0,0.14729512028518615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588382713141705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088857542365754,0.13111829944275538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805360226809883,0.0,0.0,0.12929211704198226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332222553906674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471576723611596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154496897460178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289505712706877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175250578938885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619772903038238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746197536894911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765761335682398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987718815138382,0.15144973059801287,0.0,0.1797699994081279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011606001539817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670667724496797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992663257336587
parenting,redditthrowaway1055,2019/02/05,"Dealing with teen sexting I am the father of a 15 yr old boy. For several months he has been video chatting with a 13 year old girl from his school (his girlfriend's friend). Last night my wife and I discovered that the content of some of the video chats are sexual in nature. No pictures being sent or anything like that, but pretty in-depth discussions about sex, masturbation, etc.  
My wife and I are planning to talk to him today, but should we say anything to the parents of the girl?   ",7.260957446808512,6.7077729680851075,6.8058297872340425,79.75300000000001,64.0,9.647659574468086,33.693617021276594,8.841846274778883,2.655062127659574,385,14,74,5,5,120,69,94,0.017,0.917,0.066,0.6652,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,0,10,8,5,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,2,5,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,9,2,13,4,2,9,0,0,0,1,21,1,0,2,8,46,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37177668030365735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328828180668189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25192722019827146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452216371494605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841306152553996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11035851345101796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18030335658881755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119825964748198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740674113862062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25082427089870185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22981148384745498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17963690784555975,0.0,0.22861288386221215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551915638998561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156193993770708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21411744240495512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454658456408984
parenting,a_fuge,2019/02/05,"Ask: Your top 5 essential musicians and bands to develop musical appreciation  

HI r/Parenting,

My Wife and I love music and have made it a 2019 goal to expose our 2 daughters (3 & 5 years old) to a great and wide ranging musical experience. We have always skewed our family listening towards adult music and have been able to mostly avoid anything deemed ""Kids music"" \[except Caspar Babypants the current kids project of Presidents of the United states of America frontman). We listen to everything from Philip Glass and Brahms to the Pixies and Ariana Grande.

We are asking you all to list your top 5 artists or bands that you think are essential for young listeners to appreciate music and the world around them. Our plan is to focus on one Genre or artist for each week of the year. No Genre of music is off limits although we would like to avoid music with gratuitous swearing or overtly inappropriate messages.",11.565444250871082,9.503212042682923,10.52763066202091,61.31353658536587,56.62195121951221,14.005574912891984,42.33101045296167,12.540900571622839,5.402805923344947,741,31,117,19,7,236,111,164,0.058,0.8109999999999999,0.132,0.9325,2,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,4,1,5,1,6,0,2,7,0,9,1,0,1,1,27,17,12,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,3,2,15,0,3,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,4,14,4,24,14,3,15,0,0,0,1,27,8,0,4,7,73,16,2,0.225532550379526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876611489516848,0.24436442410971215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559407234366326,0.20077178551515312,0.4216849798969226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026941138583197,0.2206141105746068,0.21261201661484944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24865043299327344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018381202628576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20355193209618205,0.2134043523180417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236658472964796,0.0,0.15282669296544749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25042720721858197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451215167795034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090860800072914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021185294462592,0.0,0.0,0.2904711361385886
parenting,GWindborn,2019/02/05,"Starting a journal for my daughter. What should I add? So I've been wanting to do this for a while now and finally got around to starting it.  On my daughter's first birthday everyone in the family wrote her a letter to be opened on her 18th birthday.  That really got me thinking.. She's about 2.5 right now, and there's so much going on in the world that will be forgotten over time.  I'm going to start making hand-written journals for my daughter chronicling her growth, then give them to her when she's older.  My parents were big on photo albums - we have dozens - but looking at them, you might get memories of that experience but not the things surrounding that point in time.  My daughter does so many cute and amazing things and I want to make sure that they are remembered properly, which is why I'm doing this.  Every single day - without fail - she surprises me in some way.  With her ingenuity, with her vocabulary, with her understanding of her world.. That deserves to be chronicled.  I'm not planning on writing every day, just on major milestones or big surprises or whenever the feeling strikes me.  So as a parent - or as an adult who wishes they had something like this made about them - what do you think should be included?

When I started last night, I talked about the games she likes to play (and writing this now I forgot about one), the shows she enjoys, the toys she's obsessed with.. I talked a little about myself, where her mother and I are in life, things going on with our lives.. What might I be forgetting about?  ",4.829219435736679,6.5080904862069,5.012978056426334,82.60028213166147,70.0,8.031347962382446,28.699059561128532,8.575989854853784,2.1502758620689653,1211,45,224,20,22,380,159,290,0.036000000000000004,0.836,0.128,0.9827,2,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,2,2,5,3,19,11,0,1,13,0,20,1,0,3,1,46,47,21,0,5,9,7,1,2,0,5,1,0,0,1,19,15,0,1,5,4,0,4,3,2,0,3,8,2,41,9,42,29,4,50,0,1,1,0,41,25,0,6,22,168,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972059229572534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897494999839884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785883405760056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076905949166633,0.1177727625119238,0.0,0.1205643054821245,0.11619120850229835,0.0,0.06232001751535472,0.0,0.0,0.13501676465549375,0.0,0.10483826152109127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439418939676084,0.11823474467102894,0.21014120316723067,0.0,0.19715209323646116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004669962845605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705667648836872,0.1204296020569334,0.12353108764348225,0.10883395397009712,0.0,0.1035008092643524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662421527378387,0.16454360610472807,0.12495838937408915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615022215260383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060455131475956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156638438582672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351888303299614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737139726330058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651317114862485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895851775628909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962072023394373,0.10525670853855804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488556798176796,0.0,0.0,0.3489541766754294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161637433764903,0.0,0.0,0.19813090527979765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24564986249656215,0.15795007087624566,0.0,0.0,0.14373870231457664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283098907952817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539468621746662,0.09783186239533627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11121594320365366,0.0,0.14173395159664112,0.1188107261212471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isbutteracarb12,2019/02/05,"5.5 mo old up every two hours at night She had a rough start in life with severe food allergies and got used to being held to go to sleep. We finally nipped that but she is in the bed with us and needs a binky and to be shushed or to nurse to fall asleep. Whenever she goes through the sleep cycle she will wake up because the binky fell out. Also, she is pretty skinny and wants to nurse at night and falls asleep during. 

We tried taking the binky away cold turkey with no luck. That entire day she only napped 40 minutes.

We tried laying her in the crib drowsy and full with a sleep sack, sound machine and blackout curtains without AND with the binky and still no luck.

The end goal is to get her to sleep alone in the crib with no pacifier so she will hopefully stay asleep longer. Anyone else go through this?",4.59919191919192,5.4918149012345685,4.13882154882155,91.62015151515152,69.74074074074075,7.12547699214366,23.369248035914698,6.980632752743323,0.5401160493827155,642,14,137,5,11,192,97,162,0.071,0.838,0.091,0.7612,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,11,0,8,11,9,1,0,29,19,13,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,3,19,2,1,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,1,3,3,13,3,28,12,1,26,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,4,9,82,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500698513215118,0.0,0.11587427773822233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013155255846061,0.1484643548457198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361357352351123,0.0,0.0,0.08832801815067201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344673860536147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104305879626645,0.0,0.12833595490157654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220821817158296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587278538440252,0.0,0.0,0.17521032873937142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570283223015771,0.0,0.1646968916195677,0.0,0.1158875667037668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14391566242739867,0.14269460301427087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102345212144958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743947420540552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719525053028468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15204528856715388,0.0,0.0,0.11020088724438444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741259381428476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636926480966116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5800075685559898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255901867988132,0.154441188325338,0.11571513028557705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894469862196456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19675144163828132,0.0,0.1415435579560378,0.0,0.17429354991383605,0.12514470061237892,0.0,0.0,0.08546415166483146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967577744137918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gps2003,2019/02/05,son and gender my 5 year old son came to me today and asked for a pair of ballet flats as they look nice on his sister what should I do as he doesn't know about clothes/shoes being gendered yet,6.227857142857142,4.209735119047618,6.085714285714285,88.83428571428574,66.85714285714286,8.4,25.761904761904763,3.1291,0.4509619047619049,153,2,36,0,2,48,39,42,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,8,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,7,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,4,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949263281053987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4831612104250558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23216312452309715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547449603430715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4432819104245252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004257059009623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720388552702476
parenting,kbergeron44,2019/02/05,"Mini Cribs? First-time parents here.  Due to space limitations, we are considering getting a mini-crib instead of the traditional sized one and were wondering if this was a mistake.  Will our little one outgrow the mini-crib too fast and put us in a position where we'll need to get a full sized crib prior to a toddler bed or should the mini-crib be fine up until the need for a toddler bed?

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parenting,lpython,2019/02/05,"TIFU by unintentionally calling my kids a gay slur I didn’t want to post this in actual r/tifu because it didn’t have much of a consequence. But I thought some folks might get a kick out of it here. 

My kids are 4 and almost 2. Often I’ll call them turds, mostly out of affection, sometimes if they’re acting up. This morphed into me calling them turd burglars. I was using it to mean something like “rascal,” like, “Come here, you little turd burglar, and let me put your shirt on!” And then my husband started saying it too. 

For context, I came of age in the ‘90s, and my friends and I (mostly girls) used to call each other this all the time. I just figured it was a Beavis and Butthead thing, because a couple of us were really into that show and we all adopted a lot of their silly mannerisms. I never even thought about it meaning something hurtfully derogatory. 

... until I started to call my kids that and decided to Google it last week. And what’s the first definition that pops up? “(Slang, derogatory, offensive, vulgar) A homosexual male.”

Aaaand that was the end of “turd burglar” in our house!

TL;DR Called my kids turd burglars; stopped when I found out what it really means.",4.104591937069813,5.882431769911507,4.970383480825959,81.79022615535892,72.00884955752213,7.500098328416913,28.042281219272372,8.167268648758528,1.9429172074729602,924,35,172,14,18,300,138,226,0.039,0.895,0.066,0.6103,0,0,2,0,0,0,37.0,3,2,3,1,8,6,1,0,11,0,10,2,1,3,3,44,24,14,0,2,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,6,19,18,0,1,8,1,0,4,3,2,0,1,10,1,25,4,27,12,8,30,0,1,0,1,23,12,0,8,15,121,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.10458937563873252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732237011904848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066831391665756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6566387286860673,0.12258203429728655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232356964300988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858940732603107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492708651782213,0.0,0.0,0.07078945461586215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116477475989496,0.0,0.1175141430281801,0.08280475092442974,0.0,0.055995603962020114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366796758966794,0.1147352874532514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873636299781884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959583209676924,0.0,0.10472262117524132,0.10741959679097968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111812598798798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502418006939071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369795139075906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878749030161737,0.0,0.0826615761258045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264602208488316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774257412856912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373207716760761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523152070978159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502031429207428,0.10600087875072277,0.0,0.15172098648230706,0.0,0.0,0.08960484312523008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120369370042423,0.0,0.0,0.17017326927281054,0.06249582085139663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892083831735152,0.18513318159963768,0.0,0.0,0.0632158222961106,0.0,0.08597099371766591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,palmcron,2019/02/05,"Toddler resisting to go to things he enjoys My 3.5 years old has this reoccuring thing, where he resists going to activities he usually enjoys, like visiting his best friends. He is looking forward to it when asked throughout the day or the day before. But when the time comes to actually get dressed and leave, he says he doesn't want and resists.

In my impression it's also not the stopping whatever he is doing, as we try to make sure to tell him about leaving soon beforehand and he often even finished what he was doing anyways.

As soon as we left, he is positive about the activity again and really has fun.

I always feel bad about having to coerce him into activities he actually enjoys. Do/did your children show similar behavior? What could help?",5.923928571428572,7.495174964285718,6.895714285714287,70.55928571428574,67.21428571428571,10.171428571428573,34.0,10.355215969177356,3.9355142857142855,605,28,100,16,10,202,95,140,0.036000000000000004,0.745,0.219,0.9829,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,0,1,13,10,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,1,1,18,20,12,0,2,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,8,0,1,1,1,0,5,2,1,0,0,1,3,9,9,16,18,1,22,0,0,1,0,24,5,0,2,15,66,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.35067623238185364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14368704433944526,0.1495050461851134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797305341898264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500221763325054,0.0,0.0,0.15289126787555676,0.0,0.1885591551489652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477519281826896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345687734572926,0.0,0.0,0.2317526535733661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867447857611856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084971833655286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881743676239772,0.0,0.09387343268581334,0.0,0.20422832427203594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120433213128858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805024432161346,0.19521878783047428,0.0,0.0,0.08778074736227287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508828101172297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11993530220857285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885400154925492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510521634020986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288577773865915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021740305086073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934275353939912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704497530862185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387378534965589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047706751375949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198838978913495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19788802161079413,0.0,0.1059777164474786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570562385031205
parenting,RedditDadofCT,2019/02/05,"How to handle jealousy in a ten year old? My father recently passed away.  My 10 year old daughter has only one remaining grandfather, who is currently immobile.  So she has many friends who not only have all of their grandparents, but they are active members of their lives.  The grandparents take them to special places and buy them gifts and she, being 10, gets jealous that she has nobody outside of her parents that she gets to do special things with.  Has anybody else experience having to deal with this in their children?  What do you tell them to make them feel better?  I've done the ""cherish what you got"", ""every family is different"", ""there's always kid's that have it far worse than you"", ""you got a Mommy and a Daddy that love you""...all of those, but looking for a little more ammo to teach her how to cope with it.",4.634615384615382,6.347247846153843,4.910769230769233,83.0092307692308,70.53846153846153,7.764102564102564,27.102564102564106,8.344100000000001,1.8736641025641028,648,22,119,10,12,204,101,156,0.056,0.7929999999999999,0.151,0.9551,5,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,4,8,1,4,7,1,0,6,0,14,1,0,3,1,14,23,8,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,13,6,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,3,2,20,6,19,19,2,13,0,0,1,1,29,6,0,0,6,86,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476440260625614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16345892689866245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387022075054466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936463209419026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817709469039824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804084427714534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533706719399495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658474780521913,0.0,0.0,0.17018477240628,0.16401184658676662,0.0,0.0879689718677019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344156857378453,0.0,0.1817936149999132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278293678901866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437258856704688,0.1536265780523464,0.0,0.1460984791317957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570227722352888,0.0,0.11613228328177767,0.1763873226892821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651232303738907,0.0,0.11789262206387074,0.2646376242231741,0.0,0.0,0.19318300698822224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817709469039824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717831992798584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081049951571766,0.0,0.15206524871887986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558386697575752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729938782074725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407344691409425
parenting,m0thed,2019/02/05,"I'm wondering about my son Hi, my name is Jay and I'm wondering how accurate growth charts are for toddlers.

My doctor using growth chart from 0\~36(he's currently 6 years old) puts him at 97th percentile. He was measured every 2 weeks until he was 24 months old. After that he's had a simple check every month or so if he's alright.

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I'm wondering if toddlers usually follow their growth chart accurately? He's growing noticeably every year. I'm just worried if he'll ever fall off the growth chart because I want my son to be taller than me(6'1).",2.6950000000000003,5.4110996111111165,3.653333333333337,84.90000000000002,80.66666666666667,6.562962962962962,25.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.7723,450,18,81,8,12,144,75,108,0.021,0.83,0.149,0.8876,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,2,1,6,1,0,2,1,14,17,8,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,1,9,12,0,23,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,7,12,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752196184201357,0.1965030892676951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858079764267408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16552355634423485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628171434179804,0.4087590473605392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581609259982103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411515813718174,0.3393882516234528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256961736636108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396710201974355,0.1781077335128509,0.0,0.09538450445703177,0.0,0.12971911675888592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5261235119856789,0.0,0.16423082278102635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965030892676951,0.20828007931881248
parenting,fishythepete,2019/02/05,"2nd Grader Interrogated by Vice Principal. Am I overreacting? TL,DR: My son and a friend were told to bring their journals to an empty classroom with the Vice Principal. Their handwriting was compared to a rude note given to a member of the cafeteria staff.  My son was found to have not written the note so went back to class. I first found out about this when he comes home and is quite upset over the whole thing. 

The TL,DR actually sums this up pretty well. Last week a kid wrote a really nice anonymous note to a lunch lady, and word got around. The next day, a friend of my son’s who has a reputation as a bit of a clown apparently wrote a rather rude anonymous note to the same lunch lady, and then told his classmates it was done my son. No idea how said notes were delivered. 

The next morning, my son is pulled from his class and told to bring his notebook with him and go to an empty classroom with the VP, and his friend is pulled from his class at the same time with his notebook. They are not told the reason. The VP quickly checks the handwriting and lets my son go back to class.  The other student is disciplined and his parents notified. 

I am pretty POd for a couple reasons.  First, that’s a pretty intimidating situation for a 2nd grader. Part of me thinks they found the quickest easiest way to figure out whodunnit and that’s fine, but part of me thinks that parents should have been involved even at that point. I think I’m overreacting on this end, but really at what point do kids deserve the benefit of some parental protection?  When they’re faced with suspension?  When what they’re accused of is criminal?  Is there some guideline on this?  And honestly, even though my kid is well behaved, who’s to say he didn’t put his friend up to this?  I don’t have any reason to think he did or would, but at the same time if I was his friend’s parents I would probably want to dig a little deeper. 

The second thing that pissed me off is I still haven’t gotten any notice from the school about this.  While I understand I’m not entitled to information about what happened to the other kid (we are close with his family, which is how we know they were notified), I don’t think that I should find out about this when my kid breaks out in tears when I ask him how his day was.  As mentioned above, he’s a great kid, stellar student, and while I understand why they brought him into this, some heads up would have been nice so I could have been prepared to talk about the whole thing, rather than trying to tease the story out of an upset kid and then corroborate it with his friends parents.  Am I wrong for thinking a heads up is really the minimum I should have expected here?
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parenting,mayaisme,2019/02/05,"At the opposite end of ""when are you having another..?"" I dont know how this post will be received, but I've encountered this too often I just have to ask if anyone goes through the same thing. I have 3 lovely daughters, 5 and below. I had them pretty close together. But now it's seems EVERYONE has decided that I am done having kids and ""oh how nice it is that you had them so quickly and got it done with!"" If I even mention that no I'm not done, I would like another, they look at me like I'm crazy and tell me hell no you can't do that, 3 are enough, what do you want more for? Don't have more! And this is not even from family members, usually it's friends, acquaintances or workmates. Even strangers 🙄. They'll even comment on pictures of my kids with 'how nice you're done now and don't have to worry about maternity leave again...' like seriously? Sinve when do people dictate how many kids you're supposed to have? It's really frustrating and it gets me down because I feel like their words might end up coming true and I really won't have more... Does anyone feel the same way or is anyone in the same boat? How do you deal with it?",2.313974358974356,4.0087769358974406,3.546504273504276,90.47488461538464,76.64957264957266,7.244102564102565,22.81111111111111,8.07648339933343,1.023761367521368,889,26,196,15,20,289,129,234,0.138,0.746,0.116,-0.5624,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,5,5,0,20,12,2,0,4,0,35,1,0,5,1,41,48,22,0,4,9,1,2,4,1,5,0,0,0,3,16,13,0,0,5,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,7,3,23,9,19,35,7,21,1,0,1,1,22,8,1,7,13,140,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590794306939183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25914062743867483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115490774866059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530724079356572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641651493968443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736161524949718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810839457157154,0.5056865278905986,0.14478489041299664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883490336574896,0.12764713814309572,0.0,0.3263811000302399,0.0,0.0,0.11804526157424967,0.0,0.0,0.11646004821270407,0.0,0.1249284233808655,0.08825512963339724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544467407292882,0.0,0.06454318272811854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880412889887284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789291378756092,0.0,0.0,0.1308082490345854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24141649686877645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374028631212606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149730952721112,0.0,0.0,0.12524751432291373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105363873571044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564526514265801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831466206226983,0.1256819289145568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828241918181246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246379187578273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797711607928744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207274657740238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605897188482785,0.0,0.07286554802647655,0.09805822280499063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545820700016688,0.0,0.08775741096505191,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IsMyBabyFromKrypton,2019/02/05,"Is my baby developing freakishly fast or am I just doing that new parent thing where I think my baby is the most specialist special baby in the universe? (He is 6 weeks old and can now stand.) So, going to give the full story here.  

Our baby is officially six weeks old today.  He was born almost two weeks early, with a long, full head of hair.  8 lbs 4 oz and 22 inches long.  So, fairly big.  But the thing that struck me when he was born is that he didn't *look* like a newborn.  He looked older.  My wife said the same thing.

And then he started doing things that seemed really early to me, but this is my first baby I don't know.

But for example, at one day old he was lifting and holding his head up.  At five days old, he could roll himself over and did it multiple times.  He started smiling at 3 weeks old.  At about 5 weeks he laughed for the first time, although he's only done it once since then.

But the one that really has me tripping balls is yesterday he *stood up.*

Now, obviously, he didn't stand up unassisted, but I had him on my lap with my hands behind his shoulders and his legs were balled up underneath him.  And he started standing up.  He was unstable as hell and I had to keep one hand in front of and behind him to keep him from tottering right over, but he *honest to Pete* stood himself and kept himself upright for probably three seconds.  I was not supporting him at all, just keeping him from falling over on his face.

He hasn't done it again, but if you pick him up beneath the arms and let him plant his feet on your lap, you can let him down and he'll stand there for a few seconds like that just being supported a little.

My wife and I have even started wondering if we were a month off on the conception date and the baby was two weeks late rather than two weeks early.  We had been tracking her cycles before she got pregnant and she had a period, but I know you can be pregnant and have one sometimes.

Even our doctor, when we took the baby in for his two week visit, he was joking, ""Are you sure this guy is really only two weeks old?""

So...  Am I right in thinking this is all pretty freakishly ahead of schedule?  Or just a bit of an outlier or what?  Google has not been much help.",3.2084647850171457,4.5138538295964175,4.289111052492746,87.6757451859668,73.48430493273543,7.3098390925877075,24.10419414402532,7.827709963407826,1.101633816934846,1712,49,360,23,34,558,213,446,0.061,0.88,0.059,0.6037,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,5,5,0,3,19,10,1,0,19,0,48,11,10,1,4,61,74,38,0,4,20,3,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,2,17,21,0,5,6,3,0,6,6,1,0,16,26,6,50,9,50,42,9,94,1,0,2,0,59,34,1,9,52,260,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850069188907222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058210136714999965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468377640375826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05461819081648761,0.0,0.0,0.088234951779914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001844724419569,0.0,0.14001019061373499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036562674226616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637555413726085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562315003001264,0.03887782095778917,0.0,0.054712095962928316,0.0,0.0,0.06773463692626171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041260830334498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045852414586316184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824124178953704,0.0,0.0,0.07519045318743209,0.0,0.07716716016394183,0.0,0.0,0.1399035507408126,0.0,0.06684134909603541,0.06856274879566097,0.0,0.1210777864318965,0.11489091727613927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054602582184514484,0.0,0.05028772279141508,0.0,0.0,0.0660688354516255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306958885448853,0.07285224635677506,0.1854200203793846,0.10405467453686087,0.0,0.0,0.07595894566095228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959548990728069,0.07375535258794776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147167538489216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684005061810895,0.06507163661062912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06227603888659775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658777262514116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765722306747116,0.0,0.19367802885087373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552570879795126,0.06447369409773149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178883966599746,0.08766611901774402,0.0,0.0,0.07977846489501535,0.0,0.06484274872772784,0.0,0.0760037622334431,0.0,0.0,0.33412319138690355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938546633816243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418551611125065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Da-Ma-Jiang,2019/02/05,"There is a solution in creating proper educational and economical system to build healthy and enlightened society around the world... We can eradicate poverty and crime by introducing PROPER education of future children and their parents...let’s start to create awaken enlightened humans, instead of scared spiritual midgets, brainwashed to believe that happiness and good fulfilling life is connected in anyway with materialistic realm of life...
Business people need to start providing all points on the workers “need list” and respect!They need to realise that without their staff their business is finished. care for people making your life able to fulfil you list of “wants”. If not! We just stop showing up at work!!!
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parenting,CaringEye,2019/02/05,"I'm building a safety camera for cars that would save babies and need your help answering few questions Hi, my name is Oleg. Together with my wife we are building a safety camera specifically designed for rear-facing infant car seats that would allow the driver to have a clear close-up view of the baby while driving and get alerts if the baby was left in the car unattended. You can find more information about the camera here: https://www.caringeyecamera.com

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We want to build the product that all parents love and to do that we need to hear from other parents, not just ourselves. It would help us immensely if you could answer a quick 10-question survey here: [https://olegvakhromov.typeform.com/to/i79ZmN](https://olegvakhromov.typeform.com/to/i79ZmN)

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Thank you in advance.

Oleg",14.001364829396325,13.821058125984257,10.504370078740164,57.451620734908154,50.41732283464568,10.986351706036746,37.70209973753281,9.725611199111238,3.684539107611549,670,21,91,8,6,192,89,127,0.0,0.805,0.195,0.9741,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,4,4,0,1,5,3,0,0,10,0,10,1,0,1,2,28,18,6,0,9,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,2,10,3,12,13,3,10,0,0,1,1,20,3,0,3,2,62,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318143470457495,0.3721189718693053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225512611545054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995035478419646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999970837393965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725791549877108,0.0,0.20526834170625136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166367050279521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819820885234774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22707543036567696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400467991544347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34306243774984274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097378306077507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841864135568093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031507815752457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32631954242617084,0.0,0.3721189718693053,0.0
parenting,FanoftheSimpleLife,2019/02/05,"My son’s (6yo 1st grader) teachers want him to be tested to see where on the autism scale he may fall due to his struggles with reading comprehension among other things. When it comes to school, he excels at math and spelling. But has been graded poorly in reading and reading comprehension. He can read fine but slow. I feel like he reads better then I did at that age. I do see his struggles with comprehending what he reads.

He enjoys school, gets along and plays with everyone according to the teachers.

I myself struggled all the way til the 8th grade when it comes to comprehension. Ask my wife, she would say I still struggle. 

I’m concerned that labeling him this early on something that seems so normal and with work fixable would be bad for him.  ",4.069034369885434,6.533634375886527,3.954893617021277,86.02615384615385,74.0354609929078,6.3242771412984204,25.03055100927441,7.321109707123232,1.1877677032187672,601,20,110,7,13,183,94,141,0.101,0.779,0.12,0.2617,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,3,5,11,0,4,4,0,10,0,0,0,1,21,20,11,0,4,2,2,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,9,11,0,0,2,7,1,3,0,5,0,0,2,4,14,6,19,13,1,20,0,0,2,0,16,7,0,2,10,69,23,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077519532014478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623676056562444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193754737377134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857148505481026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013526851432803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827860123580201,0.08234131781585505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06021826429737283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05630990679305487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129297118952534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6917433721420847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165887815139608,0.0,0.23329727411898016,0.1836935923320914,0.10492780270208456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887322950138706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204628272766134,0.0,0.0,0.4819764810867693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657320473067081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798296340164359,0.0914875239771698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391019496676208,0.0,0.0,0.16375390069645265,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WonderWeeble,2019/02/05,"Terrible time with number twos Okay, so I've just found this sub, and would like to see if anyone else has experienced something similar. My youngest has just turned 4, and we've been attempting to toilet train her since she was two. The problem is, she HATES pooping. Like she holds it in on purpose, and will hold it in for days and days. One time we took her to the emergency room because she hadn't gone in 8 days and was crying about her sore tummy. We've tried offering her treats to go, or saying no cartoons until she goes, but she is just not bribeable. Rewards just have zero effect. 

Consequently, when she does finally go, the poops are HUGE. Like a foot long, with an inch and half diameter. *Seriously*. It's INSANE, and clogs the damn toilet. Of course these gigantic turds hurt her to pass, so she wants to poop even *less* next time. It's a vicious circle, and we just have no idea what to do.

We've seen 4 doctors and one pediatric specialist, and all they say is to give her lactulose (a mild laxative) daily, and wait for her to grow out of it. 

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Please, please, if there's anyone out there with any insight... me and my husband are open to any ideas. ",2.903516323559991,5.056708393013103,3.5545601996257012,89.00072780203787,76.4235807860262,6.981992098149303,23.56851736327719,7.957251820313856,1.1736910376377634,918,29,188,15,21,289,143,229,0.142,0.7809999999999999,0.077,-0.946,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,2,0,1,3,12,13,3,0,8,1,16,7,4,1,1,42,28,20,0,5,10,1,0,3,0,2,3,2,1,0,8,20,0,3,5,0,0,6,4,7,0,5,8,5,21,6,25,18,2,27,0,1,2,0,23,10,1,3,14,115,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896330676564476,0.16705749179748652,0.1869869789224806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19226330931853988,0.14086808519116592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380866099843112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510191608668113,0.26599643695705955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072018032549968,0.1203127308377974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484981655044957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080655020847114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15060644597652192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074355335833847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188669371008094,0.156270074278064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573648562300264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717892230338595,0.31040425713919656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150246973893368,0.0,0.0,0.12166856457618185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462152540703468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18632474533993468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018311786600397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315531348435885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866478295886976,0.0,0.0,0.10955654353494854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372776577373114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584150942041007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24050319040134266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15274921892520432,0.09334226680534817,0.14954256054350715,0.13430139511354028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109132599554278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766432853158573,0.0,0.16705749179748652,0.0
parenting,BobCatsHotPants,2019/02/05,"Do you know Carmelita from Lemony Snickets? Well, I have a Carmelita in my life and shes only 5.....and my friend's daughter. Is it wrong to almost Hate a child? This little one is my friend's daughter, my daughters friend, and friends with the kindergarten teacher. 

She throws a fit about ANYTHING. 


*Cant sit next me in classroom reading groups = throws silent temptantrum and refuses to work while glaring at me. 

*Gets invited to my daughter's birthday = pouts because it's not HER birthday. 

*Cheats constantly 

*everyone let's her do what shes wants - parents, teachers, and other kids. 

*growls if you speak to her when she's sleepy in the morning.",1.7619791213571148,4.530477768595041,1.9118660287081362,92.69832535885168,93.62809917355372,3.8696824706394084,27.02957807742497,5.750287758089431,1.0229404958677688,514,25,92,4,19,154,81,121,0.056,0.848,0.096,0.5794,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,0,1,3,8,2,0,5,0,9,1,0,0,0,11,13,7,0,2,2,5,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,2,5,5,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,3,1,1,0,1,17,5,11,12,0,13,0,0,0,0,23,6,0,2,4,55,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000907017813432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643676143106016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175862282590708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215846160011834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190858519432472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6172693063098014,0.0,0.1043550256119334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720023395905015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977095423097423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042459596145573,0.14108107873923334,0.0,0.2001902646134409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242396382014506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353478514076426,0.15190998899330832,0.0,0.0,0.22178576120020355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19979236687033328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781083313726726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958873265354006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454118720794947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21838249183777295,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kiara108,2019/02/05,"Stepdad of a 7yr old boy and i have worries. I am a 25yr old Male my Fiance is 24, she has some physical and legal custody over her 7 year old son, lately we have been speaking about trying for another child and the way her 7 year old is currently worries me about my child growing up around her toxic family and her passive parenting. 

My issues are 1. Her son is spoiled by the grandmother and sister horribly he thinks everyday he is entitled to be bought a toy and to be checked out of school , he even knows to manipulate and act sick to get out of school.

2. His behavior if he isn't given things he wants he becomes disrespectful he will tell his grandmother shut her mouth and even tell his mother she better not touch him if she threatens to spanks him.

3. His eating habits he eats absolutely no food at all besides macaroni other then that 7 days a week it's chips and candy. When fixing dinner he won't eat anything ( burger, chicken nuggets,fries,pizza) it's always just chips and candy. 
 
Im worried that he will be a negative influence on my child and the family will have my child just as toxic as him, my fiance isn't much help when I speak to her about his behavior she says it was hard because his dad is only in his life once a month she is a sahm. When i mention his eating habits she says it's ok and that he is like her because she doesn't eat meat just chips and snacks.

She is very easily offended over her son how do i tell her of my worries without her thinking i don't like her son. 



Edit: I've tried to help with his behavior but he will disrespect me by saying I'm,not his dad and go to his grandma saying he is afraid of me , ive already dealt with 1 false dcs accusation so I choose to just be quiet rather then risk my freedom",4.249981378026071,4.963159449720672,5.3565502793296105,83.22698556797025,70.42458100558659,8.648230912476723,27.765828677839853,8.841846274778883,1.97959739292365,1385,46,285,24,24,459,183,358,0.092,0.85,0.057,-0.8499,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,1,16,7,1,2,10,1,32,11,1,3,1,40,40,26,0,4,10,9,2,2,0,5,2,7,0,6,9,20,8,0,4,1,2,3,9,3,0,0,4,9,54,4,34,27,3,31,0,0,0,0,75,10,0,3,19,175,63,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10160831288174717,0.0,0.07661472663704885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965498636919488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577081989265294,0.08196728811266057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225752371249463,0.10169086535081337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143386556465419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938149465185779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4710844031263902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216308474784976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360238518940535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133883701309066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04810598416056094,0.0,0.052328993685841915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248213809439008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343339488975255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994580342597415,0.0961035706510363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060263992615074,0.0,0.10386589930946824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650361024721775,0.08996750457277929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349429849647122,0.0,0.06768655916401367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864736907735207,0.09805808673645043,0.0,0.07002805549124798,0.0,0.0,0.1022396597841942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928905767692951,0.0,0.1863719438681884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414358209306423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06117129772632366,0.11799734850167032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502731345959014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759724605671993,0.05430889446493295,0.0730857561353969,0.07385792757686542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875811563800752,0.0,0.0,0.374031168818274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185880338872942
parenting,lucyluSF,2019/02/05,"Unvaccinated toddler My son is 20 months old and up to date with all his vaccines since birth. Never thought much about it as i always did it thinking it's a requirement he will need to have when he goes to school. I have a good girlfriend, one of my only girlfriends really but we don't see each other often. Her daughter is 21 months old and has never been vaccinated. We haven't seen them in months. We have a play date set up, was super excited, then these last two days I've read two seperate articles that were just heartbreaking about children getting sick from an unvaccinated sick kid and end up dying. 
I did ask her once why she didn't get her baby vaccinated and it was something along the lines of we arent aware of what the government putting in those vaccines, etc etc. When asked about schooling for her daughter she said technically they can't force vaccinations on your kids if you don't ""believe"" in it.
What would you do in this situation?",4.704548262548265,6.337703010810813,5.063030888030892,82.29925675675678,70.24324324324324,8.096525096525099,28.349420849420852,8.634040054169528,2.023509652509652,767,28,149,13,14,243,124,185,0.068,0.861,0.071,-0.1027,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,4,3,2,2,7,5,0,0,6,0,21,2,0,0,3,23,31,10,1,3,3,3,0,0,2,2,2,1,0,3,12,11,0,1,2,2,0,1,8,1,0,3,10,3,21,4,22,19,5,26,0,1,2,0,29,8,0,2,16,103,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044554322988905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706477966232962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630863186925445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933532846110441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023007607364208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282076089819748,0.0,0.3228742465973281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125424703989748,0.0,0.0,0.12141139554930985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179924774093497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34661981169661216,0.0,0.10640962574327452,0.10733202638901616,0.22328385750638607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037864629459305,0.15415651851120787,0.09808793219629024,0.11009067780054503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455160831465487,0.0,0.0,0.1447915126180349,0.0,0.0927320559703686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769262384300066,0.0,0.0,0.2929941932489941,0.1153488742926809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974063195629032,0.1627076956960209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143742373715823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275145499962892,0.0,0.11491718942631125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28280400681574325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061647258616485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282790959971536,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ferngullet,2019/02/05,"Abuse and child safety I had to create a throw away account for this.... And before my rant, I'm really looking for any experience or suggestions to get my point across in a sensitive situation.

My SO has a family member who used to hit him and verbally abuse him with threats. I've been with my SO for 7 years, married 1, and have 1 child and yet I just found out about this from another family member. My SO is going through some sort of episode it seems and is saying it's not a big deal and I'm blowing it out of proportion. First, I'm trying so hard to respect that this is not my trauma and bringing it up again is obviously very painful. BUT I had some details about this person that has led me to ask SO in the past whether or not abuse had occurred and was lied to and told it had not. The last instance of abuse that we know of  (very violent- kicking and threatening to kill a 13 yo) was 8 years ago. My SO admitted to some abuse without going into detail after I confronted him today but I didn't ask for any details because he said he didn't want to talk about it.

My primary concern is our LO being around this family member..... Only 4 people (including me) know about this history and the victims are dead set against bringing it up ever again because to them it's all in the past. But I'm not at all comfortable with LO being as close as she has been with this person AND I'm so hurt that my SO made a unilateral decision about our child's safety without my knowledge. I don't want to make this about me when it's clearly still very painful for my husband but I can't let go of the fact that I don't feel my daughter is safe. The problem is there is no good reason to stop seeing this person without being open about the reasoning which is the last thing my husband wants to do. But that's also potentially compromising my daughter's safety. All of this is compounded by the fact that he's lied to me before about things that would have made a difference in big decisions we've made together. Frankly I've been considering divorce more seriously lately because of the lying and other issues in our marriage, but now with this trauma and how he's delt with it.... I'm so so confused. I feel horrible for him but I also feel incredibly protective of our daughter. Is it fair for my SO to have made that decision seeing as he was the victim?? How do I get him to understand my views without down-playing his feelings??",5.273087431693988,5.562341336065575,6.2777704918032775,79.0267923497268,68.01639344262296,9.457486338797814,31.430601092896172,9.3871,2.6926965027322405,1924,74,380,36,30,642,211,488,0.17,0.7659999999999999,0.064,-0.9947,0,0,0,0,6,0,44.0,5,0,1,1,33,18,6,1,18,0,40,2,0,11,8,93,80,44,2,5,20,5,5,0,0,1,2,2,0,6,36,28,0,3,16,0,1,7,15,14,0,1,19,11,44,4,71,55,7,46,0,1,4,0,41,19,0,8,19,272,80,0,0.0,0.4622886072785621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691725760963262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248077819474187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061318118167053,0.08182562253870901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946694817744695,0.14590281483299555,0.0,0.07331566370950862,0.0,0.0,0.14270670218245068,0.0,0.13280264835566974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044979431530208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152909032391531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058636686014083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633238379176087,0.22069098855981711,0.0,0.1578256674185087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637581813694796,0.0,0.08556043062357431,0.0,0.0,0.08153925756610712,0.0,0.13304583729387226,0.06545135258611512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990328147361269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835371841146447,0.0,0.0,0.08144739097513194,0.0,0.0,0.08633323827447151,0.0,0.08577106907722537,0.1272165138451449,0.08802593340428319,0.0,0.0,0.07979521738502475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552904248012069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953512426117296,0.05208840892600937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05934849637933205,0.1660676998794157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148984874315939,0.05409906235335335,0.20440926041629434,0.0,0.0,0.07376750574182657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466815406919658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049990682208136905,0.16046422973965965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422835748556539,0.06205589750062902,0.0,0.0,0.12436624762583323,0.07103937011635363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877136673315763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231818238956562,0.06524005337735421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272090334841628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368485933708352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739672610619765,0.07456498565082316,0.0,0.05298007354424874,0.0,0.0,0.08123631442406068,0.0,0.06739646110757454,0.0,0.19315906757391907,0.13807971122033047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30088858915906763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055433229611224905,0.0,0.0,0.10050288345749926
parenting,Skelshy,2019/02/05,"How to avoid getting injured by your toddler? I have had a couple instances now where my son unintentionally hurt me - hit my nose with his skull, let himself fall on me when I wasn't looking, probing my face with his fingers, leaning on me so my glasses get bent this way and that, in one instance poking my ribs really hard.

He also likes to push my belly and makes a funny sound which I suspect he picked up somewhere but I haven't figured out where. I consistently say ""I don't like when you do that"" and it doesn't stick.

We do play a lot of chase and tickle and pretend I am out to eat you and whatnot games. I don't think we have a misunderstanding when something is play. He also learned to say ""I don't like that"" so when he's not in the mood for tickle games, that's the protocol to stop if and it works well for us (in that direction)

Now I have unintentionally hurt him back a couple of times either holding up my arms to protect myself, or pushed him off me when there was surprise pain. What worries me is that I think he perceives that as violence. I definitely got a ""what did you do that for"" look a couple of times and he ran off crying to mama. He didn't get physically hurt or anything, but it didn't feel right and I don't really want to be seen violent, even if it's just reflexes.

Is there a way to teach a toddler that a) some areas of the body, mostly the face, aren't included in play (stay away from my face didn't work) and b) if friendly rough play goes awry, we're still friends? ",4.233193548387099,4.652740287096776,5.300161290322581,84.6702419354839,70.3225806451613,8.006451612903223,28.08064516129032,7.908726449838941,1.5323419354838708,1179,39,255,14,20,390,161,310,0.16699999999999998,0.7240000000000001,0.109,-0.9617,0,1,1,0,0,0,35.0,3,4,0,2,23,18,1,1,14,0,26,12,9,3,0,43,40,28,0,4,10,1,4,3,2,0,2,3,0,0,17,16,1,4,7,7,0,4,12,6,1,1,10,11,39,11,34,27,4,37,0,3,3,0,26,18,0,8,15,174,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991095453381717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024448321902984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696264639585215,0.0957252840036779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828055443013867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132381349102649,0.13674664555484406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738455963422785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222460689188534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294598860756914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923616485107396,0.0,0.19512298329329592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956619004289488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151877210445953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39980802050241204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272996699868157,0.0,0.18245887905652647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090808385675733,0.0,0.0,0.10583712123145513,0.0,0.0,0.08309817911046524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435778533946309,0.0,0.13246635627366934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950322728755187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631395562278008,0.0,0.1979992167813376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583864253137472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326899955243542,0.09941803923023967,0.10407938642219984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953659447369792,0.0,0.0,0.1451824803504087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974638960477646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342754886093239,0.19762906177864406,0.0,0.0,0.1119316457632227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126070511081385,0.1264258469745181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,natlieark100,2019/02/06,"My son let his 15 yr girlfriend give him a bj. Yesterday evening my son (who is 15) invited his girlfriend (who is also 15) over to study some algebra. 

I watch them completely and they were studying over at the kitchen table. (So I could see them) 

I went to the restroom for 10 whole minutes and I walked out to hearing laughter and other noises. As soon as I peeked around the corner my sons girlfriend was under the table giving my son a blowjob. I was very unhappy and disappointed but I guess kids do experiment at this age? I mean, who on earth thinks it’s a good idea to do that while I’m in the bathroom. The girl isn’t aloud to come over unless I keep all my eyes on her. How do I talk to my son about this problem? It’s driving me insane!! 😤",2.32379120879121,3.961004396103899,3.6650649350649367,89.88517982017983,76.46753246753245,6.556643356643357,25.48251748251749,7.321109707123232,1.0784041958041963,583,21,126,7,13,191,99,154,0.086,0.863,0.051,-0.7399,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,3,0,7,3,0,0,9,0,11,2,1,1,1,19,22,12,0,2,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,9,7,1,1,3,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,4,4,24,1,22,16,3,20,0,1,3,0,24,12,0,2,4,89,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103114108440734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903889521800106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422939911500946,0.2242378122274116,0.0,0.0,0.1707571725874132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125860533759085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20920513926123485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4103256950803992,0.0,0.17938335805113897,0.0,0.0,0.2356010619559034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410461588776044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24143232153226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900967929000215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21869577152150302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23296628273905706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464396360318693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042608170693593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17189998094900566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703876301467255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646450791498255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982589132198294,0.0,0.2387773507746056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,broadway1912,2019/02/06,"12 month old is having night terrors My son just turned one and shortly after first first birthday he started having what I suspect is night terrors.  He will wake up after being asleep a few hours (and once off twice as he is falling asleep) screaming and crying.  His eyes are all the ways closed and he thrashes around the crib.  He sits up or stands up and falls over.  Bangs his head against the crib.  I try to hold him but he is thrashing too much.  It usually last about 30 minutes and then he cries himself to sleep all while I am standing there trying to rub his back or tummy. It breaks my heart and is traumatic to watch.  Has anyone experienced this or have any advice?









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parenting,sillysongs321,2019/02/06,"Kids with anxiety book recommendations? As the title states, I’m wondering if anyone has book recommendations for kids with anxiety. My 4 year old seems quite anxious and I’d like to support him to the best of my ability. 
Thanks!",4.566428571428574,7.280703500000005,5.92404761904762,71.29178571428572,73.52380952380952,9.914285714285716,29.54761904761905,10.125756701596842,3.6239333333333335,185,8,32,6,4,62,33,42,0.11,0.601,0.289,0.8806,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,7,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,3,16,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4374392731420645,0.3229958396527696,0.0,0.1999142517185468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000439031481549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968071738034088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300013447256414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30409946219914624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26028085623430164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244461956655408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263226635199565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100561628330435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184116050842575
parenting,Mama2_4,2019/02/06,"HELP!!! NEW Patented Tool to Get Kids To Make Their Bed with NO Complaining. Check out this new mom-invention to help kids to make their beds. I am a mother of four and I couldn't find a product like this anywhere, so I have patented it, and now need help getting it onto kids beds. It keeps the sheets, duvet, and covers all where they need to be, and the plush handles make it fun and fast for kids to make their beds.

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parenting,A-Wynowski,2019/02/06,"Husband rescues daughter from her fears with his childhood comfort toy aI am so proud of my husband ...
Tonight our 2 year-old daughter had a big scare and was very very scared to go to bed. I had tried everything nightlight, music, cuddles and nothing would work. So I figured I would have to have her sleep with me and a very long night.

But her dad came to the rescuehe took her in his arms and he told her he had something really special for her. He then took her to our room where he gave her his raggedy stuffed dog that he has had since he was her age. I don't know what he told her but she held the dog and calmed down. 

After he put her down he said he knows he is a dad but this is the first time he really really felt like a dad. It one of those bitter sweat moments. I am beyond proud of him and just wanted to tell everyone. ",2.03319845857418,3.72575062427746,2.8224508670520265,95.36912909441236,77.43930635838151,6.000616570327552,23.09402697495183,6.742157984588678,0.426436917148362,650,20,148,6,15,204,103,173,0.055,0.831,0.115,0.898,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,4,5,10,1,3,7,0,16,4,3,0,0,21,29,12,0,3,4,7,1,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,5,9,0,1,4,1,0,5,1,4,0,2,15,3,25,6,18,12,0,22,0,0,0,1,42,7,0,0,11,87,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372212167556786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451377597022165,0.13650927253503514,0.0,0.0,0.17091889669876004,0.0,0.0,0.1458385768491,0.0,0.0,0.1291978729522095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632279880427161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694995250756978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420596355037153,0.0,0.0,0.13441819963591806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425388249208833,0.0,0.14574290857788255,0.0,0.15938339485407094,0.0,0.10292484711830772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269177640672016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919145853115716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448252645390647,0.0,0.3041375200110309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564528542907588,0.0,0.15200006555395398,0.0,0.0,0.11693262916841135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275888009275708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856849746701538,0.0,0.0,0.290275519404433,0.3375115844464909,0.10312359233969816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759763927955396,0.08958887683420587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105779999262242,0.0,0.0,0.21579712484643745,0.0,0.0,0.09781241973908546
parenting,hazelettaclementine,2019/02/06,Best illustrated children books I made a [list of children books](https://medium.com/@hazelclementine/top-10-illustrated-childrens-books-6ec32d405178). What do you think of this list? Which book should I add? Thank you.,13.357857142857142,19.03145192857143,6.104285714285716,63.765714285714324,65.42857142857143,7.085714285714286,32.0,8.07648339933343,3.158614285714286,186,7,21,3,4,45,23,28,0.0,0.7390000000000001,0.261,0.7941,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5816889543216309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.524478809910243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5103120729076476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35516408407951755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,will-be-better,2019/02/06,"Where did my son’s testicles go? My son will be 2 in April. When he was born, his testicles hadn’t descended. They did within a couple months, and I thought Wow OK Cool, then I never thought much more about them.

I’ve just recently realized that I can’t remember the last time I saw his testicles. I’ve known his scrotum has been empty for a while, but I guess when I first noticed it didn’t strike me as odd, so I can’t pinpoint when they first disappeared. They are not visible anywhere near his penis, even when I push in a downward motion on his groin.

He’s been to all his regular checkups, last in October, and his peds has never mentioned anything wrong.

I’ve read about retractile testicles, but it seems this often stops by age 1, and they move freely back and forth with regularity. *My son’s testicles have been MIA for weeks, at minimum.*

Is this cause for concern? Should I call his peds ASAP or is it just something I should bring up at his 2-year checkup?

He’s my only son and I’ve never owned a pair of testicles, so I have no idea what normal is in this situation. Thanks for any insights.",2.2173181818181824,4.519332640909095,3.4890909090909084,87.85863636363636,79.4090909090909,7.2727272727272725,24.54545454545455,8.296473431620573,1.6210000000000004,871,32,178,18,22,283,132,220,0.084,0.836,0.08,0.2779,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,5,2,15,5,0,0,5,2,22,2,0,1,4,31,30,17,0,3,6,4,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,8,6,0,1,8,1,0,6,9,1,0,2,11,2,30,4,21,15,4,40,0,0,1,0,23,12,0,4,22,119,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186910423088478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353736746404247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649426207760764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797809253113855,0.0,0.0,0.16899204532934928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202175625752984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086540623166058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798558958136514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349203526534484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122090619850534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185706226153913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681872136850157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130639561090807,0.17484287950986846,0.12093017141401592,0.0,0.3806294069773558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118006321554054,0.0,0.18729013849673976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511353596548622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645496102245269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242893310772685,0.0,0.18635220180256767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975925811514093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18491061681177803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664405743690546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753362363971167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145418750330886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26119733658811584,0.09592424253249604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195606265804866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986049454576206,0.0,0.105935886258391
parenting,toEverythingAtime,2019/02/06,"Moving a kid school mid year My 9yo daughter is in 4th grade and has a hard time in her current school. Her grades has always been lower than avg. We can finally afford tutoring but think it’s not enough. We are now able to switch her to what seems to be a better school with more resources for kids who are behind but I fear making a mistake. She has one more year (5th grade)  in the current or alternate school until she reaches (what we call here) middle school. I’m really conflicted with making that move. I think it will be a good thing, but not 100% sure since every kid is different. She’s very shy and takes time to warm up to any event and any kid so I fear she will be too overwhelmed with the transition and will feel terrible socially in a new environment (and also, as a result might effect her academically).

Stick to the same school she’s in though not giving her enough help? Move in the beginning of 5th grade? Move now, mid year?

Advice or shared experience will be appreciated!",2.7580466630493743,5.123961804123713,3.6591155724362463,87.01461475854586,77.8659793814433,6.97080846446012,20.519804666304946,8.032893268588372,0.9193649484536084,786,20,157,14,19,251,113,194,0.128,0.7609999999999999,0.111,-0.5674,5,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,0,2,7,10,0,3,11,0,18,0,0,4,1,32,28,15,0,1,8,1,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,7,11,0,1,5,0,0,4,3,5,0,1,1,3,17,5,22,18,5,28,0,1,0,0,24,10,0,4,14,101,24,12,0.10213045014333527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980069386665673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816736840809099,0.08498071601903437,0.0,0.0,0.13890441659966452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032608360878262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042866084652197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067045830415408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21105611237653296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604930909595561,0.0,0.0,0.09990317753707957,0.0,0.22985030073308896,0.05164022426914314,0.0,0.0,0.11187891603505963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797283400494017,0.0,0.08566217603384259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148882286362664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845588791358401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634573705323744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834426806087284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341940224138976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863822516355003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920623617394862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542738156145847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6201688081773726,0.0,0.09297572605904156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448336374551793,0.0,0.0,0.1041091323302675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625674059586316,0.0,0.07678938821644282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678509329573554,0.130882137210034,0.1003426487212086,0.0,0.11910617357980526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426831733426045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19730598424190807
parenting,hasayrs,2019/02/06,"My daughter (4) does not want to go back to preschool after classmate had a seizure. My wife and I found out today why our daughter has been so nervous to go to school this past week. Her teacher told us that one of the kids had a seizure in class and my daughter was standing next to him. This kid is my daughter’s ‘boyfriend’ (he lives next to her grandma so they’re very familiar with one another) so when we asked why she didn’t want to go back she said that they ‘broke up’. 

She finally went to school today but she’s already making up excuses for why she can’t go tomorrow. We have tried to talk to her about it today but she refuses and just keeps saying she’s sick. What can we do so that she understands the situation or understands it enough to not be afraid of going to school?",4.0939772727272725,4.9494931250000045,4.537727272727274,88.43636363636368,70.875,8.068181818181818,28.92045454545455,8.296473431620573,1.7712500000000002,620,23,134,9,11,196,97,160,0.055,0.945,0.0,-0.7609999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,5,0,1,0,9,3,0,2,4,0,12,1,0,1,0,22,28,11,0,2,6,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,8,8,0,2,3,0,0,6,4,3,0,2,9,2,23,0,22,18,1,24,0,1,0,0,33,4,0,1,13,88,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358707391713281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910657577774445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510461048133905,0.0,0.0,0.1893499907197897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774691451637916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272203267495497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487666473239085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499945221502282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498719174907357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943854508112652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087210225973072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218643385165339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618882037105082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668644396036019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175360869176956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711941520559865,0.09791339417345432,0.0,0.373825128909068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839688457892044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896265753639874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35012235162107,0.11765055579919713,0.0,0.08359332526330866,0.0,0.0,0.2563535004975505,0.14810338656658892,0.0,0.0,0.10159045142244713,0.14524381766117572,0.0,0.09876289576041004,0.0,0.0,0.11413747008112204,0.3333016204909956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,knitasheep,2019/02/06,"Last night my kid pooped in the tub So last night my 20 month old pooped in the bathtub for the 1st time. DH and I had no idea what to do. We obviously needed to clean out the tub and re-bathe him, but do we take him out and towel him off? But what do we do with the now-shitty baby while I wait for the tub to drain? We decided to let him sit there while the tub drained around him, me scooping out whatever floated to the top with one of his favorite toy cups (now trash) into the toilet. What we didn't realize is there was a giant chunk of poop right by the drain, and it took \*forever\* to go down! So...for about 10 minutes...my kid just played in shitwater. Mother of the year, right here.",2.4333499377334995,3.4757737671232896,3.4069115815691187,94.2768804483188,75.02739726027397,6.678953922789539,21.49190535491905,6.980632752743323,0.2284465753424656,534,12,127,5,11,171,89,146,0.033,0.888,0.079,0.7877,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,12,0,9,3,3,0,1,25,14,9,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,16,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,16,1,25,9,0,28,0,0,0,0,14,14,0,0,11,82,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079505357433248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457433180339856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673093084931193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38603411485742173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213582955574114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900508905062485,0.0,0.0,0.17557824326033722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444264408818097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484733368258497,0.0,0.1604563651639595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4044380922706276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780380901716013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380753002747264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26308458820814584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248626331390006
parenting,snickers060,2019/02/06,"WISH MY S/O WOULD HELP OUT My s/o works from 10-630 and I watch our baby while he’s at work, he comes home and thinks he should be able to get on a video game and play for a hour because he worked all day. He says things like, “I like how it’s impossible for you to watch her.” “Why can’t you be a mom and watch her?” It really hurts my feelings. She goes to bed at 10:30-12 at the latest so he gets a total of 4 at most 6 hours with her. 
Yesterday I asked him if he could watch her for a hour while I took a nap because I wasn’t feeling to hot, he woke me up at exactly one hour later, spot on, not one minute more. Like really? He’s gone for 8 hours a day and I watch our child but whenever I ask him to watch her it’s like I’m asking something huge and I shouldn’t be asking him to watch her or keep an eye on her because I’m the mom. He says I’m wrong for feeling like he should watch her even if she’s just playing in a saucer and it isn’t hard to watch her, but like he’s her dad so why wouldn’t he have to spend time with her? 
It turns me off and doesn’t make me feel attracted to him when he doesn’t want to even be a dad or spend time with our child.. ",0.5572210376687963,1.3632811044776147,2.4640085287846496,100.12718905472636,79.3731343283582,6.14953802416489,17.61265103056148,6.42735559955562,-0.6204259417199713,888,13,247,7,21,297,125,268,0.031,0.83,0.139,0.9689,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,3,2,0,3,7,11,0,0,12,0,16,1,1,2,3,41,39,20,0,10,8,4,6,6,0,5,0,2,2,2,6,13,0,1,5,5,2,3,8,2,0,2,4,18,36,9,32,25,4,31,0,1,10,0,50,13,0,5,21,132,42,3,0.10292295408735956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848762739766372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822263254599747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865901152508758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217560392175989,0.0,0.0,0.13275358156559455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595928097040544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208163752301284,0.07352817896498827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754599104474424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219875073383384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898708660199729,0.0,0.10324011477435367,0.0,0.5067918876287641,0.0,0.11018115105368688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148265061692908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016977391671749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870187106314889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108423979235885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948651471316548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318701597624474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369692823031776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923511841703533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837743736323007,0.06594887313244102,0.0,0.0,0.12003040442562213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435118901766435,0.0,0.1119506189767787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070662496251416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857439148448164,0.0,0.1183563177977929,0.0,0.0,0.22478740914619424,0.0,0.0,0.07311351357984491,0.11253009317851352,0.0,0.0
parenting,Manszilla20,2019/02/06,"Ultrasound Question I’m stressing over a pregnancy scare and I think she maybe faking it for what ever reason. One reason I’m having a tough time believing this is because she had a ultra sound done at 5 weeks. I don’t think they usually do them that early unless you have a reason, & she had her appointment at 6:30 and called me at 6:41 saying her appointment was done. That seems pretty fast. However, she did she me a picture of the ultra sound which had her name on it. Does this add up or no?",4.3644571428571455,5.412296360000003,5.321428571428573,82.355,70.4,8.514285714285714,25.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,1.7768714285714289,396,11,77,7,7,130,69,100,0.124,0.843,0.033,-0.7906,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,2,0,1,4,0,2,6,0,12,0,0,3,1,14,17,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,8,3,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,7,3,15,0,9,10,0,12,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,3,6,56,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19613451129533235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034778378748028,0.0,0.0,0.2039469450252629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848411097474159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841135094163009,0.3704915161934939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637424668114384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818583801069588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266347217630245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841618703820832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278322553235933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5583544666202306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395394165964154,0.18123206042152493,0.0,0.0,0.1647933194611132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20735718195881644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23197992382775184,0.0,0.0,0.10555390393006184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993673630009908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452028933778484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ccvvll,2019/02/06,"Potty training trips? I now want to teach my 2.5 yea old how to use the toilet and it was a successful first time! Well, he wasn’t sitting down.  I wasn’t prepared for the mess either. I guess my question is now what? How do I get him to use the toilet with his sitter? Also his father and I are separated so how do I go about that? He spend most weekends with him. Do I let him pee standing up or sitting down? ",0.02758620689655089,2.1550594022988534,2.1800114942528768,94.9286379310345,87.16091954022987,4.3995402298850586,19.044827586206893,5.6839178017228535,-0.30242896551724163,316,9,71,2,10,106,58,87,0.029,0.8490000000000001,0.122,0.7815,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,9,3,0,0,4,1,9,1,1,5,0,15,15,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,1,1,3,0,14,2,10,11,2,14,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,4,6,54,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405256895947288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558348394738683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713993029210907,0.0,0.17093454304154765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313321044161614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075577402053385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156075584338332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369312754358264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538142706340962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.519537484961416,0.0,0.0,0.1774019602629321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704283839224928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZXE102R,2019/02/06,"Suggestions for child care. I have a friend that has a 6 year old son. She's going to be starting a job that makes it so her son will have no one to watch over him for an hour and a half. She's a low income single mother and I suggested for her to see if he can go to an after school program but she said he's already in one, and that it's to keep him safe for an additional hour and a half after the after school program. Do you guys know of any low cost/free solution for her?",2.626428571428569,2.8247975188679284,4.342129380053913,90.90273584905664,73.81132075471697,7.566576819407007,22.69002695417789,7.447530270364453,0.5586781671159029,371,8,91,4,7,126,65,106,0.057,0.835,0.108,0.7351,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,10,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,16,7,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,5,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,4,1,3,11,3,16,13,1,14,0,2,2,0,20,4,0,1,8,62,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23809722103126066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672462751596935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21998234252999066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666961279395088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452434770856143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136369460747768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4249615188294593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410913340167176,0.19177796202803907,0.0,0.0,0.11857639991802645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440218962956638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22640448690935835,0.0,0.2924099743687873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20523776833285945,0.0,0.0,0.4367225540380091,0.1719332879191175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527164848116311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894277207902506
parenting,llamallama09,2019/02/06,"IEP meeting had me crying...for good reasons For the 2018/2019 school year, we requested my oldest kids  new school to  hold him back in kindergarten. He is 6 and just was not emotionally or mentally ready for 1st grade (he has ASD and ADHD). 

The first few months were a roller coaster. Lots of ups and plenty of downs. His new school has been phenomenal. Worlds better than his school last year. 

We just had another IEP meeting and I am so dang proud of my kid. He has worked so hard and it has shown. He loves school and is incredibly confident in his school work. His teacher reported that he has many friends. On the playground he doesn’t stand out. He has turned into a class clown. He is well loved in his class by all. 

My fears before starting school have completely vanished.  Keeping him in kindergarten was the best decision. ",3.6365384615384606,6.155175217948724,3.3672820512820536,89.44438461538464,75.66666666666666,6.724102564102565,25.143589743589743,7.793537801064563,1.333431282051282,658,23,128,10,15,197,102,156,0.027000000000000003,0.789,0.184,0.9809,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,6,6,9,0,1,6,0,18,2,0,1,1,20,23,9,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,10,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,1,6,1,14,8,17,17,4,21,0,0,0,2,25,10,1,2,10,76,16,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330714219029513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610611598509273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514164306446538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421987401205877,0.0,0.11620035655938235,0.09792836031888287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609435493160986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455211552526975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459780259644145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418368232478944,0.0,0.0,0.08554681757937785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287191589834468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918896128989856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841856878229928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025666321533976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413548878593958,0.1998695074683294,0.0,0.0,0.11225902717071354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158600581780906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838062757602717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138801832008581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384501511612595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7844260567843799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837260186562514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204383521868371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955618654340403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122004146329072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260813522112156
parenting,jermizzle,2019/02/06,"How parenting styles may or may not benefit your child in schools and careers... Interesting topic I learned in sociology in regards to parenting and how certain styles may benefit their children:

Parenting style #1 (mainly used in poor/working class and people of color): Not much talk between parents and child. Using commanding/authoritative language without negotiation or reasoning. 

Effects: senses of constraint/lack of communication towards authorities and people in institutions (schools, hospitals, police). The child may have senses of respect towards older people, but this is a disadvantage for the child in learning and future careers as they won't seek to ask questions or reason and negotiate with people.

Parenting style #2 (mainly used in upper-middle class families usually white, but people of color still use this style): Asking many questions and using negotiation and reasoning with child rather than commanding language.  

Effects: senses of entitlement in institutions which is advantageous in their learning and career life. This style may confuse the child in power dynamics, but will prepare them for their careers. 

Your style of parenting ultimately builds the building blocks of the future. Hopefully those blocks won't be used to build a ""wall"" but used to build a more accepting and prosperous future for all kinds. ",12.529562446898902,12.929363621495328,11.186057774001696,49.51480458793543,52.97196261682243,13.763126593033135,47.49192863211554,12.872792785125622,6.905977570093459,1101,60,131,32,11,348,113,214,0.063,0.835,0.102,0.8766,7,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,2,5,4,4,11,0,1,8,0,12,1,0,14,2,55,22,21,0,2,11,6,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,7,5,13,0,2,11,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,3,8,10,33,13,5,19,0,0,3,0,25,13,0,12,6,95,13,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786445693472055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463664206292483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917184850045537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349210761100013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341430528272851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102288039292722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659986678660591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5981407327104958,0.0,0.0,0.3112109157392874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011484089752667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769265364776701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172440990984765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169846487168369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216180435647067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5427879680913841,0.09888004238014343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654476555996295,0.0,0.06536094655773153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,echobaby,2019/02/06,"Toddler does not want to leave So long story short: get my girl 2yo up at around 730a every weekday. She stays home
With us on the weekends. Her grandparents come to pick her up a little after 8am. Meanwhile from the time I get her up I have to fight with her to leave. She screams and cries like we are hurting her. Just putting her shoes on is a 2 person job. I work from home, but am not able to watch her and work. After about an hour or so can get her in the car tearfully.
She does the same thing for them when it is time to come home. I am sure this is just a phase, but I don't know how to better handle this. She is happy to see us and them but does not want to leave when it is time. I am at a load for what to do, it breaks my hear to hear her say she does not want to go. Any advice would be appreciated.",0.9295716945996304,2.1843243407821262,2.380201117318439,99.25227560521415,79.33519553072625,5.443724394785848,17.519925512104283,5.6839178017228535,-0.7720371694599626,623,10,161,3,15,202,97,179,0.059,0.8240000000000001,0.117,0.9266,2,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,3,0,2,3,9,7,1,0,9,0,15,1,1,2,1,28,28,12,0,4,10,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,3,2,7,9,0,0,1,1,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,6,27,4,30,26,1,28,0,1,2,0,25,11,0,1,11,107,34,3,0.11561785885041727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298043355781492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862410872359983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029244067864028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022546005675538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19918909578954686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700078895078035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047118696600073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741303263883982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18121667789459495,0.0,0.06570829359929492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307736065161864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606194595489061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479224179928995,0.0,0.11386030152353588,0.0,0.12377130916480565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473288478075415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354055155596333,0.0,0.0,0.36726785586496014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564850457506842,0.11587946846947425,0.0,0.10231816680077893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009530547594759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162278820115617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194396191890976,0.0,0.0,0.09213246440913536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323325408892676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896846368536234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681136799576292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20225310980960945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781480970911299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458322611621935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834235649031354,0.0,0.0,0.08213160968890959,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrShifu123,2019/02/06,"Wife acting like a child I need some advice on how to politely tell my wife she is acting childishly. 

Our two-year-old is, well a two-year-old and she can be very frustrating to deal with. She argues about everything and is doing a lot of backtalking lately. She is very smart and picks up verbal communication quickly. 

Our daughter does very well when we calmly explain to her that her behavior is not appropriate. The problem comes when my wife starts arguing with her, raising her voice, and saying things like ""knock it off!"". Our daughter just ends up arguing more and repeating what my wife says. This turns into a bad cycle that I want to put an end to. 

How do I explain to my wife that she is only perpetuating our daughter's behavior without getting into an argument? ",6.5857001522070036,7.223733993150687,7.062694063926942,73.32012937595135,65.23287671232876,10.324505327245053,32.660578386605785,10.25414643259724,3.3835884322678846,617,24,109,14,9,202,89,146,0.114,0.769,0.117,-0.465,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,0,9,12,4,0,7,0,10,0,0,3,0,24,18,9,0,3,3,8,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,7,11,0,0,2,0,0,4,2,6,2,0,0,3,21,6,17,17,3,18,0,0,0,0,32,6,0,2,10,79,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377283172670106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313911298200102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555387576453956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223384669650812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377090002915866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787529672494811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414272847364032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221542096106256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751177497431112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375875559638735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378398579943288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668231345397095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302509836538185,0.0,0.0,0.11968128626329445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505746778282214,0.0,0.15819279480255172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502819813876481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113820004578494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375417771078193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454466489072127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17116523222512406,0.3074406296002847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895216740270417,0.09281649046949504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829756050251228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516918522347173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20267260502243006
parenting,GaffersEms,2019/02/06,"My child is too emotional I have a 5yr old daughter who is my everything. I’m a single mum but I manage well and have never felt like I’m alone or overwhelmed. In fact, I think I have an easy life compared to friends with partners. My focus is her and me. She’s a sweet little girl. She sees her dad once a week for a few hours. He’s a bit of a mess tbh. Can’t keep a job, get up in the morning, even take care of basic grooming but I encourage their relationship. She loves her daddy and he’s very patient and loving with her in the few hours he spends with her. It’s more than some kids in her situation get. Ok some background- I’m an easy going person who gets on with people. I’m a bit cold emotionally though, I just can’t be doing with people whinging or breaking down over anything. I think we have it pretty good in the great scheme of things. Too good maybe. I’m 40 & have lived a  colourful life which has made me who I am. I’ve suffered chronic depression but have coped by getting on with it quietly. I manage it fine but it’s taken years. I hide a lot of inner turmoil I guess. I use humour as a mechanism and it gets me through. I say it how it is. I’m not a child person, I find them interesting but irritating. I have brought her up in a very grown up way I suppose . I give her lots of cuddles and tell her I love her daily but I don’t sugar coat things. If she asks me anything, I give her the facts. I encourage her but in a realistic way. if she wants to deliver pizza when she grows up (which she does atm )that’s good enough, not everyone is meant to be a genius or make a mark on the world and as long as she’s nice that’s all that matters. We need doctors and lawyers but we also need the people doing the jobs nobody cares about. At Christmas I do struggle with the Santa thing cos I think she’s in for disappointment but I’m not a monster!! I know she’s a child and imagination is important. I go along with it. So, she well behaved. Not an easy character but hasn’t got a bad bone in her body. She is extremely anxious and emotional though . She loves animals but if she sees a clip of any animal on tv or sees a cat when we’re out she’ll break down in tears about how much she loves them. And it’s like her heart is breaking She’s inconsolable with anything remotely sad. She worries about everything. Currently it’s about how soon she’ll be a teenager and she can’t bear the though of me seeing her in a different way. The moment I wake her for school each day she cries about how much she loves me. It’s as if I’ve never told her. We watched a film a while ago and the other day I found her crying in her room secretly cos she remembered that at the start of the film she initially laughed at a character who had a facial disfigurement (in shock I guess) and she couldn’t cope with how what a horrible person she was for that. Or how horrible the world is to anyone that’s different. It’s all the mundane things too. When I say no about wearing a dress or buying sweets she loses the plot. It’s not a tantrum, it’s sobbing like she’s watched Bambi’s mum die. When she hears songs she liked she  gets sad because it reminds her of me and how much she loves me. Even her friends at school find her dramatic meltdowns awkward. Her best friend no longer wants to sleepover. It’s like she has the weight of the world on her shoulders and there’s no difference between something minor or something that’s important. Have I created this anxiety? Is my parenting the main problem? I’ve tried addressing it but she blanks out when reasoning with her. I’ve consoled her, ignored her, distracted her. Nothing works. Is this something serious? Should I get professional help? Does the apple inevitability not fall far? I just don’t think a 5yr old should be concerned  my wellbeing and all the problems in society to this extent. I wish she could just enjoy the moment and not worry about all the possible negative outcomes that may or may not happen. 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parenting,SlightlyRukka,2019/02/06,"Just a regular ‘ol Wednesday @ Bedlam I hop in the shower, I'm talking nothing but in and out. We have glass shower doors. Before they even fogged up, before I had even gotten my hair wet....there stands Jake. ""Momma. Chris is out of his room."" ""Where is he?"" ""In the bathroom."" ""Ok buddy. He's grounded, but he's allowed to leave his room to go to the bathroom."" Off he goes. 2 minutes later, shampoo all in my hair.....here's Lyla Mae.
""Momma. Not in rooooooooooom"" I want to scream. ""Ok. Thank you Lyla. I'm aware. Chris is allowed to go to the bathroom."" Not even finished washing shampoo out, there's a bang at the door. Chris is yelling through the door, ""Momma. Jake locked me out of our room."" Can't tell if I'm crying from soap in my eyes or the insanity that is my life. ""Ok. Just sit on the couch and wait for me."" I rinse my eyes and open them. Emily is standing outside the shower. ""Momma. Chris isn't in his room. He's sitting on the couch.""
""Omg. I told him too. Jake locked him out."" ""Can we have a snack?"" ""Can I take a shower?""",-1.6508538205980088,-0.2157002714285703,0.3622702104097453,101.16373754152822,113.61904761904762,2.334440753045404,15.359911406423034,4.361142546834038,-1.2092513842746402,773,22,173,2,43,250,109,210,0.079,0.8909999999999999,0.03,-0.8712,6,0,0,0,1,0,73.0,3,1,2,0,8,5,0,0,14,3,13,6,3,2,1,24,24,7,0,2,8,4,1,0,0,0,2,2,13,0,1,11,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,5,24,4,28,21,1,33,0,0,2,0,23,24,0,2,3,98,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261863026609911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750800014717717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4962098681045369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28464449157094146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651638181844196,0.0,0.0,0.17688251787419002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402894524208171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828836442298816,0.2012820544514216,0.2188824067857984,0.230557608869113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23929173051869684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770709853085956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teachmehowtoduchess,2019/02/06,"Parenting A Parent Not sure if this is the correct place to post this, and if I am wrong, maybe someone can direct me to the proper sub for insight.

My Mom has developed a drinking problem. This has waxed and waned for 17 years. Periods of heavy drinking followed by periods of only having the occasional beer.

But this time is different. See, my grandmother fell into bad health and so my parents are my grandmother's caregiver. They all live together. I took my grandmother to her monthly check up today and she decided to tell me how much my Mom is drinking and acting out. She tells me how worried she is. That my parents are fighting again because my Mom gets drunk and mean. That my Mom drinks over a fifth a night and says she loves my Dad but isn't in love with him. 

My mom has never worked. She doesn't even drive! She has always been a stay at home figure. She has been an empty nester for about five years now. 

I have pretty much had to stop going over there so much because I couldn't handle seeing her drunk at 3 in the afternoon. I couldn't handle her emotionally charged, drunken outbursts. She gets so lovey dovey sweet when she is loaded and it's just too much for me. 

I'm pretty sure I sound selfish. I dont know what to do. Is this my business? Do I say anything? Since when is it okay for a 30 year old to correct their mother? Should I parent my parent?",2.4874725274725296,4.6853846520146565,3.4603113553113545,88.95552197802198,77.93772893772893,6.2512820512820495,23.686813186813183,7.321109707123232,0.9959846153846148,1082,36,216,14,26,346,155,273,0.125,0.813,0.063,-0.9133,8,0,5,0,2,0,28.0,0,0,2,1,14,11,1,0,11,1,29,10,0,2,6,35,41,19,0,6,6,13,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,10,11,7,1,5,7,1,6,7,5,0,1,4,6,41,6,26,34,5,35,0,0,2,2,35,10,0,2,17,150,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678693592660499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605128172355593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06701794845026805,0.09785763615633926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385987415161654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407001888310468,0.3145166937704741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028735681761814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053014296166116234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387033205869349,0.0,0.045616466987562186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531797489373942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080512370789351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411156208225131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087549314808024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488464898128084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063701227911353,0.08743214956944569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4700271727723077,0.0640667821985154,0.0,0.23601613362897825,0.0,0.06190534030911168,0.0,0.0,0.07532329455851272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422464830191005,0.0,0.0,0.06104517317297409,0.0,0.0,0.5347489110948207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385987415161654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687171266696484,0.16331678523266807,0.0,0.07680279491036557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765994896037378,0.0,0.0,0.1279216759708144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639606331478969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800830053779698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555184374743391,0.0,0.06710516018433765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129768417672132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031035033487133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04680318521648962,0.0,0.07608186451428607,0.0,0.0891774030909972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058433898727292585,0.08151303542711913,0.0,0.0,0.0877572114942994,0.0,0.15506414566510013
parenting,Juan_More_Time_,2019/02/06,When is it reasonable to start feeding my daughter (5m) formula So my daughters mother and I have been split up since before my daughter was born. From the start I’ve been wanting to spend more time with my daughter but my ex always makes it difficult. The lawyers got involved but long story short we’re under an interim agreement at the moment. My ex always brings up how important it is to keep my daughter on the breast as long as possible. How correct is this scientifically and what are the downsides to formula over breastfeeding?,5.261399999999998,7.350766940000002,5.687000000000001,76.55350000000001,69.6,8.6,33.5,9.188382445141503,3.293100000000001,434,21,73,9,8,139,68,100,0.032,0.905,0.063,0.5023,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,8,2,1,4,1,12,15,10,0,1,2,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,8,1,14,11,1,16,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,0,8,50,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4415345141355772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22576753561020654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21220041337639492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23582835325612436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695991970213704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710296989841254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991081134647022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727928557937249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219475209855618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37558931951654906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471005936902138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564924420106119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meth_panther,2019/02/06,"Why aren't there any how-to parenting TV shows? Why aren't there any TV shows about how to raise children? There are cooking TV shows, shows about building houses, shows about fashion, shows about organizing your house, shows about the best meals to make while high on weed ...

Am I missing something? Where are the tv shows about parenting which is something nearly everyone will eventually do? I get it's a  highly individualized experience and there is no one size fits all advice, but it would be cool to get some advice from some experts on TV or just stories/tips from other parents.

What yall think? Or are there shows and I just don't watch the right channels?",5.015403225806448,7.087000701612903,4.5669677419354855,84.40545161290326,70.20967741935485,7.218064516129032,26.916129032258066,7.908726449838941,1.5362638709677423,533,18,100,7,10,161,73,124,0.027000000000000003,0.919,0.054000000000000006,0.6497,3,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,15,3,0,0,4,1,13,2,0,2,1,14,18,7,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,2,2,0,1,16,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,2,5,2,14,15,4,9,0,1,1,0,6,8,0,4,1,62,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31376973455926555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183552049438593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684843830820814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534097312080247,0.0,0.15704596973703758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16775857296742194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33925386624273185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704998302848136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716650372351484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879093878424724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.534806003619794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710643293356353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471941588044185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287216416002827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28973775581076416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404812567756255,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,docfilmmakerav,2019/02/06,"Documentary Filmmaker Seeking Picky Eaters Hi r/Parenting! I'm a documentary filmmaker based in NYC working on a series about the ways that people eat for First Look Media. The series follows characters as they discuss the way they eat, all told through the perspective of a single character, for example: a student who routinely eats public school lunch, a truck driver who has learned to enjoy eating alone, a competitive eater preparing for an eating contest, a person with oral cancer who has to relearn how to eat, etc.

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The episode I'm currently pulling together concerns children whose eating habits extend beyond picky eating.  If this sounds like your kid, I'd love to talk further with you. Please dm me!

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Also to the community at large, I'd really like to know how you'd like the media to portray such picky eaters or if you have think certain stories need to be told within this subject. I appreciate any advice and insight as I navigate this space as a documentarian. Thanks!",9.088370786516856,9.524844691011237,8.654247191011237,64.71968539325843,59.95505617977528,11.389662921348314,39.710112359550564,11.00357731598739,4.767115056179776,817,39,122,19,10,261,119,178,0.035,0.807,0.158,0.9627,2,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,4,2,2,6,7,0,0,16,0,5,11,0,2,2,15,16,10,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,8,3,9,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,9,7,24,12,3,13,0,0,1,1,20,7,0,3,5,73,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453147578306532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019162841194093,0.0,0.07736152515255956,0.0,0.20963165699739966,0.23509506857572904,0.06578531163067894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7918988552721512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788869466030604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228548643684025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531647996162224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178423377408242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123574650472902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731002674756552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173016952818992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074163528462162,0.0,0.0,0.06706610609812848,0.08446808841761387,0.0,0.106189523262139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061972985317016616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790425029502806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775452245476135,0.0,0.08906356219777208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061985949720134124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184875042979504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535726035404115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704265813765213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23509506857572904,0.0
parenting,doodlydoodles,2019/02/06,"Posterior Tongue Tie Stories Please I’ve been worried about my month old daughters latch for awhile now. It’s shallow and she seems to suck up a lot of air. We go talk to the pediatrician tomorrow because our lactation specialist thinks  she has a posterior tongue tie and maybe even a minor lip tie. Her symptoms are she wants to eat all the time, has white stuff on her tongue, blisters on her lips and tons and tons of gas. 

I’m interested to hear stories on others that had similar experiences and what the outcome was.",5.575670995670997,6.992596090909089,5.897431457431459,77.97090909090913,67.8888888888889,9.293506493506491,32.324675324675326,9.606745405546679,2.9975645021645017,419,18,79,9,7,134,72,99,0.051,0.898,0.05,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,6,0,6,4,2,0,1,11,13,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,6,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,9,1,12,10,4,11,0,0,1,0,11,5,1,2,5,49,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700019154959752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635381187145821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701094565507376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519334837144937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637169537635947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902777568298719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21895994223785276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258743760243343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20557408644254624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27025557607934825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28271274293568605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344639994883541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29483332332927464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267693238120941,0.0,0.20700906872493272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650277478465783,0.0,0.0,0.1501795737714465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519097616241524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615546967719759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DoopleSmog,2019/02/06,"Advice needed on scratching and biting 2 yr old She just turned 2 and goes to daycare 4 days a week.  I know aggressive behaviors are normal at this age, but it just does not seem to get better.  She does this to everyone; parents, cousins, daycare kids.  Any time she is feeling like someone will take her toy, or if her dad or I have to take something from her, she resorts to scratching, and sometimes biting. Yesterday she wanted to sit in my chair and I wouldn't let her, so she went through a whole scratch, hit, bite routine until she was done, then she started crying and wanted a hug and we moved on. In the past, talking and removing her has had zero results,  So that time I literally just ignored her and gave zero reaction except to move out of her  bite zone.  Was that the wrong move? Saying, 'no biting' and walking away has not done much, as she doesn't really seem to care. The whole thing took about 30 secs before she gave up. I'm not sure if that teaches her there's no consequences for such behavior though.


Lately she has had a hard time at daycare drop off and has left bloody scratches on my husband's face :(   I got an email today from daycare that she has been in with the preschooler room as she does better there. She's too aggressive with smaller kids and scratched another kid over a toy and in turn got a bad bite on her shoulder (I haven't seen it yet). She's been bit more times than I can count at this point, and I'm wondering of it's because she puts out this aggressive behavior first or if she's learned to be aggressive in that setting due to getting bit. I've only received 1 other notice that she scratched someone several months ago. Uughhhhh.  

She is so sweet, she kisses and loves hugs, she has been so good with our dog and cats lately.  Even asked me if I was okay after I hurt myself the other day.  It's just with other kids or when she's feeling angry she just lashes out. She is not so nice to her cousins (2 and 5) at times and I feel so embarrassed and sad. She's scratched the 5 yr old on the face twice and he is only ever sweet and kind to her. 

Any advice or words of wisdom are welcome.",4.114151090342677,5.108944418224301,4.668859813084115,86.99966043613709,70.93925233644859,7.482367601246108,27.584423676012463,7.675431598112923,1.468470778816199,1673,57,344,19,30,533,212,428,0.132,0.728,0.14,0.8719,1,0,1,0,0,2,45.0,2,0,0,3,21,27,4,1,14,1,30,7,3,1,2,66,60,42,0,9,20,5,11,1,0,2,0,1,1,4,18,28,0,1,8,2,0,9,9,10,0,4,17,15,52,17,51,38,6,63,0,2,1,4,57,24,0,12,28,230,70,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17689287509260718,0.08023266364109875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310135663087375,0.09490882110895424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461569690916114,0.0,0.08503819458505506,0.0,0.07557302045668135,0.05517475027285715,0.0,0.07701831287394735,0.0,0.0,0.1600994943658505,0.19762944333337606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228213851601716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942223617435836,0.11674439377930396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376207231879728,0.1852486400955476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05978175371380591,0.08187250713419161,0.0,0.08648727213505622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372954543823219,0.06466117582464095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769887286410796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457666889167432,0.0,0.0,0.07591644916598148,0.14478005250162546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810802023922207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689404635243584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425342309465153,0.04974255495290104,0.0,0.20420101447963013,0.0,0.09834061741340283,0.092553771999263,0.0,0.04421917064720293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168983678638435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224512766568861,0.2885970502699043,0.06653610154929425,0.0671128627455254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886816989377716,0.0,0.10304753171594494,0.18995242964801864,0.0,0.0,0.1376755996762946,0.0,0.0,0.10050190864751676,0.0,0.0864031237752107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855622821909206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098869409289558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057983753347701734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197809062627787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479588326691325,0.0,0.10225182415874816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337958880018526,0.0696798968173791,0.08951783088752267,0.0,0.0640642500801847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530567740238056,0.0,0.13610622463565025,0.07274942507001142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060131578967670414,0.0,0.08892673456968987,0.0,0.2638888652663217,0.0,0.08579397663280161,0.0,0.1005612058248956,0.0,0.19690025672420866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067716297527454,0.0,0.07260257620079227,0.0,0.0,0.0839047326946857,0.0,0.20210490882772247,0.0,0.0,0.09815546935658093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989597218781094,0.0,0.0
parenting,MichaellaJane,2019/02/06,"For those of you who read ""Goodnight Moon"" every night like I do... WHY don't we say goodnight to the telephone?! It drives me crazy. 
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parenting,dad0897,2019/02/06,"Mother of our kids wants to move to another state. Hello, I am a father of two boys and I have alot of visitation rights with my kids and I do spend a good amount of time with them even though they live with the mom so where I come in is being with them when they get off the bus in the afternoons and the weekends that is allotted for me. So I was talking with there mom the other day and she mentioned that she was thinking of moving to another state to be closer to her family that has kids at the age of our boys and my boys are young and only know that  their cousins have dogs that they like to play with when they visit them. And my boys mom is the type to give up easy like trying to find a better job around here so she would rather move to be closer to her family thinking she will seek financial help or whatever else she doesn't want to work for.  I do pay child support and they still live in the house so I know how much the monthly expenses are and it's affordable compared to alot of places. But she is going off the five days out of the month that I can't be there for the kids in the afternoon because of my work and her mom lives near her and helps when she can. 

I love my kids and they love their father but they don't have any relatives/cousins around to form that childhood bond with,  so I have been going through this in my mind about not giving her permission to move the kids to another state or let her move with them to be near their cousins.... any thoughts? ",5.032598624683317,4.853836973941373,5.052546145494032,89.2161192544336,68.51140065146579,8.776619616359032,26.176076728193998,8.344100000000001,1.2717703221136452,1169,28,266,15,18,364,143,307,0.016,0.912,0.07200000000000001,0.9167,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,14,3,20,8,0,0,19,0,29,2,0,1,0,44,45,26,0,4,6,9,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,11,10,24,0,0,6,2,3,10,4,0,0,2,4,0,46,8,52,33,6,47,0,0,0,2,60,19,0,5,17,195,56,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637597271988088,0.29230046481063204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543490585024756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05664245241599612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821791484927108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004133892344417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984990845951513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762175402213506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613720066395092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519119462457636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492612139014714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048546250240079934,0.17827240487510373,0.10561581751682106,0.07793590071926246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456305760839588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10721584689687716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922075947982966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213151081014822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501579255843427,0.0,0.09079088738499162,0.0,0.2461470707316077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677257321568537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382152364162892,0.4353016126479314,0.148333836976311,0.4937900218991903,0.06830602671174764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066895241884368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708039388271396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793521676416511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420509254301348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544317986623153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468463069503646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907726051105932,0.09129227239749753,0.07376716679307277,0.054181713265722097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308578186235576,0.0,0.09076818900928396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961185918812244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529202045526392,0.0,0.0,0.06600686630340168,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mt-gfunk-man,2019/02/06,"Daughter has yes and no mixed up I have a two and a half year old and she is just starting to talk a lot. I try to talk to her so she can continue to learn, but whenever I ask her anything that I know should be a yes response, she says no. I correct her every time, and she can pronounce the word yes, but nothing seems to change. After I got older I realized I have some slight dyslexias. I assume that she maybe have some of the same issues. Can you diagnose dyslexia that early? Does anyone have any suggestions on how to try to correct this?  I’m sure I just have to be persistent, but would be happy with any advice or suggestions. Thanks.",1.0549487179487187,3.445320238461541,2.676153846153845,91.3121794871795,85.07692307692307,5.9282051282051285,21.743589743589745,7.3011,0.8449128205128207,501,17,104,8,15,164,78,130,0.033,0.807,0.16,0.9569,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,6,3,15,1,0,1,3,27,22,10,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,19,3,13,16,4,10,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,6,8,77,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926548435039935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681405068964413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378533989782069,0.0,0.16223945828510505,0.0,0.18431068902556466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20856088119067406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001053282193961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252921470171706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610922765384425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576806207858754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987217793856688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057756701561084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834969056750272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16761174622405567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806587924586955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917284862486453,0.0,0.2068780644097959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678333882087894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947995409237608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954533857779444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18581361088007586,0.0,0.0,0.3169269331968544,0.0,0.1815112532094184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149610305417086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677067984121521,0.0,0.19258904748428135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400512629759993,0.0,0.0,0.12695954989155298
parenting,I_Have_A_Chode,2019/02/06,"2 year old son is waking up earlier and earlier And I mean early. 6-630 used to be the norm. He got sick and understandably woke up a bit earlier due to congestion and general feeling like shit.

Normally he will take a day or two after fully recovering to get back into his regular sleep cycle.

This time, he's now at 430 wake ups after weeks of not being sick.

Him and our 4 year old share a bedroom, so just letting him whine and cry isn't an option, she will wake up and then we will have 2 grouchy kids.

Putting him to bed even an hour later, 9 instead of 8, does nothing, might even make it worse.

It has taken it's toll on my wife, to the point she asked me to call out today so she could catch up on sleep.

How do I reset this kid, what menu allows me adjust the sleep hours!",2.7786382113821126,3.7251868231707377,4.418048780487805,87.72918699186995,74.0609756097561,7.66178861788618,23.422764227642283,8.07648339933343,1.0455544715447154,605,16,135,9,12,204,116,164,0.13,0.833,0.037000000000000005,-0.9508,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,9,4,1,0,8,0,13,10,7,4,0,26,24,12,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,4,3,0,2,2,6,10,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,1,14,2,20,13,1,31,0,1,0,0,19,11,1,3,19,81,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052979902662793,0.0,0.0,0.11558753394096173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411154766709007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534944996941335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001904907983693,0.0,0.16512050811754084,0.09694457881085447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154687878623952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857114322132216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600679037259628,0.10738931871254774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853649356704619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022539803081893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960717173067158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537133587893972,0.0,0.07343922453119696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034040325222723,0.0,0.0,0.1637435856915041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946677589267916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728261757914676,0.1442370083856588,0.0,0.31547310650543897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210188841744187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111407648508732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430229787429506,0.0,0.0,0.4512885383691347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130226488287079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765335642405155,0.0,0.14248668668233214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684172839233325,0.1564894132130955,0.0,0.12982903921894048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057840111233716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318989317674325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936035302683544
parenting,man_tse,2019/02/06,"I'm [26M] and my mom[45+] treats me like a child. What do i do? Iway can't tell whether my mom won't accept that I'm an adult now or she just like treating me like a child.

I can't go anywhere without being asked where I'm going, what I'm I going to do there, who I'm I going with?, what time will I be back?, I'm I going to eat or not, have you taken your bath? etc.

She's calls me anytime I'm out asking if I'm on my  home.",-2.5053236245954693,-0.9803674951456268,0.9322572815534008,103.66660598705502,92.88349514563106,3.4333333333333336,13.437702265372168,3.1291,-1.6992841423948222,320,5,91,0,12,115,62,103,0.025,0.879,0.097,0.7412,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,0,11,26,5,0,1,7,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,3,5,3,1,0,1,1,0,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,16,6,6,21,1,11,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,3,6,52,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36549356644988795,0.0,0.0,0.1503115364493783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960624903839755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002415326145784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180111225289769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5554770325428512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608170365869226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28650397578098663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4578860510477609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17085754813127704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398556773236188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884350957891058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OuchThatsHarsh,2019/02/06,"5 year old too physical How do i teach my 5 y/o to keep his hands to himself? He’ll be 5 next week. He’s in pre-k right now & in kindergarten in the fall. He’s always been a touchy feely kid, but now it’s really becoming a problem and I’m struggling with getting him to understand that he can not touch people roughly and/or when they don’t want to be touched. It used to be just giving hugs, now he basically tries to wrestle (sometimes, not all people in general) with friends. When i tell him to stop, he’s doing it again a few minutes later. He’s also not listening at school. It’s something we’ve been working on, but i kept telling myself at least it hasn’t seemed malicious. Then today at school he was kicking a friend under the table.. this is obviously more upsetting and i really want to figure out how to nip this in the bud ASAP. He definitely has trouble listening, but I really don’t think he’s a mean kid so I’m not sure why this is happening.  Anyone been through this? TIA",1.9703328173374608,3.954123995098044,3.8679566563467525,86.45475232198143,78.65686274509805,7.235913312693497,24.952528379772957,8.20500826718156,1.5900039215686284,781,29,162,15,19,264,124,204,0.101,0.76,0.139,0.836,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,1,1,12,8,0,2,8,0,16,2,1,3,3,31,33,12,0,3,8,0,4,0,3,1,0,2,0,2,10,5,0,3,5,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,5,6,12,4,23,24,4,27,0,0,0,1,25,12,0,1,14,95,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126963158356051,0.13210399685713625,0.17202024657163598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101116977648072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753418741587874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24532065903741376,0.0,0.08294740527447217,0.15230046958623414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14039408822680174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411163432981576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729400555915255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688468429160585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659564509436728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013331903859654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519152815845308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051239979984265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558320933602658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213543892632741,0.0,0.14453237862037438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222394187755845,0.1570212164360265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327334417591988,0.0,0.16597413997206653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963277261991914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27753269142382936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172927607939257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504892873319638,0.0,0.0,0.10779003299565967,0.0,0.0,0.1652784608708012,0.0,0.13712073767713318,0.0,0.0,0.18728571747564485,0.0,0.1273505481356196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325941517885118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558175961693468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223852478229324
parenting,JackRadikov,2019/02/06,"Help not continuing an over-critical parenting cycle My girlfriend grew up with a very critical mother, and has inherited (or learnt) and instinct for criticism.

She is very conscious about it and wants to not be that type of parent. But it's ingrained as part of her. Less than her mother, but still to some degree.

How can I help and support her in restraining excessive instinctive criticism and being a functional parent partnership?

Question inspired by [front page science post](https://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/anpxea/girls_with_highly_critical_mothers_are_more/).",11.70128787878788,14.387428977272727,9.707272727272727,51.58924242424246,54.68181818181818,12.684848484848485,41.93939393939394,12.161744961471696,6.331925757575759,482,24,56,15,6,146,69,88,0.083,0.773,0.14400000000000002,0.7686,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,18,7,10,0,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,12,5,4,6,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,3,2,44,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909102361144701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7228812817142791,0.23499727269598303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20783257722394471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243097337704982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330195169461812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462568031043452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3581067580866814,0.12799626329666086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trivialisaha,2019/02/06,"Advice on school districts in SF Bay area Hi,

I'm looking for some advice on school districts. My oldest one will be 5 next year. We rent so we have the ability to move for a school district.

How do I find out which school districts are good? What ratings should I look at? How do I make sure I choose to rent within my chosen school district borders and how do I ensure my child goes into the school we choose?

For context, we live in South Bay area, our current rental budget is up to $4k a month (I would prefer to pay less but that's what we're paying right now and we're willing to pay that much- we also need a 2 bedroom place so 1 br will be too small). Willing to move no souther than Sunnyvale, can move more to the north all the way up to San Mateo. Palo Alto is most likely outside of our budget (but we've heard the school district is awesome).

Thanks for any advice! ",3.408720781980449,4.391588248618788,4.052154696132597,90.80915427114323,72.59116022099448,6.011219719507013,24.4203144921377,5.369823440869387,0.3905627709307269,687,19,146,2,13,218,111,181,0.032,0.9,0.068,0.7296,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,7,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,4,2,26,24,10,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,1,3,1,5,9,0,0,4,0,7,3,1,0,0,1,1,3,16,4,24,15,6,27,0,0,2,0,10,17,0,2,7,90,21,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192935030582748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709985100474722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406641518550029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954698241443953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135332700186184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321071256972343,0.0,0.0961745641207313,0.0,0.18292352439711984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270207972193828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693547767895765,0.3472804773500035,0.08006557615691906,0.08075961618039396,0.0,0.0,0.1158330893074365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380410137222157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137937315921104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930134181035088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.771599566790909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265176425489443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002749491052572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864522180787073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737059283504863,0.0,0.0,0.0701381439370793
parenting,unclewilliam_hyti,2019/02/06,"Concerned about tech newer than mobile screen time? I've been working to improve the safe, healthy, and productive use of mobile screen for young children these last two years.

But I've recently recognized that even though the research on the negative effects' of children's screen time is still being debated, we are moving full speed ahead with technologies like VR, 5G, and AI-powered applications. 

Here is what gravely concerns me about these, and why I think it's essential that national governments globally, led by the EU or the US, assign a expert led task forces to pressure relevant law making bodies.

* While engaging with a mobile app, AI infers a child’s interests and demographics by analyzing the child’s actions and choices, and then it presents the child with highly personalized content and targeted advertising. This AI activity is dangerous for a child because a child does not understand that their experiences are not purely coincidental. Therefore, there is a strong possibility that a child will come to prefer to “live” in this personalized digital world rather than in the actual world.
* VR headsets are going to amplify the negative effects of this AI-powered personalized world. If mobile screen time is considered dangerous partly because a parent cannot co-view content as easily as they can on a TV, what about VR headsets where the viewing is limited to the user? What is more worrisome is that over time the child may not be able to easily distinguish the content experienced in VR — recorded and streaming video, video games, and video chat — from real life. Therefore, a virtual realistic life that is also personalized will surely be a life that is preferred to real life. To boot, with this technology, developers and content creators will possibly influence a child’s thinking in scary ways, directing not only the child’s future consumer behaviors but even shaping the child’s philosophical, political, and religious thought.
* Then there is what some call the electricity of the new era, 5G, which ties all of the other technologies together. 5G will enable any internet connected device blazing fast speeds with low latency. Verizon claims that “5G will deliver speeds roughly 20 times faster than what is possible with 4G … latency could drop into the single milliseconds, making lag times nearly impossible to detect.” So that means that AI-processed data can travel from device to device or device to server and back with nearly zero latency, and images streaming from the other side of the world, even from the outdoors, can appear through VR headsets as if the child is actually present.

Have you thought much about this? How to start a conversation on these new technologies as parents already feel overburdened today with managing screen time?

I share more details on this whole idea my op-ed published by Venturebeat ""[U.S. needs a task force to examine risks AR, VR, and 5G pose to kids](https://venturebeat.com/2019/02/03/u-s-needs-a-task-force-to-examine-risks-ar-vr-and-5g-pose-to-kids/)""",11.328598848368525,10.666431740882917,10.294221880998084,58.376449904030714,55.96737044145873,13.940606525911713,43.68069097888676,12.891045113551908,6.029889458733205,2471,119,359,73,25,784,271,521,0.06,0.898,0.042,-0.866,4,0,0,0,0,0,86.0,2,1,2,7,18,13,2,2,37,0,32,5,1,12,3,73,47,31,1,7,11,2,2,1,0,6,4,0,0,17,29,25,0,2,15,7,0,8,7,6,0,2,3,9,9,7,63,34,9,65,0,2,6,0,29,24,0,7,32,224,38,6,0.09572825766086364,0.0,0.1868339410196429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563851276268636,0.07655385306572575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650984978712167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360912118850117,0.0,0.11671011470499695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633251387031803,0.0,0.0,0.09774925413258473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246141761562024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643122426297938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377244338036625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968283405090067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364060480480167,0.0,0.0,0.048403083385645015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05440457488723231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114216006475643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080655508155451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803130667395464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704627976271292,0.04676799127203048,0.0,0.08452980533752465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779871066145904,0.0,0.0,0.10427613629305334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017439881889054,0.07037128401523199,0.07098129008718193,0.0,0.18490989553878484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280565363158607,0.0,0.0,0.21258980291376325,0.10366437439610647,0.0,0.0,0.3343448887137562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32375768123281745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21791942960158664,0.0,0.0,0.0945201056970484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775695348299746,0.0,0.0764487102251972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022274994796947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267760434290274,0.09405252711288692,0.15199508726516284,0.39073941807813695,0.0,0.09073919505112782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935125978747938,0.09965649226328968,0.1151493072565342,0.08267847886204456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598463514757015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637986296093816,0.10687718102518648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969131169515484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164585935938336
parenting,tee_bird_,2019/02/06,"Looking for the good things about having kids! I always seem to hear about the bad/annoying/horrible things of having kids.. I’m married, not looking to have kids *yet* but it’s definitely in our future. I seem to always hear about people (Moms mainly) complaining about things about their kids, or the work they have to do to put into parenting. I’m a teacher so I feel like I *kind of* understand taking care of kids and dealing with situations. 
Like yes, absolutely, parenting is hard... staying up those nights with a baby, a crying toddler because of teething, dramatic tantrums over nothing, etc etc etc. I hear people post things about how annoyed they are because “Johnny did this and this and this.” But, I really want to know some genuinely GOOD things about having kids! Sometimes all the negativity about it affects my thoughts about it. In no way am I iffy about having kids at all, I just want to hear more positivity about it than negativity. Because even though I would love to have kids, sometimes the thought scares me.. but I think that’s normal... right..? 

So. What is some positive and awesome things about having kids?",3.760895851721096,6.642429917475733,4.100653133274495,82.34061782877319,77.49514563106796,6.8522506619594,26.35392762577229,8.00094639256281,1.9049689320388352,897,35,157,16,22,280,113,206,0.113,0.6779999999999999,0.209,0.9785,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,3,1,19,11,2,1,8,1,15,2,1,2,2,31,36,12,0,4,6,3,2,2,0,1,0,4,0,9,16,7,0,0,8,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,8,16,7,34,32,9,14,0,0,2,1,23,7,0,5,5,117,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509221875762872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283163206048258,0.18142246741017734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114562177245133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897150908696772,0.0,0.1022755060842421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319177965475545,0.06552365113408104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050160787065060906,0.07087173030982527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664160925858287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886776592172223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472428248533292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330624361761816,0.05452021084652525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693263683084627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661362629724902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953595427152787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618713712908035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930967235603154,0.09719936840585232,0.09518941438083643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030976314461584,0.0,0.0,0.13755184902492087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501050937442863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997279450420618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355295704418262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472011970906351,0.0,0.0,0.09932103285018223,0.0,0.0,0.1806241418612028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151003918894403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962316177418904,0.0,0.0,0.1057388208271093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458945435840955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39544245770520176,0.06356625196857937,0.09746793913628113,0.15751461836632302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032754059951536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702679470442663,0.07874393194099649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222207350662703,0.0,0.0,0.07047204608320116,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yrraljhun,2019/02/06,"Tips to protect your kids on social media without being overprotective  A teen spends around 10 hours every day on social media.   
Every parent experiences a time in their life when they realized their  innocent, sweet school going child has grown up and entered the teenage  life. Usually, this change is noticeable when they come to middle school  and with significant impact when they go to college.

1. Reduce Screen Time
2. Keep A Strong Communication
3. Let Your Teens Share Their Plans With You
4. Use Entry Sensors And Secret Alerts
5. Develop A Code

Read with detail  [here](https://perfecthomedefense.com/how-to-protect-your-kids-without-being-overprotective/)",7.159924242424246,10.748260935185185,6.048350168350169,69.18621212121214,69.27777777777777,8.001346801346802,27.410774410774412,8.841846274778883,2.7786370370370377,543,19,74,11,11,163,79,108,0.0,0.855,0.145,0.9231,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,3,6,2,4,3,0,0,5,0,4,2,0,1,0,13,9,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,0,2,2,1,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,2,9,3,12,7,0,19,0,0,1,0,16,6,0,0,8,37,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791730920901598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876581889985625,0.1528082940334114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144037587207004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989223737405671,0.0,0.0,0.1735243158100658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016329700971856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469629414176413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767497893287316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18139628050167664,0.25059573252519896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196301635658684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19697384577825736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17744092608391454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35906221329740623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616594867662578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20687847762919925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321052770493854,0.19537324064262468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420008912031303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,indeeDUHH,2019/02/06,"Planning my sons first birthday party and looking for games ideas for the little ones. There will be around 7 babies attending, all around the same age (one), as well as a few boys 4 years old.  
What are some games that stuck out to you or that your kiddos really loved playing at birthday parties?",7.668511904761907,7.288537875000002,6.440000000000001,82.13833333333334,63.10714285714286,8.895238095238097,31.16666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.989102380952381,235,7,44,2,3,70,49,56,0.032,0.7490000000000001,0.219,0.895,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,9,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,1,3,3,9,3,4,10,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,2,4,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084146660773243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24289565253034734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223604408937567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28620432755755626,0.0,0.0,0.23979696190046296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25772741752666195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996452868067091,0.0,0.3870032428728162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829358901509876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25675110907750515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183890113476447
parenting,JonesFamAdventureJam,2019/02/06,"NEW TX Peppa Pig World of Play Exclusive First Look! Hey, everyone!

Our toddlers loved it! In case anyone was wondering what the new Peppa Pig World of Play is like, check out our exclusive pre-grand opening inside look and review here: https://youtu.be/KXR0xGndYmg or search ‘Jones Fam Adventure Jam’ on YouTube. Totally worth a visit!",6.963035714285716,10.011753517857148,5.2137142857142855,77.63128571428574,67.39285714285714,9.48,29.057142857142853,9.888512548439397,3.3383542857142867,271,10,41,7,5,78,47,56,0.0,0.6609999999999999,0.339,0.9643,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,5,5,5,1,10,0,0,2,1,5,6,0,2,4,18,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21172419243576326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28933754530934386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25756078566927115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793236015927871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5085500153237279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27328803729159284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5848905740841007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283727404186232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pro-Mix-Podcasting,2019/02/06,"Classic Children's Stories- The Tale of Two Bad Mice stuck in a queue? too busy to read a bedtime story? just need  five minutes to have a quick coffee break? 

We have the solution for you! Just put on one of our short classic children's stories and relax. ",1.765066666666666,4.403320440000002,2.5280000000000022,91.78066666666668,84.6,4.133333333333334,26.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,0.7547333333333333,202,9,38,1,6,63,40,50,0.121,0.78,0.099,-0.2805,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,1,7,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,25,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863104640136759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430642442480004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135174417261636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4651115493679772,0.0,0.0,0.4627956120924801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4519617589111216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ucmallory,2019/02/06,"Parents of kids with childhood apraxia of speech? Our 2 1/2 year old was just formally diagnosed yesterday with moderate-to-severe CAS. For those of you who have experienced this diagnosis, what tips or advice do you have? What does your child's speech therapy schedule look like? What does their schooling look like? What is their speech like when they're older? ",5.613489583333332,8.527826703125001,4.795000000000002,79.68333333333338,71.03125,8.641666666666666,29.416666666666664,9.2995712137729,2.9531541666666667,295,12,49,7,6,88,49,64,0.0,0.8690000000000001,0.131,0.8156,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,3,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,6,3,6,6,0,7,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,10,27,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414895188757594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25082857278475945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325247815476448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622011199406783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4150486634517247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25931808062346684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27440514551734657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501055876234793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791830231414088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826111150970315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914160299509192
parenting,Madaleland,2019/02/06,"Do you think screen time is toxic for teenagers? My wife and I have 2 teenagers and 1 preteen so this is something always on our mind. I'm involved in the tech field but we severely limited screen time when our kids were little. We do have a TV but when the kids were little we kept it downstairs in the basement and only used it for movie nights. We slowly introduced screens but still had limits until age 10 for each kid. 

I read an article late last year from UC Berkeley last year that really made me think about limiting screen time during the teen years. I can't link it because of the sub rules but the overall takeaway was ""By analyzing multiple data sets—all large-scale, long-term scientific studies, not one-off surveys—demographer and psychologist Jean Twenge has clearly shown that American teens who spend more time online are more likely to have at least one outcome related to suicide, like depression, anxiety, or making a suicide plan.""

Our 16 year old and 12 year old don't spend much time online but our 14 year old does a lot. It's mostly gaming and YouTube but I'm worried about the risk of anxiety or depression. He's already a very quiet kid. 

So, what are your thoughts? Am I overreacting to an article or is this something other parents of teens consider? ",5.241602387511477,6.902816805785125,5.451680440771352,79.92277318640956,68.95867768595042,8.68356290174472,31.213039485766764,9.150863307647796,2.776878053259872,1025,43,185,20,18,324,155,242,0.153,0.82,0.027000000000000003,-0.9875,1,0,2,0,0,2,23.0,8,2,0,4,7,5,0,1,13,0,18,0,0,3,1,36,27,20,2,0,10,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,11,11,0,4,4,3,2,0,3,3,0,1,7,5,16,2,18,20,7,29,0,2,4,0,20,6,0,5,25,105,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764058481424406,0.0,0.096243587123796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696873169390165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050907337245861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992463459534194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122031619669862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856686557217892,0.13047656982108474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130173759632477,0.2318559413449221,0.0,0.1023609928213066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833531080757232,0.0,0.109446203914091,0.07720812107597577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678994132844588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502800362223747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854494163739184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641168215468401,0.0,0.15675689103926926,0.08796939642832036,0.0,0.0,0.1284336841735729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569755248512972,0.0,0.07409876254963126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066994116733982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809106277727468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923712179038321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25304021161726503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482285271955239,0.0,0.09182608368881814,0.3372296072247253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998985040352732,0.0,0.09543677108250072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746469302733592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469116424055327
parenting,magusxp,2019/02/06,"We need daycare advice, don’t know where to start. Hello,
We need to start looking for Day care in CA but we don’t know where to start or what to look for, or even what’s best for us.
This is our situation:
We have a one year old, that has some special needs but nothing too overwhelming or complicated, up until now grandma was watching him when we worked but it’s taking a toll on her, so we need to find an alternative.
Wife gets her schedule a month in advance, it changes every month, I have every other Friday off. This results in us needing daycare about 2 days per week.
Any advice, ideas would be greatly appreciated,

Thanks!",5.2359677419354815,5.904579532258066,5.6808064516129075,81.94120967741938,68.19354838709678,7.812903225806451,30.01612903225807,7.6454224807358475,1.7952290322580642,498,18,98,5,8,160,86,124,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.9716,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,9,0,0,3,8,6,0,1,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,24,25,9,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,3,13,5,16,22,2,23,0,1,3,0,14,8,0,4,14,66,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660836106989844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258499935946596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428784489359452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881149597749892,0.0,0.14402605018499345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560780675535234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992416949387744,0.0,0.22942035746761935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443638969153112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113147302683744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010314910480066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536940064704842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964626043113835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22865929648035796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734334313501025,0.0,0.0,0.504758397824839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063724143346794,0.0,0.14286394608977088,0.0,0.092257100079157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303554503970412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890977994868488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236601013664692,0.0,0.0,0.12534636751932618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32753746667641537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920934837788912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911703433496842,0.0,0.0,0.09671530976804747,0.0,0.0,0.08767455526536505
parenting,ButtersHound,2019/02/06,"Tell me that you've been at work all day one more time... ... and I'm going to get stabby. Seriously that hurts so much, and completely devalues everything I do for this family. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of the toddler, and to top it all off I work from home. I am fortunate to have a job that pays me a lot for not very much work which is ideal for being a stay-at-home parent but my plate is full to breaking and I'm about to throw it at the wall. So tell me that you've been at work all day, imply that I just live the life of joyful leisure, one more time and I'm going to lose my shit.",2.718064236111111,3.3873639140625045,4.245729166666667,89.95413194444444,73.921875,7.563888888888887,22.815972222222214,7.793537801064563,0.765533680555555,463,11,108,6,9,155,75,128,0.091,0.81,0.099,0.0387,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,7,4,7,1,0,6,0,8,3,1,0,3,13,16,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,9,5,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,4,0,2,2,0,9,3,17,13,9,15,0,2,0,0,3,7,1,1,4,70,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229694256194866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17718318543344905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21796961397823472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187764599234238,0.0,0.15930907897857893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829049234105538,0.0,0.19208224077962974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695111175084607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809076838426626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769686437295345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193628943968148,0.0,0.0,0.14922159079041047,0.0,0.0,0.18905699547572527,0.0,0.14366956752766388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484547291878149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290244934158351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764380474995046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346618406190298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012124716186906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270597254543578,0.0,0.2954100599707279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707928486567364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943475151556334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4921080016165516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,daman2032,2019/02/06,Bed frame or idea that can defeat my 4 year old boy? My son likes to take his twin mattress completely off of his bed. He uses it as trampoline or a slide. Does anyone know of a way to safely secure it to the bed frame or a bed frame that might secure it down.  Thanks for any help or experience you can give.  ,2.388307692307695,3.5430112153846167,3.8215384615384624,90.81846153846158,75.30769230769229,7.046153846153848,19.15384615384616,7.554174236665415,0.22290769230769225,239,4,55,3,5,79,45,65,0.041,0.736,0.223,0.9081,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,8,5,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,5,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,9,7,0,6,0,1,0,0,8,2,0,5,3,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320996643499752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866189482379298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978922921642467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24863355535051124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779218983989508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725518515972341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904382902983009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32073461183630153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614380922964835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388056916732107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30140427364231376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981340219229996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21362135896114834,0.0,0.0,0.2615776597581386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24538670857558026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225519624669078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18296266130818525
parenting,bramlugh,2019/02/06,"Daughter still terrified of her mother, who is visiting next month... I didn't know whether this should have been here or in r/divorce, but this is more related to the daughter so...

Long story is in my post history. I don't need to hash it out each time. TL;DR version is my wife slowly sank into alcoholism, rehab several times, could never turn it around. Final straw was an action that threatened our lives and daughter is in therapy about it.  This happened in early October. Wife now wants an amicable divorce, daughter has made it clear she never wants to live with her again.  Daughter is 10.  Wife does not want any custody, just the ability to visit and eventually when she moves back (/fingers crossed that won't happen) weekends.   

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The decision was made that she could visit her over spring break, since daughter's worked through a lot of the issues in therapy.  Therapist thought she was on good ground.  Daughter laid out very specific ground rules.  No overnight, and I have to always be there.  STBXW agreed.   There will be a signed and court certified agreement on this, meaning if she breaks it or tries to run out of state with her, she will be arrested.  All this done in the open, above the board.

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Since we had that conversation about 2 weeks ago, she's been having nightmares about being kidnapped, or me being killed.  Heavy depression is sneaking back into her life.  Her therapist has told me after their private sessions is that she doesn't beleive her mother is better.  My poor little girl has the beleif that this is a trick, part of a bigger plan to kidnap her. Apparently this was triggered by a comment my wife made to her about ""missing her smell"" and wanting some of her clothes to take back so she could have the smell with her.  Completely freaked her out.  So now we get that added to the list of issues.  


I have no clue what I am going to do now.  Legally I can't stop her from seeing my daughter.  Daughter has said if wife so much as touches her arm she will lash out with violence.  Therapist has said this is not a good situation, and STBXW should back down.  Ex doubled down with a ""I know she may need some more time, but I'm doing it anyway"".

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The best plan I have in place is that we are going to meet first in a public, not enclosed place. Most likely reserve a pavillion at a park.  I have some aquaintances that are on the local police force I've consulted with (not 'legal matters' obviously, just safety).    They usually have someone watching for speeders over there, and one of them has offered to volunteer for that duty that first day.  Just in case.  And i'll spend all week with my guard up, day and night... just like when she lived here.  


I started writing this to ask for advice... here I am twenty minute slater in tears realizing I just needed to write the words down... thanks all...",4.73736757624398,6.6027158239700405,4.571567683253079,84.93224719101127,70.53558052434455,7.3329052969502415,28.257356875334395,7.957251820313856,1.800304226859283,2246,83,417,30,42,688,273,534,0.085,0.836,0.079,-0.6995,1,0,1,0,2,0,94.0,4,0,3,7,32,13,2,0,24,0,59,5,2,4,7,90,89,24,1,14,17,17,2,2,0,7,3,2,0,1,28,29,1,4,6,1,2,9,13,5,0,3,16,8,54,8,69,58,16,85,0,2,2,0,69,37,0,11,37,304,82,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492501981448961,0.06796694225170449,0.08194126932128168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379897358311787,0.24922898840041505,0.2795021847286258,0.052141001043315836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825618361536552,0.07167991095420556,0.0,0.0,0.23583052698266316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046471249745481,0.06781198949573994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039131005054734,0.0,0.0,0.1836540323213804,0.0,0.0,0.09889687204830204,0.0,0.06603926943030589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709800073018421,0.07846420056488883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399270261537785,0.0,0.1304378599964613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04005904017890696,0.0,0.08715128885364297,0.12862115458362114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560526462638645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005562988575167,0.0,0.0,0.08482850504269844,0.0,0.08427613409569616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054157167501592815,0.0749181612925334,0.07684756729779185,0.2031138419052793,0.0678541445940516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518555764583336,0.0,0.21765259424421024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352054669533374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120051606395392,0.0814924087004848,0.056364268197347085,0.1705585677789381,0.11827154865661775,0.0,0.08154374982646523,0.07195342641580355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195633833515603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303055262864928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021618064832638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343257027269975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586920919743646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061099311659835086,0.0,0.0,0.08661988163345867,0.0,0.12685117622699174,0.08618487410254322,0.0,0.0,0.0649656958991472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427030573329023,0.0,0.061232016251708585,0.06410296089337424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057649363052993084,0.0,0.0,0.0705911878254263,0.1753669765629368,0.2670735361676321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087065188009395,0.13412781118663827,0.0,0.0,0.0732653655499442,0.0,0.052056664682526635,0.08339937732831829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444566243958407,0.06326414277679282,0.18089742666371836,0.0,0.12300663794580825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055819640615913366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795021847286258,0.0
parenting,This_taste_funny,2019/02/06,"Car seat/ booster seat My son who will be three years old in just under 5 months meets the requirement to sit with a high back booster and a seatbelt, he’s 38 inches and 32 pounds. 

My question being, parents out there do you leave your child in a five point harness as long as possible or do you switch right away when he meets the requirements?

 The only reason that I am wanting to switch him is because he cant stand being in a point harness anymore, and it’s become to the point where he screams relentlessly and yes we have adjusted the straps. Thanks for any input or advice!",7.1992105263157855,6.52241821929825,6.725263157894738,80.68684210526318,64.17543859649122,9.35438596491228,33.03508771929825,8.344100000000001,2.3892561403508767,463,16,90,5,6,144,84,114,0.031,0.916,0.053,0.5411,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,0,2,5,2,0,0,9,1,10,0,0,1,0,16,12,9,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,7,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,8,1,13,8,0,22,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,3,6,56,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916363528076108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333614765323895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19448835313615528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842517337240672,0.15079643016295366,0.0,0.11954679241688652,0.2165880088700754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072009070408232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076520986424199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355111583660365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653307423178847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20578438111559585,0.0,0.0,0.14915043796282568,0.0,0.0,0.2177568679725609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5561618133589445,0.22108447875058088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196880022079254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163366894811854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747680773453694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18055167431007596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567071708472584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12628836448022535
parenting,hayashir,2019/02/06,"Our daughter (3F) told my (36M) wife (40F) today for the first time, that she doesn't like her. Now my wife is ignoring our daughter. How can I help her? Acutally I wanted to post this in /r/relationship_advice but I've decided it's more a parenting problem, I guess.

First a little back story:

My wife is very emotional regarding a lot of things. Sometimes even small things can make her angry and she will stay angry for the rest of the day. Our daughter is still small and after 10 or 20 minutes forgets that something even happened and continues her day, playing, eating, having fun. My wife can not come down easily.

Our daughter is going to the nursery since she is 1 year old, as my wife has a part time job to help us financially. The nursery time is from in the morning at 7:30 until 5:30pm. I will come home at 7pm most days. That's only about 1 1/2 hours she has to take care of our daughter alone every day.

I on the other hand are very reserved, I don't like to fight with my wife and we almost never do. Of course I get loud with our daughter if she doesn't listen. But after the matter is solved, I switch back to play with her normally very quickly.

I also have to say that our daughter until now never told any of us that she doesn't like us. Recently every night when we go to bed, she even says ""Mama, I love you"".

So today my wife picked up our daughter at the nursery. We are living in Japan and they start teaching kids from a very young age to greet the teacher in the morning and before she leaves. Our daughter seems not to get used to this and instead of saying a proper goodbye she is running around or hiding. So my wife tried to start to talk with our daughter on the way home several times in the last days to find out, why our daughter won't say a proper goodbye to her teachers. That's when our daughter told her ""Because I don't like you mum"".

So when I come home from work at 7:30pm, our daughter is playing like normal, but my wife is sitting staring on her phone, talking almost nothing. I have to ask her what's going on and she tells me about what happened.

After some time thinking I try to explain to her that our daughter probably only disliked to be questioned about the greetings several times, it doesn't have to do anything about not liking her mum.

Every evening after I come home, I also go showering with our daughter. That's when I asked her why she said that to her mother. Our daughter then replied: ""I love mama"". This also I tell my wife.

Usually when our daughter is finished with the shower, she runs to my wife and she helps her to get dressed.

But today when I come in the living room, our daughter is still naked and my wife tells me, please dress her.

My wife then goes to shower herself and goes upstairs into bed without saying another word.

After playing a little with our daughter we also go to bed. We all sleep together in a big bed. Usually we read some books together and then go to sleep. Today my wife acted like she's sleeping. After I finished reading books with our daughter I turn off the light and tell her to sleep. She realizes that mama is acting different today and starts to say ""Mama I love you"" for more than 5 minutes. But my wife just continues to not move and not say anything, even with our daughter crying ""Mama I love you"". She finally falls asleep. I was getting more and more angry about how stubborn my wife can be in that situation.

In my head I've already prepared about what to say to my wife in the morning, like ""From now on our daughter will say to us many times that she hates us. When she will be 5 years, 10 years, 15 years or even older. It's normal and nothing has changed from before. Please get used to it.""

Please tell me, what should I tell my wife. I know she's too sensitive and will be hurt if I say anything. But tomorrow is a day off in the nursery and I have to work. I don't know what will happen if my wife in her mood now has to take care of our daughter for one day. We don't have any family living close by. Also no close friends who could take care of her tomorrow.

​

tl;dr: Like I've said in the title, our daughter told my wife today for the first time ""I don't like you mama"" and now my wife is ignoring her. Please tell me how I can explain to my wife, that this is normal and it will happen many times from now on. Or please tell me if I'm wrong and how I can help my wife.",4.119428264811456,4.991366835214451,4.777976168449102,86.67673962920477,70.82844243792327,7.2093845983051486,27.16567368537912,7.201597864021418,1.2754979313917767,3440,112,703,31,61,1104,291,886,0.086,0.8009999999999999,0.113,0.9818,6,1,1,0,1,0,114.0,36,5,1,5,46,32,3,0,31,0,60,12,7,8,3,111,116,61,0,12,21,51,1,10,1,9,0,14,12,1,31,48,1,3,10,8,0,17,19,8,0,4,7,17,143,23,112,95,11,139,0,1,1,4,177,38,0,17,90,478,174,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011879939247164,0.04143329189124539,0.04414670063162016,0.15996060267725454,0.0,0.043345585712546035,0.04861066115444841,0.05440977578972275,0.041948909567987545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987625404126041,0.035613083489603174,0.07479886856038001,0.0,0.0,0.06152301375475694,0.0,0.024386780729004496,0.0,0.0680829074490184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236381312454245,0.0,0.04232016607798166,0.17230456118375312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031940873533745966,0.0,0.043943801488561265,0.18060017878195175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041796888688995865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0409352769024908,0.0,0.04500043246078365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853822759913402,0.0,0.10111824510804224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037713314543522135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382370903733751,0.036564001242316534,0.1020851332189063,0.0,0.0,0.030907895626507743,0.0,0.10450525262619767,0.0,0.13641516248526148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04407020572150455,0.0,0.14150576123573594,0.0,0.0,0.03949682374564847,0.04105684660472763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072584905230002,0.0,0.16051379203768082,0.0,0.03939703468706087,0.0,0.0428263626143729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03969895899599018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043971591154934916,0.032609553519254014,0.0,0.0423596994543452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954450565265654,0.08019138150387503,0.10597589590459316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034010965509574845,0.14442491376188404,0.0,0.02670376207090689,0.0811179280095657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042519165313630286,0.0,0.0,0.06170890773044337,0.0,0.0,0.037542142654049225,0.15678629343864442,0.07677208041646055,0.0,0.04197869702952444,0.0,0.027108538991439377,0.060851470000974,0.0,0.0,0.04442100774199869,0.04332170136576925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21956832037016916,0.0,0.0,0.03831389505622895,0.0,0.0431323402374092,0.03827954551980982,0.0,0.0,0.044814946769587805,0.0,0.08003199328497894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039500279781964034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07610815680795335,0.3181371741086008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03641920489352786,0.0,0.09038891168762833,0.0,0.033092690584514674,0.04496748798981872,0.16013624772390925,0.0,0.0,0.03079793486153803,0.039566136727293165,0.0,0.08494759712807325,0.04264018908238407,0.06389636195592792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023672892838867,0.06430928163951401,0.27973025975487137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05315531557176037,0.02563369803064592,0.0,0.0,0.2099460306036874,0.0,0.2275213447093097,0.15290661985614365,0.0,0.054321769760117586,0.04351413792062204,0.0,0.0,0.2406064730773189,0.06910324576795185,0.08812008722148212,0.13203382194962954,0.023596086162437833,0.031754242394517386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219688825615264,0.0,0.0,0.03856355694300418,0.0,0.058248481421591176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04373937401637745,0.04861066115444841,0.10304807317502984
parenting,tenurestudent,2019/02/06,"Comfort Objects and Separation Anxiety - 8.5 months. Separation anxiety is getting bad, she won't go to people she used to hang out with no problem. Now she grabs us with a death-grip or gets shaky-upset if someone else holds her or heaven forbid we duck out of view. If she's playing at home she's ok if I duck into the kitchen for a few minutes, but it's really just dependent on her distraction level. Mom works, I'm Dad and at-home parent (She still will refuse me sometimes if Mom is home). 

We want to introduce daycare a couple days a week soon, but I'm concerned she won't take to it (4 random drop-in days over her life didn't go well). She'll also wakeup at night sometimes and be unconsolable for a few minutes. So, it sounds like a comfort object may be the key. I'm looking for tips/tricks to introduce one. We're going to the store to find something (so we can buy 3).

1) Are there any characteristics that improve attachment (fluffy blanket vs. plastic toy sort of thing)?

2) Did y'all wear them for a day to imprint your scent?

3) Anything to help make this association (and somewhat quickly)? 

​

She sleeps with a pacifier, but that's it. Not sure if it's required, they are often on the floor by morning. We did sleep training, it worked pretty well.",3.0394856935892776,5.031589784860562,4.185441868888084,85.37588826512133,75.45418326693228,6.7947120608475196,27.345345889170588,7.686295010490155,1.6253490039840628,1000,40,196,14,22,326,160,251,0.07400000000000001,0.7959999999999999,0.13,0.9455,1,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,5,2,2,3,12,13,0,1,12,1,15,5,3,3,1,43,28,17,0,7,13,4,1,1,0,5,1,1,3,0,10,14,1,4,1,2,2,4,5,4,2,1,3,5,23,9,27,18,3,24,1,0,2,0,27,10,0,13,11,118,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532958207785263,0.0,0.14270927814750636,0.16004380260609666,0.08956828820600696,0.0,0.20151776514441608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083872834153995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997354151278048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457361908484555,0.0,0.25482892621114506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100279979758628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038185982950513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762757078712873,0.0,0.22456392094629926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828339441089894,0.0,0.26423460449152714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303167737753854,0.06434755114251844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060442787615322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791840152384547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30851766723577445,0.10513080592025373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360225361355205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925107291795335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624995475861266,0.0,0.0,0.09131212075995476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399787426980567,0.0,0.12603004940744156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437771399524027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636130985688209,0.0,0.11159866625814553,0.10139789277900728,0.2605319420013385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051849172307176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413646296516602,0.0,0.0990306028174185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875032208037875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843263172490984,0.11375638555899993,0.0,0.0,0.07768681327042731,0.0,0.10565096352512858,0.0,0.23684878491390465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19177497777951805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16004380260609666,0.0
parenting,WannabeI,2019/02/06,"Showering with opposite sex child Until what age do you deem this appropriate? Until what age do you let your opposite sex child see you naked/in your underwear?

Trying to figure out my own thoughts on this, and I just don't know, because it's all perfectly innocent until it's not, if you know what I mean. Obviously 12 is too late, but 3? 4? 2? ",2.818695652173915,4.719716884057976,4.799347826086958,81.1364130434783,75.81159420289855,9.237681159420287,25.99275362318841,9.725611199111238,2.5644666666666667,271,10,55,8,6,93,50,69,0.0,0.921,0.079,0.644,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,15,10,6,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,9,1,7,8,2,8,0,0,1,2,8,2,0,1,6,36,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335849299761428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211749453526305,0.0,0.4322473543821962,0.0,0.0,0.391830796597391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41739885280316186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30534740974465924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042046690236923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260156248719328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gazzaskebab,2019/02/06,"POTY: Parent of the Year I am not sure if our dinner conversation makes me a good parent or a bad parent. 
10 year old (to 13 year old): I’m sorry I told you to go suck your own cock

Sigh....",-1.417857142857141,0.4164005476190482,2.0145714285714327,95.58042857142858,91.14285714285714,4.312380952380953,10.780952380952382,5.6839178017228535,-1.4259961904761898,141,1,35,1,5,51,33,42,0.249,0.6859999999999999,0.064,-0.7478,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,0,1,2,1,1,1,5,6,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,6,2,3,5,1,6,0,0,0,1,8,0,2,2,5,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883587931228816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491990568288163,0.16960312518608522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497592625299068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4243681844834009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6735867383569657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22635616646283316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057937564923647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19321914820929206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906474606963473
parenting,bluivy84,2019/02/06,"Single mom (34F) having a really tough time with (17 F) daughter! My daughter was such a good kid growing up & when I left her dad, she was 7...She has always been bold, but lately she has been disrespectful. Sometimes she picks fights so she can act out. Recently, she was caught with her friend speeding in LA in a rental car...she comes and goes as she pleases in my house (she drives my old car)...I put down rules but she ignores them. She’s destructive too... if I say no she’ll slam doors repeatedly, punch holes in the wall & I’ve called the police, they are no help!! Therapy, no help!! I’ve always worked hard to provide everything for her and her brother (11 m)... but it’s never enough for her. She works and makes her own money but recently she decided to quit her job. Then got another speeding ticket...She posted a flyer on her Instagram promoting a party that a (looks like) 40 yr old man w/ strippers... needs 12 models and to email her or DM her. I replied to the post and told them to take my daughter off the flyer since she was a minor. She told me I ruined her life and she wishes I wasn’t her mother, she also threatens to run away or do bad things... She turns 18 in one month and I’m so hurt over actions!! I feel like a failure as a parent & I’m working 2 jobs right now. I give her attention but she’s angry I can’t provide the lifestyle she wants...she has so much anger & I try to give her my attention but she keeps ignoring me...some days she’s okay, but it’s nights like these that I’m up crying so hard my heart hurts & my soul is broken... 😭😭😭 I will never turn my back on her, I love her.... it’s just so tough being a mom sometimes....on top of this I have to wake up at 5, so I’ll clock 4 hours of sleep... this is my battle that I have to hide 😢",-0.05846953578336666,2.0825904015957484,1.9592166344294029,96.23636363636363,87.80319148936171,5.013926499032882,17.588007736943908,6.464625207383525,-0.2496308510638299,1365,34,316,15,44,453,206,376,0.196,0.6940000000000001,0.11,-0.9905,4,0,0,0,2,0,90.0,0,0,3,6,13,20,4,0,15,1,22,5,3,2,2,35,42,28,0,3,11,9,3,3,1,2,1,1,1,2,10,11,0,3,4,0,1,8,7,12,0,1,11,5,63,8,33,28,4,50,1,3,1,1,63,20,0,3,23,183,73,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231137051984515,0.15047862998335007,0.4898672948838097,0.0,0.0,0.09481657020243127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849555378788829,0.06952983060607013,0.07549956385312914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233215900382227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789154802796562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993255982506284,0.058315459401862224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934312986752166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812665080904464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04572066795902895,0.06459832548031083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698607111760684,0.0,0.0,0.1734842741657696,0.0,0.07584265875141581,0.0723196635019467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200278566991966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715188313692647,0.12121747980121275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904860087290545,0.10433618927732656,0.19359973163351396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794620728582301,0.080372261676274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200126604980476,0.0,0.09824503081777963,0.0,0.06386855392588144,0.132528569493576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593268298906232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161043466749587,0.0,0.060358163230955074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21180503052708213,0.07217490575753344,0.0,0.0664714287863971,0.06704762937358709,0.13947983492767665,0.0,0.0,0.08485601273468614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976779682225467,0.0,0.06127307519642081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004042212874622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925747904777693,0.0,0.0,0.17320078913802364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909002535305186,0.0,0.09617616390881753,0.0,0.0,0.05792739342512099,0.0,0.17856392881403552,0.0,0.0,0.07722088685815907,0.0,0.07190812827680937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479897456949562,0.0,0.0904884651987176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943081999693471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798696502793496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340676697225072,0.0,0.060073131369168926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272647331788107,0.0,0.0,0.17280641386528953,0.0,0.06139139192203314,0.19670887064475706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398217455369764,0.0,0.0,0.1974874180797545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HyeongJin98,2019/02/06,"Should I have my kid I have custody of go to international school or normal Korean school? I don’t know what I should choose. I’ve went to Korean schools and I like the system but there’s also a international school close to where I am. My kid would be more bilingual though if he did go there. His friends he hangs with are going to Korean school so should I have him go with his friends in normal Korean school. 

I’m fluent in Korean and so is my kid. lol ",0.5750709219858159,3.0032263297872355,2.528829787234045,90.88416666666667,88.89361702127657,6.112056737588652,15.28014184397163,7.492282038375204,0.09335035460992946,361,7,79,7,12,120,55,94,0.0,0.85,0.15,0.9294,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,2,1,13,0,0,0,0,16,20,9,0,7,3,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,13,3,9,13,1,11,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,2,1,51,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113587536187584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21473887810838213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159240096559061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763753885686173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789470994322447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27232614897689034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8438826305501919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653930549665605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288284562055623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098721736751556,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BluegrassFilly,2019/02/06,"1 year old has started hitting things when she gets upset My daughter is 16 months old and the past few weeks she has started taking her anger out with violence (toddler violence but still). It seemed like it came out of no where. Any time she gets upset about something she hits, I assume because she doesn’t know how to process these feelings if anger she has. Sometimes it’s a person (if they are within range), sometimes it will just be her walking over and hitting the couch, smacking the floor, the wall, anything she can. She then looks over with a very angry face or cries so she’s not doing it in a funny playful “look what I just learned” way.

So the advice I’m looking for is what are some good outlets for anger for  a child this age? She isn’t really speaking much so that’s what makes it difficult, but I want to be proactive and help her learn how to cope with these feelings at the start so that she doesn’t grow up as a child with anger issues that doesn’t know how to handle them. I don’t want to be the parent that just yells “no” whenever she does it because I feel like that’s just going to add to the problem.",6.476184210526316,5.619809513157897,6.000701754385967,85.88157894736844,65.71052631578948,8.47719298245614,31.280701754385966,6.816661863887847,1.6369754385964916,891,28,187,5,12,274,127,228,0.18600000000000005,0.705,0.108,-0.9699,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,2,0,15,12,4,2,13,0,18,1,1,4,0,38,42,18,0,5,10,2,3,2,0,1,0,3,1,3,19,11,0,0,9,1,0,4,8,8,0,0,1,9,23,4,25,34,3,30,0,0,3,0,24,11,0,6,16,127,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150659107986813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847572054568343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11916623669050805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765495828072804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562398615365304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15906691223380967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672414869040433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196607603356872,0.10345224544935136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131442692130864,0.0,0.08229882237222291,0.12145970178552548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706304598382376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114394780509455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916750472404326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149363778250135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36481161855843497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666175509988982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558590737755177,0.0,0.10645196319021276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039073311772177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607942940865771,0.0,0.13823746714141066,0.0,0.12644244838025365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856354938101342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276895149059712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182952480640284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148176160585624,0.2864414540862842,0.0,0.3074916488588627,0.0,0.11564539997693415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887904819715692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620528527799986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443983677289991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948336088664935,0.17082530138585858,0.11494338488978073,0.11615779387849234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325284941416848
parenting,hippo201,2019/02/06,"My daughter is extremely quiet and soft spoken My daughter is 16 now and she’s extremely quiet. She barely talks to her dad and I, and if she does it’s always in an extremely quiet voice we can barely hear. She’s almost always in her room even when she isn’t doing homework and she’s always reading something with earphones in. Even when we’re in the car, she’s always wearing headphones and reading. She’s shy and won’t really talk to anyone she’s not used to being around. When we go to restaurants and stuff, she speaks more quietly to the waitstaff than she does with us. She’s even like this with other girls she’s known since she was little. I keep telling her to speak up, but she gets mad when I do that and lately she hasn’t wanted to talk to me at all. I’m so frustrated with her and I don’t know how to get her to speak up and talk more. Her friends have told me she’s the same way at school and that she usually just says amusing things out of nowhere. What can I do? ",3.2324065040650396,4.291660273170734,4.07268292682927,90.20528455284555,73.09756097560975,6.8325203252032525,23.910569105691057,7.03164865440522,0.7196276422764218,776,21,168,7,15,249,106,205,0.059,0.892,0.048,-0.4822,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,12,5,2,0,4,0,14,1,1,2,1,33,24,20,0,2,4,3,1,1,1,1,0,10,2,1,8,20,0,1,2,3,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,11,36,3,26,20,4,22,0,0,0,0,43,12,0,2,8,118,44,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378900106372398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583208629715425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628538186179904,0.0,0.0,0.12258517347846636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410102535447432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27285528559864924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638926416848724,0.0,0.14388863043924133,0.0,0.07825998537508874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552016798453261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239706174398428,0.0,0.0,0.07567815816096797,0.0,0.1553353731533476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727489959360622,0.1380149294851179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275481222611087,0.0,0.08821629007132475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950722840227288,0.0,0.13936313861695301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113909631480134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601076396213548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763738687667395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427229362690166,0.12035879464508514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148398484743894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158144903784727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656401712636635,0.11893147883224565,0.15166078194459845,0.0,0.08122100172762972,0.10930250714588037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rawdog99,2019/02/06,"What's wrong with Peter? My wife and I are expecting in March and have the name Peter towards the top of our boys name list. My wife is very close with her mom and asked her what she thought of the name Peter. And to our surprise her mom and dad pretty much laughed at the name saying you know what that means right? Saying he would get picked on and that you might as well name him dick. You get it... I was very disappointed and shocked that they responded that way. 
Curious if this is a noteworthy concern? Am I being naive? Any Peters out there run into this problem? ",2.3796379726468224,4.630285982300887,2.722558326629123,93.84004022526148,78.55752212389379,5.879002413515687,20.892196299275945,6.980632752743323,0.3270247787610621,448,12,95,5,11,137,76,113,0.14400000000000002,0.7440000000000001,0.112,-0.722,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,3,1,1,2,7,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,1,0,26,15,9,0,4,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,10,12,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,2,16,3,12,10,1,12,0,1,0,1,27,9,1,2,1,63,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250863922973322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591120933229164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897390500818048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516922334827134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282733207862188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22231106235010425,0.0,0.4908705281380295,0.0,0.0,0.1540514182938451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21319883526127514,0.0,0.20052153728562624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896391516775065,0.0,0.3333025737567769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663679943784091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458194786734752,0.0,0.16633973611295552,0.0,0.0,0.1884204706673888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886609367694953,0.22912201277667,0.0,0.0
parenting,erethren,2019/02/07,"Almost 4 year old will not stay in bed I am at my wits end. For two weeks now, every single night, my daughter gets out of bed over and over and over again. I've lost count even tonight of the number of times shes gotten up. 

She has a solid, consistent bed time routine absolutely every night. TV off around 630, jammies at 7, (tub time every other night at 7), we play quietly/hang out until 745 and then its brush teeth, two bed time stories, two songs, I tuck her in and hug and kiss her and then say good night. 

When she gets up I simply say its bed time, pick her up, lay her back down and cover her and leave. But she gets up so quickly and consistently I dont leave the hallway by her door. She works herself up to the point where shes screaming and flailing. This pattern lasts for roughly an hour and a half to 2 hours. I am at my absolute wits end. I dont know what to do anymore. I thought that consistency would be enough to stop this but at this point I am defeated. Any and all advice is welcome and appreciated.",2.909958530805685,4.10955175829384,3.9815610189573465,90.00513773696684,74.07109004739338,6.791587677725119,24.087973933649288,7.1686216300943375,0.7343101895734592,795,23,177,8,16,258,125,211,0.055,0.857,0.08900000000000001,0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,0,3,9,8,0,0,6,0,13,3,1,1,1,27,20,20,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,8,17,0,1,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,4,3,6,25,5,31,14,3,51,0,2,0,2,18,23,0,1,27,114,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068954562663463,0.0,0.0,0.11342704014384553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702985902829725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233686679440144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083742345746913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710032356759077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655113785474921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006533855197489,0.11704179738417375,0.0,0.07481607330855243,0.0,0.28631340794212784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775421734937522,0.0,0.0,0.09500843105603618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310314527342395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06225214897052266,0.0923330145770722,0.0,0.23988054573572254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365139759394793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4251979963950331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188614754404723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416012676672708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801592549688486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073447119686136,0.0,0.09470171155346603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992650005681617,0.33025342119591233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33195522787247617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908611629132221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824644514224421,0.0,0.0,0.0804662389031934,0.0,0.0,0.07294441517722207
parenting,coxiella_burnetii,2019/02/07,"Story time disasters My three year old daughter hates it if I (mom) put her to bed and read stories. Husband does a bit more of the child care for her because we also have a breastfed three month old, and our daycare transportation (bicycle) meant that for the end of pregnancy and a bit after, he's done drop off and pick up. As you full time parents know, that's half your time with a kid during the week.

So, for bedtime we've been trying for months to switch every other day who reads stories, one night Mom, one night Dad. Sometimes it works great, sometimes she loses her shit and screams and begs for her dad non-stop for the better part of an hour, such that we can't actually read any stories. I hate it. It means that what should be my carved out time to spend with her, I am being the bad guy and dealing with a tantrum. I don't think this is about me at all though--she's fine reading stories with me in the daytime. I think she's feeling rejected by her dad when she does this.

What do we do? Is it too much to switch? I probably can't read all the time because the baby sometimes needs to be fed, do I have to give up on that time with her all together?

Can we present it differently? Or write it on a calendar or something?

I'm so sick of this. It makes me so sad that she prefers dad so much.",3.4734083349638,4.361017553903346,4.056486010565447,91.19633535511645,72.34572490706321,7.1501467423204845,26.797299941303073,7.273561745256523,1.0792631970260218,1018,34,228,10,19,322,149,269,0.14,0.812,0.048,-0.9792,2,1,1,0,0,0,33.0,5,2,0,3,9,13,4,0,15,0,18,3,1,2,3,35,32,17,0,4,3,9,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,21,17,1,0,7,5,1,2,3,9,0,5,4,2,30,4,33,24,10,32,0,3,0,0,35,9,1,3,20,148,51,6,0.0,0.0,0.09365183019852802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674631717585673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526216206265706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013004638766877,0.1170035357082572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487671812410492,0.20954642762955134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784671825152624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189201935099346,0.09893975095007776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026710398065344,0.0,0.0,0.16796611150966467,0.0982095332064794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499998526156026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085796107959736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852477362066709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206214067326708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580608209499458,0.0,0.09502432709045884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894988960962117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451006276782856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05274201311170084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073646827084135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406000475684154,0.0,0.0,0.10453829702012096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247952975502292,0.15320296571851202,0.0,0.1410964090460204,0.07115974421176856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012067592682396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20140649278231215,0.0,0.13006205883137234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656213756324448,0.10392499709204447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034707361998415,0.0,0.0,0.09647527959526647,0.0,0.0,0.4799744935677846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851072564430334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738815695141497,0.2847471716041428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023432114477705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298602821717315,0.09428898465501494,0.0,0.3357615226259257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515660265383355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698048541236265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986652268391791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061800843269268026
parenting,Miss_M_9937,2019/02/07,"The mom judgment I am in my mid thirties, I have had a professional career. I have walked into a boardroom full of CEOs and powerful people to make a presentation on logistics and analytics.  I held my cool, I have been calm under so many crazy situations. I don’t shy away from confrontation. My career calls for me to be confident and well thought out. I have been a stay at home mom now for 4 yrs  and let me tell you, the mom judgement is real and it is awful.  Nothing in my adult career prepared me for dealing with other moms. 
I recently joined a moms group so my littles can hang out with kids their age and have fun. It has been awful! I have never in my life been so judged and held under a microscope! Why do other moms have to be so judgmental and mean? What does it accomplish? I have no clue. 
I guess this is more of a rant. Like I am sorry Karen, I didn’t breastfeed till my kid was four and I don’t cosleep anymore. Heaven forbid if I give my kid a French fry, I am old and tired. I don’t have time to feed my kids free range,gluten free,nut free, cage free, hormone free and vegan food. I feed my kids relatively healthy and we are definitely active.  We are healthy without all the weird oils and supplements. Besides, gluten free, sugar free cake is ridiculous. It is a mockery of what cake is supposed to be and to be honest, it make me a little sad. ",2.7273913043478264,4.400841014492759,4.053768115942031,87.37239130434784,75.44927536231884,7.118840579710145,24.681159420289852,7.893859768569023,1.2439724637681158,1064,35,224,16,23,350,149,276,0.106,0.684,0.21,0.9851,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,1,1,2,6,18,2,0,13,3,38,6,0,2,2,34,46,20,0,1,2,6,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,6,10,21,4,3,2,0,6,2,7,5,1,1,10,3,36,19,28,31,3,26,1,1,0,0,21,15,0,2,9,152,46,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876117612123244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303668543162944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198327807732934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130628808428832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959711959495524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132610967249066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520352781496632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081165362971925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000593444578913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214294867773199,0.07746174368545637,0.053578239733985546,0.21983227098046945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464084680842147,0.11118612746876896,0.0,0.11946058996517595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7706509374716208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458271370129776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522939291817922,0.0,0.11507810599765655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602997487596412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482618051707782,0.0,0.0,0.10828390839498724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327141420566692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227643346974424,0.0,0.1168914841623492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585465593471924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870641329933624,0.06394828613667243,0.126047220196015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986046924358814,0.0,0.09895830203590077,0.0,0.0,0.1057160275940078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shallayna,2019/02/07,Potty training is about to drive me insane! First child and I’m lost in the sauce! My son is 4 now and no closer to full potty training. I’ve gotten him ‘big-boy’ underwear that he picked out but still not working. He is getting some ques of needing to go to the bathroom because he will say ‘something is coming’ and kinda grab himself. He will usually run to the bathroom and go pee. Pooping in the toilet is like pulling teeth he knows it belongs in the toilet but if I don’t catch him when he hides to go it’s too late. I’m now starting to take away treats for going to the bathroom because he is only doing it when he wants candy and again it’s only urine but not all the time. Any ideas on how to get him potty trained will be appreciated. Thank you in advance! ,1.7823628691983124,3.7932536075949375,3.2306582278481066,90.66138818565405,79.37974683544303,4.972827004219409,23.824472573839664,5.6839178017228535,0.4111100421940929,602,21,124,3,15,197,98,158,0.044,0.882,0.073,0.826,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,4,9,4,0,0,7,0,12,4,4,2,1,22,29,12,0,3,6,1,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,5,7,0,0,2,0,0,10,4,1,0,1,2,2,8,3,19,23,3,30,0,1,0,0,16,9,0,3,12,75,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139080537003732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19215316699038013,0.0,0.0,0.2493468506608225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617577392888492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396451210108732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21370640027827706,0.0,0.4649334616442264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308780591030432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239878168900763,0.0,0.2307073417208061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999180864905306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325761718336626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164890535681466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110931814132027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264242362208578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744940158190252,0.0,0.0,0.14476022925743812,0.0,0.16332984660256342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537735028269319,0.0,0.0,0.18829443459160802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192571912935059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524976208217315,0.0,0.12063112876410935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889291415343447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SunShinesForMe,2019/02/07,"Virtual Psychiatry for a teen? Where do I even start looking? My daughter has been referred to a psychiatrist by her pediatrician for some mood issues we're not sure are just hormones going haywire or something more. I've been striking out with doctors locally so far; 2 months to get in, some are cash only (I didn't even know that was a thing?!?), and they're all a good 30-45 minutes from us, so there's a good chance she'd be missing some school, which she doesn't like to do (and neither do I!) I was thinking that a virtual doctor might work better, but I have no idea how to even start searching for one. What do I look for? WHERE do I look? Does it actually matter if they're local? I'm totally lost.",3.9341958041958014,4.868320496503499,5.170216783216784,83.46455594405596,71.30769230769229,7.957762237762238,28.985314685314684,8.238735603445708,1.873442517482518,553,21,115,8,10,184,99,143,0.094,0.841,0.065,-0.6944,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,3,10,8,0,0,6,0,18,2,0,1,3,22,30,8,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,4,0,1,1,5,2,0,1,6,3,12,5,13,21,7,11,0,2,3,0,5,7,0,6,4,79,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.1658815869152583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033859631722274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34797526891486397,0.14875568937704725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368219858900147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881054685308175,0.0,0.09660682816507402,0.2851519912716451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918932391226436,0.0,0.17742097605914128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934197315047433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304645897532859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282356943978872,0.0,0.18555954379796072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18032803514249546,0.0,0.0,0.13568101669576413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518675433613065,0.12928183492677492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720346703412363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086334745212222,0.0,0.0,0.2406336002326531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602095727954936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293098972167735,0.10892001515518744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20447194675295485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375166219913722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mkt0212,2019/02/07,"My daughter got punched in the face by a boy yesterday. It was in her after school program. It’s not okay. Never is this okay. I don’t care what race, age, gender..... NOT FUCKING OKAY. She was playing chess about 20 mins into the after school program when this young man scooted close enough to her to make her uncomfortable. Naturally, she scooted her rear back at him. His response? Decked her in the left cheekbone with his fist. They are 8.....8 yeas old. For fucks sake. I have learned in the last 24 hours that this child only has his father raising him. Now I’m not in a place to judge being that I’ve gone through a divorce but I have to say, my children’s father and I are always in the same page when it comes to the kids (we also have a 4 yr old daughter together). For this I am grateful as we have made a great team over the last 24 hours dealing with this TOGETHER. Emails to the directors of the programs and the principal have been sent which prompted a swift response- and frankly a SHIT TON of emotions. 

All I asked for was the necessary disciplinary action to be taken. And wow are they are executing this well. I don’t blame the teachers or the school staff. And you know what- I don’t want to blame this child either because it’s not my place. BUT hes 8 and 8year old should know right from wrong and that physical violence is NEVER acceptable. His father is raising him. He apparently told my daughter in the past that his mom is in jail from drug use(how the fuck do you explain/rationalize this to your 8 yr old?!) Nonetheless, I’ve heard from the director of the after school program, the vice principal as well as the principal herself and they are going to move him and evaluate him. 

After all of this I was told by the vice principal that after they pulled him out of class and spent the day with him, he crossed paths with his class lined up(with my daughter) and guess what ?   She smiled and waved at him and made sure her other classmates did as well. My daughter has been given the gift of empathy. Each school official commended her giant heart and giving nature. Mind you- I’ve stressed REPEATEDLY that physical harm in any form is NEVER OKAY. Not now. Not later. Not yesterday. NOT EVER. But damn I’m humbled at her ability to forgive and be ever so kind to someone who could project this type of harm on anyone. He’s been removed from the program for the week at times time. 
 
Wanna hear the kicker????

I meet with the girl’s  dad for dinner this evening, we all eat, happily leave , and I decide to go to the local gas station for gas. An Extremely kind woman who has been working there lately remembers me ! (Which I’m a sucker for Because seriously nothing boosts your self esteem like when a “stranger “ remembers you.) Anywho- she’s says “oh yes your daughter goes to the local school. What grade?” I say 3rd and she says “ oh yes my grandson too” I politely ask his name and WOULD YOU FUCKING BELIEVE IT- it’s the boy who punched her. Now.... she went on to explain her daughter has been struggling with drug addiction for 3 years and the father is supposedly no good. Mom hasn’t seen him since Thanksgiving-Also mom wants him back- da da da da da. After she asked how my daughter has been doing , I told her 

“She’s okay. Listen- this situation is bad all around,but I hope that this can be a learning lesson for your grandson.” I didn’t proceed with telling her too much more but could see that she has been through the ringer with her daughter and the father of her grandson. 

But how do these chance encounters happen?! It’s fascinating. How is this connection made just 1 day after this incident. Life has me baffled daily. This one incident blew my mind and I have no explanation for it. Id die for my kids. I’d also kill for them but no matter what, I’m forever grateful for them. Peace, love, and cheers. ",2.254857842650516,4.8055499436997335,3.1077499751762514,89.18536672955351,81.06434316353888,6.150438552940787,24.49137788369245,7.434181149491111,1.236339079204316,3022,114,594,46,81,955,328,746,0.113,0.742,0.145,0.9845,1,0,2,0,1,0,105.0,3,9,6,3,25,37,8,2,43,8,57,14,3,7,10,97,101,42,2,8,17,21,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,11,44,38,2,0,11,3,1,11,19,15,3,1,28,9,89,22,84,65,13,81,0,0,2,5,123,26,6,3,45,396,133,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211788557725576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587105638191618,0.05504562660916095,0.0,0.0,0.04498715125438498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046256582286232584,0.0,0.0,0.05889129849656314,0.18553585075891502,0.0,0.0,0.1017370531393973,0.05523602655704255,0.08065402052036916,0.0,0.0,0.07453317377362872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674486559225615,0.0,0.0,0.056986019466436263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563755413461763,0.0,0.0,0.08532802309887508,0.06820211590276436,0.0,0.0,0.06865765599339697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343583003068076,0.06769230223515571,0.0,0.07441461510335423,0.0,0.06835501334713136,0.0,0.04369425114687769,0.11968059370997522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446341129769733,0.0,0.06346117438301296,0.07519395744658494,0.05548703726420656,0.05290958847869354,0.07293528238110597,0.07287635289170485,0.0,0.05849997534157619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456063564281441,0.07839309209920804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657060864358,0.1302971999216239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318986422736598,0.13777892029954095,0.07271327968076942,0.10784906904804707,0.07462486341429993,0.07004778750817295,0.07187677457190272,0.0,0.04672669563592024,0.03231961974577078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970678380864259,0.18779022232502365,0.044158468433604936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359384649290462,0.2324371366012381,0.0,0.07031148698597613,0.04863097769508267,0.0,0.15306668289947506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347677680490432,0.0,0.2776709832479669,0.0,0.04482782463969018,0.0503132800172753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631517069268737,0.0,0.0,0.13823419972774206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987971427351934,0.05649535890767759,0.0,0.21043402533512487,0.0,0.4017097319106341,0.05271636370955663,0.0,0.06901329930084432,0.0,0.06790637598681885,0.054723470373914916,0.07436013673520131,0.0,0.0,0.056052272286321515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577945761448894,0.06915877454910976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06234958764371866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057821721020571586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715013787659034,0.0,0.0,0.1896396319068566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0571360224226285,0.0,0.0,0.07803896868118303,0.0,0.05306494040998889,0.0,0.17844181782561735,0.061325642608684124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048161074108787616,0.0,0.0,0.04699407354594322,0.0723292756158926,0.0,0.04260116116186646
parenting,koalatea10,2019/02/07,"Babysitter’s Duties This is kind of a rant. Sorry in advance 

I’m a FTM and we just hired our first sitter. We use her once weekly. At first I thought she was just getting into the swing of things and I let things go. Now I’m annoyed and don’t know what to do. 
I babysat and nannied and I assumed that hiring an “experienced” sitter would come with some “no brainers”? 

She leaves my house trashed. Like worse than a toddler. My son is not mobile yet, and he really doesn’t create that much of a mess. He can play with 2 toys quietly and independently.

She literally gets out EVERY TOY (I had to hide some in the closet because it was like a tornado hit after the first few days) And she leaves them all over floor and the basket in the middle of the room. 
She leaves the bath water in the tub. 
She leaves her cups and snack trash on my coffee table.
I don’t expect my babysitter to clean my house, but we are a very tidy, striving for minimalism family. I would never leave someone’s house trashed when I babysat, and emptying the water from the bathtub I assumed was common sense. Do people really need to be told that?

She is only with my son for 4 hours, and he is asleep for the last hour. 

Am I being a nutcase? Or is it appropriate for me to talk to her? Or do I just have a bad sitter? She is kind, punctual and my son loves her, I think she’s just kind of a slob. Or it is normal to have to clean up after a babysitter and I am just being nitpicky? 

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parenting,tritonman,2019/02/07,"Teen pregnancy and health insurance? So, turns out my 18 year old daughter is pregnant.  Currently she is on my health plan, which I believe she can be on until 26.  Does anyone know how the child's coverage works for pregnancy?  Anyone have experience with this?  We have a high deductible health insurance plan with an HSA, if that makes any difference.",4.828095238095237,7.607361888888893,4.800238095238097,79.3489285714286,72.96825396825399,9.279365079365078,29.54761904761905,9.725611199111238,3.3167904761904765,281,12,48,8,6,87,51,63,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,6,3,0,2,0,9,9,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,7,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,4,29,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457699215042484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997664080035161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24150662105739276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239571508937394,0.0,0.0,0.1875850118682139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20968200585841207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6835535148554885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264796456989909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780484844935668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430847763823898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249313209631068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331585593562481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560542465269784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803870094908072
parenting,ok-eileen,2019/02/07,"11 Year Old Selling Drugs... Got busted... Wants to kill self?... So, a little bit of background. 

My fiancé’s family has been mentoring a boy for about eight years and he’s honestly, one of the most charming little lads out there. We’ll call him Gershwin.

Sensitive, charming, compassionate. A complete brat, sometimes, but I mean... He’s 11. 

Over the course of a few weeks, I’ve heard more and more about him, and not in a good way. I’ve heard about his mom, and how she brings a lot of men around the house, how his older brother bullies him relentlessly, and most recently, how his cousin moved in with them. A 15 year old boy living in the same room as him. 

Normally, this wouldn’t be too bad of an age gap and people wouldn’t bat an eye, but this 15 year old pushed a bag of marijuana onto Gershwin and Gershwin felt compelled to sell it, I suppose, through instagram at his school. He got busted and while I’m not entirely sure of the repercussions of that, I’m sure there were some. 

Since then, Gershwin’s mom has put him in a mental facility somewhere because he said he wanted to kill himself. This isn’t like him at all. He’s a good kid. 

So to the point, is there anything my fiancé’s parents can do to gain custody of the child?... It’s clear to me that his mother isn’t capable of taking care of him, and only God knows where the h*ck his father is... Indiana is the state we live in, as I’m sure that matters... But it doesn’t seem like he should be living with his mother any more, and fiancé’s parents are very well off and could easily (and have expressed interest in) taking care of him. 

Future mom in law is desperate. And Gershwin is going down the wrong path.

What do, Reddit?

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parenting,creepin_again,2019/02/07,"My Son is Testing All of My Patience Fellow parents. I am begging you for emotional support. My 9 year old son is in the most annoying stage yet. He is dramatic. He would rather make a scene than just do the simple task that was asked if him. He just spent the last half an hour talking about how hard it is being a kid because he's always being told what to do. He has plenty of free time to do as he wants, trust me. This was a tactic he likes to delay doing homework. He is slow to do ANYTHING. Homework? An hour. Brushing his teeth? 20 minutes. He takes at least a few minutes to respond to most requests you ask of him. His attitude is bad. He's just entirely unpleasant to be around a majority of his waking moments. He is convinced that he should not have to be told by me, his parent, what to do. I've tried rewards to motivate him. I've tried punishments to discourage him. I've tried pouring on the love and praise to win him over. I'm just so frustrated with his constant, negative, oh pity me behavior. The kid is smart. So smart. But why oh why can he not just do the simplest things like get freaking dressed in the morning? WHY? This behavior just makes me dread when he's a teenager. The defiance is so annoying. I don't ask much of him so I don't get why he behaves this way.

TL;DR My 9 year old son is really getting on my nerves with his small acts of defiance. I just need some emotional support. Tell me it gets better.",0.9621313456889596,3.347227856164388,2.751877518130541,90.62958501208703,85.50684931506851,6.038033843674456,24.34165995165189,7.39963492309942,1.2539666398066078,1122,46,233,19,34,371,156,292,0.12,0.7290000000000001,0.151,0.8783,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,2,0,5,17,23,4,1,16,0,31,3,2,4,1,30,50,10,0,6,12,5,1,2,1,2,0,0,2,2,10,4,0,2,1,0,2,1,5,9,0,1,5,2,28,15,32,39,8,25,1,2,0,1,48,8,0,4,16,146,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667039957005996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560558075830464,0.1034241175467874,0.3258356009785228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700477743390952,0.07082176070040698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027510593356716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255484395081977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613719206784817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427953431221187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407374139375627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288262148184375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470155251533266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135185753069833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485626203888253,0.0,0.15510103348221427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540507820259645,0.08614540313780249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438210494921055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580065007623644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744273691098612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636775539707143,0.0,0.0,0.08735229813739491,0.09338043847812663,0.10154573976558086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718429671408915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06774502458088093,0.0,0.0,0.2220284046774624,0.0,0.2366341475034064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685255010176398,0.09221763959244124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193346223275768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253036884051128,0.0,0.0,0.14963118871938752
parenting,mehhh_onthis,2019/02/07,"Should we or shouldn’t we? Husband and I have a two year old and we thought we were firmly on team one and done. It never really crossed our minds to have more kids then surprise surprise! I got pregnant, unfortunately I suffered a miscarriage a week into my second trimester.  

Fast forward to today and I just can’t shake the feeling that we’re missing out by not having any more children. I’m not sure if this is just due to me losing the baby or not. Before I got pregnant again I was 100% positive I did not want a second. 

Has anyone been in the same boat? Will this feeling pass? Any advice would be appreciated. ",2.4547267759562814,4.7601802377049225,3.7536885245901637,86.25845628415303,78.59016393442623,5.706010928961749,24.92076502732241,6.816661863887847,1.0119978142076498,487,18,94,5,12,159,85,122,0.129,0.754,0.117,0.2904,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,2,3,7,0,1,7,0,16,0,0,0,2,30,24,8,0,5,9,1,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,10,0,0,3,1,0,4,7,4,0,4,8,2,14,3,8,11,3,17,0,3,0,0,9,5,0,3,10,72,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255831667279621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31397074464149843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141512832026214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19643566655869368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362388809776807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334485837691645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692623878181539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25826120613193154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330918845345363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780451346281825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24223740263839094,0.0,0.15642939250804594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788790890644854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21757263923974973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326847888602746,0.0,0.0,0.2188180493406545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255061249354237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616083939910156,0.0,0.18517330382480032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398864846458755,0.0,0.0,0.14865931626733042
parenting,TJMom1111,2019/02/07,"I just came here to vent. Middle School baseball tryouts are this week. I am sick because my 12 year old doesn’t want to try out. He has played baseball since he was 6. He has potential to be a really good ball player (That’s not just mom saying that. Other people have told me that, including his travel ball coach). The past 2 years, he played for a team that a lot of his friends from school were on. His last year, he led the team in RBIs and was the #2 pitcher. There were 4 coaches who had boys on this team and the head coach’s son’s BFF was on the team. For some reason, in the 2nd season, the coach started benching my son and calling him out on every little nit-picky mistake he made. He told my son to stop celebrating home runs so much. (He ran the bases like everyone else. Oh, and he’s 12.) The coach would even get mad at him when he was at their house playing wiffle ball with his son. Finally, my son became discouraged, saying he felt like the coach hated him so my husband talked to the coach (who we thought was our friend) over a 6-pack of beer. My son was cut from the team at the end of the season. Since then, the other boys don’t talk to him at school. The parents from the team have nothing to do with us. It feels like we have been kicked to the curb. Now my son’s confidence is shot and he doesn’t want to try out for the school team. He says it’s just not fun anymore.  He loved to play before things went bad on the travel team. He played middle school ball last year and had fun. It just breaks my heart for him to give it up. I live in a small town and everyone knows each other. (We’re not from here.) I’m afraid to talk to many people about it because people would probably take the coach’s side. I’m just so disappointed that my son is not playing. And I’m really disappointed that NONE of the kids he played with have asked him why he’s not trying out. I just needed to vent. Thank you. ",2.42166457286432,3.8328267286432194,3.1656501256281437,94.51897770100504,75.68341708542714,6.281532663316582,19.975188442211056,6.770275591412753,-0.0038922110552763725,1490,30,343,13,32,469,182,398,0.086,0.797,0.117,0.8526,1,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,4,1,1,8,16,26,3,1,27,0,28,5,2,3,0,48,52,13,0,6,11,11,2,3,2,2,1,3,1,3,19,19,1,3,5,31,0,7,9,9,0,0,19,5,30,17,48,30,5,50,0,3,0,1,71,24,0,2,21,186,49,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182301609803356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655784641409682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730761710514962,0.11288230752696315,0.0,0.07878608272851348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454331694743226,0.10589669735581599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734589812564745,0.0,0.08200602159585542,0.0,0.0,0.06115389987132205,0.0,0.0780098923792282,0.17694475828231074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04681558027598858,0.06614531736342902,0.08889957989480428,0.10142629024095112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306745190738224,0.0,0.04837372425751491,0.08881942594438089,0.0,0.07765892839323964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141207800117357,0.09502261975501447,0.0,0.0,0.10971794181168544,0.0,0.0,0.09287391925805938,0.0,0.0,0.10683481809978268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088427548472773,0.15094414017096308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570234559014552,0.0927981053395682,0.08175743383873353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871552031823857,0.08356483021985188,0.08760957602312583,0.0,0.09387031233519078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084386542469646,0.0,0.0,0.06806327749187427,0.06865327685209441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884126288908299,0.0,0.0971561650618374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280868787707756,0.0,0.08838629935840152,0.19256784054597528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982617527794507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862926147547576,0.0951965057607699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22089052295927256,0.0,0.4685230527623234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318050040991674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655346906263505,0.0,0.0,0.07740821898122066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961510758850507,0.22325763866309767,0.0,0.08524314710554777,0.0,0.0,0.061511754521249275,0.0,0.0,0.07350500951276638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694475828231074,0.0,0.18858475379380665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113726907569592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922231532811907,0.0,0.07426899345640857,0.0,0.0,0.08583056372860941,0.08354681408325336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154457589918062,0.0,0.0,0.23849610195514245
parenting,battcrazy_77,2019/02/07,"How exactly does dressing my baby in numerous layers protect him from a virus?! Hello, first post here, on mobile.

My baby recent got RSV and was hospitalized for a few days. Once my grandmother on my moms  side heard of this she told my mom to tell me that I had to be extra careful with the baby and dress him in lots of layers, hats, socks and blankets to protect him from the cold outside. Also to be very careful about changing weather and if is raining to not leave the house. 

This is a bit extreme isn’t it? Of course I dress my baby warmly and I protect him from the elements. What do they think I did before? Take him out half naked on a windy day? 

Honestly just aggravates me because RSV It’s a contagious virus that he picked up from someone else, a person, that touched/kiss/coughed on my baby with no regard for his health or safety.

I personally don’t think dressing my son in multiple sweaters and  snow pants would have protected him from this virus

I did correct her. She still believes in giving 3 week old abuse  rice cereal and that going outside  with wet hair will make us sick. *sigh* 

Is there a better way to tell her she doesn’t know anything about anything? ",4.0446280193236746,5.70984857391305,4.579420289855072,84.98903381642515,71.95652173913044,7.1980676328502415,27.560386473429947,7.793537801064563,1.6576183574879226,932,34,178,12,18,296,141,230,0.063,0.8109999999999999,0.126,0.9022,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,1,0,1,2,8,6,0,0,11,0,16,3,1,3,2,25,28,11,0,2,4,3,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,10,11,0,4,3,0,0,1,5,0,1,2,7,5,30,5,31,17,4,21,0,0,0,0,26,11,0,3,7,120,40,0,0.0,0.16882071406205118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394472271824632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345050404894468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685716737900896,0.0,0.12124372941352896,0.16053112561474572,0.0,0.1260158723932661,0.1555560610037947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905446825419234,0.0,0.15072960180311434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837813003394468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468905809627295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902743249599958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119715733747485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668401921914766,0.08097716773063618,0.0,0.11395779039403885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145425368633444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440786658055026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830569961870976,0.0,0.0,0.1508704058364971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113514107556556,0.0,0.0,0.09510944300587366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33375201299932084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951340870956165,0.1517412351682808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24882376334502465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364606682948803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068615495686165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207265692283068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378822541170905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713053594299024,0.0,0.24907529065127185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18259649972927544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361499496570259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139118883120252,0.0,0.0,0.117564551674605,0.0,0.1130974841371286,0.11429239066844835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121682925330663,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seven30eight3,2019/02/07,"Habits are learned at a young age. I have 3 kids. There is a significant age gap between all 3. From when my oldest(who is now in high school) was in kindergarten, I always worked with him on his homework and showed him that it was number one priority in his life. It was a habit I started, and it progressed through all my children. My oldest is straight A's and he is in IB courses which if you know what IB is you know how hard those classes are. I work with all my kids, get them to the point where I don't need to be next to them, guiding them. I'm proud to say my youngest is in the 1st grade and he has the same learning habits as his older siblings. My point in all this is, the other day, my youngest son asked his teacher what his score was on a standardized test the class took that day. My kids love to compare tests scores with each other... typical I got higher than you banter. The teacher asked the assistant, if my son was abused because he cares so much about his tests scores. I was so upset when the assistant told me. How dare you make an assumption like that because my child cares about school. He gets hundreds on all his tests, and won many awards already. I'm so disgusted that she would even put that out there. Why do people assume if your kids are good kids, who care Bout their grades that there's something internally wrong?? If you teach your kids the importance of school from a young age, they take that with them all through their schooling. I don't think it's that hard to comprehend. The teacher of course backtracked after confronted, but it still makes me so upset that she assumed that in the first place.",4.794655220940051,5.757978925696597,4.273989586265127,90.57010624824093,69.3405572755418,7.358795384182381,27.68491415705038,7.348242739294969,1.2112551083591327,1295,42,274,12,22,387,167,323,0.054000000000000006,0.8690000000000001,0.077,0.5415,1,0,1,0,1,0,36.0,0,7,7,7,17,14,2,2,18,0,23,2,0,4,6,37,45,19,0,6,5,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,1,8,23,11,0,0,7,1,0,2,2,5,0,2,10,3,45,9,34,33,9,37,0,0,0,1,45,18,0,6,18,179,68,19,0.0,0.14351989976260912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367057908124375,0.0,0.10079032497709367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264814342190377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768012355779594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37050201996820015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623837364687718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000558889071893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303358784630066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657143057771336,0.0,0.0,0.10159856218159112,0.0968791699844926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21701836887632914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798108144285875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331403699191492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555809295604153,0.059178270427213214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932505476118316,0.0,0.16171117155283904,0.12280737015194873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904489507664974,0.08981677138149513,0.0,0.0,0.12882371899216696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208119866690007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397667478668656,0.0,0.1265556482119222,0.0,0.2290150538670997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217696638367176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632787882659594,0.0,0.4903623523471189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325221881926014,0.0,0.0,0.08573682998737102,0.0,0.09673501735842163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107510216075283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761556833753416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574543583720713,0.1345805031096564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10930148485605637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636897278457875,0.0,0.0,0.08604767056834227,0.13243724604036647,0.0,0.0
parenting,iloveanaya,2019/02/07,"7 year old social and physical issues I just got home from parent-teacher conference. The teacher has been mentioning since the beginning of the year that she is concerned with my daughter’s participation with peers and her performance in gym class.

She says my daughter prefers to play on her own and has a difficult time approaching others to play with her. I asked if other kids approach her and she mentioned it only happens she she (the teacher) asks them to. My daughter is fairly shy at first and I know she doesn’t like rejection. I’m not sure how much to read into this. 

With regard to gym class, the teacher mentioned she is concerned there may be On my some gross motor skill issues because my daughter has difficulty throwing/catching a ball and just overall clumsiness with the physical tasks. She also says that when they pair up to do the activities, my daughter is almost always the last one to be paired up (this made me want to cry). In the summer time, she rides her bike and has swim lessons. She also goes to the park and has been proud of her own progress on the monkey bars. 

My daughter has cousins close in age and she plays well with them.

When I ask her about her social life at school she doesn’t seem to be upset or unhappy.  She’s a happy kid overall.

I honestly don’t think there are any gross motor issues and that she sometimes acts cute/shy for attention. We are working on making her more confident. I have been looking into more sports activities at the recreation centre for her.

Any other suggestions?

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parenting,Taaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaam,2019/02/07,"First week of Kindergarten done - She comes home a bit of a brat Our daughter has started kindergarten this year / this week. Previously she went to preschool 2 days a week from around 9AM until 5:30PM. She's loving it, but comes home a brat. Everything is ""NO!"", over tired but doesn't want to sleep, doesn't eat much during the day and then doesn't want food for dinner. 

I'm guessing it's a control thing, where her life has changed quite a bit and she's trying to control *something*?

Anyone have any suggestions on what we can do to help her adjust and make her/our lives easier when she comes home from school? ",3.1753093964858685,5.428335957983194,2.8089228418640206,94.19236058059592,75.97478991596641,5.671810542398777,21.742551566080976,6.574015621080383,0.2532117647058829,485,13,100,4,11,143,79,119,0.057,0.853,0.09,0.7037,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,7,0,10,7,1,3,0,17,21,8,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,6,8,3,2,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,2,0,9,1,13,19,3,19,0,0,0,1,13,4,0,1,11,56,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184626054245768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443794483543433,0.0,0.0,0.1202331197815457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29490374176275713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287686149710518,0.34902984376111434,0.0,0.0,0.3029652837743785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742066261719169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382145195553794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382013453719831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138431507201128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488300410537855,0.16331656243809833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878515994993555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052868830077936,0.0,0.4064322454054856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539773339718934,0.0,0.0,0.11926153104165955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189802352302224,0.0,0.09015441262272517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928553649819392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365423169569805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366891644641485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515875885597595,0.0,0.0,0.10397672507949422,0.0,0.0,0.09559702614757518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972867269456059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523300322987574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169770222537027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932521286859638,0.0,0.32501388996646696,0.0,0.0,0.1252031033732511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697499704657632
parenting,hiprockguy1010,2019/02/07,"I walked in on my son dry humping his girlfriend on the wall. Last weekend I walked into my living to see my son who is 13 dry humping his girlfriend who is also 13. My son said “oh yeah baby that feels great”. 

I immediately walked in the room and they stopped and said oh we were just dancing. I said yeah right, I think it’s time for you to go home Asha. So the girl left and now my son is pissed off at me. Isn’t he too young to be dry humping or doing any of this??",-0.6026470588235284,1.4131092254901958,1.3759803921568654,100.3369117647059,89.09803921568627,3.7921568627450974,17.323529411764707,4.7782277997778095,-0.9729176470588236,359,9,89,1,12,118,66,102,0.058,0.857,0.084,0.4137,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,1,0,5,2,1,0,3,2,7,4,1,0,0,10,14,6,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,1,5,5,0,1,2,2,0,5,1,1,0,0,4,5,16,1,12,9,0,22,0,0,1,3,18,11,1,1,6,52,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912502819858078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263199794834088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209227618959876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359159581369209,0.0,0.0,0.26366663289019704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23988959997040946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19494132310103587,0.0,0.0,0.2598400460747479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111761650080149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423505018154792,0.6824667859142898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057369305688016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19994231786676184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532393568993841,0.0,0.0,0.13945182918908286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maximill08,2019/02/07,"FTM - Is there something wrong with me? Hello Reddit,

I am at a complete and utter loss as what to think, how to feel or who to talk to. I would really appreciate anyone’s help or advice on the current situation -

I am (27F) FTM to my 7 month old baby boy and I feel like I’m going crazy. My partner (30M) told me last week that I’ve been really short tempered and snappy with anyone other than my son lately (we temporarily live at my mums house with her until we get a house of our own in a few months time). I don’t recognise my short temper or snappiness, I feel that I’m a very patient, loving and caring person. My BF and I have had numerous discussions/arguments about this, how this has made him feel etc.  I don’t know what I can do, I always try to be happy and positive but I’m worried that I’m not able to sense when I snap, or say something wrong that upsets him. (Let me clarify on exactly what I mean when I say snap, change the tone of my voice, I don’t start screaming or throwing things) He’s very open with talking about his feelings whereas I’m not really, although, since we’ve been together I have opened up more about my feelings. 

My BF works from home, in quite a demanding but flexible job, I’m currently on maternity leave from work. I spend 99% of my time with my son, (and have done since he’s been born) I do everything with him. I have a schedule mapped out which we follow to ensure he’s in bed at a decent time. I make sure wants for nothing, he’s the happiest little boy, so many people remark how smiley and happy he is (so I can’t be all bad).

My mum has very strict house rules, so I’m constantly run off my feet, between taking care of my son, keeping the house tidy, cooking, walking the dogs and making sure my son sticks to his schedule so he sleeps at night, tending to my BF and making sure I have time with him too is tough! I don’t really have any time for myself and at the end of each day, I’m so tied by the time I get into bed I fall asleep within an hour. My son wakes up between 1 and 3 times in the night, I get up with him, change him, feed him and rock him back to sleep peacefully, each time he wakes it’s for around 30 minutes. A lot of the time I struggle to get back to sleep myself. 

Hearing how I have made my BF feel devastates me, I’ve had many sleepless wet pillow nights from this. My BF has been sick with a cold for the past month and feels my snappiness is due to him not being able to help out with our son and tidying up after him, so he has moved back to his parents house. 

My previous BF was verbally abusive to me for years and this has significantly messed with me mentally. As a result I’m very hard on myself now for the smallest things and I put a lot of pressure on myself. When I feel I’ve done something wrong I take it very hard. For years I convinced myself I wouldn’t be able to have children, and told myself that if one day I was lucky enough I would be the best mum I could be. I put a lot of pressure on myself to be the best mum I can be for my wonderful son, I feel so blessed to have him in my life. 

Could my snappiness be caused by frustration over doing almost everything for my son on my own? The only person I really want help from is my BF. Could this be a post partum issue? Or am I just developing some sort of personality disorder? 

I’m really concerned as this is putting strain on our relationship and I don’t want things to get any worse. Btw, other than this we have a strong and happy relationship. 

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parenting,msgrump,2019/02/07,"Am I doing something wrong or is this just the way it is? My almost 3 year old started nursery when she was almost two. She has always picked up bugs and viruses really easily. But I thought it would have gone better by now but it just seems to be getting worse! 

She had three weeks off for a horrible chest infection and then went to nursery for two days. And now, she send to be unwell again and I know it just going to get worse over the next few days.

I called the nursery, expecting most kids would have a virus but the lady just told me 'Its always (my child) who suffers the most, everyone else is okay and no one is absent with a sickness right now'

I'm really at the end of my rope now. I work really long hours, and though I have good support from the husband and other family, I'm just exhausted. When she's unwell, all she wants is to be on me and I feel like I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

Fellow parents, is this normal or am I doing something wrong. Or does my child just happen to be one of those who has a permanent weak immune system?? ",3.2573636363636362,4.283921236363638,4.468863636363637,87.51329545454546,73.0,7.5,22.84090909090909,7.8658589789855275,0.9397272727272724,832,20,177,11,16,274,124,220,0.142,0.7759999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.9554,1,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,14,10,0,0,14,1,24,6,1,1,1,36,41,18,0,5,12,2,1,1,1,2,5,0,0,3,11,9,0,0,4,0,0,4,2,5,0,5,6,3,21,5,20,29,4,32,0,1,1,0,17,7,0,8,20,129,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25931648125785617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21547999184929126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451694379369175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221633445076209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701128549603764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133112010932861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816619794142857,0.0,0.2293665153365135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372628809591732,0.0,0.0,0.12206478502117744,0.0,0.06547035389839598,0.09250248124611048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13529875429728594,0.0,0.07358801387052215,0.10860396251209826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450114192803736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751439717657956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116031680498594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325871670822128,0.0,0.0,0.11458813287190447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770634197645562,0.0,0.12686557409830373,0.0,0.0,0.13587033360498382,0.0,0.1754816846135115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377523763374664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488498386344334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057753564497673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318096388577636,0.11787620551994887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19936424806318664,0.0,0.0,0.09164853586423816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469354565439481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721611526395807,0.1027948165490117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372628809591732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25297160629386034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637226320787238,0.10277735644062877,0.10386322793829872,0.0,0.0,0.12003177893947885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426496250192157,0.0,0.2639079079848867,0.18396161890469925,0.28313805619543736,0.0,0.08338262660817453
parenting,rumiru0605,2019/02/07,"Upcoming youtube kids learning videos OliverToys offer variety of fun educational videos for kids age 2 to 4,

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parenting,Mynoseisatme,2019/02/07,"How to encourage 1 yr old try other foods besides toast and fish fingers??? Up to 2 months ago we were spoon feeding my daughter a fairly varied diet of puréed /mushy veg and protein meals as well as baby cereals and weetabix in the morning. 
She would go through phases of eating really well and then would get fussy. But 2 months ago she began to totally refuse being spoon fed so we introduced baby led weaning.
Since we switched she point blank refuses to eat any vegetables, fruits( she was never keen on fruit though). 
We’ve tried only offering her veg and fruit but she gets upset and throws the food away. 
Im not comfortable leaving her without food, my MIL has suggested to do this until her hunger builds and she will have to eat whatever is put in front of her.
 I personally feel she is far too young to take that approach.
As soon as she picks up the food and feels that it has any kind of soft, mushy or wet texture she grimaces and drop sit immediately.
She freaks out if we try to put any food to her mouth, she will not allow anything new to touch her lips.
I’ve roasted carrots parsnips and sweet potatoes and offered them for weeks but she mostly takes a small bite and flings them away.
We’ve had small success with dried fruit and smoothie bites but that’s it.
She is very hit and miss with her intake of formula too so were monitoring her weight with our GP. She isn’t too concerned as she is not loosing weight.
as she’s getting older and  solids will become more important in her diet, I’m eager to try anything that could help her be more comfortable with different foods.
Any advice or tips from ppl who have similar experiences like this?

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parenting,MaddyByte,2019/02/07,"5YO Pretends to not know things. Hello Reddit, this is my first post so I hope it’s done correctly. I would love some advice from parents or professionals who have knowledge or experience about what’s happening with my daughter. Today was my daughters kindergarten readiness assessment for the school year beginning in August. Basically she acted completely clueless the whole assessment to the point the teacher came out and told me essentially my child knows nothing. This made me furious because my daughter is more than capable of doing the tasks she was asked to do and she does so on a daily basis at home. 

To give a little background, my daughter attended preschool from age 2-4. I pulled her out recently because I am 37 weeks pregnant with my second child and will be staying home for a year or so with baby 2 and therefore no longer working. We did this to save money since if I am home there’s no reason to spend $1200/month on preschool/daycare and we figured it will give her some time with mommy before the baby comes and then some time with her baby sister before she starts school. 

In preschool my daughters progress reports always showed she was meeting or exceeding milestones for her age. At home everyday with her I have been doing about 15-20 minutes of kindergarten worksheets, we do 1 experiment or craft, and we read 2 books and another book before bedtime. Yesterday we did a Mr. Poppers penguins project where she colored, cut and glued penguins to a poster. Each penguin having a number corresponding to a number on an iceberg where the penguin needed to go, she did this puzzle, math and motor activity with ease.

My daughter gets dressed by herself, she knows her ABCs, she can count to around 50 and knows basic addition, she identifies small words in books (I, am, cat), she uses glue, scissors etc everyday.  I am not writing to brag, there was another little boy today who could count to 100 with ease, but I want to drive home the point that my daughter shouldn’t be considered “behind” or slow or something.

Now I have noticed that in front of her dad and others she sometimes pretends she doesn’t know things. In front of dad she will pretend she doesn’t know how to buckle her seatbelt and in front of strangers she will sometimes pretend she doesn’t know how old she is etc. I have been repeatedly stopping her when she does this and letting her know that she is a very smart girl and she should feel proud to show how smart she is and not pretend she doesn’t know things. 

Before bedtime last night I told her about her kindergarten assessment and that a teacher would be asking her about things she knows. I told her she needs to do her very best if she wants to go to big girl school and it’s ok if she doesn’t know everything, but she still needs to try. We also practiced everything I puke find online that they might ask just so I could see how she did, she was able to write her name, count, identify the numbers and letters etc fine.

Now to today. I was feeling confident she would do just fine. After about 30 minutes the teacher and her finish and come out and apparently my daughter cannot write her name, doesn’t know her all ABCs, doesn’t know her numbers, and (what really infuriated me) apparently she magically forgot how to use scissors all together and didn’t even attempt to cut the paper as instructed. I felt so embarrassed because here I am telling the teacher that she does know all this, but obviously I’m sure she’s thinking I’m a parent who can’t accept that my child doesn’t.

Could this behavior stem from all the changes happening this year with the pregnancy and her starting a new school soon? What can I do to change this behavior? Right now, I feel like a complete failure as a mom the way the teacher came out so shockingly disappointed and in front of other parents said “well if you are home for maternity leave you should really be working on this” I wanted to smack her and show her the 3 kindergarten workbooks we have completed already each 150+ pages! We do flash cards, we do songs, we do blocks, I have a million page Pinterest board just full of activity ideas. I don’t want to get angry with my daughter because I don’t want to make her feel like I am disappointed if she needs help with schoolwork, but at the same time I feel like this is definitely deserving of some kind of punishment because pretending to be dumb or clueless is not cute especially for young ladies. 

Sorry if this post is super long! I am pouring out to the internet. Any input is appreciated.


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parenting,beetsaladz,2019/02/07,"How to help high school daughter with rumors being spread about her To keep it simple, my high school freshman daughter recently had a falling out with a friend.  Daughter still has a solid friend group, always has been social and friendly and always having people over or hanging out with friends.  

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This one friend decided she felt excluded, so she left the friend group and declared that she was no longer friends with them.  Daughter has called her and tried to talk to her in person to try and figure things out, apologize, and see how they could make things better, but friend doesn't want to give them the time of day.   I know daughter is a good person, her friends are good people, and exclusion is likely lack of awareness or sensitivity.  They are all willing to apologize and work things through, except for the friend.

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All in all, I don't think it's a big deal, it happens, especially at their age.  The part that is concerning to me is that the friend has started going around telling everyone that daughter (and other friend part of their group) were mean to her, excluding her, basically spreading malicious rumors that they're awful people.  Daughter has thick skin and has managed to deal with most of it, but she's starting to see people actually treat her differently because of the rumors, or more rumors spawning from these rumors. 

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As a parent, what can I do?  I don't know if this warrants taking it to the school / admin level, or if there's some good advice I can give daughter?  Any advice would be appreciated, thank you!",9.538676691729323,8.699654378947372,8.165426065162906,72.77881578947371,59.596491228070185,10.388471177944863,36.8483709273183,9.23628265651192,3.321521303258145,1258,47,212,16,14,382,150,285,0.049,0.741,0.21,0.9941,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,1,6,2,7,19,0,0,13,1,28,1,1,3,3,48,46,22,0,6,9,9,3,1,12,2,0,0,0,2,18,19,0,1,7,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,5,5,25,19,36,36,9,24,0,0,2,0,60,14,0,8,8,154,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.06771039662896082,0.0,0.0,0.13560573077060667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546885748677813,0.22553800576187116,0.2529335201108388,0.04718462916056804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176794935584631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229685524032289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613659790370865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085051818081113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05539880475078447,0.0,0.0,0.044748011539543366,0.1430671405993658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249324828970627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630097302726683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662111617160019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6432862795420425,0.0,0.0,0.1331220980152522,0.039433470427701435,0.17459220267531467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135751132109293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046507746321259515,0.14661952183890387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167316402611171,0.0,0.0,0.07626508994501738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753877242472072,0.0,0.0,0.03389832940724654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04631546784450385,0.0,0.0,0.07558132648495491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047017519952268265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704456586424062,0.15027581965774622,0.0,0.19241312487803094,0.12116976659660615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850996998972024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106659813066841,0.11058277765861443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072994396412936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822305668157932,0.0,0.05541147890871045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521693823012464,0.05576956643728998,0.06064612645406304,0.06388099485814794,0.0,0.0,0.1382902511596213,0.04445953022355485,0.0,0.0,0.04045933720951915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421661913780764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04092546087740874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051358795643405,0.0,0.0,0.049289583162784895,0.0,0.2529335201108388,0.0
parenting,bdm90,2019/02/07,"My son was recently diagnosed with ADHD I'm really needing some advice. My 5 year old son was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I'm not sure how to handle his outbursts of adrenaline. He's got issues with being obsessive with certain things like fire alarms, lights, and loud noise.  He's an extremely anxious child too. 

He's having so much trouble focusing at school and he's failing in his Head Start class. He still can't even write his own name. He gets angry when he tries and he ends up wanting to do other things quickly. He can't hold a pencil correctly either and we have tried so many times to help him but he gets so angry. 

We're trying therapy right now because I don't want to immediately start putting medicine in his little body. I'm so stressed and heart broken :( I feel like I can't help my son.

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parenting,anotherchilds,2019/02/07,"Reasonable discipline tactic for 3 year old? My 3 year old has been not listening at daycare. Today I noticed on the webcam that he had been sat by himself at a table in the corner with a piece of paper and marker. The rest of the class went outside to play, had circle/reading time, and sat down and began eating their lunches all while my son sat at this table by himself. Every once in a while I’d see the teacher some over and take his hand and try and get him to draw/write something. From what I saw, he was at this table for 40+ minutes. He was only at the table eating his lunch for maybe 10 minutes before the teacher took his plate and threw it away.

My husband called and talked to the teacher and my son, and apparently he was throwing blocks (not at anybody) so the teacher was making him write “I will not throw blocks” 15x. She said he sat there so long because he wouldn’t trace the letters but was “just drawing”. Does this seem like a reasonable discipline tactic for a kid this age?

For what it’s worth, while I was watching my son I saw three other kids throwing blocks AT EACH OTHER, and the teacher ignored.

Thoughts? ",4.3365833333333335,5.483952288888888,4.788597222222227,85.77756250000002,70.55555555555556,6.8694444444444445,27.840277777777786,6.9077264865688965,1.336427777777777,895,31,174,7,16,284,125,225,0.038,0.916,0.046,0.4098,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,0,16,0,13,5,1,3,1,33,31,17,0,1,5,4,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,2,11,13,4,6,4,1,1,6,4,1,0,1,22,7,19,2,27,7,5,32,0,0,4,0,27,14,0,2,13,114,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603483992674395,0.0,0.0,0.10403775538043,0.0,0.1452260745171874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427132199759413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935289874501873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492723678567602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379532591792962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916709449692277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337986553937078,0.0,0.0,0.15103599327403425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392235395654154,0.0,0.17145915408584453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943068857439781,0.3581751491743642,0.1817560712828076,0.0,0.12980086262413654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071439302539607,0.0,0.0,0.3509506847047751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234454822943925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600046511693792,0.1553699265174507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138872444677568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832125233345776,0.1371766406204132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549149315713144,0.0995180044365433,0.0,0.16177350527001366,0.0,0.18961865854639587,0.11587251013032455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582111384678868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21980946047252312
parenting,xtinyStorm,2019/02/07,"Pre-K 4 : Montessori or Regular School? My daughter will be 4 next year school year and am ready to put her in Pre-K. She does have a bit of speech delay (which she is in therapy for and has improved). I have never heard of a Montessori school up until now and was recommended to try it since my daughter isn't ""fully"" developed compared to most 3/4 year olds.

What are your thoughts or experience? I watched a Youtube video explaining that it is more hands-on independent work, no homework, self-guidance; unlike a regular school of lecture and work. I want to know what are other parents and their children's experience or one vs the other.

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FYI: We live in NY (for comparison purposes).

Thanks in advance and it's greatly appreciated! ",5.5798561151079165,7.112857812949643,6.045388489208634,76.47757913669068,67.9928057553957,9.013237410071943,34.763309352517986,9.3871,3.3318857553956835,592,29,106,12,10,191,95,139,0.033,0.853,0.113,0.8683,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,1,3,1,2,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,1,1,19,18,10,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,9,7,0,1,3,1,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,3,11,2,15,13,3,16,0,0,1,0,12,5,0,4,9,67,20,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090038200492707,0.1804445324867061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621242381639062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995391128308498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905242430149687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372248047181315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161206842506323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112878627321586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453284877474,0.0,0.15793211593965545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582644177223734,0.0,0.10062787727091607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648923874770174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928415991594454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6011623052742041,0.0,0.0,0.1549185548914103,0.0,0.0,0.12284126443533308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671943813828522,0.16982342444065368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789292092291465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082218710285852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758952532180267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622046992499644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804445324867061,0.28688863120959435
parenting,Queen_Red,2019/02/07,"Speech therapy ( final consonant deletion) Does anyone Have experience with this type of speech delay? My daughter is three and goes to her first therapy tomorrow morning.

They are not concerned about her language, she knows the appropriate number of words for a three-year-old. My husband and I and her Preschool teachers can all understand her. She’s just leaving some of the ends of the words off like .. Cat is CA , hat I’d HA  , paw is PA 

I was told is completely normal but usually gone by three ( she’s turned 3 end of November).
 
Just want to nip this is the butt before people aren’t able to understand her. ",3.1846231884057983,5.858330991304352,3.949239130434784,83.81748188405798,78.21739130434783,7.659420289855072,26.97463768115942,8.59863814320734,2.303159420289855,484,20,89,11,12,154,81,115,0.015,0.926,0.059,0.415,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,5,1,10,1,1,0,1,18,17,4,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,3,2,13,2,13,14,2,9,0,0,0,1,13,1,1,1,8,55,15,1,0.18919206029526406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228748749295682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609885086575981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836427569000686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556324690718138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351360204860547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506613807887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072506544186132,0.0,0.1609266698383428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397500853845608,0.0,0.0,0.20032707467569894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242968420017254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536804981147906,0.0,0.0,0.19852524174978425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311619531067723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4327152183983661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078112125975127,0.0,0.0,0.20578663373351508,0.0,0.3939112139674708,0.0,0.0,0.20836832556228332,0.0,0.11159037895940566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183348392479874
parenting,Greenone102,2019/02/07,"My 4yr old told me she is so sick of me The other day, we were cleaning up her toys 🧸 before nap time and out of nowhere she says “mommy I’m so sick of you”

I said “what, that’s not nice, what makes you say that?”

She replied “I’m just tired of you” and “I want a new mommy” 

It really hurt My feelings.  She wasn’t mad or anything before saying it. She just said it out of nowhere. What could have mad her say this? She told me “that’s the way I feel mommy”.  :(",-2.2784034653465355,-0.5196909999999981,0.07385519801980323,105.77632735148515,102.56435643564356,2.9210396039603963,12.253094059405939,4.557286568694721,-1.7713321782178215,343,6,90,1,16,113,60,101,0.243,0.745,0.012,-0.9794,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,3,0,0,4,4,2,0,3,0,5,3,0,1,0,14,15,5,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,11,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,6,8,20,1,8,8,0,8,0,1,0,0,20,3,0,1,4,55,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509631465632195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312203692596528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464693420953187,0.0,0.0,0.1183096249053611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551496060005454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19638627446539647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245383514208953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17717648125910165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924991853913164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752232183654017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490045957563053,0.5835449996509319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697076461035024,0.21084798883522535,0.0,0.3505873436536817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082031526966632,0.14561351890850366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,one2threeabc,2019/02/07,"Fooling around with Football Hi All,

I have a 3rd grader who is interested in playing football. I'm his mother and have zero interest, experience or knowledge of any sport......any sport. 

So, short back story.....my Son has Strabismus (eye teaming issues). When he was little we put him in soccer and it did not go well..... Because of eye issues he has the ability to play the game but his execution is off. He would loose the ball altogether or go to kick it and get close but where he saw the ball is not where the ball actually was.....think of playing a sport with one eye covered and no peripheral vision. 

Cut to 2019, we are in vision therapy and his execution has improved.  He really wants to play football and I've agreed. 

I would like to get him in shape and make sure that he has the tools he needs to be successful. 

We have two months until football starts and I'm wondering how to improve his speed, endurance and skills to be successful. 

I'm looking for advice on how to implement a routine for him that gets him to a place where he can play but I don't want to be unreasonable. 

Thank you, 

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parenting,oddiseeus,2019/02/07,"[Humor] Is your baby constipated? No worries. Give them a bath. It's guaranteed that within a half-hour your baby will poop. So, we (my 5 month old son and I) were going to go to Storytime this morning at the local library. We took a bath together and then I made he was dry and changed and I went to take a shower. As I was getting dressed, he was in the middle of the bed hanging out. As I began to play with him on the bed I thought, ""Man... the bed smells like spoiled milk."" My wife breastfeeds him in bed in the mornings.

I then walk with him into the living room (he decided to blep all over him and myself along the way) and I noticed the smell of spoiled milk in the living room. I smelled the burped up milk on his clean shirt and my shirt and it did not smell spoiled. I send my wife a text (I am a stay-at-home dad) about this weekend; on top of the other manly things I have to do around the house we are going to have to really clean the house because the entire house smells like spoiled milk. When I go to change his shirt into something new and I noticed that he made a super huge poop in his diaper. After a not so quick diaper change, no more spoiled milk smell. Needless to say we didn't make it to Storytime but, we are walking around the mall.

I sent her a follow-up text. She laughed at me.",1.997798812770736,3.5802373985239875,3.1565089042194785,93.41808759826729,77.22878228782288,6.041456762393711,22.852719396759184,6.7026698264267655,0.4343879672709763,1009,30,227,9,23,325,138,271,0.02,0.907,0.073,0.8834,1,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,5,2,1,2,7,6,0,0,25,0,14,11,5,3,1,31,29,17,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,1,1,1,11,2,9,22,5,0,2,5,0,11,5,0,0,0,13,7,38,6,39,15,2,46,0,0,0,0,31,24,0,0,12,147,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357262917420848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070917799709484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42018163711031176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691729927747906,0.1270091481153065,0.30098152363426023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038630725596045,0.4583118757512831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936688963700507,0.0,0.2338214171853249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505581971315218,0.0883773348406563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567958784330644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787174196672285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014741902154077,0.13893043810462435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481816495291887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528896822402342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192718892684588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111967662819927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954754173155976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795998688073013,0.0,0.0,0.10510998625762434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710011772389855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050921329084595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273516368202635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445757211752707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HappyCharacter3,2019/02/07,"3 year old doesn’t have the patience for stories - normal? I love to read and before I had a child, I had these fantasies of reading all my favorite children’s stories to her.  Well - my kid doesn’t like being read to.  She can sit through a little tiny baby book, and she does like those, but that’s about it.  Even when I try telling her a story without reading it off to her, she loses interest pretty quickly (admittedly, I suck as a storyteller, but I’m trying to improve).  She only likes two- or three-sentence “stories” I make up, but nothing longer than that.

What can I do to help her enjoy books more?  Or is this a normal part of being three?  ",4.102015503875972,5.061828038759693,4.9100775193798425,85.38899224806205,70.93798449612403,6.663565891472868,29.06201550387597,6.42735559955562,1.3723085271317834,503,19,99,3,9,163,85,129,0.05,0.727,0.223,0.9692,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,5,9,1,0,6,0,11,1,0,1,1,13,16,9,0,2,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,2,0,0,1,7,0,0,3,2,1,2,2,0,17,7,16,12,3,8,0,1,0,1,15,3,1,2,7,74,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729860485827106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120015773615655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657142534814966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815079481615422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364852024655734,0.16171701848050468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051153292130714,0.0,0.0,0.14562641277571262,0.0,0.10770366349434132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161812583598137,0.15482152464096915,0.0,0.16931170397614534,0.0,0.0,0.12271541048632345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472841218071478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415291576244026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6455823603175189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102869516018052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190947326120366,0.0,0.15761738630788566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507475902238767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553749876536166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390535018542753
parenting,Layersofcakes,2019/02/07,Learning program for speech? Can anyone recommend an at-home program for my kindergartener? They have yet to start speech therapy at school there's a long list for the local speech therapist here in the area. She is with her father in the summer so insurance will not cover her out of area for her to see a speech therapist where he lives. So I was wondering if there is an online program that anyone has used to help their kindergarteners or schoolers with their speech. We're working on it every night she doesn't have a speech impairment is more sounding out the letters. Any online program suggestions would be so helpful thank you for your time.,6.754750000000001,8.049056308333334,5.895,79.51500000000001,65.08333333333334,9.333333333333334,31.66666666666667,9.516144504307137,2.9274166666666672,527,20,91,10,8,159,82,120,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.8991,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,3,1,8,1,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,1,0,11,17,5,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,12,1,17,13,1,16,0,0,1,0,16,10,0,3,6,64,14,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506607065836225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30982399094265783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866643268340903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29699883402828353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956315524318488,0.19606361912143655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079084376594903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242191024312174,0.1765456221064206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681330324851694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203972267957048,0.2533602354359921,0.5144702104379757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918682291955566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19134693505919328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402601039183141,0.16129008511844578,0.0,0.0,0.15738183299580258,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zvimic,2019/02/07,"Foreskin/penile hygiene for children (Circumcised dad with uncircumcised boys)

Any tips about penile hygiene for young kids, is there an age they should start pulling back foreskin for cleaning etc?

I’m totally clueless here ",7.404999999999998,11.290950611111107,4.964444444444447,75.50000000000003,70.66666666666667,6.933333333333335,39.55555555555557,8.07648339933343,4.0253555555555565,186,11,24,3,4,52,31,36,0.078,0.922,0.0,-0.4201,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,2,5,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,14,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065060039085234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596503864766761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6666746884089394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231066660228947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Evelynmear8,2019/02/07,"My son is going to buy his girlfriend a vibrator for Valentines Day!! Help! Hello everyone, I’m Evelyn and I have a small or maybe a big problem with my 15yr old son. He just turned 15 a month ago and his been dating this girl for 6 months now. 


Yesterday they were taking on facetime and my son said “so what do u want me to get you for Valentines Day”. 
His gf said “umm...yeah about that I kinda want you to buy me a vibrator because I can’t buy one because my parents might find out”. My son said umm...ok but like mine would too”. The girl said “not if you buy it with cash”. 
So my son said “ok baby, If that’s what you want then I’ll do it but you can pick it out first and I’ll go to Spencer’s and get one In the mall”. Gf said “ok” My son said “but if I do that for you, you’re going to have to give me a huge blowjob”. His girlfriend said “ok”

So now what? My sons going to walk to the mall and go to Spencer’s and buy a vibrator?? Absolutely not, I’m going to put a stop to that one for sure!! 

So now what do I do? What do I actually say to him right now? ",-0.9368543371522088,0.8671618170212767,1.492446808510639,100.46096153846158,88.27659574468085,4.806873977086744,17.123567921440262,6.093298490706669,-0.6469607201309331,797,19,209,7,26,270,107,235,0.021,0.865,0.114,0.96,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,6,1,1,11,6,0,0,11,3,15,0,0,1,1,32,39,19,0,8,10,8,0,1,4,2,0,9,0,2,13,11,0,1,1,2,6,8,3,1,0,4,10,9,30,5,24,27,0,31,0,0,0,0,39,8,0,6,16,124,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.09709822047750044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820126748741687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130926947998948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128339295195855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507707556568724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094173456637117,0.0846351490804752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039699006915482,0.09545003032801433,0.3392908619422492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669314656298772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0486109611887275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996171414768557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555439961811627,0.0,0.0,0.15884083964625856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044091290064528,0.0,0.20227251999339013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048362755682987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520862459535663,0.0,0.10002557290030324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497295824663023,0.7571827545782177,0.0791268610121259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318694667112429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377812638029503,0.0,0.07481205896074772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822806712088832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606407381691355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068236270140471,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notagainkaren,2019/02/07,Home Alone Our oldest is 8 nearly nine. We live very close to our regular grocery store. He has been asking if he can stay home instead of going to the store with me and his brothers. I know some of his friends from school stay home for short bits of time. What do you think too young? If you let your kids stay home what rules and precautions do you have?  ,2.8212499999999987,4.518011958333336,2.6927777777777813,97.13,75.25,5.911111111111111,20.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,-0.11151666666666672,279,6,63,2,6,83,54,72,0.027000000000000003,0.926,0.047,0.3527,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,12,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,11,1,9,10,2,10,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,3,3,39,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515286396383786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810035181362742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846305452833495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065837134756056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961123503457952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6785473491918242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294156670014853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729322625620009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933226262868324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115411841497571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5407645082130585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836251282752878,0.0,0.0,0.09861272544524152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395381648365687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ralymac,2019/02/07,"Driving 15 hours with 15mo old. Need advice!! I hope this is the correct place to post this. Sorry in advance if it’s not. 

We’re traveling from IN to TX (about a 15 hr drive) this Sunday. I’m so worried about the drive and how our son will handle it. We’re prepared to make as many stops as needed, but I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to make the trip go as smooth as possible. 

Our son also will only sleep in his crib. He’s been like that since he was 3 months old. He will throw massive fits if we try to get him to sleep elsewhere. We are only going to have our paknplay with us when we are in Texas. We are staying with my brother for a couple days, then a hotel for a couple more. I really don’t want to stress anyone out-especially my son. Are they any ways to make this part easier as well? 

This is our son’s first vacation, and our first baby, so we’re new to all of this “parenting” thing. Any help or advice would be so greatly appreciated! ",1.3267795726941145,3.189147623762377,3.2771078686816075,90.50335330901514,80.1881188118812,6.034809796769153,19.542470036477333,7.0608816371341465,0.2656198019801983,748,18,164,9,19,252,121,202,0.039,0.83,0.131,0.9638,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,10,0,1,3,10,5,0,1,7,0,17,2,2,5,2,29,29,20,0,8,6,6,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,1,1,2,0,9,2,1,1,2,3,1,18,4,29,21,3,31,0,0,0,0,23,7,0,6,13,103,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.359377885236946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803444153646372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25009433077868154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143426761371486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271284966666244,0.0,0.07905981388964177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085484145635409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404773367544421,0.0,0.1393403964009339,0.0,0.0,0.1351548914793674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821688750423293,0.0,0.0,0.1217586151975329,0.1207255483255282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059890831388974615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24548748483018254,0.12428608416564214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784943264136936,0.0,0.0,0.18179649631117206,0.0,0.11839729561454675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25727323171076155,0.0,0.0,0.18646903607430035,0.0,0.0,0.1361206638881024,0.13275202545878334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807949495085552,0.0,0.0,0.13820076630913078,0.11740645015268425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853370255976885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140695227741836,0.0,0.24535522110768054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722843651543828,0.0,0.13066364635218833,0.0,0.10248995854044632,0.14042537487871265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144273636062327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832299371309935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474595670646794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230621448858167,0.09730550421346544,0.0,0.0,0.11022230364714854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294262599455833,0.0,0.12449515951503914,0.0,0.08708376389203817,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,who_am_i_to_you,2019/02/07,"School wont stop posting pics to Facebook I've got a kid in the single digits who goes to a slightly unorthodox public school.  They constantly are taking and posting pictures of the kids in the classroom on a public Facebook page.  I've signed a form indicating I dont want my kid in the pictures.... just seems like a bad idea to me, posting pictures of kids too young to understand consent, under accounts not controlled by the parents,  that will be around and searchable forever.  Even with the form on file pictures end up on the site frequently.  When I ask the teachers to stop, they apologize and say they will...and then post more pictures a short while later.  I've spoken to the principle and they're saying that since the school is unusual they need to ""tell their story"" thus justifying the constant public photo stream.  I've got no problem with someone telling their story... I have a problem when they're exploiting my child to do it, and directly against my stated wishes.  Honestly, the only correct response to ""Hey, please dont post pictures of my kid on Facebook"" is ""Understood"".  My kid should be seen as a student, not a marketing tool.   Wondering if its worth it to make a fuss at the district level, because I'm getting no indication that its going to stop.",7.8370301850048625,7.733095890295362,7.5520675105485235,73.38899707887053,62.67088607594936,10.16150600454398,38.90587471600129,9.661875296680813,3.869555923401492,1014,49,172,17,13,322,134,237,0.075,0.8390000000000001,0.087,-0.0408,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,6,1,6,5,0,0,23,0,12,0,0,3,1,31,28,11,0,7,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,7,8,8,0,4,5,0,2,1,7,3,0,0,4,3,15,2,30,19,5,34,0,0,1,0,25,14,0,3,14,109,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049262252136802,0.10553332829854667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425523478143512,0.06881436006591991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24397968750251184,0.12661143599507102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26460349565312913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999836382034069,0.0,0.0,0.07456024911920195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058978363424950976,0.0,0.06415581057368314,0.0,0.18057076133448036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743474279568148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055150479443672636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535239352345036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837036629832687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585501739077815,0.0,0.0,0.1253467300672981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391511306821736,0.0,0.0,0.5405687202475691,0.0,0.0,0.21603363378151766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954322296772615,0.0,0.3427404852892757,0.0,0.10276732737736984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338060446512374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095648083573212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28313367274652496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848763492627731,0.0,0.19733497247968676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751848173308255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658318649649626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981352176694375,0.0,0.122420233482524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lspenc20,2019/02/07,"Suggestions for handling a 4 y/o who comes out of bedroom at night? My 4 y/o son sometimes wakes up in the middle of the night or really early in the morning and comes out of his bedroom and plays in the living room, gym, kitchen, etc. He knows the rule is when you wake up, come get mommy and daddy. 7 times out of 10 we wake up before him, so it's not usually an issue but every now and then during the week or on weekends he will wake up unusually early and run about the house. I'm concerned he might end up doing something dangerous while we are sleeping. For instance, he gets on tables, chairs, counters etc. to grab food from the kitchen counters or pantry. He says he is starving. We feed him a lot as it is and we are scared of him overeating, but one commenter suggested we give him a snack basket to keep in his room so he has control over what and how much he eats during the night when he's hungry. But he also tries to play with dad's weights that are 10 lbs and heavier. There is no door to the gym so we can't lock it. Sometimes he goes into the bathroom and dunks rolls of toilet paper into the toilet water and then puts them back. I don't want to lock his bathroom door at night in case he has to go and I don't want to have to just keep the toilet paper out of his reach because he'll just find something else to mess with -- I really just want to teach him that at his age he shouldn't be running around the house unsupervised and needs to come get mommy and daddy if we're not up already. I've told him plenty of times that when he wakes up and mommy and daddy's not there, he might do something to hurt himself. He says he understands but I'm sure when the opportunity presents itself to grab those peanut butter cookies out of the kitchen while mommy and daddy are sleeping, it's hard to resist... Also, I think at his age, I could be as accommodating as possible and he will still do something sneaky because of how curious and independent he is.

Anyway, I'm looking for suggestions to how I can allow him to be independent while still keeping him without the boundaries I set for him. Any help would be fantastic. Please no name calling or harsh criticizing.",5.4421978021978,5.414239405895691,5.95561224489796,82.57414050235481,67.63945578231292,8.417268445839872,29.659951159951163,7.882392219407189,1.7950962148962146,1722,56,351,18,26,558,204,441,0.08800000000000001,0.848,0.064,-0.8779,0,0,4,0,0,0,39.0,6,1,1,2,24,8,1,1,21,0,30,16,7,7,1,80,55,47,0,8,16,2,4,0,0,7,0,2,9,0,11,38,9,4,4,5,0,8,10,4,0,1,1,8,32,4,66,42,4,68,0,1,1,0,58,31,0,8,28,224,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101993708227178,0.14782509047230427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285242970828436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227818601481325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106941429802895,0.0,0.1126833109921116,0.0,0.07864719331527432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437664962038976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184651335325433,0.0,0.0,0.103662925904735,0.07379414744731105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457424063081477,0.0772095475668293,0.0,0.08186145585750322,0.0,0.20615746674651592,0.0,0.0,0.07787237128661675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447512545605479,0.0,0.1117611397591314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448653433946023,0.08866284907792896,0.05252747499141259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279498879726277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0619507858502049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21329296497323924,0.0989432838791371,0.0,0.0,0.09646808677927177,0.0,0.24645578077859026,0.0,0.0,0.050794573256613074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161330632762309,0.0,0.07761404362805162,0.0,0.0,0.07857675529716895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19609745058626094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794329096193656,0.06853225023154533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469398427784312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262983137583744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145531549746853,0.0,0.10419573194279026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291303778025173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842013382311994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147000748178271,0.09253393192540428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849842626206253,0.0,0.0,0.2846143007133318,0.1828221338085564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762206019634538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710982948348762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05922245332754639,0.0,0.0,0.10778796795674392,0.0,0.0,0.08831641407218338,0.0,0.06275076796258923,0.0,0.0,0.09621808305537066,0.0,0.0,0.10179350139910424,0.0,0.16354465631104947,0.0,0.07413806707238504,0.1125492167124243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909477081577741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06565634013032642,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,foxwilliam,2019/02/07,"What is the best way to find a babysitter other than word of mouth? I’m a parent of a 4 y/o and 1 y/o and I live in Chicago.  We moved here about two years ago for work reasons and we don’t have any friends or family in the area.   I’m trying to find us a baby sitter for occasional use (date nights, days when the daycare is closed, emergencies, etc.).

I know there are a lot of websites for this kind of thing (Care.com and similar).  But most of them seem to cost money which I’m reluctant to pay.  Is there some cheaper/easier way to find a babysitter?  Or do I just need to bite the bullet and pay for one of these websites?",1.697272727272729,3.114865696969698,3.482424242424244,91.46863636363638,77.63636363636363,6.618181818181819,22.60606060606061,7.348242739294969,0.6615515151515154,480,14,110,6,11,161,85,132,0.039,0.8959999999999999,0.064,0.7219,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,2,6,3,0,0,10,0,7,1,1,2,0,24,14,9,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,6,0,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,7,3,20,14,5,13,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,6,6,70,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602621901385817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294551948907645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897312226575857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433063241431646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659660407864306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163211639821155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043566090504186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4957249018679055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396803140230147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882682105729024,0.09935916917205696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964363494364972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370384318656086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19215447194375704,0.0,0.13405580572746187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966209341399005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251009530981866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200749361444709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588543573371555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458726396221066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011091374153912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274665913960922,0.0,0.17660860542794504,0.0,0.21747185975732689,0.15614720564474235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870103227231761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161954269953144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642484006748526
parenting,jennamcworter,2019/02/07,"13yr old son is searching strange things on the internet. Hello, I’m new here. I’m a mom of two boys (11, 13yrs) 

I’ve recently went through my sons iPad to see what he’s been searching on there. I’ve received tons of email that he’s searching strange things like Really sharp knives, how to stab something, why can’t girls have penises, what’s the best gun to kill a deer, cats with devil eyes. 

All kinds of weird searches as u can see. Keep in mind he doesn’t hunt either. So idk why he is searching this. What do I do about this? He’s thirteen and searching weird things. ",2.535384615384616,4.285180188034193,2.68923931623932,96.62103846153849,76.1794871794872,5.705641025641025,24.52051282051282,6.2581,0.41739384615384667,450,15,101,3,10,136,81,117,0.196,0.75,0.055,-0.9359,0,0,1,1,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,0,4,0,9,2,2,1,1,7,15,4,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,1,2,4,2,3,13,13,4,8,1,0,3,1,13,3,0,0,4,47,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22161386481926892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770096791123245,0.23363251126943235,0.21990500658380024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316884727399513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132253295983716,0.2473241912647177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395296284298847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22159136995166992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528333765528094,0.0,0.20850864199533303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33655634064836504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257190100137364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208834491507256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628610863834226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576021952123532,0.38110300002109737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Toughenough01,2019/02/07,"Is there a way to toughen a lot up without making it into a toxic situation? I have a 10 year old son who has always been a little ""softer."" That's totally cool with my wife and I. We want him to be who he is and stay true to himself. 

But as he's getting older it is becoming harder to manage. He gets picked on and teased because he's not into what people consider to be stereotypical boy activities. He hates sports of all kind. We do encourage him to be active and he likes walking around the woods picking flowers for his sister and rocks for his brother. He rides his bike to get to school. He flat out refuses any and all sports however, which leaves him alone at recess. 

He's super smart. He test into the gifted program for middle school next year. He likes reading and playing imaginary games. He likes learning and exploring. He's an awesome little man but my heart aches for him. The teasing eventually leads to crying, which is social suicide for a 10 year old boy. I feel like it has become a game to see who can make him cry. We have gone to the school district about it and teachers punish the offenders when they see it but a lot occurs on the playgroup without teachers around or when he's biking home or while changing for gym. 

I don't want to change my son. He's perfect and amazing. I have never met a more interesting kid. But I don't want school to continue being miserable for him. I want him to come home with good stories. His brother and sister give him a list of things he can say when boys start teasing him but he won't say them. He says he's not like them and can't be mean even if someone is being mean to him. His little brother has tried sticking up for him but that has lead to more teasing about how he needs to get his little brother to fight his battles. His brother tells him that he can't cry in front of people but I worry about that attitude doing more harm than good. My younger one is so afraid to show emotion in front of his friends and held back tears after breaking his ankle in a baseball game.

I don't know what to do. Is there a non toxic way to toughen him up? I want him to let the insults roll of his back. I know this dynamic is part of male culture and bonding so I don't want my son to struggle with this his whole life. ",3.250533957283416,4.681508341252702,4.284148668106553,87.25440634749222,73.57883369330455,6.699520038396928,26.25203983681305,7.1686216300943375,1.1795246460283175,1794,62,366,18,36,583,216,463,0.138,0.731,0.131,-0.929,2,1,0,0,1,1,36.0,3,0,3,4,16,33,10,3,20,1,35,2,1,7,6,72,62,32,1,8,14,11,1,5,1,1,1,3,2,6,19,27,0,2,7,12,0,9,12,14,0,1,4,7,50,19,63,50,10,50,0,1,2,0,94,20,0,5,22,237,69,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391868584067219,0.0,0.0,0.06742027229291944,0.0,0.0,0.05510058062902701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426095677003706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460826131818165,0.0,0.049392807021811896,0.17897409891270313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142990864182894,0.06979687917073024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670103607584189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114354621600357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053517027444782234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0409692709662888,0.05788511889071669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260062535907829,0.0,0.16933133841949938,0.07772769465066129,0.0,0.13592183036236302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999657744587302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601641294302056,0.0,0.0,0.16255172920439953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437629740119593,0.08905973857281532,0.0,0.0,0.08579502493176483,0.0,0.0828547583250103,0.057231186875031786,0.1979264927925121,0.3248380731715451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13777112073197426,0.0,0.0,0.10817120811325118,0.0,0.0,0.1765225264295767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060079885488885015,0.06249238480730392,0.0,0.08617226121864696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004669082379945,0.0,0.05490543626592435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774345655517582,0.0,0.11234670156404547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810481064274792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19330581049414486,0.0,0.3280112781157596,0.1291347492808588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107682072587477,0.0,0.08259598622720543,0.06865321902887976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057350746955067276,0.08636312656942241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470615557984434,0.0,0.08862948939314791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082045233732298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05383019336161984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05501145724522848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867480402376786,0.12862961980470156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046283590339532,0.0,0.15621269140252075,0.0,0.0,0.08228601848059243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653460932986707
parenting,nikschled,2019/02/07,"[Parenting Help Needed] Trying to wean 11 month old and get him in the crib I am struggling. I have created a monster :(   
My son nurses ALL. NIGHT. LONG.

We are on night 3 of trying to wean and get him in the crib.  
Neither are going well.  


Has anyone had any luck with any tricks? He will not take a pacifier. ",-0.2850716845878125,2.001127661290326,1.7515053763440849,94.77503584229393,94.96774193548387,4.691039426523298,16.566308243727597,6.42735559955562,-0.16882293906809975,233,6,50,3,9,77,48,62,0.133,0.753,0.114,-0.0808,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,12,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,0,6,2,7,10,2,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,5,30,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33646102834610125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297758148538975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258497259037198,0.0,0.14059478952573667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581717851443428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189282408357823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746061792219605,0.0,0.0,0.1834330947490708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643087658553941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25958929927902924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746921436104517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586208701276851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860029879383601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359168136568872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224291301385852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Illusionairy,2019/02/07,"CPS advice? My daughter's biological dad recently was forced into our lives due to child support court. Since then, I've been incredibly accommodating to this family (he's married, has a baby, my daughter is the result of a one night stand six years ago, we were never a couple, I had no clue he was in a relationship at the time) and have sent my daughter to their house three times for overnights. (Important note: All times in either freshly laundered or brand new clothing. My daughter has a habit of using too much toilet paper and so not exactly the best wiper yet. I'm working on it. I also have a very long social media history in which I chronicle my and my family's lives/troubles/issues etc.) 


So anyway, bio dad's wife got it into her head that I should drive my kid halfway to where they live every other week. Regardless of the fact that I don't possess a car, and the only one I have access to (on occasion) barely makes it to the store. I refuse, citing my reasons. She continues. Finally I agree. I borrow my boyfriends car, and drive halfway to nowhere. Surprise! Car dies on the way home. I immediately tell them I'm not doing it again, I was stranded with no ability to call anyone, even a tow truck, which I couldn't pay for. She insists I'm being unreasonable and it's the only fair thing to do, and that she will take me to court over it. I say go for it. After doing research, in my county, the parent receiving the child arranges transport. So I'm in the right anyway. At this point, the child support dries up. I haven't gotten a payment in over a month. I complain on social media, which starts an enormous shit fit from wifey. She insults me, being poor, and everything else she can think of. Somehow her and her mother got it into her head that I'm trying to steal her husband and so I'm not allowed to communicate with them except through her. I wind up pissing her off so bad by telling her she's nuts that she deletes the whole thing and blocks me. 

Next day I get a call from CPS, saying that I abuse my child, and since I don't have a car, I'm not taking her to the doctor, I'm letting her teeth rot out of her head, she's always dirty and there's skid marks in her underwear from never learning how to wipe. I say, come over tomorrow and I can prove none of that is true. 

They come over and she drops a bomb that in addition to all that, I'm also suicidal and ""crazy"" on social media. I explain what's going on, but basically because they made a mental health accusation I have to jump through hoops to be taken seriously. I have a meeting with this woman in about an hour and a half. I don't really know what to do. I feel blindsided, and I also feel that I'm pretty screwed because I can't afford a lawyer and wifey works for the county she lives in. Not mine, thank god. 

I did text them after the first meeting to tell them that they need to get a lawyer to get a visitation order in place. Because I'm not going to deal with CPS every time this woman decides she's mad her husbands philandering cost her money. And I never had to send my daughter with someone she didn't know. I did it to try and foster a relationship and show good faith. She seemed to be comfortable with them, but she's always been pretty adventurous. Now I'm scared, and I don't trust these people.

I need advice on how to a)deal with this meeting, and b) deal with the future fallout. 

TIA. ",4.411028538594137,5.219266317180622,5.449187575815618,82.36277197854818,70.11600587371511,7.977539424120541,27.13914958820149,8.112205042999317,1.6352649300900213,2666,84,533,35,46,881,312,681,0.091,0.8390000000000001,0.069,-0.8567,3,0,0,0,1,0,87.0,2,0,10,4,21,21,5,1,39,0,41,9,6,8,9,85,84,38,2,5,11,12,2,0,0,2,2,3,1,7,34,40,0,2,11,1,6,17,20,10,0,6,17,5,89,11,85,59,8,89,1,0,0,1,87,37,3,3,31,361,123,10,0.0,0.08961409556300062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781762478993735,0.06704510718019775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814537983796122,0.12586733727187713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05288515366538325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315135290926621,0.13831762069741851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937337027222767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544618395271219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303042398425523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368774428214094,0.0,0.04877776729832533,0.23392645121311695,0.0,0.0,0.07849630275422471,0.0,0.0,0.07741475361796303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318262406113596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435206609368405,0.04995564029995868,0.0,0.12745006064160153,0.0,0.06797509376487365,0.0,0.14260228370553704,0.0,0.07648579382908183,0.0,0.0,0.08285351028957406,0.0,0.06433436619402326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854715925211325,0.0,0.1289538849735071,0.06343833346779261,0.12098307219298005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232867363626664,0.08039556069097939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586721555723278,0.0,0.0744843987541548,0.08727164998036423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894239835554152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313309759108617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773410389486752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035901055972086,0.06693383939623586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156685797393518,0.0504863799553613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622143011626388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603704539744585,0.0,0.05559980009737422,0.11216352223008487,0.17500114894131605,0.07304792979020715,0.08043777262693451,0.07097752269279174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250330990236052,0.11504635291289154,0.0,0.0,0.08398276875399183,0.0,0.0,0.05243519380827878,0.0,0.07902158496250128,0.0,0.07149871535779463,0.0,0.0,0.15389423548064168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048453170834471065,0.07776449923233911,0.07467959488704305,0.16240553564637256,0.0,0.06459114767116639,0.0,0.18044192657936914,0.07572297491681391,0.0,0.0,0.0688544861598356,0.0,0.0,0.07763736427174545,0.12513069478066055,0.0,0.0,0.2312984619209584,0.06408456670691591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053534238028771934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273148011931994,0.1716574658026672,0.0,0.0,0.11373493044439922,0.0,0.19832273269441145,0.06963376013306656,0.0,0.0,0.10049593205171513,0.048463306967752466,0.0,0.0,0.17641151573463093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270124114627467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06532361831126528,0.0,0.062406091735383876,0.0,0.060034864842914676,0.060669149970077364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844428232783846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012511859058008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04870591044595225
parenting,BreAnnaHollahan130,2019/02/07,"Twin boys out of control! Hi, I’m new to Reddit! I’m a 32F mom that has two identical twin boys (who’s ages are 14) My husband and I got divorced when they where only 4. So he’s out of the picture and they have no father to look up to. I don’t know if this is what this is about but it’s out of control. 

Basically ever since my two twin boys have entered their teenage years, they won’t carry on conversations with me, they yell at me constantly, and they never come home on time. (They have a curfew). 

One of them has a girlfriend the other twin does not and the one that has a girlfriend has supposedly started being sexual with her. Yesterday I got a call from his girlfriends parents and they said they caught my son supposedly “fingering” his girlfriend in her bedroom. They told me that they leave the door open so that they can keep an eye on them but oh my gosh who at 14 does this? And who does it with the door open?? I immediately apologized to her parents and made my son as well and he’s no longer allowed over at her house anymore. Her parents won’t let her come over here either. 

So that happened...
I really don’t know how to deal with that one because he doesn’t have a dad in the picture to talk to about this kind of stuff. He knows about sex, masturbation, and safe sex. He knows everything, so does my other son. But I honestly don’t know why he thought it was a good idea to do in the first place (especially with the door open) 😳 I tried to talk to him about it but he acts like it’s nothing and pushed me away. He’s mad he can’t come over to her house anymore he cried. 

Anyways, I need to figure out how to deal with that on top of my other son who won’t get off the PlayStation. He literally sits there from the time he gets home from school to the time it’s time to go to bed. I now give him 1hour to play after school (has to do homework first) but unfortunately that doesn’t work. He’ll stretch it out as far as he can so that he can play longer. I told him many times that if you keep going past your time that I gave you, you won’t get to play it. He said “that’s not enough time to even do games mom” I said I’m sorry, you’re just going to have to play what you can within the time limit and if you go over it I’m taking it away. On the weekends he also sits in his room and plays from 9PM to 3AM in the morning and when he gets up in the morning at 8AM he’ll get on it and won’t get back off. I try to make him get out of the house and I’ve also tried to force him to get out the house and he always turns around and yells at me and says “you’re the worst mom ever”. 


So I don’t know what to do these days. I’m going to have to deal with the fingering problem in the video game problem at the same time, any advice?",1.986941783345614,3.119649813559324,3.312173913043477,94.16058953574064,76.28813559322035,6.418570375829034,21.300663227708174,6.800593979768761,0.13748784082534993,2130,50,515,19,46,695,221,590,0.052000000000000005,0.8809999999999999,0.067,0.8589,4,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,0,6,14,7,29,15,1,0,29,0,37,5,3,7,3,78,87,41,0,6,12,13,2,1,4,7,0,6,9,3,39,39,0,6,9,9,0,12,17,4,1,7,12,10,61,11,93,66,4,89,0,0,2,2,99,47,0,3,29,324,100,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334523902795718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367942025155807,0.05393874090880621,0.0,0.0,0.044082526536844066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285759307883699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770708205292072,0.0,0.0,0.12180851850988708,0.049845636139948434,0.0,0.03951609404858443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619252717291378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752034605303653,0.0,0.07005168883397225,0.14541120218555567,0.0,0.0,0.07120609365257524,0.041806101716942635,0.20049201829774496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22691159268693845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698049567002846,0.0,0.04281562472800541,0.11727399493096358,0.0,0.0,0.05825960968596008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027848161040008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709428152727877,0.06218506453052588,0.1842047969322302,0.054371275451939725,0.10369131065786988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573236278246979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004746655043312,0.0,0.0,0.2991926591285193,0.0,0.07317837841618237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523705656520104,0.0,0.06750419554216859,0.21375337124482055,0.0,0.0,0.06863923065978238,0.0,0.0662869073405364,0.0,0.03166972025073001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054435813440230366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133801339699783,0.04327050729537004,0.0657213370611044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277631714093786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04806615676567135,0.0499962465035696,0.06260739989069428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06220035321091321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317792112303745,0.04930155477006379,0.0,0.0,0.21593806158817744,0.0,0.061881820004763236,0.0,0.0,0.0677272577601102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405558057925938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152789888937458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498733693315164,0.051550627498259116,0.0,0.13121064884300698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536230627564169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256513382930016,0.04588274380583829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420794343206766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0487395624511415,0.10420611271751394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051462995974896536,0.3401944349544723,0.0,0.0,0.1238841739307584,0.0,0.13203367348360026,0.07050987113150492,0.12664721037034832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05828453940178265,0.0,0.05849355554651206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04719262652214737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041744515157209484
parenting,kellbellandbluebert,2019/02/07,"Tall, skinny 7 y/o girl needs pants. Hello, I’m not a parent but an aunt. After talking with my best friend about her kids she mentioned she’s having trouble finding pants for her 7 year old. She’s 50” and her size 7 pants are cinched all the way just to make them mostly fit. She’s basically a 6 in the waist and an 8 in the length. 

Are there clothing brands that make long sizes for girls pants? 

Thank you! ",0.44094117647058795,2.7158997411764716,1.468529411764706,99.6733823529412,86.88235294117645,3.8705882352941177,16.735294117647058,4.935628992294339,-0.9663882352941178,318,7,73,1,10,99,64,85,0.04,0.769,0.191,0.9365,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,1,3,4,0,0,7,0,3,2,2,2,1,12,8,3,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,3,8,8,3,9,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,4,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323536138797077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817756585858197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381876258001469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728309996016256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41157804882363613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22859652281200346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32350329833101826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423246440835772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24779550338412276,0.0,0.2838362262570698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24470988566901214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985316000597406
parenting,queenphyllis,2019/02/07,"Nanny Plum A while ago I posted about Daddy Pig being my favorite character from Peppa Pig, I love the show overall. Some redditors here suggested give Ben and Hollis Little Kigdom a try and we did! 

My husband and I also join and watch here and there and while he loves the music of the show I’m in love with nanny plum hahaha

Our kids love it too :)",2.9741904761904756,4.846555942857143,4.46857142857143,83.80476190476192,75.28571428571428,6.9523809523809526,20.238095238095237,7.793537801064563,0.8639523809523806,276,6,52,4,6,92,50,70,0.0,0.6679999999999999,0.332,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,9,8,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,4,5,6,1,6,0,0,1,4,11,2,0,1,3,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103340677451303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897524275132645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276202340079917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23781651624406944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8566164893428535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272482871634516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109728749266344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2Ei8ht,2019/02/07,"I scared my nephew into not taking his spelling test at all. Not sure if this is the right sub for this, but I am hoping you can give me some insight into your parenting tricks. 

​

I started tutoring my 7-year-old nephew as his parents are quite busy people. He is in second grade. Every week they are given a set of 10 words to learn and are tested on it every Wednesday.  The first week he got 5 words correct. I felt that he would have been able to score higher if we had started learning earlier in the week. 

​

When I was his age, my mother made sure that I learned every single one of these words perfectly, and made sure that I scored 10/10 every week. She told me that I'd come home and cry even if I got one wrong, thinking that I didn't pass.  I was also the top of my class.  She had various tricks to help me learn the spellings, for example by quizzing me before bed. One of the ways that she would make me study was to scare me into studying by telling me I won't pass if I don't. I also remember being afraid of being yelled at if I got it wrong. I also remember feeling great shame if I didn't get the perfect score. I'll admit that sometimes I think that my anxiety of failure as an adult may stem from that.  

​

I fucked up. I figured that it couldn't hurt if I scared him a little as well. I told him he needs to get 10/10 to pass. On Tuesday, when I quizzed him he got all about 7 of the words correct and only made small mistakes on the rest, like forgetting a letter. On Wednesday, he refused to take the test. Apparently, he said that he'd rather fail as a whole than get a few words correct. My heart broke when I found out about this. 

​

 He is a smart boy, but he also has ADHD which makes things a bit complicated. I think he's also a very anxious boy, kind of like I was. What can I do? I'm really sad I did this to him.  ",2.813333333333333,4.118378847545223,3.77174935400517,90.99731395348834,74.4780361757106,6.503669250645998,24.011111111111113,6.88968998030894,0.677564754521963,1462,43,319,13,30,470,192,387,0.179,0.7240000000000001,0.097,-0.9876,3,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,1,2,1,6,13,27,3,5,19,0,31,2,1,5,10,67,64,25,0,14,12,5,2,2,0,4,0,2,2,3,22,10,0,1,15,0,0,4,7,15,1,5,23,4,55,12,41,33,9,37,0,4,0,1,42,17,1,10,16,206,77,11,0.06893837808830837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285053370495461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27564998025235105,0.0,0.2987788154261279,0.3350707002351839,0.0,0.0,0.052737670544917334,0.0778807447106134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866148220168318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526285398904776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938430850191485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572557123315687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04553314855399918,0.0,0.2323342273090651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03485731532794523,0.0,0.06619165394612034,0.0,0.0,0.058638949184728326,0.0,0.07558737329922942,0.0,0.06373241968441605,0.10805237167354527,0.06613197399538134,0.0,0.0,0.2205452743916376,0.0760048052162141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169230995999455,0.046207941673950176,0.0,0.06915081411434967,0.06847136444852384,0.0,0.0,0.07379995956098337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178871225553553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735961864393253,0.06909436560623518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195693480622218,0.09203380537844948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051116933837463685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233923112027152,0.0,0.14014328739565746,0.05243074301844992,0.0,0.0,0.1530958211201162,0.0,0.0,0.04779319121512833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332445088960594,0.0,0.0,0.0441636902714286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618748728080162,0.058872998214516935,0.0655761842917159,0.0,0.20705802859107145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818181867910032,0.0,0.0975898776695788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949208164881138,0.0,0.1036661616707949,0.0,0.06025518103119429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04579959515789789,0.13251878720785182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317471491053373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0568813817338677,0.0,0.05472007570912784,0.22119283441430915,0.0,0.061983881067766,0.0,0.0,0.07696723720418346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794369171047808,0.1507465886233378,0.3350707002351839,0.044394055255361387
parenting,highfashionlowbudget,2019/02/07,"My friends 5 year old girl is really attached to me (34f) and never wants to leave when I have her over. Please help! I don’t have children myself, but I love them, and always offer to babysit for any of my friends with kids. 

My friend “Dale” has two bio children, a boy (8) and a girl (5). They do have a bio mom but she’s not in the picture. The kids also have a “step mom” of sorts, but their household is just very unstable in general. 

The 5yr old girl, “grace”, is really attached to me. I always have her over to play, and we have had a sleep over. I give her a lot of attention and we play with my purses and shoes and anything she likes. She is a doll and well behaved.

Except when it’s time to leave to go back to her house. She always cries, hides, throws a fit etc. I feel awful when she does this and I don’t know how to address it. 

Her dad gets very frustrated when she does this and I think he is reluctant to send her to me because of the outbursts. 

I’m not trying to be her mom, but I do try to provide as much stability and attention as I can, as she doesn’t have a strong maternal figure.  

Will this behaviour get better in time? Is there anything I can do/say to calm this? Has anyone been in this situation who can give advice?

I don’t want to cause the family stress, I just feel like Grace benefits from one on one girl time with me. And of course, I would take her full time without a second thought, but that’s not my place. 

Is this just normal behaviour, not wanting to leave if you are having fun? I’m not a mom so I am no expert on typical behaviour. ",1.5505900848967609,3.198310708206688,3.145121056493032,92.72000000000004,78.69604863221885,6.6048003353946125,21.37522272298501,7.503015589744147,0.5595451420186563,1209,33,278,17,29,399,160,329,0.077,0.7240000000000001,0.199,0.9911,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,2,1,3,2,13,18,1,1,16,1,33,3,2,2,1,52,50,28,0,6,16,5,2,2,3,2,0,0,1,9,10,17,0,0,8,2,0,4,12,2,1,4,3,2,46,16,40,44,4,29,0,0,0,1,46,12,0,3,15,191,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575618341429723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783637865626692,0.24461039441276866,0.0,0.0,0.06663759678236696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851795219240281,0.0,0.161277350125513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534943351484814,0.0,0.059734723676121176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666554002814852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100664288442346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763908809314517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150608649981672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928645246086498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237768806805112,0.0,0.09909491798280147,0.07000516452465314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271240257387432,0.0,0.10239305396967807,0.18800479834599412,0.05569084146340096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568165315162969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306906242423932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053853579044064216,0.0,0.0,0.31127662605741696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574741803941957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330888973205917,0.08844117650646903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4590659556250225,0.0,0.0,0.07203504539446311,0.0,0.07557710450992701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601088822295524,0.0,0.0,0.2056512415646438,0.0,0.1328031857842592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238028643892608,0.10756526735603704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555175933920798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792679319856699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014657897368034,0.09806229258605688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224895998295896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367743106225058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278901203374508,0.0,0.07779432451816186,0.2285585833365313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330596253059008,0.0,0.09572348049535216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170654006584134,0.1733938196780648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810614863591774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944603325693967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961036733372225,0.0,0.0,0.06310332885744531
parenting,byrnsie,2019/02/07,"22 Month Old Figured Out How To Climb Out Of Crib, Not Ready For This... So I get home last night and my wife was a little frazzled. She said she has a story to tell me and low and behold our little 22 month old son has figured out how to climb out of his crib. She caught him in the act on the monitor and ran to his room, he's standing there just smiling. So obviously we need to baby proof everything now that hasn't been already. 

Besides the obvious like door knobs, cabinets, drawers and anything within reach is there something that anyone forgot about and their little one got into? 

My wife went a little crazy and bought some socket protectors that have a hinged cover ($18 a pop and she got 10...), special knobs for our gas stove, 2 locks for our French doors, 2 6pack of knob handle covers, 3 sleep sacks to try to get more time in the crib, and rest of kit for our 4 in 1 Graco crib to make a toddler bed.

How would you suggest the transition into a toddler bed from the crib?",6.7209547738693445,5.434033281407036,6.698638190954775,82.48072110552766,65.4321608040201,9.367035175879398,30.452763819095484,7.908726449838941,1.856048844221105,769,21,161,7,10,245,126,199,0.033,0.917,0.05,0.5176,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,5,1,1,2,10,3,0,0,13,0,8,1,1,4,3,31,20,14,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,0,4,16,0,1,2,0,1,6,2,1,0,1,10,1,18,2,29,9,3,32,0,1,0,0,21,17,0,1,9,95,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754951402786244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11119847523590072,0.0,0.13086931855234304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429271970825152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617471935242625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25438392866049714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952149338047225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963184309148154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769472490844782,0.6375650974958377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061547160614804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538747442707373,0.0,0.0,0.11791979208370434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924022627216446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3337534727853976,0.0,0.10776381439576267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127531009409814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591462830512813,0.0,0.0,0.12243016627490147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13900048155777542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273250716006458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079719035379826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742373115138482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129713667796851,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mallow-cups-fo-life,2019/02/07,"3 year old with poop anxiety? My son is 3 and took a looong time to get the hang of potty training, but he’s got peeing down pat now. He’s even wearing underpants at night with no accidents. 

But he won’t poop in the toilet. He has extreme anxiety about it. He says he doesn’t know how. Until now, I would let him use the leftover pull ups to ease him into it. Now the pull ups are gone, and I’m not buying anymore. He just went to look for one, so I know he has to poop. It was a huge fight to get him to sit on the toilet, and it’s a huge fight now that he’s actually sitting on the toilet. I’m trying not to yell and make it an unpleasant experience and give him a complex about pooping, but when he’s just whining and being argumentative, it’s hard. 

So anyway. How do I give this kid the confidence to poop on the toilet? He’s currently sitting on the toilet doing nothing, except occasionally whining that he doesn’t want to. I told him too bad, he has to. Other than that, I don’t know what to do. He *will* hold it for days if we don’t figure this out soon. ",1.599278924182702,3.0145228810572715,3.832469278924184,88.8652492464642,77.89867841409692,6.7172733596104806,22.079527011360998,7.475848149327749,0.6806176211453745,822,23,187,11,19,284,118,227,0.14800000000000002,0.7879999999999999,0.064,-0.9566,1,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,1,0,0,0,17,5,2,0,14,0,18,7,7,4,0,32,36,16,0,3,9,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,14,11,0,1,5,0,1,6,8,5,0,1,6,4,12,0,32,25,0,35,0,2,1,0,28,13,0,1,13,119,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.18532351923338605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905593069727953,0.0,0.1883384234719252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856585142455293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247541574224592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543292063754613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576717196950915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19843893941360294,0.3643555040315072,0.0,0.0,0.15188735447838042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701209141609863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131066032749273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941945362370336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947549779934675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676554743755475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17821647200430218,0.0,0.1822225418289552,0.0,0.1992772589694586,0.0,0.12868706575340624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102303910972428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107373037349973,0.0,0.0,0.18146592342889167,0.2109955791835041,0.12893555715358146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640201623319213,0.0,0.0,0.1120130853406588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17604728907068748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490570825229764,0.0,0.0,0.12229499137360893
parenting,concernedlost-mumma,2019/02/07,"Teens moving schools A little about us.
I was a single Mumma bear for 10+ years til I met the most amazing man and fell in love.
For all that time it was just me and my son,  I worked a lot, he became very independent and a free spirit.
Fast forward, We got a place together and have lived with my partner for a year now. Myself & my 15 year old, He and his youngest son, 18. 
It’s been a year and my son still travels 1 hour each way to school to where we used to live..
As he is approaching the most important years of his school, I really want him to move to a school closer to home. Our new home...
I don’t know how to convince him that while studying his ATARS he would be better at a closer school.

For context - the school he goes to is not highly rated... there are much better schools in our new area. 
He has a girlfriend at the current school but not a lot of friends 
He hasn’t in one whole year had a friend visit him at his new house.


How can I get him to make the change to better his future?   ",2.788176100628931,3.5172892641509463,3.7257735849056637,93.52362893081758,73.81132075471697,6.596729559748429,22.15220125786164,6.42735559955562,0.17724427672955922,772,17,182,5,15,248,124,212,0.016,0.861,0.122,0.9504,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,0,4,8,9,0,0,17,0,14,1,0,5,1,27,22,12,0,2,4,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,2,4,10,0,0,1,1,1,7,4,0,0,1,6,0,26,10,26,14,9,40,1,0,0,1,32,14,0,4,20,114,30,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403627054492576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302744944801293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181166943288993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341065387549882,0.0,0.04534387549631614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941340556731886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169775827517117,0.17411367416219306,0.0,0.08547006924924236,0.10014330641154966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047697180395228835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698577170554984,0.1532732473169427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757047582018512,0.07833081524152258,0.0,0.057932593443772586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448677839043115,0.06380018962429403,0.0,0.0,0.2514652083702777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910708679119141,0.0,0.05881073850477051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906764430122104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055599507223472185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7026839896308664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931012098407294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050607592725455335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439695311631382,0.07495816941616222,0.0,0.07161033815689229,0.05119063234921619,0.06888938007580549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689725733071687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631837114177744,0.0,0.0,0.06165269434326761,0.0,0.0,0.3353371397199384
parenting,Fabrydad,2019/02/07,"Struggling to help my wife care for our baby and it's causing a strain on our marriage. How can I help? I have a chronic pain condition. I am on a daily medication but that only helps so much, especially during this time of year since my pain is made worse by the extreme temperatures. It also causes extreme fatigue and hearing loss. I can hear when the baby is crying but if he's in the other room I can't hear his whimpering like my wife can. I am so tired by the time I get home from work and am often in pain as well. I'll try to take our son of her hands but it's not unusual for me to accidentally fall asleep while watching him. I can't sleep through the night and the extreme fatigue when I get home makes it hard for me to care for him. 

When dealing with a severe pain episode it can be hard to get up and do much of anything. The pain can become crippling. I was prescribed a medication for that but don't want to take it because of potential addiction issues. I'd rather be in pain than be an addict. 

I'm struggling with how to help my wife though. I know she's getting frustrated and I wish there was more I could do but I don't know how to help when my hands and feet feel like they are on fire. ",2.554685039370078,3.8842066338582697,3.950401574803152,89.36024803149607,75.18110236220473,6.812283464566928,24.90472440944881,7.365786028017652,0.9529675590551184,951,31,211,11,20,314,130,254,0.241,0.6459999999999999,0.113,-0.9898,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,1,2,15,18,1,3,13,0,24,19,5,7,0,31,43,26,0,5,8,4,6,2,0,0,14,3,3,0,10,9,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,13,1,0,3,10,30,5,32,36,3,18,0,3,1,0,24,8,0,2,11,142,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487242590356554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714762880719582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355123356522875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448455855254974,0.09871199228758967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822555264669284,0.1836335377568753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136179283390016,0.0,0.0981785440165753,0.0,0.09214573937757962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04519266624859567,0.06385231655552227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867871817616004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601319086301239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022096078176503,0.0,0.2995440220307557,0.0,0.17930868362561886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328836854901484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824063124824056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733204882153991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457249287636834,0.05966112150240654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800797125825077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140757693666644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387605942550412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797669436403986,0.5706328197241443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009727361325824,0.0,0.07393516421250915,0.0,0.08944346593400387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868765017308432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344036453061333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878143326900176,0.0,0.10423513117768952,0.10272791755227492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06068241802931223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05271800129810875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036238085273455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278134419688564,0.0,0.0,0.06506891647320237,0.0,0.09108475283664448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057557092498423584
parenting,GuybrushThreepweird,2019/02/07,"Amazon prime video search suggestions. Any way to make that PG? My child is watching that lego movie series ""Masters of SpinJitzu""

But she learned how to use the search button and now upon writing he word ""masters"" all sorts of  adult stuff come up as suggestions.

Amazon has parental controls for watching movies but not for suggestions. Is there a way to change that? Anyone encountered this issue before?",4.947428571428574,8.285096528571433,3.4996428571428595,85.55660714285716,76.57142857142857,5.7857142857142865,27.32142857142857,7.1686216300943375,1.7200000000000002,327,13,51,4,8,93,55,70,0.0,0.954,0.046,0.3049,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,4,1,14,6,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,10,6,1,6,0,0,2,0,9,2,0,1,1,30,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518177032143325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006893383533794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24423078778868496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036265015066557,0.24724019754299384,0.0,0.0,0.3219145781426948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995717435982933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915864375322951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186990133557238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285664164207561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24789100208888504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556423294027614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Unique855,2019/02/07,"Has any non religious parents sent their children to a religious school Hello i am non religious and have a 3 year old son that is going to a religuous school. I would like the 3 year old child to not be religiously indoctrinated. The house in which the child and I live is full of religious family members including in relation to the child religous grandmother, religious grandfather, religuous brother, religuos aunt, religious nephew and  religous mother. The child is going to a baptist christian school. I have read on the internet about non religous parents sending their child to a religuos school and i have understood that to avoid religious indoctrinatjon it is to be understood  what the child is religously being taught and have the child question with a rational mind for example the existence of god by saying can you see god? No right so we cant prove he exists, stuff like that. So as to avoid the internalization of xoncepts that there ia all seeung god  and that whenever you break his rules set in the bible you will be punished by going to hell which is like phsychological torture.

Worse is that whenever i to speak with my 3 year old son and mention even the possibility that god doesnt exist my parents tell me to be quiet

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parenting,Dirty_Foot,2019/02/07,"What are some catchy phrases you use with your kids? For example, when my kids aren't happy with what they are given... say I only have blue suckers / lollipops, and when they get them, they start whining about wanting a red one... ""You get what you get, and you don't pitch a fit"".",6.06284848484848,5.463310072727275,5.505454545454544,88.2448484848485,66.45454545454545,8.06060606060606,29.24242424242424,6.42735559955562,1.2221515151515143,214,6,46,1,3,65,38,55,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.8019,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,5,4,0,3,3,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,12,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,3,11,1,4,11,1,4,0,1,2,0,12,1,0,1,3,31,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5986581168366456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40659205217181804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258818679683277,0.2904895967911102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30374135392157803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703456272320421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32988149669626743,0.0,0.0,0.2252835487808313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spicyyx,2019/02/07,My (15f) mum (41) is trying to make me keep my baby and says she’ll look after him. I don’t want this though I found out I was pregnant at 20 weeks which is why I haven’t opted for an abortion. My mum was mad at me at first but now she wants me to keep the baby. I’ve said I want to put him up for adoption. I’m not ready to be a parent and I feel like my mum looking after him will just make me feel guilty and like I need to do more for him. It also means if something happened to my mum I’d have to end up looking after him. She’s literally begging me not to give him away though. She says it would be better for him and for me. Has anyone else been In a position like this. How do I make her see that giving him up is a better option? ,0.4693156544054773,1.6117342934131749,2.7699272882805843,96.44965568862278,80.31736526946108,5.250470487596236,17.91659538066724,5.288315135182226,-0.6722195038494441,565,10,143,2,14,194,90,167,0.05,0.8140000000000001,0.136,0.9285,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,3,6,6,1,0,5,0,17,0,0,4,0,26,39,10,0,6,5,5,2,3,0,3,0,3,0,0,6,5,0,2,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,5,9,32,5,25,29,1,17,0,0,4,0,23,9,0,2,10,100,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387589028496528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956822084104754,0.14590391339339112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378791524827813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518794958903668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895552966794012,0.0,0.1261226512496956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144001744976714,0.10172939293094324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112394380860515,0.0,0.1561324151170214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732029005818146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259223698794435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531403508688884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20870588858680333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35873619106966537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851559661147873,0.0,0.0,0.15511352309926027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558655480493538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811648991413566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431496488519193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545341742585545,0.22648172942593786,0.0,0.0,0.1134730298769252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962518872138216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798112656546609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966791164473385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519706672157753,0.0,0.11422334821376033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849234105727994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115568556468033,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway000000456,2019/02/07,"3 Year Old Niece Hates Me Hi everyone, I apologize if this is the wrong sub but I'm at my wit's end. 

I have been in my niece's life ever since she was born. I was in the hospital room when she was delivered, even. I was over the moon in love with her from the day she was born. I was so excited to spend all this time with her and have a relationship with her like I had with many of my aunts and uncles. 

Well, it seems like from the moment she was born, she has hated me. And only me. As a baby, she didnt smile often and hardly ever at me. And it only got worse as she grew. She has always been slow-to-warm with people but I have no idea how I became public enemy number 1. She loves her parents, loves my mom, loves her baby brother, and loves my husband. She gets excited to see them and happily plays with them all the time. But whenever I'm around (which is a lot, I nanny for my nephew full-time) it's like she just despises me. She scowls at me whenever I say anything. If I talk to her or try to play with her, she yells at me or just glares at me. Sometimes she just yells at me for no reason or tells me ""stop looking at me!!"" Even when I wasnt. 

I know 3 year olds aren't rational and it's silly to feel this way but it's really starting to get to me. She screamed in my face this morning because I calmly and kindly explained that she cant play roughly with her brother and I had to wait until she went to preschool so I could burst into tears. We all thought this was some sort of phase that she would just grow out of but she hasn't and I'm afraid shes going to hate me for the rest of her life. Or at least she will always associate me with negative feelings and emotions. I've tried everything to get it to stop. Ive tried being overly kind and sweet to her, tried ignoring the behavior completely and nothing works. At this point, even her parents are becoming fed up with it. 

I have to mention that if I take her somewhere one-on-one or just with my husband, she is a completely different child. Shes sweet and she listens and everything just goes smoothly. But if we are at her house or if we are with anyone else, she goes right back to despising me. I dont know what to do at this point and I dont want to let her see how much its affecting me. If anyone has gone through something similar or has some advice, I'd really appreciate it. I just want to have a good relationship with my niece. I love her and she means the world to me. ",1.7869813969813997,3.3211181737451767,3.4210547560547586,91.50382853632857,77.68725868725869,7.025693225693227,22.004387504387502,7.84624498591911,0.7887474903474905,1906,53,436,30,44,633,220,518,0.109,0.722,0.16899999999999998,0.9906,3,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,3,0,2,1,22,31,5,1,14,0,43,10,1,4,5,94,80,46,0,10,26,9,5,3,0,2,2,5,1,1,21,37,1,4,10,3,1,5,10,9,1,0,19,15,95,22,66,56,9,53,0,0,3,6,73,26,0,19,24,306,116,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872249272102153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406507588362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126591265524556,0.08254344259965006,0.06629417844689127,0.07171565561316261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194581926622689,0.0,0.04910874872111458,0.08897240895026001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16893166891265127,0.0,0.0,0.06432076253656713,0.0,0.0,0.05195466286982983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416826012262604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883190320029525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729770783174446,0.09061937918807557,0.07135242353558757,0.0,0.0,0.15962775219028605,0.14574262176583375,0.0,0.07697872113332524,0.14480462209348938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814673129341385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626813473135393,0.0,0.04578421680364882,0.06757007158989349,0.06443134933072639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216611340958752,0.2386095500871444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092955651805311,0.0,0.09094265726365916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677820977157075,0.08854755553392933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237826016113604,0.11380410001869083,0.11807292987628724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765027637546855,0.0,0.0,0.06848939913523333,0.43625234165689736,0.0,0.0,0.08167539593820429,0.0,0.08775367221201097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435112976934862,0.0,0.0,0.0592210146073698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729968231282545,0.0,0.1690687513838871,0.0,0.05458967480458736,0.1225393209048738,0.0,0.0,0.17890513154497448,0.0,0.0,0.05585029753743656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523108521684091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321785088206134,0.08282930040949273,0.0,0.17298300680915146,0.0,0.06879796857258078,0.0,0.06406470257701177,0.0,0.0,0.12839209463834186,0.07333897826095129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664022793659105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06201917592368768,0.07967609534024872,0.0,0.057020922498713066,0.0,0.0,0.1347038648723501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057124275105126,0.06475123526071087,0.07041316353236256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395579822893603,0.09395059813103727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187803442266612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503298356840814,0.0639449350822689,0.0,0.0,0.0724332925285813,0.07468011026853053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864878331639066,0.0,0.08209772379940253,0.057227652986411616,0.08807992951830723,0.0,0.10375625196253913
parenting,ApprehensiveSwing2,2019/02/07,"Future stepson and I are different races - people don't leave us alone I'll start with saying that yes, while this is a throwaway because I'm going to share identifying information I don't want on my main account, I hope to use it often with my new life.

Okay, I am 34/m from the US and my girlfriend is 29/f from South America.  We've been together for a year and a half, and during that time she was without her four year-old son because of immigration reasons.  However, she is the happiest I have ever seen her in our relationship as about a month ago her mom was able to bring her son to this country to reunite them. 

It has been a huge change, literally overnight going from us having a ""young and in love"" sort of freedom to this immediate blended family.  But all that is for another post. 

Here is my concern right now that I don't know how to deal with: I am white, light-skinned, blonde hair and blue eyes.  My girlfriend's son is Hispanic with dark skin, black hair and brown eyes.  My point is that we look nothing alike.  He is really comfortable with me and we go out and do things together like go to the park, toy stores, to get a snack, etc.  Or sometimes we just walk around the streets - we live in Manhattan so there's always something going on or to see.  These times are a lot of fun and I do truly enjoy them, but every time there are multiple people just STARING at us.  (For those not so familiar with NYC, it's obviously a huge city and people keep to themselves, but people can also be very nosy and up in your face.)  Sometimes it seems like a look of concern, sometimes a look of confusion, i.e., ""what's my relationship with the kid? Is there something not right here?"".  The same thing has also happened with attendants in stores and waitstaff in restaurants.  He does like to hug me a lot and almost always holds my hand walking on the street, but this is all normal behavior for a (future) stepchild, right? Perhaps I'm reading into this too much, but I just know that this doesn't happen when my girlfriend and I go out with him in any way shape or form.  

Can anyone lend some advice here? Has anyone been through anything similar? Do I just not pay attention to these people? Especially because every detail of my relationship and spending time with him is on the up-and-up. I'm not the type to start trouble, i.e., ""Wtf are you looking at?"", but I'm also waiting for someone to say something to me, as I don't know how I will react. ",5.649822231741272,5.832575612836442,6.101376454629829,80.98341614906833,67.19875776397515,9.063725280217033,31.14792603698151,8.841846274778883,2.35827484829014,1923,70,383,29,29,622,239,483,0.027000000000000003,0.8690000000000001,0.104,0.9811,2,1,3,0,0,0,73.0,9,2,2,0,24,13,0,1,22,2,39,11,7,5,4,81,71,36,0,3,18,5,4,3,3,1,1,2,0,1,22,34,1,3,7,2,5,10,10,2,0,2,6,20,47,11,63,63,10,57,0,0,14,2,41,28,0,12,20,257,69,3,0.07750766043311877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757395887352921,0.06870586442933346,0.0,0.0776127259654153,0.08027456112135549,0.0,0.185948544136856,0.12898516497915266,0.0,0.0,0.05270786694544806,0.0812735399815323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839031663540916,0.0,0.06378220045578932,0.06899825036374045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174385119980318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199282758922348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990699455659665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097900848800843,0.0,0.0,0.06782747595992879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644152960767536,0.0,0.07011011625905895,0.13060709358577202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306732425121522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04049455356559286,0.0,0.2642963375332621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707953629605496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698259535886237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889236985483509,0.0,0.0,0.12778854952082278,0.0,0.0,0.08206942117598358,0.0,0.0,0.05474595273774915,0.11359898347341026,0.0,0.06844068416861004,0.0,0.2603476558428953,0.0,0.0,0.1317884824001425,0.06995368964199129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907760351385874,0.06186587509150175,0.0,0.05697704856405252,0.0,0.0,0.0748573814271086,0.0,0.0,0.07594105078994809,0.07437069057873913,0.0,0.08133125143270231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686702630987428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326979179914035,0.0,0.07423091359869269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752863510678983,0.0,0.04965339197052925,0.07969078380786232,0.0,0.24964266261897955,0.0,0.19857335554566533,0.0,0.12327440501222778,0.0,0.0,0.061763570414570874,0.07056006307416761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567198916311666,0.1790075510492885,0.2299711741023,0.0,0.1097206419686008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298529115162616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807813603945831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729286889380869,0.0669417329987193,0.0,0.06395193711618412,0.04571602627769029,0.06152197316717733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471461879021396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982478426092303
parenting,aliceinhfx,2019/02/07,"How to respond to your 11 year old. My 11 year old son has been very mouthy, back talking ignorant to his 8 year old sister and any other adult in my house hold.
When I go to punish him for his attitude, like take his tablet, xbox or earlier bed times no friends over even tell him he will get a smack on the bum.  
His response is "" DO IT,  I DONT CARE, WHY DO YOU JUST KILL ME"" 
I am concerned, .. I have sat down with him alone and had talk to him. Telling him every one loves you there is no need to talk like that. We dont want you dead. We love you, please do talk like that. We just want you to listen ect 
I have cried in front of him trying to figure out why he was saying things like that... 

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parenting,hammerrrrrrr,2019/02/07,"I need a pep talk please hahahaha My three year old has never really slept in her crib. She likes to be up against me and wakes up pretty quickly after I get out of bed. I start my day at 4 am. It is just to early for her to get up! I want the time to myself as I stay at home with her! It doesn’t matter what time she falls asleep- she is up right after I am! I ordered a clock for her room that is red when she has to stay in her room, and turns green when she can get out of her room. It has great reviews! So we’re starting her big girl crib training in two days when our clock arrives.

Any experiences to share crib training a child of this age?? I want all the tips imaginable ahhaha Thanks!!! ",1.2010307692307691,2.6848316466666664,2.7553333333333363,95.85946153846157,79.2,5.948717948717951,19.53846153846154,6.67199483983844,-0.11896923076923073,537,12,131,5,13,176,92,150,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.9624,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,5,0,11,3,3,0,2,13,22,7,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,25,4,27,20,1,39,0,0,2,0,17,16,0,0,20,86,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094292871075888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24836205303346304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835419311278684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018036441999118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122908256031735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931467803608708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407187488709444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277592128271094,0.1485090682416028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020524235847278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136583273186565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958960526023278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233546516267413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443956880278565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725806038453993,0.4104726518856583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476714540613082,0.0,0.1772773190018671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22455889564722994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094428281296608,0.18809671248176424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22714599230564225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399808953162154
parenting,RachyRachington,2019/02/07,"Really struggling today Just need to get it out. Daughter is 18 months old. She has been ill so won’t eat much. Just shouted at her for doing the sign for food then not eating it ffs that’s not right. I never shout at her so she crying more cos I gave her a shock. 

She’s just walking around crying. Been like that before I shouted. I can’t make even make a cup of tea and she’s whining. I try and play with her, whine, read to her, whine. Cuddle her whine, leave her be and whine, pushing boundaries all the while like trying to open draws and drag things off the table and pull hankies out the box. The dog is in the corner shaking cos she can feel my stress levels. I spent all morning getting ready to go out to meet friends at the library. My anxiety was through the roof. She was moaning so much so I put her to bed. It was clearly what she needed as she’s been up since 5 but now I’ve missed meeting people and venting. Husband is away. 

I feel like caving in and calling my dad to at least take the dog but I’m embarrassed. I want to tell someone I’m so close to screaming and literally pulling my hair out and punching the walls. I shouldn’t be this way. ",0.5995880260818041,2.8904035394190863,1.8190678719620657,97.35103215767636,86.21991701244812,4.106757557794904,20.225400118553644,5.288315135182226,-0.3215288678126855,907,28,200,4,28,287,141,241,0.15,0.778,0.07200000000000001,-0.9214,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,12,17,0,4,12,0,17,7,1,4,4,39,33,19,0,4,7,3,3,3,1,2,1,4,1,0,8,17,4,0,2,2,1,7,6,12,0,0,8,7,30,5,29,21,6,35,0,6,0,1,25,20,0,0,10,128,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644469858029766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550436645484945,0.0,0.0,0.14301178938790798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12952446595893155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542938820551785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344038986157171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115096037075926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005371246776342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392980140159634,0.10874302428138803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405999415940524,0.0,0.11760157798594514,0.0,0.15905298458585898,0.0,0.08650776791436371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117459302434686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22309490754230324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032105061857757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149722877399555,0.0,0.2237923085712455,0.22573222865362744,0.11739823721070974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597249153459686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055272955314957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301895836086846,0.0,0.0,0.15225702864743254,0.0,0.09751336281472818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129991493002501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591451322237046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897198462954546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436272686265694,0.1591290423086492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444736583928918,0.0,0.1330433506178991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112543838504952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428281523179964,0.0,0.0,0.2066891230634338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978084436829553,0.12082184625150373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allon2,2019/02/07,"Mr. CEO and part time donkey: https://youtu.be/bahhOqm7Alk [https://youtu.be/bahhOqm7Alk](https://youtu.be/bahhOqm7Alk)

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My daughter enjoys me as her donkey rather than being in the stroller. It's the simple things, I guess.  
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parenting,WhichNumber,2019/02/07,"Please help my Mum. 14 year old brother refuses to go to School, getting desperate. I never thought I would have to do something like this. Please help.

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My 14 year old brother, who is not a bad kid or trying to be difficult suffers with some mental health issues. As a result, he refuses to go to school. Sometimes he will go mon-wed but will consistently refuse to go the rest of the week. His attendance is near reaching 50% which is terrible. We live in the UK so my Mum is going to end up in some serious trouble and very soon. My brother will pull a sicky (he's always ill at night, he's never sick on the weekends or holidays), he will give reasons that make no sense and will flat out refuse and act rude the rest. My brother was recently living in New Zealand with my Dad and they were having the same problem up until the point social workers had to get involved, I am scared it will be the same situation here.

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My Mum works so hard for her kids (3 boys, 2 of us university students now), she sometimes has to wake up at 4am to go into work and will return at 4pm and then have to back in later. She rarely has time for herself, let alone time to worry and stress about problems such as this. My Mum has gone through all the classic advice of being reassuring and loving (she is always loving), making him food before he goes to school, or playing music for him, talking to him, all the advice you can find on the internet. However none of it works, it has gradually deteriorated to desperate calls for him to get up or the threats of removing any electronic devices for a period of time, which to him is a big thing. In my breaks from Uni I have tried to help my Mum, thinking I could, offering food, waking him up nicely, just being myself, however there is no speaking to him as soon as he gets it in his head he's not going, theres no other option we have and to do the classic covering him in water will just get us nowhere. 

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I am writing this post as my brother lies upstairs in bed after refusing to go to school. We could really use some help. I worry for my Mum, my brother does not understand the damage that this has the potential to cause and I worry it'll take this damage to get him to understand. Does anyone else have issues similar to this?

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Thank you for time.

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parenting,me1983Aus,2019/02/07,"Our anxious 6.5yo son can't go to sleep alone. Every night we have to sit with him or it takes hours. How is everyone else handling anxious kids who wont sleep alone?. The title pretty much says it all. Our 6.5yo oldest son can't/won't go to bed himself. We need help!

Im looking for advice/tips & tricks from more experienced parents. Im even wondering if this is common in children or even developmentally normal?  I've heard of other kids taking themselves to bed and drifting off to sleep but this would be a dream if it happened for us! 

Our son is now 6.5yo and has not been able to put himself to bed since toddlerhood. 
When he was younger he could self settle (with a dummy & teddies) in the cot and later was fine going into his toddler bed for about a year. We followed the save our sleep method as a baby and he was that toddler that grabbed his teddy and took himself for a nap. It was great and we considered ourselves very lucky. 

Im not sure if its relevant or not by when he was about 2y2m old. he had to go under general anesthetic for a lung biopsy. Sortly after this. within day/week we moved interstate. 
He was awake when my husband left the hospital room. The peadatrician wouldn't let him stay and from memory only one of us could go in and my husband was obviously stronger than i was. Im wondering did this cause anxiety/seperation issues ? 

After this hospital admission we had issues getting him to sleep alone in the same toddler bed and over the last 4 years and 4 different houses we still can't figure it out. We've tried 3 different beds including bunks, sleep training, new bed, bedding, bed tent, lights, music and rewards, a later bedtime and sleeping with his younger brother and just recently we switched his room completely and nothing has worked. 

The younger brother is not a great sleeper either so its not really an option to put them together. Unless reddit parents think its the only way then well do that? We younger son is 3.5yo and hes heading the same way as the older one. Not as anxious but needs to be near us when hes going to soeep. Llwe get him to sleep sitting with one of us sometimes he is in bed. Othertimes on the lounge and carry him to bed. This is an improvement from in our arms like a baby! 🙈🙉🙊

Neither son has never respond to reward charts and the older is rather anxious child at night - in the day hes very confident and outgoing. On the nights we ask him to go to sleep alone he will be hysterical and get upset sobbing. He says hes  frightened if we're not close and scared someone will come into the house to take him. We've moved into a 2 story house but this has been going on before when we were in single story houses. Now you can't get into the window cause its on the side of the house and its not possible but the anxiety is still there.

I have asked his peadatrician and he suggests getting a cheap door and sawing it in half and literally trapping him in. The same idea as a baby gate but he can open them a door we could lock. Terrible idea i know. I dont think he realised how bad it sounded. He's an older guy with adult kids so a bit out of touch. He keeps saying he will grow out of it?! He hasn't. :( 

So we've tried leaving him in his room to put himself to sleep and he will stay awake for hours. 

We tried the leave and check every 5 or so mins method and he would go to sleep eventually but its now taking hours and hes got school so its not possible every night. 

If we sit with him he will be asleep in 15-30mins and if hes overtires cause we tried to let him settle himseld we have to tickle his arm/back to soothe him. I know, i know we're enabling him but we need to get him to sleep so thats why im looking for a new method to try. 

I thought I'd ask the parents of reddit if they're experienced with getting anxious kids to sleep. Once hes asleep he sleeps through the night but every night is hard work getting him to sleep. 

Please share with me whatever advice or condolences you have. I feel very vulnerable sharing this major parenting fail so please be kind.

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parenting,Veqq,2019/02/07,"How do you Actually Raise a Child into a Good Person? For hobbies, communities tend to have at least a few general approaches/books they recommend everyone (if not just 1), but there doesn't seem to be anything comprehensive anywhere about parenting, rather all based around specific issues etc.

How do you actually raise good people, who are self sufficient, can articulate and achieve goals, solve problems, help those around them, have positive relationships with others etc.? (And all that without limiting them or ending up trying to vicariously live through them...)

A few things seem obviously beneficial like, expressing opinions and reasons why you do things as well as asking for opinions and thoughts is important, not ""spoiling/babying"" them but rather helping to lead them to solutions when they run into difficulties...

But... You know, what else? How do I learn about this? Any good books or advice?",8.266219145093316,10.547479788079473,7.502709211318486,65.7216857314871,62.37748344370861,11.318723660445515,37.56833232992173,11.20814326018867,4.992782781456954,732,36,108,22,11,227,106,151,0.02,0.736,0.243,0.9889,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,4,7,4,13,6,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,5,3,39,17,16,0,4,12,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,9,0,1,6,1,0,2,4,1,1,0,1,0,12,5,20,15,7,10,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,7,3,83,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.29670323968627543,0.0,0.0,0.1485542163493059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338022690999923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510121805466098,0.2706637620672088,0.14212012257260387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269949401180448,0.0,0.13464643962071224,0.0,0.3390896070424513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526361143133898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38252672216346223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037943903894236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586715541006384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354735900326066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427030896153937,0.0,0.13423828110041822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880252834293316,0.0,0.0,0.10539296834707493,0.1327398157857853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454645987567944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630401665123705,0.0,0.16321482037762058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767903826933855,0.15859218338110606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199342877348048,0.0,0.0,0.12068854984767093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321301278022244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366861063116473,0.0,0.13717628094925388,0.0,0.0,0.1465438594208463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,erinerin83,2019/02/07,"My husband regrets becoming a father. My husband has admitted that while he loves our 3 year old, he really hates being a father and that he is basically going through the motions taking care of her, and if he really understood what he was getting into with parenthood, he would have never had a child. He feels like people lied to him about the reality of it, and that it is not worth it. He resents doing a lot of things, and he never wants to do any family activities and basically just wants to put her in front of the TV all weekend so he can do gaming on the computer or watch football and try and pretend he has his old life back. He doesn't want to ever take her to the park or for icecream, he just wants to try and claim back an old life that is gone. I wish he would see our daughter brings more happiness than video games, but he insists he regrets it and he wished he knew how ""monotonous and difficult and boring"" life with kids is and didn't do it. 

I do believe he loves her, I just think he hates what his life has become now we have made this huge change. He misses the disposable income we had (childcare is a huge cost), travelling or going somewhere on a whim without having to take a child, sleeping in on weekends, lots of things that we just can't do anymore. I understand because I had trouble adjusting to this new life at first, but now I have gotten past it and do not have PND, I am ok with it other than those moments we all have when we regret it (like when the kid is having a meltdown in the supermarket or poonamis in public). But with him, it is more than that. He says it is not PND and a therapist told him that. He just made a huge mistake becoming a Dad and is stuck with the consequences and is gritting his teeth through his new normal. He wishes he could take a less stressful job but now feels stuck and committed in his career because he ""fucked up having a kid and a mortgage"". 

I don't know what to do. He wants to try and live like he doesn't have a child, but we do. He doesn't want to put her into anything because ""then that will take up the weekends"", he doesn't want to take a family holiday, he wants to get his parents to watch her for a couple of weeks and go on a holiday without her, and I don't think that is fair to her. 

Like, I understand his frustration but I think he needs to understand he is a dad too now and get over it. IDK how to handle it. ",6.421795918367348,5.225069832653063,7.008693877551021,79.72344897959185,65.9795918367347,10.288979591836735,32.457142857142856,9.3871,2.618364897959184,1878,63,395,30,25,621,198,490,0.118,0.784,0.097,-0.84,5,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,8,0,0,1,19,23,5,1,30,1,52,10,2,4,6,101,104,40,0,21,21,8,2,4,0,3,5,1,0,6,30,35,0,0,13,11,2,10,15,14,0,1,14,6,39,9,53,85,7,54,0,4,3,3,81,18,1,7,30,270,69,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034879537869397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342640881164217,0.0,0.0,0.060927469572522985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138622457328312,0.0,0.13539975289899805,0.2453094916978449,0.0,0.08341616240675594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548729983835048,0.0,0.07832303483430697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591138074886565,0.08192231647235024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697216377883904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395940291570016,0.0,0.07487229416269645,0.052893199549420636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297720595295764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844750419557499,0.11604635756949422,0.0,0.1262335490788597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881547972750545,0.0,0.14619560312568813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347189854121089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04068968514208775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614783078830919,0.14468610489208505,0.0,0.06537745127021803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258899613695414,0.13364547684749198,0.14011425061491622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05489869301416565,0.1142062845607117,0.143013906594216,0.0,0.0,0.07254212034464258,0.0,0.0,0.23307320748815946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221111728013128,0.0,0.07067823325591198,0.05132905156301987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14885851028903524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486206204359277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058878476336509424,0.0,0.0,0.058999188335193034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409208228060626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848109804456316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340069341962834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596453561499172,0.0983759285226823,0.1423228599873778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074706707979939,0.0,0.1508020735555372,0.0,0.0,0.2312304201111818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34935913532068397,0.0,0.05938930899130222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554222513056211,0.14274116071359932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518981206863427,0.0,0.0,0.0476784389859429
parenting,himgus,2019/02/07,"Hello moms!! In our era where all the parents are busy finding out ways to engage thier kids ,I feel that my kids should have ample time to waste ...time where they can just dream ,haang around and just do nothing .And this should be a routine .Are there any supporters for this thought ??",5.032222222222224,6.615810925925927,3.660185185185188,92.86583333333336,69.37037037037037,6.140740740740743,24.61111111111111,5.985473137389443,0.4566444444444446,226,6,45,1,4,64,47,54,0.046,0.8190000000000001,0.135,0.6645,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,1,12,11,2,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,6,7,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,3,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21745791973246065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846674862560395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16168781409521746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922684952049045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37451653627396014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068326722281786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550722198645466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628768040347471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538655772950662,0.3729266695472426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538224572171959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sexyredpanda2018,2019/02/07,"I think this guy is a pedophile, but I can't say anything b/c I have no proof. A child might be in danger. How and if do I approach the mother of child. Warning Long post
Backstory;My mom has always dated convicts, druggies, alcoholics. Had 3 marriages and bunch of BF in between. Me, my brother and my mom were emotionally, physically and psychologically abused for as long as I can remember. She has same pattern-date someone for 1-2 weeks, then they move in. After years of struggles she finally would break up with them, kick them out only to repeat the cycle w someone else. 

Last spring she met this guy, he moved in w her in less then a month and they are already talking marriage (#4 for her) Of course she wants me to meet him. I told her that before I had kids I used to meet her BFS only to make her happy but now that I have 2 babies of my own I flat out refuse and continue to refuse to let her bring him over. I never will allow her to bring anyone to meet my kids b/c it is not safe.

Anyway she told me a ""funny""story-my cousin was visiting her w his wife and their 2 little kids who are 2 and 4yrs old. They are there almost every Sunday. My mom put a baby gate on the stairs to keep kids from going upstairs and everyone went into kitchen to eat and talk. Later on my moms new BF walks into kitchen with a 2 year old saying he wanted to show them something funny. He shows on his phone how the 2 yr old climbed over the baby gate walked up the stairs and was walking into different bedrooms snooping around. The cold  didn't notice the BF following him w phone. Everyone thought it was funny.

Here is why this is red flag for me: in all family meetings if a male sees a situation of a child wondering off they usually grab a child, bring it back to parents and say something like :u guys should watch him better-he climbed over baby gate and could 've gotten hurt. If they want to hold or play with child they do it right there in front of everybody. we know nothing about this guy and he just spent time alone w a child.This guy saw an opportunity to be alone with child and took it.this feels to me as conditioning. He wants the child to be comfortable w him alone. He's also conditioning parents to trust him alone w child -look at the video, I'm an open book, I'm safe etc. The incident didn't sit w me well, my intuition says somethings off. I also heard from others that ""he's ""great"" w kids, really likes holding them. If someone walks in w a baby in their arms he'll go over and want to hold baby immediately"" (which is not very normal for a guy. I know this incident by itself doesn't prove anything, but knowing my moms taste in men, my heart tells me I'm right. Now I feel that my cousins kid is in danger,and they don't even see it. She's pregnant w baby #3, so tired probably won't pay attention to what's going on now or in future-I mean her kid was gone for like good 10-15 min and no one noticed anything which makes the 2 yr old a perfect target. 

Now is there anyway to approach a situation? I feel like I can't say anything to anyone b/c if bf is innocent of what I'm suspecting he is then its illegal to make accusations like this. But at the same time if I'm 99%wrong, but there is that 1% that I'm right and he can hurt the kid I won't forgive myself for not doing something to prevent this. Should I say anything to mother of child or no? Keep in mind we don't speak very often b/c I live far away. We are on friendly terms but speak rarely- text once in a while, then it would fizzle out for months then maybe more texts .",2.999853629976581,4.274302490437158,4.225616705698677,88.04864754098362,73.95901639344262,7.1411397345823575,24.546838407494146,7.6454224807358475,1.039313348946136,2781,84,601,35,56,913,323,732,0.103,0.807,0.09,-0.8046,3,4,6,0,1,0,84.0,3,0,13,4,23,22,1,1,32,0,50,8,2,7,5,105,98,47,0,17,19,13,4,5,5,9,2,9,6,25,27,33,5,10,15,5,2,23,16,4,1,1,20,21,76,18,91,64,9,109,0,2,6,0,120,45,0,13,43,352,103,2,0.0,0.06745205638928874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060840239214720336,0.05700659310683781,0.2358468504102932,0.06282303327058161,0.09105287706848636,0.047369839967104393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961275164989651,0.0,0.23424031971652254,0.05067925568446343,0.0,0.0,0.053487066357359,0.04377521179072199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048442745421886375,0.0,0.0,0.050349447802310286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04545351140612114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947912960985456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058253011572594875,0.0475572274006698,0.06403793772188453,0.0,0.0,0.06349135460173441,0.037601346588460836,0.0,0.047965493727333684,0.10879700554150057,0.0,0.0,0.05366799286048141,0.0,0.08635567952663929,0.040670390745633785,0.0,0.06236339956334136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04398353053539393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706290808610382,0.047749698520405066,0.0,0.06276488918691996,0.0,0.33821447170907604,0.0,0.06060242875508439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674616396618137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188824826712776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120297277615012,0.0,0.0,0.09386076517261724,0.04640507753396119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821419150187914,0.0,0.13906420086968696,0.057058237151968075,0.05026972298450272,0.10076149473901633,0.04780637678403557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400249457115852,0.0,0.057193256646550436,0.06201283043791692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060393120696312586,0.05748248788129531,0.33337525738391144,0.09088104366057803,0.12101393304224935,0.0,0.0,0.04390748015112337,0.05498279091447066,0.0,0.0,0.055778746702149926,0.0546253161986079,0.12962904948175966,0.23895140904392384,0.060627976892629186,0.03857684997089565,0.08659478216355873,0.0,0.0,0.1264267728895477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452264992412658,0.0,0.06137954608168324,0.0,0.0,0.057229793535285615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03647044575782079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448993786429501,0.14585224704638558,0.0,0.2716353700867718,0.0,0.0,0.09073075796919994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279821120790827,0.0,0.0,0.14470834459828216,0.17530820276845702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595149930070406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151542657193863,0.04975882445329807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03647807517180272,0.0,0.04519560231634151,0.06639200804457568,0.0654319964053824,0.0,0.10879700554150057,0.06325068300400519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04916874246402652,0.0626997158577755,0.09394547124142827,0.16789224164314856,0.0,0.04566534872848129,0.0,0.05118638769649287,0.05277414492670602,0.0513699489209403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061737530158428665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808820565920558,0.06224338647625114,0.0,0.07332136305682788
parenting,LeahXMomX120,2019/02/07,"Can this get my sons girlfriend pregnant? My son (14yrs) has his first girlfriend and he came home in tears today saying he asked his girlfriend to sit on his lap while they were watching a movie and my son said he accidentally ejaculated in his underwear a little bit. He is very concerned and so am I. He said about ten minutes later he got up and went to the bathroom to clean up. If they were just sitting there for ten minutes, can she get pregnant? If so how is that possible? They are fully clothed. ",4.794489795918366,6.085210693877553,4.9210204081632645,84.71683673469387,69.61224489795919,7.2326530612244895,30.3265306122449,7.447530270364453,1.7704938775510204,400,16,78,4,7,125,65,98,0.048,0.925,0.027000000000000003,-0.2824,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,9,17,10,0,2,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,4,12,0,10,10,1,14,0,0,1,0,24,6,0,2,4,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351830976954892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746482412647147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877279686548032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139845011131284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26286888570501626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120274650932607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523442637624808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252138272590821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836062992279531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785995409419752,0.2000578017795883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384580394081958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20757080851846246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23320702502317545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aherdofpenguins,2019/02/07,"baby keeps rolling over in her crib Our 6MO has been sleep trained for quite a while, and up until now she has fallen asleep on her own without any issues at all.  Read her a book, sing her a song, slam dunk her in the crib and she's out.

But recently she has started to become OBSESSED with rolling over.  That's her new hobby, she loves doing it all day every day.  She can roll from her back to her stomach, and stomach to back, but ONLY to her right.  I haven't even seen her try to roll the other direction.

Now whenever we put her in the crib, she has a 50/50 chance of just instantly rolling over as soon as we leave the room.  She's too close to the side of the crib to roll onto her back again, and she's unable to roll the direction she came from.

Right now our strategy is to go in without saying a word, put her on her back again, leave, and pray.  Again, 50/50 here, but sometimes we get really unlucky and this happens like 3 or 4 times in a row at 1am.  Very cool.

Any ideas?  Right now we have her in a sleep sack kinda thing, but she just rolls around within it.",3.491584454409569,4.040933345291484,4.018762331838567,92.72918983557553,72.04932735426009,7.202272047832588,23.38684603886398,7.03164865440522,0.5077470254110611,828,19,192,7,15,261,119,223,0.036000000000000004,0.898,0.066,0.8616,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,0,0,1,18,4,0,1,14,1,10,6,5,0,2,30,18,15,0,0,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,6,15,0,1,1,4,0,5,3,1,0,0,3,4,32,3,38,15,3,49,1,0,1,1,33,24,0,2,21,132,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355566889443725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014354528110913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151054761114874,0.0,0.0,0.14905337686856468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435896988077127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407684103833268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914020195182851,0.0,0.11371012438383807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051134201662036,0.0,0.0767012178537445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934521085155896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15235408736799508,0.0,0.14086380015792704,0.0,0.11995918032041812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858075724318025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593493092397765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180720865785763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034578627285534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026436161252143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713453541561385,0.0,0.14354720830594386,0.13499711997668454,0.0,0.08645921476447918,0.0,0.13325730848288744,0.0,0.0,0.34576683912784795,0.0,0.10732608423047467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701161293037304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334794820808443,0.0,0.09552580570618638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966182421681954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869660985621567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916293868070983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113566273380557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601944002481588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nuts69,2019/02/08,"My 2-year-old son is deathly afraid of the electric razor And he's REALLY looking shaggy.   What the hell do I do?  Last time I did it, he seemed traumatized, and I felt bad for a long time.   The hairdressers fair even worse than me and have just ended up giving him a basic clipping.     What do I do to make him accept the electric razor?",2.4309452736318384,4.366921074626866,3.5590298507462705,89.4351616915423,77.05970149253731,5.6606965174129344,21.61442786069652,6.42735559955562,0.3868427860696517,260,7,52,2,6,84,49,67,0.194,0.7070000000000001,0.099,-0.8385,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,1,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,12,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,8,1,5,10,0,6,1,0,1,0,6,1,1,1,5,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24608828568540198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610444096725345,0.0,0.0,0.19466721321705185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28298822333003365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827330744974966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402453088057669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26082788463815826,0.2475000229222778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673540029343875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092708713465557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881238797541788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683122637953326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34372032808760844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003563268455046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18979726406831107
parenting,milkand_,2019/02/08,"Gentle but stern? My son is 15 months and has learned the ways of buttheadedness. 
He gets upset if I take things away, if I’m not holding him, if he wants something right away. 
I don’t want to be a physical parent but I don’t know how to communicate to him tantrums aren’t okay. Help me!!!",1.2325000000000017,3.2899092500000044,2.4700000000000024,95.165,81.5,6.0,21.666666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.44366666666666665,225,7,52,3,6,72,46,60,0.106,0.732,0.162,0.3666,2,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,13,12,7,0,5,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,7,1,6,11,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,3,1,30,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5724313316393804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915980101602614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419117197369194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16742004642604658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24315764719559985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33826236363623363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26015758476868805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23452377086729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22904845226537301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023867039393346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593645567083354,0.2418059750069969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skimommak,2019/02/08,"Nursery school with new baby coming The nursery school that I plan the send my daughter to follows the regular school schedule for our town (generally) so they start in early September and run through June. My daughter will be 2 years and 10 months going into school in September and I am due with my second child in early August. 

Is this a bad idea to just have her start in September? Should I look for something for her to get involved in this summer before the baby comes? She has always been home with me, my husband, or one of our parents when we are working. I don’t want her to have any resentment/separation issues if we were to just throw her into school into September right after bringing the new baby home. I’m sure it will be difficult in the beginning no matter what, but I just want it to be as easy as possible. Her school will be from 9am-12pm 3 days a week. ",4.837982456140349,6.020535678362576,5.493815789473686,81.0554605263158,69.40935672514621,8.273099415204678,28.869883040935672,8.59863814320734,2.1625707602339173,695,25,130,11,12,225,105,171,0.036000000000000004,0.907,0.057,0.3813,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,1,2,5,3,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,0,1,26,30,10,0,4,6,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,6,13,0,0,1,0,0,8,2,2,0,2,2,1,21,1,27,20,0,37,0,0,1,0,18,11,0,2,18,93,27,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316881628586548,0.0,0.0,0.08431680096844722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352567183377863,0.0,0.0,0.10550554332216902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21361116351492584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996267534230284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477915748004083,0.0,0.07046583043459115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487422390460989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13996853748738636,0.0,0.1294123474705172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411956863586844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896687115469507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394987806029493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840181843615802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767515907710898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977901622511096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588596521090753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7529011855200715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545282281607932,0.0,0.0,0.17552016552997174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685820562616225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462638999492734,0.0,0.09945653134716838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026549996675927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984487851650131
parenting,Justabitofanhairhead,2019/02/08,"I feel old - used Snapchat for the first time I’ve been mussing on the counter trend of photoshopping for the masses. A few years ago there was a large push to stop photoshopping women’s magazine covers. Now with Snapchat it seems like the photoshop or “fillers” have made photoshopping more mainstream and acceptable.  

How does this relate to parenting? 

I have a daughter and I worry about raising her in the age of social media. It seems almost impossible to be accepting of oneself when we are bombarded with products that allows to project this other self.  


The selfie I took made my face thinner, widen my eye, and evened out my complexion. I looked 10 years younger. 

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parenting,wolftune,2019/02/08,"What else out there is in the same league as Mister Rogers' Neighborhood? I wrote a blog post about how great *Mister Rogers' Neighborhood* was: [https://blog.wolftune.com/2019/02/mister-rogers.html](https://blog.wolftune.com/2019/02/mister-rogers.html)

In it, I link to this devastating and thorough critique of *Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood*: [https://articles.earthlingshandbook.org/2012/10/10/daniel-tigers-neighborhood-review/](https://articles.earthlingshandbook.org/2012/10/10/daniel-tigers-neighborhood-review/)

There's some great nature documentaries (I also mention that in my article) and other plain, human, not overly-produced nor flashy, decent educational videos on various topics.

I also mention in my article issues about what's so bad with so much stuff these days.

Of course, a good portion (still less than a majority) of books are fine (and books have so much value that videos can lack, though some vice-versa there too).

What (of any medium) is really as good as Mister Rogers'? Stuff that really takes kids seriously, doesn't talk down or just entertain them with superficial stimulus? That *helps* rather than hurts in their development in understanding what's real and what's pretend?",14.719703476482616,18.67086014723926,8.96394171779141,54.98902096114523,48.754601226993856,10.341308793456037,28.92075664621677,10.504223727775694,3.3522683026584867,1016,25,120,20,12,266,108,163,0.104,0.772,0.123,0.5201,0,0,0,0,0,0,86.0,0,0,2,0,16,9,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,20,10,16,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,15,7,0,0,2,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,8,6,23,8,10,12,0,1,0,0,9,9,0,3,2,86,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903288265992426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344232029769266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156468218382008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706775005800765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163973365898756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045068840926248,0.0,0.4002609739736999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216714896322741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19432484307450906,0.0,0.0,0.18946355012816454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26688156763165594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384949806304997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066136770251314,0.23257742233571035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496503732902347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41560234593714185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648320892484697,0.14590184993482147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834608410849054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18897254222433887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,All_in_US_equities,2019/02/08,"Time off for birth US. If I work 2 extra OT shifts over the next few weeks I will have set aside enough ""extra cash"" to 100% replace my income when I take a month of FMLA for the birth of my son next month. 

Coworkers keep mocking me for taking so long off, but you cannot replace that bonding time! It's sad that taking family time is considered a bad thing or something that isn't possible. 

Other dads, how long did you guys take off and what was the response of your coworkers?",4.9106529209622005,5.161054721649489,5.312938144329895,85.76603951890036,68.79381443298968,8.52852233676976,26.47594501718213,8.344100000000001,1.4994068728522332,376,10,79,5,6,120,70,97,0.115,0.885,0.0,-0.901,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,3,0,1,3,3,1,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,6,12,7,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,10,0,11,9,4,18,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,2,13,51,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839207634193793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363635096899333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675423248696686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759746541481927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796921441348902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145602096542845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28371512571857554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780228782614122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003570523066131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682058101607514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5345051753839424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118071896594983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31089679679668303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378003162010334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14255943410895974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938515370001286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrsNaldym,2019/02/08,"Allergies and kids I'm planning to bring this up to her dr next week but how did you know your kid was suffering from allergies?

I thought it was just a run of bad luck that my daughter has been coughing/runny nose almost non stop since Halloween, but now she's started rubbing her eyes so I'm wondering about allergies.",3.1085714285714303,5.460749619047622,3.676428571428573,87.40607142857145,76.61904761904762,7.374603174603175,29.54761904761905,8.344100000000001,2.291552380952381,258,12,50,5,6,81,54,63,0.165,0.7759999999999999,0.059,-0.8065,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,5,3,2,1,0,11,12,5,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,3,7,1,6,7,0,8,0,1,1,0,8,1,0,3,5,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36645223591187376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055581108776475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011199371123224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891985320157006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027227204848683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590256563916888,0.0,0.0,0.3059557394730445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29052831645574395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935479605645858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39686384913114975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vanillaacid,2019/02/08,"I help my kids brush and floss every night. So why are their teeth so terrible? Kids are 6 and 4. We brush and floss every day. I let them do their share, then I come in and “double check” where I do a full brush and floss because I know they don’t do a good job but I want them to practice. We go to the dentist every 6 months or year, whichever the dentist suggests. They don’t eat a ton of sugar or sugary drinks.  Yet their teeth are yellowing and have buildup. We will be going to the dentist again soon, but I was just wondering if this is normal? ",1.2447509881422931,3.1501216173913065,2.44205533596838,96.17494071146244,80.65217391304348,5.225296442687747,20.019762845849804,6.11248444174946,-0.13978260869565196,426,11,97,3,11,136,71,115,0.024,0.908,0.068,0.4048,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,7,0,7,3,0,0,6,0,14,8,2,0,0,20,20,14,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,10,3,0,2,1,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,5,18,2,5,16,3,14,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,4,8,66,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653775417157707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294123385107512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14445028985106234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941774144371806,0.0,0.22919018450066184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5661451688210077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545890213727649,0.18786603333124688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501308595687863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22226823476602825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309501549962636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290374511238032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787808269639711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101925589004178,0.21945545651232268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13211077951041242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20210951765657245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24289964665590155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423749324867596
parenting,jashi31,2019/02/08,To be a good son So my mither came to see me today and she decided to criticize me for lots of the stuff that i do. I was in a problem recently where i went to jail and she help me out with money . now she yhinks i need to be a better son by calling her everyday or going to her house alot more like once a week . i understand she worrying about me staying strait and out of trouble but im not that kind of person. I have cookout and family get togethers so we can all be together our whole family. I don't know how much they want from me !!! I have a wife and kids and a job and they expect me to do more for them like go see them . i think i love them im just different and i dont need to see them alot. Im not trying to be a bad son just that holidays and special occasion work for me ... I'm i wrong,0.0521480502313274,1.6556272022471925,2.878922670191673,93.07139788499671,83.15730337078651,7.109583608724389,20.02115003304693,8.124751697461798,0.7352329147389294,614,17,152,13,17,217,99,178,0.08800000000000001,0.767,0.145,0.8837,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,6,2,8,11,0,0,10,0,12,1,0,1,1,34,28,14,0,5,6,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,14,0,0,4,1,1,4,4,4,0,0,3,3,34,7,22,21,8,14,0,0,3,1,23,4,0,4,7,108,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506070740407558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187657027238065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071344242189374,0.15761123374094851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397600442606742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16150543501397618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25981897274901034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199697961546145,0.0,0.15663454588611994,0.1155835811756432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236721554311814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900748472465726,0.0,0.0,0.44655638109134027,0.0,0.13674935325082604,0.0,0.0,0.14350181415261207,0.07573355578989427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464829180421856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117156158612126,0.12437362370282072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130190464677097,0.20436005909910887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467569200607547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032526658276195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185995867292852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606497122395222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32943619291269066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688088622419349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577527799791927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829933367955232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062221918253564,0.0,0.0,0.09355997071468143,0.0,0.0,0.14345897787657638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128045680719384,0.0,0.1105381752183615,0.0,0.0,0.12774582569363072,0.0,0.15385340984805146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032306090255297,0.1399468013536348,0.0,0.0,0.15066720285888988,0.0,0.0
parenting,peehapee,2019/02/08,"Anyone have interactive/very entertaining toy suggestions? For an almost 2-yo. I'm temporarily in a wheelchair and this Momma needs some ideas! Hi all!

Do you know of an awesome interactive indoor toy for an almost-two-year?

I'm temporarily in a wheelchair recovering from acute pancreatitis. And, we have a snowstorm currently so I cannot take him outside to burn off energy. (And...wheelchair in deep snow. Well, you see the problem there. :D)

It would be ordered off Amazon. (I have prime)

My boy isn't interested anymore in watching things on the Fire Kids Tablet. (Which we limited time on, but even then he was done watching in 2-5 mins!)

He seems to not be interested anymore in his other toys - which most are not super ""sound"" interactive. 

He does love toys with buttons, sounds, ""talking to him"", switches etc. Things he can ""figure out."" He loves musical toys. Heas TONS of books. 

I need to rest up and heal and need to have something that can entertain him for more than 5 mins.

I know....he's a toddler...this is probably completely normal behavior.

ANYWAY! :D

What are your awesome interactive and entertaining toy suggestions I can order off Amazon? ",3.3252631578947347,6.345712569377991,4.382361722488039,78.5333320574163,81.20095693779905,7.554526315789473,27.020287081339717,8.488131031819089,2.539107789473684,913,39,156,22,25,296,130,209,0.063,0.753,0.184,0.9841,1,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,2,3,0,2,5,10,0,0,9,0,18,3,0,0,1,27,29,8,0,6,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,9,9,0,1,4,10,0,0,4,1,1,0,2,6,15,9,26,24,7,21,0,0,3,2,26,14,0,4,5,98,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361776774733606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329465965583099,0.11737251995030808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599937338815466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689654984705602,0.17178038427461728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18720971528369085,0.11087080175348536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894949691278288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845043548001944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030027437126248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734010683020314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446842809533224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18098286638036548,0.16062058849067903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376371848918928,0.15281461790955256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922782531986587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621080272449095,0.13492054989271038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230391702045036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978812706163147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397609333980365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385031476617724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092746291475842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924384730125527,0.0,0.0,0.10809716998624176
parenting,nutterysquirrel,2019/02/08,"My 2 year old has entered the terrible twos and I want to run far far away from her... what can I do? Shes so out of control I have no idea what to do with her. Time outs and telling her no dont work. She doesn't listen. If I try to punish her she throws fits, wont sit for time out so I have to keep putting her back, shell even push me or hit me now if I get in her way... And after it all calms down and shes finished her punishment, she goes right back to doing the naughty thing and we start all over again. 

I'm all alone in this and I honestly just wake up angry now a days. I just cannot handle her bad behavior anymore.",-0.3150714285714287,1.3579582071428575,1.6271428571428572,101.20785714285715,84.78571428571428,5.142857142857143,17.857142857142858,6.18269132825596,-0.5740714285714286,479,11,126,4,14,158,91,140,0.138,0.795,0.067,-0.8735,0,1,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,11,6,2,0,3,0,13,1,1,1,3,23,20,11,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,11,0,2,1,0,0,5,6,4,0,0,0,1,25,2,19,18,3,33,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,3,13,87,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309368908841078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22113323499770954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949419991137366,0.34291104727176697,0.18617645321271592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25008762796455275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380169692144334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26132734400704555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727418337940076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649626192338212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517138542468277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981921729333648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339768175024655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415343791084968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19042111100349926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782424449341642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948916967651184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813598861909022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26003932451408857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138672361167815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315175919328364,0.1769887372265403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623298872019538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435898557921952
parenting,grlady,2019/02/08,"Teenage boy who refuses to take of dog Hi there! New to this sub.  Excited to become a part of it.  

Backstory- single mom of two kids 14 yo son and 12 yo daughter.  Co parent w their father.   

We have a dog.  He’s 13 yo and my daughter loves him dearly.    She does a great job taking care of him.    The problem is my son, will help when asked.   But when he is home alone, forgets about the dog.  He always forgets to put a diaper on the dog.   So I routinely find pee spots.      Last week we had a talk about.  He was told if he did it again there would be consequences.   

Today it happen.   He went to go to a friends house, I am home to pee.   

I have taken the Xbox for a month and issued no friends as well.  His dad is aware and will follow through.    

I am so frustrated at his lack of caring about it.   He is normal a sweet kid, this is our sticky point.  ",-0.8501515151515164,1.2785773181818172,1.2825000000000024,98.92916666666667,94.0,4.524242424242424,15.856060606060606,6.21433560688645,-0.560798484848485,632,15,150,7,24,209,113,176,0.07,0.755,0.174,0.9644,2,1,0,0,1,0,25.0,3,0,1,0,11,12,1,0,12,0,16,3,2,0,0,16,28,11,0,5,2,8,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,3,7,6,0,1,1,1,0,4,1,2,1,1,6,1,15,10,20,18,3,15,0,0,0,1,37,3,0,1,8,89,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115934531352166,0.0,0.0,0.12947541819488564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546921252387926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185295694221556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31729833849518657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361705559927722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221970384881732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24043931808561525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884336293894123,0.0,0.0,0.1715545224783429,0.0,0.0,0.1376005549999593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042984235803362,0.0,0.312168023077708,0.0,0.0,0.17954671359032598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624106819438488,0.15441346678934645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268384445513885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404391461938426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18224212239511214,0.12420203595908708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502838061542265,0.0,0.0,0.1524593826084847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278039468015358,0.16850452163687388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709655851941092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488925019779854,0.0,0.15642551159838794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339904537878083,0.12506901157902947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749488187119722,0.1486867783448219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15200299682226515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248165526364734,0.0,0.13990714255085712,0.1442469404373723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053697995381866,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dot2DotBoutique,2019/02/08,"What makes parents tick when it comes to parenting trends? For example, should it be okay for you to sing, BA! BA! Black Sheep to your child?

Why are pre-schools or nurseries costing parents so much money?

Are the new age parents creating a 'SOFT' Generation? What I mean by that is are we allowing our kids to get away with things that our parents wouldn't have allowed us to get away with. For instance, where do we draw the fine line between discipling our children?

Why do all parents feel that society is constantly judging them on their parenting skills when out in public?

Why the hell is it mostly our older citizens rudely giving out unwanted parenting advice in public? 

Why are children's animations crap compared to when we were growing up? For example, anyone remember, Farthing Wood? Not only was it a dark tv series and it wasn't the only one. However, it taught about life and death, companionship, loyalty, bravery, friendship and drove a message about deforestation and how humans are destroying the earth. For me it was an entertaining series to watch. Seems like these days our animations are nowhere near as good as the storylines and values they teach our younger generations.

The list goes on. If you have any questions like these let us know. Also I can't wait to hear what other parents have to say about the above questions.



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parenting,Dimeadozen27,2019/02/08,"Discipline/ punishment? So I have a question as far as discipline. As your kids were growing up, how many of you used to scream/ yell, swear at your kids and give them a good hard kick in the ass (not abusive, just letting them know who's boss) when they did something wrong? Or how many of you had the done to yourselves while growing up?

So I am in my 20's and have been seeing a therapist for some anxiety and depression issues. My parents were the kinda sorta old fashioned type who disciplined like how I mentioned above, but my therapist seems to think that that was problematic and is a big part of my current issues. I personally don't believe this because I feel like most people of the older generations were disciplined like this growing up and they are all fine. I also feel that lacking this type of discipline is the reason that many people my generation are entitled brats and why I don't get along with many of them (except for the few raised like me) because they never had this harsh discipline so they grew up with this godlike complex as theire parents coddled them.

Am I wrong? Or is my view of things just distorted? What is your honest opinion?",6.932986425339369,7.255243475113126,6.6843438914027145,77.41800904977377,64.47511312217196,9.876923076923076,34.64705882352941,9.661875296680813,3.229300452488688,932,39,170,17,13,293,124,221,0.133,0.753,0.114,-0.6779999999999999,3,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,5,9,0,10,12,1,0,10,0,22,1,1,6,2,43,31,22,0,1,7,2,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,3,13,9,0,6,8,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,9,7,29,7,27,21,6,19,0,1,2,1,24,9,1,9,10,129,42,3,0.0,0.1471696760808671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933145957080178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502104416613756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15143569625907424,0.0,0.0,0.1399432166181661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698271755446956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271109368650669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560958666039845,0.08873633440577652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489509980854585,0.11915447073940992,0.0,0.10418225982096224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126862234420384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25928794174715897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682630950366398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701412181114172,0.0,0.2427328030246555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5037216696918035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579914945920102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130338507639796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27584314267190696,0.13450836505144484,0.0,0.17222447963170595,0.10845621894256983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13914470184238453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770955384544838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989800532087196,0.11307699264490853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562366515133328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884369954682669,0.08252024234902919,0.07958936753691366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727838837072794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208107132203017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716103708690117,0.0,0.0
parenting,Leahjk8175,2019/02/08,"Two year old fights hair washing, help me! My daughter will be 2 in April. She LOVES water. Swimming, sprinklers, baths. Loves them. She’s fine to dunk her head in the pool. But washing her hair is full of yelling and crying and screaming and water all over the floor. I have tried a little bucket, I’ve tried slowly rinsing with a facecloth, tried a shower head, tried laying her down in the tub. Laying down worked semi okay for a few months but now she won’t do it. I’m so frustrated! Any ideas? She just doesn’t seem to be ok with any water running down her face but she won’t cooperate for me to do it carefully to prevent that. ",1.1612073490813657,3.622164858267716,2.1135748031496067,94.98936482939631,85.45669291338584,4.331548556430446,19.49028871391076,5.6839178017228535,-0.2245701837270344,495,14,103,3,15,155,82,127,0.09,0.787,0.123,-0.2184,1,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,1,1,3,9,2,0,7,2,10,12,5,0,1,13,15,7,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,3,2,2,2,0,3,5,3,1,2,3,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,4,14,6,16,10,3,17,0,0,0,2,15,10,0,1,5,63,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660335285346311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19943031987659235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486073775432651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014902695049843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311085842800044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22081200593423636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960456174455716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530787331753825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612846810428865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20525247038713315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780696472945398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5312064560376142,0.0,0.1910757328401507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424013315571941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596193476975426
parenting,JethroByte,2019/02/08,"What to do when multiple students are failing a class? My freshman son came home today pretty upset about his math class. Hes almost failing, says his teacher doesnt really do much teaching. Also says multiple of other kids in the class are doing poorly or failing as well.

Assuming hes not pulling my leg, and having no proof of the other kids not doing well, let's assume that it's a problem with the teacher and not the coursework. Hes never been big on lying so I'm willing to entertain that possibility. What can be done, as a parent, to work with the school on this? I'm decent at matches so I will be helping my kid closely, but if this is a bigger issue tutoring at home can only do so much. ",4.092553191489362,5.161499567375888,5.809709219858156,78.52350000000003,71.05673758865248,7.625815602836879,28.993617021276588,7.908726449838941,2.0325199999999994,553,21,101,7,10,190,90,141,0.103,0.835,0.062,-0.6886,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,4,8,8,0,1,9,0,22,1,1,0,2,18,25,12,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,3,9,6,0,0,2,1,1,2,6,5,2,0,3,2,9,3,15,17,2,13,0,3,0,0,13,8,0,5,3,80,18,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263122256368306,0.0,0.0,0.15383858315100254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200205521443155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686176479044146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894186081451806,0.0,0.3859265020571018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078477533137812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19671182346482427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28282883731862624,0.0,0.14836795395490895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630639937156062,0.0,0.0,0.21360462447608974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21686878352310132,0.0,0.195709910893566,0.0,0.18407254498514125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323743923102175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059614135818092,0.0,0.19468917036144964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823446978030384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3459282831413895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004798216900666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KorryAnder,2019/02/08,"Our daughter is a meme I was just sending a 'meme' to my husband and I thought you might enjoy this.. 

My husband and I have a weird habit of sending each other pictures of our daughter. I know that doesn't sound weird, but we tend to select the ugliest pictures, zoom in on her face and put some text under it.

It has become our primary way of communicating since she was born. It keeps us going through the tough days, with me struggling with ppd. It keeps us laughing.
Don't get me wrong. We love our daughter. She is the most beautiful girl we've ever seen. But I'm not a great photographer, so I manage to find the wrong angle almost every time. 

This week the memes have become even better because she's learning all about facial expressions. It's priceless and I hope she will appreciate the meme when she's older.
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parenting,AntonioFlores1,2019/02/08,"Hello Everyone !! Hey guys , just found this page . Just wanted to share that my wife has a new blog page on Facebook about motherhood . She made her first little blog today and it’s a very good read . If you want to check it out go to Facebook and search Flowers that Bloom , it’s under pages not people . Thanks for taking the time to read her blog , it will mean a lot to her",0.4692000000000007,2.911251186666668,1.3376666666666672,98.8305,90.46666666666668,4.066666666666666,14.166666666666668,5.6839178017228535,-0.987133333333333,289,5,63,2,10,89,55,75,0.031,0.8740000000000001,0.095,0.5955,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,13,10,3,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,6,3,10,7,4,9,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,2,4,37,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22041300095009014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620594221787546,0.0,0.2529153745785749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109384610798694,0.19347323564580898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283974217339127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311897688174875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961055441609568,0.0,0.2182634823509512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512648944003619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227804319751627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991603267688714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4614605130518399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734335046033376,0.0,0.0,0.21236795083793214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450426929834436,0.0,0.21864613585624704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903251209804207,0.2721077304112992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slydeking69,2019/02/08,"Step dad with anxiety is about to be an official father. Long post So I have been what I think is a shitty step-dad for nearly 5 year's. I take great interest in my stepdaughters life and am doing everything I know how to do to help raise her right and provide the type of male figure in her life that will keep here out of porn or stripping. 

Everyone tells me that I'm great with her but I don't have a connection with her like what I imagine would be normal. My concern is that
I will be like this with my new biological child.  I have a bunch of other concerns but I'm drawing a blank as I type this up. ",3.196423611111112,3.984536281250002,4.6144791666666665,87.31038194444444,72.90625,8.188888888888886,25.159722222222214,8.515128840125781,1.3974086805555554,476,14,107,8,9,159,81,128,0.03,0.841,0.129,0.8957,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,6,0,17,3,0,1,0,18,23,8,0,2,3,2,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,2,8,7,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,17,5,18,16,1,11,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,1,5,75,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771824859939628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22131511649930752,0.2081578606167892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5107059222202829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524458880832356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20586731774971792,0.0,0.0,0.12728785487861707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271886994603728,0.22630777134481336,0.0,0.0,0.20496926212094527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236922370450989,0.0,0.0,0.22693050719788066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22182019734368894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19779531545068546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17414334050495645,0.0,0.20243902809530154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840756721449505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453046375937533,0.0,0.0,0.14915048374764373
parenting,TrailBlazer31,2019/02/08,"At my Whits end with a 5 year old I should start off by stating that we have another child on the way, so i think some of this may have something to do with a fear of becoming a big sister, but This also started prior to that.

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My wife and I are concerend about our 5 year old daughter.  Recently, she has been having emotional outbursts.  Hitting things, punching pillows, yelling and screaming.  Sometimes I think she is being serious, other times I can see a little grin on her face.  We try to put her in timeout, but she leaves.  We tell her to go cool off in her room and come out when she is ready to talk...she doesnt.  Sometimes it resorts to a spank, but even that doesnt seem to work.  recently, I have been trying to ease tension by keeping cool and level headed, and working more toward verbal communication skills, and getting her to talk to us about her feelings, but she really doesnt.  Just seems like a dead end.  

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Today, I am at work and my wife gets off work early.  Picks her up from daycare to go grab herself some lunch.                                                      My wife, 6 months pregnant is in ""got to eat now"" mode after work so goes to grab some food.  Chaos enues.  Wife asked what kind of shake she wanted, no answer, so she makes the decision on her own.  Vanilla.  Apprently that was the wrong choice.  Screaming, crying and chaos.  They get home and my daughter will not get out of the car and keeps locking the door so mom cant get her.  Wife gets the door open, unbuckles her, she buckles herself back in.    

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Fast forward. They are in the house.  Daughter, still crying and emotional starts saying how she is the worst kid in the whole world and doesnt like herself.  I just dont know how to fix it.  It just seems like an emotional endless loop!  Looking for anyone that has gone through this.  Whats the correct corse to take?  Am I alone?  5 seems WAY worse than 2, 3 or even 4...... Help!",3.0607469512195102,5.009354420054205,3.4573230013550145,90.81370807926832,75.26016260162599,6.021714092140923,25.352388211382113,6.770275591412753,0.8865209349593499,1467,51,298,13,32,455,202,369,0.168,0.77,0.062,-0.9932,1,1,1,0,1,0,73.0,5,0,2,6,18,15,0,3,17,2,29,5,2,4,1,53,60,25,1,2,9,10,3,3,0,3,0,4,5,2,15,21,3,2,10,0,0,8,8,8,0,0,5,11,43,7,48,50,7,57,0,0,2,0,46,25,0,9,26,194,58,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096368860807714,0.0,0.06251494792504314,0.0,0.2541013526062708,0.2849663823288757,0.0,0.08197124333315542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466040375439405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308123523294914,0.0,0.0,0.06011023865717838,0.0,0.0,0.08633597552272647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733914782368718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173881666529053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916182149329278,0.0,0.0,0.07999053082526042,0.0,0.2638024280484595,0.13847621222214188,0.0,0.0,0.1032651048300677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796639788312878,0.03952663538263974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452714434014932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450531061952244,0.0,0.08885507468943213,0.0,0.06252211741084453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022808693212047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239773760959282,0.0,0.07841392804337118,0.0,0.0,0.09020118679094123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896757085889536,0.0,0.08140518646422852,0.0429618556885901,0.0,0.0,0.08277395687398889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145741888296478,0.07834991796178159,0.0,0.0,0.0656456611006604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052181107951741384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155531390480874,0.062396970801276985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16405890043167753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858549181105685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05007964801899429,0.0,0.15437288258887288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216633514612145,0.0,0.0,0.06229378787644406,0.2846631807188246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018142160768725,0.15463026118327958,0.0,0.1659938297911328,0.0,0.06242908680980065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587763936397341,0.12566504894029173,0.06832667829199003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051934690937813416,0.10018024880447482,0.0,0.0,0.045583325416766976,0.0,0.07409889674019911,0.0,0.0,0.10614871883802968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940325360314218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04610848149453064,0.12410023321165715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872774019673258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28455450293991363,0.0,0.07966500127448849,0.0,0.08546994207144956,0.2849663823288757,0.10068174319946227
parenting,goopireddino33,2019/02/08,"My 5yr old daughter is hanging her head on the wall. Every night at 3:30am in the morning my daughter gets up to bang her head against the wall for ten minutes sometimes longer (we have to come in and get her) until we come in and get her. I ask her why she’s doing this and she said “I feel like it mommy”
My husband thinks she’s sleepwalking. This just started a few weeks ago and we don’t  know how to handle it. She never skips a night, it’s always the same time every night. (3am in the morning). 

I got out our old baby monitor and put it in her room so I could watch her and before she gets up to bang her head on the wall at night, I’ve noticed she sits straight  up in her bed, looks directly at her closet, and talks like she’s having son kind of conversation with someone in her room. After that, she’ll get out of her bed, walk towards her wall and bang her head on it. My husband is fully convinced that she’s sleepwalking. But when your sleepwalking you’re asleep right?? Her eyes are open and she’s talking to whoever she thinks she’s carrying on a conversation with. This actually is scary for me because I’ve never had any of my children do this nor has she ever done it either. 

Yesterday we were watching Mutt & Stuff on the tv and she told me that she wants to be moved out of that bedroom to sleep  downstairs in the guest bedroom because “The Man” won’t quit talking to her at night. I said what man sweetie? She said “the man that sits on the side of my bed at night”. She told me he sings and talks to her at night and if she refuses to listen he said he’ll kill her. What the heck is happening?! Is there some time of ghost in my daughters bedroom?? She said everytime she closes her eyes the man sits on the bed and starts singing to her. I asked her when did this start happening?? She said “just a couple weeks ago” she literally wants out of that room as soon as possible. I’ve never experienced this before and don’t know how to handle it. We’ve tried noise machines, stuffed animals, and pretty much every thing but it hasn’t helped. She said he still talks to her. And she isn’t having a nightmare or dreaming. She’s fully awake, I can see it on her baby monitor. It’s actually gotten really spooky. And I don’t know what to do. 


She said the man is 37 yrs old and died a long time ago in this bedroom. I don’t know where she heard that. She doesn’t watch spooky movies, YouTube, or any spooky shows. We mainly watch Nickelodeon and Disney channel. So idk where she heard that by she really believes she heard the man tell her that. 


Any advice please? ",2.1520642857142853,4.106300245714287,3.1053392857142867,92.27972321428572,77.97142857142858,6.127380952380952,22.17559523809524,7.083569544072883,0.5371595238095237,2019,59,437,23,48,642,210,525,0.027000000000000003,0.942,0.031,-0.5712,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,6,1,0,1,14,5,1,0,22,0,30,8,8,2,4,61,72,34,3,4,8,6,1,2,1,3,0,12,12,7,31,34,0,1,7,6,0,6,12,1,0,1,19,22,81,4,63,48,6,88,0,0,8,0,106,46,1,4,35,275,112,0,0.0,0.0,0.1240657035749778,0.0,0.0,0.06211756700025897,0.16904664554949558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289337294683867,0.06887551681089939,0.0,0.12968453530428234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885433416754025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750049277004482,0.0,0.10818276785177937,0.07161896775763074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951579502566283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05075359199475702,0.07033639012849725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597317948434657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505177106097562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057500574228609776,0.1606754477148931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03214171131147425,0.04541273829711782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605735430170004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508408527300068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242531709532373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609549721883626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042608052502277886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032818087426916,0.06619592022596346,0.13974046104155513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211188085298544,0.0,0.0,0.05625536547740949,0.053380811888557735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756234659661578,0.0467295332699022,0.0,0.1470818599599703,0.0,0.0,0.4175775005657406,0.0,0.0,0.0723721851682882,0.2001106506298609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977818521630601,0.0,0.07166296853548304,0.0,0.06467114795686499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390304073719835,0.0,0.0676120151650535,0.0,0.0,0.08144612227296841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054286421511495334,0.4837390979959009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05065518294284837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06361355280377529,0.0,0.05386065933282951,0.0,0.06287002633613631,0.0,0.13498051895851176,0.0,0.05076520341928406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276974511152218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554663258003441,0.0555609235967924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04223151874715314,0.0814631603478022,0.0,0.0,0.111200415009738,0.0,0.0,0.12148321787876265,0.0,0.04315825827251256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498768801649934,0.0,0.10198026097281973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05735991230754078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ozizai,2019/02/08,"34 months boy sleep problems From birth to 24 months our son slept next to her mother in his transitional crib. We removed the bars between, so it was as if he was sleeping in the same bed with his mother.

Around 24 months we separated the crib from our bed but it is still in our bedroom. We plan to take him out of the room around 48 months.

When it is time, her mother takes him (somewhat forcefully) to our bed and he goes to sleep there next to her. It takes 5 to 60 minutes.  Sometimes mother sleeps first but he wakes her back. Quite tiring for the mother.

Then we move him to his crib in his sleep. He usually wakes up at night somehow and joins us in the bed.  Sometimes we put him back after he resleeps, but sometimes we are too tired and he just stays in the bed, while practicing kick boxing moves on us.

How can we train him so that he goes to the crib and sleep easily/himself, and stay there?

Thanks.

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parenting,PrincessAxley,2019/02/08,"Heart melting moment that happened early this morning My 3 year old and I share a room due to current living circumstances (She has her toddler bed across the room from my bed.)

Well I was having some nightmares last night and early this morning I was woken up by my daughter using my arm to pull herself up in my bed while saying “hang on mommy I’m coming.”

She climbs in bed with me and gives me a hug and tells me “it’s ok mommy I’m right here, you ok?” and promptly goes back to sleep lol

I don’t deserve her. ",0.17373315363881406,2.5350293113207556,1.8345552560646887,95.39528301886793,90.7924528301887,3.4059299191374666,18.892183288409704,4.65589566412798,-0.5186797843665771,401,12,83,1,14,130,73,106,0.0,0.8590000000000001,0.141,0.9118,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,3,5,4,3,1,0,9,12,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,3,1,18,5,12,9,1,24,0,0,0,1,11,9,0,1,11,52,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135788699819858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392640491706895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26645092410692073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24562061199685925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32914474143460104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22640996161280716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452655324814014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26065720501653344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29146045122631026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372039398113036,0.0,0.2208844268137744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779587405158888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24277286308001034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23989385828917456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497379314791537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886713994762762
parenting,Debmyster321,2019/02/08,"Kids diets I assumed kids would eat when they're hungry. That seems to be the general consensus. But should I limit my son's portions? He's 4 and eats a lot. More than I would expect from such a young kid. He has been growing really fast so I keep thinking it's normal. But he is a little overweight. He's solid and not fat, but does get a big belly when eating. Am I overfeeding him? Should I limit his portion sizes? For reference, he's 44"" y'all and around 55lbs at 4 years old. He was 30lbs at 1, 40lbs at 2 and 3 years old then jumped up to 50lbs at 4. I worry that I'm setting him up for obesity.",-0.1520930232558122,1.953626348837212,2.3081860465116293,93.83158139534883,87.83720930232559,5.300465116279072,17.902325581395353,6.742157984588678,0.007803720930232848,465,12,105,6,15,159,88,129,0.054000000000000006,0.923,0.023,-0.6679,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,5,0,10,7,1,0,0,24,15,11,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,3,5,7,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,12,0,13,8,4,21,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,3,9,58,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630657772814562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733149768203026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6079640855422521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347300283907833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176036028401535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849822945502346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683751123649179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19404704761747252,0.0,0.0,0.4156405278932277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687596518416444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029737245954994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690250692892882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20112948975257888,0.0,0.2813782168811767,0.0,0.0,0.25507554166536833
parenting,ablino_rhino,2019/02/08,"Toddler Having Constant Meltdowns at School Hello, everyone!

My 2 1/2 year old daughter recently started at a new preschool program. I thought everything was going relatively well, but yesterday her teachers let me know that she's been having nearly constant meltdowns over very small things and refusing to use her words, which is very unusual for her.

Now, my kid has never been much of a napper. She generally doesn't take naps at home, but if she does they only last about an hour. At school, however, nap time lasts for 2 1/2 hours. After taking a long nap at school, she can't fall asleep at night. Lately she hasn't been falling asleep until 10:30 or 11. Of course, we still have to be at work bright and early, so she has to wake up at 6, which means she's exhausted and cranky until it's time for her nap. Today they said they can't wake her up early from her nap because the other kids are trying to sleep. What should I do? This arrangement obviously isn't working and I'm at a loss.",5.223543244320446,6.2131231917098475,5.48497409326425,82.18066161817458,68.37823834196891,8.425508170585891,28.31765643682742,8.617729084823388,1.9992458349940216,788,26,151,12,13,250,125,193,0.054000000000000006,0.909,0.038,-0.6093,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,3,3,5,4,0,0,6,0,20,6,5,1,2,19,30,11,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,8,5,0,1,3,5,0,3,6,2,1,0,6,2,22,2,27,21,1,43,0,1,1,0,23,14,0,2,26,97,30,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559796269379168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30348555401630145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288138866739284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417612688944555,0.1261993123693438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798032078597472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085144873528896,0.0,0.2765683542131652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717046913843363,0.2289200347204872,0.15839845883326606,0.0,0.0,0.14358767884917814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426616924227148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295717679357834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322393323107826,0.0,0.10829959149759308,0.13561729743860962,0.0,0.1317734785110151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473458502865663,0.0,0.0,0.10679478191253627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864656892369226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133570380599522,0.0,0.0,0.4263337949425032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052015219758074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938910935256363,0.0,0.11213858991374538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21115483950792915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328797371513506,0.0,0.0,0.11147679738169232,0.16375859705874055,0.0,0.13310055006772392,0.0,0.0,0.09533510948119922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212767096853813,0.0,0.2317203383905704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262533139840359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044530352366404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042506697913988
parenting,parentingthrowaway62,2019/02/08,"What are reasonable expectations for a stay-at-home parent? I am just curious what this community might think. For context, I have a 3yo son and 10yo son. I work full time in an office while my wife stays home with our 3 year old. I currently don’t have any expectations of my wife, other than making sure the kids are fed and okay. However, it is rough coming home to tons of toys and trash all over the house. Our child will be entering preschool in August, and I’m wondering what my expectations should be.

I began thinking of this when having a conversation with a co-worker. She is 40+ and her children are adults. She asked if my wife usually has dinner ready when I get home. I laughed it off and said of course not. She said when she was in her 20s with young kids, she would make sure the house was cleaned and dinner was cooked. Obviously there is a huge generational difference here, but it made me curious about what expectations others may have for their stay-at-home partners. My co-worker was saying that the millennial generation is lazy and relies on technology etc etc. Of course I don’t agree with this. But it is hard to clean the house and allow my kid to get some exercise, when he is stuck inside all day watching tv or playing with toys. Thanks in advance for any replies.",4.428091843153702,5.994290844621518,4.982025581882997,82.87332774166494,70.83266932270917,8.630824072132523,25.95953029985322,9.134995656068208,1.922525099601594,1026,32,206,21,19,328,146,251,0.03,0.85,0.121,0.9559,3,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,0,1,2,8,6,0,0,11,1,28,5,0,5,5,43,45,18,0,7,6,6,2,0,1,5,1,3,5,7,14,15,4,0,4,6,0,3,3,0,0,0,10,6,25,6,26,28,7,27,0,0,1,0,29,9,0,6,14,133,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371750239807345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253385779638027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369192667810416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763155943860356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125765675834033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26849865401468154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257813596847977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783185980141748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622361526687717,0.0,0.0,0.4166878472308585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390121148141184,0.16070175505876896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769826475133333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263127320752039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366157709657722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376497898000018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290073275227981,0.09572659105660054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38490942980515575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269029818504997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082461719991876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426216917425556,0.0,0.0,0.07019130757691187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325754460628237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305409520218055,0.2629020913542736,0.0,0.0,0.08551055283483053,0.0,0.0,0.07751719669067468
parenting,castithan_plebe,2019/02/08,"Tips for a mom of a colorblind son?  My 5 year old son was just officially diagnosed by our optometrist as having moderate protanomaly (red/green colorblindness). I have some questions and am hoping to find other parents with similar experiences or folks with color blindness to get some insight

1. What kind of general advice would you give me help me make life easier for him and help him adapt to/understand how he sees colors?
2. What things are important for his teachers to know/think about? (He is in preschool now, starting kindergarten next year)
3. Are there good apps/plugins that I can install to mimic being a protan so that I can see what his online homework looks like to him? (yep - he's in preschool and has online homework. Gotta love the 21st century)
4. Are there colorblind mimicking glasses that I can buy so that I can see what his toys/room/life looks like to him?
5. Any good board/card games that are colorblind ""agnostic""? Any that we should definitely stay away from? (we already play Uno and he is pretty good, so he can adapt pretty well)
6. Enchroma glasses are bunk and not worth the money, right?
7. Anything else?

Thanks!",3.130035211267608,5.985908159624414,3.4937852112676078,85.82124119718311,80.07981220657277,6.742488262910799,25.77640845070423,7.9370924344782425,1.8122802816901409,910,36,165,17,24,282,140,213,0.006999999999999999,0.7879999999999999,0.205,0.9916,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,3,1,0,0,10,11,0,0,5,1,20,4,0,2,0,23,33,11,0,3,3,4,0,2,0,3,3,0,2,0,12,9,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,19,11,20,28,2,11,1,0,8,1,26,4,0,5,8,94,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764558642926772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544118543563765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157762476102344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591478818520902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234147679965286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296871414919254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766945049203707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778693238958367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874238880957173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359290782800587,0.1351245935099935,0.0,0.3544370283859757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882936523449534,0.0,0.0,0.1399045685348448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14668276139485273,0.07741231119000888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949273418361128,0.13763298656237366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23657182698222295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713056400814832,0.0,0.09402434094746193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497212090818314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980492887817284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780761270841292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640702482568536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866080728995554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577940899644549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029264320775855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367386730627007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970058168619612,0.15013673600373584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968385552685993,0.0,0.0,0.0935803258959945,0.09025662964558766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663897558424194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664897518466048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10006204812645376,0.0,0.0,0.1814168943772902
parenting,kbt1987,2019/02/08,"My pregnant wife just dropped this bombshell: She wants our kid to only have one wooden toy. Is this... even remotely normal? I love her, and I'm sure we'll come to some kind of compromise eventually, but I'm really struggling to see her point of view on this one. It seems so superficial, and won't it stunt the child's development? Like aren't the colorful flashy toys meant to stimulate them in some way?",4.410675105485228,5.992464265822786,5.079177215189876,82.09868143459916,70.89873417721519,9.317299578059073,27.090717299578056,9.725611199111238,2.4014033755274258,323,11,65,8,6,104,63,79,0.051,0.8220000000000001,0.127,0.6429,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,5,1,0,1,1,13,13,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,3,8,4,8,10,2,6,0,0,3,1,10,3,0,3,1,37,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24444729195349815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743090791033687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955083042371153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863827650698946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561182856765762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27803954073530474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845869720306629,0.21582390145296707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268259380791988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179372231261506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22613217190975454,0.25833837334777165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29666355558154983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267454859922285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737802306225927,0.22524762281529945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,melbell518,2019/02/08,"Another potty training question My son is speech delayed, I read through quite a few of the older posts about this. He is almost 3.  We started potty training because he would bring me a diaper whenever he was dirty. So far, it hasn’t been an issue.  We are doing naked. 

Day 1: 2 accidents on the floor, he chose to camp out on the potty. Potty is in the living room, close to where I camp out (breastfeeding a newborn).
Day 2: no accidents! He chose to camp out most of the morning and the afternoon he ran around and would go to the potty when he felt the urge. Potty is on the other side of the living room from me. 
Day 3: 1 accident, no camping. Went to the potty unprompted. Pooped once in the potty!!! 
Day 4: 2 accidents, 2 poops in the potty. No prompting needed. Potty is in the hallway next to the bathroom. 
Today: underwear since he is doing so well. One accident. 

Issues I have noticed: we are doing diaper at night, and pull up at naps. If we put the pull up/diaper on, he is resistant to sit on the potty after he wakes up and screams when sitting on the potty. No other issues during the day with it. 

Is it common for more accidents after going into underwear? He hasn’t gone and sat on the potty since having underwear on today, but he can’t be naked forever!",1.590714285714288,3.9418829920634977,3.923809523809524,83.55452380952383,82.17460317460319,6.74920634920635,22.031746031746025,7.921354282810032,1.4038269841269848,982,32,184,19,27,339,124,252,0.093,0.899,0.008,-0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,4,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,24,0,23,3,3,0,0,26,33,11,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,6,16,0,1,2,2,0,9,7,1,1,1,7,3,10,1,38,23,3,58,0,0,0,0,19,28,0,4,18,122,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149215948302496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481660196543187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257875087246178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613554607285075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556360499773376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567075350682273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060879654237606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424434067570533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24954207133060835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477261886116662,0.0,0.0,0.15027481173772358,0.13260105932741525,0.0,0.0,0.160871691705306,0.0,0.15048054809288516,0.09574895658481264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532693427308706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204614997600934,0.15828903187836887,0.15029060175417985,0.14133885734047422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23377066503303226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001330567179796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26787293066057355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704622635032364,0.1309870898012689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007518117981604,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toughtimes2020,2019/02/08,"Red Flags before starting a family Hi Gang,

I am actually in the process of heartbreak from my exSO who I was planning on marrying. Its been hard but my gut was screaming at me that the relationship was unhealthy. I wanted to list some of the red flags here and see if, give your understanding of the challenges of marriage and children, that I chose not to take the relationship further or work on it any longer.

I am hoping that asking people who are mostly in healthy relationships I will get a bit of validation that I made the right decision. We were thinking of getting married in the next two years and starting to have children at three.

I should add that outside of these negatives, she was a loving, caring and very kind girlfriend and we were very much in Love.

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* She hit me once, while drunk, as I came home late and she was locked out for 25mins on a dangerous road. She justified this by saying she was scared and locked out. Also it's not the same as if gender roles were reversed. She showed remorse but also seemed to forget this evening happened a year or so later. Making me even deny the events myself.
* Very OCD about cleanliness in the home. It's a stressor for her. Refuses to get a regular cleaner to help with this and buy us more time to do fun stuff (We could have afforded it comfortably)
* Cannot take criticism 90% of the time. Gets very worked up and defensive if you try and pass on a criticism, even in a calm manner.
*  Prefers all natural health care to an extent that she has not seen a doctor for 28 years, refuses a smear test and claims that she would always do her own research to decide if she would use a natural or 'mainstream' approach to health. She is not a medical professional in any capacity.
* Has not been vaccinated.
* Future MIL is very controlling of her. She is a natural health provider and assists on her helping her around the house with chores (she lives very close) future MIL had a health condition that could be easily treated but again refuses any modern healthcare through the threat of death.
* She refused any couples counseling, had tried CBT to help with mood swings but refused anyone on one therapy.
* Often is the victim and rarely has the insight into how destructive her behaviors can be.
* Has made thinly veiled suicide threats, One more serious that I prevented. Her trigger claimed to be tiredness and me saying 'stop joking about that..' and showing me she meant it.
* Much of the above has been discussed with her but met with defensiveness and often turning it around to be a bi-product of my behavior. e.g. ""i got angry as you were not listening""
* Took a very strong dislike to one of my female friends (who made no effort with her and can be a bit rude) to the point where it was once stated ""I can't be with you if you are friends with her""
* Has a brother who shows lots of bipolar traits, suicide threats and long mood swings.
* Sister has emigrated with her own family due to the volatility of this one and behavior that got out of hand once she started having her own children. She has gone total no contact.
* Father has previously been physically abused but seems to be tamer now.

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So, I chose to leave and not propose to this woman in the next 6 months, did I make the right call? Should I have tried to work on these issues? I feel it is a way to far gone and an unhealthy place to raise a family. I feel I have abandoned her and the relationship, she is devastated but I think these are not issues I can fix, especially if trying to get to address some of them is a very difficult task.

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To be clear she has shown no real intention of extracting herself from toxic family members. Sometimes they are stable but this is what I have observed over the BU.

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I did try and discuss these things during separation but was met with yo-yo-ing of empty promises to seek help and throwing the blame back at me, suggestions that I am meant to accept this situation as a healthy one to start a family in.",4.854055118110239,6.754685074803149,5.096333333333334,81.14450000000002,70.29921259842521,8.177112860892388,29.891601049868765,8.794040026160912,2.4659859317585298,3225,131,585,59,60,1016,350,762,0.151,0.716,0.133,-0.9465,2,0,0,0,2,2,121.0,4,5,2,8,19,34,9,1,49,0,73,12,2,10,3,126,121,52,3,15,26,3,5,0,3,5,7,4,4,4,39,46,1,11,14,5,1,7,14,15,0,7,34,13,77,17,97,71,17,71,1,2,4,2,87,37,0,18,25,426,116,8,0.0,0.04732916663453365,0.038981277288246484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638891832512379,0.03323805335622499,0.3895307063323826,0.4368459870481279,0.10865788443864928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027930988251308884,0.0,0.0,0.07112035023397748,0.03734387202579988,0.0,0.0,0.03071580622164825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03399088023461413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872207983856081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04078906390633757,0.04568728171784098,0.08145468268633202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04480254095111106,0.06378684151745452,0.04419919845771486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040886154694046835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915134809666324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882864298736224,0.0,0.04039552995060086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061723954978349024,0.0,0.10434999499882243,0.03831959103977644,0.0,0.0,0.06389651034031635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03532388350389957,0.0,0.0357835344098339,0.0,0.0,0.16984180288669395,0.0,0.0,0.10709914256358216,0.0,0.08013766282296499,0.03967513027489799,0.0,0.046092017538552604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338594286592953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04159733830259523,0.0,0.0,0.04506053150192873,0.042296768010534086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03527281780816384,0.035350720423735604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033960437314320906,0.07210517485979448,0.11339286722512668,0.053328179560810735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04024112774795807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03188430634721811,0.0,0.058729426149380475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496548942335692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12762271936552416,0.1353413267321721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027693344553384413,0.0,0.041734793381760615,0.0,0.037761633279500606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04546699419514389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154709001273294,0.0,0.06822688265810227,0.0,0.06353290708920771,0.03999265155090402,0.0,0.031831580775080116,0.07273019782257414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04490068229997175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03950735552387693,0.0,0.11309519362543888,0.0,0.0,0.03339642497053871,0.0,0.0,0.04572831218698503,0.08738830613396398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006844616744154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04568143182056734,0.0,0.02653817284148426,0.05119123094926005,0.0,0.0,0.04658536122024012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044381183849570606,0.1356026673384277,0.043449491391944664,0.039021180924705565,0.041584921211728465,0.04804980349094637,0.03450029146420395,0.0,0.26367533332320586,0.02356103077277214,0.03170706688697705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724291735038107,0.0,0.0,0.056752611248737,0.0,0.4368459870481279,0.0771712352984426
parenting,iplaywithasquirrel,2019/02/08,"I can’t even parent my own kids I’m done. I’ve tried everything but nothing works. I’m 34M with wife 33F and two kids 10F and 6M. No matter what I do, I’m always met with backlash. From getting the kids to do chores, eat more than chicken nuggets, or do things besides watch tv all the time.  For example, I tried to make my daughter help wash dishes and she starts crying that she’s missing a tv show. So I tell her no tv for one hour. Wife immediate tells me I’m being to harsh and she’s only ten. Or I try and have my son empty the bathroom trash and he doesn’t. So I take away one of his toys. Only for it to be given right back to him. I’m told that “forcing them to do something isn’t the right idea.”  Even something as simple as help put away laundry is met with resentment.  

I’ve told everyone how I feel but it gets me nowhere. It’s like they just don’t care what I say. So at this point, I’m ready to just throw in the towel. 

Thanks for listening. ",0.15773386034255665,2.131221516908216,1.9887241985068087,97.56303359683795,85.03864734299519,4.923056653491436,19.070926657883177,6.11248444174946,-0.28387729468599066,742,20,177,6,22,244,125,207,0.12,0.7879999999999999,0.092,-0.706,2,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,1,9,5,1,0,6,0,13,3,0,2,1,21,34,16,0,0,6,5,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,3,9,9,2,0,2,5,0,2,6,2,0,4,6,4,21,3,23,26,3,13,0,1,1,0,27,7,0,2,5,100,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027782821369355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716204312048515,0.11115062680048908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737915344119712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878224363065085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792563432346184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479115345064393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19094885305549414,0.0,0.0,0.13812446434030856,0.12991291987056194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308921734866768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104363228561374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937786809148958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235340020900206,0.0,0.0,0.1631802352038448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062020929137297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648876772987837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870037142657618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590269830115467,0.21987476293995603,0.0,0.0,0.16050653413417254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366472095096279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531345852809313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468911516555514,0.0,0.11495258165233553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22256450424656926,0.0,0.0,0.10231378568479957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868419657070433,0.0,0.252687505124158,0.13308293669655408,0.0,0.0,0.09603311481343252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428872193671216,0.0,0.0,0.2762489286806171,0.0,0.2944214720275504,0.0,0.1412051074609094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523468902213697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MangoRainbows,2019/02/08,"Teaching My Kid Not To Bully I have an honest question that I need help with. My son rides the bus with a girl; I'm not sure what her disability is but I know she makes random weird noises and it makes the boys laugh. He comes home and makes fun of her, tells me about she makes these noises and him and his friends 'can't help' but laugh at her. He claims she laughs with them. I was made fun at school and on the bus because of my eyes so I don't buy the whole her laughing with them. It pisses me off so much. The bus driver has never done anything about it so idk maybe it isn't a big deal. To me though it is. I don't want my son like that. I tell him how wrong it is and I even punish him for it. I explain to him how I was suicidal as a teen because I was bullied and he insist it isn't the same, that she is laughing WITH them. He isn't getting it. What can I do as a mother to instill how very wrong his actions are?

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My inspiration for asking this question: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taYUpQG1X14](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=taYUpQG1X14)",2.1615308747855906,4.565016448113212,2.3059176672384254,95.69371355060035,80.27358490566037,4.609262435677532,18.59862778730703,5.565023196281405,-0.5435641509433964,845,19,182,4,22,254,107,212,0.138,0.6509999999999999,0.211,0.9659,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,3,0,10,17,2,0,11,0,18,2,2,8,2,36,31,18,1,2,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,16,13,0,0,5,0,1,3,9,5,0,0,5,1,37,12,21,26,3,9,0,0,1,0,37,5,1,3,2,126,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622557233920336,0.18196450366333655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232327519650502,0.0,0.13999746834263296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257428909270626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899768573446554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438725490963984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324781083546438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890947517693373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569766288687933,0.0,0.07823899520279398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007505918268135,0.0,0.15021299754829492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229952617156172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316103476007699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416985213233257,0.3998412443507152,0.0,0.1504455428281389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008460735470267,0.11103886419191,0.11549761410464995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33551197831756485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155654620400716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380387139627214,0.0,0.1411390475742053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617788807386617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713012079896964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356069793775633,0.0883273340657373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719223860955074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32745958579527884,0.18196450366333655,0.0
parenting,DiscoLemonade119,2019/02/08,"Extreme temper tantrums at 1. Normal? My son is 14 months, and very much showing his personality. I’m a first time mom so I’m just wondering if these temper tantrums are normal. He’s *very* particular about certain things and doesn’t like if they don’t work they way he thinks it will. 

Example; husband was feeding him a cheese stick last night. Husband showed toddler that cheese stick can be peeled. Toddler flips out. Toddler shreds cheese stick whist screaming. I’m talking like shredded that cheese stick to oblivion. 

He likes to hold bananas (his favorite food) but does the same thing when I peel it to eat and he wasn’t done holding it. Throws himself on the floor. On a bad day, he’ll throw his whole body back and slam his head on something. 

I’m just at a loss of how to react to this. My parents said I never acted like that and it just doesn’t seem normal to me but 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is this normal? And if it is, why is he showing so much anger? 
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parenting,anonymous8336,2019/02/08,Does he want to be a dad? I recently gave birth to a beautiful baby. The father and I dated two months only and initially  he seemed happy for the pregnancy and then all of a sudden everything changed.. since we have ended in bad terms and hes never looked for me but recently I found he asks about the baby but doesnt seem to make much effort to contact me . Should I attempt to contact him ? ,2.5758951175406892,4.501514329113924,4.345605786618446,84.00784810126581,76.59493670886077,7.552260397830018,23.943942133815554,8.418075326091056,1.639819529837251,308,10,60,6,7,104,55,79,0.03,0.885,0.085,0.4696,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,2,15,13,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,9,1,10,9,3,11,0,0,1,0,12,1,0,2,10,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859280176493927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630098965941985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236037848787452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952591706493169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976235143887514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005313688019129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446462731293373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237521903044068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736974449119287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893841725796522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780971397048216,0.0,0.1640233709306147,0.0,0.17208861851909688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16969746820130022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4406202494128746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062512780208701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457223163454425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179617970958541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160556618143626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jeremih908,2019/02/08,"Tl;dr My 14 son had an erection around the girl he liked. Yesterday it was my 14 yr sons basketball game and they have won ten games so far. Now they’re off to the championship. After the game, one of the girls that my son really likes came up and said congrats on winning and going to the championship. He said thank you I appreciate. The girl said so do you want some ice cream. My son was ok sure and I my husband and I could yell he was getting an erection. The girl obviously did too. So the girl said you know what I’m going to go now looking at his pants. My son said wait no don’t go. But she already left. 
My son went to the bathroom and he cried. 
He came out and said let’s go home now mom. So we all went home. 

At home my son went to his room and never came back out for the rest of the day. What do I do about this? What if that girl doesn’t want to associate with him anymore? 😬",0.3108638743455501,2.2808289214659716,1.9732434554973817,97.92499607329843,84.39267015706807,5.4953926701570674,18.450523560209426,6.742157984588678,-0.1896012565445031,688,17,168,8,20,224,104,191,0.023,0.805,0.172,0.981,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,3,1,2,11,7,0,0,13,1,13,0,0,0,4,28,39,14,0,4,2,9,0,2,0,0,0,7,4,6,7,16,0,1,1,3,0,11,4,0,0,2,18,9,21,7,20,19,3,30,0,0,2,0,38,11,0,2,10,100,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935658929310615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726506315516043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628479860814616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316790360026452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37111662453999184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635648122024672,0.0,0.11880802395663663,0.06975386627097294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056508823256174616,0.0,0.3073474025078793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254780959508154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944157854329935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751550638100905,0.11060031622786512,0.0,0.10568244062388983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908266567586381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667498401318975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341919838096865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329160975667323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928968228745351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6173061554327642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019389560569251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957864538079612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759043483297694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30079454684312457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BokarYavaLiletta,2019/02/08,"REMOTE CONTROL TOY SNAKE 100% OFF GUARANTEE valentine day sale and grand opening shop [REMOTE CONTROL TOY SNAKE](https://twitter.com/okyzero085/status/1093430145984094209)

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parenting,athaliah,2019/02/08,"Is it possible for a smart kid to not seem smart when they are very young? My son had a speech evaluation a few months ago because he's hard to understand. Even my special ed teacher aunt told me he should be evaluated, it wasn't just me who was concerned. Not only did he pass, but he got like a 98 percentile score or something and I was like wtf how? They told me his brain is more developed than his physical ability to speak, like he's trying to say phrases with a mouth that is meant to use normal 3 year old speak so it comes out unintelligible when he starts talking too fast. They pointed out if he says one or two words at a time you can understand him perfectly.

This kid is nuts, he does a lot of weird crazy shit that constantly baffles me so I always thought he was actually a little slow TBH. But because of that evaluation I've been questioning everything about him. Like he just turned 4 and still doesnt know his colors, but now I have a feeling he actually does know them and he's just playing us because he thinks it's funny, like he'll tell you the sky is red with a big ole grin on his face. 

I can't figure out this kid. Is it possible he is actually smarter than we give him credit for? ",3.280728744939271,4.6570882469635615,4.5285829959514174,85.7493117408907,73.41295546558705,8.114979757085022,26.765182186234817,8.6894789155246,1.7668591093117416,955,34,206,18,19,315,149,247,0.078,0.736,0.187,0.9825,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,2,4,1,13,14,1,0,11,0,21,4,4,2,1,39,39,14,0,3,11,2,2,5,0,2,0,5,0,3,11,10,0,0,11,1,1,2,5,2,0,2,12,9,25,12,19,24,3,25,0,0,2,0,46,9,1,6,19,115,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.35994120850538597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898679246301296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023033442862017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22484554734785694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725164780102242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590960132707053,0.0,0.13286409582174186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21518684342696875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812065970316861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049855460584974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062166664272862986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179437999281778,0.0,0.0,0.09833347678298948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013807581546513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513901364368566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003331408621337,0.12322710998760318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452676856378727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813664881656736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046382955242432,0.0,0.0,0.12901420125162735,0.0,0.08331336493410851,0.09350818811314546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622646274735983,0.27721285046522803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773091998415626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955478197772733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119280721422402,0.0,0.0,0.1262052916780064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094652079447974,0.0,0.0,0.087023872958034,0.0,0.09818716020212667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882167850460596,0.10746276856450174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878069855820538,0.0,0.09760770285907247,0.07169249950552119,0.0,0.0,0.23496590917236096,0.0,0.08347424088993657,0.13373311094038495,0.12010322216558683,0.25598830751267604,0.14789240322637587,0.10618838467493286,0.0,0.1014457289196621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917506849870377
parenting,threelightful,2019/02/08,"Nanny’s first day - tips So I admittedly screwed up the first time I had a nanny start working for me. At the time I had one kid and basically did her job for her and could never work my way back from it. 

I now have 3 month old twins and a 2.5 year old and a new nanny starting next week. Are there any tips you can share to ensure I get us set up for success in the first few weeks? I am not going back to work for a few more weeks so I will be here with her (for the most part. I am DYING to leave the house) as she’s getting used to everything. 

Thanks!",0.5232414307004483,2.0145779262295136,2.373159463487333,97.80231743666172,81.21311475409837,5.419970193740686,17.648286140089418,6.11248444174946,-0.589042622950819,425,8,108,3,11,141,80,122,0.04,0.861,0.1,0.7914,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,7,7,4,1,0,9,0,11,1,0,1,1,11,19,7,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,3,0,16,3,16,13,5,28,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,1,21,75,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197385498700984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306107236036954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197260587316685,0.0,0.0,0.09670791782981357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556285663973053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476897665451296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826523605399837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566895407600284,0.0,0.08522230791186232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730267706505516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880619627758182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877962321126218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969184375749232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11565376105629176,0.14482649746110618,0.159477769001655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147029739638013,0.0,0.10161270411060544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238555769597335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122764111241271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380574865582408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487875432628994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18037618599528826,0.12951210073546834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190264970646142,0.3608521358241204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275048708519485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965654527897
parenting,OzHaramm,2019/02/08,"Problems with day care Hi,

My wife and I work all day, so our daughter is in daycare, which she always loved. Now, after the summer vacation (we live in Brazil), she started to behave differently. She crys whem I leave her there, the teacher told me she doesn't want to eat and have been really touchy (I don't know if this is the most appropriated word, but I mean she gets uppset really easily there). At home she is happy and eats well.

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Is she just going through a fase? I'm starting to belive that maybe she got scared with something/someone there. We're getting really worried. Any advises, tips, etc?

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Thanks!",2.9368390433096323,5.672228436974795,3.647226890756304,85.21779573367812,79.75630252100841,6.350614091790563,23.43956043956044,7.61054688173877,1.3086323206205566,500,17,91,8,13,158,89,119,0.085,0.759,0.156,0.903,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,2,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,4,0,8,3,0,0,1,16,22,6,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,2,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,3,0,17,5,10,19,3,11,0,0,0,1,17,3,0,2,7,57,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873737928838812,0.30922960316707504,0.3467909179533448,0.09704052384621252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454916064019576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405868852319174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909056009336152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920343380762689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15914761498275995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491091527187295,0.0,0.0810993896837953,0.0,0.11412979126922368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190622501336334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313918995068453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842388942231868,0.0,0.0,0.15109812034161027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600623453400206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879183092080068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336078424363524,0.1554415419931075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654410796300068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742507777377019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428670501564944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090878648167346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020068196725854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313784873407969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635544601156566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416783670539735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283039489798064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038869039314302,0.14491822495186685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467909179533448,0.0
parenting,likeagameofchess,2019/02/08,"Verbally Mean Twin 3.5 year old twin boys

One boy constantly says mean things to the other, almost compulsively. Anytime he is upset, slightly inconvenienced, or for apparently no reason at all he says “I hate you” and “you’re stupid”. This is almost exclusively directed toward his brother. 

Brother handles it on his own by saying “I’m not stupid” or ignored. 

Should I also intervene or allow them to work it out on their own? ",3.584011544011545,6.627559233766236,4.91030303030303,75.09656565656567,80.03896103896105,7.578066378066379,26.73737373737373,8.515128840125781,2.630813564213564,339,14,54,8,9,112,59,77,0.18,0.775,0.045,-0.9088,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,2,1,1,5,3,1,1,0,3,0,0,2,1,15,7,5,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,5,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,0,3,7,0,9,6,3,8,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,5,3,36,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346098623911208,0.0,0.0,0.17354342812105306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345115394438009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142531997876594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4727766778238538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22771628978097866,0.0,0.14705210874391686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22312320662470286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5177270048076799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441723076305243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579864194614245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397478158742795
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parenting,MissSnowFlake92,2019/02/08,"How do I get my 10 year old to stop picking his nose He doesn't just pick his nose a little bit. He digs up there until it bleeds. His nostrils are just one big scab. I worry that he's going to get an infection. I've tried sitting him down and talking about it, and what could happen if he keeps doing it. He just doesn't seem to care. I put the anti nail biting polish on his fingers, hoping that it would stop him from eating his boogers. Also hoping since he couldn't eat it, he would stop picking his nose. Nope didn't even phase him. So any ideas how I can stop the gross habit? ",1.5457871396895797,3.256043756097561,2.5855432372505547,96.44155210643015,78.91869918699186,4.797930524759793,17.68588322246859,4.851557810540192,-0.7427983739837396,454,8,103,1,11,144,80,123,0.155,0.8009999999999999,0.044,-0.9028,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,4,0,11,10,5,5,0,24,20,8,0,7,4,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,8,2,2,5,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,1,5,14,3,9,15,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,4,7,60,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033698106609445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108336333794634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793458875582632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617143771089735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012819904792494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335434051433425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764835019268316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030317346741214,0.0,0.09262666427642977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412481428425453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237566323613326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398731202268886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448662620142819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335120019869598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102263145869098,0.0,0.11044110468830844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384234648213322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483730724692036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482074066833086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5450423984220846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099909420095168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065436360893288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655165571835967,0.0,0.2315560675956749,0.0,0.0,0.10495533382531118
parenting,olafssonprime,2019/02/08,"Home automation for helping kids be excited about their chores? Hi everybody! My wife and I have set up an automation (using a Raspberry Pi, a couple of Google Home speakers, and a smart button) to help our kids create create good ""tidying up"" habits. We have a list of things we have agreed with the kids to do after waking up (e.g. packing bags for daycare/school), in the afternoon (e.g. taking lunch box out of bag and doing homework), and before going to bed (e.g. tidying up room and brushing teeth). The system will automatically remind them (and us) that it's time for chores, and once they're done they'll hit that button and get a little ""Good job"" message through the speakers. They love it and we love it, but when I mention the system to (some of) my friends, the response is a little mixed.

Here's the thing: I get that people are hesitant about using technology to help raise kids, what with smart screens being such an easy and common way to keep kids ""entertained"", but this is hardly the same concept. The way I see it, we're using technology as a way to help kids learn to take responsibility. Am I missing something here? What are your thoughts?",8.226522101751456,7.358479183486239,7.8363386155129255,74.17826105087573,62.21100917431193,10.129107589658046,34.03836530442035,9.095868883498916,2.828095412844037,914,31,168,12,11,290,126,218,0.023,0.8,0.17600000000000002,0.9831,1,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,5,1,4,0,6,10,0,0,18,0,15,5,2,3,0,28,30,14,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,0,2,7,6,12,16,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,6,17,9,28,23,2,21,0,1,2,2,27,9,0,1,5,107,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184786553717117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540607823519913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248565678061548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075725479832058,0.0,0.14548899010759225,0.0,0.0791304094235886,0.2335672772396684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472713304456225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3733049075167769,0.0,0.2793279394461756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816916632191942,0.1237583876565444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27909992122746946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513298891868953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482806376391002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652795699268976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091316481163238,0.11095219842959544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718983801780042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20937465234981475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850029780093352,0.0,0.0,0.11053696780644286,0.08118899715575707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748245615260782,0.36076277940415297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315545779886402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MuchaBucha,2019/02/08,"Advice for teaching 5yr old to sound out words So my 5yr old son is having trouble with sounding out words. He gets homework that has pictures and he has to figure out what the 3 letter words letters are or he is asked what sounds he hears when  picture is on the hw. 

He has trouble figuring out which sound he hears first and last and middle sounds. I have to always break down the pronunciation. What other ways can I help him learn to sound out words on his own? He also has a speech delay and sees 2 speech therapist per week. He just learned how to say c and K sounds  as well as no longer saying pood instead of food. Now need to work on hard G sound and not saying W sound in place of L",4.469663536776213,4.808164823943663,4.690093896713616,89.5388654147105,69.77464788732394,7.156181533646323,24.93270735524257,6.42735559955562,0.6188895148669791,543,13,119,3,9,170,92,142,0.08,0.8859999999999999,0.034,-0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,8,3,0,0,4,0,11,1,0,1,0,26,17,13,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,16,1,0,6,12,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,18,5,1,22,17,1,22,0,0,1,0,20,12,0,1,8,67,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816185309757293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486307754730601,0.15464895289469674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375237484363398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809093260722631,0.2247405337900325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710326467186077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664924858277162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41895151130517816,0.0,0.12457686733236342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15149928001884694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781153746341568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39005393755834217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194182313464426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4434058209005446,0.0,0.0,0.14810496219770788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579575341390508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475256279566315,0.14908427745027267,0.0,0.16710888753733938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530701964919326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gallocrazy,2019/02/08,"Sex and teens At what age would you let your child have sex in your house?
Would you let them have sex in your house?
Would you stop them from seeing each other or would? you watching like a hawk?",-0.08091666666666697,2.2515340749999986,-0.3049999999999997,109.12333333333332,95.75,2.666666666666667,9.166666666666668,3.1291,-2.460833333333333,153,1,37,0,6,43,25,40,0.052000000000000005,0.867,0.081,0.3094,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,0,8,9,2,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,9,1,4,3,1,5,0,0,2,3,10,3,0,1,3,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272849449052515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4672853723991997,0.0,0.11162684770549663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18207397084751525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910247483297283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6492403477563015,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quagliax,2019/02/08,"Natural palliatives for snotty nose and crackling lings in a 3 months infant. Hi everyone.
Our little, breastfed 3 Months daughter, is the last one in our family of 4 showing symptoms of the thousand winter infections we got this year. Since late December, we contracted a few flu, a streptococcus infections and a Scarlett Fever. We adults had eventually to resort to antibiotics, and we're all under doctor and pediatrician supervision. She'll get healthy soon, but I wish I could make her life easier in the meanwhile.

Therefore palliatives: she's one of this angelic babies always in a good mood, so I can free her nose with a vacuum cleaner adapter for infants in the morning, and that's all we're doing.

Can you suggest anything else?
Thanks",6.574360902255641,8.632860308270676,6.98647368421053,68.66181578947372,66.21804511278195,10.432781954887217,35.85639097744361,10.577609850970193,4.485677293233082,603,30,92,17,10,196,93,133,0.013,0.797,0.19,0.974,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,10,0,7,9,2,2,2,16,12,7,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,7,0,1,3,3,9,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,13,4,14,8,3,14,1,0,0,0,16,7,0,0,7,60,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703971455949175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18497948301504727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17947309522327662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23007769502775385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877796134510744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147923750169006,0.0,0.0,0.21190795815599392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174412536720282,0.0,0.0,0.1885395852669225,0.17978166361481734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323035209936656,0.253568067289996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587727918169663,0.0,0.22529433068769264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004620421254736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588436118202553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30464122370568864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594505883485427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336384173936848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069524771285193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25849246833189266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447546247441994
parenting,theirmomlovesthem,2019/02/08,"I sent a text I regret My 13 year old DD is friends with a group of girls. They were talking about a late night for this upcoming weekend and all the girls were in (I hadn’t contacted any parents yet) Later I noticed the new Lego Movie came out and so I asked my DD if she wanted to plan her late night around going to see the movie. She said yes. 

I texted out and every girl was in except 1. Her mom said she couldn’t make it. The girl comes from a large family (8 kids) and I know money gets tight for them and worried the $10 ticket was excluding the girl. I private messaged the mom and said I get lots of free movie passes from work and if anything changes between now and the weekend her DD was welcome to use one of the passes. 

I had good intent but regretted the moment I sent it. The text shows it was read but the mom never replied. I feel awful. I made assumptions. Is there anything I can do to fix this? 
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parenting,Catnat16,2019/02/08,"Need advice with my child’s academics. My child is 8 years old in 3rd grade . Here’s the story after I divorced my husband , my child got very bad . Everything happened this school  year. Nothing i do is helping her , parents please recommend what would be good for her think maybe a different school for example homeschooling, Montessori or religious school. Maybe some of you had problems like that and found a good solution thank you. ",6.3345887445887445,8.54392741558442,5.199415584415586,80.64293290043291,67.05194805194805,8.769696969696971,33.612554112554115,9.2995712137729,3.261772294372295,349,16,58,7,6,103,61,77,0.097,0.695,0.207,0.8186,2,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,1,6,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,12,2,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,10,4,6,7,1,5,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,2,5,32,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020963909756326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543555279668907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198419135064328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654447423010945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098269975516427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.292192919750904,0.13931007945869395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540294764615007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675121208518215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509702918349511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34998052694462545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291545082382754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713331316182928,0.0,0.18277578720549476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340963948440024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912006586236846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666963391767448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528847570741708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603643300059628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160945117577233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437192400684849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373462557565355,0.0,0.0,0.2243363185061305
parenting,Kiwana13,2019/02/09,"Facebook friend and her questionable choices with her baby OkY so this woman lives in a different province, I don’t know her super well but she just had a baby. Yay babies! However everything she posts of social media stresses me out. SO Do y’all think it is wildly inappropriate to pose your baby in pictures with cigarettes, booze, also videos of a bunch of semi-drunk people around the baby drawing on its face like pretend eyebrows while it sleeps. She also posts videos of her newborn upside down and her pretending it is slipping away, 

Because I do, my stomach is in knots and I’m trying to figure out if I’m being judgemental high horse “I would NEVER do that” kind of mom or if this is actually a really disturbing and boarding abuse. 

Like what do I even make of this...do I do something? Do I unfollow and stop being judgemental?! I can take it, be honest! Thanks y’all ",3.710892857142859,5.951856398809526,5.073238095238096,78.63842857142859,74.29761904761905,7.575238095238094,26.67619047619048,8.447377352677275,2.1665090476190474,697,26,120,13,15,232,108,168,0.112,0.7340000000000001,0.154,0.7681,2,0,2,0,1,0,19.0,0,3,0,1,8,11,0,2,5,1,17,4,3,1,1,23,24,14,0,3,5,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,9,10,1,1,4,4,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,20,9,19,19,1,15,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,4,5,89,29,0,0.0,0.21419098468802672,0.17641211034285093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28913433395447885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092970710430793,0.0,0.0,0.16984578416760934,0.0,0.0,0.1101998786788963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887331271259195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940139237411215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247055975165745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396677317154105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19100064800091326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18825125150065164,0.09935021896573358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663685713138205,0.0,0.15962925435368638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066993889784235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117236403811804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394262371255524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532789315724355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462684668247928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025114241969638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581026742602585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809073865403642,0.18427921412893886,0.0,0.1391708369799488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511375259305783,0.2070792499019991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359216794649442,0.0,0.0,0.16643501847257808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583449428849465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273560220410985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254008210009022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841867448088795,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dadstaysathome,2019/02/09,"Is it normal for one parent to regularly want to take the child on outings by themselves? Brief background, my wife and I really do not get along at all, but we stay together for the benefit of keeping a home for the child.  This is not about that,  it just setting the scene.  Were not seperated or anything, there is just no affection or friendship between us, but we’re civil for the most part and give our child’s good home with everything he could want except seeing parents in love.  

I’m a stay at home parent, I do all the vast majority of cooking, cleaning, child care.  Our child is everything to me and the most important part of my life,  My wife regularly is always doing things where it is just her and our child and purposely excluding me.  He might get invited to a bday party and she takes him and does not want me to come along.   Regularly she wants to take him to movies, just the two of them, Just this weekend she decided to take him to the beach and not bring me along.  When our child asked why dad was not coming she said “Because you are alone with him lots of other times”, to which our son said “that doesn’t even make sense”.  I totally agreed.  The only reason I am alone with him a lot is I am the stay at home parent.  My wife also chooses to be an extreme workaholic, even working on weekends and when home is usually on her phone on social media when she could be with our son where as I spend every free moment I am not doing house work to be with our son.

I always argue with her that this is not normal, that families should do things together all the time whenever possible.   Sure, the very occasional special day once or twice a year is fine but it should not be a regular thing.  ",6.631348499835143,5.9637942136498525,6.8380761622156285,79.38327975601716,65.32047477744807,10.33755357731619,31.18513023409166,9.725611199111238,2.620251697988789,1338,42,271,24,18,432,166,337,0.03,0.823,0.147,0.992,4,2,0,0,0,0,29.0,9,1,1,2,15,9,1,0,20,0,31,3,0,3,5,68,54,20,0,10,21,11,0,0,0,3,1,2,6,7,16,21,1,1,3,4,2,4,11,1,0,3,4,3,40,9,43,41,11,30,0,0,1,1,52,11,0,8,11,202,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705857594649996,0.0,0.06835661668379997,0.14224886010219207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034099860330424,0.0,0.07991026385540853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210651230815465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871503787987816,0.0,0.0,0.14726322162554534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364942374652897,0.0,0.0,0.055126150651214775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480225451095973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291464556837008,0.0,0.07201878676062938,0.0,0.15364398441998905,0.0,0.0805809225202954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931731158360351,0.08199815564664371,0.0,0.07169477656529802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42870633343234094,0.0,0.0,0.09862997818194144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759766526884919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060375542981334074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453404459268477,0.07714710922860077,0.0,0.05705713773720161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067850538475976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675003154289682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103113509848873,0.05792201259814205,0.06500976709082196,0.0,0.0,0.3796522078695171,0.18512839316596447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636344798768398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05475930824414348,0.08788548015696858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16261804514229838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811479047791423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713391751660307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27332408839852457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056187490728511,0.0,0.25707486247320066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036308333573394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996856593857494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349945237303133,0.0,0.10281934536700764,0.0,0.09414179059601642,0.07052818948267878,0.20166823455873747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713047671879507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445780555674665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055044941692940524
parenting,dont_vax_me_bro,2019/02/09,"As a parent who has genuine concerns about vaccines, I feel bullied online. Throwaway because admitting to this is a scarlet letter.

I am a parent who has chosen not to ""fully"" vaccinate my children. I am not a monster. I do not hate my children or want them to die. I love my children and want what is best for them. I have spent a great deal of time investigating the safety and efficacy of the recommended childhood vaccines.

I'm not going to try to change anyone's mind about vaccines, that's not the purpose of this post. What I would like is to encourage people to have some empathy for parents like me. Everywhere I look online, ""anti-vax moms"" are mocked and shamed. One only need look at the front page of [r/jokes](https://www.reddit.com/r/jokes) on any given day to see what I'm talking about.

Perhaps the stigma around not vaccinating prevents new parents from considering it, but it only hardens the resolve of parents like me. When I see jokes about unvaccinated children, I only get pissed off. I tell myself that it comes from a place of ignorance and peer pressure.

If you actually want to convince people like me that we are wrong, you should change your tactics, and refrain from simple bullying.",6.469656203288491,7.758686668161437,6.664502242152469,73.76057997010466,65.72645739910314,8.637249626307923,34.149177877429,8.841846274778883,3.0670295366218245,969,43,160,15,15,311,129,223,0.131,0.713,0.156,-0.2644,5,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,1,3,2,2,6,18,3,2,12,0,14,2,1,0,0,31,33,10,1,7,9,6,1,4,0,2,0,0,0,4,13,8,0,3,3,1,1,3,6,7,0,1,2,5,24,11,29,29,3,14,0,0,4,1,25,5,1,3,9,110,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.1117068838914625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784399669055936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800405702073678,0.0,0.0,0.10190318607520987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978027204885476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012993015142065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24218963010250724,0.0986063661970823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382412713978381,0.11801425821792715,0.0,0.0,0.11880250686934996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057879821902173126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059806212552828864,0.0,0.06505633287961836,0.0,0.0,0.12620434328449334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301611051757406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369839408621714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19225310408410945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331426977721524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558276812714505,0.13406669228758386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487856849737402,0.0,0.11055650872965232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756830418456165,0.2611803610997179,0.0,0.0,0.6355307900961077,0.0,0.0,0.1587191308132908,0.0,0.11959751046783172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963128138906532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824366436959068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200720705899616,0.10005243128901374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674878170860075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771808657646866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025533419109489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131669606951906,0.1251557330188871,0.0,0.0
parenting,kelseylynne90,2019/02/09,"Sexual behaviour in a 7 year old Okay so I’m not exactly sure what is considered “normal” sexual behavior but my daughter has recently come to me about what happened with her friend the other day. 

So about two days ago my daughter (age 6) and I went over to my friends house so she could play with my friends daughter (age 7). 

Apparently and according to my daughter, when they were playing in the bedroom, the other child asked her to go into the tent that was set and have do sex (which my daughter described as that thing married people do). My daughter told her no she wasn’t doing that but the other girl said she didn’t care they were going to do it anyways. My daughter said they touched each other’s chests and that the other kid instructed my daughter to put her foot on the other girls private’s. She then said the girl told her to lay down and my friends daughter got on top of her! 

I obviously explained how it was super inappropriate and why and that she should always tell an adult as soon as something like that happens and do not participate! I called my friend to let her know what I had just been told and I kind of nervously laughed about it because I was still pretty shocked. She said she would talk to her daughter tomorrow (kids were in bed) and let me know what happens. 

This is not the first time my daughter has reported this little girl talking about sex with her. A few months ago the girl told my daughter that she wanted to let her “boyfriend” put his mouth on her privates....

I mean, this is all very alarming to me but when I googled it, a lot of websites said it was somewhat normal as long as coercion wasn’t involved which I don’t think it is!

What should I do!? I almost want to not let my daughter play with my friends kid anymore but I also don’t want to damage our friendship but I have to think about my daughters safety as top priority. 

What would you do? ",4.6588409981439485,5.750797924932973,4.873632707774799,85.67311765312436,69.75067024128687,7.668756444627758,30.16384821612704,7.882392219407189,1.8789852340688804,1498,59,300,18,26,470,170,373,0.039,0.784,0.177,0.9957,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,1,3,4,16,20,0,2,14,1,38,5,3,1,4,51,67,29,0,10,10,14,1,1,6,4,0,5,2,10,31,17,0,0,6,3,0,6,10,4,0,2,23,6,57,16,41,35,5,38,0,1,0,2,71,12,0,3,20,220,88,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292079804978856,0.0,0.08637253960801372,0.0,0.0,0.06897858477775022,0.07177158212412517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855423932806032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806373571041443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258062278516396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807662766964118,0.0,0.08794334892542288,0.0,0.0,0.07430157540220737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886809051877188,0.0,0.0,0.11125547286096213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733689827206594,0.0,0.0,0.39984524872224825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804210842096918,0.0,0.06898649554150478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288266685180295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995273997120318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982195046541706,0.09480766130935996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352808844536366,0.0,0.0421401369317511,0.08645078717711811,0.0,0.07633350566133419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333144000803822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939576522870923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884840959079658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16902437933057016,0.0,0.0,0.09051075900710782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059798783388518635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775297070414942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342143564415166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516701462992461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4102442147308042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640378709726838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888384618460658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129489708146502,0.0,0.0,0.1386579933221957,0.07539121006382644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730439839853305,0.11053823148827023,0.0,0.0,0.05029634321190338,0.0,0.0,0.3296837491324978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425920318806329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116991643919593,0.15262739098290373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995981998815893,0.07783227704065965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225470293143513,0.0,0.0,0.05554578856230402
parenting,happybabymama,2019/02/09,"Peaceful alternatives to time outs for toddlers? I’m a SAHM to twin 2 year olds and a newborn. My 2 year olds are generally as compliant as you can expect from spirited toddlers, and maybe break the rules a couple times a day. They are also very verbal and I’ve taught them to express their feelings and deal with them before they get overwhelmed. 

Since pregnancy and birth of our third, I haven’t had the ability to reason and explain as much as before, and I find myself using timeout more than I want to. I only use it for direct disobedience, as in “don’t shake the baby’s crib” and he shakes the crib, mostly related to safety or hurting each other, not for stuff like not finishing their peas. But I’d like to do something different and stop using threats to get things done. I am definitely consistent in doing what I say I will do, but sometimes they still wait until I get up to put them in timeout before they comply. Any ideas what else I can do to keep my home peaceful?",7.279843749999998,6.514462296874999,7.508416666666665,75.42825000000002,64.05208333333334,10.18,33.2625,9.3871,2.8819587500000003,779,27,146,12,10,254,121,192,0.054000000000000006,0.858,0.08900000000000001,0.7498,1,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,9,0,2,7,1,3,8,0,14,0,0,4,0,32,27,19,0,2,5,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,6,12,0,3,5,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,3,2,23,2,28,23,4,21,1,2,0,0,17,5,0,2,14,100,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163826267743652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896737888311008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715133980524562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102941236866286,0.0,0.09385669636672113,0.15003805435492545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205093051680482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893070924385654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12157408365762415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358581916919997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330144560203962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22810483848129984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598138884040826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557960051672435,0.16428895691159745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935634971977628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422000710670014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620738315164614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106983444401499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30542464501204314,0.0,0.0,0.11068434669635473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630078512250236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963208438632972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573362245964247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038633866077475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203835502056604,0.14393578314177102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622278113006135,0.12167204102954278,0.0,0.0,0.16660037957759985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668560804537173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697228367037903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37708115904024814,0.0,0.12007990377293805,0.08583908922622653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743686319350653
parenting,alphawave8,2019/02/09,"Single fathers Most of these few items probably seem like common sense to most yet they were not to me and I thought I would share them. This is hopes that one may make a single fathers life a touch easier. Each I had to learn the hard way. 

1. It gets easier. 
Hang in there especially if you are in your first few months of doing this on your own. With time the wrinkles iron out and you find your own way. 
2. Be consistent, if you say something stick to it. Your children will learn that they can either trust what you say is going to stick or that they can whine you into whatever they want.
3. Until you have a real relationship with your daughters hair don’t let any one touch it. If your daughter is younger and can’t tend to her own hair do it every day and really try to empathize, I have always had a shaved head and went thru a huge learning curve here. 
4. Let safety be your barometer, make the majority of your decisions based on this idea. First of all is it safe for them, for you? 
5. Make personal time for them every day. It may seem like that is all that you do but they probably miss you even when your in the house. Read to your kid(s) for 20 mins every night. You will never look back and say that was time wasted.
6. Be humble.. at some point you may need to ask for help, it doesn’t mean that you have been defeated or that your giving up. You may just need a break that is ok!!
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parenting,justthepipe,2019/02/09,"Having a baby without having a relationship (hypothetical) I’ve always wanted to be a mother, I’m successful and financially stable, my career would easily facilitate me being a parent too. Let’s say I had a friend “donate” his sperm to me for the purpose of me having a child, what would I have to do for this? Would I need a lawyer to legally say this person is not going to play a parenting role, or pay child support. Baby will grow up knowing that he is dad, but will grow up in a stable single parent household.

This friend and I have discussed it, and he lives quite a few hours away so he wouldn’t be able to be dad much at all.

I have my own house, own my car, no debts etc. my mental health is wonderful, I just don’t feel the need for a romantic relationship (they don’t interest me for some reason) and I don’t think children have to see a Mum/Dad household to grow up amazingly. I have a great, supportive family and fantastic friends. 

Tl;Dr 

I want a child but no relationship, how do I go about this?",5.427495894909692,5.4192673448275865,6.818337438423648,76.30891830870283,67.66995073891626,9.91937602627258,28.739326765188842,9.725611199111238,2.4829740558292284,793,24,157,16,12,272,112,203,0.04,0.7190000000000001,0.241,0.992,4,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,0,0,1,2,5,10,0,0,16,0,28,1,0,2,1,27,42,10,0,8,6,6,1,0,3,6,1,2,0,5,7,5,0,0,5,1,3,6,8,0,0,0,1,4,20,10,21,30,8,13,0,0,1,0,26,6,0,3,1,115,27,5,0.12564689340553287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454828067617457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118049392397307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012949940346645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844870881558785,0.0,0.06353084457256998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912234344935585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281605011231827,0.0,0.0,0.13852614355209988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355677217646106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373688036515572,0.14497964531515686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690522466655425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848246134463498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094850883488423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662251608805705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236492376991376,0.18633115878839432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4185480174585244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097100208951068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13364093731859972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918593288143373,0.0,0.4046932244410435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19983890546621955,0.0,0.0,0.1001243064860814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851652113070945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050945589507233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821958625867812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111912152308647,0.13625869616066902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26776784426941513,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arish1983,2019/02/09,"Paw Patrol removed from Canadian Netflix? When I was setting Paw Patrol up on Netflix for my superfan toddler this morning, I saw a warning that the episode would only be available until the end of February. Are they taking down all 5 seasons or just the earlier ones? Does anyone know? I haven't had much luck finding any information online.",5.7370967741935495,7.987945612903223,6.375032258064518,71.44254838709679,68.67741935483872,8.185806451612903,38.206451612903216,8.841846274778883,3.996183225806452,276,16,40,5,5,90,55,62,0.091,0.909,0.0,-0.6619,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,9,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,5,1,7,4,2,9,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,2,4,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712125438850108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788655205646666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490117010318585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532377951383734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645159586713999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918206650750666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931799592669918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702520168172794,0.3033219993754117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299864407934246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28331160961591745,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lazybasics,2019/02/09,"Picky Eater I need some advice. My daughter is 7 years old and simply will not eat anything outside of her comfort foods. These foods include mostly dairy and carbs (pancakes, pizza, bagels, cheese sticks come to mind). A little background, I am a single father and my daughter spends 3-4 days a week with each parent. I have a cordial relationship with her mother and we have had this arrangement for almost 4 years now. I would describe my daughter as beautiful, innocent and full of laughter. In short, she is as happy and healthy as any 7 year old could be. The problem is when it comes time to eat. I can make her a full dinner and unless its within her list of foods she simply will not eat. Just tonight, I made a pot roast and vegetables. I chopped everything into small bits for her to easily chew and eat. We sat for almost an hour and she didn't even pick up her fork. At that point I , admittedly became frustrated. I threatened to take away her favorite toy should she not even attempt to eat. It seemed to motivate her but as she grabbed a simple carrot, I had to ""count her down"" for her to muster the strength to eat it. As she drew her fork closer to her mouth, she started hyperventilating....i asked her to pause and take a few breaths before taking a bite...she did and finally, after an hour of waiting, she tried to eat. She held the food in her mouth and almost immediately started ""guppying"" as if she was going to throw up. My daughter ended up running to the trash to spit out her half chewed carrot. I asked her why the food was so unbearable and I kept getting the same answer "" i dont know "" as she cried....

My daughter is extremely innocent and good spirited but I am unable to continue feeding her junk. We have a great relationship but I can't seem to get past this issue with food. If anyone has had a similar experience or has any suggestions please pass along. 

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Thanks ",3.763635642517187,5.774854385245902,4.425445090780894,84.36292702273933,73.45355191256832,7.236241847347082,26.28732592984312,8.049812674583475,1.6379458135025555,1499,53,286,23,31,478,201,366,0.017,0.86,0.123,0.9888,1,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,3,0,0,3,6,8,1,0,19,0,27,23,4,4,0,62,51,31,0,7,11,8,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,27,19,3,6,1,1,6,6,2,0,1,11,1,51,6,49,34,9,44,1,0,0,0,45,18,0,10,20,193,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183816539645374,0.0,0.0,0.22084444626150135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965364722683024,0.08932896836917559,0.0999856620968691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514035105276472,0.0,0.060496714363035664,0.0,0.13745350515704427,0.0,0.06906991459569885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255598814703968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025951655746193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12665360503486706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869587481055536,0.0,0.08075295336388975,0.04741119768128447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615922225877101,0.0,0.0,0.5265705460765968,0.0,0.0,0.065112613005693,0.0,0.0,0.09711214222131064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607068724937147,0.07191193481208638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053226649146357,0.0,0.0,0.533368953629072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681727575436631,0.0,0.041780360677137626,0.061661029915898224,0.0,0.08105072554895529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825825687352732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14479525198055115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673072920657817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0404020104040701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368150537060338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695618237316726,0.04907194143669327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422935672304093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451056105700716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428359170903544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162988738014276,0.0,0.07017854046732333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069757160019607,0.06949559021539456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034408151868117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785554324314915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385088475254212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406881997594764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582275806886973,0.0,0.0,0.06768288402313385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04286728210926522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04991196928222735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058969428526622736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633599908151612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05222306177546749,0.0,0.08932896836917559,0.14202406196311868
parenting,Star1901,2019/02/09,"Please help me understand my father Me: hey dad I’m ready
Him: ready for what? 
Me: ?? For the show I told you about yesterday 
Him: what??? I wasn’t prepped for that? You people just think you can call me like I’m your driver. 
Me: I read my mom’s message of her picking me up and call her back
I stay in the same spot and call her despite his false claims I walked away. I tell him nvm because mom is coming
I get ready for mom because she is driving into the junction
Dad: let’s go
Me: don’t worry mom’s abt in the drive way to take me
Dad: let’s go
Me: thinking he didnt hear or didn’t understand: mommy is coming
Dad: SCREAMS I SAID LETS GO. YOU NEVER LISTEN.
me: shaking and running to the garage door
Dad: Proceeds to say I’m disobedient and disrespectful and mom comes he continues and compares me to my sister. How he isn’t  this way with My sister because she doesn’t do this (context: when my dad says something false or faulty about what has happened or what I’ve done I tell him and my sister just lets him yell at her) and atp im lost I’m so confused.",-0.24185960591132985,1.998151821428575,1.5402709359605922,97.77714285714286,91.05357142857143,4.161083743842364,18.88485221674877,5.727593064623523,-0.3621402093596062,824,25,188,6,29,268,115,224,0.06,0.86,0.08,0.5349,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,5,0,1,8,5,0,2,5,0,17,0,0,2,1,27,39,14,0,0,5,15,0,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,7,13,0,0,4,2,0,11,7,4,0,0,7,7,43,1,18,28,1,26,0,1,0,0,49,6,0,4,7,109,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922459542398996,0.0754964977273104,0.0,0.1795539350418786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007667890872657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537273150564793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047507276371966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05129645045566838,0.0,0.16739861030853545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682270852432881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106591293074268,0.0,0.06580984815115891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605425116748113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40159418050836976,0.0,0.0479671471384349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717810307772273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5749524292823731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572461308214129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806757761945596,0.0,0.0,0.10777520923076782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820935013419038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339430786641467,0.15615777561095728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558590118970501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046497803564244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382123192272122,0.0,0.1716321554404567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258231225685746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938178542786966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442347416158232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586584222459585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970937948241844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vwags93,2019/02/09,"Moving in-state with parenting plan. Okay, so I was hoping some people have gone through this before and can help me out! 

I live in a big city, where rent is very high. I'm originally from a small town about 2 hours away (my daughter's father is also from there). My husband and I just found out we're pregnant. We are currently living with his parents, but we cannot afford a house here in the city and rent prices are crazy high. For the cheapest crappiest apartment in this area we can buy a 4 bedroom house in a nice area where I'm from. Assuming we would be able to find work and everything works out well, I would want to move back so our quality of life is better. My daughter is nearly 7 and will be going to 2nd grade next year. I don't want to disrupt her life or anything. But I also don't want us all crammed in a 2 bedroom apartment with no W/D or living in the upstairs of my husband's parents place. 
All in all, we have a parenting plan that states I must give 30 days notice. My ex fights me on every move I make, even if it's switching weekends. So I know he will fight me on this too. He sees her almost every weekend but the 2nd weekend of the month and we switch every holiday and he's supposed to take a week with her every summer but hasn't yet. 
What is the likelihood that the judge will approve my move? It isn't out of state or anything. Also, what would a reasonable parenting plan look like for this situation? 

Thanks in advance! (Please don't be mean to me I'm sensitive) ",2.9703030303030324,4.344033844155845,4.050064935064935,88.88319264069266,74.1948051948052,6.951515151515152,25.495670995671002,7.492282038375204,1.1383632034632032,1176,39,250,14,24,382,161,308,0.043,0.851,0.106,0.9396,9,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,8,0,0,8,17,9,2,0,16,1,28,2,0,3,4,51,46,21,0,9,9,11,0,1,0,7,2,0,4,0,10,21,0,0,6,4,4,7,7,2,1,0,3,2,31,7,37,33,4,51,0,0,2,0,30,28,0,8,15,158,41,3,0.08883063955535743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895105395539181,0.0,0.0,0.21311349107637967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620009498608966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345930998810003,0.0683052786299232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558833157585533,0.0,0.0,0.07856348194135958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057288413737749365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05867179964459904,0.0,0.29937458023782865,0.0,0.07983525099965136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118959525087248,0.0,0.0,0.09739821125293982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521444379707979,0.0504844995622015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954130522443756,0.18770889566155274,0.0,0.0882288685033899,0.0874802863923217,0.20499726283383224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881899637770373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548741550412304,0.043398163477828426,0.0,0.2353172465404225,0.0,0.07459536465824107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929514168442175,0.0,0.0,0.09676260807011933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090376899935055,0.3776516469672748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944723929287564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113427189928917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4931795641439288,0.0,0.0,0.06158398064707815,0.0,0.09280911169749076,0.097509366891371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913326921850334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078651878394616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984936071812003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678958583613348,0.0,0.0,0.08178331812975938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685232195692727,0.0,0.0,0.07329458073033526,0.1571838381967794,0.0,0.07125458086972923,0.0,0.07986941309120628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933952712822233,0.0,0.0,0.18930821299370126,0.0,0.0,0.057204019446730175
parenting,coffeepleasefast,2019/02/09,"Money, parenting, and the stupid things we do When it comes to financial mistakes, I don’t think I’m alone in having made some real doozies. From investing in Iraqi Dinar (don’t judge, I know there’s some if you out there too) to once buying a cruise from a telemarketer, only to realize about 10 seconds after I hung up that it was a scam, I’ve had to learn the hard way more than I care to admit.

But as I think about what money values I’m passing on to my kids, I sometimes worry I’m doing a crappy job and making lots of mistakes in that area too.

I’m wondering what mistakes you’ve made when it comes to teaching your kids about money? I want to learn from you all to hopefully avoid those same pitfalls in my life!!",3.3734889434889435,4.566056054054053,4.407272727272726,87.4286363636364,72.91891891891892,7.273710073710076,24.265356265356267,7.686295010490155,1.0848027027027034,568,16,118,7,11,185,90,148,0.179,0.742,0.079,-0.9361,2,2,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,3,0,0,9,7,1,1,6,0,7,1,0,3,1,31,24,7,0,6,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,9,6,0,1,8,1,6,4,2,5,0,1,4,1,13,2,26,20,6,16,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,6,3,78,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21188440233846803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858414597133731,0.0,0.0,0.3524571406244029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326455198292965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20319527108242685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20301525214080435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243246537337596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445017364685671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17392760195993945,0.0,0.3871593150836015,0.13655952516237996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178722781591072,0.0,0.15559320493308312,0.0,0.0,0.2271631880322446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23285816950752644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023360165373679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359146444433838,0.2621747169500569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066727951952885,0.1623870169218873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22185956109593893,0.0,0.2077621172437655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PleaseRecyle,2019/02/09,"Help me keep my toddler out of lifelong therapy Jk. He’ll probably still need it, just not for this. Maybe. *throws hands up* 
Ok, here it is: 
My son’s PRIZED possession, a stuffed turtle, just up and disappeared. I’m talking, abducted by aliens and never reappeared type of disappear. I looked EVERYWHERE, including my in-laws home & my parents, every car he’s ever ridden in & even in trash bags with old items for donation. Well, Shelly aka ShayBell is gone. To keep my son, Atlas, from a broken heart & crying for years without end, I decided to say she went on vacation & some turtle adventures. To my surprise, he bought it. Now, my kid is an intelligent one. (Yeah, all parents say that but...I’m serious. He’s bright.) 
Ok so, today while at my in-laws, the NEW ShayBell was delivered (bless Amazon) so I sent my MIL a picture of my husband & I holding ShayBell with the caption “she’s back from vacation!” 
Well, he wanted to FaceTime & talk to her about her adventures, etc. HE ASKED HER FOR PICTURES!! HE ASKED HIS TURTLE FOR PICTURES OF HER VACATION, so I did what any panicked parent would do - I lied & said she can’t wait for him to see them. 

Now I need pictures of my sons turtle on vacation & having some awesome turtle adventures...whatever those are. 
I could very well not indulge & just say her camera was lost in customs, further adding to this complex lie - but where is the fun in that? 😅 
Please help. ",2.7163186813186795,5.222455073260075,3.7297161172161175,85.68820054945056,78.85347985347984,6.976923076923077,26.966117216117212,8.07648339933343,1.973185347985348,1117,47,209,21,28,359,162,273,0.057,0.815,0.128,0.9548,3,0,0,0,0,0,75.0,0,0,1,2,18,14,0,0,7,3,13,2,2,0,3,28,31,7,0,5,7,7,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,9,5,0,4,2,0,2,8,5,2,3,1,9,8,31,12,35,19,5,32,1,1,3,0,37,12,0,2,12,125,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7753585378642897,0.0,0.054070717042451456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866550719320407,0.0,0.0,0.06113962831217287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063483662994918,0.0,0.08733992454739943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042381077227904,0.0,0.08867662000002363,0.05251676143673019,0.07192293063159788,0.06699207926894812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942218074003064,0.10659010090177687,0.0,0.07975676893268595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134739471282673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676984503241434,0.0,0.0867964684804878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988024067250621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179139112919272,0.0613243638750997,0.07679294428426127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343420703170587,0.0,0.05387922004696979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648651686756449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728002532562718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572711541282313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563388291268568,0.1896928065470227,0.0,0.0,0.06336057087785832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349818680954067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781706670404194,0.0,0.0,0.09092861643035463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753678425879421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656055214623796,0.046898090634641856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447183853965796,0.07370818948260154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664649028050215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648286638570325,0.0,0.0,0.05120296054839947
parenting,RIPharamb123,2019/02/09,"I became a dad today I’m so scared. I can’t even sleep. 
Every time i look at my girlfriend i want to cry. 
Watching her having so much pain fucked me up. It’s over now but i can’t stop thinking about her screams. ",-1.6379635258358682,0.30950672340425456,0.5860182370820688,102.82000000000002,98.7872340425532,2.685714285714286,15.224924012158056,3.1291,-1.4315203647416412,164,4,40,0,7,54,38,47,0.327,0.648,0.025,-0.9184,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,1,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,4,8,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,3,9,0,5,8,1,7,0,0,2,1,4,3,1,0,4,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425157333857385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059518273202024,0.0,0.2627188113654321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28826928754942605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618472887152324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292209720451057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33179469217630964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121826676747165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120416445142584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606925180950054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19979939338294847,0.0,0.0,0.18182268212216232,0.0,0.2955655390302089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839174236908988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hockey_fan_19,2019/02/09,"My 8 year old daughter sleepwalks, and when she's in that state, she'll do whatever you tell her, as if she were hypnotized. Has anyone else seen this? I noticed the sleepwalking first, then noticed she seemed very prompt and blank about doing whatever I suggested. 

At first I always just told her, ""You need to go back to bed, honey."" She says ""yes"" every time when she's asleep, instead of ""okay,"" which is what she always says when awake, so ""yes"" sounds weird. She then immediately turns around toward her bedroom and goes back to bed.

The first time I realized her sleepwalking behavior seemed weird, she had gone to the bathroom and peed first, so I thought she was awake, but then she came into the living room looking blank. I told her she needed to go back to bed, and she said ""yes"" and started walking back. I interrupted her walk back to ask, ""Did you get up because you needed to go to the bathroom?"" still trying to figure out if she was actually awake. She said ""yes"" and turned around, away from her bedroom, to go into the bathroom instead. She sat there trying to pee again, and I asked her if she was awake. She said ""yes."" I asked her, ""Do you need to pee again? You just went."" She said, ""I got up because I needed to go to the bathroom."" Just repeating back what I had asked her, but she really seemed  to think she had to pee. She sat there until she could go a little bit, which was probably 20 minutes. Then she went back to bed.

Once I asked her if she wanted hot chocolate, thinking she might wake up. She said ""yes"" then I made it, and she just sat there. I asked her if she was going to drink it, and she said ""yes"" and *then* drank it.

When I realized it seems similar to things I've read about hypnotic behavior, I made the mistake of saying ""you need to go back to sleep"" instead of ""you need to go back to bed."" She had walked down the hall, through the living room, through the kitchen, to the garage door. She was reaching toward the doorknob when I said she needed to go back to sleep. She just said ""yes,"" and dropped her arm and shut her eyes. She just stood there like that. So I told her she needed to go back to *bed*, and she said ""yes,"" but I walked the whole way with her, guiding her, because she kept her eyes closed. Very weird.

The family doctor had no concerns and was not surprised about the sleepwalking, just saying that most kids who sleepwalk outgrow it, usually before or during puberty. But it seemed like he had a surprised look on his face when I told him how she does whatever you tell her immediately, as if hypnotized. But he said it was nothing to be concerned about. Maybe he wasn't surprised and I misread his expression. I asked him why it would happen and he said something vague about the subconscious and dreams and no one really understands how the human mind works.

I'm not majorly concerned about it. Mostly I'm just wondering if others have seen anything similar with their children. I am honestly a lot more concerned about the possibility of her walking off the top of the stairs - we considered a baby gate up, but at her size, I'm afraid it would only facilitate a fall down the stairs. Luckily I have insomnia from hell, so most times I can keep an eye on her and get her back into bed, but even I fall asleep sometimes, and I worry. Any advice on that would be helpful, too.",4.831110329299187,5.803488608359134,4.968107233323952,85.59363566000563,69.26315789473685,8.22566844919786,27.53011539544047,8.438071523408619,1.7168278637770902,2595,83,527,38,44,812,249,646,0.055,0.901,0.045,-0.5385,0,0,2,0,0,0,118.0,1,9,1,6,53,13,1,1,28,10,34,18,13,4,0,97,114,57,0,22,25,1,1,2,1,5,2,16,14,3,22,32,3,2,13,3,0,22,5,6,0,5,48,25,106,7,73,58,8,96,1,0,7,0,118,31,1,19,42,363,128,3,0.0,0.0,0.04467736096574467,0.0,0.0,0.044738374638841366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618983321731708,0.0,0.0,0.03113384079838395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03201236416668055,0.04690983899721872,0.03767530332457615,0.08151271021515899,0.2996048453242465,0.0,0.04301440186288072,0.4224493164052015,0.0,0.08372622064125501,0.0,0.03895774924345904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0499829067218534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05236327075067653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03655380148612185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04686058587202792,0.04006479413174222,0.0,0.0,0.0448496665365221,0.0,0.0,0.03824561394392802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030239075404422226,0.0,0.038573942510779516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04315990330543428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15577113925519154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04783919581559465,0.0,0.2862133185089896,0.0,0.03661664849789952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040485535718745726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03068721309497495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040693812889520786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04473427935631085,0.045886344299468716,0.08085401624176343,0.0,0.07689196071655081,0.0,0.0,0.03892285789475503,0.0,0.08664149240153736,0.0,0.0,0.04599492723726691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048568264073941575,0.04622752755375261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055259693778299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043929784579231634,0.10424793145800372,0.048041295935193816,0.04875713587971337,0.03102357710489503,0.03481984536528477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05161317303458739,0.0,0.0,0.04936154927022796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04579514069937622,0.0,0.058659205553136876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790486862769461,0.14563312547398244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839448622999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163162998419276,0.0,0.0,0.03524579864485451,0.04528031163500276,0.0,0.0324052669678555,0.0,0.03656216427761011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003228507462236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03041602558692476,0.058671476731997366,0.0,0.036346390498991785,0.08008887126373697,0.0,0.0,0.1749895231334291,0.0,0.06216696566198389,0.09959697299509652,0.0,0.047661458652834714,0.0,0.0,0.050423232348837284,0.07555112905571644,0.02700385286958129,0.03634021692002405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488213814833451,0.041311811939690884,0.05111480675945782,0.0,0.0,0.049649440754774135,0.033330388170244765,0.046494606228487625,0.0,0.09756825872171654,0.0,0.0,0.029482590749965912
parenting,biggles-266,2019/02/09,"We used to flirt by text message Now we sit in separate rooms trying to get angry babies back to sleep while my wife grills me by imessage about the consistency of their dirty nappies, trying to pin down a reason for their grumpiness, like some kind of stinky Sherlock Holmes. 

One day marriage will be romantic again.",9.025632183908042,8.621265241379312,7.412068965517242,76.35649425287356,60.3793103448276,9.802298850574713,34.85057471264368,8.841846274778883,2.8902919540229886,256,9,44,3,3,76,50,58,0.136,0.7859999999999999,0.079,-0.5849,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,2,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,12,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,6,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769133044386887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322503366119244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881500470784906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750139690980107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593850865211524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24402949896270645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702676879962189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603843083370693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4890014272445723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110317093587246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yankeesfa04,2019/02/09,"13 year old son acts like an adult, is this normal behavior? I don't think my 13 year old is normal, he acts like an adult. I am concerned he is not having a normal childhood. He is very interested in politics and knows more than me and most adults, he is very concerned with what his career will be and what college he will attend, he hates having fun like most 13 year olds, he knows more about stock trading than anyone I know and has made over $500 so far, he has no interest in playing sports, he hates people at his school that vape and reports them to teachers, he is basically a friend of me and my husband and never has acted out, he speaks like an adult, he has more adult friends than kids, he loves DSLR cameras and knows how to use them like a professional, he tells me everything that happens at school and makes fun of most of his peers with me for getting into fights, dating, vaping, talking back to teachers, making bad grades and getting in trouble. I've never seen another teen act like this. EVER! Is this ok?",10.058316831683168,6.575934707920794,9.153539603960397,74.40922029702972,60.83168316831683,11.882178217821783,37.62623762376239,9.188382445141503,3.2078396039603967,809,25,161,9,8,255,111,202,0.073,0.742,0.185,0.9748,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,0,2,0,5,20,3,0,6,1,18,1,0,5,3,34,34,12,0,3,1,2,0,6,2,2,0,1,0,6,7,14,0,0,5,2,1,5,5,5,0,0,2,2,14,15,21,29,6,26,0,0,1,1,34,9,0,3,18,90,21,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309617830160979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873284781952288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960354352571246,0.10428090235740242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297337158980195,0.0,0.0,0.11224627484726404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929849029311536,0.0,0.13050345631791047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044295900258877,0.0,0.0,0.24661305928915125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745529282648965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661000967319636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272131035699468,0.11817730237907485,0.16673483673637182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265121948538014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3671075020662639,0.0,0.0,0.3931643326343682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865854660860365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527978926104833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003847093372635,0.10916247275057492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002674763092005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786793233925716,0.0,0.20610052703430773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241282065583308
parenting,ponjack,2019/02/09,"My wife asked me to “leave the house for the day” to work on potty training with my daughter. Partly because “she thinks it’s party time when you get home.” Is this reasonable? I’m usually gone 7am-7pm during the week. I see my kids maybe 30 mins/day during the week. And of course, when I get home they want to wrestle, scream, etc. like normal kids i think? (Ages 2.5 and almost 1.5).

My wife has had a few days of solid potty training this past week (wed-Friday). This morning, our daughter refused to go on the potty and every time one of us told her to tel us when she was ready, she would scream and run to me. I was not making my wife out to be the bad guy or Anything. I would just give her a hug when she came to me and then say “tel us when you’re ready.”

After two hours, she had an accident. She hasn’t had an accident in three days. My wife basically flipped out at me and said “you need to leave the house for the day, she thinks it’s party time when you’re here.” My wife was also almost in tears when she was saying it. I know she’s sleep deprived right now. So am I.  But I’m doing everything I can when I’m home to help (feeding, dressing, baths, etc).

My question for the moms out there. Was her reaction normal? Or should I be concerned that she was asking me to leave the house?

Thanks in advance.

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parenting,Box-Weasel,2019/02/09,"When no other kids want to come to your son’s birthday. I recently saw a post here about this, I’ve been in the same boat and it sucks. 
I will say that he had the best day just hanging out with me. 

As I have done for the last few years I said to him “This your day- tell me how you’d like to spend it.”
He picked where we ate and what activities we did, he really had a blast. We went to a petting zoo, swimming and painted ceramics.

At 7 I think the hurt of the social rejection is harder on me seeing it happen than it is on him, I hate seeing him miss out. 
I’m sure this will change as he gets older and becomes more aware of social relationships.. but for now I’ll treasure the little guy who still wants to hang out with his mum on his birthday. 
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parenting,onetiredgroupie,2019/02/09,"Am I wrong for not wanting another child? A little back story. My Wife (32) has a sister and grew up in a middle class family. I had 6 brothers and sisters total and grew up significantly more poor. We had our son (11) at 20/21 and I have struggled to provide for us for a good portion of our lives. Neither my wife nor I have a degree, there's no 401K, no retirement plan. I am the sole provider for our family. We are not poor per se, but we are making just enough to pay the bills and still be able to afford to provide for my son in a way that I was never cared for. The ongoing argument that has plagued our relationship is rather or not to have another child. I am wholeheartedly against having another child for the simple fact that I know our quality of life will be severely impacted. This means that there will be less for our son and it is already difficult to come up with money for surprise repairs. My wife's argument is that no ones is EVER in a position to have another child, that they just make it work. My wife's main concern is that 1.) Our son will be lonely and possibly depressed without a sibling to lean on. and 2.) that once we age and either need to be cared for our pass away that he will (also) be lonely and have to endure it himself. My rebuttal is that if he is lonely he simply needs to find good close friends that he can count on and later loved ones (wife/kids/etc) to help him through his hard times. So, Does anyone know what the studies are? Personal Experiences? Should I lower the houses quality of life in order to improve my sons familial correspondence later in life? Will he simply be able to find the companionship required in order to be fulfilled emotionally? ",5.400250177683011,5.881426779104476,6.306055437100213,78.26422885572141,67.77611940298507,9.604832977967305,30.87775408670931,9.606745405546679,2.749700781805259,1341,50,260,27,21,445,172,335,0.151,0.77,0.079,-0.9659,4,6,0,0,0,0,39.0,13,0,1,3,10,14,0,1,15,0,39,4,0,2,4,45,51,17,0,6,11,12,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,5,16,18,0,1,5,0,5,4,10,7,0,2,3,1,33,7,45,34,8,31,0,4,0,1,44,16,0,2,8,189,49,4,0.2193311555903108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210186921042973,0.0876995229417038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599756809443803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668072184606184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030344203086172,0.08432606007234175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236227307795727,0.0,0.0,0.09446718481664898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445480146042204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596908615182792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335901443631715,0.0,0.1133138573191834,0.12230610802789915,0.0,0.09919879358853508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727397825819504,0.3101488402763697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20046470269063255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847273533673093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839645672129586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982388171897524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073506525144925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653935279328796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205386671071781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323801223794705,0.0,0.10991371913176128,0.09683671435964604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989774655901488,0.0,0.14640524949086753,0.0,0.0,0.11945796378470196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263127273523414,0.08458085426404549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167902612545664,0.14862446736291662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575575253220432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363146140818886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773978935520908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389088784284726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757907208801295,0.0,0.0,0.11464627286121765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394688031957033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191418732112098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468359912072859,0.08704743114131776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571370356926008,0.0,0.07983784674560089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990209372818593,0.0,0.0
parenting,kadkadkad,2019/02/09,"UK parents - does anyone know of a night light that my daughter could operate herself? We've got a Ewan The Dream Sheep which works by squeezing its feet, but the glow only works with sounds over the top too, which are too distracting. Something similar without the sounds would be perfect - or something that hangs from the side of the bed she can pull on/press etc.

Thank you!",5.755714285714286,7.285180285714286,4.367142857142859,88.68785714285715,67.57142857142857,7.314285714285713,29.714285714285715,7.554174236665415,1.6705142857142854,300,11,57,3,5,86,57,70,0.037000000000000005,0.802,0.162,0.8588,1,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,4,2,3,0,1,8,0,5,1,1,0,1,8,8,2,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,5,4,2,7,4,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,1,34,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19000986114781665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21696562954984872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23780517834455145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030666123692014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173386589181032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493435041336539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25501352074733785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667370734000515,0.0,0.0,0.3017397723890973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41840391866610105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501855469268487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619517090220006,0.0,0.3956660242433904,0.0,0.0,0.1930392810688179,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_iamvanessa,2019/02/09,"Frustrated mom Hi everyone. So first let me start by saying I’m sorry for any misspelling, I am using my phone and am trying to write this as fast as possible.. 

Ok so I have 2 kids. An 8 year old and a 2 year old. My 8 year old has been acting out so much lately and I am starting to get completely frustrated. I honestly do not know what to do with him anymore. The worst part is that I still live with my parents(I had him when I was 17) and I am currently in college and have at least 4 years left(trying to get my masters.) My mom is always getting in the way of how I parent. If I ground him, she still lets him do what I say he couldn’t do. He has lost complete respect for everyone. He talks back all the time, he’s started throwing things at me, if I tell him he won’t get a toy he yells back and says he will get it. When he gets upset he throws tantrums and breaks things. He blames others around him if he gets into trouble. He gets in trouble at school. He tells me he hates me and wishes he had a different mom or wishes he was dead. After all of this he comes back to me and says he’s so sorry and didn’t mean any of it and cried and says he doesn’t know how to control his anger. 

Sometimes when he’s mad he even hits his little brother or starts to push him around. I am so fucken done and I feel like giving up a lot of the time. My mom and I are always fighting because like I said before she lets him get away with his behavior sometimes. I love my son, but to be completely fucken honest, sometimes I don’t like him and I feel like such a bitch for feeling this way. I really don’t know what to do anymore. And I am scared because I don’t want him to get worse. I don’t want him to end up really hurting his brother one day, or being one of those kids you hear about on the news that became a serial killer or something. I feel like I have tried everything with him, from being nice and being mean. I’ve grounded him, I’ve even spanked him. Nothing works. I tried therapy once and he lied and said that I would tie him up with duct tape as a punishment. Like how does a kid come up with that? 

I’m also scared because I don’t want my little one to grow up in this type of environment. When his brother starts throwing his tantrums he starts to freak out and cries. 

Please anyone that can advise me or maybe has gone through this? I need advice or something. At this point I just don’t know what to do anymore. It’s getting to the point where I get so depressed at times and would rather kill myself then have to deal with all of this. :( I know it’s so stupid but I just feel so done with it all. ",2.2986231548845595,3.49345339783002,3.487425879978133,92.96535304260063,75.6003616636528,6.518507927162622,22.806215568358635,6.9265101639786515,0.4685970730476465,2031,55,467,19,43,659,228,553,0.173,0.747,0.08,-0.9959,4,0,2,0,2,1,51.0,0,1,0,5,32,34,12,3,15,1,50,1,0,5,4,84,100,52,2,13,15,9,5,6,0,4,0,9,0,3,25,36,0,1,12,1,0,9,11,22,0,4,12,14,71,12,63,75,9,73,0,3,0,1,78,28,1,10,39,299,96,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544452224948903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045374017141324365,0.0944224938233428,0.0,0.0,0.07716869210350702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880900201982635,0.03967310506084653,0.0,0.0,0.10101916557372677,0.0,0.0,0.053307992978904435,0.13088596038519507,0.0,0.10376238163957388,0.0,0.04828056030546304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775094594328733,0.1784687327330341,0.0,0.06363741583912677,0.0,0.0,0.12464986806907392,0.03659184766492748,0.058495236263655624,0.048869066065438685,0.0,0.0,0.05927999495147546,0.0,0.0,0.0496525273345538,0.11612703272631048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050253757185936256,0.0,0.0,0.07495091641567445,0.0,0.0,0.10843275585134393,0.05099319656926599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344427140379284,0.12160268184268748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048262014802636984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557243254643315,0.05442905018366053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05601784213325394,0.0,0.0,0.06394877842372035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06074008470966585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277310232117186,0.0,0.15591086941114535,0.0,0.06400386496492222,0.0,0.0616468984107068,0.1740578754752255,0.0,0.16631834082764085,0.11373441516361245,0.05010142119227756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193712898780196,0.04823731925848377,0.05120900399056382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057001775034452126,0.12361042602336116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26580730019816345,0.0,0.0,0.041709564173376734,0.042071119142284764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05444243198776939,0.0,0.1786135542166484,0.060424995921893376,0.11534308688704994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630017495866484,0.061442617352718214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228219052330745,0.10727305678463288,0.0639644990186666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269668721054988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107943229576545,0.2256049513082501,0.11361092220333377,0.05742271914022803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736063761552226,0.16834844355729536,0.1270289366296367,0.2409601904276637,0.0,0.09062339645300653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045604517590888065,0.09918446627349953,0.0,0.06488579020695187,0.0,0.07538950715170424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925459385964244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408774854491905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04900412672741894,0.0,0.0,0.1003980855363638,0.09007327520675043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049369515951367,0.0,0.0,0.04130653970796781,0.0,0.05782170910110013,0.08061126546222412,0.0,0.0,0.14615176988480766
parenting,klekota,2019/02/09,"Toddler Self Harming - How Do I redirect? I have a two year old child who has developed a habit of self harming over the past 6 months.  I am extremely concerned as their behavior has escalated from the to almost daily behavior.  They started with biting themselves.  There has been some extremely unsettling family dynamics (spouse angry and very confrontational to me/ toddler on a consistent basis in the home.  I attribute this for the catalyst for this behavior.  It used to come out when the child was particularly frustrated and in a deep tantrum and would result in biting.  Its starting to become every day when they are told no, or asked not to do anything and escalates to banging their head on things.  I don't know what to do to try to redirect their behavior to something more expressive but not harmful.  I am assuming this is their way of dealing with frustration and anger  or whatever strong emotions are overcoming them.  I want to teach healthy outlets and communication.  Any suggestions ?  ",7.635323809523811,9.352065137142864,7.4940714285714325,67.30834523809524,63.34285714285714,11.776190476190472,39.154761904761905,11.538034831475384,5.30807619047619,809,43,124,26,12,258,115,175,0.131,0.809,0.06,-0.8995,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,7,1,4,10,5,0,9,0,16,1,1,4,0,26,24,13,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,8,10,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,8,0,1,3,0,15,2,26,20,2,19,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,6,9,93,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138571626492604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997266547042893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728093514746336,0.0,0.17867760305678684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21108435174635826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463867211152947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326086773945405,0.19704316782542172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21499173886891207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103243278899726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801771811701576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196151067030676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171559791507267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503819992697584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255545620211294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055525194549492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824519990581328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987735259037954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713862083933946,0.0,0.0,0.2705608312426165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697604333977894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262968981513855,0.0,0.1297624389425811,0.0,0.18670295011868845,0.0,0.0,0.16507204660849428,0.0,0.1576994898615518,0.1127314409474642,0.15170742625221728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577087745657732,0.0,0.0,0.12307928628406757
parenting,tchatcha347,2019/02/09,"I [19F] was planning on disappearing for a few days to see if my mom cares about me. Is it a good plan? All my life I have lived with the feeling of abandonment, since my childhood I never had much love and no attention, my mother was distant and my father scoled me and beat me. I feel like they only care about my sister (I don't blame her). I had an argument with my mother because she only pays things to my sister, I even said she wouldn't never see me again in her life. I know if I ask her, she wpuld help me though, but I still feel very abandoned by her. I was planning on disappearing, saying I was going to the grocery store and then disappearing for days, going to a hotel or to my friend's place. I know I am a bit old to pretend be the ""revolted teenager"", but I just would like to know and even feel the how  would  be be cared by her... 



tl;dr I [19F] planning to disappear for few days to see if my mother would have a reaction, to see if she would even care about me. ",3.8246832579185535,4.0461225392156885,5.048627450980393,86.81613122171949,71.15686274509805,8.041628959276018,25.496229260935145,7.882392219407189,1.1650283559577677,754,20,169,9,13,251,99,204,0.079,0.805,0.116,0.7611,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,5,11,11,0,0,10,0,19,3,0,1,3,34,39,15,0,9,8,7,4,2,1,5,2,2,0,0,2,7,0,2,8,2,2,6,5,2,0,0,7,10,42,9,24,24,5,20,0,2,4,1,23,4,0,5,12,125,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895343566123572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104448493087626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723647990576062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4752998041145979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254848082755594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309297575353705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23571373479609284,0.08325946032865587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004204160784951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246992381136669,0.09775205147473903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781173650834405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19214953461310852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463774539980405,0.11387557486586425,0.0,0.10291098585056144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518601987096028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364955856476056,0.0,0.0,0.08567366486484154,0.0,0.1797727061260735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229391577645983,0.0,0.0,0.1772747863502992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176426489500385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086056949346536,0.09268091562831172,0.0,0.0,0.3714837160514111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640686828161253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930726399388314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742703020334367,0.0,0.11450444311655256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616147143511647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311596598244793,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,richieme,2019/02/09,"The Curb Dudes go skywriting Free EBook download by Richie Zarmajian.  Fizzy presses the 'skywriting smoke button' on their plane's dashboard and they skywrite the numbers 1, 2 and 3.[https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/715272](https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/715272)",19.078857142857142,22.15548960000001,10.115000000000002,53.71250000000003,38.714285714285715,11.571428571428573,48.92857142857143,11.20814326018867,6.0964285714285715,236,11,24,4,2,56,30,35,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.5106,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,9,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,magicmaya,2019/02/09,"What is it like to raise a child on your own without much money? Do you have any advice? I’m 19 and I’m currently 3 months pregnant. I have a boyfriend and I live with him and his mom but the baby might not be his. He doesn’t know this yet, he doesn’t know I slept with someone else (it happened when we had an argument and I thought it was over) 

I have quite a lot of issues with abandonment etc. I was in foster care most my life and have been through a lot of abuse so there’s no way I want to give my child up, 

I’m scared that if it turns out to be this other guys baby then my boyfriend won’t want anything to do with me and him mom will kick me out. 

I’m praying it ends up being his but Im very stressed about the idea that it may not be and I may have to end up raising the baby alone. 

Does anyone have any advice for if this does happen? Thank you ",0.2831988304093578,1.9137758578947413,1.8792982456140344,100.38953216374271,82.52631578947368,4.853801169590644,18.450292397660817,5.46131890053228,-0.6720058479532162,663,15,168,3,18,215,109,190,0.138,0.784,0.078,-0.9418,1,1,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,3,0,1,5,6,0,2,8,0,24,2,1,0,0,34,40,14,0,4,7,2,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,3,13,14,0,1,4,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,6,0,22,3,23,25,6,16,1,1,0,0,17,8,0,8,8,115,35,0,0.0,0.1660472202082326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27389335952062555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514647885410814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19060487377756324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799164630578208,0.0,0.11532622141314786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428857150332788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452811742006842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707197427928973,0.0,0.24825122168523525,0.0,0.1562971316697665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443848738778602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876417282563885,0.2478570015007305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820503810739348,0.1513791100136635,0.1462734821029723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403848775771056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898755172743988,0.06846707193513421,0.0,0.12374934448314442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382901121687788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867018662036569,0.0,0.3282689230722579,0.11186126470607018,0.0,0.10302165292525862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905994287766278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030816705609858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874319651478872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16053399193768675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12902537519461849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112583445485138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243596661661418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563312659262953,0.16532062333862765,0.11123944687624257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509340549283375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MusicalTourettes,2019/02/09,"How to implement commission in our home (4 year old) I want to start giving our son money of his own to learn with and manage.  I love the commission idea over a generic allowance but the logistics given our current chore expectation seem tricky.

Our son is already expected to participate in household chores. Expected to keep his toys cleaned up, to clean up his spills (broom, handheld vac). Every night after dinner we have Family Clean-up Time where everyone pitches in for whatever needs to be done. He helps with dishes, sweeping floors, washing and sorting laundry, decluttering spaces, cleaning the bathtub and sinks, etc. He can't complete any of these alone but he just turns 4 this week so I think that's age appropriate.

I can't think of a chore I'd want him to do, that he's physically capable of, that he doesn't already help do when it's needed. I'm not sure how to assign cash to chores if sometimes he has to do it as part family cleaning time, but other times he can do it for cash? That doesn't feel right or like it would be clear to a newly 4 year old.

So, how could I implement something like commission given our current set-up? Maybe tie his attitude to the chores? He usually is excited to help but fights it some nights. In the summer there can be more yard chores but not now. Maybe let him try to complete an entire chore by himself and that gets payment (like sweeping the whole kitchen alone)? Or chores done outside family cleanup time get payment but inside family cleanup time don't? I don't want him to fight chores with the family though. It could backfire.",4.309405940594058,6.325299518151816,4.675413861386139,83.12923960396044,71.97029702970299,8.016316831683168,28.29161716171617,8.726425361277474,2.2346653201320126,1266,49,236,24,25,399,162,303,0.063,0.833,0.105,0.902,2,2,1,0,2,0,37.0,6,0,0,0,11,8,2,0,11,0,25,5,0,4,2,46,44,21,0,12,12,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,19,0,14,8,3,1,6,2,3,0,8,2,0,0,4,1,20,6,35,33,6,32,0,0,0,1,31,11,0,6,24,137,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20689316927236892,0.2204423155796673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679224992675111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944663849036504,0.0,0.0,0.15949368860360666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442586443505628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139370784130977,0.0,0.0,0.08415404314874747,0.09544056765933456,0.0,0.0,0.4707945479057911,0.0,0.05050283037729493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436739121861606,0.0958149482764914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084436955239887,0.0,0.10018877824675886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127534818181644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877881447650303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213508092645478,0.0,0.14639042175143596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014649441961894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006877617068466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812097918115905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746308874899692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961659752161774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816138043485916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529782097839497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092790337030676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689326698048246,0.0987848545181997,0.0,0.07069627984999254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941366524213358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799941263783102,0.09813256699978648,0.0,0.2912070467509493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678126368504246,0.10864183717507972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000480102850707,0.0,0.176737189795997,0.0,0.08011850663197244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151356002496347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095259061753915,0.0,0.0,0.12864016756473126
parenting,andicello,2019/02/09,"10 month old on food strike Hello moms and dads, I hope your all having a great weekend so far. I have a couple of issues that I am going to try and sum up in one question.

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Here is some backround info: I'm a ftm and my dd is 10 months and she has been breastfed since day 1. She also has been munching on purees and soft finger foods since 6 months old and she has done pretty well with that, not too fussy with the foods presented to her. She also has a sippy cup with water available at all times and recently has a cup of homo milk with supper. Now as the title mentions, she has no interest in food over the last 3 days except blueberries and cheerios, everything just ends up on the floor. I have read that this is normal and to just keep presenting foods but don't pressure them into eating it. But if she keeps eating just blueberries and cheerios, will she end up being fussy and refusing everything else over time or do I stop offering her those and give her something else?  

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I was about to start weaning her from being breastfed in the mornings because I go back to work in a month. I was thinking she can have her cup of homo milk in the mornings instead of supper and I would pump milk for her sippy cups for the rest of the day. But now that she is on her food strike, she wants nothing but me, I feel like she might do better with her sippy cups when I am not around?? What if she doesn't eat anything while I am at work? How long does this regression usually last for? 

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I guess there is more then one question here, I'm just not sure how to proceed, right now I'm just sticking to the routine and I'm guessing weaning her right now isn't the best idea. I hope I can get some advice, it would be greatly appreciated!

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parenting,sgeezy122,2019/02/09,"Sex offender father My daughter is 5 years old and has her fathers last name. When she was born we were broken up but we agreed that she would have his last name. He did not sign her birth certificate. Shortly after her birth he was arrested for what I found out was gross sexual imposition with a minor (a 13 year old girl). He served time and is on the sex offender registry. He has had no contact with my daughter, but has a child with another woman and has visitation. I want to change her last name so there is no confusion at school (because I’ve been calling her by my last name for years). But to do that I need to send a notice of name change to her father so he can sign (agreeing or disagreeing to the change). This scares me because this may prompt him to file for visitation. I spoke to someone at job family services and explained my situation. She told me that I could lie and say I did not know who my legal biological daughters father was and that I gave her my boyfriend and the times last name. While lying in court is not something I would want to do, I would do anything to protect my daughter from a child predator. If he has visitation with his other child, I know the court would allow it with my daughter as well if he chooses to pursue visitation. Any advice on how to go about this? ",4.162962056303551,5.494111542635661,4.936022031823748,83.85934516523871,71.1705426356589,7.9121991024071825,27.532435740514074,8.371475516178862,1.7815627906976743,1030,36,207,16,19,333,134,258,0.126,0.8170000000000001,0.057,-0.9676,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,0,7,6,2,2,9,0,29,2,0,2,0,49,40,19,0,10,9,9,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,5,11,15,0,1,5,0,0,6,5,5,1,0,13,2,35,1,32,21,0,32,0,0,0,2,55,8,0,5,18,141,46,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208220303764126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408114709225292,0.12964995295613033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174725120144386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074265371034673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625282738687954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923921454177505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871848383367972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655915509467107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355676310315265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026888811834535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269611342091423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135901380592597,0.503925742436709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167935494341188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076781781832856,0.2594840319373094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832548707834048,0.12378772272377138,0.12513282168863452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389793623356642,0.0,0.0,0.10476189799863872,0.0951860452885648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419388447844644,0.0,0.0,0.1181457174643609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458551124410372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116946590049832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513283682211784,0.0,0.0,0.2388651691477704
parenting,luckykayak,2019/02/09,"Did you plan to be a parent? If so, what made you want to have kids? I’m just curious what the thought process is (if there is one) for those who actively decide they want to bring another life into this world. Whether it be outside pressures, internal wants, etc I want to hear it all",4.039210526315788,5.0233679649122855,4.45872807017544,88.47651315789473,71.10526315789474,8.50701754385965,30.03947368421053,8.841846274778883,2.1597052631578944,222,9,48,4,4,70,45,57,0.039,0.8109999999999999,0.15,0.5514,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,6,1,0,1,1,13,15,4,0,6,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,1,4,0,6,10,2,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,0,34,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29198951658031463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31055643015356954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138445796134385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668448400618987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26348551919295543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886916555597306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091967993965392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106608060335825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6569715268132253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chococonutty,2019/02/09,"Is my newborn nephew going to be okay? My sister’s boyfriend took their barely 1 month old son to the hospital yesterday to visit his grandpa who is sick with pneumonia while my sister was out running errands. His grandpa is leaving the hospital today, so not sure why he couldn’t wait. It’s bad enough that he did not tell my sister about going to see his grandpa at the hospital but he also let his grandpa hold and kiss the baby on the lips. My sister was furious when she found out about it. She’s now stressed that her baby could get severely sick, is she overreacting? Will the baby be okay?",5.044551282051284,6.097579213675214,5.746228632478633,79.91370192307693,68.82905982905983,8.585042735042737,30.009615384615394,8.841846274778883,2.4292743589743595,476,18,88,8,8,155,72,117,0.175,0.769,0.057,-0.949,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,6,7,1,1,6,2,13,4,1,0,1,13,20,6,0,2,3,10,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,1,0,0,5,3,3,0,0,5,1,14,4,11,9,1,16,0,0,1,1,26,4,0,0,7,59,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190964589499696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993841786564131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19065869034453267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24673947499086116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618268229192901,0.0,0.0,0.12476073692088935,0.0,0.2714258497564048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25284984184358045,0.0,0.2441844682151314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906042044436711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25057559523421113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028901126926864,0.0,0.0,0.2697708236724254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27353931586461905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22506183186567172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871769880625168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22635011094208984,0.0,0.26531046803386943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154756999260801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,im-opinionated,2019/02/09,"Just found out I’m expecting I have a daughter who’s currently almost 3, my husband and I were pretty much one and done and then last night we found out I was pregnant. It’s amazing how you go from “eh we are happy with one” to automatically making room in your heart and mind for another one.

I gotta say I’m nervous though, excited but nervous. Having one seems like pure chaos at times and now we are bringing in another one. I think my daughter will be an amazing sister and luckily I was blessed with the most supportive and caring father for my kids.

So any advice on the transition from one to two?",3.9765197428833794,5.323517983471074,5.256639118457301,81.32112029384756,71.64462809917356,8.352984389348027,29.14692378328742,8.841846274778883,2.308448301193756,480,19,94,9,9,160,83,121,0.066,0.6859999999999999,0.248,0.9787,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,2,0,0,5,10,0,2,4,0,10,1,1,2,1,27,22,12,0,1,2,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,14,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,7,6,1,14,8,14,13,2,15,1,0,0,0,13,7,0,3,7,67,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842069233186644,0.0,0.0,0.1520913265295134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328730633487153,0.3185302501305992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485732685663015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543153675422966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330690867022262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631999471804395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161684873239084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799849755411989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380690399473306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074203553064112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138470939379468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336099488875138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116532732235787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253419472861192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6175290224140528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452209442804568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078539667451488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827079849944118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723577953208996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732205591948123,0.14922667184572316,0.0,0.08856562043212551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837000328288774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mtoomtoo,2019/02/09,"Child proofing a gas stove Does anyone have any experience child proofing a gas stove? Had an incident last night where I heard a familiar repetitive clicking coming from the kitchen, ran into there and someone had turned the knob to to “lite” position.

I’ve checked out amazon and there are locks and caps for the stove knobs, but after checking them out, it occurred to me that I could just remove the knobs when I’m not using the stove. Has anyone done this? Are there any safety concerns with a knobless stove. I’ve googled and can’t come up with anything.

It’s a new stove and this never happened with our old stove.

Full disclosure: this wasn’t a child, it was my cat. NO CLUE how he pressed in the knob and turned it or why he was on the stove in the first place. Figured there would be more experience with child proofing a stove in this sub as opposed to a pet sub. I don’t have any kids, so no concerns about a little one running into an exposed knob post.

Also open to suggestions on any products to lock the knobs that have worked for anyone here.

Thanks and apologies if this post is not appropriate for this sub.

And before anyone asks: No carbon monoxide leak in my house.",5.048021739130434,6.2227749652173925,4.791902173913043,86.31046195652176,68.91304347826087,7.4891304347826075,28.28804347826087,7.6454224807358475,1.5441086956521737,942,32,185,10,16,288,129,230,0.07400000000000001,0.887,0.039,-0.7911,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,2,12,1,0,0,20,0,18,1,0,2,4,35,29,16,0,3,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,11,5,12,19,1,1,1,0,2,5,9,0,0,2,8,3,8,1,28,18,2,32,0,0,1,0,13,16,0,2,9,118,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136524700308376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865830278723599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39749148680526336,0.0,0.1169517835073872,0.0,0.13286203016738116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093275576852587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448457763768814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134704143174944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436924765266685,0.14543702473586936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27803919998932153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088630314350082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567531488116052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398618280535593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584590961887532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424405202056132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961089276183374,0.13725936396097596,0.0,0.13336900372561133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912992718925416,0.0,0.09630347609781946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848405043499574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722213305502816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041692202870942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084403149447252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091692062400843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274513907218025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824024387129404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346428555389732,0.0,0.0,0.10095722187830417,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katrivers,2019/02/09,"Very long layover with a toddler...tips? Hey y’all, I need some suggestions. We’re going to Spain next month, with a long layover in Istanbul (Turkey). My original plan was for us to get some visas, explore a little and stay in a hotel. Apparently my husband needs special permission (he’s in the military) to get a Turkish visa. So now, we’re going to be staying in the airport. There is a hotel in the airport, but it’s by the hour (like $100 for 3 hours 😱). The airline would have paid for a hotel due to the forced layover, but it would have been out of the airport, requiring a visa. 

Has anyone stayed in the airport for 20-ish hours with a toddler (3 y/o)? I’m already going to be taking an onbuhimo to carry him when he’s super rowdy. Any nap mat recommendations that fold super small? They do have some pay lounges that we could get into, and I’m trying to get access to the really nice lounge (for gold members), but we’ll see when we get there.

If anyone has traveled through the IST airport, give me all the tips!

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parenting,mouse722,2019/02/09,"Am I a bad parent? So I like watching true crime shows and my husband does not. He does like watching shows like law and order, monk, columbo, etc. He gets mad when I watch shows like 20/20 with my 10 y/o in the room (even though most of the time she is watching her own shows on her phone/iPad.), but he has no problems letting her watch the shows mentioned above, that he likes.   I remember watching true crime shows as well as made for TV movies based on true crimes when I was her age with my parents.  I see it as him being controlling and not wanting me to watch these shows because HE doesn’t like it. What do you guys think?",4.563671875000002,4.8128592734375,4.201562500000001,93.4371875,69.546875,7.025,26.9375,5.985473137389443,0.6854343749999998,489,14,111,2,8,147,83,128,0.12,0.69,0.191,0.8594,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,6,13,1,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,3,19,13,11,0,2,3,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,5,0,1,2,8,0,0,4,3,1,0,2,8,17,10,11,9,3,9,1,0,8,0,17,4,0,1,10,61,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537420673613988,0.11224482125814006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20651907521757765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222693408314944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535523674498307,0.12161708438951158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962010814950496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231908198122715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828688020242054,0.0,0.5397439460187482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422962759453334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408912363588602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761889276186265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20858503556687027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672892395894666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179839965597805,0.18090821213476824,0.0,0.10736852769555036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860549832821756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555628446532844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,titaniumLiver,2019/02/09,"Son (13) won’t accept anything used/second hand. He wants to try lacrosse this spring and expects us to shell out the $500 it would cost for him to see if he likes it and thinks it’s fine to just closet that stuff if/when he ends up not liking it. (He has a history of doing just that). 

We don’t mind spending $200 or so and we know we can resell but we would never recoup the initial investment and quite frankly we are pissed that he’s fine with pissing away our money when we KNOW the same argument is coming later this year over football. 

Anyone has any insight/advice?  ",2.551610169491525,4.264447720338989,3.4120000000000026,91.61732203389832,76.03389830508475,5.7369491525423735,21.969491525423727,6.2581,0.27626508474576283,453,12,95,3,10,144,85,118,0.116,0.807,0.077,-0.8329,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,8,0,0,1,4,7,2,0,4,0,10,3,3,0,1,30,16,9,0,5,6,1,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,13,0,0,4,0,4,1,4,2,0,0,0,2,9,5,11,13,1,11,0,0,1,0,15,4,2,2,8,58,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23737896318134435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651941740895757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985556306448446,0.0,0.1999027571503692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282316735577488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092543794822493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151553353293529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670053525791593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373572338733648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452803135950272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18735515628472635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583757032598334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357607497223026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780856926587581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556535572357194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649269779255681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29220328166190346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328072147971058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451273063559533,0.0,0.0,0.15643274662130302
parenting,Junkygirl73,2019/02/09,"My (45) sons (19) girlfriend (18) is cheating on him ???  My daughter (17) who finally came out and casually brought it up.
 
She said the guy sometimes sleeps over with them during parties.
I asked her how long has it been going on and she said "" since August last year. ""

 She is friends with my sons GF and some of her friends too as they often stop by to visit her and vice-versa and Ive come to know them personally over time.


 She asked me "" like what do you think we should do "" ( she's not the type to cause a scene ). 

My son is not the most observant person so Im positive he has no idea that his gf has been cheating on him for 6 months, and they have been together for over 2 years any advice would be grateful,


Thanks Reddit.",2.070580847723704,3.8620692448979623,3.028163265306123,93.49238618524332,77.63945578231292,6.155729984301415,22.192046049188903,7.010146845296331,0.4365305075876504,557,16,125,6,13,177,103,147,0.071,0.7859999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.8961,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,1,4,0,4,7,2,0,4,0,16,1,1,2,0,25,27,9,0,2,2,4,0,1,5,2,0,2,0,3,5,12,0,1,3,1,0,5,3,2,0,0,7,2,24,5,18,17,2,22,0,0,0,0,36,8,0,3,10,81,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336894192802454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064901957089018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317201743928639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20291673354744327,0.0,0.18225518765382684,0.0,0.1528282450914926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943506457276534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741424496031039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082964791754223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566981442999827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20028116134225704,0.19163981323978416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975032387988077,0.1446177861841366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667653599984622,0.0,0.0,0.15700764955189153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416118239504938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098257589726098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33752664358383794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676041634189824,0.0,0.17754420970523624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754690415488673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148327788661974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334089164124402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136810615550396,0.0,0.0,0.10345274411726997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603129428889345,0.0,0.0,0.2285002798997942
parenting,temper1789,2019/02/09,"Helping father to deal with brother 's lies (I'm posting this on behalf of my father)

Yesterday my family found that my brother has been lying for at least two years about doing well at college and having good grades. It turned out that he failed for third time in a subject and he's is not longer allowed to continue education in that particular university. 

So my father is devastated and has no clue how to proceed. He's deeply shocked by the lies (more than the failing itself) and says he can't trust his son any more. They had a good and loving relationship, which is now broken. He knows he wants to recover trust. Where can he start?

PS. English is not my first language, so apologies in advance for the mistakes.",5.119489051094888,6.6319100364963495,5.601175182481754,79.30614233576644,69.07299270072993,8.107737226277372,30.48832116788321,8.548686976883017,2.381917372262774,573,23,104,9,10,184,95,137,0.217,0.698,0.086,-0.9657,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,4,7,10,0,0,5,0,12,1,0,2,0,15,19,8,0,2,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,4,1,3,3,1,7,6,19,16,3,18,0,2,0,1,21,8,0,0,8,70,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016108747028666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25797024008399994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23588917696098466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128406403806489,0.0,0.2743580019999584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4197524999079111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772005694666495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751671754059785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258371774816845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396456869510499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26864722739389874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19898838664675653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711002965305414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590778692931303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27217215735351996,0.2444327575426607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758876040806646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22498167383901796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611362290937139
parenting,Drmomma11,2019/02/09,"I miss my husband (Quick history) 
My husband and I have been together for 14 years and 4 of them we have been married. We have two beautiful children 2 and 8 months. 
 
February of 2018 my husband informed me that he wanted to kill himself. (He is a very very happy go lucky guy so this caught me off guard)
His close friends and I were able to talk him down but he struggled with alcohol abuse so that was still an issue. We get him into a doctor and long story short, he doesn’t drink and is on anti anxiety/anti depressant medication. It helps! 
This past November he started spiraling again and admitted himself into the hospital for thoughts of suicide. They discovered that his biggest culprit for his spiraling was lack of sleep. 
After many lost jobs and me getting a job (I was a stay at home mom), we are now in a point in our lives that he is pursuing his dream to be a video game streamer. He’s great at it! And I think he’ll do a great job but I feel like I never see him. He starts streaming at 1 and ends at 10 and then for whatever reason can not sleep in the middle of the night. And then when he gets up with our daughter in the morning at 5, I’m usually not far behind with our son if we don’t just get up at the same time. But then he goes back to bed and sometimes he will help me with my meetings during the day but when he does, he usually needs another nap on top of that later in the day. 

So I’m lost right now. I feel like he’s always sleeping and if he’s not sleeping, I’m taking a quick nap with our son while he’s with our daughter exhausted out of his mind wishing he could be sleeping. I’m trying so incredibly hard to not be frustrated. I myself am constantly running on 3-5 hours of sleep myself but I can function on that. I can’t be mad at him for not being able to do the same as me but I feel like he’s always sleeping or he’s just always exhausted throughout the day. I just don’t know what to do. I feel so alone right now. And I feel like I can’t need anything. 
I know that marriage is about us holding each other up but anytime I try to lean on him, MOST of the time it effects him so harshly. He’s been trying to help more around the house and he’s has been doing great! But then he’s so tired and needs a nap or he is rushing off to try to get some streaming in. 
I want him to pursue his dream, and I know it’s going to take some sacrifice on my part and his....... I’m just feeling exhausted and alone. Very very alone. 

If you have read this far, thank you for taking that time. I know it was quite a read. If anyone has any suggestions or advice, or maybe is going through the same thing, please don’t hesitate to leave a comment.
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parenting,clunsycurlss,2019/02/09,"Dealing with a tummy bug? Ok I know this is a parenting sub but who better to ask than parents. 

My boyfriend is currently ill with what i am 99% sure is a tummy bug that started a day before I wrote this post. He's very weak and warm and couldn't sleep last night because he was throwing up at least every hour. The vomitting has currently stopped but he is having diarrhea issues. I've given him flat lemonade, lots of water and flat energy drinks. I've just made ginger tea for him but it's all coming out one way or another. Does anyone have any suggestions? I am currently unable to go to the store to get him pepto-bismol till Monday. 

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parenting,patron_saint_of_NOPE,2019/02/09,"Nobody is coming to our son's 6th birthday party I don't think he really connects with his classmates. The one boy he's close to can't make it. I haven't heard from any of the other 20 kids who were invited. The only family member with a child that even RSVP-ed just canceled. So it's going to be me and my SO, my parents, and my grandparents. That's it.

We changed our plans and are going to take him to the arcade and a movie, make a day out of it instead of sitting at the house waiting for people who aren't coming.

He doesn't seem too beat up, especially with our surprise plans looming. But I'm not sure we'll get through the day without him questioning why none of his classmates or any more of our family are showing up. I don't know how to explain it to him.

He's such a sweet boy, it really isn't fair. My heart hurts.",2.2506006493506483,3.5610211704545485,3.928766233766236,89.28636363636366,75.93181818181819,6.846753246753247,23.935064935064936,7.447530270364453,0.9234769480519476,650,20,143,8,14,218,104,176,0.054000000000000006,0.889,0.057,0.1424,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,0,3,8,4,0,0,10,0,13,1,1,3,1,27,28,9,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,11,12,0,1,5,1,0,4,10,1,0,1,2,2,19,3,23,24,2,12,0,1,0,0,26,5,0,3,2,93,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516631392594609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957447112137949,0.31878614566478525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386672367676714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221525596314252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488730101216477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667424488810207,0.0,0.21032169026823372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192698482104904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350796379813028,0.19808603696971813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169154814248177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470273951789205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253859242076082,0.14072904865646071,0.0,0.0,0.205461796068121,0.0,0.0,0.12828142316416427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20728389386067655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370790020988141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684508215630242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439527198804006,0.0,0.13912486710959002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856429885233832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166967197342686,0.0,0.0,0.17836915628534078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DemoticPedestrian,2019/02/09,"Am I overreacting? TLDR; Brother has mom watch his son all the time (during work, weekends) I feel like my daughter gets the shaft because mom (understandably) gets tired of watching my nephew and wants a break from children.

I have an a 1.5 year old and my step brother has an infant. I have my child in a daycare facility while my step mother quit her job to watch my nephew (brother can't afford childcare right now). 

When my brother wants to do something outside of work hours, he asks his mom to watch his son. They do sleepovers/late nights all the time. Basically every weekend and sometimes during the week. 

I personally believe that a grandparents house should just be a fun place kiddo can go, bend the rules and have..well, fun! I almost never ask my dad/step mom to ""watch"" my daughter, let alone sleepovers because I don't want them to feel like they are in a parenting role. I want it to be mutually beneficial for grandparent and kiddo.

I digress. So I have been feeling like my brother has been over the line but step mom agrees to it so it shouldn't really be my business. Except, I jokingly asked them that whenever they want a sleepover with my kiddo all they have to do is ask. (They never ask to see her, so this was my attempt to imply that all they have to do is ask.) 

My step mom said, let me get a couple weekends to recoup from watching kids (because she is with nephew all the freaking time). I totally understand where she is coming from, but on the other hand, I feel like my brother is making it to where my daughter gets hardly any quality time with her grandparents. 

It's not that I want time without my daughter. I could always get a sitter and I have before. It's that I feel like my daughter is getting shafted on quality time with her grandparents. 

I didn't have a relationship with my grandparents and I REALLY want that for my daughter. 

Am I being childish about this? Should I just suck it up? I had planned on sharing how I feel to my dad, but should I just keep it to myself? ",4.392300026457363,5.82490664961637,5.029401181762061,83.01854219948852,70.73913043478261,7.6437428344651215,29.083781638592463,8.104835398774808,1.957475809154246,1584,61,303,22,29,509,168,391,0.053,0.865,0.08199999999999999,0.9155,8,1,1,0,0,0,52.0,0,0,8,5,12,11,1,0,20,0,42,2,1,2,8,54,76,16,0,12,9,26,8,5,0,4,1,1,0,5,17,13,0,1,8,4,0,6,8,2,0,0,6,16,64,9,37,59,6,38,0,0,7,0,59,12,1,1,24,211,81,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178665496325781,0.07424867700322194,0.0,0.0,0.0596513871827113,0.0,0.0,0.04875130220201557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021198976796416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311037180136903,0.0,0.06100246412825488,0.08076949034107471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061754135988492616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057238213377609086,0.07932304193960445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06040147570112196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174901193859608,0.2560748808656212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472875486938101,0.0,0.04074278145014405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642196894917466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059969338285638,0.08272003040483686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114074333254307,0.06372090044323347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661469319797507,0.0,0.1751192846564964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04785328208962784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5037710890090475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058268723435476,0.0,0.0,0.06727571710319148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522604587978315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960267952279633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259648548891683,0.07490024437726603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625058244758823,0.0,0.0,0.09185222842790293,0.0,0.0,0.07696766847884963,0.0,0.06122242103185103,0.06819310865978168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712723092119462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519006126529313,0.07090272512840894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508162607550449,0.08239650702695478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926254612915105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959901736095598,0.0,0.057504973623044374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910609688151452,0.0,0.10438158508746724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046165672287517535
parenting,cpbaby1968,2019/02/09,"My baby’s heart was broken last night and I feel so helpless Hi. I’m new here. I’m 50 and the mom of 3 ages 30(m), 25(m) and 15(f).  


My 15 yr old‘s boyfriend broke up with her last night. She is heartbroken. I know it hurts now and it will get better but she doesn’t think it will. I wish I knew how to make her feel better or at least understand that it will get better. 


Suggestions?",-1.1262601626016249,0.950767146341466,0.6018292682926827,102.91867886178864,97.04878048780488,4.1967479674796735,12.930894308943088,5.985473137389443,-1.1447837398373983,294,5,73,3,12,94,59,82,0.126,0.725,0.15,0.627,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,1,0,6,1,1,2,0,16,18,8,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,10,3,5,13,1,10,0,3,0,0,7,2,0,1,8,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.532199196711331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20284200514411715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095931133788717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376923151028687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147286966317704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023540036009798,0.32700451299048106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389098850824052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23492087391540356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937247142048807,0.0,0.37646789821755794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21047855454398476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852575451097706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20881441121486416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306610306373747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,confused-caro,2019/02/09,"I caught my daughter masturbating today (13F) in the bed. How do I go about talking to her about it? Today after my daughter went to sleep, and I went to check in on her as always. When I opened the door, she had her hand in her panties, and she immediately took her hand out but i think she knows I saw her. Is this something I should talk to her about? My biggest concern is that she’s getting horny and she will start having intercourse with boys. ",3.3675714285714307,4.829382011111111,3.977619047619047,89.44500000000002,73.33333333333333,6.476190476190476,25.079365079365076,6.868970318607317,0.7799365079365081,351,11,75,3,7,111,57,90,0.0,0.946,0.054000000000000006,0.5514,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,0,7,3,3,1,0,11,17,7,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,3,6,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,3,22,0,15,9,0,17,0,0,1,0,17,7,0,0,5,55,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215230840437904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514231343564126,0.0,0.14700585363476487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421560736133377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588528140748085,0.0,0.0,0.199133730680302,0.0,0.0,0.18308513221737668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4158118791997192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574273382042976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4903702622167875,0.0,0.2873874530857033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.479571962829285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brblol,2019/02/09,"""Dad"" or ""Your dad"" When talking to your child and you refer to the other parent, do you ""your mum"" or just ""mum""

For example, ""dad is outside cleaning the car"" vs ""your dad is outside cleaning the car""

Or

""mum is invited to a wedding party"" vs ""your mum is invited to a wedding party today""


For me it's more natural to say ""your dad"" but I also feel that sometimes when the situation is not possivtive, then it kind of puts some blame on the child.

For example, ""Your dad broke it"" vs ""dad broke it"", the first might suggest that the child is somewhat to blame because *his/her* dad broke it.


Or am I just over thinking this? ",2.273348115299335,4.164313422764227,3.8326977087952687,87.50008869179605,77.37398373983741,6.749150036954916,26.62897265336289,7.686295010490155,1.5205349593495945,473,19,97,7,11,157,62,123,0.131,0.826,0.042,-0.9288,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,9,0,1,5,4,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,0,0,18,11,10,0,0,11,13,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,9,1,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,3,0,1,0,2,12,1,12,10,3,10,0,3,0,0,30,2,0,7,5,68,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23818361551516426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815613190870955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059753286326125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533436954002732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101559271389681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159625989384577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330717565817249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994128154603583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368553915486672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347861501766122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945727054019799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393935906047393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190844707189621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28231876882353274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elgamal01,2019/02/09,"We suspect that my 13 year old brother is suicidal? My mom for some reason decided that she lshould take a look into my brother's iPad, she came by a chat between him and one of his friends, telling her, ""I want to about this with  someone, I want to kill my self, but my family can't know about this."" 

I know what my mom did was very wrong, but I really don't want to wake hearing my brother has killed himself.",4.746352941176472,4.525502694117648,5.338823529411767,87.06470588235297,69.11764705882354,8.682352941176473,32.294117647058826,8.238735603445708,2.130223529411765,319,13,71,4,5,103,61,85,0.196,0.74,0.063,-0.9454,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,0,6,1,1,1,0,16,15,3,3,3,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,3,2,18,1,11,12,1,4,0,0,1,0,17,1,0,1,2,47,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118685548946464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17463054182108914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311822297077353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20878223752318512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098876970580183,0.0,0.20360933216994706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15555740088887648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339085456617934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438128671372304,0.0,0.12552539890361653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867136003579913,0.19046057724336088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932487689068696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569557277148139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20262569186802626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927962450097933,0.0,0.16191047981334836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528448118711794,0.32778322679501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253405662821145,0.0,0.1192903691308252
parenting,kookaburrasnest,2019/02/09,"Parents who let their kids be mean I'm not even mad at them anymore. I used to be fuming when some little terror would come racing up to hit my (then two year old) in the face and the mum would do nothing to prevent it from happening again. Or to reprimand the kid at all. 

But now I realise I just have to deal with the shitty behaviour for maybe ten minutes max. At its worst, all I have to do is move my kid to a different part of the park to be away from the behaviour. But these parents LIVE with it. 

This kid's nasty behaviour is in their house all night. Eats at their table with them. Has access to all their things. The parent has to deal with them when they're teens. 

This parent goes home and probably gets hit or kicked everyday by this kid. They probably deal with a level of tantrum that I can't imagine. They probably have a heap of people avoiding them now to avoid seeing their kid. They probably haven't had a single peaceful family outing. Even if its by your own doing, it would be upsetting having a mean kid. 

At most I feel bad for the kid that ended up with crap parents who are setting the child up to be hated. But I'm not really angry any more so that's a plus.  ",3.7429847494553385,4.63243744032922,4.649726458484629,87.18572984749458,71.71604938271605,8.022173807794724,24.582183490680226,8.313332769828598,1.2997089808763018,930,25,198,14,17,302,132,243,0.16699999999999998,0.8109999999999999,0.022,-0.9885,6,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,12,0,9,11,5,4,15,0,24,3,2,1,4,36,37,13,0,4,9,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,9,15,10,1,3,4,0,0,2,4,11,0,2,1,2,21,0,39,25,11,27,0,0,1,0,33,13,1,5,11,147,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964172732998865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156234926416036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962167586452355,0.0,0.08550735472281366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821640665491465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167379813963415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699575519554877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479011724798627,0.0,0.0,0.0907041018799742,0.0,0.0,0.13528054297335834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654222352616856,0.0,0.05178113851017484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350454915360954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056006477298346,0.0,0.0,0.10110782445880344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272471789804842,0.0,0.0,0.11816639847507185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472028463930118,0.0,0.0,0.10264086267311588,0.09042914732408534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288374640197542,0.2231071526446521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884470939613257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961040410164923,0.0,0.09826433234317783,0.0,0.10746116593079393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5685661563552917,0.11089911951285664,0.0,0.07099760354090685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4416574976565629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560591776934505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160682605862063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803608247706212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003884968280834,0.0,0.0,0.08844861662337344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21824554554516332,0.0,0.0,0.06594812889572386
parenting,burner4ne,2019/02/09,"Taking a 2 1/2 year old to the cinema Hi everyone. My wife is taking our 3 month old out today and I'll be left with my son who is 2 1/2. He's never been to the cinema before and I'm thinking of taking him. We'd usually go and play football or find a park but I've injured my back and need something relaxed.

He can watch things and his attention span isn't always goldfish-like but it really depends. I've narrowed it down to the Lego Movie 2 or How to Train your Dragon: The Hidden World. 

He's going through a dinosaur/dragon phase so he might enjoy How to Train your Dragon, however he usually likes stuff where there's singing. 

My question is two fold: is he too young for the cinema and of the two options, what would you recommend? I can bribe him with popcorn to keep him focused but that's an awful lot of sugar to deal with at bedtime...",2.3551619047619035,4.0737755257142885,4.064,86.70533333333336,76.6,6.9523809523809526,24.23809523809524,7.793537801064563,1.2706380952380951,667,22,136,10,15,224,111,175,0.055,0.826,0.119,0.9061,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,3,0,0,7,4,0,0,10,1,12,2,0,3,1,29,21,14,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,10,1,1,4,6,0,2,2,0,0,2,1,2,14,4,18,16,1,20,0,0,1,0,21,8,0,7,11,82,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801173489318574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12753880799997735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113763828010134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099800509056493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848970037045998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159625153422118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852812039677053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742711669369934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802111987502347,0.0,0.0,0.0810325373144095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101123255471626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759549825099643,0.0,0.0,0.13239067846978028,0.0,0.0,0.12298569772130336,0.12792417104750187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34809172397695004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580510097763966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625641747702846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768984031760966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987404680488149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741261730519149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019235198569534,0.106278645727337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572192221404502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240491143859902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36535046640860935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782468507124234,0.0,0.0,0.10681066821455544
parenting,bbsunshineSn,2019/02/09,"I felt a bit guilty, but I felt guilty for not feeling guilty. Worker mum with a stay at home dad of a 14MO boy . So I had the pleasure of being a stay at home mum for the 1st year of my son's life, when I had to go back to work in the beginning it killed me.
I am a restaurant manager at a ski resort and one day a week I have to stay over...
We are currently moving and packing and unpacking and getting phone calls and answering e-mails from work and my son is having an off day and I missed being at work for a little bit , I felt awful that I felt this way, I love our son more than anything , but I see other mum's who can not be away from their children I do miss him when I am working 8 hour's at work but it is tolerable. 
It makes me appreciate what a wonderful job daddy is doing he is the best, and it's so nice for them to bond. 
But I can't shake this sensation of that I am somehow failing as a mum because sometimes I just want to be somewhere else and it makes me question my love for our son even though I love that boy more than anything in this entire world!! And coming home and seing his biig smile makes all the horridness of the day go away if it's been stressful.
I just wondered if it gets easier that if these feelings of doing stuff for yourself starts to feel less selfish? I know they grow up fast and want to treasure all these moments but once in a while I want to go and take a glass of wine by myself for an hour or two  instead of going home, is this normal and okay?
Thanks for reading till the end, Saturday rant . 
Happy weekend all who don't work in the service industry =P ",4.360395894428152,4.017577671554253,5.454807917888567,86.32221187683287,69.93841642228739,8.34492668621701,28.19369501466276,7.7348632917899725,1.4641470967741932,1250,38,281,13,20,416,177,341,0.118,0.69,0.192,0.9858,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,3,9,11,17,1,2,22,2,24,5,0,3,3,53,57,31,1,7,13,9,7,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,22,17,1,0,12,4,0,8,4,7,0,2,7,8,35,10,46,46,9,48,0,3,1,3,29,16,0,8,20,195,57,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264095953902345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628551070408002,0.06664243608240898,0.0,0.052832082721654565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909528469975434,0.0,0.1892382846644244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884978425968703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465691294752573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676813063657444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240009488606182,0.0,0.07676223159401925,0.0,0.0,0.057243477167256425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146601964417667,0.0,0.3328599538276284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905610332573006,0.0,0.197021963907342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225982741231288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477407712455939,0.0,0.1707012843314035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860047379334986,0.0,0.09588543599684066,0.0,0.04763053326135205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061216257620363784,0.0,0.08686422673529799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466409145162195,0.0,0.17355493318946896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211449777106848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491635813496534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229872134460254,0.05872856242790304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708813152534793,0.0,0.08669157558344752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906327224158018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085716988715385,0.0,0.061344142800808237,0.2771300593425397,0.0,0.0,0.09927804088277756,0.0,0.0992142644763066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651636417321514,0.0,0.0,0.07979236247024349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515098978642255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466216178307633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335731147471876,0.06879312114186943,0.06951993969481463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797576249949285,0.3785725499901053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05581142901546614
parenting,Typical_Dawn21,2019/02/09,Can we start a thread of kids who talk about their past lives? I've read many stories of kids talking about when they were big or the opposite gender or in their last life etc... what have your kids said that seems strange or past-life like!?,3.213750000000001,5.007999541666671,2.1191666666666684,101.24250000000002,74.41666666666666,5.633333333333334,20.333333333333336,5.985473137389443,-0.3821416666666666,190,4,44,1,4,53,39,48,0.053,0.947,0.0,-0.35100000000000003,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,3,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,5,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,5,23,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989453782395496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184956289347572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933086471919328,0.13095515252224155,0.0,0.2366920889602349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717595119459316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5117660094828828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681214371331228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549758858090509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440216507048084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18972639056052246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308951034816096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ImaginaryEconomics1,2019/02/09,"How do you feel about non-Caucasian dolls for Caucasian kids? Not sure how to word that question.



My first son loved baby dolls, now my second son is reaching that age I wanted to get him a doll. I have fallen in love with the mini land baby dolls. 



I really like the idea of getting him one of the Asian or African dolls. I would like to normalise other ethnicities to him, and I think they are really cute dolls. And there’s this saying that I really like ‘raise children that will be the change you want to see in the world’.. and try to raise my sons with respect and tolerance. 


But will I offend anyone? 



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parenting,sunflowrvibes,2019/02/10,15 month old So today my 15 month old put on her shoes (by herself) on the right feet. I was so proud of her because I’ve been teaching her how to put her shoes on. She’s my first born so I was wondering is it normal for a 15 month old to be able to do that?,1.4559999999999995,1.4342239333333353,3.4366666666666674,97.14,76.33333333333334,6.666666666666668,21.66666666666667,5.985473137389443,-0.12283333333333335,196,4,54,1,4,67,39,60,0.0,0.931,0.069,0.6113,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,6,3,3,1,0,3,7,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,10,1,9,3,0,15,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,9,34,12,1,0.19785458664359187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206103195980546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682950103249768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4737769302481562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19385548640434688,0.0,0.0,0.6228453178757307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977970147606606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896673593453262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18754301360853973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214564859303372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maplesyrupchin,2019/02/10,"Sweet words. As I’m getting my 6 year old son ready for bed tonight he says “Daddy you’re not as fat anymore. I’m proud of you Daddy “. 
Not as proud as I am of him!",-3.0178070175438587,-1.4403305000000015,-0.07789473684210435,106.90140350877192,104.0,2.533333333333333,14.228070175438594,3.1291,-1.7179087719298245,123,3,34,0,6,42,27,38,0.0,0.7070000000000001,0.293,0.8999,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,7,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.537471087698619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831477258921841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5686878076043792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4309822478149518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348999534040726
parenting,eridavil,2019/02/10,"First time mom losing her shit I am a first time mom. I have a beautiful healthy baby girl who is 4 months tomorrow, she’s currently teething (horrible). I stay home all day while her dad my longtime boyfriend goes to work (middle school math teacher). I feel like I am doing it all by myself. I clean, I cook dinner, I do all the chores except the laundry (his chore) but that takes a week in itself to get done. I bathe my child before I eat dinner breastfeed & put her to sleep. I never get more than an hour every other week to myself. I hate myself for always nagging my boyfriend to help because he says he is tired but of what?! I feel so bad saying this because he is a great dad he loves his daughter and he always thanks me and tells me I’m such a good mom. But I need action I tell him but we fight and he feels like shit afterword idk what to do help please. I miss the old us, I need to be taken care of every now & then... am I expecting to much?! ",1.5996555555555574,3.3505880100000063,2.962333333333333,93.61422222222224,78.9,5.644444444444447,20.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,0.032827777777777456,742,18,165,6,18,241,124,200,0.15,0.655,0.195,0.8822,1,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,2,0,0,4,3,15,5,0,9,0,12,10,4,0,4,19,27,10,0,3,5,6,3,2,0,0,1,2,5,2,8,4,4,0,3,2,0,2,1,8,0,2,2,5,35,7,15,24,5,21,0,2,0,1,32,2,2,0,18,99,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086949198410036,0.2485421929331593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576484979470094,0.13983301555001335,0.0,0.09759629983351784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693836081073113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396825789870917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117371967444331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173607799089717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19326958729141688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397847124497007,0.16387509068649475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951176223907603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984595078723792,0.0,0.0,0.09620003683053162,0.0,0.12645073871755858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323675786432626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375418284849093,0.0,0.11504761446075908,0.0,0.11295066423974615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120675661627934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283134501518173,0.0,0.0,0.10351597570572034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4029853134048417,0.09154780049143847,0.0,0.08431341942255009,0.17008856285694246,0.08845922254082686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035224861634315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589976798411764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529932997473286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241883136815845,0.0,0.11607663372190495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354638558139031,0.0,0.0,0.11477701109327748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224873568328345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623574973973752,0.0,0.2004955379144716,0.10559499159684492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13375819779075224,0.13182408809142782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796297701253835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840015064254988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349872927982115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommaof4_,2019/02/10,"BABY MAMMA DRAMA ADVICE I am having an issue with my husbands ex girlfriend. They have been separated for over 7 years. I have been with my husband since their daughter was 3 years old. I have a daughter on my own and my husband and I have a son & a new baby girl on the way. 
For years, my husbands ex has made complaints about me. She has talked bad about me to everyone, would not meet up with me to get to know me (when I offered so she would be comfortable with her daughter around me.) my husbands ex is just so rude. 
She has called my kids retarded even. 

My daughter and my step daughter are like BEST friends. They absolutely love each other. They are only over a year apart. A few years ago, my husbands ex took him to court (when him and I started dating.) she said that she didn’t like me, she tried to fight me in front of our kids, she made up rumors that we had bugs in our home and that we made the kids sleep on the floor. Long story short- she had an attorney, my husband (who was my bf back then) did not. He lost custody and was awarded only two weekends per month instead of the 50/50 he had before. 

Over the years, it has been non stop bad mouthing about me. She has tried to make things up about me spanking their kid(which isn’t true) and had told my husband that he can’t pick his daughter up for his time. She would take her out of school, wouldn’t let my husband see his daughter. We found out that they had been grilling my step daughter constantly asking questions and making things seem worse than they were. Basically brainwashing my step daughter not to like her own father and not to like me and would bribe her to take her shopping for making things up or telling her bad things about us. We recently were supposed to have my step daughter spend the night, she begged to stay and we over heard her mom bribing to take her shopping if she would leave. Then she made up in court that she left because she was afraid.

I’m trying to figure out, WHY she is doing this. Is it jealousy? She has made comments that my husband treats my daughter better than his own daughter and has told everyone this. She has made complaints constantly that my husband shouldn’t bring my step daughter home to see her family (us) because he needs to show her where his priorities are and that they should be only focused on their daughter. 

She recently found out I’m pregnant with a baby girl, do you think maybe it’s because her mom is worried that my husband won’t give as much attention to their daughter? 

My husband wants his daughter to be apart of our family, not to feel out of the family. That’s why we all enjoy spending time with her here. She loves it too, she loves me and her siblings. I don’t understand where this hate is coming from.

So everyone, what do you think it would be? Jealousy? Hate? Is she crazy? I don’t know how I’m supposed to deal with this for the rest of my life. 

We’re in court right now again because of her trying to keep her daughter away from all of us and we have an attorney this time, so hopefully the judge figures out what’s going on. I just can’t handle this level of hate and anger toward my family for no reason. 

Advice or thoughts ?! ",3.8591877637130807,5.304000699367091,3.9962658227848142,89.86260548523208,72.06962025316456,6.722362869198313,26.457805907173,7.083569544072883,1.0795362869198306,2510,84,517,23,48,774,241,632,0.097,0.8290000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.9272,0,0,0,0,1,0,69.0,13,2,10,4,24,27,6,1,18,0,65,6,2,12,3,92,115,29,0,13,10,38,1,4,3,10,1,2,2,5,30,39,0,2,15,5,4,10,15,11,0,1,32,5,115,16,80,68,10,79,0,1,2,3,140,37,0,6,34,364,145,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369949483264152,0.05610593392348532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857856035966317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563446993629751,0.05917094714581062,0.0,0.05946639572760728,0.04866885108288874,0.15854247010074846,0.1543326995549482,0.0,0.05385816919071481,0.0,0.06642270040390448,0.05597802219464496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462981511026898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054521809107611736,0.0,0.1367957348319633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525289498726719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04180480830975107,0.0,0.0,0.1814391653755211,0.0,0.0,0.23867019215636576,0.0,0.03200313248158439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879627268316136,0.04890045781984032,0.0,0.03306827976742816,0.0607169629999053,0.03597119637706263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746790013765607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697722957090407,0.06286479974217016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606204646661593,0.0,0.056258236222080635,0.0,0.0,0.06956898536628428,0.0,0.0,0.06701875538403865,0.0687686527182032,0.06472196709545593,0.04470612272176025,0.12368817156968635,0.0,0.0,0.0560128207464417,0.0,0.0,0.06909241216562083,0.0,0.17137476348009786,0.3593394572825461,0.1267468552268091,0.0,0.06358690173753449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482573364478947,0.05052032645004402,0.0,0.04652805911754334,0.046931382702936536,0.0,0.06112932761881325,0.0,0.05939673103290439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641595818201156,0.0,0.0,0.14441284411672475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090328764812871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650763350082495,0.12498953592254458,0.0,0.0,0.05405236587273146,0.060206682407410964,0.0,0.0,0.06405647538633381,0.10087356674254902,0.05762009210360808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052357097992954856,0.0,0.06333928328441908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04479951703878465,0.06746252779062896,0.0,0.05291626147994356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276667069428733,0.05087297679917475,0.05532137294856992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681977510489519,0.08111193233350232,0.0,0.05024802733682464,0.11072097496854097,0.0,0.0,0.12095944358368073,0.0703214889451517,0.17188872661880716,0.0,0.06182862431800576,0.06589084210073094,0.2284031270858937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03733218948461884,0.05023949250955628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422521065671855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427769615386564,0.06450155863893257,0.26977163146867,0.0,0.0,0.2445539167372001
parenting,Izzy_alexanderish,2019/02/10,"Help with an 8 year old boy that is overly aggressive. separated from the dad 4 years ago (was living with him before that but for 2 of them not in a relationship together). Still on good terms with the dad.

He was perfect and ""normal"" until around 6ish when he started to be really aggressive with me. I'm a smaller female and even though I can overpower him the moment he is let go he immediately goes to try to break something or cause property damage to our house.

He hates when I have people over (especially if they are male) and will demand to sit in-between us. Hates when we talk (hes been aggressive towards a few of my male friends as well just randomly trying to kick them or something.) And will refuse to go to bed when I try to have people over unless I'm in bed with him. He will literally stay up all night if I am not laying in bed with him when people are over.

His dad and me are on ok terms, and while I watch him a majority of the time his dad and his dads parents are willing to help but the only problem is my son most of the time will refuse to be away from me. 

If they pick him up or I drop him off they are literally fighting him for the entire time I am getting a break. He will just run around and break stuff. They are willing to help but refuse to if he doesn't want to leave because it will just be 6 hours of them trying to restrain him.

A few times he has actively tried to hurt me, he once got a rock from outside and tried to throw it at me while I was in the kitchen (and broke the glass on our stove.)

I don't know what to do and feel completely lost, hes only 8 so I feel like hes too young to try to call the non-emergency police number and have a cop to try to scare him.

He is completely in control of my house and I have no way to punish him. If I try to take away his xbox or w/e he will literally make holes in the wall with whatever he can find to bash it with. If I restrain him he will just fight me for an HOUR then the moment I let him go he will go and break something.

He currently has an ear infection and needs to take meds but doesnt like the taste so REFUSES to do so and im too afraid to try to take anything away from him because he will just cause more property damage. Hes only 8 years old and I dont know what I can do please help.",5.489408163265307,4.0610993285714265,6.382571428571428,84.21242857142856,67.9591836734694,9.880816326530613,29.19183673469388,8.841846274778883,1.8372424489795924,1781,47,419,25,25,595,202,490,0.132,0.779,0.08900000000000001,-0.9691,3,0,3,0,3,0,36.0,4,0,7,3,21,23,8,2,24,1,53,4,1,5,2,74,75,46,0,10,22,7,2,2,1,12,1,1,5,3,8,28,2,7,5,2,0,6,7,16,1,0,6,5,58,7,76,52,8,68,0,5,1,0,74,24,0,12,32,276,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829134011929934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633973821749046,0.1371639239929284,0.0,0.0,0.2171449384573726,0.0,0.0,0.09392577700613634,0.0,0.06555539304312845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866648635707503,0.0,0.0,0.15828266922237025,0.0,0.0,0.16155001579934386,0.0,0.0864069468371708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029034384666312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050884214614388405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779075100385428,0.05503741431927736,0.0,0.0,0.07041319363349413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952093768759632,0.0,0.040250237057586735,0.0,0.1751345025026538,0.06461752377853053,0.061615951404197435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212216408589846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065532383061976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517378261542664,0.17778770688107112,0.08247294773346919,0.0,0.08321645479437374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467837373285002,0.0,0.0,0.08157427028209059,0.0,0.1575573048702337,0.0,0.07527573647485397,0.0,0.06802775977534466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409829565086611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514248196465272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557410822129694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712420762492041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722968512826894,0.07548287430176276,0.0,0.0,0.16168110830281882,0.0820451198624747,0.0,0.17577724788647395,0.0,0.0,0.08554383856415522,0.0,0.0,0.16022957402207785,0.0,0.0,0.08456682054869273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371690622767725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049353817280386056,0.0,0.0,0.08271216303879066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713051186554996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17792754161769295,0.0,0.0,0.05452933123701823,0.08211442370677734,0.061524269144696275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819240507822979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377354914686582,0.06192185957035486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569144037599324,0.0,0.1796906490076145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230512474940111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266967291674884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04544020696579221,0.06115079155566741,0.0,0.0,0.06926824098589411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14883376443018384
parenting,MrTurveydrop,2019/02/10,"Can you identify this toy for me? Son fell in love with this dragon toy at an AirBnB. Can anyone please identify it for me?

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[https://imgur.com/a/HtIQR4s](https://imgur.com/a/HtIQR4s)",10.379444444444443,15.312773518518526,4.961018518518519,71.51708333333335,73.07407407407408,7.144444444444447,25.26851851851852,8.07648339933343,2.3832296296296294,163,5,20,3,4,41,21,27,0.0,0.785,0.215,0.782,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,14,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206254941478692,0.4717177777811479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714455366375721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503747828050031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261381256554958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717177777811479,0.0
parenting,Deserman,2019/02/10,"16 year old confessed to smoking weed while out with friends. I'm at a complete and total loss for what our next steps are. I have three teenagers. My oldest is away at college and we never dealt with anything like this with her so this is brand new territory. 

My son is going on 17 years old. He's a junior and high school and all around presents himself as a model student athlete. He plays football, basketball, and runs track while holding leadership positions in National Honor Society and Debate. He took one AP class last year and is taking two this year. To say this was unexpected would be am understatement, but he confessed that he smoked weed last year while recovering from an ACL injury. He tore his ACL in November of sophomore year and started smoking with friends that winter. He said he did it 3 times. He confessed this to us last night and added that he has smoked twice this school year. Once at a New Years Party and once on Halloween. 

I'm not sure what to do. We had zero clue this was going on. Weed is illegal in our state and my wife is really concerned with his getting arrested and ruining his life. He said he wanted us to know because he doesn't like hiding things from us, but can't promise that he'll never do it again. He says it's a fun way to relax with friends and takes the edge off. He has a seizure disorder and can't drink due to the medication he was recently prescribed and doesn't want to risk that because his seizures are really well controlled, so he says weed is what he does at parties instead. 

I know some of this is normal experimentation but I don't want my son's life derailed by an arrest record either. ",4.840036344057072,6.12147426625387,5.084479741553373,83.62235563332885,69.49535603715171,7.970332480818413,29.52335442186028,8.321376580360154,2.0172181720285365,1320,50,257,19,23,416,173,323,0.097,0.784,0.119,0.8312,1,0,3,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,0,3,6,15,0,1,10,0,28,4,0,2,5,49,45,24,0,5,5,3,0,2,3,2,3,5,0,0,20,25,1,2,5,3,0,5,8,3,1,5,8,5,20,12,35,34,4,53,3,2,0,0,46,16,0,1,32,151,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700349992047031,0.08330077558361541,0.0,0.0,0.08791593426314309,0.0,0.0,0.11408378885847922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811064906778598,0.0,0.10495129444852627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724400967321576,0.0,0.08188731342541831,0.0,0.0,0.0916669804573379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168853206516506,0.0,0.048888597915793267,0.0,0.10636061921554417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988661596527773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285174121249717,0.2288261082797532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321882888066681,0.09143114382330543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426604736158324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434020788636215,0.18074887111379886,0.09951710225726312,0.08781294102393596,0.0916827368243207,0.0,0.0,0.1963805252398246,0.19930669576782267,0.06340822253104884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989191145275653,0.0,0.0923931212687046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802076846821716,0.22324160742466584,0.0,0.1894039418494336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623221984132897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819246884738792,0.0,0.14071213477967404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621664649567923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456380217085802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039642528144367,0.0,0.0,0.09140828537887714,0.0,0.3376743127052761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655772613996802,0.07427475411685824,0.0,0.0,0.0841343412971364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647234607059972,0.0,0.0,0.4820691485691282
parenting,tekrah,2019/02/10,"Gift ideas for boys? 11 and 14 yo? Hi everyone,

I need to get something for my cousins but I have no idea what boys these age are into. Any suggestions? ",-0.5535483870967717,1.6187497741935533,0.9118709677419368,99.56780645161292,99.64516129032259,5.060645161290323,19.103225806451608,6.742157984588678,0.2355109677419356,117,4,27,2,5,37,28,31,0.103,0.836,0.06,-0.3378,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212305763936395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34021660442003104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860190080769166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8038637585986684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640031268477862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27410111691958305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Originalstickers,2019/02/10,"Why is it okay for my spouse to want a kid, but not for me to not want one? Why is the person who says ‘no’ always the asshole?

The one that just can’t just try harder?

The one that is wrong, and just needs to get with the program?


I’m so tired of everyone thinking that your spouse wanting another child is something you should just deal with or accept as something that will eventually happen.

No, we don’t need to have another one.

No, I haven’t stopped trying to consider this and think about the benefits to us.

No, I’m not just having a bad day.

I am a shitty parent, and I’ve always been shitty at it.  I am not getting better when we add a whole additional (completely dependent) human to this dynamic.",3.9341958041958014,4.868320496503499,5.252734265734265,82.87294755244757,71.30769230769229,8.517202797202797,26.88741258741259,8.841846274778883,1.9177082517482515,553,18,113,10,10,185,86,143,0.203,0.685,0.112,-0.9599,1,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,3,2,0,1,8,7,0,0,10,1,14,1,0,1,0,31,26,8,0,6,11,3,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,9,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,11,2,0,4,1,1,10,5,15,23,1,4,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,2,3,83,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499200150326573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31494915461362955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539223765674154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282011043712388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574586258049478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685229385702347,0.15482677627327784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350137808847455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156923463833836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280178296983566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227099561287204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070576101305815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16675473784072373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112951209721174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942745957946925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312285026805375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555541296630846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192455813691376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260735455942006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039218139310269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180645471052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657363730875643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710243145314349,0.16766821417337807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16419591130802672,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gibson1130,2019/02/10,"Wife being induced...now. Hi everyone, 2nd Reddit post ever, so sorry if I’m not doing this right. My wife and I are at the hospital now to have our daughter induced. We had our son induced (2.5 years ago). It was a very, very tough delivery. I’m having a ton of anxiety over this and am hoping for the best.",1.3890476190476164,3.3141373492063515,3.86373015873016,86.0632142857143,80.26984126984127,6.73968253968254,23.198412698412696,7.793537801064563,1.2647269841269837,235,8,48,4,6,82,50,63,0.085,0.8059999999999999,0.109,0.5404,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,1,9,11,4,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,5,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,4,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645484785924507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228305287281422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131936874951409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699554797007278,0.0,0.2851715900058961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964176151401472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858224027915389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25486557581332786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340784207780766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924874407053792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921851578565679
parenting,meepmorpart,2019/02/10,"Curly hair and first hair cut? My son is 2.5 and has amazing curly hair. We get complements on it every time we go out! Everyone is pressuring me to cut it but I’m afraid he will loose his curls. He is always pushing it out of his face so it might be time. If you had a curly headed boof, did they loose curls once their hair was cut?",0.12271126760563432,2.231637098591552,1.4994190140845092,100.11983274647888,86.46478873239437,5.240140845070423,15.917253521126757,6.6274283507984215,-0.5616633802816899,258,5,63,3,8,82,51,71,0.179,0.7909999999999999,0.031,-0.8625,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,1,2,1,2,6,3,2,1,0,10,6,6,0,0,9,13,5,0,1,2,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,1,3,4,9,1,5,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,3,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288686364882396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29231646198402306,0.3315211964160832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951115788434999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126465114458568,0.0,0.19717706540526075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560660727515001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36805424062715103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694855264755269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046133040124549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Realisticfictional,2019/02/10,"How can I help my wife see that her methods (""tiger parenting"") are harmful if she doesn't care about the research? My wife and I have two kids together. Our oldest turned 5 last week and our youngest is 3 months. We lived in my wife's home country for the first 2 years of our older son's life. We moved back to the west coast of the US and live in an area with a large Asian immigrant population. 

My wife has made friends with a lot of the other parents who are first generation immigrants and most of them are tiger parents who place an extreme importance on success. Our preschooler has to do worksheets at home to supplement his education because my wife thinks it's important. In addition she enrolled him in language classes, piano lessons, swimming, and karate. 

I worry that he has such little time to be a normal kid. He goes to preschool, comes home to work on math and reading, practices the piano, and depending on the day he has to go to either swimming or karate. Weekends he has swimming meets, karate tournaments, and language classes. I have talked to my wife extensively about allowing him to have some downtime but she doesn't want to hear it. She stays home and I work. I don't get home until 7pm so most of the day is already gone by then. When I get home I eat dinner, play with my son, and then get him tucked in by 8pm. 

I wouldn't be so worried but our son gets stressed out. If he doesn't win a meet he'll cry the entire way home and my wife will tell him that he needs to try harder. If he does well on one of her test, she tells him that he needs to keep working hard. I praise him for his accomplishments but my wife never does and he looks to her for validation. 

I have showed her studies on tiger parenting but she dismisses it. I think part is because of her friends. They are like her and reinforce this behavior.",3.8170257611241207,5.2944405737704905,4.209496487119438,88.16422131147543,72.22404371584699,7.523653395784544,28.09875097580016,8.07648339933343,1.6627013270882125,1454,55,303,21,28,456,187,366,0.059,0.866,0.075,0.6804,5,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,8,0,2,10,9,11,0,1,15,0,26,3,0,4,1,48,46,28,0,8,9,15,1,1,2,3,1,1,7,2,11,21,2,1,3,7,0,7,6,2,1,4,2,4,51,9,44,39,6,43,1,0,2,0,69,16,0,9,19,188,62,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462045834859867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593171943967087,0.0,0.10453729665914993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742155825520237,0.0,0.0,0.07386072490809628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418558077813263,0.11059536532060624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007002242523268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877373531367872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586733108101774,0.0,0.0,0.1324909544282509,0.0,0.1791904674524081,0.0,0.04873019959732794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680963782113534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966395380788142,0.0,0.057472287791966815,0.0,0.6020564305828926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621306367902017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989267275672595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06056340914040825,0.041890108583257715,0.08593785226238691,0.15142676124421067,0.0,0.07200322951310711,0.0,0.0,0.07289634557852685,0.0,0.08113289353802634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843991414204513,0.09113213112225024,0.0,0.1271559401316434,0.06613093447649171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401075695177032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058102244286261574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808335438634399,0.09285222182004238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958406197326298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576704237046362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832673828709887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139152365457362,0.0,0.0,0.0982192777273225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891764976476591,0.14988778897001304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988237952677436,0.0,0.0,0.04999792197874755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821443821928421,0.09326467472734196,0.08375927150885208,0.0,0.10313928080011164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050573937711751414,0.06805946824777406,0.06877853555283285,0.0,0.07709400856515486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18726760770452133,0.17415406095481378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521622101005594
parenting,nattatalie,2019/02/10,"Wish me luck, first night w/o pullups! My 3 1/2yo has been potty trained for about 6 months but still wears pull ups to bed. For at least the last week she's been dry when she wakes up. Tonight she didnt ask for one so we didn't offer it. 

Definitely don't care if she wets the bed, just worried it will upset her. ",1.3061691542288545,2.9627775522388085,1.797835820895525,102.06202736318407,79.44776119402985,5.063681592039801,18.629353233830845,5.46131890053228,-0.7771870646766171,244,5,62,1,6,74,56,67,0.179,0.767,0.054000000000000006,-0.8741,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,2,0,7,2,2,0,0,6,10,4,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,4,1,8,2,8,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,8,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131334366079837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.341504286161896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28490866423214045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730293052893768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673542372217976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31432828793125484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269710796215769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674918456802081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686770306548844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851764636293403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34015842004869395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tpharm2,2019/02/10,"When do you think it is best to start trying for a second child? My OB said they recommend at least after 3 months so that there is a minimum 1 year age gap. We have a two month old and not looking to start trying anytime soon. We really want to spend time and focus our attention on our first for a while. But *just curious*.

Is there an 'ideal' age gap? When do you think is best? Do you wish you had your second sooner or later? know everyone's opinions and situations are different, but just wanted to hear your reasons why. Thanks!",1.9171440823327608,4.259929839622643,3.4191252144082362,87.71258147512863,80.79245283018868,6.873413379073758,20.013722126929675,8.00094639256281,0.9512000000000008,417,11,84,8,11,137,75,106,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.9216,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,6,1,4,8,4,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,1,0,21,22,10,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,5,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,2,3,12,4,9,20,3,18,0,0,1,0,14,2,0,2,16,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947438006419877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649714176094316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971262156392054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997551909552676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197289557212012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103360468346299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579346647744711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002375024095233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197351866128778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048492298333788,0.19337123947687035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890129799773605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211402885222297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266239275357372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315313078961542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24102025551538955,0.0,0.0,0.10966737326269832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25537959470340604,0.0,0.183720821370886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22186165684072426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970739487247005,0.0,0.2162756435594977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111339191735622
parenting,bethaliz11988,2019/02/10,Toddler logic Toddler logic (2 year old)- get marker on the back your hand. Look at it. Raise your hand to your face. Blow your nose onto your bare hand. Seem surprised when your mother is horrified.,2.2556756756756755,5.1505529459459485,2.2851891891891896,91.85913513513515,87.1081081081081,4.0410810810810815,18.210810810810813,5.6839178017228535,-0.18717945945945927,157,4,28,1,5,47,28,37,0.07400000000000001,0.6809999999999999,0.245,0.7906,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,5,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,4,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,4,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38867218372832896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640851432357821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244641682060024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.530401579791713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4601572982767754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255035570070613
parenting,tattedbabe,2019/02/10,"My job is done. My girl will always be fine. I have always tried to raise my kids with as much confidence and self worth as possible. Today my daughter, 11, was very upset about a few incidents in school. Seems that some girls are making fun of her for her clothing, hair style.. whatever. She has never had a hard time making friends and in her last school she was very well liked by everyone.

So as I'm trying to comfort her about the girls being mean I ask her ""why do you think these girls are acting like this towards you?"" And without a beat she says ""of course they are jealous of me, but I wouldn't say that to them""

Score!! ",3.1866666666666674,4.7170863968253975,3.5589206349206366,91.98885714285716,73.92063492063492,6.627301587301588,22.123809523809523,7.1686216300943375,0.5098152380952383,490,12,105,5,10,152,91,126,0.031,0.8270000000000001,0.142,0.8489,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,2,1,4,9,1,1,4,0,15,1,1,2,1,14,22,8,0,1,2,1,2,2,1,2,0,2,0,6,4,4,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,2,1,0,4,4,20,7,18,14,3,8,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,2,6,71,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928443435927913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645093587973381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800796785548777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814806475379346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595494662295218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763567037711776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746243068925636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344005045449326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194132236553947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23492434365984494,0.0,0.0,0.19168427248787406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935911187376742,0.0,0.13571987167993824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838113747989564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798787924443286,0.0,0.3561845872318216,0.0,0.1601976115482758,0.18357638542682272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275526776777554,0.0,0.0,0.10261024751784464,0.0,0.1668001635640718,0.0,0.0,0.2389458472826979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903894110505396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582192816808651,0.0,0.1587866771620376,0.0,0.0,0.16962999969757894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-silentbuttdeadly,2019/02/10,"Stupid question from a non-parent about toddlers I'm a single adult woman without kids and have very, very little experience with childcare. But I do want kids some day in the future and try to learn when I can. This might be a stupid question but I'm just wondering, do you have to watch your toddler 24/7? Do you let them wander the house by themselves or do you have to always keep them in your line of sight? Are they able to play on their own a lot of the times, or do you have to help them play? When you need to do housework like cooking, gardening etc, is your toddler in the same room/area as you or by themselves somewhere else?",5.042031250000001,5.410031640625,4.846875000000002,88.810625,68.53125,7.3375,27.71875,6.6274283507984215,1.0656687499999995,502,15,106,3,8,154,80,128,0.034,0.851,0.116,0.8936,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,9,5,0,4,5,2,0,8,0,16,1,0,0,0,21,22,10,0,2,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,3,1,1,4,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,16,3,19,19,6,10,0,0,2,0,21,5,0,9,6,76,17,1,0.2073398468848923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252336225705864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337170484431904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320583680427842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312387370899528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20281815565075156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389755288305472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392423453244481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429318260179756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21201904114421694,0.0,0.10129577604775657,0.20780899671086395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627292327844524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995481190056265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373986927148725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645361609284058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090153210146096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077014588984352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421541761308541,0.1222944136829058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998682134573458,0.22485121942094985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SilasOtoko,2019/02/10,"What are some inexpensive ways we can make our apartment absorb sound better? When my kids play, it ends up getting very loud in our apartment very quickly. If they were in a different setting it probably wouldn't even be that loud. The sound seems to bounce off all the ways and amplifies it.  

Most of our walls are bare and I know one thing we can do is hang things up to make those surfaces less flat and break the sound up a bit, but we don't have a lot of money to buy decorations.  

Anyone have ideas for cheaper ways to address this problem? We are even considering just putting up sound absorbing panels on the walls just to get relief for our ears even though it won't look great.",7.262190476190478,6.445771451851853,6.528465608465607,82.6066666666667,64.1111111111111,9.788359788359788,31.87830687830688,8.841846274778883,2.2490529100529097,546,17,113,7,7,167,89,135,0.064,0.88,0.056,-0.4920000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,8,0,1,1,8,5,0,0,7,0,14,1,1,2,1,22,21,7,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,10,7,0,0,3,1,3,2,3,1,0,1,1,8,11,4,17,17,6,23,0,0,1,0,10,13,0,5,3,78,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586835088104992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920570087861136,0.19652612998415075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18807389019174425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943691659297465,0.0,0.0,0.3566880471718385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18809734430835387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984635107182538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321127359686264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892971062947532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151164472592689,0.0,0.0,0.15303949153150834,0.0,0.0,0.2403183860310854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198057189067466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940830352681051,0.1722468649341838,0.0,0.18096145615534032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387587107217638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391835205327802,0.0,0.17686055986737165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970569737346102,0.0,0.4286546739160146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TreytenTV,2019/02/10,"Is it wrong to make my kid sign a contract about computer usage? My son likes to be on the comouter a lot. He plays with his friends all the time and makes YouTube videos... Today I said enough is enough. I made him sign a contact that will limit his time spent on the computer. The contract has very strict guidelines about usage. I also made a sign in sheet so that I know how long he spent on the PC. My question to you all is, is this too much? 

Edit - Also moved the router to the garage so that when he signs it out i can watch on the Ring doorbell to see how long he actually used it for. No liars in my house! ",2.4117187499999986,3.661512984375001,3.1379375,95.36331250000002,75.40625,6.057500000000001,22.175,6.2581,0.09891000000000004,474,12,111,3,10,149,77,128,0.07200000000000001,0.868,0.061,-0.35100000000000003,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,1,10,5,1,0,12,0,8,0,0,7,2,20,18,8,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,7,3,0,1,2,2,2,1,1,2,0,0,5,4,13,3,16,11,6,14,0,0,2,0,14,7,0,2,7,72,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.18179420616903536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979554329649645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3849790544574606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392880605127806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149560589610776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238126030290022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101290483965413,0.0,0.0,0.3297252734647684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837887242786075,0.0,0.35254815844012466,0.24870283233691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979990087917605,0.1369461206548099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086897749281403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720643735346206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484506758288301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21725683074743288,0.0,0.17658311806421448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089655177169895,0.0,0.15371048373234394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203681154992913,0.0,0.0
parenting,HappyNectarine87,2019/02/10,"11 month and tubes in ears My son will be getting tubes in his ears soon. I know it’s a simple procedure, and recovery should be very quick. Does anyone have any suggestions or tips from their experience? ",4.755384615384617,6.498013256410258,4.910769230769233,83.0092307692308,70.28205128205127,9.302564102564103,25.820512820512814,9.725611199111238,2.262958974358975,163,5,32,4,3,51,34,39,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,2,0,0,5,7,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,3,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182134798473179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32719271180148657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094951741607755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4577325696345825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24447797931773005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571661587048543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735031701632244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3860973632983509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jordanna101,2019/02/10,"Men’s Fertility Supplements My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for about 3 years now, we found out his sperm count us very low and have discussed using Men’s Fertility Supplements. Just curious if anybody on here I have used them and suggests that helped them conceive!",4.783846153846152,7.587446615384617,4.804461538461538,79.14053846153845,73.23076923076924,8.006153846153849,31.55384615384615,8.841846274778883,3.0156107692307685,232,11,39,5,5,72,42,52,0.054000000000000006,0.9,0.046,-0.0989,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,10,8,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,5,6,0,5,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,1,2,25,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898137919044792,0.0,0.0,0.1857466526831769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383002897682007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413775060871593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276516812783955,0.614117294029787,0.0,0.2933445909631998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289458445473699
parenting,DarkPep,2019/02/10,"Attention seeking four year old I need advice. 

My four year old daughter has changed what seems like overnight. She used to be able to entertain herself. We would play with her, but she was content playing alone. She was pretty respectful, she wouldn’t talk back too much and she used her manners as well as expected of a child her age. She would eat her food at dinner without playing with it. She was enjoyable to be around. 

Over the last two months she has been unbearable. She is extremely attention seeking. If anyone is talking to me, it drives her insane. She will stand in between myself and the adult I’m speaking with and wave her arms around and say mommy. Mommy! Mommyyy watch this! Look at me! She does this when I’m on the phone or talking to my husband. She plays with her food at dinner to seek negative attention because she knows that will get her scolded (we have stopped scolding her or acknowledging her at all when she does this). She will throw her toys to make a loud noise. Run from one side of the house to the other yelling WEEEEE!!! If we’re watching a tv show at night that she doesn’t enjoy she will stand in front of the Tv and say watch my dance! Look at this! 

I stay at home with her and her little sister and she is by no means deprived of attention. I literally could not give her any more attention than I do now. Her little sister is a baby and even when I’m feeding the baby I still pay attention to her. I play with her. I drink her fake tea and eat her fake cookies when she brings them to me. I read to her at night. I eat every meal with her and she gets my undivided attention. Her dad gives her a lot of attention as well. She gets a million hugs a day. This is not a neglected child. 

We tried ignoring the behaviors that seek negative attention and reinforcing the good behavior-independent play, good manners, following directions.  It seems to be getting even worse. We had family visit this weekend and she was a nightmare. Yelling, jumping, harassing the dog, grabbing peoples arms and legs. 

Any conversation that’s held around her she thinks is about her. The adults were talking about how a cousin of hers is going to school to be a chef. She butts in and says I’m not a chef!! Talking about someone else and another person says “oh, she’s 36 I think?” She butts in and says no, I’m four!!! It’s always like this. No matter where we go or what we do. 

I literally can’t take it anymore. I have gotten to the point where I can’t stand being around her. She is so unpleasant. I can’t give her the attention, and I can’t not give her the attention because either way I lose. I miss my daughter who was enjoyable to be around. I don’t even know what to do with her....or myself. ",2.2506579764121675,4.579101145251402,3.252579143389198,89.4553553693358,79.4469273743017,6.733829919304777,24.28336436995655,7.857877913537022,1.3196477963997515,2133,77,437,37,54,681,230,537,0.114,0.7759999999999999,0.11,-0.7959,0,2,1,0,2,1,70.0,6,0,1,1,25,26,1,0,26,0,43,17,5,4,1,84,77,32,0,8,12,7,1,2,0,7,0,9,1,5,21,36,11,4,19,15,1,11,17,8,2,6,10,15,92,18,61,53,5,60,0,4,5,3,95,25,2,8,21,303,113,3,0.07751684389114187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574856270418692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028407241428137,0.0,0.0,0.06450022386232303,0.0,0.0,0.10542822402363593,0.08128316963798997,0.0,0.0,0.07687587974270309,0.05420157960508035,0.0,0.0,0.34503212794193583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059605668123070187,0.0,0.09450709710141496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200254247012884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189089224408199,0.0,0.0,0.04999195150129297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567102493186206,0.0,0.0,0.07593699604263499,0.0,0.2379572502057921,0.06475537632689432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359743293399858,0.0,0.06531128425234976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307598159813256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746735065533265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619974061735067,0.2974448802869317,0.08810921751940883,0.13003490178828345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775571475994014,0.0,0.0,0.08944403023969434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520246032393781,0.06318657380661437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574162879637156,0.15538448396900606,0.0,0.0,0.13018925150510044,0.08672152027343022,0.0,0.0659020486476789,0.0,0.0,0.051743095225494765,0.0,0.0,0.08443856783893673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187320524008048,0.0,0.05698379946236173,0.05747775753291923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548861371364116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268177585414725,0.0,0.05252741957232577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05374041927323656,0.06768471812169308,0.0,0.0,0.07327847313532812,0.0,0.0,0.07886249804571248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753782104998708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082225278026544,0.0,0.07845118444461957,0.0,0.14113684669889054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567977027729817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262264164368997,0.06190505166405521,0.06480755246749717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05828301951588654,0.3115255141692032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993393271449444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052628848662815184,0.0,0.07572269284369339,0.0,0.0,0.13389932911578206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06152926256870126,0.0,0.0,0.13939390411367952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472347131603575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899628637431902,0.11013148366672804,0.0,0.0,0.09983661195267378
parenting,Eiskalt89,2019/02/10,"Concerns with my brother's stepson Not my son but my wife and I live with my brother and his wife who has split custody of her son, meaning I'm around the boy 4-5 days a week. Over the last few months he's been acting extremely curious and trying to get some opinions on if it's normal/weird but okay or if something is wrong. Especially considering my wife was charged years ago with contributing to the delinquency of a minor for not going to the cops when her roommate's kid started appearing with bruises.

Child is 4. He's a pretty hyper active kid that goes shy on the spot when you talk directly to him. Like he'll run around screaming like a madman but talk to him or look at him and he covers his face and hides like Boo from Mario. However, he's had a string of things lately that are making me question things.

First thing is his extreme crying and sobbing for his mom at night when he's here. He's been living here since he was 3 and was fine, but two months ago he's begun shrieking like a banshee at night when he's sleeping in his room.

Second thing is multiple bouts of ringworm. We don't have it at the house and he's come over from his dad's multiple times with ringworm infections. However he's also enrolled in daycare/preschool so unsure if he's getting it there. The ringworm is mostly on his lower back and buttocks with a minor patch at one point near his genitals.

Third thing is that he's begun randomly starting to wear his mom's clothes. He's been finding and hoarding her dirty laundry and when he's alone playing in his room, we've caught him wearing her bras and thongs under his pajamas. He started locking the door to keep us out, won't respond to requests to open it, and when we've picked the lock, he would start shrieking again while dressed in her clothes.

The last thing is that he's been getting more violent. He's been involved in multiple fights at his daycare, getting close to expulsion, and has been trying to touch the privates of his two year old step brother when they're in their rooms for naps. We've caught him multiple times after the two year old would yell ""no my bed"" when he would try to climb into the crib, catching him with his hand down the two year old's diaper.

My wife and I are getting concerned that the child may have something wrong or have been sexually assaulted, but in a weird spot of where if we report right to CPS ourselves, could find ourselves being homeless. But if we don't or can't convince my brother to look into something, if something is wrong, don't want to find ourselves going to jail for the same thing my wife had happen before.",8.392612612612616,6.586133110038612,7.702789575289575,78.27965411840414,62.494208494208486,10.40939510939511,37.22039897039897,8.72156446121922,3.0391194337194327,2093,81,409,23,24,653,237,518,0.116,0.815,0.069,-0.9793,3,1,4,2,1,0,40.0,4,1,1,2,18,17,3,0,24,1,38,6,5,2,0,71,62,42,0,11,18,14,2,4,0,6,1,2,5,5,17,33,0,1,5,2,0,11,8,9,0,8,14,6,43,8,62,40,5,84,0,1,2,0,79,34,1,17,43,248,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917467367304345,0.0,0.0,0.08130445589402664,0.0,0.06277806648475716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976694796208228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036323605931181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679946841244615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676225709116978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267750460807214,0.0,0.08623082325489828,0.05062733234207692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152483732732227,0.06677380943661022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20507042320323368,0.0,0.08922905595393862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941910959754387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058083369365297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697762350619355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797930769243532,0.08855373941290028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340855869989192,0.0,0.1386375088100837,0.0,0.13184391297756176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240073251233459,0.0,0.0,0.08551175355417548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18388132036006746,0.12531918561643154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733772491914138,0.07691534812832264,0.0,0.0,0.2471241095265353,0.0,0.05319502535705319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742098178112983,0.0,0.0,0.07986481379474482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794026968904653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670403276046745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493771262745958,0.0,0.07855875007637585,0.0,0.0,0.2417388744442106,0.0,0.0,0.2222566394879284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619395934941832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650729484935392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155036126851716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989323073120892,0.0,0.3067404109107862,0.0,0.09442830866289724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046302547036358936,0.0,0.062969614817771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729682651348138,0.2574890270520577,0.0,0.20221100322936011
parenting,AriesJessica,2019/02/10,"A few months difference? Parents, would it have made a difference if you had waited a few months to start a family? My (34f) internal clock has been urging me to have a baby for a while now. I talked about this in March 2016, again in December 2018 and my partner (44m) said, let’s wait until January 2019. Now he wants to wait until September 2019 because he just got a new job and things will be a little crazy with his travel schedule. 

We currently reside in the USA and have been together for 5 years. I have a steady and average job, I have healthcare and good family + friends support. He has always travelled for 16 weeks out of the year and this new job has him traveling for 20 weeks but with less big chunks of time more frequent shorter trips. In the past, I have been able to travel with him for about 8-12 weeks of the year.

But, my thinking is things are always changing with his job and it’s not like even in Sept 2019 his job will magically be more stable. I would rather jump in now and figure out our “new normal” because a baby means creating a totally different lifestyle.

TL;DR Does +\- 7 months really make that much of a difference in family planning?",4.63845652173913,5.711483573913046,5.356250000000003,82.26437500000003,69.78260869565217,9.054347826086957,27.41847826086957,9.354420925462401,2.245369565217392,922,30,181,19,16,299,132,230,0.02,0.923,0.058,0.8026,8,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,1,0,1,9,4,0,0,16,0,22,0,0,2,1,34,34,14,0,6,6,1,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,1,7,15,0,3,3,4,0,6,1,0,0,0,7,1,17,4,30,20,7,44,0,0,0,0,16,11,0,1,28,119,24,5,0.09982797955576324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612975208620265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217084195347728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056047656522828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4171959653336473,0.0,0.0,0.08736013763813122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593543899648335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823268039875397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712684937077248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373097294496429,0.07984155471022934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4953193299957711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208087264831303,0.0,0.048770908304926655,0.10005386126610176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445964799522936,0.06663595153043726,0.0,0.0,0.10874193531125632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390452226007925,0.0,0.0733850513280303,0.0,0.0,0.28924345416741176,0.0,0.0,0.09781022447766673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108471574517918,0.0,0.09529710225731204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395235994493091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949592689348258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065875774136017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328360818480045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023794855026506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326425476163115,0.06396573842218839,0.0,0.0,0.05821049767431138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058881128795753586,0.0,0.2402279510061956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418298649435126,0.0,0.0,0.19285783753510946
parenting,Little420ne,2019/02/10,"I can’t figure out what this is on my 19 month old’s back [Here is a photo of his lower back](https://imgur.com/a/Y3XLv64)

It is at the very top of his diaper, I noticed it earlier today when his diaper was bloody and had a tiny hole in it. We’ve had no issues with these diapers the past year, so I don’t think it’s a chemical burn. I’ve been having my eyes on him all day, and I’m not sure it was a toy. Our entire home is baby proofed as well. 

Is this just an injury from home, or something more serious? I washed it with warm water and that didn’t seem to hurt him, just annoyed him. 

Thanks for any help. ",2.090381679389313,3.1260423511450424,3.841137404580152,90.8560572519084,75.87022900763358,7.377404580152671,20.733587786259534,7.908726449838941,0.5686024427480918,472,10,111,7,10,159,92,131,0.15,0.7609999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.7883,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,7,7,1,0,7,0,14,3,1,0,3,16,18,7,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,11,6,1,0,3,1,0,0,5,3,1,0,6,2,13,4,13,12,2,14,0,1,1,0,8,6,0,2,8,73,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104866788868618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3415918973115365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432485038870275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888181285531638,0.0,0.4456073217201697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377831898598169,0.0,0.0,0.23183472889447546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729342054405067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25288417318720074,0.23307672836285084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120379028283372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022089709023054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099820637145666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20934471053164586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449751006607456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232500995974545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105430230491485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832715962552319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19971182976063576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303747769278782
parenting,jacktysin1,2019/02/10,"How to make a 3 yr old’s birthday special when it’s just parents? Hey Reddit, my daughter (only child) will be turning 3 in a few months. We recently moved out of state so we have no family or friends close by. How can we still make her day special when it’s just going to be me, her dad, and herself like it is every day? ",1.248695652173911,2.7597665507246423,3.260217391304348,92.17119565217394,79.14492753623188,5.759420289855073,24.54347826086957,6.42735559955562,0.646495652173912,248,9,56,2,6,84,52,69,0.035,0.805,0.16,0.8358,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,4,0,13,10,7,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,4,6,7,1,14,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,9,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34875533187110924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22781325723769236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548974129706123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089008280211148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536675328432139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209774820779768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36097171255535215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21582084294984388,0.2873792815958086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837263550610098,0.0,0.0,0.20564199231026395,0.0,0.0,0.30023348761658697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26697518502169004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159319269326519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29410411993390123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BecKayGee,2019/02/10,"A Student (M,12) is Inappropriate with Me (F, 26) I work with children of all ages. This boy in particular is 12 years old. I could tell he had a crush on me early on as he followed me everywhere and wanted to initiate physical touch often. I ignored it for a little while, but then he playfully touched my butt about a week ago. I was taken aback and kind of angry, but managed to tell him gently that that was very inappropriate, to never do it again and that I couldn’t have him hugging me for long stretches of time or asking me personal questions about my marriage or personal life. He said he was sorry but this was a week ago and after a bout of pouting, he still persists with the flirting. My boss tells me it’s harmless but I am uncomfortable. My question is: do I discuss it with his parents? What steps can I take before/if I do that? And if I do, how do I phrase this so as not to offend them and also embarrass the child as little as possible? ",3.751986607142858,4.918085463541669,5.30752976190476,81.43687500000003,71.96875,7.985714285714287,28.818452380952376,8.418075326091056,2.048757738095238,747,29,149,12,14,253,113,192,0.08,0.8240000000000001,0.096,0.6349,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,2,8,8,1,1,8,0,18,3,1,2,2,29,24,22,0,4,8,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,12,10,0,1,2,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,7,3,25,5,24,15,1,24,0,0,0,2,25,6,1,6,16,111,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836281373752048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793725751366494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956123490057413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773231952442896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659625656426122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299976161284885,0.0,0.3206872584288106,0.0,0.14157871464282354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338770120674415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787381649187993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764067562220726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793795897446508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803552583231748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584320944883018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217917245653875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908634501827697,0.0,0.0,0.12776154216916266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028628125592428,0.0,0.41949300731292105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932865792220858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200160536845967,0.094361314634747,0.0,0.2566552389259563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646853729430355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302292918870253
parenting,Question01_,2019/02/10,"Call all open minded parents/guardians or struggling college students Hi guys, I need help I’m a part time college student and and worker. I’m barely home and when I am I only come to eat (food I paid for) and sleep, recently I been trying to save up for a car and to move out because of family issues. My mom knows this and insists that I pay half of my check every 2 weeks. ($200).

But I been trying to inform her that I’m trying to study and work at the same time and save money so I could move the hell away from them. And she just screams that she should’ve never had me and how I’m sooo ungrateful. What should I do because it’s honestly taking a toll on my mental health.",1.5266433566433584,3.3018980279720296,3.058041958041961,92.73013986013987,79.2097902097902,5.51888111888112,20.79020979020979,6.297961479604792,0.12266153846153838,530,14,116,4,13,174,96,143,0.101,0.812,0.087,-0.2263,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,2,5,6,1,1,5,0,7,4,1,1,2,28,16,15,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,6,13,2,0,2,0,4,4,1,3,0,1,4,1,17,3,15,10,3,16,1,0,0,0,10,6,1,1,6,72,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588237551700369,0.0,0.0,0.20609706195348246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17261429427767894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456176779369648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496902819369205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297568698400315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424280737601504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936099582637986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20441041661033527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738156252203046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796873974078883,0.0,0.0,0.11330759486052387,0.0,0.16956635907375425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643951959197682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290295270168038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035804323752207,0.0,0.17068770459061403,0.19798397580728627,0.0,0.3593370992765449,0.0,0.1253450515202835,0.13037826436513505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856667431953378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305973776383075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669119778429987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16916752222701018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672299720353182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710113263887193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971435105538936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34431227122851515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355980550092145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306709337370585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,booshar,2019/02/10,"Kids are entitled My girls (7 and 10) are good kids overall. They are generally kind and are sweet if sarcastic little loves. 

Their father and i separated and he has very little physical contact with them by his own choice. They have a stepdad who is very involved. His family is also super involved with them.

My issue is that despite being sweet, they are thoughtless to a fault. Clothes tried on and discarded and thrown back into the wash, beds unmade, get up and watch TV despite the cat crying for food... Like they have no regard for anyone besides themselves, but they wont lift a finger to care for themself. I have to nag them to even brush their teeth in the morning. 

For reference i get up early and wash up, make a coffee, grab some food and start my day. I work 6 days and then on my day off i do some house keeping and sit on my butt to relax. I tend a veggie garden as well.  My point is my kids see me working, so this isnt really inherited.

I pay a housekeeper/sitter for weekends because i work most weekends and honestly its exhausting to try stay on top of the housework. 

I have recently had a couple of freakouts because of this, i outline chores for them to do but they do it half ass or take hours for simple tasks, then they act like they are doi g me a favor

I am raising entitled brats and i dont know what to do about it. They are well behaved as in they dont talk back and are polite. I get complemented on their behavior on outings and for want of a better word they are obedient. Just so damned thoughtless.

How do i get past this? I grew up in an abusive house and i wanted to provide a safe and loving home. I feel like im doing so but it is seriously soul destroying to watch them have such little regard for the life im providing, to the point of complaining that their life isnt fair.

Idk if its just a vent, but i really need help. And a lot of this was written when i was mad",2.6407681465821007,4.405596144702844,4.076659619450318,86.7225158562368,75.9250645994832,7.068170072821236,24.38877143528306,7.898369717300924,1.2839653746770017,1496,49,307,23,33,495,199,387,0.125,0.7070000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.9312,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,20,6,15,26,4,0,19,0,36,13,4,2,0,46,55,35,0,5,9,1,3,3,0,1,5,0,4,4,13,21,2,2,3,5,2,2,6,8,2,1,4,9,50,18,47,49,5,40,1,0,3,4,37,21,3,7,18,213,63,5,0.0,0.12401579061330086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370385679640434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318708181245412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096818362836934,0.0,0.12761064710317954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925713300734622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671714284031306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581438953983615,0.11497411254162455,0.20250876844259508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245342856300002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913296606377764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867273025464793,0.0,0.05292385161512364,0.07477563965970636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531326287820927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21874117886251626,0.0,0.0,0.08779149117972858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015750425942469,0.0,0.10499166074097573,0.0,0.10307799840884284,0.24154822078929056,0.0,0.0,0.2261212200618525,0.10924736653833624,0.0,0.09303472238723072,0.0,0.10899678071325332,0.05752341057017769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786178862806196,0.15340813377722107,0.31471786496310045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898594212803951,0.18893593323959074,0.0,0.06986744982507738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761082561814989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991851781987042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978922993581648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410743591188362,0.0,0.10334812781864954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340773643397166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408534128820575,0.1115633543818534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869815139458101,0.08412907320520703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212692253049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727259703292746,0.12347311675746513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882202168065416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286010961098128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JaneJS,2019/02/10,"The parenting books did not prepare me... For how much time I’d spend on my phone outside of a bathroom stall waiting for this kid to poop. Christ almighty, you don’t have a smartphone. How can it take so long? What are you doing in there?! 

Always happens about halfway through a road trip right after his younger brother falls asleep. ",3.6319047619047637,6.1140663968254,2.7399206349206366,94.12035714285715,75.50793650793649,4.834920634920637,29.54761904761905,5.46131890053228,1.01107619047619,265,12,51,1,6,76,58,63,0.041,0.959,0.0,-0.35100000000000003,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,0,6,2,2,2,0,4,9,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,9,8,1,9,1,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495799399349906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37151757779614736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717998340619935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088422334136456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4665021425404279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587867990636124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158837790250686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24497986694174714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Prudytudy237,2019/02/10,I want to strangle my damn kid! Ranting. Have been trying to get my kid to clean her room all day long so we could go out to the park for a couple hours before dinner/baths. She’s barely touched her room and since I went in to help get up trash and dirty laundry. I’ve had to stay on her every 20 minutes for the last SIX HOURS. It’s driving me insane.,0.9793609022556424,2.6724619736842143,2.307443609022556,97.8571052631579,80.57894736842105,4.342857142857143,18.75187969924812,3.1291,-0.7894225563909778,274,6,64,0,7,88,58,76,0.11,0.805,0.086,-0.4389,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,9,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,1,10,0,12,5,1,15,0,0,0,0,8,6,1,0,5,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243070902994186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21046587675008466,0.29167216415656666,0.0,0.1700023948866792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220972457083807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754438083319668,0.0,0.14981189511579124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668781211449874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5191925285327866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21487196537087647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23328072658034765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21805546834937567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809661661423216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896941495824145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554801235101223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24436300602816435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lollipoplava,2019/02/10,"Opinions on my family plan? Hi all! 
I’ve been thinking about my future family and would love to hear your thoughts on my plan. I’ve always liked the idea of having twins (but they don’t run in my family) and also adopting. Im thinking of having a biological child then adopting a baby girl from an African orphanage at the same time. The kids will be the same age growing up and sort of be “twins.” Also if it’s important, I’m white and live in a liberal part of the US.

What would be the implications of this? Is it selfish of me to do this when I know there might be all sorts of social hurdles they’ll have to jump through? Or will it be amazing to have two kids grow up as best friends? 

TLDR: thoughts on adopting a baby and having a baby at the same time? ",3.5263636363636373,4.3722623312101945,4.8578922987840185,85.65518818760857,72.18471337579618,7.747307469600464,27.011580775911987,8.00094639256281,1.504457324840765,594,20,127,8,11,198,91,157,0.019,0.84,0.141,0.9626,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,2,3,5,6,0,0,13,0,20,1,0,0,2,25,28,13,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,6,0,1,0,4,6,5,0,0,6,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,3,2,10,5,24,14,7,19,0,0,1,1,13,9,0,6,7,93,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28241158053037513,0.14692332417479392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18530302879392185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993734358186623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364202733150726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19901120426894706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933002575651826,0.19072971543130776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704019574710576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626490897868501,0.0,0.1559176643061954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936450710675718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18731661445666029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19121192889378072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999448010640828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22628237998950895,0.0,0.28035932293671273,0.2059228937087961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248668426034858,0.0,0.2123962188511649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25086554290348073,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ber8383,2019/02/10,"Little sister is getting involved with a shady person Obviously I am not the parent but I am an older brother by 5 years to a 19 year old. I have access to her instagram account and i can see her messages from her logging in on my phone and never deleting it. I obviously know that's a severe breach of trust but I also know she is hanging out with a drug dealing criminal that is the epitome of a douchebag trying to take advantage of a still-learning girl. I know that if I didn't have access to the instragram I would have never known about any of this but at the same time its incredibly insensitive of me. 

What I am trying to ask is what should I do, should I let her learn that she is an idiot on her own accord and learn these experiences herself and delete her instagram and potentially her not realize this stuff and let her go down a bad hole of drugs and manipulation? 
Or should I keep an eye on these situations and obviously keep a distance but guide her as best as I can by seeing signs in her messages? Severe breach of trust I know.
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parenting,ICouldIfIHadThumbs,2019/02/10,"I am so proud of my 8 year old! How do I show her exactly how much, without making my 6 year old feel less than? I recently received a letter from my kid's school in regards to an assessment they are doing with my oldest daughter to be placed in their Accademically Gifted and Talented program!!!! 
I am so unbelievably proud of her!!! Although, it isn't acceptance just yet, only an assessment. I want to tell her about it, without putting any pressure on her (I mean, she's 8, she doesn't need any added pressure in her life) and I want to show her just how PROUD I am of her (always knew she was smart ;) without making her little sister feel less about herself.
My 6 year old has the normal younger sibling issues and it seems every time I try to praise her sister for the extra effort and abilities, she gets down on herself. 
My youngest child is mirroring everything her older sister has done, I feel as though they are equally bright! How do I balance the two? How do I go about showing the pride I have for my oldest child's hard work without making my youngest child feel left out? ",6.3766352201257845,6.210259179245282,6.606603773584904,79.16276729559749,65.69811320754718,9.142138364779877,32.76100628930818,8.59863814320734,2.510989308176101,854,32,164,11,12,275,114,212,0.018000000000000002,0.81,0.173,0.9843,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,3,7,14,11,0,2,7,0,18,1,0,8,1,33,33,14,0,4,6,4,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,6,0,0,8,3,0,3,6,2,0,1,3,6,40,9,28,29,5,25,1,0,1,0,31,10,0,1,12,118,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065016242436077,0.0,0.0,0.1740812113087102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098274683447464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784083275677316,0.0,0.11503314602474085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25887133074925145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687181007912754,0.0,0.07274218766031126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465787406321112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359293727475374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906632931353172,0.0,0.09040625545234494,0.0,0.1282840503025035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25631183994041323,0.0,0.0,0.13942346375178818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409063775139227,0.0949062525457673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540737157180806,0.0,0.0,0.4029258890701748,0.0,0.0,0.09734553629318653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133726943482279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866976056636265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637906427058065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295372026153138,0.0,0.11652132747738607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187277872183887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575388359072942,0.0,0.07463458498542827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689982032659208,0.0,0.12503196573654038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098886924940233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4935282755771706,0.0,0.0931814738766006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24727266112985216
parenting,Isaidbeigesweater,2019/02/10,"My 3 year old likes to use made up words. Is this normal? My 3 year old was a fairly early talker and has a great vocabulary. He loves to talk. However, over the last month or so he’s been throwing a lot of made up gibberish words into what he’s saying.  This is a new thing. He can still speak normally and seems to be aware that these are made up words. 

Is this normal? Is it just a sign of a healthy imagination? He is also getting more into imaginative play.  ",1.0692631578947385,3.242499768421056,3.1444736842105283,89.43881578947371,82.89473684210526,6.326315789473685,18.973684210526315,7.554174236665415,0.4794000000000001,358,9,78,6,10,121,63,95,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.9477,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,7,0,11,1,0,4,0,21,18,5,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,4,11,12,2,16,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,3,10,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956614475177606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118117193379882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241245069064733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225970615845104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852632229238418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837338869728914,0.1575140072187292,0.4954142318184767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930275794782815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855559983796595,0.0,0.0,0.5129870611633371,0.0,0.0,0.3662654933811803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878785822702933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887937207170374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937445771953455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027514212815906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594546318356574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507320152626386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247744453388281
parenting,Rimzy,2019/02/10,"Maybe I'm overreacting? Hi. 
Tldr don't like baby appearing on Facebook, wife don't care about that and posts anyway. Put up with it? 

My problem is that my wife and her mum love to share photos of our daughter on Facebook, but I don't like it. I've explained to her my reasons why, and she says that she sees where I'm coming from, but that I'm overreacting. So it continues. 

 I think it's the fact that I have no say it what goes on there, until its too late, there has been photos removed by request already. Also I just don't like people knowing my business, I hardly use social media myself but everyone around me using it daily swears by it.

It is bad when people I barely know tell me they've seen the photos. Makes me feel uncomfortable. I much prefer to show off photos of my child from my own phone. 

So to put my foot down or get used of it and let it go on?",1.8836666666666664,3.651322644444445,3.613055555555558,89.19625000000002,78.1111111111111,5.833333333333334,20.694444444444443,6.6274283507984215,0.27811111111111103,676,17,143,6,16,226,109,180,0.123,0.847,0.031,-0.948,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,12,8,0,0,2,0,10,2,1,5,1,26,30,13,0,2,5,4,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,17,7,0,0,7,1,0,6,5,2,0,0,2,6,23,6,22,27,2,20,0,0,2,1,20,9,0,2,7,95,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915550251211196,0.12982996121915216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452450075092968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555413729054638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16552501935575972,0.0,0.0,0.13984877602333906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513085873814345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208823184184301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482034118758806,0.0,0.09226634016304254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543228284649948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784448757644427,0.0,0.18313607279668706,0.0,0.0,0.16601224405920698,0.0,0.2379456911698087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652577446380047,0.0,0.10836882132366107,0.0,0.16310079442813366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934475808546813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251038855986536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548489521952094,0.0,0.0,0.1553454984272311,0.0,0.32640997690507056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692119993718071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25821193647430185,0.0,0.0,0.1293706598602632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549375438492686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418996621978939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040263028996277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206506899829801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649418427973626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boring_old_dad,2019/02/10,Naps Is it alright that I still make my 5yo take a nap when it's just me and her so I can have some time to myself or is there a better way to go about handling getting some me time? ,4.882142857142862,2.529777690476191,5.804761904761907,90.84857142857143,69.71428571428572,8.4,28.142857142857146,3.1291,0.6819142857142855,141,3,37,0,2,47,34,42,0.0,0.877,0.123,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,8,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,3,8,2,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948572312002804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332567117880781,0.0,0.2537332768746385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980152469135068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565432098033213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33568205334831863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5206683611156706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543788460451955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pteradactylitis,2019/02/10,"Accident on a playdate? My five-year-old had a friend (6yo girl) over for a playdate today.  I was in the room hanging out with them.  The friend declared she had to use the bathroom, used the bathroom then abruptly said she didn't want to play dress up anymore and put her dress up dress (that she was wearing over her clothes) away.  I thought nothing of this until I went to the bathroom myself and found that she had peed on the toilet seat and at least 2'x2' area of the bathroom floor.  My suspicion aroused, I went looking for the dress-up dress and sure enough, it was balled up and hidden in a corner and covered in pee.  We assume she peed on her clothing too, but she's wearing a tunic over leggings and you can't tell.

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We barely know this family -- the child goes to school, after school and violin lessons with my daughter and I've made small talk with her mom at drop-off and pick-up.  My guess is that we keep the lid down on our toilet and the other kid doesn't at her house and the poor thing didn't plan enough time to lift the lid so had an accident.  If it were my kid, I would just matter-of-factly tell her to go get changed, but I don't want to mortify the poor thing further and we don't want to let my daughter know that anything happened.  Also, what in the world are we going to say to this mom?  I would want to crawl into a hole and die if the shoe were on the other foot, so I'd prefer to say she had a ""little accident"" but then how do we explain that we didn't change her clothes?  Or do we just pretend like nothing happened?  

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I am not ready for this new level of parenting that involves supervising strange children!  HELP!",4.163060250290286,4.9839372967359115,4.375386401754613,89.79034318152499,70.6913946587537,6.929118823377628,27.70855373500193,6.7026698264267655,1.0972173655012258,1307,44,277,9,23,407,168,337,0.121,0.8390000000000001,0.04,-0.9763,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,9,1,1,2,7,5,0,0,25,0,25,7,7,4,1,57,48,27,1,9,9,5,0,1,2,2,0,3,1,5,17,27,0,1,8,3,2,6,8,0,0,0,19,4,40,5,45,26,3,45,0,0,1,1,46,31,0,5,9,185,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374330118488046,0.0,0.226924778889755,0.2544887409599632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385255695886278,0.0,0.0,0.0861743561553097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838642449685443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215564554487965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868121112065726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164042896381254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871922853624601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148183678840908,0.16181041888569556,0.0,0.054711064472140296,0.0,0.11902780900408196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535917123486733,0.0,0.1852043469489416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019056509984994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083102367332316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930785638286178,0.0,0.0,0.11510103550609295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708170305281743,0.0,0.05116014180949156,0.10495539059796193,0.0,0.0,0.08793711826529371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908712293189792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24528995006441515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113772497430362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20096034102463736,0.0,0.10988439058913928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162774385696616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527095883349484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961121975537587,0.16655261822961126,0.0,0.21196131031719176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098695893414197,0.0,0.0,0.0841687179715613,0.18305706999961815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391405610819275,0.0,0.0,0.08313474672881932,0.06106216634718727,0.0,0.09926083973743577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18088622530619144,0.0,0.0,0.2470626038178085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415009193163724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487779550457575,0.0,0.2544887409599632,0.0674352440849893
parenting,jaz0513,2019/02/10,"Video Games I have 50/50 custody with my sons father, but really it’s more like 90/10 as his father doesn’t see him for months at a time and then decides to show up out of nowhere to say he’s taking him for the weekend such is the story today, my son knows there’s certain video games he cannot play because of everything I have read online regarding these games, his father in an effort to win his son over bought him one of those games, not his fault this is my child’s fault as he knew he couldn’t have the game but took advantage of his fathers little knowledge he has of him to buy said game. He’s only 8 and he’s already doing these things? ",4.97527777777778,4.876418407407408,5.151250000000001,88.18687500000004,68.62962962962963,7.935185185185183,25.76388888888889,7.1686216300943375,0.9598333333333336,515,12,112,4,8,162,86,135,0.019,0.835,0.147,0.9562,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,2,7,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,0,1,13,17,7,0,1,3,7,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,6,4,0,0,4,12,2,1,4,2,0,1,4,3,14,5,19,12,1,12,0,0,1,0,32,6,0,0,6,64,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099028137880451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119132028039874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523918353088718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543367865626128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719931974976068,0.2814653690314685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415577284451108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902976301951036,0.2135838183446664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809059290641114,0.0,0.1799068458183713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671335752112005,0.2233272340090035,0.0,0.0,0.2237850970254245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114915952070812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865709286061711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375419201294197,0.0,0.26619393942413994,0.0,0.3120123880763935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BibMasterIII,2019/02/10,"Those with 3 or more kids, how has your living situation changed over the years? Did you move to a bigger place? If so, when the second kid arrived or when the third came into the picture? Did you downsize or upsize when the kids got a little older? Did you stay put and made what you already had with one kid work for your growing family?

We have a toddler right now and have twins on the way. We live in what is ostensibly a 3 bedroom place, about 1,780 sq ft, although the third bedroom is more like an office/nook/den with a door. We also have a lot of family who live out of state/country and who love to visit and stay with us (totally fine with that as they are great guests and very helpful with watching children). So, we are debating whether to upsize. It’d be interesting to hear your experience if you did upsize or decide to stay and make it work! ",5.6845614035087735,5.644498771929829,6.0532690058479535,82.1206052631579,67.12865497076024,8.711345029239766,29.380701754385967,8.238735603445708,1.8623656140350875,674,21,137,8,10,217,105,171,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.9667,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,8,1,2,9,5,0,0,14,0,15,1,0,3,1,32,21,22,0,2,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,5,8,19,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,8,2,14,5,21,11,4,25,0,0,1,1,26,10,0,7,7,101,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159304194828278,0.11544416524524745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510870328392915,0.0,0.0,0.15271311073296973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121119998322254,0.27217840163385715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545740488362274,0.15915675533117746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627035428797435,0.0,0.09676106723038233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052671415455934,0.1446860499184404,0.3824160022548676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272920508932525,0.13029000055952802,0.13659636092171926,0.09636102482695576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534312031963449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782166991453704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016497089777324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512107589679998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328214440896702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226602136009813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616037591875709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364659154890674,0.0,0.0,0.11911162892613004,0.0,0.11458577752506705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101907345300054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296272479531358
parenting,Odenseye08,2019/02/10,"Smoking in-laws Hey guys,
To start my in-laws truly are great people and will do almost anything for their grandkids..but they smoke in their home.  Easy a pack a day each.

They have had fights with my wife’s brother over smoking around his kids and they missed a year of the kids life over it. 

When our oldest was born the same fights followed. It’s easy don’t smoke in the house and the kids can come over( we live 2 hours away).

We discussed and compromised that they wouldn’t smoke in the house for 2 days prior to us coming to visit and that they would air out during that time. It worked for awhile, still makes me feel shitty even having the kids in that.

Christmas comes up and we are going to spend a few days there visiting friends and family, my wife FaceTimes MIL to see if she needs anything the morning before we left and she’s sitting there smoking. My wife freaks out on her. MIL claims that instead of 2 days no house smoking she decided 4 hours was enough and it wouldn’t make a difference anyways. Now she’s telling us we are ruining Christmas and we are ungrateful and selfish.
We have worked things out and fought 3-4 times in 3 years over this. She no longer sees my brother in laws kids over it.
We recently had a son and the old fight started again. She doesn’t understand why we won’t bring our newborn to her house.
I don’t want to keep my kids from her but their health is more important.

Half the family thinks we are over reacting and half agrees with us.

Any advice or suggestions on how to deal with this?",3.6618627450980377,5.244307424836606,3.4962254901960783,92.70551470588236,72.79084967320263,6.799346405228758,23.86111111111111,7.333567415737692,0.7522248366013069,1216,34,259,13,24,366,159,306,0.071,0.8740000000000001,0.055,-0.1432,1,0,3,0,3,0,28.0,15,0,8,2,11,10,4,0,15,0,23,2,0,4,0,55,43,19,0,6,3,6,1,0,1,5,2,0,1,8,13,35,0,1,4,0,1,8,8,8,0,2,5,3,41,2,37,33,5,52,0,2,2,0,59,22,0,3,21,165,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046352993666816,0.0,0.0,0.10294812196226867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991348193450844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920569841781954,0.091521592693378,0.0,0.0,0.09659221382413877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748268212648726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656819290439891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652125789293691,0.10599131674509832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074132719667898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622893109534114,0.0,0.06790421604882904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938378974556995,0.0,0.051983197869655405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942979257509387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05842858726260864,0.0,0.0,0.11334702031488825,0.0,0.10179683549250676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928090381280783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312556830996478,0.0,0.2024918377544425,0.4745100204598391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138114923634656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117020180301736,0.0,0.07261686726346693,0.0,0.0,0.09078201819777397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725129060211289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623139249719138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788049881882504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127464901941273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015112470824039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638505412810207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455371382805867,0.0,0.08210320815419303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985938729783179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830157156522075,0.06587570186307286,0.0,0.0,0.11989722888163733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10702754440339536,0.3709988375727356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060639270046553076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276891458497173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969200275036518,0.0,0.0,0.07303239303384468,0.0,0.0,0.13241094082341673
parenting,gantonmaz,2019/02/10,"Emotional bullying My son told me a story today the broke my heart.

He's been away a few times with a group of other children and, being an honest soul, has told us when the group has been getting up to things that they shouldn't be doing.

This time as a 'condition' of him being allowed to play with the group he was told he had to not only lie to his parents but also obey every command he was given otherwise they would kick him out of the group.

He struggles with his self esteem and I can't begin to imagine how degraded and anxious this must have made him feel.

After a week of being singled out and with the constant treat of being 'kicked out the gang' he snapped and struck out at another child. 
I do not condone getting physical and the repercussions for him are now severe.

But there are no repercussions for those who degraded and humiliated him.

9/10 bullying is not physical, this type of behaviour can do untold damage to others emotionally yet parents often only chastise their children if they have hurt someone physically. 

Our son has a lot to learn about not acting on impulse and we are working hard to improve his coping mechanisms but please parents if you find your child exhibiting this type of behaviour then let them know it is not acceptable, too many young people end their lives early without a single finger being laid upon them. ",7.221411764705881,7.615306749019608,7.2360784313725475,73.46235294117648,63.86274509803922,9.937254901960783,33.47058823529412,9.725611199111238,3.2617529411764696,1091,42,184,20,15,350,157,255,0.181,0.765,0.054000000000000006,-0.9898,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,2,7,1,9,10,0,1,15,0,30,2,2,4,1,43,40,18,0,5,11,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,11,17,0,0,6,1,0,1,9,6,0,0,10,3,25,4,34,20,4,24,1,3,0,0,44,9,0,4,14,147,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669938573806527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990703987021078,0.0,0.15073151127814474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253565468550485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418429714139144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001688178932859,0.11817435088606695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241574966335337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746334845670793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12194741728226112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941740747394893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195219893812689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810846937618644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283350112055415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733265205249198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643541367323558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117816124791636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134325911347099,0.0,0.1262493238479414,0.0,0.13527132534672526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20295042534512373,0.0,0.0,0.4444557747916377,0.0,0.0,0.0924996283411233,0.0,0.0,0.1464598439798643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919067135721985,0.15073151127814474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304999890847604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948407563838106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864119391421747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560159556396266,0.0,0.12647066067346668,0.3824779853805437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049303673699367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070249467280121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861628953710286,0.0,0.09713449880528977,0.0,0.0,0.0947808134509862,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,River_Bass,2019/02/10,"Help with ""me time"" guilt I have a 2.5 year old son, and he is the best part of my life. I love all our time together, and do everything I can to ensure that he has a good life.

Before becoming a father I had lots of gaming hobbies that I have pretty much abandoned. My son seems really interested in them, so sometimes we'll play them together and I hope he stays interested later in life.

I still try once a year to attend a large convention event. The thing is, it's all day Saturday and Sunday, in a far away city. But with this year's event coming up in a month, I am feeling really guilty about any outcome.

My options are:
-my wife and son come too, we spend a bunch of money on essentially a ""family vacation"" weekend, where I ditch them the whole time instead of spending quality time together
-my wife and son stay home, and I have several friends I can stay with nearby so it's nearly free, and I feel bad that they are bored all weekend
-I don't go, but it's not like I am doing this with regularity - it's an annual thing, so does that mean that I should just stop going for the next 10 years until my son can come along?

And with all of these options I feel pretty guilty.

I'll note too that we do plenty of fun stuff the other 51 weekends of the year, including a number of weekend getaways.

So... what do I do here? And how do I do it without feeling terrible? Does this make me a bad father?

(I know I'm basically just seeking validation here too, which doesn't help with the guilt)",4.250822368421055,4.824329279605267,5.553789473684212,82.3175263157895,70.34868421052633,8.974736842105264,27.042105263157893,9.120678840339163,1.9673281578947368,1167,36,245,22,20,392,158,304,0.087,0.775,0.138,0.897,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,4,0,4,1,16,18,0,2,19,0,25,4,0,2,4,48,41,18,0,2,6,9,4,1,1,2,3,0,1,0,21,22,0,2,7,6,4,6,4,7,0,0,1,4,35,12,29,38,10,45,1,1,0,1,25,10,0,5,27,166,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360058304655892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168629938749292,0.0,0.18073621673820844,0.0,0.1195322978435923,0.09209634869877853,0.0,0.1135814356453674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796934774453039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697998436795363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189426818671832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727076866539767,0.0,0.1020302656547905,0.0,0.21889876264010327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361876540880156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301999471698832,0.09077877083345397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450895050495274,0.0,0.10856421028681117,0.10749749954240777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948075873342271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293396189856063,0.05287604995659617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201386534490882,0.09768242659558496,0.0,0.07224482841285931,0.0,0.0,0.11789495426137285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863887070621315,0.0,0.07956201298995143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510457050958285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356990658621476,0.1152621564318358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720329418052075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22021905008553624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386707074696329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985291586061653,0.0,0.12226987714237132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704292343651592,0.0,0.0,0.34607855652348857,0.08643317172791139,0.09048570611146584,0.0,0.0,0.12389825022214478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380732731651388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524407512594381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348153651500207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208357042798126,0.0,0.1043305264231726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34848509102564856
parenting,Azrialcage,2019/02/10,"13 year old with a nose piercing? My daughter turns 13 next weekend and she is asking to get her nose pierced with me. I dont know if it's a good idea age appropriate I obviously do not want to cause any future problems. I personally think it's ok to Express themselves. I dont want to be a bad mom.

Any other parents been through this?",0.7757142857142867,3.0772285000000004,2.8253571428571433,90.39089285714287,85.42857142857143,5.214285714285714,25.892857142857146,6.6274283507984215,0.9779999999999992,265,12,57,3,8,89,52,70,0.134,0.79,0.076,-0.4412,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,6,2,2,1,1,13,13,2,0,4,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,8,2,7,11,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,6,31,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871229236483141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973585584109214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17626732293065706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168672506223367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4948367050914969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029581811402067,0.0,0.0,0.17706833973321506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383165350236433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602006832987168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24724848601034335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22451697691775355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152354144308956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344117289433155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433236766898092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200294645677536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527021965540414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296261346139364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490352936501671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594737166665846
parenting,Kelechim,2019/02/10,"Grandparent Dying My husband I disagree over the amount of exposure our 10 year old daughter should have to her grandmother’s death. She’s been in ill health for months. We visit her in the hospital often. She was recently put on a ventilator. I brought my daughter there because I could tell her dad needed us and welcomed the support. But she looked scary. My daughter just sat reading in the corner, peaking at her every now and then. I’s of thought the previous visit where she was talking would have been a nicer last memory. Now, they are taking her off the ventilator today. I told my husband I didn’t feel she should see it. I know she does want to see it. He thinks I guard her from “life” too much. She wasn’t the super demonstrative type of grandmother. Meanwhile, my own mother has been suffering from early onset dementia in a nursing home for 10 years. I stopped bringing my child to visit years ago after she said the nursing home scared her. I don’t blame her. The elderly people there all light up over kids, but are likely to act odd and too unpredictably due to dementia. She was only 6 at the time. I believe in having her there for the funerals. She has anxiety as it is. Do you think I’m being too protective?",3.098756191524494,5.5171170337552775,4.062450926435517,84.29001100715467,76.9746835443038,7.3284901852871025,26.338103100348558,8.321376580360154,1.981389066226381,975,38,181,19,23,314,140,237,0.102,0.8590000000000001,0.039,-0.9136,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,1,1,11,6,0,1,14,0,23,3,0,0,1,22,41,7,3,6,3,7,1,1,0,3,3,1,2,2,3,4,0,3,5,1,0,7,3,2,0,0,13,6,41,4,27,23,4,38,0,1,3,0,42,14,0,1,18,128,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058045388228602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132090526663833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966749835316052,0.0,0.0,0.17867660658786574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662119929537854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645913674149443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878316553230993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361890319725767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018786205486947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857373919445226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31815737333838223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715690885976446,0.1292720053736905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120167972270663,0.07747905650608057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317564639343002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658501384744894,0.0,0.11658188736197322,0.11759246518736567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664135126774146,0.0,0.0,0.12061483074765555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994632800215208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942673885232314,0.0,0.0,0.15863290277639525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658847880948068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508553934976491,0.0,0.15877624230671353,0.0,0.2527513723723377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13258832954726582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996603682027826,0.0,0.0,0.1192399327602709,0.12746862352428198,0.13861463796516127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032361189863371,0.0,0.12590273426931506,0.09247509622656444,0.0,0.15032476335769224,0.15153952791813965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19076422657692016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354048271123053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265777593789593,0.0,0.0,0.30638025436392835
parenting,MamaBeeSc,2019/02/10,"How should I talk to my daughter about masturbation? My daughter just recently turned 10 and I have been trying to be more proactive about sexual education with her. In the past I have been open with her discussing things on a level she could understand as they came up.

So far it has gone well and I feel comfortable talking about it with her. She has been receptive to what I have been telling her with little embarrassment from either of us.

My only hesitation is discussing masturbation with her. I suppose it's because I just don't know how to go about it. I feel like I should talk to her about it in some way just to let her know what to expect and that it's okay, as well as to talk about privacy. 

I knew nothing about it growing up and like most people discovered it accidentally. When I had my first orgasm (at 12) I was completely shocked and thought I had some sort of seizure. I was very scared but didn't want to talk to my mom about it at that point. I told no one but after doing some research I realized it was normal and was okay.

I feel like if I can at least cover that then she should be okay, but I don't know. 

Has anyone else specifically talked about it and if so how did you do it and how did it go? Should I even bring it up? I really hate not to knowing what I went through. ",3.768618421052629,4.854231049242426,4.623644338118023,86.66138755980862,71.8409090909091,8.133652312599683,26.015948963317385,8.532816995589336,1.5165712121212118,1023,32,222,17,19,331,128,264,0.077,0.843,0.081,-0.2895,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,1,1,22,13,1,2,2,3,33,1,1,4,0,53,53,24,0,10,10,3,3,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,21,15,0,0,11,0,0,7,5,4,2,2,19,3,40,9,42,26,7,28,0,0,0,1,26,14,0,7,9,176,61,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520251107982996,0.12485288671911325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428051033360596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936746855311294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776064250385052,0.0,0.0,0.09728977403589713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179261765377827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048281419560822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848377449389238,0.17410373822346742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364817285286752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385038339589079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203046952767274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26786907771590657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460303641442212,0.0,0.17859378860581218,0.12212880430298365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427128618083925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939015259285125,0.11692132258205032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257080477570572,0.0926747629474212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163225587193586,0.08447758722023424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519055283474815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806220723112269,0.0,0.12031522213322828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199619670521322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5876453697337645,0.1065049682102516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095377597171292,0.0,0.0,0.09673773930216067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643584574072527,0.0,0.08273024686704711,0.13254116676525615,0.0,0.12685336008940226,0.1465742592952887,0.0,0.0,0.100541557582981,0.07187210733137095,0.0967213080124358,0.0,0.0,0.21912111687965125,0.11295903167924395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jimdontliveherenomo,2019/02/10,"I don’t know if I should tell my sister what my nephew said He asked if his mom and dad used to be friends and then told me that mommy and daddy fight sometimes. He didn’t go into much detail and I didn’t push, but I could tell he was a bit troubled by it. Do I say something to my sister, maybe suggest that they take their arguments behind closed doors or wait until after bedtime, or do I mind my own business? ",6.985689655172415,4.736237425287361,6.998247126436786,83.6277155172414,65.55172413793103,9.159770114942527,30.94540229885057,5.985473137389443,1.5080367816091953,324,8,71,1,4,104,63,87,0.111,0.865,0.024,-0.8074,0,0,1,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,9,0,0,1,0,17,17,11,0,4,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,4,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,5,2,14,1,7,9,3,7,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,4,3,47,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318802374796677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27079114116565445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980366142660118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916320478052693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096461119317402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363141340986263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491855646515491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25044571755716466,0.2904968404420311,0.0,0.0,0.1823350464723436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359390965990616,0.19724823357151047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909502800516825,0.2453140096115681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18649225169685166,0.0,0.4335889052242047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23700908855215266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214223521661343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayfatheracct,2019/02/10,"Single father, jerking off, and drugs I'm a man in his early 30's whose wife died in a car accident just over a year ago. I have a 2.5 year old daughter. As you may imagine, life has been terribly difficult this past year, but fortunately, I have support from my family and relatives-in-law. They have been crucial in helping me pick up the pieces of my life - otherwise, I don't know if I would have the strength to go on. My baby girl is the most important thing in my life, but it is such a DRAIN to raise a child as a single parent.

Once every 4-5 months, I ask my folks to watch my child overnight. I rent a hotel, consume 80 mg mdma, 25mg viagra, watch porn and jack off till I pass out. I wake up, shower, eat a small meal, hydrate, and use the hotel gym for 30 minutes. I then repeat this process three more times, sometimes substituting mdma with a few lines of coke. After 5-9 orgasms and 24 hrs later, I head home and resume my life as a solo provider.

Am I a bad person for doing this? I hardly have any time for myself as I pour my life into my work and baby, and I have no plans of getting a girlfriend anytime soon. Is this okay? I feel very relieved after my session, but I'm afraid of bringing this up to anyone.

TLDR: single widowed father who goes off on a hotel drug/jerk off session overnight twice a year. Is it okay or am I messed up and need to stop?",3.216408450704228,4.020100077464793,4.656450704225354,86.96988732394367,72.8732394366197,7.088450704225353,25.46760563380281,7.1686216300943375,1.0398033802816895,1058,32,226,10,20,354,169,284,0.096,0.8220000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.4653,4,0,2,0,1,0,43.0,0,1,1,3,3,11,1,1,19,2,19,14,3,2,0,28,30,20,1,3,6,5,2,0,1,2,7,0,3,5,10,12,3,1,3,4,1,4,2,6,0,2,2,4,31,5,38,26,7,41,0,0,2,2,18,18,0,4,19,145,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594292136820362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661741100752644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934372588477204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282306206380726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862858019408913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474537680863003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32952903751402296,0.14538050987307738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970622198139245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339377991848244,0.0,0.07183853321399279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422950599504519,0.0,0.08074578284384049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727332100153174,0.0,0.14581226132643652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523139465743788,0.0,0.14251507925355722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808194820890492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017668635818823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340471598371388,0.0,0.0,0.1053484904024183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490861877518742,0.1513076483992493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577599870642316,0.0,0.1356288240942103,0.0,0.12405638604376187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14051804620312144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187829538272453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122759457856273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438982052930292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569278944470403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122709138227646,0.0,0.11722862166812588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10343393973582886,0.0,0.0,0.10092761137578714,0.0,0.0,0.3659723972384431
parenting,needsleepdad789,2019/02/10,"Healthy 20-month old girl wakes up every night at 2:00AM w/ stuffy nose I have a 20 month old daughter that wakes up every night due around 0200-0300 to a stuffed up nose.  She freaks out, wakes up, and cries because she can’t breathe through her nose.  I pick her up and she falls asleep in my arms as I hold her up.  She’s not sick - how does this keep happening and how can I resolve this?

Her nose is clear before bedtime.  I have the thermostat set at 74F and the thermometer reads 73-74 at a humidity level of 50%.",2.4807619047619016,4.230571552380951,2.782857142857144,95.8904761904762,76.33333333333334,6.19047619047619,24.04761904761905,6.937597516519254,0.5534761904761907,403,13,92,4,9,123,71,105,0.04,0.855,0.104,0.7581,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,5,11,10,3,1,14,7,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,6,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,14,1,16,7,0,21,0,0,0,0,10,13,0,0,6,50,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032303561646536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717525880547485,0.0,0.19148264285741853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471831935947321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969239192423948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791923609978228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989919214397492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001563209761197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592311351103906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42234792627271744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722590237171253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22508935298966715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nala29,2019/02/10,"Fake mommy dearest My daughter turned 13 yesterday.  After years of being at odds with her dad we finally stopped being idiots and put our daughters happiness first.  The issue is that our daughter is constantly coming home after the weekend visits saying how her step mom mistreats her, makes her feel unwelcome and makes her feel like she isn’t a part of their family.  
Anytime I bring it up with her step mom I get yelled at and she goes into victim mode. 
After sharing her birthday I dropped my daughter off only to be told that she spent the rest of her 13th birthday in her room because her step mom said “4 hours isn’t enough time to celebrate”.  Which is funny because I spent 4 hours with my daughter this morning.  Meanwhile stepmom is parading on FB with 2 year old pictures pretending to be so in love with my daughter, wishing her a happy birthday.  Am I the only one in This situation 
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parenting,BrightGarden9,2019/02/10,Am i being over protective? Ok so my sister and I are pretty close and we always go to each other's kids birthday parties. 4 people in her family got the flu over the last 2 weeks. Her husband got it last Friday. Today is the following Saturday (8 days later) and he was supposedly over the flu. They had a party for my nieces birthday today but I decided not to take my kids over there because I'm freaked out about one of them getting the flu. I have a 1 year old and 3 year old. I feel guilty about missing her party. To make things worse my 3 year old cried because I wouldn't let her go. I feel like a jerk but like I had to protect them.,1.6394444444444431,3.3464414814814845,3.5693518518518523,89.50958333333334,78.62962962962962,6.277777777777778,22.36111111111111,7.1686216300943375,0.6911111111111103,500,15,108,6,12,169,85,135,0.182,0.662,0.156,-0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,3,0,4,6,1,0,8,1,10,3,0,1,0,16,22,7,0,1,3,2,2,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,8,0,2,3,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,5,2,20,3,14,14,1,24,0,1,0,0,13,7,0,0,16,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13615102311863667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19949136905005724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973690782790924,0.10552607319823902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425325780607424,0.0,0.16546976061592336,0.11689537719566115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548851179248416,0.0,0.18598633296306155,0.0,0.261735401989639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26675618024194425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732000231601335,0.0,0.15988006918099673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922249462751599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5150979849134389,0.0,0.11087809449808136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134385685620803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646779114339233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230273673851033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087067087035228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101990995896886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312519517644492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667501997418492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161118531402867
parenting,gloaming_98,2019/02/10,"Need advice on how to connect with my Nephew to prevent any future harm Ok so here it goes... 

A couple of years ago, my family went through a traumatic experience which left us with an orphaned child. From the best of our ability, we have done our best to raise him as a whole (Me, my sisters, brother, my mom & dad): 

* Sent him to a good private school (he is about 13)
* We don't hit him & we treat him fairly (we don't think of him any less than his cousins)
* punish him when necessary (i.e bad grades = restrict the use of his phone time and video games)
* Scold him when he has done something bad
* I hang out with him whenever I can (going to the movie theaters, play board games, going to the arcade)
* Send him to extracurricular activities (Swimming, Karate, running. me and my mom want to send him to a coding camp/stem for kids in the summer if he can prove he can get good grades) 
* Help him as much as we can (Homework, projects, etc.)

My concern is this: Are we doing all that we can? Am **I** doing all that I can? 

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He is reaching that point in life where he realizes that his situation is very different from others, and he uses that as a way to manipulate me sometimes. It makes me feel bad whenever I scold him or tell him off because I know what he is going through is nothing from what I have experienced. I want to be his friend first, parental figure second, but he does cross the line and thinks he can boss me around (Thinks he can bend the rules around me because I'm not as strict ). I want his future to be bright and when does accomplish something, I am proud of him because I know his path is not easy. But he needs discipline. I'm 20 as of now and most of my older siblings already have their families/ starting their own and I know my mom won't be around forever to keep him in line. 

 I feel responsible for him because he does look up to me. He sees me as a role model (Going to college, wanting a job that's not a dead end). I want to talk to him on a deeper level and perhaps more therapy can be a possibility (He went for a while when the tragedy happened, but not anymore). I know that now I may not spend as much time with him as school and work are taking too much of my time right now, but I know in the future I want him in my life. The trauma that he has gone through is far enough, but I want to prevent any future harm. 

This is a new experience for me as I never had any younger siblings of my own, but I do love him and I just want him to be happy. Some days I cannot stand him, yet some days I am so happy to have him in my life. Is there a better way to communicate with him that can get him to understand that we are not punishing him because we dislike him?

 It's tough wanting to be his friend and mentor, so any advice would be appreciated. ",2.3228684210526325,3.947914098245616,3.6152850877193,90.29345394736843,76.43859649122807,6.574561403508773,23.804824561403517,7.333567415737692,0.8096929824561405,2156,68,476,26,48,704,243,570,0.069,0.79,0.141,0.9894,3,0,2,0,0,0,90.0,12,0,2,7,21,24,2,0,25,1,51,4,0,6,4,88,96,38,1,13,15,9,2,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,19,29,0,5,14,5,1,14,11,9,0,2,7,6,93,15,73,78,17,65,0,0,3,1,88,21,0,6,27,324,112,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482064680782482,0.06115011473212046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612551083058798,0.0,0.0,0.2242322624845389,0.08382305719908108,0.23455727817197894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841354780094662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18423103883939734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279616537166975,0.21025989643032528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478881168096255,0.061010703152146774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632943520801427,0.0,0.08897788942755985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207355152380421,0.0,0.0,0.18110497428669173,0.14118907539309627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061099309484930586,0.07127886711230527,0.07693534601498378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495909188469085,0.13006386858654376,0.0,0.06976072176982191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058677717725309636,0.0,0.0,0.10659366655279076,0.0,0.07208253959482347,0.0,0.1568206877018596,0.11572093872692928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610022844596568,0.14686940780732546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04623849158125363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845593192184629,0.0613161097059457,0.0,0.0,0.1895588906312079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749512700283422,0.0,0.14617622464276805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05792914897900117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226071359516425,0.0,0.04604732629306036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423795265407508,0.0,0.0,0.1521334351468495,0.10230145854930088,0.05320467958609958,0.06662513456215899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619196628076028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076598519427001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521213599640141,0.0777690453497828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058911921494216785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396308926806733,0.054971281541782234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754085684812029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621443914576474,0.06822689639009477,0.0,0.048827199108765665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05186734974583598,0.05544669075959994,0.0602950181269049,0.0,0.07888916568686546,0.0,0.0,0.1326064006465488,0.0,0.0,0.12067529847755408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181473103630379,0.08297920528646682,0.1191599781834918,0.0,0.05691898827673264,0.3661967210044262,0.109512506653308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278976366483167,0.0,0.07701812330464172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050221141556257565,0.0,0.0,0.0490042230894797,0.0,0.08382305719908108,0.04442340593023987
parenting,mommabear_2018,2019/02/10,"Tough night with 7mo old Trying so hard to get her down.. She's refusing Every time I put her in her pack n play bed. Wakes up screaming. Tomorrow is church.. I have to get up super early with my husband to make lunch for our congregation. Thankfully enough I had a got shower today and She got a warm bath. As for my husband... I don't know if hes ever gonna give in and go to his sister's and take a shower. (We've been without water since last Tuesday, frozen pipes) 
I havent eaten supper and it's 1am.. Turkey just got cooked at 11p.. I just want sleep at this point. But I'm hungry.. Ugh. Parenting is hard. Just glad I'm not doing it at 50 like my nephew's gf's mother is.. How does one actually get naturally pregnant at that age?!  I mean Geezum. I can't even. ",-0.5294770669003803,1.6341613926380385,2.0604557405784405,94.11494887525564,91.51533742331287,4.82255331580485,15.737364884604151,6.42735559955562,-0.4000316096990941,589,13,134,7,21,202,115,163,0.086,0.7979999999999999,0.116,0.6965,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,1,7,9,0,0,3,0,11,7,2,2,1,20,29,9,0,2,7,6,3,1,1,1,0,1,4,0,4,6,5,1,2,3,0,2,5,3,0,1,6,4,19,6,19,22,1,22,1,0,0,0,17,10,0,1,11,71,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.17275854046501754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549226545305152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829222750251808,0.0,0.11692853872647087,0.16013636312684415,0.1491578254421342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774770980472309,0.16982605701440662,0.1006118577903342,0.0,0.42476806694566543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171733512789017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729263365220883,0.14430541450874068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648931632595831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817081311186135,0.0,0.0,0.192840690647586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613335273174204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857662133216764,0.0,0.11996205202798213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19657404788815214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735328097903931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796692769913094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644341662599786,0.0,0.17716071757950386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310668364140055,0.0,0.0,0.1629880784131555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322928815201914,0.0,0.16780645758957988,0.0,0.0,0.12019369565200765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104418571460786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706533659317316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,volfanmomof2,2019/02/10,"103.9 axillary temp on and 8yr old So my 8yr old son has been complaining of a sore throat today. He also had a low grade fever, but he still ate and behaved like normal, most of the day. Ibuprofen has seemed to keep the fever at bay, until tonight. He started  whining and crying about everything, followed with chills, and just wanting to go to bed. I gave him ibuprofen at 9pm, and he falls asleep around 10:30pm. Around 11ish he’s crying but still mostly asleep. I arouse him enough to check his temp under his arm. IT’S 103.9!!! Add the 1 degree ( due to it being an axillary temp) that makes it 104.9!!! That is a scary temp! I have stripped him down , and uncovered him. I was able to get him to take another does of ibuprofen in him. It’s now at a 102.8 axillary, so 103.8. I just don’t know what else I can do besides take him to the ER! Any advice would be greatly appreciated! ",1.7904229797979812,4.0578715397727265,2.6381060606060602,93.56396464646464,80.76136363636364,5.729292929292932,21.709595959595962,6.937597516519254,0.4557535353535358,685,21,147,8,18,215,111,176,0.116,0.8390000000000001,0.045,-0.8929,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,9,0,13,12,5,1,0,23,26,12,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,6,0,1,0,7,10,1,1,2,0,1,3,1,3,1,0,5,0,16,2,23,18,3,24,0,2,0,1,17,10,0,3,12,87,23,1,0.17473310277586435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707471657476395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973399916052748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882450174099485,0.18322289352038398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110990140791469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838722171297582,0.11268839598150432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291011574475946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596708610720402,0.0,0.0,0.180546004270058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703884591943912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129083435752937,0.0,0.09930484903345736,0.0,0.0,0.19264386267243225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553108102482997,0.0,0.0,0.09602874362020046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536576790634867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663570292766892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712013413698287,0.0,0.0,0.3667059961832523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907045425076174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367698949110115,0.0,0.2790841631775113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627550949690012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562655042608113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306211119579196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412538287433975,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JustAnOrdinaryJayne,2019/02/10,I can’t save my daughter from herself I don’t know what to do anymore. My daughter is 28. Old enough to be on her own. But she isn’t. Six years ago she lost her boyfriend to death. She began drinking heavily. And nearly died. She went through treatment. And it seemed to work awhile but not long. She just upped her pot usage and drank behind our back. She caused all kinds of trouble here. Got arrested for harassment to ex boyfriends. And has physically harmed me. And others. Today she did all of it again Bc her boyfriend walked away. They all do. She becomes belligerent and violent. And we called the police. They said they are TIRED of helping us. And that’s not their job. It’s ours. To manage her. How? I don’t know how. She doesn’t listen to me. She doesn’t even listen to them. So he took her to the hospital. Baker act. 72 hours. And she was able to use her phone for what reason I don’t know. And of course just texted me with venom. I love her. But I don’t know what to do. She’s constantly threatening to kill herself. In 72 hours she will be booted and back home again. I can’t save her. ,-0.4837030075187982,1.6493558928571481,0.7741259398496254,100.0116635338346,101.67857142857143,3.965037593984962,16.162593984962403,5.9092894577622985,-0.5684624999999999,856,23,191,9,38,267,124,224,0.17800000000000002,0.762,0.06,-0.9854,2,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,4,0,5,2,11,10,3,0,2,0,20,4,0,5,3,35,36,17,3,0,7,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,8,13,2,0,6,1,0,4,11,6,0,1,9,3,45,4,27,24,5,22,0,1,0,1,44,5,0,1,13,135,53,3,0.1538000385272546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633445439109895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525283109158607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450019898403085,0.236525472235294,0.0,0.0,0.16986005909801044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704703521150767,0.0,0.0,0.15799500573792544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662032031832777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962015809673555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066548547051792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891655314045247,0.0,0.1015834749245422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230079407111496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308892385914643,0.0,0.15427397873147405,0.0,0.3029241145816539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526228065030402,0.0,0.17015695525891994,0.1601590727385546,0.33809791582435605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610819429165605,0.0,0.0,0.16789091022013752,0.0,0.13881053952526007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613872684831356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581320549662624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629905649385633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400137787497377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17677051938742747,0.1457844531573565,0.0,0.1708775018410992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18500250944901467,0.13283385225087924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257417657141516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196825979745953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904218227921463
parenting,MirandaCozzette,2019/02/11,"Co-Sleeping Conundrum My ☀️ is 5 and we have always co-slept. We just moved to a new place and I’ve wanted to get him sleeping in his own room. I love cuddling with him but he’s a restless sleeper, constantly digging his legs and feet into me. I’m a light sleeper 😩😂
 
Anyway, the past two nights I’ve put him to sleep in his own bed but ended up bringing him into mine when he wakes up crying. 

As much as I want him to sleep solo, I torture myself with the thought that one day he won’t want to sleep with me anymore and I’ll regret missing this time with him. 

Parents with similar situations, what did you do? If you stayed consistent with moving them to their room how did it affect your bond over time? Thanks! ",3.0447406955460643,4.113669020134228,4.264539353264187,88.61388041488712,73.56375838926175,6.760463697376449,25.625991458206226,6.980632752743323,0.9724174496644298,560,18,120,5,11,184,99,149,0.127,0.8109999999999999,0.062,-0.9178,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,3,2,0,4,6,1,1,5,0,6,9,7,2,0,25,16,11,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,14,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,4,0,2,3,1,24,2,21,12,3,24,0,2,0,2,21,10,0,1,9,76,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508478939979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716610424480355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494637012418862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192676272965144,0.08919834483817259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225013834756797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226113436670016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482994678477985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940027453814274,0.10167357828592777,0.0,0.0,0.13358041566952206,0.0,0.1297943283502486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372226415987199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357660636591414,0.0,0.13203230373813166,0.0,0.0,0.14450424805290624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390394973040989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546595075885672,0.6920481640254763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741978777491827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733703268417354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098024898962049,0.1612990516528066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510852578283716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447360170705027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xversion1,2019/02/11,How do you teach your kids computer? I want to teach my kid computer but I don't know where to start? Hardware or software? which program should I introduce first? Typing or using mouse?...Anyone have experience on it?,1.7978928571428592,4.451777575000001,2.8635714285714293,84.71,98.25,6.2857142857142865,23.214285714285715,7.447530270364453,1.832678571428572,173,7,30,4,7,55,33,40,0.0,0.942,0.058,0.2755,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,8,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,3,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,2,21,8,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467562520232437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48510136244035706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42182620549578975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27254266407319405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510121545874991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283125127617444,0.0,0.0,0.2925043199711318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rose_luck,2019/02/11,"6 year old asks why me and his father broke up, what do I tell him? I (25f)) have been raising my six year old son as a single parent for the last 4.5 years, me and my ex split when he was almost 2. His dad (31m) was horrifically abusive towards me and I stayed because of financial reasons, as I was trying to finish nursing school at the time, until I couldn’t take it anymore after my son saw his father become physically abusive towards me in front of him (he had always hid it from him before this), so I had him arrested for domestic violence and used an escape plan. I’ve since rebuilt my life pretty successfully and if you knew me in real life you would’ve never thought any of those things had happened to me. I do suffer from PTSD from the abuse and have been in therapy but have it pretty much under control. Unfortunately the courts decided to give my ex a chance to ‘prove’ himself as a father. He had to take anger management classes and was on probation, but they said even though he ‘is a woman beater it doesn’t make him automatically a bad dad.’ He is supposed to get every other weekend visitation and Wednesday nights. He passes up on Wednesday nights and my ex’s mother is the one that picks up/drops my son off at my house and he stays with her the whole weekend while my ex comes to visit him there, occasionally taking him over night when he feels like it. His excuse for not taking his son the two weekends a month he’s supposed to see him is because ‘I have shit to do.’

My son has been asking a lot lately why me and his dad broke up and I am not sure what to say. Do I tell him the truth and say that his dad wasn’t nice to me, do I let him know I’ll tell him when he’s older? Do I just say we couldn’t get along? If anyone has experience with this situation it’d help a lot. I never bad mouth his father to him but I don’t lie to him either. ",4.425833333333333,4.577096366925068,5.761282299741605,82.47742732558143,69.82687338501292,8.207105943152454,26.4609173126615,7.9370924344782425,1.3838390180878557,1462,40,311,17,24,494,193,387,0.123,0.809,0.068,-0.973,1,0,0,0,3,1,32.0,1,2,1,3,8,12,2,0,17,0,34,4,2,5,5,48,54,28,0,4,9,18,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,1,15,18,0,1,7,3,0,5,9,7,0,3,16,7,58,5,45,34,6,49,0,3,2,0,70,15,1,5,28,208,73,4,0.0,0.3287359720311113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260956991932558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695426559309013,0.0,0.0,0.06289242941110068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171947806026363,0.06466710505373659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292049058038825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444089275823486,0.11275502339802752,0.10214153602178924,0.07869724491032877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966695171353204,0.0,0.0,0.10372889767779933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061084943796214534,0.0,0.0779219297797971,0.0,0.0,0.09046729679307564,0.0,0.0,0.04676279184096637,0.0660707330526701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663835777281553,0.08871927470268881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178347521755094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061990211740894335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106714353014866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05082689925967096,0.07538696909038091,0.10432620923378468,0.0,0.0,0.09457136349275404,0.13064865522506955,0.04518310999424256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725352413000376,0.0,0.0,0.0617339236076237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382000842825359,0.0,0.067986530522594,0.0,0.14265903754031292,0.0,0.0,0.26037047819527065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940932269158906,0.0,0.06266968941559972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269276258665663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881793661026136,0.0,0.0,0.10810908406641412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105267270303521,0.0,0.09508916383466176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797365565614615,0.2206414506429728,0.0,0.0935989508614757,0.07369793576538224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949337052743117,0.07650388836938046,0.10395611902993293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715170981802646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716526675628504,0.0,0.2781464432102672,0.0,0.2425058093021745,0.0,0.10576374612907946,0.0,0.06144239493545527,0.0,0.09086525981113727,0.07342212654099506,0.053928282466954296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279070296719683,0.0,0.09034362778268497,0.0,0.0,0.0798766571532126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690521629419638,0.1032553097704578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569812426031804,0.0,0.0,0.17867038342036298
parenting,cjclark1823,2019/02/11,"My 13F needs her priorities checked! Need some advice, my 13f daughter has her priorities askew.  She doesn’t seem to care about anything other than her friends and of course social media.  She is struggling in school, and when given the opportunities to better herself (staying at lunch to correct her mark on a test or to get extra help) she chooses not to and goes to lunch with her friends instead.   When we ask what she has for homework, tests or projects due she seems to rarely have anything, which I know isn’t true as the teachers email me when she has tests.  

I know that maybe this can be chalked up to her being a 13 year old girl, but I want her to care, I want her to want to get good grades.  She is going into high school in 2 years and they will fail her if she continues to get the marks that she is currently getting.

How can I get her to make better decisions and get her priorities in check? 

Oh - her phone is gone during the week, and she isn’t allowed on any electronics until she is done whatever homework she claims to have.  ",7.728926829268293,6.3613646487804925,7.083048780487803,80.7933536585366,63.487804878048784,9.956097560975607,34.15853658536585,8.548686976883017,2.4778682926829267,823,28,169,9,10,255,119,205,0.031,0.8370000000000001,0.132,0.9505,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,4,6,11,0,1,6,0,19,2,0,3,2,31,41,16,0,6,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,6,9,2,0,6,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,3,0,35,9,29,35,2,23,0,1,0,0,36,9,0,6,11,113,41,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789608698779104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596313799184496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322514819314282,0.0,0.1319236119081643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24960975720720074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28775259135930925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440978798955156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21805042274071215,0.0,0.4423610352991617,0.0,0.08019898919356676,0.11836068889169077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458650745625606,0.1490958989912264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15510638698566526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419545540549236,0.0,0.14176913083026427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092701846654179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807660709100054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856321220698895,0.0,0.2569318571175607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384911979889972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504099691469077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752418947079304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497001069687763,0.0,0.11319405779436725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18174705413428635
parenting,parentThro0away1234,2019/02/11,"Doctor pointed out daughter's decrease in height velocity and now I'm worried Hi everyone, I'm new to Reddit - sorry if this question is something that has been asked many times. 

My almost 10 year old daughter went to the doctor today because of a stomach flu. As usual in every visit, they first weighed her then measured her. My doctor pointed out that her height velocity (I haven't heard of this term until today) has decreased. She was growing at a rate of 2.5 in/year from age 4 -7 and from 7-9 it has slowed down to 1.5-1.75 inches/year. He said usually there would be an underlying health condition causing this, which made me worried. 

She gets a few fevers every year and every time she gets sick, she also gets a stomach flu. They usually last for a week. When she's no longer sick, she gains her weight back very quickly and is back to normal. Aside from these occasional flus, she is a healthy kid. She has had lactose intolerance ever since she was a baby, so we gave her soy formula and we have been buying her soymilk. 

He said we'll just have to keep a close eye on it and if it continues decreasing then we'll need to get her further checked. I googled this and many articles say a drop in height velocity is abnormal. Ncbi and other sources said anything less than 2 inches per year warrants a trip to the doctor. Honestly I don't know what to believe. Do kids really have to follow a curve consistently or is a change normal? If anyone has any experience with this or any advice, it would be awesome. Thanks.",4.242586662749709,5.916197415540545,5.0561574618096365,81.73455346651,71.4662162162162,7.715393654524091,28.747943595769684,8.321376580360154,2.070541304347826,1209,47,227,19,23,392,175,296,0.075,0.868,0.058,-0.4588,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,4,0,2,2,10,2,0,0,15,0,27,15,3,2,1,32,46,20,0,8,6,2,1,0,0,4,10,5,0,2,15,14,2,1,2,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,12,7,28,2,29,28,3,51,0,0,1,0,38,17,0,7,28,141,43,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926020429753116,0.0,0.0,0.09489221033928752,0.0,0.0,0.07578253928091458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888520367011375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626101967796143,0.0,0.0779824945750567,0.0,0.08859131717392217,0.0,0.0,0.14573495374849182,0.0,0.05776710444945145,0.0,0.0,0.1067662989780641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734847852160194,0.10024748577155454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879788679674028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571924019175797,0.23952764786022496,0.09055082729448677,0.0,0.09269713447102253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060600015126114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804059948901045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072943841047496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423037806905641,0.0,0.0,0.0520796805302516,0.07724510689335344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966775466901585,0.0,0.1921511441843744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026612232859869,0.0,0.09152342345242163,0.0,0.0,0.1856967159781865,0.0,0.0,0.0994386181146185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791647544506557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615709140552336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060708086931853436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27042609022300484,0.07535994016679327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838955599561315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295376703239399,0.0,0.10608026340234324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724573213158181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051501324428148,0.0,0.17964991539686054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131066584301426,0.07819002093983933,0.0,0.0,0.07601376683989552,0.11539672202187436,0.0,0.08784694871127724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19247438284682866,0.0,0.13463490288611735,0.0,0.0,0.3051237508840545
parenting,kittenfillet,2019/02/11,"Please help! 2.5 y/o will NOT gtf to sleep. My daughter is 2.5 years. She has a bedtime routine and a consistent bedtime. She's great about going to sleep until she is in her crib. Once she's in and the lights are out it's ""Mommy/Daddy, I want water/juice/food/to use the potty/etc."" I know (I hope) this is just a phase. Can anyone share with me how long it took their toddler to outgrow this or anything that helped?",-0.3725862068965533,1.880399011494252,1.2076149425287357,99.31762931034487,93.36781609195404,3.3597701149425294,16.445402298850574,4.7782277997778095,-0.9539494252873566,322,8,72,1,12,103,65,87,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.8977,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,7,2,2,2,0,12,13,5,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,11,3,9,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,3,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631527393661579,0.0,0.19201421400339191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602293782004845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821487124912757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13260923672741834,0.0,0.0,0.25725184457614825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31279807101340706,0.0,0.0,0.2317535681450675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282344066710916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649347684392708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24849337090519802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25613094770419137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670055409424458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259242947518379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20152588267448704,0.0,0.0,0.1376265915935854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025961279907132
parenting,Underfunded,2019/02/11,"What’s good for the goose is good for the gander As of recent my 3.5 y/o son has been a bit handsy at daycare. Being 1st percentile height and weight he lives by prison yard rules. When you walk into a room find the biggest kid and take them out!

Because of this we have had to find ways to reward him for not tackling someone twice his size so we decided to let him watch 10 minutes of a Mickey Mouse DVD he loves if he made safe choices that day. (side note that is a ton of TV time compared to what he is used to)

After he had a really bad day acting up at daycare Friday and not letting him have any toys or books that night we decided to have a special family fun day Sunday at the local trampoline place.

We had a blast and near the end I pushed him into a foam pit. He came out of the pit, looked me dead in the eyes and told me I did not make safe choices and could not watch the DVD with him that night! My wife was behind him practically choking as she stifled back her laughs.

Later that night when it came time for the DVD he was so disappointed that I couldn’t watch with him but stuck to his guns that my actions were not safe and I couldn’t watch it but “tomorrow you will make better choices and we can watch it together”.

Today when he got home from daycare I asked him if he made safe choices and then he asked me if I made safe choices and he was so excited we were going to get to watch it together.

TLDR. My 3.5 y/o held me to the same rules I hold him to even when he really wanted to let me off!",2.3627102803738325,3.5825654205607522,3.6070080996884752,92.07155887850469,75.47975077881621,6.631327102803737,21.874267912772584,7.087006719466742,0.4164897445482869,1184,29,270,12,25,386,161,321,0.047,0.836,0.117,0.9725,0,0,0,1,0,0,19.0,6,2,1,2,10,16,0,0,18,0,26,3,1,6,0,57,46,26,1,7,11,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,14,24,1,7,4,7,0,7,7,2,0,1,19,9,38,14,40,19,3,46,0,1,8,1,41,17,0,4,21,170,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821296413516295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258125184015939,0.0,0.0,0.09286682367663736,0.10084023825306797,0.07362197421046109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681372173884547,0.13185261109804516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762638040453116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642724858571514,0.0,0.0,0.23366538241308696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696884816233003,0.0,0.0,0.07976929135897005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138538416188702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207682913465866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309880011799099,0.0,0.06863796200360386,0.20259697905319554,0.096593036114814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114495952889813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704950932181781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066445897050958,0.0,0.10141872950030788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900216181137104,0.34283441335693904,0.16123355553595864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400112572047582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618186448361035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474028871827192,0.0,0.1192485638727628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233039637891612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908061106797482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084717474560068,0.0,0.11447848705860465,0.1154035802096348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043089170793349,0.0,0.0,0.07123492297827906,0.0958638223150712,0.0,0.14706872663317044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iCantBelieveLebron,2019/02/11,Can’t get two year old to sleep I’m a young dad and I have a 2 year old son. Since he was born he has been nursing to sleep with his mother. For the first year of his life I was working two jobs just to get by and I never was able to get him to sleep for me. Still to this day I can’t get him to sleep and now having more time at home that’s the only thing I want to accomplish. ,0.27433386837881457,1.0311716179775274,2.2292455858748,101.72550561797756,80.0112359550562,5.535152487961477,16.085072231139645,5.288315135182226,-1.1073736757624402,290,3,82,1,7,97,55,89,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.4767,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,0,9,5,4,0,1,7,15,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,0,10,0,14,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,13,51,13,3,0.15593055403754522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056230754133552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263444960717552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258691147533515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641105949991224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547370144030674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013836173105336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202632560874914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32724577223980233,0.0,0.0,0.11859221284542505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289873656417418,0.0,0.6241726608753277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245263418780916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035933314026932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092436001959124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30464298739802675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197188079269164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351930046326834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012424932484408
parenting,you_fucking_donkey,2019/02/11,"3rd grader struggling with math, cries when I try to help him He does perfectly fine with straight multiplication and division facts (3x3, 12/4, etc) but really struggles with the word problems and such. His classwork frequently comes home with ""P"" for Poor. I sit down with him and try to walk him through how to get to the correct answer, but he cries (literally) and begs to not do it. I don't know how else to help him, clearly he needs help but I worry I'm making it worse? Should I get him a tutor? Just keep doing it?? Please help. ",4.000576923076924,5.555729442307693,4.34346153846154,87.07653846153849,71.88461538461539,7.507692307692308,25.5,8.07648339933343,1.3321576923076923,418,13,86,6,8,131,68,104,0.211,0.603,0.18600000000000005,-0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,2,3,0,4,0,0,3,4,29,12,10,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,10,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,11,2,14,11,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,2,49,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606417356028435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980192407730739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854538426957698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134647989023076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20205536671592364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893104369584632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4857447639747679,0.0,0.18173091390680826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103455269851852,0.0,0.0,0.099567736143782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093413342964696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433720515617809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988731361675716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733577333870286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606382220247008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788019270518043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24600863859035715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18398959412393434,0.18463038199020204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,emgil511,2019/02/11,"My sister made a menstruation board game Hi everyone! My sister just launched The Period Game - a board game that teaches young people about menstruation in a fun (and educational!) way. Just wanted to share as I thought many of you would appreciate it :) She's currently accepting pre-orders and could use help spreading the word!

[https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/periodgame/the-period-game?ref=creator\_nav](https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/periodgame/the-period-game?ref=creator_nav)",17.306995073891628,23.814809206896552,10.4276354679803,35.05948275862073,51.75862068965517,9.521182266009854,28.975369458128082,9.606745405546679,3.828474876847292,426,12,42,9,7,112,47,58,0.0,0.705,0.295,0.9534,1,0,2,0,0,0,39.0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,3,0,13,6,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,5,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,3,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962715382373303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545760843358617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487223615118877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511181762959344,0.0,0.37620970642252377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572552455829768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945904552936678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32048786798571804,0.0,0.0,0.21886842688695146,0.29454041793331565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26359956118923866,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fmmrx,2019/02/11,"bath time horror??? SOLVED i am a first time mom, my 3 month old has HATED bath time up until 2 weeks ago. when i found the solution!!!! every time we’d go in to take her a bath she would SCREAM and cry like she was terrified of the water, lil girl had to be cleaned though. so we just tried to do them as fast as we could, and do wipe downs with damp clothes in between baths. we thought she was just scared of water or something. BUT THEN one day i figured she was cold in her bath so at the vert start of the bath i put a pretty think burp cloth with weight to it( you know those really think ones, the good quality ones you try to save ) lol on her abdomen so itd keep her a little warm. and i just kept adding warm water to the burp cloth every so often. it went AMAZING!!!

she was laughing and giggling the whole time ! which was a very nice first time having a good time in the tub. i guess she just needed a little weight on her chest to feel secure in her bath. now we all love bath time!! except for the aftermath of it. which now consists of horrible crying. i can barely get past applying lotion, she usually takes a 15 min nap before i can actually put her clothes on. lol we’re still working on it. 

share suggestions please !! ",1.830237154150197,3.6808972411067233,2.83201581027668,94.3506324110672,78.56521739130434,5.98102766798419,19.695652173913047,6.8959733430537185,0.0909193675889326,954,22,214,10,23,303,145,253,0.078,0.701,0.222,0.993,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,5,2,1,3,14,16,1,1,17,2,18,10,2,0,1,33,36,16,0,3,7,1,5,1,0,1,2,1,9,1,8,10,5,3,7,9,0,4,0,3,0,5,10,7,31,13,32,21,2,45,0,0,0,1,27,14,0,3,28,132,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.1051447936552563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551054617160012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916841195839071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602661015542866,0.0,0.2367083840340202,0.06948741513937462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156171887034064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447973946368491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329780385852654,0.0,0.1181381975445743,0.0,0.0,0.0562929665487714,0.0,0.061234674697768825,0.18074487856183333,0.0,0.0,0.11869463754859268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637711129455432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576981421518828,0.0,0.0,0.0592145190738597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052639373393632775,0.21598008918480746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972451938407263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619110126030558,0.08600202571427931,0.0,0.0,0.0798924762692446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130615604603418,0.0,0.21903493464910512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285598368786412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827302267742065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961666780479278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21662947417843176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902500428119276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787278887637304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294832428820856,0.0,0.0,0.07626334758875049,0.0,0.08604629135338683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202353583144022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380788878547453,0.10586013978049302,0.08553848406713209,0.5026216207989284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630525696704502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186672678543956,0.08890193716987528,0.0,0.0,0.08642753950463168,0.2624118015952873,0.0,0.09988184964043156,0.0,0.12029483598129782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844055044560459,0.0,0.0,0.07653984187101859,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seerightthroughhim,2019/02/11,"I don’t like my new baby. I don’t think it’s PPD, I just don’t care much for him. I have a biological son who is 7 and a step-son who is 6 and who my husband and I have full time (his biological mom sees him every other weekend). I treat him the same way I treat my 7 year old and he treats me like a real mommy, so he’s my son too. Really great kids, they light up whatever room they’re in and they’re so nice and polite. I love them to pieces.

My husband and I just had our first baby who is now three months old. I don’t really like him. He doesn’t seem to care much for me either. I mean, he’s cute. He looks just like my husband. He smiles at me sometimes if I try really hard to get him to smile, but I don’t really try hard often because I don’t really care if he smiles at me.

I know what you’re thinking: PPD. It’s not that. I’m perfectly happy! I have a fulfilling career and my husband is such an incredible man! Im eating fine, I don’t feel sad, I am getting plenty of physical activity, and I love hanging out with my older two boys. We play cards and games and they tell me funny stories and we listen to music...and the baby just cries, eats and sleeps. He’s annoying and exhausting and there’s literally no benefit to having him around. To me anyway. My husband is obsessed.

I had him in the baby carrier strapped to my chest today (because he cries if I put him down for even a second) and when I was reaching in the pantry for something, a box fell on his head. He cried, he’ll probably get a bruise. I put ice on it and held him. But I didn’t genuinely care that he was hurt. I mean, it’s a bump. Big deal. Cry it out kiddo. Let me know when you’re done.

When my first son was a baby, I cried with him when he got hurt. I was so protective over him. I remember being so amazed at every milestone and I was mesmerized by every smile and giggle. Not with this one. He’s just...there, I guess.

My husband loves him much more than I do, and the baby loves him very much too. He smiles pretty much every time he sees my husband. It’s effortless for those two. And I’m glad! Not even envious of their thing. If it were up to me, my husband would deal with the baby 100% of the time and I would be free to hang out with the older boys.

I’ll take care of him because I have to, but I’m just going through the motions. The youngest is supposed to be the most doted upon because he’s the baby of the family. But like, why would I buy him anything? He won’t appreciate it. He doesn’t care. Let him wear rags for all I care. As long as he’s alive, healthy, and not crying, I don’t care. I’d rather get my older kids new gadgets and cool toys.

I wish we didn’t have him. I would never harm him, I just think I’d be happier being able to devote more time and resources to the kids I like the most. I miss it when it was just us four. The baby is a fifth wheel and he makes going anywhere or doing anything 10x more annoying so we basically don’t get to do fun things as a family like we used to.

I feel bad for writing all of this, but it feels good to let it out. I’m tired of pretending to be obsessed with my new baby like moms are supposed to be. I wish I felt differently, but this baby is more of a burden than a joy. It’s not his fault of course, it’s probably mine for having expectations. I just never in a million years thought I’d feel this way about my baby.

Thanks for reading.

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parenting,_lindseyg,2019/02/11,"I’ve got a strange issue since becoming a mom So I know it’s not THAT strange, and I’m fairly certain that I’ll get responses stating that you are the same way and tbh I could use that right about now. 

I am a first time parent to a now two year old little boy. It’s great and I love being his mommy. 

My weird issue is that I ALWAYS imagine horrendous, awful things that could happen to him. The most horrible, terrible, grotesque, awful things that people could do to him. What the heck?! Please tell me that’s not weird??!! (I’ve been to counseling over this and it did little to nothing, and I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and OCD so all of that has been taken care of...)

I also get extremely distressed when I see or hear about children being abused or neglected. Like to the point of having an anxiety attack over it. I am dealing with one right now, which is why I’m asking these questions/ making this post because writing it out helps me during my attacks. 

There is realistically no way of not seeing this kind of news, I realize that, but jfc I can’t even imagine the kind of heartless, spineless, brainless fool that would hurt a child. It makes me literally sick to think about. ",4.1582458628841605,5.727567323404255,4.916985815602839,83.06361111111113,71.51063829787232,7.945626477541372,27.098108747044922,8.515128840125781,1.900229314420804,951,33,183,16,18,307,140,235,0.207,0.737,0.056,-0.9865,1,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,1,0,1,12,18,3,1,11,2,21,3,0,3,2,36,39,14,0,4,6,2,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,25,10,0,1,6,0,0,0,5,11,0,3,6,3,20,7,21,27,3,20,0,3,2,1,17,8,1,4,9,127,45,0,0.0,0.14046777198549248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948080418843261,0.09864689433760722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138783370588205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083251351710932,0.2697458629610808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722697617439052,0.1309342014216699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087427910029867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283968517102863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222454962373965,0.10211087213083332,0.12033038676148408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830417131321338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008424514536343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387973291282775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481891488242827,0.1307068251873639,0.0,0.0,0.10483740928680214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336196097507492,0.0,0.07946462513078667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691511261335572,0.0,0.0,0.24748032644927864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469126691797249,0.0651544878264315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057919771478486426,0.2376456367734861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700012256067767,0.0,0.15827218393242626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884967233480647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375630145562113,0.0,0.1244030717443186,0.0,0.08033564068612767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164081317712584,0.0,0.0,0.08219080716714193,0.0,0.0,0.1301373098482715,0.11207238306694392,0.0,0.11354250066723286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280824400704389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024898995264909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889452761667371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806956033205286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036219143154536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752476862287482,0.07596497749646251,0.0,0.0,0.06913011957590505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581058223697578,0.0,0.0,0.10239307850586213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882061890588595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697705389866954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421776066781822,0.0,0.0,0.0763452521602256
parenting,ZenMommy,2019/02/11,"My 4 year old Son has it All figured out. Just cover your eyes with one hand, while you use the other one to pick your most and eat your boogers! There is no way Mom can see you, and you can have your little bore and snack in peace! 
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parenting,emack2199,2019/02/11,"Bratty eater situation My BFs 14 year old daughter has asked to have separate meals prepared for her. She doesn't have any dietary restrictions. 

Her dad makes a concentrated effort to prepare dinners that everyone will like. They are healthy meals and everything she likes. But she is really embracing 14. 

Any thoughts about how to handle this? She said she would just bring over something to microwave for dinner and eat all the sides. But I don't think it's a valid reason for her to have a separate meal. ",3.9845161290322575,6.939691806451616,3.897215053763439,83.68582258064517,77.17204301075269,7.590967741935482,27.57956989247312,8.548686976883017,2.391787956989248,410,17,72,9,10,125,70,93,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.836,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,10,6,0,3,1,13,16,5,0,1,3,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,6,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,11,2,10,12,1,5,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,4,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611584459675316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24824806514364564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717181016972079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25373894857982443,0.2386540853014665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594630536981686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725287544443658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786440628154284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011447171304808,0.27302375628072784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25259342865556866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984829076346636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044289676287052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015005871238542,0.0,0.21081250453728628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188635044654916,0.0,0.0,0.17100181643678067
parenting,Broniba,2019/02/11,"Toddler screaming fits - help? My son has always been a pretty sweet tempered kid - easy, chilled out, and go with the flow. Out of nowhere about a week ago, he started screaming at the slightest upset and throwing fits when the tiniest thing didn't go his way. Mama didn't push the toy car back to him? Scream. Dog didn't get out of the way fast enough? Scream. TV got turned off? Scream. I understand being upset, he's a toddler, but the screaming is really surprising.

He's 2 and a half, and he has been sick recently, so it might be a phase, but I'd really love some veteran insight into dealing with this? He's super verbal, so communicating isn't the problem. We use time outs and very rare swats on the backside for reinforcement. Time out works well enough, except he's also started to try to leave the time out spot, which he never did before either.

Is this something you just have to ride out? What worked or didn't? ",3.2181666666666686,5.317280427777779,3.809722222222224,87.78625000000004,75.2777777777778,6.277777777777778,24.583333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.0156666666666667,727,24,142,8,16,229,115,180,0.112,0.7390000000000001,0.149,0.9037,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,3,9,15,1,2,14,0,16,2,0,1,1,29,26,12,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,1,6,16,0,0,2,2,0,7,6,10,1,1,8,7,6,5,22,15,4,35,0,0,0,1,16,14,0,3,12,85,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776430851159475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333052535924399,0.13870288853582335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817751391723192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184444624020753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185435179321004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444792395395859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709081467506996,0.0,0.1894722567577307,0.0,0.13332054161801785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117315767117321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650503884554195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044798087672978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683615342775708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856480683741714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169587880802389,0.0,0.1595037914810004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21357708517958607,0.0,0.16459036553929474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832930259472428,0.0,0.0,0.23597395833093726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074418799822476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916021026629356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317438750954845,0.1813153705749868,0.0,0.17353449161971207,0.0,0.14397022683991464,0.0,0.13754013350155028,0.0,0.2646281186860553,0.13371199436254338,0.0,0.14987806233139947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427106567904876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bslo18,2019/02/11,"First time using a new babysitter So we are having a new babysitter this weekend watch our 5 month old so we can do dinner with the best man from our wedding who is in town and his wife. This is the first time we are using a legit babysitter, not just our close friends or our parents/siblings. We know this girl and I trust her as I’ve spoken with several of her references from previous nannying gigs but I’m still nervous to leave my son with someone new. 

My main question is we’ve had cameras set up in my son’s room and our living room for a few months (husband is in school and we use the living room camera so he can check in during the day if I need anything or misses us). Should I blatantly tell the sitter we have the cameras? I mean there’s a blue light coming from them so it’s pretty obvious but I’m not sure if I should mention it. ",3.2425830419580417,4.363887357954546,4.238863636363639,88.78550699300699,73.14772727272728,6.779020979020977,26.038461538461537,7.010146845296331,1.049823951048951,669,22,141,6,13,217,105,176,0.052000000000000005,0.88,0.068,0.5824,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,12,0,1,3,7,6,0,1,11,0,14,1,0,3,3,37,24,15,0,5,9,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,6,15,1,0,4,1,1,1,2,2,0,2,1,3,24,4,15,21,3,25,0,1,2,0,29,10,0,5,13,94,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127176603823526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218446968682726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312603436346668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099668141779213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629102185791051,0.0,0.0,0.11940036720469845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493338067913164,0.0,0.0,0.163639858586547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729304951451341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834380131744162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467112087850057,0.0,0.0,0.11459247168604846,0.0,0.4477788853155436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216800718717633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572268815327141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312473049632834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564068522864386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459081292936468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309446912840477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234190960907574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565595956556374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350783313453422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18023178320349972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858974909480454,0.4004293766600041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsmillertime512,2019/02/11,"2 1/2 Year old about to get kicked out of daycare for biting First time parent, a bit embarrassed, needs some help. I have no idea what to do. My kid, little boy at 2 1/2 years old, JUST got kicked out of one of his classes bc of biting. They thought maybe he was bored and he was bigger than all of the children so they moved him to a bigger class. Well he has now bitten 3 more times and has been in the class for 3 days total now. Two of which were totally unprovoked. He bit a kid for standing too close to his teacher (almost territorial per se’) I feel AWFUL for the kids and even more so bc I don’t know what to do to fix it. He is also delayed on speech. Not by much but there is definitely a delay of which we have sought out help from a therapy group. He never bites at home or when we are around with other kids. We do our ABCs and numbers, up to 20, multiple times every night, we read the biting is bad book, we limit television (barely to any now). At this point I’m concerned something is developmentally wrong. My wife gets angry when I even start to talk like this.. Hence me writing this for advice. I know some parents of kids who are NOT biters may say things like kick him out of that school. I get it and congrats your kid is better behaved than mine. 

I truly need advice on what to do. If he gets kicked out one of us will need to quit our jobs. He is such a loving (loves to cuddle and give hugs), crazy energy, upbeat, little dude. I have tried everything and just don’t know what else to do... Any advice?",2.122845817063073,3.8137890351437695,3.332389066382678,91.81867826292748,77.17891373801915,6.042787835759082,19.260324221985567,6.775458762138228,0.011077008638031405,1180,24,261,11,27,382,180,313,0.084,0.8059999999999999,0.111,0.9039,3,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,8,1,2,4,18,11,0,1,10,1,26,4,0,0,4,48,44,15,0,4,7,3,1,2,0,2,0,2,1,8,15,20,0,3,6,2,0,1,6,4,1,4,6,3,27,7,47,36,10,40,0,0,0,4,44,19,0,6,21,167,42,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178192638384447,0.0,0.0,0.108559780702591,0.0,0.0,0.08669769432081019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744887273896098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651039613900324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052017768763897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958823306923727,0.23671744517741825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991730120801333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056500127562787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14321129249436948,0.0,0.09134247806340608,0.0,0.09743445361765847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05481678007703235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221589072955752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265648989929309,0.1039994572289551,0.0,0.0,0.08670763718902134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533365824203756,0.0,0.10874689957591464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223848796111186,0.0,0.0,0.10758299713439808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787425546483765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593005704937283,0.21731625676648625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956936085521771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089152510408797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522567230428687,0.07969589806639027,0.24116020072269026,0.08361465151015278,0.0,0.0,0.1017380890510931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22752203868566204,0.0,0.1469266674185747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407592173435692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024851585986504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531038064375293,0.10844215971894533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621422716381087,0.0,0.10971956341408297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346148669260801,0.0,0.0,0.0767351531755664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713811945343268,0.0,0.0,0.12397950985043285,0.0,0.0720246614453081,0.0,0.0,0.08606767057607298,0.18964916444531232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360518950923185,0.0,0.1059035737722192,0.0,0.13040727595002874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747614653755804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853240156598555,0.0,0.13962860540265365
parenting,NuhUhIDoNot,2019/02/11,"For Sale: my 15 y/o’s brand new Coach purse. *Smells like pot Selling my 15 year old daughter’s pink Coach purse that she begged for for Christmas. Unfortunately, it smells like pot. Must has been extra skunky pot because I’ve smelled it in her purse the last two weekends she was at my house for my weekend. Note, I didn’t ‘find’ any pot in her purse so “technically” she didn’t do anything wrong! Right?!

Oh, I’m selling the purse to pay for my bedroom door after she kicked it this morning because I took her phone after she refused to get up on time to catch the bus, because she wanted to sleep in and go to school late. Nooo she wasn’t sick...she’s just ‘too cool’ to ride the bus. 

I’ve had it with this kid and invited her to move out so she can be all grown up. She can find a friend and see how much she gets away with other kids’ parents. 

Unfortunately, the only friend’s mom that would take her in is a single Mom living in a 3 bedroom duplex with another 15 y/o, 11 year old son, and a 21 year old living in the kitchen. I love this Mom! I think she has been sent to me to teach my DD a life lesson. Time will tell. Keep your fingers crossed!",1.9887759336099573,3.4577926390041505,2.9659315352697107,95.26068153526971,76.96680497925311,5.6498755186722,22.00850622406639,5.985473137389443,-0.0029785892116183104,890,24,209,5,20,283,134,241,0.049,0.893,0.058,0.6209,1,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,0,1,0,1,5,7,0,0,11,1,17,5,2,1,2,20,29,7,0,3,1,6,1,2,2,3,1,0,5,2,10,8,1,2,4,4,4,8,3,1,0,1,9,7,28,6,31,16,4,36,0,0,2,1,32,13,0,0,17,111,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488262120696424,0.13088579576823978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271712127221624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172735225125376,0.0,0.0,0.2282693329681076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281684290894475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928729283434977,0.0,0.13042773500247634,0.0,0.07093870170728946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402677856658436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094671959482648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017458476506312,0.14080362586195194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816482696335047,0.12196255881687912,0.0,0.22043861784208715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265590668004613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4385668545445226,0.0,0.13266506435539802,0.09175786293455672,0.0,0.0,0.1205529861187306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929362090176548,0.0,0.0,0.09493206327373367,0.0,0.0,0.13859904839041476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659652848421837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263256065274782,0.09946624774847672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491123387077682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384992518238736,0.0,0.10909913399874464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799803141434746,0.0,0.0,0.145568362228879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386808232787482,0.0,0.0,0.1219320672988201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362271263288021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886693207404126,0.13647226670480714,0.0,0.24114206779388456
parenting,DayToDayENTERTAIN,2019/02/11,Coloring good or bad? Hello everyone my kids love to watch coloring videos and I thought I should share this advice with you all as it is something that could be educational to your kids. It is not bombarding them with nonsense just loads of fun coloring tutorials. Here is a link to a channel I let my kids watch in case some of you want to allow your kids watch coloring videos. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kij4rRNryMw&feature=youtu.be](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kij4rRNryMw&feature=youtu.be),11.4792277992278,15.884930783783787,7.508532818532821,60.0590540540541,58.729729729729726,9.093436293436293,28.138996138996138,9.606745405546679,2.917272586872587,434,13,59,9,7,119,51,74,0.07400000000000001,0.73,0.196,0.8458,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,4,1,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,1,1,14,10,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,10,4,10,5,2,1,0,0,7,1,12,1,0,2,0,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817026887985727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6246998784720837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407007410799487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301671495126195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754627295705867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24179456456797574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947845854955193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601828553941884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22193108997054395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288611514017678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003429433213554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,positivetoday,2019/02/11,"I’ve learned to put my phone down. As a younger parent of two, the greatest thing I have done for my kids is delete all of my phone games and put my phone down for a majority of my day. Sure it’s hard, we live in Ohio and the weather has been awful therefore many days are spent indoors, but it’s a happier environment when mom is on the floor playing and engaging the kids all day. 
I have so much guilt because with my first baby I was on my phone often, so stressed and tired trying to block out the world. I can admit, I was suffering from PPD really hard then but thankfully I am not after the second baby. My first is now two and I at least see my error and make a huge effort to keep my phone somewhere like the kitchen, so I’m not looking at it much. 
My children are so much happier and my two year olds knowledge has sky rocketed! I’m more fulfilled when feeling like an accomplished mama and have realized no one cares if I post on Instagram. Sorry for the rant but I’m feeling like a better mother every day, and I wish that upon every parent. ",4.339285714285714,4.820930759259261,5.395661375661381,83.85833333333333,70.1111111111111,8.393650793650794,28.3915343915344,8.418075326091056,1.8570645502645493,828,28,172,12,14,274,123,216,0.135,0.631,0.234,0.9801,2,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,5,8,12,0,2,14,1,16,2,0,2,3,33,30,21,0,2,6,4,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,3,5,12,1,2,6,2,1,2,3,3,0,7,5,6,22,9,23,25,9,30,0,1,2,0,15,14,0,2,16,120,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656980589270962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109055452440136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806628754261276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32402849225548336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854115645161746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166124074003034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702291344038222,0.17946954566001125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136851360022909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504117656036152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164665012179678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840979775956637,0.0,0.1109146504260213,0.0,0.10547954622249683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384468212905896,0.12734735410820233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471112150143359,0.0,0.0,0.2770102096679553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318050430230266,0.0,0.08511560388701607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27894685880519154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120298268969955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525425710372997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046805317301829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009375132367568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060848739393694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388416901624476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838457134729763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564347629935595,0.0,0.0,0.08344873890334037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14436854983698622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527995991971304,0.0,0.3681039035508413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444436329048502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088778761238187
parenting,JamminJako,2019/02/11,"Help - Bees and flowers conversation with a 4 year old So during bath time my 4 year old took my wife totally by surprise when he asked what his testicles were for. With our girls these questions started a lot later, I think it wasn't even until they started school. 

My wife told him that this is where the seed for the babies are  made and of course he wanted to know more. We promised him to go to the library tomorrow to pick out a book that explains it. 

 Is there anything we should be aware of when explaining sexual organs? We want to be sure it happens in an age appropriate but comprehensive manner.   

Obviously we will not resort to a story about bees and flowers ;)

Thanks a lot!
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parenting,Stepmom31,2019/02/11,"Lying to our faces Dad and I (SM) have been dealing with 6&8 yo boys lying. 

Blatantly lying. 

“I literally just watched you (do the thing you lied about)” lying

We’ve told them (obviously) not to lie. 

We’ve told them “I saw you do it, and I’m not mad about X, I’m mad and hurt because you just lied to my face” 

We’ve told them that the consequences in life for lying are far worse than confessing the crime and making it right... 

And yet, today he put candy in the (prized wooden object) when he asked for candy for breakfast and we told him he had to “save it for later” and I literally saw him do it, asked him if he did it (“no”) then saw him try unsuccessfully to fish it out as he said “I put it on the shelf and it fell into the hole” when I asked him about it. When asked why he lied he said “I didn’t, I just... *looks around trying to think of another lie*”

Same with tablets. They sneak them. Any time we turn our back. They break the “your not allowed in our room without permission” rule to get them. They sneak in in the middle of the night, or during the day when we go to the bathroom. They “are just charging them Dad, geez!” And then playing games. 

I’m over it. How did you get your kid to stop lying?",1.1379714475431622,3.0154812749004023,2.592335657370519,95.10425381806108,80.87250996015936,5.6175962815405045,18.426460823373176,6.6274283507984215,-0.2130997343957501,924,20,216,9,24,300,123,251,0.16,0.8029999999999999,0.038,-0.9863,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,7,10,1,15,6,2,0,11,0,11,4,2,3,2,37,34,19,0,1,10,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,12,17,1,1,2,2,0,4,6,3,0,0,14,7,37,3,33,20,1,33,1,1,5,0,52,14,0,2,14,133,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396444544522047,0.0,0.09035606590152727,0.13932564074775078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182823517295576,0.4968615583435624,0.0,0.0,0.10216872620040092,0.0,0.08099623770521895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569007220275478,0.1369829986408199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883804307287095,0.0,0.07551300743651801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223994076586138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384991653207396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115772241978404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869166801283973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246893693825712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671418305942425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347014047916598,0.2527793409316766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108515837954476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827283566431568,0.08513764576087014,0.0,0.0,0.07747748799285926,0.0,0.12594509790549804,0.5078514079490528,0.0,0.18041983585089086,0.14452426081662065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198943884343356,0.0,0.0,0.12808181037193506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540574592271748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bcade822,2019/02/11,"Doing something right. For breakfast this morning my 2 year old (he’ll be 3 in March) and I made muffins for breakfast. After he helped me cut his muffin I cleaned up the crumbs, and he said “mommy you make a mess?” I said yes bud. And he said “but that’s ok, ax-dents (accidents) happen.” 

YALL THIS WARMED MY HEART SO MUCH.  

Feels like I’m at least doing something right in this parenting thing.  ",-0.07307692307692548,2.18432502564103,0.8192307692307708,99.87576923076924,100.02564102564102,3.4256410256410263,17.53846153846154,5.369823440869387,-0.604107692307692,304,9,65,2,13,93,59,78,0.042,0.7909999999999999,0.166,0.8942,1,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,0,1,5,1,0,2,2,3,3,1,2,0,7,12,5,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,9,3,7,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,5,33,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745195286425148,0.15181790937175446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18792278600552775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518265723165376,0.14244165174484366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382214607444427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20108305777259075,0.14185275062641775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622004558585825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229945588018356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359683297457538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629664860650839,0.6064399105815722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32720271863731765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411828734889074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13685012422421872
parenting,Normanras,2019/02/11,"On Fatherhood: Last Stab at Goodness by Stephen Kampa To all the fathers out there - do you ever feel this way? Is this accurate?

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**Last Stab at Goodness**

*by Stephen Kampa*

I’ll tell you how to be the perfect man:  
You do a perfect imitation  
Of someone who would hesitate  
To let the real you through the door.  
You’ll need to smile and nod, smell decent, plan  
At least one slideshow-worthy week’s vacation,  
Lug brats to ballgames and stay late,  
Skip nightcaps, and never mind  
That you don’t know what it’s all *for*  
Or that you often want to be unkind,

To rage and fart and sacrifice young virgins  
To the archaic gods of lust,  
To backpack through Tajikistan  
And waste a decade, hashish-high,  
To bid goodbye forever to those urchins  
Crushing you with their mewls and sour-milk must  
Because that’s not the perfect man;  
That’s simply you, the you  
You have to lock down like a spy.  
Surveillance. Styptic lights. A tray with two

Syringes: one for truth, and one for after.  
Pray your deceptive captive—skilled,  
Unscrupulous—won’t slit his way  
Out of that bunker buried deep  
While you, awash in cocktail party laughter,  
Hear nothing of the keeper that he’s killed  
Or trackers that he’s sent astray.  
Pray he won’t make it through  
The door to where your loved ones sleep.  
Pray that he’s only coming home to you.",2.3854499151103568,5.243080048582996,2.2315893953245407,93.25462452657699,84.54655870445345,4.968473292412172,25.376648818074965,6.532088108194933,0.9555870184145224,1040,43,198,11,31,308,152,247,0.095,0.758,0.147,0.9013,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,15,1,4,5,11,2,0,13,0,12,4,1,2,9,35,21,12,1,4,3,1,1,1,0,4,0,1,3,2,15,13,1,0,2,1,0,2,4,3,0,5,1,4,17,8,37,13,3,24,4,0,0,3,29,10,0,3,10,119,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683592764029878,0.18880943936731606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472108150900242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385017535215618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055437284723318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856718191473808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606586575839013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17512986954698506,0.0,0.0,0.1641724851647358,0.15586354086537196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191016766144526,0.0,0.08539537703132379,0.2533185672347271,0.17528072932902122,0.0,0.0,0.15889140119625667,0.0,0.07591312414502571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402407740938476,0.0,0.10372050545839444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689426938809295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521579909259125,0.11984227323647738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909582711125027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211708236412095,0.11817707949966395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686182646518664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549693440226994,0.0,0.1316569668255183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561943417271424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358130918816914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517882906345506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164993221214547,0.2466743122457627,0.12464024765077905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038084504816864,0.0,0.18880943936731606,0.0
parenting,Teacherinthehouse,2019/02/11,"My kids are so unhappy I just don't know where I'm going wrong. My husband and I work full time but home to spend time with our two girls, 11 and 9, every evening. It's like they're tag teaming the negativity. I'm nearly afraid of what each new day will bring when I pick them up. The older one says she's stupid, people think she's not cool enough and are talking about her behind her back. The younger one says she has no friends at school, she just follows people around; nobody listens to her and she smiles on the outside but on the inside she's sad. I try my hardest to be upbeat, optimistic but it's really upsetting. After a day at work listening to hours of complaining really wears you down. Our house just feels so sad 😥😥😥",2.4690830361691276,4.236804874172186,3.5532450331125816,90.27584819154356,76.41721854304636,6.765359144167093,22.21141110545085,7.61054688173877,0.7596088639836981,580,16,125,8,13,187,101,151,0.199,0.715,0.086,-0.9598,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,1,3,11,10,1,2,6,1,6,1,1,1,0,18,16,10,0,0,7,1,1,1,1,1,0,4,1,2,3,7,0,0,3,1,1,3,4,7,0,3,0,6,20,3,18,14,3,23,0,2,0,0,24,10,0,0,11,78,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703162639450379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711404942524026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467724515339804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768574971862832,0.0,0.12636572466892876,0.0,0.16119620502680468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673765270603686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781414002094967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087321406598965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19191057536122647,0.0,0.18841265908278249,0.22075876170545147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514502524631908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934697829348286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18477902651389275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25928813961746544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652758016493427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24513027991397415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042922971386473,0.0,0.19362707925737327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537765831064421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259077990114063,0.0,0.0,0.22312164244013508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989440915902078,0.0,0.186892829631881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785679521149462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917949359647212,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stryker412,2019/02/11,"Please help! Kids don’t sleep through the night. My son (7) has never been a good sleeper but will go through long bouts of needing to sleep near someone. We don’t allow the kids to sleep in our bed because we then don’t get any sleep. We also have twins (3) and one of them is now starting the same behavior as my son. They all go to sleep fine but the two of them get up in he middle of the night and need someone with them or want someone to sleep with them. My poor wife takes the brunt of this because the kids know I won’t give in. To make matters worse, no matter what time we put them to bed they’re all easily risers. Lately it’s been 4:30-5am! How can we get them to sleep through the night and stay there? ",2.1320175438596465,3.3712341315789516,2.7026315789473685,98.24675438596493,76.10526315789474,5.592982456140351,21.219298245614034,5.46131890053228,-0.27601491228070163,556,13,134,2,12,172,90,152,0.08,0.8220000000000001,0.097,-0.5403,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,6,0,7,0,4,2,0,0,9,0,11,7,7,3,3,26,24,10,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,10,0,0,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,2,0,17,2,23,20,3,20,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,1,10,81,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672787143803158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737500978472837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222090617650006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699828200694694,0.1040356566208345,0.12326990184046363,0.09096318200615644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269212247440805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960159002878568,0.0,0.12233695233388125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597533041219884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239158908616418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082942803418193,0.08364375550374584,0.0,0.0,0.3053205039660305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07348890430433243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904614475196845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902276426520942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7597021525069533,0.0,0.2756694156273697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676186260227631,0.11559386420579575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815413222016929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632383920595035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594043593545116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396694851374223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052038301189533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,figandmelon,2019/02/11,"How to handle son’s hurtful comment? I was telling my 9 year old ADHD son to go work on his project and he was arguing with me and I said that I really can’t handle the constant disobedience and it was making me frustrated with him every day (I was angry when I said this and I feel bad now). He responded verbatim: at least I don’t have broken teeth.

I was astonished. I have two teeth that have dental issues and are discolored and need work. To fix them would cost $5k or more after insurance and I simply don’t have the money due to financial issues. I am really insecure about them (people frequently ask me if I have something in my teeth and I have to awkwardly say no and change the subject). 

My son has asked me about them and I’ve told him the truth. I had some bad dental work done and the only way to fix them is too much for us to afford right now. I told him it hurts my feelings when people talk about my teeth and sometimes I don’t want to smile. 

Furthermore we don’t use insults like this in arguments at home. When my kids make comments that are rude about others’ appearance we talk it through and explain how what we say can hurt others’ feelings. He has always been empathetic and this kind of comment is out of left field. We’ve never done it. And I don’t know why he said this. My feelings are extremely hurt and I’m so angry that he could use my appearance as a way to show that I’m “bad.” 

What would you do/say to him? What’s an appropriate response? Should there be a punishment? ",2.217093997208007,4.177371061889254,3.714735923685435,87.95836726384367,77.79478827361564,7.252163797114937,23.016402978129364,8.192908349453996,1.2664696137738476,1184,37,248,22,28,391,155,307,0.18600000000000005,0.7709999999999999,0.043,-0.9933,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,4,1,4,3,14,17,5,2,8,0,35,4,4,6,2,47,59,25,0,7,2,3,4,1,0,3,0,5,1,1,18,22,0,0,6,1,2,3,8,14,0,1,14,9,43,3,28,40,4,26,0,4,0,0,42,8,0,5,14,167,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206749526937472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355030282413657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774215101842212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515178968754753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622191436657176,0.0,0.0,0.10850901813440393,0.0,0.0801703076269419,0.0,0.0,0.06475702620223657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055113852109052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846009091187758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20308402083253066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570660950034662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072079018465298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42996978923695417,0.0,0.0,0.2096067631596049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456298913212328,0.055183462437444174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090972462561674,0.0,0.0,0.04905592293631359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405073707576806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381390972088203,0.07445375783157382,0.07744343796429694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536484079183148,0.0,0.0,0.07636737086065495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922520063679258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865218836767106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575076051744293,0.2865426177731199,0.2395534526215067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730157753874221,0.09930941148761777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141370983045986,0.0877639623467834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918947322951509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808731720457324,0.0,0.12078251362325805,0.1734463669374526,0.0,0.0,0.059225227025674676,0.15940374195084697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060564256466808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21930201765321808,0.0,0.0,0.142658711239009,0.0,0.0,0.06466162954245354
parenting,aryaofthecanals,2019/02/11,"Clueless about designing a toddler room that will grow with him I am expecting #2, and we'll have a 20 month gap between the two. We are currently in a 3 bedroom house, and I'm contemplating moving my son into the more spacious guest bedroom and keeping his teeny bedroom as the nursery. We only have guests a few times a year, but I will miss the extra storage and extra bed in our guest bedroom. My husband or I sleep there semi-often when sick, he's snoring, most of my last third trimester, etc. 

I'm at a bit of a loss as to designing a toddler room. I want to design a space and buy furniture that will grow well with him, rather than dump money into items we'll shed in a few years. 

I've been fixating on what the seating should be in the room. I definitely want a spot where we can read for bedtime and provide some extra love when sick. The options in my mind are: 

* Glider/rocker - purchasing a second glider/rocker sounds pretty ridiculous. Would be useful now, but of more limited use as he gets bigger. He's off the growth charts, so he's a big guy. 
* Love seat - would be comfy for now. We may have them share a room in the future, and if so worried we wouldn't have room for it. Another con is it wouldn't provide any extra sleeping. 
* Daybed - could convert into a twin bed after he outgrows toddler bed. Could style now as a sofa and use as an extra bed  (like if my husband or me are really sick). Could be the source of some danger given height/hard corners when we move him to a toddler bed and he has free rein on room.  

Also how much stuff do you keep in your young children's bedrooms? As his nursery is now so small, he only sleeps and gets dressed in there. He's not distracted from sleeping by seeing any toys in sight. I want to keep it a calming space for him, but it would be nice if he maybe had a few items in there that would keep him busy when balancing the new baby. 

Would love any tips! ",4.492790697674415,4.986832677002582,5.174331782945738,85.53675348837211,69.7751937984496,7.63902842377261,27.8831007751938,7.404127859558343,1.4279071627906976,1494,48,307,14,25,483,197,387,0.081,0.78,0.139,0.9764,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,9,2,1,2,20,15,3,1,31,0,37,10,4,4,0,62,57,33,0,19,10,3,0,1,3,14,3,1,17,2,9,21,0,6,0,2,4,5,3,6,1,3,3,3,31,10,43,32,18,53,0,2,2,3,40,30,0,10,19,207,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086684068827568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062982976916144,0.1060347276237067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039850642661833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422119092076673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277722182901312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566363809296167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001262002283037,0.0,0.0,0.09058501702875976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668065389516848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595258025954821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242753294315651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049402865408471545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27379835168299554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159015557963066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021039057638142,0.0,0.08071423019128064,0.21495233889267631,0.07433595025717883,0.0,0.0,0.09766379134034284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381494092469644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028769367292726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114888201564977,0.0,0.06478103321677105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805807568793582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4047781833891837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575994396506875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589647698169618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987810286726558,0.0,0.0,0.2620095701549731,0.0,0.0,0.17893227225593708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092038807619883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026938091672562,0.0,0.3591691221382404,0.0,0.0,0.13023788322260174
parenting,summer_stay,2019/02/11,"What is something your parents/parent did that you really appreciated, or appreciate now looking back? I am six months pregnant with my first, very excited:). Carrying this baby has brought up a ton of memories about my childhood and how I was parented, most of which is very positive. One thing that I didn't really notice at the time was my parents' respect for my right to be there. My mom would always say ""this is your house too,"" and let me know that I had space and autonomy at home even though I didn't technically own anything. They didn't come into my room without permission and didn't read my journal, even through some rocky teenaged years where another parent may have justified it. Looking back I can see what a gift that was, and how it equipped me with safety and dignity. I feel bad for kids when I hear things like ""my house my rules"", ""talk to me when you start paying the bills"", or who are intruded upon by parents. Obviously parents need to make and enforce rules, but it was a world of difference to hear ""this is your home and it's important that you contribute and care for it"" rather than a demand. 

What is something your parents/parent did that you really appreciated, or appreciate now looking back?",7.3415016722408035,7.401197665217396,7.368260869565216,73.74774247491641,63.65217391304349,11.076923076923077,35.51839464882943,10.727762888450028,3.7852842809364553,973,41,179,23,13,313,132,230,0.017,0.838,0.14400000000000002,0.9794,9,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,0,8,1,1,17,5,0,0,6,0,25,0,0,3,1,30,39,18,0,3,6,6,1,1,0,2,0,3,3,1,21,13,0,0,2,1,2,2,5,1,0,3,12,8,29,4,22,23,4,25,0,0,4,0,21,10,0,6,14,139,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776568550364029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106022998992106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679895159784788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24331693796397275,0.08806926242655072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754128689231046,0.0,0.0,0.09085948095580784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020148235657748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393337178883427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053332566432223484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971906251205414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377614972118312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21160495883853775,0.0,0.0,0.24341362426745464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796764638281516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785783584556463,0.0,0.05153095271936623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265723470850434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040701490027552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235339110901372,0.08419109186030528,0.0,0.0,0.07821019043060103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008677247857068,0.0,0.0,0.07147424784668749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.585601112246193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550599066813243,0.0,0.20271466030587887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007716339596217,0.0,0.0838798993876562,0.0,0.0,0.08405186902638452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240338368326254,0.0,0.0,0.07465747985692882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477877646221679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014905785755,0.0,0.10363105611272204,0.0,0.06150474755711501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740598804891948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167649491049817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492815203382172,0.0,0.0,0.06792401763667122
parenting,the-og-sappling,2019/02/11,"Driving Questions Hi r/Parenting! I'm a college student doing some research about driving. 

If your children are driving age, did you sign them up for a drivers ed program, or did they just take the test? Was the program online or in person? 

Do you think anyone actually reads the manual and do people actually learn from it?

Thanks!",3.3886182669789235,6.347549360655737,4.638079625292743,77.33098360655741,79.98360655737704,6.108665105386418,31.665105386416855,7.447530270364453,2.629733489461358,265,14,41,4,7,87,50,61,0.0,0.933,0.067,0.6154,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,11,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,1,5,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,5,1,29,6,8,0.0,0.0,0.5924337278251132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122462454116612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33705163192100496,0.0,0.0,0.21044040230377015,0.2650444396223733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400407084610392,0.0,0.3036278926771073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282286264281127,0.0,0.0,0.2794641429171782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194499859246343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MCFF,2019/02/11,"When is this going to IMPROVE? 7 y/o ADHD, violent meltdowns and regression This is largely going to be a long-winded rant but I am open to any advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation.

I'm going to start with the fact that my 7 year old is and has been a wonderful child. Not perfect but smart, sweet, funny. He was diagnosed at age 4 with Sensory Processing Disorder and was given an IEP at a school that specializes in inclusion for kids with special needs. That SPD diagnosis then expanded to ADHD-Combined, and further neuropsych testing revealed significant learning disabilities and written expression disability (dysgraphia). He also has tracking and vision issues. We decided at this time to put him on a trial of ADHD meds, since his doctors felt he could really benefit from the right medication. But as well all know, finding the right ADHD med for a child is a moving target.

This year (second grade) started well, but.... The second week of school he reported that a paraprofessional in his classroom had slapped him in the head. Like, a dope slap type thing. Not ok. Two weeks later, my boy reported that this same para had grabbed him by the forearms and dragged him off a chair onto the floor (apparently all kids needed to be on the floor to view a screen/movie). The third incident involved the para prying his fingers off a ballet barre in movement class.

We reported these incidents to the school/principal/various teachers, all of whom did nothing. We had to pester with the principal with phone calls/emails/showing up at her office just to get her to involve the Dept of Children and Families, who dismissed the claim. The school's position was that because there were no witnesses, that my son was making up the assaults. We involved the Superintendent's office and the Para professional was finally moved out of my son's classroom into a different classroom- so my son still sees him daily.

Meanwhile, the school is telling me my son is inventing these stories. SO, ok, I'm a responsible parent, I need to ask his doctors if hallucinations are a side effect of his meds. All signs point to no. We try different meds. All have side effects like loss of appetite- kiddo has lost 4 lbs. His anxiety is increasing. There's no way to tell if the anxiety is a result of the ADHD meds or are a reaction to the abuse that's taken place at his school. We take him off of all ADHD meds to see if the behavior improves.

SO all that is happening. What is also happening is that the school has, at the same time, failed to read his neuropsych report that details his learning disabilities, so they refuse to add accommodations to his IEP until the school psychiatrist can do her own evaluation. It took them five months to evaluate him and our new IEP reconvene is this week- but FIVE MONTHS this kiddo has been without any supports for his disability.

​

If you don't know about dysgraphia, basically it means that writing down anything is torture. It's painful, he struggles to form letters and hold a pencil correctly, he turns in illegible work. However, his teachers tell him (and us) that he needs to practice, practice, practice. Well, no..that's not how disabilities work. You don't tell a dyslexic to PRACTICE spelling things correctly. Instead you make accommodations for their learning disability, because their expression of it has nothing to do with the measure of their intellect or knowledge. So anyway, Kiddo doesn't finish writing assignments on time, so teachers send it home. If he struggles at home, they make him do it before school. If he struggles before school, he has to bring it home again. Kiddo is frustrated and starting to hate school.

That brings us to this week. I've received three phone calls from the principal telling me that he's having a meltdown in the classroom, is kicking and turning over chairs, just totally freaking the fuck out. The principal told me she would call an ambulance to come deal with him- to protect anyone from being hurt. (Which strikes me as utterly ironic, because she never thought to call 911 when my child said one of her staff members assaulted him). He's also developed a tic- a high pitched shriek during the day, which becomes a constant, one beat hum at night as he tried to relax before bed.   


He speaks in baby talk ""Nick-Nick want cuddles Mama"". He's seven years old with an IQ of 122.

Guys, what do I do to help this little boy? He is clearly so overwhelmed and just acting out. He's behaving like he's on the ASD spectrum, but all neuro reports say he's definitively not on the spectrum. We are trying to buy a home in a suburb with a better school system but it's not  an immediate fix.

I've got an appt with a counselor scheduled this week for him. But please, if anyone has any insight- PLEASE. Tell me.",6.015290049804728,7.579138663656888,6.236296893475224,75.40005894156009,66.99097065462755,9.14684152065642,33.815185065749404,9.48565724429506,3.3390343831738862,3840,175,651,78,63,1227,404,886,0.117,0.7909999999999999,0.092,-0.979,5,0,0,0,1,0,129.0,10,3,6,10,26,34,7,4,66,2,57,10,3,7,15,115,102,50,0,14,26,5,3,3,0,1,5,3,5,9,44,39,0,3,16,3,1,15,13,17,3,10,23,10,64,17,107,74,14,97,0,5,3,2,115,46,1,10,37,428,108,38,0.0,0.052901837640852684,0.0,0.0,0.3219569768352505,0.04363054683510275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711751673536438,0.0,0.048377240241835685,0.054253497658991234,0.091088680137109,0.0,0.06831282074955675,0.0,0.0,0.09365898730242024,0.0,0.03674237384570735,0.0,0.041740845978644005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816529617024332,0.04931138130360085,0.1139791901255992,0.0,0.0,0.039488467150237634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677505371841814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03846121358898984,0.0,0.04824977437056861,0.0,0.03564864304114986,0.0,0.0,0.0287949513956228,0.046031222596662334,0.0,0.045317858279794516,0.0,0.09329753386553316,0.05117169349699192,0.09140041421329642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042091162179400635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04287010162201597,0.048910865213523794,0.040808433966791235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04127733854047365,0.0233272921785342,0.0,0.07612527296255224,0.0,0.035709933812505486,0.0,0.0,0.04420959129567655,0.07896603649911707,0.0,0.0,0.04408170520071263,0.045822819074151054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029927325232255195,0.04717418562017935,0.1791465994030242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779774454125822,0.0,0.0,0.04660202074849281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049075913824884715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543982944215776,0.044750090056053696,0.0,0.0395130150248432,0.0,0.0,0.048739725720316734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941078717673194,0.0,0.0,0.04863591805923593,0.29757025617608396,0.0449792328490735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712769109456922,0.09490977415328583,0.0,0.13242685550669053,0.034436109297663234,0.04312234250074208,0.0,0.041900120266284126,0.0,0.08568395874963679,0.0,0.09370336000091167,0.0,0.060510720149962026,0.0,0.04750975017602442,0.0,0.04957749971520426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04664876693276658,0.09802252487241883,0.042207795633316114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04488463966687858,0.0,0.0,0.04466114487247274,0.0,0.028603332551268783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07626011032458987,0.04247148268659758,0.03550672634527533,0.0,0.54224681577876,0.0711590436830673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036934165644286636,0.050187416637576254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480850810240636,0.0,0.03565679875017252,0.0,0.0,0.14003068249324327,0.0,0.0,0.0506672266716612,0.0,0.0,0.033570538131656696,0.03588722492166205,0.2341514901104845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932570593460311,0.0,0.0,0.03544636803985296,0.07810568168494122,0.0,0.0,0.04266409232766834,0.04960675095863013,0.09094134718150518,0.09713071674991816,0.04361564600900671,0.0,0.10741464867028576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02633517370413355,0.03544034733327909,0.17907392254320198,0.0,0.12043460716958695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04304010265736104,0.048420003356740925,0.06501009810184198,0.0,0.0,0.031717412744221844,0.0,0.054253497658991234,0.08625759654351191
parenting,FancyGuacamo,2019/02/11,"Anyone ever really make a horrible mistake and just feel super ashamed? I am in recovery and just trying to get past the shame of my small town knowing my business while I try not to isolate myself. Just went to my daughters school to have lunch with her. I just feel so low.  I feel like everyone knows and that they are judging me and I am afraid that they may treat my kid differently. I was arrested last year for stealing something and I am now in drug court. It’s like so awful. I am highly educated and just trying to be a good parent. I need to find a job. I am going to meetings and I am in therapy also antidepressants. Anyone else have a similar experience, have advice or a good game plan?

Edit: drug court means every day I call in to see if I have to do a irons test. It’s usually twice a week or so. One day a week I go to court and it’s just demeaning. It takes about an hour while you wait till your name is called then you leave. This will happen for 3 years.",1.1881023454157784,3.3695130696517417,3.1717128642501784,89.37074626865673,82.48258706467662,6.415636105188344,20.516702203269368,7.62386473244151,0.7446463397299223,761,22,163,13,21,256,122,201,0.134,0.7709999999999999,0.095,-0.8438,3,0,3,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,2,2,13,12,0,3,10,1,17,3,0,1,1,33,33,19,0,3,10,2,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,9,1,1,7,1,0,3,1,6,0,2,2,4,26,6,20,28,0,27,0,1,1,0,14,8,0,4,18,109,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988567946633087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629427051420164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858783518479924,0.13618993450245145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714477520134708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714418955763075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887075062864326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082847650097596,0.0,0.11103571807906697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023170761591545,0.11198893060272197,0.12700859885476212,0.0,0.13001905690742227,0.0,0.0,0.2016216127500976,0.09495646167409008,0.0,0.0,0.12148440847569525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944403438649692,0.0,0.15108043210597574,0.22297019204267016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753872056903765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043489245516766,0.0,0.0,0.1308972019483175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190034971192333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609623016340176,0.10834570028835597,0.0,0.14074069731361075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987378992947626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872362512408398,0.0,0.0,0.14478638756162118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855682173823717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006850213657545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758942309589246,0.0,0.12688502500376567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851505092857087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451985137091765,0.1059182317136749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232657181394132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993760041009883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520030222429667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707272662635992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463901146920839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21323719083449,0.0,0.0,0.12321607877971084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17118933635387235
parenting,ThrowAwayAccount7905,2019/02/11,"Seeking Advice for my 5-Year-Old Son My husband and I are struggling so much with our 5-year-old son, let's call him ""Robert"". I hope that someone could give us advice on how to deal with his behavior. Here is an outline of what we are dealing with.

* Robert was born at 32 weeks. He has not had any medical issues related to his prematurity outside of being hospitalized for the first 2 months of his life.
* My husband is not his biological father. I know, go ahead and shame me. My husband and I started dating when our son was a baby. He is the only father that Robert has ever known. I am unfamiliar with bio-dad's family history. He and the rest of his family do not wish to be contacted.
* My family has history of alcoholism, ADHD, depression, eating disorders, dyslexia, and epilepsy.
* Robert has always demanded attention. For example, I could not talk on the phone with anyone when he was a baby. If I did, he would scream.
* He has always had trouble with eye contact. My grandmother was worried about autism, so he was evaluated at age 3. He has also had his hearing checked. He is perfectly normal in regards to those issues.
* We have worried about ADHD. Robert's pediatrician did not diagnose him with ADHD, but did warn us to keep an eye on him since he did display many behaviors associated with it. His pediatrician retired a few months ago. I am making an appointment with his brother's pediatrician to have him evaluated. I am just waiting on the medical record transfer.
* My husband is against medication, period. He believes that it is admitting defeat.
* Robert has a severe listening problem. Actually, that is putting it nicely. He is outright defiant. He will hear you, repeat everything you told him to do, and do the exact opposite.
* He does not respond to punishment. If you say that a toy will be taken away if he doesn't clean his room, he still will not clean it. He will then cry and tell you how mean you are for taking away his toy and making him clean his room.
* He will not work with you. Using the room cleaning example again, if you help him clean, he will sit and watch you do it instead of helping.
* Sending him to the corner does not work. It just makes him scream.
* Robert is becoming more and more violent when he does not get his way. He slapped his teacher in the face and kicked his PE teacher in the privates last week. He was suspended at the end of the week for a separate violent outburst.
* We have had numerous parent/teacher/principal/behavior committee meetings. The next step is Robert being evaluated for an IEP or Section 504 plan.
* The principal and I believe that he is trying to get kicked out of school. During one incident, the principal called my husband to come to the school. Robert started smiling and dancing around. His principal asked why he was acting so happy. Robert told her that it was because he was going home with his dad.
* He has been seeing a counselor for play therapy.
* We have a rewards system set up for him. He has been consistently not meeting any goals.
* His defiance started around 3 1/2 and has steadily gotten worse.
* His brother was born a couple months after Robert turned 4. His brother is the only person that he will not raise a hand to.
* The violence toward his teachers started around the time that school resumed after winter break. He has hurt me many times before. He also started throwing flailing-on-the-ground temper tantrums at this time. He has never done this before, not even as a toddler.
* My grandmother who raised me passed away recently. This was the only grandparent that he was close with. I don't know if he really understands what has happened, but it could have caused an escalation in his bad behavior.
* His dad has been away for work too much lately. Robert just wants to see his dad and has been upset that he has not been home very much in the past 2 weeks.
* We do not have any extended family to talk to about this, which is why I am airing my grievances to the internet. My husband is an orphan. My biological mother is still living, but she is not someone that I can talk to. There are many reasons why she did not raise me and I will leave it at that.
* Robert is extremely intelligent. He is able to quickly complete new puzzles with 100+ pieces. He also enjoys reading and chess.
* He has a lot of energy. I wish I had it! He likes to run, swim, and play soccer. I fear that he has been cooped up for too long during the winter.
* Robert is very affectionate. He loves to cuddle and give hugs. He has a brilliant smile that will make you smile.

When Robert listens, he is the best little boy anyone could ask for. I am not wanting to transform him into a perfect little obedient child. I just want to do all that I can to help him a happy, well-adjusted person. My husband and I don't know what to do anymore. He is very stressed out from everything possible going wrong at his workplace. I am trying to go back to grad school. I feel like I am falling apart at the seams. I love Robert so much, but I feel like I have failed him. I would appreciate any insight, word of wisdom, or just anything that could help us get through this awful patch. Thank you.",2.334114463176576,5.074602283673472,3.6273558118899736,84.23441437444546,82.79591836734693,6.633185448092282,24.644188110026626,7.863986372081356,1.714896007098492,4058,158,745,79,115,1320,391,980,0.118,0.764,0.118,0.8663,2,0,1,0,0,0,157.0,10,10,0,13,36,40,5,5,46,1,120,15,4,9,6,126,174,46,0,20,34,19,3,3,0,11,6,7,10,4,38,46,2,2,12,9,1,15,22,20,0,2,33,15,105,20,100,120,13,107,0,4,5,4,160,39,0,10,51,505,143,15,0.05042695683479302,0.0,0.049209435694783116,0.0,0.18181020801769612,0.09855327719858688,0.04470045464557352,0.05389108103954493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097925748607885,0.0839185354116702,0.0,0.0,0.13716823944676373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05000999105260298,0.0705194014080679,0.0,0.04149708881985387,0.13467204815597258,0.09428479500346687,0.0,0.18951114360079854,0.038775217135672564,0.042104402621658016,0.030739804840398306,0.05569261197924137,0.08581925229108167,0.1136278241880435,0.05291998010211192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298312200018774,0.0,0.0,0.05180237541388776,0.0,0.043438358205267334,0.05287170482827791,0.0,0.0,0.20130910876879707,0.055796468601650495,0.05539164421554711,0.0,0.10397595651285484,0.04343266403046354,0.05118229970821253,0.0,0.0,0.057793661319329816,0.0,0.1323869092421783,0.051604284707453325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051599365945568125,0.0,0.0,0.044663316241864606,0.0,0.0,0.03330652940142412,0.04561406945483292,0.0,0.0,0.09064099450832974,0.0,0.1901521880784549,0.05674434596765576,0.050994769072386086,0.07205005607711706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042893143723052106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790380109508692,0.09674826390005603,0.11463520663555665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04459239139142506,0.1073608664721787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136696905448041,0.0,0.1352005048469278,0.0,0.1011646985360828,0.05008534629349906,0.0,0.0,0.05398310024677429,0.0,0.0,0.10526528320166297,0.0,0.04482179621347365,0.0,0.0,0.08314001009265201,0.04110470021662888,0.05688380375328274,0.0533948662102746,0.0,0.05156497989442984,0.03561805091469989,0.07390819183651005,0.10108211677071456,0.044527926749798906,0.04462626995500193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04287119541589969,0.09102459468648573,0.0,0.13464154103584586,0.15337505821991204,0.0,0.05492973916205041,0.0,0.1523995614783848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075094753290272,0.0,0.14827846189436428,0.0,0.03889237783427207,0.04870266914130037,0.053629640675154716,0.0,0.04940771104138776,0.0,0.0,0.10582921694186784,0.0,0.03417061101115626,0.11505591899568768,0.0,0.0,0.05599316793703763,0.0,0.048138236227910296,0.0,0.08806174729948675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056848817041736575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825178738161935,0.0,0.050693019637902466,0.0,0.0,0.05044060308547228,0.0,0.03230479980439509,0.051847310223968206,0.049790536320956716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040101540064871925,0.0,0.2041390899341963,0.0803675115944392,0.0,0.0,0.056968107760714586,0.0,0.0417136997915343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545319376892004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17846229796894467,0.0,0.0805420657348427,0.0,0.057763908679352785,0.052717204149887016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03791479582755386,0.12159383329389345,0.0440753829317024,0.04642636677815967,0.05766761989345137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821309215963756,0.0,0.0,0.09637023651080948,0.0,0.06847318715688598,0.054850048571076816,0.0,0.05249624046716882,0.18197226049447296,0.0435526999719662,0.0,0.12482256158055408,0.0892293769756839,0.040026571153822535,0.1617978522628975,0.0,0.045339890228535525,0.0,0.1365074553960267,0.0,0.11597702342761165,0.0,0.0,0.11013427547365977,0.10242204489693447,0.05138937711010119,0.07164372663072828,0.055133961142542216,0.0,0.06494661377776717
parenting,Semuta1000,2019/02/11,"How do you tell someone else's kid they have no manners? So my son has been letting a friend of his stay at our place for the last few day because of the snow ( we live in the Seattle area and it's been dumping ). He was just going to stay one night but it turned in 5 days now. He didn't bring anything for a long stay, which I can understand, especially if he wasn't planning on staying this long. 
Now, the kid never says hi when he comes in, just looks at his shoes as he walks past me.  never says please or thank you for anything. never asks for anything, just goes into the fridge or pantry just takes What ever. Doesn't clean up after himself, just puts what dishes he uses next to the sink and walks away. And when I make dinner he's the first one to grab a plate And get seconds of there is some.
He takes hour long showers while blasting crappy music off his phone ( and we only have one bathroom ). Then throws the towel on the floor and goes hide in my kids room for the rest of the day till he's hungry.  Basically he acts like he owns the place.
I have talk to my son about him, and he says that just how he was brought up and that I'm picking on him, Which I think is ridicules. I told my boy that you were not brought up that way and I expect you to have the same respect when you goes to your friends house as you would here. You help out were you can and ask if there is anything you can do to help out. And if I hear otherwise I'm going to be embarrassed and pissed.
So what do I do?  Just shake my head and be thankful for when this kid finally leaves?",2.605823170731707,3.7604663262195146,3.161556097560976,95.76393170731708,74.76219512195122,5.979707317073171,22.26634146341464,5.927762680638738,0.01759692682926817,1217,30,285,6,25,379,170,328,0.08800000000000001,0.8290000000000001,0.083,0.3094,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,10,1,2,22,11,3,2,16,0,28,5,3,5,4,48,51,32,0,5,14,2,1,1,2,1,0,4,3,5,13,19,2,0,2,0,0,12,8,5,0,5,11,6,34,6,40,36,5,66,0,0,1,0,55,22,1,6,28,188,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32493268309576395,0.0,0.18456843773190776,0.0,0.09274500651430724,0.0,0.0,0.060175108355142864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503332813408981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909869961563116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246283943876585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929242024192427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813630832008912,0.0,0.08396603636973292,0.0,0.0,0.15253230748431573,0.0,0.051573965176827455,0.0,0.11220282653751927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130899279467208,0.0,0.11125779719069477,0.0,0.13233176123066892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721335741316546,0.11390264596993313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046504531449256,0.0,0.10452382103574856,0.0,0.10094170306508274,0.0,0.04822665026866461,0.0,0.08716622733653942,0.2620762211052446,0.08289485717234109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589232887945734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22840285380967504,0.0,0.10498340687035397,0.09263635603221593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067338398864631,0.07507640802550106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423363603249316,0.0,0.0,0.2062701373926564,0.10835827505446233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923478582242816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355038879856958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364001042029963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208637502143948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484412122348796,0.07934253466872268,0.08628034424681924,0.18176508705350414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325191396429543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943254105606346,0.0,0.0,0.10737243236208617,0.0,0.10276470441991874,0.0,0.08525715935996603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835453961961128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012355861323756,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubblybotany,2019/02/11,"There should be a r/jnofil because my dad is driving us nuts He criticizes almost everything I do with my child. I have a 2 year old (today is her bday, yay) and am 38+5 with number 2. Over the last 2 years, while my mom and in laws all managed to be supportive and loving (for the most part), my dad has been an absolute jerk. He is filled with unsolicited advice, which is wayyy outdated (he is in Eastern Europe and us in the US), and lots of ""facts"". Should I mention he only raised one child (me), and I lived with my grandma from 8 months to 3 years old. So, as far as toddlers are concerned he is clueless. 

When LO was an infant, it was why are we cosleeping. Then, when she slept in her crib, why is she in a room by herself, thats not safe (even tho we live in a tiny apartment,  and have a video monitor). When she was 8 months old, why am I getting a job? I should be at home with my kid for at least 1 year, if not 2. Well, dad, I would love that,  but my husband is a grad student and I need a job to keep us afloat. Now, at 2, why is she not potty trained? She should not be in diapers. Why is she still napping? Why does she go to bed so early? 

His newest thing has been the most hurtful. With no. 2 on the way, we have had to adjust our future plans. My husband is about to finish his grad program this winter. Since daycare is so clostly, we decided I will keep working after mat leave (a measly 6 weeks) and hubby will stay home with the kids for a few months. We love this idea. I would rather my infant be with a loving parent for the first few months rather than taking him to daycare right away, if we have that option. My dad hates this idea, and he has made it clear for months now. We talk on Skype once a week, and he always makes a point how my husband needs to get a job so I can stay home with the kids. According to him, it is wrong of me to be so career oriented. I should quit my job and stay home with the kids. I guess I never realized how sexist he is, since he raised me to be so independent. Also, he's an effing hypocrite. He lost his job when i was little and didnt work for about 3 years while my mom took care of us. He literally just sat around. He didn't cook, clean, or take care of me. My husband would be doing all of that. He already does! 


Anyway, rant over. Sometimes, dad can be frustrating,  not just mom. ",2.3163315754779177,3.3184734918699164,3.6024500109865976,92.91873104812132,75.26016260162599,6.538431114040871,22.24038672819161,6.766488616294105,0.3199950999780268,1786,44,418,15,37,584,232,492,0.084,0.853,0.062,-0.7863,6,0,0,0,0,0,83.0,13,0,0,6,28,16,3,0,26,1,57,6,1,5,5,79,81,36,0,14,13,13,0,0,0,10,0,0,7,8,12,31,1,3,5,3,0,4,9,6,1,2,14,0,61,10,56,48,9,65,0,2,0,4,69,22,0,9,35,275,73,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061921622583369515,0.0,0.0,0.06345302377721439,0.0,0.06992719976098337,0.05067466812814532,0.05272652544105433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05641017715145765,0.0,0.0,0.059535501218013535,0.0,0.0,0.03862801213151077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921401722671993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090599875983287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04185338939061594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056950287317351016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05390004538725051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621341637685116,0.0,0.03601299825753178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980603385766962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625619184326562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25424957787609703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783581945479715,0.14306754537779726,0.0,0.0,0.314410476468014,0.11264722706468094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165266555444665,0.0,0.06709663741977602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351050784431976,0.11190866718983164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691727039836743,0.05387246487789623,0.228765222555646,0.05995950720000068,0.042298048959169714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226444379218196,0.25289517887366153,0.0,0.0,0.09397184268144858,0.04887263437766496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19947941913377093,0.06748392158995663,0.04293920483663606,0.04819355509729555,0.0,0.0,0.07036169492888635,0.06862042286394614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990241656057936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739873899333572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0541151797561954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483588363449783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267170835226857,0.0,0.0,0.2026227765937044,0.05060506903761672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719082641610272,0.0,0.0,0.09528838590840756,0.05093209593641383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04209830312531089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006462655097392,0.0,0.07040320906489653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38111425465423016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050297875479049466,0.1016585731840744,0.0,0.0569746567644944,0.0,0.34307385297056825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226404550885356,0.0,0.0,0.13504256561518987,0.06928200523490276,0.0,0.204031759304724
parenting,capnhist,2019/02/11,"4 year-old not growing, recent decline in appetite I took my son in for his 4-year checkup last week and the doctor told me he hasn't grown in 6 months, and only gained half a pound in that time. My wife and I are trying to feed him more calories by offering ice cream after dinner, but that apparently isn't enough enticement to get him to eat. His daily sheets at preschool have also noted that his daily food intake has declined from ""all"" or ""most"" to ""some"".

He's had a nasty cough for a few weeks (doc didn't say anything about it after listening to his breathing) and a new baby sister as of October, so those might be contributing factors. He's in the 15th-ish percentile for height and weight and I'm kind of freaking out. What can I do to fatten this kid up?",5.5679581529581545,5.493122188311691,5.871645021645023,83.44254689754692,67.37662337662336,8.402886002886003,28.799422799422803,7.793537801064563,1.6653284271284263,603,18,122,6,9,193,115,154,0.071,0.917,0.012,-0.8590000000000001,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,6,0,11,9,1,0,1,14,16,11,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,7,7,5,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,4,4,12,1,25,10,6,21,0,0,1,0,17,9,0,4,9,79,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16818488391034397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306726485540191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152612642962656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151997016282236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21730651774842927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543077667806179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987832933101008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190055705013488,0.0,0.17143077361585046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22310574515186105,0.0,0.0,0.16786748831899712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20311877240433668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220685036454354,0.0,0.0,0.15995028223507138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20765581831920588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724700582360372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263349083580152,0.0,0.0,0.20096028083799355,0.2336622217939855,0.1427867297947001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33739609870199905,0.2561010026985329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708655746173837
parenting,Blanket_Partied,2019/02/11,"Babysitter_Darama again since admin removed  I come from a strong belief that babysitters are required to do chores while on the clock. Tend to the little ones when they need tending to, but doing chores when not aiding kids. I bring this up, because a mother of the babysitter felt they needed to call me out for requiring her daughter to actually work. I know right? Does everyone expect to be paid for sitting around watching TV? Its not like I am asking her to do yard work. The kid down the street has always worked well enough for my yard needs. Anyways, I am off topic, this babysitter! The only reason I haven't fired her is because my little one loves her. I pay her a respectful $8 an hour and she gets to eat my food as well. I am at wits end and not sure what to do about this. Maybe I can require her to bring a sack lunch and see if that changes her attitude? Anyways, thanks and look forward to some helpful suggestions. It's bad enough my dog is sick and now I need to deal with this. ",4.42180565627266,5.5861037005076195,4.453187092095722,88.19818527918783,70.37055837563452,7.049891225525744,26.25416968817984,7.1686216300943375,1.0895702683103696,787,24,160,7,14,243,130,197,0.075,0.7909999999999999,0.134,0.9252,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,2,7,10,9,0,0,11,0,14,5,0,1,1,28,32,11,0,6,5,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,2,9,9,3,3,4,3,2,5,4,1,2,2,2,5,25,8,27,29,3,25,1,0,3,1,20,12,0,2,10,110,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.1347276349866149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487782422135588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290357388228305,0.12906841205010575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527518061625712,0.16832142647537074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097573234409425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605024751069834,0.11892733956543862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233484410727698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081812450233805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412708851971709,0.0,0.0,0.12228108050756635,0.2853078688228919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192321619711792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256022514759813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16694392721640197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213118201899152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253938807590316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596228938776475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587472317315347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744963814142166,0.2767468136888831,0.0,0.0,0.11593648094800715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460545619531987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870084611330674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094819726888681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710743346600595,0.10500162308739154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194971733100184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790335235894092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100167540432295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420549819576298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012087264380606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271080334234702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482668656853105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015301894043783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,That_Gross_Couple,2019/02/11,"Getting closer to meeting our second daughter! And I’m so excited. I’m also starting to get a little nervous. Her due date is our first daughters birthday. They will be 5 years apart. My daughter is very excited, but I don’t think she’s going to take it well. She’s been our baby. And let me tell you she’s got it down to a science. I’m worried the baby is gonna come and it’s gonna be a melt down. She’s already voiced her concern about her coming on her birthday. Has anyone else had babies do dates so close together? I don’t know how to do her birthday and maybe have a baby at the same time. I don’t want to make her feel like she got put on the back burner. She’ll be 5! I whole hand old! I want it to be as special as it needs to be. Any tips or tricks? This is one nervous momma! ",-0.49748554913295,1.5111238034682088,1.9707832369942189,96.3396430635838,88.42196531791906,4.153641618497111,19.632658959537565,5.341637118332708,-0.33386450867051964,610,19,141,3,20,208,100,173,0.049,0.818,0.133,0.9341,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,1,1,7,8,1,2,7,0,21,1,1,2,0,18,42,12,0,3,2,4,2,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,3,1,3,4,3,24,5,16,28,2,22,0,0,0,0,23,9,0,1,10,90,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527598239641434,0.14875888521452516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649892310643196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006842359732945,0.19059788204969208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303670385109318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32047684254840264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539454347381254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405651625676267,0.1328916160223908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822719636848176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437392232263767,0.0,0.10571857047935124,0.0,0.2975518910594203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223087391266604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021646564711636,0.0,0.09087921726652727,0.18643935313869311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416875812593085,0.0,0.1868805330364177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793032174869674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519506892175248,0.0,0.12605091418345932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699991832137391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316648145327103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986272219662765,0.0,0.16258832216120594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919311002655016,0.0,0.0,0.10846885262545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348470056928004,0.21943699974876707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725292416979842,0.0,0.0,0.20768295346973087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891076292991704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119789781299708
parenting,937473945726,2019/02/11,"pregnant and thinking of terminating Just found out I am pregnant with our third child.  Even though I went off birth control on purpose after long discussions with my husband, I am in an absolute panic that I did not experience with the other two, and seriously wondering if I should terminate.

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The main thing freaking me out is I will be in my mid or even late 40s before I can re-enter the workforce.  Now granted I don't have any career plan at this point, so I had thought, what does it matter if I postpone some nebulous plan that doesn't even exist?  My husband makes four times more than I ever have.

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Also I am terrified that one of our parents (all in their 70s) will need my care and I won't be available for them (I am an only child).  However I also know that my parents would NOT want me to forgo having children for that reason; they would want another grandchild more than anything.  They can afford their own care, but that's not the same; I'm their daughter.

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My husband (kindly and respectfully) feels this is probably hormone-induced insanity.  It also probably doesn't help that I've been sick and haven't slept much for days.  (I came down with the flu and took a pregnancy test so I would know whether I needed to control my fever.  I was taking my temperature round the clock.  Now my little one is sick and keeping me up.)

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Is he right?  Is this normal?  Or did I make a terrible mistake?  Yeah too bad they don't test for stupidity before pulling the IUD right?",5.374620689655174,6.570213255172418,5.771206896551725,79.5119827586207,68.17241379310346,8.420689655172415,31.74137931034483,8.697196308434329,2.5726758620689663,1204,50,220,19,20,386,166,290,0.152,0.8059999999999999,0.043,-0.9862,4,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,0,7,4,14,11,1,1,11,1,33,5,1,5,2,52,55,19,0,12,10,6,2,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,15,14,0,3,8,0,0,4,9,7,0,5,11,2,41,4,25,35,8,29,0,0,1,0,21,15,0,6,10,168,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025556970569281,0.0,0.3659190734633741,0.4103663106097865,0.057415231611931475,0.08853211849363682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947861911539653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049544524751998,0.0,0.0,0.14368726366769705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965653205968865,0.17216383317136022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939063861222094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445030494937846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388518009887605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16729547080156734,0.07637168408881992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258864933850042,0.0,0.0,0.042690297536760964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257303454977643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05659158658844745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750451801740348,0.0,0.08792075514526973,0.09280093710596084,0.0,0.09524061198525333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846209467967595,0.0,0.07471781035543405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271523633079415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062065695871455925,0.12520741165277144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08272338215604594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144237793494865,0.06421274841372078,0.0,0.09906030378134327,0.18749883901738107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981355175423102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205943830874952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680800561328575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420535758495426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348078222008435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05609147824377537,0.05409927492396846,0.08295195441462712,0.06702791481048621,0.0492317574192378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380473264684464,0.0,0.0,0.0824757504579629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959789265717632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782673691476504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915606320080558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799297493925319,0.0,0.4103663106097865,0.0
parenting,FaithCPR,2019/02/11,"Ex husband moving in with a woman after two weeks So. My ex is not the brightest bulb. He's actually got mild mental retardation, well documented, but functional enough to get by. We have a son together. After the divorce he has been living with some good friends, and I've been ok with giving him 3 overnights a week with our son. This is at his request, so he doesn't have to pay child support, but works well because the child support wouldn't be enough to pay for a sitter.

I do not trust him to take care of our son for long periods of time on his own. He ignores him, he doesn't feed him properly (lots of snacks but no meals), doesn't change him frequently and doesn't help with potty training. But it's been fine as the family friends he's staying with *love* our son and take care of him when he's there. He's taken care of. 

Now I've found out that my ex has just started talking to a woman two weeks ago, and is planning on moving out tomorrow and looking for an apartment with her. He hasn't told me this, I was informed by several concerned parties who begged me not to tell him that they told me, but clearly this is something I should know. His plan, apparently, is to not tell me anything and pretend he's still living there. Not sure how he intends to pull that off. He's apparently looking at places 30-60 minutes away (in bad areas to boot), but currently lives down the road from me.

Now, I've been clear before that if he's not living with someone who can be trusted to watch our son that I will cut back visitation to the minimum allowed by the divorce decree, every other weekend. I intend to follow through on that. At least I can cut down on the potential damage while I try to figure it out.

I guess my question is what the hell am I supposed to do? I don't care that he's dating, but I do care that he wants to move in with a virtual stranger with our son. No mutual friends (including his family) have met her, our son met her for the first time on Friday, am I overreacting or is this insane? And I need to talk to him about the move, he apparently doesn't intend to tell me, and I can't rat out the people who told. This is honestly frustrating and overwhelming and any advice is appreciated. And yes I'm looking at lawyers just in case, though it's not something I can afford just yet.",5.866538461538465,5.39641787606838,6.457350427350428,80.82653846153846,66.82051282051282,9.507692307692308,31.88888888888889,8.950670267944501,2.418168376068376,1818,65,377,27,26,596,215,468,0.096,0.736,0.168,0.9902,6,0,2,0,2,0,54.0,7,0,1,4,18,28,4,1,19,2,40,4,0,5,3,66,70,27,0,5,19,11,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,21,26,3,1,5,2,2,7,18,8,2,3,13,4,47,20,67,52,6,57,1,2,4,1,79,25,1,6,24,250,68,4,0.0,0.0,0.08041252509853855,0.0,0.0,0.08052234052660298,0.07304445540480622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056036227308356286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780987526334382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741944901467095,0.06336209869307857,0.06880227917208125,0.05023153168396843,0.0,0.0701180848892158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200719660540148,0.0,0.08717045463440802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17028671337406492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694272905392934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536265942206076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009115116820586,0.0,0.0903496069077528,0.1909908842458876,0.0,0.043051675961399145,0.0790475656676556,0.0,0.06911493940175299,0.06590445591939254,0.0,0.09077516051086952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055232364666656944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04528601783971066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29105011888877924,0.07292323112722021,0.20759093377525856,0.0,0.0,0.07005528571324086,0.07437107743126692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304189652578267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503214013135055,0.0,0.061100084272825685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712721385435324,0.0,0.08609261557740275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230916715032124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309087435055376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981899905653699,0.12687426503639995,0.0,0.0,0.05832460304393205,0.08782963330435517,0.06580639252359674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18701776509991688,0.07766296749997369,0.0,0.12391218993036968,0.13246331092838612,0.21606910054034328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095960675850494,0.0,0.09609860910013177,0.0,0.0,0.23621610224029976,0.0,0.05594559054671037,0.0,0.16098968062437485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860287066412351,0.0,0.19829388925545804,0.0,0.1481786982309822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998968196305966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dickiedoolittle,2019/02/11,"[Advice] 1.5 year old child getting hives only while asleep First; Ive already contacted doctor and awaiting an exam later this evening 
Second; the backstory. 1.5 year old child had an ear infection. Did 10 days of amoxicillin. It appears the ear infection is gone. On the 11th day (since beginning amoxicillin) he woke up in the morning with rash on his lower back that then spread up his back/neck. It was red with elevated white ""hives"". We gave him the proper dosage of benadryl and the hives and red areas went away. Then later that day he took a nap. He woke up with an identical rash with raised white hives on the side of his face that was in contact with the mattress. We gave him more benadryl and as he went about his normal routine the hives disappeared. Last night he slept in our bed and again he had some hives appearing on his skin wherever his body was in contact with the mattress. So basically where the most heat would build up. We didnt give him any benadryl this am and the hives cleared on their own within 20 minutes of being up and going about his normal routine. 
No history of allergies. No change in detergent for bedding or clothing. No new foods. And again, its only when he sleeps. 
Has anyone had experience with this? Was it a true allergy? 
Thanks for any help. ",4.184232804232803,6.395717370370374,4.2677131099353325,85.07518518518519,72.82716049382717,7.591534391534393,26.797766019988238,8.418075326091056,1.8976852439741323,1023,37,191,18,21,316,136,243,0.065,0.8959999999999999,0.039,-0.6868,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,4,0,1,1,9,2,0,0,17,0,15,14,10,0,2,28,31,15,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,4,2,10,18,1,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,0,2,18,7,16,2,34,11,4,49,0,0,4,0,31,20,0,5,21,119,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492774990372452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857693741702706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20776713178898212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681491448110772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352515898284648,0.23492947583978785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696844178067916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160220098750072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955570333887713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635863213330084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089802291681392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943078961489714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993948862644494,0.18472071454511904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981196863939043,0.14654346645514535,0.08681830495444487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239331357522688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452161960377815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753872935553647,0.0,0.14335701971258494,0.2993491336691543,0.0,0.0,0.3205965601391205,0.0,0.0,0.2323651440157879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636650870418709,0.0,0.1528725693229698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064295209716055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697244764420412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832242654769246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851791677706428,0.0,0.0,0.1967477561633432
parenting,disgr4ce,2019/02/11,"Dads & Dragons (TL;DR: **would people be interested in an organization that gets more dads together through** Dungeons & Dragons**?**) 

If you’re like me, becoming a father was one of the most incredible things to ever happen in my life, but not without challenges—one of which was making other dad friends and seeing fellow dads \*regularly\*.

Being a consummate nerd, it turned out the most effective way to get this going was to start a near-weekly Dungeons & Dragons game. Yes, role playing and dice rolling and everything! What’s interesting is that only 2 of us had ever played before. But after some initial rockiness (and a little embarrassment ;)), everyone’s doing well and having lots of fun.

**But it's not just fun, it's important. Ask around**—**especially any psychotherapy professionals who work with dads**—**and it's a pervasive problem that dads tend to end up relatively isolated from their previous social life (or any social life). Due in large part to cultural traditions where moms stay at home and dads work, moms can form social groups with fellow parents far more readily than dads. (As always, and of course, everyone's mileage varies and your experience may not resonate with this. Also, I just want to make it clear that stay-at-home-moms have it REALLY FUCKING ROUGH and all my solidarity with them).**

**So given all this I consider myself extremely lucky to be able to see my dad friends \*regularly\*. It's one thing to have an annual superbowl party and hang with all your friends and another to hang out with parents often enough to truly be able to** \***work through parenthood together.**\*

**The other week it occurred to me: what if there was an organization specifically dedicated to** bringing dads together **via D&D? I'm sure there'd be some** guys **who'd be pretty reluctant, but** my goal would be reach ALL dads in need of face-to-face social time and help them find ways to get together and support each other. I’d do this with a website and supporting materials that **spreads awareness of the problem and provides clear and simple steps and ideas at getting together and playing**. (There is a pretty clear potential trademark issue with the name “Dads & Dragons” but leave that to me.)

Anyway, I just figured I’d throw this out to the parent universe and see what sticks. My love to you all!

—Ted",3.1005536477411475,6.220162310096158,3.91937271062271,78.72364316239319,89.36057692307692,7.064346764346764,26.314713064713054,8.010603183788097,2.55926713980464,1875,82,301,46,63,597,224,416,0.042,0.732,0.226,0.9981,4,0,0,0,0,0,118.0,1,3,3,5,13,22,1,1,16,1,24,5,0,3,11,78,48,30,0,8,15,17,1,1,5,3,3,0,1,1,30,31,0,0,4,4,0,6,4,5,1,2,6,4,19,17,50,31,16,31,0,0,3,2,44,13,1,11,10,199,49,5,0.1530731451832646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612062694496263,0.06368455961323452,0.41463672213195657,0.0,0.1040949878264325,0.08025526970902505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813377630223932,0.07155136369533048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452863125434155,0.06512698609054325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778868605788893,0.07908273900263597,0.0,0.0,0.1384634234212126,0.0,0.14626795002813334,0.06878613633866926,0.0748674542114548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995304077182994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739589838135392,0.07075682806706396,0.15994880099435502,0.0,0.043497497989832164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07578323992851743,0.06768103837686783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051300851286462015,0.0,0.15354484544019145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864004743923183,0.0,0.07988429695983534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104117936586468,0.0,0.0,0.16218013403048376,0.037391903356661316,0.07670975261588382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506865704366926,0.06907724495124909,0.0,0.10217751304228144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26891612638573464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05675089878530541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037263247403149,0.05820951232598516,0.0,0.0,0.2549544191109106,0.08288164968218614,0.0,0.05306082258182399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573041944043528,0.0,0.146470326960569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04903128823314769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829692173962185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31207758911722955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05417298001193457,0.1631556057353188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370559115512932,0.07213481389448237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169499592750976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462909096899344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324981294961399,0.0,0.0,0.09206407312810576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045143253508763165,0.12150233767804755,0.12278604383623302,0.0,0.0688155704327303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377852476437143,0.0,0.1671586091786653,0.0,0.0,0.1087387704551,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,viewer9,2019/02/11,"A 5-year-old boy at home with absolutely no interest in eating food. I have a 5-year-old boy here who has no interest in eating food. He has not shown interest in eating any particular kind of food. He sits on the dining table and needs a company to help him get started. He is able to eat by himself now but gets lost in between, stares blank at something or plays with any object nearby, reminding me of Calvin.

He is otherwise very active and likes to play a lot. He is fun to be with all the time unless he is eating something. My wife and I struggle a lot to feed him but nothing seems to be working. Any suggestions would help.",4.148333333333333,5.278564468253972,5.228730158730159,82.51071428571429,70.98412698412699,8.457142857142857,27.49206349206349,8.841846274778883,2.028577777777778,497,17,99,9,9,164,78,126,0.066,0.7240000000000001,0.21,0.9664,0,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,2,10,0,1,7,0,10,10,0,0,1,17,16,7,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,6,10,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,7,8,21,12,3,11,0,1,1,0,16,7,0,4,4,60,8,1,0.12110678645105465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24707030314614264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6196123844090572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4393284206896373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654659484479844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623506522732929,0.0,0.1214799812542068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611408167436755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059166658519913214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322023635741825,0.2059213180420392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979914761493793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620522786787983,0.0,0.25416240005222857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025106993224094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646784190455806,0.0,0.0,0.0857200067832655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660710830108982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061834109458795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992578215083844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816718291123299,0.0,0.0,0.08603078637137593,0.0,0.0,0.15597759966503155
parenting,hallo_its_me,2019/02/11,"My son and daughter finding out we are having another baby [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AskuBm9FhDc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AskuBm9FhDc)

The backstory to this is, my wife has had 3 back to back miscarriages for the past year and we weren't really sure if she was going to be able to get pregnant again. Our kids have been asking about another baby for a long time. The reaction my son had especially was so awesome. I love seeing them so excited! ",8.923153153153155,11.994056810810815,6.760540540540539,68.55990990990989,61.97297297297297,9.798198198198197,28.54954954954956,10.125756701596842,3.21334954954955,380,12,55,9,6,110,57,74,0.027000000000000003,0.805,0.16899999999999998,0.9279,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,0,1,8,17,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,9,3,8,10,0,9,0,0,1,1,12,1,0,1,7,42,10,0,0.2559401759063584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367511805456988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23926951508833103,0.0,0.0,0.3936043940555196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339246840311768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337181783698725,0.0,0.14545670011125178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264990017094834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23099600132711195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24432385813717056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639618304083708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395118351108693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412205868641772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924077478737074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648170819554104
parenting,MissPandaNana,2019/02/11,"2 weeks till I'm due to give birth, my abusive ex now wants to talk This is my first time posting on this subreddit and I hope it's appropriate.

Backstory: My ex was a drug addict and abusive. We were living together with him supporting me financially as I was a full time student. However I couldn't take his bad habits anymore so I asked for a break. It was around this time he impregnated me. I think he believed that I would change my mind and stay with him. 

After our lease was up, I was finally able to leave him completely. However he broke into my new place and attacked me, under the influence of drugs, knowing full well I'm already 4 weeks pregnant. I escaped and threatened him with a restraining order, which I never followed through with.

He's left me alone my entire pregnancy. However now that I am due in two weeks. he's begun to text me asking to talk about what to do with our child. I feel he should be able to have relationship with his son, but I am afraid. He has physically hurt me and my dog, what will stop him from hurting my son?

He knows when I'm due but not which hospital I will be in so he can't sign as the father. Is this enough legally for him not to fight me for custody if ever he decides to? I am at a loss. Any advice would really help.",2.367577639751552,4.251179432432431,3.9276078563035095,86.96042974651671,77.06949806949807,7.438710760449891,25.16048346483129,8.321376580360154,1.5787440322309894,999,36,210,19,23,332,147,259,0.11,0.8290000000000001,0.062,-0.9072,4,1,2,1,1,0,26.0,3,0,0,2,9,11,2,1,7,0,23,3,0,1,2,38,38,15,0,7,5,5,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,12,15,0,2,5,0,0,1,5,8,1,2,6,1,40,3,34,24,3,39,0,4,0,0,35,12,0,2,22,140,52,2,0.23616422899727715,0.2798159935012651,0.0,0.12872693437824367,0.0,0.11538847565703368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229745891813185,0.13030654964703434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029988706731715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710572797196625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511811676585643,0.2207816742849408,0.13433545212973552,0.0,0.0,0.09859363331314552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303810687963358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491522000992793,0.0,0.12380685044557993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738755284564234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201038961595932,0.0,0.0,0.10681203289265556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597058650610702,0.0,0.0,0.1293531846251006,0.0,0.1004405862702658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132751239859526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914795228429032,0.0,0.0,0.11728218331930587,0.0,0.0,0.25281869160634823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978968402874602,0.0,0.0,0.12503190954269314,0.12829656290637484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426867046692223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922927421663655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107220623280107,0.11404444199901413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337067715414292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309002477842788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564642621317591,0.0,0.0,0.12677599997381825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585982273028354,0.0,0.09872193508794312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399818419668946,0.0,0.0,0.08878305460250753,0.189819861526012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075662251023919,0.0,0.0,0.20656389166609987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534906786286248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964789053338966,0.0,0.28415504894238114,0.0,0.1061700020261318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677642923969148,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kcazdaddy,2019/02/11,"Potty Training My wife and I share a 1 year old daughter and a 3 year old son. Neither kid is potty trained. Today after changing a heavy pee diaper on the girl, she tears off her pants and diaper and runs to my sons training potty. She sits a bit gets up and checks sits back down, repeat. She eventually gets bored and walks off. I attempt to diaper her again and she refuses and runs off. I let her go without thinking she wants to try let her. She runs over to the cats litter box and shits in the floor. Meanwhile our son attends daycare in a class of 2 year olds when he’s almost 4 because he needs to be diaper free to move up to the next class with his friends. He refuses to use the potty. Seems to get it, will pee on occasion if he knows one of us is going shopping and there might be a toy in it for him. Never poops on the potty. If you just make him go without a diaper he will hold it literally all day till bedtime or nap time, when he knows he’ll get diapered and immediately uses the diaper. I feel like we’ve tried it all with him but I’d love to hear some recommendations.

TLDR; 1 year old girl uses litter box, 4 year old boy refuses to go into anything but a diaper. Feeling like a failure as a parent. Need help!",2.71370588235294,4.060651145098042,4.606813725490195,84.7431617647059,74.80392156862746,7.609803921568627,24.122549019607845,8.238735603445708,1.3427607843137253,962,29,203,16,20,329,140,255,0.038,0.8740000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.9134,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,1,6,8,1,0,17,0,9,5,4,4,3,45,33,20,0,5,8,6,2,2,1,4,0,1,0,4,4,14,0,4,6,3,3,10,4,2,0,1,0,3,23,7,35,25,5,49,0,0,0,1,42,15,1,7,24,116,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482173504790508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614258594561328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049233258674776,0.0,0.06381185658374372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428326936097112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073738671691502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750983444383493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585854098500083,0.14956659188679852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087538182841338,0.0,0.21876357578922007,0.0,0.2379678531876191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798178336888855,0.0,0.0701646876918666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505860079352352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21408444971274904,0.0,0.10228256083216107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447763920241216,0.0,0.06987460355882269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104876385931052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112580995910986,0.0,0.1552375443935172,0.08073554303441001,0.0,0.111328193434176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.549219395579031,0.0,0.07093376618830037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623457014834535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529659143552917,0.0,0.0,0.10745234763587032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707461229177764,0.0,0.0,0.061039654338790335,0.0,0.09922424488678884,0.0,0.0,0.1421414749173936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591695413793982,0.27122930599678285,0.0,0.0,0.06174287958985589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20181525330067385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33705191245555194
parenting,LordSn00ty,2019/02/11,"2 y.o. 'wants in' on all conversations First time poster here.  

We have the best 2 year old, who I love to bits.  She's reached the stage where trying to have a conversation with another adult is nearly impossible, as she wants my attention.  Starting a conversation often results in daddydaddydaddydaddy! Etc. 

I've tried a few things: from explaining that i'm having a conversation and she needs to wait; to asking what she wants; to attempts to include her in the conversation. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. 

My question isn't why this is happening - that's pretty clear. My question is rather what technique or techniques work well in handling this stage. 

Thanks in advance. ",5.020757575757578,7.9915157520661175,5.116053719008266,76.34256542699728,73.29752066115702,7.669696969696971,29.918044077134986,8.59863814320734,2.6563052341597797,550,24,92,11,12,172,81,121,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,6,5,4,0,0,7,0,8,1,0,1,2,18,20,3,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,10,4,16,20,5,16,0,0,0,1,18,8,0,4,5,63,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18921564807466745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686946876052391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936922991820648,0.0,0.1970026745776979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20124741765891366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348912792356034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956972776088446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286152570481374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13380003744818106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18935000803532556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358066919590765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042865134644827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35693572394448464,0.0,0.12772214906582646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613243821551324,0.0,0.0,0.1198817512553356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522078364820148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450249357033913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192990316958238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224458286996102,0.0,0.1628264136189516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627368452495474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162027103294406
parenting,misledmonkey,2019/02/11,"Toddler stressed out, help! Tldr: My toddler is dealing with a lot of big changes and is stressed out and it's affecting potty training. How do I help my LO cope?

Timeline of events:

January 2018: potty training, went well, toddler in panties

March 2018: I'm pregnant, toddler seems to react fine, we start house hunting

August 2018: Put an offer on a house, was accepted. The same day, our cat sneaks out and runs away. LO is really upset, and accidents start happening

October 2018: We move into a new house, LO still having accidents, cat is still lost

November 2018: LO turns 3, accidents when going out, but stays dry at home, stays dry at night. Still no cat

December 2018: Baby sister is born, LO starts acting out and throwing major tantrums. LO is never dry, throws tantrums when asked to use the potty, wets the bed. No sign of the cat, but LO starts asking for him

January 2019: camping trip at cabin, LO has lots of fun, only 2 accidents and stays dry at night during the trip. Never dry once we're home again.

February 2019: Back to business as usual. LO doesn't fight when asked to potty, but rarely does stays dry, wets the bed at night, throws massive tantrums. No sign of the cat, although LO asks about him every day, and makes up stories of playing with him in the house and periodically tells me she is sad about missing her kitty. She's been good with her sister although I know she's jealous. She never acts violently towards her sister and only wants to hug, kiss and play with her usually. She asks us to do things for her that she could do previously, such as putting on pants, taking off pants, putting on and taking off shoes. When we tell her no, she knows how to do those things, she throws a massive tantrum. She's also started doing baby talk, even though she's been able to speak very clearly and in full sentences well before her 2nd birthday.

I don't know what to do! I am going to pull my hair out over the potty training, I am so frustrated! I am not the best at coping with stress myself, so I have no idea how to help her cope. I also thought she would have forgotten about the cat by now, but she asks about him every day. I've told her that he isn't coming home, but she insists we got out and look for him, or buy him toys anytime we pass the pet aisle in the store. 

My heart breaks for her! How do I help her understand that he is gone and isn't coming back? How do I help her cope with the stress of a new house and a new sibling? And how the hell do I get her to stop peeing in her clothes? I am so sick of all the laundry! She goes through about 12 pairs of panties and pants a day. I cannot keep up! Please help!
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parenting,FamilyEvolvedDotCom,2019/02/11,"Have you ever read a parenting book? If so, which ones and how many? I started a blog last year about raising happier families. One of my main topics is parenting and I realized I had never read a single parenting book and was parenting off instinct.

Since then, I have read several books and have been quite enlightened.

I'm curious, how many parenting books have you read and which ones did you find most enlightening?

...it's wild how many of us (including myself) feel our way through parenting and don't research our methods and their positive and negative effects on our children. With over 30 years of psychological research done on parenting and the effects of our methods on our children, there's an abundance of information out there! I'd love to hear about others go-to resources!",5.476305361305361,7.867293034965037,5.8910664335664364,74.05147144522147,69.6993006993007,10.08135198135198,34.993589743589745,10.317481424215053,4.28047365967366,636,33,105,19,12,204,88,143,0.025,0.8270000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.96,7,0,2,0,1,0,19.0,6,3,1,3,9,1,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,5,2,26,16,15,0,1,1,7,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,11,0,0,8,9,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,2,16,1,16,11,3,14,0,0,0,1,22,6,0,2,7,78,20,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003653694533514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842431534733436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215400666719857,0.0,0.04942748581099688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934561321507241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05555599282523183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017614392112436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968276055290073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822702689233881,0.0,0.0,0.29732239803516003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539410369054403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987224283937315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7598116806272798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397367731414377,0.3911228133640649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043447746670257,0.0,0.08086332547730747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919096104258655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758632616897324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759277328857404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590106355481825
parenting,ThrowAwayMom853,2019/02/11,"Their life wouldn’t change at all without me? I don’t want this connected to my actual account. I just would like some honest feedback. I am purposefully being as vague as possible. 

I am an attorney. My husband is a stay at home dad. We have two children (ages 11 and 8). They go to a small private school and it was a special week at school. The entire school worked on a project about family. One of the questions was, “ How would your life change without your mom?” My youngest said, “I can’t think of anything because my dad does everything for us”. My oldest said, “We would have more fun because mom is stressed all of the time.”

I feel like a failure as a mother. I love my kids so much and they are telling me that their lives wouldn’t change without me. My husband immediately jumped to my defense talking about their lives would definitely change as I provide a house, food, education, vacation, and etc and my kids agreed those things were important and thanked me. It did seem to click with them, but here it is a couple of weeks later and I still feel sad. 

After reflecting, there is a distinct difference between my relationship with my children and the one they have with their father. I also remember my dad, an attorney himself, working all of the time and not really feeling connected to him the way I did my mom. 

I go to all of their weekend sporting events (their dad coaches them). We are very religious and attend services on a weekly basis and participate in activities. What do other parents with time consuming careers do to connect more with their children? How do you have the energy and patience to parent after a long day at work? Please help. ",4.635000000000002,6.5426401687898075,5.054259872611468,81.19679108280258,70.87898089171975,8.081324840764331,31.031337579617833,8.726425361277474,2.5899683057324845,1319,58,241,24,25,419,167,314,0.039,0.862,0.099,0.9362,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,4,3,12,3,10,10,1,1,20,0,29,4,0,2,5,50,41,21,0,7,6,13,3,2,0,6,2,2,1,5,9,20,1,1,8,3,1,4,8,3,0,3,7,6,50,7,39,27,9,30,0,1,1,1,47,8,0,3,18,181,59,10,0.0,0.0,0.0875184454023085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717200972511164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380212048682655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934081619177058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37949424745794985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923341168232212,0.0,0.05783862744514395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370047597336048,0.0,0.0,0.07848289205045189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002113658015366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060201074332969,0.0,0.08454589884800294,0.0,0.13604046205323864,0.06407011998805473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844599907648644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101938733207013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060113156322298626,0.0,0.08996015723880559,0.0,0.0,0.10348305650944772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669263121199648,0.08762994279045934,0.0,0.15838486546771785,0.0793673350531749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094312511270073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151097250364465,0.0,0.0,0.06592790736379017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154411900563378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991664786157844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844587371295274,0.0,0.10110500192101372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046637380778864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745373459369271,0.0,0.0,0.09628683098418576,0.1015942552120957,0.0,0.17061964997978202,0.0,0.0,0.2722943609996061,0.0,0.08164475730446727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559099105061787,0.07162159332941971,0.0,0.10273248243149057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208443604456385,0.07838758848240512,0.08256878764681035,0.0,0.0,0.0595819273373262,0.05746575359474726,0.0,0.0,0.15688602360381276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760803467366493,0.0,0.10787856109276324,0.0,0.0,0.0739985220749181,0.05289782502664951,0.07118682083441992,0.21581678848101013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593559296486542,0.0,0.19587260936597453,0.0,0.0,0.2548351749627574,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Crazy4Cabins,2019/02/11,"Separating my kids I have recently had to make the decision to separate my kids by sending my younger son to live with his dad, my ex.  This is due to their constant fighting. My ex thinks that the younger one is developing anger issues and anxiety due to the older brother's constant annoying behavior.  This one has ADHD and is on meds, but that doesn't fix the problem, it just puts a bandaid on it. And it doesn't help if the pill has worn off, or hasn't kicked in yet etc.  
So, I am really struggling with this because I feel like a failure.  I have been raising the two boys on my own for over 4 years and it's been hard, but I've been making it so far.  But the younger one has been having issues at school not to mention being mad at his older brother all the time.
I just feel like it's ""losing"" my son and I've been crying ever since...2 days now.  I am also sad because his dad's house isn't exactly set up to have our son stay there, and he's not the best dad, I hate to even say that.  He's always at the bars and having people stay at his house etc.  I hope he can see that he needs to quit doing some of that stuff and focus on our son.  Dad is 44 yrs old, so it's not due to age that he goes out all the time. ",4.188795944233206,3.549502429657797,5.381079847908744,87.71167046894804,70.33079847908746,8.534245880861851,27.419264892268696,7.793537801064563,1.3018585044359954,941,26,223,10,15,315,134,263,0.16399999999999998,0.7879999999999999,0.047,-0.9856,0,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,2,0,1,3,11,13,5,1,13,0,27,3,0,2,4,35,37,17,0,4,10,12,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,3,17,11,1,0,4,1,0,2,7,9,0,4,7,5,22,4,28,29,7,36,0,2,1,0,32,14,0,4,19,145,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079129692938256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033880570723472,0.10440160315345216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959846772601661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529714449957157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167366981337822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711783217275456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137823579237646,0.08091816692985722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798658053904578,0.08287215805014396,0.11349535484803552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268834261103373,0.17927246525089088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239702634942994,0.12387625632617848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410030861437323,0.0,0.0,0.12462063170873552,0.0,0.289552488049105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26191744812380163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259720971935975,0.0,0.11079285201948376,0.0,0.0,0.14036952435663433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750521998789322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936956824936705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303487139689527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316603043058945,0.0,0.2550664083540433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698552641058238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005843364516156,0.0,0.12613262357175156,0.0,0.1334534438323997,0.0,0.0,0.08037968900637299,0.0,0.12388709570007997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997792692915086,0.0,0.12698296121867858,0.0999838356419442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674699629814197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311691296807509,0.14363383591261555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039650398931125,0.0,0.0,0.14632584955414818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256655953400444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079896252388642
parenting,mooburpcow,2019/02/11,"How do you know when your toddler is ready to be potty trained? My son turned 2 in December. He recently learned how to take off his diaper. We took that as a sign he was ready to be potty trained. 

My husband started trying to potty train our son on Saturday. He had a couple of accidents, and he also peed in the toilet! We've been very patient and proud. 

However, during this same time frame, my son has been behaving strangely. He's been sleeping A LOT more. On Saturday, he napped from 1:45 pm to 6:30 pm. 

He also seems to be holding it in when he needs to go. We put diapers on him for naps, and he keeps dirtying his diapers. 

He's telling us he wants to wear diapers. 

Long story short, he seems to be uncomfortable. Should we give up for now or just keep trying? ",1.9622294372294355,4.111285915584419,3.5854285714285723,87.64290476190477,79.45454545454545,7.223549783549784,25.201731601731602,8.238735603445708,1.6747035497835498,597,23,123,12,15,198,99,154,0.045,0.897,0.057,0.4434,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,2,0,1,8,1,0,0,4,0,13,2,2,2,0,23,26,11,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,3,4,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,13,1,22,15,3,21,0,0,0,0,28,9,0,4,9,70,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31517003261479165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180378917145687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903335655895734,0.1119910426120648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503035297454916,0.0,0.0,0.10829641476147456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438769979406896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675293311213166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611397477675106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980949583996885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456829148570748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587834067260017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971975660460994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947672379586698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816102800426387,0.0,0.17223497851719605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490450392375652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893563901650304,0.2675751663291262,0.2143395317051573,0.0,0.0,0.2370332091087184,0.0,0.0,0.16259122275127202,0.11622829498213735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mejorcallate,2019/02/11,"A failure by their standards Not sure if this is the right place but here goes.  

Yesterday, while out to dinner with my children they begin to tell me how my sister is a better cook and baker and how my brother is a better provider.  They start to go into detail on what I lack. I just sit there and listen and suddenly my body betrays me as hot tears slowly escape. The kids stop talking. I quickly wipe away my tears and silently inhale my food. After five minutes they apologized and said they were just joking around. I remained silent the rest of the evening going over and over what was said. 

Is my sister a wonderful cook? Yes. Does my brother  provide better for his family? Yes. Then why am I upset? Because I work hard to provide for my children. They don’t have iPhones and iPads but they have a phone and a tablet. I have been a single mom for 10+ years (recently remarried) with no help from their father. I don’t complain I just do what I need to do to provide a stable home. I have a good job and I buy them all of what they need and some of what they want. It just hurts to hear what a sucky parent you are when you giving it all you got. 

This morning I tell them that what happened last night was unacceptable and that they hurt my feelings. I told them I know I’m not a perfect parent but I try. That they may be lacking in materialistic things by their standards but they are not lacking in anything that’s of any worth like love and respect. I told them that what happened last is the first and last time they “joke” like that with me. I know it’s wrong to censor how they feel but my heart can’t take it. I know people might say chill out stop being so uptight but I truly believe that with every joke like that there is some truth on how that person truly feels. Thanks for letting me vent. ",2.322996121525531,4.4057361153846175,3.075953458306401,92.07787007110537,77.95604395604396,5.27136393018746,21.96961861667744,6.068283710208149,0.21321034259857768,1422,41,294,9,34,447,186,364,0.15,0.644,0.205,0.9777,3,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,0,3,20,6,16,22,0,2,16,2,27,7,2,4,5,68,55,30,0,7,14,8,5,3,0,2,0,5,1,4,24,22,4,3,8,5,2,2,7,6,0,2,9,11,59,16,36,41,9,35,0,2,0,1,52,13,0,6,22,215,83,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274864840486997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803370624445045,0.0952330220734998,0.0,0.0,0.10050926956724597,0.0,0.0,0.06521274205714005,0.0,0.0,0.12052747289323595,0.0,0.283839808370503,0.0,0.11882834348744625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361709146578866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065790176452788,0.0,0.09013350455148557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084925438811264,0.0,0.1622737394908839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099535706730234,0.12935811550007487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262296086374108,0.1215960250854774,0.08972799682594318,0.08556000862818927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920042808458865,0.0,0.09583119630621564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205718814367917,0.12676934047785465,0.07170503923459175,0.0,0.1073075679103176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290441341521549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615907042881624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17637678771710394,0.2616038286333202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939216271854166,0.0,0.1567920120237661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965517420322796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113486658765643,0.0,0.12529123727811062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864553207024618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003915232755204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375726219862915,0.0,0.0,0.07416501421787215,0.0934089861916649,0.11176914866933108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562778192130973,0.0,0.0,0.09135855209949464,0.20352098349981906,0.08507312918616028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571951653433112,0.0,0.0,0.17887664871908066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082541577334032,0.0,0.08043407605509581,0.08598479319678526,0.18700682018757664,0.0984908881846718,0.0,0.0,0.07107137104046518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06237968062296725,0.0,0.0,0.20444395819019026,0.0,0.07263097984968242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309834404009604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653092598599912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601298189830045,0.07788119383975373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696355280212642,0.0,0.0688902677450985
parenting,QueenOfHelots,2019/02/11,"Teenager Caught Having Cybersex Online Hi, everyone.

I'm asking this question on behalf of my mother-in-law, who isn't on Reddit. She knows I'm a reddit-user and asked me to make this, so I hope that's okay. My husband and I are also very involved with the kids mentioned here.

My brother-in-law is fourteen years old and on the autism spectrum.  He's really big into gaming, especially online. He used to have unrestricted internet access in his room, including a smartphone and a personal laptop. 

A few months ago, my mother-in-law discovered him chatting on a gaming-related Discord server. The chat was mostly about video games, but it would occasionally veer into explicit sexual content. These guys on Discord  -- we don't know who they were or how old they were -- were basically having very detailed cybersex with each other. My fourteen-year-old brother in law was participating and contributing to these explicit discussions. The cybersex also had a bit of a BDSM tilt to it. These men were giving sexually explicit orders to my teenage brother-in-law and he would comply with them. We do not know if they were aware he was a minor. I have nothing against BDSM, but I think we can all agree that a minor should not be participating in it. 

After finding out, my MIL immediately took away his laptop and his phone. He was grounded for several weeks before he earned them back. During that time, he told us that he learned his lesson and he realized that what he was doing was dangerous. These men were potentially a lot older than him and they were taking advantage of him. We eventually gave him his phone and laptop back after he started earning good grades and promising that he wouldn't chat with those guys on Discord again.

However... just yesterday, we discovered that he was sexually chatting with the very same guys on the very same Discord server. 

My MIL is at a loss. She doesn't want to restrict his internet access because he genuinely needs it for school. He struggled with school during the period where he lost his laptop. He uses it for studying and looks up YouTube guides for things he doesn't understand. He's a smart kid, but he has trouble listening and participating in class due to his autism. My husband used to tutor him after school, but that's becoming difficult due to my husband's demanding work schedule. The family also struggles financially, so hiring a tutor might be out of reach.

Are there any options for us? We don't want him to struggle in school. Yet at the same time, we can't let him keep having sexually explicit discussions on the internet when he's a minor. My brother-in-law is also EXTREMELY tech-savvy and we worry that he could find ways around parental controls if we implemented them. He managed to get internet access while he was grounded on his phone even after my MIL changed all the WiFi passwords. We've tried explaining to him logically that what he's doing is dangerous and potentially illegal, but we obviously couldn't get through to him. 

The family has a desktop computer in the kitchen, but I'm not sure if it's working. Brother-in-law has difficulty studying downstairs in family spaces, too, because he's really sensitive to noise and other stimuli. Cooking smells, talking, and TV noise all make it too difficult for him to focus.

Please help. The whole family's in desperate need for advice on this.

TL;DR -- 14 year old tech-savvy brother-in-law on the spectrum got caught having cybersex with strangers (potentially adults). We've thought about confiscating his laptop, but he needs it for school and studying. Grades suffered when we confiscated it last time. Family facing financial difficulty, so hiring a tutor or buying expensive parental control programs is not an option unless it's free.",6.9890006478782,8.220538680758017,7.350085519922255,69.51815711046326,64.52478134110787,10.470955620343377,34.77797214123744,10.504223727775694,4.001480440557175,3029,134,487,75,45,988,294,686,0.112,0.838,0.05,-0.992,3,0,0,0,0,0,98.0,13,0,7,10,24,19,2,3,32,1,52,3,1,8,9,114,90,42,0,15,18,6,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,9,35,42,2,4,14,9,3,3,12,11,0,0,24,3,59,9,72,56,12,69,0,3,1,0,110,34,0,12,30,317,94,26,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782663579778987,0.061527765355415535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220285655256517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720117120627359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061789604040000036,0.12977793603115456,0.0,0.06521296745278769,0.10674399088087122,0.0,0.08462336744839287,0.07665787717504327,0.05906278649523492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577772857654831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342656261789103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569840453527348,0.05541822653233757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045844641672274415,0.0,0.0,0.06632421690447114,0.0,0.0,0.32716779120804146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687894096788202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252770664194885,0.06658438406258957,0.0,0.058217803808624416,0.055513507181517034,0.0,0.0,0.20618039871793412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652405106454127,0.0,0.0,0.06893977832944262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061694785480307185,0.0,0.0,0.1144377405819994,0.05657840328440336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709764141921401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05828690757544387,0.0,0.07576919990964649,0.059009888668254275,0.0,0.0,0.0926634103571184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363302724489483,0.0,0.0,0.055402389268422086,0.0,0.0,0.15439987720493736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660075434980252,0.0,0.29133642059684994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414315248704452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606061232216937,0.0,0.07619132209858416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775507045816224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893162980011532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512330614120241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841352833735374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491287459211953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217687166238855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541809114274308,0.0,0.05218767190787912,0.05578911820093413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04611291104235859,0.04447511690070139,0.0,0.05510377636292268,0.12142056448213982,0.0,0.0,0.06632421690447114,0.07711704927969522,0.04712482485839243,0.0,0.0,0.07225824415245143,0.25047500374824955,0.17984382881899666,0.0,0.2290820333077085,0.0818796171522975,0.055094416767372006,0.05567650467973232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749377150903891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101062594145271,0.07048921085486609,0.0,0.09861372633174094,0.0,0.0,0.13409326744542285
parenting,bobofisting,2019/02/11,"Bi-Polar co-parent advice / insights on whats going on? I co-parent with a bi-polar ex (our child’s mom). Not sure if this is the right sub but trying to better understand the disease as things turned back to scary yesterday after a long stable period. Trying to understand what I should do to keep my child insulated from the recent events.

Ex was diagnosed BP type II severe with psychotic features. We’ve had numerous scary incidents over the years and I went from little custody to primary custody - she has been hospitalized multiple times.  She’s been working hard to keep it together to try to gain more time and we’ve had no major incidents for almost a year.

Over the past two weeks I’ve observed the following:

- Oversharing via text - bizarre text strings , appears her phone was taken away by her family as txts are no longer delivered.
- Has brought back a shady character from the past into her life (2 yr break after claiming in court docs they separated due to physical abuse) and is telling other parents and my child that they plan to get married. Has also encouraged our child to call him dad since his overnight re-emergence.
- Has been reliant on her family to drive her anywhere including school pickups dropoffs on the limited days she has our child.
- Has broken out with cystic acne all over her face (have not seen it before) not sure if this is symptomatic of treatment or drugs? But worth mentioning because never seen this before
- Made disparaging remarks about me in front of our child at an exchange.
- Attempted to push me down the stairs yesterday in front of our child at pickup (this made me sick to my stomach).

I considered filing a police report when she tried to push me down the stairs but there is so clearly something wrong right now i’m not sure if that benefits anyone.  

So my question is this - Her family is clearly aware something is going on and is staying with her (they would never share any details with me).  Our order states I need to be notified if she is hospitalized again but given her desire for more time I could see them either not telling me or not going to avoid future custody issues.

What type of cycle would she possibly be in? Would this pose a danger to our child? Really not sure who to notify in this situation since it seems like her family is trying to get a handle on it. I understand BP is mania and depression seems like she is under a trance state right now, but definitely not a happy or euphoric state....

Thanks in advance.",5.532839756592292,7.172594413793108,5.855628803245442,77.38754563894527,68.22413793103448,9.165720081135902,29.379817444219064,9.5536054971066,2.8232753042596346,1984,73,343,43,34,634,245,464,0.138,0.764,0.098,-0.9682,3,1,3,0,1,0,53.0,7,0,4,7,13,16,1,1,20,0,35,6,2,2,9,65,62,24,0,11,21,5,1,2,0,4,4,0,0,8,19,13,0,4,7,0,2,13,12,4,0,1,15,4,47,12,63,40,5,75,0,1,3,0,52,29,0,12,29,229,66,5,0.0,0.10138965861588274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362065376381601,0.0,0.0,0.08568869984629045,0.0,0.0,0.06843245866877506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058192371599462674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983442272440391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039837017035502,0.13160025110825446,0.0,0.05216432472654657,0.0,0.14563213291510946,0.0,0.0,0.07568210070145613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737929608309361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832283922913251,0.0,0.0,0.05518731337242967,0.0,0.07370364262191402,0.08685449097978183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923716648925468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32268130971840464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941640955731504,0.0,0.14589881527581766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109373222529492,0.0766563325717958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931566813571683,0.0,0.15212189827789674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06044252992781849,0.08361299925680019,0.08576632790369289,0.0,0.07572914822829065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619419189046534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022171404845216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345107405602486,0.13199788595067882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501835844114097,0.0,0.1633776531369406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647036368259378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09586101018701812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482006395199705,0.0,0.08449271940535988,0.0,0.0,0.21923585918635866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660414267427674,0.06819036415558619,0.15580434756516331,0.0,0.09667279567049812,0.0,0.14157324633444734,0.09618730211684408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175609301424024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120911424972768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32260503473270163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958862618897625,0.07878384671157511,0.0,0.0,0.056850700657047226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969439163454654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904912367253595,0.09307852667848718,0.08359209540481856,0.2672526011993497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864125967390358,0.0,0.0,0.07932675183367033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06229794603619525,0.0,0.0,0.1823651763563124,0.09356031593020056,0.0,0.11021202862487504
parenting,Shamrock1423,2019/02/11,"Best kind of diapers for a newborn? Hi guys, sorry if this is the wrong flair for this, but here's the deal: My best friend and his wife are expecting a baby, she just got pregnant a couple weeks ago. I'd like to get them a ton of diapers to help them out, but I'm gonna be enlisting in a few months and I know absolutely nothing about parenting. 

Is there any particular diapers that I should look for? Does the sex matter? And would this be a bad gift so early in the pregnancy?

Thanks!",1.4680000000000002,3.583901800000003,3.414000000000001,88.397,81.0,7.6,22.0,8.548686976883017,1.3807999999999998,380,12,83,9,10,128,73,100,0.069,0.672,0.258,0.974,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,2,5,8,0,0,10,0,7,1,0,0,0,13,14,7,0,4,4,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,6,11,8,4,7,0,0,1,1,12,3,0,1,5,53,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893856346116684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528763903055228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783867540872434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44841977983182735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363969158479245,0.0,0.0,0.2202612105925439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696438339686305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506354300494072,0.0,0.11162201056685553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087343781071748,0.0,0.0,0.21154463317021202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320342831674598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224810138044447,0.11741508893561572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437738590461564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941010724120987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053141114411174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050005563389602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372302860844323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391609056523432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19669793080877596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17137515251563645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517690674679633,0.2335900227956497,0.0,0.0
parenting,CaroRep,2019/02/11,"Parents: How do you handle adults that not only only allow their kids to be bullies, but also actively bully kids themselves? Long story short we have some neighbors that we were previously friends with, but had some falling out with and ended up disinviting the husband from an annual holiday party we host. Their kids play with our kids, and we wanted to to maintain good relationships there so we've made sure there was not talking about these folks in front of our kids to avoid any inadvertent loose lips. They're routinely in our yard and house playing. 

There's been some previous concern with these kids bullying our oldest at times, we've tried to address it by giving her advice on how to self handle, but she doesn't want to lose her other friends in the neighborhood so generally she's let it go. Mind you all these kids are under 9 years old. 

However in the past month or so the parents seem to be actively encouraging bullying. Specifically by inviting all the neighborhood kids over for play events or birthday parties and actively excluding ours, and going out of their way to communicate (through their kids) that ours aren't invited. This of course is very hard for our kids to understand and has resulted in some very upset kids, considering that the other 20 or so kids in the neighborhood are literally playing right in front of our house. 

We've tried to remain very passive, communicating only directly to these parents via instant messages and text. We're also trying to keep other neighbors out of the middle as it's not fair for them, but adults actively going out of their way to hurt our kids has us pretty emotional. 

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How have others handled similar situations? 

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parenting,threecorneredhat,2019/02/11,"New discovery. An honest, introspective parenting blog Thought some of you here might enjoy it.

[https://thismodern.life](https://thismodern.life)",18.327916666666667,24.95540762500001,9.352500000000003,37.50916666666669,66.5,12.133333333333333,36.583333333333336,9.725611199111238,6.8636083333333335,126,5,10,4,3,31,16,16,0.0,0.6829999999999999,0.317,0.7579,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,7,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359562702732253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5045753786832665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593728925888375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5281382719666431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37760241382887694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wanttothrowawaythev,2019/02/11,"Would you leave your SO, if you had one child already, and one of you wanted to have more kids but the other did not? This is just a hypothetical situation that my friend and I were talking about. Neither of us are married or have kids, but  we had different opinions and were wondering how others who did have kids felt about it.  ",8.371041666666663,6.699186937500002,8.033125000000002,75.46604166666668,62.4375,11.033333333333333,35.39583333333333,9.725611199111238,3.068339583333333,260,9,52,4,3,83,49,64,0.017,0.917,0.066,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,4,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,1,0,16,15,9,0,3,6,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,7,1,8,1,5,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,4,0,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163141073563469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29947754524746506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752191245863934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214571706488848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035101225931095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884690448042292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32219510450502165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23039018460601374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447923431047942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906755940508564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108485968568088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036206642702976,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,t-seneque,2019/02/11,"Cool little shop Hey guys I know we’re not meant to share links but this page has some adorable things I couldn’t not share and they have 30% with the code SALE https://mybabyandbump.com.au 
And it’s Australian owned ! ",3.5294999999999987,6.666122950000003,1.1000000000000014,101.425,82.0,4.2,15.5,5.6839178017228535,-1.1056500000000002,178,3,37,1,5,46,36,40,0.092,0.7559999999999999,0.152,0.5371,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,11,5,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,4,2,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5994525152957144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327182984571025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6067813173028478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022084642939188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TigerTotHotdish31,2019/02/11,So my daughter has wierd looking bumps on her.......where do I take her in? So my 2 yr old daughter has strange looking bumps on her vag and at first I thought they were diaper rash related but it seems to be getting worse. The thing is we older girls usually go to a gynochologist for stuff like this. Do I take her to her pediatrician first or should I take her straight to a gynochologist?  Or should this be a dermotologist issue? Im a first time mom and I'm so confused on what to do. Nobody I know has done anything to her that i know of...and theres a family history of boils and skin conditions down there....and wow this feels uncomfortable asking. ,2.5368205128205155,4.6256294769230815,4.247307692307693,83.90685897435898,77.30769230769229,7.717948717948719,25.448717948717945,8.59863814320734,1.752641025641025,512,19,108,11,12,172,79,130,0.118,0.799,0.083,-0.5464,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,1,3,4,3,0,1,6,0,13,3,2,0,0,15,27,9,0,2,3,3,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,4,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,4,16,2,14,20,0,15,0,0,2,0,13,7,0,4,8,70,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843057106232738,0.0,0.1686232259040231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845829109035124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003842117553836,0.0,0.09120136990169272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4602723226038723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423678812745301,0.0,0.1025094149292633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194832428140868,0.18826123160698716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825517929305608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812051987631345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029336629604449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21124919864961225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926979641816344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642036552745165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648248555448254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40685129654465135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983096747541297,0.0,0.0,0.1431950116324749,0.10517621048286048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19865398581845486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183814209813682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kefte8,2019/02/11,"Anyone else's kids cry before falling asleep? My 1 year old seems to just always cry for 5-10 minutes before falling asleep (eyes are closed at this stage too!)

Is this just them fighting the sleep? Did anyone else go through this?",3.659318181818183,5.9642781136363645,2.913636363636368,93.76545454545456,74.68181818181819,4.4,22.363636363636363,3.1291,-0.16307272727272748,183,5,35,0,4,53,35,44,0.261,0.7390000000000001,0.0,-0.8941,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,2,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18144327307574107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049450504361991,0.4468561942029212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711057623258094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4790570368375678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36432206669801465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392844441120195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288171428967149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19851350804066412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182173415995648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140423401352466
parenting,rachh5,2019/02/11,"What do you tell your child to say after another kid apologizes for hitting them? When your at the playground or somewhere similar and another kid hurts your child and is made to say sorry, what do you tell your child to say? I first thought he should say ‘that’s ok’ but it’s really not ok. Then I thought ‘that’s ok, don’t do it again’ but that sounds abrupt. What can a 2 year old say that is forgiving but also lets them stand up for themselves?",3.2889010989011003,4.6672904175824215,3.7437362637362632,91.37626373626377,73.39560439560441,7.837362637362638,25.08791208791209,8.418075326091056,1.3393692307692309,352,11,78,6,7,110,55,91,0.101,0.838,0.061,-0.3897,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,6,2,1,3,5,0,0,2,3,9,0,0,1,0,12,13,9,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,5,9,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,6,10,4,8,7,0,11,0,1,0,0,23,2,0,1,8,50,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834373715450798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627998908519428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714913756935444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519432140302006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17689872230485554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636916946947615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815287555417246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082478498801762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6878613367498974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936533166698824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024098503161689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27467681324067195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114028650727255
parenting,SuperSilverHeza,2019/02/11,"Newborn! (C section) 4.5kilos haha. Any advice (for me the father)? So after not being able to have the baby natural (girl), and releasing some feces in the sac, the baby was brought to the world via c section. 

Just looking for advice, general advice will do fine... 

Thanks in advance good peoples of Reddit! 🌹👍",1.8814473684210533,4.700707385964918,4.164188596491228,77.89786184210527,89.17543859649125,5.6570175438596495,26.423245614035093,7.1686216300943375,2.1119140350877195,239,11,36,4,8,82,45,57,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.189,0.8975,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,8,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,8,4,3,8,0,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,1,26,1,0,0.2795799454277008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8196068608057744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901239500956761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344983936440887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23477674015072075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938255317614933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573996509995343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,addyboop,2019/02/11,"Help with my daughter’s confidence I am a single Mum to a 7-year-old girl and a 4-year-old boy. I have a friendly relationship with their father, and they see him and stay with him regularly.
My daughter was diagnosed ASD just over a year ago. She’s very high functioning and it mostly presents itself as extreme shyness and social interaction problems. 

I’ve noticed more and more her lack of confidence in most situations, and in all honesty it’s breaking my heart. I’ve tried my best to raise her as a happy and confident girl; always complimenting her, never belittling her or telling her she can’t do something. But it’s making me feel I’ve gone wrong somewhere because some days this confidence issue is totally debilitating for her (mostly at school). She always thinks she can’t do things, or isn’t good at things. She has a beautiful singing voice, a talent that I’d like to encourage, but she won’t sing if she knows anybody is listening, because she gets very embarrassed. 

I guess I’m just looking for a little guidance or advice in helping her grow? She’s a beautiful, intelligent little girl and I want her to grow up knowing this. Telling her every day doesn’t seem to work. ",4.811333333333334,6.788914511111106,5.437888888888889,78.33950000000002,70.55555555555556,8.555555555555555,31.16666666666667,9.150863307647796,2.8854,955,42,170,20,18,308,132,225,0.049,0.752,0.199,0.9819,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,2,2,2,11,0,1,10,0,13,2,1,1,3,37,27,17,0,4,8,4,1,1,1,1,1,2,0,4,9,12,0,0,5,2,0,3,6,3,0,0,2,5,31,8,20,24,11,21,0,0,2,0,40,10,0,10,7,112,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081067214868305,0.11866264996458248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227716892826175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16320490387302913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048235358633918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17266283463216214,0.0,0.0,0.13586947521705794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278646995992887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676858264691105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342324783857867,0.0,0.06993858639488189,0.0,0.0,0.1122790472747355,0.0,0.0,0.14746664941896934,0.0,0.0,0.14250106647789965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862987335057413,0.17945287479614616,0.14143501231750868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971957951012146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713666775725834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539934896970502,0.26833444838866155,0.0,0.0,0.11241232102595927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935547849182036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324442231809654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240542480830355,0.2809361879106141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809008323582102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372019107166106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547784673007074,0.10667253803647644,0.12186505672540653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504691134992942,0.0,0.13645782458320593,0.0,0.10305529980402442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268156255740358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23400664616718606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786702280698724,0.0857748562528819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908850917063492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22090418020662606,0.07895664902871298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745482518582492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635962842195024,0.0,0.25861271517937273
parenting,Makes_Sence,2019/02/11,"3.5 yr old lying about wetting the bed. Well, Lying is a bit too strong really, its more like, did you wet the bed last night and she would just shake her head no.

I know she's a bit embarrassed by it, but i try to let her understand that's its totally fine if she did because “you're still learning how not to wet the bed and I'm proud that you don't want to wear diapers to sleep”

Its really adorable, she would make a scrunched up face and say “I don't want to wear diapers, I'm a big girl now”, so my wife and i let her.

So some nights she wakes her mom up to go pee and sometimes she doesn't and so, wets the bed, shes a really heavy sleeper.

Is it that she's not telling the truth because she's embarrassed about it, or is it that, from her perspective, she is telling the truth but she might not actually remember wetting the bed?

How can i tell the difference.


Just to be clear, I've already spoken to her about telling us the truth  and we won't get upset and just made her smile about the whole thing.


Parenting is bizarre, You immediately get a possible future flash 10 15 years ahead of how your child is going to turn out if you make a particular decision or say something in a particular way which might cause them to have some kind of learning disability or something.",5.370773130544998,5.025054391634981,5.8746159695817495,84.17326742712295,67.8212927756654,10.055158428390367,30.46108998732573,9.725611199111238,2.3948242839036755,1007,34,226,20,15,326,136,263,0.094,0.8059999999999999,0.1,0.7498,1,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,2,5,1,3,17,14,0,4,18,0,22,7,7,7,5,49,36,21,0,6,13,3,5,1,0,5,0,2,5,2,13,10,0,0,6,0,0,3,8,4,1,0,3,7,32,10,23,25,7,18,0,0,0,0,37,5,0,9,10,144,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.1150039512963176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004967202932505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436797219399228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573219029071899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106373046183667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312747245162885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314282730016095,0.0,0.13395298619687782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094741756711848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227219475861178,0.06476691266267559,0.09606293742287464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410178597924173,0.0,0.057575232434985975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151189055264957,0.15733069287552426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500390423860914,0.0,0.1380237171890001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118723572018195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366305302095013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308577403386131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328574183795049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264919057222071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350032355681365,0.0,0.0,0.18743704313669984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179344446954249,0.0,0.0,0.1814523518459616,0.11655600602610805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411463141464788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120220539396609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829386180415238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001196284525755,0.1281862355340422,0.0,0.12268531424281492,0.14175823997785175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139021182679405,0.09354331693791,0.0,0.0,0.10596070558426808,0.0,0.0,0.13157457423665878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743357309013907,0.0,0.0,0.07589110810054378
parenting,vdodgymix,2019/02/11,"Educational Instagram accounts? We're resigned to the fact that our 14 year old boy is going to spend a goodly mount of time on Instagram, so we're looking to have him follow some accounts which might have some value for his general and academic education.

So far we're thinking bbcnews and newscientist. 

Any other good insta, 'educational' accounts you guys know think of?",8.443181818181818,9.399888924242426,9.081363636363637,59.34204545454549,61.27272727272728,12.054545454545455,39.22727272727273,11.698219412168324,5.240618181818182,303,15,45,9,4,102,51,66,0.03,0.885,0.085,0.5661,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,7,9,2,7,0,1,1,0,6,2,0,3,3,26,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128168187828672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785676986956026,0.524975439653065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098698289976747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17198920617830749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26279928929492896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33199063106145826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328388515806406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4010516117254898,0.0,0.0,0.18248373650860106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20152962217275208
parenting,pb-and-celery,2019/02/11,"How do you limit the clutter in your older (8yo+) kids’ rooms?! My kids’ rooms are so overwhelming to me. The amount of stuff they want to keep is completely unreasonable. We hardly ever buy them anything outside of birthdays and Christmas, so I don’t even know where it all comes from! They are sentimentally attached to everything. Those who have tweens and younger teens (my kids are 9, 11, and 13), what limits do you have on the amount of stuff in their rooms? ",5.672015503875973,7.021778372093022,5.230232558139537,83.09364341085275,67.6046511627907,8.058914728682172,28.286821705426355,8.344100000000001,1.832696124031008,364,12,69,5,6,111,62,86,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.6303,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,3,4,2,6,1,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,1,2,13,13,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,6,5,0,3,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,12,0,10,13,3,10,0,1,0,0,12,7,0,0,2,50,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369135376489604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479965560174173,0.3018530453250973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015231987852696,0.2604180406009481,0.0,0.0,0.2587419898081421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578978973234896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558948255578429,0.0,0.0,0.15821988538945914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6591431369582413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698082762166191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jrook,2019/02/11,"Not sure if this is against the rules, but I need some help with my 3 year old's diet. Basically I only get him one day of the week (for now) and I cannot get him to eat anything substantial, in fact the only thing of any significant nutritional value I can get him to eat is McDonald's nuggets... But no store seems to sell the same sort of breading on a nugget. My thought is if I can get a store bought kind I can sorta weasel in other foods with it but in not exaggerating when I say I cannot find any anywhere with the same style nuggets. Does anybody know of any brands that are similar? I am just very resistant to flat out buying McDonald's brand shit because I don't want him to associate that with food.


His mother and I are not on speaking terms, so I do not know what he typically eats and he's not seemingly able to adequately describe his diet (shocker) and for better or worse I'm looking at very likely gaining full custody at the end of the month... I'd like it to be as nice as possible, but I don't want that to mean him essentially going hungry for a few days until he tries other foods :/",6.0423684210526325,5.078244289473684,6.93228070175439,79.20263157894739,66.63157894736842,10.23157894736842,32.1578947368421,9.516144504307137,2.5994315789473688,870,30,187,15,12,292,131,228,0.081,0.782,0.13699999999999998,0.9354,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,4,7,1,0,10,0,15,10,1,0,2,39,32,16,0,5,13,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,10,9,9,0,7,0,5,1,10,1,0,1,2,3,22,6,32,29,6,21,0,0,1,0,14,9,1,8,13,116,32,0,0.1251279912504811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25527397461593715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296967520333264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762768620702678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066553984269822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139440555223866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950034836594898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841115198595102,0.0,0.0,0.11082626029246176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436471711824545,0.0,0.4539157911052135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26149684384396804,0.0,0.07111312100333833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387065495034272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303015476733038,0.1375341432231795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226243213202576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507599836052177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630106499938394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987596882546357,0.0,0.0,0.09278082002121163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130077802365622,0.0,0.08478996520919252,0.19033095165844827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410630093087554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950680091220514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278236475114973,0.0,0.0,0.12844208488106798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793165092462855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312947738416468,0.0,0.0,0.0993376481206282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849536924420134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648739449000064,0.14760746238799655,0.0,0.10037012697705444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751611306759927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057832388296828
parenting,MourtyMourtMourt,2019/02/11,"What do you guys think about naming traditions? I have discovered I’m having a boy and am expected to name him after my dad and granddad. I hate the name. The tradition goes back to my great-grandfather, and I’m giving birth to the first boy amongst two generations of nine females. Problem is I can’t stand the name, like I really couldn’t imagine calling my child that name for the rest of my life.

I am willing to compromise and make it the middle name, but that will break the tradition and will upset my dad and grandpa plus my husband thinks that I’m an asshole for doing that and firmly wants it as the first name.

What are your feelings on this? Am I being selfish for not wanting to call my baby this name? ",5.2988888888888885,5.84334985915493,5.7703755868544615,81.79379499217528,68.01408450704226,8.846322378716746,30.56651017214398,8.841846274778883,2.351424726134586,568,21,111,9,9,183,86,142,0.08900000000000001,0.887,0.025,-0.8702,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,2,2,5,1,1,10,0,15,1,0,1,0,28,26,10,0,5,2,5,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,10,8,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,4,0,1,16,1,15,21,1,9,0,0,0,0,23,2,0,0,6,81,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17877523851385535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.474809261133637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755707223993438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955223241106274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230315551040684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563278982710834,0.0,0.2302078062568539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22954187887527056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421895267263398,0.11358590701089988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551930291475522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224674788457304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894302899621678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979483740954766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271150194322393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742645832337588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cmb9221,2019/02/11,"My baby (1.5y) wakes up constantly— please help! My baby is a little over a year and a half and no matter what, she wakes up at least twice per night. More recently, she wakes up and won’t go back to sleep. She might wake up at 3 and be up til 5am. I’m not against letting her cry believe me, but the problem is I can only stand hearing her scream bloody murder for so long. It’s loud and quite maddening, but I also have a son that I’m trying not to disturb. 

I realize a bunch of questions are going to follow so I’ll try to answer them: yes, I almost always put her to bed awake and she generally gets herself to sleep within an hour without crying (mostly just kicking), but nonetheless, she is able to go down on her own. Yes, I have a white noise machine and her room is conducive to sleeping (dark and comfortable). When I come into her room at night, I hold her and rock her... she comfort nurses and I realize that has become a problem because I believe that is what she wants at night and I’m simply too tired to stay in her room long enough to appease her. After a half hour or so, I’ve had enough and then I put her in her crib and she flips out. Is she sick? Not right now. Teething? Not any more than usual but she isn’t showing signs that she is in pain. No, she doesn’t take a pacifier and never used one. She has a small blanket in her bed for comfort. Is this a sleep regression? I don’t know, but she has never slept through the night since she was born and I believe it’s time (of course I understand having a cold could prevent this but generally speaking, she should be sleeping at this point). 

Please help! I’ve had enough and every time I go for her wellness visits, the docs always seem concerned that she doesn’t sleep all night, so what is going on here? 

Any insight is appreciated!

—Tired as a mother.",2.704870420017876,4.188177686327084,3.8112788203753363,89.88272698838249,75.0857908847185,6.367435210008937,23.96148346738159,6.88968998030894,0.7171241108132267,1419,43,303,13,30,460,188,373,0.119,0.772,0.109,-0.8707,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,0,0,1,1,12,10,1,1,17,2,32,15,12,1,3,58,51,32,1,5,13,2,0,0,0,3,3,4,5,0,13,19,0,2,8,2,0,10,14,6,1,4,4,6,50,4,43,40,10,63,0,0,1,0,41,28,0,6,23,213,63,0,0.07989296372059841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000126265148014,0.0,0.0,0.06389037422282977,0.13295469181484346,0.0,0.0,0.10865990995293848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143275760279832,0.0,0.0487020091443973,0.08823550155802612,0.0,0.27003603445416463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882071403883135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637880305812728,0.0,0.17551733832502905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476523647762838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673132676898748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041740776083538385,0.0,0.2270250620824376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004517655685496,0.0,0.10710113902103892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735695210555992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04390708347933628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816959683182115,0.0,0.0,0.08007373828269543,0.0,0.1414055176155559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475380912718873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323675773261873,0.0,0.0,0.3748706717699697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413753986323005,0.06076219902434065,0.08501174627148235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753969655169726,0.07552467440396682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289355300036386,0.0,0.16062899024769786,0.08949840373076744,0.08497600113614504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788846633151318,0.0,0.0,0.06822815448965364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273155360136284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608828518078594,0.0,0.4797039687811429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515526922908742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006956591587648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931724592553521,0.1836504181341726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848415610882838,0.0,0.0,0.08317139280983826,0.0,0.06900186918266739,0.08799081234534271,0.0,0.04712293995772294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718333691440409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701396603959801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05144844924235816
parenting,tigrenochek,2019/02/11,"Loud and yelling mother I (F18) feel like our mom is yelling way too much. Its truly the most ridiculous things like leaving the foil out on the counter when I was still not done using it! Yelling to clean a corner of the kitchen just as I am standing and finishing cleaning another corner of the kitchen. Yelling at me for being selfish when I am doing my homework because apparently locking myself in the bedroom and doing work is selfish. Now for context I believe I am a very good child. I will be going to Princeton University next fall, I never spend too much time out with friends or doing crazy things, never rebel is extreme ways, I have a job so I buy my own stuff and don't ask for money, and I help take care of my 2 younger sisters. I do have strong opinions, however. I came back to tell her that her calling me ""selfish"" has absolutely no argument nor supporting evidence. She simply reserves to that almost as if she needs to let out on me for no reason, because really I give her no reason to get soon incredibly loud and yelling. When she calls me out on yelling about the most ridiculous things I tell to her face that its absolutely unfair for her to get SO mad over me missing a spot while vacuuming. Her yelling voice echoes in my mind. Sometimes if she argues with me over the most irrelvant things in the car having the space so closed out her voice is so loud it actually hurts my ears. When I have flashbacks from just everyday that passes I remember all the things she right away raises her voice on and those instances do not require such a dramatic response. She simply tells me to shut up.   


But my biggest concern is over the fact that I am leaving this household right away this fall but my 2 little sisters are staying here with her and my dad. Now my dad is a whole other story how he drives my mom furious (he is a passive guy but just does a lot of lazy/dumb things or more like too careless). My 2 younger sisters 4yo and 9yo are defiantly aware of how angry and mad my mom gets. My 4 yo sister just today was doing her toddler babbling and as she was paying with her dolls I heard her say ""When mommy yells too loud I want to spit in her eye"" now it sounds ridiculous but she is not very good at talking yet. Another time she would often say ""my ears hurt when mommy yells so loud"" My 9yo sister is definitely SCARED of our mom. Now she doesn't really hit nor spank them but anytime their room isn't clean my mom goes ballistic. Yelling, calling them names, throwing their stuff out of the closet to rearrange it neatly. In the situation I feel so bad for my sisters but when you isolate the yelling and think about what she is yelling about, IT REALLY ISNT A BIG DEAL!! 

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I have no idea what to do because the loudness of my mother is something I cannot handle anymore. The reasons for her loud fits are very minimal. I do not deserve this. My sisters do not deserve this. What can I do to create a more zen and harmonious family dynamic? ",4.56860655068202,5.859406547169815,5.023914481744672,83.76710263007433,70.1492281303602,7.679310626480437,30.51903128318223,8.037061389416179,2.07508906313812,2359,97,456,31,42,751,262,583,0.113,0.804,0.08199999999999999,-0.9691,3,0,1,0,10,0,52.0,2,1,4,3,37,28,8,1,27,0,49,7,5,6,4,73,68,44,0,5,19,16,2,3,1,2,0,28,10,2,29,25,2,1,9,0,4,8,18,17,0,0,6,31,84,11,62,56,11,71,1,3,1,0,69,35,0,11,27,333,113,5,0.0,0.0,0.07358540256097637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550824126044077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170239615112318,0.09162657349117807,0.0,0.15813958313357598,0.0,0.0,0.07478251420116873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049445393706036,0.0,0.14169288465478336,0.0579825783822232,0.06296088083027124,0.13790043811047176,0.0,0.0,0.0849567676092194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309939460504727,0.0862444037496365,0.07688146762904546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774030029643403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598832028076472,0.07716654357960377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108608902970509,0.0,0.07625510347182,0.0538700790419514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05825850755417498,0.0,0.11818960675574565,0.07233632986890706,0.042854981513395125,0.12649399164180494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746638196735125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054306879942097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144741784021538,0.085124223321923,0.0,0.0,0.07482884407624417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596881845645334,0.0,0.0771077690692262,0.0,0.11051872414419954,0.07557664652388202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410750557100385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613858900595462,0.4415731232636412,0.0,0.0,0.11086420882058524,0.0559126117755401,0.1163155496128523,0.0,0.08019516262610063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492109072347129,0.2325898564371665,0.0,0.0,0.08542032634719815,0.12879266599585545,0.0,0.11993179467821286,0.07549458531317688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475953104035794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058051241743067576,0.07457848645766815,0.0,0.0,0.08037278913408198,0.0602193486524713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264371487015798,0.0,0.08556986311565047,0.0,0.0,0.05669594610457105,0.06060850624501921,0.19772456746962924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300578472685737,0.0483171358026409,0.0,0.0,0.08793971868832189,0.0,0.07147609432693172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651265944184423,0.0,0.1866536023612863,0.044476427012532634,0.11970758493383198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841881335628824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05489648399111045,0.0,0.0,0.05356627637217127,0.0,0.09162657349117807,0.0
parenting,mercfh85,2019/02/11,"Wife due soon, so how bad is sleeping going to be? I've read so many horror stories. So im surprisingly calm about the baby being here in week now...but one thing scares me is sleep. I have a pretty physically demanding job and ill be honest based on everything i've read im scared shitless. But then I read some things that give me hope.

Some fortunate things for me is:

* I get 2 weeks paternity leave
* I work from home for the rest of the month (so 2 weeks off, 2 weeks at home)

However i've read some horror stories about kids waking up every hour. So...if they do this in the beginning, ok that sucks but at least i'll be able to stay at home. However if it's like this for 6 months+ I don't know how the hell im gonna survive? Fortunately im sorta used to a lack of sleep (I often only get 4-5 a night and carry on just fine, just tired). Or is it not that bad?

My wife is breastfeeding and i've heard that can be every hour or every 3 hours?

To me if the baby wakes up every 3 hours that's not so bad (I guess they are up for like 30-45 minutes maybe?). But if they are literally up every hour for 6+ months I don't see how people survive.

Basically I need someone to tell me it's not that bad lol!",0.7541666666666664,2.3846634636015343,3.163893678160921,91.74859913793104,81.03065134099617,6.342337164750957,19.30411877394636,7.333567415737692,0.2440279693486596,928,22,220,13,24,321,135,261,0.171,0.747,0.08199999999999999,-0.9798,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,3,3,15,16,2,2,9,2,17,7,5,4,0,30,31,20,0,6,13,2,0,2,0,1,2,1,3,1,14,3,0,0,1,4,0,1,5,8,0,1,1,2,18,8,27,24,6,31,1,0,1,0,9,12,2,12,19,120,32,6,0.08124992757471756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713611828525884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422828413117065,0.0,0.07302219587858252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489946738139592,0.07794233410328974,0.046176206246027716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950595542138197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24450090621481585,0.08069951102212196,0.4000740605476714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510554573530722,0.0,0.08062801604841383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04465283532588957,0.0,0.0,0.08603194173821796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938922104128095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237467388036493,0.08162647298132646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945587510618444,0.0,0.0,0.06024579178255901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762475530078323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505705368928175,0.06179423118253141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05632846946035674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266038621971887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32508765983609805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626907033335184,0.0,0.06474567281346495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439258159021297,0.0,0.0688427999680774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660161214779258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101601793582556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619365247365033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338483939994932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017385026819815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606951639214306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915091495636141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,T1rcalien,2019/02/11,"A letter to my son, and my daughter. Hey, I was just hit a bit hard tonight by a friends relationship. So I wrote this. A bit of advice to my little ones. And I'm wondering if anyone else has been writing letters to their kids, even if they're not born yet, or they can't read.

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My son, this one’s for you. I probably haven’t let you read the rest of this, and this message will mostly serve as a reminder for myself to have this talk with you. I love you and I don’t want you to get hurt. Girls are vicious. They’ll take your time, energy, love, and return nothing. You might expect nothing in return. Good. Most of the time you’ll get nothing back. They are fearful creatures, you can tell them things and they will be afraid of your feelings. They will run, hide, and disappear. They might get angry. “You can’t possibly know me!” they’ll say, but you think you know them. You don’t. You don’t know someone until you’ve seen their darkness. When they’re truly angry, scared, worried, tired or any of the other negative emotions. People will hide how they react until they’re operating past their limit. Then you’ll know. Facts and fears and wants and dreams, they’re all well and good but they are not what defines a person. When you truly need someone, will they run, or will they fight with you? That is what you need to know. I hope you turn out like me. A kind, loving boy but it will not be easy. It is hard, much harder than the boys you know who exist for their own pleasure. They do not care for their fellow man or their women. They might seem to act as brothers and I will not begrudge you if you find solace in their ranks but I hope you come to see their savagery. It will take time for you to realize what you need. I have my list, and you have yours. I can tell you but it will be your own judgment and desires that decide. I wish that you find yours sooner and with less pain than I did. Good luck.

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My daughter, this one’s for you. I’m writing this after writing the one for your brother. You can learn a lot from him. So I’m sorry about putting you 2nd. I’m all for that equality not equity. I want to warn you about boys. You might know some of this already but I know you don’t know all of it. Guys are terrible. I should know. I am one. We are jealous creatures who focus on the physical over all else. You’re gonna need to look pretty if you want a hot one. I’m sorry, but it’s the reality. We can be scary. We’re bigger and stronger than you. Which is why I’m going to teach you how to kick their asses. Hard. You’ll be able to hurt them so bad they won’t even look at you. But for all the scariness, and our strength and some of us being little more than animals looking to mate there are a few good ones. I’ve met them. I hope I am one. They will bring you things for no reason, they’ll want to hear your voice every second of every day. Some will tell you stories, others will show off. We all speak different languages of love and it’ll be up to you to learn them, understand them and never be afraid of them. If you decide you don’t like the way one is speaking, acting, whatever. It is up to you to stand up and tell them. We’re idiots. Don’t give hints and hope. Tell us how it is and it will be much simpler for you. You’ll learn what you need. Same as your brother. I can’t place myself in your shoes to guess at what that might be but it will come. Each cut and broken heart will teach you. I wish it didn’t have to be this way. I never want you to get hurt but everyone is different. And everyone must walk their own path and learn who they are. Good luck.",0.8120032019541839,2.9975025093582914,1.9411606258665124,97.59319700270682,84.06684491978609,4.816821812900244,17.79071763385489,6.0378880255834675,-0.4627449527959331,2799,64,637,21,81,883,280,748,0.136,0.735,0.129,0.0989,2,0,0,0,1,0,111.0,6,58,35,3,17,39,5,5,19,0,84,9,3,5,10,141,150,59,0,26,26,7,5,2,3,33,2,5,0,9,39,36,0,1,25,4,0,11,22,16,1,10,7,15,131,23,74,97,26,49,0,3,5,5,148,16,1,29,21,444,170,8,0.05302899340592665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051819318621765656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851881287289538,0.0,0.0,0.1149137844000842,0.1288720626015442,0.03606153395769782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037079105174934325,0.05433447042088516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04077602264474213,0.04427699447141442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578785282078775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054066592974487265,0.0,0.0,0.09135956462247052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03419931376765472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080802292657417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859783891768026,0.059650480074286874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005030003253304,0.0,0.08935842813244955,0.10134295141390093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934472103881776,0.026813052409009348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693507854359942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04097006876131323,0.0,0.11082184145443234,0.05087024252920082,0.03013759900622072,0.22239101862670102,0.0,0.0,0.05841741477820792,0.05250704067833409,0.0,0.0,0.1425106864076966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976752959832739,0.06283961251067154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106790228911037,0.0,0.0,0.17030590263831974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055221536310909945,0.29143347947910564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422573858178535,0.0,0.05181457516043054,0.10629796521833544,0.0,0.0,0.13359299630313162,0.0,0.0,0.045083353858969166,0.1914429477559256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812769095067433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796482349507879,0.19660163341279488,0.08179845769679339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526482481185431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3234043649969295,0.0,0.05642658780593526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050622174561632406,0.036763627054711034,0.04630287161842799,0.055404011463287085,0.0,0.0,0.059782222312510735,0.0,0.053949550561086274,0.05717422391731688,0.0,0.0,0.05330878507921514,0.0,0.0,0.10608668760931196,0.0,0.0,0.05452263718767253,0.0,0.05693329337118939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042170783984338066,0.05309127338202865,0.0,0.04225724205760257,0.0482756039670496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986258805450742,0.0,0.0,0.11872323314059915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974240700319911,0.04262269619711484,0.23174838792138786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046021380169877,0.0339788377576117,0.0,0.0,0.09276489750859307,0.06094902704004836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057680317166859375,0.0,0.05520505230346727,0.12757469955917056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18766724546795294,0.0841838933383108,0.0,0.0,0.04767943359801433,0.0,0.047850418416558405,0.0,0.12196145071237792,0.0,0.057507681283316923,0.0,0.05385351689231432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288720626015442,0.0
parenting,adaisies,2019/02/12,"What to do about a smart 3-yr-old? Without coming across as arrogant, I believe that my 3-yr-old may be above average for his age intellectually. He can add, subtract, do basic multiplication and read. I’d like to make sure that he’s supported academically as well as socially. Is there any advice for speaking to the school system, offering programs, or educational activities?  ",6.935909090909092,9.129774106060607,8.330727272727273,58.84609090909092,65.51515151515152,11.340606060606062,35.92727272727272,11.20814326018867,4.882949090909092,305,15,47,10,5,105,55,66,0.045,0.748,0.207,0.8577,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,1,8,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,5,11,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,2,29,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482465050317619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275699505864425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862178816459464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883433844714384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241118904627942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957473634736994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5331478360304289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541103407942753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25710365528694656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258963412392795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882833898101048,0.23943119544437724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22841390175341755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24488703066865794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Allyndrixx,2019/02/12,"Second Evaluation and Possible IEP I feel so lost.

Last week, I brought my younger daughter (4 almost 5) to a Pre-K screening. This is on the heels of behavior issues at school off and on. On average, she gets sent home early once a month for bad behavior - running around, jumping on tables, not listening. I've tried working with the Pre-K. Every hoop they have, I jumped through. I'm fighting to get her in to a therapist, but they rescheduled twice and then cancelled and I had to call and call to get them to reschedule for April. I got the referral in December. I've done conferences, and I even called the county to get her evaluated. Here's where I messed up.

I thought of calling the county as a formality. It was another box to check off. My baby is clever, intelligent, and very good at communicating. Other than behavior issues, which I had been expecting to turn out to be boredom or something, I didn't have a concern. So we went to the evaluation to check of the box, and I waited for the call for them to tell me ""She's great. Maybe try X, Y, Z to try to help redirect her.""

Surprise! They didn't. They said cognitive, communicative, and motor are great. It's social. They have concerns, and they want to go to the Pre-K to watch her, have another evaluation next month, and speak with her father and I about an IEP at the end of next month.

I don't know why it hit me so hard. Maybe because I hadn't considered it as a possibility. Of course, I want to give her everything she needs. No question. I would give her and her sister the world. So, I started telling people. I needed to get it out. Sure, it might be nothing, but I had to tell. The first person asked why I was crying and why I was so upset about it. Not really what I needed, but not harsh. My husband/her father was working, so all I could really do was relay information. He held me while I cried later and we talked about it a lot. He expected the results, but  it was still tough to hear. Told friend whose son has special needs. Tried to call her, and then texted her that we had the results and would need another evaluation. She messaged back to say she was sorry she missed my call, but it was a hectic morning. She still hasn't asked or said anything about it. She's talked to me, but not about this. About her stuff. Which, she's going through a lot right now. I'm understanding. Then I debated whether to tell my parents. I decided to tell them. My dad sent ""No shit."" He apologized later for being so brusque, but it still really hurt. He was always my rock, my sounding board. I could always find comfort, and when I needed it, I felt like the wind had been knocked out of me. 

I don't know why I'm posting. I just feel like it's eating away at me. I would do anything for my babies. If this is what she needs, I will fight for it every minute of every day. Does anyone have advice on what I might expect if she is delayed socially? Can we be doing anything to help right now? Are there social therapies? How do you teach social queues? Thank you for reading this.",1.8618492494410752,4.148165980198023,3.33216650697328,88.5815202810604,80.61716171617162,6.483934845097412,22.97551368040029,7.659967840391812,1.0780900457787719,2368,80,489,39,62,776,268,606,0.08199999999999999,0.809,0.108,0.9683,1,0,1,0,4,0,103.0,4,2,9,4,27,22,3,1,25,0,52,3,2,3,2,86,100,45,0,19,17,7,4,2,1,6,0,7,1,1,28,28,1,3,11,2,2,9,12,10,0,3,32,13,86,12,75,55,3,60,0,3,2,0,90,23,1,10,29,332,114,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678705949615969,0.0,0.0,0.05819147635539613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670884619393316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280870390748055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04063375219196606,0.0,0.14346540584228812,0.05173262509030364,0.10865506283786704,0.0,0.054598796167673866,0.04468508049758736,0.04852167852132348,0.03542496355254771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153769605285281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279652721228007,0.0,0.1276681480340863,0.03747788503023487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050854816841856484,0.05946947010263265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05946380165543815,0.0,0.0,0.05147060491173453,0.0,0.0,0.03838289137596295,0.0,0.14688737259976214,0.0,0.052227949128102746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876705610654285,0.04151572568112991,0.05579730688722871,0.0,0.05311395652169163,0.049430634349584335,0.0,0.0,0.044897729151792035,0.0,0.15180744053395068,0.11149399744814203,0.06605357512820746,0.04874217701836589,0.0464780362180372,0.12813891748362052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05205756619419809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549723827926045,0.0,0.07790343792609468,0.0,0.058291777990331174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06221084904814673,0.0,0.0,0.12130912476929065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387444211356905,0.04736960805615872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678186129540716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343687863383188,0.0988106816518565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676403940149292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329678598549748,0.0,0.0,0.139155012125095,0.0,0.0,0.3016288235899581,0.0,0.0,0.1236070349904648,0.0,0.0,0.055760704556049805,0.0,0.0,0.061888130680094175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452727802469484,0.0,0.0,0.04028803026316918,0.05074176958271092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102667906741838,0.05565590436087274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509952558165395,0.0,0.058128427787644626,0.0,0.11168545424261238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925585939945253,0.11055697391688457,0.04621355283727016,0.0,0.058813156574316926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596518531574289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23695432417059265,0.0,0.04473799687164613,0.0,0.06505241175729998,0.04113246934310633,0.0,0.13922663585134532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652514006466413,0.0,0.0,0.05477053358393455,0.0,0.0,0.09341757665704437,0.2539653133822417,0.0535023680056717,0.06645693892639627,0.06747332566945859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046134993870451294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055529176806276594,0.0,0.15781883925116252,0.06320993192944067,0.0,0.060497371888036326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047949064928302004,0.06855275418070796,0.0,0.04661450397174493,0.0,0.0,0.05387105664994216,0.20975069760148465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461347786249411,0.0,0.0,0.12384478778441176,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,realtortiffanhy,2019/02/12,"CONFESSIONS OF A FORMER TEENAGER   

My take on teenagers…..

I’ve seen a lot of posts from parents lately lamenting about how ornery their teenagers are. How moody, disrespectful, reclusive they are. How they are “in their phones” and don’t want to share any information about their day or their lives. I’m hearing my peers complain about how their teenager wants nothing to do with them and friends are the most important thing in the world, etc.  

So, I’m reading all this stuff and hearing the complaints and I’m thinking the whole time- was it THAT long ago that you were a teenager? For me, being a teenager seems like it was yesterday and I remember it very clearly.  I **knew** I didn’t know everything but I wanted it to **seem** like I did. I was moody, disrespectful, reclusive, and my friends meant more to me than my parents at the time. Certainly my friends’ opinion mattered more. I was figuring it all out and I wanted to do it on my own. I was gaining my independence while at the same time having to look totally cool and confident and capable to my friends while simultaneously feeling unbelievably insecure. Forget the physical awkwardness of braces and puberty. The emotional turmoil of ages 13-16 is a time I’m happy to leave in the rear view mirror. Of course, we didn’t have the added complication of social media when I was growing up, so at least the embarrassing moves I made wouldn’t live in infamy. I couldn’t be cyber-bullied, or have a picture of me photo-shopped and posted for the world to see. I didn’t live in a world with the biased media as we see today. Celebrities weren't the standard by which we measured our worth. Kids still passed notes in class, called each other on the phone to have real conversations and played outside. I didn’t worry about sex trafficking or how many “likes” I got on Facebook, and I most definitely didn’t worry about someone coming into my school and blowing people away. 

I think teenagers today have more challenges emotionally than I did. I think they are more fearful about other’s perception, largely due to social media and our society of “immediate gratification”. I think many of today’s parents are too permissive and lazy and are too afraid to be the parent, choosing rather to be their child’s friend. My opinion is the best course of action is to check in with your teenagers as often as possible but let them have their moods. Don’t allow them to be disrespectful to you, but *earn* their respect in return. Show up and be a parent. Limit the phone time, if you allow them to have a phone at all.  Pay attention to what is happening on social media, and, if it is affecting their emotional state, take it away. Get to know your teenager’s friend’s parents. They will become your best allies. Allow your teenager his or her freedom but only when it is earned. Make them work around the house. Get them outside. Have them participate in some kind of physical activity on a daily basis. Choose your battles carefully. Consider if the argument you are about to have is really the hill you want to die on. If not, let it go. Some things are deal breakers and others are not worth the energy. Decide what the deal breakers are for you. 

Allow them to express themselves. Allow them to experiment. PLEASE ALLOW THEM TO FAIL. If they don’t live up to their potential, let them know they can do better.

Praise them when they work hard, when they show kindness, when they show restraint. Teach them to be grateful.  If you have boys, show them how to treat a woman with respect. If you have girls, show them how to be a woman worthy of it.

Please don’t shelter or cocoon your children so that they are not prepared for adulthood and the real world. People are mean and not everyone is a winner. Some people are better than you at everything. Remind your teenagers of this often. In a world of “everyone gets a trophy” ,it makes no one a winner.

And parents, remember this, most of all. Your teenagers may sometimes seem like they hate you- but what they need from you most is stability, consistency and reliability. If you stay the course, they’ll thank you when they’re 21. And when that happens, it makes it all worth it.",3.693087225736978,6.264199180306907,4.146168394131109,83.66330697267466,75.73913043478261,6.9290887064207825,26.146251177816662,7.9889121714841265,1.745642966751917,3317,124,602,55,76,1042,316,782,0.098,0.7170000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.9975,7,0,0,0,0,1,104.0,5,21,38,13,31,41,2,6,41,1,73,1,0,19,8,139,120,65,1,17,23,7,2,4,6,4,0,2,0,7,32,37,0,1,24,7,5,6,17,12,0,1,20,10,99,28,97,84,26,72,2,1,5,1,105,35,0,29,31,441,131,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0520772837501528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03995121181550101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052298904792215765,0.0,0.0,0.11039289955065418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648834554329822,0.0,0.0,0.12330652301779348,0.10391711327997744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599891131802108,0.0,0.05989833684279905,0.0,0.0,0.050606905988606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037888128382977386,0.1211349064220243,0.0,0.0,0.060971999356830675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825354355194733,0.0,0.0,0.06552046324671816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227402923830752,0.1055993015693804,0.057467618446267736,0.0,0.0661087550362774,0.02970516832337348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27233515309120154,0.0,0.09208150019887318,0.0,0.03338830796606032,0.0,0.046986797728767966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390277405462923,0.06253921074477901,0.052627402791804785,0.05800229641085799,0.0,0.0,0.13242837853059766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677882498890807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235570991087072,0.09686044428217816,0.0,0.06627122726907342,0.06220651714801456,0.0,0.18022394475572068,0.0,0.11480682268218804,0.0,0.2075051356449616,0.05199085650435751,0.04933421207793222,0.0,0.0,0.04994614542702741,0.0,0.05558955345985793,0.1176458795443582,0.11912416388074352,0.0,0.06399468719827106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244069765066027,0.0,0.04356150522582752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637107673606756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03980972049733497,0.044681124522345794,0.0,0.0,0.4566352808921766,0.0,0.0,0.12218710274153377,0.0,0.0,0.12897712365489036,0.0,0.06623046676855679,0.11253025873761496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876471772465727,0.13373803659724035,0.03763599809542336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310192010000846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05945694174306256,0.09363040574827257,0.1604481563544642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796610690778246,0.04977768408113403,0.0,0.05810408464913167,0.0,0.0,0.06261842476495234,0.046916883109512336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725334274952152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834360170590154,0.0,0.0,0.054088019805729366,0.0,0.0,0.07806021034655025,0.15057548534583212,0.0,0.0,0.17128454536240145,0.0,0.16706103458610794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04847392872841203,0.17325787923397906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559095888553207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553968052354374,0.11932455579390253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skibum0523,2019/02/12,"Coparenting Not sure if there is a more suitable place to post this but I'm feeling a bit lost and wanted some advise. 

Let me start off with, my ex is not the biological dad of my son. The bio dad is not in the picture but my ex has been around since the birth of my son. Different story for a different day. My son is almost two. We didn't get married and he has no legal rights to my son. He is his dad though. I don't want to take that away from either of them.

My ex is currently staying with some friends while we are figuring out the best way to handle coparenting.  We are awful communicators, which is why we are broken up, so I need a lot of info and suggestions to make this work. Any info or suggestions are appreciated.

Tldr: I need coparenting tips! 

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parenting,10000001questions,2019/02/12,"Aftermath : parents of kids whose friends have been in serious trouble I’m posting this on a throwaway account, because this is a serious issue but it’s not something I feel super comfortable discussing with others. All authorities have been alerted and this is NOT something that needs attention. 

tl;dr: SS's good friend freaked out over the span of two days, and ended up getting arrested for making threats against the school. We're trying to find the right way to protect SS, help him respectfully navigate the drama, while also recognizing that this was once a kid that DH and I genuinely enjoyed SS hanging out with.

There is a lot of back story to this, but after a couple years of a good friendship, SS and his best friend had a falling out last week (tweens / middle school). In the span of a day, SS’s friend ridiculed him at lunch, threatened to beat him up in another class, and two days later was arrested for making threats against the school. BM is an aide at the school, and she pulled SS aside in the middle of the day to tell him that his friend had just been arrested for making threats

DH and I were really surprised that everything escalated so quickly (over the span of two days!) and had a long discussion with SS over the weekend. DH also spoke with BM and found out that she sits next to boys at lunch and listens in on their conversations. She started disliking SS’s friend. She started pointing out his flaws (he exaggerates a bit much) and encouraged SS to “man up to him” and call him out for lying. She watched everything spin out of control last week. She doesn’t know the details of what the threats were, but knew his friend was arrested and told SS about it. 

We’ve cautioned SS not to discuss it with friends, for several reasons. While we don’t condone what happened, we feel that something must be going on outside of school for his friend to snap - literally - overnight. We’ve reminded SS that nobody knows the real story (what was said) and we will not allow SS to spread rumors that could cause more damage. We talked about the loss of trust that we have for his friend, but told SS that repairing the friendship is a choice SS can make (SS is hurt and wary, but doesn’t want to lose the friend he had). 

DH was a hellion when he was around the same age, but matured into a wonderful man. I think he leans more towards forgiveness and respect (even if SS doesn’t want to salvage the relationship), because he feels that this kid can rise from his mistakes. BM is much angrier. She doesn’t care if SS spreads the story of what the kid did or not, and has essentially said that he deserves whatever public opinion comes his way. She has no interest in forgiving or forgetting. 

We were wanting to wait and see how things pan out, and figured it would take a while to sort itself out. However, I stopped by the store today (one that is way out of town) and bumped into the kid and his mom. His mom didn’t even look at me, and he seemed mortified to see me. I said hello, wished them well, and smiled. Within the hour, the kid started calling SS. The boys spoke on the phone, and SS kept things fairly neutral. The kid knows that SS knows what he did, and tried to talk to him about it. SS told him that he wasn’t comfortable discussing the topic with him, and just needed some time to process everything that had happened. They ended on a neutral note. 

I guess I just want some advice / feedback from parents of kids whose friends have been in trouble. Did you ban your kids from hanging out with troubled kids? How do we recognize and support the good things we’ve seen in this kid, without condoning his most recent behaviors? There is a lot of broken trust, but can that be repaired? Is it better to encourage SS to politely move on, or allow him to salvage this once-good friendship? ",7.470254291163387,7.0686809862259015,6.801955922865018,79.45195486331852,63.51790633608815,9.980589107861835,35.41979232888324,9.333382268041843,3.048676880695063,3020,122,576,46,39,931,300,726,0.125,0.688,0.187,0.9964,3,0,3,0,0,0,88.0,7,2,3,7,20,50,5,0,47,0,54,2,0,11,2,132,105,48,0,13,21,4,3,0,12,3,0,6,0,15,44,56,2,6,18,2,2,8,14,16,1,4,35,14,51,34,102,64,13,94,0,4,5,0,112,48,0,15,33,378,95,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669592104100836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927962434803591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060838437103488976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051649598577335976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04461336470104856,0.0,0.07073621893000706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060887818216644574,0.051313475947064716,0.0633421968450769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848866155336522,0.0,0.059154681454076985,0.05960194261798865,0.0,0.04997860643425031,0.0,0.0,0.06507373059206399,0.046323798294777084,0.06419740201702065,0.0,0.1870886808817668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277599783823932,0.0,0.0,0.07664258012600078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564323829851217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800910988500073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302871308793557,0.0,0.0,0.06361531651747926,0.5379080648645437,0.0,0.030312760471538382,0.0,0.032973782347353466,0.1946557996923232,0.0,0.0,0.0639149495550094,0.0,0.10261279069446214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03888920472964138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713745700560085,0.0,0.062111005866861996,0.0,0.0,0.060557216912584214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754385801061854,0.09458716763727168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134537479916074,0.04872171339109228,0.06490890771326592,0.0,0.09865209881699764,0.0,0.0,0.15491369534117244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590332365338004,0.0,0.061665478108165424,0.08530192203253881,0.08604135276933744,0.0,0.0,0.06170432804683677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178880543465212,0.03931547116201438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884743433939205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484712024320133,0.0,0.05556658131459239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603881985877315,0.0371687361601371,0.059653642987915076,0.05728719320320881,0.06229116073752675,0.0,0.04954828104587234,0.1655693089060651,0.0,0.0,0.293593832018669,0.09246795684813576,0.05281871517263062,0.0,0.06554544772669298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399858844633045,0.0,0.0,0.12319936556617245,0.0,0.0,0.048506846155050964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658397680322498,0.0,0.0,0.043623395012901085,0.09326764930218492,0.05071154408214519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563660497136713,0.03717651165257922,0.0,0.0,0.03383159951673135,0.0,0.05499564097673172,0.16632017144119374,0.0,0.07878277664273672,0.0,0.17002967427557286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688546554997852,0.13815938234747802,0.09307938322555856,0.0,0.05216644051775672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671948766932864,0.05592866555354253,0.06291960303624917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121534243812645,0.0,0.0,0.03736261432692317
parenting,carlialexis,2019/02/12,"FTM. Any advice for dealing with Colic? Is there anything that helps with a colicky baby? My son is 4 weeks old and has got to be the grumpiest baby I’ve ever seen. If he’s not eating or sleeping, he is screaming. I’ve changed my diet to make sure I’m not giving him gas via breast milk. We’ve tried the swing, the rock n play, gripe water, gas drops, you name it. He’s the picture of health according to our pediatrician. Does anyone have any advice or at least a light at the end of the tunnel story to share? ",2.1436058700209637,3.7642448490566074,3.8089937106918255,88.73149895178196,76.9245283018868,5.843186582809224,21.211740041928717,6.42735559955562,0.2741501048218033,398,10,84,3,9,133,78,106,0.044,0.86,0.096,0.6602,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,8,0,6,7,2,1,2,12,11,4,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,5,3,11,8,1,7,0,0,1,1,12,2,0,3,4,41,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357847806762136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032665825135411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591202418418093,0.0,0.18349262717689374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358820993395677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298814442935829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951303289903236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281630708871395,0.0,0.0,0.1974931126188101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169717150115185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21390166904107216,0.0,0.0,0.1783365875891865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370161327706889,0.0,0.0,0.14945804956163491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884014032324538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339788356363688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231399223710128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015496468000974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138802937642307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886021542488134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,happytobeconnected,2019/02/12,Too much tv now Im boring as a Mom So Ive watched too much tv and now my son is young but enjoying tv and video games.  I know it makes settling down harder for him.  The good thing is to take that down a whole lot.  The trouble is Ive used tv when I dont have energy or know what to do with him.  So i want to break the cycle but Im stuck.  I dont want him addicted....uggg.  Im also working on my depression. ,-1.7245067698259184,0.002749489361704605,1.4257059961315302,100.06136363636364,91.34042553191489,5.120309477756287,15.992263056092842,6.574015621080383,-0.5442851063829783,308,7,83,4,11,109,58,94,0.152,0.723,0.125,-0.4102,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,2,0,13,17,10,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,11,2,9,16,4,8,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,2,4,53,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873020180725807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018652338863154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4359403966082947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599336398417965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6026793026007989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442232389730952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811573847671062,0.0,0.0,0.12414481614052245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21782054957345895,0.0,0.0,0.2734371910460313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983575413071034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355856191770533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606292348957476,0.0,0.0,0.21939468832095435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076429084349204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353975330769282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,efrey8907,2019/02/12,"Parenting Win! Tonight my overly emotional 4.5 year old could not find her favorite stuffie (Ariel...a $30 crappy made stuffed version of Ariel from the little mermaid that she just HAD to have at a Disney on ice show...honestly so crappily made I wouldn’t spend $5 on this shit).    

 So. I mom-ed the shit out of this. I went and got a very pretty wedding invite off our fridge and took it to her and told her it was a letter from Ariel saying that she was on an adventure and would be back in time for Valentine’s Day. Kid didn’t cry, took it at face value, put the “letter” next to her bed, rolled over with her stuffed “Bingo/Rolly” dog (I can’t keep them straight) and went to sleep. Score! ",5.253776595744681,4.830558021276596,5.343324468085108,88.14562500000002,68.07801418439715,8.468439716312059,28.26329787234043,7.6454224807358475,1.3780702127659574,535,15,119,5,8,168,98,141,0.064,0.797,0.139,0.8708,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,1,1,4,4,2,0,7,0,10,4,4,2,0,16,19,7,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,7,7,0,1,1,0,1,5,4,2,0,0,12,1,14,2,20,3,1,24,0,0,0,0,16,12,2,0,7,68,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011066536368984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135098983425591,0.0,0.18586726824137512,0.10912529424605176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033645628823367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465323428271574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353312593328102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040002761881674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959107441474994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202177904907591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981746051230089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799548460823585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775555476974619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18788568767049996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721455763533151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010098206037247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456115646478253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347379582539154,0.0,0.0,0.16933040555568935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866666531287976,0.0,0.0,0.16168569153081666,0.3759930843831201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961449038286902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137154032853289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020065430507455,0.0,0.0,0.1089645365772792
parenting,nursejacki3,2019/02/12,"I need advice on transitioning my daughter into a toddler bed My daughter will be 2 in May and from the beginning she’s slept in bed with me and my husband. We’re having another baby this June and she will sleep in a co-sleeper in our bed with us so I need to get my first born into her own bed before then. Right now I’m dreading even starting the process. We’re going to put her toddler bed in our room for now and I just know as soon as we lay her down she’s gonna get up and try to get in bed with us and that’s probably gonna happen 20 times. Any advice is much appreciated!

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parenting,shaniq2018,2019/02/12,"Is online high school legit? We have been tossing around the idea of having our 8th grader continue high school online. Note our high school is 8th-12th. 

Some background, our daughter is what you would call an “old soul”. She isn’t into the drama that comes with middle/high school kids. She prefers to read books, draw/paint and play music. Tried to be the “sporty” kid but didn’t find interest in it or the competition that goes along with it.

She has friends since elementary school, but my thought is because she isn’t into sports or drama, they are slowly drifting apart now that they have entered high school. 

Our school district doesn’t offer any after school programs focused on reading (like a book club) or art and music (orchestra/band) is part of their daily schedule. It’s all about the sports!

They have a strict attendance policy (how does a low income school make tax $$ without kids in their seats) so this has been pissing me off because she is getting scolded for being sick and staying home. No one is at their full potential when they are sick, now go to school and pass it around to keep circulating the system. If you miss 5 days in a semester you automatically will be marked unexcused unless you have a medical note.. yeah let’s waste time, money and resources to be told you have a virus, get plenty of rest.

So I’ve been thinking, is online high school a good alternative?.. how would this look on college transcripts?.. is the option of post secondary still there (attend college for free during high school)?... I know the social life goes down.. but feel she is kind of there already and I don’t talk to anyone from my high school now, so is it really necessary?...

I don’t want to fail my daughter. She is smart and has so much potential to be an amazing adult. 

Has anyone done this shift? How is your child doing?

Last note: I have a 5th grader as well, next year this district plans to put 6th - 12th in the high school... if we go through with this for my daughter.. is this going to backfire and my son with want to do this as well..most likely.

I don’t know.. I have so many questions and thoughts running through my mind! So any feedback is appreciated!
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parenting,Goldscammaster,2019/02/12,"Massive fight with parents. Feeling lost. Big blowout with the rents about my boy. And I'm left wondering am I the bad guy???

Ok, first up. Son is 10 and is disabled. Development delay disorder. He is very intelligent, but socially and emotionally is still at a age 4-6 level. So that perspective will come into play here.  Also, split custody. I have him for some weekends and all summer. 

Bit more about my son's disability. I've been working my ass off the last 2+ years getting him programming and support. Likely it's going to be years of therapy in a specialty school just for him to have a hope of being a functional adult. In tandem with the programs he's been in, I'm doing some unorthodox stuff with him that I wouldn't for a normal child. Since he is still so internally focused emotionally, like a toddler, things that click for his peers haven't for him yet. For example: touching, hugging. When he wants to touch someone, he will just do it. He wants a hug, so everyone else must want one too. And he will just go grab someone.. Without permission to touch. Which would usually be fine with family,, but not with total strangers or just met acquaintances. So I'm try to lead by example. This summer I've really worked hard on teaching personal space. If you want to hug someone, you need to engage first. You can't just act. That includes all family. The idea is force him to think outside his personal feelings with a consistent routine of behavior. And hopefully it will one day click why you need to do these behaviors. There are many more things I've worked with this summer, but that's the jist and reasoning behind all of it. He emotions like a toddler, so we have logical type boundaries of certain behaviors with consequences of talking about why his actions were wrong and what should be done instead. Those boundaries are with everyone including family.

Now what happened. Had him for Christmas. He spent some time at my parents place and plenty with me. Near the end of the trip we see he had pink eye. Find out that he wasn't washing his hands the whole time with us all. 

Note: that's related to his disorder. He can follow directions, but the reasoning why we do things can be tough. His feelings override sense. ""Why wash hands when I don't feel like it"". And with trying to preach atonomy and privacy, this one slipped by when he decided to stop cleaning himself after using the bathroom.

So now we know what's up, what do we do? Decide that his punishment for this will be to help clean everything at our place that he plays with and take him to my parents to apologize for not washing and to let them know prob good idea to sanitize his toys. Before we head over we have the chat about the importance of hand washing and how not doing it causes germ transmission and why we don't want that. For example, Pinkeye!!!! For another example, seniors being sick is extra hard on them!

So we get there and he leads with this: I'm sorry grandma and grandpa for not washing my hands and almost getting you sick and killing you...

Jesus Christ, not at all what we were getting at. So I say no that's not it, we found out he hasn't been washing his hands and etc etc as I state the intention for the visit.

What happens next is my mom goes red hot no I will not allow that. My son does not need to apologize for anything. There absolutely will not be a hint of cleaning anything. He did absolutely nothing wrong at all and she will not stand for him being treated this way.

I immediately tell my gf to take my son from the house. After they left I unload. I say that I am the parent, not you. When I dictate how I handle my son I expect it to be respected. I especially will not tolerate any mixed messages in front of son. If you cannot get on board with how we handle things you will not be spending alone time with him.

At this point they red hot at how I'm an abusive father. How I've changed over the last 2 years and am hurting him by being far too strict. I'm damaging my son and they don't agree with anything I'm doing. He's a perfect child and I'm damaging him.

I left and haven't spoken to them till today.

It went ok  But they didn't apologize for anything at all. Tho nor did I. And I didn't ask for one. I'm left wondering what now tho. We talked for a while, it was civil. But nothing was really agreed on. They still think I'm far too strict and have changed into a negative influence. I know they love him unconditionally. But I get this feeling of is that enough? Is what I'm doing with my son right? I said to someone offering unconditional love that they wouldn't see my son.... 

I've never stood up to them in this way and this is by far the largest blowout I've had in my life with them. Rarely do we fight. So it's also messing with me. I've rarely doubted them in the past on matters with my boy, so I'm not sure to trust myself on this when I feel I did right but everyone else seems not too...

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parenting,mjolnir76,2019/02/12,"Why you should teach the REAL names for your kids’ body parts Something like this may have been posted before, but this article was a good one on the topic. 

https://www.scarymommy.com/kids-real-names-body-parts/",10.781182795698925,15.097635935483872,7.091612903225808,62.624086021505384,60.61290322580646,6.713978494623658,20.010752688172047,7.793537801064563,0.8246688172043011,178,3,24,2,3,49,29,31,0.0,0.833,0.16699999999999998,0.6808,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,0,0,5,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,17,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21574427070695704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28162631192609616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21265772189508386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386706961707995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180558803305102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5491192557510102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24282169068759946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5771691369074734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19518784508309625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287808436471216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElMono2838,2019/02/12,"Having a child/Not financially ready Hey all, so I am having a child but I am not financially ready (birth control failed us)... even though I am in my 30's. I have switched careers and have moved around quite a bit trying to figure out what it is that I want to do in life. We do not have much savings whatsoever and I have no credit. 

I am thinking about doing an alternative teaching certificate and becoming a school psychologist (need to save up money quick and would like to stay in education). I could also get into serving/become a manager at a restaurant.

Not having the child is out of the equation. Any advice? ",2.4618810601163545,5.0793022857142915,4.1430252100840335,81.66317388493862,80.76470588235293,6.686748545572076,24.27989657401422,7.882392219407189,1.6077079508726566,488,18,90,9,13,163,80,119,0.061,0.792,0.147,0.8462,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,9,0,18,1,0,1,1,23,22,8,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,9,0,1,2,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,11,4,15,20,3,13,0,1,0,0,5,9,0,0,3,72,14,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20876402014834505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708457723935044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528077562492156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018260291165964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4718915047713914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23323673759248775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23961253922700204,0.1705721008318012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110550501571856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161673752958308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089843199872416,0.10437245510428796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270627741441735,0.15704808955315253,0.15840944439492044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272296997100449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21621248067790505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277090707604857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368902362847336,0.20989768635638095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450457887304686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569795190051292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600888901435095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517618978788697,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,painandparadise,2019/02/12,"Baby Signing I recently started signing with my 6 month old and was wondering how soon did any of your LOs catch on? I figured I’d start off slow with some basic words: eat, more, sleep, all done...I want to incorporate more words but haven’t really found any free** apps I’m too crazy about. Any other resources? Tips? I wanted something I could quickly search up like a whole phrase if possible ",2.1280116959064337,4.833774842105264,2.919122807017544,89.17441520467838,83.47368421052632,6.0093567251462,22.91812865497076,7.3871296695380915,1.1055953216374266,312,11,60,5,9,98,64,76,0.044,0.887,0.07,0.212,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,1,1,18,11,4,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,6,3,8,7,5,12,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,9,32,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4545781697011861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790459672469186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22802344902062044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280017145259688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443119443388086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885918297274386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778537556526041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338133663807068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25119742300636405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274496610268694,0.0,0.2200090532182345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229821183680876,0.0,0.0,0.17153864548214426,0.0,0.0,0.3154279838096232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26285143320044124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24877191190783246,0.0,0.0,0.2416400860096067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,11_20_2015,2019/02/12,Autistic childcare I’m posting this for a friend. We live in Texas. Her son is 3 and has autism. He says a hand full of words. He is not potty trained. When he turned 3 (3 weeks ago) his current daycare said they could “no longer cater to him”. She can not seem to find another daycare who wants to watch her son. I know she is not the only working mom. So what do other parents with children with autism do for childcare? Thanks for any suggestions!,0.7478838951310856,3.2668436292134864,1.3564325842696654,98.54753277153559,90.23595505617979,3.8655430711610492,22.02340823970037,5.46131890053228,-0.02448389513108617,349,13,74,2,12,106,67,89,0.024,0.87,0.106,0.8122,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,8,1,1,0,0,13,15,3,0,2,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,9,2,10,13,1,7,0,0,1,0,21,2,0,1,4,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22502806616492285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263081498103353,0.26619019619835355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268339464020368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23201982518078615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19612854983903769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951264284612294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415953766664484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973131305605724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930689606158287,0.0,0.0,0.28187709496970553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243123917812722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414752302460872,0.20187651518499505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311010082463343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337165386345177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761224792201024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497308719053292,0.0,0.2036280060965953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481022340687928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LateMap4,2019/02/12,"Private school or Public school? Thoughts?? I'm trying to decide what's best for my daughter who is in Kindergarten at our public school. But I'm having second thoughts on public schools.  I think her teacher yells at the class.  This article mentions that.  

[https://suburbs101.com/private-school-versus-public-school/](https://suburbs101.com/private-school-versus-public-school/) ",14.596504559270516,20.576227191489366,6.36048632218845,61.420000000000016,64.31914893617022,4.387841945288755,27.99088145896657,6.18269132825596,1.5346498480243165,326,10,33,2,7,77,38,47,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.6946,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,4,1,6,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,0,21,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253906649724161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.967390244074986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656026532081209,0.0,0.18971326137009084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081121520206694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ScruffyMonkey36,2019/02/12,"Anyone else have a Kindergartner who just doesn't seem ready socially to be at school? My stepson just turned 6 and started school this year. I should note that he never did Pre-K or anything like that. Socially, he seems to have made friends and gets along with other kids but he's getting into trouble almost every day. 

He's constantly getting into altercations with other kids during recess and sometimes in the classroom and doesn't seem to be learning from these experiences. 

Any advice? We're considering moving him into a different Kindergarten class or possibly homeschooling him instead? Maybe he just needs one more year to mature before he's thrown into school? ",6.989598506069092,9.186695000000004,6.324649859943977,73.26822595704951,65.38655462184875,8.650233426704013,31.709617180205413,9.150863307647796,3.1063437908496727,551,22,82,10,9,169,84,119,0.044,0.8809999999999999,0.076,0.579,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,1,26,18,7,0,2,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,7,11,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,4,2,14,13,1,13,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,6,7,50,11,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460674080833375,0.0,0.0,0.14967984254142172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164963447623776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451794680058224,0.15315707491039646,0.12300701466692593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719410355628502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153177060904025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640044008938213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617187888809256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486903568676888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259410036146801,0.0,0.0,0.14621740227205066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548572833698967,0.0,0.23428703190443365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302701864787169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143895849735874,0.0,0.0,0.15016995724061186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588706275529855,0.0,0.11083546361219578,0.11528604600337786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012896318600578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851310466638428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4538367764538468,0.0,0.4082353376697692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30474640061331265,0.0,0.0,0.14783679137034314,0.0,0.10580074471757407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625882904305335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925168560187474
parenting,are_any_names_left,2019/02/12,"Need Advice on Potty Training a Boy This may be premature but I do well with preparing myself and researching things. My son is 18 months old and I need advice on what to read, where to look, what to do with potty training. Someone told me that the sweet spot is between 22-26 months, maybe that was bullshit, who knows? If not, that would be over the summer which is ideal if he needs to run around naked (isn't that one of the ways to do it?)

He already understands what pee and poop is. Has successfully told us he had to pee and did so in the toilet once. Has successfully told us he had to pee and done so in the bathtub (while bathing, not empty) on a number of occasions. 

Lately anytime he says ""pee"" and brings us to the bathroom, he expects us (me or my husband) to pee. We figured that out after the number of times we asked if he wanted to pee, he said yes, we took his diaper off and brought him to the toilet and he cried and said no (we immediately took him away and told him it was ok and we just didn't understand, so as to hopefully not scar him).

I wanted to stress that this is for a little boy, since my understanding is that girls do this earlier and better than boys.

Book or method ideas for me to look into? Am I thinking about this way too soon and should expect to do it in a year? Any and all ideas are much appreciated. ",3.7488259109311737,4.604054142857142,4.752878349720458,86.57852515905148,71.67399267399267,7.798650472334683,24.624831309041838,8.032893268588372,1.1429311355311356,1043,28,226,14,19,341,145,273,0.059,0.8109999999999999,0.13,0.9767,0,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,9,0,0,4,10,9,0,1,12,2,28,7,7,0,1,55,52,25,0,14,10,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,4,20,24,0,0,8,3,0,5,6,1,1,1,16,6,25,8,39,31,2,31,0,0,2,0,38,14,0,7,10,160,45,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393221767030847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950243517007198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747959485974404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833546584981827,0.092766369152638,0.0,0.09322956424290813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776060079867523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899915972839706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154642908972594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855747627662766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240364931846552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054534044910248866,0.0,0.11193541731918087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945422227133628,0.0,0.0,0.1666559031609594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968956530847556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584083905781583,0.0,0.07294524283036401,0.22073268298051504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041248719435932,0.10567638592972203,0.06724060894687339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925654727120227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887803253139901,0.07891143570096162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208382854184501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407699797351269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366727956615012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592379967317838,0.06358238139226925,0.0,0.0,0.057861632734282825,0.0,0.0,0.37927290122060775,0.22049568301733585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30990483388911033,0.4774444176836663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705648930960467,0.15752782515710198,0.0,0.0,0.08921941218890607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048992779644313,0.0,0.0,0.0639006697601731
parenting,daylilies7,2019/02/12,"Son's first girlfriend So my son found out his friend/crush also likes him. They told each other at the middle school dance. So now my son is all concerned that her parents won't want her to date. Only a couple kids in 6th grade are dating (essentially holding hands at school is really all it is, as far as I know, but we are open to taking them to the movies or to lunch or whatever)  
I don't know her parents. Are we just supposed to let this happen until her parents find out and possibly don't approve? (ideally, they will approve)  
I don't remember particularly caring if my boyfriends' parents approved, but I didn't date until high school.  
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parenting,youknowjo,2019/02/12,"New Dad needs help... Hello.  I am a new father.  Had a baby girl one week ago.

I am struggling.  I should start out by saying that the child does have some health problems, that will leave her in the special care unit in the hospital for 3-5 weeks.  It is nothing to be concerned about long term however.  Mom/wife is also doing well and all is well.

I am struggling with my feelings towards our baby girl.  I feel very neutral about everything.  I do not have any feelings of happiness that I am a father with my loving wife.  I do not have any feelings of sadness due to her complications either. Just like looking at a blank piece of paper to me.   It is completely a numb/neutral feeling.  I feel no different than if I were to look at another baby in the unit.  


Honestly, this is the troubling part to me.  I am upset with myself that I do not feel happy or attached.  Honestly, I would have the same reaction if they told me she could go home today, or go home in 6 months.  I am really beating myself up over it, and don't really know how to correct this, or if it is a normal feeling people have experienced.


Anybody have any advice? Thanks. 
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parenting,Live_Ore_Die,2019/02/12,"What are some home remedies you've found that work? My son is getting a raw thumb from sucking it all night, I've looked up some home remedies and I'm not sure what to go with, so I figured I'd ask a general home remedies question so I might possibly get some other good ones for future use. ",4.031229508196721,4.52536749180328,4.672254098360657,88.7267418032787,70.80327868852459,7.411475409836067,30.004098360655732,7.1686216300943375,1.5425049180327872,231,9,50,2,4,74,47,61,0.035,0.913,0.052000000000000005,0.2354,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,2,14,12,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,3,2,5,10,4,4,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,5,2,27,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20346953085269065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386374889128714,0.0,0.0,0.2274219932225813,0.0,0.12369317721102488,0.1825510497465632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6549497323264194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827677354397543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308878992371328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042459277805252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748249049349044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24536304358698055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24381321188128974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20512867936036744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879761721990934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844880298109973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jferber19,2019/02/12,Sippy cup suggestions? Is it normal for a 13+ month old toddler to skip the sippy cup stage and go straight to drinking out of a normal cup? We’ve tried/spent so much on multiple sippy cups and our child does not take any of them. Any tips or suggestions are much appreciated!,2.91,5.028847272727276,4.147272727272728,84.92090909090909,76.27272727272728,7.309090909090909,23.72727272727273,8.238735603445708,1.4061999999999997,220,7,44,4,5,72,43,55,0.0,0.8909999999999999,0.109,0.7052,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,7,4,4,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,2,22,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893342068970248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25050868199634563,0.0,0.0,0.2804265214765798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268856200947618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22849057274191575,0.0,0.4208691282646267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5609494463289891,0.0,0.0,0.3003824676235386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21523243314517268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,efficientseed,2019/02/12,"Handling the “I want X, no I want Y, no I want X,” etc. My 2 year old son is in this stage where he’ll say “I want mama!” And then when I come to him, it’s “No I want daddy!” And when Dad comes, it’s “No I want mama!”  He does this with all kinds of things, not just us - beverages, the color of his plate, his dinner choices. My older child also went through this stage (and my son’s nanny said all her kids have done it), but I would love to hear if anyone has tips on how to react. If we ignore him, eventually it turns into a full-blown tantrum.  If we switch back and forth (giving him what he wants), it doesn’t end and eventually results in a full-blown tantrum. In this state he also rejects attempts to console him. I know this phase will pass eventually but I’d appreciate any tactics in the short term. It drives me crazy!",1.1010476878612714,2.84098674566474,2.8141582369942206,94.14470556358386,80.38728323699422,5.481069364161852,19.48302023121387,6.322622252153567,-0.16188988439306362,629,15,147,5,16,208,105,173,0.14400000000000002,0.765,0.091,-0.9075,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,0,1,8,6,2,0,5,0,7,2,0,3,2,33,24,16,0,11,7,3,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,2,13,11,1,1,1,0,0,5,6,4,0,0,3,4,23,2,14,18,4,25,0,1,1,1,24,8,0,3,9,89,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534042396320456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774268500947344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078292881224756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182837726496085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729591260668012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386494047444916,0.1621361975570799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403282751964854,0.0,0.17669928676673874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519873370780233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785701662846865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498789539748693,0.0870729060432256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14299570036002832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662531214478734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070999735969895,0.12599556915013574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052585925801426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233410678108044,0.0,0.0,0.19058036585334745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6541522913370644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146872811688581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125491950966569,0.0,0.0,0.10202832053415248
parenting,JustHereToBuyAPixel,2019/02/12,"Stay at home dad, two daughters (1 and 3 year olds) are the light of my life but some days I feel like a bad dad / want to just crawl into a hole. Anyone else? Title says it all. Just having a hard time with my kiddos lately. Probably in light of cabin fever, watching a combination of WALL-E, Inside Out and handling 12 hour days while my wife works. Am I doing something wrong?",0.8265643274853787,3.2090791710526325,2.298070175438596,93.62704678362572,86.23684210526315,4.430409356725146,16.339181286549707,5.82211442006289,-0.554536257309941,291,6,61,2,9,94,63,76,0.138,0.802,0.06,-0.7998,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,5,0,4,2,0,0,1,12,6,4,0,1,3,4,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,5,1,9,6,2,13,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,1,9,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230780359309968,0.2378403823879154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381540326968855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29940396219548865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939113763665604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736981309556875,0.16583076596136034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079391829104392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328411712620001,0.0,0.2285972210694883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26184808897597817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395736483295614,0.11340497361953875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435770499300788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250270945384976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18459580650624752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17870183327119685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474152891844896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353544599141423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267532431188189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691385069194156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899039598107926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25379319613480283,0.0,0.14948144797883572
parenting,TorchIt,2019/02/12,"Last night at work, I found a slice of bread and a treasure troll in my nursing bag. This is the kind of toddler provided chaos I'm living in. On the one hand, wtf kid.  On the other, I can't help but feel that she was trying to pack Mommy a lunch and a toy in case I get bored.",-0.2341397849462368,1.3463714999999965,1.952903225806452,99.46602150537636,84.0,4.778494623655916,16.78494623655914,5.46131890053228,-0.8464602150537632,211,4,54,1,6,71,49,62,0.151,0.787,0.062,-0.6518,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,5,2,9,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,31,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057395800386726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41325571889931106,0.0,0.0,0.19691675379853302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526307678364633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3924874565302504,0.0,0.30722701780356737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328130863920545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35369881782495194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553998657612461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558930363054342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27439055901479475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mellow98765,2019/02/12,"Morning routine.. If you wake up earlier than your kids, what are three things in your morning routine that make your day go more smoothly? ",5.7323999999999975,7.9387520400000025,4.388999999999999,85.85950000000003,68.6,6.6000000000000005,36.5,7.1686216300943375,2.6166,111,6,19,1,2,32,21,25,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,3,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,14,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057833530472624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4457135012041348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5235001918162299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5210280451117678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2ndChanceCharlie,2019/02/12,"LO has folded “elf ears” So my 2 week old daughter has these little folded pointed elf ears. I’m wondering if anyone has done ear molding for their babies? Or if anyone has experience with ears kind of “unfolding” on their own? I’m skeptical about doing any kind of interventions on her ears as I think they are cute as is anyway, but my SO is worried she may be made fun of later in life. [Here](https://imgur.com/gallery/TWi7tPZ) is a picture of her ears for reference. ",5.7263295880149805,6.847069516853933,6.105112359550562,77.7117509363296,67.31460674157304,9.079400749063671,30.563670411985026,9.2995712137729,2.7055827715355814,373,14,67,7,6,120,62,89,0.065,0.86,0.075,0.2259,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,3,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,12,7,6,1,0,10,17,8,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,9,4,13,13,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,5,3,44,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784730216274146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451671122765844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525844175916749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414391023348455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5140538892184067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433755156266514,0.0,0.24738030706369815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335487749347418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589979812430567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333264007105405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815345667022532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979855767456516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676677361634826,0.0,0.2506595402445728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,newgirl2987,2019/02/12,"Potty training? Waiting till their ready or just doing it? I have a 3.5 year old daughter, who has told me she isn’t ready to potty train. She currently wears pull ups and we haven’t forced the issue, we’ve been waiting until she’s ready. 

One of my friends has a little girl who is a month away from turning 2, she started potty training her a couple weeks ago, I’ll be honest, I didn’t think it would work, her kid is so young. But it has, her kid hasn’t had an accident during the day in over a week, they go out and do stuff and her kid just uses the toilet. Well she needs help with her pants but is able to tell her everytime she needs to go.

We talk a lot and my friend updated me throughout the process. It felt like her updates were almost a way of shaming/judging me because my older kid hasn’t started potty training. 

I asked her what made her think her kid was ready, she said something that made me think. She said “it’s not about whether or not she’s ready, it’s about whether or not she’s capable. I think she’s capable.” 

I’m beginning to think I waited too long and don’t know where to go from here.",2.6693466857415338,3.918762660944208,3.53730329041488,92.75733309489748,74.75107296137341,6.379494515975202,24.103242727706245,6.691623216298621,0.5812424415832145,872,26,195,7,18,278,124,233,0.042,0.838,0.12,0.9399,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,2,1,9,5,0,0,12,0,21,1,1,3,0,39,48,15,0,3,12,1,1,1,2,1,0,2,0,6,11,9,0,3,7,0,0,4,9,0,1,1,11,3,37,5,19,35,1,30,0,0,0,0,43,7,0,5,19,124,48,1,0.13756103371439032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193955642997813,0.0,0.13774750461481094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860099714838882,0.0,0.12924311940699487,0.0,0.0,0.08385592935693889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522086673522953,0.0,0.08871548660540063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320801648166096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255862682567986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234537316665462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220426123661386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357797971924988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559994659760369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720537259664626,0.1378722943620526,0.0,0.1217371860439514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694947163485718,0.0,0.2603271523744071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097999047020118,0.0,0.0,0.20399952693938256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443471646266711,0.0,0.09321491655240546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26170408844427623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590120437738336,0.0,0.0,0.19473281537160075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15747447241400872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056634818028137,0.12023440671437186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44071777966543735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314454627626911,0.0,0.0,0.14962690303603396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880856599822935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918954562341132,0.22068632738408375,0.0,0.12368388972524705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014607088808043,0.0,0.0,0.09771941153183243,0.0,0.0,0.08858479559641652
parenting,manoj2010,2019/02/12,"Dear Parents - Need your help answering a few case study research questions on online grocery shopping. Hello reddit Parents - Hope you can spare me 5 mins of your time. I am researching grocery shopping behaviors and have a few questions I would like answered. Thanks in advance for your time.

1. Where do you do your grocery shopping at?
2. What are the main reasons you shop there?
3. How much does your average purchase amount to? (in dollars)
4. Did you know that you could shop online for fresh groceries at [walmart.com/](https://grocery.walmart.com/)? (Yes/No)
5. Walmart   offers a convenient FREE pickup option if the order value is above  $30.  Now that you have this information, would you consider shopping  online  for your groceries at Walmart.com ? (Yes/No)

Thanks,

Jacob",4.208511450381678,7.600125175572523,3.718698473282444,80.06766603053437,87.32061068702292,5.3680916030534345,28.687404580152673,6.961326702584282,2.1492439694656493,622,29,91,9,20,186,90,131,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.9756,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,13,0,1,4,6,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,2,0,16,17,3,0,6,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,7,6,9,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,16,7,11,13,5,13,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,5,5,58,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16927353225464234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185532255087338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421065045070484,0.0,0.0,0.21057476070381512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651570120317707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357786566170968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585247952547487,0.15720347034750412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708262520656921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4750016826858044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179826186999063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3903824890166507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24725063845497536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30121306345351795,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saltedcaramelcajun,2019/02/12,"Someone kissed my baby and I’m freaking out Guys, I might be overreacting but I’d like to hear what you all think.
A friend of mine kissed my son on the forehead before I could stop her and I’m freaking out. I wiped him off shortly after, and she has no cold sores or anything... but still. Can a baby catch anything from being kissed on the forehead? Thanks! ",1.4520833333333345,3.8594722638888896,2.342222222222226,94.30000000000004,83.30555555555556,4.155555555555557,21.5,5.148860815047168,-0.11436666666666673,281,9,58,1,8,88,52,72,0.131,0.632,0.237,0.8777,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,1,8,0,0,4,0,6,6,2,0,1,13,11,6,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,6,9,7,1,10,0,0,0,3,8,6,0,2,4,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4833400290198012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24989632449218602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344760879411573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268930574281388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907850378630657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309937702202824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347507501124032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115434262692082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488304019072751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23452973146256176,0.2455259703106487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27037705660816824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817548077827745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katierose0324,2019/02/12,"Seven year old is ADHD - what are the first steps? Our seven year olds first grade teacher has expressed to us that she thinks we need to discuss treatment for ADHD. He’s fairly textbook and comes from a long line of ADD people. When we brought it up to his doctor in the past they advised us to wait until it really started affecting his schoolwork and he was managing it ok for a while! Recently, however, it feels like he just hit a wall and his behavior, schoolwork, etc have declined sharply. 

Can anyone who has experience here briefly guide me through what’s going to happen, how we get a formal diagnosis, what are the typical treatment options? I’m feeling very anxious for him and for me - we’re at odds lately and I just want him to be able to function. He’s extremely bright - gifted, I’ll wager - and I hate seeing him held back because he can’t sort himself out. 😩 Just looking for some anecdotal experience. ",4.050761904761906,6.1905218857142925,4.8731428571428586,80.90419047619052,73.0,7.409523809523809,30.523809523809533,8.238735603445708,2.437838095238096,730,33,129,12,15,236,121,175,0.035,0.899,0.066,0.5191,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,1,2,7,4,1,0,7,1,10,1,0,2,0,27,28,10,0,2,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,12,0,2,3,0,1,4,1,1,0,4,3,5,19,3,20,23,2,24,0,0,3,0,24,5,0,3,16,85,28,5,0.15092951654277026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36277589766853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050739331445489,0.0,0.10553342725275848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605548189832625,0.0,0.09200523240734776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001241428888194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544827556127385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832630736108814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295276056564839,0.0,0.0,0.15262899697716886,0.10782407677529844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25676113933780226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885444300752859,0.0,0.08577672242332998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334664730263888,0.0,0.0,0.14901165055166266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025506868725215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373653803844213,0.0,0.0,0.1335678726654464,0.12674278132584899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191232409550417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167502770683828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407930157084586,0.10463552297234642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668931306844628,0.0,0.1490246893134392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027128377420734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068286886389312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670953993383548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630992498794597,0.0,0.0,0.12453265776546325,0.08902213930585977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438732046993365
parenting,llewynglass15,2019/02/12,"The Midwife's Tale https://www.ataboolife.com/the-podcast/2019/2/10/the-midwifes-tale

Also Available on: iTunes, Tumblr, iHeartRADIO, YouTube, TuneIn, Google Play and Stitcher under A Taboo Life 

Sharon Schmidt, L.M., C.P.M., is a midwife who operates the Fruitful Vine Midwifery Service in Jacksonville, FL. In this episode, we discuss the profession of being a midwife, its history and the benefits of having a home birth. We also discuss Sharon's growing passion for genealogy research and why recording peoples stories for austerity is important in today's world.

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parenting,WishfulGummie,2019/02/12,"Daughter (4 y.o.) doesn’t want us to watch her? Our daughter, during the period she’s been later 3/early 4 years old, has started expressing that she doesn’t want us to watch her perform at various times, for example sometimes when she’s dancing at home, or participating in various school events.

I’m hoping this is a normal part of developing self-awareness (though it seems a bit early? maybe that’s what caught me off-guard), or if it’s possibly a symptom of some parenting or other influence that’s not so great. She’s always been a very confident, outgoing, creative type of kid, and I can’t specifically think of any instances really in which we (parents) have been critical or negative, either to her or about anything or anyone else we’re watching.

I was always a very self-conscious kid growing up, and I admired and loved my daughter’s self-confidence, so I just want to be aware if there’s anything I might be doing wrong.  She’s our oldest, so this is my first experience with this age. Thanks for any knowledge and insight!",6.550769881556683,7.080360553299496,7.0449873096446725,73.79340313028767,65.29441624365482,10.221489001692053,34.69077834179357,10.125756701596842,3.5845874788494085,827,36,146,18,12,271,123,197,0.068,0.784,0.147,0.9064,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,6,0,15,2,0,1,0,29,26,17,0,7,11,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,11,6,0,0,4,1,0,3,5,1,0,1,5,3,21,5,17,18,6,20,0,0,3,1,22,5,0,12,12,97,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21764632725389949,0.0,0.0,0.17787586130417554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144754875259074,0.13400415434294247,0.2152489656561392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278277841160908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092536504801602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793231623907134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112452112027409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419035003619998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311874961599032,0.12989849759107971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803809865188244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139058799286346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874166473944055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281410214492918,0.0,0.0,0.13723631061100802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29044137372093104,0.14162684612741994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743984957752498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378388630840318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323608752082457,0.0,0.1190612779491206,0.4093102045459256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934919408683535,0.0,0.0925699275271916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359351503794533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040877700546372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380141343044348,0.12849508679244126,0.0,0.0762614815668995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146352508371996,0.0,0.0,0.2158217844100051,0.2314202230370496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429922971220584,0.0,0.08422091667213953
parenting,yunaopi63,2019/02/12,"My 5yr old daughter has a lisp. Hello everyone, my names Julia, I’m a single mom of two girls (ages 5, and 2) 

I just was wondering why my five year old daughter has a lisp. Everytime she talks or says her “s” it’s there! I’m not too concerned, I was just wondering if how I could fix this. My daughter does not have a tongue tie but she does have a gap in the front of her teeth. Her frenulum goes down to far and it creates a gap in between her two teeth. Maybe that could cause the problem? I don’t know 🤷‍♀️. I need advice if anyone knows. I don’t want her to have a lisp forever. Maybe when she starts loosing teeth it may go away? I don’t know

She’s had her lisp ever since her teeth came in as a baby and  I don’t know if teeth have something to do with it or not. Please let me know thanks!!",-0.6520454545454513,1.2828506136363629,1.4522272727272745,100.32459090909092,88.31818181818181,4.656363636363637,17.322727272727274,5.985473137389443,-0.6097763636363638,612,15,154,5,20,203,98,176,0.038,0.904,0.058,0.4927,0,0,1,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,10,0,18,5,5,2,1,33,33,12,0,8,11,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,5,0,0,7,0,0,3,7,1,0,3,4,1,24,1,13,25,1,16,0,0,0,0,20,6,0,8,7,94,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187600398687816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151880444485878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640887715426606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605635921648146,0.0,0.1491480391045967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23184156005873555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25410994198405784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313308310750808,0.0,0.13873332727305834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251366923542568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39895755672017097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846453615832308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29172166100219554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004239577068184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765504011928298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047007026365618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937279198176713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892527927070866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545930119927665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010098915342853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177279258412476,0.0,0.0,0.1027647924771901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669659070070025,0.0,0.13366957619972264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836551001962489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563562642393321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310095604227015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31490032042223665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349629253527098
parenting,daddy_khan,2019/02/12,"Lol you deleted my post because you didn't agree? a parent is full time responsibility, sorry for breaking the news.  This is good advise. Love your children and spouse. especially love yourself. 

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repost:

As a father or/and a husband, we feel like when we do this one thing or two things, we are the best fucking people in the world. Don't kid yourself. You wrote something in the lines: no warning- i just sat down and played with her and she asked you're playing?. Kudos on spending time with baby girl but you feel the need to share that you leveled up as if this isn't a natural state in your relationship. I too, used to feel like I did the most when I played with my son and the rest of my time I spent my hours working and avoiding any real quality time because quality time meant home chores or a child crying. My dear wife had all the burden of being a parent on her. I feel as a father or husband, we think shit is mad easy. That stay at home moms are at home chilling. My wife had to not almost leave me but really leave me for me to realize that I havent dated my wife in since the birth of my first. My son had to talk in a clear sentence for me to realize I wasn't really there even though i was home every night. I provided and bought them all things shiny. I made six figures and stated a successful business and thought I was the best fucking provider until I realized I lost the only thing I couldn't buy with my earnings. My son got his father at the age of 2 and my wife finally got asked out when my bags were packed. Stay at home moms are talking to 2 year olds all day, they are going to go nuts eventually. Woman are more than moms and treat them as such. She wont be depressed anymore. Play with you child to a point they dont have to ask if that is what you're doing. You dont get points for being a dad. You are a dad, be one. Ask your wife out on a date, or let her catch a break and you take the child. I have three children now and a very happy wife. Maybe i'm talking to myself and reminding myself what i use to be so i can keep progressing. Maybe i'm helping you realize you should take the burdens of being a parent off of your spouse. anyways, congrats on spending time with your child.

edit: this is not to discourage parents from experiencing these moments with their children but a guided response through my experience as a parent and husband. Be there every moment you get and play with them. They grow up fast. Trust me.

edit2: They blocked people from commenting by the time i read it. I don't agree with the comments people wrote about how their parents never played with them and they grew up fine. So i made a public post about my experience.",2.8754925397080062,4.675929190036901,3.787874217872616,88.89151933258465,75.36531365313652,6.410460452430612,23.95973046686989,7.1686216300943375,0.8530042034333385,2119,66,438,23,46,679,244,542,0.081,0.764,0.155,0.9928,6,1,1,0,0,0,56.0,4,17,11,8,17,30,4,1,35,1,42,5,1,5,5,79,79,38,0,5,12,28,4,2,0,2,0,0,6,10,16,32,0,4,12,7,5,5,14,10,0,6,21,6,81,20,66,47,9,65,0,3,1,4,94,25,3,8,29,299,97,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574061593434223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113350485492577,0.07977390648640514,0.04464535415394583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510876776677328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455016164814544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004123865746036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779465351499318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211522384909673,0.04233986487568525,0.0,0.056545645706620275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388642374122222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04336227706246826,0.0,0.11062864589434716,0.0,0.0,0.1284397674726843,0.0,0.0,0.13278173048908815,0.0938030635473157,0.0,0.0719181427202635,0.0,0.05584323601484967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138773302442445,0.06860052550079361,0.0,0.07462265928901862,0.05506546559496209,0.10501519878036554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988737225551661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044004898255080534,0.0,0.3292696481515673,0.0,0.06465362301865436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058354178017810274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903117640496962,0.0,0.06713323138397201,0.0,0.0641481324972829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166650058627534,0.0,0.11850630387582513,0.12424230398498805,0.0,0.0,0.1319117566695683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306711581582946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048679845739533864,0.05063457807152357,0.0,0.0,0.06160959975154216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889033334918884,0.0,0.0889744760975445,0.04993101679891223,0.0,0.0,0.4373901403706129,0.0,0.0,0.13654370486013082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241240062719328,0.0,0.12575221191229774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06566938811993782,0.07472591864435647,0.08411622013705544,0.0,0.0,0.07048527244262343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06739044639878203,0.054307700026643854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054182595485848,0.0,0.07349161569334849,0.0,0.13995178735023062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987236983851586,0.15830486043231934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446408145752704,0.042066908390740204,0.06450238514466586,0.05212005439847078,0.267973920635092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413209500217401,0.0,0.0,0.11340384464808285,0.0,0.054169463627468814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0477951626201642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977390648640514,0.042277492004018924
parenting,throwaway-for-dad,2019/02/12,"Accidentally discovered daughter's dark secrets. Looking for advice [Long post] My 17-year old daughter is a good kid. Honors student, was just admitted to a very competitive college, great to talk to, etc. I've always erred on the side of trusting her. I never censored books or movies when she was growing up, since I trusted her judgment. I don't go into her room without permission. I don't check her texts or anything. I thought she had a good head on her shoulders, and I taught her right from wrong and how to be responsible.

The first crack in the facade came about 6 months ago. I came across her Reddit account (since she used the same account name on other social media platforms) where she asked for advice, because she was masturbating in the nude on Omegle, and the person on the other end said that he captured a screenshot. She was freaked out and asked for advice. I didn't let her know that I knew, since it would embarrass her, and masturbation is healthy anyway. She should have known better than to do that sort of thing online, and I assumed she learned her lesson. To be clear, I found out about it 6 months ago, but the actual incident (and the posts) was 6 months prior to that, so about a year ago now.

About a month ago, she was caught at her school taking nude photos of herself for someone on Snapchat. The other person told her to go into the boy's bathroom and take nude photos, so she did. Someone walked in, spotted her, and contacted a Vice Principal. Security was called as well. The school didn't punish her in any way, since they saw her as being more of a victim of online predators. They were thankfully more concerned with her safety than making an example out of her. My wife works at the same school, so she was called to the office. When they got home, I went on a walk with my daughter and reassured her that our relationship hadn't changed. I told her that I knew about the Omegle incident and wished she had learned from that. Now this time I hoped the lesson would stick.

Just about a week ago, I recently came across \*another\* Reddit account of hers. (It was an account name I hadn't seen before. She left herself logged in.) I glanced through it (probably the biggest invasion of her privacy I've ever committed) and was shocked by what I saw. She talked about being into BDSM. She talked about having 3-ways with 2 other guys. I talked with her about it, and she confessed to me that she had a 31-year old boyfriend.

Here's what I've done so far:

* We were thinking of going on a short vacation during Spring break, and my daughter said that she wanted to stay home to go on a camping trip with friends. I told her she couldn't (which is kind of rare for me, since I try to respect her wishes) and when she wanted to know why, took her to another room (my wife didn't know about it at this point) and told her what I knew. I was very calm as we discussed it. I didn't blow up at her or make her ashamed or anything.  Later, I told my wife, who had a similar long, calm talk with her.
* Told her in no uncertain terms that she had to break up with the 31-year old. She was sad about it, but understood. She had misgivings about the age difference and knew on an intellectual level that it wasn't right. Still, she has feelings for him, so she was sad about it.
* We had a long talk about how easy it is for a 31-year old to manipulate a 17-year old. And by definition, people don't realize when they're being successfully manipulated. We also had a talk about how risky and dangerous her behavior was. Again, she understood on an intellectual level, but she was drawn to doing it anyway.
* I told her that since she had so violated our trust, I have no choice but to monitor and control her online activities. It goes against every parenting instinct I have, but I am basically trying to enforce good behavior rather than teach her to have good judgment. I deleted all of the texts from her 31-year old boyfriend, blocked his number, blocked him on Instagram, etc. I uninstalled Tinder. (Oh yeah, I found out that she had multiple Tinder encounters on the side. Basically whenever she told us she was going to a friend's house for a sleepover, she was hooking up with someone from Tinder.) I'm more tech savvy than the average father of my generation, but I'm sure there are things I missed. And if she's determined, she could reinstall Tinder, make arrangements, delete everything, and it'd be hard for me to detect that unless I install some spyware app on her phone - which I'm considering. And of course she can do whatever she wants on the laptop, especially in incognito mode.

She'll be going off to college in September, and I won't be able to control her behavior at that point. The school she'll be going to is academically pretty intense, so I'm actually hoping that she'll just be too busy to engage in this sort of behavior. To be clear, I don't necessarily mind if she has a boyfriend and they have sex - that's part of the college experience. Hell, even one night stands are fair game if that's what she wants. As long as it's fellow students and people her age, I'm fine. My much bigger concern is her venturing out to hook up with strangers and dating people far too old for her.

I don't know. If you had asked me 6 months ago, I would have said that my daughter was practically perfect. Her biggest problem was that she was a bit disorganized and would sometimes turn in her homework late. It feels like in the last 6 months (and especially the last week) I'm finding out that there's a side to her that I never knew about and don't understand. I used to kind of look down on parents who wouldn't let their kids read Harry Potter until they turned 15 or watch R-rated movies as being overly protective and not giving their kids the space to develop their own judgment. Now I'm not sure I was right. And I don't know if I'm responding to any of this correctly either.

What, if anything, should I be doing?",5.189100229056866,6.201495060711192,5.50578924544666,81.91725437543089,68.47094535993062,8.653497008917652,29.61292725776681,8.878349817283857,2.2367324348967017,4707,171,920,79,78,1498,431,1153,0.063,0.821,0.116,0.9953,2,0,0,0,0,0,159.0,7,1,8,10,51,45,5,3,55,1,102,6,5,12,11,165,184,72,0,25,26,11,3,1,3,11,0,3,5,7,57,57,0,6,30,3,5,17,24,15,2,2,75,13,163,30,157,80,15,151,2,3,7,4,167,73,1,18,55,635,220,20,0.043263258747690464,0.0,0.08443739947528704,0.0,0.0,0.1268290672143084,0.2301016111449971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0345976123899432,0.03599849702547705,0.0,0.0,0.058840999017572976,0.09073059797994766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680592704241064,0.0,0.12133592045535192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026372880977542302,0.0,0.03681384670471196,0.0,0.0,0.03826283661090175,0.04723227346670117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835324860739999,0.14844492763116116,0.0,0.0,0.04576679125166328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704684687018998,0.03454219174662666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045200897276098564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04427333438149567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038318406034934506,0.0,0.0964999392592948,0.028574974377338632,0.039134094405593164,0.036451161423978695,0.0,0.03888222733139629,0.04231976862372795,0.0,0.0,0.043750407076620465,0.03090728069375791,0.0,0.0,0.03954183471537232,0.03679970578973953,0.0,0.0948718603421114,0.06685017277862437,0.0,0.0,0.04150205998163666,0.17211254863951106,0.14514867530461714,0.034601580194428765,0.047697895502049115,0.0,0.042837428000064466,0.0,0.0,0.038755382067891454,0.0,0.044400584925581306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679315198887548,0.0859403554040472,0.0,0.049919991958526366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901040529121895,0.11888177787884564,0.0705306602991865,0.048802840282305485,0.0,0.047005657215952346,0.08847922648994536,0.0,0.02113624291251234,0.0,0.0,0.15314649030539368,0.07266048243583027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663568347637964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368355836643795,0.0,0.20719392226105207,0.0,0.03180347311390446,0.0,0.06673458448304004,0.0,0.0,0.0405996376011854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177825867457189,0.0,0.02931630378937187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607745795564376,0.046849893249960896,0.0,0.08997988879007067,0.07555161759360339,0.0,0.0,0.08179552687520249,0.0,0.08286848562198232,0.04401428756867611,0.046645110234297286,0.041397095790821424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04327496639992907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04271724869491962,0.04644854907241465,0.0,0.1108397597522938,0.12345979876685938,0.0,0.0,0.1751389102712535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147268882376179,0.0,0.0,0.044101444022626134,0.10997045622701096,0.0,0.042788469140127613,0.0,0.0,0.046112877465295486,0.034550094321335184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155021874012379,0.0,0.06505717279855959,0.24341358018795134,0.0,0.03983099605274736,0.0,0.0,0.057484373459364885,0.027721349311696626,0.0,0.03434619489276938,0.025227154089689046,0.0,0.0,0.33071918191712874,0.048067072330416745,0.05874582562958565,0.09411600431999878,0.0,0.045038578117112864,0.05204037340892104,0.07473112978920211,0.0,0.07139343872367154,0.10207116368708316,0.06868072210995937,0.06940635313571626,0.0,0.038898865322676106,0.040105474295151,0.03903836185035812,0.0,0.09950122490583793,0.04170423757978493,0.0,0.031496167631243494,0.0,0.0,0.12293191092330255,0.04730158186046141,0.0,0.19502084134300054
parenting,ParentWithoutANet,2019/02/12,"Should we talk to the preschool about constant illnesses? When our son started the twos program at a local preschool in August, we were prepared for an increase in colds coming home with him. Kids being around other kids are going to catch a few more viruses than an only child whose main points of contact are things like park time, story time at the library, and the indoor playground. That said, we live in a mandatory vaccination state (yay!). SO works in a front facing position (ie; we’ve got some experience with exposure to extra cold germs), and we specifically sought out a facility with a strong policy regarding sick kids (fever protocol, rules about sick children, etc.). We sought out this type of policy because I have a health condition that means getting sick can trigger issues, so I try to reduce my chances of getting sick. For this reason, we all get the full range of vaccinations available. The staff assured us the school enforced the policy and we toured a very clean school.

Cut to now; the school is still ridiculously clean and my ASD kiddo has settled in beautifully but we have a problem. He keeps bringing home illnesses constantly. Less than two weeks in, it started with a virus that included a rash all over his body. Then there was a sinus infection he shared with all of us. Then he gave me pneumonia. A strain of the flu that his flu shot did not protect against. Currently, it’s another sinus infection; one that has come on so strong it’s making my teeth hurt that’s struck right as I was recovering from pleurisy. Every time this happens, we have to call the school, take him to the pediatrician, put him on whatever medication they recommend, and wait until he’s not contagious. We have to treat me and I’ve been hospitalized three times since August due to something kiddo has brought home. 

My issue is that I can see these symptoms. They’re not “oh, he’s looking a little tired” things; my nonverbal toddler is easily identifiable as sick. I can not see a way to ignore these problems if you are a parent or caregiver. So, I’m looking at these symptoms and how frequently kidlet is getting sick and I’m beginning to conclude people send children who are contagious to school and the sick kid policy isn’t enforced. This is a problem. I can’t keep getting sick at this rate. My health is taking a real hit, I hate hospitals, and the time off of work is problematic. However, I am at a loss over what to do. Do I talk to the school? Change programs over the summer? Start dipping my kid in hand sanitizer? 

I would greatly appreciate any advice... tissues... a hazmat suit...",5.149983654789147,7.119474124223603,5.515759507464313,78.1561760379209,69.66252587991718,8.810918600849947,30.5159093385638,9.345792617884785,2.8912351966873717,2074,86,365,45,38,661,264,483,0.166,0.743,0.091,-0.9926,3,0,1,0,0,0,69.0,13,1,1,6,12,18,3,1,38,1,34,28,5,5,4,58,67,24,0,6,7,2,1,1,0,2,23,2,5,8,24,30,0,5,3,0,0,10,6,10,0,3,9,9,39,8,58,54,12,62,0,2,4,0,45,26,0,3,25,235,63,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890584057414267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054911290325804406,0.08467113560772184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188268426072393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04922312497288536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969263087693008,0.0,0.0,0.08245255802098089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542049263813559,0.13911420359734009,0.0,0.17451942642898008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005517019700993,0.0,0.0,0.06803352563973566,0.0,0.0,0.07898686766770824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210937030496369,0.0,0.04589085008681392,0.0,0.06458141253585574,0.08902476271895668,0.0,0.0,0.07140503544821765,0.0,0.0,0.07972176044342709,0.0,0.1716623252136866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429899583653971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644221730317073,0.0,0.0,0.1685595018330145,0.0,0.14354475495078814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03944930882696502,0.08093053440257633,0.07130180931755184,0.0,0.13561567318241155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053899800562815146,0.0,0.0,0.08795805404555616,0.0,0.08134493912601626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05471681635374375,0.061412359956951164,0.0,0.0,0.08966090439749352,0.0,0.0,0.055980375127661706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633279513583692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317942914194279,0.0,0.08117386736333856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190870340940148,0.0,0.08302221318296682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895820180962499,0.07680967315128627,0.0,0.0,0.4903266621821449,0.1286911249928949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679543570887257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216362107989287,0.0,0.0,0.17146117956472715,0.0,0.06448531777973937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678558170454311,0.1214246312252732,0.12980408698608498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729053459073473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354235321359873,0.09280774696931553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482247311286923,0.0,0.07887889243130135,0.0,0.19425938380598234,0.0,0.0,0.066625412664089,0.0,0.06409386540904162,0.06477103501169992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757075738519653,0.0,0.0,0.057360938492898375,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AccForPosts,2019/02/12,"13 month old eats very little quantity of solids. Worried if it's hindering his growth! My 13 month old has always been a picky eater who ate very little solids. Until he was a 10-11 months old I comforted myself saying things will improve as he gets older but now I'm very worried. 

I offer him a variety of healthy options and even try sneaky ways to get him to eat more and eat healthier options. Most of these tricks don't work because he refuses to eat the very first bite or brushes food off of his high chair or starts playing with it. When he is hungry (which happens occasionally) he asks for food and is quite restless until he gets it but eats literally 4-5 bites and is satisfied and refuses to eat after that. After this point he is more interested in playing with his food.

He has always been a small baby but has fallen off the charts since he turned 9-10 month old. I think he is average in height though.
Doctor says he is doing fine and reaching his milestones and that he could just be a small baby genetically but the nagging feeling that he eats so less always bugs me.  

I am not worried that he is not chubby or rolly polly like other babies I see, but I just want him to eat healthy and grow. Though genetics play the main role in a child's  height and weight, nutrition plays an important role too! 

To give a perspective, this is roughly what he eats on a good day - 
Breakfast - 3-4 bites of what we eat, few bites of dry cornflakes 
Lunch+Snack - 4-5 small bites of rice mixed with lentils, 2 strawberries with little cheese sneaked in, Navel orange half 
Snack - Puffs, baby snacks, 
Dinner - 4-5 small spoonful / bites of porridge kind of food with spinach and other vegetables, 1-2 strawberries 
Cow's milk - 30-60ml on most days. 
Nurses 2 times a day before naps and at night.
(He wakes up frequently at night, that's another story for another day)

I know toddlers eating habits is like a roller coaster ride but I'm tired of riding only in the downs. It makes me cry in frustration and concern every time people comment on how thin and small he is and proceed to list all the things I'm doing wrong by not getting him to eat more! Maybe I just need to hear other parents' stories and experiences with toddlers and if they grew up ok later in their childhood.

Kind of a vent but parents' stories of their toddlers food habits are welcome!",6.592388663967617,6.547382368421057,6.491666666666671,79.75846153846156,65.2280701754386,9.208367071524966,32.01214574898785,8.730908602173464,2.449799190283401,1864,66,355,25,26,589,241,456,0.08,0.799,0.121,0.9412,2,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,1,0,3,3,11,19,3,1,18,1,24,28,1,2,1,56,45,36,0,5,18,2,4,2,0,1,2,3,0,1,21,23,25,2,3,6,0,6,4,5,0,2,4,9,24,14,52,38,9,66,0,0,1,0,45,30,0,9,31,192,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14025190486559588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783028225943562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252563109460357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034250011338678735,0.0,0.04780951569646325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044859356093565055,0.0,0.0617168668539265,0.14493937139341687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057507991588357475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6898985382165267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03710983253060991,0.0,0.04733850249968493,0.0,0.0,0.05495996271500324,0.0,0.0,0.028408954253463257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04779115113103873,0.3396971805560343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174179118489944,0.053898018428855235,0.0,0.04712552810603684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04968443744860545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332486836265158,0.0,0.0,0.05936280908972581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701659885134745,0.030877948023805123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05489855734965499,0.16893716454169413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03750409551294948,0.0,0.05644564273889632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793861452550255,0.0,0.0,0.04166065634439715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545211570711242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23582790450633845,0.0,0.0,0.042731419957982034,0.0,0.0,0.12477415824135288,0.0,0.0,0.0389517830069112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05311322879958561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059759937085950024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936154338334093,0.0,0.0,0.04477237571387378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04647702541561675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039768214279162745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465397672922602,0.036001244196930494,0.11040345999796523,0.0,0.06552415068723104,0.06457668804585767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0381461015887248,0.0611134259062563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854348857734001,0.03313952044727007,0.04459724201193367,0.0,0.06841850695760615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040903536455255504,0.17117656816287788,0.0,0.0,0.061429758714560426,0.0,0.0
parenting,PannyPOTN,2019/02/12,"15 month old daughter still not walking I’m a first time father so every stage is new to me. My daughter started off developing fast, she could hold her head up at 12 days old for example. But my wives friends who have kids a month or so younger than our daughter have kids who are walking unaided already. My daughter can walk while holding on to things, especially fast if it’s a couch or holding onto our hands. At the same time she has developed into what seems like the terrible 2s - slapping, screaming, random bouts of crying for no reason. I guess there’s so much in the public about autism that you’ve got to worry about it, especially as a first time parent. So I guess I’m just looking for some advice at this stage?",4.808521126760566,6.007655345070425,5.1550422535211275,83.39523943661972,69.49295774647888,7.651830985915493,29.69295774647888,7.908726449838941,1.906423098591549,577,22,111,7,10,183,99,142,0.097,0.8640000000000001,0.039,-0.8074,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,7,0,7,2,2,1,0,18,15,10,0,2,6,7,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,8,1,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,1,3,11,2,20,13,3,30,0,0,1,0,18,9,0,8,17,72,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16923470012207714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19111431820110172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382743938009541,0.0,0.1902359528683703,0.11169021059684216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591610996235066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946227064833908,0.0,0.0,0.1338025563672585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385121291965205,0.0,0.381566332203546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773811256757055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460960431796495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543205937533607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764697562721669,0.0,0.12731114452282968,0.0,0.0,0.1672634709176549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36345774189167307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19230181388317225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780633632346703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766142006244352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258146796686813,0.0,0.13830602826512775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150566378564786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029572759593929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758781092494321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dentstar,2019/02/12,"Help with Potty Training Our child is 27 months and she will cry whenever we put her on the potty, but once she is on she won't get off unless we take her off. Then cries when we go to put her back on again. Any suggestions? She's gone pee a few times but has not pooped yet. 

Thanks in advance! ",0.865714285714283,2.6608205714285766,1.9907142857142863,99.49178571428571,81.38095238095238,5.469841269841268,16.849206349206348,6.42735559955562,-0.5882888888888891,228,4,56,2,6,72,49,63,0.135,0.838,0.028,-0.7993,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,0,0,9,10,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,11,1,9,7,1,18,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,0,7,37,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786357875856739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20198965824081105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5770974406331145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724282328872844,0.0,0.14929075786772647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17607318401637098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096738108010604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797524861997242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5281448547935791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750751168410954,0.0,0.0,0.241846381570762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153174576047252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tulipsmakemesmile,2019/02/12,"I yelled at my son this morning And now I’m sitting at my desk feeling sick to my stomach. I could have taken so many different approaches to make the situation better, but I chose to yell and let out my frustrations on him. It took me about 30min to get my daughter dressed, then she didn’t want to eat her breakfast (an overnight oat recipe that she had loved when I made it before) and she was just in a whole mood this morning. My son was great, he listened, ate his breakfast, brushed his teeth got dressed and was just amazing. Then I told him to put his boots on as there’s snow outside and he said no, he’d rather wear his sneakers, I told him No and asked him again and he said No, I don’t want to. And I lost it...and yelled at him to put his boots or else he was going to school in his socks and that’s it. He looked so upset, but he did it and he was quiet and giving me the stink eye the whole way to school and I knew I had to apologize and I did before I dropped him off and told him mommy’s so sorry and I loved him, but he didn’t say it back. I cried on the way to work and couldn’t fathom how awful I’d been to him. I could have just let him wear the shoes and when he got them wet and his socks wet, he’d learn his lesson on his own, I could have patiently explained to him why I wanted him to wear the boots, I could have done so many other things, but I didn’t and I’m so angry with myself. ",2.6176671319993794,3.0708069478827404,3.5641973010702657,95.54715526601521,73.98371335504886,6.6293780052737725,22.436637195594848,6.18269132825596,0.07487479447805168,1091,24,271,6,21,350,136,307,0.126,0.774,0.1,-0.8632,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,4,17,10,1,1,8,1,28,14,7,3,0,46,57,35,0,9,9,3,3,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,11,21,4,0,5,0,0,5,8,4,0,0,27,15,56,5,29,21,3,27,0,1,2,2,53,11,0,1,7,178,67,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615781763702424,0.0,0.0,0.08731614528882176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932524652384816,0.0,0.0,0.10042943299820327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626550500587339,0.0,0.12473392056551134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863993594126855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620533820032115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161942618644774,0.09485993573492042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574163988523226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059327365581459714,0.1089315043366557,0.06453545007099258,0.0,0.18163928174516195,0.12519387020860628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23223365896435044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953569010919492,0.0,0.12395778747137053,0.0,0.20497413867966066,0.10744769862025276,0.07579828836200829,0.2302522049991017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22830660379513626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160320332810048,0.0903028314801758,0.0,0.2298457591282418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763964165486846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711459335281589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544034295586069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32551761902145193,0.12616285794796467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093156968738468,0.1802680248083109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246497366829066,0.253558344829491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266878613805942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,roundface91,2019/02/12,"Favourite inherited trait :) What's the favourite thing your baby has inherited from you or your partner? My earlobes curl up and it made me smile when my daughter was born with the exact same thing, I love it!",3.6134615384615394,6.342426692307698,3.3407051282051263,88.47721153846153,76.94871794871796,5.951282051282053,27.698717948717945,7.1686216300943375,1.392379487179487,167,7,32,2,4,50,32,39,0.0,0.778,0.222,0.8748,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,1,6,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,1,3,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,2,23,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.484132471636835,0.5075656884306693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7127361516260486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kylebandujo,2019/02/12,"New Parenting Podcast - TheDadGum Podcast Hi all,

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My name is Kyle Bandujo, I'm a freelance writer, single dad, and podcast host of The DadGum Podcast. Along with my buddy Pete Hart, another writer & married father of one, we try to take a light-hearted & comedic look at the journey of parenting. Just two dads trying to figure it out. 

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We cover:

\- The Good (fun activities to do with our kids, adorable things they say, things that bring you elation & joy when it comes to parenting)

\- The Bad (dealing with parental guilt, discipline, mistakes we've made along the way)

\- The Ugly (the worst diapers we ever had to change)

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We've had the show going for close to a year now, but just this week launched on our own feed (we had been part of a network). We'd love for any parents looking for a podcast that reflects their experience to give us a chance & get involved. We take listener questions every episode, & love to hear about what our listeners would like discussed on a parenting podcast. 

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You can find us as The DadGum Podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, & SoundCloud, with Google Play to come soon. Twitter handle is @TheDadGumPod and Instagram is @dadgumpodcast

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Catch me on Twitter @kylebandujo & my co-host Pete @pjhart84. ",6.263596491228071,8.528998166666668,5.3421052631578965,79.32307017543863,67.33333333333333,7.698245614035088,36.35087719298246,8.344100000000001,3.221287719298246,1034,54,165,15,18,309,144,228,0.042,0.82,0.138,0.9738,6,0,0,0,1,0,79.0,11,2,2,0,7,13,0,1,16,0,11,3,0,2,2,32,28,5,0,2,3,9,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,1,8,17,1,1,4,3,0,6,0,4,0,2,5,6,19,9,30,21,5,21,0,0,2,2,38,7,0,1,8,99,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7164351074483942,0.3347744227663121,0.03747120662476738,0.05777918527657847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04600781571045436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05829054299474086,0.09493087917816154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680767743633725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04984285658056862,0.04642575837377392,0.0,0.0,0.053900267530755684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050362172080035884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02878848778692768,0.05285879882702038,0.03131570057061918,0.04621689038646543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062103887584426,0.06529606054389855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02692002306791197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254349845403356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946329876915197,0.05213878501339188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321779402963403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03733849849958972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36710508038415257,0.0596700280290377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061726780009939565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04381927186068163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285959807140521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732145569094725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482119635158963,0.0,0.0538265857365426,0.0,0.1325616911605022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043737352735155326,0.04419945009164919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039142835029099834,0.0,0.3347744227663121,0.03548384078211037
parenting,stacatto_dorado,2019/02/12,"Little Brother's Milestone! So my 4 year old brother and I (18) are super close and this semester I have a class at noon on Tues&Thurs, and our parents go to work pretty early (our mom works at a daycare these same two days of the week). On a typical school day, my brother and I wake up, play, eat breakfast, get dressed, pep talk, and go to the daycare so I can go to school. As you can guess, he cries... Hard. The first time I dropped him off and I saw those fat tears roll down his cheek, I lost it when I got in my car because I remembered how my dad dropped me off at daycare (single parent at the time) so he could go work and I cried just as hard. 

Last week he held on to me and begged me to take him to school with him and this again hurt my heart. I almost posted LAST NIGHT how on Earth I should prepare him and myself mentally but I put it off and I just dropped him off with a SUCCESS!!! No tears!! His daycare friends welcomed him and offered to play some silly game they play, and I gave him a smirk as I saw the bravery in his eyes. 

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I don't know if this will happen every time and my parents said this is something he's just going to have to get used to. It's not like he's in there forever (I pick him up about two hours after dropping him off) but if you do have any tips I'd love to hear! ",2.062737047898338,3.2780793548387126,3.059134897360707,95.71779325513201,76.24014336917563,5.789573150863474,23.792929292929287,5.852544927426893,0.23210250896057305,1016,31,239,5,22,324,147,279,0.061,0.805,0.134,0.9798,3,0,1,0,1,0,41.0,2,2,1,7,12,12,0,0,10,0,12,8,5,4,0,38,33,27,0,4,8,8,2,1,1,2,1,2,0,0,9,17,3,1,2,4,0,7,3,2,0,3,7,7,45,10,38,23,3,52,0,2,3,1,39,21,0,5,20,151,54,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399126659671083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504392945496424,0.12618971482065472,0.07062189576630112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330629603677593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291616749543335,0.0,0.22814977810560205,0.1339499520464951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062649796516322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749851857124435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833517546965433,0.0,0.0,0.08023463253098866,0.0,0.10851519163057967,0.0,0.2951031392841748,0.0,0.08305872540031017,0.0,0.11440302518031753,0.0,0.09183464713163596,0.0,0.1860592850889158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704705214297707,0.12306333307754586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022718155621034,0.0,0.1111740996063189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057073514495326785,0.16930402349184978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05073610471545105,0.10408547551839133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133650797547134,0.0,0.09372912365203458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465687007100216,0.0,0.0,0.12162844112569525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745665174597777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089736218536002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34594104457038105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946006443838676,0.10565328532150606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043984281896816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764236302777407,0.0,0.0987855994450142,0.0,0.0,0.3153067267460766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799491824415751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808264565423119,0.0834710917079227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18166817114070705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20289368129551555,0.0,0.0,0.08969348152798648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660520108456234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22681318515622026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618971482065472,0.06687631199593856
parenting,Isaact714,2019/02/12,"Library Disagreement Hello Parenting,

My wife and I had a disagreement about last night and I want to see if you think if I am being unreasonable.

Last night after dinner, my wife wanted to go to her friends house to drop by and drop off some stuff. She decided to bring my daughter along who is 3.5 years old, since her friend as a similarly aged daughter. So far so good. This would leave my 2 year old son home alone with me. So far so good.

Here is the disagreement. I tell my wife that maybe my son and I will swing by the library and pick up a couple of books together. It's 8 pm. The weather cool (High 50s), but clear skies. The library is about 2 miles away. My son is well and has energy. She felt that this displayed incredibly poor judgement on my part. 

Do you think it is inappropriate to bring a 2 year old to the library at 8 pm?

Best Regards,

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parenting,ceerandom,2019/02/12,"How to get my 2 year old to talk more? My kid is nearly 26 months old. She can count to 10 while walking up an down the stairs. Can understand our instructions. She loves the word “no” and “go” and she has enough vocabulary for her age (in my opinion) but seems like other kids are talking more than her. We talk to her, points things out, read, and etc. Sometimes, she even surprised me. I just feel like she is not taking enough.

She is an active and a healthy kid. We take her swimming and little gym on a weekly basis. We started to take her to daycare more nowadays on recommendation to get her to learn increase her vocabs and interact with other kids. But the daycare pretty much do what we do at home anyway in terms of teaching.

We don’t really want to take her to daycare that often as she caught illness off the other kids few times now. 

We are bilingual but we primarily speak to her in English. Even though some say bilingual kids will take longer to talk but our pediatrician reckon it doesn’t matter really. 

I am not worry to a certain extent as my nephew apparently didn’t go all talkative until 3 and he grew up to be a smart and athletic kid.  

I guess seeing other kids talk more make me a little bit worry, just a bit. 

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parenting,jowlerstein,2019/02/12,"My toddler has a cold sore, and I'm 9mos pregnant - how am I going to quarantine my infant?! Well, the title says it all in a nutshell. I have an appointment with our pediatrician today but it's not for a few hours so I'm over here losing my mind. Basically - I'm 9mos pregnant and my 20mos old has a large cold sore on his lip (I have no idea where he got it from, but that's not even my concern right now, they're super contagious and god knows my kid touches and licks everything). If I wasn't about to have a baby, I'd view this more as a nuisance... but infants can die from HSV. Easily. Has anyone dealt with this? I'm a nurse - I deal with a lot of shit, but I work adult ICU and have zero practical knowledge of how to handle something like this with toddlers and infants. I'll need to somehow quarantine my new baby, presumably. Maybe have my toddler get on an antiviral? Should I call a virologist doctor? I'm trying to stay calm but my hormones are killing me right now. Any advice or wisdom would be amazing.",2.14513030148186,4.13338713592233,3.8753142565150753,86.58948645886562,78.126213592233,6.666939192641799,24.43433827286664,7.669130373188453,1.2563436893203883,794,28,162,12,19,266,130,206,0.142,0.73,0.128,-0.643,0,2,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,3,11,9,2,0,12,0,15,5,2,2,1,32,25,17,2,4,9,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,5,7,10,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,3,1,1,2,6,19,6,20,20,4,15,0,1,1,0,11,7,1,4,7,104,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18225781167870864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268348646743263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041384464190287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19045006913138773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228615059698104,0.0,0.0,0.19357048099217333,0.0,0.0,0.1909034001338768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318971699102806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762536748708848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744505932776687,0.0,0.10599932593125737,0.0,0.1491710479003775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367719736301333,0.0,0.0,0.2105498584738699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063483965081129,0.0,0.1025023671335256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09112056403840328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865972826719412,0.0,0.15856621885455066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737682927148025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883244100680712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829662153537114,0.0,0.1801348905469549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957134459631416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31856123368488865,0.0,0.14832218968106348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914523540312541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358639945543494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879745995841488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679199829979111,0.0,0.0,0.12662971343645624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676970956156948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357832880463368,0.0,0.0,0.13249309619519567,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GigglyNemo,2019/02/12,"Son[11m] suffering these issues in school.Anyone else face these? Disclaimer: we live in india.

So my son who is in sixth grade cannot write very well.
He has a lot of trouble in copying,memorizing, spellings.
He is isolated in the school because he puts a lot of things in his mouth.
He is always gnawing on something no matter how much we tell him not to.
He is otherwise excellent in sports ,is good in swimming,badminton, skating.
He is always kinda 'lost' in his own world and does not pay attention in classes. 
Having trouble with grades.
He is average in maths and language.
He understands and can orally tell everything and has no trouble understanding science.
Pls help.
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parenting,buttmunchr69,2019/02/12,"My 2 mo loves long conversations I truly believe everyone just wants to be heard. My son was cranky and pouty this morning so I said, ""Really .. do you have anything else to say, how was your night"" then he babbles, looks around for something more to share, looks serious then babbles more, I respond, ""interesting..."" And he's happy with a huge smile. When I come home from work I ask him how his day was and he babbles more, becomes happy.

He seems kinda starved for such attention, I think it's because it's easy to forget the little human in there with thinks, contemplates, has feelings etc.

Before I an told I neglect my son, I do this every day.",5.539838709677419,6.283924758064518,5.775967741935487,81.25895161290326,67.54838709677419,8.458064516129033,30.822580645161292,8.472884824447931,2.264664516129032,506,19,96,7,8,161,87,124,0.07200000000000001,0.746,0.182,0.94,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,0,1,8,7,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,2,0,19,21,9,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,4,7,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,6,16,5,11,14,4,12,0,1,2,1,20,4,0,2,7,58,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828059510039826,0.1604068462942636,0.16845284705061342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098418391418238,0.19900513221126148,0.15332798230781555,0.2030118481769904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521728844216287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23241462550895195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052519542387885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20095890953933665,0.0,0.0,0.15181741475551308,0.17217877718872812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911092189850563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3836301201777921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807447477484949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805972039850468,0.0,0.1594620262343023,0.3026275752914557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626280475659182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690956276791772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543399972923213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140146562143582,0.1432939127627848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403774200627386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871867076485267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23091629575719186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217877718872812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628042829566678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118009297053929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SwtVT2013,2019/02/12,"Record yourself reading your child’s favorite books, so they can listen to it later in life. I was telling my coworkers how much my son loves books. Every time we go down for a nap, or at bed time, my fiancé and I read books to our almost 3 year old. 

A coworker suggested I record myself reading his favorite books. She said her grandfather passed away recently and her favorite memory was reading books with him. He recorded himself on tape, reading the books. She said now that he’s gone, she cherishes those tapes and cries every time she hears him say “okay kids, gather around, it’s time to read...” ",5.361315789473687,6.673852456140352,5.0797807017543875,84.02388157894737,68.2982456140351,8.156140350877193,29.16228070175439,8.472884824447931,2.076985964912281,476,17,89,7,8,146,78,114,0.023,0.8270000000000001,0.15,0.9337,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,3,1,3,2,0,1,0,9,10,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,2,4,6,0,0,0,13,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,5,21,3,11,5,1,18,0,0,0,1,28,6,0,2,9,50,25,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021393690831634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576109082487168,0.0,0.0,0.12217466620071828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14284026815011838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191246813252591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739034013485341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465618985309301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09184944797526534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736406905235106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559264559587376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645265400743029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7804371261137208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839650564890562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473911941753414,0.10341116999179592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365865025209808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30330403118567856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373999236562295
parenting,camilalope,2019/02/12,"My parents use with me Safe365 (tracking app) My parents don't let me do nothing. I'm ashamed to say that, but they track my location with an app called safe365. Wherever I go, they know. I went to a party, they knew. I hung out with my bf, they knew.Whereverthefuckiwannago, they know. And I'm fucking sick of it. Could anyone, please, give me some tricks to hack that f\*cking App? I would be so grateful. Thanks, I'm so tired of it. PS: I'm 18, waiting to go HighSchool next year.

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parenting,Kaykochi,2019/02/12,"Can I tell another Mum that her children are well behaved? Basically I’m at the library right now and there’s my son and 3 older children. They are playing so nice together and actually including my toddler when normally my toddler gets shoved out of the way or told off by some older child.

I really wanna high five the Mum and tell her that her kids are awesome!",3.8573708920187775,5.880784901408454,5.312323943661976,78.0523356807512,73.22535211267606,8.67699530516432,31.551643192488264,9.2995712137729,3.1277586854460093,292,14,53,7,6,98,52,71,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.8981,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,7,7,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,9,3,6,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,4,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.29492778003217524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169090238390097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789996897126138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193170638350061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29611610716870074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936129271993287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25809830309148113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5283155418704829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28878872023238694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23989195580123815,0.0,0.0,0.2717363648496809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wherearethekidskaren,2019/02/12,"My son is masturbating, and I took parenting action My son, who is 17, is recently coming home very late. I suspect he may of been masturbating, so I bought a UV light to see. I checked his socks, and a spot appeared in the light. So, whenever he’s in the bathroom, I take the door off the hinges to see what he’s doing. I also limit tissue use, and regularly check his sock drawer and bedsheets with the UV light. Please let me know if this may be too much.",3.141244239631334,4.353564752688172,4.690353302611367,85.09838709677422,73.51612903225806,7.894930875576037,25.1136712749616,8.418075326091056,1.456586482334869,354,11,76,6,7,119,63,93,0.029,0.944,0.027000000000000003,-0.046,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,14,18,8,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,6,0,1,2,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,3,5,11,0,7,11,1,9,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,4,2,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20838266679344586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244632950814109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613791418177171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320584685630444,0.0,0.29394126653888786,0.0,0.0,0.26645678557222513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155346519505728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893389966030122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286034382068501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572875290005181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41529093675077794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959208486558244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895097096375713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505414452367967,0.0,0.21500262771192874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wheredaheckahwe,2019/02/12,"IEP Question - could really use some advice. I could really use some advice as I'm not really familiar with IEPs (apologies if this is too long, but I want to put in some context).    My 12 year old daughter is in a French Immersion school and she's had the same teacher for Grades 5, and now 6.   The teacher has been pushing us to do an IEP for her as she is struggling in French reading and writing.    I was reluctant at first as she had a substitute teacher for most of Grades 3 and 4 due to maternity leaves and most of the students in those classes received Ds in French because we were told the teacher did not perform  as expected (this was a call we received from the grade 4 teacher when she returned near the end of the year). 

No other teacher has ever mentioned wanting to put my daughter in an IEP.  One of the reasons her current teacher mentioned (last year) wanting to put her in an IEP was that when she asked my daughter why she used Google Translate when she was told not to, my daughter started crying and said French was hard.   This year is standardized testing year so the cynic in me worries the school is more concerned about their average grades than anything.

The thing about my kid, though, is that she's a crier and not a trier.  Rather than take the time to learn or try something she immediately goes into crying frustration mode and makes things take twice as long.   We don't give in to this though and just make her continue until she gets it (which she eventually does but her immediate crying makes it take way longer than it needs to).   She also doesn't pay attention when things are being explained but is too worried/embarrassed to get clarification on it.

Lastly, she tends to be a ""good enough"" kid.   She could easily put in the extra work but she's fine with getting a '3' rather than a '4' as a grade (B rather than an A) even though she wants As.   One time the teacher was going to let her re-write a test but she was like ""Nah, I'll take the B"" (even though we worked with her at home and she understood everything better and would have gotten an A).  

In the past my kid has brought home homework and we'd sit with her at night helping her until we felt she understood.   This teacher doesn't send home any homework so we can't really work with her on what's going on in school anymore.

So yesterday was report card and she was crying because she came home with an even mix of Bs and Cs and 2 D+s in French Reading and Writing.   She said she was shocked because she thought she did better than that and she didn't get a single A and that ""everyone else got As"".   Before the report card the teacher called and said she'd be coming home with a C- in French (not sure how it changed to Ds) and again pushed the IEP.   

My concern with IEPs is how it affects her future.   I apologize if this offends anyone it's merely ignorance on my part which is why I'm here.   I don't want to do anything that affects my child's ability or chances to get into a University later in life but I do want her to succeed in school, I guess i'm just not really trusting the teacher has my child's welfare in mind over other factors.   To me it just feels like my kid is lazy and lacks focus and rather than work on that we're going with an IEP.",5.069318130333006,5.567711439628482,5.405342445065318,84.37228233783888,68.50464396284829,8.221943668353093,29.99758362908707,8.096554002634818,1.9130263233406324,2554,92,518,31,41,813,260,646,0.083,0.848,0.069,-0.9359,1,0,1,0,0,0,57.0,8,0,1,9,34,15,3,1,43,0,51,1,0,11,2,112,100,56,0,19,23,4,3,2,0,1,1,3,7,6,29,41,0,1,11,2,1,15,13,6,0,4,30,6,68,9,83,60,12,79,0,0,0,0,79,29,0,11,35,357,97,26,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071269186901686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939369596687843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042002528716493376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125459053117833,0.043187740757755694,0.0,0.10165517451192516,0.0,0.057742226999987115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295467878766548,0.0,0.052557729447028974,0.0,0.0,0.10925279450431633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613857425226524,0.07064305999499333,0.0,0.0,0.0653395080268994,0.05320534535612177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794372206376086,0.0,0.271385170351511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054051238873369184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05159699082302558,0.0,0.054705731606355584,0.0638200759766784,0.0,0.12238621388791647,0.05587025888442125,0.0,0.059019400449934624,0.05551067783741919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031230396496925807,0.04412514969368834,0.059304383544058176,0.0,0.0,0.052537541000295465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613491256211122,0.05925091331816841,0.10530794689903096,0.051805811461685,0.04939936065050478,0.0,0.06804145227552673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05532958567678739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139998523143156,0.0,0.309778209044256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069394245753968,0.0,0.06540054491785763,0.0,0.06315921404303751,0.043626664959881926,0.0603508210067231,0.0,0.0,0.10932071114158654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368647180864135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062365355631604835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045798194623763035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796255919155033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481230263759409,0.0,0.08370754489785517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668858115753079,0.058961977136372676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483647843441935,0.06919128268024519,0.0,0.12356404882761828,0.0,0.19784219538536732,0.06350502551723303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625886132520655,0.0,0.0,0.25003916421768146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047549953097758765,0.0,0.0,0.04371780421173204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457051253525048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821307356534496,0.0,0.1857593048594763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310238204430445,0.0,0.2427364132876248,0.04903475676390133,0.07203169774674388,0.0,0.0,0.11803880089986925,0.0,0.04193459100250607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429606278005045,0.1600361895988298,0.0,0.0,0.2185846801791492,0.04902642801546469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146717030924808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986352475024456,0.06272567030584518,0.0,0.04387630397970765,0.0,0.0,0.19887417242082495
parenting,demwilson94,2019/02/12,"Participants needed: Moral foundations and parenting styles research I am looking for participants who are **parents and 18 years or older** to take part in my study by completing an anonymous online questionnaire. It involves two different questionnaires, one in relation to moral foundations and one in relation to parenting styles, along with some demographic questions which should take approx. 20 to 30 minutes to complete.

If you are interested please follow the link to the questionnaire below:

[https://goo.gl/forms/bMNTripn9C8eu6DB3](https://goo.gl/forms/bMNTripn9C8eu6DB3)

Thank you in advance, and if you have any questions feel free to contact me at [d.wilson@uos.ac.uk](mailto:d.wilson@uos.ac.uk)",13.909375000000004,18.360161187500005,9.617083333333332,47.48625000000001,51.70833333333334,11.883333333333333,41.16666666666667,11.45678717892309,6.229004166666668,598,28,62,17,8,167,69,96,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.8689,4,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,16,12,7,0,4,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,6,4,17,11,2,10,2,0,1,0,11,6,0,6,2,46,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970977048026896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691384930168253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18391900643318346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900853617384072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478249829303736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052764998571428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23857161207663674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5863977821023851,0.19062864538730773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932334611179624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943987575031441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647126783651267,0.0,0.0,0.1620692875744977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196052128193334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133607059500772
parenting,tips101,2019/02/12,"antepartum depression Hey guys, has anyone heard of antepartum depression also known as depression during pregnancy? If yes, did you experience it?  ",10.189090909090913,14.11588972727273,10.154545454545453,41.8518181818182,60.81818181818182,17.127272727272725,42.81818181818181,13.816669648895859,9.4642,122,7,12,7,2,40,19,22,0.35600000000000004,0.56,0.084,-0.8677,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562110976067156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22402005450490625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.827839224592559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133971861219926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172306898766083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jujubee_1,2019/02/12,"Permissive parents Do you try to not be? So my mother was naturally a permissive parent and I noticed I seem to fall into the same habits with my 18 month old. Everything I read on parenting styles says this not a suitable way to parent for many reasons. 
So my question is to naturally permissive parents do you try to change your style or do you think there are pros to the style that nobody mentions? And if you change your style how and for what situations?",3.766363636363636,6.097911090909097,4.656818181818182,81.2677272727273,74.45454545454545,8.036363636363637,28.04545454545455,8.841846274778883,2.407268181818183,368,15,68,8,8,119,57,88,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,5,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,0,15,9,8,0,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,12,0,11,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,4,2,49,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019655088401192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827086234208707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469943455756445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392069892647487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624918830519813,0.14976451871204588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7923889158000222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988321241444942,0.0,0.14276232713298131,0.0,0.0,0.1467437383850624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349961798784465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993029985943744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042742326538562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145158663856448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938000528694052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132874330505254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,somethingwitt,2019/02/12,"Mum poisoning the kids against me. Spilt up from my ex last year, not very amicable and a bit messy. I have always loved my children and they have been my world since the day they were born. After the split I didn't see them for about 3 weeks as I was homeless living in my car and trying to get my shit together. 

I remained in contact via whatsapp but could only do this when I had a Wi-Fi connection so it wasn't as frequent as I liked but i told them that I still loved them and mum and myself breakup was not there fault.

The messages then became quite toxic. I was told by my children that I was a worm and a slug that wasn't wanted and wished me dead.

I have since learned that there mum has told them I was violent, and blamed me for other stuff that was out of my control. She has spread nothing but lies about me and has turned them against me. I now have no contact with them.

Part of our breakup was due tobthe fact that I suffer with crippling depression and often have suicidal thoughts.

They are now getting progressively worse.

People have said give them time, they will grow up and know the truth, but I haven't got that long..

I honestly don't know what to do?


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parenting,mommysolo,2019/02/12,"Recently Divorced - Looking for advice Hiya everyone,

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Just got a divorce with my husband and I got full physical and joint legal custody. Part of our court order stated that our children's name (specifically their last name) has now changed to be a hyphenation of our 2 last names and that the Department of Health will issue a new Certificate of Live Birth.  


I already took care of the birth certificates, but do I need to do anything for their Social Security cards?

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How would I check if my ex-husband already changed the name or not, without having to ask him? He isn't being civilized, so I don't intend to ask someone that doesn't want to cooperate.",8.052384792626732,8.27700352419355,7.686313364055297,71.50661290322583,62.145161290322584,10.634101382488481,39.48847926267281,10.290406445055957,4.2540866359447005,543,27,90,11,7,172,85,124,0.012,0.929,0.06,0.6679999999999999,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,3,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,2,0,19,20,8,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,3,1,13,2,14,13,2,12,0,0,1,0,18,1,0,2,7,60,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378377632437823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113164159087708,0.0,0.0,0.30566706450155456,0.34279564699155196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607662508333587,0.0,0.26373562849643645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381544258061862,0.0,0.2984359473202535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478453706981067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256298744502168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993535819726855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722525314407867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22995805305386954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455455565841432,0.0,0.11845106088629045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459083646966852,0.0,0.13623224248366406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15274931769874406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927524994140691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378827819401954,0.11951583372931553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671780644352834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831981650776322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597243010716542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020175188421013,0.0,0.34279564699155196,0.0
parenting,Pregnancykittest,2019/02/12,"Pregnancy kit test  Right from what is a pregnancy test kit, when to do a [pregnancy test](https://blog.pregakem.com/) and when to test for pregnancy a detailed list of FAQ's you need to know during your pregnancy phase. 

Get answers to all your questions here. If you have any queries apart from this, do share in the contact us section. ",10.117231638418076,9.801867728813562,7.680000000000002,75.02926553672317,58.152542372881356,11.934463276836158,40.00564971751413,11.20814326018867,4.414114124293785,272,12,47,6,3,78,42,59,0.0,0.961,0.039,0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,7,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,9,7,2,6,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,2,31,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035632409343761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332224510865674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453264790433977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309955094078322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5000634641926703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812180538125038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369570427153771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stepanka_,2019/02/12,"How do you talk to your young children about special needs kids? Looking for advice on talking to my 4 year old about special needs kids. My kids go to the gym daycare a few days a week, and many times it coincides with another kid with Down syndrome. I think he’s at least 5, so older than my oldest by at least a year, much bigger than her in size. Many times this kid will fixate on my girl, follow her around, and do things like throw chairs at her and throw toys. My girl will cry, as she is confused that someone is being mean to her. Despite this she has asked for this kid to be invited to her birthday party, which sort of breaks my heart. I don’t think the kid is meaning anything by this, I’m sure it’s misplaced emotions ??? I think he’s probably just trying to get her attention. But I’m not 100% sure how to talk to my kid about it. I want her to know not to be mean back and to show understanding but it’s hard at this age. Any thoughts? Especially parents of special needs kids? My husband did talk to the people who work at the daycare but they kind of just shrugged. ",3.078823529411764,4.405034619909504,3.6827149321266965,91.81375565610864,73.84162895927602,6.466968325791856,25.66968325791855,6.794906146795322,0.8174235294117649,845,28,185,7,17,266,122,221,0.024,0.901,0.075,0.8385,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,1,1,10,8,0,1,7,0,13,1,1,2,2,34,33,11,0,4,7,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,12,13,7,0,0,10,3,0,4,3,1,0,0,2,2,24,7,38,26,4,28,0,0,1,0,34,11,0,2,13,114,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293079204910372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554865347193932,0.13191279236388018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352309210534882,0.11198911571676703,0.1176064851157456,0.0,0.0,0.09673281883380236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381859414496872,0.08113091489450316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150862953572949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572556871006079,0.0,0.07149532288015943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126925377221582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907419748956174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100186141809206,0.06913666450053363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145976957601404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564073582690796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550839224359692,0.0,0.4111008705657746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09247784184673673,0.27983842886846805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200646219390033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968656709342206,0.0,0.0,0.0872142265208252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356342155374541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659035489983178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23713096378517146,0.0,0.0,0.4044547047038046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357626191319542,0.2418236412334867,0.0,0.09987154446795507,0.14671056571677105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541028132794759,0.0,0.0,0.130962756463705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742003939220681,0.0,0.10090957244599397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158426183670533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202279415874418
parenting,MedusaStein,2019/02/12,"Baby due in 4 weeks. Diapering advice needed. My husband and I made the decision to cloth diaper while we were TTC, and throughout the pregnancy we built up a good stash. Except that I didn't realize that OS cloth diapers don't fit most newborns. Our intent was to buy second hand/cheap covers. Now with being induced at least a week early (could be more depending on Drs orders) we are scrambling. 
We made the decision to use disposables for the newborn stage last night. Any suggestions on disposable diapers without latex, chlorine bleach , or fragrances? My husband and his mother are highly sensitive to fragrances in everything and I have latex allergies so we are preparing for potential allergies like us. There's a lot of conflicting info online, and we're just getting frazzled trying to weed through it all.
What are some good diapers for sensitive skin newborns that won't break the bank? ",6.1543461538461575,8.548551550000003,6.467500000000001,70.61519230769233,67.875,10.173076923076923,34.18269230769231,10.389873798559362,4.352471153846154,728,35,108,21,13,234,115,160,0.031,0.913,0.056,0.5927,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,8,0,13,2,1,6,1,32,18,8,0,2,4,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,11,0,1,5,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,5,1,13,3,19,9,6,19,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,5,9,76,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21927310815674728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259414531327273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915862459267573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166891611540547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723547449908388,0.0,0.0,0.37641845687981945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370822979779345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290929804779285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962651811555092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19076991727626508,0.0,0.4246499674516631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638370543533046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21057654027700204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523473292829712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699157538010617,0.19380250282754147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599871964407941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21630572545270296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Cinza,2019/02/12,"I made a huge mistake So my son (2y8m) hadn’t started with why yet, but knows because. 

He just came to me complaining that his dad told him not to do something. I asked him what he’s not supposed to do and why daddy said no. He didn’t have an answer to the why so I told him to go ask daddy why. He hasn’t stopped asking why since. It’s been 20 minutes. 

What have I done.",-1.1071084337349433,0.8243132891566312,1.1530240963855434,101.5791746987952,90.80722891566263,3.8019277108433744,17.938554216867473,4.935628992294339,-0.8406134939759031,285,8,72,1,10,95,57,83,0.116,0.862,0.021,-0.7506,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,12,20,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,9,1,10,0,6,11,0,6,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,0,3,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462278977624288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969895410393153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819748780678772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282067877218193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042360659295623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874404968059851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054994454471662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134624123167256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161412763804234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248757227831275,0.0,0.0,0.11261604595538607,0.0,0.0,0.13301974058009208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040652033271844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7178420897620487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thefourblackbars,2019/02/12,"Toddler with a newborn? Hi, wife found out she is pregnant a few days ago. Baby will be due October. Our toddler will be 2.5 years at that stage. Do you have any suggestions/tips on how to balance toddler and baby together? We don't have any family here so we will be doing it alone. I work long hours , wife will continue to be stay at home. Thanks in advance.",0.4866666666666682,2.9559387777777815,2.2957777777777792,91.42700000000002,91.77777777777777,5.6577777777777785,22.477777777777767,7.1686216300943375,1.0653677777777777,280,11,57,5,10,92,55,72,0.028,0.925,0.046,0.3094,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,14,0,0,1,0,7,16,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,8,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,7,37,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25693776799601725,0.0,0.0,0.3002009614855382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942208369337553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18693162237441388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732482206938537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178095614450715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907468396904218,0.0,0.2854474542785184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25651135513364104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089454198825448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668582937405545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21101690608764934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665624449763105
parenting,ODLL223,2019/02/12,"Telling my daughter to do anything is a constant battle My daughter is 11 years old. I feel that she is responsible enough to clean up after herself so to promote this behavior I made a list of her responsibilities. Today she decide to make pancakes (no she was no unsupervised ) afterwards she finished cooking she put the dishes in the sink but made no attempt at washing them. I asked her when she was going to wash the dish. She starts complaining how much time is wasted washing dish. I told her it shouldn't take you longer then 5 min to wash those dishes. She asks me if I'd like to time how long she could take. I then tell her if she wants to take longer that fine but if she does it correctly it won't take long. She gets all teary eyes and says she think it ridiculous that I won't let her wash dish once a week! Seriously! I am so frustrated with her. If I ask her to do anything she whins and complains. Sorry, I just needed to vent to someone.",3.1321531413612576,4.9322387958115215,3.954630235602096,87.97184064136127,74.65445026178011,6.659816753926703,25.550065445026174,7.413659706084162,1.1274945026178007,754,26,156,9,16,241,110,191,0.14400000000000002,0.802,0.055,-0.9558,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,2,6,8,3,0,6,0,14,12,1,5,2,24,32,15,0,8,7,2,1,1,0,3,5,1,1,0,9,3,6,0,3,1,0,2,6,6,0,0,5,3,36,2,17,22,3,22,0,0,1,0,35,3,0,4,18,104,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23746036449173125,0.0,0.4046470925601351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591547047003873,0.0,0.11519587446547165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262604382484652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490798532989015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295232506350496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538036772720667,0.0,0.08199767358813025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475361196287314,0.0,0.07048794132929524,0.0,0.0,0.25536659632738234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27304253118455923,0.09630804930948447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606243295934242,0.10698182400096357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139763501233325,0.15365353740917567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504129401293747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473728147320415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224801254999068,0.0,0.0,0.16150969618351027,0.10212215731013488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339225469972241,0.0,0.2522142346300508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244882602550993,0.0,0.0,0.1682617071292664,0.0,0.1367606109021942,0.13786576443563972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510010775293468,0.0,0.11573274796190335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291161753010532
parenting,Alger_moncrieff,2019/02/13,"Sneaky Valentines Day My son (7) just snuck into mine and my wife’s bed room at 0600, in his Ben 10 pajamas, wearing a plastic pirate hook and carrying a Voltron sword, to quietly deliver a hand drawn valentine’s day card to each of our night stands. He’s my favorite little boy in the world!!!",11.828793103448277,6.596972224137938,10.775172413793104,69.46206896551725,59.51724137931034,14.358620689655172,46.24137931034482,11.20814326018867,4.951041379310342,231,10,46,4,2,74,48,58,0.033,0.845,0.122,0.7332,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,7,0,1,11,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6846831566601448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5320313359699266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981482033812377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LifeClerk,2019/02/13,"Help comforting a child that gets anxious about her health? Hello,   
I would like advice for comforting a 12 year old daughter who gets a lot more worried about her health/minor injuries than she needs to be. She has a tendency to beg me to go to the doctor for any minor illness or injury, just to ""check it out.""   


For example, today she fell down walking home from school and bruised her knee. She's worried that it's broken. Although she is in some pain,  I can see that it's NOT broken-- she is able to walk around fine and has a full range of motion. I've had broken bones and they symptoms were a lot worse, so I'm confident she is just badly bruised. Or, she'll want to go to a doctor for the sort of cold that will heal up on its on in  3-4 days, or she sneak eats dairy KNOWING she has a minor milk allergy and then becomes overly concerned about the rash/stomach pain that it causes. 

We are in the US so this is not financially feasible to run to the DR for every minor complaint, and even if it we were elsewhere,, I wouldn't want to take a doctor's time away from patients who are actually sick or injured  with complaints that can be handled at home. On the other hand, it seems like having a white-coated authority tell her she's OK would do a lot to ease her mind. I also worry that NOT going to the doctor will make her feel like she isn't being heard and we don't care about her pain. It's hard to say ""You just need to let your body heal"" without feeling neglectful.   


I will admit that I have a bit of anxiety about going to the doctor--that's left over from when I grew up and my homeschooling, fundamentalist parents were suspicious of ANYONE who reeked of authority. That's my issue though. We have never denied or delayed care when it is needed. When my kids have had any sort of REAL medical issue (think needing stitches, burns,  eye exams, ect.) I've either sucked it up or asked my husband to take care of it, because he can be more rational. Some of this may be my own fault because I had a stroke scare a few years ago at the age of 27, and that  made me feel like I had to take every medical symptom I experienced very seriously and for a while that ate away at my own mental health.   


Any advice, fellow Reddit parents? How do you balance telling your kids ""Yes you are in pain, but it is not SERIOUS?"" I need some positive ways of telling my daughter that the great majority of the time, she can trust her body to heal. TIA! 

  


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parenting,chrissofun,2019/02/13,"So just found out I’m going to be a dad. (Scared to death) advice? Hey guys! 
Just found out I’m gonna be a dad. To be honest I’m scared. I’m from a really Christian family upbringing and am worried about disappointment from my parents.. 
I am 30 but don’t have my life together still
All these thoughts running through my head... any advice?? ",0.4924637681159432,2.922022014492754,2.44927536231884,91.1576811594203,89.72463768115942,5.965217391304349,20.71014492753623,7.3871296695380915,0.8468666666666662,265,9,56,5,9,88,46,69,0.103,0.8640000000000001,0.034,-0.5239,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,3,0,7,2,1,0,1,10,16,3,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,9,9,1,5,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4286571922047489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915321451573582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067665970890427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4809722191456272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465137436574633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21717306621146304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250978086232545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492060873973618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435421208994933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405096326830933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43917899315943737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515874019440028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412503051182235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22274219302175668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,orangedrink888,2019/02/13,Baby's neck rash not clearing up Help! My 7 months old has had a neck rash for over a month. Have tried aquaphor and lamasil with no luck and went to the doctor and confirmed it's not associated with a yeast infection. Any tips or has anyone tried using diaper rash cream (triple paste) on neck rashes or is that a no no?,5.027769230769231,5.264629584615388,5.270576923076924,86.21817307692308,68.53846153846155,8.346153846153845,25.48076923076923,8.07648339933343,1.1653846153846148,253,6,55,3,4,80,48,65,0.246,0.7120000000000001,0.043,-0.9052,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,5,9,7,1,1,12,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,7,5,1,8,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,3,4,31,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102822740316923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21621594257171328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31650288904088275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20726568864710745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936377680647205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244775683829675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295188385378627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4198842986866772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670694273619956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28665286030868586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RunicDoodler,2019/02/13,"Boy Scouts for a girl? Question for U.S based parents:
My daughter is about to turn 5. I think she might enjoy scouting. However, my own Girl Scout experience (30 years ago) was pretty lame. The Boy Scout troops always seemed to be doing more interesting activities.

Now that Boy Scouts accepts girls, and I learned that are local Boy Scout pack accepts boys and girls, I’m torn. 

I have no recent scouting experience and would love to hear some perspectives from other parents.

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parenting,KarebearMom,2019/02/13,"Someone please tell me I'm not the only stay at home parent who feels underappreciated ::Calling all stay at home moms and dads::

Is it just me, or do you feel like your kids appreciate NOTHING you do? Okay, maybe not ""nothing"" but on a bad day it feels like nothing. I do so much for my kids, but the second dad, who is the work outside the home parent, comes home, it's all about dad. Or if they have a choice of whose car to ride in, it's dad's for sure. Am I the only one who doesn't feel the love? If not, why do kids do this?",2.3452631578947347,2.908684710526316,3.837675438596492,92.92914473684212,74.7017543859649,6.401754385964912,21.267543859649123,5.985473137389443,-0.13985614035087754,403,8,101,2,8,134,69,114,0.08900000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.1,-0.4069,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,1,1,3,6,0,0,8,1,10,1,0,0,3,19,17,8,0,2,10,7,4,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,9,2,0,0,4,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,4,9,5,9,17,3,10,0,0,0,1,21,4,0,4,3,62,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230657472765668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373452770548538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586468203012044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674499778347307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27204033245690074,0.19218168417367185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5396804167029906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314253039689391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139657385798006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512897447255431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753135696821302,0.0,0.0,0.09887710740655116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38718531122158617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114448941356312,0.2045951707340256,0.0,0.0,0.2987051475668944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14764677991574876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396617567481625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28673018960106844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676995541517794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756384080184334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137040139701215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792169360294346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PeachiDani,2019/02/13,"Anyone else pretend to make YouTube videos with their kid? My son is 4 and very speech delayed. He loves those stupid PocketWatch series videos on Hulu. He never asks for what they have or anything, he just wants to make videos like they do. So the other day I decided we could make fluffy slime together and he wanted me to record ourselves. I could see where this was going: he wanted to make a video a video similar to those he had seen.

So I decide to go all out. I set up the ingredients, tell him what were going to do, and set my phone in the crevice of the couch to film us. I say ""what are we making today buddy?"" In his garbled speech that few can really understand besides his father and I he excitedly says ""were making fluffy slime today!"" We go on to make the fluffy slime and I film him playing with it.

I never posted it, of course, but he was so excited to make a video like Ryan's toy review. He watched it afterward with enthusiasm and the experience made him talk like never before. It was really great to see him so excited about this. He has a hard time connecting to his peers because of his lack of speech, I was isgur so happy to see him speak with confidence.",4.111199095022627,5.3429486367521415,4.956867772750126,84.04074660633486,71.1794871794872,8.240925087983912,24.448466566113623,8.671277953709913,1.5220143790849674,927,25,187,16,17,301,126,234,0.037000000000000005,0.79,0.173,0.9903,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,3,0,8,11,1,0,10,0,16,1,0,9,4,40,39,13,0,6,3,2,1,3,0,0,0,6,1,1,13,14,0,1,3,11,0,4,3,1,0,0,9,12,28,10,29,28,3,23,0,0,5,1,37,7,0,1,12,117,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950700515640917,0.11650688439062985,0.093571674997191,0.0,0.1063012665001719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931510401825237,0.0,0.09675680164871037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815725491632633,0.0,0.0,0.0733320020330128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498811800394523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122786193438622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584906219591505,0.0,0.0,0.12536304209584198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104386585481565,0.1018596846355369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16665538481936135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262555799673173,0.10759289047289246,0.6072057041697553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630949574107457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890045925612116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456880139842456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084971165696548,0.0,0.0,0.27183073159278764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913938702224918,0.09938546351928212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630382214595015,0.0,0.2155630387100331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837363273584944,0.13677625508793434,0.0,0.0,0.09382068715901787,0.20120308436132686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meanorsanemom,2019/02/13,"I’m forever the “mean mom” I’m part of a group of younger moms, all of us are 26-28. I have 2 kids, a 5 year old and a 3 year old. I’m stricter than most moms I know. I’m not evil, I don’t deprive my children, but I also don’t let them act like little terrors, they know to respect me and in turn I respect them. 

But in the eyes of my peers, I’m the meanest mother because I don’t want to put up with bullshit.

I’m not a tiger mom, but I also don’t fight with the school on every little issue. I just can’t and won’t. Recently the elementary school announced this is the  final year of “free dress” which is basically allowing kids to wear their normal clothes to school. The other moms are angry that it takes away their child’s individuality, I say “who cares? They’re at school to learn and grow, not to have a fashion show” I am suddenly “soooo mean”.

Apparently my strict ways are too much and will cause my daughters to hate me in the future because they have to do chores, my 3 year old helps load the dishwasher, dust and is learning to make her bed. My 5 year old is in charge of setting the table, wiping the counters and taking out their bathroom and play room trash. We expect everyone in the house to get up Saturdays and clean up a bit harder and then we can have fun, this Saturday we had plans to go to the mall to shop for some Valentines stuff with my friend and her daughter. My 5 year old decided on Friday she wanted to stay up and play Barbie, I’m a fan of cause and effect parenting so I let her learn her lesson. When it was time to get up she asked to sleep in, I said “ok but because your room isn’t cleaned you can choose, clean now and take a nap or clean up later and not go to the mall.” Guess who chose to go back to sleep. 

She wasn’t in trouble for that choice, but we want them to learn that responsibilities are important. 

I’m not interested in having ill behaved children because I allow them to be. I have good kids, they’re silly but know how to behave when it’s the right time. I rarely tell them to do things twice. 

It’s often looked down upon they don’t have tablet and we rarely have the tv on, my daughters are loving Barbies and my 3 year old has a play kitchen that she adores, why should screw up their fun by throwing a tablet at them?

My 3 year is fully potty trained and has been since 1.5 years old, she is able to communicate so well and it’s such a smart child. My 5 year old is so artsy, great at science and is a total daddy’s girl. 

I love my girls but I hate being told I’m such a “mean mom” and that my girls will hate me in the future. 

I don’t think I’m too much. I think of myself like Cher’s dad from Clueless, he wants her to do great but also loves her for who she is. He wants her to try in school not for fancy grades but to build her knowledge. I just want my girls to be able to thrive. We do family cooking classes, each girl has an activity they enjoy and we always play together.

The constant “mean mommy” nonsense is really making feel shitty. 

I don’t want advice, I just needed to vent. My therapist isn’t a parent so I just want to complain to other parents.",2.3319758442776717,3.6433716417682938,3.7202439024390266,90.85965290806757,75.72256097560975,6.509568480300188,22.066604127579737,7.010146845296331,0.43141121013133255,2431,62,549,24,52,800,284,656,0.083,0.731,0.185,0.9969,4,0,0,0,1,0,59.0,8,2,14,3,22,36,6,1,33,1,56,11,4,8,2,98,108,43,0,12,20,14,1,2,1,4,1,2,9,12,20,34,2,0,19,11,2,7,18,10,1,1,6,5,81,27,77,93,9,76,0,1,2,4,82,32,1,5,36,337,101,11,0.10708658353207504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05232188502700046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845565324192512,0.044552308013016864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005574998815398,0.0,0.05030568515157673,0.04117148633792418,0.0,0.13055797475883948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584554070175275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459095442880922,0.11000741964448092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057861276796203585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04511253261612457,0.051162909829808416,0.0,0.0,0.05047585024608467,0.0,0.027073097112818096,0.0,0.0,0.05865405895426892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04136741439856265,0.0,0.055948320059768006,0.0,0.09128965984884624,0.044909572789080775,0.0,0.11806333639296275,0.05898397240437985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858874655108707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03588893982662408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178176983804558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588528561981725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827797862969025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950328699955736,0.0,0.05231709556150367,0.10732888935405176,0.0,0.0,0.044962879860851804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497473386559018,0.0,0.07148112604860897,0.0,0.0,0.23329736594826386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762555371401151,0.0,0.0,0.07872096043629727,0.039701672399930325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524610576134513,0.0,0.0,0.44947742205851626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836046725442947,0.057982167226926236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382579698128679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034301203759666804,0.0,0.052867541108113265,0.0,0.0,0.04572567861262019,0.05093193175994183,0.042579774682722914,0.0,0.2709433490357506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044291564249976365,0.0,0.10716392018200832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05707002486093719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061294258951792475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077367558954688,0.0,0.046799197019632297,0.0,0.0,0.062167888589221884,0.035571783878704535,0.06861675876062627,0.0,0.0,0.0624430480250457,0.0,0.0,0.051162909829808416,0.0,0.03635238043516063,0.058239726098168174,0.0,0.0,0.06440598738291177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526497659397061,0.04250017276879322,0.0,0.0,0.04814184958850404,0.0,0.04831449269256577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448012441155089
parenting,mhphotograph,2019/02/13,"Question about childproofing Hello All.

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Mr 18 months is into everything, and we really need to get more on top of childproofing. But I'm not sure how far to go, and what we should leave for him to negotiate.

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Background: we live in a 2 bed apartment. Toddler sleeps in a bedroom with an ensuite shower. 1 other bathroom, 1 main bedroom. Otherwise it's open plan. We have gates to stop him getting into the kitchen, more or less. Flexi locks on the draws in his room, and bathroom cabinets/laundry. Medications/chemicals all out of reach. We removed flexi-locks from some other draws because he was using them to pull up/climb.

He has just figured out how to open all the doors, and he's about to be able to climb out of his cot. He tries to climb everything, and knows how to get on and off chairs, tables, etc. He's obsessed with turning the lights on and off.

Do we: try to find a way of securing the doors, so that he can't access the ensuite shower room off his bedroom? And what to do about bookcases? We don't own the place and can't install anything that will cause any damage to any walls/surfaces.

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How far do I go? At the moment we just follow him around and try to stop him from getting into everything by distracting him, but that's also causing tantrums.",4.131,5.939602699999997,4.436200000000003,85.52110000000002,72.0,7.240000000000001,28.9,7.908726449838941,1.8750799999999999,1025,41,195,14,20,321,135,250,0.061,0.921,0.018000000000000002,-0.8117,2,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,8,0,1,4,12,6,1,2,12,0,13,2,1,7,4,55,25,19,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,12,1,8,29,1,3,4,0,0,7,4,4,0,0,1,1,18,2,45,21,10,39,0,1,0,0,26,27,0,3,4,128,26,0,0.11233655542849603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983550279008869,0.0,0.3651498326191751,0.4095036320830387,0.15278541975200913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244341342280547,0.10000335106416898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847932151900059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308011739068429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252849541301252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30288255754866983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026735765133499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347648547641953,0.0,0.1276869064939001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173723300877339,0.0,0.0,0.11894819208065073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919523654446456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896659667897713,0.0,0.0,0.08329613243890448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173677908057554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584265150838453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196567394939432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124176835453463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878367808723983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058758740428325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288074415123551,0.12218991405226172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702271565762473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916752886288826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095036320830387,0.0
parenting,ChipperWhimper,2019/02/13,"Rant About First Time Pregnancy and severe nausea I just need to rant. I started showing symptoms of my pregnancy at 5 weeks and found out about my baby because I had the “flu” for nearly a week. I am now 12 weeks along and I’m just having a tough day because it’s been 7 weeks straight of 24/7 nausea and headaches. I just feel really alone and it’s really hard sometimes. The other girl I know who is pregnant had nausea too, but she said it wasn’t this bad for her. A lot of the parents I talk to about how I’m feeling will say “oh I didn’t ever get THAT sick” or “your STILL feeling that bad?” And it can be really discouraging and lonely sometimes.

I apologize if this is whiny but it just feels like my nausea keeps getting worse and I just need to rant in hopes that I’m not feeling this way alone. This is my first pregnancy and I’m super excited about it but I’m just so frustrated that the symptoms are hitting me so hard. I have trouble kissing my boyfriend because I constantly feel like I’m going to vomit and I vomit all the fricking time. I literally carry a trash bin with me everywhere I go and it’s so fricking embarrassing. I am TERRIFIED to eat sometimes but not eating will make me feel even worse. 

Again, I’m sorry, I just needed to rant.",1.9964453125000008,4.163140316406253,3.56844375,87.71718125000002,79.4296875,6.439750000000001,24.3025,7.554174236665415,1.2273623750000002,995,36,201,15,25,329,130,256,0.261,0.631,0.108,-0.9933,1,4,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,3,21,14,1,1,9,0,17,9,0,2,2,49,46,21,0,5,15,1,9,2,0,2,6,2,0,1,17,14,2,2,9,1,0,2,4,8,0,2,7,11,28,6,21,35,2,23,0,2,0,1,10,5,0,4,17,132,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169024234791133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486216144153854,0.1914964367853836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315768191403253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753129922911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21429532534475973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916202770507128,0.09471901131918324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706226956617541,0.14961414665871614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17813785151715558,0.0,0.11481253048150375,0.0,0.0,0.10941656588820907,0.0,0.11902175759216052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760477422690688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400375452571042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307383168462982,0.0,0.0,0.05754759186629674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231508162300187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902334942701053,0.0,0.0,0.06989682022360827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23293035337138676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627152698745373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012457166116042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960615548906887,0.08327207532058589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182960193710114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106918573974988,0.1172177640337344,0.07411648477497078,0.0,0.08362403231269544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767404971820167,0.0,0.08416443880698955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211812385419725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311640008224074,0.3359781923225262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134232288569342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jillybean_va86,2019/02/13,"Sometimes I appreciate my family the most from afar All right they’re sitting in a bubble bath head and on the top floor of our house.
We live in a multi generational home with my parents and my daughter son.
Most days it’s just him and me all day until bed because everyone works so much/has personal lives.
I decided to get in to have a bath after spending a day cleaning extra cleaning up all the things I don’t get cleaned regularly, Fighting with the tire there cause it’s one of the two days I put him in daycare, And doing all of the normal Adulting shit that makes staying at home reasonable but nevertheless unfun.


Also I’m got into a bubble bath because my toddler’s father got them home 30+ minutes after he said he would and I wanted to give up knowing the night I could have ahead. We are wading into the waters of screwing up his night routine and fucking up my night. My “after the tot goes down, after moving laundry, cleaning the last bit up from late eaters” night. I extravagantly took my break early (before the toddler was is deep sleep)

And I sit here making our grocery pickup order for tomorrow, listening to my little one harass everyone around (hehehehehe) playing, loving life,  engaging, likely not eating the healthy dinner I made him, and I’ve never been (soul crushingly)happier. 

Sure he won’t go down “easy” and will aske to watch Blaze for the 5th or 6th time. He may even push it until 10:00. But he’s little, these days are long but the time is short and we have no plans for tomorrow.

I can’t help but feel these sounds burst my heart into a million pieces. I feel like the ending scene of the grinch.

My little love & my family, being just fine without me. And that’s entirely alright",5.8477606177606205,6.4883950630630665,6.363054483054483,77.68594594594595,66.83783783783784,8.625139425139427,29.670956670956674,8.563005593585519,2.226884856284856,1368,46,249,19,21,445,198,333,0.047,0.841,0.112,0.972,1,0,0,0,2,0,36.0,5,0,1,4,9,14,5,0,22,1,18,13,4,5,6,51,39,20,0,4,9,4,2,2,0,4,2,3,11,2,8,20,3,0,5,4,1,5,7,5,0,4,7,6,34,9,42,26,9,61,1,0,1,4,29,25,3,4,28,162,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615935060252349,0.0,0.10318702243245964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477929146697623,0.08903181721026482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161086762941542,0.0,0.08103792327087561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039718936139763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978325215372677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603735373876915,0.0,0.0,0.30709330263037865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744912351694593,0.0,0.0,0.08434989347972227,0.0,0.0,0.06290178257198029,0.0,0.0,0.18200214109231272,0.0,0.0,0.17955805971164696,0.0,0.09630729872330744,0.06803586328433281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804317147146272,0.09951265550833796,0.09135803653859062,0.05412421357368668,0.0,0.1523361697753941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137936916482868,0.0,0.0,0.09773852820223522,0.0,0.0,0.1128538676127872,0.0638339757424545,0.0,0.28658524254727025,0.0,0.0,0.10988833931065396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052338634814916435,0.07762919049747248,0.10742916538770908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726725763802878,0.09305396662932973,0.2863513001187304,0.16818840132152318,0.08427992889550369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190651102264476,0.0901136070442878,0.12714012975232136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121967422756782,0.07000864198258497,0.0,0.07345106014360309,0.0,0.0,0.35748617558393897,0.09331002518598404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906732600506632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574713542328196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315548003785919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957374231565576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791738416643953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813301221341715,0.09059024067544602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775730182937924,0.0,0.0,0.09530372190445567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418979512977847,0.0,0.0,0.10150777928223416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975780800623863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326986531779794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106452383858656,0.10945855892312692,0.0,0.0,0.105809527339325,0.0,0.0,0.09303070246751263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05617203763974025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180308790247682,0.0,0.0693321737415899,0.0,0.0,0.06765217205398431,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,czechme_out,2019/02/13,"3 yo schedule/sleep recommendations. My 3 yo's sleep patterns are horrible. When she was first born, we did a bedtime routine and it worked very well. Well it fell off the summer after she turned one. I didn't want her to miss out on summer night fun so I stopped being consistent with bedtime and boy was that the worst mistake ever. 

Fast forward to now. Im scared to lay her down before 11pm. When I tried putting her back to her routine, she'd wake up around 1am and stay up! That was a while back but I'm still fearful that'll it's the norm for her. 

So I need advice on a good routine for her. We bed share but I'm currently redoing her bedroom and then making the transition to sleeping on her own. I ultimately want to start waking her up earlier as well. Every week day morning, we leave to drop off her sister at school for 8am but she stays sleeping for the most part. Same when we arrive home, she either stays asleep or goes for a nap at before noon and sleeps until 2. 

Any advice on your 3 yo's schedule, whether they nap or not and how should I get her in bed earlier without the fear of yet waking. 

I'd like to add that we went to bed last week at 930 together and she woke up at 130am, shortly before 6am and then for good at 10am. However, when she goes to bed later, she sleeps consistently. 

I'm so lost ",1.1781366459627378,3.268332942028988,2.790517598343687,92.6126086956522,81.89855072463769,5.681987577639752,21.45134575569358,6.868970318607317,0.4168824016563155,1036,32,228,12,28,340,151,276,0.095,0.8109999999999999,0.093,0.6037,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,1,1,3,18,15,0,3,10,0,10,9,9,2,1,37,24,27,0,5,9,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,1,7,17,0,1,0,2,0,4,3,7,3,2,8,0,33,8,41,12,6,59,0,2,0,0,29,21,0,3,33,142,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474890742946466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776376576613594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870746525866577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324566340490525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25437823218842764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426444006049406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013693346635662,0.0839573768589623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22426244350520616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476017351961962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052061743372448524,0.0,0.0,0.1671593106648225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995463910669317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763647696462547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122607065895658,0.0,0.10551239037784647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04868277010293066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877709564720273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665155278360606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388741173047353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351249565885468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752377343282638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790860948539252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001733323275368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997646028564935,0.10084866241490137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5983172154596853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705310640797278,0.31863315846431395,0.07957867942009768,0.0833098318017667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765416009528702,0.1083879434079686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221968252892874,0.11754943904848948,0.0,0.1598625426181415,0.0,0.26878540225060404,0.09237429722308936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605670311504498,0.0,0.07254461894017553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brwaldron,2019/02/13,"Hello Hello world.  First post
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parenting,IronToothed,2019/02/13,About to join the parenting club and am looking for some good reads! Just a few months away from being a new dad and am looking to read up on parenting and child psychology. I’ve looked into it and can’t decide what might be the best thing to start with. Any pointers or suggestions? ,4.578214285714285,5.8152175357142895,4.830714285714286,85.36428571428574,70.07142857142857,8.457142857142857,26.5,8.841846274778883,1.7831214285714283,226,7,46,4,4,71,46,56,0.0,0.836,0.16399999999999998,0.8622,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,10,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,11,7,3,7,0,0,3,0,5,4,0,3,3,33,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475967771877596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999994472657462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22339513273228065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785462161521804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5362744444818277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22582264424854154,0.0,0.0,0.16991171639149913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055922775527073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4727364280658983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4258575003101966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067129150673728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414221293788403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrshairdo,2019/02/13,"Help me understand my sister’s expectations for me as an Aunt Hi all, 

I hope I can ask this question here and looking for other parents’ perspectives. 

My sister has 5 kids. She started young and is only in her early 30s. 

Anyways, as far as I can remember she has always complained about how ppl aren’t there for her kids. It’s always something with her and I’m so frustrated. Recently her and the father split up (he’s an ass) so now she’s a single mom and she wants one of us (siblings) to move in and help her with the kids but I don’t want to. I’m late 20s and I don’t want to live with 5 kids. I don’t even want kids but I constantly feel like I’m being guilt tripped into shit. 

I just want to know as parents what your expectations are in terms of how involved you expect your family members to be in your children’s lives. Think: it takes a village.

I don’t know if I’m being ridiculous so I need help. 

Things she’s complained about: 
- not calling the kids once a week
- not buying them anything for their birthdays when I couldn’t afford it but would give my time n labor with the parties 
- not doing homework with them
- not taking them out enough 

The list goes on...she always gripes that she’s doing it all alone but I see support everywhere around her. She’s never satisfied though. 

Advice? ",1.898173076923076,4.069719837121212,3.1646969696969687,90.45839160839162,79.79545454545455,5.728205128205129,22.275058275058274,6.8449194561589275,0.5999579254079257,1023,32,210,11,26,331,144,264,0.095,0.807,0.098,-0.4644,4,1,1,0,1,0,29.0,1,4,4,0,16,9,3,1,10,0,18,2,2,2,3,49,42,23,0,13,10,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,7,9,15,0,0,7,0,1,2,11,6,0,1,0,3,39,3,30,37,5,23,0,0,2,1,48,9,2,3,13,141,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253945258690975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987660668246687,0.0,0.0,0.3130285978370909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319353536440648,0.11163260812753202,0.1172320951206227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804744554729927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13551287727740582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129571746817195,0.0,0.08282553348675141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11821598275410306,0.0,0.0634060202212704,0.08958580253760115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029513004583008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25215897924986386,0.0,0.0,0.12455051910783513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378331479096981,0.0,0.14145668964295824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126411775622559,0.0,0.2214610380842256,0.0,0.10530443775174578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686699306975956,0.0,0.13328038053070956,0.0,0.09298252920669266,0.096716229537688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354693344667254,0.08497430195913075,0.0953723693510861,0.0,0.0,0.2784837741635193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047672655040147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381739579262142,0.0,0.14205378245088868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992758390682832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872132307185918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653906532802843,0.0,0.0,0.08875878275037218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230246171123,0.0,0.0,0.1885704243519369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331020416766143,0.08035127224942437,0.12320488735124455,0.0,0.07312176270884138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13054584794284008,0.15084078933984613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698209171755509,0.0,0.10058833561710033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890805794811411,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wizard_mundungus,2019/02/13,Strong willed child Does anyone here have a strong willed child? How do you deal with it and discipline? I feel like I’m in a constant battle with my two year old. What are strategies i can try out? Are there any books that you have read that could help too? Any tips on how to deal with my child would be great. Thanks! ,0.747884615384617,3.1724961538461582,0.4679807692307705,106.17889423076927,87.46153846153845,3.8653846153846163,12.740384615384615,5.148860815047168,-1.6386538461538462,250,3,60,1,8,71,48,65,0.034,0.701,0.265,0.9549,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,2,5,6,1,0,2,0,11,0,0,2,0,11,14,3,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,5,7,9,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,4,37,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287594258463385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690181197298357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26121634590719905,0.0,0.1929958925867932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4984109426913918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115331481377496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222225107664908,0.17268673246551874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665001104867224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202161858635633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180934926409228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536472928420089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24178809579543914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22254576930752326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411383412341254,0.0,0.23612793683454436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17171285807565986,0.0,0.0,0.15566148215038855
parenting,two_kids_no_life,2019/02/13,"What food is banned for your baby? Advice Request Recently I have started paying more attention to dangerous foods for my toddler, reading lists like [this](https://bestbaby.life/banned-food-babies-toddlers/). What foods do you make sure your toddler doesn't touch?",8.968170731707318,12.863052097560976,5.963597560975611,70.56295731707318,64.60975609756098,8.978048780487804,34.640243902439025,9.516144504307137,4.208556097560974,220,10,27,5,4,61,34,41,0.158,0.7290000000000001,0.113,-0.4448,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,3,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,15,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817806655705157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8997646571314809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313943723769238,0.09088201282292004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417257770950565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607451038242756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367642535719195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166886470419112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532557834260126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flipper991,2019/02/13,"Partner disagrees about posting baby pics online Myself (26f) and boyfriend (29m) are having our baby in 11 weeks and I have strong feelings on not posting pictures online to protect privacy and also because I don't see the point. Neither of us are overly active on social media but he has said when our son is born he wants to post pictures of them together. I have told him I have no issue with him sending pics to friends etc but putting them public on Instagram/Facebook is a different story. He has essentially told me I can't stop him. What do you all thing?

TLDR: thoughts on posting pics of baby/child online? ",5.5833050847457635,6.7092676271186455,6.0625,77.86883474576273,67.64406779661017,7.594915254237289,33.39406779661017,7.6454224807358475,2.5291661016949147,492,22,83,5,8,159,81,118,0.038,0.8540000000000001,0.108,0.8016,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,2,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,0,1,12,20,7,0,1,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,2,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,4,3,16,2,14,16,3,17,0,0,1,0,21,7,0,0,4,59,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069173129847493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724573251585397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18381015494200312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620925530303845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895585694248667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592363599866156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362596093347355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631139396035746,0.0,0.6739719828544282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685896357294426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673504001615229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019400409619415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933921111011775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708595756524007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688055137234035,0.0,0.0,0.13966933811834914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3362186800140381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116229914885245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037684954450793,0.0,0.1411210096771838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jackalooz,2019/02/13,"Any success stories on getting kids to eat more than carbs? My preschooler loves carbs.  He’ll occasionally branch out to beans or meat, but only when wrapped in carbs.  I can sneak some very finely chopped veggies into some sauces, but otherwise, nothing.  

I’ve been following the philosophy of not pushing foods, and trying not to stress the issue - the idea that the problem will fix itself eventually.

That said, it really kills my own diet when I need to include carbs in every meal.  I’d love to do lean protein and veggies, but my kid would go hungry, and then wake us up at night.

Anyone successfully tackled this problem?",6.31157894736842,7.860138184210527,6.114868421052632,76.60282894736844,66.28070175438597,8.156140350877193,32.671052631578945,8.472884824447931,2.675494736842105,499,21,84,7,8,156,88,114,0.093,0.768,0.138,0.7067,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,3,9,1,1,4,0,5,7,1,0,0,18,13,10,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,5,5,4,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,2,1,6,5,14,8,4,14,0,0,0,2,7,7,0,3,4,50,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902847335911234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295152813078454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091965633631893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225232098553708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472136831257365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681320053057812,0.0,0.11618985441548473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23079163181797105,0.0,0.21338571786396288,0.0,0.0,0.2261862510776247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690361701348688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159213684782305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19185621348611973,0.0,0.196168886601433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548836313145092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39124930748235504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309716306658557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944724215015848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23418914090713944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880359935871786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459201505372016,0.0,0.0,0.16868715622324928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523067408900447,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,swordgeek,2019/02/13,"My 11yo is barely literate! Suggestions? OK 'barely literate' is an exaggeration. His reading skills have increased dramatically this year (grade five), and he is pretty comfortable reading at *close* to his age/grade range. At the end of grade four, he was barely reading at a grade three level, so that's good.

But his writing is...beyond terrible. I would guess that he's writing no better (and perhaps even worse) than he did in grade two.

'd' and 'b' routinely get swapped (still!). He adds the letters 'r' 'm' or 'n' in words almost at random. Words ending in -le often get spelled -el.

We've had him tested for dyslexia (my wife is dyslexic) or other language and learning disabilities, and everything has come back without any problems, so we're down to a diagnosis of 'just not learning this stuff.'

So how do I help him? It's affecting his schoolwork significantly now, and his social life is suffering as well.

Parents of older kids, how do you fixing spelling/writing?",4.165391042780748,6.831824142045456,5.007874331550807,77.5983556149733,74.625,7.322994652406418,30.23930481283423,8.313332769828598,2.6148754010695185,763,35,127,14,17,247,121,176,0.045,0.816,0.139,0.9468,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,1,0,2,12,8,0,0,5,1,13,1,0,3,0,30,17,15,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,7,9,0,0,2,3,0,2,3,3,1,4,3,1,12,5,17,13,1,19,0,1,0,0,22,10,0,6,7,81,19,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777255034106306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206958275213078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364749431321453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697098299388682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288753754943465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143979064191394,0.0,0.0,0.11722711158738275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595119961247747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854570839591622,0.0,0.0,0.1488659248824136,0.0,0.0,0.19551964224767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896439642014765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536284338662054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707599272128049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056596419362744,0.0,0.1698290925332467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5325988308631203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809235182973631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173968133366988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20317776327320775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733769711014467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958025248205412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108912322627606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087229000312302,0.1260801903892938,0.0,0.0,0.11429446534023185
parenting,bumdidddledum,2019/02/13,"What cartoons shows and youtube channels are your kid's favorites? (elementary school and middle school age) I have relatives' kids who live in another country who asked me about what's popular in the states and I honestly don't know since I don't have kids.

They're ages are 8, 10, and 13.  I just wanted to send them some suggestions and if you can help out I'd be very grateful!

Thank you in advance.  


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parenting,lilyoneill,2019/02/13,"Underweight/Petite Toddler So my 2 year old daughter was on the 50th percentile from birth to 18 months. Then at her 2 year check up she dropped to 20th percentile. She is a very fussy eater, she had been sick for weeks before her check. She hasn’t napped since she was 19 months and she never stops moving. I was also a very petite child/teen. 

I am worried, obviously and she has an appointment with a dietitian but at the same time she does eat. Not a great variety, but sometimes adult portions of porridge (oatmeal), lots of cheese, yoghurts, bananas, wheat cereal and she loves milk.

Pediatrician said she just isn’t getting enough calories whilst I believe she is but she is just burning them off running around 11 hours a day. Her Dad can never stop moving, was checked for ADHD but was told he doesn’t present enough symptoms, but he has that constantly moving, tapping, shaking mannerism. My daughter is the same.

Anyone experienced a situation like mine and want to give a mama support? I hate to see her not progressing in clothes size, it really gets to me. She seems really happy! ",4.124799374674312,6.682128415841586,4.2701771756123,83.38355132881713,74.24752475247523,7.02490880667014,28.45336112558625,8.032893268588372,2.0622039603960403,868,36,154,14,19,269,131,202,0.073,0.8190000000000001,0.108,0.8097,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,1,5,7,1,1,11,0,18,5,0,0,3,25,29,12,0,1,9,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,6,2,2,1,1,3,5,7,2,0,0,9,3,26,5,18,20,6,31,0,0,1,1,28,7,0,2,19,98,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909850085829572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586654462829424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092565190654938,0.0,0.0,0.11784883369720348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264808395380635,0.14915017710953932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430588678878662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537600851573443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584915403453988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354607399114703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27357381501059364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832918613547707,0.1269937253383772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595259713098624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409240418302757,0.0,0.13070069078763022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303704743891057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467559027924093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125471940498874,0.1194807215206885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113335102485956,0.42210616585217403,0.0,0.0,0.2042036828089925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891356772018845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169615730891404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592643820465094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549201899991037,0.12051640577920565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950848977809018,0.14880390841304794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093005744860153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22135603772962695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15022652812832896,0.0,0.1375965051356862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719352434439207,0.0,0.0,0.12649751895177005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184594873663585,0.07808285499551966,0.0,0.1061895644548193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444124487518272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705004741019782
parenting,__Be,2019/02/13,"Neverending Strep, what to expect? My 5yo has had strep throat for a month now. Started with a fever, vomiting, complaining of sore throat - got her on a round of amoxicillin. A few days after that was finished, she started complaining about her throat again for a couple days so I took her back. Positive for strep again - this time they gave us cefdinir. That was due to end on Tuesday, but Sunday night she started coughing all throughout the night sounding awful. I had to take her today for a recheck and she tested positive for strep once more. So they've referred us to ENT which is Friday morning. The doctor said she could possibly be a carrier of strep, and just have a cold on top of it.

 Just curious if anyone else has gone through this and what should we expect from the ENT? Is it likely they would remove her tonsils for this (Dr mentioned it was a possibility)? ",4.301045296167248,6.483555585365857,4.376132404181185,84.55231707317077,72.41463414634146,7.3686411149825775,27.567944250871076,8.192908349453996,1.9054578397212536,692,26,127,11,14,214,100,164,0.052000000000000005,0.87,0.078,0.7461,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,2,1,9,3,0,0,12,1,14,9,3,0,1,16,23,7,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,2,6,2,0,0,11,5,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,10,4,17,1,22,9,3,28,0,0,1,0,19,4,0,1,21,92,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958992379221832,0.17524304176889316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315134606843467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365555605727847,0.18924424469612366,0.0,0.22060366925924527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750590448151715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287573492311748,0.0,0.15148405911061116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679034077551908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355785644674789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651653611120876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210048923559235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821440657685225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856269657400263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162691104958215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631731215140216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859517956985772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973044541129704,0.0,0.16211884299401114,0.0,0.1900234372885056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4114621570859789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149660429447573,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Porkchopthelegend,2019/02/13,"18 month old on track for speaking? My 18 month old son knows a lot of words but can only say 5 or 6 .
 
When I say body parts he points to pretty much all of them. Also when I ask him to get certain things like ball, toy train, rubber duck ect.. he probably knows 20 or so nouns. 

But he only knows how to say a couple words
Mama, dada, cookie and doggie and Hi.

Is this normal ? Anything I should be concerned with ",1.9098338870431881,3.2592222093023264,3.3339867109634547,93.04174418604653,76.90697674418605,5.379401993355483,18.09966777408637,5.288315135182226,-0.5033867109634547,314,5,70,1,7,103,65,86,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.89,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,1,2,18,9,11,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,2,8,7,4,8,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,3,7,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465791669084977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508343372592292,0.0,0.1713540030447405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035969539641059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028099705854253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957629104362478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021987488445449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954759197753949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582896371695182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926050905019201,0.0,0.13474128044708625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958800393866928,0.0,0.0,0.3846698709248405,0.0,0.0,0.2788048315839621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848821487830404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327091897378907,0.0,0.0,0.18647464834200325,0.19762061385732413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372853174123469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177157598279713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yuming_,2019/02/13,"Any parents found your child/children vaping and would like to speak with me? Hi there. I'm Yuming Fang, a journalism graduate student at USC. Now, I'm working on a project about teens vaping and I'd like to speak with teens who are vaping and their parents. I'd like to know how parents help their children avoid vaping. I'm in L.A. If someone would like to speak with me, please let me know. Thank you so much in advance for your assistance. ",2.4598850574712654,4.928184873563222,3.235172413793105,89.0854022988506,79.57471264367817,7.085057471264367,24.60919540229885,8.167268648758528,1.6051747126436786,352,13,70,7,9,111,53,87,0.024,0.7829999999999999,0.193,0.9231,3,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,2,2,5,6,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,14,11,6,0,3,1,3,0,4,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,8,5,13,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,1,5,37,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356209062943061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186673900213922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367536882256514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920572018829684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20393319428859208,0.0,0.3897304895989869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660579932458898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6643384106296035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891694402273607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897846952656673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18361060734761606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451892003965102,0.0,0.0,0.28334218402597205,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,esjay86,2019/02/13,"Is is normal for crying babies to send someone into a full blown anxiety attack? I have an almost 8 week old girl and her crying drives me absolutely insane. I can handle a few individual cries, but when it's nonstop fussing I get super agitated and panicky the second it starts. I do have a history of depression and anxiety but none of my coping skills have prepared me for any of this...I'm worried because I'll be leaving my job as soon as my wife goes back to work (she makes a ton more than me and daycare is almost impossible to find or afford) so I'll be exposed to this nonstop for who knows how long. 

Before anyone gives advice about colic, she's on medication for reflux, only eats when held semi-upright, gets burped every few minutes while feeding, and gets simethicon and gripe water 5-6 times a day. I absolutely love being around her when she's calm, but it's a nightmare when she isn't.",5.7215562403698,6.212037457627119,6.9521212121212175,73.87899845916796,67.07909604519774,8.696250642013354,30.780174627632256,8.575989854853784,2.4675468926553665,718,26,127,10,11,244,119,177,0.163,0.746,0.091,-0.8153,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,3,10,5,1,0,8,0,12,6,0,2,0,20,21,19,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,8,3,1,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,1,0,17,3,18,17,6,19,0,1,0,1,12,4,0,3,13,86,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098617907408926,0.0,0.0,0.30944052210259776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507265183406594,0.0,0.2364006993937197,0.0,0.0,0.10803755361418654,0.0,0.0,0.1375473825403045,0.0,0.17577835668394692,0.0,0.11880927848368485,0.0,0.09418835801842787,0.0,0.1314773223453141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091686213062889,0.09964669258628972,0.0,0.13307993758044914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810313625732414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018202468334047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122008467897254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421765691472891,0.14822085184327646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533281413575842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491510249680284,0.0,0.0,0.16360464228940227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673720810435278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394520420237957,0.0,0.10313716805523462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556533896132951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138779184184842,0.0,0.0,0.1621331076414434,0.0,0.0,0.11751243647306395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091651118662148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093635493209105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009649811141372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393925493894765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124857127132281,0.15691323161970605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RachelE-B,2019/02/13,"Looking for any great ideas that are free/low cost for entertaining a 3 year old over the half term holidays? Looking for any recommendations or ideas for making half term as jam packed and fun as possible for a 3 year old.

Aiming to do this as low cost as possible, as still recovering from the last holidays lol",8.273500000000002,7.317208683333334,8.33666666666667,70.91500000000003,62.16666666666666,12.666666666666664,35.0,11.855464076750405,4.0015,251,9,49,7,3,82,38,60,0.031,0.7020000000000001,0.268,0.9451,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,5,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,3,13,5,2,10,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,8,26,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783306975797595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256213991915223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620376986629454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681266641964082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436998538520169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660186275943687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4294801755063968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4614120868687426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634294457004676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635688318391644
parenting,Verssy,2019/02/13,"My 8 year old becoming careless and I don’t know how to help. My 8 year old has always been the hyper type but we’ve never discouraged it. We’ve always had him involved in sports or activities that would allow him to get all his energy out and it helped for the most part keeping him focused. Sometimes we’d have issues with him staying on task (typical child). We never really had to discipline him for anything because he’s never done anything by our standards “bad”. 
Last year in school, he started to get “infractions” occasionally which is a mark of bad behavior. X amount of these infractions in X amount of time have different consequences, 5 in a week being after school detention. 
We never got to that point with him because he’d feel bad just getting one or at the most in a week, two. So we’d try and just talk and maybe limit screen time on devices that are already quite limited in today’s standards. 
This year, totally different story. This week particularly, he hit 4 on a Tuesday and just came home with his 5th for the week (this means after school detention). 
We had a long talk yesterday about how serious the consequences are when you get to that point. He seemed upset and understanding and also agreed that being grounded from Screens was reasonable. 
He even asked “why am I a bad kid”. My SO and I stopped him there to insure him he’s not a bad kid, and that we just have to pay more attention to the rules at school etc. Off to his room he went to play with TOYS for a change. 
So here we are, 5 infractions on a Wednesday, after school detention this coming Monday and on the car ride home he says “ I’m glad I have detention, I just have to write sentences. That’s not that bad.” as he snacked on an apple. 
What more do I do besides ground him from devices? It’s already winter time and he’s not playing baseball, he doesn’t care whether he has toys or not. There’s literally thousands of dollars in nerf guns and LEGO kits in his room that are collecting dust because they’re “not fun”. 
Iv googled this, trust me. And read on all the forums out there. None of these make any sense for my son. Have him sit down and color a picture? Okay? Explain the severity? Done. 
I’m at a loss. On one hand we are always at an understanding and he’s mostly well behaved. And on the other, he’s distracted in school and has somehow forgotten the severity of poor conduct. Iv talked a big game about there being “consequences” but what are they? 
I’ll end this here. He does get straight As and “Ss” (satisfactory). So grades aren’t an issue. 
Open for discussions below. ",2.8731811377245497,5.189032506986032,3.837112025948105,86.14273390718563,77.22355289421158,7.208932135728543,25.40755988023952,8.212053250817874,1.6817068862275453,2030,75,398,38,48,652,235,501,0.134,0.7809999999999999,0.085,-0.9827,3,0,0,1,0,0,55.0,9,1,1,4,24,20,0,2,26,1,36,4,1,5,7,83,60,34,0,1,16,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,4,3,24,33,1,6,9,7,3,5,13,12,1,4,10,6,37,8,65,42,13,75,0,2,3,0,57,36,0,8,32,255,61,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977125671298142,0.057891317241509865,0.18070614712059294,0.0,0.0,0.04922858407888071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914378630133562,0.0,0.06767611769180157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36266240049351145,0.13238724123812196,0.07995053206049582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279639166551779,0.07380778147777624,0.0,0.07658042415222131,0.062358717376014075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512670559065603,0.0,0.0,0.06335013721210701,0.14816292044266235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411722794496055,0.0,0.08073546426385987,0.04781378807883808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036603229537510745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18910739994503686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057897956469258785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970447597375084,0.0,0.1452288047957642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511154729573229,0.0,0.0643447367221714,0.0,0.0,0.03978437956845532,0.05900859262502529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406404548071125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04832177222749641,0.0,0.07272681701447273,0.07885537624967409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22333061355476705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192503819360687,0.0,0.09810847198879732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839275156608028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686640401362588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076997086016905,0.07241091611287594,0.0,0.04637573711629624,0.07443033987805985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575684880038818,0.0,0.4395833201538787,0.0,0.06590234435502554,0.0,0.16356318599840378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159687244746744,0.0,0.05123895313322392,0.07715952153502566,0.0,0.06052238999828749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745562170929523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663589302461453,0.0,0.0686185125448105,0.0,0.0,0.049148958457106234,0.0,0.07071580662307851,0.15072384674973724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23227182053314,0.0,0.06508849591552716,0.06710748445221303,0.0653219119572791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051424720976082534,0.0,0.0,0.18647056198389292
parenting,HyperactiveToast,2019/02/13,"7 year old daughter, mood swings since moving. I got a new job about 6 months ago too good to refuse, despite the 1 hour 15 commute. Eventually we decided it would be worth moving closer. Nicer area, better schools, bigger house.

We have been here for around 2 months now and she says she is happy with school, usually pretty talkative about it too. She has had a friend over already and now gets to play in the garden/Street as our previous place was pretty urban. 

Every other night we are now getting these crazy temper tantrums over seemingly nothing. We usually expect some resistance but she trashes the house, slams and bangs, screams, hits and now... Spits, all over the place. The most recent one was over getting in the shower but also because we have to stop reading a book or she has to do her teeth etc... Always at night time.

Could this be due to the move or are we just experiencing the first wave of hormones? What's the best way to deal with them, I am fresh out of punishments, everything has been confiscated or banned and she doesn't seem phased.

Thanks",5.117611940298506,6.7684726019900525,4.782268656716418,84.64295522388059,69.24875621890547,7.748059701492537,26.335323383084567,8.238735603445708,1.5954302487562189,847,26,160,12,15,258,141,201,0.107,0.773,0.121,0.2596,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,1,3,12,12,3,0,12,0,20,2,2,0,1,33,28,12,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,6,15,0,3,3,3,1,3,1,4,0,2,6,3,17,7,23,17,5,38,0,0,0,0,20,14,0,7,20,104,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481168533060176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304796094293481,0.09455563683262884,0.09838426920612907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525772385739564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207735978531002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408447176081505,0.10457273299640496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944041716342965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189915429700048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186767208284236,0.0,0.0,0.09962140574576564,0.0,0.10626553431935422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057398114598376,0.0,0.0,0.09135111099879682,0.0,0.18532489655023,0.0,0.0,0.09917321225922232,0.09456648088382323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586754925340615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164415375349768,0.2728637211792246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117333902430715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887543861546813,0.3770078400430235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419590411937497,0.0,0.22191846912938565,0.0,0.11345345093177185,0.0,0.1240718765932445,0.0,0.08012176514205463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470690508452601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24058301734141505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11827093617724145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167466878512116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402835008900944,0.0,0.2393282375705899,0.0,0.21528057871809864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978084722222938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885304742759288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088585291666029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894607620723511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26044697336461203,0.0,0.0,0.0938525662412435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399354985391784,0.0,0.0,0.07614200012658641
parenting,kukalukabuka,2019/02/13,"My baby is crushed. Backstory: a little more than a year ago we (me, so and then 3 year old daughter) moved to a new country where we know no one. It was bc my husband got a new job. It's only temporary and we are staying here for another 3-4 years. We come from a non English speaking country and moved to the UK. She didn't know any English beforehand.

My now 4yo daughter has been crying all night because she is missing her country and her cousin from back home. She says she hates living here and wants to move back. 
I asked if she didn't like her school but she says she likes school but she doesn't like it here (our home)

I don't know what to do to help her. I know this has been stressful for us all and it is really tough, but she is now fluent in English, has many friends although she doesn't really meet them outside of school. I try to help her as best I can but I feel like I'm doing everything wrong. I'm just feeling very guilty.

I would really appreciate it If anyone has any advise on how I can help her, ",1.4614485981308434,3.3323532289719613,2.864308411214953,93.5847803738318,79.7943925233645,5.962242990654207,22.382242990654206,6.961326702584282,0.5078250467289713,797,25,179,9,20,259,118,214,0.133,0.737,0.13,0.628,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,1,1,11,11,1,1,6,0,22,0,0,1,2,29,36,17,0,4,7,4,2,4,1,1,0,3,2,0,7,11,0,0,6,0,0,4,6,5,0,1,6,5,35,6,15,29,4,22,0,1,0,0,37,4,0,2,17,116,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965103297936914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15289505287151514,0.11787919823612535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860469486406699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050948730929064,0.0,0.0,0.1728837199624205,0.0,0.06852845972637646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797487797912873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683743264815753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348497589725455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103329825893424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368299170332655,0.08031084438888562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685322200601282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991027551529444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098867560466026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22605256603350984,0.0,0.22552716275706644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155668896879603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471261333794472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196853915854576,0.1126715313279302,0.09926641534699793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139733596751282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584449632987536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714639491988366,0.0,0.10549589302084622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179629029645586,0.0,0.07617677967253343,0.08549831889645197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160519414997813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879728173743606,0.0,0.3413165147542649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982173919257265,0.0,0.0,0.12877348148836928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763238750665487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352240066732056,0.0,0.0,0.09275593353772804,0.06630655592681578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985792786506468,0.12291052123879892,0.0,0.21717890352959254
parenting,Moronicon,2019/02/13,2 year old sleep regression is driving us nuts! Our 2.5 year old in the last week or so will only sleep in our bed and wakes up every couple hours or so. Wife thinks buying him a toddler bed will fix it since she could lay down with him until he falls asleep in it but I think he will just get out and come to our bed. Any advise from anyone who is/has gone through this? ,3.700253164556962,3.8364180126582283,4.0150379746835485,94.41825316455696,71.40506329113923,6.82632911392405,20.863291139240516,5.6839178017228535,-0.18767037974683554,289,4,69,1,5,90,61,79,0.026,0.974,0.0,-0.2363,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,5,4,4,0,0,12,10,8,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,11,5,0,18,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,2,8,38,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756683606018653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173082323748324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18692551890594614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325613200794476,0.2401053878969609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182831109323933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337307870054775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137004122711757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688323718770305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45540812566598793,0.0,0.0,0.16503760155819686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950390625200693,0.0,0.434311648452539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780885353781699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610232110114808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406359690893147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794806245720649
parenting,Son-Of-My-Father,2019/02/13,"Best games/toys to play with my 5 year old son? Yesterday, I had a realization that I don't spend enough time **WITH** my son. I mean we're *around* each other all the time, but we rarely do the same activities. He has PLENTY of toys, but honestly, I find it boring when I tried to play with him with any of them. I think he's a bit too young for video games, plus I don't want him to start playing games yet, so that's off the table.   


Any toys you suggest that are ""advanced"" enough to keep an adult entertained, but simple enough for a 5 year old to enjoy?

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Thanks Reddit!",0.8786877828054287,3.1028817815126075,2.060672268907563,96.5925856496445,84.12605042016807,5.342210730446023,16.71687136393019,6.67199483983844,-0.38086347769877227,448,9,103,5,13,142,75,119,0.035,0.7509999999999999,0.214,0.9708,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,1,2,5,9,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,1,18,12,6,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,1,3,9,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,14,8,16,11,8,14,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,11,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931300170435463,0.2165890173803636,0.24242747566710546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158677182653216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705871330349172,0.0,0.19459902139205834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5525288734520993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291407918534392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843368632160726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19416270206306285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374079451898204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616379585495308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16410543647449224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421316510471885,0.0,0.0,0.20787394457398412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210176785841715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513440867851934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165890173803636,0.22956981433564674
parenting,bradybradnrad,2019/02/13,"I caught my 16 yr old son dry hump his girlfriend on his bed. Hey, I have a problem. I’m a dad of four boys (ages 3, 8, 14, and 16) 

Basically my son and his girlfriend have been dating for over a year now and they haven’t really gotten serious (not from what I’ve seen) we have the door open at all times rule when your girlfriend is over. Yesterday I was walking upstairs to go get my jacket and I walk past his room to see his girlfriend on top of him (fully clothed) and my son laying down while his girlfriend dry humps him. I didn’t stop them because at least it wasn’t sex or something like that. It wasn’t too bad so I walked downstairs and kept an eye on him. When he walked downstairs to take his girlfriend home I said I needed to have a talk with him. I told him that I don’t like him doing that in my house and I asked him if he has sex (he said no) he agreed that he’d never do it again and we left it as that. I felt like I didn’t handle it really good. I felt like I went easy on him. I don’t feel like I did a good job at all. 

Did I or did I not handle it right? Please be honest, I won’t be upset. Thanks! ",0.2753769284712462,1.8213111975806484,2.128120617110799,99.01000701262274,82.18548387096773,5.119495091164096,17.637447405329596,5.7926816847441245,-0.6673897615708277,859,17,218,5,23,284,130,248,0.052000000000000005,0.805,0.14300000000000002,0.9633,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,2,1,6,13,0,1,7,0,24,5,1,0,3,27,43,16,0,3,5,4,3,5,6,1,0,2,4,1,12,12,0,2,3,0,0,7,12,4,0,1,19,8,46,9,21,20,3,37,0,0,3,4,42,16,0,3,19,135,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154205099955376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534711570752062,0.09881493771437228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081962864693017,0.11580460319352345,0.3112837305541668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469080149476553,0.0,0.0921254287590652,0.2719243552072104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259998130500078,0.0,0.0,0.18704217033718407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608596970672941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176122627405507,0.0,0.0,0.3959704911826407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019543938551824,0.12502187028223274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009716774011832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15474323403281115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793763057559006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551082509950011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20769141490133186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843290974449035,0.3083893219898809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917308183471052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247928559694893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552324548969275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218793745635352,0.13029021194475654,0.0,0.14924032749418742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945220835829898,0.0,0.0,0.15489393910887914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15026875326421088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438738353301627
parenting,phantomgrahf,2019/02/13,"Raising a child Every day is a struggle. This child of mine needs a lot of attention, which I understand is normal when you have a child. But I could have never believed it to be this strenuous at times. Right now he is moving from my lap and going back down to the ground and not happy with either. ",4.517499999999998,5.2561270833333325,5.206666666666667,84.45000000000002,69.83333333333334,8.0,25.0,8.07648339933343,1.3360000000000012,235,6,47,3,4,76,47,60,0.092,0.908,0.0,-0.6483,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,0,7,0,0,0,1,13,10,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,8,2,12,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,6,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194004306321534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214681360960862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278120326161418,0.0,0.0,0.18401363549652375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404020345937267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215907710745284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037380842332782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24257655870894576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032596295466397,0.0,0.21156787855234302,0.2200633568418496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795618923577036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436694535682903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982878793879833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663776662595223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970376084488725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PumicoThePanda,2019/02/13,"What toys do your kids like to play with?  Hello everyone! I am trying to gather some research for a school project and I was wondering what kind of toys your children play with, what age range they are in and why your kid likes those toys. ",3.385212765957444,5.3256368297872365,3.052074468085109,94.10875,74.31914893617022,6.402127659574468,22.388297872340427,7.1686216300943375,0.5098127659574474,189,5,40,2,4,56,36,47,0.0,0.794,0.206,0.8553,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,5,7,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,3,25,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3768978013483988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41074145428545095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854002509954317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991874304305127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26779423424838256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559145898789765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277459524107285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pooloo15,2019/02/13,"2 year old is traumatized by fire drill / alarm About a month ago our 2 year old had a fire drill at his daycare and they said he got so scared that he was cowering in the corner with his blanket. For the past few weeks he's been pointing at all of our fire detectors saying ""big noise, big light"", whimpering and covering his eyes. I've been telling him that they are off and they won't make noise.... this morning he pointed at the fire alarm at his school saying ""big light, alarm"" and I told him that if it makes a noise it means we need to go outside. I think this triggered him and he immediately started saying ""lets go"" and holding onto my hand...    

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He's now been really sensitive to sirens or any other noises like that, and it seems like he scans every new room for fire alarms. The problem is his school does fire drills every 4-6 weeks as part of their licensing. I worry that he's going to keep getting traumatized. Any advice, or anyone deal with anything similar?",4.9418028846153845,5.8990399270833365,5.042916666666667,85.21298076923081,69.0,8.199358974358978,27.26923076923077,8.384062270229773,1.684415384615384,774,24,155,11,13,242,116,192,0.188,0.7879999999999999,0.024,-0.9825,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,4,0,3,8,0,5,7,0,10,2,2,3,1,24,25,12,0,3,3,0,7,2,0,1,0,4,1,0,11,10,0,2,3,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,8,15,19,2,19,15,3,29,0,0,2,0,30,14,0,4,14,81,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12941349034329888,0.11739522053557735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349275833130887,0.16092245008795605,0.18012004405781035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260130289476633,0.0,0.1089823343457558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653418563644218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115894349992165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231636073916616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919157608754131,0.0,0.22579678670206715,0.0,0.10591999206588992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771389559686513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135423280022917,0.0,0.1294016440299159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768021547932772,0.0,0.0,0.1442600280918891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057079786466168,0.0,0.0,0.09819852620160367,0.0,0.1279060946884662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779355234864107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434136907459111,0.12642374452289518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503868756560921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672195989536594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484095133851585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259755655894162,0.3159517622623185,0.13259006829651165,0.26806163016431617,0.0,0.12056342256076198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093737842236577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575361683641415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485869959266883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265468691309222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124619838790223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449369412142095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092245008795605,0.17056699105039094
parenting,vault13rev,2019/02/13,"Son will lay down and refuse to participate in school! My son is seven years old, and broadly a very sweet kid.  He does, however, have something of a stubborn streak - he *hates* being told what to do.  We've gotten multiple calls now from his school that he has simply laid down on the floor and refused to participate when the class was doing an activity he doesn't like.

We're at the point of looking into a therapist for him.  I understand a little bit of pushback, sure, but this is too much.",3.6062499999999993,5.4979871250000025,4.577500000000004,83.61750000000002,73.58333333333334,7.716666666666668,25.541666666666664,8.472884824447931,1.7099416666666665,388,13,76,7,8,126,75,96,0.07400000000000001,0.885,0.041,-0.2733,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,8,0,10,0,0,0,1,10,15,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,2,4,3,14,10,2,14,0,0,1,0,13,10,0,0,5,48,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539824890002725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375513218560999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035847213026205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968371180445935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365609124910887,0.2331662702442845,0.0,0.0,0.1953589021500648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101707513650324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441164133234457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199198766019463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4708879446894335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909754061399336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192603278850798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701128242088506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229736898718255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24218631312088015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919522599109072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981245133506493
parenting,leAnnabatson60,2019/02/13,"My son said a girl in his class called him a d*ck! My son is 6 and in kindergarten. Yesterday he came home from school saying a girl in his class called him a d*ck. He asked “what does that mean?” He’s never heard that word before because he’s six and we don’t cuss in our house. So he doesn’t know very many words. He said she was mad that he beat her at tag on the playground so she pinched him and called him a d*ck. 
I will be having a talk with this girls parents and the school about this. 

Anybody know what I can do about this?",0.8152392344497628,2.645848482456138,1.3904146730462514,103.55275119617224,81.71929824561403,4.496331738437002,16.503987240829346,4.851557810540192,-1.1592175438596493,413,7,104,1,11,125,68,114,0.037000000000000005,0.963,0.0,-0.593,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,8,0,9,0,0,0,1,13,17,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,3,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,5,4,15,0,10,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,33,6,0,0,2,58,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687494672746229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100352541627173,0.0,0.15359796991120347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5529527950451663,0.2064516621571768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15796269453577666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106301216791185,0.0,0.0,0.20828058214932052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984036049054133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300553740308986,0.0,0.1966247945024256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392179521700278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043141123754174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34340655584190155,0.1435462318731298,0.0,0.3653649846197925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508450764494485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893699293223114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NW_Inlander,2019/02/13,"FROZEN 2, the storm is coming... I have a love/hate for this announcement! Could mean a new intro into the Frozen soundtrack repeat in my life but could bring daughter's obsession to a new level.  

Anyone else a little scared?  
[https://youtu.be/t66GQbH9Usc](https://youtu.be/t66GQbH9Usc)",8.610697674418603,12.892884023255816,4.777953488372091,76.12460465116278,69.23255813953489,6.2306976744186064,20.227906976744187,7.554174236665415,1.0636176744186048,235,5,31,3,5,62,36,43,0.16699999999999998,0.833,0.0,-0.7784,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,6,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,7,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,3,18,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884530004844778,0.2761526723000012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321655821362552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4303758093782756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22514740447086395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19036827971475545,0.0,0.27012748010342796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432501927702009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935837217623865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.520603632363266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698341753713238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,its_Hof,2019/02/13,"Teenage Sons with Butt Acne Full Disclosure: I had super embarrassing butt acne / red bumps all over my ass and waistline when I was in high school and college, so I created a product to help young men of that age have smoother, healthier-looking skin on their rear. It seems to be a highly misunderstood problem because it usually has different causes than normal teenager face acne and there aren't many effective remedies made specifically for butts. I tried all kinds of skincare products and my family doctor even put me on prescription antibiotics and steroids and none of it ever really worked...

I just started this a month ago, but I made a website, and would greatly value any feedback you have, good or bad, about how I can make it better. Here's the website: [https://getmoonwax.com/](https://getmoonwax.com/)

​

If you've deal with your son (or daughter's... but I did make this for young men, since there seem to be so few product made for them) butt acne, I would love to hear your feedback on a few questions.

* What products or home remedies has he tried in the past? Did any of them work? What did he/you dislike about them? 
* Why would you buy or not buy Moon Wax? Do you buy this kind of thing for your child or do they spend their own money on hygiene products?
* Does the website show a good understanding of the problem? What else would you like to know about the problem or product that you don't see? 

Thank you all so much for your time!",6.0154853801169565,7.5093735777777795,5.3358089668616016,82.11798245614038,66.92592592592592,7.906432748538013,30.877192982456144,8.20500826718156,2.158,1166,45,213,15,19,352,155,270,0.098,0.7929999999999999,0.109,0.7258,1,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,0,10,6,5,14,15,0,1,11,0,20,9,7,8,4,45,34,21,0,9,11,3,1,1,0,4,1,1,1,3,13,9,0,0,6,1,5,1,4,5,0,0,8,4,28,10,29,20,9,22,0,0,2,6,28,10,5,10,12,138,41,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797046162418677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197497794996332,0.1342954734348348,0.15031654426480395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228066680666154,0.06737275704083821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774710608502528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11353581686736985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394260459037063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547123246806792,0.0,0.113123231022511,0.0967179320978106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923263621498872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299827454618954,0.09997284091360414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041896429947172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854000411336327,0.0,0.12185012049898215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456553455274184,0.0,0.07408009592240396,0.2335436373737589,0.11086187259432248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23018184742186976,0.0607396146400139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539951232371404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281005427104996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974978589476813,0.3137337715273242,0.14754764838146828,0.1120512485058082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821704510730226,0.0,0.08124587029314358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082874055062552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550508406270848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172618660001129,0.0,0.11110443002040182,0.12380914701523167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708027731397343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185345336512732,0.08807116474456353,0.20122887642926052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142435926060646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822754311185531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175316159207162,0.0,0.0,0.07342543899584826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644458572714795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007341217957282,0.0,0.0,0.1150565682806123,0.0,0.0,0.12172359469590267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997282803671003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092164154111532,0.0,0.0,0.3140446344961079,0.0,0.1342954734348348,0.0
parenting,paperclop,2019/02/13,"Sensitive toddler stuggling transitioning to daycare Our 2.5 year old recently started group daycare. Up until now, he was at home with me for 11 months, then a nanny. He has a passive personality - at playgrounds I have observed if other kids push he is always surprised and then sad. He tries to hug them in return (maybe he thinks he has done something wrong)? In short, in daycare it seems to be survival of the fittest and he is getting pushed, bitten, toys taken away and the teachers have a hard time keeping up (they have a live video feed so I can see him crying a lot). It breaks my heart leaving him there as he seems to have no fun, and hardly eats or sleeps. He's been there a month. Should I look for another daycare or are they all similar?",3.376716180371353,5.5525556689655176,3.8965517241379333,86.99246684350136,75.06896551724137,6.116710875331565,27.705570291777192,7.010146845296331,1.3890265251989389,592,24,113,6,13,186,103,145,0.067,0.862,0.071,0.168,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,3,1,6,5,0,0,8,0,15,5,2,0,1,15,24,12,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,5,2,1,3,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,4,4,11,3,18,18,2,24,0,1,2,1,18,9,0,6,12,71,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884571925621135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18757534662230108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16806729489469416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964955437699571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18306031763550112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304286888840224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345944477264552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204896423793478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21197826052693375,0.0,0.0,0.1794351181544452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590002128378907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941220140865944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795774441363788,0.0,0.15021740716022494,0.0,0.0,0.15208067885717114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971290230392703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28556681466113826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877085418228516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619450520019454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766262519832939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254729315071735,0.3256983340909197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901306901031785,0.0,0.0,0.1377135512316772,0.0,0.0,0.1266149318311855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462156806524293,0.0,0.0,0.1043086296799992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145041309568083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955814424417247,0.0,0.11519535456123756
parenting,Kling_wrap,2019/02/13,How to stop this behavior My 2nd header got suspended from the bus for 2 days because he hit another kid on the bus several times. He was a bully. The other kid’s parents called the school about it. How do I make sure my kid knows that this is not ok and that this never ever happens again? He also has a problem with teasing his sister. He is not the most cooperative kid.,1.4782894736842105,3.753118407894739,3.6413157894736834,85.87671052631579,82.02631578947368,6.43157894736842,22.657894736842106,7.6454224807358475,1.1544526315789474,293,10,59,5,8,100,57,76,0.17800000000000002,0.7929999999999999,0.029,-0.8775,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,7,1,5,0,0,3,3,14,10,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,2,6,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,1,6,39,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742633360235866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28509512509111584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573857042069215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27762498015829445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534333036329858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24593554519184166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174512689988254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042700463543365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942088375925547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148534649440295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20969447060517332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30189611337461264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26015722293600485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751621318705517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071526572421282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22730803141484204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562483917284644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585383279956401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,63jaket,2019/02/13,Not sure where to start as a soon to be father... A little back story for reference. I got a hookup pregnant and there's no relationship there. I'm 28 have a lot going for me but I'm terrified on what to do when the baby gets here in a month or so. I've got most of the stuff together for when the babies here. The mother says that she is good with 50/50 custody after the breast feeding the first few months and I will be able to see her any time I like. I'm just looking for what our single fathers may have done in a similar situation. ,1.6639473684210522,3.31800714912281,3.5542456140350893,89.88505263157896,78.3859649122807,6.665263157894738,21.049122807017547,7.554174236665415,0.6046764912280711,421,11,94,6,10,142,81,114,0.078,0.858,0.064,-0.1232,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,11,3,0,0,12,0,9,2,1,0,1,12,19,8,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,3,7,3,15,12,4,16,0,0,2,1,8,5,0,4,11,69,11,0,0.2257301139315893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350421808891512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735725241250007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310002783736181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200591959592772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793466786238165,0.0,0.12828762569983915,0.18933170987310088,0.3610739858988725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028033159850342,0.2262408755881577,0.0,0.0,0.18955644412061065,0.0,0.0,0.19190767067937406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603512466985771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423496652256435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950964674176118,0.0,0.0,0.17987767542710525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537301057801318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977293646729926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584069749950749,0.0,0.0,0.21274796097435533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162504470700004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,herointhrowaway0102,2019/02/13,"Navigating Sensitive Family Issues Hello Fellow Parents! I am seeking some advice on a sensitive family issue. I am using a throwaway account for this because I think some family members might know my my regular account.

I am going to make this as short as possible because I know I could write a novel on this issue. OK. My SIL is a heroin addict. It sucks and it is super sad. It has been going on for years and years. She is a great person and we love her when she is not using. She goes through periods of being clean and then relapsing. It has been the policy of my husband and I that if SIL is clean we will spend time with her and let her see our toddler (her nephew).  If SIL is relapsing or even a hint of possible active heroin use then we don't want our toddler spending any time with her. 

This seems obvious and reasonable to my husband and I. It is not reasonable according to certain family members who think we are just awful for stopping SIL from spending time with our son. Visits and holidays have been completely ruined because of this issue. 

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So- my question is this: would you guys let your toddler spend (supervised) time with a known and actively using heroin addict?

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I feel like I am taking crazy pills because we are so vilified by certain family members for something that seems so reasonable to me. If you are using heroin then you can't hang out with my little kid.... Are we wrong? ",4.766144790019332,6.554095837638375,5.858355297838696,76.04589175891759,70.32841328413285,8.851941662273767,29.87893164645932,9.362217197678863,2.9645950096643823,1136,46,191,25,21,377,133,271,0.111,0.763,0.126,0.6878,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,9,4,0,1,6,11,1,0,8,2,31,4,0,9,3,58,51,23,0,6,7,5,1,1,1,3,3,0,2,3,14,22,0,1,12,2,6,4,4,4,0,0,3,2,39,7,26,41,2,22,0,2,1,1,36,6,1,10,13,145,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640341260456755,0.0,0.08354430928382839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526667274361566,0.20777053312132973,0.058139242783206875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846679772898175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896394353611666,0.0,0.0,0.06826046143850964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646836051685145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4029833827801651,0.0,0.04322862598121615,0.0610773415144246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717707447392566,0.0,0.0,0.09425807083980564,0.0,0.08465307075972958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35693649675104305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397116516710788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748479908926421,0.0,0.04176833088263486,0.08568802445341432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716219193400829,0.0,0.0570682927371555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906962335562647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949316080171972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465056527382682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927645751966009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577349043389008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637079868277321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812810731284097,0.15566210038866704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658179007778438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147729295427607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428128052337936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956294317365196,0.0,0.0,0.1994102970157624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691993143233495,0.0,0.0,0.05042691546582575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073289317231794,0.0934748966785484,0.20777053312132973,0.11011140659389317
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parenting,MichaelHash,2019/02/13,"My [27] brother [14] just got caught smoking pot at school. My mother [50], who is going through surgery in two weeks, is freaking out and needs my help. What can I do, as a brother, to help out? Thanks in advanced for taking the time to read this post.

Some facts about the situation:

1. He was buying from kids at school
2. He was partaking in the middle of class, posting on social media
3. My mother is having surgery in 2 weeks, enough stress as it is.
4. I used to smoke from age 23-26. I have talked to him about a developing brain shouldn't be exposed to drugs/alcohol but after 21 you are free to do what you want. 
5. We live in California (weed is legal for ages 21+) and he goes to my old High School which is known for it's drug culture.
6. My parent's have lost all touch of discipline. I used to be terrified of my father but now he doesn't even get off the couch if my brother does something wrong.

The biggest problem is that his grades are slipping and he is doing this at school in class. His friends all do it, the neighbor kids do it, and all the popular kids at school are doing it. Kids get expelled for bringing drugs to school if caught and he is gambling with his future to look cool and impress friends/girls.

I've offered to help out as much as possible for my mothers sake. She won't be able to climb stairs or get out of a chair for almost a month. My brother has turned from a good kid that disobeys sometimes to a moody shit that lies and yells at my parents. What are some things I can do as an older brother that can help in this situation? My mother is feeling very overwhelmed and doesn't know how to handle this situation. 





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parenting,ziian,2019/02/13,"How to talk to a toddler about death To be clear it’s not about any recent death. She sees pictures of one of her grandparents and wonders why they are only in pics and where they are “in real life”. She is pretty verbally advanced 3 year old, so whatever we explain, I know lots of whys and hows are going to follow. 

I am struggling to find the right words and am afraid to start the conversation till I am prepared. It is an emotional topic for me as well.  She has already asked about it a few times in passing. So I want to sit down and have a conversation with her before she asks again. 

Any helpful resources? What did you guys do? ",3.2027906976744163,4.604568077519378,4.2596046511627925,87.49963953488373,73.65116279069767,7.020465116279071,26.078294573643408,7.554174236665415,1.2548257364341082,498,17,104,6,10,162,88,129,0.078,0.7879999999999999,0.134,0.5504,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,2,1,10,3,0,2,6,0,13,1,0,2,1,19,23,11,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,2,1,1,1,1,15,1,21,21,2,18,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,2,7,75,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180423701207133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687321204346222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36943468820796505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813214002974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222589867379237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059110596956104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229334968460523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564237610895704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243852402672046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858874860666053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13956167093287666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798155748223528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20733451116256035,0.0,0.13389018902059435,0.15027395654159584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101719932078468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489747196851573,0.0,0.0,0.19509350644251425,0.0,0.0,0.16873837496540067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574514034147814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985322533630104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656102479294813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588130934908046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152146755534933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654204003516028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765460708003314,0.0,0.17829170023451987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21427487181594632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723966791395308
parenting,quart_knee_,2019/02/13,"Anyone else not able to agree on the number of kids you want with spouse?? How’d it work out? Husband wants 3-4 kids, I only want 2. We only have 1 daughter right now, and while she’s a relatively easy baby, I don’t think I could handle more than 2. 

I know my husband can’t force me to have more kids than I agree to, but I don’t want him to resent me for not giving him more kids. We’re only 24 and 25 right now, so age isn’t a factor, just personal preference. Mostly because more kids = more expenses. Also, we like to travel a lot, and traveling with anything more than 2 kids just sounds difficult. 

Anyone else deal with this?? How’d it work out for you? ",1.6090767386091116,3.1761513884892096,3.444046762589931,91.00165767386093,78.28057553956835,6.359952038369305,19.49700239808153,7.1686216300943375,0.24151750599520394,509,11,114,6,12,171,82,139,0.092,0.8290000000000001,0.078,-0.5892,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,2,0,2,6,3,1,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,25,14,7,0,6,5,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,3,10,0,0,3,2,1,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,16,1,17,13,8,11,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,2,5,68,19,2,0.17540842821417113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027405666955306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24529930291289545,0.3594533270288952,0.14434619065357085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692734975719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004935681530803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083838733057409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930624677100836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826774773219688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963998848198079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569569780349988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912597300293562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002180415901239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531598736981359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29959567855906666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239463811773724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138417425455363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553988496884277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwmeinthetrash987,2019/02/13,"Destructive toddlers I’m about at my wits end with my 2 and 4 year old boys. The problem is mainly with the 2 year old. Yes I know, terrible twos blah blah blah. But he literally destroys everything. Just to name a few things, a 60 inch tv, multiple game systems, computers, countless charger cords, other random expensive electronics, half of our dishes, etc. He breaks every toy we buy, throws every piece of food we give him, dumps every drink we give him. Don’t even get me started on the tantrums. I almost can’t take him anywhere in public. I try to give him things to do, he has no interest in coloring or arts or crafts or anything like that. I can’t read with him because he just tears the pages out. He constantly starts fights with his older brother. I have no idea what to do with him or how to discipline him or how to control him. Please help!",3.0612774451097806,5.166685946107787,3.8729580838323368,87.12508582834336,75.76646706586827,7.3275848303393225,26.10339321357285,8.238735603445708,1.7142777644710585,671,25,133,12,15,214,111,167,0.17800000000000002,0.7490000000000001,0.073,-0.9422,0,0,1,0,1,0,24.0,4,0,0,1,6,9,5,0,6,1,8,3,0,3,0,28,17,9,0,1,8,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,10,3,2,2,6,2,1,5,7,0,1,0,1,21,2,19,17,5,18,0,0,1,0,28,6,0,7,10,78,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570403997441756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795770494970005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478724869242283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680329751889486,0.17439891411433908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523241989143904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377208764345263,0.0,0.1734160888445128,0.10270183242364964,0.0,0.3930293363813187,0.0,0.13974731675749733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880230684602268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123881114461673,0.44748991406101296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422385521642118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553296500698518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545502976633558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596615307511498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32632804135470944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17068490686966029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487860509896523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15553533972262204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011786096407032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691158092538548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20660562672924573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556971739900067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026512412315575
parenting,Newparentsurvey,2019/02/13,"What are the biggest challenges you faced as a new parent? Hi there,

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We are Anna and Tara, third year nursing students @ the University of Toronto. 

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We are taking a mother and baby course this semester and would like to learn more about the biggest challenges you faced as a new parent.  We created a short survey (4 questions) and would be forever grateful if you share your thoughts and fill out the survey, it should only take a minute!

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Click on the link to take the survey: [https://bit.ly/2RRs3Fz](https://bit.ly/2RRs3Fz)

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We will use the collected data as input for our paper on modernizing mother and baby care to connect it better to todays demands. 

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Thanks,

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Anna & Tara",10.484494773519168,11.388781723577239,8.1474099883856,67.94634146341464,56.96747967479676,9.304994192799072,37.89663182346109,8.841846274778883,3.6469265969802542,604,25,81,7,7,176,76,123,0.0,0.835,0.165,0.9558,2,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,5,4,0,3,2,7,0,0,12,0,8,2,2,1,0,20,15,10,0,4,1,4,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,11,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,9,7,13,9,1,12,0,0,1,0,16,6,0,2,6,56,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5476498731468171,0.5264326948939939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638607680491405,0.15766156027392822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361932361114386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03527644120565973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394749460240272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054916285474725005,0.0,0.0,0.1603535127217484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808877882586533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287087119037386,0.0,0.0,0.06647802999963685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057323883425642014,0.0,0.0,0.06844330475199023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062363219356281516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258683025965036,0.0,0.5264326948939939,0.046498608858666114
parenting,Kaviss,2019/02/13,"School delays? Not an American so not used to the school bus system. It seems to me that most 2 hour delays are mostly due to school buses not being able to cope with cold (they must have super tech buses in Canada and Alaska) temperatures. So why, instead of having the blanket delay when the roads are perfectly safe, don’t they suggest if you can get your child(ren) to school for regular start time (not before school clubs) feel free but buses will come round in a couple of hours? This would make life easier for working parents as being just a matter of minutes later is obviously preferable to being up to 3 hours late depending on the commute time. I see how kids who can’t get in would miss those couple of hours but I don’t wonder if friends could pick them up if they can go. Dunno. Community spirit?! 
Anyway I’m salty as my kid is on a 2 hour delay but watching full school buses drive past.... confused (my kid doesn’t get buses). 

Clarification: not having a go, don’t fully understand the ins and outs of a delay (hence this post), just curious really. ",5.190940766550527,6.271649268292682,5.892421602787456,78.8973780487805,68.51219512195122,8.198606271777004,25.374564459930312,8.418075326091056,1.6573344947735182,840,22,153,12,14,274,129,205,0.059,0.8370000000000001,0.104,0.8602,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,2,4,3,8,7,0,1,11,0,22,1,0,5,3,46,38,14,0,8,13,1,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,6,5,0,6,6,1,1,4,10,2,0,0,0,5,11,6,26,30,3,35,1,1,3,0,13,11,0,10,18,100,17,7,0.10593858216269963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014593067519104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125670809003482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458333755602916,0.2344380523579816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053565730239698316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818478857868864,0.0,0.1660456101788356,0.0,0.12041467519729238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.521640818639729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950333503936815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482755355759793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071482622017418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176322585057308,0.0,0.10113036387472996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145987758297936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786696844585663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6432930056377459,0.08441933406920171,0.0964425064260347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498387371764878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235472783891609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028580015613446,0.0,0.091496920972318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559309270946073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114885873318088,0.07712454953686937,0.0,0.0,0.15051145848394032,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FF_Milehighclub,2019/02/13,"Parents!! I need your support! My nephew is part of a homeschooling troop that participates in classical conversations and there is this competition happening right now but he needs votes to win it, you don’t even have to watch the video but if you could just go on and vote for him I would really appreciate it! Please! With a cherry on top! :)                                                                            


[vote for my nephew! ](https://nmm.us.launchpad6.com/contest/1/entry/56)",3.9541741357234312,7.275395352112678,3.7131882202304745,79.93715749039694,88.43661971830986,7.65224071702945,23.35595390524968,8.296473431620573,2.2239183098591546,334,12,57,9,11,101,58,71,0.0,0.731,0.269,0.9711,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,3,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,11,5,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,9,9,1,7,0,0,1,0,9,5,0,1,1,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270336687307677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18781324921017584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160502924678205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25145345575745626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216900319243322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157416576515601,0.3079278588401153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31213549158588594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18216456428775404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24283690973621805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226817453444816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420430580610235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019970457124144,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Farmers-wife,2019/02/13,"4 year old saying he doesn't like himself (not a sad way but angry) while being defiant. So lately one of my guys has been saying he doesn't like himself whenever he's just being rude. Here's an example he hurt his brother and then when asked what's wrong he said he doesn't like himself (not in a sad/depressed way but a very angry/rude way). Then when I said why he goes I'm bad, which I said no you make bad choices but your not bad (we never say they're bad kids we will tell them that the choice was bad sometimes). So I start saying how he's very imaginative and he's all like no I'm not and I don't have a brain and such. To which I was like oh you must not know your alphabet and numbers and bunch of other things because you would need a brain to do any of those things which cheered him up some it seemed. I simply told him if he was really upset and needs a hug he can always come ask for one that I ask for hugs whenever I'm upset. The whole time he was upset I was holding him since he was just trying to hit things and himself while he was like this. He also gets into a thing where he's all yea I like that about things he doesn't like (like if you say something like if you keep throwing things you won't be allowed to play with your toys). 

Should I be worried about this? What can my approach be for next time? Any tips, suggestions, and advice will be greatly appreciated. ",2.7140630797773606,3.7846294353741534,3.7095732838589974,92.26886827458256,74.37414965986395,6.5699443413729135,22.207173778602357,6.7829847944221076,0.3292639455782313,1090,26,249,9,22,351,144,294,0.252,0.685,0.063,-0.996,1,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,2,9,1,0,13,27,1,3,10,1,30,4,2,3,4,44,50,25,0,8,13,1,0,10,0,6,0,8,0,2,19,14,0,2,3,2,0,3,14,12,0,2,12,8,32,15,16,25,5,24,0,2,0,2,54,4,0,5,24,152,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430177912583417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898986979971662,0.07178332408553889,0.0,0.0,0.11733274583675045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419516485674243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601580942746267,0.0525892250707146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261109368648247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431373127512436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743039897610873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04507237189281397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511267897097392,0.0,0.08542059339153245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235352740957016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668049753023504,0.0,0.0,0.04741158600761964,0.0,0.0973160101045386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4214703113482114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758571290680816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793581943226967,0.06653653209840299,0.0,0.09174883375384234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905255667319529,0.0,0.11691719987160795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526659640808888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461867988584292,0.34302574904156463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853671972226697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136320995721697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641465087764978,0.0853229662681773,0.0,0.06106215705176974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540354420295653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438826410142097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060914357031983,0.0,0.0,0.08243442149841719,0.0,0.05857148198238174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423631199340179,0.0,0.20543068215426624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778450105427883,0.09631706972551528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761109576416445,0.0,0.061283539115652035,0.09432240401717584,0.0,0.0555548759543705
parenting,CheerFairy,2019/02/13,"What to use for diapers? I get paid tonight at 9pm Pacific time and can buy more diapers then, but right now I'm down to my last 3 diapers. What can I use for diapers to last until I get paid? (He's 6 weeks old)",0.3681249999999992,1.4555895625000022,3.59416666666667,90.6675,80.45833333333334,8.966666666666667,24.5,9.516144504307137,1.907024999999999,161,6,42,5,4,59,33,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,9,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,8,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,9,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381763096547681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5276183824020777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33960495977025673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763861583896854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188716654245802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5590408149760837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259603891517207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flojo2012,2019/02/13,Air travel with toddlers We (38F and DH 33) will be traveling by air with our 3M and 4M sons. Should we rent a CARES harness for them in flight or let them just use the lap belt? Trying to figure out  if we should rent one prior to vacation?,1.9173076923076915,2.95502611538462,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,76.30769230769229,6.7384615384615385,20.69230769230769,7.1686216300943375,0.2736000000000001,186,4,44,2,4,62,42,52,0.0,0.921,0.079,0.624,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,15,7,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,8,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,1,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5264155612901695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5279650712478658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498670825436905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3505426668435385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459286979421465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,unassumingtoaster,2019/02/13,"Which formula is best for my 4 month old as a supplement? I live in Canada, My baby has cow milk and soy allergy, he is breast fed but falling off the growth curve.  I was going to start supplementing with Holle Goat Milk Step 1.

Now that I’ve gone down the rabbit hole of importing formula, just wondering if there are other formulas around the world that are good? I know the Chinese have been buying up all of Australia’s formula, is the Australian formula better?",5.62048689138577,6.71493803370787,6.237696629213485,76.7611891385768,67.53932584269663,10.427715355805246,30.563670411985026,10.504223727775694,3.3210883895131094,371,14,68,10,6,121,72,89,0.02,0.8270000000000001,0.153,0.9237,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,6,0,9,4,1,0,1,9,15,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,2,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,3,11,11,2,15,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,2,4,43,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108852739490088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36649125197161103,0.3088621105775476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847324355953808,0.2929142882035182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191925534420048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30837304909687085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787489454373758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36645405135604464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24718403478673664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787208142072676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vanillagurilla,2019/02/13,"My almost 7 year old won’t sleep through the night. I’m tired. Advice wanted. So my almost 7 yo daughter will not sleep through the night. Most nights she wakes up around midnight and comes into our room. Her stepfather and I typically don’t allow her to sleep in the bed, but occasionally I’m too tired to keep getting up so I let her crawl in on my side. That’s the worst case scenario. 

Best case is she wakes up two to three times a night and I physically walk her back to bed, put her back to sleep and lay down until she falls asleep. I have an 8 month old that sleeps through the night, but it’s this one keeping me up. I’m so tired. 

Here’s what we’ve tried:
- No screen time at least one hour before bed
- No food or water before bed
- No sugar within 6 hours of bedtime 
- A bedtime routine. Lots of them. 
- Nightlights
- Complete darkness and blackout curtains
- A special clock that changes colors when it’s time to get up. What a waste of money. 
- Melatonin
- I’ve tried putting her to sleep and not staying in the room while she falls asleep, but she just won’t go to sleep. At all. So that lasted one VERY long night. 
- Reward system: this seems to be the thing that’s worked best so far. We had one night where she stayed in her bed almost all night. 
But that was it. The next night, back to the usual

I think that’s the rundown. She definitely suffers from anxiety, and she’s had some difficult events in her life for sure. But the only thing she says will help her sleep is to be with someone all night. And it’s starting to take a toll on me physically, emotionally and mentally. And it’s not helping my marriage. 

I’d love some helpful advice. I have taken her to therapists who have suggested most of what I’ve listed above. I am really desperate and just want us all to get some sleep. ",1.6511634349030473,3.9689301135734105,2.562645429362881,93.61022853185595,81.65927977839334,5.351246537396122,20.85734072022161,6.5966054737557815,0.2103529085872573,1405,41,301,14,38,442,178,361,0.116,0.772,0.113,0.4522,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,3,0,1,4,15,9,0,0,17,0,17,21,13,1,5,48,35,25,0,2,11,1,0,0,0,4,4,1,8,0,20,16,3,2,2,0,1,7,9,3,0,6,4,4,36,6,43,24,14,65,0,1,2,1,32,23,0,11,32,191,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778917252889885,0.0,0.0,0.18105337489610526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04610594648066328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05365256764656657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903040682765053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256968618147848,0.0,0.1264980900414529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637570620352409,0.0519167745046403,0.06319134724831188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779499302361161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287803002978964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446486380633944,0.0,0.03425250411783151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119197892820564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870648994708635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714047137378588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04912762683486479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162957220585745,0.042570078475227466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053336546084195635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0512389113472926,0.05439551069567725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073740661928965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04810648140876852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409721906476823,0.5655877421935285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264852498800788,0.0,0.1633604933380617,0.04583761486945388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117484077384627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038610138047504634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047928667170121016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05486702252992541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428165732661406,0.0,0.051066089683200665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042659010441652136,0.1284783795749045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680322142982416,0.0,0.045315108275199516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997744969446698,0.08008065814691534,0.038618215073187835,0.0,0.0,0.10543076219334682,0.20781252009187925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183796911567004,0.0,0.05887447242101671,0.0,0.07249669957251148,0.0,0.06637825873814271,0.049728588973876026,0.07109693881991433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043876860461886935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03881153480072637
parenting,angryapathetic,2019/02/13,"Dealing with illness At what age do you start to deal with general sickness (vomitting and diarrhea) differently. With a baby you're told to treat it really seriously due to risk of swift dehydration. However as an 8 year old I remember going nil by mouth for 24 hours except very small sips of water to get it to pass, and not really worrying about being dehydrated. 

At 4 months my daughter had a bug and they put her on a drip fairly quickly.

She's now 1 year old and has just had a sickness bug for a couple of days and we were concerned about dehydration but the doctors seemed more focused on just getting to a point where she wasn't vomitting (very little intake and some anti sickness meds).

So has the worrying phase gone in terms of swift dehydration? We asked the doctor and they didn't really have an explanation, plus every doctor gives a different answer about just about everything!",7.155714285714282,7.63740980952381,7.819142857142857,68.92585714285715,64.0,11.481904761904767,33.46666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.005090952380954,720,28,123,20,10,240,113,168,0.048,0.867,0.085,0.7384,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,1,2,0,11,3,0,1,12,0,10,11,1,0,0,24,19,11,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,3,13,1,0,3,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,7,0,10,1,28,11,3,26,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,2,13,81,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318224754057308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602152202159958,0.0,0.0909378256037448,0.290743973504936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294644528040879,0.0,0.4329798033155709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880444749477675,0.0,0.1267279657222135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734063612704085,0.1352667271328674,0.0801375063009411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886345438237527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132602029284544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566269476039465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255041219028274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959261744592891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329715704970665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175094370654165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709980126198721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973340085883336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836744281761256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980545382315943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473819539856371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326910230283738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863988301387164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18160772152265708
parenting,brantsmom,2019/02/13,"Does anyone else’s young child(ren) really dislike school? I have a 5 year old son in kindergarten. He never went to pre k or daycare, he was always home with me or family up until he started school in August. He sometimes seems excited when he is learning new things, but other than that he tells me he “hates” school. He won’t tell me what he does at school, when I ask he says “nothing.” He won’t tell me if he has friends, but will occasionally tell me about kids in his class and what they said/did that day. He has been sick multiple times since starting, and told me tonight he wishes he’d keep getting sick so he doesn’t have to go to school anymore. 

I just feel bad because I didn’t not like school up until probably middle school or high school, when the work started getting tougher. My son would rather stay home with me and be stuck in front of the tv and be a hermit day in and day out. I would just like to know if anyone else’s kids don’t like going to school, because from what I’ve seen and heard most kids are excited to start school and go to school every day.. I just don’t know if there’s another underlying issue since I can’t get him to talk to me about anything regarding school. ",7.003149659863943,5.501446563265308,6.67698979591837,83.5561649659864,65.0,9.799319727891158,31.43707482993197,8.344100000000001,2.008340136054422,948,27,206,10,12,297,131,245,0.12,0.8290000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.9586,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,1,11,8,1,0,4,0,21,2,0,0,1,34,44,21,0,7,13,2,1,3,1,5,2,2,2,3,7,10,0,1,5,1,0,5,9,2,0,0,8,4,20,6,28,28,1,39,0,0,1,0,34,12,0,8,24,106,27,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464085914122406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885840012310418,0.0,0.0,0.06512479902930111,0.09183288674329801,0.1345688156409794,0.05403899326539428,0.0,0.06139051614367402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482985901957158,0.08006094663464966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694011596615673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493264548462576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109714019103789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05532794259416017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190574509684243,0.0,0.0332036060943457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050734769173531896,0.0,0.10292612477048507,0.0,0.11196154963270764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483334420556806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938162214924942,0.1317402887373504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854010837614366,0.0,0.05836854614639705,0.0,0.0,0.07217859651128264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962458908442701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05064704545866501,0.0634223576781193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301001248950201,0.0,0.0689072957193493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708009808335972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042068465733779266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624651030036944,0.052221659762810915,0.0,0.7975116727378612,0.0,0.05978148677880313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864214364025064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494712025059446,0.0,0.18591998990457476,0.06999312333496918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052781279565635816,0.2295861602972397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043626759622654714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03829141456025514,0.0,0.0,0.06274838440354027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060874696246413285,0.0,0.0,0.07551471399780052,0.0,0.0,0.04780693087850797,0.0,0.0,0.09329702326138524,0.0,0.0,0.042287901686102934
parenting,Happy_and_Catlike,2019/02/13,"Baby Lead Weaning Scares Me Here's the Deal-o. My 6 month old girl is VERY independent and would actually like to do baby lead weaning. She natural declines puree's and really just wants what we're eating. I've baby-birded stuff for her from what I've eaten and I've also shared things like my smoothies with her but I'm terrified to give her finger food. I tried this method with a probably not ripe enough avocado and ended up with her chocking not gagging. Thankfully, I solved the problem quickly.

So..that scared me a little to say the least. I've read that the ""gagging"" can happen and its normal but I just feel so badly for her and it scares me every time.

Any advice/thoughts/inputs? I really want to support her independence and she's stealing food off our plates at this point. lol",1.8839796264855653,4.58492092258065,3.2741595925297133,86.11860780984723,84.93548387096773,5.8438030560271645,21.06112054329372,7.273561745256523,0.9215161290322582,633,20,118,10,19,206,101,155,0.199,0.703,0.098,-0.9681,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,2,6,11,0,3,6,1,4,5,1,4,1,27,13,11,0,5,6,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,10,4,0,1,1,0,2,2,6,0,0,1,3,18,5,13,11,2,12,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,7,69,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.14983069269857635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278408056892408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044109327935841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819760522333254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582906750337889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710744562046286,0.0,0.0,0.1359888711636575,0.1586455355738094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936217362830588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763329802753209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713169055352197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728739715122185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357729223456948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002157509855418,0.15388515801249214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255236458497795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504343926213124,0.0,0.0,0.16111203733869453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514279842243974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553965945982746,0.1469148878717764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357929620053465,0.0,0.1967204241967962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209937873431967,0.4611542079867765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576398639401594,0.0,0.1742328154570627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135692871981614,0.0,0.0,0.10200365653469837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952909482197156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424205153081163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668472080587734,0.181121082065791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906881004660106,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kim2235,2019/02/13,How do you guys manage to make your toddler willingly brush their teeth? Recently I've been having a hard time brushing my toddler's teeth. And I am really worried about his oral hygiene because of that. I'm sure you guys have been here too mind telling me your secrets?,3.51576923076923,6.004409807692312,3.669846153846154,87.27515384615386,75.92307692307693,6.467692307692308,29.63076923076923,7.554174236665415,1.959072307692308,218,10,40,3,5,67,44,52,0.084,0.87,0.045,-0.2389,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,4,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,7,2,2,2,1,6,9,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,9,1,3,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,2,25,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405208951409496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5979110237926084,0.0,0.0,0.27046757066801264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015388280090663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048605194707508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19342236999239196,0.0,0.2981167998781862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28456292227293145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26389778226739685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605624606030462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066218454128445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,laleha,2019/02/13,"Rules are not for everyone. I really hate being bad cop. No one believes me. But I do.  <We are a blended family>

Picture it. I’m laying in bed at 12 am, getting my social media fix. 

I hear men’s voices. 

Either I’ve completely lost it. (Plausible.) There are men in my back yard hanging out, conversing loudly. (Not likely.) There is a television on. (Bingo!)

Kids do this. I know. I’m not wet behind the ears with this shit. But when a bedtime is set (effective in August, start of school..flexible of course when called for - especially once routine has set in and we have been shown there is accountability for ones responsibilities) and detention has been earned due to being tardy so often....while others whine they want to watch/play/whatever (with no tardiness & know television enjoyment is being had across the hallway) but still begrudgingly respect the rule...bad cop is officially on duty.  Life isn’t fair, for even those who follow rules - that’s a valuable lesson. Another valuable lesson is respect & the consequences of ones actions. 

As JLo said, enough. (Did she actually say that?)

WiFi off. I’mthisclose to commandeering said television set. That’s my next step. 

Too late now to disrupt others’ rest.  (See, I’m in a good mood.)

Rant over. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.",2.56502393617021,5.541221336170217,3.794062499999999,80.94109375000002,86.70212765957447,7.022606382978723,23.51396276595745,8.07648339933343,1.991215425531916,1014,38,175,24,32,329,156,235,0.078,0.795,0.126,0.9498,0,0,0,0,0,0,69.0,1,0,1,5,11,14,2,0,9,0,23,3,2,1,0,21,40,9,0,1,7,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,2,3,11,7,0,1,5,1,1,5,6,5,0,3,7,9,12,8,29,30,3,30,0,2,1,0,15,12,1,0,11,111,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.1503603654783115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33389236773032244,0.0,0.0,0.16156686441206042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847841247727822,0.2573016039324196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735959875600728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733344269671587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272672858986329,0.16155049837899407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920637007511548,0.0,0.10176873322981783,0.0,0.0,0.14723054408580427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805007145849156,0.0,0.0,0.1292354336059496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212261850281927,0.0,0.0,0.17365994928423087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693572533654955,0.0,0.17380954285250794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883163112002817,0.07527596133734253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681970937359276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386638575580448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409072989271636,0.3132268530036828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870792941865576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931317256700827,0.12253101738040302,0.0,0.1559377167079041,0.1227822291122452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816144414916022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706569085667166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905898825234683,0.0,0.12304890585803853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384408908470736,0.0,0.1418566455403242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088068540811847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lukalock,2019/02/14,"Confidence and Potty Training? My soon-to-be 3 year old little girl is having meltdowns every time she needs to use the potty (after having a few accidents), and I am at a loss for how to help her.

A few weeks ago we started potty training, and she took to it like a fish to water. I had always heard that the second child learns faster with these things, but after a week and a half we were basically done. We were underwear-only during the day, even out and about running errands. And we only put on a pull-up at night, but half the time it was dry in the morning anyway.

The next week however, she caught the flu. She threw up a couple times, and was struggling with her tummy. So we switched her back to pull-ups during the day, but we were still using the potty. When she was better, we switched back to underwear but she had a few accidents.

Now she will start holding herself when she has to pee, but if I try and take her to the potty she starts crying, hides her face and says ""leave me alone"". And it seems like she is embarrassed for some reason.

I have asked if she would like me to hold her hand, I have talked to her about what a strong and brave little girl she is. I have talked to her about mistakes and how everyone makes them. But we can't seem to get past this. Her confidence seems absolutely shattered and I have no idea how to help her.

It breaks my heart that she seems this upset about a few accidents, to the point that she is uncomfortable even trying anymore. Does anyone out there have experience with this? Or any advice?

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parenting,fostersmama,2019/02/14,Unromantic Valentines Day Currently my husband and I are on opposite sides of the bed eating an El Pollo Loco take out dinner for two   And it’s so dark in the room we can’t see what we’re doing. We have a baby that’s constantly over tired (he’s basically allergic to sleep). So when he does go to sleep we stay absolutely still until he wakes up. I think we’ll have a good laugh about this in a few years. ,3.3850980392156838,4.246591764705887,5.344411764705885,81.97818627450984,72.52941176470588,8.960784313725489,24.75490196078432,9.2995712137729,1.8060196078431368,320,9,69,7,6,111,67,85,0.062,0.858,0.08,0.34,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,6,0,6,7,3,0,0,7,10,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,4,6,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,2,12,9,1,17,0,0,1,0,8,8,0,0,7,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837567805453051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934302409846014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297864051566869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268685919405517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923083514053068,0.22024048717726746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092430628494973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5255412715582505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279876411597654,0.20969752812092946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19742823558617287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16825130411438374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017982356295803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25650348533999945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909355682357172
parenting,RedHoodRevenge115,2019/02/14,"A Warning About ""Gacha"" Some of you may know of, have seen in your YouTube recommendations, or know someone who plays/watches something known as Gachaverse, Gacha Studio, Gacha Life, and all the other games. So, what is this Gacha, and what is all the YouTube content? I’ll be explaining it in this post.

First off, what Gacha actually is. Some of you may know what this type of game is from playing something like Fire Emblem Heroes, but for those of you who don’t, here’s an explanation. Gacha is a type of video game that is essentially a virtual gashapon machines (Capsule toy vending machines). You can pay the virtual currency to “roll” for certain rewards. Once you have (most likely) ran out of the virtual currency, you will have to resort to paying real money for more of the virtual currency. Essentially, gacha games are gambling for rewards.

Now, we’ll discuss Gachaverse, Gacha Studio and Gacha Life. These games are made by Lunime, which, names their gacha games, well, Gacha games. These games actually are mainly anime dress-up, with the gacha function being less prominent. The dress-up part is fine with one exception I will get to later on. The real problem is the Gacha mechanic, which the rewards are anime characters in skimpy outfits, keep in mind that the main demographic of the games are 6 to 12 year-old children, mainly female. The games are frequently made, with the previous 2 games coming out within 4 months of eachother. The games are full of ads that play every 5-10 minutes. It seems that the creators really want the money, which, while is reasonable (they need money to make games and pay the people who make them), is kind of shady because it looks like Lunime is exploiting children for money with a dress-up gambling game.

The next thing I will discuss is the content on YouTube, which is most likely how most people found out about Lunime’s Gacha games. The content is often romanticized, with themes such as murder, suicide, abuse and other very serious and horrible things. Most of these videos are just children copying their favorite content creator. The videos can potentially scar young children who watch it, thinking it’s a cute cartoon video. 

My recommendation is to tell anyone you know who’s hooked to these types of videos/games, or anyone you know with children in general, to watch out for this type of content.",8.776928769657726,8.820404976359338,7.567005858772743,73.56782608695653,60.70212765957447,10.193401171754548,36.35820742111214,9.653516015845867,3.467567458114914,1887,76,315,30,23,573,198,423,0.087,0.812,0.101,0.4049,0,0,2,0,1,1,70.0,1,9,4,5,10,19,1,0,28,0,37,2,0,6,3,59,58,14,2,3,5,0,1,4,0,6,2,0,2,5,35,17,0,1,11,22,12,2,1,3,1,2,5,5,17,16,56,45,15,25,0,0,4,0,44,14,0,12,12,207,52,7,0.0,0.15243590389886438,0.2510987055593093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991803970493822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842728834002965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082544803618384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083979315631732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943442770844057,0.0,0.1410642764577323,0.0,0.0,0.06721726554923613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435505052173905,0.0,0.13397505840122506,0.3535288950804818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181746576707338,0.2514186021217908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803834082012324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24347416811876316,0.1717572869474892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990552797931038,0.0,0.10269171007714664,0.0,0.0,0.0953965321426654,0.0,0.0,0.136826740268532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500245943317896,0.13701406530661367,0.08718039611640617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393215284194068,0.0,0.17838725289946958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321654622623765,0.0,0.0,0.12310607896009765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928765854349157,0.08242010195512349,0.13227943279738252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171232691612398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090095122933884,0.1980908053837981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407283962824072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245070630178587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094619037573544,0.08243734378107824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615438277554116,0.075884434018661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156768776744314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285001859809285
parenting,Babygrower,2019/02/14,How did you toilet train your child? This is a subject I’ve seen a lot of varied opinions on and would like to hear your toilet training story. How old was your kid and why did you choose to toilet train at that time?,2.093,3.9126493555555584,2.695277777777779,95.77625000000003,77.66666666666667,4.5,17.916666666666668,3.1291,-0.8180000000000001,171,3,37,0,4,53,34,45,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,2,0,8,7,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,1,5,2,1,4,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,2,3,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044602040822017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186671536830163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805202932302921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4696645879871675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609900919074681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038753484050864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179511511303107,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TamagotchiNerd,2019/02/14,"To those who are curious about what Gacha is and if it is safe. DISCLAIMER: This post is not to hate on anyone, but to inform people on what Lunime’s Gacha games are, and if they are safe for a child.
I am making this post because I haven't seen anyone post about this topic, and I feel people need to know about this topic. Some of you may know of, have seen in your YouTube recommendations, know someone, or even has a child who plays/watches something known as Gachaverse, Gacha Studio, Gacha Life, and all the other games. So, what is this Gacha, and what is all the YouTube content? I’ll be explaining it in this post.

First off, what Gacha actually is. Some of you may know what this type of game is from playing something like Fire Emblem Heroes, but for those of you who don’t, here’s an explanation. Gacha is a type of video game that is essentially a virtual gashapon machines (Capsule toy vending machines). You can pay the virtual currency to “roll” for certain rewards. Once you have (most likely) ran out of the virtual currency, you will have to resort to paying real money for more of the virtual currency. Essentially, gacha games are gambling for rewards.

Now, we’ll discuss Gachaverse, Gacha Studio and Gacha Life. These games are made by Lunime, which, names their gacha games, well, Gacha games. These games actually are mainly anime dress-up, with the gacha function being less prominent. The dress-up part is fine with one exception I will get to later on. The real problem is the Gacha mechanic, which the rewards are anime characters in skimpy outfits, keep in mind that the main demographic of the games are 6 to 12 year-old children, mainly female. The games are frequently made, with the previous 2 games coming out within 4 months of eachother. The games are full of ads that play every 5-10 minutes. It seems that the creators really want the money, which, while is reasonable (they need money to make games and pay the people who make them), is kind of shady because it looks like Lunime is exploiting children for money with a dress-up gambling game.

The next thing I will discuss is the content on YouTube, which is most likely how most people found out about Lunime’s Gacha games and the exception I was talking about earlier. The content is often romanticized, with themes such as murder, suicide, abuse and other very serious and horrible things. Most of these videos are just children copying their favorite content creator. The videos can potentially scar young children who watch it, thinking it’s a cute cartoon video.

Well, why am I “targeting” Lunime’s Gacha specifically? It’s because the main demographic is children, and children should NOT be gambling. There’s also the inappropriate content on YouTube. My recommendation is to tell anyone you know who’s hooked to these videos/games, or anyone you know with children in general, to watch out for this type of content.",7.556974620493361,8.309672398481975,6.7975183823529415,75.66039522058827,63.155597722960145,9.395849146110058,33.73630218216318,9.271962702966755,3.0319715844402277,2322,91,394,37,32,713,221,527,0.07,0.818,0.112,0.9588,0,0,2,0,1,1,81.0,1,9,5,5,17,23,2,0,32,0,51,2,0,7,3,78,78,23,2,7,11,0,2,4,0,7,2,0,2,9,45,22,0,3,14,23,13,2,4,4,2,2,7,7,23,19,67,61,16,31,0,0,5,0,53,17,0,14,12,267,68,6,0.0,0.11721764269124152,0.19308573371278875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911547980558106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27670080279556986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092316101560613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522072186891748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534331857398562,0.0,0.08335405036120462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05002273579668253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415107804103134,0.0,0.10847327651424886,0.0,0.0,0.051687622235376506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767436822360057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793485726885858,0.0,0.10302192674786252,0.326220970083797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975647956908774,0.19333172248577485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307753821310941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722274289151286,0.19811262087295384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989260648461523,0.0,0.07896617444642066,0.0,0.0,0.14671289811226418,0.0,0.0,0.10521476595202303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381196061773143,0.1053588120646472,0.06703854052936102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713316692305414,0.0,0.2743465645064206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789960952710583,0.0,0.0,0.09466407852469193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22521139748623606,0.06337804817926057,0.1017180525877355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006351629915837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382433360601532,0.1523245944820438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082149969267545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795173872145247,0.08647048611595944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145137694191994,0.06339130651369765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162884328450762,0.05835235823791225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779025881445371,0.0,0.08927028529612488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370863837588535
parenting,musicluvah1981,2019/02/14,"Never enough time with the kids... The time spent with my kids and my wife is so much more than the time I get to spend with them.  She's a stay at home mom and I work in IT with typical 50-60hr weeks.  

I get to work from home about twice a week but the other days I'm up at 4:30am to get to work by 7am in Boston (live in RI) then don't get home until 6:30-7pm.  So, I see them maybe for 30-60 minutes on those days.

On the weekends we get some time together but i'm wiped out by that point an d feel like I could be doing more with them.  

My 4yr old daughter said the other day that 'she doesn't see me as much as mommy' making my heart sink.

Does anyone else feel like they're kids are growing up super fast and you don't have enough time with them? Or do I have too high of expectations for how much time I should have with my wife and kids?",0.709846256684493,2.011319620320858,2.0932586898395726,100.87165274064172,80.06951871657753,5.316711229946523,15.430815508021393,5.602791699666715,-1.0976414438502675,647,7,170,3,16,208,108,187,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.9356,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,4,4,5,3,0,0,9,0,13,1,1,2,1,25,27,14,0,3,3,4,2,2,0,1,0,1,3,4,6,13,0,0,2,1,2,1,4,0,0,1,2,5,21,3,32,22,8,31,0,0,2,0,17,12,0,2,19,103,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399582634868683,0.12308465160334373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591190285184847,0.0,0.0,0.2324165812729003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512424115455953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035097472671926,0.0,0.0,0.2482473000551396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147998088949985,0.17163798551399204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31380787462816284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235147141126994,0.0,0.12692112580820886,0.36149253742312265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737629689210036,0.0,0.10607463841901688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801859295055831,0.0,0.12068405510527973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406916839217387,0.0,0.0,0.2649222417060496,0.0,0.0926496070478922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605343141567918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355916099528238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426860530732612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19145186751940527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803975660005812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42028329354899613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19271780575139705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623623936962576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,antoinemon,2019/02/14,"no tie running shoes my kid is turning 10 soon and i’ve been looking for new running shoes for him. he really loves running, but he only has two pairs of shoes, and one is ripped on the sides and barely fits him. the other one isn’t for running. 
he wants shoes that he doesn’t have to tie because he says they “always come off” when he’s running. he would prefer nikes but any sort of nice looking, definitely under $100 though. thanks! ",3.2140097402597405,4.763717965909095,3.7946753246753246,90.2477272727273,73.88636363636364,5.9376623376623385,23.935064935064936,6.18269132825596,0.5022837662337656,343,10,71,2,7,108,61,88,0.017,0.838,0.145,0.9161,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,8,5,4,0,0,10,15,7,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,1,3,4,3,9,13,0,14,0,0,2,1,13,5,0,1,3,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21414906294079436,0.0,0.0,0.17501765133688196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688787630196738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169795170307366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43224510777343744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322827914125601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485656096870969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487956167135812,0.19573837982950945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487519885002905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20466770982708996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369479613178736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528607100913468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799402169289927,0.2514091075163363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180108798289213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828253656750936,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shakis123,2019/02/14,"My 18 month old bit a kid at daycare. On the forehead... I’m a little shocked, honestly. (And not just at the logistics of a forehead bite.) My daughter is very passionate and bossy and enthusiastic and smart and talkative for her age. She went through a hitting phase for a week or two but after talking and redirecting and showing her alternatives to hitting she’s been so much better about hitting. This biting feels like it came out of no where. 

Is it normal for her to bite this young? How do I teach her not to bite if she doesn’t do it around me? What do I say to her teacher to get her to help the frustration my daughter must have been feeling? What do I do for the other child? 

Any suggestions appreciated! I want to be the best mom I can for this little hoodlum of mine. ",3.1284416873449103,4.933610012903227,4.285806451612904,85.5717866004963,74.6774193548387,7.349875930521091,28.052109181141443,8.139509932561175,1.8217642679900743,612,25,125,10,13,200,95,155,0.05,0.7509999999999999,0.199,0.9763,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,6,8,1,0,10,0,14,3,2,1,1,22,24,12,0,4,6,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,9,10,0,0,2,1,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,3,19,6,23,15,3,16,0,0,0,1,18,8,0,2,7,95,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465749830903389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187681016944733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22619653703782036,0.1906281240247594,0.23531448480785985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465209986309701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179675833014296,0.1539822307810566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261105501140364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447230489850305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530223820875492,0.4320565640022935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524385179392189,0.17204243163152733,0.0,0.15844712400251398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111840011837266,0.0,0.0,0.22617357700706514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140651744491947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324335070397534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21055182378166573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778435486888668,0.12713141636987904,0.0,0.1728936491066619,0.0,0.0,0.1998082736455976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,serb2212,2019/02/14,"My kids (M,5) school does not allow kids to bring toys from home. Is this normal that schools wont let kids bring toys from home in junior kindergarten? My kids (M,5) school does not allow kids to bring toys from home. My son only sleeps with stuffies that he wants to bring to school with him (he is like that). Now that the school wont allow it, it makes him really sad and hurt, and doesn't want to sleep with any stuffies and gets sad at bed time. 
Is this normal that schools wont let kids bring toys from home in junior kindergarten?",4.788744993324432,5.453272280373831,3.4947930574098827,97.23214953271031,69.18691588785046,6.4881174899866485,20.893190921228303,5.288315135182226,-0.3449295060080102,422,6,96,1,7,119,48,107,0.149,0.8290000000000001,0.022,-0.9105,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,9,2,2,4,0,16,18,3,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,6,9,6,0,0,0,4,0,5,6,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,15,13,0,10,0,3,0,0,11,3,0,0,3,45,14,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940216021463915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20435841650351452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061003322964356364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.468487202788385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499613006525115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23879410053265154,0.0,0.05704401264749497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779395380154555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288039274263311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888027583312757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480072355280028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7090162324923582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336926372768973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808485798110436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773849913656225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Scherts,2019/02/14,"Toddler retaliation My 3yr old son pushed another child in daycare and the other child retaliated and scratched my son's face.

After the teacher explained what happened I commented that it may have been a good thing that my son got a little hurt and hopefully learnt a lesson that there are consequences to innapropriate behaviour. Obviously I also discussed with him why it was wrong to push another person.

The teachers looked at me with some disgust and told me that it's never ok for children to get hurt as a life lesson.

Not sure if I'm way off the mark or the teacher is being over the top implying that I condone violence?

  
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parenting,rndm_chronicles,2019/02/14,"Walked in on my son I just went to tell my son that school was cancelled for tomorrow, and found him in his room... watching Life Hack videos on YT. 
He's suddenly judgy about my lack of ingenuity around the house. 

He's seven!!! 🤦‍♀️


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parenting,39andpregnant,2019/02/14,"Infant Belly Button stump infection? Hi all,  


New parent here.     
Baby 2 weeks today.  
We just went to the doctors on Wednesday and they put some silver nitrate on the stump and cleaned it out.(It wasn't infected then) .     
Today, I think it's starting to get infected.       
Is there anything we can do to clean this up?     
We read(Or were told by the nurse?) that we can use some half water half peroxide mixture to clean it up perhaps?      
Should we clean it up with that and then some rubbing alcohol?      
Should we also put Neosporin on it?  


We hate to keep going back to the doctors but, first time parents..ya know.      


We might take her in tomorrow.  


  
Thanks for the help in advance!!",1.7960714285714303,4.521470888888891,2.6526785714285737,90.07044642857146,86.14285714285714,5.0547619047619055,24.54166666666667,6.6274283507984215,1.0333666666666672,516,21,96,6,16,162,85,126,0.018000000000000002,0.847,0.136,0.9296,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,1,2,5,2,1,0,5,0,9,7,0,1,1,25,21,7,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,3,6,0,4,1,8,12,2,1,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,4,1,11,1,17,14,4,25,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,4,12,68,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19903463864440027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893659787315885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153260204077063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320758058821664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812504383598632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841622020859894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973030641640242,0.0,0.10584486564618947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387410578033336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483319645695493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553926625067025,0.0,0.0,0.10235300255305796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757192130648127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798724012688382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679822582749235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744466301583251,0.0,0.0,0.1862910710727018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182210600612634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002980718230404,0.0,0.0,0.17146538827979368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933550235789285,0.0,0.0,0.10859843337722302,0.0,0.35306876044661245,0.17796094297987314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085214350306662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939103297517464,0.0,0.0,0.17264696853316647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kifferella,2019/02/14,"Thirsty people talk about water, Son. TW for poop. 

Got reminded of this one today and it's too good not to share.

Once upon a time I took my boys camping. The two older ones were young teens and youngest was about 4/5.

Towards the end of the long weekend we were all down by the pond, mucking about with tadpoles, catfish and frogs. Youngest is nude. He usually was at that age, and the campground was granola enough that nobody batted an eye about nude kids. Hell, it wasnt uncommon for nude adults to happen. Great place. 

One thing you've got to know is that youngest takes after his fathers' family. He's small. Slight. Thin. Waifish. Delicately built. Three generations away from a lawn gnome. A small kid. 

So there we are with a handful of other families, enjoying the beach when youngest announces:

Do you know, Mommy, that I have not pooped this whole time we've been camping!?

Oh no! That's not good, son. Why can't you poop?

Oh. I COULD. I just don't want to. I don't like the outhouses. The holes are too big. 

Oh dear lord. Stupid me. Of course a dim dark outhouse with spiders and a lake of seething human soup is going to be too much for a kid his age. I should have thought. 

I explain not pooping on purpose is not good for his body. I offer solutions, me or a bro (if he's not into pooping in front of mooother) going in and spotting him. Digging him a forest hole. The suchlike. 

Nope! I don't mind not pooping. I'm just not going to poop until we get home. I don't like those outhouses. I like pooping at home. I don't understand why anyone would poop here. Pooping at home is much superior. Poop. More talk about pooping. Extra poop talk. 

... lil dude? You sure are talking about pooping a lot. Thirsty people talk about water. Do you have to poop NOW?

Nope! I'm good. Whole plan to impact my bowels! Extra details about poop. Let me expound on poo... oh god.

Youngest? Are you okay?

...

... OH GOD!

YOUNGEST!?

and then he just breaks away, running. With a little brown tail. Shrieking, ""Its happening! Its HAPPENING!!""

His body just up and betrayed him. Turns out that it decided against impaction and just decided to blow the exhaust vents with or without his cooperation. 

Which left me chasing him around the beach hollering at him to stop trying to run away from his own poop and to my older boys to go grab one of the dogs' poop bags. And like 3 or 4 families just watched in stunned and horrified fascination as this little nude genius ran in circles with a log hanging out his rear end. 

Moral of the story, when you teach your kids to poop in the woods, make sure they know not to do it behind their brothers tent less than a foot and a half away from where his brothers head was as he was snoozing. Which was our next adventure.",1.051058176820888,3.661764568738232,1.8085135135135144,94.87711291800275,90.69491525423729,4.602850307935054,21.86494121239884,6.31397941559675,0.3954509390746681,2130,78,434,23,74,657,263,531,0.065,0.847,0.08800000000000001,0.9314,1,0,0,0,0,0,103.0,4,7,2,1,25,20,2,0,29,1,36,33,30,1,3,65,60,24,0,5,20,6,3,4,0,2,1,0,4,8,20,26,2,1,8,3,0,10,20,3,0,7,15,6,45,17,76,40,12,64,3,0,3,4,53,32,1,5,25,271,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05872053546198994,0.0,0.0,0.07475970793456825,0.0,0.0,0.3156066445844737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18656495530749392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705093023621349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487621161191781,0.08677344470496406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23750566681551086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043875909628795055,0.0,0.19091031920374826,0.2817526395868941,0.13433242202449205,0.09258787882313306,0.0,0.0,0.2227888252950092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618736599373326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527153584379381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845908539992904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124415340558067,0.08587489882298549,0.0,0.16411289235819018,0.16833937622529735,0.0,0.07431936219269232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139650934215754,0.0,0.0,0.05605707952129494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847955232830191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346943544704002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931332808275698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943560405418964,0.22762718180519395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644185349094555,0.0,0.08774087736253494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021076157927593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582996836912061,0.0,0.06314225783179357,0.3374983743162484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055792358845798064,0.0,0.0,0.06667047460470929,0.09793843779997764,0.0,0.07960290438537812,0.0,0.09330449952703272,0.057016681003497466,0.09134576181587677,0.08203593147659294,0.08742579455930738,0.0,0.0,0.09249173812441604,0.0,0.049533383157281216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515571736828221,0.18752059718697986,0.0,0.08095340171313002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965674560827298,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,craftybeach,2019/02/14,"Our son is struggling with his identity... please help **THIS IS A LONG POST, PLEASE NO HOMOPHOBIA ON HERE OR RELIGION BASHING. I WON'T STAND FOR IT.**

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My 14 year old step son has been in my life since he was six months old. I loved this little dude the moment I met him. His dad and I married when SS was 1.5, we've always has sole custody. His mom didn't want to be a mother but she was raised Catholic so abortion was off the table. The day they left the hospital they went a lawyer and she signed away her custody to my husband. They occasionally chat, but not often. Her parents always have sent him cards and tried to keep in contact, while I don't like them very much, I still acknowledge they're his blood and if he wants a relationship I'll support him. 

2 years ago SS began becoming withdrawn, he came back from summer camp and was very depressed. After the first week of school he came home crying and saying he hates him self. My husband is a social worker so he wanted to get SS in with a therapist. We do that and we some improvement, the improvement is steady and by his 13th birthday he seems happy again. He also starts getting closer to his maternal grandparents, he would see them most Sundays from about 9 am until 3:30, they're Roman Catholics and going to mass each week. Now, I'm not anti religion, in fact I've encouraged my parents and MIL to take them church/temple as exposure is good. I just am upset with his maternal grandparents as I think its sneaky to not tell us. About this time he begins becoming very conservative about everything, he talked about how is bad to touch before marriage so he yells a his 11 year sister for holding hands with a boy, he also was very into praying and repenting, he received detention school go telling someone they would go to hell and then asked his grandparents to take him to confession.

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Then in October he began seeing them less and less, they were heading off to tour Italy and Ireland. In November we celebrated his 14th birthday and we asked what was he in the mood to do, he wanted to see Bohemian Rhapsody. He left the movie twice to use the restroom and cried a few times. Since Monday this week he's been very sullen. On Monday during his therapy appointment his doctor called us back, our son told her he doesn't want to be him anymore, she asked why and he said he's evil, he likes boys. We were heartbroken, not because he likes boys but because he doesn't like himself. She then brought us  in together and he told us himself. We told him is ok, he is still the same amazing dude. The same rules apply as they did with girls, you treat whoever you date with respect and thats that. He began to scream cry. Which he only does when he's truly scared, he told us he told his grandparents, all of them. My mom said, ""Ok great, do you want pizza when you're over Friday?"" and my in-laws said ""We're happy for you and love you."" I wasn't all there in the moment so my husband then asked ""bud, thats good, what wrong?"" Well apparently his maternal grandparents were the opposite. He began crying that he will die and go to hell because he will get AIDS, his grandpa said ""All f\*gs have it. You probably already do."" He said he keeps going to confessions with them on Sunday but he still likes boys. And that during summer camp that year he met another boy who likes boys, they held hands but thats all. But is he upset because he has a peer on his baseball team who is gay and they like each other and they've kissed twice but he is mad at himself.

​

He been hiding ever since, his maternal grandmother had given him pages and books on conversion therapy. We've blocked all outlets of contact with them. 

Our therapist is partnering us with a mental health professional who specialize in LGBT patients. I just don't know what to do. To me, it doesn't matter who he loves as long as they respect him and it legal. 

​

Is there anything I can do to support him better? We've uped our therapy sessions and I've encouraged him to talk to my brother and his husband, but I don't want to overwhelm him. 

​

Please help!",3.6583950209297207,5.654599838951312,4.1627720863626365,86.19799818241907,73.70661672908864,7.308518763310567,25.886777557464928,8.124751697461798,1.596265462289785,3265,113,633,52,68,1029,338,801,0.12,0.732,0.14800000000000002,0.9816,8,0,0,0,0,0,119.0,16,6,16,4,29,44,5,5,24,2,57,13,4,2,7,102,119,60,1,10,16,16,3,7,2,5,3,8,1,9,26,49,1,6,6,3,0,12,14,14,1,4,40,14,100,29,76,72,16,90,5,2,3,5,193,26,2,6,57,376,126,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0406467020568223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060090191505371,0.07333866993944445,0.07630821057567982,0.24841332417944295,0.27858744389839635,0.0,0.04808179610534342,0.0,0.0,0.04547473224370874,0.0,0.0,0.037733840043909256,0.0,0.17146876922756252,0.0,0.04308123402471992,0.07051761377368206,0.038286078345569886,0.111808409873188,0.10128402602771297,0.03901827851945895,0.0,0.0,0.04055403467624116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046821942975892365,0.10488925679826196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147335652120055,0.029571962187236695,0.0,0.03949388363894713,0.0,0.047589092848157336,0.0,0.0,0.04693339391127167,0.04012704344103176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04147746382963001,0.0,0.0,0.04121051482726898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03900329083932491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187028650506065,0.0,0.13029909668377224,0.07692012580474479,0.0,0.050554069679786866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762462567008952,0.0,0.045271217910183736,0.04705931447341743,0.0487405351342713,0.0,0.0,0.06146978461425138,0.0,0.045995184978186776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151407903056213,0.0,0.0,0.025200095808360853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964075962795232,0.0,0.03238795477257853,0.15681324301729466,0.04595763864405143,0.0,0.08115848991472874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415476339336208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620993075533095,0.0,0.0,0.107407030966704,0.03660013323775673,0.0,0.033707881216488544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623187692496726,0.0,0.0,0.034873945514069506,0.0,0.0,0.10183062487395794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100138697222878,0.0,0.0,0.04391534628830885,0.0,0.04943824309616973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049229911752206604,0.0,0.0,0.21808772357137307,0.03646484949561877,0.04590773778655453,0.09281315852933723,0.10961882797597668,0.04174365441302553,0.0478356020266904,0.0,0.0,0.11379242161346508,0.0,0.0,0.046742260861452084,0.038851847643043495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03245561554769492,0.0,0.10985691448518634,0.0,0.0,0.0479364361579558,0.0,0.0,0.10406888976338266,0.0,0.0,0.06895282930642138,0.07371123109793287,0.08015663251168584,0.0,0.15731373983020408,0.10647978847977337,0.0,0.02938131777032002,0.0,0.0,0.053475537746442994,0.0,0.0,0.21907675893114584,0.0,0.03113177773374821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33093946419883874,0.03960303387442134,0.0,0.1891712851231053,0.1893206643036504,0.0,0.1103436611524765,0.0,0.04122814910990637,0.042507010439713486,0.041375998760426524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514656805371011,0.050134024576308174,0.27858744389839635,0.11811359328470834
parenting,uniqueusername1144,2019/02/14,"Parents with older/adult children, what's it like? Do you still see them as the precious little baby you met the day they were born? Do you still want to hold them and kiss them like back then? 

If you have grandkids, how would you describe your love for them compared to the love for your baby? ",3.2100000000000013,5.167972413793105,2.768482758620692,95.8747931034483,74.86206896551724,4.64,21.944827586206888,3.1291,-0.2999627586206901,232,6,48,0,5,68,41,58,0.0,0.6890000000000001,0.311,0.9689,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,7,5,0,4,6,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,1,0,7,10,5,0,3,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,12,6,6,7,0,7,0,0,1,3,18,1,0,1,8,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22678428469992784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19020655784891888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881774779057341,0.2955990609619506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5323747775246976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274867680109449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23502239286353802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4710656990525722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739583676247516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20951102917537626,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Beckels84,2019/02/14,"All the treats! What do you do with all the treats? My son is in preschool, so of course, for every holiday, there's a ""party"" and everyone has to pass out candy and treats. We've got about 30 lolli pops in a bag right now. To top it off, through some oversight he didn't even give away his Valentine's treats so brought those back home. What a waste this all is. He's super picky and doesn't even eat candy. What do you do with it all? Any suggestions for donating it or leaving it somewhere? I was thinking my library story time lady could pass them out? I don't want to throw this stuff away but we've still got crap from HALLOWEEN in a cupboard.",1.675459803354542,3.7655844812030073,2.329323308270677,96.58460381723543,80.12781954887218,5.2953152111046835,21.508964719491033,6.297961479604792,0.102050780798149,508,15,113,4,13,157,87,133,0.061,0.894,0.045,-0.4521,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,1,2,9,6,1,0,6,0,12,2,1,0,4,17,18,7,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,7,1,0,1,1,1,4,3,1,0,0,5,0,8,5,19,12,5,18,0,0,0,0,9,10,1,2,4,74,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559312749498639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4308681712044306,0.17631688119084868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830767012302276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346302599187252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028998324781939,0.0,0.19319441101082574,0.21910515009828666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21996462446361975,0.0,0.0,0.3667829306151562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300057285312369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24279467601322965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582020860602165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183118585581964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26249265048586523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469256271536935,0.0,0.0,0.1337061697197588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524657088665132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DiamondFlame,2019/02/14,"TIFU Valentime's Day Yes, the misspelling is intentional. That's what my little man calls it.

  


He had his first real Valentine's Day party at daycare today. He's just starting to understand giving things to other people. We got those little cards and spent time last night writing names on them.

  


Apparently, it's normal to give treat bags at this daycare. There's only 6 kids and each one gave a bag full of toys and treats. Except for my kid. Who gave a card. Now I feel like an idiot.",1.9760765550239228,4.602170263157895,3.0560765550239246,88.53435406698564,83.21052631578948,4.7177033492822975,19.16267942583732,6.11248444174946,0.06700000000000017,385,10,72,3,11,123,77,95,0.035,0.8290000000000001,0.136,0.8271,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,1,3,4,1,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,14,11,3,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,6,3,9,6,2,15,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,10,40,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22095577757002985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2791040048345142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941199522357303,0.15458723580408287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840590523898226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151571143579889,0.0,0.0,0.17306480921792414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17638465064462994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571597674682552,0.4337541390414844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20306496108802954,0.2120137552459379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662973464718407,0.16457240469417372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500158104475908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246296288613751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153160149153725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375820511455584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617726083926575,0.0,0.20510999880782824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252669642682887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElizabethBathory1560,2019/02/14,"I see no way forward with this... Advice please? Ok, this is my first post, so please be gentle.

My ex husband and I share custody of our son who is 13. We have a week each with him, and it's been like this for a few years now.

My son gets upset every time it's time to go back to his dad's, the reason being that he's very strict, and very moody. I've brought this up with my ex a couple of years ago, and he was quite shocked and cried when he spoke to my son about it. This has left my son with feelings of guilt about bringing it up again, and personally I think there's a little fear in there too as he doesn't know how his dad will react.

What the hell do I do? Our son is a great kid, honestly. He's 13, so a bit of a dick sometimes in a teenage way, but he's kind and caring and funny.

He won't let me speak to his dad about it. He won't let me speak to my ex mother in law either (they're very close) as he's worried about repercussions.

Every two weeks I have to send him back there knowing he's dreading it, and it breaks my heart.

Any advice please?",1.476685741535526,2.429873351931332,2.8282904148783987,97.84059489747256,77.28326180257511,5.6927992370052465,19.382212684787792,5.46131890053228,-0.5176416785884599,813,15,206,3,18,264,124,233,0.105,0.765,0.13,0.7971,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,0,2,16,14,1,4,10,1,18,2,2,3,0,26,29,16,0,0,2,13,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,2,15,16,0,0,5,0,0,5,4,7,0,2,4,5,23,7,26,18,4,30,1,0,1,1,39,9,2,0,15,120,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24769436533028866,0.1123458403224915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618637801556123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490783202696496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836537936141172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292181254845913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402334987816657,0.1392160519525354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21356493805654306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261580294503234,0.06408268359811793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780351819345264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621552158025601,0.0,0.07202828652487425,0.0,0.0,0.13972940367850015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018547476514174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197841801946364,0.1393040909365688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770151456721694,0.2591969608982831,0.0,0.061917922941535176,0.12702505422175486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106629795946318,0.0,0.41736172557225704,0.0,0.0,0.12138024076138235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480176376627853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030806245165155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099400214488584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534740189971455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120877384035452,0.0,0.0,0.14780422324110515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380488602975367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31371706805138616,0.0,0.20119789864148466,0.20332361067662616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870887771421707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632305970670053
parenting,thesmellofoldcrayons,2019/02/14,"Affordable kids shoes? Where do you shop? I have noticed that toddler shoes seem to be somewhat ridiculously priced. I recently paid 15$ for sneakers for my 2 year old. Then went an aisle over and bought my sneaker for $9.99 ....this would all be fine except she grows out of her shoe size yearly (if not sooner). So it's getting expensive to have  shoes for various occasions and constantly rebuying them. 


Where do you go for affordable kids shoes? ",3.959427710843375,6.567011855421691,4.094804216867471,84.1838930722892,75.02409638554218,8.487349397590362,28.44728915662651,9.188382445141503,2.74102530120482,356,15,65,9,8,110,64,83,0.033,0.944,0.023,-0.2136,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,7,5,5,0,1,10,13,5,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,1,5,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,9,1,11,7,3,13,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,3,6,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604659336075861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427426891350198,0.0,0.18957302873466506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797666689594757,0.3500210061655706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293558078608431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30366561238470874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092186713722666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369554458152452,0.0,0.0,0.4296106454993023
parenting,scoreface,2019/02/14,"Parenting is 97% walking around your house saying “what the fuxk is this shit?!” Parenting is 97% walking around your house saying “what the fuxk is this shit?!”

Slime in baby’s high chair
Smoothie on the wall
Half eating apple in a cup stored in the play kitchen
Die cast car in my bed
Clogged toilet
Clogged sink
What
The
Fuxk",2.0446774193548407,4.849249516129035,1.7066935483870969,96.63004032258064,86.09677419354837,4.390322580645162,20.65322580645161,5.985473137389443,0.028703225806451464,258,8,51,2,8,75,38,62,0.07400000000000001,0.889,0.037000000000000005,-0.5337,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,6,0,4,4,2,0,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,5,2,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,2,3,1,7,4,0,12,0,0,0,0,6,9,2,0,0,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36796219188463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21449197278665552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21147613093994155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183593643286988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4769414027370184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4589675976594883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287063080037928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4242898287004131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,musicandminis,2019/02/14,"Post Traumatic Stress from a Car Accident - Now I Can't Plan Trips with my Children due to Fear of Death 2 years ago my husband and I were involved in an accident on a very busy highway outside of Chicago. I was driving, the accident was my fault. We were bumper to bumper and I looked at another lane for just the slightest second and the car in front of me slammed on their breaks, but I did not slam on mine in time and we ran into them as a result. Our children were not with us. We were heading to the city for a wedding my husband was in.  


Immediately following the collision, I began to shake and panic because I immediately thought about two things: A) how lucky we were that no one slammed into the back of us because of how heavy the traffic was, and B) had our children been in the car and had someone been behind us, they would have almost certainly been killed.   


The accident was not even that serious. Our Jeep was not even totaled.   


Since the accident, I haven't been able to drive in high traffic areas without a deep, deep anxiety setting in.  
The anxiety is so bad that I'm not even comfortable changing lanes on the interstate and instead I will just drive extremely slow in the third or second lane to avoid having to move.  
We are a traveling family. We have not taken a trip since the accident. My husband wants to take our children to the beach this coming Summer and he would rather drive.  
I cannot do this. I mentioned flying to him and he agreed. The first thing I actually thought was ""I don't care if the plane goes down because everyone I care about will be on the plane with me.""  


I've began to see a therapist due to these issues. It seems silly but every. single. day I think about death now. I think about my children getting sick. I think about having another accident. I think about my husband or I having a heart attack and dropping dead out of nowhere.  


Are any other parents like this? Why am I like this? I used to be a live in the moment person. The accident changed everything for me.",3.371478053150192,5.374311659898481,4.293371155568828,84.92116452672444,74.53299492385788,7.477933711555687,28.085697223051664,8.313332769828598,2.021157002090176,1590,65,308,28,34,513,192,394,0.21600000000000005,0.7290000000000001,0.055,-0.9974,1,1,0,0,0,1,40.0,13,0,3,2,19,18,2,5,32,0,39,3,2,4,2,58,61,20,4,5,15,5,0,2,0,4,1,0,0,6,12,24,0,1,7,2,0,16,12,10,0,6,25,2,49,8,54,30,2,58,0,0,2,0,33,23,0,6,17,230,61,0,0.1056191547377636,0.0,0.10306905927781948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362500797989294,0.0,0.10576232681457796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182464705682161,0.22150178569258794,0.16159672856409962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015703619045165,0.0,0.08121461051199665,0.08818758249099191,0.1931533692197674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537153480563093,0.0,0.22346212222482645,0.09098154964748956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811561715119327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928136675896195,0.0,0.08898869318335682,0.1009236285613728,0.09492368591588987,0.0,0.09956833922271076,0.118850912952888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983959906437151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055181649080630224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108395723887825,0.0,0.0,0.12515920690065271,0.0,0.1115924358744334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023895682834317,0.0,0.0,0.11685194593767173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320036795058912,0.0,0.09326364866606207,0.0,0.08869348911586777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225644647405404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715702726955178,0.0,0.0,0.12392132116659348,0.11727757215202644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222257199630302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115395440778636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841647917679358,0.09615171169522801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473851247461508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949076706219514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120986384902234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794124598968091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263197924618376,0.1403373465419353,0.270705958565637,0.0,0.16769962217543075,0.06158737849433293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317456711536896,0.0,0.3811405158180264,0.0912210382366884,0.0,0.08714686399136595,0.06229691396227256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530485914221364,0.0,0.0,0.10181309613887793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005763432823227,0.0,0.0,0.0680152727911081
parenting,Panny205,2019/02/14,"Single Mom rant I'm a new first time mom, just had my LO in January. I'm completely obsessed with my little guy. 

Backstory: I got pregnant by a friend (M). We've never dated and have no intentions of ever being together. When I told M I was pregnant he freaked out and wanted to push it under the rug. He wouldn't acknowledge he was having a kid but I kept sending him updates about my pregnancy. In October, he decided he wanted to be in his son's life and he's going to be an awesome dad. 


Now that baby is here, he's seen him twice. M is getting deployed for a year sometime in April. It doesn't make sense to me that he doesn't want to spend as much time as possible with baby before he leaves. M is constantly texting me to send him pictures and acts obsessed with little guy but won't go out of his way to see him. He also makes excuses last minute why he can't come see him. 

I'm just looking for support or advice if anyone else is in a similar situation. I can't imagine not seeing my baby every day let alone only seeing him twice in a month.",1.7110909090909097,3.532157927272732,4.093636363636364,85.30545454545458,78.81818181818181,6.945454545454545,24.63636363636364,7.908726449838941,1.4671090909090911,824,30,168,14,20,287,133,220,0.061,0.884,0.055,0.5546,0,1,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,9,5,0,2,8,0,19,1,0,3,2,30,41,12,0,5,7,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,4,10,0,1,3,0,1,7,9,3,0,3,7,6,19,2,27,28,2,35,0,0,6,0,31,11,0,2,16,100,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737346276979886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500005734238268,0.0,0.10423835301637856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911415693635384,0.13355578246380925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091559456316896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122822956052676,0.13666622395418448,0.14085867093685586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406295441151078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088880926748209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790621565586025,0.10982286839753597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087298972471198,0.0,0.0,0.1007056763161163,0.0,0.06810086504421754,0.0,0.14815827174453042,0.0,0.10425030752352793,0.0,0.0,0.2581278090439784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625010454308044,0.0,0.1380185255459028,0.0,0.13328851629304844,0.09206785631236984,0.0,0.2612836346627686,0.0,0.0,0.10945855068149236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740151094097108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053213814647265,0.10404163620730852,0.0,0.09581995486364027,0.0,0.10053154965350324,0.12588982915624852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913467606028596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469465224658519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41547834986140697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651535468392549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289163974955546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791609498965835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520126281525696,0.0,0.0,0.12455202994002827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306459013693272,0.1034632863682634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176177852354232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393911726930929
parenting,letmeeatcakenow,2019/02/14,"Grocery Store: A Rant At Aldi, because it rules. 

3 year old was starting to lose it when he saw a huge pile of Gatorade. 

He was upset, but we talked about it and while he was sad he wasn’t out of control. He was crying and telling me “but I really really love bluuuueeee!” While holding onto the cart and walking with me. 

All of a sudden a random woman comes up with a huge pack of Kit Kats. *Hands them to my toddler first* and says “I hope he can have these, I just hate to see kids upset.” 


🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

I was so caught off guard I didn’t really have a good response other than “we are learning that we don’t always get treats” and I put them in my purse. She had already bought them 😑 

So glad that response to being told “not today” got rewarded with candy. 

Sigh. 

Has this ever happened to any of you!? 

I thought of a ton of good come backs - on the drive home 🤷‍♀️",-2.3591206791995134,-0.7401187010309229,0.6858095815645875,100.30847786537298,107.1443298969072,3.3132807762280176,14.468768950879323,5.319838191461821,-1.0331929654335965,668,17,163,5,34,231,121,194,0.135,0.715,0.15,0.7161,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,3,4,7,13,1,2,9,0,15,2,1,1,2,27,30,12,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,8,14,0,3,2,0,2,6,4,5,1,1,14,4,19,7,24,15,2,26,0,2,2,1,21,9,0,2,11,94,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19602238826954607,0.0,0.1478048524385113,0.0,0.0,0.1207965039619832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658878146274958,0.0,0.10828340356835783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30603013235180354,0.0,0.0,0.19923046885984735,0.0,0.0,0.19512146534594801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606791818236143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109450486734596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280588996871417,0.0,0.0,0.2979801978935539,0.142069305036745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708023971479712,0.0,0.0,0.17537577234340185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818034199191707,0.17642960954756806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872584527175735,0.0,0.0,0.16032068147891376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863959102365447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857018715797926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34138866781130106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126085930287033,0.0,0.0,0.1415504707487365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257295232226814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277464447532567,0.15525903636028426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102072829199885,0.0,0.0,0.1683752758194921,0.16973590538811734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438980218986172
parenting,OddlyIrresistible,2019/02/14,"The Insensitive Mom There was this mother who I was friends with for about 2 years and just met her moving in this suburban somewhat rural area where there's farms and such but, a nice family area. My daughter would play with her daughter almost everyday. Often the mother would also drop her the little brother who had no friends so it was always 2 kids that came over to play instead of 1. 

I was happy that my daughter could play with her friends after school or on weekends where we would often have sleep overs and order pizza it was good times. What I don't understand is what happened during the third year living here. Here comes 2019 and all the sudden the other mom stops talking to me and doesnt reply to my texts.

I thought that was odd but then whenever she saw me in public she quickly would turn away or run in the opposite direction. Even more strange she made her kids turn around as well and go in the opposite direction. What the hell? Is exactly what I thought about this other mom who I thought I knew. I also thought what an insensitive mother. She wasnt just shunning me and destroying our social relationship but destroying friendships between the kids.

I noticed now a pattern where shes very nervous and waits outside the classroom to quickly take her kids and whenever my daughter sees her and asks to play she tells her she has plans. Clearly something isnt right and I dont even know this other woman like I thought I did. I used to think she was a nice person but there seems to be a hidden agenda. She would often ask me what I do for work and would scratch her cheek or itch her nose with her middle finger.

Disturbing and uneasy come to mind about this other moms behavior towards me and my child. I finally gathered the courage to ask her in text if she was ok and what her problem was and why she would do this to my child not letting her play with her friends anymore. She didnt even reply which was even more disturbing. What an insensitive jerk of a person.",4.699680185813829,6.287825730569949,4.733158835090227,84.83536269430053,70.19170984455957,7.500303734143291,28.59531892085045,7.990435384864732,1.8272772199392533,1596,59,302,21,29,495,185,386,0.13,0.721,0.149,0.8584,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,0,2,30,25,4,3,19,1,35,6,5,2,3,69,62,29,0,10,11,12,2,1,4,7,1,0,0,9,27,26,1,2,10,6,0,6,8,8,1,1,24,5,55,17,36,28,4,40,1,0,2,0,67,19,1,10,14,229,82,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517474876766028,0.0,0.0,0.13604401712528827,0.07077627338298936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843561146832802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572094095443192,0.23855730063527103,0.0,0.07991614988759564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728534659753063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654236280757002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791304660793653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996890377023774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472384855524494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018647597812315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931784658688484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628668691879806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048341243590300606,0.07134382803029123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521778754689416,0.09054736237702296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046746447250029285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697904690765099,0.0,0.04155574899714637,0.08525191122080095,0.07510904954099626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048530484415907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588579315121593,0.3984823824123292,0.0,0.09040473024710287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684074350757092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854125541817895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08139040268485064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132201283475253,0.0,0.07264030247689901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608470087365275,0.06778136610481852,0.07743492540193155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512087532455848,0.08670739382594057,0.0,0.0654829174746909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711135059083314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395411792131915,0.06836756102949053,0.07434570530887262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450265870937381,0.0,0.3376384960843882,0.049598847231399616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18504050451752346,0.0,0.08854988349491122,0.0,0.07346405140799259,0.0,0.07018295143380801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647865755110159,0.0,0.07675292023413006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192429003932307,0.0,0.0,0.4229665317825835,0.0,0.0,0.10955098940860286
parenting,GingerDelite,2019/02/14,"How to help my 10yr son Backstory 
The ex and I divorced when he was 5. 
She is a succubus demon from the underworld but the courts made me share custody of him with her. 
We tried everything and she was and absent parent 
When she did have him she would gaslight him to the point he did not know which way was up. 

Each time we (the new wife and I) would put him back together. Just to repeat the cycle over and over again. To the point the co-parent therapist was like look lady get your shot together 

The event 
Two years ago in sept the boy calls crying frantic the voice mail was dad come get me please come get me I want to come home please dad. 
I call back over and hear chaos and the new wife’s jumps in her car to get him. 
Turn out there was a very physical altercation between him and bio-mother he has red marks, hand prints, bruises (from fingers as someone grabbing him forcefully). When he got home he did not speak for a few days just cried 

We were so busy trying to work on getting him back together we did not make a report to the police or CPS.  (I did call cps well after the fact for a verbal only report as that was all I was allowed to do. 
After that Bio only has supervised visitation twice a month. She was not successful on following the rules so out of three month she saw him 3 time. 

January 2017 she said she needed to take a break and work on her and walked away. 
This broke the boy because to him his mom was throwing him a way because she does not want him

Cut to today 
It’s been 2.5 years with no true contact. The boy is in therapy l. But he lost his spark his flame and his passion. He does not like to be touched or hugged when he would love hugs a pat on the back or hi fives. 
It breaks me this is where he is at. (We do have him therapy for all of this) 
And she had the nerve to email about wanting to start talking about contracting the boy. 
In the email wrote a note to him signed it momma and asked up to pass it a long. 

OMFG I lost my shit.  The ex and I had a heated phone(will not bore you with the details) 

So how to I help him heal? Rebuild put him back together? To help him get that spark back to be the outgoing self he has always been but stopped 

Thanks for take the Time to read 
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parenting,DF-Dave,2019/02/14,"Valentines Day cards... Every year my wife insists that my daughter fills out a card for everyone in her class. She rarely brings home even half of that. So I set out this suggestion that she gives cards to her closest friends and the kids who she thinks wouldn't get a card. I was overruled...mostly because I'm the only guy in the house and I hate the red faced teary eyed stuff enough to shut up. But every year she comes home from today and she's visibly depressed. Now, this is a class of 20 kids.  


I've got to be overthinking this. I guess we'll see in 3 hours. F I hate V-day...and I never really did until I had tiny humans to worry about.",1.0975939849624083,3.2778672932330863,2.221766917293234,96.05415413533836,82.83458646616542,5.303759398496241,18.522556390977442,6.5431188927421005,-0.14261503759398586,502,12,112,5,14,159,91,133,0.109,0.866,0.025,-0.8885,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,7,0,7,2,2,0,1,11,18,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,8,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,4,3,17,1,16,11,1,20,0,1,3,0,18,8,0,1,8,64,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092172727064534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433471483171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310931038072381,0.0,0.15431448366090025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851252568792025,0.0,0.11833674037384395,0.0,0.3019083460088959,0.1711997596672138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842237329046153,0.0,0.09360627630326968,0.17187131761425045,0.0,0.0,0.14329455410606098,0.0,0.1973703593763172,0.1774014397558663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35377653311465235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594340473418028,0.0,0.1764413568587484,0.20673226333827788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818303200629808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362629956683964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477763597663372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277124523272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051009693630268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480164681835878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982739561370305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819506738370718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23075266954867205
parenting,BoundlessMediocrity,2019/02/14,"Almost three year old screams bloody murder when I tuck her in. With mommy, no issues at all. We follow the same bedtime routine each night, and my wife and I make sure that we tuck our daughter in the same way. There's no difference. Except lately, when I do it, she screams like a high school girl in a horror movie as soon as it's time to turn off the lights and say goodnight. 


With mommy, she just kisses goodnight and goes to sleep without a peep. It used to be the same for me. What gives?


Kids are weird, people.",2.0212499999999984,4.138687855769232,2.4217692307692325,96.22323076923077,79.09615384615384,4.544615384615385,19.053846153846152,4.935628992294339,-0.5316969230769226,403,9,86,1,10,123,75,104,0.19,0.74,0.07,-0.9136,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,5,7,1,0,7,0,3,2,1,2,2,20,8,8,1,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,0,4,11,3,15,7,5,16,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,1,9,58,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398583767405959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250261710104756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297825293252903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25308048084359314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25001092576925393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702044207754549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702405516785863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989058926903185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22478612921426952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513502998931144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16606249138588267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048679396386356,0.0,0.2424208690075283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397066651500273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257576556130908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967401321699385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605438565243289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20688018895805926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013068326363464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309019166495816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425183443482382
parenting,Nohmadder,2019/02/14,"Tips on teaching self-respect Hey everyone,
I’m looking for some advice on teaching my 9 year old daughter some self respect. I want her to know that even though there’s a lot of pressure on girls these days, that she doesn’t have to fall into it. Anything would be appreciated! ",4.7705555555555526,6.289152537037038,4.971296296296298,83.46583333333334,69.92592592592592,6.881481481481483,32.01851851851852,7.1686216300943375,1.957385185185185,223,10,42,2,4,70,45,54,0.041,0.8079999999999999,0.15,0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,8,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,1,8,6,3,8,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,3,3,27,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729818690885116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298848539546712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801604660605773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845109347410436,0.0,0.0,0.2669350835915166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352586266882853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23458732378780994,0.0,0.0,0.2374971058772449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29313543157729605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5828550909710289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27446426208023605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647704524010481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984453379943311,0.0,0.0,0.1798950630966818
parenting,wugangsanzhong,2019/02/14,Selective mutism Wondering if any parents here have experience with selective mutism. My daughter’s psychiatrist thinks she has it and highly recommended medication treatment. But she is only 8. I am torn up...,6.647058823529411,10.46346811764706,7.507352941176473,56.37808823529414,73.70588235294119,11.635294117647062,37.911764705882355,10.686352973137794,6.228847058823531,172,10,22,7,4,57,31,34,0.059,0.88,0.061,0.024,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,6,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579803791001297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710905706994718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008186617167513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821690969032829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885232492102396,0.0,0.0,0.42123858262452907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24308099196149902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41140383645473344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fxkin-princess,2019/02/14,"20 month old not eating Help! 

My 20 month old daughter will not eat anything. It’s been about 3 days and she’s got an awful cough/cold. She will nibble or have a mouthful of something and then that is it. I’m worried she’s not getting enough? 

She is still drinking (cows) milk. If I sound like a worrier, I am. I’m also a first time mum so go easy plz. Should I schedule a Drs appointment for her? Or should I just keep doing what I’m doing? ",-0.9865805471124638,1.1226776063829789,1.0881458966565385,99.22000000000004,97.40425531914892,3.5367781155015194,17.352583586626142,5.288315135182226,-0.6742863221884501,341,10,78,2,14,112,66,94,0.124,0.795,0.081,-0.5924,0,0,2,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,5,1,11,6,1,0,0,12,18,8,0,3,7,2,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,0,4,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,1,10,1,3,12,1,11,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,3,11,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17475931686774132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983255257601846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093454147852275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21407737439992444,0.0,0.44722393561526336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258011404453425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858825219574438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417352930892627,0.0,0.1241963135886798,0.0,0.1747793590253777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464768528808029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424056610580007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676330293864422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488590282414457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4586234543439072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823598958923222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451929379576706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742729658746094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22192903523703325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Blondie3211,2019/02/14,"I don't know what age kids can be home alone My son is only 8 but I remember being younger than him and being left at home alone for my parents to run a quick errand. It wasn't long, maybe 15-20 mins max. 

I'm single parent and there's times I just need to pick up one thing from grocery store down the street and my son will be playing, having a grand time, and I'll get him ready to go with me. With all his whining and dragging his feet a 10 min trip is now a 30 min frustrating ordeal. After this I see why my Mom would just run to the store with me at home. But that was a different time. I'd also be able to wait in the car but that's definitely a no-go now adays. 

Just looking for some advice and different perspective on this. ",1.163099730458221,2.7097180188679246,2.8657008086253377,94.74523584905658,79.50314465408805,6.052291105121295,19.53324348607368,6.868970318607317,0.017562084456424376,571,13,136,6,14,189,103,159,0.066,0.85,0.084,0.5859,4,2,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,8,4,1,0,9,0,14,1,1,1,1,23,22,10,0,2,6,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,7,9,0,1,2,1,2,5,2,2,0,1,2,2,14,2,19,13,3,25,0,1,2,0,10,8,0,1,12,84,21,0,0.1571706530059408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358534309262542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32556279265056043,0.0,0.12568931442465792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32841976064589024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211517921612715,0.0,0.17864740820479202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4729649396301075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637688052439105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707663743660788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390910820382413,0.13198376408452792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789904611605998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18407636922976486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654004770179212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650290208529622,0.11953536399188958,0.0,0.0,0.3490388205406619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804371126801938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252446614926924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10441719805408856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749424151020233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182206800662087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164952244908644,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisWontBeTakenCXI,2019/02/14,"How to find a school for a gifted 6 year old in Ontario Canada Hi, I was hoping someone could help because my son’s schools have been no help so far. He has been expelled from two schools already, now we’re on the hunt again. My son has a 98 average and from what myself and everybody else can see, he’s just bored. During his school day he does not listen to authority whatsoever. All of his shenanigans are “boys will be boys” type things, he sneaks out of the class and goes on adventures. Teachers can’t get him back inside, sometimes he’s up a tree, sometimes it’s on the roof... Obviously no school wants this liability so they hand us the standard “we don’t care where you take him but he can’t stay here” papers. He doesn’t have a disability so he doesn’t qualify for special education... and every public school and private school will not take the responsibility anymore. They’ve suggested psychotherapy (therapists have said he does not have a disability so there is nothing they can offer) we have gone to parenting classes, they have told us it is not our parenting, he is very well mannered. He just can not tolerate being told what to do. He gets his school work done without any help but after that he becomes mischievous and “out of control”. At home it isn’t an issue because if he wants to climb a tree, he climbs a tree. Right now he is in a special school where they allegedly cater to this type of “boy” behaviour but even they have now thrown in the towel. I’m exhausted. 

He is scheduled to be assessed for giftedness but it’s being put off because they said it was obvious but right now the “focus is on his behaviour” which is frustrating... if we wanted to have him tested privately, it could be done but the psychoeducational assessment is $5,000 where we are and I don’t really want to pay that if he’s scheduled to be tested anyway. 

Right now I just need to find a school for him.   

Help? 

Thank you in advance :) ",3.6232180851063838,5.622756960106387,4.621223404255321,82.85875000000001,73.81382978723406,7.785106382978723,26.909574468085108,8.567472430010655,1.9478712765957449,1531,57,299,29,32,498,183,376,0.037000000000000005,0.861,0.101,0.9775,3,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,7,2,6,5,23,10,1,0,19,0,47,2,1,2,3,47,67,21,0,11,18,4,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,3,14,13,0,1,2,0,1,5,15,3,1,1,11,5,29,7,36,46,1,39,0,0,1,0,61,20,0,4,13,193,43,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026141151238389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049460156053288434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213045736131332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05592630767196907,0.0,0.13300999274344213,0.08032662052435517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415497435368906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157496084058104,0.11614093728765762,0.0,0.0,0.046906030060945424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729627435505508,0.1488598809720561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06075813280700955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048038704832315836,0.0,0.06127972544501361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295119717947454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599878556024325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19500251939320776,0.0,0.07295598160127277,0.07223914380328228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591316116831139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539297495238831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978817726815514,0.0,0.0763198478897674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152023735253726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731156037932869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046593889257162735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186337822463558,0.13836930066381736,0.0,0.0,0.7360852107925665,0.05795787247992142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162546543003543,0.0,0.14386733035038946,0.0,0.0,0.07752248104484198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937060800213556,0.0,0.0,0.06696172102511183,0.0,0.08444729043835672,0.04831981321521371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899681022200094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104845480437298,0.0,0.1749749346783136,0.0,0.0,0.060011398164723576,0.17159653196901534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539467314553313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011091358811057,0.0,0.052949657284254936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046836930553850666
parenting,dadbodfat,2019/02/14,"Getting my kid to sleep in his own bed Hi guys, 

My 3.5 year old sleeps in our bed (with mom only) and I sleep in his room/bed.

I don’t even know how it’s gotten to this point and I feel kind of like I’ve failed a little. 

He slept in his own room alone from 3 months all the way up to about 2.5 years but then became “afraid of the dark” and suddenly started coming into our room at night. 

That progresses to him just going to bed with us, and because of a lack of space, I eventually started sleeping alone in his bed. 

This has obviously put a strain on the relationship (mom and I) and were ready to move him Back to his bed but he’s obviously resisting. 

Question: what’s the best way to get him back in his bed...I think just put him in there and lock the door and let him cry it out. Seems cruel. Mom doesn’t like the idea. 

She’s suggested sleeping with him in his bed first, then eventually making him sleep there alone. 

Thanks for your help and experience in advance. ",2.5664738805970124,3.9592501094527366,3.633753109452737,91.38555503731348,75.26865671641791,7.015049751243781,21.51772388059701,7.6454224807358475,0.5188828358208952,756,18,174,10,16,244,111,201,0.104,0.7979999999999999,0.098,0.1566,0,3,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,0,5,9,9,1,2,9,0,5,7,7,2,3,31,19,14,0,1,4,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,2,6,15,0,0,6,0,0,6,2,4,0,1,3,1,26,5,32,15,5,40,0,1,0,0,31,19,0,2,15,105,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162069448989673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15650863779970256,0.0,0.06203762786119076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680061402608113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766525081180575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178881025124507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721767060921212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995499149025923,0.0,0.0,0.051457621852277466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865649245954288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063405300438511,0.0,0.0578378451487529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076761879225714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821382446868964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11488516557549655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597707751594253,0.055929752246672126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406601635792856,0.0,0.09943869032031452,0.10199958614248908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679318058524377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35757296384119225,0.08123129371213585,0.1081646726563701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955036050458931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678977325276592,0.0,0.0,0.07740014749542021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620489436317026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046125343855943,0.11400492017399025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092621547300992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264695923959987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6110568500479283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406568533708194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369550913171314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520966571204605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241595152418998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615594854094162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310722002728693
parenting,ScotchAndLeather,2019/02/14,"Entertaining a 7 Month old and not exhausting the parents? Hi! I want to preface this by saying that neither my wife nor I had ever changed a diaper before having our daughter, and we don’t have any friends with kids, so we’re really making this up as we go along, maybe more so than others (because I know we all do that to some extent). That means that no recommendation is too obvious! 

 I’m looking for advice on keeping my 7-month old occupied. The weekends are really the only time we have tome for household work (laundry, shopping, cooking, etc), and she just always wants to be held. We can occupy her on the floor in a sensory gym for a bit, but she still requires constant supervision or she’ll just roll all the way to the other side of the room and get herself into stuff. 

What can I do or buy to keep her occupied in one place while we do things like cook, laundry, etc? It’s really exhausting carrying her around for 12 hours with some brief interludes for naps. Any thoughts appreciated! ",6.701491477272729,6.727852567708336,7.257897727272731,74.11551136363637,64.98958333333334,10.523484848484847,34.121212121212125,10.230975488527342,3.431785416666667,791,32,146,17,11,261,132,192,0.008,0.895,0.096,0.9404,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,7,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,11,0,14,4,0,1,4,37,27,12,0,2,6,3,0,1,1,1,2,1,1,1,12,15,2,4,3,7,2,2,5,2,0,1,3,2,20,3,24,22,10,24,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,4,11,107,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661840136358226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484619341515588,0.0,0.0,0.20406615139765166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356836674374395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146364630464733,0.0,0.12767390324100514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380599291376013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872356194627818,0.0,0.0,0.16214109832505502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346709189772641,0.0,0.13572074178068844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592136186477535,0.0,0.07839026864101016,0.0,0.08527180026201213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776023478095024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26672680174081514,0.0,0.0,0.08245865056030505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330249006945211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599671366004742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015358222957164,0.0,0.15073642609509452,0.16343871603640328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395227081725206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31488573585047425,0.0,0.10167171508619073,0.11411299816763765,0.0,0.0,0.16660285692313362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676098810115835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883604627868561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931868454626025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198229958073126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176113314036034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968062280736033,0.0,0.0,0.11911585329861422,0.08749015706312037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699622618645627,0.11909562099723428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923168912145126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,livesfortrails,2019/02/14,3 year old constantly getting out of bed at night Is it too harsh to lock her door? I put her to sleep and anywhere bw an hour to four hours later she wakes up and gets out of her room wanting to come sleep with me. I’ve tried taking her back multiple times but that gets very tiring and infuriating after the 5th time. I’ve tried being considerate and let her sleep on a mat next to my bed but she’s become super loud at night and wakes me up and the baby. At my wits end. ,3.0853748231966067,3.7468570000000017,4.407439886845829,89.16227722772278,73.05940594059406,7.355586987270155,21.359264497878357,7.447530270364453,0.41834823196605386,371,7,86,4,7,123,68,101,0.065,0.8490000000000001,0.086,0.5031,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,3,6,5,0,0,14,9,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,12,1,17,7,0,25,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,14,49,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314878384689808,0.0,0.0,0.1888551943428104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730067937639804,0.0,0.184789399016188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145454610740344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26802009078258554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367995562596157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17485827927904474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185960134203424,0.3209423523205336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17943490727417796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190143782641068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133681151662218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857012591094852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199422030694702,0.1965384385844899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321944798100935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109225794886168,0.10085976536176712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101178857572658
parenting,Menu23ChickenPesto,2019/02/14,Does the kind of music my newborn listens to matter? Are people who play kids songs or Mozart onto something? Can I listen to my music around him or could that negativity affect him down the line even though he doesn't understand the words,6.375333333333334,7.575401644444442,6.255555555555558,76.93000000000002,65.8888888888889,7.777777777777778,26.11111111111111,7.793537801064563,1.5361111111111114,194,5,33,2,3,61,37,45,0.07,0.848,0.08199999999999999,-0.2869,0,0,1,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,7,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,6,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,0,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404119777686887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053107135319043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346358076742086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25256781272870843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982047938435116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651040429197309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943857956154817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757004344652758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3980859269806183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MK19,2019/02/14,"Best tennis shoes for kids? My 8 year old son and 6 year old daughter need new shoes and I have only been buying Skechers up until now. The life on the shoes as a whole, only seems to be about 6 months for the upper - the soles hold up great. Do any of you have any recommendations? Google searching is not much help, as I didn't really find any good overall kid shoes reviews. If it matters, we live in a very remote rural area - so a lot of outside use. TIA!",2.182659574468083,3.824398276595748,3.4286702127659576,91.40875,76.87234042553192,5.5510638297872354,20.26063829787234,5.985473137389443,-0.07348510638297867,354,8,77,2,8,115,73,94,0.023,0.802,0.175,0.9432,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,7,0,7,5,4,1,0,12,10,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,13,7,4,14,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,3,8,43,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046536363263501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081556922992975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128796215500764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636625326620966,0.0,0.21868115976134392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329495713685258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010020472787554,0.0,0.0,0.17514635117723532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16862975655463136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583207768345604,0.0,0.14580979541725414,0.14707373228864976,0.0,0.19156730203544492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162691270012007,0.0,0.0,0.3017076527676609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706784762388282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057004742720148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131038969922865,0.0,0.16365921195382951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214502707763887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554613083247683
parenting,zSilverFox,2019/02/14,"Trouble potty training 2 year old We started potty training again last week and it started great. Our 2 year old was holding and going on the potty itself occasionally. She hated peeing on herself in underwear. Now she doesn’t care. She’ll hold it until she has an accident or gets put in a diaper for nap/bed time. She just had an accident and didn’t think anything of it. We’re stopping diapers for nap time to see if that helps. It feels like she’s taking steps back. Has anyone dealt with the same thing? How did you get your child through it?

What we’ve been doing: go to the potty every 10-15 minutes. If she goes, she gets a sticker. If she doesn’t that’s ok and she gets verbal praise. If she has an accident she has to help wipe it up and then go the potty. She doesn’t get punished for them otherwise because she’s always hated accidents. We use a flat tone of voice for those times: “ok, here’s a towel, wipe up your puddle please”. ",1.6178272251308885,3.912410612565449,3.147065445026179,89.50928926701575,81.61780104712042,5.7048167539267025,21.068324607329842,6.961326702584282,0.5594039790575915,741,22,150,9,20,243,112,191,0.131,0.746,0.123,-0.4026,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,3,1,1,6,10,3,0,11,2,14,1,1,2,0,22,32,13,0,4,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,12,8,0,3,2,1,0,5,4,4,0,0,5,3,22,6,18,26,1,28,1,0,1,0,26,6,0,5,18,94,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096586084199185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005475805986507,0.0,0.12952327952503748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102760532215633,0.0,0.09594697961036464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047544245891954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261269578013754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958401320091278,0.11244354505907148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4111638782636117,0.0,0.2683548714150484,0.0,0.0,0.17352935430488156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107914065992913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21099808780847004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128298531953983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689560611498736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303206956850245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17277325278594582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822618740876235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542402328712193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22281102373092732,0.0,0.0,0.1315898827899453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834200513259707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456673301860583,0.10085283209847548,0.0,0.0,0.27533615775220693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593938015816054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625336524312716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20271538678437853
parenting,hesn92,2019/02/14,"The middle name Danger I am posting this here instead of in the pregnancy sub because I really wanted input from dads as well. 

My husband wants to make our sons middle name Danger. For the record I am strongly against this. He thinks I’m being impossible and I will come to regret it some day and my son will “so mad at me” for not letting my husband make his middle name Danger. 

He says middle names are pointless anyway and no one would ever know, so why not have fun with it? 

We argued about this for my entire pregnancy with our three year old and he eventually gave up. This time, he says he’s not backing down. I told him I would consider having it as a second middle name that way I can just pretend it doesn’t exist. But I’m still having a really hard time with this. I think it’s really poor judgement and parenting to make a joke out of your child’s name. 

Please tell me your thoughts? Is it a big deal if we make it a second middle name? Do you think it’s funny? Do you think he’ll get made fun of? Do you think I’m being ridiculous? 

Thanks ",1.7242460317460306,3.807640657407408,3.280687830687832,89.8616666666667,79.92592592592592,5.780952380952384,19.544973544973548,6.868970318607317,0.2631973544973545,826,20,171,9,21,272,121,216,0.16899999999999998,0.767,0.064,-0.971,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,5,0,1,11,13,6,0,8,0,19,0,0,5,1,44,42,11,0,6,6,6,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,1,14,12,0,0,7,2,1,1,5,7,1,4,4,3,25,6,22,30,1,23,0,1,0,0,38,12,0,2,8,114,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206277995426538,0.0,0.08883994056341388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255395465639602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939883275698972,0.15024847822856968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182748687776907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761415828931755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305517528538412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08009326011688422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902598675429393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789990118374004,0.3891223957047089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292649696058302,0.0,0.0987551829625514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182372455879326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997549449480553,0.0,0.0,0.1395757889232149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800886189196369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23179187079174834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638578009666513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738058749209066,0.1341750764704437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669120198293686,0.0,0.1156989225201218,0.1699608678946015,0.0,0.0,0.13925797720828206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719189519514528,0.11567927059802295,0.0,0.0,0.1310350919261924,0.0,0.13150500127127399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20705480885977226,0.0,0.0,0.09384986888773414
parenting,wheresthedigger,2019/02/14,"2 y/o never happy to go to school (daycare) My 2 y/o son has been going to school two mornings a week for almost five months now. In that time, he has willingly left me only 2-3 times. The rest of the time, he cries to be held and clearly doesn't want to be left there without me. His teacher says he's fine after I leave. I really like and trust this school, but it doesn't seem like he's happy there. I know two days/week isn't much, so I can't decide if I should double down and enroll him 3 or 5 mornings/week, or if I should be looking for a different school or in-home carer. It breaks my heart to leave him crying all the time.",1.4240091563113142,2.5006867050359745,3.2604839764552014,94.19326357096143,77.63309352517986,5.917854807063441,19.111183780248528,6.11248444174946,-0.2572359712230217,488,9,117,3,11,164,84,139,0.12,0.795,0.086,-0.525,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,5,0,13,1,1,0,3,21,20,10,0,5,7,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,1,3,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,2,2,13,6,13,12,4,16,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,7,11,69,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691273816089985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784379303934693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241730106667704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440595875870085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698361629187088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018861755619947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965350301153879,0.0,0.0,0.2684006992710317,0.2754087922362159,0.0,0.0,0.12383843728007247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643046441738467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116340469836614,0.0,0.09316916981904104,0.0,0.09775042197805063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639219181391204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119348799531094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078947808268668,0.0,0.5130743681528979,0.0,0.11538018666602178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956146324038759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24761495355777574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475508688256495,0.0,0.30499179815968186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12217373804830944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gretasaur,2019/02/14,"TLDR Kid HATES mucinex flavor, off brand Recs? Hey My eldest always ends up with a chest cold and intense cough from the most basic of sniffles. Trying to head it off this time around with Pediatrician’s recommendation of mucinex. Got the mix berry flavor of name-brand children’s mucinex and she HATES it. It is the only medicine she has ever rejected and yeah—it’s nasty. Any offbrands or just other flavor success stories? I can not even bribe her with her favorite treats to take it. ",4.546730769230769,6.926705362637364,4.277019230769231,84.65860576923076,72.2967032967033,5.868681318681317,26.759615384615394,6.6274283507984215,1.1448120879120882,392,14,70,3,8,119,67,91,0.145,0.759,0.096,-0.7866,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,2,0,4,0,3,3,2,0,1,12,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,6,2,13,6,1,7,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,2,3,41,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451235323182588,0.0,0.0,0.20033216267494355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622486834927604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609204221343171,0.0,0.0,0.19457475267147376,0.2664746655391256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23561154664455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5816957710199849,0.30233562824172083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404993239371493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214959695086178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717785360990259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000813196569428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notyouraverage-life,2019/02/14,"Help with a strong willed toddler that climbs and throws tantrums when not getting his way. I’m a mom of 3 boys 10, 7, and 2. All 3 have different personalities. 10 year has always been respectful and rarely back talks. 7 year old has some issues with authority but for the most part a good kid. Now here is where I would appreciate advice my 2 year old I love that boy to death but he does not listen what so ever. He climbs everything and anything. You tell him no now he’s screaming and we put him in time out till he calm for one minute and all is well and dandy then 30 minutes later we are back at climbing and a tantrum. He loves the counters so we moved everything off the counters. He’s still getting up there. He fell off a book shelf(built in cannot be moved) and was right back up there an hour later. We put baby gates up yeah climbs those to(or pushes and pulls till they break or fall). Everything I’ve used with my older two do not work with him. Any advice on this beautiful toddler would be appreciated on many levels from me and his dad.",1.6632239540607046,4.064896905660377,2.476480721903197,93.72463084495487,82.30188679245283,5.5737489745693205,20.06644790812141,6.8959733430537185,0.2095912223133718,832,23,180,10,23,260,136,212,0.071,0.741,0.188,0.9819,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,1,1,6,16,10,2,0,9,1,15,2,0,1,3,34,22,20,1,2,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,4,5,20,0,0,0,1,0,13,5,3,1,2,2,2,16,7,22,15,5,50,0,0,0,2,30,14,0,3,21,108,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549229606414916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853399353089983,0.0,0.0,0.08870160054467326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073384979237582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008938951413401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627885322776015,0.0,0.0,0.1141462560945206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798769115411377,0.0,0.0,0.35168496673620364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362958481445547,0.0,0.0,0.1094043271819154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742913973919415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845412364725778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614228978129686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354488843827452,0.0,0.0,0.13224259690250642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527661822518049,0.0,0.2772676756999206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27374327949368765,0.0,0.08838745471994924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125050852306298,0.0,0.0,0.11389251569794535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622503282952555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113924447031598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416711872470401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104840281521258,0.11400764568910901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605883592405452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741794932033493,0.0,0.0,0.11265564714212692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353478152024426,0.0,0.0,0.1172784851073855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949596548855422,0.0,0.0,0.18531733721338686,0.0,0.0,0.2519913625171455
parenting,subzero1968,2019/02/14,"Lazy son I have a 30 year old son, who cannot hold a job down and gets sacked normally within a couple of months. He also is constantly begging for money and owns me £7,000 pounds which he won't pay back. He keeps saying he's depressed and threatens to kill himself, but hasn't tried anything yet. He has alienated himself from most of the family, but I am now his only hope to help. He messages me all the time begging me for money, but he has bleed me dry. I tell him to get a job if he wants money, but he has a million and one reason why he can't. I think he has mental issues but he refuses to get help and says smoking dope is the only thing that helps. He also lives with a woman who loves him but he finds fault with all the time. I have tired everything to sort him out but nothing has worked. I don't want him living with us as he breaks everything and just sits in his room playing the Xbox. What advice can you give me as he won't help himself but expects me to have a solution to his problems.",4.888097484276726,4.3520043820754735,5.71603773584906,85.54767295597486,68.85849056603774,8.576100628930817,28.044025157232703,7.793537801064563,1.4865553459119507,787,22,173,8,12,259,119,212,0.093,0.777,0.131,0.8864,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,0,1,6,7,1,0,12,0,18,3,0,1,2,36,28,19,1,7,10,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,1,1,6,10,0,3,3,2,4,0,6,4,0,2,0,2,24,3,21,26,4,16,0,1,0,1,44,5,0,4,9,108,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981601437888138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21247451768601208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932130989545842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102150720672349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355981893007522,0.0,0.0,0.14699207121620755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144204535569239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23878764828285504,0.0,0.12523581094126418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214192494683668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20822036278715125,0.12743842086827706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561767032033808,0.0,0.0,0.13194650080497486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865718021906667,0.26365920808415383,0.11808002954607005,0.1469749151568772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346117001290975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989910867035188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387797675700985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603676973358334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016131597637784,0.12746975259238846,0.0,0.13940000311251202,0.0,0.09002019326908853,0.2020714245030202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711611227127895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658827714026514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112896597517244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611365359037745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088257279054403,0.08512264167570603,0.0,0.0,0.15492766776459593,0.15268745288531071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019401993720406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979792356241582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671255742756904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987325905497948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671379849829624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554875888140598
parenting,wonder-maker,2019/02/14,"Our 8 year old daughter is having problems in school There are some things that lead us to believe that it could be attention deficit disorder, but since having that problem myself as well as my two older boys having attention deficit disorder as well, her behavior doesn't seem to entirely fit the the profile of just attention deficit disorder.

She is completely disengaged from her schoolwork, even when trying to sit with her and do the work. It's not like she's just having difficulty concentrating, it's as if she is *unable* to care.

If I can get her corralled and on task, she can do it. But I have to convince her that it's a fun thing we can do together in order to get her interested at all.

At no point does she see it as her responsibility to do her homework or follow basic directions.

Her teacher says she's probably going to get held back this year because she has done basically nothing all year and isn't progressing.

My wife wants to put her on Ritalin or Adderall, and while I think it could help her improve, I don't think it's going to be a silver bullet.

To me, it's pretty obvious that she needs to see a behavioral specialist, but I have no idea where to start with that.",9.504721030042925,7.003938721030046,9.50043347639485,68.44901931330475,60.93133047210301,13.268497854077252,40.46738197424892,11.792908689023552,4.631275021459229,954,40,180,23,10,316,126,233,0.132,0.732,0.135,0.5892,0,0,0,0,0,1,20.0,3,0,0,3,9,9,0,0,6,0,26,1,0,1,3,36,42,18,0,8,10,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,18,7,0,1,7,0,0,5,6,2,2,1,2,3,31,7,28,36,3,25,0,0,2,0,27,9,0,6,10,137,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152573656479057,0.0,0.08048649521057595,0.0,0.0,0.1487567239737334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346171185725332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13843478315918406,0.0,0.0,0.2108362717706201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4539660484961897,0.0,0.11554354787423425,0.13511627791771702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087206988888414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20694641761324065,0.0,0.15007554631105724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849938087057083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904993384898496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450497825384066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979012878032561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668986020357031,0.0,0.13854711841463144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248144881799909,0.0,0.0,0.13432570179229975,0.1423546196817296,0.2526767670879015,0.0,0.1327302988252414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499846791890734,0.0,0.13362511546175393,0.2104274692248802,0.12019848756624192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921961007619806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934541059406396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754345971173945,0.16920367937856587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964218996785543,0.0,0.12897770308944534,0.0,0.15882023919572702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787687505807646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23742823851186035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961220788643553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550760494044008
parenting,sai_gunslinger,2019/02/14,"Just. STOP. Giving me. Advice. Yes grandma, I know my 5 month old's new screeching sound is annoying. It's nails on a chalkboard. It's eardrum piercing. I don't like it either.

But I told you I can't make him stop.

""Well you can tell him 'no.'""

Sure. But he's 5 months old. He doesn't understand ""no."" He won't start assigning meaning to words until half a year from now, roughly speaking. He's vocalizing and discovering what sounds he can make. It's part of him learning how to talk. And this high pitched screech seems to be his new favorite sound. Last month it was his raptor sound, this month it's his bird screech.

I'm tired and worn out. I mom 24/7 with two days a week that I get to go to my job and get a break, but I'm on my feet all day there so it's tiring in a different way. I'm picking up more hours, which means more time spent away from my son missing him and his milestones. I don't need you telling me what to do.

I can't tell him to stop screeching. He's 5 months old. This is a phase of his vocal development and reacting to it is probably going to make him do it more because he will think it's funny. He thinks everything is funny.

But I also can't tell her why I can't just tell my 5 month old to stop screeching because then she will be wounded and sulk in her room. So I not only have to listen to a 5 month old screech without being able to say anything, I also have to listen to someone tell me to tell him ""no"" without being able to say anything.

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parenting,kelson49er,2019/02/14,"Daughter rejecting spoon sometimes My daughter (14m) was doing great when we originally had her try to spoon feed herself. We started right at 13m. Within a couple days, she was picking it up, scooping, and getting it to her mouth like a champ without any assistance. She required minimal help to finish whatever she was eating.

Now, on most occasions, she will use the spoon for no more than 5 bites (sometimes zero!) before tossing it away on the ground. She will do this regardless of the food, and she will take that same food from the spoon if we do the feeding on our own She also won’t accept our hand over hers to help guide it once she’s made the initial rejection - lots of fighting and tears if we try. There is some indication that she’s more willing to feed herself with the spoon for breakfast and lunch than anything in the evening.

What’s the best way to approach this? I don’t want to force her physically to use it because that might hurt her, and I am leery of just ending the meal because she is probably too young to understand choices and consequences like that,  and she’d definitely be short on vegetables if not total calories.

Any ideas?",6.176658047834518,6.935124755656108,6.050591467356174,79.7989253393665,66.14932126696833,9.029217840982547,33.8852617970265,9.04235418022936,2.8950501616031024,925,40,171,15,14,290,135,221,0.069,0.797,0.135,0.9408,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,6,0,0,3,7,10,1,0,12,0,19,12,2,5,1,35,27,12,0,5,6,2,1,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,12,10,1,3,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,5,1,27,6,29,14,9,23,0,3,0,0,29,13,0,7,10,127,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289224180295695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090058180227795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645978441275568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438084119352548,0.0,0.0,0.18735526773372546,0.0,0.13076440362247435,0.0,0.1612703316103118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003625051842036,0.0,0.09910637132368263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15724584251292092,0.0,0.0,0.13610866457703522,0.0,0.0,0.10149956653407563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716440008274909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028779937351391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694250239428044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600754392267304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451012380109645,0.17347811076199807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15015373000511067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13064728837599665,0.0,0.14540910733890006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302276722709136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365672862174238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568548434010175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123590151575493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039730508961608,0.0,0.10877053966330348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554297042909994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086677579601972,0.0,0.0,0.15997901155856858,0.0,0.2654482618266556,0.0,0.0,0.09064031635741164,0.12197847373988507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813528723018649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xaprilw,2019/02/14,"Can you help with groundbreaking twin/Irish twin language research? We need your help! We are completing the final year of our degree in Speech and Language therapy in University College Cork, Ireland. As part of that we are carrying out a research study under the supervision of Dr. Pauline Frizelle. The focus of this study is to examine the understanding of sentences in twins versus non-twins (but who have a sibling within 18 months of them), between the ages of 3 ½ and 5 years. The tasks are done online in your own home. Please find attached a link to more information and a video about the project. We would be very grateful if you could help us. For further information, please do not hesitate to contact us on  
115378911@umail.ucc.ie or 115307041@umail.ucc.ie.  
[www.ucc.ie/en/speech/twinlanguagestudyucc/](https://www.ucc.ie/en/speech/twinlanguagestudyucc/)  
Kind regards,  
April Walsh and Laura Quinlan.",10.000813060179258,13.08699686619718,6.645953905249684,70.4069206145967,59.21126760563382,9.107298335467348,35.44430217669654,9.573946990214177,3.6960056338028178,753,32,105,14,11,207,102,142,0.0,0.845,0.155,0.9623,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,7,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,11,0,11,1,0,0,0,24,13,8,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,3,10,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,12,1,23,9,3,15,0,0,0,0,19,9,0,2,6,71,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417578143357156,0.0,0.0,0.14786492560372466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895210744751888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028745228160085,0.16926692119918246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724014162792506,0.0,0.18576793064964034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19285442536743636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478226691838217,0.0,0.0,0.13732140599874285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055056236043375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065819091912888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21178918275084904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927968569983636,0.4455389512596078,0.0,0.0,0.15280711749422662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155880492711505,0.0,0.0,0.23852189980863645
parenting,redditamrur,2019/02/14,"Sport Motivation (probably I am the problem) Short for the tl;dr parents out there: What to do to work on **myself** , and with this to motivate my daughter, to succeed in sports, without becoming a crazy parent

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Long version: My daughter (10 if relevant) does a sport for about a year now. She's still in the beginners' group, her trainer thinks she has a lot of potential, but gives up on herself too early (it is an endurance sport: speed skating). In any case, she's already taking part in competitions (as a beginner, which means she has hockey skates instead of speed skates and so are most peers in the beginners / her age category). She's usually somewhere in the middle: the annoying 4th place, or 5th, sometimes 3rd. I have the feeling that her trainer is right - she can do better. I want to think how to pass the message that it's not so bad that she's not first place, yet not install some ""giving up on yourself is OK"" feeling. 

\- I don't want to become one of those crazy parents who shout at their children when they lose, do mistake or just are not in the mood. We speed skaters train near the figure skaters so I see insane parents the whole time. It does not look good when a mother actually screams at a 5 year old who'd fell on her bum instead of comforting her. And I am scared of becoming one of those people (without trashing the beautiful sport of figure skating, this is why we're in speed skating which is much more laid back, even the trainers don't berate, and know that most kids are there for the fun). 

\- But I do want her to be motivated, to have this ""biting"" edge. 

\- And also, how to deal with my disappointment when there's a day she's not really putting her heart into it - she's just a child and has other things on her mind

\- And don't understand me wrong: she's motivated in the sense that she really likes the sport, but this is an endurance sport and it seems she gives up on herself too easily 

I know it's mostly me. This is why in my short version I wrote that this question is mostly about me. Don't judge me too harshly for being so conflicted. The point is : I don't want to express any type of anger / disappointment / frustration / etc. on my child only because she's not doing very well , but I also don't want her to get the message that it is totally unimportant",3.95370476190476,5.561096802222222,4.685619047619049,84.369,72.08888888888889,7.720634920634923,28.41269841269841,8.329178653251315,1.9596031746031737,1811,70,355,29,35,582,211,450,0.103,0.773,0.124,0.459,4,0,0,0,0,0,76.0,1,0,2,9,29,21,3,1,29,1,35,1,1,6,1,66,57,27,0,8,18,7,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,29,13,0,1,16,8,0,3,15,12,1,3,1,6,48,8,56,53,14,59,0,3,2,0,50,32,0,11,25,260,77,7,0.0,0.0,0.08966706785453858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139801837128153,0.14696172440422095,0.0,0.0995579835754852,0.11165103263115607,0.12497068560435125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065433644766249,0.07672061818118481,0.05601259448605056,0.3044411999547804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126532527096607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059258595235517075,0.09472999452488234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081937412299308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024767064747718,0.0606895565793552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292021650077413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815782429541514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800642120057668,0.26443505259057914,0.0,0.07706926195272461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888485037522977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009958194825791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0448906512802054,0.0,0.0,0.08131584359083252,0.07716074215222571,0.10279645650478313,0.0,0.07811783114534257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009032981448801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277823847044228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754647110014565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964184555516571,0.0,0.12452808909138605,0.06988312132955657,0.0,0.0,0.4081122344049311,0.09950312499265546,0.0,0.06370188916144515,0.0,0.19200174085551705,0.0,0.08686156968468839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906819230465053,0.08792208713966436,0.0,0.09237038318862784,0.1029328745033307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772850613668252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846978014048157,0.0,0.0,0.09199349148518217,0.0,0.07322090787766304,0.08364917771944216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087718450880464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337993995891805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690865181069464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061044694028800625,0.11775313428399815,0.0,0.0,0.053579218488345286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565612548929976,0.0,0.0,0.10119898084255607,0.07581522351689571,0.27098246799394005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826161681441599,0.0,0.16582488152021302,0.10258696456100178,0.0,0.17714883329550393,0.0,0.06689379392777732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046245328885024,0.11165103263115607,0.11834259715258102
parenting,alecar111,2019/02/14,Parenting book recommendations Hello! I have a beautiful one year old daughter that is my entire world! I’m a first time mom and have been pretty much learning on the go so far. I guess now I’m thinking I would like to start preparing for age appropriate discipline down the road so that I react in the right way instead of negatively. I know that I never want to spank but don’t really know what to do besides that lol. So if anyone has any  book recommendations that will guide me in the right direction I will greatly appreciate it. Happy Valentine’s Day ❤️,4.0705096839959225,6.0308237981651445,5.5883792048929655,76.56791029561673,72.4862385321101,8.881141692150868,27.70744138634047,9.444778638647367,2.605574108053007,450,17,84,11,9,152,80,109,0.01,0.8059999999999999,0.183,0.9633,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,6,1,10,0,0,1,1,13,19,6,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,4,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,9,3,9,15,1,20,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,2,10,54,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511766554815768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554425032271715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336988219147706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18909456116941065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263424186932786,0.0,0.0,0.24509469369668616,0.24489666464020016,0.0,0.0,0.2366503614587445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24434866677991204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860816662903748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26036374047033783,0.0,0.0,0.16342151827240134,0.0,0.1714571719641557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332742205343407,0.0,0.15064124783590124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468460597782886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261665471060268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241581316863858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796986104587594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735032217555045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244560576298884,0.0,0.0,0.12962923289112024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112266451082327,0.17645726683774293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792079889562824,0.0,0.0,0.1431586771890756
parenting,EvansHomeforBoys,2019/02/14,"So proud of my little Valentine! Earlier this week my son, six years old, asked me what Valentine’s Day was all about. So I told him it’s a day when you can express you like or love someone, anonymously or not, or when you can do something sweet or romantic for people you care about. 

He then told my husband and me that he’s in love with his classmate. He’s has known for a week. He likes her better than all the other girls and he loves her. He’s very creative so he made her a couple of nice drawings already. We didn’t know if he was being serious and we didn’t want to press him whether he was or not. 

Then yesterday as I took him to bed he was dead set on drawing her something this morning before he went to school. And he did. He made her a beautiful drawing and wrote on it that he likes her. With a bunch of hearts and Xs to go along with it. He was super nervous walking to school and when we got there his crush was already in the classroom. I told him there was no time like the present and he walked in, straight to his crush, and gave her his drawing. She eagerly opened it up and seemed to really like it. 

My son was beaming ear to ear. I’m SO proud of him! ",1.6415188470066508,3.3755529227642285,2.681478196600146,95.7537472283814,78.71544715447155,5.773540280857352,23.376940133037692,6.574015621080383,0.4141121951219517,913,30,210,8,22,290,121,246,0.047,0.725,0.228,0.9942,0,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,3,4,0,4,11,18,0,1,8,0,16,6,3,2,2,36,36,27,1,2,9,3,1,5,0,0,0,2,1,1,11,18,0,0,3,0,0,5,5,2,0,1,21,4,33,16,28,14,3,29,0,0,0,3,54,9,0,7,19,131,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938641996886924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244753816968829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329911875483943,0.0,0.0,0.11775856252806913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575323297186245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14732570031622189,0.0,0.17173885587978574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567106181509581,0.0,0.106490597817693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778098984428662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317464419146286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252468717795468,0.13344924881367068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605137339585164,0.2519756640804002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971640043377986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230804002767257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529800136163222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695057155067161,0.0,0.12121291451245547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281584598251393,0.20500763025692526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763965417633135,0.0,0.0,0.3816857842283309,0.14793229786183393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986102263573412,0.07853412459711315,0.0,0.21360654618191074,0.0,0.0,0.12342950551548525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574292959549143
parenting,ThatsMrMisterToYou,2019/02/14,My daughter 5 has taken to keeping things she does with me from her mother. Myself and her mother are separated and I've worked really hard to get access and shared custody secured. I recently got shared custody secured through the courts and my daughter is delighted she is now allowed to come and stay with me but at around the same time I got shared custody she has begun to keep little things from her mother. Things like hand feeding my fish or other specifics about her time with me and it has me concerned. I don't really know what to do about it and I don't want her keeping things from either of us. I also don't want her to feel she has to tell us everything but lately when I ask her if she told her mother about something she did or saw with me she often says no and when I ask her why not she says she just doesn't want to.,2.9938095238095244,4.642932812865499,3.733805346700084,90.04802631578949,74.67251461988305,6.289223057644111,23.325396825396822,6.868970318607317,0.6483396825396825,665,19,138,6,14,211,84,171,0.047,0.838,0.115,0.9145,1,0,1,1,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,2,0,13,2,1,1,0,33,30,16,0,4,8,6,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,8,14,1,5,2,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,6,6,36,6,22,24,2,13,0,0,1,0,35,3,0,4,9,104,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506988453794617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809383487561668,0.26903803263913983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394968279020648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259203162375664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932029410510695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275580514131436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517730711210559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301661625043681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889841326370158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3836918096554803,0.0,0.0,0.07907893932103212,0.0,0.16231574402056426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07029805999606355,0.1442169643047582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18436100505614172,0.0,0.14207537848860224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288564013838303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107746141615498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336906564068034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576740832205147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823801563039684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780844155392086,0.0,0.0,0.1374943798461005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461672263382439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546125919271654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983958950812005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475463832205034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nathanglevy,2019/02/14,"My son did something that made me tear up - I wanted to share because I feel it is important Hey guys, so I thought I'd share a small thing that happened last night with my eldest (8 years old, 3rd grade).

My son has this little gang at school he hangs out with, a group of 4, and he's kind of the ring leader. They play together at recess and while they do play with other kids, they are pretty strict about 'members' of the gang (they have a coat of arms, a secret handshake, language, etc. it's pretty cute). Last night during the nightly bedtime story, he told me that he accepted a new kid into their gang. Now I knew this kid, he was kind of a 'nothing' kid and didn't have many friends or anything in common with my son and his friends. So I asked him why he added him to their gang. Then he said: ""Dad, yesterday our teacher told us about 'invisible kids'... Do you know what that means? There are some kids that are like... there, but nobody ever says hi or plays with them... Like they are invisible. I think he's one of those kids, and I bet he's really lonely. I don't want him to be lonely"".

Hand to g-d, I'm a pretty stone-set guy when it comes to emotions, but his answer made me tear up, I'm so proud of him that he took this to heart and did something about it, and that he recognized the need of someone else.",4.593970588235294,4.335272220588237,5.052500000000002,89.11750000000002,69.44117647058823,7.976470588235292,25.823529411764717,7.1686216300943375,0.903833823529412,1012,24,231,8,16,323,149,272,0.033,0.836,0.132,0.9748,0,4,2,0,0,0,48.0,2,1,8,1,11,16,0,0,11,0,16,3,3,2,1,36,36,17,0,3,4,4,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,9,18,15,0,0,9,3,1,3,2,2,0,1,12,5,32,14,29,23,2,27,0,2,0,0,54,9,0,4,17,130,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965031346639314,0.0,0.1132068494972942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381797796803201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431204054847733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115877197837957,0.1362148193669203,0.0,0.0,0.13505218478453254,0.0,0.10953675182817166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06122893036268056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187114353776282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398048449093331,0.1070833137153848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349736090251775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252202214781399,0.06655027539641144,0.19741607799578706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832114322067573,0.12136832858054612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291647608680918,0.0,0.1227706413807364,0.0,0.13190722245331746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978990931578179,0.0,0.11695365589738987,0.0,0.3409164690622675,0.0,0.11619327298092308,0.0,0.12706812624786426,0.0,0.08205665012748473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695893951961336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757612686885303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518843558869295,0.09629906944310036,0.0,0.12255392414994065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260283055932336,0.18644865858542573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044969029251964,0.07759235536221798,0.0,0.09613536951230936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314216382460544,0.13454025327365518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456615657962858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428491433802894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926879537475344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798077655074959
parenting,heresjohnny94,2019/02/14,"How to handle a teacher who gave my niece (11F) a referral for “laughing at a Helen Keller impersonation” I am truly pissed off. My niece is in my care at the moment because her mother, my sister has been struggling with drug issues for quite some time. I have always been like a father for her. Today I got a call from the school saying that she has been sent to the principles office. Of course I was lost because she’s typically a quiet girl at school and despite her mother’s problems, she’s always been a sweet and kind, happy student who teachers have always talked highly of. 

They refused to tell me what exactly happened but said that she had been disrespectful to the teacher. She texted me and told me to please come pick her up and then called me crying about 10 minutes later saying that she tried to apologize and the teacher said “I DONT WANT TO HEAR IT” and slammed the door in her face. I went to the school and they still had her sitting in the office and had not let her go back to class yet because the teacher had specifically requested she not come back and “distract others”. I was just lost. When I asked to speak to the principle, he informed me that this teacher had given her a referral and a week of lunch detention. I asked why and he said that the teacher wrote something like “student was being disrespectful and becoming a distraction to other students when he student began laughing out loud during a lesson on Helen Keller. I asked the student to stop. She did, waited a few minutes and began laughing again. I warned her and she claimed to not be able to control the laughing” 

The principle seemed to be backing the teacher up because he “wasn’t there and must go by what the teacher claimed” Regardless I didn’t understand how a child laughing was that big of an issue. I asked my niece what happened and she said that the teacher was giving a lesson and then decided to demonstrate what Hellen Keller might have sounded like and looked like when trying to communicate to people..... who in their right mind would do that and NOT expect CHILDREN to laugh. She said that she did stop but kept thinking about it and couldn’t stop laughing again and that she kept apologizing to the teacher but she sent her out anyway. 

I asked to speak to the teacher and was told that she was not going to stop class to speak to me and that my niece is keeping the referral. I am coming back to the school tomorrow to speak to her but I am not sure how to handle the situation. I am mostly upset because I feel this is the most absurd thing to give a child a referral for. And then to make the child go to lunch detention which includes cleaning the teachers classroom. I am typically a pretty level headed person but this whole thing seems so ridiculous. Am I overreacting? How should I go about the situation? ",6.691714684014869,7.051670892193313,6.495499535315982,78.4379704925651,64.98513011152417,8.881133828996283,32.42588289962825,8.567472430010655,2.524284200743494,2252,84,408,29,32,708,218,538,0.097,0.789,0.115,0.9073,0,0,2,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,3,6,22,25,2,4,44,0,46,6,3,7,3,83,95,40,0,8,12,4,1,4,0,4,1,15,2,6,29,30,2,10,9,0,0,11,10,9,0,0,41,18,62,16,60,45,5,55,0,2,1,0,80,17,1,6,30,303,91,12,0.07216596881566985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18014360144959565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373271957647344,0.0,0.0,0.22196470191935647,0.0,0.21995852384863296,0.07970164276469034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473790455996367,0.0,0.07357801481727337,0.0,0.0,0.18649377636936795,0.0,0.0,0.08094027042365462,0.0,0.0,0.07927092809117874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845779779878745,0.0,0.08368961264743112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03648928217794967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845634624464045,0.20506791571674576,0.0,0.05771771774860455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276322557838497,0.07682201572501796,0.0,0.0,0.07406310388738463,0.0,0.08133629171811636,0.0,0.0,0.07624730824038327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506450442724806,0.0,0.06414442890934219,0.0,0.07514975132303985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737945925080002,0.0,0.14102658847780067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060123834147809,0.0,0.15755535963970274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817134456239127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655668861993901,0.072867056298623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003079623390848,0.06301254039866397,0.0,0.07921656272589554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341873441964351,0.0,0.06905308592962144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675739092015042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06162934306042751,0.3432318109213812,0.114778549864232,0.0,0.29214325279462205,0.0,0.13139437529109746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622351451687559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05555688850454344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763183591677614,0.2413359252323086,0.0,0.0754435395178386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06801557155960884,0.0,0.0,0.05800427213572167,0.06307623758872813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588772604140232,0.046241038882975614,0.0,0.0,0.04208055675976522,0.0,0.0684049002920043,0.137915351616049,0.0,0.0979919114544688,0.0,0.0,0.07512731860669616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04256535816326134,0.0,0.05788718719979517,0.0,0.0,0.06689857609202914,0.0651185621577379,0.08057072698737265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126463370385469,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gopostal44,2019/02/14,"Am I too demanding to my gf ? I'm giving in to anxiety and anger.... So we have an 11 months old boy and here is the situation. My gf stays at home and I work from 9h to 17h30, when I get home I do chores (dishes, laundry, garbage etc...) and take over caring for the baby, this goes on until 21h/21h30 when I put him to sleep. 

Usually when I get home the dinner is ready or soon to be ready and then she mixes a bowl of fruit for the baby so I can feed him that at 19h, but yeah everything else is on me and there's so much shit to do it's basically non stop for me until he goes to sleep. I can understand and I don't mind even tho our boy is really low maintenance, doesnt cry often (almost never) and he either plays by himself or with us when he's not napping.  He's really independent and daytime with him is really chill. 

However, there hasn't been a single night in 8/9 months where my gf actually left the bed and went to take care of him, she ''needs her sleep'' even tho she can totally nap for 1/2 hours at a time  (and does it) during daytime since the chores are left to me most of the time.

I also have no time at all for my hobby/passion (playing guitar/making music) and she doesn't try at all to make time for me,  even more, for her it's stupid and useless. I feel this is even worse than no help during the night and this alone makes me re evaluate the whole thing. 

Now it reach a point where I'm anxious just going to bed because I know I will have no help at all, and this anxiety sometimes turns to straight up anger. Last night I completely flipped my shit at 4am after being woken up for the 3rd time and when she refused to get up when I asked. This has happened before. 

The only time that I'm at peace with the whole situation is when I do fucking heroin. Now keep in mind I have a history of drug use, so I sometimes indulge in other things as well. I don't really care about what you may think because I know I have never put myself in a position where I can't take care of my baby or put him at risk. I only use at work and only at work and I'm 100% when I go back home. The residual effects of opiates just seem to calm me down (numb me down actually) for a good amount of time after the high passed. 

But yeah even if it's not interfering AT ALL (believe me responsible drug users exist, regardless of what you may think) I stopped doing heroin because obviously it's not sustainable. 

I'm sorry for the wall of text but I have no one else to talk to, it seems like she just doesn't give a fuck and I have no friend anymore. It's fucked up because she used to be supportive when we didn't have the baby, it feels like she's not the same person anymore...

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parenting,Letals,2019/02/14,"I told my husband on Valentine’s Day 6 years ago I was pregnant. He’s overseas at the moment, so I message him to remind him.

Me : ‘Six years ago I told you we were having a babe. 

And you looked like you wanted to run for the hills haha’

Husband : ‘Whatever! I let you borrow my old iPhone as yours died and it saved all your messages when you gave it back!! So I knew before you told me lol 😂’ 

He kept that secret locked away! I was so terrified of telling him, because we had only been seeing each other 3 months. I thought I did such a good job softening the blow with a pair of new ray bans for Valentine’s Day,  but really, he already knew. 

I’m laughing a lot, not even slightly annoyed. I honestly think this is hilarious. ",1.677335907335905,3.6484841081081116,3.282857142857144,90.35500000000003,79.54054054054055,5.850193050193052,24.08494208494209,6.868970318607317,0.822542857142857,560,20,118,6,14,185,103,148,0.037000000000000005,0.809,0.155,0.945,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,8,0,0,7,7,1,0,7,2,9,0,0,0,1,19,22,8,1,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,2,5,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,14,2,27,6,11,7,3,16,0,0,2,0,27,3,0,1,13,74,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192851689200191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19873835634767734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692043682121665,0.13848127330288348,0.0,0.10978371315074424,0.0,0.1532468443643734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322916365772785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869092789807788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189504776896754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105441596826244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871564005229218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841584548355457,0.0,0.08798489747736107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512337155717383,0.0,0.0,0.15310959338893607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437494203954852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739360378650616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18897849963648888,0.0,0.0,0.13696970505505413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537291448438405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351170876543373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741021200056934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153970498550551,0.0,0.14297462651646708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.516262991403315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622418692830338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319494367030008
parenting,lovestosnooj,2019/02/14,"Anxiety about being alone with my daughter for 2 weeks (10 month old) Hello everyone, I have had anxiety/panic attacks for years and have been on different medications since and they have helped. I now face a 2 week vacation at home with my baby girl who is 10 months old. 

I know my way around the house and how to take care of my child. I know how to make baby foods and baby formula of course. I have made lunch for her many times, fed her, done everything. 

I know everything there is to know to take care of her. But I don't understand why I have this anxiety.

If someone has been in a similar position please tell me what you did? 

Thank you",3.4218604651162785,4.8780495193798465,4.534023255813956,85.53219767441863,73.18604651162791,9.191007751937986,25.3031007751938,9.642632912329526,2.128236589147288,504,16,107,13,10,165,84,129,0.067,0.845,0.08800000000000001,0.5754,1,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,6,4,1,0,3,0,15,5,1,4,0,18,28,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,7,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,19,3,17,20,0,14,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,9,67,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996659259132225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22153945802727412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289005178884794,0.0,0.1647281161712207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952615038640188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128262060519282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817816573973894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383602636780089,0.26026940172140745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750897715728093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097054745206123,0.0,0.1452437481855582,0.0,0.0,0.16707693119334166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183077856151538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137010942363587,0.09665348864036223,0.1468019882850913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586829761280154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311520450700961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038813411913053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894422742631056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977802921537133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268649377725235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177394738430392,0.0,0.12655944044415698,0.13331012938455575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443261552502912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073935555459453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493355499544272,0.2322957202571463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065726657552126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324487448235892
parenting,nannygoatsteve3,2019/02/14,"How much would you recommend a FTM budget for a newborn? Wasn’t sure what sub to post this in and I thought if anyone would know it would be you all! How much money would you budget getting ready for a new born? I’m talking crib, diapers, clothing,  all the things. It doesn’t have to be a frugal budget, but a realistic one! We are financially secure and obviously know children are going to be thousands and thousands of dollars over the years. But I’m just talking how much you think you spent from getting the positive pregnancy test to bringing your little one home! Thanks so much!",4.431240079365079,6.338525437500002,4.961547619047618,81.65567460317463,71.41071428571429,7.477777777777778,29.408730158730158,8.167268648758528,2.13365753968254,467,19,85,7,9,149,71,112,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9526,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,6,0,0,5,3,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,3,4,23,24,10,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,4,0,1,4,0,6,2,2,0,0,4,3,0,8,3,10,14,6,9,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,1,3,64,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409872368519555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18545281791529253,0.0,0.10086644631695413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17802774441714336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507764640955472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788241857096146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5218753280282182,0.0,0.0,0.17141209255375978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24053120868054545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699775758856748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727358283853694,0.0,0.0,0.2853047382416051,0.0,0.16340050390306435,0.0,0.0,0.11791037785463912,0.11372255015680575,0.0,0.14089995502997893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5043091607358571,0.0,0.0,0.11429183624031936
parenting,Shshii,2019/02/14,"What do your kids (7-12 yo) doing in their free time? For parents with kids aged 9-12, what are your kids doing in their free time? 

What sort of entertainment do they engage in? YouTube? What sort of music do they listen to? Do they play video games? 

I’m doing market research for a school project and hope to learn more about children’s interactions with entertainment. 

Thanks! ",2.84257042253521,5.627044014084512,2.82899647887324,90.58743838028171,80.69014084507042,5.240140845070423,20.142605633802816,6.6274283507984215,0.21664647887324007,299,8,58,3,8,90,46,71,0.0,0.7120000000000001,0.28800000000000003,0.97,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,5,0,1,8,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,12,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,3,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,10,12,12,1,6,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,3,3,34,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253971925040516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4755749575982341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4334610927388697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943198469640199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994887663271376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tallglassofanxiety,2019/02/14,"Sister’s baby daddy drama Not sure if this is the right place to post, but here goes 🤷🏻‍♀️

A bit of back story, my (long story short, adopted) sister moved to Texas a few years ago to stay with some family. 

About halfway through, she realized she hates it there but ended up staying  because she had found a serious boyfriend. 
They move in together, get engaged... but a few months later the relationship is going south. He’s showing signs of being unfaithful, not pulling his weight, and just all-around being emotionally and verbally abusive... at this point she’s been on and off with him and is ready to leave for good...


...But then she finds out that she’s pregnant 


Now she’s only in the relationship because she has nowhere else to go. 

She wants to move back home with us in California.. but she doesn’t know whether that’s even possible and she’s scared the baby’s father will get her in trouble with the law for moving 

(keep in mind, they aren’t married and she’s only 15 weeks pregnant)

At this point I’m not even sure what advice to give her, I’d love to have her back home with her main support system; I’ve got two kids of my own and I know how hard it can be. 
But I have no idea what moving would do in her situation. 

It may not be ethical, but is it even legal? 
Any advice would be great, I worry for her :(",3.8012596096984055,4.820349228464423,4.651575004928052,86.74236546422237,71.69662921348315,7.5686181746501076,25.288586635127142,7.85451343220497,1.2041505617977526,1032,30,218,13,19,334,157,267,0.12,0.8079999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.8617,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,0,2,0,12,11,1,1,9,0,22,2,0,1,2,45,37,18,0,4,14,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,11,13,1,1,6,2,0,8,7,4,0,1,4,2,28,7,33,24,6,42,0,0,0,1,32,18,0,3,12,142,39,1,0.0,0.1145872521550972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18901061644776973,0.08572886390201713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576710138884108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609369322460605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22309540287356408,0.0,0.11790880278207792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558385376775446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079000551898978,0.10878736261027087,0.08565763793390686,0.0,0.0,0.1916309989736964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117094659160747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839251189634043,0.0,0.0,0.10603911154200814,0.0,0.0,0.10105548049594144,0.092774433888959,0.1099266898509322,0.08111697459762536,0.07734898016199508,0.10662471344447276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663446183369791,0.09548253320712627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940189365243348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917545365158636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596157909121704,0.0,0.0,0.1063001657970996,0.0,0.0,0.1024034599804754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08558658863228998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728585818071477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976509936975364,0.0,0.07719415554917569,0.5139448225182011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710682920954085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104287974906588,0.0,0.1828471575592567,0.10902762707457864,0.09262283419445297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076638049804516,0.0,0.0825910486367602,0.0,0.0,0.0968250314441551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870772021767858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061630725668386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974700572861856,0.18229879144513245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944730325073251,0.0,0.11633196483545462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057042918060250525,0.0,0.07757609047975404,0.11776849011431326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821517048490556,0.0,0.1374020765215468,0.0,0.0,0.06227900205487536
parenting,gutrvmc235,2019/02/14,"Aggressive toddler (20mo old girl)... So title basically sums it up. 

I'm looking for advice for my niece. Shes with me many, many times throughout the week and her behavior just worries me. I have a daughter that is pretty much the same age as her (23 months) and they are polar opposites. 

My daughter is calm, she listens when I ask her to something and has always been a good baby since the day she was born..

My niece. Not so much. I love her soo much but some of the things she does just frustrates me. In my opinion, she is just so aggressive. When her and my daughter play together, shes always taking toys from her or pushing her with her hands or her elbows. She will pull her by her hair if she wants her to go away. Shes very picky about what she likes. If she has a toy and is in the zone, she doesn't want anyone interrupting her. 

She doesnt do well with other kids in general. Her mom has tried taking her to the library for story time and putting her in gymnastics, but she gets bored easily and wants to do what she wants to do. She doesnt like to sit still... She will take toys from other kids and will cry if we take the toy back. Basically, she has to play alone and that's the way to keep her happy. And tantrums. She throws tantrums all the time and they last for such a long time. If she doesnt get what she wants then she'll cry, kick and scream. This list of things shes done could on and on forever. ..

Her mom is such a good parent. Shes patient with her and very attentive to her. She is very adamant in trying to not spoil her. She tries teaching her that she can't have whatever she wants or do what she wants, but still this behavior continues. Her pediatrician doesnt seem worried but I just am concerned.

We are at a loss of what to do, so I was hoping someone out there has had a similar experience and could share any tips or advice. ",2.6837954159592528,4.237243686842106,3.5369609507640085,91.53727504244483,75.28947368421052,6.903225806451613,22.784380305602717,7.601502580125103,0.7278115449915109,1451,40,323,19,31,462,175,380,0.109,0.795,0.096,-0.5421,1,1,1,0,0,0,50.0,2,0,2,1,19,20,5,0,16,0,43,4,3,0,1,58,65,35,0,14,18,6,2,2,0,4,0,2,0,3,15,22,0,1,2,6,0,5,8,8,1,0,5,5,69,12,38,54,6,37,0,1,1,1,69,11,0,12,21,228,84,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874488270164325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002307165761044,0.0,0.0,0.1607170717504714,0.0,0.0,0.0656746381264467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752782112022307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028503708516453,0.0,0.09073584254715143,0.07426058288509356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15421532475181354,0.0,0.2121672599288155,0.06228319512137905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451385337427864,0.09883024634872456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446935083913964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091340460674812,0.0,0.05488607087694344,0.1620058612926833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280639429273443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959212426004765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584072401511518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872190597214429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436380264158048,0.0,0.0,0.08546626076265558,0.08109908005880452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716314127457403,0.0,0.0,0.19582475723421933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262160699635445,0.07708562676640851,0.0,0.21298226979076926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133972053435687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723564162228708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825198268992257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708503174448664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791868988686917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988823505422296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182809081982953,0.07434852276878656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542506061877453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904509680265007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832091527684006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22525575615133744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967052346533143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23905465565155384,0.3987390420924651,0.07665712081957572,0.07746702472714999,0.0,0.08683295478491733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19615417568693014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yosemitescav,2019/02/14,"Finally found some common ground with the kiddo! Turns out, Minecraft and Animal Jam are *really* fun. I'm a younger step-parent and have struggled with navigating this role so far. I was the youngest growing up and wasn't around any other kids, so I've felt way out of my element here. My fiance has an 11 year old daughter who is the sweetest, and I've been spending time with her by doing crafts, but there hasn't been anything that's ""clicked"" yet-- it's always felt like I'm tolerating doing something to enjoy the time spent together rather than the activity. Until now! 

I played Minecraft when it was in beta back in 2011, and I can't believe it never occurred to me to play it with her. But she mentioned something about the PC edition (she only played on the Xbox so far) and I reminisced about playing back in the day and got mega brownie points for being a veteran player. So that opened the gate, and I've since bought her the PC edition and taught her how to install mods. I pay for her to have her own realm, and we build stuff and adventure together a couple nights a week. 

That sparked a common ground and now she's gotten me into playing animal jam (you play games, dress up your animal, do adventures, and trade items) She's teaching me what items are rare and what to trade for, and it's really actually fun! We even get on my fiance (big scary serious mountain man) to come play adventures with us. Yesterday, I gave her a small (cheap) laptop to build responsibility/ownership and the agreement is that if she takes good care of it, I'll buy her a better one come Christmas. 


I just wanted to share, it feels like SUCH a huge win because the whole step-parent thing has really been a challenge so far and I'm so so happy. ",5.372772727272729,6.0981214911764745,5.7425668449197875,81.41745989304815,67.91176470588235,8.88770053475936,28.983957219251337,8.97023862654752,2.185588235294118,1377,46,269,23,22,441,186,340,0.024,0.747,0.229,0.9975,2,0,2,0,0,0,45.0,3,2,0,3,23,25,0,1,22,0,20,0,0,1,1,44,40,30,0,3,5,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,18,31,0,0,4,9,8,3,4,2,0,1,15,4,31,23,35,24,5,44,0,0,1,0,27,21,0,2,21,173,49,11,0.0,0.0,0.14242186568469906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143844173491115,0.0,0.0,0.09924802174049664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010080438361552,0.1299225381145526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22444633590371585,0.0,0.08896709125679328,0.0,0.0,0.16443072843720666,0.0,0.12907703483000735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880127953683595,0.0,0.0,0.25143844592106523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148604519980808,0.0,0.09412284680690132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639570114672116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737944872655751,0.10426357531141192,0.2802613522159778,0.15987628561808614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600218319709897,0.0,0.0,0.076250559272476,0.0,0.0,0.12241225610339004,0.1167260393511195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536181921828615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260330933313706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256225424788782,0.0,0.0,0.13696007146633712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314537047627091,0.0,0.09889652468237768,0.11099821548499382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796577837097912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280489491116055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072771949204815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22471212677025448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257404322366638,0.16707281006018912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973293805494966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695978046072948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020412157153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15874691794560214,0.0,0.0,0.1755546030049439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608250405187691,0.11584483463794552,0.117068767695207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629430652445322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398418995804284
parenting,theweeping-weeb,2019/02/14,"Does anyone else live out of the unfolded mountain of laundry? Out of all the things going on in the house, there is so little time for laundry. It has its own spot in the house, so its not in the way. But good lord, my husband doesn’t even look for clean underwear in his closet anymore, he just goes straight to laundry mountain.  

At least everything is clean I guess.",4.740833333333335,5.827256972222222,4.612111111111112,87.64399999999998,69.55555555555556,7.426666666666668,29.677777777777766,7.554174236665415,1.6862911111111116,290,11,58,3,5,89,52,72,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,7,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,14,7,3,13,1,0,1,0,3,10,0,1,1,40,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24270682784953454,0.1711212085560782,0.25075524883382844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416525054747648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20444087309446568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16164214245097638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199479322752124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390859445122002,0.20526827548764207,0.0,0.0,0.2695981623722221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5647721215603937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24528418619322495,0.21610145542302836,0.0,0.20551192622876865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625880247646472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270428316576628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425562592521814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HayleyBean93,2019/02/15,"Sleep training my 6M old. Are you considering sleep training using controlled crying? I didn't want to do it, but after a night where I gave up, cried, and coslept on the couch, I had to do it. I started yesterday morning, so I've successfully been though 2 days (6 naps, 2 bedtimes, 1 overnight). Read below to hear how it's working for me! 

My girl is the Jekyll and Hyde of sleep. She's been sleeping in her crib from day 1, and after a couple weeks of typical newborn sleep (waking up every 2-3 hours to eat), she would sleep 9pm-9am, waking up only once or twice. ""Awesome,"" I thought, ""I'm lucky, this should be easy.""

At around 3 months, she was refusing to sleep at night. It would often take over an hour to get her to sleep, bouncing and rocking. She's a big baby, so my back was constantly aching and I developed Mommy Thumb (a type of tendonitis in the wrist). Picking my daughter up became quite painful. 

By month 4, it hit a peak when she started her 4 month regression. Not only was she waking up every couple hours, but few times she would also wake up at night totally awake and would take hours to get her back down again. went to my good friend Google and realized that she was probably overtired! Her naps were sporadic and usually 2 30min ones per day, which is not nearly enough for a 4 month old. So, I started a nap schedule. 

In order to get her to sleep, I had to bounce her for naps. Because of my Mommy Thumb, I needed to relax my wrist, so I bounced her in a wareable carrier. 

Within a week, she was going down to sleep at 7pm, waking at 12 and 4 for food, then up at 7am. Some nights she only woke at 3/4, and twice she slept totally through! I thought I was a genius! 

She was so dependant on bouncing though. My back was killing me. She's a 20lb baby, after all. I had to use the carrier, she only napped on me, so it was hard to get anything done. 

Two weeks later, night sleep was once again awful. Every night, I'd put her down around 7pm, and she would wake up two or three (sometimes more) times before settling down at 9pm or 10pm. She had learned how to roll onto her front, so that kept waking her up.

Things got a little better since she realized she likes sleeping that way, and then worse again. She started waking back up immediately after putting her in her crib! Three days ago, she woke up 6 or 7 times. I gave up. I brought her downstairs onto the sofa (I asked my husband to leave the bed, but he was half asleep because this happened until 1am, and he didn't understand I wanted to bring the baby in bed - he thought I was asking so he wouldn't have to listen to her crying). I coslept with her on the sofa. Luckily we have a very deep sofa with removable pillows. She slept great...but me? Not so much. 

I decided it was time to try the Ferber method. I needed her to sleep better at night and to nap in her crib. We had tried controlled crying about a month ago (at 5 months old), but I think she was too young and it was heartbreaking. She turned red from crying so hard. My husband felt terrible too. My husband hates hearing her cry (but of course he's not the one that wakes up multiple times a night... I do all the night waking). 

Despite most recommendations to start sleep training at night time, I knew it would be hard for my husband, so I did it during the day. Nap times were already established. Yesterday, I put her down for her morning nap in her crib. I gave her a lovie blanket toy, turned on some music, gave her a kiss and said ""have a good nap, Mommy loves you."" I left, and shut the door behind me. She cried instantly. 

10 minutes, I went in and I repositioned her (she travels around a lot in her crib). Gave her her toy back, kissed her, and walked out again.  More crying. 15 minutes in, I went back in and did the same. I watched the clock, waiting for the 20 minute mark, knowing I'd likely have to go back again because she was still crying. 

The crying slowed, and then stopped. I looked at the clock, and it had been 15 more minutes. I looked at the baby monitor... Sleep. She was asleep. Hallelujah! 
She slept for 45 minutes. I waited to see if she'd get back to sleep, but after 10 minutes it was evident that it wasn't happening. 

All the following naps (three yesterday and three today, and last night and tonight so far), she's got to sleep progressively faster. 

I already feel much happier. I was starting to become depressed. I felt too attached, like I wasn't even a human being, but just a baby-feeder and bouncer. I was going through the motions. Every day was blending into one. Since she only slept on me during the day and wouldn't sleep consistently at night until after 9 (waking up multiple times between 7-9), my only free time was between 10-12, and by then I was so tired that I couldn't do much anyway. I wanted to draw, read, write, play, bake, cook... I wanted to clean the house! I needed time to myself to feel normal again. 

The last two days, sleep training her... I feel NORMAL again. I love my baby girl to the moon and back, and I want to give her all the love and attention I can. A happy mom means a happy baby. 

...

I know sleep training is controversial. I think some people have the wrong idea of ""cry it out"" and think that you just shut your baby in their room hungry and with a dirty diaper and leave them to cry until they pass out from lack of oxygen or something! That's not the case. Make sure they're fed and have a dry diaper. Give them a kiss. Watch them on the monitor to make sure they're safe. Go in to console them if they need it. I started at 10 minutes, but some people start at check ins at 2 or 3 minutes. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. If they're so distressed that they're vomitting or their voice starts to become hoarse, by all means go to them and pick them up, and try again next sleep time. 

I am amazed by what has been achieved in just a couple days. Not only is she napping in her crib, but she's napping longer than 30-45 minute capnap bursts. I'd say, it's been a success.

I didn't want to do this, but I'm so glad I did. If you're feeling how I was feeling, this might be worth it for you to try. I think it helped that I already had a nap time established. Otherwise, it might've been more difficult. If you are happy with however your baby currently sleeps, whether that's cuddling you, cosleeping, 4-5 nightly feedings... That's fine too. Whatever works for you. 😊

...

TLDR (Because I know that was long AF); 

Baby was having trouble getting to sleep and staying asleep, as well as refusing to nap in crib. Started sleep training (controlled crying) yesterday at nap times, and after 40 minutes of crying the first time, she is now already sleeping about 5 minutes after setting her down and only woke once at night for food and is now taking longer naps. I was feeling pretty crappy before, depressed and sleep deprived, and feel much better today. Even though I was reluctant (nobody wants to hear their baby cry), it was definitely worth it for me.",3.068357759473237,4.710365226387894,3.923595332129576,88.79428479369112,74.45782263878877,6.582409351053719,24.531005353120953,7.22189234796243,0.9568148088125517,5407,170,1111,58,113,1731,451,1387,0.105,0.784,0.111,0.9432,3,0,2,0,0,0,250.0,2,10,11,14,61,44,2,1,60,1,93,64,47,14,9,183,204,98,1,29,32,6,13,3,1,10,3,7,11,4,41,56,7,10,30,25,4,22,14,12,1,14,80,26,173,33,176,107,25,237,0,4,6,7,128,87,0,22,127,713,214,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04158826918960929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354610945500108,0.018759383868251583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019303965855704174,0.06264787948394203,0.04386019634679042,0.0,0.0,0.16234004361018614,0.0,0.0571992069733964,0.05181511815102998,0.039922123770679885,0.0,0.0,0.062240182800655526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02534980458546787,0.07893055016870974,0.0,0.0778676159258531,0.3865132852825508,0.13615644019158404,0.0,0.040408746122219744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024005716505204812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024003428354055303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02423842314918701,0.0,0.03098762465618968,0.0,0.07905763228849713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488870752031003,0.0,0.045046788833903804,0.0,0.0,0.01995339445299733,0.05673110337619345,0.0,0.018123621345293883,0.0,0.07353513743202021,0.045006173590466235,0.06665871563789166,0.0393509772772501,0.037523070551773764,0.025862568819656026,0.0,0.0,0.041487729637189406,0.07491455037779146,0.06304138109111206,0.02315995519585056,0.0,0.0,0.07931673838486937,0.0,0.0157234278564041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240576549421667,0.02706742538459793,0.0,0.026481268669029067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02595284255692258,0.0,0.03867577128214332,0.03824286242996042,0.0,0.04967734862884597,0.02548722604770901,0.0,0.0,0.034381236184120555,0.02351111591508322,0.0,0.02075962473460633,0.03939768636931451,0.0,0.0,0.01994318435431547,0.06351538328936518,0.0,0.04697526594332757,0.0,0.0,0.05110535892530554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049770540838226386,0.0,0.02747376964590815,0.11234388890932756,0.0,0.06897742581343856,0.06957534937220958,0.0,0.0,0.02494788868060447,0.3081929034072584,0.0459677916729006,0.0,0.0,0.07384579190303261,0.07494613206975456,0.047687319302672414,0.14272715476058734,0.024961005488167702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03252569869486485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02386525714209161,0.02529173165476723,0.0,0.0,0.07074541959756127,0.0,0.024950510061847668,0.046928770542439824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0223139652072044,0.018654772712708254,0.0,0.0,0.018693018520671574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03880946154977568,0.0,0.6103494359851868,0.0,0.0,0.018059143087335718,0.023200598604538804,0.0,0.16603719463206162,0.02500314645679359,0.018733618804476413,0.01961196947489416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0442178448802599,0.0,0.05291257374162511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.015584477564463656,0.06012385215751735,0.06914220731809452,0.055869183729672464,0.19149998184655115,0.0269615629369158,0.04447095276572997,0.0,0.0,0.06370586971273823,0.05103121664251295,0.06874528125493272,0.024420644010242437,0.0,0.040520424786054866,0.025835713841784805,0.019355337408791216,0.09685310679337568,0.01861989804221223,0.05644986740819715,0.0,0.02109159263370484,0.06523750648236014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03415546092105733,0.0,0.023905743976061218,0.09998349946851906,0.02564768116639908,0.0,0.0
parenting,SeraphimSkies,2019/02/15,"Tips for interacting with special needs kids I’m 22 and I’ve just started to be around young kids and learn how to interact and play with them for about a year. While this might sound weird, I just don’t have “motherly” instincts; I never babysat, I didn’t know any families that had younger children, etc. 

I’ve gotten better this last year with my husband and his adorable niece and nephews. They seem to really love me and even demand to give me hugs and send me pictures or videos when they see my husband without me. 

My issue is that I don’t have any experience with special needs kids. I mean, I’m kind to them when I see them in public (smile really big, say hi, compliment them on something) but I panic on the inside and I’m terrified of being around them any longer than a polite greeting. 

What are some tips on interacting with special needs kids? I really want to get better, ESPECIALLY because I’m wanting to have some children if my own in a couple years and I want to be prepared if they do have special needs. ",3.902145522388061,5.626670542288559,4.5143501243781134,85.07212220149256,72.43283582089552,7.4130597014925375,27.48787313432836,8.07648339933343,1.7297783582089554,813,30,159,12,16,259,110,201,0.059,0.7559999999999999,0.184,0.966,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,8,2,9,14,0,1,4,0,15,2,0,1,1,39,36,17,0,9,7,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,6,5,16,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,2,0,0,3,4,26,12,26,29,4,19,0,0,2,2,28,8,0,7,10,101,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28739117781764906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508099782007324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587360800719887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491777697829869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587099845823327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710831827072225,0.0930439169912791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779879508969886,0.13280057034796725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359924377424566,0.1351362269973148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703264567487825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669538997711604,0.07741897596595639,0.11482860519066572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714150925331888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344973441537565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944178915753087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178160219411356,0.10864834132645312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528167746563727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707365641607353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202621324030412,0.0,0.0,0.22451177627858548,0.1282435988461991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844931994592644,0.0,0.0,0.09970916536014356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24926796318063976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579454414613168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721487700672072
parenting,lilmixedvegan,2019/02/15,"I’m not sure what to do about my kids I have a 3 and 4 year old. They’re biological mother is a sociopathic drug addict. The 4 year old still has bad memories of the hell she went through. She saw exactly what kind of human her mother was. I’ve had her for almost a year. It’s a very complicated situation. The 4 year old is VERY deceiving. She has the mind of a 10 year old and taught herself to read. She lies about everything. She destroys just about everything she touches. She gets into everything which is normal 4 year old behavior and the same goes for my 3 year old. Honestly is the most important thing to me because it’s everything her mother is not. She doesn’t see her anymore and doesn’t want to. We finally undid the brainwashing her mother did (mostly). She just keeps lying and being a bully to all the other kids. I just don’t know what to do. It’s driving me to the point where I just want to cry. Timeouts for long periods of time doesn’t help anyone. Taking things away doesn’t make her truthful side come out. If she does something wrong and is honest about it she doesn’t get into any trouble except or a small lecture. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Don’t even get me started on the 3 year old peeing on herself. I’m not sure if that’s normal but she will pee in anything I put her in. If anyone has a similar story or advice literally anything will do at this point. Just tell me what I’m doing wrong. Thanks for reading this. 
Tldr: my 4 year old keeps lying and I don’t know what to do and my 3 year old does the same aside from peeing in everything",1.4825227737497642,3.6413874233128847,3.3927886224205253,88.33318367726345,81.20858895705521,6.405502881576504,21.228481130321626,7.576466943178032,0.8279296523517372,1244,37,260,20,33,418,145,326,0.119,0.831,0.05,-0.9614,0,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,0,12,14,2,0,19,0,31,5,3,1,5,49,54,14,0,7,15,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,17,13,0,2,3,2,0,4,12,7,0,0,6,3,36,7,34,45,5,44,1,0,2,0,31,15,1,8,25,167,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319977063091106,0.0,0.06561493903619962,0.0,0.0,0.0672376806857552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045662031364347586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659144388482058,0.09390101183415564,0.0,0.11051195984514713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308649741291995,0.0,0.05606465639105723,0.04093198070974609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057840902027600685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375745305748385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752098933740952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786880795872515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0443497356618227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017354418798484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355588393889041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524407543817572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04500699081431347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936607324032066,0.0,0.06992291359469405,0.11070614491501866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05942268112728825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044820916959490364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779898524968564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157894044929067,0.0,0.0,0.6341321195750222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695059485728252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750093934267531,0.0,0.0,0.1343296617009855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350719452113567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547565918677676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051692779365222576,0.0,0.0,0.047526751557523235,0.0,0.05362340942140747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656986482397534,0.0,0.05048593182308854,0.0,0.05868914045817795,0.061819623099552676,0.0,0.0,0.08921851456252375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03915375743136471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080605335185836,0.07920967956854537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062245626543502464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22024299558720173,0.0,0.4324024755715478
parenting,kg51,2019/02/15,"Parenting your parent We see my parents too much, specifically my mom.

We eat dinner at their house twice a week and then another two nights we go to the gym and she comes with too. We have similar interests (active, outdoorsy) so it's natural that she wants to do things with our family. My dad/her husband does not share those interests with her.

4 out of 7 days a week is about my maximum, but then if we want to go do something we know she'll feel bad if she's left out. I feel like talking to her about needing a little space will just make her feel bad, but so will distancing ourselves without an explanation. As I age I can see her insecurities, and getting ""dumped"" by us would hurt. So we're left with awkwardly not talking about when we do things and lying by omission. I'm trying to come up with a way to drop 1 night of dinner but it's hard when our kid really enjoys going to grandma and grandpa's.

It's just...so much. Has anyone else been here and eventually cut the umbilical cord? ",1.8186547619047642,4.170946775000001,3.5232857142857164,86.76533333333336,81.25,7.00952380952381,23.023809523809533,8.11559375814309,1.3839809523809523,785,27,161,16,21,261,123,200,0.159,0.773,0.068,-0.9691,3,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,10,1,1,0,12,12,2,2,7,0,12,3,0,1,0,40,29,19,0,6,9,6,4,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,22,3,0,4,1,0,5,3,7,0,2,1,6,27,5,25,24,2,25,0,1,2,0,30,8,0,2,11,105,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314019045021515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762196182620044,0.1283982682592892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926271554016995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215892596276026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081670124707913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966249926770452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822677399021304,0.10468316890204707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813421152404074,0.0,0.1900864848443816,0.08952383510224299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547101875582619,0.0,0.21365528136651574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225608839379557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14459470481021594,0.13415046227382332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688689036407961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27230649937594525,0.0,0.0,0.061221740726056774,0.12559683151226786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364759011917793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676540363659601,0.0,0.0,0.184239364888728,0.09291821222001796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351960560900075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174367160421616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027889853698936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19971692590654985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647228824816982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20144414173392736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650515525849144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507949403116358,0.0,0.12241286969993218,0.0,0.15073645119029538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782604327371274,0.09946785195691367,0.2010375152293745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079753392576725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901896151384826,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrM4son1,2019/02/15,"Has anybody gone through having a parent commit suicide? My on and off boyfriend of 10 years, and the father to my 10 month old ended his life just over two weeks ago. I'm clearly just learning to deal with this myself, I had only ever been to one funeral in my life and that was close to 15 years ago. So I'm struggling to figure out how I'll approach things once my daughter is old enough to start asking questions. I also have a 7 year old son, so I'm scared she isn't going to understand why her brother has a dad while she doesn't. 

I guess I'm just looking for input on how something so terrible had an effect on other people as children. Because I'm still having a hard time wrapping my ""adult"" mind around it. Maybe hearing some first hand experiences and stories will help me figure out how to best respond to certain questions or worries she has in the future, and give me a bit of insight on what's possibly to come. Any advice based on how you wish things were approached when you were younger, now that you're older and have had time to contemplate the past? Maybe somebody has gone through something similar with their spouse or ex and is able to provide somewhat of an idea on what to expect as my daughter grows up?",8.578122205663192,6.4811382131147575,7.955991058122205,77.53029061102833,62.360655737704924,10.02026825633383,37.75558867362146,7.686295010490155,2.8893327868852463,980,38,188,7,11,308,150,244,0.087,0.835,0.078,-0.4919,1,0,2,0,0,2,17.0,0,2,1,3,16,5,0,2,10,0,20,3,1,5,4,42,37,21,2,2,5,9,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,9,14,0,0,9,0,0,7,2,3,0,3,9,4,20,2,37,27,5,45,0,0,1,0,27,15,0,7,23,128,29,1,0.11798231525303833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529095298926614,0.2091684076525275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943504148820183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023202015804705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502927427860344,0.11029753831974204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192092430599342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381516092765647,0.0,0.12880613110457234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163131772235352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163458643980453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044973123077306,0.12190727031723432,0.0,0.0,0.1067217587613955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540934334880296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035569708294073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317938745576706,0.06705206866182364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997082169505664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568898037829873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13297464398366401,0.0,0.07908105895364231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318767306391033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666879682961305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990754302071572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370581871453428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11912850542814725,0.0,0.09417235841803034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3714077792892721,0.12564731521826414,0.07994787022177696,0.08973086723667636,0.0,0.0,0.13100539882283396,0.0,0.11262746988626315,0.08179408203756855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330073332791864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26433438920941343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812087974959913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816571007523889,0.0,0.0,0.08350848998774453,0.0,0.094220829365046,0.0,0.0,0.123340732609495,0.0,0.12905350358218226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676441553234197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375928736253857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152515785013086,0.12282375104823715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463829671243756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064606885406433,0.0,0.1356738399361875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981676813732885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279302284624162
parenting,SQUN-g,2019/02/15,"must useful thing you can teach boys entering middle school FLEX YOUR RIGHT THIGH

never first thing in the morning that is a gauge on male health if it doesn't happen in the morning for over a week get a check-up from your Dr.

but in gym & class this will save a lot of embarrassment when the teacher calls on you to answer the question on the black board showing your work

it will save the trouble of calling over the teacher to whisper to them why you can't get up from your desk at the moment

just flex your right thigh a small number of times it will redirect blood flow  and usually fixes the issue in less than 10 seconds",28.947380952380954,7.295626119047617,23.402222222222232,39.49000000000002,53.682539682539684,26.46984126984127,74.1111111111111,11.20814326018867,9.040901587301589,505,14,103,4,2,154,83,126,0.056,0.852,0.091,0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,8,1,2,2,4,0,1,14,0,8,5,3,1,2,12,12,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,2,7,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,3,2,0,2,0,2,9,2,21,8,2,24,0,0,1,0,14,15,0,3,7,69,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272763777090327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42837966248431697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784229306132209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918333669280532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549130384289966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229665479802336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893639274774665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17833163207587382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178091483600224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23498076220635666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582701607537239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122897246349436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27871229285600585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231355297869295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116649167266055,0.2310225354886096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682579339140181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892770275794522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152708789683275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CrypticFlam1ngo,2019/02/15,"How to make more time for each other? My husband and I have two kids, a 3 y/o and a 4 m/o. I'm a SAHM, and he works your normal 40 hours a week. It's been really difficult trying to spend more time with each other lately. It's starting to affect our marriage. I have a good schedule for our toddler, but with the odd hours he works we don't really get the chance to just be a couple. I've planned dates and kid free time as much as possible, but it feels like I'm the only one putting the effort in. He knows my feelings on this and wants to work on it. I'm curious what other parents do to maintain the flame in their relationships. So what are some ways we can spend quality time together? How can we make those few hours a day better than just eating and watching a show together before bed? ",3.647136635819269,4.079720191616769,5.027915078933044,86.05539466521503,71.63473053892216,8.228415895481763,25.96026129559064,8.296473431620573,1.4411844311377244,620,18,136,9,11,208,102,167,0.03,0.848,0.122,0.9436,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,1,1,6,5,5,0,0,13,0,9,1,0,5,0,28,20,13,0,2,4,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,11,13,1,0,3,1,3,1,1,1,0,2,1,3,11,5,17,18,7,19,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,1,14,83,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189654725099667,0.0,0.0,0.13708798424373878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150840541921455,0.0,0.09996442323790243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860725948711976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567488363962035,0.11073451902819707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098292218974475,0.0,0.0,0.1300095672173034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4579416222236554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518586041307492,0.0,0.1748506799875945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572687212993434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069320566782302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394539473042888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518705027126228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503437141450753,0.1178871333349879,0.0,0.0,0.1721130241380105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747431370685079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582131238542932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985984002462429,0.0,0.0,0.1664157320100383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971226286961476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615351091221837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523719007282807,0.0,0.15141587973305812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914250701115568,0.12303454976696797,0.1243344441741352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385331445139012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JoeBoy89,2019/02/15,"Need help with getting your kids to listen to you? Hello parents of Reddit! I'm here to offer my services (free of charge!) If you need help getting little Johnny to bed, or getting little Suzy to brush her teeth, just let me know your child's name, age and problem and I will make you a personalized video posing as a professional in whatever you need your kids to do. I made a video pretending to be the dentist to get my nephew to brush his teeth (though I had to disguise myself to do so, it looks terrifying) and now my sister has friends asking me for personalized videos for their kids. Let me know if you're interested, it's fun and free and might make your life a little easier. Happy parenting!",6.247536496350364,6.334224583941609,6.678531021897813,77.68232208029198,65.93430656934306,9.477737226277373,29.53375912408759,9.188382445141503,2.314942335766424,556,17,107,9,8,181,83,137,0.032,0.789,0.17800000000000002,0.9652,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,8,1,0,5,7,0,0,5,0,9,4,2,3,0,21,25,11,0,6,4,4,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,6,2,6,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,21,8,18,18,0,6,0,0,1,0,29,4,0,4,2,68,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253626728675792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779579443063015,0.0,0.31863131425146674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230418869822752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20439112473498733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758399132266238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31181612079014404,0.10769210507854077,0.0,0.4584366210928941,0.0,0.0,0.12803406328634476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426816819321964,0.20354610391082287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617436241240873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391575307692118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385936046639314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26625698767987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589053649716088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497982675858759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LittleLilacButterfly,2019/02/15,"Need advice regarding my daughter Hello there, I hope you're all well. 😊

There's been a lot of changes in our lives lately, things that absolutely are a big deal to little children...I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant, we have also recently moved house to somewhere bigger. This also includes being moved to her own room as my son and daughter used to share a room. 

I have a 5 year old and 3 year old. I'm not sure if this is just a phase in general, but I'm worried that my 3 year old daughter is regressing because of these huge changes.

She's started to act like a baby, crawling around and using baby talk. Not doing anything herself anymore and she's become incredibly clingy. She seems to have become very sensitive too, and cries and screams most of the day out of frustration. Even the smallest thing sets her off. 

My daughter has also become worried about being lost and me not being able to find her. I'm not sure where this has come from... 

I'm so worried about her, I know at the moment she seems on shaky ground :( I feel like every attempt to reassure her aren't working. 

Moving house and becoming a big sister are really big changes and I could really use advice on how to help her with these changes. 

Thank you so much for reading

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parenting,phantasypants,2019/02/15,"Teaching kids about saving and earning interest Apologies if this has been asked before – I searched and didn't find this exact topic discussed.

My oldest is 6, so this is pretty early, but I'm starting to think about how to teach them financial smarts from an early age. My current plan is to give them a fairly *small* allowance, but let them earn interest on what they've saved. This might teach them the value of saving, and of not spending their *entire* savings when they do buy something.

This week, I started giving them 1% interest (per week). That makes the math really easy: my son counted up all his loose change, which was a nice learning exercise to begin with. He $6, so I gave him 6 cents (plus 50 cents regular allowance). He was thrilled at the extra money. Each week, I'll explain how I am calculating the ""extra money"", and I imagine he'll catch on eventually. When he goes to spend money, I'll remind him that this will reduce the amount of interest he earns. I'll try not to be judgmental about the phrasing – I want him to legitimately have the choice, and to learn from seeing what happens.

Over time, I would presumably reduce the interest rate so that it slowly come closer to the rates one might get at a real bank, so that (1) I'm not paying them hundreds of dollars per week by the time they're teenagers, and (2) they have semi-realistic expectations for adulthood. But for now, a stupid high interest rate is beneficial since it reinforces the value of earning interest.

**Any thoughts or concerns about this scheme?** 

EDIT: I should add that they spend half their time with their mom, and she will be doing something totally different with them. If they're smart, they'll earn money for doing chores at her house, and then bring it to my house to earn interest. But I won't suggest that, I'll let them think of it on their own. ",5.818725380899291,6.751431675213678,5.8933630620587145,79.9913712374582,67.00569800569801,8.725430447169577,29.790784095131922,8.841846274778883,2.3137114083983645,1462,51,270,23,23,462,186,351,0.02,0.7959999999999999,0.184,0.9961,2,0,2,0,0,0,59.0,0,0,16,7,13,17,1,0,16,0,27,1,0,5,3,53,48,25,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,1,20,15,0,0,9,1,13,3,5,1,0,2,6,1,35,16,39,29,7,33,0,0,1,0,38,11,0,5,19,172,55,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930918128071814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279763088368966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648570837907825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481445370133075,0.11792104431771053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302386221167065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511755873745795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152084913889896,0.2626401361927313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105386986894215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463478174702016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159118726282169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799643693087636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137702127498663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904433010254108,0.0,0.1603272179321098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927621185950162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926921322192234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581400040636215,0.08769704673016182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908585508283317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132391564738448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21077356378444087,0.0,0.0,0.19378688714146228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754307849271042,0.0,0.10867760911543198,0.2394699150645508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294123985011628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074293283269485,0.0,0.43922865631901226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724473267596476,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1998hoho,2019/02/15,"Sister blames her parents for her misfortunes My sister is a cs major and my dad does her projects. Its not really her fault as she didnt want to do this major but she esp hates cs. She wanted to be an econ major and now is ectremely depressed. She gets pissed when she sees an indian girl being able to study finance or biology and is like not all indians are forced into engineering. She throws things and gets violent in the house. Im a cs major too but i love it thats why im in it but for my sister idk if it is her fault or my parents. Shes also body dysmorphic and the first thing she wants with her salary is plastic surgery. She also thinks the reason why our parents forced her into cs was bc they think shes ugly which she isnt shes just a bit short and dark and maybe has a messed up teeth all due to her tantrums and teeth grinding. Shes like oh i know why i wasnt allowed to get a business degree bc im not fair skinned like all the other indian girls in business bc they can get a rich husband while i cant. My sister does well in her ge courses but fails her cs courses by a small margin. But this is with help from our dad so yea.


She also has many scars on her body like extremely darkened and crusty. Her eyelids are the darkest ive ever seen and she blames my parents. This hapoened due to eczema and i guess she thinks parents didnt take care of her. Im perfectly light skinner with even tone bc i was lucky not bc parent took care of me more. She also wants to get laser surgery to get her eczema scars removed which i think is stupids its such a waste of money also it probably wont work bc her skin is senisitive. ",1.449533596837945,3.40576731304348,2.8524901185770766,93.2323320158103,80.21739130434783,5.805006587615284,21.46903820816864,6.850034144686104,0.3760144927536229,1293,38,286,14,33,420,167,345,0.18,0.708,0.111,-0.9809,8,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,2,4,14,21,5,0,15,1,29,8,7,2,5,47,53,28,0,5,13,13,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,15,16,0,0,6,0,4,3,10,10,1,1,7,5,51,11,27,43,9,20,0,2,2,1,53,10,1,5,11,175,66,6,0.0831858211071637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33261835542594714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081737171024787,0.18480138869815665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962697732621385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164782582622238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559294526047006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054943450297117793,0.07524633766956614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075781693825703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607669489620526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163856040193807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212877632958647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575770240627945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959852688155329,0.0,0.0,0.3594198462172317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0457167517833323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256156125933702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507845134051072,0.0,0.0,0.08433736607176055,0.08357133823644466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.55420805976775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968838473549623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329096709593613,0.0855288786771053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628832931784395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254538486941551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052992644257036,0.2132084610769265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242250805336293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962606102372488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479404339083744,0.0,0.2251867944673012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060560268504362885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burnedoutworker,2019/02/15,"My brother and sister-in-law don't discipline my 2-year-old nephew and he's turning into a monster First of all, I don't pretend to know the stresses of being a parent because I'm not one. But my brother and sister-in-law don't discipline my nephew and he's turning into a little tyrant. My sister-in-law doesn't do anything to discipline him and has no follow through when she threatens to do something. She gives in to his tantrums and lets him do whatever he wants. My brother thinks that yelling is a sufficient means of discipline, so he just yells constantly at my nephew rather than giving him warnings and putting him in time out or giving him a spanking. 

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I love them all so much and I hate seeing my sweet baby nephew ruling the roost and being a tiny monster. Is there anything I can do or do I just sit back and watch it happen?",6.910368178829717,6.282114106508878,6.814990138067063,79.647744904668,64.73964497041419,9.16791584483892,35.34582511505589,8.167268648758528,2.7189639710716635,680,28,129,7,9,216,91,169,0.101,0.8170000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.4884,1,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,1,1,8,5,2,1,8,0,16,1,0,0,2,30,31,16,0,2,7,8,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,13,0,4,3,1,0,2,6,3,0,2,0,5,22,2,15,28,3,15,0,0,2,1,25,7,0,2,5,91,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761859712251835,0.19919346566707333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698016201338406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12605241357606586,0.0,0.09993049373344866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17715060206694513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943917511119866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717711366215679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496317434793946,0.0,0.0,0.16184740174054002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009189985318254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676300134942223,0.0,0.0,0.1643013982841658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795365058650947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856834106830086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050775845904965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201745351562345,0.0,0.1110835298808038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820253884726868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479540151788952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306313614458345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620168569538456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877818009669176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050400267621197,0.0,0.0,0.09558917608656893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35661855782558216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669043924214854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19919346566707333,0.10556584882085053
parenting,OliverW4,2019/02/15,"Mandatory school uniforms? Should school uniforms be mandatory? I get that in theory they are supposed to prevent bullying on socio-economic lines, but honestly, children and teens can tell when a child is from a lower socio-economic class by looking at the condition of their school uniform. Curious to hear what parents think. ",8.395545454545456,10.698304145454543,7.794318181818182,63.67147727272729,62.09090909090909,12.045454545454547,42.84090909090909,11.698219412168324,6.2825454545454535,268,16,35,9,4,84,47,55,0.08900000000000001,0.73,0.181,0.5283,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,9,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,8,7,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,1,24,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026470634013916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025856592080541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22544752489983835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981046143465598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8151191509603508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346549680097851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202499569763355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ForeverAlways4u,2019/02/15,Don't know what to do anymore. I have 3 Kids a boy 6 girl 5 and boy 14 months. My issue is with my daughter. She doesn't listen to anything. She refuses to clean her room and makes her brother clean it when she's the one that destroys the room. I've tried time outs and spanking or taking toys away. Nothing works. If I take toys away she comes at me screaming hitting calling me names. I just don't know how to handle anything with her. I feel broken defeated all the time when I'm stuck at home with her. She goes to pre school 4 days a week. Everyone says she's so sweet nice quiet but when she's with me she's so mean. She can be nice to me but if she doesn't get her way or you ask or to just clean her room all hell breaks lose. I have no problems with my 2 boys. Nothing I can't handle with them. I'm so tired I wanna give up.,-0.6186140089418757,1.4305809016393454,1.1950745156482867,101.31007824143072,89.71038251366119,3.98301043219076,17.061351217088927,5.238671369647483,-0.8741453551912568,647,16,159,3,22,210,103,183,0.166,0.75,0.084,-0.9457,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,3,9,9,2,0,5,0,11,1,0,2,2,32,27,17,0,4,9,2,1,0,0,0,1,4,7,5,3,11,0,1,4,2,0,1,6,6,0,1,1,6,32,3,20,24,2,20,1,2,0,0,32,9,1,5,8,94,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158811630605256,0.0,0.0,0.28475939119021565,0.0,0.16174918281759154,0.0,0.3251136369456951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667149646899274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14904033979988954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158278535842847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653268377259376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748348262439293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903951599149567,0.16597535821422044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355192125726862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058663155925891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901731690168183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935637336017278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549136440848445,0.0,0.0,0.1884681495360607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138101921857628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320323290864985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724198811121328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555558461315265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375914607436212,0.0,0.17510422002173814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601771469759113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20177725821870665,0.1988596101143684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746837936207065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733423665783906,0.13878521125385476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595971639200118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Operator404,2019/02/15,"Things to do with an 11 year old? Hi!

We have my step daughter every other weekend. Normally we tend to do a lot of painting and drawing with her around the house. When we have extra funds, we like to take her roller skating, bowling, see movies, and swimming in the summer. Her extended family lives close by so occasionally we will swing by and spend the day with them, too.

Our rules are no screens until 5:00 or after (but she is allowed to watch or play games if she wakes up before us before breakfast).

We are having trouble coming up with things to do around or outside of the house that are cheap or free! We live in an apartment in a place that doesn't necessarily have high crime but also isn't safe enough for us to be comfortable free-ranging outdoors (and she does not have any friends where we live anyways). She is starting to grow out of the age where she enjoys parks too...

Any suggestions are welcome!",4.670065189048239,6.110254389830513,4.653333333333336,85.95097783572363,70.07344632768363,7.028074750108647,27.739678400695357,7.321109707123232,1.3937521946979574,725,25,141,7,13,224,113,177,0.063,0.836,0.101,0.8495,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,11,0,1,0,10,9,0,0,9,0,18,2,1,1,0,33,23,15,0,2,8,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,21,1,1,0,5,4,4,4,1,0,0,0,3,21,9,27,21,3,28,0,0,3,0,26,14,0,6,11,104,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249148294972679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21244568199930355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781061197269615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658331061940198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455434976884206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007374859011878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366935831752804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613986107554138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316070763188628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472535167139243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068141928967477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650361826808025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604726946890074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631249665068726,0.0,0.4137881686546316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327975103419046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304497470474446,0.0,0.0,0.1639079152677556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319803553867848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447291647199454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056070926065936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744460218978292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075475795410987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757839875238974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005890847124133
parenting,Morally_Inept,2019/02/15,"Do you charge your adult child rent? My son is graduating high school this year.  He has no motivation or ambition.  Don't get me wrong, he's a great kid.  I just don't see him doing much with his life right now.  He doesn't plan on going to college.  He has been working at McDonald's for a couple of years and hates it, but he won't look for another job.  He has a car that will need to be replaced this year.  I have given him responsibilities around the house and he completes the chores once or twice then forgets about them until I remind him ...  Again.  I probably reminded him a dozen times in the last year.  Lately I've just given up and taken over what I expected him to do because I'm tried of it

Since he will probably live with me for a while and he doesn't help out or want to take college courses I want to charge him rent.  My parents charged me $50/ week more than 20 years ago. What is a fair amount these days?

I know this makes my son sound like a bad person, but he's really not.  He just needs to find some motivation.  Meanwhile I'll be buying food, heat, electricity, etc.  I feel like he should contribute something

Thanks!",2.5121428571428552,4.316952021645026,3.626188311688313,89.63642532467533,76.40259740259741,7.044242424242424,22.372510822510826,7.908726449838941,0.8721773160173165,891,25,195,14,20,288,145,231,0.058,0.828,0.113,0.8908,4,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,1,4,7,7,1,0,10,0,20,2,0,3,0,31,38,12,0,6,9,3,1,2,0,4,1,1,3,4,9,8,1,0,5,0,3,2,7,3,0,2,4,4,24,4,23,28,5,27,0,0,2,0,30,9,0,4,18,110,33,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12060577955257633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14266698669590228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111903171587066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360140161982575,0.08293871181995735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14265253513969836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054380644088786,0.0,0.08774511515116558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517388384622342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879419824522709,0.09719871138769323,0.0,0.0,0.12435307454969875,0.0,0.16451992547150973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108384765954201,0.0,0.07732398121045211,0.0,0.0,0.15000264904056576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432751615910848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119572950797886,0.14375104484581014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15699080546522234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501497209940022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477303313607574,0.11090411612608496,0.15347753283444054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610065111801096,0.1329405582477126,0.0,0.1201402840329122,0.0,0.114253099966138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081869605993152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001710066162424,0.20176817675246514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144895613736857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107451864213808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879919081391607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29338359800940106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716120662734246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619141268786648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376963292313251,0.10841932664221668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125472508337971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474285525899313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229747199700392,0.0,0.0,0.12526244311092816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933557448138004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237335706073704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049916649947288,0.0,0.10913622834947878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905067151462227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487563027298252,0.0,0.4380792682129555
parenting,twomsixer,2019/02/15,"Ski trip: bad idea? Hello everyone. Me and the wife are planning a trip for Spring Break this semester. We've decided to do something a little different and head to the mountains of New Mexico, hoping the kids (10 and 3, girls) get to see some snow, which we don't get much of here in South Texas.  

We're going for 3 days, and had planned on spending one full day at the ski resort there. We've already got our itenerary mostly planned out, but upon further review, are starting to question the whole skiing thing. None of us have ever been before. I've been ""snow boarding"", aka falling on my ass and learning to get back up with an awkward plank of wood attached to my feet, a few times before. I don't remember it being very fun the first few times, wasn't until about the 3rd or 4th time I went that I was able to actually travel any significant distance on the board and started enjoying it.

Is it still worth taking them, just for the experience, or should we avoid the likely frustration altogether?",7.522731958762886,6.708727149484536,7.4863092783505145,75.94296907216496,63.58762886597938,10.234226804123713,34.348453608247425,9.3871,2.9929068041237112,793,29,149,12,10,255,135,194,0.08900000000000001,0.8320000000000001,0.079,-0.2893,1,1,1,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,1,4,7,8,1,2,14,0,14,3,3,0,1,25,25,10,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,10,0,1,5,4,2,6,4,4,0,2,7,1,11,4,25,16,8,33,0,0,1,1,10,12,1,6,15,96,18,2,0.16095342653391878,0.0,0.1570673264861985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17761610854067314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094538493712392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376324994248165,0.13438938812670448,0.0,0.0,0.2739190224006932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20760328953924492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816207353737805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559158905750086,0.0,0.1537978965607217,0.0,0.157443335691287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690690238665526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522745667688279,0.0,0.09147354147239607,0.0,0.12872915857450967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651846506884799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15986306949846446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18169682723838249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863371413286624,0.16131761736931502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183192880410458,0.0,0.0,0.15544982231074225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090662073268025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803046736401029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823288562675898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825904223715118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123909811218768,0.0,0.0,0.22784732744689534,0.0,0.12853761434200445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101694585242502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693030470033832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28155971209529185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360715444759727,0.0,0.0,0.1328034332969396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920543892032054,0.0,0.1796987527468856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nietzsche_eccehomo,2019/02/15,"My Autistic Son Exhausts Me I love my (5) year old autistic son, but he exhausts me to the point where there are time I just want to be away from him so I can have my own space. He is high functioning which makes it easier to handle him, but still there are times when it is too much. I love him so much, but still it is a constant struggle. ",2.909166666666668,3.5406482500000003,3.6287777777777817,94.694,73.44444444444444,6.871111111111111,24.12222222222222,6.742157984588678,0.4699022222222222,262,7,63,2,5,83,46,72,0.08900000000000001,0.743,0.168,0.8126,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,2,0,8,4,0,1,0,6,12,6,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,2,5,11,3,13,0,0,0,2,9,5,0,0,8,47,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22926617920076375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637004906060328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25782205314455137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4404777606329803,0.0,0.162886208633808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35876767740790194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25605945650542244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23067913914834465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38975168056315457,0.0,0.0,0.2551041958577536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845817325659328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393016996595898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714180928823876
parenting,Pollymath,2019/02/15,"Need Help Finding A Toy (Toddler who Loves Buttons) We've got at toddler who loves buttons. I mean this girl will walk around the house trying to find every switch, button, controller, clicky thing she can. 

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Are there any cool learning toys that are just a huge spread of buttons and switches that teach cause and effect? 

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I'd really like to keep her away from screens, so phone/tablets are out. ",6.982400000000003,8.33324910666667,4.734666666666667,87.83400000000002,64.6,6.533333333333332,32.33333333333333,5.6839178017228535,1.5667333333333335,333,13,59,1,5,92,62,75,0.0,0.7829999999999999,0.217,0.9476,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,3,1,5,2,0,3,0,14,11,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,8,9,0,6,0,0,1,2,8,5,0,0,1,30,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36751768266827256,0.4121590987126639,0.11533212888937465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097774896351593,0.0,0.0,0.15934245221703008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422337013602995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19021803909545212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428932247143589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100181202942312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564262923435644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136776422428763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569276670499286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074606771349333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285678124176596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061367654444309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847414177640172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575441161889828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864851367380712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126730558561798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514558294974993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121590987126639,0.0
parenting,kassijo725,2019/02/15,"3 year old falling behind I think my 3 year old may be falling behind. He has always had problems with speech (we saw a speech therapist until he aged out). Since hes been done with speech therapy he hasnt really been improving much and hes getting retested this month to see if he qualifys for special ed preschool. But in the mean time id like advice on how to help him out. He also has issues with letters, and counting to 10 (he knows all the numbers he just cant get them in the right order). Im always trying to teach them to him and talk with him but id love to try out new ways to teach him. Anyone have any tips??",2.5937404580152688,3.7544233740458033,4.021290076335877,89.5644541984733,74.80152671755725,6.7667175572519085,23.787022900763358,7.1686216300943375,0.7940222900763354,486,14,106,5,10,161,84,131,0.048,0.863,0.08900000000000001,0.8121,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,13,1,0,1,1,22,21,9,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,11,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,5,11,3,21,14,2,20,0,0,2,1,20,7,0,2,10,59,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614584618082915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441521059198176,0.2999778769519492,0.0,0.0,0.12258149243377585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604045229424174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18446632430161589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835453222371545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082301069679123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947093677198084,0.1881423216973185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906497849377012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806486102946005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626897116978666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635360000652186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388006456961688,0.0,0.1325102314362669,0.0,0.0,0.1740941166243088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783004989538215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248238028546578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547776916197865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393918524258435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364213689946242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911112356633516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488440002365638,0.0,0.0,0.2061405159140068,0.20929321134307355,0.0,0.11550192646766386,0.0,0.0,0.10510977888894678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24476644177228646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430802596528638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321602399362591
parenting,shhnvmd,2019/02/15,"Getting a vasectomy when your child wants a sibling My husband and I absolutely do not want another child. We are clear on this and we have been clear on this for a long time. I got along horribly with my siblings to the point it was traumatic. We are now no closer than cousins. My husband's situation was pretty similar. On top of that I grew up very poor and had to pass up a lot of opportunities because between the three of us there was never enough money. I want to be able to provide anything my daughter may need. My miserable pregnancy pretty much solidified my already very strong desire for one kid. 

When my daughter was younger she occasionally seemed lonely but never mentioned wanting a sibling. Many family members would rudely talk about how we needed to have another kid in front of her, saying things like ""she needs to have a brother or sister, you don't want her being an only child, etc."". When all of this got excessive she was about 4 or 5, and she started requesting a sibling. I feel so bad for not giving her this. Regardless of whether this is a natural desire or something that was drilled in her head, she now thinks she has a hole in her life that needs filled. We even considered adoption, but decided ultimately a person shouldn't have a child they don't want just to make their current child happy, like buying a puppy or something. 

She is almost 9, and we are sure we are done. My husband and I have decided for him to get a vasectomy next month. I just don't know how we can tell her what this procedure is for without it destroying her. She has a basic understanding of reproduction, so to not tell her goes beyond avoiding grown-up topics. It would purely be to prevent hurt feelings and make things easier on us. Even though I have told her many, many times we are happy with our family and do not want another kid, she still asks for a sibling and seems to hold out hope. I have never in my life thought lying was the right thing to do in any situation, but I'm seriously considering saying he had some other kind of surgery. But even if I could get myself okay with that from a moral perspective, he works for his family so they will know why he's taken off work. And they are blabbermouths. 

What would you do if you were me?",5.42412139820501,6.336870486301372,6.087559439458352,78.31869863013699,67.88127853881278,9.32905054322154,30.400251928830105,9.494082108488547,2.6788810266099827,1795,67,341,36,29,586,220,438,0.1,0.777,0.122,0.9045,2,3,2,0,0,0,41.0,12,4,4,5,21,18,2,2,20,1,48,3,1,4,8,92,82,30,0,22,18,8,2,2,0,6,2,2,0,9,19,24,0,3,11,0,3,4,13,8,0,2,17,4,61,10,51,55,6,38,1,3,0,0,70,18,0,13,18,254,80,2,0.08140677211218958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151712308648958,0.0,0.08983439733342635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553593965934529,0.2560862956405445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699083714181857,0.0,0.0761043428184421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797125435053553,0.049624812689249766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499668340224843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330739169835621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411495699376538,0.090790069813464,0.1613052156436442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23022917919057084,0.0,0.0823234199594846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759503546402262,0.07809279367546201,0.0,0.0,0.1302168646165557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331804533240458,0.0,0.0,0.08354683404142947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085529303766706,0.0,0.0,0.08714763324100712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477262594324166,0.08947806596369036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500002125421695,0.0795424736782514,0.0,0.0,0.07204243159756413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920912651606409,0.0,0.0,0.10867930503766353,0.2476010688709139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497810883404077,0.0,0.059843344285709386,0.24144836007889836,0.18835776366369472,0.0,0.08657702568100753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055163335607041335,0.061913518520964425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108125340278595,0.0,0.0,0.07695571264013429,0.0,0.0,0.16563990700191394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952093858476396,0.0,0.1294758652243889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821933581280086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300924532829355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534182069401248,0.0,0.0,0.05762013229936438,0.0,0.06501155336620905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672491930616376,0.0,0.0,0.06543167979005662,0.14230621394955786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224912636065572,0.05216217250810217,0.07998174027546844,0.06462788383239362,0.09493788694907494,0.0,0.0,0.0777876593637745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474732073280497,0.19584464699897072,0.0,0.0,0.13433822519885327,0.33611076357954484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345694981783937,0.0,0.0,0.07847322330871348,0.0,0.11853019929530095,0.0,0.0,0.17348710570230993,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thebigslider,2019/02/15,"Blippi defecates on his friend in video! So parents, anyone else going to stop letting their kids watch Blippi now that this video of him pooing on his naked friend was released? Not sure I'm allowed to link to it to the newsweek article but you can search it yourself. I was already concerned with the low quality of his 'teaching' moments and clear lack of knowledge of childhood education. This news sealed the deal for me. No more Blippi.",5.904444444444442,7.704672222222222,5.116975308641977,82.42138888888894,67.51851851851852,6.881481481481483,33.25308641975309,7.1686216300943375,2.23861975308642,354,16,60,3,6,106,62,81,0.13,0.7859999999999999,0.084,-0.4893,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,2,12,6,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,8,3,13,3,2,9,0,1,1,0,11,4,0,0,4,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313170765387816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099314754370788,0.3076265052442421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095293709941774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25080803537161145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639220360493122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063061785492942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307010896121489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333757270966745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510101219945323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28296818052714323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nickpoho,2019/02/15,"A Dad Roughhousing with his Children is Positive My child is a little aggressive at school. I was worried that by routinely roughhousing with him that I was responsible for the issue, so I did a little research. I was very surprised to find that almost every expert/article agreed the roughhousing with dad is very positive for children and crucial in some aspects. Google for yourself, but below is a link to one recent article that I found particularly interesting. Cheers!

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[https://www.mother.ly/child/the-science-benefits-of-roughhousing-with-your-kids-that-will-make-you-less-anxious](https://www.mother.ly/child/the-science-benefits-of-roughhousing-with-your-kids-that-will-make-you-less-anxious) ",19.39035714285714,25.202487797619057,11.987619047619047,30.490714285714287,40.07142857142857,10.990476190476189,38.19047619047619,10.914260884657429,5.420804761904762,621,22,54,13,7,163,55,84,0.032,0.7559999999999999,0.212,0.9383,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,9,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,8,3,12,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,1,43,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122582246768623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296703680207248,0.2575678296542538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394667677345708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859461492870424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19373755097747897,0.0,0.0,0.23241513717890985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212425347603844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42490103200415374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829844267435007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363695920403666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20929567902503726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21452585471221228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34979636311128626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21526672554453072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575678296542538,0.0
parenting,MickeyMoonstone,2019/02/15,"Trying to deal with my daughter growing up Last week my 8 year old daughter came to me and told me that a little boy had asked her to be his valentine. She thought I was going to be mad, they even recorded my reaction because they thought I’d throw a fit. But, in the heat of the moment, I didn’t get upset at all. I looked at her and told her I was happy for her, and that it was ok. Later, my wife asked me why I didn’t get pissed. I told her that I want her to be confident in herself and to feel pretty, to feel good about herself. As much as I hate it, I know that it’s a natural part of life. Not only that, but most of the little girls in her class have boys that like them, and I don’t want her to be in middle school and never had a boy like her. When I told my mom about this, and told her I was disappointed that she has a little boy she likes, my mom told me to stop being selfish and get the fuck over it 😂",6.158762999452655,3.2496872955665026,6.8667651888341545,86.00515051997812,67.66995073891626,9.810399562123699,29.94471811713192,6.937597516519254,1.400870169677066,703,15,176,4,9,235,102,203,0.118,0.752,0.13,-0.518,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,3,0,4,13,4,1,9,1,16,3,1,0,2,24,39,13,0,2,3,5,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,5,12,10,0,1,5,0,0,4,5,7,0,0,17,3,41,6,26,17,4,26,0,1,1,1,38,13,2,1,12,122,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21055948396738852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864900585735485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12880145979151786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161010306463377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07438108809857037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388296766751145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041106726379732,0.17650993247651314,0.0,0.06400165040606552,0.09445604624745987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988066920993162,0.0,0.11118391208713746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061890211182367164,0.09179618480296144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954324364016079,0.16505387463043322,0.3386091841975744,0.0,0.0,0.09456816433106244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637864506370202,0.0,0.0,0.08278491886949378,0.0,0.08685556357998031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817040757808905,0.0,0.0,0.08564871614146925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195097679588945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456985255734185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139723044222989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941511100307711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880732380958886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6456502536422263,0.0,0.07645813385300454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284638716165378,0.0,0.09033289057438894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161744306998036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252031190168629
parenting,ActuallyxAnna,2019/02/15,"Curious to know.. So this may seem like a weird question but I'm genuinely curious to know how many of you have your ""dream family"", you know the family you thought about in your head as kids or teens? They say think of what you want your Christmases to look like in the future and you'll know, does that really work? I used to think I wanted 4 but now I think 2 may be enough, it's conflicting!",1.5421296296296312,3.6349474567901225,2.7809722222222213,93.15812500000004,80.60493827160494,7.50679012345679,18.766975308641968,8.472884824447931,0.7850604938271606,308,7,70,7,8,99,56,81,0.059,0.77,0.171,0.8075,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,8,1,1,4,3,0,0,3,0,5,1,1,2,0,21,19,7,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,10,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,12,2,10,14,1,5,1,0,1,0,12,2,0,5,5,41,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783288732771165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105587675435943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842104817460945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20913662726162344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4479676852927721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991128073251324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711235139953849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20660049756985335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282797533998035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305464093890602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205369165384306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551326535889856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39172115691088427,0.0,0.16177821466053904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760001187119468,0.0,0.0,0.24038893800571015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835395256853687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrs_peep,2019/02/15,"Tongue-tie clipping? Any moms out there had an infant tongue-tie clipped due to painful breastfeeding? If so, did it make a difference? I’ve been holding off as I thought I’d toughen up enough that it wouldn’t matter (plus, y’know, trying to avoid someone using scissors in my baby’s mouth) but holy cow, LO is 3 months now and there are blood spots on my nursing pads...",4.871666666666666,5.990586166666668,4.448222222222224,88.819,69.27777777777777,6.871111111111111,29.677777777777766,6.742157984588678,1.4175411111111118,292,11,58,2,5,88,64,72,0.063,0.905,0.032,-0.457,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,0,6,3,2,2,0,12,9,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,3,0,9,4,1,8,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,3,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258593979018256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470045585171977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431784793585815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825296458015315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216989699188529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889859679113224,0.26510253798162603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534091245938958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814121836261809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636736638812976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254940777259959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28685318503296503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lokesenna,2019/02/15,"My friends are lazy parents They’re not terrible, they don’t abuse their kids but they definitely are putting them behind in a lot of ways. Their first one is almost 5, no attempt to potty train him at all. He wears diapers. Also before the age of 2 they put a game controller in his hands. He will literally plays video games for several hours straight, no interest in toys. They don’t help him try to read or speak either, he knows one word well and it’s “no”. He also knows a slew of cuss words that are badly spoken, but he has the speech patterns of a two year old. Their house is destroyed, the mom stays at home and only takes care of the kids. No cooking or cleaning. Neither of them cook or clean. They have a newer baby, shes almost two but now they’ve started the video game shit with her.

There’s nothing wrong with video games but it’s obvious they shouldn’t be playing them that young. The oldest has been attending preschool now and surprise surprise he’s speaking a little better because adults are trying to help him instead of letting a 5 year old play Gears Of War.",2.8260280373831748,5.035861462616825,3.2502897196261697,90.81749065420559,76.89719626168224,5.775327102803737,24.25140186915888,6.742157984588678,0.7667970093457939,859,29,172,8,20,266,133,214,0.131,0.6659999999999999,0.203,0.9448,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,12,4,7,16,3,0,13,0,17,5,3,1,2,25,22,12,1,1,9,2,1,0,1,2,0,3,3,3,4,5,2,1,2,14,0,3,9,6,1,5,1,4,19,10,20,17,4,25,0,0,0,0,38,7,1,6,13,103,23,1,0.0,0.1625586652126167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27477044229115244,0.0,0.0,0.21943636639626693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455563514652822,0.08363538367744881,0.0,0.116746448611861,0.0,0.0,0.12134157899796215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988376971702246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538806147039182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167016040288867,0.0,0.0,0.10599979300716172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392351797557915,0.0,0.13762202493815667,0.0,0.1351136153812706,0.1583095030149258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508022292084233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402955191219325,0.0,0.0,0.13750968268895902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664188812960585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068609248167248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164637171051366,0.0,0.2879350473814653,0.0,0.18593951244967505,0.1043462049670051,0.0,0.0,0.15234352033281445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758462631234769,0.0,0.0,0.1372363687368394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549960897501872,0.14083304894560994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711032870954613,0.14623613561845208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315675433053642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862985568456756,0.0,0.2680474446178745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890237114788646,0.0,0.0,0.12335859433217684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000583177919502,0.0,0.17670362548028
parenting,Wheresmymeat,2019/02/15,"His privates hurt? I have a 2.5 year old boy that screams and cries anytime we have to clean his privates. He has a twin brother that does not do this. Anytime we have to change a pull-up and he's laying on the ground he will arch his back and start trying to twist away from us while crying and saying no or if he's in the bath, when we try to clean his private area he starts crying and saying no, it hurts. Even asking him to clean it on his own, he refuses and says no it hurts. He does not cry when he goes pee or poop, and if I'm holding him on my hip he does not act like that hurts even though I know there has to be pressure from my hip being put on his area. Anyone have an experience with this? He's just started doing this within the past month.",2.4155555555555566,3.3492270370370387,3.295987654320985,95.47694444444448,74.92592592592592,5.893827160493827,20.907407407407405,5.46131890053228,-0.24409629629629626,588,12,140,2,12,187,91,162,0.194,0.747,0.059,-0.9699,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,7,0,11,5,5,0,0,22,17,15,0,2,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,4,1,9,11,0,2,1,1,0,2,6,6,0,0,0,4,16,1,16,14,1,23,0,4,0,0,29,10,0,4,12,86,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834160239095781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152764426924176,0.0,0.11208451695625944,0.09173289548990128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620159953222676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5241735608659093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31319578346271315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759057492943518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669645929031808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5108444474553234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556313044122343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582830386555406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522262644878753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251833157186273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388356066484942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992756755533668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28461197554744616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25331948400740584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720980363443513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199119399758127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435009574594442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682408216120439
parenting,Hstep15,2019/02/15,"Making children’s tv shows interesting Am I the only one that picks apart children’s tv shows to make them more interesting?  

Examples:  How in the world does fancy Nancy have clothes for every occasion and more?

In Daniel Tiger, why is Daniels last name Tiger it’s Katerina Kitty Kat and O the Owl but not Prince Wednesday Human or Miss Elena the Human?

I’ve got lots of them.  And yes I get the idea behind the shows are to make them entertaining and somewhat educational.  This is just something I do.",2.1545829959514187,5.031464021052635,3.4073684210526345,83.64927125506073,87.73684210526315,5.870445344129554,22.044534412955464,7.321109707123232,1.171267206477733,402,14,73,7,13,130,68,95,0.02,0.858,0.122,0.867,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,3,0,2,4,0,0,6,1,6,0,0,5,0,17,12,7,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,4,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,6,3,7,11,4,6,0,1,0,0,8,4,0,3,2,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25800435748980394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484037536950032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403449894994742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357994112752912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33282284579371635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403226685306633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25065065627897504,0.0,0.0,0.5903962490837928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997818346866861,0.2242285783829128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269715801778227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660347501397748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gil_al,2019/02/15,"Inglesina Aptica vs Bugaboo Fox Hi, we are looking to buy our first baby stroller and cant decide between the Inglesina Aptica or Bugaboo Fox.

We really love the Inglesina's folding system, but we heard very good reviews about the Fox, also our car is a hatchback and not very big..

 

Help anyone?  :) 

Thanks!",3.59059523809524,6.438486392857143,4.275000000000002,81.03666666666669,77.92857142857143,5.8761904761904775,28.97619047619048,7.1686216300943375,2.050890476190476,242,11,38,3,6,77,43,56,0.047,0.727,0.225,0.9183,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,10,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,5,3,3,6,0,4,0,0,1,1,9,1,0,1,1,22,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274202739082721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397511783388717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29165538972041805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28759328746572416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22982668387591304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28793465691245224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094645359738749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21965909138357997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31567982480869416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5658273822460522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ohaidacia,2019/02/15,"potty training twin toddlers. help hello all. 

i’m going on attempt #3 to potty train my twin boys (2.5 y/o). my husband and i first attempted when they were almost two. but if i’m being completely honest, i was heavily pregnant and our twins only knew about 10 words. i didn’t have the patience for much then. i was having so much false labor and again, our boys didn’t communicate at all really. we took a break. that was august.

we tried again somewhere in november 2018. i figured it was a good time to try again because i was finally feeling 100% again (postpartum), the baby was a little more predictable, and i was getting the hang of this whole mom of 3 small children thing. the twins were communicating a bit more to the point where when twin B would poop in his diaper, he’d come up and say “i pooped” and point to his new tail. twin B has always done better with the potty than twin A. at least he pees from time to time. i haven’t gotten twin A to pee in the potty at all. i got frustrated with my husbands changing schedule and felt like i wasn’t making an progress because i’d have the twins sitting on the potty for almost two hours with not a single drop. 

fast forward to today, attempt #3. 

i woke them up, immediately put them on their potty and gave them water. i KNOW they have to pee. the way twin B is holding himself and twin A is whining, fidgeting. they are so very good at holding it while on the potty for 30-45 minutes, and sometimes up to two hours, but the second i let them up and put on their undies they immediately pee in them. they woke up at 8:30 this morning and it’s almost 11 currently and they still haven’t done anything on the potty. 

i’m just so confused about how to go about this! i get conflicting advice going from *“oh they aren’t ready...they’re boys, wait until they’re 3”* to *“just take them every 15-30 minutes, they’ll go”.* the advice i’ve gotten from my mother and my MIL doesn’t work for my twins. not only that, it’s conflicting. 

advice given so far - 
•the running water trick, 
•treats/new toys for when they do *eventually* go. 
•watching their father use the bathroom. 
•waiting until 3 years old

honestly, we just can’t get past the first initial pee. HELP!",2.3662035225048927,4.559279945205478,3.5908414872798424,87.89246575342466,78.31506849315069,5.906588388780169,22.98564905414221,6.971451493551832,0.7834060013046322,1728,55,342,19,42,561,214,438,0.045,0.865,0.09,0.9643,2,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,5,0,18,8,20,10,2,1,25,0,33,9,7,3,3,51,61,29,0,2,8,5,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,4,10,21,2,5,5,1,0,12,10,4,0,6,24,3,48,6,50,32,11,71,0,1,0,0,42,27,0,5,31,218,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909423603696752,0.0,0.0,0.298137738323641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825795531292171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166994416898297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099731409976065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777388529716376,0.10834952452033576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049877489897908,0.0854905341629447,0.10405619536805884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031236007534881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361795269682447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018110982594247,0.0,0.0952904899583052,0.10871773413496601,0.0,0.16883500759782522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555538020897651,0.0,0.2820152928790049,0.16648351645723006,0.07937506468668548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304328082388348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19547210571175969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454229983820732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148444502540516,0.0,0.048485954658345085,0.0994692768568042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624661784685458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623421062101587,0.0,0.0,0.14591256939669395,0.0,0.0,0.1917023281762086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041406335346872,0.0,0.0,0.1509601556465993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474031015028182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763666862376666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953670010720675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357870567423601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892338068354783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815556072172456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925695752266898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461967445131291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593377869120179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736111740976899,0.0,0.09407238534991076,0.0,0.11026452994596844,0.13476129365247586,0.0,0.29084299692295457,0.0,0.0,0.08571556888147681,0.0,0.08188728354389971,0.0,0.07877583523026575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080317995821308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225133444960907,0.0,0.0,0.07050059799845572,0.0,0.0,0.06391034253295631
parenting,317throwaway123,2019/02/15,"Possibly Suicidal 10YO, Emotionally Abusive Mother (UK) Hello from a throwaway. I am the father of a 10YO boy, and I have been separated from his mother for seven years. We have shared parenting duties pretty evenly throughout that period - I have him three nights a week (two full days and two half days) and we split holiday care between me, her, and my parents. 

Recently our son has started telling me that he wishes he'd never been born, that he wants to kill himself, and that he's not right for the family. He doesn't say these things to *anyone* else. Not his mother, not either of our partners, not my parents, not school - no-one. Everyone else reports him as being a well-adjusted, happy, friendly, caring child. He only drops his front and lets his emotions out around me.

He has gone so far as to open his window and stand beside it (we are on the third floor - if he did jump he would die or be seriously injured), albeit only with me in the room as far as I know. I have locked the window. He doesn't say or act like this all the time - it's infrequent - but once is scary enough.

We are going to see the GP today and get a referral to local child mental health care.

His mother, it is important to note, is emotionally abusive and comes from a family with a long history of emotional and physical abuse. It is the key reason I left - I didn't want our son to grow up in a house with daily screaming matches, twisted logic, emotional abuse and manipulation as well as occasional physical violence (she would hit me every now and then). She has not got any better. Truth is whatever she decides it is, reality whatever she last said it is.

**My question is this: given his mother's background, should I tell her that our son has been saying these things?** 

He has explicitly asked me to tell no-one, but he has agreed to see the doctor. I feel that given it is only in front of me that he feels confident enough or safe enough to let these thoughts out, if I am seen by him to breach that trust, he might hide it from me too - and then *actually act on his thoughts*.  


Help, please.",3.815767326732672,5.491485762376243,4.930779702970298,82.19785272277228,72.56435643564356,8.119306930693071,25.24876237623762,8.751876143730069,1.8083504950495048,1624,51,315,31,32,534,208,404,0.116,0.7609999999999999,0.123,-0.6177,3,0,0,0,3,0,70.0,8,0,0,1,6,15,1,0,17,0,39,3,0,2,4,62,64,29,3,8,14,12,2,1,2,4,3,5,3,4,23,25,0,2,9,1,0,9,10,3,1,6,13,10,48,12,41,41,6,46,0,0,3,0,69,18,0,7,18,213,71,4,0.0,0.3607938702755285,0.07428931724971513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05176921210826757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323001686056068,0.07800147179842172,0.0,0.06776948613528197,0.07116880074870953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732845932075958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23285073698897266,0.0,0.0,0.06557697579653368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819169259254328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900817582069472,0.0,0.0,0.07791957392075513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271892737742076,0.4281651411373971,0.0,0.2359797243853831,0.0,0.050281400187884566,0.0,0.06414058016884054,0.0727429503356466,0.0,0.0,0.14353219079268387,0.0,0.07698455640075692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588158058468275,0.0,0.03977340109279124,0.0,0.04326493036089799,0.0,0.060886000383223886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103898527738583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091981878642518,0.0,0.0,0.05102656154803186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784074693810523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422363941065272,0.0,0.041837603559245366,0.06205395513550475,0.0,0.0,0.08271259425674951,0.155690757118704,0.0,0.0371919804482902,0.0,0.0,0.06737031383414202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671846877662603,0.08075909364528977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05871410949409305,0.0,0.0,0.07144036592128059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107314884450499,0.0,0.17369485236007928,0.0,0.0,0.2535912569181616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356497548108903,0.0,0.085822154732254,0.0,0.07744888859744119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528006047669594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827160022038429,0.07516657926587751,0.0,0.0,0.06501234545584138,0.07241454785969632,0.1816185853395547,0.0,0.07704494778832313,0.12132729183160301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388333389213662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327097070596412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19961599188972476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115126432982427,0.0,0.0,0.1208732331675503,0.04439047306341707,0.0,0.07215983146689928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873072874130974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980377307115718,0.0,0.06106477247388555,0.0,0.13689526984809616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754270157181344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815737797997717,0.0,0.0,0.04902352086657605
parenting,Z6ATL,2019/02/15,"Should I continue teaching my 5y/o son how to box? I (34M) have two sons, one 5y/o & a 4m/o. My father was an amateur boxer & taught me how to box at a young age. I still do boxing training as a way to work out, & have a heavy/speed bag (which is in my 5y/o’s room because that’s the only place in our small house it will fit). 

I have recently started to train my 5y/o on boxing, & how to defend himself if he gets knocked to the ground. He shows an amazing natural talent for it. 

I do not want him to box, as I worry about head trauma, but he likes it & is good at it. I also think it’s important he can defend himself. 

With that said, I don’t want him to pursue boxing as a sport, & worry that if he knows how to fight he may be more inclined to do so & get in trouble. 

Should I just stop training & try to encourage him to exercise in other ways, or maybe just wait till he’s a little older? 

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parenting,Rae0sunshine1986,2019/02/15,"Taking in Niece and Nephew after mom gives them up. Need Advice help! I’m an Aunt (25F) of two great kids. One is 13F and the other is 7M. My sister decided she can’t handle raising them so it has fallen to me and my husband. (That’s a different story for a different time) my nephew is pretty chill, he occasionally acts out but nothing we can’t handle. My Niece on the other hand is well, Angry which I get. But she’s been acting out in destructive ways. Which has caused us to seek professional help.  

The new thing is  she is obsessed with porn, and like hard core porn. Which is also leading to us finding things in the shower and in her room that’s clearly being used for personal pleasure. My concern is she that she is very young for all of this. I get being curious but this is some porn that makes my grown husband blush. Do I talk to her? Do I ignore it? I’m concerned she’s going to have a warped sense of relationships and sex. 

What would you do? ",1.6044845360824738,3.8500351701030944,3.1558865979381467,89.7132113402062,81.31958762886596,5.735670103092784,20.009278350515466,6.961326702584282,0.3690049484536084,749,20,155,9,20,246,116,194,0.087,0.76,0.152,0.9313,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,1,2,1,3,7,1,1,8,0,22,5,1,4,2,25,32,11,0,2,3,7,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,16,10,0,1,2,0,0,6,2,3,1,2,1,2,25,4,21,28,2,20,0,0,0,4,29,9,0,1,5,108,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447487747090098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346009597864406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729052466054973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.351705434929937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538363065178744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758746475167016,0.1614625033566339,0.09565694871435963,0.0,0.0,0.1855672131940345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507766363884905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256351802882639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222991084582715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235116473976353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19712778358085156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480299018276295,0.0,0.1625590902143245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615022001652968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405418914362253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696563634074875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123624845228613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18070666886978387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655147703521652,0.1352847339747794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22364120833383933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814547648205936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644187055518181,0.0,0.40492298309704455,0.14536959490412082,0.0,0.13887700206523418,0.0,0.1336001312841103,0.0,0.0,0.15133485363162347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195657160685136,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rewrew7464,2019/02/15,"How can I get my step son (5) to warm up to me? My wife and I have a 10 month old, and I legally adopted my step son when we got married as his father's rights were previously terminated. He physically and sexually abused my step son and also raped my wife several times. Fortunately he's in jail for all this and we're awaiting his court date.

My step son has every reason to be afraid of adult men. He's very timid and rarely talks unless he has to. Going to therapy hasn't made him want to talk to me any more. It's been like 8 months, and I don't know where the line is crossed from ""just giving him time"" to willfully ignoring him and essentially showing tons of favoritism to the baby.",4.469663536776213,4.808164823943663,5.687276995305165,82.38956964006259,69.77464788732394,9.128012519561816,27.74960876369327,9.150863307647796,1.9611430359937403,543,17,118,10,9,182,96,142,0.099,0.831,0.071,-0.7141,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,5,6,1,2,3,0,11,1,0,3,1,18,18,13,0,1,2,7,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,9,0,1,2,1,0,6,2,4,0,0,4,1,18,2,17,12,3,17,0,0,0,1,22,4,0,0,8,67,20,1,0.0,0.26626888945667443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17971689639035945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528244435592939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18934513535522615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741240870644268,0.21558196934636864,0.1277195197448235,0.0,0.17973750710475184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350600334469672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979196872826996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212645428990872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587554755707697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358168517243929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310603786118937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919186156048693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538814933915085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612597199532302,0.0,0.0,0.2569989075357635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620843188056609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542619481139605,0.13255186905706198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,steak_tartare,2019/02/15,"My 3 yr old girl in Shiva mood It’s been a few months since my daughter, whenever is tired or hungry, says she wants to throw away things / break things. Sometimes she goes ahead and actually breaks some toy or tears some drawing she made.

Is this one of the common phases or shall I worry and go look into it (take her to a psychiatrist for example)?",3.0917391304347817,5.060577811594207,3.944275362318841,87.26684782608696,75.23188405797102,6.918840579710146,21.644927536231886,7.793537801064563,0.8314231884057968,275,7,56,4,6,88,57,69,0.112,0.888,0.0,-0.7717,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,0,10,9,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,8,6,3,11,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,5,4,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.26776708589598314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25780038904297314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559433408882853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23042023750782265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259636418048802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190171382348113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879283273937435,0.0,0.18593517289027775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182075931476315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22697996181864666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713807806209258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630869360205986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645878073323552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153733281325341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184355643556633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786584737900902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DunkinDog_Nuts,2019/02/15,"Can’t keep my 21 month toddler out of things My son who will be 2 in May will not listen to me when it comes to opening the fridge, getting into the drawers and pulling out knives or getting into the toilets.

Just this week I broke down and got some baby locks for everything in the house. I feel like a failure because he’s not a baby...he knows better but still continues to do it.
I want him to respect me but I’m not sure if I’m disciplining him appropriately.
I feel he’s too young for time outs (maybe I’m wrong) I also don’t believe in spanking.
But I also couldn’t be more serious with him.
I make him put things back or “help” clean up and explain no to him. I know he knows what I mean because when he has something he shouldn’t he’ll run around the house screaming “ mom!mom!mom!”

Sometimes I feel it’s just to grab my attention but I’m a stay at home mom and couldn’t give the child any more attention if I tried lol he’s my whole life.

Sometimes though its purely because he wants to get in the fridge and pull something out or see something float in the toilet.

I know these behaviors are fairly normal ..but he’s just incessant. It goes on all day.

If it’s not the things listed, it’s hitting the TV, or unplugging it, or terrorizing the dog.

He’s not a brat..he’s a really happy fun kid. He just isn’t taking me seriously which I know is not his fault it’s mine...

How do I get him to truly respect and listen to me? They say consistency is the key but that doesn’t seem to be helping. ",1.8021428571428584,3.5634669713375837,3.4396223839854407,90.37606687898092,78.33121019108279,6.396542311191992,23.316196542311197,7.310402129719878,0.7967801637852592,1175,38,259,15,28,390,162,314,0.08900000000000001,0.7909999999999999,0.119,0.9086,0,0,3,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,1,1,14,14,0,1,17,1,19,1,0,2,3,68,51,26,0,9,24,2,4,1,0,5,1,4,2,2,18,16,0,2,13,1,0,5,14,7,0,0,1,9,31,7,30,39,5,33,0,1,1,0,31,17,0,11,11,160,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744450333109628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119423260307825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319818407156767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805017791035611,0.0,0.1914580364790574,0.0,0.0,0.11795216994915088,0.0,0.09259167367014152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901829925188152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751775734488208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409052813431902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880644669010685,0.07479207245216454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21878924971033065,0.10043022250377212,0.0,0.0,0.08373185329706988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144670998062664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034584432880368,0.0,0.10501473384578164,0.0,0.0,0.2416013037424949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305516781961154,0.0,0.0,0.28768025995093394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394714146414616,0.05114728231650733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988280398731234,0.0,0.10517730753160437,0.11404041176010588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4904565891183291,0.08356425248655865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025760507375012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524449817274056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706845376877782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325537697750228,0.0,0.0,0.08342606622731698,0.0953077753685116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241791329561878,0.2070863700857356,0.0,0.0,0.11158787169065662,0.08360726339254762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867108544643063,0.0,0.0787154462033529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865838055635288,0.0,0.10285947773217098,0.0,0.06104681790459171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107907826451973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350025137123873,0.0,0.0839777048618742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168850147805448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114464399914811,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hazel-wood21,2019/02/15,"Children and Technology, How Can You Protect Your Child’s Eyes  Usually, technology and children, we cannot separate them with each other. They are spending enough time on a digital screen either for educational purpose or just for fun. They stare at the screen of smartphones, tablets, computer screen, and other digital devices. ANSI safety glasses for a digital screen are very helpful for eyes protection. 

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For Reading More Fo Here: [https://gracelily21.livejournal.com/1146.html](https://gracelily21.livejournal.com/1146.html)  


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parenting,Aalynia,2019/02/15,"6 Month Old has the Flu As the title says.

I’m devastated. She’s currently home with us, as her lungs sounded ok yesterday and she was holding up well considering, but now her cough is getting worse and I’m freaking out a bit.

Now please remember, this is marked as “support.”

My kids and my husband got their vaccinations earlier (Sept-Oct), but I only got mine on Sunday. And I got it because I had been sick a couple weeks prior. So the obvious thought is I had flu and gave it to her.

I’m killing myself over this. I normally get it. Every time I’m in CVS they ask me and I say no because I always have three kids in tow. I should have pushed my husband more to take the kids so I could get the shot on a weekend; he’s been traveling every week since he got off paternity leave, so that’s the only time I get reprieve.

I don’t need a lot of “SEE??? THIS IS WHY YOU VACCINATE.” I get that. I’m already beating myself up over it.  What I need is a hug and some well wishes for my little one. 😔 I love her so much, she’s what made me feel complete (in a family sense), and she’s so perfect; she doesn’t deserve this.",0.11836249014972465,2.26751769361702,2.5669976359338094,92.16074074074076,86.95744680851065,5.694247438928291,21.469661150512213,7.0931098945946705,0.6208550039401106,858,30,193,13,27,294,133,235,0.141,0.736,0.123,-0.6593,1,0,0,0,0,1,33.0,1,1,2,2,10,9,1,0,12,1,17,7,1,1,2,27,43,18,1,6,2,2,1,0,0,1,4,3,1,3,12,10,0,1,3,2,0,2,3,2,2,2,12,5,36,7,19,29,5,27,0,0,1,2,25,12,0,2,13,122,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679620142119506,0.0,0.1031471075508258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588862749954185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113333141050125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533543880156698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997279796566832,0.0,0.0,0.0989743311952433,0.13716264993372038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20888826914583206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686123988304052,0.0,0.0626793938220644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238276333970637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965779917108602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243449494090798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714664110725305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125886863099948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242434453707599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538886987728152,0.11188140512508983,0.11729674364314255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894604659102413,0.0,0.09112703398278132,0.18383391817935876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145737433633595,0.0,0.0,0.13007826659954408,0.0,0.08400050529373314,0.188558823828995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607409726813294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404258608737944,0.0,0.0,0.1971606318310397,0.0,0.0,0.09878242418505136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254343590800792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406716902956682,0.0,0.0,0.09320471344757143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841273806678208,0.1445675898218102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911216957741802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887120749884826,0.0,0.2229151646083196,0.0,0.11185728408430913,0.0,0.14255127845390042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632883979070042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Disenthalus,2019/02/15,Terrible twos? Why does everyone complain about the Terrible Twos when 4 years old is so much worse?,4.2650000000000015,7.371049944444448,4.308888888888891,80.20000000000002,77.33333333333334,10.266666666666667,31.222222222222214,10.125756701596842,4.19368888888889,81,4,14,3,2,25,16,18,0.489,0.511,0.0,-0.9088,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702029163461201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4042304047600709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109811952263733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44390663288508375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817254921946351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43111129455937536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724222428595792
parenting,Yeoshua82,2019/02/15,"I fell in love with my son. We just brought our newest addition home yesterday. It feels like there’s the point in time for a dad, when they become “real”. That first kick or the first heartbeat you hear something inside just clicks.  For my first son it was when I held him for the first time. 

This time it was a little different. He was born on. The 11th. And I have enjoyed him.  I change him and help feed when mom is sore or tired. But it took me a couple days to fall in love with him.  

It was until 3-m this morning.  Holding him after he was fed that I realized I lived him.  I would die for him. I would do anything to protect him and to see his life filled with more good memories than bad. 

Then I found it odd that it took me so long to love him. I think about it and I love him like he’s always been here. But yesterday, it was just different. 

Any other parents out there have that happen? It was a weird sensation. And I don’t know if I should feel guilty it took so long. ",0.6379812834224623,2.7696241617647104,1.8508734402852056,98.30847593582891,84.34313725490195,5.277718360071302,17.60606060606061,6.574015621080383,-0.32214901960784337,755,17,177,8,22,239,112,204,0.08900000000000001,0.758,0.153,0.9432,3,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,2,1,1,4,12,10,0,0,8,0,16,9,0,0,0,31,34,17,1,4,8,5,2,2,0,3,3,1,1,0,18,11,2,3,6,0,0,7,1,2,0,4,15,5,32,8,20,16,1,34,0,0,2,4,29,7,0,3,22,121,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664801934167996,0.0,0.0,0.07898754782886384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558344704683462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698231979348827,0.0,0.12828109102127785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122873733394117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852031199438274,0.0,0.07490862521560361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054775053282628,0.2427088659345921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746018691711063,0.08297922716537247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3951963521607881,0.0,0.1273550029996569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742303941419868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271309632724764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091208511259636,0.0,0.07785443908994638,0.0,0.1165102285549523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06383426707885292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204180534919428,0.11349229454625362,0.116415120078411,0.10256460994339513,0.2055822628743476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193279467841923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603617131091328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897338475304645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980146834884016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220674770826582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255834574469793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894197161299629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442570456644823,0.0,0.0,0.20318802265580116,0.13349998350308326,0.0,0.0,0.3871484411974405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650225243600649,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CharlotteNotPie,2019/02/15,"How to arrange a family dinner and not kill all my family members? That's crazy, we just can't get together any day. There are too many family members! Me, my husband, 3 kids of different age (16, 12, 9), and our parents. I can't organize them :(

Hubby is too busy at his work and always forget about our family time. Kids also have too many extra classes and sports. How to get them together??",1.8554870129870125,4.186426675324679,4.25465909090909,81.70198863636367,80.94805194805195,8.005844155844157,22.61201298701299,8.841846274778883,2.0084558441558444,302,10,57,8,8,105,57,77,0.054000000000000006,0.858,0.08800000000000001,0.5684,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,2,1,9,1,1,0,1,0,5,1,0,2,1,11,7,7,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,10,0,5,7,2,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,3,37,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566791233279045,0.16302318470720298,0.0,0.0,0.1332339936915884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263537807382626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20469727445447625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7387930479845296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047228016222284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21675917760644167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39726925361609794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175487099283123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142439640713291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14263388690042655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Not_Jerry_Springer,2019/02/15,"LMP versus U/S? So based off every website pregnancy calculator, according to my LMP, I am 25 weeks pregnant. But according to the u/S I am 20 weeks pregnant. 

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Can someone explain this? Thank you!",2.4494736842105285,5.372866052631583,4.45294736842105,76.67363157894738,85.84210526315789,7.2505263157894735,33.915789473684214,8.238735603445708,3.608351578947369,162,10,26,4,5,55,29,38,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.5464,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,3,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616474053794025,0.4055757741253732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812216467466588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828082982407365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072971577291004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5354717973585976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4055757741253732,0.0
parenting,celerymanly,2019/02/15,"Ate our Valentine’s Day dinner separately I’m a stay at home mom. We are first time parents to a wonderful 3 months old. SO was gonna cook a valentines dinner tonight but had to stay at work late. I was hoping that he would get overtime because I wanted to make him a nice dinner instead. 

I tried putting our son to bed and go make dinner. He wasn’t having it so I apologized to my SO and he said that it was fine and that he’ll make a quick dinner for us after work.

SO comes home and I was feeding our son. He made a very nice steak dinner but our son wouldn’t stay in bed so we took turns holding him while the other person eat. Basically we ate our dinner separately while the other is in the room trying to put our son to sleep.

It wasn’t a romantic valentines dinner but sure it was different and something about it makes me feel warm and happy because I know I’ll remember this Valentine’s Day for the rest of my life. 


TL;DR : SO made Valentine’s Day dinner, baby crying and not sleeping. We took turns trying to put him to sleep while the other person eat the dinner separately.
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parenting,Lost-Alpaca,2019/02/15,"Need advice badly, please help I am the eldest sister of 3. My youngest sister has a bad problen with stealing from us, she is 13. She is going though self discovery with her sexuality and i feel she is using this as an excuse. She will eat/drink things in the fridge and cupboard that aint hers, she has stolen money in the past and uses my skin care products and lie all about it even when she gets caught. 

Me ans my family are stuck with what to do, we punish her by taking things off her, grounding her, tell her how she will end up in jail but it dosent stop her. We dont know what to do, we want to end this behaviour before it gets worse. Please help ",3.18311111111111,4.307424977777779,3.835000000000001,91.61250000000004,73.2962962962963,6.5851851851851855,20.166666666666668,6.742157984588678,0.0588666666666664,512,9,114,4,10,162,91,135,0.131,0.77,0.099,-0.6908,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,6,0,13,1,1,3,1,20,26,9,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,10,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,2,2,24,1,16,22,1,13,0,0,0,0,25,6,0,0,5,79,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650215336554303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820051566736272,0.0,0.0,0.14369917503301108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217810518307802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979188488073966,0.16543204386700944,0.0,0.17280006806526624,0.0,0.0,0.2991441443197656,0.0,0.0,0.11153955949100587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591991996441311,0.0,0.08538767294133491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645919249551714,0.0,0.09597487850042777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22638511163734665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280863010417888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521779107807435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120916108736064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707454652896977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617221490216992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118606768033126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269720892809673,0.0,0.1476031542448635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22438451242703086,0.0,0.1659176619066993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203134401771566,0.2917055038048691,0.0,0.0,0.09960614910840007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209684072135062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WalkingOnSunShine12,2019/02/15,"When people say, “don’t stop talking to your newborn”, what do I talk about? My little Francis is 3 weeks old and I know how crucial the first couple weeks are with brain developments. I just don’t know what to talk about. Do you parents have any tips? I would really appreciate it ",1.4242077922077918,4.059852563636365,2.7070129870129875,89.64909090909094,87.0,5.324675324675325,20.584415584415584,6.868970318607317,0.5288961038961033,221,7,44,3,7,71,42,55,0.043,0.892,0.065,0.2853,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,8,1,1,1,0,8,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,5,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,6,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154720322598134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539857934682194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25174479622112544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19352704564395645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25007633903648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280332207914213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387423014481217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252632272352588,0.0,0.0,0.1577326201501803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457541211395075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093177372673105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190215580646008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5486120457345793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650030939927085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162255258427946,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slightlydullard,2019/02/15,"How do you reward one child without making another feel punished/inadequate? My 5 yr old has just started school and is doing very well, receiving class awards, etc.  My wife and I want to recognize his achievement and effort, however, his older brother has a hard time focusing and performing at the same level as his 7 yr old peers. How do we reward the 5YO and use it as an opportunity to encourage his older brother, rather than highlight his shortfalls?",9.714397590361443,8.701320650602412,9.562740963855422,63.460496987951814,59.36144578313253,12.637349397590365,41.231927710843365,11.698219412168324,5.064038554216867,366,17,58,9,4,120,63,83,0.015,0.7390000000000001,0.246,0.9664,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,0,7,5,6,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,4,0,16,11,9,0,2,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,10,6,7,11,2,9,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,6,41,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793686755440118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971330600830493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13471192245650254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386634718510697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17784001345018924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.559134104365431,0.0,0.18053572099883647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696351974309441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18857619856088373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535391108826888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23010469693731295,0.0,0.2198276090186548,0.15714371141254166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395470707194645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568231197993928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TeenyMom,2019/02/15,"Son is current screaming about not being able to bring toys to bed Hello all. So right now, my two year old son (27 months) is in his room with my husband screaming his head off because we wouldnt let him bring an armful of toys to bed. It's a relatively new rule we've enforced that he only bring TWO toys upstairs to bed, since I've gotten tired of the 6 am tantrum when he realizes that hes let go of his toys in the middle of the night and they're now lost in the covers.  

He began this odd habit of bringing as many toys as he could carry everywhere we go about 6 months ago, and for the past month we've been enforcing a rule of only being allowed to bring two toys out and about, for about a week now we've also applied this rule to bed time.  

Has anyone gone through something similar? Is there any other way I should be handling this? It's pretty brutal listening to him scream bloody murder over some toys but I'm also tired of listening to him scream bloody murder at the ass crack of dawn once hes lost his toys. ",5.3768710691823935,4.962177599056607,5.6603773584905674,85.94672955974843,67.82075471698113,8.3874213836478,27.572327044025158,7.492282038375204,1.3186779874213843,809,21,174,7,12,258,120,212,0.203,0.787,0.009000000000000001,-0.9911,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,2,12,10,4,0,10,0,16,5,3,1,1,16,31,10,2,3,2,3,0,0,0,2,2,6,5,0,8,7,0,0,1,8,0,8,2,10,0,3,6,6,14,0,33,17,2,36,0,2,0,1,21,10,1,1,17,97,22,0,0.14061392676470266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464576191805385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248978128626405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562229205700593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983205270305246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571694462448046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226877866225847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982827005918887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443104559794387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875745340038417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30699342315145384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256045151090296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33671008442541744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135805806690188,0.0,0.13195664482004169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755066233108646,0.14974924286229008,0.0,0.21388645522153948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342319038943671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305491513888274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008352515561325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631729328398747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082514705983735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199311148374303,0.32323004734355026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.412078123339304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161279002627454,0.1127920103493324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055075862778728
parenting,Thefirstofherkind,2019/02/15,"I think my daughter just had one of those ‘always remember’ moments today So it’s Valentine’s Day.

My daughter is a clone variant of myself at her age (9): goofy and very socially awkward. 

She didn’t get any valentines from her classmates. My fiancée and I didn’t get valentines for the kids because, well, it’s not a family holiday it’s a romantic one. 

So on the ride home she’s looking out the window and holding back tears because no one gave her anything for Valentine’s Day. I feel terrible, and I’m already thinking we can stop in CVS and get something for her when her little sister (5) pulls something out of her book bag.

It’s a fairly hearty Valentine’s Day bag of quality goodies that I assume her teacher handed out to the class. Dove chocolate, heart shaped lollipops, the works. And she gives it to her sister and says

 “It’s my valentine just for you, because I love you.” And gives her the bag of delicious assorted candies.

  My oldest stared at her for a minute and then wordlessly put her arms around her and buried her face in her shoulder. She just hugged her tight like that for almost five minutes.

  I could see it in her eyes how much that moment meant to her. She knew her sister was giving up a bounty to make her feel special - and it worked.

I won’t make the same mistake again next year...but I’m sort of glad I did this year. It was such a beautiful moment between sisters.



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parenting,msnewbooti21,2019/02/16,"I'm a mother of two (7f, 5m) and constantly feel like I'm doing everything wrong My kids are honestly great and I try my hardest to be my best for them, but I have had this reaccuring overwhelming feeling of guilt by the end of the day. Once the day is over and the house is quiet I sit back and reflect on the day and start to second guess almost every decision I'm making as a parent. Does it happen to anyone else? How do I stop over thinking and beating myself up everyday?   ",3.482337662337663,4.379328979797978,5.301471861471863,82.24363636363638,72.33333333333334,8.485425685425685,26.26406926406927,8.841846274778883,1.919685714285714,375,12,76,7,7,129,71,99,0.116,0.78,0.104,-0.4956,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,2,2,7,0,2,7,0,8,0,0,2,0,17,18,9,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,6,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,3,9,4,13,16,1,14,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,2,10,51,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541187902083498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645156240760598,0.19995151842368492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005626409787926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479510101702195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108849547161958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775616839873781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17077475841367035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630205676380145,0.0,0.17284262661963526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644200564635405,0.0,0.17538585228867004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973447243057871,0.139413303672108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21515063897195705,0.21497680380076112,0.0,0.17256815444707668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22517383742623406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953391364593469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302623694506224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207825555609275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21668803468561898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812629660766382,0.0,0.0,0.16315192019189825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250425402378628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249223878858074,0.0,0.19063060197722972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21336298917476146,0.0,0.0
parenting,BiscuitCrumbsInBed,2019/02/16,"My son is pulling his hair out, help! My son has always twiddled with his hair when sleepy, drinking milk, in his sleep etc, and often twiddles mine if he's cuddling with me. But the last month or two he's started really tugging at it and pulls out a few strands at a time. He pulls my hair out too if I don't stop him in time. He now fiddles with these strands, rolling them between his fingers.

I didn't mind him doing it originally as it obviously soothed him. He never had a dummy or comforter. However he now has almost a bald patch on his head, or certainly a patch of noticeably shorter/thinning hair.

We physically stop him pulling at his hair whenever we can and his nursery has been told to do the same. I let him focus on my hair for a bit, thinking he'd leave his hair alone and then get bored of my hair, but it's made no difference. Now I know how of my hair he's pulling out, I don't allow him to do that either.

Any tips? I'm reluctant to try offering something alternative but if it's worked for someone here then I'd give it ago. He has loads of soft toys he coukd cuddled instead but takes no notice of them.",3.340253549695741,4.435422396551722,4.380628803245436,87.96254563894527,72.8793103448276,7.527789046653143,29.164300202839755,7.928766900206844,1.7140296146044625,884,36,192,12,17,288,128,232,0.066,0.89,0.044,-0.7098,1,1,2,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,2,1,9,3,0,0,8,0,16,17,13,4,3,39,25,19,0,3,11,2,11,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,13,2,2,2,2,0,5,6,1,0,1,5,11,32,2,26,18,5,32,0,0,0,2,34,11,0,8,16,122,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229873969479296,0.0,0.17204237872543945,0.1779428086653312,0.0,0.0,0.14295925266943382,0.0,0.0,0.11683633958275855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18757145643883852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950434125084874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830788413058803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916129885838161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897633633426786,0.16481531090083526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17632609590768644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516027441751014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944219982825696,0.14004765920529133,0.0,0.1819214344568681,0.0,0.17568683613124453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257028636037185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734785997756473,0.0,0.13713668963793005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251006449170175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912124687571372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006555381398496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719335610836446,0.0,0.14557361683557524,0.13226733334968116,0.0,0.0,0.12160763589190185,0.0,0.0,0.28728084069489424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917934875845066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008857891438467,0.0,0.0,0.2003669816040496,0.0,0.0,0.16417132310016458,0.0,0.1166473606316227,0.0,0.16783289934246148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507934937747894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,An0therSunr1se,2019/02/16,"The smacking... I can't take the smacking!!! Just a parental vent, i figured y'all would understand. I've always had trouble with the sound of people chewing (there's a word for that but i can't remember right this second). I've learned to deal with it, but I'm sitting here next to my 6 year old and he's eating chips and just crunching and smacking away... I've told him to chew with his mouth closed like 10 times in the last 10 minutes. It is ineffective. I now want to hide every scrap of crunchy food in the house. ",1.4283704974271032,3.6497566226415152,2.3059176672384254,95.69371355060035,81.83018867924528,4.986620926243568,23.78730703259005,6.11248444174946,0.37365283018867945,406,15,89,3,11,127,74,106,0.068,0.883,0.049,0.2325,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,5,5,1,0,0,18,10,5,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,7,4,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,8,1,13,7,0,12,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,7,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949396788692462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22011371679960076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24153233219939996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397268679187873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19739095488827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832922348705684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703275971400509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19096942102094752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445734534282084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24915937533470955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24583738818161666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26014014956223713,0.0,0.0,0.16242021264584922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653935032563671,0.2000737897174307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761493592984831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661051775435346,0.0,0.0,0.22386452368135545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438936811351804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381843793151151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642574842229685,0.0,0.0,0.15086860097563412
parenting,cookmybook,2019/02/16,"I've said it before and I will say it again.... If you don't vaccinate your children, I don't care about any of your parenting advice.",0.730952380952381,2.8685768571428567,2.8000000000000007,91.61166666666668,84.0,6.590476190476192,20.047619047619047,7.793537801064563,0.7712476190476201,104,3,23,2,3,35,22,28,0.107,0.893,0.0,-0.3875,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,5,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,1,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4005702776799617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787604903962009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488127710989826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179420096022461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4551690104333028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899289568280748,0.3259858118530468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cinderxlla,2019/02/16,"Question re: parents working as teachers at their own children’s schools. Is this considered a conflict of interest? Can a parent work as teacher or counselor at their own children’s school? I’ve noticed a few parents at my daughter’s school & how the children whose parents work at the school tend to gain much more recognition & rewards compared to those who don’t have parents as school staff? What’s the policy on the above? If there’s conflict of interest, how and who do I address this to?",5.577370820668694,7.329288500000002,5.213100303951368,81.60500000000002,68.25531914893618,7.499088145896658,38.96048632218845,7.957251820313856,3.3106826747720373,405,24,69,5,7,124,58,94,0.048,0.8079999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.8786,5,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,5,3,3,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,2,0,8,6,8,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,13,6,5,5,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,0,47,11,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26089988664047714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850554229852672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707261869388976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6684323036491316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487203298535952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6092402304464578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629510355562184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stirfriday17,2019/02/16,"Creamed Ice I just lied my ass off when my 3yo asked me if my shake was ice cream because I didn’t want to share. 

3yo: ooooh, is that ice cream!? Can I have some!?

Me: OH NO, this is “creamed ice”. It’s really yucky but I have to eat it because it’s good for the baby! ( I’m pregnant)

3yo: [stares at me, untrustingly. Sniffs shake]
        Is that yucky?

Me: Oh yes! But I have to make sure the baby gets all her vitamins! 
         [trying not to laugh at this point] 

3yo: OKAY. Good job mommy!


What are some BS lies you’ve told your kids that they’ve actually believed? ",-1.819407114624504,-0.2423865652173891,0.09559288537549547,103.6875790513834,110.30434782608695,3.482213438735178,13.053359683794467,5.565023196281405,-1.241695652173913,415,9,103,4,22,133,73,115,0.175,0.6709999999999999,0.154,0.525,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,0,0,2,8,0,2,2,2,10,3,1,1,2,11,16,4,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,9,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,6,14,6,8,13,3,7,0,0,5,1,6,4,1,3,1,53,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.2602457779343005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493141759970901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251370112779462,0.0,0.0,0.3004623105638891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27288500552434986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933173828604686,0.0,0.0,0.44736491359896746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646433947603893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801409472808416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25210322268881896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084503484761393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25134715479895164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548286402431452,0.0,0.1810613920652406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729753381485215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Th3OddPotato,2019/02/16,"Ah Marriage Humour I couldnt find the right subreddit but here's the conversation (me=me, M=mom,D=Dad)
So my family likes to make jokes that are messed up, but hey it's our family.
Me: in my show rich kids drink and get away with everything 
M: that doesnt always happen in real life tho, is it a fictional show?
Me: yeah
Me: the parents pay people so they dont get in trouble 
M:that sometimes happens in real life
Me: Here, I give you money. You give me your dignity.
M: -chuckles-
D: that's basically marriage 
M: wowwww
D: I love you!",-1.3072123893805312,0.5566523274336319,1.7550929203539845,92.5427278761062,105.3716814159292,5.091858407079647,17.15442477876106,6.742157984588678,0.29835256637168106,415,13,91,8,20,145,71,113,0.038,0.667,0.295,0.9872,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,1,4,1,0,5,8,0,0,4,2,5,4,0,1,0,9,13,6,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,16,6,8,12,0,7,0,0,0,1,15,7,0,0,1,46,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072462694051875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018884016610933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21229703542658485,0.1774501655054812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279871920745795,0.0,0.34152904920767685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556047553319111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927840206378235,0.3475357598162015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320366485134032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558918556016633,0.08849681489918783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348769683871958,0.0,0.12091366909450522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121512816394723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20113671686777704,0.0,0.0,0.12558103153060773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123584293414302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546942494758207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915403645705866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,have2gopee,2019/02/16,"When the universe wants you to know Just read a post that made me think of this little feel-good thought and wanted to share with you folks. We were at a hotel some time back, and I took the boys, 2, 5, and 7, for the breakfast buffet so my wife could get a quiet shower in. They got their food and we sat at a table, and they were being very quiet and well behaved for three little boys. A number of people stopped at the table to tell me how sweet and well behaved they were. Some time later I was relating this to someone, and they said that sometimes things seem overwhelming, your kids might be creating total chaos, but the universe wants you to know that you're raising great and ultimately very well behaved kids, and it's using these folks to get you the message. I keep that in the back of my mind when I see people smiling at my kids (in a good and safe way) or telling me how great or well behaved they are.  ",8.437851351351354,5.771707508108111,7.6525337837837855,81.38582770270273,63.10810810810811,10.114864864864863,33.395270270270274,7.1686216300943375,2.0552297297297297,719,19,152,4,8,223,102,185,0.019,0.787,0.194,0.9871,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,5,6,0,12,11,0,1,13,0,9,2,0,4,1,39,27,19,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,9,14,2,3,5,2,0,1,0,1,4,1,10,5,23,10,19,13,3,20,0,1,1,0,24,9,0,6,8,103,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000689924253487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038697228090186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577959339065516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731055929454965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593781786714426,0.0,0.0,0.21823387439592884,0.10404830619644546,0.2868588780186603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563380258771105,0.0,0.0,0.14299286398379654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607773566267552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309838421216095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800950712584148,0.13135817009285786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803820320294469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245943901634303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012951805437176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123749482662009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366832384311477,0.1184329762684467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110228488966651,0.0,0.12866660174918798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087646706430142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227416326852612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864288806696443,0.08335918259092824,0.0,0.10328035259675973,0.15171807983564325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445395681844368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235971639187124,0.0,0.21468286508873932,0.2301989887484487,0.10326281001814824,0.0,0.0,0.4678816432134818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marbear09,2019/02/16,PLEASE RSVP Today was my little brothers birthday party. He invited over 30 kids and only 3 showed up.  Even if you aren’t showing up please text and let them know. My mom spent $100 on an ice cream cake and even more on food for 30 kids. Please save the family money and the embarrassment. A day of celebration turned into a day of humiliation for my 12 year old brother. And if you rsvp saying you’ll show up and then things change STILL LET THEM KNOW! ,2.8387087912087914,4.794451703296701,3.8880082417582433,87.44761675824181,75.92307692307692,6.747802197802199,20.166208791208803,7.6454224807358475,0.5352516483516485,359,8,75,5,8,116,64,91,0.067,0.795,0.138,0.715,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,2,0,3,2,0,1,5,0,5,1,0,0,0,12,9,9,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,7,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,8,1,11,4,1,15,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,2,7,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888524940975829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23026370747623354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23582405636701945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829455487265607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158693844524531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962219298418386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651014664010084,0.0,0.0,0.17892583850252036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20908268618443449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732869853072606,0.0,0.0,0.13577394590102068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5878902958506702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14196777650838466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256781621442066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860201472004465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16921788275284522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418055826324399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149622475204541
parenting,Count241234,2019/02/16,"What is your opinion on taking a 4-year old hunting? This is not us, my wife and I don’t like guns and don’t like hunting (personal preference). I understand wanting to take your kid hunting as a bonding experience but 4 seems way too young. They also skin the animals and slaughter the young ones (their hogs) in front of her.

Is this normal behavior and more importantly would this affect her development any? I’m afraid she’ll be used to killing things and not really give value to life. ",5.0151152073732685,6.692860311827957,5.578525345622122,78.73064516129034,69.53763440860214,9.185253456221199,30.4900153609831,9.606745405546679,2.9187370199692784,391,16,72,9,7,126,70,93,0.098,0.83,0.07200000000000001,-0.6634,0,0,0,1,0,0,12.0,1,2,2,0,2,4,1,1,4,0,8,2,1,2,0,17,16,8,2,4,3,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,1,11,2,7,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,5,46,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882035031200714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16004113256975672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302103571901876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257621996341514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26037187145591145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166229536263114,0.2299531490264282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23058591594191466,0.0,0.0,0.24695261536721014,0.0,0.15947433046841727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549220184970576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150766584713401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21424719046723809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.353896901490688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635125825705412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450000908054437,0.2830883376820105,0.20326056405176768,0.0,0.0,0.13881124481176094,0.18680411168586591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718072926713962,0.0,0.0,0.1515530077150036
parenting,RennDennis,2019/02/16,"Meeting my Girlfriends 5 year old son for the first time in 10 hours. So I’m from Scotland, she’s from the US, we’ve been dating for over a year.

So far me and her son have only interacted through video calls. These have usually been really positive! I’ve spoken to him about his likes and interests, I have bought him things and he’s made me some art, (it’s on my fridge) he’s told me he loves me.

I’m really nervous that he won’t like me in person or that I won’t know how to speak to him or even that he’ll irritate me because I’ve never been around him for long periods of time before. 

Any advice and support people could offer would be really helpful? I’m currently doing checks around the flat to make sure it’s all safe, changing the medicine cabinet to a higher cupboard, checking cables and sockets, cleaning and tidying etc. ",4.7295104895104885,5.34050447928994,5.553297471759013,82.6125067240452,69.29585798816568,8.749004841312534,28.973103819257666,8.841846274778883,2.144983431952664,663,23,133,11,11,217,108,169,0.03,0.816,0.154,0.9637,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,6,0,12,1,0,3,3,22,23,11,0,2,2,2,0,2,1,4,0,1,1,1,7,8,0,2,1,2,3,0,3,1,0,1,6,1,18,7,19,11,3,20,0,0,0,1,25,7,0,3,15,79,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16902152407262735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762361204353496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30795491841349115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543918602219242,0.0,0.14718232847583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17661882718679026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297633923772685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381002168207645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290412479689686,0.11424318949140327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712579287907168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593625313225014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033782831988215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950582373089274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690060521002903,0.0,0.0,0.15307050918808165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561096308446615,0.1636657255862935,0.11545693413882828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334029504287533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181499956646634,0.0,0.0,0.13154933274004293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199136623269866,0.15102826779738224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33242160908343266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628110335045,0.16301951787543575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491170706212303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201717104410268,0.0,0.0,0.1652775505118376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20805821772752436,0.0,0.19049890947243855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287092027358786,0.0,0.0,0.2227703828043154
parenting,Ms300,2019/02/16,"Unsure if I should discuss death of a friend’s baby sibling with my daughter? My daughter (4) is a very sensitive and anxious kid in general. She worries a lot about things in general. Her friend’s baby sister died from an illness suddenly last week. We attended the funeral but did not take my daughter. Now I am wondering if we should tell her about the baby’s death. My concern is there may be another friend at day care that may tell her and what impact this may have on her if we don’t tell her ourselves. So far we have discussed death of grandparents who are no longer around. Saying sometimes when you are old your body stops working properly and sometimes this might result in death. She seems to understand this and seems to be ok with it since it’s a far away concept of losing people who may be old. This situation however is a bit different in that it’s about a baby, so I’m unsure how to proceed. Any help would be greatly appreciated. ",4.449953667953668,6.019873227027031,5.318166023166025,80.4700675675676,70.78378378378378,8.528957528957529,30.511583011583014,9.04235418022936,2.654536679536679,757,32,141,15,14,247,110,185,0.191,0.715,0.094,-0.9486,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,2,0,2,10,7,0,0,9,1,22,2,1,2,0,34,29,12,6,6,5,4,0,0,3,8,1,1,0,1,13,11,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,1,19,6,20,16,2,21,0,1,0,0,30,10,0,12,10,100,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589505506491856,0.1478665528224906,0.0,0.15930684399512662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553327238345674,0.0,0.0,0.13248826130824148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539518886678965,0.1566359072210461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377421982500688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094302757000758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635133629345534,0.147330691376626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32684358389926216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546956686726884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451940120681357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494606934079435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15775974676514792,0.0,0.1198859345775056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959466093306056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29594310248638445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776206538893197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214081067801182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256749571781553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664908887375942,0.15850680045365073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789349380768112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789487815141347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602575197648507,0.0,0.3697600514775166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368411907166686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468016179431727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635216689022765,0.0,0.0,0.11311375005405586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292478322715042,0.10266062030761833,0.14320760658395726,0.0,0.10017303040440466,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,West-Xylophone,2019/02/16,"So this happened... I was turning the Amazon TV on Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood for our 5 and 2 year old boys.  Using the remote app, which intermittently stops working.  It highlights and get stuck on an Amazon Prime Original.  The preview starts playing and the next thing I hear is, “Boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy marries girl, girl cuts off boys penis!”  It was a preview for an Amazon Original Show about the Lorena Bobbit case.  I called Amazon they walked me though how to turn off the auto play ads.  Previews and Ads should be suitable for all ages.  I don’t have a problem with the word penis alone when used appropriately to label a part of the human body but, the whole phrase is not OK for children.  After we heard it he looked at me and said something but, I was too busy trying to get it to go away that I don’t remember what he said.  So we talked about not repeating it.  I’m still upset, I can’t make our sons un-hear those words! 🤦🏽‍♀️",1.820129533678756,4.134646284974097,2.8470751295336783,91.8381774611399,80.96891191709845,5.31077720207254,20.012694300518135,6.508806274219699,0.12428310880829008,755,20,157,7,20,240,128,193,0.077,0.8420000000000001,0.081,-0.5392,0,1,1,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,1,1,9,7,1,1,14,1,11,2,1,6,1,26,29,12,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,11,11,9,0,1,1,4,0,3,5,3,0,0,7,5,14,4,21,20,3,22,0,0,1,1,27,7,0,0,12,90,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901691367141314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332354638329054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126868410039984,0.0,0.0,0.16663650677928066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052137983816246,0.0,0.09274534514323304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14430947879766148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678567864554243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370395448367242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728646981131727,0.0,0.10893142308091816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355574017108386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712417596579309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672021520897013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615198178037298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18486386808595914,0.0,0.3104644883796506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563259302238167,0.0,0.0,0.11550760298486132,0.0,0.13032473887145232,0.13643518784313766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116694096701698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841701169618197,0.0,0.16033456941366678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079614304027977,0.3550104255158026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818896783541401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18219719688395092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880516978671656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508981119304668
parenting,DaddyBurton,2019/02/16,"""Hey Dad, how do you spell E""? Son: Hey Dad, how do you spell E?

  
Me: What do you mean?

  
Son: ... E  


Me: Can you use E in a sentence?

​

Son: Yeah

​

Me: Okay, tell me E in a sentence..  


Son: ..... I don't know.

​

Me: Do you know what E means?

​

Son: Yeah, I think so.

​

Me: Okay, what do you think it means?

​

Son: ... I'm not sure..  


Me: Where did you hear it?

  
Son: ... Uhm, The Alphabet.  


Me: \*Facepalming\*

  
Wife: He's totally trolling us haha",-2.6923508771929825,-3.729119305263157,-0.6918421052631576,105.66293859649124,147.31578947368422,2.529824561403509,15.798245614035089,4.935628992294339,-0.9531122807017542,346,12,83,3,30,110,44,95,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.8939,0,0,0,0,0,0,79.0,1,7,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,3,2,13,18,3,0,0,1,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,18,4,2,17,1,3,0,0,0,0,23,3,0,0,0,42,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5027385383086941,0.5638048796266028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715937380199014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849998644650183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25271336512967124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288498775509758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675920336898587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910311640371816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302150349263816,0.06679047050710997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5638048796266028,0.0
parenting,jmba,2019/02/16,Baby must haves se one time around ? I’m due with my second next month. My first is currently 2. I was wondering if there was anything you bought second time around that you didn’t need nor think about the first time ? ,2.785,4.966294883720934,2.5978488372093054,95.58421511627908,76.90697674418605,6.16046511627907,17.726744186046513,7.1686216300943375,-0.08643720930232535,172,3,37,2,4,51,34,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,11,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,4,0,5,0,4,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,9,25,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21864794809384236,0.4730575538720762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4520075084328599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207870768213705,0.0,0.0,0.19701272127005245,0.0,0.0,0.28257430157419744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004477410780648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702494322151706,0.0,0.0,0.46479433001791204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28813964021775484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaycarpeteater,2019/02/16,"Let kids ""pedal their own bicycle"" An interesting read i stumbled upon: https://www.parentsguide.asia/people/my-parenting-journey-brahma-c-foz?utm_campaign=shareaholic&utm_medium=facebook&utm_source=socialnetwork",55.00974358974359,70.09208946153846,30.57692307692308,-116.44025641025637,0.5384615384615472,10.964102564102564,35.1025641025641,8.841846274778883,6.5449179487179485,205,4,7,3,3,49,13,13,0.0,0.8029999999999999,0.197,0.4019,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8345686511178015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938178673718274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385230650273468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fastforpeacemom,2019/02/16,"Should I teach my pre-teen to lie or tell the truth when websites require they be 13? My son wants to make an Steam account so he can play online games with his friends.  I know there's a federal law or something about collecting information from kids, so they have a box to check, ""I agree to the terms of service AND am more then 13 years old."" Emphasis in the original. Not to mix subreddits, but AITA for telling him not to lie? ",4.1932945736434135,5.175778639534887,4.54418604651163,88.01224806201557,70.74418604651162,8.524031007751939,29.449612403100772,8.841846274778883,2.056417054263566,337,13,73,6,6,106,69,86,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.7424,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,2,1,16,8,8,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,12,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,6,44,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950507250218161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987921674453264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549175283571834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007340112605334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940010254945392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6675852098487015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22525125663791945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459275218038281
parenting,choir_grrl,2019/02/16,"Post partum arthritis anyone? After having my daughter 5 years ago my joints never ever felt the same. Almost every joint in my body aches/clicks/pops pretty much all the time. Fingers, wrists, shoulders, hips and especially my feet. I’ve seen a podiatrist for orthotics so I can go to work and not be in agony. I brought the joint pain up to my Doctor about 2 years ago but she didn’t say anything about joint inflammation/arthritis after having a baby. I’m 33, in decent shape (yoga, walking, swimming) and about 7 lbs away from pre-baby weight. Have any other mothers noticed drastic changes in their joints? Sorry if this should be posted elsewhere. ",4.434545454545455,6.966383,4.496212121212125,82.25727272727276,73.16666666666666,5.363636363636363,25.90909090909091,6.11248444174946,1.0619999999999998,520,18,85,3,11,161,92,120,0.033,0.93,0.038,0.1346,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,5,0,8,9,6,0,3,13,13,6,0,2,3,2,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,0,4,3,1,0,0,4,5,9,0,15,6,3,22,0,0,1,0,5,7,0,2,9,51,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412196925758785,0.0,0.19272729274175465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088374846047018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457697835450713,0.0,0.15838344377227292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082851357970228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378677624949705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203603925631398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699751064131876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740968730622758,0.16216123867928192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847979218293068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938308759022433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14148494569123285,0.0,0.14844194889491327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21912426620974326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047978140236092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686592073057226,0.1958075164932174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15305700223017618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154503715928444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222870261812813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23437221819398124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011782772367048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478840960657716
parenting,poppitds,2019/02/16,My sons hate my boyfriend I just wondered if I’m being stupid and selfish but after over ten years of being alone ( boys father ran of with a younger woman) I have finally found someone who I’m totally in love with yet my boys will not have anything to do with him at all. They are 18 and 14 and have been brought up in a different religion they have not been asked to change anything about them and I am very aware that I chose to bring them up that way and it would be unfair to ask them to change at all. However I no longer live that life and everyone can see I’m happier . Except my children they don’t want me to speak to him around them and go off on one when they know I’m texting or when they know I’m with him even though that is only ever when they are at their dads. My sons knew about another man I had a relationship with for a while and were the same about that so it finished. I though they would find this easier as They know my new partner and liked him but now have decided they “hated “ him when they met him. I understand they have been through a lot but so have I. And now I’m happy how can I get my children to see that I deserve a happy life to. Their father has remarried and they have kids as well. And my sons go there all the time why can’t I have some happiness for myself . ,2.9707664233576665,3.9494962591240887,3.8785474452554745,91.65650729927007,73.63503649635038,7.523795620437956,23.918978102189783,7.908726449838941,0.9251655474452548,1021,28,235,14,20,328,142,274,0.075,0.7959999999999999,0.13,0.9645,2,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,18,0,21,10,3,0,8,0,30,3,0,1,5,48,58,29,0,4,9,6,0,1,1,3,2,1,0,8,10,18,0,0,9,0,0,5,5,4,1,2,10,3,46,6,37,42,7,32,0,0,2,1,45,11,0,5,16,178,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192670462731454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356846992848193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964488382042493,0.11339472515804372,0.23816519973658246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695011569248966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308442406380475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413293179595767,0.11522201392185415,0.0,0.12171653248233015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395379718564868,0.11642251850394465,0.0,0.0,0.1396650028468351,0.0,0.0,0.06655051030657977,0.0,0.14478536483108356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067934104268688,0.0,0.2515216900306325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100132593923533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799437589065202,0.062231169830599675,0.0,0.11247839662621974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829346151517184,0.1149649356168786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230238759422024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631561850766975,0.09687781904981398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367578692994306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030098750335927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792820285261996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502993448538177,0.0,0.07427598731696917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326065098388684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510139451920253,0.07513170562656522,0.10110788609414853,0.0,0.0,0.11452943193986714,0.0,0.1149401497831892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813759041448664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809734269693549,0.0,0.0,0.08202819575535923
parenting,mattdnd,2019/02/16,"Question about splitting responsibilities strategy for baby/toddler My wife and I trade off responsibility for our kiddo every 3 hours on weekends so that each of us has time to do errands/chores/nap/relax while the other takes care of the little angel/monster. However, when I mention this to people, they seem surprised. I’d assume this would be common since it works well for us, but it doesn’t seem to be used by any other parents I’ve spoken with. 

Kid is 1 year old currently. 

Is this a regular thing and I just happen to have friends that coincidentally haven’t done this?  Is it a common tactic but is bad and there’s a set of reasons for the good of the kid/family not to do it?

The main downside we’re trying to consciously avoid is not having all three of us together ever. So we do dinners together and we spend time playing together sometimes when it’s the other person’s “turn”, and we go to events together. But maybe there are other downsides I’m not seeing that make this a bad plan?

Sorry if it’s only my ignorance and this is a normal strategy families use and by luck I just haven’t heard of or met other people that do this. 

Any thoughts are appreciated. ",4.966108695652171,6.1205166869565275,6.279728260869565,75.64350543478264,69.08695652173913,8.706521739130435,28.722826086956523,9.017664075816787,2.3884565217391303,938,33,171,17,16,317,134,230,0.084,0.8109999999999999,0.105,0.5845,3,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,7,0,1,2,11,11,0,1,11,0,22,1,0,4,2,39,37,17,0,3,10,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,23,12,1,2,7,2,2,1,6,4,1,1,4,2,14,7,23,30,3,19,0,0,1,0,17,3,0,7,14,123,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812901335241294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22259125885177145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590298004291138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364069073535394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057282028840205,0.1123066574666608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513170374256181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298326805709476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575453327004318,0.11180139344237602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178721928941754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126857398705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335964543991735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889753453522908,0.0,0.1339125897487976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060064877906574,0.0,0.0,0.1398705192071191,0.0,0.0,0.10137673755770077,0.0,0.0,0.14800815309267354,0.0,0.0,0.1848197268978668,0.11638791888473682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932073447856278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704930283104133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621873523143516,0.2426932448134588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102628747805383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183201191723726,0.1492126680864689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002211361148955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855517338248138,0.0,0.0,0.10582121925388008,0.15545059430373198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049845133656002,0.14498651684036185,0.0,0.0,0.4810118659507079,0.2302479006831165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198480754240592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704023607181128,0.0,0.0,0.09468883481654536,0.0,0.0,0.08583751115564285
parenting,aaccvv,2019/02/16,"Xpost from r/beyondbabybump Sensory Overload in Preschool Classroom My LO just turned 4 in Nov of 2018 and is enrolled in a private PRE-K 3 program. The teacher announced to us yesterday that she is all out of ideas for our son. She continues to prescribe him as being ""sensory overloaded"" and saying he is reacting in class because of it. Because she feels she has exhausted her resources with him, what have parents bought or invested in to help the teacher accommodate? They are not interested in anything that can't fit in the classroom (trust me I asked about putting duct tape hop scotch for all the kids and they yelled at me). 

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Side note, our son has not been diagnosed with anything so I am just trying to research these items in the mean time while we wait for any doctors to announce a diagnosis.",5.8956231186032495,7.588084582781459,5.705358217941001,78.60777844671887,67.41059602649007,8.934617700180615,36.9060806742926,9.339509955726095,3.601988079470199,656,35,115,13,11,204,107,151,0.063,0.919,0.018000000000000002,-0.6876,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,7,0,11,3,0,1,2,19,17,7,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,7,0,1,3,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,2,3,18,2,26,14,3,17,0,0,0,0,21,12,0,1,4,80,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527032240652326,0.2638479959192496,0.14766215846068914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357374256879791,0.0,0.20299591795284197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647321830010203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039180149512008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22225125712582453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979214578831696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554388429269327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245123820218318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23652833574492246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24110747706560004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182849536835515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267787317121538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661566210292854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474233197575253,0.2361851867850865,0.0,0.0,0.261191821789653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638479959192496,0.0
parenting,I_am_D_captain_Now,2019/02/16,"Back pain from holding son? I'm making this post because I'm assuming this has to be a reoccurring problem amongst parents as their children grow older!

I'm a right-handed dominant male, and my son has just got to about 22 pounds... in the past two months i've developed reoccuring back pain/muscle spasms that travels down my right side of my back from below my shoulder blade to about 4 inches above my lumbar region. Since this is on the right side, and I'm assuming this is because I typically hold my son with my right arm as i do things with my left.

Is this common? Are there any good stretches out there to help?

I'm trying to switch to my left side when holding him, as well as hit the gym, but for the time being i need to get this resolved!",6.5043874172185445,5.722728470198676,6.618932119205301,81.22654387417221,65.62251655629139,9.404304635761587,31.45778145695364,8.472884824447931,2.167919867549669,593,19,122,7,8,190,91,151,0.028,0.911,0.061,0.584,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,10,5,0,0,6,0,9,3,2,1,0,16,19,8,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,8,5,0,3,3,2,0,2,0,2,1,1,1,0,14,3,24,15,0,27,0,0,0,0,9,15,0,2,9,73,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081269387515144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3667885987498798,0.0,0.1938525132999904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830720794997931,0.0,0.0,0.13336348962938754,0.12716857309887775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657581350988532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455126801804327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613519368412293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269140277247618,0.0,0.0,0.1178981060506727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383790723271172,0.0,0.17655311067489748,0.0,0.15178557780473118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228014171891988,0.0,0.0,0.15214361808262009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5431479915510191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315282511651338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563398704963567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271545319331442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795204697085982,0.0,0.1553220315913542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296206041614873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShadedRunner,2019/02/16,"What did you do or wish you would have done during paterental leave? I’ll have our daughter for three months of paternity leave during her three to six month stage. 

I am starting to read on sleep training and understanding the importance of daily routines. 

What did you accomplish during your leave or wish you would have known beforehand? ",7.8145000000000024,9.372022783333335,6.190000000000001,77.40000000000002,62.83333333333334,9.333333333333334,31.66666666666667,9.516144504307137,2.900166666666667,277,10,46,5,4,81,42,60,0.055,0.777,0.168,0.8577,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,10,1,1,0,0,9,14,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,8,0,6,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,3,33,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064062959837587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6407047372998084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219856123458141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201751814003064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20184289519630466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427623388458651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099739316091327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4638837251717094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865598530849469,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,luluulalaa,2019/02/16,"Getting 2.5 year old to stay in her bed all night?!?!!... I recently moved by previously amazing sleeper daughter from her crib into a big girl bed. In her crib, she was sleeping 7pm-8am most nights, alone in her room without a problem. 

After moving her, I decided to spend a few nights sleeping with her to get her adjusted - big mistake!

Now, she wakes up every night after a few hours of sleep, walking into my room and demanding and crying I sleep with her. She is able to fall asleep by herself ok, but will not stay asleep nor stay in her room. 

Every night at bedtime I remind her to stay in her bed, she has to sleep alone, etc etc... but then every night she will wake up and come to my room and demand I sleep next to her. Because it’s often past midnight and I’m already asleep, I just go to her room and sleep with her because I’m too tired. 

How do I end this vicious cycle?! I’ve thought about reversing the locks and locking her in her room, but I’m scared it’ll make her freak out even more and cry even louder.... help!!!!! ",2.792872975277064,4.40816936714976,3.581045751633986,91.0758823529412,75.13526570048309,6.03000852514919,24.736857061665248,6.522977012572876,0.6969445296959362,797,26,168,6,17,253,111,207,0.154,0.8190000000000001,0.026,-0.9809,0,2,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,1,5,1,7,13,12,2,1,31,16,14,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,9,1,3,15,0,0,3,0,1,6,3,5,0,0,2,0,32,2,32,11,7,47,0,0,0,0,26,20,0,2,17,106,35,0,0.08346734070636473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289398507781714,0.09210828601638266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176183235750544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189972331510107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833699088831318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392728944657778,0.0,0.18617629696535612,0.11025878267463103,0.0,0.21097450338599472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721648106326338,0.0,0.04743641322904848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055946399059445436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219851738034578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571509805602105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742514769407747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876846375755383,0.4699706701211888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758493335334466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967902123068797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986697254540412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241392937252348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356536904238646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5846933387512123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558603180396933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626374512842319,0.0,0.0959334296001287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045953790193655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375023083063887
parenting,SunfriedTomatoes,2019/02/16,"Baby struggles to fall asleep I have a 2 month old girl who refuses to fall asleep. My husband and I spend hours sitting in a dimly lit room in the evening winding down and trying to get her to sleep. We only go to the bedroom after we see her begin to yawn. But then she won't fall asleep for hours. When she does, she sleeps well during the night (wakes up for 2 feeds at 2am and at 5am and then directly falls back asleep). 
In the morning she wakes up at 8am and falls asleep quickly for a nap. After feeding her around 11am we go outside (sling or pram) and she sleeps until we come back at 14-16. From then until 23 her rhythm varies depending on whether we somehow get her to sleep or not. 

During the day she doesn't want to take naps (if she falls asleep it's super shallow and anything can wake her up), the only thing that works is wearing her in a sling - and there (after a short fuss) she can sleep for hours at a time.

We try to have a consistent routine, we're paying attention not to expose her to any screens, in the evening we're calm and quiet ourselves, but nothing seems to be helping. She relaxes sucking on a parental pinky finger but seems to be fighting sleep until a couple of hours has passed and it's again time to feed her (EBF). 

Are we doing something wrong? Is there something we're missing? Or is it just something to wait through? ",5.352098375451263,5.1180576823104715,5.347434566787005,87.55956340252709,67.84476534296029,7.791425992779782,29.947879061371843,6.6274283507984215,1.3978449458483757,1066,35,227,6,16,333,143,277,0.051,0.901,0.048,-0.3977,1,0,3,0,2,0,31.0,7,0,0,2,13,9,2,1,16,0,14,21,17,1,0,38,28,25,0,2,11,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,1,6,19,3,2,3,3,2,10,4,5,1,0,0,5,28,4,45,25,0,56,0,1,3,0,32,19,1,8,26,144,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243101263847909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764933272873145,0.09481721484387697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638004980593885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174964364492272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785220073593355,0.0,0.06869066997089132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320833972610644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069878926774215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129501879234477,0.0,0.12106511148824932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139196008342166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41956682613290297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501592343474866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995319295414727,0.0,0.1022000081091553,0.0,0.11176519259491928,0.0,0.0,0.16201256221839092,0.0,0.0,0.11826766519344553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487533661579383,0.19392690755580985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6395264682358761,0.0,0.0,0.24599170757286634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134823908059828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008288410923978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707610586167449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421463586350202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462771569747274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282284351456559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576602208836743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754114830990343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164528655447173,0.0,0.0
parenting,lithander,2019/02/16,"Did you raise your second child different than the first? With the experience of raising the first one what did you do different with your second child? 

Maybe an interesting change of mind? Something experience taught you, that you didn't have with the first? A different way of looking at things?",5.599038461538459,8.605113134615388,4.804461538461538,79.14053846153845,71.5,8.775384615384615,27.707692307692305,9.3871,2.7631107692307695,241,9,41,6,5,72,32,52,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.5661,3,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,6,0,3,0,1,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,4,1,6,1,8,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,3,34,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690987254837612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6130544640791198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826520362357319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4991100900806124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424759906622016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649795108737514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749165818415867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253786238352386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505758924766946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994230161993478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552514287068976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FatherHelpMe,2019/02/16,"how do i help my 9yo daughter with her anxiety? my daughter has pretty bad anxiety.  she almost never wants to do anything involving people that she doesn't know and when she does, a family member must be right next to her or else she will panic.  we literally can't get her to do the most basic social stuff on her own.   
  

we've tried to take her to an NBA game recently and the minute we got to the hallways of the stadium she had a massive panic attack and would not step inside. her stated complaint was that it was too loud.  we had her tested for auditory issues in the school and the results were negative. but she likes using loud noise add an excuse all the time.   
  

we have been trying to get her to play sports. she loves basketball and plays at home all the time so we joined a league.  even though she goes and participates in every practice she refuses to play in any of the games.  we can't even get her to sit on the bench without her mom next to her.  
  
of all the things she's anxious about, playing in that league appears (to me at least) to be the one that has the highest chance of happening.  I'm not sure what's the best approach to help her though.  my current strategy is to keep taking her to practice and to the games until one day a miracle happens but that seems highly unlikely.  is this the right approach?  any advice would be highly appreciated",4.462929824561403,5.571200470370371,5.248401559454192,82.74464912280703,70.22222222222223,8.202729044834307,26.80311890838207,8.532816995589336,1.7850370370370368,1077,34,212,17,19,350,149,270,0.067,0.7759999999999999,0.157,0.9863,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,0,1,9,12,1,2,22,0,24,1,0,3,6,40,40,16,0,4,6,3,0,1,0,4,0,2,1,0,10,15,0,2,2,8,0,4,8,4,0,2,7,2,34,8,34,26,7,28,0,0,0,1,42,12,0,5,11,155,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573735206142785,0.0,0.0,0.11859968530989345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108534664460614,0.0,0.18121122834609196,0.13380251030900725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746531652296253,0.0,0.0,0.1347416146104757,0.0,0.0,0.09889173060657618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429456517859368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763834439174535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364688527750608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098940699602235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645586342134113,0.0,0.09979007956385133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165387576377084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18563867909177764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947265959642539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20947067204394693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877451134193266,0.2502748979960607,0.11880410944697345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361968559612202,0.0,0.10527414523073324,0.0,0.0,0.06509105120265449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057863378820434686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689594360470064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871448357468713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134756253393796,0.0,0.25192272769341256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051484635191826,0.0,0.0,0.2779256118165969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211078340383522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204951800393143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694435731232093,0.0,0.0,0.20229274847821427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198667278897567,0.0,0.10782254033663914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12073378284741175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558447338025165,0.0,0.0,0.11162748316673757,0.0,0.17810297933324035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868569857714608,0.0,0.23273169778437236,0.0,0.138125624283871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082479637436514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10229338512455813,0.0,0.0,0.06985847053702149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141710997306885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682715267873849,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Srack11,2019/02/16,"Giving a toddler melatonin My daughter is 19 months old and not a great sleeper. From 6 weeks-5 months she did great. Since then, she usually sleeps for a 3/4 hour stretch to start and is then up every 2 hours until she’s up for good. Sometimes it’s a little better, sometimes it’s worse.
It is HORRIBLE if we ever travel with her and she has to sleep not in her bed. 
I’ve tried everything, the list is honestly too long but the way she sleeps now is the best I’ve been able to get. Her schedule is consistent, she just isn’t. She is always well rested, I’m just not.
I am constantly exhausted. I can’t fall asleep for an hour or more even when I am able to. I forget things all the time. I am too tired to properly take care of myself or my house (I have just enough in me to keep her well taken care of).  I’m dying to get out of the house and get a part time job but I wouldn’t be able to handle it being that I can’t even handle the demands of bare minimum life and staying at home with her. I can feel my mental and physical health declining. There needs to be more to life than me just trying to nap whenever possible and BEGGING anyone to watch her so I can do so.
I have had lots of people say to give her melatonin. I do plan to talk to her pediatrician, but I know that every doctor seems to have a different opinion on it. I have scoured the internet but it’s also pretty conflicting, and not really any information particular to our situation. 
I don’t want to give it to her every night. I would only give it to her sparingly, mainly when there is a major schedule or environment disruption and I want her to stay on track and not be miserable. 
I don’t know what else to do, I feel like a failure that I can’t get this right when everyone else’s kids seem to sleep 12 hours a night uninterrupted and those moms can just get up, put themselves together, and handle business. I am barely surviving. 
Does anyone have any more insight into giving melatonin to a kid under 3? Or any other magic tricks that worked for them when their toddler aged human was a poor sleeper?",3.3846941489361697,4.687998423167848,4.8244141548463375,84.01796875000002,73.04255319148936,8.029816784869977,25.27548758865248,8.567472430010655,1.6280828014184396,1635,51,336,29,32,547,208,423,0.075,0.8079999999999999,0.117,0.9487,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,0,2,5,22,14,1,1,19,0,40,11,5,0,2,56,67,31,1,6,19,2,2,1,0,2,6,1,2,3,17,17,0,2,8,2,1,3,12,3,2,0,5,4,49,11,49,56,11,47,0,1,1,0,35,14,0,9,28,234,66,3,0.2286144730511283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060940970500951035,0.06340851850071186,0.0,0.0,0.1554656811990903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656837007240626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997226169167443,0.06739697441854316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539179442103473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235034286293186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908857648553493,0.07961782207606735,0.0,0.07799886679750134,0.06668735532426323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731870471050966,0.0,0.0,0.07873995438752353,0.0,0.1006651355572161,0.0689316264334448,0.1926175536069474,0.07281697535278782,0.06848798241067826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706289778065534,0.05444074174235256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990693774246805,0.3655130568785723,0.0,0.06391699115169287,0.0,0.16803217574590515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100216478621061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643965218501751,0.0,0.30018560676884903,0.17586027168953225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562152957045314,0.06773434928279133,0.0,0.0,0.08376035706927858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765144216613518,0.03722982792323447,0.076377253724755,0.0,0.06743887152410884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478661655238263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679653937920722,0.0,0.0,0.08925016926460813,0.1216519275200756,0.0,0.0,0.05650491166798064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430261307929061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996414412448241,0.0,0.0,0.057957202839361524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252239866553578,0.0,0.05283083012233603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590948946978992,0.0,0.07752770249321447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660689638584611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881876181489975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507850361913492,0.0,0.06060113496110552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874802007107978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303741818155739,0.08565741542680108,0.3050394342526253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073703966967025,0.0,0.0539381668992746,0.16244840676597666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057296544104077175,0.06125055122539001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050627099173339234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887129180333653,0.08758623540823453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347614703571953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392884788544833,0.0,0.08989515960153939,0.06048784252672418,0.0,0.0,0.1370345778449577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05547801972215143,0.0,0.07765922637331349,0.054133720795283634,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hitter9999,2019/02/16,"2.5 year old girl hits other kids 
She has Been in daycare /preschool since 1 year old 

Over the past few months she has taken up to hitting, not just a small push and shoce but hitting /slapping other kids  faces.

We have read kids books about not hitting to her , we are told by her teachers she has an advanced vocabulary , and she listens most of the time.

The preschool teachers say it’s a phase as she is the youngest of the group (most are 3-4 years old)

We recently had to leave a birthday party as she walked by a random boy and slapped him in the face , for no reason.

Looking for some tips and advice on how to avoid this.

My partner is ready to take her to child therapist/psychologist .
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parenting,CommanderCundy,2019/02/16,"Goals Obligatory apologies for any mobile formatting hiccups. 

Time for a lurker to make my first foray into posting.

First time Dad of a now 1 year old and I’d LOVE to discuss terrible habits that little angels (read sarcastically TIA) have picked up out of nowhere, my son seems to have picked up his Mum’s temper and bites her when frustrated, - imagine my relief that so far she has been the only victim of the mouth daggers I was once so pleased he had grown! 

Any advice on managing this painful phase? 

Also, as I refuse to only post something negative at least I’ve taught him to fist bump 👊🏻 so would welcome positive and funny habits for the giggle! ",6.126819999999999,6.953945472000001,6.174150000000001,78.62682500000003,66.28,8.81,30.825,8.841846274778883,2.4883000000000006,524,19,94,8,8,166,96,125,0.151,0.679,0.16899999999999998,0.6897,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,3,6,9,3,0,5,0,7,4,1,3,0,12,11,9,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,5,0,2,4,0,9,4,18,6,1,19,1,0,0,1,13,8,0,1,8,55,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005460259564425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371826465614914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784396258682705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34827744202974426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518792753430387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18477203025670255,0.0,0.1366553236505538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21482412904090786,0.21802511872323346,0.0,0.3114047116475321,0.2178415096836712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472623747860507,0.0,0.0,0.3921393334257269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20478009644703066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637367343993344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760707218318995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387532320570025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454305495158798,0.0,0.0,0.1318359914410873
parenting,StephanieLisaTara,2019/02/16,"Written by a mom — for moms (by accident) # Can't get your kids to sleep? Going crazy? Me too. 

Until one night, I sang a song - repeating a soft phrase about a baby turtle (as I watched the hatchlings hatch and race across the beach in front of our home) and suddenly, my daughter yawned and went to sleep. The song became a self-published book, and if not for the community love of parents — it would have been just another new mom project, next to... creating the perfect baby playroom, and a potty-learning poster with happy stickers that actually works. Long story short, the song became a book, the book became a sensation, and a single mom became really, really empowered to believe in herself. She shares it with you now, happy sleeping - happy inspiration!   
I'LL FOLLOW THE MOON  
[https://www.amazon.com/Ill-Follow-Moon-Anniversary-Collectors/dp/0989433404](https://www.amazon.com/Ill-Follow-Moon-Anniversary-Collectors/dp/0989433404)

  
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parenting,Madly_Maxie,2019/02/16,"My baby almost lost a toe last night... I am going on just a few hours sleep, as this happened last night. So, forgive me if I ramble.

Last night I was changing my 5 month old daughter. When I took her footy pajamas off I was cleaning her feet off from lint. I noticed that there was something wrapped around on of her toes. Most likely hair. I was trying to get it off when it started cutting into her skin. I was freaking. I couldn't get it off. 
  
We called 911. After 20 minutes they show up. They couldn't get it off. It cut too deep. They EMTs were nice, but they had nothing with them to help. I had to supply my own tweezers. Honestly, calling 911 was a waste of time.  
  
So, I bundled her up and drove to the local children's hospital. We were fast tracked through triage, and given a bed in the hallway. This is normal for the children's hospital emergency room at night. 
 
We final saw a doctor after 20 minutes. She told me they have gel they use to melt the hair, and its better than cutting. I rather my baby not get cut if she doesn't need it.  
  
So the nurse comes back to treat my baby. She's putting the gel on, and getting it everywhere. I notice a familiar smell. It's nair! They are putting nair on her foot. It's not the pink goop. It looks like blue hair gel. It says 'no scent', but I can smell the nair scent, strong.
  
I ask if it ok to put on her foot with the open wound. The nurse, who was really nice, but didn't exude confidence that she knew what she was doing, said that it was cool gel, and should be fine.
  
After 10 minutes of waiting, the nurse comes to check. So far didn't work. The toe was still red. She started to get ready to put more gel. I made a comment that I didn't think it was working. The nurse turns around, and quickly starts to leave saying, ""I'll let the doctor know you're refusing treatment.""  
  
I told her, I'm not refusing, just not sure. She noped her way out of there saying, I need to let the doctor know. 10 minutes later, the doctor comes back and tells me that they want to try this again, because the next step is to cut into her toe to cut the hair. I'm like, ok, I don't want her getting cut if she doesn't need it. So, they put nair on her foot again. My baby is screaming. Her toe is bleeding. Her mom is texting me wanting to know what's going on, and I'm standing there, dying inside, because I can't protect my little girl. I've never felt more like a loser than just then.  
  
It was at least 15 minutes before they cleaned the nair off. The doctor came to clean her foot herself. She says that the hair is gone. I can't tell. The toe looks a little better. What I can see are bad chemical burns from the nair. It ate away at skin on the top of her foot. Blood was just seeping out of the wound. The pad of the toe where the prints are was half eaten off. Her foot has red burns.  
 
I am furious and exhausted. Am I overreacting?


Also, check the toes everytime you change your baby. Maybe I could have seen it sooner. ",1.1093876255949198,3.1883904622950863,2.3297197250132204,95.88346377578002,82.08196721311475,4.984664198836594,20.002644103648862,6.0311780096671335,-0.1327382337387628,2282,62,509,16,62,728,259,610,0.106,0.7959999999999999,0.099,-0.5328,0,0,1,0,0,0,95.0,3,2,11,8,26,31,8,0,38,3,51,35,24,2,2,68,103,26,1,16,16,2,8,4,0,1,9,6,5,3,32,25,2,4,7,1,2,15,17,14,0,1,37,28,80,17,64,59,6,85,0,2,9,0,66,37,0,6,35,320,112,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071735152758503,0.0,0.0,0.05647608429416729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573642956273004,0.06602168182698771,0.0,0.06635133705822048,0.10860733370251707,0.0589661031410267,0.08610056858147057,0.0,0.06009379740586425,0.0,0.0,0.12491816842247624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442251407344365,0.08077231988775382,0.0,0.0,0.14941662051534058,0.1825028180467124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05638561733106288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329409222705212,0.0,0.0,0.3614211047095539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678078305031832,0.07736253315666156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582781729002411,0.0,0.08027178866311815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245046566078692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04733618349344537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954807042131328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643538691955126,0.1726981390284318,0.0,0.07477809901373182,0.0,0.14443078317685834,0.0,0.1380086259057604,0.14156283315012025,0.0,0.0,0.11860874920067135,0.0,0.07709184105870241,0.0,0.0,0.06682388475245266,0.0,0.0,0.07094890985155823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271118824039805,0.056369503608943175,0.0,0.0,0.15709510998084042,0.05446774731333687,0.0,0.07510689444720223,0.26509442670601063,0.06919419357181203,0.06776334941964962,0.16080636573401447,0.07410551074198488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35497117146617035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04524201837829489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717733315921776,0.22464458824673247,0.0,0.0,0.05627628802204754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067262245859507,0.0,0.0,0.0543679736202263,0.0,0.0,0.14995903915390174,0.0,0.056398517252316115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656004142519636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345281795277815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525148275638005,0.0,0.0,0.0411800347611665,0.0,0.0,0.13496396937118582,0.07846321873631781,0.09589488901122348,0.07681604345263306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060994405304687326,0.0,0.0,0.12496338431010705,0.05605615508302874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028267614560816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Univers21,2019/02/16,"My baby has vomited twice but no symptoms My daughter is 10mo and has puked twice today for the first time since she was like a month or two old, but she has no fever, no pain that we can tell, and hasn't eaten anything different except her first little bite of cheese last night. I'm lactose intolerant and I dont know if that's the cause but my wife is worried that it's something bad so can anyone give me any answers?",2.9204926108374387,4.459415827586209,3.905418719211824,89.1993103448276,74.63218390804597,6.3507389162561605,23.922824302134647,6.868970318607317,0.730068637110016,335,10,70,3,7,108,66,87,0.243,0.725,0.033,-0.9676,1,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,10,5,0,1,0,13,14,9,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,5,2,0,9,1,3,12,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,9,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450941458959718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918835960375387,0.0,0.17557955642706274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814917976608094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918255848075235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22291890666398795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500598286299499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629728910068762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467721644768705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725871628232745,0.17391930943478906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423837677959466,0.2138457627998629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030429851769094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022670722061287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238885605727894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270332585721461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17649606549809646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642572493356494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22176583598175129,0.0,0.0,0.18648865268829945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441367200228348,0.0,0.20224316129808287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20842463286938331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166804675073083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovelynlace,2019/02/16,"My toddlers will only drink milk Hi everyone,
I have 2 toddlers, my oldest is almost 3 and my youngest is a little over a year and a half. 
My problem I am having is I cant get them to drink anything except milk. 
I have tried everything, water, juice, flavored water, you name it. I cant get them to take any more than a sip! I would like to get them drinking more than just the milk.
Any advice or tips? Im all out of ideas! 
Thank you!",0.21815217391304745,2.2656914673913064,2.2349565217391323,95.42526086956524,85.41304347826087,4.549565217391304,18.98260869565217,5.6839178017228535,-0.31306434782608683,333,9,75,2,10,111,59,92,0.033,0.8959999999999999,0.071,0.4898,0,0,3,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,3,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,11,8,0,0,1,12,16,3,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,15,2,9,14,3,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,3,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19438883497461024,0.0,0.0,0.1991963203332091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705539076883899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369969583609095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5846171992666795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900829534447233,0.17878245984565697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117929165661525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22456399161071414,0.2148749344383681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971855204586756,0.1993767784731613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129269288825198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903459529946524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956809552598188,0.0,0.0,0.18314494670583736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505814780369738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131179549639994,0.0,0.0,0.12810225034289527
parenting,FarMiddleCentrist,2019/02/16,"What to do about a phone addicted child (7yo)? Long story. TL:DR what do you do when a 7yo is addicted to their smartphone and youtube?

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So a family member who is expecting soon asked me about social media and what me and my wife's policy is in our household. Firstly some context which led to the question in the title. I have a 5 year old daughter who like almost all kids nowadays watches youtube daily. She is well behaved and is in no way addicted, she loves school, loves reading and drawing and all that stuff.

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My wife and I have a fairly loose policy when it comes to ""screen time"", I try to avoid helicopter parenting as much as possible as I believe it does more harm than good in the long run. We do keep a track of what kind of content our watches though. I've been using the internet since before there was a youtube  so am pretty much well aware of the dangers of social media and addictive nature of ""new media"". We tell her not to watch those ""toy review"" channels as it's basically thinly veiled advertising targeting impressionable kids and would be totally illegal on broadcast TV. As a consequence our daughter mainly watches cartoons and arts & crafts channels. I'm quite proud of her because she is always well behaved and will turn off the ipad immediately when we tell her to.

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Now for the part relevant to the title. I'm acquainted with this 7yo's family but only through aforementioned relatives. These two families are super close (the dads went to school together). So my relative told me how they noticed huge changes in this 7yo's behavior over the course of this last year. The kid used to be shy but still friendly and talkative but is now a phone addicted non-social recluse. My relative had a baby shower recently and the 7yo and her mum were there but the kid apparently spent the entire time playing a game on their phone and not talking to anybody. The two families also went on a weekend trip together and the child also spent the entire weekend on the phone there too. It was my relative's husband's birthday recently and at the birthday dinner the kid was there but had a full blown tantrum when their phone ran out of battery and died. They asked every single person there if they could use their phone but all of the adults said no, the kid then broke down and laid down on the ground under the table for the rest of the night.

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The kid now tells their mum that they wanna be a ""youtuber"" when they grow up so they can get paid to play with ""free"" toys on video, they asked for a webcam for their next birthday. So this is basically the thing that I've been paranoid about happening to my daughter and have been actively been trying to avoid it since she could speak. What is a parent to do in this situation? I've done everything I can to avoid this happening in the first place but what do you do when the phone addiction has already progressed that far?

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They also asked me at what age a kid should have a phone. I think around 12-13 is appropriate (when they start high school and want to hang out with friends unsupervised). My 5yo daughter has her own ipad already but it's locked to my personal apple account so only I have access to permissions. My relative asked me because my daughter is close to this kid in age but is nowhere near addicted, they are also similarly worried about this happening to their kid when they grow up. My answer was to avoid this from happening in the first place but once it has all I could say was no idea (I really have no idea). What would other parents do in this situation?",6.163594558725947,7.028408278832121,6.1230507631055096,78.89198158593233,66.21167883211679,9.5557398805574,31.918546781685468,9.631235645658696,2.9239416058394165,2881,112,531,57,44,908,298,685,0.071,0.865,0.064,-0.7569,5,4,0,0,0,0,81.0,6,2,18,7,39,23,2,4,49,0,57,10,0,5,5,77,88,58,1,10,13,14,1,1,2,4,7,3,1,15,37,33,1,5,5,13,5,10,6,8,3,5,21,9,60,16,81,57,15,85,1,1,5,2,95,39,0,4,36,377,97,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871098647826672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05079713317253698,0.0,0.11196003175870108,0.16226983126398256,0.04221006620516921,0.3297849952687203,0.3082026000129518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045159002841374016,0.2371208827533765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618470849655344,0.0,0.043166105117474686,0.05715349961958049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536638873385094,0.04369799750897959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150742289031208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052648037337278915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04439273696724507,0.05191273330228045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04274083820423225,0.0,0.0455913864598609,0.0,0.1912887637629858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294485725292641,0.0,0.0,0.07838522305016543,0.0,0.026503478709799053,0.0,0.0,0.0425485485537386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794357142812684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053597306308318174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145323063048988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508970458848648,0.0,0.0528257893112301,0.0,0.04135039080403815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024783318371160844,0.0,0.0,0.08978601926498495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156866594888033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745823751887284,0.0,0.0,0.0489937742296884,0.05395019520664589,0.04760513723223151,0.0,0.0,0.05775458355504234,0.05323088911935708,0.05402405666349097,0.0,0.0771624200268425,0.0,0.0,0.16898354915742522,0.05493387944464477,0.0,0.0,0.08858810906123837,0.10600069581832153,0.0,0.0,0.05718861320078643,0.0,0.05160898775669245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056827382248287074,0.05395586398413613,0.05074209613458917,0.0,0.0324978917184159,0.0,0.10017628759551474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048254294949572216,0.040341234573836336,0.0,0.15401945098747147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392606096976081,0.11404162284877753,0.0,0.10342236625163348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035905800192734164,0.0,0.040511740467005584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05807184506795996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04077354089731328,0.13301648955898882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033701673819398974,0.032504690096234086,0.0498403643101286,0.0,0.05916023902554408,0.0,0.0,0.04847312984401051,0.0,0.06888246438031051,0.05517789771197392,0.09910848945233026,0.0,0.0,0.13143906815429798,0.0,0.0,0.029920905960471474,0.04026581755939012,0.0,0.0,0.13683268604914992,0.09405141131253114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051517120440202575,0.0,0.07207195476978114,0.0,0.3082026000129518,0.06533481200340091
parenting,feischi,2019/02/16,"Baby (7w) sleeps too little My baby, 7 weeks old, sleeps about 10 hours or even less everyday. 

I noticed this when I started to log the time 2 weeks ago. We try to get him to sleep whenever there is a sign of tiredness. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. We have tried a lot from the books, swaddling, pacifier, white noice, shhh, room environment, music, pre-sleep routine...But it seems that we simply don't know what he wants. 

We thought he was not eating enough, but feeding more didn't help. He is 100% breastfed. Growth rate is normal. Then we thought he was probably overfed. Yesterday the mother started to limit the time of each feeding session to 30 minutes. He is not spitting less than before and showing less signs of gas pain. The night was ok, fed twice and he could sleep more than 3 hours in one session. This morning he woke up at 9:30AM, fed, calm. There were minor signs of tiredness but we couldn't put him to sleep until 2:20PM. In between we tried 3 times, and fed 3 times, He went slowly from calm to fussy to crying. Now he slept 20 minutes, woke up and crying again. This also happens often after dinner. He stays awake, fussy, and sleeps after 11pm...

Our doctor doesn't seem to be concerned but sleeping too little really isn't good, especially when we know that he is tired.

Has this happened to anybody here? Is this just something temporary during these weeks? Thanks. Any advice is welcome!",3.320795159896285,5.806405857677905,3.3528277153558044,89.31510155574766,76.56554307116104,5.456006914433882,24.501440507058483,6.490185161304077,0.8050116392970321,1112,38,207,9,26,338,161,267,0.084,0.845,0.071,-0.6944,0,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,9,0,0,2,14,7,0,0,7,1,20,19,9,0,0,38,40,14,0,4,8,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,11,14,7,1,6,2,0,3,8,1,0,2,14,1,14,6,28,23,8,36,0,0,1,0,25,8,0,5,24,116,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496217599051277,0.0770719757355285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695303173938571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059125949087930674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398425119680999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941893933468529,0.0,0.19101118737074985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899244498751156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896699399721414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983798543308236,0.0,0.05742670955395807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04542545641119895,0.0,0.0,0.07292579434008531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15377130879582385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582777631212834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124768726303696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955659905671974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174284546159976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391798940404108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159249998726953,0.08518816948782254,0.0,0.09898807422802708,0.09123471903055147,0.0,0.05891654846917337,0.0,0.092516185299633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374199823120996,0.0,0.0,0.08740428280811639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569953966703104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830390940624875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6960666529226556,0.0,0.0,0.06693492491768939,0.17198272566202466,0.0,0.12308100226565548,0.09267237779211678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004777226956904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380500946278998,0.2027945756522419,0.09993110869759766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709094440762285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128273251874886,0.0,0.20922740455115565,0.0,0.0,0.0805993871930769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632973890628088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dartboard-goalie,2019/02/16,"Boys’ hygiene Hoping for some insight here. My 14 y/o son, smart, caring, good boy. Does not clean himself well or brush his teeth well, unless we are on his case about it virtually every time. He will exit the shower not having used any soap ( he doesn’t lie about it- he’s a good boy like that), will brush his teeth with no toothpaste, and it’s making us crazy. Just wondering if anyone has experience with this and when (IF) he will “get it” and start taking his personal hygiene seriously. Thank you for any advice!",3.153955555555555,5.290938840000003,3.9653333333333336,86.42322222222224,75.6,6.4444444444444455,21.11111111111111,7.3871296695380915,0.6639777777777778,404,10,79,5,9,129,74,100,0.107,0.7190000000000001,0.174,0.8627,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,0,0,7,10,0,0,2,0,7,2,2,2,0,19,16,8,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,4,6,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,2,9,9,8,13,1,5,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,6,4,47,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21252107144955407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957906834222779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206859854112156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22173757923051315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19032012327268075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323811847440574,0.0,0.0,0.21273930579844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362546397906532,0.0,0.0,0.3648274721964596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21600887886798745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062508087975216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517104542804254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989705286101985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393500797050516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16351953505973038,0.0,0.0,0.20022837376220595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268156094147842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616042873707519,0.1878347778108374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910852008039241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358501494802856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ryoung117,2019/02/16,"Why did you choose to, or choose not to find out the gender of your child prior to birth? Expecting first child with my long time girlfriend. I want to find out the gender prior to birth while she wants it to be surprise. To be clear, I do not really care if it is a boy or girl but I think it would be helpful with planning ahead and getting things prepared. She thinks it doesn’t matter. 

Generally curious on other people’s thoughts on why they did, or did not find out. 

Thanks! ",2.399895833333332,4.516053364583335,3.0741666666666667,92.02083333333336,77.85416666666666,5.933333333333334,21.08333333333333,6.937597516519254,0.3748208333333336,377,10,79,4,9,118,63,96,0.05,0.802,0.14800000000000002,0.7852,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,1,3,0,3,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,1,29,18,7,0,5,8,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,6,6,0,0,8,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,0,9,3,16,10,0,14,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,4,9,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22391891535194886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.602190644524645,0.18681006843641684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474325073290535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472077666198135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943582545075976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225800335484374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069525659506438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20219811378435068,0.0,0.0,0.14590686949136755,0.28144937851713825,0.0,0.1743550629211205,0.12806315378925748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590770858701432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39634876923088697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601292319981475,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alaudet,2019/02/16,"Minecraft Mods. A Guide for Mom and Dad Hello everyone. Here is a helpful guide for anyone trying to setup Minecraft to play mods.

It's an easy step by step process for understanding what mods are, the right place to get them and the right way to install them.

https://www.linuxnorth.org/minecraft/playmods.html

Some parents may identify with this.  Your child watches someone on Youtube play mods on Minecraft, and then they inevitably turn to you to help them make it happen. You already figured out how to get them the game, setup the account and get them playing, but now they want you the help them add functionality to the game with mods.  

You quickly realise the whole thing is a mess of incomplete information and shady mod sites and you've quickly wasted a Saturday morning trying to figure it out without much luck.  Disappointed kids and parents all around.

My hope is that it can save others the frustration I went through as a Dad with a son who loves playing Minecraft.

This is meant for the original Minecraft game on Windows. It will not work for gaming consoles, mobile platforms or the cross platform 'Better Together' update.

Cheers",6.768600000000002,9.232319260000004,5.038,81.20650000000002,66.4,7.4,33.0,8.07648339933343,2.533300000000001,932,41,153,12,16,267,122,200,0.065,0.74,0.196,0.9782,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,5,8,2,6,13,1,0,17,0,8,1,0,3,1,34,20,12,0,2,4,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,12,14,0,0,5,8,1,4,2,3,0,0,2,1,15,10,28,16,4,24,0,1,1,1,32,12,0,6,7,100,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18818003463073005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923596794506178,0.0,0.0,0.15180457856414578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081667244987465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294520659595782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672788921064521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507958616884489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34290059345796137,0.0,0.0,0.16937111279806574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390666167804926,0.0,0.11382764282218608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997183651076904,0.0,0.0,0.12535646627990776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37869859607283934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816370982248325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912570912427975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444863976379187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132901098155538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23155235540614225,0.18548366839817687,0.0,0.17752391315288374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058084177681127,0.13535585554479482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807960715843294,0.0,0.1903865465404244,0.0,0.16438128732594107,0.0,0.124145191988045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rthrowme2,2019/02/16,"I think my 2 year old may be autistic First off id like to say I respect everyone with any and all disabilities.

My only son who is 26 months is showing many of the signs but I did not think any of it was abnormal until my husband told me he started to worry after looking up the symptoms.

He doesn’t know many words,

He flaps his hands often (this just started a few days ago)

For months now he does this thing with his hands or whatever he’s holding where he spins the toy like he’s frustrated or antsy. He doesn’t throw a tantrum, it’s just something we thought was weird, maybe he was bored or something.

I have just noticed him start to squint but only saw it when he didn’t want to do something

He likes to tap his feet. It just looks like fun to me. He’s happy when he does it.

He’s always chewing on everything. Nonstop. Anything except the food we give him.

He likes to line up his toys. His dad taught him to do dominos and he started doing it after that.

He doesn’t look at people when they talk to him. Sometimes not even us. He does at times, but not all the time. He likes to ignore people. We know he hears us. I always thought maybe he’s just being “conceited” (lol), or maybe he isn’t socialized enough. He’s not in day care. I am a stay at home mom with a part time job. Just me and his grandma and his dad regularly watch him.

I see that all of these fall under symptoms and it’s a lot. I feel like me, my husband and mom are all 99% sure the doctor will tell us he has some level of autism but I feel numb and scared right now.

When my husband first told me I thought NO way, he’s fine.

He has tons of energy. He loves to laugh and smile. He loves to run around. He babbles all the time. I am not the best at teaching him things because I can become overwhelmed but when I do he always starts to pick it up.

Once he’s around a person for about an hour he will warm up to them and want them to pick him up. 

To me he is a happy, healthy, yet “behind in speech” boy. 

I am not in denial, but do you think there is any possibility that this could be a coincidence? The biggest red flags to me are the constant chewing and the speech.",1.2960764438813186,3.111937911308204,2.595639847956921,95.57884885439763,80.08647450110865,5.359539647344525,20.9376517791152,6.18269132825596,-0.026064977299123267,1662,46,384,12,42,535,205,451,0.079,0.768,0.153,0.9876,1,0,3,0,0,0,48.0,6,1,3,3,21,27,2,2,20,1,34,12,3,2,6,70,64,26,0,3,23,8,5,7,0,3,4,4,1,2,18,18,3,2,10,3,0,3,12,8,0,2,12,16,50,19,50,45,12,57,0,1,7,2,78,21,0,8,38,231,68,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764028973572553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904770575976192,0.0,0.0,0.1556712263714734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279298797337855,0.1358562819819196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046515171317840234,0.0842735144482084,0.0,0.0,0.08007799507404212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779862095290489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245922036752976,0.0,0.060923793959265726,0.0,0.0,0.09842156874633223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810199110376574,0.2003265731715523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788440585047357,0.0,0.050399113759950966,0.0,0.0,0.07291324854720517,0.06857853213227724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716478461822936,0.05451271924606777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298109691325327,0.09226900624063147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319926221685819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245741060210495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860019306692016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654071501357293,0.0,0.07514562246848636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572151073807512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387109878989425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609533530484362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223239914996187,0.0,0.0,0.06487227260305996,0.13773752429340375,0.0,0.0,0.15472375629414234,0.2299776239063855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17873633841401682,0.1218127666597493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687440483089548,0.08006986677440593,0.08126294884835328,0.0,0.11606765909332332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263150364953191,0.0,0.10580135824105147,0.0666270863372681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602307261358229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516454558120435,0.0,0.06068125727900951,0.0763951938992077,0.0,0.06080566531917207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778392606493932,0.0,0.17623128270673613,0.0754681664917836,0.0,0.2700473996793712,0.08133159198963942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07191710300695603,0.15862142216418065,0.0,0.06133153215322616,0.06669443734636876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013880691244164,0.14668059740912984,0.0,0.1817343134692271,0.1779775816442172,0.0,0.0,0.14582649709441034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27535864056205833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001401230223957,0.06056781505778917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749201710681225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04913828962271476
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parenting,throwaway10387373,2019/02/16,"We found out 14y/o son has been using a gay dating app. How to approach this? There's a few things to process here and I'm still in shock. Essentially, here's a condensed version of the events:

Yesterday, step-daughter (19) told her father that our 14y/o son has been having a conversation with someone through Grindr, which we found out is a dating and sex app for adult gay men (meaning over 18). Moreover, he explicitly made her promise not to tell us.

I was still at work when this went down, and my husband reacted poorly, that is with an angry outburst. From what I understand, there was a lot of yelling and crying. He immediately made our son delete the profile and confiscated all of his electronic gadgets. When I came home and found out what had happened, I wanted to talk to my son, but he was lying in the bed and ignoring us. He wouldn't even pull the covers off his face.

Husband and I had a long talk last night. First off, neither of us is mad about our son's sexuality, whatever it may or may not be. However, we're very much concerned that he thought exposing himself to potential predators was a better idea than talking to us.

My husband's initial reaction was poor, but it came from a place of concern for his child's safety. I'm baffled myself. Perhaps we made a mistake putting too much trust in a 14y/o, no matter how bright he is, and not monitoring his online interactions more closely. However, I'm also worried that he never thought of telling us he might be gay or bisexual. We've always been supportive of the LGBT community and our children have met our gay and lesbian friends. Why would our son think we weren't trustworthy and preferred turning to a sexual app?

I'm not sure how to handle this. He had breakfast with us this morning, but he wouldn't talk to anyone and quietly went back to bed afterwards. We don't want any more yelling and tantrums. I'd appreciate some advice.",5.3005691056910536,6.351423956639568,5.867755013550137,79.28286829268293,68.24119241192412,8.830829268292684,33.45918699186992,9.065960079200117,2.8906768780487813,1516,69,287,27,25,491,199,369,0.119,0.805,0.076,-0.9379,2,0,0,0,2,0,49.0,17,0,0,3,16,12,2,0,18,0,29,8,1,8,4,72,56,25,0,7,9,10,0,0,1,6,0,3,3,4,14,28,1,1,10,0,2,7,11,5,0,1,26,4,33,7,39,22,10,35,0,0,1,6,59,13,0,7,15,183,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08518756673365183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971476994259886,0.07253757600741137,0.0,0.0,0.05928280055093015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095562100245513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703311125211994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710025829573275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994126812820243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575895438952034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757905321266854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741520251216164,0.0,0.2867525875730317,0.06735211036180458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708961945153077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744482936135069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09841131062805936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106023244087582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714818741553117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411408172828876,0.0,0.2474646645785129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949604306125774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248016429601058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816906476216625,0.0,0.06723565418350104,0.0,0.0,0.08180895153164565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910805670427776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08763615206082782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386410532168416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923804047282282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892651058474952,0.0821625300925235,0.0,0.0,0.28027568661505264,0.1523916700300046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057915988910537626,0.05585898437098839,0.0,0.13841631892778208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330058814137645,0.0,0.0,0.09482266456908137,0.0,0.09075349121169356,0.6291733578097051,0.07529224072004344,0.0,0.07192948894760368,0.10283755442451843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162640834359926,0.07866295467616552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346530667312543,0.08853165549303313,0.0,0.0619274662079952,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway2133gkgk,2019/02/16,"Overstimulation - for me the parent I'm a dad two two lovely kids, 3.5 yo and 2 yo.

I love them to bits and make sure I spend a lot of time with them.

But... I suffer from PTSD from a traumatic childhood.

My kids are boisterous and I find it very difficult to manage.

When they are jumpy and unpredictable, throwing things at me, play fighting, moving hands near my face, I find it incredibly difficult to stay calm. I frequently have to remove myself from the situation, just walk away, because I'm just terrified and I really really don't want to snap at them. The emotionally charged cries when they are wanting something, or unhappy with each other send me into a spiral and I frequently end up feeling sick with anxiety.

I wear earplugs to try and lesson the impact.

But my daughter is starting to notice how difficult I find it to stay with her and she is just being happy and exuberant and I feel like such a failure for not being able to contain her emotions and help her learn to regulate herself.

I try to explain calmly that she should not hit me, or that I need a rest from the play fighting, but she takes it personally and withdraws.

I don't know what to do, I don't want to mess this up. I have been through a lot of therapy and this is as good as it's going to get as far as my ability to regulate goes, I meditate daily and take an SSRI.

Is it OK to tell her that I need for her to be quiet for a little while so I can get my adrenaline under control? But she's too young to really be able to do that.

I feel like a failure.

​

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parenting,wolvesreign88,2019/02/16,"Parent at a loss with child Hopefully this post won't be too long but I am really at a lost with this kid and I am finding my patience getting shorter and shorter and hoping some one has some advice. I have really really tried with this boy but I seem to be getting no where.

  
Basically the gist of it is this child (m) is 10 and just seems plain stupid to put it bluntly. He has 3 chores. None of them he seems to be capable of doing. All they are is bins, pet feeding and very occasionally cleaning up the dog poop around the yard. He was meant to fill the dog water bowl too but I had to take it off him because most of the time he wouldn't do it. I don' t know if it's just laziness or he legitimately has an undiagnosed issue. 

  
Things you would think would be common sense aren't so common with this child. He does things I don't believe a child with common sense would do for example if you ask him to pick rubbish up off the floor he will pick just that one thing you were pointing out even if some other rubbish is right near it.  


He almost constantly forgets things no matter how often we tell him to write them down. Even basic things like hygiene he won't do properly for example he is quite happy to go days without toilet paper.  
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parenting,cowegonnabechopps,2019/02/16,"3 year old refusing to poo. Now has impacted bowel and constant seepage in underwear Sorry for the gross title! 

Just wondering if anyone else has been through this and can offer any suggestions? 

First off, she’s got an appointment booked with her GP on Tuesday. 

So, her last poo was almost two weeks ago and it was in playschool so I can’t comment on it other than to say her teacher said it was massive. This isn’t unusual for her, she’s always had several days between movements and because of this, they’re always huge. I’d say she’s also had a bit of a worry about pooping. I wouldn’t go as far as saying a fear up until now when I guess she’s so sore and backed up that she gets really quiet and tenses her whole body when the pooping urge hits her and if you try to change her underwear she freaks out and won’t let us near her bum.

While she won’t pass anything proper, she’s so backed up now that she can’t stop a steady, wet sludge build up in her underwear every three or for hours.

We are giving her Lactulose twice daily on the instruction of a pharmacist to try and help things along.

So while we wait for the GP appointment, I’m wondering if anyone can help who’s gone through this before? It’s definitely more a problem in her head than in her bum, but no matter what we try, she just won’t poo. We’ve explained she’ll feel better after, that we’ll bring her to the toy shop to get something as a reward and sort of tried to coach her through how to actually get your body to poop and even adopted the Let It Go song from Frozen to try and encourage her.

**TLDR** 3 year old won’t poop for well over a week. Seems like a mental block...HELP!",4.771032212885153,4.974585344117648,5.404873949579834,85.14931372549022,69.08823529411765,8.711484593837534,27.36694677871149,8.563005593585519,1.6892535014005596,1307,38,278,19,21,423,185,340,0.061,0.841,0.098,0.935,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,5,2,0,3,19,9,0,1,16,0,23,9,8,1,0,40,42,32,0,5,7,0,2,1,0,7,1,6,0,0,16,18,0,3,5,5,1,6,9,4,1,4,9,8,36,5,50,23,3,49,0,0,0,0,47,18,0,10,26,183,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.10314366780074548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369278024446254,0.0,0.10583888491106336,0.0,0.0,0.08452474048757708,0.17589442790021725,0.0,0.0,0.07187663871041909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478096549908676,0.10829764215091743,0.08697848051906827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254679854284845,0.0,0.06443106233493996,0.0,0.08993917857666164,0.0,0.0,0.09347917707162748,0.11539223031967565,0.2348079888954473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181193979213497,0.0,0.0,0.1142194044882118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816492395208437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829511891923629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981095303518076,0.0,0.08905310936219893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893694547444154,0.05344287580740874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990463118781787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656647801391551,0.1013928594294381,0.12013850092515048,0.0,0.08453443415200303,0.0,0.11643562975816366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847418821948217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253661662954668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10408888429930258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615602850009244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216161842999839,0.0,0.05163753576191299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10651631419736222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22181952387278134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113642349712143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771131374195694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005407283967244,0.25216017223224924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622131296292803,0.0,0.11940595333287155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136964377963557,0.0,0.11831758106837448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883662620242662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021946621605812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588019030117048,0.0,0.10324925201217452,0.0,0.12713880390614085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956528447294913,0.0,0.09503304619992037,0.0,0.0,0.11800537305995155,0.0,0.0,0.2292447590013047,0.0,0.1073390217258923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612901391160445
parenting,Djeff_,2019/02/16,"My son always wants me to play with him, but I dont want to Hes 4, and almost anytime hes not watching his tablet or playing with another child, he insists I need to play with him.

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I feel like a horrible parent saying this, but I just dont want to.

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Im not sure if its because I entertained myself and used my own imagination growing up, I didnt need people to play with me, let alone my parents.

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Im not sure what to do. I currently get my son every other weekend (used to have full custody of him when his mom was in a rough spot, and when she got some ground I let her get him back).

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Hes 4 now, and when I have him, I just try and keep our weekend filled with things to do.

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But when it comes to the time where we get home and its after bath time and its about a couple hours from bedtime, he constantly asks me to just play with him. ""Just 10 minutes"" This seems reasonable, but by this point, I feel exasperated.

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Is this normal? I feel like (growing up) just go play by yourself and I feel horrible denying my kid.

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parenting,ninibot1027,2019/02/16,"I’m an angry mom So, I’m writing this post after a long discussion with my husband about my attitude, and I honestly am feeling really overwhelmed and disappointed with myself. For the past year or so, I have watched myself go from a confident, happy person to someone with some serious irritability issues. I get angry or upset about something every single day (at least) and I am constantly picking fights with my husband, or raising my voice at my daughter, who is only 16 months old! It’s always such small things too, like our apartment being a mess, or my daughter not listening to my pleas to stop climbing on things etc. I realize that a lot of this has to do with how I feel about myself. Since getting married and having kids, I feel worthless and unattractive and like a bad mother/wife constantly. I’m also in school, and I am struggling to balance my home life with my academic life. We don’t have childcare, so I am always either at home with my daughter or in class. Has anybody in this group dealt with similar feelings of anger and hostility? I want so desperately to be a better partner and a better mother, and I am just having the hardest time figuring out a way to improve my mindset. I know in my heart that this is not who I am, and I want to be a source of love and joy in my house, rather than a source of stress and tension. Thank you so much for considering this. ",8.158867600800686,6.791469639405206,8.403420074349444,71.66948241349729,62.64312267657992,10.953503002573635,37.7926794395196,9.851270322608157,3.678396968830425,1099,46,199,18,13,363,148,269,0.173,0.6940000000000001,0.134,-0.911,0,0,1,0,1,0,29.0,2,1,0,3,14,22,3,5,13,0,19,4,1,2,0,48,35,25,0,3,10,7,4,2,1,0,2,2,2,3,12,23,0,1,7,0,0,2,3,13,0,0,0,7,33,9,38,32,7,27,0,3,1,1,21,12,0,7,13,153,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976487231452048,0.22841867727639584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460438277637627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24278642859227004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966534597366031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851981243325102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307853316251446,0.0,0.0,0.11564546808386175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776063152767995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342288686991053,0.0,0.07800667081636994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461132930318781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626509452971483,0.0,0.0,0.27536117632796364,0.0,0.0,0.158376869522427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326129879469565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543320054760637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389823802782089,0.13411428386167978,0.0,0.0,0.12146867798509438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669152353671655,0.12388036454587426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075447031527282,0.10955772595423313,0.0,0.10090014669684956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402878715931752,0.0,0.0,0.10439060810936712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310279331217788,0.0,0.11984806299419573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314548622701866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793074860994926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891204331210186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354092494519262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629793938840495,0.10566762474783838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475351964470824,0.15722814453476988,0.14349147041896956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636837902608694,0.0,0.0,0.18237573280292355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800360243448001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191620570273693,0.10894871310628514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838940968121019
parenting,Rudy7398,2019/02/16,My parents! When I was younger my parents would always teach us no nudity within the house. And anything sexual that came up on the tv they made me look away even at stupid underwear commercials! But now at 17 I walk around naked when no one else is home! And I feel I want my kids in the future to be super open about that topic any advice would be helpful!,4.217500000000001,5.173940194444448,4.776,86.46900000000002,70.66666666666667,7.982222222222222,24.12222222222222,8.238735603445708,1.2344855555555552,282,7,58,4,5,90,57,72,0.099,0.785,0.116,0.3331,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,1,1,6,2,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,11,5,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,3,2,10,1,10,4,0,15,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,0,4,41,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451233186916946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265816449644112,0.0,0.0,0.14928107790278425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18064619547033245,0.19541927580499224,0.0,0.0,0.20624619740997926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25107231551662823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833807306838828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499084132883575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099587084055072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713957967203584,0.0,0.2201963851703131,0.0,0.0,0.2532965222511451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434145103004854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077150625354059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875238363971013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4875018006235586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640554431996304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947854040894732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118813153699002,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,harderouthere,2019/02/16,"5 year old not pooping on the potty We have an almost 5.5 year old boy who refuses to poop on the potty. He has done it a handful of times before but it's been a constant struggle. Unfortunately, he is still wet at night so wears a pull-up to bed and will wake up in the morning and poop in the pull-up. Unfortunately, taking the pull-up away at this time is not an option as he's not completely dry at night. We have given him miralax here and there as he's not a daily pooper. We have a prize bag for when he does poop on the toilet but it doesn't seem to be an incentive anymore for him. We also have taken away things (computer games, tv) if he poops in his pull-up or pants. Nothing seems to work! It's completely behavioral at this point and he's extremely stubborn. I've also set up an appt with his pediatrician in two weeks to see if she has any advice. 

Any suggestions welcome! Thank you!",1.8423624288425056,3.7182900483870966,3.7759835547122087,87.47809297912715,78.6236559139785,6.742061986084758,22.231499051233396,7.724431198458867,0.9083969639468692,703,21,151,11,17,238,108,186,0.069,0.848,0.083,0.57,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,1,0,2,7,5,1,1,15,0,13,8,8,0,0,24,20,15,0,2,9,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,9,0,2,2,2,0,0,5,2,0,1,4,3,10,3,26,14,0,29,0,0,1,0,23,16,0,7,12,93,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186312135405644,0.0,0.0,0.15561889123927697,0.0,0.0,0.24855980688038054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136584784544168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412320231286272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920222910558549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224095530515542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258851396835233,0.16794108421873616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599878722397032,0.15903657338813754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916801878645664,0.0,0.14911838573637962,0.0,0.3261495847137204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691100743189672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384023660214576,0.28295562730958274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410921128630095,0.0,0.0,0.16246642219982213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684764633999695,0.0,0.0,0.14307901619248614,0.0,0.0,0.10324632090690687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18123957451171985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181125663711278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465910607678105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313904057393295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001556065922384
parenting,blabidyblabla,2019/02/16,"I am at my wits end on what to do with 11 year old son I am the mother to an 11 year old son. 10, 7 and 4 year old daughters. For context my son has thrown amazing fits since I can remember. Probably starting about 2. Right now he is throwing a fit, and has been for about two hours because he was told to rewrite a science rough draft for school. We could not read most of it. Even though he copied it from the computer. All he had to do was rewrite 3 sentences. Instead of doing it, he called us idiots, hit things, and screamed. We told him he doesn’t get to come out of his room now. So he began hitting himself, and the walls. He has put holes in the floor, broken his whole bed frame. Two actually. Sometimes his fits get so bad, and go on for so long I actually contemplate leaving with the girls, and never coming back. I’m beyond frustrated. We have tried talking to him, we have tried charts, we have tried other reward systems. I’ve talked to his doctor who told me not to worry once his balls drop he won’t be so emotional. I’m not worried about his emotions I’m worried about his anger. I put him in football over the summer to help get him to learn teamwork, and respect, he used a tackle move on me. I told him if he ever touched me again I would call the cops. He hasn’t since, but I will. I’m at a loss for what to do. He starts fights over the most ridiculous things. Like you could tell him he has to share a soda, and he would throw a fit. He constantly “accidentally” hurts his youngest sister so many time I won’t let her go in his room or be alone with him at all anymore. He got in trouble a few months back for saying really vulgar things on the bus with a group of boys, and lost his Xbox privileges, so when he used to only throw fits twice a week it’s now almost a nightly thing. If he doesn’t get his way he throws a fit. It honestly wouldn’t be so bad if he threw a normal twenty minute fit, and stopped freaking out, or if every time he gets quiet he didn’t come out, and ask if he can come out yet. So what could have been a ten minute time out turns into hours. I’ve started recording him because he is hitting himself, and breaking things. I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m at my wits end. He is 11 not two, and it makes me so mad that his 4 year old sister even begs him to stop sometimes. His 10 year old sister also throws fits, but hers are short lived, and she almost always apologizes. Usually hers are over being mean to her sister, and getting grounded, than being told no to going to a friends stuff you would expect a kid to throw a fit over. I just wish at some point he will realize “ Hey my fit throwing is starting to look silly I should stop” but it’s never happened, and I don’t know if it ever will. 
Sorry for the long rant, I’m just so tired of it. ",2.707562266500624,3.818093859589045,3.770610211706103,91.66934620174351,74.44520547945207,6.473474470734745,23.717932752179326,6.680037744263671,0.5353472602739724,2170,61,487,17,44,702,257,584,0.121,0.778,0.102,-0.9484,0,1,0,0,1,0,65.0,6,2,0,3,32,24,6,0,27,0,53,3,0,3,6,86,99,40,0,17,17,9,2,1,1,10,2,3,3,3,22,35,1,3,6,3,0,18,16,14,0,5,15,6,58,10,66,62,7,109,0,3,1,0,96,42,0,13,46,299,80,5,0.0,0.0,0.12367673969127788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690850051646213,0.06563050102162328,0.0,0.05067564761682506,0.05272754459000388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284437687660396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924085433947316,0.0,0.0,0.09745270126456157,0.10581985282646936,0.07725751754169513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12941234330759244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21834489440970667,0.0,0.06847867570441027,0.0,0.15178341647994828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486019267251691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256173206527128,0.1122511010054097,0.0,0.0,0.08370839674628745,0.11464060326185185,0.05339056900014552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04895823099975198,0.0,0.1986440886401655,0.0,0.10804108305410287,0.0,0.050681459320235586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056036423751487256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04247447010923435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481012283865425,0.0,0.06783713065070017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965117726564532,0.0,0.0,0.06709793432805841,0.0,0.06479843251144485,0.0,0.030958575571805525,0.0,0.055955415134043035,0.1121579935776948,0.05321345534030198,0.0,0.06917404102016614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229886653650492,0.0642455621324727,0.0,0.06902671160253633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050580013414938035,0.06735052889061922,0.0,0.0,0.09774715806980956,0.0,0.0,0.05946690497771225,0.06208752987036791,0.0,0.0,0.3324721247727786,0.06748522598403958,0.0,0.04819448662863849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599035744120479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832180043638816,0.0,0.0,0.12740539096623618,0.0,0.0,0.06338549964650758,0.0,0.04059538846338141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178398906788731,0.05411622574638993,0.0,0.05039305634984456,0.0,0.06413215456076272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483791000319534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534583946253988,0.07093568120421863,0.17940978073806554,0.0,0.0,0.15893633732773998,0.0,0.0,0.07254160145974071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186616080181124,0.05538673208373575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104955842088334,0.0,0.062259083384771215,0.0,0.11085178566218352,0.07283259792462136,0.0,0.30275587615094884,0.0,0.12906885271494978,0.06892656950238285,0.18570501422972324,0.0,0.07622432423935269,0.1094598192650323,0.06979128631144328,0.0,0.0,0.05029884768471882,0.05083026906933119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074850117945042,0.07287047663780967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930609100651013,0.0,0.13504517584766282,0.0,0.0,0.20403570302662544
parenting,adadadadadaaaaa,2019/02/17,"I feel like I'm loosing my daughter My(M36) daughter(14, 15 in 2 months) and I have always had a really good relationship. Her mother left her when she was 11, but her mother and I have been divorced since she was 3, and I've been married to my wife since she was 4. There we're a few years (she was ages 6-8ish) that step-mom was gone, due to health. This was very rough for her fo a year or so, but I really do think she's healed so much since then. She jokes about it now a lot. I think she's mostly past it. T

We've always been very, very close. I still think we're closer than most teen girls are with their dads, but I feel like she's been super distant lately. She's been really absorbed in politics. I'm not joking. She listens to several political podcasts daily and reads the news a lot. She spends several hours a day doing this. Honestly, when she and I talk about politics she makes me feel dumb, and she's changed my opinions more than I have hers. 

She has also become.... well, boy crazy. I hate to say that phrase because I feel like it makes her seem juvenile, but it kinda is. She has posters of Korean boy bands all over her walls. Whenever she isn't reading the Daily Wire she's reading Big Bang fanfiction. It's to an extent where I'm not sure if it's normal. 

Her and I talk a lot, still, which is how I know half this stuff, but when we talk I feel like she's a lot less interested. I'm not sure how to explain, but it really just makes me sad. I don't know if her becoming more mature (or independent I guess) would be so sudden. 

I'm sorry this is kinda ranty. I don't know how to not feel sad right now. ",1.1401857282502483,3.0620464985337286,2.835307917888564,93.13962854349951,81.08211143695014,6.244770283479962,18.837732160312804,7.348242739294969,0.21540195503421306,1260,29,288,18,33,416,167,341,0.08800000000000001,0.805,0.107,0.7555,0,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,1,0,1,1,20,17,2,0,11,0,28,2,0,7,3,62,54,28,0,4,15,5,7,4,0,1,2,2,0,3,15,10,0,0,14,6,1,1,7,4,1,1,13,9,52,13,17,39,13,29,0,2,0,0,47,10,1,15,22,176,67,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733098586496254,0.15255646538798726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588224282231157,0.2024884726621718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969765473897737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059120689527869336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781119219298719,0.2619612421072515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688990753054772,0.0,0.0,0.10098675855272984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050686598577004,0.0,0.09744277457311076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027819962488504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15114117530574453,0.0,0.10340971748200843,0.0,0.09960161549286232,0.0,0.0,0.17914472973872986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31174414603512296,0.0,0.0,0.18357479811275226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736483583144536,0.07317150955786007,0.0,0.06738927797298576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981884302924742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875110502455299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27508964787133083,0.0,0.2349090602713115,0.0,0.0,0.09842114330319247,0.0,0.07828716645353494,0.0,0.07290104836673361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345451061669185,0.0,0.20712594940278192,0.0,0.2274954359213157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261900946224092,0.0,0.0,0.1464183425423055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494221187743426,0.0,0.0,0.17279906316374347,0.0,0.0,0.22104682033944176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762186514530785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226916362422068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242390504568813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512097505271265,0.0,0.0,0.11806719204821875
parenting,Anytimebutbedtime,2019/02/17,"Do shorter bedtime routines lead to less sleep anxiety? My 4 yo girl has had bedtime anxiety in the past and so we switched to a stoplight-style clock and tried to initiate a regular bedtime routine. It's gotten pretty bad in the past few weeks, however. She's begun complaining about every aspect of bedtime, but only so that it will delay the actual fact that I'm leaving her room and shutting her door. We're about to contact a child psychologist to get some professional help because I'm pretty sure she's dealing with either a very repressed fear of the dark or she just has severe anxiety.

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Here's an example of a recent bedtime: We did her normal routine for bed (brush teeth, get some water, use the bathroom, PJ's, story in room and a kiss), but as soon as we started turning the lights off, she began to get very hysterical about how I hadn't read the right book to her, even though she had picked out the book we read. Even after I calmly explained to her that she was fine and I had read a book she asked for, she began screaming hysterically about not wanting the pajamas she was wearing and the cycle began again...

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The cycle is she picks the book to read/PK's to wear/stuffed animal to have in bed, and then she screams to delay bedtime and throws a hysterical fit. Normally I'd let her just cry it out, but we've started letting her 2 year old sister sleep in her room a couple months ago and they were great roomies for the first 4-5 weeks, but now she's keeping the 2 year old up. She climbed on a wooden doll chair in her room and turned on her closet light and light up her room. 

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The last thing I want to do is cause psychological trauma for her, but she is almost always only a terror at night when she's tired (i.e. no nap) and doesn't want to sleep. The bedtime routine cannot take 45 minutes every night so I was curious if anyone else had a child with a similar pattern of delay and protest that was broken/overcome?",8.360851185375607,6.5309063547557855,8.217767780634109,74.63699728648959,62.57326478149101,10.700999714367324,36.77820622679234,9.150863307647796,3.1869638960297046,1568,59,299,20,18,507,198,389,0.145,0.774,0.08199999999999999,-0.9712,1,0,0,1,0,0,52.0,4,0,1,3,18,14,1,3,30,0,24,8,5,6,2,54,45,29,0,6,11,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,9,3,8,21,1,5,1,8,0,3,5,9,0,1,15,6,38,5,45,27,5,56,0,0,0,1,42,22,0,5,31,188,46,9,0.0,0.0,0.08111272940554448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368050112299096,0.0,0.08323226248808653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916215720472109,0.27018012214987003,0.302998198146239,0.0,0.0,0.19075877584431086,0.0,0.0,0.05811914974733174,0.08516584226978949,0.0,0.0,0.07770559605283386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694013854947478,0.05066893039504633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538671497012433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197024504693586,0.09130296629392527,0.0,0.08569264721525707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943575152438608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979941015913464,0.0,0.14006367848722542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353264703779178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070148054003991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027966495640933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163964108591456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557133088924268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388051044282494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775355943211732,0.0,0.08801164397458028,0.0,0.16999082399242552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634526349410251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600420852240726,0.16287909989881386,0.0,0.0,0.1744400543474719,0.0,0.0,0.12643238696317524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869410709900136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16912500952049053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33256833217927984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207056721007773,0.0,0.0,0.07098367544897126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939014773142504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495388530310293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766494681247702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783392296155049,0.0,0.062495587096376225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0552209620195776,0.0,0.08166457486237116,0.0,0.0,0.09553374097844627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643274529543633,0.18082049041250786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178863804937864,0.0,0.13716473298586995,0.14707826268410673,0.0,0.1333470423273923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.302998198146239,0.10705258117237293
parenting,gracekim27,2019/02/17,"My best friend’s daughter’s birthday is coming up and she is 7 years old, I only have sons, what do you think is a good idea to get her?  

My best friend’s daughter’s birthday is coming up and she is 7 years old, I only have sons, what do you think is a good idea to get her? Are gender-neutral toys available for this age group?",7.2531924882629095,3.9839891549295774,7.26816901408451,85.10629107981221,65.90140845070422,9.466666666666667,32.11737089201878,3.1291,1.4147427230046952,254,6,60,0,3,82,37,71,0.0,0.792,0.208,0.9407,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,0,0,8,17,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,6,5,17,2,9,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,5,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912143712160103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211208688880686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28801240753288204,0.0,0.19476453377750766,0.0,0.0,0.3126739818842964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208283652909471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3911746610855519,0.0,0.0,0.28351943769773424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388652780827125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24006101875560104
parenting,jenniHarris137,2019/02/17,"Should I buy my kid a puppy?  

Should my kid get a puppy simply because he really wants one? Will he learn responsibility? (I really think it will but I would love your opinions!) Or maybe should I get him a pet simulator toy?",0.8625757575757582,3.416704954545456,3.629090909090909,82.10530303030306,90.36363636363636,6.56969696969697,16.424242424242426,7.793537801064563,0.6881787878787882,174,4,35,4,6,61,30,44,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.8423,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,11,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,2,0,21,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23636787376095414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051651529506999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34995814088126304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895454639513137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627484042841112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4968032088481675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24845356865524534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22870409904749156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754453943338189,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xixi_freebird,2019/02/17,"What should I tell my daughter? Today I was having a free chat with my 8 yr old daughter.  She said that she doesn’t want to win( in any game, competitions etc).  We were interrupted at the time.  Later I asked her: why you don’t want to win? She said: I don’t want to feel bad for the losers.  We know that she does not have a competitive mind.  Since she is a baby, she never likes games like music chair etc.  Now she does not like football or any contest. She is in GT class at school, loves to read and is addicted to books and has the kindest heart I have ever seen.  From time to time she will say that some girls day mean things to her or do mean things and she doesn’t know how to respond, so she just walks off.  We don’t expect her to become a aggressive and competitive person, but we want to make sure she stays floats in all situations if possible.  How should I reply to her and help her? Or am I simply worrying too much?",2.6079687499999977,3.9065067760416703,3.721791666666668,91.17737500000004,74.98958333333334,6.995000000000001,20.6125,7.554174236665415,0.3753162500000005,719,15,165,9,15,233,110,192,0.092,0.799,0.109,0.6633,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,1,0,3,7,11,1,0,7,0,19,3,1,3,4,39,34,13,0,8,8,2,1,3,0,3,1,3,0,2,6,10,0,0,5,5,1,1,8,3,0,0,5,5,31,9,20,26,5,18,0,1,1,1,37,6,0,5,13,108,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566241212835948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172848285956147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491399482716807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156473599140564,0.0,0.147569640352522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861720055104219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23385853036224505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980368765050044,0.0,0.12086435857908108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756084392914513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833696173938488,0.08956075665465815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468649784625027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19583576529835367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059469132212318,0.0,0.08919048272765064,0.0,0.0,0.2910964871183634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349152278238684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822397673650347,0.0,0.10305378048343618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402087182472385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666933831945005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063325613893508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336533050247655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25420100835187515,0.1062577177590659,0.0,0.1352276855622657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052948420347443,0.150191270810913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424180996579324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259325791195528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11678727530422445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753858961135147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337396976323127,0.0,0.12665343127548798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31524341921903504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205686917428002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569469802605194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Macmama811,2019/02/17,"Do you ever feel like your kids don't like you? first time poster

on mobile so sorry if it causes formatting problems (I only use mobile so I don't know what it does but have seen other people write this)

I have 2 girls aged 2 & 4 and I constantly struggle with feeling like they don't like me. they only want my husband to put them to bed at night and my 4 year old even tells me ""I love you a little bit but I don't like you more"" or ""I love daddy more than I love you"" and my 2 year old has started saying ""not want you, want daddy"" I try to be a fun mom and give them treats and plan fun activities with them but no matter what they don't seem to like me.

I had post partum depression when the oldest was a baby so my husband spent a lot more time bonding with her but when the youngest was born I never put the kid down and loved her up like mad. I still have depression (have struggled with it since teenage years) and I just don't know what I'm doing wrong",1.4079710144927553,2.9586020917874443,2.861183574879228,95.03206521739132,78.80676328502416,5.5661835748792265,18.746376811594203,6.139981653823899,-0.3094463768115947,751,15,175,5,18,245,111,207,0.126,0.633,0.241,0.9799,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,7,6,2,9,21,1,2,7,0,17,4,0,2,2,35,35,18,0,5,8,3,2,7,0,0,0,1,1,3,8,11,0,0,5,0,1,2,9,7,0,1,5,4,35,14,13,29,5,27,0,2,1,4,29,5,0,4,26,110,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255025419113197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234824078722319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619097149933875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222735493424206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19483598534560748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989797827850166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470541606447778,0.10231081107092403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143795378602754,0.16160583265333672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620786691774133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085015376573661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432014897577168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868049923607021,0.11336188017403392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961586376090382,0.4083301587023722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324683266322719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723428469019458,0.0,0.0,0.10614227607038207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373713450637121,0.0,0.0,0.17204434993630574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841342731968215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832423881249277,0.0,0.0,0.10822712293897734,0.0,0.227405448221352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994639457224526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296741280044404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356241417282117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661285567898148,0.08005697658203177,0.0,0.09032656118107384,0.0,0.0,0.2364858026669649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885958937448527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190598301200904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679151847621357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768722921932496,0.0,0.0,0.2001384668994536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236636053187894,0.0,0.21850957866716
parenting,tobehonestilikepie,2019/02/17,"Child suddenly scared of diaper changes. What should I do? I am the step parent of nearly 3 year old twins. One is a boy and one is a girl. They twins come every other week and therefore, I happily take care of them as if they were my own.

So for the past 2 rounds, after the twins spent their week at their bio mom's house, the baby girl has been scared of diaper changes. She would clench her cheeks so I couldn't wipe properly, be scared if I even touched her diaper and cry hysterically. Whenever I tell her that I am going to change her diaper, she continuously hugs me as if that's a way out of the diaper change. When I put her down, she starts to cry up and resist.

I reached out to my husband about it who didn't take any note of it. These are my first toddlers I have ever had guardianship over and have ever taken care of. However, I'm a bit spooked out. 

Is this normal or should I further investigate this?

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parenting,604chuck,2019/02/17,"Do Parents Know What Their Teens are Doing at EDM Festivals? (Introductory) I decided to write an introductory piece of EDM events for parents. I've run into many conversations with people(parents) who have no clue what EDM Festivals are, but their teens attend them. Some parents have it all wrong and carry the wrong type of information about them. For the retired raver turned parent, things have changed. 

Check my article out and let me know what you think: [Are Your Teens Attracted to the Drugs at Raves/EDM Festivals?](https://www.itsmechuck.com/what-teens-are-doing-at-raves-edm-festivals/)",6.286969696969699,9.895228404040411,5.202828282828282,73.79090909090911,73.04040404040404,8.44848484848485,26.171717171717173,9.095868883498916,2.65909292929293,488,17,77,12,11,145,65,99,0.103,0.8240000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.6199,5,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,2,4,0,1,5,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,0,1,14,13,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,3,12,12,3,7,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,1,47,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616634797408627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040840456757512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19343096444469995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17995422026234506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17841882265937822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7816317893855399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691507728455322,0.11276259971764907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19141862834365447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848188831913951,0.0,0.0
parenting,OneAssburger,2019/02/17,"Wanting our son to have a ""normal"" high school experience without pushing too hard. Where to draw the line? I have two teenage boys. The older of the two is 16 years old and was diagnosed with HFA (Aspergers) when he was 7. He is very high functioning and was in gifted and talented from 3rd to 8th grade. Now he's an honors and AP student doing well. 

He doesn't have many friends and spends most of his free time up in his room reading or playing computer games. He has one friend who is very popular and he invites him out but my son always declines. There was a dance last week for Valentine's Day and he refused to go. I'm trying to figure out our role. I worry that he's wasting his life away. Pretty soon he'll be in college and then an adult. I don't want him to look back and feel like he missed out. He sometimes says that he wishes he was normal but he doesn't put any effort into doing ""normal"" high school things. Now I don't want him drunk and high or anything but I would like for him to experience sleepovers, dating, dances, proms, and friendships. Do we push those things or not?",3.092929292929292,4.763290636363639,3.712121212121215,90.21762626262628,74.45454545454545,6.343434343434343,24.040404040404038,6.937597516519254,0.7444191919191918,860,26,179,8,18,271,134,220,0.07400000000000001,0.7809999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,0,2,11,11,0,0,7,0,21,3,0,0,0,37,31,19,0,8,8,2,2,2,2,2,2,1,1,2,6,17,1,1,2,6,2,6,6,1,1,3,5,4,16,11,23,23,1,35,0,1,1,0,35,15,0,4,16,105,22,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984614877579106,0.0,0.0,0.08046964155658681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973769402142537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111765657855056,0.0909898045428332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631418351733668,0.0,0.0,0.1201042261145339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315022972939009,0.0,0.0,0.05983208365240333,0.08453621931785144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828456189156554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725065528969393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060019970925515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5000959243496451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645616233215047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358120805837264,0.11562182283919832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936885971622826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996981233610825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478199455209842,0.0,0.0,0.12416925649660356,0.0,0.08018465005973881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038592148859105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895608301559404,0.0,0.0,0.11836376311475025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410214982426046,0.0,0.23951607837130676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703311745039666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722870123257346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900018969711208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033948454795448,0.0,0.2311858331015974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527215783233856,0.2093853798958342,0.0,0.0949185848614326,0.0,0.1063944461085325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607566214541755,0.11406757551596901,0.0,0.0,0.12017162680793472,0.0,0.08405947360708531,0.0,0.0,0.07620176145862621
parenting,zinfandelightful,2019/02/17,"5yo daughter wants it to be ”just the 3 of us, like before [her brother] was born” My 5yo is a very easy and reasonable kid. When her brother (2yo) came along I worried she would feel some sibling rivalry because she is very, very sensitive and attached to me. To my surprise/ relief, she adored her brother and doted on him. 

Of course a 2yo is a lot different from a baby. And for the last couple weeks, she has been telling me she wishes it was just the 3 of us again. She asked me to send her brother away to grandma’s house for a day, then a week, then a month. Today while he was being particularly difficult, she asked, “he’ll never go back in your tummy, right?” then cried when I affirmed that he would not. 

I have done my best to validate her feelings, and carve out 1:1 time without her brother. But when I do that, she says she wishes it was like that all the time. 

How else can I help her through this phase (please let it just be a phase)? I feel for her, her brother is a lot more challenging than she was and he tries my 34yo patience, it must be way harder for her as a 5yo. She’s such a good kid and I feel guilty that she has to deal with Mr. Crankypants and sad that she isn’t enjoying him the way she used to. ",3.662955182072829,4.27600269047619,4.332446311858078,90.40340336134457,71.69841269841271,7.357983193277312,26.33146591970121,7.285733465282438,1.0232163398692815,946,29,213,9,17,302,133,252,0.052000000000000005,0.812,0.136,0.9626,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,1,0,2,10,11,0,0,16,0,25,0,0,3,3,36,38,18,0,6,6,7,4,2,0,4,0,1,0,3,11,12,0,0,5,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,8,5,43,9,26,21,6,29,0,1,0,0,50,5,0,3,21,152,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348465828537327,0.0,0.1180096018814966,0.09658213971180997,0.0,0.07656736299943936,0.0,0.10688021405191486,0.0,0.13181421767116885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365813464519753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897903671447115,0.13797069147992147,0.08100453860184341,0.1294927675511964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123001285246508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853705545746724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492647763936842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540377217689179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138395579080939,0.10535113058372496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419007688947358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493077750862313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238446596556132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843915418899726,0.0,0.12272806940620212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21356897993803656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025634710739888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687396608434268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787606880776032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914238860898633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726559259808516,0.0,0.09988577321572302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978390597444093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648203707989554,0.0,0.1190584192864163,0.0,0.0,0.08527723913653032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021735975542672,0.1084819960853076,0.0,0.31091070462808834,0.07408481318801677,0.19939807809904808,0.20150477452709836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888780491119527,0.12107829630389615,0.0,0.0,0.1275575094162967,0.0,0.17845172576887755,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Boothangclan,2019/02/17,"Before a baby Hey all! My husband and I are thinking about having a baby, and we want to be as prepared as possible. What should we do/have ready before I get pregnant and have a baby? We’ve been married 2 years, together for 5, and are 21&23. Thoughts? ",2.1405882352941177,4.3567214901960805,3.8899607843137254,85.34082352941176,79.19607843137254,5.648627450980393,27.84705882352941,6.742157984588678,1.5057341176470596,200,9,37,2,5,67,37,51,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.6544,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,11,11,6,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,5,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3978302406300166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6248719219727712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19183198988286934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139307744870661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352687150981872,0.0,0.2914932116065607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165673039506808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364464516614884
parenting,Rillithain,2019/02/17,"Twin sisters ALWAYS fighting. Please, I am at wits end.  I literally do not want to be around my daughters most of the time anymore and it hurts me to have this feeling. They fight over every thing.  Even to the point of who showers first, who gets to talk first and once even who walks through a door way first. They scream at the top of their lungs and they yell the most nasty things trying to hurt their feelings. They’ll yell things like the other one should commit suicide, that they have no friends, they should never been born etc
They are 15 years old. The concept of taking turns or sharing the last “whatever” is so foreign to them. We have had them in counseling for 5 months and it did nothing. We’ve tried positive reinforcements and negative reinforcements.  They could be having a great time getting along so well and just a simple “she bumped my foot” turns into a nightmare for the rest of the family to deal with. Every one gets on edge and it is so toxic. 
I am open to all suggestions. We do not know what to do.",3.617966302098728,5.6342482663316575,3.5622287910138937,90.37262488915171,73.87437185929646,6.491398167307124,23.766183860478865,7.285733465282438,0.8266958912208091,811,24,164,9,17,246,127,199,0.146,0.7509999999999999,0.103,-0.8903,1,0,0,0,3,2,18.0,2,0,12,4,8,10,2,0,13,0,21,2,2,0,3,30,31,11,1,4,4,2,2,1,1,3,0,3,2,0,13,14,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,5,1,5,3,5,21,5,26,22,5,24,0,2,0,0,27,10,0,3,13,123,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312334639177765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482831922985564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102652235372262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854698515105764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016102744548595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041353604298805,0.0,0.15162294203406462,0.17959064915049808,0.0,0.2290916399775832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816388973920365,0.0,0.13748330801164135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34692330589985604,0.0,0.0,0.10503654147330743,0.0,0.21308866383454306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498880786944635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910798630391095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471592232943125,0.11081940880224764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641950986789019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851596490088664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485492646322844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045006211519267,0.0,0.14265924813578953,0.14478494408721607,0.18424982499378384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923498686210335,0.12851902835627993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487099367618603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221933833171834,0.10927344600992887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27096234127590785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15854995771334293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846056066469492,0.2957544963659541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018828951535045,0.1079127430262402,0.0,0.0,0.12223759822611326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754893363324405
parenting,thisismyproclamation,2019/02/17,"Question about grandparent teaching child parents names How would you feel if your child's grandparent took it upon themselves to teach your child your  name? The child is 2.5 years old.

This is not about the merits of whether the child should know their parents names. It's about a grandparent unilaterally making the decision to teach the child.",6.942499999999999,9.662881583333338,4.823333333333334,81.855,66.5,8.133333333333335,30.33333333333333,8.841846274778883,2.5602333333333336,285,11,47,5,5,80,38,60,0.039,0.961,0.0,-0.3089,5,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,4,1,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,2,0,14,8,3,0,3,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,1,7,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,2,2,29,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645273395234408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700498844153605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20654115688526198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324685661368291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6871515934481214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34662273154487216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34377851003802257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219804052568628,0.0,0.0,0.19925720757858906
parenting,rutts421,2019/02/17,"Daughter f13. Is ok to have a bf? When its causing stress in the house? Well here we are on a Sunday.   Nice day to tidy up a couple things.   She was asked to clean her room.  Couldn't see the floor.  She wanted to have her iPad to listen to music.  Perfect.  That's fine.  It seems to help with the cleaning process.  But she had to get her chores done before any snap chat, social media. Whatever they do.  3 hrs later she was in her room.  Picked up her clothes.  That's it.  That would take about 10 mins.   
 When I checked on her she was laying on her bed.   Nothing else was cleaned up.  Asked what she was doing.   She says listening to music.  But she wasn't completing her chores.  And she was on snap chat.  
Continued to lie about being on it.   Checked her timeline and usage in settings.   And it was only snap chat.  I know how to figure those things out.

Her BF. M13 went on a trip and just left.  They are nothing serious.   Just like each other.  But her actions at home are getting terrible.   Her attitude is off the wall.   Screaming crying falling to the floor.  This house is a prison kind of talk.   

Most of these actions are because she can't talk to him. And needs her iPad back.   But doesn't understand that she lied to us.  And wasnt acting very mature.  And that privilege (the iPad) isnt going to be rewarded for poor behaviour.

Seems like this BF is getting in her head and it's affecting the rest of the family.   It's impossible to play a card game.  She upstairs yelling at us.   Saying sorry.   And then after she yells sorry we should be 100% forgiving.  

Is it to early to have a bf.   Can I not allow her to be dating.  It seems to be getting out of hand.   What's the right decision.  She has 3 younger brothers.   Much younger.  And it's not needed to be seen.

Cheers
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parenting,Webezo,2019/02/17,"Are vacations still worth it when the kids/teens don't want to go? I have 4 great kids (17, 15, and 13 year old boys and a 10 year old girl). We go on vacation every summer but weren't able to go last year because our youngest son's team made it to the little league world series and our summer was all about baseball. 

I was brainstorming ideas with the kids and the older ones said they would rather stay home and hang out with friends than go on vacation. We spend a lot of time together and are a close family, but the oldest has a girlfriend and wants to spend time with her. He says he wants to spend the summer before his senior year hanging out with her and his friends before they have to start filling out college applications. The 15 year old is content to play games all day. 

The 13 and 10 year old still want to go. I'm wondering if I should force the older two to come along. I know the oldest would enjoy himself once he's there and he can go a week and a half without being next to his girlfriend. He can get a bit of an attitude and I don't want that throwing off the trip. The 15 year old, who will be 16 at the time of the trip, hates the beach and doesn't like swimming or water activities. The 13 and 10 year old love that kind of stuff. It's hard to find something that fits everyone at these ages but family vacations are super important to me. Do you think it's worth it to make them come and deal with the teenage attitude or should we just take the younger two and do something they enjoy? All of the boys will be in high school this August and this will be our last year with the oldest before college. I'm sure next year he won't want to come on vacation because he'll be focused on getting ready to leave. This could be our last family vacation with just the core group and I don't want to miss this opportunity. Am I just being selfish?",5.38901713469776,5.137260557591624,5.5456925273679225,86.22923369823894,67.7696335078534,8.934983341266065,27.834840552118038,8.438071523408619,1.5923623036649208,1471,40,322,19,22,465,175,382,0.05,0.812,0.139,0.9917,0,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,7,1,4,3,9,15,1,0,29,0,35,2,0,2,4,71,67,25,0,14,11,1,1,1,4,9,0,2,1,5,15,36,1,0,5,5,5,16,7,3,0,4,5,3,26,12,43,45,5,74,0,1,0,1,43,16,0,5,42,188,41,5,0.07221308839875197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804085686045059,0.0,0.1843440584461788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883798950551772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661554441508466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765627505392092,0.0,0.0,0.04657146797744595,0.07444852327304233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084264150091258,0.06900270058892484,0.0,0.0,0.2042282188261748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600145454605759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158330592912977,0.0,0.07545671640607632,0.0,0.2462421737297157,0.0,0.0,0.07961518489422112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468874310919663,0.07129547447189911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629709266695417,0.0724356155592829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151978699486108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519881911786308,0.0396864248485404,0.17658991559250242,0.0,0.07646323386744026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035279667367642015,0.07237648563456626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139298539214025,0.06517513166708172,0.06832977028233055,0.04820279724998815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359887750339785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546529323530914,0.07690458236442095,0.04893345758841136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869118369806328,0.05742674631582448,0.0,0.0730835007323291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118632692330922,0.0,0.0,0.05111279564736285,0.07696954397592541,0.11533893135338474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266670938654075,0.0,0.0,0.06805998120902639,0.0,0.054295255446124464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04627123120920925,0.0,0.0,0.12632409770275815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410833887868864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29815205359932634,0.0,0.057924983687134224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069610840286328,0.0783120139643324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025962122074987,0.0,0.0,0.4650286132969215
parenting,Brighidhecate,2019/02/17,"PND causing gender disappointment I know I have PND but I am pregnant, it is too late to get rid of it, and I don’t want it anymore. I was having a hard enough time dealing with the pregnancy, but to find out it is the same sex as a the people who have abused me is just too much. I hate feeling it kick me. I don’t want to prepare for the birth or prepare the nursery. I don’t want to breastfeed because I don’t want it taking anything more from my body. 

I am going to get help. But how to deal with these awful feelings in the mean time when everyone expects me to be happy? I am terrified I am never going to love this child. I fee so guilty wondering if it already knows it is not wanted. It deserves better.

Has anyone dealt with this? Did your opinion change when it was born? How long did the feeling last? How did you cope?",0.9631856133590232,3.07672609248555,2.6866570327552988,92.91902858060377,82.87283236994219,5.000513808606295,22.32787411689145,6.139981653823899,0.3132494540783561,646,22,139,5,18,213,102,173,0.173,0.7140000000000001,0.113,-0.9548,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,9,5,1,0,9,1,22,3,1,4,1,33,41,13,0,7,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,14,5,0,0,8,0,1,2,6,2,0,0,5,4,19,3,17,35,4,14,0,1,0,2,8,2,0,4,10,102,33,0,0.0,0.1790501342415767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667624849810645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986846213808952,0.10566522826218012,0.0,0.1243572484965583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092120138014216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365160190171005,0.0,0.16785804517271788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523982658211752,0.15986282007495448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115920713828514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614530367797455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439973731016334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292294236743637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381191260225704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579058491092412,0.0,0.17176769845131545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16086793472002356,0.1353720569219562,0.1491977516427535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129121859064874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661010155833979,0.1231813499353291,0.17046770074608208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373468597665866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363899066494283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16461181777064932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108912731525587,0.0,0.11655152764944345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476620258645664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362193880375415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762362571178309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44566659659465385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388103868639675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MomOf3Many,2019/02/17,"Avengers new movie - what age is too young? I've got 3 kids (6,7,9) and a family friend has a daughter turning 10 when the movie comes out. 

They're very close to us, kids are all best friends, etc. But they are way more lax than we are with movies. I am not taking our 6 year old because it's a long ass movie, he won't sit through it, it'll probably scare him and I'm not going to ruin other people's movie experience. 

But, they're bringing their 7 year old twins, my daughter's best friend, and she's begging to go. 

I'm torn because I think they've gotten darker with each movie. I love it, not sure I love it for my kid. My 9 year old will be fine, she's almost 10 and can handle these things. 

What are your thoughts on bringing a 7 year old? (She'll be 8 this summer)",1.0830909090909095,2.7481777939393943,2.287878787878789,98.2518181818182,80.15151515151516,5.127272727272729,19.484848484848484,5.6839178017228535,-0.4373151515151519,596,14,144,3,15,190,104,165,0.064,0.746,0.19,0.9715,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,1,2,2,2,11,0,1,5,0,14,3,1,0,2,21,29,7,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,3,11,11,0,0,2,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,3,0,17,9,10,20,6,24,0,1,0,3,21,3,1,1,14,72,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289110364900064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179903993060127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785444480901684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143189537192056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480080763532331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981702566426376,0.12510831490122146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075970478155231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084567446166347,0.0,0.106141275583575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744524195732647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395540912964799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817331063150006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5570323489919616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200524098784822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308512710069654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286706979689414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507874196147245,0.0,0.09978231149992386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816742892687307,0.08503598275881905,0.0,0.10535787431891867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443516841604009,0.0,0.0,0.15963524164014345,0.0,0.0,0.1095006443614446,0.0,0.10533997886498084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34184666462736496
parenting,YaasGurrl,2019/02/17,"Struggling to enjoy being a stay at home parent My partner works out of town 50% of the time, so I am home alone with my 3 year old a lot. We try to stay active with a variety of activities, but I kinda feel like I've lost myself. By the end of most days I am so tired, feel like I haven't accomplished much and hardly got any time for myself. For those of you who are alone for days at a time, how do you thrive?",4.159666666666666,3.26560007777778,5.45888888888889,87.98500000000001,70.44444444444444,8.533333333333333,23.555555555555557,7.554174236665415,0.7024888888888889,317,5,77,3,5,107,60,90,0.183,0.7170000000000001,0.1,-0.8395,1,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,0,3,3,5,0,1,6,0,6,1,0,1,0,12,10,5,0,0,1,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,11,3,16,7,3,14,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,3,10,49,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611327860812846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855897168740505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248731558377062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544158288286546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17630575144927035,0.24910082954992416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943773338673554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617675845202642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34975976006921883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035001219433935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903155832216119,0.14821987550526314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816189838471145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294327004147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935868664323514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716521082315403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226077813505304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049817811468506,0.2003812145010953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836720643528192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692351621491504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227094224038024
parenting,myrandoranda,2019/02/17,"Are crop tops and belly rings tools of fat-shaming? I posted, what I thought to be, an innocuous picture of my kids on Instagram. What ensued was a lengthy back-and-forth in the comments with a woman whom I only know tangentially. She was upset that my 15-year-old daughter was wearing a crop top in public (we were at my hubby's birthday brunch Saturday) and that her belly-button ring was showing. I consider this to be a pretty standard ""look"" for a teenager in 2019, but the woman said that she views it as a form of fat-shaming. Speaking for DD15, I can say that she would never put down other girls like that. She, herself, struggles to maintain a healthy body image. As such, I tend to get defensive when parents are snarky over her having a belly-button ring; that little thing has done wonders for her self-confidence and motivates her to stay in-shape.

Overall, the conversation was courteous, however, the woman remained convinced that I am ""enabling"" my daughter.

I am curious as to what this community thinks. I am always receptive to eliminating any blindspots that I have as a parent or in any other capacity.",7.3900320512820485,7.651215375,7.565192307692309,71.69647435897437,63.519230769230774,10.01025641025641,37.52564102564102,9.725611199111238,3.8038064102564095,890,42,148,16,12,289,129,208,0.026,0.85,0.124,0.9552,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,0,4,2,5,1,2,14,0,19,3,2,1,1,16,27,10,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,6,0,5,18,5,1,1,5,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,9,8,24,2,26,15,1,17,0,0,2,0,26,11,0,2,4,110,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151892347498065,0.0,0.0,0.2640092115730444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926216952045362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21561759540917794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19864666302279496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141688308995277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668032484908142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483460376466762,0.19455385634754085,0.0,0.0,0.16300740130764554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971317047795454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036906519971697,0.0,0.0,0.14763292427546104,0.0,0.0,0.4310826523736694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859081585849503,0.19748436554391333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513881931908464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464746620901096,0.15436774603352213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250389531716004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690036923644367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293075948311687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896113567212633,0.12438081775831578,0.0,0.1541053344703763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105090373140034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789346468410588,0.0,0.0,0.1250034582857065
parenting,newtospoods,2019/02/17,Feels like the first time I’m about 12 weeks away from delivering baby #2. It’s been several years since my first so I feel like I’m doing it for the first time now. I can’t remember how or what I did to keep the first one alive now. What things do I need for a new baby? What items do you feel like you couldn’t have lived without bringing baby home and bringing them up the first year or two?,2.77556862745098,3.4856698705882363,3.678529411764707,93.92171568627451,73.82352941176471,7.0784313725490176,21.225490196078432,7.1686216300943375,0.20684313725490225,309,6,75,3,6,99,56,85,0.0,0.872,0.128,0.8577,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,1,5,5,3,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,12,17,5,0,2,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,4,0,0,2,3,0,0,7,2,3,8,3,8,14,1,17,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,16,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538613239074655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347281148767939,0.3316452676889756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6581215387640872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521983536354875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754267901015785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22679882478548385,0.0,0.13664089468360846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473996591594784,0.0,0.14945174344945455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485785441315296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529364167342154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174815532207356,0.0,0.12800499992073938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280436624174012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804637630855624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116141563061244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412549216199728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491667197874377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992988234805914
parenting,Saeveo93,2019/02/17,"My mother-in-law More of a venting session, but hang in there. 

My six month old son has quite a few allergies, one of them being lactose based formulas. He had some trouble with breastfeeding, otherwise we’d have just gone that route. He also has eczema, and regularly has dry skin, which just won’t seem to heal... but anyways. Backstory. 
My wife’s mother is super into natural remedies and avoiding all things that are processed to any degree. We’ve been experimenting with different formulas and have found an organic lactose free formula that he loves and doesn’t react to. We have also found out that he’s allergic to fragrances that are in detergents and lotions and such, so we’ve gone full fragrance free and organic, and it’s working fine. 
But because it’s not healing immediately (I understand things take time to heal, most people do), my mother in law continually buys him more and more “natural remedies” and other such things to try to fix him, even though we’ve found a system that works! He’s getting better with the products that we’ve found for him. Slowly but surely, he’s on track to clearing up. Don’t fix what already works, right?
My wife, bless her heart, just won’t tell her mom to back off, even though she agrees with me and doesn’t want to change things up. I’ve tried to tell mom in law that we have things under control, but she just doesn’t seem to think we know what’s good for our baby boy. 
Baby boy is happy, and loves life! Daddy is his best friend, and I’d hate to see him not get better because we are constantly pressured to deviate from what we know is good for him. 
Thanks for letting me vent, just gotta get it off my chest haha 😂 ",5.8634049079754575,6.282192855828224,6.041846625766873,80.7776165644172,66.76073619631903,9.096687116564418,30.10368098159509,8.982922981607832,2.2992557055214724,1325,45,258,21,20,422,169,326,0.045,0.732,0.223,0.9971,1,1,0,0,0,0,42.0,7,0,1,9,17,21,1,2,5,1,26,10,3,2,3,57,49,23,0,1,12,7,1,0,1,3,5,0,0,2,21,24,0,2,10,0,3,3,8,4,0,2,8,2,27,19,37,35,9,24,1,0,1,2,38,14,0,4,6,163,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290230932857867,0.1636355259665119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957472754271883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867054876566268,0.0,0.1247352043075316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736867986410266,0.18097085207000016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823106626343952,0.0,0.0,0.11056142983223533,0.1147500559576992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689281844897862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515039445538699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007941472195013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487132404262521,0.07904492844976026,0.0,0.1603592230855856,0.0,0.0,0.17162658190914315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891155363193344,0.0,0.10101055227745798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123857305816922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124544782558094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461953704066074,0.07226501405829333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846786515753614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23964991483006404,0.08166335792222447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735778142938696,0.0,0.06932832150235828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092929931416979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881993422003884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737270740268653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08152831508258199,0.1862794853323592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642654517471286,0.0,0.0769248508307543,0.0,0.17884797653931214,0.09419386973009664,0.0,0.0,0.3398531371131856,0.06555651187709499,0.2010393223367008,0.0,0.059658143191760375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892438540106478,0.0,0.0,0.10650895986567956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060345452338225664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234500417910089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaaway12332333,2019/02/17,"[advice]Spanked my son left bruise He was being a crazy three year old. Scratching the house scratching me hitting me scratching me. 

I was putting in him time out.  I dont normally spank too often and have always used it as last resort. I have always followed a two swat rule.

Two swats explain to him what he did and continue timeout, it usually works very well and he calms down.

He was throwing a tantrum from hell and the bad behavior continued for such a long time.  The cycle continued for 8 swats.

None of them were hard at all, but I guess it was just too many regardless.  It doesnt look terrible but nonetheless he is bruised.  

I feel very terrible about hurting him and feel like a total failure.  I love him with all my heart but I am very scared about what happens at daycare tomorrow and what to even do.  I am so scared it even got like this and never would have imagined he would have ended up a with a bruise.

I dont think I will ever resort to the swatting anymore.   I dont know what to do or if I should just get a lawyer immediately. ",3.7514903846153835,5.244775783653849,4.34346153846154,87.07653846153849,72.41346153846153,7.7,27.903846153846153,8.278499904357787,1.784128846153846,825,31,169,13,16,262,120,208,0.124,0.773,0.103,-0.5448,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,1,13,13,2,2,12,0,24,2,1,1,5,36,38,14,0,6,7,1,6,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,0,6,0,0,3,6,8,1,3,7,7,22,5,19,25,4,24,1,1,1,1,14,7,1,4,16,118,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213355739616043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271461492610366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704686298882013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4507703080559676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355268325098855,0.0,0.0,0.16935803704448602,0.11596989244023488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964986362804434,0.09159057011839204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698247374265827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253824943082246,0.0,0.14123363770684896,0.0,0.11337236285039462,0.0,0.1148476171011439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15192502271226352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793279839434031,0.1372474415028437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045880173347356,0.104505204641536,0.0,0.0,0.13929646499338535,0.0,0.0,0.1252701949226353,0.0,0.0,0.11345849621716055,0.10766095984495916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157111455015036,0.0,0.0,0.12998101402602366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888056312650756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561490355210692,0.0,0.0,0.1345308920303135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888269135248978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567136426252765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214938781146709,0.0,0.0,0.14951618995104873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25047775294345753,0.0,0.0,0.11072903583470113,0.1412010707640265,0.31735074755707243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152728150743458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333567642114328,0.0,0.0,0.1821480821747388,0.0,0.0,0.08256062114369317
parenting,lakshmikumar66,2019/02/17,"What type of play is most important for our children?  

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I was reading online that the type of play is important for my children. I’m weighing the following:

Physical (e.g. swings, running around), Imaginative (e.g. dressing up, role playing), Manipulative (e.g. puzzles), Creative (e.g. building blocks), Social (e.g. use of tea sets), Exploratory (e.g. nature/water play), 

What do you think is most important for children around the age of 5 -7 and why? 

(I'm such an indecisive mom haha)",5.369183400267737,8.689993843373491,5.351244979919682,73.12263721552881,74.42168674698793,8.02623828647925,34.52342704149933,8.841846274778883,3.801051941097725,391,21,57,9,9,122,57,83,0.023,0.813,0.16399999999999998,0.8844,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,1,1,0,0,3,6,0,1,4,1,5,2,0,2,0,12,10,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,2,1,2,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,10,9,2,7,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,4,1,30,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042896121297564,0.3412508790664877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5000136084749864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32891596999501554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809156202912809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862806267453862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799506893948575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24255526261756197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534140762352343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412508790664877,0.0
parenting,1dynamichuman,2019/02/17,"11 month old hyper as F I hope this is the right subreddit for this. My baby is 11 months and in the ladt 2 weeks she went from 3 naps a day to 1 nap a day. She is Incredibly active just go go go, never seen anything like it. Earlier she just crawled back and for back and forth for like 5 or 10 minutes. 

Im glad shes so energetic but I am shot y'all. I can't keep up. She is teething too so maybr thats a contributer but she legit doesnt seem tired. She sleeps her 10 to 12 a night normally.

So is this loss of naps and energetic all day state normal? If so what do I do for her when I am not entertaining her? Do you let the babes play on their own? I do that if she seems interested in it. But i feel guilty sometimes . help help help

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parenting,sandypandy311,2019/02/17,"How bad is it to reward with cigarettes My boyfriend's sister has moved in to live with us and intern for my boyfriend's company. We have sort of taken roles as her new guardians. She is 16 and from a European country, so she's used to smoking and drinking for fun. She likes to use snus (a form of smokeless tobacco) but it's impossible for her to get more of the brand she likes in the US as it is illegal here, and so she's been asking for a cigarette. I personally used to be like this at 16 (I'm also from Europe) so I used to drink and smoke and then got bored of it before even turning 21. I know she's been sneaking cigarettes anyway, so now I'm wondering, is it okay to give her a cigarette as a reward? That way she won't have to hide it. Of course, it's illegal and incredibly dangerous, but if she's already hooked on smokeless tobacco and she's going to smoke whether we want it or not, is there a way to make it into something good?",2.4081060606060625,3.842897828282833,4.254431818181818,86.60164772727276,75.76767676767676,7.980303030303031,26.516414141414145,8.660442795831766,1.8186959595959595,742,28,162,15,16,252,106,198,0.092,0.774,0.134,0.7093,0,0,13,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,0,2,11,11,1,0,8,1,12,2,0,6,0,29,29,23,0,2,6,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,11,13,2,0,2,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,4,0,21,8,32,23,2,12,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,4,6,112,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17165303243767588,0.12439308998073716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541803155840008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987755552650276,0.0,0.0,0.13236139228519225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30475910038860216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273915202168027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126833155048346,0.14921750736713646,0.08840251546190522,0.13046776193868512,0.12440735592067648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548608225376754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279812725373315,0.0,0.13735329131477225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038306752573536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532478211012416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502309312526483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358200539908237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974980771302553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919347586841205,0.0,0.0,0.3742144272342202,0.5373802126838401,0.0,0.0,0.09174728089514514,0.2469363246537085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686870836252545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,davidoff-sensei,2019/02/17,"Need advice on settling and getting 9 week old to sleep. Not really looking to actually sleep train him as such yet but figured this might be a decent place to get some advice on how to get more sleep into our 9 week old.

He is a very fussy colicky/gassy baby. At the moment we get probably two decent 4 hour stretches over night (something like 7-11 then 11:30-3:30 is pretty common for us. Strangely night time isn't our problem so i guess we are lucky there ... its day time thats the problem. Once he's awake from like 4am or so he only has about 2-3 naps until about 7pm usually only about 45mins each. He is constantly over tired during the day, we really struggle getting him to sleep in his bassinet.

We have tried.

1. Getting him drowsy on either of us then putting into bassinet which always results in him waking fully, even if we spend an hour or so trying to sooth and calm him while he's laying there.
2. Letting him actually sleep on us which usually just works but we cant do that forever and don't want to create bad habits.
3. All types of swaddles
4. Dark and quiet room during the day instead of normal daylight with noise etc (what we first tried)
5. White noise
6. Pacifiers

He just hates sleeping during the day but he's clearly tired, the car or pram usually works good but again we can't do that everyday.

Last night we tried our first ""dreamfeed"" he fed at 6:30 ... asleep by 8 (yeah ...) we gave him a feed while he was asleep at 11 and he slept through till 3:30 which was pretty damn good. We really just need to get the days sorted because when he's had more sleep during the day he's much happier and feeds better as well.",2.3218214598966966,4.4146688519637465,3.226157294610662,90.95028944547316,78.00302114803625,5.841964720787447,21.85566708897769,6.828538100315305,0.4921980508722346,1294,37,266,13,31,411,184,331,0.081,0.7829999999999999,0.136,0.9693,0,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,17,0,0,5,19,14,2,1,12,1,18,16,11,2,2,50,34,27,0,7,13,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,1,0,9,21,3,0,1,1,1,2,5,6,1,3,6,3,26,8,36,25,8,54,0,0,2,0,38,16,1,9,38,147,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.14231382724647326,0.0,0.0,0.14250817823643913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060673160455585025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060883025749163724,0.044449801281815186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448955975956637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879786003893173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821543411756337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08132223262668024,0.048161288627786035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404709299496648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26667450982005897,0.0,0.0,0.12231939656313948,0.0,0.0,0.08032679296778822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199088663100557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361800209650896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594374546573753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456303386793081,0.0,0.07124756662765637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061232294038405424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735389237045111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360271641116491,0.10813473183801194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052842643573685,0.0714436200548948,0.0,0.0,0.15302919739731122,0.07765470545516917,0.0,0.11091401441243236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618321651674012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483665237525098,0.07861734493279073,0.13954430561554518,0.0,0.07330217810357195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013835864049468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5107907771744361,0.0,0.0,0.05613541613786991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622915177118604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850375040290276,0.167615766470393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19802465097346306,0.0,0.0712297542228859,0.0,0.2631321460815503,0.0,0.2409248114454382,0.06016453353721505,0.04300860177503905,0.0,0.11697996162062002,0.0,0.06556154540542636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616954541596536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joho3883,2019/02/17,"Do premature babies have effects after they live the NICU? I know this is a stupid question, but what effects do premature babies have after they leave the NICU? Will premature babies have cognitive delays, muscle delays, social delays, etc.? Can you tell if a kid was born premature by looking at them? 

Sorry for the stupid questions",6.133448275862068,8.817535103448275,6.023655172413792,72.53686206896553,68.65517241379311,8.088275862068969,28.84137931034483,8.841846274778883,2.8827958620689658,268,10,37,5,5,84,40,58,0.171,0.8290000000000001,0.0,-0.8594,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,3,2,0,2,2,0,5,0,9,0,0,2,0,10,11,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,5,0,5,9,1,7,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,3,6,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189368135232622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571639348736989,0.0,0.0,0.3028053737175261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25252044732616896,0.0,0.2401462935109004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6407130777366299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915146711244403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32012469045516545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499540451664067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bibliosworm,2019/02/17,"Jellybean Economy This is how our home operates now. We've recently established a jelly bean based economy. Here's how it works. 

We have a tiny jelly bean dispenser that takes any standard coin and dispenses 3-5 jelly beans at a time. My two kids (4,2) will do a job, get a coin, and use that coin to buy jelly beans. I'm pleased to say the economy is thriving under the new system, and my home has never been easier to clean. 

The first day they set to work at any ""job"" they could find with the kind of enthusiasm that can only be inspired by the promise of a first paycheck. I conjured up numerous little small tasks in order to foster that enthusiasm and encourage my cute little workers to buy into the system. 

Now that the initial rush has passed, jobs are becoming scarcer. Little boys run up to me asking ""Mommy, can I do a job?"" I occasionally have to turn them away saying, ""I'm sorry but I don't have a job for you right now."" It's not always easy coming up with something an untrained 2 year old is capable of completing without risking disaster. I occasionally choose to make up completely meaningless ""jobs"" simply to keep their spirits up. 

Some tasks are truly harder than others: laundry sorting and bed making for example. For those assignments I provide assistance and on the job training. It takes more time and effort on my part, but I know that the investment will pay off in the long run. 

I have to admit I'm surprised at how effective this campaign has been. So far, I have yet to encounter a task my children will not attempt for the promise of a penny. Just this afternoon, my living room floor was covered in three different kinds of blocks, a Melissa and Dough safari truck and scattered animals, as well as miscellaneous toys that somehow don't seem to have a home but won't go away. Five cents later, the floor is clear, the toys put away neatly, and everyone is happy - especially me. 

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parenting,EatYourCheckers,2019/02/17,"What little moment or habit of your parents do you understand now that you are one? I have a vivid memory of being over a at a friend's house and we just wanted to sit and watch a marathon of a certain TV show that was on nickelodeon that day. 

Her dad came in and said, ""No, you havea  friend over. You guys aren't just going to sit and watch TV the whole time.""

I remember thinking, ""Oh, but I want to watch this show. He thinks I will be an unhappy guest. Darn."" We went and played outside or a game or whatever. 

But now that I am a parent I get it. Maybe this particular one is more about being an adult than a parent per se, but what perspective-changers brought confusing moments from your childhood into focus?",2.8413403263403225,4.577865902097905,3.7456118881118883,89.43328962703964,75.2937062937063,7.004428904428905,23.804778554778558,7.793537801064563,1.066417715617716,556,17,117,8,12,178,95,143,0.045,0.8909999999999999,0.064,0.1306,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,6,0,0,5,5,0,1,11,0,11,0,0,0,1,25,22,11,0,2,8,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,9,9,0,0,4,7,0,4,2,1,0,2,5,5,15,4,15,13,2,20,0,0,4,0,21,7,1,4,7,81,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270189732166,0.0,0.0,0.1874839828293821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429755583846585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27385220380538144,0.0,0.0925944428140804,0.0,0.10072289545495837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754838256292897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044975987879665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762926030622475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804959248167754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401888900641596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5903729751971184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007650521960438,0.0,0.16858464517678434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271214055528768,0.0,0.0,0.10334321447570458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450085259279994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090676206122346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429235802811612,0.0,0.19786900556127404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aliebomar,2019/02/17,"18 month old “sleep regression” The past couple nights my 18 month old has been having such a hard time going down for naps or bedtime. Crying for a long time once we leave the room, then up again every couple hours (sometimes half hours) throughout the night. No sign of any new teeth coming in or getting sick. She has been sleeping through the night since 8 months old, and we’ve have the same nighttime routine for almost her whole life so I’m not sure what’s going on! I’ve been looking through articles and was wondering if anyone has been through this sleep regression or if it could be from other variables? My husband started a new job a couple weeks ago and she used to get up with him every morning, so maybe it’s just from that change? I’m also due to have another baby in a couple weeks and I’m not sure if she’s picking up on that also. She knows I have a baby in my belly and is constantly hugging /kissing/ talking to it and it hasn’t seemed affected by it at all this whole pregnancy. 

I’ll take any resources I can get, blogs, books, articles..  anything that has helped you guys! I was looking forward to my last couple weeks of good sleep before the new baby is here 😩",4.705169491525421,5.6130242203389855,4.962500000000002,85.75527542372883,69.50847457627118,7.42542372881356,28.309322033898304,7.413659706084162,1.5244203389830506,940,32,185,9,16,296,135,236,0.079,0.8959999999999999,0.025,-0.8589,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,12,0,20,9,5,3,3,31,37,17,0,4,9,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,12,9,0,0,3,3,0,4,4,0,0,1,6,3,15,5,26,29,4,43,0,0,2,2,12,12,0,9,29,114,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543060435460787,0.0,0.08520924485567437,0.0,0.0,0.13609911545497455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573353427571388,0.08922836921949842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059499630474815476,0.0,0.07002502577338737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240863786402102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001805870821346,0.0733008565030271,0.0,0.09195627119922543,0.0,0.06794055164278533,0.4707738859533248,0.09347164883451334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339055456185298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337414530302902,0.0,0.0967216439451994,0.07137272254429454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425633528499835,0.0,0.0,0.07622741649208166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570366446522359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676006930055273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844425613777373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046765379733917,0.06936288240778178,0.0,0.09010214906333801,0.0,0.0,0.060104335128838726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530542003404463,0.14291488205299896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854882557278237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376340735273385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24655264445109526,0.0,0.23956457036844656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678751879235247,0.09062222186241388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123175211587527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746628683288001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039054994161442,0.0,0.34062139837451616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08416003879124047,0.0,0.06022989742294552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603999794927577,0.0,0.06398001957541967,0.06839525014435972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923786989564164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349380462029917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204771571277684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900085915644326,0.0,0.0,0.09228070013226472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mostly_Just_needhelp,2019/02/17,"21-year-old irresponsible sister wants to keep baby Hi so, I need some advice because I don’t know how to avoid coming off as judgmental toward my sister. I am 23 for reference. She called me today to say that I am “going to be an aunt” and I was silent for like 10 seconds. Then we had a conversation that did not go well. 

Currently, she is with her on again off again boyfriend. They’ve been back together since around Thanksgiving. In October, she had an abortion, and that was from another partner. She refuses to finish high school (she has one semester left), has failed her GED multiple times (because she won’t study), couldn’t handle training her dog (so now it lives at our mom’s house) and she works part time at a Chinese restaurant. She currently lives with roommates but is planning on moving in with the boyfriend when her lease is up. So. In addition to all that, she has zero life skills. She doesn’t know how to prepare meals, doesn’t have regular dentist/doctor appointments. Doesn’t try to get birth control. Obviously was having lots of unprotected sex and probably hasn’t been tested for STDs ever. She also had no future plans for herself, outside of this baby. The boyfriend is also 21. 

I graduated college, got a job and bought a small house all within the last two years, and I don’t know how to explain that she could potentially be making a terrible mistake without making it sound like she needs to follow my path. She’s very sensitive to people comparing our lives. 

How can I get her to even consider giving this baby up for adoption? Or should I be trying to convince her? I’m just terrified of having a niece/nephew raised in this situation, and for my sister not to have a real shot at a good life, where she is totally free to pursue her passions. Please help. 

TL;DR: I think my sister, who hasn’t really figured out taking care of herself, is making a terrible mistake by keeping her child and I don’t know how to convey that without her shutting me out. ",4.948358462118356,6.494607709762538,5.629825669053904,78.8081233509235,69.52770448548813,8.580512627214475,29.63070109310215,9.04235418022936,2.557010478703354,1578,61,284,30,28,512,213,379,0.085,0.825,0.08900000000000001,0.5636,3,1,0,0,0,0,50.0,3,0,0,6,21,14,0,1,14,0,40,5,0,9,5,61,66,23,0,8,7,6,0,2,1,2,2,2,0,2,12,17,1,5,8,0,2,5,15,6,1,4,11,2,46,9,52,48,6,45,0,1,0,2,46,23,0,3,19,208,58,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862139441530687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778452449953647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655787137577445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895335176587343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547291929310791,0.0,0.13552062643600613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350378831504195,0.0,0.11333203284743493,0.0,0.0,0.09575196631686196,0.0,0.0,0.12467209680928205,0.08874986900296787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137739629932547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734181910445689,0.10054792635980757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614995401923656,0.10663198252563907,0.1263462397983001,0.09323326971932176,0.08890245680056298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450623550820552,0.1174435388544754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565206504234689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030623212999896,0.19760300796881214,0.0,0.0,0.2443560568704873,0.0906078413923594,0.0,0.0,0.1207724730067712,0.0,0.1570270402642916,0.10861145137865028,0.0,0.2944611664758613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450175902203092,0.0,0.0,0.22259460592167454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018580746071212,0.0,0.11814236538375808,0.0,0.16484310588101767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166406378444666,0.0,0.0753229019178279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037226587230428,0.0,0.07706231074929075,0.0,0.0,0.12201707413835305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984611321970215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652107183183034,0.07121006019901367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839655714889086,0.0,0.11249688104558576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195027027762644,0.1249451948855609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357627688954437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122495694671299,0.0,0.0,0.12963315340267811,0.0,0.10536389743691416,0.0,0.0,0.15093669699190645,0.0,0.10858429773360337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171621738530884,0.06556331509489255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994354808388027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430288206514986,0.0,0.08092366494495418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316300688567268
parenting,NikoCodey,2019/02/17,"Warning to parents regarding online MMO's This is a story about what happened during the past year and what you should be informed about:

I was 15 when a friend that I knew for 8 years decided to re-create our childhood game ""Club Penguin"" which was officially closing on March 29, 2017. We called it Club Penguin Rewritten.

At this point, there were a few re-creations, mainly ones with custom features which were not child friendly. The problem with these servers were that children would occasionally stumble upon these websites looking to find a replacement for their lost Club Penguin game.

We focused on our project, primarily being **for educational purposes**, we did not earn any money for us to use via this project and we did it as a hobby. The server was running on an open-sourced server which we would later replace with our own.

I quickly went to Twitter to promote the new server, as we were quickly reaching our public beta testing. Many people came, possibly because the name was ""Club Penguin Rewritten"". I was pretty astonished.

So, our primary goal was to be different from these servers. We wanted a child-friendly environment and, to an extent, professionalism. We created email helplines and I wrote a proper Terms of Service depicting how we use the children's data which was compliant with COPPA.

Another problem with these unofficial servers is that they would get compromised very quickly. Many children wanted to create their own instance, and in this case, many kids would join their server. They did not use any method of encryption or hashing and all passwords were most likely leaked in MD5 format. Disney did not do anything to respond to this.

After we've focused on the terms of service, we implemented bcrypt hashing for passwords and started working out plans for further encryption of the game to guarantee safety. We had moderators which, also, moderated as a hobby.

Problems, well, at least for me, started when my friend decided that we should find designers. We needed people that would work to create in-game features such as catalogs, shops, and so on. I agreed, and we got a person that we knew for a long time. He did not have access to the games infrastructure apart from the moderator panel which would allow him to ban/kick players, but no sensitive information was provided via the panel. He quickly started designing, and his work was astonishing. Players liked it, and we quickly reached a million players registered milestone.

Over 2000+ players were online concurrently at any given time, and at any big game, we got hundreds of support emails requiring some kind of help. I was practically the only one who would answer a batch of them at a fast given time. My friend who owned the game with me would not pay much attention and would leave them hanging for months. I got pretty upset with this and told him that he should check them out more regularly.

Now, the problem with this, is that the designer and the other owner grew too fond of each other. The designer would create something, and they'd agree with future plans regarding it and implementing it, and without my approval implement it into the game. They started implementing features too fast, that with each feature, it had a bug which caused some kind of problem with the accounts. You could say that they would keep releasing updates without addressing the previous bugs, eventually pilling up. This would result in a lot of support emails from their bugs.

I was an admin of the project. I wanted to be informed, I didn't want to be left out. We had discussions, they would say okay, but a month later, it's the same story again. No one to address support issues and the bugs kept piling up.

Eventually, they released a big feature, which was also buggy and I simply had enough, temporarily banned the designer from the game. Very stupid decision which I would regret after.

Turns out that after that they had discussions behind my backs and decided to simply kick me out. I was stupid enough to entrust this friend with the domain controls for the domain. He simply changed the domain credentials and re-installed the server. Poof, I was gone.

As a result, they created ""evidences"", mostly fake, to promote to the community that I was such a a bad guy and that they did it for a reason. Many fake Discord accounts also emerged claiming to be me.

Due to this, hundreds of people started to hate me and spam me constantly. This was very depressing, having the same people you've worked for and talked to for an entire year kicking you down.

Turns out, that my ""friend"" is bipolar and has ADHD. The designer has autism. Make no mistake, I have nothing against bipolar and autistic people, it's just that they did not share this with me for a very long time until the ""friend"" started spamming some letters (as a joke) and started reacting very emotionally, so he disclosed to the world that he is bipolar to approve his actions. I was not aware of this for 8 years, this was an internet friend that I created many projects with.

So, I lost my friends, dignity and a year of my life. I was diagnosed with depression shortly after because of this incident.

I did hear though, he got a new person (the designers friend) to replace me, and they now have full access to the server and user data which is just not what i was expecting.

So, I would like to give a message to parents:

Club Penguin Island (not Club Penguin) is closing at the end of this year. Many children will be looking for alternatives.

Many servers are owned by teenagers and inexperienced how to manage a safe environment. Please do not be fooled if it's a Club Penguin styled game, because Disney does not maintain this, and it will most likely be compromised. They do not follow GDPR or COPPA rules.

TL;DR: Created an educational copy of Club Penguin because of insecure servers and got kicked by my own team, decided to let parents know the dangers of unofficial games.

I know I made a lot of mistakes in reacting regarding this, to the point where I am not entirely in the right either, but I feel the need to inform everyone of what happened.

Because of this happening, instead of the subreddit being entirely locked, I have made it restricted so that you may view an archive.

Stay safe, please.

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parenting,Mars_rocket,2019/02/17,"Co-ed sleepovers in high school - Yay or Nay? Our soon-to-be 17-year-old son wants to spend the night with some friends (boys and girls) at a girls house. Her parents apparently allow this, but we don't know them and have not discussed it with them. Our son is arguing that we can trust him regarding sex and drinking, and that unless we can come up with a logical reason why he shouldn't be able to do this, then he should be allowed to do so.

From my wife's perspective, this is simply not to be done. I am ambivalent, but I tend to me the less strict one overall.

I guess what I'm looking for is perspective from other parents of teens, and discussion. I don't like saying No to things without reason, but it seems like it's more a cultural decision than a logical one. I have read that his generation is more careful about sex and drug/alcohol use than mine was (teen in the late 70s, early 80s).",5.9913333333333325,5.552208800000006,6.245555555555558,82.345,66.55555555555556,10.088888888888887,31.88888888888889,9.642632912329526,2.626655555555556,704,25,149,13,10,226,115,180,0.053,0.853,0.094,0.6418,4,0,3,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,2,0,2,7,1,0,7,1,20,3,0,5,0,36,30,13,0,3,8,5,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,3,12,13,1,0,7,2,1,1,7,1,0,2,2,2,18,6,22,23,4,10,0,0,1,2,26,5,0,4,6,100,30,2,0.16920966811389854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083367526768654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252053387533772,0.0,0.0,0.14575914623217018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17316023882247322,0.0,0.1657610559581751,0.1962294944979338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073096984206792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864035262941228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787793046177734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524523847851974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299320838027963,0.0,0.19087587588684232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533459345994714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209350467177806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879181094761782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755708255561173,0.0,0.22932170058921664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757746236526713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925545865319286,0.0,0.0,0.3479514413030317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456231966294968,0.0,0.17124921780430308,0.0,0.1540421267802061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124153847439172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614282459805006,0.0,0.0,0.09980424632490703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15268540659253987,0.0,0.0,0.16311208180071032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896547850846174
parenting,Cryovolcanoes,2019/02/17,"Sudden repetitive imaginative play (2,5 y.o.)? Do anyone here have experience of their children pretend playing the same ""routine""? Our kid does not fit into AS behavior or development, so we find his behavior especially different as he usually is. 
Anyway, he started a few days ago, playing with his bobbycar and talking to it, pretending someone knocks on the door, and goes back and fourth the door and living room. He sometimes also closes all doors in the apartment during this routine. He seem have been very stuck with this imaginative play, and the first two days he was very hard to come to the table and eat. We even had to feed him, although he usually is perfectly good at feeding himself. Today has been better, he has played more ""normally"" ocassionally, although he snaps into this game several times a day... he also ate by himself as normal today. 
He also doesn't want to sleep in his bed, but with us. 
Either this is part of some development or something has happened at daycare, but that seems unlikely, because he likes and want to go there when we ask. We will however ask daycare about the last days. 
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parenting,Juchari,2019/02/17,"My daughter (7) does an awful job at washing her hair but won't let anyone help her in the shower. My youngest and only daughter is 7 years old. I (dad) used to help her with her hair but she won't allow me to help her anymore and has been wanting more privacy in general. I'm fine with that. One of my boys started becoming more private around this age so I know it's normal. 

The problem is that she can't wash her hair properly. She has very long and curly hair. She allows me to put her hair up and it's always a struggle to brush because she doesn't use enough conditioner and leaves shampoo in. I have tried washing it over the sink or even over the tub but that is time consuming since she still has to get undressed and wash her body afterwards. Not to mention it can get pretty messy and my daughter doesn't like it because it's uncomfortable. I have told her she can wear a bathing suit but she says that weird. 

I'm not sure what other options there are. Any ideas?",2.298732551647124,4.244594889447239,3.1900083752093806,91.8829578447795,77.4924623115578,6.030262423227247,24.62339475153545,6.937597516519254,0.8162527079843658,769,27,164,8,18,244,114,199,0.159,0.81,0.031,-0.9734,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,1,7,1,18,11,7,4,1,29,28,13,0,3,7,4,5,1,0,2,4,1,2,1,13,10,0,0,2,1,0,1,7,3,0,1,2,7,27,3,17,23,3,17,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,2,9,104,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651263072061376,0.0,0.0,0.11156770745780167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270530479147968,0.11471588434942523,0.0,0.0,0.1460498604439686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002120418405006,0.1811934618661452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822357686993824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357166081736006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695197833102077,0.0,0.10836132748164183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143112661023807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299016689376563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520589804554885,0.0,0.0,0.1628061053131741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016412119372264,0.0,0.0,0.17371784713788352,0.0,0.1677643925483774,0.0,0.08015234973546094,0.0,0.0,0.1451896051550586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074581328324258,0.0,0.0,0.17215534972060345,0.0,0.11117257896793586,0.12477645615897245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690991796244187,0.0,0.15698506653204888,0.0,0.1649275082314993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304685956052198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571368631965813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612384635015313,0.0,0.1310200329783991,0.0,0.0,0.17151310345046702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462638465401687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566580426789648,0.0,0.0,0.15676816146422914,0.0,0.11138725034650136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833935849329369,0.0,0.13536823675529805,0.09676795024092713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565047470985407
parenting,karenschoenberg13,2019/02/17,"Thoughts Please! - Brillia for ADHD/Anxiety Hi there! As a constant lurker of these forums for the past four years, I have come across something that I felt as though I should share and get your opinions on, finally pushing me to make an account of my own.

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Just some backstory:

My son is 11. He has always been a hyper kid, and doesn’t like school very much, so his grades have been pretty average. Since 2nd grade his teacher has raised some focus and attention issues … and they flagged that he should be evaluated.  The doctor said he has ADHD and prescribed him medication. First of all I wasn’t sure how accurate the diagnosis was, and I also read up on the medication and the side effects scared the hell out of me… no way I was going to put that poison in his body. So I opted to help him with a tutor, and work with him on his studies … talk to him about staying focused in class, to see what I could do to help. And I have been reading through all sorts of forums and searching the Internet to see what other parents like me have tried that have worked. 

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I came across a product called Brillia. It’s actually a whole program, which I liked. They have advice on ways to help improve focus and attention, even down to foods to eat and not eat, and how to keep him off of his computer (which is always a challenge) and they say to pay attention to his sleep schedule. And there is a Brillia pill that is also part of the program. I wasn’t sure about the pill … there are good reviews on their site from other parents who have given their children the pill and have seen good results, so I started him on the pills today. 

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I sent the site to my brother who got his MD last year and he says scientifically the way this pill works makes sense which made me even more excited to give it a try. Anyone tried this product? Any thoughts? Please share. I will keep you all updated on my son's progress! I have also linked the website below so you all may take a look. Thank you.

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Brillia: [https://discoverbrillia.com](https://discoverbrillia.com)",5.666529667422527,6.925669063775513,5.454365079365079,81.81656084656085,67.54591836734693,7.7461829176114865,29.824640967498112,7.921354282810032,1.8896136432350719,1651,60,310,19,27,511,204,392,0.036000000000000004,0.83,0.134,0.9877,2,0,1,0,0,0,67.0,0,4,5,7,19,15,2,1,24,0,32,14,2,7,6,54,56,29,0,3,2,5,1,3,0,4,9,3,0,2,19,22,3,2,8,2,2,6,5,3,0,2,17,8,45,12,48,33,11,40,1,0,4,0,48,19,1,5,14,216,64,17,0.0,0.0,0.07209250868160741,0.0,0.17756965799833585,0.07219096187271673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723629721553946,0.12294182319499725,0.3201793018093299,0.35907064798103056,0.05023834531699867,0.0,0.056515086285617126,0.0,0.0,0.05165595262832752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205979745968207,0.0,0.0,0.07543585403931638,0.08449468521842418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363779977993121,0.0,0.07983392083343116,0.0,0.05898412963568984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561541507329883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511875795718857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975890589324899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093273167927643,0.08092775960695263,0.0,0.06283905296974157,0.08933138716036844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03859726229466863,0.07086877706143523,0.04198554358990475,0.12392769317326675,0.059085541148014134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14855296700447873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710755301236133,0.0,0.13132911146094087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060218958323400226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827653043337727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203739685692244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990344111791187,0.0986258664520792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884498679072608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054307502974211684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406154180059138,0.08000071903786457,0.07052318654297843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218775305467814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751586483804074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426597982162626,0.0,0.0,0.1477923721133194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027317807621729,0.11749862945813434,0.07396295810972238,0.0747666525004303,0.1177395238441136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061111151182779384,0.0,0.07392954661321889,0.0,0.0,0.0568735034896663,0.0,0.0,0.05228995042928202,0.07874219338016658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925487731843414,0.0,0.055545703964434485,0.05937888644459876,0.0,0.06801527395618548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258298562251113,0.11729889214372867,0.0,0.0,0.07002599389901801,0.0,0.0,0.150471259318519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060955597081154674,0.0,0.1759184526906398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824801324520999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613482475184956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35907064798103056,0.09514769376050897
parenting,is-it-overyet,2019/02/17,"Is it my fault my teen is out of control My (16f) teen is out of control. Drugs,  skipping school, mean and abusive to her siblings. We have tried everything from therapy, mental hospital and drug rehab. Nothing has helped. She still continues with the same behaviors. I am at a loss of what to do. A part of me feels like this is my fault. I have made some bad decisions in my life. My significant other and I do argue from time to time we have had financial issues that have caused arguments in our home etc.. We have never not shown love towards each other or our children. 
I guess my question is could my marriage problems be a source of her behavior/choices she is making? Did we fail as parents? I remember my parents arguing when I was growing up but I never did the thing  she is doing. 
We are to the point where we are going to have to spilt up our family because her behavior is breaking our family. 
I hope this makes sense. We just had another huge fight with her and I’m still upset from it. ",2.0048416727096914,4.445238152284265,3.5822770123277765,86.08795262267344,81.18274111675127,7.001111916847957,25.11699299008944,8.11559375814309,1.7829876238820397,784,31,152,16,21,259,117,197,0.131,0.805,0.064,-0.8964,2,0,2,0,1,0,23.0,11,0,0,4,5,13,3,1,6,0,28,5,0,6,2,39,38,8,0,3,4,2,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,1,9,16,0,2,5,0,0,2,3,10,0,0,6,1,36,3,25,30,5,22,0,2,0,1,28,11,0,5,9,123,45,2,0.0,0.16057444965781462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421093241342201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315735180770604,0.08261451758576689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922106131886802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040046494817074,0.1082053382765676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31433094088979946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511457154747564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180074131373014,0.0,0.25552099903598496,0.0,0.06852529266510098,0.09681877708305828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702173406526501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929558870627638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083925990481624,0.0,0.13594218977090494,0.13460647338644224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145243659461426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572500895633816,0.06621045737398677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231621211500412,0.12823662126707105,0.18092740044111014,0.0,0.0,0.1476259828436179,0.0,0.0,0.13657688688545902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20904980036302195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003947626670811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009679847503713,0.14675989828665612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811452035184928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296787067413218,0.0,0.0,0.15181853025798928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352291442770974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371580961791541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164601870634042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498415238979535,0.0,0.09003649973071802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580509286760287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201228429875688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GBSEC11,2019/02/17,"Do you make toddler use utensils? My son turned 2 in January, and he's been practicing with utensils for a long time now. At this point he has the basics down and can feed himself with them, but he still chooses to use his hands almost all of the time. For example, he eats cereal by picking all the pieces out of the bowl and putting them on his tray. Then he drinks the milk and then eats the cereal piece by piece with his fingers. He knows how to use a spoon to eat normally, but chooses not to. So far we've been really laid back and just letting him do his thing. Now I'm wondering if there's a point where we really need to actively encourage him to use the utensils instead? I assumed he would switch on his own when he got the hang of it, but now I'm not sure.",5.236163522012582,4.7865216729559785,5.771698113207545,85.14861635220126,68.1194968553459,9.833962264150944,30.24528301886793,9.444778638647367,2.293143396226416,602,20,134,11,9,195,95,159,0.016,0.932,0.052000000000000005,0.7726,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,2,0,12,2,0,0,11,0,8,8,2,7,3,36,20,14,0,4,7,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,10,6,0,5,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,2,14,2,22,15,6,23,0,0,0,0,22,10,0,4,11,89,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562789298464401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000617612131464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288660974993593,0.0,0.4790876535194373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482133495218305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577054650651858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958946244584746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811471366153588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417618314204106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572197931431286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291288897848646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950682252171777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689081563364576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19996151053521646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463560541686683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709165176253644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368422762442314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200828013203954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975648559367215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5391684038912754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924840827515206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108657837550156,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shnizzy321,2019/02/17,"6 Year Old Girl Said ""Mom is a porn"" (then stopped sentence).. & acts out strangely. I made a post on /abuse subreddit. The TLDR from that post is I have a husband wife as in-home personal training clients. Father is verbally abusive to daughter, zero affection there (daughter denies hugs, father is always flipping out on her for nothing .. i'd say 3 criticisms per 15 minutes, often quicker, etc). Mother-daughter relationship seems normal/healthy. Lots of hugs there, and little girl will occasionally just run up and hug my leg. Talk about awkward. 

6 Year old daughter has gotten super attached to me ... for no apparent reason other than I am not a jerk to her as her dad is?? She wakes up at 6:30 friggin a.m. just to hang out with us while we work out (3x/week) and sleeps regular schedule every other day. The dad is not a fan of this, and often throws out reasons why she does it (such as me using the bathroom fan ""it wakes her up"" ..  (which the mother immediately denied, and said little girl gets excited night before when she knows I am coming). (FWIW, I am not over affectionate, I just treat her how I would any 5-6 year old.. playful tone, ask her ""how's school, etc"")

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When I trained only the mother (for the first time), the daughter was allowed to play/run free without constant criticism/belittling from the father. Two things stuck out during that session (and I'll add 2 more):

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1. While mother was performing an exercise, daughter went behind her (so mother couldn't see), and right in my plane of sight started dancing inappropriately (sticking her butt out right towards me and shaking it). It was as if she was looking for an opportunity to do it (with the father not there, and mother not being able to see it). And it was as if she rushed it to do it quickly before mother finished her set. I know this could be harmless, but with the background with the father, I just wanted input. It was disturbing to see a 6 year old girl do that. Is this a male approval type thing because the father is so cold to her? Or deeper than this? Or ""harmless"" copying (saw on TV, etc).
2. Same day, little girl randomly said, ""Mom is a porn"" -  then she just stopped the sentence. I said ""hey, where did you learn that word?!"" .. little girl said in a fibbing tone, ""i made it up"". Mom isn't a pornstar btw (lmao) - mom is super cool/completely normal as far as I can tell. Dad's the crazy one. FWIW, the daughter gets access to an IPAD, but I feel like I was told there are restrictions on it. Like she can't just browse the internet (just kids games and such).
3. Also worth mentioning, little girl will just walk up behind me and pinch my butt. Has even smacked it with a deadlift wedge (rubber wedge). Now obviously this can just be just a little kid being a little kid, but worth mentioning. 
4. Father criticizes so much for normal behavior (her using ""baby voices"", how she blows her nose, he saying ""weeeee"" as she swings on gymnastics rings, her even simply *talking*) that when I've calmy said to her ""not yet <her name>, we are still using that buddy"" (something along those lines when she went to take a collar off a barbell), she froze and looked at me as if I screamed at her. She'd done this multiple times. It's like she cannot discern between real criticism/yelling/etc and just calming being told not to do something.

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Just turned 6 yo. Just seems so young for this behavior. I had a sailor's mouth by 7, but I didn't know the word porn at that age (youngest of 3 boys). Then again with the internet it is a different world.. but she's SIX! 

I am a 29yo male, btw. Thanks for input.",3.7472157666894494,5.607430271284276,4.35706235285183,85.47915242652087,73.12698412698413,6.825639857218803,26.44360902255639,7.5412164511997375,1.4166744588744589,2810,99,539,34,57,893,320,693,0.054000000000000006,0.861,0.084,0.9731,3,0,2,0,2,0,184.0,3,1,0,7,42,23,1,3,39,0,51,15,8,12,1,101,89,50,0,9,31,28,2,3,0,3,1,11,0,14,35,32,0,3,10,5,3,11,14,5,0,5,26,22,60,19,77,52,7,88,0,0,7,8,95,38,2,11,39,351,95,5,0.05716342917995468,0.13545863229026647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04571357366263163,0.0475645523445577,0.24774620653540974,0.20837946990828785,0.03887309205988063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534400897875374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034846295856333115,0.0,0.0972837358932815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924123264259825,0.05993476791543013,0.0617733592632703,0.0,0.04564034676962738,0.0,0.0,0.0737313656171301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05972361687734861,0.0,0.0,0.050024102092929776,0.05849803476979605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550093360229413,0.07551181170443916,0.0,0.04816265452259616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028903547362253305,0.040837565227952836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048623183658518115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059731064825988174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424657717343964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378149218296346,0.40104941386995535,0.0,0.0,0.09600576706727283,0.0,0.0,0.04859830330522539,0.0,0.10817883768793578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26779646950429403,0.0,0.0,0.04202169775572722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053644005928496524,0.1680240709534159,0.05484985200437705,0.0,0.23993361200224225,0.0,0.0387354190135124,0.04347536377412777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04991290146368732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949352744619957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506449707409223,0.0,0.11754705150535827,0.0,0.06137213012310048,0.0,0.09763451236802133,0.3262530686622199,0.09091730651189237,0.0,0.05785244213994677,0.13665555624689624,0.10407887803435316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0572047119248669,0.0,0.0,0.0880144010703982,0.0,0.0,0.040460569392127235,0.0,0.045650788384123515,0.0955823728067265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297978466678798,0.09189159812526984,0.04996335668341139,0.05262840543998145,0.0,0.0,0.07595368463486095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666649105019037,0.0,0.0,0.10924421253277383,0.0,0.0,0.062177396055882635,0.05584036413769123,0.0,0.06876056695609087,0.1481125475368093,0.0,0.0,0.033716471583717766,0.0,0.04585305484326513,0.0,0.0,0.10598214309141664,0.05158110363227133,0.0,0.0,0.05510350584774902,0.0,0.04161565725616268,0.0,0.0,0.04060725999053318,0.0,0.20837946990828785,0.14724549686098465
parenting,Wings_McKenzie,2019/02/17,"Son (6) has started peeing in his room and unsure what else to do Hello all, my six year old son has started peeing in his room at night on the regular and my wife and I can't seem to get him to stop.

This started a few weeks ago, we noticed that he had been peeing on a cardboard fort in his room. My wife and I asked him why, and he stated it was because I had yelled at him about leaving lights on when he went to the bathroom. This is true, unfortunately I did yell at him because he had gone to the bathroom and left our hallway lights and bathroom lights on because he was scared of the dark. He and I then had a long conversation where I apologized for yelling and then I bought some nightlights to help keep things brighter at night in the hallway to the bathroom. We also placed a nice sized nightlight in his room, gave him a few more flashlights (he had a few already), and we thought we had remedied the situation or at least given him the tools to conquer any fear of the dark. 

Sadly, this did not fix things and he has continued to pee in his room at night. He gives several reasons - "" just because"", ""scared of the dark"", ""scared Dad or Mom will yell at him for leaving his room at night"" etc. We've explained to him several times that no one will yell at him if he leaves is room to go to the bathroom and that there are no monsters out to get him. But other than that, I'm not too sure what else to do. 

Any other parents out there have any advice on this situation? This is a first for our us, we have a 9 year old daughter and never really had any issues like this with her. I've also made sure to monitor any sorts of tv shows or books he is seeing to minimize the ""monsters are out to get me"" thoughts, and we don't give him much to drink or eat after dinner time. Bed time is around 7:30 every night. I feel awful about yelling at him for the lights being on and wonder if I'm the root of this huge problem. 

Thanks for any advice out there.  ",7.03472634203964,5.1583342917705775,6.883446646541543,83.30243470271692,65.18453865336659,9.639112744454652,32.82596141225883,7.669130373188453,2.021231421446384,1525,47,335,12,19,484,177,401,0.086,0.863,0.051,-0.9022,1,0,1,0,2,0,42.0,9,0,0,2,12,12,0,4,22,1,31,7,4,3,5,56,58,27,0,3,10,8,1,1,0,2,0,6,8,0,18,27,3,2,7,4,1,3,7,6,0,3,20,12,40,6,60,35,9,68,0,1,1,0,56,38,0,10,27,221,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331636778833206,0.07407481616762325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221541521458856,0.13365287265244502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409600260764368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439005031133268,0.07812145214920603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376037878233125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186131810098751,0.0,0.08550726333971134,0.1396146999881011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093196417338182,0.0,0.0,0.07040662778869781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403320457104904,0.04225268148275379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107985279633305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097688105997812,0.160325211896766,0.047491585517392736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05601146913221478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721954355746282,0.0,0.07427589587490947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26544796446802554,0.09079298662318007,0.0,0.0,0.04082535451432337,0.0,0.0,0.07395188190755557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907067452163649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786963851146474,0.0,0.0,0.06142946360127585,0.0,0.06445003213587527,0.0,0.0,0.3920977358847999,0.0,0.0,0.09513864580803806,0.17537360307158906,0.0,0.056625413523336825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278839900993367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873070329150041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995986413097114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053533507115668726,0.0859181411929217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509876864639532,0.0,0.06659002346184115,0.0760739093293957,0.0,0.18880801742405376,0.0,0.0,0.18785981814315156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17744197932282446,0.0,0.0,0.06986359672312545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751695344186575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769348905215974,0.0,0.0,0.11103297474514974,0.0,0.0,0.132681630176125,0.1461812555848317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005177080085154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703033703862579,0.0,0.0,0.07746505435435518,0.07540389125901974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906220486578867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762549317323626
parenting,Konkaikoso,2019/02/17,"Anorexic parent My single-parent friend has two kids, eight and five, and I’m pretty sure she’s anorexic. She is *extremely* thin. To my knowledge she eats one meal a day.

I’m worried about the kids. Im worried she’s going to pass out when she’s driving or otherwise looking after them, and I’m worried the kids are going to develop inappropriate eating habits. 

Does anyone have any experience with this? Are my concerns reasonable? What (if anything) can I do?",2.393166144200624,5.261784931034484,3.9060397074190227,81.14520376175551,84.7471264367816,5.922257053291537,26.29989550679206,7.348242739294969,1.8368252873563216,367,16,62,6,11,121,60,87,0.076,0.818,0.106,0.5632,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,7,3,0,1,1,10,13,6,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,5,3,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,2,10,2,7,13,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,2,3,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179116056605833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550999548404966,0.0,0.15948151023120466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498545561842014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959634857311234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966131139317245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957432793221188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497299842224845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22028287284526152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209338074087654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627438260293282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132440864080408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21519280603018634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971650426408182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19925945581002194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265492006631368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893151793739823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5904422285636209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moonagemama666,2019/02/17,"No more nap time = resentful mama I just really need to vent my frustrations somewhere other than my husbands ears because he has had some very challenging personal struggles lately so I feel guilty unloading on him.. But anyways, nap time for my 2.5 year old son is officially a thing of the past. Within the last two weeks he has gone from requesting naps in the afternoon, to refusing them all together. I know this isn’t unusual for his age and it’s just him moving on to the next phase but, fuck. That mid day child free hour for a stay at home mom was an oasis, even though I usually spent that time tidying up (it was a quiet and ALONE tidy up, aka my personal heaven) and I’m sad about it. Which of course just ignites the parental guilt- “he’s such a great kid and I love him so much so of coooourse I should be grateful for all time spent with him, I’m a bad mom for feeling resentment.” I can’t be alone in feeling this upset over my lost hour of quiet.. I know in time I will adjust but at the moment I’m not okay. ",1.6875780359990884,3.8735843971291857,3.08377306903623,90.67974481658695,80.62679425837321,6.851765778081568,22.392572339940767,7.957251820313856,1.1001864205969472,805,26,172,15,21,262,131,209,0.198,0.696,0.105,-0.9578,1,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,2,11,16,4,3,12,1,12,3,1,1,2,27,27,11,0,2,7,5,3,0,0,2,0,3,1,4,10,5,0,3,6,3,3,2,4,10,0,1,7,6,20,7,27,16,5,34,1,2,0,2,21,12,1,1,19,106,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866874955839148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556070774122135,0.08436917239044689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925847272234748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914138634056412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20994211667334506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795132540928816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525897747652491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13882947427501902,0.0,0.2725981135535261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212531722240136,0.11281690162446285,0.15612459057573105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510832027090315,0.0,0.12491409364418013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241917963721609,0.0,0.14710046512933164,0.10174211562425972,0.10262405644958836,0.0,0.0,0.1471931400622784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523064629838356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15368013111647194,0.0,0.13212130564821098,0.0,0.2416962884927053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866449341129155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751916226376668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468884587774014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194879046926843,0.0,0.1359802257722328,0.0,0.4035194551034765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351996013493631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524313297533375,0.11419695376385787,0.0,0.0,0.11101852273336993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912698181465116
parenting,RawketLeeg,2019/02/17,"Parenting with the Flu This weekend I've got the flu. Despite my whole household receiving the flu vaccine, my little guy came down with type A flu last week and thankfully he is feeling so much better. About Thursday I began to feel it. It was okay at first, perhaps I just have a cold? Eh, wishful thinking alright! 

I'm a single mom to four great kids. The best, really. They're ages 10 years to 4 years. When my little guy was just beginning to feel icky I got the call from my sitter/his grandma that he was feverish and feeling bad and well, I was told I was not to leave work without finding a replacement. So I spent the next hour finding a replacement for me, coordinating someone to pick him up and bring him to me, arranging doctor appointments and fielding nasty texts from my useless ex-husband condemning me for not leaving working immediately despite the fact that he refuses to take the child to a doctor's appointment. (He claims his lawyer advised he not take the children to doctor appointments, lest it ""be used against him."" I'm not a lawyer, but that sounds like hogwash.) So anyway, my little guy is now feeling much better and is probably 80% back to feeling like himself. The lifespan of his illness was pretty short. Caught it in time for Tamiflu to do it's thing. 

I unfortunately have felt like total death. Can't talk, can't breathe, the cough makes my chest feel like it's exploding, alternating between flop sweats and fever chills. All while trying to maintain some level of normalcy for the kids that aren't sick. Thank jeezus for grocery pick up services, that's all I have to say. My house is a wreck and there's no way I'm gonna catch it back up anytime soon. I definitely have to work tomorrow as I've been fever free now for over 24 hours and while I feel better physically... damn. I need a real break. That doesn't include any messages from a narcissist/martyr ex husband and no kids that cough directly into my eye sockets. 

I love these little people. More than pretty much everything and anything, and I know this will all pass and I only have to deal with this stuff for so long. But the flu can fuck right off. ",4.920573042776431,6.3524339104116265,5.236142857142855,82.04197861178372,69.46004842615012,8.121678773204199,30.47368845843423,8.548686976883017,2.3171256497175152,1707,69,321,27,30,541,224,413,0.117,0.73,0.153,0.9316,1,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,0,0,0,8,16,20,2,0,23,2,24,20,4,4,5,54,58,23,1,2,9,4,9,4,0,2,14,2,0,8,20,18,0,1,13,1,2,6,11,4,1,2,15,13,32,17,46,40,12,48,0,1,1,2,33,16,2,1,28,197,52,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796021051016476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701381023262665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107522597507268,0.07116458005727094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944499686758951,0.22614049064886654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703069244307762,0.09748190772105124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786973357370723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617135585064119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660040172189335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34476407218157634,0.12177852349325048,0.08183541942415053,0.0,0.1557997384358926,0.07249770499812325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879496862301735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13633452222349168,0.09396781531071424,0.0,0.2531771777555561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787133494269055,0.09834548328174406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046840896563450314,0.06947488973021837,0.0,0.18049529239081388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655884285544864,0.34169663709170833,0.0,0.0754270233782279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692458095124458,0.0,0.05689255831616444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982187500313976,0.0,0.0,0.18796444935468398,0.06319793313626029,0.0,0.0,0.09064446042767373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482224857422814,0.0,0.0,0.09463927841754563,0.0,0.0,0.059088655676927636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734217579938445,0.09189376297442836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701188527383546,0.05460135683605275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278706928163482,0.0,0.0677793551427439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221620864405373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756945349432693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816666928019166,0.06850569493226538,0.0,0.15693907000846855,0.0,0.0,0.05662389222444485,0.05461277913557833,0.0,0.0,0.049699059704069966,0.0,0.0,0.0814421650027625,0.0,0.05786646176872917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361248256425777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765264319007422,0.06836741227468843,0.0,0.0766331795976312,0.0,0.0,0.0951577089106959,0.0980117951403112,0.08215993710672254,0.0,0.18614821671791607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977233276928423
parenting,cupcakeninja2,2019/02/17,"How do I discipline my teenage stepdaughter? My husband and his ex wife have split custody of their children. During the school year, they are at our home every other weekend. 

His 15 year old daughter is (what I would consider to be) out of control. When she is at her mother’s house she is given complete control and ability to do anything she wants. There’s hardly any supervision in the home and her mother has said she’d rather be her friend than her parent. Because of this, she dislikes coming to our home because we have rules that we expect all the children to follow and there are consequences when rules are broken. 

In the past, she has pierced herself in several places on her body. She now has 12 piercings, only one of which was done at a shop with her parents permission. We asked her to stop and informed her that any new piercings she does herself will be removed immediately. This weekend she showed up at our house with a rather large, horribly done, tattoo on her forearm. Apparently some 16 year old kid did it for her at her mothers house. Her mother sees no issue with this, while we are furious. They have an agreement in their parenting plan that any modifications to the children’s appearance will be discussed and agreed upon beforehand. 

My husbands first reaction was to take her cell phone away as punishment, but it is in their parenting plan that neither of them can remove her ability to communicate with the other parent/family. Later the same day, my husband agreed to allow her friend to spend the night at our house, he then took her to go get 2 more piercings (now totaling 14) and then to her favorite store to shop. I found this to be rewarding her bad behavior, and I don’t believe we are setting any boundaries by just giving her a slap on the wrist when she does something inappropriate. 

Yesterday, she confessed to me that she and her ex boyfriend would smoke pot together while at our house. We live in a state where it is legal and easy access. We understand that teenagers to teenager things, but we do not agree with her smoking pot at such a young age and definitely not in our home. My husband used to allow her boyfriend to spend the night at our house (which I strongly disagree with!) on the condition that they slept in separate rooms. That rule was never followed, they always slept together. 

I am at a loss on how to discipline my step daughter because it seems that nobody else in her life really cares what she does or the harm she could do to herself. I don’t want her to hate me or her dad, but I want her to grow into a respectable adult. She seems to believe that she can do anything she wants and there won’t be any consequences. 

Otherwise, she is an amazing kid. She does well in school, participates in sports, helps around the house with chores and the younger kids. She has a strong work ethic and wants to earn her own money to afford the things she wants so others don’t have to buy them for her. She has a wonderful personality, she’s funny and silly and she’s incredibly smart. 

I worry that the choices she’s making now will affect her future negatively. I remember being her age and doing the very same things she is doing. I remember hating my own mother for punishing me for doing wrong. Looking back, I deeply regret the decisions I made and I have a higher degree of respect for my mother for putting up with me and getting me through that stage in my life. 

But how can we discipline a child when her mother doesn’t uphold the punishment at her home as well.? We only have the kids every other weekend. I dont think that’s enough time to make much progress. ",6.334299292214363,6.999596075362319,6.230458375463432,78.97387765419617,65.78260869565217,9.201213346814964,31.84361307718234,9.164851162284878,2.6769912369396693,2892,109,533,48,43,910,297,690,0.084,0.789,0.128,0.9839,9,0,2,0,0,0,65.0,17,0,9,12,23,25,6,0,33,0,61,7,5,12,3,97,97,39,0,13,11,21,1,0,2,6,2,1,7,10,32,41,0,6,11,7,7,11,12,11,2,2,13,4,118,14,87,69,11,87,1,2,2,0,132,38,0,7,35,399,150,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072566833301733,0.0,0.0,0.20728289006318945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033385611107506,0.05426953346263159,0.056991691009984975,0.0,0.05727625826968424,0.04687638539724391,0.05090112577081599,0.11148648893642728,0.0,0.0,0.13736768152327752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771557410226846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062155312975695286,0.0,0.0,0.05251377995199783,0.06391800214729318,0.0,0.13674921382463304,0.048673581032975165,0.0,0.0,0.039315757362141095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21339471403336302,0.1247715688931744,0.0714475744655952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0509263308814113,0.0,0.0,0.0629905398400625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10272704015600582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747000217501332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051854655746373005,0.0,0.06684221452973993,0.09419892419323764,0.0,0.06370076105399766,0.058480767357469814,0.034646383201019815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0546104093041417,0.12037565905001706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04086186641412732,0.0,0.305751698345142,0.0,0.0,0.4923976318894888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362899228965968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611920732431344,0.0,0.0,0.05383098817887808,0.0,0.0511931307902724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05768417414567989,0.08138585976180979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0448144384436998,0.0,0.04701802406406928,0.05887794465609138,0.0,0.11441831862818655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793973899095445,0.0,0.04130975528553889,0.09272942873459053,0.0,0.0,0.3384581072293266,0.0,0.058195586780792175,0.0,0.053230087541763074,0.06369281811847467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061284132005806576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039054126776725984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811721556132964,0.0,0.05798928031427333,0.0,0.0,0.12339457211697236,0.048579205033677436,0.11099590740176986,0.0,0.0688702519807736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046931896729361516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0509673643762526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045836199324210514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150229190266056,0.039062296682376735,0.0,0.0,0.0355477132957478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773156021059082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346409335207746,0.0,0.05265201073750248,0.0,0.05030043186646856,0.2157435069535721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962518460103007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611121086097979,0.044381412698782007,0.0619103593019666,0.0,0.08661199572618598,0.06665290363046865,0.0,0.11777351834188865
parenting,UNoWitch1,2019/02/17,"AITA for wanting my child to go to a summer program? So a little insight.  I have a son who is currently in kindergarten and this year will be the first time my wife and I will have the school board dictate our lives so to speak (kidding of course, but now we have to plan vacations and work schedules around school obviously) with summer break upcoming.  I work 24 hour shifts and as such, I work fewer days than my wife who works ""regular"" business hours M-F.
With him on summer vacation, there will be a lot of time for him to stay home with me and his little sister during the week.  One side to this coin is that I am ecstatic because I love spending time with him, but obviously I have other things that need to be done (cook,clean,parent etc.) and I know this will lead to a lot of downtime.  I like to get the typical house work done when it's just myself (and baby sister) that way when everyone is together, we don't have the boring stuff to do and we can all be a family and be together.  There's nothing wrong with downtime, I just don't think he'd be getting the stimulation and companionship he needs staying at home with me everyday vs. doing a summer program of some sorts with kids his age.
I don't know, I guess I just feel guilty suggesting that I shouldn't spend every available day outside of school and work together because I feel like he needs more than watching TV and playing video games over the summer break.

TL:DR-I feel guilty about suggesting my child go to a summer program during the week while he's on break vs. being at home where other obligations will get in the way and there will be a lot of nothing for him. Is dad-guilt a thing?",7.031457259641018,6.056900398791544,7.01198862626622,79.46933179314023,64.64954682779454,10.205153723120668,32.15940998755997,9.325443323948027,2.57743099342456,1316,42,265,20,17,421,162,331,0.023,0.897,0.08,0.9564,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,0,0,9,15,6,0,0,19,0,34,1,0,2,3,54,51,21,0,5,7,5,3,2,0,7,0,1,3,4,15,24,0,0,7,4,3,3,4,2,0,2,2,5,33,4,39,33,7,47,0,0,1,1,31,12,0,6,27,177,48,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709927782931484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928599166080305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619876586604456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002507272650344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911863364069377,0.0,0.0,0.0824353043065322,0.09349131597015277,0.0,0.0,0.09223583412117443,0.0,0.1484141237207609,0.06989766552681875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322354697791444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335373084056445,0.0,0.1112106466986459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778294705239397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944276512635091,0.0,0.19270745094910088,0.11289543507861115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754176441135213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560038958010007,0.19612487133167408,0.08639543950469235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495428851332001,0.0883053674142928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176436960621916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18776225214196715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629962749087699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29706109764641897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085710818421733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200459375513694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000249193365335,0.06269259406352143,0.0,0.0,0.17115570886610473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770918614633906,0.1553233424107695,0.15696437693712564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273766972148851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697382861118898,0.0,0.06300642822649544
parenting,phenagain,2019/02/17,"Soon to be new parents and baby bumber confusion. My wife and I are expecting a human this July and are in the process of looking at products.  I've found numerous articles saying stay away from numbers because of risk of SIDS, mostly from the AAP.  

My wife, who was a nanny for many years, had seen a kids get their arms and legs stuck leaving bruises. She is thinking we should get some kind of mesh guard.  After talking about it she asked, what is the difference between a bassinet and having a guard?  I have no answer.  

Anyone have a good response, experience or think the mesh is perfectly safe?",4.563087512291052,6.454806646017702,4.970383480825959,81.79022615535892,71.03539823008848,7.500098328416913,30.254670599803337,8.167268648758528,2.287740216322518,473,20,84,7,9,150,85,113,0.073,0.8370000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.594,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,1,2,6,0,2,10,0,12,2,2,0,1,20,21,6,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,3,8,4,14,14,2,8,0,0,2,0,13,3,0,4,4,58,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637248428021081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890093977464667,0.0,0.2199939419206323,0.0,0.0,0.1427371649438278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446394815796399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290460340519313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25673608411821125,0.0,0.0,0.2446699898172397,0.0,0.0,0.19639597230556316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438337524365743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479336438529852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966290917395957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237393840516882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261459028292383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259998594299886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862074326255539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24957536502755576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882028760335908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000708805790735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078650582643247
parenting,ibutterflyaway,2019/02/17,"Always check the pockets! Ok so my boys are grown (baby just turned 18 and 20 y/o in the Army) so its too late for me to do this but maybe for grandkids someday. I saw a really cute idea about collecting everything you find in your kids pockets and saving them all for a grow up special occasion - like wedding or birth of first grandchild. One I saw was a lamp filled with buttons, army men, little dinosaurs, and coins, all sorts of fun things that his mom  found in his pockets. Mom made a lamp out of it and gave it to him at his wedding. I wish so much I had seen this 20 years ago! It’s such a cute idea! I found a picture on Pinterest but idk how to post it. I just googled ‘craft idea for things found in kids pockets’ and it popped up.  So I just thought I’d share this cool thing I found. It’s so hard raising kids so I’m sending lots of love from Florida ❤️
Ps - a craft thing my kids and I did was cut out pictures of their faces and made Christmas ornaments every year. That was a lot of fun and we had so many ornaments of their changing little faces as they grew up. Someone stole my Christmas box so they’re all gone now. That sucks. ",1.3569382535622942,3.3275991512605074,2.3280051150895145,96.80254475703323,80.59663865546219,5.483668249908661,22.532700036536355,6.498293943080001,0.2830976982097191,890,29,204,8,23,280,138,238,0.039,0.7909999999999999,0.17,0.989,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,2,4,1,16,13,2,0,10,2,8,3,2,3,3,38,25,21,0,1,6,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,17,12,0,0,9,0,2,6,0,2,0,2,18,5,24,11,29,7,6,27,0,0,3,1,26,13,1,4,8,122,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416279693231204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777517289534368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430674326012862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990046503314639,0.0,0.10560764515231727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739919844871346,0.09995132834415553,0.0,0.5153611019531121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052631219473245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3979530379068396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325529269460668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057407946883623814,0.23554561326411103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998003670324652,0.1060545854326486,0.2223757827453932,0.0,0.11913357608637702,0.11805149776624975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27524537513639524,0.0,0.0,0.0863811086386103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962573186401711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253914994743104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527794356108222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995632342036029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122655120735793,0.0,0.0,0.09328737090220764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781378883810282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512716185875062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134121109089815
parenting,curtainsaregrey,2019/02/17,"My 11 year old daughter is self harming, depressed/suicidal, and is fantasizing/reading/drawing about abuse, torture, murder, violence, rape etc. I recently started confiscating my daughter's phone from her in the evenings when she's going to bed as I noticed that she hasn't been sleeping because she's been staying up on her phone.

One night last week, after I had taken her phone from her, I decided to check her recent internet activity to ensure she wasn't doing anything that she shouldn't be. However, once I opened the browser, xxx hentai porn popped up in her search history. This alarmed me but I understand that it has become somewhat normal for preteens to be exposed to porn and that this is just a part of going through puberty/growing up. Although, one thing that definitely did alarm me was the nature of a lot of the porn videos she had been watching. Some of the themes included molestation and violence. I decided not to say anything immediately as I did not want to cause her embarrassment or shame before I did some research and fully understood how to handle the situation properly. 

The next night, after I confiscated her phone once again I decided to look further into the kind of things she has been doing on her phone. I was wary not to invade her privacy but at this stage I felt like it was necessary. I discovered that she has been reading fanfiction with themes of rape, abuse, murder, violence etc. I then went to her messages with her friends. She often spends long periods of time chatting/videocalling with them every day. I understand that she is very close with them, especially one of her friends in particular. I thought she might have mentioned something to them.

Once I had spent some time scrolling through their messages, I was deeply disturbed to find out that they were role-playing as characters who were abusive and violent. They speak as the characters in the chat, and they address each other by the characters names. The language they use is extremely explicit and I was truly shocked by the nature of the things they were saying. The language was abusive and nasty. They were discussing murder, abuse, suicide, drugs, alcoholism, torture and violence in general. Not only were they writing about it and role playing, they were also drawing gruseome pictures of the characters in these extremely violent scenarios.

Furthermore, in between these conversations in which they are role-playing as the characters, when my daughter would break character - she mentioned that she was depressed, suicidal and had been self harming (specifically cutting) for a few years, that she had even once gone as far as trying to suffocate herself. She has also self-diagnosed herself with having manic depression, bi-polar disorder and adhd. The friend also mentioned that she herself had been purposely starving herself and was currently dealing with bulimia. I feel like the two of them are in very negative mindsets and they are feeding/encouraging each other. I noticed that they would delete portions of the conversation which concerns me as to what was so bad that had to be deleted when everything else that they were saying was considered okay. 

Her YouTube history is filled with horror stories, murder documentaries and videos on the topic of violence and abuse. She has had a growing interest in serial killers and murder cases. She has also been watching/reading many creepypasta stories.

What disturbs me the most is that she is such a nice, well mannered, smart child and is very softly spoken. She apologises for the smallest of things and she even scolds her older siblings for cursing or drinking (they're significantly older than her by 7-11 years). She turns her head away from the TV if there is anything sexual or violent on the screen if we are watching as a family. 

I don't know if it's because she feels isolated as her siblings are much older (their ages range from 18 to 23) and she is often left out. She spends a lot of time indoors, alone in her room, on her phone. I feel like she was exposed to a lot of this from Tumblr as her siblings had it on their phone and she would use it before she had one of her own. I was aware of the fact that she was already dealing with self esteem/confidence issues. 

I am unsure of the best way to handle this situation, I'm afraid our family can't afford therapy and I worry that if I approach her myself, it will embarrass her and she will shut us out and hide it completely from us. I also don't know how to deal with the other girl who expressed similar behavior - is it my place to contact her parents? 


TLDR, I stumbled upon porn on my daughter's device but after more digging it escalated to finding out that she's self harming, depressed/suicidal, she has also been accessing content that is extremely inappropriate for her age on the topics of abuse, torture, rape, molestation, murder etc. It appears her friend is in a similar situation. I am unsure on how to handle this issue. ",8.739445707013317,8.808356952115815,8.32438480069088,68.02243557111044,60.7706013363029,11.473151220399075,40.26416981046316,10.999347137161578,4.715231553111223,4005,197,638,93,49,1276,364,898,0.247,0.6940000000000001,0.059,-0.9997,4,1,4,0,5,1,106.0,4,0,19,1,25,48,18,8,38,1,89,12,2,6,2,102,113,60,8,10,15,5,5,3,4,7,2,5,3,6,51,43,2,0,15,7,4,8,11,33,1,5,50,14,127,15,118,53,20,84,0,2,4,7,131,40,0,19,35,511,178,2,0.0,0.4395472304513817,0.0,0.0,0.06369177320328044,0.0,0.0,0.05663738931946353,0.0,0.05488863151620026,0.058483211760854616,0.2542888052585456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308353848045725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04979217438883382,0.0,0.04425005765975303,0.06461263202615725,0.05853072690398469,0.0901926313103386,0.0,0.05561680073966625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054442242526856185,0.0,0.0,0.05556606534104557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034178507918366484,0.16391191126489688,0.0912920154661494,0.05379056754701865,0.0,0.0,0.060738846451014586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05191662142801202,0.061459383930504936,0.0,0.04427196930866595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731609616001442,0.10501152525801397,0.0,0.04465203255607829,0.0,0.047630045596084566,0.0,0.09992120494154264,0.0,0.08039022042690659,0.07572175205642,0.05088517384932914,0.0,0.0968761061136664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378057514112415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023852836771741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054389936730569466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11062963873634912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055187941164242534,0.058251235996872375,0.043199410071598485,0.0,0.0,0.05758110453363609,0.0,0.0,0.0776745790619858,0.0,0.0,0.04690044023170082,0.04450390742736055,0.0,0.0,0.13516777944643812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373036822130333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622115779365331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038958696003146935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636262586294787,0.09946768602772464,0.05192554522298863,0.0,0.12067426159682253,0.05561115536829049,0.2257591604004387,0.14364782905005513,0.04030640291470915,0.0,0.0,0.05884659929818476,0.05739029641096435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537030530414308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602214761155404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465575882456736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643538558621173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27643574888559685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871164219542773,0.0530350057435445,0.0,0.0,0.04079947358544502,0.0,0.0,0.03751135977953867,0.056487465018887635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23187929296250806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060638191012666,0.0,0.1408346957902311,0.0,0.0,0.042073485524674686,0.0927084620932536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035981302324435506,0.05764522617076441,0.05177010657188028,0.11034293437036324,0.1274970868915582,0.09154432149601828,0.0,0.13118356284044305,0.03125884571262418,0.042066339175841454,0.04251078180702306,0.0,0.04765042684319088,0.04912850164291352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382075400813146,0.0,0.1129420738796532,0.0,0.0,0.10238447379111884
parenting,IT_Hero,2019/02/17,"Is a three row vehicle really that necessary for two kids? My wife and I are expecting our first in July and our plan has always been to have at least two if we can. My wife currently has a newer Hyundai Santa Fe with three rows of seats. I presently have an older, non car seat friendly VW CC that is on its last legs and am looking at new SUV’s. Some of our friends have told us that I should only be considering a vehicle like my wife’s that has three rows. The reason being if we have a second it’s too difficult to be tending to children from the front passenger seat and is more ideal to be able to sit behind them in the third row.

Is this a real life practice the superheroes of r/parenting recommend or am I just overthinking this way too much?

I appreciate all your feedback and advice while also looking forward to being a seasoned member of the community.

Thanks!",4.632931034482759,5.644305683908048,5.866149425287357,78.83129310344829,69.7471264367816,9.248275862068963,29.44252873563219,9.516144504307137,2.6560666666666672,695,26,133,15,12,233,112,174,0.014,0.8640000000000001,0.122,0.9568,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,1,1,3,4,6,0,0,12,0,22,2,1,1,1,19,27,10,0,5,4,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,8,8,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,8,2,2,16,5,19,19,5,19,0,0,2,0,16,6,0,4,11,103,24,1,0.2027646845798506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981393030611588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215084500164373,0.1687164607106533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724715371212338,0.0,0.0,0.3133109846536905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528028057452546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432186931828726,0.09906058284588773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405425349126618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905537356981569,0.0,0.0,0.19583139587394316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542116795495975,0.0,0.0,0.225146186643302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23079060189064365,0.1298962490283353,0.20847586615861524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866784792666071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375034540570935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3961432679470312,0.0,0.2439009497924337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094516870028544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Scorpmoon,2019/02/17,"Struggling to keep my 4 year old son entertained without TV. My son is 4.5 years old. He LOVES video games, TV, and play fighting. If we play fight, he is never violent and doesn't hurt. I'm not worried about him being violent BUT I get exhausted and bored play fighting. I don't want him on the TV all the time. He seems interested in nothing else. I can only keep him away from TV if I take him somewhere. The weather is cold and miserable outside. What do I do with him?!
He doesn't want to do any activity I suggest.",0.9379874213836494,3.2596907547169844,2.883301886792456,90.12388364779876,84.84905660377359,6.174842767295598,24.87106918238993,7.492282038375204,1.3068389937106908,404,17,86,7,12,135,66,106,0.18,0.634,0.187,-0.1934,0,0,0,0,5,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,1,16,5,2,3,0,11,2,0,0,2,18,20,7,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,2,1,10,0,0,6,10,0,0,0,1,14,6,9,19,1,9,0,2,0,1,18,3,0,3,6,48,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457375555981682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20135047980777626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902777638757006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111967673778122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22942235331755945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38097559866727576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19342235465624646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528841078162335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20563538767962214,0.0,0.4497627570400359,0.0,0.0,0.16299174851906514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950989806877365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404243144801572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113379269713138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496537560933005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25281015178504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065863511647025,0.0,0.0,0.2176413216769218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760161032765494
parenting,seobrien,2019/02/17,"What are the great family friendly movies? Seeking for the films for roughly 8-15.  The lists online and with services like Netflix are awful... ""Kids shows"" are mostly for little ones or anything Nickelodeon/Disney. Lists tend to be only recent movies.",5.96151162790698,8.931775790697678,4.793197674418604,79.84468023255816,70.16279069767441,5.230232558139536,27.02906976744186,5.985473137389443,1.3544930232558143,201,7,28,1,4,59,35,43,0.0,0.795,0.205,0.8689,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,5,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,17,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194960906399469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36600688413009613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999604439493486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280462208414566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18967899539926775,0.3891277925790609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630877717768828,0.2952810857302132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833493422748487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noteviliswear,2019/02/17,"How do parents financially afford to have an allergic kid? I'm a stepmother in this situation. My husband and I have 5 kids. 4 are mutual kids. One was brought into the marriage by my husband (no infidelity). The kids are 10, 7, 5, 3, and 3. 5 lives partially with her mother, and partially with us. 

5 has a bad allergy/intolerance to dairy. If she eats it, she will be in the bathroom for upwards of an hour at a time. We only have one working bathroom right now, and with the youngest kids toilet training, we can't have someone taking a monopoly on the bathroom. Once we get this fixed we'll still only have two bathrooms.

We can't afford to switch everyone to dairy-free alternatives, and keeping separate food for her is impossible with the ages of the kids, the space, and that she doesn't live here full time.

What do other families do when it's just not affordable for one kid to have an allergy? ",4.877140151515151,5.868326676136363,6.220909090909089,76.58469696969699,69.17045454545455,9.957575757575757,32.84848484848485,10.125756701596842,3.3876075757575763,709,32,136,18,12,240,106,176,0.037000000000000005,0.963,0.0,-0.7236,4,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,6,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,15,0,20,3,0,1,0,20,25,9,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,7,7,15,2,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,4,2,0,14,0,20,20,1,16,0,0,0,0,23,8,0,1,7,95,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015995724837415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962776272625328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329024993276524,0.0,0.0,0.18082887071805026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319469993706853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021695014205977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890201983916446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049658749112992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387574885548011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20427983256081544,0.389942375946392,0.2917723550686822,0.0,0.0,0.21299110840214164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381146203630292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156113874011932,0.0,0.0,0.16252670752449114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318604470774194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422320946784484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22370115220471906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737824296300354,0.0,0.2307333489015636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13964573578321124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jean_claudev,2019/02/17,"GROW your child’s mind with building toys   **Any parent looking for the best in brain-building activities has most likely seen the excitement around LEGO Bricks in recent years. An increasing number of parents and educators are recognizing the learning opportunities these little interlocking bricks can bring to their kids. As researchers have discovered, construction block play, including with LEGO Bricks, offers a full spectrum of benefits to the budding mind.**

**Some of these benefits are found in the usual areas, such as math, spatial activities and early engineering skills. Others are more surprising, especially social skills. Wherever your child is at in terms of age and ability and interest, and wherever your child seems to be headed, whether it’s a career in technology, engineering or even art, we think the benefits of construction play are for everyone.**

**I. LEGO Bricks build social skills**

**At first glance, you may not see an obvious bridge leading from construction play to better social skills. Whether your child plays with other children or apart, development of their social and communication skills are, in fact, taking place inside!**

* **Collaboration:** **What happens when kids gather around a table to build a project? They take on one or more roles. The one who is keeping an eye on how the structure fits in with the design — that’s the engineer. Suppliers gather the pieces. The ones fitting the pieces together are the builders. While these titles sound rigid and official, chances are, the kids are taking on multiple roles throughout the project, and it’s all part of a collaboration. At the practical level, collaboration is a valuable time to pick up new skills and pass along their knowledge to others.But as in any situation when there is one or more builders, emotions can start flying high. Look at it as an opportunity to have a learning moment about conflict resolution skills. What’s working in your favor here is if they’re excited about the project and feeling focused on getting to the finish line. If so, they will find the motivation to work it out. When they are finally through, that sense of accomplishment is a nice little reward, especially if they feel like they contributed to the overall team effort!**
* **Pretend play:** **Even when kids are building alone, there’s a window here, too, for social development. While some kids set the finished work on the shelf to display, others may want to play with it, perhaps even build a fantasy world around it. Playing in a make-believe world is childish behavior with a purpose. Studies show** [**pretend play**](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beautiful-minds/201203/the-need-pretend-play-in-child-development) **leads to better cognitive flexibility, empathy, communication and problem solving. What is the underlying lesson of problem solving? That more than one approach and solution to the problem exists! All of the above are skills that can one day serve them well in the workplace.**
* **Soft skills:** **While many blogs and articles connect the dots from construction toys to STEM skills, people-based skills, such as** [**leadership and emotional intelligence**](http://www.bricks4kidz.com/blog/can-after-school-activities-make-kids-more-employable-in-the-future/)**, are tied to long-term success in the workplace as well.**
* **How can parents help?:** **Parents can set up opportunities for group construction play for kids of any age. During a playdate, bring out the tub of LEGO Bricks. Very young children can get to work building a house for small toy animals, or a simple neighborhood for toy cars and trucks. For ages 5+, challenge their skills by signing them up for a Bricks 4 Kidz class or camp.**

**II. Construction play builds spatial skills**

**As little hands manipulate and test the blocks, other things are brewing in those young, pliable minds. They are building their spatial abilities — the ability to visualize and plan three-dimensional objects. As your understanding of the space around you grows, so do your spatial abilities.**

**Strong spatial abilities are associated with science and technology careers, such as chemistry, engineering and mathematics. Even if your child shows other interests, they can still benefit. Research has also found that spatial skills are important in architecture, visual arts and even medicine. Even more surprising, research has found a strong correlation between** [**strong spatial reasoning**](http://www.nytimes.com/2013/07/16/us/study-finds-early-signs-of-creativity-in-adults.html) **with innovation and creativity later in life.**

**The good news is spatial skills are not necessarily about aptitudes, or being “born with it.” While that may certainly be the case, it is also true that spatial skills can be improved with training. Numerous studies have shown that kids show improvement on spatial reasoning tests after spending time with LEGO Bricks and other kinds of construction play.**

**Here’s one that’s especially striking. As a society, we often think of guys as having a natural ability for spatial reasoning as compared to women. We tend to build our playtimes around this bias. But one** [**Harvard study**](https://dash.harvard.edu/bitstream/handle/1/3128711/Kosslyn_TrainingGeneralizedSpatial.pdf?sequence=1) **smashes that notion: After 21 days of practice, men and women performed equally well on spatial reasoning tests, even though the women in the group performed worse at the start of the study.**

**So how do we build these skills? The traditional classroom setting spends little time with actual hands-on activities to develop valuable spatial skills. That’s why it’s important for parents to bridge that gap at home. Offer and encourage plenty of hands-on activities, and you can give your kids a genuine brain boost!**

**III. The link between construction play and math skills**

**So now that we know that researchers feel pretty confident that playing with LEGO Bricks can improve spatial skills, there is at least another pair of studies suggesting that a childhood of construction play translates into improved math performance.**

**One** [**study in 2014**](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4102248/) **found that sixth-grade students performed better on math word problems when they spent more of their free time in construction play. And** [**researchers in 2014**](http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0959475214000176)**discovered a link between LEGO play and math ability in 7-year-olds. First, they tested each child’s ability to build a complex LEGO structure before taking a math test. The 7-year-olds who did a better job of building had better math scores.**

**What does this mean? Some may think these children may just have that natural ability in math and building. And that natural ability gives them the intrinsic motivation to perform the tasks and get better at them. An easy example to point to is the one of the emerging reader: It’s much harder to convince a struggling reader to spend time with a book versus one who seems to be progressing and flourishing.**

**So what do we do about the strugglers? If we teach them building strategies and encourage them to complete LEGO projects, would they then show improvement in math? As the second study noted, this is a good question that deserves further exploration.**

**LEGO Bricks as math tools**

**Meanwhile,** [**teachers and home-school parents**](http://encouragingmomsathome.com/fantastic-lego-math-learning-activities-ages/) **have discovered the bricks themselves are excellent tools for teaching math concepts: addition and subtraction, multiplication, fractions, measurement and even algebraic concepts. If they use something kids are already familiar with and enjoy playing, it’s a friendly learning tool.**

**At the same time, the blocks of varying sizes and number of studs can add up to hands-on learning for math. Need a 2x4 block? Kids quickly learn that a pair of 2x2s can fill their needs. That’s a real-life lesson in fractions!**

1. **Construction play builds engineering skills**

**Watch a child at play. They are creating a world, changing it to suit their needs. That is precisely what an engineer does! Which brings home a new meaning to the old adage about play being the work of children.**

**Engineering for beginners**

**When a young child is building with blocks, there’s actually a lot of engineering going on. What may come to mind is the 8-year-old building a complex vehicle from a thick instruction booklet, featuring tons of tiny pieces and moving parts. But it’s important to know this also applies to the very young. A preschooler building castle walls or crude presentations of animals is learning something about engineering.**

**Even the 1-year-old learning to stack thick blocks — or, more likely, gleefully knocking over the stack you just built — is learning early lessons about engineering. When your toddler prefers destruction over building, go along with it. These are baby steps! Every construct has a cause and effect. What happens when you swipe a stack of loose blocks? Gravity pulls them down! Later on, that tiny tot will add balance and stability to his engineering skills, and it builds and builds from there.**

**Moving up the engineering ladder**

**As time goes on, with each structure attempted and completed, watch children become more experimental with their designs. Once something works, they’ll learn or discover new solutions to make it better! Engineers spend a lifetime doing this. Even the most brilliant invention is never finished. Your smartphone, for example, could very well be out of date. You might say the work has only begun.**

**Here’s another way block building promotes engineering: It helps kids understand complex concepts. When it comes to design, there are multiple layers of abstract concepts at work, which can be a lot for a young mind to juggle. Think of the keystone of an arch: Isn’t it easier to visualize with a model? When kids get exposure and hands-on experience with many forms of building, chances are they’ll encounter these lessons in the classroom, where they’ll make much more sense!**

**Ready, set, build!** 

**As children stack, create, interlock and try and try again, they aren’t simply building a simple structure, they are also building their minds. As the research clearly shows, the time, expense and effort you invested into this pastime is something that will pay off down the line, especially as they make advances in their education. Sign them up for an after-school workshop hosted by Bricks 4 Kidz. The hands-on learning in the fun, collaborative environment will challenge them and add to their growing skill set!**

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parenting,mccullacullaisland,2019/02/17,"Transitioning from a baby led day to more of a scheduled routine Our little man will be 5 months next week and we're having a hell of a time with sleep regression and teething. We mostly follow his lead for when he's hungry for feedings and he really only naps if he's on one of our laps or in his swing so we haven't really been able to get him used to the crib at naptime because there is no naptime. I'm looking for any examples of a typical daily routine for this age since whenever we look up advice is starts with, ""blah blah routine blah"". We've started the unswaddeling process so he's got his hands out for self soothing. He's getting too big for the bassinet and we're all tired of the 2 hours of sleep at a time so any crib transition advice is appreciated too. I work full time and my husband stays home. We're breastfeeding/pumping as much as we can. Anything you've got will be tons of help!",3.092936936936937,4.715754762162163,4.209189189189189,86.8518018018018,74.35135135135134,7.311711711711713,26.92792792792793,8.021203637495839,1.5969171171171168,721,27,149,11,15,235,116,185,0.07200000000000001,0.8809999999999999,0.047,-0.5411,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,6,0,0,2,7,1,1,0,10,0,11,6,4,3,1,19,22,13,0,1,2,1,1,3,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,12,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,3,3,12,0,27,15,6,26,1,0,2,0,19,9,1,3,13,83,13,2,0.16170778179754178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160379456740452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21993367363689406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307172602341474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09857556286641524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042881415084054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897128349330734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586649707809875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838931748514576,0.0,0.16220608998954794,0.0,0.15924959151848025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207367951970367,0.0,0.0,0.271587619128774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907360864856887,0.0,0.1188738259570378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197806047647227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095773779763011,0.1229860548887557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718829156781626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686964835716034,0.0,0.0,0.13376634814503535,0.0,0.3236491304472489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289152005233705,0.17235897949117976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828793239570406,0.18585930700059436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396636034737118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971222849495453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772519107899634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheCombatBeard,2019/02/17,"Parents who moved away from grandparents, how'd you and they handle it? Long story short, my wife and I have a 1yr old and live about 10mins away from my parents in the DC area. They're the best grandparents we could ask for and love her to death. But we're not happy with our jobs, and I've worked really hard to gain a work from home agreement the past year.

Well, things are coming to a head, and we're getting ready to move to North Carolina and now I'm starting to feel heartbroken about taking her away from them. I know they'll support us, and my daughter will get to spend time with some other family, but not my parents, at least not as much. A selfish part of me wishes they would follow us down too.",5.853958333333331,5.3807131458333375,5.6063888888888895,86.92750000000002,66.84722222222223,8.866666666666667,27.027777777777786,8.07648339933343,1.364044444444445,559,13,121,6,8,173,98,144,0.058,0.8059999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.8614,6,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,4,4,5,7,0,0,7,0,6,2,1,0,0,23,19,11,1,3,5,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,12,0,0,2,0,1,4,3,1,1,0,0,2,18,6,24,15,5,20,0,0,0,1,19,9,0,1,7,79,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601251079669018,0.0,0.37992512517332144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145609721552246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611154443578045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762060305171096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707008936260344,0.0,0.06815498605127678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084672165049306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348880267459851,0.12074733474471158,0.0,0.13833568409874916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520756624706345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337604590920074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407826765034604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902398154669465,0.11928685477470498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216552225655618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865255521251629,0.0990877759223698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144173874485305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4490123574398648,0.14596681650814672,0.1286744063489796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635133446462001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954066124820524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296059047935162,0.0,0.0,0.10134695882614488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954994783084054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859841541977168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242768386201928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119437512133314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500437707164258,0.0,0.0,0.1962606530098502,0.0,0.0,0.09575251105162616,0.0,0.0,0.08680175705508425
parenting,lfaire,2019/02/17,"Red spots on my baby skin My baby has started developing some red spots mainly on his legs. It started yesterday after we went outside for a walk. He has no fever, he’s in a good mood. https://imgur.com/a/MiHZFYd/",4.217307692307692,7.096253743589744,5.156089743589742,75.46182692307694,75.66666666666667,6.976923076923077,25.134615384615394,8.07648339933343,1.8075076923076918,172,6,29,3,4,56,30,39,0.056,0.87,0.07400000000000001,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,5,4,2,9,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,1,4,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4441136447128224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7495558054012341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4908453576934392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strugparent,2019/02/17,"Two year old keeps starting and stopping potty training My two year old has shown an interest for a while. She was peeing on the potty on her own before two. She is definitely ready, and she’ll take her nappy off and go sit on the toilet. But sometimes she just stops doing it and for a few days will just pee everywhere and anywhere. She mostly always does poops on the toilet and doesn’t on the floor.

I’ll take her toilet and sit her on it, she’ll do it. I know I have to train her and it’s gonna take a while but I’m wondering if there’s anything else I can do.",2.575197428833789,3.574140826446285,3.9888705234159794,90.41037649219469,74.6198347107438,6.700091827364558,21.7089072543618,6.937597516519254,0.38200202020202,444,10,100,4,9,147,69,121,0.024,0.926,0.051,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,8,0,12,3,3,0,0,19,22,13,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,15,1,10,17,3,21,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,3,10,69,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047227495411464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881483162367054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15388040393879848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662599323456666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825315436446638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510675189626648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027747937191026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073773477303038,0.0,0.0,0.0993842134873551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795195650576345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788540862903875,0.0,0.12799855401285642,0.0,0.0,0.302378480881174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079045627719153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5299593633425179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611184288226935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23290837185768684
parenting,RransackK,2019/02/17,"Fighting in front of Kids People I need some serious help here. Wife and I had our first child (boy) in 2016. He's 2 and a half years old. Now my wife and I, we've always been pretty passionate in our relationship you know. Love with 100% passion and expression and at the same time, we fight and disagree similarly. Often we end up shouting, screaming, calling each other names (basic profanity). Now we're struggling to cope with the fact that we should never be doing this on front of our children. But it just keeps happening. In the moment, we forget that our boy is at home too, and he often witnesses us fight. Ofcourse, the moment we realise it, we go off into our rooms and just cool-it-off, and then pretend in front of the boy like nothing happened. 

But I just don't know how to avoid these situations. Any tips?",4.2423584905660405,5.744459100628934,4.9397641509434,83.24662735849058,71.2012578616352,7.564150943396226,27.08647798742139,8.07648339933343,1.680085534591195,643,22,124,9,12,207,106,159,0.13,0.7609999999999999,0.11,0.128,0,1,0,0,4,0,28.0,12,1,0,1,10,11,3,2,6,0,7,3,0,1,2,39,15,13,0,2,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,6,7,19,0,2,2,1,0,4,2,7,0,2,2,2,18,4,18,11,3,27,0,0,0,3,32,12,0,3,12,84,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17717472123087072,0.0,0.0,0.14479962303018226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21742521890260036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885926765899712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811180508469786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101296024330707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765863870257633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272241310586686,0.0,0.2135860352377284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926186474137935,0.0,0.0,0.2340413916748586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402678598614948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192177533957395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578848112156579,0.16422465351640494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20431196677796434,0.0,0.22343409495620506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476187714307706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21662624205217704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860700899982714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393421114140995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22260054714987884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416112789724572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561284334996154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711986433648732
parenting,atomicassface,2019/02/17,"Can diapers expire? My MIL gave me a diaper cake at my baby shower with about 50 size 1 diapers. Baby sized up about 1.5 weeks ago so we’ve been using the diapers from the cake. Since then, we’ve had at least one blowout a day. Sometimes pee but mainly poop. I looked the diapers up and they’re apparently Parents Choice by Walmart. 

I looked at some of the pictures from Walmart and Amazon and the diapers we have look nothing like the one that they’ve been selling and manufacturing. My MIL is a hoarder and has given me gifts from her collection before so I’m starting to wonder if she gave me diapers from a box she had stored in her house. 

If that’s the case, these diapers are probably from the early 2000s when her last child was a baby. Should I toss them?",4.257117224880382,5.50004880263158,5.3254066985645965,81.49375598086125,70.84210526315789,8.685167464114832,27.63397129186603,9.095868883498916,2.1948736842105263,606,21,119,12,11,200,95,152,0.022,0.964,0.015,-0.2441,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,13,0,11,2,2,1,0,14,21,12,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,8,3,16,1,17,12,3,14,0,0,3,0,11,6,0,4,9,77,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19631618880125376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884511988652309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428272065924888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25554195429196697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805242956101732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819706911692742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5579268230914993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21250253750831116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001420981468537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24591171198291856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387777353277528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831989099172304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190354724879348,0.0,0.15675472860295084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127546102816992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764661435957982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401703592975507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WorldofTrailers,2019/02/17,"[US Only] Mom or Mommy- to-be? Join now to start receiving FREE diapers and more for your baby! Act fast, while supplies last only. No card required. 

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parenting,torianrayne,2019/02/17,"Heart breaking raw bum? Darling had the runs today and by tonight her bum is so raw she screams and shakes when I wipe away poop or she cries.. gave her an oatmeal bath but it’s so sore she won’t even sit in the water.. when she had her last poop I rinsed her off in the tub, she was still in intense pain. Well let her dry then applied Vaseline. Has woken up twice already screaming in pain most likely cause she peed. So changed diaper and used cornstarch powder.. just trying to figure out what my game plan is tomorrow to clear this up ASAP and never have to see my baby cry like that ever again. Thank you in advance 

Sincerely ,
One worried and heartbroken mama ",3.960000000000001,5.4600290076335884,4.111366412213741,88.91865267175574,71.90076335877863,6.461374045801527,26.07709923664122,6.742157984588678,0.9932589312977104,524,17,104,4,10,162,98,131,0.191,0.684,0.125,-0.9293,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,2,11,10,0,1,4,0,9,7,3,2,3,16,14,13,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,1,0,4,6,1,0,1,2,0,3,2,5,1,2,5,3,16,5,14,7,1,26,0,0,1,0,14,10,0,2,13,70,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611456469210966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839983436121598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118186382556244,0.20717299682164586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.430242595425794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935062550708842,0.1771487009287174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23207161656990544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963592664431012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025990469363475,0.0,0.19135528910720012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104405925001624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327064088539791,0.0,0.4167756269160092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560593085202146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639826138699212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803033726630097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856336399116136,0.0,0.0,0.13296266150186792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691430805052747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608388706008593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888526080665575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BleuBaritone,2019/02/17,"Odd Request? My wife and I have a standing rule for our 4yo son whenever he wants to have screen time; he has to clean up first (I imagine that's fairly common).  Today, though, my wife asked our son to do a little dance in order to have screen time.  He complied reluctantly and my wife wanted him to do more and was persistent about it until I stepped in.  I said that he can have screen time, not because he did a dance but because he was a good boy (cleaned up without whining).  

Anyway, that my wife asked that of our son seemed kind of ...off to me.  Like he is a pet to my wife.  Thoughts?",2.311,3.8810281000000018,3.151666666666668,93.84,76.33333333333334,5.8000000000000025,23.666666666666664,6.2581,0.37606666666666655,452,14,101,3,10,143,69,120,0.024,0.897,0.079,0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,0,0,11,19,6,0,2,3,8,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,5,3,0,0,3,2,0,3,2,1,0,1,5,4,14,3,18,14,1,18,0,1,3,0,24,6,0,1,8,63,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365299573101606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28464495668062545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19859132321000456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582539365681748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431253553582097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406271755722144,0.2340004669741192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220855146726708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21254431067507776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293852385752545,0.18535083758429285,0.4084185297664158,0.0,0.22130433433167768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754158901978859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250588570396424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikehawk86,2019/02/17,"Doc McStuffins administrative team I wanna see the episode of Doc McStuffins where she repairs one of her friend’s toys, sticks them with the bill and they have to come to a realization they don’t have health insurance. Fast forward to this ruining their life and resenting DMS forever. ",8.772941176470585,9.552198843137257,7.467450980392157,71.80352941176474,60.568627450980394,11.505882352941176,38.568627450980394,11.20814326018867,4.47661568627451,235,11,40,6,3,71,42,51,0.09,0.91,0.0,-0.5346,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,4,1,1,3,1,0,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,7,1,7,5,0,4,0,1,1,0,8,2,0,0,2,25,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274120043391916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833446290938304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5274122741734966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35046404056452674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33622194634423713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39538832305783583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,temptingevil,2019/02/17,"My 3yr old is constantly upset with his dad for no apparent reason I'm wondering if anyone else has been in this predicament before. My 3 year old, within the last couple of months has started to ""complain"" about his dad. We are married, live together so it isn't like I don't see their interactions. 

My son is totally okay with his dad when they are playing or when they are alone together, but when I am there (most of the time) it is like a switch is flipped. My son (doesn't speak very well yet) will just point at my husband and say to me ""dad"" in his whiney, mad voice. I ask him,""did dad do something to upset you"" son says ""yes"". When literally dad is in a chair watching TV and I'm sitting with my son in my lap. Dad didn't even talk/look at son to prompt this outburst.

Dad will try to help son with something and son will come to me and complain about dad again. I always tell my son, ""dad was just trying to help, it isn't nice to be mad at him for helping"" and yet he is still upset about it. I will ask son ""did dad hurt you"" son says no, I ask him ""was dad just trying to help"" son will say yes, I explain to him ""dad is trying to help you, not upset you."" He doesn't care. He just wants nothing to do with dad. These are just a couple examples. 

Just now we are sitting here hanging out, husband is on his phone, I'm holding our son, and we are enjoying some girl scout cookies, cookies are in front of our son, dad is sitting to the side several feet away, not even eating cookies. Then my son grabs the box of cookies and points at dad and starts the same thing ""complaining"" about dad.

To elaborate, when I say ""complain"" since my son isn't talking as one would expect a 3 year old to talk, he just kind of babbles but it is his tone and face that show us he's upset about whatever it is he thinks his dad is doing wrong. Our son may not speak well yet, but I know he understands what we say (as much as a child can). Also, I have his appointment set with our dr to go over speech therapy, he was denied at 2, so I'm going to look into it again now that he is 3 and still not speaking. 

I'm not sure why our son has started this or maybe it is just a phase? Has anyone else been in this situation? I am not even sure what to do at this point besides continuing to calm our son down and explain that dad isn't doing anything that deserves our son to be upset at him. This is taking a toll on my husband.he is always asking me why our son hates him. I keep telling him, it's just a phase, eventually he will want you more than me...but I am not sure! I hope that is the case because jeez, sometimes I want to relax and I can't because our son only wants me 99.9% of the time. 

To add: our son does sometimes switch and do it to me, but that is only when he's grumpy and I tell him no to something or discipline him for doing something bad. ",3.5332933900270582,3.875057262981578,4.551859296482416,89.69266718206421,71.84757118927973,7.53011209895632,26.02796031439248,7.321109707123232,1.0003925525061206,2194,64,503,21,39,717,224,597,0.14300000000000002,0.7979999999999999,0.059,-0.9946,1,1,4,0,0,0,86.0,15,5,3,0,39,32,3,6,15,3,66,4,2,1,4,77,98,35,0,8,24,43,1,2,0,8,1,11,0,2,26,28,1,3,7,4,0,5,19,16,2,1,7,15,72,16,69,81,6,64,0,1,3,0,126,25,1,9,32,322,98,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466523483402603,0.0,0.057651687413295474,0.11997209948883746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081635243178276,0.14773288333962434,0.059325306905919785,0.0,0.2695839423543496,0.0,0.06773250290530143,0.0,0.06019353835792938,0.08789283336484087,0.0,0.06134470664565175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350226854700942,0.0,0.0,0.062100595615368265,0.0,0.07790549093794566,0.0,0.0,0.1595361370253871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308791166221729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376778246205838,0.12044668973103115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428476166572799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194272187865105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117560506434424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24160765465678316,0.0,0.0,0.07160330097492289,0.0,0.0,0.07717563041050447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640783942213969,0.0,0.07507238699908901,0.0396196998807945,0.05876433805305005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044070300283771,0.0,0.06365827086772104,0.0,0.1210777025153154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242577852548734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05754288815028654,0.0,0.05299567698356359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917390763975165,0.0,0.22694426114847105,0.0,0.048851185542195495,0.10965793665500248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20444980830175974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412224998809394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34398116678638035,0.0,0.0,0.05744773219277075,0.0,0.0,0.08144307402925442,0.0,0.05963497952970113,0.0810340645746635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22199877768588813,0.14260102228771904,0.0,0.1530805784102804,0.0,0.1151450114801845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383665495331046,0.0,0.05420396858462904,0.17383367564271654,0.189033907711244,0.0,0.08244311458967006,0.0,0.0478945063098021,0.04619343517638997,0.0,0.0,0.08407447227939646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578206367889744,0.0,0.0,0.0750499773765268,0.08671741005787989,0.0,0.0,0.05948318291833628,0.17008615382111045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963814953697064,0.0,0.1301030492600221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818034761681363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05121185836316145,0.07882093078672722,0.0,0.0928493517121822
parenting,john_rage,2019/02/17,"It's kind of impossible for me to imagine what it's like for my 18 mo/old daughter to fall asleep on her own. I apologize in advance for the wall of text. I just needed to get these thoughts out there. Advice and shared stories are welcomed.

We never sleep trained our daughter since we knew we couldn't handle any cry-it-out or extinction methods. I'm a big softie, I guess. I can't just sit there while she cries. She's been nursed to sleep since she was born (she's 18 months old now) and there's no signs of it stopping anytime soon. For a while it seemed like she was slowly needing to nurse less and less, but over the last few weeks we've seen a spike in nursing. It's like she's a newborn again!

I feel like we're at this age where it's too late to sleep train and too early for her to understand it if we tried to explain to her how she should actually go to sleep at night, especially when she's so worked up from fighting sleep. I think she's in the dreaded 18 month sleep regression; it's been going on for about 4 weeks now. She'll get to this point where she's almost asleep while she's nursing, then she'll try and roll off and it all goes down hill from there. I'll try and put her to sleep on me like I do for her naps (which usually works for naps, at least) but just as she's about to drift off she'll call for her mom, so I take her to her mom, but then she'll try and get off her mom's lap right as she falls asleep so we end up going back and forth and back and forth. Sometimes the only thing that helps is for her Mom and her to sit up and watch Sesame Street until she calms down enough to be nursed back to sleep, but that can take up to 2 hours sometimes. I try and take over and have her fall asleep on me to give her Mom a break, but the daughter won't have any of it. 

I love my daughter more than anything, truly. She's a dream child in pretty much every other aspect: super smart, kind, silly, sweet, creative, shares and plays great with other kids, etc. We just didn't sleep train, and I'm worried it's going to bite us in the butt. We've always thought of sleeping on her own as a milestone like walking. You can't force a kid to walk before they're ready, right?

Anyways, that's it. ",5.7225,4.338403885350317,5.592412420382163,89.9219944267516,67.47133757961784,8.529405520169847,27.692940552016978,6.42735559955562,0.9140494692144374,1734,38,413,8,24,540,216,471,0.033,0.8059999999999999,0.161,0.9959,0,0,1,0,2,0,50.0,8,1,0,4,27,21,1,1,14,0,21,16,15,1,2,56,47,38,0,5,11,9,1,6,0,6,0,0,0,4,23,25,0,1,9,4,0,12,7,2,0,0,9,4,57,19,71,30,11,78,0,0,2,2,65,33,1,5,36,249,80,2,0.0,0.0,0.06342336716050186,0.0,0.0,0.06350998133168331,0.0,0.0,0.06508066467580045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054079019682298286,0.0,0.0,0.08839434440125084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053483342435332266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992580986158266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530388502376224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636467443422743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713912797231888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756412087679539,0.0671546922052492,0.07248388885306296,0.0,0.0,0.05475903826470524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03286219315949019,0.04643070069789675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186779664096364,0.062346789562198676,0.14774708747041548,0.0,0.0,0.07165453123873405,0.07159663655729426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04356314565552399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400458377139416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353595081329251,0.0,0.05297761409074626,0.07331444305330365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19051250317478136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865832647669315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805925271897821,0.10375288901717257,0.0,0.04777701267014193,0.09638232535601493,0.0501262720106645,0.0,0.0,0.060991118584056675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639752595504887,0.0,0.0,0.049429773588632236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143898042017513,0.0,0.0,0.06612080282252364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533547787279476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100658906182163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059166789303077665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752504108808153,0.0,0.6503950083867541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285586152758948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054336693666866484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659895907979345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04317817159885138,0.04164461071766762,0.0,0.10319367213045548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206284236135498,0.0,0.0,0.06765955119554877,0.07817805215210642,0.0,0.07158012715056296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042662290774681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463072127936492,0.06600310354215608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chivil61,2019/02/17,"Bunchems--I just lived through a hair-nightmare with this toy! These were a gift from a (well-meaning) relative to my 8-YO daughter for the holidays.  They seemed to be an innocuous, creative toy well-suited for her, and she's played in the past couple of months.  

Today, my daughter and her friend get a bunch of these stuck in their hair.  I was not home at the time (husband was), but I come home to a rats nest of these prickly balls stuck in my daughter's hair.  My husband spent over an hour trying to remove the balls from the visiting friend's hair.  When I got home, my daughter still had at least 6 still stuck in her hair.   I ordered her in the tub and used as much conditioner/hair mask as I could to get them out.  It took me about 1.5-2 hours to remove them. 

I've now googled this, and there are tons of detailed 1-star review warnings about the hair issue, numerous press articles about parents with (way worse) similar stories (e.g., 50+ bunchems stuck in hair, requiring 3 people working 12.5 hours to remove), and the company that makes the toy even issued a PR video showing ""how easy"" it is to remove them.  I've also seen stories about problems with pets eating them.  There is a small warning on the box, but really?  They've been described as being designed ""by Satan himself,"" and that sounds about right.  

Don't buy these; if you already have them and have kids with not-short hair, monitor their use of these closely.  Mine ended up in the garbage can, and my daughter (after experiences the exorcism of the Bunchems) was happy to get rid of them.  

TL;DR--Bunchems are a toy probably designed by Satan.  They get ridiculously tangled in kids' hair, and it's a nightmare to deal with.  Don't buy these, even for your worst enemy.  Even if you do not have this toy in your home,and you have a kid with not-short hair, watch the google videos on the hair-nightmares with this toy, and warn your child.  Even if you don't have these, your child may have a friend/relative who does.  Yikes.  ",6.4684446022727276,6.436922440104167,5.7828977272727276,84.69051136363639,65.484375,8.85681818181818,31.25662878787879,8.296473431620573,2.0666552083333336,1563,53,314,18,22,474,187,384,0.096,0.856,0.049,-0.9571,1,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,0,8,10,2,18,8,2,0,28,0,25,11,10,4,0,37,42,21,0,5,8,8,10,0,2,1,0,1,4,5,17,20,1,1,1,13,3,7,5,4,0,0,14,13,37,4,57,24,5,41,2,0,2,0,42,19,1,5,13,199,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267676285866708,0.0889010895066151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576147476201656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875868211975654,0.12300538833805863,0.0,0.0,0.11460942985472812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728395356862997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137527195752395,0.0,0.0,0.0984619402711369,0.0,0.0,0.29370192672687906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874373340892432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576645951782221,0.0,0.2323229760862634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891128506975803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834050974625801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4460426740758071,0.0,0.32843455654605797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23206122830420944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816346910502548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420557006836706,0.0,0.0,0.12109465108220868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873331691481444,0.0,0.08172134475794934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343901933194587,0.0,0.10612253050273067,0.07706996325799037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985801428281738,0.10637285824045782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121713156243213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493695009519088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012032631726155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755797672418844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482301317349083,0.0,0.1053743603744244,0.0,0.12351184964455685,0.07547584271962493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920270908709153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882400634306673,0.0,0.0,0.1999069455302764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093170089721123,0.0,0.11328979138461018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emilia1978,2019/02/17,"Teenage daughter living with past trauma, wants to come home from uni! Education or health! Torn how to guide and support her...exhausted and overwhelmed myself... TRIGGER Warning, rape and trauma mentioned. 
Uk 40 year old Female and mum to 19 year old daughter. 

So it’s the early hours here, I have just has a very tearful phone-call from my daughter, she is crying and says she wants to come home from university. This is a regular occurrence. She is away at uni and has been since  sept. She comes home regularly. She is so upset and when she comes home I can see she is not herself, that she is not happy being away. She doesn’t seem happy at home either, she is unsettled and seems to have the effects of ptsd. 

She was raped last year by a stranger and abducted.... hugely traumatic and her rapist has not been caught. (Not where she lives at uni but near where we live now) 
She had a lot of counselling but stopped when she went to uni, it’s proved hard to get her counselling where she is. Now if she came home she could get it easily as there are lots of low cost places where we live. I have very little spare money or I would pay if I had it for her. 
She is not sleeping at night, she can only sleep in the day... this has affected her attendance at uni and her wellbeing. If she was home I think it would be easier to get her sleep pattern back to how it was as she wouldn’t be living on her own and we could support her in a routine, and with counselling she may get this back to normal.
She hardly attends lectures as it is and does it all online and still gets very good grades and has passed all her work; she could continue this at home but I don’t know where we would stand if she didn’t attend any of the lectures. She has until June when her course ends as she is doing a foundation year. 
I feel absolutely torn when she says “mum I want to come home”, she is torn, I tell her always she can come home..I am so worried about her mental health and I guess my mum mode kicks in and I want her close to me and I want to fix things for her. 
I am heartbroken she was raped, I literally cry so much over it, I feel my whole family has been affected, my other child and my husband. This stranger took something very precious, he hurt my baby. I can’t fix it, I can’t find him. Do you know how powerless and useless that makes me feel? 
I feel inadequate, like I can’t cope with this myself so how can I know what’s best for her? How can I be enough to support her? 
How will this ever leave us? 
I feel huge guilt that maybe I in some way didn’t protect her enough or made her to naive and too nice and this is why she was a target... I am angry at myself. 
I wonder if I do enough now to support her... sometimes I feel so overwhelmed I just can’t support her, it makes me so sad to hear her sad. 
To think she has nightmares of this man makes me feel sick. To know that she is scared makes me feel sick and I don’t know how to take this away for her. 
I am not able to work atm, I have been off work with depression. I am low, I am having therapy (very low cost), my childhood trauma has come up through all this. I don’t feel myself either, I feel overwhelmed, it’s been over a year of hell. It’s lonely, so lonely that sometimes it hurts inside, I feel inadequate, like I don’t know what I am doing. Thanks for reading, any kind responses gratefully received. ",2.3447640258245315,3.9734616298984062,3.2748613682998844,92.74179608127724,76.38751814223512,6.377268404984736,21.74868625193934,7.0983637204850245,0.4154587157799909,2609,68,582,28,58,831,260,689,0.197,0.706,0.097,-0.9975,1,4,1,0,0,0,89.0,5,1,0,5,37,40,5,6,12,0,81,11,3,16,5,126,139,59,0,18,21,7,13,2,0,6,4,3,9,2,34,41,0,2,25,1,5,16,18,25,0,0,19,17,119,15,67,107,15,81,1,14,1,4,80,33,1,17,32,405,153,8,0.04927177828242274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040998066610838615,0.0,0.0,0.06701299766663736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887737287228547,0.07577391226763283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05170769148025239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05635378820358599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29710291918229803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801851703227816,0.0,0.10824546963754862,0.031776220839646645,0.0,0.042437710436006734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043118065211602635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043640170919624285,0.15273275442689185,0.0,0.0,0.044569144318993774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464490474886974,0.0,0.2740462070597103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045033512716608236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287123526745637,0.0,0.0,0.04132682993960926,0.0,0.0,0.05427841872748988,0.0,0.0,0.10490144837326658,0.08827567075499915,0.0,0.0,0.10474719252397943,0.05553287508806083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49423610992512,0.0,0.04852277656426443,0.0,0.1054929154289816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130897493562119,0.16247088465418213,0.040163075516819566,0.0,0.05217169891793004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04814340411027551,0.04938326599958762,0.21753941462101886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377820784050087,0.0,0.04662214795258714,0.13155717842058334,0.0,0.04950012386181586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965436366275111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03622042632105114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046238226156255724,0.04827588132769504,0.0,0.0,0.10340488580433947,0.0,0.0,0.03747340765514578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703548758849512,0.0,0.0,0.05147852134170049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05759607210376106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04928511192537997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07836579142911003,0.04932964559192346,0.0,0.03926322805245185,0.0897103528594859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04075812415572783,0.0,0.14792208531430906,0.0,0.0,0.03793182212309965,0.09746209719484902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039348505783293485,0.041193412888290926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795651504895201,0.0,0.0,0.03704624531991607,0.0,0.04306570596037503,0.0453628335702703,0.056346572544006865,0.0,0.03273398012285672,0.06314273203233556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547427586156094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059267882599706535,0.0,0.0,0.20327188620530487,0.14530885709364522,0.03910964418808671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04567543210062911,0.04446011616502462,0.05501018085568109,0.0,0.0,0.05343314175394368,0.1076113242409526,0.0500378825548339,0.0,0.10500377284635637,0.0,0.0,0.15864704887586842
parenting,MotherBearhyde,2019/02/18,"My toddler suddenly refuses to say ""daddy"" I have two children from a previous marriage, and one with my now husband. My older boys (7m and 5m) have always called my husband by his name, so we knew once our boy was born (now 2.5) we would eventually run into some confusion with him. Ever since he was really little, we always made a conscious effort to make sure our child knows to call him ""daddy"" even though his brothers call him something different. He was really good about it, despite there still being some slip-ups where he would accidentally call him by his name instead of ""daddy"" he generally had a pretty good grasp on who he is to him. Now, all of a sudden, he refuses to call my husband anything other than his name, because his older brothers do it. All of our efforts to correct him and encourage him to call him ""Dad"" are met with shutdowns and anger. My husband is pretty down about the whole ordeal, he doesn't like that his only child calls him by his actual name. What do we even do to correct this? Do we just keep continuing to urge him to say ""daddy"" again and hope he eventually picks it back up?",7.490687054880603,6.489744838709679,7.927599497276919,73.36204859656473,63.74654377880184,10.655886049434436,34.01298701298701,9.800150414767053,3.142478341013824,878,31,164,15,11,291,121,217,0.045,0.86,0.095,0.9049,1,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,8,0,0,2,17,8,1,1,5,0,17,0,0,3,6,42,24,7,0,3,1,7,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,5,8,14,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,7,2,32,6,27,14,5,20,0,0,0,0,64,6,0,4,14,116,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.10519578297933946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939397016995154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870897802696212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289039021053851,0.0,0.06571296323888969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7705202264217952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262648565389667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239978123051886,0.09750991214239466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808325296843376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706823081278603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581625720037702,0.0,0.0,0.059243234792427615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05266490053555007,0.10804241370351284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020015443466592,0.07195633383534318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148018811726384,0.07304705143331078,0.08198561457623021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21933965147374407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811695506902238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714513831032927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917203070062353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298854957033859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608801897568223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159880770622894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591147600730093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530346786226402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035317222567235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531539187976545,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SunflowerRenaissance,2019/02/18,"I think my ex told our son (3.5) that he had to like girls We've been divorced for a year now. This homophobia was something I was concerned would surface as our son grew, but not this soon. Perhaps I should have seen it coming. 


I had our son in swimming classes since he was 2.5. But after almost a year, he just didn't like them. He went through 3 instructors (the school kept changing the instructor schedules) and had started crying and not advancing at all in his skills. He wasn't having fun anymore. 


They have a dance program after school on the campus of his school once a week. I asked him if he wanted to try it. He said yes. I let him try and the instructor said he did great and he told me he liked, so I canceled swimming and signed him up for dance for a month.


Just to be clear all of this is during my time with him and I was paying for all of it. There is nothing in the custody agreement about extracurriculars.


Well, they had a talent show at school and the dance teacher texted me the night before to let me that the PK3 group would in fact perform first thing in the morning. This was the first I had heard of it. I asked a coworker to cover me for 30 mins, so I could watch. I had no expectations because he'd only had 3 lessons at this point. I figured I would learn whether he really liked it or not. He did ok in performance, but the whole time he was beaming, he gave an adorable bow at the end and bounced off stage. He was walking on clouds as he hugged me. He was so proud of himself and happier and more confident than I had seen him in a long time. I confirmed with his teacher that he was doing well in class and signed him up for the rest of the school year.


That afternoon, I told his father during our weekend exchange. I told him that I had signed our son up for dance and that he had performed that morning and that he was really proud and happy with himself. Well, his father blew up at me, telling me that our son was going to turn gay and that he didn't approve of letting him dance and that if he turned gay I would have to ""face the consequences alone."" I disengaged at that point and went into the house.


Two weeks later he comes for his next weekend. He says nothing this time. But when our son comes back, he starts insisting that our betta fish is a girl. I correct him a few times, until he starts stamping his feet and saying, ""no! Steve is a girl, I like girls."" In that whiny, stressed, I'm about to cry voice I'm sure your all familiar with. I drop the subject immediately and move on.


I just don't know how to handle this, or if I should do anything. 3 is way, way, waaaaaay, too young to be discussing sexuality.  He can like who he wants and be friends with who he wants. He's 3! And if dancing makes him happy, he should be allowed to dance.


What are your thoughts r/parenting?",3.531226753398382,4.697910784588443,3.9920027520640495,90.6564988324577,72.5026269702277,6.909198565590861,26.20469518805771,7.1686216300943375,0.9963549829038444,2202,72,480,21,42,691,245,571,0.037000000000000005,0.807,0.155,0.9975,2,1,1,0,1,0,71.0,8,2,3,11,18,23,0,1,29,2,57,5,2,3,8,81,90,40,0,16,17,9,0,6,1,7,0,6,0,4,30,30,0,1,6,12,2,19,9,1,3,3,41,9,68,22,64,33,8,84,0,0,3,3,96,27,0,7,40,311,98,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599258513205569,0.07859885533039172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526220293252668,0.0,0.0,0.06245076741933084,0.0,0.14189327423671386,0.0,0.0,0.058354504757822334,0.0,0.04626166454560692,0.0,0.06457655605912081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028125353525829,0.19611680355202465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605917604759687,0.0,0.16672257202892804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721576028876068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910350189436207,0.0,0.0,0.058632203863773415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043129872668555135,0.0,0.0,0.08366867628630391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157202089762107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756653943387091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041707001472457456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23280711909810897,0.0,0.22245528204652645,0.0,0.0,0.0671600077261013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05065697259338197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057444473416665,0.08065875460793819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070957052254651,0.07121735456124895,0.0,0.1456364523944952,0.0,0.0,0.08082006736944952,0.0,0.057717546312785466,0.0,0.0,0.08426654513254563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348061665519352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723378658539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437699090173087,0.12070109123173488,0.0,0.3840222046062811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277675465837827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058423608556392115,0.0,0.0,0.16114538798556324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869314096183008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152515620475924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633095396968583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05041775306717649,0.048627063675802135,0.0,0.060247955007280585,0.2212595091395828,0.0,0.0,0.2900634910853326,0.0,0.1030482669316574,0.1650924305134608,0.07413322220797584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13428515654847936,0.12047544330505985,0.1217483000371717,0.0,0.20470189741061226,0.14070104816115064,0.0,0.08472815417352324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21563949838953966,0.0,0.0,0.146611460721357
parenting,Tonsai,2019/02/18,"Potty train 3.5 yo son that just doesn't get it. I've browsed through a lot of the posts on here regarding potty training, but didn't see anything that really seemed to work for what we're dealing with, but my wife and I are about at our wits end here. My 3.5 year old son is having trouble with popping on the toilet. He understands what poop is, he knows the poop is supposed to go into the toilet. But, what he does is poop in his pants, then reaches in and pulls it out, and puts it into the toilet. He pees just fine, that was easy enough to get for him, but for whatever reason, pooping just isn't clicking for him. He even knows he's NOT supposed to poop in his pants, because he goes off and hides before popping himself, then skulks over looking sad to tell us.

We've tried positive reinforcement with candy and treats. We've tried taking away toys and telling him he can have them back if he poops in the potty, letting him pick his own underwear, having him see me poop and praising myself, but nothing is seeming to work. Anyone have any advice?? His 5 year old sister was a breeze compared to this, though I imagine it's because she already sat to pee, so it was an easy transition. ",7.126012658227848,6.022033890295358,6.750474683544308,81.84191455696205,64.52742616033754,9.250210970464137,33.25210970464135,7.793537801064563,2.223866666666665,940,32,189,8,12,294,135,237,0.04,0.8740000000000001,0.087,0.9092,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,1,3,10,5,0,0,9,0,18,9,9,2,0,32,31,17,0,1,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,13,0,0,7,1,0,3,4,2,0,0,5,4,20,3,31,25,3,25,1,1,4,0,31,13,0,4,8,118,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472925224411167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16633533183294416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250220267262006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539457245548492,0.0,0.1240387140840199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161667255070515,0.1159027827883762,0.0,0.1837683544573122,0.0,0.12826092143534776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539697251413007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190565451667005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350286660875976,0.15574534586949124,0.0,0.09955635913374412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575013817581983,0.0,0.08566386235886574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656755567536108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413259049664446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265760204836683,0.0,0.0,0.12814604835818585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463039467134006,0.0,0.31633351532138365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435856715928164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515262190130554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656209484656024,0.15497650249189027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24022607551056405,0.2744395592144447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333090231037815,0.0,0.2634909569364041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809237557322832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20467281743655752,0.0,0.0,0.15691621622087654,0.18131075241353287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946782766107428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941315568443314
parenting,fuckmedangit,2019/02/18,"Should I let my kids resolve conflicts on their own? I have two young boys 8 and 7. Occassionaly they will start fights over toys or just for no reason. Our usual policy is to get involved rather quickly instead of letting them figure it out. 

For the last months, the fights are happening more often. So I started wondering if it would be better not to get involved and let them figure it out. 
As it could serve ( in my opinion) a more educational purpose to learn some social interaction, instead of me breaking them up everytime. On top of that i feel like, as much as we love our children, we are too overprotective in general. 

Should i only intervene when they start fighting physically?",5.986106736657916,7.5200832362204775,6.3590026246719145,74.605135608049,67.03149606299213,9.109011373578305,33.0087489063867,9.444778638647367,3.1910706911636044,549,24,94,11,9,177,92,127,0.093,0.8029999999999999,0.105,0.3939,0,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,4,0,6,3,9,7,3,0,3,0,13,1,0,1,0,27,22,9,0,6,5,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,6,0,1,7,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,18,4,19,13,5,19,0,0,0,1,21,9,0,6,10,79,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896870385295987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525383344423811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660090876103113,0.13648656558191355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996320752998634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894538834461995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573171395833552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5860864565511184,0.0,0.09333765830186712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243059879019101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249474246892844,0.0,0.1404441517163369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530256776653813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964318056756356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19475199683506644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056797309287311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866286464301776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104152117424232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20718619379722475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13571684361843514,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThoseMeddlingCows,2019/02/18,"What would a new parent do if they were very sick? So I’m getting married in a few months and the plan is to start TTC after that. My fiancé works fairly long hours (outside the house between 8am and 8pm) and we don’t live near our families.  

Today I have a bad flu and I barely was able to leave the bed to pour a glass of water and get some medicine from the cabinet before returning to huddling under a pile of blankets. I usually like to prepare dinner but that’s out of the question.  

What would I do in this scenario if I had a nursing baby with me? You have to eat enough to feed the baby right? Or maybe you’re not supposed to breastfeed a baby if you’re sick because you would pass the flu to them? 

What if I had a toddler who wants to put everything in sight in their mouth and needs constant supervision?  

Sorry if this question sounds naive but I can’t figure out how that would work out 

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parenting,ooh_ahhhoohahhh,2019/02/18,"My daughter is obsessed with men My daughter is 14. She's absolutely infatuated with MEN. Not boys. She has posters of these Korean men all over her walls. Not BTS or any of the cutesy boy bands. I'm talking about Rain and D-Lite. I don't know why but it just worries me she's more into old men than boys closer to her age, or even celebrities in their 20s. I also kinds feel like I'm acting kinda dumb so I don't really know. What if she has daddy issues???? Idk. She never talks about boys at school or in real life to my wife, and she has a very close relationship with her and tells her everything. ",0.5177688172042991,2.8592034112903235,2.3840000000000003,92.69433333333332,87.46774193548387,5.242150537634409,17.137634408602153,6.742157984588678,-0.12216817204301078,469,11,103,6,15,155,85,124,0.094,0.8540000000000001,0.053,-0.7248,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,0,6,4,1,1,2,0,7,1,0,0,2,23,12,10,0,1,8,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,3,8,0,0,3,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,1,18,2,15,12,2,12,0,0,0,0,27,8,1,5,4,62,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18500500447631346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573212504369397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279994477673134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079162735398753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697402939000892,0.16527156668075346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24146210591718606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24090825292324414,0.25428025033335605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340448286359852,0.11302255978156572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842607116724812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24275568177017415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633191108898432,0.14820432254114926,0.0,0.0,0.24837592641387604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23413158192477165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718896634064304,0.2022040782696936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908822970467696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087511770313034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349401616654529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Littlekera,2019/02/18,"Everything keeps breaking Sorry vent post but everything expensive that we own is breaking it's making me sooo mad. 

Washer and dryer 
Vacuum 
Carpet shampooer 
My freaking driver side window in my van thank goodness I'm married to a mechanic so that was easy and one of the cheapest fix 
My coffee maker 
My crosswave to do my floors 

It sounds seems like we are rich because I have all this extra stuff but normally we save up and replace stuff cuz we know their going out or I find super cheap deals like the crosswave was only 50 but it allows me to clean my floors without getting sick (motion sickness yeah me) it's just never ending we just moved across states so maybe karma is like you hated texas must get rid of anything texas lol ok vent over ",1.9258333333333368,4.7525599166666685,2.869388888888892,87.31450000000002,88.72222222222223,4.8244444444444445,21.088888888888885,6.508806274219699,0.7091872222222224,604,20,104,7,20,191,105,144,0.08,0.6409999999999999,0.279,0.99,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,5,1,1,1,5,12,2,0,3,3,8,2,0,4,3,29,18,10,0,2,7,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,4,0,9,9,0,1,3,0,3,3,2,3,0,1,2,1,18,9,11,15,3,17,1,0,0,0,8,8,0,2,5,67,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417183774905868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420589586092092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19314805873362334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659351472790832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367534710547135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712331186531748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957636988821849,0.0,0.10647445989808288,0.15713901820496642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18496783932484284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652393914772373,0.0,0.0,0.10296182624684808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745870152388405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505656667251694,0.0,0.18821673174633827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991217873266197,0.0,0.0,0.14449469916240731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356173473501108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695218017505094,0.14248696298092484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942805807138434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055502190417954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097212874089644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289383788405791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172485311373848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059725132236487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puzzleman777,2019/02/18,"My Autistic Son (25) is playing with a coworkers Son (10), is this appropriate? My son is 25 and has Autism as well as Anxiety.

Even with his difficulties, he's been able to acquire and hold a fulltime job; which his mother and I are extremely proud of.

He's quite close with one of his coworkers, Megan, who is around the same age as me and my wife. (Late 40s)

Megan has taken him to the movies (he pays his own way), with and without her kids. She's asked him if he wanted to tag along with her when she was researching some work stuff. (He gladly went). They've gone out to dinner (he always pays his own way and offers gas money)

Megan's one son (Andrew) is 10, and has similar interests as my son. 

Megan's son, and my son, recently started playing an online video game together.

I guess Andrew asked Megan to text my Son and ask if he would share his xbox name and if he wanted to play with Andrew.

They've been playing with a mic, (my son has never used one before. And it seems it's really just Andrew talking and my son saying an odd sentance-which is huge for him-)

Is this appropriate? A 25 year old playing video games with a 10 year old? 

My son doesn't have any friends outside of a couple of cousins. 

My son is the sweetest boy, doesn't swear, and is respectful. 

If this is okay, what's going to happen in a few years when Andrew grows up; starts getting interested in girls (or boys), my son has no interest in it. 

I know for myself when I hit puberty all I cared about was girls, and was too ""mature"" for childish hobbies/interests.

It's happened before with my other son, and my daughter. (As well as countless cousins) They surpassed my son mentally, and stopped playing with him. (Not to say my son is mentally challenged, he is the complete opposite actually. But his interests haven't grown up with him. We joke he's a man with a 12 year old's brain.)

But as his siblings aged, started hanging out with friends, going to sleepovers, driving, drinking, going out, dating. He stayed at being happy playing with toys and other childish things. He still sleeps with his childhood teddy bear.

I've seen the pain in his eyes, the frustration and anger. I've comforted as he cried, wanting to be grown up like his siblings. Cried as he didn't understand why they wouldn't play with him. It tears me apart.

When Andrew moves on from my son, my son will obviously be upset. I don't want him to strain his relationship with Megan over this. He needs an ally at work. 

TL;DR My 25 year old son, is playing video games with his coworkers (40s) son (10). Is this an appropriate relationship. How will we deal with the fallout when the son (10) gets to old to mentally enjoy playing games with my son?

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parenting,Badstreet33,2019/02/18,"Advice please Please help. I was a single mom for years. My current husband and I got together 12 years ago. My middle son is autistic.  Adhd. And o.d.d. bio father hasn't been in his life since he was 6 months old. Hes now almost 17. My other children are 18. 13 and 5 .

However the past year he and his stepfather argue daily.. and I'm talking screaming and yelling for HOURS. Over STUPID shit! Its like having 2 uncontrolled teenagers, when it's hard enough with just one. I have asked my husband repeatedly to stop and think about how hes handling the situation as hes the adult. I have asked him to let the small stuff go and ""pick"" what needs to be managed more strictly. He wont. It isnt all on him though. My son can and does keep the fight going.

Am I in the wrong for feeling like at this point he needs to shape up or ship out? 
I cannot be ""in the middle anymore"" I feel so defeated. I cant even go out for time alone because I know they will fight the whole time

I'm sorry. I'm just exhausted ",0.5431891025641029,2.8064518125000006,2.0861538461538487,95.54217948717951,86.16346153846153,5.005128205128205,19.724358974358974,6.42735559955562,0.016999358974359342,779,23,174,8,24,252,137,208,0.172,0.763,0.065,-0.9679,2,1,0,0,4,0,30.0,0,0,1,1,9,12,5,1,9,0,22,3,1,2,1,27,38,15,0,2,3,6,3,2,0,2,2,2,0,2,7,12,0,2,4,0,0,3,5,10,0,1,4,5,22,2,20,29,5,32,0,1,0,0,27,14,1,2,17,101,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748921281409085,0.13618551178903196,0.1235383432423722,0.0,0.1395535542697875,0.1443397353022287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821227298895547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605742482941036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495539008914116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195893430639895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144000926078754,0.0,0.09204902934500124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093389732119382,0.0995621255853208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23761240714370524,0.0,0.11146263260436316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484334208443584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934131795009368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372460960463686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387369411035935,0.0,0.0,0.07659116061524161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250978510159096,0.09843736566917033,0.13617304557514193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322218023567406,0.1112395248284021,0.0,0.0,0.2066742271183405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623974444218096,0.0,0.09443708582762322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330393168785113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059610452982771,0.1317446300073742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305579868874904,0.11528386911532534,0.15665169281487884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600730284120193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651507811504395,0.0,0.0,0.15953916837613324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201601738148692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929923304844803,0.13692504972583544,0.0,0.1625292828912717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559564187856495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237335436393534,0.0,0.26923877381979044
parenting,mrs_harder,2019/02/18,"How Do My Husband And I Tell Our Daughter He Isn't Her Biological Dad? My husband and I met when I was pregnant with her and I had just left an abusive relationship with her biological father(BD). BD threatened my life the day I left and continued to be on drugs through out my pregnancy, as well as having some kind of schitzophrenia that he would not take medication for. He had supervised visits for my daughter's first few months of life and then suddenly moved across the country for a ""new start"" when she was 4 months old. All in all he saw her maybe 5 times. He has since been incarcerated more times than I can count and has not changed his drug habits. 

My husband and I got married two years ago and he was able to adopt my daughter at the same time. He has been there every step of the way, never really seeing her as anything but his own child. He is the most wonderful man and they love each other dearly. He also has a son from a previous relationship who has taken his role as big brother in stride, and we welcomed our youngest daughter to the world last year. 

I was close with BD's family when we were together and they expressed how much they wanted to still be in my daughter's life despite BD not being involved. Aside from a few members, they have never been anything but understanding and loving towards her. She has an uncle who is just a little older than her and they adore each other. 

The issue is, her uncle is asking questions about how he is related to my daughter. His parents were able to give him an answer that satisfied him for now, but it wasn't the whole truth. We just worry something will slip and our daughter will find out from someone else that my husband isn't her bio dad. 

So here is my question: How do I tell my kid? When do I tell her? I always thought we would just answer truthfully whenever she has questions, but now I'm not so sure it's in her best interest to wait. 

Tldr: My husband has been around since I was pregnant but isn't my 4 year old's bio dad. Her bio father hasn't been involved since she was months old and my husband has since adopted her. Her 5 year old uncle is asking questions and we are worried he will tell her. Do we tell her now? How do we do it?",4.881504134810424,5.591113497737559,5.384454673115934,83.60527149321268,69.0,8.087501950382277,29.494772975503203,8.104835398774808,1.8735848650335467,1754,63,353,22,29,563,195,442,0.037000000000000005,0.855,0.108,0.9896,1,0,3,0,0,0,37.0,10,0,5,2,25,12,0,0,16,0,54,8,0,5,7,74,72,38,0,3,13,20,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,3,10,32,0,1,10,0,0,3,11,0,1,2,21,2,68,12,39,43,14,55,0,0,2,2,100,17,0,7,34,254,78,3,0.1589833736463631,0.0941846503086478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704645841148218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356947323294286,0.06614345138314888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082977024961345,0.07076445448891779,0.14862799318146133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083421621073584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409166443739875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05126556181777905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437023954921103,0.0,0.06640510419030324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06697517459687043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493768775793952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265396164305772,0.06761558820345119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625566936178316,0.0,0.0,0.06357676365628756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296866845479206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277835931600397,0.0,0.06479633437500171,0.0,0.0,0.17273590064584665,0.0,0.16844198775504474,0.0,0.07967155341226027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348870184116988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986008382278917,0.0,0.0,0.08007951152475219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190348518082002,0.08448708294583814,0.05843553624575095,0.0,0.12261777877017087,0.0767735664778822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336526135196446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826611101024763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35619552707651336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05092441007990267,0.0,0.0,0.1706886454295434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334458257468825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26302537913824664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735304828500785,0.0611965841289259,0.0,0.0,0.056264625074914615,0.0,0.06348216378059071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491997408537714,0.0,0.05976785562854504,0.0,0.34739619010692474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310752003002386,0.13905672552542686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765182743239492,0.08275364940783744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04688625644690056,0.06309680096678222,0.0,0.0,0.0714725730218451,0.0,0.0,0.08874962952628714,0.0,0.0,0.08620534347140481,0.0,0.16145533317448652,0.0,0.11293722718254648,0.0,0.0,0.2047601603072063
parenting,J4ameskl,2019/02/18,"Need help with baby registry! Hey reddit parents! Sorry on mobile so apologize for the editing in advance. 

I’m going to be a first time momma and a lot of the information I’m getting is already overwhelming at times. One thing I’m curious about is my baby registry. I feel that there is a lot of things I don’t really need but have no idea. 

So I guess I’m looking for things you received and never used/things you wished you had. And why for context. Thank you!!

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parenting,pfthrow401,2019/02/18,"redshirting in a montessori environment Our kid will be 4 in May. She started in a Montessori primary class this past September. She goes half days (until 12.30pm) for now. I'm hearing a lot about the benefits of redshirting but am confused as to how this plays out in a Montessori environment. She is slated to go on to a Montessori elementary. So would we have her just repeat the last year of the Montessori primary cycle where she's at (it's a 3 yr cycle from ages 3-6)? Or do we have her finish out the primary cycle and then have her repeat the last year of the primary cycle but in the elementary Montessori where she will be for first grade so she can effectively ""move up"" to what is their equivalent of first grade with kids from that school's primary class? A third option is to try and talk the program into doing a half day K where she's currently at and her repeating K at the elementary school full day? Or, does the Montessori environment remove the need for redshirting in the first place since it's a more child-centered educational approach - meaning they're not expected to sit in chairs all day?

In a similar vein, I'm interested to hear people's opinions about half vs full day K in general. 

Thanks in advance

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parenting,reallarrynoodles,2019/02/18,"My son went to a school where the rabbis were child rapists AMA I write about these scumbags in my blog ([https://larrynoodles.com/](https://larrynoodles.com/))

Thankfully my son was not sexually assaulted but he described a lot of abusive situations that occurred. He was physically assaulted on several occasions. Unfortunately a lot of his friends were not as lucky and were raped.

You NEVER in a million years think that an institution trusted with children would violate them.. But it happens. 

My son was 13 years old and knew about  the assaults but rarely spoke out about it. He told me that the abuse was normalized, so in his prepubescent mind he noticed red flags but didn't think they were worth mentioning. 

My first bit of advice to ANY parent who is worried about this or suspects this conduct from an authority figure should pry pry pry pry and don't stop. This is your kid. He/she is worth thorough investigation, even if your suspicions are wrong and you feel embarrassed. Don't. 

Some of the parents of the victims who didn't heed the red flags because they didn't want to insult the Jewish community or bring shame to the rabbis, are seriously regretting it and have to live with trauma for the rest of their lives. ",6.565663788451161,8.83675283027523,5.866222342147868,75.84480572045331,66.56880733944953,8.982622773880196,31.63086886130599,9.478462496947786,3.0223968699406365,999,41,170,21,17,304,134,218,0.254,0.645,0.101,-0.9933,2,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,4,4,1,7,18,8,2,15,0,21,2,0,0,1,36,32,14,0,6,9,5,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,12,8,0,1,6,1,2,2,8,14,0,2,15,4,17,4,25,15,5,14,3,1,2,2,30,6,0,7,6,114,29,1,0.0,0.3720493699917814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534230017924879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676845887178166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570849934550488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140827420500293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370000603347798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938620377925272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354796620404266,0.0,0.0,0.12130130422759187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883858028571022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27727573875739664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669592601324064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852981025788446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109156638511455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383109633972172,0.0,0.17875068891146778,0.1647498348314955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486698828882528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588969583313873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17737042029510675,0.0,0.0,0.17647966095516085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126281058581704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454866963117946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012043162606559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500245490482016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260533492016793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554476485133433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944571326784832,0.0,0.11153150774619136,0.1716597978199045,0.0,0.2022115291400024
parenting,jilly_roger,2019/02/18,"My(38f) daughter (2) is Elsa obsessed. I just bought her the dress and it arrives on Friday. Is it creepy to buy an adult sized Anna dress? Sorry about formatting, on mobile, etc...

She also identifies as Mickey Mouse and sometimes Donald Duck, which is cute till she starts making the sound. 

On public transportation. 

Last night a man thought I had smuggled aboard a wild animal. I said “No. This is my daughter Demonica” it got weird. He offered me Holy Water and I told him I’d prefer vodka. 

Anyway, she calls me “Minnie” when she pretends to be Mickey and “Daisy” when Demonica Duck comes around and I’m pretty creeped out about it, so if I’m going to be her sidekick in adventures, I’d rather be her sister. That seems reasonable to me, but like, is it weird? 

I’d like to think I’m a pretty fun Mom and there really aren’t any strong mother-daughter movies that I’ve seen (yes please recommendations) so this is pretty much the purest pretend duo that we can play dress up for. I’m not really comfortable asking my mommy groups for their opinions, those bitches are crazy judgmental.  Thanks internet strangers!
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parenting,anonymon-,2019/02/18,"F22, student, scapegoat of my family Now that I won’t engage in arguments or the arguments don’t involve me, my family take my belongings. Before have broken belongings such as a ps4 slim. I bought with my own money. Any advice recommend. 
Thank you ",3.4434782608695684,6.292111173913046,5.4414782608695695,72.43613043478264,78.56521739130434,9.76695652173913,26.591304347826085,9.888512548439397,3.659761739130434,198,8,31,7,5,68,38,46,0.213,0.6459999999999999,0.141,-0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,2,4,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,22,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.366495485463214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550475333503008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191407675579661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.707129386892727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28199166781756163,0.0,0.0,0.3452965606890814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kairi2202,2019/02/18,"Potty Training Tips So...my DS is 2.5 and we have hit that point. There are a few factors that have us decided it is time to train, but the main one is that DS is the size of an average 4-5 year old, and outgrowing diapers. I could specialize order bigger diapers, but would prefer to train. 

I was thinking to focus on day training for now and do super duty pull ups or something for night time. He has had a problem for the past year for peeing through normal diapers some nights, so we have relied on the heavy duty. I have picked up all the basic supplies like a potty, toilet insert, step stool, etc. 

I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for getting started. I have been reading through a few resources, but figured hearing from other parents is always a great reference as well.",5.474802631578946,6.352316875000002,6.174842105263162,77.86489473684213,67.75,8.71157894736842,32.305263157894736,8.841846274778883,2.791571578947368,623,26,110,10,10,204,104,152,0.023,0.868,0.109,0.9366,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,11,0,20,1,1,1,1,25,26,10,0,6,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,2,6,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,5,1,8,5,17,18,6,20,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,4,12,80,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196079284598666,0.0,0.0,0.1323657324636562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610078044196586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540873159127708,0.0,0.0,0.12553035658217498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21708137788313428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016943305454968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21459754186763907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937982011819304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509404399503536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36532355728596294,0.1907114325509487,0.0,0.0,0.20424789110167454,0.0,0.1318969456330392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21613098533127992,0.0,0.18581131969077527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840030762199223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624962178442064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194698347088091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984774876008455,0.0,0.0,0.13777120932998288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247210879416828,0.0,0.0,0.22699891468925934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341347787754857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750098362165271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110849295618453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827070158734242,0.0,0.0,0.2506908636693496
parenting,Demiansky,2019/02/18,"Can't find friends for my 5 year old daughter because I can't seem to get the parents on board. Any dads having this same problem? My daughter just turned 5 and is at a great age to start developing friendships and spend time with friends.  The problem, though, is I can't seem to get the parents to ever call me back/consent to a play date.

The thing is, I'm a normal guy with a warm, gregarious disposition.  I don't think I'm being weird about it or anything.  So for instance, my daughter just recently made a really good friend in pre-school, is always talking about her, etc.  So I struck up a conversation with the parent of said friend in the parking lot of the school and mentioned that our girls were friends, and that maybe we should get them together for a play date.  The parent said ""sure.""  We exchanged numbers and at spaced out intervals dropped a text to see if the kids might get together at the park or something.  I asked twice over maybe 2 weeks, and the parent mentioned they were busy and never made a counter offer (aka, never said anything like ""Hey we're free Monday afternoon!"")

This seems to keep happening, sometimes with just no reply by text what so ever.  Am I doing this wrong?  I'll admit that ever since my eldest daughter was born, my wife and I have had near 0 social life.  Our eldest daughter had severe health issues so being primary caretaker and working a job and retraining my skills left me with 0 time to socialize or ""make parent friends.""

I can't tell whether parents now a days are just shut ins or if maybe it has something to do with the fact that I'm a father, and most primary caretakers are mothers and would prefer to just hang out with other mothers.  My wife is way more shy than I am, but she's actually had mothers come up to HER to arrange play dates in the past.  Maybe there's a better angle to this that I'm not really seeing?

I'm not a weirdo or anything.  I have a lot of positive relationships and developed friendships with my customers through work and employees.  I have a great relationship with my wife, and we've been together since we were 15.

Anyway, it's not a huge deal, but I just want my daughter to have more 1 on 1 time with friends outside of the context of school so that she can hone her social skills.  Any ideas?",7.295981908374671,6.406676456375841,7.089341503744772,78.85097753136856,64.07829977628636,10.011049508802646,34.64731057290147,9.085049710711278,2.8401108647018773,1804,68,354,25,23,572,217,447,0.061,0.833,0.106,0.9726,9,0,2,0,0,0,50.0,5,0,2,5,20,22,0,0,31,0,36,2,0,3,7,80,65,31,0,9,19,21,1,1,7,3,2,3,0,3,16,31,0,1,8,3,3,2,11,4,0,1,13,6,36,19,52,47,7,46,0,0,2,0,62,19,0,14,24,228,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.06397386242716413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454840889472377,0.0,0.0,0.08916158004910693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184268405889762,0.0,0.06128664573534837,0.0,0.0,0.05040903988427387,0.0,0.03996274328555236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057979555519952035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694069934090212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056471274515758216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04227863484254757,0.06758605787458108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311302665367682,0.0,0.17789930911700844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059917617309833464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3545424951743672,0.0,0.13700263693191514,0.0,0.0,0.05498583236294728,0.0,0.14455294094207258,0.0,0.06491141940987298,0.05797155508685736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968368463089712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400551145321667,0.0,0.06842414113086015,0.06505488874033875,0.05826978879587385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122752398152411,0.0,0.046304621399718734,0.03202768215778451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111467888989249,0.0,0.12406263028001906,0.043759592553718966,0.0,0.2634419834851401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954527700449477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112270518472054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423162680847216,0.0,0.0,0.06879070720710688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5095505405259964,0.0,0.06258126837770546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545777712072967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399457499337039,0.0,0.06472931208819548,0.14076667954084618,0.0,0.0,0.1870782433063457,0.0,0.0,0.19904057836271707,0.10448037165565854,0.1790410163601038,0.0,0.07406038775214364,0.0,0.10845832528311422,0.0,0.0,0.20048033669500967,0.0,0.10093746921937816,0.06483723220397475,0.0,0.04640135509585284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617863945006116,0.0,0.0,0.05269197565674537,0.057299427320932086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043552944811824236,0.04200607309515465,0.06440910465849843,0.0,0.11467988084841367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130684210998453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866702802357835,0.05203584069339782,0.05258561389464663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545208675517283,0.0,0.0,0.046569584130889165,0.07167593766110862,0.0,0.04221635217175955
parenting,needteatoday,2019/02/18,"Boundaries on babysitting I’m a sahm by choice I feel taking care of my kids is my full time job, so lately a friend who works full time keeps asking me to mind her daughter who is an only child and very full on, originally she asked me to mind her and she would pay me I said no way, I’m not interested in child minding my own are enough!
So I said now and then I wouldn’t mind taking her for a few hours,
Lately it’s becoming more and more of a habbit, 
I just want to say get a childminder and stop expecting me to drop my plans to mind your child, but I don’t want to fall out with her it’s awkward?",2.0184732824427485,3.0362736335877862,3.4808320610687,93.43926335877865,76.02290076335878,6.7667175572519085,20.733587786259534,7.1686216300943375,0.19829709923664085,470,10,114,5,10,155,78,131,0.081,0.862,0.057,-0.21,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,1,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,24,20,9,0,5,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,3,0,4,4,7,0,2,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,4,21,3,15,16,8,19,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,0,9,73,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540653977907108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007261368059802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854225095031367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040394553930008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870676384853365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498322967122922,0.0,0.07099350321926515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381784353412554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484337401509647,0.1207794690994622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306564939296842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6860178291576097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334549993538313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585125885817574,0.10805998706607126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360466302296625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20433491282930294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846948491933655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211809129299116,0.1602951791262549,0.10785797139422304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892478247271368,0.0,0.0,0.09652771639889347,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whosparentingwhom,2019/02/18,"Our potty training success story This is in part just for me to celebrate finally getting my 3 year old completely potty trained, and also to share the strategy that worked for her at last! So a bit of back story, she suffered from chronic constipation (despite a stellar diet) as a toddler which took us some time to get figured out with medicine etc. As a result, pooping was basically a traumatic experience for her and she developed some bad habits as a result which got in the way of potty training. She was convinced that pooping in the toilet would hurt. So even though she happily peed in the toilet for more than a year, pooping was just not happening.

What finally worked: I first convinced her to sit on the toilet while pooping in her diaper. Next I had the diaper on her, sitting on the toilet, but without the diaper fastened. When she pooped, I let the back of the diaper down so the poop went into the toilet. She was pretty proud of herself when she saw her poop in the toilet and realized it didn't hurt. Next I made a sort of makeshift diaper out of toilet paper, and just held that on her butt while she was pooping. It was essentially the same as just pooping directly into the toilet, but still gave her that little bit of the familiar to feel comfortable enough to go. Now she's super proud of herself and I'm so relieved! I've been waiting for this day!!",6.3809173003802275,6.857600996197717,6.927849334600757,74.67032913498099,65.65399239543726,9.92100760456274,33.54776615969582,9.827888789773867,3.3115249049429654,1094,45,193,22,16,359,135,263,0.048,0.809,0.14300000000000002,0.9816,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,7,17,13,0,0,24,0,12,12,10,3,0,31,26,21,0,1,8,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,11,10,1,2,3,0,0,3,3,4,0,1,16,2,27,9,43,8,9,42,0,3,1,1,23,17,1,3,19,152,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134830370797206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182355634554012,0.11848648065515513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098515458678999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878686886103432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151832407610468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662794323689662,0.15826390072421007,0.09372828506970016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388123497599425,0.0,0.0,0.07175248124885332,0.0,0.0,0.3109045298916109,0.0,0.12070608600360347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828117999446272,0.0,0.08064906130764574,0.0,0.11349605180739847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12548795828893602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30382891882211643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567320669093868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510959928931605,0.0,0.0,0.14222817006759572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427590609281587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018395695813062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890760449220514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367153412042125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14437051238961976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332717387502828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139422981265613,0.0,0.08274715696300994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766398241896865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706967393774189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263923137268407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315492807780969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679335690297273,0.0,0.20662008226928805,0.0,0.0,0.100806714986243,0.0,0.0,0.18276700814747734
parenting,papa2boys,2019/02/18,"Looking for a tool to help expression I have boys aged three, one and a half.

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I consider my 3 year old gifted, and looking for tools to help him express his feelings.

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At daycare, they have a poster with 5 faces (angry, sad, happy, etc), so he can point to them.

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I've heard that some people use emojis for this purpose.

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Does anyone have ready-made tools/sheets for this?",5.044780701754384,7.007457776315793,4.255263157894738,87.11517543859651,69.92105263157895,6.119298245614036,28.456140350877188,6.42735559955562,1.3044456140350875,325,12,58,2,6,96,57,76,0.042,0.836,0.123,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,1,1,0,6,9,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,7,1,9,8,2,5,0,1,2,0,11,2,0,1,3,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4887537430678785,0.548121387718709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885281795594322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868755402329284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257706114267515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570209213646301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004791150360646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117741477349994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894001876615045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833526393181225,0.0,0.07641723882238713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078181918842664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660600935120916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739881660386193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.548121387718709,0.07262148303611843
parenting,IMissMartyBooker,2019/02/18,"Is this supposed to exciting, or are we supposed to be bombarded by how much parenting is going to suck 24/7? My wife and I are expecting. We’re at 12 weeks, and I’m ecstatic. I love my wife, are finances are in ok shape, we’ve wanted to have kids. We’re the first of our friends to have them.

And I am fuuuuuuucking sick already of hearing how much my life is going to suck from now on. All we hear from parents are “oh my god is it exhausting” “enjoy your freedom because it’s gone forever” “hope we don’t scare you, we’re just being real!”

No offense to this community, but following this to get a glimpse of what’s to come has also scared the crap out of me. Outside of r/parenting on Reddit, I’ve seen people legitimately lob out rather killing themselves than dealing with a pregnancy and those few times comments have said “yeah, seems right”

What the almighty fuck, it’s so hard to block out the noise when I should be the happiest I’ve ever been, and all anyone around us can muster to say is how miserable I should actually be instead. And I know I should ignore it, but me cutting out the noise could end up with us isolating ourselves, and we’re far too social to do that. We love our friends and family, we love going out and having fun, and we know we’ll have to make sacrifices but I’m not expecting to want to die. 

Any ideas on how to keep the vibes positive? ",4.611339751303653,5.180380797833937,5.704807460890493,81.57123445647818,69.54151624548737,9.188046530284801,30.190332932210197,9.2995712137729,2.4285998395507424,1079,41,225,21,18,359,158,277,0.166,0.6729999999999999,0.161,0.3987,3,0,0,0,0,1,28.0,11,2,1,1,14,22,7,3,9,2,30,8,1,5,3,57,57,21,2,10,7,4,1,0,2,4,3,4,0,1,11,25,0,3,4,0,1,6,3,12,0,1,4,6,27,10,39,44,5,28,1,1,1,4,31,15,4,3,7,150,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.1174241586565694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278650993703076,0.09622739571945754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182813358875114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413713002794235,0.0,0.0,0.1071186973663302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335169911394814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365314281010853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607325259202608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405435097611152,0.0,0.0,0.12488294301521477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657615269238373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884485166335506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343587051225545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235214532949144,0.0,0.0,0.18593242670562676,0.1112426121619238,0.06286715685557331,0.0,0.20515795144084434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779152747516756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271240008923558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951426726400252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583727148312966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695431954326028,0.1331266777368061,0.0,0.13225980746701022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499222969323507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32580600540951604,0.0,0.08032082390874816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691194167343166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008347510609441,0.0,0.0,0.08342127069161345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369612262966476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276066936759592,0.11446083598181575,0.09569078646129453,0.2409414871701089,0.0,0.0,0.10954338700975128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266069282278926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701650539379381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894829590532217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194682206621778,0.0,0.09652100459071516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Doctourtwoskull,2019/02/18,"My philosophy on parenting (same goes for owning dogs or birds) I feel like you should treat your kid like your best friends. Because best friends also give consequences (if you fuck up they’ll put you in your place), they teach you how to do stuff, etc.",6.195,6.849370166666668,4.908333333333335,88.37000000000002,66.08333333333334,8.9,28.5,8.841846274778883,1.7695749999999997,200,6,42,3,3,58,39,48,0.055,0.596,0.35,0.9571,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,7,2,2,2,8,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,6,6,4,0,2,2,1,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,11,7,5,4,5,5,0,0,0,1,14,4,1,2,2,28,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19288587555447195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14703200269755606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5062446360689069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689994191679104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195690673284,0.1723118298000306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726978024391313,0.22298357432820468,0.0,0.2313790063501357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23567422365232404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678217269728297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25200047184418817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424705114051973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761138923667157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Camellia47,2019/02/18,"Teenage Daughter Having Sex at our House Our adopted daughter recently turned 18. This past weekend she wanted to spend time with her boyfriend. My husband drove an hour total to bring him back to our house. I did not agree with this, for one, daughter and boyfriend did a video of them having sex and boyfriend posted it to a porn site. I'm still trying to get over this. She seems to think this is not a big deal, but asked him to delete video and delete his account. Daughter's boyfriend has shown no appreciation for us picking him up and driving him home in the past and has been filling our daughter's head with ""you're 18 now, they can't tell you what to do"", etc. Daughter has decided that she doesn't want to be on birth control and refuses to use a condom. I'm so scared of her getting pregnant. She's a junior in High School. Boyfriend is also 18, is not in school and has no driver's license nor job. Though he is trying to get on with Job Corps. I saw a message where he couldn't believe that I was still upset about the video. I'm not a prude, but I can't get past this mainly because of the disrespect we have been shown.",3.683227621483377,4.918164417391303,3.7951662404092055,91.95047314578008,72.21739130434783,6.281329923273658,27.007672634271106,6.2272716619740125,0.8261611253196932,896,31,192,5,17,275,126,230,0.092,0.888,0.02,-0.9354,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,1,2,1,9,2,0,2,11,0,22,6,1,3,1,30,39,13,0,3,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,12,0,3,3,4,2,4,11,2,0,1,7,1,25,0,29,30,3,29,0,0,1,5,34,12,0,1,12,124,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096289364227097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815843821308828,0.0,0.0,0.10541193347874273,0.0,0.0835673531278446,0.0,0.0,0.15445082619053865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375544539959465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413313376553397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288895642012176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864905359005809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406914687370907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484061861491088,0.13751008066789072,0.0,0.13500371149718193,0.3163614623438153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272076660063623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289413292600822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3925969933799936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129206488739226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535750642404693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724864307651605,0.2774800214949375,0.0,0.1247994390810684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21895673326019924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198206400080328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878402245504984,0.13468791056671434,0.0,0.07993690549086363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861470181947434,0.14911198694387068,0.0,0.0,0.16489955212976026,0.11839970608548625,0.0,0.0,0.16171568413917373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MurderNight,2019/02/18,"My child has aspergers and an absent father My daughter is nine and has zero idea who her father is, as a person. He’s a stranger to her since she hasn’t seen him since she was like three. With her being on the spectrum, I fear this is going to impact her too much and be traumatic when her absent father chooses to push himself into our lives when he changes duty stations in a few months. He’s threatening to take me back to court but she’s 100% old enough to tell the courts she doesn’t want to be with him, I just worry that since she’s on the spectrum that if they made her get on stand she’s just going to short circuit and have a melt down. Or that he’s gonna push himself to be a part of her life and it’s gonna upset her whole balance and make her life a living hell. 
Any helpful advice or personal experience is welcome. ",4.207231168831168,4.41406472571429,5.04425974025974,87.23355844155846,70.31428571428572,7.506493506493506,26.19480519480519,6.980632752743323,1.0185428571428568,657,18,142,5,11,214,102,175,0.115,0.8240000000000001,0.062,-0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,1,0,8,5,1,2,10,0,14,2,0,2,0,21,24,13,0,2,6,4,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,6,9,0,1,2,0,0,4,2,3,0,3,3,1,26,2,19,15,5,17,1,0,1,0,36,7,1,3,6,99,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006673566682445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183509842745794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338235478409986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841078459631829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17982652566706972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702413743653415,0.0,0.19583977236642355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092703897897897,0.0,0.19781823536640894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116653190910598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646635058301845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458546614405072,0.08502558400870666,0.0,0.3073553458030862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467781747751298,0.11617090785817832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891450431233487,0.0,0.12793706460546664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18262233357510024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884648823734588,0.0,0.0,0.3039244219177572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43189509011480254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085400593778884,0.0,0.15211582428366724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10265140709805266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943058593432766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767428068459233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,naptimethrowaway,2019/02/18,"TODDLER WILL NOT NAP FOR MOM HELP ME Yeah so I’m pretty much going to give up on naptime. She will nap for dad, or grandma for like 2-3 hours but will not close her eyes for me. It’s so frustrating. I haven’t been putting her to bed lately because it’s going so well for dad to do it. There has been a change in that I am home more often now with her and that’s about when she started to resist sleeping for me. 

When we start naptime I always give her warnings around lunchtime and she simply says “no nap”. No matter what I say to her “you will feel better, it’ll make mama happy, dada will be home when you wake up,” I’ve even bribed her with candy once, she just says no nap. So when we used to start and we ALWAYS have read books first and she lays there with her stuffed animals and water and I would close the curtains and say have a good nappy and she would want me to tuck her in and then there wouldn’t be a peep until she woke up. Now we start the same with books and she hops up like she’s been burned and runs around the room wanting to play. I have gone about this in 2 different approaches. I would threaten her saying if you don’t come lay down mamas going to say bye bye and then I would leave and she would cry til I came back in or I would simply stop reading and she would look at me and Id say come back and she would act like she’s never heard English before and keep playing. And that’s badixalky how it’s been going. She just runs around her room playing until I get frustrated enough to end it. Today I tried another approach and sat on her bed keeping her on it telling her to lay on her pillow and I rubbed her back and played music and she kept sitting up talking to me. 

I have been getting quite short with her towards the end of this whole debacle each day and I think it’d be in our best interest to stop trying naps. I know she needs them, she rubs her eyes and acts like she’s very tired towards the end of the day AND SHE NAPS LIOE AN ANGEL FOREVERYBIDY ELSE!!!

Toddler is 2.5 and this has been happening for about 2 weeks. It’s making me feel like a failure of a parent. ",3.024132336343115,3.948815275395038,3.686714870203162,93.28788268905191,73.44695259593679,6.350141083521445,22.647361738148984,6.158741222570753,0.21394136568848765,1649,39,374,9,32,521,200,443,0.093,0.778,0.129,0.9318,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,3,1,4,28,17,2,0,12,1,36,6,4,4,1,81,71,44,0,13,8,4,4,5,0,15,1,8,8,0,16,44,1,5,4,14,0,15,9,2,1,1,12,15,68,15,55,40,7,73,1,0,3,0,64,26,0,4,38,253,84,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704192556364682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004910501371773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038762501443233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610215281638386,0.0,0.0465361314901097,0.0,0.06495968386487856,0.0,0.08011407896934325,0.06751649155152112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731257786064471,0.0,0.0,0.08075755611916019,0.13152023310819524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838558621972915,0.09846591842789867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975901081503638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377224144777531,0.0,0.20284363887869425,0.07887958637665067,0.0,0.050421824073096304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719955579358811,0.05453728318840967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493473158609235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976895731605478,0.14646449298129324,0.17354303571821364,0.06403033712303557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750717514389086,0.08126530771716964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116906649011376,0.0,0.1531504099546345,0.0,0.07517948379045106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357089293860386,0.0,0.0,0.04195444594664479,0.0,0.08611480082142453,0.08083299577727436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864792436255167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410634029039082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019150331338593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940843934186801,0.0,0.0,0.0561186549141568,0.05660511357021726,0.05887808391288608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129956669493388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847664921490118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766518475867666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674274575744428,0.0,0.08119694509215702,0.15272123878555868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42496020575692794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639509252188233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161352684554607,0.0,0.0,0.1276472508701985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061359168716589516,0.06672449048508867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891556435381129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774155478027812,0.07236135656073006,0.0,0.0,0.10365964447803072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593321535929615,0.0,0.06298846255752301,0.09005457346005256,0.0,0.0612353117303166,0.0,0.06863879274371247,0.0,0.0,0.08523083988139354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338377423330245,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aaahmintyfresh,2019/02/18,"What is my boyfriends role in my sons life? My boyfriend (31) and I (29) are at a point in our relationship that we want to move in together (we’ve been together 2 years and my son is 8) but he maintains that he doesn’t want to be financially responsible for my son in any way.
What am I supposed to expect in this department? How have other people worked his out? 

Tl;dr what can I expect or what is normal to expect from a stepdad of my son?",2.062335164835165,3.825245494505495,3.8880082417582433,87.44761675824181,77.57142857142857,7.187362637362638,23.46291208791209,8.07648339933343,1.1754714285714278,344,11,75,6,8,116,61,91,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.755,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,1,0,13,12,5,0,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,12,0,14,10,0,12,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,1,1,51,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326454723364545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416413103259304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36360713324643945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351936372048525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371749185982361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32340305743632064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672964367946114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035688462872821,0.2715497578637021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490590206726585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030662054018815
parenting,ostaraslight,2019/02/18,"When Grandparent Daycare is forced to close. I think I'm just venting. I'm a mess right now.

My mom has been caring for my 2.5 year old son three days a week since he was 4 months old. She had a pulmonary embolism last night. Goodbye childcare routine. 

I'm a wreck over my mom. I have no idea what I'm doing with my kiddo while I work (from home just for today).

We're touring preschools tomorrow. We can just afford them. Here's to all the parents whose childcare has suddenly gone away.",1.4800556586270837,3.9175909387755086,2.2131168831168857,95.0637012987013,83.48979591836735,4.788126159554731,23.19480519480519,6.11248444174946,0.3904163265306124,384,14,80,3,11,119,74,98,0.114,0.851,0.034,-0.7506,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,0,1,9,16,2,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,0,10,1,8,12,1,19,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,14,44,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924451148074054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162170739482424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676607211720218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127211155601224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393985320049936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728634160210936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4967420710901246,0.16927035244400165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990110971650805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44505859084231536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354759974510991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811045902634188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542452816444298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588436910717935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101530901029727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010785445240806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438775435291205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365645955019716
parenting,YeahOKWhateverDude,2019/02/18,"Daughters, self image and grandparents So I've noticed recently that when I take my daughter over to my parents house they *always* complement her appearance.  This in and of itself doesn't concern me.  *However*, they never do this to any of the male kids (my brothers and sisters all have kids), the comments on their appearance are always the first thing out of their mouth *and* I'm starting to notice the females in the family are picking up that *it is their looks that make them valuable.*

That last part is concerning to me.  That they are learning to tie their self worth to their appearance.  International or not, when the first comments out of your mouth are always ""you look so beautiful"" while comments to the boys are ""you are so smart"" it starts to show.  The females are trying self worth to things external to themselves while the males are tying it to traits internal.

My question is, am I over thinking this?  If not, what can I do about this?  Of course I want to tell her she's beautiful BUT how do I ensure it's balanced and doesn't become something she tries her self worth to?",2.7377113821138224,5.57410451707317,3.110030487804881,87.97886686991873,81.87804878048779,6.1483739837398375,25.127032520325198,7.492282038375204,1.4895081300813002,866,34,159,14,24,267,109,205,0.0,0.909,0.091,0.939,3,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,3,9,2,7,2,0,0,9,0,19,2,2,3,2,24,31,16,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,17,7,0,0,3,1,3,3,5,0,0,2,0,2,28,2,27,31,2,22,0,0,2,0,36,8,0,6,11,123,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34262679420152675,0.0,0.0,0.09333955825404837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158972138514698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939381089871133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335016970916761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837630479601225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118828841387669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305228478891377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162020314336464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586116381290757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125363148800277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240780465119966,0.14863610112719816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537594034872729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552486156196408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5727565040933639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566724796744703,0.0,0.0,0.19430261261187784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032002833340968,0.0,0.11996878546567034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823750825034573,0.08794882963109342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637716915368066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095781417803312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rosamond30,2019/02/18,"Caught my 6 year old daughter watching Barbie porn on YouTube This was last night. As the title says, I walked in on her while on her iPad last night. Obviously, I failed to put the heavy duty parental controls up. My children are not allowed to have the app, and know that there is a strict rule not to go to YouTube unless we watch vids together. 

I have google parental controls and Netflix controls and all that.  I admit that I was not fully up on every single control she could access,  but she is six and still struggles with spelling so I didn’t have my guards up yet. She doesn’t really browse the internet, she just goes on her apps that I’ve approved, etc. 

She figured out she can go to YouTube.com. She knows this is a no-no, so she was already breaking a rule there. I walked in and she automatically guarded what she was watching so I knew she was doing she wasn’t supposed to, but I figured it was just some of those annoying unboxing videos or the little girls who play but are cringy and annoying. 

Nope. I unlock it and she’s already crying and hiding her head under the covers. It’s a freaking Barbie porn vid targeted to kids. I know exactly what happened. She was watching Barbie/toy stuff and this came up in recommended videos. 

I’m so disgusted. It’s Barbie and Ken acting like a couple in bed, with Barbie in sexy lingerie, giggling, and then long shots of naked Ken, or Ken nuzzling Barbie’s breasts. It’s so infuriating because it is very clearly targeting kids who look up you videos. 

Anyway, she was mortified and knew she was in trouble. I tried my hardest not to show my anger to her about the video, but she needed to know that breaking the rules by going to YouTube had consequences. I took the iPad and had her go to sleep. Now, I need y’alls input. I need to address this soon, and I’m not sure how to approach it without shaming her. My parents kind of catholic guilted me and I don’t want that- I want her to know why this is inappropriate for her and how it can be harmful. 

I’m hurt, disgusted, and scared by the internet. I know, this is no surprise and parents must be diligent. I admit I was not diligent enough. How do I approach in a way that won’t shut her down? I don’t want her to never talk to me or come to me with questions. Help??",2.901291574279377,4.911927906873618,3.773103658536588,88.09331402439025,75.9179600886918,6.195144124168516,26.79606430155211,7.066338657993696,1.2427520620842571,1790,70,358,19,40,572,210,451,0.134,0.7859999999999999,0.079,-0.9875,5,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,1,2,0,6,18,20,5,4,16,0,37,5,3,8,7,81,66,37,0,8,17,5,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,4,27,25,0,7,13,7,0,14,16,14,0,1,19,6,62,6,51,42,5,53,0,2,5,3,48,22,0,5,15,252,89,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128351690151976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058785419113253363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029508296123447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306956097952839,0.0,0.0,0.4326368114080408,0.07699489565227771,0.10670265503692787,0.10592848710294417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964235092504356,0.10754967154691544,0.0,0.0,0.08125000841956284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21922320919713045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852764820992659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896935400976936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646378399522649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323485101860128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004214237867354,0.31798642598755905,0.15721355696985978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04711289976812226,0.0966524450963996,0.0,0.08534126993930463,0.080980476054147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451430653743084,0.07437603274221256,0.0,0.0,0.18099400776610167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119151544155516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283152559682792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694304895567016,0.10802842153146723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177824503867293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668838016506653,0.09654749975908937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965038860836353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701251057143313,0.0,0.0,0.1008140083035704,0.11039413588861437,0.0,0.0,0.09088813223511573,0.0,0.0,0.07751019119868477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714199161239817,0.06547252049804528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956834941319546,0.17063824412562836,0.07654501299408467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701690440351748,0.0,0.0,0.09295916843571232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210049040218904
parenting,K1RBI,2019/02/18,"Developing Toddler First post! I am looking for advice, words of encouragement, tips, etc. My son is 22 months old, nearing the two year mark. I am extremely worried about his language development. He does everything else really well. He is very active, loves to play outside, and climbs everything. At his age, a lot of what I read says he should have about 50 words, but my son is only at 16 or 20. He seems to understand a lot of the things we say but it's not consistent all of the time. He can show us his ears, nose, mouth, eyes, hands, hair/head, belly, and foot with close to 100% accuracy. He interacts with us on a regular basis and engages in play with us like hiding or a game of chase. This is our first and only child. My greatest concern right now is that he has a cognitive/intellectual disability, and we are not seeing signs; however, he has not missed any milestones outside of his language development. One thing that really concerns me is that he would say bye in the correct context but not hi. Once he learned hi, he quit saying bye altogether. Is that a legit concern? I seem to be the only one worried about it, and I hope I'm wrong. Our pediatrician didn't seem too concerned, but recommended an early intervention at his 20 month  check, which he did not qualify for. Has anyone else experienced a similar language delay in their children? Am I just being ridiculous and paranoid? ",4.866363636363637,6.546203212121212,5.8723939393939375,76.47109090909093,69.9090909090909,9.067878787878788,30.624242424242425,9.516144504307137,2.922305151515152,1104,46,202,25,20,365,159,264,0.073,0.807,0.12,0.9003,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,7,0,1,4,7,11,1,0,13,0,22,7,6,0,2,41,32,13,0,3,12,2,1,1,0,2,0,5,0,2,11,13,0,1,5,5,1,1,6,3,1,5,2,11,23,8,26,26,5,23,0,1,3,1,41,10,0,8,14,127,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862680596455468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559437978332813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777274744304553,0.11389922007035495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727914018539548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572417609804925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397568326901805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998115537660026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891097011832518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11408489779257153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104095439166068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05430843121626657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334858680515576,0.0,0.0,0.1890129342539293,0.1003285863856884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745785319429672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664644891473865,0.11838454081867412,0.15065330905312074,0.2536324989504721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646304241548528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823510814865265,0.11119268196551214,0.0,0.1424272158095672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493225283621694,0.0,0.3536038443636144,0.0,0.0,0.08858219976015594,0.30359476761323545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477029836830645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481980588191423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858970743468377,0.11572418673820653,0.4011447613625972,0.0,0.0,0.09172078671375354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994852730031704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257820320899839,0.0,0.0789667214780891,0.12153885227013245,0.0,0.07158506965401598
parenting,chooseausername500,2019/02/18,"I don’t know how to make myself feel happy This is probably going to come across scattered, because I’m exhausted and listening to my toddler boycott her nap in the other room. But long story short, I’m mentally struggling. My husband started traveling every week for work a few months ago, and I think it’s impacting me more than I thought it would. I miss him so much and I feel so lonely during the weeks. Add in the stress of balancing a two year old, a one year old, and a demanding career, and it just sometimes feels like too much. My younger child had some serious health concerns this past month and I was really struggling to balance the normal chaos with specialist appointments like, twice a week. I think that my stress level shooting through the roof made sense then. But we got good news, and my stress level hasn’t gone back down. 


I had a day off work today and instead of being able to get excited to spend a day with my two year old (we rarely get 1:1 time), I was just exhausted. I tried. I took her to a fun children’s center and we got lunch on the way home, but my mind just isn’t all there right now. 


I also just stopped breastfeeding, so I’m sure my hormones are a mess and I should attribute some of this anxiety to that. And I guess typing it out, that’s my overwhelming feeling...anxiety. I just wish I could turn my brain off. Feel happy consistently, feel *something* without having to really try. I put on a good face and am an upbeat, positive person, but inside I feel more tired and unsure of what this all is for than I think my husband realizes.


I’m trying to push through 4-5 more years until I shift into a different career and spend more time at home. And if I do take a huge salary cut or spend time just being at home, I really do need to push through now so that financially, we’ll be more secure later. But 4-5 years of him traveling and me doing this, plus being pregnant again (which I do want, but not while I’m already struggling to balance...) just feels impossible right now. I want so badly to quit. So, so badly. It sucks because I literally could not have a better company or coworkers, but the day-to-day stress is somehow becoming increasingly difficult to handle. I used to be motivated to excel and did. But it’s like something inside me just switched off and I don’t care about the job anymore. It’s just stressful. 


But I know quitting isn’t what’s best for our family right now. So instead I’ll just throw this on the internet and hope this catharsis helps me deal. And I know I need to remember that all things considered it could be much much more difficult. I have a great paying job with friendly people. So I am genuinely sorry if this comes across as spoiled :/ ",3.9696051971734647,5.495125091588785,4.827996352860727,83.68955322543881,71.9158878504673,8.210166400729427,27.44130385229085,8.771748573748791,2.0469803966263957,2144,77,421,40,41,695,252,535,0.142,0.718,0.14,0.7852,4,2,2,1,0,0,69.0,5,0,0,8,35,39,2,9,24,0,35,7,2,6,4,103,80,49,0,14,26,2,7,3,1,3,4,1,4,3,26,32,1,2,17,3,4,12,8,21,0,4,11,8,57,18,53,57,18,71,0,3,0,0,18,24,1,9,37,284,83,10,0.06629221807313228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876405147827481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315511110413113,0.053013862842365166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142673075233216,0.0,0.06574406707816872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05097462372382343,0.11070246612653332,0.08082224167051805,0.0732145465467163,0.0,0.0,0.06956959296291479,0.058630079705725736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400403952244501,0.0,0.0,0.06758933447029024,0.0,0.0,0.1142097519117222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878682565355054,0.0,0.0,0.17101198575520835,0.06834436595187197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926125830704645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558540528865348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06249440334302862,0.0,0.2346353612124194,0.04735917383725719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05121720323834498,0.0,0.06926989566562508,0.0,0.03767539523572607,0.11120553461352026,0.10603988540491056,0.07308740445771697,0.07302835205830564,0.0,0.0,0.14113859767527093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046552784786739,0.0,0.0,0.04443427639443683,0.0,0.1994894995932848,0.06584313048345812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156959476105815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092974080851478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716108760376932,0.0,0.0,0.05866652690027635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272729961957388,0.044250570331325435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680696372162387,0.0,0.0669362424667767,0.0,0.10582763200264407,0.0,0.19492963185650025,0.09830967943116484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495229854104732,0.0,0.0,0.20868759394911215,0.0,0.044921322622443034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328342327163325,0.045958677043223456,0.0578838078114079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147422337579695,0.0,0.0,0.06664198919699098,0.0,0.14101986798238328,0.0,0.0,0.12740547722072132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509616018127258,0.1698395760597877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102069976434881,0.06556469876195478,0.07420871070903927,0.046921973156336914,0.0,0.0,0.05542326267816781,0.3796875591237402,0.207909059741171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624796309977519,0.0,0.04984349782266219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044041604024674,0.12743212973645246,0.0,0.05262861623745154,0.115966576399018,0.07619315269583359,0.06283727138772603,0.0,0.0736530934862856,0.13502419360852902,0.07210689697393964,0.12951572884283974,0.0,0.0,0.05725519177518965,0.0,0.0,0.07820173558335705,0.05261967705769133,0.1595268559599438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623277916337859,0.06390333257918089,0.0,0.09652304858749393,0.0,0.0,0.04709208970249778,0.0,0.0,0.21345007481676
parenting,Tuxedomex,2019/02/18,"How to help my 5 y.o. daughter with her fears? My wife and I are having some issues with our kid. She's smart and usually a happy kid, but lately she's been having this fear of random things: for example, a few weeks ago it was because she imagined tigers coming. Another time it was fairies that were bad.

Apparently she's getting bits of information here and there, but the main issue is that she has a very active imagination, so she takes that info she learns and goes nuts with scenarios and such. I've been supportive and sometimes a little stern with her, because she's been crying *exactly* at night when it's time to sleep, so we suspect that she's using it as an excuse. But on the other hand she's asking me questions because she's reasoning that if she understands the things then she won't be afraid of them. Still, she's doing it and we're wondering if it's a phase or something else we should be worried about, because otherwise she doesn't have any other problems, she's doing great in school, she reads, writes and do math, the usual. She's quite smart and rationalizes everything, but this right now is the issue we're having. Hope you can help us understand.",6.690749076251258,6.629525471615723,6.738515283842792,78.12569029224049,65.02620087336244,9.840913671481358,30.715821296607324,9.466822959209583,2.579637285858248,939,30,178,16,13,300,138,229,0.114,0.745,0.141,0.6953,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,4,1,1,1,10,11,0,3,11,0,23,2,2,3,1,43,33,22,0,5,7,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,17,16,0,0,11,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,6,1,30,6,15,23,4,18,0,0,0,0,37,5,0,8,12,125,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737335357771564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823717230089101,0.12701408558690536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132390566402459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113747042887107,0.29535591619445944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322412539568972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043417171344476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133054275325943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118755146517204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886273561584936,0.0,0.0,0.2726071030565981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328478731887968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13354490583102907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894383700937026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238013378072408,0.0,0.0,0.12030820803221395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792809232799306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663853805682585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214028576494652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367115305938992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590388214980757,0.0,0.0,0.13569195345446755,0.12883536588651626,0.12116155758845172,0.0,0.0,0.12454055818608828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344331493491896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258879051864464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212162561758948,0.0,0.0,0.0932508514449805,0.11979945911296555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673359891523227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13745550231089995,0.0,0.0,0.09107376670993153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094515616641406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126232957794346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521986603436159,0.14570300624704474,0.10461637337769616,0.2668124729710786,0.09994392782902203,0.0,0.0,0.0971621996738429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313589931895531,0.0,0.12301215421709626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,holdingonlettinggo,2019/02/18,"Custody battle with an immature angry waste of skin Im not sure where to post, I posted on legal advice but post was removed. I (33f) am looking for advice and if anyone has resources or has been in similar situations. First time poster. My best friend suggested I post on here for advice. I am in Canada. Currently going through a nasty battle over custody, access and non payment of child support. My son is 10.5 months old and still breastfeeding. We went to mediation last week for the first time and it was devastating. My ex(24m) left us when child was 5 months of age. He truly did not interact with child during the first 5 months of childs life. He stated he did not need to do anything with him until my son was old enough to remember. He has been coming into my home for his visits since he left and is emotionally abusive to myself. He uses my son to rummage through my belongings and cupboards. Is very controlling and demanding when he is here. He is now fighting to take my son 7 days on 7 days off and only asked for that after he asked and was told he would have to take him minimum 60/40 to NOT pay child support. He has not paid support since he left in August. He has never cared for my son on his own and has put my son in unsafe situations on multiple occasions. If I ask for him to do or not to do something, he does the opposite on purpose to anger me. I have offered to start transitioning my son to have visits at my exes apartment for a few hours a day every second weekend increasing as my son gets older and is comfortable and to continue the visits in my home during the week until he starts going to bed later. I want to facilitate a relationship with his father and he is currently coming to my home every second night and every second weekend. I do not withhold my son from his father. When I offered to start transitioning he refused and said he wanted my son Friday at 4 to Sunday at 4 so he could take him to stay with his father or mother for the weekend. ( a 2hr and a 3.5 hr drive each way and my son had met them twice his whole life). My son has never spent a night away from me and cosleeps. I am transitioning to his own crib the past few weeks.
It seems no matter what I offer or suggest my ex always wants more and just continues to argue. The mediator even told him he needs to do some research on the effects on mental health to infants and lengths of time to be separated from parents. My exes response to the mediator was that my son would break in eventually.
Has anyone experienced something similar and do you have any suggestions on how I can advocate for my son in a way that will make my ex set aside his anger at me and put our son first. Thank you in advance.",5.263204074926062,5.790542690875236,6.259091357213278,78.319054387118,68.0875232774674,9.073699200350534,29.38815861540147,9.088552180705676,2.3533369920035048,2143,73,412,37,34,714,239,537,0.096,0.838,0.066,-0.9617,3,0,2,0,2,0,42.0,3,2,1,8,12,15,6,0,19,0,45,4,1,5,3,69,80,37,0,10,15,22,1,0,1,3,3,1,4,6,6,32,0,3,3,3,3,14,10,6,0,8,18,4,59,9,81,57,11,102,0,0,1,0,89,30,0,8,48,279,65,3,0.0,0.0862808482863518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134791961871095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060592815020529524,0.0,0.0,0.04952070313618475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183612056421333,0.0,0.059925388697911385,0.0,0.20423310946269685,0.0,0.06841762437941272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642103259994326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424575181453108,0.0,0.0,0.1254574994959331,0.0,0.0,0.08167482154281898,0.05814155611623826,0.0,0.0,0.14089035146446532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372605260168697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191370115189199,0.0,0.0752434468386859,0.0,0.0480975118332598,0.0,0.18406422467166875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24776565134366715,0.0,0.0,0.05626123988452745,0.0,0.038045910069355184,0.0,0.08277158122974701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740520206442306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191358739139308,0.0,0.07171390915940608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865905860051423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059358745585403765,0.0,0.0,0.23736033400968426,0.0,0.10287109801804672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061151208179896964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860851032517841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733863306515965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17437482176070832,0.0,0.0,0.10799153619748657,0.1123279210848986,0.0,0.0,0.13667494669725372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282655099899012,0.0,0.0,0.05538356917632945,0.0,0.0,0.0808589818823398,0.0,0.06951578048552763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789691367820457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641021779912214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818238466803078,0.08249187412096576,0.0,0.06926934332710033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629340436756356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047638738646732,0.16370746552088394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11212215947222166,0.0,0.0,0.15462900474977204,0.07761738086847157,0.05815485776178087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479088530284939,0.06863282813594851,0.0,0.16425674248366093,0.0,0.0,0.06704369280193799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738734176894426,0.0,0.0,0.1391669643837017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759456588796982,0.06289386915775408,0.0,0.0600848616429926,0.12885494502404835,0.11560366776812706,0.17523757924500202,0.0,0.0,0.06750569568381813,0.0,0.0813019244169177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345974351962783,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chudthirtyseven,2019/02/18,"Best way to spend afternoon with 2 year olds? Hello!

I have two toddlers that have just turned two. They are learning new words every day and are very excited about life. My problem is I'm looking for things to do with them each weekday afternoon. I get home at about 3ish,and my wife needs a break so I take them until 530.

I need free things to do with them each afternoon. We live very near a fantastic park so we go there, and there's a soft play that we also go to on a Tuesday. But that leaves three days of the week that I need to fill. And they don't enjoy being stuck in their pushchair and going around the shops anymore. 

Anyone got any ideas I'd be most grateful!",1.9326923076923064,3.951417297101453,2.573188405797101,95.52125418060206,78.92753623188406,5.695429208472687,20.7603121516165,6.67199483983844,0.14438506131549644,529,14,117,5,13,164,94,138,0.038,0.8059999999999999,0.156,0.9498,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,6,1,9,6,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,0,0,23,23,9,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,13,0,0,2,2,3,4,1,1,0,3,2,2,16,6,18,19,4,22,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,1,11,74,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386692012602264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138353598919222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601234666642606,0.11704752457314906,0.0,0.0,0.14901837462325287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175672298622315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159137875479483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103877053270053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874577619233382,0.0,0.2854058648622104,0.0,0.13388227256595864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791233761781005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18897027229941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177248722763892,0.0,0.0,0.11823709805934475,0.0,0.0,0.1478141758543683,0.0,0.14057089964657435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723671497913289,0.0,0.16167258227583658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565446704349413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017584257606338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586133482987336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224215920927569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18207932227930207,0.32704411258658106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762392864405267,0.0,0.1328715495923068,0.13427537465212794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10779785733158988
parenting,aurajitsu,2019/02/18,"Dating parents, how long until your kids met your partner? Hello! First time posting here.
I’ve been dating this guy for almost 5 months and due to circumstances on Valentine’s Day-he ended up meeting my small kids,(3 and 6). We had a wonderful time but I was very happy that he was very thoughtful of them and hopes to build trust with them. 

I wasn’t expecting for him to be so forward with getting to know them, I was caught off guard because I was waiting for us to have more time under our belts together.

I guess I want to know how other parents handled similar situations. Did you wait? Was it a gradual thing? Did you do family outings with your boyfriend/girlfriend? 

I need some guidance, it’s all new to me. Thank you!",2.4774468085106385,5.029728801418443,3.390893617021277,87.49400000000001,80.13475177304964,6.029503546099291,26.421276595744683,7.3011,1.4975310638297867,575,24,108,8,15,183,99,141,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.181,0.98,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,6,3,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,2,1,25,27,8,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,7,0,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,13,0,22,4,19,13,3,20,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,5,13,74,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808123699057972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007233386971246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645116494359882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992929957194132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022306453228644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535907095415436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433911909929286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19891557035713675,0.1787903142230871,0.0,0.1922175693733869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934437085146962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847046300096327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597966451430224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441273367537053,0.0,0.0,0.1338885885037123,0.0,0.17439331465833388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009979053275359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293384868395112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296554950406792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662423873832604,0.0,0.0,0.11996109096117615,0.0,0.0,0.14335050594625767,0.31587126145689376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21720059182950424,0.0,0.0,0.2979743635134383,0.10650344967432622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581786126308864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alhoops,2019/02/18,"A Police officer stopped at my house because my kids were playing outside unsupervised. This just happened about 20min ago. We live just off Main St in a small town in Upstate New York. There’s tons of snow outside and I sent my kids outside to play on the porch/yard so I could finish my tea and clean up a bit before going grocery shopping. I saw someone at the front door, opened it, and there was a police officer who said he was “concerned” about my kids - my daughter (almost 3yr) being underdressed, and my son (6yr) climbing on the porch railing. My daughter was in snow boots, snow bib, long sleeve shirt and snow gloves, standing on our covered porch. I explained that she refused a jacket and hat, but could come in anytime and get one. And my husband let our son climb on the railing yesterday, and he wanted to do it again today. My attitude was mostly “shruggy” - I didn’t really know what to say. 
The officer said, “ Yeah, but no one is out here watching them, and it’s not like it’s 37° out here” 
I just said “Ok, so...”
He said  “ I’ll let you take care of it” 
I said “I’ll take care of it, thank you for your concern”
Does this seem super unusual to anyone else? I know my daughter is a little young, but she was on her own porch with her brother. I tend to be on the “free-range” side of the parenting spectrum, so I actually think it’s super healthy for kids to play outside on their own. I’m glad he didn’t make a big deal about it, but I’m shocked that he felt the need to stop at all. Should I be worried about a follow-up visit from CPS or something like that? Do you let your kids play in the yard? Just looking for some perspective. Thanks!",3.620938123752495,4.659537655688626,4.2872005988023965,89.1125773453094,72.1437125748503,7.00379241516966,27.689121756487022,7.1686216300943375,1.2605792415169654,1283,46,273,12,24,409,177,334,0.056,0.7959999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.988,1,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,3,5,2,4,16,15,0,0,17,2,21,2,1,1,1,45,51,18,0,5,10,8,1,2,0,1,0,6,6,5,15,16,1,3,6,6,1,7,4,1,0,2,16,10,36,14,39,26,8,43,0,0,3,0,44,25,0,5,12,166,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.1112394797735782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104678605252072,0.0,0.11414624618611062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970566432861209,0.1167979928428153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948829732566393,0.0,0.0969985618066074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244494397413785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232444320901755,0.0,0.0,0.09819377728577663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202623311526964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752046277454413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975492643506073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522545886283752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944993197239906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955597130494465,0.0,0.06478412407007059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080250566189253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153114544682165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529374147455918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.349692784950966,0.0,0.11138119745831307,0.11424965481953725,0.10065678130848273,0.10087908922223124,0.095724339173006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609036137721953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452341945862415,0.0,0.1100939180133151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448748553031252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657432023450307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302601774828862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5421611700154904,0.09065079475009244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377378490945434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965848183954402,0.08775639878246229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906043720707017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17141518101276054,0.0,0.0,0.20989652960915045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730412943841859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805082628428296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723527263388804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576412969199032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EpicBlinkstrike187,2019/02/18,"Daughter wants to play flag football My 9 year old daughter wanted to play football. We said no because she's kinda small for her age and would, imo, get obliterated by boys if we put her in a real football league, if we could even find one that was coed.

So then she brought home a flyer for flag football and wanted to join that. I was fine with it, wife is hesitant still. Daughter says she doesn't care if she's only girl. 

We don't throw a football around, I am not and was never a football player, I love basketball. So I don't even know where she picked up wanting to play football. I go to youtube to see what she will be doing if she joins. Wow these boys (9-10) I see on youtube know how to play pretty well. I asked my daughter if she has even caught a football before and she said 'kinda but it's easy, you just raise your arms in the air' and proceeded to raise her arms straight up. I had to laugh at it.

She played soccer last year and while she had some fun, she was not very good. She's super uncoordinated when she runs and when we do play outside she isn't the best at catching anything, baseballs, frisbees, etc.  

Is it a good idea for her to do this? Will she be made fun of for being horrible? I don't care if she's good, I just don't want her to get yelled at by the other kids on her team when she doesn't catch anything or doesn't understand the plays, stuff like that. At 9-10 do they take it super serious?",2.3697091722595047,3.776979365771812,3.3491442953020147,93.16631152125281,75.81208053691275,6.040492170022372,23.154921700223714,6.42735559955562,0.34804653243847783,1113,32,252,8,24,356,148,298,0.113,0.7120000000000001,0.174,0.9676,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,5,2,1,4,15,24,0,0,10,0,29,3,2,3,1,46,52,23,0,13,12,5,0,1,0,3,0,4,1,4,13,14,0,0,5,9,0,8,12,1,1,1,11,6,44,23,30,34,3,36,0,0,2,1,47,15,0,10,14,165,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241374774229274,0.11489237469615105,0.12065537144510663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867488222320397,0.0,0.10982209551329074,0.0,0.13544240841491326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263174236155073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304535441961543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393803548115186,0.2557323273383641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796015732109165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485893908569066,0.0,0.07334880155804048,0.32475277191471125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945951973013767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456950754317896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185799239859745,0.10520260181071084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305308180774657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648332355322386,0.12212140637890255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995404252362214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354286603624298,0.0,0.08745562344184361,0.09815732319562484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130226058929892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297427674072008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690059641693215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24553467469239434,0.10263513245948162,0.0,0.0,0.20569110773777302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306892917183848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477448961014721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970384201115499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435789710960264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648951071893524,0.3806200007265475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604206800477558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168180774030794,0.0,0.0,0.16622314996114146
parenting,bloodjupiter,2019/02/18,"My 16 month old has A LOT of snot. Like, a lot. She has had this snotty nose for about 2 weeks now, it started off as white thick snot for a few days, now it’s just watery and clear. The thing is, there is SO much of it and it drips freely out of her nose in a drool-like consistency. So much as one time to where it will drop down her chin or if I don’t catch it soon enough run all down her chest. 

She is currently pushing out her first molars, and I’m almost positive this is just a symptom of that, but I can’t be sure. I just moved out to Texas and don’t have insurance out here yet, and would like to avoid an unnecessary bill from a doctor that may just tell me the same thing. 

I’ve tried saline drops to dry her out, a bulb syringe to pull it out, cold tablets to help clear it up, no dice. 

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parenting,DavidAg02,2019/02/18,"Organizing a large Nerf gun collection? My loves Nerf guns, and has built quite a large collection.

Currently, they are taking up an entire corner of his room and are mostly just leaned up in that corner. 

I've seen some really need uses of pegboards and wire racks to store Nerf guns on the wall. However, I haven't been able to find a good write up of how people are doing this.

I looked at pegboard sheets at Home Depot yesterday, but I'm not quite sure how to mount it without doing too much damage to the wall behind it. Since the pegs go through the pegboard, a gap/open space is needed behind the pegboard itself (probably at least a half inch). I'd need some kind of spacer or frame behind the pegboard to create that space. 

Has anyone done this, or found a good how to? I'm decently handy and would love to do this myself. ",5.646687116564423,6.011647564417182,5.824668711656443,82.33467177914112,67.22085889570552,8.728588957055214,25.502453987730064,8.548686976883017,1.5444704294478524,655,15,128,9,10,208,103,163,0.053,0.846,0.102,0.8478,2,0,0,3,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,2,5,7,0,0,13,0,13,2,0,4,1,25,26,10,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,4,2,6,6,24,21,5,19,0,1,2,2,5,16,0,5,2,83,14,0,0.1821202364673021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734270384435184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637223270159606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16645459674484214,0.0,0.0,0.19968543909698608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350312734686416,0.3055076274253577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826814463531404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18965020086364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293513047890872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287412477210049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387932882644826,0.40511954311010223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625924089012378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963564177043665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38741457821198333,0.0,0.0,0.11667088693613087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065174158434738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171646167565965,0.0,0.13693175268033067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729341042073816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755574089786853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293729907015173,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,somecallmemama,2019/02/18,"Powdered Formula Storage? I am so tired of looking at the Enfamil cans on my counter tops- however, due to a small kitchen and the frequency in which we use them, this is the most practical place for them to live. 

I’ve been thinking of transferring the formula into a more esthetically pleasing storage jar. Has anyone ever done this? I’d love to see pictures! ",4.469601990049751,6.911931208955224,5.496343283582089,75.54560945273633,72.73134328358209,8.645771144278607,36.53980099502488,9.2995712137729,3.961917412935323,289,17,48,7,6,95,54,67,0.051,0.7879999999999999,0.161,0.8438,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,6,0,6,3,0,1,1,7,11,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,1,10,9,2,9,0,0,2,1,4,7,0,1,2,35,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22042160994165708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225977330489125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28515065143688395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27836076613185656,0.0,0.2647203699868167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28451443580725794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293564218000414,0.34603645680834233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25120372463377705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199166315216785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362319495067719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722642578763708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lauralhampton,2019/02/18,"How much is too much time for kids to spend on screens (e.g. mobile phones, TVs, laptops)? A new report has suggested that children are spending more than 50 hours per week on a screen - including mobile phones, TVs and laptops.

There are many arguments for an against the use of tech in childcare but it can't be ignored that in the modern landscape, all kids will interact with screens as they grow up. But how much time is too much?

Do you think 50 hours per week is 'normal'?

Do you let your kids spend time on screens?

How much is too much?",4.1967857142857135,5.74432395238096,3.5763690476190497,92.79883928571432,71.38095238095238,6.773809523809526,27.410714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.1377857142857135,425,15,89,4,8,125,67,105,0.018000000000000002,0.95,0.032,0.3722,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,1,0,7,1,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,4,1,12,15,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,14,12,8,16,0,0,4,0,12,6,0,0,9,57,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33733618968451085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751368865264024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364259116966288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7554263050699257,0.0,0.0,0.16541524609135422,0.0,0.0,0.1678098721244636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097439704519364,0.0,0.0,0.2996096642204722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479237321244966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747676053592692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saynotoclowns,2019/02/18,"Please tell me this gets better My son is 12 weeks old. He’s our first. Ever since my husband and I started living together we have had separate rooms because that’s just what works for us and we love it. Now that our son is here it’s good because it means I can wake and feed him in the night and my husband doesn’t get disturbed and is fresh for work the next day. We are aussies so I get 1yr+ off work. Anyway it’s 2am right now and I’m up feeding. I just need reassurance that this will improve. I’m so tired and have been so fucking unimaginably tired for 3 months. My son wakes every 3 hours to feed, sometimes much less. I’m just so exhausted from never having any more than 3hrs sleep. I don’t believe in sleep training or any of that because I know it’s biologically normal for him to be doing this but I am just so so fucking tired and I need someone to tell me that I’ll get to sleep again sometime, preferably soon. Everything else in my life is beautiful except I am just so wrecked. Sorry for formatting - on my phone.",1.0293309859154929,3.363439403755873,2.4412030516431926,93.36772007042255,84.53990610328637,5.240140845070423,22.020539906103288,6.6274283507984215,0.4295103286384978,815,28,176,9,24,263,122,213,0.068,0.8420000000000001,0.09,0.5543,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,6,0,0,5,19,8,2,1,2,0,18,16,5,0,2,27,33,17,0,4,8,5,0,0,0,1,5,0,1,0,14,11,3,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,25,4,19,29,3,23,0,0,0,3,19,8,2,1,15,112,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599240684644633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150367172622956,0.0,0.0,0.13247836385600995,0.0,0.1039946398595124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583278907147795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822742755130387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636263315559516,0.09907068425939887,0.0,0.10567808313281643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001799368553886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21741142493802246,0.24573385842247716,0.0,0.0,0.09862496845103366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157978319363051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462180419131104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305397278593703,0.0,0.0,0.10382997164411674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612532151250133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808485990514212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385546235429386,0.0,0.08643872294141011,0.17437601583457624,0.0906890300641042,0.0,0.12505329749291846,0.11034583592683847,0.11520862548246025,0.0,0.0,0.12338598938072995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907334606638365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041720128917032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726777289368778,0.0,0.3530106475297866,0.0,0.09962964069471583,0.0,0.2325897310550997,0.1316271133070218,0.08322747852949662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554946497808432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4054410047266353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414406345731654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431983273626986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568104902734345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sokpuppet1,2019/02/18,"What to do about middle of the night poops? (5 months old) I know we can’t change when he poops. But we’ve just got this little boy sleeping through the night, and now three nights in a row he’s waken up at 3-5 am because he pooped. We have a whole bedtime routine that puts him to bed every night, but when he wakes up hysterical and we have to change a diaper, his PJs and possibly his sleep sac and sheets, it’s hugely disruptive. Any advice for doing this in the least disruptive manner for his sleep to help keep him calm and put him back to sleep?",5.959736842105265,4.975089008771931,6.000701754385967,85.88157894736844,66.80701754385964,9.35438596491228,26.894736842105264,8.344100000000001,1.3920631578947358,433,9,97,5,6,137,76,114,0.07200000000000001,0.871,0.057,-0.1996,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,6,0,6,8,8,0,0,13,9,9,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,8,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,10,1,15,8,2,20,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,0,10,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936601417362848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698607365632812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966550508567252,0.0,0.08693945445262069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017448011732071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016298450911388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140657521589657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559476868948218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676666395958314,0.0,0.0,0.07837988517026738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294209303848265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383743388150455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5353545328668297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14965505529141182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078192966892574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867437509611803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5708895392924097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922945213875048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mollywobbles1116,2019/02/18,Good ground rules for phone We are getting our 12 year old daughter a phone for her to have when she's staying after school or at a friend's house. What kind of good ground rules should we be setting? Are there good parental control apps?,3.58563829787234,5.5758432553191515,2.2988829787234053,99.50875,73.8936170212766,4.7,24.51595744680851,3.1291,-0.10720851063829784,191,6,41,0,4,53,37,47,0.0,0.825,0.175,0.8163,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,6,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,6,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,1,4,22,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823061112269728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446497151245096,0.0,0.13150433287619626,0.0,0.0,0.6333491411081557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29043125576545065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621097501236087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641197647560017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794861905025197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25473668788715026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682817120710023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620883613086291
parenting,unapersona7,2019/02/18,"Observer's Thoughts on this Sub I'm a 20F who has read this thread religiously for a couple years.

I feel like there's very much a culture of fragility here. If somebody posts about calling their kid fat, the top posts will inevitably be how their child will develop an eating disorder and push them away when they're an adult. 

My family and I rib each other around, and I've never been offended by what they say. However, after reading reddit parenting, I noticed myself becoming a lot more sensitive and fragile. This is just from my anecdotal experience, but I do feel this sub is too dramatic about the impact of a couple snarky comments. And  being in that culture of dramatism seems to make people, or at least me, substantially more sensitive. ",7.775652173913045,8.176383775362318,7.640398550724638,71.0088586956522,62.69565217391304,11.247826086956522,36.09057971014492,10.9516,4.162823188405797,603,26,101,15,8,193,104,138,0.015,0.95,0.036000000000000004,0.1705,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,4,1,10,2,1,0,9,0,9,3,2,2,1,19,15,10,0,1,4,1,4,1,0,2,1,1,0,3,8,7,2,0,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,5,12,1,15,9,6,13,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,4,5,74,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159928055443665,0.0,0.0,0.16878863744917025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841113115254036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183444419282161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975622638671391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589635336351564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382848640372745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757337845908017,0.16935958553101949,0.0,0.181674542725452,0.12834317351817884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776872085646828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273340707203312,0.0,0.0,0.11991887032969813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206463256286846,0.0,0.13855842642442756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045345924346713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948189521695914,0.0,0.0,0.12454783275345205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34411323774332475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35940052938925554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286620150255944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635481134658475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262334155143438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823142457858146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568977146355665
parenting,SaltyPermission,2019/02/18,"Why do parents hate abstinence? I don’t understand why so many parents are against teaching abstinece. It is the cheapest and most effective way to avoid pregnancy and stds. I don’t get why that wouldn’t be encouraged 

My child is only 6 but when he starts puberty I’ll heavily encourage waiting because it’s the most logical. I don’t understand why so many people hate teaching abstinence 

And don’t say it doesn’t work because that is a lie",4.589663865546214,6.665494823529414,5.5268907563025245,77.06529411764707,71.3529411764706,10.033613445378153,36.84873949579832,10.290406445055957,4.4401092436974805,360,21,63,11,7,118,53,85,0.108,0.7909999999999999,0.101,-0.154,2,1,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,2,1,3,0,12,0,0,1,0,13,19,7,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,1,4,2,2,17,2,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,2,35,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20486312620566785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779048368796273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33179626608542945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34071886133788004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277969252803344,0.0,0.0,0.37316227247693423,0.0,0.0,0.11649315907041788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362685459464768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893486136814292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498572613582456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333770422492936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6064958058562273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223302711965526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ABeautifulPsychology,2019/02/18,"Potty Training: Now what? My daughter turned three back in December and now that we’ve paid off a credit card, we want to put my daughter in a Montessori school, and it’s required that she be potty trained. I have been putting this off for probably longer than I should have, but the Saturday before last I decided that this was it: we were going to potty train. I resigned myself to staying home all that week and we went cold turkey with diapers (saving them for sleep only). My daughter knocked it out of the park - I was expecting this to be a lot more difficult because she’s your typical stubborn three year old AND she was terrified of the idea of wearing underpants. But by day four she was begging me to take her diapers off in the morning, was telling me when she had to go and would hold it until she got to her potty. She even self-initiates (sometimes). She’s picked it up so fast that I feel like I have whiplash.

It’s been a little over a week now and she’s had her first completely dry day and we’ve even made two small trips out of the house. Other than doing nighttime training, what else do I need to keep in mind now that she’s actually learned how to potty? I know prompting is important (before and after meals, before leaving and upon arriving somewhere, before bed and upon waking up), but what else should I be helping her with before school starts in August? What should I expect now that this initial phase is out of the way? She’s still struggling a bit with her underpants and while she’s great at wiping herself after a pee, she doesn’t seem to understand that she also needs to wipe after pooping, so we’re working on that at the moment.",7.258296643810903,6.500359380368099,7.05508119812342,78.63652652472034,64.0920245398773,9.879177192349333,34.20714543486106,9.007467420416297,2.8214592565860697,1322,49,252,18,17,419,172,326,0.062,0.885,0.053,-0.7227,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,3,1,1,3,14,8,1,1,14,0,25,6,5,3,1,50,42,21,0,9,3,3,1,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,24,20,1,4,7,0,2,6,1,4,0,5,14,2,42,4,47,21,4,55,0,1,0,0,30,21,0,2,27,189,66,6,0.0,0.0,0.1123381958412942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205952292361058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851834764765816,0.0,0.07017463556587626,0.0,0.4897830992528038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567863102616714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069863934838528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484826890435796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19233200781924956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206821089751565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058206929972401615,0.08224005412467553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791899280649216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308479980669401,0.0,0.09207008070961842,0.12691758769039385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716091729612222,0.0,0.11547236374402045,0.0,0.0,0.13283028297606636,0.0,0.12995378617997147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232183421525362,0.0,0.0,0.06326563597792327,0.0938362287178773,0.0,0.12189294293991328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05624065663817405,0.11537810248700872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786888791923913,0.0,0.10892707996840473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623598465392768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071652020749736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207965823087738,0.0,0.0,0.08755214102301316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411626983071372,0.0,0.0,0.2314500171548597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23301036417211435,0.0,0.1047987620589322,0.12009278883778395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520076132421668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385427443012774,0.0,0.08148084730688382,0.12270007109866304,0.09193308383073327,0.0,0.0,0.12034593610719513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655412724860759,0.0,0.10061787804826487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521491887246652,0.1124531921379566,0.11984150720829508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789935767375413,0.09137501224405033,0.1846808295765225,0.0,0.0,0.10671519145956852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380700186401224,0.0,0.0,0.08177625773806763,0.0,0.0,0.07413197606093642
parenting,sushibgd,2019/02/18,"Help with alphabet learning Hi parents, 

I would like to share with you a youtube channel which helped my little brother to master the alphabet.

So, Jacob is 7 years old and he is very smart, but for some reason he faced really tough time while learning the alphabet. It is known that the children learn better when content is colorful and interesting, but I really had no clue that those type of videos make so big difference. 

Hope this will help someone!

Cheers!

LINK : [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbnE72Mf5sk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbnE72Mf5sk)",10.07018272425249,13.446405918604656,6.489800664451832,70.4161627906977,59.58139534883721,9.100332225913624,30.890365448504987,9.606745405546679,3.18370631229236,463,16,64,9,7,126,68,86,0.052000000000000005,0.6829999999999999,0.265,0.9686,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,0,2,3,8,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,2,0,16,9,8,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,7,6,6,1,7,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,2,6,37,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191725802247141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25891434514429473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4983163108425256,0.0,0.0,0.2461366054858481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107008538075245,0.2483761313286273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654187018781186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600405722130124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27516967149751603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175137781082194,0.2547955018083932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099731817661052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14450315092395055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044736559302019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760409479242472,0.0,0.0,0.15958499078137478
parenting,istr4wberry,2019/02/18,"Mixed emotions. Here in PH, it is kinda taboo (or they're just un-educated)

My partner (f24) shamed our daughter (4f) to the point where she yelled and hit her (idk where, lost count, maybe 3x) because she was sort of ""playing"" with her teddy bear.

I (m25) got angry with her for doing that to our child because I know it is normal for kids to do that and just needs redirection or to tell them to do it privately. So add that to the trauma of our little one because I sort of lost it as well, and yell to my partner and slap her as well (in arm, 2 times if it matters, idk)

Idk if I need advice or maybe I just want to blow off some steam.

Any child psychologist here or expert for that matter? I want to know the worst repercussions my daughter will have, mentally physically, etc.",4.5155769230769245,4.955078378205133,5.168358974358976,85.7933076923077,69.7051282051282,8.034871794871796,26.4974358974359,7.908726449838941,1.3109482051282049,601,17,129,7,10,194,93,156,0.121,0.8140000000000001,0.065,-0.9217,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,1,2,10,8,0,1,3,0,8,1,1,0,0,30,18,13,0,7,9,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,5,9,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,5,2,1,4,2,19,3,22,12,3,8,0,2,0,0,18,7,0,10,1,85,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786562649738485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12377830315870893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328689700695118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474545577730516,0.0,0.0,0.20299789153591213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557621232084375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000643767171852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18242959075705653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973877239411602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36572256434437056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343106837796808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699276920456308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783387367316122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233399295905888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206559527586254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909152533735926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613600648800783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147175549967932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32731161093998645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rivsmama,2019/02/18,"Help! I had no idea how complicated thermometers could be for an infant. We spent $50 on a fancy pants ear thermometer & I cant figure out if my 1 week old has a fever, or not. Pretty much what the title says. I have a brand new sweet girl baby and because of some seriously shitty choices made by others, she has been exposed to 2 sick people. She's 9 days old and teeny tiny. Not even 5 pounds. She was also born early, 36 weeks and 5 days. Her due date was March 3rd. 

Since I found out that my mother in law is, in fact, sick and not just having an asthma flare up like she assured me when she wanted to come meet the baby, I have been freaking out a bit about my girl being exposed to her sick germs. I've noticed her sneezing a bit, coughed a few times, and felt warm yesterday. 

I had my husband go buy a thermometer. I gave him very specific instructions to buy a very specific rectal thermometer that had very good reviews. So of course he comes back with a $50 ear thermometer that he is just pleased as punch about. 

Her temp is 99.0° and 99.1° consistently. I took it like 10 times. The thermometer has a setting for 0-3 month olds, and I put it on that. My question is, what does those temps mean? Are they normal? I know rectal temp is 100.4 for a fever. But armpit temp is 99.1° but idk it's just confusing and I'm going on about 3 hours of sleep. What is normal for an ear temp for an infant?",2.299703196347032,3.7966695410958953,3.6625342465753414,90.47418949771692,76.1917808219178,6.784474885844749,21.755707762557076,7.492282038375204,0.6206365296803651,1094,28,242,14,24,359,171,292,0.083,0.863,0.054000000000000006,-0.7095,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,1,0,12,9,0,1,18,0,25,12,5,2,2,43,39,17,0,5,10,2,2,2,0,0,7,4,0,4,12,15,0,0,7,0,3,6,5,3,0,0,13,7,28,6,27,23,5,36,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,5,22,138,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300864964675784,0.0,0.1395646858559898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904630363676356,0.0,0.0785208767059593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812525127292037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219153951467245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102843643877971,0.0,0.0,0.16614252180070613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272177590868328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507724438105915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367700669946252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123261040633814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641044361093733,0.10803902356489224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633807393042897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685108943321316,0.0,0.0,0.1454098783673921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079015319834793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258593117053721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218823546024706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031095183029724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281425351252554,0.0,0.09468956362123247,0.0,0.0,0.12440470259165197,0.0,0.0,0.2524112828397647,0.0,0.14665009796522166,0.4054906791955231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930006243556893,0.0,0.0,0.14139379202122684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13104523735664786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948879687126005,0.1442957538751192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243422492437967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065522795374398,0.0,0.1289021981151561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021933004630786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311173145198056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188431747981684,0.07597498796142275,0.0,0.2066458989376488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YeoEuiJu,2019/02/18,"Searched online extensively and can’t find any advice. If you’ve been through the same please lmk I have a 6month old (6week preemie) girl and she is an absolute joy. But recently when my wife needs to go out for a few hours, she will cry a bit and obviously miss mommy. However, when she comes back,  my baby girl absolutely loses it. There’s no consoling her. It’s ww3 end of the world kind of cry for hours. This happens every time. I wish we could just avoid having my wife leave altogether but this isn’t possible. Everything I read online is about mommy leaving for just a few minutes and they cry when they can’t see her. My baby cries/screams uncontrollably when mommy comes home. I don’t know what to do. Being a dad is 6 months new to me. This started happening about a month ago. And it happens every time. I get so worried that she is gonna hurt herself by crying so much. Other then this we don’t really have any major issues. If you have any advice or similar situations, it’d be great to hear. ",1.7438534599728612,4.187661343283583,3.4129828132066966,86.86606852103121,82.33333333333334,6.639620081411128,21.57417458163727,7.84624498591911,1.106828855721394,794,25,160,15,22,263,126,201,0.153,0.79,0.056,-0.9509,1,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,1,2,1,12,8,0,2,9,0,20,0,0,0,1,25,35,17,0,5,7,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,11,10,0,1,2,1,0,3,6,5,0,0,1,2,22,3,14,28,6,23,0,3,1,0,18,2,0,3,18,101,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188626292165077,0.0992687337143544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228462733942058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861102361279566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225958664500555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19293185484834569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08941161995372507,0.0,0.4920449622476412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918625843893296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870588270826516,0.0,0.1006456960985592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235307370700222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585080049304824,0.0,0.06364416140743852,0.0,0.0,0.12346483791487252,0.0,0.0,0.29708625528442983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262162357357881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123309773904705,0.0,0.2205670855571052,0.0,0.11988321027072588,0.0,0.0,0.11688417321888192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661607049097855,0.0615445158841987,0.0,0.0,0.2371537738292873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528356485664718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787721363081139,0.0,0.08232251364149877,0.08303611769011363,0.0,0.10815666937841324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751035240131764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229268773383664,0.0,0.12624726360475688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120161939243056,0.0,0.07174102802544054,0.0,0.1105725552621284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923825463309573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587683120724716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926418858867353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059974482954556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877824562304635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372710615551045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MoreBrunchPlease,2019/02/18,"It's gonna be okay, riiiiight? I'm 42. Pregnant wife is 37 (So late to the game that the concession stand was closed). We already have an 18 month old son.

Parents of 2 kids I could use some honesty here. What was that adjustment like? I'm not nearly as stressed as I was with all the unknown of the first. But I have some insane sleep deprived questions?

Do you honestly love your second kid as much as the first?
Is second child syndrome as real as they say?
How much of an adjustment was it? (we're gonna be spaced out about 2 years)

Long time lurker, first time poster. ",0.8219950738916246,3.2353307068965558,2.0862561576354715,94.86293103448278,86.75862068965517,5.038423645320199,20.354679802955662,6.5431188927421005,0.17537142857142918,446,14,97,5,14,142,80,116,0.048,0.804,0.14800000000000002,0.9,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,1,3,4,6,0,1,7,1,12,2,1,2,1,16,18,9,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,5,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,5,4,1,7,4,14,9,5,15,0,1,0,1,14,4,0,3,11,60,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223758796328001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16089265441547698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5142235087150779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22731674277158495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844963665041688,0.0,0.0,0.17833368479039274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187439139951647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084667496810956,0.0,0.2962721790476459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21145520603397172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22375762014992195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257419708834641,0.0,0.0,0.22936722403312715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025214324991116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20165968486438973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23083378227828155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350090471740091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404352809237228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976850811558274
parenting,SoniaJames1122,2019/02/18,"How Digital Parenting is Done  

The widespread adoption of mobile phones and the internet has made digital parenting crucial. Parents are responsible to educate their kids about the accurate use of **digital technologies.** For this they need to stay updated about what is good and what is bad about the technologies, gadgets,software and apps being introduced with every passing day.",7.898251366120218,11.555745737704921,7.33237704918033,60.601079234972715,67.0327868852459,12.591256830601097,42.953551912568294,11.538034831475384,7.164046994535521,314,20,38,13,6,98,45,61,0.053,0.868,0.079,0.1779,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,3,0,8,10,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,9,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,29,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968158560227099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520195147598778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412227899396121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986037640504966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19771025213120505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22304339916887175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478295099990848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7852155066522195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512455208020469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20358588160264054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-ykimchi-,2019/02/18,"Living with an 8 year old in a 1 bedroom... How do I go about this? Do I share a bed? Do I get 2 beds and a room divider in a 10’x10’ room? Should I give him the room and sleep in the living room?

I share custody with his mom half time and kind of unsure how to plan out the living situation when I move.

Any help or opinions are appreciated.",0.3407142857142881,1.979877743243243,2.7247490347490357,94.35635135135138,82.37837837837839,5.3096525096525085,18.679536679536678,6.18269132825596,-0.3609706563706561,259,6,64,2,7,89,50,74,0.033,0.804,0.163,0.8429,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,8,0,5,1,1,2,0,11,8,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,3,9,7,0,14,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,2,4,39,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420085694024175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615271272056494,0.23163011939123734,0.13722709601726388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618453283657905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514430915347273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6396399422704815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28279464951257743,0.0,0.2566334185189066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533713078370992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714107880508098,0.2416340512510199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079707648924705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549211217827422
parenting,Lancaster19,2019/02/18,Do you think I will find happiness in my children? Have you found happiness with your kids? Hey guys I’m 21 and bisexual. I’m honeslty searching for happiness that I thought I could have found in a relationship with someone but that’s so hard and rare to come by as my dating life isn’t easy. I have mental disorders and I really can’t take on anyone with baggage at all. I wonder when I have my children through surrogacy will I finally find that life fulling happiness? ,2.1549703557312228,4.8840160978260885,3.5761660079051403,84.31982213438734,83.67391304347825,7.693280632411067,27.92885375494071,8.575989854853784,2.569595652173914,379,18,73,10,11,124,60,92,0.025,0.7959999999999999,0.179,0.9312,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,0,1,17,19,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,3,7,0,0,7,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,14,4,12,13,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,3,48,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984434674732728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532327233532382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542742624281736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004426716622046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208969025721876,0.28716362839091625,0.0,0.0,0.34449271062080583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554856450111634,0.0,0.6689214036643426,0.14072609698564886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219214262752175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583146236511439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063896063958908,0.0,0.0,0.16866103939206814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310592630676973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811574961155215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066001374923653,0.0,0.12471573483911802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036262481840314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ffather_throwaway,2019/02/18,"#youtubewakeup I'd like to draw attention to this post about potential exploitation of minors:

[https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/artkmz/youtube\_is\_facilitating\_the\_sexual\_exploitation/](https://www.reddit.com/r/videos/comments/artkmz/youtube_is_facilitating_the_sexual_exploitation/)",63.07291666666666,80.813992125,31.47750000000001,-121.11583333333328,-28.5,14.633333333333335,36.583333333333336,10.504223727775694,8.072983333333333,278,5,10,5,3,61,15,16,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.3612,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544076183197944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8907938686435443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BessieAdrainWilson,2019/02/18,"My[74] grandchildren[21, 19, 15] are living with me and I'm concerned about their behavior. Hello, my name is Bessie, and I have to get some advice from internet because I don't know anyone else who can help. My grandchildren who are living with me have been displaying some troublesome behavior. None of them have moved out of the house, and I'm getting concerned that their actions may be a sign of mental illness. Allow me to explain.   


First of all, none of them know how to cook. The eldest one smokes up the house when he makes bacon and when I tell him not to do it and when he hears me he looks me dead in the eyes and does it anyway. The other one sends me to the store to buy him food, and quite frankly, I'm getting sick of it.  


This is where it gets really bad. My grandson frequently shouts at me and makes motions as if he's punching me in the face while screaming ""oruh oruh"" and when I ask him what that means he says ""Don't worry about it"" and moves back to his room, where he spends most of, if not all of his time. Whenever I come in, it's such a mess. Whenever I tell him something like ""these dishes need cleaning"" he says things like ""your mom needs cleaning."" This isn't true, my mother was a saint. And when I told him he hurt my feelings, he laughed and started the punching thing again.  


They also make strange dances which bear some weird resemblance to the cartoons they watch on the TV. Then, sometimes, they'll collapse on the ground and shout random words, obscenities, or just guttural noises, and it scares me. I'm afraid that one day they are going to hit me. What should I do, internet?",4.5551132778893,5.591030397476345,4.397999713220536,89.19526168626328,69.94637223974763,7.530197877831948,26.396472612560935,7.686295010490155,1.2305722397476335,1264,38,263,14,22,386,176,317,0.113,0.841,0.046,-0.9695,0,0,2,0,1,0,49.0,0,1,8,2,16,11,0,2,14,0,20,7,2,5,3,49,46,27,1,5,6,3,1,2,0,3,2,6,3,0,21,18,3,0,5,3,3,8,7,7,0,4,3,10,39,4,31,38,8,34,1,1,3,0,42,12,0,9,16,171,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381967914021062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133005057669113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859867377025067,0.1298295090075044,0.0,0.0,0.11845687324639464,0.0,0.0,0.09743227380773116,0.10579767149698988,0.0772413232794127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091495631244388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171755573311916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088489455099683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585006016168884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406845235241469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777957758627234,0.15321840031510994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648032667270829,0.0,0.07201229074901777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281153312501396,0.0,0.08493113372581547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924129707526211,0.13564582206801049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927315479853167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380834487576735,0.0,0.22377474436813374,0.0,0.10640460210326014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537400005949418,0.0,0.0,0.1380244852658855,0.0,0.0,0.12769401529777866,0.0,0.0,0.14840138073317766,0.0,0.2693456450899885,0.0,0.1879079217177412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575862038296773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477182748843136,0.0,0.0,0.08117375819799308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20152997302587675,0.1268589516448567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754765376428028,0.12531956521163384,0.0,0.08968608696233688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215004889827675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836116909905666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388569971253926,0.0,0.0,0.12107696570445185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868029452200208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheLoathesomeRich,2019/02/18,"Asking Father To Marry Daughter The idea of asking a father for his daughters hand in marriage annoys me. I have a daughter, If a young man asked me, I would think to myself ""Look at this cornball"". I know feminist hate it for obvious reasons, and I agree with them. But it just seems like something a little boy would do. I will respond, ""that's her business, and for what it's worth life ant a hallmark movie.""",3.1831607142857163,5.203211137500002,3.912142857142858,87.37000000000003,75.125,5.571428571428572,26.42857142857143,6.18269132825596,1.0126071428571426,321,12,60,2,7,102,60,80,0.083,0.789,0.128,0.3818,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,6,0,5,2,1,1,1,14,13,4,0,3,3,5,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,11,1,9,10,0,4,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,2,2,42,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6652795298892571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341963083965876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26778183772376074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036471475689707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754882670269974,0.11588909282338675,0.23774728867278924,0.0,0.0,0.19919711910136007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243891952889864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21594757582862265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261627054518373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519949423779061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33701513781130016,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BredforChaos,2019/02/18,"I feel like my husband resents our children... I need to vent. 

When I met my now husband I was a single mom of  4, 3, and 1 year old children. Not long after that we found out we were having a son. 

He’s the only father these kids have known. He works hard to help support them, and I feel like we have a good relationship. He’s not very physically affectionate even towards me but there’s no doubting that he loves us. 

The thing is, he gets so angry at them for the smallest things. 

I know not everyone is nurturing at heart. But he’s just constantly angry and annoyed. 

The kids come in our bedroom (where we spend most of our time) to show or tell us something and he dismisses them and tells them to get out. 

If there’s a conflict his go to response is the same. And when it eventually escalates he just gets more upset.

He doesn’t like to go anywhere with them or take them out anywhere. I’m always the one to suggest it. Part of this is anxiety that something bad will happen. He will go but sometimes I’d rather just take them alone. 

I’m guilty of it too some days after a hard day at work but I feel like it’s because his actions and mindset are starting to affect me. I’m finding myself sinking deeper into my depression, walking on egg shells around him (or trying to avoid him entirely) and growing distant from my family. 

While still trying to step in when I can to redirect the children, help settle the disputes even to redirect my husbands outlandish punishments and spend time with the kids.

We haven’t had any formal therapy but I took a parenting class on my own. He has zero interest in counseling. He won’t even talk to me. When I ask him if there’s anything wrong he tells me no. He’s fine. Or he’s just tired. 

He’s going to be adopting the other children soon and it’s tearing me up inside because part of me believes he doesn’t really want them. 

Thanks for reading, I’m not really looking for advise I just needed an outlet before it killed me. ",2.571410039481105,4.627183233502541,3.922495769881557,86.43349548787367,77.07106598984771,6.6112803158488465,25.91906373378455,7.594959193182576,1.446230908065426,1550,59,305,22,36,509,203,394,0.18600000000000005,0.726,0.08800000000000001,-0.9931,1,2,2,0,1,0,41.0,10,0,8,2,23,22,4,3,17,0,20,4,1,1,0,61,51,27,1,6,21,7,5,4,0,3,1,0,1,7,14,23,1,2,7,2,2,10,10,10,0,2,6,6,48,12,42,41,8,45,0,1,1,1,66,16,0,9,23,201,62,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220409543943136,0.0,0.0,0.08211077038385131,0.0,0.0,0.06710668720514906,0.0,0.0754909460853137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120632503820979,0.08784730388832343,0.09225372100740382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239478725066998,0.1203104436707476,0.0,0.08397054220284761,0.1111800645155632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500522653182951,0.0,0.10663945876252752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728258616668492,0.0,0.08499408350895507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955342600688197,0.0,0.0,0.09429423813414277,0.0,0.0,0.09302797395535582,0.0,0.149688733968226,0.2114938820727696,0.0,0.0,0.0901929463491847,0.0,0.0,0.10819898307041452,0.0,0.0,0.15467076342422986,0.0,0.22433149205434166,0.08276921631632805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726357276008752,0.0,0.17679817442727766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693784922718853,0.13228802856017238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917626896445108,0.0,0.054232677321641866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19284284978212712,0.0,0.0,0.0873298702697175,0.08286746228663218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906375161244498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557437909740514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634190917036713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354945411747564,0.0,0.06686902198302108,0.07505159696137173,0.0,0.0,0.10957393698515737,0.21372452435627795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870803291922622,0.0,0.12643557164207075,0.0,0.0,0.1059468161920448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193941539514064,0.09759835701348883,0.0,0.06984715211635903,0.0,0.07880703629242597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198240198528364,0.0,0.0,0.1483921557531824,0.07931631374569742,0.2587554916013499,0.09085250889037318,0.11285069913162254,0.0,0.13111897939630485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150837522705737,0.11341967032884948,0.0,0.0,0.10963858675415128,0.13399628867468674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23740297538786875,0.0,0.0,0.08142243063375877,0.05820480420606894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436823646559479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789254129661327,0.0,0.06354754006316109
parenting,Everjenny,2019/02/18,"My 13 (almost 14) yo stepson cannot stay out of the shower. I really want to give him some lotion, Kleenex and a trash can.  It's 1220 and I have to pee but he's in there for the 4th time today.  How can I approach this? I know masturbation is normal and I have no problem with it.  I just wish he didn't have to do it under running water.  Please advise.",-0.8971052631578935,1.195077184210529,1.8134736842105283,95.59731578947373,92.94736842105264,4.092631578947368,15.494736842105262,5.6839178017228535,-0.7387536842105265,270,6,62,2,10,93,58,76,0.086,0.809,0.105,0.1145,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,9,2,1,1,0,15,13,5,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,9,12,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,2,42,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32051370760106107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30704973249964196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590750007557535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136102674534697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35135152781729395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30627316317450204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20505133091878155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411625036630141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866411189804464,0.0,0.3033982465377623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887913727650713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680760003749508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isliferealornot_,2019/02/18,"I have a 3 and a 5 year old, I’d like to read a book/novel to them instead of the 5 minute story time they usually get. What do you all recommend? To be honest with you all I haven’t  done as well with story time, I’d like to do it more often and make it more meaningful. I remember a few months back reading about someone reading the Hobbit as part of story time, but idk if they are too young for this. 

Do you have any other suggestions for novels that kids that young would endure and enjoy?",6.406057692307693,4.543486721153847,7.158538461538463,80.78646153846154,66.40384615384616,10.243076923076924,29.453846153846154,8.841846274778883,2.0142984615384614,385,9,84,5,5,129,67,104,0.016,0.828,0.156,0.8958,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,3,0,6,5,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,1,2,14,12,7,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,9,5,13,9,6,10,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,12,61,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971084298940808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797587823454326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102433667566862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733745345802337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20074182044761635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713730871942614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16398564506996402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155818164830451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224788222226142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6165070753744433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23273113149306124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407437444331406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35939297662586084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262705826539883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847213118845749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459434849182634,0.0,0.0,0.13230097866381033
parenting,isleofman04,2019/02/18,"Thought that counts? New here.  Divorced, single dad with an 11-year old son who's a really caring, empathetic kid.   I have custody; the Court awarded it to me because his mom walked out of our lives when he was five (basically to sow her oats with any guy who would f\_\_k her).  Fast forward 7 years, we all still live in the same small place; she's settled down a bit and lives with a boyfriend (who isn't one of the guys she cheated with).  She sees our son once a week (overnight on a Friday or Saturday).

This weekend was her 50th birthday (Sunday).  Saturday, my son asked me if I could take him to town so he could get his mom a present for her big birthday... ""either jewellery or perfume.""  He had saved some of his money from Christmas--about $50--to get her something.

I took him to the mall.  We looked around a bit; most of the things he was looking at were well beyond his price range, but we eventually popped into a little fashion jewellery store where he found a nice pair of earrings (sterling drop earrings with a little round purple stone.)  He was excited, because he knows his mom's favorite color is purple, she has pierced ears and prefers silver over yellow gold.  He couldn't afford the earrings, because they were $90.  I told him I'd kick in to help him make up the difference because he was putting a lot of thought and love into his choice.

He went over to his mom's to spend the day and give her her present.  When I picked him up tonight, his mom handed me the gift bag and asked if we ""can get a refund?"" because she ""doesn't really wear silver anymore... so she'll never wear them.""  I could see on my son's face he was upset.  We got in the car and he said he was ""a bit disappointed"" his mom didn't want his gift.  Then he turned his head and just stared out the passenger window for the entirety of our 15 minute ride home.  I know he was tearing up.  My heart was breaking for him.

The backstory is that the boyfriend owns a (very high end) jewellery store in town.  So she gets Rolexes and John Hardy and David Yurman from him for every occasion.  I also happen to know the store's not doing well financially, though (as I work for the bank with which his store has several big loans that he's delinquent on).  I have no quarrel with this guy.  He seems decent, and he seems to be good to my son.

I think my ex just felt odd accepting a gift of inexpensive jewellery that didn't come from her BF's store.  Not sure if he said anything about it; maybe he's sensitive because we didn't buy from him given his financial situation?  In any case, my son seemed to ""get it"" and was kicking himself for buying jewellery for his mom from someone else.  (Thing is, he can't afford the BF's store... Heck, I can't afford the BF's store, for that matter).

What should I say to my son?  I've told him I thought he made a good choice and it was a very thoughtful, beautiful gift.  But I know he feels sad, as his mom rejected his present.  I really want to let her know that I think she's done something that's created a disappointing memory for our son; and that she's more worried about preserving her BF's status and reputation than accepting our son's gift, but whenever I question her, it ends up in a fight... arguments in front of our son, which he gets upset about.  

How do I let him know he didn't do anything wrong without saying his mom is wrong?

I feel so badly for him.

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parenting,MellySue42,2019/02/19,"Question for breastfeeding moms How can I up my milk supply? I am already eating oatmeal, nuts, and leafy greens constantly, I have the milk flow breastfeeding supplement drink mix and just bought some lactation cookies today, just to see if they work. 

I pump every 4 hours and keep getting the same amount, so I’m just wondering if there is something else I can be doing to help production increase?",8.634166666666665,8.85145852777778,7.491111111111113,73.415,60.944444444444436,11.088888888888887,37.444444444444436,10.686352973137794,4.130711111111109,322,14,53,7,4,98,57,72,0.033,0.89,0.077,0.4696,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,1,0,14,13,7,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,4,11,4,6,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,5,3,33,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28742221200978385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814628940216172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551499776026614,0.0,0.26651386554853224,0.21757948932010024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194473521816949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607871232374208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457970902626305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25649896128977484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315073053859384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050456143813247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917729059550543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20755154435565465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005135250559637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468840148873672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824559171749783,0.18961674527057532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yourmomschesthair899,2019/02/19,"Conflict with ex husband Please bare with me as I know this is a bit jumpy.

I have been having on/off conflict with my ex husband regarding our daughter.
He has zero respect for me, and this time has really crossed the line. We don't have anything written with regards to our separation besides letters from our lawyers from two years ago. I have insisted on us getting an updated proper separation agreement and he refuses to do his taxes which need to be done in order to proceed.

We had agreed that we would enrol our daughter in school together online, on a Sunday last month. He went behind my back and did it with his girlfriend. I am so hurt that he would take that away from me. She is my only child and will be my only child. I didn't even get to register her for school. 
He is now suddenly in charge of school and rarely returns my phone calls as it is, and now I have to wait for him to orchestrate everything. This won't work well, he has a very bad track record of any sort of record keeping, let alone keeping me informed of anything to do with our child. 
His gf and I actually have a semi decent relationship, I go to her when I want to see how my daughter is doing in their care because he can't return a phone call or text.

I don't know where to start with getting properly divorced as we need to have a proper custody in place and he is refusing to participate. (I gave him to the end of this tax season to get his stuff together or I will be forced to take legal action)

Im looking for some advice for this, where do I go from here? Should I contact the school myself directly? I don't want to create drama from the get go, but I'm afraid he will go to the initial meeting with the teachers with his gf and not the mother of his child.",5.344944332662641,5.32241107323944,6.060321931589536,81.7223004694836,67.84507042253522,8.902749832327297,31.270959087860497,8.563005593585519,2.26203957075788,1381,51,281,19,21,453,176,355,0.054000000000000006,0.907,0.038,-0.6601,0,1,0,0,1,0,28.0,10,0,1,1,11,7,0,1,14,0,41,0,0,1,0,46,69,18,0,7,4,8,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,4,12,22,0,7,3,1,2,7,7,3,1,2,8,2,48,4,55,50,2,37,0,1,2,0,59,11,0,4,18,197,60,9,0.0,0.0,0.10938081361400716,0.0,0.0,0.1095301896080372,0.0993584264687514,0.0,0.0,0.1160884030022074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622305265674159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18447621979983533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530949391771753,0.08618803972200986,0.09358802332246476,0.06832723879690858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237005243486025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22890686539787486,0.0,0.1142802402166048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147039905574148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927587667404936,0.0,0.0,0.07403245400297978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073663298637384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928043447419373,0.0,0.2548066644856144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119991528921854,0.0,0.1210732721049696,0.0,0.0,0.19925627954277564,0.0,0.0,0.12320024699077685,0.0913659238228446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461662535261705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412491071262204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946683157630958,0.0,0.0,0.16622228742242395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049453833627004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171071338261632,0.12303794604857707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180584854007901,0.0,0.0,0.12033956801850172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4537524040291432,0.08931888450068984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793358065406061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831288095620896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855105762029546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535887312123398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949278255206367,0.0,0.13482694681781415,0.0,0.0,0.0924835731894195,0.13222371839968022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100779738933132,0.10390583878801662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160072343859591,0.0,0.0,0.15924688016772653,0.0,0.0,0.07218039951268912
parenting,SoonerMagicOU,2019/02/19,"Define ""Parents"" I'm just curious what you parents out there define as being a parent. Is it because you birthed the child or is it that you raise them and support them etc.

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parenting,mamadilema,2019/02/19,"Undecided about having more? My husband and I have one child, a daughter who is 23 months. She is incredible, we love her more than anything. Before she turned one we decided to be one and done. I am mostly content with this decision, part of it stems from the fact that parenthood is so much harder than I ever imagined, and I’ll be honest while I love my daughter I don’t love motherhood. I often yearn for my life before children, but have accepted this is my life now and I’m really trying to make the most of it, and it’s actually going pretty well, I’ve become a mostly stay at home mom and my husband and I have found a really nice work/home balance and things are going smoothly. 

Here’s the thing, a big part of the reason I wanted to stop at one is that it was hard and I missed my old life. But I will never have my old life back, and I’m embracing this crazy parenthood ride. Which is making reconsider my one and done stance. We’re already parents, there’s no going back now, so what’s one more? 

The problem, our kid is already almost two.  My husband always said if we had two he’d want them close together. I wouldn’t not have been able to handle a new born when my child was smaller, but I could now, I think.  

Also, I don’t know if I wanna go back. I feel like we’ve finally come through the other side. We have a smart, independent, potty trained, communicative child. Parenthood is getting easier, (in someways, and I find I cope better with these challenges) and do I want to go back to the start again?  

We also recently bought an incredible house. I seriously love this house. It’s a two bedroom, yes we could move, or the kids could share a room. There are options. 

I feel like my above reasons are selfish, but I also feel happy with our one. Before having having her I felt a need to have a child, I don’t have that feeling any more. Maybe it’s just conditioning, to feel like I should have two? 

Anyone here also undecided? What did you end up deciding?  What were the factors influencing your decision?",3.052287093942056,4.879783848258708,4.4903306994439545,83.92814749780511,74.9452736318408,7.4159789288849876,24.51009657594381,8.219915518859313,1.4846553116769092,1585,51,315,27,34,527,201,402,0.067,0.77,0.163,0.9911,4,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,8,2,1,2,24,21,0,0,20,1,45,8,0,6,3,77,78,28,0,14,9,7,8,3,0,3,4,1,3,7,22,24,0,1,18,0,1,8,7,5,1,11,12,9,52,16,25,57,10,39,0,2,0,4,37,8,0,9,25,231,74,1,0.07395770486743168,0.0,0.07217205142342725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740579582563987,0.0,0.16322833279208954,0.23657579944920926,0.06153873507791355,0.0,0.0,0.05029377542761743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051712946845598,0.0,0.060860889501045935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22747563962551154,0.0,0.0,0.081680474464309,0.1887976787994944,0.0,0.0,0.06540957984610665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637080140805631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714762803028275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15136881929212362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550457470274093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689897821110329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869761888068257,0.15850619740422411,0.07101099478962898,0.0810170506582171,0.06759600239203863,0.0,0.0,0.08109080603851455,0.0,0.0,0.03863984830153402,0.0,0.2101593401606946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872935206931495,0.0662515767875364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418560812470076,0.0,0.0,0.17067452333097058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04064522043406448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089540565481829,0.10839599655077163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669988645777591,0.0,0.09873468458000152,0.0,0.07430045513050802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866183700849595,0.05903233442752196,0.07860533592043897,0.05436742276014999,0.054838701044524936,0.05704074134164519,0.07142881222059473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521234046663224,0.0,0.3508095840103248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08212127895099791,0.16017797449140406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752415741250233,0.0,0.0707675353519182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475839906668533,0.15208167648414286,0.07302431123259293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035071347292908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05234764416338604,0.07882907300293054,0.0,0.061831952875979576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826842567710843,0.04738911099781373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05021242689373735,0.08044474540619267,0.2889837247226223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086651152661255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649685863911094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05384208997550402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scoobiesnacks4u,2019/02/19,"3 year old bed time? We struggle to get our three year old to bed before 10 pm most nights — not for lack of trying! We have started a routine with him that lasts about 45 minutes or so, which should settle him down for bed around 830 but he often won’t fall asleep before 10. 

Tonight, we put him down at 10 and he went right to sleep. Am I crazy to think that he should have a 10 pm bed time?

He’s struggled to get to sleep only in the last 6 months or so — not sure what is going on there. But any suggestions would be appreciated. ",2.8540178571428565,3.662772080357143,3.5664285714285704,94.42857142857143,73.73214285714286,6.314285714285715,21.142857142857142,5.985473137389443,-0.1234857142857142,411,8,98,2,8,130,77,112,0.098,0.851,0.051,-0.6632,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,3,0,9,3,3,0,1,20,15,7,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,2,0,1,1,0,8,1,17,9,2,23,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,4,12,55,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119285512042532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864984573460894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032970387723869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862207995827473,0.0,0.10128414599120827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290539325908944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225015109457426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724345541015548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740150054582173,0.0,0.0,0.13554114643284265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915610229808596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219531924478605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35668901016861115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614206034540612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726196974261379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679662821812245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141934884508603,0.0,0.0,0.20783813203302315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099682964814837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520783184991744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659939089201547,0.0,0.0,0.2295302640283865
parenting,ecupatsfan12,2019/02/19,"Good sports for young kids? Planning for a family with my fiancé. We are huge sports fans (her water polo, me football and rugby). I want to steer my kids away from contact sports until middle school (I had two bad concussions from rugby and I won’t let my kids play tackle until middle school). I always wish I played baseball but don’t want to push my prospective kids to do anything they don’t want to- I already played. I’m trying to think of safe non contact child friendly sports. Thoughts",3.3818830409356733,5.7820988842105265,3.4319298245614043,89.2579532163743,75.94736842105263,5.064327485380117,22.13450292397661,5.82211442006289,0.3207309941520471,394,11,72,2,9,120,62,95,0.023,0.7340000000000001,0.243,0.9509,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,1,1,7,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,0,12,14,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,4,1,1,2,7,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,14,6,14,10,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,0,3,40,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572016713616415,0.0,0.193935271466397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179908576489246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897960265770527,0.0,0.19460608344282854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21972032777991127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800714957102609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954904376165119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383327670085829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717643084341294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934366288608844,0.0,0.18503379809587306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824115702564304,0.0,0.2276782949490894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41241719392901216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680222600640225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brijwij,2019/02/19,"Any advice on how to sleep train a 2.5 year old? I've done sleep training in the past when my daughter was around 14 months or so, using a modified CIO method. It worked beautifully. She went from falling asleep in my arms and waking up 3-5 times a night, to falling asleep on her own in a matter of 15-20 mins and sleeping all the way through the night. It was amazing! And we all really needed the sleep! 

Fast forward to now... Ever so gradually, she's been more and more needy at bedtime. Right now, it takes her an hour to fall asleep and I have to be right at her side the whole time. Daddy can't be there, only mommy. She has to have her milk cup refilled 3-4 times (no judgement on this) before she finally nodds off. Sometimes she'll play with her toys in bed while I'm getting milk even though she's not supposed to. And we're starting to have the same issues with nap time when she's at home. (She doesn't have these same sleep issues at daycare. But she does know the difference between daycare and home, so she does a lot of other things differently there too.)

She's a very hyperactive child and has a LOT of energy. She naps for 1.5 hrs at daycare (usually 12:45-2:15), bedtime is at 8:00pm and she wakes up at 6:30am. 

Is this just typical two year old behavior? Is there a way we can sleep train her again so she goes to sleep on her own without me?? I'm losing my sanity here because I now get zero time to myself to relax and reset before bed. 


TLDR: Can I sleep train my hyperactive 2.5yo so she will go to sleep on her own without needing me? Or is this typical toddler behavior and I should just ride the phase out?",2.8566084815933763,4.452468858006043,3.878724404162472,89.08913281861925,74.9214501510574,6.837238446906119,23.73962179702361,7.526774132740827,0.9218478460333444,1276,38,271,16,27,412,175,331,0.019,0.919,0.062,0.927,1,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,2,0,0,2,23,4,0,0,17,0,23,17,15,2,3,39,35,24,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,9,17,2,0,1,5,0,7,6,1,0,2,5,0,36,3,44,25,12,60,0,1,0,0,27,25,0,4,28,181,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864314285744248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472847660143762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164336842696345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04905924860524088,0.0,0.1369633950223059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681668421843176,0.0,0.0,0.14085542239261944,0.08235795398516847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053155617433681086,0.07279785883157146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881608056576907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840939068770874,0.0,0.04573806771420984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145398844671474,0.0,0.07925559919120644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799832415671753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044229151153851856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003541010159652,0.0,0.13684072783366666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423756629872729,0.0,0.0,0.11934831065875676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104817073685176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688983352563728,0.0,0.0,0.06120790250968902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682630747932437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05155690522353427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374572446512616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7248340471410146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959578427441187,0.0,0.05696344715380169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060510188791973236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346666848534616,0.0,0.07907020434767376,0.0,0.2346397470080473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861628443185836,0.0,0.0,0.06950801237833985,0.08863624342536737,0.06640359963157186,0.0,0.12776096108912702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460483500275769,0.0,0.0898519242722921,0.0,0.15515775929531106,0.0,0.058589667137591235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365166883573347
parenting,SuperkidTV,2019/02/19,"Superkid TV - New Youtube channel for kids Superkid TV - New Youtube channel for kids.

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parenting,minorfall27,2019/02/19,"A different anniversary. Five year ago today, my husband and I sat in a dark ultrasound room. The technician would take just a few seconds to figure out and tell us that I was expecting a baby...in a little over three months. A typical pregnancy is 40 weeks, and we were over the halfway mark. We would become parents come May.

We spent the rest of the ultrasound time in stunned silence. If I could go back in time, I would have dared to look at the monitor more than once. But I was busy. I was busy wishing there was a way to undo this. Wanting the linoleum floor to swallow me whole. Answering, ""Yeah, I'm fine,"" every time that nice lady asked if I was okay. I wasn't fine. But I would be.

We were led into an exam room, where we were alone for the first time. I cried. My husband patted my back. The stunned silence remained.

The midwife walks in, with a smile on her face, as if we were supposed to be smiling as well. She asks us some questions, gives us some reassurances and pamphlets. She asks if we want to know the sex, as this would be our only chance to find out. We had never discussed if we would want to know the sex of our baby before the birth. My husband answers, ""Sure, why not?"" If you knew him, you could imagine his exact tone of voice. It is the tone of voice a dad answers with.

We were handed a gift bag, and in it, a little pink hat. I knew right there and then her name would be Madeline. That's one decision out of the way. Her middle name would be debated until a few hours before her birth.

We get in the car after scheduling the next appointment. My husband immediately says, ""Well, I guess I'll call my dad."" I immediately objected. Telling people made this real, made it permanent. I needed some time to pick the right words.

In order to buy that little bit of time, I texted my closest friends and family, ""Call me when you get a chance."" This bit of news required my voice, at least.

One by one, my best friends obliged. And each time, I could hear the shock in their voices. And I heard as that shock turned to unbridled joy. To excitement, as they each couldn't wait to welcome this little girl into their own worlds, as Aunts and Uncles and Hypothetical Godparents.

A few hours later, some of our friends arrived for a pre-scheduled sushi night.  One good friend hands me a card and Madeline's first toy, a pink bunny. I cry happy tears for the first time.  Another hugs me endlessly and says words that I will never forget: ""This baby is so lucky to have you guys. Babies don't get that lucky.""

My friends and family will never know what they did for me that fateful February 19. They made it that much easier to get to the next day, and all the days after. Their feelings of happiness substituted my own of dread. I realized that this was not the end of my world, but the beginning of my baby girl's.

And how cool is it that we get to be Madeline's parents? We have had a front-row seat as she's learned to walk and talk, as she's learned that she loves tomatoes and Harry Potter.  In a few months, she'll be in Kindergarten.  I can't wait to see how her future unfolds, right at that proverbial front row.

If the past five years have taught me anything, it's the absolute privilege of parenthood.",2.7537161585281886,4.766464924646783,3.5693629678592096,89.37670219504808,76.36263736263736,6.730771984907324,24.048280040761238,7.669130373188453,1.0924501308215595,2515,82,519,36,57,799,284,637,0.029,0.873,0.098,0.9882,5,1,0,0,0,0,103.0,19,4,6,5,12,29,0,1,45,3,48,8,3,7,6,121,88,42,0,26,13,9,3,0,5,12,0,8,2,3,27,41,1,3,17,1,2,7,9,3,2,11,24,16,82,26,72,41,21,89,0,0,4,4,79,36,0,16,43,349,109,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056106189888880886,0.0,0.0,0.06555335278771983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636913318855746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052085455587039135,0.0,0.17751365128304886,0.0,0.0,0.09733814623794056,0.0,0.0,0.06990309803089448,0.10771682980280403,0.0,0.0664230034362505,0.0,0.13820100906654098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292602199262975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452205784594402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160499604531827,0.0,0.1390506711064322,0.08163860987021583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612861456556708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05605957527730291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332780872799545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11933564050642667,0.0,0.032003278485650134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784944336693292,0.1615131805082165,0.0,0.0,0.2445034045627679,0.0,0.16534215315444015,0.060717240001647625,0.03597136048415195,0.053087888639088934,0.0,0.0,0.06972532500367401,0.0626708746043946,0.0,0.13475498646900974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133678273391621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466340933806545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435395412882513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537483111917005,0.0,0.0,0.0531509032641255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057125181774231835,0.17967054832699872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010411138657806,0.0,0.0465282713869456,0.04693159681237378,0.14644838536664778,0.0,0.13462748096190308,0.059397002011510235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740589753281337,0.1715582362830278,0.04813783431806023,0.0,0.0,0.14056068725316756,0.0,0.06042115329997864,0.043879994594691066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090361112172233,0.0,0.0,0.07204227194999252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215783740813694,0.0,0.10066763926926056,0.0,0.0,0.05043701347298218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059653716051948275,0.0,0.04758910734053435,0.05087320889087557,0.11064325066931346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952572802602926,0.0,0.059995180588974614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688455467610757,0.0,0.0,0.22840416910217765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199707940241296,0.10047944342237487,0.050770518413363386,0.0,0.11381756677300975,0.0,0.05711286588637146,0.07066533676911757,0.07278481785890657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596971496207152,0.0,0.0,0.08151834414543369
parenting,indigobbyxo,2019/02/19,My 7 year old will not eat what i make HELP Ive tried everything not letting him leave the table till hes done.. Always a power struggle and was causing a lot of stress in the family ive tried bribes .. Which i know your not supposed to do and now ive tried the whole put the plate in front of him he doesnt have to eat it but he gets nothing else but he doesnt care ! I have 2 other little ones and everyone eats the same meal i never make anything separate for him i refuse to give in. But im lost on what to do because it seems nothing is working. Im talking a very limited diet like chicken nuggets and pb and js ocasionaly sometimes fruit he wont even touch pizza or ice cream. Help !,0.7720408163265304,2.7795384489795936,2.6007074829932013,93.87167346938776,82.87755102040815,5.5526530612244915,22.044897959183675,6.742157984588678,0.4498865306122446,540,18,121,6,15,179,96,147,0.111,0.8170000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.6838,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,4,2,5,0,2,8,0,16,7,0,3,1,22,24,10,0,0,7,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,5,7,2,2,0,0,2,7,3,0,1,3,3,14,2,12,18,3,12,0,1,1,0,14,5,0,3,6,71,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556299927733275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429007958194873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466267975554499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160196651006654,0.14267260130678402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212702562312302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263404355350037,0.1160201478314494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173187816650033,0.0,0.0,0.13271005645680406,0.1248204003022454,0.0,0.13092791160913073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725613998352892,0.133230632497556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18618265639735831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000381061393857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632726889335463,0.0,0.0,0.14705859331317978,0.0,0.14201877344601466,0.0,0.06785193344865274,0.13919871849551935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160879791734402,0.11807460415180293,0.0,0.0,0.1854129154315605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071162600611998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665267765636353,0.0,0.1457358813637374,0.0,0.0941117066978535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961724577395462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643519926289976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736028548134122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909168348139796,0.14519219610282155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163007075960167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828803019181669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459422738942278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505954343686992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110954339655262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943704086643971
parenting,weldawn,2019/02/19,"Parents with pickup trucks I have a very specific question/need.

Anyone have/had a toddler and an older Toyota Tacoma extended cab? My 2.5yr old has her car seat up front with me currently (passenger seat, airbag OFF) but sooner or later I’ll want to transition her to the backseat... you know, the fold-down seats that don’t have a ton of seat room. Does anyone know of a specific high back booster that’ll fit back there? I’m asking here in hopes of finding someone who knows exactly what I’m asking about.

Anyway, kid’s asking to sit in the back, and on top of that she has kicked my truck into neutral a number of times - little turd burger. 

I’m new to Reddit so please don’t bite my head off. ",2.9644724220623497,4.86819484172662,4.038291366906473,86.74122601918467,75.40287769784173,6.647721822541968,22.37470023980816,7.492282038375204,0.9186398081534768,549,15,107,7,12,178,96,139,0.0,0.8759999999999999,0.124,0.9371,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,1,8,1,0,0,9,0,7,1,1,0,1,14,18,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,1,19,17,1,24,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,2,9,60,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24941988721459815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.50021346890912,0.0,0.0,0.4114318935609062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607963819204915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301321352967094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304365701327133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18844182062581846,0.0,0.17714673088815286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940576852082779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875853779921666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225634366889686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18715354091640127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980420898757969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578020061671966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997983874537473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111958926478358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040002186537305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716153100952245,0.10519838369358664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_rioliver,2019/02/19,"Neonatal cholestasis Hello awesome people of reddit.

I came across a facebook post selling TShirts as part of a fund raising efforts. Since I liked the TShirt design, I messaged the mother and learned that her now 7 month old son was diagnosed with neonatal cholestasis - GDD. I've been trying to help this baby for some time now but anyone here who had an experience with neonatal cholestasis? We are hoping the baby will get better through meds since the cost of the surgery is astronomically high. :( is it possible?

Thank you so much. ❤️",3.685274914089349,6.846700886597941,3.6202319587628864,83.5046434707904,81.37113402061857,4.882817869415808,28.70189003436426,6.42735559955562,1.5889044673539519,434,20,70,4,12,132,78,97,0.037000000000000005,0.7959999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.912,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,8,0,7,1,0,0,0,9,11,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,6,4,10,6,3,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,6,44,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588750760916929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009545502445189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25987517140588284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306199882110681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222613591541803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871125537299088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229844600420486,0.2400667318482516,0.0,0.22567727588646502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100651610164868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25238633501313884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18136206107235545,0.0,0.16703028844435958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384255191995991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24605335257259006,0.0,0.15752332798128754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561524900350422,0.2176106208088238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759117120178983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209190447090128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249178192393204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542651043907811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PublicExchange,2019/02/19,"Teaching kids time management Hey everyone!

I'm designing solutions to help people with time management and it was suggested to me that I look into helping parents teach their kids time management. The general idea would be a tool that makes it easy for kids to set goals, plan their work, and earn points and rewards (maybe such as free time or parent provided rewards) when they are making positive progress.

The app would make it fun for the child to manage their time effectively and could give parents insight into where they are struggling. 

Would anyone be interested in something like this? Is teaching time management to kids difficult?

Let me know your thoughts! And thank you in advance :)",6.651900826446282,9.258062661157027,5.609991735537193,76.39316942148761,67.01652892561984,9.468099173553721,34.414049586776855,9.888512548439397,3.8758885950413213,566,27,89,14,10,169,82,121,0.036000000000000004,0.6940000000000001,0.27,0.9859,3,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,5,9,3,9,0,1,4,0,11,0,0,4,0,22,20,8,0,4,1,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,6,8,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,10,8,13,11,0,15,0,0,1,0,20,6,0,1,8,53,16,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277306525182564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117352976674107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140447372035211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099829891159213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970375532019675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659245182374217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077733230552743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029880962072426,0.0,0.07180786441359943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342766149536642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943344017289171,0.0,0.14766293528325694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4896175566281454,0.0,0.0,0.1018986468082773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894527347659327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315374100831205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365725045335699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532105851797874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668710073931897,0.5142374833346522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700447303590817,0.0,0.0,0.3132348791205741,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tacobuds,2019/02/19,"Website with tools to be a better consumer for your child's mental health services As a psych major, I've become increasingly aware of that fact that many people don't have the resources to be a good consumer when it comes to their child's mental health services. And there are a lot of gimmicks out there. Its frustrating to see parents who want to help their kids be taken advantage of, financially and emotionally, by programs and clinicians whose treatments are based on pseudoscience.

[This website](https://effectivechildtherapy.org/) by the Society of Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology is a great resource to investigate which *evidence-based* treatments might be available for a given condition. They are rated on a scale from 1-5, 1 meaning it works well and 5 meaning it has been tested and proven not to be effective. Just type in a type of mental disorder and it will tell you which treatments are available, and how supported they are by evidence.",12.87057659208262,10.969383837349396,10.86098106712565,59.43246987951811,54.0,14.064027538726338,45.40103270223752,12.540900571622839,5.773402065404477,791,36,119,19,7,242,104,166,0.061,0.818,0.12,0.8379,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,4,4,6,7,1,0,10,0,17,3,0,2,1,21,25,11,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,12,11,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,3,1,6,6,24,15,3,7,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,2,1,85,18,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18652212397729734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493665878090544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454809632120166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935588236681014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899748391561849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165417592875168,0.0,0.18619821549728052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35903739191990136,0.0,0.0,0.11320121480498828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435814579750711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122463589355325,0.0,0.36793431853558894,0.0,0.0,0.5105943022626185,0.1791621310519056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875287267138163,0.0,0.0,0.1170847934135456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345808575736428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165065923933694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761444556771958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961376876391344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184945230214994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295155050790045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JacksonTheGrey,2019/02/19,"Dads to be: feeling disconnected? Sharing a personal story over a long journey.  Wife and I are older, in our 40's, and were on the fence about children when we got married.  The two of us, although older, love to travel, go to shows, act younger than our age, etc.  We have two Labs who are our children and I'd do anything for them.  About 7 years into our marriage, she decided she would like a child.  I was more than fine not having one but thought about denying her a child and knew our marriage would not last.  One day she would resent me.  I don't dislike children, but I've never been drawn to them, never said ""oh I want to hold that baby!"".   But I'm so in love with her and wouldn't give that up.  Plus, part of me also thinks that maybe our job is to procreate, pass along the intelligence we have, put a better human on this earth (honesty, try to help balance out some of the really lousy people out there).  Feels a little cold to say, but I was trying to rationalize it.   Fast forward 4 years through a miscarriage, IUI and finally IVF (nothing more potent than a 20 year-old's donor egg).   I was 100% supportive through it all, giving everything I had.  And we finally got pregnant.  This was early 2018.

​

From day one of the positive test all the way through, oh let's say month 9, I felt completely disconnected.  I went to every doc appointment, saw every ultrasound, helped with the baby registry, researched products, painted the baby room, you name it.  But for me, it was all just tasks on a list.  It felt like a dream and some days, if you would have told me we were no longer pregnant, I would have been OK with that.  And I felt HORRIBLE for thinking that way.  But I thought, how can you bring a child into this messed-up world we live in where every day all you hear about is murders, deceitful politics and corporate embezzlement?  I was convinced these feelings would all change when he arrived, but was terrified if they didn't.  I read a lot of things online that said this was ""normal for men"".  But still, I was just going through the motions.  As baby showers, completed rooms, Lamaze classes and such ticked by, my feelings didn't budge.  I was honest and even told my wife this, I said I hoped this feeling changes, but right now, I just feel like I'm in task mode.  

​

One day, about a week before our due date, nothing like last minute for an epiphany, it hit me.  I realized I can do things with my son that I wish my parents did with me.  Teach him things that would have been good to know in life.  I had a fortunate childhood myself though, middle class, played sports.  But I wondered later on why parents didn't do some simple things.  I started to get a little excited at the thought of having a son.   But was it enough to commit the rest of my life to him?  And then yesterday, I got me answer.  My wife and I had our baby boy.  I was positioned at the foot of the bed with the doc, holding a leg and fully immersed in the experience.  Note: I cannot stand the sight of blood or a needle but knew I had to man up.  Our doula, however, was ready to catch me at any moment.    

​

His head came out and he literally turned up to my direction and our eyes met.   That was it for me.  I burst into tears, as I am right now, just writing this.  You will never forget that moment.  It was surreal, amazing and magical all at once.  I can picture it vividly anytime I want.  And just like that, I knew this was the best thing that would ever happen to me in my life.  More important than any job, accolade or achievement.  Creating a life is simply an unreal feeling when it finally hits you.  All I want to do is watch him sleep, stare at him when he stares at me, teach him everything I know, build a model train set, play soccer, show him all the things he can be when he grown up.   It happened like the snap of a finger.   

​

So, men, if you have had doubts, or questioned your feelings like I did, have some comfort.  What is about to happen to you is life changing.  Take a deep breath, and enjoy every, single minute of it.  You will want to.  Thank you for listening.                ",3.765835576217274,5.181264029850748,4.359034336514154,87.2860716907267,72.25870646766171,7.361683386346954,26.488785580295247,7.869387291563388,1.4301562923089477,3176,107,648,42,61,1009,358,804,0.062,0.7829999999999999,0.155,0.9976,6,0,0,0,1,0,147.0,17,11,3,3,29,29,2,1,43,1,73,16,8,1,13,134,135,53,1,19,25,8,12,7,0,11,5,7,4,12,42,41,1,3,26,9,1,14,12,3,0,6,52,27,101,26,94,67,22,97,0,0,7,2,91,39,0,15,49,450,143,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04233955512935244,0.0,0.2294606028202185,0.2573325848209869,0.07200790891844529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043568665810286025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04505171843970245,0.0,0.05556179947381717,0.046824950283667226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060554199774194316,0.0,0.0,0.16802421734656678,0.0,0.11102222849816956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072353839297327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054705637476206936,0.059046914165610476,0.03496922531338726,0.047891170316843215,0.17843149882655873,0.0,0.09516588538509667,0.05178970607886826,0.0,0.0,0.21416191978503452,0.07564686834933823,0.15250455553030345,0.17399375037078016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027661223018778783,0.10157803589272954,0.060178956524874115,0.04440718531922952,0.1270332324403902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045546712796966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05433614875050143,0.0,0.059672098705581426,0.0,0.07097492595961936,0.0,0.0,0.05258565785486812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507814017055044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058193629452186375,0.08631337753570166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413915627400976,0.1869807016888681,0.18106144966156126,0.1061282391181262,0.046750806260382784,0.04685405885867476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04501136920884798,0.09556863527532146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05318968759202283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04225965265640007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250177498847085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051874194359954696,0.10160300964063608,0.0,0.05555615968533305,0.056383974953274935,0.14350577103288856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757680795867485,0.05733354127747811,0.0,0.03670492652326881,0.046228939762703904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053223666872297404,0.059309757453163275,0.0,0.05295864942816881,0.0,0.03391748835336346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042832331247908,0.15108652288582922,0.08420689967669658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298255769886349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03747426357400085,0.0,0.042281403894440815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060080589122020564,0.0,0.0,0.03980754109877673,0.0,0.0,0.048744018350888436,0.0,0.0,0.2110431296582654,0.06784916740577095,0.05201752749573688,0.1260956330531582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118113699071936,0.0,0.07189143848510672,0.057588218928934926,0.10343781885438302,0.0,0.06368550043469393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491173128763727,0.08404947680561994,0.04246874151019684,0.0,0.0,0.0490799168673836,0.047774015590836,0.0,0.06088335735218834,0.0,0.0574158586933337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008810180905295,0.0,0.2573325848209869,0.10228322245003284
parenting,cmiller1117,2019/02/19,"10 year old son just had a panic attack I  feel totally heartbroken for my boy. He has been having issues at school for a couple of months now - nobody wanting to play with him, being told he is a loser and has no friends, and just being generally verbally and sometimes physically abused. He is 10, and in his last 6 months of primary school. My biggest fear is that he will go up to big school and have a fear of meeting new people and be alienated even more.

He is an awesome kid, so intelligent with such a big heart. He is also cheeky and hilarious and has a few kids that adore him. 
Trouble is, when he's at school, even with the kids that like him, he just has a terrible time. He's been spending every play time in the library alone and his teacher doesn't seem to be doing anything about it. 

I don't really know what to do, I have spoken to his teacher and told him all of this and her answer was that he should tell her when it happens again...but he is too scared she will make a big deal out of it and everyone will know he has no one to play with, thus giving them reason to pick on him some more.

What should I do? I just want to keep him off school and wrap him in cotton wool but obviously I can't. He just had a major panic attack for the first time ever and it was heart breaking. HELP :(",3.79664601404378,4.383574713754651,4.933500619578688,86.30951156546881,71.37918215613384,7.910863279636514,24.60987195373813,7.984000788550335,1.1259415943824873,1014,26,221,13,18,335,140,269,0.136,0.775,0.08900000000000001,-0.9232,0,1,0,0,1,0,27.0,0,0,1,2,16,16,2,5,13,0,36,2,2,4,4,45,49,19,0,4,6,1,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,4,11,19,0,1,6,3,1,1,5,10,0,2,8,1,22,6,30,32,7,29,0,1,0,0,40,13,0,2,15,152,33,5,0.0,0.12866010209954762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246536235500018,0.0,0.08683851232406098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893594207910442,0.0,0.0,0.2470711237100537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201515638379842,0.0,0.0,0.1119503983823826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14344390223572434,0.098224886186623,0.09149084031771558,0.10376135725431596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443854271729224,0.054905815772566806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236567161706856,0.0,0.0,0.0838955227209497,0.0,0.0,0.10416837747557617,0.0617135801482657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960248147460124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573567630495592,0.07278485760908357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333861005456144,0.0,0.09651881282173104,0.0,0.0,0.1193552504962944,0.08851445505232917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053051056528284415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248394082297918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17334926438417972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048758462150789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394579472488855,0.0,0.0735826559132529,0.0,0.0,0.2548113788670309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528187777379185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956483650752512,0.11164748523204232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871644268539828,0.5494888724761302,0.0,0.09885526561062474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739720888464396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491149384040748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995720051091464,0.0,0.0,0.20752271450863194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809710545731928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992769799726596
parenting,loryhasreddit,2019/02/19,"Niece giving phone number to strangers I’m not her mom, but I helped raise my niece and she’s practically like a daughter to me, and of my own mom and her actual mom (my sister), I’m the best at approaching things calmly.

My niece is 10, has a phone, and has been giving her phone number to kids on roblox. She thinks she knows best and refuses to listen to me and my mom(grandma). 

I don’t live with them, so I told my mom to take her phone until I had a conversation with my niece about giving her number away to strangers. I’m trying to think about how to approach this calmly and rationally without fear mongering. Should I relay my own experience as an adult with giving my contact info to strangers (online dating, etc.) or should I try to discuss more likely scenarios?",5.178344370860927,6.031753357615898,5.771847682119205,80.57604966887419,68.40397350993378,8.689006622516558,26.35827814569536,8.841846274778883,1.8360113907284776,611,17,118,10,10,198,84,151,0.0,0.7490000000000001,0.251,0.99,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,2,4,7,0,1,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,22,21,13,0,2,4,6,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,10,0,1,4,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,1,26,6,23,16,6,7,0,0,0,0,32,3,0,1,4,82,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.11873876793523615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431913099311355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25538408021810083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570152520894935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190230210051987,0.0,0.1369199551338185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668929644557416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155723157097708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687025381171739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889003961786453,0.0,0.10744262937244133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7125305669992277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148562830516356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08083649807443069,0.15593084975273508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626716489794997,0.0,0.16522079078564628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729185926317763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thisismythrowaway091,2019/02/19,"Is it inappropriate to tell my parents about my wife's pregnancy on my dead sibling's bday? My wife and I are looking to announce our second pregnancy to my parents. I work an odd schedule and don't get to see my mother and father at the same time very often. Our next scheduled get together is for dinner to celebrate the birthday of my sibling, who died over two decades ago. Would this be an inappropriate time to announce, given that if not at the dinner the only other option is to unceremoniously announce when picking up our toddler from babysitting?",9.349807692307692,8.218393596153849,9.541230769230767,63.703769230769254,60.15384615384616,11.012307692307694,41.95384615384616,9.888512548439397,4.353529230769231,450,22,73,7,5,150,69,104,0.097,0.8690000000000001,0.034,-0.782,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,0,7,2,0,1,0,10,12,5,2,2,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,12,0,16,9,1,12,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,3,7,56,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350458264574727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616788028865893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634627587987832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21173190471176745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681509741138352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917618464208065,0.0,0.0,0.5599374650664817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20092085505187512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22037919178249665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940466788441345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463015924946953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803975225784785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355902245966416,0.0,0.0,0.17911116728845844,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xuxa_c,2019/02/19,"Potty training How early were your children totally out of diapers. 
Asking to gain info on average age. 
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parenting,Jiperly,2019/02/19,"Snot creates rash, rash forms blister Pretty straight forward; my 6 year old has had a small cold that caused him to has a runny nose and a stuffy throat- nothing serious- but rubbing the snot with his arm has caused a rather large rash, and now a blister is forming in the rash.

Any suggestions on how to deal with this? Ive chastised him for the rash, and thrown on polysporin at various points, but it isnt really working",8.234390243902439,6.9923730487804905,6.939146341463418,81.82506097560977,62.414634146341456,10.151219512195123,38.79268292682927,8.841846274778883,3.197234146341464,338,15,67,4,4,101,59,82,0.21,0.72,0.07,-0.9376,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,8,0,7,8,8,3,0,11,7,6,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,9,6,3,11,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,4,42,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455477386528229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6180103050799796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310112287767141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886263602601104,0.0,0.315639708247264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843538652046292,0.0,0.0,0.3060224262257405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927006148188092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21898647388729464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937057725346555
parenting,Princess_Parvo,2019/02/19,"Am I worrying for no reason? So I have a son who is 13 months old. He is currently seeing a physical therapist for torticollis he had as an infant. I'm worried because at 13 months he hasn't even started using the most basic words like 'ma,' and he shows no inclination for walking. He will pull himself up on his knees, but won't pull himself to standing. He does have the muscle strength to stand. His crawling is still an army crawl, not up on his hands and knees, and when he's on his belly he can't get himself back to sitting. 

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My therapist doesn't seem too worried about it, and she has given us exercises to help him improve, but I still can't help but worry that there may be something more going on. Am I being too paranoid? Am I doing something wrong? It's especially frustrating when I see a friend's child who is three weeks older on Facebook walking around on his own and using five or six words!",5.625230998509686,5.811608284153008,6.309110779930452,79.46056631892701,67.25136612021858,8.840337804272231,32.48335817188276,8.575989854853784,2.4998240437158463,728,29,141,10,11,239,111,183,0.105,0.785,0.11,0.5904,1,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,12,5,1,0,7,0,21,4,3,3,0,19,31,13,0,0,5,2,1,1,1,3,1,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,2,2,0,5,8,2,0,3,2,3,18,3,19,24,3,30,0,0,2,0,28,10,0,4,13,98,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029127049324265,0.16854675982158834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348052231499072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665874909494384,0.0,0.08455579037062985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138528317293185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916160636888268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716631983671343,0.0,0.07246978870959164,0.0,0.078831587836167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18594759474230976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776626817733636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214325879134794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14555188507677816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14261607441363525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210664152967509,0.12627557071440754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21357011021165875,0.0,0.0,0.09817902705934968,0.0,0.22154656028729053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221039520592909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16684998914305546,0.2396002829572156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126408698259023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5634633663161679,0.0,0.0,0.151656644694913,0.16854675982158834,0.0
parenting,silky_m,2019/02/19,"What's your favorite family vacation you've been on? We have a toddler and a baby, want to do some more traveling. 

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We've done Florida to escape the winter cold but looking for other ideas on what works well for everyone in the family, curious about other experiences here. ",5.9026923076923055,7.930284653846152,7.180000000000002,66.74000000000002,67.84615384615384,11.353846153846154,32.230769230769226,11.20814326018867,4.568792307692308,230,10,35,8,4,78,42,52,0.0,0.8059999999999999,0.194,0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,2,1,8,4,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,1,28,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868772512486793,0.3217234840440224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27095075485339765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529982585363976,0.0,0.2589950229412301,0.4992015603836204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988921298722068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223393927635676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616769798424654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380592532584325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19275508641701447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217234840440224,0.0
parenting,turtle613,2019/02/19,"Potty-trained, but only poops in the diaper My 2.5 year old son has been going pee on the potty exclusively for about 4 months now.  He poops 1-2 times a day and asks for a diaper when he needs to go.  Otherwise he wears underwear all day.  I always offer him the option of pooping on the potty, but he always chooses the diaper.  He has a ""pooping spot"" near his toy box in the living room where he likes to do his business.  I haven't pushed the issue.

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We have also started a routine where he gets to watch a little show on my phone while I change the diaper and put his undies back on.  He looks forward to it because he doesn't really get to watch it any other time, and he enjoys it.  I know it's making the transition harder for him because of this routine.  I'd like to avoid bribing him to poop on the potty, or pushing the issue to the point of him becoming obstinate about it.  

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Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated from experienced parents or even just those with an outside perspective.  ",5.2907076923076914,6.030620840000001,6.34,77.0096153846154,68.1,9.153846153846157,28.884615384615394,9.265573868473778,2.4633576923076927,808,27,149,15,13,270,120,200,0.028,0.892,0.079,0.9052,1,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,0,12,4,0,1,18,0,9,7,7,1,1,19,19,11,0,2,6,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,1,2,2,0,6,2,1,0,0,1,4,14,3,26,16,1,31,0,0,3,0,24,14,0,4,15,93,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786572366988056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282488251679178,0.2347865021379989,0.305729069145032,0.34286518317763737,0.191884015766882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318945636686111,0.0,0.0,0.10848494383589914,0.0,0.17200708328563527,0.1558162746452852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924824256486566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18197511148325374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318469987774956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14742121063057206,0.0,0.16036266038126146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29451023564988604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753611706723973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785310365195946,0.1414033056515928,0.12457982158240155,0.0,0.1184750887147768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417471452284168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261196135840665,0.0,0.0,0.10461205274802968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804400212595462,0.0,0.0,0.10730079530405226,0.0,0.0,0.15665716732389964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337005175502167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182846143833966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038207007706496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998600333003688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453451552220494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002220778356224,0.0,0.34286518317763737,0.09085351763937577
parenting,screamingsilence83,2019/02/19,"Poop eating and punishment So my son suffers from coprophagia (look it up, it's gross). My worst nightmare. His stepfather thinks he should be punished indefinitely. The thing about this disorder is that punishment doesn't work and hasn't in the past. I'm going to get my son help but in the meantime my husband is making our lives unbearable. I wonder how I can make my husband understand all this. He's making my son and I an anxious mess. I don't know what to do. ",2.322307692307696,4.919546780219783,3.6491098901098944,85.10839010989012,81.19780219780219,7.156483516483518,25.583516483516483,8.238735603445708,1.9342123076923081,371,15,71,8,10,121,63,91,0.202,0.778,0.02,-0.9312,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,3,7,3,0,4,0,9,2,1,4,1,15,20,6,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,0,4,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,1,12,0,7,18,2,5,0,1,1,0,10,3,0,2,1,47,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2913796472995268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956021766091988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639196849095108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475415549377506,0.0,0.14658362104055725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288039293180846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174777063587085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22775079077284804,0.0,0.21659041407300747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5164969438296481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24621674907346194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713526229513669,0.16526668485542775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26850700564120195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797065605131616,0.18777106235121666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Idiotgirlfriend,2019/02/19,"Best sex education book for preteen/teen? My two sons are at that age. Everything I say goes in one ear and out the other, but they need a rehashing of sex ed. I do not believe in abstinence education, it doesn’t work. I want to buy them each a book they can read about STDs, Condoms, Etc that is pro-sexuality (talks about consent, about pleasure, etc as well).  Any book recommendations? ",3.958558558558561,5.79637602702703,5.165945945945946,79.99234234234235,72.51351351351352,8.717117117117118,28.54954954954956,9.2995712137729,2.4252414414414423,302,12,61,7,6,100,61,74,0.0,0.84,0.16,0.8959,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,3,2,4,3,0,0,3,0,5,4,1,0,0,7,7,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,2,7,3,11,7,4,5,0,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,1,40,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831155964220993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954204942986734,0.2751728600236089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5848661634573697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356571340929693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442513966912506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776800509476919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26228061661329233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085196451266573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21075419154323827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561407362461103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154658050470077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23575797351527525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089175462171365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,projKe,2019/02/19,"[Serious] Are wearable GPS locators for children a good gift? I would love to get your feedback on wearable GPS tracking devices for an 8 year old. I am currently looking at a child locator with a heart rate monitor (for monitoring heart health and exercise) as a gift for my sister. It is really cute (looks like a small Fitbit Alta) and my niece would love it! As a mother, I understand we all worry for our children's safety and health and thought it would be a good gift.

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However, I would like to know if it is as useful a gift as I think it is? It has an iPhone/Android app that is similar to Google Maps which shows the child's location in real time. Would you guys buy one of these? If so,  is $99 plus $9.99/month reasonable?",5.313978978978977,5.5220862837837865,6.2111711711711735,79.82091591591596,67.91891891891892,10.091291291291293,31.984984984984983,9.994966539143718,3.0047138138138125,582,23,117,13,9,193,95,148,0.018000000000000002,0.7190000000000001,0.262,0.9896,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,2,0,0,1,8,0,0,11,0,14,7,2,2,1,22,24,12,0,7,2,2,0,2,0,5,3,0,0,5,9,7,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,11,7,18,17,1,9,0,0,2,2,13,5,0,2,6,72,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655407164537713,0.17557028712383865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548968384212883,0.0,0.0,0.2423815011933237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306710115164606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30717069040679823,0.0,0.3424409787049429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940752811235413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411803249590808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242669204844854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26081442809885746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532996267533308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161719086973954,0.0,0.09790967374652224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644604303566115,0.09256353093195717,0.14855904177440934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258289470671877,0.0,0.11470834660966553,0.08425285957672977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041843341289304,0.0,0.12479234403046414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673587482875947,0.0,0.5132051851596576,0.0,0.17557028712383865,0.09304635734851904
parenting,loveshackx,2019/02/19,Did you ever change your child's name? My son's dad left us when he was a newborn and has had no contact or interest in him since. The only thing left of this man is my son's surname which I'll admit is actually a really cool and unique name.  I was thinking of changing it before he went to school.. To mine obviously.  I think it will be hard enough on him without the stick out surname that his dad left. Which is also a different language! Anyone have advice or thoughts from parents that have done this? to add he's nearly 4 now and has a father figure in his life since he was 1.,3.1201561065197403,4.254454165289257,4.4764738292011055,86.91450872359967,73.46280991735537,7.03067033976125,25.014692378328746,7.3871296695380915,1.0517540863177222,458,14,97,5,9,152,82,121,0.031,0.899,0.07,0.6646,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,1,15,1,0,0,2,17,20,7,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,9,5,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,8,2,12,2,12,10,1,12,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,2,3,65,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.16237442130037713,0.0,0.0,0.16259616805637025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306348431149825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634503456923345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158718983921145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35204098138711537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384404501023026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027660950968695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192723711495236,0.0,0.0,0.15051093405789456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905439472684556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5423556222039757,0.0,0.1175274685325215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265484826933196,0.0,0.0,0.1847584332594812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659486538308914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683974126346505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752820782566341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054333662906074,0.21323432886962654,0.0,0.13209652486314774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200148881160231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424689107243866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039578397420795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ARC1019,2019/02/19,"Concerns about my 3 year old daughter's development First things first, my wife and I will definitely be seeing her pediatrician and addressing our concerns with a professional. I am just at work with some downtime and thinking a lot about my daughter, so i thought i would vent and seek advice from other parents. Reddit has always been a good source of information from one's peers, so here goes.

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TL;DR - my wife and I are worried about my little ones ability to express herself verbally.

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My daughter is 3 and about 5 months now. She is very intelligent in many ways (knows all her colors, shapes, numbers up to 20, and dozens of animals by sight and sound). She also plays independently with her toys and uses her imagination quite well and does some role play as well. She loves figurines and she has cute little convos by herself and sometimes even pulls her mom and myself to play with her. She has started getting attached to me and loves daddy's silly voices for her barbies and disney dolls and plays along just as you would expect of any child.

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All of that makes her sound like a perfectly normal 3 year old, but where we become concerned is her ability to communicate with us verbally.

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When my wife and I try to speak to her, she completely ignores us unless we are playing with her. She just refuses to look at us and does not answer questions (for example are you hungry? do you want some water?). She seems to not hear us at all! 

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It isnt good to compare, but i notice that her cousins in her age group and even younger are social with others and even answer questions from adults. For example she has one cousin that is not even 3 yet, and if you ask her name, her age, or even how she is, she will tell you. When other adults try to interact with my daughter at all, its as if she is completely deaf and wont even acknowledge them.

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She also has some other quirks that we know are just little kid things, but in addition to the other stuff they make me a little worried that she is not developing as quickly as we thought. She throws tantrums for the oddest things. She gets upset if we turn the lights on at her grandma's house or if a certain throw pillow is on a certain couch or if the soundbar is standing up or if family feud is on!(her grandma babysits her so she spends monday thru friday at her house. i am sure all of her quirks are due to grandma giving in to everything). She cries EVERY night before bed, deep sobbing and enough tears to fill a cup. She flips out if anything in the apartment is changed (for example i just cleaned and vacuumed the living room last week and thought it would be a good idea to move her slide to the other side of the living room, big mistake).

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She does not seem to communicate with us very well, but she occasionally might say things like ""ice cream!"" which is our way of knowing she is hungry or ""agua!"" when shes thirsty. However she hasnt reached that inquisitive talkative age that most 3 year olds reach. It just doesnt seem like she knows how to express herself verbally yet and it is a little worrisome. She throws tantrums instead of talking, but i know she can speak because she speaks through her toys all the time.

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Anybody have any bits of advice or similar experiences?",7.689774838164929,7.43644923604466,7.090735059574072,77.0712728679989,63.01913875598086,9.864508865747256,35.18758795384183,9.247498795725024,3.0441063326766113,2649,105,487,39,34,823,278,627,0.055,0.8420000000000001,0.103,0.9694,2,0,0,0,0,0,97.0,12,5,2,5,36,29,3,1,19,0,44,4,0,6,10,126,71,60,0,14,30,11,0,3,0,7,1,9,8,4,24,43,1,2,20,7,1,7,9,7,3,6,4,15,92,22,76,58,14,65,0,1,5,2,109,29,1,25,29,354,116,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734958924305779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148409975953345,0.0371892736926332,0.387410414983594,0.434468149429594,0.060787371630093325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03677963601243789,0.0,0.04178317733069168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02724525660176678,0.0493613902910322,0.038031593924914224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04879464672748152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728068854338957,0.0,0.09372233639728196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909463700507986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733696201863142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461812037799021,0.0,0.17712115182921218,0.0,0.037656911555260485,0.0,0.040168393502181696,0.04371964354075344,0.04213384880355826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603397049907064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04670189896195368,0.042874886314638073,0.0,0.11246248297962844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037377274865748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031425418881128,0.0,0.0504544729344651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122814210034221,0.03643185474843898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550619504623473,0.2239773661191685,0.07893184726069502,0.0,0.03753199148887314,0.0,0.0,0.037997532059658334,0.08067677892495648,0.0,0.05966764190314555,0.04531304865909788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04741363484206617,0.0,0.052345474241888935,0.03567459810411496,0.047503013306098164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04194261314586639,0.0437909665470444,0.0,0.050884805638364235,0.14069758346786598,0.0,0.09085813036925383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04962777858581368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013578568652524,0.04753793522320501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03554273538384995,0.0,0.0,0.03561560470543949,0.12206415355713812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045560254108304714,0.0,0.0,0.04420384797217538,0.0,0.03163488595421973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116432960733132,0.0,0.0,0.042123889259518016,0.0,0.0,0.03592361984171112,0.03906482568871781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187717418378264,0.028638330260070424,0.0,0.10644694759870693,0.026061630774854384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606890500481781,0.048614610785505434,0.0,0.0,0.26880895727417503,0.03860156213082206,0.0,0.07375502734666389,0.026361881440480742,0.07095257810756103,0.03585110596346483,0.0,0.12055674556029965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03253801394759332,0.0907785494860188,0.0,0.09524873658578498,0.0,0.434468149429594,0.08634507442280401
parenting,PetiePal,2019/02/19,"Unable to get in touch with the New Jersey Dept of Workforce and Labor for 2+ months for Paternity/FLI. HELP! I took paternity from 12/21/2018 to 02/04/2019. I have been trying to check on the status of my FLI claim for over a month and a half. Their phone system was upgraded in the past week but even prior to then I can never get through to a claims agent. Even if I call exactly before or at 8:30AM it is either busy, or I get disconnected all the time. The voice prompt does not even recognize the 0 for Claims agent when prompted to press it or say it. I've spoken to one live person at the end of December and not since. I try all day right up to 4:30PM.

Am I able to show up to this office in person with my documents in Trenton to get this sorted or is it only by Fax? 

I've submitted everything required now twice, and it all has to be submitted within ""14 days"" of the claim being filed or they invalidate it. I'm back to work 2+ weeks already and with tax season on us it would be great to get this squared away and also get paid.",4.715323792486586,4.726283330232561,5.568837209302328,84.59357781753131,69.18604651162791,8.847942754919497,26.30590339892666,8.617729084823388,1.5298121645796066,816,21,178,12,13,268,130,215,0.0,0.96,0.04,0.8465,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,2,2,7,1,0,0,11,0,12,0,0,0,5,27,21,16,0,2,10,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,10,9,0,1,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,3,4,5,12,1,41,13,4,33,0,0,1,0,9,14,0,7,17,117,22,8,0.1475845159010635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286318321829502,0.11802328404526352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866051087423106,0.1134833828794211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558355291858167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070029167307628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19035960678762576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915220441952274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071607568322838,0.0,0.0,0.2924345425497989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263944658735533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626409093922816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271244980003322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892279006040446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031983141431347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356011051076324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382627695970615,0.14253804511457552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000708749185314,0.11224467475574858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408861199636248,0.0,0.2577302133693169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603637019141345,0.0,0.11736513065324893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208343664966576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605771806514796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639718275046643,0.2004003971895326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17752600102682262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236766792990132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074432852990752,0.0,0.0,0.10483980568949164,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,supersquat12345,2019/02/19,"Punishment for 17 year old drinking Last weekend my 17 year old got drunk with two of his friends while we were out of town,his one friend drank too much and got alcohol poisoning so he called the squad. I’m not sure how I should handle this any advice would appreciated ",3.2432075471698134,5.592990679245286,3.4609811320754718,89.12883018867926,76.16981132075472,7.258867924528303,23.807547169811322,8.238735603445708,1.2943011320754725,218,7,45,4,5,67,46,53,0.17800000000000002,0.672,0.15,-0.193,0,0,2,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,3,5,0,1,1,9,7,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,0,4,3,5,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,7,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22082350921347,0.0,0.2415022202961393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15367308347460112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307492458522367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213728333136699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34918075332585635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614711925596997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184202583719536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612014956291482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4742527032424642,0.0,0.15312883447289682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21298199862446754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22074809295244666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16052859506487113,0.0,0.0,0.2910454035341625
parenting,_moodymoons_,2019/02/19,"Shitty Mom Needs Advice I don’t even know where to begin. Every time I post on Reddit I get motivated and encouraged that I’m not alone, so maybe that’s just where this is going. 

I’m a stay at home mom, my son is 14 months old. I love him so much, but his attitude is really getting the best of me these days. 

My own mom growing up resented me and my brothers. She was mean. She constantly yelled at us, and was always at the end of her rope. I told myself I’d never become that person, and then today happened. When I woke up my son this morning he immediately began whining. It hasn’t stopped. All day, no matter what I do, give him, try to entertain him, he continues to whine. I just want to make it clear that he is not crying. He’s not sick, or feeling unwell, nothing is out of the norm, just whining, throwing tantrums, generally in a horrible mood. That’s been pretty consistent this past week, but today it’s just so unbelievably irritating. My irritation has been on a slow incline for awhile now, and today I realized I’m fully my mother. I don’t resent my son, but I just desperately want a vacation, great parenting skills, and to be gifted an immense amount of patience. He’s not even really a bad kid. He can be extremely sweet, goofy, and loves cuddles. But he’s got my sass and that just seems to be his thing these days. 

I just feel like I’m drowning. I don’t have many friends, and we never leave the house because we only have one car that my husband uses for work. So maybe that’s where the build up is coming from. So I vent to my husband alot. I know I have to stop though because he gets stressed out about it. He’s a great dad. It’s like second nature to him, which has caused some issues because I have to really work to be halfway decent and realize the way I grew up was toxic, and really think about how I react. 

Again, I’m not sure where this is going. Just curious if any other parents experience this, and how do you remain calm? How do you break away from toxic behavior? 

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parenting,jenaly84,2019/02/19,"Seeking advice regarding coparenting basically here is the run down. 
we've had a basically easy coparenting situation.. no fight over time with child, however he is doing the same things he used to do in our relationship to exhibit control.  For example; if I am seeking change, it's ""What do you think about changing x to y ? "" when he is seeking change it is ""I want to change this from this to this"" and if I do not agree, I am fighting him and being so ""difficult"" and ""crazy"" 
Thing is.. I pay for everything up front for the kiddo and he pays ""when he is able"" so why is it that he gets to push for his way all the time? In 2 years separated, every change has been initiated by him. 
I just am seeking advise and wondering if anyone has dealt with this; and if there is a better way I can handle it besides, standing my ground?",4.501238148354716,5.325112631901842,6.0430786391522595,78.12951477969884,69.920245398773,9.608254322364752,29.54210819854993,9.800150414767053,2.684992638036809,641,24,130,15,11,219,99,163,0.052000000000000005,0.887,0.061,0.3485,3,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,1,1,0,2,9,4,2,0,6,0,21,0,0,2,1,21,26,14,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,8,0,1,2,0,2,3,2,3,0,0,2,0,13,1,20,23,2,17,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,5,5,93,25,3,0.14708611322662687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373084753435722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028460302905328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008571432274404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.777988024355759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496958296972822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392639416547872,0.0,0.13219151440076166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684642340546559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791544016416534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533095393329256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954349558528624,0.09424684227867487,0.0,0.0,0.17153419091527164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703517645113954,0.0,0.0,0.08675520045085218,0.2335002207685351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272233940561246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595086155207572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094718634510298
parenting,Twixlol,2019/02/19,"Should I (25 F) let my son (4 y/o) meet his father (29 M) who is in prison and just been diagnosed with terminal cancer? Where do I begin? The father in question, we will call him M, was around just long enough for my son to be born. Now M is a total screw up, and during the three years that we were together, he could not hold a job to save his life. M has always been extremely manipulative, and at the time, he had me completely convinced that his not having a job was due to his work being ""too good"" rather than him just not having a job to begin with. The whole relationship was filled with manipulation and abuse. The final straw in the basket was the night that I decided to give him another chance at a relationship with his son. We went to the park with my son and it was all around a good time. Then, when I was driving M home (yes he did not have a car), he began to beg me to come home with him to ""live like a family"", which I knew was BS since I had been clear of him for a while before then. In a slight rage, he put his hands on the steering wheel while I was driving, and my son was in the back seat. I decided to pull over with the intentions of making him walk, and I had followed up with a slap. M seized the moment by chasing a cop down the street to get his attention. This resulted in me being arrested for the night for domestic abuse, while my father and brother came to pick up my son. M was smiling and happy. There was a whole ordeal with child services after I was arrested of course, but the officer was aware that I was the fit parent and M was not in any way. I called quits completely and cut all contact with M, but that was the only way. This is where things get interesting...

A few months after this incident, after not having heard from M in a long time, I hear his name again, but this time it is in the news. M has been arrested and found guilty for murdering the child of his new girlfriend. M landed himself a life-sentence. This happened when my son was around 2 years old. Lately, my son has been bringing up his father because everyone at daycare has a dad, but where is his? This is obviously a tricky topic. Now it is even more difficult, because his father has been diagnosed with cataracts and cancer in the eye, which means he has a limited time to live. M's mother (my sons grandmother) has been slowly bringing up the idea of M and my son meeting, but I have always been adamant against it. Now I find out the M may be dying soon. What do I do?

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TL;DR: MY sons father is in prison for killing a child, and now he has cancer with a limited time to live. Should I bring my son to meet his father who is in prison? ",5.256861683132961,4.908949939114394,5.967824068563267,83.41691524818475,68.0590405904059,9.355172003332935,28.0004761337936,8.933256019334266,1.8578973217474115,2065,57,447,32,31,677,227,542,0.135,0.825,0.04,-0.9957,5,0,0,0,2,0,77.0,3,0,0,4,22,13,5,0,43,1,65,9,2,6,5,81,85,27,3,4,15,23,1,1,1,4,6,2,2,3,21,36,0,3,9,0,0,14,6,6,0,1,36,4,55,7,72,39,8,89,0,0,1,1,72,33,1,2,41,315,76,5,0.0,0.21054867734152755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478629071498176,0.09627041706473742,0.1079641339758585,0.060421975174271884,0.09316840349794188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23728965781489464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832121536583258,0.0,0.10832593506600297,0.0,0.07560596756684047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18145435608012872,0.10162229150684428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653758367609396,0.18631793187346396,0.0,0.0,0.07094058520509812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036453072838354,0.09221368924871357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180721171125104,0.0,0.05868548873269031,0.0,0.0,0.08490128708336678,0.0,0.0,0.08376115953481356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733232754834016,0.08120853810805799,0.0,0.0,0.0974209358446832,0.0,0.0,0.0928423422168019,0.08523432571709677,0.0,0.1490486191985762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857096880389157,0.094583930432204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014194609286232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825032757184994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030237627737824,0.0,0.0,0.26451380989001266,0.0,0.09830087116092263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002282100305865,0.0,0.0,0.09085654077385122,0.12551669376549546,0.043408288977411634,0.0,0.2353721498932564,0.15726132441252091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059308976208380784,0.0,0.0,0.09678518436527024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092031200545765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581320217114903,0.0,0.16676197455387418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323456136150092,0.0,0.0,0.06757546702501377,0.0,0.0,0.09865892619649998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932016293054451,0.09953386360617268,0.09450436381331097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19078622904388265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349876745219337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059028898966059465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31085967340619003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105215599890406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082366105697502,0.0,0.19839875234526008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468485207504203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079641339758585,0.1144347321555087
parenting,JessChill1813,2019/02/19,Fail I’d always thought I’d be a much better mom :\,-4.122500000000001,-4.088108249999999,-0.26333333333333186,104.07500000000002,131.5,1.6,12.333333333333336,3.1291,-1.850366666666666,39,1,10,0,3,14,10,12,0.369,0.446,0.185,-0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151645792615397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412788248263692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5843616890583281,0.0,0.0,0.3667840778198395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39610885815037655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jkabaseball,2019/02/19,"Sleep training a 3 year old. We have a 6 and 3 year old. The 6 year old has been a solid sleeper from age 1. We must have made some mistakes with our second. He is a decent sleeper, he will wake a few times a night but no longer screams at night like he use to. Issue is wife sleeps in his room every night. We would like to break him of this. When he does wake up, it is strictly because my wife isn't there. I slept with him last night in our spare room, and he did well for first night. I did put him down in his own bed to fall asleep. I laid on the floor, vs my wife laying in bed. He scream a while but eventually feel a sleep. I'd really like to get him sleeping in his own bed by himself. Anyone have any advice? I think it comes down to him use to my wife sleeping in his bed with him.",0.8080539499036625,2.1963096127167674,2.2085780346820805,99.77028516377649,80.04046242774568,5.075761078998074,17.891714836223507,5.2151,-0.8091122157996145,605,11,154,2,15,195,96,173,0.064,0.856,0.08,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,10,0,14,9,9,3,1,21,22,6,0,3,3,4,1,3,0,3,0,2,6,0,3,9,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,1,2,5,3,23,4,24,14,4,35,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,1,20,89,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085247340842903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714324194980413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932004182483206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915210727663983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771870778385963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927230396625243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557828085962844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057358785453424925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649219608156744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926783465916024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840212054470788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246892274406547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626348921331008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733988226038024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5322798250939343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571092953076801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140387569269818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267271191936937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5676107429132566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268791464565641,0.0,0.0,0.06614790653247288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959518608713256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199638446872253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805846799514389,0.0,0.0,0.21915535377662745
parenting,WorldClassChocolate,2019/02/19,"Older sibling seeking advice I’m not sure if this goes in this sub but...

This past weekend my mother was unexpectedly hospitalized and will be bedridden for 6+ weeks. I’m a college student (21F) with 5 siblings, 3 ( 11M, 9F, 7M) of which need to be taken care of while my mom is recovering. My older sister (who has a 7 month old) and I will be dividing responsibilities. So far, I’m in charge of taking the kids to and from school. This is on top of going to classes and my internship. 

We’ve had the kids for a couple of days now and they have been acting out and not listening to us. I know they’re still adjusting to not having my mom around. 

What are some ways I can get them to calm down, listen, and stop making things difficult? ",2.7493999999999983,4.214846406666666,4.703666666666667,83.60350000000003,74.93333333333334,7.4,23.833333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.2299333333333329,571,17,120,9,12,196,104,150,0.047,0.901,0.052000000000000005,0.1625,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,2,1,4,4,0,0,5,0,15,0,0,1,1,22,28,11,0,2,5,4,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,8,10,0,1,2,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,4,2,11,3,21,19,1,23,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,2,12,77,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21107490678350585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922878049239429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22022869801684788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23900239025457906,0.0,0.13930358710922056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285226473793092,0.0,0.12275906110129327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870919215214674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418318462440854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059584683518465,0.17241094170259208,0.0,0.0,0.16016293749049956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22665803447575725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20619859660383244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21860581709477653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249968240910693,0.1805875597846561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357957205890664,0.0,0.1624068163434211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14350230238161235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259824120941598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145253847078756,0.1732639824617228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,restore_md,2019/02/19,"Son Heard Us This past Saturday night my husband and I were having sex and I try not to be too loud because we have woken the kids up before and been able to cover up before they make it to our bedroom. This past Saturday we were doing our thing and when we were finished my husband leaves the room to go to the bathroom and my 8 year old son is sitting outside our door. I talked to him the next day about how we are adults and it's a show of our love for each other etc. But it is a breach of our privacy for him to do that. It is completely inappropriate and what we do in our bedroom is our private business. He was very ashamed and embarrassed when I confronted him but I didn't want to leave it as a secret subject. I want sex discussion to be open and free subject in our house, so if they have problems or concerns (when they are of age to be involved in that of course) they can talk to us. I just feel some type of way about him being so curious and comfortable to listen to us at such a young age. Anybody have any experience or advice with this? Thanks in advance!",4.405057915057918,4.687359621621622,5.264555984555988,85.56162162162164,69.9009009009009,8.324839124839125,29.37065637065637,8.192908349453996,1.8069899613899616,844,30,182,11,14,276,125,222,0.051,0.853,0.096,0.9356,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,16,0,4,1,11,8,1,2,8,0,24,3,0,2,0,33,34,22,0,4,7,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,13,18,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,4,0,0,8,4,34,5,31,22,3,29,0,0,0,3,39,9,0,4,16,138,47,1,0.14873607975155012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534317572651725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114563460855586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906681336981642,0.0,0.25312689787732096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594694979716275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592246681087632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658800455300472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549242621308475,0.0,0.0,0.07520543094154207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453014174710888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162146634496145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149800653247113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134240119020036,0.0,0.09928248818874702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15818250818980892,0.13957873518846536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607349559758896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28397083592215994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232034107589892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23909685376346,0.0,0.13693619891269446,0.0,0.0,0.09881364237011404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098203485861028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5367335716519225,0.0,0.0,0.12272284269742258,0.17545678691282096,0.1180597770121315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957811588560711
parenting,gda23,2019/02/19,"Misbehaving while visiting friends I’m just posting to get some opinions on a situation that happened this weekend. Over the weekend, my husband and I had several friends over for a karaoke night and dinner. One of the couples in attendance have a 2yo daughter. During the course of the evening, the girl wrecked total havoc in the house. She found crayons in my daughter’s (10yo) room and scribbled all over 2 walls. She broke several toys, knocked over a case of flowers, tore up paper, and scattered food all over the house among other things. Her parents made no effort to stop her from doing any of this and made no attempt to discipline her in any way. At the end of the evening, the parents just gathered their things and left without so much as a “sorry for the mess”. I feel that it was inconsiderate of them to allow such behaviour at a friend’s home. My husband thinks it’s no big deal. So I’m just wondering if I’m being over sensitive about it?",5.84734432234432,6.833917159340657,5.690934065934068,81.27489926739928,66.96703296703296,8.484249084249084,35.49633699633699,8.59863814320734,2.9158117216117208,761,37,142,11,12,237,110,182,0.134,0.8220000000000001,0.043,-0.9333,3,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,2,2,9,5,0,0,17,0,5,2,0,3,3,25,16,11,0,1,5,6,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,10,6,2,2,4,3,0,2,4,2,0,1,5,1,12,3,31,10,5,29,0,1,0,0,20,19,0,4,6,100,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961692958539881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959312448524945,0.0,0.0,0.14869980293643592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774927101212838,0.0,0.0,0.19053152380958616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292947683453503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17440936008475594,0.15814607459427818,0.3343064752635407,0.0,0.07535675904989353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754640658774866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467932049828874,0.0,0.0,0.3328553163625328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567115927867475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729570159077589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602921484393277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535464137468256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773727107667136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32031147650927816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813712160202832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258886643329929,0.0,0.0,0.16212602105505486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145911231910226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058679780775905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916464582928562,0.09241987160982552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448691490630887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903725390030414,0.15641654840275754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ColeyMoley24,2019/02/19,"There are no sick days when you're a parent A little background: My husband currently works six hours away and is usually home for about 3 days every 2-3 weeks and I am a relatively new SAHM (just over a year now). We have a 6yo, 4yo and 3mo. I have been playing ""part-time single mom"" for about six months now, you full-timers are amazing, strong people. The baby likes to cry a lot and he likes to puke on me a lot. Yes he has reflux. The other two are a handful. This past weekend, the 6yo had four days off from school, so I figure we will maybe get to do something fun with the extra two days. Hubby won't make it home, but we will still have fun. 

I wake up sick on Friday. Like really sick...can't breathe, headache, stuffy, congested, coughing, sore throat, the whole she-bang. My parents previously planned to take the two older kids overnight. Doesn't look like we'll be having much fun this weekend aside from a slumber party at Grammy and Papa's, but at least I will get a small break. I get the kids back late on Saturday and set them up with dinner, and plan a movie night camp out in the living room so I can shower and sleep. I am feeling even worse than I did on Friday, so the less stress and fighting I have to deal with the better. 

I've made it to Sunday. I'm still feeling pretty bad so I try to get through the day with as little conflict as possible. I decide on leftover tacos for dinner. I make up the kids plates and mine, then go to change the baby's diaper before I eat. Well the baby who never pees when I change him decides to pee. All over his bed, the floor, me and himself. As I'm cleaning that up my daughter decides to bring me my tacos and I set them down on my bed. I get the baby cleaned up get the pee cleaned up, change my clothes, pick up the baby and sit down on my bed. And in my tacos. At this point I'm too overwhelmed to be upset so I put the baby down and go change my pants and I put the smashed tacos on the counter. During this my daughter wants another taco and she wants it now. I told her ""here have one of mine"" and I give her my flattened butt taco. And before you judge me I ate the other one myself. I shower, bathe the baby and clean up the small taco sauce stain on my sheets. I'll just wash them tomorrow. I decided to call it a night, feed the baby, drink some NyQuil and pass out.

Monday is here, I'm feeling better and venture out to go grocery shopping with the little one while my sister watches the two olders. I get back home unpack the groceries and make lunch. Afterwards I head back to my bed that still has taco stains on it, and feed the baby before I change the bedding. While feeding him he lets go of his bowels and fills his diaper. Once he's done eating, I lay him on the bed so I can get up and prepare to change his diaper. It's then I noticed a stain on the pillow and I think ""oh I must've gotten taco sauce on the pillow too"". But nope. The baby has shit out of his diaper and all over me, my pillow, my bed and himself. He is now laying there joyfully kicking his feet in his poop creating a bigger mess. Oh and the olders want their Valentine's candy now. Right now. Glad I waited to change the sheets. So I clean him up and set him in the crib, remove the sheets, load them in the wash, then get in the shower, bathe the baby and make the bed. It's at this point I think we'll, we have covered all the bases...I've been peed on, puked on, and shit on. It ties up this weekend in a nice little bow. 

Later that night and I'm making my water before I climb into bed to browse reddit and go to sleep. I look on the bright side and think about how many showers I got to take. I mean seriously, Three days in a row! That hasn't happened in over six years. I take a step back and my nice clean foot lands in cat vomit. Ahhhh, back into the shower I go. 


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parenting,Master-builder22,2019/02/19,"Income related help needed Hi. Not sure if this is the right place to put this but thought I'd try. 
I'm a stay at home dad as my fiancee works which I love however I would like to bring in extra money while I'm at home but all I find online is the same rubbish. 

Can anyone recommend any ways please. Thanks in advance",0.930341151385928,3.04773017910448,2.584648187633263,93.57970149253731,83.02985074626865,5.619616204690832,20.01918976545842,6.868970318607317,0.2625070362473352,250,7,55,3,7,82,53,67,0.02,0.703,0.278,0.966,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,0,2,11,11,5,0,3,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,4,7,9,3,12,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,1,2,29,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242928245435564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701265272517712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21830872850505104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009916784181075,0.0,0.4791811707783736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166922665278006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155755539366334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17710761989245793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24955216374409414,0.2621905656458974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24011479154180615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20398047783656692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545871662157417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22511758357464445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199051755174256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962382979948586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621665584119764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895916214379027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738889547703672,0.0,0.0,0.16967541693209015,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mtdomph,2019/02/19,"Book exchange? Does anyone know of online toddler/child book exchange programs? My kiddo loves books and reading, and we go through so many that I thought an old school, Netflix type program where we get a few books a month, then return them would be awesome. I can’t seem to find any when I look online except for subscription book services where I purchase a few books a month (books are curated by the company instead of the parent). The library is always an option but it’s tough for us to make the frequent trips out right now.

Any thoughts?",4.8992475728155345,6.733535271844659,4.439016990291265,86.1688167475728,70.06796116504854,6.315048543689321,31.32160194174757,6.6274283507984215,1.7575058252427187,435,19,78,3,8,131,77,103,0.018000000000000002,0.925,0.057,0.5705,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,10,0,5,1,0,1,0,15,14,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,5,9,3,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,9,1,10,10,2,14,0,0,1,1,6,4,0,2,8,48,11,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961262471633654,0.0,0.0,0.2935840978860313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093417345992627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890034349323911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972919234461694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277782299705515,0.0,0.12267808445241628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863088695426452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126784507445412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194821874394948,0.0,0.14408807579080754,0.2188479310143627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34459442548617514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265085220250409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23968673452218886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21591818942056315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434306815594825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21846161619966914,0.0,0.19651063176063488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34273709868182417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25965273085093993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334059062731556,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PawkiePetunia,2019/02/19,"What is the rule at your daycare about sick kids? What rules does your daycare have about sick kids coming? 

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I use  family member for childcare and there's some backstory I don't feel like getting in to. We're waitlisted at the daycare we want in to this fall.",2.558525641025639,5.3223495961538525,2.7669230769230784,90.66141025641028,81.88461538461539,5.7743589743589725,24.051282051282055,7.1686216300943375,1.1075282051282058,217,8,41,3,6,66,39,52,0.17,0.8059999999999999,0.024,-0.8303,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,1,0,7,8,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,9,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,1,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632917872880757,0.407419894823179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888267903700981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934187483387222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160861070359907,0.0,0.16953513076209706,0.2395346797455144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517769979781025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638081081036206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895870623243192,0.0,0.0,0.19776556652859567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.407419894823179,0.0
parenting,lesisamess,2019/02/19,"Having a third child—how to finally decide? New poster here. My husband and I have two children, 4 and 6. We have been going around and around for the last few months talking about whether we are done or will try for a third. I am probably 75% yes, he’s 25% yes. I feel like we don’t ever make progress when we discuss it and are waiting for some moment of clarity that isn’t going to come. We have the information we need, we’ve been through pregnancy and young childhood, we know how we work together as parents. So why can’t we just decide? I know if we are done I will have some grief around that, and I’d rather start working through those feelings now rather than drag them out. I know ultimately I’ll be fine and there’s much to be said for stopping at two, particularly as the one who has to carry the pregnancy! If we’re not done, we should start trying (I’m 35). 

Anyone have experiences to share or advice? Ready to get off this treadmill and move forward, whatever the choice we make. Thank you!",2.371413982717989,4.512250577114429,3.271112856768788,90.45259230164964,78.0547263681592,6.420633673736581,24.011783189316567,7.475848149327749,0.9781283582089552,790,27,167,11,19,251,126,201,0.034,0.848,0.118,0.9415,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,12,1,1,3,14,5,0,0,7,2,24,0,0,3,1,52,42,18,1,6,9,2,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,6,25,0,2,8,0,0,5,4,1,0,5,6,3,21,4,23,31,4,24,0,1,0,0,24,7,0,6,15,114,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742686289662714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833523941908777,0.0,0.0,0.3755848130883706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114457209781047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317551984646568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272123798885997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756798425339015,0.0,0.0,0.14221853066610052,0.10046964910413188,0.0,0.15405873305366094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347596618683161,0.0,0.15985218628180795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23186790115977826,0.11463626906480215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870714152567571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877498661240775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225348957061357,0.14947271425921774,0.10338288300762737,0.1042790466523989,0.0,0.13582612826349014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529789385007856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156158488727383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162828150746618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377605947151716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908430812118624,0.0,0.0,0.11757713030671695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303705996831012,0.0,0.1294777834562392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19096382324340172,0.0,0.27475985698190586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690118407918485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047678630410886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlayfulCommission,2019/02/19,"Parents who believe in spankings or hitting as a punishment why do you believe it is right? Parents who dont why are you against it? Im just really curious. If i had a kid i would never use spanking as a punishment. My dad used to spank me and my brother a lot when we were younger. He wouldnt go to the extent of abuse though even though it felt like it. We got “in trouble” so much that spanking became almost a once a week practice for my dad. So much so that he eventually started joking around with it. We dont get in trouble much anymore but he spanks us if we swear. I just wish he wouldn’t use it as a joke either spank us or dont but dont tease us. 

I just wish his mom never spanked him. Damn that lady sounds batshit crazy. My dad was the youngest out of 4 and would get whipped in the ass with a spoon or anything his mom had whenever his siblings got in trouble hed be the one to pay. His sister was neutral and never did anything to stop but she wasnt rude to him. I just wish physical punishments wasnt a last resort. Weve never had anything other than spankings because he thinks that, it was the only way to get us to listen. At least im older now and he knows I’ll stand up for myself so hes more lay back and doesnt hit unless hes really mad. I just wish he wouldnt do it. Hes a good man. Why does want to hit. He says he doesnt but i don’t believe him.",0.7487171524128051,2.4504230200668893,2.7820007166746272,94.13671822742478,81.34113712374581,5.4754419493549955,22.71870520783565,6.367922702773337,0.3422631629240329,1069,36,248,9,28,360,143,299,0.125,0.7659999999999999,0.109,-0.6204,2,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,9,2,0,0,16,14,7,0,15,0,32,1,1,3,4,52,54,25,0,12,16,9,1,1,0,5,0,3,0,2,15,13,0,1,3,2,1,1,16,10,0,1,14,4,36,4,29,30,8,25,0,0,0,1,48,10,2,7,13,163,51,1,0.0,0.09460884330652633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995794529312783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918945110581295,0.0,0.0,0.19712851074159635,0.07108316657198571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139949431810188,0.0,0.04867563903081826,0.0,0.0,0.26988982116596383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987701494458015,0.0,0.3743330382892873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0527399770730636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666823890745275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251545255649229,0.0,0.045380427489591986,0.06697414411176134,0.12772620699832854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17250276735983594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04388330961869654,0.06508816697447517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03901053249939695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788536373990088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703801886233315,0.0,0.0,0.1760961624029986,0.0,0.2463400603016574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850373298142666,0.05410822663570282,0.060729298819241676,0.0,0.0,0.1773272956576074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023075313851738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819121178000391,0.0,0.06349969034976834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651803218431965,0.0,0.0,0.0667579288144589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116446677526066,0.156903859489982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841974539283261,0.20689352261601604,0.0,0.0,0.04709742484447209,0.06338097913244864,0.06405061689233885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161558168105281,0.0,0.3672928801950085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344587886637883,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,darkkight009,2019/02/19,"Child left unattended On my way to work when my girlfriend ask for her  keys to get a pack of cigarettes.  I told her not to leave the baby alone but yet she still darts out behind me. Tried  to block her with my car but she just went around me. Now not only am I going to be late, I don't know how much I can trust her judgment. On top of all this there is a strange in the house working on the house we're renting. She said it was only a few minutes but I don't think any amount of time is acceptable. Rant over",-0.001756756756755351,1.977336864864867,1.5184009009009038,100.65165540540545,85.75675675675676,4.781081081081081,17.35810810810811,5.985473137389443,-0.6408324324324322,396,9,98,3,12,127,79,111,0.094,0.812,0.094,0.0062,1,1,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,8,2,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,1,1,15,16,5,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,3,0,1,3,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,4,1,17,2,18,11,4,19,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,0,6,66,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21535015150018927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14139780988393896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509953167625115,0.19438411650709436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863352129823144,0.0,0.11816997301442675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47984076750644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142714998578284,0.0,0.23455124308724906,0.22016516860257454,0.2259138047777144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285061505042793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162764213404886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778663908739547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660511463057011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332315271714168,0.0,0.0,0.12124417999162028,0.0,0.0,0.1986836083277756,0.0,0.14116910355934678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504314763070865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19275084802681067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027473494435536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frankinthecoil,2019/02/19,"CPS just stopped by my home to check on my son who no one has seen or heard about in 1.5 years Well there’s a perfectly good reason for that. I suffered a miscarriage at almost 25 weeks pregnant in June 2017 and opted not to announce it to everyone at the time and share it privately. 

Of course, the CPS worker was doubtful and mentioned they’re aware I have Borderline Personality Disorder which raised the red flags even higher so I had to pull out the baby book we partially made with ultrasound photos and the sorry for loss card with his footprints on it. 

The worker was embarrassed and is gone. 

I call out of work and am now in my closet with the box full of little things I had bought for him crying. ",7.643535457348406,6.609302870503598,7.349969167523128,77.73467625899282,63.460431654676256,10.820554984583763,32.08735868448099,9.957137785484203,2.812164645426516,565,17,111,10,7,179,101,139,0.14400000000000002,0.78,0.076,-0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,5,7,8,0,2,9,0,8,0,0,2,1,21,13,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,7,12,0,1,1,1,2,2,2,4,1,1,9,3,11,4,24,4,1,19,0,2,2,0,10,11,0,3,6,76,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24334396508049294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24814502277365216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669400683990124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27851572424133136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050881613032933,0.0,0.0,0.23221081347323566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203829071973778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437634044739891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435644179444493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299462398758055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467294606853194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21219092861720493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498594279605496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27203488906846274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031710424613418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614480665514376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170373641645626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19493161090237449,0.0,0.21849926230230868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691748424252254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649340049067698
parenting,anewadventure_,2019/02/19,"Christening gift query.. I’ve been asked to be godmother to a relatives baby, I’ll be getting the baby a gift but also wondering do people buy the parents of the baby a small gift too? One of my friends did this as a thank you gift but not sure if it’s a standard thing or not? I don’t want to be rude but at the same time I don’t want to be over the top, I’ve never been a godparent before and only been to two christenings!
Also if anyone has any ideas for a baby christening gift that would help too!
Apologies if this is the wrong place to ask this!",4.281876513317194,4.020081788135595,5.684285714285719,84.3334745762712,70.10169491525424,9.115738498789346,27.026634382566584,8.841846274778883,1.7500397094430993,433,12,96,7,7,147,70,118,0.1,0.674,0.226,0.9557,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,4,5,1,0,13,0,14,0,0,0,2,19,21,11,0,6,9,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,4,0,4,3,12,12,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,5,2,67,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371851413620374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14336473820799706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741015212017933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941762322585708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939217835761553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16287890551798054,0.0,0.11014467872110134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130811229440293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23798996764292105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259727729933987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285699726934273,0.16033800800754736,0.0,0.0,0.2340905123549491,0.0,0.0,0.14615595039461718,0.0,0.22026188925919185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986952287637244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194094608079665,0.0,0.0,0.14005935129672634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293075923884104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059403757670599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486940382540752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286251517143726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976038409599926,0.23049842842484444,0.0,0.0
parenting,chimpattack,2019/02/19,"Potty training logistics, any advice on wiping of the bum? I feel like this should be common knowledge, but I'm looking for advice on how to teach your toddler to properly wipe their bum. And also, how to do it for them without leaving/creating more of a mess than you started with. 

Background: 3.5 year old boy on the spectrum. Day two of potty training at home and at his pre-school (autism lab) and I literally started my day today with a handful of the messiest pooh. Just everywhere, every attempt at cleaning on the toilet just made it worse and even more unpleasant for him. I finally had to just pull him off and lay him on the floor while I cleaned him like normal. 

Just really poop frustrated and not sure of the best way to go about this, logistically speaking. ",6.424398782343989,7.022369232876713,6.577762557077628,76.79684170471846,65.57534246575342,9.22861491628615,34.03044140030441,9.150863307647796,3.031122678843228,612,26,109,10,9,196,97,146,0.124,0.8079999999999999,0.068,-0.877,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,2,2,9,6,1,0,8,0,4,2,2,3,1,23,11,11,0,2,7,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,3,1,4,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,2,4,14,4,27,7,3,23,0,0,1,0,11,10,0,0,12,78,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837550738882792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702641662529113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13352931876113389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060642877793963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532677104002337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969177702381798,0.0,0.1654390249744866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928386924087927,0.14027729660280222,0.0,0.21509921437489685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115940622247947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969618234174592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19185997276726927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489021061002276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185797498158752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19238791788864396,0.0,0.0,0.2060433712682644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579115771970958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987235071425581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27796462701222663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850639067147392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861232331977969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181200639233267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585884312784554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892808934742269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20010429658489626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264473048362411
parenting,artist_tb3,2019/02/19,"What's something about your own parents that drives you nuts now that you're a parent yourself? For me, it's telling me that I can't ever get rid of something. My mother is the worst about giving me things and then telling me that I have to keep them forever. The guilt is insane, even at 33 years of age. It makes me not ever want to take something from her that she sees as having sentimental value. I actually gave my brother an old desk of my great grandma's because I just couldn't take the guilt of it any more. 

I realized I would never do this to my kids because things should be loved for however long you want to love it for, and then you should be able to gift it or get rid of it when you want. No guilt involved.

What's something that you've realized about your own parents that drives you nuts since becoming a parent?",4.618031199569657,5.201336408284021,4.855072619688006,87.61842388380852,69.53254437869822,7.8022592791823575,27.789671866594944,7.686295010490155,1.3980603550295865,659,21,140,7,11,207,94,169,0.132,0.745,0.123,0.6116,5,0,4,0,0,0,12.0,0,7,1,0,9,7,0,3,6,0,12,2,0,1,3,19,26,7,0,7,3,6,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,18,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,1,25,3,19,19,4,14,0,0,1,2,24,1,0,1,11,98,43,1,0.12836059707920125,0.0,0.1252614265105662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728960768628598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15649485715898614,0.14176419469404294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478096377318939,0.2322190176820153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134126228171226,0.12313518106270928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151801143253484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409279649717285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135950891426657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23170090079257025,0.0,0.08568169528673825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899960564728268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469285405806736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5701170104157557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228677696959608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061812123457256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952730350517981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19302238866030108,0.0,0.22438563913911336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055415411493402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271312175971193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091183685319617,0.0,0.0,0.08266001605151879
parenting,PrTYlaDY90,2019/02/19,"Pregnancy discomfort This is my first post ever, I apologise if this is the wrong place. Please let me know if there is somewhere else I should post this if need be.


I'm currently 7months pregnant and over did it being out and about yesterday spending time with my friend before she moves out of the country. Now I am having pelvic discomfort. Does anyone have any recommendations on how to alleviate this? I've tried stretching and sitting on an exercise ball.",4.151309523809523,7.138468654761906,4.3452380952380985,80.53309523809527,76.73809523809524,8.019047619047619,28.380952380952376,8.841846274778883,2.737795238095237,373,16,64,9,9,116,65,84,0.097,0.813,0.09,-0.1531,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,3,0,11,1,0,1,1,14,14,7,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,7,1,9,9,0,17,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,3,6,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860921160948492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733669648680128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109805670478212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21697590719998855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071239092011144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22427793256221232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108995253060172,0.0,0.0,0.191559543793528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626255962717235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25353771811099485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635233407147657,0.0,0.18384601414767188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590468476406453,0.2721661014381597,0.0,0.0,0.4749202175789537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457710213054467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833649173418247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710858944795285,0.0,0.0
parenting,InternetWeakGuy,2019/02/19,Minivan parents - any tips on organization? Got our first minivan two weeks ago and already there's stuff randomly thrown everywhere. Would love to hear organisational tips and techniques from the minivan ninjas.,9.19,12.868648606060615,7.651515151515152,59.79727272727278,62.93939393939394,9.248484848484848,41.30303030303031,9.725611199111238,5.0599575757575765,176,10,22,4,3,53,29,33,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.119,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,3,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,3,12,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27278592738276264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33959000993502136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092683715502857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617567557562539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24612146160850126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468364270165937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777402229246892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417000646617833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522796150339773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006095335011921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24684411785084784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21860404513867326,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,n0names4me,2019/02/19,"My almost 2 year old seems to use his left hand more, should I be worried? ...and this world ain’t made for left-handed folks! 


When it comes to eating or drawing, he tends to use his left hand more often. When we notice it we try to switch hands and he does fine but we are worried he might end up left handed? Or is he still young and learning. ",1.905416666666668,3.3747075972222227,2.5288888888888903,98.305,77.19444444444444,4.800000000000002,17.555555555555557,3.1291,-0.9638777777777778,265,4,62,0,6,82,50,72,0.066,0.8490000000000001,0.084,-0.2452,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,6,5,4,3,0,19,12,8,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,6,8,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,6,7,34,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164401615516325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142572496962424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367420401102673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799616832525724,0.0,0.0,0.1454139184820146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7135241273201566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535019865802804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741680403517267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691895087211136,0.17227830824366194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946245240111858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111361142235825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146680646725148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835959931456596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33346361489932863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572593345308706
parenting,IronTarkusIsBro,2019/02/19,"How to deal with my close friends extremely rude and physical kid? Like the title says, I'm just not sure how to handle this. One of my closest friends has an almost 10 year old son. His son is extremely rude to everyone around him. I'm not talking about in a joking way, just straight rude. His dad, grandparents, and pretty much any other adult around him. When I come over he is a smart mouth. He calls people idiots, dummy's, he constantly interrupts adults, hits people in the face, and has bitten and spit on me a couple times. The part that makes me the most mad about the way that he acts is that he never once has any repercussions for the way he acts. Occasionally they will threaten to ground him but nothing usually comes from that. Also my friend will occasionally say something like "" son, you need to cut that out or I'm gonna get pissed"" but they never spank him. They never follow through. The son even says "" make me idiot"" or ""you won't do anything"" if I even thought something like that as a kid my Mom would have whooped my ass so fast I wouldn't even know what hit me. But my problem is that any time people go to their house and the child is there every one is just so uncomfortable. I don't say anything because I don't feel it's my place. It would be one thing if the kid was in diapers still and didn't know any better, but he is almost 10 and knows exactly what he is doing. So what I want to know is am I an asshole for only socializing with my friend when his kid is not around?",3.4609324942791773,4.783790539473684,4.12070366132723,89.06079519450803,72.8815789473684,7.260640732265448,23.74370709382152,7.7425588080867325,0.9228096681922202,1180,32,254,15,23,375,158,304,0.13,0.7809999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.9503,1,0,2,0,1,0,33.0,0,2,4,1,21,20,8,0,15,0,28,5,5,4,5,54,49,24,0,8,14,6,1,3,4,7,0,4,0,7,15,16,0,0,6,1,0,6,11,9,0,3,3,5,32,11,26,36,3,36,0,0,0,1,46,14,2,7,16,159,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219977803575589,0.0,0.0,0.0767470120924527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610510119736668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579499317637348,0.2563003986744869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850229757139545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487748665922436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799589293697417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533896496295974,0.0,0.10370925680319493,0.0,0.0,0.1061887551503559,0.0,0.0,0.09894064682205528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901614376762548,0.0,0.08085869322598742,0.09170325385364554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852521299902094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296584108799079,0.0,0.05014025799346454,0.0,0.054541847334194433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073626073716633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096996270395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406579857690231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812116960480094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123986665046208,0.0,0.0,0.07054884331741679,0.07116038854349728,0.2220534716924619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208560866660608,0.0,0.10070415823109527,0.10220470182880087,0.19509485476081148,0.07298935528254834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392593810404184,0.0,0.1996001208180609,0.0,0.10026801187144416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763578544673736,0.0,0.0918301348498289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30527613849561136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782912241316867,0.0,0.1477644769825018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664160395778244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045039803974636,0.0,0.0,0.07713688766231644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375806884141158,0.0,0.0,0.07618929899137578,0.11192152095110004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569717302860486,0.0,0.056605472839365435,0.2285290738078627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634838074724312,0.0,0.0,0.0618014028587469
parenting,flabbber34,2019/02/19,"My kid ate candy off a hotel room wall I don't know what to do, I'm not even sure I should freak out. We just checked into a relatively cheap hotel. I wasn't impressed with it from the get-go. My 10 year old son was in the bathroom and I was bringing him his toothbrush when he started talking about the 'sticky candy' he just ate. I said 'where did you get candy from?' and he replied 'right there' and pointed at a spot on the front of the bathroom sink. I flipped out. Worst case scenario, it's drugs. Or it could have hepatitis or something. And this kid has allergies! He very well knows he shouldn't eat ANYthing unless I check it out! 
My imagination is running rampant and I am not very calm right now. I'm really not looking for any more worst case scenarios. I need some solid advice. I'll be staying up to watch him for any reactions, but in the next few hours days weeks what should I do?? ",1.7668192918192889,3.9200999065934106,2.7467399267399317,93.37881562881563,80.15384615384616,5.5829059829059835,23.2979242979243,6.691623216298621,0.557116239316239,701,24,151,7,18,222,117,182,0.078,0.904,0.018000000000000002,-0.847,0,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,0,9,7,0,0,9,0,16,4,0,0,1,30,28,10,0,5,9,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,7,11,3,0,3,2,3,3,6,3,1,0,7,3,18,4,20,16,5,29,0,0,2,0,15,16,0,3,9,94,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849249689690336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573819272606945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572993776460106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109423755534895,0.0,0.0,0.1220453530739672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946049340194465,0.19364168128227016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499247292636705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977421368817853,0.0,0.10755051801637616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863651259159844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800476958249425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891551228965878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403204516195687,0.0,0.0,0.2012608797917399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985775127452854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17889473921199164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123319023356155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32322305261605944,0.18001235802914525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568764004738385,0.0,0.0,0.13394637236689566,0.2017066581417052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17835822656236425,0.0,0.0,0.1521054498836527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122887299547555,0.0,0.0,0.15179841634632935,0.0,0.17015117166883095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186556225113145
parenting,alpha6591,2019/02/19,"Transitioning from 1 child to 2 I’m currently pregnant with my second and my daughter is 15 months old. By the time this baby is born, my daughter will be 22 months old. I was wondering, how did you prepare your first for the arrival of your second? At 22 months old, do they understand what a baby sibling means? Should I expect a little bit of jealousy from her? I practice attachment parenting, we are very close and she is still nursing. We also bedshare. So I’m definitely worried a new baby will be a bit tough for her to understand at first, but she is so loving with other kids, she loves kissing and hugging them. We also have dogs and she practices being gentle with them. 

Any and all advice is welcome!! ",3.634026763990267,5.77079273722628,4.7106751824817525,81.62372566909977,74.18248175182481,6.9024330900243305,28.204987834549875,7.793537801064563,1.9543776155717758,563,23,100,8,12,184,87,137,0.029,0.752,0.218,0.9871,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,3,3,2,6,6,0,0,6,0,16,4,0,1,1,21,24,11,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,12,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,21,5,14,16,3,17,0,0,0,4,23,4,0,1,13,77,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14885195919631747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24363132998790216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358742885849533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33260276672703665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591381498719793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267144379900482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749617189661225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592851145757995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36475732976116654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147118146160979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795239710882496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914085428619285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216483573467796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882296606784401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171550846851443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256855403244089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651918870323318,0.0,0.15469523166724775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,apeball,2019/02/19,"App suggestions for keeping digital copies of kids artwork etc. My kid started kindy this year and has been bringing home a painting or drawing pretty much every day. So far I have been writing the dates on them and putting them aside to eventually be put inside our keepsakes box, but I’m quickly realising that this is going to lead to boxes and boxes of (let’s face it) crappy drawings done by a four year old. 

I LOVE her artwork and I think taking photos of them to be stored in one place like an app on my phone will be much better than keeping the actual drawings. I don’t want to take photos of them and just have them on my phones camera storage as they will just get lost in amongst all my other photos. 

Can any of you recommend an app I could download to save her artwork to? ",7.16,6.201303589743593,7.143205128205127,78.58096153846154,64.38461538461539,9.338461538461539,34.243589743589745,8.07648339933343,2.526489743589744,624,23,120,6,8,200,105,156,0.046,0.8059999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.9535,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,6,3,4,5,0,0,6,0,16,2,1,1,1,18,29,9,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,5,0,2,1,0,1,5,1,1,0,2,4,0,19,4,21,18,4,19,0,1,0,1,17,7,0,1,8,84,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.18005338001698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254718977908669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318250215289185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731477794967035,0.0,0.0,0.11899252002442835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18881594055589945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20577540690549828,0.0,0.0,0.1554561097503437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639791515994273,0.0,0.10486025765311248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507676071310436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279987178362938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867212739616904,0.0,0.09014138286841994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141248752521101,0.0,0.16652584719351787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27126950218847584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361031015596092,0.0,0.1250275261834871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19277179034259176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18771116341873909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37096338944765095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305958481385814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774543965001609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822539948457815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882771223612037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23763445295073876
parenting,mumblemee,2019/02/19,"Do you spank your children? Why or why not? I believe that the general public feels different about spanking as a form of punishment/discipline now compared to the way they did back 30 years ago. I know the arguments of why spanking is bad but I'm just curious to know if it's still a common ""practice""",3.709152542372877,5.709495847457628,4.812000000000001,81.58003389830509,73.57627118644069,8.787796610169492,32.13898305084746,9.3871,3.2096549152542373,241,12,45,6,5,79,48,59,0.079,0.8690000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.1306,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,1,0,5,1,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,7,4,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,6,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,6,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295716826867267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914096881028126,0.2162389316845715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917837302295072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27058079241570165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094894713031752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28465917803144936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068231487176136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20556764723807966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7010722034714791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667757467791596
parenting,perogiesonthestove,2019/02/19,"I just realized I am such a bad mom, and I feel like my identity is torn in 2 So I thought I was a great mom to a 2 year old. We read for hours. He knows some letters. I get his help in the kitchen. I am ultimately patient and gentle with him. I make sure he has boundaries and I ask for hugs. We make apple chips and eat healthy. I put him in classes. I put us in the local family health study. I make sure he visits relatives. I don't rely on videos. I got momfriend/child combos. 

And then I came on this throwaway to post a legal issue about my ex today. And I came to the crashing realization that I hadn't been taking proper responsibility for keeping my ex and I at short visitstions (in which we get along well) or just drop offs. I dropped the ball over and over. 

And my ex is not a stable person, and is extremely argumentative and wears me down. And we have a bad bad past. And it is my responsibility that again and again I let him end up at my apartment to visit. And I found it easier to turn into a vicious person with my ex (behind closed doors) than to figure out how to solve the problem. 

And I had a completely different  context to the day than my ex did. And I tried keeping him out of the car today after he put our son in, and he tried to get in via the window and then via the door. And I tried to drive off. And my son saw that. And that is my fault. Yes Dad wasn't going to leave my apartment after we drove home, and I was trying to avoid that. And yes..

 I can say all I want that dad is driving me mad because he follows me and forces his way into the car, or refuses to leave the car or apartment.... But I set myself up for it. And I put my son through that. And I'm a really shitty mother. And this is not a reverse look for sympathy. I was letting myself set very very bad examples for my son because I was keeping it secret from him. 

So frick me and the best-mom pedastal I've been living on.  I don't even know what to do with myself or think of myself (aside from custody lawyer and drop in therapy) and I'm worried my world feeling so messed up is going to least to some serious depression issues.

I also don't know how to help my son. He trusted me to be calm and rational and simple. ",1.5364032241180787,3.1723005708154517,3.6053438710352768,89.45788600439656,78.69957081545064,6.4347534805820175,22.31005966712028,7.313800181584829,0.6848127917931541,1710,51,381,22,41,583,212,466,0.111,0.7879999999999999,0.101,-0.8373,1,1,0,0,0,0,53.0,7,0,0,0,14,20,2,1,22,2,30,5,1,5,3,86,62,46,0,2,9,15,2,1,0,0,1,1,5,2,15,49,2,5,11,3,0,17,7,12,1,0,17,5,71,8,64,42,4,70,0,1,2,1,47,32,0,6,15,261,86,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952674356713896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127816578689903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903686531017548,0.10599694060884134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912392908320094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988748491452609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115605947514123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606979874237709,0.0,0.07488221759414969,0.0,0.0,0.09083491538373913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088962421134151,0.0,0.0,0.07700398398205119,0.0,0.0,0.0574237578471828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196030477031832,0.0,0.08792003620048439,0.062110718940163824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532639754731684,0.0,0.0,0.13626936469014486,0.0,0.09882122912392817,0.0,0.06953471719612478,0.09585283839491572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241429358900853,0.0,0.0,0.116549535341483,0.0,0.08720898358102235,0.0,0.08561944260486493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148778155279524,0.0,0.2318316574822924,0.0,0.0,0.1433416177780639,0.0,0.0,0.18411608310113686,0.0,0.17780627234766647,0.0,0.04247501603255625,0.0,0.0767705590786717,0.0,0.07300860349613378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410152125344264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30547299693991503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123002960745212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299509045285902,0.0,0.15182718053803926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326551388429737,0.0,0.0,0.08319086389641625,0.0,0.34959916107079303,0.0,0.0,0.0869645991131749,0.0,0.055696676736003085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913902971487154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638818622014739,0.0,0.06536886591173131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09942469239209717,0.0,0.0,0.0557083281703469,0.0,0.06902149945788427,0.0,0.0,0.16481994029462926,0.0,0.0,0.23610912268473844,0.09456692017022512,0.0,0.0,0.10457940439242408,0.0,0.0,0.14347097859156951,0.051280096609601256,0.06900977588171825,0.0,0.0,0.07817046459334638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882928784546878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598719965115223
parenting,NicoleF1512,2019/02/20,"My sister died & my family sucks. So. I (24) moved back to where my family was from after my husband (24)& I had went through a rough patch (not important to this story). All my family did was beg & beg me which caused a huge amount of weight on me, so now I’m here. 

Within two weeks I got a job, my daughter moved schools, doctor check up done, now I have my permit (I was terrified to drive before because we lived in a big city).  I have 2 children. 

On February 2nd, my little brothers sister (29) which was practically like my sister, died suddenly at her home. We got the call, went up to see her, she was gone. Feb 8th is my daughters birthday & I spent 2 hours doing my sisters hair & getting her ready for her funeral while my daughter was in school. I left, decorated for my daughters birthday, had her birthday party, which my grandmother is there, looks at me & says “This is your daughters birthday party, you need to straighten the fuck up”. Which I was trying my best to not show any signs of being completely traumatized by what I had just done & seen.. my grandma has always been controlling  , but I’m just now realizing how bad she really is, & am finally starting to put my foot down with her. 

Her funeral is on my birthday, I spend 6 hours there. The entire time. My family shows up to pay respects of course. The funeral is over, I tell them I’m leaving with my two children to spend a couple days with my husband.. Get away for awhile, just trying to enjoy what’s left of this week long horrid situation.. First day, they blow up my phone. Second day, they do the same thing. (Each day I’d answer letting them know I’m okay) 3rd day, tell them I’m okay, well on my way back to where my husband picks me up from, I get notified that they had called the cops because I didn’t answer the phone in a specific amount of time. 

Obviously me and my family aren’t getting along at this point. My grandmother watches my kids while I work.. My son is staying with his dad for the time being just to get some quality time in. So, my grandma starts trying to question my daughter. She’s 6. My uncle starts rambling on about the minorities that are in the big city I live in saying if I just wanna be around abunch of “insert extremely racist redneck  comment here” then he wants nothing to do with me. My daughter is biracial. 

He shows up here talking to my mother outside saying I’ll get what I deserve & he’s done with me. My grandma posts all my business to Facebook, which I don’t even have for privacy reasons, and my friends are sending me screen shots of everything being said. I say something to her, she shows up here yelling at me, telling me it’s only because she cares.. tells me I care for no one but myself, & sticking up for my uncle who has a criminal record, no job & has never lived on his own. Mad at me because I’m choosing to live my life the way I want instead of being miserable like she is.. alone, married 3 times, & the only person she has is her son. Nothing I do for my daughter is ever good enough because she’s not the one doing it. She’ll nit pick at literally everything I do. She did the same thing with me when I was little & had me convinced my mom didn’t want me. 

I’m beat down. I just want to run away. I feel like my life is crashing around me. I have no baby sitter now because I’m refusing to subject my children to that. The only person I have is my mother & she also works. My depression is out of control & I have to be strong for my children. But, whether I can actually do that, is the question. 

I don’t really know why I wrote this.. But I guess I just needed to talk.. 
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parenting,DonutDracula,2019/02/20,"How to deal with a helicopter nanny I work full-time while my 15-month-old is home with our stay-in nanny. 

Don't get me wrong, our nanny is perfect. She clearly loves LO and LO loves her. We're very fortunate in that regard. However, while I'm more of the ""let kids stumble"" (while I'm watching from afar like a hawk), our nanny is very much helicoptering all over the place. 

I completely understand her need to be super careful with LO. I mean, she wouldn't want someone else's kid getting hurt on her watch. But I'm just worried that LO might get too coddled and not learn anything on her own.

1. Any ideas? Am I being too nitpicky about this?

2. Bonus question: LO has started screaming/whining when she wants attention or something and it's getting on my nerves. Same with throwing stuff/food. I'm so confused with all the advice online. Do I actively ignore her? Do I tell her something like ""don't scream/throw""? 
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parenting,LArocking,2019/02/20,"No eating. No pooping. I need to rant but I also need help/support! My 3 year old, who was diagnosed failure to thrive at 9 months with no underlying disease or disorder has decided to stop pooping. She actually has made some progress in the eating since initial diagnosis (has a G tube but only gets 1 or 2 supplemental feeds per day compared to 100% tube fed previously) and began peeing in the potty at age 2. She pooped in the potty exactly 3 times about a year ago but then went back to the diaper for pooping and I’ve just assumed it would sort itself out. Anyway, in the last 2 months she has begun to completely refuse to poop. I offer diaper and suggest potty but now she just wants to hold it. She’s too full to eat (orally) and if I give her tube feeds with all that poop in there, she’s bound to vomit so I’m reducing tube feeds. I’m at my wits end!!!!!! It’s like the 2 most basic things in life (eat and shit!!!) she won’t do!!!!! Why!!?! Help!!!",1.4955724362452507,3.547919268041237,3.6591155724362463,87.01461475854586,80.54639175257732,6.764622897449812,21.55073250135648,7.85451343220497,0.9870453608247431,734,22,155,13,19,251,118,194,0.118,0.828,0.054000000000000006,-0.8862,0,0,0,1,0,0,41.0,0,0,0,1,10,2,1,0,8,0,8,19,8,1,2,33,19,15,0,5,9,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,7,8,8,4,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,5,0,14,1,25,12,4,30,0,0,0,0,14,12,1,7,18,91,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.14584413115073375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248066915991044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951715117370325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491978669311848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566981564463606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638453160258602,0.0,0.0,0.15169119348450616,0.0,0.0,0.17128557160087496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6117090828625735,0.0,0.0,0.13237060046790494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808278955895273,0.14336850534481385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003497894473026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218237763685869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556275672731827,0.0730149673609601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141561752711393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385832009643227,0.0,0.0,0.22163434597003664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682531182617793,0.0,0.0,0.11366539975350168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341089608356148,0.12362869472660545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494902481908865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16959698397311682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928963414344744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714698445191241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815098686124218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385440122342067,0.13485768157224684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616680434690466,0.0,0.0,0.19248508591625446
parenting,TethysX,2019/02/20,"Potty training help I'm trying to potty train my particularly stubborn 3yr old son. For months now, he sits on the toilet and does nothing. We put his pants back on and he pees. We get ready for a bath and I ask ""do you need to potty, let's go"" He says ""No!"" He climbs into the bath water and pees. We explain that pee goes in the potty and he answers ""Stop it!"" We are trying to make it fun with toys and games but nothing seems to work. Oh and he doesn't mind at all wearing wet pants or no pants. Running around outside and pee is the grass or the pool?.. Nope! ""That's gross"".

I understand that there is no sure fire way, but what are your trick and tips. Any particular game, or story, toy, or technique that you has success with? 

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parenting,nat_flores,2019/02/20,"(21 F) I am the mother of a 1 year old and I have mediation tomorrow for custody in California. Can someone give me some advice on what to expect? I filed for sole custody with visitations for my daughter’s father. A year ago we got into a fight and he pushed me and bruised my arm after he picked up my daughter. He lied and said I had pushed him and scratched him when I did nothing and I texted him when he would bring her back and he said “I don’t have to bring her back,” because we didn’t have a custody agreement we had the same rights to my daughter. He did end up bringing her back but that itself scared me. Since then he’s used our daughter as leverage and makes vague threats towards me. In the  span of a year he has only ever picked her up on Sundays and on Occasion he’ll pick her up an extra day on his accord not mine. He would use my daughter as leverage for me to talk to him. He has threaten to plant things in my car and mess with it. He constantly threatens me and says he would beat up my new boyfriend. He also barely provides for her and has bought her diapers and wipes  5 times since she was born. I didn’t file out of spite I filed because when he gets angry he’s spiteful and used our daughter as a tool to get me to speak to him about getting back together or issues non relating to our daughter. I work and pay a nanny to watch my baby and he can’t chip in at all. He’s not acting like a parent. For this reason I believe I should have sole custody. ",3.578210818307909,4.223579747572817,4.5453351826167365,88.68252427184467,71.9126213592233,7.050762829403608,27.65926953305594,6.868970318607317,1.15040656495608,1158,40,253,9,21,377,156,309,0.131,0.863,0.006999999999999999,-0.989,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,6,0,0,2,12,8,4,1,12,0,22,1,1,8,2,44,38,26,0,5,4,10,1,1,0,5,0,4,0,0,6,23,0,0,1,0,2,8,6,6,0,0,11,6,48,2,44,22,4,50,0,0,1,0,56,19,0,2,24,166,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084059542500465,0.11868979434971268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707574308028164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41182780660188817,0.0,0.16324223741283453,0.0,0.0,0.15085375744181267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469287381675006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635116584892748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11859118350707948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111564783790732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20986375507699592,0.12844423660830145,0.0,0.0,0.10708802299164953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975154072182192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541430923830033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937591878640674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293165769900163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284758156200131,0.0,0.14050022639160414,0.0,0.0,0.10183314295564748,0.0,0.0,0.14867449649293507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766630869554075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434555564655675,0.2547295180277846,0.1064786383303092,0.13405220303801127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22151857242074527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344875656609935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761968889932824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895385517202767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807522205605748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469267400544858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974771182267138,0.0,0.0,0.2853453923792548,0.0,0.0,0.2586718735003987
parenting,Ricecakesfordays,2019/02/20,"Please tell me there is a magical solution to get teens to take control of hygiene and self care without being nagged? I have a 14 year old son and an 11 year old son. The 11 old has never had any issues in this department. The 14 year old always has. 

If we aren't reminding him to put on deodorant, take a shower, brush his teeth, clean his ears, or clip his nails, it won't get done. We have tried waiting it out but he becomes unbearably smell and disheveled. The neighbor told him last time that he stinks and we got a super embarrassing email from one of his teachers last year asking if everything was okay because his body odor and breath were so bad. We thought that he would be embarrassed about being the smelly kid but he doesn't give a shit. He's ADHD and super quirky but is extremely intelligent. He knows that he smells but doesn't see the big deal. 

We have tried making charts but those get ignored. We have tried making screen time into a reward but we still have to basically force him to do basic self care. When will this end?

He must be a late bloomer because he still thinks girls are gross. ",4.817534246575345,5.826317146118723,4.759707762557078,86.9420273972603,69.31963470319634,8.031780821917808,26.01552511415525,8.238735603445708,1.4043848401826486,881,25,181,12,15,272,134,219,0.09,0.7509999999999999,0.16,0.9475,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,0,4,6,14,2,2,13,1,26,5,5,3,2,36,44,17,0,4,10,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,3,4,8,15,0,3,3,0,0,2,6,8,0,1,7,8,17,6,14,29,0,25,0,0,2,0,37,5,1,3,18,100,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375079679316488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520478032071532,0.0,0.0,0.07780803155969017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696520323971763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955340886841181,0.13949606496706307,0.1263654772562477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709238869705214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333131573059901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832929845037186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795973380472012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708914044030175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134021501547863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283134623220123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933574347193273,0.10975998527417707,0.0,0.0,0.09151037163659333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942246267108378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628810338336151,0.18653156588473047,0.12906826873398553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15274954780225666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824606553720207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4802489605443092,0.0,0.0775324664278957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559639184616705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502149733058975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117617757193462,0.0,0.2387254502813193,0.0,0.11744823351915573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274841516826468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720559011169329,0.0,0.10000620551775233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331431002650075,0.0,0.0908349572845882,0.13343588547743554,0.0,0.0,0.10933111679629101,0.0,0.2330465388540607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029468187008924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127912649780736,0.0,0.0,0.2947252626349717
parenting,ElizabethLopez79,2019/02/20,"Did i do something bad? Long story short:

Me and my family are from México, i send my son to the US to study highschool and university, now he's going to graduate so i came to be present, i came with some months spare to spend more time with him, he was been living in a rented apartment with other students, since i didn't have a place to stay i decided to talk with the landlord and he allowed me to live with them as well, now my son is mad at me because i'm living with him and i'm embarrassing him.

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What should i do? apart from moving out i guess.",2.1328205128205155,3.7826288205128265,3.6977863247863247,89.39026923076928,77.03418803418803,6.731282051282051,22.81111111111111,7.554174236665415,0.8315818803418802,440,13,96,6,10,146,75,117,0.087,0.894,0.019,-0.8205,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,0,4,4,1,1,4,0,11,0,0,1,0,18,17,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,13,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,3,1,0,6,0,19,1,20,9,2,19,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,6,66,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062454759899093,0.22499388904961254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460376718502766,0.11287393562053533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4235553741462129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455564492608971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052326698299634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397844302083545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4905082218349819,0.1638638484544214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779571903283967,0.1967994702368211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934564211425124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316913979155153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425478891796552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973596273659916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882738718661725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079703112084588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227288616222531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16648420109590864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22499388904961254,0.0
parenting,pixygypsy,2019/02/20,"Transition from Sippy cups to Straws or Open cup; non Verbal child Hello. I am a new sub and a first time mom. My son will be 3 in April and he is mostly non verbal. He can say some words, knows some sign language, and understands everything we say to him. He loves learning and rewards/incentives like stickers and stamps. I am looking for advice because he won't use an open cup. Absolutely ignores them. He is in preschool and does not drink during the day because the cups are open. He has a sippy cup from home that is available to him, but since he expects the watered down Juicy juice from home, and the school serves water, he ignores all drink options and is happy to go about his day. lol It's so stubborn and ridiculous. He doesn't care about milk, either. I see the other kids in his class using open cups and straws, and it kills me that he's not staying hydrated during the day. Especially when he CHUGS fluids at home.  I have been trying to introduce an open cup at dinner time. He will play with it and is curious, but ultimately shoves it away when I try to show him and guide him to drink from it. He has put his mouth on the cup one time for me. And of course, I tipped it too far and drenched him.. :( Tonight I was googling and the internet mentioned that straws are easier to learn from? I whipped out a juice box, thinking if I can get his mouth around the straw and squeeze it for him. He did nothing but shove me away again. I've also tried imitating and he will watch but always refuse. Totally reaching out for any and all advice, tips/tricks. Especially any parents with non verbal kids. Are straws easier than open cups? How were you able to transition your kid and how did you know when they were ready?",3.5052528445006317,5.326846941002954,3.751254740834387,89.73209070796463,73.69026548672565,6.8487568478718925,24.49652338811631,7.5804360353943165,1.0256859671302148,1359,42,280,17,28,420,179,339,0.076,0.8340000000000001,0.091,0.6669,1,0,3,0,0,0,42.0,1,3,2,1,12,10,3,0,15,1,27,10,2,4,3,65,39,33,1,2,9,3,1,1,0,4,0,2,3,4,11,32,7,4,6,5,0,2,4,5,0,2,6,6,29,5,36,28,7,36,0,0,3,1,44,19,0,6,15,164,40,4,0.1211548071963846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23678215079852444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688745554292257,0.10081050509663984,0.0,0.0,0.16477884693781353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785346471553246,0.0,0.0,0.2276578590667532,0.0,0.0,0.14770969189730335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352540048133966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23440448326362864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602338822539427,0.0,0.0,0.356056760806901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088861286010451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030542171092828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329838627985092,0.0,0.06885506894333286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897154512503697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36458444993143496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403984358472765,0.0,0.13316702712639605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919011903045988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173952442705496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934694369422282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189504590656435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701206775365737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625130506815055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209763286732523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452807568681086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179404441465383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269433096091346,0.0,0.12261513302919742,0.09654469536975234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022050849208164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291349043113084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763110843474141,0.0,0.0,0.21193902713208734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467684838277986,0.0,0.0,0.12612642704519822,0.0,0.2092777077654168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SatiricalChicken99,2019/02/20,Sacred of Child Getting Hurt Does anyone else sometimes incessantly think about their child getting hurt or even about losing them? I read things sometimes and I just can’t stop thinking about my little boy for a short while after. ,4.496829268292687,7.839081121951223,3.1494634146341483,87.08760975609756,79.24390243902441,4.255609756097561,22.83414634146341,5.6839178017228535,0.4733570731707317,190,6,30,1,5,54,34,41,0.26,0.74,0.0,-0.8909999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,6,5,0,5,0,3,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,19,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013262131525086,0.23465294362481096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20041258038196996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131265603390624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512622555912204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23930178313847095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4903306140798266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295332065132497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25620921875358804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22907698680138602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.453003405704809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914668047178694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214739785746498,0.2934871450484845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ReeferRivas,2019/02/20,"My baby lies on her back with her head tilted WAY back This is hard to explain, but  https://imgur.com/gallery/hr0i9QV
Theres an image.

Is thisnormal? Will it hurt her in anyway? She seems fine but I cant helo but be worried. Thanks ",1.6309883720930216,4.1283598604651175,1.599273255813955,93.17007267441862,101.55813953488372,4.010465116279072,14.67732558139535,5.985473137389443,-0.45536976744186,186,4,34,2,8,55,37,43,0.213,0.6679999999999999,0.119,-0.5873,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,6,8,3,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,4,6,0,5,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.521251814710483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30362595911181056,0.0,0.3478528520126259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36284502120094897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085605772944844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31205277134691745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26903682805394025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442126228596273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fuzzy2112,2019/02/20,"I just need to vent this - IEP meeting We had a good overall IEP meeting today. First good one ever, so honestly I'm a little suspicious. It's like, why is the school being so damned generous now, after 4 years of us begging? 

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Anyway, we got some good things in place, and I felt more positive overall. But honestly, our son is autistic, and that's the reason we were there. 

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First off, he's 11 now, so they asked him if he wanted to stay. I supported this choice, but I worried how he would feel about everyone just, talking about him, right in front of him. He did well and stayed for about half the meeting. But his body language was his stress posture - legs crossed, fingers laced, head down, chewing on his fingers. I just kept checking on him and asking if he'd like to go back to class. Eventually he relented and left. 

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While he was there, they asked about his friends, which is his main issue. He hasn't made any friends at school (5th grade) and he's not good at interacting with the other kids in his class. It's a long story, but even if he were completely NT, he'd have a hard time at this school. Anyway, he made two comments that just ripped my heart out: 

(When asked about how he is doing making friends this year) ""Well, I make up my own friends on my cards. They like me and keep me company."" He comes home every day with like 10 or 15 index cards with all kinds of writing and drawing on them. When I realized that he's essentially drawing friends and writing interactions, it just killed me. I want him to have a friend so badly. I'm just sitting here crying all night over this. 

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And second, he said ""The kids here at this school just don't like you if you're you."" Which makes sense if you knew the whole story. 

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Anyway, I've been trying to tell someone, anyone, this stuff because it's been hard to keep inside. But I just couldn't seem to share it with anyone. But I had to get it out. Thanks for listening, internet stranger. ",3.3886951780010897,5.314432177377892,3.598018228558076,90.26207680922334,74.26992287917739,6.463223494585963,25.155488042377506,7.229369725052465,1.0021801199657243,1563,52,318,17,33,481,200,389,0.075,0.767,0.158,0.9852,0,0,0,0,0,0,84.0,5,3,4,2,35,27,2,1,11,0,23,7,6,8,3,68,52,31,1,10,21,1,6,5,6,1,0,2,1,2,21,20,1,3,6,0,1,4,4,4,2,6,16,8,41,23,41,31,7,45,0,0,0,0,65,21,1,8,22,202,62,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34585515113945736,0.3878652758796274,0.043413650824821716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927736279048765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387285677722231,0.0,0.0,0.049089315257649424,0.053304054669705,0.03891650601179172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091227569680357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054992838666822995,0.06693542881896494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012566495817206,0.0411717667944779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216597204869062,0.057747282956995175,0.053788277583363686,0.0610022234689326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032279616729501165,0.0,0.06129678089005279,0.0,0.0,0.10860519734784199,0.0,0.0,0.2959375374701015,0.0,0.033353966128494845,0.0,0.03628196186799393,0.21418514343980247,0.05105898763205458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437689045187772,0.0,0.06551865272720306,0.0,0.0,0.07565116333391703,0.0,0.0,0.06403711115281029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06663277544896401,0.0,0.11348853454714053,0.07062992700995413,0.06647993671662179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936276484888239,0.0,0.0,0.15594593648526942,0.06398483701208127,0.0,0.056496731583191476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081463133379385,0.12784185769143866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047336836389627455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990987644196076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0432598969234389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669961435315272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563854814636308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05451933977708424,0.060726825218885935,0.0,0.0,0.2584395106577034,0.0,0.058117888618975086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409175084717111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609071186627875,0.0,0.0,0.0731289450618221,0.0,0.07308196688534335,0.0,0.07244531209612297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051312483048686464,0.05579931016931575,0.0587756490715732,0.0,0.0,0.04241271492523775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037225841751145294,0.0,0.06051322010329865,0.0,0.0,0.043343430667059576,0.0,0.0623627795512202,0.0,0.0767921224210861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530942597135104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480034566347733,0.0,0.05760601751980227,0.07127550972601247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483300962166919,0.0,0.04535037767168487,0.0,0.3878652758796274,0.0822222294074669
parenting,timepass_everyday,2019/02/20,My daughter is diagnosed with Pelvic Kidney Dad here. I am very excited that we are expecting a baby girl. In 20 week ultrasound we found that my daughter has one pelvic kidney. Me and wore are very worried about this. Anyone has any experience? For some reason I searched on Google and it shows so many issues. Please help me. ,2.457909836065572,5.3805569836065565,3.052602459016396,86.75792008196724,85.72131147540983,6.328688524590166,22.379098360655732,7.6454224807358475,1.3800639344262295,260,9,47,5,8,81,49,61,0.039,0.838,0.123,0.6666,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,6,3,2,1,0,9,8,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,8,1,5,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,1,30,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18288454784171926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18804511733328189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729626560022645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26306935227952905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294872581554708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026099406560495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28069754047165263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726571718144944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822368434400148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952091046759944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276509253902026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44379792926169503,0.0,0.0,0.21572287558845266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731158385578021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,millerannemayernick8,2019/02/20,"My son (14yr) ‘touches’ himself too much. When is it really too much? Hello, I’m a mother of three boys. Ages, 14, 12, 9. 

Ok so first off, this has been going on for a year now, and yes I KNOW ITS NORMAL!! I’m not mad or anything, it’s just that he does it everyday after school to the point where my husband and I can hear it and it really gets on my nerves sometimes. 

About a year ago, my oldest son went into puberty and had all the normal changes of a teenage boy but recently my husband and I have notices maybe he touches himself too much. When he comes home from school everyday he’ll head straight to his room, do his homework and then start he’ll start touching himself. After that, he’ll come downstairs, we will all eat dinner, and he will go back to his room and do it again. My husband is very concerned that he does it too much and what will it do to him if he does? He at least does it four times-everyday after school and once he did it six times on the weekend. How is that even possible? 

Yesterday my son came downstairs from his room tugging on his crotch and my husband asked “what’s wrong with you?” He said “mom leave the room I need to tell dad something”. *so I left the room* 

That night when my husband were going to bed, my husband told me our son told him that his private part hurts like really bad. My husband asked him “Why do you think it hurts?” He said that he doesn’t know and that it really hurts to use the bathroom and walk. My husband didn’t bring up the “touching himself” thing but should he have asked? 

I mean, I’m a bit worried and so it my husband that he does it so much that now it hurts him to use the restroom. What do I do about this? My other kids haven’t started doing this yet so this is a first time for me. 

I’m pretty sure it’s from doing it too much but what if it’s something else? Am I overreacting lol? 

Anyways today after school he came home and did it again twice today. Apparently he hasn’t learned his lesson. 

Anyone know if it’s from that? If not, what else could it be? Please let me know because I’m really worried. ",1.6485280373831728,3.5658987126168213,2.7815981308411217,94.17777102803736,79.39719626168224,5.588411214953271,22.14859813084113,6.508806274219699,0.30432037383177546,1611,49,357,14,40,515,181,428,0.081,0.862,0.057,-0.9303,1,0,2,0,0,0,49.0,2,2,0,3,26,10,1,0,14,3,33,4,2,3,3,52,71,33,0,9,11,16,4,1,0,7,0,3,9,3,44,22,2,0,8,1,0,10,6,7,0,6,13,7,44,3,31,48,11,61,0,4,0,0,66,17,0,5,35,232,88,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534006623542782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05154021805169897,0.0,0.06065760524284025,0.0,0.20672859368099225,0.0,0.0,0.0566789594429512,0.06154533500644575,0.044933343525503634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047296656656708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861075166694672,0.0,0.0,0.0779761208160066,0.12699044002101526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05885197636150075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32252354355878604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542442275636597,0.12315162178761048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048685205875792587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539652556699366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03851078556578444,0.0,0.12567442636549814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564841842244435,0.0,0.08307728822947849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787563472107346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31563520985952753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620378378502231,0.0,0.0,0.07804896219677783,0.08008686442429337,0.07537415957947516,0.0,0.036011312697886134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405228076057394,0.08029253446303733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863290520803417,0.0,0.0,0.3251149657744432,0.05465553177516012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917247550233413,0.1444416231370407,0.0,0.08392009241817296,0.0,0.07849946357389939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079821478333227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091218661573124,0.06968041358588702,0.08309771120595562,0.0,0.0749902562802197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23610473044153185,0.0,0.07278039936962806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023146363379255,0.0,0.0,0.2983965546502823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349215809889016,0.07290174268184696,0.0,0.1565183861632899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947143917174396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442637917094345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04897009739280092,0.047230824447038765,0.0,0.0,0.08596257510494001,0.0,0.13973820290609104,0.14086741816536946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732471396381145,0.0,0.06081902675648972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833053450974212,0.06651241952628434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971353760484327,0.0,0.0,0.08059105218143342,0.0,0.09493451643061268
parenting,moodring88,2019/02/20,"why are some moms so reluctant to discuss puberty with our daughters? Seriously, some act as if they haven't notice their daughter changing. It doesn't even have to be a big discussion if it's an uncomfortable topic for you. Just let her know when she does start her period, she can tell you and if she has no idea what you're talking about then tell her. I would really hate for her to start bleeding through her pants at school. I mean women talk about men being grossed out by periods, yet some of us never even mention them to our daughters.",6.732106918238991,6.654021518867924,6.550943396226419,79.56182389937108,64.9433962264151,10.085534591194973,32.76100628930818,9.725611199111238,2.8748100628930824,435,16,85,8,6,137,79,106,0.135,0.865,0.0,-0.9102,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,2,3,0,8,3,1,0,2,0,10,1,0,0,1,15,15,8,0,4,4,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,18,0,15,11,3,12,0,0,0,0,29,3,0,6,8,64,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181272998153207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18044290725707804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27238011810558505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357518207855824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327694093266067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331955112765267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21084867691372808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22460714324423933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414934575975423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903053632860809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347547296257729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209399694646928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086806642178453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918922065539306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3314639628597407,0.36044758262842796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480275724520325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605919765726586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464752337747897,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ping-ponging,2019/02/20,"Innocent at school today This past weekend was President's day weekend and the kids had off school. We decided to take a trip to a city about 8 hours from our home. We drove. My son, 7yo, had a great time and never said anything notable about the drive. He went to school yesterday without any issues, but today I got a call from the school councilor. In the mornings before school starts, they keep the kids in the lunch room with the rest of their class and then they are escorted by patrols to their class rooms. He was in the lunch room and a school employee saw he was very distraught and asked he what was wrong and he said his dad died in a car accident yesterday. The employee brought him to the councilor where he repeated the same thing. He later said that the airbags went off and his dad was hurt and taken to the hospital. He said his dad was alive but they didn't think he was going to live. She apparently tried to call me at this point, but I was on a call for work and didn't see it come in. As she tried to calm him down, he said he might have fallen asleep in the lunch room and actually had a dream. She said she got him calmed down and sent him off to class. She called me a few hours later and to find out more from me. 

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None of this happened. We didn't have an accident. In fact, we've never had an accident while the kids were in the car with us. We didn't see any terrible accidents on the road while we were out or anything either. We don't watch any shows that have car accidents. I'm not sure where he got this from. 

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Normally, he goes to daycare after school but I picked him up instead. I hugged him and assured him that nothing bad had happened to his father. I offered to let him FaceTime his dad at work, but he said it was OK.

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He seemed to think it was real. I'm confused as to why this would happen. I called the pediatrician because it almost seemed like a hallucination. She didn't seem concerned and just said to comfort and reassure him. I have my doubts about my son falling asleep at school, especially so early in the day. Anyone have something similar happen? ",3.908027482269503,5.341315200945626,4.2385985520094565,88.21796875,71.93144208037825,7.557003546099293,25.98470744680851,8.07648339933343,1.3753877659574472,1682,54,351,24,32,526,187,423,0.11,0.7959999999999999,0.094,-0.8805,3,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,8,0,5,2,8,17,0,3,31,1,32,6,2,1,5,58,69,27,1,2,10,7,0,1,0,2,0,8,5,3,14,26,3,1,7,4,0,14,11,7,0,0,40,12,46,10,57,26,6,68,0,1,4,1,75,31,0,8,24,218,60,13,0.0,0.0,0.05908584607555392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060629801092046874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19681030618765447,0.22071634166480295,0.12352358904308798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042336377547396144,0.0,0.09965123834384508,0.0,0.05660395009803569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05055482179955528,0.03690933154482187,0.0,0.05152165493870463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091299874186609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05215650434624463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809654805305627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283897992439512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055339524287961635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03441066778391183,0.0,0.14527664191770773,0.06675408123119128,0.0,0.0,0.21416861516043928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06073430554108643,0.0,0.11925462661975035,0.0,0.064817592537446,0.0,0.0,0.06319609473811161,0.0,0.053817600517209546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061914151664501066,0.0,0.02958056034659697,0.0,0.05346475099451462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423156858862011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339627727012133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059323915593008314,0.058097175698691335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057799655207436074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723717145068576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891656732198427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607580187161036,0.0,0.0,0.4902202464042599,0.0964973963326254,0.16536112613034815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04661259726456473,0.0,0.0,0.042855991820286515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570655148293259,0.0,0.045524354397146576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040225218482288466,0.07759307551469337,0.0,0.0,0.035305865711885265,0.0,0.11478432842664126,0.0,0.0,0.08221586245670505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728314588573704,0.0,0.0,0.049958214694496406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225669647412223,0.05463490476177281,0.0,0.0,0.058365846832094836,0.0,0.08815893071999045,0.0,0.0,0.043011367070310114,0.06619943300729977,0.22071634166480295,0.0
parenting,badatchopsticks,2019/02/20,"Screen time: how bad is it really? Pretty much every bit of parenting advice I read says to limit screen time, but it seems that the [actual science](https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/screen-time-for-kids-might-not-be-such-a-bad-thing/) is [still out](https://techcrunch.com/2019/01/14/turns-out-the-science-saying-screen-time-is-bad-isnt-science/) on the subject. In other words, there's still no evidence that screen time is either good or bad.

Personally, I spend a large amount of my waking life glued to screens. I work in tech, and all my hobbies are tied to screens: video games, making electronic music, watching movies and TV, even reading e-books. However, I will be a father soon, so if screen time really is as bad as everybody says, I suppose I should start changing my own habits to be a good model.

So what is your personal experience with screen time? Do you have examples where too much screen time was detrimental? Do you limit screen time in your household? If so, do you limit specific types, for example TV vs. video games? Do you have different standards of screen time for yourself and your children?",8.65472927241963,9.706892979695436,7.1647842639593895,72.9345198815567,60.827411167512686,10.424534686971237,31.645093062605753,10.317481424215053,3.204790524534688,915,30,151,19,12,273,119,197,0.085,0.86,0.055,-0.7624,3,0,0,0,0,0,72.0,0,7,0,4,11,5,0,0,5,0,17,2,1,2,1,20,20,13,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,3,6,4,0,3,1,8,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,13,16,2,16,15,7,17,0,0,11,0,16,5,0,4,12,84,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.10660768800921144,0.0,0.0,0.106753276882081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4560764572006464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926761139008225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556707888352312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413812326034685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215551336779659,0.0,0.0920439063450376,0.0,0.0,0.10686290004421213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832596075670692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716321079075257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292210933314258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589203640550022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606157821252557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130401606519373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907776252480978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111417799749377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854979642867844,0.0,0.13997071781548964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375255015891114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945284990257428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732441030733926,0.0,0.17448693109861824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.637018332934567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953190489482483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,avsanchez94,2019/02/20,Great way to get kids interested in reading I think this is a fantastic and underutilized way to get young children into reading. Using Youtube to get children engaged with books. Check out Barb's Book Buddies: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zf4JSbiPa1M](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zf4JSbiPa1M),13.869999999999996,19.60496164102565,7.11866666666667,57.918000000000006,60.79487179487179,7.222564102564102,36.0051282051282,8.238735603445708,3.8081343589743595,260,11,27,4,5,65,32,39,0.0,0.6970000000000001,0.303,0.9254,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,12,2,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652168336244926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272368229895171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5937856322857064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018546169091527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563506967470418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711918852462466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vsh1109,2019/02/20,"Parents of children with Type I Diabetes. What can I do to make sure my daughter’s friend has a good experience at my daughter’s birthday party? We’re throwing a birthday party at a jumpy place for my daughter who will be turning ten this weekend.  A friend’s parent RSVP’d and my daughter mentioned that this friend has type I diabetes.  She’s mentioned this friend before and how she has to go to the nurse throughout the day.  She says they sometimes joke that they’re nurse buddies because my daughter gets really bad eczema flare ups on her arms and face and has to go to the nurse quite a bit as well.  

I had a family emergency last week and I was out of town so my husband was in charge of getting the party together.  My husband ordered pizza, cupcakes, a giant unicorn cake and made treat bags with multiple full size candy bars in them.  This isn’t what we normally do for parties but it was a rough week so I relinquished all birthday decisions to my husband and this is the result.  

The parent didn’t mention anything in the rsvp but should I reach out to ask if there’s any accommodations we can make to make sure she has a good time?  I don’t want to make an assumption and offend the parents or make the friend feel bad but I don’t want her to feel like she can’t enjoy any of the things the other kids are eating.  I am seriously considering taking apart the treat bags and filling them with a few bite sized candies and more non candy treats like slime and stickers.  ",6.260163735597332,6.353835594501723,6.292067919951485,80.43996967859309,65.90721649484536,8.908914493632507,32.92520719628057,8.4952907291091,2.4839090762078038,1182,46,227,15,17,375,151,291,0.053,0.773,0.175,0.9827,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,1,5,21,1,0,23,0,24,7,2,8,3,41,41,20,0,5,5,12,3,2,5,2,2,1,0,2,13,18,3,0,3,3,0,4,5,4,1,1,6,4,30,17,29,32,5,25,0,0,0,0,37,14,0,2,8,145,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493944853012143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039171532338433,0.0,0.10268870168549622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342921317493385,0.06695948480367303,0.0,0.09346859795439104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992048574934396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083987170327906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239716640525896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074478706542718,0.10355053174647533,0.0,0.11108019333557388,0.07847210904636634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.424323487079867,0.0,0.1147772303837588,0.0,0.1248530108849581,0.18426277596689228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953698840331463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732782188736073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393643083484104,0.3666064353588795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762315811167024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.487872151050521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476291865301401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683192042205885,0.0,0.0,0.07036846078948836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735183832555797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863787887264058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20705210921459224,0.0,0.08258852677272116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729750389117274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640505389739892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947801922766395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957690401019265,0.0,0.17621941463379898,0.0,0.09876236061095603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,falcon601,2019/02/20,"Mid career break to take 3 year old travelling before school starts Just gathering some opinions or experiences on parents who have done this type of travel or considered it. 

I am not successful by any means. I have a modest income but will have saved close to 20k before this potential trip for me, my partner and 3 year old.

I anyone has done this, where did you go? And did you feel it was worth the hassle of leaving your job/ potentially having to start fresh when you get back? ",5.946992753623189,6.875488989130435,5.909565217391307,80.00427536231886,66.71739130434783,9.1768115942029,27.28985507246377,9.2995712137729,2.152646376811594,385,11,72,7,6,121,72,92,0.022,0.878,0.1,0.8087,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,0,0,13,19,6,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,2,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,5,1,9,2,8,13,1,17,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,4,8,48,15,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370566786689773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092409405699668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549747229159784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34299781734635904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124985139777542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971484857990092,0.0,0.0,0.10190658867886522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529830436180193,0.0,0.11454197227703786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000010986126527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134057577838891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21954025625956244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229725784537882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379051175569234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397306086112865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853074434829339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153583685248748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595751672859318
parenting,Quietlight21,2019/02/20,"1 year old with separation anxiety? I need some advice. I'm the single mother of a 1 year old boy. Because I am his primary caregiver and basically the only one who is constantly with him on a daily basis, he cries when I leave. Not just some crocodile tears but actual sobbing and bloody murder screams. Like he's terrified of being left alone or even with other family. He loves them when I'm around but the second I leave the room its tears. I spend just about every second of my day with him at this point. I know I need to work on this with him sooner rather than later so he be a happy toddler. Any advice on how to do this? I've tried leaving him with family in the room but he just sits next to the door and screams. He never stops either. He would scream for hours if we let him. ",1.6806288819875803,3.8287080372670808,3.505803571428576,87.85013392857145,80.42857142857143,6.757919254658388,18.758152173913047,7.8658589789855275,0.657574223602484,618,14,128,11,16,207,102,161,0.222,0.6940000000000001,0.084,-0.9694,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,1,11,8,1,0,9,0,7,1,0,1,1,31,13,12,1,5,11,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,1,6,11,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,0,3,0,3,16,3,21,9,4,24,0,1,0,1,19,10,1,4,14,85,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.14477129585805465,0.0,0.0,0.2899380057839206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364914541620722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088524433831876,0.0,0.11348977066719745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13206577595080618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043471680452436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603170757107225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295899352577234,0.0956755231127982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798587108142247,0.0,0.1249939459924986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27970833529880185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579247104155335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460979911393091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153102366667313,0.0,0.0,0.471253766536185,0.16118615566327651,0.1517011698023302,0.0,0.07247786632535044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389452999878396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22000399480986035,0.1144191120782464,0.0,0.15777528165735666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31134339705386305,0.0,0.10052794888828699,0.11282927250278632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024169970536798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402989476871172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007220657611036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800287623429644,0.0,0.0,0.1053858370654952,0.0,0.0,0.19106915788503392
parenting,therealmitchconner,2019/02/20,"Problems with speeding around the neighborhood. Concerned for my kids safety. Hello everyone.  We have been having a lot of problems with people using our neighborhood as a thru-street and speeding right past our house at all times of the day.

[https://www.ebay.com/itm/173792795456](https://www.ebay.com/itm/173792795456)

I have ordered a bunch of the above signs, but other than posting them all around mine and my neighbors yard, are there any further steps we can take to maintain the safety of our street?  We have contacted the city and requested city signage be posted as well as increased police monitoring in our area.

Has anyone had any luck getting people to slow down out there?  Do the drive like your kids live here signs seem to make any noticeable difference?  I am planning of getting together with the entire street and plastering them in everyone yards.",8.707221510883482,11.472108211267605,6.064263764404613,74.57734314980794,61.95774647887321,8.543918053777206,31.923175416133162,9.095868883498916,3.01283661971831,714,27,103,12,11,200,93,142,0.025,0.851,0.124,0.9431,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,7,1,2,1,6,5,0,0,10,0,12,0,0,2,2,25,18,8,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,13,0,0,1,2,0,3,0,2,1,0,2,0,15,3,23,15,5,24,0,0,0,0,16,12,0,3,7,74,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547621314879024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159089332282695,0.0,0.0,0.3096054762035285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214739655712737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18168246552085668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323267898794402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170512258254615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20065060130127654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495594016058491,0.0,0.15355179661811572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783866125784653,0.0,0.0,0.1160757530979098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19797974068764124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660017251725351,0.24111273636621586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330852193003397,0.0,0.0,0.3327865985818186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850472773088502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830678179420135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307468243568341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139912765654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501887874960486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635180236841412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunshine315,2019/02/20,"Vacation without kids? Please be kind as I have not dealt with this before. How many of you take vacations without your kids? My husband and I have been married 5 yrs, he has 2 kids(12 and 10) and I have a 17 year old, we have none together. We have never taken a vacation just the 2 of us together, although we have had to take business trips together for a few days. Well, it seems there is a lot of talk that it would be selfish for us to take a vacation without them. Is it ?? If you have done how have you dealt with the families comments and the kids bad attitudes about it ? ",3.9576282051282057,4.7406905213675214,5.040245726495726,84.97524038461542,71.13675213675214,8.926923076923078,30.86431623931624,9.188382445141503,2.50987264957265,449,19,95,9,8,148,71,117,0.081,0.872,0.047,-0.6152,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,4,1,0,6,4,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,2,1,21,22,9,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,4,0,14,2,14,15,3,5,0,0,0,0,17,0,0,3,4,75,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477163357031081,0.0,0.0,0.15054132931336608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140953078145422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810451014365862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677937875806098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842293744895004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040650145196646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936367836303407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13644747776338886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564215573196044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194199149608173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105644493261365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990533787336182,0.14219728721852148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256130609649215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590675090660314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5116182028153298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567508520549125,0.0,0.0,0.11392722858205193
parenting,Typicalgirl19,2019/02/20,"Do neighborhood kids still play together? This is kind of a weird question. I was just thinking about how much fun I had when I was little because of the two families with kids on my street. Literally everyday after homework one of us knocked on each others doors and we played until it got dark. I’m only 21 so it’s not like this was way back when or anything. I now have an eight month old and hope he gets the same experience. Do any of your older kids have neighborhood friends they play with regularly, or is that a thing of the past and all hope is lost? ",3.4219543650793653,5.078557366071434,4.224047619047621,86.94317460317465,73.55357142857143,7.8349206349206355,25.83730158730159,8.515128840125781,1.6096396825396826,443,15,93,8,9,142,82,112,0.055,0.7809999999999999,0.16399999999999998,0.92,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,1,1,1,9,11,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,1,1,18,18,10,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,7,7,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,0,3,6,0,9,9,12,12,4,17,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,5,13,66,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202516204916668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186575516253616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059275877264165,0.0,0.12731302177314144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204295375572164,0.19688519321068934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613569922404512,0.0,0.10911550524733714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703642413696332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148703491311399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174851367210564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203356077838173,0.20932256727265644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22798444658239686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670207778049453,0.0,0.15352878088897226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21915294307671912,0.0,0.1415221653570041,0.15883983645179384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993709572596349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395979802503494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678788010843065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875066012089382,0.13382264726808726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20401610330671555,0.0,0.25122083546860946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657754091565916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anon-ny-moose,2019/02/20,"Can all negative behavior be corrected? Need Advice. I have a son that just turned 3 years old. My son is beautiful and has a great heart but also has a ""strong"" personality. He has an opinion on everything. He is very passionate. He talks talks talks non stop and is generally very disagreeable. My husband and I do not take issue with my son's behavior - its annoying -but he has been this way since he was born and so we figured we just had to accept him.

To date, we have never successfully disciplined our son. The reasons are complex. My son's behavior is not intentionally defiant. It's more of overexpression of what he is thinking & feeling. He can get out of hand. He is pretty wild outside of the home.  We have tried to spank him - but he couldn't care less. We have given him a time out and he is indifferent to that too. It's easiest to simply distract him or to change his behavior in the moment through persuasion. But then the target bad behavior is quickly replaced with some other annoying behavior and correcting him becomes like whack a mole. 

Others are now thinking my son is not so adorable.
The preschool is telling us that my son is a problem. He doesn't listen and he is disruptive. He does not follow directions. He talks back. This is consistent with what he does at home. Not sure how to fix this? ",2.616671372106154,5.3040175770751015,4.024837662337664,82.30011363636369,80.73913043478261,8.041163184641446,27.217532467532468,8.841846274778883,2.589249689440994,1049,46,197,28,28,345,140,253,0.159,0.7290000000000001,0.112,-0.9312,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,7,0,0,2,10,14,2,1,12,0,32,3,2,3,5,51,43,17,0,3,12,8,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,13,17,0,2,7,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,4,3,21,9,20,37,4,19,0,0,0,1,43,5,0,3,13,132,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401691678967806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470994732743517,0.0,0.15541857716037466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102974974636793,0.11976748512130565,0.0,0.1584196345576313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146247954427263,0.0,0.15174186457300315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510528780152199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891578178540175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252822586063461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07494215340247674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814452798078024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997861860879926,0.0,0.0,0.2877666175576901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971543894034622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007816851254534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635989856896493,0.11063076527779384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505175038270791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524740113546026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459313594173055,0.0,0.13725394180825756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474815356395692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865611689185533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992334083315773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519171772297806,0.0,0.10784999815715422,0.4611706999140232,0.12537400938620993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382277271332667,0.0,0.0,0.08364176938667855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738721978449692,0.1560229326887584,0.0,0.0,0.17254220971539108,0.0,0.0,0.2367081723216647,0.0,0.11385701890130615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923714874808216
parenting,joyful_mama,2019/02/20,"Potty training - 2.5yr old - cries every time he sits on the potty We started potty training my 2.5yr old on Monday (3 days ago). First day was great - he loved his new Paw Patrol undies, got super excited about his Paw Patrol potty seat, super excited about putting stickers on a chart and getting yummy treats when he owes in the potty. By the end of the day, he was already able to tell us when he was about to pee, and we'd get him on the potty mid-pee, no problem. 

Next day... Absolute disaster. Still able to tell us when he was about to pee, but refused to sit on the potty for more than one second. He'd start to pee in his underwear, then as soon as we got him on the potty, he'd stop. Then he'd start to climb off and start peeing again as soon as his feet hit the floor. 

This has continued through to today. We've tried letting him watch videos on our phones, eat a cookie on the potty, read him a fun story... Everything works once, and then next time he refuses it. 

He gets so anxious when he starts to feel like he needs to pee. We've done nothing but give him encouragement throughout this process, so I have no idea why he's so anxious and how to help him. I hate seeing him cry every time he has to sit on the potty and I don't think my heart can handle much more if this. Any and all advice/support would be appreciated! ",4.509558823529414,4.745305838235293,5.183088235294118,86.40014705882353,69.66176470588235,7.870588235294116,25.926470588235286,7.5105763829236425,1.1301632352941169,1036,27,222,10,17,335,144,272,0.107,0.775,0.117,0.4392,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,0,0,5,16,12,1,0,13,0,17,9,7,1,1,23,36,25,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,9,1,3,3,2,1,2,3,2,0,3,7,3,25,10,37,21,4,53,0,0,2,1,41,13,0,1,36,126,29,2,0.20837942855589692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235789525976887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497594054708722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085257852654532,0.0,0.0,0.2354094414219709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288950175245021,0.2687749852370851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662225160249524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10661208869702583,0.0,0.0,0.09228116170466166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556865588940215,0.0,0.093638997001461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268145008956774,0.07443315269825566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862371773948276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330447631506825,0.09994826780504223,0.0,0.0,0.1666600648392214,0.11486952781344135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286577238630217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234653130732843,0.06983616925559025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761750540419465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654104191831616,0.0,0.05090183157045546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403528497388396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659142821646582,0.07725535295402282,0.0,0.10062707529684646,0.22161388628227136,0.0,0.0,0.09997284086182484,0.0,0.21865915707656627,0.11095864532159316,0.0706016468457372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969548543572894,0.0,0.10473944024151953,0.0,0.0,0.1042179094943264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302571279174338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687300801372415,0.0,0.08320604040971025,0.08710726644294263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823325305864126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821328052529541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676056191303574,0.0,0.0,0.1822615808008772,0.0,0.09875966655197088,0.0,0.0,0.0707379768022613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506547954704257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940150114624712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585135288785452,0.0,0.0,0.07401338367411385,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,artiepan,2019/02/20,Where do I find the most up-to-date parenting information? Where can I find the most up-to-date parenting information? Is there a place that has peer-reviewed journal articles on parenting? ,5.431666666666668,8.047883147058823,6.182941176470589,70.91990196078433,70.47058823529412,11.5921568627451,34.86274509803922,11.20814326018867,4.9858156862745115,153,8,26,6,3,50,23,34,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,0,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4638611789075488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8453060518285641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26512352865127625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Crazybunny08,2019/02/20,"New mom, help me!! Hi parents out there, 

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Please help me. I’m so torn right now and I don’t know what to do. 

My husband and I are in our early 30th. We just had a 2 months old baby. He’s self-employed so he can work at home. I’m an accountant and I have to be back at work already (my company doesn’t offer maternity leave). We currently live with my parent right now to save money for a house. My husband really wants to move out by the end of this year. We have around 50k in saving. We don’t have any other debts beside his parent’s house debt 80k. (His parent got laid off, couldn’t afford to pay so they transfer the house title to my husband couple years ago). Before the baby comes out, we were planning to have my husband stay home and babysit, I’ll go to work, and pay off the 80k debt first then get our house. But now, I’m so torn. I hate getting up early and leave my baby. She cries every time I leave and cries all day until I get home. My husband couldn’t get any work done because he has to hold her most of the time. I’m only back at work for 1 week and I feel horrible already. I couldn’t get my eyes off the camera, and every time I see her cries, it made me want to cry too. Is it normal?  I really want to stay home with my baby but that will put our plan of having our own place on hold. What should I do? I’m also looking for another job since the benefit cost almost 2/3 of my paycheck. Should I quit for couple months? Should I continue to work here? How can I afford my baby’s insurance ?  New job? House? I can’t think clear anymore since I’m so emotional right now. 

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parenting,exhaustedmummy,2019/02/20,"My 3 year old has worms!!!!!! To much information will be included. Please help! 

I have a 3 year old daughter who started school in January and she loves it. But tonight she was writhing around in pain and screaming her belly hurt, it had me very worried because I thought it was her appendix so I asked her to point to where it hurt and she pointed to her vagina so I asked if that's where it hurt and she said no my bum so I pulled her but cheeks apart and a flood of little white threads came flowing out of her but wriggling all over! I obviously freaked and called my partner who googled it and it seems to be threadworm!! 

We are clean people! I teach my children about hygiene and washing there hands which they do after toileting and what not. I spend all my daytime hours cleaning and washing and hoovering because I work evenings. I can't believe this has happend. It has to be from school right? 

Please can I have some advice on what to do and how to get through this! ",2.5116940789473645,4.851940531250001,2.6093859649122813,94.35315789473688,78.58333333333334,5.292105263157895,27.813596491228072,6.339386263674448,0.9910583333333332,770,34,160,6,19,232,116,192,0.093,0.843,0.064,-0.5445,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,1,10,7,0,0,2,0,17,8,4,1,3,29,26,20,0,1,5,1,1,0,1,1,3,2,2,2,16,16,0,0,3,0,1,3,3,6,0,0,6,4,29,1,20,16,4,24,0,3,1,2,24,13,0,3,8,114,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662572193221986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244651037247243,0.26141653632934136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046000489307664,0.0,0.0,0.15752376737301838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276687483215694,0.15991125575742982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234657139522348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304763212483709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371513107114088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768973445399998,0.0,0.4490249489213751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14013148594143196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618860900555762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278020416558584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29342490837862323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877315063574678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693020326760984,0.0,0.0,0.3069500429808597,0.2643409706215217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940135276215695,0.13299620115968014,0.0,0.0,0.2830007416257269,0.0,0.12728243865680056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896186505724687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099759170159554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536212070017765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178707614664352,0.14198904616455066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007271288524393
parenting,Murasaki42,2019/02/20,"Step Parent contacting teachers about homework? I am co-parenting with my ex. I work full time and go to school full time and still spend a lot of time with the kids...but it can be hard to do everything all of the time so my Husband helps out with some of the kid stuff.

My Husband(my kid's step parent) helps out a ton with homework. He has been emailing teachers to help get assignments and help the kids still get credit for stuff they turn in late. My kids have a hard time with school and his efforts have really helped their grades.

My ex is now really angry and has told the school in writing that my husband is not allowed to talk to the teachers. They say it should only be them or me who contact teachers.

Of course I am biased in the situation, so I want to hear some objective views.

I need some help understanding what legs they may be standing on legally or rationally which I should respect and if not maybe something I can do to smooth this over so that my kids can still get the help they need. ",5.1023076923076935,5.795426799999998,4.9830000000000005,86.7386153846154,68.5,8.153846153846155,28.384615384615394,8.139509932561175,1.636807692307693,800,26,166,10,13,247,106,200,0.041,0.836,0.123,0.942,4,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,6,2,8,2,0,0,11,0,20,1,1,1,1,32,31,12,0,6,5,6,3,0,0,3,0,2,2,5,10,13,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,6,22,2,25,23,8,23,0,0,1,0,35,9,0,8,10,114,32,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154692918367243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709574667362374,0.0,0.06421406380921138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243130645741308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734644052280802,0.0,0.5301374568997164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274561388644447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605892496066283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135123036443616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755933119102878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593297342476203,0.0,0.0,0.2509210888567341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476686783166992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985312377060306,0.0,0.3430516923652379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700399679237154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698419669900295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706986884857429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586899849546413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908160113470626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294230045024599,0.0,0.0,0.1079655142296305,0.0,0.0,0.1228992251945398,0.0,0.11762518807400635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664364378026398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225709594121919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thedommer,2019/02/20,"Baby​ Shark - Finally a version for the parents! Worked far to many hours on this version with the idea of making something us parents can tolerate. After the repetition of the most famous version out there, hopefully this gives you a more mature take that you can enjoy.

[https://youtu.be/YK1ScXEOdZ4](https://youtu.be/YK1ScXEOdZ4)",11.224795918367347,14.903068571428573,7.248724489795919,64.91145408163266,57.163265306122454,8.981632653061224,34.69897959183673,9.516144504307137,3.8570775510204083,276,11,33,5,4,75,38,49,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.8513,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,8,6,5,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,4,25,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838768370958009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485921317821741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573859727139173,0.25520216895351744,0.0,0.0,0.2925392009830817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297895777806618,0.2627287984170978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5754919177499537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994997805897053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19484215097842256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117153069073724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18865809210154685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tacroy,2019/02/20,"Has anyone moved their kid from Montessori to traditional school? How did that work out? Hello! I'm debating putting my 4 y/o in a Montessori preschool. They only do ages 3-6. Then transitioning into our excellent public school system. Our concern is that once he experiences the free play method and the interaction that Montessori has, he will be ""ruined"" for traditional schooling styles.

Has anyone done this? How did it end up for them?",4.219102564102563,7.3953739871794895,4.4310256410256414,78.73064102564105,78.35897435897436,7.056410256410258,26.615384615384606,8.167268648758528,2.207015384615384,353,14,58,7,9,110,63,78,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.8922,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,3,2,2,4,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,2,0,5,11,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,6,4,8,6,0,10,0,1,0,0,11,4,0,0,3,36,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265002991243781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389245237007282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20678828551694345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283819527669296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481454573399565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486417336483941,0.0,0.1775671716721089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234705424958408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7088631560498615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997154054062746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saltwaterparrot,2019/02/20,"How do you deal with your kids never shutting up? I’ll probably get some slack for this but oh well. My six year old is incredibly smart and kind and wonderful but oh my god she never stops talking, and repeats herself at least two or three times. And loudly. Very loudly. And if she’s not talking she’s singing or humming or just making noises. We watch a video or a movie and she’s explaining it to me going “did you see that? Hey, mom, did you? You saw that? Where he fell down the slide?” Are all kids this annoying? Do I just buy some ear plugs and smile and nod?",0.060517241379312026,2.4210749655172417,1.4788793103448263,97.37280172413796,92.44827586206895,4.624137931034484,17.594827586206893,6.322622252153567,-0.2496103448275861,440,12,98,5,16,140,83,116,0.032,0.775,0.193,0.9683,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,5,0,0,5,4,1,0,3,0,6,1,1,2,3,30,13,16,0,1,10,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,10,0,1,2,2,1,3,3,1,1,3,3,6,15,3,6,10,4,15,0,0,3,0,20,5,0,8,7,65,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464757697974535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249067909269746,0.0,0.1358718003132568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489597646142451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958438174801814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800016852604419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687786710486468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508689372776648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25776322571534765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905117774463192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998773584776189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843187684136104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394065225939826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335414816043283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19726186697693232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21495708664586727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592665788071713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395642573034635
parenting,Concrete08,2019/02/20,"Order of reading? To start, my wife is due in a little over a month. We've done the 8hr baby class through the hospital so we think we have a pretty good grasp on the rest of the pregnancy and labor.

Onto my question- I love the reading list wiki on this sub and plan on making use of it. Is there a recommended order of what/when I should read some of these? I completed 'The New Dad's Survival Guide' last night. I also have 'Baby Owner's Manual,' 'Dad's Playbook,' 'The Whole Brain Child,' and 'NurtureShock' downloaded but not really sure where to start, or if I should read something entirely different from those options first? I know there's probably not a specific order per se, but obviously I don't want to read a book that is aimed at parenting 5-7year olds when our kid is a newborn.

Also- of the books I mentioned that I already downloaded, are there any that I should wait to read or just skip on altogether?",3.9170714285714254,5.515364627777778,5.026507936507937,81.925,72.16666666666667,8.476190476190476,26.74603174603175,9.04235418022936,2.1452698412698417,723,25,140,15,14,238,115,180,0.025,0.919,0.056,0.6005,2,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,3,9,3,0,0,15,0,12,2,1,2,2,28,21,12,0,5,8,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,7,5,0,1,4,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,15,3,20,17,3,23,0,0,0,1,14,10,0,6,10,92,22,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376361503261586,0.19948364196059784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481666775390947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923334890375189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13077085016442913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031014260313545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763606176950132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609025922478972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461266101681148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854510579150952,0.10166679153889566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500631849738092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112568373496611,0.0,0.08325430797953673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955358994837732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045931693654068,0.0,0.1170451226472364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087696639131266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849135749089406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268892529857462,0.1344736793440684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971954103450776,0.0,0.7485471372316157,0.0,0.07990145482414977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601870879795177,0.0,0.0,0.17656072565463898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755099205698395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991816976316259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772158039519443,0.0,0.0,0.07356550808320499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925000806348492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thebigdad2303,2019/02/20,"My two oldest twin boys are calling there friends from school f*gs! This may me a meaningless post and kinda ridiculous but yesterday I went to go charge my oldest sons phones. (Ages 13, twins) and one of my sons left there phone on an app (ifunny “Meme app) and I couldn’t help to snoop (even though I know it’s not right) because I saw the word f*g on my sons iPhone. So I was going through it and it turns out my son and his friend from school are having an argument over some stupid Pokémon tournament and my son keeps calling his friend “a f*g”. his friend said “can you please stop calling me that, it’s not funny anymore”. My son said “no because you’re a big f*g. 

So I decided I would go through my other sons phone as well because I knew if one son did it, so did my other so. Apparently my other son has the same app and he’s chatting with a girl and keeps asking her for nudes, the girl refuses and he said he would dump her. So obviously there’re broke up. 

I promise my sons have never been this rude. We don’t use inappropriate language in our house nor are they allowed to say it. Maybe it’s because they’re teenagers now? I don’t know but I know for one thing, I’m pissed at there behavior. Any advice on how I should handle this? Thank you 😊 ",2.135594654034854,3.995407638132296,2.95537472508882,93.77596853324312,77.67704280155642,6.02598545085434,22.068854677719507,6.8959733430537185,0.3727724242936903,981,28,219,10,23,309,143,257,0.139,0.75,0.111,-0.838,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,2,1,0,13,13,5,0,9,0,18,2,2,3,2,40,37,21,0,5,5,10,0,0,4,4,0,4,0,3,15,12,0,4,5,1,0,4,8,6,1,4,10,5,35,7,20,22,2,23,0,1,1,1,44,11,1,4,7,133,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570900712521967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052294782403745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743102970340966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069748593821954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887268611180398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627299406782573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820877310979935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659334861444773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20188561433629595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936781314305587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662939021998236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104967256230148,0.0,0.0,0.1952253297638578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865295105898228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895888946310428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132519083813986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240713302612712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299787631789376,0.0,0.0,0.11340417150298608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112160274162224,0.3379054434987067,0.09416448680338922,0.0,0.2396747432775423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899616946547277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901613740368167,0.0,0.0,0.07866642786577296,0.0,0.11633735003244115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287962174639967,0.11566948986224712,0.0,0.0,0.1022683327155974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646492599001098,0.10976737540306716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823031584202036,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nicall,2019/02/20,"How to handle seeing dangerous parenting? I'm at a loss what to do and I need some outside insight.

My SIL has a kid about 10 months old and she's constantly putting him in dangerous situations. I have a 2 year old, and my other siblings have young children, so we all get how parenting is hard and you can't keep your kid safe 100% of the time. But some of the things she does with her kid cause us so much stress for the safety of this kid. It ranges from minor things, like letting him play with those spring door stoppers, to medium things, like letting him stand in the shopping cart or giving him mason jars to play with as toys, or not blocking the stairs and letting others in the family stop him from falling, to major things like letting him roam around the house and get into the plastic bags or vaseline.

I know she does these things because I've seen it at family gatherings, and she posts a lot of it on Facebook as if it were quirky and endearing. But this kid is going to get seriously hurt and I don't know how to help prevent it.

She is NOT receptive to criticism, ever. She thinks she is a top-tier parent and can do no wrong, and bringing up anything, she takes it as a personal offense.

I don't know if there's enough reason to get CPS involved, like any of these things alone you could pass off as a parenting accident or simple ignorance. But it's over and over, every other day we find something else she's doing. So all these minor things stack up.

Honestly it feels like all we can do is wait until the baby gets really hurt for her to see she needs to change anything. But I really don't want it to come down to that!

Any insight would be appreciated.",5.161235252309879,5.583046280597017,5.6720255863539455,82.80990049751246,68.28358208955224,8.888415067519547,28.48969438521677,8.841846274778883,2.0153127221037663,1324,42,268,21,21,427,177,335,0.117,0.7709999999999999,0.112,-0.2217,4,1,1,0,0,0,31.0,4,3,0,1,10,19,3,1,16,0,26,0,0,5,4,66,50,33,0,7,12,4,2,5,0,1,0,1,1,7,27,21,0,8,9,4,1,7,7,10,0,0,2,6,33,9,45,41,9,37,0,3,3,0,40,15,0,9,18,188,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022603217029476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848390404671975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337829543574493,0.0775518205275711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05310518093422356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949225713891805,0.09215730857269856,0.07504282749852509,0.0,0.09414158205267477,0.0,0.06955513673804922,0.0,0.0,0.056182693388248064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247181529248804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277434355249014,0.0,0.0,0.09001424425317815,0.0,0.0,0.0788015221346394,0.0733990922088244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425065815112072,0.0,0.04404853011182815,0.06223577677480593,0.0,0.0,0.07962255958380687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275728974218533,0.083569724761758,0.049510101165418284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803893623312952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05839210194707141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005203112792259,0.18651922618765274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743281423131418,0.0,0.0,0.1436302312837406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35632855854237944,0.0,0.2128026902131928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406301377801164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953525946795011,0.0,0.06404037524337254,0.12919100499737626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282743638109147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869285871937526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606643971885609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343316618400372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757576679325711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161764022663467,0.08956988519257543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884054458430006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979221740004684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06706624877621446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283298091353807,0.09979122632078652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550048391524865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051325752455153,0.05582049500743064,0.0,0.0,0.05079811278598205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478997149073888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05138334735201197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188479538631934,0.09524780646125984,0.0,0.056099927986543
parenting,ScottyINeedMorePower,2019/02/20,"Question for parents (Child Development class project) We're interviewing parents as a part of a project for my Child Dev class. Here are my questions:

0) What is your first name?

1) What prenatal care testing did you do? (eg Cell-free fetal DNA testing, Chorionic villus sampling, etc)

2) What training courses did you take? (ie for labor/delivery)

3) What part of the pregnancy did you find most challenging?

4) What were the biggest milestones of the pregnancy up to birth? And what were the biggest milestones for your child until 1 year of age?
 
5) What are some aspects of your parenting philosophy? And what kind of goals did you have for your child?

6) What are your political and religious views? Do these values affect your child-raising in any way?

7) What is your stance on screen time (ipads/electronics)? Do you limit your children's screen time? Do they have playmates to play with?

8) Is there anything you would have done differently in raising your children?

9) Has having children affected your health in any way? 

10) Considering a prenatal goat has recently been [successfully grown to term in a bag](https://www.cnn.com/videos/health/2017/04/26/lamb-artificial-womb-study-jnd-orig-vstan.cnn), how would you feel about offloading the entire human birth to an external, in vitro birth?",4.299926108374383,7.6680081428571425,3.9634852216748797,80.40392857142858,81.41071428571428,7.375369458128079,29.152709359605907,8.326086129247049,2.8164758620689647,1040,48,168,24,29,314,136,224,0.006999999999999999,0.927,0.066,0.9091,4,0,0,0,0,0,67.0,0,17,1,5,4,5,0,0,10,0,26,1,0,3,0,17,29,6,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,8,11,4,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,5,20,5,26,19,6,23,0,0,3,0,33,9,0,4,11,105,31,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20734074055705493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254523228055237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543164968907386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592764853001677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15600798917176628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002064210158527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770826630614307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933538569631396,0.12967281960062574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240917616793445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875190232941108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5078288510383665,0.3301742568498809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34155495465160346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052473830907184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462247932409445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778817145986703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2420134263869208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21659042057833847,0.0,0.0,0.09817198975263937
parenting,hikingallday,2019/02/20,"Advice with raising a 1 and 2 (almost 3year old) while dad is away most of the time and I am holding all anger towards him when I shouldn’t be. Hello all, this is my first post as I am sitting in a laundromat while my husband is getting sandwiches with our girls. 
I am having a very difficult time raising my daughters because I become overly stressed out while being with them. 
Their crying frustrates me so much I just give up. When my husband is gone, I build resentment towards him because he is not going through what I am going through. There are times where I know he can take one of them with him while handling whatever he is handling but he doesn’t. We have spoken about it many times. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t want to speak to him at all. 
I am trying my best with our daughters but I feel like I am always with them and feel overwhelmed. 
This is all causing issues with my body from all the stress. I don’t know what to do anymore. 
If anyone has advice or anything to help, please do. Thank you in advance. ",3.1341773231031524,4.8342455265700535,3.695055413469735,90.25849104859337,74.41062801932367,5.836771810173345,26.186132423984084,6.2272716619740125,0.8546256891162267,812,29,164,5,17,255,119,207,0.076,0.82,0.105,0.8382,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,4,3,8,10,3,3,6,0,26,2,1,1,5,33,39,15,0,3,6,5,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,12,1,1,4,0,0,4,5,7,0,2,2,3,33,3,28,34,8,30,0,1,0,0,26,12,0,4,13,127,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969601132235421,0.0,0.0,0.15215215896424544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643140079039775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068978959841486,0.10624430775852743,0.0,0.12503876628638266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14275844563599918,0.0,0.0,0.1852499721035184,0.16781262713105854,0.0,0.0,0.15945815024744894,0.0,0.0,0.16877796134433942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609059085025653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690575296386884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15365711651607356,0.1085503872555647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924535011499194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938561201991236,0.1457606292688242,0.17270904078259894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018463271046846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585923436877971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701130266675282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423323248700653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404958600167692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116979315260012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944196448226533,0.0,0.10296266956545284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667912861291005,0.14363826125715076,0.0,0.1455224465503545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34810769056598984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424462363753153,0.0,0.0,0.13989163553860665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35440417718076433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316148782101184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537151840935226,0.08962179862766705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tinbasher97,2019/02/20,"Different ideas on discipline My husband and I have been thinking about when it's time to start having kids. However, there is one thing holding me back. He tells me that he doesn't believe in time-outs, or any kind of punishment and that he will do whatever it takes to stop our kids from crying. When he sees other parents discipline their kids, like sending them to their room and he hears the kid crying, he gets visibly angry at the parents even though they are totally justified. He told me that ""that's torture for a child"" and if he ever saw me disciplining our kids like that he would rip the child out of my arms and give them what they want. When I told him, ""you can't just let kids have/do whatever they want"", he said ""why not?"". I ask him ""what would you do if our kids were crying for a toy that we couldn't afford? Just buy it for them anyway?"" He says ""I would just say no and they would listen"". Yeah right! Wishful thinking! How do I get through to him? There is no way I'm bringing a child into the world with him if I know I'm only going to be the ""mean parent"" while he is the ""fun parent"".",4.04718289085546,4.6361097654867285,4.644407079646019,88.59985545722715,70.81415929203541,7.973569321533924,25.243657817109145,8.021203637495839,1.1712705604719758,861,23,189,11,15,275,126,226,0.119,0.8190000000000001,0.062,-0.9365,7,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,4,2,9,0,15,6,2,0,9,1,21,1,1,1,2,39,45,16,0,11,8,5,0,2,0,5,0,5,1,10,13,10,0,5,5,1,1,3,6,2,0,1,6,7,31,4,19,31,1,21,0,0,2,0,57,8,0,4,11,123,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892349242769289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849866316744156,0.0,0.0,0.08924152029164513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075774330924175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824531419607429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125601989965107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665528497291059,0.10498120205477933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212711413650892,0.1113335113741399,0.06595849665592413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308059212125829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101547593859605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085665873204868,0.06378250031689382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867727738276188,0.0,0.11340025732447882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642130190768489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864397677671757,0.08826742000181148,0.0,0.0,0.5154751722124654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911298907852664,0.11039783660811843,0.18458812952116896,0.0,0.0,0.09248328502777024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214652534253541,0.0,0.0,0.09702977402482146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726125270580104,0.0,0.1014399008134226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771038491728516,0.1487306972360349,0.11402650067416335,0.0,0.13534883078210108,0.0,0.0,0.2217969892211894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690815670783268,0.09212152311953456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472438970542004,0.0,0.13346109518053492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297773968106661,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notsurethepoint,2019/02/20,"Toddler Waking up at night Hi all,

First post in this sub. We have a 2 1/2 year old boy with some habits that are unlike our older daughter.

- He has a toddler bed, but will usually not stay in bed and go to sleep even after at least a few minutes or cuddling, hugging, etc.

- He likes to suck on my wife's fingers, quite a lot. He sometimes falls asleep in the process, so clearly he finds sucking soothing.

- He wakes up a couple times a night sometimes, including sometimes sleeping from 9PM to 6AM, which without always including a nap, doesn't seem like long enough.

How would you suggest breaking the finger sucking habit, and making the little guy stay in his bed, and hopefully sleep through the night better? He sometimes wakes up irritated, though that's usually more related to having a hard time finding me or my wife, as we sometimes fall asleep on the couch.",6.542453987730062,7.129901435582823,5.969453987730062,81.29663496932517,65.31901840490798,8.237791411042949,34.704907975460124,7.908726449838941,2.580850797546012,686,30,124,7,10,210,113,163,0.069,0.8029999999999999,0.128,0.9076,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,0,3,4,8,3,0,13,0,7,12,10,2,2,22,14,10,0,2,5,3,3,2,0,2,0,0,4,2,4,6,0,0,3,1,0,3,3,3,0,1,0,3,8,5,21,12,8,32,0,0,0,2,18,12,3,6,15,73,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957893261394622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181456555113083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737844153487207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895006143296336,0.1283895845374448,0.07603588389038841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104357689724027,0.0979212831367618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542552930416681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398721337643199,0.0,0.0,0.1031251924193778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434045047093848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248394422004128,0.11538080118675025,0.0,0.10187785823804776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787117707755287,0.0,0.0,0.07684370576139048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240978581332077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207994077470366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025344183549574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224446279518021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480121330735792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34561036762781794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5692846874372641,0.0,0.0,0.2454058821192528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310512730794665,0.0,0.13425516565080362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25357753099114805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097187785646714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177817048893513,0.0,0.0,0.07413371001166298
parenting,MidCenturyHousewife,2019/02/20,"Are all young teenagers edgy assholes?? Please let this be a phase 🙏🏻 My 15 year old stepson has been a mega turd for the past two months. Since he was 13 he has been a good balance of perfectly pleasant or total teenage ass. But the past 2 months he has been a non stop turd. EVERYTHING is “stupid”. 

JROTC is stupid, Mechatronics is stupid, getting a restaurant job at 16 is not his “vibe”, studying for his learners permit is stupid, school clubs are stupid, every single person he goes to school with is stupid, college is stupid, 2 year tech school is stupid, the military is stupid.

He was on board and excited for all of these paths and possibilities a year ago. But lately he’s been such an edgy rude little turd that I really just want to give up and buy him some eyeliner and black hair dye since that’s the only thing his apathetic attitude seems to be missing. 

I won’t give up. Neither will his father. But, Jesus! dude, you are not smarter and different and special than every single person on the planet. The only thing that keeps me and my husband from losing our temper is how funny some of the edgy dumb shit he says is. ",5.021651515151515,6.048731195454548,4.933636363636363,85.8137878787879,68.86363636363636,7.866666666666666,26.484848484848484,8.021203637495839,1.4318575757575758,893,26,178,11,15,276,131,220,0.239,0.6759999999999999,0.085,-0.991,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,2,3,20,13,0,14,0,28,3,3,2,4,27,35,12,0,1,7,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,7,8,0,2,1,1,1,0,4,15,0,1,6,3,12,5,17,24,8,18,1,2,1,1,21,6,3,4,12,103,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057959033070174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14211910074886755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292169666980027,0.0,0.12225215684762708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106841199248726,0.2609786884445167,0.0,0.11409286348442405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349856539599726,0.12090690951936535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15344420559941854,0.0,0.0,0.13909666468452647,0.0,0.0,0.13633463380422112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521792447665723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171506591451532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427372912093304,0.0,0.0,0.20690908981610326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597060298212766,0.0,0.23754678777589106,0.0,0.14931662725490472,0.0,0.15334982885585513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871422798048661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817400652839468,0.0,0.4129992865271425,0.0,0.12383373049534235,0.0,0.0,0.13962960120388185,0.22504562299968311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372453294843082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074038250291466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287846168184553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023215726775727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627904842842007
parenting,avman2,2019/02/20,"[Advice] Seven year old is driving us nuts So we have a 7 year old who is an amazing kid. I just love to love this smart kid. Recently, he has picked up lying and lately, I caught him stealing. For his age, he is a great mind reader. He found out that no one suspects him for shop lifting candies and pokemon cards and he just can get away from being caught. We had a talk about how bad of a habbit it is to steal and later lie to us. Yesterday, he did it again at Walmart with pokemon cards. I was livid when we discovered it back at home.
None of us (parents) were like this. Is it normal for 7 year olds having this kind of behavior? What can we do to enforce that he is doing something really wrong?",1.4080654761904758,3.4129284375,2.925595238095237,92.4075,80.59722222222223,5.503174603174603,21.3968253968254,6.5431188927421005,0.3235908730158732,541,16,116,5,14,177,95,144,0.165,0.706,0.129,-0.6159,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,0,0,8,11,0,0,5,0,18,2,0,2,0,18,24,7,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,11,10,0,0,2,1,1,3,2,4,0,2,7,0,13,7,18,16,1,22,0,0,0,2,23,5,0,0,15,80,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427927921748731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372903373293373,0.11236199707155063,0.12200923975540412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021979189735425,0.0,0.0,0.0763448873707918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16110460707152144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657645269764494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216790895256846,0.0,0.0,0.164836673083769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138986057031059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637691287663396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754576553190954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317261110156618,0.0,0.0,0.460004470993676,0.0,0.0990188676683484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225580761429664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936121597544604,0.0,0.1442819540303584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249505690720092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745067210225688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5273153346695958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976601649361374,0.0,0.282301367968008
parenting,redhitman723,2019/02/20,"When does it get better? Hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.... It’s not easy, is it? 

I [M36] am a father to a 3YO girl and 4MO boy. It’s been practically 3 years now of sleepless nights (give or take the few months between the girl sleeping through and then the boy being born). 

Life is a constant struggle. I get up at 6am (maybe earlier) every day, go to work, come home, be Dad and husband until 9pm, then go to bed and then repeat. I’m lucky if I can shower every third day. I don’t get to watch tv anymore. I don’t get to play on my Xbox. I don’t get to see my friends. I don’t get a single second  alone with my beautiful wife to catch a movie or a meal or even have sex anymore. 

I can’t do anything. I’ve entered into a life that I’m trapped in and it’s crushing me. 

I’m not a “natural” father. I’ve had to work hard to teach myself how to be a Dad and to love my children. Up until my girl was about 18 months, maybe 2,  I don’t think I loved her. Not until she was a real little person and could talk to me. Only then did I fall in love with her. Up until then, she was just this little thing that cried and needed us all the time, and I couldn’t deal with it. 

I’m now experiencing the same with my son and it’s reminded me how much I really dislike babies. 

“Why did you have children?” you will probably ask. I had them for my wife and for our parents. I know I’ve done a selfless thing as it’s made everyone so happy..... apart from me. I struggle. Every day I struggle. 

Is there light at the end of the tunnel? Can anyone tell me there is?
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parenting,lefayof2day,2019/02/20,"I feel like I'm always telling him ""no"" Our lives have been so hectic lately. We just moved to a new place and most everything is still in boxes. We're expecting number 2 in May. My husband is out of the house from 6 am until 430 PM and I drop our son off at school around 8 so I can make it to work by 930 and I don't get home until after 630 pm (the traffic is horrendous at those times between home and work).

Our son is 5 and he's such a trooper. I know he wants us to play with him. I know he wants to do things and be with us. I feel terrible that right now we can't give him more than a few minutes every day. He always asks if he can help, but there are just some things I can't work him into. I feel like I'm letting him down by saying ""I can't right now"" or ""I'm busy at the moment, be patient"".",0.6069244935543311,1.7257107237569045,2.7414143646408853,96.9000405156538,79.88397790055248,5.710644567219153,18.696500920810312,6.079149491110277,-0.4063483609576424,615,12,157,4,15,209,109,181,0.037000000000000005,0.904,0.059,0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,7,0,0,3,10,4,0,0,6,0,19,0,0,1,0,30,33,13,0,4,5,3,3,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,5,13,0,0,5,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,4,23,3,25,28,4,26,0,0,0,0,25,13,0,5,13,101,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24377971147407515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304054894111835,0.13694662335075194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09447272259879744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123422564121824,0.0,0.1316540820247144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22220639391827215,0.20930229294406796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653399975173299,0.14052475858565472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818790300929713,0.0,0.2938790685455461,0.0,0.0,0.1690276295122135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101208608970266,0.0,0.16524498668258142,0.0,0.0,0.1497940336918996,0.0,0.14313339790857402,0.0,0.12935169902995194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778196159265554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15569369509095424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147914489976265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304891324404662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502001183840805,0.0,0.11649323738461055,0.0,0.14825380412268865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698560663652535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803707883473822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464040354621231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541840428704581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35241435790087083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280498416260254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31993530114255764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chakea,2019/02/20,"Divorce Custody Schedule We have a 7 year old and 4 year old together. Been separated for 2 years and divorced 1. We agreed on our own schedule, with me (mom) being the sole custodian. The judge agreed we can make our own schedule as long as we could do this amicably. 

Our schedule has been that the kids go to his house from 1pm Saturday until 1pm Sunday and he picks them up for daycare/school on Wednesdays and takes them to school the next morning. It has been working great. 

Recently, he's been changing the Wednesday's...stating I'm stuck at the office, or I have to go out of town, I'm sick, etc. and he will switch to another night or not get them at all. I understand things come up, but this has been going on every week for the past couple of months. 

Well yesterday, our youngest got sick at daycare and I had to leave work to get her. I always take off work. I've asked on numerous occasions if he can get a sick child, but he always has an excuse to why he can't. I told him he had to take off work today to stay home with her. He agreed. Our oldest knew it was the night they go to their dads house so he said I'll see you tomorrow mom as he went to school. 

Now, their dad is saying he can't take them tonight because he has to be at work early tomorrow since he was off today. Trying to change the schedule AGAIN. I'm furious. Our oldest is always hurt by the change in schedule and I'm always the one having to break the bad news to him. 

I told their dad I'm not telling him that he's not coming over. It's his night, he needs to take them. But he's flat out refusing it. 

Should I refuse his request to not keep them? It's his night. My child will be hurt if he doesn't go over there. And he already has our daughter since she's home sick. 

I did tell him I'm a consulting a lawyer so we can go to court to fix these issues. I'm tired of being the bad person with the children. ",1.5295114461194856,3.2843177160804053,2.92317420435511,93.79602317141264,79.12562814070354,6.030262423227247,21.357063093244,6.937597516519254,0.3268808486878836,1473,41,336,16,36,479,185,398,0.129,0.841,0.031,-0.9927,0,0,0,0,2,0,44.0,12,1,10,5,6,7,1,0,19,0,36,5,0,2,1,43,72,21,0,5,11,6,0,0,0,3,5,2,2,5,11,20,0,3,2,0,0,9,7,5,1,1,17,3,44,2,52,47,4,66,0,2,1,0,77,19,0,4,36,192,55,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699465518199243,0.0,0.2623829305544934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826637295860298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369861943604353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164524970463914,0.04805612990700061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501859619761728,0.1358160466988902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294208263640022,0.08722769573178768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792011803737534,0.0,0.0,0.06642056854324799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356164723772828,0.0,0.2688171449329273,0.0,0.06305029906391085,0.08691413973653099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815272478449338,0.0,0.0,0.1819263978446794,0.16878564400202667,0.0,0.0,0.08228162394818213,0.0,0.070070778675506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347322438416059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697651087037501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05262192961610816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846575311791077,0.06292409522618382,0.0,0.0,0.05845399271550991,0.0,0.0,0.08384025183412991,0.29591935145820875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16544485639124354,0.0,0.053419575377253226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525543332734984,0.0,0.06883431417397967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783850593724605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498864879273227,0.06269151118017653,0.0,0.2393509329981689,0.06282004062057514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042366316191764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402595195211593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29636465864802874,0.0,0.137807792786185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05237343089172075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060743598034984,0.14944975612630312,0.1506574498106614,0.0,0.0535227271975589,0.0,0.0,0.08206838542461999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323542591917401,0.0,0.07088072504377743,0.07307938349059569,0.07113491279298735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28695839573776377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522984413008915
parenting,Thethirdtoken,2019/02/20,"My son has long hair to his shoulders, and a girl at school was mocking him, calling him a girl, to the point my son was going to cry, and his response was to make fun of her black skin. My son is 8 years old and he immediately was dealt with by a listening teacher, by giving him an RPC and putting the incident in his permanent record.

Our family is very accepting, though we are cuacasion, we celebrate Martin Luther king day and black history month, so this is where our son learned of the struggles of black Americans and may have figured out this is a touchy subject for a young black girl.

My question is, how should I handle this?  Any advice is appreciated.

Thank you.",8.678102564102566,6.895788707692307,8.290769230769232,74.21256410256413,61.92307692307693,12.051282051282053,37.82051282051282,10.864195022040775,3.83897435897436,532,21,105,11,6,170,86,130,0.059,0.812,0.129,0.8687,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,0,1,4,5,1,1,9,0,15,3,3,2,0,18,20,9,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,3,10,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,4,7,17,3,14,14,0,13,0,0,4,0,24,5,0,2,6,68,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344915512138788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318479790548046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24503164900353416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26359088090430666,0.15475792328267146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22621815741034265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301968145966347,0.13637794800841307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21236195414489495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160178863213771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153820689615825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518034706694109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22684500170902724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412316494895375,0.2688163266837573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428579405107067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508640874895835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22092803146664405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23576492747618785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19799670407397826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452994201450732
parenting,Babycravin056,2019/02/20,"Talking about a step parent adoption  We are hoping for some advice about how to talk to our daughter (5yrs old) about her step dad adopting her. We recently went to court with her biological dad and he agreed to terminate his rights if we agreed to give his parents some visitation. The bio dad is also allowed to see her 4 times a year with some other very strict rules around his visitation. So we are obviously not trying to cut any of them out completely. 

She knows she has 2 dads and we don’t want it to seem like she is losing a dad by being adopted. But we would also like to be able to celebrate the actual adoption and we are planning on changing her name to match ours. She doesn’t know anything about any of this yet although she is very aware that something was happening and she is aware and we have talked about the fact that her bio dad has never been present like a typical dad (when she brings it up or asks questions we try to answer them as honestly as possible while remaining age appropriate.) We have also discussed the name change with her and she is into it. We thought about a hyphen but we really want her to match in case we have more children, we don’t want her feeling left out. 

I guess I am just asking about bringing up the actual word “adoption” because while we would (maybe selfishly) like to celebrate the event, we don’t want to cause her any unnecessary distress by trying to explain a situation that she won’t understand until she’s older. But I also don’t want to pretend like it’s not a big deal and then when she’s older she might feel like “we didn’t tell her”. I can’t explain the situation behind the adoption because we are very careful not to talk negatively about the bio dad but obviously the reasons behind this situation are very negative and not age appropriate. We have told her before that “everybody makes mistakes and even adults make  bad decisions and he is learning how to make better decisions so he can’t be around right now” (jail) and that seemed to help her understand why he isn’t around. 

But if I can’t really explain when she asks “why?” Should I even bring it up? Should we bring up the word adoption? Should we just change her name and have a special name change dinner without explaining the deeper meaning behind that? If we tell her about the adoption, what do I say when she says “what’s adoption?” without making her feel like she lost something instead of gaining something. In her mind (and in reality) she already has 2 dads. And she might continue to see bio dad several times a year. I just can’t find a good middle ground here. I feel like she’s going to feel like adoption means now she only has one dad and I need the words to explain how that isn’t true. Haaalp 😂 thanks in advance 

*cross posting in adoption 
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parenting,Shred77,2019/02/20,"A note from a psychologist on comparing children's intelligence & how every individual's intelligence is unique and changeable We, humans, tend to compare ourselves with each other. Quite often, the subject of comparison is intelligence. 

This, unfortunately, is also a problem with a lot of parents. They want to compare their child's intelligence with all other children. 

Somehow, most hope that their kid is the smartest. That's theoretically impossible. Everyone can't be the best. And this shows the underlying problem - intelligence is not something one needs to be best at. 

Here is a short article for you explaining why everyone's intelligence is & will be unique. Hope it changes your outlook toward intelligence. 

Don't let comparing intelligence be a source of low self-esteem and disappointment. 

​

[Full article](https://cognitiontoday.com/2019/01/everyones-intelligence-is-unique-and-changeable-here-is-why/)

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parenting,lenavanvintage,2019/02/20,"Dinner time hard to schedule Hey Parenting Reddit. I’m feeling really guilty that we don’t sit down and eat as a family like I’d like so I’m reaching out to see what you guys and gals might have to say. 

Our child is a little over a year old and has dinner around 5-5:30. I usually eat something with him, but it’s too early to be dinner for me. Hubs doesn’t even get home until 7 or later so we typically have our dinner around 7:30-8ish and because it’s just us, we tend to just eat on the couch. We don’t always watch tv even. Sometimes we just chat but that’s where we end up. We have two full size tables with chairs and a kitchen island with stools. But we eat on the damn couch. WHY. 

Our justification is it’s the furthest from babe’s room and we don’t want to disturb him. But. I hate it. I want to eat dinner as a family. Because of our schedules, I’m not sure this can be remedied. I realize we need to just eat at the kitchen table anyway and maybe that’ll make me feel at least a little better but dang it. I want the kiddo to grow up experiencing dinner time with his parents at the table. I didn’t have that growing up, we all just ate wherever on our own and I don’t like that disconnect. 

Thoughts?",1.3163456549935155,3.1481605097276275,3.1411138132295733,91.61506890402077,80.08949416342413,5.995395590142674,20.046854734111548,6.996647511020387,0.2446940337224386,949,24,213,11,24,317,137,257,0.07200000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.079,-0.5408,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,17,1,0,1,14,8,2,1,12,0,18,15,0,2,2,51,34,19,0,4,12,2,3,3,0,2,0,1,6,3,12,26,15,0,5,2,0,2,7,3,0,1,3,7,30,5,33,27,4,33,0,0,2,0,29,19,2,2,14,136,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057277668657436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380098860111455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13270915492221938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962698901929548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6682906691872769,0.0,0.0,0.0964097037254464,0.0,0.0,0.14379015719859645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20523012684630704,0.0,0.1100767025715834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056870170421718824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777963305887853,0.0,0.0,0.09750914219984673,0.1074678564514822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918645808252532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953734468025066,0.21819465614760897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726589076486672,0.0,0.10935549002958976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547374105614525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071165936704805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422084508469448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417323739341571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973275699425684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656270787533925,0.0,0.0,0.0867401777782521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379884073758012,0.10765645180815152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259080740875236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864155589011049,0.126943821692674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633163946341212,0.0,0.13093438640275248,0.0,0.11988403099190592,0.0,0.19260947286686994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822112372024268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009649438453927
parenting,LittleMissA321,2019/02/20,"Repeat biting at preschool My daughter will be 3 in 8 days and she has been going to preschool 3 days a week since just after Christmas. Ever since she started all the teachers have told us what a sweet child she is and really she is usually very well behaved. On Monday when her father and I picked her up from school the head teacher told us that she bit another kid on the finger. She went in time out for 2 minutes,  apologized, and didn't do it again. The teacher suspected it was because of the toy she had brought to school with her that she recently got and is super attached to. 

Fast forward to today, my husband called to check on her because she was upset this morning when I dropped her off. He asked about the biting and she had done it again! This time she bit a girl on the finger on the playground and they said it was because the little girl wanted to slide and my daughter said no. It is also important to note that I went to great lengths to keep the toy home today.  I have also talked many times with her about biting since Monday's incident and she seemed to understand that it was bad. The school told me on Monday that she seemed to know that what she did was wrong as well and knew she was in trouble for it. 

I am just at a loss for what to do. I am terrified she is going to get kicked out of the school if this continues. She doesn't bite at home even when she is extremely frustrated so I have no idea where this is coming from. I'm sorry for the long post but I am so stressed out over this. Any advice on how to handle this situation would be greatly appreciated! ",4.642016021361815,5.270099352024921,5.038718291054742,86.16299065420564,69.49844236760124,7.983444592790388,27.435246995994657,7.957251820313856,1.5019863818424577,1256,39,261,15,21,399,157,321,0.077,0.866,0.057,-0.5679,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,1,2,19,13,1,2,17,0,33,3,3,2,2,34,56,21,0,3,4,4,2,0,0,2,0,2,2,4,22,16,0,1,7,2,1,8,4,7,2,0,22,5,39,6,47,30,3,56,0,1,0,0,45,22,0,3,26,190,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420757411315037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541929088474403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555990551999946,0.10109089802438527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012731048135712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049562111419355,0.17630600574896707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050243453867384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844208507330487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304589083791468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124348774629852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986575913926732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367575845730424,0.08720543752410449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050368555202253334,0.0,0.10958037147089772,0.0,0.07710529618003084,0.21257759554240346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894115332353476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934076898481705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883150200254264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569076155949253,0.0,0.0,0.05298263629724592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662490459858347,0.0,0.08531695248871095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774132716220008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233103072128443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061760641721748284,0.0,0.09519004895470468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18340981918080976,0.0,0.0,0.390275168741778,0.0,0.1755301945121546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23924601452224575,0.10836524213875087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791947947717656,0.06823720383619487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043362255747298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748810516403447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864667829632307,0.0,0.18276467964840792,0.2763623835694453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036284140013316,0.23193093393233702,0.0,0.10617843041628013,0.07954567691948812,0.05686320728207776,0.0,0.0773316909984198,0.0,0.17336251783408405,0.17874007236618247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848459917478415,0.10540566236111068,0.0,0.0
parenting,avakaine,2019/02/20,"My 12 year old lefty has atrocious handwriting She writes worse than a fifth grader, and she’s starting to get docked for it in school. Any workbook/resource suggestions? 

I can only find workbooks for elementary school students. ",6.028846153846152,9.3577348974359,4.550961538461539,79.80028846153847,71.8205128205128,6.976923076923077,32.82692307692308,8.07648339933343,2.8890461538461536,187,9,28,3,4,54,36,39,0.084,0.916,0.0,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,14,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229737615712045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29968191475743816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713069311078742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440612590908347,0.0,0.0,0.2493721204750367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6636763867486392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23207943784812096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341439028526005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111478697072776
parenting,CatCock88,2019/02/20,"Worried about my son's gains My son is 5 and he has no gains. Compared to the other children he is weak, no traps, no delts, always skips leg day, he's putting in zero work basically. I've tried beating him but he doesn't fight back. I'm all out of ideas and he's too old at this point to go missing and have people believe they were mistaken about his existence.",3.894473684210524,4.37947213157895,4.777473684210528,87.8833157894737,71.10526315789474,7.658947368421052,28.35789473684211,7.554174236665415,1.4261768421052632,286,10,63,3,5,93,59,76,0.204,0.72,0.077,-0.8033,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,1,4,4,3,1,0,1,0,6,2,1,0,1,7,9,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,0,5,0,8,8,1,9,0,1,0,0,12,4,0,0,3,33,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26215225126358194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422590054863416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3549607934760934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318538210189327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905387258103822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.355660445950241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305988043603834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184205116310794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978302330018039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31671880726309753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139026864126368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293648883413688,0.31995517458729505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imnotlegolas,2019/02/20,"Does anyone have any experience with mucus and throwing up in the morning with food? My 11 month old has had a red throat on and off (yesterday went to the doc, no strep, but I forgot to ask further), and scratches her throat. 

It's happened a few times now in the morning when feeding her baby food she immediately gags and throws up a little.

She is also unable to clear it, or doesn't know how to cough anyway.

Would a warm mist humidifier help at night perhaps? Any recommendations? ",4.609953917050691,6.187066677419356,5.578525345622122,78.73064516129034,70.39784946236558,7.464823348694317,27.264208909370197,7.957251820313856,1.6680918586789557,383,13,72,5,7,126,71,93,0.017,0.878,0.105,0.8496,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,7,0,6,6,2,1,1,13,11,9,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,6,3,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,3,6,1,13,7,1,19,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,1,7,47,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18702023658113132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180698550208447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635225171110127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21863042930620866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20465517478949635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287629866149077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5655763776378856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068043669891685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675350631039225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852504371399906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343922642452479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18666729523941636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946467703329156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453999834468504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636745428981453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167934366782452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612963638301195,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deejayv2,2019/02/20,"Being away from child due to work travel - worried LO may forget about me I just had my first child. He is currently 14 months, and as you probably know, hitting new milestones day by day. His life is changing quickly.

I have to travel for work and when I do, I'm gone 4/5 days of the week. Probably at \~40% travel for the month. I fear my LO will forget about my existence. He already suffers for major separation anxiety with the mom (meaning when mom leaves or walks away for just a little bit he cries).

Any ideas how to cope? I understand this is more of a personal issue than anything else...",3.2912068965517283,5.269349155172417,4.294344827586208,84.9351379310345,74.6896551724138,7.398620689655173,26.255172413793105,8.238735603445708,1.7627096551724135,466,17,90,8,10,151,82,116,0.121,0.879,0.0,-0.9001,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,3,8,2,0,1,5,0,9,1,0,1,0,14,15,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,4,3,0,5,0,2,0,1,2,0,11,0,19,9,3,22,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,2,13,56,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995900322912633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473524778563001,0.0,0.11782079064111955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674093937369502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894036792076949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16814411541640167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16292708492813318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917786815862382,0.297980136321064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865948274967626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733093071494156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310047881129816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738638004235898,0.0,0.16075128708828526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464242736340066,0.0,0.0,0.16307928323842358,0.0,0.0,0.10878510661763233,0.0,0.15436314688263728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677671118369992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607602084552991,0.245866058813934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874831494255206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344796574053409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321076976900492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603346890014389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354126739750275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22424900842834744,0.15640935969225847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LME95,2019/02/20,"Help with University Dissertation Hi everyone!

I'm currently writing my dissertation about violence in video games. I have a questionnaire that's mainly about how parents feel about violent video games and if they'd let their children play them. It shouldn't take long to fill out and I could really use your help. Thank you in advance :)

[https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Grw092YpizD6wBA4mSwsjbvjBcCV8at8IRBkw9ElYPc/edit](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1Grw092YpizD6wBA4mSwsjbvjBcCV8at8IRBkw9ElYPc/edit) ",18.64377049180328,24.186049114754105,12.574557377049182,26.638885245901665,41.459016393442624,11.437377049180329,33.511475409836066,11.20814326018867,4.635167868852459,440,13,46,10,5,121,51,61,0.115,0.687,0.198,0.5935,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,3,1,4,3,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,11,10,4,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,2,8,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,2,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627409633438419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31444688386659625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663910643874977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.441146343368562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365032157543462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912225191927568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654007256409627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081495698699174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474247201639952,0.0,0.0,0.3029696074472641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28421660641302765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nieznajoma98,2019/02/20,"Will u let your daughter to wear very short skirts as well as revealing tops? I have a 6 year old.  Just got in to the discussion with my husband as he said he would not be ok with our child wearing short, revealing clothes. What brought this conversation up is that few days ago I saw a girl wearing crop top and make up on at the age of 8. I don’t agree with that but I might be overreacting. My husband said that girls should be modest and most importantly have respect for themselves instead of showing their cleavage as well as having some dignity. 

What are your thoughts? Would u let ur child wear very short dresses? ",4.521478420569327,6.003831322314053,4.378953168044081,87.61368227731865,70.48760330578511,7.691827364554638,30.79981634527089,8.167268648758528,2.0138202020202023,494,21,101,7,9,151,84,121,0.012,0.816,0.172,0.9589,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,1,2,4,4,0,0,4,1,16,4,4,1,0,18,23,8,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,4,6,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,6,3,10,4,18,7,3,16,0,0,1,0,18,10,0,3,5,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919093703537557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962108501555862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731504817019318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427607236797552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445118040102935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296665223282798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271746288642731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4118718183232419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187250284219652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572613804311593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893092298347927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30758305651509016,0.0,0.0,0.13941540254483845
parenting,twinninginthenameof,2019/02/20,"Advice on navigating splitting up My now ex partner has made the decision he no longer wants to be with me or live with us. This has come pretty much out of nowhere. It will leave him homeless, out of his own choice. He will have nowhere to have the children but does want to remain part of their lives. My twins are five years old, I have no idea how I handle this with them.

What do we say? How do I handle this? 

Due to money and spending problems he will not be able to get or keep a place, so it’s not like there will be any “mums house” and “dads house” any time in the near future to make it easier for them. 
How do I make this as easy as possible for them? Any response is appreciated!
Also sorry if this is the wrong sub, this is my first post.",3.142255244755244,3.936206570512824,3.934498834498836,92.11353146853148,73.03846153846155,6.9547785547785566,22.51515151515152,6.980632752743323,0.3674179487179488,579,13,135,5,11,185,101,156,0.097,0.802,0.101,0.2133,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,4,1,7,3,0,0,5,0,19,0,0,6,0,27,27,13,0,4,6,3,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,2,10,9,0,1,2,0,2,1,4,2,0,2,1,1,16,1,22,19,3,16,0,0,0,0,17,7,0,3,8,94,26,0,0.16111070020754567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743551161764105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288401687482815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32868240258734865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387826025124749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409890594574728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137040679293099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417369125951453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718002338056689,0.0,0.18187437007248988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320259293398818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705929689711142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871055010560021,0.0,0.2845273999362429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244684003014164,0.21508528686725334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184349022873024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16905857813093794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744671882016494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832639105232305,0.0,0.0,0.18162810715647715,0.15429951568788405,0.16390750245331973,0.0,0.15416118162328954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812169531504866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803502385550456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394494490895047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379633531237372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005453043343448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614925909552068,0.0,0.1037500087118637
parenting,ladyhawk16,2019/02/20,Toddler screen time. My 2 year olds screen usage is out of control. It's basically constant. it is at least mostly educational games and such. I really started heavily relying on it for him when his sister was born but I'm ready to cut it out now. I just don't know how... I know there will be lots of tantrums about it and that's what I'm dreading. Any tips? ,0.15527027027026818,2.528457229729732,2.4446486486486485,90.71589189189191,91.56756756756756,5.662702702702703,20.913513513513514,7.1686216300943375,0.7268745945945954,281,10,61,5,10,95,58,74,0.14,0.816,0.043,-0.8047,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,7,3,2,1,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,12,11,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,6,0,9,8,3,12,0,0,2,0,4,4,0,2,8,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24689711329039776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39234501996543575,0.4072090336030717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990628068344164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086654588317353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809763582315469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23258917222524814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25697975786474425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21170651842318725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338023951374031
parenting,Reddchin,2019/02/20,"Help with getting a 6-year-old ready in the morning Hello everyone,

We have a six-year-old daughter that is having trouble getting ready in the morning. She's an only child, her mother and I are guilty of spoiling her, as a result, it's making mornings extremely difficult. My wife and I feel she should be further along in the morning routine. We feel she should be able to put her socks on without us helping, she should be able to put her shoes on without us asking her 10 times, simply, we just feel that she should have better capabilities when getting ready in the mornings. A few examples are, she tends to lose focus really easy as all six-year-olds do but we feel in her case, it's a bit more extreme. One major issue is brushing her teeth, she has a fear of gagging, therefore, she doesn't want to use toothpaste. Ohhhh and that's another thing, she hates having water on her face as due to the fear of gagging so baths are a nightmare.

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I was hoping to get some different perspectives as I am sure I am not the parent dealing with this. I really want to be a better dad and not constantly yell at her as my mom did with me. Any help is greatly appreciated. :)

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parenting,Heartolion,2019/02/20,"When do toddlers start enunciating letters? My 22 month old seems in line with all milestones, I'm just wondering when his speech starts to clear up? He doesn't say ""w"" a lot, he says ""y"" - ""I yant a tookie"" instead of ""i want a cookie"". I don't want to force him in his speech if this is on track and people see kids round out to clearer speech by age 3 or whatever. He talks a lot, and is pretty easy to understand, he just doesn't pronounce certain letters yet.",4.241205673758863,4.579018085106384,4.956170212765958,87.43333333333334,70.27659574468085,7.9687943262411345,28.43262411347518,7.793537801064563,1.5102113475177306,356,12,78,4,6,115,67,94,0.02,0.853,0.127,0.8336,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,3,18,15,6,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,7,1,12,15,3,13,0,0,2,0,13,5,0,6,8,43,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193585627117633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686078773185414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588007395123491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17098485895662496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25091529406858604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922662767153903,0.0,0.0,0.19653524834104336,0.22452619604338275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491374198851436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19823494800361008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567545380588849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909420720772284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674638919200561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RlinaBina,2019/02/20,"Her father has custody and I live 7-8 hours away, causing me to miss out on much of her childhood, as she is a now Junior in high school. She wants to got to college in Florida. Should I move to Florida to help my daughter get in-state tuition and to be closer to her? In 2003, her (my daughter) father and I got divorced. Although it was one of the most difficult decisions I have ever made in life, I agreed that it was best for him to have custody at the time, as he was more financially stable than I was and I was going back to school and working full time. For the majority of her life, I have lived 7-8 hours away, in a different state, and only get to see her every other holiday and for a few weeks during the summer. Needless to say, it has been extremely difficult and I wish I have done more to see her, but I didn’t want to constantly fight with her still immature, selfish father. Although I have  always been in her life, always paid child support, helped out in other areas when needed and she understands the situation, I feel a tremendous amount of guilt and sorrow over the situation. 

Now that she is almost 17, she is looking at colleges, and would like to go to Florida. Due to various unfortunate circumstances and me having her fairly young, I really don’t have a lot of money saved for her college, so I have been seriously considering moving to Florida to help with her tuition costs and to be closer to her.  Plus, I currently live in PA and hate the cold, I absolutely love Florida, have family and friends there, and moved from there years ago, only to be closer to her. 

The good news is that I don’t own a house, so I don’t have one to sell, and I am basically debt free, with the exception of my car, which will be paid off in a few months. Although this only happened recently, due to paying a lot extra on all of my debt, so I haven’t been saving a lot. I am obviously starting to save anything I can, but only have a few months to do so. 

The problems I am facing are that (these are not in order of importance):

1) I currently and finally have a good job, with great pay, benefits, vacation and sick days, after struggling tremendously for over 6 years. 

2) I am in a mostly happy relationship and he is not willing to move, because he loves his job. 

3) If I move, I need to do so before the 2019 fall semester starts, in order to establish residency for a year before she starts, but she doesn’t know which school she wants to go to and she would have to get accepted anyways. We have an idea, but what if she doesn’t get accepted and what if she changes her mind?

4) What if I can’t find a job with similar pay and benefits? Then I would be back in the same situation I was 6 years ago. 

5) The housing is much more expensive than where I currently live, so I am afraid I will have a hard time paying my bills.

6) We are flying down this July to tour the colleges she is interested in, but if I need to move before August/September, I will need to turn around and move right after she goes back home from her summer visit. 

7) I have worked very hard to get to where I am and would be throwing all of that away to start over. 

I really need some advice, prayers...etc. What would you do, if you were in my situation?",5.3460179205682925,5.191570277607362,6.521210849208912,78.8688165967065,67.84969325153375,10.053341943816598,30.04133031966419,9.811843763644266,2.6050730061349703,2519,84,519,52,38,852,267,652,0.083,0.7909999999999999,0.127,0.9871,9,0,0,0,2,0,88.0,2,2,0,3,20,31,2,3,30,0,74,7,1,2,4,93,113,50,0,22,14,6,3,1,1,10,4,1,1,1,19,36,0,0,8,1,16,14,10,12,0,2,18,8,82,20,98,79,24,98,0,2,3,2,56,39,0,13,43,388,101,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05765287734979991,0.10459763094305284,0.0,0.059078706995707615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818334137615536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048550928799333565,0.052521379268038265,0.0,0.0,0.1662937503806391,0.1360991476658988,0.0,0.03596507896229919,0.0,0.15061072449025195,0.0,0.061915528512219924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060794894008829,0.062412834707697734,0.0,0.0,0.06375666879572266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038049300811642726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061641116914226274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037618598857961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579918095169447,0.0,0.053367730154841454,0.049708975670775486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055618753067911364,0.0,0.029831531232467224,0.0,0.0,0.06463022624688224,0.05392377150845038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0455822734094526,0.0,0.15412200997100012,0.0,0.10059101578344287,0.09897067318980034,0.09437335003124324,0.0650463094846362,0.0,0.0,0.052172383196222416,0.06280524649034719,0.10570254933260484,0.05824903256225111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186368177467779,0.06233539881853487,0.05918053790416108,0.0,0.1162037317796005,0.1361532290775957,0.0,0.06660238622863816,0.0,0.0,0.1756414113299179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03242415974373112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250176460405052,0.02882379994670128,0.0,0.2083878423950647,0.0,0.04954407503807947,0.0,0.0,0.1504758344771274,0.10649731683099133,0.055826026036412325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05957189991267903,0.0,0.09418444880270146,0.4389442003174697,0.08674171189646993,0.21873405825057102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995813438549608,0.17948477479473768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05645381785154905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559219597252866,0.0,0.05825412944733682,0.06334255770145665,0.0,0.050384594122122185,0.0,0.04691815912401335,0.0,0.1791295974444482,0.09402870042619467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652681834903413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670384225682884,0.0,0.047116462986346926,0.0,0.0,0.06167828389823201,0.0,0.0,0.06695106105352837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320790393765013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417367768555954,0.0,0.061419759931081876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04868013212650911,0.10439694088329972,0.0,0.047325223458462656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784562925892065,0.0,0.0,0.08590355803994885,0.0,0.0,0.20955502961109015,0.0,0.0,0.15197299429706326
parenting,Blue5tas,2019/02/20,"My sons are ruining their life and happiness, they left their family, mother, religion, race, for unworthy women.  

My youngest son (16), is dating a russian girl. she is nothing but a trouble maker . last week, i came home to find out that she is with my son in his room and the door was closed on them. she only wants to have sex. he is being dumb. he is only 16. he gets mad at me whenever i tell him that she is unworthy and that he deserves better.

my oldest son (23) converted to islam and married a syrian muslim woman. he left christian and jesus for some woman. i disowned him. he bought a lot of gold for her as a dowry or whatever. he doesnt talk to me anymore.

my second son (18), he wants to marry a somali muslim girl, he is obsessed with her. he told me to ask for her hand for him and to support him. hell no, what does he think he is doing? i kicked him out. he also converted.

after all the things i have done to raise them they are stabbing me in the back. they chose unworthy women over me, their mother. thats heartbreaking. our family has been marrying only white. i have always tried my best to give them all that they need and to make them happy, i talked to them about all this and that they should listen to me but they ignored all the things i have said.

what should i do to make them realize their mistakes?",1.613545568039953,3.801707483146072,3.292883895131088,89.06744069912611,80.91011235955057,6.5023720349563074,20.001248439450688,7.662118739084242,0.7378604244694129,1026,27,211,17,27,340,139,267,0.14,0.768,0.092,-0.9235,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,16,2,3,14,3,1,10,0,24,3,1,3,4,36,39,13,0,6,3,7,1,0,0,2,1,2,3,6,11,14,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,9,0,1,7,4,51,5,31,29,7,18,4,2,1,1,64,11,2,3,6,149,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778116134759785,0.12255021354193787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606391907727695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768855360440252,0.0,0.0,0.1132505737093894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456310886109742,0.13025873813753053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684510843840823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888725093685632,0.15072036420926135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27768825016029425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346128502192564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769486349465217,0.1412860739597082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31356832069743856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773560272095282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005428274966487,0.0,0.0,0.3200441021422201,0.0,0.10402945485478683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521367603100522,0.0,0.0,0.19662342204394412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092075505754266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413208102367268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360432203211351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14009867034185153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671335832325186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367589815916825,0.12873074020478334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569489908936874,0.0943721976896632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073402265126242,0.0,0.09999463964437226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737411828259567,0.0,0.11814053503302414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grim-reader,2019/02/20,"My 8 year old has a phone My daughter's dad has bought her a phone. I can't tell you how uncomfortable I feel about it. She's 8, what the fuck does she need a phone for?

I'll give some background. My daughter as been in  regular contact with her father for around a year and she thinks the sun shines out of his arse. He spends quality time with her, but also throws gifts at her every time they meet. I understand he wants to make her happy but she is naturally a bit materialistic and I try to encourage just being happy with what she already has. And she has enough. All of her cousins have phones and tablets and it sounds like they are glued to YouTube and games all day, and she wants to fit in by having this phone, but she already got a new tablet from her dad at Christmas. He bought her a smart TV with Netflix and other apps on for her birthday, also in December. It's so excessive. Having a lot of screen time makes her rude and ignorant and we have to limit TV and tablet. It's ridiculous and seems so unhealthy. I liked bikes when I was 8.

He says we spoke about it already so he went ahead and bought the phone, but I cannot actually remember saying yes to a phone. To my knowledge I said she could have one when she starts taking herself to school or goes anywhere by herself. She has nobody to call, she will use it the same way she uses her tablet. It's just another screen to take her attention away from reality. He said she will be able to keep better contact with her cousins and that is just bloody stupid. She has never asked to speak to anyone on the phone, and if she did want to, she can use my phone, my partners phone, or the house phone. He's bought the phone because she's been badgering him about buying one, despite me telling he she's got no chance, and that she's not having one.

I feel undermined. I feel angry. I've told him she's not bringing the phone home with her, and so I am going to end up being the bad parent. I don't care what his family allows for their children, I don't want the same for my child. He doesn't understand of course, and I probably sound like an uptight bitch to him and his sister, but I don't care. Let children be children. She's messaged and called me on WhatsApp today. It's surreal. 

I just had to get this off my chest because I am so mad, so thanks for reading. ",3.4579831932773115,4.6042649663865545,4.141731092436974,89.59150420168068,72.65546218487395,7.2047058823529415,24.94453781512605,7.554174236665415,0.9898233613445382,1828,54,398,21,35,582,218,476,0.126,0.775,0.098,-0.9476,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,2,1,3,3,19,20,6,1,20,1,37,2,1,7,3,78,78,40,0,7,14,9,3,3,1,2,0,8,1,5,16,30,0,4,10,6,6,4,10,9,0,3,16,14,77,11,55,54,8,34,0,0,3,1,105,14,2,6,18,262,93,2,0.0952951290157813,0.0,0.09299429943177928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31548163359723586,0.15241496048947695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999252517084102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666325699299467,0.0,0.0,0.08483286856464403,0.08908808173292923,0.0,0.08953291063414855,0.0,0.0795674522479792,0.11618205230122206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428079753794071,0.10403759966320683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461396271854,0.0,0.19431947023801768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608540628387975,0.0,0.0,0.06145747464585297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339340958425226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844031992151564,0.098465342266992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802902562410085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898357665867854,0.0,0.14455224158589522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809881120983852,0.04978777174934218,0.09141577113818056,0.054158417896778464,0.0,0.152432440099257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20288687368604585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558878429271968,0.0,0.0,0.10995778431527622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470268921591886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974457258611614,0.0,0.13966915948264855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101651090315495,0.0,0.0,0.12722047719367605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066013068500651,0.07349747825532614,0.09203662942497648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999620753592714,0.0,0.19372333703525052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581396335383704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274426676122707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532091723106707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079508044996995,0.0,0.1812949801179478,0.15156502291951873,0.0,0.09644375812809876,0.0,0.08675310642122427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745038279870727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330015478946487,0.0,0.16658428612525591,0.08773495149336763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061061270824650786,0.0,0.0,0.1667020682166884,0.0,0.09032863973999293,0.0910585795576161,0.0,0.06469913726516044,0.0,0.0,0.19841118013731374,0.0,0.2469131843357945,0.0,0.0,0.2248301444206575,0.07564083778958272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833953931867275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273387742526155
parenting,Eddles999,2019/02/20,"How to keep a straight face when telling off your children? My toddler has started to get a bit naughty so I've started lightly telling her off when she does something bad and she knows it like throwing food on the floor - most of the time she gives food she doesn't want to Mama or Daddy, but sometimes she has a wicked grin and holds her hand out and lets go of food - so I lightly tell her off ""No, give to Mama or Daddy"" but it's so hard not to grin or giggle as she looks so cute when she's angry.  I know it's not important right now, but it will become critical in the future when I have to really tell her off, I have a bad tendency to grin or giggle in awkward situations.  I do know once she's a teenager, I wouldn't have a problem not smiling!

So how do you do it?  Advice would be greatly appreciated!",4.6337278106508855,4.4370245917159785,5.5240769230769216,85.55842307692308,69.35502958579882,8.180118343195266,30.50946745562129,7.554174236665415,1.713283550295858,632,23,139,6,10,208,90,169,0.147,0.6459999999999999,0.207,0.9428,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,0,12,12,0,1,9,0,14,5,2,2,0,26,26,22,0,4,10,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,4,3,2,3,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,0,5,21,8,18,21,2,22,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,5,10,94,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382782268688975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286982508774233,0.0,0.15125262625025185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951601689034405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984754046908305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4968083842275222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07155172116528419,0.26275350499793965,0.07783292724190714,0.0,0.0,0.15098996567561013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268201241550998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172915131128008,0.0,0.0,0.2257955665227781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004260806587848,0.0,0.0669077861461308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500511326005955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584931589280142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13104448334114754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773490122396549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695618394577277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539396863456891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543227217303228,0.13544894211322636,0.0,0.19387053539179727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788080274554451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985776080900338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077778557819275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728670843532924,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SquashedSharpie,2019/02/20,"Beginner's Keyboard for nearly 5YO? We are thinking of buying our 4YO daughter a keyboard for her 5th birthday in about a month.

She's had no real contact with pianos except for a little book with keys on it a couple of years ago, and 5-10 mins mucking around on a grand piano while visiting somewhere.

She's very musical, but not had a lot of exposure to ""proper"" instruments yet.

So - we don't want to spend a heap of money - she might hate it, or not really get into for another year or so. But I also don't want to get just a ""toy"".  

Things I've read - some people saying get a full 88 weighted key keyboard as it promotes proper finger placement etc. But I'm wondering if that's really necessary first up if we aren't thinking of lessons for another couple of years?

I've read that all the buttons and modes of many of them can be distracting to young kids.  But also that maybe ones with built in lessons etc might be a good idea.

Thoughts?

Model suggestions?",4.6081957309706,5.520098712041887,5.5850261780104695,81.18932339911397,69.73298429319371,8.599436165928314,29.35199355618204,8.841846274778883,2.3174700765203378,758,28,145,13,13,250,119,191,0.075,0.8759999999999999,0.049,-0.6016,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,1,4,8,4,1,1,11,0,11,2,1,0,1,37,22,16,0,4,12,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,7,10,1,0,7,4,3,1,6,2,0,2,3,3,10,2,31,15,6,22,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,9,11,98,17,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161068457530312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942163584907828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28771141785657023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212821323080815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035963189785164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060062973849325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669376996512885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502838607386124,0.0,0.0,0.11506848875041005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544675270133288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487084574646162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750045179937126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663405807451753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908915822587722,0.1378258253551184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910738850623784,0.0,0.0,0.10950377357475756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296351525665307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511029339881308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744543123890962,0.15615228957001448,0.1757748931383469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909901875675763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114296037289277,0.17581166426629768,0.0,0.10891356004024948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131961429670253,0.1618364690662083,0.0,0.0,0.1670604980904742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877673607671993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650376453098627
parenting,dtdtdt---dtdtdt,2019/02/20,"I'm worried about having a second child. I always imagined myself with a huge family someday. I envisioned that I'd have 2-3 biological children and then foster or adopt as many as I could afford someday.

I have one son who's almost 4. After he was born, I decided to switch careers, so I went back to school and earned degrees in early childhood education and family studies. I constantly have a parenting book or child psychology book in hand because I want to always do what's best for him and have all the knowledge possible to make the most informed decisions.

I'm entering a new career now at around the same time that he is entering preschool.

I think to myself that now would be a good time to have a second child, and my husband wants a second child so badly... But I'm frightened.

I look back on photos/videos of my son throughout his life, and I wish I could go back and experience all of that over again, but with him. Not with some other child.

He's so absolutely perfect to me. Obviously he's not REALLY perfect, he's completely absurd sometimes. But all in all, at the end of every day, he is absolutely the greatest blessing I have ever received and I am so thankful for each moment I spend with him (even when he's screaming because I won't let him dip his fries in my water). 

I'm so afraid that I won't ever love another child as much as I love him. I'm also afraid that I might love another child more and then he'd grow up being my second favorite... I don't know what to do. Being a mother is the best thing I have ever become, and it's such an integral part of my identity, but it's because I'm his mother. 

Part of me is sad. He's desperate for a sibling, and I know that's not a very good reason to have a child, but everyday he talks about what he and ""his brother"" will do or talks about ""when the new baby comes"". I'm so torn...

I don't know what the point of this post is. I was talking to an older friend of mine who's raised 5 kids and has upwards of two dozen grandchildren, and she was chastising me about how I should have another soon. I thought I would be so eager, but I don't think I've been able to articulate my feelings until now.",5.505000000000003,5.072674382882886,6.671084684684686,78.86670810810813,67.55855855855856,9.626522522522523,31.048288288288287,9.174902378510234,2.4752602882882897,1702,59,348,28,25,577,203,444,0.071,0.7929999999999999,0.136,0.9849,2,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,0,0,0,5,29,18,0,2,21,0,42,6,1,3,10,71,68,41,0,8,12,7,2,0,1,7,1,1,0,10,18,21,1,0,13,2,1,7,8,5,0,7,6,4,51,13,46,47,15,50,1,1,1,3,49,12,0,7,30,251,69,7,0.09714829897581737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727998838156844,0.0,0.0,0.07768945959224745,0.16167033427170152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056053859771202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648258272392334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224103135917344,0.08111477175764836,0.17766210407324193,0.10729266366457577,0.0,0.0,0.20390229240274466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368465746940174,0.10185814315240922,0.1049827986273639,0.0,0.15513002340631293,0.0,0.0,0.06265261596115054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604455774976276,0.0,0.0,0.06416553524609854,0.2636285948061214,0.08185163185890386,0.0,0.0,0.09502967769539117,0.18316554059440907,0.0,0.04912109894195306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505653480194137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521161709138545,0.16296676802217933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017049340880735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934071770140444,0.06861871658314501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158010371537244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630403982455074,0.0,0.06484724393526266,0.0984931271330178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030589929949568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141517777377081,0.0,0.0,0.18765286504042447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658302016037528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787168928657816,0.21040428151637086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09183654363739847,0.10952011029508783,0.0930412161486486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223568794827476,0.09988463137348648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831926506367757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608215176265604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23425236841380254,0.0,0.0894411014113325,0.0,0.0,0.06454101310116912,0.12449741461463708,0.0,0.07712489781650055,0.11329590875744908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489977189943027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801575208479781,0.11460116752314338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005744643774154,0.0,0.0,0.11171574940743928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865881330059464,0.0,0.13802272854310912,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fk_th_system,2019/02/20,"My partner of 10 years has just told me he's been cheating basically that whole time. He's left, what do I tell our kids? He's coming back later once the kids are asleep to pack up his stuff. He's not going to be here when they wake up in the morning, what do I say to them? They love their dad so much. I just don't even know what to do right now or how to deal with this it all ",1.7287596899224802,2.099112418604652,3.0348837209302317,98.83317829457368,75.97674418604652,6.198449612403103,18.984496124031008,5.46131890053228,-0.6540480620155038,292,4,79,1,6,95,64,86,0.043,0.903,0.054000000000000006,0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,4,0,9,2,1,0,2,0,8,3,2,1,1,9,13,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,1,11,1,10,10,3,13,0,0,0,1,19,5,0,1,6,52,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094534287058316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346424787670639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808252564825792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799130294231651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480723806269392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497000873488585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959558275739212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458453473894695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024022133991665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900896904021506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326221620153705,0.0,0.2166178730497524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31182485354215506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380835172183861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883456818076286,0.0,0.0,0.2602832163615537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30411709384238844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541218261898445
parenting,DerTrickIstZuAtmen,2019/02/20,"Please reconsider if you complain about CPS being too intrusive and also CPS being lazy+useless I get it - nobody likes feeling like the CPS is treating them 'like a criminal'. It's embarrassing to have an official contact you and questioning what is most likely the most important thing in your life: the well-being of your children.

But you can't have that and *at the same time* complain about a CPS that doesn't do enough to protect vulnerable children. Even the best and most competent social worker can't magically feel that *you* have done no wrong.
There is a report, or a formality that made them contact you. This is exactly what you would demand from them of this was about *that other* family with the neglected children. It is *also* what you would demand from them in regards to covert child abuse (shout-out to /r/raisedbynarcissists).

This is a phenomenon not exclusive to one country. Whenever there are news about child neglect that went on for years and was 'ignored by the authorities', a lot of people comment on it and attack what they feel is incompetence or lack of interest. More often than not, it is simply work overload. Most countries simply don't fund their CPS enough to get the performance they expect. If you think your CPS are struggling, make it political.

(Yes, there are incompetent people working in CPS just as there are incompetent people in every other field of work. But turning your anger about those individuals into 'that's typical for them' complains isn't helping.)",6.570447761194028,8.582157985074627,6.543462686567171,72.01608955223881,66.16417910447761,9.389850746268657,31.68358208955224,9.766711354998122,3.3192113432835817,1212,49,194,27,20,384,144,268,0.197,0.7170000000000001,0.086,-0.9832,0,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,0,12,8,7,15,18,2,2,15,1,28,1,0,2,1,40,38,15,0,6,9,0,3,4,0,2,1,0,0,5,24,8,0,4,5,0,1,1,8,11,0,1,5,3,21,7,32,29,11,11,0,2,0,0,34,8,0,11,6,157,45,5,0.0,0.17419884121021795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23514932714053624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726049002159582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429212377255008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045611634609346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303829216061036,0.0,0.09710765474444168,0.0,0.12387366483172706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860069902714933,0.0,0.2230185425132616,0.10503363898303954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362745217511278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854677282428224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384706701823852,0.2873130806333289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499414732627985,0.0,0.13911721866736113,0.09813934772058124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962694871282804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057828104825493,0.0,0.0,0.16138768525584155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470000116169214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987197340330088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370091545655276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767590020167248,0.09420674127166166,0.0,0.0,0.08573060249072792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991938142700152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219181000213298,0.13629228498291054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211046419555228,0.0,0.0,0.20888259435293935,0.16074714956925326,0.0,0.09467833276081816
parenting,blogeheir,2019/02/20,"Pros and cons of raising kids in NYC? I’ve been here for 12 years. Our kids are 6, 4, and 2.


Before we had kids, we said we’d move to the suburbs when we had kids. Now that we have kids, we just can’t seem to move away. Something always keeps us here “one more year”.


I never envisioned myself raising kids in New York City but it seems like it’s happening.



Has anyone else lived in nyc permanently while raising kids? What are the pros and cons? What can I do to make the most of it? I love it most days but some days it does feel a little too chaotic and not “cozy” enough. 



If not, what places do you suggest as a good environment for raising kids? I am not from the US but we plan to stay here. ",0.24150510204081505,2.298271530612247,1.7196556122448996,99.09744260204084,85.39455782312925,4.76343537414966,17.350765306122447,5.985473137389443,-0.6231357142857146,533,12,129,4,16,171,91,147,0.026,0.88,0.094,0.9076,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,10,1,0,1,7,3,0,0,6,0,13,1,0,1,1,27,21,11,0,1,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,9,10,0,1,3,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,4,2,16,3,14,16,5,18,0,0,0,1,22,6,0,6,10,83,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097159716276567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846289498130387,0.17359153175263975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591763277474429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441645400916481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185246756186056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826119917179126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152925802495753,0.0,0.0,0.17505687552703025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566419811565201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210204782487307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981816841579793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058890551225426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277039786656383,0.16980405313149885,0.1496015849531342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290879936237314,0.0,0.1130896350321653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36013479107720714,0.0,0.0,0.13066769084705976,0.16362757098318167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148038532045304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770085755994774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115788579766105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30846849059203296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304283345540403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805799275856702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075844917197678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21820275651025925
parenting,Palmcloud,2019/02/20,Is this dangerous? New mum pls be nice Im a new mum and my 5m/o son has decided that all he wants to do all night is roll onto his tummy. He does it while he is sleeping and wakes up and screams until he is put back on his back (he can’t roll back yet). I live in a rural town where I don’t have immediate access to sleep accessories such as the ‘safe t sleeper’ or ‘slumber sleeper’ although I’ve ordered the safe t sleeper online it will arrive in roughly 2 weeks and I need a quick fix. So basically my question to you wise mums out there - Can I buy large Velcro pieces and Velcro his sleep suit to his mattress? ,1.7973986013986052,3.3154167538461583,3.632937062937064,90.06569930069931,77.61538461538461,6.265734265734268,24.125874125874127,6.980632752743323,0.7752307692307698,478,16,106,5,11,161,88,130,0.042,0.8740000000000001,0.084,0.6322,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,9,6,1,0,5,0,12,4,4,0,2,15,14,11,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,6,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,11,4,12,12,3,21,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,2,11,64,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571303023514134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341565715801405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140523660534689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498345697627607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693694692062909,0.0,0.3827782711825912,0.0,0.1859645681075291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19921070816185002,0.22199031892148574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5949247840105316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168829390656132,0.0,0.1589561292589625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jlotz124,2019/02/21,"How do you teach work ethic, motivation, and good old fashioned “gumption”? My 12-yr old son is about as motivated as a stump. He has his household chores, but he slops through them or doesn’t do them at all without several reminders. He spend his free time watching YouTube in his bedroom. His grades are pretty good, but only because he’s naturally pretty smart. Certainly not due to effort!  He has no initiative, no drive, etc. How do I encourage him to excel and do more and be more?  Is it just his age? Help!",2.891237113402063,5.456386216494849,3.7641340206185605,85.35238659793818,78.58762886597938,6.7665979381443275,27.22577319587629,7.908726449838941,1.8542626804123719,401,17,76,7,10,128,72,97,0.044,0.622,0.333,0.9897,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,2,5,4,7,0,0,1,0,11,0,0,4,2,15,11,10,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,11,8,9,10,4,8,0,0,1,0,17,2,0,1,5,49,12,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751328450914786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698799385473587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40593513189872293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219906600590234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5078501789188262,0.0,0.0,0.1840423364363432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4923764021165825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733769043650571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110480996586236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332672364684979,0.0,0.1761697230079566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MochaStripedKitten,2019/02/21,"Help With Providing Daycare I may be in the position to help a friend out with caring for her infant in a few months. She’s a first time mom, I’ve never had kids, but I have worked with kids a lot. (Babysitting, after school classes, Sunday school) Childcare is too expensive for a child that young and she is nervous to trust a stranger, and I stay at home so it seems a good solution until she’s in a better spot financially. I’ve not necessarily had sole responsibility for a child that young before, or for such a good chunk of time (maybe 4-5 days a week during normal work hours). I know parenting and preferences are all over the place, but I’m looking for some tips on what things I need to ask soon-to-be mom regarding care of her child, and what research in general I can do on my own. Thinking of going through a CPR course and I’m watching as many mom blogs on YouTube as I can, but I’d love some more feedback. Thanks in advance!",3.6999248120300763,4.919552947368423,4.608120300751882,86.19684210526316,72.15789473684211,7.744360902255639,26.72932330827068,8.192908349453996,1.5189323308270677,740,25,157,11,14,240,120,190,0.014,0.767,0.219,0.991,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,5,3,10,0,1,14,0,11,1,0,0,2,27,24,13,0,3,5,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,6,9,0,0,4,1,1,2,2,1,0,1,2,2,13,9,30,20,7,28,0,0,2,1,20,12,0,6,13,96,19,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334666510852522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148308962765272,0.0,0.0,0.1262646538052611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29111827787557193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207206133058912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143642560868205,0.0,0.0,0.1103004203340999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113703341854347,0.2394901797794053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19138566941033647,0.0,0.14320563057026972,0.0,0.14059544973269095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846029127568459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988722573523734,0.0,0.0,0.12137428691383703,0.12885161195663605,0.0,0.0,0.14474200482954888,0.14342732772018174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.50161636281804,0.11395421415860266,0.0,0.0,0.10585895244715136,0.11010970373519333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988006719936952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585244069934233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915976314802684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28897300660309505,0.0,0.12996852508278367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521692332518037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143946901955375,0.0,0.0,0.0948471827620727,0.0914784915046997,0.0,0.0,0.16649564746169487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145180275012598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20787024979838306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ozeor,2019/02/21,"Video of odd behavior of my daughter. Update #1 I had posted here last night about some weird behavior with my daughter. I have since taken more videos and much longer. In the video you can see her clutching and rocking back in forth. I just want to be sure I am being paranoid and not overlooking something.

Thank you all for the advice and any insight you may offer. ",4.050761904761902,6.19052188571429,3.962857142857143,87.43047619047621,73.0,6.3809523809523805,25.952380952380953,7.1686216300943375,1.2352380952380957,292,10,54,3,6,89,55,70,0.113,0.8370000000000001,0.05,-0.5439,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,2,13,11,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,10,2,8,6,4,7,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,2,4,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256013076008972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265889039650304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25621190407384503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716042432989565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449419362512436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126876680894765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31911557661893275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26551899244356003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756282811301497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565153119407059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140391052319579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30676779422905665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965312748971521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SloaneTheBitch,2019/02/21,"What are your teenagers allowed to wear around the house? I saw a post floating around about how some kids are not allowed to wear certain clothes in their own home and wanted to know your take on this! What are your kids allowed to wear while company is over? What can they wear when it's just you guys? And if there are restrictions, why do you have them? 

Thank you in advance for your responses. :)",3.399350649350648,5.639740883116888,2.492207792207793,96.78688311688316,75.23376623376623,5.9584415584415575,25.285714285714285,6.868970318607317,0.7256285714285711,316,11,67,3,7,90,55,77,0.0,0.8909999999999999,0.109,0.8339,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,7,3,1,7,2,0,0,2,0,8,4,4,4,1,16,13,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,11,2,12,12,2,10,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,2,2,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5552388364377254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3087880948557377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31281864131909376,0.0,0.0,0.3598418469956671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713888037545881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986734147385496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23447813492837974,0.0,0.0,0.28711661650918346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394171666069176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814030147198113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,404usernametaken,2019/02/21,"Coping with a friends suicide A student at my daughters school committed suicide. 

She was not super close to the individual but is still taking it very hard. I don’t feel that anything I say can change what happened so all I have been doing in holding her and loving on her as she weeps. I have made small comments about how sad and tragic this is because I want her to know that I empathize with what she is feeling but I do not feel it is helpful to try and make sense of something so upsetting. I just want to be compassionate and I hope that by doing so when she wants to talk about it she will. 

Any advice on how to help her and her friends cope with this? Any thoughts on my approach?",3.3893328973185106,4.954149712230215,3.939620667102684,89.32419882276,73.46043165467627,6.205624591236103,27.74427730542839,6.574015621080383,1.0957856115107916,546,21,113,4,11,172,85,139,0.157,0.643,0.2,0.732,0,0,1,0,0,2,7.0,0,0,0,1,10,10,0,1,3,0,15,1,0,4,2,30,29,14,2,4,5,1,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,4,5,21,6,19,23,1,10,0,3,0,1,20,7,0,1,2,86,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759984283510505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24718668379363234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956126598753258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079052191102216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922629042038433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756883351860197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2808326302421285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071716594061952,0.0,0.16280849292950084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24364068952935364,0.0,0.0,0.18051453757632704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998827107900968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403263463146206,0.1719722224793646,0.121316698981297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144531514636817,0.0,0.1839364013018051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399167571566036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451423902149838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976007025572791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13665018498634388,0.14608034893450894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428582380013508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339343371583032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499592771823759,0.3215950555398279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pm_me_your_residuals,2019/02/21,"Baby getting enough milk? I have a 4.5 month old baby girl. My wife, who has been nursing her, recently (~2 weeks ago) found out she is pregnant again. The past few days, baby has been acting super sleepy. We are concerned that her milk might be drying up or less nutritious due to the pregnancy. Any chance these things are related, or are we just paranoid?",3.8369154228855713,6.122100477611941,3.91126865671642,86.90978855721393,74.07462686567162,6.854726368159205,24.59950248756219,7.793537801064563,1.3516189054726369,280,9,52,4,6,86,56,67,0.028,0.882,0.08900000000000001,0.644,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,11,2,0,0,0,8,13,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,1,3,8,3,12,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,3,9,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797364899131411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460051209010828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20351852631333628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32607134391046283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460095877413285,0.0,0.0,0.16487390660355766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347731623955783,0.0,0.0,0.25188741728592234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33114085653383857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012502074033985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311590340003319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20965272832764975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531336852520687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,themantaxe5,2019/02/21,"15 YEAR OLD 10TH GRADE SON - ADVICE ON PARENTING AND SCHOOLING Hi, This is my first reddit post so bear with me. My son is 15 years old and is a softmore (10th grade) in high school. He has very little friends and isn't determined to do much at all other than sleep/play Ipad and other IOS games. I sit with him almost everyday just to keep him on top of his homework and we sit for hours reviewing various topics with him providing results around 75-80% correct on tests. Is this normal? Are kids in the 10th grade sop-post to be self sufficient at this age? He doesn't know how to cook for himself and mostly just eats packaged snacks/ that sort of food. Shows little to no motivation to do any type of work. Any advice? Where yalls children the same way at this age? Good family home parents not separated and stay at home mom. Any advice would be great. Thanks",3.5571935756551127,5.4067507928994125,3.9900464919695686,87.95646449704144,73.61538461538461,7.1954353338968735,23.90574809805579,7.957251820313856,1.1723961115807269,680,20,137,10,14,213,114,169,0.023,0.8759999999999999,0.102,0.9316,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,4,6,4,0,0,3,0,13,4,0,3,2,28,16,9,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,7,12,4,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,11,4,25,13,5,29,0,0,0,0,20,15,0,3,9,79,18,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770161198069839,0.0,0.0,0.12878007076497747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623689382381879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448637390292933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13159577767667005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123804531581628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109391976079447,0.15551057034701568,0.0,0.09936047509848768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786839239699314,0.0,0.14178828150454756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358790244274855,0.25800408461075564,0.0,0.12665074747504784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143106900925766,0.0,0.0,0.07067835094285334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577934732701626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062148743648773,0.0,0.0,0.09454001589027912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260063188484599,0.0,0.0,0.26990017898803825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28560290787401554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24633749651953535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603117480400511,0.0,0.0,0.1341638338725429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869861674350536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370766064669067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840288594474455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061132035363566,0.0,0.1020812496857872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936265098367143,0.0,0.0,0.09135782726061982,0.0,0.0,0.16563575910152595
parenting,OChandyman,2019/02/21,"Apartments for rent Open House in Ontario California 
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parenting,Just_love1776,2019/02/21,"Daycare norms? I live in rural Nevada and go to school full time. I have a 6.5 month old in daycare locally and I have a few questions because I am getting pretty annoyed but I have no way of knowing if this stuff is normal or if my expectations are incorrect.

First of all I am not kidding when I say there are literally 4 daycares in my local area (within a 30 minute drive) so options are limited and wait times are around 2 years. I got lucky and was able to get my daughter into the only daycare in my town which is great since I attend school full time and my husband frequently travels for work.

Anyway first question is what is normal for full time v part time pricing? My daycare says they have a hard 6 hr line for any given day that will automatically bump me up to full time for the week. So if my baby is 5 hours every day except 7 hrs on one single day then the entire week is charged as full time. Fine whatever I have her in full time to better accommodate my class schedule even though on average she spends 25hrs/week there.

So since my baby is full time is it reasonable for me to expect my daycare to basically be on call for me? I have my substitute teaching license so my plan was to be able to drop my baby off whenever I need to with no prior notice to the daycare. It is a daycare after all. Instead, literally today the person in charge of the infant care politely mentioned that I cant drop my baby off even 30 minutes earlier than normal on a regularly scheduled day because they don’t always have staff there. They also dont want to have people there for no reason. 

Tl;dr: So basically I am paying outrageous full time pricing and having to schedule everything at least a day or two in advance and cant even drop my baby off early for 25hrs / week of care. What??",6.230617977528089,5.957294646067417,7.162674157303375,75.41350561797753,66.02247191011236,9.479550561797756,32.68764044943821,8.982922981607832,2.7302049438202247,1418,53,266,21,20,477,184,356,0.08900000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.07200000000000001,0.3793,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,3,7,18,8,2,0,13,0,34,0,0,2,2,36,45,23,0,10,8,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,3,9,10,0,2,5,1,4,5,8,2,0,4,4,3,37,6,48,38,14,74,0,0,0,0,16,31,0,9,34,194,46,7,0.17820143964321725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125381345013701,0.0741389366014244,0.0,0.0,0.06059154487256689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931853109081732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862994360054168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880234598901874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098179699555264,0.0,0.1816882442196364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28731296583149224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442538004339046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655055533981093,0.0,0.07507119933224017,0.0,0.08007798172808184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157805352627296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310289722039616,0.0,0.05063799240151424,0.0,0.0712619851469996,0.0982338581564968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981674379521703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774626105105245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896742542882624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867756800334051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111934449115623,0.0,0.0,0.06606705475660138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618993626532863,0.0,0.10144176007249613,0.09349621709842673,0.0,0.060376953695875465,0.06776511245653971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648739676504096,0.0,0.06177122029741983,0.07779931177325303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064746434556724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19962639571575508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322075936108892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171293728634665,0.0,0.18034937063974474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474100723557354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199900703529263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754100483566644,0.0,0.519553462569882,0.0,0.08445706411717319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08703845642475455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052553913070833166,0.07072400409726336,0.2858848918733017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486638521458249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057377942283266585
parenting,Conbon07,2019/02/21,"Which city is more toddler-friendly: Paris or London? Also accepting other European city suggestions. We need to introduce my son to my family in France (not in Paris) in the next few months. My husband and I have visited Paris several times in the past, but never with a child. 

  Our son will be 2 in May. We’re debating whether to just visit Paris again since we’re pretty familiar with the city, or to branch out and visit London (or another big city in Europe - Amsterdam maybe?). I’d love to hear your thoughts on which European cities are best for visiting with a toddler in terms of ease, toddler-friendly attractions, playgrounds, parks, etc. and any recommendations of things to do with toddler in that respective city. Thanks! ",6.741515151515149,8.195767696969696,6.578484848484853,74.02106060606063,65.21212121212122,10.715151515151517,33.6060606060606,10.746095033038511,3.926660606060606,584,25,99,16,9,184,87,132,0.0,0.778,0.222,0.9881,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,1,0,1,3,6,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,0,1,21,12,9,0,1,7,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,9,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,7,6,23,8,5,22,0,0,0,1,14,11,0,4,7,64,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883594502880562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207531587939094,0.2344943929929845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346847265174149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24940532945092436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21081741796658054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34555025616968177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520460153929832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20183380709079216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246652808997482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784984489399374,0.0,0.0,0.16581799065301728,0.1724763886538924,0.0,0.2378318648417941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134790826145263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275109803357944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526369957857254,0.0,0.1849881313015666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588743929052947,0.0,0.0,0.1485690997420182,0.0,0.0,0.17753636154318547,0.1303998059510096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dunkdave24,2019/02/21,"Help with video game issue My son is obsessed with video games and TV in general.  We only let him play about 2 to 3 hours a week and he watches about 6 hours of TV a week.  He doesn't turn off the TV when asked.  He constantly is asking to play or watch and is always bugging us about it.  If a TV is on anywhere he will immediately be watching it no matter what is on.  Also,  when he watches, he won't play with his toys or games.  He's 100 percent focused on the TV.  Any advice? He's 9 years old, fyi. He also plays travel soccer and baseball and gets very good grades. ",0.7615000000000016,2.70192415,2.765000000000004,93.05,82.5,5.0,20.0,5.985473137389443,-0.09275000000000012,438,12,98,3,12,147,77,120,0.032,0.8,0.168,0.9286,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,7,6,0,1,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,14,12,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,0,0,17,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,4,5,5,14,10,1,15,0,0,4,0,20,5,0,3,9,50,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642100035214932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32148928245031955,0.16725331863326282,0.0,0.0,0.13669115616716804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758274565595843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21721636871641709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501747966927047,0.0,0.0,0.16859452231254246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473026552246375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959013719699663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097983224561852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20554252931829656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109222671136538,0.0,0.0,0.15287432576548135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186371009862139,0.0,0.0,0.2417857931512045,0.0,0.0,0.16585122354863538,0.0,0.0,0.3224702100191883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944144741131575
parenting,TheSilverHook,2019/02/21,"Explaining vaccines to young kids So I posted this reply on another subject when someone posted that while they trust vaccines, they wouldn't be able to explain them. It reminded me of how I explained it to my preschooler. 



Scientists take the virus break it down to it parts like its armour. Then they put the armour in a needle to get it into you. Your body checks out the virus's defences and builds weapons to counter them. Because the doctor isn't giving you the full active virus, you don't get sick. But because your body is building its own attack plan and that takes energy and supplies you may feel tired and sore. When your body is done making plans, it saves them in case the virus ever infects you. It uses these plans to fight the virus more quickly, but the plans are stored and it takes time to make the weapons so sometimes the virus will make you a bit sick before you get into the battle.

Then I explained that some viruses change their defences and weapons a lot so we have to get those vaccines more often so our bodies can make new defence plans. 


How have others explained it?",5.323173843700161,6.776707856459332,4.523425837320573,87.44864752791071,68.52153110047847,6.530271132376398,27.808931419457736,6.42735559955562,1.1669499840510371,878,29,163,5,15,260,117,209,0.112,0.823,0.065,-0.8487,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,10,7,5,11,12,9,0,14,0,13,10,4,7,1,35,32,19,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,3,6,0,0,1,18,10,0,3,6,0,2,1,3,9,0,0,1,1,24,3,17,27,8,22,0,0,0,0,27,8,0,4,11,115,42,1,0.12890711615536538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517035090741095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665045426224135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571611630714321,0.0,0.10969046139048537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073318419128694,0.5727469840779059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636663641874786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194189564722428,0.0,0.13191673542172686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660386663420567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517931115361833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693945909846629,0.1236594519599237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297750560356702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959222039319463,0.0,0.0,0.3441860040554719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449929605393575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395938448894947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469147681174701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295872561205315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922258119903792,0.0,0.12749243402408156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907663259808632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516677607376135,0.14815976701775235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113343597663297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmf337,2019/02/21,"My husband wants me to go back to work already, and I want to focus on raising the children. We have 3 kids age 3 years, 2 years, and 3 months old. My husband already wants me to go back to work because even with the cost of childcare we’d be bringing in a little more money ($700-$800 per month). I REALLY don’t want to send all my little children to childcare just so we can bring in an extra 7-800 a month. We are getting by okay on his income and as long as we’re frugal for the next couple years I think we’ll be fine. I’d ideally like to wait to return to work until my youngest is preschool age (around 3). The reason for this disagreement is because Baby #3 was a surprise (we’re not sure how as we were using protection, but we also have kids really easily...). I was expecting to go to work again sooner but this changed things. I feel so much guilt right now about “not contributing” to the household income, but I can’t send my little baby to daycare so soon. Any opinions on this? ",4.940254515599342,4.8110068965517225,5.7720320197044375,83.81039614121514,68.70443349753694,8.343021346469621,29.72454844006568,7.793537801064563,1.7998706075533657,772,26,160,8,12,254,115,203,0.035,0.91,0.055,-0.0351,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,0,5,14,7,0,1,9,1,15,0,0,3,2,31,29,15,0,6,6,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,10,0,2,3,0,2,7,4,1,0,0,3,1,21,6,30,22,4,35,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,1,19,101,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871045785552092,0.10402911375034056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846241918361503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580343695051308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000550288332792,0.0,0.1585975011347565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761292772016018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393683594139256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592006946633429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577500237733785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796416511941955,0.0,0.22179130701456706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355307393523249,0.3911387339432261,0.0,0.11512133757152153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31149837544193604,0.0,0.09562761397904944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834712097222648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650256923533222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667186243493556,0.1337492850844873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109207812158628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226037925112355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864228484623639,0.08335336462979978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123518743708478,0.0,0.0,0.3069105630225439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788143954306905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513118749240055
parenting,parenthelpthrowaway1,2019/02/21,"What should I do about dance class? I am on mobile.

I have default 100% custody of my child, but try to be reasonable.  She's 5 and was spending 2-3 nights a week at her dad's(he lives with his mom who watched her 2 days a week).  We recently had a disagreement, in which he continued to refuse any discussion, just wanted to bulldoze over me for his way.  I tried to remove the issue the best way I could find.  He told me if I dare do that, I will spend the rest of my life in court, then tried to get me on a guilt trip.  I decided that DD and I didn't need to be bullied, and put DD in daycare full time.  That was last week(the long story is my only other post).  He asked when he would get to see ""his"" daughter again, I let her go over for 12 hours on Saturday(his mom picked her up and dropped her off and he shortened the visit to just over 11 hours).  I haven't heard one word from him since.  

The issue I'm struggling with is her dance class.  His mom signed her up and was taking her during the day when she watched her.  I am 100% behind her taking ballet, but I work, and can't take her during the day.  They offer the class on Saturday too, but I don't have any of her dance stuff.  Do I ask him to bring her dance stuff over so I can take her? Do I let it go?  The classes aren't cheap, but his mom paid for them. So parents, what do I do? She's missed 2 classes so far",2.0918554142103645,3.0286961331058038,3.1761045609680423,96.0126085944772,75.72354948805459,6.4194228979211925,21.850605026372946,6.574015621080383,0.11855767918088755,1049,25,257,8,22,337,152,293,0.078,0.901,0.021,-0.9433,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,2,2,10,4,0,2,13,0,30,1,0,2,0,29,49,18,0,6,7,6,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,11,10,0,1,3,5,4,11,5,3,0,1,8,4,51,1,35,33,3,50,0,1,3,0,48,17,0,1,18,166,62,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428924637937523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19643886530399168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025681121528064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838840088700331,0.0,0.0,0.20327023013143145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960253952132496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097818383582939,0.0,0.11941909570121745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069311726024569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21931630425963872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564011481298141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486743731080887,0.07420888496142115,0.0,0.0,0.0927722800346347,0.09297717444671598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49219261055682706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790265332912594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859421734553242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119319773171062,0.0799049099881899,0.0,0.0,0.1166596838220105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062101493081188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056170218765005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802194340122244,0.10373673143592536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372136135172446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690894278742453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983433505712037,0.2405432878538156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159762704187175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126289938251611,0.0,0.0,0.10039190257858986,0.0,0.21399200987315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061968696593623425,0.16678774598125326,0.2528248577035495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648688955035099,0.0,0.0,0.07463352052137433,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Pebcak_,2019/02/21,"Am I Doing This Wrong? Long story short, my 3 year old son *knows* how and when to use the potty, but he just refuses to do so.  We ask him frequently to remind him and he says no.  If we take him anyway, most of the time he goes, but he also will pee in his pullup at some point in between going.  He used to be dry overnight and pee in the potty in the morning but now he wakes up, pees in the pullup (more often than not wetting his bed as well) and THEN comes to tell us he's awake.  When I ask him what happened, he doesn't even acknowledge that he's wet!  I show him the little designs are gone that go away when you wet them and he straight up tells me they are still there!  And the only reason we've managed to get most of his poops on the potty is b/c we watch him and we catch him trying to sneak off to poop...at least we get him most of the time, we aren't perfect and the daycare can't stare at him the entire time he's there.  He is less stealthy about pees; he will literally pee in front of you and you'd never know.

We started with the bare butt method but husband didn't like it b/c he didn't want our son to walk around naked, candy, rewards, toys, books, etc.  Literally any method of bribery we've tried.  We've tried taking away things (no Blippi, loss of dessert, no tv/devices), and it's done nothing.

I tried to ask my family and they all say, LOL he will just get it - cool but I'm really getting tired of spending $ on pullups that don't seem to matter, washing his sheets almost every day, and really just feeling like I'm failing my son b/c I can't motivate him to use the bathroom like a normal human.

I'm getting desperate T_T  Am I doing something wrong?  Should I just give it up and buy diapers?  Should I continue to push it?  Stop asking all together?",1.717332887700536,3.2690417593582914,3.1344351604278096,93.4069468582888,77.93048128342247,6.065374331550803,21.580548128342247,6.770275591412753,0.2894708556149732,1374,37,314,13,32,449,197,374,0.125,0.8290000000000001,0.046,-0.9822,0,0,3,0,0,0,51.0,9,3,3,5,21,11,0,0,14,2,24,11,8,6,4,62,53,27,0,5,11,4,4,3,0,5,2,2,1,1,11,23,1,2,7,3,2,8,12,4,1,0,4,9,41,7,42,42,10,47,0,2,2,1,59,21,1,8,21,184,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724097180830654,0.0,0.0,0.08564447102168178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282881515708559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533796590751883,0.4004804572910601,0.0,0.20124005532442654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225354712485016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906792993901541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959618428962514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194401243406192,0.0707357645788486,0.0,0.09023282887549898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096038713579844,0.0,0.05415085337145362,0.07650925953794928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797656713702354,0.1027360481809021,0.12173002013043245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470446054150716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771409964128478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696479195374285,0.10733812473897723,0.0,0.09477641118123188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259888171593971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493114351487938,0.10276130663511056,0.0,0.1123790246191754,0.0,0.0,0.08145118035158247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124014559459568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721662117295347,0.1101123171930466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703337542672193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974959923234884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244757757941662,0.0,0.0,0.07580295709100114,0.0,0.08552684267773605,0.0895368826165626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16104542382000853,0.0,0.18721289589819565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711496894850927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734526328370907,0.12309086544989754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29084406773921195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882305871700514,0.2774891518891039,0.0,0.0,0.06316787645647477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629198415069316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341848860128609,0.0,0.06896618268160222
parenting,benjywal12345,2019/02/21,"For all those UK drivers out there ... Parents are being warned about the rules over using specified ""parent and child"" parking spaces in order to avoid being slapped with a fine.

These bays are typically closer to the entrance of shops and are wider, with extra space to help families with cars full of shopping and children .

FULL RULES HERE

[https://www.derbytelegraph.co.uk/burton/child-parent-parking-rules-fines-2564364](https://www.derbytelegraph.co.uk/burton/child-parent-parking-rules-fines-2564364)",13.22671232876712,16.324133315068494,7.561534246575345,66.85435616438359,51.465753424657535,8.579726027397259,35.14794520547945,8.841846274778883,3.4063939726027392,424,15,48,5,5,108,51,73,0.065,0.866,0.068,0.0516,4,1,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,1,10,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,7,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,13,4,4,10,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,0,32,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20185523195319355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352151054294213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9510288798411553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493272034086428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeggaJames,2019/02/21,"Claiming Children on Taxes I have a decent paying full-time job with insurance and work overtime and my girlfriend works a low-wage job with only a couple shifts a week, she and our kids are on Medicaid and receive WIC. We are not married but live together. My question is: which one of us should claim the kids on our taxes in order to get the largest return?",9.480380952380958,6.954560942857146,8.849999999999998,73.1716666666667,61.0,11.047619047619047,39.04761904761904,8.841846274778883,3.464619047619048,286,11,52,3,3,91,54,70,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,6,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,7,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,0,8,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,2,35,9,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102558974938042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649678040115055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5565050111875371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24759724447666165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190005458282074,0.2132558941727577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31411078632940226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372851867607202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249189739263817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082672773416275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tincanman44,2019/02/21,"Youtube: Ryan Toysreview illegally targets kids with undisclosed ads Careful letting your kids watch Ryan Toysreview on Youtube. This family spends the entire 10-30 minute video promoting Ryan’s toys and it’s all undisclosed. The amount of merchandise they advertise throughout one video is unfathomable  and there are regulations to protect our kids. With 12 million subscribers they should be held accountable. These videos go over parents heads because they’re disguised as challenges/games, but ultimately the videos are just ads for Ryan’s World Toys. Please beware.",9.70692307692308,12.679395076923079,6.466813186813191,71.85318681318685,59.769230769230774,10.035164835164835,40.47252747252747,10.290406445055957,4.8650835164835184,476,25,65,11,7,131,70,91,0.017,0.895,0.087,0.6428,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,2,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,6,1,1,0,1,9,9,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,2,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,1,8,5,2,4,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,0,32,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220848896180494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3693792600356152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34153519403807897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589801220544676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37181452337092064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37046653192436585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24549738564732898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022806714859924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976861212540735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,apes_bish,2019/02/21,"Wanting to become a foster mom I was wondering the best way to go about becoming a foster mom, end goal doing foster to adopt. I was adopted through foster to adopt and I think things have changed quite a bit since, so I didn’t ask my mom about her process fully. If anyone has any helpful foster to adopt stories I am interested. We have three sons ages 7,5, and 3, and I wanted to adopt a girl but have her somewhere in the same age group (almost exactly how I was raised with 2 brothers) it’s just important for me to do this. I know this is a rambling, wild post but any advice is welcome. ",2.782,4.469013200000003,3.938333333333337,88.20000000000002,75.33333333333334,6.466666666666668,25.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,1.0782333333333334,464,16,95,5,10,151,81,120,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9178,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,1,18,20,8,0,3,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,13,3,13,16,3,7,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,3,3,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664934021516664,0.0,0.0,0.1706109976568403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317285381248952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11913368476291103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928233679807774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37634273386778855,0.0,0.0,0.1788033392587261,0.0,0.18601087448371112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802394896158685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509061430296189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683090254144676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420214864712094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363641358069412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5986411271739661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317697991557598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122014391054447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094012887326662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319292711860547,0.10917264931090886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20098912272759606,0.13523974437577038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18476988430896704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jumpiejellybean,2019/02/21,"I have been promoted from Stay-at-Home Mom to Chief Toddler Officer (CTO). Description of duties: A minimum of defusing 10 tantrums a day. Additional tantrums likely. Non defusable public tantrums are a certainty. (Just....just hide your face and keep moving.) Navigating a minefield of sassiness and stubbornness that is almost certainly the product of your own personality. The CTO also shall serve 3-4 items of food per meal, none of which will be eaten. (but somehow end over the table and floor) Toast will suffice. 

The CTO will also have to sacrifice any item said toddler may deem important for her entertainment ex. Cellphone (even though You are on the phone), tv (even though You’re trying to watch something since she has the phone) and privacy (the CTO pooping schedule would be shared with toddler even though said toddler wants to use CTO as a jungle gym.) Toddler also demands CTO stays through all her poopies and chase her when it is time to wipe her butt. 

Work: 24/7.....seriously...it’s like...forever. Maybe you’ll get to retire in thirty years. Probably not though. 

Benefits: Hugs and kisses and daily “I love you’s”. Warm cuddles in the morning and endless laughs (ok maybe not totally endless but you’ll laugh later). Naps are authorized provided the toddler is napping also (she won’t be). 

Sick days: Ha...yea sure...you can have them if you can find them. 

Salary: Lmfaoooooo

Uniform: Dirty yoga pants even though you haven’t done yoga in at least four years. You can start the day with a fresh shirt but stains by midday are required.",3.6432459677419367,6.664372405017923,3.755115367383514,83.66933971774196,79.43010752688173,6.784991039426522,27.35674283154122,7.972316293177498,2.133993637992832,1227,52,210,23,32,377,178,279,0.071,0.836,0.093,0.6425,1,0,1,0,0,0,69.0,0,9,2,3,15,16,4,0,16,1,29,12,4,1,3,31,38,23,0,3,6,2,1,1,0,9,1,2,0,1,3,11,3,4,1,7,0,1,5,4,0,1,5,4,19,12,25,21,7,20,1,0,1,5,28,7,1,4,12,127,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382270209912895,0.0,0.0,0.3636030128098223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729855849008073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199205662208425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163224616977315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067665741886717,0.0,0.0,0.3003082021227552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038910580916029,0.0,0.13744854476883706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938716170319264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103389094185576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106549081843096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259036617787856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283908109070455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312731226479102,0.0,0.12081175263971106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925105333162727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255399608851893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21624977222211025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402785589954313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875076559208304,0.0,0.0,0.08045523327245505,0.2423112466076612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071313277886346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5583942030857427,0.0,0.06628108558652207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717353060440803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817319052171868,0.0,0.0,0.06704469628447549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275210810509734,0.0,0.0,0.08074692531957496,0.0,0.0,0.14639772717304095
parenting,KC_Buddyl33,2019/02/21,"Need Advice: Son is nearly 10 and still constantly wets the bed So I am the single father of a nearly 10 year old boy. He's still wetting the bed on a frequent basis (multiple times a week) and I am at odds on what to do. Mom and I get along well enough, and co-parent well (by well I mean we don't argue over shit, she does things her way and I do them mine, but we support each other's decisions). I feel badly for him and I know it bugs him some, but I honestly think it bugs me more than it does him.   


I hate making him wear a pull-up at his age and I know it makes him feel like a baby sometimes, but he will still do it if I ask him. Otherwise I make sure the plastic sheet is in place with additional countermeasures in place under it even so the mattress isn't ruined. The act of going and laying in it doesn't wake him up at all, because he sleeps so soundly. If he's wet the bed I usually don't find out until I get him up in the morning and he's literally laying in cold pee.   


There are so many articles out there on this and like any parenting issue there's like a million ways to go about this. One thing he refuses to do is wear the bed wetting alarm. So anyhow, I just wanted to reach out and see if anyone has dealt with a bed wetter of this more advanced age and what was their success story. I'm just looking for help as I don't want any kids to ever find out as I know how mean kids can me. Thanks.",2.442375558867361,3.21321694098361,4.170260804769004,89.85652384500747,74.672131147541,7.1192250372578245,22.38822652757079,7.348242739294969,0.5867377049180322,1097,26,254,12,22,371,160,305,0.044,0.8,0.156,0.9843,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,2,2,20,17,3,1,16,0,19,6,6,4,3,55,44,27,0,6,8,4,6,3,0,1,0,1,6,3,15,23,0,1,11,0,0,4,5,6,3,2,1,10,35,11,40,42,7,43,0,1,2,0,32,23,1,5,17,171,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328663783547695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576743981169032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106179839755713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838003289760814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679771889203644,0.07067059030559315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528045397690035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029043683144932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197879315233512,0.0,0.07657147161636756,0.10486641770662587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723660743957524,0.0828212804368438,0.0,0.0,0.2119180535096756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113854592286752,0.0,0.13177275790787787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445806973534425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770624713425142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210020646059926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19113828541744765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991440162433735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973530193762668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321549510657534,0.11753605202150502,0.0,0.2525661507657159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357772333941103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596152413684366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216503044129862,0.0,0.07855798902430261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128727890490387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422468819818749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238216565230847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900172230819073,0.0,0.0,0.11601493532222915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465893221830598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777484450275125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155736460911088,0.10926379455514207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673388341244948,0.0,0.0,0.15403909073035485,0.07428403903211778,0.0,0.0,0.06760042153781504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768185048541078,0.0,0.13675846406555947,0.18404159857462604,0.09299302475213728,0.0,0.3127082449102383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465589905099579
parenting,Kappa_154,2019/02/21,"Single parent, anxiety and panic attack’s. Tomorrow is my sons birthday Since Xmas, it’s been one thing after another. My dog was run over Boxing Day, left with a £800 vet bill to pay. My dryer packed in a couple weeks ago, I’ve barely recovered financially since Xmas and tomorrow is my sons 6th birthday. This morning I kept my youngest son (4) off nursery to go shopping and get last minute presents for his brother. He asked for sweets the whole time I was driving and I kept telling him no. He asked for sweets the whole way round the shops and I kept telling him ‘not today.’ We got back to the car when he realised I was serious and bawled, screaming, ‘I want a sweetie’ for the half hour journey home. I eventually ignored his cries, I even turned the music up full to drown him out. I felt so emotionally and mentally drained that I started quietly crying too. But it was ok, because tomorrow is pay day and I managed to scrape enough funds together to give my son a decent birthday. 
Been feeling very off all day. Texted the kids dad to ask if he wanted to have the kids tomorrow night after I treated them to a macdonalds dinner and cinema after school. He said no. We’ve been split up 3 and a half years and I already knew the answer would be 50/50. My son really wants to see him and his family tomorrow. ‘Are daddy and granny gran coming to my birthday?’ He’s been asking all week. ‘I don’t know son, I’ll ask.’ I told him. I don’t have the heart to tell him he’s not gonna see his dad or his grandparents tomorrow. I’m having anxiety attacks thinking about how I’m going to tell my 6 year old this. Everything is getting on top of me right now. I just needed this little rant. Tomorrow is a new day, or so the saying goes. ",2.613143069629082,4.583956314121043,3.976060239843825,86.49314492888351,76.63688760806917,7.2439899600260285,25.31458585107372,8.155646560271837,1.584313451705866,1359,49,274,24,31,447,198,347,0.11,0.851,0.039,-0.9633,2,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,1,0,1,1,10,10,2,1,18,1,21,3,1,1,2,42,53,21,1,6,7,10,3,0,0,2,1,4,1,2,7,17,1,4,6,3,6,7,6,6,0,3,16,11,38,4,31,34,7,51,0,0,3,0,44,13,0,3,30,155,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428839130966928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493025031344147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997064224136406,0.14548173170247902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444649254026733,0.21634910380367506,0.0,0.07311560253610544,0.0,0.05796381087651719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190854798425913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052113365844548,0.20889597745459845,0.2452915483424011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695944600084273,0.0,0.09824971007153444,0.0,0.06280369641905288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545756049230957,0.0,0.08963903255698641,0.0,0.04807856077080345,0.0,0.09129789333538252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935748004037352,0.0912155770091994,0.10807962951803464,0.0,0.07604931187178238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267788847094885,0.0,0.0,0.0953794515575298,0.0,0.09364098906996668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05225702034981613,0.07750813910052592,0.0,0.0,0.1033116945893018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095301592347712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958247663107593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050538995329186,0.0,0.09183507565988004,0.0,0.0892321820120523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977722285287048,0.0,0.06443303217015588,0.0,0.0,0.11156344907702699,0.10558223819346348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091480788468934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120329967428128,0.09044897841168656,0.07561655307331465,0.0,0.09623255306015767,0.151543162582291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731297047785547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06730267118980532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324389564381071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317120519352948,0.060927550922985824,0.0,0.0,0.05544566745865478,0.0,0.09013082635254728,0.09085916765315112,0.0,0.0,0.1034267412707648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784562707336944,0.16825333662661546,0.07547518965854197,0.1525452122660864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123212276371436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675466783617131,0.0,0.0,0.1224650988394474
parenting,uppercutter,2019/02/21,"Math Help My daughter is in 4th grade and her teacher has informed us that she's falling behind in math. I do homework with her and, while I think she grasps the fundamentals, she needs a lot of help in working through the problems. Right now the focus is on fractions: adding fractions, improper fractions, etc.  She can't work through these on her own. She has a lot of anxiety about math which is really complicating matters.

Can anyone suggest a good technique or program that we might try with her?",6.628709677419355,7.643245150537634,5.934569892473121,80.12185483870971,65.23655913978493,8.350537634408601,37.00537634408602,8.344100000000001,3.0497182795698925,401,20,71,5,6,122,64,93,0.063,0.8340000000000001,0.102,0.5688,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,15,11,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,14,1,13,10,4,9,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,4,2,55,18,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919790409139275,0.0,0.0,0.17547279664342286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27987992686495905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104882186487441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33641820859782395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4267040505090821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662224220865635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607913150465732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401289831120972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607674896127118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431325305360135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16080112127548984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038121999902098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018666336064265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3653948452536399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Monkey_Mugger,2019/02/21,"Going crazy trying to potty train My daughter is turning three next week. She has no intrest in telling me she needs to use the restroom. When we are in public, she will say that she needs to go but that mostly only if she is bored. I can get her to use the restroom on command about every 45 minutes. 

I have been working on this for over a year now and I think I might lose my mind. The pooping especially. It's just disgusting. 

Any suggestions? ",1.5424719101123578,3.9977920674157295,2.7304382022471927,91.33857865168541,83.38202247191012,4.908314606741573,23.50674157303371,6.2581,0.5879114606741567,350,13,70,3,10,112,69,89,0.157,0.843,0.0,-0.9259,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,4,3,1,0,4,0,9,1,1,2,0,13,18,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,1,14,0,11,15,1,12,0,1,0,0,12,5,0,3,5,51,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159995478439106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19822984344466388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292179227458885,0.0,0.2674250949869488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26321321933685343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495902351974022,0.23756129017026115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489077579083435,0.0,0.0,0.2502182736454496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17893769851497401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710060330880884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20564124779866189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075510681855947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973669099497792,0.2559122957014722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406405161861628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872389765758446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128344158990594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515097749491288
parenting,DragonRider87,2019/02/21,"My daughter (6) is drama incarnate She is also manipulative, a liar and sneaky. She doesn't show remorse for doing something she knows is wrong, she's only sorry she got caught. Unless the punishment is severe enough, she doesn't seem to learn from her mistakes. She takes things without asking permission ( my phone, the computer, my jewelry) and only gives me a slight smile when I demand she hand them back, although she does return it without a fuss. She throws ridiculous tantrums ( it's not fair mommy has a jewelry box and lots of jewelry and she doesn't, and all her friends think her necklaces are ugly; so cue 20 minute tantrum)
On the other hand, she can be very sweet and loving and loves cheering people up and playing with her siblings. But this girl drives me batshit. Thanks for letting me vent. Now I have to figure out how to fix whatever it is she just broke.",4.8377532833020584,6.7715240792682945,4.799512195121952,83.12184803001878,70.40243902439025,7.241275797373358,28.46904315196998,7.882392219407189,1.8799630393996247,695,26,124,9,13,215,112,164,0.16699999999999998,0.6629999999999999,0.17,0.5437,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,1,0,7,15,5,0,7,0,15,4,2,2,1,26,26,15,0,1,6,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,10,0,0,5,3,0,3,6,8,0,0,2,3,26,7,14,22,3,10,0,1,0,2,26,3,0,2,4,89,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567529338333298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18324734181437904,0.0,0.0,0.15072325220892907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153383857746166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253564652296213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514405183832915,0.0,0.0,0.18803522014540547,0.0,0.0,0.15677091094073764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772458660903507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043837388666366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664474054548334,0.3538219500910286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981561175400557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358919549598769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784444769333635,0.0,0.2214408869417851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509017397019453,0.0,0.21942247736633289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737870619708476,0.0,0.0,0.1804640568372521,0.0,0.0,0.1302234976183719,0.12559834434384615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617327064401502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779024702764599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431137062336791,0.0,0.0
parenting,overwhelmedstepmom87,2019/02/21,"My step son got out this morning, my soon to be husband arrested, and I look like I've been battered PLEASE HELP This account is a throwaway.   


I'm so completely overwhelmed. Last night my husband tried to kill himself several times. At one point he had a dog leash around his neck hanging from our garage ceiling, which is about 50ft tall. I managed to get a ladder under him, he kicked me in the face in the process, my eye is all black and blue. Then he tried to throw an electric heater in the bath tub with him. I managed to shut off all the breakers in the house before he could get it in the water. He then tried to wrap a hose around his neck, I managed to cut it with some tube cutters. Comes to find out, he's been coming down off of methamphetamine and had quite a bit to drink. I had our step son go upstairs to sleep with his grandfather, so that maybe I could do some damage control downstairs.  


My step son managed to leave the house this morning around 11:00am, I did not hear him come downstairs, I was asleep, I had been up all night and completely lost all track of time, I'm taking full responsibility. The cousin who lives upstairs as well came down and told my husband that the police were on the phone and had my stepson. He managed to make it down to the highway (we live in the country) took the dog, had no shoes, or coat, there's about 5 inches of snow on the ground.  


He left to go meet with the police, I stayed in the bedroom because I was afraid if the police saw my face they would press assault charges on my husband. They came back, and did an investigation on our house. Now we're in the process of converting a barn into our home, so some areas are a little construction zone-ish. Let alone, the house is trashed from the night prior. I hear my husband lying to the police that he wasn't asleep, he was outside working. When the officer can tell he had sleep lines on his face when he met up with them. Then he told them that he was doing drugs, but he snorted it, but he smoked it. She knew he was lying. They went outside, and they arrested him for child endangerment. I have no idea where my stepson is. We're not married yet, I guess I should have clarified that earlier, we're set to marry next month. I have no idea where my step son is. Or who to call to get a hold of him. Or if they'll even let me have him. I'm so completely overwhelmed and stressed out, I have no clue as to what to do next. Please someone help me.",4.53326612903226,5.0273436975806485,4.586451612903228,89.78717741935488,69.68548387096774,7.409677419354839,28.201612903225808,7.04035,1.1868217741935478,1918,63,419,15,32,594,229,496,0.084,0.88,0.036000000000000004,-0.9673,0,1,5,0,0,0,59.0,5,0,7,4,20,11,3,4,32,0,43,14,11,2,4,55,71,27,1,6,9,10,1,1,0,3,1,2,3,1,17,27,2,2,4,2,1,15,7,9,1,1,30,9,56,2,66,33,9,76,0,4,5,0,65,40,0,9,20,262,73,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735982012787663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252646912065528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485894760001047,0.0,0.05141818766357659,0.0,0.07177453536808932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208693972252294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861294585420999,0.1929448955069853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21797682180409947,0.26531403713216256,0.0,0.09460424495865648,0.13469115483073105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826296189996935,0.09781771884318798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571152413219636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770931882522989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220615097356472,0.0,0.09587462572133162,0.0,0.06746136477878392,0.0,0.09291960810004173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013424159454367,0.0,0.11307431791651468,0.0,0.08460862847478731,0.0,0.0,0.3893083227234044,0.0,0.19043884194087127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331934476754264,0.0,0.0,0.0687554524359269,0.0,0.08931309958947319,0.0916451147691346,0.17250453129721252,0.0,0.04120851663888934,0.08453956159665747,0.14896290368650794,0.0,0.0708316684247156,0.0,0.0920765754789694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056303415557115224,0.0,0.08473961139575299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732633158687541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941160933730607,0.23746663707638946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05715686546069638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18517909726956447,0.07973679012337888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897152304407805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529002773074607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168819241225553,0.0,0.07146838401341933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990449656361485,0.0,0.0,0.09662115657784956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634197288242151,0.0,0.07372448597812599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836881638423678,0.0,0.0,0.16119760459845053,0.0937145148316822,0.17180170167487369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583961565536715,0.0781920945762746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061406861818615925,0.0,0.0,0.0599188999400465,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justnostuff,2019/02/21,"Divorced parents: how did your children cope with it? My question is how did your child/ren deal with the divorce just after it happened and many months/years later. 

Did it get better, or worse? Do you think they were like affected by it a lot or just a little? 


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parenting,granite603,2019/02/21,"How do you reconcile a bad day in your mind at the end of the night? Howdy folks.  Just wondering how other people handle a bad day when they're running mental movies in their mind as they try to go to sleep.  

Yesterday I had a crummy day at work, I've been under the weather for a while, I have a huge cut in my mouth that is a massive pain and makes it hard to talk/eat/drink/breath, and it's been raining for about two weeks straight.  By the time I picked the kids up from daycare I was running on fumes.  I'm usually super happy-go-lucky and playful and loud and sing & dance a lot with the kids and am generally a big goofball.  But every now and then I'll have a day like yesterday when I just don't have the steam to do all that stuff so I feel like this stoic shadow of my normal self.  I know we're all entitled to ""bad days"" and all but for some reason this type of thing REALLY weighs on me.

I've conditioned myself into this ""treasure every moment"" mentality so much so that when I have a day like that and I'm just trying to survive the day ... at the end of the night when it's just me and the kids are asleep, I absolutely beat myself to hell and feel genuine sadness in the depths of my stomach for having missed that time with the kids.  I missed a chance to crack a joke.  I missed a chance to do some crayons.  I missed a chance to wrestle on the ground.  I missed a chance to snuggle on the couch.  I missed an infinite opportunity of memory making moments all because I had a bad day?  

I know on my deathbed I'd gladly live a lifetime of ""bad days"" to have just one more standard, run-of-the-mill evening with my kids.  Even typing this out right now is making my hands shake and my jaw hurt from sadness.  Sigh.

What do you all do?  How do you handle bad days?  How do you handle missed opportunities?  How do you handle the retrospective breakdown of your day when laying in bed at the end of the night saying to yourself: ""C'mon man.  You're better than that.  Try harder.  Do better.  Be better.  Time flies.  You've got to cherish every single moment!""

Well, thanks for listening.  Hope y'all have a great day!",2.243793859649124,4.0543754212962995,3.4297953216374286,90.72105263157896,77.19444444444444,6.121442495126708,21.0906432748538,6.950104931194217,0.3610777777777776,1650,42,355,17,38,534,201,432,0.14300000000000002,0.6970000000000001,0.16,0.7502,0,0,1,0,1,0,57.0,0,8,2,9,24,40,3,1,37,0,27,8,6,10,5,54,49,30,0,2,7,0,4,3,0,0,1,3,2,7,17,17,1,0,7,4,0,5,1,21,2,3,6,7,37,18,55,42,11,67,1,10,0,0,19,24,1,5,41,226,54,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369423015009178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869748770340403,0.04708744397846178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049490736609816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5977946515060275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567006408446153,0.0,0.07904026280911826,0.0,0.0,0.20524672284196632,0.0,0.0,0.10203834054570578,0.0,0.19524511064563435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811413717028214,0.05518338513843864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779949805207063,0.0,0.06177936988980609,0.08516217793026891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919577286757936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672107711749666,0.0,0.0,0.08269168336791348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08490295862172803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321307538288132,0.0,0.06820818372772201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567039130264392,0.0,0.0,0.15468362731032728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568829057908165,0.0,0.1559895643643253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678349133895225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746579329572616,0.07568307078865726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052342776411614375,0.0,0.08219344356412732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355151220425513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049484714002665964,0.07942006555606351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596626009329619,0.0,0.061427814231699934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058271227226971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730014344054491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842630991864239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06208608938887504,0.0,0.07111622718948228,0.0,0.0,0.05131771946359928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512541985221008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733154688278853,0.0,0.0754565141991288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507374787447168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06196076507171072,0.0,0.0694519549558113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376821175720542,0.05623481295560102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gonchar17,2019/02/21,"My 4 month old son scratches everyone's face but mine. Any reason for this? He loves to scratch everyone's face because I think he finds it funny but he will never scratch my face... ever. My wife and I are trying to see if there is any reason for this. His victims have been my wife, all his grandparents, and all of his uncles and aunts for a total of 11 people but never with his dad. 

I'm not complaining about this just curious what the reason might be. He is closest to his mom and second closest to me.",3.1615776699029112,4.564269854368932,4.3244538834951465,86.99017597087378,73.75728155339806,7.0917475728155335,24.52548543689321,7.6454224807358475,1.15653495145631,397,12,81,5,8,130,65,103,0.027000000000000003,0.845,0.128,0.8954,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,2,0,8,4,3,3,6,23,12,8,0,1,6,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,4,13,1,11,8,3,7,0,0,1,1,17,2,0,2,5,57,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644139742399496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851189456090848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585699771980307,0.0,0.3715384455912141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768926157606998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754646332978224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20624065962322335,0.0,0.2276932610608339,0.1551779919277212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29988540298478633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20400293796262828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478096561858038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5996644735806347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492138140847345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457151076939575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319931466500663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,krumblies,2019/02/21,"My daughter is addicted to her jacket So for context my daughter is currently 13 years old, she has always had a certain jacket for each year that she says is the ""Jacket of the Year"" it's kind of a game for her. She'll choose a jacket and wear that jacket every day (unless I wash it) until the next school year starts. 

Not this year though. I got her this bright pink Gap jacket three years ago and it was year Jacket last year. She loved the thing, but this year she decided to wear it again. It's old and smells really bad and I would rather not have to look at it to be honest. 

I ask her why she wears it but she only ever responds with ""it's comfortable"" but when I buy her jackets of the same brand and size, but different colors she will always go back to her pink one. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like she'll end up getting herself made fun of if she doesn't stop wearing it and I'm worried. 

More context, the jacket is three years old, but she didn't wear it the first year we had it. It's cleaned every Sunday night when she's at my house (I don't know if she washes it at her dad's), but even after the first day it has some new stain somewhere. It has writing on it (something about some club, idk) and the cuffs of jacket is permanently stained a purple color and there are holes right next to her pocket. 

She sometimes will sleep in her jacket.",4.220895931142412,4.4976093133802815,4.731643192488264,89.24097809076683,70.30281690140845,7.297026604068859,24.22848200312989,6.691623216298621,0.6302275430359936,1071,24,235,7,18,341,143,284,0.028,0.883,0.08900000000000001,0.9445,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,2,11,9,0,0,13,0,24,10,6,1,2,37,36,22,0,4,12,3,1,1,0,5,3,1,1,0,23,11,0,1,5,2,1,1,6,1,0,5,6,10,36,8,26,24,5,44,0,0,7,1,34,7,0,4,37,158,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631175708921448,0.0,0.0,0.08644605344815416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228976315806734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671414740080574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116851822697364,0.0,0.0,0.07498725727851321,0.08142555748691653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578533039314982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188818311329144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086374231618657,0.0,0.0,0.06441138112883027,0.08821288994363229,0.16433048163503405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493093030905481,0.06966867616861858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659018023079325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095044463767534,0.0,0.05542315664589579,0.0,0.07799606537287512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252558219400427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155261062949487,0.10718945050463344,0.07949223649001354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047643598202105085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189267233237732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801607321172647,0.09227627025643023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418592211284214,0.20742835038116625,0.0915163981142964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069941307086553,0.0,0.06608242554237671,0.07416874691685515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062474139752383875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328198788394865,0.0,0.07755222856876462,0.0,0.0986959686385236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759094422418506,0.0,0.0,0.07507605769492973,0.09645028399009334,0.0,0.06902552321235285,0.0,0.0,0.08153151811731821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478829760175656,0.0,0.09581341190377003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799709741061883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903681783140894,0.0,0.0692757766185067,0.0,0.0,0.6908001651737112
parenting,Ba8ou,2019/02/21,"Soon to be parents... Any advice on stuff we should be getting and about what time to start purchasing anything we could need? My girlfriend and I are parents to be, September 7 is our due date. So we just finished the first trimester. I'm sure there is more things than I can possibly begin to think of or count that we aren't thinking of. I just wanted to throw it out into the Reddit universe and see from people that have had kids what are some things to start thinking about, things we should look into buying, and things that are worth their weight in gold and should invest in high quality product and if their is products where the most expensive version isn't any different from a more affordable version (sorry for the poor grammar, my mind started up in safe mode today since I'm a bit under the weather). 

Hopefully that all made sense (refer to the previous parentheses). Thank you all in advance!!!",8.039298245614034,7.571163573099415,7.0702923976608165,78.21315789473687,62.39181286549707,9.939181286549706,35.37426900584796,9.150863307647796,3.0520339181286538,725,28,131,10,9,221,110,171,0.018000000000000002,0.905,0.077,0.8433,5,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,1,2,2,8,4,0,0,8,0,18,1,0,1,3,37,35,9,0,8,4,2,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,12,14,1,1,4,0,6,2,2,0,0,1,2,3,14,4,25,26,9,25,0,0,2,0,13,12,0,5,11,98,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848683367526727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206666669391618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504447342091599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16589345538205394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132220460142044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875867251631953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292512492502988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938923541113149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054681781604718,0.0,0.1509237378208179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760235339407214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378171955798605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534293378001599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267131570730347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374519224830985,0.0,0.0,0.10534516317394274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130431540500965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108696601709472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256971940252109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009908120765496,0.3226596088013273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17394997197686668,0.0,0.0,0.1432140206367494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989802060147816,0.0,0.0,0.4038036132378666,0.292096277881633,0.0,0.0,0.08860508830565768,0.0,0.1440337936951423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962588922834301,0.0,0.0,0.18503796805110875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bitmetamorphosis,2019/02/21,"Need advise: How can I stop my daughter picking up my bad pronunciation? Hello,

My wife mentioned that the way I talk is wrong, I pronounce certain words incorrectly. For example, sometimes I do not pronounce the -SH- sound of a word or say -F- instead of -TH-. I might say these things like bath with a ending -F- sound rather than a -TH-. I think this is partly due to a lazy accent and always hating English at school.

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Anyway... this might sound trivial and despite my SO pointing it out to me like I am going to ruin my daughter's education and she will never speak or write correctly, I don't want her to pick up my bad habits. She is only two but has already started to say certain words like I do.

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So how do you fix a problem with bad speech and pronunciation? 

Do I need to go back to school? 

Take an online course?

Find elocution lessons?",3.456127744510976,5.659607586826347,4.2262514970059915,84.59215169660682,74.92814371257485,6.129980039920159,27.300998003992014,7.03164865440522,1.3881699800399208,685,27,128,7,15,219,106,167,0.151,0.785,0.064,-0.9151,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,1,0,1,8,12,1,0,8,0,14,0,0,4,4,34,23,11,0,5,5,3,0,3,0,3,0,8,1,0,6,7,0,1,3,1,0,2,3,7,0,1,0,8,21,5,17,20,1,14,0,1,0,0,16,5,0,4,9,85,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432643274158531,0.0,0.10802420560392946,0.2813291183579996,0.3155014338962349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998268620312075,0.3251935670698157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498578312875445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865704504904588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475642665866426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817460439908668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902767647599231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27544610206375536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19252612551057435,0.10012849244770912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873721928509567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14058704999195326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12272591278457015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422430814120895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097244479602428,0.0,0.2627782159766339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839953803069315,0.0,0.09189029753093644,0.0,0.0,0.10853891588624047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761170591967007,0.10434784308753818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862494866548558,0.08318616012067742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268194627989269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657372726257375,0.10304847506524856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194247611696975,0.3155014338962349,0.0
parenting,butt_snuggles,2019/02/21,"RSV My two month old was diagnosed three days ago with RSV. She’s my husband’s first child, but my third. My next oldest had RSV at two weeks old and was hospitalized. The doctor opted not to hospitalize my youngest, but told us to bring her back in if she got worse. Last night I was dying to get out of the house and asked my husband to take us to Target (I can’t drive currently due to my arthritis) and he initially said no, it was too cold and wet for the baby to be out. I eventually wore him down and we went out for about two hours total including drive time (we live pretty far from town). She was bundled up to and from the car and my husband carried her in the store, so that we wouldn’t get her RSV germs everywhere (not that she can sit in a cart anyway.) 

Of course, this morning her cough is worse. Still no fever or anything, but I want to take her back in to have her lungs checked. My husband is furious with me and told me it’s my fault that she’s sicker today because I wanted to take her out. Based on everything I know to be true, that’s not possible. She was outside for maybe 5 minutes total? Is there any science to back up what he’s saying? I feel like crap and don’t want him angry at me on top of having (now) two sick kids. ",3.3426436781609183,4.033541904214562,4.306379310344827,90.01405172413793,72.48659003831419,7.485823754789273,24.461685823754788,7.594959193182576,0.8880973180076634,971,26,221,11,18,315,145,261,0.125,0.816,0.058,-0.9713,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,0,2,10,5,2,0,6,0,18,8,2,0,3,35,36,15,1,5,8,4,2,1,0,1,6,2,0,2,8,18,0,0,2,0,2,5,8,3,0,7,13,5,40,2,39,20,2,45,0,0,0,0,33,18,1,2,22,148,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393251311825184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973207408484384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964844040700559,0.0,0.10961024637497596,0.0,0.0,0.2704674345419945,0.0,0.07147276677964551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561470408253107,0.0,0.0,0.11900337654334935,0.12168401780327595,0.0,0.0,0.12000741343167833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537416705806643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059283675609134175,0.08376137846673205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973035527325734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251358030732692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937732465993965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546481281348085,0.1352874547885678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644359604998769,0.09557206584049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057281029007423566,0.0,0.10353137049155964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779050871870335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358554656033767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469366088538435,0.11002849601750514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460622954579767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217853084034506,0.0,0.11928248995803865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152887709967108,0.09323962970625234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363371547258496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26446576747155964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836774876062678,0.0,0.11113657701485148,0.22406932881969188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4581336667011433,0.0,0.28206774033893184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746619842214625,0.0,0.09404858147501964,0.0,0.0,0.10868927112382244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23896969965889506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hmstaab,2019/02/21,"To hold back or not and when? So my son is only 3.5 but I realized the other day that he could potentially be going to kindergarten in a year in a half and registration will be around this time next year. He’s currently in daycare full-time and it’s pricey. He’s an August baby and if we want to we could chose for him to start kindergarten at barely 5 years old.  My husband thinks he’d be ready for this.  I think he has the intelligence, no doubt; but, his maturity? It’s hard to say now how he will be behaviorally in a year and a half.  He still is quite impulsive and challenging, yet he’s 3 so it’s hard to expect anything different. 

Those that have been in this situation, did you:

A) pay for another year of daycare and have the child enter kindergarten at 6 years-old?
B) send them to kindergarten at 5 and hold them back and repeat it again?
C) send them at 5 and move up through the grades as usual? 

I want to save money on daycare but I won’t do it at the sake of my son’s development. Also noting that our public school where our son will be going is ranked very well and best in our county so I’m not too concerned over quality of education. ",2.410084033613444,4.046421647058826,4.024109243697481,87.40692016806726,76.22689075630252,7.281008403361344,22.824369747899162,8.07648339933343,1.0444278991596638,904,26,197,15,20,302,131,238,0.046,0.84,0.114,0.9601,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,5,1,3,4,16,5,0,1,11,0,21,0,0,1,0,34,29,23,0,6,7,4,2,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,13,14,0,2,3,0,2,6,4,1,1,2,2,3,19,4,31,15,1,43,0,0,0,0,28,16,0,3,21,131,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040688644456612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788067518778678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390227957599692,0.1340348944647743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23155059454992416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580088231787233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24042802215978776,0.0,0.0,0.09710205805372923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730852303258122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17113927537749782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697535792453013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16002691362590096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16012773236550806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31598556905434305,0.0,0.0,0.11451157215841815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014455767042715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973544096347767,0.0,0.15237995792439202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924152352100968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657077961644304,0.0,0.1202415136833922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19295212172698065,0.0,0.0,0.08779574276864564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582622780201264,0.12423200729000253,0.17761443877710778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537614118977134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847950619343915
parenting,Dadhelp911,2019/02/21,"We need to foster my kid brother (13) who doesn't respect adults or get along with our family. Any advice on reversing years of my mom's bad parenting is appreciated. I'm a step dad of two boys, 12 & 8. My half brother is 13.

I grew up with my father and experienced abuse, but somehow my mother was even worse with my three half siblings. The two in adulthood already are actual narcissists, and one is in prison for CSA to his girlfriend's daughter.

What my mom does is get super upset and verbally abusive over the smallest things, make tons of threats of violence and suicide, and break things. Then when she calms down, she just buys my brother whatever he wants to brush the abuse under the rug.

He is madly addicted to Fortnite, and she's literally bought him $700 worth of outfits for his digital character that don't affect the gameplay at all. Meanwhile he stayed up until 2 AM, faked sick to avoid school twice a week, never showered unless forced by her, and he's failed so many classes that he's now in my step son's grade when he used to be a year above. His ""excuse"" according to our mom is that he has dyslexia, and because he can't read, he can't do anything apart from video games and manual labor. /s

I'm not going to go into full details about why we're fostering him as of two days ago. CPS was called for her physically abusive boyfriend, and his bio dad had his rights terminated.

He is the worst kind of brat, and I already just want to put him up for adoption. I've always been nice to him, and I took him places every once in a while before he became a game addict. But he treats us like crap when we're helping him not have to go live with some random people.

His go to insults for not getting his way is to bring out graphic insults about skin color and gay sexuality that come from pure hate. He's tiny enough that he loses the fights he picks at school even a grade down from where he was, so he just found other ways to torment people.

We agreed that he was not allowed over here five months ago because he was bullying my step son at school and broke our Xbox in rage. My step son decided to forgive him, and he immediately started acting like he owns the place.

He spent all day yesterday locked in the bedroom with no privileges on a snow day. His apology is a fake sorry to get his games back so he can just do it again. I sat him down and told him about where he will go if he doesn't behave, but after years of my mom's empty threats, he doesn't care.",6.668567480423768,5.713683193612777,6.810429141716567,80.55577268539844,65.36726546906188,9.783540611085524,31.844081068631965,8.841846274778883,2.3320249654537077,1964,63,406,26,26,632,270,501,0.215,0.716,0.069,-0.9984,3,1,0,0,3,1,50.0,6,0,0,3,22,29,9,2,17,0,31,6,2,5,4,60,58,32,1,4,14,16,1,2,1,1,3,0,3,3,12,27,0,1,3,6,4,15,12,18,0,9,13,4,45,11,68,43,8,71,0,3,1,1,88,29,1,5,25,238,57,9,0.0,0.38732583953757294,0.07975238645391884,0.17818591176749832,0.0,0.07986130036312471,0.14488960839425302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18037244085926,0.0,0.06800223750084493,0.08854964225623567,0.0,0.05557620346132985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725319682185328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284193383194217,0.06823745368918854,0.09963832181921936,0.0,0.06954245742986945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345096451553853,0.0,0.0833246853873667,0.0,0.0,0.07039935901718747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811873303159762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151861425390142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444438074997697,0.0,0.1079579624012144,0.0,0.06885733408760797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704361254389931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960789077618103,0.0,0.0,0.1707929900002503,0.0,0.23223267986471186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068710009200455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05477894005021183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510462536237245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798539899815813,0.0,0.07216519295542806,0.0,0.0,0.09143003023766166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054552465710251616,0.0828569205806702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828640915024283,0.06523258596211233,0.0,0.0,0.060598489194588975,0.06303181297158265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087035085757338,0.05537937463113759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074659575027838,0.0,0.0,0.1133164673230949,0.0,0.1707716935873833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821567903715404,0.0,0.0,0.08174770576911503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979320703192783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481319795825653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148510665615164,0.057845793003403874,0.08710860464599712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939453049234307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858970067012663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809230319705164,0.0908001371910047,0.0,0.0,0.2395020777269708,0.0,0.09830582175921293,0.070584669591,0.0,0.0,0.09640774044155616,0.1297399381242388,0.06555533841679803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374463306935232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328535787996144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578858007945114
parenting,speechdelayedtoddler,2019/02/21,"Please think hard about give your child a name with a “unique” spelling Another post inspired me. 

I’m an adult woman with a name like “Britni” or “Kayci.” 

It was cool when I was on MySpace but as an adult with a LinkedIn profile it just makes me eyeroll and wonder what the actual fuck were my parent’s thinking. It wasn’t clever and it’s a professional embarrassment. 

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parenting,emteereddit,2019/02/21,"Help with sleeping arrangement on vacation with 22mo toddler. In a couple weeks we are heading to Marco Island, FL, and will be there for 6 days. My wife, 22 month-old daughter, and myself, are staying at an Air BnB.

I didn't personally arrange the AirBnB, and just found out there is no crib/pack 'n play at the house. My daughter has only ever slept in one, and I don't think vacation is the time to try to make that change, and we've only got a couple weeks...

Any suggestions on how to go about finding/renting/borrowing one for our vacation, or better ideas for sleeping arrangements?  My girl is pretty adaptable to new situations it seems, but I don't want to end up with 5 nights of terrible sleep...",6.1787773722627755,6.248387343065697,6.764662408759122,77.0648038321168,66.08029197080292,9.769708029197082,32.45346715328468,9.516144504307137,2.9064751824817527,554,21,104,10,8,182,98,137,0.055,0.887,0.059,-0.1238,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,6,0,11,5,5,2,1,21,19,8,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,10,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,1,0,2,4,0,9,2,22,13,0,19,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,2,8,65,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050915485604111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667683482235735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348134958898106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419880469822945,0.0,0.0996646134843363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368753316841278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978901280601475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944360028934774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782784873133104,0.0,0.1235986372081742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860118980725793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358396723483086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831679769672254,0.0,0.1744552708989746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315571669569182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335123755131153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925434458378506,0.0,0.14502400903240328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216226637031442,0.0,0.20943871210428786,0.2350671408496294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493714623683625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722131563381514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068613899058474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370786330695948,0.4639506231103966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647175874752602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990220960211851,0.0,0.0,0.0901127014606178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492156642393614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115087128309282,0.0,0.24792308943581304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maryallen1118,2019/02/21,"I'm 18 and I Think I'm Pregnant (please don't judge) I'm  just going to be upfront and honest about everything. I just checked my  period calendar today, and my period is 21 days late. My period always  comes on time; this is the first time in years that it has come late. I  have been sexually active with my significant other recently (we've been  together since my freshman year of high school). We have been  irresponsible and have not been using any form of protection (no condom,  no birth control, etc). I'm in college right now and I am about to  graduate in December of this year (graduating early from dual enrollment  and skipped a grade). I do not have a job and I only have a couple  hundred on me right now. My boyfriend is a nursing assistant. I am at  lost of what to do. I love children and I have thought about starting a  family, but I don't know if now is the time. I want to be able to give  my child an amazing life. I dont want my child to have to go through  some of the things that I did. If any of you had a child young, please  tell me about your experience.",2.325832930951229,4.1149639541284415,4.148957025591503,85.75251327860941,76.88990825688073,7.892225977788508,24.776436504104296,8.6894789155246,1.6964733944954125,834,29,178,18,19,282,120,218,0.025,0.8809999999999999,0.093,0.9161,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,2,0,3,9,4,0,0,10,0,27,3,0,2,0,27,45,11,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,8,12,0,2,3,0,1,4,7,1,0,1,8,0,26,3,26,35,3,35,0,1,0,2,10,9,0,3,22,121,34,6,0.13977150635316507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163010901477564,0.0,0.0,0.19009883457866705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24080155301655956,0.0,0.0,0.15676562938749394,0.0,0.15465451328323804,0.0,0.09014105858957154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381116448204824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588217651288924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561761739146807,0.1367233532626951,0.13176413684425484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888957190169508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408156501161467,0.15887073619226325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767627045032342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870165295828132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681476455102063,0.0,0.3153366943693257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872474847176184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257711018267522,0.0,0.1261492415276802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063025289268778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30685428276033144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380075003635833,0.0,0.0,0.2387282054541341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145622647399225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562043441423127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893099159676537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216645723118642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09285797814077344,0.08955993754504114,0.0,0.11096296341564964,0.2445056681016299,0.0,0.1324870449695321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071770463509375,0.0,0.0,0.1648817116039103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700248025077856
parenting,heywhatsuphello09,2019/02/21,"How do we not put the kids in the middle of their mom and us? Ok so a little back story, my Significant other and his ex got separated a while back. They had 2 kids together and have 50/50 custody we have them half the week she has them the other. My significant other and I wanted to plan a trip over seas to visit family the kids have never met. We asked the ex if we could switch days around so we have them 2 full weeks and she has them 2 full week upon coming home. Seems fair enough, so no parenting time is taken away from either party. When we asked the ex if she’d be willing to make that change the immediate answer was I’ll ask my attorney how I can stop you from taking them. So we know we cannot just up and leave with out the others consent it’s considered parental kid napping here in the states. We are planning on still going just the 2 of us as there is family over there we’d still like to see. How do we explain to the kids why they aren’t allowed to go with us? We don’t want to talk ill about their mom and don’t want them to be in the middle of it. If we lie and say it’s a business trip, we normally FaceTime when we’re away, they’ll know right away.",1.5195255342267266,3.1341079880478078,3.19819087287215,92.45397591452371,78.6812749003984,6.316624411445129,18.97881202462876,7.1686216300943375,0.10048844621513944,919,19,212,11,22,305,132,251,0.036000000000000004,0.89,0.07400000000000001,0.7556,4,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,17,1,11,2,20,2,0,0,17,1,25,1,0,5,1,50,44,22,0,8,7,7,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,5,8,26,0,1,5,1,0,7,7,0,0,1,5,2,38,2,30,32,4,41,0,0,1,0,53,19,0,4,15,153,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156139943288264,0.3199671450468281,0.0,0.32156478449296805,0.17545134433769932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206886590532551,0.09827563719720864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108899026232872,0.0,0.0,0.07357651858592346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788211486274455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21510167764107152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296762635929563,0.0,0.091245599715001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443831697685446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253981934557702,0.0,0.0,0.12080140034477957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055737025576209145,0.11434489982266452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076153794625388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672340563721992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08799073840949642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178079664298077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533596795578439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146886993938314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742946510954516,0.0,0.09072636640274294,0.0,0.0,0.09091237259215558,0.1038602966322586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221965926675648,0.0953816353520364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857790412231348,0.09169861185621818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652490409634652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116969561281029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018739713309868,0.0,0.2745405389138524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294555100985467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,neatby,2019/02/21,"toddler's daycare teacher very ill Our toddler is in a fantastic full time daycare. Her beloved teacher was suddenly out for the last two weeks and we learned from the staff yesterday that she has stage 4 cancer. she will be away from work for the next couple months as she undergoes treatment. they are hopeful, but also realistic that it's very hard to say what will happen. it's clearly hitting everyone hard - it's a very tight knit staff and they have not dealt with something like this before. I'm writing to see if anyone has advice in a couple specific areas:

1) best approach for talking about the situation with our kid (who at almost 3 is the oldest in her class, super verbal, etc). So far we're sticking with ""Ms X is very sick, which is why she isn't at school right now, but she loves you and misses you very much"" + sending cards/pictures per daycare's suggestions/requests.

2) best approach to deal with potty training regression. we trained in September and once it clicked, it clicked. She had a small regression (at school only) in December with arrival of baby brother, but that evened out after about a week. the last two weeks (coinciding with Ms X being out sick), kiddo has had multiple accidents, primarily at school but also some at home. It's probably a combination- the novelty has worn off; she doesn't want to stop her given activity to go pee; the changes in routine (especially with Ms. X out). We are doing a sticker chart, which is working about 2/3 of the time..any other ideas? it seems like it's all or none with her, i.e. she either makes it through the whole day or has 2-4 accidents. 

3) any recommended ways to help toddler understand illness, life and death? to be honest we haven't really addressed death with her yet, but she's getting to be old enough, and we'd rather start talking about it before an event requires it. We aren't religious. She LOVES books so that seem like a natural way to start - I have ordered the books ""Lifetimes"" and ""Invisible string"" but if there are any other recommendations I'd appreciate it.

4) best way to support the staff at daycare. it's a lot - this is a wonderful and much loved teacher/colleague, and several staff members not only work with her but have their kids in her room. and of course they are also working to support young kids, and their parents and families. any ideas of what we could do to help support them?

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thank you from a longtime listener/first time caller!",6.158419540229888,7.072838577586207,6.260103448275863,77.72857471264369,66.24137931034483,9.203908045977013,34.00114942528736,9.2995712137729,3.086802528735633,1956,86,353,35,30,622,236,464,0.086,0.732,0.182,0.9952,1,0,1,0,0,0,80.0,9,3,6,9,14,17,0,0,24,0,35,10,1,1,2,67,60,29,2,6,15,2,3,3,0,2,6,1,3,3,26,32,0,3,7,2,0,4,7,1,0,2,5,7,36,16,58,46,14,56,0,1,3,3,53,25,0,11,25,229,62,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751056704264207,0.0,0.0,0.07696313004322394,0.0,0.0,0.1843922089546264,0.0,0.08327663358140285,0.09339202944342803,0.20906686977241812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053741560619546366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221150781589508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080260062439095,0.0,0.2419761593425093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130657149154909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061365612618075535,0.17008591904293488,0.0,0.04956766042007265,0.07923819627419046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941583471760544,0.08571803916918527,0.0507646075580147,0.0,0.0,0.07344201459391808,0.0,0.0,0.07245577201814235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537617839993734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040155625940774084,0.0,0.04368070902140534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796611024150401,0.0,0.1377010341606939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030338599299735,0.0,0.07709578740571993,0.07633827344640813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352878467283087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530059497569782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054287745050639054,0.1126481930519748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534272558395264,0.2081045928725264,0.0,0.051303941858610425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134807572699873,0.0,0.11300033450875832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174035876086097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065053253486401,0.08185226682640162,0.0,0.11690938043303654,0.0,0.0,0.08534276153468541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286694099093629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04923780753452583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563711812240046,0.0,0.061121317064580814,0.0,0.23335606352571456,0.06124662731043146,0.13993899177449634,0.0,0.08682872955450331,0.0,0.0,0.08639267318333596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059169769986194214,0.0,0.0,0.1088023121365217,0.0,0.0,0.06425751859840595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261655856082069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355261544953468,0.0,0.07076138919886844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445120477702818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016004025658342,0.08001287115411812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170833900990803,0.04533339644631427,0.18302115648499886,0.1849548261587509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935324220667866,0.08581026604960816,0.0,0.0,0.08335024605356871,0.2238169061176161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339202944342803,0.0
parenting,areyaarya,2019/02/21,"My son's reaction to ""testing his food for poison"" caught me off guard. Over the years, I've occasionally joked with my kids that I need to 'test their food for poison' when I wanted a taste of their ice cream, pizza, etc. I never thought much of it until the other night when I tried it on my 9yo. I can't remember where I picked it up but I think I made his childhood a little more scary. The conversation went something like this...

*Me: I guess I better test your sandwich for poison!*

Son: Daddy!!!

*(I take a bite and hand it back.)*

*Me: Hmmm... Inconclusive. I might need to test it again.*

*Son: You know when I was little I actually used to believe you.*

*Me: Seriously?*

*Son: Yeah.*

*Me: Oh...  I'm sorry bud. What was that like?*

*Son: I always got a little worried and hoped you didn't die from testing it. I was probably 7 when I realized it didn't make sense and you just wanted a bite of my food.*

Food for thought.",-1.0621350931677007,0.7164891684782617,1.3385465838509347,94.8294347826087,108.40217391304348,4.059378881987579,15.039751552795035,6.025991092188313,-0.4642665838509319,693,18,151,9,35,232,104,184,0.07,0.809,0.121,0.9005,0,0,1,0,0,0,59.0,0,5,2,1,8,9,3,0,8,1,7,11,1,4,1,25,25,9,1,5,2,5,1,2,1,1,3,0,0,1,12,4,7,1,6,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,11,3,35,5,18,13,3,21,0,0,1,0,17,8,0,3,13,96,47,5,0.0,0.0,0.1234231823295832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523888915519704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725290743199172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249612360380598,0.0,0.11185851503767724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126302476393756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105514466346794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6117453414718879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115510822851896,0.0,0.13932853337214565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562007144248138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950838106329968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358042189666822,0.3802891565095129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967547414205135,0.0844242940087453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417197396295502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297505335891523,0.1875619956547023,0.09754676055306384,0.0,0.0,0.11868997636841475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363634593440115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327364051132868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736807498166757,0.0,0.1415805031212171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509486732255293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104127251150085,0.0,0.20081701714740136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586949376507434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923540889446706,0.0,0.0,0.1491986717334981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724532723899375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844340260564344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144695870625658
parenting,Rubyjcc,2019/02/21,"Interactions with nannies So, I'm a nanny and I'm a member of a group with a lot of other nannies. I haven't really done play groups yet due to ages of the children I watch or busy schedules or whatnot. Well I found out that a lot of nannies get discriminated against when it comes to meeting parents at play groups or the park.  One nanny said that she was in the middle if setting up a play date with a mom for their kids and after that mom found out she was a nanny not the parent there was no more play date. Others said that parents have walked away from them out of no where during conversation after finding out they're the nanny not the parent. What do you parents think of socializing with nannies and their nanny kids?",4.00090909090909,5.474047724137932,4.768840125391852,84.35062695924766,71.75862068965517,6.65203761755486,25.595611285266447,6.980632752743323,1.0579655172413789,580,18,113,5,11,187,81,145,0.097,0.888,0.015,-0.8507,5,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,3,0,6,5,0,0,14,0,7,0,0,0,0,24,16,9,0,1,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,8,12,0,0,4,4,0,2,5,0,1,1,8,3,9,5,25,8,3,22,0,0,1,0,25,10,0,6,9,84,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722242739097625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166439770822966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857174284350807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376255432952472,0.0,0.0,0.2969407933256313,0.0,0.0,0.07074628906259751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302419770080758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171817963849673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917575187542439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7517855263715998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0867473008585097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576123939346948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803374074948682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676544791035709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175011522626655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bunditbundit,2019/02/21,"[Seeking advice] Store employee retaliates for argument by calling Children's Aid. Dear Redditor parents, I am reaching out for some advice. 

I would like to know what you would do and if you would ever visit a store knowing what has happened here?

Several weeks ago, I went to an eyeglass store in Toronto to order a new pair of glasses. When I picked them up, they were cut incorrectly cut and instead of arguing with the optician I politely asked for a refund. 

I went to the cash register and explained to the lady who asked for my debit card that in fact my bank account was hacked and at the moment I did not have any debit card, I asked for cash, almost immediately I was met with insolence from your staff.

One of the kids that work for the store immediately started to cite law, stating that it was, in fact, illegal and against the law to provide cash for a debit transaction, now although I am not a lawyer I can share with you that legal is a hobby and an interest of mine, so for amusement I asked her to tell me which law she was referring to, she stated PCI compliance (not a law), I rolled my eyes and ignored her for the rest of the conversation. 

Then another very clever kid stated that I could go back to the bank and get another debit card, I said: “thank you for that” visibly another ignorant child with no critical thinking skills, the only person who came through for me was your manager of the store, and without incident. 

During the incident I had my hands full with two kids, my kids are strong headed, opinionated and can be stubborn, we know who our kids are and we support their might and will, after asking my daughter to sit down and having to stop her from trying to leave the store I took her by her jacket and sat her down in the back, as any parent would.

One of the stores staff members, because they did not like how I spoke to her (the staff), took it upon themselves to retaliate by calling children’s aid society (CAS) on us, they told CAS that I had violently thrown my child into the seat, they told CAS  about my hacked bank account and my purchase,  as a parent I am entitled to discipline my children as I see fit as long as it is not in a malicious way, as a customer I am entitled to my privacy concerning my accounts and purchases.

Dear parent, what would you do in this situation?

Would you ever visit this store again, as a parent knowing what transpired here, would you risk yourself buying from this company knowing what could take place?
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parenting,this_run_son,2019/02/21,"Long term/habit cough in 7 year old. Questions for people who've experienced something like this My 7 year old has had a light cough for about 6 months.  It started in June, got a bit worse until October until we put her on Zyrtec and the frequency of the coughing greatly diminished for about 3 months.  Recently, the frequency of coughing has gone up a lot (to pre-Zyrtec levels despite her being on it since October).  Generally, she'll cough 1 time immediately after speaking (sometimes after every sentence or two) and often while eating.  When she's focused on something, the frequency decreases a bit (maybe one cough every 30 seconds) and when she's laying down to do something like read there is a cough every minute or so.

We've taken her to 3 doctors who've said various things like rhinitis and/or allergies but we can't figure out the cause.

We've looked into habit coughs, but from what I read they are generally louder/barking coughs whereas her's are pretty soft ones.  Occassionally she'll give a good productive cough where we can hear stuff being cleared.  When I ask her why she's coughing she says because she feels like she has something in her throat.  I too have been having some stuff in my throat since around the same time, but it doesn't compel me to cough nearly as often as her.  We've been in the same house for years and this problem just started, so we're very confused.

Anyone have any experience with a kid having a cough for 6 months+?  If so, please share your experience/advice - this is driving me crazy.
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parenting,Brimbal,2019/02/21,"2 year old boy uti? Hi, so the last few days at bath time. My dude has  been tugging at his thang.  (2years) When i asked if it hurts he said yes. This has happened a couple times at bath time (only bath time, not during the day.) He has also been a bit fussier than usual.  The dr. Said to bring him in and we would need to  do a catheter on him. Which seems extreme, but i understand why. Still i am hesitant to do so cause there is no other signs besides fussiness and mentioning at bath time and not during the normal course of the day. Anyone have a boy who had a UTI? ",1.2568567026194124,3.0669523898305115,2.3936363636363645,97.00783513097076,80.18644067796609,5.307858243451464,19.201848998459173,6.11248444174946,-0.2891966101694914,434,10,101,3,11,138,82,118,0.067,0.917,0.016,-0.7059,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,10,1,12,1,0,1,0,15,20,9,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,4,2,5,4,0,0,2,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,2,8,0,11,14,2,21,0,1,0,0,14,6,0,2,14,61,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002810210513014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243459927704402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369567613554686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19116479880487847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17987682676707265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937457816689773,0.0,0.3387767253501513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484112065051114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874491023597981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273057907295889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983507606531922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156167470974087,0.0,0.0,0.1837389074405637,0.0,0.0,0.13317210162892307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333122049247341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940525529614438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983578059785715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5105136257494544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228618045001788,0.0,0.0,0.19284886972855292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580012995575369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243866338284568,0.0,0.0,0.11275921907318033
parenting,Kekkosmies,2019/02/21,"Maintaining father-child relationships from distance/abroad (after divorce) Please advise me if you have experiences or ideas regarding how to maintain good father-child relationships while working abroad. My sons are 7 and 10 years old. Special flavor to the situation is that we have recently divorced so I feel keeping good contact is essential. 

The best idea I have came up is to use modern technology to maintain contact. I am to keep very low threshold to communicate (e.g., using Skype or Duo). I don't believe the boys have the patience to have frequent long video-chat discussions (of course I welcome these) but below are some ideas I have in my mind:

\- SAYING GOOD NIGHT: Creating a routine of having a short ""good night"" call. 

\- READING BOOKS: We have not read books to the boys anymore at this age, but maybe this would be good to bring back? So read bedtime stories / books (using Skype)?

\- GAMING ONLINE: I have two tablet computers, will give one for them and one for me. They also have smartphones (Android). I am looking for good games to play, e.g., maybe ""sink battleships"" and chess with the older one. Of course there are other fast paced games (e.g., Brawl Stars) and they will be fun but I don't know how much real communication would be involved. (I will ask r/gaming for tips also about the best games.)

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Would you have other ideas about maintaining connection, involving computers or not?

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Disclaimer: My situation is not so extreme as I will be abroad in cycles of 2 weeks (and at home with boys for 2 weeks). This will last for 1 year in overall. I understand some people may be working in army for for the whole year with little holidays. Yet, for me this will be a huge change as I have been very present father (e.g., I have never been away from my children for 2 weeks).",4.726746081504705,7.149726951515152,4.545506792058519,82.74136363636364,71.9090909090909,7.218390804597701,27.74294670846395,8.104835398774808,1.9428934169278995,1434,54,252,22,29,439,174,330,0.01,0.84,0.15,0.9934,0,0,0,0,2,0,82.0,2,2,3,4,12,13,0,0,11,0,42,0,0,5,1,44,55,22,0,4,10,2,1,0,0,10,0,1,1,4,8,11,0,2,7,13,0,2,6,1,0,4,3,4,28,12,43,36,6,38,0,1,1,0,32,13,0,7,23,169,36,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882954452039969,0.0,0.17454898177597608,0.19575099213643948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988267372426403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530216820573739,0.0,0.07567816216689156,0.061936984067410675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075081013375896,0.16906179805331192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224923620956022,0.0921262629221449,0.0,0.0,0.08520985212300188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879209198823743,0.0,0.0,0.0407278467133577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726965988044207,0.0,0.4053626052964732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079692112993096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363718745233109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319078437307606,0.0,0.0,0.044267463093374926,0.06565794727867169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073096578701212,0.0,0.071283071388608,0.06764062756221807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184400626619105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133123268665733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05921256804157486,0.0,0.062124128869130164,0.0,0.0,0.1511790108780566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452231873596347,0.0,0.163745666390448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584233172975926,0.0,0.0,0.08841829247627707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417115152746361,0.09168206345412236,0.0,0.0,0.07953213115554199,0.17295833461536847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405556516643147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810802441037139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868438301064873,0.08385404517626045,0.0,0.20870466371480706,0.0,0.1329222388072828,0.0,0.0,0.19383394352153635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899297553271269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728083673342518,0.0,0.0,0.1716584721884773,0.0,0.19575099213643948,0.15561218014760456
parenting,lolofosho87,2019/02/21,"I don’t know if this is absolutely terrible timing or absolutely perfect timing. Hi all! Partner (29M) and I (31F) just moved to Portland from Los Angeles in the middle of January. Neither one of us have moved more than an hour away from home, so this is big for us. Here’s the kicker: found out we’re pregnant about 2 weeks in. I’m officially 8 weeks, and we had our first ob/gyn appt today (which was super exciting!) 

I am having an incredibly hard time adjusting, and want nothing more than to pack up an move back home. I imagined enjoying our first child being surrounded by family and friends, love and support. I never imagined doing it with just us here, alone. I feel like I was homesick before the pregnancy but now it’s damn near unbearable. 

My partner, on the other hand, loves it here, and has this super special enthusiasm for life here that I haven’t quite seen before on him. Especially with a baby coming, he feels like this is a place to raise a family. Everyone is super nice and polite, the city is very family oriented and it’s possible for us to buy a house here one day. 

He’s absolutely right about his side of it, but I feel like family and friends are more important than a house with a yard etc. I can’t imagine my child crying when my mom, or his mom, picks them up cause they’re unfamiliar with them! That’s just heartbreaking. 

Anyway, that’s the gist. We’re usually really good at talking our way through everything, but this one is a doozie. Wondering if anyone has any thoughts on the subject? Thanks for your reply! 

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parenting,rodwiltz,2019/02/21,"Am I exploiting my child by posting her on YouTube? My Wife and I started a YouTube channel after we got married. Now my wife is pregnant and the baby is due next month. We have plans to post videos about our new baby when she gets here. But recently I was told that posting videos of children on YouTube is exploitation because you can be paid for it. Do you guys think this is appropriate? See what we’ve done so far here: https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCjCNDI8Cf0HAsp9YEwaR_yQ
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parenting,acuo,2019/02/21,"Bullying? So my daughter (1st grade) came home crying from the bus because according to her some 5th grader who sits by her(assigned seats) was calling her an idiot and nasty on the way home on the bus.  From her I gathered as much info as I could trying to figure out what happened.  


My question is what do you guys do?  Obviously it breaks my heart and my instincts are to flatten this kid who feels the need to pick on someone way younger and smaller than him so he can feel ""cool"".  But seeing as I can't do that I'm not even sure what the right move if any are.  Unfortunately this stuff happens and will continue to happen from different sources.  I never understood why people acted this way towards me growing up and I never knew how to deal with it.  How am I supposed to tell my child how to deal with it when I don't have an answer myself.

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Literally the only response I've found to sort of work is to ignore the person.  Basically responding in anyway almost always makes it worse for me.  But my daughter is 6 I can't expect her to have the mental fortitude day after day when she is forced to sit next to this person because assigned seats.  


Then there is what do I do as a parent.  I know enough about this kid to find his parents in the neighborhood so I could potentially talk to them.  I could talk to the bus driver.  I could talk to the school.  What do you guys do?  Parent's with older children give me your ""wisdom"" :)",4.105566733735748,5.447993366197183,4.932877263581492,83.7836854460094,71.32394366197184,7.240509725016768,26.55197853789403,7.62386473244151,1.4285753185781358,1132,37,220,13,21,367,164,284,0.096,0.887,0.016,-0.9709,4,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,3,1,1,12,5,1,0,14,1,27,1,1,5,4,44,42,21,0,7,4,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,8,18,10,0,1,11,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,5,4,34,3,41,32,3,30,0,0,1,0,38,9,0,5,11,160,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286774884879554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547833741987378,0.11130628163659437,0.12482636586987025,0.06985889945053769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524467437277165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489727934002886,0.11749403133270565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280813773142246,0.0,0.11284242822568825,0.132502761783487,0.21181713552936854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10732941284501316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614599660590784,0.0,0.0678512022282972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388522764451824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389198353501764,0.0,0.0,0.11263649263238472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854653332386358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343472241063845,0.2725274071347936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173376143797313,0.0,0.0,0.20609011332303448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564568943831776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857206825009314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352616116808977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918413286043144,0.07551726406883742,0.07617187752749005,0.1584610970280022,0.0,0.10925292008134738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812964972773166,0.0,0.0,0.34220351048673064,0.0,0.0,0.07121900385227219,0.179397119182859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507942515172735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772957360728181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396672156145947,0.08186131037636953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704152062179353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759954943415407,0.0,0.0,0.09682039099020463,0.0,0.0,0.24770781948193785,0.08978923275208338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974590496960124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446232936308773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269648852846288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478756800071322,0.0,0.10468911295617048,0.0,0.0,0.12482636586987025,0.0
parenting,coldturkeytabitha,2019/02/21,"Need advice with my son's IEP My son had a severe speech delay.  However he went into kindergarten knowing the alphabet, how to write the alphabet, and all the letter sounds.  He had a firm understanding of numbers up to 50.  Counting by 5's and 10's, easy peasy

Going into 1st grade he was able to speak 2-3 word sentences.  He knew 8 sight words.  His understanding  of numbers grew.

He did not finish his 1st grade year in public school because of a move out of state.  The school district was shit so we homeschooled for the second half of 1st and the beginning of 2nd grade.

During our homeschooling he got up to 100 sight words.  He can now read and write and he can carry on a conversation (you can understand 90% of what he's saying!)  

We are now back in Denver and he is back in the same school district but different school.  When I enrolled them and told them of our situation and how he was homeschooled they immediately said he would be so far behind that the IEP team would gave to double down, without evaluating him first.  

We had our meeting the the team yesterday and I am beyond frustrated.  The head of the team couldn't stress enough how he has made zero progress since he left public school.  She is pulling him out of class to practice writing the alphabet and said he really struggles with it.  I told her that he complains about how boring it is because he mastered that skill 2 years ago.  She dismissed what I said and said ""that's clearly not the case""  

Is he at grade level, no.  Has be come a significant way, yes.   

So he is getting pulled from classroom time to work on skills that he already has.  They are going backwards.  I explained to her that he struggles to open up to people and it takes a little time for him to feel comfortable.  I offered to come in to sit with him while they test him.  Just to be in the same room and she said no.  I offered to volunteer in the classroom or come while he is being pulled, she said no.  

What the hell can I do??  She keeps making comments about how homeschool isn't acceptable and I'm not sure what her deal is.  

I don't want his progress to regress, but I'm worried that is exactly what is going yo happen. 
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parenting,Jaded_Trinket,2019/02/21,"Retracting foreskin Hello all, I am new to Reddit and I know the community can be very particular so I apologize if I'm posting this in an incorrect format or if this is the wrong place to post this.

My sons are intact and I've read time and time again since they've been born that retracting the foreskin can cause severe issues up to needing circumcision. The pediatrician not only does it every time we go in, but then suggests I do it as well to ""help"" it retract I guess. Research I've done shows otherwise so of course I'm not going to do it, but how do I tell my pediatrician to stop?

I have pretty bad social anxiety and I'm afraid it will be confrontational if I try to tell her how to do her job knowing she's had all of this schooling. I take everything she says with a grain of salt because every pediatrician has a different opinion, but even the AAP doesn't recommend retracting the foreskin. Any suggestions on how to bring this up to her in discussion at our next visit (in three months; this past Monday was their one year appointment) without her possibly becoming defensive? I like our pediatrician and she was my pediatrician growing up so I really don't want to have to find a new one for such a silly reason. But I know I have to say something as it is my responsibility to protect my sons if I think something may hurt them.

I know it's my responsibility and I shouldn't have kids if I can't stand up for them and some parents would just speak up, but it is hard for me to be so assertive so any tips on how to do so would be appreciated. These are my first children (twins) and this is all new to me.",4.636948251748251,5.5167583969230805,6.183055944055942,77.04498951048951,69.64615384615385,9.478321678321679,29.54195804195805,9.688023934748609,2.6211846153846152,1289,48,260,29,22,441,166,325,0.087,0.8340000000000001,0.079,-0.5311,3,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,3,1,15,9,2,1,11,0,36,0,0,6,3,51,51,32,0,10,15,3,1,1,0,5,0,3,0,2,17,10,0,3,7,2,0,5,7,6,1,4,5,5,39,3,39,37,4,37,0,1,0,0,31,13,0,10,17,187,56,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573072750736592,0.0,0.08848056368145406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657233878237292,0.0705060436037145,0.12773879824548245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881599634970985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084142179951612,0.0,0.0,0.10121596676852414,0.11836164759707883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639318552793975,0.0,0.19489923599576184,0.0,0.1039489018272755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571231580603453,0.0983814268613528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146594325389754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741394121486033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360978993096004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752531887787181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381779388725105,0.0,0.0,0.12072032802270773,0.11477597494712935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542576617837253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650625980822106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923197313293284,0.0,0.0,0.08576137460895637,0.0,0.3351191588810339,0.1230070849026576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15675015520930893,0.08796561639101468,0.0,0.0,0.12842816538934573,0.0,0.11041178042973464,0.0,0.0,0.12084142179951612,0.0,0.0,0.13039071633586635,0.22154307167323212,0.11766910415081627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569258097137235,0.0,0.07409557853225572,0.11891906062403775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395698652414272,0.0,0.11705539162375946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306643262913443,0.0,0.09567620717321593,0.0,0.0,0.117902110804423,0.0,0.1780834102198122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669801020805996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696288937821402,0.0,0.2021861158174326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411107891430774,0.0,0.0,0.2023290698987178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852641785519793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543267017275626,0.06822002044194209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399338232751558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149334787366877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432491162469196,0.1264574543834747,0.0,0.07448207310852796
parenting,Chirpychappers,2019/02/21,"Toddler suddenly upset every time I drop him off at daycare My nearly 3-year-old son started a two-day-a-week daycare in August 2018, and from the first day, had zero issue with drop off. He's really social and happy, and would always give me a kiss and run to a toy or a friend, and there'd be no problems.

About a month ago, he started asking me to stay and play with him, and I'd tell him I'd have to go to work, and he'd seem a bit upset, but nothing too bad. It was normally a Tuesday (he goes to school Tues/Thurs).

The past two weeks, every Tuesday and Thursday, he's been getting more and more upset during drop off. Today he was kicking and crying for me.

His teachers are super communicative, as is the director, and they're really great at keeping contact with me throughout the day - they say he's fine during the rest of the school day, and he's in a great mood when I pick him up. He talks about school 

I'm seven months pregnant and I'm wondering if that has anything to do with it, or the fact that it's just a two day/week program, so he has more days off than on (my husband and I work full time and he goes to his grandparents' house Mon/Wed/Fri).

Does anyone have any ideas/advice for this? 

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parenting,barbos0512,2019/02/21,"Educational cartoon for children. Your opinion matters. Hello! I decided to create a YouTube channel, and create educational cartoons for children. I noticed that on YouTube there are a lot of videos for children, but most of them are useless, cheap, and the children are made to just sit silently and not interfere with adults. And really little part of them useful. Therefore, I thought that it makes sense to work.

I work in the program After Effect and 3dmax. Voiced by my wife.

On the production of one series takes about 10 hours without rendering.

What do you think, is it worth continuing to do this? Do you think this channel has prospects? Thank.

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[https://www.youtube.com/c/AryasSchoolInterestingScienceforKids](https://www.youtube.com/c/AryasSchoolInterestingScienceforKids)

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parenting,fizzywater42,2019/02/21,"Is it inappropriate to tickle a toddler? I have an 18 month old. I read an article the other day that it is inappropriate to tickle a toddler who cannot verbalize their consent to being tickled.  I'll be honest, I have never heard this before but now i'm wondering if I should not be tickling him like I sometimes do? I've never even considered that although he may be laughing when I do this, he may not actually be enjoying it.

What are your thoughts on this?  ",4.013516483516483,5.571882879120878,6.0778021978022005,74.64219780219783,71.85714285714286,8.716483516483517,31.68131868131868,9.23628265651192,3.015083516483517,366,17,67,8,7,128,60,91,0.056,0.8290000000000001,0.115,0.7386,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,0,2,11,20,4,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,11,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,1,9,4,4,10,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,4,8,55,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.2987494345204454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26050342511493296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974356052972084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022032296047832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956501875328196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443588089962391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722295926013258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212434594172387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062238254898869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027812566243223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430417413588632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319968330519296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,andrewvanzyl,2019/02/21,"Why safe playgrounds aren't great for kids I VOX  Published on Feb 20, 219

 The stereotypical modern playground — with its bright colors and rubberized flooring — is designed to be clean, safe, and lawsuit-proof. But that isn't necessarily the best design for kids.  US playground designers spent decades figuring out how to minimize risk: reducing heights, softening surfaces, and limiting loose parts. But now, some are experimenting with creating risk. A growing body of research has found that risky outdoor play is a key part of children’s health, promoting social interactions, creativity, problem-solving, and resilience. 

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parenting,AmphoraOfaMphibians,2019/02/21,"Child care flair We are having a hell of a time picking out and pricing child care for a couple days a week.  Anyone have suggestions on how best to look and budget? 
Still months away but reality and the baby bump are here.",2.91,5.0288472727272815,3.718181818181818,87.99727272727276,76.27272727272728,6.218181818181819,20.090909090909093,7.1686216300943375,0.4217000000000004,176,4,35,2,4,56,36,44,0.061,0.789,0.149,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,5,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,7,1,8,1,0,1,0,4,3,1,0,5,24,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20860971063912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280304880926913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130945956914078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6083650758258001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33011298840501485,0.0,0.19240779720730036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505345995696499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23813607528586225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382586450216276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396732684024824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393143054865225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cherrytree95,2019/02/21,"My Son Hates Me - Behavioral Problems with 7 year old My 7 year old son has recently taken to telling me I'm a bad mother, or that he hates me. At first I didn't react much because I figured he was trying to get a rise out of me so I explained why it isn't okay to say things like that, that its my duty to teach him and it won't always be sunshine and rainbows but I love him. I'm wondering if this is a normal phase kids go through or if it's a huge behavioural issue, or if I am a terrible mother. I always thought I was a great mother but now I honestly don't know. A little background about my son he's a different kid at school and at home, he has struggled with his self esteem and used to be very shy. At home he is outspoken, happy and wild as any other kid, he is really sweet and caring but when he doesn't get his way or we have to accomplish a task he doesn't enjoy, all hell breaks loose.  I'm in need of advice here on how to handle this situation. I'm at the point where I've been yelling more than I thought I ever would and I hate it. I miss the happy/calm relationship we had when he was younger. Any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance! ",3.3942620481927723,3.5740926706827345,4.9805798192771125,87.07279743975904,72.09236947791166,7.992068273092369,26.40587349397591,7.8658589789855275,1.2960861445783127,901,27,205,11,16,306,140,249,0.127,0.685,0.188,0.9764,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,0,0,3,9,21,4,1,11,1,22,1,0,3,2,38,44,22,0,7,10,6,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,4,12,12,0,1,6,0,0,3,6,9,0,1,9,4,26,12,24,31,3,28,1,1,1,1,31,13,1,8,11,124,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25159899515245865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21423761628644225,0.0,0.0,0.17509002334897714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748932650669477,0.07847637571140853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125510741455668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450189989301872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164492380758189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095029223422378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13451867321142616,0.0,0.07316373341011043,0.0,0.0,0.14193208437295027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704204918862278,0.0,0.38130095326411534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25826575452474954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13436711711072927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075003352121388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289399104111411,0.12902746479018118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161894216421248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463589917005087,0.09545624050566838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613411551751458,0.0,0.0,0.270173914021068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169729397476685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318313063362625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247168841487988,0.0,0.12711143923922527,0.13821447081798105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237617125666222,0.0,0.13028787920285825,0.0,0.0,0.1342999039619893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447048514316682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458299884469774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125210888140324,0.11852297114815727,0.0,0.0,0.08552659250564056,0.0,0.0,0.20440428157678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740341048651483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118671910872108,0.0,0.1062208244404398,0.0,0.10218478134834197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616437181570742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960888727657866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145048313790184,0.0,0.0,0.16580374828240965
parenting,Grumpy_American,2019/02/21,"My 4 year old is refusing to poop in the toilet. My 4 year old is refusing to poop in the toilet even though he needs to go. He is in severe discomfort but won’t go. He’s asking for diapers and I’m refusing. 
It’s getting so bad that he’s wetting the bed at night and breaking out in an eczema rash. What can I do? Bribes are not working and I feel my only option is a liquid suppository. 
He will sit on the toilet for 20 minutes and won’t poop. 
Please help! I feel so bad for him. 

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parenting,mama-of3-,2019/02/21,"Guilt of moving away from grandparents and seasonal affective disorder My husband and I want to move to a southern state, we live in the Northeast US. We have been together for 13 years and have talked about it as long as I can remember. However, I was always honest that I would never seriously do this because I don’t want to leave family behind. Since starting our own family, I have felt even more strongly against this because I feel terrible about taking our children away from grandparents. Well, now my SIL is likely moving to a southern location when she gets married next year (fiancé already lives there). MIL will likely follow her. So we will be just with my family, who we struggle with due to unresolved issues from my childhood and their lack of respect for our parental boundaries among other things. I also suffer from seasonal affective disorder. Yesterday it occurred to me that this doesn’t just affect me for “a few” months of the year as I had naively convinced myself. I literally suffer from when the clocks change in October until they change back in March. That’s 5.5 months of every year feeling depressed. As I write this I am sitting under a blinding light for my light therapy which only helps so much. 
If we were to follow my in laws, we would be moving a plane ride away. 
What I am looking for help on is 2 things... For those of you who moved far from family, how did you get over negative feelings of taking your kids away from grandparents and cousins? And for any SAD sufferers, did a move to a warmer/sunnier location help? ",6.101782006920416,7.5021328373702465,6.1735276816609,76.53849221453287,66.64705882352939,9.517024221453287,32.09705882352941,9.766711354998122,3.238894671280277,1246,51,212,27,20,395,169,289,0.125,0.7859999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.9298,5,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,10,3,2,1,15,16,0,2,10,0,23,1,0,4,1,35,37,18,0,6,3,3,4,2,0,4,1,0,0,2,17,14,0,0,5,0,0,9,4,9,1,0,7,8,39,7,51,24,5,46,0,5,2,0,29,13,0,2,24,167,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666774564244078,0.07005293999860525,0.07288943883592235,0.0,0.0,0.0595703675614651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292088176337534,0.06735827320854723,0.0,0.1067991529523672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18533638942168196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544894564233268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20079223361915252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785835574304705,0.0,0.07380598971204459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33032240647359723,0.0,0.13287815676309214,0.0,0.08410883900755263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153379106145487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761474186891407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143066408195016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275476069008788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559295594493499,0.0,0.15470315717014024,0.07752241524244051,0.07356115154678287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984147461428326,0.5586236523219961,0.0643953914705171,0.0,0.0675617986283523,0.0,0.09316259857510742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662303569532793,0.0,0.0,0.09726839415285272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923266333085104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246285113675227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200306851645351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157756170634164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172718889298682,0.0704088096169519,0.0,0.0,0.10017716425619123,0.0,0.11639385167448305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537088845413656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033363953669462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876207894783371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445572374709958,0.0,0.0,0.22564370120770744
parenting,UnnecessaryBuffness,2019/02/21,"Need advice: wife said 6yo son has a “man cold”, he overheard and asked what that was... So let me preface by saying I love my wife and I know she said this in a completely joking manner.  I came home from work and saw my son on the couch and he looked rough.  Turned out he had a 100+ degree fever, was coughing and was visibly drained of energy.  I asked my wife what was wrong and she said he was sick, I commented that he looked pretty bad and was surprised he wasn’t well enough to even play his favorite Lego game.   She said something to the effect of “Oh, I know, he won’t even get off the couch” and then she turned to his direction as says “You’ve got a man cold buddy”.  My son is insatiably curious and asked what that was, before I could attempt to dismiss it my wife explains that (and I’m paraphrasing here) “It’s the same cold a woman gets but when men get it they can’t handle it, thy cry and complain until they get better.”

My son didn’t quite understand and asked if that means if boys should be more scared of getting colds than girls.  I simply brushed it off and explained to him it’s a generalization that isn’t fair (not in those words exactly, since he’s six), and not to worry.

He’s still sick today (next day) and is saying he has a man cold.  Do I simply let it dissolve and be forgotten?  Or do I confront my wife about it and explain we have to be careful about what we say?  I’m so torn, half of me is saying “dude, it’s a funny joke and your wife does have to deal with more as a mom when she has a cold” but the other half is thinking “oh man, I don’t think that’s fair to man to generalize them as weaker than women when it comes to sickness”.

I know I’m already over thinking this, so any advice on what to do, including “forget about it you’re being an obsessive crazy person” would be really appreciated.",3.0385714285714305,4.126985105820108,4.159656084656088,89.28488095238099,73.60317460317461,7.198941798941799,23.28835978835979,7.5804360353943165,0.8056391534391532,1422,37,314,17,28,464,187,378,0.112,0.779,0.108,-0.6887,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,2,1,3,5,14,14,1,2,16,0,36,6,0,1,1,53,74,34,0,6,7,11,1,0,0,3,5,9,3,11,27,24,0,0,12,4,0,2,8,6,1,3,17,20,35,8,36,46,4,19,0,0,3,1,67,8,0,3,9,194,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889645967916804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665903055385463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572738002336465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614301722680081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070124929596477,0.0,0.0,0.08224461626696215,0.0,0.0,0.08548175743738018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054532648842663,0.09854421354264456,0.0,0.0,0.08325803375078625,0.10133887114823284,0.0,0.0,0.07716958589001559,0.0,0.10616882345821113,0.06233321342297194,0.0996450378684872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458172464193943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986842495013826,0.0,0.12767683971486127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524861150079303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730226368756693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096950877439976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935394550651685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976685590243353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232841799013412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723314012867196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105283492885818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319886962497368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166700278305048,0.0,0.0,0.10279160211983178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439370445548765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983308867553403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280240287260108,0.0,0.0,0.061918410905791865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36775668877790585,0.38431187481836654,0.09676655201629462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995239158676562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744082304769025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718724077486468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579409167674016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916157784153218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102615008414024,0.0,0.10061922091878088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690268847330902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036456259215043,0.0981558514545731,0.0,0.06865954488503173,0.10567492389856696,0.0,0.0
parenting,jcpcbp,2019/02/21,"Is BMI an actual concern for a 3/4 year old? Pediatrian brought up BMI being high (95th percentile) at last two well check appointments and suggested we cut carb snacking for him. To me, he looks healthy, he's very active and muscular, he doesn't have a sweet tooth but does love carbs. Since I'm not an expert and I like our pediatrician, I didn't question it. But now I feel like it's very early to look at BMI and I don't want to have my child needlessly worried about his weight at such a young age. I just want a realistic outlook on his health and I know BMI is a gray area in general. If I'm making sure he is eating a balanced diet and staying active, do you think I need to worry about BMI yet? Is it just a risk not to mention it to me?",2.1721153846153847,3.707647878205133,3.991282051282056,87.82038461538464,76.62820512820514,7.107692307692307,24.179487179487186,7.882392219407189,1.12338717948718,583,19,129,9,13,197,98,156,0.095,0.748,0.157,0.9173,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,0,8,8,1,1,9,0,11,8,2,1,1,24,24,9,0,4,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,4,0,4,0,1,1,5,2,1,1,2,6,16,6,16,21,0,18,0,0,3,1,15,8,0,2,10,74,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.17904926200134874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056391126200548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877450586833481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277261199428774,0.13107759909885774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502984239699506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938558809816358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083538681621967,0.14956006169675135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792773684876068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081526867867373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559716924690282,0.0,0.12247381125602015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604752473403528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253058812896415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553872961918154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177591568707685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955644472763819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292700358140786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756608248916005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923254785435802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30277916171383723,0.21644160814237326,0.0,0.0,0.22342827344419694,0.16496986340166625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3726641302129233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815460899126545
parenting,Your_search_historu,2019/02/21,"When is it safe for unpasteurized Apple Cider Vinegar? My daughter has been under the weather for a few days, and when I feel bad I drink apple cider vinegar with honey and hot water. But I've read that children can't have it due to it not being unpasteurized. Yet, they don't say at what age is it safe. She'll be two years old in May, so I'm thinking she may be just old enough but would like some certainty. I want her to have this kind because I feel like it'll be more potent with 'the mother'. Any help is much appreciated ",2.558124362895008,4.142798247706423,3.856269113149846,88.98625891946995,75.69724770642202,6.312334352701327,22.202854230377174,6.937597516519254,0.4689686034658514,415,11,90,4,9,136,76,109,0.019,0.745,0.236,0.9766,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,5,6,0,0,3,0,18,2,0,0,0,18,23,7,0,2,4,2,3,2,1,5,0,1,0,1,8,4,2,2,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,5,9,5,9,13,5,12,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,3,11,61,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639441712304885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20129357702054812,0.146961478799237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547808251492154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361687868165481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24910237034740265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437968202079955,0.17222918043294705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159232491772113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510500250817512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355611825137941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772231651047604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059504542300354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411474522839005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917182513245932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544757469851821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355022905216917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219653487029296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125788642781245,0.0,0.0,0.15524904034589002
parenting,dirtiboi12,2019/02/21,"Alcoholic mother, need advice I'm 27, my mother has been alcoholic since im 8. Now she lost her job, keeps drinking, yesterday she took 20 xanax with vodka. Could of been suicide attempt, im not sure. Now every time shes drunk she keeps telling me how she doesnt wanna live anymore. Most of the time im away working in other countrys. Been doing that since 21. Im really tired of this, brings alot of stress, i really dont know what to do to help her. Tried sending her to rehab, she refuses. Money is not an issue. What should i do? I find it hard to ignore this, she raised us as a single mother, father suicided when i was 7. I have a sister thats 23. ",0.3439705882352939,2.594843985294119,2.7352941176470607,90.59132352941177,87.08823529411768,5.458823529411767,18.058823529411768,6.9077264865688965,0.233258823529412,506,13,106,7,16,173,91,136,0.156,0.8240000000000001,0.02,-0.9465,1,0,4,0,0,3,22.0,1,0,0,3,4,4,0,1,5,0,15,7,0,1,1,17,23,3,2,4,2,5,1,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,8,1,4,4,2,3,1,3,4,3,0,0,6,1,18,1,13,15,3,11,0,1,0,0,20,2,0,2,6,66,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790874541188674,0.0,0.2797731647530579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981232883222374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229798404912791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450873385252007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340756496166494,0.12822693325670154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102843952641153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963534655303845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725590372479887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773593048142801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5655547714571757,0.13662001602058066,0.12989275122831848,0.2326903735213333,0.0,0.0,0.07193628114503195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558238159615125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428869821908685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705673075058824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770894002585587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21655482835226256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499393891158954,0.0,0.0,0.2863550227699515,0.0,0.123366666603585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144077009835524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265145604857566,0.15044415461482413,0.0,0.0,0.14542878188208588,0.08886888100070388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574501575948731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529287036829212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burnsyyyy82,2019/02/21,"Just after insight into going from 3 kids to 4 kids Hi there, my Hubby and i are parents to a 6(m) 4(m) and 2(f). I am turning 37 this year and Hubby just turned 41. He would be happy to stop now but i can't shake the feeling that i'm not done. We have a 7 seater car and we are doing ok financially and we will either need to extend or move house regardless of what we choose. We probably wouldn't even be trying until the end of the year, so our youngest would be at least 3.5 when new baby is born. Our issue is time. Having time enough to spend with each child and not spread ourselves too thin. Will we have more time physically to care for a new baby once the kids are 1.5 years older than now and more independant? It's obviously chaos already now and I also worry about how much more chaos we can take before it hit's that it's 'too much' point.  Just wanting advice from other parents of 4 kids. Thanks",2.2828723404255307,3.949501489361701,3.6169680851063823,90.05875,76.65957446808511,5.976595744680853,19.72872340425532,6.6274283507984215,0.08077021276595753,712,15,153,6,16,233,121,188,0.08800000000000001,0.8240000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.2448,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,9,0,0,0,15,5,0,1,7,1,21,0,0,2,1,39,32,15,0,6,8,2,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,8,18,0,1,3,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,1,2,14,4,19,22,9,26,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,18,104,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529392358927354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407834283097245,0.11890388287240995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652056064806133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159495796743155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215707102373965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169137834377534,0.1536320514246961,0.0,0.09820548794381027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517994623482854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450149719519409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582786688894664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17156330933846886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518921794236346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580293449658095,0.2186021624527336,0.11024854614976287,0.0,0.2872031084080979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583453943538787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301956990175852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405560250435551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030830860113698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243078844016126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179312559583776,0.0,0.0,0.13688979563005824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26009944339019303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009478152881685,0.3234546427064223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769866511964416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099752324954366,0.0,0.2112440791138926,0.0,0.0,0.2872461050867297
parenting,QueenStubborn,2019/02/21,"How can I help my 8 year old son deal with his jealousy? I have just started volunteering in his class after a year of volunteering in my 6 year olds class. Most of the kids fight over my attention and want to hug me, or for me to sit with them or help them with work, which I don't mind but my son is now telling me things like I dont hug him or kiss him enough and asking why his classmates like me and if I want them to be my kids because some of them pretend I'm their mum. Any advice?",4.2137694704049835,3.421810018691591,4.929485981308415,91.48369937694706,70.30841121495327,8.254828660436138,26.24454828660436,7.1686216300943375,0.8063595015576333,380,9,96,3,6,123,67,107,0.045,0.7490000000000001,0.206,0.9517,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,5,1,3,6,1,0,2,0,6,3,0,1,0,19,11,9,0,3,6,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,24,5,14,10,3,12,0,0,0,3,21,3,0,6,10,62,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593123789124065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330941675189254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19701206394447726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284642427580103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21726215549862016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469839701164072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217749219981792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28250716889450866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059123872600357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212785825382463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422692429798161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916180560330333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18419475081212366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000530532034722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24859807242249976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901587315352456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342014882532226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071260830367902
parenting,cheesenutella,2019/02/21,"3 Year Old Monster Dreams/Sleep Issues So, our child has been an amazing sleeper since 5 months old, with the rare sleep regressions/illnesses keeping him up sometimes. The last week or so, he has suddenly started resisting bed time, and tonight he told me he’s scared the monsters will come get him. I need advice! What do I do??? 

I know he needs extra comfort right now so I’ve been singing an extra song and sitting at the foot of his bed until he nods off even though I don’t normally do that. If I leave before he’s completely asleep like I usually do, he gets up and follows me, and this can go on for 1-2 hours, which means he’s also getting less sleep than he normally does. I want to help him fall asleep and not fear any monsters or anything, but I also don’t want to UNDO years of good sleep habits by overindulging him, especially because he’s 3 and I can see this easily turning into a situation where he tells me there are monsters just to get some extra attention/avoid bed time (even though he seems to genuinely mean it right now).

And yes...I know...before you say it, we probably “deserve” this because we’ve been able to sleep pretty well for the last 2 years, but can you blame me for wanting to keep a good thing going?!",4.861786437246963,5.468744153846156,5.240341599190284,84.98779984817816,69.0,8.442206477732794,29.607540485829958,8.472884824447931,1.9929921052631585,974,35,200,14,16,310,146,247,0.025,0.841,0.133,0.9749,0,1,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,2,0,0,15,8,0,2,9,0,16,7,7,0,0,33,39,20,0,9,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,1,9,11,0,2,4,2,0,5,3,2,1,0,4,3,22,6,21,34,5,34,0,0,1,0,26,9,0,5,20,110,31,0,0.09732363365231993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510352842363994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565934933939973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618340825318081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008905798484944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865516749829128,0.0,0.16563048802759528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383569276801542,0.10204197822484036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516856766153873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856268429261553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10951614543961988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033903267939691,0.0,0.1106225276572621,0.16326089283808526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652339801429994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584417479444868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158058805918027,0.0,0.1730114346820649,0.0,0.0,0.10697304764482067,0.1586635020779772,0.0,0.10305167561445867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754741139590199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21202793689649496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768279585965596,0.0,0.0,0.14432848233982193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19071299443054884,0.0,0.0,0.204249563841532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901312390228502,0.10493133784928232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16622770274356272,0.0,0.07739565976494929,0.09743793553113607,0.0,0.07755433548757272,0.08859978085702297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050711547187897,0.10939584192560928,0.4869695980830464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625556224101313,0.0,0.06888616882110538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850651455249238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465749766932465,0.0,0.19123995184865275,0.0,0.1135003868771946,0.0,0.0,0.09299690266748517,0.0,0.0,0.10586016622879448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718823268863482,0.0,0.17221200208961318,0.0,0.07806714844480586,0.0,0.08750563475196277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18801968757427406
parenting,SinglePart,2019/02/21,"Kids fighting or getting hurt while playing in the playground My question is pretty simple, is it fine (specially for boys) to get hurt a little while playing or get a little rough with the other kids? No bleeding or broken bones but maybe a little bit of scratch here and there or small bruises (playing roughly)",8.810526315789474,8.533946192982455,7.553333333333335,74.75000000000001,60.75438596491228,8.301754385964912,40.05263157894737,6.42735559955562,3.1344315789473693,251,12,39,1,3,76,42,57,0.16,0.736,0.103,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,8,1,0,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,8,5,8,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,1,5,5,5,1,7,0,2,0,0,5,5,0,5,2,26,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24069927890476997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455639344949268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720415479358473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6629152269547266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22149463777477954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22430017658913784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246980079002544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dogs4lifeandarecool,2019/02/21,"How do you explain to kids about people with disabilities? For context, I am missing two limbs. Essentially had them amputated when I was 16. I’m now 26 (no kids). 

Although I am totally fine with this and have no problem with people asking me what happened, I never really know what to tell kids when they ask me. Usually about twice a week a kid will come to me and ask - which is fine, but I don’t want to confuse or scare them. 

I know they won’t understand why some people need surgery to have limbs amputated, so I’ve always just told them I was born like this. 

I don’t have kids so I don’t really know what parents think when I tell kids (when they have come up to me and asked). I figure that they’ll ask their parents more questions when I leave. 

Is this white lie something that I should be telling them? I really don’t mind them asking, but parents sometimes cringe when their kids ask, so I’ve always tried to be careful how I reply. ",3.6999248120300763,4.919552947368423,4.483909774436093,87.08736842105263,72.15789473684211,7.533834586466164,25.67669172932331,7.957251820313856,1.2977744360902257,740,23,156,10,14,238,96,190,0.078,0.867,0.055,-0.6203,3,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,11,0,15,8,0,2,2,0,22,2,0,2,2,31,44,18,0,4,4,3,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,7,9,8,0,0,8,0,0,2,8,4,0,2,4,1,31,4,14,34,3,14,0,1,1,0,35,1,0,4,12,105,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714607028354613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6742429426991982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504734583096677,0.0,0.0,0.1775048001340097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111029800008212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987003519905386,0.0,0.0,0.10909534161085876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050335921837453126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403231021787483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639645348391834,0.07946414228624922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34321242195320906,0.0,0.0,0.21428693206390484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858710399239363,0.0,0.0,0.11541871141862213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19801359683823208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031523728192021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931858034662738,0.10190065694725353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27016186941797515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601834005968261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984508869435366,0.0,0.06995153536527912,0.0,0.10064667498896504,0.10725928714752586,0.0,0.0,0.11347449512203894,0.0,0.06077056999294531,0.0,0.082645548239652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296978365055453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,atmosphere_78,2019/02/21,"Expectations of modern father’s soft skills, somehow feminine behaviour? I am a father of 4 kids, the oldest son is 6 y. I get around some places, playgrounds etc. Everywhere i see fathers who behave quite feminine, playing much with their kids etc. Many of them act as if they’d be mums – with feminine-like soft skills. I myself am a sensitive person, not a “powerful” dad, who “can fix anything”. But i sense a certain fatigue, they don’t seem to be really happy, living according to their male nature. I experience this to myself very often. It doesn’t taste right for me.

Modern fathers are expected to be real men BUT at the same time somehow they got to have skills like women... Can’t believe this works out well. 
I know, in the past fathers were often absent from their families because of their working place or other responsibilities. When i was a child my father worked very much, I haven’t seen him much. Modern fathers seem to fill this maybe same experience with being nearly omnipresent besides of their work for many mothers work too for financial reasons. 

Do you think this is a good evolution?
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parenting,captain_butt_stuff,2019/02/21,"May I get some opinions on pads for a teenage girl? I hope this is the right place to ask this. My daughter is about to turn 13 (days away!) and has recently gone through what we all do, that time of the month. She’s shy about things so I tried to do her a favor by setting up a subscription with “Lola” and she hated it. Insisted they were too thick. She’s so sweet but is truly shy about talking about period stuff. I’m in my late 30’s and haven’t used pads since the 90’s so I really forget which ones are awful. Can anyone recommend a really good brand of pads for a teen that’s new to using them? Preferably ones that are safe with a uniform that requires tan pants that won’t leak? I’d really appreciate any suggestions. ",1.8251428571428576,3.7811503333333367,3.2205714285714286,91.056,79.0,6.9523809523809526,20.714285714285715,7.957251820313856,0.7784285714285719,570,15,125,10,14,186,102,150,0.106,0.73,0.16399999999999998,0.8857,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,1,8,6,1,0,9,1,13,0,0,2,1,18,22,7,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,2,13,5,20,18,2,16,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,4,7,79,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525105506490287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906752002439016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18593397498181335,0.0,0.18686236859161687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282666809181473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391107459911456,0.0,0.0,0.1668183052972936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636129742407396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19754123714960592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22435498202110635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875096761740098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19208783060583853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26954409913615385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077962355685642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822393529138196,0.0,0.19637847935696154,0.0,0.0,0.1698497612201876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452268922370406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22767984124038645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15985910741159806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213273550644572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597353083336748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503229091483224,0.21633366352211605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435517519735912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,d33pblu3g3n3,2019/02/21,"Advice for a family whose mother is loosing the battle with cancer. First, excuse my English, I'm not a native speaker.

Yesterday we received the worst news about my wife desease, there nothing more that can be done for her.

We have 2 kids a 6 yo and a 8 yo, I haven't told them already and I don't know how or when we should tell them. My wife is currently hospitalized and the doctors said that they are going to try to stabilize her so she can come home and say her goodbyes.

Should I try to keep an appearance of normality? Should I tell them right away? I have a very hard time controlling myself in front of them and they already noticed that something is wrong. I think that they deserve the truth, but I can't just tell them and send them away to school.

What do we do?

Thank you and sorry for the probably disjoint discourse. We knew this day would come but i'm a mess.",3.347816558441558,4.930759187500001,4.062857142857143,88.32500000000002,73.60227272727273,7.074025974025973,25.63961038961039,7.7094869923839395,1.2544996753246758,691,23,143,9,14,220,108,176,0.094,0.87,0.036000000000000004,-0.8242,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,5,1,9,2,6,6,1,0,12,0,19,2,0,2,1,34,32,13,0,5,5,3,1,0,0,4,2,3,1,1,7,15,0,2,3,0,0,7,4,4,0,1,4,4,30,2,14,23,2,17,0,0,0,0,33,4,0,2,6,101,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728820555227576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326609136646534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283225044022397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596750920539672,0.0,0.0,0.16905260257726065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720613257622704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427497444726268,0.0,0.15424555548881388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420915435794156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820789625765566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566135169936068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502135131122212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119098355899446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397265157625787,0.0,0.0,0.08283535054492938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476799819668647,0.14462615580485536,0.17160313579715306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250867569471472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871961985003813,0.14337543133932562,0.11986377407087112,0.0,0.15254327960548794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603663471382422,0.0,0.16872599285103745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39522485170891497,0.13876872383022032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657946443873974,0.0,0.0,0.08788984273098556,0.0,0.0,0.1440256438730488,0.0,0.2046668188306066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436515984203693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707179136473263,0.16479578219019145,0.0,0.0
parenting,rachelrose2020,2019/02/21,"Two year old keeps touching himself I’ve read it’s normal for kids to discover their genitals. I’ve also read not to shame kids for touching themselves. To just ignore the behavior and it will go away. It’s been almost 8 months that he has continued doing this. I have tried putting him in bodysuits but now he goes all the was down in his pants and through the leg holes of his diaper. He moves diaper so much that he will pee on himself. I also have a 5 month old that I do not want 2 yo touching with his dirty hands. This is not something I want to ignore for any longer. I’ve tried discipline, I’ve tried reminding him, I’ve tried distraction. But every time he is alone or even just watching tv his hand goes down there. I don’t know what to do. Help!

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parenting,blah_fkin_blah,2019/02/21,"Pregnant with my third- we’re terrified My boys are 2 and 9 months old, and we also just got a puppy. Today, I found out I’m pregnant with our third. We were using two different forms of contraception, so this is a huge shock. Obviously we’ll love this baby with all of our heart but my mind is racing. I’m barely surviving with what I have going on now. Parents of three or more- how was that transition from two kids to three kids? What kind of challenges can I expect? ",2.2415672514619907,4.358556010526321,3.680350877192982,87.47690058479536,78.36842105263158,6.7485380116959055,21.08187134502924,7.793537801064563,0.8612573099415202,371,10,76,6,9,122,69,95,0.048,0.863,0.09,0.4239,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,0,8,2,1,2,2,19,15,7,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,4,0,11,3,12,10,3,8,0,0,0,1,10,3,0,1,4,55,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19597625566773275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560379745616937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26869819438007736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392745688246498,0.0,0.19599873107608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904000393569956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551947040621661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211783194617042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474430925003905,0.0,0.19560641268237405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25715168997754034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27211271477355264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322904331563381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4787805722471046,0.0,0.0,0.21165516904519605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mertbl,2019/02/21,"Precision driven 9yr old. Everything must be perfect, dollhouse, her hair, whatever she is doing. If it isnt, total breakdown. Any way to deal with this? Her breakdowns are very stressful and I dont have a solution. I don't want to punish her desire to do something correctly but I dont know what to do. ",1.8637772397094456,4.507220220338986,3.6971428571428575,83.56813559322033,84.08474576271186,6.761259079903147,27.072639225181604,7.957251820313856,2.2090029055690072,239,11,43,5,7,80,45,59,0.087,0.804,0.109,0.2958,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,12,1,1,0,5,12,15,3,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,1,7,1,5,12,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19011989668457094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28822850230684066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6553172561238043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512630705302384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364655057100018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933658676723894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21522971227092394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202510550404136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23067781684071995,0.16489997976467574,0.22191281605989616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rhapsodya,2019/02/21,"7 months old is addicted to TV. How can I entertain him? My baby watchs TV since he was 4mo. I used to let him watch it for 1 hour, that was the time to me to do something in the house or to take care of myself. But lately he screams and cries when I don't let him watch his cartoon (the only one he likes is cocomelon, a youTube channel). I think he is too young to watch for a long time, I try to distract him with child books and toys, but he doesn't want to know... What can I do? What toys are good for a 7 month baby?

I'm sorry for my english, is not my native language.
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parenting,rocketman768,2019/02/21,"Mind-numbing 4mo Dad here on paternity leave. I am so bored and frustrated taking care of my 4-month-old. He wakes up, I feed him, try to find something to entertain him for 1-2 hours, then hopefully he sleeps for 30 minutes and the cycle repeats. Once or twice a day, he doesn't go back to sleep, and it's constant attention for 3 straight hours doing one of about 4 things. It is so mind-numbing and tiring. I wear him for a walk a couple of times a day to see the sunlight.

I'm so mad when he doesn't go to sleep because it means an hour wasted rocking in the dark and another 1-2 hours of brutal mind-numbing second-by-second attention required without a break. I feel so sorry for what must have also been hell for my wife. I'm glad she went to mommy yoga and mommy book clubs and all that, because it seems like dads only get tough luck.

Now he is so big and heavy he puts my arm asleep when trying to rock him to sleep, so after a while I \_HAVE\_ to lay him down, which is just instant crying and refusal to sleep. I don't know how to get through this.",5.382224736048265,4.568922542986424,6.0087895927601815,84.78461726998493,67.91402714932127,8.633634992458523,30.18137254901961,7.492282038375204,1.679696530920061,826,26,180,7,12,270,137,221,0.132,0.785,0.083,-0.9004,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,1,15,12,4,0,10,0,12,11,9,1,2,26,27,22,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,9,9,1,2,7,6,0,5,4,6,0,2,2,2,15,6,29,24,1,28,1,0,1,0,16,6,1,4,17,104,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088480729895762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601825933338487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507721700372703,0.0,0.13489322511892746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280735502867305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956518551939953,0.0,0.0,0.12242377007599248,0.12153553953367445,0.14271045825821793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055944148800587866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011251978200299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561223045606585,0.0,0.12576131188480033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989292104824022,0.4358421169333929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080619876002598,0.0,0.0,0.11715438249028674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05405431389528001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205220675437187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33515201151540186,0.0,0.08831375059931679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116100642629472,0.11783060173987316,0.07497418977627246,0.08414857144198924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122622517412804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881677103192714,0.10072473400542076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5536117895685914,0.0,0.0,0.08517796601858205,0.0,0.12385516799036385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318935522620781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735059295994027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451650425731037,0.1271672238567596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502379260005183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256666264872584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665537665478472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NikohlTheHuman,2019/02/21,"Want another baby but not sure husband could deal. My husband and I have been talking about having another baby as our son turns 1 in March. I told him I’m comfortable with starting in August at the earliest because I want to spend the summer with my son since he’s old enough to enjoy more things now. My biggest worry is that my husband isn’t going to deal well. All seemed great and fine the first 3 weeks after our son and then he was just over it, he would hand me the baby or hand him to my mom (who stayed for the first 6 weeks after birth). He still does this, when I get home from work (I only work 3 days a week and he only has him alone 2 of those for 5 hours) he immediately sinks into the couch throws headphones in and plays call of duty till we go to bed. I have NO idea what to do because I thought he’d be an incredible dad since he was motivated by his own father leaving when he was young. If I bring it up he tells me he lets him nap on his lap but that’s 99% of the interaction they have together. I want another baby but I also don’t want to raise another baby with minimal help.  ",4.3151970443349725,4.209756086206898,5.622857142857144,84.26500000000001,70.03448275862068,8.697536945812809,26.48522167487685,8.418075326091056,1.4903118226600989,860,23,191,12,14,290,142,232,0.051,0.774,0.175,0.983,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,1,5,8,7,0,0,9,0,18,2,2,1,2,30,32,16,0,7,7,9,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,9,10,0,1,4,2,1,4,4,0,1,2,6,2,28,7,30,21,4,36,0,0,0,0,39,9,0,3,22,119,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216970961200672,0.0,0.0939666628011806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4928462351702309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325679968787328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998313388951845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381614105869576,0.0,0.0,0.07577935627989336,0.24227972252676264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282718144043612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141143605183145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989503935434924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139017776953185,0.0,0.1335586946585435,0.0,0.0,0.1295468604148483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875941202748668,0.0,0.11786453288263556,0.0,0.11571623924407318,0.0,0.0,0.1326459579400911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441812322428182,0.0,0.12015421103027785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376174434259271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329904997185732,0.0,0.0,0.17873180854646611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696981283016427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943984734549304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316883534138728,0.12524197215508187,0.09383760434825827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074466381303244,0.0,0.0,0.09444401436457008,0.10270231604585857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806340328217869,0.0,0.0,0.09328381616676612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227862163879568,0.0,0.0,0.1278089184660396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27722394573956893,0.0,0.2827601211836494,0.0,0.10564880951689408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108635879132558,0.11932943658558692,0.0,0.08347036560673564,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kay9212,2019/02/21,Need custody advice PA So I have 3 kids my son is 6 then I have 3 yr old daughter an then an almost 2 yr old daughter well my 3 yr old daughters dad took her an moved to North Carolina without my consent he is on her b.c well he has denied me of being able to see her going on 3 yrs now he filed for custody in North Carolina n judge said my daughter an I have to do therapeutic counseling an her dad has to get it all set up so he sets up an appt decided to cancel it because he wants to come back with her to pa to live with his new girlfriend who is a recovering heroin addict well now it’s been 6 months an everything from North Carolina hearing was transferred up to here so he still has to set up the counseling for my daughter an I to do which we still have not started! I can not find an affordable attorney in my area to take on my case an I don’t know what to do I miss my daughter so very much an I’m far from an unfit mother I have never ever lost custody of my oldest or my youngest I’ve had them since day 1 I even had my 3 yr old for the whole first yr she was born an he decided that since things weren’t working out he was gonna make my life a living hell an well he succeeded!,0.8117522179974692,2.4252257186311788,3.130898288973388,92.1335844423321,80.787072243346,6.360519645120406,22.745405576679346,7.333567415737692,0.7195527249683149,936,31,219,13,24,322,137,263,0.065,0.883,0.052000000000000005,-0.6584,2,1,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,1,4,16,8,1,0,18,0,24,2,0,1,3,20,41,7,0,2,4,12,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,1,8,5,0,0,4,0,0,4,6,3,4,1,10,3,31,5,33,29,3,42,1,2,1,0,35,15,1,2,20,140,39,3,0.12351095066962145,0.0,0.0,0.13464516713093042,0.0,0.12069347153232945,0.0,0.0,0.12367837597576585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497229718894198,0.0,0.07529112914100379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639374759490464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965434537589439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157781805776651,0.11172272601604594,0.0,0.0,0.11100367842978218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288677132249984,0.1050583515439816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452937399838156,0.0,0.070194119576521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920581790713624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787838839761387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723943711071296,0.0,0.0,0.21812486453357893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348267928190577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244451865022218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985852624612884,0.1312725940406202,0.09079476009429778,0.09158180491995098,0.095259259364997,0.1192876458021688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5184158637981928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174871978099198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842223666699826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20433906944171595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742168659133237,0.0,0.1972720095007176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092864863776089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205518747466903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722521075119326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190946941560156,0.07284995876333045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4442047108834374,0.0,0.0,0.13789556559229782,0.0,0.11906014894696215,0.0,0.08991744309580725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FarFromHam,2019/02/22,"Husband doesn't play with kids...is that ok? He's great at feeding our kids dinner, changing diapers, brushing teeth, putting them to sleep, bringing them to the grocery store, etc. - but he doesn't play with them or seem to know how.  

Tossing them in the air, taking them to the park, reading books, building Lego structures.  In some ways I agree, even small children don't need constant attention and entertainment, but I also feel sorry for him that he's missing out on these experiences and worry about the kind of relationship he is building with the kids. 

What can I do to encourage him to play with the kids or is it unnecessary?",7.075944309927365,7.508128991525425,6.484285714285715,78.59788135593223,64.16949152542372,9.115738498789346,35.501210653753034,8.841846274778883,2.9600397094430995,503,22,92,7,7,155,77,118,0.114,0.762,0.124,0.4912,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,5,0,4,9,0,0,6,1,7,4,2,1,0,18,14,8,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,7,2,0,4,6,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,11,8,18,14,2,11,0,1,0,0,19,7,0,4,1,58,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19146849165383426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25328043999183764,0.0,0.0,0.2587339158784088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670227298695703,0.15813828946954606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342040882532055,0.0,0.0,0.12106073040226215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26396746700053264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493248220216638,0.1315819972721887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753097988376396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406887645652216,0.0,0.0,0.23949029920264914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570533923025703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179639896164025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395984174980346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680172533226704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800181845875566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004482332301856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24314822461330546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SupperTime,2019/02/22,"Wife is 8 weeks pregnant and I'm anxious in the worst way I love kids but I also love my freedom. I have dreams of traveling the world, or just being by myself secluded from everything else. I love my wife as well with all my heart. 

We have been talking about having kids for a year now. And we decided to try just after new years. I was still on the fence of having kids but I felt guilty for withholding my wife the right to have kids so I convinced myself that I wanted it too.

The first try, we talked and I poured out my thoughts to her that I wasn't ready. And that I still wanted the freedom to explore, because I just felt like my life was only starting. So we said... Okay, if this doesn't work out we'll try again later. We will leave it to date. 

Low and behold the first attempt worked! Pregnant she is, and when she told me, I was overwhelmed with anxiousness and fright. My life is over, I thought. I'll never get to go on my dream trio of traveling the world. 

My wife confessed to me today that she was experiencing the pregnancy alone, because she felt I wasnt showing her my excitement for the baby. Even during the ultrasound I was moderately excited.

For me, I told her that I can't be excited because it's too early to be sure that there will be a baby. So she replied, when you get lottery, are you ever excited about that? I told her those are completely different.... Also, I told her that I'm afraid of losing my freedom, which is a guaranteed. My time will be consumed by the child.

I talk to fellow fathers and they attest to losing their individuality and freedom, but in the end, they do love their child and it's a joyful feeling that is unexplainable. 

I'm kind of excited. I'm scared. I don't know how to feel. I dont think I should feel guilty for feeling this way. I do feel like i made a mistake, but I have to accept it.

I have no one to talk to because we can't announce that we have a baby. So I am very lost and confused and guilty. 

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parenting,Thothlantean,2019/02/22,"3-4 year olds and YouTube I have a daughter who is turning 4 in less than a month. She always has at least one parent home with her and plays 90% of her day away every single day. She only gets about half an hour of television a night. But last year she got a kids tablet and spends 1-2 hours a day on it. She will play little puppy dress up games and stuff but most of the time she’s on kids YouTube. I’ve tried to censor and filter it as much as I can but I just don’t trust it and don’t want her on it really at all. 

What are some ways I can get her off of it? I try being interactive with the games on the tablet and interacting in other ways but she just loves YouTube. Are there any actual good apps like it where you can let a little kid pick appropriate videos? ",1.921964782205748,3.0637517710843416,3.251445783132528,94.49471269694165,76.4698795180723,6.553475440222428,18.190917516218718,7.010146845296331,-0.2134183503243748,598,9,146,6,13,195,105,166,0.024,0.845,0.13,0.9486,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,0,10,0,13,1,0,1,1,20,19,13,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,10,9,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,16,6,22,15,7,28,0,0,0,1,22,14,0,2,13,95,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.16132730706108692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755848994535888,0.0,0.0,0.11242245705432223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532246013148734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198508600195641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928822413581246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274450563038676,0.0,0.0,0.13866157091462447,0.13222055126080032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658282416171167,0.0,0.325611445802748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347568916382641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904967975297,0.0,0.08076641800089045,0.33138574869661663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920667682696526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195589365816815,0.0,0.12152834418254554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514050036020538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734742772047789,0.0,0.11202430138100897,0.12573240145880293,0.0,0.0,0.1835669698211785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590746030731446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925048060955496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963987251951256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244812348271108,0.17981938835928854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750931499878808,0.26244474637695325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21291978165509504
parenting,dwurl,2019/02/22,"Anyone else's kid love The Polar Express year-round? My son will be 4 in May and he started watching The Polar Express shortly after Thanksgiving, and he hasn't stopped.  Just when it seems like he's phasing out of it, he finds a new prop he can use while acting out the movie, which he does at least once a day.  We have no issue and think it's adorable but got to wondering: there's got to be other kids like this too right?",5.246590909090912,4.834807750000003,5.353545454545454,88.02781818181818,68.0909090909091,7.94909090909091,28.963636363636365,6.742157984588678,1.2687427272727274,334,10,73,2,5,105,66,88,0.019,0.8490000000000001,0.132,0.8313,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,1,0,15,15,6,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,6,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,8,9,1,14,0,0,1,1,13,6,0,3,9,39,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838602481772252,0.2467472028136716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530813027069196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074205528394865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011731112766197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201039165365906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852094053788512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25135214190306393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23530369186962075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21734826663103493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325841879247177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25646404150393004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20565784234227175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21923228754671686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045270569405896,0.0,0.0,0.2013352049456688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430689038845466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799002464360966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611575927222853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15507933846640648
parenting,downtowonderland,2019/02/22,Kindergarten Registration My son is supposed to start Kindergarten this fall. I noticed I'm supposed to register him March 1st even though when I called the school over a month ago they said the end of March.  He has been attending Pre-K in the same county that he will be registering for school. I know this may seem like a stupid question but I am so lost! Do I have to register him with the county at their office or do I register him at the school? I tried google and have gotten conflicting answers so I was wondering if anyone can give some clarification. Thanks!,3.322146464646469,5.957271231481485,3.753905723905724,85.63621212121214,77.42592592592592,7.2606060606060625,24.63299663299664,8.296473431620573,1.6664148148148148,455,16,87,9,11,142,77,108,0.097,0.851,0.052000000000000005,-0.6928,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,1,5,4,1,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,15,23,8,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,6,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,1,14,2,10,15,2,13,0,1,0,0,12,4,0,7,8,58,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17989126984900533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189816153855705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207221209901758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974181108720227,0.0,0.0,0.13403787312214133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467551489871945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152878353932157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914469242824037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152954050020196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619822546876901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310449447136556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273357122775229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303941302243136,0.0,0.0,0.6161487685962389,0.0,0.18474608321234773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363974441134286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868369827649135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993844212480128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778079759956746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007635324393754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jl_15,2019/02/22,"12 year old girl getting teased about her appearance Hi, everyone. I am posting for my friend who isn't on Reddit. Her daughter just turned 12 and is in a small town school. My friend recently found out there are a couple of girls at school who are teasing her daughter about her appearance. Her daughter is diagnosed with Autism, but is very high functioning. She isn't really into clothes or doing her hair, but now doesn't want to go to school and it is upsetting for all of them (friend, her husband and their daughter) during the school week. Does anyone have advice for what the parents should do (talk to the teacher?) or what advice to give their daughter? ",4.825483870967741,6.849909935483872,4.376645161290323,85.76996774193552,70.61290322580646,7.540645161290323,27.72258064516129,8.238735603445708,1.876021935483872,528,19,97,8,10,159,79,124,0.069,0.897,0.034,-0.5256,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,3,0,5,6,2,1,5,0,14,2,1,0,1,17,22,7,0,2,5,7,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,1,14,3,17,20,1,17,0,0,0,0,30,8,0,4,5,66,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001788474106402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739588391417602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994787094373331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589378832404244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441037835301234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467648126110228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840693333183354,0.3559970011051055,0.0,0.08024606826300333,0.14734052064032066,0.08729051224548058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622795689510831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16117014708687935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054698830909473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470997562725837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839568857334594,0.0,0.15165468089575318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6217777680231489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345233552154206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670652141511896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673041333975932,0.09059320432933088,0.0,0.12320313993193625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890893647174268
parenting,GetUsedToThis88,2019/02/22,"Concerned but should I be? Ive got a 4yr daughter that has recently discovered her private areas have sensations. My gf and I have talked with her about touching herself and thats its okay to do so in her room and privately. Since having this discussion with her it seems that she wants to have ""privacy time"" more and more often. What should i do here. Could really use some closure or advice here. ",3.7062030075187953,6.0765862368421075,4.1706015037594,84.49921052631579,74.78947368421052,8.027067669172935,26.646616541353374,8.841846274778883,2.231893233082708,318,12,59,7,7,100,57,76,0.0,0.967,0.033,0.3291,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,1,12,0,0,1,0,16,16,7,0,4,2,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,11,1,6,11,3,5,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,4,2,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639170210451943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973409439232897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978521627034165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23857687627348434,0.0,0.3677122500483409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390302005527923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30806332973220235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993309260236631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171566258605742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216446836229676,0.0,0.0,0.2196584424975715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-treadlightly-,2019/02/22,"Do you know a mother needing a wonderful adoptive family for her baby? Hi there, we are starting our adoption journey, ready to add to our wonderful family of three. Our biological son is 4, and we are all healthy, happy, and excited at the idea of welcoming another family member. 

One agency I've looked at suggests putting your information out there in the event you can reach the right mother. So if you are her, or you know a mom in need, please message me! We are open to maintaining contact with the mom.

We are in Louisiana, but location is not important to us.

Thank you!",4.329775739041793,6.354485321100924,5.913149847094799,74.23946992864424,71.93577981651377,9.982059123343527,31.37716615698267,10.25414643259724,3.704106218144751,456,21,81,14,9,155,74,109,0.016,0.805,0.17800000000000002,0.9318,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,8,6,0,0,3,4,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,1,23,18,6,0,3,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,17,4,14,18,1,12,0,0,1,0,27,8,0,4,2,59,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534144299370947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4998823718821666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815737408990346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953317280313768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427818838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14842841294016598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140230964630429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621209425921506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977273750063892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940222511250585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768607451072246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094651250291888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510702815010585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273086364810488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21261268229870112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38336323464368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UnicornsEverywhere7,2019/02/22,"My 13 y/o is lazy af. And my boyfriend gets mad at me about it. I’m so over all of this. My 13 y/o son is lazy. I don’t mean your typical teen laziness, I mean so lazy that he can’t even put the toilet seat (the one you sit on) up to pee. He will lift the lid but pee all over the seat, leave it there and close the lid and not flush. Oh, when he shits, he doesn’t even wipe his ass. I know because he doesn’t flush the damn toilet. I have to remind him at least 2 times in the morning to brush his teeth. And then to rinse his toothbrush afterwards. Most of the time I’m pretty sure he doesn’t even use toothpaste because if he did, he would put the lid back on.

He has a bedroom in the basement, that’s trashed, and an adjoining basement area that should be like a family room, that he has trashed also. He sleeps on the couch because his room is so disgusting. He leaves garbage everywhere and mostly stuffs it under the couch or wherever he can instead of just throwing it away. I can’t even tell you how many dishes, cups, and silverware have disappeared from the kitchen never to be seen again. 

So, basically, I’ve just given up. I’m sick of fighting with him to clean his shut up and do the simplest everyday tasks. I’ve taken everything away from him for months and he doesn’t care. I’ve even cleaned up his mess, knowing that he’d be pissed, but he just trashed it again. He has been diagnosed with ADHD but refuses to take his meds. When I make him take them, he just holds them in his cheek and throws them away. Funny how he will throw those away, but not actual garbage! I also have ADD, and was similar to him (messy but not as disgusting) as a kid. So, I haven’t been the best role model for him when he was growing up, as far as organizational skills. I was diagnosed 9 years ago and am currently being treated. It has changed my life drastically. I wish he wouldn’t fight me on his medication because I know it would help him too.  His grades are also slipping and I just don’t know what to do anymore. I basically said, well if that’s how you want to live your life, then so be it...

The other issue is my boyfriend. We have been together for almost 4 years. We have a 3 year old together and I am currently pregnant again. For this reason he thought that he could parent my 13 y/o, and discipline him. This completely backfired and I was so sick of fighting about it that I told him he needed to back the fuck off and had no right to parent my child at all. After that our relationship has been better with less fighting. Until today when he sent me about 20 texts while I was at work telling me that I need to do something about my son. He sent pictures of the disgusting mess my teen has made and told me I need to do something about it. He also doesn’t believe in ADHD, (even though diagnosed by a psychologist) and thinks my son is just being lazy. But I know ADHD is a huge part of it. 

I literally don’t know what to do anymore and I don’t know who to go to for help. I recently put my son in counseling but he refuses to let me in the room and then refuses to talk to the therapist. She doesn’t even know what to do because he won’t talk to her. 

Please help. Or send cookies.",2.7788036545934567,4.048088599092285,3.9246151107946936,90.00960724985909,74.50680786686839,7.483859867698972,24.912372815994786,8.060288974870295,1.1842216546527842,2488,79,560,38,51,810,267,661,0.116,0.8009999999999999,0.083,-0.9747,4,0,2,0,7,0,78.0,3,5,3,5,46,21,12,0,27,0,67,19,8,7,5,91,104,60,0,12,20,6,0,1,0,7,8,1,9,2,31,28,2,5,13,0,0,12,20,14,1,1,21,3,73,7,78,67,9,79,0,0,1,2,93,36,5,7,31,367,104,3,0.0,0.0,0.06862801676430269,0.0,0.2535545028630063,0.0,0.062339742520428676,0.0,0.07042131546090959,0.0,0.0,0.22495865934827064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394889600290423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26429431178046553,0.10815268308018916,0.0,0.21435033872395085,0.0,0.0,0.07923330264987156,0.0738027825423595,0.06219761879690015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717020287405263,0.0,0.07439556729093147,0.0,0.07373545731793442,0.0,0.0,0.056149576585599686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141381834287008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251475490613679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320446071798971,0.0,0.06629707985353152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650152399616637,0.036742424591065664,0.0,0.03996787796734638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141407611428067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340205712853412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091945776042949,0.0,0.0,0.14893012779640144,0.0,0.07191308444573412,0.09934664605572588,0.0343577239931178,0.0,0.062099133231653884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654414746627373,0.04694314111165049,0.07129951074171674,0.0,0.15321122897865752,0.07811631553300498,0.07084603126983738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056133530318536094,0.0,0.0,0.1564374804536015,0.05423973513065463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379529120681927,0.0,0.047654707521238786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561773677594443,0.07615618859283155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719681308885243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154680944469424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21209111743046752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230682540852035,0.06943842604763889,0.07550378917939482,0.0,0.06005800697875209,0.06689611627186809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721886130431131,0.0,0.0,0.07037677363617248,0.0,0.0,0.10828075821778772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050642753868685,0.0,0.0,0.06628140863655774,0.0,0.1057527771627883,0.11305072576577427,0.12293602135537612,0.0,0.0,0.08165388901883422,0.0,0.045062051581752346,0.06909492324790842,0.055830976641597266,0.08201529485945559,0.0,0.06666081082658773,0.13439898493989014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060739071310334285,0.0,0.0,0.041480088066421436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323150637196702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808714121152567,0.0,0.0,0.05119815469544145,0.0,0.0,0.09991512405804696,0.0,0.0,0.13586288593422596
parenting,psilocyborg10,2019/02/22,"AITA? Kind of sick of giant, extended family parties plus classmates so we downsized this year to a school-friends-only party and family members seem upset... For context my son is 9. Every year we have a ridiculously big party with every aunt, uncle, cousin, family friend, and some classmates. I always feel as though they’re extremely impersonal, chaotic, and not to mention expensive. My son ends up with so many gifts and I feel terrible because most of them sit in his closet never touched. As he gets older he is showing more interest in hanging out with school friends and so I thought it would be good to do a mini-party plus sleepover with his classmates (just boys). This way it will be casual, he can be attentive to his guests, and maybe I will have time to actually speak to the parents that come. I did think it would be nice to invite his male cousins closer in age but obviously I was concerned this would lead to hurt feelings with other family.  So we stuck with the classmates only party. I prepared him with the reality we may only get 4 friends to attend and it will be very small, and we will see immediate family outside of this party. He was happy with this plan and got very excited. We ended up getting 3 RSVPs and he was content with that. 

Now I have close family members who are sort of rolling their eyes at me or making comments about how they feel like distant relatives not being at his party, and how sad it is that only a few are coming. I tried to explain it wasn’t meant to exclude, and we’d be happy to arrange a time to see each other another day. But I picked up on some things being said behind my back, too.

Am I the jerk here? I feel really badly that people are feeling left out but I didn’t even think most adults had fun at those sorts of things. I honestly didn’t think anyone would care. 
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parenting,beanbeankk,2019/02/22,"AM I IN THE WRONG ABOUT HOW I FEEL ABOUT MY BOYFRIENDS MOM? Okay I dont know who else to talk to about this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for six years so we’re basically like engaged. His mom... well I don’t even know where to begin with her she is very defensive. anything you say to her she always feels like you’re trying to fight with her. she complains about everything. she works a regular 9-to-5 job and acts like she’s a brain surgeon and that it is the hardest most tiring job in the world when all she does is take x-rays of old people. she comes home every day and says shes so she’s tired and hungry but doesn’t make any food for herself and just takes mine if I order out or will make my boyfriend cook her something. I never want to say anything to my boyfriend because he’s a mommy‘s boy and I don’t want him to get upset and it to cause a fight between us but I’m starting to get really annoyed. The worst part of it all is she is dead broke because she let an abusive man move into her home with her three kids four years ago she let him buy a car run up all her credit cards and put her $100,000 in debt and now she’s dead broke. she had everything before this. she made $80,000 a year. when my boyfriends dad and her got divorced he gave her everything a house with no mortgage a car and $350,000 she now had to take a second mortgage out, get a new car because the man who she is no longer with and hasn’t been with for two years now crashed the brand new car he bought on her credit card in her name while he was drunk driving. she does things that are her fault and blames everyone else she’s weirdly obsessed with my mom and my step dad and always asks questions about them and I’m convinced she has a thing for my stepdad. she acts like a little kid. my boyfriend has to do everything for her he pays for things when he has no money himself because we are in college he buys her things because she cries that she has no money and today I just had enough. my boyfriend replaced her whole shower because it wasn’t working and she didn’t have the money to pay for a plumber. WHY SHOULD HER KIDS HAVE TO PAY FOR HER MISTAKES?? Im just so sick of him getting used. The worst part of it all she has no money but yet still finds a way to order clothes and stupid workout diets that come shipped to the house every day. Do I tell my boyfriend how I really feel? I am starting to resent her. ",2.8342170329670324,4.134140910714288,3.2634920634920626,94.68236263736263,74.41666666666666,5.962881562881563,24.431013431013433,6.02186152331457,0.37885354090354095,1905,58,429,10,39,590,221,504,0.211,0.743,0.046,-0.9984,6,0,1,0,3,0,36.0,2,1,1,2,24,27,6,2,24,1,38,9,1,7,5,67,67,34,2,5,8,5,3,4,0,2,4,3,3,6,17,33,4,1,7,3,13,13,13,17,1,5,12,6,78,10,52,51,11,54,0,2,0,0,87,13,0,4,29,275,95,10,0.0,0.09090048042543904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800752063128855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767412711140794,0.0,0.0,0.05217213084351184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626780404946447,0.0,0.07172270609164871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806062616312366,0.0,0.06528294417834787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564472867365214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881242243827129,0.0,0.13217472015697074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427315598148727,0.0989559165584816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427612064927874,0.0,0.08991509628060114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817918533049258,0.0,0.0,0.07927211660927137,0.0,0.050672739312915945,0.0,0.12927957002509974,0.07330910725311869,0.2758034276358827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637558847921635,0.05480867827856931,0.0,0.0,0.07012055570119773,0.0,0.0927699507210121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033182668995594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06135987489800665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391253573149125,0.0,0.0,0.17704881940495118,0.0,0.0,0.08287060638149221,0.0,0.15226523197555447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432644957033601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690249514585994,0.0,0.14992577953239894,0.07689344768688414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259417987203133,0.10242219517034053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695600936160413,0.0,0.08154106220443709,0.0,0.0,0.05917108022582601,0.14819302410624552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050458000520462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661602489047842,0.0,0.053187886106853335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712464238276731,0.0859437934699075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829740465087644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830321191315859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906269099567279,0.0,0.0,0.10860541358929574,0.0,0.061268573670886825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305134455016993,0.06166451170678632,0.06705653304482706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387704516598049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635637004506094,0.07272144998195951,0.0,0.0,0.0520877441312908,0.0,0.0749441485038872,0.0,0.09228453683543293,0.06626132027910181,0.0,0.0633019134387442,0.09050271402838717,0.06089664825842848,0.0,0.0,0.06898036148817624,0.0,0.06922773427979957,0.08565497599749015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170593335681922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388111551919976,0.0,0.19762027976872987
parenting,curious_scotsman,2019/02/22,"Looking for advice r.e Sibling Abuse. Any comments/advice really appreciated. Hi folks,

Really need some impartial advice on this one.

A bit of background - My wife and I live with our 5 kids full time and my oldest from a previous relationship stays each weekend. He, Son1, has just turned 15. My wife has a son from a previous relationship at 13, Son2, who for all intents and purposes is my son as much as any of my kids. Together we had 3 girls, Girl1-10, Girl2-9, and Girl3-8. And finally, to complete the set our third son, Son3 at 6. Chaotic household but I wouldn't change it for the world.

Tonight started out like any other Fridad; I collected my eldest and came back to make some macaroni and cheese. Son2 went swimming with his mates, so I left Son1 and the others in the living room playing various video games as they do, so I decided to chill, have a bong or two since it's Friday and went upstairs to watch Luther.

About 30 minutes later, Girl2, the 9 year old came up and dropped the bombshell that ""Son1 had been touching her privates and told her to keep it a secret"". My world just imploded. Our family is tight night, open and honest. I'm SUPER proud of my little angel for standing up to him, feeling she can trust us enough and speak to us about it right away. She truly is a little warrior. I had all sorts of images in my head of what transpired. How far it went, how long etc.

Confronted him right away, and he was a mess. Completely honest about it and faced it without trying to lie or obfuscate. He completely broke down, saying he didn't know what came over him etc. One thing that gave me slight hope was how he reacted. Didn't seem ""upset only because he was caught"", talking about how he has broken Girl2's trust, hurt her, hurt his Step-mum, betrayed them. No thought for the consequences (just then) and only concerned with damage he caused.

After discussion, I found out that it's the first time he tried it with her, he (fuck this is difficult to write, I'm trying to be lighthearted, somehow that makes it better? I still don't feel like it's real) rubbed her vagina and she told him to stop, he then tried to do it again and that's when she said she was coming to tell me. When I came down he was in the toilet scrubbing his hands. Fucking lovely image. I've confirmed events with my daughter, and was only rubbing and not for long at all. Still, this kind of action and intent isn't a gradual scale, you either molest or you don't. There is no ""just a wee bit"". I still can't help feel relief it was only to this extent. 

This brings me to the other issue. I feel like I have two conflicting opinions, set of best options to deal with this. Girl2 is such a unique, little sweetheart, caring and artistic and the world is a better place a million times over and she'll do great things. And this has happened to her. My wife thinks I'm not treating it seriously enough. That I somehow value ""repairing"" Son1 over Girl2. Which hurts a lot. 

Her brother molested his 9 year old niece few years ago over months, so we've had to deal with shit like this before, albeit from another perspective. Due to this she's really messed up right now - her younger brother was grooming his niece, and another unrelated girl. That's a lot to deal with. Now her step son of 13 years did it to our daughter.

I feel exactly the same rage and hurt as her r.e Girl2. I'm broken. But I also feel sorrow, apologetic and just want to take all Son1's pain away to myself. I've had to speak to my ex, who is just concerned about Son1, doesn;t seem too angry. 

Not sure how to deal with this. I believe it was the first time, he totally regrets it and realises how he fucked up. He obviously can't come up for a while, until Girl2 feels safe, and trusts him some more. Wife just wants justice I guess? I'm completely lost.

Sorry for wall of text, but that was quite cathartic actually. Thanks for reading, it means a lot.

TL;DR 15 year old son touched 9 year old's vagina, she told on him right away, he tried to stop her from doing so. Fuck knows what to do. No pattern of this behaviour at all, and a stand up kid usually. He was my hero.",3.1556537723785136,5.007769118872552,3.8733994032395564,88.3557864450128,74.72303921568627,6.9363171355498725,23.83589087809037,7.7425588080867325,1.0902506606990618,3235,98,658,45,69,1027,362,816,0.142,0.723,0.135,-0.7949,0,0,0,0,1,0,131.0,7,2,2,10,37,51,9,1,31,0,48,12,6,12,9,134,105,58,0,6,18,14,13,4,2,2,1,4,1,5,48,51,0,6,17,7,0,14,15,24,0,8,36,19,75,27,99,66,28,110,1,9,2,7,104,44,5,18,50,411,123,1,0.0,0.06273269214238418,0.05166793842628525,0.0,0.0,0.15521549636094598,0.04693368874578045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234112650954524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801587210431088,0.11103759658491164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897911773247606,0.04071242645125805,0.0,0.03227556506806484,0.0,0.045053390478480164,0.05965233436199509,0.055563861581246085,0.09365337626750088,0.1156072646659485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422257886735288,0.053982268185436916,0.05439042137814667,0.056010151119153716,0.0912170759692987,0.2220526979015772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183411877446027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941533561648566,0.1180982112375166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049913047195858117,0.0,0.18739863462220147,0.07564967588924291,0.0,0.05800006931116845,0.0,0.0900721691887805,0.0,0.058052870754007564,0.0,0.19579195631698404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058373468230379415,0.0583263042438274,0.0,0.0468202266529388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054338165369420516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03548878005308192,0.0,0.0,0.05258760950648388,0.0,0.0,0.2267203807749424,0.0,0.0,0.055262167652387784,0.0,0.04706109253674644,0.0,0.05513541021817369,0.058195789236728024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057526295641819686,0.0,0.0,0.10346752544754237,0.1591982669045787,0.09350508271740464,0.0937115955781734,0.04446154613770922,0.0,0.057797126622983426,0.1350391192503418,0.04778609109347605,0.0,0.07068411528846025,0.0,0.0,0.05767402817621841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042261221071111466,0.0,0.038921612953562564,0.03925900086063299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496865035811884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222328863337928,0.0,0.07175554853599496,0.16107214817148238,0.05633858225848357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055317600773762236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056314893411519885,0.05296061492290522,0.06026446591608434,0.10175624147691092,0.0,0.0,0.11368899508404245,0.0,0.18086335889558489,0.050364043425051436,0.042105012455785386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640062215101793,0.0,0.0,0.05434860265014388,0.043797715660251514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592690334146097,0.037475654384918435,0.056433697113873,0.12684891934926745,0.0885309332619598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049901248815082434,0.0,0.039809018506402186,0.04255621984512285,0.046277388457668635,0.04874582742480808,0.0,0.0,0.07035032075428456,0.03392584277182743,0.0,0.04203343764551125,0.12349362270996515,0.0,0.0,0.15177733830510842,0.0,0.17973526661719846,0.0575903562444142,0.10344165782102396,0.0,0.1273757280864616,0.0,0.05831285483158966,0.0,0.06245818361598195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724521522328302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051038331184468884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045740371305141
parenting,owlpee,2019/02/22,"I hate elementary math. Conversions.
Shoot me now. I swear to God I fucking hate this shit!! 21 more problems to go?! FUCK that! Take this “F” and shove it up everybody’s ass! I’m going to bed! Fucking bullshit! I HATE helping my kid with homework. HATE IT! ",-0.9776666666666678,0.02966770000000452,1.1389999999999991,94.31783333333335,122.0,4.066666666666666,22.16666666666667,5.985473137389443,0.7012666666666667,195,9,40,3,12,64,38,50,0.5429999999999999,0.397,0.06,-0.9902,0,0,0,1,0,1,13.0,0,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,11,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,0,5,11,1,4,0,0,0,4,3,1,5,0,1,19,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5282639441656152,0.0,0.0,0.2164988687514911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7522053271285404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766913940778551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822556558312665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19551642288016588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14321098459228693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mnkers,2019/02/22,"Joint Custody With A Jerk Okay so I need some advice or maybe some kind words to keep my self at ease- for at least 5 seconds. 

As the title states; this is about sharing custody with my ridiculous ex. He is a narcissist by all means. He is the type who thinks that he can do anything and everything but if I do it, I’m incorrect or just a bad parent in general. A real catch, am I right? 

Here’s a little background to get you up to speed. We share custody. 50/50 to be exact. We live about an hour and 15 minutes from each other. I (her mother) handle all transportation, pay child support, and am responsible for her everyday needs. I do not have any help from a babysitter, family or my significant other. My family lives 14+ hours from me, my boyfriend lives 3. So generally I have no help in her upbringing. Her dad, on the other hand, has his girlfriend, his family, his girlfriends family and decided to enroll her in a head start. Which, by definition is a “program for families with low incomes.” It is not school, and I was not asked my opinion when she was enrolled. 

Backing up a little, for nearly a year, i had been responsible for transporting her to and from my house and to and from her “school”. I had to leave at 6:45am to bring her there to get her there by 9. Be back at my house around 11, to have to turn around and pick her up not even an hour later. Make no mistake, this was fine with me. Because I would do anything in the world to see my daughter. We went by a schedule that worked in everyone’s favor. It worked out so she could attend dance class, see her sister, and it was less driving on my car. (Which had been acting up). One day, I had an argument with her dad about the fact that my car was having issues. He was through the roof angry at me. Even though I mentioned it to him a month before hand. My transmission was slipping and my car wouldn’t even start at one point. To which I told him I couldn’t make her for her to go to school. He then went on into his rage fits by saying that she wasn’t going to turn out a loser like me. (Because I didn’t finish high school). This was over one day. Because she didn’t go to something I’m not legally obligated to go to. 


As time went by, I was no longer able to take her to school because my car quit completely. I tried to change the schedule around to accommodate this, and he wasn’t having. So I had to do the only thing that was practical— not take her to headstart unless I could borrow a car. 

Later, I was threatened that if I did not take her, I wouldn’t see her at all. When I reminded him that he could not legally do that, he told me that he was taking me to court to make it so I only saw her two weekends out of every month and that because he “gave me custody he could take it away” all over something that is not even legally an obligation. It is not real school. He had every opportunity to drive her and take her to school but he declined because he didnt want to take the drive. He never wants to do anything unless it’s of his control and he doesn’t care about her wellbeing, he only cares about being in control to the point where he literally told me I couldn’t take her to a doctor because I suspected that she had some mental heath issues. (Because he provides no consistency for her at all.). 



Not to mention, her dad constantly ignores her and let’s her have whatever she wants to the point that she is almost unbearable every time she’s told no here. He has that girl so backwards calling someone else mom and the whole nine yards. So I’m asking for advice. Am I wrong for wanting what’s best for my daughter? For not letting him control me? What does everyone think? ",3.5071511056511038,4.7329166905405415,4.502948402948405,86.74269041769043,72.63513513513513,7.381818181818183,25.886977886977892,7.814691822520688,1.3164918918918922,2861,92,597,37,55,931,283,740,0.099,0.825,0.076,-0.9358,2,0,2,0,0,0,88.0,3,1,0,9,30,21,3,0,31,1,69,4,3,7,8,103,121,39,0,18,22,10,2,1,2,3,1,1,1,3,37,33,0,5,5,3,2,22,28,9,0,6,36,7,99,12,108,71,13,94,0,2,4,0,99,44,0,10,28,428,136,17,0.0528734294684021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333460668489204,0.0,0.0,0.05294510206154189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0359557451456664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305309820330089,0.1412056861346647,0.09885903832925633,0.0,0.049676327472429824,0.0813128071583491,0.04414710508149143,0.25784921480406703,0.0,0.04499139416551843,0.0,0.05548740219571773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05398968309104711,0.0,0.1078159703447761,0.0,0.055933077611012835,0.0,0.05543678483852736,0.057137393625400684,0.17790614120332748,0.16886052432162504,0.0,0.0,0.06819797579486968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054118195499949666,0.04626989443555222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044168965750566835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968960601075994,0.0,0.13364443421832822,0.10104565539619934,0.04751922910778665,0.0,0.24922181844045896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055248369253832495,0.0,0.12019675374221266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05426339261935149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087989049722054,0.05586368118608343,0.0,0.0,0.15620903245521253,0.12201767736801593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037224683354904,0.0,0.046996333498852884,0.0,0.0550595404088018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598532748650464,0.0,0.10813332783177453,0.0,0.025831286898178773,0.1059861333513107,0.14006462072019646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588027421720056,0.0,0.05311846657295432,0.05759466506807932,0.0,0.0,0.053283980940818716,0.0,0.0,0.06192472156301108,0.08440613391947457,0.0,0.0,0.07840995598805603,0.04077924834956522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748521254869754,0.12063787703610387,0.0,0.0,0.058709686276144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994744315108993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05623740055872304,0.0,0.1203630764037658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04515361987050495,0.0,0.04204707329733929,0.0,0.37457513379791263,0.12639983322097914,0.0,0.05515851820203633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044799485207813225,0.08140909833364622,0.0,0.0,0.07484817103156596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060000141182255835,0.0,0.0,0.3180339102460159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035126757133167506,0.06775831733568492,0.051947875999640736,0.0,0.061661843839763475,0.0,0.0,0.20209131079239867,0.0,0.03589758790598222,0.11502221654828372,0.051649657780842885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474447441513682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704259650029344,0.0,0.05903129578244806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698497274500488,0.0,0.0,0.03755976728155106,0.05780879491368565,0.0,0.034048755054171806
parenting,im_not_a_dude,2019/02/22,"Has anyone had an arrangement where the kids stay at the main house and the parents rotate staying at a second house? My (very recently) ex and I were discussing a plan where he would rent a second house and stay here (where I and the kids live) every second weekend and I would stay at the house he'd rented while he stayed here. 

It's going to take awhile for him to get on his feet and at the moment all he's going to be able to afford is a small flat which wouldn't really be suitable for kids to stay at. At the moment he's staying with his mother which is not a suitable place for the kids at all.  To me it seems like a pretty good plan but I'm wondering if others have tried this arrangement and how did it work? ",3.842400000000002,4.41334844,4.577333333333332,88.96200000000002,71.26666666666667,7.333333333333332,22.33333333333333,7.1686216300943375,0.5477333333333334,566,11,123,5,10,182,81,150,0.0,0.955,0.045,0.6322,4,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,15,0,13,1,1,1,2,19,20,11,0,4,3,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,4,7,8,0,0,2,1,2,2,2,0,0,3,3,0,9,2,18,11,3,27,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,3,6,84,16,1,0.10343915591289214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723270628944637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715195015082428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054042689670768265,0.0,0.1175737121231601,0.0867598563422222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774195916662413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053514666545636,0.0,0.09133866976427064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485694144247405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080719020269035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10523480861122607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626577198876303,0.0,0.1021336874712301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416712264009487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7717666402985873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077773372084707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022839694033307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534813665290067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217535216855737,0.07530493745898655,0.0,0.0,0.1469604170922987,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Missingbabyblue,2019/02/22,"Wondering what’s normal baby behavior... and what’s not. My boy just turned 14 months. I’m beginning to be concerned about a few behaviors and I was hoping someone could tell me what to do, or if I’m worrying over nothing.

To start, he has NEVER answered to his name. But it was always easy to get his attention until the last two weeks. He points, makes it clear what he wants, claps, follows commands, and I have to be careful what i say around him because he hears very clearly if I say “Sesame Street” across the room — he will point at the TV and whine. He didn’t babble much until December, when he started walking. The last week or so has been a language explosion and he has been mimicking things we say, and answering questions like “what does the cow say?” with “mooo”, etc. He says “hat”, “home”, “fishes”, “out” and he is using them correctly. All great things!

However, something has changed. This morning he ignored me completely, even after i removed all distractions from the room (because I couldn’t get his attention). He just babbled to himself and ignored me no matter what i did, even clapping loudly. I called my mom to come over and he was still ignoring me after he woke from his nap, but at some point during the day he started to sort of pay attention. This has been happening for like a week or two. He responds to all commands (mostly!), he just doesnt look at me much. He still makes eye contact here and there during the day and he seems very... busy? He will play next to me but not with me.

My sister came over today too, with my mom, and he built a tower out of blocks (I taught him that a few days ago), and we all clapped. He looked at us all and clapped, smiling, and we all clapped back and forth with him while he looked each of us in the eye with a big smile. That’s something he used to do all the time but now that was the only instance it happened in the whole day. He used to look at me while playing and now he just plays by himself, talking to himself (I think), and not really responding to what I say. During his diaper changes he will look at me and respond to me. But the biggest thing is when I rock him to sleep for his naps (he sleeps on his own at night but naps are a challenge), he used to look at me in the eye and if I smiled, he would get a huge smile on his face and it would wake him up and I would laugh about how I ruined the nap and rock him more. Now he avoids my eyes during this time and doesn’t respond to me...

I’m so sorry that this became such a vent! I am a very worried FTM and I have no friends with children. I am hoping I’m just super anxious and looking for issues where there aren’t any but it’s so hard to know. My pediatrician said if I’m truly concerned I can contact early intervention and I think i will, I just can’t calm my anxious mind.",3.877103780812039,4.657283620386647,4.492267135325132,88.8411729980623,71.31985940246045,7.452769140642602,27.24352214861881,7.516190064127842,1.286707412915146,2176,72,470,23,39,694,247,569,0.064,0.818,0.118,0.9887,3,1,2,0,0,0,76.0,5,0,1,2,29,21,0,2,25,0,39,8,8,7,11,114,83,51,0,13,23,3,1,2,1,7,0,9,3,2,24,42,0,5,11,10,1,5,12,7,0,2,13,21,64,14,62,59,18,72,0,2,11,0,79,31,0,15,38,309,88,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179418259348723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05800474895975455,0.0,0.0,0.0474055538227051,0.0,0.0,0.1575061229637696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062057155048147135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536030979278001,0.0,0.0849897893995509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711822496592565,0.07973028017901744,0.07107453571633847,0.0,0.1474890040752216,0.06004945273556411,0.07309016895001755,0.0,0.0,0.05565818926731241,0.0,0.0,0.17983011054537354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061004158366046876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774567292914335,0.0920863009428367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053858185901428435,0.0,0.10926263097880376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685611020223697,0.0,0.0,0.1232895905766738,0.0,0.062446946218239416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856883860091096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992534978581966,0.13847657965264126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275968647852267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0383110865815952,0.113646779245385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811409172027356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40977504255268216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306464595725827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038776743708901,0.16328827057364778,0.05564228342752575,0.0,0.10249052746367457,0.0,0.053765061595942715,0.0,0.07413794411220358,0.06541861415067125,0.0683015226987206,0.06688913779628185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301800263743738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19769696214271745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780917524585221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044658353334142635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631068170267672,0.3326196892667348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346185231244297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952175689493865,0.0,0.059065509521346614,0.10733315015663633,0.0,0.07803523590059094,0.1480244249977221,0.0,0.1113418455346376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056030686908974975,0.06093007962345622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893774436996995,0.08933539122550732,0.0,0.0,0.0812975463339954,0.0,0.06607743550910877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582504347074694,0.13619412541359344,0.0,0.16770637914244133,0.2408300779798491,0.0,0.17255547450811834,0.04111707928742903,0.0,0.16775275730262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782932207639555,0.0,0.0,0.07559810083212809,0.0,0.14158886289059827,0.0,0.14856109049224764,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubbatoot,2019/02/22,Tacky or Good Idea? Fidelity (investing website) has a 529 college savings account and you can give people access to put money in for your kid. Is it tacky to mention this account on birthday invitations for a two year old in lieu of gifts? ,6.061333333333334,7.183411577777778,6.517777777777781,75.05000000000003,66.55555555555556,8.666666666666668,37.22222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.4798888888888886,191,10,32,3,3,62,39,45,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.504,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,8,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,2,20,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36627622534576737,0.0,0.3202522292148702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4310279393542472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006555213518744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264705688003934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838342340391912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37298234323011176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458793531229059
parenting,raseleanerose,2019/02/22,"Do you let your SO change or give baths to your kids? So, I have a 2 year old daughter and I'm 6 months pregnant with another little girl. My (27f) SO (37m) helps on weekends and nights on changing diapers. He's always helped since the beginning. I don't see a problem with it. In showering, we sometimes take turns and it's every other day. We live in a 1 floor, 2 bedroom 1 bath type of house. 

So, anyways, my mom(65) always has the weirdest concerns saying she doesn't want him changing her, or bathing her. That she ""'hears'"" that men like to stick their pinky up little girls and stuff like that. Pretty much she assumes ALL men get turned on by looking at vaginas, even if it is a kid. 

She goes to give me an example about one of my uncle's wife daughters and how that daughter was abused by uncle's or some relatives by the wife. I don't leave my daughter with strangers. She also goes on to say how my dad never changed me or bathed me. She is always with me, when I had a job, she would stay a day with my mom and the other day with my husband. 

It pisses me off that she just always assumes the worst of my SO. I am pretty sure if my daughter was being abused, she would cry, be in pain down there, probably bleed. 

Anyways, my question is, are you okay with your male SO changing your daughters diaper or giving her baths?  ",4.055222222222223,4.679030596296297,4.638518518518519,88.52333333333334,70.81481481481481,7.185185185185183,27.592592592592588,6.937597516519254,1.187259259259259,1031,34,219,8,18,329,150,270,0.08199999999999999,0.82,0.098,0.5598,2,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,2,6,1,0,16,8,1,0,12,1,19,4,2,2,3,36,32,23,0,6,8,11,0,2,0,2,2,3,7,7,12,15,0,0,3,6,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,5,42,4,29,24,4,26,0,0,2,1,50,14,1,11,13,148,54,2,0.0,0.2263363954098472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07638232653886053,0.31790042893335074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001545147662402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052045144936879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491739023484656,0.18479543799025105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308594359430117,0.0,0.0804744698341199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04990200210251762,0.2748765315210775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765095936090786,0.0,0.12804173199639404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021006546977254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478267768853972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011352902419972,0.0,0.0976693000298669,0.0,0.09332640586594217,0.19145977775508494,0.08434040789578268,0.0,0.08020751017919939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22372914367392568,0.076238179139067,0.0,0.07021361014964855,0.0,0.07366610686840966,0.0,0.0,0.08963320190021458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022563339094513,0.0,0.06472260177130428,0.0,0.10163338440780106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943436817289257,0.10297999761373387,0.09139377749009467,0.0,0.0,0.10699728060173933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191276545727087,0.0,0.0,0.07611210766145379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900997670582352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094465559794213,0.0,0.0,0.10180496921297656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934041400410516,0.0,0.0,0.09002059689723384,0.0,0.07181446743184945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20778310634500866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056336495616201326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357004821078237,0.0,0.0,0.06150773567614485
parenting,sarsarahgo,2019/02/22,"Am I toxic to my family? I am a 16yr old women and I feel like when ever I start talking to someone in my family especially my mom I just get pissed off at them. I start wondering why the heck is it even necessary for them to say what ever they said. Also I’m constantly giving attitude and never in a good mood when I’m at home. It’s like I’m a totally different person at home than school. At school I’m super outgoing happy and cheerful where as at home I am dull and try avoiding everyone and easily angered. I get it might be because I am going through puberty but I’m really hurting my mom and I don’t know what’s wrong with me I feel so sorry. All she is doing is being nice and caring for me then I just burst. 

    Any ideas on how I can better myself because my mom just takes the hits I wish she would fight back,”. I kinda just release all my anger on her. :(

If you were my parent what would you do?",1.1848416810592963,2.9789038601036317,3.8766407599309134,86.36645221646519,80.34715025906735,7.190443293033968,21.08491652274036,8.167268648758528,1.107030166954519,707,20,151,14,18,250,113,193,0.158,0.6940000000000001,0.14800000000000002,-0.6078,2,1,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,2,3,2,14,18,4,1,5,0,17,1,1,1,6,32,37,16,0,4,6,4,2,2,0,3,0,2,3,2,6,8,0,1,5,0,0,1,2,8,0,0,2,4,33,9,19,29,3,23,0,2,0,0,19,11,2,4,13,108,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609474917739097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171533599215035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239835428929023,0.0,0.1465011720495938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627489681943723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251474981745658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985411090494678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554533640599694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936689285353422,0.2173896246830568,0.0,0.1148214234998638,0.0,0.0,0.22655900522079805,0.0,0.1215166048758516,0.08584486560943178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125560992778909,0.11527182856813775,0.06829171581217013,0.10078748635615496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791633561189455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616015207935505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863756777384727,0.13565002393048334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603874566992186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741168369298652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274745394588009,0.0,0.4222022996526629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267753920526638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609143421348962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334274041773562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049221787442454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697984842037219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430305519619313,0.09555887961879067,0.0,0.24322385984371855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181418772440734,0.0,0.0,0.13451325860872793,0.17010476126871515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034803661892277,0.09658291144032463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158316411358363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842891549929154,0.0,0.13818215462967912,0.0,0.13031224638719555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707214794611948,0.13137998059935865,0.0,0.0
parenting,blonder34,2019/02/22,Book on tantrums and proper discipline What is a great parenting book that discusses dealing with tantrums? My 14 month old has started throwing himself on the floor and screaming when he doesn't get his way and I want to nip it as soon as possible before it gets worse. TIA! ,3.8780769230769216,6.456706038461545,3.669846153846154,87.27515384615386,75.15384615384616,7.236923076923077,31.55384615384615,8.238735603445708,2.5177261538461546,222,11,41,4,5,67,45,52,0.17600000000000002,0.6729999999999999,0.151,-0.1429,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,7,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,4,1,6,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,24,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25828558040899513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31293083497645396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171685915506277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346479579504933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24227841450375795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185084930517433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370392422088025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421896442394333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148433456664922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903256597581696,0.2409316298208147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093276797313359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lucyloves,2019/02/22,"Hey ADHD peeps. Can I ask you for tips to help be what my son needs? Hi all, I’m the mom of a very smart and rambunctious eight-year-old boy diagnosed with ADHD. He has a kind heart, but I know he struggles with frustration and even at this young age he tends to be extremely hard on himself when he doesn’t succeed academically. Especially since he knows the material, he just can’t seem to stay focused on it. He is medicated in the mornings only, and it seems to be working really well for him. But I want to know ways to help him keep up his self-esteem. I was Hoping those of you with ADHD could tell me what things your parents did that helped you feel like they get it—Like they understand you, and what things stand out to you to help me be what he needs me to be. 

There’s a lot of love in our household, I’m happy to say he is affectionate and caring. 

When he reads at his own pace he actually loves it, it’s when he has to answer questions for school like  reading comprehension type stuff, that’s when he struggles. Even forming a sentence he has a lot of nonsense word fillings. Ie. “ I (pauses) nuh, was (pause), um uh, I saw this (pause), nuh, um, cool drawing, nuh, with a dragon (pauses) a dragon that has uh- (pauses) nuh wings made out of (pause) of spider webs.” 

When reading out loud  he is smooth as silk.  When taking about something more that he KNOWS he talks much smoother, but memory recall? Oh boy. Smiles and nods and patience to get it out of him. (The teachers don’t seem to have that patience, but that’s another rant) 

I’ve learned to ask him to do things like go pick up your clothes and come back and see me, rather than go clean your room, one task seems to be less overwhelming than the entire room. Kind of think I get that.

I’m a little bit old-fashioned, he’s outside playing with the boys in the neighborhood, old fashion Nerf, riding his bikes, walkie-talkies and hiding, hide and go seek. We try to do that every night after school, before homework, because I feel like he actually does his best for me after he’s just gotten to be social and play like a little boy should. We arent against electronics or TV, but he does get them in very small doses. I’m not sure why but it seems like if he watches too much TV, he starts to develop tics. He starts to make little hooting noises, he starts to shrug shoulders, he starts to smack his lips,. It always seems to come out after he uses electronics for a while. So we tend to limit them.

He’s harder on himself then I think we ever are. I can tell he really cares about how well he does. If he comes home with a low behavior grade, he acts very defeated and sad. I feel like I have to be very careful about balancing consequences versus self-esteem. We tend to let the punishment stay at school, and start over at night. Working on building him back up.

These are just a few things I’ve sort of “figured out” but there is stuff I learned by accident.  So is there is any helpful tips actual ADHD teens/young adults could share, I’m working to be his best advocate! 

ADHD/TLDR version -Mom wants helpful tips to help provide the right type of environment for her 8yo ADHD son, to help where someone like me might not  be able to understand using my typical (non ADHD brain) rationale. ",3.344479638009048,4.991087773993809,4.050665634674922,88.148177542272,73.73684210526315,7.0744939271255065,24.342581567039772,7.748469712250963,1.1039496070492976,2546,77,526,34,52,810,297,646,0.061,0.7509999999999999,0.188,0.9983,2,0,1,0,0,0,97.0,6,8,4,8,28,37,2,3,21,1,40,9,4,7,3,98,101,36,0,11,17,5,6,8,0,2,3,2,5,5,29,34,0,2,23,8,0,9,6,8,6,1,6,12,53,29,85,80,14,68,0,4,3,2,95,31,0,15,32,294,82,17,0.051588723631172326,0.0,0.15102945750352256,0.0,0.4339973441741641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04292595074762032,0.0,0.0,0.03508210112190984,0.054095274830960265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645698525871704,0.0,0.0,0.07933708818100721,0.0,0.03144800709634158,0.0,0.04389820412109187,0.0,0.10827836535919318,0.0,0.056321524842963364,0.0,0.0,0.05759007698765,0.0,0.0,0.1577944258505297,0.0,0.0,0.1333173522914573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237879601368739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05236146855153859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543691909973776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814773082709809,0.04666495403456234,0.04346572466266824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825442620688669,0.11056498341007168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078119154049668,0.0,0.08795718150659355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05491715559380092,0.04621336331553332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061132885892959066,0.27663067205081565,0.0,0.05174769608948445,0.051239242859170836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045854427922055456,0.0,0.1074434339503752,0.11340725338405687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275296515583633,0.0,0.2016291561528536,0.1551163617672534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08771777600201518,0.09312167447075856,0.04881449766296887,0.03443587361681167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05197021164941452,0.0,0.054727483274279516,0.0,0.12084017922690732,0.0,0.0,0.07584729548706143,0.07650476978834139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682504482374972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240106188057096,0.0,0.03495785425914389,0.039235548998425865,0.0,0.0,0.057283172478585886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057791177100959615,0.0,0.15480805281733806,0.0,0.06609811472578933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04405648810502416,0.0,0.04102542365125757,0.0,0.1566316275157621,0.04110953351947972,0.2817866187411779,0.10763657965974707,0.0,0.0,0.04267472529086608,0.0,0.0,0.05258820702082065,0.04371095812095645,0.039715519848275226,0.0,0.0,0.18257382055923546,0.10997343058547282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786347010415527,0.11811349212740208,0.0,0.0,0.04862176149491378,0.0,0.03878829987476935,0.041465061908616735,0.09018163663736453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709302264081452,0.06611194208298746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03502535697280917,0.0,0.0,0.10741136134821264,0.0,0.08911218694422146,0.0,0.17026439921570372,0.060856731630811185,0.040948727560995234,0.0,0.0,0.0927689162021276,0.0,0.04655079896447553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267161566667948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03322144661573124
parenting,bluecaret,2019/02/22,"Kid peed on office chair, how to clean it? I know this isn't a cleaning sub, but hoping for some knowledge from experience!

I have a very expensive office chair that has a seat made from fabric and inside I'm guessing is some sort of foam. My child has issues with knowing when to use the bathroom (enuresis) and so while on the computer had peed on the chair a good amount. We used some upholstery cleaner and that got rid of the stains, but it very much still smells, most likely cause it soaked into the foam.

Any ideas on how to remove the smell?",5.167896825396827,5.855348990740744,4.95862433862434,86.99166666666667,68.35185185185185,7.652910052910053,25.61375661375661,7.447530270364453,1.077897883597884,433,11,88,4,7,133,74,108,0.0,0.888,0.112,0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,10,0,6,0,0,6,0,25,15,10,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,6,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,4,3,14,12,6,9,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,7,4,56,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205611397478067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448056981148469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23310879699459205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19987959637997066,0.19059491569887185,0.0,0.2625207024890982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366914271158459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690182383986261,0.0,0.24872933852500115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26193326785230264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642417523896187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254907073382581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751821807852562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19031131750518207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4116393905197361,0.0,0.39325448024427706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SkyFullOfStars5,2019/02/22,"Brother is obsessed with video games, abusive to entire household Hello everyone.

My little brother (13) has gone completely mad. He doesn't do anything but play video games all day. He has become abusive to my mother and occupies the TV for hours on end, not allowing me, my sister, my youngest brother, or my parents to chill and watch television or play video games.

It's gotten to the point in which he became abusive and became domestically violent when someone takes away the TV for themselves. He is aware of what he's doing and he's not autistic or abused. He's made the lives of every family member exhausting with his inconvieniences and abuse to the point where he sells his out his family for a few extra hours on the PlayStation. He stays up until 5 AM playing it nonstop and plays it all day as well.

My parents never listen to me. They don't solve their problems. They didn't raise us right. I practically raised myself. We've got other issues (such as me having severe ADD and depression diagnosed by my Harvard professor psychiatrist and still not believing it, my youngest brother having an eating disorder, and their financial bullshitting where they spend money on pointless things while we attend terrible schools for example).

My aunts and uncles are all open-minded, successful, solution-oriented people from upper class beginnings with backgrounds in parenting and education and yet I'm here with parents who don't know how to raise a child properly.

What do you think I should do with all of this?
Thank you.",7.380471014492753,8.665008858695654,7.149420289855076,71.11514492753625,63.67391304347826,10.336231884057973,34.53623188405797,10.380263240014207,3.90217536231884,1239,53,195,29,18,392,168,276,0.159,0.7490000000000001,0.092,-0.9757,4,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,2,2,5,1,9,14,2,1,9,0,17,3,0,3,5,39,28,22,0,2,7,11,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,11,20,1,0,2,12,3,2,8,7,1,0,5,2,27,7,32,22,6,30,0,1,1,0,39,15,0,3,12,132,38,4,0.0,0.6016746038766144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357726012916676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542128494157097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216777010234127,0.0,0.11442612590611098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648631876536216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099878376420396,0.0,0.08747560763925269,0.10308377041320653,0.0,0.0,0.11639939097587043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392376315491143,0.0,0.0,0.08995420416074147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855707623547637,0.09704729361303678,0.0,0.0,0.1914881180720286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08122878614147534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003715189598814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600483319334177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05581607809341582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179227757913084,0.08968152279636303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610086594444132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254914372429068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833123893119022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510924207185283,0.0,0.0,0.07041062963495531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19201872638593845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718156864443506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673379549239223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278664303433524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473668386842792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605355228046903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825208100177007,0.08110792070841348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076362338750559,0.0,0.0,0.0935050781493356,0.0,0.0,0.06747359299734056,0.06507713064374733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122167147818191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131685878757807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allie_cat_attack,2019/02/22,"Wally (4) keeps being sent home from daycare for ""wanting to play and run around"" too much. Oooook... I need parenting advice like stat. I have been getting calls to come pick up Walter (4) from prek because he's running around playing and not listening. The director says she can't get him under control. Yesterday I had to pick him up because of this. When I got there he was sitting quietly at the front desk. So, he was taken out of the class for who knows how long and his opportunity to learn was taken. His whole class went on a field trip to the children's museum and he couldn't go because he acted up the day prior. While the kids were at the museum he was placed in the three year old room and acted fine. As soon as his class came back (goodie bags in tow) he lost his shit and wouldn't calm down. So after a picked him up yesterday we went to the chikfila playground to get his energy out. (It's been raining, and they DON'T HAVE A PLAY AREA when it's raining). Today they call my husband to come get him. Same thing wouldn't calm down. First thing Walter asks is if can go to chikfila to play. I'm beginning to think he's doing this so he can go home. He's getting an attitude at home also. Just generally not listening and disobeying. Case in point, I told him not to mess with mine or Mitch's (DH) soap and shampoo while he's taking a bath. Went in there and he's squirted Mitch's soap in the tub. I made him put his PJs on and go straight to bed. He asked me if I'd tell him a story. Told him I would but he needed to get in the bedroom now. When we laid down to snuggle he started jumping on the bed so I firmly told him to lay down and stop. And he said ""get away and stop talking to me."" Sooo, that's what I did. He didn't get a story last night. I really don't know what to do about all this. He's starting kindergarten in August and this behavior can't continue. I'm at my wits end with him and this daycare (already am taking baby out starting first Monday in March because I saw and heard a teacher forcefully sit him down and yell at him because he was in her way.) I know my kid is not an angel. But we've been to family counseling and they've said he's a normal kid testing boundaries. No ADHD or autism, etc.",2.0426508620689674,3.7106817564655215,3.53141379310345,90.40496551724141,77.3405172413793,6.622758620689655,22.806896551724137,7.461004344511776,0.7991967241379307,1741,52,380,23,40,574,223,464,0.039,0.927,0.033,-0.6904,1,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,2,0,2,5,20,12,1,0,22,0,30,1,1,6,1,67,81,38,0,10,11,2,0,1,0,3,0,8,8,4,13,31,0,4,5,7,0,19,13,3,0,3,29,9,42,9,64,47,5,92,1,1,1,0,67,38,1,4,33,228,55,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070634832740054,0.08705333924860521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830808673177087,0.07124165827422456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861000031218958,0.1665658713486128,0.0,0.08369877869220167,0.06850126607049924,0.0,0.27152853109236635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193255285256787,0.10189010239249192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347857486771804,0.0,0.0,0.09991698593812164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745279063230761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890332886518214,0.0,0.0993539036553932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398189998442625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155219585191332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723480592520041,0.0,0.20251741630002665,0.0,0.0712498285770788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680801208842226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918330353725299,0.0,0.0,0.14687721625216282,0.07261658900413955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043522685259399695,0.0,0.0,0.07883788197047037,0.0,0.0,0.09724736877698384,0.0,0.0,0.08429487315893933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548810761787917,0.13211156877794386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360072583742123,0.08728489509519137,0.0,0.0,0.09348026759466052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891892756047188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307540766507293,0.0,0.08421461152182262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955555333146861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057070465369985765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694814600734277,0.0708443812502439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144500623549308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18916556903780732,0.0,0.0,0.1489589676534674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396244863849027,0.07160356659300368,0.0778646712099532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836892222338412,0.0570824041932549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444265660097604,0.2553750965238559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525449479077446,0.07071193930143828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477495090520785,0.0,0.09946080181452964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328379752255002,0.0,0.0,0.0573681541898555
parenting,hurricanelove2,2019/02/22,"Appropriate disapline for a child that isnt yours? Just after advice really, the child is nearly 4 and I have them 3-4 times a week overnight, I've never had to really discipline them apart from the odd telling off, but the child seems to be acting up a lot lately and it's becoming a problem. ",4.545508474576273,5.41370723728814,5.762500000000002,80.01968220338985,69.84745762711864,9.289830508474578,26.614406779661017,9.516144504307137,2.2203525423728814,233,7,46,5,4,78,45,59,0.1,0.9,0.0,-0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,1,9,6,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,8,4,1,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,5,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106006594077435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.351041842475432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35855016611550344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27022585030724083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24514655513522024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30414081407225085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072474262245691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893599303170802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778160887466025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534167759819786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549611795371793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Untriplet,2019/02/22,"5 year old doesn't care about our presence or lack there of. He doesn't notice people much in general. Normal? I have 5 year old triplets who are in kindergarten this year. Other than a NICU stay they have solely been in my care until they started preschool last year. One of the triplets, who I will refer to as Peter, has never been as affectionate as his brother or sister. We chalked it up to Peter being Peter and respected his body autonomy. If he didn't want to kiss then we didn't kiss. If he didn't want a hug then we didn't hug. 

When the triplets started school none of them cried but Peter wasn't as happy as his siblings either. They were separated for the first time and he didn't care. He walked into class, sat down, and got to work immediately. When I picked them up the other two came running to the car smiling while Peter just said that it was fine and asked if he could play his game when he got home. 

His teacher said that he still hasn't made any friends. Their birthday is coming up and I told them each to invite 5 friends. His siblings are having trouble narrowing it down while Peter can't name five kids in his class. We have them involved in swimming, karate, and will start tball this year. He does the same thing there. He waits for his turn, participates, and then wanders off the second he can. 

It goes to everything. His brother has a heart defect as a result of premature birth and he doesn't care when we are at the hospital. My daughter is always concerned but Peter ask for the tablet and plays his game. My husband travels for work and Peter never notices he's gone until someone mentions it. When I was in the hospital for chemo and my husband was traveling, my sister came to stay with the kids. Peter didn't mention my absence at any point over the 3 days. 

I don't know what this is all about. He is super intelligent. I know every parent thinks that but his teacher said she thinks he'll be eligible for gifted and talented in 3rd grade. My other two are smart but Peter has an interesting mind. Maybe he's more of a thinker than a talker? Or maybe I ruined him and don't realize? ",3.9725,5.464331047619049,4.503511904761903,86.15169642857144,71.85714285714286,6.9642857142857135,25.744047619047624,7.413659706084162,1.1850476190476191,1680,53,334,18,32,533,199,420,0.103,0.81,0.087,-0.1852,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,0,8,4,11,23,0,0,19,0,41,6,2,3,3,59,71,41,0,8,12,8,0,0,2,3,0,3,1,2,18,24,0,1,7,7,0,10,17,3,0,6,24,3,42,20,49,41,8,61,0,1,0,4,70,19,0,6,30,222,60,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794123602512537,0.0,0.0,0.12980271393608958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784439652170021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601050201894777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21831211568220246,0.3892230712980128,0.0,0.0,0.08221169574987552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761997639209674,0.0,0.10483455612697884,0.06154984625724521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351875127242248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041093383784785,0.0,0.0857738433364793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117981956987592,0.0,0.0,0.1474708791258021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266154860398412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159590802379227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309491515454854,0.0,0.0,0.0957324558328704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490085256107223,0.07779500072563893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030608306586116,0.0,0.0,0.19176131918167028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636553636106332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015817528090185,0.0,0.1472158923866814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350932852107174,0.0,0.21731440899149707,0.20029300701372726,0.0,0.06467150214935789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597300350898683,0.0,0.0,0.06616494145026641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022009783571797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723512042539559,0.0,0.0,0.09658871470821127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086461203008509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20265528555359744,0.20344918483148455,0.07621719692960723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340500508593383,0.12230609387015777,0.0,0.0,0.05565087473697733,0.0,0.0,0.09119544212434692,0.0,0.0,0.10380952898087344,0.18645881837973008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258403394239924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896052430722494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30729587123501223
parenting,pharmazy,2019/02/22,"For the SAHPs out there, what is something amazing your working spouse could do for you? I work, my husband stays at home with our infant and does an amazing job. Cooks, cleans, does laundry, takes care of the baby, is basically amazing.

I want to surprise him with something special to show how much I appreciate him. Any suggestions?",5.372500000000002,7.7029312500000024,5.020000000000003,80.44500000000002,69.83333333333334,6.8000000000000025,33.66666666666667,7.554174236665415,2.5110666666666663,265,13,44,3,5,81,48,60,0.0,0.6729999999999999,0.327,0.9711,1,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,2,2,6,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,0,7,7,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,6,9,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,30,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799942442891927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269863050061875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21132869269162535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632536273982197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654997036513446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262658098469893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457324669825124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4075334574061892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28211800173165585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990094806169244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15611752246157584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853863112758035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kodakopp,2019/02/22,"2 1/2 year old daughter has started to stutter. Hey everyone thanks in advance for your sincere replies. Our youngest of two has developed a stutter recently. She was very much a late bloomer with most things including talking, not to the point of concern but just took her sweet time. While on vacation the last couple of weeks, we noticed her beginning to stutter with the first word of her sentences. She repeats the first syllable a handful of times before sticking the rest of the word and carrying on. Is this just her mouth/brain moving faster than the other or is there cause for concern? She has an older sister who is pretty good at not interrupting her and only “translating” when necessary. Thanks!",6.802012248468943,8.538640102362205,5.98734908136483,77.26970253718285,65.29921259842521,9.109011373578305,36.945756780402455,9.444778638647367,3.727448643919512,571,29,93,11,9,173,90,127,0.039,0.792,0.16899999999999998,0.9597,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,1,0,3,4,8,0,0,11,0,7,1,1,1,0,15,12,6,0,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,3,2,2,11,5,18,10,3,25,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,2,17,68,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935598981266233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905920653243631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923815132000414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072146108173714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789478935981866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185895561513333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707616083083392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265293076095365,0.21125271100399967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990421363727898,0.1376676004058537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132121673610545,0.1965120781951031,0.0,0.0,0.14242996659362775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770340281470472,0.0,0.0,0.19052451697496195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18491002862195566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255317601987002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052337824262205,0.0,0.3448326306197925,0.0,0.0,0.12441621905006385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21840141522642895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080677944375204,0.0,0.0,0.18293903738283174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452028397353199,0.0,0.0,0.15021953820725814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059802022549562
parenting,Canuck_in_the_UK,2019/02/22,"How do I approach difficult topics (namely death, racism) with my three-year-old? This is a two-part question. For some background: I have a 3 yr old daughter who speaks her mind very clearly, and seems to understand a lot about the world. I am probably guilty of over-explaining most things, which frequently lands us in the cycle of WHY?'s! However, I want her to question things, and I want to answer her questions in a way that sparks her curiosity; sometimes that means challenging what is 'age-appropriate'. 

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Two topics have stumped me lately. The first is death. We are not a religious family, though I encourage my kids to think for themselves, and I would not at all mind if they 'found' religion when they were older. The topic of death has come up a few times for us, mostly because I had a stillborn son before my daughter was born, and we keep pictures of him in the house. My daughter has asked lots of questions about the nature of his death, and I try to answer them in a way she can understand. Recently she's been talking more in depth about death, and I've delicately (though I'm not sure I handled this right...) explained to her that everyone dies in their own time. She's now come to me several times, appearing upset, and saying that she 'doesn't want to die'. I don't know how to deal with this. I don't want to say, 'You won't die!', nor do I have that comfy safety net of believing/saying, 'Everyone who dies goes to heaven.' Any advice?

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The second topic is equally as tricky. Lately, whenever she sees a photo of a person of colour (thankfully, this hasn't happened when we've met someone in the street), she points and says, 'I don't like them. They're different.' I try to get her to expand on this. I want to acknowledge her feelings, but I also have such a strong desire to shut this right down. I GET IT, she's three, but I need a way of redirecting this. I've tried to use examples; for instance, her Dad has one hand, so I'll say, 'Papa is different too, because he has one hand. But we still love him and treat him kindly.' She also has a little boy in her nursery with dark skin, and I try to point out that he is no different from the other children, and that she still plays with him. These ways of dealing with it don't seem to make any difference to her, she still shakes her head and says, 'I just don't like them.' Please give me some advice with this one! I will admit that our neighborhood (predominantly low-income, working class), and, therefore her nursery, aren't the most diverse. I'm thinking maybe if we watched some more media/read some more books with people of colour that this could help? 

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Thanks in advance!",5.491439831844456,6.109228485549135,5.5721527412856915,83.12499737256964,67.61271676300578,8.757190401121036,29.022070415134,8.754623652393294,2.0635595375722544,2100,69,414,32,33,661,256,519,0.059,0.83,0.111,0.9808,5,0,0,0,0,1,100.0,7,1,6,5,19,16,0,2,23,0,36,5,4,5,3,86,72,29,9,11,9,5,4,2,0,3,0,6,0,4,28,27,0,1,19,2,0,6,14,3,0,7,6,14,70,13,61,62,16,51,1,0,4,1,76,24,0,18,19,280,98,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142043993965725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936659023479866,0.0,0.20194518127736225,0.2264749366624928,0.08449758573636305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05808077424900435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574462734221253,0.0,0.052865879576376916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703458501764784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04960370927354231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281013350524941,0.0,0.0,0.257913915951471,0.25963982642830497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873087173603485,0.0,0.0,0.05856822570560215,0.0,0.031413502784457016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052845572763181636,0.0,0.0681195364377795,0.0,0.0,0.06491805132819801,0.0595983061145292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054939094209906704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637606820777042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041642716622956495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168672984655458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05522172747395627,0.0,0.06469617327424809,0.0341436188593909,0.0,0.1401649275091534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06070466264895424,0.06226802110091551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563706364930897,0.056072444500711936,0.0,0.04147055179551205,0.0,0.0624153687435582,0.06767500061299242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546201729971104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04606671306521203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038460459978768,0.0,0.12629749329252074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727796838469302,0.0,0.04307134761210028,0.05424728838500725,0.0,0.0681972778096689,0.11746103329966018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698389332287738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27838782659707684,0.0,0.06214425731494085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061343356575956985,0.0,0.0,0.10611299670909448,0.0,0.2964374260506696,0.0,0.0,0.049507529795225484,0.11311698470635158,0.0,0.07018632868897584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264038232216098,0.0,0.061445631448505414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884517288249471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05855438142505723,0.0,0.0,0.049935686741105406,0.0,0.11439720807345942,0.0,0.0,0.08254942737177455,0.07961751599401623,0.12207979804948207,0.0,0.10868103794131667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872182731999086,0.0,0.12137897209221347,0.12935372204534,0.1494633329580076,0.05365816481678458,0.0,0.05126164842787237,0.18322188288908586,0.19725549537962245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045229519709429865,0.0,0.0,0.04413355422413237,0.0,0.2264749366624928,0.04000803748817683
parenting,yeoldeToxicMasculine,2019/02/22,"Fuck my life Warm then cold then rainy winter has turned my lawn into a full-fledged mud pit. 

Dogs were covered in mud so when my wife and kids were shopping I took the time to bathe them. That way my little fur buddy’s could spend some quality time inside and not be caged or filthy. 

Bathe and dry them. Get myself changed and come downstairs to sit and relax. Wife and kids come home. Walk right to back door and let dogs outside. Into. The. Mud. 

Fuck my life.

Anyone else having a good time with their dumbass families that they love so much today?  ",1.3107539682539695,3.93765491666667,1.513015873015874,97.955,87.79629629629629,4.196825396825397,16.047619047619047,5.773587663045528,-0.6918380952380949,433,9,90,3,14,129,77,108,0.1,0.8,0.1,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,4,0,4,6,2,0,4,0,7,5,0,0,0,16,15,13,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,12,0,0,0,4,2,4,1,2,0,0,3,2,11,4,7,9,2,20,0,0,0,3,9,5,2,2,9,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346184083173707,0.1972652762335648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804033808396708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20366660576570425,0.33168759375452583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537160625934837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083047310860632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814960449611696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559737153223886,0.10058670397391893,0.0,0.0,0.16148137777522978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19311892079214454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19687051732436292,0.2719731152428873,0.0,0.1929612758662385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737619124632362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152850229443065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441584997371786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33678975777367703,0.0,0.1824918012325684,0.0,0.2139030769450065,0.0,0.20941261801249708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281789667922835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
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parenting,sadparentthrowway,2019/02/22,"Please, any advice needed on aggressive 22 month old I don’t know what to do. I’m feeling so lost and I know my frustration is being unfairly put on my toddler. I’m having trouble sorting if he’s getting worse or I have less patience.

How he’s acting:
-He has ALWAYS been a hitter and thrower. Pincher and scratcher. Used to be a biter, but that stopped quite some time ago.
-Most of the time, he’s not even angry! If he does hit us while he’s mad and we tell him we’re hurt, he’ll sit for a second or two, then give us “make better” kisses and sorry hugs.

What we do to help mitigate these problems:
-Always words. Explain why we don’t want him to do these things (short, concise explanations, no lectures).
-Try to establish eye contact while talking. Doesn’t always work, but it’s something we try to ask of him.
-Time outs. Still only a minute at a time and we stay in his eyesight (but no attention/arguing).

What has changed in his life recently:
-Our weekly storytime at the library has changed rooms.
-I’ve started a part time job in the evenings ~3 days a week.
-Trying to night wean him, he still sleeps with his dad when he wakes up in the middle of the night (anywhere from 2 to 5 AM) but I try to stay out of the room until sunlight.
-We’ve allowed him more TV time. On the average work day he gets about probably 2-3 hours, 4 if other things are going on. He doesn’t have access to anything else (phones/tablets).

We’ve been navigating this for almost 6 or so months, I’d say. But this week has put me over the edge, either of my own adjustment to a new routine or his. Storytime has gotten progressively worse. It’s been two weeks since the room change, first week he was grabby and completely uninterested so we cut early and played in other parts of the library. This week he was grabby, hit other children with hands and objects (scarves, but if it was something harder I doubt that would’ve made him act differently), tried to step on them, pushed one that took a toy he wanted. We went home entirely, after 10 or so minutes.

Overall, he hasn’t acted outwardly like he’s having trouble adjusting to anything, so I’m trying to read subtext of how he may be feeling, i.e. any changes in his life. Even when I go to work he’ll hug and kiss me goodbye and sometimes ask his dad for me, but settles with the answer that I’m at work. I’ve tried to look for answers online for aggressive toddlers but everything I’ve found so far only speaks to the *anger*. He’s rarely angry so I don’t feel the advice helps us much.

Has anyone ever dealt with this? What can we be doing better? It’s upsetting and I’m having trouble finding the guiding light through this phase. Fending off the awful looks and the “my child/children have NEVER done that!” really sucks. My son is so sweet and bright, and his manners are so on point. I just want to help him control his aggressive impulses.",2.310842105263159,4.636085663157896,3.339473684210528,88.93131578947369,79.21052631578948,5.964912280701755,24.561403508771928,7.133030437378802,1.0660350877192983,2268,83,448,28,57,726,293,570,0.106,0.784,0.109,0.7177,4,0,2,0,0,0,91.0,12,0,1,11,22,26,8,2,25,1,40,10,4,7,2,83,78,49,0,9,20,3,4,1,0,3,2,2,4,1,25,29,0,2,12,4,0,11,10,16,0,5,13,12,44,10,59,56,9,80,0,2,4,4,63,28,1,15,39,266,69,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115784828181698,0.05948879240939577,0.0,0.06720077509588368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752219989667594,0.0,0.0,0.09127393654394146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692473560349823,0.0,0.11045130175842632,0.0,0.12547721587612756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11870633670824095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28397309836813384,0.0,0.07036335307546443,0.0,0.07526935207519089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656054393961611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011546198384053,0.0,0.0,0.058728242058341436,0.06867662990763437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606163021787157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329761785969863,0.06070466017094583,0.0,0.0,0.06031396491200083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179820055631104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133714540713421,0.057083565322969335,0.0,0.0735824366109541,0.0,0.0,0.07012420586753344,0.06437783947338227,0.07628009675094125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349468617867992,0.0,0.06731660559260202,0.0,0.0660896390741142,0.0,0.07184243358728269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659612563492617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376358682900055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480327901325693,0.03278646057314268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271066728692836,0.0,0.07325827906171854,0.0,0.0,0.06350091955198786,0.04479631554013589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071328111832232,0.0,0.04933342797270538,0.04976106960287574,0.051759218326427214,0.0648150672583194,0.0,0.1259560105364936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042045061310262,0.0,0.04547534026359582,0.1020800606299054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534675668270944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736664125137309,0.06344045694529944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723557196970585,0.06421501941505874,0.0,0.13492777850943988,0.0,0.07137953766773437,0.06712796524662483,0.0,0.0429922591308823,0.0,0.06626283563858977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053368410033665464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551392367710898,0.0,0.06715827027860033,0.0,0.0,0.10332881220096601,0.06637331252554071,0.07512393164332833,0.04750066495276503,0.1430602444519656,0.10718795293502527,0.05610680144019459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05394031868681378,0.05865692701289591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916954407642415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347935997020215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456146195664072,0.3189420637975932,0.0,0.13111305488750624,0.0,0.24217449497230506,0.0579613238398585,0.0,0.0,0.11874930413603345,0.0,0.3229886224380963,0.0,0.0,0.06221146100505614,0.06055616019104061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19542694745158246,0.0,0.136781248029373,0.04767287955753422,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,popupideas,2019/02/22,"Feeling like I am failing I am the father to 7m. He has ADHD. At least that is what I am told. Doctor just kinda took it in stride and gave out medication. I am not disagreeing with it and I don’t oppose med for issues. 

But I kinda feel like I am experimenting on my 7 year old. He is smart, sweet, and energetic. But he has agreesion issues. Stubborn, and according to his teacher unable to complete tasks. He on average gets 30-50 on class dojo (daily tracking by teacher). We have been trying variations on medications. Vyvance makes him sad and moody. Aderial seems to have little to no affect. 

To top it off he had encopresis and still has issue pooping on the toilet and has accidents daily. 

There was talk at one point of being on the spectrum. But to test that would cost nearly $1,000. 

To top it off I believe I have depression that does not help. I have also tried medication. One caused major financial issues. One cause severe nausea. And the last has side effects I would prefer to avoid. 

I don’t know what to do? Try more medications on my son, other options? 

There is even to option of keeping him back one grade so he can mature. But he is already the biggest kid in his class. ",1.7652439993641735,4.340501896995711,3.7789890319504074,83.33944523923066,83.67811158798284,6.026959147989192,22.363535209028765,7.3871296695380915,1.1669298680654907,934,32,173,15,27,316,139,233,0.11,0.794,0.097,-0.6298,0,1,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,0,4,8,11,1,1,5,0,28,6,1,5,0,38,38,14,0,3,7,2,2,2,0,2,5,0,0,1,10,11,0,4,6,0,1,1,5,6,0,4,6,3,19,5,31,29,3,27,0,3,0,0,19,21,0,5,7,122,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543670065436006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436101000485973,0.09012162551364553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866549936871654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696793358047642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315362670318032,0.0,0.0,0.11815787470882015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706347263531097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115347435497494,0.0986195791374027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443355081476928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023669196433812,0.0,0.0,0.11396329198065824,0.16101772254883334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887814301618855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553664272864744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704944614185492,0.0,0.1001679101972772,0.0,0.0,0.0619338637917569,0.09186093079303193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011352731846756,0.11294933771748247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752243491485033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12517801013513846,0.4541107787697979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825375592259915,0.0,0.30545841392431144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653258032165654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259269751382186,0.0,0.12731253060689934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999784802472642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057944425011766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768427430406424,0.1252075618188704,0.2295361846740487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010965605139685,0.0,0.0,0.07257146216903533
parenting,Shithead-Knowitall,2019/02/22,"Does tummy time work like bodybuilding in that I should ideally have my baby do sets to build muscle? Would it be good to have my baby do sets of tummy time separated with rest periods? I'm curious because doctors recommend tummy time as a way to build muscle, but they don't advise you to do tummy time in sets, which I thought was the classic way to encourage hypertrophy and muscle development. My baby tolerates tummy time very well so I'm fortunately pretty flexible in what I can do and just want to construct her tummy time schedule in the way that will serve her best. ",7.604303030303029,7.387624945454547,8.401818181818182,67.47939393939397,63.18181818181819,11.696969696969695,34.69696969696969,11.20814326018867,4.075151515151513,464,18,79,12,6,157,67,110,0.0,0.747,0.253,0.9821,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,3,3,6,0,0,3,0,13,1,0,0,0,10,17,5,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,10,6,13,11,2,18,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,9,52,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180249398047008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318533245238374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19817153280297187,0.16943240287702518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239374530362705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458973403668224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19697444679113296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370742347760727,0.6773852303997155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975134296073348,0.11419820762303395,0.4610439469814085,0.0,0.0,0.17408171075770926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14095287094048453,0.0,0.0,0.1375374138983405,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaintJarles,2019/02/22,"Nystagmus - Any advice? I am a father of three, a 2 1/2 year old and 5 month old twins. I recently found out one of the twins has nystagmus. Wondering if anyone out there has any experience with this? How has it affected your child’s early years (development, reading)? How has it affected them as they got older (sports, self-consciousness, focusing in school)? 

I would love to hear anyone’s story or any advice.

Thank you!
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parenting,vixieflower,2019/02/22,"2 y/o refusing to use fork So I’m just the nanny! I messaged mom about this but basically the only response I get is “yeah idk what’s up with that!!” 


She knows how to use the fork. She can use the fork. We haven’t had issues with this until like the last month. I’ve been working really hard with her on not using her hands. I’m fine with her using her hands to help scoop with the fork / spoon but when she only uses her hands to eat / starts playing with her food I tell her no. After this is typically when she starts refusing to use the fork and as a result refuses to eat unless I feed her. 


I’m not sure where to go from here. Any suggestions would be incredibly helpful!! ",0.25429286608260426,2.524997524822698,2.37378389653734,92.81647058823532,87.93617021276596,5.5871506049228215,16.804755944931163,7.048011613610866,7.434292866070891e-05,525,12,117,8,17,176,85,141,0.095,0.764,0.141,0.8370000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,8,1,8,7,3,9,1,29,23,10,0,1,6,1,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,4,3,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,4,17,4,21,19,0,12,0,0,0,0,22,3,0,0,9,72,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961974392722014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26970219820564106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935747866414532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885331794495901,0.0,0.07489764325297638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805535170090227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17666822395741444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375514880559607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242674100711939,0.1074240720002576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438451790518253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543474531471458,0.10519120208890556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20046004894996447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442618780460857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18655916861392569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12420777761635185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518772998078405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7967521590124551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959425749028443,0.0,0.0,0.09361777129361727,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,layingaguy,2019/02/22,Does anyone watch Wild Kratts with their kids and can give me some context? This colouring sheet was printed off by my dear husband but for the life of me I can’t figure out what is going on in [this picture](https://www.momjunction.com/print-coloring-image/?pageid=101235&print=2014/10/Koki-and-Aviva-16/). What is going on here? Anyone have a hopefully innocent explanation? It’s the only picture in the set that seems weird.  Thanks in advance! ,7.7859295499021535,11.325135890410962,5.611389432485328,73.40616438356166,66.8082191780822,7.4590998043052865,28.236790606653614,8.418075326091056,2.3946845401174173,372,13,53,6,7,106,61,73,0.028,0.7879999999999999,0.184,0.91,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,1,1,4,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,0,0,8,12,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,5,3,11,11,1,11,0,0,2,0,4,7,0,3,0,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452693219488139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4456306984946515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27886259979129874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056888995018775,0.3622050541061269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31650251430757304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22507985875103945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423562335292617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900972261141627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29338045761621023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sikpuhp,2019/02/22,"Kids and video games. Is it wrong to allow your kid to be super in to video games? Like to the point where that's what they wanna do right when they wake up?

I remember that feeling of excitement as a kid yet I also read so much about the negative effects of technology on children and see it in myself and little dude but really have no other lifestyle to fall back on currently.

On the one hand I love playing games with my son and think it is a lot of fun but worry that he isn't going to develop any other good skills or interests because of it.",4.7311630847029065,4.949146212389382,5.9517319848293315,81.14380530973455,69.17699115044248,9.289001264222504,27.647281921618198,9.23628265651192,2.110634386852086,434,13,89,8,7,146,80,113,0.085,0.674,0.241,0.9638,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,2,3,7,9,0,0,5,0,6,3,2,2,0,15,11,11,0,1,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,10,5,0,0,4,7,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,8,8,20,10,2,16,0,0,1,1,13,10,0,2,5,67,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846037605460369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726681026979338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044170828122349,0.0,0.15890404876088612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318042732102715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14814666650868952,0.2186404302759296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735182694874414,0.2612631683184604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22161515215128255,0.23526786698223245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162489857520154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663900166243512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464205636477036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607438822021661,0.0,0.16699401671483569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952920793225944,0.22261360831633026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20772290272335334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702895093237946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647264304538321,0.0,0.0,0.2850053764252139,0.0,0.0
parenting,apikoros18,2019/02/22,"No one is coming to my 9 year olds birthday. (I know I'm not the first one posting this problem but I really needed to vent) I just am at a loss at what to do. He is ADHD, Sensory and probably somewhere on the spectrum. He can be difficult. I love him more than anything but, yeah, he can be difficult. So many things I want to say, how we went wrong as parents, how we didn't do this right (and should have done 3-4 friends, a special day for HIM instead of this). My wife wanted to throw him a big party, my wife and I have been through some shit we're just getting over so I didn't want to pick this as a battleground, and...

Anyway, I don't even know if this will upset him the way it's upsetting me. His best friend is coming. Some other friends are coming, we hope we think (North Cal isn't the best with RSVPs)

I also hope his experience in life is like mine, just with better parenting. I didn't find ""myself"" until post-puberty, which for me was early. 

I'm reading this back and it seems narcissistic, but I don't care what people think of me---- but I'd do anything in the world for him. 

I tell him all the time the same thing I tell all my candidates (I'm in HR/Recruiting)... You're the most wonderful, ripest, most delicious peach on the tree... but not everyone likes peaches. That's fine, because people who like peaches REALLY like peaches.  

Anyway, sorry for the long venting that doesn't really say anything.

I want him to be happy. I want him to be happy being who he is and fuck the haters. 

and no one is coming to his birthday and I am so sad for him.",1.8500471192974928,3.6661161614906854,3.47202184621975,89.94636645962734,78.37888198757764,6.677404155065325,22.59413150567573,7.6298220110432995,0.8928319554508457,1212,37,262,18,29,402,163,322,0.149,0.618,0.234,0.9894,2,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,4,0,0,5,14,29,3,2,15,1,33,4,1,3,2,56,59,23,0,11,11,4,0,4,3,2,1,2,0,0,18,18,0,0,7,1,0,6,11,11,0,4,7,2,41,18,31,45,10,29,0,2,0,2,34,12,2,9,13,184,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731265828224224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780616140724198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24098319165675156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505888443646926,0.0,0.05950438526345224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20487904204205687,0.08633135579334038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952363891157844,0.0,0.0,0.3363421225708183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295273970826934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989267187674808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447290630440973,0.0,0.0,0.09327404176836206,0.0,0.0954848967236775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921712303372832,0.0830301351133773,0.0,0.0,0.2262482304835195,0.0902422620301266,0.05099911204702516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20782312685287035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390479265405586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729183690975293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894741963931407,0.190756427765178,0.0,0.0,0.0863850233942751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810014537821728,0.0,0.0,0.09896493706349124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237929707327583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242912291951907,0.0,0.1984366406539352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677685036360156,0.0,0.0,0.1353460517032956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697381976767316,0.0,0.10524404263612168,0.09340309611311308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764008244367013,0.0,0.18760144347694374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833615380944451,0.0,0.1552526115287455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886381614099795,0.0,0.0,0.1001990262232253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927050823302026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063729455793278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970036560916454,0.1250937924355395,0.0,0.0,0.056919314098888486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878753488051375,0.07748118516295628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048884707227538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058578577234133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672522099471887,0.0,0.06286000102886175
parenting,toooooomanyquestions,2019/02/22,"How important is preschool? Our kid is 4 years old. We tried preschool last year in the 3 year old class. The school was great but we only lasted a week. She cried so much. We decided it wasn’t worth the stress so we pulled her out and figured we’d try again the next year. Well it’s time for registration and we aren’t sure what to do. We’ve been doing some homeschool stuff and she’s doing mostly kindergarten level work so I’m not concerned with the academic side of school, just the social part. We’ve gone back and forth about homeschooling indefinitely unless she decides one day that she wants to attend a regular school but we are unsure about that too. I’d like to know what your guys’ opinions on the matter are. ",2.3413519813519805,4.820628356643359,2.7335944055944057,92.44398135198135,80.11888111888112,5.771375291375293,20.022843822843825,7.03164865440522,0.30547682983683,577,15,119,7,15,177,97,143,0.066,0.8220000000000001,0.112,0.5719,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,8,1,0,1,11,5,0,1,9,0,12,0,0,1,1,29,16,11,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,12,0,0,4,0,1,3,3,1,1,1,4,0,14,4,12,11,4,22,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,4,15,74,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036529905546607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17194569917816302,0.10095174472996987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725797397231098,0.0,0.15499367627951185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602721804894027,0.2551928731616631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764748059043632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507080248546313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16647612095932166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285130629041615,0.0,0.10607176740944604,0.11905147257298715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951151194472264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4752635399087501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595671182287517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17930963786677284,0.0,0.17919444900680878,0.0,0.0,0.1475318289873881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127647333132936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255317850527689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232805072917204,0.0,0.12556246175240138,0.0,0.1407432336846674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139589148506966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032121116252368
parenting,WreckTangle77,2019/02/22,"Inexpensive 9 year old boy's birthday party ideas? It seems like kid birthday parties are getting more and more expensive these days. I would like to have a kid party for my soon to be 9-year-old son & I'm looking for some inexpensive options.

One thought I had was a movie themed party - specifically a ""Sandlot"" themed party as most of the boys are baseball players (and it's a fun movie).

Some of my ideas: movie ticket themed invites, baseball snacks (hot dogs, Cracker Jack), we'd watch the movie at my house (maybe I could find a way to make it interactive), popcorn and candy during the movie (maybe), and a couple of Sandlot/baseball themed party games? One idea was to create some cutouts of the character's faces so the kids could pose for fun photos.

I'm pretty creative (I'm a graphic designer).

I guess my biggest worry is that I don't want it to seem thrown together or ""chintzy"" compared to a party at the jump park or something like that - but I also don't want to bite off more than I can chew?

Am I on the right track or way off base?",7.732864077669905,6.31086723786408,7.394485436893206,78.73862135922333,63.51456310679613,9.793398058252427,35.64854368932039,8.238735603445708,2.6851452427184457,825,31,163,8,10,261,118,206,0.023,0.8270000000000001,0.15,0.9563,0,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,15,0,16,3,1,1,0,27,28,11,0,5,4,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,7,4,2,0,7,2,3,1,2,0,0,2,4,3,13,5,21,19,7,14,0,0,2,0,9,7,0,11,7,91,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152921596588779,0.0,0.15620740685009424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302149547740045,0.1595206194871041,0.0,0.09297728984538003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176815410923653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532252360464628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881876878442694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635204817559301,0.0,0.4882488694940109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21130155442459425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121065925698357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962341460535602,0.0,0.28967493566383745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025629160678193,0.0,0.19538573581308213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667203656847208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311981853818812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26249268350819066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098859230933183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11445434270496507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700696101185203,0.2288698043593945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641095091286546,0.0,0.10241375431921552,0.0,0.0,0.1856806411420927
parenting,Near_And_Queer,2019/02/22,"Second semester college freshman is still calling home just about every night. Is this cause for concern? My oldest is 19 and in his first year of college. We live in the PNW and he goes to school in southern California. Too far to drive but not a crazy long plane ride. 

For the first month or so he called home every night to speak with me and my wife. I wasn't too worried at this point. It's a huge adjustment to go to college and be away from your family for the first time. This continued until he came home for winter break. We talked about how we were worried that he wasn't enjoying his time in college. He insisted that he loved college and told us about all of his friends. He does post a lot of pictures online of him hanging out with friends and sometimes he'll hang up on the phone because he's going out with friends. His grades are still good and he seems to enjoy his classes. We told him that if he's doing it for us then he doesn't need to. We are fine. 

When he went back to school the phone calls decreased to 2 times a week but he was still texting. Now it has gone but up to everyday. 

I don't know what to think. He's always been very attached. Even as a senior he would come into our room in the morning to hang out with us on the weekends before going off to do something. He'd help with dinner just to chat. In a way this isn't anything new and maybe we should have expected this but I hear from all my mom friends about how their college freshman won't call them. I'm wondering if he is too attached? Will this hold him back? I asked him if he is going to stay in California next year and he said, ""Why wouldn't I? I love it here."" It's not extreme enough for him to come home but he says he doesn't like going to bed at night if he hasn't talked to us first. Is this normal anxiety? ",2.3662419782664514,3.8820157294429727,3.2064841276632166,93.73426114486185,76.05570291777187,6.137725678103879,23.301873876957305,6.6834051587181325,0.4522934713784546,1418,42,319,12,31,449,182,377,0.033,0.847,0.12,0.9883,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,11,1,2,4,21,11,0,0,13,0,29,3,0,3,2,59,53,26,0,10,14,2,0,1,4,6,0,4,6,0,16,27,1,1,5,2,0,15,11,0,0,5,11,4,35,11,60,34,4,74,0,0,0,2,72,23,0,8,33,200,51,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493869367416351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597032934910949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422339775170327,0.0,0.07296041799139852,0.0,0.0733247192754346,0.12002172990127978,0.0,0.04757477618839832,0.0,0.0664095257208373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187657830476953,0.08926131625348134,0.0,0.08017248089695954,0.0,0.13445564669891327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829665542956674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064010796643344,0.0,0.05154719394323029,0.0,0.1315105352372899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357274905075079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655360661183124,0.0,0.0,0.2411857855656385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177045069549692,0.06545943679361323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796103480732902,0.0,0.05231111414049976,0.0,0.31313717936789376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04289083153472016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03812825860332315,0.0,0.06891410535147785,0.06906630722788777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635004800551259,0.14087515331776315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840548703937676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140395548236256,0.06229381668970109,0.0,0.0,0.0578684889137012,0.0,0.07537518849599034,0.0830004668354833,0.219716458795448,0.07646635386851801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377661711690853,0.0,0.07474438723426703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742375257826356,0.06206356231933871,0.0,0.15796898460069833,0.0,0.07104814452644392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060081930222134476,0.07718731391231805,0.0,0.0,0.08318430689019518,0.18697763881298396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545730061031493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05000731585856796,0.0,0.0,0.13652390241807838,0.0,0.0,0.14914839105287458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755083291504416,0.0,0.0,0.06439430852266574,0.0,0.061947535910492575,0.06260202894208701,0.0,0.0,0.07234738461627026,0.07042239068890575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463517212516983,0.0,0.15851453475482133,0.0,0.055440076432761214,0.0,0.0,0.10051529704609484
parenting,IrohS,2019/02/22,"HELPING A NEW MOTHER TO FIND ANSWERS Before you click on the link, read the story first in order to understand the reason behind this. **Please, be aware the video is really strong and very sensitive.** 

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Hi guys, I've created an account here in order to help friend who is a new mother; She saw the video a couple of weeks ago and she got absolutely terrified... She started to look and search for answers on her own on every website she knew (even local and international news) to see what happened to the children in the video and to see if they got the help they needed. With 0 answers and full of worries, she came to me and asked for my help... knowing the efficiency of online communities to find answers I've decided to post here the video and hope for a story to give her ""closure"" to this affair... 

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She absolutely loves and adores her baby and cried a lot watching the video. Please help her

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I'll leave the link here... beforehand, I'm really sorry about the video.

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parenting,newbodygoal,2019/02/22,"My conscious feels so guilty about feeding my son foods I refuse to put into MY body... Hi everyone, I’m a 27 year old mom to a 4 year old boy. This past year, I’ve been eliminating foods from my diet and implementing healthier choices. Before I was feeling so sick, tired, and not well. It has been a very long journey for me, in the process I have lost 20 pounds, and I feel healthier overall. I have cut out the junk food, simple carbs, the sugars, the soda, etc. Over the past few weeks, it has hit me over the head that the foods I now refuse to eat because I don’t feel well eating them, I feed to my son. 

He’s a picky eater. For his first three years of his life I was a struggling single mom working a full time job and going to college at night. My mom helped care for him A LOT. We often fought over what she fed him (lots and lots of sugar) and had a complete power struggle for years. We no longer have a relationship, though — that’s a long and complicated story but he’s no longer with her. He is now in preschool, has a pretty structured life, and I’m able to spend a lot more time with him. While all that had changed, I haven’t changed his eating habits the way I want to and I feel so defeated and overwhelmed even trying to do so. Over the past year, he has been eating a few more veggies (peas and green beans), whole grain bread, and has finally started to eat some meat such as chicken — I’ve been trying to say no to the junky foods and candy but by the end of the day, I don’t want to hear him wail and cry over not getting something. It’s a constant battle. 

Yesterday he had:
Breakfast: French toast sticks 
Lunch: pepperoni lunchable, peanut butter crackers, (I packed him green beans but his teacher said he hasn’t been eating them much), and a nuttella/pretzel dip snack pack. 
Dinner: Chick fil a nuggets and fries with an apple juice. 
Snack before bed: packaged cheese crackers and 3 small white powdered donuts. 

To some it might sound terrible, then to others it might seem fine. But to me, I see a lot of processed food. He refuses to try fruits and other veggies. Also he needs more protein. And if I try, I end up feeling defeated. He begs for sweets, candy, chips, etc. I don’t always give in, but sometimes I do. The guilt is really weighing heavy on me because I wouldn’t eat what I feed my kid, anymore. I want him to live a healthier life and have a good future with his relationship with food and also health. I don’t know where to start. I’ve tried to look for kids cookbooks and such, but feel lost. 

Any suggestions? 
I want to redo his diet and cut out the junk but I don’t want to be militant about it. Like changing my own diet, I want to do it in a progression and over time to cut out/add new food.... but where to start? I have no idea. :( ",3.328113095238095,4.565077680357149,3.938571428571432,90.57309523809526,73.08928571428572,6.833333333333335,24.583333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.8179761904761906,2151,63,466,21,42,680,262,560,0.125,0.815,0.06,-0.988,2,0,1,0,2,0,88.0,2,0,2,8,19,21,5,4,35,0,36,41,2,0,1,78,70,43,0,9,11,5,7,1,0,3,6,4,1,4,15,34,33,3,11,0,1,3,14,14,2,2,15,21,57,7,60,50,20,58,0,5,5,0,49,20,0,12,35,283,72,3,0.0542214201493349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672170020752716,0.04511656515165243,0.0,0.0,0.03687242503327078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377307905792042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610574891601571,0.0,0.09227686990157456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602277744417215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528235151046849,0.0,0.1720772190427619,0.0,0.05685012742088945,0.05859409266902633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059559683992300626,0.03496833037014983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388374344436046,0.0,0.0,0.0960481689643366,0.0,0.12094243250325758,0.03581273663424321,0.0,0.0,0.0518108905606025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919118543922395,0.0,0.0,0.0593969154515177,0.0,0.046120712279998935,0.5245180517638203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028328454121440024,0.05201412691658018,0.030815282603984705,0.04547835470340738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055646819953309404,0.057634834110828974,0.06111148120108448,0.0,0.03634347498761548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120938349465525,0.0,0.0,0.053806392995834736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029798674501434325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489457770811792,0.026489847055243213,0.0,0.047878507374329936,0.09596850116714888,0.04553233691182404,0.0,0.1183781703759088,0.23048556217315494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504071647693817,0.0,0.19051041586995104,0.0,0.0,0.039858982606324034,0.04020449600361179,0.0,0.05236738545528243,0.0,0.05088312975041726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379251884422545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528144244234196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05516267724428492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450750330681691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03473563016647676,0.0,0.0,0.11642702688071738,0.0,0.0,0.05157698714229487,0.043119049591201296,0.0,0.0,0.04320745178808803,0.049361144489832025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04174229824987133,0.053626370965815455,0.0,0.11513460077345153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336800214511768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0532722699995347,0.0,0.09485083837856266,0.06231954616853597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406392546951694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04473835014969417,0.19188719059579573,0.043038439515176594,0.04349315265815104,0.0,0.09750313689006647,0.0,0.0,0.06053627923818705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03947383964271304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095009011424921
parenting,heartbar_ista,2019/02/22,"Britax Frontier harnessed booster question and a generic when to switch to a booster car seat question Do you use only the vehicle's seat belt for installation or do you use the lower tether (LATCH) system? My son's combined weight with the car seat is 65 lbs, but the manual says if its a car seat use the seatbelt instead but if it's a booster use the lower tether LATCH system. But the frontier is a harnessed booster so I am not sure.

On another subject when did you move your child to a regular highbacked booster with no harness. My kid is 43.5 lbs, tall for his age and 4.5 years old. For the grandparents car I was wondering if I could buy just a regular highbacked booster to save a little money or if I need to wait til he is older to be safe.",6.690799999999999,6.023014713333335,7.219833333333337,76.69575000000003,65.2,9.633333333333333,36.75,8.841846274778883,3.185,597,27,112,8,8,197,84,150,0.068,0.8759999999999999,0.055,0.0288,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,0,0,5,3,0,0,16,0,11,1,0,4,1,28,18,15,0,6,11,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,1,2,3,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,2,11,3,13,14,0,17,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,9,7,71,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19941637487687192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184025701972048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906065587944932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20212725186318486,0.0,0.14101327611010728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955797826198127,0.0,0.0,0.1446376041534029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260818370311654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123578330799733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923886046872067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6570048616370552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315834328892357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062380255567261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246726674328735
parenting,WhyCantISayFork,2019/02/22,"We upgraded to a toddler bed last night and it went really well!     Yesterday we decided it was time to try out a toddler bed. I took my 2 1/2 year old son bed shopping, and he wanted the paw patrol one. We also picked out some paw patrol sheets. I hyped it up the whole time, telling him it was his big boy bed and it was like mommy and daddy’s bed. When my husband got home we all put it together, and let our son “help”. 
     He was super excited about his new bed! I didn’t think he would actually sleep in it the first night, but we wanted to try. We did the regular bedtime routine, swapped the lock on the door, put him in bed, and told him what to expect for the night. He said “OK”. We left the room and went to bed.
     He slept until 6:00 AM! When he woke up he knocked on his door and called out for me. No screaming, no crying, no freaking out that everything was different. I can’t believe it went so well! I’m weirdly proud that my little boy is growing up and turning from baby to child. ",2.0283866362078804,3.478724402912622,3.570833809251859,91.04432609937186,76.81553398058253,6.788806396344945,23.768132495716728,7.5105763829236425,0.8870414620217022,761,24,171,10,17,252,116,206,0.107,0.795,0.099,-0.6979,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,8,0,0,3,7,10,0,0,10,1,12,2,2,1,1,30,26,15,0,4,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,12,3,11,20,0,0,2,1,1,7,5,3,2,2,16,2,22,7,22,8,3,36,0,0,0,0,32,15,0,1,15,101,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.1340766256185083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987385098372984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479587429124994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029453191746452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092074597126212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354738112184182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348077675346075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686717986823425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988645179426744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209223401903688,0.0,0.13781728259962128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119943649890346,0.0,0.0,0.14927887271894813,0.14049456992786286,0.0,0.06712371876853407,0.1377047809596221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269588331760662,0.0,0.3868045992459369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417178432427102,0.0,0.09310166139914047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27623763286451536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880180495447933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306930603505484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749312272074482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008832316182687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803646243018325,0.0,0.0,0.16023097420443908,0.0,0.0,0.13128575789375194,0.1526496765999824,0.1865628766052509,0.1494451079064274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620769621656092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24706723017350435,0.3820965611735206,0.0,0.15339538104555536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976006834640582,0.0,0.0,0.08847716599191455
parenting,ZenMasterFlash,2019/02/22,"Drastic Change In Routine Advice? The daycare my daughter has been going to for over 20 months *(she is 28 months old)* decided yesterday to no longer accept what they call ""community families"". The center is run out of a hospital, and they will soon begin to only serve the staff of the hospital and hospital network. 

Needless to say, my wife and I are at a loss over the situation - not because of the trouble of finding another daycare option, or costs there of - but because of the effect we are worried it will have on our daughter. She is very much a child of routine, and we are incredibly anxious about the effect such a drastic change to a completely brand new environment will have.

She has always been quite sensitive of her surroundings, and more so took quite a bit of time to become comfortable in the atmosphere of her current center. We have been given a little over 30-days to secure new daycare, as well as begin to be able to transition her to a new center. 

Have any other parents dealt with this sort of thing? Is there anything, in your opinion, that we can do to help ""lessen the blow"" to our daughter? She's going to be losing teachers and friends she's grown up with since she was 8 months old. 

Thanks 

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parenting,inquisitorglockta,2019/02/22,"How to fix loud toys - sanity saver! If you can hear your kids' firetruck, Paw Patrol car, or Elena scepter across the house, put a layer of clear nail polish over the speaker when they go to bed. Repeat nightly until you stop contemplating throwing the demon toy away.",7.114625850340133,7.827085224489799,6.192244897959185,79.75870748299323,64.10204081632654,8.165986394557821,28.578231292517003,7.793537801064563,1.7647088435374143,212,6,37,2,3,64,45,49,0.043,0.9,0.057,0.1759,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,7,3,0,12,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,5,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37145211551160795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469121977642054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44559751178916296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4561903696817852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37101696053193867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39744426693631135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305372224293933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExcellentQuantity,2019/02/22,"My ADHD kid is medicated AND THAT'S OKAY My child has ADHD. (and we are not in the US)

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I have encountered so much abject ignorance about this disorder and about medical treatment on our journey (Which has been a long one). Completely false information repeated to me from professionals working in education. Completely false information parroted from fellow parents. And I'm sick and tired of it. 

Here's some things I've encountered from fellow parents, teachers, and even resources like ADDitude magazine:

**ADHD is a Gift**

Talking about ADHD as if it's a gift invalidates the very real struggles and limitations that people with this disability face.

And I'd just like to say, *""No, it's fucking not"".* 

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Just like telling a dyslexic middle schooler inspirational stories of celebrities with their disorder, it does nothing to actually help a kid who can't fucking read. It's not a solution, it doesn't help people feel better beyond at least the knowledge that they aren't alone. 

Talking about autism as if they're all hidden savants invalidates the struggles of parents who deal with hours-long meltdowns, fecal smearing, and never being able to speak to their kid. 

ADDitude magazine and other parenting websites have published editorial articles espousing ADHD as some magical evolutionary edge that, if only we lived in prehistoric times, would somehow be useful if our modern depraved social structures were geared towards these kind of individuals. 

I have ADHD. I fail to see how my pathological inability to plan ahead would benefit humanity on an evolutionary level. If I were a cave man I'd to a pretty shitty job at it. 

**Medicating = Failure**

It's often written about as the ABSOLUTE LAST RESORT that anyone should ever consider. The department head of ""Learning Needs"" at my kids school openly questioned why I had chosen to medicate--despite staring at a large file of his documented struggles. She seemed dismayed that I had ""resorted"" to this. 

Medicating is taking a proactive, evidence-based approach to managing a disability that can be very difficult to live with. ADHD is associated with higher rates of depression and lower self-esteem. We should be relieved that it can be easily treated with  non-invasive medical intervention resulting in dramatic improvement of symptoms. Why is this not being celebrated? There is nothing ""wrong"" with my child--I love him for who he is! But he needs help. 

I didn't give up on my kid. Imagine you are the parent of a 16 month old child. And you can't go out to restaurants, accept invitations to social events, or even make it through a day without a ridiculous, illogical temper tantrum. Imagine how tired and discouraged you feel after a day of crying fits. Multiply that by SEVEN YEARS. That is my life. My child is now struggling to function and it takes a toll on HIM. He sees the consequences of his impulsiveness and failure to follow instructions. Our family life is completely dominated by his behavior. 

Medication is a step that is well-researched, safe, medically appropriate, and EFFECTIVE. It's not a failure. Would you try to heal a broken arm using homeopathic herbs? 

**ADHD Doesn't exist; some kids are just more hyper**

ADHD is not a conspiracy invented by big pharma to trick lazy parents into sedating difficult children. How and why this rumor got started I have no idea, but it needs to die. 

As Dr. Russel Barkley so aptly puts, To say that ADHD is inattentiveness, is to say that autism is arm-flapping. The inattentiveness is just one symptom of an underlying neurological disorder that affects the whole of that person's executive functioning: planning ahead, impulse control, emotional regulation, stimulus response, time management, and so on. There are far more things that we DON'T see that affect a person with ADHD that are a great hindrance to their success in life. THAT is why we treat it: not simply to make active kids calm down. 

**ADHD can be treated with food/esential oils**

I'm as interested as you are in the gut-brain connection. Until we have actual, evidence-based medical research done, Imma go ahead and treat my kid according to the protocols that actual science and medicine show is effective and safe. Thanks but no thanks. 

Do I really need to explain why essential oils aren't going to help much?

Finally, *Wouldn't we ALL benefit from better diet and more exercise?* Associating a positive correlation in BEHAVIOR is a false notion. ADHD is not a behavioral disorder; it is neurological. We need more than behavioral interventions to successfully treat it and more than diet changes to manage its symptoms.

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Thanks for listening to my manifesto. ADHD parents--you are not alone, the struggle is real, and medicating your kids is safe, effective, and POSITIVE. My son is happier. He is more confident. He feels better about himself. He is doing better in school. He FEELS better. Don't let mommy-warrior mumbo jumbo on Facebook deter you from seeking medical help.",5.961286408830098,8.847597513264132,6.846066605346532,65.52683807104376,69.83044982698961,10.15688610514943,34.619435562758234,10.31508649447201,4.6364838129443875,4032,205,578,125,79,1334,404,867,0.091,0.747,0.162,0.9977,9,2,0,0,0,0,156.0,12,7,4,19,26,51,6,5,40,1,75,33,3,14,4,126,112,48,1,16,23,7,4,3,2,6,25,5,0,17,50,45,2,7,19,3,0,9,24,19,0,3,9,15,51,32,108,89,15,62,0,3,4,3,89,31,2,13,25,408,101,16,0.03643926907525831,0.0,0.10667841056908284,0.0,0.6131008828741001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548018650681491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184457984566297,0.13283310120958372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025479184192627503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611378614563708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04067827547781746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03854791500697029,0.0,0.1146176410179062,0.0,0.040869738761842835,0.0,0.0,0.04002682602291485,0.04700062801604973,0.03756728637365557,0.03138508905953595,0.0,0.03781820828147255,0.0,0.16705023724186835,0.0,0.031888249927659526,0.0372900237079882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04098927311813436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04813558711455316,0.03296140506609654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034351699872255365,0.0,0.07369915728792223,0.0,0.0,0.039917438134544514,0.0,0.0,0.044062508807431525,0.0,0.0,0.0673750341710342,0.0,0.034955867279163284,0.06212782907626401,0.0,0.02914381227006453,0.040174422797392834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03739720280059775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221223697715971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041135499382890586,0.0,0.0,0.03616035188573656,0.0,0.0,0.0379458913160796,0.0,0.02970286778079212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037261621465465265,0.07721440015520581,0.05340715875478338,0.0,0.06435308438362061,0.06449521290935563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032887863024471116,0.0,0.048646990126593063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670872998778445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029085476924965693,0.0,0.053574111052703516,0.13509628149501055,0.028104210720521244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992892290046397,0.0,0.038236883149647585,0.0,0.049384383562182034,0.02771370614808584,0.0,0.0,0.24276897606790301,0.0,0.0,0.05052480208984468,0.06363472845677166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037071836803241366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036631530014287116,0.04082032088278511,0.0,0.036449130058977784,0.08295173155779116,0.0233439288504219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693390800143755,0.0,0.07375697140778162,0.08711213893472892,0.033172942002880325,0.03801410475478427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429049183372965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025791902203356476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19047117925502532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362305874838947,0.054795590843208064,0.05857700837542482,0.031849527297574495,0.10064514958289594,0.0,0.0,0.048417262424094575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04249606166924517,0.08376315873796311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024739871765657884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04383195404867237,0.06294365763263632,0.0,0.06013242643213305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032763279078945884,0.0,0.16440386287341768,0.040683142601205535,0.0,0.03512615505019967,0.0,0.026528221876388144,0.0,0.0,0.07765623377207527,0.03984062040150233,0.13283310120958372,0.02346569457610073
parenting,polarbearmunchkin,2019/02/22,"Cultural difference or abuse? Throwaway because. Recently I got to know a mom from the playground with a daughter around the age of my eldest(3), and I have witnessed her drip wax from a burning candle on her child as a form of discipline. She said that it’s a common form of discipline in her country, and it does not burn nor actually hurt the kids. Other than that, her children are evidently well-loved and doted on. I personally do not use any form of corporal punishment on my kids. Something else that worries me is that we live in a European country with “some sort” of legislation against corporal punishment. 

Should I just brush it off as something cultural? Bring it up? Thoughts?",4.8941774891774905,7.3288612460317495,5.453463203463205,76.36577922077925,71.46031746031747,9.343722943722943,35.264069264069256,9.800150414767053,3.9923428571428574,551,30,94,15,11,177,84,126,0.114,0.8640000000000001,0.022,-0.9115,0,0,2,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,9,0,5,0,0,1,0,19,11,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,9,7,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,2,13,0,22,7,4,12,0,1,0,0,16,8,0,3,3,70,22,0,0.0,0.27177865457761946,0.223842502381748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598676113409204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419747984296974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398283630171925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396540400120569,0.0,0.0,0.2007326212202845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19161816511273047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834567228553869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455568139515112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606164952192936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254738565520325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686479368348949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002864044396672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22648579662932025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21819360039709387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.353176982550807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18210267629899848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981113014112438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20624082237840188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23294726412820935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momof5horsemomof2,2019/02/22,"Pet peeves I’m literally really irritated at these upper class women who try and call them selfs “single moms” when their husbands leave for work trips. I am a single mom who gets absolutely no help from friends and family. 
I saw a women post something on another social media account, she was complaining about being a “single mom” while her husband was away. She was literally making fun of single moms!
I was so anger by her comments. I did not respond to her ignorance. It is hard as a parent to raise kids with two parent household but with one parent house hold it is extremely challenging. 
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parenting,Mysterymuhma,2019/02/22,"My Mr Hyde My husband is a wonderful person and gorgeous father. But he likes to go out which is fine but we have a rule- he can go out but not if he is looking after the kids the next day or if we have important family time planned.
When we do have these things planned and he does end up going out the night before, I usually call him around 9pm and ask him to come home to avoid the drama the next day. I cop stick from his mates for it. What they don’t know is that he can become incredibly abusive when hung over and I find it really hard to cope when he is like that, not to mention how hard it is on the kids. 
It is so hard when he is great 99% of the time but god it hurts my soul when he gets like that. 
So he’s out late tonight and I’m out in the morning and I’m already feeling anxious.",0.6717785714285718,2.258347074285716,2.431053571428574,97.11400892857144,81.11428571428571,5.746428571428572,20.080357142857142,6.6274283507984215,-0.05590714285714338,618,16,153,6,16,204,100,175,0.111,0.752,0.13699999999999998,0.4753,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,1,2,9,8,0,1,10,0,15,0,0,1,0,31,27,21,0,2,9,2,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,4,12,16,0,1,4,1,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,5,13,6,19,27,0,31,1,1,1,0,26,10,0,4,20,92,25,0,0.0,0.17974311676801674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740791028971955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138108400506008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350477340473673,0.1418217227853237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754392215669855,0.12908798505233013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490561101968514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067860614026885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567162661419316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275622042953053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343637318083803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301198249247804,0.0,0.07670553881587812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865369217247162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925849817152655,0.0,0.25864874335742705,0.0,0.0,0.1672529706277076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076879730503941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521703667162624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240108021678046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833719403946702,0.0,0.17112746645047447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234310619897169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739221937069428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32267548686418185,0.14236288464582084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324611111795896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971847552370631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078465857406953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691834902033166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670792997577943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451531185634194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lilfox,2019/02/22,"Daycare issues We enrolled our son in daycare. He is just a baby for reference, he just turned 1 last month. This daycare is really far from my job but they had the hours I needed for my job. So I have always paid extra to make sure there were no problems.  Recently my pay got cut and I was given state vouchers. These pay the exact same amount that I used to.  Except now they are trying to scam me out of an extra $35 ( the daycare is only $25 a day witch is already paid for by the vouchers) because they moved his pickup time to 5 am which causes him to technically be in their premises longer. They also constantly lose his stuff. Yesterday he was sent home without his jacket in 40 degree temps and rain. As a retaliation of me asking for them to find his jacket the owner instructed the bus driver to leave this morning without my child. This has been an ongoing issue. Then my son started coming home with various marks like his nose being hit or his foot being cut. The daycare didn’t even notice. I have switched him to a different daycare. But it is so irritating to even have to go through this. Has anyone else ever had to deal with a nightmare daycare? ",3.8533818534691884,5.495667091703055,4.984767103347892,81.9839531780689,72.4061135371179,7.184958757884523,26.69602134885977,7.793537801064563,1.6367407083939842,920,32,171,12,18,303,146,229,0.138,0.836,0.026,-0.9779,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,6,1,10,7,2,0,14,0,22,2,2,3,3,26,36,10,0,2,8,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,9,7,0,0,2,0,4,4,4,5,0,0,12,1,28,2,30,20,5,22,0,1,0,0,26,5,0,1,13,124,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583266524281928,0.11473576226507907,0.11938150384666105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032005622074687,0.1470056276070142,0.0,0.0,0.13412842064236888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746015672931493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738687822426425,0.0,0.12358977672180885,0.0,0.15504395948242486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252858351612477,0.14791495098797264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149899344081507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985375778791435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895258799906125,0.1297800582760581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113224393330622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153933630270631,0.0,0.11474892066072323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28783137809033194,0.0,0.14129256611154425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994982634006167,0.2847507602059522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695010888726533,0.0,0.15191779490916602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009393927691668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051022595222875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576972220880717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145192349276272,0.15248969938483387,0.0,0.10638383436715276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633456106257949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10911811531492058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728483016651866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919128429302327,0.0,0.14166284180648353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155133145233956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424291214483713,0.0,0.0,0.13522214198734486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366059257604833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740913632325073,0.15605804492071576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391509917873755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766068036412519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovehim_33,2019/02/22,"Is there a lamp or light that my toddler can knock over without it breaking? Come on there's got to be! I need a lamp that provides decent lighting, but is also something my toddler really can't break. 

A cordless lamp or light of some kind. LED is good. Any sort of battery operated is good. Cords = too complicated for me lol.

I like to keep things dim in the evening/night but also able to see the room (this would probably go in the living room) without issue.

My almost 2 yo is, of course, very active and very good at knocking things over. 

Amazon is my preferred shopping place, but I wouldn't mind looking elsewhere if it's worth it. 

Also, not something super expensive.

Do these lamps/lights even exist??? :D

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parenting,savvaspc,2019/02/22,"My brother is indifferent for school or any other activities. Sounds like a typical teenager? Might be, but let me explain. He is 14, on the 2nd grade of high school. Yesterday the school gave the average grades for the first four months of the season. His results were very bad, but the performance is not the only problem. His grades for the important courses (math, physics, greek language, literature etc) were all between 12 and 14, with a maximun grade of 20. Greek schools are really easy to get grades around 16-17 if you show a little bit of interest inside the classroom.

The biggest concern is that all the teachers commented that he doesn't participate in the lesson at all. They said he doesn't disturb anyone, but he never shows he is there. They also said that he never prepares his homework. One teacher said he doesn't even have a notebook for that course. At home he usually doesn't see what homework he has to do until it's 11pm, and then he usually solves his math problems quickly and says he doesn't have anything else to do. He says they do all the exercises at school. My mom asked the greek language teacher and she said that's not true, and that they do have homework.

When discussing about school, my brother always says that it is unnecessary, it doesn't offer anything and that he could spend his time better if he didn't go to school. However, he doesn't look like he has any other activities that he wants to do. He spends most of his time playing video games or using his smartphone. He also spends a  lot of time sleeping during the day. My mom says that sometimes he might sleep for 4 hours in the afternoon.

I have tried talking to him and trying to persuade him to do something more, but we haven't found anything he likes. And even with gaming, he always likes to play games, but we had an old computer. One month ago we got a new one with money he gathered, but he isn't even excited about that even though he was waiting a lot for it. We are at a point we don't know what to do,  and hoe to make him more active. My mom was sad about his lack of interest for school and the fact that he was lying about his homework, but I'm mostly worried about his lack of interest for other things. 

I'm 10 years older than him, and for the past 4 years I live with my girlfriend in a different part of town. I usually visit my home once a week for s full day. This month I will actually have to stay home longer, so I want to take the chance and help more. It doesn't help the situation that I was the opposite in school performance and my parents have expectations from him. But I also didn't have any other activities and I regret that, so I want him to change. Another problem is that he doesn't have good friends. They guys he hangs out with are not very active either, and I think he doesn't even enjoy being with them. I believe he has been bullied at school and because of that he wasn't able to have more friends.  But I cannot understand to what extent this is true since he usually says that he has friends at school.

So, I'm looking for any advice to make him more active, find something to make him feel interested and happy. And also some way to explain that school is his only duty and that he cannot ignore it.",6.078339227077542,6.004255434579445,6.175157868148522,81.69440641576158,66.30529595015577,9.121225898795991,31.058516460385622,8.685302888712808,2.2357409615222696,2567,88,515,35,37,816,261,642,0.08900000000000001,0.7859999999999999,0.125,0.9726,4,0,2,0,0,0,64.0,5,1,6,5,22,28,0,1,32,0,65,3,2,5,9,93,96,43,0,13,17,6,1,4,4,3,1,10,7,1,35,32,0,3,9,9,4,3,23,8,0,5,18,14,53,20,68,71,22,55,0,2,3,0,101,19,0,11,35,332,88,26,0.05181657859798409,0.0,0.050565506080308346,0.0,0.0,0.05063456090340586,0.04593227049366305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575079673597462,0.08623108866617707,0.0,0.0,0.14094820125128632,0.054334200630702933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03623135655117248,0.0,0.12792188738253712,0.04612774070482002,0.048441506265167945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04326467874938274,0.03158690536923669,0.0,0.0,0.058379539957637026,0.0,0.045827552940321536,0.0565702834528028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0548150695235351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04137132165711549,0.0,0.0,0.0668348130342126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413729603832485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04328610246047429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057789182230717565,0.1711218073508842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026200019053124645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04735941410208642,0.04407515528493382,0.0,0.056814203904790375,0.12010008026466533,0.0,0.027072023667033904,0.0,0.029448555730756745,0.043461287707068925,0.041442451439347015,0.0,0.0,0.05130655940288639,0.0,0.05515971144291793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946312077525864,0.054747060216347586,0.15592875959806518,0.0,0.0510288922641052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02847703647685178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298596229704767,0.0,0.10125985178596797,0.05193382445881077,0.04575498822574753,0.0,0.0870257513670218,0.0,0.0,0.08810520429124045,0.0,0.0,0.10376390572944401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993840277288996,0.0,0.18206085179015807,0.12407849603374525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992827961101867,0.0500447744994716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05437278275186157,0.055182965096671165,0.1053367640447653,0.0788176859364485,0.0,0.0,0.057536178454413014,0.05611230513289424,0.04946478743985617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048983415373428235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874440320942428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03319502708919416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715772849514487,0.20603311533147495,0.0,0.6292937267551637,0.041291104427546695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04286320927400103,0.0582440053736717,0.1037079998227025,0.0,0.0,0.07978186746742681,0.05124792117989026,0.0,0.0,0.055229578370289724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0389596184529113,0.04164820309994728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03442463237552651,0.03320197130384639,0.05090952538538,0.0,0.0906439910351143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036011107696302,0.0,0.0,0.05394288573029436,0.0,0.044752887005362924,0.22827456293838286,0.08550820802889639,0.09168828173504938,0.041129588227874686,0.04156413382346364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05262225080283337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673635548767895
parenting,bowtied_jedi,2019/02/22,"Ideas for soon-to-be 1 yr. old son birthday wishlist. I’m compiling a list of gifts ideas for friends and family. I’ve chosen some early development/sensory toys, board books, plush dolls, and seasonal clothing so far. 

Is there any must have gift ideas that in retrospect were a good value? 

Or would allowing guests to donate to a savings account for my son be a decent alternative? I’d appreciate any suggestions. Thanks!

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parenting,sixkidsandsane,2019/02/22,"New driver mad because I made her give me the keys Just a little background info on our family structure. My husband and I each have 2 children from previous relationships, and we have 2 children together. They are 22, 21(his), 20 and 18(mine), 16 and 14(ours). So this is not my first rodeo when it comes to driver's training and kids with permits. The 16 year old just finished Segment I and has her permit. 


And sorry if this is long. I'm just really frustrated as I've never gone through this with the rest of the kids when they were new drivers. 

I had some running to do yesterday, an my 16 year old asked if she could drive. Obviously not an insane request, as she needs to drive time hours before she takes Segment 2. 

The whole drive she is messing with the radio, messing with her phone (which was plugged into the aux cord), and messing with her watch, which she somehow has it bluetoothed? (I'm not get tech savvy) to her phone to be able to skip songs.

Each time she was fussing with something, the car would wander, and I'd say something (several times, actually) to her about it. Her 14 year old brother was in the backseat and even he said something to her about paying attention to the road. I turned the radio off and unplugged the phone. She was pissed but on we go.

Here is where the shit hit the fan and I'm completely  miffed at the situation. I needed to stop at the gas station. So she pulls in, and drives around the building. As she comes around to park, she almost hit one if the concrete pole barriers the place near the diesel pumps. I pointed this out to her and she gets mad. Telling me she was fine, and it's not that close. 

We go inside, get what I need and come back out to the car. She gets back in the driver's seat, and went to take off. There was a lady that had just pulled up next to us and had gotten out of her truck. The lady was walking towards the front of our car, and I pointed this out JUST as she started to hit the gas to pull away. 

OBVIOUSLY I'm furious because she was NOT paying attention to her surroundings and damn near hit someone. The lady was close enough slapped the hood of my car (which I don't blame her, I would have done the same in that situation). I made my daughter get out and switch with me, and she was livid. 

She started yelling at me because apparently all I ever do when she drives is bitch about the way she drives (radio, speeds, road conditions, use mirrors, etc), and that I was going to drive the rest of the day because she wasn't going to. Now mind you, I never yelled at her once during this whole ordeal, from start to end. 

I told her I was absolutely fine with that, and it likely would be a good while before she drove again. More yelling at me ensues, and stating that I just threw 300$ away because she NEEDS those driving hours to take Segment 2, and it would be MY fault if she didn't get them. 

Of course I give her the spiel of driving isn't a right, it's a privilege, and that if she had hit that lady it would be mine and her dad's asses on line because she's a minor driver. I again get on her about paying attention to her surroundings, especially in busy places, like the gas station where people are always coming and going. 

I also told her that it is hard being a new driver, and there's a lot to watch for and do that you aren't used to. I do get it, we adults were all new drivers once, it's basically a right of passage towards becoming an (EEK) adult. I've had my fair share if being bitched at about how I drive, dinged up my own cars from misjudging and doing stupid stuff.

To which she says that now she doesn't even WANT to take Segment 2 because of me. The whole rest of the way home she was still mad, and didn't say two words to me. 

I just don't understand her whole attitude towards the situation, and I honestly don't think she takes it seriously.

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parenting,mybffhasastalker,2019/02/22,"I can't get a handle on my toddlers sleep schedule HELP!! Hi fellow parents!

I am a single mother of a wonderful and spirited 2 1/2 year old. 

Basically, her erratic sleep schedule is driving me insane. 

One week she goes to bed perfectly for me at 8. The next, she absolutely refuses and won't fall asleep until 12 or 1. Currently, she goes to bed for me at 8, and then wakes up 2-3 hours later and is awake until 4-5am and I can't wake her up until almost noon. Its all over the place. 

I have tried everything in the books to get her schedule regulated. I go crazy with all the theories of why and the mom guilt stuff, so please I'm only looking for solutions. Maybe everyone with a toddler struggles with this at some point?? I don't know, thats why I'm here. 

If anyone out there has outside of the box ideas or tricks that worked for you, I would be so grateful to hear them!! 

Thanks all, 

Sleepless and Losing it ",2.7996774193548397,4.32094176344086,4.471806451612904,85.08770967741935,74.91397849462365,7.755698924731183,25.84086021505377,8.447377352677275,1.6920434408602156,712,25,148,13,15,240,123,186,0.07200000000000001,0.79,0.13699999999999998,0.9373,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,1,3,4,6,1,2,10,0,11,5,5,0,4,25,21,16,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,6,11,0,1,3,1,0,3,4,4,0,1,0,2,19,2,26,18,5,29,1,1,1,0,16,11,0,6,15,93,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16885740891917747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790919460257147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611320678247969,0.15155271382139882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762032013531342,0.0,0.09583564676962401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005694029229275,0.0,0.11302834622854947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660654240153568,0.0,0.0,0.1903614167997829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267399168207477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160574196106265,0.1886525205474327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941031902900433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19749604069168267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793386674467534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769475844360876,0.0,0.11426725533555784,0.12824981940821542,0.0,0.0,0.18724235324967772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618123033357128,0.18510381053926,0.15940874439539132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375012115725698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628746015706773,0.19303965946316606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525076520318035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11448790245425836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526387113207616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304322570368094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828707664758062,0.12276379227982967,0.0,0.0,0.11978907841934015,0.0,0.0,0.10859143398549458
parenting,snapjamma55,2019/02/22,"Living with a single mom and child with issues I don't know where else I might post this but I am looking for words or wisdom/advice and this community might have experience needed. If theres a better sub please point me there.

I recently moved back to my hometown and am staying with my dad while I get stable. One of his bar social circle friends is living in the back bedroom, next to the room where I'm staying. This is the story I've been able to piece together over the past few weeks about her.

""Grace"" is a 34 y/o single mom, ex-stripper whose abusive BF left soon after their kid ""Fuschia"" was born. She stopped stripping last year after backpage.com got shut down and was facing eviction/homelessness so my dad let her move in last summer. She started culinary school, has not been working or paying rent. She just recently dropped culinary school to start looking for work because her child support or something has been cut off. I have yet to see her leave to interview or look for work and she goes through a handle of vodka every few days. Bear in mind, on my end, I am not engaging in a lot of open communication so some of this is speculation, but mostly all is what I am observing. 

Her kid ""Fuschia"", just turned 5 years old, is a nightmare, always screaming, throwing fits. If her mom leaves her alone for more than a few minutes she starts SCREAMING for her mom to help her with something. If she doesn't get what she wants she starts SCREAMING and/or ""crying"". Grace will start yelling back at her and they will go back and forth screaming usually for most of their time spent in the house. Then they will be playing happily, Fuschia will scream about something and Grace will start yelling back. Fuschia will scream for something, get it, throw it, then scream about how she didnt want it and she didnt do it. I've heard Grace yell at her to shut the fuck up, this is why she has no friends, what the fuck is wrong with you, fucking bitch, do you want another smack, etc. To a 5 year old.  Then they are playing and laughing minutes later. This goes on multiple times a day, sometimes at 3am, sometimes first thing in the morning. Grace says she has ""night terrors"" but the behavior is the same regardless what time of day it's happening.

I have no choice but to stay here for right now as my social network here is small and I haven't found another place to live, and just recently started working so not a lot of income just yet, or else I would just mind my own business. This is becoming completely unbearable and I don't have any idea where my place is or actions I can/should take or what I can start doing in the house, if anything. I know this is absolutely dysfunctional and I feel like this kid is in a horrible situation, However, I'm also 29 and am working hard to get my own shit together and get established in a new city and this is just a lot to deal with.

 I get her situation is awful and must be really stressful and I wanted to be compassionate, but my gut feeling is telling me more and more she is a manipulative deadbeat who is leaching off my dad, a heavy alcoholic codependent who won't really tell her anything.

Any advice or feedback is more than welcome as this household is a complete shitshow circus. Thanks.",6.143088444481634,6.501357187599367,5.929755250606648,82.03121726215383,66.15421303656598,9.037586812819011,32.6098652832399,8.841846274778883,2.518863910969793,2577,101,505,38,38,803,289,629,0.139,0.759,0.102,-0.9782,5,1,6,0,4,0,73.0,0,2,5,7,30,33,6,2,27,1,65,8,3,2,2,83,107,48,0,12,26,7,3,1,3,11,1,12,3,5,25,27,2,1,6,4,3,6,12,16,0,2,11,19,64,17,64,81,21,95,0,0,4,3,63,33,5,20,52,341,89,10,0.058617165740494,0.06945175625261077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456003190405745,0.0,0.06264392355815983,0.0,0.06070970569491321,0.0,0.046876126264874377,0.0487741776193342,0.0,0.0,0.07972336554359635,0.12293041840748148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647386579644107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22536491116365925,0.0,0.035732480170542966,0.06473805424355451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184211962401932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229179660813202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438820411587758,0.1134096678764637,0.06043172400733893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793424077151787,0.0,0.05191741034951988,0.0,0.06537363454864173,0.0,0.0,0.04938749027399427,0.0,0.0,0.057338835846452385,0.0,0.0,0.059277200494316576,0.04187611491727243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498597312342712,0.0,0.06427069669225292,0.0905749536898783,0.16257187554798516,0.18375029859067227,0.0,0.033313486123437326,0.0,0.04688150222267063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05183496607815615,0.0,0.052509466918763605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03928985059902911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527267834641682,0.0,0.06617164521508158,0.0,0.061181091815306274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442892263931357,0.09556162721479224,0.0,0.12413422973720542,0.06368772208855894,0.059940023404139675,0.0,0.028637386313397312,0.0,0.15528009379534785,0.0,0.1476709683347426,0.0,0.0,0.14950265442865368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243670993135465,0.11837325504458125,0.274606864263436,0.0,0.12460154116449895,0.0,0.043463885661166116,0.0,0.05661282393884842,0.06234002076226192,0.05500823921174732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301770995207086,0.0,0.03972050852993174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595671736985658,0.0,0.0,0.12248492434211533,0.06434404557855526,0.055412168367122004,0.0,0.05613904149819497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510331470334412,0.0,0.1736321386235156,0.0,0.0,0.05005873926362963,0.0,0.04661472291760012,0.0,0.11864740230100693,0.046710291905141615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060169678281311124,0.0,0.1317763005105691,0.0,0.11950563727737665,0.0,0.18050543185057866,0.11594775150879108,0.0,0.33191625289614385,0.18743429825188185,0.0,0.0490065752619883,0.06714576530900589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651806503747144,0.0,0.0,0.044072813640566325,0.0,0.10246797302671078,0.053966810749259436,0.0,0.0,0.03894264029216159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254042219012624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637586439827874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455852669235572,0.0,0.13829569228855754,0.0,0.0470191546240922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289287476390063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21336997393077092,0.0,0.0,0.041639952733400765,0.06408866886039245,0.0,0.1132425986928244
parenting,Runadaemon,2019/02/23,"Parenting books related to my earlier post Sorry! I’m new to reddit so I didn’t know the comments would lock. I responded to everyone that asked for the book titles but in case I missed anyone: He read a lot, but here are a few he recommended:

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (Most helpful)

Helping Your Troubled Teen: Learn to Recognize, Understand, and Address the Destructive Behavior of Today's Teens (Pretty helpful)

Crazy-Stressed: Saving Today's Overwhelmed Teens with Love, Laughter, and the Science of Resilience (Super helpful)

No Drama Discipline (Helpful)

The Connected Child (good for much smaller children, but not really useful)

This is a book for parents of gay kids (Yes, that’s the title, but it’s better when your kid may not have come out already)

Sorry, I didn’t expect the comments to get locked. I don’t get any endorsements for recommending these books, they were just what my husband read to try to help our suicidal, depressed, anxious, ptsd child. Thank you!

TL;DR: Books my husband recommends for parenting techniques.",4.5893684210526295,7.636914726315791,4.7592105263157904,77.86197368421053,75.42105263157895,7.589473684210527,30.552631578947373,8.548686976883017,3.005294736842105,858,40,132,18,20,268,126,190,0.146,0.718,0.136,-0.4738,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,3,1,2,7,11,1,1,10,1,11,2,0,2,0,25,24,12,1,2,7,5,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,7,6,6,0,1,3,8,0,1,6,5,0,0,3,2,13,6,19,17,4,8,0,3,0,2,34,2,0,3,4,80,19,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692804858518964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438030833846953,0.0,0.0,0.14017782885298,0.0,0.08676132111422916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600032348756124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974082714564837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688602766531534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687201636860072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185660806646038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296558982145829,0.0,0.0,0.1040744564301687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990190294420815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819245927654344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549044596978667,0.1119892388647421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912148642066402,0.0,0.0,0.1198395854790961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133365678029555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118836669755328,0.12623644120093142,0.0,0.0,0.14504572224560058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482320197909883,0.0,0.0794903828845986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778002464092437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421360059692443,0.0,0.0,0.13572604058795004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19946551644466246,0.0,0.1142384318578762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352312728304615,0.0,0.0,0.0842438259544504,0.0,0.0,0.12917418711783746,0.0,0.1071673812372188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814459918710436,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sweetaswhole2u,2019/02/23,"Struggling with one and done Hi, I am having a tough time and hoping for some insight from the community here. My DH and I have a beautiful 1 year old son, but we finally admitted to each other that we are one and done. However, despite all of the reasons for this (which I will list, just for the sake of finally getting to share with someone), I'm feeling really sad about it. I don't know what I am looking for by posting here. Maybe reassurance,  or maybe just putting it in writing  will help me process it. 

I had a rough pregnancy (sickness, BP issues, bleeding, etc.)  I ended up having to have an emergency c-section, which I had complications from and an extended healing time (3 months). I could get pregnant again but would likely have a roughy time again, maybe worse.
 Then, my husband developed severe anxiety. He would sleep on the floor by our newborn so that he could hear him breathe. Everything I or anyone else did filled my hubby with worry that we would accidently hurt our son. He had stats and stories for why everything was fraught with danger.  When our son started solids my hubby would have full blown panic attacks that our son would choke and die. If DS gagged or spit up, DH would start yelling ""He's choking. Help him, he's choking!"" It was traumatizing for me. This anxiety seemed to transfer to me because then I couldn't feed our son without first watching YouTube videos about infant first aid ""just in case.""

5 months ago I made DH seek counselling and they put him on medication. His anxiety is much better and our family is on a good place for the first time in a year. 
But I worry that a 2nd child would make everything flair up again. I don't know if I can go through that again. I don't know if our marriage could handle it. I don't want our son to see that now that he is older and more aware. 
I know in my gut that having one child is what is best for our family. I really do. I've made lists of all the reasons this will be good for him and us (more money, better education, better balance, etc). 
But I also feel a sense of failure. I feel like I should be stronger. I feel like I should suck it up and give him a sibling. We don't have fertility issues. I have a friend who almost died in childbirth and she still had a second  I feel like I don't have an excuse. I feel like we've failed our son. What if he grows up lonely? What do I say when he inevitably asks for a brother. 
Sorry for the long post. I just feel alone in this right now. If you read this far, thanks for ""listening.""",2.9065394791811734,4.768404740518964,3.792276841665508,88.62583623450773,75.44710578842316,6.895994058394837,25.024416283711645,7.738981096181357,1.2260285104210191,1969,67,408,28,43,630,236,501,0.17600000000000002,0.6990000000000001,0.125,-0.9825,2,3,0,0,1,0,70.0,15,1,1,8,19,26,3,2,22,0,54,9,4,5,2,78,86,31,2,20,17,9,8,5,1,12,4,4,0,4,28,22,1,0,16,2,1,5,8,10,0,7,11,15,62,16,48,57,11,57,0,4,3,0,61,19,1,12,36,276,90,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209628368650982,0.0,0.07014629521456311,0.07255205886142027,0.0,0.05602002897288789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076724343590915,0.0,0.0,0.04898152367754358,0.07177587314664995,0.0,0.0,0.065488543956448,0.07969350889470593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04270264490534312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351455646616355,0.1858641450197868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677908776441077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454044564674264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337367832346032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05851890335880031,0.0,0.06204469233535561,0.0,0.15625151621037894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887287455723845,0.0,0.13207633242383113,0.0,0.2479404259272296,0.20017875689488748,0.0,0.15347563142934711,0.0,0.17875689466370806,0.0,0.0,0.05412148927637673,0.0,0.07319786474861813,0.06719962569676137,0.039811789209665806,0.1175114759986231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895294809184795,0.0,0.09390786928344518,0.0,0.0,0.06957678387475152,0.0,0.0,0.0749914052056055,0.0,0.0,0.14623079205478612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539935314855937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711177243955015,0.0,0.0,0.0619932289496519,0.05882548028693471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256853787577252,0.046759811474191934,0.0,0.21112795098063755,0.0,0.0,0.07056935235742319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182861789468776,0.0,0.05149579298128885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350709438694908,0.0,0.14240579689273392,0.0,0.0,0.08219015068730874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731887376061712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417963393428306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084188419648308,0.0,0.0,0.0700702939902714,0.0,0.08975336063112146,0.14404888315241446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982345913246054,0.0,0.05570763491956598,0.0,0.0,0.055821846094370235,0.06377210635488173,0.0,0.07913807160669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010192734147021,0.0,0.059354270602688525,0.0,0.0,0.0784167367000259,0.09916539390834513,0.0,0.05594308829992601,0.0,0.0,0.07323286731660125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449385951102488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338999201212887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426313334197244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413180935912567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321043594750596,0.0,0.0,0.06752698918006428,0.0,0.0,0.1422810664030303,0.07138829716171302,0.34833722005137424,0.0,0.0,0.09022152874281296
parenting,MikeyFED,2019/02/23,"Constant fights about sleep. We have a 11 month old boy.  It's been an amazing ride.  We are a very compatible couple IMO and our only arguments are due to sleeping arrangements.


We have opposite work schedules to make ends meet and to live somewhat comfortably.

She works from 7am to 4pm.

I work 4pm to midnight.

The baby is awake around 630 every morning.


This is starting to cause chaos.  Am I even on the correct subreddit?  Does couplestherapy exist?



The quarrel is she is stuck with him still waking up every few hours and I'm stuck with getting around 4 hours of sleep a night.

I get off at midnight and by the time I get home, shower, wind down and pass out it's like 230am.

Our fights happen on the weekends when we have the freedom to decide.  We never even sleep together anymore.  Our spare room has turned into some sacred getaway.  I get it during the week... but like I said I'm still only getting 4 hours.

The battle comes with me continuing to stay up late on weekends when I'm not obligated by work... therefore I sleep in.

But good lord...  it's my only stretch of alone time at home I get all week.   I feel like parents need healthy alone time when it's not at work.

It sounds so stupid when I type it out.    




Has anyone else ever dealt with a similar issue?


Maybe we aren't taking sleep training and moving him into his own room by himself serious enough?

I pray for the day he sleeps through the night.",1.9587096774193569,4.4107236344086065,2.9667491039426537,90.35679032258064,81.47311827956989,5.440430107526883,22.561648745519708,6.742157984588678,0.6303184229390686,1110,37,222,12,30,353,159,279,0.098,0.813,0.08900000000000001,0.3641,3,2,0,0,2,0,35.0,9,0,0,5,13,11,4,0,15,0,14,8,8,3,4,39,34,13,0,1,4,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,5,1,8,23,0,0,2,2,0,4,4,5,0,0,4,3,28,6,38,30,6,55,2,0,0,0,22,20,0,2,33,130,36,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241691589706798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254876523772932,0.05820126527733902,0.08528617159853749,0.0,0.14819720424289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550735636604694,0.0,0.07170132924093714,0.0,0.0899496566831014,0.0,0.0,0.09210018819733916,0.0,0.05368099697939248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284128405519441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953385608308432,0.0,0.07372330067626044,0.08600610049905319,0.0,0.1099545438250417,0.07529265716132331,0.14026157200844436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04208714230803202,0.059464549375935136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609274696321221,0.0,0.0,0.06981526986330892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360622889309823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698705146771056,0.0,0.2459151170294089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687783148728323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389499304088347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199622212768978,0.0,0.0734998206243558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05556136248116584,0.0,0.08362278236027137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643900155632426,0.08846778780136856,0.0,0.06171920150840859,0.06419752733011712,0.0,0.0,0.15622462413966728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734325882440114,0.0,0.0,0.18991653160657532,0.0,0.0,0.0924248690644525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791774746373123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5830799849264278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058915596778765386,0.08871959672127695,0.13294639603342293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06258388601815752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456085410597386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053798426017118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867926531885044,0.0,0.0,0.13353544603087422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029877383614445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NappingSounds,2019/02/23,"I’m tired of being the heavy and feel terribly sad My wife is out of town for the night, a rarity. I told our boys (twins, 6) the plan for the day/night: go to the park, go to the grocery store for some dinner supplies and items to make an ice cream sundae bar, go home to eat dinner and stay up kinda late watching a movie. They’re generally well behaved, but today was really, really difficult. Lots of bad decisions, particularly by one son. I ended up deciding the ice cream sundaes were out, and sometime later took TV after dinner away, too.

All I wanted to do tonight was spend time together, but because I feel like I have to teach them manners, about making good decisions (don’t punch each other, don’t slide down the bannister, don’t jump on the couch, etc.), and generally to be disciplined, we didn’t get to because of the punishment meted out. I hate doing it and just want to have fun with them when we get time to be with each other.

The downside is the usual punishment of no desserts, no tv, no screens...doesn’t work. It never changes anything. I feel powerless, and like I’m failing them. I’m sad that we didn’t get to do the fun stuff tonight and I guess I’m venting but also looking for help. How can I teach them right/wrong, smart/foolish, etc. in a better way so this doesn’t happen again? What discipline techniques are more effective? I’m actually surprised at home emotional I am about this. I feel like the punishment was worst for me because all I wanted tonight was to spend that time together and now I’ve lost the chance.",4.065175915331807,5.5381135296052655,4.9358352402745975,83.21671624713963,71.59868421052632,8.313272311212815,28.020022883295198,8.841846274778883,2.137250457665904,1219,45,240,23,23,396,170,304,0.188,0.6859999999999999,0.126,-0.9767,1,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,4,0,4,6,11,21,4,0,19,0,24,7,0,4,3,48,51,16,0,3,4,2,4,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,10,19,6,2,8,3,3,6,10,12,1,1,10,8,22,9,38,38,11,36,0,4,4,0,13,11,0,4,20,150,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.11634185047372925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534045985385624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981081785314258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201143043308126,0.0,0.09954400096105838,0.21802683130823086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054406991060671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126119307736894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688725405137481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219921674089618,0.0,0.13410683170186558,0.1055938314777864,0.0,0.2659243788604532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411255367836237,0.17034206412646213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18686311521271606,0.0,0.20326699363318768,0.09999636170517104,0.0,0.0,0.1313346414372988,0.0,0.1054261496454669,0.0,0.0,0.11770539981881067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991087835488796,0.0,0.23917543585147416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344857322016187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473510277092086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001150560702966,0.0,0.13014308037422082,0.10135686654979048,0.0,0.0,0.1591610004624124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195007304345812,0.0,0.0,0.22376041879248795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078678531315414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275120047048754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181351577839318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179119610418007,0.0,0.0,0.12707301570913448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647876183057572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855501049669334,0.13702623853945464,0.11300693872999205,0.11392014039542354,0.13245818029751116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313043570954965,0.0,0.21095772969958232,0.09463155369302044,0.0,0.0,0.10719340010685782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679382472270733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13034872220552735,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cardtastic,2019/02/23,"2nd graders have a google drive in their computer class, and the they create and share some documents on their own. I’m not sure I’m comfortable with this. There’s already one referring to a kind of plan for recess. I guess they play a sort of team game that chase each other, and it’s normal recess fun as far as I can tell. But the fact that there’s a plan to “get” the other team made me realize that even in second grade things are a few steps away from going bad. 

We’re going to have a serious talk with her about internet safety and have her delete the particular documents that aren’t class-related. What else should we do? ",6.1847356580427455,5.717420724409454,6.258942632170983,82.50346456692915,66.16535433070865,10.406749156355458,27.591676040494946,9.957137785484203,2.1783282339707544,500,12,106,10,7,159,86,127,0.076,0.821,0.103,0.5165,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,4,4,4,8,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,1,2,20,15,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,0,2,4,0,4,2,2,0,2,1,0,10,6,16,13,4,9,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,3,0,69,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078587869920983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26210869662438324,0.0,0.23293469468071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330500387846369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426211450400826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457543139011396,0.0,0.3170988684634373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073253466692128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29051230450355003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639754089729133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733388759772694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18904248362005505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26293314466165296,0.0,0.0,0.2242316770519145,0.243838772832996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534036224649772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlaeniaFeild,2019/02/23,"Parents of Kids 8-11, can you measure your child's wrist size, please I want to make beaded bracelets for my sister and niece, but I want them to be a surprise. My kids aren't the right age and google isn't helping enough. If you have a kid (esp a girl) around this age, can you please measure their wrist and help me out?",7.311293532338311,4.814134955223885,6.152835820895523,90.72786069651742,65.11940298507463,8.933333333333334,31.288557213930346,3.1291,1.092267661691542,250,6,60,0,3,74,50,67,0.035,0.764,0.201,0.8429,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,6,2,2,1,0,10,9,5,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,11,1,6,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,1,2,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540727451769513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949017313436609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826046000575943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19051139275508613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31691070456819825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6265823730385756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24373602372290126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366808936088142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,holyheadharpies,2019/02/23,"How often do you drink? Hey parents. Just wanted to check in and see how often you guys drink alcohol during the week. I have two boys, 3.5 and 1.5 and I drink alcohol every single night. I never intend to, but I am a sahm and by 5pm my choices are either lose my shit or have a glass of wine. Am I an alcoholic? Lol I mean I have maybe 2 drinks a night and then drink a little more on the weekends. I just need to know if I need to tone it down or if it’s totally fine. I figure once my children are trying to kill each other/themselves every 10 minutes then it won’t be as stressful! 

Am I normal??",0.009003322259136581,2.000664147286823,2.5477574750830563,93.20808139534886,85.82170542635659,4.926024363233665,17.74141749723145,6.18269132825596,-0.23933266888150584,461,11,103,4,14,159,84,129,0.159,0.792,0.049,-0.9543,1,0,9,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,2,1,7,1,11,10,1,3,2,28,17,15,1,6,8,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,6,9,0,3,7,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,1,16,1,11,15,5,11,0,1,1,0,7,4,1,6,7,73,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4169753067792074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.637033515815848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21915787665007508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877723774624067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388920343713427,0.0,0.07147612584759683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303516458175825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455009227008702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13066010282948412,0.14167059679498578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287177460561472,0.10030825674053186,0.0,0.0,0.2441000511875361,0.12742860272570666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850684782805253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441331124256293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036388803606248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335020149605974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898027080872628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830041282694383,0.0,0.12704714635321707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671120283614584,0.0,0.10432417229676134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cuthman99,2019/02/23,"You know how dumb and pointless it is to say, ""[X], what did I JUST tell you?!?"" I've said it approximately 437 times in the past 24 hours. 

God help me, it's like a verbal tick. It's a pointless thing to say and I hated it when my parents said it and... sigh.

I used to dread Monday mornings, and yet, I'm kind of looking forward to going to work.",0.3407142857142881,1.979877743243243,2.565289575289576,95.49959459459463,82.37837837837839,4.769111969111969,20.03088803088803,5.288315135182226,-0.4029976833976834,259,7,63,1,7,88,52,74,0.14400000000000002,0.748,0.108,-0.6958,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,1,4,6,2,1,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,8,10,6,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,8,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,3,5,7,2,7,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,9,2,1,0,8,35,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413685651664299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455860125735054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667297677645463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24496553743973745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590315623002312,0.13670476147392274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152514444873755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088847024582112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762039356913145,0.0,0.2374570111542518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4732304267085181,0.39562695240445617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21741570769003452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525635178187242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504628648855816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148374093740639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810906667193274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jakefoy92,2019/02/23,"Wife induced tomorrow. Hello everyone. My wife is going to be induced tomorrow night for the birth of our first little Girl. I’m so excited! I can’t believe it’s actually happening, but....I am so scared that something bad is going to happen. I’m so nervous and I don’t know what to do. 
What can I, as a soon to be daddy, do to ease not only my anxiety, but hers as well during what will absolutely be the biggest challenge of her life? Thanks!",1.125,3.4511492777777804,4.0466666666666695,82.08000000000003,84.0,7.1555555555555586,25.66666666666667,8.238735603445708,2.0771333333333337,345,15,67,8,10,123,61,90,0.07,0.782,0.14800000000000002,0.7278,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,5,7,0,2,3,0,12,1,0,2,0,6,20,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,0,8,4,10,16,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,6,47,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.2433857963647921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079609703967898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824489079890973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809969072876141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383196070823192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121459390100517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28348812239473925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44110055469557335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706786974543694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616393206790973,0.0,0.2499718919870425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23405209518747735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968568443481915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497004722159597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920061209136381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296209678304485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22424734473299898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittenluvslamp,2019/02/23,"Nannying for my six year old niece and need ideas! So I’m nannying this whole summer for my six year old niece. I live out of state but she and I have always shared a really special bond. I’m so excited to spend so much time with her!! I’m looking for good suggestions re: books to read, games to play, activities to do, advice etc. i know it may sound like I’m overthinking this but I may never have the opportunity to spend this much time with her and I’m also hoping to get some good practice in as my husband and I plan on getting pregnant this year. I’m currently reading “The Whole Brain Child” and will follow with “How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk”. I’m also planning on making “Service” a big theme of our time together so I plan on brainstorming with her ideas on how we can be of service in ways big and small to our family, friends and community. I’m planning on taking her on hikes and to parks, she loves to bake. I want this summer to feel like an amazing camp that she never forgets. Any ideas on how to make it magical?",2.418238304093564,4.272147680555559,3.866832358674465,87.58771929824562,76.82407407407408,7.139961013645222,23.405458089668606,8.032893268588372,1.1918648148148154,833,26,175,14,19,275,110,216,0.013,0.7809999999999999,0.207,0.9936,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,0,5,11,13,0,0,5,0,10,3,1,5,2,36,33,23,0,3,2,1,1,2,1,5,0,3,1,3,8,15,1,0,5,5,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,20,13,33,27,6,29,0,0,1,1,23,13,0,4,15,108,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251951529540405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20491138838155326,0.10660420612267328,0.0,0.0,0.0871244427690136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302174630697978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288512390312755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077798398858815,0.0,0.06478016860879074,0.0915273245834914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898343246365512,0.0,0.13387244140362392,0.0,0.0,0.2149181296326819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724980372465194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338879331420241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041014820289361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251836927808237,0.0,0.11313029375845693,0.0,0.10758661731183042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563124411775035,0.0,0.17103914555762875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836253084966892,0.0949976658156621,0.19762456734529946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688759903000659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563047804348528,0.0,0.08207549190903801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632858079974396,0.20595234023281994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22411941803256533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556715052004825,0.10169388254296326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28607771749091304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24751083303004984
parenting,Fozzymofo,2019/02/23,"Had enough.... I'm a mum to a beautiful little 4 year old girl and 3 month old boy and really, really struggling to keep going. I live near my mother in law who often ends up minding her other grandchildren because their parents don't care for them as they are too self absorbed. This means I am often left helping to mind them. Also , my husband's cousins are constantly looking to meet at our house for play dates and I'm exhausted. I literally feel like just ending it all because I'm fed up of other people's kids and running on empty. Our daughter is constantly sick with various bugs and I  was recently in hospital when I had a suspected stroke but it thankfully turned out to be just a severe migraine. Can anyone recommend what I can do ? What do other parents do to keep going ? Thank you . ",3.7361836228287832,5.69230046451613,5.199354838709677,79.02210918114147,73.38709677419354,8.382133995037224,28.69727047146402,9.057496981413335,2.657957816377172,632,26,113,14,13,212,107,155,0.091,0.792,0.116,0.7105,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,4,0,7,7,0,1,4,0,14,5,0,0,1,21,29,9,0,0,3,7,2,1,0,0,4,0,0,4,9,7,1,2,3,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,4,3,16,5,19,24,3,24,0,0,1,0,22,10,0,2,12,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284732203422312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866888463841757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204129343376573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387322455122895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049841702319766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24996693164406375,0.14580655537132015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135053455218864,0.10081053623990703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039455459318253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458448844881387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282445577450158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508538956127853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533187457415638,0.0,0.0,0.06894026049136166,0.14143142907500114,0.12460459901638267,0.0,0.11849865199052848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371248162576298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849660562132391,0.0,0.11263435852837048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961468926086654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31337664911529073,0.0,0.0,0.0978293855700501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18080009197595734,0.0,0.13933120775966662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721073046631689,0.1594165446806476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752104047582054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598341866975076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348947968387067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087158731556147
parenting,Bretswife1,2019/02/23,"Need advice I have a 10 year old daughter that started to menstrate this year.  After her last 2 periods she got a yeast infection.   Any advice on best treatment or what to do.  The first one we treated with Diflucan 1 tablet for 5 days.  Not sure what is causing this.  Hormones????

Thanks for your help",1.9772180451127848,4.704006070175441,2.697994987468676,90.22263157894741,84.78947368421052,5.3624060150375925,25.686716791979947,6.868970318607317,1.2561348370927319,234,10,44,3,7,73,50,57,0.033,0.787,0.18,0.8689,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,1,7,7,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,5,4,7,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,9,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4990395510901665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364307556056324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26796839095105346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623092291478004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467613473243928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21719597558654127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422239270348505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17115209449103472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081399191065812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933477608620014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679411908772671,0.0,0.17302810078170214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073421320223465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406592517309687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350869894365362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32886708494913525
parenting,Illicit888,2019/02/23,"Tattoos I'm a Dad as of October 11th, 2018 (my daughter is 4 months old). I really love my daughter with all my heart. I have a fear, I have lots of tattoos, my neck is blasted, I have a couple of face tattoos my arms and chest are all sleeved up. I'm worried that my daughter may grow up and hate me because her friends parents might say I'm a piece of crap because of my ink or whatever judge mental notion they make. On the other hand, I'm a gentleman, and I feel it may teach my daughter to not judge a book by its cover and it may be all she knows of me and may not think any differently despite what anyone says. What do y'all think? Am I being too worried or how do I deal with it? Honest answers only please. ",2.6458014354067,3.488520828947369,4.316196172248805,88.7292822966507,74.26315789473685,6.843062200956937,27.63397129186603,6.980632752743323,1.2177026315789474,554,21,123,5,11,187,91,152,0.09,0.8009999999999999,0.109,0.5931,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,0,2,6,2,1,7,0,16,8,7,2,3,27,27,9,0,0,4,6,2,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,8,7,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,4,21,3,14,20,5,6,0,0,0,1,15,3,1,8,2,82,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280523069423505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166564025196853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295751809979803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20835337837665435,0.0,0.0,0.19413183622840047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673626446553047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21189291154861786,0.09521151321980507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548221455657168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590995180983694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22313963013315447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348625050535172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008823898371613,0.1699505568505993,0.0,0.1256935279584504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976485273498606,0.1997594289483334,0.0,0.0,0.15030143478720806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975920289706451,0.0,0.0,0.1432127039922445,0.0,0.0,0.2090878867080856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20669984058392693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063154435598272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994917621139797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413135596054271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38246110568170294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,corallerew,2019/02/23,"Parents that have adopted, how did you know this was what you wanted to do? I am only 18 years old, but ever since the idea of having children one day became something fathomable, I have been turned off by the whole process. I have never wanted to go through a natural birth process, possibly not even the process of “dealing” with a new born. I just don’t know if I have the patience, and I don’t think I would handle the changes to my body very well- plus it is very painful and scary!!!
There has also been a couple times that I have been unsure if I will ever want a child in general. But there is  an overwhelming desire for me to be a mother and follow in MY mother’s footsteps. She was/is the most selfless person I know, and I appreciate that more and more as I get older. I want to give someone the life, experience, love, and memories that she gave me. 
It’s all very confusing. I know I have a lot of time to figure this out, I’m obviously in no hurry. But I’m wondering, how do you KNOW that you want to be a parent? Is it a life long thing? An epiphany? How do I know if adopting is right for me? 
More than anything, I never want to have a kid and regret doing so, as that would be awful for that child and I would not be able to live with myself being a bad mother. It’s all so scary!! Any advice or stories??",2.667802197802196,3.8919254505494494,4.089523809523809,88.89714285714287,74.71428571428571,6.665201465201466,23.98901098901099,7.07126945348624,0.7855230769230768,1020,30,221,10,21,338,140,273,0.13,0.7809999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.9461,2,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,4,0,0,13,7,0,2,19,1,34,5,1,3,7,57,57,24,0,14,10,5,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,15,12,0,0,10,0,0,2,7,5,1,1,6,0,30,2,28,42,8,22,0,2,0,1,20,6,0,8,14,168,45,0,0.11221165302848704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096519286505694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973561838592747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630777196091262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234062938997226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369204319490844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246418502082582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187050501699202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416005977626975,0.0,0.0723672331649338,0.1156852870752201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411473853201131,0.2030037288052832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976452838992666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058625957342200566,0.10764364242153804,0.06377246833464799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126673297819812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700115394972504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851681805369822,0.0,0.0,0.09908494543693856,0.09930378183541692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539833467813398,0.10127539789364454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308908888910035,0.10837471372998096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774725382162853,0.0,0.07603752015250878,0.08534201857890618,0.11940111033209648,0.0,0.2491955226686033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797888721924966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650177867893678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582813857227224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282263894839156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507656947045956,0.08638601266668665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454843620080476,0.07190069635269088,0.0,0.0,0.13086303452624132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205405610767894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777590965104603,0.3971120415592935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089175215038536,0.0,0.0,0.12528030329715314,0.0,0.0,0.12168875108074688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391358164054891,0.0,0.0,0.07226062554678725
parenting,ImperfectMom,2019/02/23,"3 Year Old Son Hitting Constantly My son is 3, turning 4 in May. As of about two weeks ago, he's suddenly developed an issue with hitting. We have no clue how to handle it, and nothing we've tried has worked. We make sure to praise and acknowledge his positive behavior, we've tried taking toys from him, we've even tried getting him to start taking naps again, just so he has some calm down time.

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The things that make him mad are generally pretty inconsequential - we ask him to pick up his toys, or tell him we're going to the store, or even if we are singing in the car. Then he goes yelling, spitting, hitting me in the face or wherever he can reach. He clearly understands that it's wrong, and that it makes us sad and upset, but I think in the moment he just has no impulse control.

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Please help!",6.471463077984816,6.2107359254658405,6.338219461697722,81.48274672187715,65.52173913043478,9.640027605244997,32.795721187025535,9.150863307647796,2.590618495514148,648,24,131,10,9,204,105,161,0.073,0.81,0.116,0.7424,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,5,0,0,3,8,7,1,1,6,0,9,2,2,6,2,30,24,13,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,9,0,1,3,4,1,2,2,4,0,1,0,1,15,3,16,20,1,19,1,1,0,0,24,6,0,6,11,74,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254225413313804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30660918443623,0.3438522037817883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322742541659369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290066046593898,0.15869331077807872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690590928334644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392279917386435,0.0,0.08041215160047151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948379107194746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476790274036668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833374578522555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357636802976136,0.0,0.14847018269951134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553137707797652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394641847878867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014750463089347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133352856109352,0.0,0.21276607070139164,0.0,0.12366868706994863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399981386795853,0.09066121864614762,0.0,0.0,0.08250408401947219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881877113231884,0.15390072737471236,0.1382153837696201,0.14729630698258614,0.1701953111662803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349491841679385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300656393110903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469734200674373,0.3438522037817883,0.09111506152971356
parenting,yik77,2019/02/23,"problems with 11 years old son, what are my options? I am European immigrant living in the US for last 7 years.  My son was born here in the US, right before I took postdoc position overseas, once it concluded, we returned back to States where he attends regular public school. I am married and have daughter few years younger than him...

He is very bright, was identified as gifted in 3rd grade, ranking in 99th percentile in math, language, and general intelligence. He spends most of his free time reading. 

His character is totally terrible, and he sometimes makes me sick, sometimes makes me cry. My wife can not stand it anymore. He is smaller, skinny kid, and in any verbal or physical conflict he acts extremely cowardly, yet he starts them on near constant basis, whenever he walks near to his younger sister, he attacks her from behind, trips her, kicks her, etc...

He has absolutely no respect for rules, and he is not hesitating to lie, cheat and manipulate all 3 of us, which is often successful, surprisingly given his age (unsurprisingly, perhaps, given his intellect)...blackmailing, turning us on each other...

He is having serious problems in completing his tasks, in being organized, or even finishing his food or work \[not on time, ever\]. He has no problems ignoring his minimal chores or HWs and go to the computer to watch youtube etc and then lying about it, when escalated, he says that he lives in fear and suffering and threatens us with running away....it sucks....big way....and it is getting worse...his teachers say that he can be the best and nicest person in the class, but there are issues with him....she asks if we considered getting some professional help....

What are my options in the US? Who should I try to look for? What kind of help? Psychologist? Psychiatrist? Some counselor? Therapy? What can be done? How to start?

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parenting,culito_de_osa,2019/02/23,"Breastfeeding mothers - when did you decide to stop? My son is 13 months and I currently breastfeed him in the mornings and at night before bed. I also breastfeed him before his morning nap. I don’t have too much of a problem with it now, but I heard that it gets harder to stop as they get older. 

When did you decide to stop and was it difficult for your child to adjust?",4.555405405405402,5.401629675675673,5.171189189189189,84.34813513513515,69.81081081081078,7.541621621621622,26.962162162162162,7.554174236665415,1.442668108108108,292,9,57,3,5,94,55,74,0.16699999999999998,0.833,0.0,-0.8924,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,1,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,9,8,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,4,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,1,12,0,10,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,10,44,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21455666419330435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4566012276259064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803477608720443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21415175658373967,0.0,0.1972288441229047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517781491100661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25672357618386243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6729238196221822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yesIdofloss,2019/02/23,"Getting newborn to sleep in crib My baby is 17 days old now, and it is a struggle to get him to sleep in his crib. His crib is pushed up right against my side of the bed to make nursing and such easier. Right now I spend so much time with him sleeping in my arms that I'm missing more sleep than I should. 

He currently sleeps for 3-4 blocks during the night, but it can take a dozen tries before he settles in his crib.  I'm not a fan of the cry it out method, so I've been placing him in the crib once he is calm and drowsy/ passed out milk drunk, and picking him up if he starts to cry.  (This usually happens after a few minutes of being fussy) this can easily take 7+ tries.

If I set him in his rock and play he will easily sleep throughout the night, but he just hates flat surfaces, even when swaddled. ",5.358326797385622,4.284497211764709,5.589607843137255,88.63101307189545,68.05882352941177,8.732026143790849,29.47712418300653,7.3871296695380915,1.4172810457516345,626,18,146,5,9,199,102,170,0.123,0.799,0.078,-0.8043,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,9,5,1,1,9,0,10,9,7,2,0,18,21,12,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,8,2,1,0,3,1,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,15,2,23,17,3,30,0,1,0,0,16,15,0,2,12,85,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694567281343902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761103831938155,0.08105414981212912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301142461214503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132675995679166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111397075225217,0.0,0.0,0.12408443022605052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389335615438104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239034044044334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358870885766373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131881559289041,0.13384666214996235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131038464243872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146625747692154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7546334049031538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895799028118359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138955924553014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18899364611608455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328587498422907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065893432247245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384203814053803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blossomteacher,2019/02/23,"Tips for organizing teeny tiny toys? I have 2 girls, 8 & 9, and their room has turned into the pit of hell. We've tried using the Marie Kondo method to no avail. The big stuff isn't the problem...stuffed animals, massive Lego collection in a Lego bag. Nerf guns probably need to get hung on the wall. 

It's the little tiny things that make me want to die. The Shopkins. The shiny rocks. The kid's meal toys. The jewels and gems and weird treasures they find or bring home. I've tried putting them in containers....they get mixed up. I've tried limiting what they can get out, to make sure it gets put back away...they get up in the middle of the night to play more freely with them. I've tried donating what they haven't touched in 6 months, which works once, but invariably,  the creep happens, and when the same type of toys keep disappearing,  they finally notice and the world comes to an end. And none of this includes their art supplies....they have a whole bookcase of those. 

They don't play with most of them bc they have so much. But when they do, it truly brings them joy! But picking them back up is a never ending nightmare!!! It takes hours (with me or dad helping) to clean their room, and 5 minutes to destroy it again.

Limiting factors: we just downsized to a small apartment,  and their room is the only place for their toys. And what they have is already half of what they had...half of their toys are in storage. I do not look forward to getting those back out. 

Help me, Obi-Wan. You're my only hope.",2.4943480345158235,4.642621459731546,2.6177612655800573,95.25062080536915,77.69127516778524,5.73365292425695,22.05225311601151,6.7097532225279775,0.31136490891658664,1177,34,254,11,28,355,171,298,0.043,0.8420000000000001,0.115,0.9675,0,0,1,1,0,1,61.0,1,0,20,3,8,9,2,0,21,0,15,1,0,4,2,39,35,17,1,3,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,16,17,1,3,1,9,1,7,7,3,0,1,0,3,27,6,35,35,6,43,1,0,2,0,26,24,1,4,14,146,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368422981614531,0.0,0.0,0.13435906826999872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650652159265575,0.2860559386624764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681909088896806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286973272471108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196627604799271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358411154815223,0.113338072571454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887241058028928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965696922724556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623550718966984,0.0,0.12438685040322847,0.12316467239965725,0.12211967576717275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022109769685708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242853121607038,0.0,0.0,0.10413273803134213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554823436667945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897938881955007,0.0,0.09115774140866267,0.09194793269965136,0.09564008895399333,0.0,0.0,0.11637003457072785,0.0,0.0,0.14118020187888078,0.0,0.13206098558045706,0.0,0.18862236321850367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955854508646966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13369806755029018,0.11865577509896215,0.0,0.24931799892385084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195574282619658,0.0,0.0,0.11687298624756125,0.0,0.09323612099706466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238322953094056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367642749205837,0.1348815324900493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710026826477248,0.0,0.0,0.07314119995121264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384468475560565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027691705273327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lewisal3031,2019/02/23,Soccer Leagues I think now is the time to get my energetic three year old to burn off some energy in soccer.  Are there any leagues or places you would recommend in the Grove City area?,3.802500000000002,5.742980916666671,3.84,88.90500000000002,73.16666666666666,8.133333333333335,23.11111111111111,8.841846274778883,1.3691777777777774,147,4,31,3,3,45,31,36,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,5,4,1,9,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,4,18,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31713670427375273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24365071104320496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893600619528519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872406598017552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988208054083971,0.0,0.0,0.2719347611287414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312844932208528,0.0,0.0,0.3003166787048433
parenting,regardlessofthat,2019/02/23,"How to deal with toddler tantrums (18 months) So, my little man is 18 months old and we have just got to the stage of screaming, kicking and flailing about if he can't do exactly what he wants, exactly when he wants. 

He has always been a really good boy until the last couple of weeks. Understood NO since he was 6 months and actually obeyed. All that has now gone out of the window. 

He's too young to reason with. People have said to start naughty step, but realistically he wouldn't understand he has to stay on a step and he certainly wouldn't have any idea why he was there. Can't take any particular toys away because he doesn't care and wouldn't make the link anyway.

So, what I've started doing is this

No, don't do that.

Smiles and continues

Stern voice: I said no

Smiles and continues

If you carry on doing that you're going to go in your cot

Smiles and continues

Do you want to go into your cot. I said no.

Whines: noooo 

Stops for 10 seconds and carries on.

Carries upstairs kicking and screaming. Gets put in cot and left to cry for a few minutes. 

Go back up.

Are you ready to behave now?

Arms up for being picked up. 

That was very naughty. When mummy says no you must do (whatever). I love you, come for a cuddle.

So, I've only done this a couple of times so I'm hoping it will sink in and stop him doing things I don't want to and avoid the tantrums. 

Are there any better ways I could deal with it?

Any ideas for what to do when in public and don't have the cot?",1.5117821782178211,3.605433957095713,2.7582409240924086,93.27656930693071,80.71617161716172,5.7561716171617165,19.670957095709568,6.88968998030894,0.14408303630363006,1151,29,254,13,30,370,155,303,0.161,0.763,0.076,-0.9777,0,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,7,0,1,17,12,2,1,11,0,37,3,1,5,5,52,62,26,0,12,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,1,2,12,21,0,3,6,1,0,9,14,6,0,1,11,7,15,6,38,44,2,49,0,1,0,2,30,15,0,3,22,154,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.1097893597522836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361377695267246,0.0,0.0,0.3060310075615163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570283334940027,0.0865099589839958,0.0,0.06858244653058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950217225831634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470708610738925,0.0,0.0,0.0969137212957767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982666780050935,0.24897089258282346,0.12358225751196565,0.0,0.2319769274734401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513241918981187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058779598504993286,0.0,0.2557583878760625,0.09436446544786158,0.08998110694007055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174357163208896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540105415657681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917071828984957,0.0,0.0,0.12223780084523204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112760294097813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154081052995938,0.0,0.07509844594678748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694029921689272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805583428347426,0.0,0.0,0.08556567457641948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799730484542658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309932925211895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207404916098713,0.11567462446985464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210561278767565,0.08946906922709516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306589942255793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926426432082705,0.11991613490493724,0.0,0.1881196497702324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459030469002085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474380543555201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560299377030875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712242883743128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282900677536698,0.2654351692499778,0.08930180885051843,0.09024530742140416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151891886682768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,klm0292,2019/02/23,"I feel so guilty for yelling at my son. I don’t even know how to begin this. I just need help. Or advice. My son will turn 3 in May.   He’s been an extremely difficult child since birth. But we also have amazing moments too, so I don’t want to discount that. He is beyond stubborn, has an aggressive streak it seems, gets anxious around environments with a lot of kids, get anxious about a ton of little things. For example, he won’t let me wear a bun in my hair.  If I try to put my hair up, it drives him crazy and he will seriously cry and scream for hours until I take it out. 

If we are out and about running errands, grocery shopping, or eating out and someone says hi to him he will scream in their face. He hates when people engage with him unless it’s on his terms.  He has zero independent play skills and separating anxiety. He communicates really well so that’s not what frustrates him. But when he’s upset he does lose his words.  he lashes out at other kids in busy public places by hitting them with fists if I can’t intervene fast enough or screaming so loud they are terrified. 

He was seeing early intervention, they didn’t really give him any specific diagnosis. But then we moved. I am going to get him seen by an occupational therapist next week. I just don’t understand why he is struggling so much. Every day is so hard. I’m honestly exhausted. Does anyone else have children this way?? 

There are times the past couple months where I will be at the end of my rope and yell at him. Loudly. It’s not something I’m proud of. It never ever helps his behavior or stops what he’s doing so I don’t know why I try. I have such anxiety every day but am not getting any help for it so maybe that’s it. I just feel so guilty for yelling at him because I know that’s not going to help anything.  I never knew this parenting thing could be so hard.  ",2.5603297682709467,4.463375050802141,4.005935828877007,86.52792335115866,76.56684491978609,7.207130124777183,23.36541889483066,8.101407402915765,1.242206060606061,1455,45,301,25,33,481,203,374,0.13,0.812,0.058,-0.9379,1,0,1,0,2,0,40.0,3,0,4,3,28,19,4,2,8,0,32,6,4,2,3,57,58,34,0,6,19,3,6,0,0,6,1,9,0,4,20,17,1,2,8,2,2,6,13,13,1,1,5,17,40,6,41,42,5,50,0,1,2,0,47,20,0,10,23,194,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030684152876261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434788239216875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345249056592807,0.0,0.16137533652958386,0.2383122207899853,0.0,0.07375019032107602,0.1080710420499584,0.08679648826073802,0.09389462553677508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429624790186439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421276862038951,0.11670547669013208,0.1158587345191663,0.13604459370393635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460281015209434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792669770158113,0.0881103717496404,0.0,0.09341905936345836,0.10898330560948187,0.0,0.06966488181246867,0.095407681756863,0.17773355237319374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666210572903494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204241947165861,0.1011807067756322,0.11988712521744326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889687861626131,0.10413418643101582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28278921161760545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387109052999716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389800381736573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785477486147746,0.0,0.0,0.10571311158413417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799893419525095,0.0,0.08967060860085288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596326531494092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418870253373993,0.11210265200498752,0.07753585940091859,0.07820797084083746,0.16269680173369191,0.0,0.11217327792550094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711689860044824,0.0,0.10068730059081682,0.07312270561509852,0.0,0.11019835486026502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106030958051145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513927153589395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387751889267178,0.0,0.0,0.08404948365093573,0.09601998116291133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872495579144245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936816221018899,0.08119938735364826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08818136599607597,0.0,0.11026479980314707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930366260729292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246397000723905,0.1401450804549573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061503002064522076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322046086265433,0.11472591770395775,0.0,0.10980262589556626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062211565449040176,0.08372071179142991,0.08460524451193698,0.0,0.09483420070859064,0.0,0.19034857764312565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,askheidi,2019/02/23,"Thanks to the stranger in the public restroom Thanks to the stranger in the men's room that helped my son wash his hands. He's 5 years old and exploring Independence so when he asked to use the men's room by himself, I let him. I hovered outside and when he came out less than a minute later, he happily reported that a man helped him when he couldn't reach the soap - a problem I can't even considered. 

I appreciate you helping my kid!",5.888863636363637,5.636605613636366,6.024000000000001,83.221,66.72727272727272,9.76727272727273,33.50909090909091,9.3871,2.7006745454545458,346,14,74,6,5,110,57,88,0.07,0.7909999999999999,0.138,0.782,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,9,0,3,2,1,2,0,9,8,6,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,11,2,8,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,0,6,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24743241212881226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30271403863113044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748132328045163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5322118009708529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27064485543365363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27772853958760657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532551752575091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4873484814969203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285914628841225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17043996655070828
parenting,alliecattt14,2019/02/23,"FTM- Middle name advise I am a first time mom, and my husband and I will be having our first child in June. 
Before we found out that we were parents, we always hypothetically talked about names for our future kids. When I said “If we end up having a girl, I’d like her to have my middle name”. My husband agreed, and said “okay well then if it’s a boy, he gets my middle name”. ....my husband doesn’t have a middle name lol. At the time, I agreed, because the idea of me birthing a son seemed impossible, because my family is notorious for having girls. 

Well here we are, 6 months in, and we are having a son! I’m elated as could be!!! But now we have people asking us what we will be naming him, and just telling them his first name and last name feels weird. We always get the response “NO MIDDLE NAME??!! Well don’t YOU want a middle name?!! Well then convince him!!!!” I’ve tried convincing him with arguments such as “not having a middle name isn’t usual! Ever since I was younger I always imagined having a kid and seeing what that first name sounded good with. And middle names are good for naming them after someone in your family!” He sees it simply as “well my brother and I don’t have middle names, we turned out fine. Middle names are just something to add to the name when you’re yelling at your kid. They’re basically useless! If he wants a middle name, he can legally change that when he is older. Otherwise, he will just be made fun of for his middle name!” 

Although he makes valid points, I just can’t grasp the idea of having a child without a middle name...it feels wrong and that I’ll never love the child’s name enough.

I’m hoping this doesn’t come off harsh to those who don’t have a middle name :( I am just having trouble adjusting to what could possibly happen :(

TLDR: FTM agreed to not give her son a middle name, and now I am regretting that and would like some perspective on the pro’s and con’s of middle names. 

Thanks y’all!! ",2.3042430734075983,4.345603028277637,3.336248928877464,90.38921201085405,77.84318766066838,5.658983147672094,19.288846043987434,6.5620332695718595,0.05590482719223066,1514,33,312,13,36,485,178,389,0.084,0.7759999999999999,0.141,0.9502,1,0,1,0,1,0,63.0,13,4,2,4,19,22,0,0,21,2,42,1,0,2,2,85,66,26,0,10,12,9,2,2,0,4,0,4,0,9,13,29,0,0,9,0,0,1,12,5,5,4,6,8,44,17,32,50,2,52,0,2,2,1,83,27,0,6,26,200,57,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253667602876323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500085536879267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389305204938768,0.0,0.08647101979129504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750034202755852,0.08753651498451415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227038538599425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000503732182925,0.10500048443727568,0.0,0.0,0.09192098503054086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915963280933741,0.0,0.1027641133659483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457512183589454,0.0,0.11142093597393167,0.0,0.0,0.10618436969544567,0.09748303345850247,0.0,0.17046784156543104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898621103215974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093145430606584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22943291497532636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08283375235877544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929266527681513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171589495947716,0.09615517258685792,0.06783204845546636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901595678823003,0.08111200610728489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783755039494175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283683331191285,0.0,0.0,0.07045041871331932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606361812713997,0.114561128238554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19332752316864826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195575002421855,0.09251090780721002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406100179031142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610218118143102,0.07823193617097697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167819756490963,0.0888202404017498,0.0935579179109058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851072005949012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899321729969721,0.1105332313885928,0.0,0.0,0.1222361845281771,0.0,0.1119199236878255,0.0,0.11987605758917586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.456842309927031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979579227910698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721878359228216,0.1111053689668349,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aninimis,2019/02/23,"Introducing absent father? I deeply need more specific advice than Google can provide. 

My child's father was 21 when I was 15. He was abusive, and forced me to consent to sex on multiple occasions while also isolating me from friends and family. 

After I birthed our child I realized I couldn't deal with all of his rules and the chaos he created and broke up with him. He continued to force me to have sex with him when he had visitation. After two years I decided I was done with that as well. As a result Dad has not seen child for 8 years. Dad is married now with 3 children and as of four years ago has wanted to be involved again. 

I know my child wants to know him. I do believe that Dad now being in his 30s he may have changed his ways, but in conversation (via text) I still notice his ignorance, denial, and controlling antics. 

For the past 4 years I have told Dad to take me to court or family therapy before he can have contact. I even set up several therapy sessions myself attended 3 alone and set 2 more appointments in which he was to attend and did not. Therefore I said he must set up any future appointments. 

He is talking seriously about these appointments now and has scheduled an intake appointment for himself. 

The unknown is causing me to have a lot of anxiety. Is it better for me to keep my 10yo child from him until adulthood, or give him contact and let them build a relationship? At 10yo you're so malleable and I worry about this exposure and I don't know what is right. 

Has anyone grown up with an absent father or a father who was emotionally abusive and what would you have wanted your mother to do?

I know ultimately I have to go to the appointments but I am worried I won't have control and be pressured to begin visits before I am sure and ready that this is the best choice. 

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parenting,TinyTunaTown,2019/02/23,"Candyland is boring AF. Send help. Looking for help on game suggestions to play with a kindergartner. Candyland, hi ho Cherry-o are all so boring.  

We play Go Fish sometimes which is fun. But i need more.

Help me Reddit. You’re my only hope. ",0.5921739130434781,2.9564546304347843,2.300326086956524,88.81179347826088,100.52173913043478,5.778260869565218,18.793478260869566,7.1686216300943375,0.9727043478260872,187,6,35,4,8,61,40,46,0.081,0.579,0.34,0.9299,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,7,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,4,7,2,3,0,0,1,1,8,1,0,1,0,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198897616520052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.703738204577567,0.0,0.0,0.34760197299695866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938890226234279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595004086535395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266170097028096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3461320639110925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curiouscat4114,2019/02/23,"Help. I don’t know what to do Hello everyone

I am 15 years old and last night I went to a party. Of course, because it was a house party there was alcohol and weed. I drank 4 different types of alcohol last night and was pretty drunk. I don’t remember much of last night but I think I had non consensual sex. I made out with this one guy and I enjoyed it. Afterwards apparently another guy came up to me and was like ‘let’s hook up’ although I don’t remember any of this, this is what people said went down. We went upstairs and even though I was blacked out he had sex with me. According to him I said Yes but obviously I wasn’t in the correct mindset and I was blacked out drunk. People heard about what was going on and tried to stop him from doing anything more. Girls were screaming at him to get off of me but he didn’t listen until some girl had to legit hit him. He was told to leave but didn’t. Anyways today is the next day and I don’t know what to do. He didn’t use a condom but apparently he didn’t finish. What should I do?",0.024596651445968117,2.2719946255707804,2.2290410958904125,93.52824961948252,89.04566210045662,5.618873668188739,19.07001522070015,7.0931098945946705,0.3187120243531205,809,24,183,13,27,272,112,219,0.061,0.8490000000000001,0.091,0.7355,3,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,1,30,8,0,2,2,33,48,17,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,4,10,16,5,1,5,2,0,5,9,1,0,1,27,7,24,2,29,18,3,30,0,0,2,3,21,10,0,1,16,121,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666724083676389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484470913186921,0.13082733678043426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267124357475774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605579282706333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269831033070204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046332229044857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035322465360366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240632993915857,0.0,0.0,0.11921862843333278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518474030173857,0.0,0.07090701756101747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470746030357099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362757701407607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14396245027456098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713553520323873,0.3051012112919417,0.0,0.1321084796602368,0.0,0.12758101257781526,0.0,0.06095404265712993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180559807760863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917168800933029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268935381199914,0.3512514573829503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092023584032533,0.0,0.08454422288404467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729931537437353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693120405027428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826696158286955,0.0,0.2373608173608097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430941030402686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994459164064875,0.12258131242592665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826295325897045,0.11921862843333278,0.0,0.08470747559478282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077571944039768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.346976158594946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034478793778108
parenting,emuri94,2019/02/23,"Judgmental parents are the worst. I hate when people judge me and my parenting skills without personally knowing me or my son irl and how hard it is to deal with him on an everyday basis because of his ADHD. 🙃 Facebook mom groups are the worst, that is all. ",4.0368,5.82200568,5.097000000000001,80.78350000000002,72.2,8.200000000000001,30.5,8.841846274778883,2.6124,204,9,38,4,4,67,43,50,0.232,0.768,0.0,-0.9231,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,1,8,6,5,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,7,0,5,6,3,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,2,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278951467977994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631793556438332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812813309215213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24440693995583745,0.26936848531686963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14994320787228424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195415385254625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6059028770904359,0.0,0.0,0.1891497223811201,0.2382293591173832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630036022406069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FueledByFlan,2019/02/23,"Damn Snow Pants I don’t usually buy my son expensive clothing, but winter clothing is the exception. I want him to be warm, even if it costs more.

Friday morning I reminded him he needed to bring them home, only to hear they’re not at school. I called the office and a teacher helped him look, but they did not find the pants.

I suspect what happened is he didn’t hang them right, someone saw them on the floor and hung them up in the wrong cubby. Then that kid took them home. 

I’m furious because that means he’s been playing outside without snow pants during one of the coldest weeks so far. On Sunday he has ski school, something that should have been out of my budget but I saved up for. There are no refunds for missed classes. I went to every thrift store in town but didn’t find anything. 

So now I need to buy new ones. I can buy “cheap” ones for $30 or the same ones for ~$100. I might be drowning in a glass of water but I can’t get over how much this irks me. ",3.064016666666668,4.235386035000005,3.652000000000001,92.62766666666668,73.65,6.333333333333334,24.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.534333333333334,757,22,167,5,15,238,130,200,0.098,0.853,0.049,-0.8945,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,6,0,6,7,2,0,9,0,17,1,0,1,0,26,31,13,1,5,11,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,6,3,1,0,4,2,10,4,8,4,0,4,8,4,23,3,24,19,3,25,0,1,2,0,18,14,1,3,7,105,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922470843652825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572580705940324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034816288113465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371875891381734,0.0,0.1323070031118048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28705047764495584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204321645203036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388636875483052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698750727418416,0.0,0.10525585237534016,0.0,0.3150336335434678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186809830178114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710548795007136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658710641698646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154372604840932,0.2328758324636345,0.0,0.15166336721081355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42563826722245135,0.11943060753538193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410525083947372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31785138581364264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305347873554438,0.1208916093987452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446934583028806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729495697107071,0.0,0.09262208146465686,0.0,0.1259623318101657,0.0,0.0,0.14557108484555298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137412569834602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716908403990781,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lrtle23,2019/02/23,"Tips on de-escalating 4yo's tantrums? Kiddo turned 4 in January and is still overcome by screaming tantrums fairly regularly. I've tried getting her to take deep breaths, talking her through it, ignoring her, and sometimes resort to snapping/shouting because I'm so sick of it. How can I get her to calm down when she's legitimately upset? She ""knows"" that she should breathe, use her words, walk away etc, but never does it in the moment (even with me reminding her). When I try to be empathetic, acknowledge her feelings, or fix the problem, she just screams more. ",7.685275080906153,8.107248611650487,7.143834951456312,74.42054207119743,62.88349514563107,9.973462783171524,40.467637540453076,9.725611199111238,4.012256957928803,449,24,79,8,6,140,80,103,0.17,0.782,0.048,-0.8773,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,7,8,2,1,2,0,4,3,2,2,1,16,12,8,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,0,3,14,1,13,10,2,12,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,5,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560849872341245,0.0,0.0,0.16615387107187946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23852458361437534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039834457180959,0.18002745367931489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781769809186134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28480925734548584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497952962461539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21021991407902288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26080911382550725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26957501499081155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21767177891095046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049359171392316,0.21907844682321007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701092173426592,0.2964738372895583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354097475096577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DRanged691,2019/02/23,"Kudos to the fitness mom in my neighborhood Not sure if this is the appropriate place to share this quick story or not, but I was just outside on my balcony and saw a mom jogging with her little kid. She was letting the kid set the pace and was singing ""The Final Countdown"" to keep him motivated. It was adorable and the kid had this huge smile on his face. ",9.110657276995305,6.302803633802823,8.431549295774648,76.76544600938969,61.95774647887324,11.156807511737087,39.15962441314553,8.841846274778883,3.2378413145539886,282,11,58,3,3,89,51,71,0.018000000000000002,0.737,0.245,0.9572,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,7,0,7,1,1,1,1,13,9,6,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,1,7,3,7,2,0,11,0,0,1,0,10,7,0,2,2,42,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229351087619989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26202863578106544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301449350031936,0.0,0.0,0.295463495406848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6905240942965978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079995530089456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27784217165332165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ambaSAHDor,2019/02/23,"Don’t get Mad, get SAHD! TLDR version: becoming SAHD and looking for resources (listed below)

Introduction:
Hi Reddit! 2+ years ago my wife gave birth to a beautiful little girl, and after holding her for a few seconds she told me that there was no way she could go back to work. We took a 60% cut in our income but we made it work with her at home and me as sole provider. Jump ahead 19 months and our little man comes into the world. 9 months later and things have been a little more than a little tense at home. My wife and I discussed it and I’m going to take my turn as SAHD so that she can pursue her career again. I’m so grateful for the time she put in being the backbone of our family and am very excited for this opportunity to help support her and to raise my children. 

My life has uniquely placed me to potentially be an excellent SAHD. My mother ran an in-home daycare and often had children on weekends and overnight. For 20 years while I lived at home I learned how to interest with little people, teach them, and more than anything I learned how to completely ignore those triggers that usually upset other parents. 

So what I’m looking for:
- work out routines that include the kids
- whole home cleaning schedules 
- guides for meal planning
- guides for couponing
- potty training resources

Thanks in advance for any and all assistance and advice! ",5.386413556413559,6.6385326370656434,5.466454311454314,81.49900364650367,68.18918918918922,7.608837408837409,30.60510510510511,7.793537801064563,2.0686214500214506,1079,42,195,12,18,339,161,259,0.055,0.816,0.128,0.9763,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,5,0,1,8,9,10,2,1,11,0,11,2,0,4,1,33,30,23,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,5,11,21,1,2,2,1,1,8,2,4,0,1,8,2,27,6,36,19,6,42,0,0,2,0,28,17,0,1,16,128,38,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893037722471632,0.0988143169881004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580563777741339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173299290221988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571605429311199,0.0,0.0,0.1231134550564799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602434094175348,0.1168775897701096,0.0,0.0,0.08900232556557107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508706643896512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164803524577654,0.0,0.12670564244030574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471817484197826,0.0,0.44726706555500384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873685852839489,0.0,0.5586274461639436,0.0984329287825992,0.0,0.18721892232379198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10547869169142753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795378146578936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237778606407592,0.0,0.0,0.07728152105682794,0.0,0.11646582836238635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206141305052096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649853175422074,0.0,0.0,0.08381401672866462,0.0,0.0,0.10262959873221716,0.0,0.0,0.07405787911623922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500095297521481,0.0,0.0,0.1065174747583952,0.12385089087328675,0.0,0.12125089396270385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277204446939675,0.09197711197857623,0.0,0.08848228326313548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445591121770845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434615776102999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357024625420728
parenting,apple-kombucha,2019/02/23,"How do I stop this child from coming to my daughters birthday party ? There’s a little girl in my daughters class who has clear behavioural problems. I don’t know her mother well enough to know what’s wrong with her but she’s externally loud, disruptive, attention seeking and rude from what I’ve seen of her. She came to my daughters birthday last year and she ruined it tbh. I kept having to tell her to stop doing stuff and keep my eye on her. 

I asked my daughter who she wanted to invite to her party and she’s put this girls name on the list. I asked her if she was sure about her and she said yes, I said I thought they weren’t that good friends and she said they are...

How do I stop this kid from coming to her party. Shall I say we can’t have that many people and hope she’s one of the people we knock off the list? Should I ask her mother to come along and supervise her? I just don’t know what to do but I don’t want this kid ruining the day ",1.9860930640913068,3.548772800995025,2.8759028387474395,95.50277436347677,77.2089552238806,5.724436640327772,19.78372841673983,6.2272716619740125,-0.1825337430494592,747,16,172,5,17,236,103,201,0.115,0.725,0.16,0.8702,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,2,0,6,10,1,0,5,1,16,1,1,2,2,40,36,13,0,6,4,6,0,0,1,2,0,5,0,5,13,16,0,5,5,0,0,5,5,5,1,1,9,7,41,5,22,25,1,16,0,2,2,0,47,5,0,2,6,115,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3866829416674547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769202578707034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.356300761568178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891783136137675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246151097305831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065217182348242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564282970634512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369407728184326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12254944543290625,0.0,0.0,0.22731713119247865,0.1123863531091482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818675733606126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978339346754212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342752373368628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19117003416454909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192755052923133,0.0,0.1386022419618448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39345148564153376,0.10964356431744757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458084860579677,0.0,0.0,0.1578336445823902,0.0,0.0,0.12994535483686004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050864070234248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945717992147944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264424288298496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396599139026918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507444353715319,0.0,0.0887868422686946
parenting,i_love_carbs,2019/02/23,"What the F: Bubble Guppies. I am making my first reddit post and it’s about the complete lack of ANY kind of logic in ‘Bubble Guppies.’ My LO asked us to watch it and we don’t know how she even knew what it was! (Her babysitter’s kids most likely.) This show makes NO SENSE. It has zero reason to even occur under water!!! For example: there are clouds in their world, nothing floats away, there are no meradults generally, and half the time no one realizes they can just swim upward or downward out of their predicaments. I mean, WTF?",2.7429126213592245,5.074392271844658,3.205640776699031,90.42516019417478,77.73786407766991,5.285048543689321,20.97961165048544,6.2581,0.22434446601941715,416,11,81,3,10,129,80,103,0.142,0.858,0.0,-0.9364,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,3,1,7,2,0,0,3,0,7,1,0,4,0,19,13,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,5,1,0,6,2,0,1,4,0,0,4,2,1,11,2,12,11,2,11,0,0,1,0,9,7,0,2,3,59,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260608857675408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23728714086362016,0.0,0.2384719478107522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26612510894945496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33529101414341217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21589889305738266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643141414618255,0.13949266005215027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400347639397967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388532192565396,0.0,0.0,0.2764840450396716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24354683180091816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719947863937566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430890944801525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26096890816938584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800429856888914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053138271668347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
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parenting,PurpleSnail27,2019/02/23,"Good kid gets screwed by Public schools and other ways I'm a Terrible Mom  

I really really really want to go flip some salad plates at my kids school. He does great, passing all his classes and taking care of business all year. Track season starts and it's the first time he's put himself out there to try competing -ever. He's strong and capable but he's afraid to fail and cares deeply what people think about him. He's training hard, goes to the first meet. He gets 1st in the 3200 and 3rd in the 1600. We are super excited and he's really proud of himself. Next day, we find out he failed algebra and is out for three weeks which is the majority of the track season. Turns out his teacher (who is also the baseball coach) decided to have them complete assignments online and then was out (coaching baseball) for the last two weeks of the six weeks. Well, my kid doesn't understand how to do the assignments. And yes, of course he should have asked, but we are talking a total of four days (they run an A/B day) with a substitute. So my kid doesn't turn in four assignments and then on the last day of the six weeks, this teacher decides to give them the only two test grades of the six weeks (also online with a substitute). Keeping in mind that no one has told this kid that A) he's now failing, and B) if he doesn't pass he can't run. So a kid who's done great all year suddenly doesn't turn anything in for two weeks after you've changed to this online format. As a teacher, what should you do? Give him a 50 and turn that shit in cause you've got baseball to coach.

Now I'm all for kids being responsible for themselves and not making excuses. And he definitely screwed up. But we are going to tell my kid that academics are more important than athletics, and that he can't play if he doesn't pass, and then turn around and this teacher gets to put ***athletics,*** ahead of teaching. This poor kid is just heartbroken and devastated. He is still trying to comprehend what happened. What kind of motivation is this, when the kid doesn't even know about it?? And honestly this is one of many times my kids have been screwed over by teachers who just don't have the time or just don't care. The good ones that make a positive difference are few and far between. I wish I had checked his grades earlier, but I had no reason to suspect anything was wrong, and no heads up about the no pass/ no play issue either. How easy would it be to send an email with all the other info at the beginning of the track season saying, ""don't forget to keep an eye on your grades for the 4th six weeks-that will determine eligibility for most of the season!"" ?

welcome to the real world, kid.",4.215225563909776,5.3620711240601535,4.753082706766918,85.92086466165415,70.84210526315789,8.23157894736842,26.406015037593985,8.611707548084741,1.6679616541353377,2106,66,436,35,38,671,239,532,0.128,0.7390000000000001,0.133,-0.3639,0,0,0,0,0,0,68.0,4,2,3,11,21,27,4,1,36,1,42,7,3,7,7,81,75,40,0,7,12,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,12,26,35,1,2,10,5,2,11,17,10,1,15,8,3,25,17,68,61,12,70,0,3,1,3,61,21,4,5,37,278,51,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293118338756935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12649985646549494,0.06842244940603343,0.07185451663003657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235094268517568,0.0789572623139442,0.08130858489608134,0.0,0.0805871358940153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827555148033807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030322627040505,0.0,0.0,0.06726144529377871,0.07865533214674758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050765864648174334,0.0695250366103128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024942184000768,0.13075559463641054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046986095828956,0.1474638564378938,0.0873635813842455,0.12893446389613672,0.06147264083485492,0.16947871064270126,0.0,0.0,0.06796779329456958,0.0,0.06885222203408678,0.0,0.07888140352697535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022275534566604,0.0,0.13663490497235434,0.0,0.08003874463698075,0.04224071150676492,0.12530369780959166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261042460874203,0.07792483521929676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760754505312542,0.09001849523440003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174238290732021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624869760194246,0.05845613773713136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053285633728011116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453276098079213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748447103331045,0.1969561072654021,0.07902575202234469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611228306191993,0.0,0.15557456143355755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788965550755576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05440250321071413,0.0,0.061381171816186825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057789791603518575,0.06177783749899932,0.06717976818478076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04924932734632331,0.0,0.0,0.13445453420858702,0.0,0.0,0.07344383324747003,0.0,0.10436693986756096,0.41801265273619503,0.22524563803192266,0.08001485252259136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533451904273167,0.061008562886729074,0.3699188124352738,0.0,0.0691071322011263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838618101969715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459974056724808,0.08403527053648302,0.0,0.0989917311606296
parenting,thebrite1,2019/02/23,"Late June “Vacation” with 1 and 4 yo We have never done a solo vacation with our kids, and are considering it, but it is so much work to travel I feel like it’s not even going to be fun, just stressful. How do people feel differently about this? Is it just hard now and it eventually gets easy/fun/relaxing? How will I ever get the 4 yo to sleep without having to pretend to sleep myself in a dark hotel room at 7:30pm? How do I keep her sleeping when the little one wakes up an hour earlier than her? Where could we go on the cheap? No tent camping.",2.017964601769912,3.7994046460177024,3.958592920353983,86.80797787610621,77.76106194690266,6.99787610619469,21.919469026548683,7.908726449838941,0.9570148672566368,427,12,91,7,10,145,84,113,0.077,0.835,0.08800000000000001,0.308,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,12,3,0,1,6,0,11,4,4,3,2,21,18,9,0,1,5,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,1,2,3,1,3,4,1,0,1,1,3,9,2,14,14,1,17,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,8,66,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398382253942702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014987061573866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973637722422381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738287760846825,0.1744538242504699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950326420723412,0.13777994345100164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20152383444152053,0.0,0.2192147119335436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276558240901685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899292450916437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142372633422714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21755561872197696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422214727032674,0.19329739754359204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417750325755504,0.0,0.14874629973765893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306876110620694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370554025832018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5790008731037736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22092163433798398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18591113053081956,0.0,0.14040511160311875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xsu78152,2019/02/23,Looking for best toys for kids i was looking for best toys for kids reviews and find this [https://toolsmesh.com/best-toys-gifts-for-4-year-old-boys](https://toolsmesh.com/best-toys-gifts-for-4-year-old-boys)  best for my 4 year old boy,29.25,30.10003169230769,13.157692307692304,47.037307692307714,20.53846153846153,11.93846153846154,41.384615384615394,8.841846274778883,3.4448923076923075,208,4,22,1,1,41,17,26,0.0,0.625,0.375,0.9274,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,5,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,13,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7836762670860402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650462486031295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508353992288691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4701580321172414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885325339145857
parenting,Mlph24,2019/02/23,"Attitude from step daughter Hey guys, any advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated: I have a 9 yr old step daughter. Her dad and I have been together since she was 3 and we have always had a fairly good relationship although she’s always been a bit of a “daddy’s girl”, he does spoil her a little and she does put on a bit of a an act around him to get her own way- her mum and I have even discussed this. Her dad and I have had a baby, he will be one in a month- step daughter was fairly accepting of him although sometime distant. At this point she will willingly play with him on hr own terms on some occasions and at other times shows open dislike to him. I’m aware there could be some element of jealousy although her dad makes a deliberate effort to put extra time into her on the weekends when she’s with us (we have her every weekend). My issue is, over he last few months her attitude towards me has become increasingly hostile. I try to be friendly and loving but she is super rude, critical of everything in our home including the food I make, cleanliness (it’s not too bad but I work and study full time and have a one year old) she demands money in the form of shopping expeditions whenever she comes over and is petulant if we disagree, she will only eat certain specific things and refuses to say please or thank you. She is openly arrogant and rude if I ask her any questions about school or life in an attempt to bond, she’ll say things like “mind your own business and why do you have to know everything”. I guess I just want advice one whether this is normal for her age group? I want to have a good relationship with her (her mum and I are quite close and get on very well) what could be causing this behaviour? Is it just her? Is it too early for hormones or is that what it is and I have to just weather the storm? Any advice would be appreciated. Tia ",4.1534844444444445,5.3374421973333375,5.182400000000001,82.6449777777778,71.02666666666667,8.222222222222221,28.288888888888888,8.626192665926032,2.015062222222222,1484,54,297,25,27,488,193,375,0.061,0.81,0.129,0.9768,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,5,3,0,5,11,16,3,0,18,0,43,4,0,3,1,59,56,28,0,9,12,8,0,1,1,7,1,2,1,2,14,28,2,1,3,5,2,8,1,4,1,3,6,2,53,12,39,35,13,47,0,0,0,1,62,23,0,9,16,215,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908150928769337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650868603835804,0.0,0.0,0.20238086154200485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831019075993103,0.09273982626529044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828289436062904,0.0,0.10956004431096576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166042579466011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190706350555576,0.0,0.08545313786932067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840833527528775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362345593428846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150769767310146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552152444249963,0.0,0.08358137553021877,0.0,0.1783114675681599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995460825909905,0.0,0.07664267991738982,0.0,0.1036571719214211,0.0,0.0,0.1664106912430008,0.0,0.109369785768619,0.10928141830885407,0.09822488547832092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950699437880543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354038607741424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054518441291999266,0.08086230142700823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006881339915046,0.048464745351200184,0.0994257658140867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953304821612823,0.0,0.13243527891529255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001650360012851,0.0,0.15836306578961226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719621362013864,0.0,0.0,0.2081901581823383,0.0,0.2016641089437758,0.07544706042341226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889324010591783,0.09377729517215172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944941637341052,0.1111281616284036,0.10551279570527776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21301014679337107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777771414574565,0.0,0.10039701382261973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206034220909376,0.11150641992387744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811262434045707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133123085173728,0.0,0.0,0.1318098742956895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353523101806667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735117237648787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932695208341253,0.0,0.0,0.08185146342732816,0.11702299638283145,0.07874137616069049,0.0,0.0,0.08919388417882464,0.0,0.08951374536321154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221972940532832,0.0,0.0,0.14093951756457426,0.0,0.0,0.06388238610528424
parenting,stlnck,2019/02/23,"Dread weekends My children’s mother and I divorced almost 5 years ago.  The children are 5, 7, 9, and 12.  I have been with fiancé for over 4 years.  The issue I am having is that every Friday when I get them the 5 and 7 year old act scared and treat my Fiancé and her children 9, 15, 17, 19 like crap then around Sunday everything is fine, and it repeats again the following weekend.  The behaviors are driving a wedge between me and my fiancé and make us dread the weekends.  Any advice on how to get them stop.",3.18470588235294,4.648636245098039,4.306029411764708,86.89963235294121,73.80392156862746,6.276470588235295,25.495098039215684,6.6274283507984215,0.9783686274509802,395,13,78,3,8,129,70,102,0.131,0.802,0.067,-0.7717,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,0,2,0,4,7,1,3,7,0,8,1,1,2,0,14,12,11,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,10,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,12,3,7,11,0,20,0,0,0,0,9,3,1,1,15,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415722721627709,0.21913812919038916,0.0,0.2475466644760829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681123358533878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200706974245525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082863987310567,0.0,0.2221778069373467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583156702697819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580246376956391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207750795028437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501563377738498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594069433768195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475018947378528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20667993086575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973650644457431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775884122440354
parenting,legalapparently,2019/02/23,"What do you say when your teenage daughter is ""in love"" with a classmate? She apparently was going to confess to her friend but she told her there's no way that guy would be into her. She also feels that the whole class knows.",2.8256666666666668,4.827292844444443,2.9575,93.89625000000002,76.1111111111111,5.3888888888888875,22.36111111111111,5.985473137389443,0.11577777777777774,178,5,38,1,4,54,39,45,0.059,0.8420000000000001,0.099,0.2263,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,7,10,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,2,5,6,1,5,1,0,0,1,15,2,0,0,1,29,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28563010938425404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059676225711455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759499983395547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029889294102859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536561745213139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962922460464332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32236143795084143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840373014322176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34129290137778057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835063002000622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39876948950819385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537245545161154,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MiletNZ,2019/02/23,"How do you deal with miscarriage We had a miscarriage this week. My wife is still in a lot of physical pain as well as an emotional mess. Our other two kids are up and down and clearly rattled by it. I haven't seen or spoken to any other family or friends because I'm trying not to think about it anymore as I'm trying to be the rock for the family and carry us through it, but it's getting really hard. How do we bounce back? How long will it take? I feel for people who have had this happen multiple times, I really do. It's cruel. You take ""easy"" pregnancies for granted. Much love to you all ",1.9670066518847025,3.7818840894308967,3.928632668144864,86.81228381374723,78.02439024390246,7.724759793052478,22.563932002956392,8.575989854853784,1.4386650406504071,465,14,98,10,11,158,84,123,0.08900000000000001,0.7929999999999999,0.119,0.4357,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,3,0,0,7,6,1,0,5,0,11,2,0,3,2,18,21,12,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,11,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,3,1,1,3,3,11,3,18,16,3,8,0,0,1,1,13,3,0,3,5,73,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219221255706315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19278315137283025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494743029791373,0.0,0.11849865046935087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004080798821618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866315920894874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665081445390064,0.0,0.0982896825052785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018562561776191,0.0,0.10156101816616067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17189888577758786,0.0,0.17413571453873036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202948400631907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526385990959694,0.17544502455156846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289939151680678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684520791217548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347659034051588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24906307638443465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524051218193974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923149422524371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245575894959218,0.0,0.0,0.11335066947581925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639567919690521,0.0,0.18989128196909769,0.0,0.23382784854371697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592834145774895,0.0,0.17478041361697708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shoyu0905,2019/02/23,"I don’t know how to go on anymore My LO is almost 5 months old now. The first few months were hard, but recently things have been much better (maybe because I’m finally getting used to being a mom?). Husband is pretty much never home due to work, and when he is finally around, he normally wouldn’t help with anything and spends hours and hours on his games and other hobbies. Money is pretty tight, and he kept on badgering me to get back to work, and I’ve decided to take my LO to work when he turned 3 months. Tons of s**t happened, but finally I’m coping. Last week my mom came to visit. Just like most Asian moms, she’s overprotective and gets heated up super easily if we do things differently from her ways. The past week has been a complete nightmare with her nagging non-stop, commenting on how I’m not a good enough mom, getting angry at me for taking LO to work, guilting me for living so far away from her(she’s the reason I went to a different country to start a new life) , etc. 
I’ve literally cried myself to sleep the last few days and I honestly don’t know how to step away from these negativities. I’m hoping I can just end my life now, but I know my LO still needs me. Thinking I still have 2 or even 3 months with her around, I really don’t think I can go on with anything anymore...
What would you do if you were me? I need some advices so I wouldn’t do anything stupid that might end up hurting my LO. As much as wanting to just disappear forever, I want to be able to love and protect my LO. ",3.9745214979195564,4.718324491909383,5.003587609801205,85.39708737864079,71.07119741100324,8.215811373092926,27.012020342117427,8.418075326091056,1.6406331021729077,1184,38,252,18,21,389,166,309,0.08,0.778,0.142,0.9726,2,0,0,0,0,1,38.0,1,2,0,7,18,11,2,1,9,0,25,4,1,5,1,54,55,24,0,11,10,5,2,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,6,17,0,3,7,1,2,7,8,4,0,1,7,2,32,7,40,42,10,52,0,1,0,1,22,13,0,8,32,157,38,4,0.0813606642461203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950469946836684,0.0,0.0,0.08147095271888866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137583333900235,0.0,0.0,0.20085868289006506,0.14485648128311454,0.0,0.0,0.15288204457704266,0.06256132871117791,0.0,0.049596705762051684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195689582144396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305492516929484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530510851064238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937086927189307,0.05247089763893008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17000915480507348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144122798795005,0.08406731524270633,0.0907386473547328,0.05373795140386296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673798924113244,0.0,0.06920533944463532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003035612407336,0.0,0.092478280896627,0.06824146503907612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194696669512422,0.0,0.07288317430143088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453433823497751,0.0,0.08161137998193854,0.08080949752304778,0.1602477308493244,0.0,0.0870982738167544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414107991343513,0.132639600847581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493488655546433,0.039748710864762525,0.0,0.07184295712579257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734311760145376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08173772285177078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631080744597668,0.0,0.3811545065472669,0.259765223900956,0.0,0.17942834909672822,0.12065580324252975,0.06275035999245918,0.07857863651929192,0.0,0.0,0.07971617645652007,0.0,0.0,0.0853743307894427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766796017397448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554609045017493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052121724874939296,0.08365231344450676,0.08033384051937396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141942194481239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758749691444466,0.0,0.12994946312961236,0.0680211583991412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234618810696965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810482020556643,0.10426525689855803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849703939690631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026949119773708,0.0,0.0,0.09597725550897024,0.06458030825137273,0.1305252345172478,0.0,0.0,0.07542215087376836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23692613028804,0.0,0.0,0.057796281528947,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jpayne9329,2019/02/23,"Boyfriend with children from multiple women! So to get to the point of this story I’ve known my boyfriend for 4 years. Friend for 3 dating for 1. Since I’ve known him I knew that he only had two kids. Over the time of using dating this last year I found out he had a daughter. At the time of finding out that he has a daughter I asked him if he had anymore kids and he said no. Well tonight something came up over Facebook of someone stating he has a son well I remember him mentioning he was in this kids life so I asked him about it and I told him to be honest with me. Well he messaged the kids mom and she said that it was his and that he signed paternity papers. He did say he wanted proof. The reason why he thought he wasn’t the father is because before she moved to a different state she told him plus his family that the child wasn’t his. Well now she is saying that he is. He is now 6 years old. Not only to mention he was in this kids life for the first 3 years of his life thinking it was another mans child. Anyways So all together he has 4 kids from for 4 different women. I have two of my own as well. All together we have 6 kids. I wouldn’t trade it for anything just because I’ve always wanted a big family. I love his kids as if they were my own. We are involved in all the kids life (besides the one we found out about tonight, but that will change). I guess I’m not sure how to process all of this but I’m sure I will get through it. I just need some reassurance that I am gonna be okay. 😞 this mommy is stressing! ",1.4269779987306954,3.0845675429447894,2.8745060291939915,94.47592024539878,79.0920245398773,5.968944362174741,22.284324095620903,6.8039241337230125,0.3706015654749315,1193,36,277,12,29,389,146,326,0.032,0.901,0.068,0.7934,2,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,1,16,13,0,1,15,1,28,5,0,3,7,48,51,15,0,6,8,5,0,0,1,4,4,4,0,15,19,14,0,0,10,0,1,2,6,1,5,4,20,4,36,12,39,25,7,31,0,0,0,1,71,12,0,4,15,173,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827645898476256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429992012063262,0.0,0.0,0.09864462904285888,0.0,0.0,0.08185294271873278,0.0,0.18597661050800948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126843382720975,0.0,0.08463917038182152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376385650821673,0.0,0.0,0.10522299594633182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078438842129064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875374466169876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091112136499048,0.08460665882927157,0.0,0.21812106776955112,0.07684802961843143,0.0,0.10393490189234364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957421739421114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107895681329523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810261986261527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977293524388276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116494657621334,0.0,0.10571777887623324,0.0,0.07375358940966628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043739823523066,0.0,0.06740147671327955,0.15129841337206282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402855386442144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226873823140116,0.0,0.0,0.11267682686586668,0.0,0.1892319671082916,0.15820044996951613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228020752119104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427814545093693,0.07657462801822637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393921942011125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749311676078373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637344971425213,0.0,0.07896576157373614,0.11600012410397542,0.0,0.0,0.1900901406157435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19432979422655605,0.0,0.0,0.0859076324974851,0.0,0.0,0.11733653757617316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44716431240043547,0.0,0.08975358067258828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25621418795931616
parenting,hopeulikedesignintoo,2019/02/23,"Equal parenting? Maybe I’m in my head, but I always feel like I do the bulk of the parenting as a new mom. Confused whether I’m being self-righteous, or, is this just how things are?

Here’s our family scenario:

Our baby is 15 months old. I’ve recently launched my own business which I project to bring in about $60k this year. We have part time childcare at about $13k. My husband has a pretty solid career, making $90k. 

We’re pretty equal parents when it comes to cooking and cleaning, but I also organize all the childcare, buy all her clothes and accessories, always book and take her to doctors appointments, make sure her diaper bag is packed. My husband travels a lot for work, takes courses, and has evening events, leaving me to solo parent often. I also often let him sleep in in the morning, because his work is ‘more important‘ than mine. 

I think I need to delegate more work to him in order to feel less resentful, but I just hate to have to ask. 

Our roles don’t feel equal to me. I am scrambling to balance my career and childcare. Plus, we plan on having a second. I love being a mom but I also love my career. 

TLDR; scrambling to balance career and motherhood while feeling resentful of hubby. What can I do?",3.831477222467935,5.554232302521012,4.7641707209199495,83.21658779301197,72.61344537815125,7.195400265369308,28.91287041132243,7.85451343220497,1.969778151260504,960,39,177,13,19,312,141,238,0.063,0.8059999999999999,0.132,0.9511,4,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,0,0,4,13,8,3,1,9,0,18,6,2,4,3,35,36,20,0,1,8,8,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,10,1,0,5,3,1,3,1,4,0,1,0,4,32,4,27,33,11,20,0,0,0,2,23,7,0,5,10,128,38,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756310097577442,0.19119435127605505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10740607022901397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003550545753641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989670360285867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11759415840513825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588335819879627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830749150064027,0.0,0.2323661094283401,0.08207700279497535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342948648009747,0.11790965918821453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216512747328704,0.0,0.11748218472968362,0.0,0.05612915240893116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767485044587708,0.20738431915993935,0.0,0.1533791192069408,0.0,0.11542183390840965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691141287843412,0.09170361456805444,0.0,0.0,0.08518902653552035,0.0,0.11096088827341873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055708777562547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5102842830655187,0.12441401290919588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337676251487681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343941174464675,0.0,0.0,0.09811491086435976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198546896643846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497236121533652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828188991753976,0.0,0.17276504544442128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632740531011167,0.07361648174360848,0.0,0.0,0.06699292691727672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250922531585512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398500002354577
parenting,Thorrswife686,2019/02/23,"Opinions about over celebrating So my daughter turned 8 e few days ago. We had a birthday party the weekend beforehand because it suited schedules for another nieces party. It’s been a tradition that we have a party and on the day of the actual birthday a dinner of their choice and a small gift(necklace, Barbie you get the idea) and cake or a desert of their choice.
I grew up with three birthdays so I feel like I don’t have the best grasp on what’s acceptable for this situation. 
My husband thinks we went overboard for birthdays and that a party should be enough. 
Side note: it’s always under 30 people mostly family like cousins and grandparents and I make all the cake a decorations from scratch or whatever is most affordable. We spend under 150 for everything each time including gifts and food. I keep all the party supplies for the next birthday if there’s a repeat party theme (we have five girls)",4.5450784313725485,6.941087664705888,4.864117647058823,80.37519607843139,72.35294117647058,8.062745098039215,27.803921568627448,8.841846274778883,2.4206392156862746,733,28,127,15,15,231,109,170,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.9833,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,1,2,1,4,4,0,0,17,0,9,2,0,1,2,30,16,12,0,2,3,3,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,14,2,1,5,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,2,15,4,17,11,8,18,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,6,10,88,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.21262185981028275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19313966248376674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129566840039973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22846876625850726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281913078437355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286542089249574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810323350633051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251308341219611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581871398555606,0.0,0.2054002007206616,0.0,0.1101679229570609,0.15565527938146898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26346434636301874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11383459728002862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459627867444931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936639495330888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289273735985126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543823993595903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23172047759363845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510522700363888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24490902406241005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961028842032325,0.0,0.0,0.12704901983250072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23699355973519245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20197923162482628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HalfADozenOfAnother,2019/02/23,What age would you consider it ok to let your kid take an Uber alone? My son is 12.   Logistics of activities tomorrow make getting him to a location a bit stressed.  It can be done but I'm halfway considering just getting him an Uber.  He's a good kid with a cell phone.   I'm on the fence on it.   Any parents use uber for their younger kids?,0.6411428571428566,2.90923275714286,2.6567857142857183,91.5994642857143,85.71428571428572,6.928571428571428,25.892857142857146,8.07648339933343,1.6671428571428573,263,12,60,6,8,88,55,70,0.049,0.86,0.091,0.5969,1,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,1,0,1,3,0,1,7,1,6,0,0,2,0,7,13,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,7,9,1,4,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,2,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064542424116525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012162907933282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230367611490547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30279962182955944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30918207614941345,0.0,0.0,0.24817965828246485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025689920943143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975097995221064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285523706508269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389425859240517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222473500086517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25555515701708564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21019275291991,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RobertaGee,2019/02/23,"I’ve been feeling guilty lately I just had a newborn who is 2 weeks old now. I’ve been so busy taking care of the new baby and so tired from not getting any sleep that I’ve been feeling bad because I feel like I’ve been neglecting my 3 year old. Before I had the baby, right up until I was due me and my 3 year old have always been so close and he’s always been so loving and clingy towards me. Now that the baby is here, i hardly have time for him anymore and i feel so bad. My time gets taken up by the baby now and it doesn’t help that my 3 year old has been driving me crazy lately. He throws tantrums, doesn’t listen, doesn’t do what I ask him, and he screams and throws fits if I tell or ask him to do simple tasks. I feel like he’s gotten worse since the baby was born and it makes me very frustrated with him and I just feel like I don’t even have the patience for him right now. I feel so guilty that I haven’t been spending time with him like we used to do. The only interaction we have is him throwing a fit and me yelling at him to try to get him to behave. ",4.283865793780683,3.3796274553191488,5.1680851063829785,90.20692307692309,70.19148936170212,7.741407528641571,25.31096563011457,5.873414542411696,0.5358445171849429,832,17,201,3,13,273,107,235,0.135,0.755,0.109,-0.8063,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,14,12,2,0,9,0,28,3,1,2,0,31,48,20,0,1,5,0,8,4,0,0,1,3,0,1,8,16,0,1,7,0,1,4,6,6,0,0,14,11,33,6,17,34,0,34,0,1,0,1,24,9,0,2,25,123,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511994168573973,0.0,0.0,0.0756465075413758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103194494749819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798737331712844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857602618968088,0.06781041699035888,0.0,0.09465641232717167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134158335576846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347247840181646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937213656943513,0.2384080366873635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17435375756268287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964852231662794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456132739438058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25096544838427565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21738352313157785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039777015690747,0.0,0.07425306609190335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743556506496904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4669075400999341,0.0,0.0,0.08460246559593364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999543089520707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201826074566373,0.0,0.11131959004858133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363807540482203,0.0,0.09722801140495983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19459351139057116,0.12785315896525656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552415179398322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607499987357604,0.0,0.0917840347884313,0.0,0.0,0.0892294200228029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133623036581911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149032981137063
parenting,javamoe,2019/02/23,Shitty stepson won't stop annoying/loud video game behavior So 19 yr old plays online gaming and laughs and cusses at friends while playing. Wife chooses to ignore behavior. Kid says ok when asked to turn it down but mouths back about being a hipocrite because 6yr old plays loudly occasionally. 6yr old doesn't cuss though. He is paying for his own internet but i could pull the electrical from room if he doesnt comply after 1st request. What do you think I should do? Wife wants him out at 21. I wish it was sooner. Words don't seem to work.,2.855584415584417,5.458958904761907,3.4165367965368,87.56922077922079,79.0,6.103896103896104,21.926406926406926,7.348242739294969,0.8788095238095237,435,13,82,6,11,136,85,105,0.038,0.81,0.152,0.8440000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,5,7,0,0,2,1,11,1,1,0,0,16,17,9,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,1,3,3,0,2,3,6,1,1,4,1,0,0,1,2,6,6,11,12,1,14,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,8,44,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095641025027316,0.0,0.0,0.1723691201340994,0.0,0.13664896046600775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17897758680265044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318939529114966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.70567067148549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17826507980132336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20407148221003746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741205574278827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14363594062340612,0.22024106636623395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438272512679545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221838015415266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577787948168315,0.0,0.0,0.16319485797314015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peachstare,2019/02/24,"17 yr olds doing a camping trip? Thoughts? Thoughts on a group of 17 year olds going on a camping trip? My niece and her friends are planning a group of 8 to go camping on their own for 4 nights. My sister is concerned about their safety and being far from where we live. Any thoughts on this? Would you trust your teen at this age? 

I remember going on camping trips in my 20’s and even people my age were unable to properly hydrate and feed themselves and were drinking too much alcohol. Unsure how I’d feel about it as a parent... thoughts/advice for my sister would be appreciated!",2.798397129186604,5.121575219298247,3.4605901116427447,88.71064593301433,77.50877192982456,5.548963317384371,26.15311004784689,6.574015621080383,1.0317473684210523,461,18,89,4,11,145,76,114,0.018000000000000002,0.862,0.121,0.9145,1,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,2,1,6,2,0,0,5,0,9,3,0,1,0,14,16,7,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,3,6,3,0,5,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,12,2,17,7,2,21,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,0,6,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938074158310241,0.0,0.2119562423392301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348723389872701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942895342643949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309961997627531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028245326539673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323055887721224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33814938162621433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513050120702425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579660027560085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18612084011938845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162314564861234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22022385232716374,0.0,0.0,0.13749821004123214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246711235004343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4723595844234708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817782607234265,0.0,0.0,0.12771909510306087
parenting,vai_kisaiya,2019/02/24,"2yo boy split his forehead open on the edge of our bed, husband wants to put super glue on it? Like the title says, the kids were playing on our bed, which has a wooden rim around the edge (think like a waterbed, except it's a regular mattress). Well, our two year old son fell and busted his forehead on the edge of the wooden rim. It bled a lot, but it didn't look long or deep enough to require a trip to the hospital, so we cleaned it up and put on a bandaid.

They are all asleep now and my husband is feeling some deep guilt. He was in the room when it happened and was watching them, and he feels if he had told them to stop or reacted faster it wouldn't have happened. He thinks the injury will leave a noticeable scar on our son's forehead forever. 

He has suggested putting super glue on it to make it heal and be less noticeable, but I am really not sure about it. For one, he's two, so the likelihood of him touching it then having his fingers stuck to his head or together is fairly high. When I said this, my husband said that's why we do it while he's asleep. When he wakes up it will be dry. 

I'm just...not into this plan. He says it is what doctors would do if we took him to the hospital, but in my opinion if it needs glue then we should let a doctor do it then. To this my husband reacted angrily. I think he is feeling very guilty about (from his perspective) allowing the injury to happen. (For the record I made very sure to express clearly that I placed no blame on him or anyone. Accidents happen.) My husband is quite tied to this ""solution"" for some reason and insists it's what would be best. I am not convinced. 

My question for this sub is this:  Is superglue a valid solution? Have any of you tried it and has it worked? Am I wrong in shooting it down immediately?",4.841655844155844,4.88038440934066,5.450639360639361,85.45345154845157,68.91758241758242,8.815984015984018,30.006993006993014,8.575989854853784,2.0054934065934065,1391,49,300,20,22,450,177,364,0.121,0.802,0.077,-0.9584,0,0,0,1,0,0,47.0,8,1,3,7,10,12,0,1,22,0,35,12,8,6,4,57,56,27,0,9,13,7,5,2,0,6,4,4,5,2,31,15,0,2,8,1,0,6,5,2,1,3,11,11,33,10,39,35,7,41,0,0,2,0,47,22,0,12,15,202,64,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488359882403665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699663691320423,0.0,0.0,0.09802782011926964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556140330227295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22541962206490135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378069636270488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703597763196548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38950576442802737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301220729195367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163450645738251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659841248032145,0.0,0.1126024882540724,0.0,0.10759558548183512,0.0,0.0,0.09745042175365966,0.09247087078621302,0.0,0.0,0.0936178640647226,0.0,0.10419573351915701,0.07350421048373547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165064670795233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25073874849202765,0.11554967326692987,0.0,0.07461839087100731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504923147545396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33209516381234816,0.1233566742926463,0.11712339503145125,0.0,0.0,0.07054401743144087,0.11321901322277593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094937021490231,0.17513953087423706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206306574330167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075686669536004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116763245401164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522188166239163,0.1223444680115612,0.0747624770564977,0.0,0.21513737162115695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181716752377206,0.06495008752964393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900875492149852,0.0,0.09936381354357142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016676877590956,0.0,0.0,0.1564484637234581,0.12039607548890405,0.0,0.07091198648797288
parenting,ladyheracross,2019/02/24,"Any opinions or experiences with Agape Boarding School for Troubled Boys in Stockton, Missouri? My younger brother may be sent to this boarding school to help with extreme behavioral issues. I want to make sure he will be okay and that this facility does its job.

Any opinions or experiences with this place or with boarding schools for troubled kids in general? My family has never been through this before.

​

Thank you.",7.300045662100454,10.03897710958904,5.804315068493153,75.11871004566213,65.57534246575342,8.154337899543378,39.56392694063927,8.841846274778883,3.973787214611873,351,20,52,6,6,103,52,73,0.073,0.792,0.135,0.4696,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,2,16,10,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,12,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,6,1,33,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204251273674288,0.2290611440987291,0.25638749189093696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040872828586195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496699117664448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687992901548775,0.17771111875329615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635475413222605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967562028361391,0.18706779029928686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583236159383993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539107955050667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695356770502373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5723487026904664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766911163161314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355533298188602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118849989403172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290611440987291,0.0
parenting,alm0starealgirl,2019/02/24,"Would you take a 10 week old to the beach? Our first was born in January so I didn't have this dilemma. A beach vacation is by far the cheapest option for us since we know someone with a condo, and by the time the baby is any older it will just be too cold for the beach..

The place is a 7 hour drive with stops. I am just trying to decide if this is appropriate or not. It's in North Carolina, so the sun is not too strong and we have a shade tent.  But, regardless, is being 7 hours from home a safe thing for a 10 week old? Will this even be enjoyable for anyone? We'll also have our 3.5yo. 

Other options include skipping vacation completely,  or going on a fall/winter cabin or farm vacation closer to home when the baby is a little older, but of course this will cost more... ",3.593539772727276,4.324758956250001,4.9802272727272765,85.26386363636368,71.9375,8.068181818181818,23.92045454545455,8.296473431620573,1.2453749999999997,603,15,128,9,11,202,99,160,0.035,0.939,0.027000000000000003,0.2147,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,6,1,0,2,9,3,0,0,17,0,21,0,0,0,0,24,24,12,0,3,10,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,0,8,6,0,2,2,3,1,2,3,0,0,1,2,1,9,3,16,14,1,23,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,6,13,91,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301635057382598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011931043548347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337909696960443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20061873802715072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637977001649742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275564390602976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087442260628921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838638118275923,0.0,0.376867201695139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515671194719124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917752299601264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015630670173457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991195536549414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828030962499234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621236912067689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997071213476233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438655802037372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711930728970974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157322102636934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990884671420946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23016120106157845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30696646762111895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592406440175522,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jynxed420,2019/02/24,"Night terrors? 2 year old My 2 year old has recently started to randomly scream really loud and kick in his sleep.. the sound is so fucking alarming to me and I am so confused as to what is going on or what to do.  Do you think it is night terrors? If so what do you do about them? I try to let him sooth himself and dont run in immediately obviously but it scares me the way he sounds and makes me feel like something is wrong.  It usually only happens between 9pm-1am, after that he sleeps amazingly. Also as a side question, when did you stop using the baby monitor? ",2.614210526315788,4.504292877192988,4.485824561403508,83.20610526315792,76.36842105263158,7.3670175438596495,28.06666666666667,8.238735603445708,2.0264308771929818,444,19,88,8,10,151,79,114,0.17,0.8029999999999999,0.026,-0.9407,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,1,0,6,10,1,5,4,0,13,3,2,2,1,16,21,14,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,7,4,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,1,5,13,2,13,19,0,19,0,0,0,1,10,4,1,5,13,62,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426048144291467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21141964016369255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912122882507259,0.1288730315467916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677072747799218,0.0,0.0,0.10252168704285756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952122664229704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18446440273500567,0.0,0.08813106939540545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041394906652995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385738414976493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785849104384849,0.0,0.0,0.13719725688583306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20208181541624745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155645869268608,0.0,0.17811665132236432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060519397234134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610472173533182,0.0,0.0,0.1388755992479378,0.0,0.0,0.12768332799879198,0.0,0.0,0.15081690200285178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558876239433853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247523026399595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580191836152513,0.19867776806598408,0.0,0.0,0.1431878293472904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723178857813686,0.0,0.23233478117715806
parenting,raemeetsworld,2019/02/24,How to raise non-racist kids Hi everyone! This is my first post to reddit. I have 2 children (4 and 3 years old). I want to do everything I can to make sure my children grow up to be accepting of all races and religions. We live in Alabama...which isn’t as bad as you might think! But does lend itself to many teachable moments. Thank you. ,0.6985869565217371,3.0099622463768165,2.3099818840579713,93.86323369565218,85.95652173913044,6.348550724637683,21.668478260869566,7.6454224807358475,0.9123173913043487,261,9,58,5,8,85,56,69,0.051,0.8140000000000001,0.135,0.5837,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,2,12,11,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,8,3,11,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,4,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23891835905278205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25040661741424697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734229360238863,0.2571678532698488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433940128544969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526704698005165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19100339894191426,0.29010519049360234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035536556221099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002600829988485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740469362710661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696874141023019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634430291552183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334957592504286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877519529961993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18426740938769667
parenting,jilrah,2019/02/24,"Head lice HELP! About a month ago I treated my 7 year old with prescription strength medication for head lice. The doctor said that I didn’t need to comb out the nits because the medication would kill them.  
Well of course, I am still freaking out even though, I’ve checked her head every day and never found any actual bugs.  So tonight I finally broke down and retreated with OTC meds and combed it out. I didn’t find any actual bugs from combing it out, very very throughly. But I did get a lot of really brown nits.  Is it possible that they did actually dead with the initial treatment and I’m over reacting? 
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parenting,stolenmarbles,2019/02/24,Minimally involved grandparents How much involvement do the grandparents have in your kid's lives?  I hear about and see other grandparents spending alot of quality time with their grandkids. My parents and in laws don't seem to have much of an interest in spending quality time with our kids. It makes me mad and sad. My kids are so great. Grandpa and grandma are missing out. Seems like they are too involved in their own lives. I'll never understand. ,4.717682926829267,7.556845097560978,4.524573170731706,80.8800304878049,73.63414634146342,8.490243902439023,32.201219512195124,9.188382445141503,3.3372146341463416,366,18,62,9,8,112,58,82,0.093,0.789,0.118,0.5009,4,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,3,0,4,6,1,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,1,15,14,6,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,7,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,9,3,11,14,4,8,0,2,1,0,15,5,0,3,4,43,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700125805156858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760297756798902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196499642414759,0.0,0.4325175364981903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634783828089611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600719803026808,0.0,0.18888859955187726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27194200162223303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516043451020074,0.44591115689040745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856163318371623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549584750471119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dorcawhale,2019/02/24,"Childs friend has poor hygiene Hello there,

Has anyone here ever had their child bring a friend over and the friend smells like straight up shit? 

Because it's happening to me, but theres more to it than just the horrid stench. 

First for some context, I live in an apartment complex with my son and girlfriend. My son is 8 and soon after we moved in he befriended the little boy who lives below us. Hes 9 and we'll call him Max. 

Extra details - From what I can gather, Max lives with his single dad for a majority of the time and occasionally goes to visit his mother. He often skips school because I see him home during school hours. 

So back to the stinky situation. Max's odor can be smelled throughout the complex. It hits you as soon as you enter the building to get to your apartment. It smells like elephant feces. When my son and Max play together in my apartment, the stench comes with him. 

One day, after a play session, the smell was stronger and lingered more than usual. That's when we found small CHUNKS OF DRIED TURDS scattered around the apartment. We quickly disposed of them appropriately and disinfected  the areas we found them. Then a few days later it happened again. And it keeps happening. 

I even asked my kid if it was him. Of course he said no, but this never happens in any other situation. Only when Max comes to visit. And the kid stinks so badly. 

Recently the smell in the hallway of the apartment complex was so repulsive, my girlfriend and I were convinced there were dried up shit chunks out there, but we didn't see any on the floor. Until today when she text me that she had located the shit. There was a turd HIDDEN IN THE FAKE PLANT that decorates our hall. It was described as dry and hard as a rock. 

We are at a loss of what to do. Just to be clear, Max isnt actively pooping in the apartment, it seems he has such poor hygiene that the turds maybe tumble out or he gets so uncomfortable with the caked up, dry poo in his butt that he removes it himself and hides it so he doesnt get in trouble.  

Should we go to Max's dad about this situation? Should we still allow play dates in the apartment if we dont feel comfortable having Max here? Haven't any teacher noticed and told Max's dad about this situation? Any advice is appreciated. Like I said, we are at loss of what we should do. Thank you for your help. 

Tldr; kids friend has poor hygiene and leaves dried up poo chunks in my place. What do?",3.8583157894736857,5.5991902736842105,4.165421052631583,87.46244736842104,72.57894736842105,6.684210526315789,25.342105263157894,7.273561745256523,1.0518210526315794,1920,61,384,20,38,599,227,475,0.142,0.754,0.105,-0.9776,0,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,14,5,3,3,31,24,3,0,30,0,35,5,5,1,3,60,59,36,0,5,8,7,2,3,6,4,0,2,1,6,25,35,0,1,7,4,3,9,7,11,0,2,15,15,48,13,59,37,7,72,0,2,2,1,70,37,4,6,29,255,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856479630451508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465321809963265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337218404860329,0.0,0.0,0.08068192725722012,0.08472892938170842,0.0,0.0,0.06969061415105174,0.07567415204664349,0.11049716991732704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254567155967117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614333508159484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690062077791695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062203346506978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05986175347783899,0.08198206867838598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045826394249590896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709175472750017,0.0,0.19874719188855425,0.280089039449747,0.0,0.14205484666070814,0.0,0.05150840242758382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205832355918368,0.0,0.08118870367657888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060748893960714735,0.0,0.0909115472740902,0.0,0.08925452039836952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805581176899858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959664779100336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283503382735593,0.0908373352596732,0.24008984020968835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105228776623774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963277499931602,0.0,0.0,0.06990118682202345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318542961470736,0.0,0.0,0.06141476549188294,0.06892991837602044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469142243097768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948842357159725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17242406917820127,0.0,0.0,0.18344937308761974,0.1444443553007351,0.0825082063125265,0.0,0.0,0.2790981398375703,0.0,0.4074978338782312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237904054045488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344200890613047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052848400111324,0.0,0.08590878587575125,0.08660300914397358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090194504730702,0.0,0.09981863082958133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmessgirl,2019/02/24,"Toddler activity ideas We are in the middle of winter here in New England and we are running out of fun screen free indoor ideas for our (just under) 2.5 year old son. He is a little speech delayed and doesn't pretend play yet but loves numbers, counting and abcs and craves physical activity. Any ideas for cheap indoor play would be amazing! ❤ ",6.6943846153846165,7.345192246153848,6.541346153846158,77.10740384615386,65.0,8.346153846153845,33.17307692307692,8.07648339933343,2.515230769230769,276,11,48,3,4,87,52,65,0.071,0.716,0.212,0.9119,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,0,14,7,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,0,1,3,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,8,5,0,13,0,0,1,1,6,6,0,0,6,27,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663872061079012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8286239620588918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452283570130583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208284958394689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236308378123159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25674496957261633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17380990756058526,0.0,0.0,0.15756250362673235
parenting,AeliusHadrianus,2019/02/24,"There should be a name for the joy you feel when the kids all get to bed early At 7:30 the 6YO, 2YO, and even the newborn are all fed, happy, and fast asleep. We’re so excited we don’t even know what to do with ourselves. Of course here I am browsing Reddit like a jackass instead of making good use of the evening. Think I hear a beer and a book calling.",5.215,4.180661400000004,5.4105000000000025,89.66775000000001,68.33333333333334,8.033333333333333,29.416666666666664,5.985473137389443,1.111066666666666,275,8,64,1,4,87,58,75,0.035,0.764,0.201,0.9219,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,9,0,6,3,1,2,2,14,14,5,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,1,5,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,5,8,11,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,4,41,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114750727599745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6044186736932617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423497655441634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15936831675958685,0.0,0.0,0.2558490769389377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247156723014749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437968712288806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763938394245864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902480447098995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036133833201266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545425731277966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634524984130269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommatomissk,2019/02/24,"My kid won’t poop in the potty Please help. My almost 3 year old (in April) is pretty well potty trained after i bit the bullet and did the 3 day method at the beginning of this year. 

She is super strong willed (thanks Daddy) and refused for the longest time but i hit my limit and she took to it like nothing. She only has a couple accidents a week and that’s mostly at night. Every now and then she’ll be too busy playing in the yard and have one. But i would say 90% of the time she can pee in the pot. 

But the poop. Jesus save me, the poop. The first week and a half to 2 weeks we started this journey she went in the potty every time. Now? Fucking never. We’ll go potty and 30 seconds later she’s like “i pooped in my panties” 

So i know for a fact she completely understands the concept because as i said, she tells me at least 90% of the time when she needs to pee. But she will look me in the face and say “no i don’t need to potty” as she is shitting her pants. 

I am trying to have patience because she is not even 3, but seriously. Am i doing something wrong here? I ask her 30 million times a day if she needs to go, i feel like i hang with her and don’t rush her so she has time to do her business. I talk to her constantly about rewards if she does poop in the potty. But nothing. I don’t know what to do. Or am i just expecting too much at her age?",0.7622399190999829,2.4033872389078503,2.6975123246113,95.05108709391988,81.04778156996588,5.296372140058146,20.06686891669827,6.0378880255834675,-0.13739630893692345,1043,27,245,7,27,349,147,293,0.059,0.83,0.111,0.9252,0,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,5,12,14,2,0,21,0,26,10,9,0,2,39,45,25,0,7,11,0,1,3,0,6,0,3,1,1,5,12,0,2,4,2,0,7,7,4,1,5,4,5,47,10,31,33,4,47,1,0,1,1,34,12,2,5,31,170,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917474732922068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126148081086312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450989507376621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299318289649242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478330513361685,0.12861122527334773,0.0,0.0,0.13168608406919044,0.0,0.15350761859464832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414944468134364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860724057864764,0.0,0.20054787644521269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017676042455261,0.08502321006638458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123275310901347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002598778889444,0.0,0.0,0.1352761369726935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977218582854394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081332484484454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443183426301315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994129737389236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748855657011019,0.2647408257550469,0.09179048541045427,0.0,0.0,0.11168603121664557,0.0,0.2283931700162249,0.0,0.12488456266541535,0.0,0.08064657257139785,0.09051506783636548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306409946231674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107943286740193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132090149385442,0.189288494724934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221655639794941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162234414936764,0.0,0.0,0.08423831028196715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565847776586782,0.10402297363231754,0.10957156593947877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163860889860565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222828719611382,0.08080229902005276,0.0,0.0,0.12389716605239667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863961569963423,0.0,0.10700735630688606,0.11032663143662713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845437179499663,0.13012249025863132,0.0,0.1532814792098742
parenting,Tacomom0417,2019/02/24,"Grandparents and Life Insurance Policies My mother wants to open a life insurance policy on my son.  She text me today saying this was her wish and she would make me the beneficiary but she needs his social security number.  This is not something we had discussed before.  I don't have a stellar relationship with my mother which I won't get into here as I'd like an unbiased opinion on whether this is something I should consider.  I'm not well versed in the financial world but right off the bat I feel like something that accrues interest would be the better option.  All of that aside, should I give her his social?",3.982037617554859,6.5349375172413815,4.9003134796238275,78.71239811912227,74.6896551724138,8.01128526645768,26.92476489028213,8.841846274778883,2.4232000000000005,496,19,86,11,11,161,81,116,0.028,0.784,0.188,0.9608,1,0,3,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,7,0,12,2,0,1,1,23,20,6,0,7,5,3,1,2,0,5,2,1,0,0,6,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,2,18,6,9,12,1,9,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,2,3,62,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082956356635254,0.0,0.0,0.17755340080270335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150885625588164,0.14342096098481402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488733437180592,0.19258456880737013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836014498100967,0.1961596233688205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400696859395111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488588963415842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553806723803465,0.0,0.1714455246161511,0.0,0.15965015785467473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40929330180900997,0.0,0.463658028272177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902943214140571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841177916855905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18050480406462266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23086083561604784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852242643895942,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Appolivan,2019/02/24,"Reading novels vs pushing reading independence My daughter is in 1st grade and just hasn't clicked with reading and writing. We practice her spelling test words (which she is sometimes really not about and she gets stressed about) and read the simple books her teacher sends home.
 
My husband doesn't think I should be reading her novels at night anymore but she is often tired and frustrated with reading at night. I just want her to enjoy reading and I don't want to stress her out of that enjoyment. I'm just hoping that someone has been in the same situation and it's worked out by taking this kind of route or whether my husband is correct in his suggestions.",6.755322580645161,7.801305661290325,5.966290322580644,79.89443548387098,64.96774193548387,8.135483870967743,36.467741935483865,8.07648339933343,2.919906451612904,538,26,93,6,8,163,80,124,0.075,0.787,0.138,0.8247,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,7,7,1,2,2,0,11,1,0,1,1,31,18,10,0,4,8,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,12,0,0,1,10,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,1,16,4,16,15,1,11,0,0,1,0,16,7,0,3,2,66,21,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877251771830508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257112068004853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013185461986288,0.1189514845906463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247145280136268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247785522318563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8385664760813026,0.0,0.07672311724907027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13461840658639973,0.0,0.0,0.10147463294213628,0.0,0.1184484728658579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743757686291323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004672195356593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673916729757706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376497223364584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127840637137545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718874575368206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The__big__L,2019/02/24,"Is this normal parenting? Hi parents, I just wanted some advice on this;

I was just doing my homework, and my dad came in and said ""you can't do your homework until you clean your room."" and grabbed my laptop and biology homework and threw them. 

I replied with ""This is due tomorrow, I think this is just a bit more important""

He shoves over the chair I was sitting on , and kicks me ""you ungrateful piece of shit"" he said ""you don't talk to me like that, understand?!""  
""I just lost all the respect I had for you"" I said, and he shoves me again. 

After that, I left to tell my mom what had just happened. ""He's such an asshole"" I said.

My dad runs downstairs. ""What did you just call me?"" He said.

""You heard"" I said, grabbing a kitchen knife just in case he got violent again.  

He wouldn't hit me in front of my mom, so he went upstairs. 

Anyway, he gets like this maybe once a month or so. Is this normal, and I'm just overreacting? Because I think I'm gonna have a chat with the guidance department tomorrow and get their take on this. I'm done with his shit and he needs to learn a lesson. I've put up with this way too long.

 I guess I'm just wondering if his behavior was normal, and if this is something all parents do to their children. Advice on how to handle this would be nice. Sorry if this is the wrong sub, I just didnt know where to post. Thanks in advance for your help",2.1325531914893645,3.761846670212768,3.177606382978724,93.20875,76.97872340425532,6.402127659574468,23.09751773049645,7.1686216300943375,0.6133943262411341,1059,32,239,12,24,339,142,282,0.07400000000000001,0.846,0.08,-0.4135,3,0,1,0,1,0,51.0,0,10,3,3,19,10,3,0,10,0,23,3,2,1,2,49,54,19,0,10,14,7,2,2,0,3,0,7,6,1,15,16,1,0,7,1,0,8,4,5,0,0,20,9,40,5,26,29,6,33,0,1,0,0,46,13,2,7,11,153,55,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986955037041116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06197521969991481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110993961088966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038133072815902,0.11627988881347855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404057211184084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623355437153824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813123350588823,0.0,0.11199759050452499,0.0,0.08990373451545794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814520322210979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055873488441644886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104614219272533,0.0,0.0,0.09933865771048513,0.0,0.0,0.08997203785803592,0.0,0.0,0.11098146888921256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213810078058068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23814217012930802,0.0811495772466065,0.0,0.0,0.0753847437962999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29883602995121394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827196730990082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386672982417512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736882001998466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220334987885996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5802512178475256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087192947682135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826817325984138,0.0,0.1138078097014171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644088222063082,0.08171603096451993,0.08886138200071728,0.09360125400548866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028813313444718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058388644060822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05996579213245341,0.08069848048717418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424626694094676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025345376352252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222127338012226,0.11115683305331442,0.0,0.0
parenting,momofmax,2019/02/24,"I have a depressed teenager Can anyone who has lived thru this (as the depressed teen boy) tell me what they wish their Mom had done? Or what can I be doing? He has meds, therapist, psychiatrist, loving Mom, good private school geared to his needs, is athletic, tall and good looking. I honestly don’t know what I’m missing or what I need to do to help!",4.241739130434779,5.489378971014496,4.670260869565219,86.1584347826087,70.8840579710145,7.838840579710146,28.29275362318841,8.238735603445708,1.7798962318840583,275,10,56,4,5,87,53,69,0.109,0.6579999999999999,0.233,0.8736,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,0,0,7,20,4,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,8,4,5,17,0,1,0,3,1,1,11,1,0,2,0,36,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348741066679058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534936698642413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100007953594797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442403614407271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375477526324344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277789783432708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18120394626487,0.0,0.17232448510931858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852097881968648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279417425916183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806782980972822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3043208208846801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076831967208232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936234411353627,0.0,0.0,0.23826430657078002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359810556554984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ALongDayALongNight,2019/02/24,"Parents, what was your trick to improve length of newborn night sleep? Mine is merciless on me. Have mercy and let's hear those hints please...",3.3737179487179496,6.340016115384617,2.313076923076924,93.91525641025645,80.15384615384616,5.005128205128205,24.051282051282055,6.42735559955562,0.6725282051282053,113,4,21,1,3,32,26,26,0.042,0.769,0.189,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,13,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43752314644621065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969549339268049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642940179469629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4310437883289129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261207271976928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884746113179092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alwayshappy503,2019/02/24,"How can I make the best out of the time spent with my 7m son ? Recently  separated from gf.  I see my son 1 on 1 short periods of time now    How can i make the best of it ? What should I be doing to make sure its fun and he isn't bored ?   

Before I separated with his mom shed always bring him to see me at work and hang out so I always got go spend time with him.  That's what he's used too. 

Now I have to see him after work and its still hard because I'm by myself but I want to do everything to make sure I'm in his life. ",-0.5109545454545454,0.7925394499999996,2.332878787878787,97.76727272727275,83.66666666666666,6.03030303030303,15.909090909090908,6.980632752743323,-0.5392500000000005,394,6,108,5,11,139,72,120,0.011,0.853,0.136,0.9031,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,4,7,6,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,7,2,20,23,7,0,2,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,2,4,17,5,19,19,2,18,0,0,3,0,11,6,0,0,9,66,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735947514702299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021920931168403,0.0,0.13989577443622914,0.0,0.3450639059135281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477557981908742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343463489721474,0.0,0.13148897198502565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472737753119854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612347308084844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4389640354965991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254808703937995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623292082431552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930263305912679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129332125211735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098978245224583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28759604665932026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199235087020476,0.0,0.0,0.09696979377180882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393762758827448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bossanovabitch,2019/02/24,"What is your nap/bedtime ritual for your LO(s)? My baby is teething so she can get cranky.

I lay her on her tummy with a comfy pillow and blanket. I rub her back and her bum and put on a baby lullaby from Youtube.

Anyone else want to share? ",0.997,2.9959167000000018,2.942,91.781,82.0,5.6000000000000005,20.0,6.742157984588678,0.2519999999999998,185,5,40,2,5,62,39,50,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,5,5,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,1,6,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,1,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311175889986964,0.4852085496779076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641311796329556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955907602747202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24741064258202144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4760491469414395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793124122072128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wubaluba_dubdub,2019/02/24,"Son (14m) very hard to entertain and seems to just try to destroy everything. He's a very loved, happy and lively kid but he really just tries to destroy everything he can get his hands on. He's always been active and quickly looses interest in things. Not that he's ever given much interest to toys but We are now rotating toys but even with this method he won't actually spend time playing with them. He investigates all the toys before discarding them. Then he goes off to try and pull the TV off the stand or pull the plants out of their pots. He will pick things up look at it then throw it. He will sometimes come and stroke your face or hair gently at first then finally pinch your nose/ear or poke you in the eye, slap your face etc.
We use the phrase ""ah ah""and wiggle our finger if he is doing something we don't want. He simply uses this to full comedy effect when running toward the TV. I.e wiggling his finger and uttering ah ah while pulling the TV off the stand, and always with a huge smile on his face.

I take him to the mall or garden center with his reins on and he just wants to pull all items from shelves or pull leaves off all plants.

I've ended up taking him to a huge field and just plonk him in the middle and let him walk to the edge then reset before he does any damage to the fence/plants etc. I take a ball and toys but he has no interest in them.


I'm a bit stuck for ideas, I want him to explore and enjoy but I don't want him damaging or hurting things or people. I also don't really know how to discipline at this age, he's vocab is very limited all though I'm pretty sure he understands more than he lets on.",4.635459284305437,4.8539725177514805,5.314953508030435,85.62436883629194,69.38461538461539,8.68661594815441,24.379261763877142,8.563005593585519,1.2887569456184846,1293,28,278,19,21,419,179,338,0.086,0.754,0.16,0.9845,0,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,4,4,4,3,12,14,2,0,18,3,15,10,8,5,6,62,35,34,0,5,18,1,6,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,9,21,0,3,6,12,1,10,6,5,3,1,3,8,27,9,41,27,11,50,0,3,2,1,43,24,0,9,14,165,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.11470085685243593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399568937071287,0.19560329805896348,0.0,0.0,0.07993037501521202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20003362430888424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832186380407906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124921848952254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285894504938972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041044379087706,0.0,0.26217353419295386,0.07763323044017753,0.10632052119936264,0.0,0.0,0.2112724844183601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287579464193845,0.0,0.09997839375041513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06140914137013771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512217629518918,0.10529162571217543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582765411618782,0.1326869326539582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459621860256587,0.0,0.0,0.12445655633659194,0.0,0.24038265401595565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378886243976763,0.0,0.09870294024320757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608330351461892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640449942127612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148656407266278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195791563749958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059665552731966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700285610974247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048706587913513,0.1162488211213344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11077887315482103,0.0,0.26512351792320776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23426255186877304,0.0,0.11548121706484687,0.0,0.06853778557883353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239403270757624,0.0,0.0,0.12236197546467968,0.0,0.20303146884292275,0.0,0.2909453149718465,0.2773095810052808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nxexiaxixaxl,2019/02/24,Terrifying threes I became pregnant at a young age and i only had my moms help along the way. While my daughter was a newborn and through her first year it was super easy. Now that she’s 3 I find it more difficult to get her to listen to me or understand what I am saying. I’ve tried potty training her and no matter what I do she will not pee in her little potty it’s stressful and hard and my mom now isn’t any help. Her dad is no help either because he comes and goes out of her life. I feel so overwhelmed and stressed about it all because I feel like I’m failing as a mother to get my child to understand. She also has a habit of using a pacifier and as many times as I’ve tried to take it away she will find another she has hiding around the house. I feel so lost i talk to nobody because none of my friends have kids. I just feel like I’m losing my mind on what to do anymore to get her to listen to me at all. This probably just sounds like ranting but if anyone has any suggestions I am opened to anything thank you :(,2.01798674821611,3.468503408256878,3.531498470948012,91.31469928644242,76.8440366972477,6.312334352701327,23.120285423037714,6.937597516519254,0.6029594291539246,805,24,179,8,18,266,122,218,0.118,0.7859999999999999,0.096,-0.5942,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,5,9,13,0,3,7,0,15,2,1,1,2,33,33,18,0,1,7,5,5,3,1,2,1,4,0,3,10,13,0,0,8,0,0,1,5,7,0,2,4,9,32,6,28,27,5,19,0,4,0,0,31,9,0,2,11,121,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011165701348666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197140475784733,0.13258670527051405,0.0,0.0,0.12539766418131162,0.08841201557839254,0.0,0.1040519683928888,0.11256124302247864,0.0,0.0,0.11879753547082646,0.0,0.0,0.2312357776861484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891960866543927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557338960695444,0.18066207463823844,0.0,0.0,0.23113356252412845,0.10755250938970254,0.0,0.0,0.09768969182195092,0.0,0.19818403775259336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326825865332302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542566067364315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589846001840234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931056161750547,0.18532126131384816,0.1267292901554163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145758218230495,0.1380276740263196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819354452739629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767157292577885,0.2961774624134883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616574067581568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632714036145227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005526965385547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28968048463573626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506953979827057,0.10163024329723687,0.0,0.1164118974602986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373003856632078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169324664528954,0.0,0.0,0.2632636316994815,0.0,0.10920631518468897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036471557447252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142526615982965
parenting,mieggoispreggo,2019/02/24,"I thank there's something wrong with my friend's baby I will preface this by saying I am not an expert in mental health or in autism or any other developmental issues babies might have. This is just my gut feeling. Also, I've met a lot of babies over the years and most of them show interest in faces, in people saying their name or talking to them. 

So here it is: my friend's baby is about 13 months old. My friend is on shared parental leave so right now he is mostly at home taking care of his baby and comes to work a few days a month. One of the days he was off he showed up at work with the baby because he had some urgent paperwork and it gave us a chance to meet his baby. He is a very cute kid, however one thing struck me as very odd. Most kids I've met who are seeing so many new faces would look at people, sometimes even start, or cry or smile when people are saying their name and singing songs or playing with them. 

Not this kid. He didn't look at my face a single time (or at any of my co-workers). He just wanted to be put down and crawl. Did not interact with anything or want to interact with anyone, didn't show fascination with any object or anything really, didn't smile. 

Struck me as really odd and not very usual at that age. He is very similar to a little boy I once met who had aspergers later on in life. I don't want to tell my friend to get his kid checked out based on a stupid hunch on my part. But I do want to know what other parents think of it. 

What do you guys think? Would you be worried if this was your kid? ",4.598908382066277,4.313956135802473,5.3006497725795985,87.43213450292399,69.4320987654321,8.179077322936974,24.460038986354785,7.475848149327749,0.858792592592593,1204,24,271,11,19,391,168,324,0.068,0.816,0.117,0.907,4,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,3,5,2,12,12,1,0,12,0,28,6,4,0,0,49,49,24,0,7,17,2,1,0,4,4,2,4,1,7,15,14,0,0,4,6,1,2,8,2,0,2,12,8,28,10,45,31,8,38,0,0,3,0,50,22,0,16,14,170,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959607970711087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20305647663175905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959541675175457,0.0,0.16381348296991627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067406943390096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147998590188717,0.0,0.0,0.08573840906033879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933174379738504,0.1283804171138908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06574025723313884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05032660707392456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30759415539716417,0.0,0.052001607137164084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985527930399001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057983604752591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983918204925099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038860385600644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054700442106335685,0.0,0.0,0.10539051359228067,0.0,0.0,0.07030272656313713,0.0,0.09975768231638116,0.0,0.0,0.1671644125708691,0.0,0.0,0.0846189460500469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091030159083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030531872744404,0.10558822089914163,0.0,0.0,0.15889173473632978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612907903735657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444258332485656,0.10599883137348537,0.13489155418221918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103805647920816,0.10778396484022944,0.0,0.2070098456347033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005762265875028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752609696495004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500018491184562,0.0,0.2374566434889773,0.0,0.0,0.07931449148796323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662495755281258,0.09844015713676373,0.0,0.07044959403301775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07483602991486571,0.08000042856824109,0.08699576520438422,0.0916361250856046,0.0,0.0,0.06612494989849282,0.1275527747136594,0.0,0.0,0.05803818324440607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197253054100446,0.0,0.10962095304852218,0.3284988440916762,0.2348273166675584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21738246914174694,0.10108005395453584,0.0,0.14141002087246507,0.10882313026699293,0.0,0.06409564690323412
parenting,Doctor_Bork,2019/02/24,"I want to hear your WORST stories about a diaper disaster. Parents (and Guardians) of Reddit, what is the worst story of a Diaper Disaster that has happened to you in public or at home? Did your baby have a shit storm while out to eat? Did you think you were going to see a small yellow spot only to have a five alarm brownout? I want to hear it all! I'm working on a project to help share these stories so spare no detail! ",2.018255813953488,4.0091098372093015,3.2838953488372127,90.66561046511627,78.53488372093022,6.16046511627907,22.377906976744185,7.1686216300943375,0.7069348837209306,330,10,69,4,8,107,61,86,0.267,0.6579999999999999,0.075,-0.9727,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,0,1,2,5,1,1,7,0,7,2,1,0,1,7,16,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,3,4,7,1,14,13,3,7,0,0,2,0,11,5,1,1,1,48,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685256841991092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14914183891131233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320610377477971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5915427615611268,0.0,0.17589754933415264,0.0,0.2632330784825418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995855879447936,0.0,0.0,0.2913912497806587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091182773548228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693748841633048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681509647199607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095694306054255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19104809483211466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dingusmom,2019/02/24,"How to teach child to read the room.. too pushy with strangers This is an issue we are dealing with, it’s my almost six year old daughter. She is super outgoing, extroverted and friendly. On the negative end, she doesn’t know how to read a room for her life and is way too pushy with talking to strangers. She will intrude where she is clearly not welcome u less I reign her back to me, she will share extreme TMI with strangers, and if someone gives her an inch of a polite response she latches on like they are now a permanent fixture. 

I don’t know how to deal with it best without being rude and blunt to her, like.. these people are not interested in talking to you, leave them alone. Or we don’t know this person, don’t share our private matters.

Examples..

Today twice at a children’s museum. They had virtual reality headsets. We had used them and returned them to the worker. A new family were using them and we were at the next activity over. She kept interrupting them to tell them what she had done on it. The first three times, they handled it politely. Smile and nod kind of response. And then we, her parents, see the agitation creeping over their expressions like ok kid, leave us alone, so we had to reprimand her to leave them alone and she is clearly offended.

And then we were in a building room, making a car with me, another family were there doing their own thing as a group. She keeps trying to solicit their kid to do our project, they do the polite smile and nod but aren’t interested. She keeps pushing the issue until I have to embarrass her by telling her to leave them alone. 

A couple weeks ago a chick fil a, a family next us to were slightly friendly and the mom said something like, our baby was cute. I politely said thanks and smiled. We also have a six month old in addition to the big girl. After this initial contact, she is interrupting the mom repeatedly to share info about the baby. Eventually it was clearly not cute and I had to tell her, leave them alone.

I don’t know how to handle it. I don’t want to stifle her from interacting at all because she needs to learn to communicate with outside people from her normal circle. But she doesn’t know how to leave it alone after it begins. She feels like it is an invitation to give her life story or latch onto whatever those people are doing.

How would you approach this..? It makes me sad to have to shame her constantly and tell her, these people don’t know us, they aren’t interested, leave us alone. Beyond these few examples it happens basically constantly. Grocery clerks, bank tellers, people you are supposed to have a couple polite exchanges with and keep it moving.",4.265057741147157,6.143965599214147,4.946402798409125,81.71116009391923,71.78978388998037,7.87351574105132,27.73879917581101,8.556025622055003,2.070078499209354,2106,78,393,37,41,677,225,509,0.106,0.779,0.115,0.9123,3,7,1,0,0,0,63.0,15,3,17,4,17,26,2,2,29,1,47,2,0,10,4,75,72,33,0,5,9,4,1,5,2,3,2,2,3,7,22,33,0,4,9,3,2,4,15,5,0,5,16,4,75,21,62,52,5,49,0,1,1,0,97,19,0,4,30,286,97,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416271893981271,0.0,0.061184242386487564,0.4429784807603041,0.0,0.04886278057438497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407016256655909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04698321760263376,0.0,0.037246856280019065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412216679444903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205784878250382,0.0,0.0,0.13521511003264675,0.0,0.0,0.12598575459146072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625279628778149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411771901894146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280293232493388,0.0,0.03089471199530418,0.0436508640442774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05197283352791847,0.0,0.0,0.09441360539639856,0.0,0.0,0.117228092355711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403178068183362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754800803208488,0.0,0.16292923885920713,0.0,0.06362772258225068,0.2014784428930824,0.0,0.0,0.4528830429163592,0.0,0.0,0.08631547469362777,0.14925532836786107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157133973882215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312248069417294,0.04877056758368881,0.06494113582198137,0.0,0.045305926005304684,0.0,0.05901212865136165,0.12996409892306068,0.0,0.0598664149573513,0.0,0.0,0.12823131617544892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784589198409463,0.0,0.0,0.2118001435331611,0.05335139995945465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223590250859435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624287805201886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048689917998549916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051771031786068164,0.047038855446170376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822200795242182,0.21362132415186186,0.05625397493470745,0.0,0.0,0.040593066006159126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03562872723433902,0.0,0.05791699829233859,0.0,0.0,0.04148385089477902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939899225679882,0.1055440114135478,0.0,0.0,0.03603919844237455,0.0484994602564649,0.049011870609958416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889958494579217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043404693084985985,0.0,0.0,0.03934730883644503
parenting,fraughtwithperils,2019/02/24,"Do I need to explain to my sid year old what cultural appropriation is? My little girl is bright and bubbly and completely in love with Disney films; one Disney film in particular. She adores Pocahontas. 
No 'let it go' for her, we are a colours of the wind household. She got ridiculously excited when Pocahontas appeared in Wreck it Ralph 2.

Now, in the UK we have World Book Day in March and children are encouraged to dress up as their favourite book character. Now I know what you are probably thinking but I will reiterate that she is six and we have at least two books if the film on her shelf.

Last week she came home bursting with the news that she was going to be Pocahontas and that Emily was going to be Cinderella and so on and so forth.
Now, my little girl is ginger. She has blue eyes and is very pale, especially in the winter.
No amount of cajoling is going to convince her that Ariel, or Merida, or Anna or Giselle might be a better option but I'm worried what the fallout might be if I let her go to school dressed as a native American.

What should I do?",3.395842636895267,5.395479272727271,4.5211084529505605,83.32914805954283,74.45454545454545,7.898032961190856,25.965178096757043,8.680891452615391,1.8891528973950031,844,30,167,17,18,276,123,209,0.05,0.873,0.077,0.6876,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,1,1,1,6,8,1,0,9,0,26,2,1,0,0,31,40,20,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,10,14,0,0,3,6,0,7,2,1,0,3,4,4,23,7,24,26,2,31,0,0,4,1,22,13,0,9,11,119,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691154837952694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899865604942905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416406631937098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071277565409046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720231217211389,0.0,0.1328540216303138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662272686537255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129017924048057,0.13540251364729808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397191979059179,0.0,0.0,0.33297342210046044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992152794354408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524347241226279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316909083544103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17430539470832973,0.0,0.1125610112563924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909559185431326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811304890371084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643712571458266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226616405184902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705884816763828,0.0,0.0,0.13324410458945332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869363185783526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696994154007154
parenting,x1Nastycuda,2019/02/24,"My parents ground me for no reason. Any advice? I get grounded for everything I do. Now sometimes yes I do deserve it but 92% of the time it’s extremely unreasonable. And I can’t say anything to them about it because if I do they think I’m being “smart” or “disrespectful”. Example: I wanted to go chill with a friend today and they were fine with it until I asked if I could drive my moms car (because they took mine away for my grades) but I was never told I couldn’t drive so I thought I’d be fine. But as soon as I asked if I could take my moms car they changed their minds completely, saying that I just want to leave so I can get out of being grounded and that I was “disrespectful” for “trying” to get ungrounded.",3.830816326530609,4.545889258503403,4.913068027210887,86.0206224489796,71.38095238095238,8.05687074829932,26.944897959183674,8.238735603445708,1.5324318367346934,559,18,121,8,10,184,87,147,0.021,0.8640000000000001,0.115,0.9127,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,6,0,6,4,0,0,2,1,14,0,0,1,1,24,28,15,0,8,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,0,0,3,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,6,2,28,4,18,16,0,17,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,4,6,85,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898828100950071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064138716968636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388800465910305,0.0,0.30420454619137305,0.0,0.15286174041946332,0.0,0.0,0.19836047543277566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17211472799356134,0.0,0.17058755839750306,0.0,0.0,0.25980497099219396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622401522815692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570139821302595,0.0,0.2550116617668188,0.0,0.09246599892072076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722755089391498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428033428620772,0.3811038856834211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254840523219371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065878216606984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728240727834892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587706914261407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609141809137933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232993939516425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425140950260008,0.0,0.12916540202866006,0.0948715137210038,0.0,0.1542203082931118,0.1554665524968693,0.180765372737287,0.11046242835110122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192901767337836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rjgpo3,2019/02/24,"Advice for setting boundaries My husband and I have a three year old. We recently moved back to the town where his family is located. 
We plan on having no more children. His mom has already mentioned to me in front of our daughter about when is she getting a baby brother. I’ve tried explaining in great detail what health concerns I have that prevent me from having another. We’ve tried to be short with her and just say no. 
I do not want my daughter to think that because Abuela keeps talking to her about a baby brother that there will be one. 
I also noticed the other night that our daughter asked (in front of Abuela) to stay the night and my husband and I said no. Then MIL tells her the opposite of what we just said. This type of behavior is consistent and any time we try and bring it up she becomes the victim or she doesn’t listen at all. 
As we were leaving she told my husband that she wants to take her and have alone time with our daughter. Due to some other concerns, I do not want any my daughter alone with my MIL. I also feel like she will use this time to fill our daughter’s head with ideas of things that are not going to happen. 
I seem to be getting nowhere when talking to her when I am firm about our parenting and why we say and do things a certain way. Idk how to set boundaries with my MIL because she won’t listen to my husband and I. I’m at the point where I want to limit our daughter’s time with her, but this isn’t fair to my daughter because she is obsessed with my MIL. I’ve had a lot of issues with manipulative and malicious behavior from my MIL towards me and I keep going above and beyond to try and maintain some sort of relationship. It’s becoming overwhelming to be back here and to deal with all of this. 
Any advice is appreciated. ",3.971939237233357,5.184970159663866,4.672002801120449,86.0226389786684,71.49299719887955,7.285024779142428,28.57670760611937,7.61054688173877,1.6121851756087051,1405,53,284,16,26,451,161,357,0.046,0.912,0.042,0.6561,1,2,0,0,0,0,23.0,12,0,0,2,18,6,1,2,11,0,27,2,1,3,3,60,52,25,0,4,7,16,1,1,0,3,1,6,0,1,18,30,0,4,5,0,0,7,9,3,0,2,5,7,54,3,52,40,6,41,0,1,0,0,60,14,0,6,17,208,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007936794948018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212816372078828,0.11337671035567227,0.16432310146473833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096012148802594,0.10773238547343443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604851024391238,0.0,0.0,0.15800222464835942,0.0,0.1878889884631111,0.2269376483027496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059209570734954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685461151972737,0.0,0.05194869013031128,0.07339784266320969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735535465280313,0.0,0.1167796018270328,0.0,0.0,0.11327177774435104,0.0,0.0,0.09085309590379556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544140647030363,0.10920836043151147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598153300174,0.0,0.1072344022336952,0.0,0.18264097631445567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878736818553436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05019382478696277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734630969757959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203284465217402,0.0,0.10919690534869972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19283002230843094,0.0,0.0,0.1169707544482475,0.10780888506118573,0.0,0.06961963021980598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140811806186122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712299298710143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144386139244307,0.1103048608685913,0.0,0.0,0.1954595094687315,0.1634067584948723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353110392217903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950771627182274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724807919038798,0.16515786442265212,0.08979973640212753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651246256729968,0.06583197193413116,0.0,0.0,0.23963527623955605,0.0,0.0,0.09817296254795263,0.0,0.27901625571035765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887348156031653,0.0,0.0,0.2423960647650348,0.08155063665048536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270733227270686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616152157420417
parenting,iishfreak,2019/02/24,"Looking for advice from parents So I'm 24, married and we want kids but are waiting until we have a house that will sustain that imagine. I dont have a huge background with all aged kids, so I'm really trying.
Anyway, I've been on a tangent for months, educating myself, trying to play out in my head what to/not to do. 
Anyway last week my uncle asked if I'd be interested in baby sitting for his girlfriend, I happy obliged because I have been looking for hands on experience. So I watched her Tuesday-Friday usually about 4 hours, one day 7. It was great I loved this kid (yes I know this is false advertisement) but once she went home, i kept second guessing if what i told her or did was the right approach. Does that go away with your own child? This has me more nervous than before.",3.1784615384615407,4.931636312101912,4.302165605095542,85.72851543361101,74.4140127388535,6.3594316511513975,26.72660460558549,7.010146845296331,1.2427965703086723,619,23,122,6,13,202,114,157,0.035,0.816,0.15,0.9653,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,0,0,6,6,0,1,4,1,15,3,2,0,1,18,29,10,0,3,5,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,9,6,0,2,2,1,0,3,1,1,0,2,8,4,19,5,18,19,3,20,0,0,3,1,16,8,0,4,8,81,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667834548059194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690261557880306,0.0,0.1698701263584366,0.0,0.0,0.11021567245611064,0.0,0.1538498154111837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166028101825123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822169661638086,0.0,0.211899465312984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768597735311152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275436402477303,0.0,0.0,0.1993356596867918,0.19917460253775107,0.0,0.0,0.1924678792714898,0.0,0.0,0.18555577334098414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135989047205686,0.0,0.17805427945012667,0.20862208749198813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936445777655037,0.14737836492471004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036575313660232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318153230809432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431502250529538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925490178653316,0.12251661617191865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20076004675924847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582686528062228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440455249435356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276476667533172,0.0,0.24550638518665105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912867503777407,0.0,0.10664214078212918,0.0,0.1450290525728548,0.0,0.0,0.16760595182511046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dicksdynasty,2019/02/24,"10 month old girl- cant put to sleep in crip So i need to rock and sing to make her sleep. I want to try sleep training, but last night i put her down 50 times, each time she just stand up in the crip. Then after 1 hour she starts screaming, over tired and i take her up and repeat all old habbits to make her sleep before putting her sleeping in the crip. 
Will she ever learn to fall asleep by herself? And how do 7 promote it?
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parenting,UnicornStripes,2019/02/24,"How do you foster a love of subjects other than reading? My daughter, 7 (first grade), does not love reading. She reads well, a little ahead of level, comprehends what she reads just fine. She just doesn't love it. This hurts me a little, as a reader I kind of expected a reader... But it's okay. I also know that for some it comes later so there's still hope lol. She does however, love math and maybe even science. It's so easy to foster a love of reading... Just give them books. How do you foster a love of math? I don't want to just give her worksheets. She's playing a math game online right now, what are your favorite sites? Apps? Whatever else? We like board games and stuff.

She's brilliant. 

I love math and was always good at math, but it just kind of was what it was. My love for science didn't really come until later. ",0.7952994011976067,3.189369892215573,2.0102125748503,95.52262425149704,86.60479041916166,4.537604790419162,17.33203592814371,5.985473137389443,-0.39756263473053904,640,15,136,5,20,203,93,167,0.018000000000000002,0.721,0.261,0.9883,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,3,1,2,15,18,0,0,8,2,9,8,0,2,0,21,24,12,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,0,1,9,0,2,4,1,1,1,4,0,19,17,15,20,1,15,0,1,0,8,25,6,0,2,8,87,32,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729750605317537,0.08042734308859044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652491473745526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917243717892708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074550066354362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384181168362095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221739260436102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18544665432359766,0.0,0.08107228962445936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600337542349248,0.0,0.0,0.1034745733641415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013092261077568,0.053120804069551636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04722230095121285,0.19375376478528605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6979021995974245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710612655352607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4834216505387831,0.0,0.061921700719171364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254555163924036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719134184292686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065048285795646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057011494782009724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690730573694791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HelpMeSucceedPlz,2019/02/24,"Sigmund Freud As some of you may know, Sigmund Freud had a theory that a boy felt that he had to compete with his father for the affections of his mother.

I have a boy that says I can kiss only him and that she can kiss only him (I must not kiss my wife/vice-versa).  Like he becomes as angry as a jealous boyfriend if we break those rules.

There was a summer camp convention yesterday.  99.9% of those booths were fun.  I have a habit, from days of having a booth nobody would visit, of going to every single booth.  The .1% my wife and son skipped hadn't much traffic.  I went back alone.

It was a behavioral program that was quite expensive.  I told the pretty lady (only person) at the booth that only I had issues with the boy.  She immediately assumed the problem was entirely my fault and vocalized that.  She was running a psychological behavior therapy institute yet disregarded long established beliefs in the field of psychology.  I was taken back, didn't really respond because she was pretty, and then another family showed up and she started talking to them instead.  I walked away in disbelief but visited all 100% of the booths.  Not sure I should do that ever again though.

I just wanted to hear what other parents would have done in my shoes.  Thanks.

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parenting,tessa_wessa,2019/02/24,Birthday Party Idea Hey guys! Can you give me some ideas for my soon to be 3 year old birthday party? I need some games or activities for the kids. He’s obsessed with the alphabet so anything related to the ABCs will be bonus points :),3.262391304347826,5.2736158913043525,4.029782608695655,86.65380434782612,74.8695652173913,7.208695652173913,26.71739130434783,8.07648339933343,1.6532347826086955,185,7,37,3,4,59,38,46,0.032,0.737,0.231,0.8883,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,6,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,5,3,2,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,3,3,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25234553520037223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941651225168097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30363016345501026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6923375191420972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22737593022750735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32177595041624885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898818901425296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974715393211075
parenting,lmakemilk,2019/02/24,"Is it normal for toddlers to pull everything down from any surface they can reach? My first child didn't do that at all, but my second son is only 18 months and has autism and all of our surfaces have everything pushed toward the middle of it because if he can reach it he will pull it down. It's really frustrating because we have limited counter space and he can reach almost toward the middle of it now :/ I'm not sure how to discipline him for it yet but when we get him into therapy we will work on it.",7.206990291262138,5.654379019417478,7.451766990291264,78.32794174757284,64.63106796116507,10.958446601941748,32.25048543689321,9.888512548439397,2.7921355339805825,401,12,82,7,5,131,68,103,0.111,0.858,0.031,-0.8964,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,1,3,5,2,1,0,2,0,12,0,0,1,3,19,14,8,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,0,9,1,15,11,2,20,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,2,5,62,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28332874415577275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924124370459284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449615326412539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.508585798577174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406730406280925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478271876702366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258441573561512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27722621880042625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151925728561116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812619388778236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666725003212391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235724924979792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598747379271184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PM-your-secretpixz,2019/02/24,"Babysitting How often do you get a babysitter, or someone to take the kids overnight....we might get one day a year for a get-away, or have someone take the kids if we have a wedding.....we have friends who get babysitters seemingly every other weekend. It get a little annoyed/jealous. We do everything with our kids, but it would be nice to have time to ourselves.",6.649347826086956,6.770332449275365,6.01576086956522,82.65668478260872,65.08695652173913,8.059420289855073,37.53985507246377,7.1686216300943375,2.68992463768116,285,14,53,2,4,87,45,69,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.6956,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,12,16,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,5,13,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,6,4,36,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098377859359638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403754236917155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817582811184172,0.0,0.20072598625362967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17255398909953668,0.0,0.5834366221632914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238480247427299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23693127321674634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15134277008562952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20332277422413625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3784750308804853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33585177776889297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302329041458047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865622133610638,0.0,0.0,0.1438253538047606
parenting,quackidy,2019/02/24,"I don’t like kisses from kids So, I figure I’ll preface this by saying my family does not kiss. No one in my family has kissed me, except for one old aunt and it makes me uncomfortable. 

My 4 year old daughter (actually step daughter but I’ve raised her since she was 16 months, she also refers to me as mommy) insists on kissing me/trying to kiss me all the time. Her bio mom (who she used to see more frequently but now only once a year or so) is a kisser-they kiss on the lips. She would always try and kiss me on the lips and I told her that we don’t kiss adults on the lips because sometimes they have germs. I compromised by telling her kisses on the cheek are fine. I don’t mind hugs and cuddles. I could cuddle her all day, she’s a sweetie pie. But uuuughhh the kisses ick me out, I can’t stand it. I don’t want her to kiss me. She always kisses me for way too long and has something on her face and it just....eek. I can’t do it. 

I have a 6 week old baby, and I kiss her all the time. I can’t help it. I just wanna kiss her all over her face. But I’d like to think that when she’s a little older I probably won’t want her kissing me either... maybe? I don’t know. I think it’s just so weird to me because my family aren’t kissers so that’s a not a normal to me. 

Her dad is equally as icked out by the kissing but he grew up with kissers. His thing is when they’re walking around and getting into stuff is when they’re too old to kiss. 

I don’t feel like not being kissed has affected me in any way. So is it okay to tell her that I don’t want to be kissed? Or do I just have to deal with it? I don’t want to negatively affect her development, and I don’t know what role giving kisses to children affects their association with romantic kisses as adults . ",0.9685632891900228,2.514666395287957,3.0629688943640296,93.11389898367727,80.07329842931937,5.960086233446258,19.612257468432396,6.794906146795322,0.034247982753310424,1361,32,323,14,34,462,166,382,0.078,0.6920000000000001,0.229,0.9964,1,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,1,0,2,0,16,28,0,0,15,1,33,30,6,5,4,57,48,28,0,8,15,5,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,4,17,17,0,0,7,0,0,3,19,1,0,2,2,3,62,27,41,41,7,39,0,0,1,24,44,15,0,2,21,213,79,0,0.0,0.0,0.10976695756190616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995243042892788,0.1871893506831388,0.0,0.0,0.07649214071251025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001335129194798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713690497511608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980833893769809,0.0,0.0,0.07254208110102643,0.11596479663772175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843442992430462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181162341797205,0.0,0.05687466817711575,0.08035771327274438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876760470378167,0.1079037224037035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539482961117515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363517728781255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16486019890806178,0.11273728569717112,0.0,0.09954371171169868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508312233357993,0.0,0.11300406104977935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357553233896645,0.13173846060458472,0.08978267376480162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020923212264924,0.0,0.0,0.4721269813748051,0.11979047887479415,0.15244247188648946,0.08554821515652705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212754506267589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945081333120289,0.0,0.0,0.08963420439586581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304690960422564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659473165954377,0.11124833558186398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876586023823888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19662979749641135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07472855418567971,0.14414883415950613,0.0,0.0,0.1311792153514165,0.0,0.0,0.10748210695732817,0.0,0.15273683436234106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714899799259556,0.0,0.0,0.2653810079978508,0.17856717416721113,0.09022689313643076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990453242980049,0.0,0.0,0.14487043181211387
parenting,JLSAAAA,2019/02/24,"Just want your honesty. What would you tell a 28 year old who’s confused about having children Hi everyone,

I just turned 28 and am enjoying my life but am still confused about having kids. After graduation I had a great management job, put it on hold to backpack trough Africa and South America for 
 a year and decided to settle in a bit and pursue my masters degree in neuropsychology. Next to my studies I model, gogo dance and am a pole instructor. I’ve been happily single for 4 years  now. But I notice as I’m aging that my friends who are married and are starting families don’t seem to understand what I have to be happy about.

When I see them they all seem to look at me with some kind of...pity? It’s weird. Like they did today when I told them how I found a sweet deal on a Bali flight or how I met a handsome man at a gallery opening and had a really interesting conversation with and it’s hard to ignore their condescending tone or the look they give me. That whole “O you sweet little imbecile, look at you running around with no purpose.” It’s like everything i’m doing is total crap because it doesn’t involve raising people . 

When I look at it logically, I am not sure what childrearing would add to my life. Well obviously it would add an individual to it. But I’m not sure what else it’d do for me. I really love that I don’t have to justify any of my actions  to anyone, I feel good about my body and knowing how much grey mass women tend to lose in pregnancy is very, very scary to me.


I have been researching parenting for years now. I’ve looked at statistics and the happiness gap, the parenting paradox, the lifelong effects of birth on a woman’s telomeres, microchimerism and the risk of maternal disease in old age and permanent changes in brain chemistry.  And since I am yet to find a factual, non subjective benefit to it I’m leaning towards the “no” of things

Yet here we have my friends who immediately after having their baby seem to have forgotten what their lives were like before,  who look at me with pity when I talk about my life in the 2.4 seconds space they give me when they aren’t talking about their.  

And because of that I can’t help but wonder...am I missing something? Is not having children really as “empty” compared to having them as they make it look?",5.9526666666666666,6.204689911111113,6.617111111111113,77.30633333333338,66.55555555555556,9.955555555555557,32.66666666666667,9.816601858774405,3.0272666666666668,1820,72,351,37,27,599,225,450,0.106,0.718,0.17600000000000002,0.9919,4,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,1,4,13,3,24,29,1,3,20,0,38,7,3,5,6,64,68,31,0,4,11,2,2,3,2,3,3,0,0,6,25,23,0,2,11,1,0,4,10,9,1,1,9,13,52,20,58,54,7,50,0,3,9,1,45,22,1,8,27,241,77,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587596225093819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060417680113680386,0.0,0.0,0.07692041776946444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534563019655294,0.0,0.07352586705202246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943339034177306,0.09597853375747524,0.0,0.0964586235106415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140699248190093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908167050023919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721818375232847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256545015601452,0.07765690720629967,0.0,0.08145669023593066,0.0,0.04368990070488516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789742975135328,0.0,0.0,0.09474065351610343,0.1335154393277991,0.0,0.0,0.16577865220503066,0.0,0.07247396807529542,0.0,0.09526385958726892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396340177957174,0.07740356753073023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057916691647606974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574546800688808,0.0,0.0,0.08997943991577065,0.04748694623161609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309514517724654,0.1266420702104236,0.08660236579330949,0.07629883353453867,0.0,0.5079199560501524,0.09666716558867693,0.0,0.0,0.07798555765415682,0.0,0.05767724479993984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635189784626938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189466757306937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983747739240411,0.1813389123618836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918891676005911,0.0,0.0,0.059903631674253624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686275218804987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16606332626882991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885507406604009,0.2359846590700059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147664103894913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665202162760733,0.0,0.0,0.06115921471679678,0.0,0.06900462377869848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628748712201877,0.0,0.0,0.13890110952087867,0.07552339735404806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740487315063835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08190359259221709,0.08256545015601452,0.0,0.0,0.09398584283524612,0.0,0.08995258043564122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258940463593311,0.050965000148579416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769013716851103,0.0,0.0,0.09647016470841736,0.0,0.0,0.09370454533524436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18414284599551736,0.0,0.0,0.2225727194129564
parenting,magpiecri,2019/02/24,Single mom Anyone else struggling with mental illness & parenting alone? I tried a part time job and failed again due to medical reasons. I don't have close family or friends. It's getting difficult to function again. Anhedonia like woah.,4.050000000000002,7.411746380952383,4.27809523809524,76.85857142857147,85.19047619047619,7.561904761904763,30.809523809523807,8.344100000000001,3.4292095238095244,196,10,29,5,6,61,39,42,0.272,0.613,0.115,-0.7717,2,1,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,5,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,2,5,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,5,15,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571311054342205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689986207037462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359498168226997,0.2543802325576512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073963240407494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340452765283005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19181148796841516,0.0,0.1297099501627313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463679989034037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212913605036246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501042129776168,0.2501960729574324,0.0,0.0,0.2907688554887797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756725884871243,0.26885039669814675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552611817143139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595439526148088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447672537564178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855789233721938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bossbihhh,2019/02/24,"Struggling single mother of teething 14 mo old Hi there everybody, this is going to be long and not well written but I am losing it and my writing ability isn’t my top priority right now. 

I’m sure you’ve gathered that I am a single mother with a 14 month old baby from the title. Over the last few days, she’s been getting new teeth. I am a student and do all of my coursework from home online. I took out enough loans so that I didn’t have to work until after having baby #2 (I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant w/ pre eclampsia so I am tired/sick a lot). So I’ve pretty much been a stay at home mom for the last 2 or so months. Up until this morning, everything with my daughter has been a-ok. I can get my school work/house work done and interact with her and whatnot without it being too physically demanding, but some days it’s still a lot. Today I woke up with the beginnings of a migraine. I took a a Tylenol, drank some water, and had a healthy breakfast because 7/10 times that helps a ton. But today it didn’t. I ended up getting her out of bed 20 min later than her usual which I feel bad about. Her breakfast ended up just being some milk, yogurt and cereal because trying to cook was excruciating. I sat in the living room playing with her for about 2 hours and her crying about her teeth made me end up sobbing because of the pain and then I puked everywhere. I don’t have anybody I can call to watch her to give me a break (it’s been me and her 24/7 since I started staying home) so I ended up giving her some Tylenol, a sippy cup of apple juice and some graham crackers and put her in her room. She cried for about 5 minutes but is now babbling and playing it sounds like. I feel terrible for doing that but I feel absolutely terrible physically. It’s been about 15 minutes since I put her in there. I just feel like such a shitty parent right now and my brain keeps screaming “that’s child abuse!! You’re being selfish!! She doesn’t understand why she’s in there you’re a monster!!”

Is this ok? Am I being shitty? Does she think she’s being punished for crying?? I just love her a lot and want to do good by her and it feels like I’m doing the exact opposite ",1.769429840606218,3.842191984269665,3.401552129605438,89.10755944604132,79.71910112359551,5.7575124118108185,22.708387771100078,6.8252276405021135,0.6691458061144502,1703,55,350,18,43,564,213,445,0.16899999999999998,0.723,0.108,-0.988,2,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,0,0,0,4,23,20,1,1,23,1,37,15,4,1,3,56,65,30,0,1,11,5,5,3,0,0,4,2,6,1,17,23,6,1,7,3,1,5,7,10,1,0,17,8,53,10,49,42,15,60,0,2,1,1,36,19,1,9,36,236,70,4,0.0,0.10294682910888213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254697483806473,0.15889643667355602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699457258727087,0.08872129154315461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863237074222681,0.11206979086997053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603535636548961,0.08891551740677615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078241967899445,0.08977744675802816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780883890810801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966326550280554,0.12414411035056575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618453735652586,0.16669976130176525,0.04937985657982117,0.07287665219887031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823849177578878,0.0,0.26146408863033266,0.0,0.08556614471917631,0.100255875821037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722911428799391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164892346949254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273457263286785,0.0,0.07672276960051648,0.07689221748693985,0.0,0.09720427337906452,0.0,0.2216045359718648,0.07841886559588339,0.08221453390134119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176094692490673,0.13870467072147089,0.0,0.06387190634634506,0.0,0.0,0.0839159587297661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823464782911922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245384187939593,0.0,0.09647767673925592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839526561828527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17469076824021734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840196287146432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793423311333033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374756751078474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149903114234662,0.18521985823844805,0.06938803132746234,0.0,0.0,0.09083310639414488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188992307912228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05567364987746862,0.0,0.0,0.05066447987081549,0.0,0.16471734030016805,0.0,0.19306919915542872,0.058990536338799235,0.0,0.0,0.0904523802531204,0.0,0.0,0.09569370126143233,0.0,0.051248174879629085,0.0,0.06969547117461937,0.0,0.07812180367756172,0.0,0.07840195890211331,0.0,0.0,0.0837559202229761,0.0,0.1897642055010696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cruisethevistas,2019/02/24,"Traveling with a kid? Now that we’re deciding to be one and done, I’ve been thinking/ dreaming about traveling with a kid. Have you been on any trips? Where did you go, and how was it? 

Our LO is under one, but I’m thinking about a few years from now. ",1.0215094339622652,2.819476056603776,2.5704150943396264,95.51373584905664,80.88679245283019,6.504150943396226,21.92075471698113,7.554174236665415,0.6227916981132071,193,6,46,3,5,63,41,53,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,9,12,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,3,0,4,0,0,0,2,5,0,3,0,8,6,1,10,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,34,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841784327824451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276449070767505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374956002553901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5663439713761261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5355320088742842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691064198583046
parenting,RPS21,2019/02/24,"Became ” terrible 2” overnight - help! Our son turned 2 last week and it seemed like instantaneously he got whiny, impatient, emotionally-flashy, super demanding (he orders us around constantly) and having crazy tantrums. Any advice to head this off a bit? ",7.0152439024390265,10.425065097560976,5.963597560975611,70.56295731707318,68.7560975609756,9.953658536585364,29.76219512195122,10.125756701596842,3.808556097560976,203,8,30,6,4,61,38,41,0.245,0.574,0.18,-0.3164,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,3,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,4,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854755480505168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19866502385448254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600662832479481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189409048667329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156992469933918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23365081727031894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998196295327762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581509268388225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381328588018295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272470802728393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26595302421005873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177641195000289,0.0,0.0,0.3514081065004296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23433685749016114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fess432,2019/02/24,"If you could send you child only one email, what would be in it? Because I'm tapped. *tldr; Years ago, I set up an email account for my son and will give it to him in a decade after I have filled it with emails from me. The only problem is my messages are boring at best, lunacy at worst. What should I send him emails about?*

​

Five years ago, I set up an email address for my now 10-year old son, and  I’ve been sending it emails ever since.  When he turns 20, I will give him the keys to this account, and I’m certain he will conclude that I’m defective.

​

The reason is that I am not as eloquent as I like to think, and nowhere near as disciplined as I know I should be. My emails aren't all that insightful, don't have good advice, and kind of ramble. Sometimes I send several of these in a week, and other times I go months without a word.  

​

In fact, the most interesting thing about the email account I will turn over to my son is how the hundreds and hundreds of emails will be an anthropological dig, with layers like sedimentary deposits, a fossilized history of how I thought about him over time. My emails have several distinct layers:

​

**The first layer** was the optimistic ones, where I tried to tell him things I think he should know at the age of 20. The things I didn't know back then, and learned only later in life. It turns out, though, that I haven't learned all that much, so the layer isn't all that thick.

​

**The second layer** was the one of aphorisms. It contains my advice to him on how to live a good life. Commandments he should live by. Again, it turns out that I don't have an awful lot of insightful comments here, because I still am not sure myself how to have a good life.

​

**The third layer** was the factual one. I sent his accounts of things he did, like a journal of his life, as if I was his biographer. That, too, was not a thick or actually informative layer, because it turns out I don't pay all that much attention.

​

**The fourth layer** was the photo layer, because it was a simple email to send. All I had to do was go on my phone, find a photo with him in it, and email it to him with a brief description of what he was doing and why I did it. I think this one might confusing to him. Over the course of several months, I emailed him several years worth of photographs, all of them in chronological order.

​

**The fifth and current layer** is the most disturbing, I think, because it is mostly emails I have sent after a Friday night, sitting with old friends, drinking beers and laughing about life. More often than not, I get a little wistful at the end, mostly because I have drank enough to forget I actually have  nothing insightful to say, and also just enough that I get in a huggy-I-Love-You-Guys type of mood. Rather than waking my son up to give him a hug, I send him an email. I dread the look on his face when he starts to read that drivel.

​

As it stands, I am tapped. I am left with sending him the equivalent of closing time texts, mostly because I rarely have any idea what I should say. Which brings me to the question at hand: has anyone done anything like this successfully? What do you think should be the most important things about an email to your son? 

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parenting,2BearHearts,2019/02/24,"Struggling with my 2 kids.... Maybe even regretting having them in the 1st place. So I'm super new to this so I'm nervous to post this. But here it goes: I'm a stay at home mom and I have 2 toddler boys. One is turning 4 this April and the other one is 1 and a half. They give me the hardest time, especially my youngest! As soon as I walk in the room they're complaining, whining, and demanding. 

I play with them, give them hugs and kisses, make sure they are fed and watered but most of the time it just never seems to be enough! I really want them to be more independent all my efforts are met with hard resistance.

From day one of becoming a mother I was hit by the reality of how emotionally difficult it is having children. No one prepared me for it and I had this expectation of myself being a wonderful parent because I liked kids! I had younger siblings which I helped take care of, I was a nanny to 2 families, and a worked in a pre-k. I loved it! I loved how cute kids can be. I loved seeing parents and their children hugging each other at the end of the day. I was going to love motherhood! 

I love my kids. And sometimes they're wonderful to be around. But as of late, the negative emotions are outweighing the positive ones. What do I do? ",1.743952569169959,3.8885755375494098,3.608183399209487,87.21853596837946,80.18577075098814,7.05195256916996,24.744505928853755,8.109356740369918,1.5432695335968385,973,37,203,19,25,327,139,253,0.078,0.6629999999999999,0.258,0.9959,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,7,3,9,20,0,2,17,0,22,10,0,4,3,33,45,20,0,3,4,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,13,15,2,0,3,1,0,2,3,6,0,6,7,2,30,14,29,32,5,22,0,2,1,8,28,8,0,4,11,146,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022192607626784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06862899518863523,0.12433806978965715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478494073634805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521226465652826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253279389121214,0.09971431280666854,0.11632739079472496,0.0,0.07435940657100333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061323719238002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599799257605584,0.0639829944064951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085143643335494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546139968044635,0.0,0.1129290124829986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269974976862842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500192088925937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5080486443570862,0.0,0.07514941718006504,0.0,0.11310383829194312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185477943564192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683024583666345,0.10873248101365267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38144267845114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25001816848864605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762431887228912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782251862971297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721229676589231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971334715971943,0.10249050357184536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134656260146446,0.0,0.0,0.11999752504835398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769524135710226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061072844926187,0.0,0.08464771829024942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129504039536075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245698172207604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640383171963976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24418094149580255,0.08196110006584857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,contagent,2019/02/24,"How to talk with my relatives? Hi there. I have a problem about my relationship with my family. I dont  spend much time with my parents or other relatives cause I dont have  much to talk with them, so I never get out with them. Thing is I decided  to become a freelance artist, I can't make any money and I feel  embarassed by this. Most of the time I stay in front of computer, work  on personal projects but no success so far. ",2.7039408866995096,4.189077850574717,4.3123152709359625,86.28206896551725,75.0919540229885,8.189819376026273,26.221674876847292,8.841846274778883,1.880298522167488,331,12,71,7,7,111,60,87,0.057,0.861,0.08199999999999999,0.4588,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,2,5,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,3,1,17,9,6,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,1,2,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,14,1,15,9,3,9,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,3,53,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419008603725187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045654265510504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21435870782387045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.489112839226956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967128775500688,0.0,0.10550841266250896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902000639308597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928698503332054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067888222869576,0.0,0.16093701862400014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317002459839045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220016175908307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966634175897546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240304952831393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224114850471436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354376033399992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862922431726438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433510599646943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191221630943935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nash1819,2019/02/24,"Getting 7 year old to eat I am about to lose it with my eldest daughter who is 7 years old. She has always given us trouble when it come to eating ever since she was a baby.  I can never just leave her with a bowl of food, it could even be something she loves, and have her eat it without me nagging her ever 5 min to eat. With a 15 month old and another baby on the way, I need the 7 year old to be more independent. I hate being nagging parent. We have tried punishments, bribing etc. Nothing seems to work. Would love any and all suggestions.",1.8745535714285708,3.659414491071431,3.6333571428571454,88.96164285714286,78.19642857142857,5.908571428571428,22.807142857142853,6.742157984588678,0.6248721428571424,421,13,88,4,10,141,77,112,0.103,0.7809999999999999,0.115,0.0991,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,6,8,4,0,5,0,12,7,0,1,4,19,20,4,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,5,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,14,2,13,13,3,16,0,1,0,2,14,1,0,1,13,61,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275487387994546,0.0,0.0,0.08397849816815485,0.12949167219236155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063770476221495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09859796518586678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5054507983498164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377257372855531,0.08156501328897336,0.2234103791725907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14932648927167952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451924521908728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192235282830875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075973541145314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381554721018377,0.0,0.0,0.22291191573112895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856978813846043,0.0,0.0,0.091567429886816,0.09524430710443628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184934861620392,0.0,0.5183344912457922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712276748597266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242208176915447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215349779683926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506983915346888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384266569892089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485451462741474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802185537632084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190414608070236,0.0,0.08990332930732008,0.0,0.0,0.0877248638589325,0.0,0.0,0.23857355499328434
parenting,manoj61184,2019/02/24,"Healthy Eating For Kids Children needs more nutritional supplements than adults. It is their age to grow, this time their physical development is happening. Children keep on bouncing all day. Therefore, there is a need for adequate nutrients for proper development. Nutrients help the children to avoid certain diseases, such as obesity and bone loss. With this, the child develops with full potential. A growing child needs breakfast, lunch, and dinner as well as snacks in the middle.  


These 5 diets will definitely feed the children at the time of growing, will become smart and long 

[Read more: Healthy Eating For Kids](https://www.doctorshifu.com/2019/02/healthy-eating-for-kids.html)",9.019622641509436,12.80412869811321,6.6892830188679255,65.98354716981136,63.9056603773585,9.52301886792453,37.95849056603774,9.888512548439397,4.780244528301887,566,29,72,14,10,163,72,106,0.039,0.76,0.201,0.9382,0,1,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,2,1,3,5,0,1,7,0,5,10,1,1,2,13,10,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,8,4,5,9,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,16,8,4,13,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,0,5,44,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698890025660949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575993311413552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001058816664251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21609681440609216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637969925578757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21720852090370849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21626099150979028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5435948710139137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444375218142865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849898470687589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21971922873354835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kunalag129,2019/02/24,"What I Gave My Kid Instead of a Smartphone After seeing things on social media no parent could unsee, I decided to do something about it

Article - [https://humanparts.medium.com/what-i-gave-my-kid-instead-of-a-smartphone-27c0f028ea78](https://humanparts.medium.com/what-i-gave-my-kid-instead-of-a-smartphone-27c0f028ea78)",41.18392857142858,43.830969535714296,21.88000000000001,-11.934999999999945,-3.5,15.485714285714288,49.42857142857143,13.023866798666859,6.790528571428572,289,6,16,3,1,63,27,28,0.084,0.916,0.0,-0.29600000000000004,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,5,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,16,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731343145273421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5189276447593936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37241082299336337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47639600306068,0.0,0.35978246810553016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104810552284739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Heytherehitherehoth,2019/02/24,"Daughter (4) seen picture of fully erect penis. I’m upset and don’t know how serious this is. I put my daughter in time out, there’s a computer in the room. During her time out she went on the computer and opened up a photo of of her fathers penis. She was in there for around 3 min before I went in. I said oh my god and closed it and we haven’t talked about it and she didn’t say anything about it. I’m very upset and ashamed. I would never leave her on a computer unsupervised, I just some how totally blanked on the the fact that she surly go on the computer. Will this experience have a effect on her psychologically? I seen the movie “the hunt” and this is my worst nightmare. ",1.8862582417582416,3.8372384500000014,3.6971428571428615,87.73708791208792,78.78571428571429,6.87912087912088,22.91208791208791,7.882392219407189,1.0584010989010997,533,17,115,9,13,179,79,140,0.105,0.871,0.024,-0.8937,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,8,5,0,3,11,0,9,0,0,3,3,23,18,9,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,7,13,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,7,4,18,0,19,9,3,24,0,0,2,0,15,16,0,1,4,80,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148640961796224,0.23243548507951725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221779479324833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554071413730829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838986760637946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349442842823873,0.0,0.0,0.2764685426177063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137739415684333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624788908542071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24836709732434514,0.20763820804044456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20986330876627904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045004980208313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21543589072204436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840869823372795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547884932697287,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThisIsZongo,2019/02/24,"Daughter (2yo) seems to be deathly afraid of my mom. Seems to be the only person she is like that with. Need help. Every time my daughter so much as sees my mom she screams and cries for Mommy and Daddy. She grabs onto us and holds us tighter then any other time. Its extremely distressing to me. I don't know why it's only her and what I can do to help this.  The only thing I can think of is that maybe she associates seeing her with us going out and leaving her with my mom to babysit. The problem isn't as bad when we're in a group setting like church or family dinner, but she still doesn't want anything to do with my mom at these times she just isn't screaming her head off the whole time. ",3.5231034482758616,4.2588235517241415,4.143620689655172,91.18094827586208,72.10344827586206,6.90344827586207,24.15517241379311,6.742157984588678,0.6067103448275866,545,14,121,4,10,173,90,145,0.06,0.858,0.08199999999999999,0.5059,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,0,4,8,0,2,5,0,12,2,1,0,0,21,21,12,1,3,3,6,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,9,10,1,1,4,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,0,5,22,2,20,19,2,14,1,0,2,0,23,5,0,3,9,82,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166594805635026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882460003045243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027090735617393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191424363271384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118178498482837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321103760643787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825044097880796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324793673612425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098883313737886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599883250929094,0.0,0.0,0.12715895131384036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734072123990467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064747690266413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5625961663796398,0.0,0.0,0.08828064875499401,0.08904590027100401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740036831317415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485876482365253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11491079794642226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913938402580977,0.2186525382190757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590476896374568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978307532783913,0.07694941658841796,0.0,0.0,0.2801039397557213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.433363794218732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083273984888559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836338214190476,0.13407723064945265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sldewvys,2019/02/24,"Scary shit at 4 am So I’ve been staying at my moms to help watch my niece for about a week and a half now. Four of those nights, including tonight (I’ve been awake since)  my niece has sat straight up in her bed and talks about “those people” before going right back to sleep. When woke back up she has no memory of what we’re talking about. What she says varies between, “Those people aren’t supposed to be here” and “Those people are here.” Now, my mom lives in a brand new house in the country so I don’t think it’s a haunted house or anything, and I’m quite skeptical of the majority of what is paranormal, but this shit has been making the hair on the back of my neck stand up for about a week now.  Has anyone else experienced anything like this with their kids? ",2.6551923076923067,4.31070951923077,3.0835897435897444,94.32807692307694,75.6025641025641,6.338461538461537,21.615384615384613,7.010146845296331,0.2929384615384616,599,15,135,6,13,185,96,156,0.096,0.862,0.042,-0.8018,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,15,4,3,0,9,0,13,5,5,1,0,9,19,9,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,10,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,2,5,4,10,1,25,13,1,26,0,0,1,0,11,11,2,1,13,87,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391537923844917,0.15227409272334416,0.2445957076154864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34282832638272864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12646080326438544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414913989161665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446158598737763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961380452664292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429645553024422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260600279419775,0.0,0.13123016652202787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09920196795933406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481132414777907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353372923451774,0.0,0.13946553383761706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30909372512207395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807082621164129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126916783643372,0.0,0.11818497209791337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051032508071502,0.12293623731128794,0.0,0.14872277989945148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840429748807128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389029410818967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952267805548576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23842070185159014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jlad0126,2019/02/24,"How to get 16 month old to sleep on his own and his crib My 16 month old has been sleeping with my wife and I. Usually, what I do is I rock him to sleep then lay on our bed with him for about 10 minutes then finally moved him to his crib; then he’ll wake up a couple of hours later and I’d rock him to sleep then lay him between me and my wife. His crib is right beside our bed, and lately he’s been crying as soon as I lay him down his crib. We’ve tried to do the wait it out thing when he was 14ish months old but he would literally cry for 30 minutes, it’s worse during the night because we live in an apartment building. Right now our ritual before bed is I’ll brush his teeth, say goodnight to mom, and then I’d rock him to sleep. What is the best method for us to get him to sleep in his crib without rocking him to sleep?",2.7936080586080583,3.021706071428575,3.8107142857142873,94.75511904761903,73.45054945054945,6.945787545787545,22.309523809523807,6.42735559955562,0.11987765567765553,643,13,161,4,12,208,95,182,0.057,0.912,0.032,-0.5499,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,5,0,11,9,9,1,0,15,15,16,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,5,10,0,1,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,29,1,29,10,2,31,1,0,0,0,29,10,0,0,20,97,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381751175202825,0.0,0.08908272466386645,0.0,0.1098647655578242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583651259971264,0.2299921501807454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11468180640921845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939148158557788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309768854182036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809387969029644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09244240499907888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261062416936876,0.2506855542271464,0.11126795956555928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824364095633174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295608412754039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880786141914534,0.0,0.08325298477500795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7333530293754791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955079503685814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107703592738196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592811321720265,0.0,0.11530026788567133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091656933968106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066871502496761,0.07436814238011863,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mosh_java,2019/02/24,"My first flight with my toddler, what I should I prepare for? Hi, soon I'll have a long flight alone with my 1 year 7 months toddler, ill buy her own seat (ill not share the same seat), what things I should have to help me during the trip (11 hours trip)? 

Thanks",2.764444444444444,3.7847715555555546,2.3490740740740783,102.26583333333336,74.18518518518519,5.4,19.055555555555557,3.1291,-0.9250222222222222,200,3,50,0,4,58,39,54,0.129,0.769,0.102,-0.1149,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,2,4,3,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,6,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113524796025248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33783599905099543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26621735819874937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3911363825507047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35148648911142866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170204952375528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656644545356133,0.0,0.0,0.2638647554470369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557670322821218
parenting,Septilin,2019/02/24,"Sex life of new parents I'm a 31M married to a 31F. We have a 1.5 year old baby and haven't had sex ever since she was conceived, so in more than 2 years. I've asked my wife for it several times but not only does she say no to sex but also to hugging, kissing, holding hands, any kind of intimacy. Sometimes her reason is that she's lost her drive or physically exhausted with child rearing or I'm not doing enough to woo her, etc. Is it normal for new parents to go without intimacy for such extended periods or is this a sign of deeper trouble in our marriage?",4.760732600732601,4.692042435897439,6.46019536019536,78.51615384615386,69.08547008547009,9.07887667887668,32.953601953601954,8.841846274778883,2.66817557997558,443,19,90,7,7,154,85,117,0.101,0.7959999999999999,0.104,0.3291,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,4,0,8,8,1,1,1,16,13,8,0,1,8,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,3,2,9,3,16,10,3,12,0,1,0,5,15,2,0,3,8,57,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159525736182916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891086657888814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721791397383868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588982272613567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19587157132407396,0.2114153566803067,0.0,0.17147261626534901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773429685648833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19740303083078828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389553814451188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20693285718815668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661665883608034,0.0,0.0,0.18573369088101596,0.0,0.0,0.19891683556434556,0.0,0.0,0.1441729104111926,0.0,0.0,0.4209795404751643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490464316559775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507498908423909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141547684336476,0.0,0.15681032898071925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874848737626134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053701838236042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827341308333776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24414760434993266
parenting,mrsseth,2019/02/24,"I dont know how to make this easier? Ok hope this is the right place to post this, my daughter just turned 3 yesterday, it was just me and her until about a year and a half ago when I started dating someone new and things felt serious. We lived together the 3 of us and my daughter started calling my boyfriend Dad, everything was great and genuinely the happiest I have ever felt in my life! Everything felt right and I really imagined spending the rest of my life with this guy, so we split up a few weeks ago and now my daughter keeps asking me where her Daddy is, when he is coming home and looks for him in my flat when we come home. I have told her he's gone but she definitely doesn't understand, she asks me why I'm sleeping alone and when is he coming home from work. I've tried to sit her down and explain that things just don't work out sometimes, as easily as I can with a 3 year old but she doesn't get it. Everyone keeps telling me it will get easier but everyone she brings him up I just want to cry cause I miss him too, it wasn't my choice to break up and I feel sad too, im trying not to let on to her that I am sad but it's really hard and I think kids are way more perceptive than people think. I don't know how to explain to her that's he's gone and not coming back. ",2.39903722943723,3.5135115600000013,3.8058701298701294,91.10042424242428,75.2181818181818,7.71082251082251,22.913419913419915,8.269060116576782,0.9897601731601736,1009,27,235,17,21,333,139,275,0.07400000000000001,0.8390000000000001,0.087,0.3721,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,0,2,18,7,0,0,8,1,19,3,1,4,1,55,53,27,0,2,10,4,5,0,0,1,2,0,3,2,14,23,0,2,13,0,1,7,8,4,0,1,9,6,41,3,28,42,3,42,0,3,1,0,34,12,0,1,19,150,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805799783588264,0.0,0.0,0.10549302181452297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19044488894229214,0.0,0.0,0.0783216627966884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400727514725527,0.0,0.0,0.10463508598901894,0.0,0.35096277417513433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188501317283384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937551898497364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213539034806444,0.0,0.1946572508214998,0.1830848137509663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515019051177409,0.0,0.29339576921345045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064320442987262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229758315895473,0.0,0.1008543371257609,0.0,0.0,0.09124376861530788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065123031270789,0.10116687650591956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002292223007296,0.0,0.0,0.1810701715320093,0.0,0.0,0.11195576825279874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104155573217772,0.14388907035416484,0.0,0.0,0.0899415018549296,0.0,0.08553413607479686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799026642802766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983740211289328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068816741161853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061474402368106,0.0,0.10641877314071403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755074681430567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050426658560976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397045868361286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193045195863172,0.0,0.08630301416303522,0.0,0.10073907078985116,0.0,0.1441896650073098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902741324524717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533838633648135,0.1305315673508047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973286254107499,0.0,0.13830828738757334,0.11079104969379162,0.0,0.1060366168828199,0.12252129992318647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06007783399892915,0.08084925992414996,0.08170345495309153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191000232057668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483060611597003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118499804374614
parenting,chrispytoast,2019/02/24,"Breastfeeding Song Here is the song that I sing to my daughter whenever she needs to breastfeed on my wife. I wanted to share but don’t know of a better place.

To the tune of animaniacs: (https://youtu.be/CWnWwN1z_UM)

It’s time for booby milk
And a burp cloth made of silk
I’ll put you down right there
And you’ll pull on mommy’s hair
It’s time for booby milk

Hurry up my mommy cause the tears are welling up
I hope you will protect me from the licking of the pups
Don’t forget to burp me and r else I will spit up
And soon my ass will fill with gas
But now I have hiccups

It’s time got booby milk",0.8259523809523799,3.0778254047619065,2.061269841269844,96.31428571428577,84.63492063492063,4.8698412698412685,16.936507936507937,6.18269132825596,-0.529406349206349,475,10,108,4,14,151,76,126,0.07400000000000001,0.8,0.126,0.7684,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,1,5,4,0,0,7,0,9,9,3,2,0,14,15,6,0,3,2,2,2,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,4,5,3,1,1,3,0,3,2,0,1,0,2,5,15,4,19,9,0,16,0,0,0,1,7,8,1,1,5,64,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24570420499592546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28539185188454136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320782304539167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221935043585498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759323219596638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526794943054567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628746432194167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059958109325211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29025685270709856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792801418176247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23725192609929102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4859873226035771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386209405863947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24978845339000755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iascamrs,2019/02/24,"Does/would your husband keep your kids by himself for days? Just out of curiosity, how many dads out there keep their kids by themselves?

My husband is at home with our two kids while I’m on vacation (a girls trip) right now. Everyone in my family is acting like he’s performing a miracle. I’m getting a lot of comments (especially from the older women in my family) “oh my husband would never...” I feel like, yes it is nice that I’m able to get away, but...he’s the dad. It’s not a big deal that he has his own kids.

My kids are 1 and 3. I’ve been away for 6 days, will be going home tomorrow. I’ve never taken a trip like this before. I’ve only been away from them overnight a few times until this point but this girls trip came up and I felt like I deserved it since I’m no longer breastfeeding. Husband agreed and encouraged me to go. I’m a SAHM, he took a week off to be at home with the kids. It’s been fine for them. My dad was very hands on with me and my siblings so this has always been my normal. I feel any competent parent should be okay with managing their own kids for a few days?",1.34,3.0688969393939445,3.105194805194806,92.39207792207796,79.60606060606061,6.651082251082251,20.52380952380953,7.62386473244151,0.5280095238095242,847,22,195,13,21,282,124,231,0.013,0.858,0.129,0.9674,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,2,4,2,5,8,0,0,12,2,17,1,1,1,2,26,34,9,0,3,3,8,4,4,0,3,0,0,3,10,10,11,0,2,3,0,0,8,4,0,0,1,9,4,23,8,31,19,5,36,0,0,0,0,33,16,0,1,16,114,33,1,0.1320382047696762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986636372842022,0.0,0.0,0.0897905070263502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721627194390729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235478718569054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101653087740302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25546115648489703,0.13612559133942062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616816303038186,0.0,0.0,0.24894773671511464,0.0,0.13352496727140056,0.09432811986993746,0.12677738293445026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796902463245264,0.0,0.15008070918445993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3973352553634627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23472324637666675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580287893724976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225415996429326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338660154207372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20367200683099912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936940630894062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042100459671892,0.0,0.0,0.14661280072868368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481878202677098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275990542880955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922336743063572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699253902431362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14669930381472268,0.0,0.0,0.12898214015843626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894534709444073,0.0,0.0,0.10591308344449872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759230461442206,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wonderment1818,2019/02/24,"Future parenting Hello parents!

A couple of questions...While I am not a parent yet, I am wondering about books you may have read on raising good, thoughtful, moral/mindful, mentally strong and healthy children.... My wife and I will be starting to try and have children but wondering about experiences. 

Recent experiences in talking to our friends and the issues they are having with their daughter are making us think about how we raise good and thoughtful children who seek to do good for the world and humanity. I know you can never control destiny or people, but it really is something that is making me think a lot currently.

Thank you for help!

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parenting,sciamachthrowaway,2019/02/24,"3 under 5 logistics? I survived two under two. Logically I have two arms so I wasn’t as worried.
Those with 3 under 5...is going from 2 to 3 harder than 1 to 2? Any tips? I’m especially worried about sleep. I co sleep (and nurse) my 18 month old and 3 year old. I’m also the only one that does bedtime. I’m afraid I’ll never sleep again. Any other tips? Baby 3 is due in October and I’ll have newborn, 2 year old, almost 4 year old ",-2.248934210526315,-0.5448587684210526,1.7550986842105267,93.05475328947372,105.10526315789473,4.0592105263157885,15.411184210526311,5.985473137389443,-0.4203552631578949,327,9,75,4,16,121,58,95,0.073,0.885,0.041,-0.3792,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,0,4,4,4,0,1,7,8,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,0,5,0,11,7,0,16,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,11,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171691376983284,0.0,0.0,0.11317754688327535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19248380061353296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238495419697272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043195839767787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296396018282401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091528582801948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5940270131069448,0.0,0.0959010497363233,0.10763619265749914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248818313966076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147482852782655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874511555719613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734125138737169
parenting,MadameLeotasHead,2019/02/24,"Talking about death My three year old came home and asked to watch a show to see if the lead character “had died.” This threw my husband and I for a loop because it’s a subject we have never approached as there hasn’t been a need. He also said being dead was when somebody got sick and other people got upset/sad. He also asked if me, his dad (my husband) and other family members would “died”....wholly unprepared for all this I said no and that we weren’t going away. We do have a cat who has cancer but we haven’t brought this up to him and to my knowledge nobody else in the family has. It may be something he picked up from school. 

In any case, my problem is that I have read about how to approach death when it happens, when it’s tangible....if our cat passes she won’t be there anymore and that’s a vehicle to explain the loss and sadness of death....but what about when there is no death for which to explain!?

He doesn’t get the concept, not that I would expect him to, but I don’t want him worrying about it either. 

Any tips?
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parenting,QuietFlounder6,2019/02/25,"Please help me get my kid to listen  TL;DR - how do I get my kid to not be the future person who won’t get out of the car when a cop tells her to and ends up getting tazed?

Help! My wife and I feel like we are at the end of our rope with our 7yo daughter. The trouble starts when we tell her to do something she doesn’t want to do – probably 50% of the time, she will do it without a problem. But if she decides she doesn’t want to, it seems like it is a one-way ticket to big consequences. A few recent examples –

Exhibit A: She gets a breakfast in the morning she doesn’t want to eat. No amount of explaining the benefit of eating a meal before school will get her to budge, nor will threatening and enacting consequences. Most of our punishments are losing things like toys, games, and playdates. It doesn’t seem to matter how big or small the threat is, as soon as we mention that her decision could cost her something, she gets completely focused on us taking away a thing and digs in with her outrage about it. I’ve lost count of the times I have explained in the simplest terms I can, “take a bite of the eggs or you will lose this toy for a day. This is your decision.” And the response I get explains how no, the real problem is my decision to take her thing away.

Exhibit B: She does something small, like saying something mean to her 4yo brother. Usually this would get her a 1-minute time out in her room, unless she doesn’t want to go. Then I’m back to threatening to take away things unless she goes right now, she will not move a muscle, and I’m taking the thing away to screams of NOOOOOO. If she’s really upset, she will hit us, which adds to her punishment but she doesn’t seem to care. There was a night where we did a constant cycle of me threatening to take something away unless she goes to her room, she doesn’t move, I go take it away. At the 1-hour mark I was exhausted but determined not to give up, and after 2 hours she let me know that she was trying to get me to learn a lesson about how taking things away doesn’t work. 

We’re not sure where to go from here. We don’t make empty threats, and anything she loses like being grounded from playdates or other future fun is followed up on but that doesn’t really change her behavior in the moment. I know her grandparents just avoid the confrontations with distractions and new fun games, and when she was little there was a time when we tried spanking but it didn’t change anything either so we stopped. My main concern is that when she is in trouble, her only thought is about how much wrong we are doing her by putting her in trouble instead of focusing on the decisions she made. I’m also worried that if there was a Serious Situation and she needed to do what I say Right Now, she would argue or ignore me. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated, thank you",5.432573918456272,5.550342754850089,5.648215063803297,84.27028711484593,67.65961199294533,8.928083826123041,29.551250129681506,8.671277953709913,2.0165510322647573,2230,73,461,32,34,708,247,567,0.117,0.7809999999999999,0.101,-0.8917,2,1,5,0,0,0,54.0,13,3,0,6,27,36,7,3,35,0,52,6,0,7,1,92,102,43,0,14,22,3,1,5,0,10,1,4,2,3,25,26,5,3,19,5,1,8,20,24,0,0,11,5,76,12,77,75,7,74,0,4,0,0,79,36,0,11,35,326,101,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048926444385153534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04160519566426769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069354286741188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40237111515828144,0.04704443251180576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05206054692737178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062378133504875165,0.0,0.12944282637910154,0.0,0.06414714173940092,0.06611495414433352,0.0,0.048848070912659115,0.0,0.0,0.03945670038762253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353992814102982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520692690821952,0.0,0.0,0.10837645908426416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03093496502788025,0.04370773719631115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196456092934644,0.058690415011155225,0.10431176097300167,0.0,0.0,0.06745229714892767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820167041692962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050197325435155,0.0,0.0,0.06906593136975535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06724698373103043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625617442225588,0.0,0.1494497946440269,0.061319460880536324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053377557685083,0.06678631709771783,0.0,0.0,0.057890966093030724,0.040838809930989886,0.0,0.0,0.06664407314234766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300514965686791,0.04497509368636311,0.04536495555429862,0.0,0.05908901615034036,0.0,0.057414248381174114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04145784659249786,0.04653092719281245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053420912037795865,0.0,0.06715839422665666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596349383869865,0.11708395840085445,0.0,0.06150382943906064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963740181498419,0.07838826376588387,0.0,0.06040888223738461,0.0,0.0,0.10449652382680474,0.0,0.09730721499768176,0.0,0.061918464607356026,0.0,0.1670907248052091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877003660435589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355007142322558,0.0,0.0,0.043304245097201134,0.0,0.0,0.05115007723791353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766239295382086,0.0,0.36800413981275604,0.0,0.10694982676730813,0.05632726880732631,0.0,0.0,0.2438757307333048,0.0,0.0,0.04857090065415015,0.14270059305290644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08307580124694751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718648250503613,0.0,0.06738225654468884,0.0,0.1443446171133943,0.0485626506935184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058976325810439184,0.0,0.044540515587816784,0.062132301696927676,0.0,0.13038373649516494,0.06689184756860189,0.0,0.0
parenting,ClitoriasSecret,2019/02/25,"Toddler calling her chef father out I’ve been cooking professionally for 15 years, for the past 6 I’ve been a chef. Today my three year old told me I’m making peanut butter and jelly sandwiches wrong. Why the hell did no one tell me I’m trash before now.",5.623782051282049,5.446271250000002,6.3738461538461575,80.2378205128205,67.26923076923077,8.471794871794872,26.948717948717945,7.793537801064563,1.4362102564102557,203,5,41,2,3,67,42,52,0.187,0.813,0.0,-0.872,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,3,2,0,1,0,3,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,1,4,0,3,3,0,7,1,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,6,18,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574104764059529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088926294292068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019252224694016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174293462529512,0.0,0.2049860147844308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887763756957456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644037326203398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867404851357242,0.2890576162032087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729647733531324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307430168632203,0.0,0.3896081204899008
parenting,CrossOffTheDaysGone,2019/02/25,"Step parents, when your step kids started calling you mom or dad? My stepson is 12, and I married his mom when he was 8. He started trusting me from the first day we met, he fully accepted me to the family, behaves if I was his father, however he calls me Uncle CrossOfTheDaysGone. 
He’s 12 now and I don’t believe he’d ever call me Dad. 
He refers to me as dad when he needs to explain to his friends, teachers or random people who I am, but he only tells “that’s my dad”, and immediately after that he would call me “uncle xxx” when addressing something to me. 
His father isn’t involved in his life, he lives abroad and the see each other once a year, when we send our son to his grandparents while summer break. They don’t even talk on the phone that much, maybe like once a month or even less. So there’s no strong bond between him and his father.  ",6.253578811369508,5.281613686046511,6.613333333333332,81.68722222222223,66.20930232558139,9.272351421188633,31.320413436692505,8.167268648758528,2.067819638242894,662,21,138,7,9,215,104,172,0.017,0.903,0.081,0.8711,3,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,3,2,1,2,11,5,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,0,1,20,15,18,0,3,5,11,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,3,1,28,5,12,10,3,22,0,0,1,0,50,2,0,5,17,86,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744964652820374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6070515738738178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585092505421028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196331017167767,0.13443995538072487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011056230209967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642047502418494,0.0,0.0,0.11482742071920175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497833745051413,0.0726107400013886,0.0,0.131238728685824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931393781519928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481359542630605,0.11863117522382255,0.0,0.1092565848610594,0.11020366407239417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31656186419149723,0.0,0.1130361224138317,0.0,0.0,0.165030638332647,0.0,0.0,0.1030379640212207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843500044997103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144189001529891,0.0,0.0,0.2103952895484925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11945926419909544,0.12990493033281889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557904092597298,0.0,0.0,0.09570972249097448
parenting,underwaterllama,2019/02/25,"Step siblings in the same class? I’m newly divorced. My ex has a new relationship, and future stepkids to go along with that. Her kids go to school. Mine are homeschooled. My ex suddenly wants to put our kids in school, and it seems there’s an influence campaign at his house to convince them by telling my son, who’s the same age as her son, that they could go together. 

But, I’ve always understood that schools intentionally put same age siblings in different classrooms. Is that accurate? I assume that also applies to step siblings?",4.43242424242424,6.929405171717177,4.552525252525252,82.01545454545456,73.04040404040404,7.632323232323233,31.202020202020197,8.515128840125781,2.6377353535353536,428,20,76,8,9,133,68,99,0.0,0.973,0.027000000000000003,0.3695,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,2,0,15,11,5,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,1,13,9,3,16,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,2,5,47,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128121646444146,0.16781162022753238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102286601324295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070979164135906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438534705043632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327084579774809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19478113572679184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4054826609130509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21652588083173324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6123244036418346,0.0,0.18359938539826226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762747975911249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189544617982013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rua-Yuki,2019/02/25,"the two words that are about to drive me bonkers: ""I can't."" My daughter is in preschool and is THIS CLOSE to driving me up the wall. All day all I hear is I can't. I can't. I can't. And what she really means is: I don't want to. I want you to do it. 

And I fear I have created a monster. 

I do eventually get her to put her pants on. Or offer her to split the load (you pick up the paw patrol toys and i'll pick up the books) but it's busting me up inside. She's perfectly capable of doing it on her own. And usually after a round of tears she does do it on her own. 

I guess I'm wondering how do I stop the I can't. The constant whining. We've gone over the differences between needing to do something and wanting to do something. How responsibilities come first. I guess my biggest fear is that my own mental health issues (ADD, anxieties) are starting to show or, in the case of anxiety, rubbing off on her. She doesn't want to do things unless she's confident she can 110% Do The Thing. Which, well, isn't how life works.

Help.",0.1444178082191776,2.194024406392696,2.4628139269406404,93.65805650684929,85.7579908675799,5.8417808219178085,21.453767123287676,7.1686216300943375,0.547686301369863,791,27,185,12,24,269,112,219,0.08,0.813,0.108,0.8763,0,0,2,0,0,0,34.0,0,2,0,3,5,5,0,2,12,0,26,2,0,5,3,32,41,13,0,5,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,11,9,0,1,2,3,0,5,8,3,1,2,1,3,34,2,29,40,5,27,0,1,1,0,18,15,0,5,7,132,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23711731571821654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350085131048325,0.0,0.1674774494337224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994875787955068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619202702405476,0.0,0.0,0.135623335506661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34878935607746026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318252217395269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097023140981142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34145410549954386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473563418654666,0.17467281318761269,0.0,0.10387928573048197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175801182970406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946638675114506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881777404532058,0.0,0.0,0.15618257427262575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149151073041964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579689373108918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928363901144206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386211075535835,0.0,0.0,0.10969506993379056,0.0,0.0,0.1295695442129844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20592257778189665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139215145114207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706876849457882,0.0,0.36564297179824057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934490606736086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680683230035109,0.11282669773657912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,labor-nurse,2019/02/25,"How to tell little sisters about big sister’s cutting. I don’t even know where to begin.... TW: cutting.

My sweet 14 y/o step-daughter has recently begun cutting on her arms. It started out as small and very superficial. Yesterday (found out today) it was deeper and many cuts.

We have two other girls ages 10 (sister to 14) and 6 (step-sister, my bio). I feel like hiding it from them will ultimately result in the 14 y/o being ashamed and that the littles will eventually see the soon-to-be-scars anyway. 

The question is, how do we bring it up? How do we explain it sensitively and in a way they can understand? 

We share custody and her mom has her being evaluated at the hospital, so we know she’s safe at the moment. I used to work as a nurse on a teenage psych unit and I know that this behavior is addictive and escalates quickly. I can handle it from that point of view, I’m just not sure how to do it in a family setting. ",1.6258119898677172,3.832000278074865,3.7714157050379984,85.55328454826909,80.97860962566845,6.717590768364763,23.745848578665925,7.85451343220497,1.3660545454545452,720,26,146,13,19,246,117,187,0.08,0.861,0.059,-0.1833,0,0,0,1,0,0,34.0,5,0,2,1,11,10,4,1,10,0,16,2,1,6,1,33,29,15,0,0,2,4,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,12,15,0,1,8,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,2,4,18,5,21,23,0,28,0,0,2,0,20,16,0,1,10,97,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677067059354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133541071506893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18745360270548847,0.0,0.10054213184030447,0.14205508464846706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802355058654546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278404435589901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714574393773484,0.3985903533216137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159787111591054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328851507897556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879730314881687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227521852347206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19633569317963226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584539177917532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407436897337264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874092926681987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379951090045312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18848204440255253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424291360424464,0.20700491545233887,0.0,0.17173845012875388,0.0,0.16406815406579206,0.0,0.1578341020958623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476170852074402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,papacamper,2019/02/25,"Kindergartener having trouble staying focused in class 5.5 yr old in kindergarten has been having lots of issues with sitting still, paying attention and keeping his hands to himself.  We are working with the teacher and counselor to devise a plan to help him out. 
Counselor meets with him daily to briefly discuss his day and how it’s going. His teacher circles smiley or frowns faces on a sheet of paper 4 times a day for each period.


He cruises through homework and certainly isn’t behind educationally. 

None of the behavior is malicious, mean or hurtful.

He is a first and only child with a love language of physical touch.

He really is a good boy and constantly gets compliments on it from friends and family. Not the “oh he’s so cute” stuff. Actual genuine comments on his behavior and maturity.

He just seems to lose focused and keeping his hands to himself in class.

Any tips out there?

Note: this is NOT a developmental disorder or anything medical. He was urged by  a quality preschool to go to Kindergarten because he was ahead of the curve.  The kid is just antsy. 



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parenting,dammitgirl99,2019/02/25,"Hate my kids I really despise them. The days start out okay but towards the end I have very little patience and love
Left for them. They’re all awful in their own way. My
Son finds delight in hurting and bullying people. He’s 3. But he does. He will kick me for example. Unprovoked. I will say “that really hurts mom. Please keep your hands and feet to yourself.” He will look me in the face smile and do it again. I put him in time out and he will smirk and say “I will kick you again!” He pulls similar stuff with siblings. I despise him. I get his 3 but hes a huge asshole. My older son whines and complains about everything 
And he’s completely ungrateful. Can’t stand whiny kids. My oldest does what she wants. I will tell her “turn off the tv.” She ignores me. I take remote out of her hand. She attempts to grab it back so she can it turn back on. This makes me irate and I tell her she’s lost her screen time for the day. But she will still try to sneak away with my phone when she can. Conniving. How do I survive if I genuinely detest these children? I care about them and don’t want anything to happen to them but I would be cool if they were gone for months. Seriously. I am with them 24/7 and am over it. ",-0.2670177777777809,2.0233480360000016,1.1839333333333322,98.94318888888893,94.64,4.6977777777777785,16.944444444444443,6.42735559955562,-0.3002888888888888,939,25,215,12,36,298,144,250,0.175,0.7040000000000001,0.121,-0.946,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,2,7,3,10,14,3,0,6,3,20,5,4,2,1,33,36,21,0,5,7,3,3,0,0,8,0,2,0,3,9,17,0,2,1,1,0,3,2,10,0,0,3,8,48,4,27,24,2,35,0,4,2,1,44,15,0,2,15,137,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560446887797755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319871810618835,0.21604351100663385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323045526218098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729238915723522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119814884236515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458729638566316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442508858596335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262558932048964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839772830911106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733958898242474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422750292637873,0.0,0.0,0.13869659424738942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007771296683909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486658926629288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263377755859972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079956877299468,0.0,0.0,0.11796924636602345,0.0,0.15335236990447765,0.0,0.1267902185770898,0.0,0.09377262527940504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453046859552972,0.11213115227314488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739232214280708,0.0,0.0,0.1542067201964175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412229093106112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999234788777355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234333719415252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943366996661468,0.0,0.11218886669414843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081793598373526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562475486628026,0.0,0.2455743947018825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638320174132302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953778525045222,0.3056074974568752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159121145272942,0.1657194922494823,0.11150783418403007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997941687131286,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xxcoffeexx,2019/02/25,"My (F21) little sister (F16) is uncontrollable and my mom and I don’t know what to do anymore So to start, this has been going on since my sisters been 11. 

She’s big on stealing. Constantly stealing anything revealing from my closet, stealing from my mom and other siblings if it’s valuable to her. Her freshman year of high school she was caught with girls stealing phones and money from peoples bags during PE which got her jumped while walking home, by the so called friends she stole with. She has told us she’d rather stay with these girls because they have more freedom then my mother gives and we constantly tell her if she changed her ways it’ll change. It just turns into a 3-4 hours talk and she cries trying to explain herself but it’s just too much.

A huge issue has been her sneaking any electronics and taking nudes and sending them to strangers! We’ve found these people to be 30+. 15 minutes ago I hop on my tablet and see that she’s downloaded a app called anonymous chat and I seen that she’s taken loads of naked pictures and videos. We usually hide all electronics from her, sleep with them under our pillow, we’ve just started throwing electronics into a compartment in our ceiling. She’s gotten phones from “friends” at school and we catch her every time!

She is sexually active as I just found out last month. I got her a prayer book for Christmas and thought I’d see if she was writing in it since it was paid on her desk. Turns out it’s now a diary and she’s been super active. She also has huge self esteem issues as well.

School is a huge problem as well. She has a GPA of 0.80 and she’s a junior In high school. Failed many classes. She’s super optimistic about everything and believes she can get it together in order to graduate all at the last minute. She walks to and from school and is constantly late by hours using the same tired ass excuse of being in the library or talking to counselors. When asking my brothers who attend the same school they say a totally different story. We have no car so we aren’t able to pull up on her. Her so called friends are bad examples but she fails to see that. We’ve taken her out of dance because of her grades and attitude but this continues. Recently she’s been coming home on time but it’s only a matter of time unfortunately.

This girl has taught herself Korean and is very fluent in the language. She is so damn smart and has so many great things about herself. She is beautiful and so smiley. A happy personality. She reads like crazyyyyyy, loves it to death. Loves to color, write, sing and dance. She’s just the greatest sister to have. When I have the money I do buy her needs, clothes, books, etc. just showing that I care. I talk to her to see what’s going on or if she’s doing okay. My mom and siblings as well as I tell her how much we love her and how beautiful she is, how smart she is and just check up on her. We try to see how things are going.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. My mom is so distraught and I’m being told to take of it at this point, I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to get hurt and just want the best life for my siblings.

I do admit that at 16 I was taking pics of myself and sending them to randoms. I ended up being stalked by my moms ex husband and threatened by him. We’ve had a very traumatic childhood because of that man. Mostly between my sister and I being m****ed and more. This is why I try to teach her and put her on game to what can happen to her.

There’s slightly more to what goes on but it’s hard for me to type. I’m crying and don’t know what’s to come of this. I just need any and all advice to help.


TD;LR My little sister is stealing, sending nudes to random pedophiles, failing school, etc. and I don’t know what to do to make it stop.",2.9569104530121493,4.6137427275097815,3.727326007326006,90.02380124583513,74.78878748370273,6.330075950414933,24.169388050743986,6.937597516519254,0.7751568841704429,2980,92,621,28,63,947,315,767,0.109,0.733,0.158,0.9925,2,0,0,0,0,0,78.0,10,0,5,6,35,34,1,2,22,1,58,9,4,6,4,112,113,69,1,10,23,14,1,1,3,1,2,1,4,6,40,54,0,1,11,10,5,20,8,14,3,0,24,9,106,20,97,82,16,88,0,4,7,6,123,38,2,9,28,420,146,22,0.05779540271950899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056476998638649974,0.05123213733578996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04621896267388746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786057114761473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463501881953668,0.0,0.0,0.04756069195069705,0.0,0.05403089973686377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048256747155205636,0.10569462318083728,0.0,0.0,0.06511562734793466,0.060652709461136274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704670427008148,0.0,0.05892626493421298,0.0,0.12227974536064205,0.09957124377632567,0.0,0.18736889444044627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697107204868854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06038389471747159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051189572225114166,0.0,0.12891430311399812,0.0,0.0,0.048695119486465925,0.0,0.05194278129521419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673935191056432,0.1339577543201923,0.0,0.060391425007330565,0.055442616662711636,0.09853937778322587,0.0,0.0924485265306166,0.06371963553395403,0.0,0.0,0.051108283752613164,0.061524280896063974,0.051773328662667976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038739040168083896,0.12212803232192244,0.11594700255353264,0.0,0.1138336593628023,0.0,0.061871173964185365,0.0,0.0,0.12064676944426694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881420927141526,0.09422193413208793,0.06519573165815425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040822602153908163,0.02823591441019755,0.11585235384406598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648782231260086,0.0,0.03857888010392937,0.1171909340208531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384463857377103,0.0461317390504069,0.0,0.08497254204621414,0.08570911758725433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04395600812877719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013611025169452,0.050464716382070375,0.0,0.0,0.05463533669500928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530239496293925,0.0,0.05810034293045153,0.0,0.0,0.057811042976290763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570659876961787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459612239801603,0.0,0.40944423171002936,0.2302772658571677,0.0,0.06029320974542034,0.0,0.0,0.09561790874158027,0.0,0.05783714186815344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181576703234747,0.061602209375973015,0.0,0.04831954458033253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303648503553662,0.13936126636498938,0.10103145882468632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679339491133466,0.0,0.0,0.045883093950159666,0.10110289231218764,0.06642731337887599,0.0,0.11045196813212424,0.0,0.11771785397002273,0.12572960358229496,0.0,0.0,0.06952075331132514,0.049916671407483834,0.06365347082254585,0.0953745201356441,0.06817845190243342,0.04587530052418541,0.0,0.0,0.15589502398101415,0.0,0.052151361454523086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037218344454652746
parenting,mariahplattner32,2019/02/25,"My 3yr old daughter is masturbating in her dirty diaper. Hello, I’m a mother of two young girls. Ages 5 and 3. 
My 3 year old has just discovered masturbation like a year ago and it hadn’t stopped since. I know it’s completely normal for little kids to masturbate and stuff but this post is a little different. See my kid, she’ll pee in her diaper and run off somewhere in the house, until we come looking for here. And normally when we find her  on the floor masturbating in her pee diaper. Not just in pee, but sometimes if she goes poo poo she’ll run upstairs in her closet and won’t come out for like an hour and come back down and say she was playing dollies. I try to change her before she does it (especially in a poo diaper) so she doesn’t get a infection of some sort down there. 😬

Before my husband and I started noticing this, she would stay in her room playing “dollies” for hours while her other sister would play on her own in her room. I went upstairs to get her because it was time for lunch and I found her on her bedroom floor masturbating in a poo diaper. She stood up and said “hi mommy”. I said hello, did you go poo poo? She said yes. I said when did you go poo poo? She said after breakfast. (Three whole hours ago). I told her you know when you go poo poo you come tell me or daddy so we can change you. She said I know mommy I will. I said ok. So I picked her up and gave her a bath and then went to go eat lunch. 

Three whole hours of masturbating in a poo diaper!! Yes, I know, gross!!! But that’s what my child does. She won’t do it in a dry diaper. It’s always when she pees or poos in one, she’ll run off somewhere and say she’s going to play, when really I find her masturbating in a dirty diaper like two hours later. I’ve started checking on her when she’s playing more often so I’ll know when she has a dirty diaper (apparently she likes sitting in it because she won’t tell me anymore) because I don’t want her to get an infection. Her pediatrician says to frequently check on her and change the diaper as often as possible so she doesn’t get a UTI. He told me most girls get UTI’s a lot more than boys and if she experiences itching or burning in that area, I must take her to the doctor immediately. Well, that hasn’t happened yet. But I’m tired of trying to hunt her down in the house every time she poops to find her doing it. I asked her why she does it in a dirty diaper yesterday and she replied because it’s warm. I told her that she can make her privates very itchy if she keeps doing this and she said I can’t stop doing it. 

So every time I change her now, I’ve seen that she is rubbing herself raw on her private’s. She literally does it from the time she gets up after breakfast to the time she goes to bed. So I’ve made her come downstairs more often now just so she doesn’t do it so much. (She doesn’t like to be seen doing it in front of people) So I made her stay downstairs for most of the day today and she told me she needs to go upstairs for a minute. I asked her what for sweetie? She said don’t tell daddy but I need to rub my diaper (that’s what she calls it) I told her ok, If that’s what you need to do then go upstairs for a minute but I will come check on you. She said ok and ran upstairs. So I gave her 15mins to do that while I played with her sister downstairs. And I told her sister that I’ll be right back and I went upstairs to check on her and I walk in the room to find her masturbating in a poo diaper again. As I walked in, she said mommy I’m not done yet. I said you are for right now, I need to change you. So as I was starting to change her she started screaming, crying and kicking her feet like a little baby. I asked her why she was throwing a fit and she said I wasn’t done!!! Screaming at the top of her lungs. My husband ran in the room and asked what was happening and I told him I would tell him later. So he walked out the room and went to go give my other daughter a bath. I told my daughter when she is done getting her diaper changed she can finish doing it. But I said if she doesn’t stop screaming and throwing a fit, she won’t get to do it again. So she immediately stopped crying. 

I honestly don’t know what else to do to help her with this. She’s rubbing herself raw, masturbating in dirty diapers, and now she throws a fit every time I change her!! It’s like I’m changing a baby all over again! 
I know this is a weird/gross post but I had to post it because I want to know if anybody else’s kid does it in a dirty diaper. Please let me know because I have never seen a child do it in a dirty one before. Any comments or advice, please let me know because my husband and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her to get a UTI at all! I’m also tired of the screaming every diaper change because she didn’t finish masturbating. We’ve never had to deal with this before with our other daughter, so this is a first for us. We’ve decided we are going to start potty training her so she can get out of the diapers. But she probably will still do it in her underwear. I don’t know but any advice would be helpful! Thanks! ",1.4484173012430368,3.156937202038925,3.2275801381577094,91.73497979228571,79.20389249304912,6.303052654710834,20.762265557073654,7.23061279609059,0.39505135721315066,3967,104,903,50,97,1324,287,1079,0.067,0.838,0.095,0.9753,2,0,0,0,0,0,104.0,6,10,0,2,46,25,0,0,45,5,77,18,8,4,5,126,181,85,0,20,25,11,4,7,0,15,6,21,10,8,49,48,5,5,18,8,4,31,24,5,1,7,52,30,185,20,113,109,13,169,0,0,5,0,185,66,0,18,73,591,234,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067939999782419,0.06163060154305738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027799957413624062,0.028925599633390708,0.0,0.0,0.04728006223166748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03447555350580814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999484409053844,0.0,0.0,0.05346120024913015,0.0,0.1695296102602428,0.0,0.11832300554013545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035496908297565515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36774643100062493,0.1796714709588664,0.03644834262884186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637104321490919,0.02241925822001644,0.03583912510908088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03631993460041185,0.0,0.03558140209217104,0.15210667165308775,0.10672385104145088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035571226150611694,0.05808004926430749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715730251470195,0.0,0.0,0.03400488311835187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709100370908188,0.029569388842740706,0.0,0.0381158336525649,0.0,0.0,0.1816223197389483,0.033347835887153385,0.1778095189154718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06148160969474899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04660181036585012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171172755696159,0.08022366600874953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030898950410902137,0.0,0.0,0.2292580187353154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109504264883515,0.0,0.11888411615243685,0.10452497146650852,0.0,0.0,0.029192163531443868,0.0,0.0,0.029554258265396687,0.0,0.06578717960171912,0.023204571498539397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025554803846200715,0.10310529189921164,0.053622735168386455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812071547124232,0.0,0.03957790430335262,0.07295583851073772,0.0,0.047112615037348926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024100286153211636,0.0,0.0,0.07631866664052794,0.0,0.03919005767473089,0.0998800298091788,0.0,0.03748039209908593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02227006705478853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059374821709677124,0.4629460122914271,0.08293479529226039,0.0,0.0,0.027701609096354062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02875631166531485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034381494493980834,0.0,0.1230271466340842,0.07410546226753563,0.02776177557989544,0.11625369362414302,0.0,0.0,0.039795316412045666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026137448631808717,0.0,0.12153757203856155,0.03200509854635153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162350420992835,0.07990990607314248,0.03295125793344633,0.26574027911351666,0.0,0.047203588280137605,0.0,0.0679167967241225,0.0,0.04181560704974053,0.0,0.0,0.028683114513231106,0.06151235174146265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03125611060152319,0.12890259187740705,0.06273639837950586,0.0776232929369982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877854719930426,0.0,0.0,0.044772462685732185
parenting,thats-not-cool-man,2019/02/25,"In home child care website suggestions? I know it suggests adding flair, however all I’m seeking is a trustworthy website for in home child care.

I know nothing about the subject, but I am interested in hiring someone to help watch my children.",6.99128787878788,8.507577977272728,6.757272727272728,72.73924242424245,64.68181818181819,9.503030303030306,41.93939393939394,9.725611199111238,4.569766666666667,197,12,31,4,3,62,34,44,0.0,0.7140000000000001,0.28600000000000003,0.9118,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,6,7,1,3,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,0,17,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6018637169265245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783726943969007,0.0,0.5921323369236761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244207329263249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832107497455394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500852572893042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joshlynnard,2019/02/25,"My 13yr old son fingered his 12yr old friend that’s a girl. Today I got a call from my sons teacher. My son is in 7th grade. His teacher called to say that they caught my son in the girls bathroom, inside the stall, with his 12yr old FRIEND fingering her with the stall door open. His teacher told me to come pick him up immediately and take him home because he’s not allowed to be on school property for a whole two weeks. (Same for the girl) I was appalled by my sons behavior and so was my husband. He never acts like this! EVER! But he’s a teenager now. He called me on his phone before baseball practice and said this girl told him to do it. He specifically told me that the girl whispered in his ear to come to the bathroom and put his fingers inside her. I was pissed and hung up the phone. 

This girl that my son was touching inappropriately, they’ve been friends since daycare. What do I do about this? He’s about to come home from baseball practice. What should I say to him about this?  He’s going to be in big trouble! ",2.6594202898550705,4.520881342995171,3.2602173913043515,92.17119565217396,76.14975845410628,5.759420289855073,24.54347826086957,6.42735559955562,0.5517130434782604,806,27,174,6,18,252,102,207,0.08,0.871,0.049,-0.6821,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,0,6,6,1,0,11,0,12,5,5,2,2,19,23,7,0,1,2,7,4,1,3,1,0,5,3,6,12,11,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,2,0,1,11,9,29,4,27,9,2,25,0,0,0,0,48,10,1,0,9,105,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021055580482804,0.0,0.11196573889720944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030767353780852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34003613942741223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902254690582385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049774606794935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478051411500249,0.0,0.10523734519121553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26397294125768217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428382978265207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148337827306504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142163729748791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227524708411692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516366195859402,0.2092769836330086,0.0,0.13316699593676973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884516223595364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893253592026596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247234018530537,0.3771938504672661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853551672448912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055463406925968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690548654762633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VictreeS,2019/02/25,"My S/O can hardly pick up after the dog without gagging... is there any hope for diaper changes? I figured this was the best sub even though I myself don’t have a child nor am I expecting. However my bf and I do want children in the near future (hopefully within the next few years) But the title says it all.. I always end up stepping in because of his gagging and I just want him to get away from the situation (picking up dog poop..) obviously dirty diapers are a well known part of parenting but I don’t want to have to change all the diapers because of this... Don’t get me wrong it’s gross to me too but not to the point of almost vomiting, so I’m not sure what might help him. Has anyone struggled with this as a parent? Any tips on how to help him?",2.2626923076923084,3.82072193589744,4.066923076923079,87.27807692307691,76.43589743589743,7.364102564102564,24.820512820512814,8.139509932561175,1.393451282051282,586,20,126,10,13,198,102,156,0.101,0.79,0.109,-0.5829,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,8,8,0,1,11,0,13,2,1,3,4,27,21,10,0,6,7,2,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,2,6,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,7,3,1,0,1,2,16,5,25,19,5,16,0,0,0,0,12,10,0,4,5,92,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560116692649825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292973667482474,0.0,0.0,0.21134177419751807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865266966346306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459945154954686,0.0,0.0,0.1894492462586902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307277151600946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32876514756539993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762988479215615,0.0,0.0,0.10263397772617323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623702739620717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919939060661954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208309989848922,0.0,0.0,0.3086757106355765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484479325167592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16525958859829912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450855825658062,0.1682727983162558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689427490909293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357278418889618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466546323774693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244791798314134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645373296250622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267040406308982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749600770067349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971474565055356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14979092314585418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698951479350901,0.0,0.10006640487094276
parenting,Willywood73,2019/02/25,"Psychiatrist at my kids school told me it was only teachers job to make sure the kids got C grades Background: I have three kids. One girl and two younger boys. All of them have attention problems diagnosed as ADD and ADHD respectively. My middle child is on the autism scale leaning towards Asperger's. My wife and I have decided to give the middle child prescription medicine that lasts 7 to 8 hours, only during school days. My middle son is fairly smart so his grades are a bit above average but he does not apply himself not for he respect any authority. I requested an IEP for him.
Meeting: At the meeting i informed then that I just wanted a bit more for him at school because they were seeing the best if him while medicated and a bit more malleable. If they could go a little more he could be one of the best students and with an IEP there could be a plan for when he runs out of natural intelligence and actually had to apply himself. That's when she turned me down because of his average grades and told me that it was their job as teachers to get them C grades. That made me mad. I understand it is my job to advocate for my child and teach them certain things but they are getting him at his""best"" for learning, motivating and socialization. We spent every dime to move to a nice area for the schools and I don't want to hear that! I want someone else to put a little more effort into him. 5th grade if it matters.

Sorry to vent",3.8539269688998914,5.715360071174381,4.544177626489248,84.24360049512612,72.84341637010675,7.591582856258705,27.87575429367167,8.321376580360154,1.9119471143431843,1144,44,223,19,23,366,154,281,0.047,0.8240000000000001,0.129,0.978,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,7,5,5,10,1,0,16,0,18,2,0,3,3,42,35,22,0,10,8,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,8,11,15,0,0,6,0,2,4,3,2,0,4,9,2,36,8,34,21,10,26,0,0,1,0,41,15,0,3,7,150,47,16,0.0,0.0,0.10063538032738964,0.0,0.12393652540368638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012871490328293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572840584844064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246708024163656,0.0,0.3377582327442413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470113924894708,0.0,0.0,0.06650726305523162,0.0,0.0,0.10466997079815046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09024561227503658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614792418139333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688748152057414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10775738677022798,0.0989271487889566,0.05860846327435714,0.0,0.08247869319599681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162296658980562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155761068677316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070077320090093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406085298763788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067172102645528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975796169635735,0.06883691358527733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388785277028056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960583383871828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976069371962158,0.15686281846248806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986769489644928,0.0,0.10366937233025368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.417473085500002,0.08217748264211151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512321837915006,0.08737770037095823,0.0,0.0,0.1154402885229428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971943395899602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851184216844597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970812155550476,0.0,0.0,0.11217067257512346,0.10073839690126457,0.10735703530393677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247785534504596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LoueyPenguin123,2019/02/25,"Getting angry with kids for making mistakes doesn't teach them not to make mistakes, it just teaches them to hide them. Being yelled at, berated and insulted throughout my childhood taught me to just never try to begin with. I had parents who, after yelling at me would just take away whatever I was trying to do and do it themselves.

As a young adult I found I'd get very, very easily discouraged and struggle severely with specific forms of criticism. To the point where I'd often rather give up and deal with the fallout from that, than face someone telling me I did it wrong and the shame of being told how to do it right.",10.195,7.465771833333335,9.110000000000003,72.49500000000003,59.83333333333334,12.266666666666667,40.66666666666667,10.355215969177356,4.082466666666667,500,20,92,8,5,156,83,120,0.231,0.747,0.022,-0.9776,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,3,0,7,7,1,2,4,0,10,1,1,3,1,24,20,7,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,6,9,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,6,2,11,0,22,11,1,12,0,1,0,0,12,7,0,1,5,68,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035778721876332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21985401148497086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338204100715323,0.0,0.0,0.22283130767439555,0.2045712743215224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846954613549461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447351041193325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367917160769261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159258569411168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211650946202776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409146775457217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068819056237165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22293786362411386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603393753110755,0.0,0.1863921250692792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037719468542461,0.0,0.2895689615270119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519113688419148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148849047184176,0.23315818257936985,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wolfanini,2019/02/25,"Three year old has decided biting is hilarious. When it's time for bed, he will constantly attack my legs. He'll be three feet away, open his mouth real wide and ""growl"" as he goes to bite me. He's not a biter in any other context.  Not wanting to spank or anything like that but anything I do to try to make him stop just makes him laugh. I push him away, give him stern commands, hold him to the mattress -- it's all a game to him. And the little turd bites hard! Pls halp",1.5087301587301596,3.3214433877551066,2.624013605442176,95.64400226757373,79.40816326530611,5.580045351473924,20.072562358276645,6.42735559955562,-0.07376553287981835,364,9,84,3,9,116,74,98,0.06,0.838,0.102,0.6355,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,4,0,5,3,3,2,1,16,10,6,0,1,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,11,2,11,7,1,13,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,7,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780026778118802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3819106670362491,0.0,0.0,0.2639875483362553,0.4360325586788853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507609278539475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22260112125619452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20786899510149676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336669489539394,0.2325725715900688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097870369353869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434948329125645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264120874293312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940021133491111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530877235858405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575450310183731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368676367794916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14943099199856144
parenting,njaysuh,2019/02/25,"Just had a random question, Do parents really have a favorite child? 

My friend has two kids, one is pretty crazy and the other is rather chill. I have no kids of my own, but I think I’d like the chill one more because the crazy kid always gets himself in trouble.

Thoughts?",3.9855555555555533,5.3091773703703735,4.097222222222225,89.73250000000004,71.5925925925926,6.140740740740743,26.462962962962962,5.985473137389443,0.81794074074074,214,7,43,1,4,66,42,54,0.16899999999999998,0.6729999999999999,0.157,-0.183,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,10,2,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,2,0,5,2,2,8,2,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,1,30,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639519914997969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337403032917733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24508295755424775,0.0,0.1657340681040489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549773982406191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4299122134538727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35223465507021545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322726219652301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35535837928438624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032189003667128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032614126280146,0.0,0.2518368068525353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098773055498731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Drekkan85,2019/02/25,"A brand new dad - Do you ever lose the paranoia? So my wife gave birth this morning. She and baby girl are currently enjoying a well earned skin to skin snoozle. I’m overcome by two things

1) incredible love and awe for this tiny little human 
2) absolutely perfect dread that I may screw something up and hurt this perfect little human. 

Case in point, baby was born at just shy of 38 weeks spontaneously (no induction). Baby had some trouble latching on one side of her mum. So throughout the afternoon I’m petrified at whether every sound is her wailing in distress at being starving. Or maybe when she’s quiet she’s actually just so hungry all she can do is lie there and will she just not wake up and... then I tell myself I have to breath. 

I’m a type A person that’s in my job partly because I have a very highly developed sense of paranoia (your client can’t be surprised when you automatically assume the worst will happen). Does this feeling ever start to go away? 

Thanks for reading my screed. I had to tell someone but couldn’t tell my wife - it would only worry her and that’s the last thing she needs. ",2.9017460317460326,5.277603407407408,3.9908730158730172,84.77000000000002,77.42592592592592,6.151322751322754,24.637566137566147,7.2636822038024595,1.1937066137566146,880,31,165,11,21,285,143,216,0.123,0.804,0.073,-0.8314,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,3,0,4,12,14,1,2,9,0,19,6,4,0,5,25,30,15,0,3,7,4,3,0,0,4,0,2,0,4,10,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,7,1,2,4,5,22,7,20,19,4,29,0,2,0,2,25,15,1,4,13,110,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.1513118614288808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456798045684191,0.0,0.0,0.09452043139064667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569016716289325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28051326576332697,0.13064099843390115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840075101995812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812164911265861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711512135297746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638247143406038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599018600221915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386871976905508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263909779789164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31081281526196786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346751214464318,0.0,0.0,0.1399436984326332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15577415286218185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497173448357195,0.0,0.14975362794307187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050696616463822,0.11792674193371998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791006353696905,0.0,0.0,0.1353885359223665,0.0,0.0,0.14657762442891556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509752218652825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137807446539054,0.11936934691799495,0.0,0.0,0.109749124814367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065761864828882,0.14275432907124402,0.0,0.0,0.20602405107834199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146675357019665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793707734034593,0.0,0.0,0.12437621898847287,0.0,0.13941357161687873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746644973568075,0.0,0.11014702244743098,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlueSailorOfTheSea,2019/02/25,"Please don't have kids when you're older. Please, just be considerate and hear me out. I am the oldest brother. My parents are in their 40's, father nearing 50. I have a baby sister. Dad, I am terrified, and I am scared. If you go, I can't take care of my sister. I can't be the one at her graduation, I can't be the one to walk her down the isle. She's incredibly clever, and you are the perfect father for her. 

Please parents. do not be older and having kids. You leave a burden on your other children for when that day comes and death takes you by the hand to your new home. 

It will make everything easier for your kids when you go. Me? I can go to college, work a job, probably cover my expenses. But I am too young to care for a family after you go. I am not half the man you are dad. You are leaving too big of shoes to fill. 

So please be considerate, plan ahead, live for your kids until they can care for themselves.",0.6975388601036272,2.7332310207253907,2.8470751295336783,91.8381774611399,83.35233160621762,5.932538860103628,18.458290155440405,7.1686216300943375,0.17262507772020766,709,17,160,10,20,240,103,193,0.111,0.7509999999999999,0.138,0.6707,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,12,2,4,7,7,0,1,11,0,25,2,2,1,1,16,37,12,1,1,5,9,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,3,7,0,0,2,0,1,7,6,2,0,3,0,2,33,5,23,31,0,26,0,0,0,0,34,7,0,1,12,114,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006419707179264,0.0,0.0,0.11283146086022153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447410074177347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772033113993262,0.0,0.1234804332686428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977658080349542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476289363779906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138803116557482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998180394570902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773871299864559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156616233172348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743310287970202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650554795458646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751683618685254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908853463877728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5751261411953225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122333517674404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311382329672424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19696793240777616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535820187427682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bschott007,2019/02/25,"Uplifting story: I received hugs from twin toddlers My wife and I often take our 17 month old toddler, Sophia, to the local mall either on Saturdays or Sundays to walk around (exercise for us) and let our daughter play at ""Recess West"", the mall's inside playground.

This last Saturday, we were in the playground are with our daughter and she was having a wonderful time climbing round on the foam-covered boat they have there. 

IMy baby girl is 19 lbs and tiny for her age and just starting to stand and walk on her own, she isnt completely sure of herself yet and is shy when it comes to the dozens of other children much older than her racing around so she won't leave our side and play, so we stay near her.  

Also, being new parents (and having lost a child before) we also want to make sure she has a safe and fun time so we often stick close to her so she doesn't get trampled by an older child who isn't paying attention (as we have seen other toddlers have had happen to them while playing there).

As we are helping our daughter climb into and out of this play boat, I noticed a little black girl around 2 or 3 years old just staring at me. 

 Now, I'm a 40 year old white man, 5' 10"", dark haired (but staring to silver), just starting to grow a beard and according to my wife I have a 'perpetual grumpy face'.

I smile at this little girl and wave, just to be nice and let her know I'm OK, and go back to congratulating my daughter on her walking between my wife and myself.

Then I notice this little girl has not taken her eyes off me and has crawled into this boat and right next to where I am seated.  I smiled and said 'Hi'. 

She then leans over, turns her head to the side, pushes up against me and hugs me.  A full hug.  I'm surprised and look around to see her mom, a black lady in an abaya who is holding the hand of her other daughter who is also staring at me.  I smile at the mom, and shrug.  The little girl looks up at me with these big eyes, and hugs again so I give her a smile and a light hug back with a small pat on her back.


She has this huge smile and toddles back to her mom.

My wife laughs and comments that I must look like a big teddy bear...when I feel another hug on my right arm.  The little girl's sister had wandered over to hug me as well.  Other parents who are sitting on the padded benches nearby are chuckling and commenting how cute this is.

I hug the little girl back, and she smiles, gurgles/giggles and toddles back to mom.

This happens multiple times until the mom and girls leave and I noticed they only were hugging me even though there were other dads of various races also in the playground area.  

My daughter, who is a mommy's girl, wanted hugs from me too every time the little girls would hug me so lots of hugs for this old man.

I can't explain it but it uplifted my day and I just wanted to share my experience in the hope it may brighten your day, if even just a little.",5.1280799031477,5.076461798305086,5.484285714285715,85.76737288135597,68.30508474576271,7.827602905569007,27.87409200968523,6.9916214562510826,1.2645312348668285,2271,65,475,16,35,725,269,590,0.011,0.848,0.141,0.995,2,0,0,0,0,0,63.0,12,1,3,3,43,31,0,0,33,1,39,20,7,2,3,84,69,57,0,7,13,19,4,1,0,4,1,1,0,15,25,50,0,2,5,7,1,10,6,1,1,1,10,19,75,30,71,51,6,103,0,1,14,12,87,52,0,9,39,329,100,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497009348764506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719054388976271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22816921573418256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956285251624802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05452498799381047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519684444650357,0.06718373777474003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264900166768589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464478854085136,0.0,0.053987814828068414,0.0,0.0,0.06267980889414251,0.0,0.0,0.032399363746355284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033477698636771205,0.061468700632349375,0.0364165563006266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332653409684483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576170589843892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042949604585997586,0.0,0.0,0.06364312977363637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03521516001041662,0.052231480139189636,0.0,0.13569703120561386,0.0,0.13104658148773193,0.0,0.031304889170723084,0.5137776017547442,0.0,0.0,0.16142615973615573,0.0,0.06994784636020193,0.05447615431101003,0.0,0.0,0.04277203664946487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752322819028083,0.05114581937194654,0.0,0.047104123717534856,0.0,0.0,0.06188617074380842,0.06814684201645177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21885699205588424,0.26895302063820753,0.0,0.0,0.048733607237519086,0.0,0.0,0.14230032203716414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944317805573807,0.06095210224816173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510612419450618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070836106658313,0.06829778236224017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078402817733085,0.0,0.04817808899740282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295553555784614,0.0,0.14945575070069975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969760653830999,0.0,0.0,0.07707699654629271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338319965297453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761310904845743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948900317972011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551861301614077,0.0,0.0,0.08252724748662027
parenting,rumrumq,2019/02/25,"What made you decide to become a parent? My husband and I have started discussing whether we want children or not. For a long time we just assumed we'd have them, but we kept putting it off because of life events (i.e. finishing school, buying a house, etc.). Now that we are settled into our careers and our lives we are starting the discussion of whether we even want kids. We can list the reasons why we shouldn't have a kid (the cons list), but we are trying to figure out the benefits/positives of having children. 

So what made you decide to be a parent or when did you know for sure you were ready to be a parent? ",7.460846994535514,6.1189013688524625,7.041639344262299,80.79338797814209,64.0,9.444808743169398,35.087431693989075,7.793537801064563,2.499651366120218,485,18,96,4,6,152,78,122,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.7998,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,12,4,1,0,5,1,0,0,10,0,14,1,0,3,1,34,22,10,0,3,8,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,13,0,1,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,5,0,19,1,12,13,1,12,0,0,0,0,27,3,0,3,8,73,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013513988894134,0.1995365176506697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20149551197396728,0.11933124799869267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846965116510696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992918539926074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12761300992082286,0.0,0.0,0.15953547743766655,0.15988782328756365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34190983945338155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6018400652433081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18162388597457654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857594995813932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284832437482526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557592054180001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17027993180884352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535049799958188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226634990905099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131284386578145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302714318869893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dutchtroll5,2019/02/25,"Being told how to parent. (Rant) First some pretext, was having some struggle trying to fit a large uhaul truck into (apparently) a compact only parking lot. No loading or unloading area so had to park on the icy side street. Queue scumbag Steve doppelgänger, my daughter almost falls on the ice while I’m holding her brother. Thankfully nobody fell but she was still shaken nonetheless and began crying. Steve sees myself reassuring her she’s okay and not injured. “You should take better care of your kids you piece of shit.” I’m still having a hard time walking on the snow with the kids and proceeded to ignore his remark. Go into the store, get the delivery setup. Steve proceeds back around again and says “ you need to treat your kids better.” That point I’m trying to figure out how to get the kids BACK into the truck while loading everything into the uhaul. “You can fuck off.” I said making eye contact. He muttered something under his breath proceeding to walk away. I have no idea what people like that believe they are accomplishing. Fuck you to all scumbag Steve’s out there. End rant. Daughter got a sucker for being a great helper and is now watching Frozen. ",4.012374681393375,6.84751621028038,4.0288700084961775,83.5029396771453,76.14953271028037,5.946983857264232,24.213254035683946,7.1686216300943375,1.2563999999999995,935,31,155,11,22,287,142,214,0.179,0.669,0.152,-0.7913,2,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,7,1,4,11,16,4,1,14,1,12,6,3,3,1,30,30,12,0,2,3,4,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,4,3,13,0,2,2,0,1,5,3,6,0,1,7,6,18,10,26,20,5,38,0,0,3,2,29,18,3,5,16,101,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855963612468038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409606135440902,0.0,0.0,0.14877033193520586,0.24351504885792385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784005816263694,0.0,0.2800865544675154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144327199923025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739345378811601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024666320680187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231026823780468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346881688997641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927747862535319,0.16545744524558847,0.0,0.08999110774486828,0.0,0.12664295481202914,0.17457591216217055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184601027952942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875222161201945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735936454417651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13461924932324867,0.0,0.0,0.10569651141130054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741080483296645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042850135261725,0.0,0.0,0.17582337422107586,0.0,0.0,0.10977647962897663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496871986145632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506223475775542,0.1259222927624993,0.0,0.0,0.12618045724948956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253885832074638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190171051155164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529090295473099,0.0,0.0,0.16553656552451207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905572734873147,0.0,0.0,0.14578279387478346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233223793435284,0.0,0.0,0.15130542512674702,0.0,0.21501171041318065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheConqueress,2019/02/25,"Help me to teach my children independence We have a 7 year old, a 6 year old, and a 4 month old. All boys. The older ones are really well behaved, good kids. They get along well and don’t complain about doing chores.

The cost of daycare and bills has become too much for our family, so I am considering moving to working overnight 12 hour shifts at the hospital I work at. I’ll make more money, but mostly the older boys won’t need after school care or summer daycare. The baby will still go to daycare, but taking the older ones out will save us a significant amount of money each month.

The problem is that I’ll need to sleep when I get home from work when they’re awake during the day. I’ll need them to get their own snacks, set up their own electronics, pick up after themselves, wipe their own butts when they poop, and understand a lot of general safety rules. Of course they can always just come and wake me up.

I’m just looking for some tips on how to make this work. Has anyone else had to work 3rd shift and also raise kids? My husband will do the best he can, but he won’t be home until 5:30 most days.

Any advice is appreciated.",4.631979621542938,5.267044454148472,5.10111790393013,85.68169141193597,69.52401746724891,7.853391557496361,24.000291120815138,7.793537801064563,0.9850539155749644,896,20,187,10,15,286,144,229,0.023,0.841,0.136,0.9794,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,7,6,13,8,0,0,14,0,19,5,4,5,1,34,34,17,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,5,2,11,1,0,1,0,4,3,3,2,2,2,1,1,17,6,26,27,13,32,0,0,1,1,20,7,1,5,21,114,19,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686384173096373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563761653570084,0.09951005912144664,0.0,0.0,0.08132660770336808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362145226798114,0.1225360564493215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207988160173245,0.0,0.0,0.12550434353587653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219319345053871,0.0,0.0,0.10301785110857907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154253791742142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990370483791218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274062032264735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18744552926191269,0.0,0.06796684507030326,0.10030802987927456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801599441921162,0.0,0.2399208966873596,0.0,0.11777395286660157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004270941904204,0.0,0.0,0.1016727751387806,0.0,0.0,0.15965707269500887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19091426177422446,0.127107286407507,0.08791382283521966,0.26602768367801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764748127335821,0.0,0.16207716234586464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144333177767229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661364733481286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210334094172312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967828950502367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550626311244062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991824168210594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449940807272912,0.14385435677936514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505499995053715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4353217164685919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402655313416286
parenting,jr_cameron,2019/02/25,"Experience with unexplainable pain? Hi all, before the details please know that we have seen our PCP regarding what follows and are following her advice. Really just hoping for ideas for the meantime.

Our daughter (3yo) has been dealing with extreme intermittent rectal pain for the last day, bad enough that it's woken her up crying in pain. The episodes seem to last a few minutes at a time. Her last BM was normal and our PCP doesn't have any sure idea of what is causing the pain. She had a few ideas (anal fissure, pinworm) and we're following through on potential solutions.

Has anyone had experience dealing with something similar? Any ideas on the cause? I understand the doctor's advice is what we should follow, and we are. How do I comfort my daughter when a spasm of pain comes on?

I just feel so helpless when she starts crying, she doesn't fully understand what's happening, neither do I.",4.984234079173838,7.277693000000005,5.170430292598971,79.11204819277111,70.80722891566266,8.11635111876076,30.531841652323585,8.841846274778883,2.7385986230636843,722,31,123,14,14,227,102,166,0.182,0.7659999999999999,0.053,-0.9761,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,11,0,17,7,1,3,2,31,32,8,0,3,2,2,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,7,11,0,1,9,0,0,5,3,7,0,0,6,2,17,3,16,25,5,19,0,1,1,0,17,6,0,2,8,83,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20047003075578665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950891315973465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172276240326657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564576570609297,0.0,0.0,0.08728369383173815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074537727485712,0.0,0.08835920278778596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253474452631097,0.06615233145837662,0.2115004573413944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498976736230964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598730254283377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006758900916856,0.0,0.0,0.05186495677726717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070665459150493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188003075372057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4631783539494135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056372488242157764,0.2508367276320204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050163356903613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5457346841757114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259644905552665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571211424351774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338034607004307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789671774554351,0.0,0.0,0.07260304959822418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667563921693052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05981225519496355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135681986467194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsmiawallace00,2019/02/25,"Son (11) Seeing Porn on Dad's Computer My 11 year old son lives with me half the time and his father the other half.  Just for reference, his father is a narcissist POS.  My son broke down in tears and trauma this weekend and told me that when he was last at his father's house, he saw porn on his dad's computer.  Long story short...  The 11 year old was bullying his younger brother and after several warnings was sent to bed early. His brother and I were hanging out watching a movie and he (8) used the phrase ""pornhub"".  I asked him how he knew that word, and he told me he heard it from his brother.  Later on, I asked his brother about it and he denied it.  I explained to him that if he was interested in learning more about sex, he could ask me or my brother/his uncle (if he wanted a man to talk to) and we would learn in a more appropriate way.  I explained that porn on the internet can be very upsetting to people who aren't emotionally prepared for what they could come across.  Seemed like a good talk until I asked him for his phone (part of his earlier punishment) and he broke down sobbing and told me how his dad told him he could type up his homework on the computer and when he (my son) turned it on, the browser was up and at pornhub.  Apparently after that, he looked at it on his phone too.  He was very upset at the wide array of sex he saw.  I need help with this guys!  How do I help undo this damage?  Am I over-reacting?  There is no sense in talking to his father.  He is impossible to deal with.",4.244215686274508,4.766385284313722,5.22340522875817,84.86432352941178,70.33986928104575,8.342222222222222,27.391503267973857,8.395991825355821,1.6655456209150332,1171,37,249,17,20,385,147,306,0.113,0.8440000000000001,0.043,-0.9657,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,1,0,10,11,1,2,13,0,19,5,0,4,0,42,42,22,0,9,4,15,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,16,19,0,0,7,1,0,3,2,8,0,2,16,6,38,3,42,21,3,42,0,4,5,5,75,23,1,4,16,158,54,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4512286885483725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394376635668827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890278707375221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440217560035252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357339122516124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120958949611343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194791063399509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176082922732635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923328981593594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835954976219363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895170491018496,0.0,0.10655099791196958,0.10678632363712903,0.10132972394665753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894729055824619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532390231586352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067038893229074,0.0,0.08365516794635468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615581933789398,0.10985052567215976,0.0,0.13631914113513427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909622168174387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036178330154995,0.0,0.0,0.4612092059411074,0.0,0.0,0.13125083149744066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421737508348207,0.0,0.1991254997201859,0.07117240687508825,0.09577969177407317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571823486786212,0.0,0.0,0.15541093004191164
parenting,Boum82,2019/02/25,"HELP! How to approach the subject of our separation with our 4 year old?? My wife and I have had a number of difficulties in our marriage. We have decided that after 6yrs, to separate. But are worried about how to approach the subject with our 4yo girl. 

She will be living with my wife in our family home while I move back with my parents who live relatively locally. It is the view that I will see her 2 or 3 nights a week and a Sunday where we do a gymnastics class together. 

We still love her very much and do not want this to have a negative impact on her. 

Has anyone shared this experience, and has any words of wisdom or advice they can give in handling this situation with my daughter??

Thank you in advance ",4.4772857142857125,5.689220728571431,5.631428571428572,79.62357142857144,70.28571428571428,9.028571428571428,29.0,9.3871,2.5005857142857137,562,21,110,12,10,187,93,140,0.063,0.8109999999999999,0.126,0.8797,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,8,1,1,1,6,4,0,0,8,0,14,1,0,2,0,21,19,10,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,7,12,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,21,4,19,15,1,20,0,0,2,1,25,7,0,2,9,85,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081529679823618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485553887886612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894301966083526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379316366491167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083667167985449,0.2008088591367421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043406251966445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277752681878972,0.0,0.2136685136598224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761871903009529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19225174526875294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263981615358497,0.15658840988604902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998974348226137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235203763068256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365247391894203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974307240976516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394345358072398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011174571451365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19611293124304585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757572986761182,0.12564006106923545,0.0,0.17086546545697573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163241369351979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717281456816158
parenting,baseballfanatic_eve,2019/02/25,"Time management as a first time parent - when does it start to kick in or should I just embrace the chaos? I'm 27, married with a 1 year old and going to school. My week is a mixed bag of maybe one day that everything gets done as it should and the rest are just a mess. Laundry will sometimes pile up, as will dishes. No meals, basically relying on fast food, leading to an unhealthy lifestyle (not for my baby, there's always a grandparent available to help out making a meal for her and she never eats junk or drinks sugary stuff in excess).
I know the obvious answer is developing a schedule, which was easy to maintain as a single person. Having to deal with a husband on an odd work schedule and a toddler that demands attention is something I definitely never prepped myself for. I can't rely on asking any of the elders because all I get in return is ""We just got on with it and we survived."" 
Guess what I'm asking is more along the lines of advice on how to find a balance in everything so everything is copasetic. 
I appreciate any words, kind or not, at this point. Thanks all!",5.136947439353102,5.958869042452832,5.956280323450137,79.33009433962266,68.48113207547169,8.509973045822104,30.23719676549865,8.634040054169528,2.3332536388140155,855,32,160,13,14,281,138,212,0.067,0.84,0.094,0.6996,2,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,4,7,3,0,0,18,0,15,6,0,3,5,36,28,15,0,2,8,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,9,12,6,0,4,1,0,2,6,1,0,2,3,0,13,2,33,21,5,30,0,0,0,0,11,13,0,4,15,115,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641554201615173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246734578165554,0.0,0.0,0.20378380807703025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28014815451539943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133709837184747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663019883415422,0.15447173815236406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311202875812945,0.15333167055566824,0.0,0.14677976766476936,0.0,0.15331705545187987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40398201004756906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369450857597532,0.12744828108217224,0.1811792381046415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656361773312974,0.0,0.08515381928831099,0.0,0.11983552106920507,0.0,0.16505846999580304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043022292466253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602851185562328,0.08234456182460001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100015011012419,0.0,0.15052786910124327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311216325938093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572250319841283,0.0,0.1015310433998082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16637234733824405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082881491361112,0.0,0.0,0.14164106854574074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163948043641445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534913268615266,0.1481891424133974,0.0,0.1060529079471166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152348663038114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379465371195667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473821359856676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018737940284878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908055755155396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648784828559506
parenting,MrsKrispyTV,2019/02/25,"My child wants to do nothing but eat! My child is 5 years old. She is no way overweight. But she constantly wants to eat! OMG it drives me crazy! She is not starving. Every single hour it seems like she's asking for a snack. She eats her meals and then immediately asks for a snack. It's driving me crazy!

I swear the kid eats more in a day than I do!

OK, rant over. ",-0.8027272727272745,1.3537180779220819,0.9322077922077908,100.84688311688316,95.49350649350649,3.838961038961039,14.792207792207792,5.565023196281405,-1.0791454545454546,280,6,68,2,11,90,53,77,0.203,0.682,0.115,-0.7698,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,5,8,0,0,0,7,10,4,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,8,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,7,10,2,11,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,7,39,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469759266368336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005410980507163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968079118557648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7595599189531355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635529196064965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18275440364785345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066277458482032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806461685203048,0.0,0.19473018216937774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894088919417125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21891437715011447,0.14730112756443978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950448371148653
parenting,pyramidboob,2019/02/25,"Is it appropriate for my 15 y/o daughter to take the basement bedroom? I'm a mother of five. 15 year old daughter, 13 year old son, and 10 year old girl/boy/girl triplets. We live in a two story four bedroom house. One of those bedrooms is in the basement, while the other three are on the second floor.

The boys share a room and are doing fine, but the girls have outgrown their room to the point they're all three miserable. To give you an idea, these bedrooms are so small they couldn't (comfortably) fit a queen bed. The 15 y/o has a single bed while the 10s have a bunk bed. There's barely enough space left for a dresser and that's all they have. All of their toys and the teen's laptop are in the basement anyway. 

Our basement is renovated and not a dungeon at all. My problem is allowing a 15 year old that kind of space and privacy. There's a bathroom down there as well as our washer and dryer so we'll be going in and out, but something about it doesn't sit right with me. It seems like way too much free reign; she'll basically have an entire floor to herself most of the time. She's not a bad kid but I already know I wouldn't be comfortable with her taking friends or, God forbid, boys into the basement. 

Thoughts???



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parenting,clairebear2003,2019/02/25,"I am 15yrs old and my mother still hasn’t given me “The talk” and o don’t think she’s gonna. Hey, I’m Not completely sure what community this goes in but I’m putting it here because I think it may go in this one but sorry if it’s the wrong one. 

So anyway, I’m a fifteen year old girl and my mother was sixteen when she had me (unplanned pregnancy) and ever since then she barely even talks to me about things that are important. Not just that but anything in general, she just won’t talk to me. All she does is mope around because she had me at an early age and she didn’t want a child then. 

I also have do my have my biological father in the picture. He left a year after I was born supposedly because he didn’t want to take care of me or he couldn’t take care of me. So I have a stepdad and an eight year old brother (that was also an unplanned pregnancy)   My father doesn’t want to have anything to do with me or my brother. I don’t even know why he lives with us. My mother is basically the same way. She doesn’t help me with anything or talk to me about things like “puberty”. I had to find all that stuff out by myself with no help from either parents. It was very difficult but somehow I’ve  managed it. I’ve read so much on puberty, sex, pregnancy and consent that I know as much as a kid that was taught about it would know. About two years ago, (before I knew about periods) I got my period and freakin freaked out because I didn’t know what was happening. I went to my mom to ask her and she just said “just look it up, I don’t have time for that”. So I looked it up and realized it was normal. I’ve had to learn how to use a tampon all by myself (had no clue how to do is it) and that’s all because she doesn’t want to talk about it or is too lazy to parent her children. If not I don’t know what else it could be. 

The same thing is happening to my younger brother (8yrs). They won’t help him with anything. I’m basically the one that’s parenting them while they go to work and go to parties and who else knows where they go. Its definitely hard to look out for my younger brother and myself because I have school mainly and I can’t look out for him too. 

My parents basically don’t engage on any conversation with us at all. They hardly ever talk to us for some reason. We eat dinner in silence and if my brother try’s to talk my mom will say “shut up and eat your food”. He will start to cry. It drives me crazy and my brother and i don’t invite friends over because of this reason. They also make me read my brother to sleep at night (while they do whatever they want in their room). I’m honestly tired of it and I know that a child should not be treated this way or have to take care of their other siblings. It’s utterly ridiculous. 

Any advice or anything on what I can do about all this. Please let me know because I’m so tired of my parents acting like this. ",2.3907166853303465,3.574630342105266,3.8363563829787246,90.59853723404257,75.34868421052632,6.884994400895858,24.284854423292273,7.378060373470096,0.8443914753639414,2240,69,510,26,47,741,229,608,0.075,0.82,0.105,0.9511,5,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,4,1,10,1,34,14,1,0,16,0,58,8,1,6,9,99,106,50,0,13,22,19,2,2,1,8,2,2,1,5,42,32,4,0,16,2,0,8,23,4,0,5,21,8,82,10,73,72,13,60,0,0,4,1,75,25,0,12,27,358,124,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057298079519652025,0.05197696672604196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14067272672623404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974850674477653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412607233996824,0.05219816085714071,0.054816418440524435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28594998883531497,0.0,0.04989462026902525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934886212345616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061478364468506484,0.0,0.0,0.046815796085694056,0.0,0.06440850928967788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131245331621878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999781872926615,0.09796512487221877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745658894004961,0.10607860654177913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05359192272649788,0.0,0.07090246191954487,0.0,0.0453017584994897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329596685700162,0.0,0.04689628656187875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370262503879296,0.0,0.105052052135097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179067226076087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577969626156955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370780636150475,0.05995892581972227,0.0,0.05729283454090652,0.0,0.05177635407525141,0.0,0.19695671624752564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0391397523462112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373467315231375,0.0,0.0,0.08620790035784623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05502558636209854,0.05745048843843049,0.0,0.0,0.1845847563938116,0.0,0.11919910383134792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255397567905144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643643368267183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058945024516048564,0.0,0.0,0.11730303725108543,0.0,0.0,0.12057442993425263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577593151631792,0.046629423126489176,0.0,0.0593424092054784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048504016419425484,0.0,0.05867799695154035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563781070697962,0.04150261556368029,0.0,0.04682650661989583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712379192197633,0.0,0.0,0.05526340712954652,0.0,0.13226013673321266,0.3299038062829568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686476320297452,0.07514271509557151,0.0,0.0,0.03419091962514518,0.13478611031057666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039809758074037166,0.0,0.05727851091965747,0.0,0.21159440555534664,0.050642376128412436,0.0,0.048380552885303074,0.17292413074333404,0.09308450097501653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543558359091442,0.05290955482245523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042687452264783765,0.0,0.0,0.041653084121189836,0.06410887957410484,0.0,0.15103774715769633
parenting,eviemoon18,2019/02/25,"How do I get my house CPS ready? Hello, not sure if this is the right subredddit!  My ex-husband wants to modify our custody order, the kiddos are older now and he wants an order that reflects something like if they were younger. I am not in agreement with this idea, my current concern is when I seek legal advice that his wife will be petty. So I want to know what needs to be done to get my house ready for CPS, if it helps I live in NC. I am at a loss because we have co-parented pretty well for the last ten years, they just don’t like that I recently got re-married.  Now they are having issues with that idea, I just want to be prepared for anything they will throw at me.",6.2661428571428575,4.811272185714287,6.538571428571429,83.80642857142857,66.42857142857143,9.142857142857146,30.714285714285715,7.447530270364453,1.7487857142857144,526,15,114,4,7,170,91,140,0.06,0.77,0.17,0.9199,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,4,1,8,6,0,0,5,0,17,0,0,1,1,22,26,7,0,8,7,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,1,1,3,0,20,5,14,18,0,16,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,3,10,79,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17549536235481927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778903038274194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947770267064197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837851140261348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765896329930604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436362417775208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037682694638135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4144504380549239,0.0,0.4054753359133443,0.0,0.18744753643893428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869914434194993,0.1463915653351188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547929777720686,0.0,0.15858315140791393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331652974720344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827097726564988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732557377832947,0.0,0.0,0.15337070774305453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825880476430136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692634681732273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42371239300312025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614749035438197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115651451099702
parenting,ebsales,2019/02/25,"Be extremely careful letting your kids watch Peppa Pig on Youtube I always let my kids stream peppa pig episodes while I’m cooking or cleaning up the house and it’s never been a problem. Last night by boys were watching it and started crying really loud, I went into the room and saw that a gory episode of peppa where she is slaughtering her family with butcher knives was playing. The episode was titled like every other normal one and starts out completely normal as well. Unfortunately as I started clicking on the next up videos I found over 20 of these disgusting episodes. I flagged them all but as of now they are still up and running. Be careful parents, the episodes are grotesque ",7.238917322834643,8.216034338582677,6.303612204724412,78.1439222440945,63.88188976377953,8.55472440944882,37.13484251968504,8.472884824447931,3.1829220472440944,559,27,94,7,8,169,92,127,0.048,0.871,0.08199999999999999,0.3175,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,2,0,4,7,1,0,7,0,11,1,0,0,2,16,20,11,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,5,8,1,0,1,3,0,2,1,2,1,1,7,5,11,5,16,9,1,22,0,0,4,0,9,10,0,1,11,65,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456135910535908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568472776359564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18348363129560472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922287177444472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744461440329587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497394060187007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918779034659783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019259106651848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426479377496924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35789766149755536,0.0,0.08549590916792289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497039178007073,0.0,0.1861139384121569,0.16422516257828834,0.34292468023573824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858418056085103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194316219123266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745087365799854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210915168405423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715966101761133,0.0,0.13975481536935694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734555427511768,0.16222627652736074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pizza_witch,2019/02/25,"Secret to toddler behavior? So I have been taking my now 20 month old son to the library for story time since he was 6 months. He was never the most attentive, but I figured he would get it the more we went to storytime. But now, he wont sit still for even five minutes and listen to the story, and half the time he won’t follow directions in the little games and songs. He will sit and do crafts at the library. He reads tons of books at home. 
But I see the other kids listening to the story, and I feel like a pretty bad parent. What am I missing? Is there some secret to getting him to pay attention? ",3.2733243727598555,4.2908459919354875,4.628494623655914,86.41829749103943,72.95161290322581,7.446594982078854,24.261648745519715,7.793537801064563,1.1403379928315416,469,13,98,6,9,156,83,124,0.076,0.865,0.059,-0.2824,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,10,0,11,0,0,0,1,19,21,9,0,1,3,2,1,1,0,4,0,3,1,1,3,6,0,0,6,4,1,2,3,2,0,2,4,5,8,1,13,13,4,17,0,1,1,0,17,4,0,2,10,66,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19680183279451974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567934995123567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917832092951415,0.16838599060933768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462897693516284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364289343433767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515238871538043,0.2362359350158964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762711467442633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817883822815365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473302381762693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26171985321820024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397942894637315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357663929751521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878244624563873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497563343628915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823240761905796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721902804184175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27488017297520506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184986794846115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743637044151036,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,icoviral,2019/02/25,"What is cord blood banking and how can cure 85 deadly disease instantly Parents should know for newborn What is Cord blood  ?
Very few people aware with the cord blood system and its effectiveness, Cord blood is basically umbilical cord cut when a baby born,after this cut some blood remains in the blood vessel and that is completely useless for that new born baby but worth millions for needy. and the blood remains in the vessel is called ” Cord blood”

Cord blood is the most health and effect blood with huge number of white blood cell, Red blood cells , platelets ,stem cells that same found in the Bone marrow and Cord blood also an alternative of the bone marrow for transplant if required , or some patient needs for bone marrow this work more effectively.

[Please read the complete Article](http://icoviral.today/2019/02/what-is-cord-blood-banking-and-how-can-cure-85-deadly-disease-instantly/)",16.627350993377487,11.878890940397355,12.364158940397356,60.207165562913936,50.192052980132466,14.4641059602649,46.756291390728464,10.793553405168565,5.028016158940399,736,25,113,9,5,207,83,151,0.055,0.871,0.07400000000000001,0.5849,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,0,5,3,3,2,0,10,0,8,17,16,4,0,24,11,12,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,8,8,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,12,9,6,8,0,1,2,0,6,4,0,5,3,57,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19853710151939252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535059022372657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5206013946747723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27220930675479954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638936479227794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13643972501639445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18408504643021906,0.0,0.2397754863560241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756684451064823,0.0,0.0,0.17211540605820055,0.0,0.0,0.27251996543004625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483317721626491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353258008344369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048442856683987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073957705513974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZuleTheFridgeGod,2019/02/25,"When can my child sit in a forward facing car seat? My daughter is 11months old, 24 pounds and 29.5 inches tall. Her legs are super cramped in the rear facing car seat. 
My mom said as long as a baby can walk they can be forward facing, is that true? 
I want to put her forward facing but i don't know if its safe enough.  ",1.5170646766169114,3.226054462686569,2.678432835820896,95.74859452736321,79.0,4.466666666666667,20.12189054726368,3.1291,-0.5307691542288562,247,6,55,0,6,79,50,67,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.8276,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,8,6,5,0,1,7,11,6,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,3,5,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,1,6,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936740143229761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093871927224128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371722968449431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44622165058011065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3997945625477025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830094220859611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624174808945035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472319563694174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trollwizard7,2019/02/25,"Toddler biting My son is 2 and he has a medical condition that lands him in the hospital a lot.  His medical issue causes his blood sugar to drop and he gets cranky and acts out.  We just spent a week in the hospital and he has been really hostile ever since we got out.

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I'm not sure how to help him out - he is biting his friends today at daycare.  Does anyone have tips to help their toddler stop biting and stop acting aggressively in general?  He's throwing things, hitting us, and throwing pretty good fits right now.  I typically expect it after a long stay, but I need tips on helping him with these behaviors so he doesn't get kicked out of daycare. 

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Thanks ",4.607175572519086,6.2679474656488585,5.46251145038168,79.23162977099237,70.5267175572519,8.293435114503817,29.130534351145037,8.841846274778883,2.4502818320610693,542,21,97,10,10,177,89,131,0.073,0.804,0.123,0.8235,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,1,0,5,6,2,0,6,0,7,4,1,2,2,26,15,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,4,13,1,2,0,0,1,4,2,2,0,0,3,1,13,4,15,11,1,26,0,0,0,0,21,12,0,1,8,59,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199484395269277,0.3588117434582581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323741317639848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167296169109554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920588070502725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355412669248135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140708195794437,0.0,0.15427772840287832,0.0,0.0,0.12383833627250165,0.11808587614554125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29689170856198777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410391066900606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306619335353277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552322413817318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974753270182268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947752899663918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020891188390792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458571395660252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608875152102952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221341751208396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15737083412040684,0.0,0.2468770880770056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915446889530467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359324643617166,0.0,0.0,0.09808934399070536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995100462587176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759978169791849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843259721152158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588117434582581,0.0
parenting,mamalife2019,2019/02/25,Abandoning child these questions go to every man out there that decided to abandon your baby even before he/she was born. Why did you do it? Do you ever think about it? Do you regret? What makes you not go and try to coparent?,0.8460000000000001,3.381639266666672,2.5438888888888904,90.18250000000002,89.66666666666666,5.666666666666668,18.61111111111111,7.1686216300943375,0.5667777777777783,177,5,35,3,6,58,36,45,0.184,0.816,0.0,-0.8504,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,11,9,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,5,0,5,7,0,5,0,3,0,0,8,1,0,1,2,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31351464552219105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433506347374005,0.33327437455296194,0.3104259395758317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187850070146151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24593604513844866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127362557506569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360809798705713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25014605028779346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324590954988553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Setlio,2019/02/25,"Writing skills for my daughter, reality check Hi Reddit,

I have started helping my daughter to structure her writing as she was writing anywhere and in what ever way. She is left hand, after a few weeks, she is basically writing like this:
https://imgur.com/a/WrahpJV
It was also all done by dictation, for this specific time, I repeated once the word, and she wrote it.
She will be 4 and a half in a few months, and doesn't go to school yet as we are in Switzerland and for her, school will only started in August this year.

I don't push her for anything, she is starting things by herself, I offer only guidance and support.

Everyone is amazed by her skills (not just writing), but I feel it's more because she doesn't spend hours in front of TV or ipad, but on the other side, I wasn't that good at her age so in some way, I feel that she is a bit ""scary""...
What do you all think?
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parenting,Fillimilli,2019/02/25,"Slow reaction time in emergencies So this may not be the right place to post this and it may be a weird concern. But I’ve noticed that every time I see my son is about to get hurt or get something he’s not supposed to, I automatically freeze for a moment before going after him.

A couple of examples: he’s toddling toward the stone fireplace, and I notice there’s a toy in his path that will trip him and could cause him to hit his head on the stone. For some reason, I don’t immediately jump to stop it. I pause for a second before I go.

This will happen with less dangerous situations, too. For example, he crawls toward the dog’s water bowl, and I can’t seem to “unpause” quickly enough to stop him from dunking his fist in.

Any suggestions on how to work myself past this automatic reaction? I find myself worrying about what might happen in a serious situation where I need to move quickly.",5.5438068181818165,6.0364362215909075,6.673863636363637,75.71204545454545,67.4659090909091,9.581818181818182,29.63636363636364,9.573946990214177,2.5998022727272727,709,24,135,14,11,239,110,176,0.098,0.895,0.006999999999999999,-0.9154,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,0,10,0,11,2,1,3,0,22,21,8,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,5,1,2,3,1,0,5,4,4,0,1,0,2,19,0,27,12,3,27,0,1,1,0,12,11,0,6,10,95,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477768285327356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26221645580717345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827958087248326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301799331463137,0.17048333389874398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920278813428776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981656651256002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408236395172862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099780684245704,0.0,0.1751310853463494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724996667872603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812751256799742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494267710677218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634514097643114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375952864187182,0.0,0.1142461860791928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.350835503115423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708398588323354,0.0,0.0,0.1609777318044523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475632305705415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841687694914566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158096552587392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277946666826027,0.14026596672075334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3463781371578868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861604664313034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576306389231776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968714295355132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216993315067243,0.15647273130686729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cosmobella20,2019/02/25,"Is letting my 5yr old daughter and 14 mo old son bathe together inappropriate? I was just waylaid by someone who said it was “sick.” I have a 5-yr old daughter and 14-month old son. My son has a little bath seat and my daughter got a bath bomb maker for her birthday a few weeks ago. Since my son has been able to sit in a stable manner in his bath seat (8 months or so) they have always LOVED bath time together. They pretend they’re swimming, they play with toys and bath paint and my daughter makes bath bombs for them to enjoy. I have never, not one time at all considered this inappropriate? I posted a photo of them on my Instagram and someone commented that it was sick that I let them bathe together. 

????? 

WHY is this sick? Because they are brother/sister? My daughter has asked about gender different body parts but this was my son was born. We explained anatomically correct names and age appropriate explanations of why men/women have different parts. She has never asked again and has never said anything about her brother in the bath. Is what I’m doing wrong? It’s really just out of convenience to bathe them together. I do almost all of the childcare because my husbands kidneys are failing. We also have a 16-yr old daughter and she didn’t understand the sick comment either. Should I stop? I’m really hurt and now I’m paranoid I’m doing something harmful. Jeeez 😩",4.040349825087457,6.3052845325670495,4.749828419123774,81.22040479760122,73.40613026819923,7.297751124437783,28.58920539730135,8.18289091462,2.1499427286356823,1097,45,195,18,23,352,140,261,0.128,0.833,0.039,-0.9766,2,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,8,1,8,7,0,0,10,0,28,7,2,2,6,34,41,14,0,1,6,13,0,0,0,1,4,2,10,0,10,14,0,1,2,14,0,1,5,4,0,1,10,2,31,3,19,28,6,28,0,2,0,1,38,7,0,2,18,127,41,1,0.10992491763347106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744180699207064,0.0,0.11007392638846733,0.0,0.0,0.08790691691670792,0.0914663373725994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045884100235717,0.0,0.2055299184283473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401841900633218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221018026919887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296962852017876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791699846381942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767689784785387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22481135184250733,0.0,0.0,0.1101736457807737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099211529919532,0.0,0.07337573610131633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175482041020298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543426194054453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5767385484742841,0.0,0.07448796906766879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380759473840507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527768503907688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408414340487726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20912753844456086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093102779916283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862780519819987,0.08462557203982002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190215325356613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819620692969586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443571596687865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817513835675292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838028087402632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018564112953425,0.0,0.0
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parenting,rosesforhands,2019/02/25,"Parents charging rent at home Hello! In order to get a bigger audience than my Facebook friends, I'm asking this here: 
How many of you paid rent while you lived with your parents? How much was it? If you're a parent, did you charge your kid rent? How much? 

Now on the flip side, consider this: 
Your kid has a genuine disability that causes them to be unable to work more than 35 hours without mind-numbing, liver-killing prescribed drugs. Your kid has always been a hard worker and worked hard to get off said drugs. You are putting pressure on your kid to move out, and the kid wants to save aggressively so they can move out. The kid pays for their insurance and phone bill. Would you charge your kid rent that would be 1/4 of their monthly earnings, while also requiring that they buy their own clothing/sundries? ",5.358116883116882,6.788829227272728,4.581688311688313,87.14967532467533,68.41558441558442,7.15844155844156,28.285714285714285,7.348242739294969,1.4395662337662332,647,22,124,6,11,192,100,154,0.056,0.903,0.041,0.5027,7,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,11,6,5,7,4,1,1,7,0,11,2,0,4,0,17,18,11,0,4,2,3,2,0,1,2,2,1,5,7,6,6,0,1,0,0,8,3,1,2,0,0,5,3,18,2,20,9,4,18,0,0,0,0,32,9,0,1,5,79,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12044006144759033,0.12531677460580026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079686145905276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547144876144835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34931173488010897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635830279981887,0.0,0.15737148819438576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698279028664123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107072188901666,0.0,0.14831718558025808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329884067398091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15269147637692845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206975540984216,0.0,0.1202127690558116,0.32014200980514684,0.22142639283390905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.501692492945104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140125324844478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326138638505145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883168792070173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517940949573285,0.0,0.21928682951389067,0.0,0.0,0.2139732467460101,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jlm8981victorian,2019/02/25,"Parents, do you get involved in any cyber bullying of your child? I’m not sure if I took the best plan of action and need some input.  This weekend, my nine year old daughter was playing an online game that she and some friends from school like to play.  I try to limit her online time to some degree by keeping her busy and reserve the right to always go through her iPod to make sure all activity is appropriate.  Well, for the second weekend in a row, my daughter came running to me sobbing.  Her friend, who has been to our house multiple times and we’ve been very good to, decided to act really nasty to my daughter and got the other girls to chime in.  I read the wall of texts this girl was sending her and it was very abusive, especially for a nine year old.  She was threatening my daughter, blaming my daughter for things she didn’t do and taking her aggression out on her and singling her out.  I’ve gotten sick of it because my daughter is really sweet, almost too sweet for her own good and has a hard time standing up for herself.  My daughter told this girl to stop and this girl then decided to get others involved in bashing my child.  This girl has one friend that she clings to and has let everyone else know that no one else is to speak to her.  If my daughter speaks to her, this girl goes bananas.  Then she got extremely irate that my daughter wasn’t responding fast enough for her liking.  The reason my child wasn’t responding quickly, at that time, was because I took the phone to monitor and investigate this situation.  I told the girl that it was me and that they need to be nice.  The girl immediately said she was sorry and felt “embarrassed” by her behavior.  I reminded all of the girls that they should be treating each other with kindness and not to be mean to one another.  They all agreed and I hand the iPod back to my daughter but stayed close to see what would happen.  I’ve started to see some possessive and bullying behavior from this girl when she’s around and I don’t want my daughter hanging out with her anymore.  But did I go too far by intervening?  My husband says I should t have said anything to them and let my daughter learn to fight her own battles but I feel like sometimes an adult should be present when the kids are online and “unsupervised”.  If this girl were at my home and treating my child this way, I would intervene then.  My daughter did tell the girl to stop and that all of the fighting she his girl has been causing lately is pushing her away.  So she was able to speak up for herself but this girl is very manipulative for her age.  Seeing how the results of cyber bullying can be, I don’t want to mess around with it at all.  What would you all do if you were in my shoes?  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parenting,Taaliah,2019/02/25,"Learned of this app called Fammle for planning family tasks. Anybody tried it? Your thoughts? I'm mostly curious how well it's featured to handle planning for a large family (10+ members).

The link: [https://fammle.keepsolid.com/](https://fammle.keepsolid.com/)",9.531441441441439,14.203620027027025,7.544729729729731,51.95421171171174,78.45945945945945,6.790990990990991,30.490990990990987,7.793537801064563,3.1933639639639644,219,9,25,4,6,65,33,37,0.0,0.867,0.133,0.5803,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,13,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006019796715505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.739687644961542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31145778757649245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663591256188475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527422636033312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AsiansArentReal,2019/02/25,"Right's to paternity leave? Hello all, my wife is due in May and I actually just found out parental leave was a thing for fathers. Did light reading for the FMLA act, but what I'm most concerned about is my job.

I work for a construction company, I'm in the office, but it seems the stigma still stands that father's aren't really necessary to stay home for long amounts of time. Most father's I know of in my workplace took 1-2 weeks paid or unpaid depending on how much PTO they had. I'm not too concerned with being paid if I take paternity leave, but I'm concerned I'd put stress on my job. 

There's only 3 counterparts to me right now, and 2 of them are still in training... They should be back by May, but I understand it will still be stressful if it was just them. Apart from that, I don't want my company to think that I'm just trying to take advantage of the system or try to put them in a tight spot.

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Has anyone been in a similar situation to this? Any insight on how I should approach my boss? ",4.5920979020979065,4.809179052631581,5.58526315789474,83.65376518218628,69.47846889952153,9.110195068089807,28.51711446448289,9.057496981413335,2.0316261317629745,798,26,172,14,13,264,121,209,0.07,0.917,0.013,-0.8411,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,5,2,13,3,0,2,8,0,19,0,0,4,1,35,35,12,0,5,12,5,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,1,6,1,2,5,3,2,0,0,9,2,19,1,29,18,5,30,0,0,0,0,11,13,0,10,9,111,28,5,0.0,0.0,0.12811336164234022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224517718009344,0.1595233285025057,0.0892770056086487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179619160264968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094859543754782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439451360323789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316876471554977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605564263774805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214975495087103,0.0,0.0,0.41702952135456894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618140669107427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650817949969168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984670860558156,0.0,0.0,0.14577433925295916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639515396150481,0.0,0.0,0.13131862077483494,0.0,0.08410331152329442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242300894112174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951519786104894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756769787065302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993031011831122,0.314528544654789,0.0,0.3007686805600812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741709616742675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721865395603981,0.08412090546730935,0.0,0.0,0.0765522276901787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586034763795694,0.17826520595447035,0.0,0.0,0.1366703304940895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743417009500064,0.0,0.10530737889617796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557565579148958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595233285025057,0.0
parenting,DentedByLightning,2019/02/25,"I want my son(10) to have a dad he can look up to, but I'm also done pretending I have my shit together. When I was a kid all the dads acted like they were on top of everything. Whether they were traditionally masculine guys or the hippy baby boomer types, I'm not sure they ever admitted to not being able to keep their lives under control.

I have discovered that I do not have my life under control and I don't want to pretend I do.

My son and I discovered around the same time that we are dyslexic and have ADHD. I have had to explain to him that I can't always predict what I am going to do in certain situations, I can't read very well, and I mess up at work a lot because I can't remember things.

I know I am worrying him slightly because every boy at a certain age wants to think his dad is perfect (then they flip on you and you are a complete idiot, I've heard). But I also have to help him explore ways to cope with his learning disabilities, even when I have not really coped with mine very well.",6.800813397129186,4.9806775263157945,7.692100478468897,77.1392033492823,65.60287081339713,10.84803827751196,34.297129186602874,9.642632912329526,2.9478053588516744,789,28,167,13,10,268,119,209,0.112,0.762,0.126,-0.2586,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,5,5,9,10,2,0,8,0,27,2,1,2,6,38,40,14,0,3,8,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,5,9,0,3,7,3,0,3,8,3,2,0,6,2,36,7,24,33,3,21,0,0,1,0,25,11,1,2,7,125,41,4,0.1541474915492815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185255329444774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465433866000113,0.12826306146708813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722394864489035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793376020630573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162071211066625,0.0,0.345779038399543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774640272086388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181296436868346,0.1394352312167651,0.129875909957065,0.0,0.13853782591686092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760557177779345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263025166788666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033218142958157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370133731384111,0.0,0.0,0.08471543005031347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887893196417027,0.07530867808042742,0.0,0.13611505915097774,0.0,0.12944506986360313,0.0,0.0,0.13105068494873648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418920604968558,0.0,0.09875083025857677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461905866772953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582301849163618,0.0,0.17326823902811014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452821865245687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240874391502264,0.09877148838187212,0.0,0.0,0.08988464194367596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25437564831888204,0.2727605530186728,0.12235510381668464,0.0,0.0,0.2771942145446429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222120973564062,0.15654426016559705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mr_casaubon,2019/02/25,"Wife uncomfortable with the way grandma (my mom) tickles our 2 year old daig Just looking for some perspective here because this is a weird one. My mom – who has a really good relationship with my wife and daughter, and is a part-time caregiver – likes to tickle my 2 year old daughter’s back and stomach in a really slow and almost sensual way, and it’s giving my wife the creeps. She doesn’t think there is any creepy or malicious intent at all (there are no concerns in this regard whatsoever), but when she does it, my daughter is almost in a weird hypnotic trance, just kind of lays there frozen. She seems to like it, and will occasionally even request it, but I have to admit the whole thing is a little uncomfortable even for me; it just seems a bit weird.  I think my mom did this with my sister when she was little, and also does it with my sister’s kids, and clearly doesn’t think anything of it, as she doesn’t hesitate to do it in the presence of the parents, and the kids seem to like it. 

Anyway, my wife just gets the heebie jeebie’s from the whole thing and has suggested maybe I/we should bring it up and tell her that it makes us uncomfortable and would like her to stop doing it. I totally understand and don’t necessarily disagree, but really worry about embarrassing my mom about something she clearly hasn’t given a second thought to, and I’m worried she will feel defensive and maybe not react super well (she maybe doesn’t react the best to constructive criticism in general). 

What do people think of this? Should we say something, and if so, how should we approach it? I don’t want my mom to think that we think she’s some kind of pervert (we don’t), but hypnotizing our toddler with sensual tickles (in front of us no less) is definitely getting awkward for us!!",9.374173913043476,7.011660098550728,9.07913043478261,70.93521739130438,61.05797101449275,12.330434782608695,37.492753623188406,10.793553405168565,3.805527536231884,1414,50,270,27,15,459,159,345,0.15,0.753,0.098,-0.9613,1,0,2,0,0,0,41.0,9,0,0,2,20,16,1,2,17,0,29,1,1,5,4,70,51,28,0,6,11,15,1,4,0,6,0,1,0,2,23,25,0,2,13,0,0,3,11,6,1,2,4,3,37,10,35,41,9,24,0,0,1,0,45,10,0,9,13,194,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672994875487954,0.0,0.0,0.06657669183615941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661429775517447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850940281498401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401574292400243,0.0,0.05074972081553017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736796572683747,0.0,0.09088975504644456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457089858692897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10997448274200687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04209477429854909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699159521663496,0.07986302137908206,0.0,0.06982793001195108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733885476347951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16269112620841789,0.1668809945993826,0.0,0.0,0.0699108148457537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055571437857357166,0.0,0.25091383899927083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4875193951302557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471819492060175,0.0,0.056413792407466426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924416291884609,0.09015393519947848,0.0,0.05771653893251279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000032331891031,0.0,0.0,0.08938162272520782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620542886109873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22736881524569866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281831015980716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960250172394855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276602406017414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061802109533146,0.320067588989551,0.0,0.06609288546701167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666839498188675,0.3004261563862867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491042585075065,0.13216331865515685,0.0,0.0,0.07485365580073565,0.0,0.0,0.18589604207961125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909314196569153,0.0,0.05913991880513372,0.0,0.0,0.10722327400088467
parenting,stringerbbell,2019/02/25,"7 YO son is frustrated that he gets distracted So my son can be very focused when there is limited distractions. He'll put together 1500 piece star wars Legos, he'll read for an hour, he'll even do his homework. He's a remarkable kid, but he doesn't transition well. For example if we want to go to the park or out to eat he'll throw a fit because he's in the middle of something. Giving him a 10 minute heads up helps sometimes but not usually. 

A big problem is when he wants to build something with legos or color and his younger sister is watching tv. He gets mad at himself for being distracted. His sister earns TV and we don't want to take that away from her because he can't focus on what he's doing. He says he feels like he can't stop watching the TV even when it's something he doesn't like. Then he gets mad he wasted his time. 

Limiting distractions for him is not always an option, he needs to learn how to tune them out. Are there any resources (books, videos) that can help?",3.9947312588401687,4.8820757574257465,4.757934936350782,86.64940594059406,71.12871287128712,8.147666195190949,27.299858557284303,8.418075326091056,1.7015165487977373,781,26,164,12,14,252,119,202,0.134,0.722,0.14400000000000002,0.317,0,0,3,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,1,3,10,12,4,4,9,0,17,2,1,1,0,26,32,13,1,6,7,4,1,2,0,4,0,1,1,1,5,7,1,3,2,6,0,3,7,9,1,0,0,5,12,3,21,26,1,21,0,0,3,0,39,10,0,4,10,85,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439432839813178,0.0,0.0,0.1176405590674616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625317710034802,0.0,0.0,0.21090875506659065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701410419338556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22851929893879375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747000278471738,0.123585589666238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711436942937239,0.16594978400121815,0.0983153961282328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753980118548773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231905914088349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036237032468882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903040222488627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282714489926476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553007508071255,0.0,0.17390483963556788,0.0,0.0,0.1730389125239994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375702600463477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995333069450674,0.17109360871939405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462914034027546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300685288685414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087308374576373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905263562539201,0.14273659838258315,0.306105665130585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554067198222982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dacoster,2019/02/25,"My 6-months old fell from the bed... Yesterday, as I was preparing my son's bath, I put him on my bed where I took off his clothes. Usually he plays a bit with his feet, and I keep him company until his tub is ready. As he was lying in the centre(!!) of my queensized bed, I quickly go into my bathroom turn off the water and check the temperature, as soon as I enter the room again he's on the floor crying.
My heart sank so hard, I couldn't believe it. It was 10 seconds top. Where he fell, there's a small, sharp corner in our room and he was laid right there. He was bleeding a little bit from his lip, there's a small small wound and I'm not sure if there's other damage in his mouth (another cut maybe?)
Anyway, the bleeding and the crying lasted like only a minute. He started playing again right after, smiling and he doesn't seem in pain when eating, drinking or putting toys in his mouth.

I have an appointment with our pediatrician later today just to make sure everything is ok.

But what a nightmare this was, I'm usually very careful when it comes to my son. I feel like I threw him off the bed. He is so small and vulnerable and I feel like I did a bad job of taking care of him... The guilt is so big. Things could be so much worse. I hope my little champ is ok.

Just had to get this of my chest. ",2.26558537403556,3.689415553505537,3.670179469976517,90.6892410265012,76.12177121771218,6.5508889634350895,22.281281449178127,7.1686216300943375,0.5472937269372689,1009,27,225,11,22,332,143,271,0.112,0.757,0.131,0.545,1,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,2,0,0,2,19,18,1,1,18,2,18,13,6,1,2,28,36,22,0,4,6,2,4,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,8,12,3,1,3,5,1,9,3,5,0,1,10,4,34,13,28,23,3,52,0,1,0,0,23,27,0,4,19,139,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041147882443027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384271179251747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012099286619922,0.0,0.0,0.2715569286733341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25360445978228024,0.0,0.0,0.10713266620553907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929832730762328,0.0,0.2732264650647224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218340278253183,0.0,0.1272602804678213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177461361812564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576915424483096,0.1776981204336622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497753901237789,0.0,0.0706816269957509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140997194786584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737756817057698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352623137583532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234167944715391,0.11054465985522656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013771309444394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228086817783196,0.2493003217150398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301710670687565,0.0,0.12494512618695636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926995011271217,0.0,0.09142534167919704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050408258813853,0.0,0.0,0.09458803903598326,0.13233711919515787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500498902907289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242046679828774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132206395038065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802884173583712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344321510303672,0.0,0.09350982250410986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262507157495458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178870334304119,0.0,0.13817825794019126,0.0,0.1352774871728514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739492160115898,0.1026172441227938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674238189277248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bobojustice,2019/02/25,"Daycare drop off My son is 2 and a half, we have been at his current daycare for 4 months. Prior to this he was in an at home daycare from the time he was a newborn until he was two then we moved states. He was breastfed for 7 months and has an extremely strong bond with me. He locks onto people that he spends time with as well. He loves his two teachers but they don’t get there until 7:30. Another teacher opens his room and due to my schedule he has to be dropped off earlier.  For whatever reason he has not formed any type of affection towards the teacher who opens the room. Which results in an all out drag out screaming break down drop off. He gets destructive to himself by banging his head and kicking. I asked the pediatrician and he’s not concerned but I have literally done everything I can to try and make it smooth. I make sure he’s in bed at 7:30 we talk about going to “school” tomorrow. I also tell him when we get there that he shouldn’t act like that and he needs to be nice to his teacher. I feed him breakfast before we go because I get him up at 6:15. For a brief period his regular teacher opened the class and he had no issues. Now that it’s the other lady it’s like every day it gets worse. I’ve even tried having him walk in so I’m not holding him, that just results in him throwing himself down. I’m at my wits end, my heart breaks every day and it makes for a very hard morning. Any advice would be appreciated. ",2.805426553672316,4.374709433898307,3.923750000000002,88.82404307909607,75.0,6.679378531073446,25.512005649717523,7.333567415737692,1.0872175141242941,1133,39,240,13,24,368,165,295,0.079,0.828,0.092,0.6068,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,5,0,1,1,10,9,1,0,13,0,21,5,2,7,2,40,36,18,0,3,6,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,4,1,14,21,2,1,1,0,1,7,6,2,1,3,7,3,32,7,42,24,2,56,0,0,0,1,42,25,0,0,20,152,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488459227705174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038522028451417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877348230019389,0.1447400030337565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904254930398584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414384910241664,0.0,0.1174562143831983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804018332913732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125604140972275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225657780787245,0.0,0.0,0.09116972598328052,0.0,0.2325981017454181,0.0,0.12405547471756573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605836418141965,0.0,0.15689506779642984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365076926574968,0.0,0.14166203992724766,0.0,0.0,0.16357018459115047,0.0,0.0,0.13845870480161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407095541809414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487224514734825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458048773690665,0.0,0.2764149993142146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220353806428628,0.14670760646384268,0.0,0.10234998015874587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569494500874086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14192127342716193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969711965081805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009479900548795,0.0,0.0,0.11094597828003216,0.120647232140604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097671307232536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18743116807685925,0.0,0.2696770522294662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138919699365183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410855896834624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066777637237302,0.09805493161147663,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mortlach78,2019/02/25,"Anyone else have this? We had a baby in November of 2017. She is a wonderful ray of sunshine most of the time, and cries once in a while, usually for clear reasons, as all/most babies do, right?   


So I find myself unable to listen to babies crying in the media I consume, whether it is a tv show, a movie, even a Youtube video. The moment I see a baby, I already start dreading it: he/she is going to cry. And it's always that fake foley-cry too where they don't actually show the baby, you just hear a cry as the adult in the shot is keeping the baby's head out of sight. I can't stand it, not for a second. It never was an enjoyable experience before, but now it is a ""mute/turn it off immediately"". And truly, our baby doesn't cry much at all. It's just visceral now. I was wondering if anyone else had that or other 'strange' shifts in behaviour/experiences.",2.598498376623376,3.9953283465909095,4.867402597402599,82.55681818181822,75.19318181818181,7.5285714285714285,23.935064935064936,8.192908349453996,1.3833633116883115,663,20,136,11,14,232,108,176,0.112,0.8270000000000001,0.061,-0.7479,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,1,1,0,8,4,0,1,18,0,14,1,1,1,3,21,22,11,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,12,5,0,1,4,4,0,1,5,2,0,1,4,5,12,2,19,18,3,20,0,0,3,0,8,10,0,5,8,97,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.11110938327468713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564558601141135,0.0,0.09473931760503967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592248943464553,0.2333227911331699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968851203080118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7504086979009348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19022818207770964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520240556639406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227507441645488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406452344758683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470835791454384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685157616822585,0.0,0.12832670234010274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120258572830423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836990316053787,0.0,0.08781462445646783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125549004536593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706540792637468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723445949245338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073041097203707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058956817997011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639175413025881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384525413212705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539895212904692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469491761801121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adoptiontroubles,2019/02/25,"When do adopted children start feeling better. I and my wife cannot have kids. So we decided to adopt a girl(4f) from a foster home 4 months ago.

I don't know what's up with her but she's always gloomy and depressed. She always keeps to herself. We've been trying so hard to help her but she refuses to interact with us. We were so happy that she came into our lives but now my wife thinks that she's doing something wrong and she's crying because she can't help our daughter. 

Our therapist told us that she needs time. How long before they actually start responding to you.",1.7511638795986606,4.271692678260873,2.8408695652173925,90.45093645484951,83.08695652173913,5.625418060200667,21.88963210702341,7.010146845296331,0.7178160535117053,458,15,91,6,13,146,77,115,0.133,0.7170000000000001,0.15,0.274,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,7,1,1,1,6,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,20,17,11,0,1,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,9,0,2,4,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,2,24,2,10,13,0,11,0,1,0,0,31,2,0,0,8,60,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.1737873965309248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786353830158756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963655970439931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856029088030952,0.0,0.151539071900786,0.0,0.0,0.15750363700963954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20368428888584691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562040291406396,0.0,0.0,0.15338622562292056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004622821477735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895771127028205,0.15953113177322306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387361632507521,0.0,0.17863596006736507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158292066588462,0.0,0.0,0.0978720557521625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157254241051735,0.15760154862308662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421474865819291,0.0,0.0,0.1320493860947971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710021032439396,0.0,0.0,0.2521020426676993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206772939948769,0.0,0.11411107294023455,0.0,0.0,0.10384406574280344,0.0,0.0,0.17016993052064774,0.0,0.12090950404285485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4284338961377191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947103727591692,0.0,0.0
parenting,pinkisoni,2019/02/25,Why Gift Your Child A Perfect Cubby House To Play? If You want  to  buy a gift for your kids  you must  read this blog [Why Gift Your Child A Perfect Cubby House To Play?](https://allthingsforkids.com.au/blogs/kids-blog/why-gift-your-child-a-perfect-cubby-house-to-play) You will find  why cubby house  is perfect for gift for your and what are benefits of  having a cubby house .,3.9768322981366495,6.762157449275364,2.9615320910973075,91.38652173913046,75.95652173913044,5.1022774327122145,18.552795031055894,6.18269132825596,-0.2394944099378877,300,6,57,2,7,86,31,69,0.0,0.589,0.411,0.9806,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,7,0,3,0,5,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,4,8,6,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,5,7,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,0,27,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464981448881086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.831455340847798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18019434963112216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625454209893916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4876601515490413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DavidThomsen123,2019/02/25,"My kids will get offended in the future. I've been browsing facebook, and the people there say i should give my babies numbers, because they aren't old enough to choose their gender yet, but now im worried that numver 2 and 3 will become offended that they aren't number one. Help",4.7131818181818215,6.1013297272727325,4.790681818181817,85.20602272727272,69.9090909090909,6.954545454545455,26.47727272727273,7.1686216300943375,1.2812727272727271,225,7,42,2,4,70,44,55,0.204,0.7959999999999999,0.0,-0.841,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,3,0,3,2,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,6,0,2,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,4,26,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012729345988104,0.3646547369683798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411612723619499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725039406455801,0.3167360218063784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22131079321313324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566479958377899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464653918718224,0.0,0.22373659139863064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289032723561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625701331773308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33531093725300964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OrangeBarrel123,2019/02/25,"Please don’t go through your kids stuff. I’m here from r/teenagers. Recently there have been more posts about parents that go through their kids stuff. We have private things on there that we would rather keep to ourselves. I can promise you we are not doing anything dangerous. There are a few exceptions to this though, if your child is acting a bit strange for at least a week then you should go through their phone. But if you do need to do that DO NOT bring up kids swearing in texts and things like that. It makes it easier for everyone, everyone swears. If you are worried about internet safety then you need to tell them how to stay safe. Going through the phone should be only if they have been acting strange for a week or more.",5.140211267605637,6.4217293591549325,3.991661971830986,91.73608450704224,68.78873239436619,7.651830985915493,28.284507042253523,7.908726449838941,1.4704371830985914,587,20,122,7,10,169,87,142,0.052000000000000005,0.818,0.13,0.8899,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,7,4,0,9,4,1,0,5,0,19,0,0,2,0,23,29,11,0,10,10,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,4,11,4,0,2,0,0,0,7,3,1,0,0,2,0,15,3,20,23,5,18,0,0,0,0,22,4,0,5,6,92,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270389219778035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18932177588904187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33140656930935003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39421777852435774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413719267695244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472069519668814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575433665198273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257166667995863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131888187244127,0.0,0.0,0.19255430268342785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903550908426424,0.0,0.0,0.16608144931081778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122413956460514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483488539331708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970321497573924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157036007432625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23041541027806825,0.0,0.17037711617036042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782024465305399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610903402283332,0.0,0.1231874202807596,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheVillainF1,2019/02/25,"5yo bullying turning physical - need some advice I'm a dad of 4 girls, my oldest is 5 and a half and overall she's doing great. There is this one boy at her school who's been a problem for quite a while(over a year) but I just figured it was the usual playground teasing, basically stuff she'd need to get used to, there's a-holes in this world and she needs to learn to deal with it.

I was a bit perturbed at the langauge the kid was using at he time (saying stuff like F U and 'i will come in your mouth') seriously, the kid was 4 at the time. I notified the school of these first incidents back then, basically just to give them a heads up and hopefully they'd keep a bit of a closer eye on him and this kind of behavior. 

This year they are no longer in the same classroom and she hadnt complained much about him, but she still sees the kid a lot around the playground of course.

However now it's taken a step I didnt imagine it could at such a young age. Daughter explained how this kid and a friend cornered her in the playground and shoved his hands down her underwear and 'tickled' her. Daughter went to the teacher supervising the playground to explain, who according to my kid just told the boy would just have to play by himself for a while. Without actually doing anything.

Luckily my daughter didnt appear too shaken up about it, she explained it to me like any other story she would about a kid being mean. Her behavior hasnt changed either so for now, I think she'll just get over it easily as she doesnt fully realise what just happened.

But I'm struggling to see how do I go about this. I want to tell my girl to just kick him in the nuts next time he tries this but of course I dont want to teach her that violence is a solution. 

Im just so sad that at only 5yo my little girl already has to be subjected to this. Tbh im also worried for the boy as i dont think this kind of behavior comes naturally to kids that young and presume he's picking this stuff up at home.

Im talking to the school today to explain what happened and hope to have some proper measures put in place to prevent this from happening. 

Any tips on how to handle this situation are much appreciated. How would a school even handle this stuff? Im not even sure what an appropriate response from the school would be?  Any professionals care to give insight on how stuff like this is normally handled in schools? What can I say to my girl so that she defends herself without resorting to violence for any conflict?",3.9029272100786088,5.1747658545816755,4.768682028642188,85.03881931732529,71.72908366533866,7.81746527403898,28.906212985894264,8.27314431278463,1.9076606439108432,1977,77,404,30,37,641,234,502,0.092,0.8,0.108,0.7799,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,3,2,32,18,1,1,35,0,37,4,4,8,1,75,74,29,0,14,16,4,1,3,1,6,0,2,1,14,38,16,0,3,12,1,0,7,11,6,0,3,11,6,44,12,72,51,9,54,0,1,3,0,64,28,0,6,22,280,82,11,0.0,0.0,0.06814628914409432,0.0,0.0,0.0682393531773925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706172225657078,0.05584489603591868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899535399004076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574660646566959,0.062165586766640066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053696757974258026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247765490630946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119872339530682,0.0,0.07387335491652765,0.12030875284004565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557554401500797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199407488135404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368596176583233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224720222574502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059399351632072925,0.0,0.0,0.05395229166002585,0.0,0.07296902950400401,0.1339790849627913,0.03968732737524472,0.0,0.0,0.07699039995656819,0.0,0.0,0.185257519486786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166812614571688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700475295060729,0.1387185381099877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301723636381154,0.0,0.0,0.06207019124677465,0.0,0.1454392693513958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234965997673394,0.06999034900012564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936895714239195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760678889057776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266960792608876,0.15533938293128605,0.0,0.0,0.07426748444771172,0.0,0.06842086512549088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04732019998440039,0.05311064035395177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295993089533853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682011708124072,0.0,0.07020078822399466,0.0,0.07427528804957974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110669572125964,0.0,0.4240443296653006,0.11129466545552397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849447456929738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055768195899177066,0.0,0.0,0.07300392264500817,0.3997066029061707,0.0,0.0,0.06581615280152164,0.0,0.0,0.05612858865237854,0.06103654201665418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949148587704757,0.0,0.0,0.12215939483416173,0.0,0.06619289181515921,0.06672779223565249,0.0,0.04741157406836021,0.07595753165461477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062543873512625,0.07691045524954594,0.0,0.08237784532824168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473527760357667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346317650854615,0.0,0.0,0.07091812970145328,0.0,0.1984275593249953,0.0,0.0,0.08993947317097045
parenting,cpt_fwiffo,2019/02/25,"Did my kid just kick off terrible twos? Our only son is turning two in a month. This morning I wake up around 6AM and after a couple of minutes I hear our son humming and talking to himself in his room, so with the mother still sleeping I get up, get him, change his diaper and then we hang out watching Daniel Tiger together. After 10-15 minutes he tells me he's hungry for breakfast so we go to the kitchen and make some oatmeal. He helps. When it's about done he gets his bib, almost puts it on by himself, and hops on his chair. So far 10/10 morning.

I put the bowl down in front of him. He points to the hallway and says:
- ""Daddy go there!""
I'm like - ""what, no, I'm hungry too"". He completely loses it.
- ""NOOOOO! GET OOOOOUT!""
He tears the bib off, pushes the bowl away, jumps off the chair and runs up to me and hits me repeatedly on the leg with his fist.

What. The. Fuck. just happened?

Epilogue:
Then I pick him up, him kicking and screaming the way back to the living room where I put him back on the couch and D.T. He screams about being hungry. I'm reminding him that he didn't want breakfast and that it hurts where he hit me. His mother wakes up and he follows her into the kitchen where he starts to eat without any fuss. I sit down at the table and after a couple of minutes he  actually tells me he's sorry. I'm impressed :).

He's had a few major tantrums lately, but nothing this totally random and not when being otherwise happy and rested. Is this how it's gonna be now?",1.360802179021576,3.532782486754968,2.7444541764580244,92.7376639606922,81.74834437086093,5.088827173680838,21.99359111301004,6.207218560251982,0.2883880367442853,1149,37,243,9,31,372,163,302,0.068,0.8959999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.5225,0,0,0,0,1,0,53.0,4,0,0,1,21,10,2,0,18,0,9,10,4,3,1,35,30,24,0,1,5,4,0,1,0,1,0,4,5,1,12,22,5,0,0,0,0,11,4,7,0,1,4,5,32,3,41,20,5,57,0,2,1,1,45,29,1,3,16,154,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.13176704170542952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352102078537045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182310705585972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020281026310645,0.0,0.0,0.12686247266363887,0.20765512066194688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428408437269936,0.0,0.14157342056014327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29880999452423307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381796771131584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816650625083665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248304444661318,0.2821844967531019,0.0,0.15347810679384888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940408202733485,0.14373893512733735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15218543601637294,0.0,0.09050586696043386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454938003605655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523165310818001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596745562170536,0.0,0.11923146645063196,0.0,0.0,0.15106086655370127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013168563338368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777740024104708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956221297852274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269424865855238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276443219243963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072188070331676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737902655405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512468673923128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115186391509494,0.0955729271319959,0.0,0.10783287376580876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852972589874034,0.23603939931219745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687078881451432,0.1319019265654258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964252432012675,0.1071782839222888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016137509249084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Creepyleaf,2019/02/25,"Daughter being bullied - this is gross. Help. I need advice.

‘Someone’ put a used tampon on my daughters desk - on top of her things - at school.

Upon hearing this I marched directly into the office where I was placated by the vp. A lot of ‘we have no evidence of who did this’, etc.

My daughter has been bullied by a specific child for years now. It culminated in major, specific, well thought out plans to commit an act of violence last year. We nipped that in the bud, or so we thought.

I’m sure it’s this child but we have no proof. But right now my bigger issue is that my son was hospitalized for the last 2 weeks and since I wasn’t able to be a squeaky wheel, it’s been crickets. I’m sure school is hoping I will forget it but I can’t: it’s too fucked up:

How do I proceed? Wwyd?

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parenting,zenia178,2019/02/25,"Question about vaccines please! Hi Everyone!

I have a beautiful 2 month old baby boy who recently got his 2 month old shots. He is fine thankfully and didn’t have any reactions after such as a fever or fussiness.. Just a loss of appetite for a few hours.. To be clear before I write this hubby and I have always agreed to want to vaccinate our son. 

Hubby and I went to visit his friend today and they got to talking about the kids and how he vaccinated one child and not the other. He says he watched a documentary on Netflix called “Vaxxed, from coverup to catastrophe “ and basically said he refuses to vaccinate his younger child because of said documentary.

So we get home, shower the baby and put him to sleep. We decide to watch this documentary and see why anyone would neglect their children by not protecting them from preventable diseases all because of a documentary.

And now I’m paranoid. I wish I didn’t watch it. I don’t know what to think now. And I feel stupid for even thinking like this because I have researched so much on this subject that says there is no proof vaccines cause autism. 

Hubby wants us to do more research but I’m on the fence... I find it hard to believe doctors would give our kids a vaccine that could cause them more harm then good. But now I can’t help but feel stressed and paranoid. I want our son to be protected from illnesses that could hurt him. But his friend claims his son has never been sick or seen a doctor since he has been born 4 years ago. But the one who was vaccinated is always sick and needs check ups?. 😐🤔

What do you guys think? And how’s your kids if they got vaccines? Any advice is appreciated please. 

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parenting,-AXOXO97,2019/02/25,"My brother is hiding a pregnancy from my parents He’s 26 years old, from what I heard him over talking to my older sister he explained and said that he was leaving behind a baby from this girl he has been seeing but he wasn’t sure if it was his baby.
After that he said he doesn’t want to worry about it because “he’ll lose everything” from his job to his new cars and money so to me that sounds a bit stubborn and ignorant how would you leave a baby behind not knowing it’s yours wouldn’t you want to know? I feel a bit bad because ever since I heard that conversation it made sense why he’s been acting mean and angry.
Anyways besides the point my parents don’t know 
I feel this is so bad but im only 21 what should I know right? ",4.775240143369178,4.445313477419359,5.743440860215057,84.55960573476705,69.06451612903226,7.921146953405018,27.544802867383513,6.937597516519254,1.2478458781362003,579,16,123,4,9,192,89,155,0.192,0.772,0.036000000000000004,-0.9798,3,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,1,6,6,1,0,6,0,13,0,0,2,2,27,30,10,0,6,4,4,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,1,12,4,0,2,8,0,1,2,5,5,0,0,10,8,17,1,14,16,2,11,0,1,1,0,28,3,0,1,6,75,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454436182609004,0.17919477429612776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32092726579874936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295144395231578,0.0,0.0,0.13209576831430406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863458277718491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587631671508823,0.0,0.14585455284421395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231045310986327,0.0,0.0,0.3112603039869566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443255298952286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907563147478674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010385007963593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195379329352348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423034354231951,0.0,0.0,0.11178459298897027,0.0,0.0,0.32640685725552665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894321016081007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551975738994045,0.27962247524280404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117123694959024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158302660036613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852651378304362,0.0,0.0,0.11813661811902107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733847276168393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262620884351706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492648970410333,0.0,0.10441007587705038,0.0,0.0,0.09465002996627654
parenting,Nayest94,2019/02/26,"My almost 2 year old daughter refuses to acknowledge my authority. So, I'm really almost to my wits end with my soon- to be 2 year old. I'm a first time mama, and I'm still trying to learn how to do this thing called ""parenting"". I love my kiddo to death, but I am so frustrated, and tired of having to yell, time out, ""pop"", talk, ""redirect"". She throws tantrums over EVERYTHING & ANYTHING, and I LITERALLY everything. No matter what she throws a fit, and they're kind of crazy fits, she will hit herself, and throw herself hard on the floor. She freaks if you tell her no, or take anything from her. She doesn't listen when I tell her to lay down, or sit down, or let me change her. She takes off and thinks it's a joke. She throws things if she doesn't get her way. I'm trying so hard. I really am. I need advice. 


Sincerely, 

A distressed mom. ",2.5531077694235584,4.092771315789477,3.8718170426065157,89.05855263157896,75.60818713450294,7.692731829573934,22.155806182121967,8.418075326091056,1.0799771094402666,649,17,143,12,14,213,104,171,0.184,0.733,0.083,-0.9614,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,1,0,1,7,8,2,1,5,0,9,2,0,1,0,23,21,17,1,3,6,3,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,8,0,1,3,1,0,4,4,4,0,1,0,4,28,4,18,17,0,26,0,0,0,1,26,9,0,7,11,87,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258672123678634,0.0,0.0,0.2922261476844044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809914312185408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24015168257761424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899581349432056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435901681141345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923762666271832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622784870064089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411546121768005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623471050318521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26142285742756755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194830834621467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492082581682628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169423561735705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708942104574073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819433000553752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062270780583208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620216486908956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869541273615006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652812977114885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942025986693856,0.11728117355957562,0.25507276949598473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387925451044588,0.0934966185614713,0.0,0.0,0.1701687444427474,0.1677081474506778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981337917289105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582075615150265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879293104651115
parenting,twinsea,2019/02/26,"So, did I back myself into a corner threatening to kick 18 year old daughter out of the house? My middle daughter who is 18 has had many issues, from self harm, depression and has been in and has seen her fair share of er visits, acute hospitalization, residential, etc.   She constantly uses self harm as almost a weapon against us, and I'm not talking light cuts.  I'm talking 96 stitch 8 hour ER vists that would make Jaws feel inadequate.  Maybe subconsciously or by choice she leverages that to get what she wants -- easier school, us afraid to come down hard on her, etc.  The school is absolutely terrified of her.   Parenting and discipline is beyond hard.  

So, now we're dealing with marijuana use, which is not an offense that warrants the ""nuclear option"" imo despite it being against the law here in VA.  The problem is that she will not stop using while trying out new meds and going to a six week iop class, that the school was pushing, to deal with her ongoing issues.  Over the weekend one of her friends she used with (TCH oils), had a bad reaction with medication she was taking and was sent to the ER.  I learned on the same day she had bought large sum of marijuana the day after she promised us, the psychiatrist and her therapist that she would hold off on smoking so they could assess.  I told her point blank, that if she was going to smoke while going to her iop (group) class that I was going to kick her out of the house after she graduated high school.  She contends it helps, which could absolutely be true.  

So, now she's making plans to move to Florida with her boyfriend and two other friends so they can get in on medical marijuana, which they couldn't even qualify for.  Think it may be an idle threat, but she has several thousand dollars saved up and could do it.   Didn't think teaching the value of saving would potentially backfire on me.   I obviously just want her to get better and part of me thinks that her leaving may do some good.   My 14 year old is much more mature then my daughter and it would be a disaster if she struck out on her own.

I'm currently digging in my heels, and she is as well. 

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parenting,Ren-ZombieDuck,2019/02/26,"Monitor your child's internet usage. My niece watches a lot of YouTube. Her favorites are toy unboxings, but incidents that I'm going to be describing here typically involve videos disguised as Peppa Pig, Fortnite, etc. The videos look totally harmless on the surface, but contain disturbing content. My niece has discovered something called the ""Momo Challenge."" These videos are targeting children and leading them to harm or kill themselves in various ways. I highly encourage you to look into this topic, but be warned that you might find some of the discussions and associated images disturbing. ",9.168061224489797,11.545072336734698,8.292448979591839,60.545408163265314,60.3265306122449,11.722448979591839,44.61224489795919,11.491704259439757,6.36253469387755,491,30,61,15,7,153,78,98,0.212,0.7070000000000001,0.081,-0.957,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,1,2,1,7,1,2,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,14,10,7,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,4,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,3,8,3,9,7,5,8,0,0,3,0,11,5,0,4,0,44,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988218842410669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263750244967881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26747099268530444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631612919609606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091940814787977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32376683786939503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4914939204515275,0.0,0.0,0.2487951645867326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104486645518515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252913775896981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322869064286589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Natsoria,2019/02/26,"YouTube presents problems for younger kids but do you still monitor with tweens and teens? I am a lurker and saw the thread today about young kids being on YouTube. A lot of the comments were about younger kids but my kids are 15, 13, and 11. I'm not concerned about the 11 year old because he rarely uses the desktop, but we gave the 15 year old a laptop for high school last year and he keeps it in his room. The 13 year old is starting high school this September and we are giving her a laptop as well for high school. 

The 15 year old is into bikes and spends most of his time watching bike related videos. I do view any biking videos he uploads to his channel. My 13 year old watches a lot of vloggers and that concerns me more. We talk about it but with her having a laptop in her room instead of using the desktop she could view more content I can't see. She can also be somewhat of a recluse. With the desktop being in the family room it forces her to interact more when a laptop would allow her to be in her room that entire time. That's another point entirely, but is an added reason for why we like having the desktop. Since we got her brother his own for high school we feel it's only fair to give her one. I am not sure how to feel about YouTube for older kids though. I heard a lot of them are getting sucked into conspiracy theory type videos lately. ",5.5755681818181815,5.462626345454545,5.5734886363636384,85.71623295454549,67.36363636363636,8.18409090909091,29.551136363636363,7.413659706084162,1.583913636363636,1075,34,223,9,16,337,138,275,0.047,0.901,0.052000000000000005,0.1045,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,6,1,1,0,12,5,1,0,21,0,21,0,0,5,1,42,37,17,0,3,7,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,4,5,8,18,0,1,3,7,1,0,3,2,1,1,5,9,30,3,33,26,9,38,0,0,6,0,38,16,1,5,23,144,38,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552314508463595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422202283272041,0.09902793345426307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575693748435001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754021673351108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902905084821659,0.0,0.09550278510316924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04934068279374603,0.1811897342497255,0.0,0.0,0.07553180640699696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991215972988808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394206797244595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698070651024166,0.10653174403023956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04613831503846149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408669734600917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954912605295462,0.0,0.06399457394561643,0.0718254107664476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927574790198259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036574074116076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709942052033488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823108132810269,0.07525596574606719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812123830571964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668446854529442,0.0,0.07541941786932478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890080062776881,0.0,0.0,0.07590680339816487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278621997804304,0.0,0.11013673411416476,0.0,0.08951749805232928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313061993402886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491235222480638,0.0,0.08521685926362141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708703218846143,0.0,0.0,0.3648952203308646
parenting,Phoenix6017,2019/02/26,"My 16yr old son is masturbating to porn 🙄 Hi, I’m a father of four boys (ages 16, 14, 12, and 7) 

My wife has just recently noticed that my oldest son (who just turned 16) is masturbating to porn videos in his room. She told me she was going upstairs to take a shower like three days ago and she was walking by his room to the sound of porn and moaning. She told me about it and said she’s heard this multiple over the last couple of weeks and she is asking me to go talk to him about it. 

Our family is VERY RELIGIOUS and we don’t tolerate our kids watching porn at all! My other kids don’t even have phones yet so I doubt they have access to it but my oldest son just got a phone recently for his birthday and this is what he’s been watching on it. 

My wife also overheard him talking to one of his buddies in his room the other day (while they were playing a video game). She told me she heard his friend say “Have you ever tried masturbating to porn?” My son said “no I haven’t” his friend said “dude, you should totally try it, it makes it so much better”. My son said “ok I will then”. 
My son has known what porn is for awhile now (we had a talk with him about it when he was 12) but he usually doesn’t watch it. He’s also gotten caught looking a pornographic images on google, on his iPad, when he was like 12. (We has to put restrictions on it) we are so stupid parents to not put restrictions on his phone. I thought I’d give him space by not treating him like a baby and having to restrict everything on his phone anymore. But boy, am I wrong here! If I have just left the dang restrictions on his iPhone we wouldn’t be having this problem right now. 

So do I take the phone away, put restrictions on it, and tell him not to watch that anymore? 
Or is he too old for restrictions now? I mean I’m sure he’ll just find away around it because I mean he’s 16 and he’s a smart kid. 
I feel like if I take the phone away he’ll just got behind my back and watch it at a friends house or something. 

What do you guys think I should do about this? ",2.0344455544455577,3.427004692307694,3.1632460872460904,94.21497902097904,76.66899766899769,6.581178821178821,21.34805194805195,7.2259226712905225,0.3374712087912082,1579,39,371,18,35,508,189,429,0.055,0.851,0.095,0.9562,2,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,7,3,2,1,28,17,1,1,15,1,37,6,0,1,4,57,69,28,0,6,16,10,1,4,3,6,0,8,4,6,25,18,0,6,7,4,0,7,9,4,0,3,21,15,63,13,45,41,3,53,0,0,6,6,91,23,1,5,27,238,88,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197324288304589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790397005054368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342010951067267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232208971607544,0.08645136232146503,0.0,0.2606490771728157,0.07110733699036514,0.0,0.05637171944533965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178635820824268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232149782289214,0.0,0.11927706388153235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107866789861861,0.08364866138280795,0.0,0.0,0.08311029850708593,0.0,0.0871769181191167,0.0,0.04675798740840647,0.06606394491259895,0.0,0.0,0.08452020144583708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143371739301884,0.0,0.0,0.08871015964015103,0.10511100738228377,0.0,0.1479209323203438,0.0,0.0,0.09156449289843983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670338912900612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537922379557213,0.0,0.0,0.10047403327599616,0.0,0.0,0.1807138714359343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765545853946673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061727581033518227,0.0,0.0,0.20146411867777303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797954555253516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528306007183996,0.1940732856809399,0.0,0.06266325070044834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268221188100342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848579993058868,0.0,0.2788878487389808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826152221258928,0.0,0.0,0.07897288942968603,0.3518584687955245,0.07353959394342455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119154277897749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715631135329882,0.0,0.2085883997294604,0.22298298549113188,0.08082696471145344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925405447269606,0.0,0.0734145831150899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265090619329286,0.0,0.1255685036381056,0.10058591997137517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184781848717243,0.07630131310636792,0.0,0.0,0.07417762720012433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110656868429804,0.0,0.0
parenting,MollyJenkins69,2019/02/26,"Laziness or something more? My cousin (9 years old) has been discovered to be shoving food in the couch, behind the counter, and once was caught shoving a bar of soap down the sink.  I don't think it's hoarding because she not saving the stuff for later or anything----to me it sounds like pure laziness.  Anyone's kid ever done something similar?",5.35546875,7.3364198593750025,4.705125000000002,84.12737500000003,69.15625,6.995000000000001,31.55,7.554174236665415,2.151566250000001,277,12,48,3,5,83,55,64,0.0,0.953,0.047,0.4329,0,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,0,6,2,0,0,2,8,8,3,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,1,4,2,6,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,5,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20922736320336613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182406775546078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062144091909719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27066910060067617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618280108266406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461878177099067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139897328749982,0.3186683409055591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4607210811462135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425447784567694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917333925724292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269319475753527
parenting,GimmeDatZig,2019/02/26,"The difference between Mom and Dad Tonight myself, the wife, and our 3 yo ran some errands and ordered Chinese food. After dinner my wife had some housework to do and I had to work on her Jeep. So we got the tiny human ready for bed and put her in our bed so she could have some quiet time before bed. My wife went in to check on her and did the whole “have a conversation” and basically got asked a million questions and had to get her water. She came out to the garage and talked about how it’s “always a process” with our daughter. About 15 minutes later I opened the bedroom door and my daughter looked up at me, gave me a thumbs up and continued with what she was doing. Needless to say, my wife was awestruck about how easy it was. She commented that “I feel like a servant, while you just have to make sure she’s still alive.” The difference between Mom and Dad.",5.7060693641618485,5.5665140867052045,5.548907514450868,86.09284104046246,67.09248554913296,8.307283236994222,30.59479768786128,7.554174236665415,1.7100455491329485,679,23,143,6,10,211,102,173,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.8957,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,1,0,1,9,2,0,0,12,0,13,3,0,3,1,29,24,17,0,1,1,10,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,4,18,3,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,13,4,24,2,24,10,4,21,0,0,1,0,32,9,0,4,8,101,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556333086028549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748583257006037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15915833266588167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392536857116007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933722327676796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908366057570852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457367902383926,0.13362231070042674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261710292647827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772133644713896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29918795802695586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137890989115106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15706754754461905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485149081785372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381209170140081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188028123479836,0.20952901318730835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874271410361228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493713886989382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17628417029229862,0.0,0.0,0.15033667662254366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906526055334162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17338911825189968,0.0,0.20882488276039105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361682620608133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kennypowers16,2019/02/26,"Advice needed to relieve anxiety when kids are sick. Every time my little girl gets sick, my heart aches and I can’t help but feel like something bad is going to happen. Is there a way to relieve this stress to be more calm and collected? I’ve always been good at managing my stress in life and the workplace. This just seems harder than it should be. Any advice would be appreciated!",4.213153153153153,6.114205810810812,4.6875675675675685,83.42207207207208,71.97297297297297,7.095495495495496,23.144144144144143,7.793537801064563,1.1164576576576573,306,8,57,4,6,97,58,74,0.209,0.5670000000000001,0.224,0.3467,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,2,2,0,10,4,1,0,0,10,16,5,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,5,7,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,34,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156902578792971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769810127969559,0.0,0.0,0.14464131089618384,0.0,0.16271268717516268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759318087802492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920646692208916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075460365639638,0.15195083939503964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112544770489756,0.0,0.12088065451227913,0.17840022281601922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18808732904542935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520470687800997,0.14256637202429934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502342407148468,0.10391305155688907,0.21317835581831893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577121928008691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363143704009095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16374460679580902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4872875824646979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402538021568606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882904514102848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109390598219655,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mtjmd,2019/02/26,"3yr old tantrums I’m new to this and I am really looking for advice on how to deal with my 3yr old daughter’s temper tantrums.  I know this is common and part of the the 2-3 year old phase but I have been going through some really difficult times to the point I want to break down and cry.  I need some real tips and advice not the “book” advice or “stereotypical” advice that I know won’t work such as let them cry it out, or talk to her and ask is that nice or right, etc.  So far I have done timeout in her room, no TV or tablet.  That seems to work lately but only after the fact.  Besides the threat of punishment when the tantrum is about to start, what else can I do to prevent it? Is there anything really? ",3.4733783783783783,4.050853094594596,4.3738918918918905,90.06435135135138,72.10810810810811,7.541621621621622,23.58378378378379,7.554174236665415,0.7614518918918916,550,13,125,6,10,178,96,148,0.204,0.757,0.039,-0.9815,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,2,6,8,6,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,1,25,23,15,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,1,12,1,20,19,4,21,0,0,1,0,7,8,0,7,11,82,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5260235880278753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074440228784166,0.0,0.12581019011742076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956503554753772,0.0,0.13874172241708688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771774907458806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242079777998712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008757084014765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764825184190032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791866105574028,0.0,0.15180734421789652,0.0,0.0,0.1376128552579587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300976341098135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978623742121256,0.0,0.1299741292043439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42364393653116345,0.0,0.0,0.10235094670672877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457324579886631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272176130733335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317670272131334,0.25863807658149235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492698283140805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12251273795355293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525343141675872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816691622615783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847222092767965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937628317805301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594554470528766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666239160368475
parenting,artemis_dm,2019/02/26,"Preparing for labour during a difficult pregnancy My husband and I have have been preparing as best we can for every possible outcome. Now that we are at 31 weeks pregnant with our trisomy 13 baby, we are trying to prepare for what labour is going to look like. 

There are a lot of variables that can occur and we are looking for birth plan outlines to help us outline what we are wanting when that time comes. Asking for links or resources for options and outlines. ",7.517586206896548,7.7753784597701205,7.0649655172413794,75.40158620689657,63.2528735632184,9.258850574712644,38.089655172413785,8.841846274778883,3.4994524137931036,374,18,62,5,5,117,61,87,0.027000000000000003,0.871,0.102,0.7845,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,7,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,0,0,15,17,6,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,9,2,13,16,2,8,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,3,6,49,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645070120697404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969239274494904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24372435317206495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23838582404646305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079907679734265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964606947528687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822826179225484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4751900434559135,0.0,0.0,0.2405421108016539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31896788310047586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498228536722462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920950047257785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34033722971061336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688301220300888,0.0,0.2269542319086903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sweetchelsearae,2019/02/26,"3 year old used potty yesterday, but not today My three year old daughter has been resistant to potty training. I thought maybe she wasn't ready, that's fine. I didn't want to push her. Well, yesterday she saw a little toilet at target that makes flushing noises. She wanted it. I asked her if she'd go potty on it. She said yes. So, I bought it, and she sat on it. She peed in it twice, to which we celebrated with popsicles, lots of praise, and happiness. She had three accidents, to which we said ""that's okay, next time let's get it in the potty"". We didn't discipline her, weren't mad or anything. 

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Today, she refuses to pee in the toilet. She's had a couple accidents, cries for diapers, found the pull ups. She puts on a pull up and pees right away. So, I know that she knows the feeling of when she needs to go. She keeps telling me that she's afraid to go potty. When she does sit down on the toilet, she says she can't do it, and wants to get up right away. But she was fine yesterday!! Is this a common thing? Is she actually not ready to start potty training?",1.4839850560398489,3.6187191689497737,2.8940992112909925,92.0434651307597,81.05479452054793,6.356247405562475,20.000207555002078,7.520522993642371,0.5234182648401826,834,22,182,13,22,271,116,219,0.086,0.7859999999999999,0.128,0.928,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,3,0,0,1,6,8,1,1,9,2,15,2,2,2,0,29,39,12,0,5,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,16,8,0,3,5,0,1,7,7,2,1,3,15,5,33,6,27,22,1,40,1,0,1,0,34,17,0,3,15,118,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.13397670529929512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875528937026242,0.16682420707068135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297921142764975,0.0,0.12834902510092286,0.0,0.2579797784576941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15191044004142484,0.15080827260729002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014472207480995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941871057201515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053304996645545,0.0,0.0,0.1434582907539102,0.0,0.2340777801984221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461493610415954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203099867926838,0.0,0.0,0.15090364240781207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403898666493447,0.0,0.0,0.13760215676538098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167203287940447,0.0,0.0,0.09164314632810774,0.0,0.13792777099020226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179991207030556,0.0,0.0,0.14601107414861125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881286812191373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801588367896386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344923919188833,0.26119132325226585,0.10917971603337852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717563456861614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999882759517795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121037609091727,0.0,0.0,0.10899412013861233,0.08005578120636897,0.0,0.2602725891904637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11857578057436105,0.0,0.0,0.2429342619829772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344155192364613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682420707068135,0.17682245714541925
parenting,shortfatyogi,2019/02/26,"How do I motivate my 8 year old girl? When anything seems difficult to her (piano, Spanish homework, school projects), she just gives up and throws a huge temper tantrum. She expects me to do it all for her and when I try, instead, to guide her/give her hints, then all hell breaks loose. She’ll kick the piano or throw her homework, or scream and hit me. It’s completely maddening. I end up screaming back at her and then telling her “let’s just do it later when you’re calm”, but then she just keeps at it. Why won’t she just TRY on her own? How can I motivate her to problem solve????",2.511694915254239,4.214618474576273,3.0120000000000005,94.4851186440678,76.11864406779661,6.4149152542372905,25.359322033898305,7.1686216300943375,0.8776210169491527,452,16,101,5,10,140,74,118,0.16699999999999998,0.763,0.07,-0.8722,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,2,11,8,3,0,2,0,7,0,0,4,2,21,11,15,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,4,4,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,0,2,20,1,10,7,3,20,1,0,0,0,16,6,1,3,11,66,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230248499516788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839623283138994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28415737998407514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400416435579085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599853104523321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24089338937655835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771344263121985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28438796431511765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593277732662852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2742848426036089,0.0,0.2467247502789605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368818137479247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680070753317845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24455173140096234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452680663379566
parenting,fewinurdms,2019/02/26,"Kids and finances Hey everyone, I would like to get perspectives on the way we raise our children with regards to income. I grew up very low income and was very happy with what we had (even though it was very little). It tough me about responsibility, finances, hard work, and never really glorified material goods. Fast forward 20 years and I find myself (financially) well beyond I would've ever imagined. I have trouble deciding whether or not I should let my children know that we are in fact well off, or simply ""hide"" it so that they grow up the way I did? I would like them to appreciate the things that I do provide for them, all while not spoiling them. I appreciate any and all responses on how some of you may have approached this. Thanks! :) ",4.850207792207795,6.737851085714286,5.303636363636365,79.70681818181819,70.28571428571429,8.233766233766234,28.441558441558442,8.841846274778883,2.265571428571429,592,22,109,11,11,189,96,140,0.073,0.7609999999999999,0.166,0.9335,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,4,1,4,1,9,10,0,0,3,0,13,0,0,1,5,30,16,12,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,3,9,10,0,0,4,0,2,4,3,3,2,0,4,1,22,7,15,7,3,20,0,1,0,0,13,10,0,4,8,84,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351749307843668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996768439690615,0.16429854406211333,0.0,0.17355927391356568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660103797457973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489637941389813,0.0,0.0,0.15234615996176368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335299679951048,0.16270857790478085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982141310630817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573328848977172,0.0,0.17747460316713592,0.18204519805659775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008750216009236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163595276088176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722437964668635,0.0,0.0,0.12066970002947855,0.0,0.17845469168363107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496017430344757,0.0,0.288345567188803,0.0,0.0,0.3266219410596858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322318700342782,0.0,0.0,0.3870831998974019,0.0,0.0,0.11696647781029056
parenting,scorpio_se,2019/02/26,"8 year old with Anxiety 8 yr old sister is smart, she’s a talented dancer, she’s funny and healthy.
However, she gets so anxious sometimes that I can see a panic attack coming on. She had an issue with a teacher in December and it finally happened. Full blown panic attack, she couldn’t breathe or get outside of her head. She was screaming that she couldn’t hear my mom talking to her and screaming that she couldn’t breathe. My mom physically had to push her chest to get to breathe steady and hug her head right up to her mouth so she could focus on her voice. 
She’s now being evaluated for add and anxiety
But my question is how do you help an anxious child?
I  (f22) take care of her Mon-Friday 7am-7pm so I’m her main care giver I suppose you’d call it? 
I just need advice on what to do next . ",2.9857338367154327,4.493133349693252,4.140490797546011,87.70968853232657,74.39877300613497,6.978574799433696,27.262387918829642,7.61054688173877,1.4527804624823035,628,24,131,8,13,205,96,163,0.151,0.703,0.146,0.2329,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,0,7,12,2,2,5,0,14,8,7,1,0,19,26,11,0,5,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,6,9,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,3,5,27,6,16,17,2,15,0,0,1,1,30,7,0,2,6,82,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307652860454613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083593652606168,0.3076962324323114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30985582461601185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390581497663271,0.0,0.27769545018670305,0.0,0.0,0.11730966402242922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873110720588247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918190638912426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21345011397146293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042624694435188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795262555983431,0.0,0.15348822743636195,0.0,0.09128064718922024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14213975292596975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189919522522721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097802745545567,0.0,0.0,0.14483224940308914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858024657502334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195630016765657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525562153609172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116299605312662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852028222281107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346885472519317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239272716043872,0.10945880031884074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769743789189152
parenting,mediumRoar11,2019/02/26,"2.5 year age gap vs. 3.5 year age gap? If you could choose between a 2.5 year age gap and a 3.5 year age gap, which would you choose and why? Pros and cons?


Due to the busy summer season of my job, it's easiest for my husband and I to plan for an autumn baby (if we can help it and don't have any surprises lol). I'm able to take three months off followed by three months part-time for maternity leave, and it would be easiest for  work/life balance I'm back full-time by summer. 


If we're able to have an autumn baby, we would have either a 2.5 year age gap, or if we wait until next autumn, a 3.5 year age gap between kids. I realize that there is no perfect number and every family is different, I'm just curious about your experiences with age gaps close to these and factors you wish you'd known or considered at the time.",6.982499999999997,4.872484691860468,7.407790697674417,80.24622093023258,65.45348837209302,10.925581395348836,30.80232558139535,9.516144504307137,2.3326488372093017,645,16,143,10,8,213,96,172,0.03,0.8590000000000001,0.111,0.9297,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,5,0,2,4,2,0,0,8,1,13,0,0,0,1,33,20,15,0,9,9,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,13,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,12,2,19,14,1,30,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,6,26,78,18,1,0.3170685557069913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780874531240847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190307393237268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657672081442015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563457805588588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357196661890733,0.0,0.0,0.15507694408359587,0.14945200797086566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062621846860438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573208085292226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786490970419565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530810961548499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860300302936193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716771738627388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191980471115148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924426123152642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305252733326207,0.0,0.1823065956263334,0.0,0.0,0.11541484241148126,0.0,0.0,0.3378546072494437,0.0,0.0,0.6125452631230829
parenting,Malik2122,2019/02/26,"Find out SO pregnant with another man kid  

Just for the record am only asking for your opinion

I already resolved myself to have a DNA on all my future kids

It may sound noble to say you love them despite everything but that not the world we live.By law your stuck with child support for 18 years like it or not.

Also by law the biological parents can have them anytime they want so the child you grown to love get taken away from you and you still have to pay for them.

Lastly you may resent them because of the constant reminder of your SO ultimate betrayal it just doesn't make sense to me why would someone would go through all that.",5.471904761904758,6.073369960317464,5.442976190476191,84.09160714285714,67.65079365079364,7.887301587301588,30.035714285714285,7.6454224807358475,1.7838761904761902,509,18,100,5,8,159,88,126,0.08900000000000001,0.772,0.139,0.7342,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,8,5,1,7,6,1,0,6,0,10,2,0,1,2,24,20,7,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,4,0,2,0,5,5,5,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,2,2,18,5,19,14,2,11,0,0,0,2,24,4,0,4,6,72,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323277304354281,0.1683626782857315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22076157028122384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968193672815955,0.0,0.19780211313472787,0.0,0.0,0.1283385924278555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275107233800143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892129392469704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242279270539944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999448572079862,0.0,0.11965041042606915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716119993396407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285549261436276,0.0,0.18590395978342847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800274080799359,0.0,0.14053200686027764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601193715126678,0.0,0.0,0.23377130713503996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674238087338563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838341303252542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813144067292635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389096641819788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417745985192565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997273808768195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991123424437003,0.0,0.0,0.1355759582481169
parenting,okparent45,2019/02/26,"What the hell is Momo Ive heard other parents talk about this so called ""Momo"". Does anyone have any info?",2.4357142857142877,4.620770904761908,3.676428571428573,87.40607142857145,78.04761904761905,4.2,15.261904761904766,3.1291,-0.8374952380952383,83,1,15,0,2,27,20,21,0.195,0.805,0.0,-0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,9,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31573808022287336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246474622529665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740994470271213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4063096893698239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5155471972620501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731845763129856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madommouselfefe,2019/02/26,"5 year old son unable to stay on task. My son just turned 5, and for the last year his ability to focus has taken a steady nose dive.
He used to be able to do things with out being constantly asked. Now I feel like all I do is nag him to do what he knows he should be doing. 

It used to be that he would get up in the morning. He has a picture list of things he needs to do ( make bed, get dressed, eat, brush his teeth) he was good at doing these things without being constantly reminded. Most days he got all of them done without me having to ask him, which earned him a star. 

Now however, he doesn’t do any of them. He has to be reminded to eat all the time because he just wants to sing at the table or make noises. We have to set a timer for meals because he will take forever to eat.

It takes him over 30 minutes to change out of his pajamas in to cloths. That’s IF he puts cloths on at all, he usually gets naked or partly dressed and then runs off to go play. Which requires me to ask him every few minutes to put clothing on so we can leave. When we don’t have to leave to go to school he just refuses to change out of pajamas.

If you do remind him that he should be putting on cloths, buckling his seatbelt, eating. He will snap at and tell you ‘ I’m doing it!’ And then proceed to not do it.  
Today I ended up with a car door to the face because he refused to actually move and get out of the car. Instead he was goofing around with the dongle on his zipper, and my husband thought we had forgot to close the door and closed it on me. I know it wasn’t my sons fault completely but it took him over 5 minutes to just put his jacket on. 

I am so frustrated, I know he is capable of doing what is asked of him. He just doesn’t, and if he does he just takes his dear sweet time

I don’t know if this is normal for his age or not?
If this is just an attitude issue? Or something else’s? 
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parenting,whtevr22883,2019/02/26,"Has anybody heard of something called momo on youtube that’s telling kids how to kill themselves? It’s scary looking Normally I trust my kids on what they watch for the most part. My oldest (10yr) wouldn’t watch something so scary cause he’s a chicken thank goodness. 
My youngest (7yr) loves to find scary things and watch them.  Like the jump scare types of things. 

They use my google account so I see everything. 
But it irks me knowing that that’s out there. 
I’ve read people’s comments on Facebook saying their kids are scared to go to bed alone because of it and want their bedroom lights on. 
It gave me the creeps and I love scary stuff. 

I’m debating on talking to them about it and tell them not to ever watch it if they see it but at the same time if they haven’t then I don’t want to get their curiosity going.  
My oldest wouldn’t go near to save his life I’m almost certain but my youngest is a different story. 
In all honesty I’ll just keep on eye on their activity and hang around them a little more than I already do just for peace of mind. 

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parenting,iheartcatsandcoffee,2019/02/26,"Looking at MDO programs.. can I ask them what percentage of kids in attendance is vaccinated? (Texas) (MDO=Mother’s Day out. Basically preschool) 
Hi all. I am very pro vaccination, and am trying to figure out how to ask if these programs I’m looking in to let in kids not vaccinated for “personal reasons” (aka they have anti vax parents). 
One program I saw says they require vaccinations, one had a place on the paperwork where you could check a box if you didn’t vaccinate for personal or religious beliefs (but you had to attach a notarized note of some sort). That, to me, seemed like a red flag. 
Idk. I’m just trying to figure out how to navigate this. Or am I out of place? 
What are the rules here! Help! Lol ",1.6053452685421985,4.244220608695656,3.5657374254049437,83.95645780051152,85.66666666666667,7.3050298380221665,25.508951406649608,8.313332769828598,2.1418358056265987,556,24,108,14,17,187,93,138,0.028,0.904,0.068,0.7387,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,3,3,1,5,1,0,0,6,1,12,0,0,3,1,24,20,8,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,5,0,1,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,4,5,11,1,21,14,2,14,1,0,4,0,16,12,0,7,2,71,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767282024457838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087178994161908,0.0,0.0,0.12994310518211372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350531736290903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060351532192146,0.0,0.098436869753894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383983840172829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730669958445296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22372860338074071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518631372444585,0.4210241958652411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20716324388896684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023136183720058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342712741661485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735942811605929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662487192736687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angieschmangy,2019/02/26,"Is my 5 year old prepared for school? My son just recently turned 5, and I worry that he won't fit in well in a school setting. He is very communicative, and will perform tasks when asked ( after heavy sarcasm such as ' nope, I'll do the first thing but not the second' and proceeds to laugh after doing what was asked of him in full) and has a decent understanding of the alphabet, numbers, etc. He is very VERY good with technology; he handles gaming consoles better than I do sometimes ( he recently beat me 10 rounds straight in Super Smash Bros AND YES, I WAS TRYING). However, there are times where, for whatever reason, he will be difficult, and genuinely act as if he doesn't know something. Then, when he realizes it is making me upset, he'll change his tune and show what he knows. What do I do? Is he really ready for a school environment, or have I been too lenient and allowed him too much time in discovering what he enjoys to do outside of a working environment?

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working environment= working on his activity books, doing his chores ( yes, he has chores and responsibilities; I don't want him to end up like me, a person who took on everyone else's responsibilities and never had time to focus on what I needed to do for myself)",11.359331450094167,7.6366856864406785,11.036666666666667,62.63978342749532,58.66101694915254,13.878719397363467,41.900188323917135,11.645159339076185,4.702406403013182,986,37,179,20,9,328,141,236,0.055,0.765,0.18,0.99,2,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,0,8,9,9,0,1,8,2,27,0,0,3,1,26,38,18,0,3,5,2,1,1,0,4,0,0,2,1,9,11,0,0,5,3,0,2,6,2,1,2,5,1,19,7,27,28,3,32,0,0,1,0,26,13,0,2,17,121,28,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433235115443834,0.16073264533447376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24732475811296956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698943034337783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993293000265591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050156824281096,0.0,0.1171593350299595,0.0,0.14752530029228011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639760967528862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251587698333143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094878440183999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539341778221973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462450871270624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829681012570367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723979014866167,0.09808270303928028,0.10202120013036953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388038520976262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550033252472022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474088316378196,0.13600415061070578,0.2612177785706134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016181853939467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183431830737026,0.1308266472993926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787984243098429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313976678845961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696608794046406,0.08980830074551367,0.14388083460145815,0.0,0.13770640297733475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32743041811584384,0.07802118420851252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893410155082598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288900591452402,0.13433506154750924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073264533447376,0.08518290537860364
parenting,sup__tj,2019/02/26,"DS (4) electronics obsession getting out of hand. My son is 4 years old, will be 5 in April. His obsession with screen time is out of control. He has a tablet with his own profile that is mostly educational games and has all kinds of parental controls and time limits set up on it. I strictly enforce a certain time he is allotted on his games. I also let him watch cartoons in the morning, again limiting his time. However, screen time has become an obsession for him. He’s constantly trying to take my phone and figure out the passcode, and sneaking to turn on the TV. Today, I got a shower and took my phone with me and hid the TV remote in a cabinet in the kitchen. When I came out of the shower, I had found that he snuck on to his tablet. I scolded him and told him to go on time out. He just cried and told me how mean I am. He hardly shows any interest in his toys at all and either mopes or follows me around the house attached at my hip. I feel like the attachment to me is in part of DD being only 4 months old and him still adjusting to no longer being an only child. I do my best to give him plenty of attention, play with him, color, and do crafts. He is also in preschool 3 days a week for 2.5 hours. He is a very well behaved kid and uses his manners other than this electronics obsession. When it comes to this he will cry, stomp, scream, throw tantrums and tell me how mean I am every time I tell him is time is up or don’t allow him on a screen. I’m at my wits end because I’ve tried everything. Being stern with him, talking to him, time outs, and even (lightly) smacking his hand. Nothing seems to work. Some days he is good about coloring and playing but most times he’s completely uninterested in toys at all and says he wouldn’t care if I threw them all away. What can I do about this?? Please help me out fellow redditors. ",3.538044444444445,4.5691416666666695,4.55306666666667,87.15697777777781,72.33333333333334,7.795555555555558,26.42222222222223,8.167268648758528,1.4793555555555549,1435,47,307,21,27,468,193,375,0.046,0.8640000000000001,0.09,0.9465,4,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,0,0,1,6,14,16,1,4,17,0,29,4,3,6,5,63,50,26,0,2,6,2,4,1,1,3,0,2,3,2,9,31,1,4,8,9,0,7,3,6,1,0,8,13,45,10,55,34,12,63,0,0,6,0,49,29,0,8,27,199,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433852454113067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562181855602639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590350792869042,0.0,0.0,0.09066286721966144,0.0,0.0,0.058824168154966334,0.10657424759414114,0.0,0.0,0.10126849615496028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036778515226876,0.09838594659551296,0.0,0.0,0.0831243171747215,0.10117611584088597,0.10427984907725406,0.21646099430936425,0.0,0.0,0.21199662201064204,0.12446620631469806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546841590604712,0.0,0.0,0.06373589215481554,0.0,0.0813035652371023,0.0,0.08672600770197803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04879219120798504,0.06893805338485963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580486581445367,0.0,0.0,0.05041612192993738,0.09256949050110194,0.05484192813374024,0.08093778312331629,0.07717811237679617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644308195274254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468044668016322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503090297123093,0.11134551449890842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048761764905513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867554670454752,0.0,0.04714395474307816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022880463642046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702362977932893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259224942825872,0.0,0.2025164338361552,0.0,0.0,0.14678186282935046,0.0,0.0,0.10714939614479653,0.10449772252507038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059256155413474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673893013624547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08784798028626509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706327419665801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255434238769701,0.07756128287545165,0.16868667517769453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5626864791551516,0.0,0.09146863888233844,0.18441558191663127,0.10721261540933327,0.13103135482921796,0.1049619051651496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334312335603432,0.0,0.07962079774710128,0.0,0.0,0.0774047209964473,0.0,0.08676311839904742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702515535771372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214142460882206
parenting,cactusfairyprincess,2019/02/26,"Alternatives to Make-A-Wish? My foster son is terminally ill (kidney and heart failure) and wants to go to Disneyland. 

Unfortunately, he already used his “Make-A-Wish” years ago. He wanted to go to Disney then, however he was hospitalized so they gave him a shopping spree instead. His parents then pawned everything he got. We’ve contacted Make-A-Wish to explain, unfortunately they have a pretty strict “no double dipping” policy, which is understandable.

I’m looking for other organizations, either for foster kids or sick kids, that could help defray the cost of taking him. Unfortunately we did not know how sick he was when he was placed with us, so we were unprepared and have missed a lot of work, so our own finances are tight.

Thank you for any suggestions!",5.24986618004866,7.787967897810223,6.002645985401461,72.36095194647204,70.75182481751824,8.946228710462288,28.204987834549875,9.516144504307137,2.895326520681265,610,23,102,15,12,199,95,137,0.147,0.795,0.058,-0.8977,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,1,2,1,6,2,0,0,4,0,11,5,2,2,0,19,26,11,0,3,3,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,6,0,1,3,1,3,2,2,1,0,0,7,2,12,1,12,18,4,8,0,1,1,0,26,1,0,2,5,60,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831108273470972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463181932652886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377719908257118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358419784580994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036831439713852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901733634528053,0.0,0.13381386937965886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826430875861573,0.11214501854128717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194973528557428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404990791041488,0.0,0.0,0.14224180627865354,0.0,0.0,0.33504412131421524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577903576895344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17480435662071608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17021540907839466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579702970441276,0.0,0.0,0.1540374651421909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417662359186944,0.20125450024768726,0.14450296177249078,0.0,0.0,0.19736869368833485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5771980862369545,0.0,0.0,0.12180438112030673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774278120555432
parenting,Youngmama-hood,2019/02/26,"Young mom Hello Mums,

I would like to share that I have reacently started a blog, that talks about being a young mum to be. Looking to help other moms out there where you can post questions, recipes, tips and tricks to share with others out there. I know being a young mom gets a lot of talk but I am still a mom and moms need support. Which is why I created what I did, it is still in a wokring progress but Its there for any one who needs to talk or wants to share helpful mom tips to  make someone else life a little easier, please share with others! We are in this together! Each day I will post something that feutures, Pregnancy, easy healthly recipes, motivational ideas, DIY spa treatments, etc. I hope that this will help others out there and create a space for everyone to share and help others! 

Check it out!

https://www.youngmama-hood.com

Thank you for all the support it means a lot!",4.309678782755704,6.346135272189354,3.920224006762471,88.4570562130178,72.01775147928994,6.722062552831784,25.08918005071851,7.447530270364453,1.0388458157227394,707,22,140,8,14,212,101,169,0.006999999999999999,0.682,0.312,0.9953,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,0,2,8,11,1,0,10,0,13,2,0,2,1,29,26,7,0,5,3,8,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,18,12,0,0,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,11,10,21,19,5,18,0,0,1,0,26,9,0,5,8,93,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874024885007088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519049748820838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444229663003275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127348268971362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658961967014623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05281195864086803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744703760699464,0.0,0.0,0.2710165672554253,0.0,0.0,0.10039872733930696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411097180577252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05555285009821216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139826809197211,0.0493842940065559,0.10131222634533536,0.0,0.0,0.08488468461783766,0.0,0.0,0.17187516021346688,0.0,0.0,0.06747402367844152,0.0,0.0,0.1101095692267534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7103266673463632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990427441028026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849679820167064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095933230945902,0.0,0.0,0.19362010905975088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323665824500699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08564772469779597,0.07781901967882324,0.0,0.0,0.07154742422717704,0.0,0.1614508333369873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294167243203276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24374127401409826,0.0,0.09306410925464872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059621669494181725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912121395998493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180682083557799,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HubrisTurtle,2019/02/26,Why are the suicide and homicide rates increasing among the youth? I’m having a hard time with this. I’m a new parent and work at a high school. We lost a very bright and promising young man to one of these two issues. I just want to know if there’s something I can do for my son to ensure he never has to experience either. I am almost in tears thinking this whole thing and I don’t have the answers. Please help,1.2019638242894075,3.3915902558139592,2.406434108527133,94.82913436692509,82.48837209302326,4.752454780361758,18.857881136950905,5.82211442006289,-0.320450645994832,326,8,71,2,9,104,67,86,0.111,0.72,0.16899999999999998,0.6411,1,0,1,0,0,1,6.0,1,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,14,5,1,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,2,6,2,10,13,3,10,0,1,1,0,6,4,0,2,5,47,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22439072024526024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920004491678127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007379001898826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020076513488648,0.23676017551776904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338885656814848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123152332341529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446173869145479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17282967738135652,0.2164245814737656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15184712290277735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488220491777359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459801890417937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22678796604177345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251308901407472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24511476247105565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488734184293353,0.1435858751569517,0.0,0.0,0.1306669079112579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21890039793280594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848952095430161,0.13217229437055605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20220362609161768,0.25018508722936544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313797508817468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sasquatchoo,2019/02/26,"Tips and advice for a week long beach trip with small children?? I'd like to be able to relax at least a little bit! 
I am so excited to be going on a beach trip for the first time in years. I have a 5 year old and an 1.5 year old. My mom is coming as well as my niece and her husband and my nephew. So I will have people to help watch the kids which is a huge bonus. So maybe I can close my eyes and soak up sun for at least a minute.  Anybody have any tips or items that made their beach trip much more bearable? Something you wouldn't go without? My son has had skin reactions to sunscreen before, even ""natural"" kind. Any tips for that would be appreciated as well!",2.2597077922077915,3.5039330357142866,3.196493506493507,94.81396103896105,75.78571428571429,6.233766233766234,20.584415584415584,6.574015621080383,-0.02464285714285764,515,11,122,4,11,164,92,140,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.9808,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,2,6,7,0,0,9,0,15,2,2,1,0,13,19,12,0,2,2,4,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,0,4,1,6,2,0,2,1,2,3,12,7,19,11,6,24,0,0,2,0,10,9,0,1,10,76,15,0,0.1791663755048871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750793085496701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436785584402598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245738932756372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195603278366918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433596802238336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833770126264667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523988274772716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036487601803422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009144483581845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865742092236563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08753164102849399,0.17957177695159865,0.0,0.1585566042847875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953155656445085,0.0,0.0,0.17999670579229676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20983749357934964,0.0,0.0,0.1317079011434748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760099441279853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421140562456585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793102914079935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447335437472473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371645928084847,0.0,0.3221841771911676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17270999241969148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727465262422896,0.0,0.0,0.34613181487435085
parenting,MissHappyNugget,2019/02/26,"My daughter refused to speak with the kindergarten principal, how can I make her interact? Hello parents!  I kindly ask your for your advice in this situation...
Today we - my partner, my mother and I- took my 3-year-old daughter to the kindergarten, we had to talk to the principal so she could get accepted in 1st grade. We've been looking for a school for about a month, and finally I decided my old school was the best choice, for kindergarten at least and my partner agreed. I had told my girl that we were going to her new school, that she would have lots of fun there, meet new people, etc and she didn't sound very excited, but it seemed she was OK with it. She seemed quite happy this morning when she was looking around the school, she was telling us about all the colors she was seeing, the plants, the posters in the walls, etc, the principal met us and took her hand to take her to a classroom to do a diagnostic evaluation, she went with her with no problems. About 10 min later, the principal asked me to be there, because my daughter wasn't answering her questions, in fact, she wasn't saying a word! The teacher asked her name and age and she did not answer, just looked around the classroom, the teacher said she would give her an apple puzzle if she answered but my daughter remained silent. I was astonished, my girl is really talkative and has an ample vocabulary for her age, or at least I think so. I asked the teacher if bringing my partner or my mother would help and she didn't let me, so we rescheduled the evaluation. In the way home, his dad was asking my daughter why she didn't talk and she just said no!. We told her we were surprised and sad because it was important that she talked with the teacher, so she may go to that nice school. 
Why didn't she talk? What can we do to make her interact with the teacher?
I would really like to have her in that school, it's the best I've found near my home and work and its fairly priced.
Thanks a lot for reading.

TLDR: 3-year-old girl won't talk with kindergarten principal.

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parenting,Losendos1976,2019/02/26,"Need help reporting this Youtube Video This guy is looking in the faces of parents and saying FU. I've reported it, please do the same!

[https://youtu.be/VJe6LLoGgR8](https://youtu.be/VJe6LLoGgR8)  
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parenting,usernamezerozero,2019/02/26,"Playing with irrational demands My five year old wants to play with me often, but when I agree she makes it so annoying that I quit. For example, she wanted to play with a beach ball, but she demanded I stand at the end of the hallway and throw it around a corner. I explained that I couldn't do that and I also demonstrated, but she continued to insist. I gave up in frustration, telling her it wasn't possible and that the game was no longer enjoyable for me. This happens frequently. I don't know how to better handle such situations without losing my cool. What would you do?",4.872589285714284,6.182708223214287,5.568214285714286,80.07678571428572,69.44642857142857,9.528571428571428,30.07142857142857,9.827888789773867,2.9106214285714285,459,18,87,11,8,149,76,112,0.146,0.693,0.161,0.1892,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,3,7,9,2,0,5,1,7,0,0,2,0,20,14,10,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,0,2,6,0,1,5,3,0,1,3,1,18,6,15,9,0,13,0,1,0,0,10,5,0,1,6,68,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964529092020145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333735658588175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318548292383422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23219155386362306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23182283625336045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440735541378917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29328443330230985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499052498928738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750876154474831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29554041828754635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788341545361738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29467324903110986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22913506007092105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092516698054317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527081037118228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622741895032813,0.0,0.0,0.16881925078712856
parenting,arodr7893,2019/02/26,"Is this toxic parenting dynamic going to damage my sisters? Okay, I apologize if this is too long or doesn’t belong in this sub. I just really need to get this off my chest and need an outside perspective. 

I (F25) have two step sisters (11 and 12) who live at home with my mom and step dad. They alternate with their biological mom every other week. Their dad has been with my mom since they were babies, so the girls have lived their entire lives in this family arrangement. 

Problem 1: My step dad, We’ll call him Jack, is not a very attentive parent. He has lived his entire life with a back injury (degenerative disc disease and nerve damage) which means that he is in chronic pain. Despite all of us begging him to change, Jack maintains a terrible diet of coca-cola, cigarettes and fast food which means that he is always in poor health. Jack is a very generous, kind and patient person but lacks the ability to really take care of himself, mostly due to the severe depression that he refuses to treat. He rarely cleans or asks his two daughters to clean. In fact, he really does not enforce any rules for them. He lets them eat whatever they want, watch tv, nonstop, all day long and do no chores.  

Problem 2: Their biological mom, Shawna, is not a good parent. Her household is a shit show. She has different men living with her off and on, she leaves her sex toys everywhere, never cleans and, overall, has little interest in the girls’ well-being. Shawna is also very cruel and aggressive toward my mom and Jack. She has even tried to take the girls away from us, but thankfully, the judge denied it. So, there is a lot of tension between my parents and the bio mom.

Problem 3: My mom is obsessed with parenting the girls. To make up for the fact that Jack and Shawna enforce nothing and do very little to create a healthy environment for my step sisters, my mom has taken to trying to control every aspect of their lives. Since Jack does not enforce chores, healthy eating habits or cleanliness, my mom is constantly nagging at them to do those things. I know that my mom loves them, but sometimes it’s as if my mom is taking out her resentment toward Jack and Shawna out on the girls by being overly controlling. 

All of this has created a terrible family dynamic in which my mom is always nagging and the girls are always annoyed. Jack, despite our pleas, refuses to get healthy or to be more of an active parent.  My mom says that she’s tired of trying so hard but also refuses to live in a pigsty and refuses to watch the girls live shitty lives with no direction. I am sick and tired of the constant tension and arguing. 

Is there a solution here? Is divorce the only answer? I know that the ones really suffering here are my sisters and I desperately want to find a way to make this better. I held them when they were babies and love them with all of my heart. Any advice is appreciated. 

TL;DR: My step sisters have two shitty parents and an overbearing step mom. I love them and don’t want them to be damaged by this. ",5.481490384615384,6.572772854166669,6.067222222222222,77.86923076923081,67.85416666666666,9.171581196581196,29.178952991452988,9.40045753921074,2.584085523504273,2388,83,433,47,39,776,254,576,0.174,0.7020000000000001,0.124,-0.9892,8,0,1,0,1,0,74.0,4,0,17,3,14,35,8,3,30,1,43,18,3,4,7,82,68,40,0,11,15,30,1,0,0,1,7,1,6,9,24,33,4,7,7,3,1,7,9,22,0,4,5,4,61,13,67,58,8,42,0,5,2,4,94,23,1,8,11,290,85,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04181009540635168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843207980444603,0.10680442309959656,0.0,0.0,0.05819204942758326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03999924088287734,0.0,0.040198962529425716,0.03289988063162485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03784084085037647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368940616145783,0.0,0.04362329476115895,0.0,0.04526203536862599,0.0,0.0,0.09247317836252213,0.0959765300411471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027593503918764563,0.0,0.036851617287298834,0.0,0.0,0.04470238256281623,0.0,0.0,0.07488483337209423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756175236037267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028259824767105087,0.0,0.07209829277859453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066988081245383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0391057330540406,0.0,0.051737138875390186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044707957259507464,0.0,0.024316334588760813,0.035886962444128256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038327954088714186,0.0,0.0,0.04547963840595831,0.0,0.050701751089135126,0.0,0.0,0.042917960901751484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04455515361938176,0.04702825859430902,0.0,0.0,0.045304316891716184,0.0,0.0437517004060344,0.030221097649165682,0.0,0.08576585307343093,0.34002830280605684,0.07572872896711706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036375224071164905,0.11584841508104705,0.0,0.05712012666025931,0.0,0.0,0.09321324263559934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7015481143193254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345072277025977,0.03299928879187202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04105443032442088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028992978155175132,0.0325407677080213,0.045527441934176634,0.0,0.33256241336021003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03735918440157529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282159810195095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963952090061728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034025235156319486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048336130229243206,0.043919331161115086,0.07078623126947496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04231656077744872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650949877606513,0.0,0.0,0.039391705269299034,0.0,0.0,0.028425192956547076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835268788726892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714688854144242,0.0,0.12538744891772138,0.0,0.1029328540372812,0.0,0.0,0.14121209987520006,0.07570907574966276,0.033961625758183116,0.034320439826792164,0.0,0.03846985488567322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,galaxygargoyle,2019/02/26,"Anybody else have haunted toys? We have the Fisher Price elephant that you can ride/bounce/push. It sings songs when you bounce or push the buttons. Additionally, it sings its songs when no one is near and the house is quiet (because loud noises will also set it off, like the vacuum or the dog). We got it at a garage sale, so I don't know it's full history, but we're convinced it's haunted. Please share your stories of haunted toys and let me know we're not alone.",4.842482269503545,5.329637361702133,4.956170212765958,87.43333333333334,69.0,7.543262411347518,27.368794326241137,7.1686216300943375,1.1663815602836878,368,11,78,3,6,115,66,94,0.118,0.752,0.13,0.0541,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,3,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,11,9,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,1,0,8,5,0,0,2,6,2,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,7,3,4,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,2,3,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34698599943147435,0.0,0.2679202499058775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422880002826396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798713156627529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679509761640183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865751361708269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682431640608092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425868843995077,0.0,0.16367682889116658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270223548677091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3677580496722791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,miagonem8,2019/02/26,"Constant baby talk My 5 year old will not stop with the baby talk, she tries to regress to it all the time with us (adults) but speaks clear and fine with her older siblings, so we know how well she can speak, it’s driving me nuts, I feel like I’m  always reminding her of her big girl voice.. it seems worse when she comes back from her moms, who just recently had a baby , I don’t know, what can I do? ",4.136823529411768,3.7645808000000014,4.5058823529411764,93.03647058823532,70.41176470588233,7.741176470588236,24.058823529411764,6.742157984588678,0.4529294117647056,308,6,75,2,5,97,65,85,0.079,0.777,0.14400000000000002,0.5919,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,2,17,12,5,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,5,6,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,4,14,3,7,10,1,12,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,1,10,45,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904531967577802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394090059856635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20606179201635594,0.0,0.2585054927655844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095385199482415,0.1708946226739453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629316603387397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686794102232835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801646985679342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510149898815078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361950949266696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177715602133118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999372445330205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3845425137582578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394876832424012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241069222671847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28774514541245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150822318414416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24377963568217184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404605714147396
parenting,littleit,2019/02/26,Is Momo Challenge real? I don't allow my kids to watch YouTube but my friends do allow their kids to watch it. Mostly they censor it but some of them don't at all!! I have tried looking on Snopes but I am no detective. Thought I would ask the Parents of reddit if they know for sure. I have googled it and it looks real to me but I have a friend claiming the Momo Challenge is fake. ,0.1147500000000008,2.403230975000003,1.6900000000000013,97.195,89.25,3.7,20.5,4.935628992294339,-0.3311499999999996,298,10,65,1,10,96,51,80,0.165,0.679,0.156,-0.2182,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,4,2,0,6,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,2,2,17,15,6,0,2,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,4,13,5,8,13,3,2,0,0,4,0,10,2,0,3,0,48,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391312784333165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952490050773443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14057676285756485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296022313406014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840270869088246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5822952928337675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410812229881045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20307052016925256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17366618639440026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170751646968253,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yurenmapilele,2019/02/26,"Free Samples from PINCHme PINCHme is a free sample program that mails you free samples of products from major brands and then asks you to review those samples so they can send you more. 

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parenting,Irishpotatoclock,2019/02/26,"Kindergartener is the only girl out of 5 kids and prays for a sister every night. Anything we can do to help or just wait it out? I have 5 kids. Boys are 11, 9, 7, and 3.5. My daughter turned 6 a few weeks ago. 

Last summer she got into the habit of saying that she wanted to be a boy. After a lot of talking we discovered that it was not an issue of being transgender but an issue of not wanting to be the only girl in the family. We talked to her about the advantages of being the only girl in the family, like not having to share a room but she wasn't thrilled still. 

Every night for the past 2 or 3 months she prays for a sister before falling asleep. We have talked to her about how mommy and daddy aren't having any more kids and how even if we did we don't know if it would be a boy or a girl. She says she understands but prays to God to send us a baby girl anyway. 

She loves her brothers and plays with them a lot. I wouldn't say she's particularly a girly girl or a tomboy. She'll wear her Elsa dress outside to wrestle or play in the mud. She is starting a coed flag football team in a couple of weeks and the team is mostly boys. She says she doesn't care and likes throwing the ball around with her brothers in the yard. Still every night she prays for a sister and sometimes she'll randomly burst into tears saying she is sad that she doesn't have a sister. The other night we told the kids to go to bed and when we went to tuck her in she was crying her eyes out because her brothers went to bed together and she was in her room by herself. She has done the same thing when we go out to eat and all of her brothers go in the same bathroom. 

Is this normal? I only have a brother and my wife has two sisters so we don't have any experience with this. Is there anything we can do to help her or do we wait for it to pass? ",3.025991452991452,3.6650698897435916,4.324358974358976,89.78619658119659,73.1794871794872,6.905982905982907,22.393162393162388,6.775458762138228,0.416982905982906,1427,31,322,11,27,472,168,390,0.062,0.846,0.093,0.9064,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,13,0,1,3,14,10,0,0,35,0,41,5,3,2,1,67,58,28,0,7,15,12,0,2,0,4,0,5,5,14,11,34,1,2,2,6,0,9,10,1,0,1,10,6,50,9,51,39,8,43,4,1,1,1,87,17,0,12,19,232,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654874261179686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13279214657346755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606928111977965,0.08691706102523199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059518219180617574,0.0,0.08308135159440938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954677673193572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803277590666877,0.10724895744500776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991589549198328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990637181577584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448789533154234,0.0,0.246788534426846,0.0,0.0,0.09550709559433164,0.1840857426793744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664669812424395,0.0,0.07808871680577559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088718881901226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20381398744186616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05365839036243215,0.07958666522279707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954003879510108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601388450880894,0.08812062739997112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793241150841168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665004413372486,0.09566290320455506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29702740753093176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932049539564997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388221763842278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656485716724808,0.0,0.06910751854893496,0.0,0.15594504735977247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23542922469977698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06486525954309665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329572664690987,0.0,0.0,0.10620032332250064,0.09537653716696473,0.1016428946932402,0.11744452012773572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11517691027995247,0.0,0.15663599824291433,0.0,0.0,0.1810197688659093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935806923081109,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,caitohpotato,2019/02/26,"3yo daughter obsessed with traditional gender roles and stereotypes 3yo daughter obsessed with gender norms/categorizing everything as boy or girl things...

I know this is a totally normal developmental phase, but it’s starting to grate on me.  The other morning, while in kitchen cooking breakfast with daughter, she is looking at me and starts CRYING.  She then says, “I don’t want to look like a boy when I grow up!” I have short hair, but until now have always thought that I appeared pretty feminine.  This is one of many recent instances that she’s said something like this to me.  She’s made comments that I can’t play A, B or C activity with her because I’m a boy.  When pressed, she says “you have short hair like a boy, mommy.”  I try to explain in as simple terms as possible that a person’s hair or physical presentation does not determine whether they’re a boy or girl and that boys can have long hair, etc... but her eyes glaze over. She has stopped telling me I’m a boy, but still makes constant comments categorizing things into boy or girl activities.

Pretty sure I fucked up exposing her to Disney princesses & other super girly things too soon, or maybe I didn’t... maybe it’s okay and will pass but it annoys the shit out of me.  She goes to daycare and is very close with other girls  there, and dislikes every boy.  When going to play dates with other boys she’ll say beforehand, “I don’t like them.” She’ll play with them regardless, so it’s not too much of an issue, socially... but makes me sad that she hates boys so much, already... I thought this was an elementary school aged thing.

I don’t really know where I’m going with this other than I’m wondering if people have had similar experiences.  There’s a lot on the internet about gender NON conforming children, but not a whole lot on traditional gender role obsessed children. I feel like I’ve already failed her! How can I navigate these discussions with her without making things worse? Is this a big deal?",4.161135000000002,6.3070705626666665,4.682179166666668,82.36606875000003,72.70666666666669,7.5675,27.985416666666666,8.376592526197632,2.0498416666666666,1571,61,291,27,32,499,192,375,0.103,0.7559999999999999,0.141,0.9453,0,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,0,1,2,2,15,20,4,3,16,1,23,10,6,5,2,59,49,33,0,4,19,3,6,5,0,3,0,4,1,18,27,18,3,1,8,4,0,5,9,9,0,1,7,13,38,11,37,39,8,40,0,2,3,1,52,16,2,11,24,187,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326406353945001,0.0,0.08770787635339634,0.11420949309279566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425572107146785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390857033508416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578570712741268,0.0,0.10867099017897512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224322620074812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755775157327313,0.0,0.0,0.08881076220624927,0.0,0.09473388804852638,0.10310922234134813,0.0,0.0,0.05329743755095192,0.07530347590871146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744797114016457,0.0,0.0,0.11981155867430948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406854918701344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001853640635348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585892897128855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574850525889997,0.0,0.0,0.09328273779149586,0.17703229678588153,0.0,0.0,0.1792281759072318,0.0,0.09973957130149706,0.211081918469,0.10686713867646352,0.2117929503535261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497397491393916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327743184897717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142716947535556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307661534412155,0.0920381749480975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188316500394998,0.0,0.2144756037522439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752704567508644,0.0,0.10407765535432492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002671190892161,0.2514739491343481,0.0,0.1066784946317916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819976800242176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745015261623864,0.0,0.08114820623644517,0.0,0.0,0.14921660953416915,0.0,0.08417894220942658,0.08812578403942252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934576569667793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921312131447126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35014186259347163,0.0,0.0,0.1673643103895529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156509349475541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697261571209418,0.06217235262334767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768423585595407,0.0,0.10160952304402407,0.11431044870026688,0.0,0.0,0.10741972822428468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,x09Bvb09,2019/02/26,"Possible long distance parent in future? So I’m in a situation now where my wife and I will more than likely get divorced. I make about $20 an hour and the cost of living where I live (specifically housing) has increased tremendously in the last few years. If I were to have 50/50 custody with our time split evenly, I would pay about $600 in child support for two kids. I won’t hardly be able to afford a one bedroom let alone a 2 or 3 bedroom. Plus with my schedule, 50/50 will be an extremely hard task and the logistics of it would be inconvenient for the kids. Realistically I would only have them 35-40% of the time. My kids are 1 and 4. 

An opportunity has come up in Colorado, a 10 hour drive from where I live in Boise, and I’m not saying I will do it, but I am keeping all my options open. Essentially I could move to Colorado and live with a long time friend for pretty cheap. I’ve looked at job prospects there and with my degree I could start making around 70-80k almost right away. Child support would go up more but I would actually be able to afford to live, and I would have the kids for summers and holidays. 

I know most people will say don’t leave your kids and I get that, and I most likely won’t do this, but I really don’t understand how I’ll live financially if I stay. If I do go through with it it wouldn’t be for a year or two and opportunities may arise here where I won’t have to. I’m very conflicted; I don’t want to leave my kids, but between the toxic relationship with my wife and the financial hardship I’ll be in, I don’t know what to do. 

Does anyone have experience with this or some insight they can provide? ",4.621524373062833,4.8365765088757415,5.698977176669482,82.8711143984221,69.41420118343194,8.804959143420682,27.929557621865314,8.704169506293173,1.7774551704705548,1292,40,281,20,21,430,168,338,0.036000000000000004,0.87,0.094,0.9681,4,1,0,0,1,0,36.0,1,1,2,2,13,7,0,0,17,0,43,0,0,3,1,61,62,26,0,13,11,3,2,2,1,15,0,2,2,8,8,24,0,2,4,1,3,6,9,0,0,3,1,5,34,7,42,37,8,40,0,0,1,0,20,18,0,12,17,188,42,2,0.18431681295466795,0.0,0.08993331071192062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228333183281537,0.09544831558933674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443930059863262,0.0,0.0,0.08204052048162927,0.0,0.0,0.08658585655468541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938630691723547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716197714873097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064844255285684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086975831164724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014860534657357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120135623557662,0.0,0.09629792737290377,0.0,0.10475149238475917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511166089576118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18151493296573806,0.10633842765033756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145299815335324,0.08191462610005203,0.0,0.0,0.10129570009879714,0.07512140149768749,0.0,0.1951648916721528,0.0,0.09423821454614503,0.0,0.09004788460781242,0.0,0.4882653680385745,0.1631145793530289,0.0773898507531856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303290389074947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794980133615876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244892130734759,0.07009062094285654,0.0,0.0,0.10233100418097674,0.0,0.0,0.06389103522584519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389475624817276,0.0,0.09375823093263537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059039035040246476,0.0,0.0,0.09894363923583303,0.0,0.07870277558666516,0.0,0.14657612759672412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10358991016639003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523019444137196,0.09822859923867984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20916053508790367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121492380561914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800507439763001,0.09594015128367146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760403369529115,0.05435741588230951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928001268458512,0.0,0.0,0.11869398447871762
parenting,treeshugmeback,2019/02/26,"Night Time potty training and frequent wake ups - help please! Internet articles have failed me and i'm lost on how to proceed with my toddler. 

She is almost 2 years old, and has successfully day time potty trained herself over the past 2 weeks. No accidents, no diapers. Its wonderful. We took this very low stress and let her lead the way. I wanted to wait until she was a bit older but I wasn't about to discourage her. 

We had decided to not night-train her yet, since she sleeps through and still uses a diaper at night. Sometimes she wakes up dry but not all the time. I didn't want to night train yet. BUT she has other ideas. Now that she is day time trained, she is now suddenly waking up 3-5 times at night crying, saying ""potty,"" and sometimes goes back down, sometimes doesn't until we help her pee on the potty. She is waking herself up at night having to pee and is distressed because she doesn't want to pee in her nighttime diaper. 

​

Where I need advice: 

\-Do I bite the bullet, get up 3-5 times at night to help her pee and do this for months until her bladder expands enough to last the night? 

Or

\-Do we ditch the crib, get her used to pottying on her own, and hope for the best? (so scared of this since it may take months for this to be successful)

Or

\-Do we let her keep using diapers at night until she can hold her pee longer and then night train?

I don't want to screw up her new potty trained mentality that sometimes diapers are OK by encouraging her to pee in them at night, But I also don't want to be up 5 times a night if I don't need to be. I know I sound selfish but after 2 years of shit sleep I felt like we were finally making progress with STTN. 

  
A few notes: 

\-She is still in a crib - has never climbed out, and loves her bed. If we ditched the crib we'd get a full mattress and put it directly on the floor.

\- We usually let her CIO during MOTN wakeups as she self soothes in 2 minutes or less. 

\- She is small - 22lb and short, so she could only use the tiny ikea potty on her own at night, but then it may get messy if she takes it upon herself to flush it. 

\-She can pull up/down her pants and go pee with minimal assistance but she is so young I don't know if she'd be coordinated enough at night to do all the steps properly and still make it back to bed without an accident.   


TL/DR: Toddler is potty trained during day and is trying to at night by waking up 3-5 times a night and crying for the potty despite being in a diaper. Help please!   
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parenting,suburbaneverafter,2019/02/26,"Is having two kids really that bad? My husband and I are trying to decide if we want a second child. Our DD is currently 22 months. I think one of the major points holding us back is fear of how much work it’s going to be to juggle two kids. We’re in a good situation and our DD is great but at the end of the day we’re exhausted from handling her and it’s hard to imagine finding the reserves to handle another one, while still nurturing our relationship as a couple and ourselves as individuals.

So I have a few questions - is it really that bad? What age were your kids when you finally felt you were out of the weeds? Do you have any strategies to save your sanity during the toddler/baby phase? Are your kids friends or do they fight all the time? Would you do it all again?",4.0254257767548935,4.951655386075949,5.321944764096664,82.49008630609899,71.08860759493672,8.530264672036825,26.38895281933257,8.841846274778883,1.8257139240506324,613,19,126,11,11,205,102,158,0.105,0.784,0.111,0.2854,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,5,7,1,1,6,10,1,1,11,0,17,1,0,1,2,22,21,13,0,3,3,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,7,6,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,0,5,3,2,18,5,16,16,5,17,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,3,12,92,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847270644656616,0.18268043846416526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339611833072858,0.29092580335054585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276645007794027,0.0,0.11235476742121447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430347361442112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960411905683924,0.0,0.0,0.1672744722117374,0.19084487450363266,0.15923006933291092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459868166308486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901084419361322,0.1461239330363527,0.0,0.19207351561946126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606312195965852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905737574926466,0.0,0.12806864591403655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361062463877839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646902263034994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516154793840287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232141830778005,0.0,0.0,0.1870425523360559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582583926999228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912894922162222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163043912040016,0.0,0.0,0.10158662398160274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182810807256436,0.0,0.3403670105873419,0.0,0.20956013613580876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275698249572306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683116480920895,0.0,0.0,0.1237578936362234,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shay_bee14,2019/02/26,"When will he sleep. I’m seriously losing my mind. I am sure this has been posted by other moms a million times but I can’t help it. I need some light at the end of the tunnel. My 11 month old doesn’t really sleep well... every night is different. Sometimes up 4 times. Always up at least twice. Often starting his day at 4am. I have a high stress job and performance is suffering because I just have no energy. And that’s even with my husband helping! I just am so over hearing all my friends who have babies that sleep at least an eight hour block. It’s not teething, or hunger, or really anything most of the time. I have tried every sleep training method, but will admit I’m not always consistent - sometimes his cries just sound like he needs me and those times I hold and rock him. 

When did your kid sleep through the night??? Does this ever regulate and he will just effing sleep? 

I know. I’m a mom. I “signed up for this.” That doesn’t mean I don’t want a little hope every now and again. ",1.4927292110874184,3.749801940298511,2.52594171997157,94.0005970149254,81.83582089552239,5.619616204690832,19.02416488983653,6.868970318607317,0.10091499644634007,774,19,167,9,21,245,122,201,0.102,0.7609999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.7409,2,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,0,2,13,9,0,1,9,0,18,8,7,0,3,34,30,13,0,4,10,3,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,1,11,7,1,2,3,1,0,0,7,4,1,3,2,3,20,5,14,25,5,28,0,2,0,0,17,10,0,6,18,106,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719380977446117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850221048141963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629818376044213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349023062243578,0.06663171481404859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794556628991643,0.0,0.0,0.09041448443511653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150929047939853,0.0,0.0,0.06824072035651209,0.09345725940021476,0.2611502093289524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982341271998547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644716073520968,0.0,0.13850407126063344,0.10916138873242212,0.0,0.10261832054550836,0.10174765043116503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252740680840576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678100041376743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047607122699372,0.10355201498868406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558667812658775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125438476112542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432196548268982,0.2420101382209245,0.08246763013605321,0.0,0.0,0.15321832547326955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19391433073797668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841510851877983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989503101388962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323766149907274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6203571062210687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043687541774549,0.0,0.07312917910539526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835069008175525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737621456050256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409827767321269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014630014996966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06093977238312004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289550204375703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wiselifestylechoices,2019/02/26,"Nasal spray flu vaccine in Children, what experiences have you had? There's some interesting new research into how much 'better' the flu vaccine is within children when studying how many vaccinated patients go on to develop influenza. It seems that a part of this could be down to a new uptake in kids being given the vaccine (in the UK) as a result of the development of a nasal spray, meaning there's no need for a more intrusive injection.  


Details about the research - [https://healthnotepad.com/new-data-suggests-flu-vaccines-work-better-in-children/](https://healthnotepad.com/new-data-suggests-flu-vaccines-work-better-in-children/)  


Has anyone experienced the nasal spray vaccine compared to the injection? Is it a totally painless experience and do doctors offer the spray by default, as opposed to an injection?   


(sorry, lot's of questions haha!) ",12.95146630236794,16.476310303278694,10.104863387978142,46.75971766848818,52.524590163934434,10.012386156648454,39.78506375227687,10.25414643259724,4.896488888888889,715,32,79,14,9,211,81,122,0.068,0.889,0.043,-0.4659,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,15,1,9,6,3,3,1,14,14,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,3,20,9,6,11,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,4,3,63,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204350564225284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42515766798746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793856903948775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401238878247662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134908566032565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106806187383744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623028356908135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624581685599081,0.0,0.1745482921534429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177948078837852,0.11881589978311352,0.0,0.6190430066925401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352426117077846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950542759027222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587644119097504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937551593407333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333131983359248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UberFantastic,2019/02/26,"Question from an aunt: how to stop mean language from kids? Hello parents!

My sole relationship to kids is as an aunt who babysits occasionally.

My question is about how to shut down mean and rude comments from kids. 

My two nieces (aged 6 and 10) are at that stage where they love commenting on people’s appearances. They love saying that people are “ugly” or “weird” or “fat” or “gross” or “poor”.

I have tried talking calmly to them about not using these words because they are rude and hurtful, but they ignore me. 

I got very upset with them the last time I babysat and they called one of my neighbours “fat.” The older one interrupted my conversation with my neighbour to ask, “Why are you so fat?” She and her younger sister then laughed uproariously like mean girls.

I was absolutely livid with the two of them, and made the older one apologise at once to my neighbour who was flustered and embarrassed.

I don’t know what to do about my nieces. I‘m starting to dislike them immensely for their cruel behaviour and the fact that they dismiss and laugh off any instruction.

I talked to their mother (my sister) and she has said she will talk to them about it, but that was weeks ago, and their rude and mean comments persist.

Parents, how do you deal with kids who seem to find a lot of joy in making mean and rude comments?

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parenting,NancyNegativo,2019/02/26,"My 5 year old has turned feral since he started school, I'm so lost! Is this normal?! 

I've had the most well behaved kid since day one, it's the reason I wont have any more because my expectations are now far too high 😂 

Hes been at school for about 4 weeks now, hes come home almost every day not wanting to engage with me about his day or he 'hates' school, I've never heard that word come out of his mouth before :( hes having screaming fits at night time, hes stomping his feet saying he hates this house and everything. Why is he so angry? And how do I parent him when hes screaming and crying himself to sleep every night, doesnt matter what time I do it, hes the exact same. I dont whether to love him or tell him off, hes a sensitive boy who's seen some stuff a kid shouldn't have ever had to see so I'm treading very lightly around him. TIA",1.2657608695652165,2.7810703586956578,2.8754347826086963,94.92989130434783,79.1086956521739,5.252173913043479,19.108695652173914,5.602791699666715,-0.3867108695652175,662,14,154,3,16,218,117,184,0.158,0.807,0.035,-0.9654,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,13,8,2,0,5,0,23,4,3,2,3,27,37,11,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,3,8,8,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,5,1,1,6,7,22,3,14,29,4,26,0,1,2,1,28,8,0,5,16,88,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097787384872958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894887097114447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644023605036252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973481165770732,0.0,0.11130164868584118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253462133673155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367828103882505,0.25306663475734803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329729049040447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831660141650913,0.2204102383293339,0.0,0.1175551156409897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25827696057408234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819798059151006,0.13120363362851434,0.0,0.0,0.1509262928140775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278427026518845,0.0,0.11805261860361314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088146094735886,0.0,0.0,0.2454949431014621,0.12815678416884946,0.0,0.0,0.13725319214865164,0.0,0.08863384941281953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523855056199578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448476778336182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040178609089418,0.0,0.3971314710451821,0.10423111717286664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21639916152317615,0.0,0.13089502970611133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258131462080596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14973535556897166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143254609145099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254172509360542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227345667735994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792416640175707,0.0771495634019184,0.0,0.10492032515971987,0.0,0.11760541834027342,0.0,0.11802716708175907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842312767479012
parenting,DJVorTechS,2019/02/26,"Today my 10 year old told me she was scared about the Momo challenge It started with her asking if I had heard about it, and I told her yes and asked what she knew about it.

Turns out my ex-wife had shown her a picture and put the frighteners on her based on what's been in the news recently, and as a result she hadn't slept that night!

I explained to my daughter that this challenge was a very silly scary thing where people try to make you do very dangerous things that they wouldn't do themselves.  I also explained that the scary image was stolen from an artist to make it all seem much scarier than it is.

​

Part of me wants to follow this up with the original image of the sculpture made by the artist to try and downplay this stupid challenge.  But I'm not sure what, if anything, I can add.

​

Suggestions are welcome :)",9.437383820998278,6.683468349397592,8.017607573149743,79.8180120481928,61.28915662650602,10.69053356282272,36.364888123924274,7.957251820313856,2.654305679862306,670,21,135,5,7,202,103,166,0.128,0.7809999999999999,0.092,-0.8863,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,1,3,5,9,2,1,11,1,13,1,1,5,2,27,31,10,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,17,9,0,0,4,2,0,2,3,3,0,0,13,1,19,6,21,17,3,15,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,3,7,95,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764326773432165,0.0,0.3187857672286161,0.3575078443830051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105843344568598,0.0,0.2750547063775337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919839279282584,0.1963932229712728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814227468216647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805212863824814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436648184386165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593050547190834,0.0,0.10198707768547023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478854955497449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525270323425005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728208984319033,0.0,0.0,0.1339227972466761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041247318096265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864879039782532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19546578709534185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944243156816294,0.2811385134372887,0.0,0.1997551396010211,0.1600126934990552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427611862801313,0.0867688866955149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575078443830051,0.0947335770428412
parenting,VickiBee57,2019/02/26,"Need advice on being a parent to 2 kids I (24F) just had my second baby (Feb 22nd) and everything was fine at the hospital. However we're home now, and I feel like I'm failing. 
My husband and I co sleep with our first, who's almost 2 years old. We've never had a problem with her sleeping, even when she was a few weeks and/or months old. 
But our new baby doesn't seem to want to sleep at all at night, and has kept up our first baby, who then ends up getting taken to another room by my MIL just so she can sleep. 
I want to continue to co sleep with my first, but can't get my second one to sleep in a crib or even with myself. And I feel like I'm failing as a mom simply because I can't sleep with my first anymore.
I've slept holding her since birth pretty much and now I can't.
Idk what to do, I'm frustrated and sad and angry at myself and upset with my new baby when I know I shouldn't be. 
I'm not really sure what I'm looking for by posting anything. I just need to vent.",1.9185747663551391,2.7863489299065445,3.8524182242990683,91.26498247663551,76.05607476635514,6.658411214953272,21.786214953271028,6.9077264865688965,0.3805523364485981,757,18,177,7,16,258,115,214,0.134,0.8,0.066,-0.947,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,6,10,10,1,1,6,0,14,8,8,0,3,38,33,17,0,6,7,3,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,15,0,2,4,0,0,0,7,6,0,7,7,3,26,4,27,23,3,31,0,3,1,0,13,9,0,3,23,112,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975343641917963,0.0,0.0,0.09994651418936974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10466076169781988,0.0,0.0,0.09898590527282826,0.0,0.0,0.08213612553338771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060843990290586514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840311101110404,0.0,0.0,0.1318487324194167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897038842378425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093509865857554,0.14261030397405486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33959747418933817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042944806329626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011878682115567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485363351199725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975254360449643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381628255933869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689768876403625,0.07966835961187424,0.0,0.07337272749977959,0.14801750253760626,0.0769805622258339,0.19279658694934845,0.0,0.09366606394316114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094701603182965,0.0,0.06763466246389029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082854247086868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955915536659236,0.10154388850258922,0.0,0.09550585302000414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394162018409506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086438154984576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08256486852398857,0.0,0.6991830827292593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940708889833562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774248133175524,0.0,0.08006253620699573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427515006386318
parenting,WaytoCalmBabies,2019/02/26,"My Baby enjoy listening at this Lullaby! So hard to contain my baby to go to sleep especially during night time. He just wants to play and watch cartoons.

I've try to search baby songs and fortunately music box do the magic.

I try to make lullaby music video for my baby so while he's watching he will go to sleep.

Try this too parents if this works to your love ones.

[Baby Lullaby](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ourk4Dnh5_s&t=472s)",4.791930379746837,7.773987987341772,4.691629746835441,79.01440664556964,74.18987341772151,6.987974683544303,25.064873417721518,8.07648339933343,1.8150873417721525,357,12,58,6,8,110,53,79,0.021,0.8540000000000001,0.125,0.8555,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,1,0,7,8,6,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,5,3,10,7,0,6,0,0,2,1,7,1,0,1,3,30,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26695297012051744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800472235428661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22070836966489216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22236785507881127,0.0,0.16446077451796626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312112368869391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669536789140212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735761844611723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.493116499075005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14366634395879696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018281864675205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532149423601426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936780487433615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MagicJT,2019/02/26,"What’s your guys’ stance on parents looking through their children’s phones? I’m a 15m, and I think that parents lurking on their kids devices is an invasion of privacy, which should be a human right in my opinion. I’d like to see your takes on this, as I’m pretty biased as I’m the one who’s getting screwed over by it. 

I’d also like to explain why it is not only a violation of personal boundaries, but also a poor parenting choice. Spying on your children’s phones, tablets, etc. is a bad choice that a parent makes because it actually creates a climate of untrust between the parent and child, as it makes the child feel as though the parent doesn’t think that they can be trusted to have access to the internet , which makes the child resent the parent (at least in my case).",10.296279569892473,6.535351412903228,9.786935483870973,70.90706989247313,60.67741935483871,12.13978494623656,43.25268817204301,9.2995712137729,4.088075268817205,619,27,118,7,6,201,92,155,0.103,0.805,0.092,-0.3891,7,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,3,0,3,7,3,0,15,0,9,1,0,3,0,13,23,10,0,1,2,7,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,9,12,2,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,3,9,3,22,20,2,9,0,0,2,1,26,9,1,1,2,77,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.10802714175507208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770533531947208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242979941354368,0.0674816365628229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345965984860464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055973199748903336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057836133067285314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961031333846458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816476696196102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296004240851448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216791449786322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501312273635642,0.08419226851938147,0.0,0.0,0.8604340332811058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966588899507489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126216039806268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453711675368537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821349447454932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323255419716162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186406262371884,0.10876209775801277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998894488864195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,annanorwich,2019/02/26,"Teenage daughter has terrible hygeine, says she hates me and talks to strange men online? My daughter is 16 and her hygeine is terrible. She showers maybe once a month and wears the same underwear the whole time. She never brushes her teeth anymore and they are orange coloured now. She has a bad odour and her hair is very messy, unbrushed, greasy, dandruffy. I tell her to take a shower, clean her room but she doesn't budge. She has no friends at school, she says other women are stupid and backstabbing, and never does school assignments. Her teacher say she is on her laptop the whole time and never interacts with other classmates. Her voice is monotone and low, she is very shy around strangers. All her assignments are overdue and she spends the whole day on the computer playing video games or talking to strange men online on Discord. She frequently talks bad about me, how she hates me, to these men that live in different countries. She sends her naked pictures to some of these men and they talk about flying to see her. When I confronted her she started screaming at me, cursing and insulting me, throwing things at me and slammed the door. She has had therapy before but there is no change. I have no idea what to do, if she hates me so much should I allow her to get legally emancipated or if she wants to be put in foster care? The father is not in the picture.",5.758460873324688,7.156339789883269,4.854597924773022,85.68780263726764,67.44357976653697,7.890099437959361,31.78750540423693,8.167268648758528,2.228975961954172,1094,45,205,14,18,324,142,257,0.196,0.747,0.056,-0.9904,3,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,2,0,8,15,6,0,11,0,21,3,3,2,4,33,30,22,0,4,7,3,1,0,1,1,0,5,5,5,7,15,0,0,1,3,1,3,8,12,0,0,1,10,44,3,23,27,7,26,0,1,2,0,53,12,0,5,11,144,51,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762097332306735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558061865981223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805485717190335,0.0,0.0,0.10092127364827344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092229245874828,0.0,0.12546482580211674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648825631110627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391348721960002,0.0,0.0,0.10378910821985378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163134505531563,0.0,0.0619644700448086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512837427329654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388683313803662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472743494116242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915130438199027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466671012173948,0.0,0.08718586348334642,0.0,0.27441872550449903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263068926716492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922742206099847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829503910062414,0.0,0.24006241498913036,0.09451016425245712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394686240395148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917368499209398,0.38131007347623797,0.10366307473562147,0.0,0.13563132962687036,0.0,0.07879367009546391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831515851489656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19571757398557005,0.06995432944489975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972435395237299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FrowzyFraulein,2019/02/26,"My family is too scared to call CPS about a family member and to be honest I am too, but I need to do something I'm also scared of leaving out details and not getting proper help for these kids. They have been being abused for years, but I've only realized this recently since I'm only a few years older than them and the abuse was ""hidden"" from me by my parents. I'm scared of the mom in this situation because she's insane but tonight made me realize I'm done ignoring this. Is there an anonymous way to write in to CPS? Specifically Alaska. I only see the option to make a call.

Thank you for the help.",4.438306451612903,4.9087983145161305,5.8711290322580645,80.57669354838713,69.88709677419354,8.780645161290323,26.79032258064516,8.841846274778883,1.8977290322580638,477,14,96,8,8,162,81,124,0.235,0.726,0.039,-0.9824,1,0,1,0,2,0,11.0,0,1,2,0,5,6,0,3,8,0,10,0,0,2,0,16,20,7,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,4,1,11,2,18,14,1,9,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,1,5,63,15,0,0.0,0.35483225419571723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974615508663382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127945188888513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30580034514823945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323489682744784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28232104259268065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823240209711928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007336748167888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855188888346455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168658055999392,0.0999518875529367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537240582837935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102950708087198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416495738026377,0.0,0.0,0.1662673431191786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784911251803726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497443239593272,0.0,0.11932252735666644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386557666835912,0.16831281267268086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527633125135073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378594735622222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885577982300034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928539019181648
parenting,Crilbyte,2019/02/26,"Fredi camera keeps saying ""camera ready"" randomly and I'm scared. My camera keeps saying ""camera ready"" randomly (well, twice now that I've heard) and its really beginning to concern me. Could this be someone hacking into my camera? I've unplugged it now but I'm really worried. ",3.053828571428572,6.163515240000006,4.659714285714287,74.37700000000002,86.6,6.857142857142858,23.142857142857146,7.957251820313856,2.302085714285715,222,8,31,5,7,74,33,50,0.102,0.8290000000000001,0.069,-0.3998,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,8,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,3,1,2,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,18,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235145418742184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5235550494388629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37734634681192014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684186169434962,0.2948598354089773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495407082489187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648034045433659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2990932052580507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alkakfnxcpoem,2019/02/27,"What to expect with evaluating for autism So I'm pretty sure my 5 year old is on the autism spectrum - high functioning and smart, but his social skills are not the best and he has several signs. I've started the process for getting him evaluated and I'm hoping other parents can give me an idea what will happen and a general time line. I called the school special ed department and left a message. I am trying to find a developmental pediatrician who takes my insurance and the one I called has an 18 month wait list. I just feel lost and like the resources with the answers are difficult to find! ",6.443416149068327,6.94021791304348,6.8240993788819875,75.39826086956522,65.52173913043478,10.049689440993786,32.95031055900621,9.957137785484203,3.1382049689440983,480,19,90,10,7,156,82,115,0.08800000000000001,0.7759999999999999,0.136,0.6008,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,2,8,0,0,12,0,8,0,0,0,1,23,19,9,0,2,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,9,6,8,17,1,9,0,1,0,0,10,3,0,1,6,54,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19901048633971086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872775680280581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958852759798354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466463503109775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907658675296277,0.18191540335163936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769381773641442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003600442917656,0.0,0.18835058337378888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21407510511891306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060392447033337,0.0,0.0,0.09264620012763716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20700926737172665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513650405016237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899028582317416,0.0,0.12850174740681544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056749381518114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19292721565709145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192098849225134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142338453158341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933092473317127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342247999472876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787289708280524,0.0,0.142582101175265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105778342971486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287498809620499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221188780597727
parenting,roseinseattle,2019/02/27,"Gender disappointment Has anyone experienced gender disappointment? If so, how did you cope with it? Did you ever get over it or does it stay with you for life? 

When I was pregnant, I found out that I was having the same gender when as my oldest. I was a little sad but didn’t think too deeply about it. After baby was born, the gender disappointment set in. The feelings come and go. ",3.077606177606178,5.39654791891892,4.319343629343631,82.92391891891893,76.56756756756756,6.390733590733591,18.679536679536678,7.447530270364453,0.4713266409266406,302,6,57,4,7,99,52,74,0.149,0.851,0.0,-0.8805,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,7,4,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,1,1,14,15,9,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,8,2,8,0,9,7,1,14,0,4,0,0,3,4,0,2,6,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484758785133719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061110559851549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109778105580732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32144334052906154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17968062393958464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.389633747423785,0.0,0.0,0.18566086131222606,0.0,0.20195919923161093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510011802497104,0.0,0.3561639387897733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787663314813634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22770025120221515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sjordan10,2019/02/27,"How to parent a preteen ??? Long story short, I am 26 and my sister is 12. I have custody of her. We get along well but I’m having trouble balancing that line. I feel bad if I upset her because she’s been through a lot, but as a parent I don’t need to be her friend right? 

For example, she’s been talking about doing track for 2 years and now she finally is old enough to join. She has this new friend who is too cool to care about anything. All of sudden she doesn’t want to do anything including track. I am making her join because I think it’ll be good for her. I don’t think 12 year olds really know what they are feeling, right? Ugh... help ",0.032279411764704946,2.205736198529415,1.9544117647058847,96.1898529411765,87.75,4.870588235294118,18.794117647058822,6.322622252153567,-0.1242411764705884,497,14,113,5,16,164,89,136,0.078,0.6920000000000001,0.23,0.9677,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,1,0,6,10,0,1,3,1,19,0,0,2,1,18,30,7,0,3,3,3,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,3,21,6,15,25,3,12,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,2,9,74,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800469966570169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207275540967312,0.2074504566030589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348489731970962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581614206559434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207149139950378,0.0,0.0,0.1863970597607941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629234720076339,0.0,0.08889923854909622,0.0,0.0,0.14271838082893268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405166122996695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935130262171616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058228454479292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446601419612676,0.0,0.0,0.11358013376567602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12616816525354346,0.0,0.1643372656984565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570991990762781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37787514642658704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900598596326896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906237761176835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676456507505258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180575788159598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036213682400773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15299025122438598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21914915779351027
parenting,yellowyyz,2019/02/27,"Son says he doesn’t love his father My husband and I have a 5 year old son. Now, my son and I are very close. He hugs me, kisses me, and tells me that he loves me all the time. He won’t do that at all with his father. He’ll play with his father, but he doesn’t show him affection, even when his father is affectionate towards him. He usually doesn’t even tell his father goodnight. When that happened tonight, I asked my son why didn’t he say goodnight to his father. (This was not in front of my husband.) My son said “I don’t love him.” It crushed me. Completely broke my heart. I didn’t know what to say except that his father loves him very much. I’m stuck with this knowledge and I don’t know what to do. ",0.7457999999999991,2.682324646666668,2.0766666666666684,97.985,82.53333333333333,5.066666666666666,18.666666666666664,6.079149491110277,-0.3969333333333336,547,13,130,4,15,175,74,150,0.067,0.745,0.188,0.9617,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,0,2,0,14,7,1,1,2,17,26,7,0,0,3,14,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,9,8,0,0,3,2,0,1,9,1,0,0,5,4,28,8,11,19,3,13,0,1,0,6,44,4,0,0,8,78,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380570729112494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249801426628456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21733024128907835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548611570950784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495916710012398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18083379624496776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5939495192677939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209424791498154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726379907090149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564979405941384,0.39250310081795603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28759867147988805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593400527590447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119755823198014,0.2714954886639808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845536672111742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059466679424365
parenting,gracemarie42,2019/02/27,"Do you care what your kids see you do online? I'm dating a single father with two kids. He follows hundreds of nude Instagram models and even some bdsm stuff through his personal account and likes their pictures all throughout the day. My issue isn't his interest in looking at illicit pictures. I'm concerned that he's doing it within full view, because his kids, nieces and nephews, parents, and extended family and friends all follow him and vice versa. They can see which accounts he's following and what he's liking and when. Let's say his son feels like dad isn't giving him enough time. Because of the way Instagram works, his son can now see that instead of being attentive to him, his dad was busy liking a bunch of nude accounts. I can and will talk to him about this, but I am curious as to how commonplace it is. Do you make sure your kids can't see your online activities? ",6.593508771929822,6.779206859649129,6.6743216374269005,77.66797368421055,65.19883040935673,9.64701754385965,33.47426900584796,9.3871,2.9989153216374267,707,28,129,12,10,226,107,171,0.019,0.8759999999999999,0.105,0.91,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,6,2,1,6,8,0,0,4,0,16,2,2,2,3,19,30,13,0,0,1,7,1,4,1,1,0,1,0,5,9,10,0,0,2,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,1,8,21,8,14,26,7,13,0,0,6,2,38,4,0,1,9,87,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284850829434368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799913391732244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259167438351116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803910397957464,0.0,0.1153105092300086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458143517641222,0.0,0.08827447493751941,0.12472222122230192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488249129158414,0.0,0.0,0.16747604415604028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18221942706684144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852307631330755,0.0,0.34116999039324464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660585727800796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11653559331592082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19385390265084565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243925301256347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883551030057953,0.0,0.0,0.5564805972913621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998559124250346,0.0,0.0,0.16454253163215052,0.0,0.0,0.1403233048527327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180082564878462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054234771929735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857596049263246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709859614896554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HicEtNuncs,2019/02/27,"I dont know what to do I'm a 19 year old with anxiety disorders and depression. I have a 10 year old brother who seems to have similar issues but might also have ADHD, and also has major anger issues. He doesn't go to school.

We live with his biological parents, his mother and my father.

Dad is emotionally abusive. Over the past year I've noticed just how much... it's the verbal abuse, the lack of parenting, the way he blames anybody but himself. One day he says my brother is just like me, the next he says we're nothing alike. Usually when we've argued or my brother has misbehaved.

There's no routine. My brother goes to bed anytime betwee wrap ofn 11pm and 4am. I haven't been out of bed before 12pm for almost a year (I don't have a job and I don't go to uni)

My brother says a lot of hurtful things when he's angry. Sometimes arguments get out of hand. He's hit me, kicked me. All of us. Sometimes we lose it with him. Never anything bad, none of us have ever caused a bruise on anybody

And I'm the only one who seems to feel any guilt. I ALWAYS apologise, whether I'm in the wrong and started it or was overwhelmed. I feel so bad for it

My stepmum is usually at work, she works a lot, but she's often angry as well. Which makes dad stressed out and then it gets taken on us. But mostly me I guess because I can't always take it or I say the wrong thing. 

I want to move out. But I can't. I can't leave my cats (who I wouldn't be able to take with me, because they're not MINE). I know it sounds silly but they're like my only emotional support! I can't lose them... I just can't 

And I can't take care of my brother either. I'm emotionally incapable of it and can barely look after myself. But the idea of splitting up the family makes me SO ANXIOUS that I have panic attacks

I don't know what to do. How do I cope? This isn't normal, is it? Every family has its struggles but this seems too much.

How do I talk to my parents to help sort the situation out?

We go through periods where sometimes we get along and we try and help but they always end. Every time I think something has changed it hasn't!

I'm at my wit's end and I think I need to see a counsellor",0.3513174946004298,2.4153186479481654,2.650341684665229,92.55402656587476,84.98272138228941,5.431861771058316,20.92306695464363,6.742157984588678,0.3592115248380128,1686,54,377,20,50,574,213,463,0.202,0.716,0.08199999999999999,-0.9965,4,0,1,0,2,0,55.0,8,0,2,4,18,22,3,5,19,0,38,1,1,6,3,79,74,37,0,5,18,13,3,2,0,2,0,5,2,0,22,28,0,0,11,0,0,4,19,16,1,2,3,10,60,6,43,67,10,40,0,5,2,0,46,13,0,14,24,241,82,5,0.07104897835823022,0.16836284267917034,0.0,0.0,0.08538706507760818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114528882210717,0.0,0.0,0.11363568464757567,0.1773553248271066,0.0,0.0,0.048315741656878325,0.0,0.05435227397444056,0.08026512225714308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846725542353375,0.0,0.0,0.08082846984602984,0.0,0.0,0.1186458584226272,0.08662159550880398,0.0,0.06045744757833142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07243916860240207,0.0729868721157251,0.07516039834467278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04582071330573025,0.0,0.061194380950855866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142828459334701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832688734906661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397616131658869,0.12585661274271326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426786855579518,0.11972365716823732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13395730719798965,0.0,0.07184899648172034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136047626120682,0.0,0.12113631517599308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07826845979423745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524526509066904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605940080240778,0.08020564845507315,0.0,0.1483133486038098,0.07050514798333599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713998124313188,0.0,0.0,0.07523060941874839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942188400662501,0.0,0.06273754956794249,0.0,0.05966324767846413,0.1589712663160648,0.0,0.1208066013293153,0.0,0.0,0.09485148951695453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537173826113387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551381996863511,0.10445834818705052,0.05268191719429182,0.0547973521404477,0.0,0.07556139451706358,0.0,0.06961291366460583,0.06817341093626471,0.08088973277030298,0.1491079021247482,0.0,0.09628925299509836,0.10807189926203233,0.0,0.0833606677458156,0.23667444716131256,0.0,0.06782428920240455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260039971505833,0.0,0.07190535922245216,0.056616837009271836,0.1940409644529701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986202851015023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05469697467919011,0.21080776894188652,0.0,0.050288832569040064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138636465991234,0.07427581856709321,0.0,0.0,0.08062553867243377,0.0,0.0,0.16025996871280254,0.057106477516878223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944035683874338,0.09105063299989236,0.0,0.0,0.041429230641432856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823759252781218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563895188049396,0.0,0.15650082387506967,0.0,0.04190652825123861,0.056395371963035734,0.0,0.0,0.06388156418332827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344900486807966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536180875849465,0.0,0.18301285052177216
parenting,Leksie5000,2019/02/27,"Dealing with toddler tantrums for single parents Hi all

I’m separated and gradually introducing my one child (3.5 girl) to a new partner. Slowly and gently.

The problem is he lives in another city so our time together is on weekends after she has been at her Dad’s. 

He goes to the gym when I pick her up so We always have an hour together first before he comes back over. 

Even before meeting him we were going through pretty typical toddler tantrums.

She is very smart, can already read and write short words. Has language of 6 they think.

But also is only 3!

He finds the tantrums  hard though is accepting and loving. Frankly so do I!

What are your tips to get through this phase ",2.4679487179487194,5.20927553846154,3.3115384615384613,86.75679487179491,82.07692307692307,5.9282051282051285,27.128205128205124,7.3011,1.6439128205128206,540,24,100,8,15,171,102,130,0.081,0.805,0.114,0.7702,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,3,1,1,1,8,7,3,0,5,0,13,1,0,1,1,17,19,11,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,8,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,4,0,2,2,1,13,3,14,17,2,16,0,0,0,1,24,6,0,0,8,64,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278799678212111,0.16513948480510285,0.17182611289885802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165352342467246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878720486595307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3514357933137217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788309113129105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128943785172403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639254911024987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18873898405322406,0.17565039999301887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788871315356316,0.0,0.11735978148878565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498513007148654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20336276252337207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234494992864295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637601581638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19944080971615835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13993102326257675,0.1570539907546704,0.0,0.0,0.2292959081880302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008665832870066,0.0,0.19759441762261346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065577698165014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231807131195475,0.20288705597489928,0.0,0.12041291122971134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703856837924294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bunnybrightest,2019/02/27,Help me not hurt another mom’s feelings My son is in 8th grade and this year he has a girlfriend. I want to be clear that I like this girl. She is great and I’m glad he chose her or vice versa...Her parents are also great. Everything should be great but.. I’m not comfortable with the same level of spending time outside school together that her parents seem to be. They invite him to do something with them nearly every weekend. I think it is too soon and they are too young for really dating. I fear we are setting ourselves up for a problem once they are in high school. At this point I turn down invitations by saying we have plans etc.. I want to say “can we do this less” without the other mom taking it wrong. Any advice? ,1.4885958904109593,3.872064075342468,2.6783390410958923,92.11285102739728,82.90410958904108,5.293835616438357,20.76883561643836,6.6274283507984215,0.3356315068493152,569,17,117,6,16,182,100,146,0.07400000000000001,0.7390000000000001,0.187,0.9441,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,4,1,4,10,0,1,4,0,16,0,0,0,1,22,25,6,0,4,5,5,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,1,9,8,0,0,3,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,3,19,6,17,21,3,16,0,1,0,0,23,9,0,2,7,79,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877953309047747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357271481170254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657793614973584,0.14891952966192462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838896565053553,0.0,0.0,0.119657313756259,0.0,0.12763771286240794,0.0,0.0,0.15981110040709431,0.07180918223208448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4697300572579923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09519248608265717,0.15005109789329524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520345068166073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938341471191836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33266237598324205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124582881786214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31539106251740945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425406270767198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589320850505698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098114564777923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22587875977773364,0.0,0.28746205496034954,0.0,0.12928895933791545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933333002865142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678077506374703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910001783963589,0.0,0.0,0.08281254627189129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447612392118804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753322502828846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690145515547758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552757168972205,0.0,0.09145571808560146
parenting,throwaway222790,2019/02/27,5 yr old issues with bed time My 5yr old daughter is horrible when it comes to bedtime. She has been like this since about 4 months old. I am honestly at my wits end with her and going to bed. We try to keep her routine the same each night. Before bed is bath potty and teeth. Then she goes upstairs to the room she shares with her older sister who is 8 and the can read or color before its lights out. This is where she starts with al her issues and it usually goes on for 2 hours. We are all tired . We tried giving her her own room and that didn’t work and it upset my older daughter who wants her own room. We moved our room upstairs to right across the hall. We moved bedtime back to earlier and even moved to to later to see if maybe that helped due to her not being tired. Everything we have tired works for maybe 2 weeks and she goes back into not wanting to not wanting to sleep. We took her nap away around age 2 and that didn’t do anything.  I’m trying to give as much info as I can but I have a headache and am extremely tired and I finally got her to sleep. When we ask her why she doesn’t want to sleep she can not give us a answer. When I’ve talked to the dr all I get is she will outgrow it. I just don’t know what else to do.,1.4219320039228478,2.9498310526315765,2.62795357960118,96.82036449820204,78.69924812030075,5.678718535469107,18.70807453416149,6.280692351149826,-0.33310016345210824,964,19,230,7,23,309,141,266,0.053,0.914,0.033,-0.7391,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,10,0,0,2,10,4,0,1,7,0,23,9,4,0,2,47,41,20,0,5,8,3,0,1,0,1,5,0,8,0,13,28,0,1,3,3,0,6,8,1,0,0,5,3,38,3,33,34,7,43,0,0,2,0,41,14,0,2,24,148,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792491116167849,0.08573003134674101,0.09003024616296135,0.0,0.09047977941924172,0.14810202826950047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389341269720678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829564529888687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044874654845037,0.0,0.08529581796431558,0.0,0.0,0.06360718164013326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655087013489814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549516024351603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05031430983031032,0.27714765719459583,0.05473117840454345,0.0,0.07702225616720403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454982869866761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483899420493584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010304918987432,0.0,0.0855984752667011,0.0,0.0,0.05292557564103043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04704875057359074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934984884410654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768680855373575,0.3070643441676949,0.07079373945992053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037378264353503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30316119748129466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632899795192464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822421820157903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767409724132715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966278466133615,0.0,0.2891174575165913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816371448380859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07740465287780343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0561550170179341,0.44274423743227626,0.0,0.0,0.1069961064621258,0.19615011821588915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584057575452132,0.0,0.10606407953948543,0.0,0.22720786948501745,0.0,0.07724840716539444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689842168741242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021937021069542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,doesnot_matter,2019/02/27,"Toddler tantrum night version My 2.5 yrs old daughter is going thru the normal terrible twos stage. Shows resistance to everything - food, clothes, toys etc. We are trying to be as patient as we can with her when she has these meltdowns, although it can be really difficult at times. 
Tonight something new happened, around 1 am she woke up screaming, full on tantrum. Tried to calm her down thinking she had a nightmare, but it was a full on tantrum with “NOs” and “I don’t want to”. 
Is this normal? 
I don’t think I can handle the night tantrums, she went back to sleep shortly, but I’m still awake and angry. ",3.8562608695652174,6.014988408695654,3.5680434782608725,89.9642391304348,73.6086956521739,6.339130434782609,30.630434782608692,7.1686216300943375,1.7543217391304349,477,22,92,5,10,143,84,115,0.174,0.8,0.026,-0.9505,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,0,4,8,4,0,4,0,14,2,1,0,0,14,22,8,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,7,1,0,2,2,0,2,2,7,0,0,4,1,12,1,16,16,4,21,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,0,9,61,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185322145726712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007567729896416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321729850009645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18709654850164786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517291062456853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831209274913035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840907100374657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20105916420229986,0.0,0.3907210356473542,0.4079395754803154,0.0,0.0,0.21844730773155827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336386204111178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20832788212148887,0.0,0.0,0.16026523999692374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625085139370446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667835220354758,0.0,0.0,0.12138999698941773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28267776741534784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227885060739536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929826641023049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raydioactivity,2019/02/27,"Hosting a toddler for 2 weeks, advice? My best friend and her 2 year old son (will be 3 in April) are coming to stay in my two bedroom apartment for two weeks. I don’t have kids, and not much experience with toddlers. It’s going to be snowy outside. I’m looking for ideas for good toys and activities for him! I will be working during the days, he and mom will probably be stuck in my house due to weather. What are some good ideas for entertaining a toddler? Toys, activities, etc.? Also, aside from snacks, a stopper for the bathtub so he can take baths, and a car seat, are there any other essentials I might be forgetting about? So far I have crayons, play doh, and a toy train set. And Netflix, but mom isn’t huge on screen time and plopping him in front of the tv is kind of a last resort. Any advice would be great! ",3.1433020637898683,4.6562118292682975,4.008048780487808,88.79623827392125,74.0,6.7534709193245765,26.03001876172608,7.321109707123232,1.1083166979362105,636,22,135,7,13,204,106,164,0.009000000000000001,0.852,0.138,0.9633,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,9,0,20,1,0,0,0,19,26,12,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,1,3,10,1,1,2,8,0,5,3,0,0,2,1,2,10,8,20,14,4,25,0,0,2,0,10,8,0,2,10,82,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949733658541487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069836672299608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527464143262328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839133000316252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130012507865843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733712214145196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683264285146287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476381345454875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660785401300496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577678416147287,0.25318521757828344,0.0,0.16640044458371134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415252325246144,0.0,0.3407623512106908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571699789431849,0.0,0.1230277888262718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267428725494785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601124810996788,0.0,0.35353390572672383,0.0,0.0,0.1109506406888007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583752525253379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627276633265685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087089861081466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348029470791413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800827818337835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29487262572718737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213328276131374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987856469048753,0.0,0.0,0.1072160753417515,0.0,0.0,0.09719373019049687
parenting,Redhead1230,2019/02/27,"Violent almost 4 year old? Over the past year I’ve noticed our (almost) 4 year old son having more and more aggressive outbursts. I brought him to his pediatrician and she thought it would be best to have him evaluated. We have an appt coming up soon with a child psychologist and a behavioral specialist, but I’m just wondering if anyone else has had similar issues and how they handled them? I’m going crazy over here. I love my son but he’s becoming very hard to handle at times, most of the time he’s sweet, but he’s always off the walls hyper and does have his outbursts. Some examples are - trying to choke me when I put him in timeout, kicking/hitting his father in the face, throat, etc. when he tries to put him to bed, his brother was walking downstairs and he threw a large book at the back of his head from the top stair for no apparent reason. After the book incident happened I told him he could’ve really hurt his brother and he could’ve had to go to the hospital, to which he responded “I want him to go to the hospital” and laughed the entire time his brother was bawling his eyes out. He has also tried to harm our dogs by doing things like trying to choke them, scratch at their eyes, jump on them, etc. I’m a stay at home mom now, so he’s constantly under my supervision and is now kept away from our dogs but I have no clue why he’s acting this way. I’ve tried time outs, taking toys away, making him clean up his room, basically any reasonable discipline idea that anyone’s given me and he just doesn’t care. I’ve tried getting down to his level and explaining why we don’t act that way. Nothing seems to help and I’m at the end of my rope. He’s also extremely attached to me, more-so than my oldest ever was. It’s to the point that I can’t go anywhere without him screeching loud enough for my neighbors to hear and having complete meltdowns, my husband can’t even do anything with/for him because he only wants me to do it (get him changed, put him to bed, get him juice) and if I refuse and have my husband do it he gets really upset. If my husband puts him to bed he’ll come running back downstairs screaming and crying and will literally throw himself on top of me and keep doing this until I put him to bed myself. I know I shouldn’t give in but he puts up such a fight (this will go on for well over an hour at a time) and I’m so burnt out lately. I just don’t know how to correct all of this, I’ve never had such bad behavioral issues with his brother. Anyone have any advice?",5.263026744944554,5.153105534246579,5.970416829745599,82.59587312459229,68.02152641878669,8.926836268754078,29.557795172863674,8.548686976883017,1.9961240182648408,1972,64,410,27,30,646,240,511,0.104,0.821,0.075,-0.946,1,0,0,0,1,0,50.0,5,0,5,3,22,15,3,1,20,0,33,6,5,5,4,68,71,36,0,7,12,11,2,1,1,5,0,3,8,1,13,28,0,4,9,3,0,21,10,8,1,0,12,8,63,7,66,53,9,84,0,1,2,1,76,33,0,9,28,256,76,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381587879145572,0.0,0.0,0.15128288041173424,0.0,0.0,0.120817091164179,0.06285453527661232,0.0,0.0,0.10273827948549302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15845596619668545,0.07739867658355049,0.062162196237316523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194283542168487,0.11616972299893127,0.06307194583178251,0.04604789962691125,0.08342693844986011,0.0,0.0,0.07927356548463421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701708898957611,0.0,0.07991029162104027,0.1301403941228177,0.07920124963957559,0.0816308699983451,0.0,0.12062355870764747,0.0,0.08297609195146871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06610472578200713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310317766302548,0.0,0.06690517112872235,0.07805202451897501,0.16849200209863238,0.049892825629847884,0.06832938929627534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786412932126598,0.0724639334614913,0.21465289533682447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679892645960195,0.0,0.06766814535675994,0.0,0.07752485137176883,0.0,0.08513799173426015,0.0,0.0506322283845247,0.0,0.07577181944002083,0.0,0.07439074140319203,0.0,0.08086610811679902,0.08527438516634482,0.0,0.15768627095180202,0.0,0.06714257243505525,0.0,0.0,0.08302856528864508,0.0,0.0852113310161842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036904560899287946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817693575912212,0.0,0.05042289792844817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847041446683465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05826036697574762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248174928152246,0.0860017013904115,0.1585310376769003,0.0,0.0,0.05745084629850684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211056418699872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140881223190976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4556256148386648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678449076588036,0.1553334349072388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06876790791145744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051456929708045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056795959561446965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018478378275746,0.0,0.0,0.059969562534156,0.2202371178908797,0.0,0.0,0.07218079296390797,0.0,0.3077163110539259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06232762175598365,0.08910976969613661,0.11991875293094795,0.0,0.0,0.06791867174104434,0.0,0.13632447434279926,0.0,0.0,0.07281694205976577,0.08191887010656235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05366076899183882,0.0,0.0,0.145934001592102
parenting,sali-s,2019/02/27,"How much did your newborn baby weigh? My baby weighed about 8 pounds 12 ounces and was described as a quite heavy you could only pick her up for a a few minutes before your arms hurt!

I've met other people who had such small light babies and now I'm wondering what different weights did you come across and did they look their weight??",5.945454545454545,6.2817861212121215,5.148030303030303,87.54204545454546,66.57575757575758,7.8121212121212125,27.10606060606061,7.1686216300943375,1.1703151515151515,268,7,54,2,4,80,56,66,0.067,0.933,0.0,-0.6407,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,4,2,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,6,5,1,2,0,8,11,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,4,8,0,5,4,2,5,0,1,1,0,10,3,0,1,1,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22055818433760288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232759004672848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069483027890746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708064689249322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774765395288966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176608194151277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19054016120338546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713155974925156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969507558413034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756886997870501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6312660335430078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28108889037240664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pounce-a-lot,2019/02/27,"Toddler has speech delay and autism red flags My 16 month old son has always been brilliant. He was ahead on motor skills from the start. His problem solving skills have been great. And at 12 months he had 8-10 words and even said “thank you” and “get it”. I was so proud. 

Then he stopped using those words. But he still said “this” and “that” and “dada”. He still pointed to things he wanted. He brought me books to read. I was worried about the regression but everyone reassured me that sometimes toddlers just get stubborn. 

Now at 16 months he has no words. He still points and grunts. But he no longer greets my husband at the door on his breaks. His eye contact is inconsistent. He babbles maybe once or twice a week, the rest of the time is just yells. He no longer brings me books or toys. He only eats about 8 foods and seems to have texture aversions. He rarely responds to his name. 

He still climbs on me and snuggles me. He laughs when I laugh, smiles when I smile at him. He turns and looks at you when you enter a room. He looks where I point. He still points at things he wants. 

Our pediatrician finally referred us to early intervention and a developmental pediatrician. It takes around 9 months to get into the developmental ped. We had the EI screening on Tuesday. He scored with a significant speech delay as well as a social emotional delay. 

Family keeps brushing me off. “He’s not autistic,” they say. “You’re just being paranoid.” But autism isn’t off the table. I try to make peace with the possibility. I feel better for a few hours, then I see a picture of my niece looking at the camera. I see my other nephew talking up a storm. I hear a parent of another toddler complain about their child repeating the same word all day. And I just wish mine would say anything. And then I feel like crying. 

I worry that I caused this. I was on a mood stabilizer during pregnancy. I didn’t know it but apparently it correlates to increased risk of autism. Or maybe it was the oxygen deprivation when he was born not breathing. Maybe I let him watch too much tv or use his pacifier too much. The guilt is overwhelming. I feel like I’m grieving. And then my husband makes me feel guilty because he points out that our son is amazing. And yes, he is. I know he is. But I want to hear his voice. I don’t want him to struggle. And yes I am jealous of all these parents with their typically developing children. ",2.185024813895783,4.78926015053764,2.9710483870967765,89.6888802729529,81.90322580645163,5.7274607113316796,22.705748552522746,7.0901768495059905,0.7803688999172866,1890,64,379,25,52,594,240,465,0.125,0.728,0.147,0.9061,3,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,4,3,3,6,24,22,2,4,23,2,28,4,2,5,2,73,64,37,1,7,16,7,4,2,0,1,0,10,2,2,16,23,2,6,8,5,0,5,8,10,1,1,14,24,54,11,44,47,8,65,0,3,9,0,67,25,0,5,36,228,70,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679430321841319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562179601934958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06719464364824994,0.07268976003356824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04977578646623208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221671331085876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388159880756932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896935640548734,0.05266035629659252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355287336516112,0.0,0.0918502504265352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393198506054947,0.0,0.0,0.07802431308799716,0.0,0.0,0.07697653546454114,0.0,0.16514774569460258,0.1166678911852245,0.0,0.08944844370566674,0.0,0.0,0.09873686846604432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798321837866306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002430426241209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406096829883248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804131717005819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257821475895634,0.0,0.0,0.08975028546122688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349719335197422,0.0,0.07978446608146551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057074838357121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090099405458335,0.0,0.2460985690315027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607031680346036,0.0,0.12005081188894715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568259511953866,0.08695930972397815,0.0,0.062101878279537365,0.0,0.0,0.18133517667223711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859491766466506,0.09205310809939124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813226784592676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167653312850061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534413515702447,0.12986977019534338,0.0,0.0,0.13013602775675276,0.07433513206169705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323641480018902,0.0,0.0,0.08075832537786065,0.0,0.05779543027092408,0.0,0.3260466914463023,0.06826676497236256,0.0,0.08536294587703505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139397406137386,0.06563074286549958,0.0,0.0751764343056481,0.0,0.0,0.10849515837481076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04761335844151353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055438002295061725,0.08881657900925702,0.0,0.0,0.09822023299734436,0.14104643182271887,0.0,0.0,0.19264760844196335,0.0,0.06549826346285774,0.0,0.0734171445178487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389857195084247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584808728273595,0.0,0.05800496875194261,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,evanleeburton222,2019/02/27,"How to have the porn talk with my 14yr son. Hi, I’m new here, I’m a mother of three boys ages 14, 9, 6. 

My teenager has been caught watching p*rn several times this month and I told him that I don’t like him watching that kind of stuff in my house and I don’t want it to happen again. He agreed and within a week later I caught him watching it again. It he is driving me insane with this. How do I have the p*rn talk with my son? Thanks!",-0.19406250000000114,1.635417718750002,1.4289999999999985,101.916,85.35416666666666,4.256666666666667,15.85,4.935628992294339,-1.1530050000000005,335,6,85,1,10,108,59,96,0.029,0.872,0.099,0.6588,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,8,1,0,2,0,9,16,5,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,4,3,13,3,9,12,0,13,0,0,3,1,13,2,0,0,9,51,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427586881414205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167612561686527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858721713142923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411746662971274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21912065190384172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651348290776179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101314523479337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142617395453796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413003883316939,0.0,0.2527427559403267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007584748108514,0.0,0.0,0.2623173086400256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16192004825931405,0.0,0.2202047991476037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashleywhite817,2019/02/27,"New step parent - need help I’ve (35F) been dating my boyfriend (40M) for about 7 months. He has 3 kids; 12, 10 and 1.  They’ve been a part of our relationship since the end of the 2nd month so I’m not new to them. I see them at least once or twice a week. I’m a very involved type of person and parent. I want them to know I’m here, I care and they can depend upon me, so I make sure to send them a Snapchat when they are with their dad but I’m not around. Nothing big just a “saying hey!” or something simple. I do this with my niece and nephews as it’s helped me to stay active and visible in their lives. 
His 10yr old daughter responded back in the beginning for the most part but now she doesn’t. She hasn’t in several weeks!  Since I’m new to this I don’t know if this is normal or not?  I should prolly say I do not have any children of my own yet but have grown up around them all my life. Should I take this personally?  ",-0.06552569542668607,1.7900936732673287,1.8307355021216407,99.06968646864685,85.03960396039605,5.233757661480434,16.54974068835455,6.42735559955562,-0.5949130598774159,710,14,179,7,21,234,123,202,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.8549,2,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,9,0,11,2,0,0,9,0,15,1,0,2,2,33,29,16,0,6,12,5,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,4,5,9,0,0,2,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,2,3,28,2,23,25,6,28,0,0,1,0,32,9,0,6,15,111,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239240288038217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418961158965562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447128279323792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852273855927158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033546905131268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821339920061668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933496439974567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596499373900973,0.0,0.0,0.11997069188286155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069049478212048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689122278150047,0.0,0.0,0.10074167861258546,0.0,0.3936558474587154,0.0,0.0,0.1331181959422927,0.13036548820226015,0.0,0.1425667587138972,0.14469107652550992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017225183586614,0.2942556574038145,0.0,0.0,0.2372629835495508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586744381501998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160895356383376,0.0,0.0,0.10826628000294568,0.0,0.0,0.153488019815367,0.0,0.22477675428744048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459499839175823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481329766256612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805052243539544,0.0,0.10215306707603697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210230049974797,0.08013630151852076,0.0,0.21796433943815371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abakersmurder,2019/02/27,"Kids 6th birthday questions I need some help please. It is my oldest 6th birthday. We have recently moved a long distance from home. This will also be his first birthday in school. He has no other local friends, only those at school.

The party is gonna be at our house. He wants to invite everyone, but 21 kids +adults and any siblings..... (Fortunately/unfortunately) My kid is a friends with everyone, I want them all type of kid.

What is the protocol? Do I invite them all and wait for the no shows? A select few?More than I want because of no shows?? 

I just want to make it special for him. 

Money is also an issue. We can't feed 40+ ppl. 

Do I need to state not a drop off party? 


TYIA

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parenting,_HOBI_,2019/02/27,"Is it possible to support your child TOO much? Also posted in r/40something   


I'm \[44\] an emotional writer and tend to lack any sense of brevity, so I waited a day to emotionally cool off from yesterdays\* events before writing to save you folks from a novel post. Spoiler: it may not work...lol. I also welcome suggestions of other subs that might be better suited for this kind of post.

So, the short and sweet version: is it possible that a parent can be too supportive to their children to the fact that it borders on enabling? Not with drugs or alcohol, but in helping your child cope with their mental illness? My spouse and I have been trying to figure this one out and there doesn't seem to be a clear cut answer, so I thought I'd turn to reddit for some outside input.

My daughter \[21\] has clinical depression. She's had it since she was 13 (I found her mid-suicide attempt, which set this whole thing off) . We've always been 100% supportive and understanding of the battles of depression as sufferers ourselves. I read books to better educate myself (and I also have a degree in sociology with an emphasis on childhood trauma). We've taken her to therapy. Multiple doctors. She's been on multiple different meds. We've had millions of heartfelt talks. Bought her book & journals. We've offered to Just listen. You name it, we've offered it/done it. When she'd have a bad day in high school and couldn't hack it, I'd pick her up, no questions asked

But now that she's 21 and still seems wholly incapable of caring for herself, I'm wondering if it was all too much, which seems like an impossible thing, I know. A parent can't be too supportive, right? Well, here's my issue: she's 21 and still just as lost, hopeless, and depressed as she was 5 years ago. She refuses therapy at this point. And meds. She hasn't armed her emotional ""toolbox"" like we've talked about again and again. When depression hits hard, she crumbles under the weight of it. Sobbing fits that echo through the house. Suicide ideation. I would think/hope that after 7 years of support & advice she'd be better able to handle herself, but it seems like we've literally done nothing and all these years have been wasted. Outside of depression, she's incredibly compassionate, bright, woke, and hilarious. But the depression permeates everything as it tends to do. And depression lies so hard. I know (I tell her this repeatedly and try my damndest to get her to see the amazing qualities she has, but depression won't allow it). Depression is a fucking asshole, but so many of us suffer. So many young adults her age suffer and go to school and go to work and get to the business of doing what needs to be done because they have no other choice. Maybe they lack support. Maybe they've got added hardships complicating life, but they're out there striving and trying. but she doesn't. Granted, she does work part time and go to junior college, but she acts as if it's the most exhaustive impossible schedule ever and she is miserable probably 90% of the time. She seems to just go through the motions of work and school and then comes home and literally resigns to her bed or playing video games. She refuses to find a new doctor and, instead, wallows and complain incessantly. Obviously, we've always listened & validated her feelings because we want her to know that 1)we get it and 2)we will always support her unconditionally. But obviously there comes a point when the wallowing about how life sucks and will never get better and there's no point to anything ever and she just wishes she could die needs to stop. At least as the parent, I can't keep hearing it. It's gut-wrenching to watch your child suffer like this and so while we've always been honest, we also tread lightly as to not set her off. And because we have been supportive, she feels free to say things to me all the time and, oy. It breaks my  mama heart (and I also know how lucky I am that she DOES trust me enough to talk to me, so there's that). She also has a eating disorder for which we've offered treatment, counseling, advice, encouraging her to join support groups, etc., but she literally has no hand in helping herself. 

We're at a loss as to what to do about it. She still lives at home and so this affects all of us all the time. She's a constant source of negativity and it's so draining. I could never tell her that, but it's the truth and I don't know what else to do. None of this is her fault, but not getting help or helping herself is a choice and I'm about over her choosing nothing. I love her beyond words and would turn myself inside out of her, but it doesn't seem to matter because she doesn't at all seem better or even interested in getting better and I just can't help but wonder if we weren't always so available, reassuring, and supportive that maybe she would have been forced to learn how to deal and cope better?

I'm leaving out a LOT of details and kind of rushing because the other kid is needing my time at the moment for a school project. I welcome any input and advice. The thing is, depression....oy. It's just the worst and I 1000% understand that, but it honestly seems like she's staying alive simply to not hurt me and that is so painful to acknowledge and watch. But with her age, I can't force her into therapy. I can't force her to do anything honestly and it feels hopeless. I'm trying to balance being supportive while also enforcing that she HAS to do x, y, z to help herself, too. A support system helps, but it's meaningless if she doesn't also try.  It's time for her to start taking charge instead of laying in my lap and allowing mommy to wipe away the tears. I don't know if I should back off with the support and kind of be like ""it's time you really start helping yourself"", which feels wrong to even suggest, but at this point, I'm lost. I need help in how to better help her without enabling her.   


\*yesterday was her birthday; planned fancy dinner out; gifts; but she came home, saw everything, said she deserved nothing and cried for hours. We ended up canceling dinner and just playing Mario Kart, which tbh, was kind of fun, but I'd put a lot of effort into making her day special and it was all for not, which had me all kinds of emotional fubar. ",4.528142502658632,6.0849352704714645,5.1197991256055815,82.01947890818863,70.57154673283706,7.994186458702588,28.91846862814605,8.518826766301295,2.1441381779510813,4958,189,934,81,91,1591,450,1209,0.159,0.682,0.16,-0.9092,4,0,3,0,0,5,180.0,7,6,4,19,64,92,4,1,43,1,83,19,3,9,17,207,173,122,2,20,44,5,8,6,0,9,10,5,4,6,69,74,5,5,31,8,2,11,31,34,1,2,30,21,122,59,141,120,24,111,0,22,5,2,135,43,3,27,55,640,191,16,0.033034215989068964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684196062260958,0.029282839303771326,0.03530353054571856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21133960473219954,0.13743557009386725,0.1073776776678197,0.0,0.04492879932820282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05436869012277204,0.0,0.030882532658411607,0.0,0.031036733341624125,0.025401273015132026,0.027582190510748908,0.10068675727214477,0.0,0.028109684721723604,0.0,0.0,0.23372863636194946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03778234267594146,0.03368058481594105,0.0,0.0,0.056912104050398524,0.0,0.035698251863952354,0.0,0.052750266897304166,0.0,0.03628653509671097,0.0639130093813387,0.03405682615717364,0.2560708964328681,0.0,0.0342843007665599,0.03451372473410985,0.037860073473729335,0.06762383968879428,0.05781693005137481,0.0676109443832719,0.0,0.0,0.038309202877859216,0.033802249957880164,0.02759584860085509,0.14863618681514845,0.02925851029154025,0.0341331757192621,0.03684188302844566,0.043637576215338016,0.05976267921334021,0.0,0.0,0.059378046544863824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681236868482195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030192674948726687,0.0,0.0,0.0362203127612688,0.0,0.0305396003756295,0.10355408650382536,0.0,0.0750964248815764,0.0,0.026420480259519742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05918433788984798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037231962273369466,0.039145705000595415,0.2214213864608528,0.03490246289676392,0.09940803624711908,0.0,0.03253204851315605,0.03811704999264714,0.03536381144620431,0.0,0.0,0.03447913893383093,0.0,0.029362329001624738,0.0,0.17200026255249806,0.10892844712925707,0.0,0.0,0.034978464968178385,0.0,0.0,0.046666087381819744,0.09683309585734348,0.0,0.02916981793324068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721214980688134,0.056169018238327206,0.029814669672036845,0.0,0.0220505956875946,0.0669830201753888,0.0995619301842958,0.0,0.07338713386588272,0.0,0.03329071998646044,0.03504408281053698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04856789943514611,0.09797781032345483,0.05095604773117558,0.03190465165147188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950916635377312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022384839686422603,0.0,0.03515073489777207,0.0,0.11004176255990628,0.0357728367553138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491204684757495,0.07448223009103178,0.094912942250441,0.0,0.03561647205773572,0.0,0.0,0.03320851118069374,0.03700588214324568,0.0,0.033043155517065013,0.0,0.02116256465204164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028211039958775257,0.03142310416494876,0.02627013445085119,0.0,0.13372956077423573,0.02632399318892595,0.24058487646450985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027326244832326717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04676357620647921,0.0352100789020513,0.07914350268272059,0.02761808374113726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226814124365315,0.4873288788059245,0.0,0.0,0.0248376192648748,0.07965495449445573,0.057746721632910024,0.0,0.11333251483191288,0.0,0.08778586097397648,0.0211669917426158,0.0,0.02622547753758771,0.1348376189814781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214032116845064,0.07186348196438068,0.0,0.0687795677176392,0.07947218887823011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01948443647737653,0.0,0.0,0.04022677560508386,0.02970172742402546,0.0,0.0,0.03688152243193122,0.03798771809915783,0.03184380538471589,0.07164839618967055,0.09619721070262308,0.0,0.0,0.07039967772202581,0.036117729385942855,0.0,0.06381885608293646
parenting,MollyGrueWaiting,2019/02/27,"Parents and school trust Any parents out there mistrust their kids school administrators?  I keep finding weird unethical things going on, thinking wow, I'll just let someone know about this and they'll take care of the problem, only to be blindsided by their oddly defiant responses.   After enough instances I get the feeling that they're more interested in covering their butts than fixing problems.  I get that in this litigious society you have to be careful what you say, and that careers can depend on the success of a school...but I wonder how other schools are balancing the kids needs vs the schools.    Do you guys feel like the people in charge have your kids best interest at heart?    



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parenting,i_forgot_about_that,2019/02/27,"Help. Our 14 yr old tends to trust too much and we just moved to a rough neighborhood. Need help with establishing rules. Our son transferred schools mid freshman year. He is a little desperate for friends and tends to put too much of himself out there. He has some electronics he had saved up for and bought himself (switch,ps4,etc) He just informed me he’s meeting a kid from school down the street and taking his switch and going to this kids house. I don’t know the kid, address, etc. and I’m hesitant to let him go with his switch but he paid for it. The neighborhood we moved to has a higher crime rate than the small mountain town we moved from. Noted gang activity and  I’m aware of human trafficking issues in the area. I trust my child and he’s not completely naive but I worry about him needing friends and being taken advantage of. What are some good guidelines we can follow that allow him to make friends and remain safe? ",3.3321176470588227,5.708225911111112,3.289411764705882,90.33794117647058,76.0,6.457516339869281,24.47712418300653,7.5105763829236425,1.1012418300653593,744,25,147,10,17,225,115,180,0.06,0.755,0.185,0.971,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,6,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,2,0,32,24,12,0,2,5,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,4,17,0,1,2,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,4,1,18,9,23,18,5,19,0,0,0,0,33,10,0,2,2,86,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951134916299986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393429611304789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35261890976678795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292440759577166,0.1276041769044196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394665734438155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17554413008798225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15879010709091054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360978222269225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555690239086881,0.0,0.0,0.1524799027638404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155173704804814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850884025966343,0.22367443593321035,0.2256133342490305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964078735581574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293836243509007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079388281318941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438708578313456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450115159522362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797037962845412
parenting,Redemptions,2019/02/27,"Healthy consequences for a teen who forgets to bring lunch Greetings.  Our daughter will be 18 in 10 days.  She goes to school for 8 hours, then most days goes to work for 6 hours.  She works hard and doesn't complain, doesn't call in sick, just a good kid.

She also regularly forgets to bring herself a meal for dinner.  Today she not only didn't eat lunch at school, she didn't bring a snack or meal to have for dinner to eat at a break at work.  Ordinarily I'd assume this was a setup so she could use the emergency subway gift card she has.  She forgot her damn wallet today too and wants me to bring her something to eat when I get off work.

We've had lots of learning about 'natural consequences' and the answer here seems simple, she gets to be hungry for the rest of the day.  Except 1) I don't want her having some sort of blood sugar issue and passing out into the deep fryer.  2) She's had a hard life, before we became her parents at 15 (foster, then guardians), food was not guaranteed.  I'm absolutely against any sort of food related consequences as she already has enough food disorders and me using it as a punishment seems like a really bad idea.

Any creative ideas on how to lock in the need to bring your damn lunch with you to work?  She's going to be an adult soon, and even though she'll be living with us until she goes off to college, I really need her to start flapping her wings.",5.789928571428572,5.565909992857144,6.111428571428572,82.41607142857146,66.92857142857143,9.0,27.857142857142854,8.472884824447931,1.7341428571428563,1098,29,225,14,16,353,162,280,0.068,0.847,0.085,0.7182,1,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,3,2,0,5,11,7,3,0,16,0,20,18,1,3,0,39,39,17,0,5,5,2,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,11,15,1,7,0,0,7,7,5,0,0,7,3,31,2,45,25,5,34,0,0,0,0,33,13,2,9,14,140,34,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544264243497356,0.08365868522154822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422803562121949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734717930729433,0.0,0.0,0.08901764603152389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068211952061789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352467544937847,0.0,0.0,0.20239948267796207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989514121470635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211345219565131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809281513431256,0.0,0.06909565780737112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794940350614848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109311566562341,0.0,0.05945377042218203,0.08774411367446977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18742474321731015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060447427919012,0.0,0.0,0.2361898594760223,0.0,0.10918841016781414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389099681044511,0.051108448544213335,0.0,0.09237487198063453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893792002607408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551378844099376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956262180931135,0.0,0.0,0.11615994944110845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403506357072867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117471402258784,0.0,0.19047082514149286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053591618598976,0.0,0.0,0.0740453604358553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278138127512346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983210890644934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258361174973526,0.1807034541234072,0.0,0.0,0.12340648332682293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38079621562458377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,solo220,2019/02/27,"my kindergarten son showed his privates to other kids need some advice handling this, got a call today that my son showed his privates at school at the urging of his friend.

have you had this experience? and whats the best way to handle it?",5.8957971014492765,6.811577565217391,5.268260869565221,84.60210144927538,66.82608695652173,7.0028985507246375,26.20289855072464,6.42735559955562,0.9600376811594212,192,5,36,1,3,58,36,46,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.8299,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,2,5,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,1,25,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372643946514002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622005388646545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35242400139284885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376107258413717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666523954216311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760380074041735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559151013328529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492976009951074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271500175306664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739541022661947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anna_doll,2019/02/27,"Safety concerns on using a vintage baby cradle. Hi, I’m currently pregnant and after announcing to some family they offered to gift us a small, gorgeous antique baby cradle/bassinet. I’m really in love with it, and love the idea of refinishing it (stripping old paint, sanding, and varnish) and using it in my bedroom with the newborn. My concern the safety standards on cribs. They recommend not using something over 10 years, obviously, with this piece of furniture pushing 80 years it’s nowhere near that. But it’s solid wood, not a rocker or a swinging cradle, and the bars are sturdy and within the proper safe distance. I think with attention to the safety of the hardware and the refinishing that it will be fine, but my pregnant brain also is thinking it would be stupid to ignore safety warnings. 
Have any of you used a vintage crib, or anyone with advice? TY",5.841561181434598,7.778748113924053,6.348797468354434,72.99614978902953,67.86075949367088,7.79831223628692,33.41983122362869,8.344100000000001,3.0255805907173,694,32,104,10,12,225,98,158,0.062,0.762,0.17600000000000002,0.9271,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,2,0,2,7,1,0,13,0,7,4,1,4,1,32,17,12,0,1,6,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,10,12,1,2,4,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,8,5,21,13,2,14,0,0,0,2,9,8,0,3,5,75,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18302752770600872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978385316582274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737051704094404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096461185170372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20908889854842955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656990138318104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21143905822405007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33809137553769464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653998818225651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998926487897175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419279734831644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400287319288316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252990050736046,0.6470687309344858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305264455533855,0.0,0.0,0.24123029675957175
parenting,HouseWatson,2019/02/27,"Daddy Daughter Date Night Idea [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QB9Qdc2Myxo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QB9Qdc2Myxo)

No matter her age you can establish a Daddy-Daughter date with your little girl this year. Dads are their little girl's first love and they will base every future relationship on that one.   If you're a dad you may think, ""The only guy I know that I can trust with this beautiful girl is me."" Hopefully, there will be a guy you feel just as confident about at some point. But you can focus on that later because tonight it’s all about the two of you. Taking your daughter on dates is an extremely important thing you can do for her because you are setting up the standard for her. Let us know if we can help you with ideas to plan a great time together.",8.819117647058825,9.60984444117647,6.657647058823527,77.60941176470591,60.470588235294116,9.447058823529412,29.5,9.188382445141503,2.2483558823529406,628,17,109,9,8,180,92,136,0.015,0.797,0.188,0.9755,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,10,2,2,4,4,0,0,8,0,15,1,0,0,1,21,22,5,0,3,4,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,7,5,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,20,4,15,17,2,20,0,0,0,1,29,8,0,5,11,77,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22086757390075035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263557281501558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916002149747301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409506729587882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997301407586084,0.0,0.3587548437570821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142809482175725,0.0,0.0,0.17993329790575113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090164094381749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19912219589105687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852489315832644,0.0,0.0,0.36314091796964704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16350446512336034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700068996227493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275907397469606,0.1377807581160597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125527158223244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449862822287325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621018436605026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120355016522334,0.11608036249326464,0.0,0.0,0.1056361708255291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696752911234925,0.0,0.21791383029986744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666145159868405
parenting,random-throwaway888,2019/02/27,"Cross post from /r/relationship_advice Hi guys, 

Posted this over on relationship advice but also thought it was relevant here.

Can't work the reddit app very well so posted the link below.

Any advice here?


https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/avi2qn/i_let_my_25m_girlfriends_29f_daughter_10_play_a/?utm_source=reddit-android",20.71378378378379,28.193212270270273,10.577081081081085,32.41048648648652,47.9189189189189,7.284324324324325,20.913513513513514,8.238735603445708,1.9090367567567568,302,5,26,4,5,73,33,37,0.0,0.908,0.092,0.5345,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,16,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4611737023038383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870487673518752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046748170711886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336470933108199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6779812081370701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533431390712423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18733357667902967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19469970791926255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216509113755944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178874552083984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AGirlyWoman,2019/02/27,"My fiancee exposes our baby to violent movies  Last night my fiancee was watching Pulp Fiction and there was our 4 months old son in his arms watching a very violent scene. This wasn't the first time my fiancee did something similar, he watches all kind of violent movies and has no problem letting our son seeing it because according to him, he's too young to understand anything on the screen. He also thinks I shouldn't mind even when he is old enough to understand because according to him, the only reason why children find movies with violence scary is because of the way adult treat it.

My fiancee and I have different families, so we found out we'd want to raise our son differently from each other. His parents allowed him and his brother to watch every thing he wanted to, horror movies, R-Rated movies, they had no restrictions. My parents didn't even want me watching The Hunchback of Notre Dame, even when I was a teenager my mom didn't want to because I have a little brother and she was afraid he could hear it. No horror movies, no action movies and if I ever wanted to go to the theater, I had to show her the ticket so she knew what I was going to watch. 

 I'm willing to find a middle ground between his raising and mine (my son is definitely watching The Hunchback whenever he want to), but right now, he's a baby and I'm afraid of how watching these kinds of things can affect him, while my fiancee just thinks his not in harm because he can't understand anything. ",8.283026973026969,7.092628391608392,7.9316883116883155,74.58181818181822,62.28671328671329,10.54905094905095,38.61038961038961,9.424239791934726,3.602230569430569,1184,52,214,17,14,377,147,286,0.093,0.863,0.043,-0.9027,5,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,6,0,1,1,14,10,3,2,13,0,24,1,1,4,2,42,43,17,0,10,4,9,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,2,9,12,0,1,10,2,0,3,10,7,0,1,13,11,36,3,27,25,3,25,0,0,10,0,45,8,0,1,13,142,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631489761332273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764121125386184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289782681660722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617663295217745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225536420053706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152482550192944,0.0,0.21386845657594414,0.09763261446303594,0.09093917322202204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175070701787314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729970822451287,0.09180872950542304,0.0,0.11834422010859813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268292510518293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164962703100385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22479360754737387,0.0,0.08798073482223791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11036997711445493,0.0,0.0,0.10817836967555544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10898271896013026,0.1264111673759142,0.0861520056379379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128888442322014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22651745963691106,0.0,0.0,0.08208878178197042,0.0,0.0,0.2396961921222139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327840096018637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097427856233026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217517099807628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600954013347845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309297882676192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434133012876162,0.1383196852183809,0.0,0.0,0.06293726855440387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370897576699468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905697428253745,0.3819741349615898,0.08567310122610383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973937787419393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aimzhc,2019/02/27,"Help! First time mum in need of assistance Hello!

So we're in a bit of a dilemma and would like some advice. Our DS is 4 months old and is rather tall, he's around 67cm at the moment and so he is starting to get too big for his moses basket. At night he sleeps in his moses basket in our room.  His cot is in the nursery as it is too big to fit in our room (we have a rather small bedroom).  We want to move him into his cot pretty much straight away as he will then have more space and he has just learnt to roll (yay, nappy changes are really fun now) but safe sleep says you should keep the baby room in your room till 6 months old.
When did you all put your lo's into their own rooms? And do you have any other general advice regarding moving him into his cot.
Thank you all :)",1.1274297188755042,2.7781200963855457,2.3741927710843416,97.75173092369481,79.96385542168673,5.390522088353414,16.488353413654618,6.079149491110277,-0.6918220080321285,600,9,144,4,15,192,105,166,0.008,0.853,0.139,0.9622,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,6,1,1,10,5,0,0,6,1,15,2,2,0,2,25,21,13,0,6,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,0,2,11,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,19,5,24,17,7,42,0,0,0,0,28,26,0,1,14,89,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360624162427401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693444218845092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307528810857826,0.0,0.0,0.1615562024768529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877289523745712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819042604688008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462637664577094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983873389837277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152569697011261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284038810284872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400791340052181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745036752032668,0.3655192329762933,0.12640578679227224,0.1275015220563354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16136693989610965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608730563357784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493877572092595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286100625376713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015797127301084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674451862316295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441558530605799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217097447562816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583119043865111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026761070453227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014227731391044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215100585463895,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShelbiDoll91,2019/02/27,"Parents of Reddit.... What is the worst public meltdown your child has had and why?

Mine was when we were in Walmart. It was very busy. My 2 year old was sitting in the cart and we were waiting to be checked out. The old man in front of us apparently looked like Santa Clause. When he was done buying his groceries and left my daughter began her tantrum. She was upset because 1) she hadn't had her nap yet and 2) Santa didn't talk to her. (She said hi too him and he didn't say anything back and so she got upset)",0.6269496855345906,2.871398707547172,1.8814150943396264,97.30690251572331,85.50943396226415,3.910691823899372,20.154088050314463,4.7782277997778095,-0.4619345911949684,397,12,88,1,12,126,72,106,0.086,0.8909999999999999,0.023,-0.7906,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,0,0,6,5,1,2,3,0,16,0,0,0,0,10,21,9,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,9,0,1,0,1,2,1,3,4,0,0,16,3,16,1,8,4,1,15,0,0,1,0,24,5,0,0,9,58,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018030250375315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856638711296966,0.0,0.14948965776336054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509549719034672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961324735716706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26644262400221824,0.0,0.0,0.1198067712846886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593105966508576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146543221124521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722983947182949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23326945939792296,0.1950163812427028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19710622345213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29498095476947284,0.0,0.0,0.20234006156626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212815261867576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791979026763678
parenting,temp_parent,2019/02/27,"daughter got a ticket and fine 5 years ago for drug use - just found out. Tell wife or not? We are remodeling our home and I was moving furniture in daughter's old room today by myself. Daughter is off to college and has not lived at home for 4 years. When I moved the mattress I found a paper folded up under it. It is paperwork from local courthouse. It says that daughter agreed to pay fine of $275 for ""possession of drug paraphernalia.""  

Now that my daughter is older, she has told her mom and me that she has ""tried pot"" in the past. We kinda had the feeling of ""you shouldn't do that - but, kids will be kids.""

Apparently, she paid the fine and we never knew this happened back in 2014. 

So, now I have some choices to make...

a. shred it and don't tell anyone about it - it's not like she is a drug user now, she is in college and making good grades right now.

b. tell wife about it so I'm not hiding anything from her - don't want wife to find out I knew and said nothing (though I don't see how she would ever know).

c. do item b above + talk to daughter about it because I'm more irritated that she hid this rather than the actual charge itself.

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All things said - her senior year she did a bunch of that was not very wise and we found out after the fact then.

So - I'm not keen on telling my wife because she is a bit depressed right now and I don't see any good will come out of saying ""hey, guess what I found... our daughter did something stupid 4 years ago and hid it from us...""  

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parenting,mamajusttyping,2019/02/27,"2 year old seems so bored and sad without TV. Won't play like she used to as a baby. My 2 year old (27 months to be specific) has always watched a bit too much tv. Before she even turned 1 I would put on Little Baby Bum and Word Party while I got stuff done around the house. Honestly at the time I thought it was SO cute the way she would start clapping and getting pumped up when she heard the Word Party intro song, or when she learned the hand motions to ""wind the bobbin up"". But back then we also did a lot of other activities too as a family and TV was not the main focus of our time together. LO used to go to my in-laws house when husband and I went to work, and I don't believe they watched any TV over there at all. She spent that time just playing with her little cousins. When LO was 1.5 I left my desk job to open a home daycare. I had the intention of spending more time with her. But the daycare has been WAY more work than I had imagined and the TV has become quite a crutch to keep my daughter occupied throughout the day. I feel like the shittiest mom ever. I woke up one morning depressed as hell, and I decided we needed to make an immediate change. Less tv. More arts and crafts. More one-on-one time. More singing, dancing, playing outside. I even cut out all the full-time kids at my daycare so my daughter would have me all to herself more often. But honestly something feels like it's changed in my daughter and I'm scared as hell that I've totally screwed up. My daughter doesn't come to me anymore to show me things she's doing, or ask me to play with her. She barely even seems to find me interesting. She doesn't ask me to swing her around or give her horsey rides. She doesn't even play with many of the toys we have. She is constantly asking for her TV shows. She cries and begs for Netflix. About half the time I can distract her or convince her to do something fun with me, but sometimes she just lays down on the floor and sucks her thumb in protest. She used to want to go in the backyard all the time (I have said no many times simply bc I couldn't safely watch her out there while the daycare kids were inside) and now she doesn't even want to go out there when I suggest it. If by some miracle I can get her boots and coat on and get her outside she stands around like she has no idea what to do. We build her a sandbox last summer and she also has a tiny slide, but she doesn't care about either of those things. We live in a townhouse so our backyard is tiny and I get that there isn't much to do, but she used to at least enjoy finding rocks and throwing them or pretending sticks were swords. I'm scared my kid is broken from watching so much TV.

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Has anyone else experienced this with a 2 year old? Has anyone had trouble cutting back TV time? Does anyone have any suggestions for things we can do together? Activities we can try inside, or anything we can do outside in a tiny backyard? I live in VA so it's cold and cloudy and still very much winter here and I don't know what to do. I also feel like it's been so long that I actually made this kid laugh or smile that now I have idea how to. Please help!",3.3949789195019133,4.408334577572965,3.9320377814818457,91.5420688302775,72.65591397849462,6.830748112560055,25.371801156976176,6.947713065588193,0.7966582410040197,2474,75,550,21,47,779,281,651,0.1,0.8190000000000001,0.081,-0.9317,1,0,2,0,0,0,63.0,10,0,2,3,42,34,7,3,31,0,53,2,1,8,6,104,94,58,0,8,19,7,4,5,0,4,0,3,4,4,20,43,0,2,14,24,2,11,14,14,0,2,20,13,85,20,73,68,22,81,2,2,4,1,66,30,4,13,42,363,105,5,0.0,0.0,0.06506770568027058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996612455274248,0.0554810930687506,0.07224513668630005,0.08102056534209097,0.0906860900454209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612624861350946,0.13986755560546293,0.06831906655633037,0.054869972065226265,0.1780715643057258,0.1870036265847876,0.0,0.0,0.10254189590473196,0.0,0.0,0.07364015526020268,0.0567377147384051,0.07512280639849887,0.0,0.0,0.07279465468239225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798224286139724,0.0,0.14107208993167467,0.057436836391808965,0.0,0.07205478293221045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324219739722758,0.043001526938139335,0.0,0.05742930720792391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05835000493210943,0.06823432054802919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055700567309085285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201995838526649,0.0603136939950957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285769402584332,0.0,0.10114257291474536,0.14290344250695758,0.0,0.0,0.12188421146583422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934514689426716,0.06396321631862738,0.11368322630577578,0.0,0.053328156720940184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044692580462452426,0.0,0.06688305542057839,0.0,0.0,0.153873964120344,0.0,0.1505417573759351,0.0,0.0,0.06616721568810166,0.059266102179435336,0.0,0.0,0.03664425755334637,0.05435113201379193,0.0,0.0,0.07244539239819776,0.0,0.0,0.1628765027777263,0.13365691621358847,0.11775506024003116,0.05900756548094702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056686899292747936,0.0,0.06309194416837985,0.0445078064844953,0.13520121369739113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809198297726946,0.053221413087095264,0.0,0.19606279123189674,0.04944058522763894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990073071728946,0.0,0.09036491594739583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319196663909812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702939050757897,0.0,0.0709198203281213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634256533986743,0.0,0.1335117913784962,0.0,0.0,0.12140154030853174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026633267102708,0.06594583759851633,0.0,0.0471947386322054,0.0,0.05324880639376378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632988361660012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289287626261287,0.0,0.0,0.05293455540809295,0.3499221299787257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04526970413304976,0.07252606673052606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23035210409108225,0.0,0.055015991577688265,0.07865633568188797,0.10585112852669593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181079033274362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427481360924044,0.0,0.09708415362015148,0.0,0.0,0.1420975322850591,0.0,0.08102056534209097,0.12881453802171824
parenting,Ihatemelo,2019/02/27,Can someone explain why the circumcision thread was locked? This is something that you don't talk about with peers that much. Some people are on the fence about it. I find it ridiculous that the thread was closed.,4.217307692307692,7.096253743589744,2.433012820512822,94.98490384615386,75.66666666666667,4.925641025641027,22.570512820512814,5.985473137389443,0.14725128205128213,172,5,33,1,4,47,31,39,0.065,0.935,0.0,-0.3612,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,4,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248907924431299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417394005887471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222884195700954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938902905236397,0.3578864047785417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736519624339996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194808010724885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,isnab,2019/02/27,"Tugged my 16 month old's hair after she pulled mine hard while I said NO I feel really bad lately because of this. I only did this once. She frowned soon as I did that but didn't cry. She just laid in my arms as she frowned. I felt so horrible. I did say that ""ouch"" and it hurts and repeatedly said no. I stared at her a bit in disbelief that I did it and then I hugged her. Later I came to her and hugged her and said I was sorry about pulling her hair. She was playing with her back toward me and in hindsight I should have said it in front of her. She did raise her hand toward her hair when I said that. And then I tried to explain that she was pulling mine and it hurt and that I wanted to show her it hurts. But I felt that was of course not something completely understood. I don't know how to recover from that and heal the confusing message I had sent. It has been a day since it happened. I think she does not look at me serious lately. I know she used to kick me when I changed her diaper and now it's less and she hasn't pulled me hair. It was almost immediate after that pulling of hair that she has been a less aggressive toddler toward me. She still kicks me when I change her diaper but that is another issue and I never hit her back or anything. It was just this one time I did tug a piece of her hair and her head did move. It happened in 2 seconds. I must have been tired and reactionary about it. I feel so horrible. What is anyone's advise on how to build that trust again and eliminate any confusion on that? I don't want her to witness me doing the same thing she did just cause I said, especially if it's physical, since that sends a mixed message. Someone told me to start stating ""hurt, ouch"" when she hurts herself so that when I say it after she inflicts pain on me, she understands that it is pain. I started swiftly the evening of the day I did tug her hair when she fell on her head. I also read that a toddler has ""implicit memory"" which means they can remember an emotional event. Can anyone shed light on this situation that happened once? Can something like this that happened once, be something she could forget? I almost want her to pull my hair again so I can start over again. Do you think she will? Lots of questions and thank you for helping me as much as you can and the time you took aside to read this. I just really can't find the right answers online and need as much advise as possible to absolve me of this guilt and take action. Thank you!",2.6602568428946363,4.276999712598432,3.5519460067491586,91.1398293963255,75.49606299212599,7.042819647544057,23.51256092988376,7.793537801064563,0.946083652043494,1946,58,427,28,42,621,209,508,0.13,0.792,0.078,-0.9799,0,0,3,0,0,0,45.0,0,5,1,0,28,20,1,3,13,0,44,18,12,4,3,69,83,47,0,8,11,0,14,1,0,3,4,8,0,0,44,22,0,0,16,4,0,14,10,13,0,2,33,25,96,7,49,44,8,67,0,5,2,2,63,17,0,8,36,314,140,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537836656593006,0.0,0.0,0.05805082279928959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936422156540481,0.07611776509957269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151432634283084,0.0,0.0597360291299089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163566246251368,0.060610271540335825,0.0442506674471873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925033399761604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302451714726598,0.0,0.07457073001328128,0.1535828460703062,0.0,0.07611005469518323,0.0,0.0,0.057957833320468624,0.0,0.07973756633333694,0.09363009927374058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352468323131892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165486022652395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04794552743631824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340816181118702,0.0,0.13939707053490188,0.0,0.06634666040966779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567671580716777,0.0,0.06502708312888948,0.0,0.14899817124079648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04865607157995637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.388549671865326,0.0,0.0,0.07576591759244271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079787991655926,0.0,0.1637711297183996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03546418978650824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060957975117661024,0.0,0.0,0.06171408768734971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907264321425468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05794127029491366,0.0771525141154718,0.10672515555864748,0.0538251456706989,0.055986486794899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076171815491431,0.23192044380714355,0.049189393106839265,0.05520856140480654,0.15448342191430076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183520067030081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813182899457424,0.0,0.1452208538446845,0.0,0.09300702854258758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223120621397885,0.06199213190374726,0.4143027455347865,0.11545420816716627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200956913715444,0.08159508133052729,0.0,0.0,0.06150593472212075,0.16765179325172316,0.0,0.08125943827831413,0.15414038911996486,0.0,0.05797109293384576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05457923465044846,0.0,0.0,0.13366367989308736,0.0,0.0,0.048226090572478016,0.09302648509457744,0.0,0.0,0.08465653845041628,0.08343242632246788,0.0,0.06936360379949899,0.08065103068050875,0.04928437655444005,0.0,0.0,0.07556956497288432,0.0,0.06269512942235153,0.0,0.0,0.1284477734185751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,agnesb,2019/02/27,"Ideas and resources to support 3.5year old with BIG topics of conversation (like mortality, evolution etc) Hello!

My son is just over 3.5 years. Like his peers he is inquisitive and I hear the word 'why' many many times a day. Even as an adult I like to understand the why behind things so we explore lots and lots of topics, age appropriately. 

He is sensitive, sweet and considerate (most of the time... He is 3!). And can be quite worried about new things, normally all within what I'd expect of a 3 year old, but my parenting involves a lot of coaching and support to try new things safely. He can sometimes miss out from something he wants to do because he is worried. 

Recently he's been bringing some topics to me that I want expecting just yet.

Yesterday morning he started his day by asking me ""do we all have to die?"", ""I don't want to die but I will anyway, won't I?"", and ""will you die? I don't want you to die, what do I do without a mummy?""
We've cuddled and talked about how with death you also get life, and you get love and friendship and fun and adventure. So while, yes, everyone dies, we live life now and hope that it won't happen for a long time. He's gone back to being batman or whatever after a bit of a cry and a cuddle and been happy. We've had about 3 of these conversations. 
.. I wasn't expecting this yet! Like we'd spoken about death, but this feels like mortality. I'm fine with how I've handled it, but any suggestions for appropriate resources to help explore and support him? I want to be truthful, but not encourage him to worry about it. We don't belive in an afterlife, so not looking to go down that route.

Today's conversation linked up with a conversation about dinosaurs and how they're all dead (why? How? How were there dinosaurs but no people?) and I mentioned evolution... Any resources for exploring this with him?
I tried explaining that we think the world changed so much that it didn't suit the dinosaurs anymore and they stopping having babies, but I'm worried he'll start worrying that will happen to us (I'm not ready to talk about climate change yet!)

And started trying to explain how humans evolved but quickly realised that I was out of my depth! ",4.096728553137002,5.716479415492959,4.928583013230902,82.71959667093473,71.74647887323944,7.886641058472044,28.871532223644905,8.484438967287268,2.114855399061033,1725,68,333,29,33,559,208,426,0.102,0.7140000000000001,0.185,0.9891,1,0,1,0,0,1,70.0,7,4,1,1,29,19,0,0,16,1,32,5,0,6,4,86,65,42,10,10,15,2,1,5,0,6,2,1,0,2,20,32,0,2,11,1,0,6,12,1,0,0,8,4,35,18,52,47,11,44,0,1,1,3,48,10,0,7,33,220,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146459674778824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453433133158656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762240733812352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185335351809577,0.0,0.0,0.059100290444243066,0.0,0.04685290060169711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391078000966101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16261453750151714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442666484287192,0.09913617099301948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39884066672060536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571877425973372,0.05076504289908845,0.0,0.0,0.07344264440919747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038862524647766204,0.05490851573806101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031194060521432,0.0,0.043681083613225945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359333861943504,0.08181847658841361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866263585629903,0.0,0.05151737175773737,0.0,0.0,0.07633892809907912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676513640015472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857642121003118,0.1877485984782144,0.0,0.06786843757922004,0.06801833002135338,0.06454270893150194,0.0,0.0,0.19602985782694266,0.06936879250370061,0.0,0.0,0.15584714769373129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056500651781782464,0.0,0.0,0.14846296703327547,0.0,0.0,0.07530609209780262,0.0,0.0,0.16130244833618554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534349340697263,0.0,0.0,0.05328477119132213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817496486224434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588958554756874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059170277407258574,0.07601611265861814,0.0,0.16320486778564222,0.0,0.0,0.06425806965037874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616580999591877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355367499733505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531863150333822,0.04924853014548752,0.0,0.0,0.13445235778765252,0.0,0.07285391668330651,0.0,0.0,0.15654787571358306,0.0,0.0,0.08001355731896638,0.09245263893162267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226668926055274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080615108738527,0.0,0.0,0.07408991454741383,0.0,0.0,0.3902732884849092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899012877750947
parenting,noribabe,2019/02/27,"I'm (29F) a single mom. A nurse. I have health problems and can't afford health insurance. I don't know what to do and feel so lost and alone. I need somewhere to vent. Like in the title, I'm a single mother of one toddler also trying to balance a career as a nurse. The father was never in the picture but luckily I get a lot of help from family. I have an on and off boyfriend. But I'm always conflicted about that relationship. Im just getting so depressed and stressed lately trying to handle everything. My son has been diagnosed with autism about a year ago, and now the speech therapist is concerned he's having silent seizures from observing him. And on top of it all I have health problems I can't afford to take care of. I had insurance through my company the past year but even with that the procedures I needed cost $3000. And that was only the start of it so in the long run it would cost more money. I gave up my insurance this year and am just kinda hoping for the best for me. I would get another job that would provide better insurance but at this time I cant due to scheduling with my son and I wouldnt be able to afford day care/babysitter for the 12-16 hour shifts. RIght now I work as a home health nurse which has very flexible hours but had to go part time just to keep up with everything, I just feel constantly I am always taking of other be it my son my patients. I love them all and it does bring me joy but at the end of it I feel so lost. My relationship with my bf in the past was very rocky. Ive broken up with him 4 times over the past 3 years. We are doing somewhat better recently but I still am constantly unsure of us. We dont live together and we dont see each other often. So most of the time at home its just my son and I. And I cant help but feel alone a lot. With my sons autism he does not speak yet at almost 4 years old and he is a lot to take care of and watch along with all the house hold work I handle alone. I dont know what I want from this post. Maybe hear other peoples stories and how they cope. Maybe just to vent. But I feel on the edge so often on the inside but I constantly have to hide it for my son and my patients. ",2.5715873015873,3.720311250544668,3.972501711795832,89.93968627450981,74.83877995642702,7.337217553688141,22.48247743541861,7.859703344183488,0.8230898350451294,1700,43,382,24,35,562,203,459,0.08199999999999999,0.8009999999999999,0.116,0.9685,5,3,0,0,1,0,37.0,4,0,2,8,23,15,0,1,28,0,36,6,0,1,4,82,68,38,0,10,17,9,5,1,1,4,5,3,2,0,21,31,0,3,7,0,3,3,11,6,0,1,9,10,49,9,60,53,14,55,0,3,2,1,29,19,0,10,33,259,70,4,0.07192705701456971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375899621313229,0.0,0.07202455775823205,0.2234842170050119,0.0,0.05752004150802145,0.11969814678504907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542179071540787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548300879001718,0.12722727367819525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200032849402447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331827882328383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046387001397434416,0.0,0.061950668810899785,0.0730044488171325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588770460266738,0.0,0.2528939254089221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370602343332024,0.0,0.0,0.04750714279789253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292868019225712,0.0,0.06780642800919252,0.0,0.18184240596408505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273675583093885,0.0,0.04087780406105932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058203925826692,0.0810670207546957,0.0,0.09642238031915036,0.0,0.1442974055187491,0.07143979697702814,0.14166732511410635,0.08299416668328216,0.0,0.0,0.07769356432068808,0.0,0.07137650555999356,0.0639320731231902,0.0,0.0,0.0790584589603215,0.0,0.08113685323451772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03513992688133385,0.0,0.06351290910863698,0.06365318204540782,0.0,0.0,0.15703375873331646,0.18344943521366275,0.0649169771754464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445207928493716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424009986217862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066660027837466,0.0554745805320488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754753469034737,0.0,0.04873963531993905,0.05470376801690199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788999350624116,0.20598754390965465,0.0498651648728268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888623814498906,0.0,0.0,0.13764895920342424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101929145707403,0.15444548256799798,0.0,0.06142531368767989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05731655201314754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05091034116144319,0.0,0.057441040643802614,0.0,0.0823922007940311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224058632679314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835128569713505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776498146906366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976675005937398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651939344358289,0.0,0.0,0.1186947096956223,0.04242444179298115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472750830744257,0.0,0.0,0.1532847528452028,0.0,0.0,0.2315933324809304
parenting,SoUncool92,2019/02/27,"Adult child issues.......... My adult daughter (23) and her baby moved in with her father and I in November of last year after her and her boyfriend (supposedly) broke up. A little back ground, she has been with her boyfriend since 2012, they have always had a very tumultuous relationship. His family hates her and we definitely do not like him or his family. His family is very dysfunctional (many step parents, jail time, many evictions, drugs use and selling etc) and my daughter seems to over the years think this is just “normal”. Approximately 18 months ago they were kicked out of their apartment for not paying rent. At the time my daughter was pregnant and working very part time, they ended up moving in with her boyfriend’s sister but this quickly went downhill because the 3 of them were living in a very small apartment. Within a few weeks the sister moved out & in with her BF and my DD and her boyfriend started subletting the apartment. This worked for about 6 months when they were again kicked out (my DD lies so we have never really found out what happened, but we were told by DD's boyfriends father that it was because they fought all the time and were disturbing neighbours). They then moved in with his father for approx. 3 months but were then were told they needed to leave (was told that DD was lazy never cleaned spent all her money on amazon & weed and her boyfriend fought all the time with his father, at times physical fights). They then moved in with my parents, this lasted 2 months before her boyfriend left her draining her bank account because he was fighting her and with my parents all the time (also wasn’t paying what they agreed to live there either plus my parents are very strict and were on them all the time over weed and their spending habits). My DD called asking to move in with us for a few months until she found a place, we agreed that her and her son (just turned 1 years old) as long as she wasn’t going to continue seeing her ex, since she was the one who said she was done with him. Within a week it was very obviously that they hadn’t broken up and she only used that as an excuse. She has now been living at our house for 4 months, she knows she needs to be out by April 1st but has done nothing to look for a place. She has been collecting welfare for the past 4 months getting over $900 a month and has saved nothing, she spends all her money on weed and uber eats. She never takes my grandson out anywhere EVER, they sit in the house ALL day and watch Netflix. When I ask her about taking him to play groups she won’t because “other moms are judgy” and when I ask about other things like swimming lessons she says that’s too expensive (more like it takes from her spending/weed money). I truly believe that she thinks she won’t have to leave for April 1st but I cannot continue to enable this kind of behaviour! At this point I feel she is making herself homeless and doesn’t care because she is so used to people bailing her out all the time.  My husband is adamant that she is out for April 1st, and I have to agree, allowing her to continue to live with us she will never change.  Ugh.......  I just don't know how to make her wake up and be an ADULT!! 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parenting,ChickenandtheEggy,2019/02/27,"How young is TOO young for preschool? My daughter is 2.5 and has never attended any type of daycare or schooling. I work full time and have since she was born, but she is either with my mom or my MIL during my work hours. I was doing some research for the future and looking into preschools in our school district. I always thought my daughter wouldn't be eligible until she was 3, going on 4 (she's a September birthday). 

But apparently she's eligible at our local school district at the start of this new school year (August). I think it would be great to get her started in school, but I'm not sure she's old enough. The preschool class is for 3-5 year old (she qualifies because she turns 3 by the December 1 cut off date).

I'm worried the age range is too large to get her started this year. For at least a month, she'll be a 2 year old in a class that also has 5 year olds, as well. Do you guys think this would be an issue or does anyone have experience with this?

Note: My daughter learns easily and I'm not too worried about her learning... I'm more worried about her attention span and social skills. She gets overwhelmed around other kids pretty easily. I have ADHD and I see a lot of similarities between the way she learns, acts, and socializes and mine. ",3.84637869574334,5.2680941075697225,4.605929964353116,85.56974208429442,72.06772908366534,7.3559236737261475,26.756343048857204,7.85451343220497,1.4742780876494024,995,34,201,13,19,320,139,251,0.054000000000000006,0.863,0.083,0.8388,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,1,0,3,9,5,1,1,12,0,23,0,0,1,2,36,40,18,0,3,9,4,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,7,12,0,0,7,0,0,3,4,2,1,0,4,3,31,3,27,28,7,42,0,1,2,0,26,13,0,5,25,129,38,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794032342046078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847927193222592,0.08165695960091883,0.0,0.0,0.06673580116768757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861892767326325,0.0,0.0,0.08736178836374968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982275523944526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587941822902463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140065446140356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599577544535526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381592720824758,0.0,0.055772913523588895,0.0,0.0,0.10819521501975972,0.0,0.09717000476805816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664412820347636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242841984325324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240946940988622,0.0,0.0,0.08343166274163515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493562124359445,0.07833116721351244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568848312276849,0.09478029774993016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119086230485958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983952661454147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4965940283023236,0.07820163466033116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117905971482157,0.0,0.0,0.20007445479454936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083833601344385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249195754472103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576308945488102,0.0,0.07790897066672706,0.057223853009474177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067437170657293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789573751823271,0.0,0.0,0.08823599140617874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288825925304774,0.2989854175134734,0.0,0.1394259054318788,0.0,0.0,0.31598162381240136
parenting,DiabolicalO,2019/02/27,"Recommend a potty training strategy/technique? Hey all!

So I have an 18m/o who’s recently become a little obsessed with the toilet and has started announcing every time she’s peed, so I think I may start training within the next few months.

But I have no idea what I’m doing - first time mom here. Anyone have a technique or strategy to recommend? I’m open to anything - I know the three day method is trendy, but she’s so young and I’m in no rush, so I’d love to hear whatever worked for you. Bonus points if you can suggest a book too.

Thanks!",0.13147593582887396,2.504582072727274,1.9517112299465216,92.59462566844921,96.45454545454548,5.1336898395721935,20.106951871657763,6.794906146795322,0.6206096256684495,428,15,87,7,17,140,76,110,0.051,0.772,0.177,0.949,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,3,6,4,0,1,8,0,8,1,0,0,1,13,18,10,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,1,0,2,0,1,9,3,7,17,2,16,0,0,0,1,10,5,0,3,10,52,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601535156732878,0.0,0.1884844321422713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25296209064200403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771500843031007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929802020967456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482547010787574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25815024238368434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585638062561104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258770838812736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295631563695555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672195964086773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26825461199136946,0.1828214494369641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435918435756475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165214589925598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261542009670959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324238310186115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087376554529716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676271985798828,0.0,0.0,0.26711583962597085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674741098241008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tj13794,2019/02/27,"Our son is upset about circumcision and we don’t know what to do Please forgive the long intro. My son (25) has acted kind of distant for a while. Not rude or anything, but just really quiet and doesn’t seem to enjoy being around me and his mom. We’ve seen how he interacts with friends and other family members and he loves to joke around, but around us he’s very quiet even though we’re far from overbearing parents (he’s been self-sufficient since 18 and very successful so we’ve genuinely been very supportive of his success). One day my wife and I respectfully sort of called him out on this and asked why he behaves so differently around us. He hesitated for a second, and then hits us with the fact that he’s upset that he was circumcised as an infant. He said he’s not angry at us, because he knows it was the norm at the time, but that he’s still upset about it being done to him and that when he’s home with us it’s all he can think about and it makes him feel depressed. He said he wishes he could just move on, but he can’t. I don’t know what to do. We apologized as much as we could. He said that while he forgives us, he can’t just switch off the negative emotions he feels about it. Obviously my wife and I wouldn’t have had it done if we knew there was a chance he’d resent it later on.

For clarification, he lives several states away and doesn’t rely on us anymore, but I just don’t want our relationship with him to be one where he’s always so emotionally distant.",4.6950698878343395,4.950104367213118,5.604296807592753,83.47403796376189,69.26229508196721,9.04400345125108,26.54443485763589,8.99025400887824,1.726147540983607,1172,32,253,20,19,386,156,305,0.071,0.778,0.152,0.9763,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,13,0,0,2,22,17,2,3,9,0,28,1,0,2,3,61,47,32,0,6,13,6,2,0,1,1,0,5,1,1,16,26,0,0,11,1,0,2,11,6,0,3,13,8,28,11,37,26,2,27,0,1,1,1,63,15,0,4,9,162,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865640492488663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182950713222252,0.0,0.0,0.06790015862988162,0.2938118855356626,0.07713736938166035,0.0,0.07752252675173213,0.0,0.0,0.050298410907225616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425374549006524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175787321737767,0.0,0.0,0.05321326748546338,0.0,0.07106726908456934,0.0,0.0,0.08620724093452348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887638228449564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18562927744073315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544982478068561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777847561210659,0.0,0.08344086314923793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374839105559915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276603580752542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592331421134812,0.1360389375333754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285940714772632,0.07302032251367994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447009650802326,0.0,0.05507724911856747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663679116831617,0.0,0.08769695648403583,0.060655647000502334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118242254636146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916195591844856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905731488129795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052859154548102576,0.0,0.0,0.08858676491499734,0.0,0.0,0.2354627730730985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511561911369531,0.08607777427339901,0.0932148173234272,0.0,0.06825459118783585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589400841484658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363338206695374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05287021238861981,0.08106739792938304,0.0,0.048113278314325617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6947605236611919,0.0,0.0,0.2042425618987707,0.048667581456908734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445404114803914,0.0,0.09488446674346804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,akerr1888,2019/02/27,"ALERT LOOK IT FOR MOMO A couple of months ago there was this momo thing but know it’s back it’s messaging kids on WhatsApp.On YouTube it goes onto child videos (peppa pig,minecraft,fortnite and anything kids related) it hacks onto them and makes then watch a video with the momo creature on the screen. On WhatsApp it makes them answer by saying it will find them and when the kids answer it makes them to dangerous stuff (a 6 year old got told to put a knife to there neck) so look out for it here’s an article here https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=i&source=undefined&cd=&ved=0ahUKEwimwO21ndzgAhWPlRQKHeiICuQQzPwBCAM&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.express.co.uk%2Fnews%2Fworld%2F1093115%2Fmomo-challenge-suicide-game-parents-reaction-twitter&psig=AOvVaw27OtmXdzKzbhZxDyKodYJU&ust=1551367765540441",10.581884615384617,15.195040650000005,5.710000000000001,70.56576923076925,63.33333333333334,7.358974358974358,26.73076923076923,8.384062270229773,2.232134615384616,698,21,91,11,13,180,79,120,0.042,0.938,0.02,-0.4911,1,0,0,0,0,1,51.0,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,0,8,0,2,1,1,3,0,13,10,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,12,5,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,5,4,0,14,6,0,14,0,0,4,0,11,6,0,0,7,52,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386138549550208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8350400057669803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570174430040964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876856915579063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212524841443236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173991280631932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273158475510416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059165142963335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157279080249961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572200752063661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10252595337120332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347845493121665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912569898198656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214699041639064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704220791165845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533513138636441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273755084431312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827162887560263
parenting,burrowingshrimp92,2019/02/27,"Were you scared you would hate your kid? This is going to sound awful but obviously I'm dealing with a lot right now. I just found out my girlfriend is pregnant she wants to keep it. I have never wanted a kid. Everyone says it's ""the most amazing experience"" but all I can think is what if I end up hating and resenting the kid and my girlfriend?

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I'm sure everyone is scared of being a parent and that responsibility at some point. I'm not scared of the responsibility per se. I'm scared of how can you possibly have a healthy relationship with a partner and a child if you end up resenting them? ",2.9822954545454508,5.153428941666668,4.6928787878787865,80.84727272727275,76.25,7.696969696969697,25.90909090909091,8.575989854853784,1.891,483,18,96,10,11,163,73,120,0.213,0.696,0.091,-0.936,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,5,1,0,3,10,4,4,9,1,11,0,0,1,4,27,23,9,0,5,6,1,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,5,5,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,8,0,0,2,2,13,2,11,19,4,11,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,5,4,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042919256737578,0.17991610889496465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526493003146859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622846358989261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28296636391543306,0.0,0.1448367280032693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16234646689242815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414918540414536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923685740232738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160765354417858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588021699193835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419744454559615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440950763332998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997000530935566,0.1669219007197265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896721761318566,0.0,0.1264473527563167,0.0,0.11774783782224164,0.5929586369829051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955022953088575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487456242590707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746660467755288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518166996391327,0.0,0.17991610889496465,0.0
parenting,mnpharmer,2019/02/27,"Balancing independent play with active interaction There’s always something you feel you must be messing up in momhood - my 6.5 month old loves just hanging out independently exploring his play area— like for hours, and might just take a nap whenever he feels like it on his own on his playmat... but I’m worried I’m not talking to him enough or interacting with him enough sometimes. I obviously spend time talking with him and interacting- just trying to see how others balance it? He’s clearly happy, but I don’t want to be hindering his language skills etc.",6.819831932773107,8.339797901960786,6.983053221288518,70.9508823529412,65.07843137254902,9.75014005602241,36.14005602240896,9.957137785484203,3.851440896358544,454,22,75,10,7,146,75,102,0.026,0.778,0.196,0.9366,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,5,7,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,3,3,24,13,6,0,2,7,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,3,3,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,12,6,12,9,4,11,0,0,1,1,17,5,0,2,6,48,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735508613874004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44047493059794224,0.23771485553414726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554669935768345,0.1522720080751207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268985704730861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990651337131247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20826537173176787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19237317181682534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261149104729936,0.0,0.0,0.17013162106937213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366155217849765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985028243957848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409070320070138,0.21080748523254728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025975303171042,0.3426384039709869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242875246554207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471258282606722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571941555776778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21646076764914052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ExpertEconomist,2019/02/27,"Should we try to have a bilingual household? My parents moved to America in their late teens and still aren't any good with English. They need everything translated (mostly by their kids) and still work for Chinese speaking companies where they don't need to use any English.

I recently married an American woman, and I have a step son (6) and bio son (5mo) with her. We talked about a strategy where she speaks English to the kids and I speak Chinese. The main problem is that she can't understand it, and she gets jealous and suspicious easily. I taught my step son how to sing a popular English song in Chinese, and she gave me 20 questions paranoid we were making fun of her appearance.

Her opinion of China is that it's dirty with a backwards culture and everyone supports having their freedoms taken away. Notwithstanding that they have parades where they drive tanks down the street as a show of force. I'm more left leaning than she is, but I totally agree with her about the communist party and treatment of the environment. I just think she's not as respectful about her opinions as she could be.

I love her, and I want to balance between making her comfortable and raising my son so he can talk to my parents.",6.874962406015038,7.5523216842105265,6.546516290726818,77.13394736842106,64.6140350877193,9.847619047619046,36.89974937343358,9.784248007369934,3.667269674185464,976,47,172,19,14,305,134,228,0.06,0.82,0.12,0.9439,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,7,1,11,9,1,0,12,0,15,1,0,4,1,40,31,18,0,6,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,5,19,0,0,3,3,0,5,4,2,0,0,4,4,37,7,29,24,4,19,0,0,0,1,43,10,0,5,4,124,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23847951997084066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474122120880585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139997713227406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754846337073445,0.15758765255870666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160987017128837,0.0,0.0,0.14707001490878274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19779538277828976,0.0,0.1905114929375408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825457652533576,0.0,0.23408662387056925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636265241641856,0.0,0.26003033158137845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893969585125108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16778028410825593,0.0,0.0,0.19642512467674575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17313079542033316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800594839064015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897800489682832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818693220558673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235319228388738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11904689358053115,0.0,0.0,0.182539023280868,0.0,0.15144069829342108,0.0,0.0,0.10342228431442398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276523353279037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beckystone1991-,2019/02/27,"Dads, did you struggle with little ones arrival and the impact it had on your life? Would love to hear your experiences. Soon to be ex husband (m33) walked out on me (f32) and our baby daughter who at the time was six months old last May.
It’s become clear he has really struggled with her arrival and him no longer being the centre of attention.
His reasons for divorce are all about how I didn’t support him in the 12 months up to him leaving and all we talked about was our child in the six months prior to him leaving (the first six months of her life!!!!)
It is (as you can imagine) a much much more complicated situation but I am trying to keep it simple.
Did you struggle with little ones arrival? How did you feel? How did you behave? 
I have spoken to so many people who’s husbands have struggled to varying degrees but would love to hear more from dads. 
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parenting,Lovingfather1984,2019/02/27,"Am I too harsh of a parent? Hi Reddit! Long time lurker, first time poster here. Me (34m) and my wife (30f) were recently approached by our neighbors who believe the way we discipline our son (he's 6) is excessive. To keep it short our son has severe ADHD and perhaps other behavioral issues but currently he has not been diagnosed with anything else. While me and my wife have tried to be loving and caring parents he is simply out of control. He's messy, won't go to bed on time, constantly fights with his teachers and is a generally rude and unpleasant child. Me and my wife originally responded to this in the usual ways such as liming his video game time, not letting him go out with friends, etc. But when he continued we began to escalate, especially after he began to get aggressive towards his two year old sister. We responded by making him sit in a chair and face the wall for thirty minutes at a time. This did not work, as we have continued to get calls from the school and he continues to harass his younger sister. So the last three time he has acted out we have locked him in the trunk of my wife's car (a 2010 Toyota Camry) for about an hour at a time. 

Our neighbor (older woman) saw us locking him in the trunk of the car the last two times. She came over to us today to tell us that it was excessive and abusive and the next time she sees us locking him the trunk she will be calling the police. Me and my wife feel that this is not excessive and that she should mind her own business and allow us to discipline our child as we see fit. Looking for opinions on how to deal with this, thanks!

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TLDR; Son is acting out and neighbor feels we are excessive in our disciplining of him!  ",5.8552985074626855,6.039954194029857,6.3001119402985095,79.7274813432836,66.76119402985074,9.446268656716418,30.481343283582092,9.255337874911486,2.487391044776119,1345,46,261,23,20,436,181,335,0.087,0.848,0.066,-0.7659,3,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,18,0,0,3,7,8,4,0,19,0,23,3,1,5,0,52,41,24,0,1,6,12,2,0,4,3,1,0,4,3,11,31,0,5,2,2,0,8,5,4,0,4,8,6,43,4,47,27,2,61,0,0,4,1,71,18,0,1,32,177,54,2,0.0,0.1059295360198816,0.0,0.0,0.10744665559023024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096869576583151,0.1086360718410016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357216284560959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072808747194996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258367605108,0.102254759559812,0.0911536939815257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966143415818008,0.10027458146706712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217195979458492,0.0,0.09074353396915397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468586285747296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997094839543471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904110519837921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604729499585265,0.0,0.0,0.06907357953982911,0.0,0.093420166378648,0.0,0.10162110560387233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804527626126135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331491410545208,0.0,0.07946669474492604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575295684891054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142200587595188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912003693981294,0.0750771374900395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069091704603727,0.0,0.05967809829911318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027290784719526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508254119301628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381482658303096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19854590222407825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827601045167886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904819759344634,0.14248738450523718,0.0,0.0,0.1010014683047419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078143343129708,0.08231151423081419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.469191562544879,0.0,0.08474487064565799,0.0,0.0,0.060699685439790076,0.0,0.17467011926155132,0.0,0.537712128859734,0.0,0.09846626129618297,0.0,0.0,0.14193002424167556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508743207832457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086360718410016,0.057573470585756924
parenting,tall_boizz,2019/02/27,"Little brother (12Y/O) is overweight, lazy, and a slob, how can I help him improve his habits; be more active/helpful around the house ? It's infuriating, got into an argument telling him to clean up a mess he left on the table that was 'not his' according to him, despite all evidence to the contrary. He'll sit for hours watching youtube let's plays and videogame cutscene compilations, leaving crumbs from whatever he eats on the keyboard/table/chair/floor.
He complains of being teased over his weight at school, and yet refuses adamantly any exercises I try to get him to participate in, he cant do a single pushup, situp, cant see his toes, and believes walking to and from the bus stop is enough exercise. He also complains about his stretchmarks and his B.O. yet rarely uses deodorant and I can only assume does not bathe correctly as he comes out smelling like B.O.
Divorced parents are useless when it comes to discipline as previous disciplinary methods of me and my older sister resulted in child services being called. Legal problems are no help, particularly my mother uses my little brother to find out anything about my father's household that can be used as legal ammunition,  this results in little to no discipline, thus leading to my younger brother having a very different; enabling lifestyle. Getting him to clean alongside myself is a chore in and of itself and even then he slacks and tries to pretend like every little thing is such a hard task, any attempt to get him to exercise has been frustrating and futile. His mother enabled him to spend 45$ out of his own wallet from multiple christmas/birthday savings on candies, chocolates, gum, multiple arizona ice teas (45$ in a single trip to cvs all for snacks), and argued with me when I said he doesn't need all that, him stating 'I can do whatever I want, its my money'.
Its really hard to have any empathy towards this child considering our very different upbringings and parenting, part of me is concerned that their bad parenting is setting him up for failure, and part of me is just angry and shocked at how his bad habits are enabled to such an extent. This gap seems to be the biggest barrier in having any sort of positive influence as an older sibling, Im at a loss and I cant help but feel that Ive failed as an older sibling.",11.549894172622313,8.480458016355144,10.60545904343046,63.868732820230896,57.62149532710282,13.341616272677296,46.204507971412866,11.326091736570909,5.3063049477735005,1853,90,306,35,17,594,234,428,0.117,0.8290000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.963,5,0,1,0,1,0,52.0,1,0,1,7,14,17,3,0,18,0,33,9,1,10,4,57,49,29,0,3,4,10,4,2,0,1,4,1,4,2,14,25,5,5,4,6,2,5,8,13,0,0,4,8,39,4,61,38,11,45,0,3,2,0,53,27,0,3,12,208,53,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955418702792733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705994730500404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186363266783266,0.08855836553358841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661234292786749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207998831624813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158028804151244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138656715159245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078710285093624,0.0,0.0,0.08705569166775065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179296089898428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278951920888356,0.0,0.06570565709308362,0.0,0.08381626109411222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05030011938241635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909229943072174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592271359966875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956331064768979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822923030746632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667176127304393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796784374974868,0.1147866601874418,0.0,0.0,0.10745556131026736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533504489343072,0.10808540206131416,0.10172512560886304,0.0,0.09720188796718704,0.39882071306388495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376322158769842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565908643063261,0.0,0.0,0.3313825809664633,0.2154544728600527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518900506305827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372948897874481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462834034932788,0.0,0.0,0.1006791557358791,0.07927274701312555,0.09056293202876577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316980443223625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694997795336075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609014728858642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13508089363428288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577565559604903,0.0,0.16416297496993726,0.05867593083157935,0.0,0.0,0.12113994190809517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gusette,2019/02/27,"Almost 3yo son is telling me to do the opposite of what he wants, then becoming hysterical if I do it. For bed time, I read him a story in bed, get him tucked in with a toy and then ask him if he wants the door open or closed. He hates his door being closed so when he says he wants it open I remind him that if he wants his door open he has to go to sleep and can’t play with his toys or yell/whinge. This was working perfectly until the other week. 

At first he just said he wanted the door shut, then when I shut it he started crying and screaming about how he wanted it open. It’s progressed from that, to the point that this was our bed time tonight. 

Me: “ ok, stories finished, legs straight so I can tuck you in”


3yo: “no, I don’t want you to tuck me in, go out and close the door”


Me:”if you tell mummy to close the door I’m going to go out and close the door and then you’ll get sad. Why are you telling me to do things that make you sad?”

3yo:” I want you to close the door”

Me:”ok, I love you good night”

3yo:”I don’t love you and no good night”



Then the second I shut the door he starts crying hysterically. He does this a couple of times a week and there’s no mood precursor I can figure out, he wasn’t in a mood when I started tucking him in. 

I’ve tried leaving him for a few minutes then going back in and explaining that saying things like that hurts my feelings and asking why he’s asking me to do things if he doesn’t want me to. I’ve tried leaving him to cry longer but feel bad that he’s crying himself to sleep even if it’s his own fault. 

My next step is to just leave him until he goes to sleep, even if I feel bad about it...do you think it’s just his way of trying to drag out bed time? Anyone else’s 2/3 year old pull something similar? If so how did you get them to stop?

Thank you!",2.2232142857142883,2.8752920357142884,3.3557142857142885,95.93928571428572,75.07142857142857,6.416326530612245,20.632653061224488,6.18269132825596,-0.1736642857142856,1386,26,347,8,28,448,157,392,0.119,0.8170000000000001,0.063,-0.9716,0,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,1,12,1,4,17,19,1,0,17,1,20,6,4,3,1,60,55,36,0,16,13,1,3,1,0,1,0,4,13,0,22,26,0,1,6,4,0,7,8,8,0,2,5,7,48,9,41,48,2,65,0,3,0,2,59,27,0,10,31,195,70,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057496579699157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05626362137772936,0.08244681356514241,0.0,0.0,0.22567423582008664,0.0,0.0,0.061873302728038475,0.13437131456815904,0.0,0.08886825388107564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903397705977888,0.35355200814587545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041624279506503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672189261341613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062939232171954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205791549750268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844424512821322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612031962255904,0.0,0.22865309878973344,0.13498194210230074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944340770274871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614039973212337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25560527820581064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03931156947990625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524721507110774,0.0,0.05371160656000805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557638713097097,0.1510235741540598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443541598238265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606627514667064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048766544806935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654148811732127,0.1279794111590781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415720052170113,0.0,0.0,0.06194657351092508,0.0,0.0,0.17086251379284348,0.0,0.0,0.06727308726085207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21099220423025555,0.07408218079545764,0.0,0.0,0.16037388602675454,0.051559293392601284,0.0,0.0,0.18768123074324228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389317265024353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4271478017415102,0.06387007828996592,0.12908976703832276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452159005377043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05858012643549949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05181739513375755
parenting,heyimdevon,2019/02/27,"4 year old won’t sleep in his bed and we are all exhausted My son has been refusing to sleep in his own bed for almost a year now. Some nights he falls asleep in his bed, but it’s only after getting up and out of his room multiple times, leading usually to my husband or myself having to be stern with him. We have a 6 year old daughter who is sometimes subjected to our sons whining and crying, which really isn’t fair because she needs her sleep. He will sometimes crawl in bed with her, and wake her up. Nearly every night he makes his way into our bed and my husband winds up migrating to the couch because of the kicking and grabbing that comes with sharing a bed with a toddler. My husbands got a bad back so he’s in a lot of pain and rarely gets more than 4 hours a night due to our sons antics. We’ve tried putting a gate in his doorway to his bedroom but it was meltdown city. I’ve slept in his room with him but that only worked for one night. Anyone else dealing with this?I’m completely at a loss. He doesn’t respond to discipline; he laughs at us when we talk sternly, yell, and I’ve swatted his butt once or twice and he thought it was funny. We never had this problem with our daughter and we are all so tired. ",5.044833997343956,5.036833509960164,5.368669322709163,86.37576626826029,68.4820717131474,8.127596281540505,30.67755644090305,7.554174236665415,1.7675145285524567,965,35,204,9,15,307,143,251,0.121,0.8220000000000001,0.057,-0.9497,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,10,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,11,0,15,10,7,2,3,43,23,18,0,2,5,8,1,0,0,2,3,1,11,0,8,25,0,2,1,0,0,4,4,6,0,2,7,2,30,2,37,13,6,40,0,2,0,1,46,17,1,5,18,130,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236372759435824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633302928591863,0.126509509977393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494073658313516,0.10309221439834408,0.15053221771822414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063583914834117,0.12945584761625456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562589434313907,0.0,0.12729205182431855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031432633805832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402872125023024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12901585999266074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875016323885406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159298656242047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496969898952564,0.0,0.0,0.08241712119821702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155137102154366,0.09522760339769644,0.0,0.0,0.4634725718336881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25912179352398274,0.13149142056124768,0.0836664039183515,0.18780885497867295,0.13138068555245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814402533027388,0.0,0.12412135842349856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909798358752099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3706772242945874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24422978884696156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924043370706412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802131386012748,0.07199629526774118,0.1419104941063633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382796158333966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851909480045392,0.0,0.13598465806514168,0.0,0.0,0.09800466455015942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988756228781691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23853171456397546
parenting,jamescalifornia,2019/02/27,Two of most powerful belief you can instill in your kids is that they trust their own ability to make right decisions and to have compassion for themselves and others. I feel that a lot of young adults who grew up with helicopter parents never developed their ability to make own decisions. This has paralyzed them when they have to encounter the world on their own. This leads to stagnation and apathy because they will always be fearful and unsure of their own ability to make good decisions. It is so very important to allow kids to make decisions early in their life and for them to learn compassion so that the decisions they make are good for themselves and the rest of humanity.,12.127016129032256,9.418071862903233,10.735225806451613,62.267838709677456,56.17741935483871,15.726451612903226,44.15483870967742,13.968273953766033,6.1646245161290345,557,24,92,18,5,175,72,124,0.051,0.745,0.204,0.9649,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,11,2,3,4,0,1,4,0,9,1,0,7,1,25,15,9,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,8,7,0,0,8,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,14,3,21,13,7,12,1,0,0,0,19,6,0,2,4,74,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759035396905795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010457810699405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401674060850512,0.10791631486070967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580289005849852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075149342393865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814500391751952,0.0,0.0,0.7123288917697823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460990679601886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23698808529026286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822675370245252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848950624273746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610160286736384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bunny_face,2019/02/27,"How do I support my toddler who is terrified of people? He is 22 months old and is afraid of unfamiliar adults (he is fine with children). In adult social gatherings, he hides behind me or his arms/hands. If someone he is unfamiliar with says hello or speaks to him he bursts into tears and clings to me. 

He is a very sensitive boy which we consider to be a wonderful trait, we don’t ever see it as negative. We consciously never say he is “shy”, only telling people he takes a while to warm up so they don’t get all up in his face. We never push him into situations he is clearly not comfortable in, never force him to be held by someone he doesn’t know and always reassure him that it’s ok to feel like this. He can play on his own as long as no one approaches him then once he has sussed out the situation (at least 1-2hrs) he comes out of his shell. Once he is comfortable, he is more open to calm, gentle approaches from adults. Any loud boisterous people freak him out. 

I understand this is all fairly normal. I am an introvert and I see myself in him a lot of the time. I just want to know if we are taking the right approach and is there anything else we can do to make him feel safe and secure in social situations? ",3.615179211469535,4.717609370967747,5.104301075268818,83.0070071684588,72.2258064516129,8.736917562724015,25.471326164874554,9.150863307647796,1.8818702508960583,956,29,199,20,18,322,144,248,0.08900000000000001,0.782,0.129,0.8368,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,6,0,1,0,6,14,0,1,8,1,24,1,1,2,7,48,40,17,0,4,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,5,7,21,0,3,7,1,0,5,9,2,0,1,1,9,28,12,35,37,6,31,0,0,2,0,49,16,0,6,11,132,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797509909671747,0.0,0.0,0.08824483276865504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678575967916386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178128905143396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840223114366453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738011502296106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122643804480394,0.092704334110303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779699719466058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426311963877576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06339675574220917,0.0,0.0,0.11483817960050115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032179126383493,0.0,0.0,0.08661932470915408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357739969227783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002489257107681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714241185610434,0.0,0.0,0.13616682095999852,0.27639155283451106,0.08793230463390306,0.09869233453038903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26988869568480955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081883071062908,0.0,0.20638910062929347,0.0,0.0,0.20681223727265846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4375847979624557,0.0,0.264558700063578,0.21989938265884004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147256089486495,0.0,0.0,0.19513466561965875,0.0,0.11342056475200392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07566717190538702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350902214592129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706993705304152,0.07653891776530372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407248988274427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teendevil,2019/02/27,"My(41f) daughter (16f) has been sending naked pictures of herself to her boyfriend which is illegal in our state. How to punish her appropriately and make her repent. As the title says, my daughter is sending naked pictures of herself to her boyfriend. She's been grounded previously for this but she refuses to change. What can I do to knock some sense into her teenage skull?",5.453781094527361,8.140556791044776,4.791865671641791,80.59635572139305,70.6417910447761,6.854726368159205,35.04726368159204,7.793537801064563,2.8043054726368157,303,16,50,4,6,91,49,67,0.067,0.933,0.0,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,7,1,1,2,0,7,8,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,12,0,11,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,1,0,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7136915909276909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4503349632660279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5365097705534232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FabioAbdilla,2019/02/27,"I feel like my reasons for having kids are bad and misguided. Technically, I keep debating if it would be a good idea to have kids, fostered, adopted or otherwise. I literally have no experience with kids. No cousins, no little siblings nothing. But due to my traumas and what terrible parenting I see around me, I can't help but fantasise how I would raise my kids better than half of parents these days. Even better than that would be giving a foster child a home or adopting a child.",5.048681318681318,6.864157824175828,5.818461538461541,76.50153846153849,69.65934065934066,9.156043956043957,32.78021978021978,9.606745405546679,3.334314285714286,386,18,68,9,7,126,65,91,0.135,0.713,0.152,0.6879,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,0,17,14,8,0,4,5,3,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,6,4,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,2,10,4,8,9,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,3,3,49,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571536030479049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480903895916188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491436976428381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729762040982442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037157066539612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930813526834533,0.0,0.0,0.09980427650624377,0.14101257540363818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893506070803828,0.0,0.16555798554338874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323036540313835,0.0,0.1979942203686416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22282473264074834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754457182243974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643281390498393,0.19783259568644165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939716039563065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383475181398374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029456503020025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729106132247553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206519864287154,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stephyhb,2019/02/27,Holding your child back My kid is going to be in 7th grade this fall.  She’s been homeschooled by a tutor the past 5 years.  I want to put her in a private school but they want to hold her back a grade. She can enter the public in 7th but our school district is the best.  I’m scared it will hurt her confidence & she’ll have resentment.  Thoughts about holding a child back in the 6th grade,0.9214814814814822,3.1970816419753127,1.6138271604938268,99.52222222222224,84.43209876543209,4.587654320987656,18.876543209876548,5.82211442006289,-0.43736049382716,307,8,70,2,9,94,54,81,0.136,0.721,0.14300000000000002,-0.1154,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,1,1,4,4,1,1,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,8,13,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,11,1,9,8,1,13,0,1,0,0,13,4,0,0,5,43,13,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517490444590446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5359839878868357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438349721745963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204876667694807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487334220680356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22180253032064576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23357399245055502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326209586224336,0.4702973169850616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18445841968181675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740898316041274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962454381860318
parenting,davidlifts,2019/02/27,"Stubborn 5 year old driving me insane!! My five year old is killing me with his stubbornness at the moment. He will always listen to himself more than anyone else. He's a fussy eater and we're trying to get him to eat more things but it is torture. We had an hour of banshee like crying because he didn't want to eat a mouthful of breaded fish.

 I put him in timeout and he can come back when he's calmed down and ready to eat but he goes on and then starts coming up with stories on why we're doing it or why he can't eat it. 

Then riding his bike today he starts screaming at me because he decides he needs the bike to be perfectly balanced to get on it (he's been riding without training wheels for six months) even though he'd already ridden it three times in the ten minutes beforehand with no issue. No matter how much I tell him he doesn't and he just did it without any issues he makes these stories in his head far more real than anything I tell him.

It's really killing me as it's flowing into all areas of his personality at the moment where he argues on everything.

More of a vent but if anyone has bright ideas then please share!",4.098525641025642,4.916583499999998,4.838536324786325,86.42139423076927,70.83760683760684,6.875641025641028,27.018162393162388,6.6274283507984215,1.1025649572649572,905,29,184,6,16,292,137,234,0.146,0.752,0.101,-0.8936,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,1,7,12,6,0,8,0,14,7,2,2,2,32,24,17,2,3,8,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,10,12,5,2,2,2,0,8,7,7,0,4,4,3,19,5,33,17,6,41,0,0,1,0,32,16,0,2,18,115,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890095401967858,0.0,0.09719393104150777,0.0,0.0,0.07943370520274692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633502730694938,0.11968399100334605,0.09612334556113594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981843550810943,0.0,0.14241061082539289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20124015612274085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830852258684494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4780965435964114,0.09757841452949606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715083458007499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049798417782104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205511687943353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987909901920048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503272688675545,0.0,0.0,0.13186244516787712,0.0,0.24383520580709306,0.0,0.0,0.2584623358785798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05706667516317114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797050193121266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323533599290752,0.0,0.0858676008202682,0.08661193508412503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451414949788135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019925735409191,0.0,0.12822052639621934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742468647246924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329535111790719,0.07483044047647776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653551477962563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419134858715335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776022985906833,0.0,0.11476364212025388,0.0,0.0681119068174273,0.0,0.11072068796863507,0.0,0.0,0.0793052237872245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889661002866093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21080279251502174,0.0,0.0,0.22519822361470146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15044153642409488
parenting,xyzR23,2019/02/27,"How to speak up without hurting my child I discovered that my 3.5yo child was being sexually abused by a family member. I’m still very devastated, angry, and overall doing my best to process all of this. I have found myself being pulled to want to share my story as a way to turn this horrendous situation into something that could potentially help others or even shift the way in which people respond to these brave little ones when they share. I want to share about the red flags that were there all along but missed. The experience with regards to the legal system. The fall out of family and how to prepare “yourself” for the heartbreaking reality that people won’t believe and families will be torn apart. To the various options of therapy and help, etc. However, I don’t know how to do this without protecting my child’s privacy with certainty and even though it did a number on us and I feel I have so much to share, ultimately it is my child’s story to share or not. Even using different names, doesn’t seem to be enough. If I all of a sudden become a vocal advocate close friends and others would wonder why such a motivation or call (or so I think). Any advice?",7.588751868460393,7.233875255605379,8.008172645739911,70.74690769805679,63.26008968609865,11.379521674140511,33.38153961136024,10.864195022040775,3.6115952167414047,934,33,167,22,12,309,138,223,0.081,0.76,0.159,0.907,2,0,1,0,1,0,20.0,1,0,1,2,14,11,0,0,13,0,18,0,0,5,3,42,30,21,0,5,9,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,0,4,13,13,0,1,7,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,4,3,17,8,32,18,8,16,0,3,1,0,18,8,0,8,3,129,30,2,0.0,0.16155116219112592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13323857662747896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272193427701693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505866585000179,0.0,0.153618529900185,0.14308976879078358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392274816423433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886350967488864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245559036973252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14088487219913826,0.15206507664943325,0.27017150698529946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337539710282506,0.3856128522918964,0.0,0.06894210562841771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494995419223326,0.10534282949437432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278360027361445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459643279913546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493379500185053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366574277777111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002321372200916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239355002763927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18905433227274154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412692658795135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326188742656333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496805218001906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888841550670582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559268612978833,0.0,0.0,0.08736687588127846,0.13396211161124694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830846030279246,0.0,0.0,0.16401095030804344,0.1177616801287177,0.0,0.11250213020974564,0.16084423937373754,0.21645483618236455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230336833910749,0.0,0.0,0.2628709668774361,0.14786457643843834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685835349068753,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smarttypants,2019/02/27,"Bad Behavior in school First time poster and on mobile so i apologize for any mistakes. 
Background info:
Myself(21F) and my husband(23m) recently got gaurdianship of his 5 year old half brother. 
We have had him since January of this year. We have no kids of our own. 
In the beginning he was very erratic and out of control, but now at about 2 months of having him at home we are able to calm him down and stop his violent behavior right away, he even does chores! But his behavior at school seems to be more violent than ever... The school has even tried changing his schedule, and more.
We have him on a month long waitlist to see a behavioral management specialist/therapist and CYFD has been no help whatsoever. 
Any advice on talking to a 5 year old about his behavior? We got mad/angry in the beginning due to no experience with a child of our own, but are trying the ""I'm not mad at you"" and ""its okay, but..."" and that had not worked for lectures about school.  He is so nice and understanding at home now but i get daily incident reports from his school.  I have no idea what to do. Any advice would be appreciated!",4.523075581395349,6.0090225023255845,5.347369186046514,80.65826308139538,70.48837209302326,9.468023255813952,29.25145348837209,9.827888789773867,2.78681976744186,878,34,172,22,16,286,123,215,0.119,0.7829999999999999,0.098,-0.6104,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,7,1,0,3,10,8,3,0,8,1,18,0,0,1,1,32,27,16,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,16,0,2,4,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,6,1,22,3,34,18,4,34,0,0,1,0,27,15,0,1,19,119,26,9,0.11536950037122128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22547548105267526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536564932351425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839344333048057,0.0,0.0963287138227199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204563394291795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939670473405948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096062723619914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240093383903938,0.10435831811431698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285350903451813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813323807922424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027580224343663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845430573025938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773297442141343,0.0,0.2314500310528406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023812309525934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209837736207604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184173669014144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212176680145675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391346333635048,0.0,0.0,0.09852492294878257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5838004682967081,0.09193455485629684,0.1050280601625562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543484290259538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645406821460206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272963427938492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339528820344522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727288344340464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566566353983214,0.0,0.0,0.12010371861039976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951919202777702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399037031436689,0.0,0.0,0.08195518295104164,0.0,0.0,0.22288252710424827
parenting,kcousck,2019/02/28,"I realized that I believe my 5 year old is suffering from depression. He's a regular great kid in most ways.

But... He outright tells us ""I'm just sad."" No, he doesn't know why he's sad.

He gets angry quickly, but realizes by himself that he isn't really mad... Just sad.

I guess this sounds dumb, I just realizing. But he has always just been a deep thinker. Anyone would become sullen to constently ponder the big picture all of the damn time.

I wish he could just be a bit more of a kid. ",0.4462666666666699,2.7569621600000005,2.646000000000001,90.93466666666669,87.4,6.533333333333335,21.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.0710333333333342,376,13,82,8,12,127,70,100,0.244,0.698,0.058,-0.9571,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,6,9,3,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,20,13,3,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,1,1,8,1,6,9,4,8,0,5,0,0,13,3,2,2,4,44,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018447132820348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16961650114847845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679088533119065,0.0,0.27330285832070905,0.0,0.0,0.2648328536826912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936791634466448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089324742215346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673723455332492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26744361118615273,0.2672275248842112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331477896664304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25454529021157085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540197459749458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21202426822640136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144945219660926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29179202238303714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19254749236442809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188893316604081,0.0,0.2789532601613382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232077978120688,0.0,0.0,0.15621257654586565
parenting,mycha1nsarebroken,2019/02/28,"Toddler cold My wife has been dealing with debilitating medical issues. At the end of January, she went to the hospital for almost an entire week. She was in horrible pain and I was genuinely scared that she might die. She is alive and is recuperating, but it is a slow process. She has been and is still weak.

 Prior to that she was a SAHM taking care of our little man (18 month old). She has come home, but my sister has been coming to help part of the day while my wife recuperates. It was a tough time for me, but a tough time for our son as well. 

Our 18 month old has been acting so cold to my wife. My wife tries to hug him, get him to high five, kiss him. He doesnt want any of it. I know it has probably felt like she abandoned him, but it upsets me to see our son acting so cold to his mother. I am aware that once my wife health recovers and my sister stops helping that things will probably fix themselves. Any thoughts on what can be done to help make this up? 

Secondly, he has been extremely clingy to me. He literally walks up to my legs and clings to me when I am home. He wants to be held and cuddled. I am wondering if this has just been too much and he is suffering separation anxiety.",2.9345929108485507,4.272105436734698,4.225069817400648,87.73786251342645,74.22448979591837,8.096670247046188,23.50698174006445,8.6894789155246,1.3028775510204085,932,26,208,18,19,307,133,245,0.119,0.773,0.108,0.2304,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,4,0,0,0,7,13,0,2,8,0,33,8,1,1,0,28,48,17,1,3,6,10,1,1,0,2,4,0,2,1,13,10,0,3,4,0,0,6,1,8,1,2,15,5,34,5,27,29,2,28,0,2,1,3,37,7,0,4,16,139,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446702553494633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263680349545608,0.0,0.10272765397970356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691250250659934,0.0,0.0,0.23134926638114905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660271295710227,0.13844193389432902,0.0,0.0,0.13936662443037473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374201731195448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189366480873542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128934654349777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015836772383477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273867073422244,0.0,0.0,0.2700252055702541,0.1418794704710107,0.26939759876968417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401586469326755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379952165382103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560486578910514,0.13458884339419366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963627721573611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13527800543713078,0.0,0.14245515931089872,0.0,0.0,0.21437000445977705,0.0,0.09871492269943404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818190271544807,0.1430091375864985,0.0,0.0,0.14288870297531858,0.0,0.0,0.14541756411580953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895638746494087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344427066714847,0.0,0.10700775545193954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072401708446629,0.11226826909627327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096560461891484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921298409992973,0.0,0.0,0.10660728662295403,0.15660532149877734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117069722494583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584095390639347,0.0,0.1077153234192904,0.0,0.12073833790639885,0.12448353614370165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562634937189714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DiscernableDay,2019/02/28,"I think we did something right!!! My 12 yr old son came out to us tonight and I'm so over the moon excited!!!  He was nervous and instantly was hesitant, it could technically be defined as a slip of the tongue but then he owned it!!!  We've known since he could walk and we've been waiting and just trying to support him.  His dad (stepdad) and I have always tried to encourage him and it's finally happened!  He's afraid of his biological father and that side finding out (for good reason, they're not the accepting type) but we'll get through that too.  I just had to share with someone bc he's not out yet and we swore not to tell but I just gotta tell someone how proud I am!!!!  I'm thinking of buying a cake tomorrow and just telling the other kids it was just bc but we'll know.  I love that kid.  Thanks for letting me rant, I thought I was gonna burst!",0.8704371097234613,3.0476869209039563,2.4431578947368418,94.13879571810884,83.74576271186443,5.76021409455843,23.440083258994946,7.0608816371341465,0.7272327683615827,663,25,150,9,19,216,110,177,0.049,0.78,0.171,0.9785,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,5,0,0,1,9,11,0,2,6,0,15,1,0,2,0,40,30,17,0,2,12,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,8,16,0,1,8,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,9,0,19,9,17,13,1,14,0,0,0,1,25,6,0,0,6,90,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468246823447443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20181749374803665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817698931763943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329781010838565,0.1612766587811727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921904463187122,0.0,0.0,0.14800206887302975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603855975131795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697504460414984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043717650629826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592575124773186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515982296471206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18142511226440952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069159234880258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596538634215314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29901947094088016,0.1358436676257581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20023902495164425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626883012024226,0.1624560419503207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261304578342248,0.0,0.14008554721916794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396027028861589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122536196291505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,humansfalloutamytwat,2019/02/28,"Head lice. As a 26 year old I find the fact that my partner and I had head lice absolutely repulsive, however! Did you know there is treatment that doesn’t require that comb/ 4 hrs to complete? I found that pretty nifty. 

Downside is it smells the same as the old one, and despite the fact I hadn’t had them since my own early childhood it still smells undeniably like lice treatment. 

Have your children given you lice and how can I avoid ever getting it again short of chopping my child’s locks off. ",4.824138438880709,6.189605670103093,4.7771723122238585,85.4937113402062,69.61855670103093,7.192341678939616,29.32106038291605,7.447530270364453,1.6497493372606766,398,15,77,4,7,123,67,97,0.044,0.8640000000000001,0.092,0.6696,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,1,1,5,2,0,1,5,0,9,2,2,1,3,13,13,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,7,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,6,2,12,1,5,7,2,10,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,9,49,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572065779562274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190014014566795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22421213006794152,0.0,0.0,0.2689736331650737,0.0,0.0,0.12816619898530351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5035249271605977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481790532151286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984780370359208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5148305852026679,0.0,0.16623080253225025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24957206058421186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292589414547524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959077088252381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579738759500897
parenting,3kidsunder3,2019/02/28,"Anyone have 3 under 3? Just found out I am pregnant after two adoptions and am freaking out. I have two boys via adoption. The oldest turned 2 in January and the younger one is 9 months. 

We had trouble with conceiving in the past but I found out I am pregnant. It's still early and nothing is set in stone yet. I have been pregnant in the past and lost the baby, so we aren't going to count our chickens before they hatch. With that said, the baby would be born in the fall, which means the boys would be not quite 3 and about 1.5 years old. I am currently a stay at home mom, but want to go back to work when the boys are in school. I taught special ed so my schedule would be compatible with theirs. 

2 under 2 was hard and I am still not over the hump. They are on different napping schedules. The oldest has a lot of energy so we go for walks everyday and play in the yard but it's not enough. I'm just too tired to do much more. We plan on starting the oldest in preschool at 3, which is the youngest they will accept, but the baby would be almost a year old by that point. How would I get through that first year? 

My husband works a lot and travels a lot for his job. He is great with the boys when he's home but he's not home a lot. With me being a stay at home mom we need his income and I am so grateful for the opportunity to stay home. I should be happy but I can't stop stressing over the possibility of having 3 under 3. ",1.1196780086777811,3.008345642384107,2.6548230189541013,94.57692052980137,80.98675496688743,5.357570221511762,20.34756793788536,6.311591054244273,-0.029840283169673576,1112,30,255,9,29,363,149,302,0.04,0.831,0.129,0.9835,4,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,0,4,7,15,10,0,1,25,0,36,2,0,1,0,53,51,22,0,8,12,3,1,0,0,7,1,1,6,4,7,22,0,1,4,4,0,6,6,4,0,4,8,2,27,6,40,30,7,59,0,1,0,1,23,22,0,5,27,179,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171536936012037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640427056363588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042798910433379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779373761357731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569332324706052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946382067631191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790743887282013,0.0,0.2008500747963748,0.0,0.0,0.047852628433596014,0.0,0.15616019097300926,0.0,0.0,0.10097963552806856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750054922552903,0.08204773637861232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593672719686546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089014601163978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999826283736398,0.3114702953771999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976968169314893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454104306277624,0.0731072322769921,0.0,0.06733008007514364,0.0679137237906942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788423897178578,0.0,0.1922191412010198,0.0,0.06206457623594167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486835288110414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865833010528677,0.10325533067167036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741852906622037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712421761047137,0.0,0.0,0.09269519723996268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648287318826033,0.2928721389434875,0.146289721812944,0.07657435513742436,0.1049174248814333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527062557558617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962493851729076,0.17894261248897342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054022870393750866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13335898762230652,0.0,0.0,0.3253188486919405,0.0,0.0,0.17694521444584907
parenting,NoUseForA_UserName,2019/02/28,"Please for the love of god... Help me because I'm at my breaking point To preface this, I'm sure you all will chastise me and tell me I'm a bad mother. I am a single mom, history of mental illness (bipolar disorder, anxiety, OCD, severe misophonia, and more). I'm an adult child of two narcissists and probably (surely) do have NPD myself. My daughter is turning 6 tomorrow and I just can't take it anymore. I can't. I'm losing my mind. She is making me lose my mind. I'm at the point where I don't want her here anymore. All we do is scream at each other.

My daughter is overall a good kid. Smart and funny. Indredibly beautiful. Does well in school. Her only lower marks are in behavior because she doesn't want to listen. It's been an ongoing problem. She got kicked out of a daycare last year because of it. She would act up, get punished, then I'd get called to come pick her up. She got to the point of ""well screw it, I just get to go home anyway, so I'll just act up so I can leave."" I nearly lost my job because of her.

She started a new daycare and everything was fine. Then she started kindergarten this year and overall good except for what I already noted. She's gotten in trouble in class a few times, had to sit out at recess. Nothing major but I've had a note sent home. 

The problems really come to a head when we get home. Like tonight. I picked her up and told her we had to run a few errands. She said she didn't want to but I talked her into it. She wanted one of the toys out of the gumball machine at the laundromat. Ok fine. Got her one then we went to the store because she needed cold medicine. She asked for a candy bar and I told her fine. She went to look at toys while I looked at clothes. I picked her out and outfit. She comes up to me and tells me she wants this liquid slime crap. I told her no. She goes back and finds some other slime stuff and I tell her no. I can't stand stuff like that because it gets dirty, dries out, sticks to everything. And that set off the chain reaction like it always does. 

I cannot go ANYWHERE with her without a scene being made. She starts crying. I start yelling. She yells at me. We can't go anywhere or do anything without her asking for some stupid garbage toy that's going to do nothing but make me mad. I'm poor, making 12.50/hour with zero help, zero child support. I can't afford the garbage toys she wants. I got my tax return so I have been able to splurge a little more lately so I have been buying her stuff for her birthday along with booking a vacation for the end of next month with her friend.

But it's never enough. Never. She wants more. And when she can't get it, it turns into a scream fest. I'm at my breaking point. She doesn't listen to me and pushes me until I break. She thinks bodily functions are the funniest thing in the world. She went on and on the other day saying disgusting things and I kept telling her to stop. She wouldn't and it turned into a screaming match. I hit her. I'm not proud of it but I hit her. And I've hit her more than once. I get to the point where I'm 100% enraged because she doesn't listen. I can't take it anymore. I'm totally broken down this point. I love my daughter but I can't stand her. I can't stand being around her anymore. She drives me absolutely crazy and I don't know what to do anymore. 

My daughter has a good life. We go out a lot, she has tons of toys, etc. I live within our means. My mother spoils her beyond what's appropriate and does not back me up as a parent. My daughter is on her THIRD tablet because she's destroyed 2 already. I don't want her having one and I've told my mom this, yet here we are. My mom buys her all kinds of crap she doesn't need, so my daughter has a sense of entitlement now. No, there's no reasoning with my mom. Again, she's a narcissist so she'll do whatever she wants anyway.

For the love of god, I don't know what to do. I try to be a good mom. My daughter and I will be fine for a few days, then we're right back at it again. Sometimes, we don't make it more than 20 minutes before we're screaming. She tells me she wants to live somewhere else, and honestly, I don't even care anymore. I want her gone. But I don't really because I know how amazing she can be. I'm exhausted and beat down. She has totally broken me and I don't know what else to do.

TL;DR - My daughter is driving me insane and I want her gone (but not really because I love her)",0.5314639253759736,2.687034908306366,2.2620708801319904,95.03180039977156,85.0302049622438,5.016092391649217,20.199346405228766,6.3288779334712295,0.051554019925121874,3428,103,766,32,102,1124,338,927,0.139,0.7659999999999999,0.095,-0.9879,4,0,0,0,2,2,125.0,9,1,0,5,32,49,9,0,40,1,68,13,3,10,9,125,163,53,0,18,18,16,0,3,1,5,4,11,3,4,36,56,1,2,8,7,5,20,35,21,2,7,27,14,156,28,99,123,22,115,0,3,2,5,124,51,3,4,39,506,192,5,0.04582569644092918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011395911013892,0.0,0.038130650458855414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035056532346863865,0.0,0.2726806628246428,0.0,0.0,0.037710643568497716,0.04079458544426577,0.08568168031593343,0.0,0.0,0.10571139573493596,0.03826254238755677,0.2793491921165384,0.0,0.03899429244920414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04679315968620605,0.0,0.04672235164409553,0.0,0.0,0.1184243393981776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05033737573143069,0.05910756627824205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252021827345611,0.0,0.12030712730812773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765629783029258,0.0,0.040587965259341836,0.0473501944042924,0.05110776500742237,0.03026744030679735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237036220628595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04188385634451957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03540481939470689,0.0,0.16759424503160614,0.0,0.13021899670484474,0.15374567995684008,0.14660398280339956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04703038526213663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061431996720262914,0.0,0.13790072978746526,0.0,0.04512908011071847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04547493269666243,0.0,0.0,0.04772041099506681,0.1007384172737524,0.037354058873585866,0.05169338161220853,0.04852279582272583,0.0,0.0,0.032368044623077775,0.06716436160710415,0.04592938667622789,0.08092985904603778,0.0,0.07696408702762307,0.10253446511643208,0.05002416098599305,0.03895936837166545,0.1654379207703237,0.04336138199139285,0.12235603286673935,0.0,0.0,0.04991761768742621,0.0,0.0,0.04618152369362487,0.0,0.09254177993546832,0.268352509102089,0.03657763369650356,0.0,0.0,0.06795834651131556,0.07068720431963739,0.04425874318063835,0.04873614804611947,0.0,0.0,0.08794198332187833,0.0,0.0,0.04880287112064989,0.0931580336601575,0.03485250712829485,0.0,0.0,0.050884012792107386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05030285349377138,0.2599205718646189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04940785146390979,0.08769800519696268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807134372223954,0.04711644820023975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03913489437320211,0.043590731294217214,0.03644243311860211,0.0,0.04637805131539036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05176999321234897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045322785540102856,0.0,0.12974265521781933,0.0,0.0,0.03831233416347194,0.0,0.0,0.15737837616914327,0.0,0.052002457262094536,0.08638035314146984,0.0,0.06891044129057934,0.036832958952689364,0.20026839269352034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088911294474522,0.029363255918824795,0.0,0.0,0.026721332115194608,0.0,0.0,0.17515366706554233,0.0,0.031112639805674157,0.14953559564320898,0.0447650466886636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32435019676457216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240560909058665,0.12744263912624398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834867215052948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03255325994817335,0.0,0.0,0.059020492106966214
parenting,laifalove,2019/02/28,"Swimming logistics for 6 month old We’re starting our first swim class on Sunday for our 6 month old. I think we’ve got all the supplies needed, thanks to previous posts on reddit, but I wasn’t sure what to do about feeding before class. Our class starts at 9:30, should I aim to feed her an hour before class starts? 2 hours? Thanks!",2.91,5.028847272727276,2.824242424242424,94.40636363636366,76.27272727272728,5.612121212121212,20.090909090909093,6.42735559955562,0.004654545454545911,264,6,55,2,6,79,48,66,0.0,0.852,0.14800000000000002,0.8556,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,2,6,11,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,7,3,9,8,1,17,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,11,25,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353320622532177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676016273410185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575904215727172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3880882701187916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145499653768345,0.0,0.0,0.14610223093959046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135194448372933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870929464608008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183965402732373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857073185442648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628148439662507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262549022341535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abstractart076,2019/02/28,"10 yr old daughter searched inappropriate things on her iPad. Hello, I’m a single mom of three young girls. Ages 10, 8, and 6. There passed away about four years ago. 

Yesterday I was walking upstairs to go get my daughters ipad because it was time for  bed (I let her play on her iPad for a couple minutes before bed). When I got in the room she gave me her iPad and she was acting suspicious because it took her a minute to turn it off and give it to me. But she did what she was told and soon handed it over. I told her goodnight and walked back downstairs. I turned her iPad back on to charge it and when I unlocked it, it said showing search results for “big guys with big d*cks”. I decided I’d go through the rest of her history to see what else she’s been looking at. I found a bunch of searches like.... “how to masturbate” “hot sex with hot guys” and very much more that was way worse. 

I was very mad and pissed off. I can see why she’d be curious because I haven’t given her “the talk” that goes way in depth yet. I think it’s time to, I just haven’t exactly had the time. We’ve had “the talk” before but it wasn’t with too much detail, so I think I’m going to have to go back and talk about it again but with more detail. 

She isn’t home from school yet. So any idea how I can address what she’s been searching when she gets home? Thanks!!!",2.0205411655874173,3.4080543226950373,2.916561825470243,95.99021739130436,76.69503546099291,6.039099599136603,21.835337650323773,6.498293943080001,0.11320888066605005,1037,27,246,8,23,328,146,282,0.037000000000000005,0.936,0.027000000000000003,-0.3515,0,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,0,0,19,5,2,0,9,0,21,3,2,3,1,26,46,19,0,0,4,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,17,13,0,0,5,2,0,9,4,2,0,2,20,7,36,3,33,23,7,44,0,0,3,1,33,14,1,0,20,153,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312574484179228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791131598869856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093024556160052,0.2683679515269383,0.0,0.21275389449118207,0.0,0.19798846308065188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12872469485400814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718464838681126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755753269552172,0.0,0.0,0.12156257790141982,0.11160106598414164,0.2644680275205033,0.0,0.09304533886131522,0.0,0.0,0.23038387159294846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333910241170671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133032987732746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189624803937359,0.0,0.05683638934982605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769379277014956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362525064666063,0.0,0.0,0.1710421845604859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207612774509533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106631426220414,0.0,0.0,0.11773927059416553,0.18541107825351028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28052185880492403,0.0,0.10710749347535026,0.0,0.0,0.07728914369954401,0.14908812406290062,0.0,0.0,0.2035111478370865,0.0,0.0,0.22233000759291047,0.1292547047829649,0.0,0.2530825316364389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919804431240436,0.0,0.18468581567815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049760613979722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855735771492265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491722370487887
parenting,throwawaybabynow,2019/02/28,"Revoking surrogacy agreement due to concerns about the parenting style of the intended parents. Hi, I’m not sure if this is the correct subreddit for this topic. I’m currently a traditional surrogate for a couple in California. We made the agreement that I would hand over my parental and custodial rights to them after the birth of my child. However, I’m concerned about their parenting style, especially their reliance on western medicine. I know there is a strong pro-vaccine bias out there and people with my beliefs get demonized by the press and fake news media a lot.

Has anyone heard of surrogates successfully terminating their agreement out of concern for the parenting styles of the intended parents? I had brought up the subject with the intended parents but they were not comfortable guaranteeing me that they will not use vaccines on my child.

Thanks.",9.228180462341538,10.351202630872487,8.527069351230429,63.41500372856081,59.60402684563758,12.5282624906786,44.0723340790455,12.06081838636515,6.014699627143923,708,41,105,22,9,223,95,149,0.055,0.8370000000000001,0.109,0.8029,9,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,6,2,4,9,0,0,14,0,7,1,1,5,2,25,17,5,0,2,5,7,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,4,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,5,3,15,8,23,10,1,13,2,0,0,0,18,8,0,2,4,74,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447265996566314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367317434242404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311786439952483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639362276544518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270773263468096,0.0,0.11431266507598835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.939010887435912,0.0,0.0,0.0837539458583377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317046800205856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386131996169407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122495699017562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434043233093986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581944879722209,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zialily,2019/02/28,"Does anyone have a child that isn't involved at all with their father? Hi everyone

I have 2 children aged 3 and 4 with my ex husband, he is an amazing dad to them and I can't fault him.

I recently found out I was pregnant again from a brief relationship. By the time I'd found out, we had already ended things as they was not working out at all. When I told him, he assured me he would be involved. When I was 7 weeks pregnant, he apologised and said that he was sorry but he didn't want anything to do with the baby, gave me multiple reasons (mainly that he wasn't ready for a baby) and advised me to get an abortion.

I attempted an abortion but I could not go through with it once at the clinic. I told him I was keeping the baby and that I would respect his wishes to have no involvement. He still wasn't happy but has reluctantly accepted the situation and asked that I don't contact him at all and that he wouldn't be playing a part in this child's life and that he was seeing someone else.

This devestated me but I have to respect his decision and do it alone. I'm now 15 weeks pregnant and for the past few days, I've been completely terrified and overthinking things. I am contemplating abortion, I know I can do this alone and I want this baby but I am fearful about the future and the impact that having no father will have on the baby. I sort of feel like it's better that its not born opposed to being born and growing up with out a father.

I worry that it will think it's dad didn't want it, didn't care and then they will start doubting their own self worth because of his actions. I worry that they will feel left out when they see friends with their dads or when they don't get a birthday/Christmas present from their dad. 
They will also have to see my other two children have a loving relationship with their dad whilst it wonders why it doesn't have a dad of its own.

Has anyone here have a child that hasn't met and doesn't know their dad? Does it affect them?

I want this baby so much, I'm already feeling kicks which overwhelm me. I just don't want to cause this baby emotional harm when it grows up and understands the situation.
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parenting,santanacarballo,2019/02/28,"Sharing my son pictures my son is two years old now and is in that stage that every single day he discover something new, and we discover something new about him too. I'm taking a bunch of pictures of him so I can get graphic memory of those moments. I have Facebook and Instagram, but I don't like to post more than one picture per day. Is any community in reddit where you can post photos of your children? I'm member of a couple of photography communities, but I'm more interested in the candid part of the toddlers than in the technicalities of the photographs.",7.227920489296636,7.006983366972481,8.166559633027525,68.86922782874619,63.954128440366965,10.936391437308867,36.51529051987768,10.504223727775694,3.9175125382262994,453,20,80,10,6,154,70,109,0.025,0.919,0.056,0.4981,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,12,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,10,3,16,12,5,16,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,9,58,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15597000356210228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25377814694281925,0.0,0.2958314028693132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19324239465896226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11982908870905686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205179848729174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.443027074494203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406706306062028,0.0,0.1554176197820988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24837029075248065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.439319461377144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531390409417423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724472330950947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404756946138166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769779976940312
parenting,Speracanibus,2019/02/28,"Unemployed co-parent getting a job offer out of state I've been a co-parent sharing joint custody for almost 6 years. I lost my job late last year and have been looking for career-work ever since.  Nothing local has come available. I've applied out of state and I've learned that I'm getting a job offer across the country and I'm terrified. I believe that, even though I would absolutely prefer to take the child with me, it is more likely to be in his best interests to stay here with his father. School, friends, etc. He's 11. 

​

Does anybody have similar experiences? What happened with visitation? Relationship with the child(ren)? ",3.2431932773109264,6.214164033613447,3.8880252100840345,82.32682773109245,80.93277310924371,6.089075630252101,28.66806722689076,7.447530270364453,2.072166386554622,516,24,87,8,14,163,84,119,0.052000000000000005,0.8390000000000001,0.109,0.7662,7,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,17,4,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,7,5,15,12,3,15,0,1,1,0,11,5,0,1,6,50,11,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645968921156825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809924135956054,0.19973249250818334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519329386099606,0.17250045041696271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415937107558162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384486054555382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18332054371456047,0.10856752614958344,0.1486857612403994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078938605609433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699500243477446,0.0,0.17175733957543773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535545148255516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893477176779984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13398680966888227,0.18542111599319724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08030487008688096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380328241545052,0.0,0.17943371989530604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772135795374942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647624104358886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635533919991213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597193326061865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752008930589382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358884763562505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16149669390783133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196662841324713,0.0,0.0,0.11676662660779392,0.0,0.19973249250818334,0.21170302989728926
parenting,alliekat237,2019/02/28,Night waking Does anyone have any creative ideas to help deal with night waking? I have a 15-month-old daughter who is working 2 to 3 times a night... often at the exact same times every night.  Is there anything I can do with her other than cry it out?,5.460733333333337,5.590572139999999,5.541999999999998,85.01433333333334,67.6,6.666666666666668,26.66666666666667,3.1291,0.7234666666666669,197,5,38,0,3,62,39,50,0.063,0.815,0.121,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,6,2,2,0,1,7,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,6,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,6,25,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650987665198513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14036186258005226,0.0,0.16519166533192312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22050312958488244,0.0,0.2069538116926945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566866036313766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913185135836512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455158653620586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266106821902798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16022850984367853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7535224232882807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21064254245994699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341058615973253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614088918059434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,takahashii99,2019/02/28,"Momo hysteria has petrified my 8 year old son My son has struggled to get to sleep past 10pm last few nights and we now know it’s because all his friends are talking about this Momo bullshit. It’s literally everywhere, all the moms I speak to have been harping on about kids having stuff popping up on YouTube etc. which I’ve since learnt is now fake.  Nevertheless my boy saw the image of the character on the news tonight (before I could change channel) and now he’s petrified again and wide awake. Im using breathing techniques with him to try and relax him and get him to sleep. 

Anybody else’s kids struggling with this? ",5.634235537190082,6.588510966942152,5.424452479338843,83.11122417355371,67.42975206611571,8.36404958677686,32.48037190082645,8.472884824447931,2.4299330578512395,501,21,96,7,8,155,84,121,0.16899999999999998,0.785,0.046,-0.9432,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,2,4,0,8,3,3,1,2,14,13,5,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,6,8,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,10,2,14,10,4,15,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,0,10,55,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120668790833885,0.0,0.16844130042464447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20940538750346607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804737125105986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536224687918233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207671394694857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293606950075125,0.0,0.20684193802086548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21382051440178548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878842096196084,0.16135608207282526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23183723958707025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857631398632856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771575664802794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896615605262207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637467037018087,0.0,0.3961869259466707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4138816959924139,0.22660596953756165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910511807748348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439539941231252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17096568018094296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274736354705002
parenting,Darth_Boot,2019/02/28,"My daughter (12) wants to help me create a dating profile so that I can find her a stepmother It’s only been her, her brother & I for the last 4 years & I know that she really wants a women figure to show her love & compassion that she is missing from her real mother. 

Seeing how she lit up this morning when after she asked if we could set up a dating profile, I said that we can look into making a dating profile for me this weekend; I confess that finding someone has some appeal. 

On the other hand, I feel that I am not stable enough to be in a relationship.

I am conflicted on whether I am just being intimidated by dating again or whether I am just making an excuse of not having my life perfectly in order before trying my luck on finding the right someone to bring into my families life. 

Parents that have experience in this issue, what advice do you have to share?
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parenting,jasonthebald,2019/02/28,"Check out Dillard's If you've got one close, they're running some awesome deals if you're looking for Nike, UA, type clothes. Picked up a bunch of shorts and drifit tees for 4-6 a piece and pair of Nike shoes for $15. Have a hard time finding stuff in the 4t size at the thrifts (especially shorts and shoes) that aren't run down. Happy hunting!",3.563333333333333,4.3572942222222215,3.6287777777777817,94.694,72.05555555555556,6.315555555555558,26.9,5.6839178017228535,0.5614299999999997,272,9,63,1,5,83,57,72,0.07,0.868,0.061,0.2486,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,2,2,1,0,10,4,5,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,10,3,3,11,0,0,1,0,1,8,0,3,1,28,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818772522860849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33854874483534425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962513405982473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39430916595011145,0.3318153052113713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31105176713282023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509999326673894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42403172619402907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159895061599605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,therealme0929--,2019/02/28,"All of a sudden having accidents? We potty trained our almost two year old at the beginning of the month. After a week she was completely accident free during the day. We had over a week of no accidents, we weren’t even prompting her she was just asking for the potty every time. We really though she had this thing, no problems even during long outings.

Lately, the last week, she’s been having accidents. She’ll say “potty” while she is peeing her pants! It’s maddening. She’s having about one or two accidents a day, the rest of the time making it to the potty. 

I’m just confused because she *had* it! We don’t punish for accidents, just have her help us clean up and remind her that pee and poop go in the potty. We’ve began prompting more, but she seems resistive to that.

Any ideas?

 I major disruptions in her life either.",2.087004830917873,4.666351037267084,3.5828053830227766,85.30669944789511,82.1055900621118,6.559144237405107,20.12456866804693,7.793537801064563,1.0755421670117324,651,18,120,12,18,214,95,161,0.156,0.807,0.037000000000000005,-0.926,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,7,0,0,0,7,4,1,1,13,0,14,4,3,1,1,20,21,6,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,7,7,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,3,0,3,8,1,22,2,15,12,5,24,0,0,0,0,24,5,0,4,18,90,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468327108273965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862980581209648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308420910564506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634114992293084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290415046603775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22500750832856925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304409318718013,0.0,0.14697895255179289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914213638124003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11692801263891167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19692920309139167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219742483625414,0.19678358839691434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123216933612569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437992818839752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644459338215014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924177117803266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830525711446859,0.0,0.11820966617589093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692202773046882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117550868349928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872709688041426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588098146571017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158947022411682,0.0,0.17139309496221072,0.0,0.20344266350459986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34081835033482066,0.0,0.20983802093657705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41979210068256056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123380195252849
parenting,kumquat_kutie,2019/02/28,"I get that every parent is different and people have different parenting styles, but is this case just downright weird? So this is all true. It’s about a girl I actually know. My friend’s sister. Let’s call her M. M was the oldest of three sisters and always considered herself a black sheep of the family. She got pregnant very young, but her life seemed to be very successful for a young mom. She married her baby daddy, who has a very nice-paying job, so M doesn’t have to work. All day M stays at home looking after her two kids, and taking care of her social media status. This girl is OBSESSED with being the perfect “mommy blogger” on Instagram. She spends thousands on cameras, equipment, etc. just so her pictures are perfect. She has thousands of followers. All her clothes are perfect, her house is perfect, her kids look perfect, literally her life looks like it doesn’t have a single flaw to it. Now here’s where it starts to get concerning. Because she’s so famous in her community on Instagram, she gets lots of DMs asking her about how she parents and she answers them either on Instagram Live or on her story. One person asked her why her kids never wear bright clothes or clothes with any characters on them ? She deadass said that HER KIDS ARE NOT ALLOWED TO WEAR ANY BRIGHT COLORS, ONLY PASTELS, BECAUSE PASTELS ARE “AESTHETIC” AND BRIGHT COLORS ARE MAINSTREAM, AND NOTHING MAINSTREAM IS ALLOWED IN THE HOUSE. As soon as I read that, I went back on her page to look, and it was true, not a single photo showed her kids wearing bright colors or even anything with a logo or character on it. All pastels or greys or browns. Ok.....but does she know that bright colors stimulate a baby’s brain? That’s why literally all baby toys are bright. 

Another person asked what were her kids favorite TV shows and movies. She said doesn’t allow her kids to watch media from the 21st century, because then they’re gonna want toys from that movie or tv show, and if it’s a mainstream movie, they’re not allowed to have it, because again, NO MAINSTREAM THINGS ALLOWED IN THE HOUSE. 

I honestly don’t know why she’s so against pop culture. I understand that some areas aren’t good, but that’s why you monitor what you’re kids see/watch/do so you can step in if necessary. You mean to tell me you’re kids aren’t allowed to see a movie because you don’t want to buy them toys from that movie because they’re not “aesthetically pleasing”? This might be a disservice to them as they get older and their peers talk about their fond memories of childhood, and they all can relate to one another except for her kids, because they would have no idea what the other kids were talking about. 

I remember one time I babysat her oldest, and I put on “The Secret Life of Pets” for him. His eyes lit up! Later when M came by and asked what we did that whole day, I mentioned we watched a movie, and when she asked what movie, I told her, and she EXPLODED. She said “computer animation rots children’s brains. He is only allowed to watch hand-drawn animation!”And that was the last time I babysat for her.

This is honestly insane. I get that you wanna restrict your little one’s intake of screen time, but you deadass won’t allow “mainstream” things in your house because it’s gonna ruin your “aesthetically pleasing” lifestyle? You have kids for God’s sake. Kids want what kids want. She’s teaching her kids that looks only matter, and that your Instagram status defines who you are. She drives me insane. 

Oh...did I mention she’s vegan? ",4.727163865546217,6.38311372619048,4.843168767507006,83.80820378151262,70.22023809523809,7.5324929971988785,28.50385154061625,8.060288974870295,1.8750404061624657,2792,103,521,38,51,871,278,672,0.067,0.804,0.129,0.993,16,0,0,0,0,0,85.0,2,12,9,7,22,24,0,1,21,0,45,9,6,10,14,88,84,42,0,8,21,6,0,1,1,5,3,3,2,20,39,22,0,1,10,9,2,6,15,3,0,8,13,28,86,21,61,62,14,49,0,1,25,0,117,19,0,13,24,328,125,6,0.0,0.0,0.06433192251372917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485371495675916,0.0,0.0,0.08966061515281055,0.1382532819613572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05424950448653874,0.0,0.308148327690989,0.0,0.0,0.050691178002871526,0.0,0.32149130997481584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471850762720029,0.06731536473847788,0.07539903440314577,0.06721350221812125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503053458038924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775225855780038,0.0,0.0,0.057690185272759265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735222384107824,0.04354191504945082,0.0,0.05554347497282063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214690158790051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05093240864769363,0.0,0.17221179652305454,0.0,0.0,0.05529358667304767,0.05272512393212853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612674434750734,0.0,0.0,0.3042679262524491,0.0,0.07441971842512493,0.0,0.0,0.06541899930377967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868965700490997,0.05373653145887576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741134589645661,0.13969136157625875,0.0322069402830689,0.0660727644180923,0.05821174522569776,0.0,0.27679609716308845,0.0,0.0,0.05604588596936472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181012489942061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993452015723974,0.0,0.07720892177331598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050844343201324665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632554707016554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868614575879252,0.15041360180363078,0.0,0.0,0.21960106370853635,0.0,0.0,0.04570312262424255,0.11512388678528923,0.0,0.1447286292708986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662714246828525,0.0,0.0,0.06594143833241277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467858602950198,0.0,0.18812531549256825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506514564772394,0.06001436813027153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720080668608262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046661062304265866,0.07026578455559176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049566341756701736,0.10597378261799947,0.05762013076337345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759341908014301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532174123492082,0.0,0.0,0.06299282343223865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439777663209782,0.06862879092828181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318161844755094,0.15553378559758824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06111183624235464,0.23794317543900154,0.07360134342480344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04799316483273761,0.0,0.0,0.04683023291294745,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StewTrue,2019/02/28,"Weird videos on youtube kids? I heard from some other parents that they have encountered some disturbing videos on youtube kids, and just came across a post on facebook about some sort of suicide videos being spliced into peppa pig and similar videos. Can anyone confirm whetber this is true or just ""fake news?""  

My son wakes up super early and we sometimes let hom watch youtube for a bit while we wake up, and I'd be lying if I said we monitored every video. I definitely don't want him coming across anything crazy. ",6.98,7.8293453333333325,5.8916666666666675,81.32000000000002,64.41666666666666,8.483333333333333,32.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.4490541666666674,416,16,74,5,6,124,74,96,0.187,0.727,0.086,-0.8713,1,0,0,0,0,1,9.0,3,0,1,1,3,5,0,1,2,0,7,2,2,0,1,21,12,7,1,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,10,0,0,0,5,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,3,9,2,12,6,4,13,0,0,1,0,11,8,0,6,2,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20406041727155136,0.0,0.2401583987116834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31861229458093004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33378574676492745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25139321446208035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458867068853137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29842486191757944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240523596469649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27950082025038137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776054512905655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886359544804171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31922419024173104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213403720559162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,purplestove80,2019/02/28,"Well played, Gandpa When I was little I loved visiting my grandpa. We only got to see him a few times a year because he lived in a different state. His house was filled with passed-down family heirlooms and I loved exploring them. 
One night he told me about how back in the day people would hide their cash in a bible so if a burglar broke in they wouldn’t think to look there for the money. He said after a while that became common knowledge so one time before going on an extended trip he hid a $100 bill in a different book, but when he got back he had forgotten which book he had put it in. He said he was really sad that he could never find it.
This turned into my mission. He had a decent sized bookshelf full of books and every time I visited him I would spent time looking for his $100 but I never found it.
He passed away close to 20 year ago now. My parents had an estate sale and sold everything but ever since then I occasionally would think of that book and wonder if anyone found it. 
I’m 38 now and have two boys, 4 & 5, and it just occurred to me yesterday, that there was probably never any $100 in a book. He probably just wanted some adult time with my dad on our visits. Good one, Grandpa!",3.8874644212523712,4.670949383064516,4.896992409867174,85.93681214421255,71.29838709677419,8.093358633776091,23.86242884250474,8.313332769828598,1.2090722960151803,949,23,201,14,17,311,145,248,0.049,0.901,0.051,0.1224,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,3,0,16,7,0,0,14,0,14,2,0,1,4,38,35,18,0,8,7,4,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,2,11,11,0,0,8,6,6,9,4,2,1,4,17,5,22,5,23,13,3,49,0,2,3,2,36,14,0,4,25,122,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928276965295528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135382008978016,0.0,0.07616501235095956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831420889982836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522930564113064,0.17224482308506106,0.0,0.0682752107857651,0.0,0.09530521696660248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894242621620108,0.0,0.0,0.07223184567143838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340359243921283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013119706840954,0.0943662822323941,0.0,0.10065992673048152,0.0,0.10558525655772136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236754575076072,0.0,0.0,0.2456082165619721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636531602684937,0.0939417313767898,0.17915601888977498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292349507167763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225515036650498,0.09889957338636886,0.0,0.18810647795082125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20217185571527269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25914790042240265,0.0,0.0,0.1051060298420581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276857984211116,0.08518235734163178,0.0,0.0,0.1243646588946416,0.0,0.0,0.07764789240448873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24151360149722095,0.0,0.0,0.11259266671062815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07175117172957428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21307857344199768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925087232867836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264898266947576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353236334957978,0.0,0.0,0.3265455269117521,0.0,0.0,0.10702244606645164,0.0,0.0,0.121825712532767,0.10940940889594856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660615180971155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070299985406816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146109093298547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23868843162411524,0.0,0.0,0.14425087499811445
parenting,freckly_m,2019/02/28,"Today is the first anniversary of my first due date I’m not sure if that’s the right place for this post but here it goes anyway.

Today is the first anniversary of my first due date. It’s weird to imagine what could have been. 

Going through the miscarriage was hard and emotional. A year ago, my actual due date was also difficult.  And today, instead of a one year old I have a memory of a baby that I never got to meet, to hold, to kiss.

One thing that helped me to deal with the grief was knowing of other people that went through the heartbreak of miscarriage that went on to have a healthy pregnancy with a good outcome. So this is the reason I’m posting this, while remembering the first anniversary of my first due date with my little baby boy that’s asleep in his cot.

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parenting,Hashbringingslasherr,2019/02/28,"Help with toddler speech (possible childhood Apraxia) Hey everybody, my first post here.

I'm the father to an awesome 3 year old and I wanted to get your advice. My son has a delay in his speech development. He talks. A lot. But doesn't use actual words. Over the past year, we've been looking at options for speech therapy and have finally been able to get him to see a few speech therapists and other doctors to determine the issue.

  


Through the appointments, we've learned that it's almost guaranteed he's not on the autism spectrum which was what we had initially considered. Instead the therapist made an informal conclusion that our son may have Childhood Apraxia. He's incredibly smart and learns stuff very easily. We've been learning and teaching him ASL since he lacks understandable verbal communication.

Those of you with experience in this or other forms of verbal issues, what are some things we can do that have helped you communicate with your child or help progress his verbal communication skills?",6.5860714285714295,8.847280194444442,6.337619047619048,72.525,66.5,10.031746031746033,32.85714285714286,10.290406445055957,3.81754761904762,825,36,133,22,14,258,122,180,0.013,0.887,0.1,0.9402,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,4,0,4,2,1,0,0,11,0,14,1,0,2,0,31,23,8,0,2,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,13,10,0,1,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,6,6,14,1,17,16,5,15,0,0,2,0,25,5,0,7,9,86,27,5,0.1605627306917836,0.0,0.15668606370282734,0.0,0.0,0.15690004214879918,0.0,0.0,0.16078038154942584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164342758488488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570611601890244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17588862322857582,0.0,0.1365745767029221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677747996082731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228654415967924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351715506703214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348322550240403,0.0,0.0,0.13650469185656905,0.0,0.15192833802497896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848357630253985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327529449698046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18101035386138808,0.15377471236454865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794770823453064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281915003772055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380591234533705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290542409219142,0.0,0.0,0.1836174757267877,0.3728514114090953,0.10667074374320724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715146519897536,0.0,0.1386746469633073,0.0,0.13248106831019946,0.09470405859892016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067942686191984
parenting,Wittywitwitsend,2019/02/28,"9 yo son w autism obsessed with violence, weapons, scary things I really don’t know what to do at this point.  We have a 9 year old son with autism (moderate/high functioning) and ADHD.  He has also struggled with depression and ODD - there’s a lot going on in his head.  He has always been drawn to things that are inappropriate, but over the last few weeks, he’s become absolutely obsessed with a scary version (Sonic.Exe) of a character he loves (Sonic the Hedgehog), as well as weapons and bombs and other things that are violent.
  I grew up with brothers, and I understand that to an extent, boys’ interest in weapons at this age is normal.  What I’m worried about is the depth and intensity of our son’s interest - it’s truly an obsession, and has crowded out other thoughts.   As of a month ago, partially in response to this, we have banned all screens - no TV, no video games, no borrowing parents’ phones, nothing - in hopes that it would help him move on.  No such luck.  We just got a call from his teacher that he had written a “very disturbing, very violent” poem at school today.  He scares other kids in his class and smaller children on his bus with talk of these scary characters, and nothing we have tried - rewards for not doing it, punishment for doing it, ignoring it, trying to talk through it - has worked.
  He had weekly sessions with a child psychologist for two years, we went into debt so he could do this, and it made a minimal difference.  We can’t afford to go back (in fact, still paying off the original treatment).  I guess I’m just hoping that someone out there has had a similar experience and can tell me what helped or how they got through this.  ",5.972809523809524,6.698687447619051,6.210912698412702,78.58589285714288,66.58730158730158,9.728571428571428,32.57539682539682,9.766711354998122,3.055892063492063,1306,53,245,27,20,418,183,315,0.219,0.6709999999999999,0.11,-0.9888,3,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,7,0,1,2,12,22,6,6,16,0,25,2,1,3,2,50,41,19,0,5,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,28,27,0,2,3,3,3,5,7,14,1,1,10,1,18,8,45,29,5,38,0,1,1,1,40,20,0,6,13,165,46,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003530997847825,0.0,0.1106645216797962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983576057579377,0.103878189327557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599546338785084,0.0,0.0,0.13787770873134836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274772038406037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996758373413594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752586362533784,0.0,0.0,0.1304328722862784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211901330999415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190068546925524,0.0,0.19969442034903312,0.0,0.13752706708086584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812347037404365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735734925275353,0.13190197582444707,0.0,0.2479917009652112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860966346097974,0.10176254412470724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613584072374573,0.11267439349271545,0.11812811462177285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964735226269937,0.1326868346670024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223182348600609,0.2395777119828644,0.0,0.13100022992471874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862179246766065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801563855396766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997670821607564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498819305065505,0.1263463365352695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577785941361699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969864121428684,0.0,0.0,0.13051151778656733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200685854426227,0.10911703714569944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488175808574093,0.0,0.0,0.0991102637764913,0.0,0.0,0.11833521356772173,0.0,0.0,0.16951846608026214,0.0,0.121952076327667,0.12996447994432386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20601474387206345,0.0,0.0,0.20028075856791044,0.0,0.11224756671803138,0.11572938861738373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088615177392748,0.12678267702035853,0.0,0.08868387135893188,0.0,0.0,0.16078775944062548
parenting,banannasinhotcars,2019/02/28,"Where can I buy girls’ clothing that is not girly? My daughter (9) hates all the clothing from target, old navy, Gymboree, etc. Where can I buy cool clothes that are not, pink, frilly or too expensive? ",4.3404504504504535,6.2731207027027045,3.2524324324324314,93.71126126126127,71.70270270270271,6.014414414414415,28.54954954954956,6.42735559955562,1.0736198198198197,154,6,31,1,3,44,30,37,0.085,0.856,0.06,-0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,5,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,1,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6121122470219102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5418752284273495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5759251981486794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jjjheimerschmidt,2019/02/28,"How do kids deal with new family (step-dad, mom's new baby with SD)? What to prepare for? Backstory, was married for 8 years, then got divorced.  Divorce was finalized August 2018.  We have a 4yo daughter together and she alternates time between us 50/50, on a 2-2-3/2-2-3 alternating biweekly schedule.

Found out a few days ago that my ex-wife had remarried and is 5 months pregnant, due in June, 2019.  Our daughter is happy she'll be a big sister.

I'm not dating, spending my time with her doing lots of things together, playdates, exploring, activities (museums, parks, etc), just general lots of good bonding time together.  Eventually, she'll have questions about her role and her participation level while she's with her Mom.. she already asked if Daddy will love her as I've loved her since she was born.  She may wonder how her mom's new partner will be involved too.

Her new step-dad will be absent as he's spending the next 6 months out of town on cadet training.  Her mom lives with her parents in the basement, grandma spoils her like nothing with material goods, but she's still relatively grounded when she's with me.  Her baby brother will arrive and step-dad may or may not be there for it.

How will she deal with such changes in her life?  She's 4 years old, turning 5 soon.. she's got lots of questions and Daddy sometimes doesn't know how to answer them..  What should I expect from her and how would I help her along in this journey?",5.589668265387687,6.373941500000001,5.88369304556355,80.38766586730617,67.45323741007195,8.767705835331737,31.9912070343725,8.841846274778883,2.5538219024780173,1139,46,217,18,18,364,166,278,0.0,0.939,0.061,0.9275,1,0,0,0,2,0,52.0,3,0,1,0,13,6,0,0,6,0,27,3,0,5,0,46,37,19,0,4,6,9,0,1,1,12,1,0,0,2,6,18,0,0,7,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,7,0,36,6,31,14,5,42,0,0,0,2,55,12,0,11,29,134,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225090781077218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484275233897001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729048620184096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009122499081224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711590902761885,0.21458118166487306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606446764179305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810701094389894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400252547854632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141063097999111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457631432155754,0.16646700570619746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078340784158378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975527098939067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05719361221458635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350702710708887,0.05084286685397221,0.0,0.09189485203608072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654272799286661,0.18785270887099187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4875375177098828,0.16613379911896534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.402042035296171,0.11067858430246308,0.0,0.0,0.09985703225463784,0.0,0.10920293107977627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555633190644185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23316224131402394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608696945985359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292692265042763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310965447562728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913883318989313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205044886109945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319721050416315,0.0,0.0,0.12518221839201354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128584138156256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739276465198767,0.0,0.0,0.13403407477037652
parenting,anna_spanna,2019/02/28,"Our first plane ride tomorrow. Not really sure why I’m writing this. I guess I’m very nervous to be flying alone with my 3 yr old. 
We’re flying tomorrow from Newquay to Gatwick (only 1hr) but it’s my 3 year olds first plane ride, we then have to catch two trains and cab to get to our final destination. 
She’s a great kid when she wants to be but when she doesn’t get her own way her tantrums are awe inspiring, she can scream, scratch, slap, go deadweight, kick legs etc. The whole shebang. 
I’m trying to prepare as much as possible by talking her through what’s going to happen, bringing snacks, loaded my phone with games, and brining pens & paper etc. Anything for distractions, oh and some sugar free lollipops for being a good girl and to help with her ears popping, 
I’ve also just found out that we’re not sat together on the flight so I’ve got to ask the staff or passenger to swap seats with me. 

I think I’m just worried about taking her (a runaway toddler who doesn’t like holding hands) across London and through an airport. 

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parenting,RoboticDeerDecoy,2019/02/28,"11 Week Old, Won’t Nap During Day Have an 11 week old boy. He will fuss a normal amount while being put down for naps, but he will not sleep during the day for more than 20 mins, what I’ve read is a sleep cycle. After that, wide awake and unable to go back to sleep no matter what is done.

He doesn’t act over tired, we are creating a restful environment, and he isn’t hungry because he won’t continue eating. He seems to hate his swaddle as his ability to move his arms and hands around, but we’re hesitant to abandon a swaddle since it seems so necessary to getting babies to sleep. 

Is this normal? Is it okay? Will this negatively impact his health or development? I don’t know how to “let go” of the idea of him napping, and the burden of being with him while he is awake and refusing naps is resting solely on my wife’s shoulders at the moment. 

He sleeps fine at night - 6-8 house broken into 3 chunks with pretty consistent wake up times.

Thanks for reading. ",5.0077663230240566,5.282288762886598,5.738711340206188,82.71346219931273,68.58762886597938,8.52852233676976,26.47594501718213,8.344100000000001,1.5668295532646042,756,20,154,10,12,247,125,194,0.14,0.755,0.106,-0.8831,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,4,6,1,0,9,1,20,12,9,1,0,24,28,13,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,7,10,1,2,4,6,0,5,8,3,0,0,1,1,9,3,27,19,4,29,0,1,0,0,18,9,0,3,15,91,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166409846727064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645207874123024,0.0,0.07646425464445619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179090997435525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836396285216625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835172759357308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553481853378687,0.0,0.14257565519546544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238414869963754,0.0,0.13333196292625954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447356085297012,0.0,0.14160129679830522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893601456780132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282661934210529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331797747065213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177126242162634,0.24580011604390084,0.0,0.0,0.2632467003314107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276128950610843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12609722092948614,0.0,0.0,0.2509386860959343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22838335144542204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376145780959843,0.0,0.6276299319617372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548406211339253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073142389559621,0.14416953822312387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012334209763316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kmmorgan1,2019/02/28,"Baby shower gift for 3rd time boy mom This weekend I’m going to a baby shower brunch for a friend who is having her third boy. I’m planning to bring something small, but not sure what would be useful for a third time mom of all boys. Thoughts?",0.8230666666666657,3.22735024,1.8200000000000005,96.85666666666668,86.6,3.333333333333334,16.333333333333336,3.1291,-1.0600666666666667,192,4,40,0,6,60,37,50,0.048,0.799,0.154,0.6659,2,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,2,7,10,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,6,7,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,22,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315985069524991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036395456491565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7021647505344126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307745508573291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28252595493517635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379807598405619,0.34959198930901203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25890162078364626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21294520151007126,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HappyCats623,2019/02/28,"Is Frozen actually crack for kids? My 3yo daughter has never seen Frozen and has virtually no idea what it even is.  But recently a family member gave us a box of hand me downs, clothes and toys.  Inside was a little toy boombox with microphone and it plays snippets of songs from Frozen.  The kid has been carrying it around for the past two days, singing along and dancing around as if she were an overly dramatic Disney princess.  I repeat, she has never seen the movie.  She is only slightly familiar with it through commercials, dolls etc.  The people at Disney are legit geniuses.",5.031813417190777,7.369813858490571,5.1448427672955965,79.15414046121593,70.79245283018868,8.484696016771489,28.758909853249477,9.150863307647796,2.685093501048218,463,18,79,10,9,145,79,106,0.021,0.93,0.049,0.4588,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,8,0,11,1,1,0,2,14,14,7,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,9,0,0,1,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,6,4,7,1,15,8,1,13,0,0,2,0,8,6,0,1,6,58,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.23590683497744935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4304060280560409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559045921954167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696079626758183,0.15966933626118174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278943063473321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728990452576248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422905475700083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37289506087967217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838568647961686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307715743858249,0.1675945407129778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386925935944408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361483237442628,0.0,0.2907877281449506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,veliona,2019/02/28,"E-learning for children Hi all,  
I am working on a educational project dedicated to children.   
I would love to chat with you/see your comments on children's' online education.

Do your children use it? What types of platforms are they using? What is your and their approach to e-learning?  
Do you suggest them to do so or they find some websites by themselves? 

  
Thanks!",2.306567164179107,5.233285402985075,3.225985074626866,83.86733582089553,90.49253731343285,4.471044776119403,32.073134328358215,6.2581,2.0110608955223883,290,17,49,3,10,92,50,67,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.9072,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,4,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,2,1,9,11,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,10,10,2,4,0,0,0,1,17,3,0,2,0,36,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35805391352174576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35357116169930825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36067228844621696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6766952943769945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851998690116289,0.0,0.0,0.2782891342778496,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Remansilent,2019/02/28,"My son bullied another kid I just learned that last year my son (13) was part of a group of kids that bullied another boy in their social group.  

The other kid (""Chris"") was a bit of an odd kid, but he always seemed nice to me.  My son never said anything about bullying, however, so I never thought anything of it.  Just thought he was a kid he hung out with.

The other day, my son told me that Chris isn't in the school anymore and he didn't know what happened to him.  He just stopped coming to school.  I said that I could get Chris' parents number and he could reach out to him and maybe they could hang out.  He agreed.  

Then, later I saw that he had texted another friend saying that he was getting Chris' number so he could apologize to him.  Clearly my son feels bad about Chris but hasn't confessed to me about what happened.

Chris' mom works in a shop not far from our house.  Today, I drove by and chatted with her.  She explained that they pulled Chris out of school and are now homeschooling him.  Apparently it was pretty bad: Name calling, taking his stuff, throwing away his food, etc.  They didn't pull Chris out solely because of the bullying, but it seems like it was a pretty big part of it.  Anyways, I apologized for my son, got their phone number and said that I would give it to my son.

I can tell my son feels bad about Chris.  He's usually a sweet kid, so I'm pretty shocked to learn about this.  He has a disabled sibling and is very kind with him.  (So much for all the anti-bullying campaigns they subject the kids too.)

What is my best play here?  He clearly knows that he did something wrong and feels bad about it. Should I make him call and apologize?  Should I let him deal with it himself?

Anybody have some useful advice?

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parenting,wellactual1y,2019/02/28,Is my teen really perfect? My (M/36) daughter (15) has had conversations with me about how she has friends that have had sex and have smoked weed. I don't think the smoking weed part is a big deal as long as her friends are responsible. I would want to know if he is smoking weed to ensure that she is responsible and won't get in trouble with the law. (Still in a slightly illegal state.) She says that she doesn't like her friends that have been having sex as much and seems like she is a really good girl and has a good head on her shoulders. My questions to parents that have found out that their teens were having sex and doing drugs is what warning signs did you see? Does every parent think that their child is an angel until they find out that they are not?,6.755065789473687,5.967958585526315,6.181842105263157,84.58289473684214,65.1184210526316,9.178947368421053,30.184210526315788,8.07648339933343,1.7625236842105263,603,17,128,6,8,185,90,152,0.059,0.758,0.183,0.964,2,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,4,1,3,9,0,0,7,0,28,6,2,1,1,24,36,11,0,3,2,3,0,2,3,2,1,1,0,2,9,9,0,0,7,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,2,19,8,15,28,2,10,1,0,1,3,26,6,0,3,5,89,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18155967528476147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411334863742546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422943708326446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837863464207598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095957486967716,0.0,0.0,0.19309339611681006,0.40818194708964944,0.0,0.09200919189825127,0.0,0.0,0.2954221679153059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073767504794627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678438324811156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207500350091834,0.0,0.0,0.1558500898464645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294596861435763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39109431563851227,0.19070786559309152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972813295797563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22563866337310626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004819646351316,0.0,0.0,0.1403353217214856,0.16032216216997702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064012289008415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256858657238709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387309562003616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510211186811326,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Green_eyed_doe,2019/02/28,"5.5 Year Old Wakes Every Night Hi all,

My 5.5 yo daughter has never slept through the night, except once in a blue moon. Normally she wakes once or twice every single night and wakes me (Mom) up too. She complains of nightmares, stomach ache or has wet the bed. I believe she may be suffering from separation anxiety disorder as she tells me her stomach feels better when she’s with me.

I am researching parenting children with anxiety but haven’t found too much information specific to night time. I’d reeeeally love to sleep through the night... it’s been a long 5.5 years...

She shares a room with her older sister (8.5) who is an excellent sleeper, calm child and goes to sleep in her own bed every night without problem and who has slept through the night consistently since she was around 1. Her little sister goes to sleep in her own bed every night without too much difficulty but she never stays there.

She’ll go spells without bed wetting. She refuses to wear pull-ups anymore and takes them off as soon as I leave after bed time, so the wet bed issue always comes back.

If I prepare piles of clean sheets and change her bed over and over during the night, then she has a stomach ache, or nightmares. There is always something that wakes her and always a reason that she needs me.

My husband is very loving, but is losing patience and feels like I’m coddling her. I want to be supportive of her emotional needs and not accidentally exasperate anxiety with the “tough love” that everyone recommends.

How do I teach her to cope? How do I help her stop waking over and over every single night before we all go crazy? 

She does display the mysterious stomach ache at school with no apparent cause or other symptoms so I think anxiety is definitely on the table. She is otherwise very outgoing, loves to sing and perform and is not at all shy.

Thank for your time.",5.2980835164835165,6.9654511600000015,5.40457142857143,80.29096703296705,68.82857142857142,8.47032967032967,29.461538461538463,8.950670267944501,2.4304549450549446,1486,56,269,27,26,467,185,350,0.09,0.7240000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.9931,2,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,1,1,1,4,13,16,0,0,15,0,21,20,15,4,5,56,41,29,0,6,14,6,5,1,0,2,1,0,9,2,7,20,0,2,6,1,0,3,9,5,0,1,5,6,42,11,42,32,9,45,0,2,1,4,49,15,0,6,27,174,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271173618017002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21171680326185888,0.0,0.06861664381755228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061592652228090086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320187440841802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887452630167296,0.07795202294550915,0.0,0.06119182269906113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107590039236476,0.07319251848094281,0.0595999777295489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929629640384217,0.0,0.060547537311242614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782802596916012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914725102209815,0.06611281120126597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996781707714626,0.049428453503201394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586188807981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864311687628346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04637575757250626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221507434589237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732608912603589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03380212611989777,0.06934529937712654,0.0,0.06122986239264526,0.0,0.07740450825193207,0.0,0.0,0.2497821759524015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103302233695653,0.0,0.0,0.10172337758387302,0.10260515598046993,0.10672525153083423,0.0,0.0,0.6492895053760946,0.06779028028222353,0.0,0.0,0.07260194944598625,0.14736751144453702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682591377612577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662042851565859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113755358992395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002270410586757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723364513097697,0.0,0.20771613790580945,0.0,0.0,0.053264876427335184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374599668849258,0.0,0.05784488918023306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851456830039995,0.0,0.07191359831696016,0.05202132585822706,0.0,0.060474013054026186,0.06369970091794715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044333354301723915,0.0,0.0,0.12103354144566908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141759218920658,0.0408093146265015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20008644453620755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911056712763056
parenting,ImPavlovinIt,2019/02/28,"Which job to take? Daughter is 3 I have a job opportunity starting in April. it is part time and my daughter will be able to come to work with me on days that her school is closed or sick days, but because of how crazy expensive daycare is, I'll be bringing home $450-500 less (after daycare) than I am now. I have wanted to work part time for awhile because I hate how many things I miss with my daughter. But with the job I'm working now it is still really good hours and we're financially stable (for the first time in forever).

 What would you guys choose?",2.9996491228070177,4.45436457894737,3.8412280701754398,90.08359649122808,74.26315789473685,6.821052631578947,24.947368421052627,7.3871296695380915,0.9306736842105259,438,14,96,5,9,140,77,114,0.108,0.815,0.077,-0.5529999999999999,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,5,5,4,1,0,3,0,12,1,0,2,0,15,20,7,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,6,7,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,2,15,16,3,19,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,13,60,16,7,0.16418969038747713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20017702261319434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143487992006346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21177753445147787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965966676724584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771452236991835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16257360734995252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16210332696104027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469564666771028,0.0,0.16169377153715278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4887987984741888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646257546197613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35560286904222504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518411997952228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661687323413446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621430793595493,0.0,0.13112209883590858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345021351229493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908033460280056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287220986530355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684333339872564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35859615027557384,0.0,0.0,0.11663564521890912,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jughandle9481,2019/02/28,"Toddler throwing up in daycare for the past two weeks As the title says,my toddler is in the day care and out of the blue he started throwing up during lunch time as he developed “dislike” towards broccoli.He had a baby brother show up in December and potentially has anxieties around him,though he says he loves.m the baby all the time.We have tried to make sure at least one of us spend time with him to make sure he doesn’t real feel neglected.We took him to the doctor to check if there were any physical ailments that we are not saying and there was nothing of note.A few weeks back,he started saying he doesn’t like broccoli and will throw up as soon as the lunch arrives.Now he started saying he miss mommy and daddy and that’s why he throws up.We are trying to incentivize him by offering ice cream for dinner if he doesn’t throw up.Considering him giving him small punishment like depriving him of toys to see if that works as well.What other things can we try?",7.230829015544046,6.398839155440411,7.0996943005181326,78.53669170984459,64.18134715025907,9.999792746113991,33.80777202072539,9.120678840339163,2.7780739896373063,779,28,151,11,10,248,112,193,0.062,0.8590000000000001,0.079,0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,4,8,1,0,9,0,13,4,0,2,3,22,24,14,0,3,4,1,1,2,0,1,1,4,0,0,5,11,3,0,1,2,2,6,4,3,0,2,4,8,9,5,30,19,3,28,0,2,3,0,26,12,0,3,12,84,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792332598700892,0.0,0.11015779247127963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818841957491353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072528868513086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681518027098472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286655843676847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738767555228846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280952814803104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813564747602186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406999363994091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922390717767201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816960919625645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757652047489852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374620310823423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390082752749985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4580507786574146,0.0,0.0,0.11474746731996005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057667900538064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714321234286348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095665626610779,0.0,0.14147693992259372,0.0,0.2518985273766026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15998666479632048,0.2932948146470395,0.0,0.14066476040201084,0.0,0.17321141839503865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23101242525295715,0.0,0.12947116239068518,0.0,0.1299354632755217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048319893200532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,numbers_game,2019/02/28,"Swing shift child care? I have unusual child care needs. My husband travels about once a month for work and I need someone to watch the kids at 4am for about 2 hours while I go to the gym. My kids pretty much stay asleep, especially the two younger ones. So their work is minimal. And my 3yo knows I go to the gym, I just don't want him to freak out when he can't find me. We tried hiring someone to be there all night, but I was basically paying them to do nothing.  Do you think a person would be willing to do this? I would pay quite well.",1.0631339712918688,2.9553143245614035,2.3219936204146734,96.8738038277512,81.19298245614036,5.548963317384371,20.012759170653904,6.574015621080383,-0.08018245614035148,419,11,100,4,11,134,80,114,0.043,0.867,0.09,0.726,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,2,3,7,4,0,0,6,0,13,1,1,0,1,15,22,6,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,1,4,0,0,3,3,2,3,2,1,1,2,1,1,16,3,13,16,2,11,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,0,5,62,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827329938899523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154887511340047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21334160082453565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18484073825998815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315168941146123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14981552470552895,0.0,0.13797665375573898,0.2783453797254827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613806265260173,0.0,0.1800974125927599,0.0,0.0,0.19988793711320274,0.12718628191509576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388712239169076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095223010450585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996356255534218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180649590869403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005678326145496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026670803917998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274318753404422,0.0,0.18334972168444866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070675803282598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875940727905892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273286870293977,0.0,0.0,0.266664801800848,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,askinneone,2019/02/28,"Ideas for documenting a grandparent who is dying Documenting might not be the right word but I’m not thinking super straight right now. 

My mother will likely not be around much longer. Not sure if it will be days, weeks, or months, but it is inevitable at this point. My husband and I have 4 month old twins. We see my parents as often as possible. I have already begun getting more pictures of my mom with them. 

Does anyone have ideas on how to make her remembered to them since they are so young? I want to ask her to write/video/record as long as she is able to. What special things have you gotten or done for family in this situation?",3.81072,5.539772832000004,4.200199999999999,87.21310000000004,72.68,7.240000000000001,24.5,7.908726449838941,1.1866799999999995,504,15,102,7,10,158,91,125,0.071,0.8859999999999999,0.043,-0.5579,2,0,0,1,0,0,14.0,1,1,3,1,5,4,0,0,2,0,15,0,0,2,1,24,23,12,1,2,9,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,15,4,17,15,2,17,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,5,10,72,22,0,0.16901871307768904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18651635279777845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181818140647425,0.0,0.0,0.15046248868722745,0.15800968087850614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109003087365846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17541473956124304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479094148112936,0.17296482552225842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933580040939552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830530159296984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38160310807249387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257400574479308,0.0,0.0,0.1495762423650312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128213034311737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793021447696801,0.0,0.1979526739896689,0.2698182484920589,0.0,0.1242482016544806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735670736720446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18767527885663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977731553446925,0.19054320346679612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914652536880332,0.288682114931576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13468603139636715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981402604905244,0.1899841151057972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929813682141514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228852270285564,0.1083003666636686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996916160970763,0.0,0.13557661657931194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AshTulett,2019/02/28,"How to help your child deal with the 'Momo challenge' I've seen this become a hot button issue and Channel Mum in the UK have released a guide on how you can help you child deal with it if they become affected by it:

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T\_3g3xmPjII](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_3g3xmPjII)

​",13.360567375886529,15.963410446808515,7.341276595744683,70.33333333333334,50.91489361702129,7.9687943262411345,28.43262411347518,7.793537801064563,1.7189347517730496,269,6,36,2,3,67,37,47,0.033,0.8220000000000001,0.145,0.6662,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,3,1,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,3,0,7,3,4,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,6,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,11,2,0,1,0,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696648693373124,0.3024203589160526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5497439345280575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131753512566503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33364235777105244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597694240757745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024203589160526,0.0
parenting,superdooperme86,2019/02/28,"My boy make me feel beautiful! I don’t know if this is the right place to share how I feel but I want to and I wanna keep it anonymous so here it is..... 
My son is 11 months. Just started to walk. He is a very happy boy. I feel so blessed I am so happy to have him in my life. 
Before becoming mother, I was a daughter, wife sister etc... a very average looking person. But now my son makes me feel so beautiful.... there can be x number of people in a room but his eyes always look for me. He would be busy playing but all of a sudden he will come and hug me cuddle with me and goes back to play. Never in my life I felt so wanted, beautiful and loved. 

I love him so much!!! 
Motherhood is a blessing ( with lots of work)

I just told him how he makes me feel.....   but I don’t think he understands but I am sure he senses how happy I am. 
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parenting,ParaKissPop,2019/02/28,"How to tackle a 3 year old's destructive phase I get this is fairly common among toddlers, but I need some advice tackling this in a calm and creative manner.  

I am the quiet type and my toddler is off the charts hyper and destructive everyday so we clash. Our child has nice toys that are thrown about, stomped on, and plain broken. Her dad and I have tried to play with her, but she doesn't respond well or doesn't want to be ""creative"" or ""imaginative"". It makes her more destructive, and when told she has nice toys she abandons them or throws them at me or the animals.  

She is also mean toward the animals and destroys things around the house. She gets immediate time outs anytime she even remotely teases the animals, but she goes back every time to try do it again.  

My SO hasn't responded well and has a short temper. I have told him giving her a reaction is exactly what she wants, but he still gets mad at her.  

I understand she is 3, but I feel like my attempts are hopeless and she'll always be like this.  

Anyone have any advice? I've exhausted all options in my seemingly uncreative mind.",4.863802816901406,6.076667680751179,5.348938967136154,82.0050985915493,69.37558685446011,8.872488262910796,28.284507042253523,9.21078282632365,2.3065639436619723,868,30,167,17,15,278,129,213,0.198,0.6940000000000001,0.108,-0.9733,0,0,0,0,0,1,24.0,2,0,2,1,13,18,7,0,10,0,21,1,0,2,2,38,35,23,0,3,9,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,8,13,0,1,5,3,0,1,3,10,2,0,2,2,32,8,16,30,3,22,0,2,0,0,29,11,0,7,12,118,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33393754412891336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664188306335992,0.1421746207678125,0.0,0.0,0.11619508329753392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947383379346865,0.0,0.0,0.15210741608452255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138579610356693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285571568926472,0.0,0.14396240066169289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863952393644899,0.12206706598026733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678120912872684,0.16391072201698415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715700687205795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695348799790533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405471951136535,0.0,0.0,0.1861237161952025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725264624281801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669534910871166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929565513809248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555504497055009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645421235646402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351611417104995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19926726736476466,0.0,0.0,0.32654053748710543,0.0,0.2320142831148573,0.0,0.0,0.177878058608675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20156298439723613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30725901815487805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100324277432937
parenting,degrootes14,2019/02/28,"18 y/o here. I lied to my mom, and need advice to regain her trust from other parents. Long story short, she bought me this low-cut lacy camisole she specifically asked to never wear by itself because it was revealing, and I said I wouldn't, but I went to a club night (she knew I attended the event) the other day and did. Some pictures from the night were posted online and she found out and is understandable very upset. Trust me, there is no one more disappointed in myself than me right now. My parents are conservative, but sometimes I just want to feel like a teen and feel a little grown up- I've never even had a boyfriend, nor did I even talk to any guys that night because I dressed up for myself and just to have a good time with my gal pals. She brought up how upset and angry she is over the phone and I feel so awful and scared, and I'm going home today night and would love some advice on how to handle the situation. Thanks! ",3.7114285714285735,4.966963820105821,4.3469576719576715,87.94202380952383,72.17460317460316,6.881481481481483,22.494708994709,7.1686216300943375,0.5837343915343913,738,17,155,7,14,235,120,189,0.147,0.733,0.119,-0.7868,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,3,10,1,12,2,1,2,2,36,29,18,0,4,4,3,3,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,6,14,0,1,7,1,1,5,5,4,0,1,11,4,24,6,21,16,3,28,0,1,0,1,17,10,0,2,13,105,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648383638517529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215171007024428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668391937134954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521174841601333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739298917830686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790066652878377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2055543700324917,0.09680864761321367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485801450356062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701367582123322,0.11365968344416133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417658813161767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592796709268715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620353023803678,0.13581700772002195,0.0,0.11992242831128108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230341502729598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15870812757562827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047923498121172,0.2090279289480692,0.0,0.0,0.5086692742336438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182534532843596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009364965802295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978149230125194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572513015851928,0.12890140968880734,0.0,0.1356695374550594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231935275159422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402323782344486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891811610055477,0.0,0.12475975803760975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790171964577324,0.0,0.12844800214746632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107109199096748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181026114489816,0.07992753725863325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256194864527244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626269100565432,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CleanupKrew,2019/02/28,"What's an appropriate age for grandchildren to stop being naked around grandparents? Hello everyone,

I'm the father (separated from mom) of a 4 year old daughter. 

TL;DR: Daughter was naked in front of grandparents in her home and they felt weird. Who's the victim, grandparents or child?

Mom and I have always been pretty open about kiddo having freedom at home to be naked at certain times and she's very conservative about when she chooses to be. She knows it's not ok to be naked in public or if guests are over.
She loves to dance and be silly and do her little nightly 'get-all-my-energy-out-before-bed' routine. Usually this happens at my house after her bath and before bed, which is also around the same time she likes to facetime with her mom or my parents ect. Usually after bath she is naked to dry off or let any lotion or such get into her skin. During a recent sleepover she asked me to send a silly dance video to grandma and grandpa (my parents) to show how much fun she was having. My mom responded and said how inappropriate my dad felt and that I should have her clothed if I want to send that kind of stuff because he feels its taboo.
I respect that he wishes to not see it and I will be hesitant to send any future things like this, but It made me wonder what about emergencies or potty time or bath time where she is naked? I know there are workarounds but I feel it's more understandable to ask them to change their ways for her than it is to ask a child to change because he feels disrespected in a sense. Just wondering what everyone's thoughts are and encourage healthy discussion. I would appreciate other people's insights on this as well.
TIA",5.669175880878669,6.5049198421052665,5.8618222025652384,80.43138286893709,67.29721362229103,8.876839156715318,28.693645879404393,8.976282227363876,2.179976971841368,1331,43,253,22,21,423,178,323,0.035,0.838,0.127,0.9795,5,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,3,0,14,14,1,0,9,1,25,2,1,3,1,55,48,27,0,6,14,11,6,2,1,3,0,1,6,2,20,16,0,3,13,7,0,6,2,2,1,0,8,8,34,12,44,30,3,39,0,0,1,1,50,16,0,11,18,168,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791496549157605,0.08235448692062816,0.0,0.0,0.1346117389445425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621609455770512,0.2775826298267583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066754231362292,0.0,0.0842197788089747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094032208548448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18914823389931573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501330315879743,0.0,0.19006156152605702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341989894770612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08752258355295234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19855844245967416,0.0,0.0,0.11420297136063118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306642860396144,0.10878729536397552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120785453287877,0.0,0.0967076175017976,0.0991981785986408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932810559419263,0.09365180827229236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636696816869173,0.0,0.0,0.0727574461993774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288060891660954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385680374073053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219798336274302,0.0,0.0,0.06861626814805656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006923724434928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772511048006338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414715634352668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788696460201479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274688694778423,0.0,0.0,0.11330181246008972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575407966128878,0.0,0.0,0.07857448204207179,0.2308506746882925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303566256792374,0.0,0.0,0.2180122598312385,0.08166410407948635,0.058377564408397614,0.07856113585382375,0.0,0.0,0.08898971790895631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381547845309965,0.0,0.2146666580877197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030845234382936,0.0,0.0,0.06373615827137519
parenting,BizarroCranke,2019/02/28,"United front with four year old. Last night I was a bit over the top before my four year old son and I went to bed. As we were going to bed, my son wanted me to slice up some cheese as a snack for bedtime. I was tired and there were other more convenient choices but I was tired enough to “die on this hill” to disagree with my son. 

Like most toddlers, he had two bites of the dinner that I made  him and the rest of the night consisted of various snacks since he didn’t eat his supper. Again, typical toddler behavior. I understand that it takes only a few moments to slice up some cheese, but we had other easier snacks that he could’ve chose from. He had a meltdown and my stubborn self wasn’t going to cave in to his meltdown and slice that darn cheese. My wife, who was already in bed, told me to just do it. 

Again, I realize I was being over the top and ridiculous and should’ve chosen a different battle and sliced that darn cheese. My wife thought I was being silly and told me just to do it.  What got me upset was that I feel like things have to go through her checks and balances before she will take my side over things, and not just with our parenting decisions. I feel like if a choice I make doesn’t lead to physical or emotional harm, she should side with me even if she may not agree with me. There’s plenty of times she makes a decision that I may not agree with that I go along with just so we can have a united front with our son, but I really don’t like to be second guessed in front of him and fear it will lead to him showing me less respect in the future. 

I can accept if I’m way off base here, but am I an asshole who is completely in the wrong?


TL/DR
Instead of siding with me, even with a seemingly silly situations, my wife and I don’t establish a united front with our son and I feel disrespected. ",6.34018896976484,5.019379662234044,6.532681970884662,83.47368421052634,66.20744680851064,10.043449048152297,29.62989921612543,8.99025400887824,1.999863829787233,1427,37,315,20,19,459,175,376,0.128,0.77,0.102,-0.9448,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,6,0,0,4,13,15,3,2,18,0,33,8,0,5,0,68,55,25,1,5,15,9,3,4,0,5,2,0,3,1,20,29,6,1,10,1,1,11,8,7,0,4,20,3,51,8,49,27,10,41,0,0,0,0,34,17,2,11,16,222,71,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303835004691714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517133882768185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316177152141767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640238846321303,0.0,0.0,0.09625546310799936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511979338583454,0.12595707105449874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336055967725873,0.0,0.1356111147679368,0.0,0.12456826588576755,0.0,0.15925436417963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566085840035882,0.18287269052932306,0.17225279961438056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740627329451726,0.0,0.09642095528604028,0.0,0.13280782870595248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827056459256356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355934869252446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407455088692316,0.16094631739769594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262703506473754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530099196553433,0.0,0.0,0.09168951530956068,0.0,0.0,0.13386498861443807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723230917868013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975114470015933,0.12576790780953614,0.0,0.0,0.09972652295613717,0.13551183491241792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812886785574063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018627391658544,0.0,0.0,0.09570929718795217,0.07029812750770277,0.2771265374772726,0.0,0.23039597666266165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776729342840335,0.12550475158577262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110801771598704,0.09569304058321026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175813711423574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181085036864515,0.0,0.1552703309032862
parenting,nightstalker30,2019/02/28,"Would you allow your daughter to come over? So I'm pretty sure we've decided not to do this, but I'm interested in other parents' opinions.

Our soon to be 16-year old daughter wants to have her 6 girlfriends over this Saturday for a sleepover.  They're all 15-16 year-old HS Sophomores who hang together a lot, and many of them are with our daughter in Honors and AP classes, and most are in sports...pretty good girls.  She wants to have a sleepover that starts around 6-7pm, and they typically all hang out in the basement, eat pizza, watch movies and just be teenage girls.  None have gotten into any trouble that we know of, and they're not particularly boy crazy as far as we've heard.

Trouble is, my wife and I are going out to dinner with friends that night and will probably be out until around 10-11pm.  While we absolutely trust our daughter to make good decisions (that's who she is) and to make sure nothing crazy happens, we're not sure other parents would be OK with their daughter being here without an adult in the house for a few hours.  We know a few of the parents, but not all of them (we're working on that).  And most of the parents know our daughter since the girls spend so much time together outside of school.  Also, our 17-year old son would be home, and would probably spend the entire evening in his room.

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So...given the background, would you let your 15-16 year old daughter go to a sleepover at a good friend's house where the first few hours are unsupervised?  We're thinking that there would be some discomfort with that and are looking for other options.  

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TLDR: 15-yr old daughter with good character wants friends over but we won't be home...would you let your daughter go?

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parenting,RedPandaLily88,2019/02/28,"Having kids in your 30s I'm sure that this has been asked many times before but I'll throw it out there anyway (most because I need some validation/cheering up right now).  Sorry if it's long; tldr at the end.

A little background on me: 27F, married almost 2 years ago.  I have always planned to have kids when I was 32-34 years old.  Like since I was 10 years old this has never wavered.  I spent a good majority of my early early adulthood in school and now I am almost 1 year out from being in an educational program and I am loving the life I have. My husband and I have moved 3 times since we got married and finally we're settling into something more stable for the next few years.  We are just enjoying because by ourselves for the first time (we waited until marriage to live together). 

Now I am certain this is the story of everyone's life but ever since we passed the 1 year mark, the pressure to have kids seems to have increased significantly.  My mom makes comments about hoping one day I'll give her grandchildren, old classmates telling me they guarentee I'll be pregnant any day now.  I give them the regular reasons but it just feels like somehow people are seeing me as this silly or naive person to want to wait.  Example, I told someone that I felt too immature 1 year out of education to go into raising kids.  And the response I get is ""you'll never be ready so may as well now.  If John Doe (a coworker) can have kids of all people then you can"".  Another frustrating thing I get ALOT from female family members is ""well what are you waiting for?  You're not getting any younger.  It's going to be SO hard on you to have kids after 30.  You're going to be SO old when your kids are 20.  You want to wait until you're 30?  Oh you're one of THOSE women.""  A family member passed recently and my extended family is currently all gathered together.  I would not be exagerrating if I said that every mother in the room asked me when I would be having kids and why it's not now.  The looks of disapproval they gave me.  I'm actually hiding right now and am on the verge of tears at how much questioning I have received.

Now my husband and I have discussed this topic many time and he agrees with my pre-existing decision to wait.  It's not about if we want kids but when.  And honestly people are making me feel as if I am this terrible, selfish child for wanting the rest of my 20s for myself.

Anyway, I guess I'm not looking to be swayed either way on when the best time to have kids is.  But if anyone out there is willing to share their experience, it certainly would ease my mind.

TL;DR- I want to have kids in my early 30s and everyone around me is questioning this decision.  Any advice?",4.092899592619219,5.341962728971964,5.265420560747664,81.74530074287084,71.24299065420561,8.178768272226215,27.36280853103283,8.617729084823388,1.966117661155044,2120,73,413,36,39,703,253,535,0.067,0.815,0.118,0.9799,2,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,5,7,4,3,31,19,1,1,20,0,52,3,0,4,8,89,93,39,0,16,20,4,4,2,0,6,2,1,1,14,20,25,0,5,9,0,1,9,7,4,2,3,9,8,57,15,60,70,13,83,0,0,3,1,53,24,0,19,51,281,77,2,0.0,0.0,0.07368285651699959,0.0,0.0,0.07378348156787952,0.06693141547736982,0.0,0.15121648351474953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282694890271183,0.0,0.0,0.15403978266281174,0.07917450885747249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279547369577153,0.0,0.0,0.06721625003433346,0.14117562869577202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205537911322803,0.0,0.0642499508852357,0.0,0.07923877292418872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973901048536752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06607571292439889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687580696178498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829940005089752,0.06361696863644159,0.1442982267339448,0.0,0.07385924859629077,0.2135406989446081,0.0,0.07635609308717381,0.05394142270701555,0.07249749504162245,0.08271301149605621,0.0,0.06422527122869945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834613297342356,0.14486425919272186,0.12873521149552292,0.06333075794946083,0.06038895760814481,0.0,0.08317825014242175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676384463262803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499438537433514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666408577577917,0.07377672754059209,0.07567673761437538,0.06667308396004888,0.06682033637569006,0.12681186145109075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814701342443358,0.0,0.10080153540984096,0.15310224212822815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623942431358928,0.08843158547984313,0.0,0.08025081141335277,0.05550551676760082,0.05598666050014415,0.11646959389422172,0.0,0.08030137031920066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31692291923846405,0.0,0.1023294899721906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703883057352575,0.06592883051077382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691677536554431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763263012646203,0.07455295700597607,0.0,0.0,0.128963234537594,0.07182339180415424,0.0,0.0,0.07641599146973592,0.06016841833109201,0.06873772620361962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18737775671294646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397589533893201,0.058128122795056573,0.0,0.08452266178997074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116340749121637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599547567729437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016275806570373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22014045750743771,0.0,0.0,0.0721491133669724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267665025258526,0.059933060754591115,0.0,0.0,0.13577772551290862,0.0,0.06813232128780858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091165307453625,0.0,0.0,0.3403632219797708
parenting,Armando_Munoz,2019/02/28,"What are some positive YouTube channels that a kid/preteen would like? Preferably animated ones and or ones related to gaming

I'm looking for things to suggest to my little brother to combat to momo thing and bring more positivity into his online experiences ",12.218666666666666,10.846163866666672,11.802777777777779,50.51750000000001,54.77777777777778,13.444444444444445,49.16666666666667,12.161744961471696,6.461,214,12,28,5,2,71,39,45,0.043,0.763,0.195,0.8204,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,7,4,2,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,1,23,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694038222114536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449554836871448,0.3784939145542224,0.0,0.0,0.3171220071424797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511796497244276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5017737091647039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26826421341399104,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,esbrk,2019/02/28,"Getting ready for daycare? Hi all, my 5 month old little guy starts day care in two weeks because I am going back to work. We have him in for 4 days before my actual first day of work.  Since he was born, he has spent his days with me. He is generally a happy and easy-going little guy. He loves to be around other babies and likes to play. 

Any suggestions for how to ease the transition to daycare for him (and for me hahaha)? Any critical gear we should get or consider? He’s formula fed and we’ve started solids a little. 

Thank you!!",0.822457264957265,3.2316360462963014,2.837037037037039,89.519358974359,86.68518518518519,6.286039886039887,18.492877492877493,7.61054688173877,0.6645091168091168,415,11,86,8,13,139,77,108,0.02,0.777,0.204,0.9664,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,3,3,6,0,0,3,0,7,2,0,1,1,13,17,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,8,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,11,6,15,12,1,19,0,0,0,1,16,6,0,1,13,47,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.1538667649477633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21444701569186253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403630021091373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212413257046456,0.0,0.09611641058544207,0.0,0.13416868669421206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607588230385085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067459129601254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341171498905272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475597794354715,0.0,0.17921916950575192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122434611208873,0.0,0.16784656207523016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703139462626869,0.4740913429097935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230665031356698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258536254205582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654520014088123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042929572968068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232044815465046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451647385013815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402427244568873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647631369722978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295766308193929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Feartuirseach,2019/02/28,"Advice needed for 5yr old boy behaviour I'll try give a clear picture to get the best advice for our situation. Sorry for formatting I'm on mobile. 



**back story**



Our son is a clever and caring little boy. We've had some issues at home but nothing too out of the ordinary in my opinion. He can be very loving and caring but also He can get very shouty and not listen to us if we ask him to do something. These are simple things he could have done no issue in the past like putting his dish to the sink after dinner, changing out of uniform when home or even bed time. 




I admit i can get very impatient with him when this drags out and I raise my voice in anger which I'm trying to work on, I do this less now because he retreats to a corner saying he's scared. I've been working to stop shouting and communicate better and ask him to talk and tell me what's wrong. 




Previously we'd ground him in his room or take away tv privileges during the week and video games at the weekend as punishment.



**now**



It came as a surprise when the school wanted to meet with My wife and I to talk about our sons behaviour. They're adding a behaviour diary in his school bag to highlight any particular behaviour good or bad and we can right feedback also .




On the first day this week the teacher wrote he had called a girl in his class ""stupid"". When I got home we talked to him and asked him did anything happen at school today. He admitted he called a class mate stupid. 




I thanked him for his honesty but explained to him why the behaviour is unacceptable and he still must be punished.




This time the punishment was. 




* he must write a card for the class mate saying he's sorry and apologise to her and the teacher for his behaviour. 

* he is not aloud to buy any treats at the upcoming cake sale at school this Friday.



Also he got a stern warning that further misbehaving at home or at school will result in his Nintendo ds being sold. I told him he's responsible for his behaviour and it's up to him to behave. And that ""I'm gonna be good""  after the fact,  isn't acceptable anymore. He really didn't like this idea so I figured it was good incentive. 




The teacher was very happy with the card idea.  And noted his behaviour at school was much better that day. To encourage more of this good behaviour we rewarded him with a trip to McDonald's.



We thought things were going well. 




Then this morning my wife told me there was more bad behaviour, shouting  and refusal too get ready for school or eat breakfast. And he was commenting to another child how Chinese people ""have funny faces"".




I'm furious with this because



*  he's a mixed race kid and he knows better.  I've talked to him before about this and he knows it's never ok to make fun of people, especially for how they look.

* one of his close friends whilst not Chinese is Asian and has features our son would think are ""funny"" based on his comment.



I'm writing this at work now and he's still at school, we'll be bringing this up as soon as im home so in the mean time I'm wondering if there's any advice for us on how to put a stop to the behaviour. 

Obviously the ds will be sold and money put away for another time. 


Thanks for reading



**tl;dr**

How can wife and I improve our normally well behaved son's brattyness, shouting and insulting other kids. 


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parenting,cadelaide,2019/02/28,"Are kids born racist? We were reading a Disney fairies story book to my 4 y/o son and he said “I like all of them except fit the black one, cause she’s black. I’m like WTF? Who taught him to be racist, We told him he can’t just judge someone because of their skin colour but he had made up his mind. 

The worst part I’m coloured and my missus is European but the boys are very fair. Yes... he doesn’t understand but dang it still kind of stung a bit. ",0.7595074455899216,2.4274735876288682,1.7514776632302436,101.70174112256588,81.16494845360825,5.135853379152349,17.994272623138606,5.82211442006289,-0.7046050400916379,346,7,88,2,9,108,74,97,0.136,0.779,0.085,-0.7985,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,5,1,8,1,1,2,1,14,15,5,0,0,5,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,6,6,11,3,7,8,4,4,0,0,4,0,18,2,1,0,4,44,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620924860364319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902980767967526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731564451051604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768978851975249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25981432685162115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516046010982582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684870333492614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018329384131587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28794789897600714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659757533839691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25293540139103354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22529942349461102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123511149998116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25408247217345736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27681522927910285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21939847943165472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shyamakumar,2019/02/28,"Brain Training Hi, Parents. Now there's a safe, novel and non-medicated way to increase our kids brain efficiency. 

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parenting,jesmonster2,2019/02/28,"Janet Lansbury Does anyone else feel like she's full of shit and subtly condescending? 

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I am currently listening to one of her podcasts. A mother wrote in about her kids acting like little turds (my words) in the morning and not getting ready even though the mother is saying the right things like ""I hear you are upset. It's hard to stop playing."" and the kids just start whining and crying. Dad comes by and says: ""Lose the tude kids. Time to get ready"" and the kids laugh and get ready. J.L. response is this: Your husband is calm and confident, and you are not. You're not useing the right tone.

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WTF? Excuse me, lady, but you weren't even there. Do you know the mom was overwhelmed and not sounding confident? NOPE. You just assumed.

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It seems like this is her response to the many people saying that her methods are not turning their children into cooperative angels. I read her book, and her advice boils down to say things this way with these words and with confidence and your kids will be good. If your kids are misbehaving, it's your fault because you are not controlling your emotions. 

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To me, that is a load of shit. Kids don't listen. Kids misbehave. It's because they are kids and they don't understand adult priorities. It's not because we use the wrong tone of voice or show frustration. I agree with her about setting boundaries and being clear and understanding, but she always just blames problems on the parents using the wrong tone or not setting clear boundaris, even when parents say they are doing that. She just basically says ""Well, you didn't do it right."" 

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I do not believe that there is some magical tone of voice that will make kids behave and listen. The only thing that will make that happen is consistency and time. She is so unnecessarily critical of parents having emotions. And she doesn't seem to have any real expertise other than her own parenting experience. How do we know she wasn't just lucky with very obedient, cooperative children. Children have different personalities, like adults. Some cooperate and learn to get along with rules easily. Some will fight every rule to the very end. And sure, parenting has an effect, but J.L. just repeats herself like a parot and then says that if her advice isn't working, then obviously the parent didn't do it right. It just sounds like bullshit to me.",5.702399024125782,7.785158193548392,5.293765248034699,79.8442613174302,68.44700460829493,7.870859311466522,28.663323393873682,8.4952907291091,2.164927026294389,1912,69,331,30,34,585,207,434,0.135,0.746,0.119,-0.8309,8,0,1,0,1,0,82.0,2,12,4,4,19,26,4,2,19,0,41,3,2,8,4,86,66,35,0,3,23,11,2,7,0,4,0,15,0,16,24,32,1,2,10,4,0,2,18,12,1,1,6,17,43,14,31,54,5,26,1,3,0,0,75,11,2,11,17,222,67,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482631615451945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04888754870620805,0.3182965081601345,0.3569591562893104,0.03995433758467334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04108175451534541,0.06019981779552355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744661109602598,0.0,0.0,0.06619498019267044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05061086545565236,0.0,0.0,0.06589695188930535,0.0,0.0,0.06453786857028303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061384814637835315,0.0,0.0,0.05141551022780197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04908093995033557,0.13217936989433815,0.05203808759158305,0.0,0.0,0.11641823134966925,0.0,0.04950228694968675,0.0,0.0,0.05747211469311441,0.0,0.0,0.029707492445601176,0.04197345209226856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227849394986804,0.0,0.0,0.04927957775969129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195545168609842,0.0,0.0526315203418312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621936984086013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457868174017918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20092765897539547,0.05888635785542681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573004390330865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843672274520477,0.05956674205732713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881129066139366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03981283519627486,0.04468462035827341,0.0,0.0,0.391432292469128,0.0,0.0,0.040732220872911735,0.05130121658032116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621908423946271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05876931545610864,0.06687425010778146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20070038478327654,0.0,0.32706152185537835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697380650895816,0.0,0.0,0.12061907432134455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0415859702097008,0.0,0.0,0.049120486535793435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05537439921225279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709947662613475,0.0,0.057724932860876974,0.0,0.0685191786427003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390684508260598,0.0,0.12232875610336855,0.0,0.15223226173250873,0.0,0.0969554426240916,0.0,0.046635726832593816,0.0,0.0,0.05282637693825648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042773186559471495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284752741453294,0.3569591562893104,0.0
parenting,NotJozefRaczka,2019/02/28,"Market Research: Parents Web Safety Magazine Survey Hi everyone, I'm a Masters Student studying Magazine Journalism and I'm looking for people to fill in a survey about a magazine brand 'm hoping to create based around explaining complicated aspects of online youth culture but from a non-judgemental or fear-mongering perspective. If any of you had 10 minutes and were willing to fill it in, I would be incredibly grateful.

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[https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/WebSafetyMag](https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/WebSafetyMag)",13.060632911392405,15.521691518987346,11.93149367088608,37.66129113924053,51.531645569620245,13.408607594936711,48.711392405063286,12.688352899677879,7.60182329113924,446,26,45,14,5,143,63,79,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.8312,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,10,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,11,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,3,1,28,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31990926668666725,0.3587678123950817,0.20078389975980995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26284003864117605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821293323506613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3322445813595977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932553830300414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479403012436639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32784634879469154,0.0,0.0,0.20469302326459812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097410724853152,0.0,0.3587678123950817,0.0
parenting,firefam21,2019/02/28,"14 year old stepson pushed my 9 year old daughter and called her a stupid little c*nt My husband left for work early this morning and I was dropping the kids off at school. I’m not sure what’s wrong with my stepson today but he was in a very bad mood. My daughter was in his way and he asked her to move and she didn’t move right away so he pushed her out the way and said ‘move you stupid little c*nt’. I said what did you just call her, and he said ‘nothing’, I said yes you did apologise to her and don’t use that language around her or push her. He just rolled his eyes and was like sorry. 

I try to leave the disciplining to his father but he wasn’t around. I just needed to rant her because it made me really angry ",1.382189849624062,3.1753439671052632,2.385075187969925,97.30052631578948,79.72368421052632,5.132330827067669,18.75187969924812,5.773587663045528,-0.4720541353383463,561,12,131,3,14,177,86,152,0.14800000000000002,0.778,0.073,-0.9049,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,1,9,7,2,0,5,1,9,1,1,2,1,24,18,12,0,1,7,4,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,5,12,0,1,0,0,0,6,4,4,0,0,13,5,25,2,15,5,0,27,0,0,1,0,33,12,0,1,7,75,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277087090929721,0.11956528424779213,0.0,0.12016228996372352,0.0,0.10678762927483516,0.07796407688702582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611917701942236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542315822120768,0.13895913292258025,0.0,0.0,0.062483415025351235,0.2563703304146676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101807397009845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077989026745173,0.0,0.0948330960325994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227194447450587,0.0,0.26841020134604765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193330793238701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092222923846905,0.4866326765342852,0.0,0.0,0.12943735155371708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316884827303775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054025363066888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212302395129095,0.0,0.0,0.08683283540537265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104608850603211,0.0,0.10552740807159634,0.0,0.2030354250564068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09310964687323883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983395170923146,0.0,0.16472137075728424
parenting,6westt,2019/02/28,"25 months old growing out of love for milk So I’m on a 9 weeks holiday with my husband and my son of 25months old. While my son is a very good child; I’ve seen many other toddlers for comparison,he refuses to drink his milk for afternoon nap bedtime. He will put up a fight to nap too. I’ve been doing all his routines as per usual which his father used to do all the time. 
I’m unsure if me doing what his father used to is making him not like milk anymore. 
Anybody else face this situation too ? Is he just growing out of milk and nap time or is there something I should be doing differently ? 
Please advise or share what you did differently. 
Thank you ",2.8180109364319925,4.475762421052632,4.296883116883119,85.7912987012987,75.1654135338346,6.941626794258375,24.87286397812713,7.686295010490155,1.2166751879699254,514,17,106,7,11,171,87,133,0.048,0.8029999999999999,0.149,0.9208,2,0,2,0,1,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,5,6,1,0,4,0,13,7,1,3,2,17,21,8,0,2,5,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,5,5,1,0,5,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,1,12,5,16,15,2,16,0,0,1,1,20,4,0,3,10,64,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057881158615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015488814047353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18825127607858308,0.0,0.0,0.16053153089756758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118122570093282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388347588296657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734389340543435,0.0,0.12827349265944218,0.1948279780851644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338649734021073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032955409781913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21094252754696166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19318170699416606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21600464853077056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794015393402246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692228334009788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22410916853847648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319425429728584,0.21164567245880775,0.15855855296420712,0.0,0.0,0.15414541050917427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Slaughtermane,2019/02/28,"My separated wife just died. After a brief coma, my wife died, leaving me the sole carer of our 3 year old. We had a tough time and were going through a huge custody thing, so we weren't on the best of terms at the end.

But my question is: how do I bring this up to my 3 year old? I've had a look online and most information seems rather conflicted. I feel out of my depth because I don't handle death well myself.",3.030606060606061,3.5631578181818213,4.477727272727275,89.08242424242425,73.0909090909091,7.2303030303030305,23.75757575757576,7.1686216300943375,0.6662439393939392,320,8,74,3,6,107,63,88,0.157,0.7809999999999999,0.062,-0.8144,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,1,0,15,12,5,3,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,4,2,13,2,10,8,3,17,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,3,8,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093877357518328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24263254538990486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799029618027484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047766095982605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690282760621876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139759275992627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24480984827194455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415169868258733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4852158340513264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25899948442275034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21047788674182508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360053196311266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481591795832235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078786302001921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29777339645533685
parenting,justintevya,2019/02/28,"How'd you find out there's no tooth fair? my story: 8 years old ish, I dismantled one of those old birthday cards that plays music, and tied my tooth at one end of some string and tied the other end of the string to the trigger of the tiny music player. (when you open a musical card it removes a small plastic barrier separating the battery from the music player. so i tied the end of the string to the little plastic piece) so when my father pulled the tooth out from under my pillow, the music player was engaged and immediately woke me up. CAUGHT RED HANDED! my dad was totally startled and just plopped the money down with a look of defeat on his face. he left my room sort of laughing to himself in a bummed sort of way.",5.279166666666665,5.706065805555558,5.809722222222224,81.90750000000001,68.02777777777777,8.066666666666668,27.805555555555557,7.793537801064563,1.5942972222222218,572,17,112,6,9,185,89,144,0.06,0.871,0.07,0.3624,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,1,16,0,2,5,5,1,1,16,5,8,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,8,0,1,1,1,1,3,1,2,0,2,4,3,13,3,22,1,3,25,0,1,2,0,7,13,0,3,8,73,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6250443921475496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150002622894072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555831994964769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23576697668319416,0.0,0.0,0.1975379100922844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936785124856594,0.0,0.31880225333198964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186718362642472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148344005229128
parenting,A_N2305,2019/02/28,"Why are my parents so strict on screen time? I get amazing grades, I am at the top of my class, well behaved, stay on top of all of my assignments and homework, yet they STILL forbid screen time between Monday-Thursday. I don't understand. All of my friends are of a similar intelligence, and they also do well at school, yet they get 2-5 hours everyday at least. I love my parents but this rule makes me look like an outcast whenever they ask me to get online. It's honestly embarrasing. My parents also CONSTANTLY ask about my assignments, and how much I score. It's a lot of unnecessary pressure on me. Anyone got any tips?",3.8103305785123993,5.710714537190086,4.927347107438017,81.28738429752069,73.0495867768595,8.476363636363638,30.28181818181818,9.120678840339163,2.7250621487603315,493,22,94,11,10,162,77,121,0.036000000000000004,0.782,0.182,0.9344,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,4,2,10,9,0,1,4,0,5,1,0,2,2,11,15,8,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,3,19,7,15,14,5,17,0,0,3,1,11,8,0,1,9,64,22,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264049218629129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226872853850277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543668658739027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086788632192318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840660813285442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127550246014585,0.0,0.2587624374696514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13203975047029334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258309938998378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065597652956294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138636326953399,0.0,0.0,0.14035594886050146,0.1490026488989163,0.0,0.1102006899084371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136216411078148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499478710076036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670826728137321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596690092683065,0.1318432801993456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253381564432184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186737087452186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968764109571323,0.0,0.14897052471378913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curlymay,2019/02/28,"I don’t know what to request on the parenting plan... please help I’m starting the process of creating a parenting plan  and don’t know what to ask for. Here are some things that I’d like to address:

- dad lives out of a van. He’s been staying at my house on his visitation days. I want him to have access to our kid, but not at my house.
- dad recently got back together with an ex who he said choked/raped him. This is the same woman he wouldn’t introduce to our kid bc she talked so badly about me/our kid that he was uncomfortable. I have no record of this. I don’t feel comfortable with this woman around our child, but fear the court will think I’m just a jealous ex.
- dad is constantly late or leaving visitations early. This has had a negative impact on my reputation at the office. 
- our kid has a chronic illness/disability that requires daily care. Dad has not been willing to learn how to do the necessary procedures, so our kid can only spend a 10 hours max alone with him. 
- dad is very loving when he is with our child, it’s important to all of us that their relationship can continue.
- ME!! I am not innocent in this...  I’ve rage texted dad on three different occasions and have said things I’m not proud of. I’m working on it but think I need some boundaries for myself set in place.
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parenting,dirksmith1987,2019/02/28,2 year old won't sleep My 2 year old just won't go to bed at night. Climbs out of bed and runs a muck through the house. We've tried not letting him take nap during the day and waking him up early but nothing seems to help much. Suggestions? My older two children were never like this...,1.154,3.1919117333333347,2.0766666666666684,97.985,81.66666666666666,4.666666666666667,18.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.5791666666666666,224,5,51,1,6,70,49,60,0.096,0.904,0.0,-0.6759,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,2,2,0,1,8,7,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,4,1,7,3,1,15,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,10,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822018983249928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942901510409408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644422667838279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830825966764315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25087072537496474,0.0,0.11985784237763407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034878210503053,0.0,0.18921677190249428,0.0,0.0,0.2302294208263114,0.0,0.2354046727272545,0.0,0.5148737083661468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233429382775871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455112638782608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18446070087054564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656574060488774,0.0,0.2396557541076854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159742162691341
parenting,bcbisou,2019/02/28,"Totally overwhelmed. Need a babysitter but I really struggle with trust!! My husband and I live in Australia, very far from our families (England and America). We have an amazing 15mo old daughter and I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant with #2. We don’t have any real support here, and it’s starting to really affect me. Our daughter goes to daycare one day a week (I’m a SAHM) for her benefit, and because that’s all we can afford right now. My parents are coming here a month before our due date so we will have a lot of support when they’re here, but that’s temporary. We have friends but none with children or who have any interest in watching our daughter to let us have some relief. Totally understandable and we don’t hold that against anyone. 

My mom suggested finding a babysitter for two evenings a month, so that my husband and I can go out and have some nice alone time together. This would be amazing and such a relief but I struggle with trusting other people with our daughter outside of her daycare. I’ve heard so many horror stories about abusive nannies and babysitters who mistreat kids etc. I don’t know how to begin to feel okay with letting a stranger in our house watch our daughter. I also have no clue where to even begin finding a qualified babysitter. 

Is it normal to have this much anxiety around this subject? How can I move forward? Any other ideas/advice for some support? ",4.516136363636363,6.633867431818185,4.868030303030307,81.53454545454545,71.65151515151516,7.072727272727272,33.59090909090909,7.84624498591911,2.6653772727272727,1118,57,191,15,22,353,151,264,0.085,0.7190000000000001,0.196,0.9881,3,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,14,0,0,0,17,17,0,3,11,1,22,0,0,3,3,50,37,22,0,3,5,9,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,13,25,0,1,5,0,0,4,5,3,0,2,1,4,28,14,26,31,10,27,0,1,2,0,32,9,0,5,16,143,41,1,0.0,0.14455604670307753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922193343819475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263604482490544,0.0,0.09756740308996596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24890287534838434,0.0,0.09333353761482606,0.0,0.0,0.08530877531178192,0.0,0.0,0.10861037073976973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437315268979433,0.0,0.10381732069392502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509655686390712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868317102739128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606789343945688,0.16116638408086545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501551320579376,0.0,0.061689424612368975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230208306347162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426080737325444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933828769406973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077745951859882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705079074028078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495168816488109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773270397509332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103724339800311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369398225981935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428908527203684,0.1947665511634296,0.12967207149044313,0.08968775781380751,0.09046520670665642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953905551492615,0.0,0.0,0.1280237879115455,0.0,0.08267378675405287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547218175873876,0.0,0.0,0.08458294733004018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13886846956494134,0.15631913220919344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419165534951326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635581003281291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25509235949773873,0.0,0.0,0.4153496917132434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711421321257659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191812164308258,0.12701157109409664,0.14675706612680742,0.0,0.0,0.10066695261254534,0.0,0.0,0.19573020117900886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666889473823994,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Keppclam,2019/02/28,"“Parenting” 13 y/o male teenager Lately, I have had to step in as my siblings care taker and I am having so difficulty with my 13
 y/o brother.
If I do something like take his phone or ps4, he argues with me or rips it out of my hands no matter what, or he destroys my room scouring for it. 

He did it again when he came home from school today and no matter what reasonable/ logical explanation I tell him as to why I take those things (ex: Not catching up on his homework, not doing chores, bad attitude, etc) He either says really hurtful shit or tries to manipulate me into caving in.
I literally cannot handle this kid, and I just need someone with authority/ who he respects (which is obviously not me) to talk to him because he needs to understand that this is not okay but I don’t know who I can go to for help.",7.03740909090909,5.428814157575758,8.115568181818187,73.61335227272731,65.0,11.15909090909091,34.56439393939394,10.125756701596842,3.232166666666666,636,23,129,12,8,219,110,165,0.093,0.828,0.079,-0.3403,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,4,9,3,0,0,1,12,2,2,2,1,31,21,13,0,3,12,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,13,9,0,0,4,0,0,4,8,5,0,0,3,2,20,4,22,18,2,15,0,1,0,0,24,7,1,5,5,88,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473861626198708,0.12027323980998292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256604981807088,0.20116215698351975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004346711429232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213106076901333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224712084472204,0.0,0.1979096176847631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112154711253692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843181366522048,0.0,0.22256482777442166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639160828365252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925933110855584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908010639551972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639647369463114,0.2028589318782776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569021719563228,0.0,0.19967977875692594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20252728359962846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717302728596448,0.15189243083850068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966925362467485,0.1585835731781876,0.1724503173844087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107843318847587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18701887140004408,0.0,0.0,0.1339548527102373,0.0,0.0,0.20539795069006409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803402899422496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,crankyexpat,2019/02/28,"Car seat drama How to get the two year old in her seat when she doesn't want to be?

Every once in a while I hit the sweet spot of Janet Lansburys advice to just say matter of factly ""I'm putting your seatbelt on."" And she complains but let me do it.

But others it's a looooong protracted disagreement with lots of climbing around the car and physically resisting the seat. 

I need scripts... and advice.

Humble thanks.",3.4864550264550265,5.524628333333336,3.782116402116405,88.55666666666669,74.30864197530866,6.603880070546737,25.151675485008816,7.447530270364453,1.1525823633156969,329,11,65,4,7,102,61,81,0.076,0.8390000000000001,0.085,0.1874,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,1,1,14,10,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,2,7,2,11,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,4,42,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5158151470038755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349520458763667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223708839149736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789158648124286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26988445681924605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243823096935152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956994092883104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769482387895535,0.2810749095637419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653207292529277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20988629066046224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429896182577239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578194921878041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567168510298424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16996110167741454
parenting,throwaway00996674,2019/03/01,"How to keep a friendship with someone who’s kid is out of control? Okay look... I have plenty of friends with little kids that are around our home often. Hell, I even keep drawers full of juice boxes, fruit snacks, and coloring books at the ready. We had our daughter first (in our group of friends) so she’s 13 and we understand completely that kids can get nuts. No biggie. However, I had one very awesome friend that moved waaaay up north years ago and we stayed close because she’s awesome. While away, she had a baby but just decided to move back to town a couple weeks ago. Needless to say I was THRILLED! I got along so well with her years ago and couldn’t wait to see her and meet her kid (now 6 years old) so we arranged to have her and her daughter spend last Sunday at our house. Yay! 

Nope. Her 6 year old is a bit wild and that’s putting it mildly. I had the older kids (her other daughter is my girls age) set up with Mario kart and got a bunch of bbq and s’mores stuff so we could all hang out in the yard or the living room. I couldn’t even cook as I was on edge the entire time trying to gently tell her kid to please not rip pages out of my books, stop hitting our poor dog, eat the tips off my markers (ya can’t make this shit up) and breaking everything in sight. At one point I put out snacks and drinks on the coffee table and this short human looked me in the eye and laughed as she swept her hand across the table and knocked everything to the ground. My friend kinda laughed and just said “kids, right?” NOOOOO.  It was all insane behavior. I was in shock and disbelief. 

So the dilemma. I would like to maintain my friendship but she’s been asking about coming over again with her kids and I’ve just said no each time. I do understand I need to let her know what the problem is but is there a kind and gentle way to go about it? I really don’t want to upset anyone but if this kid is gonna cause that kind of damage (and scare or hurt my poor dog) when she’s in my home, I’m VERY not okay with it. I should add going to her home to visit isn’t an option due to her family staying with her Ill father and we’ve suggested meeting at a park but each time she’s suggested coming back here afterwards. ",2.1227844638949662,3.880882829321667,2.8346777899343567,95.08851559080964,77.38074398249452,5.882910284463898,20.615371991247265,6.6274283507984215,0.08609150984682712,1731,42,388,15,40,541,235,457,0.122,0.732,0.146,0.9024,1,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,10,1,0,2,23,22,2,2,20,3,29,10,3,4,2,82,54,38,0,9,13,4,1,1,4,3,1,3,5,11,16,44,6,5,4,5,3,10,10,8,1,3,13,11,55,14,59,33,8,76,1,2,6,0,63,34,2,6,28,242,71,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373683352745389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062412015901228426,0.0,0.0,0.07945949476914642,0.08344517973074017,0.0,0.08386183285526194,0.1372694277106165,0.0,0.05441149953607249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744778463943747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169365064074636,0.0,0.15377756752882688,0.09358643484146237,0.0,0.1001116349016096,0.07126610292584172,0.0987634612905321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743990560858543,0.0,0.0913343103765956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790954552138863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604405901808981,0.0,0.08414550569801174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592371786044493,0.0,0.0,0.2758453388712376,0.0,0.046634179131520126,0.0,0.10145597093171628,0.0,0.14277726171060032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686023696007137,0.0,0.0,0.1029929806153937,0.09555367866789144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867512214457874,0.0,0.18589916806604165,0.049054449587138636,0.07275805387769409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127344477854536,0.0,0.04360747210013968,0.08946103559100695,0.07881739257188984,0.0,0.14991027372832802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958112116883145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18973652729695287,0.0,0.06618446811419619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873247542862652,0.0,0.12096850938607008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797965294983296,0.08437867058234529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854088736204101,0.0,0.17946003423449866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05718164473379207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07622675658726796,0.1698116280646254,0.07098239367375561,0.0893638986945026,0.0,0.07112792098942075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162315087739524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07562891887659197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027658092769464,0.0,0.07462457781842967,0.0,0.0,0.10218027810801524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801635990833662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561430415072683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060104822662937,0.0,0.0,0.1858436758889908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472961585539178,0.05264731108003951,0.07084969371388396,0.07159824053087661,0.0,0.08025462194520466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340708112120637,0.0,0.0,0.2299196539331489
parenting,bardoyle,2019/03/01,"Co-sleeping/side nursing My LO is 7 months today! We have co slept, breastfed,  and cuddled together in a shared bed pretty much since day 1 (not quite because he was in the hospital a cpl extra days due to jaundice) with him sleeping through the night 99% of the time.  11/10 would recommend shared bed and getting every snuggle possible like this. So sad one day he’ll want to be independent and sleep on his own. 

Right now his only want and need is a boob. So happy I’m able to give that to him. Also, pretty terrified that parenting is going to get way more complicated after this stage!",4.115175438596491,5.846960868421058,4.979824561403512,81.92043859649127,71.89473684210526,7.873684210526315,28.456140350877188,8.515128840125781,2.153129824561403,465,18,87,8,9,151,87,114,0.059,0.753,0.187,0.9183,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,6,0,7,5,4,1,0,12,17,7,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,6,4,12,12,4,17,0,1,0,2,11,4,1,0,11,49,10,0,0.1802573119779075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415170726355955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988318429385174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34875316173119203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518745597755036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883540113245408,0.17291923887344876,0.10244438442842947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188726047157886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806461748388203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387966666569602,0.0,0.1325098649759042,0.1336585127995118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915927632607056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214701969213125,0.1370938084647668,0.0,0.0,0.20015441293681208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321303509627808,0.0,0.3667729799099206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172583959961256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539387595199134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911071119578967,0.0,0.3607749833056896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510948820522163,0.0,0.17086285482079028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21264086582096425,0.14307986396082348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804962259416616,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmers1989,2019/03/01,"Posted in r/rants as well. Just trying to stay awake, need some love. Maybe it's the pure exhaustion speaking here so hang in there with me. New baby, just over a week old. Having some stomach issues with reflux and being unable to lay down because when she does the acid comes right up her throat. Obviously not a great feeling to have to endure...

Now this is not my first rodeo as there are several other children in the picture but I can't remember ever feeling this tired before. I am writing this as ahe lays upright on my chest fast asleep, my wife asleep beside me, and my eyes are on fire. My whole body is crying for some relief and I just want to sleep. I don't fault my wife at all she's been amazing and tends to the baby as much as she can at night. That being said, obviously the birth took quite a toll on her body so I am more than happy to step up where I can.

But anyways, my eyes feel like a fucking forest in British Columbia when it gets dry out... My ass is numb from sitting the way I am and I know it's going to be on repeat for a while.

I love my family more than anything in the world and I wouldn't trade this baby girl for all the sleep around. Any of them are worth a million degrees of suffering. The idea of rest just seems like such a far away dream and I'm only writing this so that I don't drift off with her on my chest... Lord help me. ",2.0837878787878767,3.6321556013986007,3.2505069930069936,92.98293997669,76.90209790209789,5.885547785547786,20.657925407925404,6.42735559955562,0.07127785547785592,1066,25,238,8,24,344,165,286,0.098,0.76,0.142,0.9388,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,2,19,14,1,0,16,0,21,19,13,0,6,42,38,20,0,3,8,2,4,2,0,1,3,2,0,2,11,13,0,0,7,1,2,6,6,5,1,2,3,9,31,9,45,31,10,47,1,1,2,4,18,24,2,4,15,166,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391868290352354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365172993428425,0.12294606426621313,0.0,0.0,0.12975771267688635,0.0,0.0,0.08418980938928079,0.0,0.117520370246813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068153637669878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896845528045236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517059718654136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085989390198733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492726719673085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019663391161887,0.0,0.2094957943135212,0.0986649153941226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117475228385477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767930977753136,0.07215611930535759,0.0,0.07849038279567097,0.0,0.0,0.1522653795012717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701932772653925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257138091389636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590796303653784,0.0,0.1441496485431466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590095468145203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494591383665958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492970699124477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874879795080516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152581895230822,0.10240588483269196,0.0,0.13338628703220348,0.0,0.1296057019264722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492189603044425,0.0,0.0,0.1050379243855339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322700014236975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14689565100084526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645028598197042,0.1179441140597615,0.13137304357295235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572901491866725,0.0,0.15602357134484734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764169720063932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472055467698196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587356863567548,0.0,0.0,0.15344389795125365,0.09376677251117001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814601163812482,0.10962429375993203,0.1107825050641396,0.0,0.12417634841502985,0.0,0.0,0.15419348222419074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,carpediem1331,2019/03/01,"New Nanny to an Interracial Queer Family So help there, I just found you subreddit while I was researching for my new role. Here's a little background.

I am a white female in her mid 20's. I have been looking after children for almost 10yrs now as either a nanny or casual babysitter. I've cared for the ages of 6months to 12yrs old but the one thing that I haven't done is work for a queer family. Here in my country (Australia) it's finally been made legal for everyone to marry no matter who they love and everyone also has the same legal rights for adoption and such.

The family I will be working for consist of two dads and their 1yr old son. The dads have actually been together for just over 10yrs themselves but only recently tied the knot due to the change in laws. The dads are from England and Brazil but met here in Australia ten years ago. I don't know if they adopted, used a donnor and surrogate or what as I didn't think it my place to ask honestly.

My question is, what differences can I expect? Like I said I've never worked for a family like this and although I doubt I will have trouble or such I thought it best to look around and even ask people about it. So do any of you have some tips, advice or even just a story or two to tell this nanny (not only about the difference but about helping raise a 1yr old in general)?

Thank you in advance! ",5.1978733031674205,5.574637824175824,5.887593191122607,81.4539754363284,68.1941391941392,9.20741219564749,28.51303598362422,9.168548406835145,2.1967752208575733,1078,34,215,19,17,352,155,273,0.035,0.825,0.14,0.9802,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,3,3,5,19,10,0,1,18,0,22,3,0,2,1,39,37,24,0,2,15,4,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,11,8,0,0,5,1,0,1,6,2,0,4,11,4,24,8,34,23,4,28,0,0,3,3,23,12,2,10,17,154,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.10669485003946744,0.0,0.0,0.10684055794523208,0.09691857339488036,0.0,0.1094828620574684,0.0,0.0,0.08743488285067325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435131358101384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973310218500279,0.2044262837373544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473997336825828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147396594994363,0.0,0.1156615660768424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284628842902348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188731064517002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444290148686584,0.0,0.0,0.2089478935821019,0.0,0.0,0.4122839228952628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977076860271305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987980415158875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656942704417686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06008746617982268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683077792362787,0.1095820459862201,0.0,0.0,0.18362714449905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867879343521402,0.1034550926817887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432562499687196,0.2111921791902899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34418498013595106,0.0,0.07408799077081879,0.16630786149141485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579888217530409,0.0,0.11423144214511738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247983425844015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795478003647016,0.0,0.0,0.0933711966393344,0.10400229280066194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556330622235998,0.100660659309251,0.0,0.0,0.0726370855091855,0.07005723118151752,0.0,0.0867995020283136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21360813891953767,0.0,0.0,0.09443003616510648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387907896109703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040793213490049
parenting,BBonks,2019/03/01,"I have really been struggling with the foster care system lately and her case but here’s my 2 year tribute to my little K. This month marks 2 years with you,  Little K. 

Two years ago I was at work and saw they were looking for a placement for a 2year old girl.  It had only been a couple of months since the last little girl who stole my heart moved home.  I still had clothes and toys and toddler bed perfectly ready for another. 

I vividly remember anxiously driving to get you. I had done this before but doubt and fear crept in as I wondered if I could connect with you.  Understandably you would be scared, confused.  I took a few deep breaths before getting out of my car to meet you.  The worker got you out of your carseat and you immediately grabbed my hand. Your tiny little hands were warm and squishy. You looked up at me with the biggest blue eyes and you clung to me. You were mine. 

We have put in two years of hard work. You challenge me always and at times it has been incredibly difficult but we have grown an amazing and unique love.  A type of love that is real and messy and forever- a love that makes us family.  Over these two years you have hit so many milestones and changed so much.  You are bright, loving, strong willed, and have a smile that lights rooms.

Happy 2 years K!  I love you now and always.",3.903185328185324,5.4565700810810815,3.811851351351351,90.79885810810812,72.12741312741312,6.724401544401545,24.533011583011586,7.1686216300943375,0.7999311196911196,1037,30,217,10,20,315,155,259,0.08800000000000001,0.6890000000000001,0.224,0.994,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,16,1,6,5,19,0,5,12,0,23,10,5,1,1,37,40,22,0,3,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,9,23,0,0,3,1,0,6,0,6,0,3,14,13,39,13,26,21,2,38,0,0,7,5,30,16,0,4,15,138,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469852230377396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590090302128335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019157456220744,0.0,0.1079432991013771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162610512843837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974186872606215,0.0,0.10107829068155008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762881906870952,0.1057232745796401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777991507961896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007519873553063,0.10751931475109706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984093430290636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641935310040615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017138059953356,0.08559323620902744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322615726210927,0.0,0.0,0.09584354950360084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788527870001971,0.1077835596779108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830612457837656,0.0,0.0,0.16047437812113607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4311840183939129,0.0,0.0637797739243373,0.09687180210644124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525327785277933,0.10155358424607044,0.07023959102602086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026271950266784,0.0,0.0,0.07266940495725267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605324797007878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087558073299192,0.06121120754691161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823851722328574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566132935938074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903921246841424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630564392604153,0.0,0.0,0.09988867734981678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571545534237499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061585786626102,0.0,0.0,0.2800127945264383,0.0994699948653225,0.11493381656753493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361893564601987,0.13912178241553952,0.0,0.0,0.0678753474217641,0.0,0.0,0.3691829709044492
parenting,andray_b,2019/03/01,"Leaving 18m old for a week with grandparents? My husband and I have been planning our belated honeymoon out of the country. Last week we decided to go without our daughter, who will be 18 months old at the time. We'll leave her with my parents, who I obviously trust 100% and they have a great relationship.
But I still feel guilty about leaving her- anyone have experience with this? Will she be traumatized? ",4.263966165413535,6.7728843815789475,4.791654135338348,80.04657894736842,73.60526315789474,8.553383458646618,31.90977443609023,9.23628265651192,3.1691300751879705,327,16,59,8,7,104,57,76,0.085,0.8140000000000001,0.101,0.5007,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,1,12,11,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,13,2,10,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,8,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373860248089268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219883542462468,0.0,0.0,0.09934810093414663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166625799667672,0.0,0.0,0.2166240569320891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016050196022213,0.0,0.6241438470005101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683147561486854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123533420299663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21817198120595968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109500436605935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691219749836618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457126999501717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31521486713127983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940334873693945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nemo_688,2019/03/01,"Help with getting my toddler to stay in bed The title is pretty self explanatory. We had sleep trained my toddler, but she regressed and now will not stay in bed. Bedtime has become anywhere between an hour and a half and three hour ordeal. We have tried almost everything we can think of and she won’t stay in bed. Any people with success stories appreciated. ",3.6719829424307022,6.4703300149253735,4.1697228144989325,82.2155223880597,77.2089552238806,5.619616204690832,28.974413646055442,6.868970318607317,1.7168353944562909,289,13,49,3,7,91,51,67,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.181,0.9253,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,7,1,1,0,0,13,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,9,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,7,1,8,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,3,34,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097303648192652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243076796761442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313171482354507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823696373503784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942712534397477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038754023981484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41252512620606896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520379640033884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21308233662320106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849832552889134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209597709342856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.669726142679905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420482784067825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14220039086716674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentingqthrowaway,2019/03/01,"Need advice/validation/to vent about my neighbors behaviour around my kid. There is about two years worth of setup to get to today.  Sorry in advance for the novella and the throwaway account.  

My wife and I have lived in a townhome community for the past several years.  There are multiple buildings on the property, each with a dozen or so units.   Our unit is directly across from another building, and behind the front door almost directly across from ours lives a man I'll call Jack.

The first few years that we lived here, I do not recall ever meeting Jack.  Two years ago, our first child was born - a boy.  I used to take my son with me to the mailbox, which was a short walk down the sidewalk to the main road into the community.  During one of these walks, when my son was about 6 months old, we met Jack.  He was walking back from the mailbox, and as we passed each other, he introduced himself by saying ""and who is this little guy?""  Odd, but assuming that perhaps I had met this neighbor before and just did not remember, I introduced my son to him.  Not once did he ask my name.  Not once did he ask what I did for a living.  He just wanted to know about Adam.  It was not a ""normal"" adult conversation.  I didn't think it was strange at the time, but fast forward a bit and you will see why it might have been.

Anyway, a few weeks later, my wife tells me that she bumped into one of our neighbors, and that he knew our son's name.  She was kind of rattled by the experience, because he just came out with ""hi there Adam!"" without introducing himself to my wife.  I told her that it was probably the same guy from a few weeks prior.  She told me she had a similar experience where all he wanted to do was ask about Adam, and again, not once did he ask her what her name was or anything about her individually.  Again, I shrugged it off as him perhaps being a little socially awkward.  Maybe he was trying to be friendly and he was just breaking the ice by talking about our kid the way you might mention something about someone's dog. 

A month or two later, the community pool in our townhome community opened for the summer.  My wife was home during the week with our son while I was at work, so she decided to start taking him to the pool.  That is when she noticed that Jack would also go to the pool every day.  Now, over the course of the two years of sporadic contact with him, I have pieced together that he lives alone, has at least one adult child that rarely visits him, and is retired.  His car is also almost always parked in front of his unit, so I assume that he rarely goes out or has much of a social life.  So Jack being at the pool on a weekday during the summertime was not that unexpected or strange.  What is strange is what my wife reported to me a few weeks later.

According to her, Jack is *super* friendly with the other kids who live in our community.  He calls them his ""friends"" and buys pool toys for them to play with.  Once, my wife had a friend over at the very end of the summer - before the pool closed, but while the kids were in school.  She said they lounged at the pool for hours that day, and noticed that Jack briefly came and went early in the afternoon.  He then returned later in the day after the kids had gotten home from school and headed to the pool (which was my wife's cue to leave, since it was crowded with the kids there).  

She mentioned to me another disturbing observation that she made.  When Jack goes to the pool, he never actually gets in the water.  He just sits in a chair under an umbrella with his sunglasses on.  She said he is frequently on his phone (not talking, just holding it like he was texting or surfing the internet).  She said that the angle that he holds his phone at is very awkward and unnatural high, and makes it look like he is actually angling it to take pictures of the kids in the pool.  Most people will look down at their phone while they surf it - she said he is frequently looking almost directly ahead of himself.

All of these things up to this point did not make me feel like I needed to do or say anything.  That changed when my sister-in-law came to visit.  Once again, my wife headed to the pool for the afternoon, this time with my SIL.  That night, my SIL told me that she ""met"" Jack.  I asked if she actually meant she talked to him.  She said no.  She said that while she was in the pool, she noticed a man watching her and my wife and our son.  She discretely mentioned something to my wife, who told her that she already knew that the guy was a little weird.  My SIL said that she had an instant child predator vibe from the guy.  She works in the prison system and says she's been around hundreds over the years and you can ""always tell.""

The key thing to remember is that my SIL said all of this to my wife without any advance warning about Jack whatsoever.  She noticed him and came to her conclusions all by herself.

That sealed the deal for me.  I decided I needed to do something.  But confronting him directly was quickly out of the question.  I asked around for advice.  Several people actually said I should just go to the police and file an anonymous complaint or see if he had any outstanding complaints against him.  I decided to do that.

I drove to the town police station the next day.  I didn't get past the vestibule.  I had to pick up a phone in the lobby and explain to whoever was on the other side of a one-way mirror why I wanted to come in and speak to an officer.  In front of a lobby full of other people, I had to explain why I was creeped out by my neighbor.  It was humiliating, but these are the sacrifices we make for our children, amirite?  The officer on the other side of the wall told me that without evidence of an actual crime being committed, there was nothing the could do.  I asked if I could just file a complaint to be on record as having come in.  She said they did not do that.  She then opened up a little bit and became a human again.  She said that she was a mom, and if she were me, she would also be freaked out and probably would have done the same thing I was doing.  She said I was doing the right thing, it was just that unfortunately there was nothing they could do.  She asked if I had gone to my property management.  I told her no, and she encouraged me to do that.

I went back home and drove directly up to the rental office.  The office manager was out at the time, but her assistant was there.  I asked if we could speak privately, and behind closed doors I explained to her that I was a little uncomfortable with my neighbors behavior.  She listened as I explained most of what I laid out above.  Then she asked what unit number he lived in.  When I told her, her face got this very defensive look on it, and she emphatically said ""Oh that's Jack!  He stops by pretty often and I talk to him all the time.  Trust me, you have *nothing* to worry about.  He's a great guy!  But I'll tell my boss that you came in and ask her to reach out to you.""  I thanked her and left.  A day later, her boss e-mailed me.  Here is exactly what she said:

> Stacy mentioned you shared some concerns about your neighbor in unit 121. Thank you for bringing this to our attention.
> Unfortunately there is not much I can do or say to the neighbor. I’m sure you understand.
> Feel free to contact me or stop in if you would like to discuss further.

So with that, I felt like *I* was now the troublemaker, or the bad guy, or some kind of jerk.  I threw my hands up and said forget it.  The pool closed for the summer.  Jack retreated into his house for the winter.  

Until today.

I mentioned that my house sits almost perfectly across the lot from Jack's.  Well, it is a two story unit, and my sons bedroom is at the front of the house. He has a big bay window that is directly above our front door.  My son can now climb up to the ledge of the window and look out.  He *loves* to look out that window, because he can see all the neighbors coming and going.  Today, Adam woke up from his afternoon nap, and I went up to get him.  He was standing at the window as usual, looking outside.  He invited me to come over and look out the window with him, so I did.  As we were looking out the window, I noticed that Jack's blinds looked like they were slightly opened.  Not completely raised or parallel to the ground, but slanted a bit so you could see out but people could not easily see in.  His car was in its spot.  I thought I might have noticed a shadow on the window, but I did not want to stare at his house, so I kept looking left and right and down at the mailboxes.  We saw someone walk down to the mailbox and craned our necks to watch them.  After several seconds, we lost sight of them around the corner, and we quickly turned to look back at the other side of the parking lot.  That's when I noticed, without any possibility for being mistaken, someone shut the blinds completely in Jack's house.  

So now here I sit.  All the emotion from last summer is coming back.  I am at a loss as to what to do.  I do *not* think that confronting him is the right thing to do.  If anything, I fear it will make things worse with our situation.  I also do not think that today's events warrant another visit to the property manager.  I just feel so powerless and confused.  I keep trying to convince myself that there is an innocent explanation for all of this it's nothing to be concerned about, but because of everything that's transpired over the past two years, that's impossible for me to do.  I've checked the sex offender registry lists to make sure he's not on there - he is not.  I've run his name through Google to see if he was ever in the news - he was not.  I don't have any friends in the neighborhood that I am close enough to feel comfortable talking with.  So help me out, Reddit.  

Am I blowing this out of proportion?  Is there probably nothing to worry about?  If not, what are the next steps I should take?  What kinds of things can I do to protect my son?  I'm at a loss right now, and feeling pretty anxious and hopeless about the whole situation.",3.801040658457428,5.178989552804445,4.484526114809531,86.56723268819248,72.11773623041941,7.5360968016522465,26.369297082453013,8.037592640312297,1.4633855828480928,7811,259,1607,110,149,2498,559,1979,0.069,0.87,0.061,-0.8798,2,1,3,0,0,1,250.0,24,12,10,14,84,47,5,5,143,0,156,11,5,10,16,286,287,118,0,30,68,21,7,6,13,12,3,22,26,23,104,113,1,8,29,16,5,42,30,17,1,13,114,54,242,31,277,147,33,278,1,4,25,2,311,131,0,41,106,1143,346,10,0.0,0.0,0.13005220733562525,0.0,0.0,0.026045962646945687,0.023627146759494903,0.0,0.10676045091757347,0.02760548684485433,0.029413331837806856,0.08526071883436233,0.04435649632055241,0.0,0.0,0.07250248682808767,0.08384707212798702,0.0,0.030111412811019624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580186815184258,0.09491077951106908,0.27409662575457056,0.0,0.0,0.08198106736585857,0.022254961562483508,0.04874405994845362,0.0,0.04536115090436325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729773479519143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054433391260604376,0.1524252730518224,0.0,0.0,0.02819637867549264,0.11480022657990945,0.055892385851879514,0.0,0.0,0.12768621423516974,0.0,0.0,0.08594806653530243,0.027479084983214514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027276277565165576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029982142127871838,0.023607516656807995,0.02754068837794595,0.0,0.0,0.048220105224985835,0.02245712934123736,0.0,0.02395488028763204,0.05214541762442211,0.0,0.029993139903826894,0.06738527059696975,0.019041610006672014,0.025592002542114464,0.0,0.0,0.04534372680350428,0.0,0.0,0.10296400155209152,0.0,0.055702421794783734,0.0,0.04544421649274318,0.0,0.02131762422599557,0.029386109159465625,0.0,0.15834979578080938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054709350240041664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017865602236623403,0.028161395299651188,0.0802083512844801,0.0,0.026248803151692774,0.15377558249607487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02369128380363764,0.0,0.08326806162152743,0.014648331399313097,0.021726552721304474,0.0,0.028222718318116274,0.057919258680964536,0.0,0.018826495679325515,0.07813073531783635,0.13357146066178627,0.16475168048931765,0.0,0.2685915819930061,0.0,0.029095969856430932,0.04532052453953071,0.02405625932033006,0.025220642155457988,0.08895869950322488,0.0,0.026777507373519197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482698815785393,0.0,0.031216821479197826,0.04254990814342841,0.0,0.039187487109789865,0.059290769578517685,0.020557194019660132,0.0,0.056693624301485016,0.02501295643812891,0.026115243101698164,0.12787607255245045,0.2124201455112124,0.02796887033872197,0.1419281042445978,0.07224571182764469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763327250998799,0.07391406004563313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0251966282391583,0.030048359776174968,0.0,0.054233363776549096,0.0862125018309129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029858559796502763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06038753125568376,0.09104941968630943,0.3803106075416609,0.08478526492914039,0.0,0.053950505374810616,0.1274386361073796,0.0,0.0,0.09033423843305888,0.0,0.02204844927575451,0.0599203848638141,0.0,0.0543407558970093,0.06775149714654287,0.061558612424554376,0.0,0.029836950561579062,0.018865825587599527,0.0,0.0,0.04456784473654714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0502421250382551,0.0,0.08016190908810891,0.1071173051468754,0.06989026504978013,0.04907881094611373,0.0,0.0,0.12395404859712005,0.051236386113902944,0.0,0.021160284362815168,0.06216860480399303,0.0,0.1010594331531342,0.1782831536658122,0.0,0.03619260821559255,0.028991878441276382,0.1562224041426437,0.02774773517795434,0.0,0.023020482502224267,0.02935559543452586,0.06597697953508147,0.06288483646020508,0.042313380408732816,0.0855208661991788,0.0,0.023965130757234457,0.07412552481348908,0.07215321875314555,0.029758218940900805,0.0,0.10277394967073128,0.0,0.03880883256481568,0.054136824902005394,0.0271626846860186,0.07573689605275521,0.0,0.0,0.12015003328249653
parenting,motherparent,2019/03/01,I found my son stealing my daughters underwear and wearing them my 20 year old son was sleeping in his room and i tried to wake him up to not be late for his job and so i pulled the blanket over him to get the point across and my son was sleeping with just a t shirt and my daughters thong underwear. luckily he didnt wake up when i pulled the blanket off him so he doesnt know i saw it. What does this mean. he actually has a girlfriend too which makes me wonder what can this mean. my daughter is 23 by the way. ,1.9963812436289528,3.441531614678901,3.098470948012232,94.4192864424057,76.88990825688073,6.312334352701327,24.955147808358817,6.937597516519254,0.7059410805300712,402,14,94,4,9,129,69,109,0.036000000000000004,0.933,0.032,-0.1027,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,8,6,6,1,0,14,16,8,0,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,5,1,18,0,12,10,0,15,0,0,1,0,16,8,0,1,4,61,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.2202739929594097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197532530788068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24749463658175155,0.0,0.0,0.1179314361287776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22399616907107212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240519678067593,0.0,0.25462642297244226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067247491987673,0.0,0.0,0.4917590623265948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368592919063302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213382072671398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517738868567679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325173041258056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791691477059779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447879715106951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453588091799438
parenting,gabtinha,2019/03/01,"Am I being over protective? My daughter is 7 years old and she is now friends with a lovely girl that lives i the same house complex that we live.  They play super well together and I can hear they having lots of fun. I just noticed that this girl (her brother and other kids in the complex) are just free to roam and they don’t have any one looking after them.  They go inside each other houses and the parents don’t really know where the kids are.  I don’t let my daughter do the same, she can play in the front yard but we agreed that I need to be able to see her all the time.

This week, my daughter invited her friend in for the first time. I made sure to go over and introduce myself to her parents so they knew where their daughter was. The thing is, I got the impression that if I had gone over or not it would not have done the slightest difference. 

Am I being over protective with my kid? ",3.14784543325527,4.459051907103831,3.8226112412177997,90.93799180327869,73.64480874316939,6.97720530835285,24.00039032006245,7.447530270364453,0.8578652615144415,701,20,152,8,14,222,104,183,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.9743,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,7,2,7,11,0,0,12,0,24,1,0,1,2,30,36,10,0,3,7,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,5,11,11,0,2,4,3,1,4,5,0,1,2,7,3,30,12,17,24,5,21,0,0,2,1,31,9,0,3,8,119,41,0,0.1637612439740845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113632615147146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17109564514887265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675846092749862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929523046688602,0.0,0.0,0.2530430617340961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18613857765964112,0.0,0.1309748266804148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845708237634796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779169770812043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899988969616388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674569671272361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892083573483763,0.0,0.13751820061501827,0.0,0.0,0.13922395346926392,0.14780091635245046,0.15495484862950787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142688739559575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644326166671213,0.17183987794446762,0.0,0.1109688570911453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636749631931956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490964623610556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304965092076138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434303441085898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879569384355467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098099658865528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135939199004806,0.0,0.14724102526747074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633128917956312,0.0,0.0,0.10545687199602377
parenting,bklaur,2019/03/01,"Who's responsible? I'm going through a separation and I could use some perspective on a situation.

I have my kids Tuesday from 9am until Wednesday at 4pm every week. In the summer I'd like to register them for a camp on these days. The camp starts at 9am (I could also pay for an earlier start.) The question is, who should be the one to drop them off at camp and why?

Some further background. Their mom chooses to go into work for around 7am leaving (previously) her parents and now her boyfriend to look after them in the mornings.

Last summer I wanted to register my son for camp during the same period, but she said I HAD to drop him off, as she would not have her parents do it. I really wanted him to go so I did drive him the Tuesday morning but I was absolutely not happy about it. 

Now, to me it makes no sense for me to drop him (now them) off at camp the Tuesday. I don't get custody until 9am which is when camp starts and they're her responsibility until then. She says now that she'll have her boyfriend watch them until 9am and it's my time, and the I have to take them. So I have to drive to her house to get them only to drive them to camp. 

Who's right? ",1.888606271777004,3.4719245853658585,3.7525551684088256,89.02304878048783,77.53658536585365,6.636933797909408,22.68989547038328,7.447530270364453,0.7393602787456444,912,27,204,12,21,308,122,246,0.069,0.917,0.015,-0.9082,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,9,1,10,2,0,0,13,0,18,0,0,2,0,25,34,18,0,6,4,4,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,10,8,0,0,2,0,1,6,4,0,0,1,4,4,39,2,42,24,3,49,0,0,2,0,34,15,0,3,26,145,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308934833992966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570839552128598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613676198809984,0.0,0.0,0.1055589675906526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790603348459762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103032022661396,0.0,0.2790664624183101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423860195530574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886279102357206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334196664926009,0.0,0.17331169439620198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996495335026721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137448554893109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925654126158264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19169805556081654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091265721267833,0.12448472850633785,0.0,0.0,0.36349078098866816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833571639780872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048565150286386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397803803106379,0.15569555241975608,0.13016355971695934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839812755200488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34755704555977696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306571724857993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544213738893882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136550502711825,0.0,0.0,0.19308341308410212,0.0,0.13129286538016086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476942140169452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191597572837136,0.0,0.0,0.1162723735118238,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SpiritualFan1,2019/03/01,"15 yr old Teenager skipping school for possibly first time Okay so advice needed. 15 year old put up a fight about going to school on a sports day it was a requirement for her year group so we told her to go anyway. Morning of the sports day she texted friends to organize to sign into school and leave to go to Macdonalds instead of going to school like she had been told to do. The mistake she made was texting her friends from her mothers phone and not deleting the messages. When I asked about her day she lied to me and said she enjoyed the sports day. Its the first time she has done something like this, shes a pretty easy teen but has been more moody and disrespectful than usual (as all teens are a little moody from time to time). Not sure what to do shes in that age, where you can't really discipline in the same way now shes approaching young adulthood. How would you address this situation and the changes in behavior?  ",5.292377049180328,6.0997538251366175,4.994658469945357,86.41526639344265,68.1256830601093,8.285792349726776,28.91120218579235,8.344100000000001,1.80583825136612,742,25,151,10,12,227,110,183,0.086,0.8340000000000001,0.08,-0.4537,0,0,1,0,1,0,12.0,1,2,0,3,10,11,1,0,12,1,16,0,0,2,2,21,26,11,0,3,3,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,6,7,0,2,0,3,0,6,3,4,0,2,10,1,19,7,27,15,3,34,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,0,21,98,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194784151527345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430363555861747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293428345444269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315409767395452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251221334733133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800139695495415,0.0,0.0,0.1889271806149994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779498196071947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946366013260038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194674782809706,0.12254418579823532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569249310206345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065982417890486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256598410047608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378382689348425,0.0,0.12439003388465004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12291263807369113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832771049669031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630441992303606,0.0,0.0,0.4949650712662253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743382642280536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412751797253656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523569995943635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851807197500068,0.0,0.0,0.2336637289697517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466041036472476,0.0,0.0,0.09705027415415968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685534521827053,0.0,0.0,0.1574725611218058
parenting,Vjaa,2019/03/01,"Liquid tylenol suppository? The glue my daughter has, the doctor said we could use the liquid tylenol we have as a suppository since she won't take the meds. Just take the right dosage and squit it in.

That doesn't sound right. Anyone else ever get advice like that?",3.634599999999999,6.288633260000001,3.649999999999999,86.705,76.4,5.6000000000000005,20.0,6.742157984588678,0.18659999999999988,213,5,41,2,5,65,38,50,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,0,5,3,0,1,1,7,10,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,2,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526980298253972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18081705963341227,0.2649632220597532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20646869030758527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646850231354755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21602464039233685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339158232217646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13510627764890598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633744911671926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28724300948495496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4416809100771361,0.2459849985201635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391413971568954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38886557521772297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223344809819278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mlhtx,2019/03/01,"Daycare advice Hi everyone, we have a 2-year, 1-month-old in a national chain childcare facility. They are very expensive and highly rated, but we’ve had nothing but trouble. We are pretty easy going parents in general and usually give the benefit of the doubt, but we’ve had incident after incident here.

As background, our child has been in this daycare since August 2018. We have state payments because of being part of the foster care system and have felt they treat our child differently because of this. They require us to provide things that are included in tuition for the other kids. They do not supervise adequately (he gets injured multiple times a week). He usually has a dirty diaper when we pick him up and always has diaper rash (not an issue prior to this daycare and we get it cleared over the weekend only for him to get it again the first day back).

Lately, he has been skipping naps, which he never does at home. We gave them some tips for getting him to nap, and lo and behold, he napped today. Yet they STILL wrote up an incident report today and said they will terminate his placement if he continues to skip naps. He’s barely 2! I feel this speaks more to the staff than to him. 

I guess my question is what should we do here? We are moving in 2 months, so I’m really not wanting to switch daycares for so little time. Do they have the right to kick him out for not taking naps? I’m so frustrated and really can’t wait to be done with this facility. ",5.465733482642778,6.5174511276595775,6.18281821575215,77.17026315789477,67.86524822695036,9.341097424412096,30.444942142590516,9.549672527348893,2.841990070921986,1166,44,210,24,19,382,170,282,0.067,0.8490000000000001,0.083,0.598,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,11,0,8,2,10,6,1,1,14,0,26,2,1,1,2,42,44,18,0,3,8,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,1,3,12,19,0,2,3,6,2,2,6,3,0,1,9,4,28,3,33,31,3,40,0,0,0,0,43,14,0,5,22,145,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331833754288294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352113240814522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490665827328356,0.0,0.1663335728331652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391000206810661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798640695935499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425408688872603,0.0,0.0,0.11939127853349425,0.13961580259628226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036522057350494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898337659958828,0.0,0.13099470653306927,0.0,0.0,0.11604774139823824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851172894415501,0.13087659862720966,0.07753661576236456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150293613056357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441463483277214,0.13685094813925547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239803034807338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389958335372328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673923532783808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21779509911680944,0.14500406509352368,0.0,0.0,0.10522363747492243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090877565398767,0.0,0.1431608939571339,0.0,0.0,0.10376156789499863,0.0,0.0,0.1514899610711748,0.1477409718292482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879889939287393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15283342019079915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748017854707872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651092946113913,0.12977667885205155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285674646342445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895359962918401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025787815827152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063838368392757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591074814967679,0.0,0.2586403851458702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641091325602407,0.0,0.3005179139632507,0.11256947761856337,0.08047026296524443,0.0,0.10943634394944182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785678999232474
parenting,im_from_9gag,2019/03/01,"Any advice for a young father to be? 19M My girlfriend is about 8 months pregnant and whenever we tell someone it's a boy, they say ""good luck"". I know it'll be hard considering my age, so looking for some tips considering that since the news of pregnancy, the added stress of getting ready (that includes getting my first full time job) seems to be really taking a toll on me. I kinda feel alone because everyone always says I should suck it up, it's about her and the baby. Which is true, but I'm sick of hearing that. Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like I need to take care of my mental health so I can do what's necessary.",2.8900781250000023,4.258685351562502,4.152000000000001,88.09300000000002,74.390625,7.307500000000001,24.51875,7.908726449838941,1.1608631249999997,487,15,105,7,10,160,90,128,0.117,0.78,0.103,-0.217,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,4,8,1,1,6,0,9,2,0,0,1,16,24,6,0,2,2,1,3,1,1,2,2,3,0,1,9,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,7,14,5,13,19,2,8,0,0,1,0,10,3,1,4,6,59,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18069062079874412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191509625620738,0.0,0.0,0.1538588334257189,0.0,0.0,0.12574424232267895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271861429126485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18852672147892188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668816661035036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699076769636155,0.13209879702859118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728322766397398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19321430562047676,0.0,0.0,0.15509262678280455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656418563728852,0.0,0.0,0.19654927876645306,0.20840551967800305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349333175869428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162097404827547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033704032755163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527671968936366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18576562119624784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634445717075784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759234322765966,0.0,0.0,0.13710744230621302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845723444940892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29409360602820483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833391642816026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529583698359825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566725234334768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181226673979905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780566284663976,0.0,0.1616183353867378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782173756152737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20216861273655615,0.0,0.0
parenting,havebabieswilltravel,2019/03/01,"Leapfrog Gift - need help! So my son was gifted this leapfrog epic tablet thing. He was super excited about it and it looked cute so I figured it would be good for down time, but after trying to set it up it looks like you have to buy all the apps and many of them are over $10/upwards of $25 a piece?!?

Am I missing something? Is there another way to do this? This seems nuts to me!

Obviously too late to return since we’ve opened and pretty much set it up but not sure I want to bite the bullet on a $20 app...

Any advice welcome.",-0.03614703880190717,2.0772882035398297,1.6884955752212392,98.43885636487407,87.31858407079645,4.538869979577943,17.541865214431585,5.873414542411696,-0.5671328795098711,409,10,97,3,13,133,86,113,0.076,0.721,0.203,0.9409,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,1,1,5,8,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,3,15,15,7,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,7,7,16,11,3,13,0,1,2,0,6,6,0,1,5,59,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378896452810272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554956239588905,0.2552711721806729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418840672509625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16317468608904165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746142651316728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893393461299386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088615513524312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468129539137228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895858821512836,0.18050987190941464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24766901200929675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162132982244664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137853410540132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874142859448345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294421109621973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16173268689672646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195354904815302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528179140294028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358896656894973,0.193233692156412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293489571586976,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tifosi7,2019/03/01,"Is it normal for one parent to be jealous of other being a favorite/go-to for the child? My son is almost 3 and my wife was stay-at-home for the first 18 months of his life. She was the primary care giver but I spent almost all of my time outside of work with him. My son always found comfort with my wife - when hungry, sick, stranger interaction etc.

She started working a little over a year ago and was 9-5 until about 3 months ago where her shift changed to 2 PM-8 PM. She gets about an hour in the morning (before I drop him at the daycare) and about 30 minutes in the evening (before he hits the bed) to spend with him.

Since then we noticed my son finds more comfort in me. She says he keeps asking where I was if only she is around, looks for me when he wakes up with a nightmare etc. I’m noticing my wife being a little jealous of this. She tells me that she notices this behavior and says “I’m not complaining, I’m happy but... “ 

Is this normal, anyone else face this? Any advice how to handle it?

Sorry for the long post.",2.9322808056872027,4.1374183507109015,3.9815610189573465,90.00513773696684,74.02369668246446,6.033293838862559,23.61404028436019,5.985473137389443,0.4299973933649288,796,22,169,4,16,258,123,211,0.09,0.853,0.057,-0.8359,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,3,10,8,2,0,14,0,11,4,2,1,1,23,23,12,0,3,4,7,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,8,10,0,1,2,0,2,0,1,3,0,2,6,3,26,5,29,13,4,27,0,0,1,0,31,11,0,3,14,109,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949564697353382,0.2167968392211113,0.0,0.2449018553567967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017510524980566,0.0,0.0,0.08315810484862626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550462993192308,0.12529560149756325,0.0,0.10885972190941064,0.11432012104482132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208111335651348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467787456447525,0.0,0.12936148906494171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215356322225218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727605649392152,0.08076819751506484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176642450227424,0.10401569801858146,0.0,0.13407937052797753,0.0,0.0,0.06388895104958714,0.0,0.06949747675695249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017483094835247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042625405747028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10869267241620896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637362772649347,0.0,0.24512371956199186,0.0,0.10821852203946784,0.10268873944417556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19521370245302325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23962699421858275,0.0,0.4176674091020144,0.0,0.0,0.08286359188302311,0.09300337759322012,0.0,0.0,0.13578320313492284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711538435881452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19449214114031174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115555131068996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368882294504608,0.08655406846881958,0.130339714252155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688262326208156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130546251250043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780501115847226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787476363315272
parenting,kristafulton0,2019/03/01,"My sons breath oh my gosh! My son (8) I just looked in his mouth yesterday and he has tonsil stones I was wondering why his breath was so terrible.

I was able to remove a couple but there are still more now I feel like I smell it everywhere. Help!",-0.8649019607843158,1.1138209411764706,0.9650980392156858,98.23627450980392,104.2941176470588,5.403921568627451,13.509803921568627,6.937597516519254,-0.2138078431372552,192,4,44,4,9,62,41,51,0.048,0.8029999999999999,0.149,0.7418,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,3,0,0,5,8,3,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,10,1,2,5,1,5,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,4,27,11,0,0.37765443261548937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41786744658692976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095342837644907,0.26979640211942924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25313380556837944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450287971370444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171346086976871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015953177228478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407743850461147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40955012251196493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mamabear1217,2019/03/01,"Quitting sports My son is 8 years old and has been playing baseball since he was almost five years old. He has always loved it so we continue to sign him up every season. Since he's gotten a little bit older he's gotten more into video games and YouTube on his down time. So on off-season he has more free time after school and enjoys these things.

So we just started a new season of baseball 2 weeks ago and so now after school and with practice he doesn't have a lot of extra time to play video games. He seems kind of upset that he has to go to practice because he just wants to play video games instead. 

Today when we were getting ready for practice he said that next season he doesn't want to play. I was kind of surprised by this because has always loved practices and games and is really great at the sport. He loves the praise he gets for doing a good job and trying his best. He seems to love it when he's actually at the games and practices, it's just the getting ready to go/ not being home to relax part that he seems to hate.

Part of me wants to not let him quit something that he is good at and seems to enjoy, plus it's so good for him to be out and active. I worry he or I will regret it later on. I also don't want to force him to do something that he doesn't want to do and end up making him hate the sport. I also worry that he's just saying this because he just wants that extra time to be lazy at home and that shouldn't be a valid reason to quit something especially at 8 years old. 

His older brother is 13 and played two seasons a few years ago. He was also the same way about going to practice and wanted to quit also.  We let him thinking he just didnt love it because he was benched a lot.  Since then he hasn't wanted to join any other sports or extracurricular activities and spends most of his free time on video games. So I worry that my youngest will end up doing the same thing.

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parenting,Wi92,2019/03/01,"5 year old son bullies his little sister! Help! My son is 5 1/2 is violent towards his younger sister! She is 15 months and he will hit her, kick her in her stomach, push her down when she walk, and pinch her face really hard. Never an inch of remorse from him and he laughs. I've tried timeouts, spanking, and no TV. I don't kbow what to do. He is never aggressive with other kids, and I think it has to do with jealously. Ever since I had my daughter, my son has become violent and clingly. Now my daughters daycare is asking why she has bruises and I have to tell thwm its because of my son. Any advice would be appreciated. ",1.5832967032967034,3.825965412698416,3.361428571428572,88.22587912087916,81.38095238095238,5.781684981684983,23.97802197802197,7.010146845296331,0.9765062271062276,486,18,98,6,13,162,84,126,0.13,0.794,0.076,-0.8076,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,4,0,1,0,16,2,2,0,3,14,19,8,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,1,1,20,1,11,14,0,15,0,0,0,0,26,5,0,0,8,65,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478988870351306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251508454103742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371620346890912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464454606124706,0.28017610206738564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294733848010153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272527022141737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004028496488066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542598780974332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248963371372794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913163500322066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662006362591522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625176583679771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20985156549593026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217326239166988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255165615630404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17223604704424403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289120309784954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18021115684483135,0.0,0.0,0.16336537687901273
parenting,4myhusbandsplsr,2019/03/01,"My son didn’t believe me when I told him the blue berries would be bad, so I let him find out for himself. Haha, this happened a few minutes ago. My son, 9, told me he wanted the blueberries I was going to throw away. He didn’t believe me when I said they would taste bad. He kept pleading and begging for them. 

He’s been asking for things and not accepting the answer. It’s been getting him in trouble at home and school. So, I thought I’d let him get what he wants in this case. None of the berries were moldy just shriveled and dry. 

He slowly ate one that was more plump and said, “this is good! I knew I was right.” 

He enthusiastically went for more and ate a very bone dry one and gagged hahaha! 

I just laughed and didn’t say anything. He threw them away.  

I don’t know what this taught him but hopefully you get what you ask for sometimes. ",1.8361343930635807,3.758651352601156,2.6095339595375715,95.61175758670522,78.82658959537572,5.481069364161852,22.3731936416185,6.322622252153567,0.1562604046242777,656,20,150,5,16,205,101,173,0.057,0.856,0.087,0.7263,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,2,3,0,6,8,0,0,6,1,16,4,1,0,0,25,39,13,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,10,9,3,1,6,0,0,4,6,3,0,2,21,5,25,5,13,13,4,14,0,0,1,0,28,7,0,1,3,92,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009474258799866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077177136060292,0.0,0.2744033865694224,0.0,0.2757735199763181,0.0,0.2450785552101079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306987066638643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13413686544364026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002964445998025,0.0,0.08340763990557971,0.12309613646410394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978023882415254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472132165030166,0.1457667552857601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08065598957569918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30014606514009906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19889805948589898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533306430787058,0.27920657592301085,0.1167102118644434,0.0,0.14852993424624727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515034946917504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750146551537156,0.0,0.0,0.11651181479046024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280472787389419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109316819223034,0.1731268420866588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604888715471405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20850956098703805,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mozzykon,2019/03/01,"Shame on parents who prank their kids for social media! s there any law against the parents who ""prank"" their kids to gain popularity on social media? I watch the recent video of a father who gave his child a good chunk of wasabi calling it a green ice cream. Im so heated over this!!!! on top of this madness the Barstool posted it on their ig account calling him a father of the year, yeah maybe their being sarcastic but we live in the world where people are ready to follow any trend to get likes and followers and I am afraid more parents will follow this monstrosity! Shame on that father! what is the law or how can I get this video taken down from big accounts on ig?",3.5527272727272714,5.431170636363639,3.929393939393944,88.26409090909092,73.69696969696969,6.012121212121213,22.60606060606061,6.574015621080383,0.4922333333333335,532,14,105,4,11,166,85,132,0.069,0.804,0.127,0.7922,4,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,4,2,4,7,1,3,10,1,6,0,0,1,0,8,13,6,0,0,2,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,11,3,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,4,0,0,2,3,10,3,19,9,1,19,0,0,3,0,24,13,0,1,3,65,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523375614976254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788998092524973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938666368580704,0.0,0.0,0.1556162513914793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004074435531307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064203675692148,0.0,0.1638290102709959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18639280414312204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6180372153821846,0.0,0.0,0.12862519955024876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17768929773445036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319142348933296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782549932529178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947714875038813
parenting,md1501,2019/03/01,"Advice, child lying So my child is six years old, and decided to lie and say that his substitute teacher hit him. His normal teacher is out on maternity leave and that may be the reason he lied about this ( he seems to have trouble with big changes), My question is how do I talk to him or  punish him in an age appropriate manner?",5.390076923076926,5.71692581538462,6.178269230769235,79.71048076923078,67.76923076923077,8.961538461538463,30.09615384615385,8.841846274778883,2.262923076923076,258,9,51,4,4,85,51,65,0.184,0.816,0.0,-0.9062,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,0,13,9,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,8,0,8,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,4,3,35,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076302732023007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33302895319457504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33334005213786216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30844854839957325,0.0,0.0,0.3303418399269544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3526610642936829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32367877887743085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503508371645797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865926768699668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25303365664537425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20272836285047754
parenting,fluffygrl92,2019/03/01,"Childcare for single working parents Hey everyone! I'm a newly single mom to a 6 year old girl. I work early morning shifts at work (5am to 2pm). My daughter needs to be at school by 9 am, now they do offer before school care but it doesnt open until 630 and that would mean I would have to change my availability at work to 7am. My boss is usually very understanding, however it's a job where the expectation is the 5am start, and changing availability could, and likely will, result in a cut to hours. 

I do not have any family in the area that can watch her as they all work full time themselves. What do you do for childcare when you dont have a support system of friends/family/etc? Just looking for perhaps some suggestions I havent thought of yet. Thank you!",3.938873900293257,4.973970664516131,5.13126099706745,83.37143695014663,71.38709677419354,8.217008797653959,27.639296187683293,8.575989854853784,1.8706129032258056,603,21,124,10,11,200,102,155,0.044,0.918,0.038,-0.1952,3,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,3,2,5,5,5,1,0,8,0,19,0,0,2,1,19,29,7,0,5,3,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,2,13,4,19,23,5,21,0,0,2,0,13,9,0,1,12,79,18,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976376152126927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483431228734215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957452154147435,0.0,0.3103867931719544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11713121929840944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193601406478504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636137572070467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401819740748965,0.0,0.0,0.1382994898871547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444739044084615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145581099000474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167217187287225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231944250229955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980368109383403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718179703759478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877916892550414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539411864372408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16289744843037127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969445925311043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038378575502322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664779787457835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13506534755380872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646660164359035,0.08554429144591569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527240543686485,0.0,0.0,0.1615737473496063,0.12104617722218786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5340113541340249,0.0,0.0,0.2084286475327104,0.0,0.0,0.0944725763729559
parenting,ccwarrenator,2019/03/01,"How do I meet cool parents? My daughter (3) has some little friends her age on our street. We seem to spend most of our social time with our neighbors now while we let the kids play. This is a lovely arrangement except one thing; the other parents are not people I would choose to be friends with. They're all good folks, but very square and not into the same things as my husband and I. He and I strain to still have some sliver of our old lives, (live music and comedy shows, art gallery openings, museums, hiking, biking, traveling, god I miss it all!) But the other parents seem content to stay in the neighborhood and talk about kiddie stuff and the weather. I feel if I could meet parents with small kids who like to go to museums or bike rides, even just get out of the house; it would make a big difference. Anyone else have this problem? ",6.754512610770277,6.445673558282207,6.096646216768918,83.61050443081122,64.95092024539878,8.96223585548739,30.38104976141786,8.167268648758528,1.947533605998636,662,20,131,7,9,202,115,163,0.043,0.8320000000000001,0.125,0.8984,4,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,6,0,0,0,6,10,0,1,9,1,11,1,0,2,2,38,19,13,0,5,8,6,1,1,3,2,0,0,1,2,10,14,0,0,4,8,1,3,2,3,0,1,0,3,16,7,19,14,6,19,0,1,1,1,25,9,0,7,7,90,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970423904948217,0.142202646774693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080931915608204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450018194892808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159378852413483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166683686088352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017436612769644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144514217685458,0.0,0.07250995111018946,0.0,0.07887527591456234,0.11640710297778492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014039762666785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419180768655929,0.0,0.06780382390998052,0.13910002143870445,0.2451011420573085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252597737051727,0.0,0.09264072539709818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14563254921586716,0.0,0.09404497800549699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6164216666043887,0.0,0.0,0.09621673003751442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327994480856302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526911040297018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147483812820036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479273982883915,0.11083467015087284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887675323162131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155092089705199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440648850165225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092722631582892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451297582982828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19717916934581292,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imatumahimatumah,2019/03/01,"Coping with feeling unproductive with toddlers This topic has probably been beaten to death, but my wife and I are constantly feeling like we get nothing done. We have a 4 year old son and a 2 year old daughter and they are not easy kids, lol! Not when they were babies, and not now. Wife is a stay at home mom trying to do some web design work on the side. I have my own business/self employed. There is ALWAYS someone sick/teething/can't sleep through the night/tantrums/fighting with each other, all the normal stuff. And between that and the never-ending Wisconsin winter with everyone cooped up inside, we just feel so unproductive. We have projects to do around the house, we want to work on our own relationship to keep in healthy, want to exercise, get involved in the community, etc. We are just always exhausted. I don't want to rush through these years because they are adorable kids and I know it goes by fast. It just seems like it doesn't go by that fast some days, if that makes sense. Being self-employed, I'm always jealous of those people you read about that own a startup or are a CEO and it's like ""Oh I'm up at 5am, have an egg white omelette, go for a jog/exercise, get the kids up, pack lunches, I bike to work, etc etc."" That's definitely not our story.  
  
I guess I'm just looking for other peoples random thoughts on it all. We don't even know anyone else with kids, or even have married friends. Our siblings, friends, etc.. people of our generation that we know? Nobody's getting married, settling down, having kids. We know nobody well enough to call and commiserate with and it sucks. My sister shrugs and just says ""Well, now you know why I didn't want kids!"" which is zero help.",4.041608391608392,5.743835575757577,4.199393939393938,87.56139860139861,72.03030303030303,6.773892773892776,27.237762237762237,7.321109707123232,1.3187902097902096,1340,48,266,14,26,415,178,330,0.062,0.805,0.133,0.9686,2,0,0,0,2,0,57.0,13,2,3,4,16,12,3,0,14,1,25,5,1,1,2,64,53,17,1,6,13,6,3,3,2,0,2,1,1,6,19,28,2,1,10,3,0,3,8,4,2,1,5,6,28,8,37,47,13,31,0,0,2,0,37,13,1,8,17,170,47,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378162717849121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661484676418764,0.0976151502045238,0.0,0.08481030441931735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058075574894766266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972810993054642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295278922001536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061441127970174286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749406403127037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795856781777084,0.0,0.08438074935479742,0.09843915210826998,0.4250039618019644,0.1258495851083014,0.0,0.0,0.0910343594757405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451379307128492,0.06806075135486292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721039461858834,0.0,0.19909811608945288,0.0,0.10828802529987064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049504057730326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385732672844635,0.0,0.09556335925102448,0.0,0.0,0.10992853735631952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468015969615411,0.0,0.0,0.2617889035598744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963200978742374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000262264075847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359331932141743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115788173395197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347792913705918,0.0,0.0,0.08940423673150552,0.09334415874990004,0.09141392534748023,0.0,0.1999392203845324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814421393325785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027169384790894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529556343759686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102284092234948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576235456030836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673003152426571,0.1987743205569715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533858477879928,0.0,0.08072177719557028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154491165107872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906110738771277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563356523482673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06468192836063484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247703433065568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713179510643684,0.0,0.0859661600619235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807260803899336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18405184835405594
parenting,makethingsright12,2019/03/01,"I bailed on girls night with my Future SIL with kids, she has gotten a babysitter, how can I make it right? A few weeks ago I scheduled a girls night for tomorrow with my future SIL, she has 2 pretty well behaved kids and got a sitter so we could go out. 

Unfortunately I didn’t tell her I was on sick call this weekend which means if someone gets sick at work, I have to go in to cover. I found out today that I’d have to go in tomorrow. I canceled with future SIL. However, I found out like 30 mins later that I didn’t have to go in after all.

I texted her and she’d already cancelled the sitter. She said I was welcome to go over to her place and hang with her and the kids, but no pressure. I told her I would go over there tomorrow night. I want to make it up to her because I think she’s kinda pissed about me bailing. I feel guilty I should’ve told her about sick call. 

I don’t have any kids. How upset would you be if this happened to you? Just to be clear, this is the first time this has happened, I haven’t bailed on her before. ",1.2300226244343904,2.9125652488687805,2.655246606334842,95.70703280542988,79.76923076923076,5.324977375565611,19.647285067873305,5.985473137389443,-0.2563087782805429,804,19,188,5,20,261,112,221,0.142,0.8009999999999999,0.057,-0.9644,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,2,0,2,8,6,1,2,7,0,21,4,1,4,2,33,43,10,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,6,9,13,0,0,5,1,0,7,5,3,1,1,11,2,39,3,32,26,2,41,0,0,0,0,29,15,1,3,20,124,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861274442300405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766048763398698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099404836849652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156813267464713,0.0,0.11386077747179447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732659170145805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683482330433326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765736007443507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138170413312646,0.0,0.2934271950821616,0.0,0.0,0.06990917256473139,0.0,0.4562771198084897,0.0,0.10701850459398032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366519967306612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537184419098836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863579713260982,0.0,0.0,0.14575617103025929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37670931316333134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398009109876736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613087061057266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427132587195568,0.12728207755504362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337510896710826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169541153994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573878221731647,0.0,0.0,0.07802453791619406,0.0,0.12683436597469444,0.25571861234688875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892344250305244,0.0,0.10733272989512227,0.0,0.12030948800152508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974138389459948,0.0,0.0,0.1901067696903984,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lyricrehab,2019/03/01,"Dads, how do you feel about your SAHM wife? My husband has been telling me stories from work a lot lately about husbands who are downright bitter and ANGRY at their wives who are stay at home moms. I was a stay at home mom for about 6 months and likely will be again one day.

So tell me Dads, how do you feel about your SAHM wife? How could it be improved if you do? If you appreciate your SAHM mom wife? 

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parenting,FindingSelfAgain,2019/03/01,"Appropriate consequence suggestions? I'm struggling with how to handle some discipline issues and behaviors with my 13 year old. It feels like everything becomes a power struggle that gets to an unhealthy place. For some additional info, I'm divorced, so my kids are with me half the time. I have stricter rules around limits on screen time, so usually the day they come to my house is the big switch and results in some tough behavior. If I give a consequence that requires some respect of the consequence by my kid it usually isn't followed, so I need things that don't depend on them turning the behavior around. I also don't want to have consequences for everything, if there are better ways to handle these I'm open to anything. Open to any parenting book suggestions, etc. 

Here are some of the behaviors:

1. Slamming doors in the house in anger
2. Continually entering siblings room to keep them from going to sleep (in order to get what they want from me)
3. Not putting away electronic devices when screen time is over, on devices with complete disregard to house expectations around screens
4. Taking parents stuff and either hiding it or threatening to break it
5. Smashing phone out of anger
6. Taking siblings stuff without asking (phone, laptop, etc)
7. unplugging internet at modem (unfortunately dependent on for thermostat, and other necessities)
8. Refusing to go to school without personal laptop (not necessary for school, they provide devices when needed)
9. Playing games when should be doing homework on device
10. Leaving the house late at night",6.5079661579296575,8.926683784671535,6.3643530192435325,71.61626410086268,66.99270072992701,9.799336429993367,35.08228268082283,10.125756701596842,4.181305109489051,1263,62,192,33,22,397,166,274,0.106,0.8590000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.9512,4,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,0,0,5,4,13,9,2,2,11,0,13,1,1,4,0,47,33,15,0,8,8,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,13,16,0,6,2,3,0,6,7,5,0,1,0,4,15,4,47,31,8,45,0,0,3,0,19,22,0,10,15,127,28,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092309360141083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881393457780452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327227838561108,0.27024662702216184,0.09460072887453476,0.0,0.09507308317222812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175845874128808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949597658997806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716782694771343,0.10609773958590958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526037807969727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257113447366185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188943712685385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116564471353968,0.07229148475208279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057371402528655,0.09707245247714227,0.11501933161129325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670472790215727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561801100268044,0.0,0.08994397434081618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141488252908366,0.10714756841682714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049437231226064984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006496346414727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496170535568793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10618383439825936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247231697812237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835682869321843,0.10572395574339473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017257683260666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048231286799645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126493919948884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115754056260539,0.2316809387147848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521673699469306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672273751385056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701736137351462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100676853237408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22289707424947272,0.0,0.11937116122290192,0.08032138809573289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950906833227258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516423990828807
parenting,An_N_of_1,2019/03/01,"Clingy child with Anxious Attachment signs towards me -- Help My wife recently commented with a bit of jealousy that our 18-month-old son is more excited to see me than her. The negative side is that he goes into near panic when I try to leave the room. He is also getting to the age where he understands what we are talking about and also goes into frenzied sobbing when I talk about going places for work or errands.

Thinking back to my psychology classes, I think our son has some form of insecure attachment with me. I've shared this with my wife, suggesting that he probably is more securely attached to her and trusts her to be there to meet his needs. I, on the other-hand, often have to take trips of up to a week for work. 

He is generally quiet for his age and easily over-stimulated by other children. Though he can become boisterous when comfortable, and is very talkative and social with adults, most people would describe him as a high sensitivity child. I am concerned that if we don't work on ways to address his perception of our relationship in childhood, it may lead to some emotional insecurities into adulthood.

Are there any articles or books I can read on the subject? What are some practical ways we can look into to help him realize my occasional absence is not abandonment, nor based on his performance or proximity? I realize that it may become easier to explain as he gets older, but I would really like to work on the strength of his underlying belief structure while he is most susceptible to molding starting now. Thanks for any advice. ",9.396547619047622,8.403608972222223,9.354384920634924,64.63625000000003,59.97222222222222,13.089682539682546,40.36309523809524,12.161744961471696,5.098709523809523,1256,57,210,35,14,413,168,288,0.048,0.8340000000000001,0.118,0.9591,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,6,0,0,7,14,13,0,3,9,0,23,0,0,1,0,46,36,20,0,4,6,4,0,1,0,4,0,1,2,4,11,17,0,2,8,2,0,3,4,5,0,0,0,3,31,8,49,31,9,37,1,2,2,0,43,19,1,12,14,157,42,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109245712216647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21456371721606196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824568604853636,0.0,0.0,0.15155435590242386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315513870773102,0.0,0.0,0.2963222149659712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645999344346108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509037210336953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401784883076651,0.0,0.07624206590452111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17983944205962205,0.14173968364547354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204832975994838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554022855936356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265447330894356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707939814807764,0.0,0.0,0.0994725206112196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077068240226095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739927819880356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300458461259499,0.0,0.14016100925912764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463929084211918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418899472768225,0.0,0.0859416490973586,0.0,0.13245959816419536,0.14402978500283609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690232600261312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675177433401892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495396524369512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10086612820198672,0.21565370299193712,0.0,0.12350977398631115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17191925522269585,0.13180433787950288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108087124586113,0.0,0.0,0.13965768258827507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069001976738184,0.0,0.21296832380953284,0.10760919683823887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906590274989152,0.0,0.0,0.19059644546342144,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AwayVisit,2019/03/01,"My son is a crybaby! My 4 year old son is such a crybaby. He cries about everything. He's in preschool right now, and his preschool teacher tells us that he cries a lot. I have to get off work early sometimes to pick him up from preschool due to his crying. 

It's really pissing me off that my son is crying too much. I don't want him growing up to be an emotional little sissy. He needs to toughen up and act like a boy.

How can I break my son out of this crying stage?",1.2228555555555545,2.8801999300000034,3.0213333333333345,93.19122222222224,79.7,6.4444444444444455,23.11111111111111,7.3871296695380915,0.7598777777777781,363,12,84,5,9,121,66,100,0.199,0.7509999999999999,0.05,-0.9385,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,5,0,7,1,1,2,0,8,10,3,0,2,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,13,1,15,9,2,18,0,0,0,0,15,9,1,1,6,52,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8445680930534272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297515527816446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382022378438078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034061590920788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512625357654966,0.15412203737921312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073323340405416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304165057431992,0.1140215402295755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613600412259363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851162049316034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132223375715182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208650828244588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440533365781332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18497129812141352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069994319413603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119493699021393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902547311128683
parenting,mothsmoam,2019/03/01,"My 14 month old likes to bang his head on stuff Not  hard usually, but he’s a very happy baby. He often does it while he’s playing and having fun, but sometimes he does it when he’s very upset too. Is this normal?",3.131231884057972,3.3603606739130427,4.7552173913043525,88.2803623188406,72.69565217391305,7.0028985507246375,21.85507246376812,6.42735559955562,0.32503768115942044,165,3,37,1,3,56,36,46,0.07,0.654,0.276,0.8846,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,6,2,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,2,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,6,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44871545859553663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27291867853500074,0.22966393489172146,0.0,0.2631173401320012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525312503980032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20463812135289827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511955733954328,0.0,0.0,0.2690251204860862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535639610906138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934909668938092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28236366013612085,0.4230766718802079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,privatenamequest,2019/03/01,"11 yo threw a tantrum when he found out baby #3 is a girl My wife and I have 2 kids. An 11 yo boy and an 8 yo girl. We also have a baby on the way.


Today we took the kids out of school to go with us to the gender reveal appointment.



It’s a girl! Cool, right? Well the 11 yo didn’t think so. He had told us he wanted a boy but never made it seem like he was too invested either way. We didn’t feel the need to have some prior talk about expectations and how to handle news you don’t want to hear. We honestly didn’t think either kid cared all that much. 



Anyway; the US tech says it’s a girl and my son angrily says “Are you serious? This is STUPID” then storms out the room. I follow him and he pushes a chair that was sitting in the hallway and smacks the wall. This is when I get mad. He’s throwing a fit in public like a toddler. 


I say “B, STOP! I know you are disappointed but you will not act like this in public”. He responds “No, I don’t care. This is freaking stupid. Nothing EVER goes my way but of course it does for B2(8yo)” as if it’s something we can control. 



So I tell him to go to the car because he’s acting ridiculous about something he KNOWS we have no control over and I’m not going to sit here and argue in a dr’s office. 



We’re on the way home now and he’s sulking in the backseat. Part of me feels like he should be punished....


I don’t want to punish him for voicing his thoughts but I don’t EVER want him to throw a tantrum like that in public again. It was embarrassing. 




What would you do? ",-0.03591087811271265,1.908529978593272,2.0549375273045034,96.97034862385323,85.60550458715595,4.715736129314111,17.905548274355613,5.860315114193679,-0.4988987505460893,1161,28,277,8,35,388,165,327,0.171,0.72,0.109,-0.9806,0,0,2,0,0,0,36.0,9,5,0,2,17,23,9,1,25,1,27,1,0,4,4,57,54,22,0,9,9,2,2,5,0,3,1,5,2,9,14,19,0,3,10,0,1,12,12,13,1,0,13,8,32,10,31,37,6,45,0,1,0,0,53,16,0,3,16,169,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813245028051676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718112785675526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22472664093195568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472129090952564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644283606154684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199376973798142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144788065067264,0.07873186011646242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083622159215407,0.0,0.0,0.057578577643361564,0.0,0.18789943154781674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421123122897065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11054654676940068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113370437333815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692077211295356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042804715323501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101478163775508,0.08171704974907774,0.08499838634315841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574653144260823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934337667474157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941161247908635,0.0,0.2629229467465981,0.0,0.11153530717449084,0.0,0.10032825929678743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696853736168782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213793676744124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858016398740626,0.09632572332335536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412323146687494,0.0,0.08749200030322977,0.0,0.0,0.10446329317313012,0.10530745419876496,0.12244396562815567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976961390007172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600116348300738,0.3499085577561684,0.0,0.0,0.09908927458288397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07828784834359108,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,themuffin_man81,2019/03/01,"A conversation about masturbation. I’m not ready and they grow up too fast. Thankfully my wife is a rock star. My wife and I have one child, a daughter who is 11.

My wife has always been a fan of sex positivity and answering all her questions with honesty. I always thought it was a bit extreme. (Like when she was 7 and she walked in on us, and when she asked what we were doing my wife answered “mommy and daddy were having sex, head to your room and I’ll come talk to you about it in a couple minutes.”) 

Anyway, our daughters main chore is doing the dishes every night.  The other night my wife was helping her, and I wasn’t intentionally listening but I did over hear them talking. And my daughter asked my wife a couple questions about masturbation. I’ll be honest, I was pretty freaked out. She’s only 11. Thankfully my wife didn’t miss a beat, she answered all her questions and had a good conversation with her about it. 

I was still a little freaked out, she is only 11. So I took a page from my daughters book and talked to my wife about it. I told her I had overheard them, and while I think it’s great she is so open with her I was a little concerned. She just seems so young. I do feel better about it now since talking to my wife.

So anyway. The point is they grow up fast. And it turns out my wife was right, open positive communication about sex is a good thing. And my daughter definitely picked the right parent to have this conversation with.",1.998500576701268,4.362418982698967,3.2334359861591686,89.03848154555945,80.62629757785467,5.791049596309112,21.744059976931947,7.03164865440522,0.5848282814302189,1142,35,235,14,30,369,135,289,0.031,0.8079999999999999,0.161,0.9909,1,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,3,2,4,2,19,11,0,0,17,0,30,5,1,2,2,42,46,22,0,0,3,16,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,12,25,1,0,10,2,0,5,3,3,0,1,18,3,48,8,27,27,5,32,0,1,0,3,57,17,0,4,11,167,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965200796460156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22079574354574394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444068946732986,0.1289233011168401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172376784597884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613278794672074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949561423578816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059709669803423675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809597336236992,0.0,0.13019424417047312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119403873625036,0.0,0.1330956059327052,0.0,0.07915299596912664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05769263280137475,0.2367136835875496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216382536564689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002059574232738,0.17962498395107182,0.0,0.0,0.13112456942485096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163287903954916,0.0,0.0,0.12013961711286525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968622661437678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016958133840066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750437244007466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976849698954863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430653845076972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37966391550500805,0.0,0.21744214796318465,0.0,0.0,0.07845350906345226,0.07566707258325385,0.0,0.0937499828268895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112839710927414,0.13120193429240967,0.0,0.1284476172146926,0.0,0.0,0.14204729602866004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,er1catwork,2019/03/01,"School sent home an alert about Momo Challanges I'd never heard of it before, but my daughters Elementary School notified all parents about the Momo Challanges and how dangerous they are. My wife and I have been going back on forth about blocking YouTube and I have been of the ""that's a band-aid, not the cure"" side. Well, when my daughter got home from school last night, she PLEADED with me to ""delete YouTube from every device in the house!!!!!1"" as she was afraid Momo would hack into our ""stuff"".    
    
Sure thing Little Girl! I'll get right on that! Everything works out well sometimes... ;)

And for those, like me, that have never heard of it, [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/morbidquestions/comments/9i95nl/what_are_the_momo_challanges/) was all I could find on Reddit.",7.339694656488553,9.67915873282443,4.831977099236641,83.75224045801528,64.72519083969465,7.377404580152671,27.603816793893127,7.908726449838941,1.684327633587786,618,19,102,7,10,170,92,131,0.055,0.823,0.122,0.7946,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,1,0,1,1,8,6,1,1,6,0,10,0,0,1,5,19,16,8,0,2,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,8,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,2,2,0,8,2,12,4,18,6,2,17,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,0,7,69,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322596447292565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636183440616626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733035259797285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491989644662556,0.0,0.15458515280046345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720757222544102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986443765436251,0.0,0.0977532353334986,0.0,0.13756646490192662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34506594871432106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020535406241338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403194890072928,0.17239213394728606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653185439059496,0.0,0.0,0.16141310858380056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098891110541666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688957203710765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5222284780942897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011530702058192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19690221641184147,0.0,0.0,0.16211073657647568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427111131156123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3093026018504376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252201897902422,0.0,0.0,0.12218595447325972,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whatsyoursisours,2019/03/01,"I’m truly the worst mom. Sorry for the dramatic title, but I’m sure we all feel the same way at times. 

If you read my other post on a different sub, you’ll get a bit more insight. 

Basically, my husband doesn’t really care for my kids (they’re not his). My kids are 8 (boy) and 10 (girl). We’ve been married for a few years. I have split custody, and everything has been 50/50 for years. 

Anyway, my husband got along great with my kids for the first year and a half (and while we were dating). Nothing is the same now. 

He thinks my kids are horrible and literally tells me that they’re causing most of our problems. He thinks they’re disrespectful and messy. He’s said many many mean things (like he was mad that I have pictures of them in our room) over the last year. 

Well, now my kids can tell. They know he can’t stand them. Just this morning, my daughter said to me and her brother “it seems like stepdad hates brother.” I dropped them off at school and burst into tears on my drive to work. 

It’s a bad marriage. He blames them. He tells me my beliefs are wrong. Every time I think I’ve had enough, I feel bad. I feel bad for my kids for wanting to move them into a different house. I feel bad for husband because he’s so angry. But I feel even more bad for my kids because the man I chose doesn’t like them. 

What kind of crappy mother am I?! I make sure my kids know that I love them more than anything and that I would do anything for them. But I feel so bad. 

*we have tried counseling multiple times. I go to therapy alone now. He’s on antidepressants (but doesn’t have a diagnosis of anything). ",1.525521788990826,3.5825061804281333,2.6491351299694195,94.2703081995413,80.46788990825688,5.8000382262996935,21.533734709480118,6.9077264865688965,0.349568883792049,1239,37,278,14,32,395,167,327,0.206,0.7040000000000001,0.09,-0.9932,2,1,0,0,0,0,52.0,5,2,9,2,9,21,2,0,14,0,23,1,0,2,3,49,48,17,0,4,7,8,6,3,0,2,0,2,1,11,10,16,0,0,15,1,0,3,5,11,1,2,8,8,50,10,31,38,11,32,1,0,0,1,53,11,0,3,17,164,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691254592303028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310057636340981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4687731094678698,0.11408144993730933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102156572228593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540306130213587,0.0961243919422451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19552599900313367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668506272611026,0.0,0.061803534313603886,0.0,0.07883858708283469,0.0,0.08409663082571449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28387739732901396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795924381059242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488875956123304,0.0,0.05317921931656412,0.0,0.07483821054787124,0.1031636453079522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238314336961403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796971836973393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744101346193293,0.10284963256833933,0.07627380564545405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371439039826485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445253471602428,0.0,0.06246014858793425,0.18973498277768164,0.0,0.10192752232521522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959059197819268,0.0,0.0994524058547416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978501863303398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961627098983911,0.0,0.0,0.0895359273609913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935974897300037,0.0,0.059944726727356575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801711872491693,0.0,0.0,0.09470002936538707,0.0,0.08518458721523949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474638095510364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17638132148892444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24535859698022697,0.0,0.10700792874313696,0.0,0.06216519043337052,0.1798718004902453,0.0,0.0,0.1636880505467541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635293596791186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055191288923490366,0.07427323135191037,0.0,0.0,0.08413261639306419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812165257751927,0.0,0.0,0.06647098326893447,0.10230647625424208,0.0,0.24102963264584304
parenting,littlethadd,2019/03/01,"My 5 year old won't stop peeing his pants So he has been potty trained since he was 2ish. Doesn't pee at night and is good at preschool and otherwise during the day. He only does it when he's too occupied watching tv or playing and doesn't want to stop to go. At this point I don't even know how to address it bc he wont even talk when he's in trouble, he shuts down. What are some ways we can nip this in the bud?",0.7408870967741947,2.0754716236559148,2.2663306451612897,99.51949596774195,80.07526881720429,5.5102150537634405,20.227150537634405,5.985473137389443,-0.3178591397849466,323,8,83,2,8,105,67,93,0.043,0.863,0.094,0.5505,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,2,0,11,2,2,1,0,11,14,8,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,2,1,2,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,1,4,2,9,10,1,18,0,0,1,0,11,8,0,2,8,43,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732038363770636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406111130590331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632045414739621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562607558154197,0.2306155088864008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511056529882251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25802250186166154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885143912072993,0.0,0.0,0.2091123124790224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25991717823629423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22744196826041735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4597420073053226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209948682798996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217298095847668,0.21824297943930215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705916453450582
parenting,adia93,2019/03/01,Shamed for vaccinating my son.... Today at the pediatrician a mom started talking to me about my little boy. We were just chit chatting about our kids etc. she asked why I was there and I said “oh just a check up and shots” she immediately starts berating me for “poisoning” my son. I was shocked and visibly upset when the nurse called me back. I was so embarrassed I almost left! Why can’t people just leave other people and their choices alone?!?! I don’t shake you for not vaccinating your child.  ,2.434323017408122,5.194532819148936,3.6852804642166364,83.86136363636366,82.51063829787232,6.822437137330756,22.375241779497102,8.00094639256281,1.385289361702128,391,13,75,8,11,127,67,94,0.222,0.778,0.0,-0.9622,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,1,0,9,6,1,4,4,0,6,1,0,0,0,10,10,6,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,6,0,0,5,1,19,0,8,5,1,10,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,5,51,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231430276289452,0.2307960245873349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208326212079397,0.0,0.0,0.17135093963207454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275455306830826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485265707344051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359563961859105,0.24211735018003885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233451798355816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26098863382278464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089797205083797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119727787506141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154559505251115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791111189695649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112271697097466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021586032997977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AndyGene,2019/03/01,"My 2.5 year old is having issues napping at day care TL:DR I have a 2.5 year old son, that is having issues napping at day care.  I was wondering if anyone had any advice on the subject. 

He goes to a day care center. There are 12 kids in his class. They take a two hour nap from 1-3 each day.  They sleep on cots. The issue being that my son seems to not want to take a nap.  He is very tired, but doesn’t want to settle down.

Recently he’s been telling me he doesn’t like going to school. I began watching the camera the day care provides to see what was going on, and I notice that while the other 11 kids are trying to go to sleep he is refusing.  They usually rub his back and sit with him until he falls asleep.   Sometimes this works. Sometimes it doesn’t. 

Today I log in to the camera at the start of nap time and see him physically fighting the teacher.   The teacher is trying to restrain him.   Eventually she gets him settled down and he falls asleep.   I’m going to go talk to the teacher and the administration later today.   My problem is I have no idea what to do.   I feel like I shouldn’t be ok with them holding him down until he falls asleep.  This is probably why he hates school now. I also don’t think he should be able to disrupt the rest of the class while they nap.  I know he won’t just sit quietly for two hours. 

I’ve tried to talk with him about being quiet at nap time, but being 2.5 years old he’s not the best listener.  I’m sure I’m not the first parent with this problem. How did you resolve this? 
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parenting,lilyredshift,2019/03/01,"How old is too old for a baby monitor? In about 6 months, my kids will be 5, 3 and 1. The two oldest currently share a room and when the baby turns one, they’ll all be in the same room. I don’t feel like we need a camera for the two oldest, but I’ll definitely want to have eyes on the youngest, especially to make sure the 3-year old isn’t climbing into the crib with the baby.

At what point do you think it’s a problem for the oldest to have a camera in there?",5.318217821782176,3.51771488118812,6.541465346534654,84.14190099009905,68.5049504950495,9.664158415841584,27.130693069306933,8.238735603445708,1.3833310891089108,357,7,86,4,5,122,66,101,0.036000000000000004,0.84,0.124,0.7583,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,1,1,5,4,0,0,14,0,10,1,1,2,2,16,16,5,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,2,5,3,14,12,2,19,0,0,1,0,5,9,0,0,10,56,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810328255282714,0.15273816730095408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044514733622913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14271260384849765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17065245497555107,0.0,0.0,0.15852937295590766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.673038781203517,0.0,0.14487584841881618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021093183855792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20457692817825585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150318426224456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699387309195515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325520992280067,0.4177014389668318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610428777538324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767965357586398
parenting,mimigins,2019/03/01,"What did it look like when your toddler stopped napping? My 2yo (26mos, so pretty recent) has not napped normally in almost two weeks now. 

Before this started, he was napping 1.5-3h a day and sleeping around 12h at night. We took a week to paint the upstairs, which was a huge upheaval, and he has not napped properly since. The day we did his room I napped him in the car. Ever since then he's spent like 2h just running around his room making noise and not sleeping.

I've napped him in the car two more times since then, trying to remind him that he needs naps since he's so goddamn tired all the time, but it hasn't fixed napping in his room. I also don't want to spend all that time driving as it's expensive and I'm 30wks pregnant and tired. He's started waking early after his night sleep so he's only getting maybe 10-11h a day max. He's so tired and getting really cranky compared to his usual self.

Our other issue is that no matter how many times he's pooped, he will poop within 20 mins of going into his room for a nap. I've taken to changing him when he's been awake for like 30mins with no nap in sight, to avoid major poop rashes, but this might be contributing to his refusal to nap. 

So. I'd love some suggestions, anecdotes, and maybe stories about how your 2yo just stopped napping and started sleeping poorly at night and now everything's fine or something.",5.832477272727271,5.7833454909090936,5.659306818181823,85.10096022727274,66.81818181818181,7.893181818181818,29.1875,6.9077264865688965,1.4554772727272731,1090,33,218,7,16,339,151,275,0.095,0.8320000000000001,0.073,-0.7292,0,1,1,0,0,0,30.0,3,2,0,0,18,6,0,1,10,0,13,13,9,3,3,40,28,25,0,3,8,0,0,3,0,2,3,0,4,1,11,15,0,4,0,12,4,6,7,1,0,2,8,2,19,5,26,17,5,51,0,0,2,1,31,16,0,4,32,119,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003524354156272,0.0,0.0,0.07988985340375887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778640472479779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850073925136751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568076787052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932813665110548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903651104565956,0.0,0.0,0.08978352050732298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043870699721599,0.0,0.05677537234478852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426946178505496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641802406090434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389069200237964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016349178465616,0.0,0.06668390845832188,0.10128274194765767,0.200725601926438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597792654909534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740744538959528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812476531311671,0.09788061707766603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759783180423136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163403595314384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399838553087199,0.0,0.09863902449641386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421730409205172,0.0,0.0,0.3305526680050146,0.0,0.39988788305278905,0.0,0.0,0.07690776541368483,0.0,0.0,0.21212882947359424,0.0,0.0,0.16704145267371376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23300956370100576,0.34446045654171714,0.0,0.0,0.11099238059390182,0.06782542310628628,0.0,0.1951752246672133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110025542730899,0.0,0.05892350469018549,0.0,0.160267226385647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Armenoid,2019/03/01,"Adventure books for boys - 7 year old The thing we like to read the most are adventure, discovery stories.   And we've run out of material and i'm getting tired of making up stories for his bedtime.  Can you suggest a few titles for me to purchase?  Full books preferred but shorts work too. 

Thanks",2.251071428571432,5.070163392857146,3.1228571428571428,86.92214285714287,84.71428571428572,6.057142857142857,27.642857142857146,7.447530270364453,1.881528571428572,234,11,43,4,7,74,46,56,0.034,0.81,0.156,0.726,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,8,6,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,9,6,3,7,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,26,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20315835194243914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997272664015452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595607472666155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080332179911523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889557570039495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35800132295291776,0.0,0.0,0.25833501276643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469264803199551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830878159561941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504069914069906
parenting,honeybee96-,2019/03/01,"Stepdaughter faking being sick so she doesn’t have to go to school... My fiancé normally takes his daughter to school but he had to leave really early this morning so I said I’d take her. She refused to get ready and said she felt really unwell. She doesn’t have a fever but claims her tummy hurts. I’m pretty sure she’s fine and just wants to stay home cause we’ve got a new puppy. Also she knows she can get her own way with me because I tend to give in to her a lot...

I rang her dad and he spoke to her but she still refused. So now she’s cuddled up in our bed with the puppy watching a movie because ‘it will make her feel better’ she also told me some pancakes will probably make her feel better...lol. This kid definitely scammed tf outta me and isn’t sick at all. She’s getting an Apple cider vinegar drink instead. ",1.4402941176470565,3.549314441176473,2.8864705882352943,92.17911764705885,81.05882352941177,5.411764705882354,20.0,6.522977012572876,0.1417058823529409,645,17,137,6,17,210,106,170,0.111,0.7979999999999999,0.092,-0.3182,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,6,0,10,5,0,3,2,25,31,12,0,2,4,2,3,0,0,2,3,4,2,1,3,6,1,2,4,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,7,8,28,3,15,21,4,11,0,1,1,1,33,4,0,2,4,82,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473369604439921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18853868138694416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735395032073505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15886163890686728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15149191480297453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638496354251447,0.0,0.1484821663945534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423847913396617,0.14834829138391747,0.08788755658910223,0.0,0.12368266306054042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155120201347492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554923804087116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849881120735331,0.0,0.0,0.16374530873545767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314725108887679,0.0,0.0,0.2064516897440035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935581191227906,0.0,0.0,0.15151795430152298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732819913475551,0.16673202264500225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981373788549707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942030702374725,0.0,0.0,0.3130152829170131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482956715400052,0.12349862782693467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574982082136406,0.0,0.2325455755980523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477686456618094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912128382256618,0.12274894042047885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tellmenowamirite,2019/03/01,"Leaving kids in a car alone My wife takes our preschool-aged kids to school/daycare in the morning on her way to work. She recently told me that she occasionally, once or twice a week, will stop at the gas station/convenience store to get herself a drink, biscuit, etc and leave the kids in the car with the car locked and take the key with her. I would assume that this would take roughly a minute, no more than 2 minutes tops. I knew she stopped there occasionally, but did not know she left the kids in the car. To get the kids out of their seats, into the store, and back in would obviously be a lot more effort, and I'm sympathetic to that aspect. However, I still think it's a terrible idea and asking for trouble.

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FWIW, in our state it is not illegal to do this unless the conditions present a risk to the child, the engine is running, or the keys are inside the vehicle.

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What say you, redditors?",7.6438857852265665,6.592303022346371,7.2627560521415315,78.41649286157667,63.46927374301676,10.637119801365612,34.972687771570456,9.725611199111238,3.0185786468032285,727,27,147,12,9,229,113,179,0.098,0.843,0.059,-0.4556,1,1,1,0,0,0,33.0,2,1,1,3,3,3,0,1,22,0,10,1,0,0,1,27,21,9,0,3,6,1,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,6,8,9,1,2,5,1,2,5,3,3,0,1,3,2,16,0,23,13,4,26,0,0,0,0,21,12,0,4,7,98,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608850081946054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305662009695409,0.3427899781912647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318656335545313,0.0,0.0,0.10846114845181493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817836558361324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731152300958315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473888748593113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923181204020356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751911008340605,0.0,0.0,0.298709791377004,0.15325463587782787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199183249971506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021697744197718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392729467512007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121711085434786,0.0,0.14275329562114664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264520992515505,0.23585346126689594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318163193081594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903811487048914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478230814237482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196140722415014,0.11314431078534412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026883568438892,0.0,0.0,0.30060028455345045,0.0,0.3427899781912647,0.0
parenting,MrMeeseeksSleep,2019/03/01,"Two-year old won't let dad leave the room She even gets mad if he goes to the bathroom, and then she apparently runs through the house crying and demanding that he come back and play. Evidently she also demands his attention all day long. Like, he cannot just leave her alone to play toys by herself. He has to be involved in all the playing, all day, until I get home from work. As you can imagine, he's very frustrated and exhausted! 

She doesn't do this with me. In fact, on Saturday mornings I am able to ignore her for awhile I take care of some house chores. She happily entertains herself. Yes, I stayed at home for the first year and a half and yes, she went through some separation anxiety with me, but never like that. 

What is going on and how do I help my SO out? ",3.3821397849462365,4.8210195096774235,4.216532258064518,87.83813172043011,73.25806451612901,8.005376344086022,26.46505376344086,8.59863814320734,1.6725376344086018,604,21,130,11,12,194,106,155,0.105,0.755,0.14,0.5785,1,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,2,6,11,2,0,6,2,11,1,0,1,5,25,18,15,0,1,3,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,4,11,0,1,2,5,0,4,4,4,0,2,1,0,20,7,21,14,5,23,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,3,13,86,24,1,0.16606020054549486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17198828662899274,0.0,0.13279828238033425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12703559889054686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769004393503616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693094417883399,0.0,0.0,0.14304615879490726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240933271293264,0.21419018306843174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968119630924802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125072175210515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351920180600008,0.0,0.09437583882882802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130665202684906,0.0,0.33314384173655626,0.0,0.0,0.3832223515203839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516675503551417,0.0,0.1698078059805763,0.0,0.16225725192360654,0.0,0.0,0.14695805187299935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807586394732098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425224614004198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699807876875626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485660436326285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622166864420749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701705668112998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15393946959163107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089380376456332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21387464930752015
parenting,espritcrafter,2019/03/01,"Elementary Lockdown Drill - AKA Someone is coming to kill you When I came back from work and picked up my kids, they told me that they had a lockdown drill. They didn't know it was a drill and thought they were going to die. My 2nd grader was in a room with some kindergarten kids and told me about how some of them just sat still in the dark and cried to themselves. My 3rd grade daughter said she asked the counselor if this was fake but was told to be quiet. She thought she was going to die that day. My son thought he was going to die that day. Their friends thought they were going to die.

All of them sat huddled in their dark rooms, anticipating the last moments of their lives. To them, they were just told that they were going to die. My daughter quietly cried to herself as she hugged her friend and they stayed as silent as they could. Every noise made convinced my daughter that they were just heard by the shooter and that the shooter now knows where they were.

When we have terrorists captured in military bases, we are not legally allowed to pretend that their life is about to be taken away. We are not allowed to pretend that they will be executed. Because that's inhumane. Yet here we are... Letting our kids huddle in the dark, told that someone wants to kill them, convinced that they are living their last moments.

Later that night, my daughter was reading a book when something was fell on the ground and made a thud. she flinched and covered her ears, looking around to see if she can spot any danger. I took a day off of work and my kids stayed home from school the next day. They are now afraid to go to school because they now believe that someone wants to go to their school and kill them. I don't know what was communicated to them, but their impression is that some murderer will one day walk into the campus and take their lives.

They do not really understand that this has a very remote chance of happening. They do not understand that this probably will not ever happen to them. All they understand is that their lives are now on the line when they attend school. I'm ashamed to admit that I kinda brushed it off at first when I heard them mention the drill, but after listening to them for a couple of minutes, I came to the understanding that, in their eyes, they came face to face with death today. They came face to face with their mortality.

I have no idea how to even begin talking to them about this. They're in 2nd and 3rd grade. It seems like I either lie to them and say that this has zero chance of this happening to them, or I tell them that there is a chance, however small, that someone may walk into their campus and attempt to take their lives. I don't want to lie to them, but they can't really comprehend the concept of the probability being just about zero. I've emailed the principal and hopefully they'll send some sort of materials home with the kids so that we can discuss what happened.",6.790827464788734,6.683173857394369,6.02017605633803,83.51558098591552,64.8274647887324,9.001408450704227,31.13028169014085,8.376592526197632,2.0594901408450705,2333,76,467,27,32,707,228,568,0.13,0.807,0.062,-0.9935,3,2,1,2,0,0,51.0,6,1,50,4,29,16,5,2,25,0,50,8,6,7,3,85,105,33,11,7,17,5,0,1,2,5,1,8,4,5,34,32,0,0,14,4,0,18,10,8,0,4,39,12,86,8,75,55,7,71,0,0,3,1,97,22,0,12,30,332,120,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04200472744565675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549870990559295,0.057745249663677674,0.0,0.05803357954416082,0.04749619690386754,0.0,0.07530706112502053,0.0,0.0,0.06959199599721014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825870319423573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320813052520698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04931715551802044,0.06834571809028989,0.13569968834914525,0.19917800159637772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205299787435639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04079754016848924,0.05587318355518105,0.05204266162219953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254029121146368,0.0,0.0,0.09544444636035354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24573140552630274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848687469945394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12391777006890635,0.06135010053537285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697291666737333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050132235271602,0.0,0.10183912771225392,0.100699213537987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316252027268834,0.04362894870858657,0.03017699011194985,0.0,0.2727137760737076,0.0,0.05187001940391035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168937779755212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569154634204298,0.05796559338908969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04185596339106591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331938733045045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178525855096712,0.0,0.07914102077525127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058756029347822376,0.049120824685652736,0.0,0.25005225315349444,0.04922153165522348,0.056231761779438186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093451445087607,0.04755244222095653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167409676958258,0.049328438314107964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092884514451305,0.049647215197751296,0.053988429233361904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19614929445168935,0.0,0.0,0.0585493564582871,0.29511244985258417,0.06862712415018084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572129270319488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096551698757535,0.10929806127500873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993647008188878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,markhallman3,2019/03/01,"Someone please help me. I’m beyond desperate. I have 2 daughters (twins). They’re almost 20 months old. They’re at the stage where they won’t leave any clothes on or their diapers. I’ve tried absolutely everything. Clothes inside out, pants under a onesie, inside out zip up pajamas, tape. I don’t know what else to do. I have really bad anxiety and I really can’t handle them doing this anymore and I don’t know what else to do. ",1.2182245989304832,3.820483164705884,3.1106951871657778,86.52358288770056,87.94117647058823,6.855614973262032,20.668449197860962,8.00094639256281,1.3775882352941178,339,11,66,8,11,113,60,85,0.118,0.818,0.064,-0.5059,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,12,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,9,0,9,11,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,2,2,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513433748655532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069073396464313,0.0,0.1920167055124544,0.0,0.24892765592860244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095771270556528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4193618100183976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255854262227613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824210544503618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758895091512853,0.0,0.0,0.26577607003297365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003483016617378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26338555904148203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755260591715005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32159806155903264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267413539561855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704146472951322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FromTheShadows13,2019/03/01,My daughter (3) is staying with me without her mother for the first time and I’m not sure how to handle an emotional meltdown that may come from the separation. Help me? For added detail I found out she was my daughter last October and visited twice before moving back first week of January to be by her to support her. Since then I see her minimum once a week for dinner but often more and she and her mother spent a whole weekend at my house two weeks ago which went great. Now it’s time to have her stay with me for the first time alone and I’m terrified I won’t know how to deal with her if she has a meltdown from being away from her mother. I’ve made great progress bonding with her in short time and she’s comfortable with me but she isn’t used to not having her mother there and I’m worried she will get angry with me for not being her mother or making her appear and don’t know how to proper console or comfort her...,5.376687291765826,5.121868277486912,5.885483103284153,83.79310804378869,67.79581151832461,8.620847215611613,28.35840076154212,8.00094639256281,1.6452680628272245,735,21,153,8,11,238,107,191,0.081,0.7859999999999999,0.134,0.8994,0,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,4,7,6,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,6,1,38,29,17,0,1,9,7,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,16,1,0,3,1,1,5,7,0,0,5,5,1,30,6,28,18,2,28,0,0,1,0,29,5,0,6,16,112,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260816512280855,0.0,0.0,0.14325293374703602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995177438044198,0.10635592552556017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769613015180895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914638089754917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259699756982758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558609214091204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35295276233301875,0.0,0.15165558372823065,0.0,0.0,0.07226403381113522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30498620597874193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270982786637448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959728191012326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202893969910702,0.11274542756765996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087727813164712,0.0923265346326132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700727105247802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473012769414976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021938378714008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441584280239893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29485140585078673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695855966885938,0.1303605303153174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226110474045897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13511394694964615,0.0,0.0,0.1194600071083563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328445640663561,0.0,0.0,0.12821966583127958,0.0,0.1544240893243029,0.0,0.13333101029738573,0.0,0.0,0.14046589785840796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,death_butnotforyou,2019/03/01,7 year olds 1st medical procedure My 7 year old is having her tonsils out this morning and I just wanna shout to the world how brave my little girl was. She stayed strong right up until they wheeled her away and then she broke down. Just wanna ask everyone to keep us in your hearts and send us good energy!,1.7671428571428578,4.3233383606557405,2.510210772833726,92.58672131147543,83.42622950819671,6.108665105386418,18.550351288056206,7.447530270364453,0.4462908665105387,244,6,50,4,7,76,50,61,0.041,0.782,0.177,0.8478,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,1,1,1,3,4,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,10,5,6,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,11,3,10,4,0,16,0,1,0,0,11,8,0,0,6,33,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025477157332,0.0,0.20355906400876603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20702777440641354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181724005436636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25674296911903965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19257723236846955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171500914079729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182620082418251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.454696139470217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850263307517814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23093057591096666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5212302533490092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790436838688445
parenting,textuality,2019/03/01,"I found a way to get a child to instantly memorize important numbers. (Phone, address etc.) We were having trouble getting our 6 year old to even attempt to memorize our address and phone number. I changed the lock screen code on his kindle  to our address told him once and has never forgotten it. Amazing how that works.",4.82677966101695,7.1047147288135655,5.212000000000003,78.71223728813561,71.20338983050848,8.109830508474579,35.52881355932203,8.841846274778883,3.487621016949153,255,14,42,5,5,81,46,59,0.097,0.823,0.08,-0.4599,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,4,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,1,8,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,8,1,6,4,1,5,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,0,3,28,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32785589979931684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456444460183312,0.20470025710802492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398129766959317,0.0,0.0,0.3238424307729089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390306010651934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252105263872828,0.33005632999508483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961433170290085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24600129625003175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22562657543959175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995793133888649
parenting,allygunz,2019/03/01,"Unaccompanied Minor Flying Sending 12 year old daughter from NY to HI for the first time unaccompanied on a non-stop flight this summer.  I'm a bit apprehensive.  Anyone here have any experience with this?  What should I know? Tips, tricks, etc...",4.119767441860469,7.28651446511628,5.0523720930232585,74.15716279069768,78.76744186046511,7.1609302325581385,22.55348837209302,8.238735603445708,1.6631525581395352,194,6,33,4,5,63,39,43,0.048,0.952,0.0,-0.2168,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,3,2,7,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415747057010815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483913726687751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3878289883862673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39618539480905535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474919128263512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021661169752653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952300673598458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727635790970388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969957155122549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071427211177162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22876227285449904
parenting,geneorama,2019/03/01,"Taking four olds to monster truck show. Do I need full ear muffs or are ear plugs enough? Never been to one of these shows. 

I was considering adult sizes ear muffs so that they could use them over time in other situations. The one pair I have (for me) seems to fit them. I just don't know how I'll keep them wearing them through the show. I suspect we'll be leaving early. ",2.0329135338345883,3.9876918026315806,2.61796992481203,95.63078947368422,78.34210526315789,5.395488721804512,20.06766917293233,6.18269132825596,-0.19560676691729287,291,7,66,2,7,90,58,76,0.031,0.934,0.035,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,9,4,4,2,1,11,15,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,12,0,8,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,4,43,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23297894181166906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015079023288069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25936567688813783,0.0,0.0,0.16036591432336186,0.0,0.0,0.3089745790423369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163663609003418,0.22505452157097797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061955209909459,0.0,0.39546311854077976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656442006431685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279959690748083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193976483462072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015120834970324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25202192823185743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Geneocrat,2019/03/01,"Taking four year olds to monster truck show. Do I need over the ear protection or are ear plugs enough? Never been to one of these shows. 

I was considering adult sizes ear muffs so that they could use them over time in other situations. The one pair I have (for me) seems to fit them. I just don't know how I'll keep them wearing them through the show. I suspect we'll be leaving early. ",2.4379670329670304,4.384886935897438,2.976227106227107,93.57115384615385,77.07692307692308,5.995604395604397,21.399267399267398,6.868970318607317,0.2537267399267398,303,8,67,3,7,94,59,78,0.03,0.935,0.034,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,9,4,4,2,1,11,15,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,12,0,9,10,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,5,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22897150203746466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296321705024305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25490436239532344,0.0,0.0,0.15760748157193494,0.0,0.0,0.3036599484253208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21264467191965788,0.22118338869478385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009286925816459,0.0,0.3886608100653969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610748900987644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223541540591335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156238185935584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672244600579167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476869325824032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18467773018186745
parenting,MrsCOL0SSUS,2019/03/01,"11 yr old with lying and empathy issue Can anyone advise how to handle this?  I'm open to books, websites, talks, strategies, anything.  My niece is driving my pregnant sister bananas.  She has been habitually lying forever and instead of growing out of it has only become more skilled and consistent.  My sister has tried being kind and talking about it, she has tried punishment and consequences, she has let things slide and she has spent a straight month just compiling consistent punishments to the point where there was nothing else to take away and she had weeks added on to her original punishment.  But she just won't stop lying.  She admitted that if she doesn't want to do something she just chooses not to do it, for example, her daily responsibilities.  How do you handle that attitude?  My sister has had many heart to hearts with her while my sister is crying and exhausted and my niece will just stone cold face or reply with what she knows she's supposed to say then go to her room and tell my daughter things like oh well I don't care.  Additionally, yesterday her teacher texted my sister asking her to address my niece's outburst in school yesterday.  During a Black History Month lesson my niece yelled out, ""they're ugly"" about the 4 Birmingham girls who were killed.  My poor sister is beside herself.  My kids, her cousins, are half black, and they are all very close.  I don't think she said it out of a racist point of view but I do feel like she has a hard time being empathetic due to past incidents I've seen her in as well.  I think maybe she did it to get attention and look cool, but how do you guide them away from this mean girl path? This is not the values my sister wants for her kids and she is only 11, she's worried that this will just keep escalating and become out of control.  I suggested taking her to therapy because I just don't know what will work.  I'm taking her for the summer to give my sister a little break.  Is there anything I can do while I have her to help guide her?  Nothing seems to be getting through to her.",4.6461082910321485,6.301476284263963,4.985807106598988,82.70872758037227,70.42131979695432,7.994450084602369,27.09272419627749,8.548686976883017,1.9011979018612528,1632,55,308,27,30,516,203,394,0.092,0.8370000000000001,0.071,-0.7634,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,2,2,4,17,12,4,0,9,1,43,4,3,5,1,58,69,26,1,3,13,10,2,2,0,4,1,3,2,4,17,24,0,3,11,1,2,4,7,5,2,1,9,12,57,7,43,52,2,37,0,0,5,0,61,17,0,3,17,211,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768453010287134,0.0,0.18285361368587294,0.0,0.10386460817082188,0.0,0.20876643655403326,0.0,0.0,0.06772624970713685,0.2454050548031982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327506016314452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460942340765956,0.0,0.0,0.12203943217299935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281078186728477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05617609613798462,0.07937070704624577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609156474927974,0.10657837799633647,0.06314136239753973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952483711053824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633108726171777,0.07446878078224124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596076963766318,0.0,0.09875183588305382,0.12291699753373543,0.11569478496400325,0.12211660881656765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360848654068408,0.0,0.10855685175862892,0.1113525722899592,0.0,0.0,0.09329701183349184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126391611330501,0.11161607093242504,0.12102175827570145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773598079633695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132091622342581,0.0,0.11658200190484405,0.0,0.0,0.16899491155184332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605865014952874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100530572596181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105682666564407,0.08835211967595165,0.0,0.11244032819705356,0.0,0.1011423439675605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553111827572521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288556343259792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25060278780014056,0.17859784426667585,0.09710733057248244,0.0,0.1270538848635558,0.0,0.1476213779784807,0.1423783034778397,0.0,0.0,0.06478399302425844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508608202201809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167011109950317,0.13106071205599565,0.0,0.08911866715915565,0.0,0.1997866117403876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088298413919523,0.11282864390682786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThePersnicketyBitch,2019/03/01,"My Son Hates His Godmother My friend D(27F) has severe PCOS and has been trying to conceive for 7 years, since she and her husband got married, with no luck. I named her and her husband as my son's godparents and I let them be involved with him as often as they want.

  


The problem is, my son (11 months) is TERRIFIED of D. If she tries to play with him or get him to smile he just stares at her with his lip quivering. If she picks him up he immediately begins wailing and hyperventilating, and it takes me a while to get him calmed down again. I know that right now is when babies begin to have separation anxiety, and it's not uncommon for them to have irrational fears of certain people. I've tried to explain that to her, but it seems personal to her because it's JUST her. He will gladly be held by a random stranger in the grocery store, on the street, in the park, etc. D is the only one he doesn't want touching him. She's kind of living vicariously through me, she spoils him like he's her own, so this is taking a serious emotional toll on her.  


  


I should mention, I know there's nothing malicious going on. My son has never been more than 10 feet away from me in his entire life, I don't do babysitters and he's never been around D alone, so he doesn't have any negative experiences with her, I'm positive of that.

  


I just don't know what to do. She's convinced he hates her and it's starting to break down the friendship, every time she sees him she leaves crying because he wants nothing to do with her, and I think she's growing to resent me a little over it too because I've started telling her ""no"" when she tries to pick him up. It takes forever to calm him down and I can't stand seeing my kid upset like that. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but he's made his very clear and I will respect what he wants (or doesn't want).

  


Do I let her keep trying and just power through the emotional aftermath? Do I tell her she needs to just back off for a while? Does my kid sense something that I'm unaware of? I'm just at a loss here, his first birthday party is coming up and I'm dreading it because of course she will be there and I'm anticipating it ruining his day.  


  


TLDR; My infant son hates his Godmother and she's getting increasingly upset. I'm in between a rock and a hard place because I don't want to hurt her feelings OR see my kid cry.",3.6683323226197686,4.553333793814434,4.814472407519709,85.95219981807158,71.88659793814433,7.767738023044269,27.254396604002427,8.027739517013583,1.5155639781685872,1850,63,397,25,34,610,217,485,0.108,0.75,0.142,0.9473,2,1,1,0,0,0,50.0,0,0,3,3,19,26,4,4,15,0,37,3,2,3,4,70,81,33,0,12,14,7,4,2,1,4,1,0,0,5,17,25,0,2,8,2,1,4,14,14,0,2,6,8,77,12,61,66,4,48,0,4,4,0,80,23,0,9,21,262,94,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243479367359557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06069221354835546,0.0,0.06827505292834207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945031336352881,0.0,0.0,0.08385214276717971,0.06862678323418883,0.0,0.2720260619124309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768798993999553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607113209785126,0.057558063304476874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781021865230587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20078567257717755,0.0,0.0,0.09953595314007686,0.0,0.0,0.07519592495596425,0.0,0.0,0.08730240742041816,0.0,0.1004296614732699,0.09025370382745262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591494500766376,0.0,0.0,0.06895336635622068,0.0,0.13988637190110378,0.0,0.05072212393587887,0.0,0.07138038202388898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994935381399967,0.2643440036051876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19108527521495755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793283937558971,0.0,0.09293884387118773,0.14714634429390766,0.0,0.0,0.09450154454093093,0.0,0.18252579658334192,0.06303903472144963,0.08720486666604703,0.08945069852484361,0.07880828536005785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444932947776991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123750438042681,0.0,0.0,0.0661768206146858,0.1376682830043662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127317404117848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06047726584321375,0.06787769952046109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06187384892262264,0.07792856996777417,0.0932459528513086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539900477447379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621794871889204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21335910684773546,0.08124871417230915,0.0,0.10082568896718724,0.0,0.07382749201566782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687080515342933,0.0,0.0,0.12634145562963384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20131186877859902,0.0,0.15601469050885522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05718699819394892,0.0,0.0,0.05204166648399063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30297022940759805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363956937023516,0.3684885944274017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057473271779837076
parenting,Pi1grimMonk3y,2019/03/01,"Toddler is really hurting me and i am at a lost as how to stop him My ds is almost two and over the past week has been increasing in strength at pulling/pinching my hair and face as well as knocking his head as hard as he can into mine.  He thinks it's hilarious even when I'm very stern and remove him from my lap and hold him away until he's calmed down. Nothing I do seems to be working and he's actually ripping hair out and is knocking my face enough to bruise. 
Am I raising a gremlin? 
We have firm boundaries and routines, we are very affectionate and loving and practice peaceful attachment parenting. He is an angel and an absolute delight except for this behaviour and it's only ever with me. 
Has anyone experienced this? What am I doing wrong? Please help!!!

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parenting,micahhorner,2019/03/01,"The Momo Challenge Isn't Real Earlier this week, ""Momo"" was the top new trending search team on Google for the US, Australia, Canada and the UK.

However, to the best of everyone's knowledge, there's almost no evidence to prove it's actually a real thing.

From a recent [article](https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2019/02/momo-challenge-hoax/583825/?fbclid=IwAR0bmD9CWl4D83HuxLEG3RZdNl6f6ANYJnxBVNdGku4klI6_oSNBgfEAQos) in The Atlantic:

> “Momo” itself is an innocuous sculpture created by the artist Keisuke Aisawa for the Japanese special-effects company Link Factory. The real title of the artwork is Mother Bird, and it was on display at Tokyo’s horror-art Vanilla Gallery back in 2016. After some Instagram photos of the exhibit were posted to the subreddit r/creepy, it spread, and the ""Momo challenge"" urban legend was born.

> These trends are “part of a moral panic, fueled by parents’ fears in wanting to know what their kids are up to,” Benjamin Radford, a folklorist and research fellow at the Committee for Skeptic Inquiry, told Rolling Stone. And spreading them can actually end up causing harm.

> The problem is, these stories are only ever a distraction. They offer false reassurance and an easy fix to the wrong problem. If you can protect your child from the Momo challenge, the thinking goes, you can protect them from bad things on the internet. Unfortunately, maintaining kids’ safety online is a much more complicated and delicate task.""",13.175660809778455,12.52743474789916,10.796080977845687,56.19677998472115,52.36134453781514,13.02429335370512,46.846447669977074,11.911945987284742,6.037810084033612,1202,60,152,26,11,362,156,238,0.121,0.772,0.107,-0.7679,2,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,1,3,4,6,3,14,1,3,27,0,15,0,0,1,2,23,19,8,0,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,10,7,0,2,5,2,0,0,2,9,0,0,5,0,8,5,29,14,5,20,1,0,0,0,18,11,0,3,8,106,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.30075513046992075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430703754742628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849196525002036,0.12866551836091564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617165010669244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830124808672927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648522192833615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393905987384313,0.0,0.14724738582146715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340326030950484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468831309025063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327987082984993,0.0,0.0,0.14882895327915766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719858681680012,0.0,0.1808009764356329,0.17110775901574946,0.16687327942895475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758343080176514,0.0,0.0,0.2949022358105251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5261922923966901,0.0,0.0,0.1521533323431729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475192683797613,0.09873987215205178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724738582146715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853611005498134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089108127053963,0.0,0.12360824067588196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684821360236278,0.0,0.0
parenting,purpleMazzee,2019/03/01,"2 Yr old STRONG & Tall hits for everything! So my child is 2 and everyone always thinks he’s much older due to his height (and strength).
Problem is he hits for everything, esp when frustrated and mainly towards me! He has taken a nap every day of his life yet he swings at me hitting me in the face while I put him in his crib. He’s getting really heavy and I’m  literally starting to flinch and dread putting him to nap/ bed/ even time outs.
We’ve tried spankings, we tried time outs, warnings, he’s persistent! We started daycare and ofc he’s an angel there and naps no prob. WTF!! Ready to just leave him at daycare. He only goes 2x wk but getting beat up everyday is no fun and thinking of increasing it to everyday.

TL;DR 2yoboy beats up on mom. Nothings working. Help me please I’m losing my sanity.",1.7072569444444454,4.20628565625,3.142916666666668,88.36152777777781,83.0625,6.305555555555558,24.51388888888889,7.594959193182576,1.4134097222222233,635,25,125,11,18,207,109,160,0.12,0.7909999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.3111,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,7,6,7,1,1,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,17,16,12,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,12,0,0,2,3,0,3,2,4,0,0,1,0,15,3,19,12,3,28,1,1,0,0,19,12,0,0,13,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078767223262632,0.1963493397211184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687044704428755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969260459447564,0.0,0.15268375725262973,0.17316131132040455,0.3257336297330237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18935757367886594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146642759275968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188341516027368,0.0,0.0,0.1279994451891703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273629130989024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122400205522396,0.0,0.0,0.13321588610670665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388330381270567,0.0,0.1901575283527493,0.0,0.0,0.13782425314294913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989226539203472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340089801724975,0.0,0.36434775188314944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609272112650156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565336905370279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322340141534205,0.0,0.0,0.2113390367128851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460698926902377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131928669077563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jwink3101,2019/03/01,"Does anyone have experience with CIO middle of the night? At our doctors suggestion, we did CIO on our 5 month old. It was painful but it really works...for bedtime. Our baby falls asleep within seconds!

But, even now, 1.5 months in, a few times a week she wakes up 1-3 hours later and cries for 15-60 minutes.  We asked the doctor and got a cursory answer but nothing I’ve read online talks about middle of the night waking. 

We are at wits end since we can’t find any resources or even other forum threads about it. They all focus on going to bed but that’s not the problem. 

Thanks!",2.8445689655172437,4.711777077586209,3.785724137931037,88.58168965517244,75.63793103448276,6.019310344827588,21.944827586206888,6.742157984588678,0.508226896551724,455,12,91,4,10,146,91,116,0.081,0.894,0.025,-0.7435,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,7,0,5,6,3,0,1,17,9,7,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,5,7,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,0,9,1,14,6,2,22,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,1,11,54,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637626640696292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994230581583527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373351760643513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413440354231646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804262970636863,0.16262815530925426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16459737836588487,0.0,0.0,0.2454885970514672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817853008333873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985263750255428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056160629590566,0.0,0.14863168844047228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301307362478786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29666836338322833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34879289632599364,0.0,0.17831664892028473,0.0,0.1950058026235214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977448186581247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782194366118706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858883694641724,0.0,0.11905263208946608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537271793802086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936960851161493,0.0,0.17109473504735595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836367835889092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906809742634478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saynothingnice,2019/03/01,"6 month old constantly crying recently Greetings,

This past week our 6 month old has been constantly irritable and crying.She's barely sleeping, mostly crabby when she is awake. It doesn't appear she's teething, brought her into the doc and no ear infection or other issues they noticed. She's been a bit feverish and had a runny nose/cough but nothing the doctor was too concerned about. Doc visit was just today. A bit more background is she has acid reflux and has been on a med about 3 months. 

Anyone else have similar experience or insights into what could be the issue? Any help is appreciated.",5.273963963963965,7.438496576576577,5.8037837837837865,75.41936936936938,69.72072072072072,7.816216216216216,28.54954954954956,8.515128840125781,2.3871333333333333,484,18,78,8,9,156,80,111,0.053,0.855,0.092,0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,7,0,16,5,3,0,0,14,18,8,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,7,2,7,0,5,9,4,18,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,4,12,52,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915624188882912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223637292424417,0.1644673962877148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35048334009086424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34692109059089765,0.0,0.12815879745818154,0.0,0.17631905866835493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16429471325506478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134090346060576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701524371438075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759035087193616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350735640262071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829685759627464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843665177994037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154019230158833,0.1827482914223451,0.33686864102080444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323048481160184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584899783899096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606317131251826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521502008140489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875608500870475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunnysunnysunsun,2019/03/02,Book suggestions for 9 yo girl upset about dad traveling for work My husband has to go away for a few weeks for work and it's taking a horrible toll on my daughter. She loves to read and I thought a good book that deals with being separated from a loved one might help her through it. Any suggestions would be much appreciated!,4.251562499999999,5.9583297812500025,4.889500000000002,82.80550000000002,71.5,8.870000000000003,28.425,9.3871,2.397816250000001,262,10,53,6,5,84,51,64,0.084,0.6859999999999999,0.23,0.8932,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,4,0,5,2,0,0,0,6,10,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,3,12,5,2,5,0,0,0,2,12,2,0,1,1,34,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771784901025341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24478916122434935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686088712112433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14807285495679753,0.21853149640758607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746367920627575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4703012975538251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27639544222146817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152942473513274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655099429011542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606139710064218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958962600778746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684240762298509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20899225127766569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37935749005576336,0.0,0.0,0.1850826016423095,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsjagermanjensen,2019/03/02,"Flying with small kids At the end of the month we’re taking a short family vacation and we’ll be taking a 2.5 to 3 hour flight. My son will turn 1 right before we leave and I l’m not sure how to keep him entertained. We’re taking and early morning flight so I’m hoping he’ll sleep at least some of the way, but not sure how to occupy him if it’s awake as he likes to wander around now that he’s starting to walk. Any suggestions?",3.4887096774193544,3.7233444838709673,4.792634408602151,88.30895161290327,71.90322580645163,8.350537634408601,20.876344086021504,8.344100000000001,0.7116537634408595,339,5,78,5,6,113,66,93,0.057,0.856,0.087,0.5522,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,5,0,3,1,1,2,2,17,12,9,0,2,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,5,12,8,2,14,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,3,7,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810887341900966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388477890469674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853285108237752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929027733656049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053188585641212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632075309124726,0.21448536917707314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19358725514212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306147111797489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640421401233556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384283587812344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859967508034452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21795347343092314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415725976540776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4105406511220631,0.0,0.4912668750649268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236899706042901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287647298904962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,danger_moose2,2019/03/02,"Need advice about one child’s snoring. For reference our eldest (child one, f) is six, child two,f, is four, child three,m, is one.

We live in a small three bedroom semi in the UK. The eldest and youngest are mine biologically but the middle child is a step-daughter who stays once a week.

The girls share a bedroom. My step-daughter snores, with varying degrees of loudness, all night without fail. Her mother and my partner claim she has enlarged tonsils, which is why this happens.

We’ve lived together as a family for two years and this has never been a problem, until recently. 

For the last four weekends my eldest has been waking me in the night to say that the middle child’s snoring is keeping her awake. 

We only have a small house so our options are limited. And the littlest is still in a cot. 

I’ve been taking the eldest downstairs and setting her up on a couch in the living room, however a few times the middle child has woken up and got upset because she does not want to sleep alone. 

I don’t know what to do here. Has anyone dealt with children snoring in a small space? Is there anything I can do to encourage my eldest to sleep through or to stop the middle ones snores? I have little influence over whether the middle child goes to the doctors or not because she is not biologically mine and never with us in the weekdays, so her mother would have to take her.

When they’re older I was thinking of putting the two youngest in the same room as he is a much better sleeper than my eldest who we’ve always had problems with. However he is too young right now as he is in a cot.

Any advice or experience is welcome.",5.9523857449265805,6.140669561128532,6.198020128691637,80.52973436726614,66.55485893416929,8.220491668041577,31.8364956277842,7.669130373188453,2.1002564263322885,1286,48,245,12,19,412,165,319,0.05,0.88,0.07,0.8477,2,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,5,0,0,3,9,8,0,1,30,0,33,4,3,1,3,39,43,19,0,5,9,2,0,0,1,1,1,2,5,11,7,13,0,3,3,1,0,1,7,4,0,10,7,2,25,4,38,35,4,46,0,1,0,0,35,26,0,4,17,172,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23046445326156714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213185434835128,0.0,0.0,0.0981207319122988,0.0,0.0,0.08019115195238632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245395664060366,0.0,0.09703993777440248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376857913378954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429261895698906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069838689599433,0.10319452761916817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535055668520085,0.1111665723040516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431317011920333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427822791668613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606640701027345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481468554033736,0.0,0.0,0.06480696707005415,0.0961223465234683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818904169540212,0.3123824367378011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668639852049681,0.08743783044607499,0.18189776836251825,0.0,0.0,0.22132402661050304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558331358513888,0.31962858702024893,0.08968516055337064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256712737292461,0.0,0.11854439940627964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643396401407564,0.0,0.0,0.10070492983990817,0.0,0.093776480789926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360147599935261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568939431762244,0.09417283560613993,0.09858825443968786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773256646415496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555979579189466,0.0,0.0,0.06876139361020528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34557861659764744,0.0,0.1418459088516626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955357942463943,0.0,0.09459009030599527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640646010035862,0.0,0.0,0.11367281006973283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376856030013742,0.0,0.0,0.07593804214811993
parenting,lovelysolorio1897,2019/03/02,How to explain to your kid momo isn’t real? Okay my kid was watching a video on her tablet when it stopped halfway and momo popped out. She screamed in terror and threw her tablet and started crying uncontrollably. It’s been a week and a half since then and she still doesn’t want to sleep with the lights off because she’s scared momo will pop out. I’ve tried to explain she isn’t real and she still refuses to sleep with no light. Last time I turned off all lights on her she screamed so loud she scared me. It’s driving me nuts she doesn’t want to sleep away from me and wants the lights on. How can I make her get over this fear? Yes I am a first time mom first kid so I don’t know how to deal with this.,1.7828578706062146,3.3801378410596037,2.22476821192053,99.80035150280183,77.87417218543047,5.175955170657159,19.562404482934284,5.369823440869387,-0.5693977585328578,558,12,135,2,13,170,82,151,0.192,0.762,0.046,-0.9709,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,2,8,8,0,5,6,2,10,3,3,4,1,27,21,14,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,3,5,12,0,2,3,1,0,2,6,7,0,3,3,8,21,1,21,17,1,24,0,0,1,0,21,10,0,0,12,84,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825830329866088,0.0,0.0,0.09619342108914823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733359006184688,0.0,0.16268488072578174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756888159945444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684492147826821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244399196113178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672275834456128,0.1286280689552404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105332731617833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481346384290104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592219150526619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159706757057615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053379844363974,0.0,0.4737419120665638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11169165885206253,0.0,0.2520385827056277,0.13192787368282602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18402890896119534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713584812422387,0.17164109682387502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27922360202053564,0.0,0.12657764919826855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_MedullaOblongata_,2019/03/02,"When should I let my son stop seeing me naked? Should I be concerned about how attached my 10-year old is? He's relatively shy and doesn't like to be alone in the evening, often walking into the bathroom while I am showering or taking baths. I bring up this concern since unlike most of you, I grew up in an unconventional family environment where my dad was a professional boxer. Once mom passed away, I had to attend him after his fights and mend his wounds. Even as a teenager, I remember seeing him change in the locker and feel like it had an impact on how I view the male form. I am unsure if it is healthy or not. Since I don't feel comfortable talking about this to my friends, how should I go about this. Also, English isn't my first language. Thanks.

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parenting,JoltNation,2019/03/02,"Baby name regret It’s only been three weeks and I’m rocking a bad case of baby name regret. I’m wishing that Ethan Christian “Jolt” was Evan Christian instead. Am I a terrible parent or will I get used to it? Also, anyone have a clue what it takes to change a newborn’s name in Missouri?",1.5283615819209049,3.7131391525423725,3.4450000000000003,87.87789548022602,81.20338983050847,4.611299435028251,23.39265536723164,5.46131890053228,0.4725231638418075,226,8,43,1,6,76,43,59,0.215,0.753,0.033,-0.8924,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,11,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,2,0,4,8,0,2,2,2,0,0,5,1,0,1,1,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27747812832174995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426150389706167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897120814675382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670566463567637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18128164943849828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26389235409992484,0.0,0.0,0.3852779334448088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608842243012165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996775295873476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783247691296623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3990075000178174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CoddledStachybotrys,2019/03/02,"22 Questions About Childbirth For Mothers That Have Given Birth Prior The 1990's And Mothers That Have Given Birth After I hope this is the appropriate place for this, but if it's not could anyone be able to point me in the correct direction? Please and thank you!

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I have an assignment in my early childhood education class to interview two women (one that has given birth before and the other after the year 1995) and unfortunately I can't interview myself and my own daughters haven't given birth yet. These questions are to study and discuss the differences in childbirth regarding time and generations, and your answers are strictly personal to my class assignment. If it would be more convenient, please feel free to message me your answers. Thank you for your time!

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Background Questions for Each Interview:

1. Age when giving birth?

2. Married or not? Length of relationship between mother and father.

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Describe the events leading up to the delivery:

3. Did you participate in childbirth classes? Why or why not? If so, did it help?

4. Did you give up or start any habits during your pregnancy? Why or why? (Consider diet, exercise, work, or social habits at a minimum.)

5. Were any prenatal tests conducted?

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Describe the events during the delivery?

6. Where did the delivery take place? (City, name of hospital)

7. Was your due date accurate?

8. Describe the physical environment of the room(s) in which you had your baby? What did you like or dislike about it? (Consider smell, color, furniture, lighting, etc.)

9. Did you get a doctor that you knew? How did you feel about it? How did the doctors and nurses contribute or detract from the birth experience?

10. Who was present in the room during the birth? What role did each person play before, during and after the birth?

11. Was any medication used? was this discussed ahead of time? Was the decision changed as birth progressed?

12. Did you have a vaginal or cesarean birth? Was there anything unusual about the birth from the point of view of the parent? Did they conduct an APGAR scale test or any other tests after the baby was born?

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Describe the events following the delivery:

13. What was your initial reaction to the newborn? What is your first memory of the baby?

14. Did you know ahead of time if it was a boy or a girl? Why did you want to know or not?

15. How soon were you able to hold the baby?

16. When and what did you name the baby? How was the name chosen?

17. If you stayed in a hospital, describe your experience after the birth. (How long you stayed, treatment by medical staff, if you wanted to leave to go home or not, etc.)

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Describe the time since leaving the hospital:

18. How quickly did you adjust to life at home? What helped your adjustment? What hindered it?

19. Who lived in the home when the baby came from the hospital? Describe the role of that each person played and how each person adjusted.

20. Was there any support from people or organizations outside the home?

21. What was the opinion of the parent on immunizations for the baby?

22. Overall, was the birth experience as you expected it to be? Was life with a newborn as you expected it to be? Why or why not?",2.92107644932387,5.966138752577318,3.6588231356272622,82.29307872539835,85.01374570446734,6.665988307225421,26.11514258936939,7.8686543518927445,2.1529466863033875,2542,108,428,53,77,804,249,582,0.013,0.917,0.07,0.9877,2,0,0,0,0,0,132.0,0,30,1,6,21,8,0,0,51,0,49,9,0,9,1,82,73,48,0,13,27,7,2,1,0,1,8,0,5,9,31,19,1,1,14,3,1,4,8,0,0,3,38,6,40,9,63,29,8,71,0,0,2,0,69,19,0,25,47,302,71,16,0.10897751092658256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542312626758871,0.3972588118763367,0.18527111107039826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038099804746602066,0.0,0.044839603003435466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273183522557578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06232062027992059,0.0,0.0,0.057641878329022185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04350483744705279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056929152118716964,0.0,0.1115431002058836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153873158717787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990137524657536,0.0,0.0,0.055102303932310255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04634810756148193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02846812578912405,0.10454115861916978,0.030967215423650843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304532842674774,0.0,0.21862665788496904,0.05411962882118136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989118999712459,0.0,0.0,0.11539144896086205,0.0,0.0,0.07697403881532905,0.026620453586014,0.0,0.04811456935436341,0.048220833923874114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978337724290342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03692299088200142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100662926505025,0.0,0.0,0.0377756422641035,0.1903099181650857,0.11385830423743393,0.1196245816650506,0.1030189724700732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831196293691898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585005315200995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04507366159049693,0.0,0.0,0.055544424264045655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038567421569002815,0.1161555267285238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061833193978776985,0.0,0.0,0.04096876289910819,0.0,0.0,0.10033185047084928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588641574880458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05322759656180251,0.0,0.0,0.04706078985319954,0.0,0.0,0.06427775945444647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441733863530652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03966846293522151,0.0,0.0,0.0387072485223534,0.0,0.3972588118763367,0.03508897203433736
parenting,mawema,2019/03/02,"Are toddler beds necessary? We have a 21 month old.  He sleeps in his crib sometimes and other times (sick, teething or just needs comfort) on a mattress on the floor of his room with me (his mom). He also sleeps on this mattress alone for naps.

He is one inch shorter than the maximum height for his crib so I started researching toddler beds. 

But then I started thinking - why not just make his floor mattress his ""toddler bed"" until he's mature enough to not roll out of a regular bed?  Is there some benefit of a toddler bed that we'd be missing if we used a floor mattress instead? It would be great to not spend the extra money on the toddler bed if it isn't necessary. ",4.743333333333332,5.701285454545456,5.058787878787879,84.91651515151518,69.45454545454545,7.684848484848485,32.84848484848485,7.793537801064563,2.2634030303030306,528,24,103,6,9,167,82,132,0.032,0.889,0.079,0.8042,0,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,9,0,9,4,3,2,0,20,16,9,0,4,9,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,11,0,5,5,0,0,1,1,2,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,12,3,16,12,3,19,0,1,0,0,14,12,0,4,7,69,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416911371010262,0.0,0.18661833606612352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411238145525232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572808144135306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576996963537065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27330903897438125,0.18626615318407894,0.0,0.0,0.17303388030023698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448726267204706,0.0,0.1581311383895342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670581317201721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307995367931342,0.0,0.33034757649756824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952800857322676,0.0,0.0,0.13607440498610668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154857705811347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105715865346461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577262910058652,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Worriedmama505,2019/03/02,"16 year old son with a life limiting disability is dating and I can't help but worry. Is this normal? My oldest has a disability that is severely life limiting. He is wheelchair bound and doesn't have much use of his muscles. Although he is extremely bright and all there cognitively, he relies on us for day to day things that many take for granted. 

He started dating a girl in his AP History class a few weeks ago and I have been worried sick. I want him to have a normal high school experience and that includes dating but I can't help but wonder of she has some motive behind asking him out. Since they started dating she has only been over our house once and they have never officially gone out on a date but my son says they are dating. I'm worried that she's doing this as some sort of status symbol kind of thing. Like, ""look at how great I am for dating a kid in a wheelchair."" I haven't expressed that to my son and won't but it is in the back of my mind. I don't want him to get hurt by someone who is using him. 

Am I crazy?",2.0951770782095416,3.9102265747663587,3.8007624200688666,87.87392277422529,77.64485981308411,6.374422036399411,21.543531726512548,7.273561745256523,0.6328261682242989,813,22,171,10,19,272,119,214,0.119,0.784,0.097,-0.7120000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,3,3,3,5,0,0,9,0,26,3,0,4,2,33,39,15,0,4,5,3,0,1,0,1,3,1,0,2,11,10,0,3,2,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,3,3,26,4,25,35,5,29,0,1,2,0,29,10,0,4,19,119,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337954182801746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301196475641242,0.0,0.0,0.10702505293097538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17952625728484306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13615012003822172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727186755737821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345249771836958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865862044938109,0.14705711547300368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060137185272055,0.14900094926802934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494027281905567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19662166022724514,0.0679990014898638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11688075959997934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411122441673878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053767089720148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231735245505737,0.0,0.10734843293746688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727444630884151,0.0,0.0,0.14605176168603584,0.14822800782900727,0.0,0.10585683958433112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068589075954133,0.0,0.140863149966662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15723998984028476,0.0,0.11513567835133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793141678922713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703241706660288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465016910448033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493731419945225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674230109681147,0.2404231550001208,0.0,0.0,0.16419042022651262,0.0,0.11164620717638687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094073021558618,0.0,0.4240488739768479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963089430205176
parenting,Orange_Penguin,2019/03/02,"Show of hands: how many dads take their kids to do things without mom so she can have free time? Maybe it’s just because I’m on my period and I’m exhausted and all-around irritable, but I’m at the end of my rope here. I always take my two girls (7&3, oldest not his) places by myself so my SO can have some free time. Damn near every weekend I’m going somewhere or doing something with them alone. There are times I will be gone and he has the house to himself for the entire day.

He never has. Not once. He’ll watch them for a couple hours if I want to hang out with a friend after work, but that’s it. I’m exhausted. I just want him to help pick up the slack sometimes. I want him to understand that I value space too, and I would appreciate a little bit of alone time. And I want him to realize just how much I do to accommodate him.

Today I dropped him off at friend’s “diaper party” where it’s just them getting drunk and smoking pot (which to be fair he does not do often at all) and I spent the whole day entertaining and herding the kids, just like every other weekend. I’m so tired and angry and I just needed a little “woe is me, life ain’t fair” moment. Thanks for reading.",0.9395951417004048,3.080625327935228,2.6858502024291475,92.72691295546558,83.17004048582996,5.419433198380567,18.406882591093108,6.67199483983844,-0.035466396761133716,924,22,203,10,26,305,141,247,0.118,0.708,0.174,0.9243,0,2,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,4,1,17,11,1,0,10,0,17,6,1,3,2,42,37,20,0,7,14,2,1,1,2,3,4,0,0,3,8,13,1,0,2,6,3,3,6,4,0,1,2,2,30,9,27,30,5,33,0,1,1,0,24,13,1,4,17,132,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27152881341574336,0.0,0.0,0.10907312449231807,0.14203041706450634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669333838341435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990812861016768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311074265802454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504293088921572,0.0,0.16907781161670124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471326536773058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610229918314807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088933685611406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025517124410902,0.0,0.06848644156922437,0.0,0.0744985604385551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786343460507083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290922057165439,0.15125435636088774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258913022098617,0.06404145297690474,0.262762982037123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289949780598415,0.13169238499987326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15352503186223745,0.0,0.0,0.09636247257172877,0.09719778052723148,0.10110074367980204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960112332909275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369558038012295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112035744713965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091554794341276,0.12964630212349815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19711903812966208,0.0,0.0,0.12068534939221587,0.0,0.0,0.08708697224579644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30574660010546145,0.1506627908108055,0.124253142693864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805088430488845,0.13646398721724806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30926904353917145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635159169262846,0.0,0.1263611504163016,0.0,0.09543135677698518,0.0,0.0,0.09311894059581398,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TerminologicalCut,2019/03/02,"Nightly phonr calls My ex and I compared very well for the most part. I have our son 4 nights out of the week. His father wants to talk to him each of those nights. Sometimes its not convenient, or my son just doesnt feel like it. But its not usually an issue, we do it anyway. I have to be there monitoring bc my son is 5 and will walk away from the phone, get distracted, or just not hokd it so his dad can see his face. Calls are between 5-15 minutes long. Tonight when ex called son asked for 30 minutes bc he didnt feel like talking right then. Ex called exactly 30 minutes later and  said son is walking all over me and requested that I be more involved in monitoring. Some  nights I have waljed away to brush teeth, do dishes or just my nightly routine. 
I'm not legally obligated for these phone calls, but I really dont mind 98% of the time. I'm becoming resentful of the fact that we dont seem to have an option to not have phone calls certain nights. 
Am I wrong to feel resentful. Are these phone calls necessary for my son? I dont get the feeling they are, I feel like I'm doing it more for his dad. Ex is willing to call me the nights son is with him but I am usually busy. My son and I are very close and I dont feel like our relationship is negatively affected by not taljing to him every night. In fact I feel like forcing him to phone talk sometimes makes him resentful too.
Set me straight please, I'm not sure whats right here.",2.8925226145316607,4.191962238255034,3.9556609279252974,89.77943244820543,74.26845637583892,7.598716078202512,25.70819959147943,8.18289091462,1.3378069448497234,1129,38,253,18,23,366,142,298,0.122,0.846,0.032,-0.9745,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,1,0,10,13,3,1,9,0,30,3,2,2,6,49,49,15,0,1,16,15,7,5,0,2,0,1,0,0,12,12,1,0,8,0,0,2,14,5,1,0,2,10,36,8,29,43,7,30,0,0,1,0,51,10,0,7,22,154,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334036104094598,0.0,0.12731325614608127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482839942429212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5534710557201361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31762631232386496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057085232047327523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239807379216138,0.2420155108136573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079679743203861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071703388468513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550464843017754,0.0,0.0,0.05995970083525357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522597636239351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841170400569632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5086564362750774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733704201207486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437297891303801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0434046164684481,0.0,0.0,0.07274188526449021,0.0,0.11572220945050465,0.06444907821680834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399075429041355,0.061680226751508034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401985530191018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385685638575944,0.0,0.0,0.16337305078522174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03950760109817094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924177990908294,0.11180743924160542,0.039962760010884564,0.0,0.054347757650662194,0.0,0.06091851854854648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407779810642219,0.0,0.0
parenting,packetmon,2019/03/02,"I won't eat that! (Eerily Familiar Ad) For those of you not picking up any Canadian TV advertisements I want to put this ad before you. Whoever wrote the ad ***definitely*** has kids:

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmLTKu0Wtpw](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmLTKu0Wtpw)",10.59843956043956,11.512664228571436,6.02571428571429,56.65659340659343,135.28571428571428,7.934065934065932,22.69230769230769,7.010146845296331,3.0571538461538466,228,7,26,6,13,61,31,35,0.0,0.941,0.059,0.2387,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,15,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588065923147938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4489743922319195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5398973621067389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5304140288971784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31120993038569983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProfMamaByrd,2019/03/02,"Lost my kid at the mall today My two year old has a habit of running off, but she usually stops a few feet away and waits for me. Today at the mall she ran out of the kids play area and disappeared. Like poof! Another parent saw her and we started looking. After a few minutes I called mall security. Eventually I found her in Dave and Busters' (another parent was holding her). I don't know how long we were looking but it felt like forever. I'm glad she was fine but I feel like the worst mama in the world today. ",1.33044155844156,3.5550071523809557,3.1917748917748945,89.18064935064936,82.23809523809524,6.484848484848484,22.87878787878788,7.686295010490155,1.0931904761904767,401,14,85,7,11,134,70,105,0.097,0.7140000000000001,0.189,0.8977,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,1,9,0,0,8,0,5,1,1,1,0,18,17,8,0,0,3,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,4,4,4,0,3,1,2,0,1,8,5,15,7,11,9,3,22,0,1,3,0,13,9,0,0,13,52,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577710310813678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602812162373532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419830551896115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625881785487326,0.12187431724158684,0.16379958604195138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18705047718690404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375548534993858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25003479272782003,0.0,0.0,0.15097271197078085,0.2865165258326848,0.0,0.18622645141307934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901254018729698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788548952809102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074922298492148,0.0,0.0,0.1426264808042104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4851171754401705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16664818815261834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878881643700029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10985868217571453
parenting,WoodchuckChucksLogs,2019/03/02,"I feel like I'm going crazy sometimes. First, let me say I'm on mobile so please forgive the formatting.

I (33f) have 2 sons. 4 and 6. 1y 10m apart - I was pregnant within 3 weeks of first son's 1st birthday and totally planned it. My mom had 2 kids and she's a fantastic mom so I thought I'd be the same. Fast forward to now.

We have our own business. It's my husband and myself with a helper when available and/or needed. 6 year old is starting 1st grade in one week. 4 year old is starting preschool. I've been a SAHM since my first was born. The work I do for the company is from home also. I do not have any other activities, do not participate in social media outside of reddit and also do not live in my native country. I'm 2 hours outside of a major city, half an hour from the nearest grocery store (though we have 2 mini markets in our mountain town). I've literally been with my children every day of their lives, except for the 2 days I was in the hospital having our second. They're with grandparents maybe 3 or 4 times a year but never together - only one at a time - and only for a few hours. And I've had it up to HERE!

I feel like I'm a walking live wire. I tell me kids not to do something, they do it right away again and I can't take it.

Im an angry person. Was verbally abused by former stepfather (who physically abused my mom and I knew it but it was her cycle to break, so I was mad at my home life) and dad passed away at 16. Wasn't allowed to grieve because of step dad. As in, my dad passed away May 23rd and 3 weeks later when I was crying my eyes out on Father's Day, my step dad came and told me to get over it, that my dad was a lousy piece anyways, not worth grieving. And sure, my dad lived off of disability, couldn't afford child support payments, etc., but he loved me and my mom's decision prior to step dad being in the picture, was that money or lack thereof, wouldn't be a factor in our father/daughter relationship.

And now, lo and behold, I act like the same asshole my step dad was to me. I'm conscious of it and I try to reset everyday. But after 6.5 years almost, of always being with my kids, I'm on edge. And by always I really mean that. Grocery shopping, errands, hair cuts, parties, personal Dr's appts, meetings. Literally always with me no matter what.

And individually my kids are wonderful. But together they're awful. They feed off of each other. They antagonize. They pick fights and encourage the other to do things they know are wrong.

And I'm really looking for someone to tell me that it's okay for me to want to be alone sometimes. That 6.5 years really is a long time. My husband tells me that in one week when they start school I'll have alone time finally. And I will. 4 hours a day. And the other side... Anyone else out there feel like I do? Is this normal to feel stretched thin and triggery? If so, hi! You're not alone either! 

BTW, my kids are great. I'm totally biased and in love with each of them completely. It's not their fault that I've got a shit attitude.

Thank you. ",1.636498169491528,3.5896586208000016,3.45655593220339,89.14848135593222,79.592,6.22128813559322,22.273220338983045,7.270048000033692,0.7443784406779659,2358,73,502,31,59,790,292,625,0.115,0.779,0.107,-0.8453,3,3,1,0,3,0,93.0,6,1,9,5,16,22,4,0,26,2,48,8,3,2,4,84,81,44,2,7,17,17,6,4,0,3,2,1,2,9,26,38,1,0,12,1,4,11,13,8,0,8,20,9,64,14,68,51,13,90,0,2,2,2,61,34,1,6,50,310,90,4,0.0,0.16158650600255287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828180408674618,0.2118708673399936,0.0,0.1090620290511489,0.1702170550444473,0.0,0.0,0.04637110988993093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767959296196709,0.06986806777697363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219847321922698,0.0,0.0,0.04156760702035157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799047338553437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714952570521721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490282098138261,0.17590600984866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056963468737651436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604917255786242,0.0,0.0,0.05745248517966602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379143772642805,0.14614349858551784,0.0,0.07469812172755111,0.0,0.17400552977526848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03562613139471714,0.0,0.038753590376257856,0.0,0.054537268379210316,0.07517902111700728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679899579433175,0.0,0.2686111748552646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365622091778681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03747509442716253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972825076127635,0.04816416860615095,0.1332555271488401,0.0,0.2408498518681759,0.060345446625470735,0.0572618968396682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308713736991946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685053874049934,0.07427821429164748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194502638583592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050561553805331456,0.052591845859002735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681110459245455,0.0,0.0,0.14310654618502436,0.0,0.13862064553093995,0.10372217717949096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908065533519313,0.0,0.07485145133905029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105156946625812,0.0,0.0,0.0732098641840371,0.0,0.05823334937047505,0.0,0.05422692391777336,0.0,0.06901128286218919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999540836240026,0.05640695148528315,0.0,0.0,0.06951047539036789,0.05777663188922182,0.05249550843093418,0.13488206098786365,0.0,0.1447943610918356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773804889566888,0.06426767420479743,0.0,0.05126991994254325,0.0,0.17880154475497095,0.06277961033379942,0.0,0.0,0.04530198744317628,0.0,0.06699570977513669,0.05413474292637143,0.15904707996597067,0.0,0.0,0.06515786519365165,0.0,0.046296106139032026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040219857131532526,0.0,0.21878959786895905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394846296422095,0.04964267346663822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745543715110598,0.0,0.21955859290857133
parenting,Duckystryke,2019/03/02,"Toddler won't sleep unless I'm next to her My 2 year old daughter (just turned 2) has never been a great sleeper. In the last few weeks she's kicked it up a few notches. She won't stay asleep unless she can touch me. Which is fun. We co sleep and it's killing me. I used to be able to put her to bed, have cuddle time while she fell asleep and then I'd slip out and be able to relax. Now I get maybe 20 minutes before she's screaming. We've tried having her dad get her back to sleep and again, as soon as she's not touching someone she's screaming her head off. I tried letting her cry but she'll cry to hard she'll start gagging. I have pretty bad PTSD from when my oldest was a baby so I can't handle crying kids very well. So I'm turning to Reddit to see if someone has some magical wisdom. Nothing has changed in our bedtime schedule or life schedule. ",1.2480906460945036,3.0422348633879785,2.5361041465766654,96.05308582449369,80.14754098360656,4.524461587913853,21.693667630986823,4.514644488427479,-0.2501138540662162,672,20,151,1,17,216,117,183,0.112,0.782,0.106,0.2069,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,0,9,9,1,0,4,0,18,8,6,1,1,16,27,16,1,1,7,2,3,0,0,4,1,2,1,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,4,1,0,2,6,26,5,19,18,3,26,0,0,1,1,20,5,0,3,18,91,29,0,0.2623362409682644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008601881274155,0.10951990170819753,0.0,0.0,0.11161440954342833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875847920010795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322460635141492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705985837686827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461331589789947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750087190926492,0.0,0.13461633362039546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511809114183002,0.0,0.0,0.10691952497039954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412829010708216,0.09264792260011633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177600721998686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116494077549326,0.0,0.13949878420475745,0.0,0.0,0.12585934922829714,0.0,0.13763887759527202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13344513432288652,0.0,0.0,0.15332851357252494,0.13186018996452814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452400963204543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.393788545596153,0.0,0.22227664565913133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284147079727983,0.13980776396232042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648518588038045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781090874143331,0.2853464984255196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328714155898698,0.0,0.108227436436269,0.0,0.0,0.10521515431331037,0.0,0.11793589297323072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446796907602376
parenting,TheBeneGesseritWitch,2019/03/02,"Skipping a Grade? TLDR: My son doesn't meet the cut-off for starting school this fall, but has an opportunity to attend a kindergarten through the daycare. I would like some advice about skipping a grade/being academically challenged vs. bored to tears because he's ahead of classwork, but socially where he needs to be.

So for some context: my 5 year old nephew lives with us, and my son is 4. My nephew attends the kindergarten that my son will be attending whenever he starts school. My nephew's kindergarten class is learning to count to 20, recognizing their letters...about half of the class can write their names and that's it. My nephew is reading Diary of a Wimpy Kid, Harry Potter, etc, and learning addition and subtraction with his mom outside of school. He is bored to tears in class and gets in trouble for not staying seated, for talking--generally for being disruptive. 

So my son's daycare teacher is a gem, I love her to pieces. She's a retired kinder through second grade teacher and she gives the kids homework, and has all sorts of activities for her class, a very structured program for 4 year olds. Basically, her preschool class is doing the same work my nephew's kindergarten class is doing--except maybe a little more because my son can write/is starting to read and out of boredom counted to 300 by tens in the car this afternoon. And I'm not humble bragging here, this is all of the kids in her class. His teacher is amazing. 

So anyway, the daycare has a Kindergarten Program, which has an actual curriculum and if it's anything like this preschool class he's in, it's going to be amazing. The daycare invited me to come in and have a meeting about putting my son in the class this fall, and I don't know what to do. 

I just don't want my son to be bored out of his mind in school. He loves his daycare and is learning so much. I'm afraid if he goes to kindergarten at the daycare and then turns around and repeats kindergarten at the school in 2020 he'll be in the same boat as my nephew (who is starting to decide that school isn't worth his time. My sister prints out first grade curricula from some educational website and does it as homework with him instead of their normal kindergarten homework because it's the only thing that can keep him engaged). This would basically mean I'd have to really fight for him to be tested and moved to an appropriate grade level when he attends ""real"" school. 

I also don't want my son to be put in a class where he's going to be socially/emotionally behind his classmates. He is also way smaller than everyone else (he's already on the small/short side, he's only like 30th percentile for growth). 

Despite all those concerns, I don't want to stunt his education or ""keep him behind,"" either. If he's got an opportunity for education that's on his level, shouldn't I pursue it? 

Parents who had kids skip grades, was it worth it? What struggles did you face? Would you do it again? 

Is there some solution I'm missing? 
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parenting,alias_marks,2019/03/02,"Do you post photos of your kid on social? I’m wondering, as I prefer not to, however my SO likes to post a couple times a month.  I feel it’s kinda our sons choice and we shouldn’t minimize his online footprint until we can better understand what the impact will be.",3.6366666666666654,4.873632851851851,5.408333333333335,80.33250000000002,72.33333333333334,8.362962962962964,22.759259259259267,8.841846274778883,1.5942370370370362,210,5,40,4,4,72,48,54,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.7735,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,9,4,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,9,2,6,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,4,28,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736443921525915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423517648823021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644492948412506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116010354904136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469648530043152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5926506862842521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154003704781431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041707981069705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32210247393845537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33553752127605874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Overheadguy12,2019/03/02,"16 year old wants to graduate high school early because he is afraid of college debt So to put things in context my son was born sometime during the first three months of the year.  My son previously skipped a grade in elementary school.  So right now he is a junior when he should be a sophomore .  At the time we did it because it seemed the best way to teach him the value of hard work and persistence.  He actually had suggested himself. The stuff he was made him bored out of his mind.  

Recently, a family friend has started to go though some financial troubles.   My son heard me having a conversation with friend and heard about student loans and the trouble they were causing my friend.  So now my son wants to graduate a year early so he can go to community college and then transfer from there.  His reasoning is that he can work while is in community college and that way he might be able to pay back his loans faster.  He can even do this because there is a test that if one passes can mean that the state grants a  high school diploma.  

My concern now is the accelerated pace he is going at academically isn't matched by his social development.  To be fair he has some friends (who, when not studying, literally play video games all hours of the say) nd he plays soccer.  However he doesn't have what I like to call street smarts.  The world is a mean place and while there are plenty of good people there are plenty of assholes as well. I am not sure if he is ready.  There have been couple of incidents lately where his kindness was taken advantage of.  Sometimes he doesn't seem to realize when he is made fun of.  He is not completely socially inept, but he does have a harder time recognizing flaws in people, more so than what I would say is normal. He is not Sheldon, but he is no Penny either.  

The pace is he is at right now, he will probably have his Bachelor's degree sometime between 18 and 19.  I have concerns about him to college when he is only 17.  He doesn't want to stay at home.  And this scares me.  

Should I let him do this?  ",4.71832376166547,5.8882322286432185,5.252063890882988,82.7250879396985,69.678391959799,8.399282124910266,28.28463747307968,8.738905477910976,2.010095908111989,1609,56,320,27,28,516,204,398,0.06,0.866,0.07400000000000001,0.5702,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,1,6,25,20,0,2,22,0,54,0,0,4,2,42,70,26,0,9,9,4,1,1,4,5,0,4,1,0,14,11,0,0,6,5,4,5,9,5,1,3,12,5,26,15,39,49,6,54,0,0,0,0,56,17,0,7,29,207,40,19,0.09489012060766597,0.0,0.09259906964862397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296464552970494,0.0,0.17353241035252814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958132732253136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968934224919296,0.0,0.0,0.09747829255077782,0.0,0.0,0.09949048609704386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499411361344337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303898399700704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267402973132198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945396070443952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071348811424009,0.0,0.0,0.293247487185445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617847268550723,0.07958933113443127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500290974532085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20051324450227145,0.09518252783701288,0.0,0.0934476546393381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881345852771208,0.0,0.0,0.1070401891681782,0.0,0.0,0.09703157732370432,0.0,0.046358519843775925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957465293221034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067263186676488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006634226033166,0.09581197168104204,0.0,0.07574038896448188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929721711152558,0.0,0.0,0.09957121934135753,0.0,0.06430000149937791,0.07216821263472717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156972369786288,0.0,0.09913997970235378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230759919643424,0.0,0.0,0.09539078003787868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756284791195073,0.0936925464706232,0.0,0.0,0.16207128905627252,0.0,0.1509208650355577,0.0950015644436544,0.2881016039901572,0.0,0.17276880395505614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934570563297024,0.0,0.0,0.2815462668452488,0.0,0.06716371576287641,0.10114024303548327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862648583332568,0.0,0.0,0.08943281569427527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304077973444888,0.0,0.09322906171357448,0.0,0.11066238482493217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679059549579558,0.15063872193362088,0.0,0.0,0.08531761427165112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816227587652566,0.0,0.0,0.06740721914912239,0.0,0.0,0.1833183797295803
parenting,amazingcreators297,2019/03/02,"Tablet addiction and questionable behavior? Babysitting my brother’s boy (who’ll be 2 in a few days) while he is in Mexico for vacation for a week. He seems to have an extreme addiction to his tablet. My wife and I do not allow him to have his tablet except for maybe 45 minutes a day because we do not want our daughter (who is almost 3) to see him on his tablet 24/7 (as we believe he is at his own home because every time we’ve been to my brother’s house his son is on tablet with TV on in background) and be influenced by that and thinking it’s okay/normal. 

He’s been here for 4 days so far and he is extremely agitated, irritable, aggressive... he screams all night off and on and he screams all day long no matter what we try to do for him (other than give him a tablet, that fixes it). When put in timeout for his behavior he will literally scream to the top of his lungs and I’m convinced if we didn’t go get him he would go for hours until he passed out from screaming. 

Since he was under 1 every time I’ve been to my brother’s house his son has had a cell phone in his hand watching YouTube and now recently he’s gotten his own tablet. So this addiction has been building since he wasn’t even a year old. Probably just a few months old. 

He just had his tablet for 45 minutes and upon (very gently and nicely) taking his tablet from him, he immediately threw himself to the ground and started screaming bloody murder. Then he got up and hit my daughter for no reason other than taking out his anger. So I put him in timeout. He’s currently in timeout banging his head against the wall over and over and screaming without any end in sight. 

I feel awful for him and I think this is more just me venting about the obvious lacking parenting in his life but I’d love any input from you guys. I’m almost starting to wonder if there’s a possibility of him being autistic. He hasn’t been to the pediatrician since he was 3 months old. 


Some more behaviors he exhibits that are out of the ordinary (judging from our experience with our daughter) are:

• speech. He mostly just babbles and barely ever says an actual word. His vocabulary is maybe 5-10 words and they’re never pronounced very well. He babbles as if he knows exactly what he’s saying but it doesn’t resemble actual words at all. 

•He waves his hands in front of him pretty often

•shakes his head back and forth pretty often

•he is very aggressive and doesn’t play well with other kids. Took them to the park today and had to leave within 5 minutes because he was shoving other kids. 

•seems to always be distant from people. Sometimes he will get in the middle of the other two children and play with them but typically he’s off in a corner by himself. If he has his tablet he could stay in a corner by himself all day long without any worries.

•often says no when he means yes and vice verse

•doesn’t sleep through the night

•Seems to become upset at the mere sight of two other people showing affection. For instance if i hug my wife he often times starts crying. Could just be coincidence but I’m not sure as it’s happened in several instances.

•doesn’t play with physical toys such as blocks and stuffed animals. He may pick them up and throw them occasionally but never really interacts with them to explore them and figure out what they do. 

•he has no concept of how to eat. He will take a bite of something, throw the other half on the ground, and pick up a new piece. Typically smears food all through his hair and all over himself. 

•often unresponsive to his name being called as if he’s in another world. 

•overall extremely uncooperative 

I wish I could take him to a pediatrician but I’ve told my brother many times he needs to go and it’s just always put to the side and forgotten. The mother is not involved. 

I don’t know. Not really much I can do, just venting. Would love any input from you lovely folks. Thanks for reading if you did :) ",4.447566877206022,5.778090439531863,5.217551318967121,82.11378007152149,70.48244473342002,7.989606167564556,28.42655117963961,8.418075326091056,1.9790637005387328,3104,113,601,48,56,1007,323,769,0.076,0.836,0.08800000000000001,0.9777,2,0,1,0,0,0,67.0,7,3,7,1,26,24,4,1,30,2,57,17,7,7,12,125,96,57,1,16,28,13,4,0,0,7,4,10,1,5,22,44,2,1,12,7,0,13,19,11,2,3,19,18,70,13,109,60,17,101,0,0,4,4,123,48,0,18,39,388,92,1,0.0,0.0,0.1311776604088581,0.21981170780060494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13460542560631472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118508776296314,0.0,0.0,0.18282478226971474,0.07047722717934722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051681574822877135,0.0,0.12291471005882194,0.07422993617329494,0.0,0.07572446180233673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863056248690523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098899043105264,0.0,0.07382879108249599,0.21672962181391264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877425038261215,0.0,0.0,0.05952953176548891,0.0,0.0,0.04439263061576667,0.06079674383917472,0.11325735052232648,0.0,0.0,0.06574584569873693,0.0,0.0,0.033984206512221636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127253845838674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023057816398871,0.06447549503383951,0.11459371049442238,0.0,0.05375525969014591,0.0,0.0,0.06655005504552534,0.05943499952980943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379569926955704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741871900462393,0.0,0.06618989128507677,0.1551063342415008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387547974855249,0.0,0.0,0.07116738414509349,0.0,0.0,0.0474735436542432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896030919313855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819832904307764,0.0,0.0,0.06814201727201609,0.13504618033026589,0.07321314061431608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729532230203426,0.0,0.04940826247472285,0.04983655279990085,0.10367546508114099,0.06491338605514392,0.0,0.1261470748049207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115818168608989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746305323883196,0.0,0.0,0.093192127095966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577098488590066,0.0,0.13675672874107048,0.07246547700511828,0.0,0.0,0.2026986782495856,0.07529237868249351,0.0,0.06722979250771556,0.0,0.08611494926706373,0.06910472308457541,0.06636335057361563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034809575330075,0.0,0.0,0.05355894654649511,0.18356076022517887,0.0,0.07592998160272021,0.0,0.1667944003541288,0.0,0.06726014350977808,0.0,0.0,0.051742776492759365,0.06647399504435629,0.0,0.14271815794000142,0.0716386271747772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334614144109799,0.0,0.20213904676274586,0.0,0.0,0.0618794148851432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08613296403448265,0.0,0.0,0.15676650739238865,0.0,0.06370874183368297,0.0642235680009865,0.07467456518308402,0.04563226729366053,0.0,0.1313119419418566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663698370362898,0.03964314548673411,0.0,0.05391309466203405,0.0,0.12086260773773234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729002771327384,0.12957917578815314,0.07288811758390444,0.0,0.06825664648545866,0.0,0.09549039030523836,0.0,0.0,0.04328206941696547
parenting,ddrumdiablo,2019/03/02,"When you have to parent the parent Long time lurker on Reddit and this is my first post so I’m not really sure what I want or am expecting. 

I’m 39(M), living at home with my aging and quite ill father. He has a number of health issues. Dodgy ticker and serious lung issues. He’s taking about 12 different medications and has spent a good bit of time in the hospital over the last number of years. I have my own children but they live with their mom and that’s a story for another day. 

Over the last number of months I’ve noticed his health start to dwindle significantly. I’ve been to the doctor with him and his GP seems to have his best interests at heart, but for all his failing health, he refuses to go to see him. 

Just a bit of background, about 15 years ago he had a heart attack and his health has been declining ever since. This was just a few years after he reached the age at which his eldest brother passed away, an age at which he was sure he wasn’t going to see. Some type of superstition, but here he is almost 20 years later, still with us. He’s been on his meds now for at least as long as my mom is dead which is 9 years this summer and I think that they’re starting to not work any more and are actually shutting his body down at this stage. 

The man can’t walk properly any more. His steps are like baby steps. This man used to be fairly spritely, never active as such. His balance is almost gone. Last night we were going to the petrol station so he could fill up. The car is less than 10 yards from the front door and by the time he got into the car, he was breathless. Stopping for about 3 minutes before we took off so he could catch his breath. This isn’t an isolated instance of his breathlessness. 

The last 3 weeks have seen the biggest change. He hasn’t eaten barely a thing. He has no appetite any more. And last week I’m sure I saw something in the bathroom which hints strongly that he may have been sick. His legs have been giving him trouble to the point that he’s asked me to do some chores for him that he would normally have had no trouble doing (this is no problem for me btw, I do it normally and happy to do it). 

Tonight, I proper gave out to him about going to the doctor. He insists the doctor will just send him home telling him to rest his legs and lose some weight. Telling this to a guy who can barely move and barely eats nowadays, if he’s not losing weight, he’s not gonna. 

I dunno, I reckon I’m posting in the wrong sub but I didn’t know where to go and here seemed like just as good a place as any to get some advice or simply get this off my chest. Thanks for letting me vent Redditors. ",3.6839293705613367,4.586137547134938,4.336120731588679,89.33210988423002,71.86506469500924,7.099542757077536,23.294143399163342,7.1686216300943375,0.6578768946395561,2067,49,447,19,38,659,262,541,0.114,0.8079999999999999,0.078,-0.9705,3,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,3,1,2,8,19,21,1,0,30,0,49,22,8,1,6,68,83,31,1,9,15,6,2,2,0,4,10,0,5,4,23,23,4,2,5,1,1,18,13,9,0,1,21,6,44,12,70,54,16,83,0,3,4,0,66,25,0,13,39,276,67,6,0.0,0.0,0.06865082965727279,0.0,0.0,0.0687445827167191,0.06236046510489132,0.0,0.14088944894186894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913599151807808,0.07376744032064722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576715735169554,0.0800325556615284,0.06609554170762741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05986212590296126,0.0,0.07382731559836805,0.0,0.15360656676961,0.07814228246647463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442029739671155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233648294820177,0.0,0.0,0.04536951887221599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350011057992213,0.0,0.2160166600355267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198496044383652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363502584222322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983913169539441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350927655273529,0.0674855186903083,0.1999058191876953,0.11801141490901175,0.05626481162521893,0.0,0.0,0.06965692905899662,0.0,0.07488820438577103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29911233006657145,0.0,0.16672866625891744,0.0,0.0,0.1411322927904708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685291395585048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866216976472856,0.2867205986863421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193698934020668,0.0,0.06873828994254166,0.0,0.12423955166858525,0.1245139438672773,0.0,0.15740588364792654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814228246647463,0.07086958146121572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16478464592910108,0.056152189873038286,0.07477023889437485,0.0,0.0,0.05425776516169155,0.0,0.0,0.0660181109893546,0.13785487708072433,0.0,0.08009321533263461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562292832561034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350011057992213,0.0,0.06650288636470722,0.0,0.13475048558443373,0.0,0.0,0.06731483890081813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482520635649992,0.0,0.0,0.045067602933697916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211866729521654,0.12808683473188193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819371952413644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05415837611262797,0.0,0.0,0.09958728154576517,0.0,0.05618109166402953,0.05881521697868095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989103244545136,0.0,0.05289396541736037,0.0,0.12297688697308708,0.06476824113696139,0.0,0.0,0.04673699041938071,0.04507703082504417,0.0,0.0,0.12306383680060355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781607300837123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462162104464935,0.06075926180975765,0.0,0.0,0.04149387661596818,0.0,0.11286003017293612,0.1713331422803696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05121517366347232,0.0,0.0,0.049974168607056016,0.07691598412555309,0.0,0.2265134143646997
parenting,wallgirl94,2019/03/02,"Marriage after children My husband (25m) and I (24f) have been married for 3 years and have 2 young daughters together. While pregnant with our first daughter, we argued all of the time, and it was especially trying on our marriage towards the end of the pregnancy. But once our daughter was born everything settled down and we happier than ever. We just had our second daughter a month ago, and our marriage has really been on edge. I assume it was the hormones from my pregnancy that caused the problems because I was extremely emotional. However,
I thought once we had the baby it would go back to normal like it did the first time. 
It’s been quite the contrary. We argue a good amount now and I wonder if this is normal? (We have no serious problems, it’s just small things. He is a great provider so that I can stay at home and he is a great dad). 
I know having a new baby can be stressful on a marriage, especially if you already have a toddler.
Has this happened to anyone else? If so, when does it go back to normal? Advice?",3.9601067839195983,5.753381075376886,4.91489635678392,81.97777167085428,72.41708542713567,7.387060301507537,30.527952261306528,8.07648339933343,2.285756030150753,810,36,148,12,16,264,115,199,0.084,0.8190000000000001,0.097,0.6959,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,11,1,0,3,9,10,2,1,15,0,24,0,0,1,2,33,30,15,0,9,6,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,12,14,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,6,0,3,11,0,21,4,16,17,2,28,0,0,0,0,27,7,0,5,19,114,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435943499252215,0.12188184910352705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173018177689526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961403537104774,0.14088083248747452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114517716367134,0.0,0.08381624492940827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124619880180458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032361805918332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148602094271652,0.1546644188495275,0.1217805862114002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437294372893548,0.0,0.0,0.1235724793277002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339079417549785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562842153160307,0.11532506565049425,0.0,0.3031795043872094,0.0,0.0,0.12158719999223297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791963213062805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556416927541458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717356796745746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974794240913126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327944294590477,0.0,0.0,0.4041504653215028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29285736379722777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26313007844113145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624385008905055,0.0,0.0,0.08808341584661783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655237079795064,0.0,0.0,0.15750112738470698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134618871534274,0.0,0.0,0.10915641283092854,0.16034996918644165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335071344201162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910847480173267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767316627601083,0.0,0.0,0.08854287325498975
parenting,ruasquidward,2019/03/02,"When the children's aid society comes knocking on your door.. Long story short, my spouse and I got into a fight and I reported my spouse to the police. Because we have a child, the police said it is their protocol to contact the children's aid society informing them about the situation, regardless of whether the child was harmed or not. 


What can I expect out of this meeting with the CAS worker and how should I prepare for the visit? I have absolutely nothing to hide, and I provide my child with the best care and love I can all give, so I don't think it will reach to a conclusion where the CAS worker will take away my child or anything extreme like that. I've heard so many horror stories regarding the CAS and that their involvement actually deteriorates many families' lives rather than improving them. Of course, if the child is severly neglected and abused, the CAS should do their job, but this is not the case regarding my situation. 


I've done a bit of research regarding the CAS involvement with domestic abuse cases and came across an article on a law related website saying that, ""the victim may risk losing the child to the CAS out of concern that the victim is not doing enough to protect the child"". The argument did start in the same room that my child was sleeping in, but I quickly made sure to get out of the room (with my spouse as well) before the argument could potentially grow bigger. Although my spouse and I did continue to argue and fight, this all happened outside of the room and the child asleep. I don't know how the CAS will view this, but I think that, at least on my part, I did my best to leave the child out of the bad situation.


I feel that I have become a double victim and it is very unforunate on my part (first from the fight with my spouse, second from the CAS coming to investigate although I absolutely haven't done anything wrong regarding the safety of my child). I am just praying to God that the CAS worker in charge of my case is a generous person and will let this investigation go through as smoothly and quickly as possible. Please give me any helpful advice and information as to how I should deal with this matter and anything I should be aware of when the CAS comes to investigate. Thank you.",10.900618471687743,7.669917808411218,10.026487080813633,68.01966739967015,59.0,13.528532160527766,41.064321055525006,11.557038098267885,4.516118031885653,1794,68,334,37,17,573,195,428,0.114,0.77,0.116,0.0181,1,0,0,0,5,0,37.0,1,2,5,8,14,21,7,1,42,0,36,3,2,4,3,70,58,36,0,9,12,5,2,1,0,9,0,3,4,14,18,32,0,2,7,0,0,7,6,13,1,2,12,6,42,8,55,34,11,36,1,2,1,1,46,21,0,4,9,246,60,6,0.0,0.2483220512005549,0.10226158015184704,0.0,0.0,0.10240123375910733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126194760428861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587039140668104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845524911727334,0.0,0.08749669006866463,0.06388004601466668,0.11573419656963632,0.0891700161039076,0.0,0.21994484230267167,0.0,0.11440539260763632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985378485064968,0.10684211936768873,0.0,0.0,0.270806304922341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366764329240076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803563849779614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144765784156075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827783586672264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878828596430886,0.0,0.05298583077811623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913576416533868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474933670598013,0.2010514894893723,0.05955553648437945,0.0,0.08381149321086694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266695181631966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023966576617346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039895899167229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05759077628017072,0.0,0.0,0.11095927668274412,0.0,0.10715661031369318,0.0,0.05119593005323169,0.0,0.09253298856265624,0.09273735448190057,0.0,0.11723510456751995,0.0,0.0,0.09457859812755648,0.0991564377144918,0.0,0.2124846666498488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055045977865296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269583925349836,0.0,0.0,0.09150006805232327,0.0,0.11502981524681175,0.0,0.11813689343053245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968090116136442,0.08333456370017167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838479014480904,0.0,0.0,0.3533707749957924,0.10486737658092038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417210268789479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876493451855538,0.0,0.07879031485970392,0.0,0.0,0.09647811563803683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429257661518132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646412492243442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942203208230016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457327048894847,0.0,0.0
parenting,whateverreddit88,2019/03/02,"A plea to (and question for) other parents... Stop texting your teen while they’re in class!!

My kids aren’t old enough to have phones yet (okay, I guess this is debatable - I’m sure there are kindergartners with cell phones), but as a teacher this is something I’m seeing more and more, and I’m baffled by it. So I figured this would be a good place to ask some parents of teens...why is this a thing? I mean, I understand sometimes you might need to send them a message about something happening after school. But I have about a dozen students this year whose parents will will try to have a full blown text conversation with them in the middle of class. Not for emergency reasons either - just chatting. And they get angry if I confiscate the phone or make their child put it away. Maybe there’s something that I’m missing since I haven’t yet experienced having a child this age. But it’s driving me nuts - especially since this generally happens with my 9th graders who struggle anyways and really need to be giving their full attention to the lesson.

On the plus side, I feel like I’m getting some good ideas of what my rules might be down the line when my kids do have phones.",6.077363121460039,6.593199370044057,5.600531780994334,83.78895374449341,66.31277533039648,8.600251730648209,31.192259282567647,8.418075326091056,2.1510065449968527,935,34,184,12,14,286,137,227,0.066,0.848,0.086,0.6497,4,0,3,0,0,0,29.0,0,2,5,1,10,7,0,1,13,1,20,0,0,2,1,38,40,15,0,4,8,3,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,4,16,9,0,1,9,1,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,3,20,5,26,32,8,22,0,1,1,0,28,10,0,8,10,124,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302590243655966,0.0,0.12364018748948545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597540047429094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06653965238449716,0.09401328357521617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750852932562913,0.1262403176995523,0.0,0.2207554865015333,0.0,0.0,0.14496948774235274,0.0,0.23274247740720524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485575645814772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429189349711996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878423561867793,0.0,0.13220738126986176,0.14334826163153028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27920831238260146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19515576437863744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808944398668946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4383703660054155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749138319794996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322918395899969,0.14741932264722252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430473118856469,0.1353041522543993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331837003029441,0.10486617317376566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21771763137980146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039305649227469,0.13015329698133654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002140638541286,0.0,0.13757428468150612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240290906858164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742753457877582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934606733114911,0.0,0.0,0.13699764331592615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874627921216127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934830915455608,0.0,0.0,0.08474447836382001
parenting,SheStillMay,2019/03/02,"Toddler exhaustion My three year old has been wearing us out lately. Everything is a process. Brushing teeth takes ten minutes. Getting into the car seat takes forever in the morning and eventually ends in her being upset when I finally have to put my mom voice on and tell her to SIT IN YOUR SEAT NOW. 

The thing is, it’s not that she’s resisting the whole time it’s just constant chatter and delaying and getting distracted. I know it her age but it’s with EVERYTHING. She also needs constant attention from us - mom look at this dad come in my room mom I need help with this dad I can do it on my own mom where are you can I come with you. 

I feel guilty for being annoyed by it sometimes because she’s so smart and independent and funny and I know one day she won’t want to be around us 24/7. But it is EXHAUSTING especially as someone who is an introvert. Sometimes I have to say please can you stop talking to me for five minutes. 

I don’t know what I’m looking for here just venting while knowing full well I’ll miss these days one day. ",1.2959999999999994,3.8043146952380944,2.7450476190476216,90.34328571428571,85.38095238095238,6.026666666666667,25.06666666666667,7.404127859558343,1.3495752380952388,826,35,169,14,25,268,129,210,0.098,0.813,0.08800000000000001,-0.0548,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,4,0,0,10,8,1,2,6,0,18,4,2,1,0,32,36,14,0,3,5,6,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,14,15,0,2,6,0,0,4,3,6,1,5,1,6,28,2,24,31,3,35,0,1,2,0,25,13,0,0,17,118,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690447708235373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674058318593252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662450750842761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722157253671948,0.0,0.2348703483133387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21025218310909635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625060254340742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19533368927009614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05494752363661665,0.0,0.0,0.11904420382133815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355263958542695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284014685127646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388918316036102,0.0,0.12258606943929495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251320812163552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5090985079951285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115692811337198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140323508692344,0.0,0.14727710236694574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928856072216798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092447694315947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864198568073318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207692219915788,0.0,0.21495758111089264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085415404581787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16341473275070792,0.08734595267342139,0.094983591042246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219644754076976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336716562203172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3921549314415105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409720564988862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770863699677458,0.0,0.0,0.12132773409922992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998081686783278
parenting,brainwilcox,2019/03/02,"Asking for my (22) M brother: Why won't his 3 year old go to sleep? My brother is a single father, with a (in 1 month) 3 year old daughter. She will not go to sleep easy, ever. She doesn't have naps at Day Care, she doesn't have naps at home on the weekends. When it comes to 7:30pm-8:00pm (her bed time), her dad reads her a book, brushes her teeth, tucks her in, a whole routine, but she just won't go to sleep.

She will say she has to pee, poop (she will sit on the toilet for 10 minutes and do nothing), her finger hurts, her butt hurts, her tongue hurts (they never do), she wants a Band-Aid, she wants another blanket, stuffed teddy bear, 2 stuffed dogs, and stuffed giraffe (just trying to stall) and even when we do give her any of those things, as soon as we walk out of the room she screams. And if we leave her, she will either scream and cry and cry for hours, or try to sneak out of her room. This goes on for 2-3 hours literally every night. 

Please help me help my poor brother out! I've been trying to help him figure it out but nothing works. ",4.3038355681016265,4.093167160550458,4.427981651376147,93.18395553987301,70.05504587155963,7.0746647847565285,25.484827099506006,5.369823440869387,0.38675116443189816,803,19,190,2,13,249,124,218,0.139,0.7859999999999999,0.075,-0.9531,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,3,0,1,1,7,6,0,0,8,0,16,8,8,0,2,28,25,14,0,3,8,6,1,0,0,6,0,3,4,0,5,15,0,0,1,5,1,5,6,5,0,0,1,5,32,1,29,18,3,35,0,3,0,1,40,13,1,2,16,112,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232277624335466,0.12693861152320526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317176794754134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342547715525395,0.0,0.0,0.10427971540157524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659504241448121,0.07807162219647999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995687568536017,0.10950280760106802,0.10199557641162472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612871482641535,0.2063981101645387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434254668586436,0.0,0.12142984228567882,0.0,0.2384331289089563,0.0,0.3887814293275279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818167357986024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662638401831332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933664682418092,0.0,0.0,0.1136036076071889,0.0,0.2323145319431693,0.0,0.2540574984837096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288401538590314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108956120259275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626922742726103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36343268186144173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042475982386753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058919447516075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465688655502532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428048760117256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923493418438912,0.13515559570149716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08813079328091246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591322234228314
parenting,veganpizza77,2019/03/02,"My [20F] little brother [13M] who has autism is dating a 17M year old. Tell me I'm not overreacting. First of all, my parents are homophobic and he can't ever come out to them but I support him. They won't kick him out but it will make his life harder. I'm busy with university but I do get to talk to him. I knew about him being gay but aside from kissing a guy he goes to school with who is his age there wasn't much. Well know he tells me he's dating a boy at his school. The boy in question is 17. My brother is young and on the spectrum, his autism is mild but still there. He's also a chronic masturbator who doesn't understand that he can't do it if I'm right there or while we are having dinner. Just to paint you a picture there. I tried not to scare him off and asked the basics. He likes the guy a lot and all that yada yada. I slowly try and ask if they have sex, he goes quiet and avoids the question. I know not to push him because otherwise he won't tell me anything. He does keep a very detailed journal. I tried explaining to him that the guy might be a bit old to him but he said it's fine because they are in school together. So what do I do? That ""'boy"" is nearly 18 so an adult legally speaking. No business doing anything with a 13 year old. How do I best approach this because to me this is serious. The guy can get him to do anything, call me a prude but imo 13 is too young for sex.

Tl;dr my 13 year old brother who's on the spectrum is dating a 17 year old.",0.9402101293103442,2.5566906093750035,2.8734482758620707,94.11500000000002,80.40625,5.5387931034482785,21.34698275862069,6.311591054244273,0.1028717672413797,1145,33,269,9,29,384,152,320,0.028,0.889,0.083,0.9648,1,1,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,1,4,2,15,9,0,2,20,0,33,8,0,2,3,44,50,21,0,2,14,4,0,1,0,4,2,3,0,8,14,13,1,3,7,0,0,3,10,3,1,1,3,3,37,6,27,41,6,33,0,0,0,5,58,11,0,7,20,171,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564852296686292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335337633649393,0.0,0.17686929879859292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299484165374454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927284428790303,0.0,0.1032745174392874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659326604885443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148622433177308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278174583334125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556765149173799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046345387169307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884518901696868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746603227274939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408142232137229,0.0,0.0,0.10397516224932908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681607240726256,0.0462149104215399,0.09481021363866986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804222809371205,0.0,0.0,0.06314367802172234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035158745393996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06953906931978204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4963138380961657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503785207542264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119387194857054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078461230945397,0.08998261996844087,0.0,0.0947072685984193,0.2872091228446477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554462355137961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734661269288924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603281820125625,0.2480436662069328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926737699089963,0.0,0.0,0.09847794907597833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805174715670396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505331736714689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436673280732981
parenting,ForFycksSake,2019/03/02,"What’s the healthiest way to move in with my SO for my kid? Hi! I was hoping I could get some advice. I’ve been divorced for a couple years now and have been dating a wonderful man for about a year. I have joint custody of my 7 yo daughter and her father and I are getting along pretty well as co-parents. My bf and I are talking about the future and moving in together. We have been very careful of her feelings and don’t want to rush anything, they’ve only met in January and even then we are just now starting to plan doing things together, movies etc. We wouldn’t be moving in together until around Aug-Sept at the earliest. We were thinking it would be best if we got a new place all together so it would kind of be fresh and new for all of us. I guess the advice I would like is, is there anything we can do to make it easier, she’s a pretty easy going kid. Is it too soon to be thinking about this seeing as they just met in January? I don’t want this to negatively affect her and my bf’s future relationship as well as her and my relationship. ",3.156900684931508,4.187691867579911,4.781001712328768,85.1641053082192,73.24657534246576,7.849429223744293,25.10302511415525,8.278499904357787,1.4297600456621002,825,25,175,13,16,279,115,219,0.0,0.83,0.17,0.9861,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,7,0,1,2,16,7,0,0,9,0,28,0,0,2,2,40,46,19,0,9,3,2,1,1,2,4,0,0,0,3,8,19,0,0,4,0,0,5,4,0,2,0,8,2,27,7,31,29,5,27,0,0,1,0,27,8,0,5,14,133,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775473569552475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864045448189367,0.11285143983331818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303642512863248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924961972314705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121486865548923,0.14026767778904234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14138113685773954,0.0837298426125131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409830242339466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246332048112666,0.0,0.07204584192610043,0.0,0.10138888754774812,0.0,0.13965053519935294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259103916773923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132010585022086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06193301415129144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461940678481172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404206703490436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448689128105925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641366785311743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324468034474785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25793964482080345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27220529768853563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101861733864698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972787252080511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018922586383771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421980504466557,0.16245713358998545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248770541264073,0.0,0.0,0.1045978433604437,0.14954348441294238,0.10062346822856956,0.0,0.0,0.2279614202458199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747575957922914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701595481173865,0.0,0.0,0.1632703811402098
parenting,Rubenchick,2019/03/02,"4 teenage boys and 2 teenage girls I have all of these kids between me and my boyfriend. He hasn’t been serious with anyone since his divorce except me and I’ve picked wrong since the death of my husband. I KNOW I’ve picked well this time. They all are having a hard time coming to grips with us moving in together. Neither one of us are trying to be Mom/Dad to the others children, because obviously they are too big for THAT kind of adjustment. His ex is making things extremely difficult and I’ve never had to deal with that kind of stuff since my husband passed away. He wants to stay in his kids lives. She is making it very difficult for the kids to want to come and be apart of the family. I don’t know what to do. Anyone been through this or have any suggestions? ",2.303182795698927,4.513904135483877,3.0567741935483888,91.55182795698929,78.61290322580646,6.455913978494625,22.59139784946237,7.554174236665415,0.8657655913978499,611,19,128,9,15,192,93,155,0.099,0.878,0.022,-0.8976,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,2,0,2,0,2,7,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,4,4,25,24,6,1,2,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,10,10,0,0,3,0,0,4,4,4,1,1,3,2,16,3,25,19,3,13,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,1,3,85,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519627016487566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216329320323968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533878645589418,0.0,0.0,0.09429917094069364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266507948703588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948127432550066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583041256651005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857418162255564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322177068756774,0.17003001080506971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365963966920086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20651701856564444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18117409924439715,0.0,0.16441374869118727,0.0,0.0,0.11930846681447395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482370677429524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838899427924639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488172522258845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708601296105456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10277088733459416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18040499389327594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502611864463668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721522932655113,0.0,0.0,0.12763759272224245,0.18248340256872372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908722196811313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691320700769545,0.0,0.0
parenting,AtopMountEmotion,2019/03/02,"Teach Your Child This - IMPORTANT Let me begin by saying there is no tragedy behind this post, just something that I caught and corrected before it developed into a real problem.

Teach your child that;  NO ONE is going to hurt their parents. Not physically nor professionally (in this case, emphasis on professionally). There is never going to be a situation in which they (your child) has to DO/NOT DO/KEEP SECRET anything in order to protect their parents or family from danger or harm.

Our kids have such a small perspective on life, their points of view are limited by the protected lives we give them. It is very easy for a peer to convince them that there are hidden dangers and forces that can be brought down upon their loved ones. Unscrupulous, dare I say sociopathic children may seek to control your kids for whatever reasons. 

Please take the time to have this talk with your children. I never in a million years would have thought of this in regards to another child.

My Son and I have had many conversations in regards to adults and safety, The concept that an adult would never have any cause to ask a child to keep a secret from a parent is very clear to him. The concept of “body” autonomy and privacy is well known to him. He also is well versed that anyone or thing that makes him uncomfortable, he is well within his rights to extricate himself from that situation. We talk about social interaction with his peers at length. He is socially aware and is a “kind” boy.I thought I had covered the bases pretty completely. I was wrong. ",7.388222866611438,7.9764930915492975,7.087970173985092,74.00036039768021,63.507042253521135,10.203479701739852,33.25517812758906,10.056822442137396,3.2809700082850046,1234,47,216,25,17,389,163,284,0.108,0.7709999999999999,0.122,0.3416,3,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,3,5,7,2,10,12,2,0,15,0,28,3,1,4,5,37,41,11,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,11,17,11,0,5,6,0,0,4,7,6,3,3,7,3,29,6,41,28,0,28,0,1,1,1,52,16,0,4,6,158,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860256407007436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534426547476346,0.1161780115059505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747030248752286,0.0,0.09117468268407304,0.0,0.10357818476968816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427821707917262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306804942708999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138167826939884,0.0,0.0,0.1161662431697585,0.0,0.1242657928342208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444747994852448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628447093741976,0.1259344798233105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186081283115774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969590235514761,0.0,0.11537573794320938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329519282412648,0.07825764607417962,0.0,0.0,0.0978338410585126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999663558345878,0.0,0.0739563914551312,0.11232854048756984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563553474748053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15015485204699408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690735517350007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121619422831312,0.10473690104569547,0.0,0.10611079492939224,0.112718146279825,0.0,0.10601566347357078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610874208259285,0.0,0.1139155105124226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094618156539023,0.0,0.17621694892524825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249076001778202,0.0,0.2258826982369083,0.0,0.08529525242853488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330390340429701,0.17810533191919864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360714411526798,0.0,0.0,0.17591739564285327,0.06460534071961091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828346319798579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988535019261133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741089863479554,0.12113672441239465,0.0,0.07134822069445859
parenting,insouciantelle,2019/03/02,"The penis problem So, I'm the single mom of an almost 5 year old. I've mostly handled potty training already, but I'm having a little trouble still.


So, question: do you need to hold your penis to pee? My son is uncircumcised, if that's relevant. We don't have too much of an issue with aim (thank goodness), but should he be pulling his foreskin back? I mean, he's still pretty small; there's not much skin in the fore, if you will. But there is enough to make his stream a little more spray-y. It just seems like I'd be asking him to pee all over his hands if he held himself.



Is 1there some dude secret? I promise I'll only tell my son and then forget it if someone can clue me in.


He doesn't have any trouble with the bathroom; it's not an emergency situation or anything. I'm just worried that in 10-20+ years from now he'll figure out that he's been peeing wrong and it's my fault.




And, for the record, in case it needs to be said, I slide it back during his baths to make sure he's all the way clean. This is just a question about piss logistics",2.496709062003177,3.651871945945949,3.7479862215156343,91.45056438791737,75.03603603603604,6.124430312665608,22.968733439321674,6.2272716619740125,0.3340208797032327,820,22,183,5,17,268,136,222,0.11,0.8029999999999999,0.087,-0.6411,0,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,3,0,0,14,11,1,0,12,0,17,6,6,2,3,41,31,14,0,8,13,3,2,1,0,3,0,1,2,0,10,7,0,2,6,1,0,2,4,6,0,0,3,3,17,5,19,22,9,21,0,0,0,0,26,9,1,11,10,111,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503648137869078,0.0,0.16570668732221866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211480784593263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356992458591926,0.0,0.14038051029019494,0.0,0.0,0.23092948414083836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515672494528354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594814275158792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567293450778354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336120798872113,0.3010020678936453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004676176702221,0.0,0.0,0.16356963630015645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586705595174948,0.0,0.0,0.22077161163696327,0.2226853471257682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756898529996147,0.0,0.0,0.11420440676518465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527679880556987,0.0,0.14368404862728176,0.0,0.0,0.33642996035771583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428377473560596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13670117384702413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878755072032325,0.0,0.0,0.12723115054518394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398379566348508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14152521295490747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124756217501712,0.13824831583922229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919102085407927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249605121449578,0.0,0.0,0.1641777679895314,0.0,0.19339785982263452
parenting,BooYouWhore92,2019/03/02,"How do you get a child to enjoy vegetables more? She (8) likes corn (especially corn on the cob) and greens, but will vary every two months “oh I like ____ now!” Then after a month “I don’t like it anymore” ",0.13146341463414754,2.3894631219512235,1.9982439024390253,95.34126829268291,88.51219512195122,5.231219512195122,15.517073170731704,6.742157984588678,-0.4024965853658533,152,3,35,2,5,50,36,41,0.0,0.7509999999999999,0.249,0.8727,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,3,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,8,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593329428718552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052777548911845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930191398381585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5310468471593233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5784149982606926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539427210820128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moosebiter,2019/03/02,"Awesome kid until we have to leave? Dad and first time poster here so apologies if I have the wrong sub.

My son is 2yrs old. Doing really well and very well behaved generally. 

The only problem we are having is if we take him somewhere and he's doing something he enjoys but it comes to the time to go he just looses it. Crying, saying no, screaming etc. 

It totally ruins the day and he ends up sulking for a good hour after. 

I've tried the comforting approach of sorry but we have to go I'm glad you've had fun but we have to do ""X"".

I've tried being stern and telling him that's enough and he needs to stop or its the naughty step / bed when we get home. 

Nothing seems to work. I've tried multiple things and tried them consistently over a few weeks to give them a chance rather than switching from stern to comforting and confusing him. 

Other than this he is the most well behaved well mannered boy ever. Shares, says please and thank you for everything and is ahead in all his learning. Just this one point that I'm really struggling with. 

Anyone experience this? How did you get through it? Is it just his age? What can I do better?",1.237307206068266,3.7927488938053138,2.3339633375474094,92.70533185840708,86.61061946902655,5.175474083438687,20.018331226295828,6.7097532225279775,0.31803843236409657,894,27,183,11,28,283,138,226,0.132,0.6829999999999999,0.185,0.9473,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,6,2,2,4,13,19,0,2,10,0,19,0,0,1,3,40,31,20,0,5,10,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,14,18,0,1,2,0,0,5,1,6,4,2,2,3,18,13,23,28,6,24,0,1,0,0,31,4,0,6,15,122,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046442464762994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442473052035995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114480839092202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421161587929304,0.08343840091982839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459091047284962,0.13368253010922876,0.1442911781118426,0.0,0.11703022052584802,0.0,0.0,0.1162770138991413,0.1265569557661693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004924859699887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518980674246872,0.12411160410636038,0.14705751616691054,0.10851651058971648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977714026186607,0.0,0.1274117178736655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699310415011678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593248578984484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414211790676995,0.0,0.13576092579339422,0.0,0.0876701901394348,0.0983981458191864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201869308801854,0.12230445975089102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379770946832147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657663037013314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20577388219506235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778128724498592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960185630312356,0.0,0.14482858914339694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081661824159032,0.0,0.13525445330582656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727649757899423,0.0,0.11308247314714892,0.11911429975880522,0.0,0.0,0.08595329730918952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088323627766898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513579160488162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675077582395456,0.0,0.0,0.10377959343051577,0.0,0.4653070787571273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418905687202228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145503148681707,0.0,0.0
parenting,BurningBroadripple,2019/03/02,"Phone numbers and addresses... I’m probably late to the game on this, but my boyfriend’s daughter is turning 5 in May and we have no idea how to teach her her phone number and address.

She stays 3 weekends a month at her mother’s in a different city, and the rest of the time she is at ours. Neither family has a landline telephone, only smart phones (more complicated than they need to be when trying to teach a kid how to call 911 or home). She’s a very smart little girl and has even kept up with understanding the process of having her last name changed to match her father’s. We’re just at a loss on how to begin teaching not only one set of phone numbers and addresses, but two. She recognizes neighborhoods in the car and is pretty good at navigation, so I know she is aware of general neighborhoods and that it takes a long time to drive to mommy’s. I know this is late to have not really worked on it with her. Obviously kids need to know at least one set, so do you think it makes sense to teach her our address and her dad’s number first and once she has that down, introduce her mom’s, and then my phone number? I do quite a bit of the parenting and my job would allow for me to respond to daytime emergencies better than her dad’s. Anyway, I feel like tackling all of that info simultaneously would be overwhelming. What do other parents do without a landline?",4.490694042799305,5.530184520146519,5.2715596684017765,82.85984384037016,70.0989010989011,8.531251204935415,27.92153460574513,8.841846274778883,2.008755311355312,1086,37,219,19,19,353,149,273,0.021,0.87,0.108,0.9708,4,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,1,5,9,7,0,1,15,0,20,0,0,5,2,45,34,22,0,4,7,8,1,1,0,3,0,0,5,3,10,15,0,1,8,2,0,2,5,2,0,4,1,1,29,5,39,28,6,31,0,2,0,0,42,14,0,2,13,150,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214110427564275,0.15077298364827274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101886199641467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609492964351445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428850541571125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121589600343236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019145588197956,0.0,0.06982915416319133,0.09866099140745012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747055629683545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583445619921358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852882282732454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590176244571338,0.0,0.0,0.13704616874028475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276938081099317,0.11257258344221137,0.3115729690657733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747027346208151,0.1384157403498496,0.0,0.12221703288792685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218499364528847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174486057890464,0.1102326988173698,0.0,0.0,0.2048036241290367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707545704849012,0.1871646764993832,0.21006749387786694,0.0,0.0,0.3066946376724056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050065713141854,0.14889866454524442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468898088372507,0.0,0.0,0.0884724800910481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14719969228140967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383645895719318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849098804077553,0.0,0.0,0.1610582346301272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937630433277598,0.15021668171852906,0.13490681081561176,0.14377035665624474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394964691745015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312660749039654,0.0,0.10054081285324168,0.0,0.0,0.19620917685189448,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lektronizze,2019/03/02,"Can I raise my Child bilingual? So first, I hope this is the right place to post it, all subs associated with bilingualism and similar are really really small and the posts rarely get answers. I hope some parents here have knowledge/can help me with this.

So, Im the father of a 10 month old boy. Me and the mother separated but on really good terms. She has him most of the time, I can take him every weekend if I want, but half the time I can only have him every two weeks because Im busy sadly.

My question is, can I start only speaking english to him when hes with me? Will it even make a difference/be worth it when I only have him this often. The Plan is that we have a „1 week with the mother, 1 week with the father“ system later, but I still live with my mother and sister, so that will take place in 1,5 years at the earliest. 

So my question is, is it worth it to start speaking only english with him. I want him to have a easier time learning it completely in school later, thats my objective pretty much.

Thank you in Advance :)",4.699460444768498,4.864623094786733,5.83952606635071,82.10484506015314,69.23696682464454,8.76718920889537,26.657309515129427,8.617729084823388,1.7034765585125773,807,22,167,12,13,270,108,211,0.017,0.8270000000000001,0.156,0.9795,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,1,0,3,10,5,0,0,14,0,19,0,0,1,1,29,30,14,0,5,4,7,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,12,12,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,29,4,18,28,5,32,0,1,0,0,25,9,0,8,19,116,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748091244507113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866984572465054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105556674640642,0.0,0.2067942045210343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438578070095757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06411626476116175,0.0,0.0,0.10293192203731408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225679575233248,0.0,0.0,0.24377779387221346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651178546077967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836422778391007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191671882663483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795413155061942,0.0,0.09021350303627873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877425705580592,0.0,0.0,0.3733371159480154,0.0,0.0,0.13626631302117112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564330800636398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23506415014786805,0.1248506114723812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749495283853281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358532009038277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480242170555366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419944322542062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372404708273634,0.0,0.09800454899370056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18454070833001648,0.0,0.0,0.1129843168534805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146774914094375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987985085623865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476716430029402,0.0,0.2953163429786774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902781650663061
parenting,Jeri_Lynn,2019/03/02,"Any advice on hiring a live in nanny? pros/cons? Looking to go back to work full time as well as hire a nanny/maid so that I can devote most of my time to catching up on bills that we fell behind on while pregnant and postpartum. I currently have a 10month old and possibly want to have another if the situation works out. I thought about renting out the spare room in our house to save on rent but then got the idea to just hire a live-in nanny.

This idea is spur of the moment. I have never put any thought into this before and want to know what I should expect and ask when hiring one. If anyone has been a live-in nanny or has hired one before can you give me some advice?
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parenting,ruppertTtime,2019/03/02,"How to tell my son(7) how to deal with asshole bully (10) My son (7) is a nice and fairly intelligent kid, but is special needs with coordination, reading, emotions. Those issues are being addressed and he is doing well and progressing. Lately he has been going out to play with the “normal” neighborhood kids. They are generally pretty nice but there is one older kid (10) who teases and says very mean stuff to my son in front of the other kids. This causes him to lose it. 

I understand the rules of the playground and how things work with kids. I am not a helicopter parent If my son wasn’t slightly autistic I wouldn’t care. Let them work it out. When I had to deal with this as a kid it was usually with a knuckle sandwich, but you can’t really do that anymore and I don’t want to encourage violence.

Anyone else been in this situation or have any advice on dealing with the shitheel kid? Go to his parents? I don’t know them at all.",2.4955132850241526,4.792236461956518,3.916231884057975,85.19205314009663,78.40217391304347,6.697584541062803,23.809178743961354,7.793537801064563,1.3169816425120775,735,25,143,12,18,242,115,184,0.07,0.773,0.156,0.9457,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,3,4,6,9,1,0,9,0,22,1,0,4,1,34,30,16,0,5,6,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,12,15,1,0,3,2,0,3,6,2,1,1,5,1,16,7,24,22,1,13,0,1,0,0,28,6,0,2,4,103,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456457940116495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135622941867237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781334649470768,0.10421626254607748,0.15271499697659785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196208813070566,0.1531110545140434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4609789093239597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450860933804077,0.16765642167179012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694122830485089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556505262503012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08191165312328806,0.0,0.1681301119465666,0.0,0.0,0.15240939019786676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674408367913446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235452949959014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051554425637136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603320172541645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099726592662568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309953615031856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163312326419992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908609628489158,0.0,0.095482531918603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852717250729825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16753368169322072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062173904442865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302725657822639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901938175108077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516189502375916,0.0,0.0,0.16415285024021362,0.12297836330248715,0.08791105229713335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401004006045922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170141802852723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SharpRich,2019/03/02,"Is it wrong to have a gender preference for a baby? My family is quite a ""sausage fest"". We are a same sex male couple with three sons from my previous marriage. My former wife's family is just her dad and two brothers. Mine is my parents and three brothers. We strongly want a girl for our 4th using his DNA to balance things out. My husband still wants to just ""roll the dice"" because he thinks it's eugenics/immoral to choose a zygote prenatally based on some trait, even gender. It seems he's not the only one who believes that.

What are your opinions on this?",3.6923838383838365,5.511635309090914,4.409393939393941,85.21853535353536,73.18181818181819,7.070707070707071,26.767676767676768,7.793537801064563,1.5837373737373737,444,16,85,6,9,142,79,110,0.03,0.934,0.036000000000000004,-0.264,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,19,12,2,0,3,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,12,1,11,12,2,5,0,0,0,1,19,3,0,3,2,59,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844331661777935,0.0,0.0,0.27435585830994097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694425972380854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16083809624182752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4591249295017949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16501076879596485,0.18520267452252245,0.0,0.0,0.2703924634416277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590061408794403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22168516718354173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19446986451284728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177927351337826,0.15603335245976316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378769005439897,0.0,0.0,0.21031712026360272,0.0,0.0,0.28726065388247296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26624333149698337,0.0,0.0
parenting,HotCheeseException,2019/03/02,How to find our toddler if he ran away? Our three year old really likes to explore the world. I got a scary tought today at the train station: what if he hopped on a train without us noticing or got lost in the city? He does not know our family name nor address and would be alone for hours. I feel the urge to put my business card in every pocket he has... ,2.303693693693696,3.730482432432435,3.2524324324324314,93.71126126126127,76.02702702702703,6.014414414414415,21.792792792792795,6.42735559955562,0.19726846846846824,276,7,62,2,6,88,58,74,0.102,0.858,0.04,-0.5813,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,13,9,6,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,4,1,7,1,10,3,0,13,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,3,5,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23960723354271135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21735949372072494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20245459639915467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492105554978592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21809473862753295,0.0,0.11697673263296605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114483012336964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700609951348124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22783163152786984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127143063345774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11302517170696764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25254417296542064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633917551077045,0.24276129179823314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325691012002909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482077475090093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929128923993835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782837122275896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22301165977672247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434330829140226,0.0,0.0,0.1489808232000078
parenting,Adrian7555,2019/03/02,"Why are we celebrating a 12 year old sexuality? Regardless if they are gay or straight it is puberty and feeling an attraction to someone. It isn’t something that needs to be so public at 12 years old. Accepting yes but not exploited. Gay, straight, or bisexual. https://www.chicagotribune.com/suburbs/buffalo-grove/news/ct-bgc-pinta-pride-project-parade-festival-tl-1206-story,amp.html",14.565986394557823,20.41525420408164,9.75010204081633,39.705017006802734,57.97959183673471,10.613605442176867,36.73809523809524,10.125756701596842,5.3478136054421785,332,14,36,9,6,92,40,49,0.0,0.706,0.294,0.9056,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,5,2,0,0,0,11,7,6,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,6,0,7,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,3,4,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.339800244704573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585724779220001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23254053807991198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6581695131591139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657238169478081,0.24143509956809894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829875279462267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039138000513261
parenting,chiaboy,2019/03/02,"DAE kids love something and then later despise it? My kids are really into things and then seemingly in direct opposition to how much they loved something they are repealed by it. Does anyone else have similar experiences?

For example, if you mention Frozen or Muana to my 6 year old she screams that she can’t stand either. I notice it most  often with music and movies but I see it across subjects. (For example their beloved pre-school they can barely stand walking bye)

I think some of it is probably them trying to demarcate phases of their life, but the reaction seems a little over the top. 
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parenting,PatheticallyPoor,2019/03/02,"How horrible of a mother would I be if I left my son for 2 hours alone in a hotel? I’m trying to treat myself to a weekend getaway for Mother’s Day. The town is a few hours away. I just realized that on Monday I have to go back to the same town for work. Most of my day will be spent driving. So....

I was thinking of just staying in that town overnight. **If** I do that, I would stay in a hotel with my 6 year old. Monday morning at 5:30 I would leave, do the actual work, and be back to the hotel by 7:30. That’s usually when I wake him up for school but he sleeps in until 8:00 if I don’t wake him up. After that I could spend the rest of the day with him and take our time driving back home.

I don’t know if I should do this. I would probably leave some breakfast food and cartoons with the volume down in case he woke up before I got there. He’s smart and well behaved, but I don’t know if this is safe to do.
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parenting,trashladyxoxo,2019/03/02,"Is this normal father behavior? So my husband got up with our son (2 yrs) this morning for an hour before heading out for the day to do a recreational activity. I got up an hour after them, feeling glad I got to rest for an extra hour.  My husband had not fed our son any breakfast, given water, or changed him from his overnight diaper. It seemed like husband had spent the morning looking for a favorite shirt that he didn’t want to go to his event without. Didn’t even seem to feel bad about his lack of care for our son, just wanted me to stop taking care of son to help him look for his shirt. 
Is this normal? I have a feeling it isn’t, but I’m not sure how to deal with this. If I bring it up, I will be the bad guy for nagging. Very tired of this behavior! ",3.2746312178387678,3.970592289308178,4.3705431675243,89.47307032590055,72.64779874213836,7.039679817038309,26.404230989136646,6.980632752743323,1.0060138364779876,590,19,131,5,11,193,94,159,0.126,0.7809999999999999,0.092,-0.8942,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,1,0,5,8,1,0,9,0,11,7,3,1,1,23,32,5,0,6,7,8,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,9,3,3,1,5,0,1,2,6,3,0,0,10,5,18,5,28,20,3,13,0,0,2,0,22,4,0,4,8,87,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872252125297372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424265441869221,0.0,0.0,0.12353140920072538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29602680686079463,0.0,0.1535736339443648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362448320209922,0.1496668415084884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588530318553898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202112760436644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250508039661789,0.0,0.3483239876784675,0.0,0.0,0.14374395291609826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898923411042267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973063062338409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288980652185108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092412518405206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438172750731265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28447715436267595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643198342160292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137100923546512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682370009306144,0.0,0.10915192181468672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685484384462315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978281112486895,0.1712534252418861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994145407285793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,primitiveamerican,2019/03/02,"Advice for keeping a 3 y/o in their own bed? This situation needs remediated badly. If this keeps going on I’m legitimately afraid my wife and I will divorce. 

My son most nights will wake up in the middle of  the nights and come to get in bed with us. We tried for a long time to put him back in bed over and over, sometimes for over an hour and a half, and only end after everyone is too tired to fight. Now, we just let him get in bed with us after trying to put him back a couple times. We just can’t take the screaming and fighting. But he often doesn’t sleep when he’s in bed so he’s keeping us up anyway. 

Personally I think my wife needs to put her foot down. She’s the one he’s seeking out, and in the person tasked with continuously putting him back in bed. I hate it and it makes me feel like the bad guy. 

What can we do?",2.430367329299916,3.278463151685393,4.135393258426968,89.80135263612793,74.78651685393258,6.825237683664651,21.55747623163353,7.010146845296331,0.2759830596369923,643,14,153,6,13,217,106,178,0.12,0.866,0.014,-0.9569,0,0,0,0,4,0,17.0,7,0,1,0,11,8,3,1,11,0,8,4,3,1,0,31,23,12,0,3,4,3,1,1,0,2,1,1,6,3,5,17,0,3,2,0,0,6,2,7,0,2,0,2,21,1,30,20,2,38,0,0,0,0,27,17,0,3,16,100,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268393568118415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660090581220809,0.19256548059191775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933317899181476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759323399213654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213436625887916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018788863492272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05830644542292285,0.0823806586204115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204940704225738,0.0,0.0655358533907056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114179424816318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138491353850648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356149458350948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074903166207421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179168271820554,0.0,0.056336810382850364,0.0,0.0,0.1020496502245732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697328379819883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710083914920321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164295797146051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814004856701215,0.08770182750814706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20137624137394672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636914470415449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296182614847146,0.11539771821008928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404892924904805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670210744566835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388883663923496,0.0,0.0,0.13448155401435324,0.13253698476704415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658186996510873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4161272172816775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drspaceman17,2019/03/02,"Insecure and Overly Class Conscious Really struggling psychologically with being a low income family in a wealthy town. Do other people have this struggle? How do I deal with this? it seems to get worse as time goes on, should I just move? We are happy and have all we need but not much more. Most of the families in my kid's school have million dollar+ homes and we rent a 800 sq ft apartment. I wonder how long it will take my kids to realize this difference, I don't want to burden them with my class consciousness and judgmental ways, help!",5.608475274725278,6.6882779519230775,5.975439560439563,78.68384615384616,67.55769230769229,9.404395604395603,28.31868131868132,9.606745405546679,2.482768131868132,433,14,81,9,7,139,78,104,0.1,0.792,0.108,0.5992,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,1,0,3,6,0,3,4,0,10,0,0,2,1,25,16,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,6,10,0,0,5,0,2,1,2,5,0,1,0,0,11,1,12,13,4,11,0,1,0,0,8,7,0,3,2,57,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159698708371073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21886727314321705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949676913394876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944728370396993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300071326672252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041340204113778,0.0,0.2101305687282762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853876623281092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22264943780301005,0.15399560310508714,0.15533049778922225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523054543894598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420147647905975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120100375342173,0.0,0.1907073065749298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4379984816869433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750667427963966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215240752960928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355970018851745,0.1662794686784072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271775825403751,0.0,0.0,0.213483145701974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yimilton,2019/03/02,"Is it fair that I pay for help on Dad duties? OK, I'm honestly curious about the community response on this: I have 3 girls aged 5, 3,  and 1. I'm the sole break winner and my wife is a SAHM (by choice). We (will soon have) a full time, live-in nanny and I fly out of the country every week (literally 5 days a week I'm gone before the kids wake up and get home at 9pm after thier asleep). 

I, of course, come home to an exhausted wife. I'm also exhausted, because I work 60 hours a week + travel to a war torn country every week. I keep on offering that, during weekdays until we get our full time nanny, my wife is welcome to spend whatever she wants on bringing in temporary help around the house... full time, part time, a registered nurse, what. Cost is not an issue. Even once we get a full time nanny, if she needs two... just tell me. 

On the weekends, though she expects me to take over parenting duties and my response is general ""f\*\*\* that, I'm resting"". Don't get me wrong, I see my kids, but watching them for hours on end after a long work week isn't my idea of fun. She thinks the fact that I'd pay someone to watch my kids completely unacceptable, so she does it herself but then resents me for resting. For the record, we've worked in other countries and even when we have a full tiem nanny if I drift off for a nap on a Saturday, it's generally not perceived well.

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What's the solution? Am I being unfair? ",2.9979047322540486,4.180550428082196,4.5384184308841835,86.16455168119553,73.82876712328769,7.63785803237858,25.601494396014942,8.150884317080207,1.4381041095890406,1103,36,235,17,22,370,161,292,0.084,0.828,0.08800000000000001,-0.2161,1,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,5,0,1,3,11,10,2,0,22,1,13,4,2,0,1,33,31,16,1,5,7,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,11,13,0,3,4,3,4,5,4,5,1,1,1,3,31,5,33,28,8,50,0,0,3,0,26,20,0,2,24,141,42,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174815679264912,0.0,0.12430803359274208,0.1394074067847597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213248491149957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993728907445562,0.0,0.09762530840383253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882824664940748,0.12029040924732985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399024350076551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039948300925274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161519486701596,0.0,0.0,0.1515538818094898,0.0,0.1933270328546421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23976314525269465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379988323909946,0.0,0.23016362017854974,0.0,0.2259684731825452,0.13238102091200926,0.0,0.12951425307876013,0.0,0.1197465074843941,0.0,0.10197575862610547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130716512859032,0.10153090946289896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850695591595111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221818641882596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739216766466627,0.12423953720187175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914235779920802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720889163060466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626138161117355,0.0,0.10027756562431894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073513243471467,0.11271994365704135,0.0,0.3344948869254775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207285000453804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766970668684658,0.0,0.4601404930873703,0.0,0.1031544938551434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250570642878137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543735388906316,0.1394074067847597,0.0
parenting,dziactor,2019/03/02,Homework Problems Looking for some advice. My oldest is 11 and in sixty grade. We have a small school problem with him. Some classes it seems like he doesn't turn in the classwork and so his grades suffer. Other times he will do all his homework but will forget to turn it in. I really don't get it and don't know how to get him to turn them in. Any advice?,1.0166216216216206,3.248656000000004,2.368851351351349,94.55435810810816,83.5945945945946,4.2405405405405405,18.70945945945946,5.148860815047168,-0.4471837837837835,280,7,59,1,8,90,51,74,0.114,0.863,0.024,-0.6890000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,1,15,16,6,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,8,1,9,14,3,7,0,1,1,0,8,5,0,3,3,40,12,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028689126603085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018006566665164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153958984468744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132873724638692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100708008663735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731029616982428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944900802675308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205648701748302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208621406438714,0.0,0.18765916453073445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020000258048692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6726528043101441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aleksandar2,2019/03/02,"7 month old won't eat non-sweet baby food TL;DR TL;DR 7 month old won't eat vegetable porridge , need advice how to get her to eat it.

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Dear parents of Reddit

I'm sure this will be a familiar topic to many of you. Our little one who has recently turned 7 months old won't eat her vegetable porridge.

Basically, when my wife and I introduced her to baby porridge we did so with rice porridge (classic, from what I heard) and she loved it. We were then told to mix that brand porridge with various fruits and vegetables and just keep going. Everything was going smoothly until our pediatrician told us to have our little one consume three portions of porridge a day where her lunch porridge would only consist of vegetables (no brand rice porridge). Needless to say, the baby won't eat any of it. She keeps making faces, and when we do finally manage to ""sneak-a-spoonful"" into her mouth, she would just stare at us while holding the food in (she won't even swallow it). 

The other two portions are just fine. She will happily eat her morning porridge, which is the brand rice porridge with a different fruit, and her evening porridge, which is exclusively corn and rice (also brand) porridge.

We need help on how to get her to eat her middle vegetable porridge. The biggest problem seems to be that the brand rice porridge is slightly sweet and that she got so used to the sweet taste that she won't have anything else.

Most articles online seem to suggest to not force our little one to eat the vegetable porridge but to just let her try it and if she refuses, to simply take it away and one day she will just magically accept it. However, none of them tell you what to do once you take the food away. I mean, should we just let our baby go hungry until her third porridge? That doesn't sound good to me. 

Should we make our daughter eat the porridge by ""smuggling"" the spoonfuls in when she is distracted?

Should we let her try the porridge and then take it away if she refuses, and if so, what should we feed her then?

Should we try mixing the brand rice porridge with the vegetables?

Something else?

Any advice would help

  
Thank you in advance",6.775808823529411,7.0590267279411805,6.310588235294119,80.09764705882355,64.80882352941177,8.760784313725491,33.42156862745098,8.344100000000001,2.5372039215686266,1707,67,313,20,24,528,179,408,0.02,0.916,0.064,0.9355,3,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,17,4,1,1,18,11,0,1,17,0,36,28,2,5,1,64,62,31,0,14,11,3,1,0,0,17,0,3,0,0,21,26,25,5,4,0,0,4,10,2,0,7,7,10,51,9,42,33,5,38,0,0,1,1,61,15,0,6,19,217,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085833600618765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05354513070120881,0.0,0.0725473964667911,0.08135953983115449,0.09106550323401713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055099537493055684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887236549444681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863628741407081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06995534620083026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6166194187236408,0.11186721557587367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844834265286143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601762318436433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334763025838634,0.0,0.0,0.24289238653325645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996407011697614,0.0,0.11415885509692755,0.05615997935562892,0.05355127148940488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975913127584535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902812034317012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054028335835298,0.0,0.0,0.20132416663240887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060430902628989286,0.0,0.0893880372022385,0.06788343480811758,0.0,0.07293531446464066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033224378207367,0.0,0.0,0.09929487028681516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21077891507268773,0.07130654299751417,0.18148597081046572,0.050923475218722564,0.0,0.0,0.07434732757989729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406837789229401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611151771936677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05324653784572318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190946104351864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051546425178693636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310575816528571,0.0,0.15102898350129698,0.0,0.058522977958979525,0.06164459748163539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795971020746633,0.0,0.13637731164944206,0.07282950186838227,0.06540682245107247,0.0,0.16108097660116966,0.05782896326647927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269204107674846,0.0,0.08135953983115449,0.0
parenting,TootsTeens100,2019/03/02,"Learn Colors for kids - throwing toys in a tub. Why toddlers love it One parent said: ""I wonder why they love it.""  
But it all makes sense why toddlers love videos that are in our eyes (adults) so simple - toddlers love water, they love inflatable pools and they definitely enjoy playing with water.   
Thus, a video like [https://youtu.be/xKkjZEvHsHc](https://youtu.be/xKkjZEvHsHc)

is catchy to them",7.970376344086024,11.588692596774194,4.2367741935483885,83.09182795698926,66.58064516129032,6.068817204301076,23.23655913978495,7.1686216300943375,0.9837010752688172,319,8,47,3,6,83,47,62,0.0,0.62,0.38,0.9851,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,4,0,1,8,0,0,2,0,2,8,1,2,1,8,10,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,2,0,2,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,6,8,5,9,1,3,0,0,2,5,14,2,0,1,1,24,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08616285398316388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.795879861145581,0.0,0.11772476587577235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195092435862564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19583206001112588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776315857034954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774249641874273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19125992753902915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mumstarr,2019/03/02,"Teacher/mother enabling my senior dropout Okay first background information. My daughter turned 18 at the beginning of her senior year. We  (her dad and I) struggled with finding appropriate boundaries with wanting to keep some rules and normalcy in our home but still letting her have her freedom. Things were going pretty well and she was able to do mostly anything she wanted as long as she told us what she was doing, respected curfew (usually 10 on school nights and 1 on weekends but sometimes later) and went to school. Attending school was the one thing I said is not an option. Then comes the boyfriend. He’s only 16 and a sophomore at a school nearby our small town. We started having problems with her lying and leaving in the middle of the night. So we took the car away but woke up and found her gone in the morning anyway. I told her she needed to follow our rules or find a place to stay. She went to her boyfriends parents and told them we kicked her out so they let her move in. I finally found contact info for his mom who is a teacher at a nearby school. I informed her that she wasn’t kicked out, that we basically let her do whatever she wanted as long as she went to school, but left bc that was a rule she didn’t want to follow. She said she was going to have a talk with my daughter and try to get her to come home but never has done it. I would never let a kid move in with me (18 or not she’s still in school and still a kid) without first talking to their parents but that’s not the point. The point is now my daughter isn’t attending school, is living with her 16 year old boyfriend and his family,including his mom, who is a teacher. So basically this teacher mother has enabled my daughter to drop out of school bc if she wasn’t letting my 18yo daughter stay there she would have come back home and been required to attend school. She obviously doesn’t care about my child or her future or she’d make her go to school as a requirement of living there. I believe she’s allowing her to stay there to try to improve her lack of a relationship with her son. Basically using my daughter as a pawn to keep her son home. I’ve thought about going so far as calling the school and letting them know what kind of teachers they’re employing but I don’t think that will do anything. Is there anything I can do to get my kid back home or to at least go to school? ",5.483046704495852,5.784360274261607,5.621613560308454,83.8703164556962,67.56540084388186,8.225694747562928,30.26887821911829,7.873277556716777,1.865639982540376,1886,66,379,20,29,596,201,474,0.033,0.907,0.06,0.926,3,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,9,0,4,7,18,7,0,1,24,1,42,0,0,3,3,81,83,39,0,10,17,14,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,4,13,32,0,4,10,1,0,21,12,2,1,3,25,2,73,5,63,48,4,77,0,0,0,0,87,25,0,9,27,270,86,19,0.0509174293177353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12570211764705425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04783860094329075,0.07830472039999117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736650662439785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051992388243289,0.0,0.0519137126582068,0.0,0.0,0.13158257045976146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210620834591214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577755499329631,0.09307521589880337,0.08662067873296964,0.0,0.1116566662577027,0.0,0.0,0.05320451055824375,0.0,0.1446877423694403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553716657955718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051550138432413,0.0,0.05302266724929505,0.027982887547212183,0.0,0.0,0.05391420575107462,0.05532193593610688,0.3123991274325943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992204587621876,0.0901206453362738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033987779449906684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192677556536922,0.0,0.10823433861015597,0.0,0.037754628666696495,0.07854132089957322,0.0,0.0,0.09556511634687627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053429276835429605,0.0,0.03450296785912557,0.03872499942337671,0.0,0.0,0.11307555917168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531978764146338,0.0,0.09626685734572343,0.0,0.0,0.05180133076240305,0.0,0.04872110330803942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054666263771271865,0.0,0.0,0.0968682705103125,0.0,0.0,0.6699050386777164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05035863955053664,0.0,0.03603961854166349,0.16281361461948907,0.12198817447760454,0.0,0.0,0.0532299524820515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818510019353054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765455509399787,0.03262583275111964,0.0,0.04042275134623565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596135719477776,0.056571137467195935,0.0691391843978029,0.05538354178979904,0.0,0.0,0.061247398171519876,0.043976310719766695,0.056078354833255135,0.0,0.120129676146818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045780883894077855,0.14160290129230818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0490825848695944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234056178980665,0.0,0.0,0.06557831017425278
parenting,furleymurley,2019/03/02,"We are considering fostering. Any advice? My spouse and I are feeling called to foster. Is it worth the heartbreak? I feel like it is an exercise in true selfless love, putting whatever the child’s needs before your own wishes (not being able to keep them if they’re meant to go back, etc). 

The backstory behind it is that we’ve been trying for several years to have our own children (we’ve been married 5 years). I think that I’ve had 4-5 miscarriages (2 confirmed by doctors). I’ve recently decided to not keep going through fertility treatments, just putting it into God’s hands and that’s it. My husband and I have talked about fostering/adopting even before we struggled to conceive, since before we got married, actually. I’m in the field of helping underprivileged children, so I see the need and we have the love to give. I’m only concerned about getting attached and then having to give them back! But as I stated above... it’s a true test of love to put that child’s best interests first. 

Anyway... any thoughts or advice?",5.316285714285716,6.77035522564103,5.696501831501834,79.02980769230773,68.53846153846155,8.443223443223442,32.39010989010989,8.841846274778883,2.7724725274725275,819,36,147,14,14,262,118,195,0.03,0.795,0.175,0.9795,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,5,1,2,2,8,10,0,1,8,0,13,6,1,0,2,29,35,11,0,4,6,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,10,10,0,2,6,1,1,5,2,2,0,1,6,4,16,8,21,28,4,16,0,1,1,3,22,3,0,2,8,90,26,2,0.12663126850497472,0.0,0.12357385128076698,0.0,0.0,0.2474852200156703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222720990921658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474325799720654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232616479923085,0.0,0.1328917037675522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293046833681677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961246914112734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412273378471502,0.08363875855959897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805714840002025,0.09046540352207777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107712492300718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615961128098435,0.24295250303236815,0.14393493622021,0.0,0.10127859340995736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487827000630528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251113796051039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186564139909133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34286899152165096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877909621149234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096308785921534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818982019156499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250331007386011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009087259928628,0.0,0.0,0.14305728925307645,0.0,0.104750693878737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323824964374992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178141691710088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08114020371147024,0.0,0.10053108234299736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597431902010398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561970933705576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309277029596272
parenting,thefishqueen,2019/03/02,"Keeping children busy and entertained Hello parents of Reddit, I’m babysitting my 3, 4 and 8 year old cousins this weekend and I fear it might be overwhelming at times, so I’m looking for tips on how to keep them busy on their own when I need a break",9.698235294117648,5.981858529411768,8.931470588235298,76.44661764705886,61.74509803921568,11.768627450980391,43.147058823529406,8.841846274778883,3.807423529411764,199,9,41,2,2,63,43,51,0.067,0.877,0.056,-0.128,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,8,6,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,1,6,6,1,9,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,1,5,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577170809057603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5651143503028743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669493673511079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.337233366064744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23571302289224766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33357436686789743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352981645017462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853654861226343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047121409112656
parenting,PopSixSquishCicero,2019/03/02,"Anyone Heard About the New Munchausen's Mom on the Block? Hilarious But Sad So some of you may remember Oprah breaking the story in 2009 about ""the seven year old schizophrenic,"" Jani Schofield.  She was on Dr. Phil in 2013, and now her brother is the focus of a Dr. Phil episode in 2019.  However, the mom is eerily like the Blanchard mother, for those of you who may remember.  [Here's a link to a react video about it.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-OPLD3liXM&feature=youtu.be)  The woman admits to filming her kid on the toilet at age 11, whom she bombed with Thorazine, Clozaril, and Lithium.  She herself suffers from BPD, and is hilariously manic throughout the Dr. Phil show.  Worth checking out.",6.2599199999999975,8.597295352,5.049800000000001,81.12190000000002,67.47999999999999,7.56,31.7,8.238735603445708,2.4584400000000004,569,24,95,8,10,167,88,125,0.07200000000000001,0.851,0.077,-0.2869,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,0,13,0,6,4,0,1,0,15,8,5,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,2,4,1,0,2,3,5,0,1,4,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,8,1,19,4,1,14,0,2,0,0,18,8,0,3,6,58,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26628682595751363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184495799045052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095330547326029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006861343779715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5756751868306349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23736185972934445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25788955913424594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568088243869129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826492984079055
parenting,bay-to-the-apple,2019/03/02,"Books on getting kids to eat better? Looking for book recommendations on how to get kids to eat better. Maybe written by psychologists, nutritionists, child/family therapists. Hopefully books that have different views from each other and are research based. 

Thanks in advance for any help. ",7.4367391304347805,11.277202239130435,6.467565217391307,65.07960869565218,70.08695652173913,9.76695652173913,33.11304347826087,9.888512548439397,4.505631304347826,237,11,31,7,5,72,38,46,0.0,0.7390000000000001,0.261,0.9201,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,8,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,10,7,1,4,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,1,0,17,2,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896895700635106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4395052226980469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595995511977157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084961988971495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342365624993088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25963192505960264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16654502808271252,0.0,0.0,0.24678799578233165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865325432516654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496227475817054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287589256445772,0.0,0.2884942492297867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bermudezeg,2019/03/02,What’s the thing you remember about your kids the most? What do you miss about them being kids? I just want to know especially from the folks that have grown up kids!  I don’t want to miss out on things that i could have done when they were younger.  when I’m older.  I’m a new parent of two daughters ages 1 and 3,1.3061691542288545,2.9627775522388085,2.150074626865674,99.53665422885572,79.44776119402985,5.6606965174129344,17.136815920398007,6.42735559955562,-0.6331572139303483,244,4,61,2,6,76,48,67,0.065,0.8909999999999999,0.044,-0.3076,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,2,0,5,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,15,3,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,8,0,9,11,1,9,0,2,0,0,10,3,0,1,5,41,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25840256940170003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331199115680792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17786570744710142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125763886145514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593672077821565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666243845452532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4300280049194448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161521458708181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.381786007558996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KiddisThyName,2019/03/02,"My ex provides my daughter with barely any clothes or really ugly ones when she comes to stay with me. I pay a lot of child support. And I'm sure child support is supposed to help with clothing. My ex always send my daughter with 1 pair of jeans, 2 tops and the rest pyjamas just for the weekend.  Almost as if she wants me to buy my own. But I'm really struggling to live.

Am I over reacting being annoyed by this? She gets so much financial support and I don't get anything. She has to option to send my daughter here with the clothes she usually wears but instead, send barely anything. It's either have my daughter dressed poorly (wearing pyjama tops????) Or getting into more debt.",3.703349282296653,5.580997571428572,4.651770334928231,83.24693779904307,73.28571428571428,6.941626794258375,30.887901572112106,7.686295010490155,2.1935172932330818,539,25,98,7,11,175,87,133,0.08199999999999999,0.828,0.09,-0.42,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,2,5,6,1,1,4,0,6,2,2,1,1,23,16,11,0,2,7,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,10,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,2,0,1,0,0,17,4,18,15,6,12,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,6,3,67,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861855407406913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471156559989996,0.0,0.0,0.1264411549324989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060148534606043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016524530745307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29142773658107723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462730475546535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641826856625773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807401140632202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668251520290464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259933506014449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382275205167256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818037019498788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437806315538605,0.0,0.0,0.632985392164383,0.17524012193300248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20477948014520775,0.0,0.10966839480448436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,padam_singh,2019/03/02,"10yr old still needs to be hand fed by the parents My ten year old son is an extremely fussy eater. If left to himself, he would not finish a plate of food in two hours. His mother out of desperation would start spoon feeding him, and then the food gets consumed in 15 minutes or less. This also has become a sore point between me and my wife. I keep telling her that he too old to be hand fed each meal. We've shown him to the doctors and they say if he is digesting food then as such nothing wrong with him.

I am at a loss to understand on what to do and on more than one occasion have lost my temper at the situation. What really makes me angry is that each meal drags to an hour where the first 45 minutes is constant reminder to him to eat, and then giving up and resorting to spoon  feeding him ourselves. 

Have any other parents faced and overcome such a situation? 

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parenting,Orrjay13,2019/03/02,Please HELP... I have a friend who is getting harassed by and anonymous person and this guy has done everything for his friends and me especially...I need someone to find out who this person is,4.587499999999999,6.7229560833333375,4.495555555555558,84.20500000000001,71.5,7.022222222222222,31.44444444444445,7.793537801064563,2.185011111111111,153,7,28,2,3,47,29,36,0.085,0.706,0.209,0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,0,20,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917555503832046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25622885182864724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26057557922194663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44053399692415457,0.0,0.1489526080821348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822931129484423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19109603944382034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113975055149012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4978753934236319,0.0,0.3129533985084284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415636969041545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abdu_gf,2019/03/02,"How to prepare a four years old for moving to a new flat ? My two-year tenancy agreement is coming to an end in couple of months and we are moving, any advice on how to get my four years old son through that ? Besides I kind of feel guilty for not being able to provide him with a more stable environment.",4.400322580645163,4.861380161290325,5.300161290322581,84.6702419354839,69.96774193548387,7.490322580645162,26.79032258064516,7.1686216300943375,1.2207935483870966,238,7,49,2,4,78,48,62,0.045,0.8590000000000001,0.096,0.5028,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,2,0,8,6,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,2,13,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,33,6,0,0.21339252506105105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085247057773845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511423458299952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18381876527462415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361147701893584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900243894701524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789767239883777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148878689272723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222154771246063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703278776202886,0.4536049663899504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20609583043695234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44783911713025015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084534898380276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122533693716837
parenting,Shakestitus,2019/03/02,"Toddler won’t leave newborn kitten alone My cat had to have an emergency c section 9 days ago. Only one of her kittens survived. And he’s amazing! She’s became such a good first time momma! But anyways I was looking for advice on how to make my three year old leave him alone! I have told her we can’t touch him much or pick him up but she still does! I tell her she’s going to hurt him which stops her for a bit, but then she goes right back! I have the cats in my closet, which is where the momma cat picked. I can’t shut my bedroom door because she needs to get out and use the litter box and eat. I’ve tried to put food and the box in my room but she won’t use it in there! My daughter isn’t trying to be rough or hurt the kitten, but I just can’t get through to her that we have to leave him alone. She only just turned three this month, and I’m trying to teach her to be gentle. Which she really is very soft with him, but shes frankly very clumsy and always is trying to set next to the nest and pick him up. How can I get her to leave them alone? I know she’s just excited about him, but I’m so scared she’s going to accidentally hurt him! ",2.2617839752102675,2.949698792828688,3.4817994687915004,94.93636896857019,75.01593625498008,6.215227976980966,20.31894643647632,5.82211442006289,-0.24842912793271354,891,16,218,4,18,290,128,251,0.154,0.7929999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.9727,0,4,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,1,2,13,7,0,1,9,0,19,2,0,8,0,34,34,20,0,1,12,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,4,1,6,11,2,1,1,0,0,3,6,4,0,4,3,4,44,3,27,27,3,28,0,3,1,0,37,12,0,2,12,139,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402593531867377,0.09436533691935746,0.0,0.0,0.4410183071962699,0.0,0.0,0.0885785271166752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08185680566654642,0.0,0.06489356906097445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622055257172127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865423352831919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931588980723984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089293518575192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905499953199481,0.12872499356715086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685397479627678,0.0,0.12100089342218448,0.08928883796398672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34188467319600874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850451355270346,0.0,0.0,0.4508790418037084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939482263937103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105908924154118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497082738584916,0.0,0.0782561784074124,0.07893453385685661,0.0,0.0,0.11321538340720655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170590759998077,0.0,0.0721362063624419,0.16192662388904086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701600051989572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819736715935193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909114127540367,0.0,0.0,0.10657935144105056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501456226242317,0.0890005832516315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304577309509893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207437357811335,0.0,0.0,0.10172167050029364,0.0,0.2891019980550295,0.11579173756715548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18388471612600304,0.0,0.17567193551058052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855309570679367
parenting,britanyw,2019/03/02,"My grandma's weird neighbor kid keeps coming over to her house and killing her animals. What can be done about this? This is a weird situation, and I really have no clue where to post this.  I hope maybe someone in the parenting section might possibly know something about who to call or what to do if CPS isn't doing anything.  What do you think the best way of handling it would be?  Keep in mind, the police and CPS have been called on this particular family many, many times.  For some reason, they don't ever do anything to actually help.  So I'm not sure what else can be done.  

My grandmother is pretty old, in her late 80s.  She lives alone out in the country.  All of the surrounding neighbors are people who have lived there for decades, or direct family members of people who have.  My younger sister is one of her neighbors.  This kid I'm talking about, we'll call him ""Brandon,"" lives a couple of houses down.  His own grandmother lives in between my grandma and his house.  And then he lives on the other side of her.  His grandmother is also pretty old.  About 10 years or so younger than my grandma, but in worse health.  She has dementia.  Brandon's parents are meth heads.  Brandon is 8 years old, and has been wandering around this neighborhood as long as he has been walking.  He was in diapers, known for wandering into neighbors' yards several houses down.  The neighbors would either call his parents or walk him home (sometimes this would be at like midnight) and his parents would not even have noticed that he left the house.  His parents have no business raising children.  As you can imagine, people have been calling CPS and the police on this kids parents for years, yet nobody ever takes him away for some reason and nothing is ever done about this.  So now he is 8 and is STILL wandering around, barging into people's houses and refusing to leave, getting into unlocked vehicles, and just being a nuissance in general.  Seriously, he has done some very disturbing things.   Once, he beat one of the neighbors puppies to death with a hammer.  Another time, my grandma's cat had kittens and he snapped all their little necks.  My grandma found the kittens bodies, and asked him about it.  He told her that he ""accidently dropped them."" But their necks were very clearly snapped.  And the mother was never seen again after this.  He kills baby birds he finds in nests.  He just is a weird, weird little boy in general.  I'm honestly concerned about him showing up to my grandmother's house.  I do not want this kid on her property, period.  My younger sister lives next door, and has the same problem with him showing up to her house.  He will literally refuse to leave.  He just sits on the porch, and knocks on the door over and over again.  Goes around the house knocking on windows.  She can't figure out how to keep him away, because his family doesn't  care.  If cops are called, nothing is done.  His father ALWAYS has warrants out for his arrest for various petty crimes, and for some reason the cops never arrest him when they are called.  CPS isn't concerned about it either, apparently.  They've been out to their house on different occasions and apparently never find anything wrong enough to take him away.  

This kid needs help, for sure.  But at this point, my primary concern is keeping him off of my grandmother's property, because she is very old and lives alone.  That may sound callous, but I feel like he could be dangerous for a nearly 90 year old woman.  Any suggestions on how to do this?  Is there anybody to call other than the police or cps?  ",5.081253480244065,6.913621126888216,5.0333801315088,82.0952493928085,69.60422960725076,7.850767134648423,29.596706356258515,8.435331408891425,2.2519529885670293,2814,110,503,44,51,873,279,662,0.107,0.848,0.046,-0.9896,9,2,2,0,0,0,88.0,1,2,6,2,33,19,3,1,24,0,73,5,4,5,11,103,95,43,3,11,19,10,1,2,6,8,1,1,12,8,30,34,0,6,12,3,0,3,13,11,0,2,17,3,55,8,93,63,14,87,0,0,1,0,99,51,0,14,31,353,85,0,0.0,0.0,0.04272574864397834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069166270158384,0.0,0.035013131617989794,0.03643084095506025,0.0,0.0,0.02977384132633312,0.04591013872642618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080886721016727,0.11692806466162815,0.040931057178270135,0.0,0.1234062945307103,0.0,0.0,0.05337924145775333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594740289466217,0.0,0.0,0.04863287939559016,0.0,0.0,0.3576575039342418,0.0,0.04463953647025029,0.0,0.0,0.03771505094463218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034957045369698285,0.048444893932170816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04574376253892338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240252978146516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03657495547590175,0.0,0.0,0.0452393909040528,0.0,0.02891816139154353,0.11881229109661008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382373132157035,0.0,0.022137925936178447,0.03127847883512511,0.0,0.0,0.0800334686510662,0.0,0.0,0.04800563830189998,0.0,0.0,0.02287473355145485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044933838393050575,0.04653912521720392,0.0,0.0,0.05869344674522661,0.0,0.04391777125941261,0.043486251900050066,0.0,0.5051953380808848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566484530864202,0.0968784794520215,0.0,0.02406191091419118,0.0,0.049388965078780746,0.09271943887870668,0.04757019774493617,0.0,0.0,0.042780180705227766,0.08776384147816335,0.2706274285331328,0.038746447019669256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887778816296434,0.04398576051849362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046446687943109216,0.044208200305487694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032464430629030074,0.10130410577070936,0.0,0.046563560727774296,0.0,0.0,0.08402165630845837,0.049847068177822834,0.2297136950671564,0.04662730938369805,0.059336788421192874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29169406053297536,0.0,0.0,0.12141406960574372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04138894782630676,0.04935858811098391,0.04193187034648328,0.08908580316727684,0.0,0.0418942771885578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02804841666946712,0.13504819430781306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049462161444078535,0.0,0.0,0.04921376105010687,0.0,0.0,0.037097069151954494,0.033706179172286896,0.043302361008329765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0349650428547638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252964135333793,0.0,0.06583851302271937,0.035190998668055966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029087381973437486,0.028054284241904544,0.0,0.0,0.051060267196145814,0.0,0.0,0.041836392185636284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837631677523277,0.025824260994496126,0.03475279068034177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04461846754340178,0.12440832993607792,0.04786967646070485,0.0,0.11277888707187912
parenting,montereyk,2019/03/02,"Traveling With Baby Help I am pregnant with my first baby. My husband and I bought one of the Graco Stroller Car Seat travel systems. We have two cars and want to have at least two car seats.

We have a lot of questions and inexperience around this. What should we get? 

1. Another one of the same car seats so it’s always all compatible with the stroller?
2. Another type of car seat that we may like more/use longer?
3. When not using a car seat-stroller combo, how is baby carried around? Relying on a baby carrier?
4. Should your car seat be compatible with your stroller?
5. Should we also get a stroller that doesn’t require a car seat?

Help! Advice! Recommendations on brands of anything mentioned?!
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parenting,trebond,2019/03/02,"To parents who dont force their kids into car seats How long does it take a 2 year old to get in? This waiting is really frustrating me. It often takes over half an hour. What am I doing wrong?

They say they want to get in on their own, but then simply don't. ",0.9914285714285712,2.5569424285714284,2.6851428571428606,95.75985714285716,80.07142857142857,5.908571428571428,16.557142857142857,6.742157984588678,-0.4193242857142856,200,3,48,2,5,66,48,56,0.084,0.895,0.021,-0.5198,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,4,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,11,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,6,0,8,11,1,11,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,5,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467259973226538,0.0,0.33042944191302737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946021202531274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27765231074099617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495064132352275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29584668807502035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31305897875253863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18061681466105287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22420855332260387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239648406652732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629444067261775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082551355064405,0.0,0.18155894131196598
parenting,concerned4childandus,2019/03/02,"Child with anger issues This is a throwaway account just because idk.

If this is not the place for this please let me know where I can post.

I am the soon to be step dad of a 5 year old boy. He and I enjoy games together but he definitely has a temper. Today he ""trolled"" me pretty hard in a video game and when I ""trolled"" him back in the game he got very mad, put his controller down, and ran to the kitchen and opened our utencil drawer. He then shut it, and started walking back to the living room. This is a drawer that he never gets into, ever. When he came back to the living room I asked him what he was doing in there. He said, he didn't remember. I refused to accept this and kept pressing him and asking why he had got into it. after a couple minutes of this I said: ""I'll tell you what I think you were doing. I think you were getting into it to find something to hit me with."" I'm fully aware that this could be considered some sort of suggestive coersion, but he did say that's what he was doing once I brought it up. I specifically attempted to describe to him what would have happened had he kept going with getting something to hit me with. I also tried to show him love while telling him that stopping was good, but that the thought/action at all is not right. I also told him, ""I suggested that you were getting something to hit me with, but you're the only one that knows what you were doing"" and I had him sit there and try to really think about that moment and why he got so upset. I also told him I was not going to lie to him and that i would talk to his mom when she got home from work and that i think game restrictions if not completely not letting him play games may be in the future. Through all of this he just seemed like he was trying not to cry. The anger seemed to stop at the drawer. His mom and I are concerned for his anger issues and frankly our well being. We just dont know what steps to take now. Any and all help is appreciated.",3.61873544973545,4.395462400000003,4.415022045855384,89.17152777777781,71.91358024691358,7.0696649029982375,24.58774250440917,7.021680442328713,0.7808112874779534,1532,41,334,13,28,493,189,405,0.083,0.813,0.104,0.8715,0,0,3,0,3,0,41.0,3,5,0,3,21,13,5,1,17,0,39,2,0,1,5,71,77,30,0,5,15,3,2,1,0,3,0,3,4,2,28,26,1,7,12,8,1,9,9,6,1,1,27,5,49,7,45,37,4,50,0,0,0,1,66,18,0,7,22,233,77,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778914117642806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173321296262482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16973326631768682,0.0,0.0,0.2094116317389217,0.0,0.055338376472443856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10382763134187056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518064027140584,0.0,0.10181699436135423,0.07248009091937681,0.10044585518165637,0.09971708268619883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639296684842152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211530818225714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297087215286635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897142907853572,0.0,0.10318423058850867,0.07614158693283526,0.29041882424165794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027606406213184,0.0,0.08132065378191528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060847624727363235,0.0,0.0910592992111934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18950054828053245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967021431390273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565649879740634,0.0,0.044350306987759006,0.0,0.16032002719675348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193209610739825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126398442537273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001479214575232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525787621814212,0.09667726742105703,0.06151457845118509,0.0690419451676635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948453175247335,0.09964869499659118,0.0,0.0,0.08694172356360272,0.09235544716240499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912585300984262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581557099247798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283554372786237,0.07752524722284203,0.17270429749889507,0.07219154879988883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528460181938787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20965961840726732,0.0,0.0,0.064254238973984,0.0,0.0,0.1517915520293902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825493057859741,0.07296517071249202,0.15869067136277046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326715031006444,0.0,0.07206882952948904,0.0,0.0,0.08604840718798187,0.17348751745375518,0.0,0.1849000845400341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490264323259126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816217255676457,0.0,0.16382886395932375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608860000168926,0.0,0.0,0.12897438798862335,0.0,0.0,0.05845905955657199
parenting,Jschuma83,2019/03/02,"I have 2 kids in ealry teens and toddler, fiance doesnr trust tween/teen to babysit. I have lived with my fiance for almost 13 years. I had my oldest daughter a year before we moved in together(different dad). About 6 months after moving in together our daughter was born. So I currently have a 13(f) and 12(f) year old. We also have a 3 yr old(m) together. I think it's important the older 2 learn some more responsibility, not just with chores, and think they should be able to watch their brother. However my fiance doesn't seem to trust them. How can I get him on board for even a few hours, so maybe we can have a date? I feel like at their ages they should be fully capable of watching him(I know they are), I can't understand why he won't allow it. We have house and cell phones (kids have cell phones). Am I wrong? ",3.4372507122507123,5.090244462962963,4.202098765432098,87.13098290598292,73.50617283950619,7.206837606837608,21.72079772079772,7.882392219407189,0.7796803418803413,641,15,134,9,13,205,109,162,0.032,0.875,0.094,0.8551,3,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,5,0,6,0,7,4,0,0,6,0,20,0,0,2,0,25,27,8,0,2,2,4,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,10,0,0,7,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,3,24,3,15,20,3,20,0,0,2,0,23,5,0,3,14,81,26,1,0.1843626112040248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18461252399681824,0.0,0.0,0.1474347135714818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687900318668666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926196891266607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217697659350611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321927570141003,0.13170868628154686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632185506793972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156003501599974,0.21272970033144228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132086961891597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007025931908927,0.0,0.16279556337276976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521702297362866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715647734114365,0.39189655792694456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869150946586178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678367970647154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23626423404714586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19192798016008544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635858084185162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015715736240312,0.0,0.3561704311492465
parenting,momxlife,2019/03/02,"Picky Toddlers My son is 2 years old. He is such a picky eater lately. He eats breakfast and lunch without an issue but as soon as dinner time comes along he refuses to eat. He really only likes chicken nuggets, Mac & Cheese, plain pasta, meatloaf, bananas, Cheerios, and broccoli. It’s a fight to get him to eat anything else for dinner. I’ve been making dinner for me and my husband and something totally different for him as he won’t even touch anything I cook unless it’s one of those foods named above. 

Should I continue making him a separate dinner or only give him what I make? Any tips to try and get a picky eater to try new foods are appreciated! Thanks all :) ",4.272307692307694,5.894951615384612,4.910769230769233,83.0092307692308,71.30769230769229,7.353846153846155,27.615384615384606,7.908726449838941,1.745907692307692,530,19,99,7,10,170,88,130,0.025,0.85,0.125,0.9361,1,0,1,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,5,0,6,13,0,3,2,19,14,11,0,1,4,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,7,13,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,10,2,15,11,2,8,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,8,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684092275647705,0.0,0.105698286943062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558126411229449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388988787591194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623921242039442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4771335938808011,0.12984250491730878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266059011760004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758951268605389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624123756264765,0.1491034046977043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622293929537573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533273404331534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593564710204129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31125383608323315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011605364485506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630984983753835,0.0,0.10532394560852293,0.2364242838245613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957296275391353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965823821179787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309981544514278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063296056317628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21105464685426573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982976305800855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009235150571323
parenting,RhightfullySoSoSo,2019/03/02,"I asked my 7yo if he knew who MOMO was, showed him the picture, hysterics ensued. I felt some pressure to find out if my kids had come across this MOMO thing during their browsing of YouTube. I became worried (as I'm sure most of us did) that she had told them to cut themselves or turn on the stove etc. So I asked all 3 of them 10yo, 7yo, 5yo (all boys) when they didn't recognize the name, I showed them a picture... I feel so bad because my 7 year old literally broke down into horrified tears. He said, ""WHY WOULD YOU SHOW ME THAT?!) Omg, buddy. Mummy is so, so sorry!!! 

I'm wondering if THAT was the goal of this whole thing. Maybe ""she"" isn't really popping up in these videos and the sickos that started saying she did were just trying to get parents to terrify their children by asking them about it. 🤔 

Either way, I hope he isn't scarred for life. ",2.7313455149501635,4.284777616279071,3.745614617940202,90.09058139534883,75.16279069767442,6.542192691029903,23.332225913621265,7.1686216300943375,0.7377760797342199,658,19,140,7,14,212,119,172,0.161,0.81,0.029,-0.9696,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,1,7,1,7,6,1,1,6,0,12,1,0,0,3,23,28,11,0,5,6,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,1,3,11,4,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,4,0,0,12,4,24,2,19,15,7,13,0,1,0,0,28,7,0,8,4,90,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4794916624478229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274984641789404,0.1042195624840834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727246027373275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067278728305173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644577526263962,0.0,0.16415460535199028,0.0,0.15626024010661893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932291495971914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16980826341201474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075866135582565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17175878081351875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940053206225398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983801279137386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095254872056089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162628247084721,0.13595938497977594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913829461482299,0.1210109349151388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113385801146246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22716502822381324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16336577180289713,0.0,0.11607499859600523,0.18596240587694896,0.0,0.0,0.20565159160292495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570521202226887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427063109275846,0.19087793845686646,0.0,0.0,0.18540582460588245,0.0,0.17362473124512767,0.0,0.12144966246452962,0.0,0.0,0.11009678994198087
parenting,lacyhoohas,2019/03/03,"3 year old telling weird lies I hope this is just a phase but my 3 year old will say something happened when it didn't. Two days ago he said a friend took a toy when she didn't because I was watching the whole time.  Then today we were playing on the couch and he fell onto the arm of the chair and bonked his head. I snuggled him and gave him kisses. 
Hubby came home from work and put him to bed and out of nowhere my boy tells him I pushed him on the couch and when hubby asked if I gave kisses he said ""no"".  When I told hubby the full story he said ""oh he did this to me too!""
What is happening here?? My child is totally normal and wonderful in every other way! We try to correct him in the moment (like I did with his friend) but it's freaking me out. ",1.3462111801242216,2.8815025962732967,2.6005900621118023,96.9003881987578,78.93788819875776,5.3453416149068325,19.57453416149068,5.773587663045528,-0.3472310559006209,582,13,138,3,14,187,98,161,0.041,0.8170000000000001,0.142,0.9627,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,8,9,0,0,10,0,10,4,2,0,2,22,23,15,0,3,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,4,4,2,6,13,0,0,1,2,0,5,3,2,0,1,14,5,23,7,14,8,3,28,0,0,1,2,30,8,0,3,15,86,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366061736750921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406883759111258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394193307565653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625685856141626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938598700616773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12984142953275746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23812470327429675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27255185708085033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581577978208305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458145210808236,0.1530625934030492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528868457143018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099171605577713,0.0,0.0,0.3234178377845961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491966468076865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4397719067236753,0.12255172772125328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863876449218967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693918647272889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986077869918377,0.0,0.14607500661580666,0.1472554291705508,0.17121806661365188,0.10462824339267564,0.0,0.15053972371614055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12232262007203032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205447895516496,0.0,0.0,0.16712199851753104,0.11219141641269667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847915354957926
parenting,wtfdoidothraway,2019/03/03,Daughter 15m asked on her first date My daughter is a very serious ballet dancer and a couple months ago she worked with another dancer (16m) on an original piece and afterward she mentioned that he asked her to go to a movie with him she seems really excited but im worried about her this is new and shes never done anything like this ive met him and he seems perfectly nice but still,1.9897784810126569,4.27584878481013,3.347325949367093,88.65238132911396,80.13924050632913,7.494303797468352,23.799050632911392,8.472884824447931,1.6474924050632902,310,11,64,7,8,101,54,79,0.081,0.764,0.155,0.8039,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,2,13,11,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,11,4,7,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,2,10,38,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20047210333650195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371424570672436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861056838016196,0.0,0.4228474031609797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502353836893161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314343238453681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923666953514228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852867589860342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24428540567064505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048754640746564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051417018561744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17442410485564386,0.2184211905286532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448802079531647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41176468336508937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806070816611887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660094669664745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464299247593642,0.22967062562692925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ACTequality4Lefties,2019/03/03,"Parents of left-handed students, be warned: ​

The ACT college entrance exam discriminates against left-handed students.

Also, all standard scantron tests disadvantage Lefties!",14.021999999999998,18.287289800000003,10.053,45.25150000000002,51.0,8.200000000000001,60.5,8.841846274778883,7.6806,155,12,10,2,2,44,22,25,0.198,0.802,0.0,-0.636,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24423149211359316,0.0,0.3309051384506343,0.3710993240733576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6636447434719049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391150327155049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710993240733576,0.0
parenting,keagennn97,2019/03/03,"Dear parents... I (21M) need help with my controlling mothers Parents of reddit... mothers and fathers (I hope I can post here asking for parent advice)... I’m emotionally drained and torn. I feel like my mother will always be right and all I can do now is sit there listening to her bashing my head in, and know I have to accept it because everything I may say is just back chat or attitude and it’s just me being in denial.

So in brief context, my mum hardly has a job and is too lazy to work hard but cries about having no money. 
Like me, she is a student doing nursing and in her final 1.5 years now. I personally, feel the timing of it all was selfish. My sisters were moving from what we call intermediate here in NZ (a senior in primary school) to becoming juniors in high school.

This period requires a decent sum of money to fund the new text books and uniform. My dad works hard. He has no degree and over the last decade has worked his butt off exceeding as much as 60-65 hours a week at times to make sure we have enough.

As a student, I pay for everything myself... I get no help from my parents. I pay for my car, my WOF, my petrol, my public transport, my food, my clothes, my laptop, camera the list goes on. I am not always the best at saving because of this... and because my funds can be high. I am however slowly gaining more and more as the weeks go by. I had a problem with gambling, which they found out about as I reached out. Instead of my mum being supportive, she was critical about it and always brings it up. It makes me feel low, and as if I’m not good enough.

The hypocritical part about it is, she spends my dad’s money and does earn her own money. She gets her nails and hair done, constantly eats out and sits around doing nothing but sleeping and watching TV when she isn’t at class. I’ve recently invested my money in things I enjoy, GoPro, new surfing kit, 3 pairs of shoes which I’ve loved for the last few months, some new clothes for university as well as servicing my car and getting it fixed up.

She came up to me and said “there’s so much better things you can do with your money... like a new car for instance”. The thing is, I don’t even NEED a new car! Why would I? I spend about $20 on petrol a week to get to my part time job and the gym, otherwise I’m using public transport in Auckland. 

She’s the one who came up to me asking for $1000 to lend her to buy my sister a new laptop, and would pay me back $50 a week. I said to her no (and my sister is currently borrowing mine and my mum refuses to give it back to me even though University is starting now), and she lashed out saying I’m selfish for it? She’s had 4 months to organise a laptop for my sister but did nothing but spend it on herself. And I SAVED for my own laptop. I got no assistance.

So essentially, there’s a whole lot more examples. The way I see it is, my savings is going up... at times it’s slowly.... but it’s going up. Yes I buy clothes and shoes here and there, but a lot of them have resale value! And I see it as a better investment, than me gambling it off or spending it on drugs and alcohol like some people my age would. I have had no assistance with any of my assets and I’m the one working more than she has the last 4/5 years. However, she belittles me. She always has to bring up money some how and how I’m poor with saving and I’m throwing away my future.

I’ve seen a therapist the last 1.5 months as I have mild depression... and I haven’t told my parents (even though mum has depression), because I know she will act all sympathetic at first, but she will bring it up in a negative way when I’m down and emotional. I’ve explained to the the therapist my past, the situations we’ve been through and my current position with money/study. He agrees with me.... that yes I could save more, but I’m young, I have my future ahead of me, and I’m investing it in things which have resale value. And that he sees it as my mum putting me down for something she wishes she could’ve done when she was younger. That she’s trying to make me follow the path she wished she could’ve taken.

There’s a whole lot more too.... she has not socially developed since her teenagers, avoids gatherings or invites by friends or colleagues where as with my girlfriend for 3.5 years, I’ve socially grown. Family gatherings, celebrations and even just casual lunches/drinks and she always makes me feel guilty for going. She has even stopped me from going out with her family and just my friends in general.... IM 21! I feel like I’m treated as a 14 year old.

I feel like I’m being controlled over my own money/assets as well as any activities I may do, while she’s sitting in 10k worth of debt, doing nothing to try get rid of it but instead my dad is working hard. I feel like even though she’s my mum, she has no place to tell me what I should be doing when she’s not doing it herself. I’ve offered to pay for board while staying at home, she’s declined that offer, but constantly brings up how I don’t pay rent...... it pisses me off.

Please... I need help. I feel lost, I feel like my life is just me being suffocated within her grasp. And that I’m nothing but unsuccessful, poor and a failure.

TL;DR - My mum is hypocritical and controlling over my money and a lot of my life activities, despite me working more than she does and having to pay for my own assets and bills with no assistance. As well as me investing it in assets with resale value.",4.08235814476321,4.739512560578664,5.207635012951472,84.34678168222473,70.77215189873421,8.293025756316894,27.24251014124432,8.441846121484758,1.704206285127804,4236,136,891,64,74,1403,390,1106,0.098,0.7859999999999999,0.116,0.9771,13,1,4,0,0,0,171.0,2,2,2,18,52,40,1,1,41,2,77,14,7,11,4,153,148,94,0,13,25,23,14,8,3,9,4,5,2,1,41,67,3,7,15,5,35,24,17,9,3,3,21,24,153,31,142,110,31,142,0,4,5,2,104,55,2,15,64,611,194,29,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044334039509701835,0.0,0.04848563911707213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887531176178201,0.0,0.0,0.061704920627401134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040388008554118164,0.08482773877574869,0.0,0.042625647602751934,0.10465782918773342,0.0,0.11062602978233854,0.05010647093776368,0.0,0.0,0.04761194260383877,0.08025034705307407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04632679835079328,0.1037800471321651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805549361384486,0.1526554974400473,0.10867030993400614,0.0,0.04983569117059508,0.0,0.0,0.0781524672896737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940539549430227,0.09285643104409896,0.0,0.044444325576835884,0.052613609938903,0.046423790127177664,0.0,0.10206798586793182,0.0,0.09375656282878246,0.0,0.17979468962011813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154942272764071,0.0,0.08553966807353773,0.0,0.20645926284713476,0.16205803214248374,0.0,0.049699496983738836,0.0,0.03859082889108386,0.05486034740480465,0.04974474184603445,0.0701039185959629,0.0,0.11851709044653075,0.04352205706561371,0.12892117656175908,0.038053345619476056,0.03628571565962423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256676904276576,0.0,0.046561659631661784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09122960738592176,0.09586963083581597,0.04550878336443672,0.04506163132371056,0.044679303728710464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049006280809694984,0.0,0.09004341878948617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04986720681521886,0.14792708717470066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409090073499935,0.17731992495756765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04952559806190805,0.1542843282677888,0.0409472733114056,0.0,0.1211365785006269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863925444042777,0.0482200428643647,0.066702837033174,0.1009215653376082,0.0,0.2629058457695985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413102920350387,0.0,0.047607109763863335,0.0,0.06148638631617118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25188440102219056,0.09826036242272808,0.04330982241321421,0.031453136353647534,0.0396144409911597,0.04740092495499607,0.0498015129968324,0.0,0.0,0.04345093908322519,0.0,0.0,0.04341198403539478,0.0,0.0456083531542893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044796391702217095,0.0,0.0,0.038744858698682265,0.08631257355446806,0.07215846340872023,0.0,0.0918316542673733,0.1084596028342539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037529686829739235,0.050996631339721175,0.04540174220512082,0.0924959177582014,0.0,0.03492725523191791,0.0,0.0,0.03211239562619364,0.04835729323778733,0.0,0.03793049648798528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05148417776192552,0.04275972415937149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0396544858546287,0.0,0.0,0.105353758853566,0.12056453020339293,0.0,0.1337243694575294,0.0,0.10582006198056476,0.0,0.0,0.04335200202851093,0.0,0.061605114940046224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03918422961056085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720235648134045,0.1455690278133349,0.0,0.1223764774888436,0.0,0.04093844529527281,0.10130568580992444,0.10434416967173316,0.0,0.0,0.19817493477696874,0.0,0.0,0.09668645926412263,0.0,0.0,0.11686453553210348
parenting,AbledShawl,2019/03/03,"What can I, a stranger, do to offer support if/when a child is loudly crying in public? I often see parents in food courts and malls ignoring their kid when they're loudly crying. Is there anything I can do to help out the parents or calm the child down?",5.540588235294117,5.517006980392157,5.847843137254902,83.41529411764708,67.43137254901961,7.584313725490197,28.764705882352942,6.42735559955562,1.3721058823529408,200,6,39,1,3,64,37,51,0.165,0.6970000000000001,0.138,-0.3736,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,6,1,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,2,6,8,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,2,1,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21784592073649134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5815754347312551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3201062295116952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743942587320738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5878910338578255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21095135898081185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30040651950804986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elChardo,2019/03/03,"How can i change my toddler's poo schedule? My (2.5M) son generally does not poop during the day, but will poop once to twice each night. His first poop occurs about 30 minutes after he goes to bed, and his second poop will either be 30 minutes after the first poop, or at random during the night. I feel like he would be much better rested if he didn't need to be changed twice a night.

He is in the process of being toilet trained ( he can pee on command, but still needs to wear diapers 24/7). We have him sit on the toilet each night before bed, but he simply does not poop before bed. He has on occasion pooped on the toilet, but it is not common.

Thoughts?",5.085056390977447,5.1431446766917315,5.355404135338347,86.27791823308273,68.3984962406015,7.552255639097744,25.64755639097744,6.6274283507984215,0.8806398496240601,514,12,107,3,8,163,82,133,0.0,0.944,0.056,0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,7,0,14,9,9,1,0,22,18,8,0,4,10,1,1,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,1,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,5,2,1,8,2,14,9,5,19,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,3,13,66,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28656371403243497,0.0,0.0,0.14892141884255752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35625458501040386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859335210515568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947068665745525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08513969786199077,0.12029312254826942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864536393329117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226361562110299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378116103640766,0.2497082900164691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6320655938341512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793228075877695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344711872723899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367759759392486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961472421590585,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,melancholy_pumpkin,2019/03/03,"I’m noticing some OCD tendencies in my daughter Hello.
So lately my daughter (4) has been very I guess you could say obsessive about how she wipes after going to the bathroom. She has a routine of how much toilet paper and then using a wet wipe and she gets upset if she messes up or can’t do it that specific way. Also she’s super obsessive about her pee dripping, so that’s another reason she does this. Some times after going potty she’ll even get all stiff when I hold her and won’t open her legs (as kids do to wrap around your waist) while I hold her. It’s been difficult for me to talk to her about it because she has a hard time listening, but maybe I need to approach it a different way or something? Has anyone had a child with OCD traits like this? If so how did you deal with it and help your child? Thanks!",3.625,4.625247690476193,4.549761904761908,87.37857142857145,72.09523809523809,7.504761904761906,24.119047619047624,7.793537801064563,1.071990476190476,644,17,135,8,12,209,107,168,0.046,0.8690000000000001,0.085,0.8829,1,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,4,0,1,13,8,0,3,6,0,14,4,3,5,1,27,24,20,0,4,5,2,2,1,0,2,1,2,0,3,9,8,1,3,1,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,4,4,24,3,18,17,4,17,0,0,0,0,28,4,0,7,9,94,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616030653565874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047614996234645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653991067678165,0.0,0.0,0.17383499253367182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190370344422548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591015908180642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20131860922423991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20401945356131446,0.0,0.0,0.1708853299165431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289764365159165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20404489620010705,0.0,0.22195708644575335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21511599479420668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492687863592885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088784424326755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202772379897205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954008656733058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961786772092909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354863724091962,0.1447929735005528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22232040057088734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007738853552462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528948315300256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033123369592366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569536024157295,0.0,0.17978178618550195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22773132846665814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16865377882304586,0.0,0.16112125238682726,0.0,0.30999834603902443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wswutltfaciwt,2019/03/03,"Teaching kids about charity We are in the privilaged position where we can donate a little bit each month to charity. We would love to be able to teach our children why we think this is important. Has anyone got a recommendation for a charity that sends updates so the kids can understand where our families money is going and why this is a good thing? I remember as a child we ""sponsored"" an African child - although this feels a little outdated. Just interested if anyone has any suggestions!

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parenting,PerfectMontana,2019/03/03,"14 year perfectionist emotional when things don't go the way he planned. Normal reaction to stress (chronic illness, brother moving away for college, teenage drama) or something to be concerned about? My 14 year old son has been a perfectionist since he was little. It started right after he developed Type 1 and I think it was a way to take control when he felt like he lost it. At 5 he was outside shooting hoops until he made 100 in a row. If he gave up a homerun in baseball he was outside throwing with one of his brothers. If he didn't get a perfect score on a spelling test he rewrote the words 10 times each. All of this was on his own. He was a perfectionist but always had control of his emotions. If he gave up a homerun he was internally aggravated but waited until he got home to correct it. 

Last week he took a test in his honors algebra course. The test was given on Wednesday but my son missed Tuesday through Thursday will an illness. He took it on Friday and studied, but completely blanked when he got the test. He couldn't remember much of anything. He took it during his lunch period and there were a couple other students taking the exam as well. One of the girls, who is a good friend, noticed he was crying and told the teacher. She addressed it with my son and he told her that he couldn't remember anything. She told him to try his best and he would retake it at a later date if he didn't do well. He calmed down but told her not to tell his parents that he failed. She was concerned and told us about his emotional episode and said he can take the test after school tomorrow. 

This isn't the only time this has happened this year. He had a similar reaction to losing in the playoffs for basketball. He was fine on the court but was nervous beforehand and emotional in the car after. This is all very new behavior. The perfectionism has always been there but the emotions have become more than he can handle. 

I know some kids with Type 1 and other medical conditions can develop anxiety over their conditions but he hasn't mentioned anything about Type 1. It's school and sports that get him to that extreme level of emotion. His oldest brother is away at college and the middle, who the 14 year old is extremely close too (they share a room even though they don't have to), is going away to college after this school year. I'm sure that's playing a role. There is also normal teen drama. 

Does this sound like a normal but over stressed teenager or should we be more concerned about an anxiety issue? 

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parenting,Fantastic_FourSkin,2019/03/03,"My 9-year old made an inappropriate joke It was funny beyond belief and I needed to share it with the internet.

For background purposes, we were at our local home improvement store and my fiancé, 9 y.o. son, and I were shooting the shit, pun intended, in the bathroom/toilet aisle. 

I approach a toilet model that’s out on the floor to examine and my kid follows promptly behind me. His initial instinct was to open the lid and mine was to stand a few feet close to him to make sure he didn’t try to shove his entire arm into the bowl. 9 year old quickly turns to me an announces there’s a fly inside. I lean over to take a small peek. There, in fact, was a fly inside this empty toilet bowl. 

Me- “Now, that’s the kind of toilet I want in my house. Yup. One that double as a Venus fly trap.” 

Son- “Don’t you mean a PENIS fly trap, Mom?”

I laughed. Gosh dammit, he got me good and I wasn’t even upset that he said it loud enough for others in the aisle to hear. Needless to say, I am very fond of his humor and I applaud his wit. 

PS- Hi Fiancé! ",0.8352153690596573,2.9946048976744173,2.5449544994944406,93.46602628918102,83.74418604651162,4.8554095045500505,18.185035389282106,6.046907544983943,-0.2722760364004042,803,19,174,6,23,264,134,215,0.043,0.807,0.15,0.969,0,0,0,1,0,0,33.0,2,1,0,0,6,10,1,1,17,1,10,3,3,3,2,23,21,8,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,9,13,0,0,3,1,1,2,3,2,0,1,11,4,26,8,28,10,3,23,1,0,0,0,20,15,1,0,5,106,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057179012211044,0.0,0.13150007879766934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699107047206546,0.15923410680989866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224394038228872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19970807628591492,0.0,0.0,0.22972839063440065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073263461495679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18838808603724114,0.13289716441377644,0.0,0.0,0.21687234178882056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23317714173901946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762609309896582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178324976230102,0.0,0.13491162607712065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893845182128031,0.15832798472881635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20436770418867653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764426607496806,0.0,0.14969433106734004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517213694250987,0.21655770921734607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427386239836364,0.11743112951367896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564207374021085
parenting,SirPatches420,2019/03/03,"First time parents baby gender reveal! 😁


Hello everyone ! I have been working very very hard on my first YouTube video on the channel my wife and I made 😬 if anyone wants to support us and watch our video, or if anyone wants to know the gender of our baby on the way... please watch, like, comment, subscribe!!! 😬😬😬😬🤗🤗🤗🤗

https://youtu.be/Mj80P5zBdkE",2.5442016806722703,5.018724176470588,3.4691596638655464,87.49264705882356,79.29411764705883,5.0621848739495805,22.94957983193277,6.18269132825596,0.5343756302521006,276,9,52,2,7,88,43,68,0.031,0.833,0.136,0.7715,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,10,7,5,0,4,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,7,2,6,5,0,7,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,3,4,25,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3226247073963837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204458541565494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39247037458198025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066638712298354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678790466876871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270944964242548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21829601516533725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561675093829796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532417548710912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617981410595798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452431755552455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775063605383505,0.0,0.0,0.3807069789996458,0.2721482888693204,0.18312068095780984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795396108272076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tshirtguy2000,2019/03/03,"Unique Development Birthday Gift Does anyone provided or seen a birthday gift from an extended family for a young child that helped them develop for the future (specialized training, special assessment etc)?",11.886249999999995,13.954190125,10.193750000000003,50.47625000000002,54.0,15.15,47.25,13.816669648895859,8.144575,172,10,19,7,2,53,28,32,0.0,0.7609999999999999,0.239,0.8176,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,11,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569827880234698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4467786832695758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5693892074170852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4812934943690828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422054937984426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sousmatras,2019/03/03,"Sleep advice Hi, need help with my kid sleeping schedule.

My son is 2 years old and he has alot of trouble sleeping.
Right now he is staying awake until almost 6am, wakes up at 4pm, has his nap almost at 9-10pm and repeat.
We've tried skipping nap to try and make him sleep all night, and even after that he only sleeps for 1 or 2 hours and it keeps getting worse.
I'm afraid he will eventually go to sleep at noon and wake up at midnight.
We tried waking him up really early, so he has his nap at regular hours.. Doesn't work. 

We're getting crazy here, need help. ",1.952881355932206,3.5170090338983084,3.312000000000001,92.3342711864407,77.3050847457627,5.7369491525423735,21.122033898305087,6.2581,0.11092610169491568,438,11,97,3,10,143,82,118,0.07,0.883,0.046,-0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,1,0,7,9,9,1,1,17,15,9,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,8,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,15,14,2,23,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,4,12,44,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316515613718353,0.0,0.0,0.2524223770258883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324845222240697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170174530635576,0.0,0.07163162669688003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689643587979707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24824868118065516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203044050696792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841329019978482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18691462196063224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828031572163765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225812879115414,0.0,0.0,0.09585935398208624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074466572778417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076377569901346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7567881559319881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434222637664855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25671934086153475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09175886464898728,0.0,0.1284458687823112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116584302317592
parenting,HCMXero,2019/03/03,"How do I (47/M) tell my ex (34/F) to not get angry at our kid for eating meat at my house?  

TL;DR: My ex is screaming at my kid for eating meat at my house; want advice on how to request she stops doing this.

My ex and I (47/M) separated about four years ago and we share custody of a seven-years-old kid; she is vegetarian and into organic food and I'm not. I usually accommodate my kid preferences regarding certain foods if he likes the organic brand better, but regarding a vegetarian diet the research I've made seems to indicate that for small kids an expert (such as a nutritionist) need to be involved to ensure that the kid is getting all the nutrients he needs at this stage of his growth.

Things came to a head during my kid last annual checkup, when we found out that he only gained half a pound from a year before; when I pointed this out to the pediatrician her eyes widened and she said that although not unheard of we need to pay attention to his weight and that she would be more concerned if something like that happened on his next check up.

I've been trying to talk to my ex about this, but our parenting agreement indicates that all our communication has to be by email (she insisted on this) and she's not very forthcoming about this or any other matter; I would ask her if she relied on a nutritionist advice when choosing our son's diet and she simply ignores the question or change the topic. When my son is with me, I don't follow a vegetarian diet and he eats meat (mainly chicken and beef or turkey sausages).

Today my son refused to eat his sausages because he said that ""mom would get angry at me if I do that""; I respected that and explained to him that over this matter his mom and I have a difference of opinion and that there's nothing wrong with eating meat. He told me in his own words the uneasiness of being trap between our conflicting view on this matter.

This is a matter of great concern to me as I don't want my son to suffer due to an inappropriate diet; I'm open minded and I wouldn't mind a medically supervised vegetarian diet if my son receives the necessary nutrients for a healthy growth. But my ex refuses to discuss this matter. As we are required by our parenting agreement to discuss these matters in good faith, I would like your advice in how to approach this with her.",11.020089204912736,6.897441674725275,10.849553975436333,64.9475048480931,59.725274725274716,13.782805429864256,42.36910148674855,11.326091736570909,4.618586296056884,1842,71,347,35,17,617,210,455,0.052000000000000005,0.792,0.156,0.9923,2,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,10,1,0,3,12,16,0,0,23,0,23,17,2,4,3,81,44,36,0,16,15,14,1,3,0,5,2,3,0,7,26,26,13,6,7,0,2,6,7,4,0,2,7,6,59,12,62,28,5,43,1,1,2,0,73,22,0,11,17,239,85,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716231095528429,0.08213274304949983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300832874274206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661957582864709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056481405219850914,0.0,0.07884226964816339,0.0,0.0,0.08194549474217838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597221842526712,0.0,0.0,0.09801631776591804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680437254944506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4740441118918382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407670371026966,0.10159102436527312,0.0,0.0,0.14522466708767867,0.0,0.0,0.07771431147383734,0.0,0.10215206166817496,0.0,0.0,0.08193418731765233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509038588979614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21382201639496284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552589359073586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357991227939856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767205548698667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333979652635838,0.0,0.0,0.1871095360147278,0.21703197626625936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20610671244264955,0.0,0.0,0.09853925496584784,0.0,0.0,0.08890462074019925,0.0,0.09722545275137306,0.0,0.0,0.070468024737288,0.0,0.0,0.20576401341616374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758857825475329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037943956821096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627155027040126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434929941079168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133006435655567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746342326641313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447228553949407,0.08098423449695939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061555622116757476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782575971174861,0.08853547391990166,0.0,0.06290641483546673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204598978588332,0.0764497770650097,0.1093002080883984,0.0,0.0,0.1128283835528452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632767759131912,0.10130329768961187,0.0,0.1193330936707303
parenting,nikilupita,2019/03/03,"Shopping Advice for 8 yr old boy? To preface: My son lives with his dad during the school year. I normally buy clothes for him before and after summer vacation (which he spends with me) and Christmas break and spring break.

Recently though, he’s been getting kind of teenager-ish with his desire to be trendy and fit in with classmates and is very fashion forward... and I’m a plain jane tomboy who is happy in jeans, flannel, and boots. 

I really need advice! Should I just send a gift card to a local place, like Kohl’s or Target, or should I send clothes with a gift receipt? 

Also, what type of shoes, jeans, tops, etc? 

He loves color, the brighter the better. He’s in 2nd grade, in Colorado, and doesn’t have much in the way of school dress code restrictions or uniforms.

Thanks!",4.092494407158835,5.927663120805375,3.8243120805369166,89.75960011185684,72.15436241610738,6.3089485458612975,25.168344519015665,6.816661863887847,0.8926774049216997,611,19,119,5,12,184,102,149,0.0,0.785,0.215,0.9858,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,8,0,8,2,1,0,0,23,13,13,0,5,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,13,0,1,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,9,6,19,9,2,21,0,0,1,1,14,10,0,3,8,63,12,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3924769425205277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605952652758688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17088258607946366,0.0,0.0,0.1776085102774654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22396680397743945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491988956861033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21377607024903436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20912258506124834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811025394506116,0.0,0.17732727966340706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18124742084799206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476254240857987,0.14890509954329115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967604519876852,0.0,0.0,0.21072626235955086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20981361392650316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865010090347884,0.0,0.19828500905484425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4064800691754429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488759586058676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973041190832283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569710218091932,0.0,0.15940115552299333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293211607321625
parenting,KryLei_0603,2019/03/03,"CBD/THC & Parenting I have recently decided I no longer want to take my antidepressants that were prescribed to me after giving birth a year ago. The side effects are *awful*.  I just bought CBD oil, and I’m doing okay so far. Does this help anyone else? On Zoloft, I felt like I was more agitated with my little ones, and I do NOT want them to suffer because of something I’m going through. ",2.2225,4.644596883116886,3.6416720779220815,86.09679383116888,80.16883116883116,6.447402597402598,22.61201298701299,7.6454224807358475,1.1271571428571434,308,10,60,5,8,101,63,77,0.113,0.7290000000000001,0.158,0.1361,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,2,6,1,0,1,0,10,15,3,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,4,2,10,2,8,11,1,10,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,6,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302427026440731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28142679350426336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18161535154143715,0.26613301210347656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583343122865872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22729910333349115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21697837076882245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493899026975185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491650469004431,0.14761549968119847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740973882794854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268952181873747,0.2603264322343729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17600567807618542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884091094295758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25646064988670475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999595555615509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19529119179548834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064012521128829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726321915894293
parenting,fizban317,2019/03/03,"A Fear if the Bathroom My 3 year old son is having difficulty with potty training. We’ve finally gotten to the point that he will go #1 in the bathroom, but he fears going #2. He will hold it (even when it hurts) and go in an overnight diaper when he sleeps. In general, he’s afraid of loud noises, which makes him EXTREMELY fearful of public restroom. Needless to say, this is very frustrating for everyone. Can anyone help?",3.7190476190476174,5.814991345679015,4.801869488536156,81.24555555555557,73.81481481481481,8.085361552028218,27.62081128747796,8.841846274778883,2.350977425044091,333,13,61,7,7,109,65,81,0.191,0.77,0.039,-0.9334,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,4,5,0,6,1,1,1,0,7,11,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,2,2,0,9,8,0,12,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,1,5,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241318356957547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452436608935284,0.0,0.0,0.19461867101564975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6875676308196277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22311426463673706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472568768342805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651799314097682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21803659735033185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595358239551594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21372098172180987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192537205047462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196927009161807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203820500007004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680518932478474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13115899802713438
parenting,JJA1988,2019/03/03,"Found 3 Xanax bars in my kids room My kids are 13M and 15M. They bunk together in one room. They have a divided lockbox that they use for electronics at night + dinner, money, their keys, USBs for school, etc. 

Under the lockbox, I found a small baggy with 3 xanax bars. ",2.199444444444445,4.216834129629632,3.2627407407407425,90.90633333333336,78.07407407407408,6.542222222222222,20.059259259259264,7.554174236665415,0.5422414814814821,209,5,44,3,5,67,41,54,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,5,0,1,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,2,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,7,0,7,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,1,23,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684406982901512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7244492533536265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100221397635134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22386168369327752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3343437461899824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28532649714485164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parenting_help123,2019/03/03,"So I Just Beat My Son With A Belt  

My son has been being a little rascal lately. He tore up my favorite dress and gave me it onto a piece of paper with the words ""i luv momy""

I was angry.

I threw him up against my wall and started cussing him out.

Then I took off my belt and started smacking him in the face with it as hard as I could.

This is not the first time this has happened.

But that's a story for another time!

Love y'alls!",0.5002150537634407,2.2631224623655943,2.143225806451614,98.1015053763441,82.44086021505377,4.563440860215055,18.935483870967747,5.033348758259628,-0.6012451612903225,331,8,79,1,9,108,64,93,0.051,0.8640000000000001,0.085,0.6229,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,7,0,7,2,1,0,0,12,14,8,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,5,1,16,1,14,7,1,17,0,0,0,1,9,8,0,0,7,59,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061000773087997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23307170457301785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483041672373833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581409439481249,0.0,0.261499994736847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292947145924087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925771889022811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26346618853214626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132402378017671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34043791131373186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32433015727726217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inthevanyougo,2019/03/03,"Can you give this nanny some advice? I'll try to keep it short and sweet. 

I'll be starting with a family soon as their nanny. It will only be short-term as they are getting someone as a live-in before summer starts. I absolutely adore their children. They are incredibly sweet, well-behaved, and just generally happy kids. The parents have done a FANTASTIC job raising them and obviously do their homework. They have checklists for screen time, they explain things to their children the first time without just saying ""no"", they keep their kids active, eat meals together, all the stuff that you WANT to do as a parent but eventually give up on.

So my question is, what are some special things I can do for them? The mom is in school for a field she's really wanted to go into for a while, and dad works from home a couple days a week. I plan on trying to give mom some study time when she gets out of class and keep the kids as quiet as I can while dad is working from home, on top of the typical ""clean because baby is napping"" and ""do that thing you know they've been meaning to do but haven't had time to"" but what else could I do? They obviously do a lot as parents and deserve some relaxation. 

Thank you in advance! ",5.390375000000002,5.8448956208333325,5.744166666666668,82.37750000000003,67.79166666666666,8.4,28.916666666666664,8.238735603445708,1.840616666666666,959,31,191,12,15,307,133,240,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.9831,4,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,4,13,6,5,7,0,0,15,0,27,2,0,0,3,35,44,21,0,3,6,7,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,11,10,2,3,4,2,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,5,25,7,32,37,6,26,0,0,1,0,37,10,0,6,14,135,36,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122640663167112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938537469569563,0.0,0.09685489233320686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087831242977107,0.12594285815159953,0.0,0.07340634498516033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164803305980784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646922805080408,0.09508441562184157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730208672055956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681768848411897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893551989029685,0.3275678510346937,0.06468816902891834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116657842337401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22834726994357346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295165096103603,0.3035130321372935,0.0,0.0,0.0625540812900818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050769346124623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676814713134807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398649091899408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26661597627689965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656743367893109,0.0,0.0,0.3791605338305095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750768164644252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291785522176218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051652727537407,0.0,0.11519483710667393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644176173832164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112884877338945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029997231255827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479282062418796,0.0,0.0,0.2268566029070801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26548416011275605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455653580614814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427137414537302,0.0,0.09130185326897544,0.0,0.10234044388057616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972120009701533,0.0,0.1657288329199388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,herbaladams,2019/03/03,"How to brush a 4yr old’s hair For some reason, my 4yr old daughter absolutely will not let me brush her hair under any circumstances. She can’t even stand the sight of a hair brush. On the flip side, she also hates to have her hair cut...so she wants princess hair but in reality it looks like a rat’s nest. I keep her hair at shoulder length but it still manages to get extremely tangly. 

I’ve tried everything I can think of...moisturizing shampoos and conditioners, de-tangle sprays, showing her that mommy brushes her hair daily, distracting her with something to do...this kid is dead set on the fact that she is completely opposed to hair maintenance. 

Today I kindly approached her to brush her hair, she immediately screamed and ran as fast as she could to the nearest corner of the house and backed her head against the wall so I couldn’t access her head. 

I sweetly told her I’m trying to help her but she wouldn’t budge. This always leaves me having to hold her while she bucks out of my arms and I quickly try to get it over with. Afterwards I have to snuggle her for about half an hour to de-traumatize her. 

It’s obvious that she hates having her hair brushed because she’s tender headed but how do I get her over this fear in order to keep her healthy? I try my best to be gentle and calm but it breaks my heart when she dramatically acts as though I’m killing her. 

Parents, any advise for 4yr old girls? Do they make some sort of head numbing spray? Lol ",4.372440270225738,5.670386764705883,4.63942659416708,86.31164936562863,70.62629757785467,7.719294776734222,26.564672927994728,8.11559375814309,1.4648486076783651,1161,37,238,16,21,364,158,289,0.102,0.7809999999999999,0.118,0.6092,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,1,1,11,13,3,2,10,1,16,19,17,4,2,32,31,20,2,4,6,2,10,1,0,2,2,1,0,2,10,8,0,4,2,1,1,3,4,7,0,1,2,21,46,6,37,23,3,32,0,0,2,0,38,13,0,3,13,145,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543164533557008,0.09929574798483777,0.0,0.0,0.16230291518809836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176075749829334,0.0,0.0727451188122335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523404946962846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251198070224502,0.0,0.0,0.09527877689142304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788192199368027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725002889579204,0.0,0.0,0.13428433299338136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870418347532064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356359511336232,0.4898859291852875,0.0,0.0,0.14141179229558762,0.07998730668288359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752030745703596,0.13769583039566566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213972618601767,0.13202578953212504,0.12426837326082354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635785772215102,0.0,0.12202746921935652,0.0,0.05830074094765145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021080806927553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965661257909852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3756640128432608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325066855629513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269559816400012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186942120693226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530057480332292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646463998499133,0.11724540373748492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311502077785393,0.11402909584723055,0.0,0.3240807910812637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038649793364132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,__Player1__,2019/03/03,"What do you keep your child busy with when you have to do something ? A Tablet ? Video Games ? TV ? A Book ? Homework ?

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Some educational resource ? 

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Do you wish there were a go-to solution to keep your kid busy while actually getting something valuable/useful out of it ? (learning, development, etc...)",4.01061320754717,7.357397113207548,3.691863207547169,80.39364386792452,87.30188679245279,5.668867924528303,31.15330188679245,7.1686216300943375,2.468171698113208,249,13,39,4,8,75,40,53,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.7149,0,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,9,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,5,8,2,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,1,2,25,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.18575085521938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124809929786796,0.4625839852599664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21228681079026446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944825906981564,0.0,0.10817837763308473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338377665241308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29307627396307057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289635618034908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188892331655082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4625839852599664,0.0
parenting,sirenceasefire,2019/03/03,"In Laws Want to Babysit 2 month old So, my boyfriends parents constantly ask him if they can baby sit our 2 month old daughter. I am very reluctant to allow this as his parents live almost an hour away from us and do not get to frequently spend time with her. Our daughter is very fussy and only allows the people she is familiar with to soothe her (which is mostly me and my mother). We do go there to visit and they do sometimes come up here to see her so it’s not like they are purposely kept away from her.

I can’t help but get a weird feeling in my gut whenever they ask because I don’t see why it’s so important that they need to watch her without me or my boyfriend there. Also the fact that I have no need for them to babysit her. My family lives just a few minutes down the road from me and my mother watches her when my boyfriend and I are at work. I have no reason to drive an hour away for a sitter, it would be a waste of time and money. And I have no need to run errands an hour away from where I live. 

This upsets my boyfriend as his parents get upset with him. We try to visit as much as we can and they get to spend hours with the baby when we do. Yet my boyfriend constantly makes me feel bad for not allowing them them to babysit.

At this point I don’t know what to do. I’m not going to allow it but I don’t know how to get my boyfriend to see where I’m coming from. ",3.9773573573573566,3.8534799189189215,4.736171171171172,90.39591591591595,70.75675675675676,7.929129129129128,26.579579579579573,7.3871296695380915,1.047788138138138,1080,30,253,10,18,349,137,296,0.097,0.856,0.047,-0.9517,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,7,0,9,1,14,5,0,2,11,0,22,1,1,7,1,50,48,24,0,6,10,7,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,19,0,1,5,0,3,8,12,4,0,0,1,7,52,1,45,45,3,39,0,0,5,0,40,14,0,4,17,178,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761470541811244,0.0,0.0,0.07795677033228808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822660742671011,0.0,0.3663523071001673,0.0,0.08139386817279355,0.05942446554388981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794519248604348,0.0,0.21068803836166572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918978845769486,0.0,0.09858022565186073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546530783562957,0.0,0.110803173966134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534050706816935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3840027523613609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714773436202972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762505619888186,0.0,0.2582366670142453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507036770078901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15561930333903504,0.0,0.07166090021953159,0.2168462555816164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458310286453266,0.0,0.0,0.07413988181857771,0.0,0.0,0.32472854945340124,0.0,0.0,0.0675821349160628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215253109015374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022831035994446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330429445659113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641274733156813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368573272291982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618426128615534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725952045826794,0.0,0.0,0.1608666471860743,0.05749774128500482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796285057525385,0.0,0.0,0.0939697119629997,0.0,0.07096846680350148,0.0,0.0,0.06924881577336015,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,givememybabyback,2019/03/03,Book to baby from a babysitter Hey guys! I am a nanny to sweet baby boy who is turning 1 next week. I spend a lot of time with him and call him my “bestie-boy”.  I was invited to his birthday party. I’d like to get him a sweet book and leave a note on the inside for him. Any book suggestions or any better gift suggestions coming from a nanny?,1.6867579908675805,3.0314834520547933,3.7029452054794514,90.18446347031966,77.49315068493149,6.510502283105023,20.38584474885845,7.1686216300943375,0.3776228310502283,264,6,59,3,6,90,49,73,0.017,0.745,0.239,0.9441,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,9,4,10,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,4,34,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4091415382557765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660545553337464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30717513849765465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25913340824507936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716822646186066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978632497662575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31852938820741794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14696750705388936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557499740474949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199299454514513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754130079774538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272103416401164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413030247684082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Your_Dad_Is_My_Dad,2019/03/03,"r/entitled parent So this happened a few weeks ago. My dad and I got in a fight. It happened because I yelled at my little sister because she was going to eat my food. She ran over to my dad (like she always does, because she doesn’t get what she wants from me.) So of course my dad got all mad and treated to take my dog away (I bought the dog with my own money. The dogs name is Aspen. She is my hole world.) (Okay, ED (Entitled Dad): My Dad, ES (Entitled Sister): My half-sister, M: Me, A: Aspen. Mom: Mom. My little sister is 6)
So this is how it went,

M: -wants into kitchen- -sees ES warming my food up- What are you doing?
ES: Getting food? Why are you asking?
M: That’s my food, please put it back.
ES: NO!
M: Please, or I’ll put it back myself.
ES: -runs to ED- -complains to ED and fake cry’s-
ED: -walks into kitchen- WHY DID YOU TAKE YOUR SISTERS FOOD!?
M: That was my food, I bought with my money!
ED: I DON’T CARE! YOU MADE YOUR SISTER CRY!
A: -grows-
M: Look your making Asp-
ED: SHUT YOUR STUPID DOG UP! BEFORE I SHOOT HER!
M: -puts dog downstairs-
ED: I’m getting rid of that stupid dog! I can’t believe I wasted my money on her! -pulls phone out-
M: I’m sorry, but did you say you bought her? With your money?
ES: -giggles in background-
M: I’m leaving-
ED: Your not going anywhere!
M: Yes I am! I’m going to moms!
ED: Your mom can’t raise you! She is a drug-
M: She isn’t a drug addict! And did you ever notice that ES’s mom was snorting cocaine!
ED: ES’s mom didn’t do that! You know what I’m getting rid of that stupid dog! Because of your fucking mouth! And you clearly can’t have one!
M: But you can’t do th-
ED: You move to your moms! I don’t care anymore! I’m getting rid of that stupid dog and that’s it!

A week later

ED: -stills hasn’t found a buyer for dog, and has really bad headache-
ES: -fake cry’s-
M: -on phone- When are you coming to get me?
Mom: I will, wait.
M: Please hurry.

I moved into my moms, I don’t talk to my dad anymore, I feel bad for my older brother. He still lives there, he also hates our mom.

(My little sister has a different mom than me and my brother.)

I found this app by the YouTuber named Misery Box.",-2.32809210526316,-1.1145595548245613,0.1521754385964922,102.52089473684214,116.03947368421049,2.35859649122807,13.133333333333333,4.4396938790447145,-1.5116066666666663,1617,38,381,5,95,536,190,456,0.122,0.8270000000000001,0.051,-0.9876,3,0,4,1,1,0,137.0,1,22,0,0,12,20,8,0,12,2,33,14,1,3,3,35,76,17,0,2,4,26,2,1,0,1,3,2,2,0,19,16,9,1,4,0,7,15,13,13,0,1,17,7,75,7,35,58,3,44,0,0,2,1,71,18,1,1,12,203,94,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058410960244281225,0.0,0.0,0.04749612958609836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04284853130576801,0.04458350216112363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627547457704724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050090797476115084,0.0,0.050340907636409006,0.08240062667851983,0.08947542833377244,0.1306493874147216,0.0,0.04559329832457218,0.060367192067879175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925835465329954,0.0,0.0,0.04615509857077128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656791631150934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055980512185479545,0.0,0.0,0.04688890263514879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427339066076125,0.05482651554538278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04846688408326007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027092052858069263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887405593004926,0.1174971218270269,0.0,0.04953456875890263,0.16796248002912367,0.0,0.09135357804516303,0.0,0.08570689072295587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476261558744008,0.0,0.0,0.05289992849547028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02944659604665535,0.0,0.0,0.05673431075508581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0261768631868469,0.16110605658418314,0.047312811376923516,0.0,0.0449943614786678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050699430627562415,0.03576558746110973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6902847959882705,0.0,0.11389578155767185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061002074439430586,0.0,0.0,0.03630772397038143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059495116579022574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644682299900866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615904524186447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03432522040163307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04260958772400054,0.0,0.0,0.042696945427821736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059979297743908574,0.0,0.0,0.08557936203570486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057215838784698,0.043066202262658636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320666587289515,0.0,0.08595854134776641,0.0,0.0,0.04966992090378967,0.09669664201204817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HumanPlatform5,2019/03/03,"Looking for advice on being a young dad (19) TIFU by getting a much older woman pregnant. She said she was on the pill and we used a condom every time. She wants me to marry her and move in with her.

I'm getting bad neglect vibes from her 5 year old son. He is glued to me whenever I'm over and wants to tell me everything on his mind. I feel like she doesn't give him any attention herself except to tell him he's bad. She's somewhat cold to him, and he goes on about his grandma instead of her. Idk if that's normal. I adored my mom at that age, but she was a sahm who did things with me all the time.

What do I need to know to parent a baby, assuming I might be doing most of the work?",2.0301818181818163,2.8049356666666654,3.888181818181817,91.47409090909092,75.66666666666666,6.521212121212122,22.303030303030305,6.574015621080383,0.3418666666666663,530,13,124,4,11,180,99,150,0.055,0.919,0.026,-0.4678,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,8,0,10,2,0,1,1,25,23,6,0,5,3,4,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,7,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,4,26,2,23,16,4,15,0,1,1,1,30,7,0,5,8,83,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18592946895771573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939000428575936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177347092964648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031053216689753,0.0,0.17100224826389254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620613948884536,0.13592879958520646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19881625886416074,0.1825241518176149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456731874758708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295622462895517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977873065971626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018462141364,0.19211828142355572,0.22284171711563494,0.0,0.20222671026689654,0.13987021264819666,0.14108266287124302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642402845378364,0.0,0.0,0.19965617243314274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21127212155138514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099017304574905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326084236077295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640681586745442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22189572782797484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16433203659266046,0.0,0.0,0.2244521426799678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385186972632636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252752778550174
parenting,sarakatheryn,2019/03/03,"My heart stopped for a minute today. No advice needed. (Criticism unwelcome as well, already horrified. Mobile and all that. 
My parents are out of town. My toddler (14monthsF) and I went to their house today to check on things/water the plants, while my husband had an engagement. 
We went to the bathroom and she threw something in the toilet, her latest trick. While I was rinsing it, she took off and I didn’t think twice. We live in an apartment, they live in a multi-story. 
In the half second I was focused on cleaning the item, she vanished. My heart was in my throat. I could hear babbling, but couldn’t see her. Thank goodness she’d just gone to play with my dad’s shoes in the closet adjacent. 
Yelling for her was probably the most panicked moment of my life. I’m not sure I’m ready for the next scare. ",1.7515789473684222,4.400132719745223,2.4390010056989624,92.2937546094536,84.85987261146497,4.833925578276903,22.912839423399266,6.339386263674448,0.5843070063694271,635,23,123,6,19,197,103,157,0.134,0.7709999999999999,0.095,-0.6595,1,0,1,0,1,0,27.0,2,0,2,0,2,9,1,1,12,0,10,5,4,0,2,19,22,8,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,8,0,1,1,1,1,5,4,3,1,3,11,3,24,6,21,8,3,25,0,0,1,0,15,12,0,1,8,85,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864140407322314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904443174873808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778963712019884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475039283410507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945081559836693,0.40901195797529133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991320535611448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218970751120322,0.0,0.0,0.3047793965257765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796453671583655,0.0,0.0,0.1835388565552483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916276500959463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18606847127015813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278086870520834,0.0,0.13752246888601286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328591174608731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428308937489184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626528960538797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888680522943685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058113191424744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271678788149367,0.0,0.19174071241397936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516851323490388,0.3199634111348473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NaiveMaterial,2019/03/03,"High schooler wants to quit his ONLY extracurricular activity. Is my wife being too strict? We have a 15 year old (16 in a few weeks) sophomore who has played the cello since 4th grade. He has never been the best. He has Aspergers syndrome and SPD but I think music has been helpful in helping his overcome his sensory related challenges. 

Unfortunately he did not make the cut for the junior and senior orchestra. He had to audition and there are a limited number of spots. We don't know how close he was to making the cut but he says he messed up and others were better. He can play down with the sophomores but he says that too embarrassing and he won't do it. 

My wife is telling him that he can either play down with the sophomores, pick another activity, or lose his computer for anything other than homework during the week for the school year. My son is not really into the whole joining clubs kind of thing. There are clubs he is interested in in theory but he won't join. Sports have never been his thing but he's a good runner and the track team is no cut and he has until Wednesday to decide if he is going to join. He does have a friend on the team but his friend will probably be on Varsity while my son will probably only make the JV cut since it's his first year. He hates performing in front of people and I don't see track going well. 

The other option is to join the Sophomore orchestra like I mentioned before. He has until Friday to sign up for that but says he won't because everyone will think he is a loser. He will finish this year out with the Sophomores regardless but plans on quitting after this school year. 

If he does neither then my wife plans on taking away his computer. She can be a bit of a tiger mom in a lot of ways. Our son has above a 4.0 and is taking an AP as a Sophomore. I'm more content to let him finish out this year and see where we stand next year. She wants to see him show enough initiative to sign up for something this year. 

Am I wrong?",3.3995733627204032,5.067138342569272,4.436850598236777,85.34945725755671,73.63476070528971,7.481391687657433,23.993151763224184,8.17850203761792,1.3178388539042825,1570,46,316,25,32,511,190,397,0.092,0.7879999999999999,0.12,0.8811,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,0,14,7,23,5,1,28,0,46,0,0,5,2,53,63,27,0,5,14,7,0,1,2,7,0,3,1,0,15,20,0,1,4,12,1,4,11,10,1,1,7,6,26,13,47,45,9,52,0,2,3,0,59,22,0,5,25,206,41,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111596038817924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935422101982995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059978424211458,0.0,0.0,0.05878323845802722,0.0,0.08205539361600721,0.0,0.10119803380951438,0.08528508699881815,0.10527731105570656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877424987155165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996386546749093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214363302701424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202387454239722,0.0,0.0,0.14900418542640406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096075385372524,0.08088146683295355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520531776519987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927088440096365,0.10188429217595446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041769863675944,0.052995771704405184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860688852630896,0.0,0.04711115210700752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788124833006572,0.0,0.08198190314473258,0.0,0.0,0.1931046534166244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293842959658312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874654750098826,0.0,0.10255510640337194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011877617248969,0.0,0.0,0.14667973240659735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06685288148429921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20793713361377225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513176461305202,0.0,0.0,0.06177595336405466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23005660618926896,0.0,0.19518596270390373,0.2305282656898436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159536885451518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423703723334715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500771854540087,0.0,0.08428465172290776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812849819288266,0.12357775309837155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375460951375528,0.07654217354367097,0.15470172600229373,0.0,0.0867027488561716,0.0,0.0,0.10766139393840024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543179443736744,0.0,0.4967854941905891
parenting,mamamia87-,2019/03/03,"Travelling with a two year old. Car seat or not on the plane? Hi all. I will be travelling overseas in a couple of months with my daughter she will 2 years and 2 months old. 

I’m wondering if we should use a car seat on the plane? Or just in the seat with the seat belt. 

What have you guys done?",-0.5963095238095235,1.5348799047619082,0.9669642857142868,102.15616071428572,91.22222222222223,5.0547619047619055,15.811507936507935,6.6274283507984215,-0.5660777777777777,226,5,57,3,8,72,42,63,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,1,14,9,4,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,5,0,8,4,1,14,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,4,6,35,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28820296080436203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26654926405932744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579043360326608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4158062504799848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5466348395631483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25443945295392273,0.0,0.0,0.2249607797324545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28246650671119644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354657893961444
parenting,Graceunderpressure92,2019/03/03,"I'm sleeping in my car with my baby I made an alternative account for safety reasons. I've been with my (ex) boyfriend for four years. We have a two year old and I am currently seven months pregnant. We live(d) together and I had to stop working because of preeclampsia. He's always been sort of an asshole to me but a few nights ago it escalated and he choked me in front of our two year old. Then he acted like it never happened and like I was making ""mountains out of molehills"". Yesterday I packed my shit while he was at work and just drove off. I slept in the car with the baby and will probably do it again tonight. I have no money. No living family. No friends. I'm lost. I don't know what to do next or where to go from here. I will do whatever it takes to protect my daughter and my unborn child. I desperately need advice. I am almost out of gas. What should I do? I have nowhere to go and no money. Please help.",0.70862914862915,3.030165079365084,2.557279942279944,92.02951298701299,86.03703703703705,5.341125541125542,21.81842231842232,6.7829847944221076,0.5512941798941804,716,25,153,9,22,237,113,189,0.138,0.7509999999999999,0.11,-0.6956,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,0,3,4,5,1,0,6,0,18,3,3,3,1,28,31,12,0,2,3,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,6,15,0,2,2,0,3,7,6,2,0,4,9,0,24,3,24,19,1,32,0,1,0,0,12,8,1,3,19,104,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580692148621633,0.14133756736119799,0.0,0.15966022660999662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326702574464144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719563865174492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503096998929472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12318611005621348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812315038883198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099588409234584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687201401296544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762630320766783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15579265915843066,0.0,0.28158410899193875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17405206144369026,0.0,0.0,0.15086985516383689,0.1064301695959026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726675314736913,0.0,0.0,0.11822577400059794,0.12297311326190127,0.0,0.1695706008268112,0.1496274794186081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33461950660014755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502173298903234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190769878589368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393508207869406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16366706929129446,0.0,0.0,0.15955924073967306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330240044883454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988211421455015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115074197432946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321543960713245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080303032423141
parenting,JayBanditos,2019/03/03,"My 9yo is constantly telling my wife (his stepmom) how great his real mom is and all the stuff she’s going to do for him. My 9yo has lived with us since he was 3 and my wife has raised him as her own. If he wanted to play a sport she signed him up, he needed something she made sure he got it. Now mind you that the entire time he’s lived with us his mom paid for nothing. She never paid a dime for school clothes, sports, child support, literally nothing. Well she moved closer to us and we reluctantly agreed to a co-parenting schedule and it’s been working out pretty good. The only problem is when he’s at our house he’s constantly telling my wife about all this great stuff his mom is going to do for him or about all the great stuff they did. She’s happy that bio mom has stepped up but it hurts her feelings that when they spend time together that all he does is talk about bio mom. I think it’s starting to make her resent him. I can see her point of view but I try to explain that he’s only 9 & he’s excited about his mom. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? How did you deal with it?",3.968181818181815,4.371929627705633,4.514701298701301,90.12348051948057,70.90476190476191,7.5452813852813865,25.78961038961039,7.3011,0.9288410389610382,868,24,197,8,15,276,120,231,0.046,0.8370000000000001,0.117,0.9307,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,5,2,2,1,10,14,1,0,7,0,16,0,0,4,6,32,31,13,0,4,4,9,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,15,9,0,0,3,3,4,4,1,3,1,0,8,4,37,11,24,23,5,20,0,1,2,0,54,6,0,2,11,119,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374461398584226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060496944204060474,0.08865018208776895,0.07119876280397437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699522546808708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919853989291454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571442091921288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227653542764782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04374721903011137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834286113011154,0.07256904923605689,0.06919811762677511,0.2861665188370665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210237493484892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998327086816101,0.09262167682602243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04226940547309495,0.0,0.15279786534301962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186751694253021,0.057752913616354075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736075038224922,0.6079885624451723,0.0,0.09195729331609387,0.0,0.06415364119974112,0.06672972160350787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660369545184858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160504055805725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178956652051465,0.0,0.0,0.08802216058694186,0.0,0.08278815845529998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847894339438792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756307404081183,0.06894540747181849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07157041377111488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660748649937695,0.0,0.0,0.06123945165263684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297134830249938,0.0,0.09818211171873617,0.08154427626078377,0.0,0.0,0.06954166939839168,0.15124495833776275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543865857180032,0.0,0.0,0.10090126325318263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05874154488257469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31221948768729657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051031862933949484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779206160590385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298774507675041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrHungryface,2019/03/03,"16 year old is 22st I have a 16 year old son 
Super sweet and very sharp

My issue is.  He is approx 6' and sailing close to 22 stone with a 44 inch waist. At 16 years old

He has lived with his mum until his 16th birthday and I saw him for 8 hours every other weekend, in my head I have blamed her for his weight gain. Not monitoring what he eats, when he eats etc.

Now he lived with me for 6 months and I can see this is more complex.
He steals food, hides food in his room, stuffs it at the back of his wardrobe.  Carries a rucksack everywhere which has 2ltr cokes sprite whatever on a daily basis. Lies continually.

He tried to go to an independent college to study accountancy with work experience but it folded so he wanted to take a year out and work.  He got a job at a pizza chain and is exceptional at what he does but has balloned to the 22st.  

Ironically it does not seem to be the food at the pizza chain he is eating spoke to manager and had a look at his bank account.  But he has cash from the job and spends it.
He lies and squirrels away the food and eats his younger brother and sisters packed lunches we have made for school 
He ate their Halloween sweets 
I have tried to speak to him 
Wife has tried 
His mother has tried and suggested gastric intervention.  I said no to that one. I want him to identify the cause
Grandmother tried 
Role models he respects have tried in the most respectful way 
No luck 
I have asked if he would like to talk to someone -No
I have said you need to speak to a professional -No 
I have taken the phone, Internet and Xbox away in the hope it would motivate him 
Sadly it has made it worse.

I would like to ask any parents out there is there anything that has worked for you 
What I am scared of is a young man who hates himself and the way he looks doing something drastic.
I want him to want to change not be forced.",2.8481863417982183,4.497328111702128,3.670641729581334,90.34903225806455,75.06382978723406,6.7665065202470815,23.299245024021964,7.4822170145007005,0.7711922786547699,1454,42,317,18,31,463,195,376,0.097,0.7959999999999999,0.108,0.5332,4,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,1,2,1,6,6,13,1,1,22,0,33,16,2,5,0,48,57,21,0,10,8,7,2,2,0,3,0,5,1,1,17,22,15,0,3,2,5,1,7,4,0,1,10,13,35,9,48,42,3,37,0,1,4,0,56,18,0,5,18,190,52,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564611011414933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832401839916095,0.0,0.1552377829814394,0.0,0.15601290633226395,0.06384251821881133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529143975047583,0.08783139215600477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531470166718544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33982875700555715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259687839494027,0.0,0.0,0.06995369712433036,0.0,0.0,0.08121618519207309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015855581027549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047186068891247664,0.0,0.06640415192235857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197181950865581,0.08520949535462567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246439012965509,0.0817647170147399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665845425308842,0.16478266315576146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112544441865281,0.0,0.1466284490334744,0.0,0.13944327650092733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15712401490107974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627123488726068,0.0,0.0,0.061563352916289824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613681189864166,0.0,0.05626113835532027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219148487657552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579550835068193,0.0,0.0831243551555442,0.08402759888290591,0.06616164527481402,0.07558452065426982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034837562558588,0.06391812095997912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504587256627202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624258539910594,0.06673383233590201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382186629620596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850584170762249,0.1958855353507909,0.13180568862751982,0.0,0.101104328626431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813335941831278,0.0,0.08461144738211394,0.17693966380698414,0.0,0.0,0.21386626199148356
parenting,getmny_media,2019/03/03,"How to Get Video Game Currency for Teenagers Nowadays kids are on their phones and playing video games. I think it's good for them to build work ethic, but not just working hard but also working smart. My number one method for kids to earn money is through chores, so they can clean the house up a bit while being able to splurge a bit on their video games. I also think passive ways of making income, like through Bing Rewards is a great way too. I write a bit more in detail if you'd like to check it out and support me!   
[https://getmny.co/blog/how-to-get-video-game-currency-for-teenagers/](https://getmny.co/blog/how-to-get-video-game-currency-for-teenagers/)",10.580107816711587,12.753979867924533,6.123261455525607,78.13292452830191,56.924528301886795,6.811859838274933,27.40700808625337,6.18269132825596,0.8979234501347704,550,13,88,2,7,142,78,106,0.0,0.7020000000000001,0.298,0.9873,1,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,0,1,4,5,6,8,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,2,0,13,11,10,0,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,3,0,0,2,7,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,10,8,16,9,4,8,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,3,53,12,4,0.17440984309350654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789509770186729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5712311307143527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733658335466464,0.0,0.0,0.14628670156787502,0.0,0.19228746773142585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623696182735386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20124554221612995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041567910805186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641992457954252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818462344237697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791822309236215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350957018703066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768768306753175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809173289498359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RemarkablePrimary,2019/03/03,"Is my six year old son autistic? I'm a single dad, and my son doesn't seem like most kids his age or how I remember being myself when I was in kindergarten.

He doesn't like to play sports, but instead walks around the playground during recess with two girls, one of whom is autistic. He likes swimming, but he gets bored easily with other kinds of physical activity like playing catch. I asked him what his girl friends names are and he doesn't know. For that matter, he says he doesn't have any friends. He plays with the 9 year old neighbor boy a lot but doesn't remember his name either until I remind him.

He likes to annoy the other kids in class on purpose, and he gets in trouble for it all the time.

He likes collecting stuffed animals, and he has a name and story for each one. He has one favorite animal that he takes everywhere but school.

He doesn't like Iron Man or other superhero movies like normal kids, but he does like Harry Potter.

He reads and writes at a 5th grade level, which is common in autism according to a student teacher I talked to at his conferences.",6.421069182389934,6.2657294716981164,6.272641509433964,81.557106918239,65.60377358490567,9.330817610062894,29.930817610062896,8.841846274778883,2.1734893081761006,856,26,168,12,12,269,122,212,0.109,0.7509999999999999,0.14,0.8754,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,4,18,1,0,9,0,15,0,0,1,1,33,22,16,0,1,8,3,0,9,3,0,0,1,1,7,9,11,0,0,4,6,0,3,6,3,0,5,1,1,14,15,21,20,6,21,0,0,0,0,43,9,0,5,18,95,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607838526589764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577326432089336,0.1320820460420803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236391215306854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183122911763717,0.0,0.1476307634559498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712618844439956,0.0776463312781444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6212207512363712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011513005026254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842892832004186,0.0,0.0,0.29650888044459583,0.0,0.28721434140227603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132285187406246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200958613735347,0.0,0.0,0.11235519918162797,0.0,0.14298757649462696,0.0,0.1286202101755018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106228449836199,0.11355922438300912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238419708229093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801454257213994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196532390947712
parenting,MartinYTCZ,2019/03/03,"Dear parents, please don't spot check your teens phones It won't teach your kid anything except how to hide stuff on their phones and computers. The only thing you can accomplish by this behaviour is lose most of the trust you had. They will do anything they would do normally, but well hidden from you. Give your teens some privacy, they need it.
 
Signed by a fellow teen 
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parenting,peachykaela,2019/03/03,"Small apartment, big family? We live in a 2 bed 1 bath apartment around the Boston area. It's me, the hubs, our six year old, a cat and a medium sized dog. So, it's a pretty busy home with not a lot of space. The hubs and I desperately want another child, but we don't want to move to another apartment until we can afford a house in our city. (We have a comfortable budget, the houses around here are crazy expensive though).

It's our decision to start trying again this year.

What I want to know from others is how you managed in a small living space with more than one child?",3.9576282051282057,4.7406905213675214,4.838536324786325,86.42139423076927,71.13675213675214,8.243162393162393,23.172008547008552,8.472884824447931,1.1534623931623926,449,10,96,7,8,146,79,117,0.045,0.855,0.101,0.6369,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,7,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,12,0,5,0,0,1,0,19,10,7,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,6,10,0,0,2,1,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,11,1,15,10,2,21,0,0,0,0,10,14,0,1,6,62,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869467884089489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32850361126330485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739383227497382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507720750064716,0.0,0.0,0.4257963905411808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140112194726633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258490148401623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156862645658144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19610348199007685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361077754405656,0.0,0.12502782800820558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18771161656590424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059616340559746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18127879971206445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526925351480747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32648392486024924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23763502661602715
parenting,dgun009,2019/03/03,Did the unforgiveable I accidentally gave my 2.5yo kid and extra 5 ml of benadryl 2 hours after he got his first 5 ml dose. Poison control said it would be fine and he's napping right now but i feel like a total shit,4.072666666666667,4.7008078222222185,5.731111111111113,80.69000000000003,70.77777777777777,7.777777777777778,26.11111111111111,7.793537801064563,1.3181111111111108,172,5,36,2,3,59,40,45,0.19,0.71,0.1,-0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,2,1,4,2,0,2,0,3,3,1,1,1,7,7,3,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,4,2,2,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,5,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018980314476282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18118262515675002,0.25599132107477346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047956691376273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865895681024909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528832799894058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750621414851325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060122177224374,0.34085428283717145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678210230893166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25454764680946385,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thebanannarama,2019/03/03,"Leaving our 14yo home alone overnight? I feel that's too young...husband disagrees. Thoughts? I know each child is different developmentally, but i feel like leaving our 14yo daughter home alone overnight is way too young...my husband adamantly disagrees, saying i'm being overprotective. 

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She's responsible in general, gets good grades, but has made a couple bad choices recently (damn you, Juul). 

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We live in a 4-bedroom home in the suburbs - safe, but prolly scary for a kid alone at night. Also she will have JUST turned 14. And we would be 3 hours away. 

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My husband is very upset about this, saying i am absolutely wrong and refusing to hear otherwise.

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What ages did you first leave your kids home alone overnight? how did it go?

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parenting,IamnotCountOlaf,2019/03/03,"When is the “right” time for a child to call a stepparent-like figure “dad” or “mom” My son lost his dad when he was 3 in a rather traumatic way. He is 6 now. He’s known my boyfriend for a year now and he’s quite fond of him. We live far from each other and plan to move in together in another year, but my bf has driven down 3x on his bday week to make this crazy celebration plan my son had happen, he came down to be at his first gymnastics practice because he was nervous, he’s gone to all of his school holiday parties, etc etc. They do tell each other they love each other. 

My son has asked me a lot lately if he could call him “dad.” I always tell him that I love him a lot too, and one day we can ask him to join our family and when that happens it’s between them and what they’re comfortable with and what they call each other. 

Well, last night when I was out of the room my son asked him if he could call him “dad/daddy” now. My son did not tell me about this; my boyfriend told me later when were alone. My boyfriend said he’s comfortable with it if that is what he wants and he is incredibly touched that he thinks so much of him. 

I’m just worried this is all happening too soon? I do think he’s a wonderful person and we have plans/hopes to be together for a very long time, but I’m worried (especially perception wise) that it looks like I’m just letting my son replace his dad (we weren’t together when he passed). I’m just not sure how to navigate this or what a reasonable timeline looks on any of this. ",3.9528056426332303,4.075681043887148,4.797898119122259,89.07270924764894,70.84952978056427,8.76244514106583,26.29482758620689,8.697196308434329,1.4466048902821318,1179,33,277,19,20,383,153,319,0.062,0.8079999999999999,0.13,0.9811,2,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,5,0,4,6,20,11,0,1,11,0,23,2,0,3,3,50,48,23,0,7,13,11,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,21,20,0,0,7,1,0,5,3,2,1,2,13,4,39,9,30,30,11,40,0,1,2,2,65,12,0,8,23,173,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10723642682270176,0.0,0.0,0.08615374542247921,0.0,0.0,0.07041089029601162,0.1085709333206548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903883457721676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311714825728655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229045052844165,0.11842241168515308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653368579231065,0.0,0.0,0.06677486689051937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23094939753584945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760849091844596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807124591861594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746807853738205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439908682291647,0.11679786171628208,0.0,0.0,0.10587687520395322,0.0,0.05058451439746288,0.0,0.0914278984153836,0.09162982366166034,0.17389539073313814,0.0,0.11302636537005277,0.17605236019431952,0.18689815591594028,0.0,0.06911389118499442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12126503730961485,0.0,0.11004685246071144,0.07611396454320933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716546887115736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701615228994171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040731372492003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101277535823885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645657586762117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842276977683837,0.09849044591447598,0.0,0.0,0.10478821573023746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758541835110143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714961100215845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326887658491559,0.0,0.0,0.12075025296964732,0.0,0.0,0.0989371034888411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543151315847271,0.06107069584772915,0.0821853957389637,0.08305370741624661,0.0,0.09309507943793746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228493615295253,0.0,0.21030020932593893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333529953070107
parenting,lambda-spin,2019/03/03,"Trying to understand and quantify what having no time, sleep, and always being exhausted means when having a baby Hi! Baby’s due in a month and we’re very excited! Friends and colleagues who are parents are warning me how it’s going to be crazy with lack of sleep and being very exhausted all the time.

I’d like to really understand what this means, if I estimate something as follows per day:

- changing diapers + shower + clothing (90 mins / day)
- food / breastfeeding (90 mins / day)
- interactions / playtime / taking a walk (90 mins / day)
- chores like more laundry + dishes to handle, groceries (not daily, but assume 60 mins / day)

Total: 5.5 hrs / day

I assume the tasks above will be divided between us parents. So that may mean less than 5.5 hrs per day per parent? Also would be even less when we got family around to help us, e.g. retired parents.

People may say “you can’t estimate it!”, but any rough picture of how all the time and energy spent adds up to a level we’re not used to would really be helpful. :)

Our lifestyle has mostly been staying in, reading books and some (but minimal) TV after work, then occassional travel (1-2x per year). So we were thinking of how “disruptive” it will be in our time/sleep/schedule/energy when the baby comes out. We also work 10 mins from home so commute isn’t an issue, because we decided one of us keeps working full-time and the other does a 12-month parental leave (we’re in Canada).

Hope to get some advice, thank you!",5.372831807780318,6.555250619565218,6.1078718535469125,77.14513729977118,68.16666666666666,8.854004576659039,30.10602593440123,9.134995656068208,2.677205797101449,1145,43,200,21,19,375,167,276,0.051,0.84,0.109,0.9644,6,0,1,0,0,0,66.0,9,2,0,3,13,8,0,0,11,0,22,6,2,4,3,49,39,25,0,5,6,5,1,2,1,6,2,1,3,0,9,17,2,1,9,4,1,5,5,2,0,1,4,2,14,6,25,22,10,37,0,0,0,0,23,8,0,9,25,120,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380397625703903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716496782450216,0.07135944282191699,0.0,0.0,0.05831994738568296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634485256408274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05227868515827884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072302994078672,0.07387490793114239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871581079515429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504941972667598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566438717920451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084718188944885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370169969192776,0.0,0.06625819792775503,0.0,0.04480621907534907,0.0,0.04873955695937374,0.0,0.06859034924943767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496664768743058,0.0,0.08602457711360567,0.08517933225392846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951147587255616,0.0,0.07622769840728635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080777884467524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379630496896195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28025433678472284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690611247994014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811340130470091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761333412481572,0.0,0.0,0.059455396380328984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857835116907966,0.0,0.10988049318099156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820003569633527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574667164010749,0.0,0.0,0.06602247168428338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140907300963104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448107540696506,0.0,0.0,0.07895656541867417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495173978386916,0.0,0.0,0.20003009109505995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822561678163798,0.0,0.0,0.1785590013746395,0.30947725801526554,0.0740693671104614,0.0,0.1415224642533353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873035675573276,0.0,0.0,0.12184331837954213,0.0,0.0,0.05522682384310528
parenting,babbyboop,2019/03/03,"What is going on developmentally when my 3 year old asks, e.g. ""why is it the weekend""? He tends to ask questions that I can only answer with ""because... it... is?"" Recent examples:

Him: Is it the weekend?
Me: Yep, it's the weekend!
Him:  Why it's the weekend?
(This conversation happens every week.)

Him: [points at a picture in a book] That's his house?
Me: Yep.
Him: Why that's his house? 

Or sometimes asks why when he's literally just finished demonstrating that he already knows why:

Him: [explains to me why the sink has an overflow drain]
Me: That's right!
Him: Why the sink has an overflow drain?

I feel like there must be some developmental thing going on. Is he just making chitchat? Seeking validation?  It's not problematic or all that annoying, just kinda baffling. ",1.4504895104895112,4.1535389090909085,2.9533916083916085,85.46547202797206,93.47552447552448,5.117482517482519,24.681818181818183,6.7829847944221076,1.2724293706293706,596,26,110,9,22,194,80,143,0.019,0.903,0.078,0.7992,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,10,2,10,0,0,1,2,17,21,4,0,1,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,0,5,5,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,15,1,7,19,2,21,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,5,12,68,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459232813267502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420647653344924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434923894690408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276147353455052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616695891611897,0.08713241452293496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863198569617674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785398215729114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814643886280402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670292314098993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958634462728436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814131397273681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798262348813158,0.0,0.0,0.092760510984376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529713377941075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662964467474778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042654471756074,0.0,0.0,0.10415815384571483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062732619089248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102867907535066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783363330905732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7703863476446493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785419967957893
parenting,Abarkingant,2019/03/03,"My heart stops for a second every time my 2 year old runs over to his fish tank and says “daddy, why isn’t he swimming?” I know the day is coming when his fish will actually have died...every time I think “ could this be the day? ... I am not looking forward to that conversation! There’s a Daniel Tiger episode about a fish who died but I’m not so sure that is going to cut it when his little beta fish dies. For now, I’m just in a constant flux of being terrified out of my mind and then completely relieved every time he swims again. Never thought I’d be so invested in the health of a tiny fish!",3.906532258064516,4.2449441693548415,4.919516129032257,87.39927419354844,71.01612903225806,7.812903225806451,25.177419354838708,7.6454224807358475,1.035793548387096,463,12,103,5,8,152,83,124,0.129,0.84,0.031,-0.9014,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,9,3,1,0,8,0,10,2,1,0,2,16,18,8,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,2,1,6,4,1,0,1,1,2,9,2,13,12,0,26,0,0,1,0,8,6,0,0,16,61,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.17225627657783416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205477850839927,0.18507594898120255,0.19075343886437515,0.0,0.1409354000025301,0.0,0.0,0.22767924087943694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663959958154529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4461725289635331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003193471992254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876305665678483,0.0,0.20917488828561387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700977309873964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176917585191645,0.0,0.0,0.14823081047644607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782330379342256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614169921684818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18522613200263344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037433835771446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475770989723457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636629173300205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310571959393312,0.0,0.14013571435431668,0.3087875035812981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15928019805984198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367191787247888
parenting,whosthatgirlitsjbd,2019/03/03,"How to POLITELY tell people to “back off” I have a 16mo old DD who for the most part is extremely shy around people she doesn’t know (and some people she does “know” i.e. my MIL)

My question is, I know I need to stick up for my daughter because she cannot stick up for herself, but how can I do it politely? For example, DD was trying to follow her dad to a trash can at a restaurant and a strange woman blocked her path, came up to her and said “hi! What’s your name?” And reached her hands out to pick her up. What I wanted to do was say “don’t touch her!” But instead stayed silent and waited for my daughter to inevitably turn around and run to me to be picked up. 

And another example a little closer to home. MIL makes DD extremely uncomfortable. MIL thinks that she needs to force a relationship and that’s the only way DD will grow comfortable around her. My husband has had talks with her saying if she’d just back off and allow DD to warm up in her own time, she’ll come around, but MIL can’t help herself. Because DH won’t do it in the moment, how can I politely shut down my MIL’s invasive behaviors too?",4.6218902058640055,4.702989008733628,5.37181846537742,85.68315502183408,69.39301310043668,8.813599500935746,28.147535870243296,8.634040054169528,1.7744994385527135,869,27,190,13,14,283,122,229,0.046,0.885,0.069,0.7259,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,0,9,0,22,1,1,7,0,42,36,16,0,4,5,4,3,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,7,17,0,2,5,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,5,6,31,2,37,26,4,32,0,0,0,0,34,20,0,4,5,129,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261447735479294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5182563437030133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238270955352609,0.0,0.17744326771073712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646236624904762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537236758579687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273656198102293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755437412801972,0.0,0.14599144967263206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399598036640086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587227537747674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715105193028052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21583651239191268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15272284722473706,0.0,0.0,0.11069197490602416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760883608528264,0.0,0.3027034761343463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630414175090469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625866462693633,0.0,0.0,0.13844467822050774,0.23148319731660724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15512942381900832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698191332685284,0.12721095682958125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325804813298487,0.0,0.0,0.08486726688162277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881411205089237,0.15830894020110514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584500513565724,0.11552522238944984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mamamessedup,2019/03/03,"I told my 8 year old that boys can like boys. His father thinks I am encouraging him to be gay. Did I mess up? A couple of weeks ago my son was making Valentine's Day cards for his class. He asked me if he is allowed to ask someone to be his Valentine. I asked him if he knew what that meant and he said it means telling someone you like them and have a crush on them. I asked him who he planned on asking and he said he didn't know. We were joking around and I named some girls off the class list. He giggled each time and said ""no"" for every name. After we cleaned up he asked if boys could ask boys to be their Valentine. I said that some boys do have crushes on other boys and asked him if he did. He asked if it was wrong and I told him it wasn't. He said he didn't know and we left it at that. 

He went to his dad's house this weekend and asked his dad if he (dad) ever had a crush on a boy. His dad told him no and asked where he got the idea from. My son said that I told him that boys sometimes have crushes on boys. 

His father called me pissed saying that I taught our son about being gay and now he wants to be with boys. He pointed out how our son only wants to be around boys, but don't all 8 year old boys? If he played with girls then I am sure my ex would say it was weird. 

How should I address this with my ex? I swear I wasn't trying to tell my son to be gay. To me this was an 8 year old being an 8 year old, but is it something more? Should I say anything more to my son or would it be better to drop the topic entirely? I didn't think it meant he was gay but is that something we should be prepared to hear from him down the line? I don't care if he is gay but I don't think he is. His dad will be upset if he's gay though and will think I caused it. ",1.0980563495304203,2.047278088607598,2.3742915475704365,100.73484687627605,78.24050632911394,5.299305839118008,18.311555737035526,4.580139004833566,-0.8878901592486725,1355,22,358,2,31,435,148,395,0.07400000000000001,0.871,0.055,-0.6312,1,0,2,0,0,0,32.0,6,1,3,2,9,14,1,1,10,0,48,7,1,5,3,68,87,30,0,17,14,15,0,2,0,7,0,10,2,14,23,23,0,0,11,3,0,1,10,5,0,0,30,10,55,9,36,38,6,35,0,0,0,6,110,16,1,12,19,213,78,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834770242424146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054166334752770065,0.11719201594960252,0.6768869943464242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821467985480833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721216377808513,0.0,0.06711045742281756,0.06761787121594018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05255393515284603,0.07283137883285537,0.0,0.04245008727620008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954024790154627,0.055458321457230016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526442912210861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418677652331905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595036352825517,0.0,0.07430562580387169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234868350367538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715163727670905,0.0,0.0,0.06431512786141913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04393705071117646,0.0,0.0,0.07170003303726798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762786959047661,0.0,0.0,0.05006100107136754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222356772731522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37567380240199066,0.15703415625263534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154243420483267,0.10134680066560003,0.06510016645656032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620369566993012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150635870674808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870568083955734,0.06467030272660551,0.0,0.03838164728646227,0.0,0.0,0.25158499738182416,0.0,0.04468917799547489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764766863571078,0.0,0.05279886419260267,0.0,0.0,0.061018145890737625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351687527919557,0.07196660489745832,0.0,0.1695502081226619
parenting,whinnieegg,2019/03/03,"Is a quick trip to Disney worth it? My husband and I have a almost 1 year old (this month! Eek! Time flies!!). He has a work conference in  Orlando ay the end of this month. They are paying for his hotel, gas and food. His conference is Sunday night from 7-9 pm so he would have to be there at 6 pm. Work is paying for his hotel Saturday night and Sunday night. It’s about a 7-8 hour drive for us to Orlando. Pretty much it’s a free vacation for 2 nights, we would just have to buy tickets to Disney but we wouldn’t even get a full day in one of the parks. We would arrive Saturday, could go to the parks until about 5 pm Sunday but then we would have to go back to the hotel for my husband to go to his conference. Just not sure if it’s worth taking the baby on a 7-8 hour car ride for 2 nights when we wouldn’t even get a full day in the park? Any advice? ",0.911343582887703,2.2628640481283457,3.039782754010698,94.08555648395723,79.64171122994652,6.3862299465240655,17.56985294117647,7.1686216300943375,-0.11047566844919787,655,11,159,8,16,223,96,187,0.014,0.929,0.057,0.7442,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,6,0,1,2,11,2,0,0,14,0,17,1,0,0,1,23,23,10,0,8,6,2,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,8,1,0,0,4,6,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,14,3,27,15,3,39,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,2,25,99,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750907432114889,0.0,0.0,0.13066253736838349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873472164134855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033541621570853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418217979622027,0.0,0.0,0.16830490855202185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557156234667652,0.0,0.0,0.1723690922735388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778377499285826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634674088983909,0.0,0.22247401859493476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25700417659954583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20830481381553773,0.0,0.09592197213196901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6122597510971716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369227474921869,0.0,0.08842045851486034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275082411440126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298118795594933,0.0,0.09810897529678636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608723622396096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695817969281367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999022546799185,0.0,0.0,0.3707730690758842,0.0,0.0,0.08402848528729602
parenting,SuKh22,2019/03/03,"How much talking is too much ? Since my now-16-month old was a baby,  I have been talking to her, describing my day, our surroundings, her toys, books etc. 

I do love talking to her, but after more than a year, I am tired. My jaw aches every day. The problem is, now she expects me to talk constantly. Should I back down a bit ? Or would that not be good for her at this stage ? She is super curious and learning so many words !",1.9310714285714283,3.990786869047625,2.974047619047621,92.44178571428571,79.11904761904762,6.104761904761905,23.595238095238088,7.1686216300943375,0.8144095238095241,323,11,69,4,8,103,65,84,0.146,0.7390000000000001,0.115,-0.448,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,0,11,3,1,1,0,11,12,5,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,15,3,8,7,5,12,0,0,0,1,12,3,0,1,8,53,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474621140896403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093671777604716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20723920750062044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24735630311621826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21387833417567,0.0,0.0,0.16157758738440015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608506550379335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308322374645302,0.0,0.0,0.19442840044449092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307191308326396,0.0,0.28195142516413235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012342059632457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18350150177112612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863716085038354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6165616440020765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204156216347182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623051230457292,0.0,0.0,0.12349595538205348
parenting,Nizzore,2019/03/03,"3.5 twins constantly fighting, wtd? My 3.5 year old twins are constantly fighting and it's driving my wife and I crazy. The girl will tease the boy mercilessly for attention. Nothing physical but constantly taking his toys and running away etc. 

We are losing our minds. Advice appreciated!",5.242108843537412,8.775549163265309,5.415408163265305,70.7825680272109,77.77551020408163,8.980952380952381,32.656462585034014,9.2995712137729,4.162099319727893,235,12,34,7,6,74,39,49,0.188,0.732,0.079,-0.4753,0,0,0,0,4,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,4,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,3,1,8,0,1,0,0,9,1,0,0,5,19,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249861833843056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163164438541375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7464173639043885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567765439062933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575777436173755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324750301183713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22091984005148046,0.0,0.24159634552103906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311053370346674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826590421900154
parenting,preciousavocado,2019/03/03,"Question: Would it be a parenting fail to bring my one year old to my quick spray tan? it only takes 4 minutes and the room is private with a lock. she usually falls asleep in the car and would stay asleep in her car seat in the private room where i would get my tan... 
asking cause i’m not sure if this would be considered tacky? i’m on the fence about it and want honest advice ",2.800928270042196,3.9828949367088633,3.436139240506332,93.8784282700422,74.31645569620251,6.785654008438819,22.02742616033755,7.1686216300943375,0.395833755274261,296,7,68,3,6,93,54,79,0.073,0.8690000000000001,0.058,-0.3009,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,6,0,7,2,2,1,1,15,14,4,0,6,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,4,4,0,1,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,6,2,8,8,0,16,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,2,4,39,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21623139066402505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20686610249389545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273146057410957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11560920488239865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321952085481029,0.0,0.1499444554013818,0.16829273854542565,0.0,0.0,0.2457042711286632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24788325144818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358540949842071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855294761416127,0.0,0.166374356319266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437076836291321,0.0,0.1305161554574417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6287613393311997,0.0,0.0,0.14249649545177465
parenting,BADxW0LF1,2019/03/03,"Screen time I have a 6 month old daughter and while we don't actively have her watching TV, we are watching TV while she is in the room and of course she turns and looks at it sometimes. Is it bad for babies to watch TV every now and then? I see all of these articles saying no screen time until 6 months, even going as far as not watching tv in the same room as the baby. This doesn't sound realistic at all, but want to know what, if any, harm it can do for my child.",5.667300000000001,4.063691130000001,6.134,86.70700000000004,67.7,9.2,28.0,7.554174236665415,1.2749000000000006,363,8,86,3,5,118,68,100,0.101,0.884,0.015,-0.8239,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,2,14,15,13,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,6,6,0,0,1,4,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,10,8,0,14,15,3,18,0,0,8,0,8,7,0,1,10,57,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294480515744247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369010725185913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18739970278097856,0.0,0.2390531213316625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124919075793004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592951753082146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23826010537380754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4529380491826316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977248629153439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256319353674591,0.0,0.0,0.2260945234570249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806142988415797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33088821820024894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086146465714476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16735015651175467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pfctw2017,2019/03/03,"New Father-to-be looking for suggestions Just found out we're expecting! As I'm obviously new to this I'd love to hear what resources everyone recommends. Books, websites, podcasts, checklists, advice, etc. Anything and everything you found useful that I could also benefit from.

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Thanks!",6.011088435374148,9.735524836734694,5.6562244897959175,69.056037414966,76.14285714285714,8.980952380952381,36.73809523809524,9.2995712137729,4.891691156462585,243,14,31,7,6,75,43,49,0.0,0.71,0.29,0.938,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,9,9,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,3,6,6,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,2,16,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20409459853970935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702446764572548,0.0,0.2262986403295047,0.25378654697901404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187316188763274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667569172916086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232932995505113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995737259169756,0.1877090027979588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4580062285687335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23539927354346202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17538895836138454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885034028076384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40343464930858797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922893070344628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038711788726405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25378654697901404,0.0
parenting,ritathecat,2019/03/03,"Concerns about a child's behavior On mobile, so sorry for any spelling or formatting errors. 

A little background: my brother has been dating a woman for the past six months and is crazy about her and her son (who I'll call D). Yesterday was my third time meeting them and D (4 years old) has some interesting behaviors that neither my brother or his mom addressed. 

So yesterday, I took my son (18 months) to visit my grandparents. We live out of state so they haven't seen him in six months. My brother, his girlfriend, and D also went to my grandparents house. My brother was excited to introduce my grandparents to his girlfriend and her son. As soon as they got there, D was asked to put his Gameboy away by his mom. He gave it to her and came to me and told me about the games he has for it. He told me one game belonged to a boy from his preschool and that the teacher took it away and put it in a drawer. At some point, D got it out of the drawer and took it home with him. I asked if he planned on giving it back to the boy it belonged to, and he said no. When I asked if he thought the boy would like to have his game back, he rolled his eyes and walked away from me.

I had some toys on the floor set out for my son to play with. I left them there when we sat down for lunch. D refused to eat the food and went to go play with my son's toys. Mostly, I saw him playing with a ball my son got in his stocking for Christmas. No big deal. Well, my son began to get fussy and I went to get some of his toys for him. When I went to pick up some toys, my son's ball was gone. D walked by and I asked him if he'd seen it. He pulled it out of his pocket and handed it to me. I sat down with my son and gave the ball to him to keep him entertained. At some point, the ball went missing again. Again, I asked D if he saw the ball and he took it out of his pocket again. This time, everyone saw he had my son's toy hiding in his pocket. Nobody said anything. 

Not too long after, my son was unable to calm down, so I began packing up to leave. My cell phone was sitting on a side table in the living room and I went to change my son's diaper. When I went back, my phone was missing. I asked my brother to call it. I keep my phone on vibrate, and I could hear it, but the sound was muffled. It was somewhere near where D was sitting (no longer in the living room) but I couldn't tell where it was. I was looking under pillows on a nearby chair, still able to hear it vibrating. I had to walk out of the room to ask my brother to call it again. When I went back in, I could hear it vibrating again. This time, my brother came to help me look. My brother found my phone under my sweater I had been wearing, not two feet away from where D was sitting. I did not put my phone there. 

Some other concerns I had was, when my brother got there with D and D's mom, she asked him to put his Gameboy away. At some point, he went into her purse and got it out. I reminded him that he had been asked to put it away, so he asked my brother if he could play it. My brother and I were standing with each other and my brother said he could. I looked at my brother and shook my head and said his girlfriend did not want her son playing with it, and that he should be asking his mom, not my brother, if he is allowed to play with it. My brother still said it was ok, and let D go play with the Gameboy, against his mom's earlier wishes. 

Later on, they came back to my brother's house (where I am staying while I visit). D and my brother were playing with Legos and D asked to go to the bathroom. My brother went and turned the lights on for him, and came back to the living room. D came back in shortly after saying ""I peed on your toilet seat!"" And was laughing about it. My brother told him he was silly, while his mom said nothing at all. Nobody went to clean it, nobody told him he shouldn't purposely do that. Nobody cared at all. I was shocked. I used to work at a preschool with kids his age. I have had kids purposely go to the bathroom on the toilet seat and, after I cleaned their mess, I would have them reclean it and explain to them that it is their responsibility to aim for the water and that I should not have to clean up their urine. But with D, his mom and my brother just let it happen. Nobody said anything about it. When they left later on, I went and checked and the toilet seat was still a mess. 

Also, before they left for the night, my brother and D's mom were picking up the Legos D had been playing with. I told D that he should help because he made the mess. D just stood there and watched his mess get cleaned up by my brother and his mom, without so much as putting one piece away. Again, they did not say anything to him.

On one hand, I want to step in and talk to him when he does something wrong like what I mentioned above. But on the other hand, I don't really know D or his mom very well, so I don't feel it is my place. It is something D's parents and my brother should be working on him with. I don't know if I'm just upset because he tried to take my son's ball (and possibly my phone; I never actually saw him with it) so I'm being oversensitive. That and the fact that I used to be a preschool teacher, I feel like I could just notice this type of behavior more, but I'm not sure. Is it my place to try to say something to him when he does something he likely knows he shouldn't do, or should I let it go because I won't be staying in the state for very long? I will be staying with my brother until the beginning of summer, so I know I will be seeing D and his mom quite a bit until then. What would you do?

Thank you for reading. ",3.395773004679647,3.735264169049625,4.258952901597983,91.67848391235904,72.15391084945333,7.005762222078454,25.840730197752904,6.490185161304077,0.7098678182484739,4343,126,1010,27,78,1401,323,1189,0.039,0.889,0.07200000000000001,0.99,5,0,4,0,0,0,139.0,2,3,13,4,58,35,0,2,42,1,88,12,8,6,5,160,196,91,0,26,29,50,5,4,3,13,0,14,11,7,55,80,4,3,9,25,1,41,22,10,2,7,92,32,175,25,165,74,17,186,0,2,12,0,212,78,0,20,61,678,230,5,0.03328933065424453,0.0,0.03248558467486476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0532429313941909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02263788638467543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218284808094188,0.0,0.3734523651888288,0.0,0.2189349537719247,0.17918208311754474,0.0,0.0608786009592938,0.0,0.028326768511705062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0363433272133864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197638570483623,0.19037062944790015,0.03394069121958869,0.0,0.035215697824467214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289410874962768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03431983817492229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058263435176739875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03406329594980075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031809382023055145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033664171622512534,0.02378190447091507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040253590765411164,0.03650003282381556,0.0,0.0,0.05217690390116688,0.031934159320227945,0.0945954688186657,0.0,0.1331225938121441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02943764515784565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03416445722338116,0.0,0.11255848512657432,0.0,0.04462627325713223,0.0,0.03339191289232248,0.0,0.0,0.07682283612781828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917817327568719,0.0,0.0,0.07317978214546053,0.0,0.0,0.03524859456294961,0.10850686547731082,0.10212178804536373,0.0,0.06505394179449017,0.03336465473650752,0.11758035542603215,0.05892002014972416,0.08386396085220023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03149916956738808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4288686789867768,0.07971367838843396,0.0,0.024471488350346692,0.0,0.025674784022691424,0.0,0.0,0.03123978173790502,0.0,0.031942010580960266,0.03790012359005538,0.03493155265346954,0.0,0.06767313595789498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03696386216486109,0.0,0.03177843287575448,0.0,0.0,0.06956053052165942,0.0,0.0944075325924952,0.03752871849881853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007898312940311,0.0,0.03540730081549418,0.03329833921989209,0.0,0.02132599763913745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22166043642540845,0.07941903561645508,0.0,0.0,0.026527286547263832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251101242873696,0.0,0.03726468022978406,0.0,0.10644599157312648,0.07975470738618336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03137480017857962,0.0,0.02502943374367501,0.026756703002448267,0.029096342278452494,0.03064834310380281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02642801008515248,0.05823382923058705,0.0,0.0,0.15904691011527575,0.14794268492076096,0.045202540690355814,0.03620923247988109,0.03251883892026674,0.0,0.0,0.057502586761354786,0.0,0.054934368260983586,0.03926981943338028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059862212292115816,0.3703145163362039,0.0,0.0,0.03828108737381709,0.03208972681815708,0.0,0.048470058380609166,0.0,0.0,0.070943356137656,0.03639665722374126,0.0,0.0214372375077557
parenting,babblingmama,2019/03/03,"How the food companies should market to parents... As the mother of a 21 month old, I love seeing things like ""No High Fructose Corn Syrup"" on packages. But what would really get me is ""safe for dogs"" ... Y'know, so I don't have to Google every food my son throws on the floor and the dogs are faster to get it than I am.... ",2.6781538461538474,3.904848200000004,3.4584615384615383,93.42153846153849,74.69230769230771,6.430769230769231,19.15384615384616,6.742157984588678,-0.07478461538461545,243,4,55,2,5,77,54,65,0.032,0.828,0.14,0.8126,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,5,0,7,3,0,1,0,6,11,5,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,9,9,0,8,0,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,4,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693297191363906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6226772292105779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690391037767363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720354450811349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150099132188448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578880373023288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323803611845271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551331133976736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701756787990197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28589443619915433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494445424108484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517346367915465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105430233191726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290216098623235,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GnomeTortellini,2019/03/03,"Help! Toddler won’t stop hitting. Any advice? Hi!

My son is 17 months going on 13 years old. My in laws recently taught him to play ‘hit grandpa’ as a funny way to say hello. My son thought it was so funny that he’s now hitting the dog, me, anyone! He’s even figured out that if we tell him no or to stop, he just hits harder.

We’ve talked to the grandparents about never doing it again, but we’re not sure how to stop my son from continuing to hit. We’ve done time outs in our laps where we hold him for 30 seconds to a minute. We’ve also been recommended to hit his hand back gently, so he equates hitting as pain, but my husband and I don’t believe gently spanking my son’s hand is going to teach him to stop hitting. Seems kind of hypocritical.

Any advice? Parents who have dealt with the hitting or biting? Luckily, he hasn’t hit any other kids, but it’s just a matter of time! ",2.3260655737704923,3.8154177814207695,3.9341202185792383,88.5864262295082,76.10382513661202,6.191475409836067,23.67540983606557,6.742157984588678,0.6609055737704921,686,21,147,6,15,229,113,183,0.106,0.7290000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9157,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,6,0,10,3,2,1,2,28,25,13,0,1,9,7,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,7,6,0,5,3,1,0,2,6,1,0,1,5,3,16,3,23,9,0,24,0,0,0,0,28,6,0,4,15,84,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31322804278307104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816788751853234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32696735508349106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206453356580803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323776252941755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056944420225784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401188836739908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585684528057962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217030640257176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074256247997543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689657639453587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792601130763392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361012981497695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16817643935457882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17053861503262255,0.0,0.1779609050118283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15824732250665635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745316304191706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14590381875861086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5359716961555837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105260942275464,0.0,0.0,0.12881898163701508,0.1400830730650677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272365038977559,0.1869094902467781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721489227157767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320864661865213
parenting,BlueGamez,2019/03/03,"How real is stem cell banking? My wife is expecting to deliver in next few months. I need to decide whether stem cell banking may help my child in future. But, I have almost no info about how the preservation is done or how effective it might be in future. Few of my relative suggested the company *Cord Life*. Does anyone have any real info on this?",2.089589552238806,4.800103238805972,3.879235074626866,82.16721082089555,83.77611940298506,7.529104477611941,23.30037313432836,8.472884824447931,2.091270149253732,275,10,49,7,8,92,48,67,0.027000000000000003,0.885,0.08800000000000001,0.6432,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,4,0,17,10,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,8,6,2,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,4,4,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27415553094699496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861827821116856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914364199753468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395905755568356,0.2801764995881881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351191381351029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338202019479084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904419851755277,0.0,0.0,0.21853209795477355,0.0,0.0,0.2030076652836466,0.0,0.0,0.2911728179882504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6232531779716272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Redwoodself,2019/03/03,"Need help with toddler nighttime wake ups Toddler sleep help!
My 27 month old son (still in crib) has started waking up at night. He has fallen asleep independently for over a year. He falls asleep at 8pm, wakes around 5:30-6am, naptime 12:30-2/2:30pm. He has woken up previously early in the morning (2-4am) but lately things are different. 2 weeks ago we moved to a new house in the same town. The first week our schedule was a bit crazy but this week has been much more normal. Week 1 we would pull him into our bed when he woke up about 3am because we didn’t want him to feel alone/confused/panic. His room furniture is the same but of course set up differently in the new place. Then last weekend we were exposed to flu, so this week when he would wake up at 3am we pulled him into our bed again - if he was sick/feverous I didn’t want him suffering alone in his room. Thankfully he never got sick! This weekend we wanted to get him sleeping in his own room again - but we didn’t talk to him about it before putting him to bed that night. So to him, nothing was different from the last two weeks, but that night he woke up at 10pm! He sounded panicked, so I went to lie down on the floor next to his crib. The same thing happened 2-3 more times that night. Yesterday we talked about sleeping in our bed all night again and not coming into mommy and daddy’s room. Same pattern as the previous night - first woke up around 10:30pm sounding panicked again and woke up 2-3 more times. He did fall back asleep faster last night than the previous night.

Looking through books/online information it seems like he might be having partial arousal parasomnia also called confusion parasomnia since the wake ups are happening so early in the night. But other than trying to stay consistent (which other than the new house was have been - we still have same naptime and go to daycare 5 days a week). I don’t know how to handle this. Do we stop going in when he wakes up and let him cry and figure out how to go back to sleep on his own? Help! And thanks!",4.061724422442246,5.419646146039606,4.119920792079206,89.51039273927393,71.45049504950495,7.069834983498351,25.34785478547855,7.42949916751922,1.0203395379537956,1609,48,335,17,30,495,199,404,0.085,0.856,0.059,-0.9147,3,2,0,0,0,0,54.0,14,0,0,2,23,5,0,1,17,0,28,16,14,3,2,58,53,26,0,8,8,1,1,1,0,3,2,2,8,0,14,25,0,1,5,2,0,12,6,2,0,3,18,4,32,3,60,30,13,110,0,1,1,1,48,41,0,4,56,201,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060599634085079575,0.0,0.0,0.07080340332953572,0.0,0.05466982974908799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171504599447901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513378392333424,0.0,0.04167342233865538,0.0,0.0581718388272553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463464010127778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980621964175568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058888631745862674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509349507624012,0.04408844991210225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142742103766063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03456636370415245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629898778369956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03571682197576548,0.0,0.11655672683527392,0.0,0.054676099522656715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090626919682153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746674144823007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15776334104730164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037570491764885965,0.16717479578597086,0.07711638998190289,0.0,0.0,0.06990575236836814,0.0,0.03339868626016232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057407663850932586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252229106390866,0.0,0.0,0.05456665779606459,0.07265900133733452,0.050254637255611766,0.05069026429153353,0.0527257246966041,0.1980761013952076,0.07270477731819898,0.5773860130761495,0.06698118025486202,0.06559609828301796,0.0,0.07173542051235901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714247367922021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872365091322055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622350659413161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05655054213083175,0.0,0.2736493003026411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04838765082212166,0.07286581316232844,0.1091894870127729,0.057154490774685776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989510603470312,0.0,0.12587884669019894,0.0,0.0,0.09083461814752213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972597667104933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046413958417729,0.0,0.06678067269613057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209667247736042,0.0,0.3838564677047418,0.0,0.0,0.06337314341262637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712616242357462,0.0,0.0,0.044023501116530785
parenting,jessidotca144,2019/03/03,"Help me find a good baby monitor! Hello! We have a second little one on the way and want to get a second monitor as a result. We currently have an angel care video monitor. The video quality is great during the day, but awful at night. Unless it's positioned within 2 feet on my child, we can't see anything.. and that simply doesn't work for a toddler who sleeps in a big boy bed. We want to see the whole room. 
We recently bought a Summer infant panorama, but it has white noise static constantly, that only goes away if you turn the sound off entirely.. then you can hear if your child cries. And that just defeats the whole purpose. Plus despite claiming to work up to 800ft, it loses connection from just 20ft away in our home.
So we've been doing a ton of research with little success.
This is what we're looking for:
-dedicated monitor (Ie. Does NOT use wifi/phones/apps). 
-pan/tilt so we can look around the room.
-good quality night vision, so we can tell the difference between our child and his blankets from across the room.
-good connectivity.
-no constant white noise

We've seen lots of good reviews for the infant optics dxr-8, but the only place we can find to buy that one in Canada is on Amazon and the reviews says that warranty isn't honoured in Canada.

Please help, were at a bit of a loss! Given the technology that exists these days, we thought this would be easier.

TIA",3.1240000000000023,5.371027103703702,4.09311111111111,84.95300000000003,76.1111111111111,6.986666666666667,23.39259259259259,7.976525956113202,1.3349081481481484,1098,34,208,18,25,354,163,270,0.076,0.748,0.17600000000000002,0.9813,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,11,3,0,7,6,11,0,0,24,1,18,2,2,2,0,35,33,17,0,5,9,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,5,6,14,17,0,0,3,2,2,0,5,3,0,4,6,10,17,8,34,25,5,34,1,3,7,0,28,23,0,3,10,133,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587108196374244,0.1037113311975201,0.0,0.0,0.21891461422833744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271898279314201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187813831889033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25179418688829736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279717930515271,0.1502680886642961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171961933921925,0.0,0.0,0.10195153915480623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212961129516094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060867399309359076,0.0,0.0,0.39086484053076903,0.0,0.12844368217577984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313060328921229,0.0,0.15617744582022006,0.0,0.11686083748301175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335308856017213,0.0,0.0,0.19566439597582827,0.13033575111799073,0.0,0.0990456922760061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21865815644945888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578893142708539,0.17720978754814626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171961933921925,0.12788402779580574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150315052067295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264693364687883,0.0,0.0,0.1856737547238774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658596923565305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182773707265223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248944202506254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672053996609678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062017812577144,0.0,0.0,0.13743159912969832,0.0924737323255247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601402720598783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962944391576895,0.0,0.0,0.08275955956597507,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,half_pint2152,2019/03/03,"Paternity Leave Over - Division of Labour? Hi all,

Hope all is well.

It sadly is my last day of paternity leave today so will be back to work tomorrow 😢

The misses and I are discussing best approach to effective division of household / childcare tasks today so interested in what works for others?

I am a 08.30 - 17:00 Mon-Fri worker and the wife will be a SAHM for her maternity leave and breastfeeds our DD. 

Any insights will be greatly appreciated!",4.9903135888501735,7.344021585365857,6.102961672473867,72.1718292682927,70.95121951219512,9.075958188153312,31.22648083623693,9.606745405546679,3.345457839721254,358,16,60,9,7,119,61,82,0.08900000000000001,0.696,0.215,0.9407,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,5,4,7,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,1,2,8,12,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,5,9,6,3,9,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,1,6,41,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481822738794473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637509742727326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234854873898863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733980377888705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23478611145535544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21151459252055105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358857550972254,0.0,0.6764729130337354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037171305522075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19147413597617408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100708174249746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,soufiyansoufiyan,2019/03/03,"why should parents concentrate to enhance their kids'skills in the ""creepy"" math? suppose, a litre of cola costs US$3.15. If you buy one third of a litre of cola, how much would you pay?
unfortunately a large majority of adults around the world can't give the correct answer(answer is US$1.05, by the way).
why the most important question is because they have taught math with a basic tools in their childhood.
the most important thing is to give kids and children an appropriate tool to their era especially a well game which can help in one hand learn and in other don't feel bored ... I suggest you dear parents this game to help your kids to enhance their skills in math .
 http://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.Enjoylearning.Math.MathGames",9.471666666666668,11.066576761904766,7.222341269841268,71.33446428571429,59.15873015873017,9.157142857142855,32.41666666666667,9.188382445141503,2.6810190476190483,616,21,101,9,8,178,82,126,0.029,0.8170000000000001,0.154,0.9364,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,4,5,1,3,3,0,0,12,0,9,1,1,1,1,14,13,4,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,4,0,0,3,2,3,0,2,1,1,3,1,2,10,2,17,10,4,10,0,0,0,0,23,7,0,4,2,63,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17166950063494865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175541699742001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975062753725128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36998158961208905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25851470446693114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176042759171592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613482965024373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4282545328598882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216026212253228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811508561117985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639282986521289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530683221097477,0.0,0.0,0.17338734550234633,0.0,0.34801827137347424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369888140419409,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,excusemebro,2019/03/03,"Help... My child is having horrible dreams I need some resources for parents of children who are suffering nightmares.

For context, my son is 4 years old, and my youngest is 2. He has nightmares pretty often, sometimes I find him crying hysterically in bed still asleep, but he usually relaxes and falls back asleep when come to cuddle him. On one occasion, he woke up screaming and crying, when I asked him what was wrong he told me little brother (who was an infant at the time) climbed a tree, then fell down and broke. And his bones came out. He kept repeating that he told him not to but he didn't listen. He was extremely upset, he still remembers it about a year later gets very very upset at the mention of it. He's described a few other creepy situations (jumping out of a plane and dying), but he isn't watching anything violent or graphic and I don't remember having dreams this disturbing when I was a child.",5.499137931034484,6.725657591954025,5.866149425287357,78.83129310344829,67.9080459770115,8.788505747126436,31.74137931034483,9.075114841892004,2.7694000000000005,727,30,131,13,12,233,114,174,0.179,0.743,0.077,-0.9673,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,1,8,9,1,3,8,0,14,4,3,0,0,23,24,15,1,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,8,11,0,1,3,3,0,6,4,8,0,1,10,3,14,1,16,14,2,29,0,2,1,1,31,9,0,3,14,83,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394533041828466,0.0,0.1521673975129236,0.0,0.0,0.12515960562499726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861648078067696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402114077903364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35758904047812434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16892891787412356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487682639801242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504028269209606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910088399849592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313767923588854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069143240162775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079908295163068,0.0,0.1102967440042248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073613339605396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655949755252082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687719537926472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829596022453418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098307825532482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25997567333598554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491213410042174,0.0,0.0,0.3110662347415741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926747555386618,0.26860356923101825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796276443791004,0.0,0.2096362874942121
parenting,vimtotango,2019/03/03,"I’m (M30) a first-time expectant dad and don’t know how to manage pregnancy/being a father. Any suggestions for how to guides/videos/apps? My partner (F28) is 30 weeks pregnant and in her final trimester. If it wasn’t already, the pregnancy is definitely looking real now. 

I grew up in a small family where I was the youngest one. I didn’t have any younger siblings or cousins so I know little about supporting pregnant women or babies. 

The IOS apps that I have tried so far are kind of poor. 

Do you have any apps or YouTube channels that you can recommend where I can learn things? Something like an antenatal class?",3.492110939907552,5.8573901525423775,3.9936363636363663,85.53664869029278,75.4406779661017,7.3417565485362095,28.52388289676425,8.296473431620573,2.125464406779661,490,21,93,9,11,154,83,118,0.031,0.871,0.099,0.7557,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,8,3,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,2,0,13,18,10,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,3,1,10,3,8,15,0,12,0,0,1,0,9,8,0,4,4,56,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629392220071682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4860996601460786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246217598033308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26101547329434355,0.0,0.202674153243905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481237585452891,0.261896264121144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640772780975125,0.2388112719935226,0.0,0.0,0.20008858000274468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16145936276503264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712058499366076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18343352767160265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703883910554655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829741659078148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177113662427786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19112753145231476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,auto_alice3,2019/03/03,"Would you tell a (not so special) friend that you’re concerned about how her actions are affecting her teenage son if that was the only way you could possibly help him or would you just end the friendship and hope the kid gets through OK? I could give details, but I’d prefer to leave this open. Just assume that you would also genuinely believe the person is being a bad parent. The parent, however, may really not be psychologically capable of changing her behaviour. She very probably has narcissistic personality disorder.",9.44483870967742,9.54199305376344,9.173677419354842,62.42051612903228,59.322580645161295,12.601290322580645,40.105376344086025,11.979248473330829,5.200296344086022,426,20,66,12,5,138,73,93,0.122,0.78,0.098,-0.6619,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,0,0,6,5,0,0,7,1,12,0,0,2,0,20,15,7,0,8,7,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,10,4,4,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,5,1,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423615813991916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059550044658976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20320724179391866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19080004903605466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880102230819884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067115267548821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15974800833744818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934794089116645,0.0,0.0942321789988342,0.17302054312810874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089346018640235,0.0,0.0,0.17914107125297152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909782848713022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371741244907654,0.0,0.0,0.4005433456847402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149718813002625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333208688711255,0.0,0.0,0.19446172817878404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554510194777813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15764513772154842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881829419092213,0.0,0.14316368690076833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38437392032715867,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fiolaw,2019/03/03,"How to unspoil your toddler? Sorry in advance for the long post.

in general, my just turned 3 years old is pretty chill and kinda do what we asked him to.  He is in daycare during weekdays so we spend a lot of time playing with him in weekends and weeknights since he always ask one of us to play with or be there when he play.  We still cosleep because he refuse to sleep in his own room and cry if we tell him he can sleep his own room.  We are pretty chill when getting him to sleep (we all go to bed around 9ish) or waking him up since we work from home most days so he gets to sleep in and go to daycare when he is ready and done with breakfast etc.  

In general, I thought he is a good kid and always follow rule though a bit on the anti social (does not want to share toys though apparently he does in daycare) but today he has a meltdown in the playground when I told him we have to leave for 5-10 minutes so I can go to washroom across the street from playground (pregnant so small bladder) and come back.  He cries non stop for more than half hour and ask to be carried (which I can't do since I had some test done on stomach area and can't lift).  He keeps asking me to calm him down, which I tried by hugging him and whispering to him it's ok to freak out (not really but what else do you say) , but he keeps freaking out again after he start calming down.  I wasn't even raising my voice, just keep explaining I have to go washroom and can't carry him.  

So I guess I'm asking, by never really making him do stuffs on quite strict schedule (getting him to sleep and wake up on his own at set time, making him finish meals, making him share or play by himself at home etc), am I spoiling my 3 years old?  Should I start enforcing rules specific to bed, meal, and self play time so he can be less spoiled and avoid this kind of incident in the future?  What do you guys did to your 3 year old so they are more obedient, dependant, and don't act up?  A bit worried since this doesn't really happen and what may happen when second baby do arrive since we won't be able to spend as much time with him....",4.9613364055299565,4.605267041474658,5.318648847926267,87.85054470046083,68.67741935483872,8.14215668202765,27.728663594470053,7.24861992348623,1.2245044423963134,1632,45,362,13,25,520,213,434,0.07200000000000001,0.8540000000000001,0.07400000000000001,0.4799,1,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,10,4,1,3,23,16,0,1,10,1,36,13,9,5,2,69,67,39,0,3,11,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,6,3,10,33,3,6,2,7,2,8,10,3,0,3,7,3,49,13,63,53,15,71,0,0,0,1,65,30,0,11,31,232,59,2,0.0748696469452714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245950878816658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664985906821838,0.349965066172024,0.0,0.0,0.05757013707341156,0.0,0.04563984186289858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634765267913714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449357143175202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448158312320332,0.048284728468345806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103786515890872,0.1532352860224371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06254398295951244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16699889448270533,0.049450695694894416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734890119455214,0.0,0.17020058292275467,0.06279710769135398,0.0,0.0,0.08247735698884852,0.07413272146494332,0.13241396306579473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020072076797222,0.0,0.0737315208991912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964274677231464,0.0,0.07796521604181987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927614579143122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625728153617386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365149646895844,0.0,0.0,0.14992821212491514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055037805116762505,0.0,0.05774408729152099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356893001165188,0.0,0.050733610411808495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170442589161552,0.15233869413456258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963308541330086,0.0,0.0,0.14389023894005482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059539348298469276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810537022719043,0.0,0.0,0.3096647281735609,0.0,0.37461858454448815,0.07632017650373904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381044008695415,0.10598624291964223,0.0,0.05979099676355936,0.06259437728711675,0.0,0.0,0.08570783334624177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543937144343731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711809597953734,0.05943813665382758,0.17462837287815786,0.0,0.07096767102608068,0.07154115612443962,0.0,0.05083157570314036,0.08143667651612245,0.0,0.0,0.09005896681867505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044160057573985216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05450599466934906,0.07603376073207073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464079380487227
parenting,imnottouchingyou1,2019/03/03,"Thumb sucking? We saw the dentist today and it was mentioned we should be doing about the thumb sucking. So any hints, tips, tried and tested methods that actually work? 
I’ve thought about taping some boxing gloves on his hands for a while, but I’m not sure his sister would survive it. ",3.856666666666662,6.285670592592593,3.699777777777779,87.77300000000002,74.55555555555556,5.060740740740742,25.61481481481481,5.6839178017228535,0.7277970370370372,228,8,41,1,5,69,45,54,0.053,0.947,0.0,-0.422,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,2,3,3,2,0,3,0,5,2,1,0,1,11,10,5,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,4,1,4,4,1,3,0,0,1,0,6,1,2,1,2,26,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.4227952984422011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29462889542865633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4083385950362987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3439568203256314,0.0,0.0,0.4106759707864135,0.0,0.0,0.2941523428438076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154154835698039,0.0,0.0,0.3077725882717393,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,loving-the-south,2019/03/03,"Co-sleeping My five year old sleeps with me.  I love his snuggles, I love praying with him at night, I love when he asks me to hold his hand while he falls asleep.    I think I need it more then he does.    I figured one day he will want to sleep in his own room, he won’t want to sleep with mommy anymore.  So for now I have a little bundle of joy next to me every night. ",1.6039166666666669,2.412632225000003,2.7375000000000007,99.18416666666668,76.75,5.333333333333334,19.583333333333336,3.1291,-0.7371666666666665,278,5,71,0,6,89,56,80,0.0,0.7170000000000001,0.28300000000000003,0.9733,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,3,8,5,0,0,9,11,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,15,4,11,9,2,15,1,0,0,3,13,4,0,0,10,40,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16284486993054514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535072778019276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589710149723393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436948135248487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383477837868941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16457415619727875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44459780846421015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217541572294797,0.0,0.0,0.17463134218483092,0.30818605856438386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17230302090658856,0.0,0.11126794043426183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6572847942390735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521440445331508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937019114481195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574109943296384
parenting,bubbamcphee2,2019/03/03,Need help. Infant does not sleep. My 5 month old doesnt sleep. He wakes up almost every hour to feed or to be rocked back to sleep. My first son also had the same issue and could finally catch a good night routine after sleep training when he was over a year. Mum is losing here her mind. The infant doesnt sleep at day tim either. Cannot reach out to sleep coach as he might not be developmentally ready...NEED HELP.,2.155357142857145,4.270779773809527,2.8335714285714317,93.44892857142858,78.64285714285714,5.152380952380953,15.261904761904766,5.985473137389443,-0.8049952380952377,327,4,71,2,8,102,62,84,0.043,0.85,0.107,0.7476,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,0,10,8,7,0,0,12,11,5,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,5,1,0,1,2,0,3,1,10,5,2,16,0,1,0,0,10,4,0,3,11,38,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359180576930424,0.0,0.0,0.1085464814159153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437111634694116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083726047980142,0.0,0.0,0.0875372418572486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878179352704454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436180252850472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14869003176349746,0.0,0.11545532493965464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384729247297072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819593630149136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367071084776874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416710973131719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185169745188298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399239133060374,0.1370527105443242,0.0,0.1083416343817669,0.0,0.0,0.10064508808865584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273772235696523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243006655124152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8149925331606062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740828657672474
parenting,lexibuds,2019/03/03,"Cries at night if dad is present I’ll start of by saying that my son absolutely loves his dad. Never wants dad to leave his side, hugs him nonstop in the mornings, nobody else matters if dad is present.

However, this is only during the day.

For the past 2 weeks our son (17 months) has been crying nonstop at night. This is alarming because he used to be such a good sleeper. He goes to bed with me around 9pm and dad gets home at 11.30pm. During that time period he is so peacefully asleep And won’t wake up. However within 30 minutes of his dad coming to bed with us, he cries and screams hysterically and we haven’t found a way to soothe him.

In these two weeks, his dad has pulled 3 overnight shifts where he doesn’t come home until 7am. All of those nights, he was perfect.

So I noticed a pattern that’s he’s hysterical at nights when dad is around. Which is strange because he used to love cuddling with his dad all night. 

Tonight when the screams started, I took him to another room and he fell asleep instantaneously and has been asleep since then.

I wanted to know if anyone has any ideas as to what may be triggering this reactions? And any advice on how To soothe him? ",4.60173076923077,5.5447727094017125,4.687254273504276,87.50600961538464,69.76923076923077,7.73034188034188,28.30021367521368,7.8658589789855275,1.5146162393162397,930,32,196,11,16,289,137,234,0.075,0.809,0.117,0.9362,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,0,1,9,8,0,1,7,0,20,8,4,4,4,33,34,18,0,5,3,11,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,0,10,15,0,0,3,0,0,5,4,3,0,1,5,3,17,5,31,25,2,42,0,0,0,4,35,14,0,4,22,107,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131794635934336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493433759866232,0.11945144824746674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796531091240958,0.0,0.0,0.20281978450459776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888495821097693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625806329659934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37539598406965097,0.07346675866778164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516267043358534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490363083798063,0.0,0.0,0.059516702122779715,0.0,0.0,0.09554780780883723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285352005576996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859793298121558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260556352114086,0.0,0.0,0.12062119133152252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20562829033627456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092711328257608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785947565840845,0.0,0.0,0.5345148844776412,0.0,0.0,0.12969476132956692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663867898428823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874624874125956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059102269878608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094232957600934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16126145838817002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642566362984524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126565492363513,0.0,0.0,0.1112799287436958,0.0,0.13702759839428014,0.19677466877188424,0.0,0.0,0.13438187996315193,0.09042166485588053,0.18275399003693849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nonana92,2019/03/03,"Time to acknowledge pro Ana/Mia websites There’s a not-so-new “internet fad” that parents/concerned loved ones’ need to be on the look out for. Much like how a community of pedophiles band together online and share tricks, tips, photos and advice - the same is happening within the eating disorder community. 
There are websites (some hidden some easily available via a google search)- sometimes labeled “pro Ana” sometimes more lucrative. 
Ana= anorexia 
Mia= bulimic 
Thinsporation= “inspiring” pictures of “thin” (mostly emaciated) women/men. 
On these websites tips, tricks, advice, “encouragement” and pictures are shared. 
When someone crosses into the dark world of eating disorders they require love, counseling, self&professional help and guidance. This is not readily available on these websites. 
As we all [should] know - there is a very dark side to the internet. Pages that encourage hate, self harm, and so much more are easily accessible by all ages. 
Please be aware and alert to these webpages. 
There is no way to overnight “fix” your child’s/loved ones’ eating disorder. It is a mental illness and a fixation that will require time, money & therapy. You must be aware of his/her struggles but never assume that they are for attention or to fit in... all eating disorders are part of a mental illness. 
There is help out there however. Recovery is completely possible. 

Please share your experiences, your questions, your struggles and your recovery stories. 
Together we are stronger than Ana/Mia & all those b*tches combined... let’s help each other and those trying to help the ones they love. 

Share whatever you have. Please. Save a life.  ",7.054793187347928,10.041195470802922,6.2610401459854055,70.5083972019465,66.91970802919708,9.676155717761556,35.50425790754257,10.02789654360092,4.374158637469586,1325,66,189,35,24,404,157,274,0.07400000000000001,0.715,0.211,0.9906,2,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,2,7,3,2,9,18,3,2,14,0,21,10,0,1,6,40,29,15,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,12,15,4,2,6,1,1,1,3,6,0,3,0,2,12,12,25,22,15,19,0,0,1,3,28,12,0,6,6,124,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798775348043984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991703982612156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965004127285663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219354899581329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767126576645958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003112402457901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813891700258693,0.0,0.0,0.09086877241587686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24676534568374756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058184596251213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411540366088812,0.0650093774168844,0.0449652672723521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728899659198707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492044937143302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550592959483972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531748993187515,0.06824523767851623,0.07098561556114744,0.08889116945222163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710261432691205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966851631983137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030912641776886,0.0,0.10375936099424272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310396666476176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920320519127004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07798375798981706,0.0,0.1820564760751923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19243684215907225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525382411757944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733655275055176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624879682141988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594124147300034,0.0,0.07305572326442816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sterlingnatural,2019/03/03,"Am I a terrible father? I have always been a man of great patience. I work in customer service, I manage my own staff and store. I deal inane nonsense and stupidity all day. 

I have a new born at home who I love more than anything and a fiance who makes my world complete. I love spending time with my son, he's just under step months old and he's amazing. He smiles like me, and laughs like me. He's already started mimicking my faces and sounds. He's just amazing. But at night while my fiance gets and start on sleeping, I look after him (were breast feeding and suplimenting formula) and I have no issues at first when he cries, it's fine. But it seems to be after about 20 minutes of screaming I just snap. I WILL NEVER HARM MY CHILD! but I get so short tempered. My fiance hates it and I can see why... I break down almost immediately. It seems he's screaming bloody murder and there is nothing I can do to console him. It breaks me mentally and emotionally when this happens because he just screams. He has a small case of acid reflux. But he's not collicy according to our doctor and has no other health issues at all. 

I feed him until he's full and falls asleep, I burp him and he's fine for a few seconds and then screams.

But I can't handle the constant screaming for what seems to be no reason. And it drives me nuts. All I can do is sit there and cry because I can't do anything to help it. And I don't want to wake up my fiance Because she's so amazing and deals with him while I work. And I just feel like I'm failing at something I always thought I'd be so good at and it's absolutely tearing me apart. 😭 ",1.6557260479041922,3.6691907814371305,3.177630988023953,90.87087761976048,79.80838323353294,5.492365269461079,23.91055389221557,6.4784943948869325,0.6114673652694611,1267,45,270,11,32,416,172,334,0.161,0.716,0.123,-0.9373,0,0,1,0,0,2,35.0,1,0,0,4,13,25,4,0,7,0,23,12,5,2,4,48,41,36,1,1,11,2,1,3,0,1,3,6,1,2,13,24,2,0,6,0,2,3,8,12,0,2,3,10,45,13,29,34,7,42,0,1,2,3,30,16,0,4,23,173,58,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146940304671075,0.0,0.13386304869437754,0.0,0.20187090193019147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19964730572207298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22183914785384715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271859510883103,0.13108757609447955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664956227449541,0.0782316690896903,0.2501201911751361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416077494199527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645176186623795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061335436658090325,0.0866602934206226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318194386397388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675367826785225,0.0,0.0,0.10174485193429847,0.0,0.13373915553135618,0.0,0.0,0.10726958264049047,0.0,0.0,0.1197635421150827,0.0,0.12894150857275394,0.0,0.0,0.08130816309227143,0.0,0.12167877356767436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25322174127101826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777904401319074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018656217343112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21896493947433246,0.0,0.08097200812919947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224687657245915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682446818934996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355786958267684,0.11715709405236788,0.0,0.11383649510130625,0.0,0.11639538846756366,0.0,0.12728915828796614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12472171048055936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666435413741964,0.3312944610801315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139257305814813,0.0,0.0,0.09338649083785523,0.0,0.0,0.17172056149357154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630259474397608,0.07073390238505323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154881306569848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945886589420098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766229229671393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imeowxx,2019/03/03,"Best way to handle clothes at grandma’s house situation? My kids visit her once a week on the weekend. Sometimes they sleepover but now that they’re getting a bit older they prefer not to. I used to send them in new-ish/regular clothes and she would send them back with completely different clothes, like dresses for my daughter and her 6 year old’s old clothes that barely fit my son (he’s almost 4.) I hate this because my daughter hates dresses and baggy clothes are impractical and just look ugly. I asked for their old clothes back one time and she said she needed them for future visits because they get dirty easily but as they’ve gotten older they’ve gotten less messier. So I just replied with an “okay” and didn’t know what to say. My question is should I let it be or ask for their old clothes back...again? I’ve purchased a couple of cute items from Cat & Jack and the thought of those clothes just sitting in her closet irk me. Cute cardigans and dressy shirts. She can be a bit bossy and we’re not close and we have clashed in the past so I don’t know how to ask for them back. My husband is of no help because he knows how she is and knows she’ll do her best to not give them back (so it seems.) I know this seems dumb but I just don’t want to start any fights. 
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parenting,AccidentalFather176,2019/03/03,"Need advice on interacting with my 2 year old daughter who I have never met Through interesting circumstances I have recently discovered that I am the father of my ex's child, not her husband. I have never really had many interactions with children, especially in which they are under my care. I am set for a slow transition to 50-50 custody starting with supervised visits in a public place with my ex and her husband as the supervisor, then unsupervised, then overnights etc. since she has never met me before and a sudden change could overwhelm her. I could basically just use any advice as to how to introduce myself to her, talk to her, play with her, etc. as I've never really interacted with children before.",10.236025641025641,8.8406625,10.287692307692314,59.89564102564104,58.615384615384606,13.589743589743593,40.12820512820512,12.45797560212912,5.2095128205128205,575,24,92,16,6,192,83,130,0.032,0.922,0.046,0.3903,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,1,5,0,10,0,0,2,4,19,16,8,0,3,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,0,20,3,21,11,2,19,0,1,0,0,26,5,0,0,12,72,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268279541072677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372126919875886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845986602027663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050083286872786,0.0,0.1769058199280206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670370627228893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730084720992826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954368207052606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399798247339712,0.5159084158035181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547841858261815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471842738854546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21426200991044655,0.0,0.16511819375515616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833333145929513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836535402662003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344121166308382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443192791045475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768981768313476
parenting,LitigiousTurd,2019/03/04,"My children’s dance teacher gave everyone except my son (age 3) a sticker at the end of class (due to behavior)... When it was time for my daughter’s (age 6) class, the teacher mentioned to her that my son was upset from being excluded from getting a sticker due to his poor behavior. It seems trivial enough and while my son should have behaved better in class, I felt that it was really cruel to exclude a 3 year old (in front of everyone else) from getting a sticker...  He was not following her instruction and “running away” from her, but he came out of that classroom devastated.  

Was she not wrong to do this?  She also told my daughter about how my son was “mad” at her... He wasn’t mad, he was so, so sad.  

She shouldn’t have involved my daughter.

How do we handle this?",4.055291992775437,5.290659357615893,5.002046959662851,83.65016255267909,71.31788079470199,7.8750150511739925,30.945815773630343,8.296473431620573,2.273047682119205,597,26,117,9,11,195,83,151,0.189,0.78,0.032,-0.9774,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,1,7,7,3,1,6,0,15,0,0,2,0,15,23,10,0,2,4,7,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,0,2,1,1,5,4,6,0,0,12,1,18,1,21,8,1,21,0,1,0,0,25,6,0,1,10,81,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193773634633508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22765635941747125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430175117048486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27713582126030817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024172569437566,0.0,0.21461298331991627,0.2503689558457058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4630713905978266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326536964704485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531918772590466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25426150453440544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522872112830904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205881193421138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129175401825,0.0,0.0,0.2315356952989133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26492577978243165,0.0,0.15603841935843554
parenting,lanaishot,2019/03/04,"Nanny wants to bring their 13 month old Hiya,

We are in the process of hiring a nanny for our 17 month old boy. One of the potential nannies wants to bring their own child(13 month old girl) as well. 

Our son is a little temperamental, he’s on a pretty strict schedule throughout the day and he’s still pretty needy. He’s capable of walking but refuses to unless he’s holding someone’s hand. The nannies daughter is apparently already walking without help and is relatively independent. She is also currently taking care of her niece(18 months) and her own daughter at the same time. 

On the one hand we like the idea of him being socialized and she does seem like a good caretaker/mother. He will likely be an only child and it might be good for him to realize he’s not the center of the universe. On the other hand we know how hard he can be with his sleep routine and eating habits. As sometimes struggling parents with only 1 child it almost seems impossible for someone to take care of 2 at the same time...

Anyone see issues with this? Any experience with this type of situation? Any thought on if we should give this a go? Do the benefits outweigh the disadvantages?

Thanks!",5.024877341070955,6.781419686098657,5.559066209443419,78.57081245054076,69.62780269058297,8.117013980480085,30.60643629649169,8.671277953709913,2.511409601688209,942,39,168,16,17,303,130,223,0.053,0.7440000000000001,0.204,0.9908,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,6,0,2,0,4,11,0,1,19,0,14,5,4,2,0,36,30,13,0,4,5,4,4,3,0,3,0,0,0,4,6,14,1,2,6,0,0,5,2,1,1,2,1,5,15,10,31,22,4,27,0,0,1,0,34,9,0,5,16,104,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152543205856113,0.0,0.12701383510427044,0.09204406816792236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654158048826652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047940686582812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23470077356582775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422888104375829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072329713405456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777429425193728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258822210475412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041277632121713,0.06541301579252877,0.19307798488581984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103105468340578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714796368646168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993196981646676,0.0,0.12013272073327665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06325501507835257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686936452313014,0.1153587330580884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210110646067401,0.0,0.0,0.3674814568055572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36232890971117204,0.0,0.1559871724098991,0.17507488591390397,0.0,0.0,0.12780304013175994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341926974424037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171844251733904,0.20956233733408344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293753105640069,0.11518142166695125,0.1173282212128129,0.1950448305571285,0.0,0.11383516081820046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919176503013694,0.0,0.0,0.12032573268899853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307919345392594,0.0,0.0,0.10596704982280844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137519284243308,0.13422948754631284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13577591774980385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348719359767096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095065299363732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,burner-account123456,2019/03/04,"13yo daughter is on a rampage... 13yo daughter is lying, hitting, throwing things, threading suicide, threatening to kill us, threatening to make false police reports, threatening to run away. She has ADHD and is on meds - does better on meds but still very crazy. She screams the most horrible things in our (her parents) faces. 

She calms down and stops all of this after a while but then the next time we tell her no or take her phone she goes off the handle again. Completely out of control. she is vaping at school, hanging out with kids who are having sex (unprotected) and making horrific decisions. My SO is suicidal over it also. We are at a total loss. 

Can anyone offer some good advice who has been through this?

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parenting,LDawg618,2019/03/04,"Those of you with pets, how do you handle the pets not eating toxic human food? Pets can't eat chocolate, raisins, and many other human foods. How do you handle having kids eating those foods, dropping them on the floor, not closing the containers, well etc. and having animals around? Are you constantly worried? Do the kids learn at a young age to be careful with those foods?",4.73,7.105743376811597,4.286304347826088,84.81467391304352,71.7536231884058,6.339130434782609,24.54347826086957,7.1686216300943375,1.1638869565217385,299,9,51,3,6,90,46,69,0.031,0.903,0.066,0.3527,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,1,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,8,7,0,2,0,12,9,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,6,7,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,7,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,3,37,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408792920989842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135013392433448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101596514996265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4857989480396207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17649464203634796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7654437228651294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604443529561292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14228902864484558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16071425412308826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gc819,2019/03/04,"TV battles I was surprised at how annoyed I became when my husband couldn’t stomach the very limited tv that’s appropriate for my 18 month old. (We only rarely even let her watch tv so its not like it takes up a lot of his TV real estate.) But then I realized that, over the years, I’ve filtered out tons of tv that he might think is too girly or social or whatever else. I’ve been living with an 18 month old along man. I’ll watch Top Gun for the thousandth time when you watch 5 episodes of workin’ moms.",3.878285714285713,4.458147304761905,4.532380952380954,89.28428571428573,71.19047619047619,7.523809523809526,26.42857142857143,7.447530270364453,1.111857142857143,397,12,88,4,7,127,80,105,0.117,0.847,0.036000000000000004,-0.816,0,0,0,1,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,2,6,4,2,0,5,0,6,1,1,1,0,16,8,8,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,9,2,11,3,2,14,0,0,3,0,9,5,0,4,10,49,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320286026480335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15275675449903384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364971408322188,0.0,0.11299061293924074,0.0,0.20422246619844928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966240491255351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453491150890927,0.0,0.27086967339555024,0.3692073432108209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4853741293898568,0.0,0.0,0.1758971297575213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632446813765407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23575851262914144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389206447499134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819342601220556,0.0,0.0,0.13485989989352493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082834244993366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893527057144754
parenting,yumcrackers,2019/03/04,"Got a call from the school counselor today. So, apparently my seven year old got angry in class today because he did not want to complete his writing assignment.

(Backstory: I transferred him to a better school in the district, and he is a bit behind on his writing skills- his teacher at the prior school told me to my face in a parent/teacher conference that ""she doesn't have time to teach the children to write properly. This was a red flag, along with the unacknowledged bullying that he fell victim to, which has made him develop several defense mechanisms. Hopefully this school can help to make a difference. I can honestly do only so much at home to help him gain his trust of the school experience back. It was REALLY bad there- not much of a choice, we live in a rural area.)

I got a call from his school counselor, who sounds very young. The way she told me she deals with things like this- is to ask the child which method they are going to kill themselves and when, to determine the risk factor. Now, having worked with children myself in this capacity- I know full well that this is a way for them to gain control of a situation through shocking words that they may or may not know the entire meaning of. My son certainly has no working idea in regards to actual death or actual suicide, so far as life experience. He is certainly not suicidal in any real sense. So, she went on to say that she deemed it low risk because he said he wanted to stab himself in the skull because he did not like writing. Now- I don't agree with this method, it seems ""off"" to me. It seems like an inappropriate way to converse with a small child who she already knew had gotten frustrated with his writing assignment. I would have dealt with that differently, in method, personally. It just strikes me odd.

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Here's where it really gets me- she adamantly seemed to very much enjoy announcing her own personal power as a ""mandated reporter"". To whom would she be reporting this other than myself? I am aware that mandated reporters are to report abuse and neglect- as they have had the responsibility to do for many years now (also, myself, at one point in my career path). He is neither neglected, nor is he abused. In fact, he has quite a nice life at home. I'm not so sure if she meant that she was reporting to me, or if she has to report his words that clearly held no true meaning- other than a child thinking they could hold power over a situation where they didn't want to do their work. Easily to discern, in my eyes. I feel as though she has gone overboard. I am in no way am devaluing actual threats of suicide- just in this case- not it. Anyway, I don't feel as though it's necessary to report to anyone other than a parent when a child acts up in this manner. Obviously, we will try our hardest to correct their misplaced words and hope that it sticks, and that it doesn't happen again. 

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Quite honestly- he doesn't display this kind of behavior at home in any abnormal manner. I spend a lot of time teaching him correct ethics, good morals, and instilling proper behavior. I am utterly shocked at what I am hearing. He generally behaves well at home, aside from the expected kid stuff that we all had to learn growing up.

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I see I have a long road ahead of me with my son's recovery from what had affected him at the last school- I really hope this new one (which seems wonderful) can help him overcome these defense mechanisms, power-plays, and mistrust for the school experience. 

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I'm not sure if I should just home-school, if there isn't a significant improvement. 

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Thoughts? 

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TLDR: Kid said he wanted to kill himself over not wanting to complete an assignment. School counselor used a wonky method to discern risk that I don't agree with. Made it super triumphantly clear that she's a mandated reporter. My kid doesn't act like this at home- developed defense mechanisms/power-play.distrust for school things at his old school. Halp. ",5.719665270911107,7.186466990641713,5.784204419332056,78.72988043587935,67.59625668449198,9.174694783573806,31.359196851982645,9.50408208654531,2.9195545050953484,3191,129,574,66,53,1006,324,748,0.118,0.762,0.12,-0.2553,8,0,4,0,2,2,124.0,4,0,8,14,26,40,8,3,40,0,55,5,3,6,12,109,101,30,6,17,19,3,2,4,0,6,2,5,5,11,52,20,0,8,19,0,1,7,23,17,2,3,26,10,77,23,102,67,9,74,1,3,3,0,91,42,0,18,25,390,129,31,0.0,0.1005375375161238,0.1242071825832854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046818980787372816,0.03392866183127085,0.0,0.275816237543182,0.30931891780218224,0.057703298568131375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029665774604294905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0396632901206816,0.0,0.0,0.03262355688821414,0.03542456949669144,0.07758887088377411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03752301833561835,0.04631902964609293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664492393024346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896729393968217,0.0,0.04758521501626673,0.03387431275526048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04374012298158037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865386090032888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12450452669064513,0.0,0.0,0.042904485718632326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022166229162688518,0.0,0.02411210343440413,0.035585550414302565,0.10179765875280099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037517840641601685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047818038039334786,0.0,0.08531328165918696,0.0,0.2553449761137246,0.1264180266241749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04789464386701391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387784000350644,0.044180938072091516,0.04663327161528712,0.034583469157584666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059934545624710914,0.0829102806378257,0.0,0.03746360326890018,0.03754634439548845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03606971116686927,0.0,0.080290445640968,0.028320189401716607,0.043014071931245575,0.0,0.09243035128018934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356564310101667,0.0,0.0,0.04097602578935308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903948796103361,0.0,0.05749893641224388,0.032267460128361104,0.0,0.0,0.09421978441300563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409081456973544,0.0,0.0,0.04010699841625586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025215586518616,0.0,0.048290937276976455,0.08153899980703014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071512209004586,0.03373945964077594,0.0,0.515257711409409,0.033808631906451864,0.15449490265917512,0.0,0.047930158529938816,0.0,0.0,0.0953789037971183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048568485660737744,0.13922395635427326,0.0,0.07997343177080347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563729035895033,0.0271853524371088,0.08336814566472196,0.0336821055329942,0.04947876578461352,0.0,0.08043120863134715,0.08108116795685644,0.0,0.028804982686672163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03664309551637839,0.0,0.07001303477609676,0.1251220010658163,0.13470553797369278,0.0,0.0,0.07629349865407825,0.039330028315434806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04601000760179565,0.09266155206005827,0.0,0.0,0.060277501045144975,0.0,0.30931891780218224,0.054642880318692216
parenting,razz13,2019/03/04,"Fast approaching becomming a parent decision- need help Last Saturday I got up at who cares o'clock, cleaned the house spotless in just under an hour from it being a real mess, then laid out in my front yard and looked up at the sky with my headphones on for a bit, walked the dog, had a small afternoon snack before impromptu organising a visit out to a friend's house for the evening. 

My partner is very keen on kids, but they seem like a death sentence to any sort of life.

Talking to people about kids is always the same. They constantly complain about how their kid is keeping them up/always sick/ needing sport etc. Not ONCE have I heard any positive feedback about kids unless I point blank ask them about positives, then I get the ""They are really great"" ""wouldn't change it for the world"".

The guy who sits across from me at work comes in looking like he's waiting for deaths sweet release with the kid battles every morning (kid doesn't want to go to school, and is old enough to simply refuse I guess??) 

How can this be the best decision ever made? I see nothing but sadness and stress, hear nothing but complaining, yet everyone says how amazing it is. I  feel like I'm paralysed with this decision, and there's just no turning back once that decision is made and there's a kid in the world.

What am I missing? I need help!",6.508145265888459,6.655201085603112,5.968264591439687,82.78941374837875,65.38132295719846,9.187963683527887,32.30843060959792,8.841846274778883,2.466191387808041,1057,39,206,15,15,324,161,257,0.093,0.71,0.197,0.9863,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,6,2,15,17,1,1,20,0,15,3,0,5,1,42,40,14,2,5,7,1,1,3,2,1,2,3,2,9,9,11,1,3,6,2,0,6,4,7,0,0,5,8,19,10,36,32,5,40,0,2,3,0,31,20,0,3,16,126,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632019462343672,0.0,0.0,0.16044664824189686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102855835978838,0.0,0.0,0.09071128490622628,0.0,0.0,0.13028807484802366,0.10038337912818236,0.0,0.12380174108317694,0.0,0.12879217030821688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027779565327695,0.0,0.12479611800817493,0.10162030229849216,0.0,0.12748314990182294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189405726160915,0.1315672071192778,0.07791776038800463,0.10671019160439772,0.09939441499378784,0.11272493910253407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059648937746331426,0.0842774540946176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114296439391407,0.0,0.061634209162513234,0.0,0.06704480114848578,0.0,0.09435100794959768,0.1300618206568936,0.12995673466241092,0.11680837947467985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296023137838522,0.0,0.1581449753295182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617622154220746,0.2722419919354513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485673651041183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09616091018366828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332536612297617,0.17290185695486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981293836120366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325123881316966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26241872980473885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22638988679135724,0.0,0.12378917461412292,0.25126739358739186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099119965639094,0.0,0.0,0.08178521669464879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151933471070724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342751492343578,0.07557430016811324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381410330405232,0.0,0.11939146003184233,0.09400643993738876,0.10739502730877194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513369529759367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948194376850671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283169702349366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733721504503466,0.0695814838682952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588322110895362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,princesszelda14,2019/03/04,"Guilt over twins’ lack of progress in school B/g twins in grade 1. We could have kept them back in prep (kindergarten) for another year, but I pushed to let them move up so that 1) they wouldn’t be separated from their friends and 2) they would be eligible for one-on-one help that they couldn’t get in prep. 

It’s now been a month in grade 1 and I am seriously questioning my decision. I’m 99% sure they will be repeating grade 1 and feeling supremely guilty that I may have made the wrong call. 

Parent/teacher interviews are today and I’ve been a mess for the past week, dreading that the teachers will confirm I made the wrong decision. I literally feel sick with worry and I’m trying to hold it together at work.",3.679440559440561,5.154830510489512,4.333146853146854,87.15048951048954,72.56643356643356,8.276923076923078,26.98601398601399,8.841846274778883,1.8341244755244759,565,20,121,11,11,180,93,143,0.217,0.6629999999999999,0.12,-0.9398,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,7,2,4,9,0,2,6,0,17,1,0,2,1,24,25,7,0,5,1,0,2,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,5,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,5,2,14,3,16,9,1,18,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,2,8,69,20,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20127042215988175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759338298054112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19599667633997714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325197166026971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941056952787684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829575464264486,0.0,0.10028301822677856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286562743234591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962761368766344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632448335958996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532081757455929,0.20400650316524366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006648189750247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21313152291859136,0.0,0.18323263312063687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502163818510647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194257963640378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090530998906226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18194083219973609,0.0,0.0,0.1303176369146237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396620662955213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13973779731860286,0.1949288387635644,0.0,0.13635178296699,0.4197221030986428,0.0,0.12360588990451588
parenting,dimthelights17,2019/03/04,"Grandparents traveling with grandbabies, did you (or parents that have been in this situation) ever need more than a photocopy of the birth certificate? My parents are flying to another state for leisure and taking my 1 year old daughter. Do I need to get a notarized letter to consent this? Any other info or advice would be greatly appreciated ",8.05,9.666015333333334,8.550000000000004,60.48000000000002,62.33333333333334,12.0,40.0,11.698219412168324,5.6525,280,15,39,9,4,93,52,60,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.7053,3,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,9,11,3,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,8,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,4,31,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24580895767396485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17106068373779698,0.2637691131272911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275387929590045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314230004366623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773316141351625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730380396464689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263956412687466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5586266692981708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827495291007065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891321467476444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17869187375161488,0.0,0.0,0.16198811334297689
parenting,Macaht,2019/03/04,"My 6 y/o is repeatedly lying Hi guys,  I have a lovely 6 year old daughter, lately we've had some issues with stealing and lying. I know that most kids have these phases (we had one when she was 4 then it got much better). I don't want to go into detail right now, since its late, but even though we've talked about how lying is wrong and leads to loss of trust and she says she understands and promises not to do it again, she lies again the first chance she has, and I am desperate. She's also has a lot of trouble with giving explanations, most of the time she just looks at me like she's just waiting for me to leave, so I may be wrong but I fear I've made a mess with discipline and she has no respect for me and what I say. I don't want to become a monster who is angry all the time, and I've read that grounding her is no good, I truly need some advice, about how to handle this situation. (though spanking or physical punishment advice is not welcome). Is this type of behaviour normal for her developmental stage?
Thanks in advance! ",4.739913326110512,4.8362111314554035,5.646948356807513,83.7595449620802,69.14084507042253,8.431780426146622,26.243770314192854,8.139509932561175,1.3957752979414944,813,21,173,10,13,268,130,213,0.233,0.63,0.138,-0.968,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,5,15,17,1,1,7,0,20,1,0,4,1,39,33,19,0,4,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,10,13,0,2,2,1,0,3,6,8,0,2,5,3,25,9,21,26,7,22,0,1,1,1,23,5,0,7,14,121,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831622341165629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158654411951312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001542394223864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281400691854687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569596815103652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303725491855053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324012706780302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898804449514285,0.08234216593814978,0.12152366985262596,0.11587872914726252,0.0,0.0,0.14346011623434704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122354940177968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962566600692908,0.0,0.32687588710766124,0.1534135650911984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078407846946018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12166791684916582,0.0,0.0,0.1231770654237358,0.1307654515589741,0.13709482493309405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650802726927956,0.10743128089829684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14195771301317553,0.0,0.0,0.15203369363193225,0.0,0.09817863829682744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492540751424068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237320225156627,0.0,0.2304386419013331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985136123314853,0.1628581584519738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645403876631805,0.0,0.13339174619560154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28469991027350705,0.0,0.16896861585448722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083164310660774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091526838051502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316820628528868,0.0,0.09330196203704624
parenting,mkecupcake,2019/03/04,"Daycare Advice We have a 3 month old daughter who just started part time daycare. She's attending 2 days per week and it's a multi-location, pretty well respected daycare.  There are 2 teachers for 7 of the little, little ones.

When I went to pick up my daughter tonight, she was wearing a different outfit than what I dropped her off in, and it wasn't hers. She had a full outfit (and then some) in her cubby. The dirty clothes were in somebody else's cubby.  I think they got my kid confused with another kid. Does that happen?!  I like the two teachers, but its really got me questioning if there's more to be worried about...

Share your wisdom for a first time parent, please! ",2.028346055979643,4.644934022900762,3.038900763358779,88.83020865139952,82.81679389312978,5.630737913486005,24.76386768447837,7.03164865440522,1.202159898218829,531,21,100,7,15,169,95,131,0.069,0.7879999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.8622,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,1,1,6,6,0,1,8,0,7,1,1,1,0,13,13,7,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,1,3,7,0,16,5,13,5,4,22,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,4,12,68,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183291161749172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966834229156761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096708560087005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19597065142429146,0.0,0.0,0.1641437070731862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566906055077562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954688403167888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000336108193889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658674669303695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163719177799083,0.3759886863556352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971652615888453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682308566151105,0.0,0.12710223683974425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082742064582155,0.20311995231581856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20589545358388398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082604829994312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21012124556278927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016209819772285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276295970246552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018723543893385,0.0,0.0,0.21874706558763496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322856364017992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504572813445345,0.0,0.16864789055817142,0.17387920145242075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904863656645012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,milenalefebvre,2019/03/04,"Nail polish, again. How does one get nail polish out of a toddlers hair? Soaking in the tub cemented it in his hair. My son has mid-back length hair. I've never cut it, and I'd like to avoid having to, but I can't get this effing nail polish out of his hair....",0.8232142857142861,2.3469477500000018,2.6851428571428606,95.75985714285716,80.42857142857143,5.194285714285715,16.557142857142857,5.6839178017228535,-0.706467142857143,198,3,47,1,5,66,40,56,0.031,0.908,0.061,0.1424,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,2,0,3,4,4,1,1,7,5,3,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,4,1,8,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975217759943293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524082061334234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5401960806445708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25256781564523123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987229021884408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35031556183007345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mydadkickme,2019/03/04,"How to get my son to stop wanting to play at night My son is one year old he got up at night about 2am and want to play if I don't want to he got upset and cry or play WWE fighting with me and i try to play with him two hours a day but I work 8 hours a day and to have my son want to play from 2am to 7am is hard ,last night he started to go in my big brother room to play so the problem is getting worth ,
I live with my brother

Any tips ?",2.1448909657320883,0.8390717289719659,4.047242990654208,97.80893302180687,74.70093457943925,7.133333333333333,24.37538940809969,3.1291,-0.07027601246105908,333,7,99,0,6,115,61,107,0.114,0.715,0.171,0.5159,0,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,3,9,1,1,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,17,15,9,0,6,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,0,1,0,6,1,1,1,3,0,2,2,1,11,6,20,13,0,19,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,12,50,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845041778169042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913318542370812,0.2246672594891707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200686408698452,0.0,0.0989922169537072,0.0,0.2786201253117885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603376128470514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430703508926103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198239863946013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380678640300588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4903768578989702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277576516010535,0.0,0.11803091346661107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666961381491893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328762890278976,0.0,0.0,0.14562479328994246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825882811195301,0.0,0.1701514881039684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4109506019293621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680730363972087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121681457239716
parenting,JamJam325,2019/03/04,"The hardest part of parenting so far... We’ve been through a lot. Our daughter has faced issues since about 8 weeks gestation. We’ve battled low weight, a CPS investigation because of her low weight, many hospitalizations, kidney infections and UTIs, early intervention, speech therapy... but the hardest thing by far was my 2-year-old being taken for her open surgery on her kidney 10 minutes ago. She screamed “MOMMY MOMMY MOMMY” and eventually, we stopped hearing her. Every part of my body wanted to grab her, kiss her all over, and take her home. This is for the best because she needs to get better but it’s so damn hard. We’ll see her in about 3 hours. ",5.533544536271808,7.267270380165289,5.549201101928379,79.22359963269055,68.3388429752066,8.022405876951332,29.973370064279145,8.515128840125781,2.2827458218549133,520,20,93,8,9,163,87,121,0.127,0.772,0.101,0.152,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,2,4,8,2,0,5,0,6,8,4,0,1,12,13,7,0,2,2,2,4,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,3,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,8,15,3,14,8,5,13,0,2,1,1,16,8,1,1,5,54,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547759318988308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138390273480193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406683339511926,0.15512313143601622,0.0,0.19482494211382212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777833546601846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163694799521577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711998270033306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768355875430715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759360611528791,0.0,0.1727293092002386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18306740958692547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911504442824022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782358215717103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005359535903802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18404814973085493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947560277620045,0.37987262796435617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976756357891748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450890309294721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466385531827729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187564306211458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20058012423170524,0.0,0.11652502544875945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345285362316327,0.0,0.14069174940493953,0.4271691134856889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294899879726472
parenting,Whateverdude1,2019/03/04,"Plagiocephaly - UK Hi everyone and I’m sorry if this topic has been covered before. One of my 6 month twins has Plagiocephaly, I would say severe one. The ears are quite disproportionate/asymmetrical. We had a small accident last month and we took my son to the doctors and he was seen by paediatrician. He said it’s not that bad and not to worry. We went today to the doctors to get prescription review  and I asked the doctor for another opinion. He wasn’t worried as well , he said continue with tummy time and repositioning. I don’t think they are taking this seriously, and it’s stressing me out. I live in the UK. Has anybody else been in this situation? Any advice? 
Thank you",2.354040697674421,5.188365852713184,4.110964147286822,79.94923691860467,84.27131782945736,7.256007751937985,23.56637596899225,8.278499904357787,1.9497166666666668,541,20,98,13,16,181,88,129,0.107,0.818,0.075,-0.473,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,1,1,1,1,5,0,1,6,0,12,4,1,0,0,18,23,9,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,6,12,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,3,1,2,10,5,12,2,12,12,0,12,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,2,6,61,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895714385367584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366062781583484,0.15984077268808122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250559871536295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727636739161274,0.0,0.0,0.1297104578590396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4680692417073446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733939183100765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565761374152697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964068912285642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425439147787976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346023791174514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433433877716401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20658700612057515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621327613996182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29000006716104315,0.12122196322625632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17220749758905315,0.0,0.0,0.17134266659507488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063784499734466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461310469388067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461170763276593,0.0,0.0,0.14034112697932696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767381660852917,0.0,0.0,0.08888573187423207,0.0,0.14448999952520108,0.0,0.16936024126823754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705684362931922,0.14130822772215598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096090908221786,0.0,0.108285033205368,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Karasvde,2019/03/04,"My sons school is pushing me to medicate him for ADHD - Hes 5 and has never been diagnosed with it. So, I screwed up.. by that I mean, I never sent my son to daycare or preschool. He didn't have a classroom type environment at all until kindergarten. When I went to work, his grandparents watched him and because he is an only child I kinda just let him do his thing. He had a few friends growing up and did have a few playdates.. but I didn't do my job as a parent to expose him to a school style setting.

So.. the first few months of kindergarten was hell. He had full blown tantrums where we would have to take him home. The school put him on an IEP, so for the next 2 months of school he went home at 11am. Than he went home at 1pm, than just for the last 2 months now he's been going home at normal time with the other kids.

He has trouble focusing in a group setting, and he gets little breaks from class here and there to wind down so he can focus again. 

I thought he was doing well because most of his daily  behavior report cards hes meeting his goal.

I had another meeting with the school on Thursday and they basically diagnosed my son with ""racecar brain"". They wouldn't say the words... but they politely asked us to have our son seen by a pediatrician.  I asked why? And said she doesn't KNOW our son well enough since he only sees her for immunizations and when hes sick and they all got quiet.. the vice principle said ""maybe she can refer you to someone who is more specialized in kids like your son"".

It was hard not to get really defensive and angry.. especially when they said they are considering special education classes.

Hes a little behind.. because he missed over HALF the school year due to them sending him home early and the end of the day is reading! He was present for math and excels in it (his teachers words). I dont feel his reading issue is an ADHD issue. 

At home he isn't at all what they describe.  He sits with me, does his reading and is catching up really fast now that his teacher finally gave me a book of the words hes behind on. Hes totally hyper tho.. I wont deny that. He can make me want to scream some days, but once I drop the hammer (so to speak) and raise my voice and I intervene.. he stops and slows down.

Am I being too defensive here? Should I have my son tested.. isn't 5 too early? Should I switch schools?

I need some guidance and advice from other parents right now.",3.5274335378323123,4.6986988752556265,4.451467280163602,87.34116820040902,72.51738241308794,7.396523517382414,25.853271983640084,7.793537801064563,1.269078118609407,1886,60,399,24,36,611,237,489,0.07400000000000001,0.87,0.057,-0.9025,4,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,4,2,8,4,24,15,5,0,25,0,50,7,1,1,6,59,75,32,0,7,7,9,2,1,1,5,5,8,6,3,11,23,0,3,5,4,0,10,11,8,2,2,23,13,65,7,56,45,13,68,1,1,3,1,83,23,2,5,31,263,76,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299747435438126,0.07033214016389258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547099345329991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13457191086899328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162401032828955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034676479400034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928345255549281,0.0,0.0,0.14610414911864453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298491483561351,0.0,0.08435296840995044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374758318340575,0.07436836109549311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03639220681416183,0.0,0.0,0.07884397692139794,0.0,0.06122103053601845,0.0,0.0,0.05560691833247453,0.0,0.0752068677637915,0.0,0.04090447141885792,0.0,0.05756416667516536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447454886106681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331746214430139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15024427117959627,0.07142306928463342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0395550170715019,0.05866839985859305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359827083528671,0.0,0.03516285103356475,0.14427367220788453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048043190471150486,0.0,0.07230753677114979,0.07840076400760793,0.0,0.0725062127037159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17234683225589836,0.0,0.0,0.05336779411773659,0.11102154070981267,0.0,0.07654514415190365,0.0,0.07051921878027234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664993961816324,0.0,0.10947890997318972,0.0,0.0,0.15983717426799374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07235372914732534,0.0,0.0,0.21598037124692854,0.0,0.09221674904756116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061465385576462216,0.2053912102847301,0.05723659764144234,0.0,0.509890571171745,0.057353943478648785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05953761993284164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06098331960587641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017346997886855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411547561336952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04781631411684957,0.0,0.0,0.057139300469966015,0.04196860647979184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657583589871162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042452118127233575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294265033173179,0.20016180133452532,0.06494532202437557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239791457402198,0.0,0.0,0.05112825028743168,0.0,0.0,0.0463488832967354
parenting,LatterAnxiety,2019/03/04,"Advice going from SAHM to single working parent I have been fighting myself on leaving my boyfriend. I have had these nagging thoughts for almost the whole term of our relationship that our relationship isn't right, that it will get better eventually. He's not terrible, I just don't think he's for me. I've been waiting for the feeling that I am ready to marry him, but it's not coming. No emotional intimacy, no physical intimacy. He has shut down my ideas of working because he thinks it isn't worth pursuing. Tells me to volunteer, so I decide for one day I want to volunteer at an event a few hours away and he tells me no. He wants me to be a SAHM and he wants me to make his doctor appointments, make his dinners, and clean up after him. He says he's not sexist but all of these added up don't feel good. Anyways, he's not terrible, he's a great dad when he doesn't want to be on his computer (gaming, working his other job, or reddit), he's a great father, but he's not for me. ANYWAYS, I feel like it's been easier to stay and be miserable but I know that's not the right thing to do. I'm scared to go from SAHM to working single mother. For any mom that can relate, can you tell me how the change went for you? I moved two hours away to move in with him. I have a couple SAHM friends in this town, most of my friends and connections are back in the bay area. My mom lives four hours away and is an alcoholic narcissist so I don't want her anywhere near my daughter on a daily basis. My younger sister has an apartment an hour away, but she's really busy so I don't know. Is it stupid to move back to the bay area and get a job? I feel like I might have more people to lean on over there but it's super expensive. My mind is going everywhere and every time this happens, I just decide to sit and hope our relationship will get better. 
TLDR: Relationship isn't working out but too afraid to go from SAHM to single working mother. Tell me about your experiences doing so? Without family, is it possible?",2.909877309682188,4.448036580487808,4.3939911308204005,85.6887841832964,74.65853658536584,7.603843311160383,24.375461936437546,8.296473431620573,1.4026991869918692,1578,49,329,27,33,526,188,410,0.08800000000000001,0.7879999999999999,0.124,0.9216,3,0,1,0,2,0,45.0,3,3,0,9,15,19,3,3,17,0,34,3,0,3,1,56,63,23,0,6,17,9,4,2,2,3,2,1,1,0,18,12,2,1,12,1,2,9,18,8,0,3,6,5,46,11,54,51,9,48,0,1,0,0,51,25,0,5,14,220,64,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391013381770319,0.0,0.08083134573368737,0.07573802627987622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051434732670637286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842481626512938,0.1163180593795271,0.0,0.04610669789713488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337869040404461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001232856427658,0.06515328478226738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368924054333514,0.0,0.04877863940069795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741613772375643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507975561702896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372616966672036,0.0,0.0,0.07398603090320045,0.0713024166527117,0.0,0.1529743226518284,0.10806803056386027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687159712660787,0.0,0.11854927876812593,0.0,0.17194158740315402,0.06343946768783171,0.0,0.1667768083520946,0.0,0.0,0.06688422158403635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512311618819711,0.29794292187141186,0.0,0.0,0.08538327148651988,0.0,0.0,0.15011312313821615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313458393569906,0.0,0.0,0.08008707206818973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390336819686211,0.0,0.06678753093255252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097456521236647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023731139043308,0.07637029228578837,0.1771667635530011,0.0,0.2411656952681243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05125257128442714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839842702899568,0.0,0.0,0.05243613130213022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526766018072347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04845403713335243,0.0,0.0,0.3248168786209935,0.0,0.12918460500496207,0.0,0.06014838423928469,0.0757243287751339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061737783863883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644350380340549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024886441405402,0.09692834689571746,0.0,0.060046137287220636,0.0441036674532536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388489182257267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230588834860732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011486492213173,0.0,0.08444433303970847,0.0,0.07290992155005259,0.0,0.3303812625843637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PooPooKazew,2019/03/04,"Is it normal for me, the parent, to experience anxiety when I'm away from my two year old daughter? Everytime I leave the house or leave my daughter with my parents or her babysitter, I get serious anxiety that something terrible will happen. I then cannot stop thinking about it. I trust my parents and her sitter but something deep inside of me always worries, and over worries. Is this normal?",6.323013698630137,7.705721575342466,6.753315068493155,72.6488767123288,66.12328767123286,9.127671232876713,36.51780821917808,9.3871,3.7595446575342484,317,16,50,6,5,103,52,73,0.207,0.746,0.047,-0.8506,3,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,8,7,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,12,1,8,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,5,38,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137246531101091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523632510403643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497021567772296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134677613059267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617637549656519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585933851090874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19032310499111202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493035301446853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32321998551621683,0.0,0.0,0.17308086757191288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5494520151254125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539637322001297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790047898595914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056893855257158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112621470297056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350170567545344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621845822301228
parenting,ImportantSwordfish5,2019/03/04,"Sleeping in my car with my toddler tonight  Using a throwaway for this because my husband knows I use reddit. We were in the process of Trying to buy a house to get us out of our scrappy apartment. Today he got a call from the bank and apparently someone screwed up on the banks end. He wouldn't go into details but took his angee out on me in front of our 19 month omd. He yelled at me, threw a open can of soda at me while I was holding our baby and screaming at me to get out and leave. He started going through the apartment breaking things while I was trying to calm the toddler down because her dad yelling and freaking out was making her upset. He grabbed me and pushed me jnto the wall. Calling me a shitty mother, saying he should just take our daughter and leave forever. Just saying things to hurt me because he was angry at someone else's incompetence and taking it out on me

I grabbed the toddlers diaper bag and left. We are currently at a park but its going to get dark and cold soon. I only work a part time job and I don't know where we are going to go tonight. He told me if we came back he would call the police and make me leave. He was so angry that I don't want to go back. Because it might anger him more and I'm terrified of him hitting me or something

This isn't the first time he's done this but I can't deal with it anymore. Our daughter is getting older ans I cant let her grow up thinking this is normal and okay. Im just terrified to sleep in the car tonight with her. I don't know where we are going to go come tomorrow. The shelter I contacted will be able to take us in starting Friday and I am hoping they can help start the divorce stuff. I don't want this to be my life anymore. This isn't the first time it happened and it won't be the last if I stay. Im just so tired of this and want out",2.5298874458874465,3.7942295948052,3.728246753246754,91.19046536796536,75.12987012987014,6.068398268398267,26.08008658008658,6.2581,0.7742138528138534,1434,51,314,9,30,467,182,385,0.162,0.807,0.031,-0.9948,3,0,1,0,2,1,22.0,12,0,1,3,12,9,2,1,22,1,33,6,2,4,0,62,72,26,0,10,10,5,2,0,0,6,2,5,0,0,17,34,1,1,4,0,3,17,10,6,0,2,12,8,50,3,47,49,2,72,0,1,0,1,46,30,1,5,23,208,67,2,0.08572652640162924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003535757121835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183681444035264,0.0,0.20903237923832985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626091047689395,0.09804830839624794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384581174959898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838028448093731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772800012310812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161351262095572,0.0,0.07592825741074165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583787912761906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791542872518259,0.0,0.3897628841809766,0.0,0.06856333443060708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580768418075957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746068360939063,0.0,0.0,0.08514578374084854,0.0,0.09891690160372356,0.09177201955113556,0.0,0.1851987185190964,0.0,0.08507034963359301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413391709039606,0.06987856078438992,0.0,0.27231604057822106,0.09314212176780114,0.08766118139552938,0.060551180832051237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444624410094904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094229726149618,0.0,0.0,0.06842609549501165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399379440861279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519888631366665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928334741039517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363463492107969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17157687414751369,0.0,0.1452716152540148,0.06599646824311685,0.0,0.0,0.18203302985724926,0.09137307086685367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813636283811918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19336703716853507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390578984779848,0.05493009663274175,0.0,0.0,0.14996348081776056,0.09853003121719386,0.08125872328911367,0.08191536970633727,0.09524532512018563,0.11640536837944565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20623691206472836,0.14808038867944992,0.0,0.0,0.15169117910817692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06240993221838781,0.0,0.0,0.060897664741515874,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Oscarthecount,2019/03/04,"My 17 year old had no idea what EBT (food stamps) was. We raised our kids in a comfortable bubble and I don't know how to fix it. My 17 year old daughter started her first job a few weeks ago. She works at a local food market as cashier a couple of days a week. She doesn't do a spring sport so we figured getting a job would be a good way for her to earn an income. She'll work during the summer as well.

She was telling me a story yesterday about how a woman asked if she could pay with EBT. My daughter didn't know what she meant and thought it was a type of credit or debit card. When the lady explained that it was food stamps my daughter clarified that they do take food stamps. She only learned what that was at orientation and asked me why people need them. She is almost 17 years old. 

I realize this isn't her fault. We have raised her and her two brothers in a higher income home in a very high income community, but I grew up poor and my husband grew up in a modest home. Red Nose day is coming up and my kids don't know what that is. They have all volunteered, including at the nearest homeless shelter, but none of it has really sank in from what I can tell. 

What else can I do to show them the realities of life? We are planning in covering college tuition but now I am wondering if we should make them struggle a little. ",3.343,4.390827618181817,4.318681818181819,88.59002272727272,72.81818181818181,7.245454545454546,25.022727272727273,7.554174236665415,1.043090909090909,1045,31,226,12,20,339,154,275,0.038,0.926,0.035,-0.4255,5,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,5,5,7,6,0,1,20,0,29,6,1,3,1,39,44,18,0,6,6,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,3,15,13,4,0,11,2,5,3,7,2,1,2,9,2,38,4,25,30,3,38,0,0,1,0,37,16,0,5,18,150,53,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781046372063576,0.0,0.11049037488070426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20630751061068667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950488310020134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809815218205512,0.12208999911014905,0.0,0.14232137852754764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217558176014956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385583013086993,0.533698144860059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576485150912348,0.0,0.0,0.09254862994658307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658111583753075,0.2213616428385127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456133515051965,0.0,0.0,0.21899244098022894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819212579688136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793697188126916,0.0,0.11059047154664788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365334239436641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181630683636773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3473523323090257,0.0,0.0,0.08391915235166791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649641916276864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068714343788184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809978784062004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535216419698045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829625513022271,0.0,0.1928854494835125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759827189695396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778693077278427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910427177813996,0.0,0.08758339298211347,0.17701747201808438,0.0,0.09920963273099352,0.0,0.09956541172772723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965989335004405,0.16065883656035154,0.0,0.0,0.07838294017351695,0.0,0.0,0.2131675771887533
parenting,whatcanido1234567890,2019/03/04,"My almost 7 YO soils him self English is not my first language, I'm from a small but very developed country, there is only one children's hospital in my country and only one paediatrician that specialises in gastroenterology practising in our country. Throwaway because I’m talking a bout my sons were private medical issues.

Two years a go my son then 5 years old was diagnosed with chronic constipation by this doctor even though he has never had a hard or painful stool in his life, well maybe as an infant but not as toddler or a preschooler. His problem was soiling him self most of the time, was late to quit diapers. He still soils him self most days and it is maybe 10% of bowel movement that he gets to the toilet. Some periods it has been as bad as 4-8 times that he has an accident in his pants but for the last 2-3 months it has been 1-2 times a day and even some days accident free. His stools are usually 6 on the Bristolscale often 7 and a few times it can be considered a 5 but that is rare.

I do realise that this can be of psychological origins and most definitely is now at almost 7 years old even if it wasn't in the beginning.

The doctor dismisses me when I suggest that maybe the problem is not constipation, he has had treatment to relieve constipation under the supervision of the hospital at home and yes of course there is a lot of bowel movement that comes with with that but never any big formed turds that could have been blocking, the most formed things can only be considered at 5 on the Bristolscale.

I do not know where to turn, there is no second opinion to be had here and we would have to pay out of pocket to see a doctor in another country because there is one practising in our country.

We have done everything the doctor orders, we have done everything the social worker system has suggested, we have done everything his ADHD paediatrician has suggested, it has been 2 years numerous reward systems, medication, added digestion fiber (makes things worse), stool softening medication (chronic diarreha). We have made him try to go to the toilet at set times multiple times a day for most of these two years. I have paid him cash for each bowel movement that goes in to the toilet. Name it I have tried it. But please name it in case I have not.

I have completed every parental advice group in my country and now I turn to reddit. Is there anything I can do for my child? He is being bullied and has been since kindergarten because of this.

To day I broke down in the car crying, we were driving home after his weekly therapy session where his problem is being treated as being psychological and he soils him self in the 10 minuets the therapist was talking to me booking new appointments after his session.

He does not do this on purpose.

What can I do, what can the problem be if not chronic constipation? What am I doing wrong?",6.524496703783727,6.965556957952469,6.924271231510723,74.94223311727885,65.3436928702011,9.920979447122043,34.12603179879231,9.800150414767053,3.2956622790981114,2284,96,413,45,33,744,236,547,0.1,0.852,0.048,-0.9858,4,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,8,0,0,4,18,13,0,0,32,1,73,17,3,3,2,66,87,28,0,8,17,3,1,0,0,1,14,0,2,7,29,22,1,1,1,1,4,8,11,8,1,7,20,2,43,6,61,57,12,76,0,1,1,0,49,27,0,16,37,306,72,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447617507985351,0.06868759452585982,0.0,0.0,0.14077265377795845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780032019615301,0.0737062882588838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057843539898084335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586900855504268,0.12854630372727674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054951027676715,0.0736988221267952,0.0,0.0,0.05612167887470965,0.0,0.07721141104890103,0.2266595412303091,0.0,0.0,0.07134392988626348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877834474413484,0.0615121661503979,0.2157964271430686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139279714583948,0.0,0.05922323606597767,0.0,0.18951917344149294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597895259850512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036724169252361945,0.0,0.0798960401479594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296696871568071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410152963127833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336558758605444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03863011942675988,0.05729658235306882,0.07929135911778876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04964864301976588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059758931844195264,0.0,0.06651108525102073,0.04691981758441058,0.0,0.21185040389757226,0.0,0.0,0.212432495038252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05610564058017491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842557263495332,0.0678875281552324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475172525748642,0.0,0.1428930913645256,0.16037851883608972,0.07479462653652018,0.0,0.07804988580395503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715845813581193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690361437814625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476317742312925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056012861331112884,0.0,0.29331555454307684,0.0,0.0,0.05814547783491536,0.0,0.0,0.07165286723852769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613451841203052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299455692791108,0.0,0.0,0.08038393456021149,0.08161331958398868,0.09339649236112578,0.0,0.06906059368907726,0.0,0.2459236375843367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544600948882363,0.15291294224066096,0.13732827229384112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774156541496978,0.05799747264448622,0.0,0.0,0.05638323548081984,0.0,0.06320009003027444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163257880836346,0.0499327407978227,0.0768522219699002,0.0,0.22632563826395294
parenting,WhatchaGotCooking,2019/03/04,"When you feel like a bad parent... I’m struggling right now with a lot of feelings, mostly that I’m failing my kid as a mom when he needs me the most. I feel like I need some different perspectives beyond my husband and mother, so I appreciate your insight! 

My son is 2.5 and a hilarious bundle of energy. He was identified at 18 months as potentially autistic with a definite speech delay and has been in a special school since then four days a week. Right now, it’s looking like he isn’t autistic but instead related to lack of hearing (he got tubes at 2) and unless testing shows otherwise, he will transition to a new, private pre-K in August. Hooray for him! 

Right now, I’m working full time as a school librarian. I’m also taking four graduate classes at a very demanding university online. I’m also 6 months pregnant. During the week, I wake up at 5 and get myself ready, pack my husband a lunch, pack my kid a lunch, and drive him across town to my parents’ house. My mom drives him to school each day, where he stays for 4 hours (except his day off on Friday). She’s amazing - despite being almost 70, she constantly stimulates and plays with him. We are so lucky!

After my school day ends, I let my dogs out then drive across town to get him. We make it home around 4 or 5, and then I start to really show my shortcomings as a mom. I’m exhausted, I always have homework, and I struggle to keep him entertained without immediately turning to his kindle. It makes me feel horrible but I don’t know how else to fit in housework, homework, laundry, errands, and cooking. I rely on his school to take care of the hard work and feel like I’m totally phoning it in. 

I try so hard on the weekends and in the evenings, but he gets bored. We color, use playdo, read books, and watch cartoons, but he’s over it all so quickly and has dropped naps so the days seem endless without down screen time. My husband is great, but he’s working a job and teaching as an adjunct four nights a week. We struggle to even make time for our marriage, let alone coming up with clever family events on the two days we can actually be lazy at home. We rarely do anything and I know my son needs more stimulation, but I can’t find the energy. 

So yeah, I’m tired and my kid is paying for it. I often wonder why we decided to bring a second kid into our lives when the first one is basically being neglected. So reddit, what do I do? How can I fake it til I make it? How can I better nurture my child, who I adore more than anything? How do I manage all of this and the general blah-ness I feel? I try to communicate that I have no hobbies, “me” time, or even free time beyond my responsibilities for work, school, and home, but my mom said that my child(ren) should fill in those gaps I feel in my life. Is that true for you? Thanks for reading this far. You’re great!",3.2780423280423285,4.831157580246916,4.516239858906527,85.12536507936511,73.72663139329806,7.438589065255733,26.53298059964727,8.094773233980128,1.5923725573192238,2216,79,452,34,45,730,280,567,0.09,0.748,0.162,0.9934,4,1,0,0,0,0,82.0,9,3,0,7,29,28,0,3,27,1,29,7,1,11,4,93,72,54,0,5,13,12,9,4,0,2,3,3,5,5,17,35,3,3,14,10,2,6,6,9,0,7,4,16,69,20,69,61,12,84,0,2,4,0,54,37,0,11,43,288,86,23,0.0,0.0,0.06344628926569809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651041857518443,0.06733702332168229,0.0,0.10398662854306832,0.054098564607671436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070053441489853,0.05787807157082606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054285688717546784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057501415600842376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628819935206318,0.0,0.0,0.0560055729354884,0.0,0.07025925615631913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515798541036757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792793765487304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054312569788783384,0.0,0.05758492536721178,0.0,0.0,0.12882746991528246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129134869661835,0.0,0.2301184901580733,0.13934244423665967,0.0,0.0,0.059423494779282014,0.055302621656692426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190461310869868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05199927709068077,0.1433608564069416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648322646420445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327781720338435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956492073981832,0.0,0.06402771593652404,0.07501979619514378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451840068069352,0.05778925541041512,0.0,0.0,0.07146224506764222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296663878259987,0.04592276114342814,0.12705423806518862,0.0,0.05741036614384627,0.0,0.05459710999458384,0.0,0.0,0.055274323452804835,0.0,0.0,0.17359488153295893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045840629853422,0.10379038678405156,0.0,0.0,0.1446257389448407,0.0,0.06279290934193978,0.0,0.06101316164009124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04405656029153178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144385265942512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13006729497759353,0.0,0.04165094852484573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657006262829618,0.06184515513996933,0.0,0.0,0.3947983014091275,0.0,0.05918817302061344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053781951082132594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046018697105926126,0.06929846207291387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390668597692396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776796134973306,0.0,0.0,0.05985804662407024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895569173933644,0.07472638893024919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828326474307922,0.0707187960752629,0.06351123679532403,0.0,0.0,0.056152995085380984,0.0,0.0536450529396122,0.0,0.0,0.1564558685590977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05866687543217696,0.0,0.0,0.1253463104044009,0.07050713631950609,0.18932984433066574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IntrospectiveSelf,2019/03/04,"""Weekend"" mom's, how has the decision to have custody of your kids on weekends unfolded for you? Hi everyone, 

I'm wondering what experiences mom's having only weekend custody have been? What decisive factor made you chose weekend custody? How has this decision impacted you and your kid(s)? What are the positives/negatives? How did your kid(s) adjust?

p.s. I'm asking because I have some custody decisions to make- thank you so much for your responses. Serious and non-judgmental responses only. Thanks! ",4.168041144901611,7.553436895348837,5.1016279069767485,70.26922182468698,87.02325581395347,9.622898032200355,34.52236135957066,9.265573868473778,5.096324865831843,407,24,56,15,13,132,55,86,0.015,0.884,0.101,0.8048,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,8,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,5,0,14,17,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,9,2,6,14,2,5,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,4,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22435033116120395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629051047988284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22931263173970576,0.0,0.234747980724123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270763218813158,0.16018953171789854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5621269243366872,0.0,0.0,0.17641403382619314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650335281567587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418854921796732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602497274125523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pooohsticks,2019/03/04,"Can't wake up in the mornings. I feel so stupid even posting this but I'm at the end of my tether with my waking problems. 

I sleep through anything and everything. My youngest of 3 children is 1, so still rather rigid when it comes to waking hours. He sleeps all night and either him or my middley child wakes between 6-7am. 

Except I don't hear them. My husband has been waking up every morning for the last 4 years, excluding when I was post c-section, and the odd morning when for some reason my body decides to wake up early. My other half is quite a trooper and wakes early naturally most mornings but is quite obviously exhausted, and I know it. He really does mind, and it's caused countless smarmy comments that would have the potential to cause an argument, if it weren't for the fact this problem is causing me massive amounts of stress and making me really depressed. 

Just to clarify, im not lazy. I used to suffer really severe insomnia, sleeping max 4 hours per night, so although this has been happening for years it's really weird for me still. I have tried every freaking method I've heard of. Alarms set across the rooms, multiple alarms, don't eat past a certain time, no screens, bed earlier, bed later, sleep apps, no lights, sleep in a different room, etc etc. I don't even wake if someone is right next to me calling my name, or if somebody is nudging me. I have had arguments with OH and not remembered them later in the morning, because I've been asleep when they were happening. Wtf?

Nothing works. All I want is to wake up early so all the chores can be done and I can be dressed and ready before anyone is even up. Mostly, I just want for my other half to get a lie in! Is this a medical thing? I'm never sleepy in the daytime, once I'm up I'm up and on my feet and moving all day until 7pm. I'm 25, is that relevant? If anyone has any advice or tips or even just a similar story I'd love to hear from you. Wake up miserable every morning knowing I've pissed people off before I've even stepped out of bed sucks!",4.360934873949579,5.270169806372554,5.218837535014007,83.5994117647059,70.29901960784314,8.181512605042016,29.27731092436975,8.418075326091056,2.0502399159663867,1603,60,319,24,28,523,215,408,0.195,0.778,0.027000000000000003,-0.9971,1,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,0,1,3,3,19,17,3,5,17,0,33,24,19,6,8,64,54,32,0,10,18,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,6,2,14,16,1,1,6,0,0,3,10,15,0,2,9,6,32,2,45,42,11,52,0,3,1,1,17,21,2,11,25,200,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08378046902963161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583035884928617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989755579110273,0.0,0.07055362669850393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052264020854799885,0.0,0.14591046412857805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523364339943813,0.0,0.0,0.08754629484239226,0.0,0.0,0.26422423073436685,0.0,0.07385418583252606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055292787017507526,0.0,0.07384450455861291,0.0,0.0,0.08957613087115343,0.0,0.0,0.07502836817452889,0.08773794844015755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772958552845128,0.0,0.0,0.07593686764210078,0.0,0.19123715919506304,0.28313991521334597,0.0,0.2167094595163985,0.0,0.07705421117471489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0433508229496352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04479365081751558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163256147833376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19326196467535264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688658675683986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260985998660452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423679913630263,0.06988648498278344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738031096316739,0.0,0.057229611127621136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637024969984006,0.0,0.0,0.08656916957307492,0.0,0.0,0.09112406296568902,0.0,0.0,0.06612507973869149,0.0,0.0911814721412328,0.1609153211659026,0.0,0.08226624203784486,0.0,0.0,0.09130630572791093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184494973834025,0.05943871899119148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16422325131793702,0.0,0.0,0.16407602033179647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238210593609155,0.0,0.0,0.21969934284919987,0.08815114204139635,0.0,0.0,0.0971224554208598,0.07321828712567574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685755610756494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289908272260013,0.0,0.07264404449599336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369381564102324,0.0,0.09821058212786406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695935335740725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0499934955370821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820928434878987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404859046555319,0.0,0.0,0.10113892054793146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062417009477551036,0.0,0.0,0.0609045705102051,0.0,0.0,0.11042266515852986
parenting,BooksThings,2019/03/04,"I just can’t get motivated today After spending a weekend going to my niece’s cheer competition, I come home to the most messiest house, I’ve ever seen.  My husband was at home with the youngest. My oldest spent the night with his cousins. Well, I’m thankful my husband watched my daughter for me, but damn.  He let her demolish the house and I just don’t have the motivation to tackle the mess today. I know I need to because this is the only free day I’ll have, but I just don’t have it in me.  So I’m wasting my time on reddit.  

How many of you, as parents and spouses, feel like you’re climbing a mountain, but you can never reach the top? You might get close, but you slip and slide and have to start all over.  

I sure do.  ",2.4982000000000006,3.9012543533333366,3.759666666666668,90.3715,75.46666666666667,6.066666666666666,25.833333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.7789333333333337,563,20,123,4,12,184,96,150,0.08900000000000001,0.77,0.141,0.7925,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,4,0,4,7,8,1,0,10,0,13,0,0,3,4,27,26,11,0,1,7,6,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,8,0,0,4,1,3,4,4,2,1,0,3,3,21,7,15,21,2,21,0,0,2,0,13,6,1,2,12,79,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143182076542739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154283604769112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094309248827058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963408489311987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482217974977948,0.1339734151679023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19595621584402065,0.0,0.10657916848118447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3762212243888821,0.0,0.0,0.432775168679832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306308045325756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176491555056693,0.0,0.09161901607796707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190128747244871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989425841255519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905313828651894,0.14463679741986235,0.0,0.0,0.17598675722735171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262708680046302,0.0,0.0,0.20823289648978652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13273662694735816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767473725779828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17265493601976853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935183919448267,0.0,0.3555181885805263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861444023730338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShelB00,2019/03/04,"Spices babies can’t have? Are there any spices babies specifically cannot have? My kids so far have no allergies to any food item, but my toddler (almost 2) is allergic to a certain food preservative (Unrelated). My 7mo old doesn’t like baby food but he likes to eat whatever I make. He eats tikka masala, butter chicken, pot roast. Obviously he can’t chew the meat as he only has 6 teeth, but I smush the vegetables and he eats the sauce and veggies. Indian food has incredibly rich complex spice combinations, are any not ok for my little man? ",4.001057173678531,6.2179363980582565,5.255857605177997,77.76451995685007,73.36893203883496,8.849622437971954,26.00755124056095,9.444778638647367,2.4857926645091704,431,15,79,11,9,143,72,103,0.062,0.7979999999999999,0.14,0.8914,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,1,12,11,1,1,2,11,13,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,9,0,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,6,5,5,13,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,3,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438900875800213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31454308157205496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4732939239329452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7457403203663013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064912990507687,0.15452887456126058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291635390193442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617859846249708,0.0,0.0,0.11726084522180773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommyshark18,2019/03/04,"My son wants to continue to play a sport he is bad at. What do I do? I know, I know. That’s a horrible title. I really just need some fellow parents to give me a kick in the butt and tell me to suck it up and let my kid play the sport he likes. 

My 9 year old son has played several seasons of this sport and he says he likes it, but it’s painful to watch him play in games. He does fine during practice, he listens to the coach and runs the drills. But in games, it’s like he’s playing for the first time. As he’s gotten older, it’s gotten worse bc other players are improving and he’s just not. The teams are more competitive and honestly, he’s dragging his team down because other players can’t count on him to do the things they’ve practiced. He spent a lot of time benched last season. He doesn’t really seem interested in the competitive part at all. As parents, we very much want sports to be fun but part of that should also be trying to improve at the sport. 

I have talked to him about doing more of a “clinic” season with a different organization where the focus is on skills, not games, but he is adamant that he only wants to do it if he can play on a team. I have put off signing him up for the next season but he’s starting asking when he will be playing again. It’s a big time commitment for our family and it’s frustrating for him to not really seem to be trying. 


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parenting,baritoneCoder,2019/03/04,"I'm a jerk Quick background, my wife and I have an 11mo. I've been working on my relationship with my wife in counseling because my connection with our daughter wasn't the strongest at first but has been constantly improving as she gets older. My wife took this really hard and it has created a distance between us so understandably we aren't in the best place right now and she is more conscious of my parenting skills because mine and baby's connection hasn't been as strong as theirs.

Cut to last night. We were all watching tv in the living room wrapping up an episode of something interesting and I had picked up our child and was bouncing her on my knees. She was grumpy and whining because it was her bedtime and it was hard to hear anything. For a second I put my hand in front of (not covering) baby's mouth trying to hear the television. I realized what an ass I was being right away and immediately changed to letting her play and try to bite my fingers to entertain her but my wife saw it and was obviously and understandably furious with me.

I obviously feel like a selfish jerk and I'm not looking for support or justification because there is none to be had. I guess I just wanted to put this story out there in hope of other parents that might have had bad split-second judgments with their kids and how they smoothed things over with their partners.",6.532309160305343,7.0787365343511475,6.649685114503821,76.55330629770995,65.33587786259542,9.756106870229008,35.07729007633588,9.673873057562805,3.305915267175574,1100,49,203,21,16,352,150,262,0.155,0.7509999999999999,0.093,-0.9522,2,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,4,5,7,15,4,0,11,0,26,5,5,3,3,43,41,22,0,2,6,7,6,1,1,1,0,2,1,3,10,22,0,0,6,3,0,4,6,7,0,2,16,11,36,8,36,21,4,28,0,1,3,1,29,17,1,4,8,151,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007479835494634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256738816572883,0.0,0.1116857533923461,0.32616050094177784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403750553195615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415025492839743,0.0,0.0,0.14454929359803728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763412907310205,0.09555965996290297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377796082567025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988516837539774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735401665416842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396491084955301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30151918174563946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285593159867312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903395193402574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678079415876035,0.0,0.06534939795013782,0.0,0.11811437133399365,0.0,0.11232646221947842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190043351028675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552665510201014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29705393053862755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975290859523712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268935680710968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569141656665788,0.0,0.0,0.14361041979427794,0.0,0.2284641787641576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297658774682336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179162844806374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886558535165548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861459773245442,0.18163135013482296,0.0,0.0,0.2785020948771573,0.16089931807890628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889634315131927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738039068523027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SNEEZY_ANUS_69,2019/03/04,"A hungry kid *I am not a parent, I just need help with this, and I also couldn't find a better subreddit*

In my  school bus there is this kid 7-8yo, everytime somebody is eating something he just goes to that person and stares at his food for a while which is really annoying. I started buying him some things with me, even though I don't have that much money most of the time, the problem is that everytime he sees me he asks if I have any money so I can buy him something (sometimes he gives me money to buy something for him with his money), how can I politely tell him that it's unpolite to stare at people eating and to ask if I have any money when he sees me?",4.874565217391306,4.554736420289856,5.930253623188406,83.26972826086958,68.85507246376812,8.928985507246377,26.67028985507246,8.472884824447931,1.606011594202898,518,13,110,7,8,173,81,138,0.063,0.916,0.021,-0.6596,1,0,3,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,9,3,1,0,6,0,12,3,0,1,0,18,19,11,0,5,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,6,3,0,1,0,8,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,20,1,13,18,3,7,0,0,4,0,20,3,0,4,4,79,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955048822551558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373369019813125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262746717508288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433427803522595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571215525434845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152580004783316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949315454689694,0.0,0.21101047959039015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673997808729002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696610343655005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282802451883216,0.1293922289977852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376562772686967,0.0,0.0,0.12097884356495785,0.1523698370075895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697640471880698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179149248579982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17660698778987566,0.2781135968312005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40302425481637577,0.17258855008916466,0.0,0.12351456602854145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252386238740298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593245642471067,0.0,0.1714489284579615,0.0,0.10175446877888436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CreepyFee,2019/03/04,"Marriage after kids This isn't your typical ""how our marriage changes after kids"" post. 

Our kids are 7 and 5. Our marriage was great and solid and young and exciting even through the baby years. We worked together as a team, were really attracted to each other, had a lot of hope for our future despite the 2am feedings and trouble sleeping and pregnancy and demands of two really young kids. 

We are now getting ""older"" and I am having a really really hard time coping. I've gained 40 pounds in the last 7 years. I'm not young and cute anymore. I read a post on wholesomemes tonight about a cute game this boyfriend and girlfriend like to play sometimes just to be silly....and I broke down crying. 

My husband and I don't do cute silly games anymore or have inside jokes. Part of me knows this is inevitable; we are not kids anymore. We as people are more mature. I don't do silly things with ANYONE anymore. I don't have inside jokes with friends, etc etc. But for some reason I just cannot get over the fact that I'm getting old, and life is boring, and there's no excitement or enthusiasm anymore. 

As much as the baby years were tiring, I'm finding the grind getting even more fucking exhausting. I am not gaining any momentum as my kids get older and more independent. I am constantly overwhelmed and there's so much MORE I have to do as they get older. Yes, they can get themselves dressed and pack their lunches, but my kids still need supervision. I know that sounds easier than actually doing it, but for me it's not. My patience in life is already so paper thin that the morning routine just leaves me frazzled and feeling upset and guilty. 

We have swim days and PE days and after-school activities, then there's the library days and then the day where the TA changes their phonics books. Then there's home learning projects and dress-up days and teacher meetings and birthday parties. On top of this I also have to clean the house, which I am terrible at by the way, and plan dinner which I also suck at. 

My husband does help. In fact, he helps A LOT. I feel like he actually does MORE than me. Lately he has been packing the kids lunches for me and laying out their clothes for the morning. He also cleans with me and cooks the kids dinner sometimes. 

I don't know what I am looking for here. I am old and frumpy and no one is excited about me anymore, and it makes me sad. We are still in love and care for each other a lot, but I wasn't prepared for the shift that happens when you get older. I had kids really young so I guess I just feel like maybe I had that ""young and free"" stage really short? 

I also just saw a post on Reddit where a girlfriend made her boyfriend a really cute/clever birthday cake that coordinated with a funny birthday present....I don't remember the last time my husband and I exchanged gifts. I honestly don't need gifts, but I feel so guilty that I SUCK SO BAD at being a spouse. The thought of having to make a cake or think up a present to give is so overwhelming and emotionally exhausting, I dread it. And I was NEVER this way as a young woman. I would pride myself on what a good girlfriend I was. I would do all the extra shit to make a birthday or holiday special and memorable and thoughtful...not anymore. I'm fucking tired and overwhelmed and out of gas. 

Tl;dr: What do I do here? Is this normal? Are all 30-somethings just bored with life? I don't get what happened. Maybe I'm just THAT BAD of a wife that my husband just has lost all enthusiasm about me? ",4.107535778175311,5.584907633720932,4.645872093023256,85.31943202146692,71.5,7.327191413237923,28.20169946332737,7.815909333733263,1.6872136851520572,2764,103,542,35,52,879,277,688,0.126,0.7340000000000001,0.141,0.7054,0,0,1,0,0,0,85.0,10,2,5,8,36,46,5,5,37,1,58,18,2,7,6,112,101,70,0,6,21,6,6,3,4,2,7,1,3,11,28,54,6,0,14,11,2,1,17,21,0,2,14,9,70,26,60,83,20,67,0,6,2,3,54,21,5,10,42,366,98,8,0.0,0.0,0.12407169782232425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015186620997188,0.2033499153926586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04323026700868901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4413154801776609,0.04445012292144895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615778550002036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06481458202191266,0.0,0.13449877731337975,0.0,0.0,0.06869736039678054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982944679166114,0.204989264658562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111262324438511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150849943967638,0.0,0.0,0.14179630564245502,0.08397571711723455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857305696637047,0.0908298648365651,0.0,0.0,0.05810248300673744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491145777102431,0.11754020568703523,0.29891767928401825,0.060982823690024536,0.0,0.05332010073029283,0.0,0.07008693913202635,0.07003031101732109,0.0,0.11243074893618912,0.0,0.05694687523297634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522022222951464,0.0,0.06376661167639669,0.06314006514112773,0.0,0.07335207142877355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481040946232673,0.103637236890637,0.07171053691853146,0.06731220966233252,0.0,0.0,0.1347056307712537,0.09317232269243424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05338339098802513,0.0,0.0693949463417848,0.16213664903356792,0.05737505341652635,0.060152148827461366,0.12730184027112193,0.0,0.1277306579929246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346358202430544,0.09427376125208076,0.0490296554117672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228580462130408,0.0,0.0,0.13341354599781186,0.0,0.0430771625799178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884089081898549,0.0,0.04407193037454701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826495209050124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358791942680186,0.0,0.2850752007278709,0.06536128403206268,0.0,0.0,0.0720132291839518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433695876217135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525442673404369,0.0,0.0,0.06361662629918217,0.0,0.0,0.048939843182812165,0.12574612781596947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153531229071354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04223355916736511,0.0407335481244252,0.0,0.05046804781487324,0.07413719177955462,0.14613037348615918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209935262716599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091895123250344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046280238581348485,0.0,0.0,0.09031762583629137,0.0,0.0,0.12281237112528898
parenting,0-sidedDie,2019/03/04,"7yo pouting and playing coy My daughter ""Amanda"" is a really cool kid.  She enjoys playing video games with her dad and I, and is really good with her three brothers (all of whom are on the autism spectrum, to varying degrees of severity).  Because of her brothers, she's had to adjust to some things that aren't the norm for most families, such as limited privacy and having her stuff get moved around and sometimes even broken.  We've bought her lockboxes and other storage units that her brothers can't get into, and try to make sure she gets special attention and privileges to offset some of this burden.

Most of the time, she's incredibly thoughtful and sweet to everyone.  But Amanda has a bad habit of obfuscating her needs and playing coy to get attention.

Now, for example: I don't know what set it off, but Amanda decided to go upstairs to her room.  When she heard me in the hallway, she did the whole ""turn and glance over the shoulder before giving a dramatic sigh and shutting the door"" thing.    At other times, she'll just beat around the bush forever without directly saying what she wants/needs, or how she's feeling.  Dropping innumerable hints, but never coming out and just SAYING it.

I absolutely can't stand this behavior.  Since all of my other children are limited verbally, I have always encouraged her to tell me what she needs so that I can help.  I have tried talking with Amanda about being more direct.  I do my best to listen to her when she \*does\* tell me something she needs, and for the most part ignore the quiet sulking behavior because I don't want to play games or encourage it.

Am I doing the right thing by ignoring it?  Do I just wait for her to grow out of this, or should I find a different way to engage with her?  Kinda at a loss for what to do.",7.109105728924076,7.031618690265487,7.275795683900018,74.67747554727528,64.16224188790561,10.440676913522744,34.06629405371837,10.064110947511567,3.3702648967551614,1412,55,253,28,19,457,184,339,0.076,0.7929999999999999,0.13,0.9464,1,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,0,5,13,21,0,0,16,1,24,1,1,2,4,64,44,25,0,5,10,5,1,0,0,2,0,5,2,2,22,24,0,5,8,7,1,4,7,5,1,1,5,9,41,15,48,36,11,28,0,1,1,0,45,14,0,9,6,193,63,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155871172948052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387051541442347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194458748760107,0.16345819239993967,0.0,0.11408546610370113,0.0,0.1407003774787125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549122627679775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007678891619826,0.0,0.0,0.1173273816283438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855334507389945,0.0,0.0,0.12811161898228465,0.0,0.0,0.1263912259104101,0.0,0.06779087259745738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253945316508745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801885149237513,0.12861415692978248,0.07619625335672292,0.11245330058338156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986568981398806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736825094608156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949415519197754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249740426488702,0.0,0.2982382478466475,0.10340465419238523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518699855525596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178001647325766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144968246648362,0.0,0.21323900023084172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514632894931991,0.0,0.11090581091258464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321523816652604,0.1326007163791031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534804563453214,0.0,0.0,0.12636134971783572,0.0,0.0,0.1077620601930378,0.23436981661910505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26721459967472505,0.0,0.0,0.10643825636207206,0.1563570172863077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18205228462963655,0.1458319244222134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907918709495781,0.10642017740094777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496866905095256,0.0,0.12924070176508545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dr_analog,2019/03/04,"Healthy ways of coping with new baby induced sleep deprivation? I'm in my late 30s.  We had a baby 16 months ago.  He's a gem but he just doesn't fucking sleep well and it's killing me.  He wakes up 4-8 times a night.  Sometimes I can't even get back to sleep after he wakes me up, so I get less sleep and it's constantly interrupted.

Someone asked me what I wanted for Christmas earlier this year and I said all I want is to sleep 8 hours a night, for 3 nights straight.  That sounds absolutely wonderful.  I almost started crying imagining the fantasy.

The sleep deprivation is taking a toll.  Before baby I was quite fit and felt great all of the time.  After baby, when his sleep was crappier, I immediately put on 20 pounds and felt horrible.  I had a checkup that showed some of my numbers were getting bad, too.  I hadn't been exercising.  I started doing modest exercise again, for the last year or so, and gains have been really slow.  Plus I feel cranky and irritable all day and wake up the next morning even more groggy. 

The blow to my ego around this is the worst, given that I used to run half-marathons and marathons.

I dropped most of the weight I've gained but my outlook is still pretty poor and my energy levels are really low.

I know this will all get better once the baby starts sleeping better and I start sleeping better, but I'm really concerned about the possible permanent damage I could be doing to my health in the meantime.

Is there anything, besides the usual ""eat a well balanced diet and exercise!"" ad infinitum bullshit people throw at you, which I'm already doing, to navigate this?

I feel like every parent I talk to has this self-destructive rite of passage attitude about kids, like we *must* suffer and sacrifice to be true parents. 

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parenting,ashamedofbody,2019/03/04,"Dentist applied fluride to my sons teeth without permission I took my son to the dentist for a checkup and a clean. I told the receptionist that I absolutely did not want any fluride near my son. I then sent my son in and went off to get a manicure next door. I came back 20 minutes later to pick up my son and the receptionist gave me a list of instructions which included ""no food or drinks for the next hour while the fluride sets"".... WHAT??? I went off on her and demanded to see the dentist. The receptionist told me I had to leave or they'd call the police. I left as she picked up the phone and began to dial. What can I do now? Can I get paid for the damage she did to my son? Can I report this medical malpractice to someone? Fluoride can result in lower IQ, hypothyroidism and ADHD...",2.605705244122966,4.538728575949371,4.121555153707053,85.61417721518988,76.53164556962025,7.805424954792044,26.475587703435806,8.634040054169528,1.9250726943942127,617,24,128,13,14,205,91,158,0.087,0.895,0.018000000000000002,-0.8149,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,14,0,9,8,1,3,0,15,23,11,0,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,1,5,3,1,0,0,13,1,23,0,23,9,0,24,0,1,1,0,16,9,0,2,9,87,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22660592551489944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822355874563085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449868089675421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253527561275535,0.2156561719028658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18471167399835225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22800090841189555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19702393850883435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18568824878540252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996520416633452,0.2048650685759638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994887060198973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4010598027270965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025356286167413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976165700491404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603439027113841,0.2094910411309974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112143579458676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495839108897437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817598561049675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vitras,2019/03/04,"Help with leaving religion I’m a dad of 2 amazing kids (4.5 yo boy, almost 2 yo girl). My wife and I recently collectively decided that we want to leave our high-demand, fundamentalist religion that has been a huge, defining part of our and our parents’ lives. 

I know that discussing this with my parents (who live close by and are a part of our weekly routine) is NOT going to be a pleasant experience, and I know that “raising my kids right” is going to be a crucial, guilt-and-fear-based strategy to get me to consider staying. To be honest, my wife and I considered staying simply because the “moral structure” the church teaches kids is what we were raised with, and is what’s familiar to us. 

So I guess I’m just looking for reassurance and maybe some scientific evidence that kids thrive outside of religion (duh), and maybe some ideas of how we can instill good, kind, community and humanitarian values in our kids. In part so I can be armed with it as I head into this discussion with my parents. 

Any help, encouragement, or thoughts are appreciated. Thanks!",6.825606060606062,7.380546156565652,7.472272727272728,70.87840909090909,64.70707070707071,10.64040404040404,36.7020202020202,10.504223727775694,3.981274747474748,841,40,150,20,12,279,116,198,0.006,0.7959999999999999,0.198,0.9891,3,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,9,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,7,1,15,2,2,1,0,33,27,14,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,11,19,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,22,8,23,20,5,12,2,0,1,0,29,6,0,5,2,98,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010477241422838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835593580919597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920329762108133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709514870274086,0.0,0.14620585086094556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788235576231312,0.0,0.14768288927257392,0.10897798518150964,0.0,0.0,0.14313105361345058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334427685035696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417686741196825,0.1372767497640882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667362816777774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353006925133983,0.14281077358335628,0.0,0.0,0.27515135517922185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22945875246281064,0.0,0.10910734061547953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610615802169541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43281116141337056,0.4221001916801212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282888647932905,0.0,0.0,0.11095835512984828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769733015637044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962084224307057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314883302132072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562881653668726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663528268794717,0.0,0.10422092392717977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoodOleRockyTop,2019/03/04,"Daycare Question Is it normal for your kid to get hurt at day care? 

We've had our kid in daycare since he was 3 months old. He just recently started crawling and trying to stand on things. Since he started crawling, he's been bumping his head at daycare - a lot. The bump is usually on his forehead, and it's usually not *that* bad. 

For the past couple weeks, they've called probably 2-3 times each week to tell us something happened. 

I think this is normal, but it's kind of frustrating. They have videos, and the accidents generally seem unavoidable - but I don't know - it doesn't happen when we're with him. Just frustrating. ",2.4920279720279694,5.07433323140496,3.350743801652893,87.61744437380804,80.32231404958678,6.698283534647173,26.663064208518755,7.882392219407189,1.8041387158296265,495,21,95,9,13,157,84,121,0.115,0.852,0.034,-0.8935,0,1,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,1,0,3,6,2,0,4,0,9,2,2,0,0,18,18,6,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,9,2,12,15,2,19,0,1,0,0,16,5,0,3,13,52,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291438641840808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16254759146097106,0.0,0.1623016222471305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613724282333273,0.0,0.10266236133740077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316856888391364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815368451598455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337165306012447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041283570123886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657686277822003,0.08748494013466772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533498349165246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706144014594056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119386661966829,0.0,0.0,0.1670398409563642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519618788797608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163036880981153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832572496461496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717782874181574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491774694420648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633620461429612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225498289629514,0.0,0.0,0.22534657049056425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913633999666775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575668240545184,0.10200051800443097,0.0,0.0,0.09282314349107687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807743478574887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148220330726345,0.0,0.3506436930185031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25538020869909217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LukeJRV,2019/03/04,"Troubled Teen (M) Cyberbullying Hello, I’ve spoken to my friends, family and everyone else I could hope to get advice from. I’m now here due to being recommended this Subreddit by my therapist. 

My son who’s around 14-15 years old who is known by myself and his school to be a well behaved boy. He is not known for causing hurt or pain to anyone. Why? Because we’ve made sure that all our children are told right from wrong and taught valuable lessons. 

After most of today, I received a phone call from the school principal and was told that my son’s friend’s parents are with him wanting to speak to me and my wife. We find that my son has been secretly cyber bullying online. This leads to my other son who laughs and thinks that it’s a regular thing by saying: “I get told to kill myself everyday on video games” I raised my tone to address how serious this is. He scoffed and said: “You should maybe think about what you’re doing, better punishment, it don’t work taking his computer away” He is really cheeky. 

My son’s friend is no longer going back to that school due to feeling severe anxiety and he was in on this conversation. He would keep returning to the group. Why would he come back to it? (The group chat my son was in with three friends) 

I really don’t know why he did this. My son’s friends said that his friends say he was the leader of this. I asked my son and he said he wasn’t the leader. I find it hard to believe.  

Please help me understand this as I’m not very experienced with this type of bullying until now. It’s a wake up call. ",3.272596153846152,4.876682451923077,4.178482051282057,87.33318461538464,73.83974358974359,7.812512820512822,24.33897435897436,8.488131031819089,1.4206303589743587,1223,37,257,22,25,394,168,312,0.114,0.774,0.112,-0.4137,1,0,0,0,0,1,31.0,2,1,0,4,9,19,2,0,9,0,24,2,1,4,2,43,48,13,1,6,3,10,2,0,6,3,1,6,1,2,25,15,0,1,11,3,0,4,6,7,1,1,15,9,30,12,39,27,2,25,0,1,0,0,60,8,0,3,13,150,55,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351371613694127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320772018090108,0.0,0.0,0.06691336374469782,0.0,0.0,0.08519035957550537,0.08946350447806642,0.0,0.08991020791608086,0.14716972388719454,0.0,0.05833582536596151,0.0,0.0,0.10781742016521527,0.0,0.08463596208698669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19543407812235866,0.0,0.0,0.09830688065121036,0.0,0.08243424093299231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764060349419039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994232054041721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144230610375836,0.0,0.0,0.09021434012263302,0.0,0.0483871312558682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493011602107011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.443610238284434,0.0,0.09999516106325236,0.0,0.05438664485512796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572545419777343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641434866054766,0.0,0.0,0.09504842434560527,0.0,0.0,0.1024453058521179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505963164286745,0.10587422947000567,0.0,0.052592408386788594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055053957060956,0.0,0.0,0.09614020634694292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041759780504292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182804511914344,0.0,0.10625987000962556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504624891121944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122611524026001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172446630588659,0.2730884527448176,0.15220372740012267,0.0,0.29055053446006074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811004178500383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090193015374977,0.0,0.07195201529957435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11111125456136438,0.06357664098686816,0.12263717367344325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070929027411667,0.2743269183112751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996236486263457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895980680317194,0.056444398175730215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604283378558503,0.0,0.25905418464690594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966834363670245,0.0,0.0,0.135960392299052,0.104629328183574,0.0,0.061625542828288235
parenting,Nury05,2019/03/04,Boost immune system I have a 10 month old who has been going to daycare since she was 4 months old. I obviously know that being in daycare she will be constantly sick but does anyone have any home remedies on how to boost their immune system ???!!! This child is constantly sick!!!!  I already give her multivitamins daily and nothing seems to work. ,5.280000000000001,7.330353507936508,5.619238095238099,77.2174285714286,69.47619047619048,7.5796825396825405,26.885714285714286,8.238735603445708,1.9255295238095247,273,9,46,4,5,87,50,63,0.032,0.7979999999999999,0.17,0.8540000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,1,1,6,13,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,5,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,6,28,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462998355061173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177939274282778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606224830870336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4823862708024823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19531834067828505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21410776726302602,0.12684614252008522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388151328248546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266143917271095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563022181341643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416040731810745,0.0,0.4684085571607782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318719284119469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18462816316521807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248769655895035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mizuamiso,2019/03/04,Tough shoes?? I have an 8yo and 11yo. We are going through new sneakers every 3 months because I can’t find any shoe that will hold up to the wear and tear. My 8yo plays outside really rough. I don’t know how she manages to destroy her shoes the way she does. Even having the siding unraveling (Skechers SUCK). I realize kids go through shoes like crazy but does anyone have any suggestions on some good shoe brands that will last longer?? Thanks in advance. ,3.605431034482759,5.944113494252875,3.2995258620689683,90.7761853448276,74.97701149425288,6.189080459770117,24.66810344827586,7.1686216300943375,0.9533,362,12,71,4,8,108,68,87,0.058,0.81,0.132,0.8276,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,2,7,2,0,4,0,8,6,6,1,0,10,13,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,3,1,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,9,4,7,11,1,11,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,1,4,36,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582401292396849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841744092963752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056532770621335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610037393286121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397227587691474,0.0,0.2219246613328721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240741527426798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993909625593631,0.22092622945000384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447569694010196,0.21470499552017186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868323990145794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21024223111935106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25439198691864084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873987307360874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24250202090246825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090735301553823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,finalfunk,2019/03/04,"TIL Toothpaste Expires (Check your toothpaste, and Grandma's too!) The kids returned from a stay at Grandma's house this weekend. We had forgotten to send toothpaste, but Grandma said not to worry about it, she has lots. In fact, she has so much, she sent some of it (Colgate for kids) home with them. Last night, kids go to brush their teeth, using the toothpaste that came home and start complaining. Kids complaining about brushing their teeth is nothing unusual, so at first we just told them to stop complaining and get on with it. They seemed insistent, so we investigate and sure enough, one whiff and taste of the toothpaste proves to be gag-worthy.

Look closer at the tube: expired April 2014.

If you had asked me yesterday, I might have said that I didn't believe the expiry dates on toothpaste were anything other than a liability CYA. For all intents and purposes, I'm still sure that toothpaste carries a longer shelf life (and shelf-life beyond printed expiry date) than most other edible products. However! I now know that there is validity to it, and you certainly don't want to be brushing with paste expired almost 5 years ago.

Check your dates, and it couldn't hurt to call up the grandparents and ask them to check dates, too. Their kids-toothpaste probably gets used less frequently than yours and might just live on the shelf for many years at a time.",6.993459999999999,8.035838056000003,5.79655,81.33402500000003,64.44,8.97,32.425,9.017664075816787,2.6555000000000004,1094,42,197,17,16,324,147,250,0.057,0.878,0.065,0.7162,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,5,7,1,13,7,0,0,11,0,15,4,2,3,6,43,33,17,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,4,12,18,1,1,3,1,3,4,4,4,0,2,9,8,22,3,34,19,7,38,0,1,1,0,33,11,0,8,22,127,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338246131044812,0.0,0.1393774641824875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145405118674528,0.0,0.2602454530701458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681809875126165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212731354261035,0.15919489176147156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438192242526904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839391093121768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544079257541484,0.0,0.07910419513444146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27923540380248496,0.0,0.0,0.16060517210093453,0.14900447501992548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649451711354281,0.11345743850634413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831315640481324,0.0,0.0,0.12290624878433028,0.0,0.116883525304237,0.0,0.0,0.11833332908301206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111558325190296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953146139059238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231977355103827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061924748688275,0.0,0.13355539485862208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09431792415685993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287144652188693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006905375846785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648008202802005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267122439201035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851853968428233,0.14835672705107766,0.11115634492072064,0.11636805821014505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26236756861875643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116210089852158,0.0,0.0,0.1330008505735762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404288440403503,0.0,0.0,0.0820971527004958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413529693605073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926603040654962
parenting,ballzdeepinbacon,2019/03/04,"Perspective on responsibilities.. Trying to get some perspective here.

We have a young daughter (2.5years old).

Because our mornings getting going have been scattered, we're trying a thing now where I have the responsibility of getting my daughter ready and to daycare most mornings - the only responsibility my wife has is packing her bag. Recently this has been forgotten, so today I suggested that it become part of her bedtime routine just to ensure it isn't forgotten.

Of course, last night was a particularly rough night - my daughter will begrudgingly go down to bed for me if my wife isn't home, but heaven help us if I try when my wife is home - last night I tried to get her to go down - or at least wait patiently - while my wife finished putting her laundry away. No good, she cried until she vomited.

Spin to today and my wife is using that against me and talking about how she has no bedtime time because she has to put our daughter down then collapse in bed herself.

I'm a little frustrated because I'd love to be able to put my daughter to bed, I enjoy it when my wife is out, I also feel that my wife minimizes what I do around the house which is most of the cooking, fixing things, laundry, etc. We have a cleaner for the house.

Am I being too ""hard on her"" for expecting the bag to be ready? If it were a one-time thing, it wouldn't be an issue, but it gets missed at least once a week in her mad dash out the door for the bus.

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Also would love some advice on how to get my daughter to go to bed for me with my wife in the house? My wife is an ""attachment"" parenting person, so cry it out won't get me very far.",8.055569358178055,6.230748118012425,8.100012422360248,75.22397308488614,63.16149068322982,10.822691511387164,36.68405797101449,9.3871,3.1698477846790887,1282,49,256,18,15,418,157,322,0.11,0.797,0.092,-0.6497,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,5,0,0,0,15,8,2,0,18,0,30,4,0,3,0,29,48,20,0,6,7,16,3,0,0,4,1,0,7,1,16,10,1,1,1,1,0,7,6,3,0,0,4,3,41,5,44,36,8,45,1,1,0,2,38,19,0,8,19,183,57,0,0.09529993866581822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931259971041961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242265304027067,0.0,0.10325744372852023,0.11579985657706295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848371501728819,0.0,0.0,0.08953742945868222,0.0,0.0,0.17428187420589594,0.10525129492047604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093650153680598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628462301348156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818651243220423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485319921508284,0.0,0.21664460532693156,0.07993306707792333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537002622895512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387754005120684,0.0,0.1911872175277232,0.0,0.0,0.3298900020169885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946837626573624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536433905203578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955155747353529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720238308078473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682976099289305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000125445457066,0.1014913244255642,0.06457770482175659,0.07247989773506093,0.0,0.0,0.10581930390101932,0.10320054666385366,0.0,0.0,0.0832122305529992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28740828113648664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409719236222963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765984808020677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18993913392664544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557016061784418,0.0,0.18066639745170066,0.0,0.0,0.25880961080728715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463409224302144,0.08230854877198139,0.0,0.07863243001627747,0.0,0.0,0.07644386239403404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769834213937924,0.0,0.11579985657706295,0.0
parenting,memequeen2018huni,2019/03/04,"Gender curious child? I don’t know if I am being over dramatic here, or looking into things too much, but I’m pretty sure my son wants to be a girl. He’s 2 years and 8 months and I would consider him to be advanced for his age. We can have a conversation, he will tell me who his friends are and what he has eaten at nursery and who has has played with. What he likes and dislikes etc etc. He knows his colours, he can count to 30.

He loves wearing clothes on his head like long hair and it’s becoming rather obsessive. He gets upset if he is not allowed to have long hair. He loves brushing mummy’s hair, and friends who come over. He tells me he plays with the prams at nursery and the babies, and he tends to make friends with girls rather than boys.

I picked him up from nursery today and he was playing with a dolly, like a barbie doll, with long brown hair. He was insistent on bringing her home ( he has never done this before, and knows that toys should be left at the nursery). His nursery teacher said he is obsessed with this doll. He’s a sensitive soul, and aware of danger and likes to look out for his younger sibling and cousins.

Am I reading into things too much? When he is old enough to make his own choices, I would never ever make him feel like he can’t be who he wants to be. I always say if my children turn out to be gay or trans, they can do what they feel happiest doing. I know it is not a choice.

I’m just curious to see what everyone’s opinions are? Have you had children who act in a similar way, or had friends or relatives who act like this? I’m curious to know how it turned out years later etc, whether they grew out of it or if it progressed.

Thank you in advance!",3.1548938992042466,4.325327442528739,3.871379310344828,91.14616710875332,73.42528735632183,6.963041556145005,26.60300618921309,7.321109707123232,1.1213847038019455,1322,46,291,14,26,420,171,348,0.041,0.748,0.211,0.9968,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,2,3,3,9,21,1,3,10,0,38,10,6,6,4,67,67,27,0,11,16,2,6,6,4,4,0,2,1,6,21,28,1,0,7,5,0,7,6,4,0,0,7,14,29,17,39,49,7,39,1,0,5,3,63,17,0,10,20,182,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.085518243082851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350851884617925,0.08745519261763261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853281478030682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517599579353316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619555099003362,0.343868742237331,0.0,0.09296718681994487,0.0,0.09820730630550482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393372658597907,0.07342351936326902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176193340386953,0.0,0.0536964553390867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054782929409346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309316336816042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824162567556497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116669181276662,0.0,0.0,0.3012683042802335,0.0,0.0,0.2728617831451377,0.1726126731087383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855195250186492,0.0,0.20581224360390607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203518513874758,0.0,0.15110503878586612,0.0,0.15853507477866832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078465997446833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456060264828984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280426689403707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776394344493454,0.08173196146575007,0.0,0.0,0.0818995274259912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686559170431304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796623019232957,0.09462275050706197,0.0,0.0,0.13656021859702094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742006117602696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22358253817452672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124043097915665,0.0815791654349965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601888842106536,0.0,0.0,0.1323693335973722
parenting,passingtimeinthecar,2019/03/04,"Lying to my daughter(9)? I need one parenting advice(sorry for my bad English)

I am from an European country, in wich you have do decide, in the forth grade, in wich school you go. For the(American junior Highschool??) Gymnasium or middle school (Bad very bad). 
We chose a gymnasium together with our daughter. Today my wife got a call from the principal, that they don’t take her there, but there is another gymnasium wich has free places. I quit my job early to get there in time, take the registration folder and bring it to the new gymnasium. 

They accepted her on the spot. 

Here comes the problem. My daughter knows that she will go to school 1, all her friends go to school one. I know she will be devastated about the bad news. My wife thinks it is better to not tell her till this school year is over. She will start in September so she doesn’t lose interest in school now. Over the Sommer vacation she will have time to process the new information.

Is there a way to communicate her this new information? I know my daughter, she really loves school, one bad teacher and we are in this situation now. I don’t want her to start hating school. So what is the best way to tell her?",3.4160761904761934,5.767233337777778,4.269460317460318,83.53600000000002,75.62222222222222,8.196825396825398,24.936507936507937,8.976282227363876,1.97891746031746,931,32,184,22,21,299,117,225,0.12,0.754,0.126,0.3408,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,3,2,2,4,10,15,1,0,14,0,19,1,0,0,1,22,38,7,0,3,3,6,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,8,0,1,5,4,8,0,3,1,0,33,8,27,32,2,32,0,1,0,1,33,12,0,1,13,120,41,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084256218607106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616759080035391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09091629693430307,0.07662010813616647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846227909500835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462691152393497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066932667843035,0.0,0.0452623203236311,0.0,0.14770709189837067,0.0,0.06928855910865743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553244182548342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597017630388275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14283417775515847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692049576063408,0.0,0.0,0.0781899299931035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423748958431058,0.0,0.2510129248310249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176114885783538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619602034303963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051335300529366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828963620306254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214517179910066,0.0,0.0,0.05549950634434174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7014201471937105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737945196038818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697887957359896,0.12263898242150045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302749104973226,0.0,0.1514426344975837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551111653173856,0.0,0.0,0.10103314053663184,0.0,0.08211823270366489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148154031086577,0.05109856124114701,0.13753095225134873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557890007866928
parenting,thisiswhyisignedup,2019/03/04,"Imagine walking with your kid and then see this It's sad...he might be labeled as a junkie and disregarded by society, but for me he was someone's kid that might have just needed more love and guidance from his parents.

I know it's not the only reason that could have led to this, but parenting scares me every day in asking myself if i'm doing the right thing.

What I do know....is hug and kiss your kiddies extra. Take care reddit


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parenting,cgfragrances,2019/03/04,"My wife bought our two daughters an electric toothbrush after watching the slideshow below. Does anyone else have their kids use eleftric toothbrushes? Are they safe? I heard they're great to give your child a deeper clean but I'm worried about safety. Has anyone else had any issues with their kids using them?

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parenting,anonmom87,2019/03/04,"Sunday dinner with your parents is always fun your kid announces “daddy was licking mommys vagina this morning” 🤦🏻‍♀️ My husband and I have a 5 year old daughter. We have always taught her proper names for body parts etc. And last night that came back to bite us in the ass.

We do have a lock on our door, usually if we’re getting frisky we lock it for a bit then unlock it when we’re done, usually that’s at night. 

Yesterday morning my husband and I were up a bit earlier than usual, it was 630. Our daughter is normally dead to the world until at least 7, usually 730. We thought we had a little time.

At some point she walked in, to be honest I’m not 100% sure how long she was standing there. But basically she walked in and saw my husband performing oral sex on me. 

Once we noticed her we stopped of course. I put some pants on and went to her room to talk to her. She obviously knows what she saw, so I tried to keep it she appropriate, and explain it as best as I could. 

We went on about our day. We went to my parents house for supper and my dad asked my daughter what she did today. Did she tell him about going swimming? Did she tell him about beating her dad at connect four? Nope. She said “daddy was licking mommy’s vagina this morning.” 🤦🏻‍♀️

Unfortunately there was no whole to crawl into and die at the time.

Kids. They say the damndest things. ",0.8896852517985643,3.234192226618706,2.5693480215827367,92.11502922661872,85.36690647482014,5.201618705035972,21.277428057553955,6.6274283507984215,0.3991327338129493,1061,35,225,12,32,348,158,278,0.084,0.87,0.046,-0.8665,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,13,2,1,3,9,4,0,0,9,0,19,7,4,1,2,36,35,17,2,3,3,10,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,12,20,2,2,3,1,0,9,3,0,0,1,20,6,45,4,35,13,9,49,0,0,2,4,53,18,1,3,21,148,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867263905653104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048961315269765,0.0,0.0,0.08627839253404587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775177944634647,0.0,0.2449966712884984,0.12463398859689576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283321426571332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958622331506874,0.0,0.0,0.07236266870234306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645063448317773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482423726603055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251377615495117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05862225959147234,0.0,0.06376844597489617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946901517677212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973258213503013,0.0,0.0,0.06166470025566195,0.09146170472432802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124584617850226,0.0,0.09929751838747944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21059278619781605,0.10993666063873164,0.0,0.1277456528191254,0.11773982707734484,0.11949421087657633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491798050075673,0.12150662093953585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606959150950827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127965894233846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673224582746642,0.08922958194742744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09380804925156648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575148446043388,0.0,0.0,0.09018578750049433,0.1961434890932608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454373416186592,0.0,0.0,0.08907789952231393,0.13085478052232985,0.0,0.10635681777528863,0.0,0.0,0.07617954141827303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496828886274884,0.0,0.4943099507924573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120442966720278,0.0,0.12527240141625007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225606780832376
parenting,Leon_Guerrero,2019/03/04,"8months old sleeping problems... Hello everyone!  


I'm asking for advices everywhere cause me and my wife are desperate. Let me explain (I'll try to be as short as I can): our son, Alessio, is 8 months old and is having sleep regressions that started a month ago (more or less). He's always been an angel: he used to wake up 2 or 3 times a night but lately he's waking up almost every hour (last night every 40-45mins) and we don't know what to do.  


The ""weird"" thing is that he starts crying desperately and yelling out of nowhere. We thought it may be a pain issue (since one tooth popped up two weeks ago and one is coming out right now) but we can do almost nothing. Thought it could be a comfort issue (maybe he tries to turn in the bed but the blanket blocks him and he gets angry) so we made him sleep without the blanket but nothing changed.  


We tried the ""PU/PD"" method with no success at all. Tried to give him milk or chamomile before going to bed and still no success. He stops only when my wife gives him the breast.  


He has no problems at all in falling asleep. He just wakes up a lot of times during the night but here things get shady: we went on a vacation two weeks ago in a warm place (30°C), keeping almost the same routine (except for the after dinner walks) and he slept like an angel, waking up at 2AM, 6AM and then at 9AM. It was HEAVEN!  


Other parents told us that maybe he slept so much cause he was tired but I doubt it simply because in the last two weeks he has never slept so much again, no matter how much tired he's been.   


What can be the cause of this incredible change? Please help us...",2.436796669588084,4.185361825153375,3.1396713409290093,93.28989263803685,76.45398773006136,5.5160385626643285,22.07230499561788,5.985473137389443,0.14162436459246308,1249,34,269,7,28,392,185,326,0.129,0.782,0.09,-0.8987,1,0,1,0,1,0,50.0,9,0,0,2,10,11,0,1,20,0,25,18,13,6,3,58,48,26,0,3,12,4,1,1,0,1,3,1,2,0,13,19,2,3,4,0,0,5,7,5,0,5,12,2,19,6,33,29,9,53,3,0,0,1,38,19,0,9,30,158,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861911085376737,0.21395392008605085,0.0,0.2416903870839796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694450784139427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075214005671935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04904425693527525,0.0,0.06846077067193382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479465002637971,0.17022017967328318,0.06930434372393528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423629365982811,0.0,0.0883753831580749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557260793685216,0.07687762926422248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406820921285764,0.15435838767981852,0.04572409094050189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392689000401064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923138003131748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679469867330484,0.0,0.07151156948482648,0.0,0.0,0.04421563547931934,0.13116215207862653,0.0907560702228461,0.0,0.0,0.08227007737801731,0.0,0.039305957090177854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839945582011492,0.0,0.07612790083055998,0.0,0.0,0.1616545219789103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843587278729748,0.0,0.1774297288370584,0.0,0.06205139496595216,0.0,0.0,0.2265030194866284,0.0,0.15439633788654672,0.0,0.16884672280465585,0.0,0.10903597044728527,0.06118919841821186,0.08560915658106172,0.0,0.08933509269763168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405772663220615,0.0883147738009862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396799493146998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870762003039818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665527130350655,0.0,0.24153751673795326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389208019103565,0.0,0.06425098966155751,0.06726348289275037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690065996601401,0.0,0.0,0.12774361727900976,0.09382721804068817,0.18494100041207975,0.0,0.07687762926422248,0.0,0.21849303217996566,0.08751128671763429,0.23577678190698065,0.0,0.19355347992873226,0.0694867719147949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19360700594450564,0.0,0.0,0.07458203703711412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07755517286467277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cbrownwakesfrombed,2019/03/04,"My son is gonna need special help & it's clear to me now My son is 2.5 years old. His mom & I have had our suspicions for a while but wanted to wait it out & see if he caught up. He didn't. We wanted to wait until a professional told us there might be an issue. They did. I in my ""infifnate knowledge"" of mental health causes and conditions wanted to wait until he started to display concrete symptoms of delay and or a disorder. He has. I love my son more than anything in the world & I hurt so bad right now. Not because of his condition or bécause he's gonna need extra help on things. That's fine, I believe in the process & I believe in him. He's a strong boy with a good heart & a curious mind. He'll find his way I know he will & me & his mom will be there every  step of  the way to support him in whatever he needs. I'm grateful to have such a physically healthy little boy with only minor roadblocks to his development. I mean that. I consider myself sooo sooo lucky to be his dad & I tell him that all the time. I think k what hurts so bad is I worry about him. When he get made fun of for being different. When the parents don't understand why he's overstimulated and literally can't just snap out of it & ""behave"" what if the teachers just think he's ""lazy"" ""he doesn't look delayed, are you sure it's not just behavioral?"" What if he's not resilient and brave like his mom & he's like me & takes it all in and it crushes him. What if he doesn't realize how wonderful he is & how much he's loved all the time? Of course these are all very selfish thoughts in my head that haven't  happened or might not even happen. I know this a real ""Cadillac problem"" to have but the realizations very fresh & it hurts. I'm so scared for him. I can't show it though. Not to his mom & certainly not to him. I'll never ever give him the impression I think he's different or that he ""can't"" I'll stand by his side no matter what and do whatever it takes to makes sure he knows how much his family loves & supports him. If you're reading this thank you. I have limited support and needed to get it out some how",2.176810329260221,3.6566158485523417,3.754729428760609,89.75703605610066,76.48329621380847,7.0812255462589535,23.939144043821106,7.824948511530503,1.0385825678685363,1672,53,374,25,37,556,205,449,0.131,0.687,0.182,0.9696,3,0,0,0,0,0,74.0,3,2,1,2,23,28,0,1,18,0,30,7,2,7,10,84,76,31,0,13,20,9,0,2,0,7,2,0,0,2,24,13,0,6,13,2,0,2,16,8,0,0,7,2,50,20,43,58,9,37,0,3,2,3,65,16,0,14,18,223,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8179365185017666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03882627604765042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878900450615597,0.028761346454095862,0.0,0.0,0.10631457275885124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04846829946252379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858905196598808,0.05407397752478333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031162872902789605,0.0426782818428148,0.039752368475100316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04447842942338257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04312294923894968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04930067335177258,0.04526070271605785,0.0,0.0395735238533864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344472092027763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048421733177220594,0.0501516270178519,0.0,0.055910191877012384,0.06324940221417444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152600905486546,0.0,0.0,0.04924512851449053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778899856023964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046100902336938886,0.04728816262579475,0.0,0.0,0.03962049710530738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774917979543104,0.04464418603589757,0.03149395408454349,0.0,0.0,0.05139438154781658,0.0,0.0,0.047547758870062094,0.10010402898919477,0.04763976895792005,0.2210331643383809,0.0,0.0,0.06936752260410584,0.13993765535173186,0.036389208035733374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049508947588219186,0.0,0.0,0.03588358443838107,0.0,0.0,0.05238936650577137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514623242136833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04719417277458576,0.0537027680050925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04029266191836877,0.0,0.0,0.04723681708381084,0.0,0.0375974710415774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03339524117038863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606226971820406,0.08893583134088745,0.049039545041465286,0.07094908924727286,0.0,0.04123862741410985,0.04343829853326665,0.0,0.0,0.03134522887676378,0.09069581731411804,0.04635549067901253,0.037456765210142594,0.055023713142470926,0.0,0.0,0.04508385421673087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04911750635545693,0.056753420700948326,0.0,0.0,0.07785920041990556,0.08348644496623668,0.0749008060592289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042573879248710825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05116622089937778,0.0,0.04791500683092048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030383277798625638
parenting,BrittanyBallistic,2019/03/04,"Our second son has a speech delay. Needing advice, comfort, anything. To start off we have two boys. Our oldest is 4 and our youngest is 1.5. With our first son, we didn't worry about a thing. He was talking advanced for his age and still does. Always has spoken very well so I didn't even think it would be an issue with our second son. I know, all kids are different and I should've known better and shouldn't compare. 

Our second little guy says mom and that's about it. He tried saying ""hot"" and ""ball"" for a while but has given up on even trying. He does dinosaur roars, tries to meow like a kitty and sticks his tongue out when she sees a dog so he imitates. He can follow instructions and copies facial expressions, can shake his head no and put his hands up for ""I don't know"" but he just doesn't even seem to try and talk. It's very frustrating at this point because it would be much easier if he could tell us what he wants. 

I don't know what else to do to get him to start atleast attempting words. This is the only time I've honestly ever felt like I'm failing something as a parent and it's a bad feeling. ",2.572472994713859,4.185359554585155,3.4354171454837967,91.8993955412549,75.7248908296943,6.218432544242702,20.78625603309584,6.8360192770164,0.2643921397379918,874,20,188,8,19,278,141,229,0.086,0.809,0.105,0.1431,2,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,9,0,0,5,12,10,1,1,9,0,23,3,3,0,2,38,39,19,0,7,4,5,4,2,0,3,0,3,0,3,11,16,0,1,8,1,0,4,7,4,1,5,5,8,20,6,20,28,2,23,0,1,1,0,37,8,0,2,13,116,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271806503460816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829486561102328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710200398396896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866945189586268,0.07933796789396952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510671530929655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391383869342416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597859634385367,0.0,0.0,0.2277895258730755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087232626026376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578876841309998,0.11772773434022685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580753151217689,0.0,0.12496399426981325,0.0,0.0,0.11070515500146012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799777690826768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886853318086244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357100364950394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584233378130536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21458039456276715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716900842346401,0.1304440574142812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242959959967062,0.0,0.0,0.09567490677170663,0.09650425463540843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898461028716528,0.0,0.0,0.14451569172723394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230334086484755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083626214811586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20700031862169213,0.0,0.0,0.10371235418870056,0.1184832775049338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019549502649808,0.0,0.0,0.18424106646163985,0.0,0.1039376121377831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20921858357186632,0.11375645792501095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646558902320307,0.08339458717239695,0.0,0.0,0.07589125901445179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35345205035988736,0.0,0.12713721525550728,0.0,0.15655390392210097,0.0,0.0,0.21477404588911106,0.0767655865356711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702009085432585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217320265788654,0.0,0.18490903610952786,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,D-Ballz,2019/03/04,"My 5 year old needs Movicol So, my son needs to take Movicol. He has been prescribed it because he is impacted, and were trying to get it into him, but he's just not having it. All he's doing is saying he doesn't like it. I've tried adding juice to it, bribes with sweets, sitting and cuddling with him and talking him through, mixing it with a larger amount of juice, alternating mouthfuls with a seperate drink, and he just will not drink it.

Does anyone have any tips for managing this? We're at our wits end and he's just been screaming at us because we're trying to get him to drink it. I can't think of anything else but to ask advice.",3.968693808312132,4.788198931297714,4.49888040712468,88.73286683630198,71.13740458015265,6.738252756573367,26.769296013570823,6.42735559955562,0.9399865988125526,504,16,106,3,9,160,78,131,0.048,0.918,0.034,-0.1938,0,0,3,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,12,5,1,0,1,21,19,8,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,9,10,3,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,3,9,2,17,15,2,7,0,0,0,1,17,3,0,0,4,63,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232846421763185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688403241715546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046439978217267,0.0,0.1535433562250957,0.0,0.1744315598700644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22748067101232475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328157744233446,0.0,0.0,0.5483460822810594,0.0,0.0,0.15586762169501636,0.0,0.16525871262173206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19496566812892652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115588707415208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767004648940044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957893146007124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837968702059087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028851583358795,0.14996975925442704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955597775157174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38003640495621704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22443848802248875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015446551183552
parenting,trankas,2019/03/04,Bought this outstanding gift for my daughter I got this as a present for my daughter and she loved it. The product seemed well made and was accurately described. I was able to fill the frame with the pictures in about five minutes with no problems. It looks great thank you [Gifthing.com](https://www.gifthing.com/en/),5.550242587601076,9.246934698113206,2.502479784366578,90.60660377358492,79.37735849056604,5.292722371967655,28.32614555256065,6.868970318607317,1.5250938005390835,261,11,43,3,7,68,42,53,0.075,0.627,0.298,0.9393,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,7,9,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,1,5,1,6,4,8,4,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,1,1,29,10,0,0.3396047505315612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716129424844605,0.3744154363711353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851824588044965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065065464094383,0.32134222625230896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249558816353275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091634102215114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126624269522686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053454556188147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CallMeTheAssEater,2019/03/04,"My child interests me........ I get hard when I see my 2 year old potty training. I can't seem to stop myself. I'm genuinely concerned for her wellbeing. I don't think I'll control my urges when she gets older. I'm thinking of seeking help for my problem, but I'm scared I'll be shunned. 

If you can direct to anywhere please do. 

Signed Jim. ",0.5738571428571433,2.825234885714288,2.488214285714289,92.80803571428574,85.85714285714286,5.214285714285714,24.464285714285715,6.6274283507984215,0.8394285714285714,262,11,56,3,8,87,51,70,0.105,0.777,0.118,-0.0402,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,14,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,13,1,5,13,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,6,27,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231650547643204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30107463668410284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581100895557162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193129114649654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023465481166587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316282916990029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27570385148564763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884708579971237,0.0,0.2296042663213848,0.26230497047030943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408916386307999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692472927199086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855478577183466
parenting,timeactor,2019/03/04,"""I'm not ready - STOP!!!"" - while playing. Hello!

Just a quick question, because I haven't found a good way to handle that.

Our 3-year-old loves to play with me, recently we started playing the regular LEGO. 

Since then, my kid 'prepares' his base, puts baddies on the throne and bikes, prepares his castle or lair, and so on... When I start to sneak a scout or Dragon or whatever into his lair, he loudly acclaims:
""I AM NOT READY! STOP!""
He tends to get loud there, and has no humor when you start playing before he is ready ...
... but in my eyes, he is already playing. So, I want to start playing too :D

He aint not complicated, and can play with 'babies' and 8-year-olds too - so, it generally works great, but with LEGO, he needs Preparation Time.


Do you have a good idea how to explain to him, that ther eis no reason to wait or shout or whatever?

Thanks in advance,
timeactor
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parenting,DuePomegranate,2019/03/04,"“Teach your monster to read” phonics app is free this week only I’m not affiliated or anything, just a happy user. “Teach your monster to read” is a set of games that teaches phonics (and some sight words) in a comprehensive, fun, and quirky way. It’s developed by the Usborne Foundation and is always free on the computer browser. The app is usually around $5, but it’s free for this week only. This is by far my (and my kid’s) favourite reading app, so I really encourage you to try it out.

The app does not have “pay to unlock more”. Once you get it, you can access all the material forever. There’s no way to spend real money in the app.

The game is split into 3 long sections. If your kid has already learnt some phonics, you might want to start at the 2nd or 3rd section by changing the account setting on the web site. Here is more info on what is taught in each section: https://www.teachyourmonstertoread.com/about-the-game/what-does-each-game-cover

If you have multiple kids, each kid can have a different account so that their progress is tracked individually. The progress between the app and the PC versions are synced.

The game is British and sounds it. American parents may have to assist/intervene for certain sounds.",5.911962542864683,7.888835569506727,5.664895805855978,77.81206805592194,67.74439461883408,8.117013980480085,31.95172777631232,8.671277953709913,2.6125755209707204,984,42,173,16,17,305,129,223,0.012,0.843,0.145,0.9817,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,8,1,2,6,7,0,0,18,0,20,0,0,0,2,29,25,13,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,4,11,11,0,0,1,6,8,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,12,10,24,22,11,24,0,0,1,0,18,15,0,8,5,114,23,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930392090069732,0.0,0.1455554748312152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395218976729104,0.15572446793924755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850523655868845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18276424321724355,0.0,0.0,0.15308210787722673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913935175920518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621585590107287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480722778064554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855727054512997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18629435883234668,0.0,0.2660837495857158,0.0,0.0,0.19423866506721912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5249309390490937,0.1991082287008492,0.1120644075063819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381610042601937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876574371722395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19266028594984624,0.0,0.1031780346727628,0.2777020138199338,0.28063601321528514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TraaidMark,2019/03/04,"Struggling to get our kid to sleep in his own room Like the title says, we are having some issues getting our kid to sleep in his own room. Our general arrangement is that he has to go sleep in his own room, and when he wakes up throughout the night he is welcome to climb in with us, which he usually does. 

Up until now this has worked out perfectly, until quite recently. When we take him up he has a meltdown about wanting to go sleep in our room, and when I do get him in his bed, there is a LOT of crying, and he insists on sitting with me ( I usually lie next to him ), he refuses to close his eyes and when I ask him why not he tells me that he is scared.

My real question here is:  
1) Do we let him sleep in our room and move him when  he is well asleep.  
2) Just let him sleep with us until this passes?  
3) Commit to making him go to his room?

We are trying to focus on the discipline and routine, but holy crap there are real tears and he is really afraid. Like, sure he could be manipulating us, but I feel like it's real. We kinda know when he is just putting on a show, and this doesn't feel like it.

I want to do option 1 (because we need our time too), but I just also want to get some outside opinion on this. My wife and I aren't fighting over this at all, we are just not sure how to handle this in a good way that won't actually harm the little guy.

If this helps, he is turning 3 in April.  
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parenting,zamurax,2019/03/04,"Toddler Refuses To Eat? Here is the CheetSheet  Refusal of food is a standard phase which almost all toddlers undergo. There is a form of survival mechanism that shows itself in the second year which serves to prevent the now mobile baby from poisoning themselves because at that time they tend to it anything their hand's touch. You should bear it in mind that toddlers may limit for some time the variety of foods they consume.  
 

Details: [https://www.kidswiki.co.uk/2019/03/toddler-refuses-to-eat.html](https://www.kidswiki.co.uk/2019/03/toddler-refuses-to-eat.html)",12.931379310344827,14.533827885057473,8.963816091954024,61.78779310344829,51.75862068965517,11.09793103448276,46.135632183908044,10.793553405168565,5.620601839080459,474,25,57,9,5,131,63,87,0.048,0.938,0.014,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,1,3,2,3,1,1,0,6,0,5,5,1,0,1,11,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,11,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,3,4,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232531918200885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834696521213404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359088423004617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6844035079771021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5391863971731176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22511692409345946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26000900772157565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435731153092965
parenting,jemmeow,2019/03/04,"Had to chuckle at my husband's lack of 'closing loopholes' when talking to the kids I'm very sick at the moment so while I'd ordinarily do the nighttime routine, I was already in bed with a splitting headache leaving hubby to fend for himself last night with 9 & 10 year olds. 
  
I'm laying in bed and I hear ""first one in bed gets read to first!"", followed up about 30 seconds later with ""first one in bed *in their pyjamas and with their teeth brushed* gets read to first"". 
  
Rookie 😂 ",6.764687500000001,5.871353593750001,6.648,81.59700000000002,65.14583333333334,8.513333333333334,36.90833333333333,6.742157984588678,2.4463858333333333,379,17,76,2,5,120,66,96,0.067,0.904,0.029,-0.54,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,8,9,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,7,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,7,2,2,6,1,20,7,1,22,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,12,46,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20975632176541192,0.0,0.0,0.2059499462870138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6467226087738555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198616314083827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214232253767356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493932508541444,0.0,0.20126565794291146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17837577081956327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945538297172,0.0,0.2576041854056849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802598222479044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277787670522627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683464700953814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240430476658032
parenting,whodey9859,2019/03/04,"Parenting is hard.. Being a parent is hard. I am a dad of 2 wonderful boys. My oldest is 2 years and my youngest is 4 months. I find myself often getting mad or irritated over things that, when looking back, are not things I should sweat over. 

What are things you do as parents to make sure your are staying calm in situations that would otherwise upset you? E.g. Child purposely (in adult terms) dumps dinner on the floor because they don't want/like it?",4.165665024630544,6.013859195402304,4.583579638752052,84.33724137931036,71.98850574712644,7.730049261083742,26.221674876847292,8.418075326091056,1.733057142857143,358,12,69,6,7,113,69,87,0.146,0.762,0.092,-0.6072,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,1,0,3,5,2,1,3,0,13,2,1,1,1,10,17,4,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,3,10,2,8,14,1,13,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,3,6,47,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565724510170644,0.0,0.11547260386318545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731323407556382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896750023896786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393777786281941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907050716160456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644362425431396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511983827154588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6310069566617248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129232630199178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20190338844951988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785321844730062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775395428233134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172862627645408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542490131746596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456311299738952,0.0,0.0,0.1219844212406886
parenting,codemise,2019/03/05,"First Time Father: Does a bias against fathers exist? Hello Reddit,

This is my first post ever because I need to get some other perspectives from fathers. I am a first time father. My wife will give birth in just 4 weeks and I cant be more excited!

When my wife and i started this journey 8 months ago, I began to notice I was consistently agitated after going to child care classes, shopping for baby stuff, and after talking with certain people about how we would care for our newborn.

After some mindfulness about my own agitation i began to notice the things that would put me in that state. The teachers in the class would talk down to the men and be critical of their questions. The stores all advertised directly to women (looking at you 4moms.com) with hardly a thought to men. And people would hold assumptions that my wife would wake up at night, comfort out crying baby. They assumed she would cook food, clean the house, and change diapers. They expected very little of me and expressed doubt when I would challenge these assumptions. 

Fathers... have you experienced this? How do you combat these biases? What other things should I be aware of for the future?

Thank you for your time.",5.6372838167525074,7.70386993087558,5.538465708864192,78.08988343724587,68.5852534562212,8.055191108701546,28.893738140417447,8.671277953709913,2.4120698834372454,953,35,157,16,17,297,134,217,0.09,0.8320000000000001,0.078,-0.4029,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,5,3,4,8,8,0,1,10,0,18,3,1,2,3,35,30,11,0,10,1,8,1,0,0,9,0,0,1,5,14,11,2,1,3,2,2,3,1,1,0,3,4,3,27,7,31,14,5,35,0,0,1,0,30,9,0,5,21,121,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397379733529223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150115729121576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23917751031306364,0.0,0.12408119320699135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12884163338831325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102644516560527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609887641499384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29930991090998743,0.1418320204226625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128112266082631,0.11251881511099933,0.06666071875957419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050721258506853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353411938590354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175591121686876,0.0,0.0,0.09849717571477988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843321101166085,0.0,0.0936227207409682,0.0,0.0,0.08697180017491167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007220168932938,0.0,0.0,0.26707933383499044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263338052710286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233495176328627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791257587728356,0.13139579978093174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302109205885244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427323634442012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18855248312144435,0.0,0.10798828979884492,0.0,0.0,0.15584945884391838,0.0,0.0,0.09311810436917653,0.2051847176778963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096779595223004,0.0,0.0,0.0940859395830213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5832546067459571,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway192845,2019/03/05,"Any custody attorneys here? I have a few questions. Please excuse my spelling I'm on a phone and tired (sahm of four kids)

Short version biological mother was only around when convenient for her never more than 3 months at a time. Finally got a court orderMay 2018 (dad has full custody mom has first weekend of the month) there was a dv issue at the mom's went through court that's resolved since Sept the visits were supposed to resume.

 Bio mom missed Sep oct had Nov had dec and missed jan came a week later and ss7 wanted to go so we let him she brought him home early without his car seat and she has had no contact with us or him since.

 She is also obligated to pay child support direct payments not through child support enforcement of 50 a month starting in june 2018. She has made three payments that were all late. And hasn't made one in seven months. Edge did live far away but now lives 15 minutes from us and still doesn't see ss7. 


There's so much background info v but that would take weeks to explain. 

My questionv is what can we do legally can we all to have her rights terminated? It would be inn his best interest.
 She's an idiot 
Ex1  got pregnant bc of a pact when she was 16
Ex2. Had child living in a methlab
Ex3. Had Child living in a shed with input a screen door and ply wood covering the windows
Ex4. Changes fiancees more than she blinks and each are drug addicted and lost custody of their kids and beat on her 
Ex5. Had more kids than adopted a preteen family member to babysit the kids so she could go out all weekend.
Ex6. Has been heldat gunpoint while holding ss7 more than once and openly admits it.
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parenting,josefdub,2019/03/05,"School Backpack We have gone through too many backpacks this year because the ones we have been buying just never hold up, either they tear or the zipper just quits working. Anyone know of a good sturdy packpack for my little kindergartner? ",7.5500000000000025,9.525123523809526,5.603333333333335,79.82500000000002,63.76190476190475,6.552380952380951,30.66666666666667,6.42735559955562,1.8303238095238088,196,7,29,1,3,56,38,42,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,5,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,4,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,22,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464021565345825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148161797431191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.295571461743824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19366658793743616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531914772681982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35727231891184497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717880634201201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23879137018000784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37481451493697976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35664165455492897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565471103765292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22693025429778546
parenting,shimmer1125,2019/03/05,"How involved in our kids and household should my (35) husband(37) be? This is gonna be long. Bear with me. 

First and foremost, I am asking for as unbiased of opinion as possible. I dont know if I'm being fair.

I have 98% of mental load in my house. The other 2% is that my husband gets the little kids to bed about 75% of the time and he takes the trash out on Tuesdays. I take care of bills, cleaning, laundry, car tune ups, fixing things around the house, kid clothes, paying sitter, taking to and from sitter, dinner, grocery shopping, taxes, EVERY OTHER FUCKING THING. 

But what sucks is that I have severe ADHD. I forget things, I fuck things up, and I dont have anyone to rely on to help pick up where I lack. I have one kid who plays lacrosse, one kid who is in several clubs at school, 2 preschoolers, and I'm a fucking sped teacher. My days are long and filled with 50 hour work week and a family of 6's responsibilities. I have talked to him about this 2 major times in th he last year. Each time. It's better for a few days, then same old.

My oldest (13f)  talked to me about how he treats our 2nd (11f)  like crap. And she feels like he doesn't care about either of them beyond just loving them because he is their dad. He takes absolutely no interest in their sports, grades, or interests. He missed Allie's first high school JV lacrosse game (she is in 7th grade!) He doesn't talk to them, take them anywhere, or do anything with them.

He works 3rd shift, and he insists on having a solid 8 hours of sleep no matter what. Sometimes he comes home, dicks around til 11 or 12, then wont wake up until 7 or 8 that night. That is so frustrating. He gets home at 730. If he could even get to bed by 10, it would help. 

We have no time together. Our weekends consist of seeing him in the morning, him sleeping through the day, then seeing him at nights. That's totally fine, because there's no way he could try to readjust his sleep every weekend. He gets every other Friday off, and those days, he plays DnD with some guys from 5 until 1-2 am. Now he is going to start working out....tonight he did and just left me high and dry to fold laundry and desl with kid spats for over an hour. 

I am so fucking frustrated. What level of interest should be taking in our kids? He literally couldn't give 2 shits about their stuff unless it's a bad grade. Am I expecting too much? What does a balanced marriage look like? Any time he has to do anything like pick them up from anything he acts so fucking put out. They see that! Fuck.

But I have all of these feelings and they seem so rational, but perhaps my expectations are all fucked up. Thank you.",2.789208626911844,4.46848706805293,3.5309997422237487,91.16085431345594,75.29489603024575,6.094535143495446,22.98681044853068,6.680037744263671,0.4963153119092625,2045,58,434,17,44,647,272,529,0.068,0.855,0.077,-0.5697,0,0,0,0,0,0,90.0,5,1,11,6,21,30,12,0,14,0,41,17,8,4,3,65,80,39,0,11,13,2,2,4,0,5,0,0,5,8,27,27,1,0,4,8,4,6,10,14,0,4,1,6,47,16,73,67,11,75,0,1,4,9,68,33,11,9,39,260,74,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078027388849919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04570901740938405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04699881779720208,0.0,0.16593851430526982,0.11967254263419295,0.06283765620431828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612234669504578,0.08194819910369477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594468718744152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13706188108558712,0.0,0.0,0.057900420081143524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733261979004144,0.0,0.0,0.1733944019384708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058820958979344785,0.0,0.15755272536534914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04439537135990487,0.0,0.16989651432906291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06336503049369445,0.0,0.067972609307182,0.048018947838930535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434737143746045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.434979168053714,0.14046982821980972,0.06447947566829662,0.038200261787763465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655416376065966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901066056505625,0.14203426826740248,0.13484576269991627,0.0,0.19858193329248588,0.15511591030785402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0369400203630113,0.05478981039305687,0.0,0.0,0.0730301130129292,0.0,0.0,0.13135288814093238,0.06736784337081457,0.0,0.11896765365021572,0.05644430434707126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060664841948656616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773767036667071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941131287754598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615486296369902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053162655039746,0.0,0.0910942684631844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577566288942941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757039753542744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605186234615838,0.16068675962170484,0.061190697677112126,0.0,0.15186933884500514,0.0689960052068675,0.0,0.0,0.2017928881945932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647809906364358,0.0,0.04757565639207385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769459567027304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032272898527674,0.16207643009259162,0.0,0.06188323524093805,0.0,0.0,0.17862064010415055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19597023244463144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045635084571378985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335273661270834,0.05391642318742481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468016075820294,0.0,0.0,0.04774814287979656,0.0,0.0,0.043284741596478105
parenting,MyDarkTwistedSide,2019/03/05,"Need help talking to the ex Little back info. My SO and I have been together 5 years 3 kids together and then he has a son from before us who we have 50/50. His mom and I haven’t always been on good terms but we are goin on about a year and a half of being friends. 

I want to talk to my SO about him saying something to his sons mom about not passing along information until last minute. Example- tonight at dinner I was informed he has a field trip tomorrow by him I send her a text and she confirms. Okay cool but I would have liked to have known about it before now. I text her about every permission slip before we sign them and send them back. Last week he was here (which would have been two weeks ago it’s week on week off) she called the day before saying he had a doctors appointment the next day! He said he sighed loudly so she ended up saying she would take him, but it’s always something! He’s in Boy Scouts & they plan camps & all that way in advance. She texts us last minute that her husband is busy and wants to know if we can take him to the spring camp out because she doesn’t camp. We told her she can just take him up for the day so he can still participate, because we already had plans. But I’m tired of it. It’s not hard to look at a calendar and see if it’s your week or not when making appointments. I have it set in my phone as to which weeks we have him. 

Anyways I know when I talk to him about it he’s gonna say he doesn’t know what to say to her because he doesn’t want to be rude or rock the boat or anything & I feel like this is something he needs to handle not me (I’m too confrontational lol) plus she and I are still on such new territory. How do we nicely bring this up to her? 

Excuse all grammar and or spelling errors 
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parenting,coffeeandbooksforme,2019/03/05,"Toddler Struggling to Adjust to Newborn Sibling My 2 year & 10 months old daughter is having a severe case of regression ever since I had my new daughter two and a half weeks ago. My husband and I prepared her well for the new addition (or so we thought), and in theory, she was excited about her new sister, semi-understood what was happening, and was looking forward to it.  We read the books, tried to explain things in toddler-appropriate language, and used baby dolls/toys to model the coming baby. But her attitude towards the situation  all changed once the baby came out of my belly and the toddler visited us in the hospital. 

We were advised by our pediatrician to expect a regression in the toddler’s behavior, and we thought we were prepared for it.  But when does it end? Is there anything I can do to help the process along? My husband and I try to give her extra attention, let her be involved, keep her pre-baby routine the same as much as possible, and have special activities just for her. But even after all of that, it seems that if anything, the regression is just getting worse. The whining, the crying, the clinginess, the lack of eating, the hatred of going to bed, the lack of solid sleep....

I might lose my mind soon. Any advice or solidarity?",7.604550195567146,7.484011084745767,7.990000000000005,70.11223598435464,63.152542372881356,10.48187744458931,38.91655801825293,10.035473477838034,4.083289178617992,1000,49,168,19,13,330,142,236,0.103,0.826,0.071,-0.8762,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,7,0,0,1,10,6,0,1,20,0,16,2,1,1,3,44,29,19,0,4,8,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,19,1,1,6,2,0,5,0,3,1,2,9,1,26,3,30,17,7,24,0,2,1,0,27,7,0,5,14,133,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132876384874588,0.1205365257126012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473323911762846,0.0,0.09246988175020912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237970487411017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555229078778027,0.0,0.0,0.1438469722060259,0.11713323325763705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936573688544613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899549431437248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913971008497986,0.0,0.0,0.12043638055324928,0.0,0.0,0.08981236028635828,0.12300012380843432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104303013463655,0.130442740366998,0.07727958049731172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024512891774684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114336340677552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208637280002551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390469867520731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418749394019904,0.15212489443215224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442514486026223,0.13729928260961366,0.0,0.10853655223811758,0.0,0.09995966918272092,0.0,0.0,0.3939859612907082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268631303866502,0.144812412271023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329506045104171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360150606739569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123789503671407,0.0,0.15361673254429845,0.0,0.11248262433473714,0.1528452649057929,0.13607646490016473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421540045597399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033791582438674,0.0,0.0,0.21590310384468528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464062949250226,0.0,0.13283100456086488,0.0,0.16356510785693806,0.1174415603073505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907356051613247,0.0,0.12226078879221362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13857346697031112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756554316551482
parenting,boringbluesocks,2019/03/05,"My husband after today when work was closed, but daycare wasn't... ""Mom and dad shout woohoo cuz by the day we did the do"".",0.2578666666666685,2.521768120000001,1.3480000000000023,100.24066666666668,87.8,3.333333333333334,16.333333333333336,3.1291,-1.1908666666666663,93,2,21,0,3,29,23,25,0.0,0.838,0.162,0.6652,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,4,4,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,2,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,14,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596171366530744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6530748397433866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5285561596575511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40595215827441455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mistressowl,2019/03/05,How do you help your child find safe people to game with? My son has recently gotten into APEX and is looking for more friends to play with. I actually don't really have any idea how to go about finding him some kids to game with. Any suggestions? Are there parent gamer groups on Discord I should know about? Or even Reddit? I game myself but most of my friends don't have kiddos so it's not like we can really match them up and have them be friends. Any suggestions welcome. ,1.7829400386847176,4.381361936170215,2.5554932301740827,91.96136363636364,83.8936170212766,5.9713733075435185,20.247582205029012,7.348242739294969,0.6280553191489364,378,11,77,6,11,118,69,94,0.046,0.746,0.207,0.9521,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,2,2,0,7,7,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,2,0,20,16,7,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,1,4,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,12,7,14,13,3,5,0,0,1,0,21,3,0,3,2,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.20859050718043665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360747928412225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118076669998686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3907297671117183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954313443443128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147983184137537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327304041845326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412992835276957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747216516073845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442812441897198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949731964093651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373456052426191,0.0,0.0,0.14818828903933248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738692074160733,0.0,0.21105369483185016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Vidyaguide,2019/03/05,"Is ""slow and steady wins a race"" a correct moral to teach our kids? Some of the fables that we have grown up with have been written more than 2500 years ago. In today's context, some messages might have become irrelevant or even misleading. 

For example, the moral of the story ""Hare and the tortoise"" is **Slow and steady wins the race**.  

If the chastened Hare were to race the tortoise again, would you bet on the tortoise? I would not. After his defeat, the hare is sure to realize that he lost the race due to his own fault and not because the tortoise was ""Slow and steady"". The next time around, he would not repeat the mistake of taking a nap before completing the race, leaving the poor tortoise absolutely no chance. 

To me, this fable delivers **much deeper lessons**. Let me share with you my perspective. 

**NOTHING TO GAIN EVERYTHING TO LOSE** \- The hare had entered a race where he would not have gained anything. He was anyway expected to win. He had nothing to gain in terms of recognition, fame or rewards. However, when he lost the race to the tortoise, he had lost all his reputation in one day. 

For the tortoise, it was the reverse. He has nothing to lose but everything to gain. So, it was worthwhile for him to enter the race. If the tortoise had lost, no one would have ridiculed him because he was anyway expected to lose. He became an instant hero when he won the race. 

**NOT CHALLENGING ENOUGH** \- The race was not challenging enough for the hare. That is the reason he had become complacent and could not bring out the best in him. 

Had he been racing a peer, would he have taken the race so lightly?

**NOT COMPLETING** \- The Hare had no business taking a break from the race. He should have done it after finishing the race. The fact that he was much faster than the tortoise was of no use because he did not complete it. 

**All this leads to invaluable lessons**. The sooner we inculcate them in our children the better for them. 

* **Choose your life races only after assessing what you stand to gain or lose**.  Take part only when the potential gain is significant. 
* **Always compete with stronger contenders**. It is sure to bring out the best in you
* **Do not take rest till you complete the task.**  Be focused on completion and never let anyone or anything distract you from reaching the finishing point. 

​

Would love to hear your views and engage on this topic. ",1.6988906038973577,4.426011945205482,2.0912579587111715,91.05701234806101,95.0730593607306,4.9333590584603515,22.379059746607496,6.6519783246290025,0.9133541320985272,1864,71,340,27,71,567,193,438,0.094,0.747,0.158,0.9891,1,0,0,0,0,0,102.0,4,8,2,30,11,29,1,1,46,0,48,2,0,3,7,63,64,21,0,14,17,0,0,0,0,9,1,1,0,2,13,16,0,0,5,1,2,6,15,13,0,2,27,3,24,16,52,24,15,47,2,9,1,1,43,15,0,10,24,239,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828320958094769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409584630263591,0.08346290458661093,0.0936009263026634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053861768342740035,0.0,0.1267796685896069,0.0685737968576447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087189177630902,0.17014906564336327,0.0655475882374772,0.0,0.16167827020926834,0.06812753579071759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.403826955488115,0.0,0.0,0.0615028736222251,0.0,0.0,0.04967853207200169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882931428534957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918693997692476,0.0,0.0508781565101296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846073991219912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868193776105243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156455832253792,0.0,0.15753854662493358,0.05440917446494382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447113142702519,0.3363531327572085,0.0,0.06952335860205405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171756933474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325309071410156,0.0,0.059410948005245524,0.0,0.08192319346655992,0.0,0.0,0.22173956300445255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439620857032493,0.11717088029049932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341691473727851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281906123921887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920055351343529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520134778443694,0.0,0.23167048033307394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044917313910113006,0.0,0.07301624826275423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06652993048016785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830435895599337,0.0,0.0936009263026634,0.04960534826013559
parenting,Mommamuffin,2019/03/05,"IEP? /vent So my son is in first grade. We have been at this school in the dual language (English/Spanish) since pre-k. I have known my son was dyslexic from about 4 years old (I am dyslexic and I see a lot of myself in him) I have told the school from the start, and have been pushing for them to test him ASAP. The end of last year they informed me he has been flagged as dyslexic and will be on their watch list. Good I have been telling them he is.  He’s on the watch list for the first grading period. I ask for a parent teacher meeting to see where things stand. His teachers tell me he needs to drop dual language or be held back a year (this is first grade beginning of the year we have had no problems in pre-k or kinder with dual language)  okay. I ask if we can revisit this at the end of next grading period they have not given us time to address any of this. They agree, we hire a tutor, and work harder at home. Second grade period rolls around I again ask for a parent teacher meeting to see where everything stands. They tell me he is improving and they would like to test for dyslexia. I agree, as I’ve been asking them to test him for the last two years. Third grade period just ended no word from them on anything. So I contact them again they are still testing him. But he’s doing very poorly and we need to revisit being held back and dropping dual language. Okay I’m okay with dropping dual language if that’s what needs to happen. But what about his IEP he has not been getting the help he needs from the school this whole time! I feel as though they just dislike my son at this point and are not helping him at all, as they are dragging their feet on getting him officially tested and setting up the IEP. Oh I forgot to mention his teachers also nominated me for a “teacher parent communication class” that I gladly participated in for the first class and realized it was a class for parents they thought needed help parenting, was irritated and offended, but thought maybe it’s just the first class that comes off that way, went to the second class and walked out... I know not to feed my kids junk or sit them in front of screens all day. WTF.  So apparently they also think I’m a shit parent. And I’m at my wits end and I’m not sure what to do. I do not want my Son to have the shitty school experience I had growing up. I don’t know what to do, cause it seems to be on that corse... we can not afford private, we’ve looked into it... nor can we homeschool.  We are looking into trying to figure out where the best public schools are in the aria and possibly moving... what else can I do?",2.814192879363979,4.5281992699619815,3.6988886968544783,89.83573712409266,75.31178707224335,6.3027307293467,23.931731766332533,6.980632752743323,0.7460053231939168,2040,63,429,20,44,652,218,526,0.065,0.88,0.055,-0.8431,8,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,9,0,18,7,21,11,2,0,26,3,47,3,2,1,3,77,85,34,0,10,18,10,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,21,31,1,3,11,0,1,7,11,3,0,9,19,9,65,8,70,60,5,77,0,0,8,0,72,30,1,7,33,293,86,24,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148979574146874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474033503219436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057363163560374825,0.06205427051295286,0.2606676405913396,0.0,0.0,0.1072012127066829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315350451178754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160859275171794,0.0,0.06004666152221123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044955437924518636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582314995378256,0.0,0.2469598892445725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06264842114380717,0.06818710936621071,0.0,0.0,0.03524610234372977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964649435633311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07283836816190059,0.0,0.0,0.05846717101264653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06164192992041252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016998951386106,0.0,0.06992209952189324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661861161811183,0.11364149672584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0340554628235422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707314155010964,0.0,0.0,0.0592626486486072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003034617475276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408782188510167,0.0,0.25843537641702724,0.0,0.0,0.07413449803884012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314607908107389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4644102044718523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589592427000072,0.0785845003329186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670046623434459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527375153892364,0.166643064982662,0.06345890248423465,0.0,0.0,0.07155353562608681,0.05766259397708232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04933918151316222,0.0,0.05566833507640877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569829969431183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278174243064654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046310428759340036,0.0446656193728754,0.06848706248516312,0.11067961019774353,0.08129376746863448,0.0,0.0,0.06660830670941796,0.0,0.047326676955967234,0.0,0.06809389742514865,0.0,0.08384929191467674,0.0,0.0,0.057515817933269486,0.041115168086984885,0.055330405412901656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461935995590318,0.0,0.07782570442072792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05074774028145244,0.0,0.0,0.04951806169625805,0.0,0.0,0.22444605963805
parenting,Waffle_King_w_Syrup,2019/03/05,"3.5 mo baby possibly afraid of the nanny - help! We agreed to hire a woman to be the nanny for our baby daughter during the interim while waiting for our daycare slot in July. She is the aunt of a family we know that lives nearby. If we like the nanny we planned to just give up our spot in the daycare and keep working with her. The nanny we’re hiring takes care of another baby (5 mo old) two days week so she has experience with babies. The family we know agreed to watch the baby those days and will figure out how to divide the salary we’re paying the nanny between those two parties. 

The nanny met our baby about a month ago and that visit went well. At that time our (preemie) baby mostly slept. She slept so much we even had to wake her to feed her until she gained enough weight, which she has at this point.

Last night we had a get together with the Nanny and a couple guests. Baby was up with us (held by my MIL) for much of the time but at some point was put into the bassinet near us. I went into the kitchen to make someone’s cappuccino when I heard the baby start screaming hysterically. I ran back to the living room in time to see the future nanny passing the crying baby to the other guest. 

The baby would NOT calm down. I’ve never seen her so upset, ever. The guests left before we could get the crying to stop (they had been there for almost two hours by this time and we’re getting ready to leave anyway). Now I am super worried. I can’t figure out what upset her so much. I asked my husband and MIL if it seemed like she handled the baby roughly or something but apparently no one saw anything out of the ordinary. 

I don’t know what to do. MIL is returning to her home country Monday and I’ve already returned to work from my maternity leave. The baby has had no issues with MIL who’s been watching her the past few weeks. She’s also not cried like this when my friends visited. 

Has anything like this happened to anyone else out there? Does our baby hate the nanny? Why would she hate her? Was this a fluke and everything will probably be fine once they get to know each other better? 

This is our first baby so I’m new to all of this. I’d appreciate any advice or insight. Thanks!",3.126863556558817,4.7700312167042895,4.338737772761476,85.8735292826687,74.30474040632055,6.4572109355405045,22.2378354652621,7.054809383877858,0.6887868572861806,1731,44,342,17,36,568,221,443,0.097,0.792,0.112,0.4816,2,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,17,0,2,7,19,18,2,3,35,0,27,6,3,2,3,60,60,25,0,5,9,3,2,4,4,4,0,2,3,1,19,28,3,4,8,0,1,7,7,6,1,5,19,9,46,12,56,34,9,58,0,0,5,0,51,20,0,8,35,235,65,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568091391547282,0.07772396647454761,0.0,0.0877999128755407,0.0,0.09675822649841263,0.07011850943888022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059626125330633065,0.0919412330993898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061308633595615974,0.08983960435209674,0.14430807766045994,0.0,0.08196995202860571,0.0,0.0,0.06742132044499813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461012131565976,0.0,0.0,0.07754676940769817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939668103633024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700061891764962,0.09701742162083976,0.28894057110483434,0.11309405591697168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673028367156275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324627196288706,0.0,0.0,0.09059797029081453,0.0,0.057912511071879474,0.07931253570429167,0.0,0.0,0.07880208013815701,0.08576889821901862,0.16531579385999864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745814621160366,0.0,0.0,0.06774216697582414,0.0,0.18323893308823014,0.08411165926008403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753606895070447,0.0,0.0,0.1731337818351969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877076413083596,0.0,0.08795124903953125,0.0,0.08634817893698067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151624303792176,0.0,0.07793495197861501,0.0,0.0,0.19274886302227606,0.07147176392086119,0.0,0.185683157996752,0.09526572475664802,0.0,0.0,0.17134614163077455,0.0,0.15484795907887694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058527786263734324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998618300590792,0.0,0.19336699636313934,0.0,0.067625036364272,0.08468291102569941,0.0,0.08228273212232808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200651956268067,0.09337746388416678,0.05941495328636251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370149002706967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577387938261956,0.09884721721297234,0.0,0.0,0.09453500910345776,0.0,0.0,0.08814367974711597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987045015914138,0.07982154103394304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429187488472519,0.06750116122792782,0.0,0.0,0.06206110328984112,0.0,0.0,0.07330528957657953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06592524266600341,0.0,0.0,0.08072493677327866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20451011731296545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569549557920391,0.0,0.21093903087583973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406649098386805,0.10677190575935773,0.07883580012829533,0.16256243617162108,0.0791185158395045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766570724295734,0.08904436931283262,0.0,0.1245722141063233,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,possum_minister,2019/03/05,"Step daughter making poor decisions in first year of high school Her mother & I have been together for about 8 years so she would have been 6 or 7 when we got together. She's now 15 & a freshman in high school, & her brother is 6 (my only biological child). She's always been a little troubled, a lot of sneaky & a lot of mischievous. The past 3 months, she has gotten herself into the most trouble yet:

About 2 weeks before Christmas, her mother & I were going Christmas shopping. We decided it would be a good opportunity to prove herself responsible & earn some more freedom. We built her up all week, laying out how good of an opportunity it was. All she had to do was keep her brother entertained for a couple hours. We just built a home next to my father & grandmother so they would check in on them. The day comes, we take off ab an hour away & everything seems to be going well. The day was wrapping up & my dad calls. He had left & went to the grocery, gone less than 1 hour & when he returned there was truck parked in my driveway. He parked & started over & 2 boys scurry outside & peel off.
She had to have known there was a high improbability that she would get away with it, but she didn't care. She was pulled from band permanently, cell phone taken, & grounded all around.

January : the school calls after school one day. She has been reprimanded by mutiple teachers because her ""boyfriend"" (apparently one of the boys back in December) & herself are all over each other, all over the school. She's still fully grounded from the December incident.

February : for her birthday, we let 1 of her friends come over & spend the night. 2 weeks go by & her mother notices something scrawled on her arm. Turns out her friend had a tattoo needle & tattoo ink & put her initials on my daughter's arm. Still fully grounded, cell phone deactivated with slim to no chance of parole.

What can I do to make this child understand the consequences of her actions? With the nature of the first 2 incidents, I'm afraid she won't make it through high school without getting pregnant, although we did start her on birth control as a preventative measure. I'm equally afraid she won't be even close to ready for the real world when she hits 18, & I can forsee problems arising. Also, my wife can't bear any more children, so we want to adopt, but im having 2nd thoughts because I'm afraid she will be a handful the next 3 years. 
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parenting,treebeard42,2019/03/05,"Pre schooler won't behave at school Our 4 year old is misbehaving at school.. a lot... 

There have been some changes in his life recently which may be to blame, but my wife and I are at a loss for what to do to rectify the situation. 

We recently moved. At his old school he only went half a day and I think their day was different. Old school has lots of time on the carpet with books and time spent at activity centers. Where the new school is really doing a lot more to focus on Pre-K skills. Learning letters, numbers, etc.. more time at the desk.. just more time in general as they go for the full school day. 

In the past couple days, he has been in trouble for:
* Not following directions
* Rough housing on the carpet
* Yelling at teachers
* Throwing crayons
* Being disruptive
* Being rude
* Trying to bite another student
* Kissing another student on the butt
* Kicking his chair after being told to stop during quiet time
* Writing on other student's papers
* Screaming, crying
* Kicking over a chair

We've tried discipling him when he gets home.. no TV, no toys, timeout, etc.. we've discussed his behavior every day but he just doesn't seem to be making any progress..

Wat do?",1.4374304812834209,4.134904395454549,2.6489839572192544,87.59553475935829,93.6818181818182,5.497326203208556,23.743315508021393,7.048011613610866,1.3870641711229954,917,38,166,16,34,293,139,220,0.142,0.836,0.022,-0.9774,1,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,2,0,2,3,5,5,1,0,13,0,20,3,1,1,0,22,29,7,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,2,1,3,3,0,3,5,0,1,3,3,1,5,5,4,0,1,6,4,12,1,31,16,10,46,0,1,0,2,18,20,1,6,21,103,15,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594308725952136,0.20336349958685748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025816542712131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729572421755222,0.10651725334338287,0.3126889076102101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131325990560563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162948971418285,0.0,0.0,0.08170160801567818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066294718537962,0.0,0.05511042107612416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972690554322847,0.0,0.0,0.11189063546431574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849294702491844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473218866087035,0.0,0.0,0.06472838701650832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306401699998707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365446035932602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30526185867303085,0.0,0.0,0.07375023583358202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09256906481849388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212161768626837,0.0,0.19149282338557747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5888343486030324,0.0,0.08827806295316228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899861068400864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107146121482754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062134613182449124,0.0,0.0,0.28272062868085085,0.0,0.0,0.09265921821384077,0.0,0.13167285295300482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989238235876297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062445654137303686
parenting,wanna_go_home,2019/03/05,Anyone else in the US petrified for daylight savings time? Can’t wait for when my kid gets up at 4am,1.197272727272729,2.8907196363636416,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,79.9090909090909,6.218181818181819,24.63636363636364,7.1686216300943375,0.9369272727272728,80,3,18,1,2,27,21,22,0.156,0.8440000000000001,0.0,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,10,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373330112097612,0.4943164198027969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40301641109966985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25205479817583426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28131443179389864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5803154816363746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Professorhmmmmm,2019/03/05,"Baby got hurt with babysitter; unsure about next step Babysitter informed me that baby fell while under her care and knocked out a tooth. A brand new baby tooth. Top front. On one hand: accidents happen. On the other: this isn't just a bruise. His tooth will be missing for the next seven years. I'm torn about whether to keep employing her. On one hand she has been a good caregiver. Very good, in fact. Loving. Present. Makes every day easier and better. He lights up with her (thought cries when I leave, but that's normal at 9 months). On the other, I keep wondering: why and how did this happen? Her story sounds reasonable (he was playing with a cardboard box's open flap, lost balance and fell forward and hit the hard edge). And even outstanding caregivers might tune out for an instant or look the other direction, even if they're a foot away. I don't have reasons to think she was negligent. On the other: the idea that I don't know what happened and a feeling that she could and should have been more careful is gnawing at me. What would you do? (Fire? install cameras for mutual protection? put it out of your mind and move on?)

One more bit of context: she called when it happened -- let me know right away. Her reaction was appropriate on the phone and when I picked him up to take to dentist. But our most recent conversation made me pause. I asked for more details about what happened, and she kept emphasizing how well she reacted in an emergency. She said she was happy to be there in order to prevent him from choking on the tooth when it was knocked out. She said ""I'm sorry that happened."" As if it happened and she was there to save the day. The narrative changed from our first conversation (on the phone and when I rushed home to pick him up and take him to dentist) -- when she was worried and sad -- to much more defensive and focused on ""optics,"" an hour later, after the dentist. Maybe that's a healthy/normal reaction -- worried about losing her job or being blamed unfairly. Or maybe she's covering for negligence or perceived negligence. That last conversation above all is making me pause. 

Any others who have been through something similar with your kid? Any present or former sitters/nannies who have some insights? 

Thank you.",4.331119047619048,6.540513016666673,4.271904761904761,85.2147619047619,72.40476190476191,7.238095238095237,28.333333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.935333333333333,1777,70,327,27,36,545,219,420,0.093,0.792,0.116,0.8843,2,0,1,0,0,0,72.0,2,4,0,5,18,17,1,0,24,0,31,11,7,10,2,72,66,36,0,6,11,0,5,0,0,4,3,3,1,1,23,25,0,6,12,1,0,8,3,6,1,5,18,10,41,11,55,38,9,60,0,5,1,1,45,29,0,11,24,228,64,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996183556886575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245769662473396,0.0,0.16573883822377133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800819480553918,0.09629459590691047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006490421968039,0.0,0.1798572335769906,0.0,0.09330685029679654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042274597104516,0.0,0.096886616640633,0.11376699780924555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651421406407796,0.0,0.07431464975180971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044597977833695915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502524308965174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479606210860811,0.07054382391548654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5459820147444188,0.09389350378930096,0.0790123697534177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08847458405901241,0.0,0.08686197523208318,0.0,0.09442290462311424,0.09957020715930563,0.0,0.0,0.0875276532977675,0.1567973743469606,0.0,0.0,0.09694788686899994,0.07189704130318768,0.0,0.0933940128760568,0.0,0.09019332265481528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406812419787719,0.09867635399976944,0.0962837580981194,0.0,0.0796064563090117,0.08345960696129286,0.11775208657357968,0.0,0.177223103759346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356921535048536,0.08905966814486846,0.0,0.07040262075803523,0.0937456007463016,0.06483919504952036,0.0,0.0,0.08518679850171965,0.1876093230397455,0.0,0.0864200011852063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793054676187891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866815978419725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813743043976173,0.0870896084270063,0.0,0.0,0.07532469568215079,0.16780209181030467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790281239163491,0.0,0.09873579552192392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263503332948678,0.0,0.0,0.08120527317350272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651678257338344,0.0,0.07002315822190751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277653421814931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930489562661408,0.0,0.07958929357694831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565215686815476,0.0,0.17914841741949508,0.0,0.06265672715695826,0.0,0.0,0.05679970111293103
parenting,anthelli,2019/03/05,"My little brother (16) is seeing an almost 21 man, and I don’t know if I had a good reaction. Could you give me your thought ? So, let me begin by saying I’m not much older than him (23F) but I always had some kind of role in his education (since my father definition of fatherhood is bullshit) . That being said, I also had some bad experiences with relationship which could make me a bit paranoid, please tell me if it’s the case.


Today my brother told me he was seeing this guy, that he didn’t know from high school, nor extracurricular activities. I was kinda excited for him going out of his shell and having his first romance, until he told me about his age: almost 21. 21-16 seems to me a bit too much an age gap, particularly at this period of my brother’s life. In France majority is 18.

He told me about it kind of like a secret, and it started raising bells in my mind when he talked about underage laws being stupid (we would never say such a thing in our family, but my brother, being autistic, is extremely easily manipulated) 

So I told him that he couldn’t keep it a secret from my mom and he should tell her the age of the boy (my mom won’t be a problem since I was with a woman for some time, and she was normal with it) so that she could advice him.
I told him that I could tell mom if he was afraid to, but I could not keep it secret as he wanted. He asked me if he should end the relation, and I said in his place I would. I made a statement about age gap, saying why I thought it was inappropriate. 

I just really really hope I didn’t project my fears on my little brother, but at the same time I’m so worried. What do you think ? 

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parenting,greekgirl87,2019/03/05,"Will kids be safe on social media through this? I saw this company ""fambam"" made a social media network solely for families. I think this will be a great way to introduce younger children on how to be safe online and will be a great way to stay connected with family members in other states. It's only for your family!

It's not ready yet but I signed up for their beta! https://www.fambam.family/
I'd like to jump on this before it blows up... can't trust Facebook anymore...

Sharing with others to potentially keep their families connected better in this digital age.",5.676250000000002,7.6475995096153895,6.4992307692307705,71.62076923076923,68.32692307692308,9.430769230769233,29.34615384615385,9.827888789773867,3.1386000000000003,455,17,74,11,8,150,67,104,0.046,0.769,0.184,0.9357,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,2,1,2,8,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,2,0,12,12,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,10,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,6,8,18,3,0,14,0,0,1,0,8,7,0,0,3,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562309088323112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404941191293454,0.0,0.0,0.13932558547747698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7425428533045929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34736249611839176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002301961146132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696291439461456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906201371008473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981133111532165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32117114427966376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790975839655706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094111062265966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500855311981657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,freud_sigmund,2019/03/05,"Meal portions for a 2 year old, can anyone help? I have a really skinny 2 year old, he is under weight, 3rd percentile. He eats large portions and now I am concerned we are literally torturing him by over feeding him and he's still not gaining  weight. Would anyone be willing to share their portion sizes or their typical meals with me via photos? Thank you!",3.098319327731094,5.710471352941178,3.816218487394959,85.00441176470592,78.11764705882355,6.238655462184874,25.890756302521005,7.447530270364453,1.5330521008403353,284,11,51,4,7,90,55,68,0.09,0.7959999999999999,0.114,0.1828,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,2,1,2,3,1,0,2,0,8,7,1,0,0,7,9,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,9,2,6,6,3,8,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,6,31,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33102669011407954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24221373097180615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586619239797986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4967752803078026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164267904326584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903715078972105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21793104056096274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5764987488355962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815220507029607,0.0,0.0,0.3048673437904721
parenting,jessk14,2019/03/05,"What can/can't infants eat? This is a question for you parents. Sorry if im in the wrong place. I am childfree with no intention on having kids (please no bingoing).

I work in a fast casual dining eatery. We have pretty healthy foods. An item we make which is more so for children because we all know kids can be picky is a quesadilla but with pita bread. Today and once before previously we helped a young couple with a baby who cant be any older than 6 months. They ordered this baby a quesadilla with pepperjack cheese and chicken and a jalapeno ranch dipping sauce. They say she loves spicy foods. 

If i am wrong please be kind about it but babies should not be eating this kind of food, right? ",3.418777777777777,5.56771852592593,3.8315740740740765,87.62958333333336,74.85185185185185,6.5740740740740735,23.842592592592588,7.492282038375204,1.075037037037037,551,17,106,7,12,172,96,135,0.104,0.7390000000000001,0.157,0.8677,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,2,1,2,6,0,0,9,0,14,8,0,2,1,22,17,8,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,7,11,7,0,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,11,4,12,12,3,11,0,0,0,1,18,5,0,3,5,67,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848707134852874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882849663965002,0.0,0.12323679093000947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024790596804142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29638758685926464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5253747896399781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707423395475127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643760742436416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30162928692982105,0.0795929255823621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307116835138521,0.0,0.09667289681602802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559923038589405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542356290453086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081282803911606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131299839824702,0.3179522873646255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473407437843215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622389651828191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236811464708791,0.0,0.115171945152442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212154960965325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727870641174694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054355079109752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31669035844875704,0.0,0.0
parenting,berry97,2019/03/05,"How to manage two jobs and a 2 month old? So I (21F) currently have a job as a receptionist during the day 8-4 and in two weeks will be starting overnight 10-7 in retail. I've worked 2 and 3 jobs before at a single time but that was before I had my daughter. My mom takes care of her during the day and my daughter's father (28M) will be able to take care of her at night (we're still together and live together). He works as well but I don't make nearly as much money as him and feel like i need to contribute more towards bills and our daughter. i normally only have $60-$80 left over after each pay check after bills and I just want to make sure my daughter always has what she needs. SOOO does anyone have any good tips for managing time and sleep with two jobs and a baby,is it even possible, am I even doing the right thing? I don't have a car of my own so i can't really just find a better day job i ride to work with my boyfriend and then Ill walk to my second job or get dropped off at night and picked up by my mother in the morning on her way to babysit my daughter at my house. Sorry if this is so jumbled im having a break down over it and just needed to get it out and ask for advice on it.",4.129898218829517,3.511147664122141,5.363984732824427,87.71549363867685,70.45038167938931,8.360712468193384,25.48193384223919,7.554174236665415,1.0038999491094145,936,21,220,9,15,314,154,262,0.027000000000000003,0.865,0.109,0.9706,7,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,4,12,7,0,0,12,0,18,2,1,4,1,37,33,27,0,6,7,8,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,18,0,0,2,0,6,3,3,0,1,4,2,1,26,7,39,27,5,41,0,0,0,0,16,19,0,2,17,143,34,12,0.09801437248709363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577851041866996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155580967693507,0.0,0.0,0.06665313434727088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685339281906482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163020730772004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680602377374196,0.0,0.0,0.08668574741133968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.199864370132178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18963348518234946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577303787065609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294751372643254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955901173185169,0.07002148728897735,0.0,0.0,0.0895833607731292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102416928460935,0.0,0.0,0.0822098053817688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130954261885536,0.0,0.0,0.10587234163682467,0.0,0.5835848449659667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649290249341062,0.0,0.0,0.047884871500006206,0.0,0.08654848661265095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085070945842125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147932484512614,0.07823413700753946,0.0,0.07205184145625429,0.2180292457907271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18395969780690774,0.0960332746156116,0.0,0.0,0.10284959613308234,0.0,0.0,0.07454434697321348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049647804911557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279051681667806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370373856254525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808515729470864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971906544443492,0.0693750773235715,0.0,0.0782744044785194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923773861166336,0.0,0.14738922014226766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511639385849739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430593761585685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872373996236322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05781141635771338,0.07779924668674533,0.07862121747333711,0.0,0.08812669191882358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406689154843936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,feathermask,2019/03/05,"The moods of a 4 YO I’m a single mom with a beautiful 4,5 yo daughter. She is going to school now for halve a year(this is normal in The Netherlands). My daughter can be and is most of the time a realy lovely girl. Very sweet to other people, always wants to share and very polite. But since a few months it is getting harder to make her listen to me or the school teacher and she hits or bites other kids at school. We talk about this at home, but she doesnt realy know why she does these things. It is also not that she is not behaving sweet anymore the rest of the day, but it looks like the hurting is out of impulse. Also when I ask her to do things, she just ignores me, even when I’m sure she did hear me. She also does this in school with her teachter. Sometimes it frustrates me so much, I can just start crying. Are there more parents with these issues and does anyone have some advice or comforting words for me? 
Lots of love, ",2.5649803664921467,4.224193910994767,3.2132689790575917,93.2870238874346,75.8586387434555,5.403272251308901,20.83802356020942,5.602791699666715,-0.09151073298429324,731,17,156,3,16,229,112,191,0.068,0.795,0.13699999999999998,0.9244,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,12,12,1,0,13,0,15,2,0,1,1,29,30,16,0,2,10,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,13,9,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,5,20,8,22,27,8,13,0,1,1,2,25,5,0,6,8,114,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491684683913665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066838122013801,0.10636722728013534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677590376130438,0.08938374770763609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195065210563728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041845656129354,0.0824416559989908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33560234089402746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443243594218204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678742293216744,0.0,0.07265039254256242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407698787555845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282268384347597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13684778136479372,0.0,0.0,0.13342435313119164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025362796761468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06245270607081841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734745459048536,0.0,0.0,0.1086789745365348,0.2307483967303173,0.0,0.08532946461977851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971636719209175,0.10203501461281704,0.0,0.0939719025105471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524911699065958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419433261287688,0.0,0.0,0.08862324886139154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5174949460038124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574470978683054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12643002341947626,0.0,0.0904807964813845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048101126744952,0.0,0.0,0.10274725631937748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16985301948803835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454040180593874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109510882539561,0.07539916638025247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534932429657956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232020726870594
parenting,Faniexoxo,2019/03/05,Is pre k a good idea? My 2.5 year old isnt very verbal. She says a handful of things like counting and her abcs but at the same time she cant even say her name. I dont know if prek 3 is a good idea ? I'm nervous if she is being picked on she wont even be able to tell me but at the same time my niece was non verbal until she went to prek and interacted with other children. Have any of you moms gone thru a similar situation? **And side note she has to be fully potty trained to be accepted she only goes number 1 in the potty. Does anyone know how to get their child comfortable doing number 2 as well? She screams and will squat right next to it and go in her pull up. Thank you!,0.2747522522522523,2.1375221959459485,2.37016216216216,95.6433063063063,83.79729729729729,5.298018018018019,17.2990990990991,6.42735559955562,-0.3915095495495495,527,11,126,5,15,177,99,148,0.036000000000000004,0.8029999999999999,0.161,0.9535,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,1,0,4,9,0,1,7,0,16,1,1,2,0,20,24,12,0,2,4,1,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,2,3,6,0,0,5,0,0,4,4,2,1,0,3,4,18,7,18,15,2,18,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,2,7,77,21,0,0.1805662924779749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279127076702813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625615007601684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801477936224811,0.0,0.211622349996612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385246664408795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433843522085576,0.0,0.1026199851670762,0.3029008784416088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076747312059483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984690242587814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821556974900703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114770594187776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192034300530252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947394943586626,0.0,0.0,0.13732880205826262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542026271787302,0.0,0.28718712635757704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20296407817632914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782289840725394,0.16624118226723694,0.0,0.0,0.11996022134521853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105793144391326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898610172627175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16235078207765946,0.1673867621433562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162787722573713
parenting,throwaway3773916,2019/03/05,"I think my daughter is molesting my much younger son ***My 11 year old is already in therapy, I have informed her therapist of what is happening and we have a meeting but it’s not until next week. ****

I don’t really know what I’m looking for here but I’m losing my mind and I feel so torn.  Today my four year old son informed me his 11 yr old sister has been tickling his penis and butt until he needs to pee.  He asked me why no-one else tickles him there and followed up with how it feels funny but he likes it.

My daughter has definitely been going through some sexual awakening, I’ve recently taken her phone away because of the inappropriate googling.  I’ve taught her that if she wants to masturbate it’s fine and normal and I thought that would be it.  She was molested very early on and doesn’t remember by who.  We are a split parent household so we never figured it out but we did cut all suspects out of our lives and she insists it hasn’t happened since.

I don’t know what to do while waiting for her appointment with her therapist.  I can’t send her to her dads because it will do more harm then good but I don’t want her home right now.  I’m very torn and very overwhelmed so any advice at all is welcome



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parenting,MayaDrorMelamed,2019/03/05,"Boundaries, Routines and Early Bedtimes: 13 Habits That Raise Well-Adjusted Kids ""The foundation for things like generosity, responsibility, appreciation, warmth, kindness, helpfulness and hard-work ethic all starts during the early years. It starts with us — the parents. Kids cannot even think at the maturity level needed to break a behavior cycle, let alone do anything about it. So, as the parents, it has to start with us. The foundation for well-adjusted kids always starts with us."" [Read more](https://hyperspace.app/post/5c6ab75d25e6420006588bfa?utm_source=PDR)",9.870617647058822,13.857453400000004,7.017279411764708,63.67650735294117,62.058823529411754,9.897058823529411,32.97794117647059,10.125756701596842,4.3011470588235285,469,19,58,12,8,133,62,85,0.022,0.778,0.2,0.9432,2,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,10,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,10,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,8,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382665253229495,0.0,0.0,0.1316183328172618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016856455956338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447631980800574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416981040031151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602464018652367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472000506003853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16174964570500966,0.0,0.07727870005785814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728837773812302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512800778458283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15149260138468246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582226870819256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4478421366947431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508768452765972,0.10135528095154148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5708127633014017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844454199646397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515683754306234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186265746443857
parenting,SPAWNmaster,2019/03/05,"Daughter (3yo) came home talking about terrorists plus something else, what questions should we be asking? The other night I was putting my daughter to bed and she said something to the effect of “shh! We have to be quiet for the terrorists”.

This was surprising to my wife and I since we haven’t broached that subject with her at all yet. We thought maybe they were doing drills at her daycare or something. 

I asked my daughter about it and she said “it was just pretend and Ms [Daycare lead teacher] said we have to be nice to them”. 

At this point I was really confused and left it there. My wife asked her daycare teacher about it today and she was very surprised. Not only do they not do terrorism drills at that developmental level but she said she wouldn’t use the word “terrorist” if she did. Another parent overheard and came over to mention that her son said last week that he didn’t want to go to daycare “because of the bad man”. No one was sure what that meant or the implications of all of this.  But it was alarming and we’re not sure where to go from here. 

So where we stand is we have a few startling but potentially harmless / unrelated kid conversations. If we take them seriously the implications are sinister but on the other hand it could be something as simple as one of the kids in her daycare starting a play scenario based on something they heard on the radio / TV etc. 

What questions should we be asking our daughter and the daycare to try and figure out if something bad is happening to the kids?
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parenting,mlsimonson,2019/03/05,"9yo Stealing Snacks/candy We noticed our daughter stealing candy when she was 5 years old.  I had received some chocolates for Christmas, which I kept in my room and suddenly we found a bunch of wrappers stuffed into the couch.  We explained to her that it was wrong to steal someone else's things and that eating a ton of candy is not healthy.  

Move forward a couple years and we find granola bar and fruit snack wrappers stuffed behind her bed and nightstand that we buy for her to take to lunch.  We kept telling her that she cannot be eating in her room and that if she is hungry then she needs to ask for a snack.  It got to the point after finding 3 stashes throughout her room and bathroom (yes, we found wrappers behing the toilet tank) that I stopped buying the food she was taking.  I left only healthy snacks in the house, like apples, grapes, cheese sticks, applesauce, etc.    
Over Christmas we had family with young children come to visit and they bought some granola bars, popcicles, and other treats for their children, which got left at the house.  In addition, my daughter started Girl Scouts this year and I got wrangled into being the cookie mom, so I have cases of girl scout cookies at the house.  

Last night while my daughter was doing laundry, our dog wandered into her room and came out eating a sleeve of Thin Mints.  Of course she immediately tried lying and saying she didn't know where they came from, but after about 30 seconds told us that she had taken a whole box and had already eaten half of it.  That led us to search her room for other food and we found wrappers from popcicles and valentines day candy behind her bed.  She told us she is taking the snacks and candy in the morning when we are getting ready for work and she is supposed to be getting ready for school and making her lunch.  She takes the popcicles on the weekend when we are hanging out in the basement and she is watching TV upstairs.  

I don't know what to do at this point.  We are making her pay for the box of cookies she took and I made her recite the Girl Scout promise and law and had her explain to me how she is not upholding those things.  She knows what she is doing is wrong, but still continues to do it.  She gets plenty of food.  She has breakfast at school (8am), snack time in class (11am), lunch (1pm), and snack time in her after school program (4pm).  We normal eat dinner at 6pm and she goes to bed at 730pm.  We have told her that if she still hungry after dinner that she can ask for a snack, but she never does.  

She is a good kid otherwise.  She is extremely independent and very intelligent.  She has chores that she does, does her own laundry, makes her bed every morning, and makes her lunch and gets herself ready each day.  I just don't know how to break this and am afraid of it developing in to something worse and getting pests in the house.  ",5.863123805478871,6.284858332129967,5.461456784880017,84.9282395413039,66.76173285198556,7.600679549798257,29.471012953918038,6.923569853693429,1.4970299001911225,2252,73,438,15,34,690,242,554,0.046,0.913,0.041,0.269,0,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,19,0,3,1,11,10,0,1,24,1,39,25,0,9,1,91,81,42,0,4,8,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,11,6,28,54,25,3,11,4,4,10,7,6,0,2,28,5,81,4,66,50,8,73,0,0,1,0,89,35,0,4,30,297,109,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882728336681705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355905476893598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339896829609035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615325733316452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903844522976412,0.0,0.0921358060755282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18753257576172375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923721705970978,0.0596724934357511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966586043335197,0.0,0.0,0.06018476614443189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06733998440859297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305755966228799,0.0,0.2591285438971017,0.2349653826649156,0.0,0.0,0.18660205732760246,0.0,0.0,0.059913996825597865,0.1713927291375338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296929836621807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15702922422144666,0.05822683187985471,0.0,0.0,0.1552227351058504,0.0,0.0,0.03489819767511297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759093858676621,0.19072637271703516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366060826162929,0.0,0.0759211955762201,0.0,0.05296612117224818,0.05509296828900879,0.0,0.0,0.0670343440132097,0.06998845555894595,0.0,0.08132610990032202,0.07495614844987893,0.0,0.0,0.05432745822932981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505316331035358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056805806128612475,0.0,0.21687980462809145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060524328373116935,0.05499204931986185,0.0,0.0,0.05056012653524468,0.0,0.11409180205872595,0.05972057408301519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483270095879575,0.0,0.06243495022416513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949128488217436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330545914395504,0.0,0.0,0.20476977802893734,0.07936387743054417,0.048497820636688366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577726674265424,0.0,0.0,0.058939101608494075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975157557400599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200354143133661,0.0,0.07279558312384447,0.0,0.1561999415832515,0.0,0.13800011464652573
parenting,Pooperdad,2019/03/05,"How to make it fair when all of the kids want their own bedrooms? We have 4 kids in a 4 bedroom house. 

The twins, 16 year old boys, share. The younger two, a 14 year old boy and 12 year old girl, each have their own rooms. The twins have always shared a bedroom. 

Recently the twins started asking for their own room. It makes sense. They are getting older. They have different temperaments and needs. They want their own space. We don't really have the room for that though. I don't think it's fair to make a teen boy and tween girl share a bedroom, so the younger two bunking together isn't much of an option. They also would murder each other. We do not have a basement. We have an attic but it can't be made into a bedroom because the ceiling is very low. The bedrooms are all of similar size. 

They do have a divider in the bedroom for privacy. Other than that is their anything else I can do to make this as fair as possible? ",1.7517478187447253,3.989215545454549,2.6986884323107247,93.24419363917818,80.71122994652407,5.648072051787223,22.676329862088377,6.8360192770164,0.5700652406417115,725,24,154,8,19,229,97,187,0.033,0.89,0.077,0.4349,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,10,0,5,5,1,0,20,0,22,0,0,6,2,26,34,11,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,10,7,9,10,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,2,1,0,16,3,15,31,9,18,0,1,0,0,25,8,0,1,10,103,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259217520363678,0.13102042317352774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957724085567454,0.0,0.14720506833899816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959869525535249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451355412828128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153871879918724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226703505390855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18168920959662074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899369797091613,0.42042658625329626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575217995414228,0.1167555655481608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4956874683224635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751396706780398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10087374666739794,0.0,0.15547404650966887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145192506379073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008948488929738,0.15470493676307326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3076336380288169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992207072935166,0.18574951963454686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185599623299884,0.0,0.0,0.3041997615583041
parenting,BabyGatesAreBad,2019/03/05,"Hey Reddit! My son is working on an engineering project to make a better baby gate. Please take his survey over what problems you find in baby gates! Here’s the link to the google form!

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parenting,GriffinBiird,2019/03/05,"Parenting Survey I have created a parenting survey for my parenting class in high school, if you could fill it out that would be great! It should only take 5-10 minutes. [https://goo.gl/forms/6lexNW7gnnr4oEKi1](https://goo.gl/forms/6lexNW7gnnr4oEKi1)",12.270909090909093,17.668040333333334,8.0809696969697,48.88145454545455,69.9090909090909,8.700606060606061,24.78181818181818,8.841846274778883,3.1403381818181817,213,6,24,5,5,59,29,33,0.0,0.8140000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.75,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,0,4,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,16,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951520361838528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694774407248943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25824653040695605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858948576175337,0.0,0.0,0.8142091136954327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473693273805799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837758274450483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363122832960784,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nat1chassam,2019/03/05,"Riches or misery So I know a lot of you are going to hate me for my bluntness and being straight forward about the facts I am about to elaborate about but what is the deal with our country, so here is what I have noticed from my point of view** To thrive, succeed or survive in our country seem that you either have to be wealthy or completely have no money.. To be middle class (so called blue collar and working bees references that we are thought to be the best way to achieve the American dream, is in my opinion the new poor. That is very unfortunate because the people with goals that are trying to provide a quality of life for the future generation that can be stable and a good example well is to hard to achieve because you have to work to many hours and forget your kids have events or sports that you wish you could be there for. I am not trying to criticize or complain because I’m am very aware that we have it better than a lot of other countries in the world. Now it would be nice to have some type of balance where the people that are not starving but also don’t have a million dollars in their savings can be rewarded for being good working bee’s. Some way that working the single parents can go see their kids soccer game and recital instead of having to choose between work or family. How are we going to race the next generation to be the responsible to maintain the “best country in the world “ , the land of the free and the home of the brave if we don’t get the chance to be present in their life to guide them to achieve greatness?",7.750727470141151,6.407035690553747,7.305355048859937,79.14016069489688,63.4299674267101,9.880477741585231,36.10184581976112,8.447377352677275,2.805984321389793,1235,48,243,13,15,388,155,307,0.065,0.73,0.204,0.9947,1,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,6,6,4,15,14,16,1,0,24,0,40,2,0,1,1,41,51,20,0,4,12,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,14,12,0,0,5,4,5,4,5,2,1,1,1,4,24,15,47,37,8,26,0,0,3,0,23,14,0,13,8,187,38,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030983325906873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22939091260998526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632712990849819,0.11093652120266577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280825326299329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315155673539542,0.0,0.0,0.10014915062503216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931734428056998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182483758560332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553428963243929,0.0,0.21386175679949312,0.210416823760548,0.0,0.1382918535155855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236457213595824,0.12384048752875153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582091656943098,0.0,0.1235276034916678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893545821696646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719603289899655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21327965900009105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12717077981661196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114531174232725,0.13340089265684835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280787996700514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928004162343927,0.0,0.0,0.17392081934195686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185760388565748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09995496569003323,0.11419075413427107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958089141950847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032342888733482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20699301019525615,0.0,0.19912795441817974,0.0,0.0,0.11278057718280073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442433536581119,0.0,0.0,0.4565886350452434,0.0,0.0,0.08910498900871854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lakela_8204,2019/03/05,"Winning For once, I feel like I'm not a total failure as a parent! My LO just turned 5 and has been complaining of blurry vision. I took her to the optometrist today and lo and behold, she's farsighted and needs glasses! Victory for me because now she won't have to work quite so hard to see and learning will be easier.",5.027769230769231,5.264629584615388,6.178269230769235,79.71048076923078,68.53846153846155,8.961538461538463,30.09615384615385,8.841846274778883,2.363538461538461,253,9,49,4,4,85,53,65,0.079,0.716,0.204,0.8615,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,11,12,7,0,1,2,1,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,3,7,2,7,7,1,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,3,33,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862878354230583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15451798080235365,0.2183170820114776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737530360285238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929824862519858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265947714866081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254486313210323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33932700964198365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250378288835111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435195970013131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28966826528843354,0.0,0.3395272161271237,0.0,0.33239953455160304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224767516731471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sphinxycat01,2019/03/05,"I think I Still have postpartum depression, and my husband is not being very supportive. I have been taking antidepressants since my little one, now 8 months, was 2 months. I was feeling better up until a few weeks ago, and last night, and following into today,  has been an emotional hell. I don’t know where to begin, and I’m already on meds, and seeing a therapist, so I don’t know what else I can do other than ride it out. My husband, for the most part, is loving and kind, and makes a good salary... good enough for us to live comfortably and allow me to be a SAHM; we have a total of 5 kids, all of whom are school age, with the exception of the baby. 
I’ve been feeling more and more resentful of my husband. I have asked him numerous times to spend more time with us, rather than his phone. It does not change. He comes home from work around 5, and after changing his clothes and pouring a drink, he sits on the couch playing a game on his phone. 6 out of 7 days of the week, I make dinner. He is supposed to spend time with the baby while I am doing this, but rather than playing with her on the floor, she sits down there by herself while he plays on his phone. Oftentimes, she will fuss and he doesn’t even look up, so I end up going into the living room, and bring her into the kitchen with me... which makes it very hard to clean whatever mess is left over from the day, and simultaneously make dinner. Last evening, I called the family in for dinner, and he just sat on his phone until everyone was finished, and finally got up to eat. Following this, he “cleaned” the kitchen by piling dishes up by the sink and settled back in with his phone. 7 rolled around, and she was very fussy, and I was nearly in tears. The house was a mess, and I was totally overwhelmed, and exhausted. I brought her up to bed, Fed her, and went down to clean. I put the dishes in the dishwasher, cleaned the counters, swept, mopped, and sullenly observed the mess that was the rest of the house. I was becoming more and more irritated as I watched my husband on his phone, sitting obliviously on the couch. I needed to say something, so I began by explaining that something needed to change. That I needed more help because I couldn’t do it all myself. He is convinced that he is quite helpful. He cooks once a week, takes the garbage out once or twice a week, and “cleans” up after dinner. (I have asked multiple times for dishes to be put in the dishwasher)  He became very defensive, and angry at me, telling me he does so much more than the average husband, and complaining that I’m not the same person that I was before the baby, and never want to have sex. Frankly, I could care less if I ever have sex again. I carry a baby around all day, when she goes to bed, I’m up until 11 every night so that I don’t fall behind on housework. He complains that I pump milk 3 times a day, because it takes up so much time. He says that he never wants to come home from work.  He then stalked up the stairs, declaring that sleep was his only sanctuary. Must be nice... I’m still waking up 3-4 times a night to change diapers, and at least 2 times to feed the little one. This isn’t sustainable, and I’m scared because today I woke up feeling like I just want to die. I’ve been crying all morning, and am so lonely. I don’t know how to get through to him, and could really use some words of encouragement. I’m feeling like I’m just not equipped to do this. 

Summary;  I am carrying the majority of housework and parenting, my husband is oblivious to it, and I feel somewhat suicidal... but I would never act on it. I need advice.",5.0913255990871065,5.320678464435151,5.626315138836064,83.74867012171931,68.40027894002789,8.861278052491443,28.84775580068468,8.710501217029153,1.9613573221757319,2797,90,581,42,44,903,304,717,0.086,0.825,0.08900000000000001,-0.6901,2,2,3,0,0,1,110.0,3,0,0,4,27,29,3,2,43,0,55,21,2,7,11,111,109,54,2,15,14,7,6,2,0,3,1,2,15,2,25,52,15,1,10,6,2,13,14,13,0,3,22,11,69,16,103,77,26,115,1,3,3,3,68,49,1,5,52,395,94,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06246640347304045,0.0566653228525774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054241300166834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707194065135023,0.11952178990845205,0.0,0.0,0.049154090603623336,0.0,0.11690357376793807,0.07059972573723118,0.05439514739390345,0.0,0.0,0.056536135814691975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527418907454978,0.0,0.0651754152888145,0.0,0.2704951075445854,0.11013080790358916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020772225427744,0.0,0.07021819862227953,0.16490437845426348,0.0,0.0550581856302765,0.0,0.06634366809716366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111881739803971,0.0,0.0,0.06262179589933949,0.0,0.06541084992260689,0.05340082135262439,0.07190659882810324,0.056618243697497635,0.06605122549938805,0.0,0.08444322352401185,0.057823482843120284,0.053859253401044506,0.06108271838131096,0.0,0.0,0.06026244707142296,0.0,0.1616110549764584,0.09133552939288593,0.0,0.07002630180617768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033397978041967986,0.0,0.03632983739080936,0.10723388471944063,0.05112636204075401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057263907702972364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569465699764724,0.0,0.12824322144558908,0.0,0.0,0.14752086856160895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656765969418914,0.10539390597301662,0.10421420215976863,0.0,0.0,0.06945429183529912,0.0,0.0,0.062460685393808626,0.12813853520842594,0.11289322962101606,0.0,0.05368058496455953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05769446962376123,0.0,0.17068073362247713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100584732574054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204805120304876,0.0,0.09398390891041848,0.18959719707412825,0.14790783431338245,0.0,0.0,0.1799667898741654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136155278176235,0.08663396023014489,0.048617557678735684,0.0,0.0,0.07098073081914431,0.06922413919852836,0.0,0.0,0.05581651664679035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852380795362864,0.0,0.06799170706264064,0.0,0.0,0.04095175150047828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167085470064932,0.06399970111892399,0.06469513302309361,0.05093964957924786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05287911017470714,0.0,0.06397079035271333,0.0,0.0,0.09842459841925286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210057580544807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992316409358337,0.07254090662887587,0.0,0.0,0.1441900868901327,0.0,0.055872939626201684,0.0,0.0,0.0742214163285086,0.0,0.0409603183786447,0.0,0.0,0.29819970209452995,0.0,0.12118613951173585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378690549334606,0.05521035131702605,0.0,0.21097804059876568,0.11311319972809622,0.0,0.20510591241242787,0.0,0.0,0.05925876757964334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307577631789814,0.0,0.0,0.045410219337601636,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Steak-n-Taters,2019/03/05,"Good kid, but goes insane when excited/happy. How do I get her to calm/quiet down? My 4yo daughter is a great kid.  She uses please/thank you/yes sir/no ma'am and is super compassionate and loving.  With that said, she has a ton of energy and starts yelling and going crazy when she's excited.  She's not being rude to anyone and I want to let her be a kid - to have fun, get excited and such - but she's the oldest of 3 and her crazy yelling sets the tone for chaos in the house.  After asking her 2-3 times to calm down, I usually have to yell over her so she can hear me, then she is sad because I yelled at her.  I've made the goal of getting outside to release some more energy, but it hasn't improved the situation much. 

Does anyone have experience with this?  I don't want her to think being excited means she'll get in trouble, but I need help getting her to calm down before the yelling drives me (and more importantly my wife) insane.  Some goofy yelling is fine, but I want to establish some boundaries between being goofy and going insane.  ",2.7274761904761893,4.538563747619051,3.962857142857146,87.43047619047621,75.80952380952381,6.9523809523809526,23.095238095238088,7.793537801064563,1.0320952380952382,817,24,169,12,18,267,114,210,0.129,0.617,0.254,0.9829,0,0,0,0,4,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,5,15,1,0,9,0,18,1,0,3,0,29,38,19,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,4,3,11,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,2,8,27,12,25,30,7,19,0,1,0,1,28,7,0,3,8,109,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23893021630513955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972545153996998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415102897986116,0.0,0.14538419288615514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14951551029276372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712802261172072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463208865397111,0.0,0.19420056162362956,0.14330425163743749,0.0,0.18836716780933413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181877288637692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19256490559278291,0.0,0.11451985277325676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714260772549974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470981820524575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420242985103896,0.1616662113169225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18611012285297251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559736847738126,0.12668609605233289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252130474690474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204708472278756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209313596106444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15729943299402932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947636164520504,0.0,0.0,0.09962635704881866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756302261783244,0.1881715725396431,0.0,0.30232239519738585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LadyDeadly,2019/03/05,"My 4 year old's teacher told me my son is too sensitive and I should have it ""looked into"" I had a parent teacher meeting a few weeks ago with my son's two Montessori teachers. One thing they touched on was how sensitive he is and how hard he takes things when he can't do something perfectly right away. This has always been his temperament. He tends to give up before really trying and freaks out when he can't say, do up his zipper. It's really frustrating for him and he starts crying and getting really upset. Yesterday I picked him up from school and she mentioned again how he got upset with his ski pants. She said it's very real to him and I might want to get it checked out. She sounded so irritated when she said it and I left feeling really upset (the Apple doesn't fall far from the tree). She's been a teacher for a long time, is it really that unique that I need to get him checked out? I feel like he's just a really sensitive kid and I need to just accept him the way he is and offer my help when he needs it. I'm not sure what I should say or do regarding this teacher or leave it alone. Note that I am naturally a fussy mom that wants to jump in and save but I've learned to step back and let him try to do things first before stepping in. ",2.6054234823700457,4.045454053435115,3.9131188658669593,89.22891857506364,75.2595419847328,7.4332242820792445,22.78153398764086,8.11559375814309,1.0084617957106508,990,27,218,16,21,325,141,262,0.086,0.8740000000000001,0.04,-0.8082,1,1,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,2,13,10,1,3,9,0,22,0,0,4,2,44,42,23,0,7,6,4,4,1,0,3,0,5,0,1,18,18,0,0,4,1,2,4,4,5,0,3,8,10,30,5,25,30,1,34,0,0,1,0,40,14,0,3,16,137,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650726597646612,0.0,0.0,0.12444096444329154,0.0,0.0,0.09997587096500964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288651277170668,0.0923892698074216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20448055846726865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198104203003375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150465752676486,0.08583642545775218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022010067526302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18832297168656825,0.11526049519705504,0.0,0.0,0.0960963207507078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763235681970304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053517712548694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12722334173839756,0.13054521462720012,0.12286329238109928,0.0,0.058700069967113584,0.0,0.0,0.10633050695616672,0.10089719872358546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746200633360258,0.0,0.14072026309688274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672729733187449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607903707333798,0.0,0.08141792705242601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341428577450853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675898212520393,0.4618336791915267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260892754259042,0.22858363414720964,0.19109896879664845,0.0,0.12159997320054228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249867780458096,0.0,0.0,0.08504401839873442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324159089420875,0.0,0.09033915372152868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394704270324351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700614445180922,0.0,0.0,0.11481013441200134,0.0,0.1631502859333217,0.0,0.11737078905374662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913776695364022,0.14173721590107094,0.09537085682479253,0.09637847658386102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737377978307045
parenting,ConsciousMisspelling,2019/03/05,"3yo is almost constantly sick during winter months My 3yo boy has an extensive history of getting respiratory and sinus infections between January - March.  I know its not uncommon for kids to get sick, but it seems like he gets sick more often and more severe than his peers.
 
Other than the frequency and severity, its pretty normal cold symptoms,  Coughing and congestion usually accompanied by a fever.  He also seems predisposed to respiratory distress where his airway gets inflamed and he has difficulty breathing.  Our doctors have all but ruled out asthma but he still has an albuterol inhaler that we can administer.  

**My Questions:**
 
 Is there some larger issue that is causing this to happen so frequently?  I'm hoping I can get some other parents experience.  We live in a 1925 home in Pittsburgh (below average air quality).  I just bought an air purifier to hopefully eliminate one possible source of infection.

Is there anything else that I could be missing here?  ",6.478181818181818,9.483279848484852,7.150909090909092,63.38636363636365,68.69696969696969,10.460606060606061,35.848484848484844,10.504223727775694,5.018139393939394,785,41,106,25,15,258,119,165,0.138,0.7809999999999999,0.081,-0.8644,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,6,0,12,14,1,1,1,27,26,10,0,4,5,1,0,1,0,0,13,0,1,2,9,8,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,11,3,15,23,5,14,0,1,0,0,13,7,0,9,8,77,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628719076683378,0.0,0.0,0.12481361885284012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284369387386848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603326572241046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866230094471954,0.0,0.12461368450553527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975001302719408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303811553372526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267190728102828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4077153546277786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13801715744965085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655657490580252,0.3100366187869179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290240007648207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577508034647707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625066542540365,0.0,0.13781763402613328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457807275950004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529209719696117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576088101398436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330350838185662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17595181347427188,0.0,0.15878501819024105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484041668358305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841707697035725,0.0,0.3526420563276256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464219366785867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16222233197264888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17189524788695096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,southerngoaway,2019/03/05,"Normal to feel like im not doing enough? I was a stay at home mom for 10 years on and off . I divorced last year and began working again after my degree was completed. I love it. I'm engaged to the absolute love of my life now. Working a 9/5 job makes me feel like I'm not doing nearly enough for our 3 kiddos. (12,10,6 ). I used to be organized, scheduled , didn't miss much when I was a stay at home, now I'm all over the place.by the time I get home I'm exhausted, frustrated, still always feel like I have a million  things on my plate. Between dinner,laundry, showers,homework (were also in college) by 9:30 I'm exhausted. 

Is this what other working parents feel like? Honestly? ",2.15591628959276,4.2851253382352965,3.7605882352941187,86.73418552036202,78.70588235294117,6.2434389140271485,26.63800904977376,7.321109707123232,1.4916692307692312,530,22,103,7,13,176,88,136,0.061,0.7509999999999999,0.188,0.9492,3,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,1,0,0,3,6,12,1,0,7,0,10,5,0,2,1,12,26,4,0,1,2,2,4,4,0,0,3,0,3,0,5,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,6,4,12,8,17,19,4,22,0,1,0,2,6,8,0,0,16,66,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549877368215822,0.10977050230473677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13831875325843068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726234439454215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668169261310262,0.3769832639652921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892432143215295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3969885694264191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424994757294364,0.0,0.13091321926892133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075348507390061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318111477618986,0.2578036521579657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23813131227338116,0.0,0.08805962543367556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450662060254294,0.0,0.0,0.09697858264131848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925652794427106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464848770281887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378314543274017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812247254933935,0.10535387645892247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764377780608107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692536091671633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393911319346928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881245407919893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699081706420203
parenting,ficklefawn-,2019/03/05,"Dealing with A potentially toxic coparent My child’s father has never met him, he’s two, he now wants to be involved (I made a post about this a little while ago)  but now whenever we talk on the phone he seems more aggressive with me, he wants us to go and meet his entire family with him also for the first time in a different state. I told him that we could not afford this right now but that he is more than welcome to come and visit us,  I also told him that I wanted him to come and meet son first before I put him on a plane and introduce him to a bunch of people that are essentially strangers. 

Things he says to me: 

“I don’t know why family isn’t important to you this is his family he needs to meet them, they need to be in his life” (i’m excited for him to have them in his life I just want him to me as biological father first)
“If we were arguing I would be screaming at you”
“I have to blindly trust that you’re being a good mom”
“He’s MY son and I don’t want to be on the back burner”
“ my family can emotionally and financially support him”
“MY SON MY SON MY SON” (literally said this multiple times throughout the conversation let’s keep in mind he hasn’t even met him) 

While none of these things are necessarily rude They’ll have the undertones of rudeness.

I want this person to be in my sons life if he has a positive part of his life but I don’t know how to deal with the way he is behaving.. I don’t know what to do I’m terrified that he is going to just show up and be like biology says that this is my kid now and take him from me or something crazy like that. He’s an extremely loving supportive home and I’m trying to do it best by allowing a relationship but I don’t know how to deal with this person. 

Help
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parenting,lostsoul1481,2019/03/05,"Feeling guilty and alone abt my son's possible learning disability. My 8 yr old son is going through state reading testing. It has become painfully clear that there is a problem with reading comprehension. I havent done the best in enforcing ready every night and feel partial blame for this. My wife (who has other issues as well) puts all the responsibility onto me. Using excuses like ""she doesnt understand it or doesnt have the patience."" 
     I know i have allowed her actions to happen and it really wasnt a problem untill our son started to have his problems. I will never give up on my little man and do what is needed to help him but at this moment i want to lash out at my wife. ",5.259264828738512,6.291175511278201,6.231979949874687,76.7032247284879,68.32330827067669,8.317126148705098,31.319131161236424,8.515128840125781,2.4956940685045943,545,22,98,8,9,181,97,133,0.115,0.81,0.075,-0.6351,1,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,5,0,15,1,0,2,3,23,26,8,0,5,2,5,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,9,6,0,0,5,2,0,3,5,4,1,0,2,2,16,3,16,23,2,18,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,1,7,72,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777184654080279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951084545662986,0.0,0.0,0.18007613243992568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559908355060294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445743951709452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17352502346946186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460751827365194,0.09752018336245992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173900977515295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501508489696395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909837685665014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943029547605825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383160963569397,0.1719811365366028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272339401411337,0.13234300104184107,0.0,0.0,0.1610282860970706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005785385090198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258691371588465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344518057088836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4925736123613277,0.0,0.17249823035610656,0.0,0.0,0.34327861439262863,0.0,0.10992678751573033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145431779293753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863423101678028,0.0,0.14820114733858605,0.0,0.0,0.1012099215633433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542825991591713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElleJayyy,2019/03/05,"Necessary Baby Items that are Difficult to Travel With My cousin and his wife are expecting their first baby in the next few months. They live out of state, but I live very close to his parents. My son just turned one and as he has outgrown certain baby gear, I have washed it and placed it back in the original boxes. 

I was thinking that it would be helpful to take a few things over to my Aunt and Uncle’s house that would be nice to have on hand for when Cousin and family visit, but I don’t want to bring over a boatload of stuff that might just sit there and cause clutter. I am going to talk to my Aunt before I just show up with anything. I know how sometimes new parents and grandparents get bombarded with people trying to unload their old baby stuff. 

What are some baby/toddler items that wouldn’t be necessary for a long car ride, but would be nice to have while visiting someone’s home? I already have a space saving high chair that clips to a kitchen chair and an exersaucer that I’m almost positive they will want. But now I’m drawing a total blank. All suggestions are appreciated! 

* It may be helpful to note that space is not an issue in my Aunt and Uncle’s home. And when Cousin & family visit, they will definitely be staying with them. They are hoping to visit as often as possible. 
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parenting,11b403a7,2019/03/05,"Really Struggling with a Whiny 3 Year Old [more in text] Hey everybody,

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I love my son and I love spending time with him. I take him to the park and little events around town whenever they're available and I have money for them. The issue that I'm having is when we're at home and I'm cooking or trying to clean up the kitchen, or if I'm trying to get homework for school done - he refuses to play by himself. He needs someone to entertain him at all times. It's like he doesn't know how to be independent at all. 

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Partially, this is my fault. I know it is. I love my son and when he was one and lower I took him everywhere with me in the house. I never really put him down. So, I know that this is my fault. I need help though because I feel like I'm not doing much better. Despite my efforts to try to encourage play time, using various methods of reinforcement. I've even offered choices (go play or help me with X).   


He's a child of a divorce, so I feel like I may not be the only one struggling. I also feel like I may be the only one doing independent play (though I don't like to assume that). At my house, I don't have any family to constantly cling to. It's just him, me, my dog, and occasionally my girlfriend (of a two years, not introducing my kid to a woman I don't expect to be around). Over at his mothers house, he has her, her stay-in boyfriend, dog, cat, as well as the fact that they go over to her mothers almost every other night (trust me... I know, I've been there, and been told). 

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What I feel like is happening is all the doting and making him center of attention at all times has made him unable to play on his own without a big tantrum. There are times during these tantrums where I can't even get stuff done that I wanted to get done because I feel so bad. 

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Please tell me how to balance this. I want to play with him but I also want him to play  by himself at times. I want this for various reasons. I don't feel like he's building his own curiosity really and I'm not getting things done.   


I already feel like a bad dad sometimes, so if you're gonna downvote me, at least tell me why.",2.804344197138313,4.0359162680180205,4.252941176470589,87.83029411764706,74.38288288288287,7.205511393746687,25.22098569157393,7.724431198458867,1.178570429252782,1669,54,362,22,34,555,196,444,0.051,0.816,0.133,0.9686,1,0,1,0,1,0,76.0,0,0,2,2,21,31,2,2,15,0,33,5,0,8,6,67,72,30,0,9,12,5,7,8,1,3,0,0,4,3,17,17,2,1,14,9,2,4,12,8,1,4,10,7,64,23,53,55,11,41,0,0,0,3,49,22,0,9,23,237,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333467381077375,0.0,0.06979677442815674,0.1011603036486906,0.0,0.27412078593868683,0.3074175241055681,0.0430114458515367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260992642492401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562044046212893,0.07711192950859394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593854463703084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834963097164626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25890248720596576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355065234517116,0.0,0.05328995707040431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05962546850549848,0.0,0.22386393967881624,0.2711103180788884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217983567965794,0.0,0.07189165659297664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593082583719236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478885807353358,0.0,0.06344384050887401,0.0,0.0,0.2189423429461549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601545732067532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390398460214666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472018851386113,0.06339205066096483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125390431370272,0.05984767319678859,0.04221915638042676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649524598727412,0.09379657027099952,0.048781479152994016,0.0,0.0,0.05935484248844512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636911944579271,0.0,0.12857734920107533,0.09620733292665676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942833919266561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358265085272173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155666528656507,0.06503044101871784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401130063562846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05359061881171494,0.0,0.06255481566317768,0.0,0.0,0.06741495097881542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322430429016208,0.07240490034105884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047555328967878736,0.0,0.11056471696356032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0420197831042701,0.0,0.12428351834228014,0.0,0.22128578173045205,0.0,0.0,0.06043706948638339,0.07027189589912214,0.1288256287414218,0.0,0.061785020721754576,0.0,0.0,0.05462677378051439,0.0,0.0,0.14922344634628545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056868389981374334,0.0,0.05707232762509382,0.0,0.0,0.06096971793109196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074175241055681,0.08146048306837861
parenting,hayraye1,2019/03/05,"So my daughter want a piercing and I’m unsure.. My first, a fourteen year old daughter, came home from school one day and we did our routine-my kids come home off the bus, tell me and their step-dad about their day, ask help for homework, ect.- and she pulls out her phone. She sort of sighs and says something along the lines of, “I know you’ll say ‘no’ but..” and shows me a nose ring. I told her I would have to think about it, and I consult her father, who doesn’t respond because he’s on night shift (we got divorced when she was 11). So now I’m looking for advice, I know they’re not permanent and can be taken out but I’m unsure, I personally like subtle piercings but the thought of them on my daughter is kind of different...please help maybe when she’s older? Or maybe I’m just being over protective?",1.9965454545454548,3.888512533333337,2.788484848484853,94.66272727272732,78.21212121212122,5.36969696969697,22.51515151515152,6.079149491110277,0.19189696969696968,628,19,138,4,15,197,111,165,0.016,0.916,0.068,0.7777,1,0,1,0,1,0,28.0,3,1,3,1,8,3,0,0,6,0,10,1,1,0,0,28,26,16,0,2,6,4,0,1,0,2,0,3,3,2,2,15,0,1,4,1,0,3,3,0,1,2,7,5,25,2,17,15,0,19,0,0,1,0,33,6,0,2,11,81,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033209333768054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295476882512913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625674672809124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19936230569330896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15015120135165408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248289193949383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482665857059133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941030357062578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336704132576389,0.0,0.3496909562693558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815153137349288,0.19159061117993764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515825069891665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463751056606109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502323140919931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16357656994376155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290728193313036,0.0,0.11811584291468492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219931986909604,0.0,0.19133821447237695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772339777824229,0.0,0.17640934684736825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341910767434159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523531728790525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168974657270812,0.0,0.1383813522270238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16655908952938314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281157562360732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382364420956522,0.0,0.0,0.11224885660240172
parenting,The-Jesus_Christ,2019/03/05,"Any other parents out there that have never had family help them? Surely I can't be the only one but all my friends seem to have parents, brothers, sisters, etc. that always are eager to help raise the kids. Granted, my kids are now older but when my ex was pregnant with my first child, my mum explicitly said she was done with kids. Didn't want to be a grandmother and that her time for parenting was up. Fair enough. Hurt me like hell because she was a single mum. Her and I were close growing up so figured she'd always love to help. I was wrong.

My eldest is now 13. She has never held my kids, never babysit them for even an hour. Has never come around for birthdays, but rest assured she gets pissed when we suggest we might not be able to make it to hers because of family commitments!

My ex is close with her parents so when we were together, she did help out so we had a few nights away but as the kids have gotten older, I noticed that she distanced herself from them too. 

My wife and I don't have any help either. Her mum and her siblings all live interstate. Her dad lives in the US.

My kids do occasionally ask to see their grandparents. It's just that they don't wish to be a part of my kids lives. Not having grandparents myself, I'm pissed off that I'm repeating the cycle and it's all completely out of my control.

Not sure what the point of this was. I just felt like rambling. I'm up late. Everybody's asleep, My mum is bitching to me about shit I don't care about while thinking ""Jeez, you don't care about my life..."" so I have nothing but these thoughts to entertain me.",2.202429906542058,4.257376517133956,3.1400093457943927,91.6081448598131,78.22118380062304,6.149158878504673,22.84953271028037,7.1686216300943375,0.7046942056074768,1246,39,264,15,30,396,162,321,0.168,0.731,0.102,-0.9803,6,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,1,5,2,18,18,5,0,11,0,38,6,4,2,12,53,58,19,0,2,11,14,1,2,1,1,1,1,0,8,13,19,0,2,5,1,0,2,13,7,0,2,18,3,52,11,35,34,10,33,1,1,1,1,58,13,6,2,20,192,65,0,0.09981600956738833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661098321077552,0.0,0.0,0.1357566186852784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885741073791102,0.09331449477466693,0.0,0.09378042673067072,0.0,0.0,0.12169382594714892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203538148284533,0.0,0.0,0.08598265392880122,0.1046551869523534,0.0,0.11195214225739372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214643316575092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313662038434944,0.11132123583816213,0.06592753293205336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819530084555008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958390224252711,0.0,0.0,0.08490344674698838,0.0,0.0,0.07711760138744685,0.0,0.0521497452450932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345228359092013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982986630198952,0.0,0.10685510268570267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259680647136586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050299946754661,0.09753012074646826,0.0,0.2644180954862177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008784571177064,0.0,0.0666279614702485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588901235780453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30793704016068385,0.0,0.0,0.09367056325706752,0.0,0.09577615323257402,0.11364118846852853,0.0,0.0,0.06763791134149405,0.07591457315765368,0.0,0.0,0.4433354647850162,0.1080910113623574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435839242669887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949478827347815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954043640288473,0.09086874628300837,0.0,0.0,0.10245969942632392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815081548662455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395806853696467,0.0,0.07924276204004317,0.05820351787782985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006636948846625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887406858647835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478348493221363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913313708224684,0.0,0.0
parenting,96firephoenix,2019/03/05,"Concerning thing my daughter (4) said Lately she's been saying a lot of things about what the various characters in some of the tv shows do or say. Examples: sonic is a guy that's blue and fights bad guys; Minnie loves Mickey... Etc...

One of the characters that we thought was just another innocuous character was ""the gamemaster""

This morning: ""do you know what the gamemaster says?"" *No sweetie, what does the gamemaster say?* ""the gamemaster says I'm going to kill you and cut you up""

Anybody know what this gamemaster might be? There's a really odd YouTube channel called the gamemaster, but as far as i can tell, it is something along the lines of a mystery game.",4.226274944567628,6.602300422764231,4.120502586844052,85.43667405764968,73.22764227642277,7.3995565410199555,29.881005173688106,8.296473431620573,2.3101284552845542,524,23,95,9,11,160,85,123,0.08900000000000001,0.875,0.036000000000000004,-0.6582,0,0,1,0,1,0,27.0,1,3,0,0,3,5,3,0,13,0,10,1,0,0,0,13,17,6,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,2,11,4,0,0,3,4,0,1,1,4,0,1,5,7,7,1,11,10,4,5,0,0,1,1,19,3,0,4,1,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285935308447975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764266876505968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833004231453194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442611410607999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838510650700212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368792093748714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32645437181095915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823818414672442,0.0,0.18119424031316786,0.0,0.18595771630974944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014937590297188,0.14878334990865133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748795506501305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170646773382648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560698126876353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680987760781628,0.6554757522291355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269094036371828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440859614628723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190377189148155,0.0,0.0,0.13087230024406374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,duGarbandier,2019/03/05,"How do I encourage empathy in my kid? We've a few times over the last couple of years caught our 7 year old son deriding two or three other kids in his class for their poor academic performance in school, using terms like ""dimwit"" and ""stupid"". I'm not sure if he does this to their face, it's possible. We're disappointed that he doesn't empathise more (particularly with one classmate whose English is poor), and worried that this might be / develop into arrogance. These kids are struggling and he doesn't seem to empathise or want to help them.

He also engages in rough play with other kids during playtimes, resulting in occasional complaints from parents about minor injuries (bumps, grazes etc, which he does get himself sometimes too). He claims that the other kids involved are all voluntarily playing, i.e. there is no coercion involved. His usual response to any complaint is that 'they were doing it to him'. Anyway, this practice has come to a head recently and all the parents involved have agreed to ban any rough play for now.

He understands what bullying is and how absolutely wrong it is to pick on the vulnerable, so I don't think it's he's consciously attempting to hurt anyone. He's a genuinely lovely lad in all other respects. We want him to be more aware of those around him, to think about how they might be feeling, and how they would be affected by his actions.

We've talked a fair bit about this with him, to not much effect as far as we can tell. Time and again we've reiterated to him how he needs to be kind to others, think about when his actions / words might upset those around him. Are there any strategies beyond this that might be worth investigating, other than the usual carrot and stick approach?",9.591962616822432,8.186063398753895,8.636373831775702,71.25979439252337,59.872274143302185,11.675264797507785,37.59937694704049,10.504223727775694,3.79498031152648,1385,52,247,25,15,432,184,321,0.133,0.762,0.105,-0.9172,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,3,0,6,3,21,16,1,2,9,0,28,3,2,10,4,53,43,21,0,5,5,3,3,1,0,5,0,0,0,5,26,17,0,1,8,3,3,5,6,6,0,3,2,3,23,10,43,30,10,31,0,2,0,1,47,13,0,8,14,168,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926915347358961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23646411389001984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810455240137677,0.0,0.0,0.20636527432878365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654144648336133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984442388193247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824992684697256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20286363218936676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926798778844106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058606535207483684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055711276250522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189549820241333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769064642820127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408184301141942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070027920167913,0.0,0.09448043806294673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05662676291156321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461143780586682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918400142915533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520566967553259,0.0859442660589009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162588127186115,0.0,0.07854221731816756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574040928333197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306687826247838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444510380080468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730501950572275,0.0,0.10551823195656686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11463591270104025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211721412706025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924185819347693,0.0,0.0,0.09316240863627892,0.10130864512410964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280737615853052,0.0,0.0,0.1351736994586322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132252116260369,0.12066424934025888,0.0,0.10010724200612907,0.2553124328401159,0.0,0.13673100773255611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771013555829796,0.0,0.08233767234476562,0.12672713274735287,0.0,0.14928182149704775
parenting,Jajajaninay,2019/03/05,Newbie Excited to be part of Reddit.🙂,-1.7674999999999983,-1.1481827499999984,3.6700000000000017,75.87500000000001,126.5,6.6000000000000005,16.5,7.1686216300943375,1.79005,30,1,5,1,2,12,8,8,0.0,0.7140000000000001,0.28600000000000003,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shiipwreckedd,2019/03/05,"First night away from my son ever.. I feel like a mental case, he is physically away from me not just for hours.. days! I don’t know how I can do this! It hurts on a level I’ve never even dreamed of being on. He is my world, and now I’m on mars! Wanting quiet time before, now I would do anything to hear him being a loud happy go lucky 2 year old!! This is night #1... Does it get easier??? I absolutely hate this, I miss my baby..",-0.9962756598240468,0.9313706236559192,2.04490713587488,95.4600879765396,90.0752688172043,4.672140762463343,13.830889540566961,6.11248444174946,-0.8824752688172044,320,5,78,3,11,113,67,93,0.096,0.763,0.141,0.6526,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,3,0,10,0,0,1,2,11,19,2,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,4,11,3,10,16,0,20,0,2,0,0,5,7,0,1,13,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17037158863127394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3890310804543715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761709407068615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351999613399312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811771113188949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674420272103424,0.18727437750377884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468276288565403,0.14790534545832792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610327001998302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816687684938693,0.0,0.1176623639332859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22039186239184927,0.0,0.20440350904268897,0.0,0.0,0.23334270316425265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20388708185171472,0.0,0.2216345003913612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378063699678387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114650139045196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086418796540609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967761560426524,0.0,0.0,0.3885753317728149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172476711831812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072336539524472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211419435486412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707122678569706,0.0,0.0,0.13332330146790936
parenting,SarcasticCrud,2019/03/05,"HELP! This kid DOES NOT SLEEP. New dad to a 1 month old. For the past week he's barely sleeping a total of 3hrs per night and screams bloody murder whenever he's not held. Initially thought it was just cluster feeding and gassy spells, but his total sleep time has been dropping each night (tonight he averaged 25min clips of actual sleep). Tried swaddling arms out, arms in, one arm out, lights on/off, have a white noise machine. We tried timing his naps and making sure he goes to bed on a full stomach with no success. I work full time and this is having a serious impact on my ability to perform my daily duties. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.",4.602,6.527587800000003,4.6722,83.82910000000003,71.0,7.56,28.5,8.238735603445708,1.9910800000000008,525,20,97,8,10,163,96,125,0.079,0.784,0.13699999999999998,0.8933,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,3,1,6,1,0,6,0,8,9,8,1,3,21,11,5,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,3,9,1,2,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,3,6,3,12,5,5,19,0,0,1,0,11,7,0,0,11,50,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.16269090171169667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337269086061537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589441594780625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380513083541455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117463131555234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128431676618676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307123088152226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101548506894542,0.0,0.3129036039267482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749405422824279,0.0,0.112971169836723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591494181584296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6673461540788385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571279871723186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235399129282166,0.2916405624978522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22637862849560245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372962983630232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213713341299546,0.0,0.0,0.11843036119976433,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thefox_inthebox,2019/03/05,"23 month old & behavioral issues G'day parents

Dad of a 23 month old son here, and got some feedback today from our daycare centre that our little man isn't interested in socialising with other kids, gets jealous when his educators hold and comfort other children (this also happens when my wife carries other babies too) to a point where he throws around his toys and cries/screams alot.

We've been told that he's really bright for his age though, knows & says all the colours, numbers, letters, recognises certain words and expresses his needs & wants (e.g. asking for water, certain toys, certain show on his ipad etc)

Looking for advice on how to deal with this; as we are first time parents and a little conscious asking our parents (as they have been known to be a little judgmental and we don't want that extra pressure on our head) ?

Cheers in advance",10.543942133815547,8.715054443037976,9.120452079566004,69.87563291139242,58.36708860759494,11.053887884267633,40.292947558770344,9.23628265651192,3.817803616636529,694,28,114,8,7,213,110,158,0.052000000000000005,0.855,0.093,0.7702,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,0,1,2,9,9,1,1,6,0,7,2,1,1,4,26,18,13,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,8,11,1,1,3,3,0,2,2,2,0,1,4,4,13,7,18,13,5,23,0,0,3,0,30,11,0,2,10,71,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740934515233268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426771800635602,0.0,0.4238117291619897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160690471429052,0.24378213146596175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840866357892603,0.13441976672370065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541217961681369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090422375842243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812004974122791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427967588121001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529778709458173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381118951675078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608660392869235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165541686667866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920358613265789,0.0,0.0,0.1094893862535318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208141891560374,0.0,0.0,0.09667778749403272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736313111410336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4343266746261897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325464593163694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352707297721802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368627212609068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281012252429946,0.0,0.07602772581761118,0.0,0.12358840767416095,0.12458711749662355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380725108937016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zzizzix,2019/03/05,"This kid is the worst sleeper I need your advice. My wife and I have 6 kids. My last one, a boy, is now 2 1/2 and is the worst inconsistent sleeper. If he wakes up at night, he’s up for hours. There’s nothing else to it. And he can wake up 2+ times a week. 

We’ve done a number of things - 

1.  Stopped naps
2. Moved a sister into his room so he isn’t alone
3.  Warm milk before bed
4. Oatmeal an hour before bed
5.  Essential oils
6. Dedicated bed time routine

I’m sure I am missing more. We don’t know what else to do. Any suggestions? 
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parenting,sarrrena,2019/03/05,"SAHM and broke my toe. I'm a stay at home mom to a girl who will be one on Saturday. Today while I was walking past my bed I ran my foot into the my boxspring. I went to urgent care and they confirmed I fractured my toe. I'm going to be on crutches for a minimum of two+ weeks. I have her party Saturday which luckly I will have people to help me with that. 

But how do I take care of my daughter when I cant walk for the next few weeks. Shes walking too which makes it hard. Any advice on how to take care of a baby who doesnt understand I'm hurt? ",1.6783515482695819,2.403224303278688,3.721256830601092,92.52693078324226,76.45901639344262,6.733697632058287,22.571948998178506,6.937597516519254,0.4346036429872493,423,11,103,4,9,145,77,122,0.035,0.8,0.165,0.9369,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,6,0,11,3,3,3,0,10,24,7,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,2,0,2,3,1,18,4,16,17,1,21,0,2,0,0,9,5,0,1,9,67,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18125262882920287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613534880987182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5673393071796292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541472160893016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615705773225922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432588554697205,0.0,0.18605538116637824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856425093530072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12381188102546413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172363921999266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19726413229161932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568862752259616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706528106474814,0.12859111671460513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977010581337964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27892147721963995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581696034128608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119072692566168,0.1930951838192299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29756784244197265,0.0,0.0,0.1719453467434645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AnonAccount9,2019/03/05,"Mother of my child says I NEED to add our child to my works health insurance. Is this true? The mother of my child says I need to add my works health insurance but she already has insurance.

Just a quick background on the situation -

We live in California, the mother of my child and I are separated, not ever married. My child is 4 years old and has health and dental insurance through Medi-Cal right now. The mother told me today that I NEED to add my child to my works insurance as well but why? Is this true? 

If you have any questions that I’m forgetting to provide certain information, comment down below and I’ll reply when I can. 

Thank you. ",2.884285714285713,5.180756714285717,4.144682539682542,84.04892857142859,77.09523809523809,7.374603174603175,24.785714285714285,8.344100000000001,1.6998857142857149,510,18,99,10,12,167,71,126,0.0,0.877,0.123,0.9392,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,2,0,3,6,5,0,0,5,0,8,3,0,0,4,23,14,9,0,4,5,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,6,4,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,19,5,15,13,0,12,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,2,7,65,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722605564062786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537586686720948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346884456397727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5410277958082145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498145101017075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3774063062728124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803155736040255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006008597174515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489028147369268,0.0,0.2698438044466067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19070701293520628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562018243911073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081958309648794,0.16211915560741674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254636670646068,0.0,0.15309341835667048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3705475132090526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925666021408616
parenting,WalkinSteveHawkin,2019/03/05,"I’m babysitting a kid who just took his first steps. Do I tell the parents? I’m babysitting a couple’s firstborn son.  They told me he doesn’t walk yet, so no need to worry, just gave me the usual rundown.  I was putting away his duper bag when I turned around and he was trying to stand up.  I just let him do his thing, and he walked a few steps before plopping down.  It was honestly the cutest thing.  

The parents will be home in a couple of hours, and I really don’t know what to do.  I’m leaning towards not telling them.  ",2.169225280326195,3.657305963302754,2.990214067278288,95.19543323139654,76.5229357798165,5.5783893985728845,23.120285423037714,5.82211442006289,0.1729135575942915,406,12,92,2,9,128,72,109,0.056,0.877,0.066,0.2579,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,2,1,7,1,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,10,20,5,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,6,0,13,1,10,11,1,18,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,0,5,60,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650143068428212,0.0,0.0,0.1741566852316928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773211246680655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41020608433526345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15767152449270253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18593638584779693,0.0,0.18254735994556173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187185332218986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18954845191309247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744592966963567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41165218417245136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634320065355772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874967865442565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32403466923811963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462967733935805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17712436985838664,0.2059475316335525,0.1258507871981659,0.2016240831527721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415355379192196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824733464197788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tinderbax,2019/03/05,"The most beautiful words your 4 year old daughter can say to a science loving dad... ""what's Jupiter dad?""

I couldn't get to YouTube fast enough! But of course as 4 year olds go, she was bored and started brushing my hair. Good start though!",2.0097872340425518,4.4459138085106416,1.6334468085106373,100.09400000000002,81.12765957446808,4.611063829787233,24.293617021276606,5.6839178017228535,0.1875310638297876,187,7,41,1,5,54,43,47,0.041,0.73,0.228,0.8879,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,5,8,4,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,2,4,6,2,8,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,1,7,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28828385577584703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576713470887545,0.0,0.15856338052091246,0.2340138091535444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25181037950968016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5855317537667768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187374868162468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.394958387978642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27411824605680324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3593365401862373
parenting,bigdatanewbee,2019/03/05,"As First time parents; we need advice regarding Crib v/s Playyard We are due in August and currently looking at finalizing some of the essentials we need for the baby. We looked at this [playyard](http://www.gracobaby.com/en-US/pack-n-play-playard-with-cuddle-cove-rocking-seat-103638) and we really like it. We live in a small city apartment, and were wondering if we can do without buying a crib separately. Would love if parents can share their experiences regarding Playyards, and whether they can even substitute for cribs? We plan to move out of the apartment (or maybe even out of the US) in the next year and half (tentatively)

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Thanks so much :)",7.628282608695652,9.443910730434787,6.741467391304347,72.33307065217394,63.43478260869566,9.923913043478262,35.244565217391305,10.125756701596842,3.780586956521738,534,24,87,12,8,163,82,115,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.9368,3,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,9,0,2,2,3,4,0,0,7,0,7,1,0,0,0,25,14,11,0,5,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,15,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,11,4,15,12,2,19,0,0,2,1,15,10,0,5,9,58,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635187907956286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130847308129924,0.20333154125160344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22104768377597955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368670551860875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833083955310126,0.0,0.14233590590566692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175191126754845,0.0,0.14776074313778054,0.0,0.2810401705420782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102726239944625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811149142734227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785167308223299,0.12301120510252192,0.24815502958468103,0.0,0.0,0.17796372161901275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716136235807382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719971879302022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15406049544759054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757496028076684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025691800445442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16130592102937194,0.1814687409061878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188706847682305,0.0,0.20333154125160344,0.10775888994347388
parenting,alsipat,2019/03/06,"7 year old suddenly wetting herself My daughter has been potty trained since she was 2, and has only had an accident maybe 2 times since, no bed wetting  nothing. Till yesterday, she got home from school and beelined it for the bathroom, she didnt make it and wet herself, fine it was an accident. Clean her up and carry on. Then today I got a call from the school she had an accident and needed a change of clothes, she has never once had an accident at school, so I got there and although she was a bit embarrassed ( luckily non of her classmates saw/ knew ) she seemed fine. Then it happened tonight after we got in from her gymnastics class.. this time she beelined it to the bathroom and I assumed she went and we went about our nightly stuff. Then when it came time for bed I found the pajamas she was wearing in her hamper that were covered in pee. When I asked her about it she just said sorry, I tried to make it on time.
This is completely out of character for her. She has no pain, fever, nothing has changed in the house. Everything at school is going good. She just keeps saying she doesn't know why. 
Anyone experience something similar. If it happens tomorrow, I'm calling the dr. But just want to hear if anyone else has experienced this and what the outcome was.. 
Thanks! 
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parenting,jeffersonstarship87,2019/03/06,"Time to upgrade to BIG! big girl bed. We're getting a new platform bed for my 3 year old [well,  3 in a few weeks].

I need some advice when it comes to mattresses.  We're undecided on twin vs full,  only because of space.  But I'm more concerned with how comfy it is.

As it stands,  my daughter no longer likes her toddler bed and I believe it's bc it's too hard [don't blame her there]  so im looking for something softer.  

I've been checking out zinus mattresses online,  does anyone have experience or opinions on them?  Or something similar.  

I'm looking for Soft, but not sink into it soft.  I'm slightly worried about memory foam because I've read that it traps heat and we can have some wicked summers here in MI sometimes. 

Enough rambling,  sorry, any advice is appreciated!",1.6012353801169574,4.176159927631581,3.229649122807018,86.9480994152047,84.59210526315789,5.219883040935674,25.549707602339183,6.691623216298621,1.172569005847954,607,26,115,7,18,200,107,152,0.09,0.856,0.053,-0.523,0,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,0,18,15,10,0,1,6,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,8,7,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,5,8,2,16,14,6,20,0,0,2,0,6,11,0,5,8,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669706290990164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768909505858916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129217938769772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22892400620897266,0.0,0.0,0.21155092611185455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161746033117648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643175777611217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940151699683859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367373256320316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810134993593528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820379488869705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028223222767837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173425929193343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153566867884348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922804663256155,0.0,0.18134809558459325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19703157227312568,0.0,0.0,0.142806490646795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878194249097478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891069022111995,0.18570795855500494,0.21019158835472915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948938768541146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061665456376258,0.0,0.16882653234269715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19068814004885606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091682992871496
parenting,SmellyFeet666,2019/03/06,"How did you know you’re ready? My (24f) husband (30m) wants to have kids but I’m not sure I’m ready.
For the longest time, I’ve been CF. Almost everybody that knows me before I dated my husband knows I never really wanted or was baby crazy. I figured it would be something that could or would happen and I was ok with the possibilities but never really WANTED it like a lot of people do. When I met my husband, we had the conversation and I said someday. He accepted. Fast forward to now, we’re three months married and he wants a baby. I do see myself having a child, I want to have babies with him more than I have ever wanted before. I just don’t know if I’m ready for EVERYTHING having a baby comes with. I don’t know if I’m emotionally ready, and I know I’m not financially ready.
So my question is, how did y’all know you were ready to have a kid? If you had one before you were ready, how did you deal with that and how do you feel now?
I want to have a baby. We’ve talked about it extensively. We even have baby names picked out, I just don’t know if I’m ready to get started on that this second. I don’t want to disappoint him by making him feel like these were empty promises, I do want babies I just don’t think I’m ready and it’s really eating me up inside. ",1.447555555555553,3.1068919962962984,3.6567592592592617,88.8829166666667,79.03703703703705,6.277777777777778,19.027777777777786,7.1686216300943375,0.23455555555555474,989,21,218,12,24,340,123,270,0.042,0.77,0.188,0.9882,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,2,7,0,0,14,7,0,0,9,1,33,1,0,6,4,66,68,20,0,16,13,3,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,3,10,14,1,0,14,0,0,2,9,1,0,3,13,4,36,6,20,51,2,16,0,1,1,0,27,4,0,9,14,144,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947244217443752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790806479364413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941731591267588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728651595976332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270849892359287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186599818228417,0.0,0.1229750639735802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07220763451644545,0.0988900409377839,0.0,0.0,0.09825358452665386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055524888378036,0.07810126437075456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711740720928182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667507115492592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4806539794932511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682061044911048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929435658865746,0.0,0.0,0.07297478422828146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726157146629941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686351988395731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408093954669735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579166811941172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324666296412355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12246817740619285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101077373708255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399239452338307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711727112521257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841631469464736,0.0,0.0,0.07738026518101011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303680961815576,0.0,0.0,0.08787068913844502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005056357947773,0.0,0.0,0.06374784797157798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5803404638594519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155321617740411,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dawae_the_great,2019/03/06,"My Sister gave away my dads cigarettes to a girl in school I don't know if this is the right post to put this on, but here we go

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My dad keeps a few boxes of cigarettes in a cabinet, and my 13 year old sister found them (she is on the Autism spectrum) and gave them to a girl at school. I feel like her ""friends"" manipulate her, because they know she would want a good social status.

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What can my parents do?",5.297931034482758,5.004414195402301,5.573011494252879,86.09813793103451,67.96551724137932,8.799080459770115,28.894252873563207,8.238735603445708,1.6709466666666666,333,10,73,4,5,106,59,87,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.8201,1,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,1,0,13,15,4,0,3,2,5,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,1,15,3,10,11,1,12,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,1,3,47,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3663675197486973,0.4108692284978128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884378293199422,0.0,0.0,0.1030615254525754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548523190028531,0.1207813245205214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537297191209012,0.13062055657097404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608453378097777,0.14180517391191422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502743011957654,0.0,0.0,0.18582933562914591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259747726289958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774071207040739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877286252295725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191921821925667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16995878668733586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438208616135942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422091669474331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17234226702435818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971995326627602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201001729517565,0.0,0.4108692284978128,0.10887344802071304
parenting,JDFMY,2019/03/06,"Mother Using Child as Pawn post divorce   

The mother of my child is using our daughter as a pawn, I’m thinking of stop playing her game and walking away. Currently residing in Japan. Japan is bias against foreigners, their is no such thing as co-parenting. I don't quite understand what happened. We divorced in October. November and December i was able to see my daughter 4 of 7 days a week or more if i wanted. I had to leave to EU for work, upon returning in late February, she has instigated a rule that i get to see her only 3 hours every two weeks. Ridiculous. Please share your thoughts. ",3.087607655502396,5.482618701754387,4.392169059011168,82.0316985645933,76.89473684210526,8.005103668261562,29.661881977671452,8.841846274778883,2.761045614035088,468,22,86,11,11,154,86,114,0.08800000000000001,0.853,0.058,-0.29600000000000004,2,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,2,1,1,2,1,3,1,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,0,12,18,7,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,3,2,14,2,17,15,1,15,0,0,2,0,17,5,0,2,8,53,17,1,0.20222289830074747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899950697242979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041703992101153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703815136204661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565311791981212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788250411159734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991488201254069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281162374926999,0.21412485061903092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379962667051478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219800159375836,0.0,0.0,0.19367363699995996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21508894445141688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222909361175835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906739792140396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434790795291046,0.12957626782836792,0.0,0.16054239273385598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975423875034572,0.21052116890462835,0.0,0.3493113116465949,0.0,0.0,0.1192763048324108,0.0,0.3244220222393436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722067842603878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jimmysgourmetcoffee,2019/03/06,"My preschooler overdramatizes about pain and injuries Hi all, 

So my daughter is 4 years old, and as of the past two months or so she has been VERY over dramatic about pain. She asks her teachers for bandaids every day she is at preschool for minor cuts and is taking a long time to calm down if she gets hurt. At least every day at home she complains that she can’t walk because her leg/knee/foot hurts. At first when this started happening I would hold her and give her (what I think to be) an appropriate amount of nurturing, but now I’ll just say something like, “Oh I’m sorry that you’re hurting sweetie, I hope it gets better soon”. I took her to the doctor for a checkup and they said everything is fine, and after telling me she couldn’t walk on her legs that day she happily jumped on one leg for the doctor. This may or may not be relevant but her great grandpa passed away a couple months ago. She wasn’t very close to him but she has been asking a lot about death since it happened. I guess what I need advice on is if this is anxiety/related or attention seeking behavior and how to handle it? Have any of you other parents gone through this? ",4.433673913043479,5.455837878260874,4.637989130434782,87.41394021739131,70.21739130434783,7.836956521739133,27.85326086956522,8.07648339933343,1.5991086956521732,912,31,189,12,16,285,144,230,0.091,0.78,0.13,0.9288,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,1,2,10,14,1,0,8,0,19,8,2,1,1,31,36,20,1,6,10,3,0,1,0,3,6,2,1,0,13,8,0,1,2,0,0,6,4,7,0,3,6,2,29,7,28,24,4,34,0,3,0,0,31,11,0,10,18,126,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965438646618913,0.1085424174093828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326857310172314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289439706098785,0.0,0.11504355948695208,0.0,0.0,0.0746429259953821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829495965772534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13548595048863993,0.0,0.2369057341125256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25066063294555496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20633478359324264,0.0,0.11004801559998173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041538737559396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12794764384178586,0.11746290420463205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499892132098446,0.13488984629935666,0.0,0.21656003269174476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282493570437587,0.12161810448209386,0.0,0.0,0.3932480942194286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982171674313989,0.0,0.0,0.10836228086014067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410057849674692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19547302674534345,0.0,0.0,0.090793350626489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128488167855244,0.0,0.08297366890146061,0.0,0.2605857785811881,0.0,0.13596357921825852,0.0,0.11689009813055053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647571648324125,0.09737525345083813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128992759385183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426615174122756,0.0,0.137070073464396,0.08666904796191388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206536325718112,0.0,0.10702460745832636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845948369945349,0.0,0.0,0.07140018556919299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604379915221268,0.0,0.0,0.11961352176625538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020642025323194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698326831767786,0.0,0.0,0.07885224566379719
parenting,MafaldaHopkirk2,2019/03/06,"Should I nurse to calm a tantrum? My son is 18 months old and still nursing on demand. I rarely tell him no when he asks to nurse and I’m generally operate on a “don’t offer don’t refuse” policy. He is definitely starting to have some major terrible two tantrums. When I tell him he can’t do something he has a melt down and then comes over to me to nurse. It almost seems like he’s trying to reassert his control on his environment. “Fine, if I can’t do X at least you have to let me nurse!” I can’t decide if it’s better to:
A) let him nurse. It makes him happy, connects us and stops the tantrum. Nursing is a sacred thing that I should never refuse. It’s love, comfort, nourishment after all and it’s how he’s learning to cope with life’s frustrations.
B) refuse or at least delay nursing. He’s being manipulative by insisting on nursing every time he doesn’t get his way. I can see the situation getting out of control as he gets smarter and older, and it’s not the sort of strategy that works well in the grocery store. Downside, the tantrum will escalate but maybe I won’t be reinforcing negative behaviors by substituting them for a nursing session. 
I would love to hear your thoughts!",2.898557422969187,4.885610340336137,4.298907563025214,84.42746498599442,75.84873949579833,7.390476190476193,27.719887955182074,8.269060116576782,1.9306476190476192,943,39,189,17,21,312,138,238,0.14800000000000002,0.777,0.075,-0.9415,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,1,2,1,4,5,15,5,0,11,0,24,3,0,5,2,38,38,16,0,5,5,1,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,9,10,0,7,4,0,1,1,11,6,1,1,1,2,23,9,28,28,5,25,0,0,1,2,31,10,0,7,14,121,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652025255420016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14612722465408284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824204984873673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464581914469292,0.0,0.0,0.3506262533308648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316965421529226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24499401376446414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166393165021573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617089166911698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196717944198552,0.11040522339920304,0.07636437350528356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28214881087263005,0.0,0.10433704986044416,0.0,0.15703276563007765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476384862610515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055465004534766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401933905102467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455753253977375,0.14229726833110226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756971554807334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033381875986265,0.0,0.0,0.11063586787936673,0.0,0.12482806515415874,0.1306807952571598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27324080762497416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384433467523876,0.0,0.0,0.12409138493218347,0.0911446667865424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612312199530603,0.0,0.1526905637238865,0.0,0.18801972180215185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407030751696894,0.0,0.0,0.14053999534014044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379435403599884,0.0,0.0,0.11103698041703518,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,banannett,2019/03/06,Dilemma Okay.  I need opinions.  Your kid kicks another kid ‘by accident’.  The other kid then pushes your kid multiple times & calls him names.  Your kid pushes him to the ground.  Your kid is the only one who gets punished.  The other kid is also the son of a teacher at the school.  Principle is telling you it’s your kids fault.  How do I handle this.  Discipline my kid?,0.8362868117797682,3.3830996197183083,2.217413572343151,90.66110115236877,95.05633802816901,5.398719590268887,20.539052496798977,6.980632752743323,0.8605380281690147,287,10,55,5,11,92,49,71,0.102,0.871,0.026,-0.6705,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,6,0,0,4,3,1,0,7,1,4,0,0,1,0,5,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,11,1,4,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,1,2,35,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837261868398386,0.0,0.3844158356721675,0.0,0.0,0.3720292357809025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622812181336632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18536362289275912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630729867524485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404155232635245,0.2698344976514361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590673730493587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101029199362533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206881450489025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bennybuckets1392,2019/03/06,"Hi parents! I am 27 with no kids, and happen to be researching Harley Davidson for a research write up. Question for you regarding electric bicycles - would you let your 3-10 year old ride one? THANK YOU in advance Additional considerations:

The company Harley Davidson just acquired is StaCyc - and you can see on their [website](stacyc.com) some videos of kids riding these. They are $700, about 20lbs, and have a 30-60 min. ride time. 

At what cost? - these are $700, seems expensive. What cost would you buy at? 
Where do you live? - seems like urban environments wouldn’t be suitable. Videos show off trail terrain
Is this safe? If you wouldn’t allow your child, why? ",2.7449117647058827,5.781011550000002,2.89627450980392,86.87029411764708,87.66666666666666,5.8235294117647065,22.89215686274509,7.285733465282438,1.1940686274509802,526,19,96,9,17,160,90,120,0.018000000000000002,0.88,0.102,0.8767,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,9,2,2,3,3,0,0,3,0,15,0,0,1,0,19,20,4,0,5,2,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,1,4,3,4,4,3,0,0,1,0,1,12,3,12,13,1,15,0,0,1,0,18,7,0,5,5,56,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22622816149096506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616018166964389,0.0,0.12498480747181485,0.0,0.2259011165198119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684488141780967,0.0,0.17335590814632387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28406710300104543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865862965991792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038620695627237,0.4657930359344194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23553236938416255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917556587576195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23084529072069074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634662338640051,0.0,0.0,0.16474506716894088
parenting,lupum121,2019/03/06,"Just need to vent or get it out or something. 
I started an amazing job the first week of January. For the first time in my life I feel like I’m actually helping people and making a decent wage doing so. Since January, I’ve been sick enough to call out two days (I work with kids). Work was very gracious and understanding. A few weeks later on the weekend my oldest gets a severe stomach ache. Over the next week and a half he has 4-5 random stomach aches, to the point that when he goes to the clinic at school, I pick him up and bring him to the pediatrician thinking he’s going to tell me it’s nothing. Nope. My oldest has a very bad ear infection and gastritis, possibly a stomach ulcer. He gets put on antibiotics and something for his stomach, but I’m told if it doesn’t start working in a week or so to come back. He also has to go get blood drawn, which entailed 2 nurses holding him, me trying to keep him calm, him sobbing hysterically, one nurse drawing the blood and him coming very close to passing out afterwards. He goes back to his dad’s a few days later and I think everything is fine. Nope. 4 days later I get a call from the school clinic because he’s in there for the fourth time that week. Friday, nothing. Saturday, he has a stomach and ear ache. Sunday, when I pick him up from his dad’s he has a stomach and ear ache. Today I took him to the pediatrician, his ear’s still infected. And he now has to have an upper GI done, preferably before the weekend. He turns 11 tomorrow. He’s on 4 medications twice daily. And I have to go into work tomorrow and say ‘Hey! I know I’m new here and you’ve been more than accommodating, but I need to get off or come in early on Friday’. And I know that things could be so much worse, but it’s kinda piling up at the moment. An 11 year old shouldn’t have to have an upper GI. And I shouldn’t be stressing about work, I should be focused on my child, but I am. 

Oh! And my youngest (8yo) met his new cardiologist today. The one he’s had since birth suddenly closed, so that’s not adding to everything. 

I’m sorry. I know I’m lucky and my life and my kids could be much worse off. It’s just... life. Thanks for reading if you’ve made it this far. ",1.9114207856680319,3.7729716216814175,3.6161493632635455,88.77223505288151,78.35840707964601,6.356658752428232,22.307576084610403,7.313800181584829,0.7112205266565943,1711,51,368,22,41,571,204,452,0.087,0.857,0.055,-0.9357,2,0,2,0,0,0,60.0,0,0,0,7,16,9,0,1,29,0,28,22,12,4,0,66,65,36,0,10,13,2,1,1,0,3,10,5,0,3,13,29,0,2,8,3,1,10,6,3,0,7,9,6,38,6,48,47,6,80,0,1,0,0,39,27,1,9,44,216,51,10,0.0,0.0,0.08021783582190206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657373535370082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641738147294934,0.06863569982456617,0.05010991455335463,0.0,0.06994831980337265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787599890957008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124306672705363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131264102574383,0.0,0.0,0.15904154258787828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412175388566863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493721344624394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775671197087006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041564081719983485,0.058725521719056636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984290258487211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25768465322266143,0.0,0.14015281910064326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05509863986308067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157335177825267,0.0730654078660031,0.0,0.0,0.13552912334149522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741862868511484,0.04016001616307457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778204511855566,0.05487084377786509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828104260182157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085667254895248,0.12190430590000187,0.0,0.15878347971705867,0.08742334981344319,0.0,0.0,0.15775113708127192,0.0,0.08625775351761658,0.0,0.1114051573778809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05698890137221276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770798469179957,0.09267102960513783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263627227614846,0.0,0.0,0.08222480018191103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537077110742717,0.0,0.16638674849618218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286548912646636,0.0,0.13599760591264615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126567085789716,0.0,0.09201903030366013,0.1163667830508355,0.0,0.06564706661083904,0.0,0.0941627490226006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718486562969791,0.07568106838527798,0.0,0.0,0.0546117249127012,0.10534415610457633,0.0,0.0,0.09586594175547927,0.0,0.15583682090092288,0.07854806401855913,0.09133006323268823,0.05581013892967443,0.08941277478547574,0.0802999517396156,0.08557575878702624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20347715047664447,0.0,0.0,0.3296896562089981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29922219534978256,0.0,0.16754285261779314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293575030535992
parenting,bhambelly,2019/03/06,"Self care question for the desperate times I’m not the parent I usually am and I’d like to get back to that place. When you are maxed out with parenting (I’m looking at you single parents without family to babysit) and all hell is breaking loose 24/7 and you are running on almost no sleep for weeks and you aren’t interacting with your kids the way you usually would, what is your go-to coping mechanism? This is situational, I know, but what gets you through the tough times? ",3.6783064516129045,5.742475473118278,4.4233198924731205,84.05497983870971,73.83870967741936,8.090860215053763,27.75403225806452,8.841846274778883,2.1880548387096783,381,15,75,8,8,122,64,93,0.104,0.8540000000000001,0.042,-0.5877,4,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,8,0,0,2,4,1,0,4,0,8,1,1,0,1,15,15,6,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,0,1,10,2,12,14,2,14,1,0,1,0,15,4,1,2,8,49,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729767077007247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614641158113128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052208485427668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691420431379728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501063934419248,0.0,0.1006259485903316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973062595912594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650142924867961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14868384146165198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5898047348914043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498757011307088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19834510097961625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847097544354962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19902022849646486,0.17718552913048433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20648749105196498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39000799639772105,0.0,0.0,0.14054012931564824,0.14202497506365955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067726612104367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12577668177774867,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaitaminute-,2019/03/06,"Worth it? Hi everyone, apologies in advance is this is in the wrong place. I can delete it if you need me to. I just want to get a general idea of opinions on if parenting is worth it, from actual parents. I feel people are more candid on the internet than IRL sometimes. I (29F, almost 30 in a month) am not yet a parent, and am soon to be engaged to my SO (32M) . I THINK I want a family eventually, and have always assumed it would happen, but I don’t know if that’s because it’s “what you do” or not. I think I would be a great mom, and have no doubt I would love my kids beyond any fathomable amount. BUT the exhaustion and sacrifice and money that I hear all my friends that are new parents talk about just sounds utterly exhausting...I love my freedom, and I know the spontaneity is basically gone when you have a little human to raise. After a span of complaints, my parent friends always end it with “...but it’s so worth it.”  Despite no time for intimacy in their marriage, increased financial expense, stress and no privacy or time for their own self-development. Is this something you don’t understand until you actually have children? I will be finishing a postgraduate doctorate degree in December so my career will just be starting. Im terrified of the physical changes and risks associated with pregnancy/childbirth, and I’m scared of losing that time with my SO. I’ve always thought I wanted kids eventually but the prospect is becoming scarier as I’ve gotten older and grown to love my life and independence. Did anyone else feel this way? Are children truly worth it, as everyone says? 

TLDR: I (29F) hear my friends that are parents complain about time/money/relationship etc sacrifices at expense of kids but always end with “it’s worth it.” I always thought I wanted a family but terrified at losing everything I’ve grown to love in my adult life.  They never make parenting sound *fun* or appealing. Are they truly worth it? Or do people just say this? Anyone else ever felt this way that became a parent? ",4.617275892080071,6.429648608355091,5.748791122715403,76.58544952132291,70.74934725848564,9.075335073977373,30.260139251523064,9.558583805096642,3.023581444734552,1599,67,284,38,30,531,183,383,0.12,0.7,0.18,0.9797,8,0,1,0,0,0,55.0,0,5,4,3,15,19,0,4,16,0,32,8,0,2,3,63,60,32,0,11,19,9,3,0,3,5,4,6,0,7,24,15,0,0,12,0,9,5,8,9,0,0,6,9,37,10,37,45,6,38,2,2,0,4,41,14,0,11,17,192,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.1351229726790004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932691584053849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28803728918026805,0.0,0.0,0.04708085961946055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681874030118176,0.1418749173223876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04220383500605037,0.07646248306491953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323940484114476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07086297766516303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567068726372,0.0,0.12263989568453483,0.0,0.077213170568305,0.0,0.06262527271143685,0.0,0.13231032475037516,0.062222216388090425,0.0,0.13053354784406274,0.0,0.0700126377274273,0.0,0.06647460145322294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046788732396255,0.0,0.03617141998456557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632970071106382,0.0,0.0,0.06122257244573121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606139628567514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815570549279814,0.07478359274474247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609736597373884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978027252837704,0.0,0.06938972124909362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490818553727026,0.0,0.0,0.24994218379632865,0.0,0.04621360978331092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108493124175166,0.05526117350627524,0.0,0.0,0.051335441883988885,0.05339680930418427,0.06686572746527134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6150010212101753,0.0,0.0,0.09599498271457063,0.0,0.07233381944090013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433040413718589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011382727857576,0.06931437780904835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722251879850285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05329899734890088,0.0684732734845759,0.0,0.04900352111789365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793062442609957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05564691670113825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872350756765596,0.0,0.10992664347702008,0.16148143235167525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207406431555048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334182658290153,0.10990797199947176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475435530726675,0.07569549030551667,0.0,0.0
parenting,3girlskitchen,2019/03/06,"Help Buying/Finding an Old Toy? My kids are obsessed with Peter Rabbit (the Nick Jr show that has been off air for three years). 

I’m trying to find a Peter Rabbit TreeHouse with figurines.  Has anyone had any luck in finding / buying old toys?  Where else can I look?  

The only one I found was $259 on Amazon and I can’t afford that.  

Trying to make a birthday extra special next month! 
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parenting,Angeliclatin1,2019/03/06,"What would be the right correction for my daughter? Mu daugther is in elementary school 4th grade. They are araging grouls for a group projects n no one choolsw the litle girl, (my daughter saids no one ever chooses her).  The litle girl told my daugther that if my daugther chooses her for her group that she will give her what ever she wantesd so my daugther told her she wanted an lol doll n accepted her to the group. It was a week that has pass n the other litle girl never gave my daugther that lol doll so my duagther punch her in the face! My heart is broken because my daugther used to b a military child n i have train her in how to help lonely kids n she reguarly does it, but this time she took advantage of this litle girl plus punch her! I really qant my daugther to learn a good lesson. I already spank her sometimes.  Any ideas ??????",1.1827272727272735,3.797394216867474,2.0671851040525766,93.6811829134721,88.7590361445783,4.7049288061336245,22.605695509309967,6.351523495107088,0.5359373493975905,664,25,133,7,22,207,92,166,0.042,0.867,0.091,0.8440000000000001,0,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,2,5,4,0,0,11,2,9,2,2,2,4,17,17,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,6,11,1,0,0,6,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,6,1,29,3,12,8,0,11,0,1,0,0,33,4,0,1,5,84,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216412974861855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658385711081872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243537217855495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17576386261820584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633579067451595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19267216821534852,0.0,0.16846217993094992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380064216382189,0.13462450571504378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22673349207522145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490673346078349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27220026271743475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866868243765894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715235086755694,0.1910529029672786,0.0,0.0,0.20326938949395887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986442872351804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171163667180312,0.0,0.0,0.3838386689635028,0.2231500568830357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734686039203731,0.0,0.0,0.11846564019084692,0.0,0.16110853958207846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267700103879724,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HelloBeautiful1119,2019/03/06,"My ""sticky finger"" 5 year old just accomplished a full day without stealing. I just wanted to share with someone out there that my 5 year old daughter did something I didn't think she could possibly do. She went an entire day without taking anything that didn't belong to her.

My 5 year old has had a stealing problem for months. I'm not exaggerating. She has not gone a single day without taking something that didn't belong to her.

She takes toys from preschool, her friends, her sister. She steals food from cabinets and the fridge. She's taken my things and hid them in her room. She's even been caught shoplifting 3 times!

This gives me hope. After a long and tearful parenting battle my husband and I have gone through, she actually did it. One full day of no stealing.

Here's to hope that she is so proud of herself that she will start to stop with the sticky fingers. We praised her wonderfully tonight.

Thanks for reading! I just wanted to share my joy. ",3.641697203471555,6.030355863387978,3.5677981356477027,88.65636451301832,75.0655737704918,5.83593699774992,27.15814850530376,6.794906146795322,1.2002686595949856,765,30,145,7,17,232,106,183,0.071,0.706,0.223,0.9844,1,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,1,3,7,15,1,0,7,0,14,3,2,0,0,25,32,5,0,6,8,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,8,8,1,1,2,2,0,4,9,6,0,1,12,2,30,9,21,18,3,26,1,0,0,0,28,5,0,3,17,98,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.12658433389689888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674540914271304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035678588103706,0.0,0.0,0.3346249625435564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567635005706263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685338666354615,0.0,0.10021844164624544,0.0,0.0,0.12443563280657895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576749807854522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479478634127036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353826148083167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40834610509982777,0.0,0.08789907814683218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403452846012854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462355651198372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412091865716315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975133839239025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099081452558511,0.19972379064841955,0.0,0.0,0.0918138190172486,0.0,0.0,0.10844858105016623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925913967660047,0.0,0.0,0.11942528157236085,0.0,0.0,0.08617770287873425,0.08311692589185925,0.0,0.0,0.07563857997527132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301999286693255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024824972864626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751254657903223,0.14067172389871874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25059900792936884
parenting,KOStrongStyle,2019/03/06,"Child Support Newbie I don't know if this is the right place to post this but everyone here always is so helpful and this seemed as good a place as any to ask. 

I'm the father of a 4 month old that currently lives with his mother. I would LOVE to have him 50% of the time but she is not willing to let me have any overnights until he's at least a year old. In the meantime that means child support. I'm just curious as to how it generally works. I know every state is different but I was wondering if the court works with you as far as your bills and how much the support is or do they not care wheat your bills are and just say, ""You make X amount gross monthly so this is what you pay. End of story."" I'm asking because I already pay $600 and she is wanting even more. After all my bills this currently leaves me with about $150 leftover a month. We haven't yet gone to court yet to get it finalized but we've already submitted the paperwork. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!",1.8478972917731231,3.762328577669905,3.1306540623403163,91.92832141032193,78.75728155339806,6.472764435360245,22.978027593254986,7.475848149327749,0.7989165048543687,781,25,173,11,19,253,121,206,0.048,0.772,0.179,0.9863,3,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,6,1,2,11,9,0,0,11,0,19,1,0,3,1,32,39,21,0,5,11,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,2,10,8,0,0,5,0,5,1,4,1,0,0,2,1,20,8,23,32,5,24,0,0,0,1,23,6,0,5,15,110,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689017262230251,0.0,0.10137867494554433,0.0,0.0,0.2485613152954087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22780348913559556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427109321001879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422159189571726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729439979000925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791198385581847,0.0,0.0,0.08047261075725651,0.0,0.10265346474809192,0.11642108425424125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346717694679924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365513714161923,0.0,0.0,0.10219163012603674,0.0,0.13432642591346344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333040091931925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391755892473325,0.0,0.0,0.12900846657386922,0.0,0.12458723950904302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758486643795986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996322506705553,0.0,0.08132756938547551,0.0,0.0,0.13271690560459018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917489205275677,0.0,0.08956468267750275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25569621136641285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545887995800185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166867780779124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404867706020668,0.0,0.09689017986572272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109164096458581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147797229553236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217172757881888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104450645397056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718629955399445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212772106087967,0.17739850294629875,0.0,0.0,0.1730999245483492,0.0,0.0,0.078459444206106
parenting,QueenBizzle,2019/03/06,"Dating/hook-ups with a kid? My ex partner and father of my 2 year old was my first ever boyfriend. We were together for 6 years but I’ve had enough (a whole different story). We have been broken up for almost 6, but I am so lost as to where to begin with dating?

I am not after a new partner right now, and more just keen for a fling. Do you mention you have a baby? How long in to talking to someone do you mention it? My friend told me she doesn’t tell the guys she is sleeping with that she has a son, but I don’t know? I’m so lost!
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parenting,Uhhububb,2019/03/06,"A child was mean to my child at the playground today and i didnt know what to do My son is 3. we were at the playground this morning and there was a small group of children there and no other kids. About 3 or 4 boys who were around the same age as my son. They were all chasing after each other playing some game where one of them was a dinosaur or a lion ( or idk some creature that roars ) and chases the rest. Well my son initially said right into the game and was having fun but after a few minutes one of the boys kept stopping in front of him and saying ""NO! You cant play"" at first my son was confused and attempted to keep playing but then the boy stopped him again saying ""NO! you're not playing!"" My son came back to me (I saw the whole thing) and said ""Mommy they won't let me play"" well there was a group of women sitting not more than 3 ft from the bench I was sitting on so I know that the boy HAD to have belonged to one of them- so I said loudly (hoping they would hear) "" they won't let you play? He said you can't play with him? Well you go back there and play and if he says it again, tell him that 'yes you ARE allowed to play' ""  he ran back and again the boy said he couldn't play and my son said what I told him to say and the little boy said quite loudly "" we don't want to play with you!"" It broke his heart and he began to cry. And I wanted to cry too. I just told him we didn't wanna play with those mean boys anyway and took him home. I know those women heard me call their son (whoever's he was) mean. But nobody corrected his behavior or said they were sorry. It was disheartening and frustrating and I really don't know what to do if that happens to my son again. ",1.867844587455576,3.1665903844011183,2.9772068004994736,95.76637883008358,76.9108635097493,5.843089040437999,19.621650177696665,6.129581340695534,-0.24921830755931265,1304,26,309,8,29,418,159,359,0.152,0.805,0.043,-0.9896,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,3,6,8,3,22,21,1,1,18,1,32,1,1,1,2,64,63,31,0,8,12,8,0,0,0,3,0,16,1,13,17,28,0,4,7,14,0,5,14,4,3,4,33,17,47,17,36,24,9,34,0,2,1,0,76,11,0,10,16,216,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601019096558785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19696592794230144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718698731455596,0.09765697150385053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875814400555656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262790067009915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048525904597830884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550511553850163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623438943287492,0.10118088839884322,0.0,0.0,0.08564748394334219,0.0848059442580986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589355036007968,0.0,0.0,0.1877000648777351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746226045826341,0.0,0.0,0.08557756903699898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27902582744606397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735759746391186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081678662288832,0.0,0.0,0.05469941318617102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291778461112733,0.6497607020970595,0.2716043092905085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558081059704834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277031151996947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746297019922066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056725580763388864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093439809908969,0.1631768473314178,0.09486517568000068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007238261618637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23031240599939165,0.0,0.0,0.09532859875963164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060654605954842136,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kylafofyla,2019/03/06,Gentle parenting I have a 16 month old boy who is kinda rough and throws tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants. I don’t like the idea of yelling at him and I feel like he can’t quite understand natural consequences just yet. I am interesting in genitalia parenting and wondering what more or what I can do when he acts up or hits/bites and doesn’t listen. ,4.516438356164387,5.450436260273976,5.136876712328768,84.23791780821921,69.95890410958904,10.223561643835618,28.298630136986297,10.355215969177356,2.6861200000000003,289,10,62,8,5,93,52,73,0.035,0.779,0.18600000000000005,0.8714,2,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,13,15,8,0,1,3,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,4,6,3,4,15,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,4,7,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28312567063781463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311271132542277,0.1852683331066121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13549136381200172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29275663303865057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533950839181049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206998004706804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721275136248639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5759196566315091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27583373778637443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699759443714066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296197150059582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812367693762374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wanna_run,2019/03/06,"My 8-year-old has a neurologist. Thankfully, she's amazing! This is a long story, beware.

A few months ago, my 8-year-old caught a cold at school, and was fighting with it for about 6 weeks. Annoying, but it happens. However, shortly thereafter, he started getting headaches, blurry vision, and seeing blotches. Not normal.

We took him back to the pediatrician. They checked his vision, and it was 20/40. A few weeks prior, at his well-visit for his 8th birthday, he was 20/20. Time to do some bloodwork and go see an eye doctor. He also started seeming more tired, and not eating quite as much.

So we take him to the ophthalmologist. They ran through some normal tests, dilate his eyes, look around. They confirmed that his vision was off, but said it wasn't even enough to warrant glasses. There seems to be some confusion on this point, because I'm sure they told us his vision was 20/40, but the paperwork says 20/25, and we were told later that, if his vision had been 20/40, they likely would have been talking about glasses. 

Anyway, even though they couldn't find anything wrong with his eyes, based on the history, they recommended getting him to a neurologist, just to be sure. So, Monday afternoon found us sitting in a pediatric neurologist's office. She was very thorough and careful, making sure she understood all the symptoms and history. She examined him thoroughly and said that, most likely, the issue is migraine-related, but she wanted to get an MRI to rule out anything scarier.

That same evening, she called us at home. She had been going through her notes, and realized that he'd never had a CAT-scan to rule out something being urgently wrong. Not only did she want us to get one, she had us get him out of his pajamas, get a sitter for our other son, and take him that night. Which is really scary to hear, but we got it done! And, thankfully, everything was clear!

Now this neurologist seems to have really taken an interest in his case. She has referred us to an even more specialized doctor (a pediatric neuro-ophthalmogist), and, when his schedule showed that he was full until after Memorial day, got us an appointment...for tomorrow! She's also working on getting the MRI moved up for us. She is really moving heaven and earth, and we are so grateful!

That's it, just a nervous, grateful dad, telling his story. ",6.037837626854024,7.526377955503513,6.099641686182675,76.68231186572993,66.8688524590164,8.972021857923497,31.329352068696327,9.2995712137729,2.8882793754878997,1845,73,316,35,30,584,223,427,0.043,0.813,0.145,0.9931,2,0,1,0,2,0,93.0,14,0,7,2,20,18,2,2,23,0,35,12,3,1,6,65,75,30,0,7,11,2,0,2,0,1,8,4,1,0,19,26,1,0,9,1,1,7,6,6,0,1,31,11,55,12,42,38,13,47,1,0,6,0,69,17,0,9,24,229,74,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059632285984284765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759427747476943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071772256642301,0.0598860582321585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05172777001197988,0.0,0.04100819215102222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686919074018614,0.0,0.06858796187852892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043384668793068064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771083144790042,0.0,0.06884228556708961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688357237319192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06950962899901375,0.0,0.1777292425464304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045944889462046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061485097414755815,0.0,0.0,0.07375992562108033,0.0,0.0,0.2460267363434669,0.0,0.07646409281696227,0.0,0.10760661685391426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948812505959467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758200732862584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747898072234745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021415690142085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573109031547003,0.0,0.0,0.05953332048787322,0.05649126896776713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044904369228879006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05369561371167893,0.14299830064971494,0.04945242568058646,0.0,0.05188406731008123,0.0,0.0,0.0631299152121086,0.13182392787768646,0.0,0.0,0.14118062512358162,0.0,0.04558503183539323,0.05116314453724069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359348237397218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071551713040927,0.0,0.0,0.12928788370555316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12798154677827733,0.05349714056645506,0.0,0.06808253231454038,0.1072136396205424,0.18372483463776226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051789026386516966,0.0,0.0,0.09523048366534312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19020828874748166,0.06992103409584048,0.1011598636188972,0.05407042872679838,0.05879841403605076,0.1238694506746216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660940847137966,0.0,0.039226657990621305,0.07731890088078754,0.0,0.12856194751376715,0.07474131248464402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6473563913419237,0.0,0.0,0.0555061818235868,0.07935716043163253,0.0,0.10792256895690873,0.0,0.06048531993783302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048974584738872326,0.0,0.0,0.047787871838195835,0.14710204468240656,0.0,0.0866415135419706
parenting,type2legit2quit,2019/03/06,"Figuring out food restrictions when parents have two different diets (One's a Vegan, the other isn't) So my wife is basically the equivalent of vegan (really, she's vegetarian + dairy free - ethical reasons). I've grown up vegetarian, as has my entire extended family. Dairy is a big part of my extended family's food culture, which would be a big part of our family get togethers.

So far, we've made it work -- when we cook at home, it's dairy free, but I do have cheese and yogurt for my own meals, and eat dairy a plenty when eating out. She does have trouble some times, finding dairy free + vegetarian while out, especially in group settings.

My wife feels pretty strongly about raising our kid to be vegetarian + dairy free though. I'm happy to not cook dairy based meals when we all eat together, but it's important to me that my kid isn't having to worry so much about dietary restrictions. I'd want to raise them vegetarian, but honestly, these days, there's almost never a problem with that.

Do you have any guidance on how to approach this, or come up with a decent compromise? What would be the best way of approaching w/o having her dig into her stance here (since it is ethics based)?",7.633026315789473,7.0639834429824555,8.433157894736844,68.4421052631579,63.25438596491228,12.336842105263159,33.473684210526315,11.698219412168324,3.974957894736842,947,33,174,27,12,321,135,228,0.015,0.792,0.193,0.9919,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,4,1,1,3,13,10,0,0,9,0,19,10,0,3,2,32,25,17,0,4,5,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,11,11,10,2,4,2,4,4,4,2,0,2,1,1,18,12,25,19,7,26,0,0,0,0,17,12,0,3,8,111,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928049548491012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458729522508967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596841955289616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981539832329627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970280054174222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532148285981414,0.0,0.0,0.12172030220146332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269773655889298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39337053294587454,0.0,0.07032906883749987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271275218439992,0.0,0.3363810745313517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266980272757421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480659664887897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395205660637416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161216557887653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224858689804632,0.0,0.10727628608643837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942523046084104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15444514933222936,0.3012460534719705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150651694873562,0.0,0.13309221075115776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910586440738429,0.14300968966462874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505829783997296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366571340292912,0.0,0.08110563421459288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587262366554664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204003547556367,0.11040471519776428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126059570489676,0.1412546262501775,0.0,0.1976138601524115,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Parafet21,2019/03/06,"It has been 46 days since my son has talked to us Counting today, it has been 46 days since my son decided that he was so angry at our decision to place him in a facility that he has stopped talking.

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He has started eating a lot less requiring medical intervention.

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We have been driving hours every single Sunday. We never missed a day. We stay there the entire day desperately trying to get him to talk to us without any response. He won't even look at us. I don't even know if the staff is treating him well because he won't tell us.

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On one hand I have a husband who is doing better, on the other a son who is doing worse. Even if I wanted to, I am terrified of bringing my son home because has gotten much worse.  If he won't talk how will therapy help?

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My husband is alive and is getting therapy. But I know the guilt of this new situation is piling on to the guilt he already has.

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Was it worth it? I don't even know. Just feeling like I made a bad decision.

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parenting,OySucric,2019/03/06,"It did eventually get easier. I have three small boys aged 2, 4, and 6. The first one was a super easy baby, and when we had number 2 we found out he was hard of hearing right away, which had it's challenges, but you know, we could handle it. We decided to go for one more possible girl baby and got our wonderful son. Of course, right around here, the oldest was showing real signs of autism, the middle was losing all the hearing he had, the baby was super freaking duper clingy to ONLY mom who had just had to have gallbladder surgery while pregnant, and a hernia repair after the birth. These were some of the hardest times in my life. Everyone was stressed, doctor's appointment were off the charts and I could not put the baby down for a second without the screaming. Couldn't leave the older two alone without the oldest hurting the middle. It was awful and taking a shower was just about impossible without outside help, but even then the sounds of crying and screaming filtered in. Dad helped when he was home from work, but communicating while stressed and sleep deprived is hard... 
Anyway, flash forward to now, with gentle behavior therapy, oldest is doing so well in school, plays with his brothers (mostly) without problems, is gifted in math, reading, and plays piano. Middle one had two cochlear surgeries, we are all learning ASL, and is also starting to play piano! He also has the best relationship with his baby brother who just now, went potty on his own while I took a shower.. on my own. I heard only happy noises from the train table in the other room. There was a time when I thought that hell in repeat was just my life... and here we are.
Things are of course still hard sometimes, but it's so much nicer now... 

TLDR: life was hard, it's better now. Hang in there, things can and do change. Keep on working for a better future even when now is the worst!",5.890652173913042,6.776237765536723,5.779275362318843,81.04163964627858,66.82485875706215,7.625448292802751,27.820682878899532,7.423996415210882,1.5732283468435266,1475,44,265,13,23,461,193,354,0.113,0.718,0.16899999999999998,0.9685,2,1,0,0,0,0,58.0,7,1,0,10,28,22,1,2,25,1,38,5,1,0,2,53,53,28,0,4,13,5,4,0,0,0,4,6,4,2,14,23,0,1,6,5,0,6,6,11,1,8,27,10,19,11,40,23,10,55,1,3,0,0,30,23,1,3,28,201,33,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872253176152096,0.0,0.15245436659821854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485480166906358,0.0,0.0,0.089556058910414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003221479251738,0.16860517581443804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083567462495452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221015555330422,0.0,0.10470428827049358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756382065499196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259156143538909,0.0,0.0,0.09108212228778102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107894518765009,0.0,0.10451320465003762,0.0,0.0,0.04980064412316463,0.0,0.054172420278815366,0.0,0.07623592536363115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146966452494154,0.34155115438831873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486461026698395,0.0,0.12778166124409535,0.0,0.09561349828415606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204178211389422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472458866313341,0.0,0.0,0.05238525116218078,0.0,0.0,0.10092987025425508,0.0,0.0,0.2019815112958379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663843751501267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163735917043917,0.0,0.0,0.0700709964398173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937734232135396,0.14498995628140582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745871532919513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120814388379564,0.0,0.09582269341589547,0.0,0.0,0.09534556196684428,0.10849476309452173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023377574213709,0.0,0.16280512054300567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646869316864884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538860587996617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427368696635492,0.0,0.06746782175030816,0.0,0.07612248912296272,0.0,0.21837694228603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166860215589821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900646086079617,0.0,0.1266524355245733,0.0,0.0,0.07567324774350882,0.11116344545605553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590376849956484,0.0,0.0,0.1862271238746884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570391805247532,0.08836237905488628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675394159011892,0.10337022133372242,0.13878785138041208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,miss_darling,2019/03/06,"New single mother of a preterm baby born three months early....I am struggling. To be clear, I'm not looking for sympathy. I'm looking for empathy from other parents who know what it's like to worry about their children, to feel overwhelmed, to go through serious life changes, and to be so scared about how NOT in control they are.

As the title states, I am a new mother. I gave birth to my baby daughter two weeks ago, and she has been in the NICU since. Unbeknownst to me, she had an underlying infection while in the womb, which caused me to go into early labor. She was supposed to be due mid-May, but she was delivered at 28 weeks gestational age. She will be in the NICU until around May, and I spend most of the day with her there.

I'm doing all I can. The doctors and nurses are providing excellent care, and they keep me informed about everything. They also say I'm doing a great job of caring for and supporting my daughter. I pump every three hours, even at night, and I have two 3-hour sessions of skin-to-skin kangaroo care with her every day. I learned about preterm baby body language and development needs, and I am there at most care/feeding sessions so I can change her diapers, take her temperature, wipe her face and mouth, etc. She is doing very well. Actually, they say she's the rockstar of the ward from all the care and attention that everyone gives her. For that, I'm so grateful and thankful.

And yet, I feel inadequate. I can only do so much, and it hurts to see her hooked up with so many tubes and so helpless in her enclosed bed. I feel overwhelmed with stress and pressure and intrusive thoughts. I feel sad a lot of the time...that I didn't get married and do this the ""right"" way so I'd have a partner to lean on, that I'm doing this all on my own, that her father bailed on us the day after she was born when he found out how expensive her care is going to be, that I'm going to mess up and I'm all she has and that sucks.

I'm terrified. I'm overwhelmed. I feel in control one moment and crazy the next. I'm on the brink of tears while running errands in between feedings. I don't know what to say to my family and friends when they try to comfort me. I've lost interest in a lot of things I used to enjoy. Almost everything outside of my daughter seems shallow, pointless, and empty. I'm trying to find myself again, or at least find something to grab onto so I can protect, help, and be there for my daughter...but I just don't know where to start.

I've always been the strong one. I've always been the successful world-trotter, helper, and thrill seeker. I found out I was pregnant with my daughter while working with diplomats to improve refugee relations in Germany. I met her father while trekking the jungles of Vietnam. I helped areas and people hit by disasters recover. I've run with wolves, hunted with hawks, and fallen out of the sky a few times. I competed internationally in martial arts and performed as a classical pianist across the States. I finished graduate school at 20. The point is that I've always been able to handle myself despite the odds, stress, opponents, or crisis. I've always kept my calm and capable attitude. But this time.....this time, I feel so lost, alone, scared, and incapable.

I don't know what to do with myself.

Any insights or advice from parents or family members who have been in a similar situation would be appreciated. I'm just....not in control of anything, and I don't know how to handle that.",4.177849490311587,5.634839081001477,4.964944988304602,83.17959513702391,71.29749631811487,7.799717000202142,29.072193825984,8.313332769828598,2.049037228912183,2732,107,528,42,51,884,306,679,0.116,0.735,0.149,0.9821,3,1,3,0,0,0,110.0,1,0,6,11,29,37,1,9,31,0,49,8,4,8,5,99,105,59,0,2,9,10,7,1,2,3,3,3,1,2,21,45,1,7,21,1,2,7,7,17,1,6,19,13,70,20,95,75,14,81,0,8,3,1,53,38,1,11,34,353,91,11,0.06930858536440598,0.0,0.06763518143202507,0.0,0.0,0.0677275474706748,0.061437879084800966,0.0,0.06940253663803933,0.07178279206183258,0.0,0.05542605067541328,0.2306811808727916,0.0,0.0,0.04713221474045911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057035060280709975,0.061699335247726764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769862138377327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4239883317245135,0.0711990090977534,0.1466385866501648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332064157444473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13409491141150104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07094027397669443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729739357844688,0.04577766696835369,0.0,0.11679094484857486,0.06622732346986421,0.12458017496429025,0.0,0.13067593195085447,0.0,0.21026701950134544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12669358278434892,0.0,0.0,0.1519865729382267,0.053547641125160486,0.0,0.03621087524653426,0.06648711054826671,0.15755866511827374,0.0,0.0,0.07641296004505824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291216761496793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650999086517873,0.0,0.07419627410685489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877807648400988,0.06160465520901979,0.0,0.0,0.19045092970090194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04895470354126059,0.033860673897175744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640351178565585,0.0,0.15131701648875964,0.11784736155670145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026802714688113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055321451595394165,0.0,0.05094978499088002,0.051391437841810717,0.0,0.13387732726815038,0.07371046682380349,0.06504141227216087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393058232641836,0.052712302334100944,0.0,0.0,0.1539179638581743,0.0,0.0,0.04804984632693124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551901568393959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059189153205526125,0.0,0.16535090677409095,0.13877996986049138,0.0701439885975546,0.055229969122634455,0.06309593306733532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573327780285956,0.07790575386548386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05335713512463562,0.0,0.0,0.0490569734502577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878550073132164,0.07245638193011653,0.0,0.0,0.07865056132763212,0.0,0.0,0.052111430634158885,0.0,0.0,0.0638100335014299,0.0,0.0,0.046045544422153285,0.0,0.0,0.05502327493522688,0.16165757396345698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941119598548041,0.0,0.13540883393936926,0.0,0.08336969445234667,0.059860364640815664,0.0,0.057186841507890676,0.0,0.055013929013163834,0.1111903330998083,0.0,0.062316741869084286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05045747560655528,0.07038623275634898,0.0,0.04923483048241314,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lmoorefudd,2019/03/06,"Am i (we) the a-holes? My in laws want to put in an in-ground pool. My wife and I have asked if they plan on putting in a removable safety gate or fence around the pool. We have a 19 month old and another on the way. When the next child arrives my in-laws will go from taking care of our daughter three days a week to one day (full day care).  They are good people and have been a large part of our lives the past two years. 

Now, MIL is pouting and claiming she is depressed because we will be taking her grand children away from her if they don’t put in a fence. (Pool is a new decision, wife changing jobs to be home with kids more is old news we’ve all been ready for) So now they won’t get a pool. She’s too depressed to think about it. We offered to pay for the removable style safety fence. Still getting the overreaction.m and guilt tripping that she has to decide between a pool and “being allowed to see her grandchildren”. 

Just checking, Are we the assholes? 



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parenting,violetsarepink,2019/03/06,"Would you find it nice or weird if your new babysitter got your kid a toy for the first time they meet? Hey parents! So I'm meeting a new babysitting family tomorrow for the first time, I already got the job but haven't met the kid yet (he's 4). Would it be a good idea to bring him a toy car/truck? Just like a little thing under $5, I'll text the mom and ask first if it's okay, but before I do I just wanted to see if it was in fact a decent idea or not.",0.9209615384615404,1.7112114807692294,2.868461538461542,97.65153846153851,78.42307692307692,5.9692307692307685,18.76923076923077,5.985473137389443,-0.4737076923076926,350,6,92,2,8,118,70,104,0.014,0.861,0.125,0.8922,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,1,3,4,5,0,0,11,1,6,0,0,0,1,18,14,9,0,6,10,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,0,3,4,1,8,4,6,7,0,13,0,0,1,0,15,3,0,5,10,52,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927492029357431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328991849033167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486286172759527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466035319346775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964232875310538,0.44571457839455786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650225961852706,0.2793940584971627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943552070124519,0.0,0.0,0.17332988862989088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08533339598258492,0.17506206178539446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456769370713399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373886478324361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939468570328468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918685846476325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604088823929283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20369927979723815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302302856479843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481566254971453,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sjmc12,2019/03/06,"1st grade antics Help!!
Kindergarten started off rough for our 5yr boy but he did better through out the year. 

1st grade was off to a good start but has steadily gotten worst through out the year. It started with inappropriately talking to another student (girl), not completely work, play fighting, then it went from not completely work to not doing any work. We have taken away video games, tv, tablet time (with the except of learning apps), and friend time.  
For about two weeks now he has started to complete work so we were allowing him to have a movie and sleep over night as a reward. Well on Friday he had a sub in class and he “accidentally” broke his teacher lamp. We did not know about this until Monday when the teacher was back in class. Now today I find out from the teacher he is talking about momo. 


When I go to reply to the teacher my mind goes blank and I have no words! ",5.036932938856015,6.348360420118342,4.84451183431953,85.4137894477318,69.05917159763314,7.053451676528598,27.692800788954635,7.1686216300943375,1.3197333333333336,697,23,135,6,12,214,107,169,0.117,0.772,0.111,-0.2696,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,4,0,0,6,10,9,1,0,10,0,13,1,1,1,0,25,22,12,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,12,0,0,3,4,0,2,5,3,1,1,9,1,10,6,32,13,1,31,0,1,0,0,19,10,0,0,19,89,13,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017156210905907,0.15446076515502502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839666797599987,0.113267446961897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027814544389488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4633353568183573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346329062466841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380646736632367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371608302106417,0.12355134843123396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873456000509817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095425703339698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148734737788578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382345367167487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741007339178544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4170492466704809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23679425641589746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178793527794342,0.0,0.13962667665192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438943034373167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815813684300802,0.0,0.13244370995396115,0.13655199865217033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289553698608266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897174967631669
parenting,mkforshee,2019/03/06,"15MO Throws Food Imma ‘bout to lose it. My son chucks food across the kitchen for lunch and dinner. He eats breakfast really well, but we are struggling big time with lunch and dinner. My doc says to ignore it, which I have been, but it’s not improving. I wait till I know he’s hungry to feed him and limit the number of things on his tray, but it all gets thrown. Has anyone else dealt with this? Any weird parenting wins? Different feeding strategies? TIA",2.6735479797979806,5.160343602272724,2.839242424242425,92.12191919191922,78.88636363636364,5.729292929292932,18.868686868686872,6.937597516519254,0.18018535353535325,359,8,71,4,9,109,69,88,0.141,0.725,0.135,0.3481,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,3,1,6,0,1,2,0,4,11,0,0,1,15,7,7,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,7,6,11,3,1,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,1,8,2,10,6,1,6,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,0,2,40,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626922811714706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728307264420267,0.24513097388999525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24995622819556645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448035663808044,0.1998553990699416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.578583035154806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499369973414515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148075631450926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676498080206535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26564914030931897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326409653320705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025427629477576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501069412196087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15894128254049092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950352015913114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151066514842128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Longboarding-Is-Life,2019/03/06,"How would you react if your 18 year old son is vaping CBD So I may not fitting into the demographic of this sub, but I texted my dad today at school and ask if he could find something that was near my bed. Well I came home from school today and found the [package for my CBD juul pod that I got a few months back](https://cbdorigin-c705.kxcdn.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/hemp-pods-review-min.jpg). 

CBD is legal in my state, as with tobacco products, however regular weed is not. My dad was very anti weed for a while. he said how everyone he knew you smoked weed growing up is now dead. but with it being in the media more and stuff he hasn't really said anything so is mind might have changed but maybe not.

He is kind of a functioning mind-alcoholic but I don't really like to use that term. He also smokes a lot. And when he gets angry he yells and argues a lot, he holds grudges, and frequently blames current problems for stuff my mom did when I was young regarding parenting. This tends to last anywhere from a few hours to a week then suddenly everything goes back to normal.

So what do you think I should do / expect. 

He's at the store right now I'll update when he gets home",4.384228730118654,5.711283888412019,4.94842716485736,83.99649078515527,70.63090128755366,8.572481696541278,25.723049734915428,9.007467420416297,1.817610653875284,938,28,189,18,17,300,145,233,0.119,0.853,0.028,-0.9745,3,0,5,0,0,0,38.0,0,4,0,0,13,5,1,0,11,0,21,0,0,4,0,39,33,24,1,8,9,5,0,1,0,4,0,3,3,0,9,10,0,1,4,0,1,2,5,2,1,0,10,3,17,3,21,17,6,34,0,0,0,0,24,9,0,6,23,114,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764610297019986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299987191428923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059899421291952,0.0,0.12040892807520655,0.0,0.0,0.19807572709971047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731082557573602,0.0,0.0,0.13625141480050762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283488020622936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307219712567682,0.11575551485281756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177192190326759,0.0,0.0,0.14122057547457045,0.0,0.0,0.13458348436692133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301168438704568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25839018707805955,0.0,0.12684028000186726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341235025745818,0.0,0.10498772133417708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292429339346238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21899924309710306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293951009263522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663453361381664,0.26009892623754405,0.15084689211570415,0.1028054923452412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619488698945142,0.0,0.0,0.13515204196541172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301515595565156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232424803197574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502284662074415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999295682434036,0.24503316040476866,0.0,0.0,0.2607013039199051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991551448566187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948862426113316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252868424024536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24417126228376002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112402889185409,0.0,0.10627200168003992,0.0,0.0,0.10331414495375298,0.0,0.11580504748967753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149454402061248,0.0,0.0,0.08294181630036783
parenting,angiethestrange,2019/03/06,"Toddler hitting little Brother Hello!

I am looking for 'it gets better I swear!' and/or ""try this new thing"". My daughter 2.5 years old will hit her little brother (8 months old). She will also push him over, stand on his hands, and poke his eyes. In the past she has bitten him and hit him with things like a drumstick (!). Usually these are unprovoked. I have watched her smack him and then watch him like she is examining an interesting experiment (cue psycho killer fears!!). 

We have tried time outs, talking to her in a very serious discussion about being safe and keeping people safe, yelling, ignoring her and make a huge fuss over him, not letting her near him until she tells us she won't hurt him and none of it seems to change her behavior long term.

Now when it happens she will put herself in her room, read a book, come back and say ""Sorry little brother, I wont hurt you."" and kiss him. Occasionally if he cries for something unrelated to her she will just spontaneously apologize. It really bums me out now because I have noticed a fear response from him with her, sometimes if she gets too close to him, even if she is being nice, he will start fussing and yelling ""MAMA!!"" and try and crawl away from her. :(

I will add it is NOT all the time, there are stretches where she is very nice and doesn't hit him for days then suddenly she will hit him three times in one day. 

Is this normal? will it pass? is there anything I can do?",3.7001086956521734,5.615158068840582,4.01101449275362,87.67891304347826,73.3840579710145,6.9739130434782615,25.768115942028984,7.7425588080867325,1.3029942028985508,1121,38,225,15,23,349,163,276,0.062,0.8079999999999999,0.13,0.962,0,0,1,0,2,0,51.0,2,1,0,1,13,15,0,2,8,0,29,3,2,1,1,35,43,20,0,4,6,4,1,2,0,10,0,3,1,0,11,20,0,4,2,2,0,4,6,6,0,2,0,8,49,9,25,25,3,47,0,2,4,1,52,19,0,4,25,156,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639267161192376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991909358326974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132476290450904,0.09268481679522668,0.0,0.07347768472796512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660438075337957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751120597950275,0.10383117283530856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13240324040329354,0.15547161912743718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961295393535857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790742995968635,0.0,0.2712732357771185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259502693728048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658967071967597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580727653389501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713801952270444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325632369361793,0.0,0.1177756949937896,0.36242649943338173,0.0,0.10667065101302728,0.10121996199710072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045877938136475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621076103651152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641451164556245,0.0,0.0,0.1180997808502174,0.0,0.13723114304957776,0.2529647106686457,0.0,0.081678377461265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506534160770784,0.08356455135364466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117206775389792,0.0,0.0,0.12056871376528668,0.0,0.07721850895123039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585514069757972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973153385625424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279457478112467,0.11921328004125972,0.1349302899015374,0.08531606842706539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688234732373018,0.10535385986133024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015765108971566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085669893604947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24550828889553686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499008105039504,0.0,0.1327534794160009,0.19890980384927576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776212932399648
parenting,RedFreckledLeaves,2019/03/06,"3 y/o needs to be sedated for dental procedure and I’m extremely nervous. Any advice would be appreciated. My 3.5 y/o has her first cavity. It’s not deep but it is in a molar. Her pediatric dentist said it should be a very quick filling. This dentist office has a stellar reputation so I am going to trust their judgement. But I’m extremely nervous for my kid. She gets panicked at the dentist. We had to be taken to a private room during her check up today because we were “that” family with the scared, crying child (the staff were all very understanding and gentle with her). They will be giving her a conscious sedative to make her calm and drowsy. Some type of liquid medication. They used the word narcotic but I’m blanking on the exact drug. I will not be allowed in the room during the procedure, which freaks me out but I understand there reasoning. 

I guess I’m just looking for advice or stories from parents who have been here before. This is all new us. She has never been alone with strangers or had any type of procedure. ",2.5007674737323,5.156772180904525,4.007074006395616,82.444818410233,80.95979899497488,6.83426222019187,25.628369118318858,8.00094639256281,1.912023115577889,820,33,148,16,22,271,123,199,0.08900000000000001,0.82,0.092,0.158,2,1,1,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,3,1,5,6,0,3,12,0,23,6,0,4,4,35,39,10,0,3,9,1,0,0,0,4,6,1,2,2,8,9,0,0,4,0,1,2,3,4,0,1,8,2,21,2,20,21,3,16,0,0,1,0,20,9,0,4,5,105,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360357833245526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178078106033337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23385035028750906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481309898982466,0.0,0.14630837496073915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886814404050267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939594750307735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16208983934411836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625217506653446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983161418627664,0.1649406268826341,0.0977175304397274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941142277529932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443863934448471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477136274940153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321157812782045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749141757144933,0.13261081744201475,0.1660608357235638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909191513807463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678307611501784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635544244664792,0.0,0.17214205158551038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297912579711768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579914496690545,0.20682278944880705,0.14850105513476244,0.0,0.2837372059025425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214132539771128,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jimmyolsenblues,2019/03/06,"Is there a specific subreddit for support for parents who have older children out of the house who are estranged? I am specifically talking about estranged children.  Not about bills. Not about christmas dinner.  I haven't seen my daughter since 2016.  She is 24 soon to be 25.  It has gone from bad to worse.

I got a 6 page letter from her and suffice to say, we won't be meeting anytime soon.  

I did the best I could for my daughter, she went to college and graduate school debt free.  But somehow I am the awful person.  Somehow it's all my fault.  My daughter takes no responsibility at all for our fall out.  We used to be extremely close. 

I am almost not even looking at this point to make amends.  We need some serious chunk of time apart.

I suggested a phone call, and we only talk about the last movie we saw and the last meal we ate. Simple conversation. Nothing heavy.  She declined.  

I am more looking for a specific subreddit for estranged parents who realize their child was acting like a chameleon getting what they want.  When they got what they wanted. They abandoned their parents.

Thanks.  ",2.760686991869917,5.602786717073169,3.282713414634145,86.7408180894309,81.82926829268294,5.758130081300813,27.566056910569106,7.1686216300943375,1.6489715447154465,867,39,157,12,24,270,126,205,0.101,0.8190000000000001,0.08,-0.5267,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,7,0,6,1,11,9,0,0,10,1,17,3,0,2,2,31,35,6,0,4,4,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,8,13,3,1,1,0,3,4,6,4,0,0,9,5,30,6,24,21,6,18,0,1,4,0,39,7,0,4,8,110,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154427954162514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876634201229273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184322381543695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15747474234616807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313124488591537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186013074889637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057301150130244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24668588928066065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794790786975806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25141797801850724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07534356595316248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259010074460857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029423150701927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143513622386964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479771964309794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729042486019844,0.0,0.0,0.5137255225578409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346579973222676,0.0,0.0,0.1457867109898521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264106130689513,0.0,0.15607776286928934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757146995340254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500578318779306,0.0,0.0,0.115953422038239,0.2479106245364993,0.0,0.14198404562732256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992628234991995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319561639533195,0.0,0.0,0.1819246089526438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296246784005198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716223712325406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lennywrites,2019/03/06,"Secondary survivors/parents of children who have been sexually abused, should be just as encouraged and empowered to speak up (of course in a way that protects your child and your family’s privacy). 
The #metoo Movement has brought a lot of awareness and encouragement for survivors to speak up. To no longer be silenced by an act done to them- an act that they had no choice in the matter.
But, what do we do when those survivors are children? Children who are not old enough to make an informed decision about sharing their story or not? Who don’t have a voice or platform to bring awareness, knowledge, perhaps the most significant of all, share the signs and red flags that ultimately could lead to prevention of an abuse ever being made?hat could impact even one family- either by simply feeling safe, informed, and empowered to not only listen to these brave little ones but Believe them? That this very act will disrupt the old ways of being that do not work anymore or apply to the direction in where we are as a whole, headed. “Don’t air your dirty laundry.” “It’s not happening anymore so let it go.” “I don’t believe you.” “What did you do to provoke this?” “What will this do to our family?” “This will shame our family name.” “Our family will be torn apart.” The list goes on and on. An outdated socially accepted way of being that serves the opposite in what movements like #metoo are out to do. 

What if the red flags and signs I missed provided the prevention in a single act of child sexual abuse? What if by empowering and encouraging families and secondary survivors to speak up and share their stories, that that becomes the new norm and the annual percentage of reported incidents of abuse lower by half in a single year?

What if by removing the tape, we actually are standing up to the abusers and preventing them from performing any kind of abuse or at least deter them in a drastic way as they now know that parents, guardians, trusted ones are listening. Believing. Are educated and know what to look out for. Who won’t be silenced- because the impact of us remaining silent only strengthens the abusers ability to feel freed up to fulfill on their actions as “they” know that we still live in a world where this is simply not talked about. In fact, you will be attacked, judged, be told horrendous things like how you’re taking advantage of your own child’s abuse, and so on. They know that by sexually abusing a young child, they have years and years before anything potentially could happen to them and I do not use the word potentially lightly. Given the statistics on how many people actually make reports, given how so many and still, so little, have spoken up with the #metoo movement, with regards to abuse that occurred 10, 20, or even thirty years ago, these abusers basically hold a “get out of jail free card” in their pocket.",8.39733542747883,8.19196308413002,7.758887599016662,72.70378346080307,61.56214149139578,11.14255667850314,37.225416552854405,10.608840637214634,3.9597971046162255,2275,97,395,48,28,712,246,523,0.14400000000000002,0.759,0.098,-0.9904,6,0,0,0,10,0,59.0,8,7,14,4,19,19,1,1,34,0,47,1,1,8,3,83,70,39,0,7,19,1,2,2,0,7,0,6,0,7,35,26,0,6,11,0,1,13,13,3,0,4,8,12,32,17,76,42,10,66,0,1,3,0,58,33,0,10,17,291,67,4,0.0,0.7466136802048579,0.1118048032334083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050780154918765585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03895611635423684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136236807107615,0.0,0.0,0.04714109992075045,0.0,0.0,0.06517054624594794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03492071980799466,0.06326735346564598,0.04874575617750792,0.1936234841826991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721347325290034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586229735848125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591912530377595,0.0,0.07567308816972941,0.0518180303032135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240221261280519,0.0,0.05793055784498314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029929318559728742,0.0,0.032556679782420946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013147880042436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058791467902866476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059654051220090064,0.1259304892512445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05857832293169921,0.0,0.055973620566526334,0.11483027610865547,0.0505841615369374,0.0,0.04810540703565946,0.0,0.0,0.04870209849169036,0.0,0.054204941834131375,0.07647705561959686,0.11615704700448835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055326709841362204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202230284646974,0.0,0.1164544478064198,0.0871364349982143,0.0,0.0,0.06360878798168537,0.0,0.0,0.03971456496629082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05839537103107975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914965766662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04307157994481847,0.04604392908892485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0380579524213148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054738766958621815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689074242614544,0.049476294351873375,0.0,0.04726655142306155,0.0,0.1818823097146621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395723458729605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04170453906089642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475599805520474
parenting,Gotti5654,2019/03/06,5 Year Old Daughter told she would need to repeat kindergarten My daughter was born in November so she is one of the youngest in her class. We were told she would need to repeat kindergarten because of lack of reading comprehension. She has passed ALL her tests with flying colors. I feel as well as her teacher that she has come a long way since the beginning of the school year. She even has an IEP teacher that helps her after school for extra help and agreed with me that she shouldn't get left back. I have spoken to the teacher and BOE to no avail. She is in a private school which has more rigorous material and is already reading. Did I set her up for failure?  Any advice?,3.873863636363637,5.832069568181822,3.8400000000000034,88.90500000000002,73.01515151515152,6.315151515151516,26.393939393939394,6.980632752743323,1.1053393939393945,541,19,106,5,11,165,83,132,0.077,0.8540000000000001,0.069,-0.2624,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,0,1,15,22,6,0,6,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,1,1,5,2,19,1,19,14,4,19,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,0,10,76,23,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401268252074594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18521716866384572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413791376505487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905968342242485,0.0,0.10231456518444884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14458051230883082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11085766780898064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486565954813262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769020889438961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250011172476941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18236018216420133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14853436545730178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24890455638256026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612132496345434,0.0,0.1137336826256862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357736588847254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5095934001258876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388401480934765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207593183014564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322469822728686,0.0,0.0,0.1509095837897696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23845944294295335,0.0,0.0,0.2161687292217852
parenting,C4D4N13L,2019/03/06,"Ear infection and high dosage penicillin prescribed concern Took (10 month old, 19 lbs) baby to a walk-in due to high fever.  Was in the office for no more than 5 mins.  Doctor looked at his ears, asked me a few questions, gave me a prescription and I was out of the office. 

He was prescribed with amoxi oral suspension 250mg/5ml.  Was directed to give this to baby 6ml/ 3 time a day.  When I dropped the prescription off, pharmacist asked what it's for and muttered 'that's a high dosage for ear infection'.  

Should I be concern about giving my baby such a high dosage for an ear infection?  Is such high dosage necessary? For such a little person, I am really concerned about giving him anti-biotics. ",4.894809160305343,6.627022335877864,5.01212977099237,82.46063740458015,69.91603053435114,8.293435114503817,28.367175572519088,8.841846274778883,2.276388702290076,550,20,100,10,10,172,83,131,0.019,0.938,0.044,0.4515,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,11,0,8,9,4,0,0,7,16,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,5,9,0,18,8,2,19,0,0,1,0,11,10,0,1,7,60,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26820298418867605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925100068386875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468217957335441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4128158696020042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7577863519150967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376933929281493,0.0,0.0,0.12045747550732196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449624325514318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052115135381092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525043628573926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069096620301945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918943898731278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364379629771533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937241245441192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Linajackie222,2019/03/06,"Screen Addiction & Harm Occurring To Developing Children  The growing #screen\_addiction among #kids is pretty scary as well as #dangerous. #Parents should use #BlurSPY #hidden\_screen\_recorder to #monitor their #kids’ #phone use and #restrict their #phone time. It will come in handy to #protect\_online as well.   
[Screen Addiction & Harm Occurring To Developing Children](https://www.blurspy.com/screen-addiction-harm-occurring-to-developing-children/)",15.9,19.465767000000007,10.320000000000004,47.79000000000002,45.66666666666666,15.333333333333332,50.0,13.816669648895859,8.6165,380,21,38,14,4,102,38,60,0.156,0.7040000000000001,0.139,-0.4767,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,2,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,3,2,0,2,0,6,6,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,2,2,2,9,4,0,5,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,0,1,19,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999701683636389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969212112027987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975328971374697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25462501667861664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332938223957924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371428985572528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3961057166556661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4123599621521356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,d0k74_j0n35,2019/03/06,"Anyone else's kid speak in the 2nd person? My daughter (2.5yo) speaks in the second person.  She refers to herself as ""you"" most of the time (and by her own name in 3rd person the rest of the time).  She'll call the people she's talking to (mostly adults because she's an only child) ""me"" or ""I"", or by their name.  

So for example, I'll say ""Do you want to pick a book?"" and she'll respond ""No, you want Dada to do it.""

It's actually pretty logical.  She's spent most of her life hearing people refer to her as ""you"", so she figured that's what she's supposed to be called.  I'm not worried about it.  She'll figure it out some day.  But it's cute and I haven't met any other kids before that speak this way.",0.4168008948545889,2.2933653557047013,2.539033557046981,94.55132438478748,83.36241610738256,4.778702460850113,17.987024608501123,5.6839178017228535,-0.457435257270693,534,12,122,3,15,180,89,149,0.0,0.921,0.079,0.8421,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,4,1,0,3,1,0,0,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,22,13,10,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,1,5,0,7,10,4,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,5,22,1,19,7,6,8,0,0,0,0,38,4,0,6,3,80,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.187139548129404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040996094217855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408982167276656,0.19649070318843276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690101920896573,0.0,0.16318187627844458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3916365762778609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367558124179932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019896333818806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161383708655184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545259886273564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584948588595545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658979051707404,0.5023376725754286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950987107140936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525029495070782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413720760842922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22364488941026595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22622145599159266,0.1522178487344428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947514224648368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tanclan,2019/03/06,"My 5th grader is being told he can't go on the end of the year field trip because he couldn't find friends to share a room with. There are others rooms available. Should we fight this or drop it? My 5th grader is on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum. This is his second year in the gifted and talented program and he loves it. He has made 3 quirky friends, which may not sound like a big deal but his birthday parties from kindergarten through 3rd grade were family only because he knew no one would come. 

The 5th grade has a field trip every year. It's 3 days away doing fun activities like ziplining, rock climbing, hiking, and things of that nature. My son wasn't sure about going at first because new things make him nervous but my older kids convinced him to go and he's excited about it. He went to all of the meetings and the last meeting was where they had to finalize their groups. They sleep in a cabin and there are 4 boys to a room. None of my son's friends are going on the trip because of other issues (one has sensory issues and hates the outdoors, another has autism and OCD, and the other has a mom who doesn't feel comfortable with her son going if she can't chaperone because he has meltdowns) but my son put himself out there and found a group. Two of the three boys are friends with my older son because they have played flag football and baseball together, so it was probably a pity invite but my son didn't care. He had a room with kids he knew would be nice to him because of his brother. During the meeting these two boys told my son that he couldn't be in their room anymore because the 3rd kids best friend decided to join their group instead. My son said ""okay"" and searched for other groups. When he couldn't find one he told the coordinators that he didn't have a group and they called up the kids who only had 3 people in their groups. There were 2 groups of boys that only had 3 people and all 6 of the boys said they didn't want to share with my son. From what my son says the teacher tried to convince them but they all said that he was weird and they didn't want him in their rooms. 

My son was told that he can not attend this trip because he does not have a group to room with even though their are two beds on the boys side not being used. There is room but those boys don't want to share with him. My son suggested sleeping in a sleeping bag in the room of the two boys who invited him to join their group originally but was told that wasn't allowed because the maximum is 4 to a room. 

My son is extremely disappointed. He is such a shy kid and for him to find a group, get kicked out, go searching for another group, tell the coordinators that he didn't have a group, get turned down by 6 boys who all said he was weird, try to come up with another solution, and continuously get rejected showed a lot from him. In the past he would have just left the room when it became overwhelming but he wants this bad and was willing to fight for it. 

I want this for him. It's a trip that my older two kids still talk about and I know he would enjoy it. He had a group and planned ahead. He was told last minute that his group dropped him in favor of another kid who came in last minute. Their are spaces available and we already paid. The school offered a full refund. Should I just take the refund and shut up? I know this may not seem like a big deal and we could do something similar but it was a way for him to experience something with his classmates. I don't know how many more of those opportunities he will have and he really wanted this one bad. Am I overreacting or should I go to the school about this?

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parenting,datto75,2019/03/06,"Advice on 12 year old that has terrible grades and doesn't seem to care much? Hi Everyone, 

We have a 12 year old daughter in the 7th grade that we have to constantly have to force to do her school work.  She talks and plays at school rather than doing her in class assignments, and then takes 4 or 5 hours to do her homework when we get home.  My daughter goes to a small catholic school that has pretty bad teaching with teachers losing assignments (we find them graded in our daughter's backpack).  The principal told me that of the 16 kids that were interested in joining the school soccer team, only 5 are eligible to play because of grades.

So this next year we are sending her to a new school where she doesn't know any kids and the school is highly rated.  

I am conflicted with what to do for her.  She is very young for her grade (she will be 16 at the start of her senior year) and she is very immature.  What I am thinking of doing is making her retake 7th grade at the new school so that she can have some extra time to mature and figure out how to be more responsible.

On the other hand, she has way more homework to do than when I was in 7th grade and a lot of other kids are doing poorly in the school so maybe holding her back won't benefit her much.

Any thoughts?  I am tired of the almost nightly 6pm to 10pm homework sessions of me yelling at her for not paying attention or doing her work.

​",5.414666528583262,5.512752707746478,5.592195526097765,84.72430405965203,67.69718309859155,8.51333885666943,28.325600662800326,8.124751697461798,1.651286909693455,1115,33,231,13,17,353,143,284,0.059,0.8740000000000001,0.066,0.2605,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,6,0,1,4,9,8,0,0,14,0,34,2,1,2,0,33,44,16,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,2,1,1,4,3,11,15,0,2,7,4,2,1,4,3,0,0,4,2,33,5,40,36,7,38,0,1,0,0,37,16,0,6,20,159,44,28,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981094762068574,0.0,0.0,0.09203208761457854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958174042176436,0.11167767515969944,0.12500050651133107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706711962126925,0.07673892550187489,0.05602596039151704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370582398242963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931935932599084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782155712615418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400179212342593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0480178766472211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710532232829522,0.09219071855904627,0.0,0.09051037648012668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05050995971494369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282098612588957,0.0,0.07813647187348444,0.0,0.0,0.0613489715069168,0.0,0.0923334393408444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512517851269934,0.0,0.0,0.17752967700599742,0.09774467144075,0.08624896499138307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928829264673212,0.0,0.0,0.06989979706475441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350297125609257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7441223928645749,0.0,0.08366913835529567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505260322438437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691030037541209,0.07387176901248589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889061645783297,0.0,0.07296429071591502,0.05359200373380399,0.10563415383710477,0.0,0.08782155712615418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166662957879734,0.0,0.07295189744097423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13381951268011014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167767515969944,0.2367416728875492
parenting,rebelweezeralliance,2019/03/06,"Going away party for a 3.5 year old? I’m posting this on behalf of my wife who is having trouble with her Reddit account.  Just to be clear!  Please help!

My daughter is 3.5 (well, 4 in June) and has been in preschool since she turned two. She does very full days there (9am-5:30pm m-f) and between two classrooms, summer camp and aftercare she has made friends. One boy named Quinn in particular she is over the moon for since the get-go. 

We are moving to Texas from NYC next week and we’ve been trying to get her to understand what’s going to happen, though I know she won’t really process it. 

She knows she’s going to a new school. She knows she’s moving to Texas. She still thinks Quinn is going to come to her birthday party at a bouncy place here. She doesn’t grasp the move entirely and doesn’t get that her friends aren’t coming with her. This is actually the hardest part for me, but I know this is the best age to relocate. 

Her teacher wants to have a going away party for her and I have no idea how to handle it. I don’t know if this would be special or make her scared and isolated. I don’t know if we should be reminding her that Quinny isn’t coming. I don’t think we’ve outright said “your friends are staying here.” I’ve said we’re going to a new school and can video chat with her friends. 

I’m rambling but I really don’t know how to handle this. Do you think a going away party would be good or bad? How should we approach this as we get very close?",2.0418041804180405,3.8595664257425777,2.9622442244224416,93.81276127612765,77.8118811881188,5.809020902090207,20.7931793179318,6.605766666666668,0.1401344334433441,1149,29,254,10,27,364,148,303,0.052000000000000005,0.809,0.139,0.9767,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,4,2,0,1,10,11,0,1,11,0,34,0,0,5,1,51,67,19,0,7,7,2,0,0,4,5,0,2,0,1,12,19,0,0,13,2,1,14,10,3,1,3,5,2,37,8,34,53,3,39,0,0,0,0,40,12,0,4,11,159,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.08676332812193703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506015965665111,0.0,0.07423613070263965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330555274570401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297642600141459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05733959039237148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780573436411048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27476656135046146,0.0,0.18580720767372444,0.0,0.4042367853733092,0.07457348414433855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862281351960755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059594494422992965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036856036881686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420382501660657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412878549353685,0.05934811098115676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834917569096416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173965128678578,0.09455678662564547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329608178567636,0.0,0.0602477125256352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962808586191424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289201955870104,0.09759647356558723,0.0,0.0,0.0851511966695802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139160368644244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914752778338765,0.0,0.08901441385102099,0.17996331996499584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709453059534086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476622309617873,0.07100363556609136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090980119662602,0.08735361707897439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06036404930241384,0.09670854165436077,0.17370428881746858,0.09255843869195077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672011189895215,0.052441417676312406,0.0,0.07131823372442524,0.0,0.07994076171306462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631821669516166,0.0,0.0,0.05725512071058472
parenting,Ioannis112,2019/03/06,"Do you think it is too self centered if I ask my mother if she could pay half of my first vehicle? So I am not a parent but I need to hear the opinion of parents. I am 20 years old and I live with my older brother far away from home. We share the expenses fifty-fifty. I am a full time student as well. I was thinking that it is about time I got a drivers license but I cannot pay full for a used car my myself. My mother doesn't pay much for us since we live by ourselves. Do you think it would be too egotistical of me to ask her to share just the price for buying the car with her? I will be paying for insurance, gas and everything by myself.
Thank you ",1.3033568075117363,2.692414992957751,3.1517605633802823,93.54247652582164,78.64788732394365,6.141784037558686,21.6924882629108,6.816661863887847,0.300223474178404,507,14,120,5,12,170,86,142,0.05,0.863,0.087,0.797,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,3,0,1,6,4,0,0,8,0,15,0,0,1,0,20,25,8,0,5,6,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,4,6,0,0,3,0,7,2,3,0,1,2,2,1,27,4,18,18,3,13,0,0,0,0,20,5,0,3,6,89,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341925031726231,0.0,0.16793058588271986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270804739708115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063852524514094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203476943681946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429534055806599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145113757010724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928916234708986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31565851738990003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139327063616651,0.13253223937921338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18755585626134588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39693562366563145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646310525333115,0.0,0.0,0.14785422983007582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455828032752245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34358499835532186,0.0,0.0,0.20844756626518327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150002561932792,0.15437256689185594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607072636525231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697061248559655,0.0,0.0,0.11510165255267032
parenting,Saximus978,2019/03/06,"My Curiously destructive son's Birthday is coming up. He is a great little kid, but a handful also. He likes to play with trucks and play doh, kinetic sand and things like that because he is like a little scientist and always seeing what happens if he throws something or mixes 2 things together, always making a mess while at it. I need to know what would be a great toy for my curious little son, he gets so unruly when his mind isn't being challenged and engaged. I would greatly appreciate suggestions that your kids have enjoyed, his birthday is this week. Thank you so much.",7.660030581039756,7.546419238532112,7.6252752293578,72.74996177370032,63.03669724770642,10.202446483180431,34.68042813455658,9.725611199111238,3.3544850152905203,463,18,79,8,6,149,77,109,0.043,0.627,0.33,0.9902,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,1,4,14,1,0,5,0,10,1,1,1,0,15,18,12,0,4,3,2,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,6,0,0,1,3,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,3,8,12,6,14,1,10,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,2,6,50,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135257663994346,0.2733422923043225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012673217952137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14148888976097224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581509431141437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5432665182685925,0.0,0.0,0.14524784569308144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026881776652823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407362625855579,0.4938721351642762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963974551504906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584809042779167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074440549616712,0.12179106567208073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088788870213794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264495141786369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15122153236171254,0.0,0.0,0.21824397837971024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175335940534708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23336036991589515,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bmerrill07,2019/03/06,"Was this pop superstar's dad in the wrong? (Check out the video) **We think she handled this a bit wrong, but maybe dad did too?**

[**https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgmkJPXQHpE&t=14s**](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wgmkJPXQHpE&t=14s)",16.18,19.415627,3.061481481481483,78.45666666666669,112.33333333333331,4.162962962962964,14.111111111111107,5.82211442006289,-0.4056222222222221,207,3,24,2,9,40,23,27,0.18,0.82,0.0,-0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.623245560867813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139930759817477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889405524803498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842873760222591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6289076555944175,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaytoday0306,2019/03/06,"SO wanted to punish 4 year old’s minor behavior issue by not sending him to school As far as four year olds go, ours is pretty well behaved. However, we have to frequently scold or correct the same issue over and over because he doesn’t listen the first time. This morning he was annoying his 2 year old sister. I asked him to stop. He didn’t. I told him, again, to stop. He did, but several minutes later was back to annoying her. 

My SO came in the room to scold him. He told him that he shouldn’t be told multiple times to stop and that if he was going to act this way at home, he wasn’t going to go to (pre) school and act the same way (he behaves very well at school and has never had issues). I interjected and said punishing a child by not sending them to school is ridiculous. School isn’t a “for fun” activity like going to grandmas you can just forego. Now my SO is all pissy and told me “everything’s about what *I* want” and is accusing me of being selfish (???). 

Was i out of line?",2.3252358765288292,3.947821762376236,3.9401572510192175,87.9773820617356,76.42574257425744,7.129178800232964,23.26849155503785,7.928766900206844,1.0993531741409437,764,23,163,12,17,255,115,202,0.158,0.772,0.07,-0.9602,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,1,1,1,10,10,5,0,6,0,20,0,0,0,3,27,35,15,0,4,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,5,10,0,3,0,0,0,10,8,6,2,2,14,2,20,4,27,18,3,38,0,0,0,0,31,8,0,2,19,105,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494770219142704,0.0,0.0,0.07809568380289487,0.0,0.06191186681376154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161610241028154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912782824907793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638944245719955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886029889518589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187597765404584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31801617939011945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049618555411412725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833165269095911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197198754999335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332609138057164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660967800745132,0.0,0.0,0.5139359298598546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473728992834024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547336663565857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844441306363625,0.0,0.0,0.3881912249375639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380011788246255,0.11980898668411714,0.16123197627008104,0.0,0.0,0.1826346822794785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620974123408733
parenting,sleepayearstraight,2019/03/06,"Today, I deleted every single video of my daughter as a baby. This just happened about 2 hours ago. A few years ago I decided to stop using social media for awhile so I took her videos from Facebook and downloaded them onto my Chromebook.

Not being very tech savvy or good with planning at all I never moved them from the download folder, which apparently prevents them from being synced with your Google account.

Today my keyboard stopped working on the book, preventing me from signing in, and after 30 mins of brainstorming I figured out how to change my password to avoid the keys that weren't working. Still the book either needed me to use my old password or wipe local files (aka downloads.)

I had no clue I was about to trash the most meaningful videos I had of my daughter. Even after poking around on Google I was certain they were synced to my account.

Anyways... after an hour and a half of crying and panicking and reading that Chromebooks are basically a dead end for getting files back I figured out I could get them back by downloading my videos from my old FB account (though they were deleted for several years.)

TLDR; I'm a careless idiot, Google let me down, FB keeps all your deleted stuff if you ever want it, and I am saving several copies of all my important stuff from now on.",5.7975526506899095,7.197310716049382,5.669479544904384,79.87461873638347,67.35390946502058,7.692955700798838,31.57806826434277,7.928766900206844,2.3304085693536667,1036,42,177,12,17,323,147,243,0.105,0.846,0.049,-0.9288,1,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,6,3,14,6,1,1,11,0,13,0,0,3,6,42,23,13,1,4,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,11,0,6,4,7,3,2,4,3,0,1,8,0,35,3,39,11,7,36,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,4,23,136,42,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23609291685167014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185488190952911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20479778534029586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087535312481378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632476795790684,0.0,0.14628011007661498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794838208490775,0.0,0.0,0.08795699885981821,0.12045916302702075,0.1122007922551478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13915081845364632,0.0,0.0,0.11169600451503006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776108136335682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26228966887243993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836690130419104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617452671568314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153778170654266,0.0,0.09874327240795,0.1027082945687646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794773421662275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332052347635995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300886575659902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574922624220187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634909297550613,0.2226708237086497,0.0,0.0,0.3048937408858824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308380601980773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524576559261392,0.0,0.1479558781166974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23003085885090385,0.0,0.10987853436880902,0.07854664285512877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389752332564952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151319385909555
parenting,DogCock88,2019/03/06,"Not sure if I want to be a parent anymore OK so first thanks for reading my post! :)

As the title says I need some advice on how to become childfree. I have a son who's 5 and after doing some soul-searching and some reading online and after getting interrupted during sex one too many times I finally came to the realization this life is not for me, I can't fucking stand parenting it's not for me I made a huge mistake I busted up my cooter for no reason just because it seemed like the thing you're supposed to do. The screaming. The diapers. The constant need for food and attention and holy fucking shit you leave them alone for a few hours and you got everyone on your case, he's locked in the car Brenda he's not going to starve! Please just give me one afternoon to myself to go get hammered, that's all I need, I'm coming back and driving him home right afterwards I swear. I'm at the end of my rope here. I'm done with parenting and I'm done lying to myself. He already burns a hole in my pocket with the food and the diapers and he's only 5, I can only imagine how much food and diapers he'll consume when he's older. The little fuck keeps growing, honestly I've woken up in the middle Of the night screaming because it scares me. 

I'm done. I'm out. I need this fucking crotch goblin out of my life ASAP, obviously going through adoption is yet more hassle, I can't go to prison, I'm scared to shit if I dump him off somewhere he's gonna start telling people my name and where I live and I'll have cops at my door FORCING me to raise the little fuck, threatening me with all sorts of trouble if I don't cooperate and give him food and diapers and videogames and fucking Barney the Dinosaur wallpaper, honestly sometimes I just wanna off myself because that's the only way out of this mess without jail. Sit him down, blow my head off, and make him watch so he KNOWS it's ALL his fault and he's RUINED my life. Fuck you kid, just fuck you. I'm done. I'm out. Any advice would be appreciated.

Tldr have kid, don't want anymore",2.3077707540476027,4.1516328687350885,3.8933122621428105,87.319331097207,77.1145584725537,6.439037605624717,24.45081597110236,7.329194593529364,1.076947313423208,1608,55,329,20,37,535,205,419,0.16,0.765,0.07400000000000001,-0.9862,3,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,5,1,1,14,26,11,2,21,1,19,20,4,5,5,69,63,28,0,12,12,4,0,1,0,3,3,3,2,2,11,28,4,1,5,2,0,9,10,20,0,3,8,4,46,6,48,50,9,52,0,1,1,9,33,23,10,8,17,198,57,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829271010991045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328655195867884,0.07808598646073504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811957581043808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035083138434698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441046726419042,0.0,0.12940485716357422,0.07814942803159655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093117687877632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095391700498034,0.0,0.07646697719737527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896502922412997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06267281232198335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761470323385642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07751468403275652,0.0,0.060188856821494136,0.3422555762608265,0.0,0.0,0.523335637709104,0.0739388957715229,0.13575986505458806,0.1608593224931137,0.0,0.05659364691716087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262070148456258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097856471995424,0.0,0.06968485239332922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289519584280523,0.0,0.0,0.03888812779274752,0.0,0.0,0.0749251670169811,0.0,0.0,0.1499407304305427,0.034570012751575584,0.14184124840111334,0.0624828300067282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06695530899871624,0.0472331923719347,0.07174005460943739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201711939264346,0.20987209727818007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640394867677538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589831078518622,0.16144967782287126,0.0,0.0,0.2357135296287227,0.0,0.0,0.04905643063329013,0.0,0.0,0.07767379508017447,0.0,0.0,0.06776901213033915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155932503821989,0.0,0.0,0.07275359325021652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060429092087286126,0.0,0.05627160062853608,0.14168723700861202,0.0,0.0,0.06441771411088996,0.0,0.0,0.14526930095362905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998395740990214,0.0,0.050084655812788335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669094676402819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06184780788643944,0.06514677405776285,0.0,0.0,0.047010141105308816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04126102459062109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347276866651036,0.056166402159467235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821061013045172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05026623872777231,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Special_Buddy,2019/03/06,"Teen denying that she said things, SO and I disagree on how to address it My husband and I took in our 14 year old 2 years ago and I need some advice.

She will often say something and later come back and say ""no I didn't"" ""I never said that"" ect. Most often it happens when it's just the two of us (im a SAHP) but occasionally he will over hear it but he will not back me up when I bring attention to it because he believes that it should be ignored and that I'm petty to call it out and picking fights.

I obviously disagree, I think that she's old enough to take responsibility and believe that if we ignore this behaviour it will only get worse, plus it can highly inconvenience me. (I do agree that some things should be ignored, like eye rolls and ""FINE. WHATEVER'S"") 

For an easy example, I might cook something and ask if she wants some, she will say no, and then when the food is ready and I don't dish her some she will get upset and say that she never denied wanting some when she 100% did. Then we get into a back and forth, normally its me ""oh, I thought you said you didn't want any"" ""I never said that I was just talking about how I was hungry!"" ""OK well when I offered to make you some you definitely said you did not want some"" ""no I didn't!"" Yes you did its fine, here is some of mine but don't deny what you said"", ""I never said I didn't want any"" at this point I will walk away, and turn to my husband and say ""I know for certain she said no when I asked"" husband ""Ya, I know, I heard her"" Me ""well why didn't you say something??"" ""I didn't think it was worth it"" -_- . So how do we handle this? ",2.4281360946745565,3.3556906065088765,3.821853254437873,91.7423775147929,74.88757396449705,6.591431952662723,22.98745562130177,6.742157984588678,0.3900114556213019,1227,32,289,10,25,405,153,338,0.146,0.747,0.108,-0.8954,0,0,3,0,1,0,58.0,5,9,0,0,22,12,1,1,5,2,31,4,1,5,6,73,65,35,0,11,9,3,0,1,0,10,0,16,1,0,28,23,3,3,6,1,1,4,18,5,2,1,23,17,57,7,20,30,10,35,0,0,1,0,53,10,0,14,22,206,85,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694436153397759,0.06979875333930538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107092558532618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722358424033696,0.0,0.07397934580376629,0.1816398851861895,0.0,0.04799951304221947,0.0,0.0,0.17742728873493868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040291298597002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782801816835851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136004463232183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521339474764423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234160742777889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963001500138115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887463310541252,0.0,0.0,0.08319372221366976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505331410713486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865475023777195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03846865908228125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05255993359854779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353128829894027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838512570920091,0.2429182887518789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714902820074554,0.0,0.0,0.16524993913342098,0.0,0.0,0.05988574220614669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443527808707713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992024131299546,0.3757059106947732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185498436474026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05920309989821585,0.06328867752356311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462345528105944,0.10090753975402077,0.0,0.06251120729320217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748365668467646,0.0,0.08564711569976446,0.07691808328093111,0.0,0.0947151956697701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322161047177922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415944352058672,0.0,0.0710511058833046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08024335514278026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014126749099274
parenting,Gingerbeardman13,2019/03/06,"What do you do with your toddler's ""art""? He brings home projects from school on a weekly basis and, in all honesty, its really ugly. ",3.7288461538461526,5.216507269230776,4.456923076923079,86.26307692307695,72.46153846153847,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,1.0239846153846155,103,3,20,1,2,33,25,26,0.125,0.764,0.111,-0.101,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,13,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711644616007387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647785018766374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5762731223498032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45674619957935403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MahonriWY,2019/03/06,"Can my son really be charged with sexual harassment? While in class yesterday, my son made the out of context statement, ""I bet if I wore a dress to school, the boys would be attracted to me."" He was redirected to his work and continued on his day. But the teacher reported it to the principal, who told me that this could be construed as sexual harassment. I lost my mind and demanded a meeting with him and the teacher. They insisted that if this behavior persisted that because of ""the negative effects on other students it would be treated as sexual harassment"". Unfortunately it didn't go much beyond that because of time constraints, but this does not sit well with me. Is the principal right?",7.164744094488188,8.123438259842523,7.604399606299214,68.81793799212599,64.03937007874016,12.649212598425198,38.709645669291326,12.161744961471696,5.393630708661416,557,29,93,20,8,183,81,127,0.121,0.865,0.015,-0.8711,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,1,4,2,7,3,0,9,0,11,0,0,2,0,20,16,10,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,7,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,4,1,0,6,0,13,3,17,3,1,13,0,1,0,0,11,6,0,3,5,74,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32526600254923904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130104905543316,0.0,0.0,0.17205778955427822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23347014824712145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162317883664211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912333261376605,0.0,0.0,0.25244360433781105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693823329176106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961217012231388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091281402216082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278376134993044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700062105618563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556767524629234,0.0,0.0,0.2549297381468799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23987668313488825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422664800556055,0.0,0.0,0.3790406069573066,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jukeboxhero16,2019/03/06,"How do i get my sons teacher to lay off of my son for vaping In class? I am just about to blow my top. My son, Chad is 16 years old and 8 months clean off of cigarettes. I have worked hard day in and day out to convince his principle that he needs to take hits off of his vape at least every half hour, yet his english teacher keeps taking away his vape and sending him to the office. Would they rather him smoke cigarettes? Why do they want my son to smoke cigarette?",3.1732106038291623,4.128626969072169,3.8039764359351977,92.47103092783506,73.12371134020619,7.604712812960236,23.135493372606767,7.957251820313856,0.8109864506627393,364,9,84,5,7,115,66,97,0.014,0.9,0.085,0.7131,0,0,5,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,13,4,0,4,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,16,1,19,11,1,17,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,0,7,52,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580871892279556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35431411256604195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23144435279568265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351802010790213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460748565929641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705215419474481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24416361341264975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192607924666503,0.0,0.0,0.20368459362939345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882486445890152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.413076419649402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202360566705215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24787161889212575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998293190631095,0.0,0.0,0.19513710571965304,0.0,0.0,0.17689607778512614
parenting,ByeFaleesha,2019/03/06,"[Rant] Why do I need to match socks for girls?! Let it be known, before I made this post, I spent 2 days just looking for bulk packs of socks. I am sick to death of pairing socks. Why? Because girls socks all come in 10 packs with each pair having a different colored heel and toe. Or designs. Or cuts. If I want to buy bulk socks, its always under ""boys"" and they are white with grey heels. 

Fine! Perfect! I just bought 4 packs of 12 and am pitching out my entire ""sock basket"" that has been the bane of my existence since my kids were born. 

It boggles my mind how hard it is to find plain white socks for girls that don't have ruffles, or are sheer. 

Rant over, but if you need a LPT: ditch the matchy matchy cute socks and buy hanes boys 12 pack socks and make matching socks the easiest thing to deal with while doing laundry. ",2.6292340791738407,4.337767500000004,2.540309810671257,97.9686746987952,75.80722891566266,5.465748709122203,20.290877796901885,5.773587663045528,-0.30525679862306365,639,14,145,3,14,190,109,166,0.054000000000000006,0.857,0.08900000000000001,0.7805,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,1,1,3,4,1,0,5,0,15,4,3,3,2,30,24,13,1,5,8,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,8,11,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,5,6,12,3,19,17,2,9,0,0,5,0,9,4,0,5,3,76,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19243590922550066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098058944565084,0.0,0.19679449555062545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992193957029222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915059305287134,0.23843013502306445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162885908760276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113774058542462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717329338328186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364901565905861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19420930257736527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188341103121693,0.15437511654399286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23351767343234836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429688726259195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214935857672126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130967210438635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15364610451767222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13640956437658702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173720170612155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,feralwoman821,2019/03/06,"Considering Homeschool I am considering homeschool for my son. It’s not something I’ve ever thought I’d be seriously entertaining.  I’m sure some folks on here have made the switch.. any advice or recommendations?  Public school just isn’t cutting it for us, his test scores are through the roof, but he’s bored most of the time. Along with this there is the rough-and-tumble public school atmosphere. Our school seems to tolerate a fair amount contact between the children and different rules seem to apply to different kids (example 1: my son was pushed up against a wall by 2 other boys who were yelling “we’re gonna rape you. My son pushed one and swung on the other and we got suspended for violence. 
Example 2: my son likes to bring a travel mug with herbal tea and honey. One teacher took onus with that and said he couldn’t have it in her class. So he left it in his locker. Yesterday I was told he wasn’t allowed to bring it at all. There is no rule in the handbook that says he is not allowed to bring a beverage. There are rules against pop and soft drinks.) I have several more but you get the drift. 

Private school really isn’t an option for us as the secular ones are really expensive and we aren’t religious enough to be interested in a parochial environment. Our charter schools tend to offer less than our public ones.

We are in Ohio and in the 5th grade. We are currently in a building that houses 5th and 6th. 7th and 8th are in another building and 9th-12th separator as well. My thoughts were to pull him and homeschool this year and next and start fresh.

Any thoughts or opinions? 

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parenting,LiamNeesonsAccent,2019/03/06,"A little win + a little hope After a frustrating (but successful) potty training/sleep strike month, my 2.5-year-old just *got it.* Twice this week we've sat down in a public place for a meal during which he's not only eating with us but waiting and quietly entertaining himself for a solid 30 minutes. Last night we got to have a last-minute dinner with friends and their two kids we don't see often.

I try very hard to not pull the ""Don't complain, look at how much worse it could be"" thing. *Do* some people have it harder? Yeah. That doesn't make your struggle any lesser.

Part of why I love this subreddit is how it helps me to keep perspective. Child/partner loss, abuse, lifelong health issues, divorce -- I am in awe of the burden so many of you are able to bear. Even if you're struggling to bear it, you *are*, and you are amazing for that. 

I see you Mama/Daddy/Auntie/Uncle/Grand(ma/pa). I hope today is a good day. ",1.5989344262295084,4.003062486338802,2.7446202185792394,91.68217622950822,82.60655737704917,4.971475409836066,20.07896174863388,6.2581,0.13367781420765068,717,20,144,6,20,229,130,183,0.126,0.662,0.212,0.9548,0,0,0,0,2,0,45.0,3,5,1,3,6,15,1,2,10,1,14,5,0,3,0,23,26,9,0,4,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,11,7,3,2,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,2,3,5,17,9,18,21,3,15,0,1,3,1,18,7,0,5,7,89,28,1,0.1423822306884623,0.1686996608511687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968247993628878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368062545718068,0.0,0.0,0.09182475980600276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569256775715608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404212053093024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000415823551174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942345982230225,0.22775215349174244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754651197662242,0.0,0.0,0.1513456531285628,0.0,0.0,0.09543580794186374,0.0,0.0,0.2828353633726379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861005677388314,0.0,0.12655586870423222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23212104302855904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854088006079267,0.0,0.0,0.11956521389718047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850552216976935,0.0,0.09504124460068936,0.14435323414331966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364813812981392,0.0,0.10466732226545432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361607826429714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940619983833492,0.0,0.0,0.10828810242761552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541860807885135,0.0,0.09870991116462416,0.0,0.1487591265564228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269204071383079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424850574326564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976976440244388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459242738285337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496170637540986,0.0,0.0,0.09666818842238004,0.0,0.13908675043533827,0.0,0.17126829245654698,0.0,0.0,0.11748025179147015,0.0,0.0,0.11421043709452396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284778170570445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450996571258164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091689488378567
parenting,fentyaddictt,2019/03/06,"I just turned 30, my daughter is 14 and I don’t know her Most people don’t even know I have a daughter.

I gave birth to a baby girl 14 years ago, my parents would not let le have an abortion. 

The boy who got me pregnant died before the baby was even born (We weren’t together). I decided I wasn’t ready for a baby and decided to give my daughter up to his parents who are wealthy anyway, I used this as an excuse.

My mom kept in touch with the little girl until she was 5 or 6 years old, eventually they moved to another city and my mom lost all contact with them. They were always weird about my mom having contact with the girl anyway and resented me for “giving her away”. 

Idk, recently I found her instagram and her facebook and I’ve been lurking and it’s been quite an experience. I am ashamed of what I’ve done but I really really REALLY didn’t feel comfortable raising a child at that age, I feel like I would’ve been a terrible mother in every sense, yes I was selfish because I wanted to live a normal high school girl life and go to college and do all these things but part of me also wanted to protect this baby from myself and thar selfishness and that’s why I thought giving her up to her rich grand parents would be a better idea.

Im still haunted by the fact I denied her of a mother and denied my parents/siblings of a grand daughter/niece.

I wanna reach out, I’ve thought of messaging her but I don’t know what they have told her about me or how she’s gonna react. I don’t want to ruin her life. Im not afraid of her rejecting me, I’m afraid of hurting her and confuse her.

From what I gather she loves Shake shack, Ariana grande, make up, has a little dog called yuppie, recently visited Israel with her grandma, goes to private school and her best friend is a girl with pink hair who’s IG I also lurk since she’s more active than my daughter and she usually posts about their whereabouts.

Idk what to do

I wanna be in her life but I feel like now it might be too late, she looks happy, I don’t want to ruin that.",3.025987232779098,4.268575900237534,4.3960443883610445,86.97784330463185,73.8456057007126,7.257749406175772,24.557675178147267,7.756953410329674,1.166672743467934,1598,48,335,21,32,530,205,421,0.136,0.7020000000000001,0.163,0.9458,5,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,5,4,14,27,1,5,19,1,34,5,1,4,3,63,63,26,1,9,9,12,5,2,1,4,3,0,0,7,16,22,0,2,12,0,1,4,10,15,0,0,19,7,67,12,46,36,6,31,0,5,2,1,65,12,0,5,16,222,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999062354982242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432673850315836,0.07508532103523115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462250704830064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478165751592058,0.0,0.0,0.055008303080577366,0.0,0.07678596960336438,0.0,0.0946993098879211,0.07980825890077782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214318074858993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365289232501396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234489770453644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920281689413348,0.0,0.0760294841112246,0.0,0.0,0.08827016891845378,0.0,0.0,0.1368812713949644,0.1289322213410414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894140977546337,0.06971772572603901,0.0,0.0,0.25969380014442245,0.0512843869947582,0.0,0.07217164526025234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606012648027078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534149819198456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966017434079869,0.10186782159981073,0.19494524772772492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487774856426058,0.0,0.10179249782107974,0.0,0.0,0.09227456248027112,0.1912134982666201,0.08817154690883024,0.1808845483638969,0.07968188812258407,0.0,0.07577726990112846,0.0,0.09850553667329497,0.0,0.08144340080065453,0.0,0.06023462685425295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957283549818014,0.0,0.3170572867874173,0.0,0.09590881052715416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884141704084752,0.0,0.0,0.09468969745487506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005961652958552,0.09771905956657104,0.0,0.06255973068112017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642314764178023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09597931804442396,0.0,0.0,0.1734264964749056,0.0,0.17819845810395155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826515325649674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464588186745312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206425651823697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05995017837343077,0.0,0.0,0.1432779300778616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622636359367403,0.0,0.0,0.09815313114210024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793673813071375,0.09938450915747574,0.0,0.21289905765955244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142584203304848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19230765364908226,0.0,0.0,0.11622074483861056
parenting,jumpedoutoftheboat,2019/03/06,"I picked my 14 year old daughter up at a park last night after the police called me. She was with an 18 year old boy that she says she met the night before--it was after curfew for the park which is dusk and he could have charged them with trespassing.  She says they only drove around and talked.  This isn't her first brush with this kind of behavior (meaning doing things of which we don't approve). 

She was cutting last Summer a few times, saw a therapist once and claimed she was over it. We've tried harder to be present and available to her and been in better communication with friends and teachers. 

 She seems to be doing very well on the outside.  She was short with me yesterday morning and then sent me a text later apologizing and saying she was feeling down.  I texted back and asked her if she wanted to go do something together and talk after school. She said she'd like that and that she loved me. 

After school she asked if we could do something tonight instead since her female cousin had messaged her and asked her to do something.  Next thing we know is that she's out with an 18 year old and had lied to the police about her age and her name and finally came clean after a few minutes and gave them our numbers.  

We picked her up (shot a couple of pictures of this boy we didn't know) asked her for her phone and drove the 20 minutes home in silence and we all went to bed.  This morning she asked me if she were going to be grounded and I told her I don't know what we are going to do.  I'm at a loss.  I don't want to push her towards cutting again but I definitely don't want to be lied to and manipulated.  

Any and all advice would be much appreciated.",4.635826814135419,5.246209670623145,4.845218505530081,87.60811370380365,69.50445103857567,7.4329107094685725,26.89088211491773,7.1686216300943375,1.1018676557863505,1317,39,280,11,22,413,166,337,0.053,0.884,0.063,0.7393,0,0,3,0,0,0,24.0,8,0,3,4,7,9,2,0,15,0,35,1,0,3,2,59,64,26,0,9,4,2,1,1,1,1,0,4,3,2,14,37,0,0,6,0,0,9,6,3,1,1,21,7,53,6,42,34,5,51,0,1,1,1,68,14,0,4,29,194,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849391249198627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854280728547445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972728459323874,0.471140007332475,0.0,0.0,0.07750372087014598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914336193487735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292108892532573,0.11528052703626085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095027831868344,0.11152571790665168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096405178331972,0.0,0.0,0.11041398349773407,0.0,0.08573461308347158,0.0,0.0,0.07787254781988777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17184923218908205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110376080963022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496056894880268,0.1661798594915916,0.16431976129979067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049242448254783716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909697649688893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979330319646033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409457232376665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071946724813956,0.18917511139653226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31729640846638096,0.1073414292196276,0.0,0.07665774248793028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587737955585496,0.24046430662987697,0.0,0.20401612439186087,0.0,0.09175831020346896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337714612382828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23278650389921995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620274531223893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170286310471908,0.13392499779872055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058773303988741386,0.0,0.0,0.09631218678402093,0.0,0.06843194154049327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316491551107916,0.17835125725648585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062515844231456,0.0934362720416799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160057120320619,0.0,0.0,0.19472247730093603
parenting,Fewshot,2019/03/06,"Passing cold back and forth between kids I have a 2.5 year old and a 1 year old. For the past two months, we’ve all had runny noses, a dry cough, and hoarse voice, every other week.

I’ve basically woken up every morning feeling like a truck hit me, then spend 30 minutes in a hot shower to get things moving. 

Are there any tried and true supplements to take? My kids don’t have the immune systems yet but apparently neither do I!",4.1932945736434135,5.175778639534887,4.95581395348837,85.06108527131785,70.74418604651162,7.128682170542637,25.96124031007752,7.1686216300943375,1.119091472868217,337,10,68,3,6,109,68,86,0.0,0.914,0.086,0.5848,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,0,6,3,1,0,2,8,11,6,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,2,5,4,2,6,8,2,15,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,11,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504227134187285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661899966513548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089653523840419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227148871809692,0.1733827736396928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12679915702826144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118569487131678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19371841691529196,0.25794848506792106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5093393167066639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316817326660932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824779277209128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16123709183735369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477532087558253,0.0,0.23707968781195324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19467688105794528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312577800723503
parenting,robva122,2019/03/06,"How to instantly cure a sick child in the morning Alarm clock goes off..... Mom wake up it time to get ready for school..... Child I don't feel good I can't go to school..... Mom okay, but you need to stay in bed and get your rest  no gameing system, phone or tablet for the rest of the day..... Child. But what will I do..... Mom hears a book, but if you make it to school you can play your game system and watch ytube on your phone when you get home from school all you want..... Child.  I ready for school what's for breakfast",-0.6517460317460291,1.487717,-0.01661375661375608,108.92166666666668,91.96296296296295,3.4560846560846565,11.417989417989418,4.65589566412798,-2.013967724867725,388,4,102,1,14,115,66,108,0.077,0.836,0.08800000000000001,0.2953,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,8,0,0,2,4,0,1,5,1,5,3,1,2,1,13,14,9,0,3,5,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,2,4,4,2,1,0,1,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,3,12,3,16,13,3,13,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,2,4,55,16,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386935531178307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359574407470229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281356041776271,0.0,0.08272087003203563,0.1220825756180122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16404830547445354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460010781162184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971574592467704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5114081721544707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792537363224493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.736534770709217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513965493123566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487286405661712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585066679454872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EatATaco,2019/03/06,"Question about how finances shift when kids reach school age. So right now we have two kids in a relatively expensive day care, where we pay near 3k a month for the 2 of them. We are also not in a great school district and are looking to move before the next school year when my son enters first grade (the daycare also has a private Kindergarten program).

I have been considering a budget, and how much we are willing to spend on a house, where (mortgage/taxes/insurance + child care) would be roughly the same as our current (rent/insurance + child care).

However, I realized that I have no idea what my child care costs are going to look like once they enter school. I assume that number is not going to go to zero, as there will be other things that I have to consider, but I am not sure what.

So what are some typical major or reoccuring expenses that you incur once your kids leave daycare and enter school age? I understand that I'll have to pay for some kind of summer activity, but outside of that I'm not sure what I should be looking at.

Thanks",9.074596205962061,6.76383264390244,8.662113821138213,73.52921409214095,61.585365853658544,11.647696476964773,36.43631436314364,9.994966539143718,3.3798346883468824,832,28,160,13,9,267,122,205,0.065,0.873,0.062,0.0688,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,2,2,1,13,10,0,0,10,0,21,0,0,2,2,28,34,16,0,2,7,1,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,6,12,7,0,0,5,0,8,7,5,0,0,3,1,4,19,10,20,26,5,27,0,0,3,0,17,8,0,5,13,112,31,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888795477279112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517352917450543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4561417395218396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213203946377922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513697116972863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906956229264724,0.0,0.0,0.12331167360855401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905638058322705,0.0,0.1262616092634208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647140242317887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184297863560035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05464277742037624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817698433041639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927518026601876,0.11887562303306877,0.08222038844610514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189505160008368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382267345638476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529419801946978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551669686585522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5659754982952769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108288814452268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297365812604836,0.0,0.0,0.07430615358395533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925823266498524,0.11643663491048975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945287478772982,0.0,0.0,0.07202577832067653
parenting,Marriyah,2019/03/06,"The squeaky wheel gets the oil.. school finally listened to me about my daughter. My daughter is five. And in those 5 years she has been to hell and back. She's had 2 open heart surgeries as a young baby and will need another in a few years. She has a history of food and weight issues, and was tube fed for her first 3 years... And she has low muscle tone and a diagnosed developmental delay. This is amongst a tonne of other issues. She was -meant- to catch up by age 2-3. She didn't. Which brings us on to her school.

She started in 2017. She wasn't making any progress and stayed at the same point she was at in pre school. School refused to do anything, even though her pre school had told them she needs extra support. 

 Every meeting I made 2017-mid 2018 was refused or cancelled by her teacher, and all my daughter's educational issues were put on me. Apparently she wasn't attending school enough and that was apparently my fault, and I was told I needed to boost her attendance. I would understand their concerns.

 Except it was just schools way of copping out because all her absences were medical. I almost broke in 2017 because every medical professional was telling me my daughter needed support in school, and the system dictates school should be making referrals for children. But they were adamant my daughter didn't need any help.

Forward to September 2018... the new academic year. I made school see me on the second week of term, to discuss a way forward. They promised to observe.. and never observed. They shoved my daughter in a special needs class without actually assessing her needs or discussing it with me.

When her behaviour declined it was my fault. When she made no progress it was my fault. I had meeting after meeting to be told all her issues were stubbornness and early years trauma. I was certain it wasn't.
So around Christmas time I started looking around new schools, and told her school that they weren't meeting her needs, and as a result I would most likely transfer my daughter to a new school after Easter and put in complaints so other parents don't have to go through this. At this point every professional except school had acknowledged my daughter had something going on.

We made major progress last week. School pulled me into the office, and I was told they had FINALLY done some forms of observation and assessment on my daughter. And we are definitely looking at a ""specific learning disability"". Diagnoses won't happen for a while yet, but support has been put in place and we're finally getting somewhere. It's a shame it took 1.5 years of fighting, but I'm confident my daughter will get the help she needs now. 

If you're ever facing a battle for your child, don't stop fighting. Remember you are their voice. And eventually someone will get sick of you nagging and do what's needed.",5.4707285714285705,7.334683651428572,5.3295119047619055,80.22969642857143,68.67619047619047,7.84047619047619,32.9345238095238,8.395991825355821,2.687880952380952,2267,104,394,34,40,703,238,525,0.108,0.8490000000000001,0.043,-0.9793,3,0,1,0,4,0,65.0,3,3,8,4,14,20,6,1,21,0,53,10,2,7,6,81,96,37,0,14,10,11,1,1,0,7,5,2,0,2,17,31,3,5,5,0,0,13,12,13,0,3,43,7,68,7,58,44,12,80,1,2,3,0,70,30,1,6,38,273,85,21,0.0,0.0,0.04502000985078579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0461964146019812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627452378179061,0.04837539337080636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037964250576578124,0.08213786440216031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03547410436164381,0.0,0.056245567427739375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936498297335232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047210974340000364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04766862814072773,0.0,0.03047099119461278,0.04173073369359344,0.11660934537855333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516122244045259,0.0,0.03924145289777616,0.0557852681712848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641218820077832,0.0,0.05243789183023236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04079603578800803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466886733094018,0.06184513167141621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19260712990403286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03760526782188668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02253868238584031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774816764929225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17461196261769754,0.061589443347359586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295005672715842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3420768583595253,0.035581290630508786,0.1336691600021751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122621173177522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048200083216203185,0.0,0.08722285263533246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391318683851352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052260690296849696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7003492097102731,0.036762727641361334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0390890849584131,0.035516113035565795,0.0,0.0,0.06530759232752198,0.049172575437813684,0.0,0.03856998758755435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570565334831754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04032304263901077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04532630071394038,0.0,0.026901035149892172,0.0,0.0,0.22041448635729585,0.05125643573253684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048026993798909,0.0554933746910076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323784970081686,0.07401162805331507,0.05617863463366879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444714119176761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554436630136623,0.0,0.0,0.17825222850667022
parenting,Rebelle20,2019/03/06,"Toddler does not want her father to see her naked Good morning fellow-members,  
I would be grateful for your advice on the following. My boyfriend has a toddler girl who just turned 3 years old. When he wanted to give her a bath before going to bed, she told him that she does not want him to see her naked and she closed the door. Her mother was inside the bathroom as well when it happened and was allowed to stay inside to give her the bath. He was very confused because this was never a problem and he has seen her naked many times since she was born (to change her diapers, give her baths etc.) and worried that his daughter is not comfortable around him. I am wondering what could have caused this sentiment all of a sudden?  She is not going to Kindergarten or pre-school and is at home full time with her mother, so she cannot have picked it up at school. Her mother's immediate reply to this was that my boyfriend can only give a bath/shower etc. if his daughter permits it. I should add that they are not on good terms to say the least and disagree on a lot when it comes to parenthood, so frankly I am also a bit nervous that she put this idea in her daughter's head (but maybe I am overthinking this).    


Are there any parents here who have experienced something similar with their toddler? I know toddlers change their mood all the time and sometimes play favorites, but she did not say ""I want mom to give me bath, not you"". Of course I am happy that she expresses boundaries, but she literally said ""I do not want you to see me naked"" to her father which worries me at this age.  


Thank you in advance for your insights! ",6.925865704772477,6.3402811352201285,6.325419903810585,83.02966148723645,64.69182389937106,8.991786903440623,32.542360340362556,7.928766900206844,2.1346675545689973,1283,44,257,12,17,394,163,318,0.06,0.878,0.062,0.6996,4,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,5,3,1,11,11,0,2,13,0,28,1,1,4,3,49,53,19,0,10,14,10,0,0,0,2,0,3,7,1,20,13,0,0,4,5,0,6,10,3,1,0,10,8,50,7,31,39,9,32,0,0,4,0,62,12,0,5,13,180,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705933684469792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943024549656906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675444730773931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842039593262993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054765822819892,0.0,0.08451834330273945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843728273895836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203423666004936,0.21014556864429987,0.08555977763235953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930300910653743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384012631831966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215474807734955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4764084260786973,0.11289748500886565,0.1666183605822873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783285670043638,0.1057334144440936,0.0,0.0,0.1019362064954326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996311724086104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121259464710567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05458647663634807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444264696387674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070006032943332,0.09978541178367842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163283550790766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076605639268625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422498274180823,0.0,0.0,0.07554121327544484,0.0,0.0,0.1102887677058516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504070525010384,0.0,0.09984915790868518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094480914024568,0.1579746101108188,0.0,0.2010446050735423,0.2374477318546243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216274799156423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646531351770018,0.09823506229032834,0.0,0.0,0.1058673395244556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144520607908316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375179130334206,0.0,0.0,0.09490938823331166,0.0,0.0,0.10803718539934096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195360854314146,0.292922583009738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930519214141683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771383254913207,0.0,0.20173891804618505,0.0,0.07055770029696197,0.0,0.0,0.06396210702234455
parenting,StomPaardje,2019/03/06,"How to help your children using the internet. Since there have been some problems regarding kids content being unsafe on the internet. I think it's important that people see this video.

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[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDU77cb0RPQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDU77cb0RPQ)",17.45235294117647,23.95253805882353,8.548529411764708,48.913382352941206,50.764705882352935,9.282352941176473,34.97058823529412,9.516144504307137,4.805317647058823,250,9,21,5,4,60,32,34,0.07400000000000001,0.7929999999999999,0.133,0.2869,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,5,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,1,0,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3727740022056269,0.4180538896988629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306069702688333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23851837208782506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292058268785084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27416034249017224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845986392882312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204509651705684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29714552320448234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180538896988629,0.0
parenting,OwlbearForest,2019/03/06,Getting a kid to stay in thier toddler bed. Suggestions please. We recently switched our 2 and 1/2 year old from a crib to a toddler bed. First night was perfect but night 2 and 3 were nightmares. I'm okay with her having freedom around her room but she is just crying and screaming at the door. We let her cry for 5-10 minutes but then we go in to help her. Last night it took 3 hours to get her in bed. Tonight I had to fall asleep on the floor next to her bed to help. We really don't want to go through sleeping training with her again if we don't need to. Before this she has almost always been a good sleeper with very few issues. Any suggestions?,1.5905299145299168,3.6063754148148135,2.532592592592593,95.40128205128208,80.03703703703705,5.33903133903134,22.97720797720798,6.297961479604792,0.33078917378917394,511,17,113,4,13,161,90,135,0.091,0.754,0.154,0.8502,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,6,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,6,1,10,2,2,0,1,21,18,8,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,2,12,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,5,1,16,3,21,12,1,26,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,2,13,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669131419921296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869709438267355,0.0,0.0,0.11335300455093054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483869380557956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183852085210902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36619610044847456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178403791585753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417435311352372,0.0,0.18946434177279506,0.13980930581627346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345381850803503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415330470886086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739781187531253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13587230657803998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044894428087967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359643864902095,0.0,0.0,0.17727371665727126,0.4692739058762966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491016518133184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829724784336354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067840816216262,0.0,0.16458348996665895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16680756861753024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17766636516892176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851956003327686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375343879211506,0.09831642286091448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073410847410634
parenting,dredoval93,2019/03/06,"Looking for ideas of what to get my son for his 4th birthday. We basically have everything a boy can want at our house. He has a scooter, bike , all different kinds of good toys, bunch of clothes already. He is into PJ masks and Paw Patrol a lot as well as Star Wars. Anyone got anything unique or different ? ",3.41,5.252993333333336,4.233333333333333,86.08500000000002,74.0,7.466666666666668,28.66666666666667,8.238735603445708,1.9670666666666672,240,10,48,4,5,77,52,60,0.057,0.843,0.1,0.1779,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,8,8,4,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,3,10,7,3,2,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,2,0,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807624816791103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789871455470307,0.0,0.20936873006326345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5316364768778574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286592921525701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292569390709102,0.0,0.0,0.21339822606585446,0.2034855865427693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29357037415090703,0.0,0.2872129816817092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649427562800979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136515269513055,0.0,0.0,0.21630162490402208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006547746707632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287571371468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chicken_cider,2019/03/06,"I'm irritated that my child forgets simple math. My child is in first grade. We were working on very simple math homework. 8+2+6=? I asked my kid what 8 plus 2 was. ""I don't know"" was the answer I got. Eventually the answer was 96. 53. Then lots of I don't knows and tears and hyperventilating. I lost my shit. I shouldn't have and I feel terrible. But 8 plus 2? Seriously? My kid knows this stuff and it's like thier brain litteraly shuts off. 95 + 5=? I Don't know! Was my answer. It's like they are trying to memorize the equation and anwer, other than how to get the answer. I'm lost and I'm losing my mind. ",-1.481006493506495,0.4725061590909121,1.7902164502164517,93.42318181818185,101.04545454545456,4.635497835497836,14.61904761904762,6.42735559955562,-0.4420588744588741,471,11,110,7,21,167,77,132,0.159,0.787,0.054000000000000006,-0.9214,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,1,5,1,8,1,0,4,0,12,2,2,1,0,25,25,11,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,9,0,0,10,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,8,1,17,2,9,16,1,6,0,3,0,0,7,4,1,1,4,60,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201171804789578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24022106215535666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880555797721624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830388693224154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242688925879746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17210556387988854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4730469603275914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102600508023006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407404164408159,0.4698064142313609,0.1829452088215517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172786156785504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088746985733052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463388661540377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609857972898807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755270077000904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665948375107572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FeelinShwifty,2019/03/06,"My 4 month old is super attatched and hates being put down. So I am a 26F and I have a 4 month old who is super attached. He's my first and we have co slept since he was born. 

 I've been working on getting him out of the bed since DH and I are ready for our bed back.  It has been a difficult process since he almost immediately wakes up when i set him down.  This happens during the day as well. If I set him down for longer than 5 or 10 mins he starts crying and hollering.  As soon as i pick him up he stops and is happy again. 

Its very sweet but having him on me all day can be hard sometimes. Should I start leaving him to cry for a bit before picking him up so he gets used to it or is this just a phase? Just looking for a little guidance on this one, if you have a LO that does this how do you deal with it?",1.3557621707901042,2.349616407821234,3.0422386272944952,96.02398044692741,77.65921787709496,5.7846767757382285,20.606943335993613,5.773587663045528,-0.24834588986432626,623,14,156,3,14,207,111,179,0.076,0.851,0.073,-0.1188,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,0,4,10,7,1,0,9,0,19,2,2,4,1,24,28,18,0,3,7,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,10,9,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,4,3,21,5,22,21,2,30,0,0,1,0,19,11,0,5,16,105,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601550950379775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980389633821055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325779913666131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009795238519104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422874346974224,0.20096177977703567,0.1606274011586691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363454006880308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252706557996094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280264165647368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377772358318101,0.16585658402129624,0.1395700577127969,0.153824498798919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497426678658894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615684880465255,0.0,0.0,0.1308363791800988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487230258501669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32698082622452396,0.0,0.1055770319756038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15662636390971688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38664880314317773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409444543387918,0.0,0.2205581835566884,0.0,0.0,0.13025937871744225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456489835850205,0.0,0.1285548720113546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400867850699426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342739251863986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,piano0011,2019/03/06,"how to play the piano by PianoCourse101 Hey guys!

PianoCourse101 is now offering free lessons for beginners! It is aimed mainly towards children but adults are also welcomed to learn! There will be lessons for adults in the future if there are enough subscribers and thumbs up! Please share it with your friends if you find the lessons helpful!

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[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O\_N84uslzSY&t=112s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_N84uslzSY&t=112s)",14.693005464480875,20.038153737704924,5.204508196721314,75.85681693989073,52.606557377049185,6.033879781420765,34.756830601092894,7.1686216300943375,2.499948633879782,402,15,46,3,6,87,48,61,0.0,0.71,0.29,0.9686,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,2,0,3,5,5,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,6,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,9,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,2,3,33,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820662481071792,0.0,0.7400354866080007,0.2766418901364357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352422016522219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20808469118506898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589595498588112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254273996317804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260125478024086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24991141333500466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766418901364357,0.0
parenting,Paul_Lateman,2019/03/06,How can I get my son to hate me less? Now my son has said many things to me such as “I don’t want to play football I want to be an artist” and “i should be allowed to follow my dreams” I’ve seen his artwork and it is terrible. Now I’m asking for advice. How can I murder him and make it look like an accident?,-0.6178571428571438,0.9799677857142868,1.9642857142857155,98.7907142857143,85.42857142857143,5.142857142857143,17.142857142857142,6.18269132825596,-0.573285714285714,235,5,61,2,7,81,47,70,0.191,0.6779999999999999,0.131,-0.8299,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,2,0,8,0,0,4,0,10,19,6,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,3,12,2,7,14,1,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,3,41,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405920104730221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258404875015965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820992382242246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441138763658686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17028041660011345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926881866079893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326550392747476,0.3533677141977082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315440379573769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23155636271720115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4111591721252825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovetokki,2019/03/06,"How much money should you be making yearly before having a kid? Hello, I'm just really curious about this! And no, I'm not looking to have a kid anytime soon. I was reading that kids can cost about 300k from birth to 17 years old. It makes me wonder why my own parents had kids themselves when we didn't have money (we were on food stamps for awhile when I was young). I mean, I get it, people love babies but how can one be truly financial prepared for a child? I don't know what thread I should post this in (I hardly use reddit) \^\^; ",1.92518181818182,3.7994238818181856,3.1818181818181834,91.84272727272727,78.36363636363637,5.490909090909091,18.272727272727273,6.2581,-0.18080000000000007,417,8,88,3,10,135,82,110,0.015,0.877,0.107,0.8641,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,1,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,0,15,2,0,5,0,16,26,6,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,6,3,1,0,3,1,3,0,4,0,0,1,5,2,12,1,9,17,2,11,0,0,1,1,11,2,0,1,8,58,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19735847835208653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804551256309523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211757747187933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20776702022540364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274646845473862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476587661278705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093292008535375,0.0,0.3096350638395853,0.0,0.0,0.25264377043345243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049794090842185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433753809692699,0.0,0.1571642635768728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25753490334976914,0.0,0.0,0.16079361004515144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22212835236806255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319964438362948,0.0,0.14858265395366888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031623126796813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928407058202605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25152218156030903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29871537043519103
parenting,Bellybuttonlint_,2019/03/06,"A warning about pedophiles on instagram This is just a reminder to be aware of what’s happening right now on Instagram, especially if you have kids who use Instagram or if you post pictures of your kids. I’ve seen really disturbing pedophile pages that take pictures of young kids and post them with sexual captions and a bunch of other people comment sexual things about the kids. 

After seeing the comments on some of these posts it’s clear that many of them come from similar pages, so this is much more widespread than I thought. I think this is the most common way pedophiles make accounts/posts because the pictures in themselves aren’t pornographic so even if you report them they don’t register with instagram’s algorithm. 

I’ve reported these and each time I’ve gotten a message back that the account doesn’t violate the guidelines so it won’t be taken down. Please don’t rely on Instagram to combat this because clearly they aren’t. I wish you all the best and I want everyone reading this to stay safe and keep their kids safe in this screwed up word",7.3347822445561155,7.973184718592968,6.709660804020103,76.49437395309884,63.623115577889436,10.25142378559464,35.678810720268004,10.125756701596842,3.6598438860971534,865,38,150,18,12,267,117,199,0.073,0.8190000000000001,0.107,0.701,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,5,6,1,9,6,2,1,11,0,12,1,0,2,3,29,26,12,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,17,9,0,3,2,1,1,1,6,3,0,0,4,2,15,3,24,19,10,21,0,0,2,1,20,9,1,6,6,103,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130794054339038,0.0,0.20737904268072346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850625384966992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652346016836273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234743060579568,0.0,0.0,0.1625349241341151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041617026541346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511899837725222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354103429593075,0.17245160853539893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12504082913618522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179238072478859,0.0,0.0,0.18671537086985907,0.0,0.0,0.6516234320900304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014297967104544,0.0,0.10896846112411863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526186506994027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554524584345726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130071553710184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278917368372487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300485475264906,0.1089912567188424,0.0,0.13503797750904328,0.0991848988575374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690915041980615,0.0,0.0,0.10032758759253367,0.13501504077154744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19560309683366794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megan_foxxx,2019/03/07,"Parent teaching and learning second language I’m expecting a baby at the end of summer and I was curious what your experience is as a parent that might not be fluent in a language but learning while teaching it to your child. 

My husband speaks Spanish and I am not fluent in Spanish but can understand some. We are planning to have me speak English and my husband speak Spanish. However, I want to learn it as well, and I’m wondering did any of you pick up the language? 

My husbands family says I will learn as well and in a few years I’ll be good. Anyone have any input or advice?

Thanks a bunch :) it’s a first baby, too!",1.9893114143920627,4.379616975806453,3.8316129032258064,84.58088089330029,80.85483870967742,6.073449131513648,26.473945409429284,7.321109707123232,1.608943672456575,491,21,91,7,13,165,76,124,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.9626,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,3,0,2,3,4,0,0,8,0,12,0,0,1,0,23,18,13,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,1,5,7,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,2,4,12,4,13,12,3,10,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,4,5,70,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125130207999252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29577947838204605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206283793113567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261736440028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273124688173312,0.2050150794013748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498322538424636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240682596425206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307054871054902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48295815626628397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294400876681054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022078878029373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22639804498509936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827176652880007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910703858497869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23584121508660205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004608955649467
parenting,Red_Balloon22,2019/03/07,"Birthday money My 2 year old's birthday was yesterday, and she got a few checks from her great-grandparents and a few family friends. I was just wondering what you all do with money that your young children receive for birthdays/holidays.

I plan on putting small bills in a piggy bank for her to keep and keep building on over the course of the next few years. But as far as the larger bills and checks, what do you all do? Should I just start putting them into a savings account for her to access at a certain age? Or start putting that money towards a college fund?

My husband and I have started talking about it, but I was just wondering what others are doing/have done with their kids.",6.289116541353383,6.646264481203012,5.799013157894738,83.09746710526319,65.84210526315789,8.454511278195488,33.91823308270676,8.07648339933343,2.463572180451128,548,23,104,6,8,168,84,133,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.4836,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,2,1,4,3,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,0,3,23,18,10,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,7,8,0,2,2,0,10,4,0,0,0,0,5,0,16,3,19,12,5,23,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,3,10,77,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18562340454622653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709969275474678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014029933623134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507294759017805,0.19998145331653686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224528528275664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290871955977712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903367100287839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5470366043397803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3851631257358061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579319938123195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39341616515843497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23361648420323486
parenting,JustAnIgnoramous,2019/03/07,"Question about my 3 yr olds ""nervousness"" She is very.... Nervous? I think is the right word for it. She is easily startled. Whenever a car goes by outside, or we can hear the neighbors, or the cat is running around in a separate room, my girl always gasps and whispers ""what's that noise?"" If I'm not around she'll run to me and huddle close and ask about the noise. It's just the two of us, and I always tell her what the cause of the noise is and assure her that we're safe, hug her, etc. But I'm starting to think this behavior might be abnormal. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? ",1.844045454545455,3.7324649500000007,2.922878787878787,93.53727272727276,78.66666666666666,6.363636363636362,22.57575757575757,7.348242739294969,0.6774166666666659,454,14,101,6,11,145,81,120,0.032,0.872,0.096,0.8196,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,0,5,6,0,3,9,0,10,1,0,1,1,24,18,9,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,8,9,0,1,4,0,0,3,1,3,0,1,1,2,13,3,12,14,1,12,0,0,0,1,14,7,0,5,2,64,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475303838054619,0.0,0.0,0.1420131162531705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602039058983085,0.0,0.0,0.3718100207057408,0.19522999796072105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21452828414256914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182750541558168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329032022104405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23536916479949815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215380549034402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913435572496975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23393995483698535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834163196849642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781256751849134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252862340227516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676225943288957,0.0,0.16578950900219086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20399879977877086,0.0,0.2511995282939484,0.0,0.0,0.172308507375111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elynn69,2019/03/07,"Evolving as a parent Tonight I am proud to move forward as a parent. Let me tell you the short story.

My daughter is 11 and the hormones have already made her start being emotionally erratic. I grew up in a strict household so my instinct is to be strict with her but I am afraid she will be too scared to tell me things the way I was with my mom. I was sexually abused but too afraid to tell her. I drank and got into bad situations but again I was to afraid to ask for help. My mom was physically and verbally abusive to me. At the time though I thought that was just how parents were.

As a mom now, I struggle with finding the balance. I know I need to be strict so she has boundaries and structure. But I don't ever want her to think of me as the enemy the way I did my mom. After that preface here is what happened tonight.

I ask my daughter to do the dishes. This is her normal chore. After an hour she is still singing and dancing in the kitchen but dishes are not done. I walked in and told her you need to start doing the work.

She got angry and balled her fists up at her sides and wouldn't look at me. She told me ""you just don't understand""

My instinct was to yell and tell her how spoiled she is if she can't just do her chores. That she has responsibility like everyone else etc etc...

But I didn't. I don't know what is going on inside her that she needed the time to just dance and sing. I don't know why a simple task was creating this battle inside her. So I hugged her and told her I'm sorry that I don't understand but I want to. 

She hugged me back after a moment and said thank you. Then she started doing the dishes.

I walked away knowing in that moment I was a better mom. I just had to share because this moment feels like a giant step towards being a better parent.",2.245161290322581,3.7988366344086053,3.5862365591397882,90.72435483870967,76.47311827956989,6.090322580645162,22.752688172043012,6.6834051587181325,0.4603784946236558,1396,40,306,12,31,457,160,372,0.102,0.8029999999999999,0.095,-0.5403,4,0,0,0,1,0,32.0,0,4,0,4,19,16,1,5,22,0,44,7,0,3,1,51,76,31,0,8,14,11,1,2,0,2,0,2,3,0,12,16,5,0,10,5,0,9,9,7,0,0,22,4,67,9,40,46,2,47,0,0,1,2,52,17,0,1,23,228,79,1,0.0,0.1952864255453957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094226526264636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408577421733033,0.0,0.07742757271590553,0.06336874734229954,0.06880949866495245,0.050236802529487874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457711479209854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433476640413873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884357160533625,0.092700954028967,0.0,0.0,0.1838194468327116,0.0,0.0745452032524711,0.0,0.07874696287842224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04166932999782021,0.058874226075564084,0.0,0.0,0.07532189387808498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046835904363884684,0.0,0.1318227426814669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287551668853176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05523816025464863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115794675052439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116307898980444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427053215995366,0.0,0.08052341815180188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920423883409749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797900427070288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4825921244272006,0.0,0.0875895402232819,0.0,0.1833194866997443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074499613472608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660293531801048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839145492248269,0.0,0.08250749511148166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263308837254047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225204025039517,0.17499216931089012,0.0,0.06581329765504616,0.0,0.0,0.08615356501236192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881223638533424,0.07587270745879475,0.0,0.0,0.054750012341627866,0.05280545392096324,0.08096810193207886,0.06542489657981064,0.0961086928245618,0.0,0.0,0.2362408886352667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158490625313275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972159412251836,0.13082756780189267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436284556932374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05999597674117588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ScoutDraco2010,2019/03/07,"Honesty What's everyone's take on raising a child to be honest with you about what they're doing when you ask, but without raising them to be a bunch of snitches /"" tattle tales.""  Case in point my 4yro likes to tell on her sister (2yro) when she's doing something we wouldn't like, but also fibs when talking to us about things she did. I got it she's very young, but I'm not 100pct sure how to steer her as she grows to be honest and take responsibility for her own actions without being the kid in class that tells on her friends.

Probably asking a lot here but I'm curious how others have managed it.",4.610327868852458,5.248299991803278,5.349303278688523,83.87264344262297,69.57377049180327,7.411475409836067,27.54508196721311,7.1686216300943375,1.3307836065573777,477,15,96,4,8,155,83,122,0.04,0.807,0.153,0.937,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,1,0,9,6,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,1,15,16,12,0,1,7,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,0,15,6,19,9,3,12,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,1,6,70,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409945178109045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38367113899194977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19607869119122706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585380600950401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641182714190908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200502036704905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744548564226064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19398161016261126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212417704275368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797403054817202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193399851369112,0.0,0.3085717670440907,0.16493307859643028,0.3587100628535237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363266641689307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468319677854279,0.0,0.0,0.1693126106980559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956135727898011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kbot1022,2019/03/07,"How do I get my 3 year old to stop saying he hates me? I seriously feel like I failed somewhere along the way. He’s 3, y’all and anytime he gets upset or I tell him not to do something, he says he hates me. Over and over and over again. I don’t even react to it anymore (which makes him scream it), but the first few times he said it to me, I cried. Which that seemed to stop him, but only temporarily. 
Has anyone come across this? I feel like he’s too young to be at the “I hate mom” stage. ",-0.1914103653355994,1.5996118130841133,1.657841971113001,100.50200509770605,85.07476635514018,4.63857264231096,15.334749362786743,5.565023196281405,-1.0934598130841118,372,6,96,2,11,122,67,107,0.218,0.737,0.045,-0.9456,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,4,9,3,1,3,0,5,0,0,3,0,17,16,7,0,0,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,7,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,7,0,1,1,6,16,2,12,14,1,16,0,1,0,0,16,5,0,2,10,56,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597193868296376,0.1240695660941728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284809986359835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490855355670889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719687258901584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794371122146152,0.2535251013496557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092963422475175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854092448852224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5255532197199076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337559326685956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184419978120872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20781456574718876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18619251956046012,0.0,0.0,0.1349504548756055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878524677896556,0.2822134377894778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615339207585551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660131197248976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966941175092268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550896214823855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346618424188134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084292311432306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426498282459215
parenting,loleatmeup,2019/03/07,My 5 month old needs surgery My husband and I just found out that our 5 month old baby girl has Craniosynostosis and has to get surgery on her skull very soon. She is my firstborn (I have two stepsons) and our only little girl. I am absolutely terrified. Has anyone else gone through this? Any advice? ,2.9863157894736863,5.635702280701758,3.434298245614034,87.36092105263157,78.82456140350877,5.905263157894738,25.28947368421053,7.1686216300943375,1.1407684210526314,238,9,46,3,6,74,43,57,0.08199999999999999,0.918,0.0,-0.6861,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,7,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,10,0,4,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,5,28,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454524246558596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081256917586518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563249597486028,0.2573659372973037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098305705285721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754084138287689,0.0,0.0,0.1312323782582131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25175064042491696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40098261155700976,0.0,0.0,0.18624848375448866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5271471154727849,0.0,0.0,0.1910354486510818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24536859705891306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20725169345014025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jhweathers114,2019/03/07,"Dealing with toxic grandparents, time for restraining order? Not sure where to even start here.  We have had a lot of trouble with my parents over the years that has escalated to them not seeing my two kids (10 year old and 3 year old) since Halloween.   

When we moved houses, we had items stored in their outdoor shop that I was unable to retreive without a police escort.  

No gifts for the kids through the holidays but my daughter's birthday is this weekend and all of a sudden it's a big deal.  Fast forward to today when they left presents on our doorstep. (After I told them months ago if they were ever on my property again I would call the police and press charges for trespassing).  

What can I do now?   Restraining order?  What are my legal rights?

I thought maybe I was overreacting so I got online to research it and found the top 10 signs of a toxic grandparent.   They met EVERY SINGLE ONE.  10/10.  100%

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parenting,poo_wizards_unite,2019/03/07,"When did you move Bubs into their own room? Hi all - First time parent here!

When is the right time/right age to move your child into their own room? And how did you do it? 

My daughter is nearly 11 months old and currently sleeps in her cot in our room. We've only just been able to get her to sleep by herself in the cot (we co-slept). 

Would really appreciate reading about your methods and experiences. ",1.5600694444444445,4.022540312500002,2.479166666666668,93.1202777777778,83.375,5.555555555555557,17.63888888888889,6.937597516519254,-0.025027777777777867,315,7,67,4,9,99,57,80,0.0,0.952,0.048,0.5893,2,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,2,4,2,1,6,0,0,0,2,0,7,2,2,1,1,10,8,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,12,0,11,4,3,20,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,0,8,45,13,1,0.21708328844750555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123491111188396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465093425639886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341705843150858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327380974341994,0.4614503611683616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277923938859817,0.0,0.0,0.16510162301195058,0.0,0.0,0.2410453017458088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714203426835965,0.0,0.13906911331476154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707758844224665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4344801268044636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25316602246260445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420973968928636,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,violetdragonmom,2019/03/07,"Something that makes me smile So I watch my two nephews everyday well their mom is at work. And today the oldest hes three asked me to paint his toes and nails and wanted to do a face mask cause I had one on. Now mind you this isn't the frist time I have painted his toes or his nails. He gets to pick his own colors and his mom and I love it. I love that at three years old hes expression himself already. I have a rule in my house that I won't let the boys not do something because it's a ""girly"" thing. In my house you are welcome to be who ever you wanna be. Weather that means being a superhero fairy with a Cape and flowers in your hair( we've done that before it was really cute) or if you wanna be a dragon(also done that.) Growing up my birth mom tried to force me Into this tiny box of what I had to be and I'm so not doing that with my son or my nephews.",1.5668253968253971,2.694915417989421,3.1843174603174624,94.6745714285715,77.35978835978834,6.09820105820106,21.065608465608467,6.42735559955562,0.05605862433862363,670,16,161,5,15,222,110,189,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.9493,1,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,5,1,1,5,5,0,0,9,0,22,6,4,3,1,25,30,13,0,4,6,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,15,10,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,4,5,3,31,5,19,18,1,18,0,0,2,2,28,8,0,4,9,117,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574946626244866,0.12011490841870208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404167510089988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09156054318579597,0.0,0.1278091613848465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429680363411924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30741355470932585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586452477116676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847331554380277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466213329856075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358970536774133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711227796023172,0.0,0.1002596852567961,0.0,0.0,0.16361186353798135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165921143485986,0.5277373736969662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760966340603658,0.0,0.1017794264282476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962219842629451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23126263989156684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978622477985133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875828444169832,0.0,0.1423720644628488,0.0,0.0,0.10197595987187004,0.0,0.14672360279608984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859186827895202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504786379949205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934740952432273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967238937664871
parenting,NerdyDad66,2019/03/07,"Not looking forward to spring break So next week is spring break. I took the week off to spend it with my teenage son, but honestly I'm not really looking forward to it. Any other parents in the same situation?",2.8796341463414663,5.262269097560979,3.9489634146341466,85.00685975609757,77.53658536585365,7.0268292682926825,29.76219512195122,8.07648339933343,2.2331902439024387,167,8,32,3,4,54,30,41,0.0,0.905,0.095,0.6124,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,6,4,1,12,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,7,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20384493282294447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.503440506052288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187948039528036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33284450110914005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19203190979326815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33693925164942745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330408828464369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4808937179401144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trebekian,2019/03/07,"Teachers are recommending retention for kindergartener. The decision is ours and I don't know what to do. My 6 year old is in kindergarten. We started fostering him when he was 3 and legally adopted him when he was almost 5. He was so far behind developmentally when we got him and he has caught up so much. His therapist recommended extracurricular activities to help him with socialization and working as a team. It has worked great and transferred over to the classroom. He has friends and playdates and loves recess. 

He does still have some behaviors that we are working on. He gets frustrated easily and has a hard time with rejection. His therapist is aware and we have strategies to help him cope. He's not on grade level with reading and gets distracted very easily. If you ask him to count to 20 he might get bored around 7 and start talking about dinosaurs. He struggles with sitting still as well and ADHD has been suggested, but his pediatrician wants to hold off on that because of his age and background. 

We had a meeting with his teachers recently and they said they would recommend retention. They said he seems uninterested in what they are learning and sometimes refuses activities. That combined with his reading struggles and attention issues leads them to want to hold him back. I'm worried that this is going to end up hurting him. The research on retention indicates that there is no real advantage to holding a child back in kindergarten. He is a smart kid and will know that he's being held back. Other kids will know as well. His biggest issues are with anxiety and self image. It takes a lot to make sure he knows that he is stupid or bad because those are words he heard a lot before we took custody. If someone steals the ball in soccer or he gets out in tball he'll look over for reassurance. We have come a long way. Previously he would quit in the middle of games. I don't want another set back. 

If This is ADHD then it's not going to be cured by holding him back a grade anyway. With that said, I am reaching out because I can be a little bit of an overprotective dad when it comes to my kids and maybe this is a case of that. My husband is more okay with him staying back a grade but I'm the one home with the kids all day. He works a lot and doesn't see all of the progress as it happens. ",4.520666239590007,6.319574820627808,5.042494554772585,81.60682959641257,70.97309417040357,8.236156310057655,29.559000640614986,8.841846274778883,2.374350108904548,1854,75,352,35,35,592,222,446,0.083,0.815,0.102,0.4659,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,8,1,5,9,20,20,2,3,22,1,42,1,0,2,3,83,78,38,0,8,9,2,1,0,1,6,0,4,1,6,21,42,0,6,8,6,0,7,6,10,2,1,13,7,38,10,56,56,9,57,0,2,2,1,76,23,0,12,23,237,59,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037095472140628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486633519487134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886928529762009,0.06483462753594227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544675915439633,0.07923116546400485,0.0,0.0,0.3910118035044216,0.07076392096428702,0.15499109248005002,0.0,0.07211724200091701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252663333917772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460117401249989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05465767415739098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416656532335203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506462943892979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547876029839204,0.0,0.17711653926422616,0.0,0.09633240465345662,0.0,0.06778347703002638,0.0934387731998527,0.0,0.0,0.07494542764058089,0.0,0.07592065262417666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136142213593405,0.0,0.08501261490289945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907281804612263,0.0,0.0,0.17691699007585715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863087226620221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494321824656731,0.0,0.07500236657917313,0.07116987308823464,0.0,0.0,0.21615795701811324,0.07649149285029194,0.0,0.05657225120841301,0.0,0.0851442232367023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08990789565115782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230206762749248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893239040440062,0.0,0.05742977613583435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014359969987833,0.1695487705741863,0.09646570494183328,0.0,0.0,0.08368183272058252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418541114833975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675359331145091,0.07715453734857784,0.08841424631017328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639343062083595,0.07180962884507537,0.0,0.08382135147622019,0.0,0.11997502552935768,0.09033376952421812,0.13536523544046378,0.0,0.0,0.17720123481822658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987723895417409,0.0,0.06372254320829614,0.06812000545621273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19680593212672445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049419252246945065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941619797391224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992882242123391,0.14996580373644594,0.06727175642538473,0.0,0.0,0.15240346419313205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468002609325917,0.08606921175458206,0.0,0.12040999736868367,0.0,0.0,0.0545771553341541
parenting,BiglyOneTime,2019/03/07,"Mama Going Back To Work My wife returns to work Monday after 6 months. We did 2 weeks of half and full days at day care to transition and our boo boo is doing about as good as she can be. My wife is not looking forward to being away from our baby, but she does love her job. 

What might she like as a gift or surprise at her office on Monday or sometime next week?  All ideas welcome!  ",2.722541666666668,3.809096837500004,3.9175,90.72416666666668,74.375,5.833333333333334,22.083333333333336,5.46131890053228,0.1150833333333332,297,7,64,1,6,97,62,80,0.0,0.746,0.254,0.9747,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,1,10,12,8,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,10,6,15,8,2,18,0,0,1,1,12,6,0,3,13,45,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181278217991692,0.17852150523476518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367089513563784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994560320406826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20317023825293734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194542257411754,0.19473002426856706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2620874218320217,0.0,0.0,0.2303891660596492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342469606869172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194961166244208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20953909297217388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462916881835777,0.0,0.0,0.18531287511704825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24691142656994297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296183445445977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724595020146445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380395707685141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Viperbunny,2019/03/07,"Balancing protecting my kids and being there for my sister and nephew My sister had a baby on Monday. She was only 32 weeks pregnant. The baby is doing really well. He needs light therapy to get his bilirubin down, as my sister didn't know her husband was O negative and she was O positive, but other than that, he is doing great. He is on room air and a decent size, four pounds five ounces.

My sister wasn't doing nearly as well. She was experiencing HELLP syndrome and the doctors were having issues controlling her blood pressure. It was really bad for a while and I was really worried. She just got moved off the ICU ward today.

The big problem is my parents. I cut my mom out of my life in May 2018 and my dad in June 2018 because they are abusive. My mom refuses to get help and has a host of mental illnesses. She, at the least, has borderline personality disorder, but she is a narcissist and may be bi polar (it fits and runs in the family, but she never stays in therapy long enough for a real diagnosis, so this is the best my therapist and I can figure). My dad has narcissistic personality disorder, is a bully, and enables my mother. I cut them out when my mother started to become delusional and make insane demands of me. It got to the point she threatened to lie to CPS and claim I was having a mental breakdown so she could get custody of my kids. There is so much more, and I have no issue explaining it, but this would get long. The long and short of it is I cut them out for the safety of myself, my husband and our two kids (4.5 and 6 year old girls). It hurts. It has been hard. They were harassing and stalking us for months. We couldn't get a restraining order yet, because they weren't stupid enough to say they were going to physically harm us (although, they are capable of it). We had to send a certified letter of no trespassing and file a copy of it and the receipt with the police. This way, if they try to stalk us on our property again, they can be arrested and then we are likely to get an order of protection.

So, my sister wants me to come and visit her and her baby. She wants to baptize him and wants me to be the god mother. I want all of this, but she still has a relationship with my parents. That's fine. It's her choice and I would never force her to choose sides, but it is a huge problem right now. They are with her in the hospital and if they know I will be there they are going to be there. My mom already tried to manipulate me by having my Nana (my sister and Nana are the only ones I haven't blocked) and told me I had to call my mom because sister was super sick and having the baby. I had just talked to my sister, and told my Nana as much and knew it was happening. She insisted I HAD to call my mom and acted like I was being petty. I tried to explain that I could not call her. She clearly thinks the worst of me, but whatever. My mom is a master manipulator. She has made my sister believe she was getting her foster daughter back before and it was all an elaborate lie. Well, all of a sudden, my sister is claiming a social worker called and that could be happening. I'm sorry, I don't see a social worker placing a troubled foster child in a house with a new baby. It doesn't track, but again, it is just part of the drama.

The thing is, I legally shouldn't go. If I do, my parents can use it to their advantage. They can claim I don't feel threatened because I voluntarily was in the same room as them. This means it would be hard to get them arrested if they trespassed and it would be almost impossible to get an order of protection against them. My parents have a lawyer and have had issues with others harassing them, so I know they know this piece of information. I know their goal is to get me in the same room as them and ambush me. They want to force me to let them see my kids. That is not going to happen. I will not let them harm my kids like they harmed me. Hell, my mom, in an attempt to manipulate me into coming, sent pictures of the baby. My sister was too sick to be allowed to visit him in the NICU and I told her the kids love the pictures, she had no idea what I was talking about. She hadn't even seen her son! My mom, who was there, literally sent pictures to manipulate me to come before she gave them to her own, sick daughter who just had the baby! She also sent me a picture of him in the exact position as a picture I have of my oldest daughter in the NICU. My oldest daughter never made it out of the NICU. I showed it to my therapist. He agrees she knew what she was doing because even after 7 years, he remembered the picture I meant! These people are dangerous and being in a place where they can attack me is just something I can't risk.

I have offered to do the whole thing over Facetime. I know it isn't as good as being there, but it seems the best option. She is really pushing for me to be there. She hasn't asked anything else of me and it kills me not to be there. I know the people around her are not maternal. I almost died with my middle daughter. I know what she is going through. I want to be there for her. I want to hold my nephew. I want that more than I can say, but it isn't safe. My therapist is awesome and he pressed upon me how dangerous it would be to go there. I have been having my own health issues and this makes me even more vulnerable. 

It just hurts. I don't know how to be there for my sister while my parents are still in the picture. There is no way they will keep their distance if I am there. My mother in law is on a business trip, so it's not like she could take the kids. If I went, my husband would come, but be somewhere nearby with the kids. We don't want our kids to see these people. They miss them, but they don't know about the abuse. The last thing they need is to see their grandparents sobbing and screaming and trying to get to them. 

Anyone have experiences with crazy family and have had to navigate these kinds of things before. I am on a great sub that is helping me deal with how I was raised, but I figured other parents may be able to help, too. The stress is killing me. It is taking all I have to not be a puddle of tears and to keep doing what I need to for my kids. I refuse to give into that because they need me, but I just want to cry and sleep and not move out of bed. It is so bad it is physically painful. I have PTSD and it is in full blast with all this. I saw my therapist yesterday, because he is awesome and fit us in. He also has been texting to make sure I am okay and I know I can text him if I need to. I don't have anything to really text about. There isn't much to do about feeling this way. It is just going to be this way for now, and I know that. Anyways, I am rambling. Thanks for reading this.",3.1378474881178207,4.266598748377799,4.532980449527866,86.54781220907041,73.41240086517664,7.405153260861957,24.28072742035965,7.838605879714768,1.117592707596895,5252,150,1119,70,103,1748,425,1387,0.146,0.767,0.087,-0.9986,9,0,1,0,1,0,152.0,11,0,37,11,59,51,12,3,70,1,174,12,2,15,11,217,269,99,3,36,37,43,5,4,0,13,8,3,4,14,68,79,0,12,28,3,0,24,35,30,3,4,54,16,223,21,157,173,25,119,2,4,6,2,194,53,2,14,38,868,291,7,0.038184310895693914,0.09048432893334543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647214329951264,0.0,0.042137336586438735,0.06107195925534972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02669935800771936,0.0,0.06284486870602679,0.033992132241192165,0.03569717618439669,0.04344016610995366,0.0,0.029361378101939863,0.06376460927634554,0.1629376105563837,0.04217157139534787,0.0974761084945442,0.04302064250488208,0.08014415700051718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596180274559626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156961106675535,0.0,0.0,0.04282695154737915,0.12194826065822195,0.0,0.041943672521812164,0.0,0.039366347865995466,0.0,0.0,0.03962928618451212,0.0,0.08752505684003911,0.03908326020953435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03189809204959578,0.0,0.0,0.07890920092990457,0.0,0.07566113166537873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03735158305079191,0.07199353999163438,0.0,0.038614269798065634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21944699088056066,0.03662987040325871,0.15190716687868927,0.032027188336948266,0.06107896325294194,0.08419667512992376,0.0,0.0,0.1012987800583165,0.0,0.06841128479905675,0.0,0.0,0.040588136903246204,0.0,0.0,0.07678241610796359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04405956804991413,0.08175418912108542,0.043105439190941966,0.0,0.1594179999187358,0.0,0.06787993997440034,0.08449056505951265,0.03976308383779304,0.2518211839472771,0.03112530977207632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809208991412246,0.02697070802985999,0.07461970215836894,0.0,0.0,0.101375740657499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0344628313983957,0.07226183645503655,0.07646497208672727,0.0,0.0,0.04159390867973077,0.0,0.0,0.07696160867417777,0.0,0.0,0.3577680273914345,0.030478352657367307,0.08116775906517472,0.0842095861543716,0.14156591348755246,0.08835028365257101,0.0368786454045629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040068010992564435,0.0,0.025874677280655446,0.05808177817424631,0.040630798987110285,0.0,0.2543949506468076,0.04134988766610369,0.0,0.07941657996586854,0.06668213487317882,0.0797889555394164,0.0,0.036096516056439584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307445724670154,0.04463541605855503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03819464411251293,0.04346210540882519,0.12230923662471263,0.0,0.0,0.040995659822543,0.043255380658272384,0.03260919286939246,0.0,0.06073139326054594,0.0,0.0,0.12171180817788275,0.03476156253701765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03821188714836051,0.07784819258900114,0.0,0.02939614804414926,0.0,0.04274420985215164,0.027027051785541743,0.0406993948305819,0.06098808001197267,0.0,0.043739999119697656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03598826112643401,0.0,0.057419699394874936,0.06138220540393844,0.0,0.03515498324879315,0.08733417460983647,0.1773397120216232,0.10147183782977237,0.024466964607063064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03619426195483537,0.10946023624058948,0.0,0.1036985624567206,0.0,0.0373005233477151,0.0,0.1837240979892965,0.0329789846633973,0.0,0.0,0.2252209588766188,0.12123571462251193,0.030629150958398244,0.0,0.10299684373984537,0.03539723875254906,0.0,0.04263141947468576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03877802122513625,0.0,0.16275023339340056,0.0,0.0,0.049178888590035566
parenting,Vowelsoundz,2019/03/07,"20-month-old struggles with certain vowel sounds, relies on consonants Our 20-month-old says about 15-20 words, including animal sounds. This is on the low end, but Pediatrician says within the range of normal. She can also sign upwards of 50 words and the Pediatrician says her overall comprehension is well above average. So generally speaking, not a lot of worries. 

However, we’ve noticed our daughter tends to rely on consonant sounds for a lot of her most common words. She can say “ah,” “eh,” “oh,” and “uh” adeptly, but struggles with “ooo,” “ay,” and most of all “eee.”

So for example, for “scooter,” she says “sk sk.” For choo-choo, she makes the “ch ch” sound. For Mimi (my mom’s grandmother name), she says “mm-mm.” Lots of examples like that - at least 8. She uses them consistently and with clear intent so the Ped counts it and says most likely she’ll grow into her sounds.

I still worry that it’s a little concerning though, so curious if any others have similar experiences. 

Thanks!",4.666,6.8209535999999975,5.610000000000002,76.21500000000002,71.33333333333334,8.8,28.66666666666667,9.3871,2.7937333333333334,768,30,134,18,15,252,118,180,0.055,0.828,0.117,0.9114,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,2,0,1,0,9,8,0,2,8,1,6,0,0,3,3,32,10,14,0,2,4,2,0,2,0,1,0,14,0,0,6,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,0,14,15,5,22,9,8,12,0,1,0,0,24,8,0,7,5,81,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856793038993228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838184356462138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916839971889128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056820455720775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043349677567945,0.12353508266492667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31436401445730955,0.0,0.0,0.08227446373983742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435615972388027,0.19676382940788192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076489616115706,0.0,0.14032798893571055,0.2586732743821167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6861278844603803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984325523289832,0.0,0.0,0.2577082625719957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347773950522935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210985805966025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064537736882132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082211703393166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503452873222649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Commentingtime,2019/03/07,"Need advice on severe tantrums during nap! Hi,

Child is 2 years and 2 months old

Had never been sleep trained and had no sleep schedule!

Attempting to put her down for nap results in horrible screaming/screeching crying. Sometimes she bites her hand and stands herself in the nose with her finger until she bleeds. Sometimes she punches herself as well.

It takes an hour of tantrum until she sleeps!

I've never dealt with this before, can someone please help with advice.

P.s. I've mentioned this to parents and they seemed unconcerned. I think maybe she should get checked out but they aren't interested!",4.804924242424246,7.808335435185188,3.535387205387206,87.2028787878788,74.27777777777777,5.4087542087542095,28.33670033670034,6.574015621080383,1.4326185185185192,489,20,81,4,11,140,81,108,0.149,0.7879999999999999,0.063,-0.8274,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,2,1,1,4,2,0,2,0,7,7,6,1,2,16,12,8,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,2,2,1,1,4,2,1,0,3,3,13,2,15,8,0,16,0,0,0,0,17,5,0,1,9,49,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326624324778017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483963411511366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18697215990655125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892982465427436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409090111731646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16762656893192382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17100290857577038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586324430170174,0.0,0.0,0.12621157386801035,0.2625591635907608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861103017489274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890025778700343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684393118492687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111215072441452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15495649375702406,0.0,0.19229344614436206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5110109805372145,0.0,0.14422182656029156,0.0,0.33669212914980023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279797949435833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109066301158077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304288807472968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961227842770373
parenting,snead,2019/03/07,"Maybe an unpopular opinion, but... if you don’t like what’s on YouTube — stop letting your kids watch YouTube! ...and please stop coming here to complain about it!

You gave them YouTube. You are the parent. You control the devices. That was your choice, not theirs. If you think it was a bad choice, then make a different choice, and move on.

It seems like every day lately, people are posting here, shocked — shocked! — that they gave their kids near-unfettered access to an open video platform, and are then surprised when the kids are exposed to things the parents would rather they not see.  I mean, WTF did you expect was going to happen?

This is not in defense of YouTube, I think it was a huge misstep to create a product with the word “Kids” in it if you couldn’t police 100% of the content, and the comments have always been a cesspool. But everyone with eyes knows this, or should. Which is why I’d never in a million years let little kids watch anything on YouTube (or in general) that I didn’t prescreen, and why I never gave them access to it.

I don’t think we’ve missed much. I still don’t know what that Shark song is that everyone talks about, and I have no problem with that (feel free to not link it). And my kids aren’t growing up watching other, richer kids unwrap presents or open kinder eggs or whatever other empty garbage is out there these days.

There’s so much quality kids content out there. Just use your heads! Be a parent! Sheesh. Rant over.",4.227814935064933,5.960870775,3.7443506493506495,90.88610389610392,71.60714285714286,6.233766233766234,27.01298701298701,6.574015621080383,0.996,1147,40,228,8,22,341,152,280,0.104,0.797,0.099,0.614,5,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,10,6,1,12,11,1,0,16,0,27,3,2,3,2,55,45,20,0,9,15,3,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,8,22,15,1,4,9,2,1,4,13,7,0,1,10,7,24,5,25,29,2,34,0,1,5,0,33,16,0,9,15,152,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076460549115588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646033989650908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801839699407056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144064585240372,0.0,0.0,0.14509925511318852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668656644643884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351639282826462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899965410941223,0.24723681652432306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654132687711915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352385076642402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440130571419675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277075983538553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219654093306264,0.0,0.14593479336515358,0.0,0.0,0.2645788146801856,0.0,0.12640711991804035,0.12966254760165594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635536028257465,0.0,0.12996937396919356,0.14092166144485374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749964629789696,0.19020340825755766,0.0,0.1995559631469416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4309496299610783,0.0,0.0,0.08968874490118188,0.0,0.0,0.14200921474553713,0.0,0.0,0.12390052767186906,0.0,0.0,0.1237894471961991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309099799896228,0.11777342650951415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331490639405927,0.21631792678707368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398256190921028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594756077710639,0.2486848732699155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173398843843356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23347228304708714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190060924118064,0.0,0.0,0.08330992335298885
parenting,isallaboutthetiming,2019/03/07,"Old school I just heard my kid calling Gods Plan by Drake an old school song, because ya know, is like from 2016 or something, all while singing nostalgic... ya'll I tell you this kid is not that smart. ",1.4307692307692292,4.076124384615383,0.7648205128205134,103.47184615384614,87.20512820512822,4.1456410256410265,20.620512820512825,5.6839178017228535,-0.3464810256410256,157,5,35,1,5,44,34,39,0.057,0.88,0.063,0.0624,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,2,2,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,17,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736105088093929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29709353777271097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598990802191182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421439795610582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6106083375665756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5889159626190147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398832189885692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543040294280952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Happynthankfulalways,2019/03/07,"Considering hiring a nanny looking for advice I'm considering hiring a nanny to watch my son (8 months) at my work so I can see him more.  I'm self employed and my property has basically a 2 bedroom apartment upstairs with kitchen, shower, anything a baby would need. 

Up until recently I was with my son 24/7 and very involved with him. My ex would stay at my work and I in between working would get to see him throughout the day.  Since we broke up I'm not getting to see him very much at all. I can't watch him and work so I was considering hiring someone to watch him at my work from 8-5:30 would I be able to find a nanny like that fairly easy?  I know most nannys live with clients but my situation is different and I'm assuming it would be a little cheaper too. ",2.775961538461541,4.461474929487182,4.596410256410259,83.48192307692308,75.34615384615384,7.107692307692307,27.384615384615394,7.882392219407189,1.7067846153846156,603,24,121,9,13,205,88,156,0.014,0.944,0.043,0.4767,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,5,3,2,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,0,1,23,25,9,0,6,2,3,0,1,0,5,0,0,3,1,2,10,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,7,22,1,20,16,4,14,0,1,7,0,12,9,0,2,5,78,24,9,0.14003743650912362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368429622243317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152388782841292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903125615403119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146309315703015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799167997726968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632756148794604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696091281006105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841521791421612,0.1403543005367326,0.12365562204232634,0.0,0.11759617733804045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177654578650713,0.0,0.10294362874816423,0.10383598476360012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382700743105393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347751185692405,0.0,0.1460895873090874,0.0,0.0,0.11584041458728657,0.15740794597484145,0.0,0.0,0.11865326551552252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926127474491366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23109110205360744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5097446080823061,0.0,0.0,0.4973928851287186,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CursedContent,2019/03/07,"Age gaps, what's the best one? Hey all parental folks,  


My only son is currently 2 years and 3 months old. We aren't ready to start trying for another kid yet, but I am interested in starting to plan an approximate time to start trying. I'm really fertile and likely to get pregnant the first few cycles we start trying, so I can pretty accurately create a gap that we decide on. I've had multiple pregnancies before my son, but none since.  


What are some of the positives/negatives about the age gap you have with your children? At this point it will obviously have to be at LEAST 3 years age gap, so I'm curious about those with a gap of 3 years or more.  


Thank you for reading!!",4.700666666666667,5.484787955555557,5.81851851851852,80.06333333333335,69.44444444444444,9.555555555555557,27.592592592592588,9.725611199111238,2.3702592592592597,534,17,108,12,9,178,93,135,0.011,0.8320000000000001,0.157,0.9681,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,3,0,3,5,4,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,2,14,18,7,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,10,4,17,15,7,21,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,17,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19379445147328586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572637982687613,0.0,0.19395174982269692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720339018325488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655811470354146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029118495045584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751742487157204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393206279212047,0.0,0.12523530404464353,0.14055999752590956,0.0,0.0,0.2052149845587561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470974088864286,0.0,0.0,0.1880231125169968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848648319909148,0.0,0.11839710516981655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288072766724026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.523251519016728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015265419903364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776700689493612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37643139054633895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570440511207067
parenting,kassar0le,2019/03/07,"I’m scared about my kids going into childcare. I feel like an idiot even posting about this. It feels like the most first world problem ever, but my anxiety is so bad right now and I don’t have anyone to talk to about how I’m feeling.

A little backstory: I’ve been at my job for 8 years. I recently went down to casual in January due to a change in our hours of operation (I was working part time evening and weekends and they got rid of these) and we had no childcare. We made the decision for me to just work Saturdays. This has been tight money wise but considering it would cost us $2000 a month in childcare we figured it was the best route financially. 

Then I found out I’m expecting our third child (which was planned, and we are so excited). A full time position came up at work and we thought we would suck it up so I could get my benefits back and and get my hours for maternity leave (we’re in Canada). I made the mistake of telling work I was pregnant before the interview and they hired someone else. Fast forward to now and I have another interview for a full time position. I know going full time is the absolutely best decision for our family. I’ll have amazing benefits from now and through out my maternity leave, the more hours I work now will mean the more money I will get on maternity leave, I’ll only have to work full time for 4ish months. We met with a day home that can take my kids full time and I absolutely loved them. The night we had the interview with them we were there for 2 hours, just laughing and talking and going through their credentials and all that. 

But I’m absolutely terrified that I won’t be with my kids. I get physically ill thinking about the craziest shit. What if they get hurt? What if they go out to play or on a little field trip and get lost? What if they forget to pick my daughter up from school? This is the fucked up shit I think about at night before I go to bed. And on top of all that, I just feel mentally and physically exhausted. My Mom is currently recovering from a double lung transplant, I’m almost 5 months pregnant (hormonal and just tired as fuck). I’m just scared.

Please tell me these terrifying thoughts and feelings go away? My husband thinks I’m absolutely nuts. I know deep down they’ll be fine. And I know that all of this sounds absolutely stupid. There’s people who would kill to have a full time job with benefits and be able to go on maternity leave and here I am being a little bitch about it. It’s probably worse for them being home with me all day with no one to play with most days anyways. My daughter is in kindergarten (almost 6) and my son is almost 4. I love my little chickens so much and I just want them to be safe. 

Anyways, if you read this far I hope I don’t sound too crazy. But it feels good to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening. ",3.011561032863849,4.824896165492959,4.107394366197188,86.6910680751174,75.02112676056338,7.902347417840376,25.38967136150235,8.660442795831766,1.6832340375586856,2234,77,471,45,48,726,250,568,0.171,0.7,0.129,-0.9804,4,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,13,1,11,12,31,38,9,2,23,0,40,11,4,4,5,106,94,41,1,13,15,5,7,2,0,7,3,3,3,4,25,46,0,2,19,5,3,11,5,17,0,3,19,10,68,21,72,61,19,85,0,2,0,4,46,40,6,11,37,311,93,14,0.0639884085340542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922254441211788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06709742560007516,0.04895095738457536,0.0,0.0,0.04474218305161511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060119216187346815,0.049203136393948486,0.0534276483283252,0.0,0.0,0.10889884538699512,0.0,0.1343037739708116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318569265641926,0.0,0.0,0.06769125166884342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05108953743025137,0.0,0.0,0.1238016896265139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053454104516956966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452748069537802,0.05788117892457693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060322576743384135,0.0,0.1941267719482236,0.0914266636844338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05442850761057285,0.0,0.07015998717711981,0.0,0.11831250518850965,0.2340191170441348,0.0,0.2545626102834944,0.05367044116888468,0.05117737575704793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837118211116955,0.06355492778788363,0.2520627716908221,0.0,0.06850091477544888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12699724379327526,0.0,0.07079369337146882,0.0,0.10549906766658927,0.0,0.0,0.27101794176299243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252300846075524,0.2565327828368449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985090676954946,0.0,0.11550407395250177,0.12109475865982787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970213573834322,0.0,0.0,0.06448526556801966,0.0,0.0,0.07494245070862167,0.153224811620565,0.0,0.04703884287317967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009757343107605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04336020165570422,0.04866606811826879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929321081748982,0.0,0.044361505585499984,0.0,0.0,0.07024005721194562,0.0,0.0,0.061283207345781285,0.0,0.06899032703928118,0.0612282651437547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400572470616198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318083380825372,0.0,0.0,0.05464575126135802,0.0,0.0,0.12812711962142295,0.06475968561455331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136636364413534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05421717090066986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048111319761910194,0.10286291788367403,0.1118573789240728,0.05891192946434155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300356534978488,0.0,0.10159929760289248,0.2611850891815016,0.07354526253473734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697017678152909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037742021235883334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059317895783500774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795059410663536,0.0,0.06520965497888001,0.1363665885163846,0.0,0.0,0.041206437153548464
parenting,amatrini,2019/03/07,"Free audiobooks from nickelodeon Hey guys, there is an offer currently for 30 audiobooks from nickelodeon on google play (Android only)

Here is the [link!](https://www.androidpolice.com/2019/03/07/grab-these-30-free-nickelodeon-audiobooks-from-google-play/)",16.43177083333334,22.03310946875,7.745000000000001,58.53333333333336,48.0625,10.516666666666666,41.91666666666666,10.504223727775694,5.941279166666668,221,10,20,5,3,52,24,32,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.7177,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,10,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7930551183850071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6091498823798149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rabocsepthrowaway,2019/03/07,"How to help our two year old who stutters a lot? She tends to repeat the first word she's trying to say in a sentence. Or she will say ""Uhhhhh, uhhhhh, uhhhhh"" for a weirdly long time before she can form the right words. Is there anything I can do to help her be able to speak better, she gets frustrated at times. ",4.45328125,4.675050265625,5.9531250000000036,80.87937500000002,69.78125,8.9,23.8125,8.841846274778883,1.3659812500000004,243,5,52,4,4,83,48,64,0.11,0.7509999999999999,0.139,0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,2,2,4,1,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,8,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,8,1,8,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,2,7,35,9,0,0.2579156010371317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21224256382013693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194671801009785,0.0,0.0,0.2281053898283404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193828784859384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475025646803607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34575078149530125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22824719078721414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192706208525954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27063903721449784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202585140588084,0.0,0.41020967583789797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007853221341456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510776307952014,0.0,0.2519460656106906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608919097277142
parenting,Sunday206,2019/03/07,"My mom is giving me a hard time I'm 20 years old and my mom comes from a strict Filipino background. Sometimes, she won't let my girlfriend pick me up from work because she said she needs to show responsibility for me. This really confuses me. She has me wait an hour for her to be able to pick me up. I'm sure she doesn't have a problem with my girlfriend, I just feel like my mom wants me to depend on her all the time. She has punched me before, and can get very agressive. I'm scared she might kick me out if I defy her, which she has threatened to do in the past. She's just so overbearing. Is there any parent on here that can help me try to understand why my mom is like this? Or how I can come to an understanding with my mom?",2.3098076923076936,3.445013698717947,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076928,75.47435897435899,6.7384615384615385,22.615384615384606,7.1686216300943375,0.4391769230769231,571,15,136,6,12,186,91,156,0.064,0.8420000000000001,0.094,0.5942,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,2,7,0,16,0,0,4,2,26,30,6,0,4,4,6,2,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,1,3,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,3,32,3,19,25,1,14,0,0,0,0,23,6,0,5,8,89,36,1,0.12406983018372195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843717390606937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563181690546736,0.0,0.10557428731156346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375034561945624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627334340221745,0.08863551147357521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482136547759779,0.1190190864776496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111421980464022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316139189237205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218379076686638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686980735103098,0.0,0.12122850403714874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161848323224434,0.0,0.7265454279912475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199620699811988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13019041598594322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377648637445365,0.0,0.1184386917042728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871807148925573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948231020526311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801882020995035,0.0,0.1242155441707794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227082345090442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693434664202987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14469223144654547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423527053720059,0.0,0.0,0.25832213755764705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237060354533216,0.07317960038081582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195372391320804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032431403829533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989690284914873
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parenting,Redifar,2019/03/07,"Why is every other video on YouTube if 3-5 year old girls wearing makeup/playing with a gazillion toys and other ridiculous things. Hi sub! Before I start, i appreciate that different parents have different boundaries and different preferences when it comes to raising their child and I respect that. This post is just about how what is out there (on YouTube)clashes with my own parenting preferences which in turn becomes unnecessarily stressful(I’ll explain why).

Sometimes I play YouTube videos for my kids (usually songs from frozen and Moana and other Disney movies). However, when I enter youtube I somehow end up in a vortex of videos with little girls putting on full toddler and tiaras makeup and their moms complimenting them and telling them how great they look or kids having a HUGE amount of toys that they probably will never ever play with.

I usually skip these videos as soon as they pop up on the tv but sometimes I end up noticing when it’s played for a couple minutes. However this becomes too late - I have two toddler girls and as soon as they see this stuff, they start to question why these girls are putting lipstick and eyeshadow and they can’t. I have told them many times they are too young for makeup and are so beautiful already - which they sometimes understand. But guys it’s exhausting! And it makes me seem like a liar to my girls for telling them young kids don’t apply makeup .. maybe I should use a different reason, i dunno. 

And the toys! So so many toys that kids are playing with and having an ‘amazing’ time doing, which my girls would then ask for. I usually tell them they already have nice toys and they enjoy playing with them, which sometimes is a hit and miss especially with my 2 year old.  

Guys this is just a rant - running to get the remote and skipping and searching and changing every few minutes coz YouTube keeps forcing these videos down mine and my kids throats. It gets exhausting. And I get they seem like small things but these things are important for me to help them learn to love themselves (not class themselves beautiful just coz they have makeup on) and  appreciating and enjoying what they already have rather than seeing other kids basically shoving in their faces how much ‘more’ fun they can have. 

My kids are toddlers so they don’t have that level of understanding of people are different and different people have different rules so  it’s a trying time. 

I apologize if I have offended anyone as I do realize this topic can be a little controversial but I just needed to have a rant about how tired I am of skipping videos and telling my kids these aren’t nice to watch . 
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parenting,Saltnurse,2019/03/07,"Does it ever get any easier watching your kids get older? My first and only child will be a year old in a couple months. It literally feels like yesterday that I was pregnant and I’m honestly really depressed watching her grow older. I mean I know it goes by fast, but man! It REALLY goes by fast. I feel like I haven’t cherished her enough or taken enough pictures and videos, or spent enough time holding her. I don’t think I ever even did skin to skin. I can’t really remember much other than dressing her up and doing “photo shoots” before she grew out of all her cute clothes. Did I read to her enough? Sing to her enough? How much did I play with her? Have I been a good mom?

It gets me really in my feelings. I feel like I’m running out of time constantly. I feel like I can barely remember the newborn days, even though they feel like yesterday. I still exclusively breastfeed, and I don’t know what I’m going to do when I can’t even do that anymore... I’m sure I will have a breakdown. I just wish the months lasted a lot longer. I would be ok with a year of the newborn stage. I just want my little baby back.

Does it ever get any easier? Is it normal to feel so depressed over your baby getting older? ",1.9596057032212642,3.939891364372471,3.599070586164409,88.38660447104384,78.67611336032388,6.562858651645838,21.265446224256294,7.586124646067393,0.7877890864284458,945,26,196,14,23,314,126,247,0.029,0.772,0.199,0.9909,0,0,0,1,0,0,28.0,0,2,1,1,14,14,0,0,9,1,22,2,2,1,5,39,47,12,0,4,5,1,9,5,0,3,0,0,0,5,11,9,0,1,13,4,1,4,5,2,0,1,7,11,37,12,19,35,9,36,0,2,2,0,18,7,0,3,29,130,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159984022324034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866785702126584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687485707673487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607888975438545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661735429864282,0.0,0.0,0.09892729824844047,0.0,0.05766020789311934,0.0,0.15401247483748035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648157888858202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619073707550249,0.0,0.17715771536933805,0.24262162640611204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164485494239273,0.3193623882026012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604966637222052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23355769872948706,0.0,0.050812137223106686,0.07499046591809741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827165029067618,0.07287875092551817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183990588189633,0.08960944091956714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601075196093016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739058447567164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047125600849682,0.1427278499845884,0.0,0.13144906829470815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876000128405895,0.0,0.0,0.09381775200283354,0.0,0.0,0.06799815770298955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943133338585728,0.0,0.2291060094087044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256171818157093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140065633347796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842651699880875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057288484277233535,0.08784205967504972,0.0,0.10426804295682003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273464677257904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281379694924203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06351226600582872,0.0,0.0,0.1151505317888414
parenting,comeatmemom,2019/03/07,"A mom in need of some advice I’m at my wits end and I don’t know what to do. 

My (3M) child has been sent home from preschool today. He grabbed another child by their throat and slammed their head up against the wall several times. 

He is non verbal (not that I’m making excuses because this is absolutely not okay). We have tried multiple ways of redirection because he has put another kid in a headlock in a gym daycare about s month ago. 

I’m asking for any and all advice that I, as a mother, can try or do to help redirect his anger and frustrations into something healthy or at least non violent. 

He will be kicked out of school if this happens again. 

It is his first time ever being in that type of surrounding and he is an only child so he has had very little interaction with other children. 

I feel like a failure, like I can do more but I have taken every advice given and implemented it with no recourse. 

I will be making an appointment with his pediatrician per the schools request to try and see if they have any resources. But in the mean time I really need to address this with him, but have no idea how to go about it besides punishment. Which I believe isn’t working or not taking. I’ve tried talking to him at his level and explain it’s not okay but he is 3 and considered “special needs” due to a speech and sensory delay. 

Any and all advice is appreciated and will be tried. ",2.9644724220623497,4.86819484172662,4.462751798561153,83.69806055155877,75.40287769784173,7.511031175059952,27.050959232613916,8.344100000000001,1.8957261390887288,1098,43,218,20,24,366,158,278,0.085,0.86,0.054000000000000006,-0.8224,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,3,2,6,9,4,0,11,2,29,2,2,3,3,48,49,24,0,5,13,2,2,2,0,3,0,1,2,5,13,19,0,1,5,1,0,3,8,4,0,1,5,4,20,5,33,37,5,31,0,0,1,0,32,15,0,6,14,143,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475813877691724,0.10150393823974033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336069613103525,0.2401420737903829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704900078601526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960534749641254,0.0,0.0,0.12901067494893326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014196058930946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357853685197528,0.09647745844634298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578984031763743,0.08180413935617238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739997156391618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507721804339446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125855268467067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751767076297252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675192457647204,0.0,0.11486030056816605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926496398473225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293029542695874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118851042130192,0.11476653894450775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528692132347171,0.0,0.0,0.12473217321027708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410973198412696,0.09139874764102728,0.0,0.0,0.2547174516984797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708806944995529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511160625345306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335639939664919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317752888789617,0.09124760584701773,0.0,0.0,0.12936081607284186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815342308390882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609534566408465,0.09203674431544688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003106306077592,0.0,0.10853966589508532,0.0,0.0,0.38871518284093054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448063173747752,0.0,0.0908906774787916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833627814630734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,birdgirl_us,2019/03/07,"Parents whose children live in another state... What is it like? How do you stay close? Any tips? 

I am in Florida and my two children (12 and 8) are moving to Missouri this summer to live with their dad for a while. I don’t know what to expect. ",0.3520666666666692,2.6393651400000024,2.056000000000001,95.16466666666668,87.6,4.933333333333334,20.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.16733333333333356,187,6,41,2,6,61,41,50,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.119,0.7131,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,6,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,7,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,3,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21863368442127107,0.3371248832837934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766901415146997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707057119833914,0.0,0.5677876875413201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417077771819088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569920459100082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342680391829962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314062604848685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HerpDerplingston,2019/03/07,"""You do nothing for your kids"" This, told to me by a non-earning, non-driving SAHM with such anxiety she can't make phone calls (not even to make vital appointments, call doctors, or have meaningful conversations with her financial institutions) or come to the door when someone knocks. Aside from not physically going through the motions of paying her bills for her, I handle all of her affairs, and the children's' from work when I can step away from my desk.

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Being that this is said infront of the kids, and on occasion, at what point can I expect them to think for themselves enough to realize that this kind of poison is just flat-out not true? I get shat upon for accepting the mantle of sole-earner and my job involves (perhaps unsurprisingly) working out of the house.",17.078125,8.979178340277779,14.429166666666667,55.732500000000016,53.79166666666667,17.455555555555556,54.05555555555557,12.602617957971056,6.488922222222223,627,26,109,11,4,195,102,144,0.055,0.895,0.05,-0.184,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,2,1,2,5,5,1,0,7,0,8,2,0,2,2,22,16,7,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,6,7,0,0,4,0,2,4,4,1,0,0,2,1,15,4,27,13,2,12,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,2,2,78,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21365096605749698,0.23960259264268016,0.0,0.0,0.15084676259223515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852627530897195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026979383063328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169858292824345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018282429620584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203745865772701,0.0,0.13023950392636474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302155485792568,0.0,0.1120653571013679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22752618787447265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19567669467470813,0.0,0.0,0.20533889196318933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632463938383213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920530058119725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640452136451205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756905645144165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707507154605847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12634883709250422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18841968860162306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28710753638525777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23960259264268016,0.0
parenting,shaaawz,2019/03/07,"MIL says ponytails are harmful, is this true? Hello, I’m a FTM of a 20 month old girl. We live really close to my husbands family and visit almost daily. Sometimes my husband and daughter go alone and I walk over a little later. 

Yesterday, I got my daughter ready to go over grandma’s house. Cute outfit and a little ponytail. I use the little elastics and never pull tightly. I went over about an hour later and my MIL had taken my girl’s hair out. When I asked why, she said that ponytails were harmful and pulled hair out and that I should just cut my daughters hair short. The way she said it made me upset because it sounded like I was purposefully hurting my daughter.

I tried looking online and I have found some information that having tight ponytails can lead to alopecia. It’s just strange because I think putting children’s hair in ponytails is fairly common and I never heard that it’s harmful before this. My daughter never seems to be in any pain when I do her hair and I’m always careful. 

Do you put your child’s hair in ponytails? Has anyone seen any negative results from this?",3.6099775505113456,5.862473739336494,4.176123721626343,84.90154652032929,74.63981042654028,5.579546021451733,27.69294088301321,6.339386263674448,1.2968236966824644,873,35,154,6,19,276,125,211,0.091,0.847,0.062,-0.7087,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,1,5,11,1,1,7,0,14,7,6,4,4,34,33,13,0,1,2,7,8,1,0,1,1,5,0,4,11,15,0,2,4,0,0,10,4,7,0,0,12,15,27,4,15,19,1,36,0,1,2,0,25,13,0,3,13,94,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019524573022396,0.14500343445363864,0.0,0.0,0.11649575939301325,0.0,0.0,0.1904170293316536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789507381978384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088620695370226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706920594315912,0.0,0.11913433566429747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274489865520365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319846887327952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350876187636753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913666015108988,0.0,0.1119751571321277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787717741346112,0.16154750483015692,0.14987874196771492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839959643497613,0.4209667588867398,0.12362738733385745,0.0,0.11756932620317605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247655265856356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175102346789499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239425284183481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691218016534094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897568192650784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28148831671917496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969108354407518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663545092206672,0.11133796222179856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274557137167305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846898114151535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970984641885302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505451801285904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091976657983215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112981845044408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297864652661474,0.12633315235350273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ylatan18,2019/03/07,"Advice for increased visitation Hi Reddit, 

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I have a 9yo son who I have full custody of with my ex. My ex has visitation, which is normally every other weekend, then Tuesdays/Thursdays until 7pm. My ex  is currently in the process of submitting paperwork to court for 50/50 custody. He states he wants to see his son more, and wants to take him overnight on Tuesday/Thursday nights then bring him to me to get on the bus to school. I do not agree with this, as my son has lived with me solely his whole life. Having a 9 yo pack and go back and forth all week just doesn't make sense in my mind and doesn't seem stable. I suggested he can take him every Friday and Sunday night, no matter who's ""weekend"" it is and he states he needs 50/50 custody. He has been fighting with me to remove the court mandated child support agreement we have. I believe this is all just to have a case to remove this, as he is having another baby soon. I want to do what is best for my son, but just changing his schedule out of nowhere after 9 years just seems so unnecessary. I know there is small selfish part of me too that doesn't want to see my only child less because his father all of  a sudden wants to step up more. Any advice/insight to this situation would be greatly appreciated. ",6.408481084133264,6.034878173913048,6.615959909655565,79.8166106719368,65.6798418972332,9.125804630152457,32.30067758328628,8.418075326091056,2.3378076792772444,1010,36,199,12,14,325,143,253,0.043,0.89,0.068,0.6298,1,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,1,0,0,1,9,6,1,0,7,0,25,1,0,1,3,35,43,13,0,8,6,8,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,11,12,0,0,3,2,0,8,5,2,0,0,1,2,26,4,35,40,11,34,0,0,2,0,32,8,0,2,16,134,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991982563254998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514210822990912,0.17398681618848275,0.09737147607502512,0.15014313825363054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010129291906208,0.0,0.08728493370302289,0.0,0.0,0.16132173175084488,0.15026500586977307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147193602410094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412809742704616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480884130184809,0.0,0.08137597541012268,0.0,0.0,0.1578632099471921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869135047846056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113659565706568,0.0,0.0,0.1264359729825434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557785129089294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457716997902267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617069848787396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687409600342013,0.14029200266743672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889950140998624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505662160303044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491200435082913,0.22820160888525196,0.260702543724241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094720543883073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248591950903574,0.0,0.0,0.2153162947750716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42227443614351895,0.0,0.11485527381665958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598621967552563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171531604817413,0.0,0.17398681618848275,0.09220717091831067
parenting,D3signated_Hero,2019/03/07,"Stepdad here, hell of a situation that I could use some advice on please. Hi there, I don't normally look here or post here and I'm not sure where else to post this because it's a little more then parenting so if this is too long or breaks some rules then I apologize. I'll try to make this as short as possible.

My girlfriend (31) and I (27) have been dating for over a year now, she has 4 kids. I've never dated anyone with kids before but she really is a great and wonderful person and I truly love her and want to be with her. I figured I would give it an honest shot and my best effort to step in and do whatever needed to be done to make things work.

Her kids are 4 (boy), 7(girl), 10(boy), and 12(boy). The 4 year old and the 12 year old live with us and the other 2 come every weekend and stay from Friday until Monday (They stay at their real father's house). 

After living like this for a year I'm seriously thinking about whether or not I should stick around in this relationship, and the problem is I just have a hard time dealing with all the stress of the children. It's a complete asshole thing to say but I really feel like the kids are kind of ruining things at home. I somewhat dread going home after working all day and playing dad and I have so much respect for people that have the energy to do that but I just... Dont anymore? 

The kids honestly aren't bad kids per say, just all of their issues combine into one big mess. Our 4 year old is a goddamn terrorist and hurricane wrapped up into one cute little package. He back talks, is rude and demanding, and has meltdowns and temper tantrums so often we literally have to plan it out so he doesn't go to the store with us because he has a freak out every single time.  I've tried really hard to use lots of positive reinforcement and misdirection (how about we get this toy next time instead) but after what feels like months it just doesn't seem to have any effect at all. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to be around him but of course he needs that love and attention so I just sit there silently grumbling while I watch Paw Patrol again.

How can I be a good dad when I dread being in the same room as him most of the time?

The 7 and 10 year old aren't bad either, the 7 year old girl has serious problems taking care of herself, I mean she wont even brush her own hair or pick her own clothes or pour her own cereal. I've tried to teach her how to do all these things by herself and help her do it the right way (brushing hair is a craft I will never perfect) but she seems to not have any interest in helping herself. How do I get her motivated to start doing thing by herself? 

The 12 year old is a whole other can of worms that I could spend all day writing about but suffice to say he lies about homework and school, has a real hard time doing what he is asked the first time, and generally reminds me of the typical teenager stereotype. I try to make an effort with him to spend time to together and do hobbies he likes so we can bond (We play DnD which he likes and is surprisingly fun) but sometimes I feel like he manipulates my trust to avoid getting oit of schoolwork or chores. Any general advice for teenagers that I should know about?

I know I'm being a complainer and I do love these kids, honest to god. There are just so many situations that I feel like I don't know how to handle and its been wearing me down for awhile and I just honestly don't know if I can do this the rest of my life. My girlfriend is perfect for me and she is a rockstar of a mom, she goes above and beyond to help support these kids and is absolutely there all the way. When we do get alone time (very rare, like once or twice a month) it makes me so happy but it doesn't feel right being unhappy 90% of the month and dreading coming home from a job that I hate.

What can I do to fix things on my end? I feel like maybe if I was a better dad I could handle certain situations better and then the kids wouldn't drive me so crazy.

Tl;dr First time Stepdad has four kids now, they all drive me crazy and I'm not sure how to make myself happy so can make them happy.",3.974010939112485,4.62079885764706,4.830024767801857,86.9940939112487,71.01176470588234,7.800206398348813,25.382868937048503,7.85451343220497,1.1712509803921565,3239,89,700,39,57,1052,350,850,0.11,0.695,0.195,0.9984,2,2,0,0,0,0,75.0,8,0,5,14,50,60,5,5,44,0,76,7,3,18,15,163,127,81,0,17,32,6,11,9,2,6,1,3,6,14,40,54,0,1,19,4,3,7,18,20,0,6,5,18,84,40,89,106,24,98,1,1,2,3,84,29,1,19,63,470,124,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990786839820676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250555228745181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342463260610893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050276604089609364,0.035447677060173474,0.0,0.0,0.09026000744468204,0.04739372283703452,0.0,0.0,0.03898193539703456,0.08465773884310382,0.061807369496504685,0.0,0.04313838574942554,0.0,0.05320210685951328,0.08967261795964697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168773945491697,0.0,0.0,0.0873398731662116,0.05315357422075881,0.0,0.0,0.12142939618471445,0.0,0.0,0.065389184792673,0.05226513632982497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187939723554645,0.05941509159655475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04234982974058195,0.0,0.04490142511042039,0.0,0.0,0.03348409301959225,0.0,0.08542678384766071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537998964604873,0.18108542252152748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862436309118419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10594583738083484,0.04863202390242167,0.057623174664080026,0.04252122575326568,0.0,0.05589229053153584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189984235334698,0.13624041803518605,0.050051599805507996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194096387291546,0.0,0.15255604097569378,0.0,0.0,0.05849613834132417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291323650052074,0.05030775186274283,0.0,0.0,0.052791866920214765,0.11144432764878692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03580793770585383,0.22290663255875792,0.10162100529222874,0.08953062766101985,0.04486418132256157,0.04257169788854221,0.0,0.0,0.0430997501380532,0.1372647968879632,0.0,0.20303901211121425,0.051397576877737,0.05093073784315494,0.055222580337817836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059374299813502125,0.12139469443558228,0.0,0.03726724083912408,0.07518057599114332,0.07819944140443592,0.0,0.0539155507717777,0.0,0.049671113205935695,0.0,0.0,0.3191802395467173,0.05398936479805425,0.06870556243454996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05629167845945703,0.0,0.0,0.035146079530447065,0.04426561084322647,0.0,0.05564875683121767,0.04792391052234645,0.05715188919677405,0.09710511177779864,0.0,0.0,0.09701805418241187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540582185098418,0.09743106901886506,0.0,0.0,0.05442830909410185,0.0,0.08658786010457135,0.0,0.120945987639018,0.0,0.051306848830662534,0.0,0.09230309152474496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095258552581935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05013943536517092,0.0,0.03588274307215465,0.10806993966535416,0.0,0.0,0.058071859366769674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057528984894712074,0.0955603695038806,0.0,0.0381169270147486,0.04074735792843704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020801925491305,0.03248381701848828,0.0,0.0,0.26605012018690305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767646220209814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196159345504334,0.08756977585622319,0.0,0.041829338351179725,0.059803384149781987,0.08047992125607753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056600042207701574,0.0,0.0,0.054977424751567285,0.07381428188167294,0.0,0.0,0.03601283667026218,0.0,0.0,0.26117142747983857
parenting,Andersonbold,2019/03/07,"Save Abu Kareem Hello everyone. We are using this medium to seek for help to save the life of Abu Kareem. A Syrian boy in a refugees camp. He need $15,000 for open heart surgery and bones fraction. Please contribute the little you can. Use the link below to contribute to the survival of Abu Kareem 
https://www.gofundme.com/kelvin-need-kidney?sharetype=teams&member=1823626&rcid=r01-155196416315-ce1a833388d34552&pc=ot_co_campmgmt_m",13.815098522167487,19.45560932758621,6.56211822660099,62.773275862069,59.17241379310346,6.762561576354681,22.07881773399015,7.957251820313856,1.5431300492610849,383,8,43,5,7,93,43,58,0.0,0.8170000000000001,0.183,0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,0,2,3,2,2,0,9,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,10,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,0,22,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7055694355557979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074148876045322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572230428297053,0.1454940785257703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331941260383505,0.0,0.2175561319336836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32190185999725185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23827216131749301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37494889279621213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway8383747229,2019/03/07,"My mom is addicted to food and it’s killing me to watch Disclaimer: I know this probably isn’t the right sub to submit this in, but honestly I don’t know where to put it. Throw-away for obvious reasons. 

First, my brother died a few years ago in a horrible car accident. He was extremely successful working in one of the best hospitals in America. This took a huge toll on my parents because they were always proud of him and was, no doubt, their “favorite” child. My mom’s health took a steep decline following this tragedy and has resorted to binge eating. She’s not insanely obese, per se, but she is definitely overweight. Her doctor put her on medication because her blood pressure is dangerously high. She works 3rd shift and comes home and eats the whole house before she finally goes to bed. The other night I woke up from hearing her rustling through bags of food and opening and closing cabinets and it honestly burned a hole right in my heart. I confronted her about it and she admitted to throwing up after because she ate so much. I hate seeing her like this, I love her so much. I want to help but I don’t really know what to do. Does anyone have any advice?

TL;DR: Brother died, mom resorts to binge eating to cope. She relies on medicine to keep her blood pressure at a somewhat acceptable level. Hate seeing her like this; don’t know what to do. ",4.025590909090912,6.097038573076925,4.6313986013986055,82.90723776223777,72.88461538461539,8.265734265734267,29.89510489510489,8.97023862654752,2.616769230769231,1079,47,202,23,22,344,151,260,0.185,0.64,0.17600000000000002,-0.5966,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,2,6,4,17,5,3,10,0,14,16,3,1,1,28,33,14,3,1,4,6,0,2,0,0,6,1,2,1,13,12,8,1,7,0,0,8,6,8,0,2,7,4,33,9,32,26,6,33,0,0,3,1,31,19,0,2,8,127,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232199775668827,0.0,0.10068338973888837,0.0913332042224632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573233531488329,0.0,0.0,0.07006648436554322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204359487523382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096803601429579,0.0,0.0,0.1884252562199464,0.0,0.0876741339419087,0.0,0.10812756578066487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875445389777623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21386553476276388,0.0,0.0,0.10545941082646854,0.09016553048559743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31628775132309755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286843878833673,0.0,0.08764045660079034,0.2491776431858873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034489974123965,0.0,0.10952006003112777,0.1161265264833369,0.12209549190782255,0.06906135193743143,0.10886081566573136,0.1033512538604005,0.0,0.0,0.1188871159391951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915811326672535,0.1139915805872042,0.0,0.2264986215780181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067417333506412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299198365749724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379566518419073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620156543265195,0.0,0.0,0.1514833254982539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669019631636812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981833671790927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440678809208835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108781093211416,0.0,0.0,0.20715475723692067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600605969883082,0.105935857042564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17598052204938003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420912063436835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22894857858757656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077197629256709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503350427760956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001959679508353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635035803052675
parenting,sketchystuff26,2019/03/07,"How do you all feel about playground politics? I often find myself getting into ""situations"" with other parents because of differences in how we believe kids should act at the playground and the role parents should play. A lot of parents think kids should be left on their own to explore, make friends, solve problems, and experience things for themselves. And I agree with this... until things go wrong. I still think we should be there to help if help is needed, or to stop a fight if one breaks out. I dont think we should go all Lord of the Flies and just let kids govern themselves. The other day a kid was throwing sand at my son, the kid was 6 my son is 4 and the parents did nothing about it. I asked them if they could talk to their son and they rolled their eyes and told him to just go play somewhere else. Later the same kid was bullying other kids across the park and I also heard him say some pretty disturbing stuff for a 6 year old. I pointed it out again but the parents were like ""oh the kids need to learn how to figure these things out on their own, its good for them"" 

Is that good parenting or is that just being lazy?",6.701279761904765,6.081068473214291,6.018571428571431,85.15976190476194,65.16071428571429,8.716666666666667,30.273809523809533,7.492282038375204,1.6555309523809532,894,26,185,7,12,272,126,224,0.065,0.8240000000000001,0.111,0.8611,6,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,3,1,8,0,13,10,1,1,14,0,21,1,1,4,2,54,35,19,0,12,9,9,2,1,1,5,0,2,0,8,14,17,0,1,8,2,0,6,1,4,0,1,7,5,24,6,28,18,7,27,1,0,1,0,41,12,0,8,9,134,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489683343457682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924611090141172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471469933547068,0.0,0.0,0.11960698053634222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476084031830478,0.0,0.0,0.06846499807581473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11091554538190654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441978424200476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868380974295056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384573095231332,0.0,0.0,0.053678140855731984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970291394010858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201964805394009,0.0,0.05546468865927976,0.0,0.1810010579734574,0.17808545242514334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231482708820292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534412855337713,0.1085567129470552,0.0,0.051864853382134236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902542008934956,0.0,0.0,0.07086322515252426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15743392449049248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186424679664212,0.0,0.1113980064424595,0.0,0.0719373733560648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7072746974223708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035636480562524,0.0,0.0,0.1080038009081122,0.0,0.1015816440284236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442340872564535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932929965091375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478023193299693,0.08875526603258722,0.0,0.0,0.12152883181231082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532811017633532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115857544011893,0.2040708545351178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014412894464626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607027881400535,0.0,0.06836413902604789
parenting,broken2126,2019/03/07,Being told your a kid of color constantly? My little cousin is constantly getting called kid of color at school. The teacher doesn’t even call him by his name but calls him kid of color. It was brought to principals attention but the teacher insist she never done such a thing. He’s already been getting bullied. I just don’t know want to do from here and how to go about it.,3.767612612612613,5.558003689189191,4.368648648648648,85.70855855855856,72.91891891891892,7.095495495495496,27.1981981981982,7.793537801064563,1.6422684684684676,299,11,57,4,6,95,56,74,0.077,0.903,0.02,-0.7351,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,10,15,4,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,5,3,7,0,10,9,0,7,0,0,3,0,15,2,0,0,3,41,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311115123601867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.64155516857981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4526394439438565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431988033191413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832671910969446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883734583530567,0.0,0.11902404958830992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150974001149026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099041513007073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152553630998934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21195461565734935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391361664179894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001195993088907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352740025324395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AwwItsReni,2019/03/07,"My teen is a jerk with no impulse control, and I need ideas on how to correct behavior My son is a 13 year old with ADHD and complete lack of self discipline and care for others or himself. 

He is failing currently failing his grade. Part of this is not on him, the public school system he was in (up until this most recent year) had no real consequences and didn't hold him accountable for his actions. They actually have a rule that the teachers aren't allowed to give a student below a 50 even if they did nothing and I couldn't get his teachers to hold themselves accountable and let me know what was going on until it was too late to correct behavior. Landon has always been a difficult, and frankly, crappy, student. He would make evenings miserable. He would turn an assignment that should take thirty minutes into a 3 hour session of just sitting there staring at the material and refusing to make an effort. He was making me miserable. So this year I put him in a private school. I have kept in contact with his teachers, tried to keep him on point with his work, hoping it would make a difference. After 1 grading period his attitude towards homework, which he would regularly lie about hadn't changed. I told him that I would no longer put forth more effort than he did and he could either sink or swim on his own. If he failed, he failed. Well here we are, over halfway through the year, and he is failing his grade. There are several zeros in most of his classes. He will still lie about homework when I casually mention it. He just doesn't care. 

More-so than that his behavior at home isn't much better. I realize the things I am about to name may sound like ""small"" things, but adding them all up just drives me crazy. He is constantly sneaking, stealing, and destroying property that isn't his. He wanted to know how my sewing machine worked when we were cleaning last week, I told him that it wasn't a good time, so he proceeded (when I was busy doing something else) to disassemble part of it, and completely cut the power cord that connected the machine to the foot petal. I buy ice cream that is ""just for me"" (he gets things too fyi) and he ate all but THREE bites of it so the container would ""stay in the fridge unnoticed"" and I hadn't even gotten one bite out of it before that happened. He is CONSTANTLY trying to take knives and other random materials out of my husbands shop that don't belong to him, and hiding them. And when I ask him to do things, like load the dishwasher, he does THE most half ass job he can do and takes 3 hours to do it. I feel like in order for ANYTHING to get accomplished, and accomplished well, I legitimately have to stand right next to him and stare and push him along. I don't even trust him at the house alone for any period of time because he is always getting into something or taking something that doesn't belong to him. ALWAYS. We lock our door before we leave if we do leave him home alone because he will snoop. 

Punishments seem to have zero effect. He just doesn't care. Spankings don't work (I dont want your opinion on this, nothing else worked, it was an avenue to try) it is short lived pain and then it's like nothing happened. Taking privileges away doesn't work. We have tried taking away games, his phone, which he hasn't had in months, the computer, the tv. At one point I completely emptied his room with the exception of his bed and a dresser and he STILL snuck food, AND we discovered he was playing with a lighter and some tissue in the bathroom. 

For the record, the food thing drives me crazy because instead of eating dinner, he will grab pb or junk, hide it in his room, and eat that, then leave the trash around for bugs to get into. He has plenty of option and opportunity for food, I just want him to ask. 

Another thing to note is that my dad comes into town on the weekend, has his own room, and follows none of my rules. He will let my son do whatever he wants. They have a very close relationship. Unless I step in, my dad will cater to my son's every want and need. I have resorted to asking my father to not come into town some weekends, or taking my son with me or making him go with his step dad to work instead, but that isn't always feasible. They also take special trips together on breaks from school, which at this point, I have taken away two of. Still, zero effect. 

At the end of the day, I love my son, I think he has a good heart, but in my opinion, he is a jerk, and I. Am. Over. It. and I don't know what to do. It is not feasible or reasonable for me to ride his butt every moment of the day. I should not be worried about leaving a 13 year old boy at home alone for an hour. 
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parenting,questionsxconcerns,2019/03/07,"Weaning my 13 month old from night nursing while co-sleeping Exactly what the title says. My now toddler has slept with in bed with us since birth and its been hell. She's a horrible sleeper and wakes up 3-4 times a night to nurse. I know its not hunger and our bed time routine is pretty solid. I make sure she eats/drinks enough during the day, we do bath, snack/brush teeth/book/bed all by 7pm. And most of the time she goes down easy by being nursed to sleep.

Up until now we've all shared a room in a house with family. But this month we are finally moving to our new place and she will have her own room. I have no idea how to transition her or if I should wean her first then put her in her own bed. 
The biggest issue is her being near me at night. If she knows I'm near she wants to nurse but if she looks for me in bed and I'm not there all hell breaks loose. ",1.0461497326203215,2.7020613155080246,2.1406417112299465,99.30743315508025,80.22994652406419,5.469518716577539,16.88235294117647,6.2272716619740125,-0.6582598930481279,674,11,166,5,17,213,119,187,0.087,0.858,0.055,-0.8729,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,0,1,4,4,2,0,8,0,12,4,3,2,5,32,20,16,0,5,8,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,0,4,11,1,0,3,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,2,2,26,2,24,14,7,36,2,0,1,0,20,14,2,5,19,103,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307113115118337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656344358021093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651375079293487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150664734164414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750757670633646,0.0,0.13594340747408684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441163216617992,0.0,0.1804181191117492,0.0,0.16681129016276922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566655629006522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420913780500796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668155961099464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551347191109145,0.16986411341485325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15435582989439886,0.0,0.4499427068183581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770494200988084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697861748428125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259511051032569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066394828093747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270958369611756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220533623336794,0.0,0.3198722451929608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062912023172492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795782097352291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224462629821096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942663908493545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Puppiesandcupcakes,2019/03/07,"Alternative to saying nightly prayers? While I was raised religious, I’m not continuing that for my son. However I love the idea of nightly prayers but I can’t figure out how to frame it in a non religious way. And “sending good vibes” is close to what I want to say it’s not quite it. I’d just like to have a nightly discussion of people my son would like to “pray” for. Any ideas??",2.136043956043956,4.007973410256412,3.7326373626373615,88.14807692307693,77.71794871794873,7.534065934065935,26.52747252747253,8.418075326091056,1.7469318681318686,298,12,65,6,7,99,55,78,0.0,0.7759999999999999,0.224,0.9508,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,0,13,8,4,0,2,4,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,2,6,4,12,6,0,10,1,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,7,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637861410972786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805430081549719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4859861925747448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21032232604318069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427316518527848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6059977347064265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922850437333554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289467989488094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423537624766196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696109626402033,0.17085686997783187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290871204820491,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drawingforkids21,2019/03/07,"to get closer to your child, can draw dolphin to get closer to your child, your child can be taught how to draw,one of them is simple to draw dolphins, so that the mother and child will get close

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parenting,Willowwisp44,2019/03/07,"Women! I need advice. I'm 3 months pregnant and have barely told anyone yet. The reason being, im embarrassed about the father. He is this pretty boy I used to be head over heels for, since 2012. He and I have a very rocky history, in the past he treated me pretty poorly but I was young and dumb and fooled by his looks I guess. Ever since 2013 when he ditched me and left me stranded after having me move 3000 miles to be with him, lets say my family is not fond of him. Now it's 2019, and over the years we have stayed in contact...obviously, mostly for working together but I started to think he had grown a lot...and he has, but I didnt expect the tides to turn this past year to where I dreamt of being 7 years ago, him ""in love"" with me and wanting to live with me and start a future together...yada yada. I fell again. But now I'm in it deep. We just spent a month together in Indonesia. It was our first time traveling together and I felt going into it, it could really make or break us. I never fully trust this man after seeing him non-stop flirting with women on IG and his overall attitude towards women throughout the years. This trip was a nightmare. In my most vulnerable and fragile state with our baby inside...he was bringing me to tears daily...a few times I fell asleep crying myself to sleep in the corner of the room.
the furthest away from him I could possibly get. I try and keep a positive attitude and he sees every new situation as impossible or stressful. He guilt tripped me the whole month about little things like bringing too much stuff in my bag, or friendly men I had met here and there and had nice conversations with.
etc etc 
Anyways this got so out of hand we were fighting about petty things most the trip, he was being extremely degrading and mentally abusive to the point where I snapped and hit him a couple times.
He seemed to have no consideration about my sensitive emotions because I'm pregnant and made me feel bad for buying cold water. (One example) he called me ""tapped"" over and over and said how bad of a parent I am going to be.
Now I am trying to decide if I have the baby with this man. He lives in California, should I be with him to make it easier financially?
Or should I go be with family and seek safe space and struggle more doing it alone.
I want advice please, I cannot tell this to anyone right now.
Obviously my intuition is telling me to run. 
This just in. After Our last moments together in Indonesia he is commenting on a IG models picture ""#womancrush"" 
Like come on. Seriously.
Help and advice, please. 
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parenting,dillydally1692,2019/03/07,"It seems like my newborn is trying to escape his swaddle I have a 1mo little guy that was 3 weeks early. He was sleeping normally and loved being swaddled for the first 3 weeks, but now he seems to hate it. We put him in and it almost seems like he is actively trying to kick out or squirm out in some way. He does this all the while fussing the night away. Is this normal, or is there something I can do to help my baby sleep better?",3.7586666666666666,4.308817755555555,4.682222222222221,88.21000000000002,71.44444444444444,6.8888888888888875,23.88888888888889,6.42735559955562,0.5998888888888891,338,8,72,2,6,110,63,90,0.05,0.7609999999999999,0.189,0.9022,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,2,2,5,1,0,4,0,10,3,2,0,1,16,15,6,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,7,4,10,12,2,15,0,0,0,1,11,6,0,7,9,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654457410354862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16564489887004913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592796085794358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15428620380116856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14996543884912758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457024591182316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406526257241065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817391593459085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722680046469529,0.1767045113223089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912267210303094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545084639440005,0.3454840762753668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723580686159468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4815059436141707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528658176025341,0.0,0.0,0.1357286513185062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393998357332382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994316545007268,0.2828434082159786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tinttotseco,2019/03/07,"What is the best baby product? What do you think is the best baby product? let us know

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parenting,turdybanana,2019/03/07,"Potty training tips for stubborn kid. Hello fellow parents! I have some potty training issues with my only son who is 2 atm.

He is nearly 2 and a half and we have trying potty train him since he roughly turned 2 annnnddd hes incredibly stubborn. Understands everything you say especially if you explain things to him he usually gets it but the potty is just not clicking some how.
I really need some advice please.",3.2169985569985577,6.169389025974027,4.757056277056279,76.19526695526697,80.81818181818181,6.53910533910534,26.73737373737373,7.793537801064563,2.2556187590187595,333,14,51,6,9,111,58,77,0.054000000000000006,0.906,0.04,0.1386,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,17,11,5,0,2,4,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,9,0,4,11,3,2,0,0,1,0,17,1,0,4,1,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731284822654013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25120054821922905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460295222098517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917299947131549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072489842519115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257570473021756,0.0,0.0,0.31035657891027696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068119172034582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905768719761206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222731315642276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312089427686675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856903155773099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897651525717421,0.3040205449122611,0.0,0.2909739562398428,0.0,0.0,0.30783462818063345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mumofaboydinosaur,2019/03/07,"For any Australian parents planning ELC or other learning for 2-3 year old...what are your thoughts? Hi everyone, 

First time Reddit user and desperate for some perspective and parenting advice on a following issue that has come up. 

My husband and I have had disagreements about sending our 2.5 year old child to ELC or any type of daycare. Some back fill to our story:

1. Child was conceived via IVF after a 5 year struggle. Our miracle child (conceived on our last embryo transfer) and ultimately our only child.
2. I didn't work during pregnancy and have been out of work since having our son. My husband earns a decent income between $80-100k. Owns the house we live in, has managed to save a fair bit for a rainy day through sheer frugal living. We don't share CCs nor split bills, but whatever I have and whatever he has - we spend and save separately. I don't receive any government benefit but I don't receive any supplement from husband either. 
3. I am currently trying to find casual to part time work but have not had much luck with some ""holes"" in my resume and disagreement with husband regarding care for our child.
4. Our families don't get along. 
5. We are middle working class, a normal suburban life with a brick house and used but reliable family car. Our lives aren't flash, but not terrible either. 

Anyway, point is - my husband - the breadwinner - believes that because he earns and holds the money - can make the decisions for the family's behalf.  He is a d\*\^%. He refuses to sign any registration forms for our child to go to any child care, day care and especially ELC. 

When my morning star was born, I registered child for ELC and Reception at 3 places - the schools we attended and the schools my siblings attended. My husband retracted the applications for two of them and ripped up the third application when it arrived by post. Simply tore it up (and my heart to be so overly dramatic) and said he will not pay, will not sign his consent, and will remove child everyday if I go behind his back and send our child to any of those 3 schools.

2 out of 3 schools are private schools that will set you back.... but I chose those schools purely for ease of entry and familiarity of how the schools are.

I am willing and will even do full time work to pay for our child's tuition! Husband won't even need to pay a single cent! I' more than happy to pay for it allllllll!!!! Hell I'm willing to pay husband to uber our child to the school.

Another chestnut to the problem. Husband pretty much hates my family and I don't think his is great either. Funnily enough the only thing in common we have is the loathing for each other's  family! Ha Ha Ha

He has a deep mistrust of anyone looking after our child alone for any length of time. Our child is a treasured nuget but to the extent where we have not even had 1 day or night out alone KID FREE. EVER!

Husband flat out refuses to even consider day care or pre-kindy for our child. Nope. Nah. Nay nah.

If he won't allow my mum (partially accepts his mum) and refuses any other child care to look after our child - refuses for our child to go to day care or any type of ELC.

We've had furious rows over this where he has even called me a ""f\*%\*ing b\*%&#"" 

Our child is smart. Not gifted. Not parents I really believe my child is a magical unicorn smart. Just smart. Naturally curious, intelligent, speaking in sentences and inquisitive. Reached milestones early and I believe in our child's best interests that a head start in learning will progress his natural abilities to learn and be stimulated.

I went to private school for high school for 2 years. It was an eye opener. I hated it then because I felt so dumb compared to my peers. But I worked harder. I learned a lot more.  I learned to become capable of doing things out of my comfort zone. I don't regret the experience and valued that time.

Husband disbelieves all this and calls all kindy, ELC and preschools money making companies and that I only want to send our child to impress our friends (not true), post on IG (not true) and also that I'm being selfish I don't want to care for our child at home so I can go make money and leave a complete stranger look after our child. He doesn't think a 3 year old would learn anything at that age too.

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It has gotten to the point ...and to the extreme where I have to consider the other d word - d&\^$(&ing the d&(7

The longer I stay, I don't have a voice for my child. I have ultimately no say. I will have no active means to encourage and nurture his natural intelligence. 

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What can I do???

Is husband's behaviour toxic and controlling??

The topic throws my husband into a deep rage.

Bring in a third party? unfortunately not the sexy fantasy type but parent or relationship counsellor??

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Am I being swayed by schools that ELC is the only way, the best way???

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Please your honest feedback or advice. 

Also, please don't parent shame me.

I'm new.

Or as Homer Simpson said it best..

It's my first day 

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parenting,HowHardCanItBeReally,2019/03/07,"Sons first haircut (co-parenting with a narc) Hi all, 

Firstly a bit of background.

My son is two in 1 month. His mum is a narc, we are not together but things have been going smooth lately. I'm mixed race Caribbean and his mum is black, for reference to hair texture  and styles ect.

I want to get his haircut, I have mentioned it but she is not keen on the idea, she said once he can say""I want to get my haircut"" she will open up to the idea. Do kids even say stuff like that!? He may show signs of discomfort ect but not verbally say those words. She said it must be his choice.

She sometimes puts his hair in two buns, and he looks too girl, as does everyone I know. She has said she will only put it in 1 bun when hes with me.

Its a lot of hassle doing his hair, takes times and he always is in discomfort when shes brushing it back ect it would look so much nicer short, level 2 or 3.

Any advice or tips on how to approach it? His mum is a narc so I have to tread carefully, and I have to make decisions on what's REALLY important, to avoid confrontation ect it would be lovely to discuss it normally with a partner but its just not possible.



Thanks all",2.1343749999999986,3.6605336875000014,3.3975000000000013,92.0775,76.70833333333334,7.3000000000000025,22.833333333333336,8.07648339933343,0.9663583333333334,895,26,204,15,20,291,140,240,0.081,0.8320000000000001,0.087,-0.2155,1,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,2,9,9,1,3,8,0,26,4,3,2,3,41,43,17,0,6,11,5,4,1,1,6,0,5,0,3,15,10,0,1,5,1,0,4,4,4,0,4,4,13,25,5,25,31,5,23,0,0,3,1,38,11,0,4,9,129,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810185295778592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090792735595876,0.0,0.0,0.08914724167254605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080186687067098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431188106178239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365731019545074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147197324015552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658521062304324,0.0,0.0,0.12526428565271272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22301404260908267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698060507248555,0.0,0.07450276034262633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29597444150212154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204488543685185,0.0,0.14787779506102633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404506335484363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22016898747134586,0.0,0.0,0.1114499634593751,0.11831589547828295,0.0,0.08750511084998669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463660242167992,0.0,0.09636790506785334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844259500475305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139608993431854,0.0,0.09970158162885084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778684197036587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635678866185425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398106754044435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740963172371062,0.3127495138545007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296536110168366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500692901898896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856507542085917,0.0,0.0,0.12069215310610334,0.0,0.0,0.0870918818296479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644095919147872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561162065110505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464323938981506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624838047149095,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rubbermbn,2019/03/07,"Newborns are such terrifying creatures The title says it all. Newborns are so scary to me. So my wife and I just had a beautiful baby girl on Monday. This is her first and my second child (7 year old from a previous relationship) and going through the process again brings back so many *scary* things that go through a parents head. 

As I sit here typing, I'm holding my daughter and constantly checking if shes still breathing. I'm debating on calling the on call pediatrician because shes supposed to put out 3 wet diapers but has only put out 2 and I'm terrified shes dehydrated, but I remember she was born at NOON, she still has 11 hours to put out 1 more wet diaper. I'm scared about her being swaddled too tight. The list goes on and in 

Dont even get me started on SIDS. This is every parents absolute worse nightmare and when you have a newborn, you see the posters about them *everywhere*. The education is absolutely necessary, it just doesnt help with a parents anxiety. 

As I said, newborns are the scariest creatures in existence. I guess I'll just go about my day ready to melt from anxiety. ",4.227522783761393,6.04729725352113,5.306799226732949,79.3317315658658,71.7699530516432,8.767633250483291,32.71720519193593,9.325443323948027,3.1374293841480254,877,43,164,20,17,289,133,213,0.12,0.853,0.027000000000000003,-0.9623,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,2,1,1,18,1,0,1,12,0,17,2,2,0,1,22,30,16,0,1,6,5,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,6,11,0,2,1,0,1,7,2,1,0,2,3,6,21,0,25,26,2,34,0,0,1,0,27,11,0,2,15,107,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21091144892477234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599899718979623,0.0,0.0840327592619617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815227989903815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14896808111756976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889025640272453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156047828384093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104936031874486,0.0,0.11614550853842882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725608666620467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202151717469639,0.0,0.2350318936351325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185854292017062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147501243109778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239869555845852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575557874087985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975939243488736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465155449637965,0.0,0.0,0.10484198357609692,0.0,0.0,0.4592020436691922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157353312043888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800050648973032,0.1561584390528609,0.0,0.13112797646365382,0.10962473834175554,0.13801301286921894,0.0,0.10984948976356153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757172760480344,0.0,0.2201761545168429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091582154417429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048206153996334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877159742560027
parenting,YoshiUchiha17,2019/03/07,"How do I know if I’m ready for sleep training? My daughter is nearly 6 months old. I’m not sleeping properly but I don’t really feel the effects of it because I’ve always been an insomniac. I know she has an issue because she ONLY sleeps if I’m holding her. I am exhausted and I try to pawn her off on any family who will take her but I don’t have any family nearby, so that’s only when I visit. She’s fussy and needy and clingy because she can’t sleep unless I’m holding her and I obviously can’t hold her 16 hours a day.

I get frustrated when she’s tired but I’m with friends or family and I can’t have fun because she’s fussy and won’t sleep. I am just frustrated and tired and I want her to have a normal sleep schedule in her own bed. Only I can put her to sleep no one else.

I enjoy cosleeping but it’s frustrating when I get up to go to the bathroom and she screams. It’s frustrating that I have to lay with her for hours before I’m ready to sleep because she needs to sleep earlier than me. It’s frustrating when I have school work or something else important to do but I don’t have time because I’m always holding her.

So tonight I tried sleep training. I talked to a consultant and bought a book and I felt ready. I was excited at the thought of her sleeping in her own bed. So tell me why I’m looking at her in her crib and I feel like a piece of shit? All I want right now is to hold her. I can’t go through this again tomorrow. I can’t listen to her cry for hours. I miss her and I just want to cuddle her. ",0.0917135207496642,2.101727060240961,2.4012449799196784,94.27263721552879,85.6265060240964,5.8575635876840675,20.96921017402945,7.1686216300943375,0.4916543507362787,1192,39,279,18,36,405,139,332,0.155,0.742,0.102,-0.9708,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,12,14,6,0,10,0,26,16,12,2,2,48,53,31,0,7,13,1,3,1,1,2,3,2,2,0,8,15,0,5,7,1,1,4,11,9,0,1,5,6,57,5,33,46,4,30,0,1,1,1,34,10,1,4,17,175,65,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826788707926884,0.0,0.0,0.0966568218461541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599329277996963,0.0,0.060473300620648464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806443107094947,0.0458327283301173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873573573251267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20098864986040216,0.0,0.07186783659534217,0.050770713849937255,0.06823604923413977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054906658185038384,0.0,0.07425978466895783,0.0,0.08077871954732216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099618372476333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417611953062178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811379831778803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03472004384360653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05967889246712301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056725487233857126,0.0,0.0,0.052695731351125714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963116743664452,0.0,0.0,0.07457350046428297,0.0,0.04815725089424098,0.16215035651934373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144257574124507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04552772991857131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06069134951662077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719242141154097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07294987905392362,0.0,0.0,0.7823082615658212,0.0,0.0,0.05471131722074513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053433997263768816,0.0571214518738998,0.06211622242893914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056419742972960665,0.041440094139195804,0.16336352344903068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650048260377588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257525507153469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06412746298561066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05173806553931072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Whoops-a-Kayce,2019/03/07,First Time Mom So I’m 27 weeks pregnant and I’ve been researching pretty much everything there is to know about pregnancy and having a newborn baby. The only thing I haven’t been able to learn about is the actual labor and childbirth part. Every time I start to read about it or watch a video on it I get super queasy. Once I even passed out. How the heck am I supposed to get through this unprepared?!?!,1.8544444444444463,4.3900310000000005,2.7741666666666696,91.0052777777778,82.75,6.055555555555558,20.13888888888889,7.3871296695380915,0.6637222222222223,320,9,64,5,9,101,59,80,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.8420000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,12,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,5,1,10,10,2,8,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,1,5,42,9,4,0.2515590437951284,0.0,0.2454853389157191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661523759168358,0.0,0.2119493440499892,0.0,0.22608504794227985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21397599414313914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26285843533262865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382502716324564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946229117401984,0.0,0.0,0.18492484194397332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679021716427763,0.0,0.19132198849085244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27241393018026305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25592598464837185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516271192450016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780547859654846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671246507912658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933722028423629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20178549112484334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wiebepo,2019/03/07,"Disappearing poop This post is about poop. It isn’t especially graphic, likely SFW, but may not be for everyone.

My 3yo has been struggling with using the toilet to go poop. She is potty trained. Whether we are in public or at home, she has no issues with peeing in the toilet. When it comes to pooping, she would rather hold it for eternity, which ultimately makes it very uncomfortable when she finally does poop. We are working on this issue. We have modified her diet, adding prunes daily, reducing other items. Occasionally, as directed by our pediatrician, we have given her Miralax. We also reward her with a piece of chocolate when she poops in the potty. All of these things have helped. The chocolate incentive seems to be especially effective.

Lately, we have been successful with having her poop after bath time. This usually involves me informing her that it is time to poop. Sometimes she tries to negotiate with me explaining, “It’s just pee Daddy”. However, if you’ve been a parent in this situation, then you know when they are tooting frequently and rocking in their seat that poop is soon to follow. Once she finally realizes that we aren’t doing anything else until she poops, then she will go, so long as I am there for her to hold on to, and I am happy to be there for her.

Recently, we were going through our pooping ritual, and she passed one very large solid poop. As it fell into the toilet, I noticed it passed directly into the porcelain bowl exit tube without incident, essentially disappearing from view. As she climbs off the potty, she exclaims, “I pooped!” She looks in the bowl and sees only water. I can see from her expression that she is confused.

“You did? Where is it?” I ask. There is a long moment where I can see her processing through the events, perhaps questioning, however briefly, if she did, in fact, poop in the toilet. I can see her expression changing, as she is trying to figure out what happened. AITA for enjoying her moment of confusion? Perhaps. Yet for some reason I find this to be very endearing. Maybe it’s ok for me to enjoy watching her solve this puzzle. Maybe this is just part of the joys of parenting, watching your child trying to figure out where their poop went.

After a couple minutes, she squats down, angles her head to change her vantage point, and points at the porcelain exit of the bowl where the poop is hiding. “There it is!” She exclaims. Clever girl.





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parenting,reinaesther,2019/03/07,"What would you wish had been gifted to you when you just had a baby? I apologize in advance if this isn’t the right thread, please let me know and I’ll post elsewhere. 

My brother who lives across state lines and his wife just had a baby and not sure what to send them. This is their third boy. (Have a 8 yo girl; 9 yo boy). Thanks so much in advance. I haven’t had kids yet so not sure what to do as they were further away when they had their first two. 

Thanks!",1.0761791383219972,2.7814570714285765,1.660748299319728,102.55012471655331,80.3265306122449,4.763718820861679,17.011337868480727,5.033348758259628,-1.0325410430839002,355,6,89,1,9,108,65,98,0.04,0.831,0.128,0.8209,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,5,3,7,4,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,0,2,13,18,9,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,7,0,13,4,8,9,1,15,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,1,4,62,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288793984199814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721434624138052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388155885771486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491074952855871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21511189038785425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908121133241486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26741037324167216,0.0,0.0,0.2333108200685679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804141284762706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4591986511693233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4485662931313056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23797134778206264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28013921343399023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305339137574166,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,silverheartpineapple,2019/03/08,"Help getting my child to even care about the TV for a small break Yes, I know, a wacky request, but I can't be the only one with this problem.

Quick run down: my husband works long 12 hour days on third shift (leaves at 5, I come home at 5, comes home at 6, I leave at 6 (with a nanny)). and I work full-time on first shift. Anyway, I am doing this parenting thing alone a lot of the time. 

We did not do screens per the aap guidelines. We introduced them at 18 months for ~30 minutes a day and we talked about what she was seeing. ~30 minutes is hit or miss and she gets uninterested if we are not with her and talking to her.

Other than our nanny, who is my aunt and has her own life after she watches our child, there is no one else. So far every babysitter I have lined up has flaked and never even came to watch my child. And, of course, I am the last to know two+ hours after they agreed to come. So, I have honestly just given up on being disappointed and stopped looking. I paid 15/hour in a 10/hour location. Well would have paid if they showed up.

Anyway, now I am sick. This isn't the first time, not even close to being the worst time (vaginal tears/shingles/kidney stones/eye abrasions oh my!), but every part of my body aches. I would love nothing more than to turn on a 2 hour movie at least for tomorrow, but I know it won't work. We can't even get her to consistently like her shows that we show for 30 minutes (really 22-25 minutes).

Before the anti-tv brigade comes, she knows and recognizes her written ABC's, counts to 10 and recognizes written numbers without help. She knows shapes, animals, animal sounds, easily 50-100 words she can say easily (probably more), understands a ton more than that, is already starting on word recognition (can recognize 5 words) and is sounding out letters/words when she is reading. She is 21 months old. In other words, I am not worried about the impact of a 2 hour movie is on her so I can get a break.

Tl;dr: I am in dire need of a break since I am sick and would like to use the TV, or really anything that would occupy her, to get through this weekend. I don't really have any other alternatives (but am definitely open to them!). I will return to limited screens after this weekend, but as for right now, something has got to give. She is your normal toddler that needs constant attention, which I usually have no issue with, but I would really, really, really like to at least somewhat rest even for a little while for at least tomorrow. Really any suggestion would help and it doesn't even have to be the tv.",4.261655462184873,5.1462317705882406,4.9932492997198885,85.21676470588238,70.50980392156862,8.416806722689076,26.532212885154056,8.676224119757912,1.7038330532212882,1993,61,415,33,35,644,246,510,0.099,0.818,0.083,-0.8623,2,1,1,0,0,0,90.0,8,1,4,6,21,11,0,0,23,1,50,5,1,1,1,74,84,29,0,12,16,3,0,3,0,8,3,3,2,3,18,31,0,2,7,9,2,6,14,4,1,6,9,9,57,7,66,62,13,72,0,2,6,1,47,29,0,6,37,282,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405899561045855,0.07890901637444363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972535167361039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058843619168963024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084662253181344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794274158041006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178419523126093,0.07290547194798391,0.0,0.0,0.24638549645273675,0.0,0.07727294267846653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223133818343568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973436557129565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833755505759123,0.0,0.12049433887207164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164650031986332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867955378932553,0.06859539015986904,0.0,0.0,0.05719014657670101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378756278303986,0.0,0.143453364158695,0.0,0.4225160037893033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463403352608372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649005230358493,0.058287205063996574,0.0,0.15142976349472964,0.0,0.0,0.050507037557838884,0.10480314686107599,0.07166813086419209,0.0,0.06328085436458619,0.06004731023105151,0.0,0.0,0.06079212706517465,0.06453725715547247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141513452789174,0.0,0.0,0.10604207945167096,0.05515009208936078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700610239226856,0.06861225486852722,0.0,0.07503386762515996,0.0,0.09690908342222038,0.05438378830145888,0.0,0.0,0.07939932038255296,0.07743439019295034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709592094916401,0.06842190335885309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715256834400945,0.0,0.32066151476075444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06106601751655115,0.0,0.056864705905279124,0.0,0.0,0.056981289294175765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059150777427237865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504906848117869,0.0,0.0,0.050612550404636136,0.0,0.0,0.059782496071551526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149481634033244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750563016974916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250877531022098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777783565379017,0.06985129687972351,0.07444061426242636,0.0,0.06175851279727217,0.07875412325260947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429278076234765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892955312027878,0.0,0.15617238576796438,0.07261815196947194,0.0,0.3047762832717224,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wildhiraeth,2019/03/08,"Shitty parenting and what to do about it I don’t know if this is the right place for this, but I don’t know what to do and I need advice. My cousin and her daughter have been living with my fiancé and I for almost two years now. My cousin, let’s call her Ashley, lost her significant other to suicide about a year ago. Her four year old daughter, let’s call her Riley, has been taking the brunt of her grief. 

I wasn’t around much in the first two years of Riley’s life, so I don’t know if things have always been like this or if it is purely fueled by grief, but Ashley is an absolute fucking nightmare to her child. My fiancé provides daycare for Riley while Ashley is at work, so we get to spend a lot of time with her. Just the other day Riley had been put down for bed, I’d walked by her room about an hour later and heard her quietly crying so I opened her bedroom door to make sure she was okay. She proceeded to climb into my lap and tell me “my mom told me today that she hates me sometimes”. 

If that’s not heart wrenching enough - Ashley is constantly screaming at Riley, belittling her and being an all around terrible human being. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard her tell Riley to “shut the fuck up”, call her an asshole among other things, just, things you don’t say to a four year old. She will refuse to feed her for an entire day at a time (when we are aware of this, we feed her ourselves). Every day, Ashley hands Riley her phone to watch something and that’s what they do on their days off - sit in Ashley’s room, lay in bed and watch things. With the occasional screaming, of course. 

The other things I want to point out - we have tried talking to her about the treatment of her daughter, telling her it’s absolutely unacceptable and needs to stop. That worked for about a week and a half. Ashley has had CPS called on her from previous daycares, but there’s no physical abuse so they have nothing to go off of and she’s not starving her every day so there’s no evidence of malnutrition. We can’t kick her out because we worry what would happen to Riley with no one to look out for her. 

I’m at my wits end and I don’t know what else to do - any ideas? ",3.7798264140026063,4.633770273542601,4.413792854043108,89.04285910603214,71.60089686098655,7.1001301894980475,22.907276146390856,7.1029339738359605,0.5882580066541303,1706,38,368,15,31,544,201,446,0.153,0.815,0.032,-0.9961,1,0,1,0,1,1,43.0,6,2,3,5,19,12,3,0,19,1,37,7,2,2,3,61,58,29,3,8,12,7,1,1,0,2,1,6,6,2,25,30,2,2,6,0,1,4,13,9,0,7,12,10,60,3,65,40,4,60,0,3,3,2,64,27,2,7,29,256,85,2,0.0,0.1012531219066876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350804574203627,0.07575288650646506,0.0,0.08557330688361614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110745672760771,0.0,0.0,0.05811400665547412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152150523754055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05209407747122704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490465058942835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234916033503993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387101251960868,0.2755649759987379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138874633789143,0.0,0.07568994886291087,0.08830040555642026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144003200010946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269007606569435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580080986825556,0.04464799833119697,0.0,0.04856744672264995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556975406425759,0.0,0.0,0.08437155436535568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126750747642674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415838892106806,0.0,0.0,0.09647107605686893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18786075141389189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477209574814506,0.06036113480089495,0.04175020077149344,0.0,0.07546050724071841,0.0,0.07176274758021556,0.0,0.0932869180001174,0.07265288074779637,0.0,0.0,0.057043521469831375,0.08664045642174098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008675015555736,0.0,0.0,0.06282106963060433,0.12673125492698972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199874245979717,0.0,0.17934646803104173,0.0,0.057908189934730674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489040166377546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928486222173397,0.0,0.08078492671060697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590835582653969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298020817097542,0.0,0.06795920617262724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578933162434925,0.08451961801818812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144626726476527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347659639273063,0.0,0.08054264940681158,0.0,0.06425337836077016,0.06868747328882385,0.2987743643707989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838707123926976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949280520159305,0.0,0.08100368453271424,0.08165826999846255,0.0,0.05802000915381263,0.0,0.16695905168248926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05040502697848151,0.0,0.06854882370125286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442810461442848,0.08678620390280371,0.0,0.06070653123541775,0.0,0.0,0.2751590281069775
parenting,wilson0626,2019/03/08,"My son started stuttering So my son is 2 years 9 months and started stuttering about a month ago. It wasn’t all that bad at first but has gradually gotten worse. On Wednesday he actually got frustrated with it himself while in his car seat and kicked the back of the front seat. Today in just one sentence he had trouble with three words. We have an appointment on Wednesday with a speech therapist to get a screening. But my heart is absolutely broken, I feel so bad I don’t want my little man to ever have his feelings hurt or be made fun of and I know it’ll happen but the more he stutters the more anxious and worried I become. He starts soccer this month and I am so worried another kid will just stop talking to him bc he can’t get a word out and hurt his feelings or something. Idk I’m incredibly worried no parent wants to see their kids feelings get hurt and that’s what I’m afraid of. I’ve been reading on how to handle it at home but have found a lot of contradicting information. He is so smart too and has been ahead of the game from walking to talking and his motor skills so I don’t really understand where or why a speech problem would develop now.. ",4.581602564102563,5.519645141025643,5.39323717948718,82.44447115384621,69.81196581196582,8.414102564102564,30.009615384615394,8.660442795831766,2.206838461538462,929,36,186,15,16,303,140,234,0.262,0.691,0.046,-0.9956,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,1,3,14,14,1,1,12,0,20,1,1,2,2,43,42,23,0,4,9,3,4,0,0,3,0,2,1,3,8,14,0,1,8,3,0,3,5,12,0,3,8,8,18,2,25,30,4,31,0,3,2,0,24,10,0,4,18,120,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.11612073042273065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548077559488092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247753172716578,0.0,0.1344290620401548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914988451406204,0.19870961401648374,0.0,0.13141924289257445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763665520370708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406672520754679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121601902002722,0.0,0.1304704998963591,0.0,0.0,0.1865079620034681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517016845441163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052257760439532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100816119082502,0.0,0.0,0.11936042875869295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821557965032797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06539585049766812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119262993634933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116422705326117,0.0,0.11259475901336168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849390168528997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063324144209039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212847226819005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386094385857662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902594676307225,0.0,0.07623044029021712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482260888426433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916071986908768,0.0,0.0,0.2526731562817308,0.0,0.0,0.09948409931288127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19128533024387054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816090981162651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279215703317852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387668546545035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037118807657245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737334689937257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36253177353797417,0.1212647924476551,0.0845297426104052,0.0,0.0,0.07662807065227965
parenting,Anastasia_roman,2019/03/08,Going on a weekend vacation w.o your child? My fiance and I are going away next weekend for 4 days. This is the 1st time I'm going somewhere w.o my baby. I've never even had him stay the night somewhere without us. Hes 3 months. Idk if it's too soon to go away from him this early. But is it normal for this aged baby or is it too soon?,-0.7702402402402413,1.2596789729729707,1.968018018018018,95.59755255255257,90.35135135135135,3.8294294294294287,16.33033033033033,5.033348758259628,-0.7942984984984984,260,6,59,1,9,90,53,74,0.026,0.974,0.0,-0.1926,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,7,11,4,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,8,10,0,20,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,12,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4478184069234106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369649101380134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740791441913535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5417703111011636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902245110981747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838068448354157,0.0,0.2534557049754569,0.22364689453732087,0.2335027062566176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540170911031046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896613377673844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866692559622243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22973168665656304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SirWaddlezAlot,2019/03/08,"From one parent with two toddlers, to the hero parents this world has. I love my children. Too death. I will do anything for them. ANYTHING.

But I look forward to my peace and quiet again in the future.

To the parents with special needs children, that will be taking care of their child for the rest of theirs and your life... I love you. You dont know me. I dont know you. But I love you. And I respect you more than you know. Any parent with a child with special needs.

You are what this world needs more of.",0.174008321775311,2.555309320388353,0.9122954230235792,101.62575242718448,91.71844660194176,2.9428571428571435,18.036754507628288,3.1291,-1.0217789181692098,392,11,87,0,14,119,57,103,0.033,0.7020000000000001,0.265,0.9808,4,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,8,3,1,2,8,0,0,5,0,8,4,0,0,0,15,20,5,1,3,2,4,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,4,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,2,21,8,15,17,3,6,0,0,1,3,22,4,0,0,3,65,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855293683146764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385193534391083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775914769343565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33969848118785145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389384655187257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236374064475127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169922426884232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923972998310065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32237677489964683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820390148791368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6436815011929148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089644218877978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156918289470727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momof2girls26,2019/03/08,"Heya im new and this was recommended to me Hey all im new here, im a mother and sister, my 2 daughters are 2 1/2 we started potty training her 2 days ago, and 6 shes in the first grade, and i have a kid sister whos a bit younger then her she's 4 and in pre school i babysit her often hope to meet other mommies and share",-2.1056000000000026,-0.3030673599999965,1.1803333333333337,99.9585,95.93333333333334,3.5333333333333337,16.833333333333336,4.935628992294339,-0.9428666666666664,248,7,64,1,10,88,52,75,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,7,7,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,2,4,6,2,9,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,2,7,34,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198906781313766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24497402106775434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447119573827363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908646618032982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22286831534971385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7271339446513655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.433431437648459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270930443609777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882326726346244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CJSR,2019/03/08,"My 16 y/o daughter told me she wants to try weed. First post so sorry if I’m dumb...

So the other day my daughter texts me from her bedroom and asks if we could talk over text. This usually means it’s something she want to keep between us and not tell her mother so I assume it’s something serious. I’ve recently been reiterating the importance of communication and  stressing that I’m always available for support or to offer advice or whatever and they don’t have to fear “getting in trouble” so of course, I’m happy to listen. 

She asks me if I’ve ever smoked weed, and yes, I’ve smoked a lot of weed. I answer honestly and while I still smoke occasionally, I leave that part out. She says she’s been getting offered more and more and she wants to try it to see what it’s like. She says she’s telling me because she wants to be honest. 

I give her my best advice. I tell her at her age, while still developing, its best if she didn’t. I give her a list of reasons, including some of the trouble smoking weed caused me at that age, and some ways it still affects me (I had a lot of legal trouble as a teen/young adult.)

I realize teens are going to do what they’re going to do and if she really wants to try it, she will. My conundrum is do I hope she follows my advice and waits until she’s older or, if she is really determined, do I provide a safe environment for her to try it? Has anyone dealt with anything similar? 

TLDR; My kid wants to smoke weed. Not sure what my next step is. ",1.7007640297498303,3.6848039738562086,3.680074374577419,87.47205882352941,79.52287581699346,6.573630831643001,23.29682217714672,7.6298220110432995,1.06238553076403,1160,39,245,18,29,393,151,306,0.06,0.8059999999999999,0.133,0.971,0,0,6,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,1,3,8,17,1,2,8,1,18,0,0,3,2,49,44,28,0,14,11,3,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,2,16,14,0,3,5,0,0,4,4,7,0,1,5,4,49,10,31,36,9,26,0,0,1,0,44,5,1,15,16,164,65,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046628203366845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647389650143453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266675221141126,0.0,0.08552139157614166,0.0,0.19431162769446853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335169433553378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181256791367505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067595669560752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297562845239136,0.0,0.0,0.06702300521088217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400608105698502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694447898017715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839852251312168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085930101952063,0.19938859319090232,0.11812590562257515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063005818769853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032209399359999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09237328434674524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004153282048644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05077248866118598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17670657845021134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320475401169552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052537974840598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254061015750662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953138937765073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331539880233105,0.10685217315081268,0.10261336577069403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529060752104696,0.0,0.0,0.08281474224500003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001303142019796,0.0,0.1163354903477766,0.0,0.0,0.2489838349370654,0.0,0.1190456967856478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793281921468747,0.09794805002569906,0.0,0.0,0.08353095061290111,0.27250500141834666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993047580844172,0.0,0.28223291887930085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500893748075606,0.0,0.11445866702357067,0.0,0.3677858233169184,0.08249080025726029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,canIbeMichael,2019/03/08,"Looking to read 5 books about parenting before becoming a parent Baby is due in a few months, thought I'd prepare.

I've heard a saying, reading 5 books makes you an 'expert' of sorts. Or at least, you know much more than being uneducated.

Looking to hear what you recommend, and if anyone knows the 'classics'.  ",5.553275862068966,6.793242086206899,6.54431034482759,73.96922413793105,67.79310344827587,8.558620689655173,31.74137931034483,8.841846274778883,2.7521586206896553,243,10,42,4,4,81,49,58,0.0,0.952,0.048,0.3612,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,10,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,3,0,7,7,4,4,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,3,2,25,4,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813399916585955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24977226920313375,0.1924426654117911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25489499897738915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24857957808543074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3798292806024008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096133058934766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18051609302004284,0.0,0.16625117131833553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022404271761919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524357341088249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798488579468469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954313073921138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tmetic,2019/03/08,"What do you do with your kids' ""works of art""? In the past week my kids have come home from their respective primary school and nursery with:

1. A 'boat' made out of an egg box, a straw and a piece of tissue;

2. A sheet of card covered in nothing but foil with my youngest child's name on it (not their writing - they are 2);

3. A piece of paper that's almost entirely blank except for half a flower in the top right corner;

4. A 'kite', i.e. a piece of paper that's entirely blank, with a piece of string taped onto it;

5. Another kite;

6. A tube made out of card with crepe paper on it, filled with rice but not sealed well enough to stop the rice falling out when you touch it (I don't know if this has a more succinct name);

7. A phonics exercise sheet cut into the shape of a person (apparently for the boat, but far too large for the boat).

I got a similar haul last week, and the week before, and the week before. The kids have also made a lot of junk (sorry, I mean masterpieces) at home with me. 

Where am I supposed to put all this stuff? 

So far I've been shoving them on top of the books in the bookcases and every month I 'have a tidy (i.e. chuck them out). There is no room left on the walls - I have not had a wall free of kids' pictures for 5 years and counting, but even if I did, half their art is 3d.

What is your method? ",3.0146024233244972,3.5602429100719446,3.9537258614161317,92.77675312381676,73.13669064748201,7.291480499810678,22.545248012116623,7.273561745256523,0.4590618705035965,1011,22,241,10,19,326,151,278,0.063,0.913,0.024,-0.8797,2,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,0,4,6,3,8,4,1,0,30,0,16,2,0,3,1,42,23,15,0,2,10,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,11,19,1,2,2,4,1,4,5,1,1,2,7,1,20,4,42,16,8,41,0,0,0,0,19,27,0,4,10,153,31,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656450122184642,0.0,0.0,0.11704891298578662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534776121023639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490935322961454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260814303740995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123530186422315,0.0,0.09667342508399272,0.0,0.12331974743396877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11706233666360405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29363425372847585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043897779825647,0.1193079023364813,0.0,0.0,0.15902719006439373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443521954355835,0.0,0.4154854131363637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943558573048702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682802031047675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044221530183496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972299898215898,0.0,0.12780122821740805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713835167817252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12499584507342965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813030186675766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638448597567283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223686089409258,0.0,0.0,0.16755416055682915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4696242097448719,0.0,0.13160069692332962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655626009402848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942549661333901
parenting,lizzyd,2019/03/08,"Watch phone with texting I'm interested in getting a smart watch for my 10yo but I'm a little bogged down by the choices. My #1 criteria is that we can text, preferably back and forth if possible. GPS is a plus but other than that, I prefer that it doesn't do anything except tell time! No games etc. ",1.8756284153005431,4.037247737704924,3.2700819672131125,89.72566939890713,79.81967213114754,6.033879781420765,23.281420765027317,7.1686216300943375,0.850768306010929,236,8,49,3,6,77,50,61,0.048,0.882,0.069,-0.1007,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,8,5,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,8,8,1,5,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,1,2,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3314367869408804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096972280675649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.449183355649224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104252381773582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036708712882007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4540508695320447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520295933406109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348523287053803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Babymama13,2019/03/08,"Kids didn’t want to play with my 4 year old. Did I handle this okay? My son is 4.5 years old. He never went to daycare and hasn’t started kindergarten yet. My dad watches him while my husband and I work during the day. 

Today, I took him to a trampoline park place. There weren’t many people there, but there was this group of 3 kids around his age. They were all a little older than my son. He got excited when he saw them and immediately went up to them and said ‘hey, can I play with you guys’?  They all ran away from him and it was about a good 20 minutes of my son chasing them and then asking them if he could play with them. At one point, one kid from the group threw a foam block at him and her grandpa saw. The grandpa went over and told her something that I didn’t hear, but I heard her reply ‘he won’t stop following us!’ And she looked really annoyed/frustrated. They ran away again and I called my son over and told him not to follow them. He looked heartbroken. He said ‘but mom I just want to be friends with them and play with them’. The area that they went to was an obstacle course that I knew my son wouldn’t be able to participate in. I told him that he’s too little to go play with what they were playing with. He started to cry. They stayed over there until we left, I’m assuming because they realized that he wasn’t following them. My son found another kid to play with but he left a few minutes later. 

My son cried when we left and when we got into the car, he was asking why the kids didn’t want to be his friend and play with him. I didn’t really know what to say. I told them that they’re a little bit older and wanted to do bigger kid stuff, but he just seemed so heartbroken. 

I’ve never had anything like this happen before, and I’m not sure I handled it properly by asking my son not to follow those other kids. I plan on having a talk with him tonight before bed to reassure him that he didn’t do anything wrong. Any suggestions on what I should tell him? ",3.3960609111502653,4.257537187347936,4.148920211427136,90.55948905109491,72.5036496350365,7.420790334759627,22.93153788069469,7.6298220110432995,0.7093721117543419,1548,36,348,18,29,495,185,411,0.09,0.8,0.11,0.4285,1,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,3,1,17,2,15,17,0,0,14,1,28,0,0,0,5,62,71,29,0,8,11,13,0,1,2,3,0,5,1,8,18,31,0,2,6,8,0,14,15,1,0,2,36,10,63,16,47,28,4,62,0,0,5,0,94,23,0,3,25,217,81,1,0.08702964615409085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05918314375851257,0.0912581722472009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323596675677067,0.0774748364336105,0.24408291304625565,0.0,0.16353443480506527,0.0,0.0,0.0530524645155628,0.0,0.1481116376816187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501383311953343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886699922109917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948609078728163,0.0,0.19119595940583176,0.05612692198639911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542351494725357,0.13447777746455813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04946095350835249,0.07299633810045693,0.13921111667781105,0.0,0.0,0.0861730324740268,0.07696002867424231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980887363376814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04782921750441408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836738955751829,0.0,0.0,0.04251828907366016,0.2616797068644056,0.0,0.0,0.14616596758591185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823440135714743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192806973188996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424525664307013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264594735291406,0.0,0.11794708115791523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06033539858885716,0.0,0.09092745691507267,0.0,0.08227114608323763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115068396955264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557024616195254,0.06920946773595298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792285212537674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699967349323271,0.0,0.0,0.12320006297399193,0.0927620231373776,0.0,0.07276068111441104,0.0,0.0,0.09962812318601848,0.0,0.0,0.0820244115466748,0.0,0.0,0.0699511329542537,0.07606774672560626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249392844465399,0.33264222589513803,0.0966931391131644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046859486456723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205329360648251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227094155902257,0.07853071905854518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335861891826122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515325592676208,0.0,0.1120884774884052
parenting,paulfartmallblart,2019/03/08,"Toddler tantrums getting worse, not sure what to do. Maybe this is normal and I just wasn’t prepared or expecting this level of rage but holy shit.  

This passed week our 2 yr old has been throwing intense tantrums that last most of the day and it’s the smallest things that set him off. Sometimes nothing happens and he just starts screaming and throwing himself on the floor. Nothing seems to help. 

We have a new baby in the house also so maybe he isn’t getting enough attention? Idk but this is driving me bananas. 

Any advice or articles or anything to help us help him would is appreciated. ",3.636355519480517,6.230170508928577,3.5523376623376635,87.72902597402597,76.05357142857143,5.501298701298702,30.717532467532465,6.574015621080383,1.6710607142857148,475,23,86,4,11,144,82,112,0.228,0.715,0.057,-0.964,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,4,6,4,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,1,20,15,11,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,5,0,0,2,0,0,4,3,5,0,0,2,1,8,1,8,12,2,16,0,0,0,0,11,5,1,5,6,56,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750309317583949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323969574723094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180561337218485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147397921771069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551556279506996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507560704901635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18716234297225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839245606919442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601747858147705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066768185980961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14600415497231606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598939405147284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299218861582127,0.0,0.0,0.17549650190115915,0.3437349339988276,0.0,0.18795302373630288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630612707439735,0.0,0.0,0.1838608924620549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771511638445673,0.0,0.12677984207184365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16881552964982854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899728905762713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154555398115545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367674847086734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253539230237825,0.12723948490877687,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mehsterrry,2019/03/08,"Struggling to make myself a priority as a fulltime single father. Holas fellow parental units.  Longtime lurker here looking to get some perspective.  

tldr at borrom.

Long story short, since 2016 I've been a fulltime single father to two awesome kiddos (now 13m, 18f) after a nasty divorce from an abusive (physically/emotionally) exw.  18f has no parenting time with ex and 13m has less than 90 days/year with her.  Obviously, parenting takes up much of my free time under these circumstances.

Also, the exw has managed to get CPS involved 3 times in the past 3 years through false reports and each time I've been cleared with zero issues.  They've even commented that they feel I'm doing an amazing job.  Even so, each time is an incredibly stressful event.

The whole time I've been working 12 hour night shifts (6PM to 6AM) as it gives me the most amount of time possible for the kiddos while still earning a decent income.  Example:  I'll have 17 days off out of 31 for March.

The first half of my time since the divorce was focused on dealing with the kiddos' extensive therapy (abuse wasn't only directed toward me unfortunately), schooling and spending as much quality time with them as possible to help them through all of it.  They have excelled through it all, are now fairly independent and mostly manage themselves in regards to school, homework, chores and social stuff.  

*pats self on back*

However, as they've done so, I've been feeling a bit lost and it has kinda taken a toll on me in the form of depression and anxiety.  Sometimes, it's fairly severe.  Yes, I have been and currently am in therapy.  Typical meds have not been effective in treating it and I largely believe it's situational.  I don't really have any support network nor any social outlets and I know I need to fix this in order to get better.  

My problem is, I'm terrified that taking time for myself is in some way neglecting the kiddos by taking time away from them...and, that CPS could potentially see it as such.  I have no doubts that should the ex hear about me (via 13m) that I am spending any time away, that she'll attempt to use it to leverage CPS again.

I know some of my fears are unwarranted...but, I've been unable to come up with a realistic amount of time that would be acceptable either.

I'm wondering what other parents would do in my situation in order to find balance between parenting and adulting?

What's ok, and what's not?

Thanks!!!

tldr: Full time single dad is terrified that taking any time for himself could be viewed as neglectful to two teenage kiddos.  Needs help find a balance between parenting and adulting.  What's ok, what isn't?",6.02944362654889,7.158523135627532,6.46721015826279,75.3585713409398,66.63157894736842,9.226745184639922,32.98589130168077,9.41862664789215,3.1285811066126854,2095,89,363,40,33,679,253,494,0.111,0.809,0.08,-0.9505,10,0,0,0,4,0,71.0,0,0,4,8,13,19,0,4,23,3,40,0,0,4,4,59,68,25,0,8,3,11,2,0,1,4,0,1,2,3,26,23,0,2,9,0,3,1,8,9,0,5,12,6,26,11,71,48,22,59,0,4,3,0,33,23,0,8,32,240,52,10,0.0,0.15320936830717896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051703960282926516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586836004305595,0.0,0.04946030507189221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148954513589065,0.04971510807070451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284317118820967,0.0,0.05718140784238721,0.07058566827878872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055693889863535975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324227521966,0.0,0.0,0.041696626341316864,0.06665566690064897,0.0556865891561085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616371952646573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272730077672175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540701153823091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275397794196056,0.06538223748957278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818558047271148,0.054994850659959016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133749199565467,0.06202222386808176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287001037319216,0.0,0.08667272817790554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367138791152231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748221308668655,0.0641593418894411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106454228729649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057216954474879775,0.05429326532215388,0.0,0.07057772397029467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04315719716012346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181626859740786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505658900429907,0.09588057704548532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606736102588132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04917245145725238,0.0,0.0,0.4307451925498005,0.0,0.06171977343234428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577584816780015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186536147272704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04141915202843439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086705461923914,0.051521046423945976,0.0,0.06744845711928152,0.0730408710284671,0.0,0.10696528588912477,0.14534811535685488,0.0,0.1318136803468196,0.0,0.0,0.06394468161714721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05163294751174628,0.0,0.07406119616383472,0.06759063378876337,0.07401361910743562,0.0,0.07336884821414251,0.0,0.0,0.1944477231887813,0.0,0.0,0.0595249237065643,0.14787548165891234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5655059770036451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263155661758925,0.0,0.0,0.055840491577422935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131951430856936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721841331504638,0.0,0.0,0.0701147489249883,0.047069045745583696,0.0,0.0,0.09185701267828343,0.0,0.0,0.08327040210994804
parenting,thingstodoinjersey,2019/03/08,"Any experience with male preschool teachers? We just had an unexpected mid-year teacher switch in my 3yo daughter's preschool class, and I'd love to hear about any experiences, concerns, or special considerations you might be able to share. Did it make a difference at all for you? 

I feel bad about it, but I'm having some serious reservations. At this age, my little girl is still so dependent in so many ways, and I just can't imagine a man helping her with some of those needs. 

(That's really what triggered this. I was trying very hard to ignore my nerves about the situation, but at pickup today, I observed this teacher helping another girl to the bathroom, and I think it may have just fed my irrational fears. Nothing seemed shady about it, but it made me very uncomfortable, nonetheless. I would not want a man helping my daughter to the restroom.)

Anyway, I've never encountered this as a parent, and I'll admit I can be a little overprotective. Can anybody weigh in on the subject? Should I speak to someone in the school, or am I being unfair to this guy? 

Thanks in advance for any insight or advice you have to share!!",6.6524782293178495,7.263307825471702,6.7445283018867945,75.75344702467345,65.08490566037736,9.541944847605226,34.2322206095791,9.466822959209583,3.1534857764876634,897,38,161,16,13,287,133,212,0.161,0.772,0.067,-0.9625,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,3,0,1,11,9,0,1,11,0,18,3,0,4,2,39,31,13,0,4,10,3,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,6,13,7,2,1,7,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,5,4,20,5,27,19,3,17,0,0,0,1,23,11,0,9,4,111,33,2,0.14874601600389462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535288531731044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034571748026361,0.1559731671841372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419671023801278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540792774838932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29100429154899,0.0,0.16738062185842195,0.07521045500927842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728194165917807,0.0,0.0,0.1332472136444269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676475705675466,0.0,0.29910395728788225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981651700328303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342490868757141,0.14074707687109028,0.09928912071434323,0.15080511361756685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577960168421377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029328611296273,0.11472209744321953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272581405797302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651648478681302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529050671151583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053890936673392,0.0,0.13541278646028182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719675420214156,0.0,0.0,0.12603201666103336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878876052377213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694534687887566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531044095441148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409938307565537,0.0,0.0,0.10098878092171944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24546208229243066,0.08773425411548269,0.11806766394674807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566490203747687,0.0,0.0,0.09578755747680813
parenting,pronouncedayayron,2019/03/08,"Who's worse, Blippi or Caillou? I was debating this with my wife, what kid show is the most annoying. I gotta say Blippi; he's like a real life Caillou with stubble. It's like Caillou got older and stayed annoying. What do you guys think? Is there someone you think is worse than either?",1.9947368421052647,4.397838912280704,3.2272807017543883,88.84513157894737,80.9298245614035,5.905263157894738,23.535087719298247,7.1686216300943375,1.027961403508772,226,8,44,3,6,73,41,57,0.206,0.713,0.081,-0.8283,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,9,9,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,5,2,3,6,2,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,2,3,25,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22485159149084846,0.0,0.0,0.27837063530237266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857595156076674,0.2746994692329557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31999638010380443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22357207294988926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23820715663538236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299655502090729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36028351745694753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5730068994618601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kidventuresplay,2019/03/08,"YouTube videos for young children Hello everyone! I have made a YouTube channel after all the recent momo things have been happening so that my toddler who loves YouTube videos can watch some without me worrying something horrible will pop up! My videos are fun and educational for children! Here is my first attempt, please like and subscribe if you like the video so your children can watch safe videos too! 
https://youtu.be/liMKmGtT-mA",8.250833333333333,11.296173527777775,5.806666666666668,74.80500000000002,63.72222222222222,8.133333333333335,37.0,8.841846274778883,3.5793166666666663,362,18,53,6,6,102,55,72,0.041,0.722,0.238,0.9423,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,2,4,5,0,0,3,0,8,1,0,1,1,8,11,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,7,5,5,8,2,5,0,0,2,1,8,1,0,2,6,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983498986815408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26558334911775283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761046550323036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30508038366092194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28180047684323384,0.2954403214174827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427356445273432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082902357511758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24037051513362265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20743226199284576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009793380448688,0.0,0.0,0.3170855216727532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Randomuser1239,2019/03/08,Asking for a favor! Hi reddit. We just moved and my kiddo doesn’t have any friends at school yet. She is in kindergarten. We’ve asked friends and family to do this for us but I thought it would be awesome if some anyone else could as well :) https://i.imgur.com/4PUSi8W.jpg,3.366466666666668,6.4024697800000006,2.291999999999998,93.47266666666668,81.2,4.933333333333334,20.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.16733333333333356,219,6,41,2,6,62,46,50,0.0,0.6890000000000001,0.311,0.9555,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,10,5,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,5,4,6,6,1,4,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,1,29,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718835049463301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767336510204346,0.2589795327702876,0.0,0.0,0.4725875638181335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20180598851373072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21114613568165366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382769122937061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39055903860592384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686408115241541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558036934494722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006609152905728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30403568700693673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22725900041568015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955140184598822,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mysticlarity,2019/03/08,"How have you responded to your child's negative behavior when you know they've had a rough day? I'm a Nanny for an 8 year old boy. The other day he was being rude/giving attitude, which escalated into throwing a fit  which happens from time to time, but isn't everyday behavior for him. During his fit he says he's been blamed for everything today; There apparently was an incident at school but he didn't want to talk about it. So now his emotions were snowballing because of something that had happened earlier. (He later told me that a boy said he pushed him and called him a lair when the boy I care for said he didn't, and then the teacher scolded him. So typical 8 year old drama.)

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So my question is, how do you respond to bad behavior for a child this age when you know that they've had a bad/emotional day? I didn't want to go too hard on him because we've all had those days where our emotions get the best of us and can affect our mood for the day, but I also wasn't willing to reward that kind of misbehavior. What are some of your experiences? ",6.832215644820295,5.767261879069767,7.290401691331925,77.60659619450318,65.09302325581396,10.79492600422833,33.96405919661734,10.018931242160765,3.0870930232558136,844,31,172,16,11,278,124,215,0.094,0.836,0.071,-0.4503,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,6,0,2,15,6,0,0,14,0,20,0,0,3,1,17,33,16,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,5,11,4,0,0,3,1,0,3,6,1,0,0,15,5,21,4,21,16,3,29,0,0,0,0,37,6,0,2,20,111,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120575740386324,0.0,0.1371219774972777,0.153777827092985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113357965278856,0.154293155502832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328113623605577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922651054098394,0.0,0.1290309632374562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080865979092456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42707105135294016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373921478370592,0.1237947922084246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611961362796444,0.0,0.07192395924174172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223823827604728,0.0,0.11336816400651906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131787257706642,0.13910231996522074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655957627436743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177024076300487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407650235571465,0.10064138645735396,0.0,0.12808012490221551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742800014406323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171988363842976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475901404995848,0.0,0.11995906925131344,0.12092845062784692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522297361756866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929049602636346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153777827092985,0.16299417044160971
parenting,joecer83,2019/03/08,"3K Program complaining about my son's 'violent' behavior The school started a 3-K program this school year. My son has had a difficult time adjusting. The school (multiple teachers) have been complaining about his 'violent' behavior including striking teachers. I'm a pacifist and my wife and I have worked to teach our son that hitting is not okay. He has hit his older sister on a few occasions and each time we've had talks about how to handle himself in kinder ways, which he has been receptive to. We have used those few rare occasions as learning opportunities.

The school, however, has started using words like 'oppositional' and 'emotionally disturbed.' This frustrates me because they are rooted in clinical diagnoses which I believe inappropriate for a 3 year old. I've never observed him in the classroom but his behavior sounds normative for a 3 year old. 

The school has also falsely reported myself and my wife to child services (the case was closed as 'unfounded') for alleged physical abuse. We do not, ever, use corporal punishment on any of our children, under any circumstances. 

My wife and I intend to transfer him to a different 4-K program next year, but that doesn't change his experience currently. I am concerned that the school is ill-prepared to work with 3 year olds and may be exacerbating my son's challenges in adjusting to the school environment.

I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for how to handle this situation.

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parenting,MissAnneThoreau_,2019/03/08,"Give me the 411 on 8th graders, please. First time poster and all that jazz. I'm not technically a parent anymore, so please let me know if this isn't the correct place to post and I'll be happy to remove it.

I suck at making long stories short. The TL;DR version is that my ex had 2 kids. He was abusive and I eventually ended the relationship. I haven't seen the kids since. The oldest has recently reached out through a friend asking to resume contact. A more detailed explanation can be found in my post [here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/av68ur/abusive_exbfs_parents_got_gpr_of_stepkids_now/)

I've decided that I'm ready to resume a relationship with the oldest. It's 5 years earlier than I intended, but I made a promise I'd come running when she asked for me and I intend to never break a promise to her. The youngest isn't at a place in her therapy where her mom thinks it's a good idea. Her therapist thinks that it is best to wait a few more years. It will be tricky to see one child and not the other, but I have zero problem following the rules the parents and therapists have set in place. I'm just excited that I get to see her again. I've waited a long time for the chance to hug her tight. I hear she's crazy smart and very artistic. I can't wait to see for myself!

The problem is, I have NO CLUE what 8th graders are like these days. It's been many decades since I was in middle school and things have changed so much. Can someone fill me in on what kids her age are into nowadays? Which bands are cool right now? Movies? Books? Do kids still like to do things like walk around the mall with their friends and play goofy golf? Her mom wants me to plan a day of fun during her Spring Break and I'm sitting here struggling to think of stuff that a 14 year old would want to do. Her mom warned that she's starting her ""I'm too cool for that"" phase so I really want to avoid suggesting anything too kiddie for our first hang out. Any ideas for what to do with a moody 14 year old are so appreciated.

I'm also open to feedback from anyone on the parenting aspect of this. Don't worry, I know I'm not a parental figure anymore and I don't have any plans of trying to act like I am.  But I've never had to get along with her mom before and so I'm open to any advice/feedback about navigating that. If you've ever been the stepmom or the biomom in a situation like this, I'd love to hear from you. ",2.6369504470938923,4.653281551229512,3.3645529061102835,90.69453055141581,76.72540983606558,6.239642324888227,22.566318926974677,7.1686216300943375,0.5994614754098362,1919,56,409,22,44,605,240,488,0.066,0.753,0.181,0.9956,5,1,0,0,0,0,58.0,1,1,1,5,18,26,1,2,32,2,38,2,0,4,5,64,76,25,0,8,10,9,1,5,2,2,0,2,0,5,27,24,0,5,10,7,0,8,12,6,0,4,9,9,42,20,57,61,7,66,0,0,4,2,46,24,1,3,33,246,69,3,0.0,0.08912887838024358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06015710447411289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346597123665515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920522669832426,0.05259880601984851,0.0,0.061903455833197216,0.06696586372745633,0.14064973734848416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401061429756569,0.0,0.0789436016865218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07957767755012833,0.06479935255939807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702731834493314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662668883460537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804497891713994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797205314974125,0.0,0.08247991725453302,0.11623671548864377,0.0,0.07860352230620432,0.07216231368994523,0.0,0.06309484543445745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007801083017878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956723636109408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16983888779267342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268297189206983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692227445862021,0.0,0.18375475722825169,0.0,0.0,0.13314284976241986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789315994395326,0.07117935789387833,0.050213020514576455,0.07626596156056015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524086809020871,0.0,0.0,0.055298753948377084,0.0,0.11603573464941475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15787117706648396,0.0,0.0509741519147348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3341121699788105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357811633746415,0.16514809480136994,0.0,0.0,0.14408879118554976,0.0,0.0,0.14395961133648574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04819082024218708,0.0,0.07427524083522925,0.16152618786101125,0.0,0.0642414177039425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613133533553194,0.17983285740866525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445317231261065,0.0845556289382058,0.0,0.0,0.06373757963171997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05324437590391118,0.0,0.060074481737449975,0.0,0.0,0.07864110981155965,0.08611419691623648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602591320507104,0.17468317233590916,0.09995179496343314,0.14460270447956042,0.0,0.0,0.08772816615513622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05107258168549598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062068192794056815,0.13310829635825533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639425695796861,0.0,0.05343741444687879,0.0,0.0,0.1937687655614144
parenting,thisidedown,2019/03/08,"Being the weekday parent I ended up getting custody of my kid a majority of the time with the other parent getting most weekends. I have this fear that all my child is going to remember is me hustling to get us out of the house and to school, homework, bed time routine, and very little time during the week for ""fun"" activities. I get her about one weekend per month and feel this pressure to do something extravagant to make up for all the hustling and nagging I'm doing to keep us on track.  Sometimes we do and sometimes we just chill. I fear that when she's old enough to choose where she wants to live, she'll  choose her other parent because fun is all she knows with them.  I work full time to support us w no help from the other parent. My child often expresses that she wish I didn't have to work so much. I'm also not her biological parent and am just waiting for the day that she gets mad at me and tells me I'm not her real mom. 

I guess I'm wondering if anyone has had experience being in two different households growing up and how they viewed the parent who had to do all of the weekday grind. ",8.200941704035879,5.943576381165923,8.346461883408072,74.94130717488791,63.2152466367713,10.534349775784754,35.752914798206284,8.548686976883017,2.8425286098654707,875,30,173,9,10,288,125,223,0.08,0.863,0.058,-0.7184,7,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,0,2,2,9,8,2,3,11,0,17,0,0,2,4,38,37,13,0,3,5,7,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,10,13,0,2,6,2,0,2,4,5,0,2,3,2,30,3,29,31,9,24,0,0,1,0,31,10,0,5,12,126,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661023846578373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698472453789953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583980385104998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061782278760603986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008932062016752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484927199249077,0.09898573378182372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370957537587216,0.0,0.21560049052213487,0.0484387344614752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502545061290397,0.0,0.05444464633494072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105533141068888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421189342029993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053891364088407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851503448045408,0.0,0.0,0.05264849637532836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960155306539438,0.08459206538976118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394642011675247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219835677488076,0.07646566095456082,0.0,0.07042311567154831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052468970761293,0.0,0.06491572305411407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6382391549632825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903996859421076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852132689252858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695346552597947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737505702812534,0.1894948580534916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871130425770167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373234388358697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22344412311942455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935814741629292,0.0,0.3457023599002536,0.0,0.0,0.07904401471216344,0.05650459417844472,0.0,0.07684399149915369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016385295260456,0.0,0.10388967509874994,0.13948528504176494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CougarMountaiin,2019/03/08,"Someone catcalled my 9 year old daughter. That's right a nine year old child and I didn't do anything, this incident happened while we were on vacation on my home country (in latin america), and while spanish is not her stronghold she pretty much knew what was all that about.

I didn't react, we just kept walking away, like a coward, this has been killing me why couldn't I stand up for my daughter? the truth is this isn't like in Canada, you make a bold move here and this could easily have escalated to a *machete* fight, it wasn't just one guy, it was a whole group of drunk low-lifes (I've trying to justify myself but it's difficult), maybe I could had done more? I don't know, I can only think about all the posibilities.

I hate being seeing as weak in front of my family, could you think of more of a bigger failure when your kids think you can't protect them? this happened while I was showing her the local market I grew up in, when things cooled down I talked with her and made her promise she didn't share this ""episode"" with anyone, now I'm keeping secrets with my wife, perfect.

How can I get over this obscene experience?",6.6182595870206455,5.887423584070799,6.4788938053097365,82.15633480825959,65.3716814159292,9.303244837758113,32.10766961651917,8.344100000000001,2.2039775811209448,894,30,183,10,12,282,139,226,0.154,0.765,0.081,-0.9623,0,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,2,4,1,1,9,13,3,0,9,1,26,2,0,4,4,33,41,12,1,4,4,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,14,9,1,3,6,2,0,4,9,5,0,2,14,2,31,8,24,22,6,29,0,0,1,0,24,14,0,0,12,128,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080800267487221,0.0,0.12719922120980418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522506615613376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702384324210181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581803690946286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120064287948545,0.14571630759401336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807572589213576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530501433148633,0.27337423506963104,0.0,0.0,0.15260741166798378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504787484703927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373903021565857,0.17101052633937092,0.0,0.08494848543127141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103171025547607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625934478862887,0.10317771468617803,0.0,0.15528790501775688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428510319164905,0.11362787975940468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243936950538211,0.0,0.1047416874892368,0.11755863449733378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725484313104296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320032652679961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317351862634315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13096797879586047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423876259562368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026904742776303,0.2971296375471121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494394098245724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947678828817198,0.17257362352412633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19907802999408125
parenting,onlywayoutis_through,2019/03/08,"Advice on parenting a toddler with a speech disorder I was hoping to get some feedback from parents with toddlers who’ve shown signs of developmental delays. My son is 2.5 and has been diagnosed with mixed receptive expressive disorder. I am not convinced of the receptive diagnosis given his ability to comprehend spoken language when we are together but because he won’t ‘perform’ during evaluations that has been his diagnosis. 

We’ve been to a variety of specialists and he is getting speech therapy weekly. My concern and revolves around how to deal with day care, family, and friends that mistake a language disorder for an intellectual disorder. Because he doesn’t speak, his day care has held him back and he is now in a class with kids a full year younger than him. I’ve got a recommendation for a specialist urging the day care to keep him with his peers and am preparing to write a letter basically demanding he be moved up. I can’t believe at only 2.5 years old I’m already having to advocate for my son to be treated equally.  Family and friends don’t talk to him like they would a normal 2.5 year old because he doesn’t respond verbally. I feel like people don’t have expectations of him that they should or push him to his full potential because he can’t speak. I’m so frustrated.  

Just wanted to open a conversation with parents who have been through this or are currently going through this and things that have helped them. I spent all morning in tears over it.",8.931882168925966,8.3742315,8.924608967674661,65.93642335766424,60.64233576642336,12.792075078206466,41.46923879040668,12.031772070788634,5.227853806047968,1197,60,202,34,14,392,152,274,0.091,0.7859999999999999,0.124,0.9085,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,3,1,8,12,1,0,14,0,30,1,0,1,1,39,46,14,0,7,5,5,1,2,2,3,1,4,0,1,9,18,0,3,1,0,1,3,8,2,0,0,9,5,23,10,36,32,5,27,0,0,0,0,41,10,0,4,16,135,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586892917421384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955626241672375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644587464599916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330703622121946,0.0,0.2641730697534995,0.0,0.0,0.12206246624294385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313806002016477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961167514582726,0.11169413629644782,0.0,0.10996316747262533,0.0,0.0,0.4966696764111147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426726643939935,0.0,0.054780132621071724,0.07739836259788846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740696031198993,0.0,0.11320671513970094,0.0,0.06157231356049279,0.0,0.08664966927644295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261824811322758,0.0,0.0,0.10760640599962627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629787468606528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585923809402434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151486388166327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615053318542927,0.0,0.0,0.2273699300816709,0.0,0.0,0.08239771275986346,0.0,0.0,0.3608973886452005,0.0,0.0,0.07510955242872694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707986374431087,0.0,0.0,0.12389662403297184,0.0,0.0719765097551744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639019412296341,0.0,0.08690408806621712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696187114266825,0.0,0.0,0.2093028862030184
parenting,NunYaBizzNas,2019/03/08,"Any advice for a three yearold who refuses to sleep in their own bed? 4 or 5 nights a week he comes to our room and either crawls into the bed or the couch (also in the master suite).. I usually wake up and tuck him back in his own bed comfort him as he cries and begs to be in our room for 10 or 20 minutes till he crashes... 

I'd rather not have to keep his door closed or lock ours as I don't want him to not be able to reach us if he does have an issue but I think that's the only thing I can think of at the moment. 

Thank you in advance! ",4.68117486338798,2.64882536885246,5.6875409836065565,90.50158469945356,69.90163934426228,8.789071038251366,26.07103825136612,6.42735559955562,0.6913726775956279,413,7,108,2,6,138,82,122,0.026,0.919,0.055,0.5237,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,1,1,2,3,2,0,0,8,0,6,2,2,0,0,21,12,13,0,3,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,3,6,0,2,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,15,2,20,10,3,19,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,5,6,70,18,0,0.2405274604248353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350406505669343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19234972320156285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635669211269549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18495077019261807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071931093991456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26420812097725016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21048720150372596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510481776874509,0.0,0.2137918583948308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257187278316865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829319722355594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24070116648018486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22144536967572734,0.0,0.0,0.15979575698319246,0.3082405691341081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893249195259965,0.0,0.2649070161943043,0.0,0.14186932801018132,0.0,0.19293662036004536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,T00TSMAG00T,2019/03/08,"Things to consider when dropping support and just splitting costs 50/50 Me and the Ex have decided since our daughter is starting school this upcoming year I would drop support and we would split all costs 50/50 instead. 

Im trying to take into account everything that would need written out. I will be having a lawyer look over my idea to make sure i am not hurting myself or forgetting something important. 

What all do you have in paperwork that you split 50/50 financially? 

So far I have tuition, school expenses, uniforms, extra curricular activities (sports clubs ect). 

Medical is figured out as well. 

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parenting,ComfortableMall,2019/03/08,"School says child is getting lunch from cafeteria, child says she is not My 5yo started public kindergarten this past year. I just got a bill from her school from the cafeteria saying she came in for lunch 5 times and they can tell me the exact date and time. 

But I pack her lunch every single day, and according to 5yo, she has only gone to the cafeteria once, when she accidentally dropped her lunch and spilled everything (I pack like a bento-style thing so if it spills everything is done for).

I believe my daughter as (1) she is not prone to lying and (2) she is extremely picky and wouldn't eat most of the food I see listed on their menu anyway. I called and the person who answered the phone said she recognized my daughter's name and she's certain it was her.

I guess I can just pay the bill as it's not much money ($15) but I feel kinda like I'm getting shaken down here. Has this happened to anyone else? Any advice?",4.863738738738738,5.4815952972973,5.1565540540540535,85.55140765765765,69.0,8.112612612612612,26.768018018018022,8.07648339933343,1.4649369369369372,730,21,150,9,12,231,113,185,0.025,0.924,0.051,0.6649,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,0,9,0,12,9,0,0,2,26,24,15,0,2,8,2,1,2,0,1,0,4,0,3,7,9,9,0,2,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,6,6,27,3,15,17,3,14,0,0,1,0,29,3,0,4,10,93,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567551073533729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908730136200337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216548705876804,0.16436352253070802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073211044048704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380105059516373,0.18347135304217674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345402532577212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16415963870812514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164143991515677,0.13400565773730924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351560611696973,0.0,0.2883402607939544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111034688673915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19397374437313752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676198193678226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829805983218906,0.0,0.17671456067772734,0.0,0.14185393521965364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15674075823010014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179230507251836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708361139796963,0.0,0.12200238927599122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531337080248063,0.0,0.14006767754501998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259084084268604,0.3827039382102689,0.0,0.3246958991853151,0.1278295178588987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135421468340686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020926709881332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657220774404078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870778679244196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103301622273378
parenting,HarrisonCO2,2019/03/08,"“An 11-year-old boy shot his service officer father after having his video games taken away.” An honest question for parents in this subreddit: how would you deal with this? The article can be found here:

https://www.southbendtribune.com/news/publicsafety/granger-boy-reportedly-shot-dad-a-state-trooper-with-service/article_e3658b62-a745-5912-8055-fa65c580e31f.amp.html

“The boy later told police he wanted a Play Station, an Xbox and a computer, and that he was “going to get these simple things, or there would be a Part 2,” court documents say.

The boy also said he tested the taser out on the family’s dog prior to the shooting, according to the documents. The boy told police he intended to shoot his father in the head but couldn’t do so because of the way his dad was lying in bed.

Court documents say the boy has a history of behavior problems at school. His parents had recently taken his video games and removed them from the home.”

After the law determines its course of action, what would you do as a parent? 

I feel like all kids who behave this way are ticking time bombs who will repeatedly act out until they cross the line with an offense which requires a long prison sentence. 

If he’s tasing their dog, attempting murder on his father at 11, and threatening to do it again, how could you ever safely rehabilitate this burgeoning monster? ",12.049496753246755,11.830512196428574,9.525032467532473,63.04269480519483,54.26785714285714,11.716883116883118,35.54220779220779,10.832165505486646,3.846630357142857,1108,34,163,20,11,326,144,224,0.118,0.8290000000000001,0.053,-0.962,3,0,0,2,0,0,47.0,0,3,3,2,8,7,2,0,24,0,18,1,1,3,2,29,28,13,1,8,3,7,1,1,0,4,0,3,2,6,13,8,0,2,3,6,0,5,1,3,0,0,9,4,14,4,26,11,2,28,0,0,0,0,42,10,0,3,12,112,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187472849698113,0.0,0.16088869798697572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951110860910435,0.0,0.0,0.09051803857498136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855706805972673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15308652236679635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343175768327665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399830218910693,0.0,0.07508093330427112,0.10608118348798123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16281146381846232,0.0,0.0,0.07757982157321418,0.0,0.08439020766530203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523934325744658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894743366231555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254464360242456,0.0,0.0,0.1314088507138374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581512620592067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4946412407211473,0.16080004486597116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208473912564454,0.0,0.0,0.16634262330495314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661581980658314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412478578121508,0.23617018841562715,0.0,0.15027966274724844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865006289385547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658562972213714,0.0,0.0,0.28377684345287146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758316487956222,0.235728673655366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164488020249084,0.0,0.0,0.09562259945652556
parenting,LiceClinicsOfAmerica,2019/03/08,"Lice Clinics of America Reports Lice Activity Increased This Winter Over Last Lice Clinics of America announced this week that they have seen a 30% increase in lice activity this winter over last across its 330 clinic network.

Read Medical Director Dr. Lauer’s recommendations to learn how to keep your family lice free! [https://www.liceclinicsofamerica.com/lice-clinics-of-america-reports-lice-activity-increased-this-winter-over-last/](https://www.liceclinicsofamerica.com/lice-clinics-of-america-reports-lice-activity-increased-this-winter-over-last/)",30.29793939393939,35.71781612727273,18.37818181818182,-4.0460606060605935,15.0,13.87878787878788,45.60606060606061,13.023866798666859,6.75360606060606,497,15,36,9,3,125,41,55,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.7901,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,8,2,2,11,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,5,18,7,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436617269213819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22973927104298586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8427474721657908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260380492819176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585391118337538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732837467156726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Selfishmama,2019/03/08,"I will never be a grandparent and that needs to be okay. How do you put your selfishness aside and cope? I gave birth to two beautiful kids and later took in my nephew who was abandon by my sister. Life wasn't always easy but it was awesome until a few years ago when my nephew passed away from a drug overdose. 

My oldest was diagnosed with a degenerative genetic disorder in his early teens. He has gotten married but decided that he doesn't want to have any children. There are ways to prevent passing it on but he doesn't want to put his kids through losing their father and watching him get worse over time. My youngest is successful but unmarried and not really interested in dating or having children. He's in his 30s but I don't expect much to change. He loves his life. 

I am done hoping that something changes. I need to be okay with no being a grandparent. When your kids leave the nest, the one thing people always talk about is looking forward to becoming a grandparent. That doesn't look to be in my future and I am having a hard time coping. I volunteer with kids but it's not the same as having the grandkids surround me for pictures or staying up late when they sleepover my house or sneaking them a cookie after bedtime when I am over visiting. How do you cope with not being a grandparent? ",4.66362596213855,6.240326924901191,5.2276638235906,81.29971083836077,70.26482213438734,8.172165591845227,28.73080923653006,8.6894789155246,2.245826877470356,1044,39,192,18,19,335,145,253,0.108,0.79,0.102,0.6344,4,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,0,4,3,2,8,9,0,0,13,2,29,5,0,2,1,35,41,23,0,6,12,5,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,6,9,10,0,2,1,0,0,7,10,3,0,2,8,4,28,6,31,26,3,38,0,2,3,1,33,12,0,4,19,142,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298983133363033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24386499631963504,0.0,0.0,0.0996517993425444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767856561731542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184122552572386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31003845444573713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873437994054825,0.0,0.0,0.16794681813496745,0.0,0.0,0.14996065694576502,0.0,0.0,0.16993915062229892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656077470486357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312704958024168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554666295848195,0.0,0.16908676279771595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653027966335554,0.15516403840915013,0.0,0.0,0.207010187025212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24611233448519004,0.16394007614186554,0.0,0.0,0.13225750627869734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772330089760383,0.21731417799642647,0.11302019906436125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929887226459466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159195087645914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294625090554407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387687531436342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281316934103025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619147495801658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778279797680227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735424865226558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170896574789857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628106363531905,0.0,0.0,0.14314767535579734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286543893259626,0.11631613420361375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933614127493913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094366552348609
parenting,bwvdub,2019/03/08,"Baby purse is the new uterus - spoiler alert Watched Young Sheldon with my 9 yo son this morning before school. He usually jumps in bed with me after his dad wakes him up in the morning- husband goes to work before 6. The plot line involves the mom having a miscarriage. She never says that. She tells her husband she “lost the baby.”  My son asks me what happened and I tell him she had a miscarriage. He gives me the look - Mom you’re just talking and not telling me anything. And down the rabbit hole we went. 
 
So there were technical terms and sex ( got a laugh there) but I had to explain the function of a uterus and with no coffee or preparation I told him it was like a baby purse, designed specifically to keep and grow babies safely inside a woman’s body. I don’t carry a purse except for special occasions so it seemed an adequate explanation at the time.   
 
And then there were more questions and explanations of the uterine lining (like the lining of a purse!) and then we had to talk about periods and Oh my God this kid was loaded for bear with his curiosity.  
 
 
Last time we went thru his search history we found a couple of pregnant belly time lapses. Pretty good ones, nothing trashy or explicit. And we were struggling with how to talk to him about his curiosity. He took care of that.   
  
  
I wrapped things up - because he still has to get ready for school and I still have to pack him a lunch- with a dick joke. Not intentionally.  Just anytime you say penis it is a dick joke apparently. So then I told him the classic Elmo joke to round things out and move on to other things our morning would have involved. You know? Two test tickles. He giggled and I told him, there we talked about a lot of info you probably still have some questions about but we’ll have to wait until after school to discuss it. But at least you got to hear your first dirty joke. 
 
 
His eyes snapped up at me and he straight up belly laughed- real throw your head back laughing- at me and said Mom, Oompah already told me my first dirty joke. I was so proud and disappointed at the same time.  
  
So thoughts for the day 
1. I hope he knows I will tell him the truth and an that will make it easier to ask me anything 
2. I want him to know and not think he knows because there’s nothing more dangerous than people that grow up thinking they know something 
3. My husband’s perspective on this is priceless: we watch 80 science shows on tv and the boy was probably thinking Where’s my panel of experts on this shit? Nobody says anything. 
4. Parts is parts. No mystery should linger there. 
5. My dad (Oompah) is way more amused than he should be about this whole thing. ",2.5066986649012435,4.982752023391813,3.044164919636618,90.47723270440252,79.44834307992203,5.665070432895657,23.519401228437967,6.892418011121327,0.7797830666813792,2080,71,412,23,53,646,255,513,0.067,0.778,0.156,0.9934,1,0,1,0,0,0,54.0,9,6,1,5,24,24,2,1,31,0,29,9,7,3,3,78,65,35,0,5,11,10,1,2,0,6,0,5,1,3,20,34,1,3,15,8,0,8,7,5,0,4,23,10,62,19,62,35,11,53,0,2,5,3,83,20,3,8,26,270,82,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844139683516995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884622953570526,0.0,0.14302471607303727,0.0,0.0,0.05881981735544967,0.0,0.09326110025008554,0.0,0.13018296526052775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496853302705866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799159696123158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464009577934346,0.0,0.04933284952828895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013295945001374,0.0,0.08387265393769561,0.0,0.0,0.0399654015433065,0.07338082972103822,0.0,0.064160250307305,0.12235983782249328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764414259522765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850578413168423,0.0,0.08621525462129298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597664536242615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799213677115047,0.0,0.0,0.2101978432714375,0.062353511799378536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474303891381945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423640767989998,0.0,0.08350316421704293,0.06503318538100747,0.0,0.0,0.05106090589044597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687695288908292,0.0,0.08130191891519717,0.0,0.0,0.05899754352700786,0.07387920210970846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679774193425146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051834889578251934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16567293481554182,0.0,0.053031896894946584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782276211828802,0.16494877087723026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713834757373237,0.0,0.0,0.08706788534089616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276411881493056,0.1824953232912774,0.0,0.2322506140266816,0.0,0.06963803784408648,0.0,0.0,0.0785208635312521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888947218033956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326665635596184,0.0,0.0,0.07996902528583416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459346491298251,0.2674394796906684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20327911541300192,0.1470444320869209,0.0,0.06072836577526701,0.17841904709510392,0.0,0.0,0.29237642642895195,0.08498859216693852,0.0,0.0,0.07472435261580361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08424826937729639,0.0,0.04511864402191232,0.06071805082083692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182298331389442,0.0,0.08540376743893043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568916132924952,0.0,0.0,0.054339746188117766,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,smoothazbutta,2019/03/08,"Teenagercannot keep friends for longer than a couple weeks. My little sister, 13 years old, (I participate in Big Brothers Big Sisters) has been having some issues making friends. 

One week she will have a friend and they will be BFFs and then the next week they are saying that they are going to fight her (she has got into physical fights), she is fake, make her do things she shouldn't be doing (like lighting lighters in the middle of class) etc. This has happened probably three times since I started mentoring 

This is also her 3rd school since September. The 1st one she left because she was getting bullied, 2nd one she was expelled for behavior, and she is one a final warning at the school she is currently at. 

**What are your suggestions on her finding real, solid friends? Any suggestions on ways to curb her behavior towards authority figures like teacher?** ",5.5594094292804,7.968371819354839,5.047096774193548,80.11372208436725,69.51612903225806,7.866004962779157,31.277915632754343,8.617729084823388,2.7218933002481402,692,30,114,12,13,210,105,155,0.083,0.81,0.107,0.4696,1,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,0,1,3,0,1,9,2,0,7,0,22,0,0,2,0,13,30,5,0,1,0,3,0,2,4,3,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,5,4,2,21,6,14,21,2,26,0,0,0,0,30,13,0,1,13,81,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093244226325163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433274835066843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456098251471343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534884242207762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15470683091704798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519583882274674,0.12678540493219512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4286916015169173,0.0,0.072474238713347,0.0,0.07883642848587992,0.0,0.11094516447763583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266754614472995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478517053764808,0.0,0.12329860731270935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071711586290168,0.0,0.0,0.1355408587232968,0.13903151228802435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519019649603446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475277781022946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556082268301002,0.0,0.3759946369515101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495610720071914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578910373169834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031383074307037,0.0,0.28077930396957285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294973216004472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818505573760154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215783256872688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808873682663157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010760156206847,0.3338127574448789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932960863879795
parenting,gracegraceluv,2019/03/08,"My Child was Yelled at by Her Teacher When I was picking my daughter yesterday, her teacher called me aside and told me that she made my daughter cry. The teacher explained that they were going over a ""expressing emotions"" lesson and my daughter was assigned to express ""sadness."" Having no idea how to act without being actually sad, she just stood still. That's when the teacher started yelling at my daughter (idk what exactly what she said. My daughter says that the teacher just yelled at her). My daughter was shocked and started to cry. And the teacher apologized that she was wrong to yell at her like that and that she was very sorry. 

I've been thinking about this a lot. I told the teacher that I accept her apology. But I have some questions. What is the purpose of this lesson? Did she really have to make a child feel sad to make her express sadness? 

What would you do in this situation? I just feel really frustrated.  
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parenting,worstcasechelle33,2019/03/08,"How do I make friends? I’m not a very social person, never have been. I have three best friends that I’ve known for a minimum of 13 years. I’m married, together for 11 years, married for eight, so I’m not incapable of maintaining healthy long term relationships, and i’m great with small talk. It’s just making new friends/acquaintances that is difficult for me. 

I have suffered a lot of trauma in my life, losing people, childhood abuse and abandonment, etc. it makes it very difficult for me to open up to others so I never really get much farther than a simple” hi, how are you?” My kids are at an age now where I really want them to start having play dates with their friends from school, but I just don’t know how to approach other moms and even if I did I wouldn’t be much company. I’m quiet, and don’t really offer a lot of conversation. It’s something I’ve been working on, but I still struggle with it a lot. 

I know just up and talking to the moms is the best and only way to make friends and arrange play dates, but my anxiety keeps me from being able to do so. 

Any advice for an awkward introvert with severe social anxiety? 
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parenting,xeno572,2019/03/08,"Does anyone loath Blippi as much as I do? My son loves Blippi and has for quite some time! Honestly, I'd rather shave my head than hear that cringy man giggle one more time! Every single thing about this guy makes me want to throat punch him, Ahh I'm dying here! Also, seeing his harlem shit video makes me dislike this fruit loop even more! I really thought my son was over watching this nut, but he has slowly made his way back. 😩😭",3.1911822660098537,4.79733829885058,3.2272577996715945,94.06137931034485,74.0574712643678,5.890968801313631,17.026272577996714,6.18269132825596,-0.4995865353037767,340,4,73,2,7,103,71,87,0.046,0.856,0.098,0.5573,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,0,0,4,5,3,3,0,9,13,5,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,10,3,7,10,5,5,0,0,2,1,10,1,1,1,3,39,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182770099666129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980637869138173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573963787829086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371971907878937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20000427428204376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095408480908296,0.0,0.19256191240362303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262988814594689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23455662895517645,0.0,0.2575906949042384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062738843247452,0.21625805381031105,0.3051157080851789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800939571330106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15487033339281855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430893915680438,0.0,0.0,0.14641397879193596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18212351120262926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23460168261801706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518374237504768,0.0,0.0,0.18144192705992848,0.2665368589773273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348037875407606,0.18141110842706326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trashtaker,2019/03/08,"Rewards for grade improvement My 15 year old daughter has worked very hard over the past 2 quarters to bring her grades up and keep them up.  The first quarter, her mom and I (we’re not together) have been on her to get them up and keep them up.  Just got the report card and they’re very good (3 As, 2 Bs).  This is way better than the first quarter (1 B, 2 Cs, and a D)

I want to reward her, but I don’t have any extra money (she knows this).  What can I do?",0.3884848484848469,1.8810482525252568,2.168686868686869,99.10636363636364,81.62626262626263,5.208080808080808,18.070707070707073,5.82211442006289,-0.6014565656565654,343,7,87,2,9,113,69,99,0.014,0.862,0.123,0.8047,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,3,6,1,4,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,12,15,7,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,2,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,2,1,13,4,12,13,1,13,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,5,55,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160065989403983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20817385502573865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004270094225265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12297596464409735,0.0,0.0,0.19742498182578727,0.1882543213485688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085361156338508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184318577950592,0.0,0.0,0.12935830265287607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756733808573061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469909708832164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469616701535686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884251320357164,0.13883280431990505,0.18683312521983936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135892722769888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15157654621369318
parenting,rakhanone,2019/03/08,"Youtube as an tool to help the parenting process? Being a parent is not easy especially when your kid does not want to put on its clothes or brush its teeth. 

I found that Youtube children videos that show kids or cartoons doing a certain thing help out a lot.

My toddler loves this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uy51b8jfixs

Unfortunately, there are not many like these on youtube. Most are loud, hyper and contain little educational value. And I also do not like my kid glued to Youtube.

What do you gals and guys do to get your kid to i.e. brush their teeth or clean up?
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parenting,hoyessiempretodavia,2019/03/08,"How to get rid of vomit smell (carpet) I missed a spot yesterday. 


While I was upstairs my son vomited EVERYWHERE. 

I cleaned everything immediately and I thought I got it. I didn’t. Today it still smells, but I can’t pinpoint it. So I’m going to clean the sofa and the carpet. Yesterday I used carpet cleaner first. Then I went over with a rag with diluted bleach solution 

Suggestions welcome. Please",1.886690909090909,4.7118984933333365,3.746424242424247,80.34654545454549,90.73333333333332,7.527272727272727,26.81818181818182,8.296473431620573,2.7830000000000004,317,15,55,9,11,106,55,75,0.022,0.763,0.215,0.9313,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,3,2,0,2,0,8,11,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,5,2,10,1,6,6,0,10,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,7,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229686295554164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056705174232079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18775020594934266,0.0,0.20423195810415176,0.0,0.2874121598178821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3944681854117288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869845011415215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28529084510557073,0.0,0.0,0.3406302414916113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103707301466444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33312932308062176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eziekle-19,2019/03/08,"Is your child being disliked really bullying? How does everyone feel about children not wanting to be friends with or play with their child? I have recently seen another Mum complain that no one wants to play with their child at school and they have told her they don’t like her. Personally, I don’t see this as bullying and I would try to explain that not everyone in life wants to be your friend but that’s okay, you can make other friends. I don’t like everyone I meet, I don’t want to spend time with everyone I meet. So why should I expect that from my child? Am I out of touch or missing something? 

Yes I would definitely reinforce the fact that bullying is wrong and that you shouldn’t be unkind to someone just because you don’t like them. But I would no way be expecting everyone to love and want to play with my child the whole time. ",6.800592149035264,6.264910682634731,6.626307385229541,80.60470392548241,64.92814371257485,11.015036593479707,33.525615435795075,10.504223727775694,3.185393080505655,672,25,139,15,9,212,90,167,0.15,0.634,0.21600000000000005,0.8963,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,5,5,0,4,15,0,0,2,2,21,2,0,2,1,34,34,11,0,12,7,1,2,3,3,5,1,0,0,7,8,10,0,0,2,3,1,0,10,4,0,1,2,4,25,11,20,22,1,7,0,1,2,1,29,3,0,2,6,93,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533314028500934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867521829498793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129433432006154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6166230912975204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525780839375835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991397834518682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911605634943159,0.1891600534458673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648382112954353,0.0,0.08615012918565662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745599702190572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269227680847263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268065427814651,0.0,0.1274335128155302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061800120804673,0.1028459931893886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10935412096270444,0.09935851210506357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505146029861272,0.0,0.0,0.12332461825950408,0.0,0.08762487229329731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806216266030539,0.10244369603115708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645870783214955,0.144093518700817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27504659811948656,0.1411094328958234,0.0,0.0
parenting,PipMinou,2019/03/08,"12 year old Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde My daughter suffers from acute anxiety, ADHD, OCD, maybe ODD.  She is the most important piece of my life.  She is very clingy and has separation anxiety.  She is very bright.  She is not like other 12 year old girls.  She is very immature and has always had social issues.  She was selectively mute until 4-5 grade.  In Kindergarten she did not speak to anyone for the first 6 months.  Then she started whispering to her teacher but would not speak to peers.  Slowly she started talking, first to a special friend, then to other friends, peers, and finally by mid fifth grade would talk to her doctor, and then slowly other people she did not know, store clerks, restaurant servers, etc.  she has exhibited odd behaviors such as having to be the one to turn off lights, flush the toilet for me, and close drawers.  If I did any of these common, natural actions she would have uncontrollable, violent tantrums.  One time she bit my arm because I brushed my teeth without her.  I could go on and on with her behavioral peculiarities.  The problem at hand is her inability to perform the average life skills of a child her age.  When she eats she gets food all over the floor, she cannot brush her hair, she needs me to get her out of the bath.  She cannot perform complex tasks.  She can’t properly open a food box, she can’t find things that are right under her nose.  She cannot walk or bike more than 500 feet from me.  She won’t play outside by herself.  I cannot correct her behavior or counsel her on life skills.  If I discipline her by taking away electronics she has violent tantrums, jumps up and down with extreme force, slams doors repeatedly, and rarely will destroy things. At school she is the polar opposite.  She is sweet, kind, and empathetic.  Everyone loves her.  But she detests school, will not do homework at home, and is late almost every day.  I read to her daily since she was a baby; she hates reading.  She doesn’t understand chain of events in movies or books. (she loves me to read to her).  I have to explain constantly during a movie, and she only watches children’s movies.  No one seems to be able to help me other than point out my parenting flaws.  Have other parents experienced child behavior like this?  I really need help.  Sometimes I can’t stand being around her which causes me mental stress and guilt.",4.517585034013607,6.529947419501134,4.626502267573695,83.71145408163267,71.40362811791383,7.802494331065757,27.44274376417233,8.515128840125781,1.9747873015873016,1856,67,347,32,36,577,246,441,0.11,0.768,0.122,0.8774,2,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,0,0,0,6,3,23,6,3,14,0,43,16,6,1,2,52,59,26,0,9,13,3,2,2,2,6,5,3,4,5,11,20,3,1,6,7,1,4,16,12,0,5,6,13,68,11,52,43,6,51,0,1,2,2,68,23,0,8,25,229,79,10,0.09416242446307256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316493567232792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942900663657343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078350680347827,0.0,0.0,0.06403367760201048,0.0,0.14406799396072184,0.0,0.0,0.0658405565700001,0.0,0.0,0.08382452136542252,0.0,0.0,0.08846869742052489,0.0,0.0,0.05740053996866334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280097965955601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967307481571519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175612903044083,0.0,0.07518103386755014,0.0,0.0,0.060726973915665484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963792314415161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963516679007612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501599398912033,0.0,0.0,0.07933590380220462,0.0899762318165157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315033337635013,0.08606275006309623,0.16018902029078538,0.2277231548560544,0.0,0.14549931112035344,0.0,0.09839196074241642,0.0,0.053514675796287436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296589965033462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623017651775345,0.0,0.09445258927126872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828110697353776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980556749740178,0.05174920592476246,0.0,0.1062193162208638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952911533598006,0.09200600852975928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997052884885214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459881166322263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948935766201827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751595488444936,0.0,0.0,0.13964048922324052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19761524929854815,0.0,0.19142068727663156,0.07161476692551973,0.0,0.0,0.20911245798920056,0.0,0.0,0.06528036896775989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901392710292122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901007232979622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28256371845725936,0.0,0.0603228602777239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041419599671767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905948012970951,0.0,0.08572193473784608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789213056349918,0.0,0.0,0.09598673358637462,0.0,0.0,0.09312904552093784,0.0,0.1332972973726034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786273908082647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079842453791636,0.15136837994834584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251146615016248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054906866938576285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024216783949636,0.0,0.09802640468231552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23308158500666326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076921698844903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006708540598768,0.0,0.0,0.12127502823572775
parenting,anxious_me,2019/03/08,"Chubby two year old Hi everyone,
we had our 2 year check up today, and everything was fine (mostly, she still can't jump with two legs but I guess that's a minor issue :)))) except our doctor has mentioned she is 93% or so percentile for her weight, and also around 83 for her height, which means she is on the chubby side and we should be careful, limit snacks a bit and so.
Anyone else have a similar experience?
We eat mostly healthy, it could be better but we eat homemade food, she doesn't get much sweets except when she sees us eating or she is sick. Truth to be told, she does eats a decent amount of and loves granola, so maybe I could limit that a bit. We offer fruits and veggies every day, she's not a fan of raw veggies but steamed broccoli and cauliflower are always a hit. So, I don't know, I guess I could clean up our diet a bit, but I'm just worried I messed her up already with her diet. :/",4.180742753623189,4.670544864130439,5.011739130434783,86.44123188405798,70.46739130434783,7.220289855072465,24.572463768115945,6.816661863887847,0.8004181159420289,701,17,147,5,12,228,114,184,0.1,0.785,0.115,0.4432,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,9,0,0,3,9,7,0,0,9,0,18,14,1,0,1,38,29,19,0,4,10,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,15,10,2,2,0,1,1,4,1,0,2,3,4,27,6,14,18,7,15,0,0,1,1,26,7,0,6,7,99,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306077623643043,0.09464850638082684,0.09848089911564084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275661654120728,0.12126875533745204,0.0,0.10536110465611301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467544101881923,0.3876392468539385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067088138642225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28349067725453864,0.0,0.0,0.07632922860704514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114142884654845,0.10357331896823817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4844271342142473,0.09887047364140043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997192507315578,0.1130933409766307,0.10636990495755028,0.11577396860432908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311541993072513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06183563892902905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26076290521686635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353194302674506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504485098746686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682007118436064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890357539344218,0.1289233677477663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700459424849878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241937360561942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094313666970961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451851145027618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121867670646728,0.1130933409766307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312314106264824,0.0,0.14236657602669214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412458970432726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019531824801055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15243356876939282
parenting,SeaOutside,2019/03/08,"Parenting a child when you lack social skills and the child might, too I have always been a pretty awkward person, not many friends. I ""survived"" into adulthood. A combination of one of my equally ""weird"" friends claiming he has asperger's and that I must have it too, an online-test and a discussion with my psychologist has led me to understand that I might be what she's describing as ""autistic in the sub-clinical level"" . No real diagnosis though. 

Fast forward to having children myself. My firstborn is a friendly chap, my second is a weirdo like me. He's been also diagnosed with ADHD and social development/communication problems (among others). I am pretty sure he's ""like me"" all the way, if you get my drift. 

Socially, I had a very difficult time growing up and now I am concerned for him. He has a couple of friends (just like I did: other non-conventional kids), but he just ""doesn't fit in"" in the larger frame of school or sports team. 

Any advices? Perhaps from fellow ""non-conventional"" people who struggle with the same issues? Ideas (also books, website etc.) on how to deal with it in two levels 
- That my child will not suffer
- That I will not pass him my social anxieties. E.g. recently there was an exclusive invitation in his running group for some of the children to participate in an advanced running camp. He was not invited of legit reasons (not good enough, etc.), also because of his social skills I suspect, but when I saw the invitations, I had the feeling of ""another party I haven't been invited to"" from my childhood. ",7.644929577464786,7.749414443661972,7.993767605633803,69.36593309859157,63.014084507042256,10.621126760563381,36.76408450704226,10.270032843473604,3.924912676056338,1218,54,203,25,16,401,167,284,0.091,0.795,0.114,0.8113,1,0,0,0,0,0,61.0,0,2,0,5,13,15,0,2,19,0,26,1,0,3,3,38,30,17,0,4,11,1,1,3,5,5,1,0,0,7,10,10,0,0,5,3,0,8,8,6,0,3,9,2,32,9,32,15,8,29,0,1,1,0,36,14,0,5,11,158,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12921419139885645,0.10506408436937112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25794322171243866,0.08946251545628152,0.0,0.0,0.07311504950258277,0.11274064467738935,0.08224998863602087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554118830045197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896519428500205,0.0,0.0,0.11084500666010608,0.0,0.10912719713879154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109350215052953,0.239819104153293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543636789411057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33226857283681377,0.0,0.05617304323086457,0.0,0.0,0.09017991500247932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137327827491975,0.0,0.11221951121097616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758170044516998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900506822317424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22811647653861425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728561050485404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938458237956273,0.0,0.0,0.07453854889125992,0.09387944379915736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21876629344403714,0.0,0.1028789707362081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237755404444955,0.0,0.11054508445659401,0.10615977991843464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881265026182492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5479987282144371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239980936119512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133322648634634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563462139027713,0.0,0.06269385805383894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502820259012034,0.11192868658042968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871254556507295,0.0,0.08534175967072045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pawsywawsy,2019/03/08,"I Need Quick Help - Death of MIL My MIL had terminal brain cancer and passed a few days ago.  Kids are taking it fine, but 6 year old kept asking “did you see her fly up to heaven?”

This discussion is leading towards what happens to bodies after someone dies, and he is not emotionally mature enough to handle a lesson on decomposition.

Any thoughts on how to honestly and sensitively handle this? ",4.9127853881278565,7.058778657534248,5.804315068493153,75.11871004566213,70.64383561643834,8.154337899543378,27.235159817351605,8.841846274778883,2.3299515981735164,314,11,53,6,6,103,62,73,0.099,0.754,0.147,0.601,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,5,3,2,2,0,11,12,5,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,1,4,3,10,8,2,12,1,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,6,34,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346298396310321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999683828189092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24744744216487305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29400857053700297,0.0,0.29547921711319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17070178869288394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27470423572225194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29773824452291875,0.0,0.27349334065692443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2340626224921485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774147098826574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962627128223117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27774540993183194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092197502755894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242691859505132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990123486482975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101326147051239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045031975715128
parenting,T-Bone1983,2019/03/08,"Gina Ford - thoughts? Hi all, 

I'm looking for thoughts and opinions on Gina Ford's parenting methods? 

My partner (father) is all for her style. However a lot of what she says on her books just doesn't sit right with me. 

I also have a 7 year old from a previous marriage and I just don't see how he fits in with her suggested routine. 

Like I said, thoughts and opinions from all sides please! ",1.9226923076923088,4.23171094871795,2.886858974358976,91.7310576923077,80.53846153846153,5.951282051282053,27.698717948717945,7.1686216300943375,1.434302564102564,306,14,63,4,8,97,56,78,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.6654,2,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,3,17,11,5,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,4,9,1,10,7,4,9,0,0,2,0,13,6,0,3,3,38,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076356225206985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268479716295072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21803389686513955,0.0,0.0,0.2207383530043031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724506142277903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28830172683570965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850089592239758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217328588730587,0.2469790100379728,0.20647774854379194,0.0,0.0,0.2069010669321273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6183802637071899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720094249102765
parenting,blackrabbit91,2019/03/08,"Need help: my 3 months old baby is different after the osteopath. Does anybody have negative experience as well? I am mother of a 3 months old baby. Due to his position during the pregnancy and to the difficult labour we had, his head is a bit deformed on the left of the back side. I decided to bring him to a well known osteopath of my hometown. When we come home after the first session of manipulations, he started crying like he was in pain, thing that lasted for 30minutes more or less. After that episode, he started crying out of the blue for long time, he refused to eat as much as before (we do formula so I know exactly how much he eats) preferring to suck his hand instead of eating and started to toss and turn while eating and in the cribb. As time goes by, things seemed to go better, with him slowly coming back to the baby he used to be (calm, happy, willing to comunicate and hungry). Than the second session happened, and things went even wilder: when we arrived home he cried desperately for most of the afternoon and the evening, and all I have described started again. 
I tried to ask the osteopath if his manipulations could have something to do with these changes, but he told me that my baby coud be nervous because of some movement of the soil that are currently happening in our area. Needless to say, I was speachless to recieve this answer.
The pediatrician already told me that, in her opinion, it was not necessary to go to an osteopath because, as my son will grow, the head will fix by itself.

I start to think I am crazy, because it seems that we are the only ones having problems with an osteopath. Is there anybody that had side effect due to this type of manipulations? Kids or adults, the age at this point does not matter, I just want to know if somebody had some kind problems too, being treated by an osteopath.

TL; DR: after 2 sessions with an osteopath, my 3months old eats less and desperately cries. Is there anybody else that had side effect due to this type of manipulations? Even adults.",7.495129358830148,7.353284782152232,7.280989876265469,75.17590551181105,63.38320209973753,9.566854143232096,35.728158980127475,8.976282227363876,3.0848111736032986,1606,67,288,22,21,510,195,381,0.1,0.856,0.044,-0.9595,2,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,6,0,0,4,17,14,1,1,25,0,28,10,3,8,2,59,54,24,0,8,8,2,1,1,0,3,2,1,2,3,19,21,5,1,11,0,0,8,3,6,2,3,10,3,29,8,59,37,10,52,0,0,1,0,32,13,1,10,32,207,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140640211155336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774360864945617,0.0,0.0,0.1273843176029791,0.0,0.151479579694234,0.0,0.07048333766930771,0.0,0.0,0.07325755590454368,0.09043032928195678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762453507524434,0.14270366555036373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613405505390557,0.0,0.3639451856383312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865410814365989,0.0,0.0,0.14497246213026616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4237855069079413,0.06919492461265493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412788243114948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102490798961808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045626364759656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414987619187708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649489460771567,0.08817546182250302,0.0,0.0,0.1700176265265951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055520076100553366,0.0,0.16617310024905535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625605519743408,0.09104383532829594,0.06751856693734899,0.0,0.0,0.08999645259824589,0.0,0.0,0.04046719046267011,0.0,0.0,0.07330309622114832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223031090169335,0.0,0.1217810761545418,0.06141836130049636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607525549520752,0.0,0.05612863430916137,0.06299693812230454,0.08813834597046563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830235436719407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851673988633636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587077640492023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081301385845786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376758348602006,0.0,0.0,0.29314211143023217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650883105646664,0.053074954102393684,0.0,0.0,0.09659919727495493,0.0,0.0,0.1582977185171376,0.0,0.05623701725229361,0.0900966715836766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07153965052322295,0.0,0.0,0.04885604833802271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895057729135272,0.07678544732928055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_super_dillain,2019/03/08,"4 mo old boy, bad sleeper - did we make this bed? Our Kid B, a little boy, turned 4 months old this week and continues to show more personality every day. 

But he's such a crappy sleeper. Since Day One, he's been a fighter and at this point doesn't stay asleep if put down. He's 180° different from his sister (it's like they're unique humans unto themselves, I know) in that he won't take a pacifier to self-soothe and hasn't found a setup he likes aside from co-sleeping with us, curled up with a boob in close proximity all night. The co-sleeping evolved out of our need for some sleep, any sleep, and his insistence on using mommy as his soother/binkie.

We are working up the nerve to commit to a series of nights/weeks where we gently sleep train (NOT letting him cry it out) through soothing and rocking, then putting him in his crib, but this far we've only made it about 4 hours (the night is young, as they say). 

Any experiences with similar struggles or suggestions would be most welcome. Basically, I'm looking to commiserate and see if I can offer my wife some rays of hope. ",5.45602564102564,5.611225685185187,5.694629629629631,83.82871794871797,67.6111111111111,8.683190883190884,29.57834757834759,8.384062270229773,1.8750830484330487,852,28,178,11,13,271,149,216,0.048,0.861,0.09,0.7677,1,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,6,0,1,1,3,6,0,1,10,0,11,5,5,3,2,34,23,14,0,5,6,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,5,8,15,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,3,16,4,29,15,5,30,0,0,2,1,29,15,1,7,14,95,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16210639643347896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951856217605397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092447453614314,0.15373521053973205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452804499121205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042260537574324,0.0,0.0,0.11659056277141565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13068553950288042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118382433637827,0.11737801214190142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550363500045088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187971656653107,0.0,0.1164602991076599,0.11945956119038947,0.0,0.0,0.10008947135034876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278033608016093,0.07956016318209845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513621641781486,0.0,0.0,0.08837777772534512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237032361081352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501394355576215,0.0,0.08076613999406973,0.09064926638974584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407199637417414,0.0,0.0,0.11267295191705412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396374779169285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947845678790994,0.0,0.0,0.09497889414813623,0.0,0.12434102786797975,0.0,0.0,0.09859509143496743,0.0,0.5963797332400775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127040541797143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460313013061497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961594823853185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12964435140263567,0.0,0.0,0.14337073712588366,0.10294177829910893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19121384722003545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677164428565923,0.0,0.0,0.08466906331972057,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rachbbbbb,2019/03/08,"My Son. Will Not. Get out. Of bed. My 12 year old has started refusing to get out of bed. He hides in the covers and complains about getting up.

""My back is sore""
""It's cold.""
""I'm tired.""
""I'm too comfy.""
""The dog is too hairy.""
""I had a dream about a dragon.""
Or just plain hides and ignores me.

I am going *nuts*. There is no issues at school. He sleeps from 10pm to 7am (no sleep issues). I have changed the temperature. Checked out his back. Can't change the dog. Thought about making the bed less comfy. 

Now I am at the stage of stealing the covers and pillows until he eventually gets up. Today I had to carry him out of bed.

This is getting beyond annoying, and it's *every morning* unless I let him lie in at weekends. Surely he can't need *more* than 9 hours sleep?",-1.5692452830188692,0.1021836163522032,0.8744842767295644,98.23285849056606,109.062893081761,3.126289308176101,15.362893081761005,5.2151,-0.8704752201257864,581,16,130,4,30,194,97,159,0.138,0.831,0.031,-0.9325,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,0,0,0,11,5,1,0,9,0,14,5,3,1,1,18,26,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,5,0,3,8,0,2,1,2,1,1,5,4,0,0,3,1,13,1,26,21,2,24,0,0,0,0,10,12,0,1,10,82,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499411979108128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438567898341108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693312345246372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4245593061075355,0.0,0.09236589433204348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16005298575049856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392647794825592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619136908976626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084857498583079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050917323284507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054115495899558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448253693863932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.487922849625867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503502451115488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317654820966614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290255663096678,0.0,0.1867969439124848,0.15405334788920594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465985523090783
parenting,K1mb3rb0w,2019/03/08,"When you feel scared for your kid... Whether it is a school shooting, a sickness or a weird look from a stranger on the bus; what do you all do to calm yourself, to not let it get to you too much? How do you heal? How do you let them go be kids? 

I have one toddler. Sometimes I get freaked out because the world is of course a dangerous place, otherwise we would be immortal. I tell myself this but then another school shooting happens or you hear about a pediophile or whatever and it breaks my heart again.

I do already talk with my little about safety and I have built a good support group of friends/family so if something was going down I feel like I, and (for my kid’s age) my kid are better prepared than most but it still really gets to me sometimes. Maybe 30 minutes of fear and then I just keep moving and squish my little hard later. ",2.56954635108481,4.501045757396447,3.2572544378698254,91.77684812623276,76.63313609467455,6.400157790927023,25.467850098619326,7.3011,1.0771298619329392,659,24,139,8,15,207,111,169,0.071,0.7929999999999999,0.136,0.9248,0,0,1,2,0,0,19.0,1,7,1,1,10,10,1,2,9,0,16,3,1,2,1,25,28,18,0,2,9,0,3,1,0,1,2,1,0,4,6,8,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,5,0,1,1,5,24,5,17,22,3,18,0,0,1,0,17,7,0,5,8,99,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16657079389399135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827826473451453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201424723548793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349797130031602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229685693405691,0.16985430799554438,0.15264395182420254,0.1078346415605402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365865078973041,0.0,0.17157025394307415,0.12660492142246066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347955029694533,0.0,0.13521644868216748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701252018884887,0.17886972804162168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341662336419629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30870155704199664,0.0,0.07374376286903789,0.3025716959466056,0.0,0.0,0.12675519979773112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164384253728513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042990802643214,0.11096143195511846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022837674504728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15770467173345634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669878685072472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112158162360015,0.3055273901242708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11620430036185815,0.2985755543082613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054431685335824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128980839762292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132331458733753,0.1319319755975367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072265033772759,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MomWithAQuestion,2019/03/08,"Is this the 1950’s? If you have a five week old son and you have family to visit, is it acceptable for the father to repeatedly ignore requests for help with the baby from the child’s mother? To the point that the mother is sitting there leaking through her bra because she needs to pump? Should she have to say after two days of company that daddy needs to get off of the Xbox with his brother and help parent his child? And when this issue is brought to his attention by a third party is it okay for him to sit in the living room talking shit? Am I missing something here, or is this man being a complete jerk? ",7.353658536585362,5.892888715447158,7.370853658536586,78.72993902439026,64.28455284552845,9.826016260162604,32.69512195121951,8.344100000000001,2.3686975609756096,484,15,96,5,6,156,81,123,0.081,0.818,0.1,0.3736,1,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,0,3,6,2,0,11,1,12,1,1,0,0,13,17,6,0,4,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,7,5,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,4,0,3,1,1,10,2,21,14,0,14,0,1,0,0,24,4,1,2,6,72,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493303128937626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568444486302437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798419354362145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309341738717862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279857497152217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32839397967896783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25568310792748644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163113679017051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632815642453646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570528694193596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27200814485855673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23157408612250965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480850826805346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514562896720609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18858845291889145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968961228609397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23929829107697165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19649867679221894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moose_cahoots,2019/03/08,"4 YO daughter is fascinated by Police. How should I talk to her about them? This is a complex topic for a variety of reasons. First and foremost, I want her to be able to identify police officers and seek out the police in an emergency. But...

1. While police keep people safe, they do that primarily by stopping bad guys (and bad guys is a whole 'nother topic)
1. Police sometimes have to use violence to subdue bad guys. What is violence? When is it OK?
1. It's generally not a good thing to hear or see the police.
1. Not all officers are good people. Some are downright terrible.

Basically I'm having trouble finding the line between ""the police are our friends and they are all Officer Friendly"" and giving her a more accurate view of the police. I don't want to raise her on propaganda, but I also don't want to give her details she's not ready for. Help!",1.9175512133627493,4.4932172694610815,4.089391742830131,81.3987141506461,82.89221556886227,7.108603844941695,25.555940750078783,8.20500826718156,2.0792107784431137,672,28,124,15,19,230,99,167,0.173,0.738,0.08900000000000001,-0.927,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,0,3,1,4,11,0,0,11,1,16,0,0,3,2,28,26,12,0,4,6,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,6,6,0,3,3,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,0,3,14,6,19,24,5,7,0,0,2,0,21,3,0,2,4,87,20,0,0.1558105043428545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460160403019599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39028578875150777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240797822408258,0.132532335398199,0.0,0.0,0.24075761830124426,0.0,0.0,0.29893526674531457,0.0,0.2613729173269562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4628306873760685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756097623569279,0.0,0.1044364967165425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849153532016106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160387706784924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16019914866730786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416079910725368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410057285936302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026455836317452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523458139377971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351357571989164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345702492093073,0.0,0.0,0.2757032171171481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395686378490208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,the_depressed_person,2019/03/08,"2.5 year old—not forming many sentences My son is 28 months old.  He has tons of words, even many complex words:  choo choo train, seashell, vitamin.  He has a word for everything.

He also says a lot of two word phrases that are a noun pared with an adjective—green ball, big box—and a few nouns paired with verbs—go home, go car—as well as some memorized phrases—bye bye, thank you, all done, etc.

He can count to 10 and knows and can name all his colors.  He communicates his needs well most of the time.  BUT—I keep reading stuff saying he should have 3-4 word sentences by now!!!  He’s really not there yet.  My pediatrician is not concerned, but I live in a rural area.  

I’m getting very worried about him.",3.2353506493506465,4.7219021714285745,3.7864935064935072,90.58396103896106,73.71428571428572,7.090909090909091,24.870129870129876,7.686295010490155,1.0159285714285713,544,17,119,7,11,171,102,140,0.025,0.902,0.073,0.3152,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,0,7,0,10,1,0,0,2,24,17,5,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,2,4,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,1,3,7,3,11,15,9,10,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,3,7,59,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181999350014027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148200296152173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19778273431514665,0.11713243777593213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938317260911575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926536534629181,0.0,0.20157460788448772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788805932887114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762934026250508,0.0,0.0,0.09746229176764698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659585982228078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076946531745164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595930444908631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155235327198645,0.0,0.0,0.13149653081671805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721803019136821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738956620430552,0.0,0.1136095540711143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820582769075194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030136748384539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327229571907514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103409298558033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323695009052462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632537213300434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189027476837291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18009897783377185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142021599638138
parenting,throwaway17770002288,2019/03/09,"I planned to hurt my baby in my dream then didn't I have a son. Whom I love more than any other person on this planet. Myself included. I do gentle parenting. I don't even believe in spanking. But last night I had a dream. It was very disturbing. I thought about killing my baby and in my dream I texted someone telling them my plan. I then decided not to hurt my baby in my dream. I woke up and i literally looked at my phone to see if this was a real message that I sent. 

I want to just say i would never hurt my son. I love him. I have never thought about hurting him. He doesn't even cry I just had this random awful dream. I don't know if it means something. I don't know if i just watched one too many episodes of law and order. If it is symbolic. I have no fucking clue.

Can anyone tell me what this means? ",-0.034653179190751615,2.0889126300578056,1.9707832369942189,96.3396430635838,87.4393063583815,4.84728323699422,20.210693641618494,6.2581,0.0010487861271677446,627,20,145,6,20,208,96,173,0.132,0.713,0.155,0.0049,1,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,2,8,9,2,1,3,1,16,3,0,0,2,26,30,10,1,6,9,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,11,3,0,0,7,5,0,1,9,7,0,1,9,4,35,2,15,20,1,15,0,4,3,3,17,7,1,5,6,102,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263048147850897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09524429463193332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346701403102636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962515212754526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17993668897555112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592804300381338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.583281446227447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070108183537825,0.0,0.14971977373327536,0.11103293845435262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143858123564762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458776774041109,0.0,0.0,0.1381000494672942,0.0,0.2967548876673834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21011392719848512,0.0,0.0,0.12782801249610398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230242111860608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125000149988227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189371837838034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504183927139614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083231797454245,0.0,0.0,0.10854526272624247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154140421225351,0.10486452088291397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381148265096917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.216278079773715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239116795765272,0.08034279834866917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967628208903954,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Red-Bell-Pepper,2019/03/09,"Fever for 3 days in a six year old My daughter came home from kindergarten on Thursday with a fever of 102. She stayed home Friday and that night it spiked up to 105. We have been giving liquid Tylenol and Advil (not at the same time). She’s talking and fine while the medication is working but her temp keeps going up. I have called the nurse line but they don’t seem worried.  

Am I being too cautious? Is there something else I should be doing for her to get over this?",2.9843617021276607,4.825223978723408,2.926542553191492,95.00875,75.17021276595744,5.125531914893617,22.388297872340427,5.148860815047168,-0.07295319148936175,370,10,79,1,8,111,77,94,0.053,0.913,0.034,-0.3939,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,11,5,0,0,0,13,17,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,0,3,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,10,1,13,12,1,16,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,1,7,53,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386213659506332,0.2672765816620941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507092948832162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19521616606367412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209222746929432,0.22417462625712226,0.1328101588984637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4688158230553565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20771244897393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354158676615209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21930016460502025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24521602971124104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127405913277884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990428108667122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24908009568674505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878293972074993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13626523218580378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012749753602088,0.23732129869513025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048727784239016
parenting,kerikim120,2019/03/09,Almost 4year old wants to drop naps. Hi. The title says it all. She fights to nap and she actually does fine without it. Im only concerned that she might not be getting enough sleep since she goes to sleep 9ish and wakes up around 7 for school. She rarely sleeps in. Any parents out there who has 3/4 yr olds who doesnt nap? And how many hrs of sleep do they get?,0.5090666666666692,2.835360173333335,1.033333333333335,102.49666666666668,87.26666666666668,3.8666666666666663,15.0,5.033348758259628,-1.2801999999999998,283,5,67,1,9,85,61,75,0.068,0.908,0.024,-0.5204,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,5,5,5,1,1,12,8,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,6,1,10,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,2,2,35,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.16421890879140574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851006521670725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443749702038256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980661385110494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726466897432966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738802395379079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758407471810795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18177338394141296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061148497964768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785205561767805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35316719810068703,0.0,0.0,0.12798600648227085,0.0,0.0,0.18685719127986386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338245614347952,0.0,0.17031031811963207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920456848775178,0.0,0.6736139271215874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925705448015147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221779519238416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProbablyUncleJesse,2019/03/09,"How to be at a kid’s birthday party where you don’t know anyone, and you are the only one not related. Things people don’t tell you that suck before becoming a parent: attending other kids’ birthday parties. Especially when you don’t know anyone. And especially when you are the only nonfamily member in attendance. This just happened to me and I had no idea what to do. So I cleaned up a lot, hovered over my children and was anxious about how awkward it was to have me there. The host tried to include me but the family members just wanted to hang with their family. I totally understand! Had I known beforehand the set up, I likely wouldn’t have gone (even though my son really wanted to go). So, any pro tips for us parents just getting into this wretched kid-party scene?",4.21893736017897,6.085511469798656,5.566593959731545,77.26832494407161,71.88590604026845,8.456599552572706,28.52404921700224,9.075114841892004,2.608247874720359,615,24,108,13,12,206,97,149,0.048,0.926,0.027000000000000003,-0.2363,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,5,1,0,14,3,1,1,8,0,14,0,0,2,1,23,24,12,0,3,5,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,7,6,0,0,5,0,0,5,6,2,0,1,5,0,17,1,16,17,2,15,0,0,0,0,14,7,1,1,3,85,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249914040540686,0.0,0.0,0.207643512930812,0.0,0.2570367318439715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20299444812588666,0.15640164052547692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139923617428446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34654361778994397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602876003205928,0.0,0.10445869604506733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253516506803228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20748965595231528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020251264474025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979618708627911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626156405074654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12454873416458673,0.27957882802422523,0.0,0.0,0.4081798938945681,0.0,0.0,0.12742490014647814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774802393097886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16065071678615006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210962882714865,0.0,0.1805841579006833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478923455335085,0.0,0.0,0.19134396796273104,0.2210907173053417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682191457814956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ovaljoker,2019/03/09,"What parental control software for a Mac? Just like the the title says, I’m looking for some suggestions for parental control software for a Mac. I know the Mac comes with it but I’m looking for something that does a better job at web control. Thanks everyone!! ",3.559591836734697,6.259450265306128,3.4034285714285737,88.11657142857145,76.95918367346937,5.5526530612244915,34.289795918367346,6.742157984588678,2.260498775510204,209,12,37,2,5,63,31,49,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.8759999999999999,3,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,7,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,7,7,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,1,1,20,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17386610962125196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934315410593126,0.0,0.0,0.661470471514461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203548276745276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18784825770298247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950832550489937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080396230673792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604296630117708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301688145285524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365754166874224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633466732329934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513430461031126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099181711105813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,panbanda,2019/03/09,"Toddler room sharing w older siblings and small toys? My 1 year old is still cosleeping with me and I plan to continue that til shes night weaned. She still wakes to nurse a lot and I'm not getting up for that. My goal is to wean around 18 months, but I'm starting to think about getting her space in her room ready. 
We have my stepchildren 50% and so she will be sharing a room with her big sister who will be almost 6 at the time the hopeful transition takes place. What did you do about the endless small doll accessories? My biggest fear is my daughter getting up before me and choking on a barbie shoe or something. My stepdaughter keeps her room pretty clean, but no kids room is perfect. And she plays constantly, so it's not like we can lock it up. Her toys are currently in bins under her bed.",3.357783653846152,5.057390018750001,3.665000000000002,90.70769230769231,73.8125,6.4230769230769225,26.68269230769231,7.010146845296331,1.1160336538461535,633,23,130,6,13,196,105,160,0.079,0.76,0.161,0.9423,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,1,0,3,7,7,0,1,6,0,14,2,2,0,1,22,24,12,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,7,1,6,11,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,22,6,19,19,1,33,0,0,0,0,19,20,0,4,14,83,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224204919163197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197733356178046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900724774623687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400321597681685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24994607550598394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481446532880864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22061468033403508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974299266233931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851631812979054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888379690297616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729358426113082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20844400814850206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330769435916016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232067495101572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22597528102930076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099836427538204,0.0,0.0,0.15721725307590154,0.0,0.35476967617255944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700614412067466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423251413861401,0.0,0.0,0.12951960715238325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303760977709262
parenting,Majestic_Bag,2019/03/09,"My son says mean things to his friends We had my son’s 4th birthday party today. He was (I suspect) short on sleep, and has always been a sensitive kid, so I wasn’t surprised that he had a few meltdowns. That, unfortunately, happens often. But what I don’t know how to handle is when he says things like “I’m not your friend anymore” to his best friend or “I don’t like this” about a gift someone gave him. I explain to him how that can hurt someone’s feelings, and I do think he gets that, but I feel like he plays more selfishly than some other kids I’ve seen, and is very competitive: “I got there first!”, etc. It’s especially bad when friends come over to his house because he’s an only child and not used to sharing his toys (he can do it okay some of the time.) He can be very sweet at times, and he’s smart and on track developmentally. But I just worry his friends won’t want to hang out with him if this keeps happening! What do I do? Today I put him in his room until he was ready to be nice again, but I don’t ever feel like I know what I’m doing when I parent him. I feel like I have an emotional hangover from throwing this party (not super elaborate, but I worked hard to decorate and do stuff I thought he’d like). How do I raise a kind, compassionate kid? ",4.943295454545456,4.456180981060612,5.7111212121212125,85.46418181818183,68.73484848484848,8.706666666666669,28.58484848484849,8.021203637495839,1.524159393939394,985,29,224,11,15,323,142,264,0.084,0.6579999999999999,0.258,0.994,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,0,4,13,25,0,0,7,1,27,1,1,4,1,43,49,22,0,2,11,3,5,6,5,1,0,2,1,4,16,11,0,1,11,2,0,4,8,3,0,1,10,9,35,22,21,35,6,23,0,1,1,0,42,8,0,5,17,141,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538256817179308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368361846272905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957124914940884,0.06987828175011641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202986583352042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987448635145864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894497774491984,0.0,0.0,0.12784439345425144,0.0,0.10369072977799992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318444674274091,0.24567824087411666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750547206755902,0.0,0.0,0.4428199570276911,0.0,0.05989021321453149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168126045404333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027364653575394,0.0,0.10268728356904384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226932870974226,0.12271536232498717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188971987991416,0.0,0.1193710387876655,0.1259969189812328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33601888363364024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486727907204333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871824004342536,0.0,0.0,0.12728468464587694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523629142779016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231909602653112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471425811801444,0.0,0.19425374954834995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122561083256873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231211365352892,0.07345121905133073,0.0,0.09100458481593657,0.13368506707583613,0.0,0.21731446511173724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900478729193868,0.0,0.18916594021300226,0.0676126125617632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345307733573339,0.11641382480940834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rcx918,2019/03/09,"Car seats in a van on a road trip I'll be renting a 12 passenger van for a road trip, likely a Ford Transit. There are 3 toddlers I'm trying to plan the car seats for. Ages 3-5. All relatively small. From a practicality standpoint, putting them all forward facing makes a lot of sense (logistics, them playing, etc). Obviously I want to prioritize safety. What I'm curious about is the safest row for the kids. Should we put them towards the back given that most crashes are from the front and there would be more car to absorb impact? Would that be ""enough"" to put them all forward facing in the back row?",3.4297457627118675,5.360691127118648,4.412000000000003,84.44783050847458,74.16949152542372,7.092881355932204,26.206779661016952,7.908726449838941,1.5094854237288136,475,17,94,7,10,154,73,118,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.8504,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,4,1,5,2,0,0,13,0,9,2,2,1,4,13,14,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,11,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,15,7,8,21,0,0,0,0,6,9,0,2,6,59,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624193235745542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435020175614233,0.262825613472757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513263226132445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003515491492734,0.0,0.0,0.15730632808744058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7107167120239599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15999914381886307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899965336688996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348152874685179,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anatnom23,2019/03/09,"I Feel Like a Bad Mom! Tonight I was supposed to go out and have a real adult experience, drinking with friends and family and that whole thing. I haven't done that in a long time, so I was pretty excited about it! But my oldest was saying she was dizzy and not feeling good and I had my fingers crossed that it would pass, she just ate to much or something, the feeling will go away. I had my fingers crossed! Well a couple hours later ,and there was throw up everywhere. she threw up on her way to the bathroom and it was all over the floor, the bathroom door, the blanket she was curled up in, all over the bathroom itself! I cleaned it up and I dealt with her got her settled with new clothes and blanket, bucket beside her head. Now, I feel like a horrible mother for this next part, but I'm just a tad bit upset that I now have to stay home instead of going out! I'm a single mom of 3 and their dad is who knows where, my babysitter is young so I wouldn't leave her in this situation. I was going out with my family so I really have no other babysitter. I just feel bad for feeling mad about not being able to go enjoy a night of being a carefree adult. please tell me I'm not the only one whos ever felt this way!",2.8950488870397346,4.032477735177867,4.015015602246724,89.99378198460579,74.01976284584981,6.591137923861037,24.77824006656959,6.8360192770164,0.7744830039525694,949,29,207,8,19,309,130,253,0.113,0.794,0.093,-0.735,0,0,2,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,1,0,15,11,1,1,16,0,22,5,3,0,3,40,42,16,0,2,9,4,9,2,1,3,0,1,3,2,15,17,2,0,8,1,0,10,6,4,1,1,15,10,30,7,30,22,7,42,0,0,0,0,21,16,0,1,15,150,45,0,0.12111275908685815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378942395033735,0.0,0.2022481899083997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222376499325902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340089643281144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394040199767067,0.0,0.11864439579618025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10955342443037733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118471518103355,0.2283486610151237,0.0,0.3674295001533308,0.17304595858224994,0.11628724174026868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357141723731792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441558601684496,0.1015836361661218,0.09686493730286017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429663185495896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148597229489667,0.0,0.1192716713930675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656040502185534,0.0,0.0,0.1282409245710842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183391528961546,0.0,0.0,0.1071809805956027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28369159933776417,0.0,0.0,0.08903181334150664,0.0,0.0,0.1169714574274584,0.12880479328316866,0.1136561199997124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206913998009648,0.09211171083549806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311533157388529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294543999840466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321521681418267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378528347981864,0.07758793474047923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631372713607374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613581563931376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323851897911717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290900866212322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585788970285784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046193554958113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07062182378655564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19226734165648146,0.0,0.0,0.10889491547672443,0.0,0.0,0.13521807033450148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603502916048744,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NitrousIsAGas,2019/03/09,"Letting kids win. My partner and I are expecting our first, we are babysitting her 3 neices this weekend and we all say down to play Mario Kart, she was letting them win while I wasn't jolding back. I wasn't playing ruthlessly,  but I wasn't deliberately losing either. She got upset with me over this as the eldest would always place second to my first  place. Her argument is that it males the child feel good about herself to win, while I say that it gives an unrealistic representation of what life is like, doesn't promote self improvement, and didn't impact the amount of fun she was having.  
  
What do you think? Should a parent allow their child to win to inflate their self worth or should they encourage self improvement? ",7.26066176470588,7.664305507352946,6.744411764705883,76.9873529411765,63.779411764705884,9.447058823529412,30.970588235294123,9.188382445141503,2.511223529411765,583,19,106,9,8,181,90,136,0.105,0.647,0.249,0.9766,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,4,8,2,12,0,1,5,0,18,1,0,1,1,17,22,8,0,4,3,1,1,1,1,3,1,2,0,8,8,6,0,0,2,3,1,0,5,2,0,3,7,3,22,10,12,10,3,10,0,1,0,0,27,4,0,1,7,78,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14776960841423095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655621190734682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979514501813746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021169528527924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036108889574128,0.0,0.1489545723008098,0.1420354286520824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363196847967294,0.12543749507361882,0.08676179831395676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986784591514756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971933485096948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3710887643855708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28245435138371794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5557971908723448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113792887786521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261552692456388,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,why_usernames_why,2019/03/09,"interview questions Hello, I am hoping someone would be willing to answer these two questions. I am a child and youth care student and have to asks these questions to a single parent or a teen parent. I do not know any of these in my personal live so I thought I would ask the lovely people of reddit to help me.  The questions are:  

1.  What is the most challenging and rewarding part of their role as a parent in this family type? 
2.  What is  one piece of advice for me, a Child and Youth Care Practitioner when working with teen/single parent families and children?

Thanks for your help!",3.682857142857145,5.916857285714286,4.476214285714288,82.91878571428573,74.35714285714286,6.98,25.485714285714288,7.908726449838941,1.6365685714285716,464,16,83,7,10,149,71,112,0.0,0.77,0.23,0.9788,4,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,1,1,3,2,7,0,0,8,0,11,1,0,0,0,19,20,9,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,6,6,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,10,7,14,15,4,5,0,0,0,1,22,2,0,7,3,64,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057142725233808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839067501046221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306986155083459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516006174912164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326347876344702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165406146786811,0.0,0.0,0.12255019536014722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06780975031028584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089521492013418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136073409614164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360958573498649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5480224598473553,0.13361507625588356,0.0,0.08554035643180644,0.10773594607959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5528824899525514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454460601272654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359730419321877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795474720106538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053024936207625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982651929137968,0.0,0.0,0.17529983008352176,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Matrozi,2019/03/09,"How would you react if your child would cut you out of their life ? I thought for a while about posting this on /r/raisedbynarcissists, but honeslty, my parents are not bad persons. They're not awfull people who abused me all my life, they encouraged me to go to college and they are proud of me, and it's probably why I've been dreading to take this decision for the last 4 years.

My mom was an alcoholic, she got sober but it's too late for me. I love her, really, but I moved on and I don't need her, and I don't want her. And having her in my life is a source of anxiety and sadness. I wish it would be otherwise, but it's not because life is not a lifetime movie where every parents is forgiven.

I wish her well, I wish her happiness, but I deserve to be happy too, and I feel like I will never be completely happy with her in my life. 

So I will cut off my mother soon. I'm dreading to do it, but it's getting close, and It means that I will lose my whole family because they will all side with her. 

I have no idea how she'd react, I know she will be sad and probably angry but I don't know how she will really feel. So I ask this dumb question, what would you do if your child would cut contact with you ? Would you respect it ? How would you feel about it ?",2.8518045112781967,3.660008992481206,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142857,73.73684210526315,7.705263157894738,24.90225563909775,8.032893268588372,1.132266165413533,976,29,225,14,19,323,126,266,0.156,0.66,0.184,0.9108,2,0,1,0,1,0,32.0,0,8,4,2,13,20,4,2,5,0,32,7,0,6,3,58,51,25,0,14,13,4,3,1,0,13,6,0,0,3,15,14,1,0,10,0,0,2,9,11,1,0,4,3,52,9,22,29,3,18,0,3,0,1,37,9,1,3,7,164,67,1,0.0,0.11660084710049864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517134406238632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528408390365371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200092504996177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216900699049384,0.11998076597898726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318197654226724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291544394025165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277305637058923,0.0,0.1492785531494084,0.07030478041292504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05141564357449575,0.0,0.05592919331996706,0.0,0.0787082021745392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142807606224103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110939492739196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816813516121927,0.08021803396172561,0.11101180345081237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475527132989508,0.04807860424351516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009664616090137,0.0,0.0,0.08881969688905401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719834126968042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525767928843644,0.0,0.10459523296260838,0.0,0.07297044970235259,0.07590056780659257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218547359475975,0.0,0.0,0.06822574035382485,0.0859286188485731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425045740083086,0.0,0.21220723135447248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024275201539034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608910972119686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399276392523575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812727731959143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058045309943438386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848323512896455,0.0,0.08880054783092058,0.1098722769443712,0.33950310141170764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893580546755024,0.0,0.0,0.06337340550188887
parenting,TheGrog1603,2019/03/09,"My girlfriend and I have just found out that we're expecting a boy. We were kind of hoping for a girl. Reddit, what are some of the best things about having a baby boy? Gender disappointment, is what it's apparently called. It's incredibly common. I know it seems selfish, and i know the feeling will pass. I know when my baby boy is born i won't care anyway. But in the meantime, tell me some of the best things that are unique to having a baby boy, and to raising a young man...",2.07053837342497,4.064133144329901,3.5762199312714777,88.61926689576175,78.38144329896906,5.9605956471935855,20.0561282932417,6.937597516519254,0.2989001145475374,373,9,78,4,9,123,61,97,0.093,0.78,0.127,0.5234,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,0,0,17,18,5,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,6,9,5,0,0,6,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,9,5,9,14,4,7,0,1,0,0,10,2,0,4,4,57,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232057285168313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545416649206925,0.0,0.2541564890306809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604292013896928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27332148694283404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24759023005057945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25958565198076883,0.4109915523918228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269341812584834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178807776565979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312196972470821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CrazyMai88,2019/03/09,"Why are we allowing a option to ruin us.       Why is it that one parent option on something means they are wrong, when one option can become hate speech. I saw today on Facebook two kids fight over different option. I send mother kick and disown there own kid over a different option, for example ""A parent kick his or her child out over be Trump support, or Parent calling there child murder for want meat. "" When a family is rip a part over option that different than others. Another example is when did the color of skin, who you vote for, or what you eat make the decision on if you a good or bad person. I thought action speak louder than words. When a post on social media is believe who check if it true or not. I began to our future, separate neighborhood for each group with ten feet walls around and set time to or work. 
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parenting,MimonFishbaum,2019/03/09,"Terrible twos tips Title says is all. Feel like we've tried everything short of calling the FBI and reporting a domestic terrorist. What worked for you, or is this a try and survive situation?",5.261904761904759,7.702483571428572,6.154285714285718,71.71904761904764,70.42857142857143,11.523809523809526,34.52380952380953,11.20814326018867,4.928238095238095,155,8,26,6,3,51,32,35,0.198,0.738,0.064,-0.743,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,3,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,14,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825491507569492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367021197207793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894291532708872,0.267642767367661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303009575353565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979286274858624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211108625023619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5087117012521841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727422560990375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kveach,2019/03/09,"So I’m starting to think toddler’s are truly indestructible So my almost 16 month old twins have learned how to “spin”, as in turning repeatedly in a circle, & I just wanted to let y’all know because it’s all the rage in our living room right now. HaPpY sAtUrDaY nIgHt🌪🥴",3.9053571428571416,4.975238821428572,5.462857142857144,80.83214285714288,71.5,7.742857142857144,28.285714285714285,8.07648339933343,1.8443714285714288,218,8,43,3,4,74,48,56,0.065,0.789,0.147,0.5574,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,0,0,5,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,8,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,7,8,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,6,23,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940128735240196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31813158226444554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898489574242246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31255848226930466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613630504565521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002410912588294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25926730401570475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343605830419587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755376596669982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080994082296358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507454894072558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078221118303678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18813654907927607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193686581919687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318165397247798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oli75uk2,2019/03/09,"my parents are trying to ruin my sleep schedule, and as a freshman severely autistic child, it could mess up my grades. parents of reddit, what should i do? About 5 minutes ago my parents were talking about cutting my wifi for weekdays to 10pm from 11pm, which is too early and could fuck up my sleep schedule that i've had for 4 years. and weekends 12am down to 11pm.

now being a highly autistic child i've learnt that paying close attention to my sleep schedule is good, and that 8 hours is optimal for me and my sleep. but my parents say that i need to sleep earlier due to the fact that they are quite over protective muslim parents, and they wouldn't let me voice chat on discord, but would let me have a facebook and all that shit. sorry for the profanities, but i'm just a bit mad because of this.

what should i do, or even get my parents to do?",7.650765895953758,5.636662942196537,7.508489884393061,79.74689667630058,64.08670520231215,10.037283236994222,36.653901734104046,8.07648339933343,2.7526075144508666,671,26,138,6,8,215,100,173,0.141,0.838,0.022,-0.9613,6,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,2,1,6,7,4,0,6,0,20,7,6,0,2,23,24,12,0,7,5,6,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,2,11,8,0,1,1,2,1,0,1,6,0,0,2,2,18,1,22,13,2,17,0,1,0,1,13,7,2,1,10,93,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930364845953748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397973806250201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458393518210225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675964322544668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932194390751785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702942499603263,0.054834779247655695,0.0,0.0,0.08803147287943718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089096989366096,0.0,0.0,0.10335976641310277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21464768068456325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782297804428309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6992422176721149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116328133028343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346461672657096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856954301989905,0.10773504210650504,0.0,0.0,0.5251551700047764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748879454434187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435904353275693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125771619806869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455718875663657,0.0,0.0,0.06758773126768794
parenting,YoDudeHeyQueen,2019/03/09,"Circumcised or uncircumcised (Non-Religious discussion only please) Hey everyone! I’m having my first boy, and I’m really unsure about what direction to go with the circumcision (or lack of one). I’d like to hear your personal experiences, opinions, and thoughts, please!",7.117000000000001,10.184490422222222,7.677499999999997,60.05625000000003,67.0,13.388888888888893,35.694444444444436,12.161744961471696,6.2237777777777765,219,11,31,10,4,72,38,45,0.098,0.7879999999999999,0.115,0.2001,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,1,5,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,2,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748598989533281,0.0,0.28137484521380624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446731600204444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347693257351706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242000931864113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053023613591012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19491766399569668,0.2187691927447596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25116305449427323,0.0,0.6315020386384856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842746128146644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283603050281727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lijah519,2019/03/09,"Received letter tonight from CPS about my child’s daycare having a person who works there who has recently been accused of child abuse and child molestation. **i have abbreviated some of it and left out the contact info, etc**

Letter states:  I am writing in my capacity as a state of Washington, div of licensed resources cps facility investigator, to bring the following to your attention. 

A person who works in your child’s daycare was recently accused of abuse. 

Parents may, understandably, be concerned that a person accused of child molestation was in the same premises as their child’s daycare. If you would like your child interviewed and/or if your child has indicated, either directly or indirectly (through behavior changes, etc), that he or she may have been molested, you should contact me so that an interview of your child can be arranged. Also, please feel free to call if you simply have question you would like answered. 

You are encouraged not to discuss the matter with your child(ren). Direct questioning of children who have not previously reported sexual abuse or inappropriate touching, if not handled properly, poses two risks: 1) it can jeopardize the investigation of legitimate claims; and, 2) it can lead to claims of abuse when none actually occurred.  Please feel free to contact me by April 4,2019.
 **then there is her name n contact info.**. ~~I have already called and left her a message to call me back. It doesn’t name the daycare, there is no case number or anything. It’s confusing.~~  

my daughter is 3 years old. She has been attending this daycare center for 6 months. I dropped her off at daycare like normal in the morning and they didn’t say a word. I have already paid for the whole month. The letter says the person workS not workED there-so I take that to mean that the individual still works there. I am FREAKING out. She is supp to go there Monday and I of course can’t reach the cps lady until then.

My daughter does not like this daycare and specifically talks about how she dislikes the “sleeping” time. I just always chalked it up to her not wanting to nap. Now i wonder is or was something happening to her or other children during “nap time”. She has also complained of her vagina hurting on daycare days and it has been very red and irritated. She would say that it burned when she peed also. It has happened prob 4 times during the time she has been there. It would resolve on its own. I thought it was bc she wiped herself there and maybe didn’t do a good job so it was irritated. I talked to our family friend last night who watches her the other two days a week and she said my daughter always wipes herself and is her vagina is never irritated. Now I’m questioning everything, my head is spinning. Obviously I didn’t think anything like this was going on or I wouldn’t have continued taking her. 

Has anyone had anything like this happen???  What do I do?  Daycares in the area I live in have significant wait lists and registration fees etc. I don’t want her to go back to this daycare though and I want my money back for the month. I don’t want to have to give the two week notice that the handbook dictates. I want to let others know about this place and what is happening. 

I don’t know how a 3 year old would act who has been inappropriately touched or molested. I can’t believe that the daycare didn’t say anything and that cps just sent a letter and didn’t call me. Am I seriously expected to just still have her go there and pay for it, etc.  If anyone has any insight or advice please share!!",4.3687299110625695,6.682267699849174,4.850607219014929,80.64607466063352,72.60482654600301,7.589005044988817,29.2289228688823,8.433251757073789,2.3033428720029128,2827,118,507,50,58,898,282,663,0.103,0.8240000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.9777,2,0,1,0,4,0,85.0,1,11,2,7,31,23,4,2,31,0,76,4,4,3,2,94,108,47,0,19,24,4,4,6,1,9,0,5,0,15,40,21,0,1,18,2,6,11,21,10,0,3,22,11,71,15,59,74,10,69,0,1,2,2,99,19,0,23,42,360,111,12,0.0,0.2851639596665718,0.05871672889474755,0.0,0.0,0.05879691544168434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13279702565560836,0.14435252433612075,0.10013164799477037,0.0,0.0,0.04091730688866285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414379307211542,0.0,0.1980574074670748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387998387044066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779039480487985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457590488427724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365132727928037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760866847507422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265471380597178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684194826964551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05407644515887143,0.0,0.056722426900992384,0.0,0.06084698977742967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464867877978448,0.0,0.0,0.05772004395347415,0.13678279896485224,0.05046730163561786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128306751850323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06175124113353586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441266837009997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597089204953568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613514073730582,0.04904615354440119,0.0,0.0,0.1307486231655585,0.06152736568050761,0.0,0.17637459978535858,0.0,0.05313074954627648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06044832583542521,0.06554219850521956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408010475976632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04640640911899623,0.0,0.0,0.056464977108905634,0.0589533111600941,0.0,0.06850334707494295,0.12627548665382973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06681108237267706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21015066192802925,0.06286429586066998,0.1981440478417432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20221075020676807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882019703760315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05723495022064986,0.19139672894079254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060212929542670324,0.0,0.0,0.046321402136879526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610284230260037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047991533632632,0.0967238910449792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03855417059848891,0.059116204542007375,0.047767842842558056,0.1403412209921339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763305048651906,0.0626385463678667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04964611904738369,0.17744757901799085,0.0,0.09652864834700924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717707102941169,0.0,0.0,0.06525122991953587,0.21902047523011556,0.0,0.0,0.2137133465458457,0.0,0.0,0.07749433944891405
parenting,Nekurahn,2019/03/09,"Disabled kid can't sit on the couch because he leaks through the diaper. Options? We now have an 11 year old with spina bifida. He has a cath that he can operate himself when need and he does have a routine of going to the bathroom every hour because he can't control himself. I don't know if these two issues are related as I am still educating myself on this condition. Our current struggle in that we can't have him sit on the couch with us because he will stink up the couch with urine smell. I don't know if it's just the smell of it or if it's urine leaking out of the diaper. He doesn't seem to have control over some muscles in the pelvic floor region so that might explain his lack of control. We might be able to address that with therapy. In the meantime, what can I do to avoid him stinking up the place? It's embarrassing for him and I'd like for him to be able to hang out with the other kids without too much smell issue. Any advice is appreciated.",3.320151515151516,4.6159490959596,4.5165858585858585,86.19154545454548,73.1919191919192,7.300202020202018,27.84646464646465,7.793537801064563,1.5830501010101012,763,29,159,10,15,251,112,198,0.081,0.889,0.03,-0.8426,1,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,0,0,3,6,6,0,3,14,0,22,2,2,3,0,32,28,9,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,2,12,12,0,4,4,0,0,2,7,5,0,1,0,5,17,1,31,23,3,24,0,0,0,0,22,13,0,9,8,112,29,0,0.30133016306351784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472281739407097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245742196738747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755321058370969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069511007493573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13184802816250976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12694182932218975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562643791266501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837475613926124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31451040220415355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560317715514578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360734844919033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31966368419958224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075617067231013,0.11171624888548312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15809765847289176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574129427727309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371598316417889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032132873328255,0.0,0.0,0.1575078561133583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17229865132362193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471778921639394,0.0,0.18123154218050733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523576210064318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702337275771793
parenting,Elle0527,2019/03/09,"The was blood in his poop! Ok so the title says it all. Last night my 3 month old had blood in his poop. It wasn’t a ton but enough to upset my first time mom brain. I called the pediatrician who advised that we go to the ER which we did. They took his temp examined the diaper and pretty much brushed it off as no big deal and sent us home. My instincts said to push for a more thorough exam but I didn’t want to subject him to unnecessary tests since the doctors thought he was fine. He’s had several dirty diapers since with no blood and he seems happy but I’m still concerned. He’s exclusively breast fed. 

Has this happened to anyone else? Is there something I should be looking out for or doing differently? 

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parenting,Impalasdonteatcheese,2019/03/09,"Disciplining toddlers We were meant to be going to a friends house for tea tonight; we get together with all our kids and have a blast. My eldest (3) has been a little toad all afternoon. Despite warning him that if he continued to misbehave and not listen that we’d not go, he kept on. So, determined to follow through with the ‘consequence’, we’re now not going. 

I told him and he cried for about 5 mins. Now it’s like he’s forgotten all about it and he’s  playing away quite the thing (with regular breaks for brattish behaviour )

So, how do you make the whole ‘if you do X, Y will happen’ work as a form of discipline when your kid apparently has the memory of a goldfish?!",3.8829323308270673,5.272945451127821,5.0345939849624095,82.65580075187972,71.93233082706767,9.229774436090226,29.089473684210525,9.642632912329526,2.657256240601504,527,21,107,13,10,174,91,133,0.056,0.85,0.094,0.615,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,3,0,2,8,3,0,0,9,0,10,1,0,2,3,23,21,11,0,2,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,9,1,3,1,1,0,4,3,0,0,0,5,1,11,3,18,13,5,15,0,0,0,0,19,3,0,2,8,72,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517263873975744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943054054860901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069998599790901,0.0,0.13998088334522182,0.0,0.4568075399681381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236927103643626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091519712235185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308956773488872,0.2685334023290071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884346046684355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849735155469061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799890056348655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560158841172616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991311070441029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19505416421691152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,caramelappledreams23,2019/03/09,"Awakened in the middle of the night to- 'Mom, I puked in my bed' The Ultimate Parenting Experience. It's something that's happened for me about every other year since 1999- 20 years and counting! 

So I did what had to be done- Comforted my son with 'it's okay' while he stooped over the toilet, Stripped bed, rinsed everything in the laundry sink, threw it all in the wash, scrubbed the mattress with a washcloth and laundry soap and sprayed Febreeze on it. Covered the mattress with a towel and soaked up the water. Threw more towels on the mattress, and gave him the spare blanket and pillow to sleep on with another clean ice cream bucket. 

Then I went to bed feeling slightly nauseous from smelling it...my husband was sleeping through this, of course. And he slept the rest of the night without another incident!

In the morning, I took the sheets and blanket and pillow out of the washer and shook them outside (in the snow, lol) to get rid of the food bits. Used Clorox wipes (yay for Clorox wipes!) to clean food/pukey bits out of the washer. I put everything in for a second cycle.

He's on the couch now watching videos, and so far I'm still feeling OK. I think I've caught the stomach flu with my kids only a few times in  past years. I hope I have immunity by now.

You can get through this! :)",4.416607482561823,6.027668690763054,4.211815683787783,88.20785668991758,70.92771084337348,6.84853096596914,29.97273303741281,7.273561745256523,1.6545132530120488,1020,42,200,10,19,310,145,249,0.027000000000000003,0.878,0.095,0.9413,3,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,1,1,0,6,6,0,1,25,4,7,9,4,1,1,25,23,15,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,11,1,9,18,2,0,3,1,0,7,1,1,0,1,11,5,15,5,42,11,6,37,0,0,2,0,12,18,0,1,12,121,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303835999007185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163401391294123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826126004541346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220665937710942,0.0,0.26041535375905345,0.14171921560998754,0.0,0.0,0.14651009623053365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35037591435762433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138633237518173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811579839950846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389728669589594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696802386638458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27191778131148503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018681635118764,0.0,0.0,0.16087070442584048,0.0,0.13830315835155704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564315753293994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984519749298513,0.0,0.2899667554266191,0.0,0.0,0.11153473835652002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570035531161615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283245178002676,0.0,0.0,0.08447996305108542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609656198242023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251287216328943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430405088719125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965794307547064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27989149105434136
parenting,fran6678,2019/03/09,"What do you guys this of this? Saw this post of Instagram- 
I never want my kids to mess up and think- “Dads going to kill me!”
I want their first thought to be “I need to call my dad” 
Parenting with fear isn’t parenting at all, it’s Tolerating a child’s presence until they are old enough to mind themselves. 

I grew up fearing my parents and I always thought that’s why I made good ish  decisions as a teenager, but I also feed like I kept a lot of secrets from them. 
But now that I’m a parent I don’t want my child to fear me and my husband.

Let’s talk about it.. what do you think? 
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parenting,milovat,2019/03/09,"What can be done about teens sending nudes?! I'm a parent to a 14 year old girl.  Her and her friends are CONSTANTLY getting request for nudes from boys at school and sports.  Text, snap, instagram etc there is no end.  I have recently seen messages from my daughter that are getting more suggestive and am worried.  Even when asked about it, she will talk pretty openly but It's just my message is not getting through to her.  Don't know if there's underlying issues.  We are a close family but she still feels the need to seek approval from these idiots.  What should I do?  Take her phone away? (again).  If it stops with one boy for a while, within a few months it seems to start up again.

I hate this age of technology.  She has not had snapchat for a year, so this is all on text at this point ",1.7868891402714908,4.230505660256412,2.2093363499245875,95.56703619909504,82.14102564102564,5.4654600301659135,21.355957767722472,6.794906146795322,0.3193699849170435,617,19,133,7,17,188,109,156,0.071,0.8759999999999999,0.053,-0.3983,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,1,11,3,2,0,7,0,17,2,2,0,1,21,30,10,0,4,7,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,11,7,0,1,3,1,0,1,4,2,0,1,3,2,13,1,22,24,4,26,0,0,1,2,22,10,0,3,15,95,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17834869820480176,0.0,0.1792392174966434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061597997335528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522887012748646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689698600702909,0.0,0.21276434644187686,0.1260049652808923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798455159357352,0.0,0.0964614780037452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739214791164315,0.0,0.2990158988258088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835063240494346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911934076418208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484484847716496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522746362846568,0.0,0.0,0.14145710714067386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018607531491855,0.0,0.12927395112813886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118328540580972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034386291901386,0.0,0.0,0.19408657042760152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836711339161327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19307429655618447,0.0,0.1736742254910291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503139512676832,0.0,0.15235301274194396,0.15949628667522553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343891776603931,0.15333756891836886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374108385313185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457054505903927
parenting,Mother_Consequence,2019/03/09,"My daughter won't FT w/ my parents because ""mama goes away"" Tw.

My wife and my parents have a distant relationship. They get along fine in person, though my mom is a strong personality who thinks she knows best about parenting and my wife won't really have it. I learned long ago not to force relationships and so I haven't. I stand up for my wife and always provide a united front, and it's gone well. One of the ways we dealt with it is ""you handle yours, I'll handle mine."" It's worked until now.

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Basically, my 4-yr-old absolutely refuses to FaceTime with my parents because ""mama goes away"" when they're on the phone. When I tell her it's not optional, she cries and cries. If she does get on, she just asks ""where's mama"" over and over again, then says ""BYE grandpa, BYE grandma, I'm going to see MAMA"" over and over. If I tell her that's not nice, she cries. My parents are long-distance and feeling pretty upset about it.

She's not wrong about my wife ""going away,"" which to be totally fair is our deal from the start. My wife always walks out of the room and gets chores done, gets ready for the day, reads a book, whatever she likes. Honestly, it's a nice system. But our daughter is 100% a mama's girl and I think finds my parents scary now because she's picked up on the face that my wife avoids them. I want to ask her to do a few FaceTime sessions with my parents so she sees that mama isn't scared of them, but I'm not sure if that's out of line to ask. My wife probably wouldn't be thrilled at the idea and would ask me to come up with other solutions first but not sure what those solutions would be. It's been an issues for 1.5 months.

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Thanks for any suggestions, either to talk to my wife or how else to deal with this.",3.295480859010272,4.5750471568627455,4.043977591036416,89.61948646125119,73.2296918767507,7.081605975723622,24.146591970121374,7.526774132740827,0.8902933706816056,1373,39,298,16,27,438,177,357,0.048,0.843,0.109,0.9229,7,1,0,0,0,0,63.0,3,2,3,4,15,16,0,3,15,0,20,1,1,2,3,56,43,27,0,7,15,19,1,1,0,5,0,1,2,3,18,22,0,2,7,2,0,6,11,4,1,2,3,4,46,12,47,32,4,41,0,0,2,0,60,19,0,5,16,190,64,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694001195116635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256700364218299,0.16364221496892475,0.18351940876220216,0.05135318902621088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28238752175512083,0.0,0.2128481407756702,0.0,0.0,0.13810080365233268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792489501187132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504999200690642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24885098072379375,0.048701306675895714,0.1557065096270489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608419949428078,0.07727866444397315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308358339096949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03818295001939679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06901987887647046,0.0642335201333021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781511066939524,0.0,0.08583449724452047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524790647598031,0.0,0.07881865376351388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04150139197576246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03689310160305046,0.0,0.0,0.1336578371656281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844294337212645,0.06027582146577859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924090597110656,0.0,0.051171316435189004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5869578626046682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318745964310225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682650081087823,0.08141857558519455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553602307040319,0.0,0.048377219026795384,0.0,0.0,0.16215096006759314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060053026137811924,0.07560427686819371,0.0,0.12035229237092325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05345032149491459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234509501919598,0.0,0.0,0.06069656873678182,0.1320079038834813,0.06952460711240192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677467854276388,0.07419368128548545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044541050037089414,0.059940758380327065,0.0,0.0,0.06789758220195834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549762470717203,0.0,0.0,0.1072882133954303,0.08256444027381693,0.18351940876220216,0.0
parenting,Nylese,2019/03/09,"My ex-partner's [32F] small kids [5F, 6F] are attached to me. We were partners for two years before I [26F] moved out in August, but I've babysitter regularly since then. I'm seeking strategies on how we can tell the kids that I am moving away soon. Hi.    


I helped raised my ex-partner's kids for two years when we were partners. I lived with them until moving out, but I've been babysitting them regularly since. They have an attachment to me, and I'm worried they will react badly when I tell them I'm leaving soon. When I moved out, the eldest kid for a month would cry, cling to me, hold on to me while dragging on the floor as I try to leave, try to get in between me and the door, etc.   

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I'm wondering if there are any strategies. Should I try to continue living out our regular routines after I tell them, or remind them about it a lot? Should I slow down my babysitting visits so they can gradually adjust to the change, or should I try to do everything with them while I'm still here?  

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I'm posting in this subreddit because in /r/relationships I got a lot of vague general advice (""Kids are people, too."")  from people who have never taken care of kids.

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Thanks in advance.    


TL;DR: Ex-partner's small kids are attached to me. I'm seeking strategies on how to tell them I'm moving away soon.",4.9781947261663255,5.656290168582378,5.452819472616636,83.31383367139959,68.77011494252875,7.827000225377509,29.529186387198557,7.724431198458867,1.7903259409510932,1038,37,204,11,17,333,132,261,0.073,0.9,0.027000000000000003,-0.8793,0,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,4,0,10,1,14,3,0,0,9,0,18,0,0,3,1,30,32,18,0,5,5,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,9,4,11,0,1,2,0,0,7,1,1,0,2,5,0,35,2,40,22,3,46,0,0,0,0,31,19,0,6,19,135,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683772313523844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888551507303758,0.3239416338261,0.06043115936177591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16698294249401707,0.0,0.07419845512121788,0.054171200346446624,0.0,0.07561745973306895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060365818110362,0.0,0.094007250107375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761388765800028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910782116460193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986601571814463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046428227162731935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107335503512807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956424961893767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881901339300123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15693861776280565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109947041135965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093109194837449,0.4722464699961188,0.0,0.0,0.06853806660611035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321542438357055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510798158262829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540761434998957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14701987864471128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096760050839516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106872553727856,0.08181483354091176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413336557661336,0.0,0.17361613214746552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637016151989017,0.0,0.09024658976873157,0.0,0.06312705446618162,0.0,0.3239416338261,0.11445212632433645
parenting,genolive99,2019/03/09,"Unreasonable to let my baby’s paternal grandparents meet her? My boyfriend’s mother is awful, the father not so much but they’re a package deal. I’m giving birth to my daughter in a month, and I keep telling my boyfriend that his parents are not going to be allowed near her. His mother has disrespected and spread rumors about me before I even was pregnant, and she abused my boyfriend and his sisters when they were young. She’s also lost her foster care license when she was found to have abused a 3 year old in her care. My boyfriend thinks I’m being unreasonable, but I am not budging on this. This woman has a history of hurting children, and I am not going to give her a chance to hurt my baby or allow her to act as a grandmother. What should I do?",4.91,5.746114666666671,5.442666666666668,82.75800000000002,69.0,7.866666666666667,29.666666666666664,7.908726449838941,1.8876666666666668,600,22,117,7,10,193,91,150,0.162,0.737,0.102,-0.8959,3,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,6,5,0,0,7,1,15,0,0,2,0,18,27,13,0,1,7,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,5,0,26,2,14,18,1,14,0,3,0,0,27,4,0,1,7,84,30,0,0.0,0.4220577844975623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243292801135712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155681607201174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631860156867939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836215592240464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176386746733112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19528626285118147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3417149053560563,0.20244579699335827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38133666172468217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831060148839238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18212752884655986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944259554289102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216413106384115,0.0,0.13092989612949776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689441749856026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977678907184969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556742694897071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141244345531282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146957324381156
parenting,Serpico2,2019/03/09,"1 y/o bangs his back against his crib and won’t stop My son is 14 months old. He has eczema that we keep under decent control, allergies, asthma, but other than that is a generally happy boy. We don’t think he’s autistic because he’s very social, makes lots of eye contact, doesn’t play well in isolation etc. However, he does exhibit one worrying compulsive behavior and that’s constant rocking back and forth in his crib banging his back against the sides. We believe he does it either as a coping mechanism, because he’ll do it in the middle of the night if he wakes up, and/or because the eczema makes his back itchy. It’s so bad that he has bruises up and down his spine from the impact. But crib sheets are dangerous so we don’t want to add padding. He’ll literally move his crib across the room this way. How do we get him to stop? Has anyone else had this problem?Help! Thanks.  ",5.4183740259740265,5.926026411428577,5.6511168831168845,82.88270129870129,67.74285714285715,8.877922077922078,30.766233766233768,8.841846274778883,2.3122571428571423,702,26,140,11,11,223,108,175,0.125,0.7879999999999999,0.087,-0.8018,1,1,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,1,8,6,1,0,8,0,13,4,3,4,0,25,22,11,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,10,10,0,4,1,2,0,1,4,2,1,1,1,1,14,4,17,18,3,23,0,0,1,0,26,11,0,2,10,81,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712235267011304,0.15697348345138956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712113151195882,0.12791721360486966,0.28017142653285737,0.0,0.0,0.17260611424328726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16555686203465506,0.1718289932708413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26813608543807826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279805553771218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086065079271856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004168606432722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308630492552478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268802536753363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617291597538567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024680366064287,0.0,0.0,0.2045269578995501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228432014067983,0.16282940791139122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437696345869753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160759655834964,0.0,0.1038135937232034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465935581315297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617007605274244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25616734942755714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104775525315394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816561172172034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640763814244224,0.09036246856013087,0.12160456231055318,0.0,0.0,0.13774693528608795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15558399809939868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LikelyAlias,2019/03/09,"Toddler acting out with newborn arrival- tips or tricks to ease the transition and curb meltdowns? My DS is 2.5 years old and we just welcomed our second child early this week. We had been prepping our son for months with the upcoming birth and he has done really well helping to get the baby’s room all set and helping clean and change his babydoll diaper. He was great meeting little brother at the hospital and behaved well for his Grandmother while we were away.

We brought our newest son home on Thursday and this weekend is our first full day together as a family of 4. This morning it was meltdown city. We are trying to keep the morning routine as normal as possible but today he was refusing to put on clothes, bit my husband twice, threw his drink on the floor, and just was generally obstinate. I know that this is normal toddler behavior especially with a new baby taking up mommy’s time. We are holding our ground with how we talk to him regarding his tantrums and giving him praise for good listening and enforcing good behavior.

Would love any tips, tricks, ideas on how you helped your first born transition to big siblinghood and manage his emotions. ",8.197461059190026,8.394955023364492,7.5210747663551425,72.90332554517136,61.85046728971962,10.871651090342679,37.459501557632386,10.504223727775694,4.0616398753894085,941,42,157,20,12,293,140,214,0.053,0.7959999999999999,0.151,0.9706,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,12,2,0,3,6,11,3,0,8,0,15,2,0,2,1,40,24,19,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,6,23,1,4,2,2,0,4,0,3,2,4,10,1,24,8,25,13,3,36,1,0,0,1,41,14,0,1,17,104,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104318594086195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14412619235938404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747521101976665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227893471978685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893157443439356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15698346647059114,0.0,0.15027552137311326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17255655916400325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14461371672308182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609672598947374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014619336583839,0.14715713945211156,0.0,0.25733257412453475,0.0,0.16912620392994968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084663033278013,0.0,0.15387467485188167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17317214219795993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635071163021553,0.0,0.0,0.08430570614264887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537490654003772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384512593186011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244398199868665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815657016688313,0.0,0.0,0.3006027035787634,0.0,0.0,0.16096955343519287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729376623386326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15421134104917247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827322451385424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115339183815379,0.12329868575923125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894499172811874,0.0,0.14540712252643198,0.0,0.0,0.10414986217825628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304980032044564,0.0,0.2758535721528402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897235201613713,0.0,0.0,0.09878583361981937
parenting,DeepButterfly,2019/03/09,"Daughters paternal grandparents making life difficult **I have a 7 year old daughter from a short term relationship, her father was deployed when I was about 25 weeks pregnant and was killed while overseas. He made a will prior to deploying where her left sums of money to me, his parents and our daughter. His parents weren't happy about the pregnancy but for a while were happy about having a grand child. We're at the age now where  my daughter wants to know more about her dad. His parents aren't very transparent about what they want from us in terms of a relationship. We live in LA and they live in Chicago. My daughter wants a relationship with them, because ""They knew my daddy when he was a baby."" Those were exact words so I of course want her to know more about her dad. But when they come around they make like difficult....**

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I got married when my daughter was 4 to a wonderful man, my daughter loves him and he loves her. She's my only child and my top priority. My parents have a close relationship with her, but she really wants to be close with her fathers side. 3 weeks ago they came to LA and insisted on taking her to Disneyland, I was nervous since they have always been quick to stop interacting with her and know so little about her my husband and  I tagged along (we all have passes in our home so they didn't pay for us). They weren't very affectionate with her and almost seemed inconvenienced, but they stuck it out so power to them.  They took her dinner alone, but then called us to come get her as they had spent too long with her. When they parted they said ""Ok be good. We'll talk in a month or so."" I didn't know they were leaving, and my daughter seemed sad but said ""I love you grandma and grandpa"" they made a tight smile and simply said ""Ok"". 

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In the car my husband was talking to her and asked about the day and she said ""Grandma and grandpa don't say I love you. I say it and they pat me on the head and say ok, thank you. Do they not love me?"" I quickly changed the subject by saying ""You're awesome, and I love you... does anyone want ice cream?"" It was a bad deflection but I couldn't take the conversation. 

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They've always been so aloof, when they say her the first time, they just kept remarking how similar her and her father looked which was ""good"" and meant no questioning. They would send cards but sign their normal names, they always speak so highly of their other 2 grandkids but seem so distant with my daughter. 

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I'm hurt because she wants to be close and loves them, but it seems like they have no urge. Every night we say who were thankful for and she always says ""mimi and papi"" who are my parents, and ""nona"" who is my husbands mom and ""grandma and grandpa"", we always send them pictures and cards and our texts are met with the thumbs up emoji. 

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That night I acted stupid and sent them a text ""Daughter had a wonderful time but mentioned you don't say I love you to her. If you have such an issue with forming a relationship with her you need to just say it, and stop coming into her life only make it shitty for you when you leave or ignore her for a few months."" They simply responded, ""We want to respect our sons wishes of having a relationship with her but she is just hard to connect with. Have a great night."" 

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I just don't know what to do. My daughter loves them but they obviously don't care. I'm sad for her because she isn't hard to connect with, how do I address this from here?",3.62731829573935,5.4337899649122825,3.9063199665831263,88.81118421052632,73.32748538011697,6.581620718462824,24.641186299081035,7.240123139073775,0.9461028404344192,2752,85,555,29,56,854,274,684,0.095,0.75,0.155,0.9953,8,1,0,0,0,0,114.0,13,10,33,3,38,35,2,1,29,3,50,13,1,7,3,126,112,67,1,14,21,30,3,2,0,3,2,14,2,3,16,59,1,5,14,0,3,11,14,10,0,1,37,19,127,25,70,68,8,69,0,3,2,9,174,24,0,11,36,379,143,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03828328579282597,0.0,0.043246238060949516,0.04472942725963956,0.0,0.0,0.17967810953789107,0.28076309672591504,0.31486665909019546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030197840485627105,0.0,0.0,0.03844620484466641,0.04037466488490366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036059921347148166,0.0789804539966037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04409946523621165,0.04939521771030129,0.04403273332897484,0.0,0.04568685479226711,0.11160712534551853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02785249042556965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037793842903333916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03638749568064335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03673543127743045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02256378811446286,0.0,0.0,0.07244757902588342,0.034541144937015884,0.04761458616829844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919482087309564,0.07737538352725312,0.0,0.04432303468758115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0456301709028001,0.04332077936242487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046233320692515255,0.0,0.0,0.04507673303129465,0.0,0.0,0.04778078569286175,0.0,0.11867413849337725,0.0,0.0,0.09145906632070774,0.0469235569483419,0.0,0.06100949233570763,0.04219865253336685,0.04328541617261018,0.07627105178418482,0.038219751009273474,0.03626678667429202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508072278201717,0.08173048242720894,0.08648436524748332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058090637844359,0.06894401217780331,0.0,0.0,0.032023128589557893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158617833864074,0.04231477145286969,0.0,0.0,0.045318220916772116,0.0,0.0,0.06569237627063411,0.0,0.0,0.2397741217148428,0.04676806504031218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04838010233259901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02766714328070382,0.0,0.0,0.278204531112604,0.0,0.0,0.16432555118923073,0.30910129619211385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726582193032693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03572530756694641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221369362061741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494354368212787,0.06942526658911471,0.0,0.07952285415364788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050366184484296105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04798311819095119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558484384580268,0.0,0.0,0.07126874266000595,0.20378577157427527,0.0,0.06928512772363174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04966371783558805,0.0,0.09367042585838044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030679299389842662,0.0,0.31486665909019546,0.02781145959526345
parenting,waterbuffalo750,2019/03/09,"Leaving kids alone. At what ages did you all leave your kids alone, and for how long? Like, how old do they need to be to stay inside while the parent is outside doing chores? Or while the parent runs to the store? Goes out for a couple hours? What age do they get off the bus and wait at home until parents get home from work? You get the idea, whatever situations you have experience or opinions with. Thanks!",2.4688750000000006,4.833370137500001,2.765000000000004,93.05,78.875,5.5,18.75,6.6274283507984215,-0.08112500000000011,321,7,67,3,8,98,57,80,0.061,0.862,0.077,0.5349,3,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,2,1,2,2,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,2,1,13,13,9,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,12,11,1,14,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,9,42,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394886658330253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18134514152167894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603193810537776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25688291106389843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287972703792449,0.0,0.16140217362880768,0.0,0.0,0.1850159154364556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34707929774419216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007013014802665,0.0,0.0,0.1450406709132679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152502129708714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197875425115872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5459533130823728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18422326354850596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746887616417604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089119911566756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11931648646528388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lizardscum2010,2019/03/09,my month old is grunting constantly. So my newborn was a c section baby. He aspirated and developed pneumonia in the first 2 days of life. So he went to the NICU. He was there for a week and was cleared. Took him home and he developed a cold he's still not really over the cold. He's been to the doctor a few times. The last time he was checked on was on Thursday. Doc said no reasons for concern everything sounds great and no fever he's been eating good. But last night he started grunting and straining and it's constant. Has anyone gone through this? I'm a new parent and I'm so scared he's going to get sick again. I just need to know of I need to take him to the doc again. Want to know outside opinion.,0.4680272108843511,2.8157001904761927,2.0439795918367345,94.95399659863949,87.91156462585036,5.171428571428573,22.452380952380953,6.691623216298621,0.5508748299319732,556,21,122,7,18,180,88,147,0.094,0.8390000000000001,0.067,-0.6176,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,2,11,0,9,5,0,1,1,18,24,11,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,2,7,1,0,3,0,1,4,3,2,0,1,11,4,6,2,16,13,2,27,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,1,18,66,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063538558216738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728823236141725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126609942560084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658942075769007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765389178679789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505678017301622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467519811156458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013860711921122,0.0,0.09805147291132332,0.14470805676388904,0.0,0.19021240821779686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17305935914833007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896334337231041,0.2812662195572816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218614230973466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770997129098564,0.0,0.0,0.25585422022394794,0.0,0.16662833641322786,0.0,0.1619055675225656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18103880828149607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157160353544345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052566819184803,0.17738721927242798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411335968005866,0.0,0.17273033438301225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211600040552947,0.0,0.13778085124805695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971936580853705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012045890651528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916846327854195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176131279040887,0.0,0.13839132142624894,0.0,0.0,0.1599349146980687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sweetprince686,2019/03/09,"Experiences of epidurals? I know this question might fit a bit better over at r/pregnancy, but I'm looking for people's experiences who have already been through this, if thats OK?

I'm on my second baby, and my last labour was a nightmare, it was over 40 hours unmedicated, during which time I got dehydrated and totally exhausted because I was in too much pain to eat sleep or drink and ended up with an emergency csection when I got an infection...

This time round I really don't want to experience that again. But I'm in a country that has a very strong push towards unmedicated birth (the UK). So trying to talk to my midwifes about having an epidural this time round has strongly been met by an attitude of ""well, let's just see how it goes... You might change your mind... Just try it naturally and see...""


So could I have people's personal experiences on how they felt with an epidural? Problems and benefits?

Because I don't know if I'm just over reacting out of fear, or if I should stand my ground to get the pain relief I want.",6.036518151815178,6.222913361386138,6.922524752475248,75.41352310231024,66.37623762376238,10.297689768976898,33.16996699669967,10.125756701596842,3.208741254125413,817,33,159,18,12,273,122,202,0.132,0.762,0.106,-0.7658,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,2,1,3,13,12,0,1,11,1,17,7,1,3,1,34,33,17,0,8,10,0,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,12,8,2,0,4,1,0,1,2,5,1,1,9,6,16,7,25,19,3,24,0,0,5,0,8,13,0,8,9,107,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017353623289944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548646328361157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234191949035577,0.13867670912905586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437396788980782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014178892088291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12443462312889267,0.0,0.12997670127097072,0.0,0.0,0.11250507455970664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4970132337990593,0.0,0.14293669640117124,0.0,0.0,0.12196243238919707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636451017150012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318451430932705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509251178830064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961753285725234,0.10354106572792993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989008420863307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666770672212426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26950361520052946,0.12825747466031828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337685160169172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703238142405196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612413362517912,0.1109119774283602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154428720901367,0.0,0.0,0.14229533520978185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08137447499304039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20244248848757213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271151852877673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209663792577436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222051863954465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248116966302085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480764961044713,0.14984344430378838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420933687653438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curlyemma6,2019/03/09,Does anyone else think you need to be on some kind of drug to come up with kids tv plots? When you walk past the TV and you hear ‘this is a special race where you and your racing pig can race together.’ Some days I just wonder how on Earth you reach a storyline like that! One of many examples...anyone have some more? ,2.8955384615384645,4.176225938461542,3.2769230769230795,94.72307692307696,74.23076923076924,7.046153846153848,19.15384615384616,7.554174236665415,0.12229230769230792,246,4,57,3,5,76,51,65,0.0,0.893,0.107,0.7142,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,6,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,0,12,9,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,7,3,8,8,4,9,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,4,4,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724214571404352,0.2728669226459531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294032044455647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17174845787760407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330504072252373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088360216713729,0.0,0.2224685312222781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001516670599185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773217546838893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010602259223966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699973885707798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746611048553284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045911465575606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542238266662001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706412305518994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888027415879859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lucyian86,2019/03/09,"Feeling like a shit parent, knowing you are teaching them the lessons they need to learn. On mobile, sorry.
I have 2 kids, 13 and 5.
My eldest has been organising a trip to the cinema with her friends since monday, and she's been really excited. The only condition of her going was that she took her keys. I was taking my youngest to soft play and for a walk along the beach n stuff and wasn't sure of the time I was going to be home, plus my dad rang and family or in town, so could change plans. She said yup, that's fine, I'll get my keys. All week I find her at the front door waiting for me to arrive home after getting my boy from school, so I know she hasn't got them yet. Come last night, and I ask if she's found them and she's not. She was looking until I sent her to bed at half 9. This morning she's sat on her laptop talking to her friends about the trip and I had to tell her, no. I'm sorry kid, the only thing I asked was that you took keys and you haven't found them so you have to tell your friends you can't go. And now she's crying, and yelling, and telling me she always ruins everything, and can she please go she'll find them afterwards (she won't, past experience tells me so) and it's all my fault... I feel like a total bitch, but if I let her go, I know she will not get the point of the lesson, that you have to follow the rules if you wanted to be trusted and treated like an adult. It seems like a trivial issue, she could ring to find out where I am after the film... not the point. She needs to learn. Parenting sucks. ",2.78697634465442,3.4340742735562317,3.8330725518699644,93.0589440993789,73.74164133738601,6.937544601559401,21.903132020615832,6.8959733430537185,0.2676596008986394,1192,25,284,10,23,386,169,329,0.058,0.853,0.08900000000000001,0.8646,2,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,0,8,6,3,8,18,3,0,19,1,27,1,1,0,4,53,61,26,0,8,8,3,3,4,3,3,0,4,4,4,9,20,0,1,15,4,0,14,9,5,0,1,17,8,61,13,32,36,3,36,0,1,1,0,58,10,3,5,16,182,70,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053868623223567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18097488198534206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239308707430933,0.08337772542801003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456104963973386,0.0,0.10632145166687894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699039587229225,0.09468113527614892,0.09124687017532247,0.0,0.09788187283437907,0.13829642833835595,0.0,0.0,0.2653983651262806,0.0,0.0,0.21225483349913649,0.22434374494209966,0.0,0.15170945329693689,0.0,0.2750455812025725,0.0,0.07741339335490514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418050787486035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102568608158967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958303260058626,0.07889838727945206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989763635868099,0.0,0.1891507009144738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128089059163511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354006240838427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083272203253924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722933399949953,0.0,0.0,0.2149520918832823,0.0,0.09239890291969396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624853458748433,0.18299942549101555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062007424759692474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207134386880954,0.0,0.0,0.09795865735317624,0.0,0.08811578884092032,0.0,0.0,0.09935558273507662,0.08006733107567687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21670140779737915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080366673963336,0.0,0.0,0.09122530135956386,0.0,0.0727755275931564,0.07779773196621496,0.3384018483247612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430429462129872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644018544229214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21507891586594974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709042116213335,0.0,0.07764069280121731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pandabearajuana,2019/03/09,"I think kids should be encouraged to play as much or more than any other activity I think some people get so used to working that they kind of are in work-mode while playing, and that could be prevented if you played at least as often as you worked.  You could also learn to have a playful attitude while working.",7.962732240437154,6.745442868852461,7.428524590163933,78.01961748633883,62.9344262295082,10.756284153005463,33.448087431693985,9.725611199111238,2.8678480874316934,249,8,49,4,3,78,48,61,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.8779,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,1,3,3,6,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,11,10,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,6,10,6,4,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,4,2,39,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945372855800265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542714133971553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884513269087224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709484607140867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533209181566475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882625141481578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864789323921842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117461394116769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21010107538151865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7083932715468708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shenanigans_626,2019/03/09,"My daughter doesn't want me to sing her to sleep anymore :( Dad here. This is my second child, 14 and 2.5. I've always had a knack for putting babies to sleep, mine or friends. I had typically used tight swaddling, motion and shushing in the past but when my daughter was born I quickly discovered that she liked when I sang to her.

For the first year and a half of her life I sang her to sleep almost every night. By the time she was 6 months old, the effect was substantial. It would take Mom 30-60 minutes to put her to sleep but if I sang to her she'd be toast in under 2 minutes every time. Usually closer to 30 seconds.

When she was about 18 months I had to be out of town for work for an extended period of time, only home on weekends, and when I got home she didn't want me to sing to her anymore. She actually won't let me now. It makes her mad and I have to leave the room before she can fall asleep.

She's 2.5 now, I'm out of town for work during the weeks *again*, and I'm really missing singing her to sleep. I have a playlist of songs she used to love that I only get to listen to alone. 

To be perfectly honest, even though she normally fell asleep in a minute or so, I'd usually keep singing to her for up to half an hour because I didn't want to put her down. It was *our* time. I do shift work and don't always get to spend days or weekends with her so sleepy singing time was for just for us... And I want it back. 

Has anyone experienced something similar? Can I do something to get this back or is she just growing up and I need to get over it?",1.1197624633431076,2.925785324242426,2.650097751710657,95.02288856304988,80.60606060606061,5.833822091886607,20.948191593352878,6.828538100315305,0.2090830889540567,1207,34,282,13,31,394,155,330,0.056,0.863,0.081,0.9326,0,1,2,0,0,0,40.0,2,0,0,6,18,7,1,0,12,0,29,9,7,4,1,36,49,23,0,8,9,4,1,1,1,2,1,5,3,1,9,12,0,2,1,11,1,7,5,2,0,5,12,7,47,5,51,30,0,53,0,1,0,1,33,15,0,6,32,185,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.09204099529011787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444609170220053,0.09768525028227787,0.0,0.0,0.15696066035965486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870766972204661,0.06594950542737082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504980710990312,0.0,0.05749552281157719,0.0,0.08025787416987469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082746113455253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062296307049333685,0.0,0.15893436784138215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022704555846641,0.0,0.0,0.07287003716477279,0.0,0.19710954727707397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543491153201998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892177670810584,0.0,0.09288446604452136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383438411622156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998693961836544,0.0,0.09644678921000903,0.06661976123474668,0.04607912717469968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512589275344919,0.0,0.0629581566490524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046438109752232,0.15056783638117616,0.0,0.0,0.06993577880920397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851127761993395,0.09241184815573852,0.0,0.0,0.09897112536017116,0.0,0.0,0.14346654117399885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09003743106116108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28444764195265976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042267879450094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4719317704478664,0.0,0.0,0.14522157607092345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091557736679399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266719053055553,0.0,0.2749886170324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345322792013178,0.16292135020018647,0.20775642924344773,0.0,0.22252536327647807,0.0,0.07565640180496573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059944030454776,0.0,0.0,0.06700097056878491,0.0,0.0,0.0607378533042424
parenting,cheeseandrice111,2019/03/09,"I can’t stop thinking about horrible things that could potentially happen to our child I have never considered myself to have any issues mentally before. I had a couple panic attacks related to my last relationship but otherwise I’ve been lucky enough to not experience any depression or much anxiety at all until my husband and I had our daughter who is now just shy of 18mo. 

I have always been into crime novels and true crime, and not always but occasionally I will be unable to control my train of thought and I’ll think of some horrible thing I read or heard that happened to a child and I will freak out. We live rurally and my husband works away so when he is not home and this happens I get so sick in my stomach thinking about someone breaking in to our house and harming her or stealing her or her choking on something that I will go pick her up and put her in bed with me (which I know is not exactly safe either even now that she is a toddler). Once we were in a shopping centre (my daughter wasn’t even there, she was with her grandparents) and my husband, who is entirely unaware of this, started reading a news story about a boy who had been missing and was suspected to have been abducted. I had a full blown panic attack because I couldn’t stop imagining myself in the position of that little boys parents. It seems to get worse the more I pay attention to news, and I ended up deleting Facebook to stop the amount of articles that were popping up in my feed causing the feeling. 

I’ve talked about this with my best friend who really encourages me to make the time to see someone about it but I will make excuses a lot because I feel like it isn’t a constant problem and we are so busy, also I hate feeling like I am seeing a professional for a small issue because I don’t know if this is normal or not. 

TLDR; I think I might have some anxiety issues about my daughters safety and I know I am being irrational but I don’t know if this is something all parents go through or if it’s a problem with me that I need to address with a psychologist. ",6.40655051150895,6.209215002450982,7.090515771526,75.8224296675192,65.64215686274511,9.938789428815006,35.38618925831202,9.54385415503706,3.2946590792838872,1643,72,307,29,23,545,197,408,0.225,0.6890000000000001,0.086,-0.9964,3,0,2,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,0,3,17,20,3,2,18,0,41,3,1,5,5,87,70,33,0,9,20,8,3,2,1,5,1,1,3,4,23,24,1,5,16,4,2,3,12,12,0,0,15,6,55,8,48,46,12,34,0,2,2,0,37,17,0,15,15,240,78,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263836671034903,0.15115910303209826,0.0,0.0,0.12353783307556067,0.0,0.13897255675419568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066691656418004,0.08533971172386592,0.0,0.0,0.16611114472846875,0.0,0.07729139418108359,0.0,0.09532264457989206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330954793339197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815718972685653,0.10187588050279793,0.07252200998124363,0.1005039483209477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782335214137489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045024604445525,0.09385380039964787,0.0,0.1199874398363568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885118538645262,0.0,0.0,0.137782258374094,0.1297808856720684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017662534359473,0.0,0.0949120062861431,0.0,0.10324390747482123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409674758401477,0.0,0.0,0.08967785564421316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911119636097719,0.0,0.0,0.10480800354637036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844152196733354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19967570199733145,0.07404025326072185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875191422194019,0.09103758799347547,0.0802063743648528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722217044412337,0.0,0.0,0.12126221265658313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915373539944783,0.09635846310757433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677201642336543,0.06735082262286261,0.07005528539522707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899613473052424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673318098715132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314370645873693,0.2017165099406922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382803130491226,0.0,0.0913113097227416,0.0,0.0,0.1817132837553731,0.0,0.058189344441118326,0.0,0.0,0.09751964102778472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447627857891306,0.08269009731393001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539234217800913,0.1398539170865443,0.0,0.0,0.06429140059153429,0.0,0.0,0.2278190116425674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300737032160431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068957107195505,0.232806069310612,0.0,0.07211051073718891,0.052964905473013836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612682252703411,0.0,0.09256563059918316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontwantanaccount,2019/03/09,"Wearing pants, weeing on potty but not telling us when he wants to wee?? Hi everyone! 

So lo will be 3 in July and so far is wearing pants in the day with only a nappy for his nap and one a my bed time.

He will sit and wee/poo on the potty no problem, he wants to wear pants. Likes being a big boy!

However if me and my husband do not sit him on the potty every hour he will wet his pants. He knows he shouldn’t, and then when we tell him we have to change him he cries and says “no potty!” This is him saying he wants to sit on the potty and doesn’t want his pants changed. 

He’ll then sit on the potty but by then it’s too late. 

What can I do to encourage him to ask or start to recognise he needs to sit down? I don’t really want to go back to nappies but I will if we have to, but he’s so happy in his pants.",2.0494262295081995,2.0513318251366144,3.96296448087432,93.81198770491804,75.01092896174863,6.97431693989071,21.26092896174864,6.42735559955562,0.036220765027322084,616,11,159,4,12,211,93,183,0.066,0.8340000000000001,0.099,0.8115,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,8,0,16,3,3,0,0,29,27,22,0,10,9,1,1,1,0,6,0,2,1,1,3,11,0,0,1,1,0,1,7,1,0,1,0,3,19,3,23,19,0,28,0,0,0,0,33,11,0,3,12,98,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296057596164035,0.0,0.0,0.13403713116700355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688033667671365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914763508685766,0.11241846575459777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468675287045293,0.16656502511124466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906697733248006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18556108262635224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17166472133469787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957987193987251,0.0,0.1966344079590568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516128544033863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925203203356514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812005214911778,0.13257407217953274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679548515957782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167036598544093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27724385742918706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338073753413893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047172044237237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016442174312639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096789440130516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5140761973381146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,karma3000,2019/03/09,"Parenting with an ex... My ex wife and I have different parenting styles. Not radically different, but different. (For context we are amicable and custody is 50/50).

Just wondering, is it better for us to agree on a unified approach or can a 6 year old deal with two sets of rules / expectations?",3.515157232704404,6.476967716981138,5.443679245283022,71.76727987421386,79.37735849056604,10.325786163522016,33.361635220125784,10.125756701596842,4.662876729559748,231,13,39,9,6,79,44,53,0.0,0.8140000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.8885,5,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,6,4,0,1,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,7,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,2,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898835595515045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22134494012916608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6729433594002341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252901773980621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767950137831588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20972944036595054,0.0,0.2582561100673844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328315899397587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382589285096372
parenting,NanaMilkis,2019/03/09,"My mom's smell calms me down Since I was a little kid, ive always smelt things to calm down, and smells or different people have always been very distinct to me. My mom for a while from about the age 7-12 smelt like nothing to me, but I remember beforehand she'd smelt the same as she does now. Anyways, Im 16 now and whenever im stressed out I get the urge to smell her. Is that normal? I get that it's good because its a sign that I trust her, but is that too clingy for my age? Im not typically clingy in other ways; besides a good hug before I go to sleep or on a bad day its not like Im not chasing her around trying ro get a whiff.
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parenting,Sparxican,2019/03/09,Double Stroller I have a NB on the way and wife wants to get a double stroller so our almost 3yo can ride also. Those things are so damn big and cumbersome though. I hated our regular stroller for the same reason and so heavy too. We have Graco quick connect car seats so the stroller has to be a Graco. personally I think the 3yo has been doing fine walking and in shopping carts. She hasn't used her stroller in over a year. What are your experiences with double strollers? Am I in the wrong for not wanting one? ,2.1408100810081017,4.670872009900993,2.5948694869486957,92.81248424842484,81.37623762376236,5.2568856885688575,23.043204320432054,6.574015621080383,0.5371306930693063,407,14,83,4,11,125,68,101,0.11,0.872,0.018000000000000002,-0.8847,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,0,8,4,2,0,9,0,12,0,0,2,0,14,18,10,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,2,1,1,3,2,3,0,1,1,0,10,1,10,16,4,12,0,0,0,0,8,6,1,1,2,62,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28528288124590184,0.0,0.0,0.2278317796254251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27868362967390303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884676156210078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812764984912873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930533699577976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487608002529925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929212462345649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927270122412573,0.18255029497751607,0.2799095508883179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24605926705858,0.0,0.0,0.3360788977164503,0.22613773123864134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31148980608555643,0.0,0.18346412730301973
parenting,Mzagent99,2019/03/09,"My 4th grader was suspended... My daughter is in the 4th grade at one of our top ranked public schools. Her teacher assigned book reports about people to all of her students, and mine was assigned Michael Jackson. My daughter read the assigned book and wrote her report. I did not proofread it, which I regret. She read her report outloud, which included ""Michael Jackson was accused of molesting several children."" That was in the book they assigned my daughter. The other students had questions because not very many of them understood what that meant exactly, including my daughter. My daughter was suspended for 2 days, for putting that in her report even though it was in the book that they assigned her!!! We are transferring her to a new school next week, but my daughter is very upset over the situation and feels she did something wrong. I've been told I need to appeal the suspendion and she should be apologized to. I don't agree that kids should be punished for talking about sexual abuse, but I'm worried if I pursue this it might affect her more. Thoughts? ",6.425892857142856,8.256125875000006,5.5533630952380975,79.67437500000005,66.29166666666666,7.985714285714287,36.63095238095238,8.418075326091056,3.2153202380952384,856,44,140,12,14,257,110,192,0.155,0.8240000000000001,0.021,-0.9813,0,0,1,0,1,0,26.0,2,0,3,2,4,5,2,1,8,0,19,0,0,1,2,24,27,8,0,5,5,6,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,13,5,0,0,5,6,0,1,3,5,0,1,15,1,29,0,19,7,2,12,0,1,0,0,30,7,0,3,4,102,42,21,0.0,0.2133713583763386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977818623352274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613997107956897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189444892837017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910564215555272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257799393177854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910417990103662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353079640067794,0.0,0.17392728128309215,0.19152251330941625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203030301500672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484831163344726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18103523361461832,0.20173649105992714,0.0,0.36026760403963776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645114070940158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034448681635184,0.0,0.0,0.20242316219823286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863828384763766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14474555651312535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693266540316208,0.1429674286461924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207900027310646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971780829986964,0.0,0.0,0.14445337934089347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828851285408521,0.0,0.0,0.19689475211448293,0.0,0.0
parenting,fullofsun101,2019/03/09,"My son (17) is terrified of new (girl)friend My son is a quiet, intellectual,  logical, thoughtful person. He has recently been talking with and spending some time with a girl he really likes. This is the first time he has really liked someone like that.  He has convinced himself that she is only talking to him out of pity. He plans on cutting things off with her to prevent future heart break for himself. I’ve tried talking to him but I don’t think I’ve made a difference in his thinking. I need help. What can I tell him that would make him see this differently? He enjoys talking to her and she obviously likes him.  ",3.045141242937856,5.606650491525425,4.045000000000002,83.57620056497176,77.98305084745763,6.984180790960453,27.62994350282485,8.07648339933343,2.031421468926553,490,21,91,9,12,158,76,118,0.042,0.76,0.198,0.956,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,4,0,11,1,1,2,1,18,18,3,0,2,1,2,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,7,6,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,3,2,17,6,14,14,1,11,0,1,1,0,28,4,0,1,10,58,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500514265510836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424948428531546,0.0,0.0,0.12942773128708396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19851537300556327,0.11228702899594377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273727925470858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15851416255092174,0.11182279710765533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421606382062307,0.0,0.16179460359976067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740866933942085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627448297839155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214638843039894,0.0,0.1654085952393365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349401490702648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14194155942524594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5385940553109649,0.14642234677637309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129473166723143,0.21468374428955314,0.0,0.1329944231568715,0.19536783137243666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373701245324384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900341967909238,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BriBarber4,2019/03/09,"My 9mo old doesnt go to sleep until 2 in the 4,and only sleeps 2 to 3 hours at a time. Help! So, my little one is 9 months old and has always had a difficult time with sleep. She hardly ever falls asleep early, early being 11 or before and even when she does she wakes up after 30 minutes. When she finally goes to sleep at 1:30 or 2am, she will only sleep 2 to 3 hours at a time. Does anyone else's baby do this? I know I should probably let her cry it out. But she will scream for way longer than I'd like to admit. Any advice would be great!",0.5234606569900713,2.1178316134453823,2.7097631779984748,94.9032849503438,81.60504201680672,5.335676088617267,14.179526355996945,6.11248444174946,-0.8628386554621854,418,4,99,3,11,142,84,119,0.071,0.8290000000000001,0.1,0.5242,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,12,7,7,0,1,12,15,9,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,2,11,2,16,7,0,26,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,2,17,56,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12693658035793842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808703897628187,0.0,0.0,0.08833631789842053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082895990958764,0.13309769511113867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053516153252058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268882977797004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22735237928884516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851461383930684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579759224624814,0.11750180526495987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229888055305498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382504941779783,0.0,0.0,0.14321498718593462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163647051472246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706909722217725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25585027174684066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071389532457794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283134564537086,0.0,0.0634624803885575,0.13019372468316354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368478039157003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726159754888744,0.0,0.08802346575968932,0.19758930157575014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400539540408949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6499680563226756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272368525905218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10310841425358072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227709033235487,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lostgirl_alice,2019/03/10,"I feel so useless I just had emergency surgery yesterday and I can’t drive,bend over, or lift my baby (3mos) I feel like a horrible mother because I can’t do anything to help with the baby right now and I’m stressed it’s upsetting my husband and making my family think I don’t care. I feel so lazy and useless. I’m out of commission for 2 weeks and I don’t know how to survive this. ",1.0415853658536598,2.9676930975609785,3.373353658536587,89.13368902439026,81.4390243902439,7.0268292682926825,26.103658536585364,8.07648339933343,1.678921951219512,302,13,66,6,8,104,54,82,0.248,0.6509999999999999,0.101,-0.9038,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,2,2,0,6,0,0,2,0,16,15,9,0,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,5,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,3,11,2,7,14,0,6,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,4,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25617018290711896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897632256247923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173871415049809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934622776293481,0.0,0.4722020155663095,0.22239001058446128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086552276361244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710802066525092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208356023306452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20779257759370254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658451858935841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565886541115689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994659843396978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497029706595658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,1970camaro,2019/03/10,"Premie I’m more a lurker than a poster, but my second was born yesterday premie at 36, he weighs 4lbs 10oz, any advice from parents who have been in this or a similar situation? He’s so small and fragile it’s tough not to worry about him",1.2796000000000018,3.34870776,3.649999999999999,86.705,81.4,6.4,20.0,7.554174236665415,0.7044000000000006,188,5,39,3,5,65,45,50,0.038,0.894,0.068,0.3311,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,4,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,2,0,6,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,2,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4394310712557719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30580406920868924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.499326627566061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.50546948998738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4566812001449305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tawebber1,2019/03/10,"Wife is 4 months pregnant with our 1st. I’m nervous, scared, excited. Is this the best subreddit to start reading or is there a better one for expecting fathers? Any advice from you smart people who have done this before?",2.8885365853658564,5.831327121951222,3.4372682926829263,85.02419512195122,82.65853658536584,6.206829268292682,25.27317073170732,7.554174236665415,1.7336009756097566,176,7,30,3,5,55,38,41,0.101,0.6459999999999999,0.253,0.8205,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,2,1,6,0,2,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,2,4,4,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,20,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229961167924694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477592804595026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28126193287512585,0.0,0.3468773146787246,0.2923323788679192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382532584233421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638308149039616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22397986102054704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291521597292981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306256146601567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309243655465563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23395520017737675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,scc0503881,2019/03/10,"Developmental delays? I have b/g twins (2yrs4mos). I don't pressure them to learn ABCs, count, sing, whatever.. but i provide them with enough exposure. My daughter just started to learn on her own but my son still doesn't talk much. I figured, well, they'll eventually learn.. maybe before, or when they go to school. 

Other people expressed their concerns, and one parent shared videos of his kid learning countries at 2yo, reading at 3yo. He said maybe I should consult a speech specialist.

Should I be even concerned? They are exposed to three languages: English media, and two dialects at home. They understand when I talk to them, my daughter sings gibberish ABCs and other songs, count to ten starting from whatever number she likes. My son talks when he likes. I just don't think these kinds of knowledge are THAT important right now, but other parents are telling me what my kids should know by now.

Tl;dr .. I let my kids learn on their own pace, other parents say they are already behind. Are they?",4.285346838551259,7.082679453038676,3.7824953959484375,85.85402547575202,74.91160220994476,6.011172498465317,28.28759975445059,7.1686216300943375,1.6580568446899941,795,33,137,9,18,237,116,181,0.008,0.887,0.105,0.9463,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,11,0,10,6,0,1,1,0,15,0,0,0,0,24,22,10,0,3,6,7,0,2,0,4,0,4,1,3,7,4,0,1,10,5,0,1,3,1,1,4,1,4,30,5,17,15,4,16,0,0,0,0,35,6,0,1,11,94,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120977366165802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320195961170549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603094491190415,0.0,0.10247384921795162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817423408380158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556261827676771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156285934192322,0.08526533196670154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586494320961155,0.0,0.15159503841714475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31173421643791843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405169661555295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051323600318676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.51682077522344,0.0,0.0,0.10756014959992566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551900737764116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249561986447056,0.14758136071852426,0.12337998716370682,0.0,0.15701814852339618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962923116662936,0.0,0.12390146388926547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741064698941106,0.13560626777804208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941263050572648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155713856577727,0.16151463171998856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394967640981161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,guestfirefly,2019/03/10,"Need assistance with parenting two new additions in the USA I grew up elsewhere and many things that applied to parenting in that country do not apply here at all. I am  trying to ensure that the kids get as “normal” an upbringing as possible in American terms. For example regular doctor and dentist visits were not a thing growing up. The pediatrician told me about those in well child check ups ...so got that covered. 
But there may be many many such things It’s hard for me to know what us expected
Deodorant was/is another - I don’t get it it’s not about masking odors but being clean... shower everyday or twice a day. But I added it to my list anyway because who wants their kids to be the target of weird foreign family vibes 
So true blue Americans,  help out a single dad please. What us in your parenting checklist - however trivial however extravagant I will appreciate any and all advice. Ages of kids: 10 and 12
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parenting,throwaway321bye,2019/03/10,"It's not ok. I'm really sorry if this is the wrong reddit for this, but I could use some advice.

It's not going to be nice to talk about but it messes me up everyday going through this.

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I probably have PPD but I don't know how taking anti-depressants is supposed to fix things, I've never been so unhappy in my life until realizing the intense lifelong demands that is raising a child. I miss my old life intensely and every day I am sad about not being able to go back in time. 

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I'm not financially well off and managing so many different things (career, time to self, raising a child, cooking, cleaning, bills, etc. etc.) gives me loads of anxiety, to the point of paralyzing me. I've retreated into myself and don't want to do anything at all. It's hard not to cry or be happy about anything. I have love for my child but when I look at her I just think about how I have nothing for myself anymore. It's selfish. I know. But I know myself and the things I WANT to do and things that MAKE me happy.. well at least I know what doesn't make me happy and that is my current life situation. My marriage is falling apart, my family is disappointed in me, and pretty much everything sucks. Really really bad. I could go on a tangent about all the things I want to do, but the point of that is, how am I supposed to have time to be a good parent on top of all that?

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I feel sorry all the time and I'm pretty sure I'm aging quicker than I should due to the stress of it all. The idea of doing drugs and drinking alcohol has been very very appealing, even though I know it doesn't fix anything. I'm so sad that I've told my husband he should be with someone that wants to be a mother, That my daughter deserves someone better than me, someone who is happy, someone who is ready. I've been a pretty decent human being my whole life until now. I'm sorry if this upsets anyone but I'm scared therapy and medication wont change how I feel. I'm scared I've let everyone down, especially myself. Is there anyone out there at all that has felt the way I do?",3.1064667956157344,4.520749635933807,4.751880507199656,83.82454545454547,73.91725768321513,7.491338921126156,25.34773264560498,8.101407402915765,1.5012969267139478,1628,53,328,25,33,550,184,423,0.14800000000000002,0.72,0.132,0.2918,3,1,3,0,0,0,59.0,0,0,0,2,22,25,1,4,16,1,43,10,0,7,8,64,78,31,0,10,16,4,4,0,0,3,7,0,1,5,28,13,3,0,11,2,1,5,11,13,2,0,5,5,42,12,48,60,12,40,0,4,1,1,18,18,1,4,16,232,70,2,0.06883585823048692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06726560398654735,0.0,0.07356459812713233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22375087090024445,0.250929306630556,0.0,0.0,0.052659243134293134,0.0,0.06826667461776507,0.09626326517636044,0.0,0.1699381383853704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052930525995292486,0.05747506634673745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608797227181811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728192106987771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991966314456238,0.0,0.0756129579833017,0.04439343391019593,0.0,0.05928822382774726,0.0,0.0,0.0719188208852719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743293498095063,0.0798277416087574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535403557287054,0.04546543515479594,0.0,0.05799717942540651,0.06577561243512829,0.06186523081580024,0.0,0.06489232090520587,0.0,0.06961095641490732,0.0,0.06609321880535116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603362760604836,0.15648401822144462,0.057736251988559376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931082043357441,0.061663408234039825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770730521275879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891519373513053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07038932881275567,0.19448320954548526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780478415970691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062127049584353375,0.0,0.0918969397760984,0.06978875603054477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934488526763738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060227615476835,0.0,0.05309045746340394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604986248551513,0.0,0.07223165377518426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643407439035459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014427148694607,0.0,0.0,0.21009244427443954,0.07421669768241694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322940402760116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783340520255485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181081267724798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737438876046834,0.0,0.0,0.233297597191554,0.0,0.0,0.2311683228429327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788512430309348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487698174331391,0.0,0.05175599866106947,0.05532765538969865,0.0,0.0,0.07871980299109242,0.0,0.22865742759891175,0.044107238483962384,0.06763088121271155,0.0,0.16055496999002053,0.0,0.0,0.06577561243512829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059452080177019126,0.0,0.11359358422883388,0.16240469063972124,0.05463870021789578,0.0,0.0,0.12378340680688915,0.0,0.0,0.07685277744412101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526120494097807,0.250929306630556,0.0
parenting,wealthwalkthru,2019/03/10,"Taking Advice from Websites?? There are a bunch of sites out there about parenting but I'm drowning in conflicting information.

I used to read [Parenting.com](https://Parenting.com) but they started focusing on teenagers and my kids are still young.

Then I switched over to [beingagoodparent.com](https://beingagoodparent.com)

Is there a site that you use that you trust?",9.466031746031746,14.118508037037039,6.8667195767195786,59.57166666666666,70.48148148148148,7.530158730158732,28.08465608465609,8.418075326091056,2.6029767195767204,310,11,43,6,7,89,44,54,0.064,0.846,0.09,0.3485,5,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,1,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,8,8,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,9,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,4,31,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481924844341142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3956519926993005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35641714621616793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25220564013276264,0.0,0.28455818788411363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679088373572108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6154933955771051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chocswing,2019/03/10,"Postpartum Depression I know I’ll probably get judged and I don’t care, I know I’m a piece of crap for how I feel. I just want someone to please tell me if they have similar experiences and what they’ve done to help. I wasn’t careful enough and I had an unplanned pregnancy in a relationship that was already rocky. I got pregnant at 20 years old, which was absolutely not what I wanted in life. I wanted to focus on my school and career and just have a good time honestly. My whole pregnancy I felt numb and just disconnected. It was like I was in denial. I had my son a month ago and things haven’t gotten better. I love him, but I don’t feel that attached to him. I just mainly feel so sad and angry that I’ve ruined my life. I want to give him a good life and be a good mom but I don’t think I can... I’m not strong enough. I think about suicide all the time. I’ve gotten help and put on Zoloft and it seemed to work at first but after a while it quit working. Please, someone tell me it gets better. I don’t think I can do this. I just don’t see a way out. I don’t know what to do",0.34166312056737524,2.244897370212769,2.4389627659574487,95.01645833333332,83.80851063829788,5.78900709219858,18.302304964539005,6.996647511020387,-0.0390673758865252,842,20,202,11,24,283,113,235,0.129,0.708,0.162,-0.0863,0,0,0,0,0,1,23.0,0,0,1,7,8,16,1,0,10,0,22,7,1,1,1,40,49,18,1,5,11,2,4,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,13,12,0,0,11,0,0,1,10,5,0,1,12,5,34,11,19,36,6,19,0,3,1,1,13,8,1,2,10,130,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117165371639976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594814996627918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018820000368955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327315618964153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830223160170748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679726445963505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358589478490537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164357229624,0.0,0.0,0.17312659878449735,0.0,0.10958518374883866,0.0,0.0,0.09708112183566173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925913412972708,0.10948637917185712,0.0,0.28718700182097656,0.09128225757441667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300133709054256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18817285814574405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418456685799249,0.05575941788941882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300911753935273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367070873891626,0.09109954359219433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976295290970446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505666185347379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305423460630707,0.0,0.0,0.11473477550305836,0.0,0.12139405718069585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12253568757731947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115508273241068,0.0909488965777948,0.10390202243782852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340834444523275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484252781609707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995138266373532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582462065513677,0.2193946635351732,0.0,0.0,0.13310326086525204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692734320875022,0.090593136654604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742495962597505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16617976810117407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349764528432698
parenting,KJenkins89,2019/03/10,"Sh!t or get off the pot man! Im not sure where to post this but I need to just say some things. I have 2 wonderful kids I’m raising with my husband who isn’t their biological father but is their dad every day. My ex husband is 90% absent and lives in a different state. He calls about every 6 weeks. He doesn’t send things or come see them much less contribute anything financially. For the last 5 years my husband and I have arranged and paid for our kids to travel to my ex husband for the summer and back home. We decided to move away so we thought we should be responsible for the kids travel. Last summer was a disaster and my oldest is insistent that she won’t go to his house. I won’t make her. I’ve talked it out with her and she swears she hasn’t been hurt physically just emotionally. She still talks to him if he calls though she just doesn’t want to be at his house. My youngest wants to go for the summer. There are so many variables and emotions and I don’t know what to do. I want my kids to have a relationship with their dad and know him. I’ve tried for so long. I used to call him for them and remind him to call them. I’d ask him if he was interested in coming to see them for a birthday, holiday or just because but he never does. He calls every so often and says he wants to be more involved, be a better parent and then we won’t hear from him for 2 months. My kids have an incredible father(my husband) and my ex won’t step up but he most definitely won’t step down either. He’s almost completely absent but won’t leave. I think either or would be best for my girls because at least it would be clear but instead he’s around just enough for them to wonder if he will come back around. I want ya to find a way to do this together for our kids. We’ve made it clear we want him to be in their lives and tried to do all we can but my effort is fading. I don’t know how I feel about that exactly. 
I can’t make him be a dad. It’s exhausting being a parent, wife and wearing all the hats already. I don’t know if they will see him this summer and honestly I don’t know if he cares at all. I watch them grow older every day and I feel like he is missing everything, willingly. It’s sad. They are loved and cared for in every way but it’s still unfair to them that he’s completely uninterested. Being a parent is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and there are new challenges every day. The worst is worrying about my kids hearts being broken by someone who should be protecting it. ",1.7940783531996232,3.5869314703632886,3.3700549204670267,90.72054025466828,78.46462715105163,6.5160733900166825,20.879093608884908,7.459000224883572,0.5169595948089989,1961,51,437,27,47,648,217,523,0.075,0.805,0.121,0.9722,4,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,8,1,13,4,26,15,0,0,18,0,56,4,2,5,9,101,95,43,0,16,25,16,2,1,0,13,1,3,1,9,19,34,0,1,13,3,1,12,17,5,0,0,7,9,68,10,56,63,14,55,0,3,4,1,96,15,0,15,25,291,87,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170438606684228,0.0,0.07902045686332261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05892672198773952,0.12749139063155476,0.06694317674860778,0.0,0.0672774331292366,0.11012321611702193,0.0,0.08730231374307283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751474632018497,0.06333085432246495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655953930815944,0.0,0.14601686767525518,0.0,0.0,0.1850500936591711,0.15015782263468813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854238999355578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748144072471013,0.0,0.0,0.06266404718650669,0.07327914860565801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109719101188086,0.0,0.07398950210592524,0.0,0.0,0.06477291940075537,0.3619935266433836,0.0,0.0643560408209785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241362383280688,0.05115628281888079,0.0,0.0,0.06544779205650259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037411868560905504,0.0,0.08139217886760072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070665248644356,0.08485501748801523,0.0,0.0,0.0718279792046172,0.0,0.0,0.16525046329697868,0.07665711573376688,0.0,0.07734819212163684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676754844400898,0.11673904415655327,0.0,0.0758218112698075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0349837189131756,0.0,0.1264611487165557,0.06337022373796179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646284009032818,0.06775657638856815,0.0955968826037765,0.07259858199381312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057156278648179626,0.07610724743773223,0.05263961852089269,0.05309591951599635,0.0552279786669224,0.06915879465687239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385343599327395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858001726607171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687946204063804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389002794587977,0.0,0.0,0.17118528602563654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067264879767197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437139449658462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748905047887163,0.0,0.0,0.11511050073958798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427181622102721,0.04588307847466325,0.07035382709624363,0.05684821246800146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972333379993109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061845732220030016,0.0,0.0,0.2534151112629229,0.1136771131460822,0.05743907180994564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531016522937227,0.0,0.07272070808699549,0.0,0.10173556944348086,0.0,0.0,0.04611276553328419
parenting,footballdan134,2019/03/10,"The Joys of Children!!! Christmas Tree and Angel on top!   

I'm so happy right now I need tell you guys, always give a hug and kiss to your children everyday: ahh the joys of children!!  Just this last Dec 2019, we put up the Christmas tree early and last Dec, and we had an Angel on top that is really beautiful and big. We had that Angel, for a long long time. But every morning, we get up for work, I notice that Angel had fallen off, so I put it back on and made sure it’s on good and that it can’t fall. The few days it was ok, then I was in the kitchen one night all alone doing some work on the laptop. I heard a plop; and I went into the family room and saw the Angel by the closet door about a few feet away. So I went in to get another Star in that closet, because I thought this is just too big for this tree. But I discovered lots of VHS tapes hidden in the back, was somebody telling me? I still have a VHS player by the TV, but had never used it in long time. That moment I put in a few tapes in from the 90's, I saw something happy.... it was my family, in the 90’s and the joys of seeing my kids.....then it hit me again, my one daughter she was around 6 during this filming; laughing and riding a bike around our driveway with the other kids around summer time, next 2 tapes: a few birthday parties and a vacation to the beach with my kids. She got a little bigger and I know she was 7 on this tape, but....... I was crying so hard because just that few weeks later, we lost her in car accident, it was heartbroken...I thought I would never get over it. I got a divorced and remarried and I raised another daughter too. I'm lost for words, I haven't thought about her in this past year or so, I just been so busy and working too. She was my youngest child and my youngest daughter in that marriage.  Then I was thinking... I need to go visit her grave, we moved out of state many years ago for a job transfer.

So, we packed luggage that week, and got a big teddy bear, when I texted my son, he too wanted to come with his family, I said ok that would be Great. Then my other kids got the word....and now I cannot believe this, we all went and met that special day at her grave, it was very touching. We all talking about her, and things she did silly and the food she liked and things we all did together. We stayed there some time until we went to dinner, and went back to the hotel and met some old friends too at their house. Blessings come in many ways we don't expect, maybe she is watching over me and told me to come and visit her...because she liked Angels; and what a special day that was. We are talking another trip this weekend, that is why I'm so happy and telling you guys about this. Thank-you to all and always give a kiss and hug to your children every day. ",3.1776646447140418,3.863790941074527,4.0853167244367405,91.46537543327557,72.86481802426344,6.809861351819759,23.95706239168111,6.6274283507984215,0.5445896360485265,2131,55,482,15,40,687,239,577,0.045,0.8190000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9947,1,1,1,0,2,0,94.0,15,4,1,7,33,27,0,0,35,2,33,8,1,2,8,90,75,48,2,6,9,4,2,2,1,2,0,2,6,10,37,55,3,0,5,6,0,20,6,4,0,2,41,8,70,23,62,30,14,105,7,4,4,4,66,40,0,5,44,319,107,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061557695813292485,0.0,0.0,0.07192278353671673,0.0,0.0,0.115565528738535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184534854516712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854589856114443,0.0,0.0,0.06524469059378106,0.16019387546219033,0.0,0.12699679929850094,0.0,0.0,0.07823932768418172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945892914716532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628070032519067,0.17914189942192998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701871164550275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639616606994567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397166010593901,0.0,0.05365207023751963,0.0,0.10884448210602447,0.13323354867070802,0.039466484376486734,0.05824612412083657,0.22216204790594246,0.07656198131700538,0.0,0.13752046406611804,0.0,0.2217724946965501,0.062207961306968776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801287656707949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891220813436971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03816446977834294,0.11321185220573067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785341860250156,0.0696008826495407,0.0,0.1843666047439574,0.0,0.0,0.1516121163546869,0.05903859429370493,0.0,0.06570935686077628,0.0,0.14081012902601892,0.06976558237506497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380771798294558,0.0,0.102983323812574,0.10711860463883843,0.0,0.07385421766810299,0.06516825664489975,0.0,0.0,0.07906217148736655,0.07286953562687702,0.0,0.09411376662977168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629191864381984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943045260746196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04448744549548303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05930458444769971,0.0660569102479826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533767912684583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346119271040431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401779943980215,0.05545786974641678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06544991406707694,0.0,0.0,0.11163251413624264,0.18209069931458471,0.06393447642773148,0.0,0.0,0.09227068575020426,0.04449675202112676,0.0,0.16539174552748134,0.16197284008163534,0.0,0.0,0.06635648061775266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05997710488583082,0.0,0.057298367822996375,0.040959723929956914,0.05512121769392581,0.11140717753113237,0.0,0.0,0.3218752673860714,0.06266218455078824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166763474734055,0.0,0.0,0.0986616974219473,0.0,0.0,0.08943899847853297
parenting,Masquerade78,2019/03/10,"About to submit a vaccination exemption form for my kindergartener. So much guilt. I just registered my soon to be kindergartener for her first year at a public school. I handed them her vaccination paperwork and they indicated everything she is missing. I told them she has a medical condition and can no longer receive live vaccinations. Thankfully the lady was very nice and gave me the exemption form to have her doctor fill out. The form has all sorts of places I have to sign that indicate that without her vaccinations she is more susceptible to disease or DEATH. 

I feel so unnecessarily guilty. I am 💯 pro vaccination-my kid relies on herd immunity now, but by filling out this form I feel like somehow I am in the anti camp. Like I’m part of the wrong tribe. My heart aches. I was already stressed about her being in school with children who may pass on a debilitating illness to her (she can fight off normal viruses just fine, but something like the measles could have dire consequences) but now I feel like crap about signing a form even though I have no choice. 

I don’t know what my goal is with this rant. I am just feeling terrible and I wish this whole debate would end. ",5.31660633484163,7.1986289864253425,5.658280542986425,77.64995475113123,69.09049773755656,9.36289592760181,30.19457013574661,9.773937934552695,2.9531701357466056,950,38,175,23,17,303,134,221,0.193,0.7070000000000001,0.1,-0.9717,0,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,3,2,14,14,2,2,11,0,22,7,3,0,1,31,33,11,1,4,8,0,5,4,0,2,4,0,0,2,7,8,0,0,5,0,0,4,4,7,0,1,4,5,32,7,25,24,10,19,0,1,0,0,21,9,1,4,10,129,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926863836830725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297038470546015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627540818544204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388330399493632,0.0,0.0,0.1072973056664662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14600041896374974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285602806947945,0.2321099504850213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818067615448404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250513155228247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927878143159658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31746127033773197,0.0,0.1434471454405845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365221900186416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942012373820605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916741759534833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591852402390676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16972664357936654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32881802344448324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506266081477546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608698887111744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956298830002604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15960721170414907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552288231449272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403902862969713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18137065937372665,0.18681054971262293,0.15659689727434406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540047812747052,0.17761458751873074,0.0,0.10461307130692887
parenting,Babyy_Bluee,2019/03/10,"Painting with Toddlers If your toddler is anything like mine, you know they love to make a mess. They also love to put **everything** in their mouths, and since I wasn't thrilled with my son licking Crayola paint straight off the brush, painting wasn't much of an option for us. 


That is, until I heard about this amazing idea. It's so simple, many of you have probably heard of it. I wish someone had told me sooner, because babies as young as 8 or 9 months can probably enjoy this too! 


All you do is mix a drop of food coloring with your desired amount/flavor/type of yogurt, put your child in their high-chair or wherever you want the mess to be, give a sheet of paper if you choose (I tape one to the table so it doesn't slide around) and let them make a mess! So much fun and I don't have to worry about him eating Paint, regardless of it's toxicity. Thought I'd share for any parents with young kids.


Photos: http://imgur.com/gallery/Q5Lugbt",2.508083524027459,4.982948858695653,2.8727116704805518,91.71530892448514,79.43478260869566,5.612814645308925,22.184210526315788,6.8360192770164,0.5409934782608699,746,23,150,8,19,229,119,184,0.062,0.7559999999999999,0.182,0.9731,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,8,5,0,8,11,0,0,8,0,14,5,1,2,1,24,26,14,0,6,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,7,8,2,0,4,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,7,5,23,8,27,17,3,13,0,0,1,2,26,5,0,5,5,95,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058542218148522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104489829656046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343762966176272,0.1453654670224493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954194982528612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670895935298907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14675729683886446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974546482238004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566456078824301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252811117245834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18433801841962089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974160979101077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669782442680828,0.0,0.07977675375261295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29475677169041403,0.0,0.2179988062997688,0.16555355972540822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303389836411663,0.0,0.2400784144644583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065162138901248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18131764799048086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521151311827637,0.0,0.0,0.3283093073288976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350777284772818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383577021832204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963647057054115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603354180705425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964214771670621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096314493124587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777899057682768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583205565337855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IcebergLettuceGo,2019/03/10,"[IA] Ex left my daughter home alone to go to the bar Tl;Dr: Ex left my daughter home alone to go to the bar. Don't know what to do.

Des Moines, IA, USA, throw away account, crossposted from r/legaladvice.

The other night I saw a social media post the my ex went to the bar with her brother. She's got custody this weekend and I was concerned no one was home with my 8 year-old daughter. I snap chatted my daughter to see if she was awake and she didn't reply until this morning: she was indeed home alone while her mom went to the bar.

I'm not sure what to do. We have a good custody arrangement and her mom's a good person, but I feel really uncomfortable knowing she left our kid at home by herself at night so she could socialize.

I want to say something to her, but am concerned about losing the social media access to my kid's mom's side of things, dealing with my ex with which I have a reasonably good relationship, and opening the door for stone throwing as I have my own personal failures that I don't want her to turn around and blame me for.

Any advice?

Thanks.",3.5311238532110103,4.683959119266056,4.392557339449542,87.83773509174314,72.4862385321101,7.101376146788992,26.469036697247706,7.413659706084162,1.2278247706422012,840,28,176,9,16,271,116,218,0.101,0.8320000000000001,0.067,-0.7522,0,3,1,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,12,0,14,4,0,1,1,24,29,12,0,4,4,12,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,4,8,12,4,0,4,6,1,6,5,1,0,1,9,4,31,5,29,19,1,21,0,1,2,0,37,9,0,1,5,108,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534768708219277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031701331734135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635332047878792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686109463696105,0.0,0.0,0.09167350763093916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790449371259503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059398578580718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04933608929660502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090652813974901,0.24552004717023365,0.07803843503838975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4893708405224445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724767884144593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180416535723311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915977918437808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34283068356257496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831322248128084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238696619691293,0.0,0.06611832338226441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17039481921039532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344843350509832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250807746952344,0.10032180058968504,0.0,0.10475741451827447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775943571295922,0.0,0.0,0.07775344021934726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983916620385761,0.0,0.07511684112980538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09196186144906626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983256199603169,0.0,0.0,0.0648234924347975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613194033233213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510274721455956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090320921065212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628341297575781
parenting,LifeofDrMom,2019/03/10,"Physcian who often deals with ADHD in clinic I'm a physician and I get a lot of patients coming through my clinic - parents, teenagers, actually even adults with ""undiagnosed ADHD.""  Here are some common questions (and answers) I get.

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**Question 1: What is ADHD?**

Answer: Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or “ADHD,” is the most common neurodevelopment disorder among kids and teens. ADHD was formerly called “Attention Deficit Disorder,” or “ADD,” however this is outdated terminology that was replaced in May of 2013 with the publication of updated literature. (The5th edition of the “Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.”)

ADHD is very common; data collected by the World Health Organization estimates that the rate worldwide is about 3.4%, however the rate ranges across studies anywhere from 2-10%. The United States Vital Health Statistics reports that approximately 9.5% of all U.S. Children between 6-17 years old will receive an ADHD diagnosis. This is about 1/10 kids, or 2-4 kids in an average classroom.

Children with ADHD will often experience difficulties with attention, hyperactivity, or impulsivity in settings such as home, daycare, school, or work.

**Symptoms of inattention include things like:**  
\-making careless mistakes at school  
\-difficulty sustaining focus on a task at school or while playing  
\-seeming unable to listen when spoken to  
\-difficulty following through with instructions or finishing school work  
\-difficulty organizing tasks  
\-often losing things or forgetfulness.

**Children who have challenges with hyperactivity or impulse control may:**   
\-fidget or tap,  
\-have difficulty staying seated or squirm in their seat,  
\-run or climb in inappropriate situations,  
\-have difficulty being quiet,  
\-talk excessively or blurt things out,  
\-have difficulty waiting their turn or often interrupt others

The symptoms of ADHD often start in childhood, and can persist into adulthood.

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**Question 2: What causes ADHD**

Answer: I often get parents coming into my office asking why their child is developing Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD – formerly known as ADD). The truth is: scientists don’t fully understand why some children might develop ADHD, and why other children do not – but there have been studies done that suggest that genetics and environmental exposures play a large role.  Based on current research, there is no single specific gene that is involved in developing ADHD, but rather multiple genes. What I also tell parents, is that just because somebody has a gene for a certain disease or disorder does not mean that they will absolutely develop the disease or disorder. 

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**Question 3: How is ADHD Treated?**

Answer: Medication treatments include two basic types – stimulants and non-stimulants. Stimulant medications (Ex: Adderall, Dexedrine, Ritalin, Vyvanse, Concerta) work to reduce all the symptoms of ADHD by increasing dopamine in certain parts of the brain and are used as first-line medication treatments for ADHD. Non-stimulant treatments (for example: Strattera, Clonidine, Guanfacine) are used as second-line treatments if parents do not want to treat their children with stimulants, if children are having adverse side effects to stimulants, or if there is a family history of addiction or abusing stimulants.

The second part of treatment of ADHD is Behavioural Management. Behavioural Management is not as effective in immediately reducing ADHD symptoms, however it is a central part of ADHD treatment as it can lead to a significant improvement in a child’s functioning. Part of this behavioural management is called “Behavioural Parent Training.” 

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**Question 4: Alternate therapies for ADHD**

Answer: Some parents choose to use what physicians call “complementary therapies,” which include things like dietary supplements, fatty acids supplements, high dose vitamins, and diet changes. Others might chose more intensive treatments such as therapy with agents that remove heavy metals and toxins (chelation therapy). Current medical evidence suggests that there is no observable benefit to these treatment modalities, and that treatments such as “Chelation therapy” and treatments with very high doses of vitamins may sometimes have worsened health outcomes.

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**Question 5: What can i do as a parent to help my child with ADHD?**

Answer: Behaviour therapy and environmental changes have been well studied in children with ADHD, and are recommended to help children learn to function with their disorder. ADHD is manageable, but not curable. It is helpful to implement some techniques in your parenting style in hopes that your child will learn how to manage their own symptoms, as symptoms of ADHD may continue into adulthood.

To parents with children who have ADHD, I often recommend parents try to:

**Have a Daily routine:**   
Maintain a consistent daily schedule so your child has a predictable routine. Even people without ADHD can become more irritable or moody when their routine is thrown off. Try to keep the time they wake up, eat breakfast/lunch/dinner, go to school, and go to bed fairly constant.

**Minimize Distractions:**   
Keep distractions at homeschool to a minimum (ie: limit noise and toys in the home).

**Limit Choices:**  
When giving your child with ADHD choices, try to offer them 2 or 3 options (ie: you can have chocolate or pie for dessert rather than “what would you like for dessert?”) Children with ADHD can have difficulties making decisions when faced with too many options.

**Help Keep Track of Important Items:**  
Provide specific and consistent places for the child to keep his or her schoolwork, toys, and clothes, as forgetful kids will often lose important items and become distraught.

**Use Positive Reinforcement Style of Parenting:**  
Use a Positive Reinforcement model of parenting. Identify and reward positive behavior. Identify your childs negative behaviors, and be careful not to unintentionally reinforce them, or focus the bulk of your attention on them. (See my post about positive reinforcement in parenting!)

**Try To Remain Calm When Disciplining:**  
When disciplining your child, try to remain calm and avoid yelling. Instead, use methods such as removing your child from the situation and giving a time out.

**Help Your Child Break Down Tasks into Easy Steps:**  
When your child is faced with a task, remove any distractions such as noise or activity. Break down the task into easy-to-follow steps (ie: “Could you please take your backpack, go up to your room, empty your homework on your desk, and then come back downstairs and meet me in the kitchen”), . Some parents create a chart or checklist to help their child stay on top of the steps involved in their task.

**Help Your Child Stay On Task:**  
As many children with ADHD continue to have symptoms of inattention and difficulty focusing into adulthood, it is important to help them learn tools that they can use themselves to stay on track and check in with themselves routinely. Checking in on your child at routine intervals (ie: every 15 minutes) while they are doing a task can help them stay on track and teach them to check-in and recognize getting off-task.

**Encourage Your Child’s Positive Sense of Self:**  
Because children with ADHD can sometimes be disruptive in school, they can grow up with the ingrained idea that they are “bad kids” that are “not good at school.” Even if your kid has ongoing ADHD symptoms, try to reinforce the fact that they are good kids who are trying hard. All children need to have the encouragement of being successful and congratulated throughout their childhood. This helps develop a sense of self-esteem, which will foster confidence. Find activities in which the child can be successful (ex:, hobbies, sports) and encourage them to participate, and praise their efforts and talents.

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It is important to teach your child early about their ADHD so they can learn skills to cope and adapt to it. Teaching them early about how to navigate around their challenges with inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity will encourage their transition to becoming well-adjusted and successful adults!  Hopefully this discussion helps, please comment below with any questions or discussion points.  

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parenting,storiesbymatt,2019/03/10,"The Candy Land Curse: A third-shift parent's encounter with the worst board game ever My wife had an all-too-rare social engagement on Saturday, so I happily offered to wake up early (I work nights) and watch the kids. When she left, my wife told the kids to not wake me up unless it was an emergency or something only daddy could help with.

Five minutes after she walked out the door, the kids come racing into my room clamoring, ""We wanna play Candy Land!"" Sure. Whatever. I'm half-asleep, my in-game strategy won't be on point, but let's do this.

The game starts out simply enough. My five-year-old daughter takes a big early lead. She's four spaces away from winning. Life is good. She draws Lolly, has to move back about a third of the board.

Girl takes it like a champ. ""That's bad luck!"" she says heartily. No worries. Next card: the gingerbread. ALL the way back this time.

This is too much bad luck for one five-year-old to swallow. ""I'm not playing anymore,"" she sulkily vows. Life Lesson Dad mode activated.

""Now, sweetheart,"" I say in that annoyingly superior parent voice I vowed I'd never use when I grew up, ""we don't quit something when things don't go our way. You don't have to play again after this, but it's important that we finish what we start.""

It takes a couple minutes, but she's finally and reluctantly convinced. You've never seen a kid LESS enthusiastic to play a game.

Meanwhile my son, who is barely three, is on the verge of the first board game win of his young life. The dude is literally bouncing with anticipation. ""I GONNA WIN!"" he repeatedly yells, completely oblivious/uncaring to his older sister's crushed soul. He's five spaces away from victory. The little guy can taste it.

Next card: peppermint. All the way back.

You can almost see the lightbulb of realization glow to life on his expressive little face. His toothy smile morphs into a scowl that would do your least favorite aunt proud. Tiny shoulders slump, and his previously soprano tones drop to a sullen wannabe bass. ""I not playing no more.""

TWO Life Lesson Dad rescue missions in one morning! I'm on cloud nine. My kids are gonna be so freaking grateful for me in 20-30 years.

Nope. Dude's not having it. Taking away the toys he was playing with doesn't work. He's not touching his cursed little green plastic man again.

Whatever. At this point I just want the stupid game to end. I'm a half dozen spaces away from mercifully ending this devil game. Problem is it's gone on long enough now that we have to reshuffle the deck of cards. I draw: peppermint.

My daughter, who not more than two minutes ago was basking in the sullen heat lamp of despair, realizes she's back in the lead. More importantly, half of her competition is no longer in play. She's home free. And yes, this time she pulls out the win... and lets EVERYBODY know about it. She wants to provide us all a play-by-play breakdown.

""I got so close the first time, then I got DOUBLE bad luck, but I didn't quit, and then I WON!"" On a scale of 1-10, my son's interest level is a minus-3.

So yeah. In a way, my dad moment worked. My daughter didn't quit, pushed through the pain, and won anyway. Lesson learned. A little while later, mommy comes home and my son and I nap off the loss.

Also, Candy Land is garbage.",2.0417250673854426,4.573078949685538,3.000283917340525,89.73469811320757,81.83018867924528,5.898436657681942,21.507097933513027,7.2259226712905225,0.7180150763701714,2556,79,512,36,70,811,317,636,0.116,0.7240000000000001,0.159,0.9843,3,0,2,0,0,0,131.0,7,3,0,22,23,39,2,0,42,2,35,12,4,3,7,65,62,26,0,6,13,15,1,1,1,4,6,4,4,8,24,26,2,0,6,15,1,11,19,12,0,15,13,11,56,28,65,40,13,106,2,2,5,0,71,46,0,5,45,299,80,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548324018212237,0.0,0.07397232853113876,0.0,0.0,0.05907556450174506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326136348207549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776214209004396,0.2272126202690093,0.18504058167595225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726870301549667,0.0774535868496194,0.0,0.0,0.05898093352686525,0.08173817433684516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130857669703175,0.15265944129367015,0.0,0.0,0.06682162607692001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092337446253782,0.0,0.1256712959567652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04198326856495818,0.061960489019129976,0.11816467908822866,0.0,0.0,0.07314508331916783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049514972508855004,0.0,0.1481996616078337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04059822428212022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802623517342802,0.1510786407067398,0.2608905660311132,0.03609022112362953,0.2961573694539372,0.0,0.06537456446620285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851444827679735,0.054304560272665184,0.0,0.11394957564386594,0.0,0.15712782650902354,0.06932404707075916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550328757556947,0.0,0.10011541697976893,0.056183130109882184,0.07860521966503682,0.0,0.16405265197641727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966619630881932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068571018751751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357165049015277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749226268780465,0.0,0.0,0.05886657201035101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753033958417333,0.0,0.11374084349408628,0.0,0.0,0.10457423410131808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962366583299236,0.0,0.22217077667935525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04907740126495313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922640601529675,0.0,0.0,0.07058804428144881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14432479323373054,0.0,0.08885915020272478,0.06380185471170803,0.0,0.0,0.08714346449983973,0.23454522718525636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16133950471664515,0.07502079586336195,0.0,0.05247668503263054,0.0,0.0,0.14271380714400222
parenting,beachedmermaid345,2019/03/10,"I [24] feel like I’m failing as a Mother I’m a single parent to a 3 year old. While I love my child dearly I struggle. The unnecessary crying, whining, and constant snack “b****”. I lose my s*** about 30 times a day. I also deal with depression, anxiety, and a lil bit of anger. So sometimes the lil things send me on edge. I realize after that it wasn’t necessary for me to flip out and it makes me feel really terrible for hurting my child’s feelings. 

We are ALWAYS together. It’s very rare that we aren’t together because I don’t have anyone to watch her most of time and no family available during the day. She even goes to work with me... (yes, this is why we don’t get along most of time) 

Next year I’m hoping to get her in pre-K and a lot of problems will be solved but right now.. This is one mentally tired momma.

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parenting,Amayax,2019/03/10,"A thunderstorm perfectly revealed the personalities of all my kids. This evening we had a thunderstorm passing over, and due to the lack of them big ones around here I decided to check up on the kids, so I went upstairs.

There I saw two doors open, the one of my oldest daughter's (almost 8, will call her V) and the one of my son's (3, will call him J) rooms. Rooms empty, so I figured they must have went to the room of my twins (almost 2, will call them C and M). 

I figured right.

V was sitting in the center of the room, not looking after any of her siblings but just being there. She is older so I do know that she absolutely hates thunderstorms, and that became clear when I walked into the room as she dove straight into me and pulled my top over her head while her hands covered her ears. That level of hating it. 

J was being a brave boy. Standing on his toes to look out of the window, with a loud ""wow!"" at every single lightning strike. He had figured out that he might have a better view at what was going on outside from the other side of the house and went for it.

C, being the adventurous of the twins was standing straight on her bed. Every time lightning struck and lit up the room, she would laugh. Then she would get startled by the thunder, occasionally fall over, but laugh it off just as easily.

M was laying in her bed, seemingly brave and uninterested, but a closer look revealed that she was a bit uneasy. She had a look in her eyes telling 'I am scared, but I won't cry because C isn't crying either'. 



And there we have it, the personalities of all kids in one single moment.

V who is protective until she no longer has to be, and then turns to being as scared as she actually is

J who is just a 'man' and loves things that make noise and will go out of his way to see them

C who loves to experience new things and laughs everything off when they go either right or wrong

And M who follows her twin sister around once she shows it is safe",4.69228426395939,5.095060532994925,5.351323857868022,84.76651878172592,69.30456852791879,8.029888324873099,26.166091370558377,7.839951260653429,1.2639044873096443,1526,41,323,17,25,494,194,394,0.083,0.764,0.154,0.9882,0,0,0,0,1,0,45.0,2,0,5,3,15,18,2,3,26,0,35,7,5,1,5,57,57,32,0,4,11,3,1,0,0,9,0,3,10,7,20,25,0,2,8,1,1,11,4,6,0,5,13,13,44,12,55,30,8,69,0,0,9,2,51,41,0,5,13,229,64,0,0.0,0.0,0.1009161077147518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207106234203878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703243424335791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841188751166701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303956573785613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914603378335411,0.11290014203180848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167885087231595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271885078635831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830326869679983,0.0,0.1742597169239755,0.0,0.0929408784720585,0.10115769446796988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402899067399275,0.0,0.1763158634731574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419772864804556,0.10613150662602676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932464327209945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056833044960149764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34736328298439234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866684238983632,0.0,0.06902893757169246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970478253096398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987685767305868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101314014512301,0.2803011262204987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18059237320143434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662816404024767,0.0,0.0,0.2070687782684052,0.0,0.08240672080792426,0.0941432527121312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038746388177243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137405918704025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06030091441167153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248357823263902,0.10101941165847167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208437485576688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28759448223688266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469231648701732,0.11306581111621206,0.0,0.0
parenting,smilinglyawkward,2019/03/10,"DO NOT YELL AT YOUR KIDS- someone who was yelled at a lot I, a college sophomore, just almost had to leave a meeting because someone started yelling. And I wasn’t even being yelled at specifically, there was a whole group getting yelled at. After the meeting I had to lock myself in a bathroom stall and cry, then go back to my dorm and redo my makeup so it wouldn’t look like I had been crying. 

My dad hasn’t yelled at me since I was around 8 years old. And it still affects me today. ",2.1963636363636354,4.137960757575758,3.241414141414144,91.41545454545457,77.78787878787878,4.8040404040404034,24.131313131313128,5.033348758259628,0.2864222222222224,381,13,78,1,9,122,66,99,0.086,0.875,0.038,-0.6637,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,1,0,11,16,6,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,6,1,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,8,7,12,1,11,6,2,16,0,0,1,0,7,7,0,2,9,58,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252660957743478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026311769576066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729812380352252,0.0,0.13713422879484996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4942185189930009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14858471766530934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753291574774913,0.0,0.12785060556114475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23820137562250454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10990465447806776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891070776803495,0.0,0.0,0.1912539247206403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360588839883128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18609018765058072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812177040941125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922865957018115,0.0,0.1796542646812173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21323686582357732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511610897256534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448676047146901
parenting,Temsikk,2019/03/10,"Kind, clever and beautiful! Not a parent but wasn’t sure where to post and just wanted to share with someone. 

Each time I see my 4 year old niece i encourage her to repeat the mantra ‘I am kind, I am clever, I am beautiful’ and I’m just so proud of her for being all of these things! She would happily say she was kind and clever but used to struggle with saying she was beautiful, acting all silly and shy when I said it but now she will say it with a lovely smile on her face. 

I just think it’s so important that she knows she is all of these things, and hearing her say it about herself and telling her little brother he is kind, clever and beautiful just melts my heart! ",2.8294664031620584,4.295003224637682,3.4969301712779988,92.33614624505933,74.72463768115942,7.047167325428196,21.96574440052701,7.686295010490155,0.6535420289855072,527,13,117,7,11,166,77,138,0.029,0.557,0.414,0.9974,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,10,15,0,1,3,0,11,3,2,1,4,29,20,14,0,2,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,9,12,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,7,20,14,13,13,4,11,0,0,1,1,25,3,0,0,6,81,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792456152968735,0.1765559735941517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6206080347858158,0.08188198439101875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493289025056715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344708961367391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563418072734927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165437736821832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269293762416785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417252990873095,0.4739369659428794,0.0,0.0,0.11872715656253854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624024949994234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557585553283702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042298696037592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022538053170604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19796703306053012,0.09546791493779608,0.0,0.0,0.08687830356587029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868105844528066,0.0,0.0,0.08787921055820284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058394838866548,0.0,0.0,0.09594581976248748
parenting,MediumSky,2019/03/10,"Previously SINGLE parents with more than one child— how did you start dating again? And how did you realize that your current “significant other” was worth bringing around your children? I was always scared to date again for many reasons. I’m sure many have been in those shoes. I was always told “you need a companion. You need to get back out there (dating).” But then I’d see on the news of step-dads abusing their step-children (physically, sexually, etc.) and I’d immediately shake my head at the idea.

Or I’d be afraid of someone coming into our lives, spend a lot of time with us, but then back out unexpectedly. 

I’m just always finding a reason not to get back out there. I’ve been through a lot with my children’s father... it’s made me terrified of starting over. Although I know I shouldn’t live under a rock the rest of our lives. I know there are wonderful people who have taken in their spouse’s children like their own. But I’m always afraid of trusting the wrong person. 


I’m hoping someone has a “it gets better” story. I’m sorry if this post is a bit messy and unorganized. It’s been a tough day, and I’m just looking for a “there’s hope” feel-good story...",3.10344155844156,5.0551151341991325,4.188093073593077,85.6078538961039,75.14718614718616,6.524761904761906,23.671212121212122,7.365786028017652,0.9591903030303026,920,28,183,11,20,299,135,231,0.093,0.785,0.122,0.8276,2,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,3,6,3,1,14,12,0,4,13,0,15,2,2,5,1,41,40,14,0,6,8,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,8,13,0,0,8,1,2,3,2,6,0,1,11,2,20,6,27,27,8,30,0,0,2,0,22,11,0,7,16,117,28,0,0.0,0.13720754212258535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854292758765299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308916408620428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671359275261935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241828566818063,0.12642681267629685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997539748888016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074683313146039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915088400953256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058553443588599964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584178493889088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815067623503729,0.0,0.0,0.0971300079165506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188472207898684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23003688826585514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307274183988368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728452949113292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05657546476700516,0.0,0.3067683404971244,0.0,0.09724529995745793,0.0,0.0,0.19690302892027747,0.0,0.10957553740121684,0.0,0.2348120008578399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173281841786414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847106597892907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858545532364066,0.0,0.0,0.08028317440415887,0.1011146563973012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090720115224732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23812940892901774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593894024452878,0.0,0.09227994639648948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623890261025312,0.0,0.0,0.1296319051690377,0.1639318273132452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914289607123533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752562284984476,0.0,0.0,0.1106546673276598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929667275517907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558334353616746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266123307272329,0.0,0.0
parenting,Heartfelt_hasbeen,2019/03/10,"My son (17) is about to be expelled from school Like the title says, my 17 year old is about to be expelled from school. He is currently a senior, 3 months from graduating, and already has 29 credits. He goes to a charter school and fucked up majorly, along with 3 other kids. They took marijuana edibles to school. Anyway, I’m just not sure what do to at this point, or what the options are. We are in PA. The principal says that if I withdraw him from the school on Monday, then he won’t have an expulsion on his record. Is that the way to go? Does anyone have words of wisdom on this?",3.2470809792843696,4.565016627118645,4.323333333333334,87.41874764595106,73.40677966101694,7.617325800376648,24.975517890772128,8.167268648758528,1.3158218455743884,454,14,97,7,9,148,80,118,0.087,0.845,0.068,-0.32299999999999995,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,1,0,4,5,1,0,8,0,13,1,0,0,1,12,17,5,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,7,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,2,7,4,21,13,1,17,0,0,0,1,12,7,1,3,8,64,14,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17943130984461325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369253890805148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229090178872916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031954390710173,0.0,0.0,0.09240838287344327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943733505216448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978444254536733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061960431495368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537079863495345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586094500556341,0.0,0.8227909965761053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324700980327868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065273688861475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290629928047355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047079990249352
parenting,petito650,2019/03/10,"I am 31 years old and my parents still feel that they need to control my life in one way shape or form. Anyone else ever deal with this before? So I am trying to break away from my parents. I've been trying to distance myself from my parents so that I can live. They were together since high school in the '70's and were married after college in '86 for about 16 years before divorcing in 2002. 

I know that they mean well because they believe they know what's best for me, but they couldn't even keep their own marriage together. They refuse to let me live my life without them having a say on what I do which pushes me even further away.

Has anyone else had to deal with overbearing parents? And what is your advice?",5.189759129759132,5.650874300699303,5.129743589743594,86.58470085470087,68.23076923076923,7.474436674436674,27.77700077700078,6.937597516519254,1.2579159285159287,567,17,114,4,9,176,91,143,0.037000000000000005,0.933,0.03,-0.2477,4,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,9,2,9,2,0,0,2,0,13,2,0,1,1,18,19,7,0,2,3,4,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,8,5,0,3,4,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,4,2,24,2,21,13,3,19,0,0,0,0,20,10,0,1,6,84,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11802819688716075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168909203840773,0.2475138517125231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269600687570719,0.0,0.0,0.07362847469119882,0.0,0.20555565261843867,0.1360815955222074,0.12675478702084714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546891814222098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24904488243656414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20179816048682367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15955266923891434,0.10925555239713207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061071745307493264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276143544433044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073578867937619,0.0,0.0,0.13275885909091162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12350926874199405,0.17062585621079246,0.0,0.0,0.2133080118609265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156859422776926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08955940338063867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674192080350147,0.0,0.08184599678106215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5364629436962687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605185338926374,0.0,0.12223930742845256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991332428177682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645782527449998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640080785737732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587228664840493,0.0,0.0,0.10859883390691706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643094297409935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555611733270013
parenting,Nightnightgun,2019/03/10,"Parent teacher association question, small school... If this is going to be deleted will someone let me know why,  please??? 

 I've never posted on this sub and I can't find an active PTO/PTA subreddit so here goes.

I'm lead of our PTA, a tk-5 school of about 140 kids. Socioeconomically we are quite varied, some have housing instability, but others are in a high income tier.

Our PTA has been asked to help fund travel/teacher development for 3 teachers out of 8, at $3k each.

I have never seen this as part of a fundraising campaign before (PTA paying for teacher's flights, hotel, and enrollment in a program) which in theory would benefit (some of) out students, I wondered what the general opinion is of most parents out there. Is this common? My eldest is still in 2nd grade so I'm new to this.

We are a small organization and I cant get a true gauge of how our parents are feeling about this. It's too late notice for us to do ""donora choose ""giving (we were given very short notice.)

The programs are professional development, specific to the teachers grades, and the programs cost about $3k total including everything.

Thank you for your thoughts.",4.4566666666666634,6.559626888888893,5.478888888888887,77.155,71.77777777777777,7.5777777777777775,28.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.214594444444444,912,36,160,15,18,300,142,216,0.022,0.89,0.087,0.9278,4,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,7,2,0,2,10,3,0,0,11,0,21,0,0,2,4,32,34,10,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,11,0,0,7,1,3,2,4,0,0,0,5,2,15,3,29,25,6,22,0,0,1,0,17,13,0,7,6,107,25,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358478849189456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365051977511475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059780625766426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347453552992278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13281329861113514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759199587128991,0.13939731236536407,0.08258463285683562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740013022647737,0.15353098838854173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767150149650814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986013384810185,0.0,0.16391920724319747,0.0,0.0,0.1485922190166224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241484331831052,0.1403440415288505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308792515118661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840581199043719,0.1573596396549571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950985618674113,0.0,0.0,0.1391695277367363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278363158633072,0.1545580869155826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29412869377102924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312309352371985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604701772622765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378453505790167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536215937588352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747934485879338,0.0,0.0,0.1198983072527555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311222316071618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758557090929345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322606874350948,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tears_of_a_clown_,2019/03/10,Found out I live within a block of two sex offenders My family and i moved into a new house about a year ago that we absolutely love. We plan on it being our forever home. Unfortunately a couple days ago I learned that there are two child sex offenders living within a block radius. Should I be worried and are there any precautions I should take?,3.626019900497513,5.8588235671641815,4.967985074626867,79.33366915422886,74.52238805970148,8.645771144278607,23.106965174129357,9.2995712137729,2.0244547263681585,277,8,52,7,6,92,47,67,0.22,0.715,0.064,-0.8363,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,0,0,1,3,3,2,0,5,0,6,3,0,0,0,12,9,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,9,1,7,4,0,11,0,0,0,3,5,5,0,0,5,36,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38236273441599694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466652395533478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23863840395408656,0.0,0.1390914361041063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033175925316422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364746410881291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21633790453212476,0.0,0.0,0.2488580310103803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3808869499186249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946535734333914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292265856941793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20829861680242734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215948050635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213629505152261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190267048835707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888653388442565
parenting,justme9393,2019/03/10,"13 month old being rough... solutions from parents who have been there? We have one cat and two big dogs. All are extremely patient and gentle with our little one but I can’t seem to get “gentle” through to her. I speak in a soft voice and take her hand to softly pet them and say “gentle, be gentle” and the second I’m not guiding her she pounces on them grabbing a handful of fur or their tails/ears with a death grip. Anyone else experience this? Is it just a phase? How do I get through to her?She does the same thing to me (grabs my hair/nose/face etc) when she’s frustrated and I’ll immediately put her down if she isn’t listening to my “gentle” cues and say “nooo. No hurting mommy. Mommy won’t hold you if you’re hurting me”.... but she still isn’t getting it.",0.8375641025641016,3.1739425000000026,2.2374358974358977,94.45756410256412,85.53846153846153,5.005128205128205,20.2051282051282,6.42735559955562,0.08983589743589793,594,18,130,6,18,191,107,156,0.116,0.735,0.15,0.7026,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,3,0,5,3,1,0,6,0,12,2,2,1,1,22,19,14,1,2,7,1,8,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,5,10,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,3,0,4,1,13,21,0,15,15,3,10,0,2,0,0,20,5,0,4,4,85,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977794837881766,0.2048258922606088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493786765625555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669946469350342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22294647784690594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19554506314463552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133257172937681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280040300375483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003569318213484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956194913679833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976625619766992,0.0,0.2709210689042302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22197040760967932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20095934283703265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179443322079855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819856452151951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964407640760528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030338511554406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280773741800192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527775257713628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,missstrugglebus,2019/03/10,"Kindergarten Readiness Test My boy/girl twins turn five in October, missing the August 30th cutoff for kindergarten this year. They have been in preschool for about two years, so I am considering having them attempt to test in to kinder. Does anyone out there have any information on this test? I definitely don’t want to force it if they aren’t ready, but having some idea of what is testing and/or needed to pass could potentially save me the $200/registration per kiddo! ",8.200697674418606,8.733223720930233,7.034279069767448,75.2653720930233,61.7906976744186,9.670697674418603,32.31627906976744,9.3871,2.7638632558139533,384,13,67,6,5,116,70,86,0.018000000000000002,0.8320000000000001,0.15,0.8534,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,3,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,14,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,0,7,1,13,12,1,9,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,2,3,43,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357191374335681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423705741108205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767545004172364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033367702798161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913011706493869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25702050001787063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770320648427215,0.3386054921547536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20445035827802807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4464345344278621
parenting,NordicWerewolf,2019/03/10,"Is raising the age of consent to 18 biologically a problem? I'm no doctor or scientist or anything, but from what I've heard, anyone aged 20 and over are able to have healthier babies than teens. Heck this video right here says that the age of consent might change to 20 in the future. [https://youtu.be/FiDGfiSjiEA](https://youtu.be/FiDGfiSjiEA)

I also heard that those who are 18 are bound to have healthier babies than underage teens anyway.

I'm honestly super confused right now. Which is safer? And if it's not 18 then why would the law be legalizing it anyway if it's a problem. That literally makes no sense at all.

If anyone can give me the correct answers then that would be awesome!",5.9208,8.17394608,5.710600000000002,76.38430000000002,68.2,7.88,27.7,8.548686976883017,2.068280000000001,560,19,96,9,10,174,80,125,0.09,0.747,0.163,0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,7,0,13,1,0,1,2,21,19,11,0,7,7,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,12,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,3,2,2,12,12,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,7,7,65,14,3,0.2295667789982535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358447022471053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32103685913811103,0.0,0.18891389875832051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428512127115404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349713258820448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220221372766684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323760759658767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435340743798829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4393288076612285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920975498658769,0.0,0.1825607167952325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071483112176202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261553064153925,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Juxtapose59,2019/03/10,Kids talking back How do you deal with your kids if they talk back?,-0.09928571428571333,2.231877642857146,-0.21714285714285708,109.08714285714287,94.0,2.8000000000000003,14.142857142857142,3.1291,-1.8146,53,1,13,0,2,15,12,14,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,9,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6272049810090413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42046339548441897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6556099792217636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yusuo85,2019/03/10,"Moving from moses basket to cribb Our baby is now 7 months, coming up to 8 months old and up until this point has been sleeping in his moses basket exclusively, however we've come to the point that try to move him into his moses basket he wakes up and cries so we thought it time to move to the big crib.

Anyway here's where the fun begins, he is getting himself really worked up and crying for nearly an hour now, we're going in every 5 minutes just to reassure him, but we need him to go to sleep in his big boy bed now.

Is perseverance the best approach here? We need to do this but he's fighting it the best he can",5.528936877076411,4.74568147286822,6.324274640088596,82.54395348837213,67.6046511627907,8.921816168327796,26.95570321151716,7.957251820313856,1.4259470653377622,486,11,104,5,7,161,79,129,0.052000000000000005,0.836,0.112,0.8834,1,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,4,0,0,4,9,5,1,0,6,0,7,3,3,0,0,15,16,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,9,0,0,1,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,11,4,22,14,2,32,0,0,0,0,18,14,0,0,10,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261555297175753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677185573986139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413888483364764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092723006006482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118762289707,0.0,0.17662944351244933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303305408373616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248070068434772,0.4954817876564555,0.0,0.23044727017684974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306121168540275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937975457217933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09955019892573824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31101501995463765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336649875455745,0.09061224054958808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550319834546557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312961849148333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puresav,2019/03/10,"Daughter is obsessed with style and look So my 3.5 year old girl , which is of course a smart and lovely kid , is obsessed with her style ...
She is Very picky about what she wears, she throws tantrums when we refuse to apply nail polish in the morning before kindergarten. She only wants to wear her favourite bride dress (some white dress she chose at a yard sale) or a ballerina costume. She throws tantrums when her favourite garments are being washed. 
This week she started saying I'm the most beautiful girl in the world .  
Neither me or my wife are that into style. 
I don't think that it's not normal but I wish she'd grow out of it ... And I want less conflicts with her.
We don't know where she picked it up, and it's not like we are thinking it's that bad, we just don't want to fight over this stuff everyday with her.
Any wise words?",3.6074481805619527,5.133729053892218,3.1277844311377265,95.51830953477665,72.83233532934132,5.857024412713036,23.6245969599263,5.873414542411696,0.19880506678949805,660,18,144,3,13,194,104,167,0.119,0.7859999999999999,0.094,-0.5252,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,4,0,0,0,6,10,3,2,6,0,12,4,2,1,0,34,23,10,0,5,6,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,13,14,0,2,3,1,1,3,6,6,0,0,0,3,24,4,17,21,4,19,0,0,2,1,27,9,0,4,8,89,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560522093347108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333304346703876,0.0,0.0,0.20722167599921307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338348662959334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897392075837313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449950625965074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197906479551419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386026075956657,0.0,0.0,0.2555383217508776,0.0,0.0,0.18521159088365974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19366070247750028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236811321712606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787776434913454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312081728997592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093347139641285,0.4309117255543443,0.0,0.1953409125802586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800415120205747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568219927138783
parenting,haha9818,2019/03/10,"Me and my girlfriend are 20, she has gotten pregnant and we talked about keeping the baby, how do we tell your parents How do we tell our parents? 

We weren’t trying for a baby it was a accident but we have discussed what we are gonna do we will keep the baby 

Thank you ",0.07669172932330781,2.3314346140350892,2.076942355889724,94.67526315789476,88.82456140350875,3.9588972431077702,20.423558897243108,5.288315135182226,-0.16281253132832066,211,7,45,1,7,70,40,57,0.036000000000000004,0.906,0.058,0.29600000000000004,3,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,8,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,2,0,14,15,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,9,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,13,1,2,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,18,0,0,0,0,36,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.491112568378545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6135173250585491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22205067181877636,0.482934115597745,0.2543469266639117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756523416376564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BurstingBagel,2019/03/10,"THE ULTIMATE ALTERNATIVE TO VIDEO GAMES! Do your kids stay sitting down all day playing video games? If so your in luck because the ReactBall will give them endless amounts of fun and keep them away from the computer.

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parenting,vinditive,2019/03/10,"Do you think young children (<5yo) should be allowed to play VR? My daughter just turned 4 and my ex has been letting her play VR games with her step dad. They're also putting a VR room into their basement and my kid has been talking about it a lot. I don't have issues with VR in general, I honestly think it's awesome and will only get bigger. 4 years old seems really young for spending a lot of time in VR environments though. 

I worry about the psychological effects, particularly the effect on her imagination and the intensity of the experience since she can't really distinguish the game from reality.There doesn't seem to be much research though, all I can find is some indicators that it may be bad for kids' eyesight under 7 years old. 

Frankly I'm also probably not objective about things my ex does so it's possible I'm totally overreacting. I can't afford a VR room like they can and maybe I'm just projecting my jealousy. I don't think I am but I can't deny it's possible. 

What do others think?",4.327353433835846,5.842966894472362,5.831236180904522,76.88491122278059,71.01005025125626,9.32676716917923,29.347068676716923,9.725611199111238,2.8265535008375218,808,32,155,20,15,274,119,199,0.033,0.897,0.07,0.6969,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,2,2,10,5,0,0,9,0,24,0,0,3,2,32,35,11,0,1,4,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,9,8,0,0,11,4,1,2,7,1,0,0,2,0,20,4,17,26,6,17,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,6,8,99,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23451655442430702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224281703422741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831506181930274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434302201234481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401524256280894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660702496409938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15304143059272102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14993696024946945,0.0,0.07163498459735347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493155911659864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730743186693104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778837639627084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077226273787296,0.0,0.0,0.11151712388421524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33060184793893305,0.0,0.0,0.1580896740734215,0.0,0.0,0.14740153658422747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878671724125652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669690631178611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129211259863587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178539504038897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741306022065983,0.3758129463558858,0.2881223310141672,0.0,0.08549990658841898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594890479763649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489077481056084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884711810750898
parenting,chumIord,2019/03/10,"A question for the moms out there Hello mothers of reddit!

I am a soon-to-be father of a little girl. Neither I nor my wife have had children before. We have recently learned that we are going to be induced this Tuesday, March 12th. I’ve read The Birth Partner, which contains tons of great information, but I’m wondering:

What are some things your partner did during the birthing process that made a huge (preferably positive!) difference to you, which other new and prospective parents may not find in a book? ",4.8382978723404255,7.13963341489362,4.683989361702128,82.40875,71.23404255319149,6.827659574468084,33.026595744680854,7.6454224807358475,2.478110638297872,407,20,69,5,8,125,74,94,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.7256,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,2,0,17,13,3,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,8,4,0,1,7,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,7,1,8,8,3,11,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,4,6,48,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366024276227026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746152484127845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402339647536416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937987375051998,0.0,0.0,0.2897856062912394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634379835794909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24870863435554896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078388326179902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25385564456719817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29185631893760605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29444458967531184,0.0,0.2629143748050209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595259954733043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462137312199075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28504228780845664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,simply_l0st,2019/03/10,"Need advice with 14yo son who has no impulse control. Escalating and now has a police record. TLDR;  14 year old son, ADHD and zero impulse control, minor annoyances until recently where he’s landed himself a Class C Misdemeanor.  6 years of trying to help him and we’re terrified and hopeless about the future.


**Looking for advice regarding a 14 year old boy(""Matt"") in USA.**

Solid homelife.  Happily married parents, small family, all 4 grandparents in his life.  Dad works from home and is available and supportive.  Mom is a primary/secondary teacher for 20 years.

Matt has 1 older sibling, a 16year old sister.  Not perfect, but 95% self sufficient.  Very mature, academically strong, athletically strong, has a job and significant responsibilities she has taken on herself.  She's headed in a great direction.  Matt and sister have your typical sibling relationship they annoy each other but love each other too.

Matt has no mean or anti-social type behaviors.  Doesn't inflict pain, doesn't bully.  Has friends though many of those friendships are tenuous due to what I will describe below.  When he does develop 1-1 relationships they seem not to last because he unwittingly annoys them out of his life.

Matt is a solid, sweet kid  -- very clever and smart, we've seen him solve real word problems in the craziest ways that just leave us amazed.  He is a figure it out type of learner as long as the subject interests him.

Matt seems to constantly live in a bubble of about 30 minutes.  15min in the past to 15 minutes in the future.  Anything outside that window doesn't exist to him.  I can give example after example of evidence to this.  Homework doesn't register until it's due time is inside his bubble.  Do something bad with consequence and 15 minutes later he doesn’t even consider or remember it.  Any sort of planning doesn't occur until its needed inside his bubble.  If we need to get ready to go somewhere he won't start until there are only a few minutes until we need to leave.  Often we leave the house carrying shoes and socks and random papers.  He is almost never prepared for activities because he waits until the last minute for everything.  The rest of us left completely annoyed and frustrated, every single time.

Matt is performing very poorly academically.  Not because he isn't smart but because cannot or will not adapt to a school setting.  He absolutely hates(or refuses) repetition/practice of any kind.  If something needs to be done 10 times he will invent a way do it 10 different ways rather than simply repeating/practicing the same way 10 times to perfect the activity.  We see this in athletics and in academics.  Habits, even good one's seem non-existent.  Even simple stuff like brushing teeth at night or just simple tasks are nowhere to be found.

About 6 years ago when Matt was in 2nd grade we began to see impactful impulse control issues and signs of dyslexia and ADHD.  Small things like absent minded minor destruction(shredding a pencil).  He would take small things from a store shelf(we've had to go back to a store a couple of times to pay for something we found in his pockets later, this doesn't continue today, but did in the past).  He would disrupt class, annoy classmates, just completely random activities that if he had any impulse control would think about and probably not do.  At the time(K-2nd) he was attending the same school as his mother teaches, though she taught a different grade and would never be his teacher.  Eventually his impulse control indirectly impacted another student and resulted in him losing his transfer.  He had to transfer back to his home zoned school.

We transferred schools with significant support into the home zoned school and started fresh.  At the same time engaged our Pediatrician to discuss ADHD evaluation.  Lots of testing later he is diagnosed ADHD and dyslexic.  We begin Focalin and see improvements during medicated windows which are mostly school hours.  Mornings and evenings remain incredibly challenging.  Pretty much chaos, can't seem to get anything regular happening due to the above refusal of repetition, hormones and normal changes add fuel to the fire.

In the school system we finished primary school under 504 plans where he had accommodations.  As he moved into secondary school this went from 504 to Special Ed programs with case managers to help him focus on organization strategies, completing tasks and accomodations.

Over the last few years we have tried 4 different talk therapy counselors, zero effect, after 6 weeks with each.  He often leaves those meetings and can't recall a single thing they talked about.  Medications have changed to Ritalin now as the Focalin began to lose its effect.  We had a full neuro-psych eval done last year which had some findings, but nothing earth shattering.  130 IQ, verbal/language and visual processing disabilities.  Reads and writes on a 4th grade level in 8th grade.  I can honestly say that in the last 3 years of secondary school he hasn't passed a single core course of his own capability, it has been due to his effort plus the effort of no less than 4 other adults(parents and case managers) to manage him to passing.

So where we are today has us as parents terrified. For six years we have watched our child struggle, we've thrown heaps of dollars, time and support into this with little to no improvement.  His impulse control issues continue to escalate and we're to the point now that we are scared to let him go anywhere because we don't know what will happen.  We are wary of friends and the groups he hangs out with because we don't know what he might do.  We are aware of being over controlling and to let the kid go discover and make mistakes, but every single time we give him any leeway, he does something damaging.

This last week his lack of impulse control landed him a Class C misdemeanor and he’s facing charges.  He did something on impulse that impacted another student and family he didn’t even know.  The family brought it up to the school administration and an investigation led to our son.  He/we will have to face a judge soon and we are waiting to hear if the other family will press charges.

My wife and I are absolutely terrified.  If this continues, and there is no sensible reason to think it won’t, he could destroy everything we have.  I’m forced to talk to lawyers and make plans to preemptively protect us.  My wife has taught primary and secondary for 20 years and has seen some crazy stuff, but nothing like what we are dealing with.

Looking for any and all advice, experience or help you may have from the vast collective of /r/parenting.




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parenting,cnnp0063,2019/03/10,"How to fix this?!?! I had my son 20 months ago. I have gained about 40 pounds and have been the heaviest I have been in my entire life. I lost weight in my pregnancy and after. But since then it’s just been a continuous gain.

I understand my body did wonderful things. But for some reason this winter has taken me down and I have no desire to work out, although I enjoy working out and riding my bike, I just can’t get motivated.
I also have some health issues I am dealing with. Nothing serious.

I also stress eat, and my portions are out of control. But I can’t help it. 
I feel so stuck. Everything hurts and I just don’t feel like me.
I have started back to work and love it and that makes me feel like myself. It’s just the weight.

I don’t know how to get motivated. My sister sees a therapist and has talked about her issues. And has said she deals with food issues which are stress related. 

Anyone have advice ?? Im struggling with not feeling like myself.


Also I struggle hard with not putting myself first and don’t know how to change it. ",1.2467142857142868,3.665213600000005,2.7129761904761907,91.19660714285715,84.42857142857143,5.595238095238094,19.22619047619048,6.996647511020387,0.3287619047619046,816,22,169,11,24,265,113,210,0.08199999999999999,0.723,0.195,0.9778,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,10,14,12,0,4,4,0,23,8,1,8,0,46,41,23,0,1,9,2,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,10,18,4,1,11,1,0,2,8,7,0,1,9,9,32,5,20,32,3,17,0,2,1,1,10,6,0,3,12,123,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763150884638456,0.09763607089245416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642465150317423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701529357770595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469398978481586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234522975032246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651781974751378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353593841117733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271073961482652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127048794338395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989903865156122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22276860169648668,0.2360608333425747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368848828384008,0.133186644671163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150914593835018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866745075488537,0.0,0.0,0.11707799410277432,0.0,0.0,0.07382724728750277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791150323815434,0.0,0.11897449465083865,0.3448853731360061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210645989139376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777980128330317,0.16143248463351312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023526177343345,0.0,0.09940932201062852,0.0,0.07352202091610548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791594453294878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568620419782394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072521070227948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324644674753225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477223175263536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777056208601478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111231154862763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796053849690146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25233931634746914,0.2302929901917694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852962996834199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788575272467556,0.07317482482228446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114663859606792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682516045667048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944654371006252,0.24055858073694444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beautifullycrafted,2019/03/10,"What to do about extremely defiant 11 year old? My son turned 11 yesterday. In our school district they allow kids to use electronics during ""free periods"" such as lunch, etc. I don't agree with this, but when I speak up about it I get chastised by all the other parents. Last year my soon-to-be 11 year old son created a Facebook account with his friend's tablet. He asked before at home and I said no. When I found out tried to make him delete it. He refused but luckily I reported him and all his underage friends and Facebook quickly deleted their accounts. Before February I discovered another Facebook account of his under a different name. I found pictures of him, mostly him and friends at lunch, some in class. I found a picture of him on my mom's friend list. His friend list isn't visible but all my other family's friend lists are public. My mother was friends with him, liked his posts from 1 year ago. All this time she knew he was on Facebook and didn't tell me. I confronted her, and she said the reason she didn't tell me anything. I mean, if a kid was doing something that is expressedly against the parents rules, I would definitely tell their parents, especially something like this. I called up my sister and I asked her about this. She said she knew my son had a Facebook. She knew this was expressly against my rules. I asked her why she didn't tell me. She asked why do I think this is a big deal. I said I don't think a 10 year old should be on Facebook. I called up other family members on my son's friend list. Some didn't want to hear anything about this. Other's said I am being insane. I am so mad none of my family members said anything. I tried to make my son delete his account, by having him sit by the computer until he does or until he hands over his passwords. I even had him stand by the computer. He is willing to stand there all day. It has been about 4 weeks and he still hasn't deleted his account. I am surprised a kid can be THIS defiant. About 2 weeks ago I spoke to him about internet safety, not to meet people online, etc. and why we don't want him to have a Facebook at his age. I even showed him a video of a girl who was kidnapped by someone she met online and then raped. He cried and told me he was scared by that. But he still refused to delete his Facebook so I continued to punish him. Moreover, I report his and his friends accounts daily, and they haven't get deleted.

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Last year when he created a Facebook account I told the school to have a no electronics policy. Every parent gave me dirty looks when they saw me in town. I went to the PTA meeting and said the same thing and every parent booed, and again I was the town pariah. After he created a Facebook this year I told the school to create a no electronics policy. Parents pushed back and I was the only one that supported this, so parents started saying mean things about me to their kids and once kids threw rocks at me as I was walking to work. I've threatened to take this up to the school board, who said if they create a no-electronics policy the parents will push back. 

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I asked about taking him out for lunch and they said I cannot do that. They said that Facebook is blocked on the school’s wifi, but kids have access to non-school wifi nearby. If I ask them to create a no-electronics policy and they propose it, there will be HEAVY pushback from the parents.",3.902047058823527,5.326320595555553,4.448505446623095,86.74250980392158,71.93333333333334,7.545969498910676,27.161220043572985,8.060288974870295,1.6174671023965144,2682,94,540,38,51,851,250,675,0.093,0.7929999999999999,0.114,0.9409,11,0,2,0,0,0,80.0,2,0,11,1,29,19,4,1,32,0,50,5,1,5,5,68,99,41,0,7,10,17,1,2,9,5,0,14,1,7,29,26,3,3,11,3,8,5,16,5,0,1,41,17,106,15,73,49,12,69,0,0,2,1,136,23,0,7,39,355,135,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099209517262546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899703826383507,0.1110219507529775,0.0,0.047903583921652025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127819457452872,0.0,0.2562498463651015,0.0,0.0,0.07025624462865719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774731939880991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329680071877362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018165201724694,0.029462355550540338,0.04709812591574961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0477299835823436,0.0,0.0,0.03997831505282766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189931603368496,0.06034760989656102,0.0,0.07698136281218658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292002304806949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027021395933068,0.3176576193542747,0.0,0.04773593584184956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05148910938291385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045824706688725764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447700070131424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446377212843557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038362995457406616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609887561112538,0.0,0.0,0.09952638507359858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350446674679433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381279919681364,0.04865189455019288,0.0309566133170906,0.034744687406273775,0.0,0.0,0.4565393820127721,0.0,0.0,0.031671484959379034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0437525767914611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046970688748018116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4345587900041989,0.03632969480126512,0.04573758361466485,0.277407457007389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038707845688670944,0.07033944254794784,0.0,0.0,0.032335320829354315,0.0,0.07296649111422633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051841582451402364,0.0,0.0,0.06869725993760091,0.0,0.15971907388766787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060700746374511234,0.058544835490570886,0.0,0.0,0.02663866699758664,0.0,0.0,0.13095885873833313,0.0,0.062032779475685675,0.04969099743297235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03945624769505104,0.0,0.0,0.05389113115671862,0.0,0.07328978616160814,0.0,0.0,0.04234946085200556,0.1236679235912732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033258445175620856,0.0,0.0,0.032452553177622474,0.0,0.1110219507529775,0.205932672058666
parenting,JohnnyCheeks86,2019/03/10,"Real world and life exposure to Child My girlfriend has a 10 year old daughter. We've been dating for about 11 months. I met the daughter about 5 months ago. I've noticed and mentioned to my girlfriend that I feel that she is very overprotective and sheltering of her daughter. While I view it as good parenting, I at times find it excessive and blocking her from real world realties that we as people must learn and experience. I've mentioned it to my girlfriend subtly and respectfully at times, but she never took it seriously. One example is, her daughter only watches the same show on the Disney channel, everyday, and nothing else. I've mentioned how she might benefit from different programming such as PBS or the discovery channel.

My girlfriend told me yesterday that at her PTA meeting, her daughter's teacher told her that she thinks her daughter needs more exposure and pointed these issues out to her. Two examples of what she mentioned were that her daughter doesn't understand death and what happens after someone dies, and the other was that she didn't know what ""belief"" meant. While she knows what a belief is, or presumed to, during class when the topic was brought up, she asked ""what is a belief?"" ...The teacher also mentioned she needs to watch something else other than the Disney channel...

Does anyone have any advice or experience with this?

Thank you!",7.984146341463416,8.878324894308944,7.258845528455286,72.23046341463417,62.2520325203252,9.812032520325204,37.538211382113815,9.725611199111238,3.868949918699186,1108,52,174,20,15,343,136,246,0.006999999999999999,0.918,0.075,0.9474,2,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,1,0,0,6,5,0,0,11,0,14,1,0,1,2,39,30,22,2,3,4,8,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,20,13,0,1,12,4,0,2,3,1,0,2,11,4,29,4,25,17,2,26,3,0,3,0,43,9,0,4,15,124,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386206783072388,0.12574736263971165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134427131566208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646738766487603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918946923813698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261682015001466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722480824413495,0.1482100084341326,0.0,0.0,0.1241397119054082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370060597856979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775260511463296,0.0,0.0,0.07172698544251475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12965440975361645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11898262914835935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544336865765535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14806148891644708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592141186458489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019754833375062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504874900906601,0.0,0.0,0.2264572520779693,0.0,0.0,0.21036981963360388,0.10940859501819827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611528325343014,0.16150473824197545,0.1488546931589607,0.0,0.09612573850780484,0.10788837596478992,0.0,0.0,0.15751502417039026,0.0,0.0,0.09834554090832534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410038802989055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229278521398856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019468068929375,0.10920818100951517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060254589324666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908960145236904,0.0,0.0,0.165435508837965,0.0,0.0,0.2711002197692313,0.15760795968230004,0.0,0.0,0.13857333618639447,0.14767777731988405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170465941278145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135103277683224
parenting,Granola007,2019/03/10,"Help with overweight child? Hi folks, I'm hoping to get some ideas here.  My girls are 11 and almost 8.  My 11 year old is not a great eater, very picky, small and thin, probably about 65 pounds.  Her little sister loves to eat, is the same height as her older sis, and weighs 80 pounds.  (Her pediatrician told her she needs to ""eat less sugar"" but not that she was overweight, although she is for her height and age.)  


Little sis has great self esteem.  She's healthy and happy.  She plays outside and does karate two days a week.  We don't have a lot of junk food in the house, so when she eats, it's pretty healthy - it's just a lot of food.  She sneaks snacks too.  I always have her drink a glass of water when she tells me she's hungry for a snack, but she always wants more food.  


So - I can't put everyone on a diet - we all eat healthy, and if anything I want my older daughter to eat more.  My concern is how to curb the younger daughter's appetite.  Anyone have any luck in slowing down the growth of a kid?  I don't want her to get made fun of (one of her friends tells her she's fat, and it hurts her feelings) or get stretch marks when puberty hits.  I don't want to damage her self-esteem, but I feel like we need to do something now before it gets out of control.  Thanks.",2.737557251908399,3.9339608091603084,3.255641221374045,95.05376717557249,74.49618320610688,5.850687022900764,21.87862595419848,5.6839178017228535,-0.058878473282442986,980,23,225,4,20,305,148,262,0.055,0.738,0.208,0.9918,0,0,2,0,0,0,41.0,3,0,0,1,11,13,0,0,12,0,15,19,1,3,1,42,34,21,0,8,8,5,3,1,1,0,3,0,0,4,5,13,18,2,3,2,0,2,6,2,0,2,3,4,36,11,25,30,8,26,0,2,0,1,41,12,0,8,13,129,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949089796363852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534466130570333,0.0,0.0,0.06756563368856991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947217610566411,0.0,0.08176169975360711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454482155800525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143644424364248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407653953756938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869472938351304,0.0,0.0,0.0973312659971736,0.0,0.5083310644070499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493912183800099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047497587122654,0.07098010028825616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604257909183377,0.0,0.07676236572103746,0.0,0.2076380875307881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21908115694940256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576653904436822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659637698814809,0.0,0.0,0.09868314048443004,0.0,0.11464373299980285,0.10636288375086976,0.11216107375013676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04854042827359002,0.19916205972289994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16893820300936244,0.08967286371893059,0.0940132535484852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473427498821953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425763477437623,0.0,0.06732634306035394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010809904855762,0.10712280498542387,0.0,0.0,0.09988043906479717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20730040334554328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648926888657259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368342350140806,0.09147385441049594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493912183800099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705658563388246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819792833077211,0.23441148080398386,0.0,0.07969756309247583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398214533510478
parenting,kayb1987,2019/03/10,"Parenting while sick is HARD I have the flu. Body aches, chills, fever, you name it. Went to the doctor and was prescribed medication which caused vomiting and diarrhea. I have been totally out of it. Last thing I want is my kids to get sick also. I don't know what I would do if I were a single parent or if I had a crappy job. I have a crappy job but at least I have insurance and was able to go to the doctor. They allowed me one day off. I am also fortunate I got sick on a Friday. Sick as a dog but thankful. ",0.5064720600500401,2.4131534587156023,2.9974812343619703,91.22130942452046,83.22018348623853,6.532443703085907,19.08340283569641,7.686295010490155,0.5143688073394492,393,10,90,7,11,136,72,109,0.201,0.71,0.08900000000000001,-0.863,5,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,8,0,15,11,1,2,1,16,22,12,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,10,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,7,1,15,1,10,14,3,9,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,3,68,20,4,0.19315280014329214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30892844898081223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454921777735492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842113213468365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456757695995195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3954001510631837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091436598703778,0.0,0.10977318752945897,0.0,0.15448193911868405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730269698520105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833487003524523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615172757663677,0.1574453118776039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458112543917272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088533621085274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4289466529326731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782914747482526,0.0,0.0,0.12832213776258594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139265259410036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17905458084792966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721020739722492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DavidABedsore,2019/03/10,"“Woke” stepson gave pizza delivery person a 0.14 cent tip. My stepson who is all about Internet social justice and “not being a douche” gave the pizza delivery person a .14 cent tip last night. After he and his friend got the pizza, and heard me yell at them they ran downstairs laughing like Beavis and Butthead. I ran to the door to make it right, but the delivery person was gone. If he were my biological child, I would have called the pizza shop and had the person come back for a $20 tip out of my child’s own money. His mother covers for his bad behavior every day. It is frustrating. Just needed to vent. Thanks.",3.684750000000001,5.595984641666671,4.626666666666669,83.265,73.41666666666666,7.133333333333333,22.833333333333336,7.908726449838941,1.1854833333333334,487,13,91,7,10,158,82,120,0.068,0.8240000000000001,0.107,0.2394,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,2,0,3,6,1,0,10,0,8,4,0,1,1,15,20,7,0,3,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,6,3,7,4,0,0,1,4,4,1,2,0,0,11,2,11,4,10,7,2,12,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,1,6,54,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585055832035564,0.17211464914901753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21048753583568586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17756760140477973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13294043465523014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736781672980721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925988415986742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648655021958339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16802805919686578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070746141430696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759714040181706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284696516071364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344433417425305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7199587594720633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603871029537313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101293257561224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897820021599416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643284436997364,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babyparenting,2019/03/10,"Why Baby Crying in Sleep and How To Soothe Them What’s the viable sleep time routine for babies? Well, here is a way to help your babies out and make them feel better. Here are all logical reasons and instant solutions to your baby’s all sleep time problems. A baby who is fussy and sometimes cry the night out can be put to sleep with little patience and wisdom. Let’s have an in-depth study to put your fussy [crying baby to sleep.](https://www.bparenting.com/baby-crying-in-sleep/)",4.032333333333334,6.785154011111112,4.043333333333333,83.885,75.55555555555556,5.333333333333334,20.0,6.42735559955562,0.3046666666666669,391,9,67,3,9,120,55,90,0.094,0.748,0.158,0.6293,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,2,1,4,4,0,0,5,0,7,4,4,3,2,16,9,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,3,11,7,2,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,41,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119778534018974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41723137095412943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401873336938263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486522469505907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294691498405727,0.0,0.0,0.12689829172030376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451436365739075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881660300586265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211503990378004,0.0,0.2545596708777019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301780237277414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7602194611529984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522231358298402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765672451986575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049855830310114,0.0,0.0,0.11383921905470355,0.0,0.1142474617024115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sirrus_VG,2019/03/10,"Told another kid he almost raped a girl a few years ago  He tends to write everything when interacting with students to teachers.  
(Some counselors have hinted at selective mutism - but not the point of this thread)

The wife found this note in the trashcan that he wrote. It was pretty much back and forth with a student in the classroom.  
It was mostly just him writing - I think the other student was answering him verbally.

He's 13 going on 14 (been raising him since he was 2), so not surprised by the cursing,yet towards the end he was writing about not sure if he'll get a girlfriend and the last comment stated that he almost raped someone in a bathroom when he was 11. I guess to make himself sound big - I hardly think it's true because he is timid and has gotten bullied throughout the years.

Yet, the wife tried to talk to him about serious it was and thought nothing about it - with it being a joke, and that the teacher wouldn't have done anything either if they found the note. Until I stepped in and then his whole demeanor change.

We have in the past made him do reports to when he does something he doesnt understand.

Yet, not sure how to approach something like this.",4.723961478396671,6.325553415929207,4.475236855804269,86.65562988027071,70.15044247787611,6.7335762623633535,30.550754815200424,7.048011613610866,1.724369390942218,936,39,176,8,17,285,134,226,0.108,0.835,0.058,-0.8971,0,0,2,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,0,12,10,2,1,19,0,18,2,0,3,3,42,34,16,0,3,9,2,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,13,10,0,0,7,1,0,3,6,4,0,0,16,2,13,6,24,15,6,28,0,0,0,2,34,10,0,7,15,116,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738052991643326,0.0,0.3103804168668725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16251017411084848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275354377771492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119170149833162,0.0,0.09447444577434176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394842270181956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562415184883153,0.15859847590544504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726639028133925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928614324440602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398554156079533,0.0,0.0,0.08097071878474739,0.0,0.08807877660049768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17072808038776865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883175087146338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12632948686072926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571546076486134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466459416119369,0.10345043693029518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139282241744415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870760984991202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479460657541129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650631220258833,0.0,0.0,0.15767050356554113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820116098536088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313141570495011,0.2386225438585685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921338675440953,0.0,0.0,0.12456715399530212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986100126542588,0.0,0.12303690786437176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809015103986248,0.0,0.10522133176571198,0.0,0.0,0.16133977587438986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302977499080766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19960423865512344
parenting,emhro,2019/03/10,"Am I a boring mom? I don’t accept any bad behavior from my teenage son. Last week he was goofing off in his home room class and I made him write an apology letter to the teacher. I make him accept and correct his bad behavior. 

Anyway, last night after 10pm, our doorbell rings. My husband and I were already asleep. I pull up the video from the Ring camera and it is two punk kids going door to door ringing bells and running. Not that this behavior would be ok during the day, but at that time of night, a lot of people are in bed. Most everyone on our street is over 60 years old. 

I posted the video on the Ring neighborhood app and had many parents yelling that it was kids being kids. I don’t find it funny or acceptable. 

Last year, one of the people on my street answered her door late at night and the people at the door were able to push through and rob her. So, my husband answered the door with a handgun behind his back before I could get the video up. 

Does this make us boring or lame because it is “kids being kids” or is this asshole behavior?",3.9129577464788734,4.8896555070422565,4.517953051643193,87.96284507042253,71.39436619718309,7.182347417840376,26.40657276995305,7.3011,1.1839817840375586,825,26,171,8,15,263,123,213,0.083,0.857,0.06,-0.7882,1,0,0,1,1,0,20.0,3,0,0,0,4,9,0,0,15,1,18,1,1,3,1,29,23,13,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,1,0,5,8,5,10,9,0,0,6,3,0,4,3,5,0,2,6,5,23,4,24,12,2,35,0,1,0,0,24,15,0,5,15,110,33,1,0.14603916543544784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16115785055191445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993116403924738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229510376015414,0.24387320615716698,0.08902411976292192,0.0,0.12426857349278267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660039028516005,0.0,0.0,0.09418318018714504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779985781312947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954668094451458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334771514854429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629943639575107,0.0,0.08299742319085315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648919023747833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571242342529548,0.16473853962949148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415727604324088,0.0,0.13818578941431728,0.19496455388173176,0.14806079199815822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710393055228071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4111435913903684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324353769265853,0.0,0.09895991802236756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215921064603772,0.0,0.0,0.3037355078014741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986515153322512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515661178126821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14265904430974174,0.0,0.17566713469067122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714380956565225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374203305698916,0.0,0.0,0.18808886891662072
parenting,Vaguely_Aware01,2019/03/10,"My newborn is having trouble maintaining his temperature, any suggestions? My wife and I just had twins on Thursday.  Twin B is in the nicu because he is working on gaining some weight and being able to maintain his temperature without a warmer.

They were preparing to discharge my wife and twin A yesterday, but when they took his temperature he was at 35.9 degrees.  Their cutoff is 36.5.  They put him in a warmer for an hour and then suggested we bundle him up in a sleep sack.  He was okay the rest of the day and night hovering right around 36.6-36.8 degrees.

The told us again this morning that they would discharge us again today without twin B.  Twin A had a temp at the minimum.  I obviously don’t have access to a warming bed at home, what can I do once he’s home if his temperature starts to dip low?

These are our first kids, so I’m a bit nervous ",5.254741426238432,6.086615443113775,5.734501905280348,80.98952640174198,68.22155688622755,8.946978769733262,31.948285247686442,9.095868883498916,2.624178443113772,677,28,133,12,11,218,109,167,0.073,0.889,0.038,-0.6738,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,5,3,6,5,0,1,14,1,17,2,1,0,1,15,21,10,0,2,5,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,7,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,7,2,21,2,18,12,3,26,0,1,0,0,26,12,0,2,12,90,25,1,0.1817355521810543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235864074607458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178317161567865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078430580116053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19840815388636726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720439654966625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458416784555493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3645911532975886,0.0,0.17897291105911578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17054650461798618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354243186603493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826944256382876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520116857643354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818667994233874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863335922150387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226405368728331,0.1736561082149887,0.2019148853913205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372109855309223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213049427137115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503731741084664,0.0,0.13230564644778753,0.0,0.0,0.12909972202169825,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deniceleski,2019/03/10,"I need advice.... 
I recently lost my mother.  She was a big part of my kids lives, as she helped watch them quite often as a worked full-time.  My kids are quite young, 3.5 and 9 months.  For a while I thought the 3.5 year old wouldn’t notice and we wouldn’t have to explain, but last night we were at their house eating dinner with my father and my son asked where grandma is.  Does anyone have advice/experience in explaining this to young children? Appreciate the help!",4.065274725274726,5.636496626373629,4.1327472527472535,88.58725274725279,71.74725274725273,6.958241758241758,21.791208791208792,7.447530270364453,0.5943142857142858,367,8,75,4,7,113,68,91,0.019,0.895,0.086,0.7745,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,5,0,8,2,0,0,0,14,14,7,0,3,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,1,6,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,14,0,9,8,1,13,0,1,1,0,17,4,0,1,9,45,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130304164063487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404158239726692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925843214367889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802739814875501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079175866756453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150975638153829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761579688739789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23769897013309496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791935112742254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819037853936416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22487582090848984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442905272702976,0.0,0.0,0.15274807870935367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933191826953076,0.0,0.0,0.2345349585970571,0.21616473718998835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22308039203237645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4382175594263459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2034023969823057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354279785911344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997211168034216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326587128237229
parenting,eeeek0406,2019/03/10,"Should I Let My 3rd Grader Skip School? Hello! This fall my dad will retire from his job in law enforcement and is planning on having a retirement party. The problem is, he lives in Colorado and I live in Indiana. I was going to fly out with my then 3rd grade son to help him celebrate...but to get the most out of the trip he would likely miss about three days of school. I’m starting to feel guilty about it but then again it’s a one time thing... what would you guys do?",0.7994001874414245,3.090384010309279,1.960431115276478,96.71341143392695,85.18556701030927,5.176757263355202,17.06560449859419,6.574015621080383,-0.29730103092783505,367,8,82,4,11,116,72,97,0.061,0.899,0.04,-0.2505,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,16,5,0,4,1,2,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,1,1,9,1,16,10,1,15,0,1,0,0,10,6,0,1,7,54,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570735594993599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314930093449078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272480291986509,0.0,0.13841856543766812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24115886751868015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325054472013836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24169188469151884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490526515645608,0.0,0.11898922606589582,0.0,0.4301290623370493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503994174598607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330503301799957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4929836270679892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239028737901865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180787515371428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201954213916615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3460305835836631,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,allgoodsince88,2019/03/10,"Sibling on the way! Any advice I should have for preparing our daughter for our son (coming in 4 weeks!)

She is almost 5, and she has definitely been the only child and baby of our family for every second of those 5 years.  

She’s been very involved in the pregnancy and she knows she has a brother coming but i know she doesn’t quite understand how things are about to drastically change.

Any advice for making this transition would be so appreciated!!! ",4.589663865546214,6.665494823529414,5.6657142857142855,76.07000000000002,71.3529411764706,8.621848739495798,25.084033613445378,9.23628265651192,2.2312857142857143,360,11,63,8,7,119,62,85,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.8714,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,0,14,17,6,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,11,0,11,12,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,2,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357067512835492,0.0,0.0,0.22324116920438308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3032122811512672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23583986349800545,0.3840843546292444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783569263799926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101670144113431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245042848760591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881348976942044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955512830736888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23712303055250625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481107416442734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320873241227749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839479935425012,0.0,0.17695857284695046,0.17882818963003885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836944375386486,0.0,0.0,0.14356538361965335
parenting,VaflisTaplis,2019/03/10,"Please HELP. My baby HATES my husband I have 4 month old. He likes all people around him, except his dad. My husband tried everything and nothing helped. My baby never smiles to him, never sleeps with him or never wants to be with him alone. He just constantly cries. I can not get any rest, I can not even go to toilet or shower properly. I am so eshausted all the time. What should we do???!!!",0.2513203463203446,2.649425116883119,1.7774350649350659,93.74805735930741,96.53246753246755,4.644588744588745,15.507575757575758,6.42735559955562,-0.20836709956709987,302,7,61,4,12,97,56,77,0.14300000000000002,0.757,0.099,-0.5817,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,1,0,7,1,1,0,5,18,11,4,0,2,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,14,1,7,9,3,9,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,8,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388146658685912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699942780842812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924324377184544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335972773021823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374468036593456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277476430523497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427491936108987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293714863591107,0.0,0.12285139657761587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134179164163119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897813215663883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560716731649447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725406237503572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5001586936573085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074158867424334,0.0,0.2268285194679681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986140488489572,0.0,0.0,0.237283958559293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163208398227743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604739138816534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467616610503799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274995573516736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fuffii,2019/03/10,"Sometimes I hate my son. Ok, I know that this is a bad thing to think but I cannot help it. 

I am in separation with my husband, I am financially independent and also have a daughter of 7 years old. My husband says he does everything for us, but he is a workaholic and believes that working is the only way to show it. But money cannot buy you neither happiness nor connection with your family. 

So I am basically the bad policeman. I am the controlling parent. And I cannot do it anymore. my son lies to me all the time about his homework, about things he has to do. He avoids all the hard work ( I mean staying). Chooses always the shortest path to his goal and often it is not the right way. He is a constant liar. 

I do not understand him. His behavioral mechanisms are a mystery for me. I am clueless. 

He is almost 13. He makes me go  crazy. 

Dear fellow parents how do you survive when you are in a state that you feel you cannot stand your child? 

How do I build a close relationship with my son?

How do I make him happy when we are in constant confrontation with him?

How do I understand and accept my child who is like an alien to me?

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parenting,Ronjansie2002,2019/03/10,"Does anybody else also like this? https://www.girlswithmuscle.com/1141106/

So I’ve been into muscular girls since I were a little boy, now I’m 16 and I just can’t stop thinking about them. I love their pecs and their bulging muscles. Does anyone else have this?",3.7674534161490665,7.050873260869569,2.877204968944098,86.13891304347828,88.13043478260867,4.367701863354037,19.614906832298136,6.18269132825596,0.12656894409937847,214,6,37,2,7,62,37,46,0.049,0.795,0.156,0.7059,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,3,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,6,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,2,2,5,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,3,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23197232858362385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282670882860046,0.29721541982795696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076919837176354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4846397450051573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171566033700667,0.2907306734978429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618033986970997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23995247471891396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24251511985431565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185867911312387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,poppicat2248,2019/03/10,"Nap time I am a FTM. My son is 3 months old and is napping at random times throughout the day. How can I help him get into a nap routine? He also hates napping in his Next 2 Me cot during the day. He only sleeps for 30 minutes max in there. Yet if he naps on me or next to me on the sofa(I never leave him napping alone on the sofa) he will sleep for 2 hours or so. 
He will be going to a childminder at 9 months old when I go back to work. ",0.6002272727272739,1.585985323232325,3.0625126262626274,95.14710227272732,79.60606060606061,5.354040404040403,19.445707070707073,5.148860815047168,-0.4348898989898991,333,7,83,1,8,116,67,99,0.052000000000000005,0.907,0.041,-0.2621,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,7,1,1,0,7,0,7,2,2,1,1,8,11,8,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,0,13,8,0,25,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,4,15,49,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19716596218921825,0.0,0.1522388625167005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146382819829725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455458703840189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946049540044044,0.0,0.216383376273064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795101479431764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12760103362315073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187476154968938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015743987439912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039031199598532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682512072965834,0.0,0.4049214218976881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995226936349075,0.0,0.0,0.14478500362537525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810150717293943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22201261751022786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385916657997365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bumbleleigh13,2019/03/10,"ALWAYS trust your gut Late last summer I pulled my 4 year old out of their integrated music preschool before the start of the new school year. They had moved locations and where going to have staffing changes as well. 

There was nothing specific. Yet after a couple of days of summer camp, I knew I didn’t want them there for the upcoming year. I felt horribly guilty about pulling them out for reasons I had a hard time articulating.  

Today my intuition was validated. A music teacher at the school was arrested and charged with sexual abuse including unlawful penetration.  They are looking for other potential victims. For whatever reason my intuition screamed no. If you ever have a gut feeling like that, about a person or place, please listen. 

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parenting,scubasteve2728,2019/03/10,9 month baby problem napping at daycare My 9 month old goes to daycare part time and we are happy with everything there except his naps. At home he consistently takes 2 naps at home for 1.5-2 hours each. At daycare he never naps for more than 30 min. He seems to be a heavy sleeper and will even sleep through vacuuming at home. Any advice on how we can make a change at daycare so he naps better/longer? Thanks! ,2.362682926829269,4.616919597560977,3.229451219512196,90.16539634146343,78.63414634146342,5.5634146341463415,23.664634146341466,6.6274283507984215,0.6546536585365859,325,11,66,3,8,103,58,82,0.033,0.882,0.084,0.636,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,2,1,12,8,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,6,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,15,6,3,14,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,1,7,35,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885294009511517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119932054777625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063130298252202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20409483238300752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742874137324872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17339344648923616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537804948699012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5805749099742271,0.0,0.18999762845984325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17073737536597167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878257220954134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079904859553267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879985532873374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20244805084438025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089248743140817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846083829672885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563663395296086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19306978012226736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505968645061856,0.0,0.0,0.1776244355504881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124992957693592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cloudsofray,2019/03/10,"Why are so many posts removed on here? Every time  I go to comment on something suddenly the post is removed. It’s not like they’re off topic either, they’re from parents asking questions about parenting...



I’m sure this will be removed in a minute.",3.998750000000001,5.987974708333336,4.577500000000004,83.61750000000002,72.75,6.466666666666668,30.75,7.1686216300943375,1.985149999999999,198,9,35,2,4,63,42,48,0.048,0.901,0.052000000000000005,0.049,2,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,5,1,12,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,20,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362078576204125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128813309880996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359545760407325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343945563126822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561628585902908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5611096143042495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4839668429486832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28304285264080165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451401746550584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381339637692303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733111181807435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22799104625600106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StarfishSue,2019/03/10,"I feel like I’m ruining my kids I am a stay at home mom of three kids- 5,3,6wks. My husband is out of town at the moment and has been for almost 3 wks . I just feel like I am constantly in a bad mood, just not nice, and thing my children . Everyday I get 100%of the whining ,crying and bad moods- from sun up til their heads hit the pillows. The 5yr old goes to school half a day, but she makes up for every missed word .  I am also nursing , and breastfeeding is not at beautiful and wonderful as they tell you.lol. They are pretty much all I talk to daily with a lot of that is no’s, donts, stops, and get in the corners. At the end of the day I don’t want to be touched or talked to . I guess I’m just writing this to say that I am a turd human being right now and my kids are the ones I feel I’m being a turd to. I love being a momma and I love my kids more than anything, and I know this is just a phase in life. Right ??? Anyone else feeling or have felt this way??",1.7101973684210527,2.6683524928229687,3.3369108851674665,94.40431369617228,76.70334928229664,6.373325358851675,21.67494019138756,6.6274283507984215,0.18096387559808624,737,18,179,6,16,245,121,209,0.094,0.772,0.134,0.9263,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,3,0,6,12,0,0,16,0,19,4,1,1,1,36,38,15,0,1,9,3,6,2,0,0,1,1,2,6,6,11,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,5,0,3,2,7,23,5,27,31,4,26,0,3,0,2,20,14,0,6,12,119,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14347381981967713,0.0,0.0,0.1145806420505093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018442572211768,0.1468068792477652,0.11790690021600607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392649576030601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483434347615213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573859095435703,0.1848069738327535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792262073261868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969171815652113,0.0,0.12690319540984124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12071924017104388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897858774941058,0.20471794562075016,0.1375708824754561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971535169469666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15783862971110327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704620280878358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372111821455547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874271949138126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120261672618537,0.1399983476406111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181118974362748,0.2586308608175677,0.0,0.09564024366118576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167807332462745,0.0,0.0,0.10532698984414708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503478349538209,0.0,0.0970899631129003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576686021491492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24471998614628246,0.0,0.11394168645090208,0.0,0.14500660161696574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271698657176308,0.0,0.1197881588270842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303254256590243,0.12523268318581754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518859776520117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451001862709623,0.11372867507671205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538061117705726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,-FatherOf2,2019/03/10,"I hate being a father. Hello to all, 

I’m just going to come out and say it and get the elephant out of the room. I hate being a father, I hate the responsibility that comes with being a parent. I hate it all. I miss when my wife and I had time to do little things like stay up late and then go get some grub from a pizza joint at like 12-1 in the morning. I miss being able to go golf and play basketball whenever I had any free time. I miss my old life. 

When I was younger I loved children and wanted at least 3-4 kids, my wife and I had decided on having three would have been a great number and we were set on it. I can honestly say that after my son got here my entire life had turned upside down. My son was born with a rare blood disease that was causing his bilirubin levels to be sky high and from there on out I knew I wouldn’t enjoy this. For his first month of life we had to be in the hospital whether it was us staying the night or trying to gain some sanity and go home every night and come back during the day. It was terrible. I cried my self to sleep every single night because I was so worried about what was going to happen to him. He ended up getting a blood transfusion and the jaundice ended up clearing up and boy was I relieved. 

Fast forward to today, my son is 2.5 yrs old and he’s slowly becoming a nightmare. He’s severely delayed on his speech, so the communication barrier is sooo tough to get around because he still can’t tell me what’s wrong. Like right now I believe he’s starting to get an ear infection causes he hasn’t been eating a bunch and he’s extremely hard to try and lay down. So I’ll be taking time off work or my wife will to get him checked out on Monday or Tuesday.  He has had 24 ear infections since he has first arrived. It’s been terrible. 

I hate the fact that he’s been through so much in such a small amount of time but as much as it has taken a toll on him it has me and my wife. My wife is 7 months pregnant and we weren’t expecting this child or trying tbh it was an accident and I’m not happy about it all. 

My son when it comes to any kind of sleep is a nightmare. He will not lay down by him self. He has climbed out the crime so many times we ended up buying a full size mattress in his room so we could lay him down for naps and bedtime. He won’t lay down with my wife whatsoever and listens to nothing she has to say. 

I’m the only one that’s able to get him to fall asleep but that’s after reading him 3-4 books and then having to raise my voice to him to lay down. My days off are Thursday’s and Sundays and all day Thursday I’m with little man and we hang out build LEGO buildings and do all types of great things throughout the day but when it comes to the nap, he becomes extremely difficult. Which causes so much stress on me and I’ve tried explaining it to my wife that it’s hurting my relationship with my son that I have to do everything with him. Lay him down for all of his naps and to sleep every night, take him to our baby sitter we have M,T,W,F. I take him to most of his doctors appointments because I don’t start work until 10am every morning. 

I work 50 hours a week and I don’t do any kind of hard physical labor I work in a office setting as a finance manager inside of a furniture store. 

Now let me get back to talking about why I hate being a parent. I feel like for someone to truly see how I’m feeling I wanted you guys and girls to know a little bit about my back story. 

I’m starting to feel disconnected with my son and wife because I feel like I’m getting the crap end of the stick, I’m always laying him down it he won’t nap or fall asleep until 1am, I’m always taking him to doctors appointments since I go into work later. I’m the one who gets him ready every morning and takes him to the baby sitters. I don’t get to enjoy the smaller things in life like sit around and play video games or go golfing or play basketball because I don’t have the time too. We haven’t been able to travel anywhere for over 3 years now since he’s been a nightmare since he first arrived. 

I want to travel the world, I want to try to do new things and new foods and go hiking and camping and canoeing. I can’t get to enjoy any of that because I don’t want to bring my son along and my wife almost makes me feel guilty that I want to spend time away from him. I don’t understand it. Why can’t I just want us to do things by ourselves. 

Is it just me or does anyone else feel like this? 

Thanks for whoever decided to read this and respond I’m really looking for your feedback and support. ",3.1581152484997688,3.813999982474229,4.508227419603016,88.52702800430839,72.88659793814433,7.316817971995691,24.993075857824287,7.374400105419477,0.9608113555931684,3573,102,797,37,67,1188,354,970,0.075,0.8420000000000001,0.083,0.769,3,1,0,0,0,0,61.0,11,2,0,10,33,41,7,1,43,0,75,22,10,5,8,129,157,71,0,11,17,20,8,7,0,6,8,8,4,9,40,70,3,2,12,16,6,21,17,17,0,6,26,18,105,25,129,115,18,141,0,4,2,1,96,54,1,12,70,497,145,15,0.13572804354084875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04530400991029702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752910701152379,0.0,0.0,0.12306629856094728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031634734625987516,0.04635647340190472,0.0,0.08055115651175483,0.0,0.0,0.04250698826686858,0.104366487490778,0.0,0.16547711112069524,0.0999339736533742,0.0,0.05097300874005827,0.0,0.0,0.0493932900971768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943008872675727,0.0,0.19486281888022475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03612259949198247,0.0,0.04969696084389833,0.1167111461106132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261560256913816,0.03959217518591384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046294557695168284,0.0377944547120772,0.0,0.1602863471460265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059455097613656,0.0,0.04066120457991513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372563539713105,0.09696414142532778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545020449914276,0.054707629668993334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836492031267397,0.0,0.20569966666201375,0.0,0.03618470513745342,0.09976043144391468,0.0,0.044797367412682525,0.04000795355147505,0.048161675400649265,0.08105711153861098,0.2680066862658829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780137666253263,0.04538209808656813,0.0,0.044554927518462885,0.0,0.048433225934881766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942265806358184,0.024864194378353188,0.0,0.05103571500384225,0.0,0.0,0.04626370679227134,0.12782497481069466,0.15472302110011554,0.13603515666436722,0.0,0.0,0.037992457531014184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04083328615741216,0.0,0.030199841003015763,0.04586897759720352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222455295549148,0.0,0.0997757290713722,0.0,0.0,0.08739132681781629,0.0,0.1698287658576818,0.0,0.04341157279434053,0.0,0.0949491665211166,0.0,0.06131522331510344,0.034409097750899544,0.0,0.0,0.10047328668072822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050984898468677,0.0,0.028983620069150888,0.0,0.0,0.04857370798685303,0.0,0.03863700252615146,0.0,0.10793638794845127,0.0,0.0,0.036052559311006725,0.0,0.0943959670663284,0.051111351916514884,0.0,0.14970085358918855,0.0,0.13582606471066505,0.0,0.03833397694600399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606900780661898,0.09644535681580796,0.03613086363292771,0.0,0.051825338432950514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051340858453356564,0.0,0.0,0.1700843286321405,0.036364353370407464,0.03954409750346141,0.04165338228488754,0.0,0.0,0.15028613519602235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18466959859759066,0.0,0.04288477167105105,0.0,0.0,0.15358405356911073,0.04921104536119975,0.0,0.04709922667752301,0.10884274975094776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679713890306449,0.0,0.036290949846363225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164896543261699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468605368489095,0.0459461388705834,0.0,0.03213910263453525,0.04946576955556202,0.0,0.029134803340533075
parenting,educate-the-masses,2019/03/10,"Pram/Family Friendly Parking Just got into a little argument on another subreddit with people who have proudly stated that they park in pram friendly parking spots. Are there really people out there that don’t see the impact of their actions?

Am I just being too sensitive or this something that people do often?",5.992909090909091,8.87747701818182,6.507272727272728,68.00090909090912,69.72727272727272,8.763636363636364,31.0,9.3871,3.7071090909090914,256,11,33,6,5,83,45,55,0.037000000000000005,0.789,0.174,0.8463,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,2,1,6,3,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,8,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,6,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,2,0,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029056382982447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723211576127766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4463608684764195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23103592323369784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895238738098934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6007987659022183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18505767549836866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301921846182077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223864270508017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jasminpintol,2019/03/10,"I hate being a dad. Hello to all, 

I’m just going to come out and say it and get the elephant out of the room. I hate being a father, I hate the responsibility that comes with being a parent. I hate it all. I miss when my wife and I had time to do little things like stay up late and then go get some grub from a pizza joint at like 12-1 in the morning. I miss being able to go golf and play basketball whenever I had any free time. I miss my old life. 

When I was younger I loved children and wanted at least 3-4 kids, my wife and I had decided on having three would have been a great number and we were set on it. I can honestly say that after my son got here my entire life had turned upside down. My son was born with a rare blood disease that was causing his bilirubin levels to be sky high and from there on out I knew I wouldn’t enjoy this. For his first month of life we had to be in the hospital whether it was us staying the night or trying to gain some sanity and go home every night and come back during the day. It was terrible. I cried my self to sleep every single night because I was so worried about what was going to happen to him. He ended up getting a blood transfusion and the jaundice ended up clearing up and boy was I relieved. 

Fast forward to today, my son is 2.5 yrs old and he’s slowly becoming a nightmare. He’s severely delayed on his speech, so the communication barrier is sooo tough to get around because he still can’t tell me what’s wrong. Like right now I believe he’s starting to get an ear infection causes he hasn’t been eating a bunch and he’s extremely hard to try and lay down. So I’ll be taking time off work or my wife will to get him checked out on Monday or Tuesday.  He has had 24 ear infections since he has first arrived. It’s been terrible. 

I hate the fact that he’s been through so much in such a small amount of time but as much as it has taken a toll on him it has me and my wife. My wife is 7 months pregnant and we weren’t expecting this child or trying tbh it was an accident and I’m not happy about it all. 

My son when it comes to any kind of sleep is a nightmare. He will not lay down by him self. He has climbed out the crime so many times we ended up buying a full size mattress in his room so we could lay him down for naps and bedtime. He won’t lay down with my wife whatsoever and listens to nothing she has to say. 

I’m the only one that’s able to get him to fall asleep but that’s after reading him 3-4 books and then having to raise my voice to him to lay down. My days off are Thursday’s and Sundays and all day Thursday I’m with little man and we hang out build LEGO buildings and do all types of great things throughout the day but when it comes to the nap, he becomes extremely difficult. Which causes so much stress on me and I’ve tried explaining it to my wife that it’s hurting my relationship with my son that I have to do everything with him. Lay him down for all of his naps and to sleep every night, take him to our baby sitter we have M,T,W,F. I take him to most of his doctors appointments because I don’t start work until 10am every morning. 

I work 50 hours a week and I don’t do any kind of hard physical labor I work in a office setting as a finance manager inside of a furniture store. 

Now let me get back to talking about why I hate being a parent. I feel like for someone to truly see how I’m feeling I wanted you guys and girls to know a little bit about my back story. 

I’m starting to feel disconnected with my son and wife because I feel like I’m getting the crap end of the stick, I’m always laying him down it he won’t nap or fall asleep until 1am, I’m always taking him to doctors appointments since I go into work later. I’m the one who gets him ready every morning and takes him to the baby sitters. I don’t get to enjoy the smaller things in life like sit around and play video games or go golfing or play basketball because I don’t have the time too. We haven’t been able to travel anywhere for over 3 years now since he’s been a nightmare since he first arrived. 

I want to travel the world, I want to try to do new things and new foods and go hiking and camping and canoeing. I can’t get to enjoy any of that because I don’t want to bring my son along and my wife almost makes me feel guilty that I want to spend time away from him. I don’t understand it. Why can’t I just want us to do things by ourselves. 

Is it just me or does anyone else feel like this? 

Thanks for whoever decided to read this and respond I’m really looking for your feedback and support. ",3.1435482381904936,3.795814876288659,4.4960624711494095,88.61424449915373,72.91752577319588,7.316817971995691,24.993075857824287,7.374400105419477,0.9574402215725496,3570,102,798,37,67,1187,355,970,0.075,0.8420000000000001,0.083,0.769,3,1,0,0,0,0,61.0,11,2,0,10,33,41,7,1,43,0,75,22,10,5,8,129,157,71,0,11,17,20,8,7,0,6,8,8,4,9,40,70,3,2,12,16,6,21,17,17,0,6,26,18,105,25,129,115,18,141,0,4,2,1,96,54,1,12,70,497,145,15,0.13572804354084875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04530400991029702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752910701152379,0.0,0.0,0.12306629856094728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031634734625987516,0.04635647340190472,0.0,0.08055115651175483,0.0,0.0,0.04250698826686858,0.104366487490778,0.0,0.16547711112069524,0.0999339736533742,0.0,0.05097300874005827,0.0,0.0,0.0493932900971768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943008872675727,0.0,0.19486281888022475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03612259949198247,0.0,0.04969696084389833,0.1167111461106132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261560256913816,0.03959217518591384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046294557695168284,0.0377944547120772,0.0,0.1602863471460265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059455097613656,0.0,0.04066120457991513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372563539713105,0.09696414142532778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545020449914276,0.054707629668993334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836492031267397,0.0,0.20569966666201375,0.0,0.03618470513745342,0.09976043144391468,0.0,0.044797367412682525,0.04000795355147505,0.048161675400649265,0.08105711153861098,0.2680066862658829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780137666253263,0.04538209808656813,0.0,0.044554927518462885,0.0,0.048433225934881766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942265806358184,0.024864194378353188,0.0,0.05103571500384225,0.0,0.0,0.04626370679227134,0.12782497481069466,0.15472302110011554,0.13603515666436722,0.0,0.0,0.037992457531014184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04083328615741216,0.0,0.030199841003015763,0.04586897759720352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222455295549148,0.0,0.0997757290713722,0.0,0.0,0.08739132681781629,0.0,0.1698287658576818,0.0,0.04341157279434053,0.0,0.0949491665211166,0.0,0.06131522331510344,0.034409097750899544,0.0,0.0,0.10047328668072822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050984898468677,0.0,0.028983620069150888,0.0,0.0,0.04857370798685303,0.0,0.03863700252615146,0.0,0.10793638794845127,0.0,0.0,0.036052559311006725,0.0,0.0943959670663284,0.051111351916514884,0.0,0.14970085358918855,0.0,0.13582606471066505,0.0,0.03833397694600399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606900780661898,0.09644535681580796,0.03613086363292771,0.0,0.051825338432950514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051340858453356564,0.0,0.0,0.1700843286321405,0.036364353370407464,0.03954409750346141,0.04165338228488754,0.0,0.0,0.15028613519602235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18466959859759066,0.0,0.04288477167105105,0.0,0.0,0.15358405356911073,0.04921104536119975,0.0,0.04709922667752301,0.10884274975094776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679713890306449,0.0,0.036290949846363225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164896543261699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468605368489095,0.0459461388705834,0.0,0.03213910263453525,0.04946576955556202,0.0,0.029134803340533075
parenting,BinxyPrime,2019/03/11,Healthy eating I know some people will give my kid unhealthy foods sometimes and thats fine but how much should i be worried about?  Is a couple frenchfries once a week something i should be worried about?,3.895263157894739,6.770410368421057,2.7097368421052606,92.55565789473684,76.89473684210526,3.8,27.921052631578952,3.1291,0.6070842105263159,166,7,29,0,4,47,31,38,0.212,0.703,0.085,-0.7105,0,0,1,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,1,0,7,8,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016986385657555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790043679605489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297076027580303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615651154433805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984955430527194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044014972316124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29037932833008506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890315806763257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20991083976301936,0.269672659025482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187154177224016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5538090900543438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chromepaw,2019/03/11,"Paring break trip booked - oldest refuses to go I’m a divorced father (47M) of three - 15 yo girl, 13 yo boy, and 10 yo girl. My ex and I don’t get along and she loves to start arguments with me even though we’ve been split up for three years. She’s also very competitive about who does more with the kids.

This year for spring break I decided to book a once in a lifetime trip that all three of them would be into so we’re going to Tokyo (we live in Northern California). My oldest - who I can have a contentious relationship with (her grades are atrocious and I try to impress this upon her while her mom doesn’t care) - now refuses to go. She would be celebrating her 16th birthday there. The trip is in two weeks.

She says she doesn’t feel safe around me. She freaks out whenever she has to put down her phone (which I make her do, not her mom) and the other day she was trying to trash the house after I asked her a simple question. I grabbed her arm which I knew was a mistake at the time. Now she won’t go on this trip that I planned in large part because I knew she would have fun.

I really don’t know what to do. How much does she have to hate me that she won’t go on this trip? I did buy travel insurance so I guess at this point I have to try to get one ticket refunded and just go without her. I have not been this sad in my adult life.",2.6129610999329316,3.5846603028169035,3.686398390342056,92.72030516431929,74.49295774647888,7.099664654594232,21.974513749161638,7.447530270364453,0.4558640509725014,1042,24,247,12,21,337,155,284,0.058,0.8740000000000001,0.067,0.5374,0,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,0,1,1,12,9,1,0,11,0,27,3,1,2,1,35,47,12,0,4,4,4,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,5,15,14,0,3,6,4,2,13,9,4,0,5,7,3,45,5,38,33,4,44,0,1,0,1,44,16,0,2,13,164,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10641031088635797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845414503084245,0.1243958000320418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111387665019737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356664409641563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581452847349841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23288838867878306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788675567526089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728057367018128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903969146263198,0.0,0.4537360952233331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658372790432952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137201359131165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353666038802632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312786096469524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398622416166197,0.0,0.0,0.11749693196248065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009441478025575,0.0,0.08882048380168389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116831970360173,0.0,0.0,0.0978165031498018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170758963943728,0.09016682900270784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409409671200746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578740038190875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376491370989374,0.14906084180393978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524346722915206,0.0,0.0,0.14285970058594588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058169168995551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418256816737927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073357184435047,0.0,0.07759001630534987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710228164619129,0.0,0.12998306699343465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097907844652356,0.0,0.0,0.1067349898515936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282678364080815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835720868198941,0.0,0.0,0.1713762220082317
parenting,ShaoLimper,2019/03/11,"10mo screams herself to sleep while laying down. It's been a few weeks now and I don't think it's a phase anymore. Our 10mo girl will scream at the top of her lungs while laying down in the crib. She isn't acting uncomfortable or doing anything else out of the ordinary. Clean diaper not hungry anymore but will do this to sleep.

She has been able to sleep on her own for months now and this would happen maybe once a week, but then she would show signs of teething or discomfort. Now it is just screaming.

If she's hungry she will stand up at the edge of the crib, or if she is uncomfortable (dirty diaper) she sits up or goes to the edge and stands. If she is teething or has an upset tummy she will toss turn and crawl around.

But almost every night for two weeks now she just enters her sleeping position and screams. Can be for five minutes or it can be for up to an hour.

I can't find anything online because it is either about a newborn (6mo or less) or a 2-3 year old toddler. She is advanced, walking(basically running) and very active and very clever. Talking and some sign language and she's been in the 95+ percentile for height since day one.

We tried many sleep methods until we finally had to try cry it out, and it worked. It took 2-3 days and she was not only starting to sleep on her own but in only a few weeks there was no more co sleeping. She was about 7-8 the since we started that and she was great. It wasn't even cry it out at this point. But two weeks ago this all started...

Help? Anyone else deal with something similar?",2.5798148148148172,4.369268302547773,3.263389950460013,92.37933356923807,76.16560509554141,5.925737202170326,22.457655107336635,6.605766666666668,0.3720536919084694,1213,34,261,10,27,381,160,314,0.085,0.831,0.084,-0.1187,0,0,2,0,0,0,37.0,4,0,0,3,11,8,0,2,16,0,31,10,10,0,1,50,38,32,0,5,21,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,1,2,15,20,0,0,2,1,0,5,7,6,0,4,10,4,26,2,37,20,9,53,0,0,0,0,29,20,0,13,25,180,41,1,0.08896366998442473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886092568050307,0.0,0.08908426471389705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645611074662687,0.06220546656146715,0.09115379313916748,0.1464190404024801,0.07919652767947084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423142749157413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544482813154984,0.11474841471832993,0.09171763737230172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863546140637882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058759664988358135,0.0,0.07495572893350172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745535195810276,0.08131118265299057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980827602271731,0.0,0.0,0.07867027956019478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059630472716880274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876112945680137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019519796406256,0.08937596402932586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100995261864775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348637771610104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335240634856627,0.09474340507331903,0.060284085179321975,0.13532175975931832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409942373465011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718333427263044,0.0,0.6231954293805341,0.0,0.0,0.0684885795256791,0.0,0.0,0.1889068305254169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150562804955543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05700432753046813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988419107506308,0.12080098438151085,0.09676692638212367,0.17380915729589216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680868953277876,0.0,0.0,0.3568064492782762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476661130085692,0.0,0.0,0.12639447732909406,0.0,0.0,0.05728968668147558
parenting,starsarethecoolest,2019/03/11,"Almost 12 year old son’s personal hygiene is non-existent. I know tween boys are not known for their impeccable hygiene, but I feel like my son has just gone off the deep end. 

He’ll be 12 in a few months and he’s the youngest of 3.  His brothers are a few years older and are also not the cleanest, but I never really experienced this with them. 

Lately, as in the past few months his personal hygiene is disgusting.  He hardly showers and his bathroom habits are lacking.  He refuses to lift the toilet seat to pee and pees all over the toilet and the floor.  He refuses to clean up the mess.  He’s now only allowed to use the bathroom that’s in his bedroom and not the toilet downstairs that guests may use. He’s also been not wiping when he poops, or not wiping well enough to the point I’m throwing away his underwear.   He smells, and I’ve told him he has an odor and acts offended...but still doesn’t do anything. I’ve grounded him, I’ve talked to him calmly.  It’s gotten to the point that I’ve raised my voice at him, (which is unlike me) because I can’t use the downstairs bathroom because he’s pissed all over the toilet seat. 

I’m a single mom and I feel like I’ve been really patient with him.  I don’t think his bathroom habits signal anything other than he’s just being defiant, disrespectful, and lazy.  I never imagined I’d be dealing with this at this age and it’s driving me crazy.  We’re moving in 2 weeks to a new home and he won’t have his own bathroom so I’ve got to get this through to him now. 

Help me!",3.3925125418060205,4.538665567307691,4.526075808249722,86.77399665551842,72.81410256410257,7.220958751393534,26.385730211817172,7.586124646067393,1.314482552954292,1195,40,249,14,23,392,157,312,0.08199999999999999,0.8640000000000001,0.055,-0.8524,2,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,2,0,10,7,2,0,19,0,21,4,4,4,4,44,36,20,0,1,10,4,3,2,1,3,0,1,4,3,11,15,0,2,6,0,0,5,11,3,1,0,6,7,27,4,29,24,9,39,0,0,0,0,42,16,1,3,20,148,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890633661708676,0.0,0.0,0.22186594396766912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283066777125786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033040634741233,0.0,0.0,0.1691227726145126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301247309473936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286323735952942,0.14333308252685675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402802779512862,0.1982007581710344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247458478970839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094569425896944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242643470510095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297995041491132,0.0,0.13914576227764985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623594822777932,0.0,0.15648028114628626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554150595309927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246519287756914,0.22144724241228506,0.14743559650215282,0.0,0.0,0.2139762046979241,0.13397499563951784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556151775978168,0.0,0.0,0.1055015157453059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242231077760933,0.0,0.2422469326317101,0.0,0.0,0.26226725673958345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773298627114087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078061116441716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149651256332677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888508351063072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13255127741413836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594242097022121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127145048515848,0.0,0.1247244083900342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17866007040462342
parenting,Holly_Hawk,2019/03/11,"Was your second baby very different than your first? Let me start out by saying that I love my child very much. That said, the first two years of his existence were extremely difficult. 

Crazy long and painful labor, breastfeeding was horrific, as a newborn he had colic and screamed for hours and hours daily (like deep purple, back arching, shrieking screams that I could do nothing to soothe. He often lost his little voice.). As an infant he just seemed so angry most of the time. Strangely, he also couldn’t stop moving. It was weird because his little brain would not let him stop or rest or anything - just constant continual fidgety movement that did not stop unless he was asleep for almost two years. Never once did he fall asleep on his own—not ever (until he was almost two). Sometimes I would spend over an hour rocking/shushing/jiggling him to sleep with white noise blasting only for him to wake up after 20 minutes. He barely slept his first year. And if he wasn’t sleeping, boy was he mad. I kind of lost my mind for a while.

It got a little better by the time he turned two. He was a late talker and that gave him extreme frustration. He had epic tantrums that I believe were partially because he wanted so badly to communicate but struggled with it. As he got better at communicating, he just seemed to relax in all areas. By 3, he had blossomed into the funniest, most talkative, silliest, brilliant, and adorable child. He’s still very intense and particular (and so stubborn), but he can manage himself a lot better and it’s honestly been an amazing journey to see him turn into the little person he is today. He’s hyper aware of everything around him and is curious and sensitive and all sorts of amazing things you could only hope your child would be. He’s just full of magic and I’m so proud he’s my son. 

I am now pregnant with number two. I said for the longest time that we could not handle what we went through again. Somehow my husband and I just decided to see what would happen if we tried. Surprise. 

I want to believe that all babies are different and we may have a much easier time. But part of me thinks that everything that happened was due to a failure on my part as a mother and the same thing will just happen again. 

At least this time I know that it’s temporary (even if it’s two years) and we have experience and will get through it. 

That was so long-winded but basically, has anyone ever had a truly difficult time with their first and then had the balls to try their luck again? How did that turn out for you? 
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parenting,BlockbusterGirl,2019/03/11,"To breed or not to breed... We are considering having a third kid and just want some insight. Is it totally crazy with three? Is it great? Not great, but you still love the third ; )  Right now we have a five year old and a two year old and we are doing pretty well, everyone is sleeping, we feel like we are handling things ok. Not that it's ever easy but, you know.... We are really stuck, do we keep things as they are? Do we take the plunge and go for three? What made you decide one way or the other? Just looking for some fresh perspectives we are talking in circles...

p.s. Climate change and the amount of trash per capita have been discussed. And our family is in the negative for replacement for anyone who might be worried about encouraging someone to have more kids : )",2.224303691275168,4.738752852348995,2.85127097315436,91.20697357382551,80.87919463087249,6.141107382550335,20.72189597315436,7.413659706084162,0.653190939597315,601,17,122,9,16,187,96,149,0.07,0.722,0.208,0.9771,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,10,3,1,0,7,7,0,0,8,1,20,2,1,1,2,37,30,11,0,1,9,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,9,16,0,1,4,0,0,1,4,0,1,7,3,2,14,7,13,25,5,12,0,0,1,1,21,3,0,5,8,95,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199068162881725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456189144512333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781448264030967,0.0,0.16670973669579364,0.0,0.0,0.16447101488192653,0.0,0.08821525019259162,0.1246385431064712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099153046657398,0.0,0.0,0.3846987551914116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15507339434914805,0.0,0.0,0.0958819492632942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523527350926287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650749708375754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746237388680984,0.16508394475910876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850808521688417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661454309935597,0.0,0.11822267477293748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17749464059246708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176738512615264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899300815969516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459199424211627,0.0,0.14782447308234414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932877055962042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311767171719518,0.14022915972252142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318149121676224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042792815406954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102904565280225,0.13848298768345849,0.0,0.0,0.15686588381398284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771786887199088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247007639326592
parenting,katibear,2019/03/11,"Part of my job as a parent is teaching my kids about the different types of toots. So i'm home with the girls today, 4 and 2. My 4 year old goes to the bathroom and calls out to me. ""Mom! Come here! Hurry!!"" I rush to the bathroom, thinking there's some type of ""situation""- you know how it goes.   


I run in, and she's giggling. ""Mom, I tooted.""   


...okay? She senses my lack of enthusiasm. We're a shameless tooting family. 

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""But mom, my toot. It was.... it was long.""  


Oh yeah? Big one. Cool. My girl.   


""It was long. Really long. It was a long toot. A big toot. But it was quiet and SO STINKY. Like this: 'huhhhhhhhhh.'"" 

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I started laughing, and she did, too. I taught her about SBDs. It took me back to the 90s with my older brothers. She thought it was the funniest thing in the world, and she thought I was this hilarious lady who was able to teach her about different types of toots. Then we ""huhhhhhed"" at each other for like 30 minutes afterwards, giggling away.   


Toots are funny. Kids make them even funnier. I never thought I would be so proud of my kids tooting that I would want to post it on the internet for the world to see, but this moment was just an awkwardly sweet one for us, and I love these moments. There's literally not a place in the world where I could talk about this other than here, and I'm sure I'm not alone in cherishing these silly moments where I feel like I am 4 years old all over again and loving it.   


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parenting,katiewright917,2019/03/11,"30% off PAPA JOHNS online code!! Enjoy 30% off when you use promo code  PLUTO  at www.PapaJohns.com       Reusable as much as you like until 3/31.  Feel free to share.    Valid at corporate locations in FL,NC,KY,IN,GA,TN,MO, & TX",0.32734848484848555,2.7485400681818177,3.360909090909089,84.0280303030303,91.5,6.56969696969697,16.424242424242426,7.793537801064563,0.7624969696969703,169,4,34,4,6,60,37,44,0.0,0.6809999999999999,0.319,0.9327,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,9,2,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,13,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6303413397192328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941574932144445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842206345750174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276636745489123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5024575374893419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HandsOnDon90,2019/03/11,"Monitoring Childs phone My kid is wanting their first phone and it is probably time for them to start having one to communicate with friends and play games or for emergencies, but I still think I should monitor it. They want an iphone and I dont know much about them, do you monitor your kids iphone and if so how?",3.0338251366120232,5.4831127377049205,3.2700819672131125,89.72566939890713,77.36065573770493,8.001092896174864,23.281420765027317,8.841846274778883,1.5879814207650265,251,8,53,6,6,77,47,61,0.0,0.912,0.08800000000000001,0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,4,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,14,11,9,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,10,2,6,10,1,4,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,2,4,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034412713379242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928064163910989,0.0,0.0,0.2659553807070443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189182748111062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530525935310458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332627848560723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711439338104837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243651555440194,0.0,0.2749067984947121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22057211532780568,0.0,0.0,0.20072640327487212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4060778614216148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mary_stormageddon,2019/03/11,"How to Bathe Kid When You Have a Bad Back I suck at titles. 

My husband and I have two kids and one on the way. Our oldest is old enough to bathe herself and does a pretty good job getting herself clean. Our youngest is 4 and obviously too young to give herself a bath. I have a really bad back, so usually my husband is the one who gives her a bath, but there are many times that I have to do it because he isn't home or he is busy. Now that I'm pregnant, my back is getting even less forgiving, and hours later my back is still hurting so bad. 

I tried using a detachable showerhead and have her stand but she is terrified of it. And eventually we'll have another lil one to bathe who won't be able to stand in the tub. I'm hoping some of you out there have had similar experiences and figured out how to bathe your kid without needing to internally scream in pain. ",3.8947579143389213,4.519707,5.125824022346368,84.8811755121043,71.17877094972067,8.648230912476723,28.883147113594042,8.841846274778883,2.024038733705773,679,25,148,12,12,226,103,179,0.151,0.7809999999999999,0.068,-0.9573,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,3,0,0,15,10,1,0,9,0,21,1,0,3,1,23,31,16,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,8,3,6,10,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,7,0,4,1,1,21,3,17,27,3,23,0,1,0,0,24,6,1,3,14,106,27,1,0.14539838240410444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246288146920664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472095246489083,0.36420472803881065,0.08863350437454806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272391042642402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502353964609904,0.0,0.09603426029310756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222751775337536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519293074184369,0.2789587544923541,0.0,0.12195326478103395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584643261078606,0.14441340089353946,0.1431881183942714,0.0,0.15565197556446614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14428545919762065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741113857924973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781105821642964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257114369257166,0.0,0.29557712057020225,0.0,0.15471413022614938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14792242656700524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09314592690643284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611533600666507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478296604265123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871595745190266,0.0,0.1420330923975353,0.0,0.0,0.12557751890524452,0.16013577648938054,0.0,0.0,0.11541046821475268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401588520841809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HermioneAtHeart,2019/03/11,"What’s the thing you still do just for yourself and literally no one else (since having kids)? I’m a new mom and despite being able to give up quite a lot of what used to be my normal routine, I still keep up with my skin regimen. It’s not anything crazy, just wash, moisturize and toner, but it makes me feel human and my skin looks great. What’s your thing?",5.641621621621621,4.847968432432439,5.976351351351353,85.16560810810813,67.37837837837839,9.021621621621623,27.959459459459467,8.07648339933343,1.4898216216216214,280,7,62,3,4,90,56,74,0.022,0.875,0.103,0.7862,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,0,4,3,2,2,0,15,11,5,0,1,4,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,7,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,7,1,7,9,1,5,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,1,3,41,14,0,0.2354950833960731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937923881534552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19672592410833045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907339000059596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22590834253802244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596341608148477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093188504679096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19775655910037301,0.0,0.0,0.20020949851946554,0.0,0.0,0.15719479681617032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758089954704921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274426190066753,0.0,0.0,0.23073518138760105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595775631698408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504780088545123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480396652427595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761333556030089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31290493859311536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20339214094604466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Forthebonex11,2019/03/11,"S.O.S! Last week my 6-year-old spit on a girl 2 days in a row and I just found a note (hidden) that stated she HIT A TEACHER twice in the same day! I’m dumbfounded. 

I need to know a proper approach to explain/show/punish her a way where she’s taking in what I’m saying and realizes how serious of a problem this is. 

I’m also at a loss to where the source of this could stem from. TV? Other kids in school? Is she old enough to really understand what she’s doing? 

Thank you!",0.7345544554455437,2.6351615148514895,2.8361287128712886,92.71815346534656,82.36633663366338,6.02019801980198,18.020792079207922,7.1686216300943375,0.1117398019801974,367,8,83,5,10,124,70,101,0.115,0.857,0.028,-0.7793,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,10,0,4,1,1,1,0,12,14,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,2,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,1,9,1,13,11,2,16,0,1,0,0,9,8,0,0,5,52,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869463361858044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866468737228947,0.0,0.0,0.3015255111276933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415476134229788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563174952391297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284742574904678,0.1905543131573325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333800439995678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4906060289956265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236869787314117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14975948993592958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859038354091085,0.0,0.23658841851397874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757664656193557,0.0,0.0,0.21522464309869047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433635324632937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555629244497346,0.18751674653872805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054065976754558
parenting,lurking_for_serenity,2019/03/11,"Not Playing Favorites I have a 15yo (barely) daughter & 13yo (barely) son. 
My son accuses us (me & his Dad) that we favor our daughter. She’s a “good girl” — contributes, does what she’s asked to do, works hard in school, generally doesn’t make waves (In fact we try to encourage her TO make waves occasionally).  He’s more spirited. He pushes back and challenges just about everything. We absolutely treat them fairly. We have tried on numerous occasions to explain to him that his freedoms are in direct correlation with his choices. But he’s not convinced. So how do we explain it or show it?  (Btw - it’s not like we don’t allow risks & failure. We embrace valuable learning in mistakes.) Here’s an example: He received a 0 on a huge project that he claims to have turned in. So, we told him that he needed to talk to his teacher about it to find out what to do next. And/or that we would go talk to her with him. He wanted to do it alone. After a week - no action. So, we gave him another week, reminding him that we would go, but that if he didn’t talk to her then he would lose his phone until he resolved it. Another week went by so he lost his phone. He claims we would NEVER do that to his sister & that we treat her differently. 
I’m struggling explaining the difference to him so that he doesn’t feel like I’m against him. ",2.5931352201257845,4.617423060377358,3.855872641509436,87.08431210691826,76.88679245283019,7.133647798742138,25.758647798742146,8.07648339933343,1.553619496855346,1041,39,214,18,24,340,134,265,0.107,0.8,0.093,-0.5853,1,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,15,0,1,5,12,17,0,2,7,0,17,0,0,4,2,46,35,13,0,8,8,6,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,18,17,0,0,7,2,0,6,9,5,0,0,5,2,39,12,31,26,1,24,1,2,0,0,69,9,0,2,11,133,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169102627485914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5092300002316861,0.0,0.0,0.2464108268220068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984344549792112,0.0,0.0,0.0903476207368472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24551784555330816,0.0,0.0,0.10282205276362773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055983537938115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940980342668984,0.08393958333937047,0.0,0.0,0.10738974946938452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355203319636727,0.0985505603683842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052538608999634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480579226721307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13144862342972605,0.1282614015174102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685976486434774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871222285046197,0.09062060928840826,0.0,0.12495895043008455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891281620943014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283294121025502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833179114365148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227302155567748,0.0,0.15954493619591145,0.12780254378352024,0.0,0.0,0.14133392400491274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930252968347367,0.0,0.2827460180520111,0.0,0.0,0.10892051084399344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553891278722194,0.0,0.0,0.3338648095333291,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EltiiVader,2019/03/11,"Improve my 7 year old daughter’s self esteem? So my daughter, 7, really is such a beautiful and smart little girl. I love her more than anything. 

I told her that the other day, she showed me her tests with pride (all perfect scores) and I hugged her, told her I love her and that she’s smart and beautiful and her face grew sullen. She responded with “I’m not beautiful” and it broke my fucking heart.

I told her she is and to not say that and gave her a huge hug as I held back tears. 

What can I do to help improve her self esteem?",3.0432727272727256,4.016655281818181,3.8252272727272754,92.12784090909092,73.45454545454545,7.3181818181818175,23.75,7.6454224807358475,0.8061818181818179,411,11,94,5,8,131,63,110,0.055,0.584,0.361,0.9914,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,3,10,1,0,3,0,4,7,2,0,2,15,13,10,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,10,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,5,1,25,8,6,8,2,7,0,1,0,5,28,2,1,0,4,59,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873509995531366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576674490969687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322374820514342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956140051712692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429800839851432,0.13743777785467534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20550960997583145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701234115359847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516091859358444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135749468341132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306053180219227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278146660930187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5877897204172811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204267671793374
parenting,valentina1130,2019/03/11,"Daughter won’t let me be happy with boyfriend. Advice please My 10 year old daughter is used to my ex husband doing everything she wants and may not be dating because she was against it when he tried it in the past.

I have entered a relationship and never been so happy. He is wonderful with my children and really caring. I have tried to ease my 10 year old daughter into it and she is understanding but always goes back to jealous fits. Examples: she won’t leave my side and will sit on top on me the entire time my boyfriend is around so that he doesn’t get near. She’s nice to him as long as he doesn’t get close to me. She says she’s afraid I’ll love her less and I’ve told her many times it will never happen and we have daughter and me time but nothing has worked. She will FaceTime me every time she’s at her dad’s wanting to know if my bf is with me. And she will sometimes ask that I cancel a date with him to be with her instead.

What should I do? Counseling? My son is completely ok with the relationship but he’s younger ",3.18675,4.340785706976746,4.139927325581397,89.31500726744189,73.32558139534882,7.049418604651162,25.53052325581395,7.413659706084162,1.0429593023255812,817,26,178,9,16,264,115,215,0.035,0.838,0.127,0.9595,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,6,8,1,1,5,1,28,1,0,1,2,34,41,18,0,4,5,8,0,0,1,8,0,1,0,1,7,19,0,0,3,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,1,35,6,23,26,1,29,0,0,0,1,38,11,0,3,16,120,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727904246154446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689368952060047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250602742848346,0.13133329245538808,0.0,0.0,0.10802329117676306,0.0,0.08563755755054962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323249147429215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729448311515872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836357343319916,0.0,0.12625768810094962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467938664895859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422926898615655,0.2990950147186733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720616570848414,0.0,0.0,0.14875195049959986,0.0,0.14365409787829192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243236507642162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267920210692914,0.0,0.0,0.14242841860710204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21669937479128373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479789579443288,0.0,0.29482801544915005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410758450658414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420891245078625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999745335962979,0.0,0.0,0.3016538312758218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171827417257743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894196813794865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276686930080941,0.0,0.0,0.13423819243817278,0.0,0.19075841685601924,0.0,0.0,0.14624848262818088,0.0,0.1213328083797538,0.0,0.0,0.16572184817327348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523485763751718,0.10227380430826677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093378939730406
parenting,WhyYouNoChoose,2019/03/11,"Need other parents advice! I am the momma of a 2 year old. We live with my mom and my sister(30) her bf (30)and their 9 month old live here as well. We all share the living room TV, and my mom wants it only on the news or TV shows for the kiddos. Well they never watch any kid shows. They are always watching stuff with satanic stuff and also sexual stuff, And recently I made a connection. My son has begun crying in his sleep. Something he has never done before, he has slept through the night (occasionally waking up like once or so a week) now it’s just every night no matter what. I’m fed up my moms fed up. But we know if we try to tell them something they aren’t going to listen. 
The stuff they watch is definitely not suitable for a 2 year old to be watching. So how do I bring that up to them? Any advice would be helpful. 
Thanks 
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parenting,babycham-,2019/03/11,"Should boys play with dolls? I am the grandmother of two boys ages seven and two. I am  in the field of early childhood education And have had over 30 years in the field including education and practice. We are always taught to encourage nurturing with children of all ages. I’ve always been a firm believer of a good dramatic play  and family area for children in preschool and home settings. I found these wonderful dolls and would like to take them over to my grandson‘s house for them to play with in their housekeeping area which I would like to help their mom set up in their playroom. [baby_cham ](https://share.icloud.com/photos/0OA-x5GPhdNqIB8mQzNgDfmLw)I was also lucky enough to find a toaster and a baby seat.I think a good addition would be a broom, dust pan and maybe a little Dustbuster. I was just curious what other people thought about this. I will always refer back to my early childhood studies and my mind will not be changed on how valuable this type of play is for young children. Thoughts? ",7.604869646182491,9.151321474860335,6.0487290502793325,78.264415735568,63.30167597765364,9.095158286778398,32.235102420856606,9.2995712137729,2.8211337057728123,820,31,140,14,12,240,107,179,0.0,0.7809999999999999,0.219,0.9896,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,5,0,5,12,0,0,10,0,17,0,0,1,1,31,24,11,0,4,2,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,3,5,6,14,0,0,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,8,0,15,12,28,8,2,23,0,0,0,0,15,12,0,2,11,95,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849686249706593,0.4010994056683826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355408310758717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810329208981788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16997962218070134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602684546681046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147612949999967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14685989429085128,0.0,0.0,0.17617886829619378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26954388010992003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077013595668374,0.0,0.16117655159411112,0.0,0.0,0.18540476927286406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700163749005694,0.1610449815468593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614260695912651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622424151565549,0.1881881209564136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139625539323694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208124204254965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029581570713719,0.0,0.2551261764939879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139247718999676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425213082963034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424303823998453,0.0,0.0,0.10347355745523704
parenting,throwaway12051988,2019/03/11,"Problem with my step daughter Hi all, sorry if wrong place to post but me and my partner are at a loss with our daughter, (my stepdaughter) her previous partner was abusive and sexually abused her daughter at a very young age, for the past few years we have noticed her playing rude games with other children, mainly looking and touching the private parts, she is now aged 8, she stopped around a year ago when she did it to my nephew and he was aged 4 at the time,  and we caught her and really told her off about it, it didnt go down to well with my brother and his wife which resulted in them stopping my nephew coming round to play because of her actions. We thought that was it and that scared her enough not to do it again but yesterday we caught her doing it again. What im trying to get at is do you think this is just kids being kids or do you think what has happened to her in the past is playing a part so she thinks its normal to fool around with the privates. We are really struggling how to deal with this, we are thinking about seeing a counselor but she doesn't seem to remember (thank god) what happened when she was younger. ",5.371900566393959,5.712516841409695,5.132690371302708,87.14313876651985,67.81057268722465,7.895405915670233,30.75173064820642,7.447530270364453,1.7240902454373819,901,33,186,8,14,277,132,227,0.153,0.8059999999999999,0.041,-0.9821,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,7,2,1,1,13,12,1,2,10,0,21,0,0,2,1,44,38,17,0,3,7,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,16,23,0,2,7,4,0,6,3,7,1,0,10,4,33,5,30,27,6,36,0,1,3,0,43,11,0,3,18,139,49,0,0.0,0.3150760973385163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117862656445204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23672846984717305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105230888194692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453485943902182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707782771119564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13738513268640054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946707816641154,0.0,0.0755652827434359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351554474472469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362161300222193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165446564057978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027438128734234,0.0,0.15137794605065608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879694502861205,0.2538542591297829,0.0,0.0,0.13891683244175124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273406970389706,0.0,0.0,0.12722653235004616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17035752996546102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061985525405075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331180059663664,0.0,0.1059533788136687,0.1210434733910708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14883990391259194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223241183608386,0.0,0.13900059341085694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241340632796285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407863356224601,0.0,0.10555685591342318,0.07753112324857939,0.0,0.0,0.12705074442169426,0.0,0.09027236744648394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970745009813168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954867008938408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537290889165871,0.0,0.17124614252052894
parenting,thehippos8me,2019/03/11,"Best tips for flying alone with a very energetic and independent toddler?! Please help!! So we leave tomorrow for a 5 hour flight. My daughter (13.5 months) will be flying on my lap, and I’ll be alone. I’ve done this before, but it was before she could crawl or walk, and even that was difficult. But now she is older. She is incredibly independent and hyperactive. (To the point where other parents can’t believe how quick and agile she is for her age.) I would have bought her her own seat, but this is a last minute trip and my husband and I only had money for one ticket. (My mom is having bypass surgery, and she hasn’t seen my daughter in 6 months so I know it will really help her having her there.) 

I’ve bought stickers and hot wheels cars for her to play with, as long as little headphones and I’m going to download a few of her favorite movies/shows (Shrek, Bubble Guppies, etc.) Any other suggestions? I just know she’s not going to do well sitting on my lap that whole time. She hardly sits on my lap at home because she’s constantly on the move and exploring. Any advice would be much appreciated!!",3.459482846902201,5.291451663594472,4.391850998463902,85.04745903737843,73.83870967741936,7.0342037890425,23.576292882744497,7.793537801064563,1.1130852022529436,869,25,172,12,18,281,132,217,0.034,0.841,0.125,0.9682,1,2,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,6,0,23,0,0,3,0,29,31,20,0,3,6,5,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,14,0,0,3,2,3,7,3,1,1,1,7,3,27,3,20,16,6,30,0,0,1,0,24,9,0,1,12,117,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14836675096827312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145006731051835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649953610113184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255430360532113,0.0,0.2583926987490759,0.17106068487609766,0.15933646718282013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407454816848754,0.0,0.12122409018692025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537504740017666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693308494378256,0.10028243999154224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725772459176835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360100703941415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353721564214566,0.0,0.15229810779644612,0.0,0.1495222001663706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688385576545234,0.12376190815810932,0.0,0.1607662990656522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217378531255527,0.0,0.13436498245949016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782173925402242,0.24237889421911,0.16137151431398555,0.11161269444906476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288409839705756,0.11547373742942878,0.0,0.0,0.1685895109606416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666400712317905,0.14352865040439344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726633804375057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853343253259116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12527584697108746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651361768337875,0.0,0.0,0.16951303811309595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157116891413269,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,InitialSherbet,2019/03/11,"My [43M] son [16M] doesn't socialize with anyone. My son doesn't have any friends or a social life. He goes to school, comes home, and then goes to his room and plays video games or goes on his laptop.

He doesn't go out to hang out with anyone. I don't see him socialize with anyone. Whenever I pick him up from school and he comes out, he's always by himself. He doesn't walk with anyone or chat with anyone.

He doesn't even go outside to try to get to know other teenagers in our neighborhood.

I ask him, ""Have you been making any friends in school? Why are you always alone? Why do you never go out?"" He tells me, ""I do have friends in school. I just don't talk to them outside of school.""

I just don't want him growing up to be socially isolated. Having no friends or a social life can be a recipe for loneliness or depression. I want him to make the best of his youth; that's all.

I'm not sure if my son is depressed or has anxiety. I have not asked him, but I'm thinking about it.

What do you guys think? What could be the reason why my son has no friends? How can I help him become more social?

**tl;dr: My son doesn't have any friends or a social life. He doesn't hang out with anyone. He spends most of his time in the house. I don't see him socialize with anyone. I don't want him to become a recluse. Having no friends or a social life is not healthy. What could be the reason why my son has no friends?**",0.4382969798657719,2.5091449228187908,1.8613380872483205,98.30428901006712,84.67114093959731,5.067281879194631,18.372902684563762,6.322622252153567,-0.3135875838926179,1089,27,257,10,32,349,120,298,0.16399999999999998,0.81,0.026,-0.9826,0,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,1,4,1,1,5,13,0,0,10,0,37,4,0,6,3,50,57,15,0,6,15,6,0,0,8,0,4,0,2,1,6,17,0,0,5,4,1,9,20,2,0,0,1,2,38,11,36,50,4,26,0,2,2,0,60,13,0,10,4,157,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627682372491983,0.0,0.0,0.10649360050102824,0.0,0.0,0.130551072132763,0.0,0.04895400820301611,0.0,0.0,0.3132148009374485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964850486444767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134914871622806,0.0,0.0,0.06715607215820102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024756670119383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218544306702002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102331147526758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0422663743921555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955229346532528,0.0,0.03343338600666776,0.0,0.10910506098783232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063362533451075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04289275450314816,0.0,0.06418959135701473,0.0,0.0,0.07383863383078837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03516854759608951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079888864256052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543084320749585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049354881222605736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158968313635055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238186084792025,0.10198730984775684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5870897057377343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06031207642596796,0.0,0.0,0.05143466435500477,0.055932175160504714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820074876142736,0.0,0.0,0.037314481039359776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04344663668369676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323312040646835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309727380098323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,entoaggie,2019/03/11,"My son wants something, then refuses it. Is there a name for this behavior? My 4 yo son has been doing this for as long as he could talk. He will demand something (like a banana) then he refuses to take it when you try handing it to him and he won’t say a word to explain why. Even worse is when he wants to do something then refuses. Like sometimes when we take him to parkour class, he refuses to go with the coach and participate. Then we try to leave, but he refuses, so I basically end up carrying him out kicking and screaming. Is there a name for this? And what can we do about it? ",1.883295454545454,3.781463708333334,3.611212121212123,88.60227272727276,78.58333333333334,7.363636363636362,25.90909090909091,8.296473431620573,1.6479999999999997,455,18,99,9,11,152,68,120,0.071,0.915,0.015,-0.6798,0,0,3,0,0,0,15.0,3,1,0,0,8,3,0,0,5,0,12,1,1,0,0,22,18,15,0,3,1,2,1,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,8,9,0,5,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,10,2,16,14,0,12,0,0,0,0,26,2,0,0,11,67,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861991677972255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814696610153687,0.0,0.0,0.1477630482368388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714359520603088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23688412852439106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185937694841064,0.0,0.0,0.19798261177308946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790883365721769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5166851078268001,0.2212619527157744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364148655198634,0.17981534729282914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037784794341381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639083080936336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20186990437885688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279868585904451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrmooocow4,2019/03/11,"Mother's interaction with daughter on escalator I'm not a parent, but have a quick little story from this past weekend.

I was with a few friends in a mall grabbing lunch, and a party of half a dozen were coming down the escalator that leads into another escalator.

I pause to let them go, and the first 2 of the other group is a mother and her daughter. She stops the daughter and says wait, and waves us to go ahead.

The daughter asks her mother, ""why?"" and she says to be courteous and to think of other people.

While we are on the escalator she adds on, ""See how everyone is standing on the right side? That is so that if other people are in a rush they can walk on the left side.""

As someone who used to live in NYC and found the lack of escalator etiquette so frustrating this trivial moment was resonated with me so strongly.

All I could think was, man... this mom is exercising some A+ parenting skills.",4.891440677966102,5.845560700564972,5.895833333333336,79.06375000000001,69.11299435028249,8.837853107344634,28.87429378531073,9.075114841892004,2.2948158192090395,712,25,138,13,12,236,106,177,0.064,0.848,0.08800000000000001,0.7564,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,2,5,5,3,1,0,18,0,15,2,0,3,1,30,26,16,0,3,3,10,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,1,10,15,1,2,3,3,0,6,1,1,0,3,5,4,13,2,25,18,4,30,0,0,1,0,27,15,0,2,8,105,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877617961845533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739850997446348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424579199713778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296619025769625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17110111972140324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152309783292108,0.0,0.19633190237698905,0.13834261864929334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20352977148331605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19455105171142426,0.18310271133056666,0.0,0.0,0.17946685604884813,0.1581147541317624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971488890487908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976536357135994,0.0,0.17093464576243958,0.24827766179378544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291770614035907,0.0,0.28479408813664914,0.0,0.0,0.14268898490758616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517183901068071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970359192211807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22947100340169455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21538916755587587,0.1546518095606809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157532528873586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,6inchdiam,2019/03/11,"Wife called my son a M-Fer If you saw my wife, you wouldn't think she would say this to her son. She doesn't look like a trashy person. However, yesterday she was particularly angry with our sons (7 and 9) and called one of them a motherfucker. I talked with my son today and apparently she has called him that a few other times as well out of anger.

I have lost my temper with the boys as well but have never hit them or called them any kind of name. 

We haven't talked about it, but I feel like I should say something to her. I can't believe I have to have this conversation.

She is a very defensive person and will probably not take anything I have to say about it well. She will also probably try to bring up anything I have done in the past. But like I said, I feel like this was crossing a line.

Any advice would be great!",2.8851686909581638,4.093870877192984,3.8932163742690062,90.57858299595144,74.14619883040936,7.366801619433199,21.340980656770128,7.882392219407189,0.5744400359874042,644,14,148,9,13,208,94,171,0.123,0.8009999999999999,0.076,-0.7049,2,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,2,2,3,1,6,13,3,0,8,0,21,0,0,0,1,25,31,12,0,5,6,6,2,4,0,6,0,4,0,3,7,9,0,1,3,0,0,2,6,4,3,1,6,8,30,9,18,17,1,10,0,1,2,0,37,3,0,2,9,101,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182232763596761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675013419557253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454530118981667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911755099877906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630651402959507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4941490506937705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238077065670656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234537193105148,0.17286068882663816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338428498063254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598527193965153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23642490876280325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159532610442604,0.0,0.13206733542225266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330961818187038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198127355644834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549204992081605,0.0,0.2112755371234364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26088046908389245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508262442915584,0.2886318297047531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313869418247704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096422793144547,0.19448325164157965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752107965602288,0.0,0.0,0.07054621330630523,0.0,0.11467782412542395,0.0,0.0,0.08213957727823205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982372048318602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263349849932169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171885833402263,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shaka_Waka_46,2019/03/11,"Am I a jerk for asking for earplugs when my son is crying? New to this, I hope I don't break any rules.

I'm 29, and my first child is around 7 weeks. Yesterday he was crying a lot while my wife was in the kitchen, so I picked my son up, and tried to soothe him by holding him. I was pretty unsuccessful and the pitch of the crying staring to hurt my ears (I was holding him towards me on the front, so his mouth was pretty close to my ear).

So my wife came, and I immediately asked ""Do you know where my earplugs are?"" Maybe I asked the question very aggressively or too suddenly (honestly, baby was getting on my nerves a bit), so my wife did take offense, and so did I because I though she was pretty much telling me I was a bad father for asking for plugs.

I have already talked to her and explained my reasoning, and we are good, etc. But I do want to know other people's view and than my and my wife's.

To me, it's like when I change diapers: I hold my breath, or close my nose with something, because well, poop is poop and smells bad. I don't mean it in a bad way.

I love my child, and my wife, but I'm not sure If I'm right in this situation. Just wanna know other people's opinions.",4.069057104913679,3.8186970478087687,5.133609561752987,88.06102523240375,70.55378486055777,8.127596281540505,27.09189907038513,7.554174236665415,1.1721758831341296,913,26,214,9,15,302,130,251,0.107,0.8140000000000001,0.079,-0.682,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,0,1,13,14,3,0,10,0,21,9,7,2,1,41,39,25,0,4,7,8,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,6,17,1,3,7,0,0,2,3,7,1,1,11,6,45,7,24,28,4,24,0,1,2,1,28,12,0,7,9,140,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702599626732558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827828441862086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247169880636824,0.430446699871637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883344205907165,0.14033914532837544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12566956366802404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316543958535135,0.0,0.0,0.12177039691169805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3793265465365235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12837731883958575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791192822781608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601398683937125,0.0,0.0,0.09654823573855023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432952695698212,0.0,0.0,0.12322690710209065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897832146231041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056236599033696835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09786182695548908,0.1038906548731172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564278302211388,0.12538779421562626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461859436365707,0.0,0.0,0.11117329791109007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15960461683213958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513226809512361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289487816672006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835155171259312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830272977056302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938769783068366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861677776121257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10848917121603728,0.0,0.08654788261287183,0.09252051062276066,0.10061061875264388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309432181057807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815167185835943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949772436794608,0.06789445892693705,0.0913684197950828,0.09233375268822776,0.0,0.10349710216105247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fishred,2019/03/11,"Challenges with the telephone and a non-custodial parent My son is five. His mom and I have been separated for about ten months and had a formal separation agreement in place for about seven, and I have had full custody the whole time. She has  typically seen him for 15-30 minutes 2-3 evenings per week and for a longer visit (anywhere from 2-7 hours) every second or third weekend on average. (This is even less than the separation agreement calls for, but that's another story.) 

Our separation agreement calls for the custodial parent to be flexible and reasonable with communication and stipulates that the parent exercising overnight parenting time is supposed to facilitate one phone call per day with the other parent. Since I have all the overnights, I try to facilitate at least one phone call per day. 

My problem is that these phone calls seem to create stress and anxiety for our son. I know he loves and misses his mom, but he also wants to have a non-phone relationship with her. And he's never been enthusiastic about talking on the phone anyway. If I ask him if he wants to call his mom, the answer is, invariably, no. If I try to give him some choice in the matter--""do you want to read a book first or call Mom first?""--the choice is always to do it later, if the other option is a good one. So I tried simply listing our responsibilities: before we can have our bedtime story we have to brush teeth, call mom, and get our PJs on. He'll say ""do the worst thing first thing,"" by which he means make the phone call. 

I don't want him to associate phone calls with his mom as a punishment or unpleasant chore, but that seems to be how he views them. Some nights he will get downright upset at the prospect, and I'm never quite sure how far to push it. If she calls, he almost never wants to answer. If he calls and can leave a message instead of actually talking to her, then he is very happy. She calls and leaves messages too, and sometimes he wants to hear them and other times not so much. 

When he does call, he sometimes has a good conversation, but more frequently he will just say ""I just called to say I hope you had a good day and I hope you have a good night"" and then either hang up or sit silently while she asks him questions. It's sort of a tough thing to see. But sometimes they do have good conversations, so it isn't always that rough. 

I guess I'm just not sure the best way to navigate it all. Has anyone else had issues with things like this? Is there any advice for getting him more comfortable with speaking on the phone? I would say that on those occasions when he seems really upset at the notion and objects to calling, I have generally been flexible if he talked to her the night before, but if he didn't talk to her the day before I am more insistent that he make the call so that two days not go by without some attempt at a call. Again, I don't want the phone calls to be punitive. But I also want him to maintain contact and I want to fulfill my obligations as well. And I want to facilitate their relationship as best I can, though I know that I also can't make up for the choices she's made that have prevented her from being physically present. I want him, for his sake, to have a positive relationship with his mom, but I know that he's understandably unhappy with this dynamic as well. I'm just not sure how best to make the best of this particular aspect of the situation. ",7.479928457869632,6.55245385735736,7.499261614555732,76.18537360890302,63.729729729729726,10.778237060590005,32.951598657481014,9.987195323819016,2.9154982865218164,2703,89,538,49,34,872,270,666,0.106,0.764,0.13,0.8951,5,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,7,3,4,9,30,33,1,3,38,0,49,3,1,9,8,114,92,61,0,23,30,14,1,1,0,4,1,6,1,0,30,32,0,1,12,4,0,4,14,8,2,11,10,11,66,25,77,74,19,51,0,1,3,1,124,16,0,25,30,368,96,3,0.0,0.0,0.03592006907361344,0.0,0.0,0.03596912334415885,0.0,0.0,0.03685868592557597,0.0,0.0,0.088307927616311,0.0612557235413133,0.0,0.0,0.025031239263713208,0.03859722548044394,0.028158623416006907,0.0,0.0,0.025737561646903943,0.03771495497023918,0.0,0.0,0.06882249920770891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396470696985602,0.0,0.1545142157233581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7141319064653494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869312139871285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032211619968683984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030749020643407426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048623716968505024,0.0,0.03101299292254873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392861329721357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05769322026786047,0.03531034519067463,0.020919283479274273,0.1543673323457601,0.0,0.0,0.04054903177985193,0.0,0.0,0.0391836411557599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04148618124042505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311886726752535,0.036249243347144994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03841881328521378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06068744465658602,0.0,0.0,0.07795038717148878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01798291539275369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033221369869141364,0.034829366869837716,0.0982806119578823,0.0,0.0,0.040095562914686994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30177006785758703,0.029380424809775263,0.0,0.02705869574693869,0.0,0.08516762355754234,0.0,0.0,0.10362766708075212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482776568021679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20435902500727648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03845735094724141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035221040664297244,0.0,0.0,0.041234268618030624,0.03915067879282537,0.0368187507408658,0.0,0.023580653262929883,0.03784556636814753,0.0,0.1185565946903828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708730805390513,0.0,0.0,0.02933183978832668,0.10052801926703944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030448611260680106,0.04137462191762646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921450281168807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042164344305704315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407554620287199,0.0,0.0,0.11834204366637005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781649734099697,0.0,0.03616444905037476,0.0,0.06439050395180873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497225616305593,0.0,0.03595683906879085,0.03831924827143735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030371106479986167,0.2388185567137775,0.029217104003036374,0.029525790873180607,0.0,0.06619104510364067,0.0,0.0,0.04109569924893002,0.0,0.035482359803529886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02614790814944927,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DT6254,2019/03/11,"5 yr old driving me crazy My son who is 5 has been getting in trouble a lot. Most of the time I have chalked it up to him being 5 and not fully understanding social norms. Yes he would be punished for things if I was made aware of it, or if I would catch him personally. Punishments would be anything from sitting in the corner to being in his room all night. It also depends on what he would do. 

So lately I have been getting informed a lot more than normal, to the point of being called down for a conference, a parent pulling me aside, him being suspended from riding the bus, and now he might be suspended from school caused he is out of control. The school has asked if he can see the school counselor and also has asked me to speak with them once a week. 

His mother is deployed since Nov. and wont be back tell later in the year. But his behavior has only recently gotten worse.  He is 5 and I just don't know how to approach any of this. I'm missing so much work cause I have to do early pick up cause he got in trouble, and I believe that my job is hanging on by a thread. His sister (3) is starting to act up as well, same style behavior. Won't listen, hitting, kicking, back talk. 

I'm just at a loss on how to do this. I was a stay at home father for 5 years and you would think I could do this I am loosing my shit. ",2.9577075812274387,3.862955483754515,4.252655234657041,89.24150992779785,73.58483754512635,6.839638989169675,25.402346570397114,6.961326702584282,0.8998174729241879,1027,32,226,9,20,339,155,277,0.114,0.868,0.018000000000000002,-0.9756,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,1,1,3,12,8,3,0,15,1,41,1,1,9,1,43,58,19,0,10,8,5,0,0,0,8,0,2,2,1,10,9,0,1,4,0,0,7,4,7,1,0,7,3,25,1,38,33,7,41,0,2,1,0,32,18,1,9,14,161,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135324105081066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710796454848906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933089486747739,0.0,0.21200559721145884,0.0,0.0,0.17437728035681638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12774983880454438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578218036931365,0.0,0.0,0.34944320140452045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271746733221579,0.09053136898068463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848146326901532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906870197141586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373775765790654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252043877941993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231527042160327,0.0,0.12790699482276746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279743646857944,0.0,0.10729079601500212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028711807987187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335348203905872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640728298643473,0.1110965059190662,0.0,0.0,0.11898199672257195,0.1207548894864892,0.0,0.0862369477443211,0.0,0.0,0.12590434128659533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900633143989852,0.0,0.0,0.10718863873528857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195731387881916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442651835387001,0.0903558325144124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639150926894093,0.09379601277044253,0.0,0.0,0.11558514093950865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025685596334856,0.12085689162962435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113725864194948,0.09910641350406199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533017971827838,0.0726546746537803,0.0,0.0,0.0661176572690777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804126859680017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909532928805373,0.0,0.10194974179080746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254806742482006,0.0,0.11555241313460213,0.4027391439479597,0.0,0.0,0.1460367564071301
parenting,NorthernFace,2019/03/11,"How to strengthen 3mo back/neck to hold up head Hey guys, as title states....

I’m a father of a 3mo boy with Down’s syndrome. He’s meeting all/most milestones just perfectly but he is still having some troubles holding his head up.... 
still looks a little top heavy hahaha

Any advice / exercises to help strength in his neck and back?",4.177968749999998,5.866457109375002,4.52075,85.44925000000002,71.65625,6.995000000000001,26.8625,7.554174236665415,1.4414100000000003,261,9,50,3,5,82,51,64,0.056,0.687,0.257,0.9241,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,3,0,2,4,3,1,1,9,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,10,4,1,10,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,1,3,25,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641442554224823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382038378728655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157041206659807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676498559475649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5548330380293407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811834050610724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709220964527362,0.0,0.0,0.226992709004393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.431740568928005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,askryan,2019/03/11,"Birthday party gift solution – is this a good idea? My older daughter is turning four next month, and she's about to have her first real birthday party with her friends –– we've booked a party at a local trampoline gym, and she is BEYOND excited. Our plan had been to have a ""no gifts please"" party (which is pretty common, maybe 50%, for our town, apparently) – I don't particularly care how many toys she has or whatever, but I always feel uncomfortable asking for financial participation from other parents given the wide variety of socioeconomic situations in our area, especially as it also puts pressure on the children socially. My family ran a preschool for 30 years that also hosted birthday parties, and the present bit is always kind of a mess.

The problem is that a few weeks ago she went to a birthday party for a friend at the same trampoline gym, who DID get presents (we got her something –– my daughter loves picking out presents for people), and now she's been talking about how she's excited for her friends to give her presents at her party. She's a very sweet, kind, and thoughtful little girl, but her feelings are easily hurt, and I don't think she'd quite understand why her friend gets presents but not her – likewise, one of the big reasons we didn't want presents was that I worry she would be hurt if one friend decided to give her something, but not another.

We thought of this as a solution – on the invitation, ask for no gifts, but cards if possible. I will wrap a box containing one of her larger birthday presents and bring it to the party. There will be a slot at the top for kids to put their cards in, and when she gets home and opens her present, there will be all her cards and a nice gift ""from all her friends."" Does this seem like a good solution?


She is an angel of a child, my very best friend –– we had a second daughter in December, and she has been nothing but loving and helpful and patient about it, never complaining once. My wife and I don't have any particular parenting philosophy riding on this; we just want to do what would make her the happiest. ",11.454469696969696,7.6520854065656625,10.439333333333334,67.23900000000003,58.57070707070707,13.792323232323234,43.571717171717175,11.4731,4.778297171717171,1655,68,309,32,15,528,198,396,0.084,0.6709999999999999,0.245,0.9974,3,0,2,0,0,0,45.0,8,0,1,5,13,26,0,1,28,0,34,2,0,5,3,59,60,30,0,7,12,6,2,1,7,5,0,0,1,4,14,22,0,1,10,4,0,6,9,6,0,6,14,3,47,20,42,37,6,45,1,2,0,2,64,20,0,4,20,212,61,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007793131219339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444842675238086,0.1503345495655053,0.0,0.0,0.061431975042115984,0.0947257851450787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890502340381694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948026718130752,0.0,0.09862415299652624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210416822859374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790541536171939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516129185118729,0.0,0.09135378258315036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684025238787448,0.0,0.0,0.488556746143922,0.0,0.14159141024761016,0.17331816628245045,0.0,0.1515400817047044,0.07225041880363367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060550708188256974,0.0,0.09061495956611484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341436358336966,0.10197900777597477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814330219111355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04413389197208488,0.09054098965923993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306458846602467,0.0,0.06030037144098715,0.09158711751010497,0.09075524090976872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210579966199945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696731428231484,0.0,0.09607398216268302,0.0,0.0,0.08668038894889478,0.0,0.0,0.09620551392564076,0.18364322218709345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20061617232155915,0.0,0.0,0.062628013060453,0.0,0.0,0.0991624419049148,0.0,0.10184092538527294,0.0,0.09190478273857676,0.0,0.0864399108750116,0.0,0.1816264365433521,0.0,0.0960840770664252,0.0,0.10282281003595924,0.0,0.09288105411357474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223903346778752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101542105616211,0.0,0.09208677125655616,0.0,0.13909103195533376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260912450591744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057884035535879626,0.0,0.14343431435038131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098260262826658,0.0,0.09404357006231508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907428558558594,0.10656571582464043,0.0,0.07246255884139947,0.0,0.0,0.08374291861414979,0.08151471630045115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174118631613612,0.0,0.12834503509134074,0.0,0.0,0.05817379843552219
parenting,throwaway717762,2019/03/11,"My toddler is obsessed with me being fat... My 4yr old son is special needs, he was nonverbal until almost 3yrs old...he now talks well, but definitely not as he should be. So having those sit-down, learning type conversations doesnt work very well with him, he just doesnt comprehend a whole lot and he cant hold a real conversation very well. 

He started talking about my ""big fat belly"" after xmas, im guessing it came from Santa talk. I dont really get offended by it, because I know hes just being a goofball, he doesnt mean it to be mean, but I worry hes gonna say it to someone who WILL be hurt by it. When I tried telling him you dont say things about people being fat, that it's not nice and hurts people's feelings, he hit me with the ultimate jaw dropper. He says ""but mom, I LOVE your big fat belly, its beautiful!"" WELL SHIT. Lol. It's so embarrassing though, his drawing he did at pre-k today was of our family, and of course, my stick figure has a giant belly. Ugh. 

How the heck do I handle this? He isnt comprehending the conversation I'm trying to have with him about it, and hes not meaning it offensively, how can I get this across that it's not okay, even if he means it in a not bad way, when I cant really get the point across verbally? ",3.414827586206897,4.123654563218395,5.165383141762455,83.85543103448279,72.33333333333334,8.252107279693488,25.227969348659002,8.515128840125781,1.483461302681992,975,28,211,16,18,334,148,261,0.103,0.7490000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.9109,0,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,1,2,0,1,18,17,3,2,9,2,29,7,6,2,0,37,46,17,0,3,11,2,1,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,19,9,4,1,8,0,0,1,13,9,4,0,4,4,24,8,22,32,2,18,0,2,0,1,35,8,2,4,8,130,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522166995214187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773676769623996,0.06405532315811713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12018264543155036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463041494041691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940384023778036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905934601592832,0.0,0.053131215849692486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646986817098845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115756618329627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497897753988175,0.0,0.11350359983880053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057748796622754124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08933460348229921,0.09483810743516624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4578483450086381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306752391576516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791491742094613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22052595083079232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569741442828993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993338367420148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960316825020252,0.13463289059723216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506896632555461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786231933059688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903329038979106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437561967158422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533761136778136,0.09184387837419254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980997111421107,0.0,0.10323980973339923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09960282323085676,0.0,0.0,0.1426837988651243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340273869617204,0.0,0.08340700155649558,0.0,0.0,0.3779153882884273,0.0,0.0,0.11731720744344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649893076071289,0.1067130584994194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zoeys_Protector,2019/03/11,"Any Parents with A Special Needs child out there? I have a daughter { 6 yrs } with tetraplegia Cerebral Palsy and whole bunch of other medical issues unfortunately. I was wondering from all of you reading this is ..  how do you do it all?  From the PT, OT, speech, IEPs, DR.Appts and parent conference meetings, getting groceries, working, sex. Im exhausted every frigging day. im just looking to see if your way is better than my way. I know it'll only get harder from here but any ideas would help. ",3.0851086956521736,5.84473120652174,3.902347826086957,83.47091304347828,79.32608695652175,5.853913043478261,28.76521739130435,7.1686216300943375,1.8710660869565208,389,18,67,5,10,124,74,92,0.038,0.8759999999999999,0.086,0.644,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,2,4,3,0,0,3,0,8,3,0,1,2,16,15,5,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,7,2,10,12,4,4,0,0,2,1,9,1,0,2,1,43,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569154417900283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167065714997355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182415501015105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591554595836194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973837440654148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266149422529562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132438507642912,0.4080864267125548,0.1971613607347043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381388825640453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586274898230638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902957556537557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006613130805926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436661158032733,0.0,0.0,0.41949971905414507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18895000589242195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505279562537807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29987828823349216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108988615580587,0.0,0.0,0.20485278524971995,0.13752063963524933,0.0,0.0,0.1341883496723107,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hbools,2019/03/11,"Extreme seperation anxiety in 2 year old Hey r/Parenting! I'm curious if anyone has advice or tips for a toddler that has pretty extreme reactions whenever his mother leaves his side. It's gotten to the point that just leaving his field of view can elicit some epic wailing, would love to figure out an effective way to mitigate this!",6.907258064516133,7.990978274193552,7.584032258064513,68.29604838709679,64.64516129032258,11.361290322580645,36.467741935483865,11.20814326018867,4.717729032258063,271,13,42,8,4,90,55,62,0.025,0.775,0.2,0.9133,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,2,0,9,7,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,7,5,1,7,0,0,1,1,6,4,0,3,2,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695717809314465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110357316802274,0.0,0.0,0.19289100442075394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5842017469554598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489786519098207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894735852174053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063150902707318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607812980448233,0.0,0.0,0.2806535634201592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189685493415518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19596635981464894,0.0,0.0,0.17764781485917494
parenting,poohbear1025,2019/03/11,"Fed up. I’m a married, working mother, and come home to a shit show mess and screaming child, dog hasn’t been walked all day, have to start dinner, just everything is everywhere. 

So, I walk in the door, tidy up, change my one year old, get dinner started, the usual. Daughter burns her tongue on her Mac and cheese, she starts crying, I’m trying to get her cold water, and make her something else to eat. Finally my husband gets off the couch, takes the dog out and comes back to scream at me that I’m “running around not getting anything done, pissing everyone off, go away.” 

I’m frustrated, my husband doesn’t see the mess or anything until I’m upset, dogs whining at the door and our child is screaming. How clueless can you be while you’re on the couch in the same room as everyone?!

Just venting that I wish I had help. Shout out to all be single parents because having a spouse that you have to take care of also just feels like I have a teenager and a toddler. ",5.869881009043312,5.737559481675394,5.761922893860067,84.67897191813424,66.74869109947645,8.201999048072347,31.499762018086624,7.348242739294969,1.8672052356020936,755,27,152,6,11,236,122,191,0.163,0.782,0.055,-0.9633,1,0,1,0,1,0,28.0,1,2,0,1,8,12,3,1,13,0,14,7,2,2,2,25,37,14,0,1,5,6,1,1,0,0,0,4,6,2,3,12,5,1,1,1,0,6,3,10,0,1,4,7,16,2,24,31,4,32,0,1,1,0,17,15,2,1,12,92,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978645577837504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465276758086924,0.13334424161823705,0.0,0.0,0.14073198596704822,0.11517873218688597,0.0,0.09131017208236623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527201828074525,0.0,0.1584572268917337,0.25806045180129605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16453652166977384,0.09660171213211508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328646818968972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153271857394452,0.12512974659082146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28626020643618144,0.13462097188391198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573797497212363,0.10700951182194383,0.0,0.1640868656651995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130349251702581,0.0,0.08512871583714535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10040061597082517,0.0,0.15025088935910655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317948991464522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998552646356654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717868185038894,0.0,0.10150111192273427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632330056463338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936268547605915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375657250168567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153151276192797,0.0,0.0,0.3180649302563571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524583675508245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169710794823504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497176108482434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225031228660567,0.0,0.0,0.10904840046837784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645940354867358
parenting,Bright_Light7,2019/03/11,"Father's of Babycenter add its, unite! Alright guys, where are you at? Anyone else have a wife, significant other, spouse, or other, that is constantly on baby center? My wife is always on there each pregnancy, not to find tips and tricks typically but for the drama or symptom responses. If she's not pregnant, she's not on it but man when she's pregnant, she lives on it. ",3.923708920187796,5.963599704225353,5.14612676056338,79.24388497652583,73.08450704225352,8.11361502347418,25.91784037558686,8.841846274778883,2.124519248826291,293,10,53,6,6,97,53,71,0.018000000000000002,0.929,0.052000000000000005,0.3187,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,12,4,7,0,1,8,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,8,4,1,9,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,3,2,39,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29845783399469394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25080356438069323,0.3675190861808461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3876151902100522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996384849654085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32783508525297445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551583269088848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167288014459611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728150257152363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kamuka,2019/03/11,"Never thought I would say this. I found myself saying, ""don't put anything in your ear, .....or your nose, your vajina or your butt."" She found a bead and she was putting it near her ear.",2.4309909909909915,3.889397324324329,2.933513513513514,95.99774774774777,75.75675675675676,6.014414414414415,20.44144144144144,6.42735559955562,-0.06638018018018021,139,3,32,1,3,43,29,37,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,1,8,6,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,5,10,0,2,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,9,2,1,2,1,22,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216202927007228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5905719852906285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077095141993344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5414645783373772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283343868052079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21380312804932008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131105479471655,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,indp_variable,2019/03/11,"Nurseries, What to look for ? Hey everyone. 

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I'm looking for a nursery for my baby brother and I'm curious to find out what's your experience with nurseries. I'm based in England so the nursers are private.  


My question is... Do you get constant updates on what their child does in nursery? 

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What to look for when looking for a nursery? Any Redflags?

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What form is that information sent in? Do they send letters? Books? digital content?

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I want to know what my baby brother does so I can track his progerss over time and also help him out at home. 

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Your thoughts are apprecaiated

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parenting,throwaway13131696,2019/03/11,"Advice Needed: Do I say something to my helicoptering bro and sis? I’m the parent of two elementary school aged kids.  I’m very close with my brother and his wife...we get along great and we love spending time with each other, along with their preschool aged (almost 4 YO) child.

Here’s the issue.  I respect any and all parenting styles and completely understand the anxiety that comes along with being a first time parent.  But I’m beginning to feel that they way they approach some situations is stifling their child and setting their kid up for a fear of failure/massive anxiety.  And I don’t know if I should just let it go or try to say something gently (I’m MASSIVELY non-confrontational).  Examples include:

Not letting kid climb stairs by themself, even one carpeted flight.  Insisting that a parent walk along side them on the journey down.  If the kid sneaks off and tries on their own, parent yells “you don’t know how to do that yet!”

Kiddo was playing with mine and they were lightly horsing around and little kiddo attempts a somersault.  Parent jumps up and yells “don’t do that!  OMG you could break your neck!”

Parent is irrationally petrified of dry drowning.  ASIDE from the fact that they won’t let kiddo splash around the pool WITH A USCG approved life vest (puddle jumper with full zip enclosure so it cannot slip off) on unless kid is in a parent’s arms, parent freaks out if kiddo catches a mouth full of water in the bath and coughs.  Asks whether they should go to instacare.  I mean, not to compare but I guess to compare honestly, my spouse and I were throwing our kids into the pool (with proper safety precautions and supervision of course) by 18 months.  Helicopter parent, on the flip side, is petrified of kiddo putting head/face underwater for fear kid doesn’t know not to inhale the water...

I could go on but I’m asking for advice here.  Do I just let this go?  I mean the parents have already mentioned that their kid is terrified of playground equipment.  I can’t help but think it is because they aren’t giving the child the necessary freedom to explore and problem solve on their own.

Again...being non-confrontational and not wanting to create family discord I’ve said nothing.  But should I?  What say you...I’m open to suggestions!",4.577833333333332,6.848505211904764,4.637142857142859,82.59619047619049,71.88095238095238,7.428571428571428,27.857142857142854,8.256446698504663,2.028,1799,68,319,29,36,558,223,420,0.08,0.833,0.086,0.5225,12,0,2,0,0,0,58.0,2,3,13,4,10,9,0,2,21,0,32,8,3,1,2,77,60,29,1,11,17,15,1,0,0,4,2,6,2,11,13,37,2,0,9,4,1,14,12,4,0,3,4,9,35,5,54,45,7,50,0,0,0,1,56,25,0,7,8,203,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674156616922652,0.0,0.0,0.06493802387743973,0.0,0.07156371591848172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044100302877618534,0.0,0.09922032290769553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546070502970684,0.12125220920461888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039532028969040865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055862632955998685,0.06799411309753056,0.0,0.0,0.10355508189982077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04283289018884509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061134918118974174,0.14594882044759128,0.03279016732061001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05516147578154103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03388150916797476,0.06221014074518549,0.14742326222036256,0.0,0.0,0.07149748214292394,0.07143971435237596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655492856526025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04346766596264803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676866728101926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691978379607962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652545505162936,0.04580555497640055,0.0,0.06499685325230714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05852976186290471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128157619024745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05176274411081558,0.0,0.0,0.048085539510933716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06222543559075468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04394411712749679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7920921760215464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062052803083230634,0.0,0.06519227858662459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06168731111224322,0.1547142460837232,0.0,0.06563177986077058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289424781534405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984957560920794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041553335981157465,0.0,0.0,0.07562924863076388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805794416531823,0.0,0.06334914051795272,0.06751125811269018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053508137586996386,0.038250278792232965,0.051475003780921375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gehoheros3,2019/03/11,"Do you tell your children about nasty things in life? I wonder if there is any parenting advice for this question.

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Do you explain to your young children that there may be nasty, bad things in life, and that real life may be cruel to people. When you have a job, your boss may be incompetent or does not like you. You may be angry about politicians. The government may lie to you....

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Should you tell your children those things?",4.760557491289198,7.057199585365857,3.800522648083625,88.67914634146345,71.4390243902439,6.149128919860628,25.12891986062717,6.868970318607317,0.939360278745645,354,11,65,3,7,103,50,82,0.243,0.757,0.0,-0.9731,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,11,0,0,5,3,1,0,2,0,14,3,0,1,0,15,16,4,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,12,1,8,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,9,3,50,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942574105353813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535402572343917,0.3964838718029651,0.11094581958317176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622125575892288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142771380189235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189861025822475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457074786371549,0.07970557373226632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18115586911046794,0.0,0.0,0.11310585787114898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827624145390168,0.0,0.0,0.18569744702922936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28519601928390764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325163629093194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692638476748646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964838718029651,0.0
parenting,Inked_Cellist,2019/03/11,"What ebook apps/programs do you use? My 3-year-old loves books and being read to, so we subscribed to Amazon Unlimited Freetime on a spare Kindle Fire that we had. It worked pretty well until an update a couple months back and now it is basically unusable (memory issues, extremely long load time, etc) so I am looking for alternatives.

I came across [Epic](https://www.getepic.com/features) (I'd like to slap whoever named it because it is *impossible* to search for reviews) which seems pretty well-liked, but $8/month (Freetime is $3 with our Prime subscription).  I also found LeVar Burton's [Skybrary](https://www.levarburtonkids.com/skybrary) but I can't tell how good the selection is.

Are there others that I have missed? Or have you guys used any of these?",6.014318181818182,8.904203613636367,5.327272727272729,76.46090909090911,69.68181818181819,8.036363636363637,26.15151515151515,8.841846274778883,2.2359424242424244,615,20,99,12,12,186,105,132,0.061,0.8340000000000001,0.105,0.3466,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,3,2,0,1,8,5,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,3,0,15,20,10,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,3,2,11,4,11,16,1,10,0,1,1,1,9,2,0,2,8,62,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541629023609806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365650690694095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398226856273485,0.0,0.11084714376727133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20797495539281968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120099034152011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20279814423226572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19937667696914851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525176192621946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004883668897467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189792291157013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883717174541163,0.0,0.0,0.16092146931909618,0.15269865566872068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411646700356458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902837262784321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908090582558977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.369990526715199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188784252056328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16553906337958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893498133102166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603157002832164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31410039330508754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269895405419013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238069153352988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117098118742128
parenting,StrictBeach4,2019/03/11,"My daughter is three years old and her daycare insists that she takes a nap. I think she is too old and needs to get used to not having naps. What to do? My daughter goes to daycare from 7:30 to 5:30 each day while me and her mother are at work. She sleeps very well at night, if a little too much. So she's not short on night sleep at all.

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My issue is that the daycare makes all of the children take a nap after lunch. I think three year olds are too old to nap and children should give their naps up by their second birthday at the latest. She is not going to have a nap time when she goes to school, so she needs to be used to it. I have tried to tell the daycare not to let her sleep, but they say she sleeps every day. She does not need 11 hours of sleep and a nap. Babies sleep and I told her big girls don't sleep during the day.",2.3389818468824006,3.513444591160223,2.7515903709550145,98.36222375690608,75.46408839779005,5.1714285714285735,19.558405682715076,3.1291,-0.7079284925019729,665,12,158,0,14,204,95,181,0.0,0.99,0.01,0.177,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,3,1,7,1,0,0,10,0,14,8,7,3,2,25,28,12,0,5,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,7,1,0,2,7,0,1,6,0,1,3,1,1,24,1,23,24,4,27,0,0,0,0,26,9,0,1,17,103,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932172161536046,0.2235328121857893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17795948851096696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049277759577082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749755971046612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04805602814884278,0.08823610128972316,0.05227465225894075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058228942205933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600377119395467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09405631906051834,0.0,0.0,0.09218865057024787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139771492393896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761626956071873,0.20460718223914773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263498425327925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38607235433769177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314660560096893,0.0,0.0930892022787771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6443286682270045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383158159189367,0.0,0.08039503337780878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178748132905667,0.0,0.0,0.053634584030146135,0.0,0.0,0.08789133372839197,0.0,0.06244873896493415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15888328291398338,0.0,0.07589356640888242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270153872327363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669629179510165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235328121857893,0.11846488527462402
parenting,dinidein,2019/03/11,"Baby toys I have a nine month old daughter. She has lots of toys but since she started to be mobile she's mostly interested in anything but her toys. For some of the things I'm totally fine with letting her play with but others like cords, plants etc. of course not. 
So did you experience the same and what kind of toys did catch babies attention?
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parenting,johnbvergara18,2019/03/11,"The dangers of Cyberstalking Cyberstalking is a modern life taboo that's insufficiently discussed. It's impartial to all factors like gender and age.

Please share this public awareness video with everyone and help them stay safe:   [www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9sroT0Y51o](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9sroT0Y51o)  ",17.03368421052631,23.1721,8.609736842105267,50.25565789473686,49.0,10.115789473684213,35.8157894736842,10.125756701596842,5.0305052631578935,272,10,25,6,4,66,35,38,0.071,0.642,0.287,0.8299,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4534328275593408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31806680890171185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351738902621331,0.2318309166645934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5208903810263688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057848122332552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VividLotus,2019/03/11,"Parents of speech-delayed kids: what score did your kid get on the PLS-5 language assessment, and what are things like for them now? My daughter was finally able to get a formal speech assessment, and she scored even worse than I'd expected on the PLS-5 language assessment, getting just 15 (standard: 50) on expressive language, and landing her overall in the first percentile.

For others who've had this assessment done, what scores did your kids get, and what did things look like for them down the road, if this was in the past for you? And what did you do to get there?

 I am really worried about getting my daughter to start talking more, because I have a strong feeling that her inability to communicate (she also cannot sign or point) is contributing to how incredibly upset she has been lately and to the behaviors that have gotten her kicked out of every activity and care situation we've tried.",11.05116883116883,8.779687000000003,9.622251082251086,68.05909090909091,57.78787878787879,13.064935064935064,42.359307359307365,11.491704259439757,4.7649307359307365,725,31,126,15,7,224,104,165,0.065,0.855,0.08,0.3854,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,4,2,2,7,5,0,1,8,0,17,0,0,1,0,16,28,11,0,2,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,12,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,10,3,16,4,21,18,1,16,0,0,1,0,20,10,0,2,8,91,28,0,0.18155635063899106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519054801149833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067506620440734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18510879957292467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579518172225584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991625729833005,0.0,0.1529690558745445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918003460410334,0.0,0.0,0.1988861077207055,0.0,0.15443173910542107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5691341984810583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048034715587839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739852431342026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15246160840140227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159684163908445,0.0,0.1733160802142015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716294355524946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630964723539294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20407694503112211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850651944768626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459281174112897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24123594398927026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326484441202028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18437928702887835,0.18502143209410205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momoshah19n,2019/03/11,"My mom won't let me get this job! Hello,

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I am 20 years old studying mechanical engineering, I've had 4 jobs over the course of 4 years and they were all at basic places like a reception hall, car wash company, a warehouse & Mcdonalds, where I got $11-$12-h. So it's not that my mom doesn't allow me to work, but she's not allowing me to get this particular job. Yesterday I met up with one of my uncles and he's a truck driver, he told me that if I could get a class 1 driver license I can work for him during the weekend and he will be paying me minimum $20/h. Yesterday I just volunteered at his work to see if I'd like it and during the entire 10 hours of work I did not break a sweat. Driving a truck seemed super easy and at the terminal when the truck was being loaded with the container, sometimes we had to wait 1-2 hours. So I ended up doing my homework. So if my calculations are correct I would be making $20880 a year just by working 10h a day on weekends and because I'm a student I wouldn't be taxed a lot. Whereas during the weekdays I could study for exams, do homework, go to the gym and the same thing after work. Not only that, but I always had a dream of getting a private pilot license and maybe someday a commercial one, but for now a private license will do and that would cost me $10000, so with doing this job I could start that next year! and that leaves me with $10000 which I would pay for my portion of the bills and invest in stocks. I would move out, but I don't see the point because my father passed away 2 years ago and my mom is alone and she's always depressed and I have two smaller brothers so I would just end up paying extra for rent for no reason when my mom has a spare room and me and my brothers are really close so I don't feel like leaving them. But now the problem comes with my mom, she's upset because she thinks my concentration will start diverting from studying and start focusing on making money, which I believe would not be true. I'm switching into aerospace engineering next semester and I plan to keep the studying aspect my number 1 priority. She also says that driving a truck is a disgraceful job which I completely disagree. By the way, she has agreed to pay for my private pilot license if I don't do this job. So what do you guys recommend me on doing, listen to my mom or do as what I just said above.

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Thank you for taking the time to read my post!",6.6402994011976055,5.256345540918165,7.2758994011976075,78.591405988024,65.64670658682635,10.012007984031936,33.21365269461078,8.841846274778883,2.5717359041916166,1920,66,395,25,25,639,232,501,0.059,0.8740000000000001,0.067,0.6548,7,1,0,0,0,0,56.0,1,2,2,8,17,9,0,1,32,0,47,2,1,5,3,74,74,39,0,15,19,9,1,3,0,11,1,3,4,1,19,28,0,3,4,5,10,7,12,3,0,3,10,6,62,6,46,44,5,57,0,1,2,0,32,20,0,7,30,264,81,25,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058279126835628324,0.0,0.0,0.06809216896001233,0.0,0.052576389117401735,0.10941049722860476,0.21370459439403236,0.15977515671575174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06176975190882988,0.0,0.0,0.12023293718602727,0.0,0.0,0.07407229334039024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566336429338067,0.06893256044339226,0.0,0.0,0.15747650679788958,0.0,0.0,0.04240019602768992,0.0,0.056626219037601476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646141377298777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03324273363981838,0.046968362961026924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739655227414632,0.0,0.03736449550856883,0.0,0.05258241880610463,0.0,0.0,0.06509805526275994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949149922609166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914516226111494,0.0584373283725513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922928546983565,0.0,0.06722889123548742,0.0,0.09635930820803076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589419291254659,0.0,0.0,0.08777082369283629,0.0,0.06604986054594851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4619996947350986,0.0,0.06987671161089068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984146943641956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898849694005399,0.0,0.08910125809502459,0.05000216477666528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868971005451986,0.0,0.06215043686516945,0.0,0.06296569972119842,0.0,0.0,0.06290924911515705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576296210389715,0.0,0.0421180397409304,0.06759698514449068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253871266378036,0.05228319842102841,0.0,0.0,0.10478077770826344,0.05985193403190316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502365475090459,0.0,0.1396043102627335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04943218614891143,0.0,0.0,0.060529319879069725,0.0,0.0,0.043678169942850384,0.042126850600096334,0.0,0.0,0.038336537642975815,0.0,0.0,0.06282232788597743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422347845800963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05218545617857431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871796029893421,0.0,0.0,0.2802208969279081,0.0,0.15977515671575174,0.21168867139664949
parenting,Midwestmamax2,2019/03/11,"Kind of a creepy story about my 4 year old and I having the same dream 

Last night I had a nightmare. I dreamt that I was in this big house and there was this creepy Michael Meyers kind of dude trying to find me. I was hiding behind a locked door I could hear him knocking on different doors in the house trying to get me to come out. I woke up at 2:30am all sweaty and could not fall back asleep because of that dream.

At about 7am I was dropping my boys off at their babysitter. While we were driving in the car, my 4 year old says to me, “mom who was knocking on my door last night”.

It gave me chills when he said that. What the heck?? I can’t stop thinking about it.

Has anyone else experienced something like that?",2.052104989604992,3.808669439189192,2.4040540540540545,98.10393970893972,77.58108108108108,5.094386694386695,19.49272349272349,5.369823440869387,-0.5085869022869023,559,12,129,2,13,170,93,148,0.032,0.917,0.051,0.3899,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,7,0,12,1,1,0,1,14,19,5,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,1,10,6,0,1,2,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,10,4,20,3,22,7,2,29,0,0,0,0,11,12,1,0,13,81,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125994084118684,0.16499937624977135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382596628277576,0.0,0.09816543449358163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871738383010027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571466700248393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824728873521294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452406957550694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718306235914486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413413516865607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181498136032686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716255121841083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353863201858665,0.0,0.2625300178347853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867356133125865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188602232595394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30224085633997555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379582634682516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318115098054946,0.1280614865568846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239726018281758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463246129781287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318471850869612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866437354808366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074025060823626
parenting,thomasjford,2019/03/11,"Please can someone help me with hints and tips as to how to bond with my son? Hi everyone

I  have some issues that I want to explore and wondered if anyone can  provide me with advice and pointers. Basically, my son, who is coming up  to 8 years old, is the loveliest little boy. He's polite, well-mannered  and cute. But, he's also extremely sensitive, molly-coddled by my wife  and is generally lazy like me!

I find it  really hard to speak with him. I can't seem to find any common ground  with him because all he wants to do is play video games (partly my  fault)! All the other boys his age are playing football or just seem way  more grown up than he is. I feel like I'm snapping at him all the time  because he frustrates me because he doesn't want to do anything. It's  not helped because my wife caves into him all the time. I really don't  have any behavioural issues with him because he genuinely is the  loveliest little boy, and that's what makes it worse when I feel like  I'm having a go at him all the time.

I  recognise my worst traits in him (laziness which manifests itself in  fear of trying new things etc) and it upsets me and I end up getting  angry with him, not because of him, but because I don't want him to turn  out like me. I want him to be confident and succeed in life.

I  need to find some common ground with him away from Playstations and iPads but it's hard because any suggestion is met with indifference,  especially if it's something he's not tried before. Unfortunately I'm  not that great one on one with him because I've developed a bad trait  from my own dad that I don't have a great deal of patience with my son. I  generally hate to be this way with him because he's lovely and doesn't  essentially deserve it, but also that it makes me out to be the enemy  when, in my mind, it's my wife (who's lovely as well by the way) that is  doing him more long-term harm by doing everything for him.

I  also have a five year old daughter who I find lovely but my wife has a  tough time with, so there's that!! But she, like most girls, is  pro-active, willing to learn and help so I find I have a lot more  patience with her and therefore seem to always be telling my son off and  not her which isn't fair to him.

Any  tips on how I can make my relationship with my son better (it's not  terrible, I'll emphasise) and maybe some things you guys all do for some  one on one bonding time?",5.603361881150928,4.929387103448279,6.251192247013747,82.7663548944482,67.41784989858013,9.088693561715877,30.0239651416122,8.285830014693849,1.9009096085943962,1874,58,402,22,27,615,206,493,0.1,0.769,0.13,0.9251,0,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,0,1,0,2,12,26,2,2,14,0,37,4,0,6,6,90,64,35,0,8,16,11,4,5,0,1,1,1,0,5,28,34,0,0,13,4,0,4,13,10,1,5,1,5,62,16,61,58,19,44,0,0,0,3,64,21,0,13,21,268,90,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014473216103359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722125910902412,0.05972853828022901,0.0,0.0,0.1952574219851864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050191781182049464,0.0,0.05907063191548555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744173703439156,0.0,0.05993513617503265,0.4375776105075277,0.0,0.0610813626632439,0.0,0.0,0.063485519953985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06183400671057954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400429319143996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357772048302936,0.0,0.08005612445443731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06859096541990099,0.06451321014708651,0.0,0.0,0.08077492829657645,0.0725904712633457,0.10256243180088367,0.0,0.0,0.32803813820284144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03750323524684748,0.0,0.04079547679309013,0.0,0.0,0.15828025127628226,0.0,0.07107566063987633,0.0,0.0,0.1286054981555875,0.07087005845221027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434228069475485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984392819647135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05070188861351238,0.1753457780482826,0.1438892385661582,0.0,0.06352498551685859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102665695859241,0.19435870614889306,0.0,0.1437455217447143,0.0,0.07211486509890498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247955619535566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05322558954825685,0.0,0.06932769319401047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506466814338606,0.0,0.1945658977794633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773312425861895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879529654888726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197102701025532,0.0,0.0,0.07706721587207845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19604344867389786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082082260083125,0.05526144223394764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274080413195203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537780419701164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928388172440096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747079975136452,0.07807841759102929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21169499810216996,0.17093210044666235,0.0,0.0,0.12908163164915595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778447306546792,0.0,0.0,0.07315219129744137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245076283009478
parenting,melaniexmeow,2019/03/11,"Negative Language I'm here to vent and to get advice. My husband continues to talk ""negatively"" to my 19 month old. We had a talk a few months back about him calling the baby names when he isn't acting exactly like my husband wants. He would resort to calling him 'little idiot"" ""asshole"" etc. Now, the baby has had the flu for 8 days, and my husband has had the flu for 7, and he's still calling him ""little mother fuck er"" when he's whining and overall unhappy. The baby has the flu, croup, an ear infection, and probably sick of being in the house for a week. My husband is allowed to have mood swings whenever he wants and we just have to deal with it. Let the baby have a bad day though, and he's a mother fucker. I am at my wit's end. What can I say to really get across the fact that I will not stand for negative speak to my child!!!!!!",4.075717288491855,4.341874427745665,5.549416710457172,83.28800315291645,70.61849710982659,8.60304781923279,27.866001050972148,8.575989854853784,1.8579526011560688,648,21,137,10,11,220,100,173,0.199,0.785,0.016,-0.9859,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,0,0,0,9,7,3,0,15,0,17,8,1,1,2,19,23,10,0,3,2,6,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,1,3,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,3,3,15,1,19,16,2,20,0,1,0,2,27,5,2,0,14,90,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594803238813725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549322281606018,0.13626789403265044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4999462864480066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050518537290705,0.16825538116943875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445496353310687,0.0,0.1820147609569688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087877179892545,0.17053392092326178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831463466293955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668863771608408,0.0,0.07973286264796912,0.3271450565509844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605345490131987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125435372374526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596070327659438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10455217892645986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297857723148208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033432367332462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26235317541817593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034636130440386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925230067677437,0.0,0.13091180027531005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11593490396178205,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Reese1993,2019/03/11,"What do you do with all of your kids drawings? My daughter LOVES to draw and I honestly can’t keep them all. She’ll draw me 5-20 pictures a day. I keep my favorites but I honestly can’t keep them all. What do you tell your kids when they want you to keep every little single thing? My kids like a hoarder when it comes to papers, none are special because they ALL are. I want to keep all of them but there’s just too many. 

What would/do you do with them?",0.11960637300843402,2.2417457216494827,1.4738331771321462,100.20207122774136,86.62886597938144,4.352014995313964,18.096532333645733,5.565023196281405,-0.6299814432989694,353,9,84,2,11,112,54,97,0.03,0.792,0.17800000000000002,0.9085,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,6,6,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,0,5,19,18,5,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,21,5,8,17,7,5,0,0,0,1,19,1,0,0,4,59,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483778747822734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227705328252073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149278262069013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872254277058193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8372265104934556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09203542736730903,0.18881132628905575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002487677086678,0.0,0.0,0.1909928883388316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16465685076440278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515466680085066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222878518911351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382334558863754,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shrirammillenium,2019/03/11,"Top 5 Tricks to Help Your Children Conquer Stage Fear - Shriram Millennium School  Stage fears top the rundown of fears that people face throughout the world nearly equaling the fear of heights and flying. Everyone including great personalities or the common people experience such fears. Stage fear is experienced by children in school and college days the moment they are asked to step forward on the stage for a performance or just to make a simple announcement. And this is not the case with children who suffer stage fear but sometimes even a confident child can experience the same. With this thought that they have to perform in front of audience they start to feel shaky, anxious or completely debilitated. And schools can play an important role in helping children to get the best out of them as soon as children [enroll for the nursery admissions](http://www.tsms.org.in/campus/gurugram) i.e. from the very start. 

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There are [few tricks to train your body and mind](https://theshrirammillennium.quora.com/Top-5-Tricks-to-Help-Your-Children-Conquer-Stage-Fear-Shriram-Millennium-School) to help them relax and overcome stage fear by following certain steps to help your children. ",11.015401396160557,12.909377586387436,7.977709424083768,66.21570898778361,55.858638743455494,10.345724258289703,40.52399650959861,10.317481424215053,4.55720907504363,993,47,137,19,12,281,111,191,0.132,0.687,0.181,0.9382,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,3,5,6,5,17,2,9,15,0,7,2,2,1,1,21,15,12,0,0,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,5,9,0,0,2,2,0,5,1,12,0,0,1,2,8,5,28,14,4,27,0,1,0,0,23,11,0,4,7,83,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683911352940135,0.09738723455543437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054316414011536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492651595322132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410920834518963,0.0,0.0,0.08902511845746508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403248127429899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168810872257395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293625990172599,0.0,0.0,0.07658378069419755,0.0,0.15679805981720854,0.0,0.8116877231201283,0.040524671855016285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0418734380816011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836222072220817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26860382904063235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05349866631209022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092550385458472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112751356065456,0.0699811662491383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32445169506001953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926731598384508,0.0,0.11345675166670935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362767208361399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06612957159029685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738723455543437,0.0
parenting,PariTv,2019/03/11,"Hot Cross Bun | Hot Cross Bun rhyme for Kids | Fun Songs | Kids Learning Videos Watch Hot Cross Bun Kids Dance Video. For Full Video Please Click the Link below

[https://youtu.be/3os1U-pyhsI](https://youtu.be/3os1U-pyhsI)

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parenting,--matteo--,2019/03/11,"Raising kid bilingual – Possible to deviate from One Person, One Language? Hello everyone,

My wife and I are expecting the birth of our first baby in a couple of months. We live in an English speaking country. My wife is native and only speaks English, whereas I am fluent in English, but my mother tongue is another Romanic language. She has no intention to learn the language, I really don’t mind. It’s not a “useful” language.

This weekend I raised the suggestion to raise our kids bilingual. Apart from the proven benefits of bilingual development, I find it important that they speak my language and that they are able to communicate with all my family members.

This led to a heated discussion. The issue at hand is NOT that she doesn’t want me to teach the kids my language, but the fact she does not want my language to be spoken when she is around. She has this unfounded (?) fear that she will quickly become excluded from conversations and become isolated from the family. Even though I disagree with her, I can definitely relate to her worries.

I have read many good threads on Reddit already, so ***my question is very specific to an alternative set-up of raising the kids bilingual***. Is it possible that I speak my language to the kids in all situations apart from when the whole family is sat around the dinner table, only in this specific scenario will I switch to English. I know one person / one language is advised by the experts, but by clearly marking the exception to the rule as the moment around the dinner table, is there a chance to succeed?

Keen to get your (experienced) input!

Many thanks,

Matteo",4.941475452874768,7.461102177474406,5.639129692832768,74.70458059858233,71.5938566552901,8.46673667629299,32.08834339721712,9.162432508145574,3.3479184562877404,1290,61,204,29,26,418,153,293,0.073,0.805,0.121,0.934,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,1,2,2,10,6,0,1,23,0,21,3,1,3,4,32,28,12,0,3,7,3,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,7,12,10,2,0,4,2,0,1,6,1,0,5,1,6,35,5,39,24,3,21,0,0,0,0,34,12,0,1,8,156,47,5,0.12213345758152395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477730748202602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280675792865672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326174013132711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26977361672072303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513834779846645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687981177243827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066799686452485,0.0,0.0,0.1167037526334866,0.0,0.0,0.34540966262547906,0.13743409490160347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162776759537016,0.10388665662693856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380969071378118,0.0,0.0,0.10243974963673537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747559844665152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712135422095195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784608063315612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24764831276698876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233199758222602,0.0,0.09748576062041964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33104316678386675,0.1857759960702542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21328444850623896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753742450679157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681742404616248,0.0,0.1221665086296755,0.0,0.07824182033264084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13728312351290858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124440785935424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999550196841295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054840935972734,0.0,0.10077289335517456,0.14407495530071054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13635764375255116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403245467314974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,legitattoogun,2019/03/11,"Last night I did something I previously had been so dead set against. So my 9 month old has never been a good sleeper, he still wakes up constantly in the night. At present, he starts off in his cot then ends up in our bed because I’m pregnant and the exhaustion of getting out of bed constantly got too much and I could never get back to sleep after, so at least in our bed although he’s still up constantly I find I get more sleep still. But I digress. Anyway, the problem has never been getting him to go to sleep, until yesterday he was quite happy to be rocked to sleep. But nope, yesterday out of nowhere it all changed and he was pushing against me, crying, wanting to be put down and then wanting to be held again a second later, poor kid didn’t know what he wanted. I know he’s teething and I know he’s probably going through a developmental leap, sleep regression but my god it is tough. I tried everything. I tried persevering with rocking him, I laid him down in his cot and laid next to him and tried to soothe him that way, he had his dummy, white noise, nothing. So in sheer desperation I gave him a kiss, told him I love him and I left him to cry it out. After 20 minutes of him crying and me crying on the other side of his door, he went to sleep. HALLELUJAH. Maybe, just maybe I thought this is it! Maybe I’ll actually get a decent night of sleep?!? Sorely mistaken. He woke up 40 minutes later. So now I just feel super super deflated because NOTHING works for this kid and I guess I’m just gonna have to accept that I’m gonna be sleep deprived forever. I just so badly want to get him sleeping before the new baby arrives (ETA mid August) because I can’t deal with him waking up constantly and a newborn. Does anyone have any advice? ",3.710906905594406,4.948531633522727,4.741704545454549,85.18039335664339,72.1534090909091,7.574475524475522,27.743006993007,8.012643519586192,1.6742841783216784,1373,50,280,19,26,449,176,352,0.12,0.772,0.107,0.35200000000000004,0,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,2,0,0,4,19,12,0,0,11,0,21,16,12,0,4,42,52,24,1,6,7,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,4,3,10,16,0,1,7,2,1,5,6,5,0,1,16,2,41,7,48,29,4,64,0,1,1,2,36,23,0,1,34,175,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.06758273955806765,0.0,0.0,0.067675033979431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04709567012547588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048424598574065066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325270172251728,0.05782490362776505,0.1266513339522835,0.0,0.0589307730800817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326244419630366,0.0,0.0,0.299359541136993,0.0,0.055294359207742935,0.0,0.3042927854675098,0.0,0.07139870524926782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060538242912756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133923762294938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224179000075492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03501733100963232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632976745807834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21709679185963826,0.0,0.07871824991337402,0.058087679045477375,0.05538942689162493,0.0,0.07629202072227152,0.0,0.0,0.07372307134876309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418195656209265,0.056451942805907436,0.0,0.0,0.07524559280893726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250520239889276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872740385349686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05527855734228088,0.0,0.050910280369970036,0.0,0.16024081996816467,0.06688676181483183,0.07365331439323887,0.19497294453905367,0.0,0.1329037850886743,0.0,0.07267131095119153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466843735623356,0.06626753454457811,0.0,0.06962024854033373,0.0,0.07366105346163547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6237437491357132,0.0,0.0,0.053315763931483004,0.0,0.0,0.049018936446971216,0.0,0.16592102841174314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054980611877513665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617597319806172,0.0,0.14105848326640852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339320999273546,0.05497127320194063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419993607063305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050418352704539725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,holden_mrs,2019/03/11,First time post- Question about first time home I’m buying my first home and I am building with Lennar in a great community. I’m wondering if anyone has built a new home and added a pool feature in the mortgage? It will be 6 months before the home is ready but I’m in AZ and it’s hot in September still. The backyard is small but we have always had a pool in our rentals. There is a great community center with a resort pool but sometimes it’s nice to have the option to skinny dip at the end of the day. ,2.188039832285117,3.8197151415094375,3.4750314465408785,91.12583857442348,76.83018867924528,6.220545073375264,22.155136268343817,6.937597516519254,0.4556595387840674,399,11,88,4,9,130,65,106,0.0,0.867,0.133,0.928,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,12,0,10,1,1,0,0,13,14,7,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,3,6,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,4,3,12,11,0,19,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,4,10,53,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341501070784359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127305809567778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371885463415618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039752305553764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279535806796162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4114075486530461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35549694113548275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6468775974031549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868633023600012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570977849555032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440667164172303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806061941845835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594532603071753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875256568342114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802037318507409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483901755342227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Damnit10,2019/03/11,"Need recommendation for insulated lunch box purchase for my 8yr old I really feel bad about my kid eating cold food when I have a provision to reheat my food at work. I tried insulated lunch boxes from couple brands, but not much use.

Can you please recommend a good one which is working for your kid(s)?",5.774473684210527,7.1896288596491225,6.3218859649122825,75.11861842105263,67.42105263157896,9.910526315789477,26.530701754385966,10.125756701596842,2.5556701754385966,243,7,45,6,4,79,47,57,0.04,0.794,0.166,0.8253,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,5,0,1,0,5,6,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,8,1,7,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,26,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003440251458088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654945424359568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455236038235377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132338498121313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5802848136672715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20125445441747267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17638715935056146,0.17791615288426696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517818800409322,0.0,0.16259291963319056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633875199192059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537148901624099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629068823614701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20723541185840624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493655877775985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mediocrenerd,2019/03/11,"4 year old walked home alone. I live on the same block as my mom about 10 houses down. I left my 4 year old “Suzy” at home with her older siblings and said if you can’t handle her bring her to me down the street. She was feeling rambunctious so about 20 minutes after I left, my son brought her to me. I was helping my mom with some computer stuff so Suzy was sitting next to me playing. After a few minutes she was asking to go back home. I said no just wait until I get done. My mom says to Suzy go play in the other room. We go to visit frequently so she is familiar with the house and would typically go play in another room. About five minutes after she was told to go play my son texts me “Suzy walked home by herself!!!” I was in disbelief, called her name a couple times as I was moving to look for her. Then called him immediately and sure enough she had left the house and walked home alone. There’s no reason I shouldn’t have heard her leave unless she snuck out or the door was already open. Other family members live there too so it’s possible someone had come in after me and left the door unlocked. 
I was so upset, I am sure I overreacted, ran back home and started yelling not to ever leave alone. I still can’t stop thinking of all the what if’s. I had to tell myself it was daytime, she made it home safe, it’s ok. But now I don’t know how to talk to her and make her understand that’s not ok. That she is never to just leave alone. She knows I was mad at her for doing it but I don’t think she understands why. She knows it’s close and that we walk to and from there all the time. We don’t live in the worst neighborhood but even my older kids know to stick together and walk fast. 
Sorry this is so long, I’m frustrated and just not sure how to talk to a 4 year old about this. Once I calmed down I just told her if she wants to leave she has to tell Mommy so we can go together. I don’t want her to fear going outside but I want her to know she needs to be with an adult or her siblings. Any advice is appreciated. ",1.3893321407274897,3.1207324186046534,2.870000000000001,94.12397435897437,79.46511627906976,6.084675014907575,19.630292188431724,7.010146845296331,0.09599880739415667,1580,37,368,18,39,516,189,430,0.096,0.83,0.07400000000000001,-0.8502,0,4,0,0,1,0,35.0,4,1,0,0,27,16,2,2,14,2,33,0,0,5,7,75,71,34,0,9,17,5,1,0,0,2,0,5,11,2,15,23,0,4,11,4,0,18,13,5,0,1,23,7,69,11,55,45,7,68,0,0,1,0,58,21,0,6,28,244,84,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315475484293898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26774479832269843,0.07131975832532866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04394996686432934,0.06776918885433234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06041943285013447,0.0,0.0,0.09939149267459324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198696193079185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05567219967136235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151080909340893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613795182026012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677907997840578,0.0,0.042686874730254835,0.05846067133828545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060926511843664176,0.07272564363514837,0.03267838706722387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033766008577725534,0.0,0.2571112297866553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04331948658106997,0.0,0.4537974120690553,0.0,0.0,0.223719722208277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759216484368034,0.0,0.0,0.2737313080791002,0.28087858623340434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120589253757765,0.05719467111953881,0.05427212060840778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061153565099511635,0.04314038942946626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22707826939071346,0.0,0.06869044687318733,0.0,0.04792161799939683,0.049845903803544464,0.0,0.06873372262049686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20345193304073209,0.06882782372370308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285953761126564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644942227263581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122954043506518,0.051395610650633854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054759980149089234,0.0,0.0,0.07234692468540364,0.04574477073644319,0.0,0.05161283886864799,0.054032775566175306,0.0,0.0,0.07398479422869507,0.0,0.0,0.18273633034358455,0.0,0.0,0.10389275662699307,0.11297726804361345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282336493435145,0.0,0.0,0.07537143181352436,0.0,0.0,0.123511644341006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345622303436727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143596557693832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05831766076060438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04591061931183613,0.0,0.0,0.12485695821405138
parenting,idiotwantingcollege,2019/03/11,Parenting question I’m scared to become a parent one day. I have very strict right leaning ideologies. If my child becomes liberal or expresses liberal ideals. If my child become transgender. Etc. what’s in my legal power to get rid of him? With little to no financial repercussions. ,2.9195777777777785,5.803203180000002,4.276666666666667,74.29611111111113,97.2,8.622222222222224,27.555555555555557,8.515128840125781,3.845088888888889,229,11,33,8,9,75,41,50,0.096,0.838,0.066,-0.3657,3,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,3,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,6,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,4,1,20,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6912650035787101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455272497163154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23268388404243395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900350848685003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20910771742727247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137690622063132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4633303659595734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337196603892001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781736928434376,0.0,0.0,0.20888066802445926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.172146249467917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CrunchMcMannis,2019/03/11,My 10 year old daughter is super rude to her mom. My wife and I are really dumbfounded as to why our daughter can’t stand my wife. Our daughter is 10 and is in the midst of a 2-3 year phase of being anti girly. No one pressures her to be anything but what she wants to be. I think she sees my wife’s bond with our older daughter and their girly activity bonding and resents it. My wife makes amazing efforts to invite our youngest to 1 on 1 outings just the two of them but she scoffs at them. My wife makes a simple gesture like touching her head and her immediate reaction is to recoil. Our youngest daughter definitely gravitates towards me due to a common interest in sports but I’m not ok with her attitude towards her mom. Anyone else have experience in this type of situation? I see my wife really making every effort to maintain a healthy bond with our daughter and getting nothing but resistance. ,5.251799242424242,6.336042096590909,6.1538636363636385,77.06537878787881,68.375,8.821212121212124,33.984848484848484,9.075114841892004,3.078175757575758,723,34,131,13,12,239,103,176,0.075,0.797,0.128,0.9315,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,0,3,3,1,8,2,1,6,1,10,1,1,3,0,20,19,11,0,1,6,14,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,3,29,5,24,16,0,14,0,0,2,0,32,7,0,0,7,87,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327250331921977,0.19449078816949206,0.15620389229125142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585684316763845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992970008212973,0.0,0.0,0.1856782510936843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991719764815364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19480784570963244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273539875844572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38011460632563177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4446246731560583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18213531765558447,0.0,0.1991818712418441,0.0,0.12862546732095553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24320431204426546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30252045340605865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133631826771044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162759451541436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542442848178128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119594682158098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712810582303787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444729052504068
parenting,landondeveroux2,2019/03/11,"How do you raise a kid to not just be good, but to be confident in his or her own decision making? It just seems like there are so many luke-warm kids now a days who are super insecure and not confident in making good choices, while there seems to be many confident kids that are negative influences on kids—even at such a young age.

I have a two year old, and the thought of her going to school in the future freaks me out because kids are just so moldable in the early years. I’m looking for some parental advice to help me raise a good hearted girl to trust herself and to not be afraid to choose what’s right before she enters the world.",7.772333333333336,5.765048130769234,7.292307692307691,81.37102564102564,63.84615384615386,10.82051282051282,33.205128205128204,9.2995712137729,2.569512820512821,507,15,108,7,6,159,85,130,0.118,0.691,0.191,0.9352,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,1,10,9,0,2,9,0,10,1,1,4,0,22,18,9,0,0,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,4,0,0,5,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,1,1,9,6,17,13,2,21,0,0,1,0,14,9,0,4,11,72,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817907790596445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340491618187537,0.0,0.1583016737320189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997687461903064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287404538475688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572770441691602,0.4681107850194848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22045180094905534,0.12469501676669086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088706910459778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622214211990604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24835897226813344,0.3772196063513679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952119335044308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20656931784786006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15887246290399354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18827686531867294,0.0,0.3387176785863257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476906279711215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172869336553504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23960026194066375
parenting,mrs_inferno,2019/03/11,"Daughter’s sudden fear of the bath/shower - because of spiders. The title pretty much says it all.

A little over a month ago, my almost 4 year old daughter stayed the night at my parents’ house, which she does often. Apparently, when she was mid-bath that particular night, there was a dead spider on the outside of the tub that scared her a bit. She didn’t freak out about it, but was obviously a bit upset. My parents showed her that it was harmless, and we all moved on - or so I thought.

Well, fast forward to this week: two days ago, she was already in the bath (and playing) when she says, “Mommy, remember the dead spider in my bath at Nana and Baba’s house?” I told her yes, that I remembered, but there aren’t any here now. She completely lost her shit. She stands up, starts crying and clawing at me, screaming to get out of the bath, all because, “there’s spiders in there!” (Mind you, I didn’t use bubbles, so there’s literally just clear water and her toys in the tub). I was able to at least finish getting her washed before I got her out and calmed her down. 

Well, it happened again tonight. I ran the bath, and she was excited for it (even asked for privacy when she was dis-robing in the bathroom) and starts to climb in the tub on her own. This time, however, I DID use bubbles, because normally she’s over the moon about them and loves to play. I was monitoring her the whole time, so when she started to crawl in on her own, I entered the bathroom and helped her get her feet in. Out of no where, she starts crying and screaming again about how there’s spiders, and how scared she is, that she just wants to get out. My husband and I try (and fail) to calm her down and soothe her, assuring her that there are no spiders and that she’s completely safe. She begs me to get in the tub with her, and when I do, it’s no better. We finally convince her to take a shower instead, and proceed to our master bathroom, hoping that maybe a change of scenery will help do the trick. The whole scenario plays out again in there - her crying, wailing that there will be spiders, and that she doesn’t want to get in. My husband shows her ever nook and cranny, they inspect everything together, and she calms down, but refuses to take a shower. We finally just gave up and told her it was time to get ready for bed instead.

I’m kind of at a loss here. Her entire life, she’s been OBSESSED with being in the water. She normally LOVES baths, and gets upset when she has to get out, giggling at her pruney fingertips. I too have a phenomenal fear of spiders, so I can fully appreciate that... but this is not quite the same. She’s had multiple baths since that incident, and it’s never even come up. This feels like it’s totally out of the blue, and my husband and I aren’t sure how to tackle it and help her move forward. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

TLDR; almost 4 year old daughter has an sudden fear of spiders in her baths, freaks out and throws a category 10 fit about bath time now, which she’s never done before.",6.226093883930822,5.7320197554076575,6.3167206171532335,82.21259214440582,66.08818635607321,9.214964957394242,31.190490596480608,8.484438967287268,2.137321242373821,2367,78,487,29,33,754,243,601,0.117,0.733,0.15,0.9743,10,0,0,0,0,0,96.0,4,1,2,7,46,39,2,8,33,1,34,8,2,5,11,86,68,47,2,6,10,8,1,1,0,3,2,4,11,0,28,43,2,2,4,14,0,9,11,17,2,1,23,6,79,22,75,39,13,95,0,3,1,2,76,45,1,6,44,343,107,1,0.07290912957767548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124595760474899,0.12925908857091564,0.0,0.1460159231401893,0.0,0.08045703748932244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916141654680878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816019414609348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13333418601742922,0.0,0.12408059851893655,0.0,0.0,0.06448220021388436,0.15919577239963473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712819168759617,0.06280475931563953,0.15288767041590787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402617658763028,0.04702035695580157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380327061937775,0.07461135306707656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631158492735392,0.06595048182945051,0.0,0.0,0.06552602445660062,0.0,0.0,0.24612912215843266,0.03686504658870216,0.052086296738224284,0.0,0.15973677536448885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428280989188692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058312091299008065,0.08038257275122551,0.0,0.0,0.06447330249944032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660835809227146,0.0,0.0,0.07241521662350099,0.0,0.16825469313103986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759236388960095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149787439983549,0.03561971792926606,0.07307410175242632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958892758004557,0.0,0.13160667201264434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324702031384972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361743681692948,0.0,0.05819537163523035,0.15498173266444182,0.05359659927155999,0.0,0.11246403087113813,0.0,0.0,0.13684055821752036,0.14287093382432434,0.0,0.0,0.15301173371213292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16191392036448582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417479608571988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07754783386800974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518366205222298,0.0,0.0,0.11596053239670348,0.14598951561548987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484017377913889,0.06031118540880937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064218287052368,0.07771143126143214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871599178285279,0.0,0.10963718357856284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05788170485587145,0.17005559910572493,0.0,0.0,0.13933559552715133,0.0,0.049500513102282616,0.0,0.0712216254865125,0.0,0.0,0.1259401576072418,0.0,0.0,0.08600738727064733,0.0,0.05848330593630995,0.0,0.13110812704958055,0.0,0.0,0.1628008788767022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051792553786859576,0.0,0.0,0.09390217805662483
parenting,lizdavis17,2019/03/11,"I AM A PAJAMA NINJA!!! So , kiddo was sick. First day he’s feeling better (thanks to three days so far of antibiotics) and he ran around like a maniac all day and refused to nap. Just feeling too good I guess. So, between that and the time change, he passed out on the car ride home from the play date with his cousin at 5:30 pm. Didn’t think he’d be down for the night so he was still in his daytime clothes and a diaper he’d had for about 2 hours.  Now, it’s midnight and I’m feeling anxious and guilty b/c we missed bedtime antibiotics and I want him in his PJs. BAM- I hear his mobile turn on. That means he’s awake. I grab jammies, milk and a diaper. Meds in milk. Creep in the room, take him out of his crib and get him all changed on the floor in his room. He happily went through all of it, and took his milk and laid back down happily in his crib. No fussing. No talking. Barely seemed to notice. YAAAAAAAAAAS. So now it’s midnight , he’s in clean diaper and jammies and has had PM meds. Everyone else in my house / life is asleep so I wanted to celebrate my ninja mom win with you fine parents. NAILED IT!",0.10586506746626513,2.4030266000000005,1.6117991004497758,97.63282608695653,89.52173913043478,5.0854572713643185,18.800599700149924,6.647476241863616,-0.0003223388305846342,858,25,196,11,29,275,132,230,0.083,0.765,0.152,0.942,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,0,3,14,9,1,0,10,0,11,6,1,0,3,33,30,19,0,2,1,3,4,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,6,19,3,1,6,2,0,6,3,2,0,2,8,5,23,7,32,19,3,39,0,1,0,0,28,21,0,2,13,112,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099178175658886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474096514798264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638517982511445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386410474909655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3202339962634728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928407204465721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644042682127993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462932943553755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229593892970223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287452815029945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790784578145189,0.0,0.0,0.12695214989388606,0.0,0.0,0.16673821728801488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705917897046571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182470274606846,0.0,0.14905742377665376,0.17464714131273462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690883422323168,0.07394601356964635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487354662007578,0.336249870891997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726899627744974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420394989500586,0.0,0.0,0.17232241281458371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680654655402209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779089976043954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087492342385907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380259496632775,0.12165605764818467,0.0,0.13935037493656866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698427865617144,0.0,0.0,0.08825823427376436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16816462592289932,0.0,0.1646343525047113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17855007832556866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031064833621515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LadySekhmet,2019/03/12,"Anyone have SPD, non-Autistic kids? I am looking for resources or subs that is focused on SPD.   I have seen the r/spd, but it’s seems to be not so active.  

On Monday, my son saw an OT with help from his PreK teacher.  He’s been having behavior issues that’s affecting home life and school.  Turns out that he has SPD.  After the OT explained how his brain functions and why he’s so underdeveloped in certain areas and other areas he’s way ahead.   I was finally so happy that I was getting answers and help that we all needed.  After all I’ve been told that he has ADHD (he doesn’t), that he’s just a spoiled child and I should be spanking him (wtf?), or that he’s just a “very active” kid, and that because he is an only child and I should give him a sibling.  Not helpful at all.  

You wouldn’t believe the relief that I felt when I heard that he has SPD because that really explains every damn oddity that he has had since he was a baby.   It wasn’t too bad during that time, but I could easily tell that something ain’t right.  

His absolute biggest issue ever since he was a toddler, was getting in people’s and kids’ boundaries and hugging (more like tackling).   Sure when he was little it’s cute, but it’s not so cute now when his classmates has to constantly tell him to stop. 

I could go on and on, but man what a relief.  

So does anyone have kids with SPD the understimulated type? What did you do? Did OT help with these issues? 

I’m aware of the book, Out of Sync Child. So I’ll be buying that ASAP. ",2.5910784313725483,4.129211401960788,3.9914431372549046,88.24669411764708,75.5032679738562,6.2031895424836625,23.02431372549019,6.742157984588678,0.6058417254901967,1163,33,243,10,25,384,155,306,0.068,0.773,0.159,0.9842,0,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,1,2,0,1,15,11,1,0,13,0,35,3,1,2,6,47,51,26,0,6,11,1,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,8,24,16,0,1,5,1,1,1,7,2,0,0,17,5,21,9,22,26,4,29,0,0,3,1,44,14,1,3,14,153,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878939668177702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18477070115101427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103194275420822,0.1610851816718889,0.0,0.0,0.14886040101218867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749596032641554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427809262773946,0.0,0.2109832155837951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562407675747535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951524583639342,0.1113215876022989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686137705404865,0.1447372289573968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13806043357691594,0.12674699585518287,0.07509007125597895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065024786196906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542442445304129,0.0,0.1325328342768979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4137146614053535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933242782799443,0.06454993544926907,0.13242464638544746,0.0,0.0,0.1109522981534492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796952079003653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048753676259156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09159931335594032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464309666868977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128346125158567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337182464198998,0.0,0.1202822607422354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185914628935839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171680689262452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046298831647162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452689386041545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23096734360137064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704354907343525,0.0,0.0,0.1262517535220752,0.0,0.0,0.14371480373180784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901752691312554,0.0,0.10487521829583528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922287929393867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noonecareswhydoi,2019/03/12,"My granddaughter doesn't know how to entertain herself She's ten months and completely spoiled when it comes to putting her down. If I place her in the playpen, she screams/cries constantly. At times, she has been in there for almost an hour, until I just can't stand it anymore longer. She is fed, clean, and has plenty of toys and books to keep her occupied. 

My daughter also co-sleeps with her, which, while she's in my care, is a nightmare. She will not nap unless I am holding her, or laying down with her. 

I do talk to her, sing to her, interact with her while she's in the playpen, but no relief. She also cries in the bouncy chair. She sees me, and will not stop crying (that snubby crying, real tears) until I pick her up.

I am at my wit's end. I cannot get anything done (like household chores, dinner, etc) when I have her. I am her primary babysitter. I would rather not do a carrier (20 lbs), or plop her in the front of the TV (which is resorted to today, with no luck).",3.6012770562770555,4.527810065656567,4.22874458874459,89.93454545454546,72.08080808080808,7.475324675324676,25.25396825396825,7.7094869923839395,1.0853422799422798,755,22,165,9,14,240,117,198,0.047,0.857,0.096,0.8222,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,8,0,19,2,0,2,0,29,26,18,0,3,10,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,5,9,2,3,1,6,0,4,8,0,0,1,3,1,38,5,27,20,1,30,0,0,1,0,26,12,0,5,14,122,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273333591690832,0.0,0.0,0.2439508993887586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126538072582565,0.0,0.0,0.1255163779722748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555110121115191,0.0,0.0,0.1313881417237837,0.15992121558391398,0.1648270452640014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6701731374021589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560876458695254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509327623548845,0.0,0.17010745357177087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968884194706609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502079556512767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557263111514928,0.0,0.0,0.08382461861128053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451678182430678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174525974457273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593578108714865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333133948381206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360863861401624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154393535616614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263673133865813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751904928717742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259508616832693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893947449083706,0.0,0.1445773619227873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835050514221213,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XyellownectarineX,2019/03/12,"Parents of teenage children (mine is 13F) How do you deal with your child being a technology junkie and not wanting to do anything else or listen to anything you say? I'm trying to instill some values without being too controlling, but nothing is working. I love my daughter and we have a pretty good relationship/friendship compared to some I see. However, she frustrates me endless. For example I've explained a number of times that she needs a balanced lunch for school. If I'm not there to supervise, she'll just take crap to school. How hard is it to make a sandwich? How hard is it to make and eat breakfast? 

Sometimes I have to go out to work at night, but I'll be back before midnight. She knows the deal, bedtime by 10 (I've explained the importance of sleep and being well rested for school). Last night I caught her being awake at 11 pm, her lunch wasn't made. 

These are just two small examples but they're as a result of her putting all her time into the internet. If she wasn't on it, she would make her lunch and go to sleep early. God forbid, maybe even read a book, or take the dog for a walk. In the past she had interests in art, drama, reading, sports. Now all she wants to do is sit on the net, doing mindless crap like browsing Instagram and TikToc. I've explained that she needs to have hobbies, that the internet is numbing her brain, that she has talents she shouldn't let slip. In one ear, out the next. I want her to self regulate, I'm sick of explaining, pleading, nagging. I've tried putting limits on the amount of time she's allowed on the internet, but we always slip back. I now also have to take into account that she's communicating with her friends on there, and I don't want to stop that. 

I'm a single mum, and I'm just fed up. I'm worried about her wasting her talents and her life (as I've done). I'm fed up repeating myself and I feel like bailing out. By that I mean sending her half the time to her loser father who lives in a bungalow and never has any money, and spends no time trying to guide her to become her better self. I provide well for her, but I figure if none of my effort sticks, why am I wasting my time? It eats up so much of my energy. Am I overreacting? Should I just let her do whatever? Take shit for lunch, go to bed late, waste her life on the internet? Is this just a phase and she'll start to care more? Develop some interests? Am I overreacting? Anybody with similar experiences out there? What do you do? ",3.6900120607422835,5.020986612576066,4.637723809001702,85.54448221040516,72.3265720081136,7.5203991009264834,27.725947042377065,8.00916892397051,1.6803726659722598,1932,71,392,27,37,628,235,493,0.117,0.764,0.119,-0.6575,3,0,0,0,0,0,69.0,2,4,0,7,22,21,5,0,23,0,41,22,7,10,3,78,80,30,0,12,18,4,3,2,1,5,4,3,1,4,15,24,10,4,8,6,3,8,10,8,2,3,8,7,60,13,65,60,11,52,0,1,1,1,58,22,3,8,23,263,75,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687317808604875,0.07151478492143609,0.0,0.0,0.058446903857209014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145410747503967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217586794795164,0.0,0.0,0.0949217034799338,0.07313456246117557,0.0,0.0,0.07601313268095883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594527081287896,0.0,0.0,0.08762868948319265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639686312894344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772151558780264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795361605810056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589046517923904,0.07179768585624431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0567671796209897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407265305851297,0.0,0.0,0.04345738309707008,0.061400550410653135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640243514667693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14653697374631744,0.07208826168974966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398325164363494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04723422075130882,0.07005827212860355,0.0969519539628064,0.0,0.0,0.1757732509767085,0.12141380866526855,0.08397872082636021,0.0,0.07589277121884774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757051859438979,0.08132512479315769,0.17211085968255915,0.0,0.08634530855233903,0.0936214737946518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631809305229018,0.12745721554415482,0.0662876210185718,0.0,0.0914056042442378,0.16131086522207638,0.0,0.0824684597187099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05823990814684929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543396682135688,0.0,0.08204613184556461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743899243116796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280093741572022,0.0,0.0,0.17194050698189048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227490787950426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834850009450588,0.0,0.2609488423341489,0.06848862743078885,0.0,0.1793229202843589,0.0,0.08822335528983355,0.0,0.0,0.17201812981080875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500377572730566,0.0,0.06083372543729816,0.0,0.0,0.07185553628295302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584857760585373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006983037587188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750571037156932,0.0,0.08395772554135232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20277505787523128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455334067254578,0.0,0.0775537947997583,0.0,0.0,0.08284983616732727,0.0,0.12514087198717022,0.08728334540260968,0.0,0.06105427931782256,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kat9892,2019/03/12,"Pregnant with a girl and I’m worried.... So I found out the sex of my baby today and it’s a girl. Deep down I was really hoping for a boy. 

I was sexually abused by a family member growing up. I was harassed and assaulted by boys at school. I hated my body because I developed quite early on and boys and men would constantly comment on it. I used to get cat called constantly on the way to school at 11 years old to the point where I took a route that took me 30 mins longer just so I could avoid the builders who would shout stuff at me. I developed anorexia and bulimia because the media told me i was too fat (even though I was already slim) I was raped by a boy in school and got called a slut for it. I was abused by a boyfriend. And I grew to hate everything about myself. 

I’ve been in therapy and I met a good man who didn’t want to hurt me or just use me as a piece of meat like all the other males I had come across in my life. I still do struggle though. I still hate my reflection and know that no matter how much surgery I get, how much make up I wear, how much I workout etc, I’m never going to feel good enough. I hate the way I see girls being treated, boys and men casually saying disgusting things about them, forcing them into sexual situations they don’t wanna be in. I hate Instagram culture which is causing so many young girls to hate themselves. I’ve been through all this shit and I just see society getting worse. 

This is why I wanted a boy. Sure, boys have struggles too, but no where near the same extent girls do. 

I’m sorry I’m ranting and this may not make a lot of sense. I’m just so worried for my daughter, I don’t want her to go what i went through. I don’t want her to hate herself and be hurt by boys and this sick society. I’m just feeling very emotional right now ",2.381529619805484,3.7265502519893934,3.771477453580904,90.40556277630415,75.65782493368702,7.148682581786032,24.503006189213085,7.793537801064563,1.068586984969054,1403,45,315,20,30,462,192,377,0.181,0.762,0.057,-0.9931,0,1,0,0,2,0,34.0,0,0,3,1,24,25,12,3,20,0,26,9,4,8,4,58,66,27,0,9,8,1,2,1,0,3,3,2,0,17,16,19,1,1,5,2,0,8,8,18,0,0,18,6,47,7,44,41,11,44,0,2,2,3,33,22,1,4,13,206,63,3,0.0,0.18614461947926986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668504897163475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577020486283584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725453370242195,0.0,0.0,0.16042253265074086,0.0,0.0,0.08069543921192439,0.0,0.0676663447576038,0.0,0.16977549912622197,0.0,0.06271807738416595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836140947787548,0.0,0.08116611657323843,0.08760721818734657,0.05188343193142931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059825735804379,0.0,0.07405265787283602,0.0,0.07943738592928785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612917098836691,0.0,0.0,0.1231219023675774,0.0,0.08928681623860404,0.1317728463315184,0.06282590867907333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428828963753387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780207275234661,0.0,0.0,0.16818495096527716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043170604802752935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548421746049586,0.038376966010760925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678284375929991,0.0,0.0,0.10486930573404868,0.07964028411389673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323620074321686,0.0,0.06058481848095541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08242802645965705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425785575315395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355064996501689,0.0,0.0,0.05032298206483553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708372454937049,0.0,0.06246839768938235,0.0,0.23849910439839905,0.12519293940995702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063339555537671,0.0,0.08829672076868361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793351038423454,0.0,0.0,0.12546485209568964,0.0,0.0,0.16424103755517538,0.08992424626028342,0.0,0.0,0.07403515340247968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983205651146264,0.0,0.05218703852740948,0.0,0.15435559826560513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445893889403625,0.07506063669921935,0.1745502650302315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568892256476608,0.0,0.0648143471531482,0.1853300795090263,0.12470322890016078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728193004897439,0.07088174998973366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595485116639226,0.08005208880083682,0.11160341472865627,0.0,0.0,0.050585474915491084
parenting,Muxika,2019/03/12,"Handling Autistic Child and Coping with PTSD/Anxiety/Depression Hi, parents and children. I'm a Marine veteran who has been dealing with Dysthymia and PTSD for over a decade now. Things were getting better with therapy, until now, since our 4yo son has been exhibiting some behaviors that we're still learning about. 

A lot of signs have been pointing towards ASD (difficulty with social cues, stimming, extremely terrified by loud sounds, doesn't blend in well with other children's activities, lazer focus on just a few hobbies), but we won't be sure until we see the GP and pediatric psychologist. We want to give him the best help possible, and we want the best education and training possible so we know exactly how to help him.

My current concern, though, is our burnout. Lately, his outbursts and meltdowns have been constant, and consequences are hit or miss, even though they'd been effective just a few weeks ago. He's going through a lot of changes, which, I'm sure, are exacerbating things--we moved to a new state, switched houses and schools twice, and are now taking him to another school. This is the third school he'll be going to since we moved last fall.

Lately he's been hitting other children unprovoked, yelling/singing at the top of his lungs, wanting to be sent to the front office, saying he wants to be bad, bouncing off the furniture, stomping through our home (we live in an apartment, so this is a constant point of stress for us), throwing things at us in the car while we're driving, or just being absolutely uncooperative. We don't think it's ODD, since he's not being vindictive or purposefully hurtful.

Putting out all these little fires has been a constant strain for my wife and I, but luckily my wife has been handling it the best. It's been a massive strain on me, though, since I have a really hard time with self-regulating my emotions and making it through the day. Most of the time I'm blank, tense, and feeling hopeless for a good day. I just want to sleep all day until I pick up the kids, then work on something else in another room when they're at home with me.

I'm sorry for the long-winded post. My question is this: if you're also dealing with depression, anxiety, or PTSD, how do you handle these types of challenges with your kid(s)? How do you feel as a parent? What advice could you give a mom or dad for stress management under these types of situations?

Thank you for your time and consideration.",9.075083732057417,7.915839179824562,8.278724082934609,72.62576555023925,60.71052631578947,11.361084529505582,38.92902711323764,10.33465798735191,3.912354385964912,1950,83,352,35,22,610,241,456,0.099,0.7859999999999999,0.115,0.8961,3,0,1,0,1,1,71.0,13,6,1,9,21,19,0,4,28,0,37,3,2,6,5,74,64,38,0,7,13,7,4,0,0,2,1,3,3,5,18,32,0,0,8,0,0,11,4,9,1,2,11,8,36,10,57,41,11,61,0,4,1,0,54,22,0,11,26,233,54,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304982567665283,0.06626589216199279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059781632304600624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677449605714472,0.057187452475620563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06241739207787245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23535261928316525,0.06611481750309578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908099135660727,0.0,0.0,0.24235114127921975,0.0,0.059685870305665786,0.0,0.0,0.14463257963058135,0.15413846629417186,0.12877292876643104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062448299788587465,0.08408943395726254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04937504334362672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559685678747542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039056458164289626,0.14342382137484586,0.08497010042862946,0.06270103727651143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696589274699379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021354531480907,0.0,0.14997093557428542,0.0,0.0,0.08625735701868019,0.08002688849333725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041083451960610994,0.06093538988592592,0.16865403428966091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492425639229416,0.06601012932854992,0.06615591756006836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710823792782386,0.0,0.0,0.04989961460990088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755227818396663,0.0,0.15890569703632482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219894846501773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601339998636974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133547878106806,0.16855030265324678,0.07159472857919613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621541600869791,0.07514953034205157,0.08374282869311485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04789003595436125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05944826178030345,0.0,0.22696847873615014,0.05957014194677979,0.0,0.07798588040361387,0.0,0.0,0.24735278904705985,0.08402787272853708,0.07480909455080492,0.07620341776616138,0.0,0.057550133808520226,0.0,0.08368222233866446,0.0,0.0,0.05969952525994876,0.0,0.17126344569653001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091160789173274,0.0,0.056206537306471335,0.0,0.0,0.06882445914225849,0.08548898017699813,0.0,0.09932794317352997,0.047900054282964406,0.22033954012819285,0.0,0.13077091270491875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984237947185933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204624956366074,0.0,0.05996403792258144,0.0,0.0672138191958691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05442260844804366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QuestionMarkyMark,2019/03/12,"Poop problems: Our 2.5-year-old just won't poop in the potty In late December, my wife and I started talking about when we should do the whole ""potty training bootcamp weekend"" with our daughter, our second born. A couple of days later, one of her day care teachers broached the subject with us and suggested we do it soon. So my wife and I decided New Year's Eve weekend would give us four days. We had done the bootcamp weekend with our son when he was almost three and it went great. Our daughter, at the time we started, was about a month shy of two-and-a-half. 

The weekend went well, we thought. We sat on the toilet lots. She got candy, *lots* of praise/encouragement from us (and her brother) and a phone call from Rachel - we used the Potty Time app - everything we did with our first born. 

Fast forward two-plus months and she's still having daily poop accidents. She's good about letting us/day care know she has to pee, but will not say a word about poop. She'll just stand somewhere and make an ""I'm pooping"" face. Or, if she's in another room, she'll come and proclaim, ""I pooped!""

We've told her if she keeps pooping in her underwear, she'll have to go back to wearing diapers. To which she just replies, ""Fine."" She doesn't have a problem with the act of pooping - it's not like she's afraid of the toilet or doesn't like the sensation of pooping. 

So now, we're frustrated and at a loss. I'd never heard of this ""Oh Crap!"" book... are the answers in there? We've got an appointment with her pediatrician lined up in two weeks and this was one of the things we want to discuss. 

What are we missing? I'm second guessing this whole thing and thinking we started this too soon... But there's no turning back now, right? ",2.609374646293152,4.6412834707602375,3.1348028673835167,92.23725806451617,76.86549707602339,5.933371062063763,25.652141105451804,6.828538100315305,0.9050029051122436,1345,50,282,13,31,418,176,342,0.075,0.8809999999999999,0.044,-0.9084,0,0,0,0,0,0,69.0,20,0,0,2,22,15,2,1,21,0,24,13,13,2,1,60,51,22,0,7,11,6,0,2,0,7,0,2,1,0,11,30,0,1,5,5,0,6,7,7,1,8,14,2,42,8,36,29,4,53,0,2,0,0,53,13,1,8,37,183,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797077530447454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025918317477734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046299750686876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990369089712026,0.0,0.19950503056173227,0.0,0.0,0.08427890370636666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825605291554484,0.0,0.2523900531933205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012239691803107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793062127162198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322108106424933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385526932740104,0.055603675763613386,0.08206199896618419,0.1565002137117391,0.10786690662284826,0.10777975344371406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696304379578673,0.0,0.0,0.053769288974456896,0.0,0.11036569559835344,0.0,0.0,0.10004613789976087,0.0,0.0955975569405934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663569941184061,0.0,0.0,0.06530772536461148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618695702828544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545881340443428,0.09449269568169276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266468108458952,0.0,0.13259532606587965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872357939118637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355324617893592,0.0,0.07780482442806784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20775104005543807,0.0,0.07813367358754765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863859954557703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999863995986716,0.06269073648198333,0.0,0.07767256308382291,0.114100425015011,0.0,0.0,0.09348854582249637,0.0,0.0,0.10641981310543104,0.2867209705886399,0.0,0.4707489955297577,0.08450074907859945,0.0,0.0,0.057707476223175624,0.0,0.07847986304134852,0.0,0.08796824743170477,0.1813938919244035,0.0,0.21846560266563664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695014151932684,0.0,0.0,0.1260091226921024
parenting,smoochthecooch,2019/03/12,"My 5 year-old is pushing me to my breaking point. I think he may be depressed, but I don’t know anything about depression in children. My son never wants to do anything or go anywhere. Anytime there is a small amount of criticism towards his bad behavior he loses it. He will scream that he just wants to die when he gets yelled at for hitting or kicking us, and will say that he wants a different family. 

We try to be as patient and understanding as possible, we have never spanked him and always have a conversation with him instead of yelling at him. We love him and always tell him, and we praise him for all of his accomplishments. Sadly he can never commit to anything that we sign him up for and he gets mad when we try to do something fun. 

He has never been diagnosed with any behavioral issues or developmental delays, he does well in school and he is overall a very pleasant child, but he is getting worse with this and I’m lost. I have considered taking him to a counselor or psychologist but I don’t want him to feel like he’s a bad child for having to do something like that. ",5.794834651329977,6.113573443925238,6.324392523364488,79.039622573688,66.89719626168224,9.201437814521928,32.81667864845435,9.057496981413335,2.7126963335729695,863,35,167,14,13,281,117,214,0.194,0.687,0.119,-0.9647,1,0,2,0,1,0,17.0,7,0,0,4,8,16,1,0,6,0,21,2,0,0,6,42,38,19,1,4,8,1,1,2,0,3,1,4,0,3,6,17,0,1,4,0,0,2,6,9,1,0,2,5,26,7,28,30,2,18,1,5,0,1,40,8,0,5,9,113,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391872624276234,0.0,0.0,0.08741470200674326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173436359290212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21465865994570146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143046518027126,0.130470012447733,0.1334089483729933,0.13430169547758794,0.0,0.0,0.11249020198528002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118036160447715,0.0,0.06499598683112631,0.09183225223204433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20147766574367734,0.0,0.07305483009729659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13416711331780387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064472297084923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256007482257472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438084710707851,0.14032156114191474,0.0,0.11601647512421236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3965659260398734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348858817448156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151614905696935,0.14491466599505198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222378559120482,0.0,0.1300939473051358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791974947656035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664950406244582,0.0,0.11235360256419083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236615726334247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454662318077502,0.0,0.0,0.1338194099573002,0.15462326642353175,0.0,0.0,0.1060627160562416,0.30327562434904143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557698806461987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099787835755106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827784757262846
parenting,wawapitsit,2019/03/12,"What is your comfort level with sleepovers (parents we don’t know, some boyfriends will attend) Curious to hear other viewpoints on this topic.  

Our 14 yo daughter was invited to a friends house for a bday sleepover.  10 girls sleeping on couches and air mattresses all crowded into a room having a great time.   Sounds great.  

My hesitation comes from two things:
1-we don’t know the parents at all.  Never seen them at PTA or other parents association meetings (I’m actively involved in that type of school stuff), don’t know what they do for work.   Heard some rumours the mom may have been into drugs a few years ago.
2-I just discovered the the birthday girl who is hosting will have her boyfriend there, sleeping over as well.   

Do you let your teenaged kids go sleepover at peoples houses that you don’t know?

At what age is boy-girl sleepovers ok?",5.010192307692306,7.2506350192307725,4.445128205128206,84.56653846153847,70.6025641025641,6.594871794871796,31.871794871794872,7.321109707123232,2.082617948717948,677,31,119,7,13,203,112,156,0.013,0.8440000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9636,3,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,2,4,2,1,3,6,0,0,9,1,18,3,2,0,3,18,28,3,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,3,1,3,3,3,11,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,5,0,1,1,4,4,10,6,18,20,5,21,0,0,1,0,25,13,0,4,5,78,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328805075720437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291286885598547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384059893518322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581515895390412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519367735819723,0.0,0.0,0.3305385233710506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895226564151325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.345937284129384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295324198453221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328659978165535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556529889817132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561490701333485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993506644418682,0.0,0.0,0.1039242900925737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171045854472787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000237416441968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17160377187388973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958929906746204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741000178196072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464340472981372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347813500913721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913161504401238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653301149063134
parenting,gemini2456,2019/03/12,"Help with my husband Hi everyone,

I'm looking for parenting advice. My husband and I are having discipline issues with our 11 year old son. My husband does not hold him responsible or accountable for his actions and especially actions when he is horrible towards me. I am pregnant and sick a lot in bed and my husband is resentful of this, and takes it out by excusing my kids' bad behavior towards me when I am able to be around. But honestly, it was happening before I was pregnant, he just feels people should be able to do/say whatever they want and we shouldn't sensor them. I think my husband has an underlying attitude problem. He was never disciplined by his mother and they are somewhat enmeshed and use guilt as the tool of behavior adjustment.

When it comes to parenting the 11 year old- this is an example of what happens and it happens frequently:

Son , in front of husband and me- 'ugh mom you are xyz (says something inappropriate and nasty)'

Me, 'excuse me you do not speak that way, next time you are going to xyz as a result (insert take away tablet, do dishes, etc)' looks at husband next to me ' are you going to say/do anything?' ....'at all?' husband: 'son, don't talk like that.' husband then turns to me and starts justifying sons behavior in front of son 'well he was upset you won't play fornite with him, so I can see where he is coming from, and that's why he is acting this way'...' therefor he should be let off the hook because look he is crying now and I feel bad for him'

This same thing happened the other day when my son came over and hit me. in front of my husband. 

I obviously, get extremely irritated/upset with Husband and say along the lines ' I don't think so buddy, there is no justification for bad/nasty behavior- especially complete disrespect towards me, his mom and you need to back me up, not justify him.'

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This is a brief example, but it. is. every. time. my. son. needs. discipline. As my son gets older, I'm afraid of the teenage repercussions if he is let off the hook every time by dad. Dad doesn't instill chores or discipline or any structure around the home and it is driving me nuts. He makes me look like the 'bad guy' all the time and I'm frankly sick of it.

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What do I do, it's every time, and he starts undermining me in front of the kids. I don't want my kids to grow up entitled, or overly bratty and insecure because they get their way every time it comes to disagreements and fallouts. I know they need boundaries and respect for authority and respect for themselves and I'm very afraid that this repetitive song and dance with my husband is turning them in to manipulative humans who will be unable to navigate the world appropriately in the future.

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What steps do I take now to start nipping this in the bud? Do we go to a therapist? Family counseling? Parenting counseling or classes? Do I sit my husband down and lay it out? I'm at a loss. My husband seems to have disdain for punishing/disciplining/adding structure for kids.

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Thanks!!!

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parenting,mamasharkdoodoo,2019/03/12,"Parents with 2 kids or more were people weird about you wanting more? Rant. Here we go:
I have a boy and a girl. We are in our 30’s. My husband has a great job, good benefits, great insurance.  We are financially stable. We have a healthy relationship and a happy family. I stay home right now and care for our household. I’m in good health. So is my husband. We want to have a third baby. 

I told my mom my husband and I were trying for a third. (This was around Christmas) She flipped out, started crying, asked me to explain to her “why”. We have had this conversation three times. I wasn’t pregnant yet. She begged me not to. Her reasoning is two is enough and I already have one of each. 

THEN my in laws also asked why and were very unsupportive. Explaining my husbands sister had not had babies yet and it’s her turn. Um I’m sorry we were taking turns?! Guess I’m ahead? 
Uh it’s not up to you?! F*** off right? 

In addition a few friends have expressed their unwanted or warranted opinion when asking if we were “done” That we should just keep it at two. One person asked me why I’d want to “over populate the earth.” Uh you asked me, I didn’t volunteer the information, and why the heck do you care?! 
 
This was late last year and early this year.

I am now pregnant. 7 weeks. We haven’t told anyone because we don’t want to hear it again, or experience any negative response toward this child. It’s still early and I have a history of pregnancy loss, if we lose this baby I don’t want to hear things from our family or friends that. “It wasn’t meant to be” or some kind of “sign”. 

I just want to enjoy this baby and feel excited! Right now it feels like some dirty secret. 

Has anyone else experienced anything like this?  Did you get unwarranted opinions about your family planning? I mean I get weird advice all the time from people all walks of life, we all do, but what the hell is this? Why is 3 so mind blowing?! 


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parenting,st82,2019/03/12,"Book research: Moving with a toddler/preschooler Hello all, I hope that this is OK to post. If not, Mods, feel free to remove it.

I'm thinking about writing a picture book about moving aimed at toddlers and young preschoolers. My question is, if you moved homes while your child was 2-4 years old, what did your child find difficult? Was there anything that surprised you?

We didn't move when my kids were little, so I don't have personal experience with this exact scenario.

TIA!",3.6774781523096114,6.378271404494381,3.3812734082397,88.43373283395756,76.52808988764046,5.303870162297129,26.742821473158553,6.42735559955562,1.1181975031210984,381,15,68,3,9,114,70,89,0.057,0.8079999999999999,0.136,0.8029,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,4,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,1,9,0,0,0,2,15,13,6,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,4,0,0,4,2,1,5,3,1,0,0,5,1,9,5,7,8,1,13,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,5,42,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372238495032864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827285042187501,0.0,0.0,0.09445286096850172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707339275847048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873779483575161,0.1855368437223036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722498984540306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7941651728441435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19601760133528007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631085722246327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890497652777496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092613394733176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196953778195204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029456340548905
parenting,khamulscience,2019/03/12,Can I chat with a single mom under 30 years old I'm a wanna-be father but I am not experienced in parenting. i would like to have a deeper chat on the matter. i am also relatively young so... even less idea on what i'm doing (:,0.0991836734693905,1.93955973469388,3.885061224489796,84.66351020408162,84.3061224489796,6.3689795918367365,15.922448979591836,7.554174236665415,0.20641714285714308,173,3,38,3,5,65,38,49,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.8271,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,8,3,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,6,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977439977108413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24591370669459164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42030371857337706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18189664045106646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4360564325571245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3906869836406315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4134170603911956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26448529303120816,0.0,0.0,0.23976173468662065
parenting,caseynavarro,2019/03/12,"5-year old refusing to wipe butt Context: I'm a 24-year old step-mama to a wonderful 5-year old girl who will not wipe her butt consistently.

We have a great relationship and we love each other which doesn't have anything to do with this story but just thought I'd add it in here.

Recently, within the last couple months she has started entirely not wiping her butt at all unless hounded and instructed to do so. She used to wipe her butt, but has always needed some help with number 2 (not concerning). However, she just decided recently that she no longer wants to wipe at all, number 1 or number 2. Additionally, whenever she is asked if she wiped her butt she will reply that she did but 80% of the time she did not.

Has anyone else had this experience? We have sat her down and let her know not wiping her butt can cause her to to get ""sick"" and can cause a rash. She just thinks everything right now is funny and I hate having to constantly use punishment but it's the only thing she seems to take seriously.

I have tried rewarding her when she does and it seems to work as well but only the first time, after that it has no effect and we have been ignoring the silliness of her saying ""I'm not wiping my butt"" (she just thinks everything is hilarious right now, especially defiance in wiping her butt).

When she's with us (4-5 days a week) we don't have many issues catching her when she goes to the restroom and ensuring she is wiping and assisting where needed, however, we aren't there at school nor when she goes to her bio-moms. 

Has anyone else experienced this? What tips and tricks did you use to help? Thank you so much!",4.86670846394984,5.936147818181822,5.564059561128532,80.99712382445144,69.25078369905954,9.310971786833855,26.098746081504693,9.573946990214177,2.127989341692789,1290,37,256,28,22,419,160,319,0.087,0.7959999999999999,0.117,0.8512,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,7,2,0,4,16,11,3,0,11,0,31,11,9,6,2,62,54,26,0,4,18,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,15,22,0,2,9,0,0,1,12,5,1,1,7,2,42,6,29,44,5,32,0,0,0,9,48,10,8,6,21,176,57,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032562906652908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180696999373516,0.2224528149181101,0.08933069753173213,0.0,0.1014833418900749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22302973346454333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730831596160328,0.0,0.0,0.1201129429013855,0.0,0.07000835341682285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09499634217726756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813658853231737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512268196811572,0.10618664774206722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233598204305493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671498773012557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196811748369114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717460691309978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552292399412856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133021790408211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05965844276139923,0.08848600339471067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100382588706574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797422864030687,0.0,0.0,0.11005672385223332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713713983128974,0.08664677191821843,0.0,0.0797996847890845,0.16098283992242182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34172750562194804,0.0,0.0,0.16512042637750585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214367969731028,0.11654637723414232,0.0,0.18540905597851995,0.0,0.08632650260463083,0.0,0.10986244948699857,0.0,0.1976469801059141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683508416645499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161910279422152,0.0,0.0,0.09994194402795804,0.0,0.0,0.07211845803642428,0.1391140476437048,0.0,0.08617975515853887,0.12659742772576088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370104439734776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057710330770606,0.28126742226008217,0.0,0.0,0.06402796527215755,0.0,0.08707547573111707,0.0,0.09760308819999552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772218889585488,0.07902860923508845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971566233037175
parenting,SublimeTina,2019/03/12,"MIL is the paparazzi in the house. Not sure how to handle? So my Chinese MIL is living with us. My fiancé wanted her to come help us with our 4,5 month old baby. Thing is I am not comfortable with her constantly taking videos and pictures of our baby. What really gets to me is when she interrupts his playtime or whatever it is our baby us doing for him to look at the camera as if we are at the zoo and she bangs on the cage for an animal or something. Today she tried to take a picture/video while our baby was bathing and I am NOT ok for intimate moments to be filmed. We are humans. We don’t owe anyone to put on a face every time a camera is turned on. I think it’s disturbing man... what do you guys think? I am being out of line? I can’t talk to her because I don’t speak mandarin so I would first have to have a convo with my fiancé....",0.7245127250155186,2.6738980279329603,2.98889199255121,91.34585816263193,82.68715083798881,5.7654872749844825,18.882991930477964,6.937597516519254,0.19949882060831747,653,16,143,8,18,223,108,179,0.07400000000000001,0.911,0.016,-0.8398,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,10,1,0,1,4,4,0,1,10,1,22,1,1,1,1,24,32,12,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,5,12,0,0,2,3,1,2,6,1,0,1,1,2,30,3,26,28,0,18,0,0,1,0,25,7,0,3,9,108,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800317537582188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10287649949294836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537458058308195,0.0,0.18237309896944345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219030120162413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354991846520632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817182299115496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16710213206060326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131184366698724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947301105170313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902102526290384,0.0,0.1417186103185394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13470520125441304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708862238368914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965366033231852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811404750133694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12992218060166288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15905734841810226,0.0,0.25377789442582843,0.13564549280813187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11211879206675726,0.21627332871498586,0.0,0.0,0.0984071974209577,0.0,0.1599678104552187,0.0,0.0,0.11457915625034044,0.1835659342441506,0.0,0.0,0.6090041645250649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954092641832248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198845575739112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anonymous-Amy,2019/03/12,"Child dealing with a break up I recently broke up with my partner, and my son (aged 4) loved him more than his own dad. What can I say to him to help him through? Anytime my phone ring he runs to answer to see if it’s my ex partner, it’s heartbreaking. 

Don’t think I will ever fall for someone else again after this experience. ",3.032499999999999,4.073101955882354,4.11694117647059,89.76923529411766,73.55882352941177,7.2047058823529415,26.835294117647056,7.554174236665415,1.2281847058823532,255,9,57,3,5,83,53,68,0.084,0.821,0.095,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,7,6,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,3,11,1,12,5,2,10,0,2,1,1,16,2,0,1,5,37,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36067567619165297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922512893086894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164555710038771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34221633969022475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23449427705476195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157495092104343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454305390936392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27821143588010483,0.0,0.0,0.2787818218780336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964232258977209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22416707371608646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Redditthrowaway1279,2019/03/12,"Does the lice prescription 'Sklice' really work?? My daughter and I has been dealing with lice for over a month now and just went we think they're gone, we find more bugs in our hair. We get treated once a week, so there is no chance that we are missing any.

I just heard about this stuff called Sklice and I am going to give it a try Friday if my daughters doctor will give us a prescription. My question is, does it really work as well as people are saying it does? It kills all of the nits and everything, too, right? I really don't know what to do, I am so depressed and cry all of the time because I feel as if we will have them forever....

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parenting,AbsolutZer0_v2,2019/03/12,"Toddler (2.5 years) refuses to vacate. Period. Our daycare has been putting my toddler on a potty a few times a day now for 6 months. She has never used it, but was happy to sit. She had been in diapers this entire time. All of a sudden she decided she didn't want to poop at school, and would regularly hold it until she was home, or would poop right before bed when she would relax. We didn't think anything of it.

Then she started holding her pee too. She would leak daily at nap time at school, so we decided to use absorbent underwear and try potty training. She has now refused to even sit on the potty.

Yesterday she held it for 8+ hours and peed all over the floor when she wigged out at home and lost control. We have remained positive and supportive but are at a complete loss. She refused baths the last week as well, because she is so scared of it making her need to pee.

Today I picked her up early to bring her home from school because she has held it all day again.

I switched her into pull ups and am sitting watching curious George with her on a blanket.

Incentives don't work either. She literally wants nothing. Phone time, cookies, candy, new toys. Zilch. 

Its beyond perplexing. 

She says she doesn't want to get ""soggy"".

*sigh*

Never felt this helpless with the kiddo.

Any ideas?",2.883110889774237,5.194071486055783,3.7206225099601618,87.01501079017267,77.16733067729083,6.4144090305444905,24.80096281540505,7.492282038375204,1.2857448871181942,1017,36,194,14,24,324,154,251,0.099,0.809,0.092,0.0057,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,4,0,0,4,11,9,0,1,10,0,21,4,4,5,5,47,37,16,0,8,4,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,5,0,9,13,0,8,5,4,0,3,6,4,2,0,11,3,30,4,33,22,5,50,0,3,1,0,32,17,0,1,27,130,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287322607824432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028553657106436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857706456912856,0.0,0.10369919925588864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777444006129818,0.0,0.13668335710024365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718729352513658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049150596664703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170107070945884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367008355796827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972888468920252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36672534254573147,0.0,0.12001370397302515,0.0,0.0,0.13757215783571022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933725555333764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303140310732886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134666534170584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972724746818696,0.0,0.0,0.0903622770583374,0.1879815230685997,0.117699179537181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693394954316735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250923665667528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407310800039067,0.0,0.09691292996938183,0.12200937172922255,0.3700054404669152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625755598044775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382923714910959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808696953007567,0.0,0.0,0.2842447516652296,0.0,0.11551495152017828,0.0,0.0,0.08273918135040159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050661673006446,0.0,0.0,0.21563960755789105,0.0,0.09775375147802727,0.0,0.10957239047251932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887200783223543,0.0,0.0,0.34628113785542125,0.0,0.0,0.07847786671797666
parenting,Serendipitous786,2019/03/12,"My family hates my cooking...sad mum I just need to vent about my poor cooking skills... It seems like everything I cook turns out completely wrong, even when I follow a recipe. As a mum, I love seeing my family enjoy my food. It warms my heart. How will my daughters ever say, mum makes the best ___, wish I could have mums food right now. So disheartening. ",1.7292647058823505,4.324211926470589,2.6485294117647062,91.21338235294121,84.14705882352942,6.341176470588236,17.323529411764707,7.6454224807358475,0.4204647058823525,273,6,56,5,8,86,51,68,0.152,0.619,0.229,0.7517,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,8,8,1,0,3,0,3,6,1,2,1,9,12,4,0,3,1,5,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,12,5,4,10,1,6,0,1,1,1,7,2,0,1,4,32,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20881374744991024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862326096788586,0.0,0.0,0.1588666863317151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142221908326893,0.17998579668634515,0.0,0.0,0.17882740790293425,0.0,0.3751550066897864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.481206777186932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964482750438756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357883212106085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720995406555108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958422026915818,0.0,0.13281847750073053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753868535326845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992499563831687,0.0,0.15823424051371562,0.0,0.0,0.15855865059735,0.1811408944141049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21642948783873525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22881335965429764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21754976127575165,0.0,0.0
parenting,youll-never-know,2019/03/12,"Do I help, or not help? My husband and I (27) are friends with a younger couple (23). We like them more than we like most other people, but their son (4) is not nice. He hits them, doesn't listen, tells them ""no"", calls them by their first name, takes toys from my son, and is generally just rude, except the few moments when he's a really nice sweet boy. 

The hubs and I don't make a lot of friends, but we like these people. Anyone have advice for me on how to continue a relationship with them, without overstepping my boundaries? I know the parents are struggling with his behaviors and they don't know what to do, but it's not my place to parent him. And I don't see them constantly. They've mentioned getting him into behavioral therapy, but idk if it's financially an option for them.",4.198986013986012,5.255403910256412,4.91783216783217,85.06353146853147,70.7948717948718,8.236829836829838,27.002331002331005,8.575989854853784,1.7372897435897436,614,20,127,10,11,198,98,156,0.094,0.774,0.132,0.6287,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,3,0,10,1,3,10,1,1,8,0,11,0,0,2,0,33,19,13,0,1,12,5,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,5,12,0,0,2,1,0,0,9,2,0,1,0,3,26,8,16,18,4,8,0,0,1,0,34,3,0,5,8,89,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802589445844268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898356332615316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883613554966519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993432133075611,0.0,0.0,0.2041091443647262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690747253073314,0.0,0.0,0.2850373779852715,0.0,0.0963763549424976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472885834316865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20275639597238992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703636659336515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682718339585772,0.0,0.0,0.12313310512971133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40965738098920135,0.0,0.0,0.2557722790740889,0.0,0.19272867528444784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817423597223516,0.0,0.0,0.19804844308577008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699625654963014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19284488251673595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869617072676876,0.0,0.16123222352948913,0.0,0.21095400567437428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778195333912095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pm-me-puppypics,2019/03/12,"My transgender child wants to use mens bathrooms and I'm freaking out. Help! Hey guys! I have a 12 year old who came out recently as transgender. ""Taylor"" was assigned female at birth, but now purports as a boy and goes by ""Tyler"". (names changed, but you get the picture). I can't say it was a big shock. There were definitely a lot of signs a long the way, so I was half expecting it when we had the conversation a few weeks ago where he came out. He already had the name picked out (which coincidentally was the one I had picked out back when I was pregnant but my husband vetoed it, so haha, I win!). We went shopping for a new wardrobe, and redecorated his room. It was pretty fun going to the mall with a kid who previously hated shopping for clothes (now I know why...) and now loves it. I wasn't super stressed out about the whole thing. Overall, I would say my stress level was low and things were going well. 

All that stuff was really easy, but I had no idea where to even start in terms of hormones and all that, so the next step was that we made an appointment with our pediatrician. We've been with him for 7 years now and absolutely love him. He's been so supportive, helpful, and attentive in so many other situations that it seemed like a good place to start. We went in for the appointment and got seated in the exam room. The doc knew what the appointment was about and was really supportive. He had Tyler change into a gown for the exam and had me go into another room to speak with a social worker(?) to get set up for Tyler to do therapy. We finished up and got a referral for an endocrinologist and therapist and went on our way.  

A week or so later, a headline popped up that changed everything. Our pediatrician was arrested for child molestation. Evidently a few days after our appointment, he was alone in an exam room with a 12 year old boy (presumably one of Tyler's classmates) and he began stroking his penis. After that allegation came out, local boys started coming out of the wood work saying he'd done the same thing to them. When Tyler got home from school, I showed him the articles and we were sitting there kinda freaking out about it. I was like ""Uh...that last appointment went okay, right?"" Tyler assured me it was fine and nothing happened. He was joking around about how the doc only like cisgender boys and  ""I've never been so happy to have a vagina in my entire life!"" 

Okay, so moving on. At some point Tyler started talking about how he wants to basically fully integrate as a male, meaning he wants to take boys PE at school, use boys bathrooms, etc. At first I was like, oh sure, understandable, but then at some point I actually pictured my child walking into a mens bathroom or mens locker room and a wave of sheer panic washed over me. I don't know if it's the fact that the last time I left Tyler alone with a man, he turned out to be a child molester or just normal fears of sexual assault but I just can't stomach it. Even as a grown woman I would never feel safe walking into a mens locker room. The idea of sending my baby in there with a bunch of naked men...it's honestly a paralyzing fear for me. The PE thing isn't *as* big of a deal. He's been friends with these kids since kindergarten, and I'm sure the school could come up with some reasonable alternative to the locker room (like, I know they have other changing rooms). But going into a mens room at a mall? At the YMCA? I'm really having a hard time with this. It feels very dangerous and scary. It doesn't matter how male Tyler feels inside, a grown man is still going to view him as a 12 year old girl and I keep hearing that transgender people are at higher risk for being assaulted anyway. 

Help me out guys. I don't know what to do. ",4.0369145256916985,5.427704741847826,4.891952569169963,83.82419367588933,71.55434782608695,8.015770750988143,25.47420948616601,8.52124585384065,1.5888530434782604,2934,89,592,49,55,952,319,736,0.107,0.759,0.134,0.9738,1,2,0,0,0,0,103.0,10,1,2,5,37,42,6,6,59,3,52,7,2,9,8,126,106,54,0,9,13,1,5,5,1,2,3,5,10,25,34,60,0,3,16,6,2,21,10,16,1,4,45,11,52,26,98,55,13,128,0,1,1,3,78,60,0,10,48,378,86,9,0.0,0.0,0.062324248595910264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056613578439719474,0.0,0.0,0.1322923508933429,0.07047799660803288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696933324448086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685450422050557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04910920513523085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913793247965124,0.0,0.0,0.2702481026778303,0.11003024103648837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05099200493720656,0.0,0.0,0.04118844866093,0.06584330088540025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535734912039264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122775264587322,0.08436611348914187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057398868681972776,0.0,0.0,0.14373457750808707,0.09687808709505363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432460085574629,0.0,0.0,0.04934290744179003,0.0,0.0667349607987271,0.0,0.18148331248176136,0.05356798160097095,0.15323902672867615,0.0,0.0,0.12647525994292702,0.056476715234105725,0.06798681225472526,0.057211616687358635,0.06305470103421694,0.0,0.0,0.07198190703988913,0.0,0.1284246063087724,0.0,0.06406305753838956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441944481163389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05676725876415423,0.0,0.0,0.14039688619663798,0.10411903809062104,0.0,0.0,0.06939086906859522,0.0,0.04511062214730663,0.1560091222431015,0.0,0.0,0.05651962277792585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054296803102492006,0.11528357087386655,0.060431791341640624,0.0,0.0647503547639299,0.0,0.06956907086026738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787971798291212,0.0,0.0,0.09851518069272286,0.0616824236244709,0.06792248296198257,0.0,0.0625753663300959,0.06128139074687136,0.0,0.20105066230503615,0.0,0.08655484970575368,0.04857316214986492,0.0,0.07493328532185864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044276817243177814,0.0,0.06672663952466408,0.0,0.12074850203068145,0.0,0.0,0.06497493805466886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274306819964273,0.0656651433979041,0.06306021842310991,0.0,0.0,0.05454142977749054,0.0,0.15236701966571586,0.0,0.1939081683660293,0.0,0.05814143666978524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283082317358022,0.07178834251881203,0.0,0.06510360048474073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808194459713028,0.0,0.051003670905929964,0.0,0.14631715050473953,0.0,0.073111578041399,0.0,0.14494933058818474,0.12038637232777133,0.0,0.04801947283598214,0.05133327370345279,0.0,0.0,0.07303662453001766,0.07415364042225649,0.16971959838294978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448184963646498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946814191986254,0.0,0.06648702012190252,0.0,0.11031987104715682,0.0,0.05269634605970159,0.11300990946499055,0.10138811534053788,0.10245930911768432,0.0,0.05742343008038399,0.23681861976428495,0.05762935817204828,0.07130438894658346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649539169767068,0.0,0.0,0.09073750523305253,0.0,0.0,0.16451108798133401
parenting,mothwizzard,2019/03/12,"Should i let my kid watch ""let's play"" videos My kid is always watching these let's play videos. My opinion they seem mindless and stupid. I don't let him watch him because I'm probably just stubborn of them and I'd rather have him watch something more productive and educational.

I was watching some kind of communication video on the topic and they were discussing how such videos are meant to simulate peer-to-peer conversation, and this is a epidemic because it's much easier to watch let's play videos and go meet friends.

 I don't mind the swearing or the violent content my kid is smart and doesn't swear and doesn't act out, but I feel like he acts out weird stuff from the videos and picks up personality traits from the videos.

What do you think? please inform me about these videos, if you have sources that would be helpful to.",6.295000000000003,6.872199858024692,5.587259259259259,83.85866666666669,65.85185185185185,8.949135802469135,30.39753086419753,8.841846274778883,2.104133827160493,675,23,137,10,10,204,98,162,0.065,0.7909999999999999,0.14400000000000002,0.8672,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,3,0,5,11,3,0,6,0,21,0,0,2,0,29,27,13,0,4,5,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,4,7,11,0,1,5,11,0,3,4,4,0,0,3,7,18,7,12,16,3,7,0,0,6,0,19,4,0,5,1,83,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137471515079854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924930212324396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983246166297862,0.11279457568338333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198318169169535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973087735695177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582839491523838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644151181769304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8072512838975615,0.0,0.07713566180344153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942096230024527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606518511559748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786092560360402,0.0,0.17331262303399322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022899777930925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373448588276627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12154920313377783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074295517570751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116767838508578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11215846573443293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SewCraftyGrl,2019/03/12,"Potty training my 19 month old girl. All the tips and tricks I find online seem to be for older children. We are starting potty training our 19 month old daughter today. Yes, some of you will probably tell me that I’m crazy for starting this early, and yes, it’s a bit earlier than we had originally planned. However, our whole family had the stomach flu over the weekend and she has a TERRIBLE diaper rash because of it. She’s been showing interest in the toilet for a long time. She leads her father and I to the bathroom when we tell her we have to go potty, singing “pot pot! Pot pot!” along the way. She watches us go, flushes the toilet when we’re done, and washes her hands with us. When she goes in her diaper, she pulls at it and whines. She’s able to hold her bladder to the point where it’s getting increasingly common for her to wake up from naps with a dry diaper. 

So instead of having a bare-butt baby running around the house and cleaning up messes until the rash dries out, we went and bought one of those seats that fits on top of the already existing toilet seat. So far she has been over the moon about sitting on the big girl potty and we only had one accident. She got really upset about messing on herself, so I reassured her, then sat her on the toilet while I cleaned up (she went in the bathroom while I was getting the seat set up). 

I don’t want to throw too much at her, but as the novelty of going like mommy and daddy wears off, I’d like to see if there’s something that’s more age appropriate to keep her interested. The stickers on the calendar to mark days without accidents and turning blue dye to green dye in the toilet seem like things a little beyond her scope, tho she is quite perceptive for a 19 month old. 

Also, though she is doing well with holding her bladder without the diaper on, she doesn’t yet indicate when she actually does need to use the toilet. Is there something I can do to help her reach that point, or is it an age thing that she just hasn’t reached yet and I need to take the initiative myself to get her to the toilet regularly? Or is it just something that she’ll start doing as we progress with the toilet training? ",5.254476948079719,5.656396360277134,5.898162689248142,81.33939355059451,68.07621247113164,8.816662389872553,29.66290308784535,8.735056554316923,2.175445710375502,1716,59,339,26,27,559,219,433,0.038,0.87,0.091,0.9722,1,0,3,0,0,0,40.0,11,1,0,5,24,13,1,1,33,2,27,10,8,3,1,49,52,32,0,4,8,2,1,3,0,2,2,0,2,3,16,26,0,3,4,4,1,10,5,6,1,2,12,5,54,7,63,37,7,73,0,1,4,0,52,30,0,6,33,238,70,1,0.10600403126694208,0.0,0.10344464325119088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697808446029165,0.08477138550597195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943660619872994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461907356648157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572894734010833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836383067247256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276484211026187,0.1084789277996398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993116656128632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688576415303768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614819354579916,0.0,0.1807336014985871,0.0,0.08478110745672007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105226768915192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231441970837707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422125358108713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553646456197603,0.10624388758770416,0.0,0.09381023191891448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538342192594705,0.0,0.07792515996136448,0.15720129202446906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33370019705179194,0.0,0.14366214998474405,0.08062084250310149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004161461563002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429027463148203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274833554651555,0.0,0.0,0.06790889681795444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08447148853155885,0.1930041776648812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24482124647306894,0.0,0.0,0.22509059679148885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970183914827629,0.0,0.18530439128823167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408487362702974,0.0,0.10414842250790672,0.0,0.06181180309359197,0.0,0.10047942691501956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530194619458012,0.0,0.0,0.2550195953640268,0.09155344798444454,0.0,0.0,0.06252392411098906,0.08414106593818417,0.0,0.0,0.09531035468135304,0.19653359798679887,0.0,0.1183497152873417,0.0,0.20436820675731004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
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parenting,rwlassor2,2019/03/12,"Tablets and phones I'm guessing not everyone will agree with this, and it is just my opinion.  It seems like a no-brainer to me, but my son's mom doesn't seem to agree.

I don't think my 18 month old should be handed a phone or tablet in order to calm him, entertain him, etc.  His mom, whom I live with, doesn't think it's a big deal.  She says I'm old fashioned; she also says if he isn't introduced to these devices, he'll be behind his peers.  I strongly disagree especially with the last part -- I think it will put him at an advantage.

Anyway, I've done some cursory research to dig up arguments/proof that phones and tablets are bad, but the results have been underwhelming.  Maybe I AM old fashioned, maybe I'm an alarmist; or maybe the classes of social, psychological, behavioral, whatever scientist haven't had great or definitive research studies yet, maybe I just can't find them or they haven't made it down to the popular literature yet.

So, does anyone have some good readings out there so I can show my boy's mom and try to sway her?  I feel like my son's development is at stake.",5.582513293158456,5.729321437788018,5.98267281105991,81.9006026231833,67.34101382488478,9.626231832683443,31.899680964197092,9.466822959209583,2.602635873803616,860,33,180,16,13,277,130,217,0.078,0.813,0.109,0.6993,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,2,2,9,10,0,0,9,0,22,1,1,2,0,32,34,14,0,2,10,5,2,2,0,4,0,2,0,1,9,8,0,0,7,3,0,1,8,1,0,0,4,4,24,9,18,24,4,16,0,0,0,0,26,7,0,11,9,107,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599659910154264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393533131036998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022906925213228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400525321187715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375681279138928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10504852911893676,0.12284343450082688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387724386857536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470414621341475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060696244603926024,0.0857571846472264,0.0,0.0,0.1097151332909447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006845431723171,0.0,0.1323454260626509,0.1322384949844699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978492886271568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729176074445295,0.0,0.1059982418932066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358552483163915,0.0,0.0,0.4823885466446852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217710670609865,0.09581543598729174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.377887937601656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999250843026014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067417798426296,0.0,0.0,0.12007330314603652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19092255374794004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185613052993368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236649725776395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23075192817660806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149983600445965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CommanderChotch,2019/03/12,"Friends are ""slow-vaxxing"" We have some friends that just had a kid around 4 months ago. They have decided to ""slow vax"" their kid. We are about to have our first kid in May. I'm not sure how long these vaccinations are spread out, but we are nervous to have their kid around ours. Thoughts or experience in this?",2.5705464480874305,4.9047667377049216,1.9159836065573792,99.4338661202186,78.34426229508195,6.033879781420765,23.281420765027317,7.1686216300943375,0.4219158469945357,245,8,57,3,6,70,43,61,0.067,0.866,0.067,-0.008,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,5,0,3,1,5,4,0,1,1,0,10,0,0,1,1,16,12,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,8,3,9,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,5,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26772821997753604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5377351381831038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29543981722975976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256903539556069,0.0,0.0,0.4666897639043578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672838993254578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410746266446623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28465634977645504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23977526039610994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jennyfromthefarm,2019/03/12,"Someday I’ll be a mom, but don’t berate me for waiting. I am a female in my late 20s and in my friend group I am the only one without kids. I do want children, but I have spent the last 10 years focusing on advancing my career and finding a great mate. 
I love my friends kids, I take them on adventures and buy them gifts and will babysit when needed. I am very much the “fun” Aunt of the group. Recently another female without children in my friend group announced she was pregnant. I was very excited for her. She has spent the last few months of her pregnancy talking down to me about fact that I don’t have children.
Things she’s said include, “ you’re not really Mom material,” “you’re to focused on your career to be a mom,” “you’re more fun aunt material than mom material,” “you may have your career, but I have everything else.” 
So I was wondering if this is a pregnancy hormone of her being mean or if any of you parents who had their first kids in their thirties have any pieces of wisdom of what I should say?
The rest of my friends think she is crazy for saying these things but no one has said anything to her face about it. And I haven’t asked them too.
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parenting,BeardedBiscuitBandit,2019/03/12,"Where can I buy a dress for my daughter? Most places I've seen online don't carry her size, she's in a 3T. I'll be out of town for Easter but I wanted to get her a dress at the very least. Do any of you know a site I can purchase some nice dresses from for her?",0.18983606557377186,1.1486001147541032,2.3220983606557404,100.14380327868857,80.63934426229507,4.88,17.118032786885244,3.1291,-1.0920452459016392,201,3,54,0,5,68,46,61,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.6199,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,9,1,10,7,3,7,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,2,0,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826876354306632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940123713956401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092713395886546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5879514211772112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4643256692882836,0.3319230887412387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BreakfastInSicily,2019/03/12,"SAHM taking her first night away from 3 year old. Any tips for managing the anxiety/guilt? Good morning r/Parenting! 

I realize this might sound kind of alarmist and maybe silly to some, but I’m taking my first kid-free trip this weekend and it’s really starting to set in that this will be the first time ever that my kiddo will go to sleep/wake up and I won’t be there for her.

I’m just going two-ish hours away and she’ll be at home with her dad, but I’m starting to struggle with the idea.

She’s never been babysat by anyone, just watched by her Dad on occasion and not more than 4-5 hours ever, so this is a pretty big thing for all of us. 

Any advice on how to let go of the guilt and enjoy myself? Or tips on how to best prepare things for my husband to have a successful weekend with her? 

Thanks in advance.",2.222581453634085,3.680150192982456,3.4577819548872206,92.02697368421057,76.30994152046785,6.523141186299082,22.740601503759397,7.1686216300943375,0.6091583959899745,637,18,142,7,14,207,108,171,0.032,0.812,0.156,0.9752,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,6,8,9,0,2,6,0,12,0,0,2,4,25,23,12,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,9,9,0,0,2,2,0,5,3,2,0,3,1,2,14,7,30,13,4,32,0,0,1,0,11,10,0,3,16,96,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941513731754732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19404051779569814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975794118998604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26808567770985897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14972300267420416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25810574492996585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3640642112842704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432473611554953,0.11966453911266928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310929822938948,0.0,0.2810017464448488,0.0,0.0,0.16105667658882486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856849284077125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588939012697955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333084624685935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513499598455422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003563454201844,0.0,0.0,0.13388580809273715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970780507307738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584177699348697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514633151765524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913978353387561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277269100636866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196463463887496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14914930207230198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21453965274088246,0.0,0.0,0.13135105160409122,0.0,0.0,0.1895667608886994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319182413291792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139367523870845,0.0,0.17161403054242422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187458129770797
parenting,lilchanafrom12th,2019/03/12,"Ear Infections So my daughter is 7 months, and she had an ear infection in her left ear in January, and last week she was diagnosed with a double ear infection. We’re on day 7 of the 10 day antibiotic. Well she’s still been slightly warm but no real fever, but she’s very congested and has had a runny nose. Yesterday she had a little blood in her mucus, and today she started pulling on her ears, which she’s never done. She’s also been sleeping a lot and hasn’t had much of an appetite. I’m taking her back to the doctor to make sure it’s clearing up. 

Anyway my question is, how many ear infections did your kids have before the doctor brought up tubes? Are there ways to prevent them? ",3.919496402877698,5.040104582733815,5.026683453237414,83.78117625899283,71.5179856115108,8.149928057553957,27.56906474820144,8.548686976883017,1.9105907913669071,543,19,109,9,10,179,91,139,0.019,0.925,0.056,0.4421,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,8,3,0,0,9,0,15,18,9,2,3,17,20,10,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,9,6,0,1,2,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,10,8,16,3,13,10,3,23,0,0,0,0,17,9,0,2,11,75,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531818590223154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934369350475135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526747053564794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25051250720982376,0.0,0.0,0.19712987431499104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975861360208777,0.0,0.19875515982067146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15831575434581854,0.0,0.0,0.2110213075872848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19466011773702016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511945364412134,0.0,0.0,0.1296437939155076,0.19690925783791569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502507211985594,0.0,0.14277452714852346,0.0,0.14979494078987232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175715806598171,0.0,0.0,0.2210656232385069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943609166677999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747037772489007,0.0,0.1551048642391471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305066679005866,0.0,0.14602975987350886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840984692628065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025237902119002,0.0,0.15416331399323605,0.15579209249512618,0.0,0.1746276918614613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rabitrc,2019/03/12,"My life as a father. My son was born a year ago tomorrow.

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Before becoming a dad i considered the good things and the not so good things, little did i know what was coming. He´s a loving baby, eats right, sleeps like a dream, curious, healthy. I thank all the lucky stars that He is this way. My wife recovered beautifully, fisically it´s like she was never pregnant. How much more lucky can i be?

Not a lot Iguess, but in the mix of all the joy and smiles and smeelly poops a sadness lurks inside me.

I was and still am a very active 35 year old man. More than most with a year old baby in the house. When before i used to workout after work now i do it before, at dawn so it won´t get in the way of my free time with my family.

Some ask me "" how can you workout at 06:30am!?"" well because i want to, because if i don´t do it then i won´t do it later.

And i refuse to arrive home at 08:00pm to go to gym. I´m a dad now and family comes first.

Before pregnancy i played american football for a few years, it was an amateur league but a tought one. On my last game i cried stepping out of the field because i knew that this was the last time. The last time i gave it all i had, the last time defending my colours but i left eager to return, eager for more.

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I do all can, i cook, i clean, i take care of the baby. I don´t want my wife carrying all the burden. It´s not her job it´s our job.

And i still feel like i could do more.

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In the beadroom, things are not dead. Obviously my wife had to to recover, we went trough all the disconfort early on until sex felt great again and now there are no restrictions on either side but it´s scarce. I´m willing and able but it seem like a month goes by in between and i suffer. 

Once during some pillow talk i confessed my frustration about our intimacy,  how i feel my needs neglected, looked over and my wife started crying....she understood that i though she was doing it on purpose but i wasn´t and that was the last time i shared my feelings about it.

I love my wife but i don´t want to be pushing this issue, or have her crying again. I have needs but pressuring her would only make it worse so what else can i do.

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But all this affects me. When i talk about it people jsut assume i´m not helping enough around the house, or with my son, or that she might not recovered fully or that she doesn´t have time for herself. Everyone thinks that i´m failing somewhere or that now that i´m a father i should give up my dreams or aspirations. 

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It´s over. I have a son now. No more hobbies, no more sex 3 or 4 times a week, no more football but then i look around me and i see dads having hobbies, doing sports and their families being there cheering them on, what about me?

I´m done, i have a son now. I should live trough him or at least thats the idea most transpire when i open up.

But in my team i played with guys that were dads, some had twins, some were toddlers other not so much but there they were.

Some had a very confortable life others and it tough but having kids never stopped them. And ys their families were there.

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I had a dream one night about my son watching me play one last time and told my wife about it. I felt silly at the time but she conforted me "" He will see you play don´t worry"" it felt awesome know that she supports me. But that was a one time deal, now everytime someone askes when i´ll be back she simply doesn´t talk about it and i say one day.

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Whenever i see a game of my team she doesn´t care how or if they are doing good. 

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There isn´t a day i workout that i don´t go all out hoping to be fit to return. Every push up, every full sprint until my lungs hurt, until i´m dripping sweat has a purpose but i fear that day will never come.

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I´m a father now but don´t get me wrong i´m blissfully happy, everything my son does is a new joy, anew smile a new word or look is a smile on my end.

My heart is full at home. Sure i miss my wife´s body against mine more often but that will change i hope.

But outside i fell an emptyness, a calling not being met. Another year i´ll be 36, then 37 then 38 i fear my time will pass.

Pass me like a breath of wind then it´s too late.

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I don´t want to be that resentfull old man wishing i could ...should have done more but i fear i have no choice.

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I´m a father now and while most might have changed that won´t. No matter what.",1.9794864449595049,4.092252297872342,2.8099311179978663,93.41131272949819,79.21276595744679,5.810823198520795,21.022018802572983,6.876211119807638,0.3292768405427222,3454,95,741,37,86,1086,350,893,0.095,0.731,0.173,0.9968,2,1,0,0,0,0,148.0,3,2,6,5,46,48,1,4,51,0,74,15,7,7,13,143,126,74,1,17,41,20,6,5,0,11,2,1,4,4,46,32,2,4,15,17,1,12,17,14,1,6,30,15,119,35,68,75,34,125,1,6,8,4,72,35,0,30,81,507,165,6,0.034653465968753884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030718206710808882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4130171748898765,0.4631852957919127,0.0,0.03633718055959724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06169786334724048,0.06479262561347435,0.0,0.0,0.02664637629917345,0.0,0.06337329363812982,0.03827203057793994,0.11795018876415644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03849218862659359,0.0,0.0,0.035385063243864326,0.0,0.07066303617516771,0.0,0.07331754421866066,0.08955267751351816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533594559572092,0.0,0.0761304103305469,0.06704585622040338,0.03572620178520077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03032548159484274,0.07092505422487727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03545914693329843,0.028948524181262657,0.0,0.030692685154684107,0.03580629380108023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05839407934081395,0.03311287177480345,0.031144300744331287,0.0,0.13067281454339766,0.11698435035559847,0.052565500841856856,0.02475644301216768,0.09981828515746996,0.0,0.0,0.029476220450290764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03621001139922261,0.03324276221526202,0.03938872659895893,0.08719704939610168,0.0,0.03820556856803292,0.0,0.03431237951922484,0.0,0.03688925890231985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041064524022906716,0.02322748777514341,0.0,0.06952050367514075,0.06883742157993926,0.0,0.0799708941290794,0.03709725203958167,0.0391195450443483,0.0,0.03616921521826987,0.06877643571294133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038089277259997965,0.16948319940615264,0.03909061901148826,0.0,0.03765109216972408,0.0,0.04895353567694472,0.0846496652907777,0.03473187669285161,0.030599645331337313,0.0,0.08730055114598942,0.0,0.0,0.029461137546964482,0.06255221199688514,0.0,0.023131457622716442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352370230206046,0.0,0.0,0.027660065922909302,0.0,0.05094856953186409,0.051390211846716174,0.08018066782054688,0.06693706674407372,0.0,0.03251993032151155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090889495813636,0.03690481028994115,0.1174104268958798,0.026355522414219283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024024350024452933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0295938705939946,0.0,0.02755782702663191,0.0,0.0,0.0828429773331997,0.031547213924792775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03467849228744111,0.0,0.02936176926057764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024527901573094497,0.0,0.055348605372707416,0.028971849229368345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039324342519191,0.03266048156862636,0.0,0.02605509373145147,0.08355942988717067,0.0,0.03190425562404346,0.0,0.0,0.069066668938187,0.02220454174714936,0.03404685436904383,0.0,0.2222738615038886,0.0,0.0,0.03311287177480345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029929468305423142,0.0,0.05718547725753875,0.08175804827486018,0.05501261659985271,0.027796920135289786,0.0,0.03115762761986709,0.03212411013125405,0.0,0.0,0.03984977566337222,0.0,0.0,0.02522813594604057,0.035192276810537285,0.035314842350582645,0.024616827967691886,0.03788812504460797,0.4631852957919127,0.11157847962683304
parenting,overexhausted8675,2019/03/12,"Help me with this EXCRUCIATINGLY challenging baby please. I am not the parent, I am the caretaker, and in 6 months, I no longer will be (career change). I love what I do, and I've loved it for years, but I am truly struggling.

If you think of a list of the things that babies can do that annoy/challenge you, there's a good chance that list would describe her. She is about 6 months old, plus a couple weeks.

She screams because she's hungry, but she won't eat more than an ounce or two at a time. She screams because she's tired, but she won't go to sleep. If she does go to sleep, she immediately wakes up the second you lay her down (and then won't fall back asleep, so I have to pick her back up, and then repeat the whole painstaking process of getting her to sleep from the beginning) no matter how fast asleep she is. She screams if I put her down. She screams louder if I turn around from her (because sometimes you have to put babies down, and sometimes you have to do something else). She screams if I'm holding her but I stand still for too long (need to be constantly moving around while holding her), but I also can't get anything done while holding her because she grabs onto everything I hold no matter what it is. 

There are other things, but that's getting too long. It doesn't help that she's got a toddler sibling who is now getting only a fraction of our (mine and their parents) attention because she demands all of it and then some.

I have to remind myself during the day that she's not doing it to torture me, but sometimes it feels like it.

I guess my question is...can any of you sympathize? Is there ANYTHING I can do to make our days a little easier? Does it get better?",5.020385154061625,5.2858715735294135,5.231344537815129,86.39343137254903,68.55882352941177,7.6526610644257715,28.837535014005603,7.07126945348624,1.3774005602240895,1325,43,277,10,21,418,164,340,0.117,0.789,0.094,-0.9019,2,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,2,6,1,2,15,13,1,1,15,0,30,10,6,3,1,44,48,29,0,7,15,2,2,1,0,5,1,5,0,0,21,11,1,4,4,0,0,6,10,7,0,2,2,7,55,6,34,39,4,41,0,0,0,2,43,11,0,9,24,203,76,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043931705668636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840254932277559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655489157665134,0.17908735440103302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469025268949765,0.0,0.3065842392158005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889609494130056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064076153772346,0.0,0.0,0.1086987175429841,0.0,0.0,0.11129750475633578,0.0,0.12974047357726007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760485687872856,0.10293533384127464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292552236147973,0.08402745781096058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040103047947573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05085976492439029,0.07185930991607585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627625493212508,0.0,0.11433172004891895,0.08436752933693765,0.08044854218700563,0.0,0.11080782365949324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484257344930636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04914168428341975,0.1008145107926804,0.0,0.17803250338418122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18156723022006815,0.0,0.06714254472277731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057502674972454,0.10690796866243306,0.0,0.07458392059656843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554904343532603,0.0,0.0,0.0765008790734852,0.0,0.0,0.22337972387773694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041422351662307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223525737955314,0.11268036165601382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019786635116383,0.0,0.0,0.07743671896563496,0.2984490834286685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803288377281246,0.0,0.0,0.10515528001424836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336509493888347,0.06445203158501482,0.0,0.0,0.0586530371919029,0.1156098582265702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940967582210194,0.09825879701687673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806847533683434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230169490265532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714540561910152,0.0,0.0,0.0647746733529398
parenting,TrexRoarr,2019/03/12,"Recurrent Strep (19m old) My 19 month old has had three cases of strep since December. We've given him two different types of antibiotics, following dosing to the letter, and we're picking up the third kind today. I have sanitized all of his toys, cribs, utensils, and furniture many times. His twin was tested too, just in case he was a carrier, but was negative each time.

He's seen an ENT for sleep apnea, so we already know he's probably going to need tonsils and adenoids out at 3 years old. 

My question is, has anyone's child needed tonsil/adenoid removal before 3? If he keeps getting strep, it's probably something we should think about. The ENT scared me with risks of surgery before 3, so it's not something we're rushing to do. I just don't want my baby to keep getting sick! He's miserable. 

Thanks!",4.341666666666669,5.9440184904458615,5.1456210191082805,81.47388800424629,71.10191082802547,8.290658174097665,29.643842887473454,8.841846274778883,2.4817053078556275,641,26,118,12,12,208,110,157,0.138,0.825,0.038,-0.9529,2,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,3,5,0,11,3,1,1,1,24,25,7,0,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,8,0,2,3,1,0,5,3,3,0,3,6,1,11,2,15,18,2,17,0,1,1,0,13,4,0,2,8,61,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103851428059633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837463626867573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637750765374943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193458719759726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619547815620962,0.0,0.08808603430155887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755296139531995,0.0,0.16140124967033906,0.0851800419294196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571384688977074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371385043623954,0.0,0.0,0.22985053614878034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4879169135160109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3342171118612499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362751470365104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517492708286135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282117247753911,0.0,0.15510482947365045,0.0,0.0,0.23864220638292036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269663418565418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931318907077796,0.0,0.0,0.18075520752302088,0.0,0.14691514205076994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140553751408994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141882546868353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981034303337724
parenting,drab_the_wolf,2019/03/12,"I think my son is a hacker what should I do I'm the mother of a 17 year old boy,my son has been into computers for years he is fluent in multiple programming languages and has won a lot of competitions over the years, this morning I was curiously going through my sons stuff (as most parents occasionally do) and I found a bunch of flash drives under his bed I got curious and plugged them into a laptop what I saw scared me shirtless he has about 200gbs of documents most of the are from nasa I started sifting through them and a lot of it says ""classified"" on it (most of the documents are about their budget and what their spending money on and stuff I don't know where he got all this and we are having a talk when he gets home also he has laptops with ""Kali"" on it which is something hackers use I think I'm really scared what should I do with all this stuff call the police or what",2.9651666666666685,4.697674072222224,4.167777777777779,86.555,74.94444444444444,7.2444444444444445,24.777777777777786,8.021203637495839,1.3370111111111105,703,23,145,11,15,230,101,180,0.035,0.929,0.036000000000000004,0.0516,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,4,1,5,3,0,2,12,0,19,0,0,1,2,27,33,11,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,15,12,0,0,4,0,3,2,1,2,0,0,7,2,19,1,24,24,8,17,0,0,1,0,19,9,0,6,6,108,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13097684602439333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16724029548886124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957911233909965,0.0,0.0,0.08556962247497292,0.0,0.09308139750862383,0.0,0.2619837340361529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642872516157086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001060617044078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784841341012252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186223498526793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818611393647696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492329539175732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024645747281507,0.3279498091995708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608780864522667,0.0,0.0,0.11592613184087815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5624755051931968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164220967947868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098904895207118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145553700801705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31641177704366724
parenting,barbarianinalibrary,2019/03/12,"My son calls omelettes ""eggie burritos"" and i realize that mankind has been wrong all this time I hereby petition that the name of said food be changed henceforth. Truly progressive societies will stand with me in these trying times. We can make a difference.",8.05,9.666015333333334,6.255555555555558,76.93000000000002,62.33333333333334,11.333333333333336,37.22222222222222,11.20814326018867,4.5518888888888895,210,10,35,6,3,61,43,45,0.067,0.87,0.063,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,1,1,7,7,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,3,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,21,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338824549137814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510207639389613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466804872846751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012371486202324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214919229027053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156360881888601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3869729407891019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252834864184711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3627922549535753,0.0,0.0
parenting,superfluous-buns,2019/03/12,"Coparenting with an uncooperative parent. So I posted about my situation over a year ago and most peoples responses were to give it time and let things mellow out as we had just started coparenting. Here we are and things have NOT mellowed out. I'm not sure if this is just to rant or look for advise on what can be done. 

My (28f) ex (27m) has given me nothing but problems with the coparenting of our son (2m). He has him every other weekend and is supposed to have him every Thursday from 6-8. This latter part he has chosen to ignore since he seems to think it is too far for him to drive for a small amount of time. We live like 15 minutes apart....We agreed that I would be flexible on that if he were flexible on me once in a while coming to pick him up late ( with notice) Our pick up and drop off is 6pm. I can never be even 10 minutes late as I get a phone call of insults and rage. He, on the other hand is always asking to pick up or drop off +\- 1 hour for convenience  of his current location.  We have a predetermined place to meet. If I push back to any of his changes he makes me drive to his house.  I have thought about enforcing the Thursday meet up, but I dread the increased interaction with him. 

He doesnt know where I live because I am scared he would come and harass me at my home. I have actually filed a police report for him threatening to kill me. Unfortunately this was through WhatsApp and he deleted the message before I could screenshot it. I now keep any threats screenshotted through regular text. I believe he has caught on to this as everytime he wants to insult me or say anything nasty he calls. 

As for the actual care of our son, I do not have any immediate concerns. I just know he is always changing up girlfriends and sometimes when he has to work he let's them babysit. I have spoken many times to him about this, and trusting our son to people he doesn't know well and have even offered to babysit if that situation arises. Depending on his mood he has either accepted or been spiteful and done the complete opposite. 

I am tired of his constant problems and overall jerk behavior. If he is single he harasses me, asking other people about my whereabouts, threatens my partner, etc. If  I ever insinuate him having less time with our son then I am a bitch that doesn't want to let him see our son. If I insinuate the opposite then i am a slut who doesn't want her son around. If he has a gf, the harassment dies down,  but then start the problems of him ignoring all suggestions I have about our son such as the leaving him with strangers. I have tried being nice, being mean and nothing works. The reason I feel powerless is because none of what he does is outright illegal so I can't really go to the police to enforce a certain behavior. Are there any methods you all may have of managing a coparenting relationship like this one? ",5.716886302224072,5.9204953674911724,6.413307004780713,78.73258158387031,67.0565371024735,9.485678653086678,32.37144044897111,9.325443323948027,2.7386179172729164,2262,89,446,40,34,744,270,566,0.177,0.7490000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.997,8,0,1,0,0,1,56.0,11,1,1,2,24,29,11,2,25,0,61,3,1,6,6,86,89,41,2,17,22,9,2,2,3,3,1,1,1,1,21,29,0,3,10,1,0,8,10,19,1,1,10,5,67,9,76,67,11,60,0,0,2,1,81,24,1,16,27,314,88,5,0.0,0.0,0.16326388437329525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415213927623163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392097457406902,0.0,0.0,0.2275439584760271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883817925625213,0.07446770247757753,0.15640599868977734,0.0,0.0,0.06432295430344663,0.0,0.10198653718056153,0.0,0.0711813917657828,0.09424676227181646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083537217255734,0.0,0.08528843088842626,0.0,0.17698470491704807,0.14411697657696146,0.08770716206991656,0.09039771439762233,0.0,0.06678903465012566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681720440622534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320412145180086,0.17120935960128164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329370055901977,0.11050224999118093,0.07566770535085407,0.14096024370666574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0422967870080634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04370453382495626,0.08024628380553826,0.047541159680582507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390942413410603,0.0,0.08238002357845092,0.09652277125633224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435342888087365,0.0925481552079525,0.0,0.13791827525468192,0.0,0.1887254065722548,0.08857501757539979,0.0,0.2566184349505145,0.0,0.08173594024444734,0.0,0.14773187665373755,0.0,0.07024631665961735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583812503932308,0.0848096420852942,0.0,0.09112116870056897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06451730839915182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16053202595351407,0.0952379564269942,0.0,0.08908627571738098,0.056684522046670176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288525632022394,0.09058658369389387,0.0,0.17398056134644027,0.0,0.0873981684930268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011515595489868,0.0,0.0,0.2401299910673233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0535893881478339,0.08600782697422496,0.0,0.0898105648941204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665231485375111,0.08374989344637239,0.0,0.06665953355829178,0.07615331919441687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919750819525651,0.18805591589773202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273361948159827,0.0,0.11841813493375708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884068887567575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111488766833456,0.05360059874915018,0.0,0.0664100650479762,0.19511179614534396,0.09614526446811464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056793978394665816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480197291390971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521287829515058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179879300651048,0.0,0.0,0.11884746223528855,0.0,0.0,0.05386891910332632
parenting,kukakik01,2019/03/12,Improving the speech of a 3 yr old My son doesn't speak clear words yet and I am worried because he is turning 4. What can I do to improve his speech?,0.7690909090909095,2.3561877272727294,2.645454545454548,95.68818181818185,80.81818181818181,5.612121212121212,26.15151515151515,6.42735559955562,0.7411696969696973,117,5,28,1,3,39,31,33,0.129,0.7040000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.3217,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31746261083838395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5464709305700293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5664590167177065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5288772968664965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Daleth2,2019/03/12,"At least you never FORGOT your baby at an AIRPORT Wow. Here's a news story about a Saudi woman who FORGOT HER BABY in the airport terminal, boarded an international flight, and then flipped out when she realized what she'd done, so the plane had to turn around mid-flight and go back to get her baby. 

Just posting this for anyone who feels like they committed a parenting fail! It could be worse!!!

[https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/mar/12/saudi-plane-turns-around-mother-forgets-baby-airport](https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/mar/12/saudi-plane-turns-around-mother-forgets-baby-airport)",16.427445887445884,21.143608129870127,9.490324675324675,49.87929653679655,45.623376623376615,8.25021645021645,27.119047619047624,8.841846274778883,2.2107333333333337,514,11,57,6,6,131,62,77,0.08,0.8029999999999999,0.116,0.453,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,0,2,1,1,7,3,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,2,13,11,5,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,7,2,9,4,1,11,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,0,5,42,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17232217029256391,0.0,0.0,0.6581729042676429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18950329801353247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967686726208209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25220186670972944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461151264276522,0.17606249890103706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287589071065011,0.0,0.14006207657000638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040204317644215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19007588897297173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27365133644944506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23602905741393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26806465232812204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511515644425907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cutspaper,2019/03/12,"My daughter (6) growls, makes intense eye contact and gets in other kids' faces when they try to assert their will in a situation. Help! She doesn't do this with her friends but she does this with her brother and the more assertive kids in her class. Her teacher hasn't mentioned it but I am worried. Is this normal and how can I help her communicate? ",2.613466386554624,5.105192573529415,2.9485714285714306,91.22500000000004,79.14705882352942,5.0621848739495805,25.890756302521005,6.18269132825596,0.7715815126050423,277,11,55,2,7,85,50,68,0.04,0.8320000000000001,0.128,0.6239,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,7,2,2,2,0,10,9,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,12,1,6,8,1,4,0,0,1,0,18,3,0,0,1,40,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175581028698265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803596311622445,0.0,0.18958944623632049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.48646066373178604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24222473685406656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555446473202712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078915141769132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463712107427567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36852152288735857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fraggelsmurf,2019/03/12,"How to deal with 3 year olds? My oldest daughter is turning 3 years next month and she is getting really whiny and stubborn. She always wants something like icecream or to ride the bus and keeps asking for it in infitity, no matter how many times I say no.   
  
She also refuse to do anything I ask her to do. They say she is really easy at the daycare but she refuse to eat real food or going to the potty at home despite doing that at the daycare.   
  
Her having a 4 month old little sister doesn't help either. She wants to have formula as well (we can't breastfeed). She loves her little sister but wants to be a baby again like her, feels like all progress goes out the window.   
  
She also watched too much iPad and not allowed to use it again. This is another thing she keeps asking for over and over every day.   
  
Not sure how to deal with her. We have tried explaining, rewarding, punish (sit in the corner), haggling, pleading etc. Nothing seems to work and there has been moments where I we have lost our temper and shouted at her.  
  
How should I face this? What should think about? What is the best way to make her listen and understand? ",3.97393665158371,5.52247236651584,4.376832579185522,86.83728506787331,71.94117647058823,6.647963800904979,24.312217194570128,7.048011613610866,0.9212696832579196,887,25,172,8,17,279,134,221,0.123,0.763,0.113,0.3277,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,1,5,13,12,3,0,9,0,19,4,1,7,2,47,40,19,0,5,7,3,1,3,0,2,0,4,2,0,8,14,2,5,5,0,0,2,6,4,1,0,2,6,26,8,27,35,5,30,0,1,1,1,37,13,0,3,16,122,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19468202652246572,0.10128242772498347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763609583262595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016680769215584,0.0,0.3413808244623698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773969501746907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850059909200174,0.2509800069552871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455196045545387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357521692722017,0.0,0.0,0.10255600726338664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154628399541765,0.08695819774991921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718668600337956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359470401771429,0.0,0.06917739909215385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815876688824812,0.0,0.12209705778987714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163841546197324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840161440483274,0.2439947774563879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328739061253052,0.0,0.10985882781800588,0.0,0.08125035834959912,0.12340696980922365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19431462598386773,0.0,0.08947965146385989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945269311367946,0.0,0.0,0.11679551046999385,0.0,0.2554534576544988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385462471008235,0.15595641822431972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19359638789482936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081110745929136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937075172136071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147215136462176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086666640684463,0.07799452171888906,0.0,0.0,0.07097705798627274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264122574703718,0.13239854706376014,0.0,0.12671686069988233,0.0,0.1051286980998746,0.0,0.0,0.2153843100371416,0.09661723193996943,0.0,0.0,0.1094426668102152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861504188543574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676991224073128
parenting,somebody__once,2019/03/12,"Kids are spies for their dad Hi all,

I don't know what I'm looking for... reassurance, guidance, tips, or just to voice out something that will maybe help someone else ? TL;DR at the end.

For context, my girlfriend has two kids (who aren't mine). Her ex (and father to her kids) abused her emotionally back when she was living with him, and recently won a court case to gain shared custody of the kids, in a ruling without precedent that left everyone pretty speechless at the judge's ignoring presented evidence.

Anyways, we are getting devastated. We have learned recently that the kids are reporting to their dad everything we do, and he's keeping a notebook. Every time we scold or punish the kids for not doing what they have to do ; every anxiety crisis my girlfriend has (most of which are caused by this very situation because she feels totally trapped in her own house and life) ; every bit of philosophy we try to impart them, which the dad invariably accuses us of alienating him when it doesn't fit his set of values. Recently one kid (6) was playing rough with the dog, actually being a real pest even after we told him several times to stop, and eventually the dog bit him  ; not strong, but still, it left marks. And let me tell you, that dog is \*sweet\* ; it takes a LOT to get him to even try to get away, let alone bite. The dad learned of it and now we're terrified he's gonna use this as leverage eventually, threatening us to have the dog put down if we try to make him pay his dues (which he has trouble doing).

We don't know what to do. Seems like we can't talk to the kids at all anymore. We can't let them play with the dog until we're sure they understand how to treat it, and he's constantly badgering us because we try to give the kids sound dietary advice and he apparently can't live without letting them have their daily juice and/or McDo. This is no way to live, and clearly we just risk being accused of the opposite, of not being ""involved"" enough with the kids, but seriously, this is just unmaintainable !

I'm trying to be there for my partner but I'm not sure how to help her anymore, beyond just being there for hours on end, to help zen up her mood and put some humor into it (damn I suck at humor though lol)... She's recently started talking to people from my employee benefits program at work, it seemed to help a little. She's had a psychologist for a few years and she's considering seeing someone who could actually prescribe her pills for her anxiety, which is totally flabberghasting, her anxiety shouldn't even be there to begin with ! I'm also trying to support the kids and shield them from all the shenanigans, but at this point it almost feels like in order to win, I'd have to play the dad's game and use the kids against him however I can, buy them off with food and toys and movies and fun, have them be spies for the other side too. Obviously I won't do it, just saying I'm not seeing any practical solution anymore.

Does it really just come down to making the best of the situation no matter what ? How can we tell the kids that we can't tell them anymore how we feel about things and that we can't take care of them as we think is proper because the dad thinks we're controlling freaks and the court seems to agree with him despite two psychosocial evaluations that clearly stated the opposite ? How can we deal with the anxiety crises that we can clearly not totally hide and they're definitely gonna report on ?

As I said, I don't know what exactly I'm looking for. Thanks to anyone who read this wall of text and for really any input.

TL;DR : the kids report everything we do to their dad (we're in a shared custody agreement) and we're feeling totally trapped even in our own home. We just don't know what to do or how to interact with the kids anymore.",7.704107162344041,6.561755693135936,7.7579069513659,75.20882652504457,63.40107671601615,11.262580480884655,35.0205158051726,10.403877232588213,3.3993535266087083,3012,111,587,60,37,977,313,743,0.098,0.774,0.128,0.9832,3,3,1,0,1,0,92.0,25,1,14,7,31,33,3,1,38,1,59,3,0,12,14,131,106,44,0,3,23,9,5,2,3,5,2,4,1,16,39,55,1,4,16,6,2,3,23,8,0,3,6,14,76,24,96,83,17,59,1,0,4,0,120,28,2,11,26,393,115,9,0.0,0.07265891554444386,0.11968676128071265,0.0,0.0,0.05992510580013447,0.0,0.0,0.061407130571692274,0.06351317255060662,0.0,0.04904078288448118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340484958914543,0.0,0.1876507771673987,0.0,0.3040846626391012,0.04287916861278372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761591929459028,0.04715437284944355,0.0,0.1121476287566478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435575754969494,0.0,0.13389985656317924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625239078865094,0.06299664335099389,0.0,0.05282519841505806,0.0,0.06626946127713211,0.06878008362750336,0.048962226257348314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322235416025666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05366504810661664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051228335416352085,0.06898124916638776,0.10862972910725197,0.06336408783303231,0.0,0.16201570195936604,0.0,0.15500435172805144,0.05859771265908796,0.11022811904663783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402903358590613,0.043809879854393816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07415322760619701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611778122647628,0.05882757139072915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441674569295625,0.0,0.06151297486330973,0.0,0.06039178997964771,0.07075966571452642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054507591357560406,0.0,0.0,0.13480827271357634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325741695053714,0.25083179077071394,0.043314956744808716,0.05991962034741286,0.06146276120053236,0.16245065394419564,0.0,0.10299343501671797,0.0,0.0,0.052135474214608166,0.0,0.0,0.08186849611716311,0.0,0.06160820332014834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04155473137585606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042514342130405634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05797100431668165,0.0,0.0,0.0623885572259314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232951212371518,0.0,0.0,0.061340597947418765,0.06980014072071629,0.078571452970751,0.0,0.242200218334012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058333169719415136,0.04876730839287074,0.0,0.0,0.0977345811745235,0.16748120694561155,0.0,0.06927866798209797,0.0,0.0,0.13786149704740935,0.0,0.0,0.10391925713933237,0.047210213376179165,0.0,0.0,0.04340544481570005,0.0,0.04897342785259544,0.05126961224899746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958975165665128,0.11559429380100425,0.0,0.09221603648059062,0.09857982107955657,0.1607996442396283,0.05645890263985981,0.0,0.0,0.04074094255837425,0.07858788968078892,0.06025052139334981,0.0,0.07151703837605906,0.0,0.0,0.05859771265908796,0.0,0.2498098349330773,0.0,0.119809280021589,0.06384044962331296,0.22129567423410407,0.10592849788008916,0.0,0.05059872468022982,0.0,0.04867613902632999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822830069670087,0.0,0.044644604404725285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03949064721765512
parenting,stardustisenough,2019/03/12,"Pants Okay , so my son is 6 years old and loves it when his cousin from out of town comes to play (vice/versa) but for whatever reason every time these two get together they cannot keep their pants on. We have walked in on them in bed , walked in on them with pants down, and just recently broke up a sleep over due to this similar kind of behavior. I am started to become worried/ concerned. Is my kid a pervert? Already at this age? Or is it exploration of body parts? Hellllppppppp.  Every time this happens we have a serious conversation about how inappropriate this is. We even grounded him over the sleep over. ",3.9041025641025655,5.993854837606842,4.302914529914531,85.05180769230772,73.27350427350427,8.098803418803419,26.22991452991453,8.841846274778883,1.964487863247863,484,17,95,10,10,152,86,117,0.084,0.851,0.065,-0.6474,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,4,0,6,6,0,0,4,1,8,4,3,2,0,15,14,7,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,8,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,2,0,1,0,0,12,4,23,14,1,28,0,1,0,1,14,15,0,1,9,65,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252278177623948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22541080586574344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267074708823484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758128229321292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348051629498803,0.0,0.3439236508550453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663306501708313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048366779364486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141216304588284,0.0,0.2125372253160288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842069038666312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416708812201746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101883313512488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098472950759073,0.20152268887617905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4084918816524331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444619994365731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380230038294792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993746201250152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072719778993372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143277025105612
parenting,XanderBose,2019/03/12,"Lead Poisoning Awareness [YT Link](https://youtu.be/5qHxEjINCAg)

This Doctor creates videos regarding either studies he has personally treated and/ or famous case studies - all of which are very educational and sometimes, like in this case for me, kind of a public service announcement. 

I did not know the levels the AAP recommends regarding juice. I also did not know how severe lead exposure was. 

I hope this video helps anyone else here. I haven’t fact checked everything in this video yet, but he appears to be credible. 

Just FYI. ",8.138100649350648,10.910834920454548,6.878766233766235,68.13636363636367,63.43181818181819,10.028571428571428,35.298701298701296,10.290406445055957,4.3267155844155845,435,20,61,11,7,131,70,88,0.027000000000000003,0.8240000000000001,0.149,0.7901,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,5,5,1,0,3,0,7,2,0,3,2,17,11,6,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,3,1,3,3,1,0,0,3,0,5,4,6,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,3,2,39,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271351447211827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19859728159989512,0.29101775978273225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907122048189607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372669173334205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25526386712644256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19037635173730666,0.0,0.0,0.28210147628225085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29576892283070155,0.31218604935954586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876054621014974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480001712637075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208680480340391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809085500179136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23435083979028665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CheefinTheKeef209,2019/03/12,"Are modern American parents scared of disciplining their kids? It seems in America now parents are afraid to tell their children to listen. Parents are scared to give their children gender appropriate toys. Parents encourage gender mixing toys then claim their child was always the “opposite gender” when the kid inevitably grows up and says “I think I’m a boy or girl”. Parents don’t discourage their kids not to claim they think they’re “x” gender due to fear of being shunned by our liberal society.

Parents give their kids everything they want. What happened to even in the 90s where white  American parents, yes; white Americans would tell their kids not to talk back to them, disrespect them, and even hit them?

Kids were allowed to go play outside now they’re constantly on the phone and parents never teach them manners, respect, how to clean up after themselves, how to have shame, and just not be little shits.

I see so many parents now just let the child control everything. They never raise their voice at their child but the child does. They never take their toys away. Never hit them. Hitting your kids is something you should sometimes do. I’m not saying beat them.  But white people do the whole “spanking” thing which is ridiculous but at least effective sort of. Unruly kids should have their toys taken away, they should be shown the parents anger and not receive love, and even possibly get a decent powered slap across the cheek: for the love of god it’s not child “abuse”. The government shoots your children and gets away with it but tells you not to discipline your child by slapping them or yelling at them or taking away their toys? They do this because they want to shove the idea in your head that they own you and your kids and they control your kids and have the power to harm them and not you. It’s just a power play by the government to keep their citizens in line and force them into submitting to their will and being afraid to take control of their lives and their kids because they want a society that’s easier to control. Plus they make money taking away your kids.

Nowadays kids don’t eat at the dinner table or just use the phone if they do. Kids especially girls have no shame now. Is shame a foreign concept in the USA especially to white families?  This Isn’t racism it’s juet facts I’ve noticed. It’s completely wrong that 13 year old girls are having sex now. A 13 year old girl should not be bending over her body to some little barely out of prepubescent boy and submitting to him and losing her dignity at that young age. She should not be having oral sex at that age but only when she’s older and with a boy who loves her and deserves it, not because she’s pressured by society to be a little cock sucker otherwise she’s not cool. 

This is because parents don’t teach their kids “shame”. Idk why parents in America don’t understand the concept of shame and being ashamed of themselves. If your kids does something wrong or immoral they should be told to be ashamed of theselves not be told and encouraged when they do wrong things.

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parenting,Ohbrotherwhereartcow,2019/03/12,"How is it possible to amicably co-parent when one resents the other for cheating? My boyfriend cheated on his wife when she was pregnant (Yes with me, no I didn't know about her, yes I made peace with it - it's a long story for another post).

She justifiably hates him and this has sadly translated into her denying him access to his child (8 months). She didn't even tell him when the baby was born. She won't let him babysit or spend time alone with his son.

Is this justified or is it weaponizing a child to return the hurt?

Is there any hope for a healthy co-parenting relationship or is it doomed?",3.2412605042016804,5.084042411764706,4.123268907563027,86.69599579831936,74.46218487394958,7.449075630252103,26.185714285714287,8.238735603445708,1.6029152941176474,473,17,97,8,10,152,79,119,0.209,0.645,0.146,-0.8408,2,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,7,9,5,0,6,2,12,0,0,2,0,12,16,8,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,8,0,1,5,0,17,1,12,9,0,11,1,3,0,0,19,2,0,4,8,67,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26971475143963913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770933286151991,0.2730712236669829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200378688559032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25710909061183485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586540652773522,0.0,0.0,0.27878310460868977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431190503748582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26629528719801177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304619413907103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464140287884617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078633491085027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764661344109308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29358242923763395,0.24940868104082956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795917235233787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276170141089864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518519659361093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Virshatu,2019/03/12,"Ear piercings Hi everyone,

My SO and I have decided at some point we would like to have our daughter’s ears pierced . Typically how old do you suggest that happens? 

Originally we were going to do it when she was three months, but now she’s active enough to wear she touches and she pulls on her face and ears sometimes and I worry she may rip them out now?

I personally had mine pierced when I was a couple of months old. I know every kid/baby is different.

Suggestions please? Would it just be best now to wait until she’s much older? ",2.183747855917666,4.592751594339624,3.4191252144082362,87.71258147512863,80.22641509433961,6.496054888507719,23.78730703259005,7.686295010490155,1.2272377358490574,423,15,85,7,11,137,76,106,0.035,0.828,0.13699999999999998,0.9034,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,1,1,1,8,2,0,0,1,0,13,5,5,2,0,18,17,10,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,1,3,7,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,19,2,9,9,4,18,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,2,13,63,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22305416806629064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351783742352802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22206558487611186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196170853239127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17907937604835225,0.2030970428351732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079492753900795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795393998086168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680985611645145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383935778488487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393047653356046,0.0,0.156245943857964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4460630540020417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855871803470977,0.0,0.2333119474326045,0.2009248998403883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21021366827114535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585102613466656,0.0,0.30197350433523884,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tame_tamala,2019/03/12,"Gifts for four year old’s birthday? Hello. Not sure if this is where I should be posting this, but might as well give it a shot. Does anyone have any ideas of gifts for my daughter’s birthday? She likes hatchimals and my little pony and what not, but I’m also looking for recommendations on toys that would be a little more educational, yet also fun. ",4.625588235294117,6.061875088235299,4.984588235294119,83.54864705882355,70.17647058823529,6.616470588235294,25.364705882352943,6.742157984588678,0.8971552941176473,278,8,54,2,5,88,53,68,0.021,0.821,0.158,0.8929,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,12,10,8,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,4,4,6,5,1,8,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,2,4,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857439031391175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640110043564833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863900707924556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2110586730187129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23136230363520446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722634178235129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782860543779862,0.4834524248735736,0.0,0.0,0.2025308696367998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558543875843143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25307835444855115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23098424199601103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273097585760585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168502260811152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132770104711445,0.0,0.0,0.15531232883364862
parenting,ilPavimento,2019/03/12,"Is this ok to do? Hi parents, I would like your opinion on this thing I started doing.

Sorry this is long and a bit incoherent, I am very tired and English is not my native language.

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My son is two, and has always been very strong-willed and opinionated. I find very hard making him doing anything that he doesn't want.  
He goes to a daycare very close to my office, so I have to drive him there and back every day. He never wants to get into his seat, so I have to find creative ways to convince him, or eventually force him down. Sometimes it takes me even an hour to leave from daycare.

  
One day last week, the teacher told me that he basically didn't touch the lunch. I was worried he would be hungry while we were stuck in traffic, so I gave him a couple of Maltesers that happened to be in the glove compartment. He kept asking for ""one  more"", so I gave him a few more along the way.  
Since then, I have been using ""chocolate balls"" to convince him to get into the car. I give him one when he sits down, one when he goes out and two along the way, at specific reference points. It's working quite nicely, we have been much quicker to get going, so we are able to beat the traffic, which was almost impossible before. He very rarely gets candy otherwise, which is only when someone gits it to him or when we people are eating candy around him for some reason.

I am hoping to condition him to like car rides, so that in the future I won't have to bribe him. Can this work?

Or is this just going to backfire? I have don't have the healthiest relationship with food, and I would like for him to do better on that front.

Do you have any other ideas that I can use to solve this problem?

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Thanks for reading!

  
   
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parenting,nickmj88,2019/03/12,"My dad My dad has just told me he wants to embarrass me beyond redemption. 
Any ideas? 😂 (we have banter by the way so be brutal if need be)
I’m a 17 year old bloke",-1.945135135135136,-0.09363848648648697,1.3284324324324324,98.71859459459463,96.02702702702706,5.122162162162162,12.805405405405404,6.742157984588678,-0.7188010810810809,124,2,32,2,5,44,33,37,0.171,0.8290000000000001,0.0,-0.7635,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,3,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849998552820461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47310870988657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31075459594474497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4397710670442844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004644744272143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24719385602716296,0.33265913544668124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698842764531713
parenting,bulmakai,2019/03/12,"My son said five words that absolutely melted my heart to a big pile of mush. Last night I was in the bathroom and my three soon to be four year old son was sitting by the door waiting for me patiently. As soon as I came out he gave me the biggest hug and told me “mommy you’re my best friend”. It was the sweetest most sincere thing that has ever been said to me by an adult or child. I know it doesn’t seem like a lot, but being a mother who works a lot and also puts a lot of effort into my sons health, happiness, education, etc it meant the absolute world to me. Our relationship is so strong and I couldn’t be more proud of the way my son has grown and developed over the last almost four years. ",3.4142857142857115,4.0259024353741495,4.5117074829932005,88.89817346938776,72.26530612244899,7.784761904761906,23.543537414965982,7.908726449838941,0.8706631292516995,546,13,125,7,10,179,98,147,0.0,0.831,0.16899999999999998,0.9773,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,5,5,8,0,0,13,0,12,3,1,0,1,22,21,11,0,1,2,5,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,2,7,8,0,1,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,10,2,16,8,16,7,7,21,0,0,0,1,16,7,0,7,10,87,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471703057440435,0.0,0.0,0.13953200357761802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18310653428630214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955922526155986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945918943510939,0.0,0.1578276136244392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480321188323935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573775103243628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18546462673363492,0.0,0.20676024854358066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958899271391711,0.2844498121511561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524236552645295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44501127918996997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373814225010735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18308794809699194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17540110787066113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732677394903804,0.0,0.0,0.3319418478761237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884050642615868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591710018580274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672360781123352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849451018686285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702389185334012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22471946020258152
parenting,agrahamm2018,2019/03/12,Bad mom I’m a young mom I’m 23. My daughter is 15 months. She doesn’t sleep through the night yet. She hasn’t slept through the night ever. She’ll sleep maybe 3-5 hours at a time and usually wakes up 3 times a night. I’m still nursing her so the only way to get her to fall back asleep is nursing. Right now it’s 5:15am and she just fell asleep at 4:50am after waking up at 1am and fighting her sleep. I tried EVERYTHING THREE TIMES to get her to fall asleep. I got so frustrated I wanted to cry so bad. I’m so tired of her constantly waking up through the night and tonight just really got to me I feel like a horrible mom. I thought I knew what I was doing but nights like these make me feel horrible like I don’t want to be a mom.. just venting. Feel free to leave advice on what worked for you to get your baby to sleep through the night. ,-0.19382219989955016,1.978321955801107,1.244050728277248,100.79702536413865,89.11049723756906,4.837870416875941,17.61953792064289,6.351523495107088,-0.4234883977900559,658,17,160,7,22,209,97,181,0.123,0.7979999999999999,0.079,-0.6932,0,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,12,8,2,0,10,0,9,12,11,1,1,17,27,9,0,2,4,5,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,0,1,3,3,4,0,1,6,3,22,5,24,19,0,33,0,0,0,0,17,8,0,0,24,86,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593226417074276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548798942610073,0.16393856358173453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608874829348036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783701966663477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880193708883348,0.0,0.0,0.08823040772505747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891570723073766,0.07013389315485828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387200835118575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703377805317156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667936456206604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039496718170824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388522401655213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553038239905364,0.0,0.09862668337550166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599101066536314,0.07835972668368399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5527650278639825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746640134097956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289131476720948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383810861915036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392970455677108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784000587962492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793737620443325,0.171734150317992,0.11283394530200863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665215065056489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812227500620426,0.0,0.11580844266360375,0.07792413823114536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147017808924422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SnuggieSithLord,2019/03/12,"How do parenting trends around the world vary? I've become more and more curious about how parenting around the world varies after reading that Scandenavian families let their babies sleep outside for naps. Now I'm curious.

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In the US, the general trends I notice:

Baby typically sleeps in its own bed on night #1, mom and dad alternate getting up every 2-3 hours for the first few weeks to change the disposable diaper and feed. Big emphasis on not taking the baby out too much until the immune system is up and running/shots have been administered. Everyone's schedule seems to revolve around the baby, with the parents cancelling plans because of naps/feeding schedules and needing to be home for naptimes. The child in general seems to wreck the house in some capacity, with an influx of toys that spills out into the main areas and clogs up all the living spaces. Napping is typically done in the child's bed, or on a parent's bed with pillows as a barrier to prevent falling off. A parent either becomes a stay-at-home parent or the child eventually goes to day care. Toilet training typically happens by 2-4, depending on sex and maturity of the child. Most parents keep ""kids food"" on hand for children that refuse to eat what is cooked, easy to chew, carb rich foods: breaded chicken nuggets like from McDonalds, fries, macaroni and cheese, string cheese, cereal, fruit, crackers. The kids typically eat these instead of vegetables. Any adult foods have to be introduced slowly and often results in dinnertime wars where the kids don't want to try new foods and are grossed out by non ""kid"" foods. Menus in restaurants here also have ""kids menus"" specifically full of these kids items.

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What do other countries (non US) do differently? Besides the expensive cloth diapers or plastic disposables that are manufactured, what do people around the world use to diaper their babies? What country are you in and do you have a ""kids menu"" or do the kids eat what the adults eat? I want to hear it all!",9.155441496302744,8.90740578236915,8.439565028273162,68.58365376250545,60.04683195592287,11.719240249383793,38.11352762070466,11.10113133989139,4.369895867768594,1621,69,265,37,19,510,210,363,0.047,0.883,0.07,0.9046,8,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,2,2,2,2,14,5,1,0,29,0,22,20,3,5,2,49,35,20,1,3,6,9,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,15,14,22,15,4,2,5,2,1,2,2,0,1,2,3,8,3,56,30,13,46,0,0,0,1,32,33,0,10,12,168,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578943866758029,0.0,0.15688026038477346,0.1759360971601442,0.049231194209576806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25778817930871845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04413142016449037,0.15990954217664996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381169481308032,0.0,0.07658448449479545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046688891823201566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563753809081833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408538806725552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963133059026483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609960482381541,0.06917668184445665,0.0,0.0,0.06824771782756346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06157928970746705,0.4377025997326113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0378234853078224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401880463626533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08159461160286516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726182524594718,0.0,0.07129465386720024,0.08353429955588454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434814832085117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402896034342864,0.0,0.03536862041978317,0.0,0.06392625635236672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478834137053076,0.0,0.0,0.05321877560039656,0.05368009695771265,0.0,0.06991970073220012,0.0,0.06793795744309031,0.0,0.0,0.08242237430310928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5627038373795942,0.0,0.0,0.050189691472971296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241475538549398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181167707809638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489489429540708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716361258170967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443215380852643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915156436600145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416493756459436,0.06252617776007728,0.0,0.0,0.08540108710893138,0.0,0.05807103393303089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759360971601442,0.0
parenting,Adelleda2244,2019/03/12,"Biting toddler! Our 21month old girl is a biter.

Always has been, but it’s only getting worse. We’re starting to get the feeling that her day care is going to tell us she can’t come soon, as she’s biting and leaving marks on the other kids.

Generally, it’s when a child takes a toy off her, or when they have a toy she wants.

We’ve a 4yo at home, so I think it might have started as a method to get her way with him (immediate reaction, him letting go of the toy).

We’ve been obviously trying to discouraging the behaviour - time outs when it happens, loud ‘No’, and not getting the toy/desired object - but it’s not helping, she seems to be getting worse.

At our wits end, any tips from parents of reformed biters!?",4.6904166666666685,4.971084430555557,5.645833333333332,83.08250000000002,69.27777777777777,8.066666666666668,30.583333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.88645,554,21,115,6,9,183,95,144,0.105,0.852,0.042,-0.8755,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,11,0,11,0,0,0,1,18,28,11,0,1,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,7,5,0,1,3,3,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,2,14,1,16,23,0,19,0,1,0,0,19,5,0,3,10,72,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505976746678467,0.0,0.0,0.11855302776893265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774502620423666,0.0,0.0,0.15017321523746954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243094094475528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440808723740812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814845620666062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4554113277170725,0.0,0.1981559417890906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416288890876936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685233600823701,0.0,0.17487111248429588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845944245424804,0.0,0.17826822063139122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849407144057126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293409823551784,0.0,0.0,0.1325887840575974,0.0,0.0,0.19357716101288774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15870703183012902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467888584372321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107739403018065,0.0,0.1523755095991133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11170612156874997,0.0,0.0,0.10165549699225376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836127213090288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970221229625605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282664897810538,0.1383781324491218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35532226854462073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,APhillykid1226,2019/03/12,"Toddler Won’t Stay in bed About 2 or 3 weeks ago we transitioned our toddler into her big girl bed for good. The first week was great, didn’t get up at all and stayed in bed the whole night. Since then it’s been a battle. Anybody have any tips or tricks how to get her to stay in her bed at night? Every night we read before bed and most of the time she falls asleep to that. But when she doesn’t or when she wakes up in the middle of the night it’s a nightmare. She turns demonic at the notion of sleep and will not go back to bed by herself causing one of us to go back and read to her or just be in there with her. 

Luckily I’ve been on leave for the past few weeks because my wife and i had our second 6 weeks ago. But next week i go back to work and it’ll be a night shift so i won’t be home to help my wife with anything which I’m really nervous about. Any ideas will be helpful!",3.245697278911564,2.997207617346941,4.085102040816326,94.86585034013606,72.31632653061223,7.34965986394558,22.965986394557824,6.42735559955562,0.19144353741496545,687,13,175,4,12,221,109,196,0.04,0.877,0.083,0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,5,0,0,2,11,5,2,1,10,0,16,3,3,2,1,24,23,17,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,7,1,5,11,0,0,1,2,0,4,5,3,0,3,5,0,20,2,31,9,4,43,1,0,0,0,20,14,0,5,22,111,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18967458388737396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455093071531262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804097314950468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24679860306788495,0.0,0.06521812516350999,0.0,0.09103783785255297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109904855318733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014094478827353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100286844729977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111792314397831,0.0,0.1824090936812945,0.08973540358934615,0.0,0.11795326121319917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342191651927266,0.0,0.10731642581191997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077500971987505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328351255548952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378161430061268,0.5019990513971538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249698550169215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213095144106274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21403138910159944,0.0,0.0685384467456454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850053889939123,0.0,0.10706400696475904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421008971384856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06238482986904285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637085373528153,0.0,0.0,0.12869187819976638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290915571380389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944687719384603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07788762268689974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lonewolf52,2019/03/12,"Finding time for physical health Lately I've been struggling to find the time to take care of myself.

The wife and I recently became parents to a pair of boys aged 2 and 3. Which is a story for another time. were young, under 30. 

I recently have gotten back into training martial arts (BJJ) after a year+ break for other reasons. However, with the boys now, im finding it nearly impossible to make the classes. Havnt been in over a month again, and its a bit depressing loosing that reignited spark of passion

The classes i normally would of attended are at 12pm or 8pm during the week, depending on my work schedule (work in restaurant) however even if the work schedule permits i have the kids to watch during the day until i take them to daycare at which point my wife picks them up when she is off at dinner time. 

Once maybe twice a week i am able to have my work schedule line up for me to make an 8pm class which are the best ones because of higher attendance and a waaay better instructor. However my wife has a hard time even pre kids understanding why i don't want to come straight home the only days i get off early.(that part has historically always been an issue and set me back from doing something i so much enjoy).

The gym has a child area for kids who are a bit older maybe 5+ I would guess not that their are any hard rules on age just my guess based on what i see there in terms of safe environment etc. So i don't think bringing the boys during lunch class would be viable at this point, maybe a year or 2 from now. Unless anyone has any suggestions how to make it work. 

I think the challenge is not just in finding the time but also having my wife see the value in me taking personal time when trying to bond and attach with our new family. which is very important to me as well, but i feel doing this for myself will help me give them the best version of me. It doesn't help that the wife doesn't have any hobbies or interests of her own and most her friends have moved away recently, so trading off on ""personal"" time doesn't even work as an option.

Anyways reddit hit me with your suggestions. and sorry for formatting i am on mobile.

Tl;dr

Need to find time to be able to attend martial arts classes and have the wife be okay with me taking ""personal"" time 1-3 hrs a week. This is for my physical and mental health folks. ",5.608086570816766,5.768360698072808,6.075242428877335,81.21245985010707,67.28693790149893,9.06971550933007,29.312404405016817,8.841846274778883,2.1426507188742727,1854,59,367,28,28,600,228,467,0.019,0.882,0.099,0.9888,4,0,1,0,1,0,42.0,1,1,4,10,20,14,0,1,34,1,40,5,0,8,0,55,64,27,0,7,11,7,3,0,1,4,2,0,1,10,17,16,2,1,10,3,1,6,7,2,1,2,5,6,41,12,66,51,11,77,0,1,3,1,33,28,0,9,41,245,58,13,0.13938489804524304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055733026304202106,0.05798970053250972,0.0,0.0,0.14217976557387413,0.07307860939679013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048730580786768674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547834999188669,0.10717838288049976,0.0,0.042483870062265006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627585113364966,0.06163730766371176,0.152172208293316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105609653680803,0.0,0.0,0.060033873841822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989172821426915,0.0,0.060026004221837986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772550302713263,0.13809361588290198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569983846940211,0.0,0.03523859624963042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184881791075346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053844213235282816,0.0,0.036411428164563636,0.06685534754726256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354817958918976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248614906644281,0.0,0.0,0.148159628690414,0.0,0.0,0.09342675905217436,0.0,0.06990720874465163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527980422872738,0.0727408101129153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786161180869271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395607526800066,0.0,0.21004629703513653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023359677585468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055627847905108864,0.07407204396568064,0.05123196894758703,0.05167606788045877,0.0,0.0673094015471856,0.0,0.0,0.06828380293415864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422018369361189,0.047225407112485566,0.05300424794373276,0.0,0.0,0.07738521709433427,0.07547013081192043,0.0,0.0,0.18255827497044064,0.0,0.0,0.13176378183330514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07165544485624875,0.20643865695042607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107171751847372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053652652122611465,0.0,0.07801499087598447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285767957141911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20960019333086105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931221455188397,0.0,0.0,0.4063822747691948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04731659815385809,0.0,0.0,0.07255229726877213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057503569227372923,0.04110641210263343,0.0,0.16770923646667713,0.0,0.0626618813979921,0.0,0.06288659527590429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044215975291817,0.0,0.0,0.14852254863486913,0.0,0.0,0.08975930442774467
parenting,mafilafa,2019/03/12,please help... My 2 year old has the stomach virus for the first time. She had diarrhea all day and just yakked all over me. She doesn't understand whats going on so i can't explain to her to get it into a bucket or the toilet. What can I do to help her? I am a total germaphobe when it comes to puke.. am I pretty much destined for my own 24 hours of hell?,-0.07000000000000027,1.7440816794871807,2.1304487179487204,97.15413461538462,84.76923076923076,4.925641025641027,17.442307692307693,5.985473137389443,-0.5178769230769231,273,6,66,2,8,92,59,78,0.06,0.8290000000000001,0.111,0.4515,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,5,0,8,1,1,0,3,10,13,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,11,0,10,12,5,12,1,0,0,0,7,3,1,1,7,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601482358541332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476649611548372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568829976736253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778373434469092,0.0,0.1716348637769063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048515445301921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974114266421805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22200643550281352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169006061319419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315078300964943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072449055900597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609996673236022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143950395632655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447957631300491
parenting,Asa017,2019/03/12,"Picking a Godparent (best friend or brother) So I recently let my family know my partner and I are expecting a child soon. My partner (P) and I had discussed who we wanted as godparents a while back, but since my side of the family didn’t know, we kept it under wraps. Now that the immediate family knows, I asked my best friend (M) of almost a decade to look into what being a godfather entails, as I would like for him to be one. My mother being the religious one between us two, told him the requirements he needed to meet through the Catholic church. He said he’d happily consider, and will let me know his answer in the near future.
Now, it was all set and done, but while talking to my dad and his sister today, I received a text from my older half brother (J), asking if we had chosen godparents yet. Not wanting to make my M’s decision for him, I said we were still in the process. I received a message back essentially hinting he would be up for the task. Normally I would have been excited, but because of where he has lived most of his life, and him living with his mom, I never really got to connect with him as a brother. I would love for him to be a part of this child’s life, but not only had P and I already asked M, J is not of the same religion as I because of his sexuality (not an issue to me btw). My aunt and dad see this as my brother really trying to make up for those years we never talked, but my mother reminded my dad it is a religious ceremony/role, thus should be M’s position as a member of my faith. My dad (religious but not devout nor catholic) on the side told me that family is more important than religious traditions, and if he had been passed up in the same situation, it would hurt him deeply.
I don’t want to stress P out with this, so I have turned to you, Reddit, to ask how I should approach this. I do care about my brother, and would like for him to be involved, however I unfortunately never really connected with him, and do not see myself seeing him often enough because of where we live. My best friend, while not a frequent visitor now, is someone I have  seen almost daily for years until we graduated, bringing it down to 2-3 months out of the year. He is also of my faith, which I understand is what is traditionally expected. I know it would hurt my dad, aunt, and J if I choose M, but it is what my gut tells me is the more rational choice for my child. 
I guess the questions are: should I prioritize family over religious traditions? And how should I go about letting either one of them know why I didn’t pick them?

(Thank you for your help, and please let me know if the format is weird)",6.663177203668695,5.5304573327032145,7.5985591262339875,75.48122173212913,65.46502835538753,11.315297906602256,33.01414268711055,10.585719281625627,3.2342274172092687,2055,71,419,46,27,697,231,529,0.03,0.848,0.122,0.9945,4,0,0,0,0,0,70.0,8,3,2,4,18,18,0,1,28,0,54,4,1,7,4,98,90,42,0,22,20,16,0,2,5,12,2,2,0,5,19,28,0,2,12,0,0,6,14,4,0,5,18,7,82,14,66,48,12,49,3,2,5,1,80,18,0,11,26,321,101,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110957757305753,0.0,0.07775356501357544,0.056346258913710236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634796533531095,0.0,0.0,0.10835767070632008,0.0,0.1288539651042234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22182799483594154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718379294712497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721043040171802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280326880754051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33211368146240045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330998948812803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04004363124680912,0.0,0.0563527209474582,0.0,0.0776188380264669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04722736861882673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085622808453106,0.0,0.0,0.07354118001495158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710580344498875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881975408069745,0.0995349431238988,0.06884568808902415,0.0,0.18665049922638546,0.0,0.05916804763837505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359224903050564,0.0,0.0940642299687577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252105445871742,0.056239923232688914,0.0,0.0,0.05224466162203106,0.16302761589727222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903513221658264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323509019273492,0.05358745570108903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763005315334801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734312838135632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893051637778052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354140525064085,0.0,0.06957003644982578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340458161938391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844076578023187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058284642612549585,0.07919918025333138,0.0,0.0,0.05969991733906635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05626887018044481,0.0,0.0807108645386402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326499691695713,0.0615845143208059,0.06486943639588992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678715666450998,0.1346537186006058,0.0,0.04783722448411625,0.07663946123750462,0.06882847617118629,0.07335059295680987,0.08475383564091203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467612255826965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357853887705801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35036574507656804,0.0,0.0,0.13612039420562322
parenting,DrinkCouldBeColder,2019/03/12,"[Australia] When do you escalate an issue of potential bullying? My daughter started kindy this year.

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On Fridays we've bought her a hotdog, her favourite. As a treat for being a good girl. She loves them. Goes nutty over them. 

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First week, ask her how the hotdog was. She said GIRL ate some of it. So we call the school to make sure that they know GIRL ate hotdog and is OK, because we don't know what allergies if any this kid has. Tell our daughter not to share food, and to go to the teacher if it happens again.

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Repeat up until last week. 

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Yesterday, when I picked up my daughter, she shows me a scratch (0.5cm) and bruise (1x2cm) developing on her arm. Tells me that GIRL hit her and whipped her with her hat. Teacher said that yes that happened, GIRL was made to say sorry. When we get to the car, daughter tells me that GIRL also hit her ""like 100 times"", then does this windmill style of attack to show me how she was hit and that she was pushed into a fence by GIRL as well. Teacher doesn't seem to be aware of this and was away today. 

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They've got a bullying seminar/play thing I believe this Friday.

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I'm wondering at what point we should escalate the issue to the principal and what, if anything could be done?",3.350234604105573,5.4732671612903285,3.4612023460410555,90.32543988269795,74.96774193548387,6.2832844574780085,25.788856304985337,7.1686216300943375,1.1137112903225803,1008,36,200,11,22,308,140,248,0.055,0.858,0.087,0.7967,0,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,5,1,3,1,10,9,1,0,13,2,16,5,1,5,1,31,39,21,0,5,4,4,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,8,17,13,3,1,4,2,1,3,3,1,1,1,13,4,30,8,27,18,1,28,0,0,0,1,44,9,0,6,17,126,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056892452157144786,0.0,0.4624957558487182,0.5186739111573531,0.04837918703400114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585440311687148,0.0,0.06650842425816088,0.08093460901673863,0.066840509860512,0.0,0.0,0.04336767093491803,0.0,0.0,0.08015298265592274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264421765107065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680131822966832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622570848656398,0.07280324808970585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06051358334913118,0.08602552214186708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03716890275290082,0.0,0.040431794742509616,0.05967076551676486,0.05689897683070664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582175886314678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850810492983996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819586836338499,0.05799044991107099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034756522361393885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06420868137978479,0.0673165413953125,0.04748802144426014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725244573189967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534519117502228,0.05657519306144895,0.0,0.07199978109152784,0.0,0.06476525586074547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963795311824629,0.05035486889256517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705075289278947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654445399736688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04726376678771923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041483633059191866,0.0,0.0674345588953169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413208462684085,0.0,0.06396544967885869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715076324709208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5186739111573531,0.0458132930458599
parenting,rediculously_me,2019/03/12,"Teacher is a bully...? My 10 year old daughter started her new school in October. She complained to me about one of her teachers saying “it’s like she doesn’t want me to be happy.. when I’m happy, she gets mad and makes me feel bad”. I have reason to believe my daughter is adhd: hyperactive, trouble focusing, spurts of energy, forgetful, not staying on task, etc. all the symptoms but I do not want to medicate her. Anyhow, that’s besides the point but if anyone has any input on medicating a child I would greatly appreciate it too. Not my point here though as of right now at least. 
I blew off the complaints (for reason). My daughter can have an attitude and be combative.. but she is also the happiest sweetest kid when she feels encouraged. If not, her approach is negative so I tend to tell her to chill. She can also be overly dramatic. I also know teachers deal with a lot so I try not to side with my kids when I feel they don’t get their way and blaming the teacher because they’re mean, don’t understand, etc. 
but this week said teacher text me and requests a meeting due to my daughters issues concentrating, keeping on task, etc. she also mentioned that she is tired a lot. Point is my kid is never tired. I feel she might seem tired because she’s annoyed by teacher and trying to “not be hyper and excitable and happy because as mentioned before, teacher makes her feel bad for it”. She actually said if she acts sad, teacher is nicer. 
My problem right now: my daughter came home last week day after teacher requested meeting and tells me she was taking pictures of her randomly... she said “ok no one talk to (daughters name) because she’s making bad choices, don’t be friends with her”... and is taking random pics (assuming that they are of my daughter being in a mood with her). We have a meeting set for This week and I want to desperately bring up the pictures and try to not attack her for attacking my child, but in a polite yet objective way. Any input would help... ",3.408531727651692,5.572111055118114,4.513627450980393,82.66102941176473,74.93175853018373,6.897051103906128,29.05365138181257,7.827709963407826,2.052691770881581,1556,68,283,23,34,508,184,381,0.151,0.7440000000000001,0.105,-0.9708,0,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,1,0,3,0,16,21,4,0,15,1,31,6,0,5,2,64,59,31,0,9,15,7,5,1,1,3,6,4,1,5,8,17,0,1,12,0,0,4,14,11,0,2,5,9,55,9,40,45,7,42,0,1,0,0,61,16,0,11,19,202,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0777611587549319,0.0,0.09576599995049366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548965691804261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083771952792896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571767173075794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130660029684675,0.0,0.0,0.1996011795492761,0.1943011790759672,0.0,0.06780614741273927,0.08977781548306459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113852120524353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05139029458595211,0.08215183477453647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666098367505817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20145589344409487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06156450732183761,0.0,0.08326434731400041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785309939576119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544787985455965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05341124000261322,0.0,0.07993064817946226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317053714248505,0.0,0.0708277744263308,0.0,0.0,0.043792844688027584,0.06495398847782398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038930112741895034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135490837709521,0.0,0.0,0.15957126056731594,0.0,0.0,0.08680042977611364,0.0,0.16054870137515828,0.0,0.08453329407708174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145805828552195,0.07696036204062942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361610353112772,0.0,0.10799336631585232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259845159956934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624787494137224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385909996401818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610127278539613,0.2273963213320305,0.06336878647914175,0.0,0.08064557110001178,0.0,0.07254231842300411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564015209205265,0.0849337096478213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828233253797196,0.1198265501678901,0.06404786155940118,0.13929657192552902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829020200734099,0.0,0.0,0.2747588862976804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230284807535147,0.0,0.0,0.08295499493885401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100100215831995,0.12650063996722247,0.19175573187922187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321201151098788,0.0,0.0,0.05131458909519262
parenting,rblackstone44,2019/03/12,"Wow so this is abuse Just realized, hiding in the garage, from my husband that I am a huge dumb ass. I’ve tolerated crap for a few years, but we bought a house to accommodate my dad who is in bad health. I tell myself the abuse isn’t that bad or minimal when I had to use tons of make up to hide the bruises or marks on my neck from strangulation. Lady Christmas Eve was actually the worst. He busted my nose and lip to where I was bleeding so bag that he forced me in the shower. I caked on make up Christmas Day and didn’t even limp or flinch from my ribs being bruised. I know how screwed up thus is. We have a stepdaughter that I have raised for 4 years that depends on me. Her biological mother hasn’t attempted to contact her in over 3 years. I stay for her. It’s ridiculous, but I have zero legal tights to her if I leave. So I’m waiting to adopt, I know this i beyond crap but I can’t leave her behind. ",1.9626562499999984,3.446164119791668,3.59416666666667,90.6675,77.07291666666666,6.6750000000000025,22.416666666666664,7.413659706084162,0.6133791666666668,709,20,163,9,16,236,113,192,0.251,0.711,0.038,-0.9926,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,9,9,5,0,9,0,15,10,7,6,0,23,23,14,0,1,8,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,9,4,0,2,3,0,1,0,4,8,0,1,5,3,28,1,27,17,3,21,0,0,0,2,15,14,5,5,6,109,37,2,0.0,0.460126241141382,0.18948472864556606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242525012898828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252254490615759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824936105543436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206396699720012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404944228578888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21342468206987808,0.0,0.0,0.4112021035019829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592238206696484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696246279197844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971566238969152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677030313282917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751229204636027
parenting,akg720,2019/03/12,"Want to brag on my son for a second I just want to brag on my 12 year old son for a moment. 

He and my 10 year old daughter are visiting with their great grandparents right now a couple hours away. My daughter is much better than she used to be but she still gets separation anxiety. So last night she got herself worked up, almost in tears and asked her brother if she could use his phone to call home bc she got scared and was missing her dad and I. He said Of course and she called and calmed down. He was going to sleep on the pullout couch in the living room and her in the bedroom. Then I talked to my grandma this morning and apparently he didn’t want his little sister feeling scared or alone so he slept at the foot of her bed all night just to help her feel safe. I almost cried when I heard that. I’m just so proud of him. He has been through so much in his life already. Struggles with speech and occupational therapy, weight issues, ADHD and hardships with school, bullies, etc. He has such a kind, sweet, caring, gentle soul and I just love him so so much. ",2.5859412484700144,4.50225096744186,3.1478090575275424,92.64900856793146,76.53488372093024,5.8286413708690334,21.548347613219093,6.5966054737557815,0.23648837209302265,838,22,180,7,19,261,133,215,0.092,0.7170000000000001,0.192,0.9782,2,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,3,14,13,0,3,8,0,10,6,3,2,1,33,29,22,0,5,7,7,3,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,2,14,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,9,7,29,9,28,18,5,29,1,1,0,1,42,14,0,4,13,112,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456580219957952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427272101395892,0.1255259367829002,0.1337464560432204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271714294073632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330499723492404,0.0,0.11387074448688267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719094345999204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24751609955870535,0.0,0.12357077742460988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09676778959566014,0.13410473492350647,0.13313175458353993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516927192596814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256402887718724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332163888435273,0.0,0.06888036279014602,0.0,0.1938683252349692,0.13362267078923348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123734493604302,0.0,0.12157279323226307,0.0,0.1193569098622997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265005945196079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621043415368224,0.0,0.09879361659992504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560665927639892,0.0,0.12147355213303428,0.10702121412211484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938711219431634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26728632195130675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274746905390122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543565827879586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350355134013696,0.11528830131593787,0.0,0.24268331201766435,0.12266017558654885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128684199896725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678992816440724,0.0,0.0,0.12670383745791128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974154170856628,0.0,0.0,0.1386019773884411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093545857406024,0.0,0.0,0.21445948545854307,0.0,0.0,0.14758811231961844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823454356243787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609676818488086
parenting,oldtimeydoctor,2019/03/12,"Topics of conversation with my 3 year old? Hello All-

My daughter and I have a tradition for bedtime where we read stories by the light of my Army headlamp, and then I switch it to red filter and we just sit in low light and talk about the day as she falls asleep. We call this time ""red light.""

As she has gotten older, I have been trying to use this time to discuss attributes that I think are good for tiny people to work on. So far we have talked about ""Bravery"" and ""Being Smart."" It usually takes like a week of talking about the same topic every night before she catches on to what it means and how to apply it to her life. I plan on doing ""the golden rule"" next.

 If anyone has any suggestions of other similar things to discuss/teach, I'd appreciate it! I sort of got on a roll and then ran out of ideas...",3.496626016260162,4.621505573170737,4.489999999999998,87.21333333333334,72.53658536585365,6.930081300813008,23.422764227642283,7.1686216300943375,0.7713471544715449,630,16,131,6,12,205,107,164,0.013,0.934,0.053,0.7424,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,7,0,9,2,1,3,1,24,16,14,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,11,13,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,5,17,3,29,11,2,25,0,1,2,0,17,9,0,2,13,89,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134458244075634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825233778368382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682474896154238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018970252796189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751481074500778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665899369968862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658404542514187,0.15813693828670916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22320490768419046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965741931814432,0.09659734388682703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153780293470448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102803781596144,0.18554939831433345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747675612510186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370760529883874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977762475728451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866289432657276,0.4767661488129718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13135820339871912,0.12669274873272732,0.0,0.0,0.23058744063213554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342407622713621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707689647866703,0.21776366514324452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586012563711688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394451030799307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273269626035575
parenting,servel333,2019/03/12,"Ideas for my 5yo son to earn a Nintendo Switch? I would like my son to have his own Nintendo Switch, but I don't want to just give him something that expensive. I'd like him to feel like he earned it himself, and to respect it.

I've already talked to him about being respectful with his current games, and I've witnessed him getting better with them, and he's pretty good overall.

Ideas?",5.048831168831168,5.720986350649357,5.127688311688313,85.72867532467534,68.6103896103896,8.237922077922079,30.984415584415583,8.238735603445708,2.093386493506493,307,12,62,4,5,96,51,77,0.015,0.6659999999999999,0.319,0.9825,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,3,2,7,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,8,4,0,2,2,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,12,7,10,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,0,4,36,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846014626676461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280935151177419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040308850357488,0.18424536497018013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13474324163905793,0.2474032660490661,0.0,0.21631610785673566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5822803260242883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779939259069831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623792289378272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985456938645732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20729199867545794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521173845152912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320630516614744,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DakotaTF,2019/03/13,"My (will be 5 in April) year old nephew has a birthday coming up. It will be his last birthday as an only child before his little sister arrives. What sort of presents should I get him for his birthday? Hi! Like title says, my awesome nephew will turn half a decade old in less than a month! I’m so proud of him. Back in late December/early January his parents (my brother and his wife) found out they’re expecting, and just recently got the news it’s a little girl. They waited a little before telling Alex (my nephew), but heard yesterday that he now knows he has a little sister in mommy’s tummy. With that happening, what should I get him for his birthday? Should I get him something baby related (a babydoll to practice on, is that weird?)? Should I ignore any baby gifts and just get his normal gifts (Transformers)? I already bought two shirts for him that says “I’m going to be a big brother!” and “Only child Oldest Child 2019”. 

Any ideas? 
Thank you!",2.508083524027459,4.982948858695653,3.2574942791762,88.95661327231123,79.43478260869566,5.612814645308925,22.184210526315788,6.8360192770164,0.7009391304347825,746,23,141,8,19,235,108,184,0.019,0.912,0.069,0.8370000000000001,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,1,1,5,5,0,0,10,0,13,1,1,0,0,23,30,7,0,6,3,9,0,1,0,7,0,3,0,4,8,7,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,2,4,3,23,3,17,16,1,27,0,0,0,0,34,12,0,1,14,84,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267229830757004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18816503614919636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063823544496022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354507541217753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191759881868005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169326939438513,0.0,0.0,0.289127964271504,0.0,0.07862730427812246,0.0,0.11065086753811808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234215401449587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617993456559162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603335907119138,0.11277344425151235,0.15606445096489527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759065920181455,0.5546508501650829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042938462148702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555329967998825,0.0,0.0,0.29034940612817683,0.0,0.0,0.21044231273284852,0.0,0.0,0.15362093311797312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660360597333213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22004241700203872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065083331520824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092370735504288,0.12737378591898768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048471007266176,0.13514752210047398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909264986232042
parenting,MalachiConstant7,2019/03/13,"Help with what to do with out-of-control daughter I have a 14-year-old daughter. She stays out for days at a time without telling us, hardly shows up to school, is involved with drugs, doesn’t listen to us, and has even lashed out physically if she doesn’t get her way. She has a terrible circle of friends. I’m at my wit’s end. Nothing I tell her or do makes any difference. This is been gradually getting worse for a couple of years.

I’m in England, if that changes anything.
Thanks for any advice. ",3.330300000000001,4.940028030000004,3.916999999999998,89.24350000000004,73.7,6.6000000000000005,29.5,7.1686216300943375,1.5125000000000002,393,17,82,4,8,124,70,100,0.065,0.845,0.091,0.3612,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,1,0,11,17,4,0,2,4,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,10,2,18,16,0,12,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,3,4,50,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007535895632844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23671397059995944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322471007144724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411718121178086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19520695467787846,0.0,0.19257816067951689,0.0,0.11224502212290563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18184062214359584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018376555646137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415275387968638,0.0,0.0,0.11495548609961265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446720907131032,0.0,0.1818632989285115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591068344487558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665910584883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617679834209027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16700145996587984,0.0,0.1826315935003063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614345247807986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18550946623696069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042470747326665,0.1602378169306963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014873967337615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187108861782326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814930665491862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677737603572409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736734905184678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415933726879975
parenting,Griffinsmom15,2019/03/13,"New to Reddit. Depressed mom, smoker I’m a 39-year-old mom, married, of one 4-year-old boy. I’m a smoker, and I feel horrible guilt about it, and I’m depressed. I’m not making it into work consistently, but on days I’m home, I just watch TV and get nothing done. I guess I just want to connect with some people who have similar situations and may have some useful advice. Thanks ",1.6642105263157916,3.985217789473687,3.4860526315789464,86.98986842105263,81.63157894736842,5.905263157894738,22.657894736842106,7.1686216300943375,0.8998473684210522,296,10,59,4,8,99,51,76,0.111,0.765,0.125,0.4678,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,18,16,5,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,4,1,7,14,2,4,0,2,1,0,4,2,0,4,2,31,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892645742536065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490937226028942,0.0,0.3336373949234223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19820473255572454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979318347597732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119126031919608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133634218098319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19427962359227055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928476183318766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536778699177051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870600390379437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858438542428069,0.0,0.4064750002728955,0.0,0.13124446652302332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427525501282184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21770756343482506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831708477242114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727973847443875,0.0,0.0,0.1142391237461526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100337300300694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24945072462874465
parenting,Flaxscript42,2019/03/13,"I need some help coping My wife had our first baby 2 months ago. My FMLA is up in one month. I hate my job and it keeps me out of the house 14 hours a day. I am looking for a new job that may offer better work/life balance. Its tough though with only a high school diploma.

That said, the last few days I've been experiencing  great anxiety, to the point of physical symptoms. I'm worried about not being involved enough if I keep this job, not making enough money if I do change jobs, and just worry in general. 

 I try to tell myself that this too shall pass, but  I'm beginning to feel overwhelmed. Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with these feelings?",3.442164179104477,4.676883813432834,4.341970149253733,87.79967164179104,72.80597014925372,6.852537313432838,23.101492537313433,7.1686216300943375,0.7102561194029849,517,13,108,5,10,167,104,134,0.067,0.873,0.06,0.0387,5,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,5,5,1,1,6,0,9,1,0,2,0,21,21,7,0,3,6,1,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,8,5,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,3,0,2,3,5,12,2,15,15,4,18,0,1,1,0,7,7,0,4,10,67,20,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13031446775730138,0.11821252669070707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068702038539307,0.0,0.10201738830621576,0.0,0.0,0.09324599366227493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11794302277904925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107353717682722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17200787234685644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670120707852012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755859091322613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485814736904095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343300504241605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702605645573194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166197464303686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938607791876893,0.14089850659473946,0.0,0.0,0.13132932955273746,0.15387554269870618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5293431559301912,0.23706684073896206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870337919377132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119859071376866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901652617169734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21288783632203984,0.0,0.0,0.0988821848678005,0.0,0.1287965776058334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036584299247348,0.10142365816368278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260650352137991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685260815283958,0.0,0.0,0.13496393833576192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860850666490712,0.0,0.0,0.11655949413778398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102212374327854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054033710127726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708514959724933,0.2708600798827585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stressedthrowaway23,2019/03/13,"Worried about what our daughter came home saying. My 7 year old came home from school the other day talking about suicide and how she wants to kill herself. I’m incredibly worried. We don’t let her watch YouTube and we try to keep her away from video games. We asked her what she thought it meant and while she didn’t really know what it meant, we are still very worried. 
I don’t know how to talk to her about it. We have no idea where this even came from but I’m worried about the influence other kids may have on her. Any advice you can give, I would appreciate it. ",2.668521739130433,4.532243373913044,2.952391304347828,94.37815217391308,76.13043478260869,5.9913043478260875,22.80434782608696,6.742157984588678,0.3719739130434787,448,13,99,4,10,137,71,115,0.132,0.838,0.03,-0.8394,0,0,0,0,0,1,10.0,6,1,0,0,9,1,1,0,2,0,10,0,0,3,0,25,24,7,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,10,11,0,1,6,2,0,3,4,1,0,0,7,2,19,0,13,14,0,11,0,0,1,0,24,3,0,1,5,65,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370639307304974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930474919857367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279153795783284,0.0,0.12855407845521588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4694831306300094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824251285168286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037337039685486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125754688086136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744985723879311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544617587541843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161869951179605,0.15137951871245006,0.0,0.15039379288755364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991553942292245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357759864778327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765529434579905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088108367607952,0.0,0.1384768836520622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927073564848133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496672378015645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995375945259535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862586792828142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289699071614813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11289713853245548,0.08070449128771806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5558204692367726,0.0,0.09719843465787488,0.0,0.0,0.08811251860286386
parenting,Homeworm,2019/03/13,"Wife doesn't want my son (16) driving our son (13) around. Is she being overprotective or am I being under protective? To set the scene, I have a 16 year old from a previous relationship. My wife and I have two kids together. Our son will be 13 in May and our daughter will be 10 in June. All of the kids get along great and the 16 year old hangs out at our house a lot. 

My 16 year old got his licence a few months ago. In order to get his provisional license he had to take a drivers ed course, pass a written test, driving test, and had to log at least 65 hours behind the wheel. Since he is a minor he is restricted when he can drive, not between midnight and 5am unless coming home from school, work, hunting, or has a medical emergency. The other restriction is that he can only drive with one person below the age of 21 in the car. Sometimes the 16 year old wants to drive around with the 13 year old. Sometimes it's to go to the batting cages, pick up a bite to eat, go to a sporting event, go shopping, drop him off at a game, pick him up from school, etc. All normal things and nothing crazy. My wife is very uncomfortable with this arangment but she thinks 16 is too young to have a licence anyway. She immigrated here as an adult and is from a country with different norms. The driving age in her home country is 18. 

I don't think this is a big deal honestly. It makes things easier on us since 16 is more than willing to help out driving 13 around. Am I being super under protective or is my wife overreacting to a normal situation?",4.163540039810137,4.907775327974278,5.172852549379878,84.35317256162917,70.63987138263666,8.23892206400245,27.671260143928947,8.418075326091056,1.7396089725922512,1201,40,252,18,21,395,164,311,0.032,0.899,0.069,0.9457,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,27,0,32,2,0,3,2,39,46,14,0,4,6,8,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,4,8,18,1,4,2,3,1,14,3,0,0,2,4,0,23,3,48,33,7,57,0,0,0,0,34,21,0,5,19,163,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087515368285266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737856509513254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830933620102169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569054724774443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710846741476894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049005059886029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433357767818955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712182458243356,0.0,0.17478835679197133,0.0,0.08199222688250084,0.1130253776806274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687149982778782,0.0,0.2056658617823781,0.0,0.10095861530307024,0.11829087815171918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08715630529662384,0.0,0.0,0.06843090764257047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327511342153656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182810817331172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20088982850865508,0.098367846645669,0.0,0.5378718421312828,0.0,0.06946818665933417,0.07796881414113573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951390855947207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006491473824638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750539695332607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960627847267046,0.11523342701222535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20278391044447774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708004146718743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362155070489395,0.13137753533115554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014423330980712,0.0,0.12331535379651065,0.0,0.0,0.08458727885924283,0.12093439033948675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463361233328869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33008800218209405
parenting,Asterios390528,2019/03/13,"How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger I know we don't normally do links here.. but I thought this was especially pertinent and worth at least trying to share here: 

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/13/685533353/a-playful-way-to-teach-kids-to-control-their-anger",19.700196078431368,25.86037294117647,10.000588235294119,43.549313725490244,40.17647058823529,9.239215686274509,31.92156862745098,9.725611199111238,3.4661098039215688,256,7,26,4,3,61,30,34,0.065,0.78,0.154,0.4932,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,1,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,9,5,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,17,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7376283367185656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071801590877845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221865200657337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651301293836189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610566693140782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22325602039534526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26101232780063105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fish-x-5,2019/03/13,"How do I help my child (18m) prepare for the loss of his lifelong best friend (16dog)? In addition to the grief of losing someone so important, he’s also worried about the loss of companionship and loneliness. Getting another family member is not an option at this time.",7.156333333333336,7.707318499999999,8.138000000000002,66.40233333333336,64.0,11.466666666666667,36.66666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.604066666666666,215,10,34,6,3,73,45,50,0.238,0.573,0.189,-0.2975,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,4,4,6,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,8,3,1,3,0,4,0,0,6,2,0,1,1,24,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761021550305162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620324048250325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623262579218543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254778753184455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667449499160489,0.0,0.18038270035978413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314187046924925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3862546290271505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925354078556078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20132232048112966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506255688740276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theatrecadet,2019/03/13,"I (Dad) have a fever, 103.3f, we have a 7 week old and 3 year old. How can I help my wife and not get the family sick? I have been sick for 11 days. Potentially with different viruses. I got sick after my newborn was discharged from the ICU.",0.8085999999999984,2.760722659999999,2.7059999999999995,93.473,82.4,6.4,20.0,7.554174236665415,0.44280000000000097,183,5,43,3,5,61,38,50,0.196,0.7509999999999999,0.053,-0.802,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,6,4,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,4,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,6,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123850942931308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440708278181008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104549587723349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720568679165934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263388451529852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22073722938667376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6911349380642485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264161806715605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207221969447348
parenting,schwannycell,2019/03/13,"Just broke up with my boyfriend for my son. I'm hurting a lot right now, but hoping I did the right thing. Hi fellow parents.

I just want to get some opinions and maybe hear from others who've been where I am right now.

I have a 5 year old son who is very strong-willed and to put it plainly, oppositional as fuck. He NEEDS to feel that he is independent and in control to some degree. This is just who he is. I have learned some strategies to manage him and consider myself to be a very patient and consistent parent.

My (ex) boyfriend of three months parents his two kids with a very authoritarian style of parenting. Just to add some context, we were planning to take a group vacation with our kids at the end of the month. In our last argument he said the following things that pushed me over the edge and I called it off: 

- I don't want to have to deal with K at all. Not my idea of a vacation.

- I can't stand K's attitude

- Can't wait to travel with K /s

I pointed out the time his daughter was afraid to cry in front of him and he said:

- I’d take R being afraid to cry over how K acts anytime. Anybody would. 

From those comments, I couldn't help but feel that he just does not at all like my son. I snapped and told him to get out and now we are over.

The hard part is that everything outside of our conflicting parenting styles was fantastic. We had so much fun, crazy chemistry, same sense of humour, and really built each other up.

Part of me wants to fight for the relationship and maybe suggest we still do the trip as a last ditch attempt to see if we can learn to compromise and spend a week together as a family unit. I know a lot of what he said was in anger, but I know there was definitely truth.

I did this for my son's sake and I just want to know that I did the right thing. Anyone have any advice or experience? I'm recently divorced and dating with a kid is soooo much more challenging and overwhelming.
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parenting,EchoSim,2019/03/13,"How to help a 5-year-old with losing? Hey guys, I feel like this may be a common question asked, but my 5-year-old is a bit of a sore loser. Sounds harsh for me to type that out and it’s not easy for me to bring up because it has been kind of a touchy thing in our house in the past. It’s easy for a kid to feel rewarded when they do something like for example win a race. Though when it comes to mey son, he would rather never race at all because he doesn’t like seeing someone else be “the winner”. Of course in said given example me and my girlfriend encourage everyone to just have a fun time and not worry about said race but it usually ends in tears if he and another kid want to have a friendly competition.

Now the race scenario hasn’t been a problem lately since he just now “hates racing”, but the problem is starting to resurface in his teachings. In our parent teacher conference it’s been mentioned that he is to hard on himself in his learning. If he starts doing something the wrong way he starts calling himself stupid and in worst case scenario he will start hitting himself (really not an easy thing to hear).

This week we have spring break and are encouraged to have him preform tasks on an educational site. A lot of the programs he uses are very well made. Way better than the ones I had growing up for sure. In fact I myself use one of them, Typing Club, to learn Touch Typing. Though the problem of getting questions wrong or losing appears again while during the tasks. 

One of the programs (Lexia?), specifically learns your child’s progress in academics by seeing how well they preform. So if your child is having a hard time understanding a phrase or is answering incorrectly, it will switch it’s lesson to re-teach that subject and continue. The problem is whenever my son gets a question wrong he starts immediately getting extremely upset at the computer. If he continues to get an answer wrong, the tantrum will become more and more violent. 

Today we ended with taking a space break and time away from the laptop. Does anyone else know how to approach this problem? How do we let our child know that you get better at something the more you do it and losing or getting answers wrong is just a part of being human and learning?

Even if you don’t have any advice for me. Thanks for taking the time out of your day to read my post!",7.037934065934068,6.751985496703303,6.783164835164835,78.8468351648352,64.36263736263736,9.30197802197802,32.92527472527473,8.608573733854374,2.5262817582417583,1871,67,352,23,25,589,224,455,0.18600000000000005,0.682,0.131,-0.9867,1,0,3,0,0,0,42.0,6,6,3,10,20,36,4,1,35,0,36,1,0,7,4,74,71,32,0,13,18,3,5,3,2,5,1,4,0,7,18,19,0,0,16,2,0,5,7,20,2,3,8,11,33,16,58,53,8,60,0,4,2,0,57,22,0,14,31,236,51,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926620605230595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04820298120683809,0.07432717632830213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04956315535579717,0.07262817659542041,0.0,0.0,0.06626618844089746,0.0,0.06659706452688756,0.0,0.0,0.08641943592772704,0.07828488400587794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538079399534227,0.07738605490337383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237963415464224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06105956809446544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04571377581338642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620303332022065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842757352821305,0.0,0.12556288552655678,0.0,0.0,0.046817660335283263,0.0,0.0,0.06773189942751999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168131355064264,0.050638945473741655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547641555365085,0.0,0.2222011609601073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018547513850686,0.0,0.0,0.12699478150766833,0.06998244801078199,0.0,0.0,0.0798904758013582,0.0,0.04751148969015394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178965260272728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381390597887512,0.07791106474202568,0.0,0.07995929478579149,0.0,0.0,0.07248283616694998,0.0,0.10388979829428677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379003829770339,0.0,0.060262329976155486,0.0,0.06707136226797451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466946475061415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14875991048534531,0.0,0.14409679620065732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870736353156667,0.07675955750499032,0.06766599923081651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788647578676528,0.0,0.0,0.3391280677995784,0.0,0.0,0.238216093218446,0.0,0.07090234451931546,0.0,0.04540956898309632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485223929166848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296940652301984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05863528453026168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06005907358614465,0.1637079646581325,0.0,0.0,0.2508573363578048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680654181567741,0.0,0.1065906334065616,0.0,0.0,0.06525969260334345,0.0,0.0,0.09418324704925857,0.0,0.1392846945822587,0.0,0.16533016839148115,0.0,0.06718894992670868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379187202153141,0.0,0.12244058751343988,0.07806778922776515,0.0584860325716243,0.04180872577893482,0.11252751015154312,0.05685819737419704,0.0,0.12746495167808405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07198529229864431,0.0,0.05035336492321392,0.3874980540001685,0.0,0.09129286534562557
parenting,guy_mcdudefella,2019/03/13,"4yo wants to learn to read, and I need strategies This morning while getting ready for preschool, our 4yo told us that he was bored and wanted his tablet. After we said no, he decided that he wanted to learn how to read so he could read books to himself. 

We're game, but have no idea where to start. Anybody actually done this?",5.4835937500000025,5.961267671875,4.846875000000002,88.810625,67.59375,7.65,28.5,7.1686216300943375,1.2670749999999995,257,8,54,2,4,77,46,64,0.091,0.883,0.027000000000000003,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,14,12,6,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,1,6,0,8,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,3,31,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.21481980580707685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575972185957536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252743252010805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150113450406378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24850538948048534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16322716171641516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6605831019981636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093986011008452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581254144573606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103482309900669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647950547814803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38952361805349794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HumanEligreg,2019/03/13,"We had to leave our country, now our son won't adapt to daycare Hi, I'm a Venezuelan mother of a 3 year old boy. Along with his dad, we had to flee Venezuela due to the current crisis. We're in Colombia now. 

My son has been in daycare since he was 1 year old. The low prices on education helped us leave the kid on someone else's care while we worked but stopped when he was 2 and 1/2. We had to move to his grandparents for me to get internet connection and be able to work but the crisis in our country won't let us eat nor have health care and we decided to move to Colombia. Now we have food security and health care but the kid is having a rough time at the new daycare. He spends all day crying and demanding his caregiver to play Spiderman on the TV. We arrived in January and he spent two months watching Netflix on his new tablet (we had to work and we work from home). He's having the worst time at school and I don't know what to do.

I work 10 hours a day from Mon to Sat 

He cries to ask for ANYTHING, even to pee. 

I'm completely lost, don't know what to do. Being forced to leave your home is one thing, now adapting to the new country is even harder.",2.4539806659505956,3.672120640816328,3.5507841031149314,92.57214822771215,75.24489795918367,6.953813104189044,24.73147153598281,7.475848149327749,0.8821428571428579,907,29,210,11,19,293,128,245,0.146,0.79,0.064,-0.9627,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,14,1,0,6,7,8,0,0,13,0,24,5,1,0,1,27,36,14,0,0,3,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,3,3,19,2,2,3,3,3,3,5,3,0,2,10,2,23,5,36,21,2,36,0,2,1,0,35,11,0,0,22,123,26,6,0.10357705065074004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523508734888947,0.0,0.09683056048437444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31681111856097594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859856697144664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275490530724605,0.13359725790823826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059851808547494,0.0865253351018451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682333019276785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524578078446713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411473397989836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22019512272098088,0.0,0.0,0.06942551374066742,0.0,0.20779245391839649,0.0,0.10200253088296356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138464765275182,0.0,0.0,0.3290194238809533,0.0,0.10591455185026484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306658618676775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826742136467167,0.2201720260152383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001060828438196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217373382245286,0.0,0.07018649011608148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482550497337093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856800066340003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776049889613831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659505221733514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881199005547102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079322235804688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117972815167624,0.0,0.2491808776539278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770266323522911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340044942415474
parenting,throwaway54215,2019/03/13,"Needing advice I  am married with two children. My oldest is not biologically my husbands, although he has been there since my child was 9 months old. My child’s bio father was just a coworker I was (stupidly)casually seeing, and he disappeared before my child was born. He is not a good person, got into heavy drugs, jail time, etc. He has never been present and my child has no idea this person exists. We are in the process of having my husband adopt my child and my child will have to be present in the hearing, my child is  now 8. My dilemma is how do I explain this situation to my child. 
I’ve read articles stating that you shouldn’t speak negatively of the bio parent because the child will feel that a part of themself is flawed. But I honestly don’t have anything positive to say or reflect on him and the whole situation. The only positive, obviously, is my beautiful child.  
I am also a product of this type of situation, I was led to believe my “step” dad was my real father, until one day my mother saw it fit to throw in my face that he was, in fact, not my dad. I was 14. My situation was slightly different in that once my stepdad knew that I knew( he had divorced my mother by then) he completely disowned me, but that’s a story for another time. In my situation, I did want to find my real father, who turns out is really awesome. In my child’s case however, this will not be the same. The bio father is garbage, has had his family threaten myself and my husband and even my mother. I don’t want my child to look for this guy. 
So, how do I lay this out to my child. I don’t want my child to feel “unwanted” when this all comes out. My husband is a fantastic father. But being in the situation first hand, the curiosity of “where you came from” is strong, And I definitely felt the sting of “unwanted ness”
Can anyone offer me insight if you’ve been in this situation? 
Sorry if I’m rambling, my emotions are all over the place.  ",4.5370372596153805,5.393740231770835,6.026250000000001,78.1629807692308,69.859375,8.928525641025642,29.87339743589744,9.162432508145574,2.477097676282051,1515,58,298,29,26,516,185,384,0.04,0.857,0.103,0.978,3,0,1,0,1,0,47.0,1,2,0,2,10,3,0,0,18,0,49,3,2,3,5,54,68,21,0,9,11,15,4,0,0,4,1,3,0,18,16,15,0,0,10,1,0,6,11,0,0,3,21,10,52,3,37,40,6,40,0,0,3,0,52,18,0,3,15,213,68,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060391603860436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414733633933755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972239368553063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483126797898947,0.0,0.07629982194715808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05652063078918021,0.0,0.07889702453434454,0.10446254183549776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060458146926518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986919302042844,0.09721408848589463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05979607288546965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687160187229986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107524582693374,0.0,0.0,0.10429637502109204,0.0,0.0,0.10340617399171233,0.0612400131016081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874072043718109,0.0,0.0937630063002864,0.0,0.08902476291685067,0.0,0.08474346972473318,0.07886671865176545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776828300837567,0.07415583987797494,0.0,0.0,0.0918063693538637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450103122905832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046684447892725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786059293666885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400740677422417,0.0,0.0,0.06874995025235009,0.0715105947971173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729297450871298,0.09874268971973496,0.06282878173201943,0.07051696382403827,0.0,0.0,0.10295345686537097,0.100405622015601,0.0,0.0,0.16191727734143566,0.09687160187229986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927440729887413,0.2110690003764117,0.059398154020256215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373385588660021,0.0,0.0,0.0738850242195552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669809997197967,0.7295401431221357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037913092394882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081303679623968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085162739810892,0.09057297273638963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406417339915227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351743212286137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Chowderhead1,2019/03/13,"13 year old daughter looking at pornhub Hi, as the title says, I found out my 13 year old daughter has been looking at pornhub. I'm not angry or upset with her whatsoever, she's curious, but I'm not OK with it at all. She doesn't know that I know yet. I couldn't see what she was looking at exactly, just that she visited the site a few times in the last week alone.

Having a talk with her about it is not so simple because she doesn't respect anything I have to say, she thinks she's never in the wrong and is going to get angry that I ""invaded her privacy"" by checking out her internet activity. There is no reasoning with this girl. She once knowingly ate an allergen because ""it smelled so good"" and when I tried to tell her dangerous and irresponsible it was (she had a severe allergic reaction), she said it was fine because she didn't die. Seriously? No. 

I'm looking for advice on how to best approach this. I am willing to find an app that blocks shit like that on her phone, and that's going to be another fight with her but I'll do it if needed. ",4.956300536672632,5.027112916279074,6.337209302325586,79.084740608229,68.67441860465118,9.778175313059037,32.35241502683363,9.661875296680813,2.885719141323792,827,34,170,17,13,282,124,215,0.15,0.7,0.15,-0.2405,0,1,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,0,1,8,12,3,1,9,1,19,3,1,2,3,33,38,13,1,3,8,2,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,1,15,11,1,1,7,0,1,4,10,6,0,0,9,9,26,6,25,26,3,25,0,0,5,0,30,11,1,2,11,118,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398895448974675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826555054790988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011064504136873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780448168926805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261798131828453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502324862835433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857243287499824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084120346160535,0.0,0.0,0.1569622207866022,0.0,0.0,0.07479265155393316,0.0,0.1627167288730719,0.12007173854233667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360229614931305,0.11669054484843648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993836981102007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4808570484620901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614772156677003,0.1104100683380356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30043447393478495,0.1524555508280693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718732522255934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361733192710926,0.2276854245266205,0.0,0.0,0.11407611132843427,0.0,0.0,0.16172455944327574,0.1469466928649054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506267801084127,0.12512390119860695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917280326426497,0.0,0.0,0.08347491270360985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719294234888456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483041742405367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565176714942459,0.0,0.18437443182526075
parenting,kyrross,2019/03/13,"An era of lies I am 35 years old, married for 7 years, 3 youngs boys (6, 4 and 3), with a house and a steady job and I am depressed. For anyone outside my life following my wife on Facebook, i cannot complain. She post the most adorable photo of us smiling, making cookies, setting up the christmas tree all year long. I love my wife and my kids are adorables, I love them deeply but it take EVERYTHING out of me to keep up with them. At the end of the day, I am exhausted and do not have an ounce of patience left to be diplomat, or even socialize properly with my friends online (only way to still socialize these days). I recently cut myself from that community because i couldnt stand their sarcasm and bad jokes. I just lost it, lashed at them and quit. I now feel awfull and regret it. 

​

I have also come to realise that Facebook and reddit massively contribute to take down my spirit. While i browse endlessly and see other people life and witness on my screen that my kidless friend is currently with his girlfriend in Honduras hiking, or how some random stranger on reddit is sculpting Notre-Dame de Paris from a maple log he found on the beach,  I know that I only see the facade. I know because my own facebook feed is full awesome post that does not reflect the reality, only what I want people to see, to believe. While it is true we actually hiked a mountain my family and I last weekend, what the smily pictures of my 3 kids and wife didnt say is that it was a nightmare. My 3 years old cried all the way ,  my 6 years old ran out of sight everywhere almost falling from a small cliff and my 4 years old just stopped in the middle forcing us to turn back. We cried, we screamed, and 2 hours after that pictures was taken, we were 5 angry people in the car going back at home in silence, while posting on facebook #Funwiththekids #hiking #goodtimes. Why the fuck do we do that?

​

We live in and era of illusion where everyone is entitle to sell their life better than it actualy is. It was already true before the internet, but i am convince it was never this bad. And while we lied to everyone else, we mostly lie to ourselves. 

​

I am addicted to reddit. I cannot pass 3 hours without browsing a little. And each time, I now realise that it make me depress.   While I smile when seeing something funny, or amazed by someone’s talent, it also says to me : You are pathetic, untalented, unfunny. And while i know it is wrong, i cant help it but feel that way.

​

I realised today that i need to cut those sites from my life to start the process to heal. I know I have multiple problems and the majority of them are in my head. But it is still an awfull era to witness. 

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parenting,Throwaway9073621,2019/03/13,"Need opinions on what to do with my kid’s school I made a throwaway because i have family on reddit and i know sometimes they go on my profile and see what i posted and feel like it is a free pass to give their 2 cents.

My daughter (last year of pre K) was found eligible last week for an iep and will finish the school year (so barely 3 months) at the public district’ s early childhood program. Starting next monday It will be every afternoon from 1230 to 3. She will be in a gen ed classroom and she will receive the supports services (mostly for speech/communication) in there. For K she will be in a similar setting in her residence school.

She has been in her current Pre K (small school from our park district) for her second year now. This year she is going 3 days a week in the morning (9-12), her teachers adore her, she like it there too but with the news of the district taking her in for the remaining of the year i am unsure on whether i should keep her there as well or not. Finances are not taken into account in my thought process. 

I have discussed with them (current pre K) and they would want her to keep coming for the remaining of the year concurrently with the district’s. I agree with them, the sudden change in school is already going to be pretty big, and keeping her in her current school at same time will keep the familiar into it. I have already reduced her days attending from 3 to 2 and will get her at 1130 instead of 12.

But i am really afraid this will be just too heavy of a schedule for her. I know next year will be full day school but it will be all within same building. I have reduced to twice a week but these days are going to be almost non stop from 9-3 with about 45 min at home for lunch. I am afraid the transitioning from “day over” at school 1 and “start day again” at other school will be too brutal. 

Anyone on here has been in similar situation? Is it worth the hassle for less than 3 months left in school year?  The mornings she won’t be attending at her current school is when i have her private speech therapies scheduled (1hr). 
Do you think she would get any real benefit from staying where she is currently at on top of the new program? The reason she is going there to begin with is because her current school referred her for eval, she was struggling in some areas there, i am not sure they expected it would result in her attending the district right away upon end of evaluation (instead of next year). I can see they like her a lot and would miss her, i am myself anxious about my daughter’s reaction to the whole new school and i am unsure on what to do. 

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parenting,devon_taylor,2019/03/13,"Do you want to talk to a therapist for a podcast? Are you a mom whose relationship has been affected by the birth of your baby? Do you want to talk about it with a therapist for a new podcast by Gimlet Media? We are looking for NYC-based moms who would like help working out a relationship issue that has come up around your pregnancy or motherhood. For instant, has your marriage or partnership become strained by the pressures of parenting? Has your sex life been impacted? If you want help working through these issues and are willing to be open and candid about your issues, please email motherhood@gimletmedia.com.",7.8790519480519485,9.096417736363636,7.165844155844159,71.67590909090913,62.54545454545455,10.285714285714286,35.714285714285715,10.290406445055957,3.843792207792207,501,22,82,11,7,155,69,110,0.058,0.8109999999999999,0.131,0.755,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,9,0,2,3,3,0,2,8,0,14,2,0,1,0,16,19,5,0,5,3,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,10,1,20,14,0,7,0,0,1,1,23,4,0,3,3,62,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575770707809934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684247341676028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136560978907275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443563588521507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775124574941605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771555765982926,0.0745040028380078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806194582494615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572133010065947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472858573491522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693336708379316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739966776056234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274567619455112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451481243338252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541294865988327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26984609920382285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22204424620757826,0.0,0.0,0.10833192396376078,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,struggle-bus17,2019/03/13,"Do you ever just feel utterly trapped as a parent? Obligatory, I'm a parent. I'm also a single mom. As per the title, I'm feeling completely trapped in this life I have created for myself. I have a well paying job. Unfortunately, I was under the illusion that I could afford a house for me and my kiddo, and I really can afford it. However, my job responsibilities have changed to something I didn't sign up for. Naturally, I've come to hate it. Just doesn't fit my personality. In my efforts to look for something elsewhere, I'm realizing I would probably need to take a pay cut to get started in a different field, which is frustrating since I just bought this house 7 months. 

I'm also having a bit of an existential crisis at moment during this job search. I'm just frustrated with the corporate world and need to escape. This is proving challenging as a parent. I read about all these ways about how to find yourself and determine what you want in life. As a parent, it feels impossible. I can't just go backpacking in Europe and do some soul searching. You know? I can't just save up and go off to find myself because I'm using all the money I have to pay the bills. I could go back to school in a different field but that is challenging as a parent as well. I could apply for a job within my organization but I would have to move. I just feel like there are all these roadblocks as a parent. If I were on my own, I wouldn't feeling as much the crushing pressure there is to succeed and provide.

I love my kid but I find that my whole life revolves around him, and to an extent it should. We make sacrifices as parents. I understand. I just want to know how to navigate this because my unhappiness of feeling trapped ultimately effects my child too. I can't be the only one who feels this way at times.

TL:DR Unhappy with my job and not sure how to find myself with the constrains of being a parent. Suggestions?",3.294592678100262,5.173923184696573,5.00109416226913,80.30224810356201,74.4089709762533,8.114808707124011,26.88332783641161,8.841846274778883,2.1703145778364115,1513,57,292,32,32,513,180,379,0.122,0.794,0.084,-0.9347,20,3,2,0,1,0,41.0,1,3,0,5,23,14,4,1,25,0,30,4,0,6,6,70,64,27,0,12,13,9,7,1,0,4,3,0,0,3,18,15,0,1,17,1,6,5,7,5,2,1,4,8,43,9,53,51,10,30,2,0,1,1,20,17,0,2,7,212,61,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404480001820687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347636412695604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482896790479783,0.0,0.08693345376231966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784634270717718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543099357469171,0.06142274689372682,0.0747616962906612,0.0,0.0,0.17079317376882122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14899661954692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449924809951356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25237684458343346,0.05094014300898402,0.0,0.0,0.2606850774349074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03725380011431281,0.0,0.12157243459247588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07039869958659739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455226550475796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3537949160490748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837447527415405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109400653518704,0.0348359096131499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059878049496772674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435534020544682,0.0,0.0475964886687595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351128659178887,0.05691478832635225,0.07578568760018113,0.052417211486737635,0.10574316913972892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048317958552304086,0.054230491843959776,0.0,0.0,0.6334040832247768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226057612301528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687860376810217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713240675866569,0.0,0.04567966248773336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07216423554092463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898404383031281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978779347764052,0.0,0.0,0.05046988427334317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720390328410257,0.0,0.0536123141818186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041578385681079084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423078183226849,0.0,0.06158442854297647,0.0,0.0,0.08411480335058298,0.11319681731004586,0.0,0.0,0.1282231058796784,0.0,0.0,0.07960923094270862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013057276835331,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mother0fPancakes,2019/03/13,"Looking for some resources to help teach 13yo that hate speech isn't ""just words"" I'm concerned that my 13 year old son doesn't really understand the gravity of hate speech, especially in the context of video game trash talk, internet, media and ""joking"" with other kids. Recently he and a group of kids said some things that really upset me, laughing about Nazis, black people and being gay. Now, we are Jewish, my sons brother is black and his aunt is gay and I'm extremely upset. My son and his friends tried to say that they ""were just joking"" and that he doesn't have any problem with anyone based on race, religion or sexuality.  The thing is, these are not just words.  These are people, and in this case people we love...but ALL people are someone's loved ones and no one should have to hear that. I want to make this a learning experience, and try to show him that words are hurtful. I am really brainstorming and am open to thoughts on ways to get this point across. Perhaps inviting a few people to talk to him about their experiences and pain caused by ""just words"". Any thoughts would be awesome, thanks!",7.057142857142857,7.147869904761907,6.406428571428571,80.30107142857145,64.23809523809524,9.666666666666668,30.357142857142854,9.2995712137729,2.377,880,27,169,14,12,270,126,210,0.095,0.7829999999999999,0.122,0.6283,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,0,2,0,7,13,2,2,6,0,20,4,0,2,1,40,35,13,0,4,6,5,0,0,1,2,1,5,0,2,15,17,0,0,4,5,0,0,5,7,0,2,4,8,14,6,23,27,4,12,1,1,3,3,27,7,0,3,4,104,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073829914311967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291915328571217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651371865151296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25998209170101355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266979425199614,0.0,0.06942907349656349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624009616555878,0.0,0.0,0.1497756814263563,0.0,0.08907276709200836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14226053728510846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159338071782593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23987521441087406,0.0,0.08870451067600063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944476321098326,0.0,0.18009819590152218,0.0,0.14140337899183628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4606428717088775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562315946169006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271569281218923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553964938686005,0.0,0.13121196108325145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640797184635325,0.10567875148908057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259650893264005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21362246055858708,0.0,0.12234643530780095,0.0,0.0,0.17657123536006958,0.0,0.0,0.2109982138509684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804459608661408,0.0,0.0,0.13834224674330262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838143821645853,0.10548118748262647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440060868126833,0.0,0.0,0.08557622782535237
parenting,jaws_of_leviathan,2019/03/13,"I don't want my kids. I need a place to vent, I decided on reddit because, due to my anxiety and paranoia inre privacy there's no way in hell I am opening an account with facebook, instagram, et al, .  A while ago, I googled the term, ""I don't want my kids"", one of the results was an old reddit post from ""throwitawaydaddy"" that really resonated with me.  So, I don't know what else to say by way of an intro, I'm not a big talker.  

I am a 55 year old disabled vet.  My anger, anxiety and depression issues seem to get worse by the day.  I literally hate every day of my life, but as of yet haven't worked up the guts to kill myself.  In addition, yay, I screwed up and impregnated a piece of crap b\*tch, and now, at my age, with my issues, am a father to 3 year old twin boys.

It has been hell.  For me, and, more sadly, for them.  I don't have a parenting bone in my body.  I hate kids, and people in general.  I have tried, because they didn't ask for this, but I am wrung out, mentally and physically.  Yeah, in addition to my psychiatric issues, I have severe pain, and I physically cannot keep up with them.  I don't hate them, but honestly I hate the fact of their existence.  Also, I hate their mother, deeply and passionately.  I have tried to feel love for them like all the shiny happy awesome parents I seem to see everywhere, but the closest I can come is pity - I feel sorry for them that they drew such a shitty hand for parents.  I would love to adopt them out so they at least have a chance at a happy life because I know it ain't gonna happen with the parents they have now.  I yell at them constantly, telling them  I hate them and wish they'd not been born, I have snatched them up and spanked them in anger.  I can already see the effects of their environment in their behavior and it makes me hate myself even more.  Welp, that's all I can do right now, I'm getting a bit verklempt.  Sorry if I harshed anyone's sunny day.  Hi reddit.",3.6110458065118,4.269728193954664,4.976182479708932,85.57472058960727,71.8463476070529,8.50112883664521,27.046272973225108,8.735056554316923,1.7416456572441459,1491,49,329,26,27,499,188,397,0.21600000000000005,0.6459999999999999,0.138,-0.984,4,0,0,0,0,1,66.0,0,0,20,2,10,26,14,0,23,2,31,12,5,3,3,50,62,22,1,6,7,6,3,1,0,2,3,2,0,4,8,23,0,1,8,0,1,1,12,18,0,1,4,8,65,8,50,55,8,46,3,3,3,4,37,23,4,3,20,214,73,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07113504384881586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855570549081786,0.06417432704211955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277905893157465,0.0,0.0,0.05611129406993523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502108289532118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467553774942854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761007349963791,0.08913747965717511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912657914002336,0.0,0.08671962050282725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552600373784714,0.0,0.06911751759070439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06703693859407593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05300307229999945,0.0,0.06761243313331836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811516384517051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838525755392964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096307503142359,0.1708510574377696,0.0,0.5545982664570912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512743079129897,0.0,0.0713281434005251,0.08878256437511754,0.0,0.08820444609828962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336312499351425,0.039205137910138764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485397487976215,0.0,0.053566188539904885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087114782242179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950290340076676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526204503064633,0.0,0.054378147423610926,0.0,0.08538957040101934,0.0,0.35642379819326586,0.0,0.0,0.05563388541908014,0.0,0.08384211984630427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07685543785293282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051408948048371206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853138603365283,0.0,0.06381646078407824,0.0,0.0,0.12789459316733753,0.14610959988484404,0.0,0.09065744130957723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796622172044485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014032233809674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896630044355926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466474400309544,0.12739431474336774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228128340519308,0.0,0.0,0.05842152745570309,0.0,0.08177960656273499,0.057005903807670816,0.0,0.0,0.10335421094807748
parenting,hllaloud_music,2019/03/13,"As a parent it can be so hard to teach my kid how to eat with manners. What happens to your kid if you just let him eat like the dog? He see's how our golden retriever eats and tries to copy, so can someone tell me how this would play out later in life if I just let him continue to do this? ",5.634717948717951,3.0965003692307675,6.475384615384615,87.22794871794872,68.38461538461539,9.8974358974359,29.35897435897436,7.793537801064563,1.4732051282051284,224,5,57,2,3,75,50,65,0.028,0.892,0.08,0.5257,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,2,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,3,0,11,9,9,0,3,4,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,2,9,5,0,4,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,2,3,40,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6822783230556602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19654260901627935,0.0,0.19910011343900394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45454909979428,0.15698787251396332,0.1085843600814875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467919519460507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711138510452928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883190509418033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426387516983848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15089904837512552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788618318370967,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TransATL,2019/03/13,"NPR article on Inuit Parenting has me questioning my life decisions [How Inuit Parents Teach Kids To Control Their Anger](https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/13/685533353/a-playful-way-to-teach-kids-to-control-their-anger)

>Traditionally, the Inuit saw yelling at a small child as demeaning. It's as if the adult is having a tantrum; it's basically stooping to the level of the child, Briggs documented

>...

>And you are teaching them to be angry, says clinical psychologist and author Laura Markham. ""When we yell at a child — or even threaten with something like 'I'm starting to get angry,' we're training the child to yell,"" says Markham. ""We're training them to yell when they get upset and that yelling solves problems.""

>...

>For thousands of years, the Inuit have relied on an ancient tool with an ingenious twist: ""We use storytelling to discipline,"" Jaw says.

>...

>""If a child walks too close to the water, the monster will put you in his pouch, drag you down to the ocean and adopt you out to another family,"" Jaw says.

>""Then we don't need to yell at a child,"" Jaw says, ""because she is already getting the message.""


They make it seem so simple and obvious. I think of how frustrated I sometimes get with our 5 y/o and now I feel like an asshole for yelling.

Anyways, thought this sub might appreciate the article.",7.814050632911396,8.97198407594937,6.8032236286919865,74.42837974683545,62.67088607594936,9.864303797468356,37.31898734177216,9.888512548439397,3.830177721518988,1074,51,177,21,15,326,145,237,0.079,0.87,0.051,-0.7579,2,0,1,0,3,0,88.0,4,4,5,1,9,6,2,1,19,0,10,6,3,5,1,31,24,14,0,3,2,2,1,2,0,2,2,12,0,8,5,13,1,2,6,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,2,14,20,2,28,19,0,19,0,0,1,0,32,11,0,5,8,99,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602704391821924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229156569992805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853391084175202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257868147054159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09592635085954136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691463684552668,0.0,0.07343518219928727,0.1037559163760791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30351718240524805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025837789280566,0.14190897438466848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694549340467784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540713886878446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076899157180254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225325706277779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897028508083756,0.0,0.14600129389966185,0.1626964438548308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5774835252132842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221649363239746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118090021574078,0.14364113329647088,0.0,0.10279808384620837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306072667846724,0.0,0.11530037082331898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543641302394387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528078659681078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352658130929173
parenting,brwonsugal123,2019/03/13,"Do you just throw away clothes? FTM and my daughter is around the 18 month mark and for the first time she's staying in a size long enough to actually wear out the clothing. I just packed up her 12-18 months and brought out her 18-24months ad 2T. While putting the 18 months clothes into storage for future children I noticed that a lot of the clothes were extremely stained (clothes she'd wear around the house) or the snaps on the onesies were missing, leggings with thinned knees etc. Basically clothes I wouldn't keep for future children. 

Problem is do I just throw these clothes out? I can't imagine someone else wanting these, but who am I to assess someones needs. She was wearing them fine until she grew out of them. What do you do with clothes your children have outworn.",6.7142492492492485,7.270150094594598,5.174684684684684,87.25199699699705,64.94594594594594,7.38858858858859,38.74174174174174,6.42735559955562,2.4852543543543537,626,33,121,3,9,180,94,148,0.028,0.956,0.016,-0.1556,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,3,2,1,5,3,0,0,10,0,14,5,5,0,0,24,19,7,0,4,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,5,12,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,2,0,1,4,1,18,1,21,13,3,28,0,1,0,0,16,12,0,2,10,80,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.18932806838751634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3454242515778863,0.0,0.0,0.1822809906741736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207242450713233,0.0,0.0,0.20046662180837488,0.21637505670484566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650268070238103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238642049651072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244709228916225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169482581195467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494236324714692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645764238013899,0.0,0.0,0.14385770027135728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22088434801991752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856436183879184,0.0,0.19503599976847505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287720715628719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20679135247053268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313016233080345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443351156614813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Subby13,2019/03/13,"Request for Anecdotal Experience: Melatonin We have been cleared by our pediatrician to give melatonin to our 3 year old and 5 year old and a dose of .25 mg has been a miracle. They get to sleep almost immediately and stay asleep all night. 

My question is for parents who have actually used melatonin with their young children: 

How long did you use it for, and did you struggle to wean them off? We have friends who have used 1 mg for a year, but I’m not sure I’m comfortable going that long. Anecdotal responses are appreciated.",4.048855555555555,6.408110530000003,5.027333333333335,78.80922222222225,73.7,8.444444444444445,31.11111111111111,9.150863307647796,2.8957777777777776,423,20,80,10,9,138,69,100,0.07400000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.098,0.3515,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,2,3,0,1,4,0,1,3,0,11,3,2,4,3,18,19,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,10,3,12,15,1,12,0,0,0,0,17,1,0,2,9,48,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.17671425121659282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133191979161448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713729391181304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990694052262914,0.0,0.0946101950139644,0.1737146217002466,0.10291560153883952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205116160486163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699373643182446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800395303192464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20107507037085415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028582653437007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18121722646988744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301405925243267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893108735357264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067183417258294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692016473269284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34984120608422553
parenting,Calcoholic9,2019/03/13,"Is using the ""alpha voice"" a form of yelling? Is all yelling bad? I'm the dad of a 5 and 7 year old.  Like many kids in their age range, mine rarely do things the first time they're told, although we're constantly working on listening skills.  It's a process.   I'm wondering what other parents think about whether it's ever OK to ""yell"" at your kids in any form.  

I think there are actually at least two types of ""yelling.""  One is just an explosion of anger.  There's no forethought; it just bursts out of you because you've hit your wit's end.  It seems to me that many parents agree that this type of yelling is not good.  Nobody's perfect but my goal is to never yell like this.  

But there's another type of ""yelling"" that's more deliberate.  Let's say I've told my kids twice to put on their pajamas. (My wife and I always try to model good manners; we say ""please"" get your pajamas on, etc.)  We've made eye contact so I know the kids have heard me.  They continue to play instead.  

Sometimes I can actually notice myself making the conscious decision to raise my voice.  It's more ""in control"" than the first type.  I don't really think of it as yelling per se, but my kids certainly perceive it as yelling.  To me, it's more like what the police refer to as using ""the alpha voice,"" or the ""command voice.""  You know what I mean, right?   

Ideally I would never have to resort to this form of yelling, but sometimes it is the *only* thing that gets results.  I'm out of ideas otherwise.  When my kids act offended (sometimes they get misty eyed), I say ""guys, please tell me what else I can do.  I am willing to try anything else if it will work.""  Of course they have no ideas.  They just say, ""we didn't hear you the first time, dad,"" which is not true.  We've also tried the technique where we have them repeat the instruction and acknowledge they heard and understand.  Doesn't work and is tedious.  Often only ""alpha voice"" works.   

What do other parents think about using the ""alpha voice""?  Is it a form of ""yelling""?  If so, is it per se bad, or is there a place for it in good parenting?",2.931517704169046,4.606171560679616,3.6281153626499134,90.63364648772136,74.89805825242719,6.885893774985722,25.224443175328393,7.618777277803332,1.1228909765848092,1601,54,342,21,34,506,187,412,0.087,0.868,0.045,-0.9446,4,0,0,0,9,0,82.0,3,6,8,12,17,16,2,0,20,1,29,2,2,7,7,58,57,22,0,4,14,7,0,3,0,3,0,26,0,7,30,10,0,1,17,1,0,2,9,4,0,6,6,28,39,12,42,46,10,32,0,0,2,0,43,14,0,7,19,212,69,10,0.0,0.0,0.16209840546414445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641864666755543,0.0691079900991437,0.0,0.0,0.05647990212830655,0.08708987575856325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834676961978861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869406205596174,0.05062924699861787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975239942199079,0.09315267423403388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876274028498115,0.0,0.07356162739247386,0.0,0.09262771223725746,0.0,0.07512754231952122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119383235557473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017763123375675,0.0,0.0,0.2089865003688104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223700417287087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360844788588413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18751682244890025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128915268662932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492884444480506,0.0,0.12172868758080953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.078588167820002,0.05543951785617498,0.1684084364742659,0.0,0.09047068925923177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811348763978803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09455808880046823,0.08715171732610642,0.0,0.05627987275650855,0.12633336638993364,0.0,0.0,0.3688887349074838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677426613723005,0.18233778125329048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349270353792834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320683384392068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092808174863402,0.0,0.2641930601070223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560968955015346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464290467127579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259328615109427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103554270355714,0.2128718576680351,0.0,0.0,0.09685948354043536,0.0,0.0,0.15872425127464718,0.0,0.16916564321152908,0.0,0.08113216968816253,0.08646265449343987,0.0,0.21519724173129812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006905292264338,0.2418586352958552,0.0,0.0,0.058999527653500874,0.0,0.0,0.05348436933400854
parenting,TobyPM,2019/03/13,"My 3yo got into trouble at nursery for kicking another child. What is the best way to deal with this? I had a serious talk with her about it when she came home and I asked her why she did it but she wouldn't say. I asked if the other child was annoying her, she said yes, I told her that you should never kick someone, even if they're annoying you. She cried and promised she wouldn't do it again. 

I'd like to eradicate this kind of behaviour before it becomes a bigger problem and would like some advice on how else to handle it. I thought maybe I could sit down with her and we could  write a letter to the child, apologising, and then have her give the letter to the child herself at nursery. Maybe we should skip the letter and I should go in with her to the nursery and have her apologise to the child directly, or maybe I'm overreacting, she's only 3 and seemed pretty upset about it when I talked to her. Was the talk enough?

What do you guys think?",3.2697079037800663,4.673210953608251,3.9302886597938134,89.92003780068731,73.48453608247422,7.235189003436426,23.758075601374568,7.793537801064563,0.9582265292096226,751,21,162,10,15,238,107,194,0.099,0.778,0.123,0.7176,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,3,0,1,7,11,2,1,12,1,17,0,0,1,1,36,29,16,0,11,4,0,0,2,0,6,0,2,1,6,12,16,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,9,2,31,5,22,12,3,16,0,0,0,0,42,7,0,5,7,116,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412780129397592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160056220137166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27031812370240144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596728547138576,0.12302354401902875,0.0,0.1517236127738869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653564507517786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23086437453497324,0.0,0.15880996859129934,0.0,0.1490515277340526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077471265503335,0.0,0.0,0.1493856756907234,0.0,0.09549109731320707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869049175938858,0.08216588360514894,0.0,0.11563065001931495,0.0,0.0,0.14315298945799582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502153550945007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055367629263305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126508056608647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43573813160491903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115059390233464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995657763137087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470857877907704,0.0,0.13833972518906093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13752490206564152,0.11497265351761395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161657820538772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224987921071623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34861418395807364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263847553529016,0.0,0.11477721013968173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814858224701446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11475771477409613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13045737018602824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270265612368423,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeadLightsOut,2019/03/13,"Bomb Cyclone Denver Attempting to ""work from home"" as the proud owner of two  boys aged 5 and 2.

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Day1 8 am

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I have been sequestered in the homestead with my children for 2hrs.... moral is low... the children act as if possessed by demons... i don't know if i have the strength to carry on... \*\*\*BANG\*\*\* oh no.. they are at the door... it is  barred but will not hold long... they scratch and pound as if some from of wild beasts... tiny fingers reach under it screaming for purchase... supplies are low as i have but a single cup of coffee and a granola bar.... I shall hold out as long as i can....    

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Day1 10am  

As quickly as it started the banging and scratching stopped in the space of a blink... then I felt a chill run up my spine as hushed murmurs in wicked agreement drifted on the air; they had caught the sent of lessor pray... The  sound of thundering footie clad feet thundered down the hallway.. ""LESLIE!"" I thought as burst up and dove for the door. In a panic i began fumbling with the lock, but just as i was about to flip it open exposing my sanctuary to the horrors that lay outside i came to my senses... ""no.... she is already gone... to open and attempt some vain rescue would be folly..."" i solemnly re-engaged the lock.  With forehead and palm placed on door i quietly whispered ""good bye wife.... ""may the lord show you mercy for they will surly not...""

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Day1 10:30 am

Glancing out my bedroom window i know the storm had struck... Screaming winds whip down from the north as giant snowflakes careen into my window bursting into countless fractal patterns.  Fear gripes me as i come to the realization that i must break cover and attempt to reach the bathroom.  Knowing this will no doubt lead to my capture my mind focuses to laser precision as a plan forms ... ""THE TV!"" i press my ear to the door and a smile crosses my face, as the sound of a well digested disney movie hits my ear... ""Moana! they have seen that a dozen times, it hardly holds attention....""  I lunge for my phone and open up Itunes, ""LEGO Aquaman.... they have never seen that... PERFECT!""   I text my wife to inform of the latest development.  As if a choir of angels i hear it begin and i make my move... I slip undetected into the bathroom.  Then as if completely oblivious to the situation I flush... Terror fills me as i hear it... ""DADDY""!!!!!",2.8698177247014485,5.223966639639637,3.1869767441860475,90.60453488372092,77.42342342342343,5.481583909490887,25.866121935889375,6.503187473535588,0.9283291011942172,1804,69,352,15,43,555,244,444,0.109,0.825,0.066,-0.9752,0,0,0,0,0,0,160.0,0,1,6,9,4,16,0,4,36,0,26,12,9,2,4,58,45,39,0,7,11,2,6,0,0,7,1,14,8,3,12,24,3,4,7,5,1,12,7,10,1,2,13,23,48,6,72,23,4,55,5,3,3,0,20,29,0,9,14,230,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151856998172303,0.0,0.0,0.4379795241342313,0.4911797566069874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558193117016385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705138997761278,0.10595601643225884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371687130790305,0.0,0.0,0.0970302698858759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476155669082472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052694438521433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22779646766323736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136809939520568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666143413413009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17886398057411054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745612507102601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020384485401087,0.0,0.0,0.1074072681480594,0.0,0.0,0.07794114901877985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185682514445036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558273188242592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359195329544275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152844508249259,0.0,0.0,0.0844879175809446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022772345411766,0.058926968421415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871770169369927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086210043149832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357047365721131,0.0,0.0,0.07178777288162731,0.0,0.4911797566069874,0.0
parenting,RomeroChick26,2019/03/13,"How does child care affect nap time? I know day cares and preschools (maybe?) have nap time, but I was wondering how beginning child care has affected your child's nap time? I am a SAHM and going back to work soon and I have made my daughter's nap time pretty cushy with a heater and white noise and a routine of going down around the same time every day.",4.244647887323944,5.3037295211267645,3.9085633802816924,92.33185915492956,70.69014084507046,7.370140845070423,22.65070422535211,7.554174236665415,0.6034653521126754,280,6,61,3,5,84,47,71,0.026,0.79,0.184,0.907,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,5,0,16,14,8,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,3,5,12,1,14,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,1,10,31,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640545742922344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373601276723946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.571756340663901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411060560352273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635818604657403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749481354286027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124708607935137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273068242130573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687569383194368,0.0,0.0,0.1877941951908713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901728708509787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5449957935989007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027153281517767,0.1360857337493287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HalfTheBoyNateWas,2019/03/13,"Netflix - Monster High and Barbie: Life in the Dreamhouse I never thought I would post on reddit with that title. 

So my daughter is 5 and she's watched Monster High and Life in the Dreamhouse for a while now. These are easily accessible on Netflix kids. She has a ton of Barbies and Disney dolls, so I thought the Dreamhouse show would be fine. And she's seen Nightmare before Christmas and Vampirina, so I figured Monster High would be ok too. Not that scary.

Except I caught a conversation two of the girl monsters were having. They were obsessing over a boy monster being ""hot"" and who would get to date him. I thought that was maybe overboard. I had no idea. I asked my daughter what she liked about Monster High and she said it was because two characters kiss. 

Nothing wrong with kissing I guess. BUT every time we play Barbies, the scenario ultimately becomes two Barbies fighting over Ken. One Barbie gets to marry him and the other one gets jealous, they fight, and maybe Spider-man will jump in and save the day (I try to break up the tension wherever possible.)

Is this normal play time behavior for a 5 year old girl; focusing on dating, jealousy and backstabbing? It's like The Bachelor. I'm trying to think of a way to block access to those shows without it feeling like a punishment. It's not her fault I wasn't better at monitoring. Should I stop worrying?",3.3466391782407383,6.090997480468751,4.0562152777777785,82.8691087962963,78.1015625,6.761342592592592,29.01273148148148,7.921354282810032,2.2526865162037035,1089,50,190,19,27,346,152,256,0.149,0.735,0.116,-0.8989,0,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,1,0,2,1,6,19,4,2,16,1,20,4,0,0,1,38,34,17,0,6,5,2,2,3,0,6,2,1,0,4,13,15,0,2,7,6,0,2,6,8,0,5,12,5,25,11,26,13,1,30,0,0,2,2,23,14,0,1,14,129,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709215574990777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983081349582733,0.12651545513740128,0.09747667937719127,0.0,0.0,0.10131335326893023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387759752758223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651635167472553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05792174392201568,0.08183711728828058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954858953879388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261937092336645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4841286864570084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12931707493217093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182519592580874,0.1678953131532727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301689836990299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835080108853127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223820947791588,0.10991727216524984,0.0,0.12020473696965192,0.0,0.1552489729162248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12914197604412891,0.10971068669134017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896670951829082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577194196585012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340132370392878,0.0,0.27282829644861484,0.13359425492934826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554875467307708,0.0,0.33570667623165845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092731849249523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042558599872117,0.0,0.0,0.11633474500234353,0.0,0.32550237312642605,0.1252463825915809,0.0,0.0737687649197519
parenting,Dark-Angel-333,2019/03/13,"Parenting with a chronic illness (UK) Anyone else trying to juggle parenting, work and a chronic illness? I have a chronic pain condition and suspected ME/CFS/CFIDS (depending where you're from). 

My Daughter is 7 and although she is smart and kind and loving she really struggles with focus, impulse control and some social queues which we are working on with the help of her school. I currently feel completely useless as a mother because I can't keep up with everything at home and she spends so much time in childcare. My husband is in the military and at the moment I work full time because we can't afford for me not too but that leaves me total spent by the time I get home and I feel she's not getting the attention from me she needs and deserves. Any suggestions of low energy activities I can do with her would be greatly appreciated.",6.574528301886794,7.373952773584907,7.012257861635224,73.10782075471701,65.28930817610063,10.133584905660376,36.02578616352201,10.125756701596842,3.854171823899371,677,32,115,15,10,221,104,159,0.08800000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.101,0.6119,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,4,3,8,0,1,9,0,11,7,0,2,1,31,19,14,0,2,3,5,2,0,0,1,6,0,2,0,2,17,0,2,4,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,1,2,21,4,19,16,4,14,0,2,0,1,18,9,0,2,5,83,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096241415363131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11271747559338532,0.16517238791635666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653673358870088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690191629414561,0.0,0.1808038179938677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466512606918646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487962010811906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630190138752196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844470963390934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777278066247414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805153830725413,0.0,0.32340119769787257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432853830255542,0.0,0.16786899635220928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069159433279424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549276263139022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11850337336875474,0.11953060739344365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153225526416138,0.0,0.3579955821699472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327131004502574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631468959454409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432701763096508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16852525839609808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819977726408617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944682807920993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.352074954121127,0.0,0.0,0.11451458530098065,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marisynos,2019/03/13,"Chopped liver I am aware that my oldest daughter is a daddy’s girl but on mornings like this where I haven’t had enough sleep, it’s really hard to go from her screaming at the top of her lungs when Daddy has to go to work (“I don’t *want* to stay with mommy!”) to then go get the baby out of bed who was woken by that screaming and have her immediately asking “where daddy?”

Today is off to a really crappy start.",1.4705813953488374,3.3254062325581444,3.5583139534883728,88.69816860465116,79.69767441860466,5.695348837209302,17.726744186046513,6.6274283507984215,-0.08329767441860447,320,6,68,3,8,109,62,86,0.157,0.7829999999999999,0.059,-0.8756,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,9,3,3,0,0,5,17,4,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,3,3,7,1,15,14,1,16,0,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,6,47,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674414799122003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955919169400194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946236465268095,0.0,0.4877489945997153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562669825036746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976178026488256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665339026356094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862815701837632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248533637090327,0.3049178548128271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711656219396452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873442940715264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20826598548684666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GarcondePisse,2019/03/13,"Child is Biting and Child Care is Not Helping Hello,

I have a 27 month old son who is in daycare and is biting with some frequency.  They’ve been trying to get him to stop but it has not worked even though he doesn’t bite at home. The administration there is in upheaval with the head of the program being asked to resign although she is still in her position until June.  We are worried he will be kicked out. Has anyone been through a similar experience and what have you done? Thank you ",3.6062499999999993,5.4979871250000025,4.208749999999998,86.26125,73.58333333333334,6.883333333333333,24.5,7.6454224807358475,1.1376500000000005,388,12,77,5,8,123,73,96,0.09,0.856,0.054000000000000006,-0.3806,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,2,0,1,4,3,0,0,5,0,18,1,1,0,0,12,22,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,7,2,13,16,1,11,0,1,0,0,15,5,0,1,6,58,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18340645710975484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452153572722613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674326205733048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684242588818772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17324686353444324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565800088828308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704107215939845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269195764653143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758143510743723,0.0,0.2631085711535353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20936558391453647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752400240281537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20947334534576004,0.21929478215620327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24149086002553974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577086969096528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17808467475194498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095773047465456,0.26637867039997143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SalesNinja1,2019/03/13,"So my 10 yr old daughter has a crush.... On another girl. My daughter last night told me she has a crush on one of her friends.... one of her girl friends. By no means is anyone in my family homophonic. My kids have been raised with same sex family marriages as a normal thing as it should be. 

I’m just not sure how to address a crush like this at this young of age. Kids can be cruel to each other and I don’t want that.  But I don’t want her to feel like she has to hide how she feels. 

I just said that’s nice, but you are still a little to young to worry about acting on your crushes and kind of moved on. Any tips from anyone?",1.4879191919191896,2.738071933333334,2.9193265993265984,95.99151515151516,77.81481481481481,6.094276094276093,18.93939393939394,6.574015621080383,-0.24322222222222176,481,9,118,4,11,157,86,135,0.126,0.802,0.07200000000000001,-0.8116,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,7,8,1,0,5,0,13,1,0,2,1,20,21,9,0,4,5,2,2,2,2,1,0,1,1,4,7,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,3,3,16,7,22,15,2,16,0,0,0,1,19,7,0,0,9,79,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850508951495807,0.1981499942187719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642623985562521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562854498831801,0.0,0.19109634681824156,0.13499916515792426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919932557379573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967816586812775,0.0,0.15403458416110874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846409702643644,0.18939612429776048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058421417821624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20084365595792145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773341768944828,0.18514905070475526,0.0,0.0,0.198290698360837,0.0,0.2560999510953801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975235812811174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15091052285456436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810061579740108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255423035033925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056754128138566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22291708579909125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19190672856734914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PrintPropBets,2019/03/13,Favorite garden plants for a preschooler Springtime is around the corner. I'm looking for low maintenance plants that my preschooler can grow in our tiny garden. We live in the Northeast. What is your favorite?,4.673333333333336,8.182473000000002,2.951333333333338,86.72700000000002,82.8888888888889,3.9911111111111115,29.422222222222214,5.6839178017228535,1.477728888888889,172,8,25,1,5,48,28,36,0.054000000000000006,0.7929999999999999,0.153,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,5,5,0,6,0,1,1,0,3,5,0,0,0,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5898968900474237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5851300073689631,0.0,0.5564571264605881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blackhill213,2019/03/13,"How to stop 1yr old from headbutting, punching and kicking in frustration Hello.

Recently my 1 year old has been headbutting and punching. 

We tell him no! Hold his hand and make he look at us . He just laughs 

Time out in his cot. But he still does it been a week now 

Any advice or tips we could try 

Thanks ",0.7592213114754109,3.2599549836065584,1.6985040983606583,96.46611680327871,89.32786885245899,5.67295081967213,19.100409836065573,7.1686216300943375,0.36957213114754106,238,7,52,4,8,74,50,61,0.107,0.7559999999999999,0.13699999999999998,0.4753,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,1,0,4,1,1,2,0,14,7,6,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,7,2,6,4,0,13,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,1,9,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473697138496273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17214682812034193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20211515252249715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215283129934908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212577484914666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689758089484801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.531264791105604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24994949071690814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021613924977787,0.2116399986595833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212593061042175,0.233061292154694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476104971550909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17186838626624307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045014655127947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030571156710916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301665172773053
parenting,mad4stream,2019/03/13,"Does staying vigilant ensures child online safety ? I have given my kids a phone that can't access the internet. Not even in a restriced mode as it can be turned off, so is it the right move or following things mentioned in something like this [http://community.today.com/parentingteam/post/how-parents-can-stay-vigilant-and-ensure-kids-online-safety](http://community.today.com/parentingteam/post/how-parents-can-stay-vigilant-and-ensure-kids-online-safety) would help me being vigilant and ensure online safety ?",25.919761904761906,30.07296050000001,17.18642857142857,5.0919047619048,24.357142857142854,11.038095238095238,36.52380952380953,10.504223727775694,4.070888095238097,452,10,38,5,3,121,49,56,0.0,0.7240000000000001,0.276,0.9344,4,0,1,0,0,0,42.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,4,10,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,1,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787859757100329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493948285299198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693926186082753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981159214377107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714059500915547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913295055658549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744727124163323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728158940937131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.653275949352914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572910905016544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873086391595219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22222180820575466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513021312869426,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Girlysprite,2019/03/13,"Kids have a terrible sense of humor I have a kid who is 6 years old. And his attempts at jokes and humor sometimes drives me nuts. I know no child is a born comedian, making funny jokes is an acquired skill. So when a kid tries to make/tell a joke, you try to smile and laugh to encourage their budding sense of humor. But as one parent to another, can I just vent about the lameness of kiddie humor? 

​

Let me start with the kind of jokes; poop and genitals is where it's at. You take any word, slap the word 'poop' in front of it, and the result is instant hilarity for my kid. So many mornings there are at least 10 poop jokes made before breakfast has even finished. It gets so bad that even his school teacher complained about it once, and this woman has seen some shit (see, it's rubbing off on me too, someone call r/PunPatrol ).

The second thing that makes it bad is the repetition. Sometimes my kid comes across a joke that kinda funny. What happens next is that he keeps telling the same joke until the joke itself becomes a vortex of anti-fun, which sucks some joy out of my life every time it's told. Over the days the light leaves my eyes and my smiles become more forced and dead until laughter is nothing but a distant memory. Ok, I'm kinda exaggerating here, but you surely get the idea. 

I get to hear the same 3 jokes every day. Luckily, my explanation that a joke is only funny once or twice is slowly starting to sink in, so recently he only repeats them once a week. It takes some time to sink in because he loves hearing the same joke over and over and over again, as do his buddies from class. 

Then there are the riddles; most riddles are things I already know the answer to, but I pretend not to know them for my kid. But he keeps asking the same riddle, and has gotten upset a few times that I answered correctly. 

​

There. Venting over. 

​

Jokes examples:

\-What is red and not a strawberry? Haha! It's actually a strawberry after all!

\-Mom, do you like bread? Then you are mad! (Ask a question, upon answer finish it in rhyme. Make as nonsensical as possible. Extra points awarded for bad rhymes and meter).

\-Most favorite joke currently (it's translated because english isn't our native language): 

Peter is sitting in class and scratches his bum. He says to the teacher: 'My hole is itching!' 

Teacher says: Hole isn't a good word. You should say bum. 

Later, a ball crashes through the window. 

Peter says: Teacher, there's a bum in the window! 

(The joke is decent, until it's flogged until it's dead, revived, flogged some more, its skeleton extracted, flogged until broken, boiled into the soup, and then we pour the soup on the ground so we can stomp in it)

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parenting,The_Squeeker,2019/03/13,"Has anyone some good advice/tips for travelling with a 4 month old by boat? Hi everyone,

Husband and i have planned a trip with our - then 4 month old- which includes a 15 hour, overnight ferry crossing. We have a cabin booked, that seemed like a given, but what other things should we pay attention to/plan for?

After the ferry there's a 7 hours car journey too. 
Im not breastfeeding, which would have been handy but it is what it is.

Whenever i look up travelling advice i only seem to get airtravel related hits, so im hoping some of you may have advice on travelling by boat or long car journeys.

Thanks in advance! ",5.224,6.1381047333333365,5.600000000000001,81.63000000000002,68.33333333333334,9.0,29.166666666666664,9.188382445141503,2.3874166666666667,488,17,93,9,8,156,87,120,0.014,0.8759999999999999,0.11,0.8938,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,7,0,11,0,0,0,0,18,19,6,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,3,4,1,10,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,4,12,13,2,22,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,7,10,57,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35623819699727155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12745240505963187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417360576266888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523227542754227,0.0,0.0,0.1528854056963344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18104231504780355,0.3590125055021481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937811512385945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905139687411065,0.0,0.0,0.16130952109740035,0.15306687866051674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909837268232428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825383640671532,0.0,0.0,0.13862996848664785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318765003782309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781628845136734,0.0,0.0,0.12109682350308075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948444093679515,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,suyog313,2019/03/13,How to motivate my 4 years old daughter? My daughter goes to nursery and they had a sports day. She was really scared going to school that day as she knew she wouldn't win any medals. This thing had been playing on her mind a week and she was obsessing over it. As things happened the sports day happened a day earlier than it was planned so she was there when it took place. She ran race and probably ended up coming last. She got a certificate of participation but her best friend came first and was awarded a medal. This seems to have damper her mood and she keeps asking us are we proud of her. We have just assuring her - that we certainly are but is there a line of conversation that can boost her up as well as teach her that it is okay not to win? ,3.4209381898454763,5.0168382847682125,3.774453642384106,90.41391004415013,73.43708609271523,7.68233995584989,23.841611479028696,8.344100000000001,1.155357174392937,595,17,130,10,12,185,92,151,0.056,0.715,0.229,0.9857,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,1,10,7,14,0,2,7,1,16,0,0,2,2,23,28,14,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,12,10,0,1,3,3,0,5,2,2,1,1,13,0,22,11,17,14,1,21,0,0,0,0,25,5,0,1,11,91,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883646391389173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633683086441702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339007137783506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19986823904165116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053224881091806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4507989617077527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477724552733704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864285046615766,0.0,0.0,0.1350119521708301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931484614479576,0.0,0.13976409322726924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090629219588629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532644553174482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244513871975642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644838442981656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337145640815347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257728072979865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188410803747982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194976888772973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17495592951777994,0.17685703113361764,0.0,0.15908646802105875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321931913554469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941544501898772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102035675780333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017446538159709,0.0,0.15712186000883446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253371707123977
parenting,Cozytozymozy,2019/03/13,"“I want to be a daddy” Media always showed me little girls who wanted to grow up and be moms. There was no cultural script for boys who wanted to be dads. My feeing was that parenting always felt like a sort of “side” thing for men in our culture - and even an illegitimate one. My spouse and I did not want a family where dads were kept on the sidelines. 

And you know, I think it makes a true change. Our 5 year old son lately talks about how he can’t wait to grow up and be a dad. My heart grows 3 sizes when I hear it. I am guessing it is because his dad is so amazing and a true co-parent that my son sees “dad” as a main role, a full time job, and the greatest possibility of all adult roles. 

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parenting,Deafening_Madness,2019/03/13,"Help! Need some quick advice for my 4 year old. First thing in the morning my son has a dental procedure scheduled. They are putting him under to preform it, so he can't have anything to eat or drink after midnight tonight. Well about an hour ago he came down with a fever and is coughing pretty badly, I gave him tylenol and cough syrup and he's finally asleep now, but idk what to do about tomorrow. We've waited a month for this appointment and he's been having quite a lot of pain in one of his teeth. Should I just reschedule the appointment and not worry about the not giving him medicine after midnight rule? Or should I still try to make the appointment? He takes medicine fairly easily, but only if he has water to follow it with! I tried to leave a message on the dentist phone in the hopes they may see it before they open but it wouldn't let me, just kept asking for an extension. Oh and its an hour and ten minute trip to the appointment so we will be like halfway there by the time they even open in the morning  (if all goes well). This just came out of nowhere and at the worst possible time, as these things do. If anyone has any advice I'd greatly appreciate it.",5.109358974358977,5.696341645299146,5.0675042735042775,86.51638461538462,68.44444444444444,8.120341880341881,27.993162393162393,8.021203637495839,1.5812259829059825,931,29,191,11,15,289,147,234,0.073,0.831,0.096,0.6801,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,4,2,15,8,0,0,18,0,18,11,2,1,1,41,31,19,0,8,13,1,0,1,0,5,6,0,0,0,12,16,3,2,0,1,0,5,4,3,2,3,5,1,16,5,31,19,4,34,0,0,1,0,22,11,0,9,19,132,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776552330036574,0.12593508306149048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966113978319301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933754303157907,0.0,0.1169102052490163,0.0,0.13281479555793518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862119710986015,0.0,0.0,0.12088976220986387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249768517180359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917296630534096,0.0,0.14537146182961358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383485201472506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556290106630685,0.0,0.12084332609950145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13628497458151784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663093540332515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522546774330937,0.0,0.0,0.14110599759324646,0.279817553835164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504299444952956,0.0,0.14527458562912318,0.0,0.06940745421685295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078149089209216,0.0,0.0,0.09483177401840703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339765801700212,0.0,0.0,0.10534193383083357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907690907822113,0.0,0.09626923864806773,0.10804943581539823,0.15117081622796194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601607982035932,0.0,0.1445346584043004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142818002397414,0.0,0.15110725299673666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321013766347947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134560243143507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681777175783767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887678919844083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568247722636165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19291026412281315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25547314394015475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427737741925215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914874050556842
parenting,Dmaple1,2019/03/13,"Worried about how I handled this Kid in the middle of a divorce, parents had a fight recently, I needed to borrow a spare (one of 4) from the other, and this happened..... any thoughts on if I handled it or they’re just that bad? Side note the contact name is a joke (planet of the apes mc) The link is here to the texts https://imgur.com/a/fwM6Rv6, 
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parenting,unknowngoth,2019/03/13,"My ex-wife and two children's mother left me for a recently clean meth addict. See then signed her rights away. I don't let them go around him when they visit her. He will be home now so I will not be allowing them to go over anymore. Am I in the wrong? We were married for over a decade. It wasn't prefect but I worked hard on it. It fell apart and she ran off with a neighbor that had just gotten out of jail for manufacturing meth. I found out and took the kids. Was awarded primary custody of my now 9 and 12 year olds in the divorce decree. There was no formal order for child support and she wouldn't contribute anything. I filed child support papers on her, she then voluntarily signed her rights away from my children. They were 7 and 10 at the time so knew her very well. She wasn't overly caring nor affectionate but she was there. I allowed my kids to see her when she wanted them as long as her recently drug free boyfriend wasn't around. Like I said, neighbor, so they walk to her house and I could see who was around. It wasn't more than 2 or 3 times a week for an hour or two at a time. She then fell into a fairly normal routine of 3 or 4 nights a week for an hour a night. Her boyfriend works second shift so it worked out. Starting next week he goes to day shift. He will now be there every night and I will not allow my kids to be around him. I am unsure if he is using or will use again, he has a past history of drug use. My ex-wife always acted like she hated ""drugies"" so I don't believe she is using. I have been around the block once or twice but have never done nor been around meth. The town I have always lived in was hit hard by meth and I worked at an ER in this area so I know a lot of the signs and symptoms of people that are using. She doesn't go to their school functions nor does she go to any recitals, concerts, games, etc. When one of us moves I don't believe she will put forth any effort to see them. Am I in the wrong for not letting my kids go over anymore? My kids are taking it hard and I am second guessing myself.",1.9880459327687987,3.4662156766743664,3.0537201693610463,94.59170162945856,76.99076212471131,5.642519887092638,20.572812419810113,5.985473137389443,-0.1325929689504748,1600,37,368,9,36,512,201,433,0.08800000000000001,0.858,0.055,-0.9049,1,0,7,0,1,0,40.0,2,0,8,6,24,12,1,0,21,0,45,4,0,8,1,58,75,37,0,5,13,1,3,2,2,7,4,2,4,9,10,23,0,1,3,2,1,14,17,3,2,6,21,9,62,10,55,39,3,79,0,0,4,0,55,33,0,8,33,251,72,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011491290643853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12229908146569575,0.0,0.0,0.09995139696082517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576460229763394,0.0,0.0,0.06047598210898655,0.3925299150606708,0.0,0.0,0.13809248860334675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559605644893974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492792046854645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058675759705114995,0.0,0.0,0.04739494984029922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06431156644546353,0.07520575267973667,0.0,0.0,0.17045006327129272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819607407814465,0.0,0.0,0.061918467837079376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057795696699807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088302126339472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095748534672971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974977299219235,0.07255612896016991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371643014873433,0.0,0.14474563057580592,0.08479755639495047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04038816461504484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984706551962142,0.15029694324262102,0.0,0.07180697271907356,0.0,0.06489298835302214,0.06503630929643138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247854297004024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810820590641628,0.0,0.0,0.056679994018184375,0.0,0.07815741494690845,0.20689607053390435,0.07200456547581657,0.0,0.0,0.07711535932277712,0.07826441772065397,0.04979870441357631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015449024666119,0.05094869072646265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387771614488617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512495547891915,0.0,0.0,0.12552006266623006,0.06990578882798255,0.0,0.0,0.07437577129927886,0.2342479596305421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201657776983562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16679109012252002,0.0,0.07638421580583095,0.05525531017578258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855777441120772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165005875932435,0.0,0.0,0.14357804091750295,0.0,0.08839938320950662,0.31735868457385946,0.0,0.06063692028866555,0.043346287326350964,0.0,0.17684765902256422,0.0,0.06607630723658038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400628855502124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069948724011165,0.0,0.047325130082189436
parenting,spootshootriot,2019/03/13,"Seven month old having hard time sleeping So things have been rough lately. We finally got our daughter transitioned out of her swaddler and started working on self soothing and sleep training. It was rough, but once we started feeding her more solids during the day it seemed to help. Now her top teeth are coming in and it feels like we're back at square one. She sleeps for maybe an hour tops before waking up screaming, even if we've given her ibuprofen or Tylenol. Right now my husband is up with her for what must be fifth time in an hour. We've also started transitioning to her crib (otherwise she'd only sleep in our bed and we wanted to break the habit before it began). She's getting between 4-8 ounces of solids a day, and I'm still nursing her at least 5 times a day. Is this just something that we've got to contend with, or is there anything else we can do?",5.365100422832981,5.997316133720938,5.120972515856238,86.19781183932348,67.8953488372093,7.184778012684991,29.58985200845666,6.574015621080383,1.4135860465116283,693,24,136,4,11,213,119,172,0.026,0.879,0.094,0.8957,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,6,0,0,3,9,2,0,0,6,0,13,9,6,0,1,22,26,11,0,3,5,2,4,1,0,1,2,1,1,1,8,13,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,6,6,17,1,20,17,2,34,0,0,1,0,20,12,0,4,21,85,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727603758297337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039024422020977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314954159508746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282957308242729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555439446899735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25953807967499404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206127863788264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860177952993457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782795097135352,0.09583350920061927,0.0,0.14694974196865773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008544116932257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21457668092996984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016794038845645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991484206000122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26421241874626983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132186780039958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553667240068327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13476709681327545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070735881083574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076304430127842,0.1428604858432168,0.09090040294273856,0.1020236307182264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455944896678395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212094501740835,0.13994292083716695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5369691612092539,0.0,0.0,0.10327169197875594,0.0,0.0,0.2848464393598542,0.0,0.1071286993777698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912025110514611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23466380567552675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912243963846646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765945766566968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squirlranger,2019/03/14,"I love daylight savings. My favorite part of daylight savings is the nightly, 10 minute “IT’S NOT DARK YET!!!!!” kicking screaming bedtime argument.

I’m sorry my child. I cannot explain time to you in a way you will understand. You are a speck in an infinite universe. Nothing matters. We all die alone. I love you. Please go to sleep. ",1.0833333333333321,3.6755231269841317,2.4130317460317485,88.98335714285717,95.50793650793648,4.424761904761905,31.6968253968254,6.2581,2.006137777777778,259,16,46,3,10,83,49,63,0.183,0.614,0.203,0.6698,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,4,0,0,1,5,0,0,4,0,4,3,1,0,1,8,10,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,10,4,5,9,2,8,0,0,0,2,9,2,0,0,4,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746678201585808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27523633185610635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507196009381139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4787077544271773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488727787774199,0.0,0.25446710862821903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28718638410217795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911105981646516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653921042898976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968703365742619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464059065304944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27608315616744583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21050387601792667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rambleswithafist2,2019/03/14,"My 1st grader is being humiliated at school for an attention disorder and the fact that his 65 year old teacher cant stand him. It seems in rural Missouri my liberal kid is doomed .
His Kindergarten teacher trembled upon eye contact with any other adult, and his 1st grade teacher runs her class with flag waving from her ass. Her son is Army. She ends every Pledge to the Flag with HOORAH, which I find absurd to drill into 1st graders.
She has been threatening him since January about his graduation to 2nd grade.
Every day it seems she says he needs to go back to Kindegarten or that hes not ready, right now, for 2nd grade.
I find her to be overly angry.
She finds me to be underly angry.
Today his 1st grade teacher pinched the shoulder of his tshirt and he was strewn into a second grade class. He followed instructions to sit at the back of the class. He did 1st grade work while the 2nd grade kids did 2nd grade work.
He said all of those kids looked at him almost the whole time.
Sometime later the entire class had a bathroom break. As they were standing against the wall the 2nd grade teacher said, ""so, everyone, who wants to see Ethan again in this class?"" They ALL said noooooo.
(My kid said her reply was ""right!"" But that's hard to believe.)
""One really tall kid with lots of freckles stood on his chair and said, 'I do!!'""
Happily, that's what my kid remembered most.

This kind of shame is outrageous.
I'm not a very legalistic mother but I would like to know how and when boundaries are crossed when kids dont have their parents with them.
I have met with the principals, the teachers, the guidance counselor and the nurse.
I've told them all how I work with him, and what I think he needs. Which is better care.
I realize public school cant do much by that, but my kids teacher has him in trouble every day.
Which has taught my kid that he is bad.
This is not true. There is not a malicious muscle about him. Only curiosity. 
Any advice is welcome.",3.4506828176221305,5.514737688654353,3.6468745502518622,89.37207403853844,74.48812664907652,6.5992164387942776,24.149756136563525,7.463857097105799,1.000543711521548,1540,48,308,19,33,474,199,379,0.09,0.865,0.045,-0.8974,2,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,0,0,5,4,12,12,1,2,19,0,32,3,3,2,5,48,54,18,0,4,8,3,1,1,0,1,0,6,0,10,19,16,0,0,10,0,0,4,7,6,0,2,16,10,43,6,43,34,7,39,1,1,3,1,60,16,1,6,16,190,62,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398783191325674,0.0,0.0,0.10655958444966512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473215130822606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16365364507481506,0.08885235817793465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989363944261387,0.0,0.09411571438814403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849752431889234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725817267407486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196119113961496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247179778684088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425239939386287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268978523410196,0.1016844111184011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917850597669639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060478286150440874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953272363676727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081519380455038,0.05848308407752696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0519891565129197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936207842843194,0.0,0.0,0.09047051076436212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782275141432257,0.15781124223902296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116649911163008,0.0,0.07210978376784707,0.08093365609101164,0.0,0.0,0.11816163401638588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068172387312535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054782798763175,0.1817562260700277,0.5061267532827958,0.08462574409019094,0.0,0.21539599670772572,0.08479924285145016,0.19375304517137834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802786321679656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524748548179473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818664859599717,0.0,0.0,0.06205163650763945,0.0,0.100869292972835,0.1016844111184011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780379453349395,0.06276652059626676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188089191100474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324148897203281,0.0,0.0,0.07559439943842182,0.0,0.0,0.06852798556103717
parenting,_moonrocker_,2019/03/14,"Youtube disables comments on a channel that supports special needs kids, because there is a high risk of predatory comments (with no proof) The channel has always been extremely positive, and many of the families of the special needs children felt loved and not alone by how many people in the comment section had similar situations, or showed their love and support. They have a petition for anyone who supports them and their message to sign and hopefully spread awareness on the issue.

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explanation: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wy7Tvo-q63o](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wy7Tvo-q63o)

petition: [https://www.change.org/p/youtube-reinstate-sbsk-comment-sections-immediately?recruiter=941862820&utm\_source=share\_petition&utm\_medium=copylink&utm\_campaign=share\_petition](https://www.change.org/p/youtube-reinstate-sbsk-comment-sections-immediately?recruiter=941862820&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=copylink&utm_campaign=share_petition) ",37.04465909090909,42.12054505681818,20.21045454545455,-10.651818181818186,1.8409090909090933,14.254545454545458,56.09090909090909,13.023866798666859,7.819877272727273,887,30,55,12,4,203,67,88,0.04,0.677,0.28300000000000003,0.9781,1,1,0,0,0,0,90.0,0,0,4,0,2,9,0,1,8,0,5,2,0,1,1,15,14,7,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,4,8,10,11,1,5,0,0,0,2,13,5,0,2,0,40,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856547354905252,0.0,0.0,0.08722150156383139,0.7950330946541434,0.1273719563875714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329498840775622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389939773867437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881821273744763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064694351047493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075172242718784,0.0,0.10411333059218177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940844020156937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18921449924852596,0.0,0.0,0.2125490364316729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554505091096742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267137667129236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11782594153368542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35685720171255153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273719563875714,0.0
parenting,lilephant,2019/03/14,"Husband is religious but I am not - advice on raising children together? We aren’t planning to have kids for a few more years but I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. My husband is religious and goes to church every week, his family is very religious but I am not at all. I don’t believe in a higher power but I respect that they do. When we’re at his parent’s, I participate in grace before meals and also go with them to church events because I know it means a lot to them.

However, I’m nervous about how couples like us go about raising children. I’m fine with letting our kids make the religious/not religious decision themselves as they get older and understand more, but what do you do when they’re young? Do you send them to Sunday school? Is it fair to him if they don’t go to church? How do you teach your kids about this? 

Any advice is helpful. Thanks in advance!",3.062575757575757,4.929690863636368,4.205318181818182,85.81089393939395,75.02272727272727,7.1933333333333325,27.074242424242424,8.021203637495839,1.7405065151515156,696,27,137,11,15,227,100,176,0.015,0.8420000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9732,4,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,4,6,3,9,6,0,1,5,0,18,1,0,3,1,25,30,15,0,1,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,6,1,0,5,0,0,5,5,1,0,0,1,0,23,5,21,28,6,20,3,0,0,0,26,6,0,3,10,95,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635101988361243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874253870217574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648502265130446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133826584701038,0.0,0.1582706042409817,0.20955606012310327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058032565966296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671134261338282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534236725137126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971762816791586,0.0,0.31712086047942883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467054317386972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221964017533,0.0,0.20981385298070407,0.0,0.0,0.19019556352889816,0.0,0.0908692309168366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31625770776904194,0.0,0.0,0.12415511372321035,0.0,0.0,0.20260635640333324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065287749817101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823991266844745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124197488391224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918001237767893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19363048447305367,0.22373270064445694,0.0,0.0,0.15346783475619144,0.0,0.0,0.1491963816911688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197766180850434
parenting,exiledbaystater,2019/03/14,"I could have lost my child today. He’s two. I like to think he is learning some common sense but I’m not ready to stake his life on it.

We stopped by the store where his mother works. She was busy. I had picked him up from the sitter , we had already been shopping , and I was tired. Coming back out to the car, a Ford Explorer was parked nice and close to the side of the car where his car seat was. As I was thinking “can I do this?” he ran towards the travel lane. I could have and should have lunged after him, but I called his name twice at normal volume. No cars were coming, but I didn’t know that because there was an SUV with tinted windows next to me.

He ran around the back of my car to the other side of it. He did stay nice and close to my car, shielded from traffic by the protruding tail end of the Explorer, but also invisible to anyone.

No cars came, but I can’t stop thinking about how bad it would have been. For him to lose his life, for me to lose my child, for all the people who love him. 


TLDR: I lost control of my two year old in a parking lot and can’t stop thinking about it.

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parenting,eemiatera,2019/03/14,"How much sentimental baby clothing did you save? I just gave a friend all but a few special pieces of my son’s baby clothing since I’m having a girl soon. I feel way more remorse than I expected! I want them all back! 😭 I can’t think of any logical reason to keep it all. Do normal people just kiss it all goodbye and move on or should I have saved more to look at for when I’m a crazy old lady?

I am normally ruthless with getting rid of stuff so I’m blindsided by all of the feels.",1.4668162393162376,3.0097552115384616,3.5532051282051285,90.16957264957266,78.61538461538461,6.545299145299146,23.09401709401709,7.3871296695380915,0.8113196581196579,378,12,85,5,9,129,77,104,0.06,0.754,0.18600000000000005,0.9002,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,1,0,7,5,0,0,5,0,7,1,0,2,5,25,18,6,0,5,4,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,10,5,12,15,10,8,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,1,4,57,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014935063414333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19239375070912604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530243700261855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933093196576456,0.0,0.13072283878488847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239549186423208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101108769334087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26593046056942216,0.1839309457212028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4902995027955716,0.0,0.0,0.2625501736175201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734620406789331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572544840501212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069738289476782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28642717146233465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603225527383981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757858049488387,0.1986026828776921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BalloonHalo,2019/03/14,"To clean or not to clean? Obligatory on mobile statement. 

I share 50/50 custody (12f)(8m) with a week on week off schedule. Now I know this may seem silly but I’m torn between cleaning their rooms before they come home from Dad’s or not. 

I’m a bit of a clean freak in general. Usually, I clean each kiddos bedroom the day before they get home and then they maintain it until they leave the following Friday. I do this because it’s a way I show love, and I’m missing them so it gets me excited to see them the next day. 

I’ve started thinking lately that this might not come across the way I intend it to. It may seem like I’m snooping, or that this isn’t their “real” home. I never want them to feel like guests. 

I’m just wondering what some other opinions are on the matter. What would you do? Am just over thinking?",1.839049401197606,3.8980472574850316,3.0363136227544913,91.8840512724551,79.4191616766467,5.6121257485029945,22.413547904191613,6.6274283507984215,0.4948206586826345,640,20,134,6,16,206,101,167,0.068,0.754,0.177,0.9569,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,9,0,4,8,0,0,9,0,9,1,0,1,1,35,31,9,0,2,9,1,1,2,1,4,0,0,10,0,14,6,0,0,8,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,2,18,6,17,27,3,26,0,1,1,1,14,8,0,11,15,84,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291244108109738,0.0,0.2593925453827195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640069885948858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625887781891467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965936692948499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706699020182926,0.10888726563021604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926395919488234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4586622690525992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376480515867929,0.0,0.1719338522848965,0.1613883818245781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892722004523098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375629633084764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616911383179436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755395920020938,0.0,0.1620979981916558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734847593497984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145720710691388,0.2775107765549219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788206256563836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532626995168412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678666098450901,0.0,0.08989993347930912,0.2419642189218076,0.2445206385251367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529053993502602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827319112741536,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boardergirl514,2019/03/14,"I need advice and encouragement for my 2 sons that have a very abusive father. Hi, so I want to start kind of from the beginning. 
I met my ex partner when I was 10. We started dating in November when I was 17, got married in the spring when I turned 18. I had my first son when I was 19 (2015) and the second when I was 21 (2017. I had a miscarriage last May, (2018) the date is coming up so fast. 9 weeks 5 days old. I call her my little Kimberly even though I have no idea the gender of the baby. 

This is just what we had together. 
We bought a house in 2016 together; the title is in my name but the mortgage initially isn't in my name so the mortgage experts won't talk to me.

In 2017 of December he punched me 3 times on my shoulders. Called me bitch, cunt, whore, slut, and hes done a bunch of other very horrible abusive things to me that I don't need to mention now. So, I left to stay in a homeless shelter from then until July when I finally came back to the house. He tried to get me back but all he wanted was sex. Didn't want to talk, didn't want to resolve anything. If I refused to partake in his tiny wrinkly old man dick, he would blow up immediately and call me a bitch again like the Halsey song. 
I've been married to him 2014-2018. 

Hes threatened to kill himself with guns, knives, and even threw plates at me, walked all over the glass trying to threaten me. I'm absolutely not a hitter but I did throw an orange at him in the stomach and he tried telling the police that I bruised his balls. 
Hes a complete psychopath and a polygamist. He has absolutely no respect for his family, especially his parents. I didn't realize this when I should have. Very abusive and mean snooty family. Once we broke up, the family removed me from Facebook and I haven't heard from them since. I feel like I lost a shit ton. Like almost everything. 

Well, my two boys, especially the older one has been having very extreme angry flares. He gets frustrated so fast, he screams and will hit himself many times as well as anything that hes around. I'm trying so hard to be positive and encouraging him to be kind and loving but it seems like it hasn't had an effect. The boys have if not seen, heard all of the abusive things that hes done to me and to them. He was quite abusive to them as well, slapping them and just going ham on their ass. 

So, my question to you all, how do I if at all possible teach the children to not be that way? 
I'm sending Alex to pre-K this fall so I'm kind of worried how he'll act in school along with treating the other kids. 
What can I do to teach him that this is wrong, to love himself at a young age because I fear that he'll never actually love and appreciate himself because their dad never could or won't. I've never seem him love and appreciate anyone, especially me, never seen him anything but selfish. 
All Alex and Lance want to do now is destroy everything. Everyday I have to be alert and watching or there WILL be banging on things way too hard or breaking things, throwing cereal and other things all over the house. 

Advice and encouragement please? 

I'm currently raising the boys with my loving boyfriend. Kids love him and he loves them. Hes such a wonderful, thoughtful, and affectionate man. I just love and appreciate him. Hes so amazing to me but I'm having so much trouble finding a reliable babysitter. I've been with and without work since we broke up because I've never worked. I was stay at home mom like he commanded so he brought the money home. 
I just lost my very decent job because my evil neighbor of 3 years nannying just quit and won't talk to me now so I've been without money for months now. I can't believe I am still in this house, feeding the children that my boyfriend and I raise. 

I live an hour and a half from family and they own a certified organic dairy farm so their always too busy raising my 7 siblings (11) total. Homeschooled, no GED, no College, no certificate or anything that can get me anywhere in life and I'm on my third bladder and kidney infection this year which is killing me. I feel so defeated that I can't keep a job, can't find a f****** reliable decent person to watch my boys and I certainly don't have enough money to pay for child care. 
I've worked like a tops of 2 weeks at every job now because find a babysitter but then they fickle out. I can't stand this anymore. I'm in so much emotional and physical pain it's insane. 

Help please??? 

I'm a mother (23f) raising boys with my boyfriend with a very abusive ex. Leaving absolutely no way for me to get on my feet. I've been trying so hard. 
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parenting,Titleist_V1,2019/03/14,is this the place to ask questions about parents? So I'm in my late teens and I'm wondering if it's customary for parents to talk shit about there kids? I still live at home because I haven't graduated yet and my step mom and my dad love generally talking shit about everything I do. Any insite? ,2.096,4.3678819333333365,3.6500000000000017,86.70500000000001,79.66666666666666,7.333333333333335,26.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,1.900666666666668,236,10,49,5,6,78,46,60,0.125,0.807,0.068,-0.5484,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,2,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,7,8,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,8,8,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,3,2,3,3,28,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13983095123004075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19223010552644693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253461054481769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480103752378785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625701815894412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319521317904369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815692139474452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855831307841505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408236204181375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4566408647715056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214832670012302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303452475280651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221388945091802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16421109888352134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305445719654071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22298978702107267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,justcurious12345,2019/03/14,"Potty training regression after 6ish months? My daughter just turned 3. In the last week she's had accidents at school 3 days. She's also wetting the bed this week, which has never happened before. At least one bed wetting and accident at school were intentional according to her.  She also doesn't feel anyone she's had an a resident and comes home in her barely damp smelly clothes.  I'm inclined to put her back in pullups until she's willing to go back to reliably using the toilet just because of the hygiene issues and overall mess but I'm worried she'll feel like it's punishment. Anyone deal with this before? ",5.157948717948717,7.0005646239316235,5.515897435897436,78.67076923076925,69.42735042735042,7.935042735042735,30.948717948717945,8.515128840125781,2.601933333333333,499,21,84,8,9,159,79,117,0.111,0.861,0.028,-0.8253,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,6,0,7,0,0,2,1,13,16,7,0,0,3,1,4,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,1,3,4,10,1,14,11,1,19,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,11,53,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903824882810014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538980608554059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27921259237654955,0.0,0.11067559684586076,0.0,0.30898364571588155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639546982595495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11708938777280645,0.1871775228311822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18360157237192284,0.129704515050027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318315275431672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055045104073748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821166960614228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894985688097435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799336733806792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869968743321552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491724174670095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002812158084652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302787177351705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251515367366591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674912013160536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748212111777744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568071459357907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29126850285075784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18438017105177715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dnmnkwsk,2019/03/14,"Our dog is a dick My husband and I have been together almost 6 years. We got our pup almost a year after dating. He was our first baby and we love him so much. He is very submissive and has never needed a leash. He knows all of his commands and loves everyone. We truly thought he was the goodest boy. 
September of last year we had our first baby and our pup is so nervous of our crazy toddler. I’m not sure what to do about it. Our son has learned to be gentle (thanks to our cat who has more balls than the dog) but our dog won’t even let him near him with getting up and running away, and grrrring in the process. It’s a constant battle all day long trying to keep them separated. I don’t want to coop our dog up because he’s clearly depressed already (winter in the Midwest+ a baby= neglected doggie 😔)and I’m exhausted from being the referee all day long every day. We have tried rewarding our dog with treats when he is ok around the baby and encouraging them to play together(which helps for a little bit) .. but nothing seems to shake our dogs feelings. 
Has anyone had a similar experience? What was your outcome? Help! We’re tired and we just want everyone to be happy!",2.490355899419729,4.623458625531917,3.790377176015472,86.91295454545454,77.63829787234042,6.655705996131528,25.14990328820116,7.686295010490155,1.3799361702127664,927,34,184,14,22,303,139,235,0.107,0.7240000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.9483,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,18,1,2,3,7,16,1,2,13,1,23,5,1,0,6,40,38,14,0,3,4,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,18,0,2,5,2,0,2,4,6,0,2,8,1,28,10,25,25,6,27,0,2,0,3,40,8,1,3,17,119,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768627305841102,0.0,0.15255565704717874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666339720475732,0.0,0.0,0.12306644151207682,0.0,0.0,0.1298847592495021,0.0,0.0,0.08427224014820389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092660887981652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939261802914042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674677694019181,0.0,0.11906932761789307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130883747613468,0.0,0.1164765059918282,0.2641960726993644,0.0,0.13522912826672828,0.0,0.0,0.06990030431036788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351804982047267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222676780448632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056633054747796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716327525235948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18532403624184934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287759125300825,0.0,0.0,0.07597526977187409,0.11268728561748392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136382424880714,0.0,0.0,0.13855677456994667,0.0,0.24468312392303204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495411582031715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162522350456027,0.10250615106284718,0.10662227108472397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326488163695662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258521169685897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029330439208453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727647265983658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975026909821546,0.0,0.15889110544119608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877171602668912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114065752206796,0.16307974896199798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26707374989087884
parenting,ummmjason,2019/03/14,"Contemplating Surrogacy in Ohio Hey there. My girlfriend and I are going to make a baby for my uncle and his husband. I think this may be considered regular adoption rather than surrogacy, but our intentions to conceive a child knowing that my uncles will be the parents could have the definition go either way, in my opinion.

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I am actively doing research on the matter, but would appreciate any resources involving: contracts, legal/hospital-fees, personal testimonies, and all-around words of wisdom/advice/thoughts. 

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Thanks for the time it took to read this, and doubly thanks for helpful contributions to this post!",10.597861635220127,11.479936962264151,9.556603773584909,58.0127672955975,56.73584905660378,12.349685534591195,44.08176100628931,11.855464076750405,5.962828930817612,522,28,68,14,6,164,81,106,0.0,0.823,0.177,0.9604,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,2,0,18,18,6,0,3,4,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,12,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,1,51,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834189719510124,0.42999187620396895,0.12032217326424495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15751006284864855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126855932623206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20111298724278254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118596102386508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723909596863234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810578669246173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646587814518046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544932100791936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16945525146804388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698333108251893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257967803649846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337309191519565,0.0,0.14046698328901966,0.10317248367713293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19658179506837176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044312441330215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568986703812465,0.0,0.42999187620396895,0.0
parenting,brainboxgames,2019/03/14,"Magic Spell We have finally launched [Magic Spell](https://www.brainbox.games/) on the App Store, and it really has been a long year for our small startup! It is basically a Fruit Ninja inspired spelling game, that enables kids to play through ten unique worlds which accurately track the national curriculum's spelling attainment levels!",17.112692307692303,14.948107961538465,12.703846153846154,50.29115384615386,46.30769230769231,16.553846153846155,52.92307692307693,14.554592549557764,7.740084615384616,282,14,35,8,2,80,47,52,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.7707,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,1,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,4,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,20,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6536917462664764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5280898564988274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822823890530918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842764361055633
parenting,MermacornCoffee,2019/03/14,"Think of the money candy companies could make! We’re standing at the gas station counter and Laila (age 6) sees a king size candy bar. 

Laila: “Well, those are for kings only. Where’s the queen size?”

Good flipping question! You’re welcome marketing companies 👑 Market towards Mothers Day, Valentines Day, and breast cancer awareness month. ",4.202068965517242,7.591288775862073,3.3099137931034512,84.2452155172414,83.65517241379311,4.968965517241379,29.66379310344828,6.6274283507984215,1.989958620689655,271,13,40,3,8,79,49,58,0.071,0.787,0.142,0.5342,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,4,0,2,3,1,1,0,6,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,4,4,0,8,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,4,15,1,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863452356509046,0.0,0.0,0.4625868722923485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30081061401218256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393953012863252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286263404719969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727622414384441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017594096123455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857900244421713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298023344738689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224608571186645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mungoflago,2019/03/14,"I'm a father. I don't babysit my child, I'm a fucking parent and that's what all of us should strive to be Sorry if this isn't the right sub for this 'rant' 

So I'm a new dad. Baby boy turns 5 months in a few days. We have a nanny, and she's awesome. She asked for a day off and we were happy to let her enjoy a day with her family. We had a sub-nanny who at the last minute got sick (there's a bug going around here) so I took my child to work. I'm launching a company so luckily I have nobody who can tell me he's going to be a distraction. I work in a co-working space but have a private office.

So I bring the kid to work in a stroller, and on the 25 minute walk to work I'm stopped by a handful of women on the street who compliment me for spending time with my child. Ok, a little odd, but whatever.

I get into the elevator in my building and a guy a few years older than me asks me why I'm babysitting. I tell him I'm not babysitting, I'm parenting. He asks me why I'm bringing my kid to work, and I tell him our nanny called in sick. ""That sucks, I'm sorry"" is what he said. Ok, maybe he's sorry that my child will be a distraction.

So I start working and the kid is fussing. My child likes being upright more than anything so I load him into the Ergo we have and continue doing work. I'm on the phone pacing the office with him on my chest, and he's looking around and giggling. 

Because our office is in a co-working space, the walls are completely glass and you can see into every office. Not ideal, but it's relatively cheap and my team needs somewhere to work together. While I'm on the phone a woman doesn't knock and comes in and our conversation goes:

* Why did you bring a child into the office?
* Is he disturbing your work? I'm happy to go into a conference room
* No, I'm just curious why you are babysitting.

I laugh and tell her to knock next time she wants to come into our office and get back to my call.

I go get lunch with kid still in the Ergo (he fell asleep and hell no I'm not waking him up during nap time) and a couple around my age compliment my kid, awesome. The wife asks me why I'm babysitting. I don't know her, I've never met her, and I just told her that I'm sorry if her husband never spent time with their kid but this me just trying to take care of my son. I'm not babysitting. The husband says he spent tons of time with their kid and I just shake my head order my food. 

I've put noise cancelling headphones on and am just working and and playing with my kid until my wife can come take him home before an event I have tonight.

There's no real reason to this rant, but I feel that there is a shitty double standard going on. Nobody in their right mind would call a mom with their kid 'babysitting,' but because I'm a guy it's happening to me on a regular basis. I'm not babysitting - I'm just trying to be a decent parent. ",1.7599019607843154,3.091590637254903,3.5865411764705897,91.14963529411769,77.26797385620915,6.2031895424836625,21.55372549019608,6.742157984588678,0.3403025098039216,2218,57,500,20,50,747,234,612,0.101,0.807,0.092,-0.2356,3,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,9,4,4,12,21,20,3,4,46,2,33,10,5,2,3,82,93,39,0,7,19,11,2,1,0,3,2,2,2,20,16,47,2,1,3,3,4,16,14,7,0,0,10,6,75,13,64,74,6,80,1,0,2,1,94,37,3,2,27,300,91,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051394201303543295,0.16679151597682862,0.23354369533282135,0.0,0.0,0.04802315949705637,0.0,0.07614258074138458,0.0,0.053143630714851585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131710633684565,0.0,0.06367586756799658,0.0,0.0,0.1613953982836134,0.06548167879926008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691040027359239,0.0,0.12083270951138728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052620066503276434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05887593630265502,0.0,0.03157854564824319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551944944584169,0.0,0.0,0.05773758263774936,0.09788868474786024,0.0,0.1774698254098463,0.0,0.049950053162134835,0.0,0.0,0.12367827098699175,0.05522773777520525,0.1329665800786026,0.0,0.0,0.06409567323228091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626463088042958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034323005433223266,0.05090822748135767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386329818007755,0.0,0.0305117989177204,0.06259516998957361,0.0,0.0,0.05244550884760546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274329177947012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306059002086042,0.07314520023002154,0.049850071266769984,0.0,0.0,0.04630874217930562,0.09633652636527687,0.06031832239446892,0.06642038338306021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804284539611365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627833742088515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108615995064588,0.0,0.06421296467965737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667050196350587,0.05940791795383595,0.0496658122603067,0.0,0.0,0.04976763655735409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796479102825091,0.0442051600618338,0.0,0.04987572932826158,0.05221421933119602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391505305845736,0.0,0.21834968836068308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18208672563922745,0.0,0.0,0.059677334913876764,0.06938853095036038,0.0848041360181513,0.06793186023262285,0.0,0.0,0.0751242979004609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03683690183975817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817744505931569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5456058036924331,0.0,0.0,0.04436542674812919,0.0,0.0,0.0402182350305146
parenting,disdained_heart,2019/03/14,"Advice for Disneyland trip with 2yr old So my husband and I decided to take our (soon to be) 2yr old to Disneyland instead of having a birthday party for her. We will be there 2 nights and 3 days - though really only 1 full day as the other 2 will be half days due to travel time.

I’ve been to Disneyland many, many times but never as a parent. We’re staying at the Grand Californian Hotel and  will be visiting in early May.  Any recommendations on how to make the visit fun for all and avoid the many terrible meltdowns I’m sure are bound to happen?

TIA!!",2.662972972972973,4.6822778648648695,4.6849459459459455,81.24417567567569,76.65765765765767,7.683243243243242,22.811711711711716,8.548686976883017,1.5647938738738745,437,13,85,9,10,150,79,111,0.058,0.7809999999999999,0.161,0.9251,1,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,6,0,11,0,0,2,3,16,15,10,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,2,1,2,0,4,1,2,0,1,1,0,5,3,17,6,2,21,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,12,55,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825460426975919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270354472553322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614259830485159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519317904617636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469539926751165,0.5681801909061053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407739380274415,0.0,0.0,0.1753061031316163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920459127015194,0.0,0.0,0.1420754560282218,0.0,0.0,0.2074275258124945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967361273126326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991118475498572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760637766929796,0.0,0.14045592667731935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835373355452286,0.0,0.2178578104566667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Superb_Dream,2019/03/14,"Struggling with amount of freedom for a 16 (almost 17) year old boy. I got guardianship of my nephew in October. I also have 2 biological kids. My daughter is 13 and my son is 11. My nephew came from a good home but he is gay and wasn't comfortable in his home anymore. My sister is LDS and his town was overwhelmingly Mormon, so he asked if he could move in with us since I left the church when my kids were little and we have always maintained a very close relationship. 

He is much happier here. He plays on the water polo team and runs hurdles for his schools track team. He did well on his SAT and ACT exams. He takes AP/honors courses, does his homework without being reminded, and is helpful with my bio kids. All in all it has been great having him here. Now that he has gotten more comfortable we have struggled with boundaries.

We didn't give him a curfew as long as he was home when he said he would be home, but lately he's been coming back at 4am or 5am. When I ask what he has been up to he just says hanging out. I don't think he's getting into anything bad but I don't like the idea of him biking or walking around at that time. The area is safe but not knowing what's going on is hard. 

He also started dating. From what I can tell it isn't serious, we have talked about using protection to protect against STDs, but I'm not sure what the rules should be surrounding his boyfriend. I haven't gotten to that point with our biological kids yet. I let them hang out in his room, but things like sleepovers are still a mystery on how to handle. I wouldn't let my kids have their SOs sleepover at 16 but we don't have a problem with sleepovers in general. The boyfriends parents are okay with my nephew sleeping over there but again, I don't know how to feel about it. Mostly they just play Halo and watch Netflix in the den, but sometimes they'll head up to his room to hang out up there. 

The last thing is checking his cell phone and internet history. He made a comment about how it's cool that I don't do that because his mom used to check his history all the time. I told him that I'll only check if I am concerned and he gave me his passwords without much prying. I feel like he's much too old to be checking his history. Is that naive. I mean, I'm taking the kid on college tours for crying out loud. Surely he can manage his internet history on his own.",3.8140024257125513,4.735184855670107,4.522513644633111,88.04539569436024,71.57731958762886,7.272892662219527,26.635839902971497,7.39963492309942,1.195955730745907,1865,60,397,19,34,598,239,485,0.076,0.8290000000000001,0.096,0.8985,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,7,0,4,2,26,21,0,3,17,2,53,4,2,6,5,77,81,34,0,7,19,8,3,3,0,4,0,3,8,7,17,31,1,3,7,6,4,10,14,6,1,0,18,8,56,15,58,52,10,63,2,1,1,1,81,35,0,6,21,256,73,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973327692120588,0.0,0.0,0.1554632225292186,0.08087902556269927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639728159915792,0.0,0.0,0.07998814781440583,0.0865295052474049,0.18173964328263975,0.0,0.0,0.07474157556565629,0.08115878188850499,0.05925283250673165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117205891528116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373006193330043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760709585430406,0.0,0.10677074347143957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506125743845194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982955007767187,0.06944041979127158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078351504238538,0.0932440642670133,0.05524157304688339,0.08152759413848401,0.0777405258634657,0.10716445486229476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870730112632982,0.0,0.09975627706493953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651517869917678,0.0,0.390002146667815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097281070866266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068382643330635,0.07923179505598217,0.1096469712035876,0.0,0.10560917998520546,0.19878923322780906,0.0,0.14246250861062326,0.0974209459939342,0.0,0.08601983365778773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197394432859364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10588039355181733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384064621138305,0.0,0.10330928910424554,0.214361775699274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20399221460033876,0.0,0.0,0.07392574689999487,0.0,0.0,0.107930216815638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188637103893488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300823771386288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435750651254673,0.0,0.0,0.09246041775358632,0.07729814320756945,0.0,0.09837260977053452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040567855966398,0.0,0.09727120576185844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613428268752253,0.0,0.06879937400528596,0.0,0.0776248508328358,0.0,0.0,0.20323119707066825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832216000978664,0.0,0.14616612293807052,0.07812648860786937,0.08495796561109144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915206174261415,0.062282481349886724,0.0,0.0,0.11335737928448,0.0,0.0,0.0928797289419473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116920845007883,0.16790092520453434,0.0,0.08020101160687715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739537988394737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873966068584004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904880750299533,0.0,0.0,0.06259426252108184
parenting,FederalPralineLover,2019/03/14,"Two-week old baby: how can I help my wife? Hello :)
Let me start by some factual information: our first baby was born two weeks ago, and he is absolutely fine. Gains weight as expected, sleeps up to 6 hours a night, and so on.

However, I am struggling with two common issues at this age:
- The baby sometimes cries a bit, a few hours a day.
- His mother has a bit of blues. In particular, she has a very hard time hearing the baby cry, and bursts into tears has soon as the baby fusses.

She is worried about the usual worries of a breastfeeding mother: am I giving enough food to the baby, what am I doing wrong - he shouldn't be crying...

I would like to help her through this, but I feel really helpless, and I would like some advice on how I can, as the father, smooth things out.

Cheers",2.3987465437788025,4.363379109677421,3.877534562211984,86.98201612903227,77.25806451612904,6.493087557603687,20.1036866359447,7.447530270364453,0.5725299539170514,602,14,122,8,14,199,104,155,0.117,0.757,0.126,0.3291,2,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,0,0,2,5,7,0,1,13,0,17,3,1,2,1,19,21,11,0,4,1,4,4,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,7,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,3,1,6,15,4,19,15,6,22,0,1,1,0,17,7,0,2,17,84,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442797926367938,0.1128726999612391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780285216587056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196067682627215,0.08211901695145855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156865226482106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438320722617183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830907605378896,0.15397113019194825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214906816437925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140650321464055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435131362452606,0.0,0.17069676515814258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25079399663795743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290219105559747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020624846614756,0.0,0.12441658931637126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11949305415178382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361418296217722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157254785305547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742459518937896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593523396090406,0.0,0.09012669590391588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331157191573402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459414611204187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07424868466428364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731564528190415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402389103260301,0.1050627609449482,0.0,0.0,0.20427712176134846,0.15505684835336148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25862494765952104,0.0,0.18090690406201515,0.13921824963659582,0.0,0.0
parenting,Logen-Grimlock,2019/03/14,"Issues with 13yo(m) So my went into my boys bedroom and found out that my oldest who is 13 had pissed on the floor.

When we asked him about it he said he had to go to the bathroom really bad.

My wife and I have no idea what to do, this isn’t the first time that he’s peed on something(this was a year or two ago). So we are looking for advice on what we should do to help him with this if he’s having problems and doesn’t want to tell us. ",1.959293078055964,2.613201453608248,3.1957290132547875,96.83185567010312,75.70103092783506,5.955228276877763,19.01178203240059,5.288315135182226,-0.555508394698085,339,5,85,1,7,110,68,97,0.127,0.8340000000000001,0.039,-0.8718,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,4,0,0,1,4,3,1,0,4,0,12,1,1,0,0,17,19,8,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,8,10,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,3,0,2,6,2,11,0,14,12,0,14,0,0,1,0,17,6,1,2,6,60,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410305993927717,0.2186467600593697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305912223245284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059484918096328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20980652161521,0.0,0.27044693144112303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018099322666985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532914809010324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27844599977685675,0.0,0.25744607410894377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712995867204875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23601766607779626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15801494341841096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346275183700945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155892988741016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438278197127412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24094828194992704,0.0,0.2966982885913901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548483031876994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228653731844235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15883917503669293
parenting,newdad2015,2019/03/14,"I recently broke down and cried in front of my 4yo We have a new baby, and my 4yo has been acting out a lot. Has meltdowns about absolutely *everything*, refuses to do anything we ask, has started wetting the bed regularly. I am beyond exhausted and this morning after I gave her a normal size portion of oatmeal and she completely lost her mind screaming and crying at me saying she wanted a larger portion and refused to listen when I told her I would give her more if she ate what I gave her and was still hungry (she wasn't still hungry when she was done, of course), I broke down crying. She came over to me and hugged me, so I am happy about her reaction, but I wonder if I should have gone to another room so that she didn't see me having such a strong emotional reaction. On the one hand I want her to understand how her behavior is affecting me, but on the other hand, I don't want to have accidentally somehow made it worse.

Thanks for any and all advice!",6.836701570680628,6.015604947643979,7.55114659685864,74.94378795811521,64.96858638743456,10.781361256544503,32.71256544502618,10.125756701596842,3.08700167539267,759,26,147,15,10,254,113,191,0.119,0.75,0.131,0.7532,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,12,9,0,0,8,0,20,5,2,3,1,34,39,18,0,8,4,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,5,13,1,2,2,0,0,4,3,5,0,1,14,7,36,4,22,23,5,22,0,3,1,1,26,10,0,5,8,117,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495793915743784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409365564999072,0.16050848525229494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596454373149313,0.0,0.1431008960048645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507265838242095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049222642851554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044245311114692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566449686623419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218448165552885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375705120686432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14683982979974694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629471240560312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16709528180567187,0.13013564862901392,0.0,0.14483965748798736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15455826237091042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14783710547797835,0.0,0.0,0.1499772623849275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372499728191273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15113932972606378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172835109302907,0.0,0.0,0.12197791720735783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10834457344475977,0.0,0.244485694057348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092738248963332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626607813476666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15935250317853386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708560546736445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599917185323104,0.0,0.0,0.1559926159741229,0.10873737884892057,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snarkisms,2019/03/14,"How old before I start letting my kid roam on her own? First let me preface this by saying she's only 6, and I definitely won't be letting her go out on her own for at least a couple more years, but I get anxiety when I see kids who look like they are 8-9 years old walking to the bus in the morning by themselves. I was raised by someone who was insanely paranoid, and I don't want to be clutching onto my child until she's a teenager and resenting me for not letting her experience life without me immediately in attendance. Am I overprotective? The neighbourhood isn't great, but I don't think anything around us poses an immediate danger (and we may very well have moved to a better neighbourhood by the time she is old enough to roam on her own).

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So when do I consider letting her go to the park down the road by herself? When can she walk to the bus by herself? Go around the neighborhood with her friends? 

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And why is life so scary as a parent :/ I don't want to parent from fear. I want to let her go out into the world feeling like she is strong and capable of taking care of herself. ",6.3858779761904785,5.687328450892861,7.019464285714285,77.98386904761907,65.83035714285714,9.966666666666667,34.29166666666667,9.2995712137729,2.89812023809524,879,35,177,14,12,291,124,224,0.138,0.728,0.134,0.4282,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,1,3,9,11,2,1,14,0,24,2,0,1,0,24,39,16,0,3,4,2,1,2,1,2,2,1,0,3,3,13,0,0,2,0,0,8,7,3,1,1,2,4,35,8,36,27,6,35,0,0,2,0,28,15,0,1,14,135,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865117277588127,0.2339954874886122,0.0,0.0,0.07365834684745713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923498069704901,0.1714294896266753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193209442038857,0.0,0.0,0.08515693475724304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816975475149982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065383678312412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948893427954526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418595417480444,0.0,0.10834825490849236,0.04868497595869682,0.06878656991186706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819006227083992,0.0,0.0,0.07439014336168917,0.0,0.050305338278967035,0.0,0.21888567712308604,0.0,0.0,0.1061553960734974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5907523109848729,0.13601896696630456,0.09408072260911422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085579259503806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023365304944154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30310714076745593,0.0,0.0,0.07322966325244863,0.0,0.0,0.21382789524913107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657030513046129,0.0,0.0,0.07672728872017386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158261641166148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681515602027243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072394912533996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061696030504081824,0.0,0.0,0.05614500400930777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581992020590065,0.0,0.0,0.07944584016746327,0.1703755170144709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657246638818518,0.0,0.0868829268181705,0.0,0.0,0.09281604170639172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339954874886122,0.12400975189753564
parenting,aggibridges,2019/03/14,"My almost 9 year old carries his stuffed toy everywhere he goes. Hey guys! I don't want to come off as judgy or old-fashioned, because I really don't care, I was just wondering if this is cause for concern. My stepson is very attached to a stuffed toy he carries around everywhere. It's in his backpack at school, if we go anywhere from eating ice cream to the supermarket, he'll take the toy along, and when we're at home, he carries it from room to room and often inhibits him from doing things like carrying a plate and glass. 

He'll put it down for periods of time, but throughout the day he'll have periods where he just won't put it down. I haven't really brought up the subject a lot because I don't mind it, and while usually he's understanding when I ask him not to take the toy along, and he'll never yell or scream or anything of the sort. But I know it's super important to him and that he attributes certain magic qualities to the toy. It's so important it'll go months without cleaning because he can't bear to be parted with it for a day.

I've talked about it with his mother, and while she doesn't like that he's so attached to it, I think she's too busy to put in a significant, consistent effort. Rather she puts it away for a couple days at a time, then gives it back to him, which I imagine must cause a lot of confusion for him. His father is on the same boat as I am.

But in the end, I'm unsure if this is something that needs to be 'fixed' at all. I have given him multiple stuffed toys and he collects and loves all of them, and I'm fine with him having it in the house, but is it really necessary to carry around one everywhere he goes? I guess I just don't understand, and would appreciate some other perspectives!  ",6.015354307556598,5.130027145251396,6.6237841811232006,81.13316818582773,66.6536312849162,10.218406351073213,32.529256101146714,9.549672527348893,2.671545251396648,1370,49,293,24,19,451,172,358,0.029,0.871,0.1,0.9778,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,1,2,15,9,0,1,18,0,24,2,0,3,5,63,49,30,0,8,16,2,0,2,0,8,0,2,4,1,23,20,1,0,6,6,0,8,11,2,0,1,3,3,31,7,50,36,7,46,0,0,1,1,38,19,0,15,21,191,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189335370504236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195404783058067,0.1989479312044614,0.10446357559059992,0.0,0.10498517642253516,0.08592260981519477,0.0,0.2043504422829044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392829586783745,0.2295793869890609,0.0,0.09625573700914657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364026702805535,0.0,0.2161928090736324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433984164007956,0.0,0.0,0.0989701406719362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071929952100038,0.12701097322508026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309628087396544,0.1106420311775259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208621848555488,0.0,0.0,0.12893512903362928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141041602446885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10918287845378724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18999790423571666,0.10085141116641112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282744675327908,0.0,0.08919130410353104,0.0,0.0,0.08285518959969355,0.08618222803876832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23450861622585706,0.0,0.07571919112110609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100556899957048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44932581875286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21475413270070973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130887501614288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602435994992559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803197757552313,0.0898138920150054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423634117928392,0.07159968602277447,0.0,0.0,0.13031517995466135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326544798262649,0.0,0.0,0.12306789620862672,0.09219875517647047,0.0659082571144071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771518669446184,0.1211793043998656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937822691565663,0.0,0.0,0.07195810838298805
parenting,IdRatherBeBassFishin,2019/03/14,"Help me raise a strong daughter   

I have a daughter (11) in the 6th grade at a public school.  Last night, she said to me “Well, I was called a bitch at school ***again***”.  I asked for more details.  She said that she was leaning against a locker while talking to a friend.  The boy who owns the locker on which she was leaning walked up and said “move, bitch”.  My daughter said she has had zero previous interaction with this boy.  She said there was no justifiable reason for this comment – I know there’s no justifiable reason to call a girl a “bitch”.  I just wanted to make sure that she didn’t do anything to warrant the nasty response.  

I realize incidents of this type may pale in comparison to other behavioral issues that educators have to deal with on a daily basis.  My daughter has indicated that this type of interaction is very common.  As a parent of girls, this is a huge issue for me.  I will not allow my daughters to be subjected to verbal abuse while at school.  They are already saddled with insecurities.  I don’t expect the school to flip a switch and suddenly correct the decay of our society.  I really need some help because the initial advice I gave to my daughter was anything but constructive.  I know that escalating the situation is the wrong way to handle it.  My logic is that it would guarantee us face time with this student and staff.  

If we simply say ""shake it off, it's not that big of a deal..."" we condition our daughters to put up with behavior like this.  Again, I realize this isn't a massive offense that requires the administrators to drop everything and tend to my child.  I just want my daughter to fully understand this is not the norm and she is worth more than this young man thinks of her.

I have since sent an email to the school counselor which asks this same question I have for you all: How should my daughter handle this?  How should I handle this?

Any advice?    

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parenting,rainafterthedrought,2019/03/14,April Fool's Day My son's birthday is on April 1st and he is turning five this year.  I was thinking of telling him when he wakes up that his birthday is cancelled and he has to wait until next year to have a birthday.  Is that too mean for a five-year-old? ,2.572272727272729,3.4286701818181835,3.0743181818181817,97.51147727272728,74.45454545454545,5.5,26.47727272727273,3.1291,0.2209090909090912,200,7,48,0,4,62,39,55,0.041,0.959,0.0,-0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,0,5,11,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,7,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,8,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20471479946427448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457721485777845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375882785278931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330872882569153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2774460627006274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033950448490422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3452705116269684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6132396730268351
parenting,synysterandfriends,2019/03/14,"Parents of reddit, how do you raise a child that's spoiled but not entitled? Looking back, my mom definitely spoiled me. Of course, I didn't get some things. My mom was poor, but if he could do it, she'd provide it. I definitely don't feel entitled or spoiled. I have a deep appreciation for everything in my life and focus more on others happiness than my self.

 Some of my peers who were also spoiled though.... so parents. What's the difference? Because it seems like going above and beyond for your child's happiness is not.",2.972970297029704,5.429546148514856,4.004445544554454,84.34191584158418,77.61386138613861,7.604356435643562,27.921782178217825,8.548686976883017,2.226987326732674,415,18,81,9,10,134,71,101,0.07400000000000001,0.7020000000000001,0.223,0.9646,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,1,0,14,15,10,0,2,6,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,8,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,3,2,12,3,9,10,3,6,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,5,2,57,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088034692159786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469189961258728,0.0,0.12263500131651656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16062263860858214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101860658182309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808039858836553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172061281451024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510613873813936,0.0,0.11433293729141712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283111122376077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420965339075776,0.09828441494918233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16893714355220904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712297187284669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4467642042183876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831430433436548,0.20987040685662414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13365237231517088,0.0,0.19765436467036154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,displayer,2019/03/14,"Parenting Travel Tip - Fly Southwest The worst thing is sitting next to someone who doesn't want to be by a baby or child.  But with Southwest after your family has been seated first,  who ever chooses to sit next to you will be someone who actually wants to sit next to a baby.  This has been helpful every flight because these lovely strangers have offered to help keep the kid occupied every time. ",8.123918918918918,7.946808824324329,7.730405405405405,72.58993243243245,62.10810810810811,9.562162162162162,36.06756756756757,8.841846274778883,3.2448216216216217,319,13,52,4,4,101,54,74,0.066,0.8190000000000001,0.115,0.6096,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,0,1,8,14,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,2,1,10,9,1,11,0,0,0,1,12,0,0,1,7,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.1897365955618132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185233245678134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17587395843674766,0.32763298329120183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832922299110031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538289756934252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606459832927329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728191941329544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548155617275904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6203386789082369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158926008619254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294814873749448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917130780864408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133742716482352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293608664332198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tmntnyc,2019/03/14,"Need advice buying prescription for daughter through a Canadian pharmacy My daughter has a markedly delayed development (she's 12 but looks 7) and the endocrinologists determined they need to delay her puberty in order to buy time for other hormones to work. The drug in question (Lupron Depot) was not approved by my insurance so the out of pocket cost is $10,000 every 3 months. I heard I can it buy from Canadian pharmacies for 1/10 of that price but I'd prefer to fly there in person to buy it from a reputable source as opposed to through an online pharmacy (who knows if the drugs are fraudulent or manufactured ilicitly from a third world country?). Does anyone have any experience buying meds for their children that they have a prescription for but insurance won't cover? My daughter needs this but $40,000 per year out of pocket is beyond unreasonable. 
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parenting,miammi5,2019/03/14,"How to make preschool parking lot safer? 
My daughter's preschool is great, but the parking lot is dangerous because some parents pay more attention to their cell phones and/or getting to their next destination than they do to the pedestrians on the lot. We always keep our daughter very close to us and we are vigilant. However, we have near-misses once every few months. Yesterday, as I was opening the car door for my daughter after pick-up, a woman parked in front of our car decided to jump the grassy median and pass by where we were standing at a high rate of speed. The driver was on her phone.

I sent an email to the principal, but I want to be proactive and offer solutions, such as more speed bumps, signage, and maybe more staff members patrolling the lot. I am posting on Reddit to get more ideas to bring to the school to help prevent a tragedy. 

I know that every parking lot is a source of danger for children and we have to take measures to keep our children close to us. However, I want to take the initiative to help make our environment a little less dangerous. ",8.57970588235294,7.478800696078429,7.810117647058824,75.40252941176475,61.647058823529406,11.101176470588236,38.537254901960786,10.125756701596842,3.7784290196078434,858,37,158,15,10,267,121,204,0.094,0.799,0.107,-0.4939,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,11,0,3,0,3,4,3,0,16,0,12,0,0,3,0,33,25,10,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,13,0,3,4,0,1,7,0,3,0,0,4,0,23,1,32,20,12,26,0,0,0,0,30,11,0,6,6,106,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547266827517068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459650230466655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338493670097889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500936294764125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300092281169014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603712481681145,0.14662436068449486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666110245423148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24670079763741834,0.0,0.0,0.0762676069017609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908991239131638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5899115496398147,0.0,0.0,0.1852679855269244,0.0,0.13941904715975595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076960165378323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758974705694258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779180737741532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409421709164658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290895372549388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044862257384294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086844161347032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338606481993656,0.0,0.0,0.11450465363773055,0.16370724611860385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,venuskitty7,2019/03/14,"Irrational Fear My daughter will be 5 in May. Since she was younger, she has always hated putting on her shirt/onesie/sweater over her head. She freaks out like she’s gonna be stuck in there forever and starts screaming and crying. This is almost a daily occurrence. Her head is slightly large (like her father’s) but not concerning, so I’m not sure if that’s why shirts become a bit of a struggle? I try and be calm when I help her out on her shirt, but the screaming and crying gets old. It’s the same routine every morning! I would let her put her own shirt but it doesn’t make it any better and just makes us late for school. She’s even scared as she getting it ready, and holds her breath as it covers her head. Today after her crying about the shirt. I ask if her feet cry when I cover them w/ socks or if her butt cries when I put on the pants, which made her laugh and say no. So I asked why she cries in the shirt then, if her head isn’t even covered very long! She just says that she needs a light in there cus it gets dark. Lol 
Im gonna mention this to her dr in May. I was just wondering if anyone has gone through something similar? How do I help her with this? 
I don’t want this to become a phobia. The post seems silly as I read it, but I’m just at a loss on what to do! ",2.2835905457073338,3.3908679708029226,3.1503962460896813,95.71502433090023,75.4963503649635,6.094960027806742,20.711852624261386,6.18269132825596,-0.104095029544665,1000,21,237,6,21,317,148,274,0.188,0.711,0.101,-0.975,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,1,2,15,15,1,3,12,1,19,13,12,4,1,41,39,27,0,8,16,2,0,2,0,6,1,4,0,0,15,10,0,1,2,1,0,4,6,8,0,0,5,5,40,7,25,24,3,28,0,1,0,1,37,13,1,11,12,148,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113937860520213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573260466800141,0.0,0.0,0.06189400232062967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364050471165171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017535092034322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010400465290171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049625728760136,0.09936590106784353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5998608254123429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202304216415312,0.0,0.07668490703536808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241830602098792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426563132381581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985945871265365,0.3736347040063694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201221499228745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831290040793757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267001444976236,0.0,0.0,0.093070028400787,0.0,0.08893164220313343,0.0,0.0,0.08054629751890725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612154161271879,0.1215077759536326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674872121023215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955059833881236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716817061284493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744886619027393,0.0,0.0,0.09104063205937253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475915555068772,0.0911228957084067,0.09211305297114444,0.0,0.08285754975014158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528937725270739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006856485340239,0.0,0.0,0.06442159455678788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514968681234898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578150460092702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627252751940657,0.0,0.0,0.061793890799831226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948104370478956,0.0,0.0,0.07509773348207376,0.05368359602656419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642555700482265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870297150917096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465515632810688,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moonbug444,2019/03/14,"21 month old sleep issues My husband and I are at our wits end with our 21 month old son. He has never been a good sleeper. Ever. As a baby he was up every two hours. Up until about 18 months, he only ever slept for four hours at a time. We thought he was finally over waking up in the middle of the night, but the past week has been brutal and he's up again every three to four hours. When he goes back to sleep after waking up, we're lucky if he stays asleep for longer than an hour at a time. 

We've had his ears checked. They're good. Nothing big has changed in his world - same daycare, same house, and same loving parents who question their sanity. 

This winter has been just awful for sickness and he's caught everything. EVERYTHING. So I thought maybe he's slightly out of routine by not having full weeks at daycare for the past couple of months. We've also been more strict when it comes to putting him in time out when he misbehaves. That's really all I can think of that could be shaking his little world. 

I'm scratching my head here. Please tell me I'm not alone. I feel like he's regressed to an infant. I had to pull out secret mommy tactics that I haven't used since the early days to calm him down at night. If any of you have been through this or understand, it would greatly help my sanity if you shared. ",2.5749636334249217,4.3363634609665445,3.2278099240342684,92.75201713269762,76.10037174721191,5.867851947632133,21.36107968320673,6.498293943080001,0.22307809924034272,1037,26,221,8,23,325,158,269,0.081,0.833,0.086,0.3762,1,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,2,1,0,12,10,1,1,11,1,21,10,8,1,4,36,33,16,0,5,8,3,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,8,10,0,0,7,0,1,5,4,2,0,4,13,3,21,8,41,17,6,64,0,0,0,1,33,24,0,6,35,135,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742379337501556,0.0,0.08294573733242347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053391421755577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975513428605585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972318560374944,0.08934655555132077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082812869605266,0.1147654397509062,0.0,0.06689153784796538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091866120879911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764337138201706,0.17477902387356434,0.0,0.1864356984395286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524445116712564,0.07409838451248503,0.0,0.11362141045685195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739926986907573,0.0,0.11435289427002115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064477864291512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952207631668651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4085776167551276,0.11968023960613597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108257895346312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050672897107927405,0.1039558046671824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361235485997696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420180000292477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33115681431117794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999611726281541,0.0,0.0,0.19467047831534115,0.0,0.09952320618495814,0.0,0.2176757225898745,0.0,0.0,0.07888458099236616,0.0,0.0,0.11517002244744892,0.0,0.19802707906018652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385463622371765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426836745852956,0.11619138528806428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644640151127272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579917726318449,0.0,0.2075920401460825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055290691072192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065682526361143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646030172812517,0.0,0.16468595739120892,0.18144184689832776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132045703742468,0.107977337517481,0.0,0.08958174038408814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639764245899166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368050342818669,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,luciliddream,2019/03/14,"Should I bring the stroller for our day trip? I'm growing concerned cause I have a date with my 4 almost 5 year old daughter today in Downtown Toronto. I think the total walk time will be around 10-12km for the whole day....I'm thinking it's wise to bring a stroller but social anxiety is like ppl are gonna stare me for putting a big kid in a stroller. She's tall as heck too, got a bit more to carry around than other kids her age. 

I don't want her to be planted in the stroller the whole time, just when we have to get from one place to the other. ",5.52697740112994,4.071504466101697,5.48,90.80214689265536,67.89830508474576,8.205649717514126,30.683615819209038,5.46131890053228,1.1518259887005649,429,13,103,1,6,134,84,118,0.033,0.904,0.064,0.5052,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,11,0,9,0,0,1,1,13,18,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,1,1,11,2,17,12,5,23,0,0,1,0,9,8,1,1,10,60,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20367666223187947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15560116391553394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621399238106511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220611483081401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20894879682682035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623535613308258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626859714327357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267831436629968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937142609451627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134350729329641,0.0,0.1378297423732475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125106927314241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044741264513212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20734164550888606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606622213578728,0.0,0.0,0.2372094500025344,0.0,0.19280030999089706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199711455424722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45417977580688396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098353790164716
parenting,Mamapalooza,2019/03/14,"Work + Teenager = Stress I didn't grow up with a lot. My father was a lineman for a telecom company, mom was a SAHM and then a teacher's aide. We were never hungry, and we never went without clothes, but I was the kid no one invited to go places because their parents knew I couldn't afford it. I am desperately trying to avoid that painful class segregation for my daughter.

Fast forward to adulthood. Divorced a narcissist, 50-50 shared custody because the judge thought he was ""reformed."" He does not hold up his end of the financial responsibilities, so I work two jobs to make ends meet, and I'm proud to do it to take care of my child without sponging off of anyone else. Everything I have goes towards my daughter and I have zero resentment. I love her SO MUCH.

Lately, though, she's been making me nuts. Sleeping through three separate alarms. Dragging her tail getting ready. Lollygagging in the bathroom between classes. She got 14 tardies in the last 4 months and a big fat after-school detention. I told her too bad, actions have consequences, and she needed to take the detention with maturity and treat her teachers with respect.

This morning, she did it again. Effed around and made us late. She was late to school; I was late to work. We have a new office manager who has decided I need to go (another conversation) and I had to weasel my way out of a write-up with our superior. It would have been my first write-up ever in my 6 years here and I was not having it.

Then I went to pick her up at noon because it is an early release day. She was late getting to the car to leave school because of god knows what reason, which put me late getting back from lunch! I was so angry with her. She's just doing everything in slow motion. It's making me crazy. I have repeatedly explained the domino effect. I have taken away her iPad. Today, I took away her television privileges (haha, all Shakespeare movies all the time, now, sucka). I have threatened to take away her bike, too, if she continues this behavior.

Today, I finally had to pull her aside and lay a burden on her shoulders that I didn't want her to have to carry; however, at 14 years old, maybe it's time for reality. I said, ""Listen, I am going to get a write-up for this. And that puts my job in danger. Your father has been out of work for a year. Your stepmother has been out of work for three years. I am the only one of your three parents with an income. don't have any idea how they get by and it's not my business and I'm not judging them, but what is going to happen if I also lose *my* job?"" Her face was the textbook definition of the phrase ""it dawned on her."" She was truly sorry.

I swear to god I was not trying to put down either her father or her stepmother. They are broken people who can't be fixed and their issues have nothing to do with me except in how their responsibilities naturally default to me. I don't know if telling her this was the right thing or the wrong thing, but it seems to have been effective. We'll see.

I scrimp and save and have struggled to pay for clothes and field trips and school supplies and such, and it's just awful. I went to college. I work in what used to be a ""good job,"" but our area underpays in this field (I never wanted to stay here, talk to the narcissist) and because I work for the state, I've not had a raise in two years. The raises I have had over the years have been minimal, even as my responsibilities and impact have expanded. I was given a promotion at the local level, but the state vetoed it because they had a temporary ban on all reclassifications. Inflation rises, my pay stays the same. By my estimate, I've lost 15-ish percent of the buying power my income had when I started this job 6 years ago. We don't eat out, we don't take vacations (ha! I've had two vacations in my adult life), I do my own car repairs whenever possible, I never buy anything full price, I haven't bought new underwear in 4 years. I'm down to one bra that doesn't poke my sideboob with wayward underwire and I hand wash it to make it last longer. I make ends meet by doing a weekend publication delivery job, with which my daughter helps every other weekend, so she can have pocket money (she's saving for a car) and learn a strong work ethic.

But I'm getting squeezed to hell and it's stressful and scary to know that my daughter's relatively normal teenage behavior has become a dire threat to my livelihood. This is the edge on which much of America teeters.

This will pass. It will work out. She will get her act together. I might get a raise or that promotion, who knows. And if I lose my job, I can wait tables. It doesn't matter to me. I have 4 years until she turns 18 and goes to college (thank god she has a college fund due to a lawsuit settlement and a generous uncle) and I can leave this town for one that pays better. Somewhere with a rail system so my car troubles don't hurt so much. Somewhere I can get away from people who are all related to each other and/or went to pre-K together. I thought I'd be on better footing by this part of my life, but we're not homeless, no one is sick, and my life is still better than when I was married and being treated like garbage. I'm looking forward to the future. I just wish that the present wasn't so damn stressful.

I just needed to put that down somewhere to look at it and give it less weight in my life. Thanks, Reddit.

TL;DR: Life is hard. I'm whiny. The end.",3.056117317585461,4.852457756232688,4.218187574198655,86.0174344768805,74.85410895660203,7.050374925167168,25.751514413564273,7.84451677740318,1.4223429606404676,4262,150,860,62,91,1392,448,1083,0.125,0.779,0.096,-0.981,16,1,0,0,1,0,153.0,9,3,7,23,29,41,5,6,53,3,97,18,6,13,9,139,167,65,0,13,29,10,4,1,0,6,9,2,0,3,53,56,4,5,15,3,9,27,28,20,0,13,49,9,134,21,129,107,16,140,1,4,3,1,86,50,2,10,62,584,187,32,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03984479843316892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035945899337771765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030567031675203374,0.047133208284497914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03142956103031984,0.046055818933239484,0.03698940318841069,0.04001436268678693,0.0,0.0,0.16892520171181066,0.034563199037310546,0.03753074658660283,0.16440387518902908,0.0496429156285842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119261877758323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045828756534875566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028988547975590823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03933539196837657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04599430479358839,0.03754933098142936,0.0,0.15924677698464532,0.0,0.0,0.029688555989655332,0.04065917041683517,0.0378716821416288,0.0,0.08079497590353943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049239706755866336,0.0,0.03823380946258892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21135715329068835,0.0431194168428721,0.10218277952550384,0.03770129866698045,0.03595002176966164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039748473717599084,0.0,0.04026569946237837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030128535080917618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811910225936083,0.050742232506068255,0.0,0.04691533927827781,0.31223636695542817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881173007118814,0.07327927681154345,0.30422827409241104,0.0951895321147518,0.0,0.0,0.15874492446791044,0.02195993329102407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549209922449726,0.1005734273404984,0.049067416643575834,0.03821424532434086,0.04056845345870631,0.04253206759447027,0.15001986852933966,0.0,0.04515756365765156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768405144651714,0.0,0.0526440188577999,0.035878062860963955,0.0,0.09912861300303884,0.09998789895585364,0.1386705318932744,0.08682453234441959,0.0,0.0,0.04404072180244134,0.043130018085912936,0.0,0.04716667705980922,0.0,0.15229387697207336,0.03418593045100909,0.04782917162677956,0.0,0.09982164645865724,0.04867565795488155,0.0,0.062324301234381374,0.0,0.046962399750333415,0.0,0.0,0.05067352612299207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074564703702975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04621531574020719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03838641427789096,0.042757030443957095,0.0,0.0,0.18196416468806664,0.03581873300222571,0.040920109425500006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0449817122518774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05031700581911308,0.03181531081450368,0.09581984056358386,0.03589652946531763,0.0,0.15446764353673334,0.04699071608929303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518496931290036,0.036128504856950745,0.03928762610364908,0.08276646136722568,0.0,0.0,0.05972456938866241,0.0,0.04416241033825266,0.07136936793995949,0.05242053880862664,0.0,0.08521326727990881,0.04295093505397112,0.04994027113711448,0.061035181005993276,0.04889187697737432,0.13172665889729634,0.0,0.05406841382502122,0.03882172039105017,0.0,0.0,0.05302446500978242,0.03567862278449741,0.0,0.05473607763829295,0.0,0.1666736219434774,0.0,0.0,0.05168941969374018,0.08665894681433123,0.0,0.2945123069748659,0.0,0.0,0.03193065785612882,0.04914494910544052,0.0,0.2605125920831585
parenting,Tom685,2019/03/14,"Is it wrong to let your 16 month old lick and suck giant lolly My friend brought be back a large penis shaped lolly from holiday, whilst I was eating it my 16 month old was next to me, he wanted to have some and I let him, I also took a picture because I found it very funny.

I showed my friend the picture and he said it's wrong to let my child eat the lolly and worse to take a photo. (Because it was penis shaped)

I think he is being stupid but thought it ask you guys.

Thanks.",2.076470588235296,3.2651418921568687,3.264852941176472,94.36433823529413,76.15686274509805,5.492156862745098,19.612745098039216,5.148860815047168,-0.38839607843137225,371,7,85,1,8,120,61,102,0.099,0.7859999999999999,0.115,0.4012,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,2,7,2,0,5,0,11,2,0,0,0,10,22,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,6,4,2,0,3,2,0,2,0,4,0,0,8,2,14,3,6,9,1,12,0,0,0,0,12,3,1,1,7,50,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244586532350582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454946763253032,0.0,0.0,0.11967120820256512,0.0,0.1897433390141978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185002649288363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064217950941524,0.2404814060226021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540998996361827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774320223648979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24844755405333166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655161303832084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32661868043837144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480414323586974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701570643849975,0.0,0.0,0.14328480445017194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972254045470663,0.0,0.12355422426044267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291259927909788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841249178152325,0.09179563768338414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860204795308067,0.0,0.3403177715206811,0.0,0.0
parenting,nopebblenowind,2019/03/14,"Child not Speaking A few words here and there, but no combinations, being raised bilingual, 29 months.

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Just realized last night how much he understands. Feel so terrible for not fully realizing it sooner.

He was running around saying ""guck"" and I thought he was trying to say duck... my wife did not agree.

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so we go pull some rubber duckies out from storage (why we had them, no clue) my wife grabbed 5.

He immediately said ""guck"" again! So we were playing with them and started singing ""5 Little Ducks""

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As we sang the song, he took one away with each verse in perfect timing. It just happend so naturally, we were amazed.

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Sure I know I sound ignorant, and I am sure there will be those who will point that out to me. But wow, I could not be happier.",3.4380365296803634,6.1286372328767165,3.5621643835616434,86.8597762557078,77.35616438356166,6.359086757990867,26.85662100456621,7.554174236665415,1.5680297716894973,620,25,116,9,15,190,104,146,0.117,0.747,0.136,0.6453,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,5,0,2,1,12,8,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,1,3,37,21,12,0,1,8,2,2,0,0,2,0,7,0,1,5,15,0,1,6,4,0,4,6,2,0,1,9,9,15,6,12,6,4,17,0,0,0,0,20,7,0,1,6,75,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4663807303432782,0.5230307833888447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579554419799806,0.0,0.0,0.10110295741435744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859176758232097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441075250689077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06115713405790407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913953652972221,0.08771635644362705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078532982603942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589312251300547,0.0,0.07910559101448619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098451561919483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291919122520556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172605162697293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236157031239562,0.17115127777264116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761667763437909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20284194206379652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854301678423728,0.06274814473032775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955845675770793,0.07305999630006768,0.0,0.0,0.11202560574582847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710111456537153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5230307833888447,0.0
parenting,RozovyiSnegurochka,2019/03/14,"Co-sleeping, Am I doing this right? I'm a single mom and I share a bedroom with my five year old daughter, she's been sleeping next to me or in the bed with me since she was born and last year I bought her a bed of her own but I haven't forced her to sleep in it, just given her the choice to either sleep next to me or in her own bed.

Most nights she falls asleep in her own bed and I wake up with her having crawled in next to me at some point. Should I be pushing for her to sleep in her own bed or is it okay for her to want to sleep next to me? Is there an age where she really needs to sleep on her own?",2.0825819344524383,1.9957790647482057,3.2520383693045574,99.25529176658677,74.89928057553956,6.465547561950443,19.760991207034373,5.033348758259628,-0.6048471622701839,466,6,128,1,9,151,73,139,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.7998,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,1,10,8,8,0,0,17,15,7,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,0,27,2,25,9,9,25,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,5,11,91,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322073219074407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13394002225235882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479837280463366,0.0,0.0,0.4865034260818602,0.1073214947317038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200042457249566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810956359814496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326357022846805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766498253974397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946018731789362,0.0,0.8011159044236038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745398791184243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729144982849507
parenting,relaxlifeisgood,2019/03/14,"Spoiled baby I’m attempting to help my sister break her baby (8m) of being so spoiled and overly attached that my sister can’t use the bathroom without her baby screaming the whole time. She overcompensated with a lot too much love, we’ll call it, because of issues in her own life in the past. 

Now her daughter is glued to her. It doesn’t matter who is holding her, if it’s not my sister she’s screaming until snot is running down her face. She’s still waking up every two hours. She won’t pick up puffs or Cheerios. She just wants her momma 24/7. If she even leaves her sight she’s screaming until she’s bright red and snotty. She won’t sooth herself, she has to be rocked to sleep.

I have a 10 month old and i don’t want to “my baby this, i did it this way that” her because there is nothing more annoying that a baby comparing mom. 

My sister has to make a change because she’s pregnant (aside from holy crap how does she live that way?) and this baby will have a meltdown splitting attention and I’m worried my sister will too. ",2.3531729323308284,4.313674066666668,3.4424310776942377,90.068007518797,77.38095238095238,5.3734335839599,23.43358395989975,6.05967700443912,0.4702380952380954,814,26,165,5,19,262,119,210,0.024,0.871,0.105,0.925,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,9,7,2,0,8,0,19,6,4,4,0,22,26,12,0,4,6,8,0,0,0,5,1,3,0,0,12,6,0,1,1,1,0,1,7,5,0,1,1,6,33,2,19,18,5,19,0,0,3,1,36,6,1,4,9,114,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306521010296837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846226515140811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126826654036203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822412925748106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942034095279055,0.0,0.15233644894635126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119012905258728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780570170149962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887139884634324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914469397609162,0.0,0.0,0.1277082860553295,0.0,0.0,0.15965458695178553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371438770806134,0.16318404120612015,0.0,0.12068908879036755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21175724017409794,0.14431724133281795,0.0,0.13291286118378345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734877730972978,0.0,0.18972497881187692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17259932771492004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809360959027862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439152208223954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542915289710353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766207212813844,0.0,0.0,0.15615791778786794,0.0,0.0,0.21328756078651712,0.28703001244892457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20186290649805294,0.0,0.17429006952684264,0.0,0.0,0.18361678239208784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,owlz725,2019/03/14,"Leaving son overnight for the first time My son is 17 months old and I will be leaving him next week from Mon to Fri for the first time overnight. I work fulltime and he goes to daycare so he's been away from me plenty, but not overnight. I've been delaying and delaying this experience for as long as possible. Fortunately I recently weaned him so it is possible to leave him, although we do cosleep so it will be the first time he hasn't slept with me at night. I'm not sure what my husband will do, in terms of cosleeping with him or not. If I ask him, he will say that he will put our son in the crib but I doubt that will work. Anyway, I'm just nervous. I'm nervous that my son will feel like I abandoned him and also worried about how my husband will deal. He has never dealt with our son overnight for the most part. He does more or less sleep through the night, but idk if he will do that for my husband. He may wake up looking for me and freak out. Or maybe not, maybe it will be great, idk. Just worried and need reassurance. ",2.7017481358740696,4.142556788732397,3.2016349074841237,94.42468931234468,75.0093896713615,6.514112123722729,26.144435238884288,7.048011613610866,0.8570537972935659,808,29,186,8,17,251,106,213,0.127,0.82,0.053,-0.9152,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,0,5,9,9,0,3,6,0,23,3,3,1,2,36,31,22,0,3,14,8,1,1,0,11,0,1,0,0,9,11,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,5,0,3,3,3,23,4,25,14,5,25,0,1,1,0,30,6,0,8,19,121,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520617516723198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298814108545908,0.0,0.12360223759082617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562960611653593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512651551183264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868809964929376,0.0,0.0,0.06651922882225507,0.0939844273056104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357072375211059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504218073602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178999596997795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06427215985798232,0.0,0.0,0.11642390451486365,0.11047484081736217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264333603544043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500763190101106,0.0,0.0,0.09754793180817113,0.10146495523598584,0.0,0.1399124814022425,0.24691487592005254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804705905900844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246353246197513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966217545729811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225123416867046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989677721709694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461949600805318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165212126214093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239910214179036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23013603038995165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552718007554558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155028916806394,0.267205266927339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Steve-h1,2019/03/14,"What to Expect? Hello Beautiful parents!

I have became a dad three months ago and i'm very happy and over the roof!

I handling a mentally demanding job (Sales people will understand) but had my own way of clearing my mind. 

Before the baby, my wife and I used to watch some movies, TV shows, and i play video games and read as ""Me time"". However, now things has changed and we are trying to give the best attention to our kid. When reach back home, no matter how tired I am, i try my best to take shifts and help my wife with the kid. This resulted that I'm not doing anything for myself at all, frankly speaking, i miss old life, and started to get drained.

what is your advise guys, is there anything i should do to adapt?

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parenting,Aoiumi1234,2019/03/14,"Advice for the working parent I’m recently back in the working world as a contractor (after being a stay at home mom) and I have a dilemma.  I was ill and was able to work from home for two days—my boss encouraged me to stay home if I wasn’t feeling 100 percent. Well, my parents watch my child and while I am better today, my mom still isn’t. I can tell that she isn’t really up for it today. Should I be honest with my boss and ask to work from home again? Or offer to take a day unpaid? 

I’m not sure what to do. I have no back up babysitter. When I was hired, my boss said I wouldn’t have to worry about having to miss work because of my child. My husband can’t take time off work.",1.5399099099099125,2.776993081081084,3.3321621621621595,93.13963963963964,77.64864864864866,6.014414414414415,20.44144144144144,6.42735559955562,0.04409279279279277,528,12,123,4,12,177,88,148,0.095,0.818,0.087,0.1275,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,7,7,6,0,0,6,0,18,1,0,3,1,15,26,9,0,3,3,5,1,0,0,2,1,1,4,2,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,1,1,1,5,3,18,5,22,17,1,20,0,1,1,0,13,6,0,2,12,83,21,10,0.118904220264293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619182789653662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111593950572365,0.0,0.0,0.1828600117274843,0.0,0.07248290904404132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516112017479937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668338536975529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601215464376995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4770825111304604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785183713847645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640581304754596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761730882178754,0.0,0.11740357279897355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310514226380447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253472156183637,0.09495706389790726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206582042545044,0.0,0.17880235165190952,0.0,0.10392752942664688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933400703851916,0.0,0.2254145954100009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615214573926705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690917384038852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193821309690031,0.12075300742659215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xanaxnation,2019/03/14,"My PSA about mental health and children My PSA: talk to you kids about mental health and suicide. My 10yo son is in the hospital for suicidal thoughts, he didn’t act on them, thankfully. Because we’re so open about mental health, suicide and self harm, he felt like he could come to me when he was in crisis. 

When you sweep topics under the rug, they may not feel like they can come to you when they need it the most.

Lastly, hug your babies for me tonight. It’s breaking my heart to not have him at home, but I know he’s in the safest possible place.",3.0250450450450472,4.631000153153156,3.2524324324324314,93.71126126126127,74.4954954954955,6.374774774774775,22.243243243243235,6.937597516519254,0.4005567567567572,431,11,94,4,9,132,73,111,0.109,0.799,0.093,-0.4425,0,0,0,0,0,2,14.0,0,4,4,0,7,5,0,0,4,0,7,5,1,0,0,17,15,8,3,2,3,1,2,2,0,1,3,0,3,3,2,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,4,2,16,4,15,9,1,17,0,0,0,1,19,8,0,2,7,55,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968574168138317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534694929449343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174669573921333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074390577784627,0.10510578630885292,0.14126261116914993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4691594539361635,0.0,0.1743432642849798,0.0,0.0,0.14757788911298378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085578841799572,0.11992612004727045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437552176101468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4448007355658904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909096718928613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537138092847334,0.0,0.0,0.16586079015690122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534829607685173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4827910360038794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825311600019894,0.0,0.1354524909865116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680043471604125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlessiosMama,2019/03/14,"Help. Send help...idk how much longer I can keep this up I have an almost 8 month old son, my son decided about a month and a half, 2 months ago that he would prefer to not sleep from midnight until 4-5 am...then wakes up again at 7...hence the reason I’m awake and posting to strangers on Reddit seeking help at 4:30 am.

Why? Why is this going on? My son used to sleep through the night with just a few sleepy feedings (I’m still nursing) but what in the fresh hell is this??!! I’m exhausted! I’m barely functioning, I got diagnosed today with a peptic ulcer, I’m stressed out to the point that I feel nauseous everyday. I’m managing about 4 hours of sleep (on a good night) for the past almost 2 months. 

My husband works on the road, he’s of absolutely no help. I live 1000 miles away from my family, I have no one to watch my son so I can catch up on sleep, I feel like I’m losing my mind. I can’t just let him cry, it makes me feel like an awful mother, I don’t want him to think I’m abandoning him or something. I’ve taken him to the dr 4 times this month thinking maybe it’s an ear infection or somethings wrong with him. Nope, healthy happy insomniac baby. 

What do I do? Good lord I need some advice I’m at a complete loss here and I’m physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. Any insight? TYIA",1.3247398190045243,3.2475045735294152,3.066470588235294,91.71065610859728,80.47058823529412,6.3904977375565615,21.490950226244344,7.468242284971852,0.6427721719457016,1012,30,227,15,26,336,156,272,0.18600000000000005,0.7240000000000001,0.09,-0.9854,0,0,2,0,0,0,46.0,0,0,0,3,9,13,1,1,16,1,13,13,6,4,0,35,36,10,0,4,6,6,3,2,0,1,6,1,0,0,10,8,1,2,9,0,0,3,6,8,0,2,2,5,24,5,33,32,3,38,2,3,1,0,17,17,1,5,19,119,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079230969833368,0.091432009089142,0.0,0.206570065738762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014228275349342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690832420827382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814579481902976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330017462987807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469022136865196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602448316980485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09723612839378126,0.0,0.15645995861655562,0.14737392347235348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058619802293642914,0.1730266241990704,0.08249465040491452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097999986458131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765442518657919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157725910684527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168020574456984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054729699680092,0.0,0.10078308332414257,0.0,0.0910791139729811,0.0,0.0,0.11539311132601544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885023150980749,0.0,0.10362323146684148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394611604463223,0.0,0.10414726309124482,0.0,0.41164763013002,0.0,0.07582360058272941,0.07648086948722403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935895928253172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823355156057488,0.0,0.06989386665808688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846377821486894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750556703393093,0.0,0.09878460337009153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605045915600897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41287881833380174,0.0,0.0,0.15881245044128353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237190141259162,0.0,0.11815249453884365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218257705982694,0.0,0.0,0.06014480395536642,0.0,0.09776960274400943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908434805120752,0.0,0.0,0.060837719819978764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861450254658817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509094449542991,0.0,0.0,0.073271400888642,0.11277309987728527,0.0,0.0
parenting,chacerehberg,2019/03/14,"Waking up early. So, I’m a 23 year old husband and father of two. I work full time and I’m also in school. I decided, a couple of years ago, that if I ever wanted time for myself, I was going to have to train my body to wake up early. Really early. So, now, I wake up every morning at 3:00. I do school work, read, or whatever I feel like.

I’m curious if any of you have done the same thing?",-0.008139534883721211,1.4794065000000032,3.4211046511627927,89.68188953488372,82.83720930232559,6.16046511627907,16.563953488372093,7.1686216300943375,-0.009111627906976505,293,5,68,4,8,108,58,86,0.0,0.938,0.062,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,2,5,1,0,0,3,0,5,4,4,0,1,10,11,8,0,3,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,10,1,12,9,2,18,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,3,12,45,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19011500726712954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17151184552448687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458471789940911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23822818790712744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23730734100561066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21947761023822213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940006922669556,0.18070050316983252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844264302960856,0.15321764670300314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188843108750065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047793699900688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505053368590508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145283688541312,0.0,0.13739518531236938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341108482460156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248455745605704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501187484550739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095063487859341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265001574493936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122739093379413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762237218443674
parenting,sunifunih,2019/03/14,"Pregnant parents and young „fresh“ mother’s over 40 y/o. What’s your story? There is a magical fertility line at the age of 40 y/o. Why are you an „old“ mother? Why are you „old“ parents? Is there a moment in life were you thought: give nature a last try? 
For sure, there is a story ... ",-0.8184322033898291,1.3149616271186453,1.8862500000000004,94.67479872881357,93.74576271186442,4.305932203389832,17.54449152542373,5.985473137389443,-0.32732372881355953,212,6,48,2,8,73,40,59,0.0,0.94,0.06,0.504,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,1,3,8,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,5,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,4,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23505148671233544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19972908055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306927243561665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5142276207764365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5441452627172794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309343218753925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945234568122441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635672612982896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421961221106081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ls_That_True,2019/03/14,"Pros and cons with a self concerned child How will it affect its youth, future, its attitude against others, Its mental health and so on? Couldnt find anything online about it, oh please mention if you had seen, heard or something you have experienced

Thank you in advance
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parenting,potheadbarista,2019/03/14,"My son’s (7) classmate kicked him on his privates, as a punishment, he wasn’t allowed to go out of recess. This happened last week and no one told me about it. Tonight at bedtime my son randomly told me that some little girl  kicked him on his privates. He said that they were standing in line to get in the classroom and the little girl kept trying to talk to him(they get in trouble for talking in line), my son told her to shut up and the girl kicked him on his balls. After my son was kicked, his friend went and got the teacher while another student started kicking the girl that kicked my son. The girl’s punishment was to stay inside during recess. I’m beyond furious, firstly because no one told me about it even tho we have an app to directly chat with the teachers, I see the teachers everyday during pick up and drop off and I also think the girl’s punishment isn’t enough, growing up one of my friends got kicked in the balls and he started bleeding from his penis. My SO is working in the middle of nowhere and I can’t contact him rn i have really bad anxiety and idk what I should say to the principal. Another important thing, is that my son’s teacher is out for the week and they have a substitute, the incident happened when my son’s regular teacher was still in. What should I say or do? I’m I overreacting?? 

TL;DR: son got kicked on the balls, teacher punished the kicker by making them stay in during recess. No one informed me about it, until my son told me today, I want to meet up with the principal tomorrow. Idk what to say and would like some advice. ",4.170869565217391,5.530473183279746,4.860327135467635,84.30014539354119,71.18649517684888,7.852425555710893,29.920452956801338,8.321376580360154,2.1504006990074096,1244,51,242,19,23,400,144,311,0.115,0.843,0.042,-0.9691,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,3,2,10,10,5,0,20,0,17,1,0,3,0,30,41,19,0,4,1,9,0,1,2,3,1,4,0,6,12,16,0,1,2,4,0,3,6,7,0,5,16,5,37,3,46,22,3,47,0,0,1,0,49,25,0,4,16,162,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075584890036725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802241458203855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308346084884367,0.08420274684122861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190330459051926,0.06709725043924622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373105568053332,0.0,0.07269976358381185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936249277266042,0.0,0.0,0.17007860417880832,0.0,0.11501337852826007,0.0,0.06255494471025587,0.0,0.2640975281247721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19466791467349906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972120607092153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053774321631877495,0.22063679776458486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347214178256263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983433442836273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07051324021473923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104701151713294,0.2625946804837275,0.0,0.0,0.08771101639435848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581529632938956,0.23463855089612135,0.08790152025303083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769391386130134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312518123504617,0.07052799119158164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043328679847568,0.525879875264962,0.0,0.07472985939391907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492175085431022,0.0,0.17658197685673935,0.0,0.0,0.10203538457015668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013179330804249,0.0,0.0,0.07819010389137822,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tickytickytembo,2019/03/14,"My 3rd grade son is having a rough time and I’m over it. There is way too much context to explain it all: here is the gist.

My son is a 3rd grader. He does well in school with no academic issues. In class, he usually does fine.

However, he hates the lunch/recess teacher and is kind of a jerk to her. She returns the favor and sends him to the office at least every other day.

He is on an IEP for behavior, which I think is not helping and really not needed. 

Recently, the principal decided that she had had enough with him. His main problem is complaining about other kids not being fair and back talking the recess teacher when she tries “to help”.

The principal has made the decision that he gets NO recess, as in all three recesses each day, for the rest of the school year. Instead, he has to go to the first grade room and listen to kids read to him. 

This is a disaster. He gets no brain break, no social time with friends, and no time to use up some excess energy.

I don’t have a great relationship with the principal because I hated his teacher last year, and bitched about her, a lot.

I guess I learned my lesson. I get that my son is difficult, but that is why I agreed to an IEP.

I decided if he wasn’t going to get recess, that I would take him to lunch/recess myself every day- but this really isn’t sustainable. I’m grasping at straws. Because I see patients on the hour, and his lunch and recess spans between two different hours, that means I have to give up 2 billable patient hours a day, meaning 8 per week, costing me about $1000 in revenue that I have to make up somewhere else.

I’m angry at him, I’m angry at myself for not just putting my head down so they wouldn’t take it out on us, I’m angry at the recess teacher for picking on him, and I’m angry at the principal for thinking this is a good idea. He already hates school, he is already sad, and this is just going to make it worse.

I adopted him from foster care at age 4. He is now 9. He has a trauma history but is doing better every year.

I just feel like maybe I’m worrying too much or being dramatic. But I am just over this. I feel so powerless and feel like this is so unfair. So sad.

Opinions? How would you handle? I’m I just in denial that is could possibly be a good idea? 

I am a marriage and family therapist and usually the one giving out advice, but we are all human. 
Anyone have a similar experience? I am not one of those parents that believe my son can do no wrong, but this just seems a mess. 

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parenting,JonMagnusson,2019/03/14,"What are your favorite kids songs? I'm putting together this playlist for my one year old and I'd love some more suggestions

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parenting,FlamingWarPig,2019/03/14,"7yo son has started telling people he's gay.. ..because he kissed his friend. I'm sure he has no idea what it really means to be gay. Idc if he is gay or not but he's the kind of kid that will repeat it because it gets a rise out of people. Yesterday he took it a step further and told a kid he was gay and going to rape him... Again, he has no idea what that really means, but said it to get a rise. I was more than upset and may not have handled it well,  I'm a single dad and at a terrible loss with how to proceed. Any constructive advice is welcome.",0.13349999999999795,1.9179440166666664,2.4700000000000024,95.165,83.83333333333334,5.666666666666668,19.166666666666664,6.816661863887847,0.0399166666666666,422,11,101,5,12,144,73,120,0.166,0.742,0.092,-0.913,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,3,10,1,1,7,0,11,6,0,1,1,19,22,9,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,10,6,0,0,4,0,0,5,4,4,1,0,5,1,3,6,10,14,2,13,0,1,0,6,19,3,0,3,5,58,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381005527717465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487417580179256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418055875837513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323264571071676,0.0,0.2072430494018524,0.0,0.112717995617634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4477907348230173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20653473047429455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4320885549815252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27500016523452314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25411615782971225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886614082171097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038209105743962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869278007286249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17335298521109688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951699422028134,0.22035678768247785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783264216317608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Weaversag2,2019/03/14,"What would you do? Got a 9yo stepson that comes over every weekend. Had him fully from October to December because his mom got evicted. When he brought his clothes none were clean. Just dirty laundry that had sat for months. I began to notice that he did not have winter clothes so we bought him several outfits, socks, pj's, ect. Enough so he was well stocked. When he moved back with his mom we sent most of the clothes so he'd be able to have them to wear to school. The things we left here have dwindled over the weekends, and now he has no clothes here. Not a sock. His dad asks what happened to his clothes and he says he doesn't know. Just for context, bf pays 265 a month in child support. Bf and stepsons mom do not communicate at all. Should we keep buying clothes and letti g them disappear? Should we make him change clothes before he leaves? I'm at a loss. ",1.3135520487264642,3.866903273255815,1.5310299003322283,98.67399224806204,86.0348837209302,4.438981173864893,23.306755260243634,5.916634753146586,0.22281971207087506,681,26,147,5,21,203,111,172,0.07,0.9,0.029,-0.7214,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,1,2,1,12,3,0,0,7,0,17,1,1,1,1,24,32,9,0,3,5,4,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,1,6,11,0,1,1,2,3,5,6,1,1,0,12,1,18,2,16,15,4,21,0,1,0,0,35,6,0,1,10,87,24,3,0.1629218450585658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523099322973107,0.0,0.0,0.1252768422847109,0.0,0.0993156445618077,0.0,0.13863449038394632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723497094062351,0.14034274343190384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834181769988338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726868122340075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606069653742485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407124952763367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481242169465405,0.0,0.0,0.08953758526984783,0.0,0.0,0.1725107098596725,0.1770150613590167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10875159668545288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5724362875579868,0.2600853247213582,0.17316013771062558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548760043789556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295619903946113,0.0,0.16488560518145468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840553110567041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488177906124728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082380345023748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648630483466227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573500427351008,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JeannBD,2019/03/15,"Is it ok for children to play truth or dare alone? Recently I went camping with a friend, she has a son I have a daughter. She envited another friend and her 2 children, older girl and younger boy. Children range 8 to 11. At the end of the night the kids were in the tent and a bunch of yelling and commotion started up. Suddenly the kids were outside and the youngest boy was standing nervously in front of us. 

We come to find out he's been dared to do something he appears to be uncomfortable  with, as he is reluctant to do and is being nagged on by the other kids. I ask my daughter "" do you think the dare is appropriate"" my daughter stops and tells us what the dare is and blames it on the oldest girl.

The boy was dared to ask one of the moms on a date.

I have to admit it wasn't the worst thing, but it did make me feel uncomfortable. 

I right away put a stop to the game and asked them to try and play something else.

It seemed to upset my friends, friend and she took her kids and left without saying a word. Never even said by to me, very clearly upset with me... at least I dont know for sure.

I was surprised, but in my head I was really just trying to protect the kids from daring really inappropriate things. 

I was doing that alot this night, kinda parenting all the kids. It's hard because I only have one child and want to make sure shes safe when shes with the other children. So I set expectations for all the kids. Teacher style. Especially because I dont know this friend and her child... and we were out in the woods. They kept telling me the oldest would watch out for the rest, but I dont know this friend and her children. So that was hard for me to accept. Plus she kept talking about how her son kept getting in trouble at school, blaming it on the teacher and talking about it in front of her son like he wasn't standing and listening to us. 

Well anyways I was raised by a mother with schizophrenia and a father who needed to go to anger managment. I'm not sure they raised me well enough to know the best parenting moves. 

I also got in alot of trouble playing truth or dare as a child. So uIm biased.

It's hard to say for sure what happened with her friend, there so much that is said and done over the course of an evening to remember and right it all down. And she never shared with us, why she was angry.

Is it safe for kids to play truth or dare without supervision?

Could I have approached that situation differently and how?







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parenting,QuanTheMagicRon,2019/03/15,"Will my wifes parents and grandparents harm our children? Her parents and grandparents blatantly blow off anything we try to get our children to get used to. Example when we were trying get our oldest off the pacifier that refused to not let her have one when they babysat. It took almost a year because of them.
 They also treat my wife terribly I'm front of our children saying things like ""your not a good mom"" "" act like you actually want them"" things like that. It makes me upset that my wife thinks this behavior is acceptable. She doesn't think it's a big deal. Our children lack discipline and respect for my wife and I worry that they will be negativity impacted by this environment unless my wife outs her foot down. My question, is this really not healthy for children? Or am I just being unreasonable ",4.337142857142858,6.917070866666666,4.793904761904766,79.77600000000002,73.66666666666666,8.285714285714286,29.380952380952376,9.04235418022936,2.7872952380952394,650,28,114,15,14,206,96,150,0.152,0.747,0.1,-0.8690000000000001,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,7,2,5,0,4,10,0,1,4,0,11,1,1,2,1,25,21,9,0,2,6,8,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,5,12,7,0,2,4,0,0,3,5,3,0,1,2,1,27,7,14,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,35,5,0,3,7,83,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.17939037102987535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840779685114776,0.0,0.0,0.14700780843437086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127542218173542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206031765752633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18951939961998607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881288498791485,0.0,0.0,0.15418685842528232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797738167094016,0.0,0.2694283681270566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270713767306607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21529804461814286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456713841688533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4082402096079379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593030406970603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776542325947965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461880236897216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442553453180074,0.2355801182593032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424053780095414,0.2496153486875706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876904290841395,0.0,0.0,0.10842697690278877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866870486959016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837970684108876
parenting,victory52088,2019/03/15,Good Job everyone! I just wanted to say good job to all of you parents. Parenting is hard and I am sure you are all trying to do the best for your kids. Even though sometimes you feel like your failing. Keep it up! You are doing great!,0.4287500000000009,2.7952210416666716,1.788333333333334,96.49000000000002,88.58333333333334,4.866666666666667,18.416666666666664,6.42735559955562,-0.10510833333333293,182,5,40,2,6,58,37,48,0.075,0.608,0.317,0.944,4,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,6,0,2,3,7,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,3,8,9,2,0,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,8,6,6,9,3,1,0,1,0,0,10,1,0,0,1,29,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22262468281905734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401144809481843,0.0,0.0,0.20270598453570002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072628359672982,0.15155070778856314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558608842839691,0.0,0.23388177999174084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19003307476970446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210264578941312,0.18855710350138205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363941768675798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4711060445587638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869984872011606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20980890708657776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999366022012081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084235152467864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402709093047586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512389277184033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Danibanz,2019/03/15,"3 year old son has said he is ""kicked"" by a member of staff at nursery. Hi all.

Firstly, names have been changed

My husband and I collected our 3 year old boy,. Bob, from nursery today, and as we were getting feedback from his keyworker, he said ""Mary kicked Bob (he refers to himself in the third person)"". Key worker looked shocked, and hubby and I left. On reflection, I should have asked to speak to the manager then.

In the car on the way home, he intimated that Mary kicked him on the leg because he was crying. I asked which room (as the rooms are named after colours), and he told me the white room. There's no white room (but I think the hallway may be white). I changed the topic because I didn't want him to dwell on it, or pick up how angry I was getting. 

Getting Bob ready for his  bath, he's sitting on the toilet seat and I'm sitting on the floor, and he volunteers: ""Bob kick mummy like Mary"" so I told him to go ahead. So he got down and kicked me on my knee and said ""stop crying"", and said it happened when he was putting on his slippers (so in the morning after drop off, when he did have a little cry). However, shoes are changed in the hallway. 

I'm planning to speak to the manager on Monday, and I really don't feel comfortable with the setting anymore. My husband isn't really keen on it, as he realises that its a really significant thing and may wreck the relationship with the nursery, opening a can of worms. He also feels like me acting on something without context from our son might lead to something relatively minor being blown out of proportion. I'm concerned because 1- our 3 year old hasn't figured out lying yet, so i beleive him, 2- this isn't the first time he's mentioned not liking Mary, saying she's scary or tells him off for crying, and he likes absolutely everyone, 3- whatever it was that happened stuck with him enough to raise it more than once in the evening.

I plan to speak to the manager about what he's said, and my feelings... I really don't feel comfortable or safe with him there. Also, I'm very mindful that what he's said may be dismissed as he's 3. There's no bruise or mark. Has anyone been through something similar with a nursery? ",4.647087680178384,5.4518378960739025,5.194304372063392,84.41579676674367,69.57736720554273,8.189503862387514,30.404475591303658,8.326086129247049,2.087912383531098,1711,67,346,24,29,549,205,433,0.094,0.861,0.046,-0.957,1,0,3,0,0,0,69.0,4,0,0,7,15,10,0,1,25,0,31,3,3,3,1,53,60,33,0,2,7,4,4,4,0,5,0,10,6,2,15,23,0,2,8,1,0,5,10,2,0,3,19,19,36,8,59,33,3,60,0,0,5,0,60,31,0,8,23,209,51,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13557638578961162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406615292373068,0.05927110421420503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849152995862198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15501965188358433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690169516824125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724505712007077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758703992852161,0.0,0.05598784832962126,0.0,0.0,0.08099856517962851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144310426451914,0.060557609638154826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420564785979798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286188170668414,0.0,0.04817507766263925,0.0,0.06779596713924803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991847489047982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502827973586287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209966637548454,0.0,0.0,0.16565162884376844,0.08495887029216934,0.0,0.0,0.07118298719106783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992446251207695,0.08559057334651139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668463325421052,0.09027415991101746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401533333032119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521431520679665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21721581494947534,0.0,0.0,0.09100810682299998,0.0,0.0,0.4837973533684943,0.06741017401952061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577348867907848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07086906367224295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409015286187752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05631547276414355,0.054315313821823766,0.0,0.0,0.049428358475856034,0.0,0.08034926801090267,0.16199713035925706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994170784210714,0.04999781238537551,0.06728415224250861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171242771686282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376163594922508
parenting,evampire1122,2019/03/15,"questionable family Would you allow family, parents or in laws around your kids if they didn’t support your parenting style, told you they didn’t like you, criticized you in front of the kids? Also might add issues were there prior to kids being born- unsupportive of marriage and relationship so just a continuation. Hard because want my kids to have people and another layer of love but we aren’t supported, and feel we walk on eggshells when they are around and kids are noticing. ",7.096206896551722,8.719400172413799,6.747758620689659,72.51060344827587,64.51724137931035,10.397701149425288,30.59195402298851,10.504223727775694,3.4175609195402306,393,14,65,10,6,123,62,87,0.052000000000000005,0.818,0.13,0.7243,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,6,3,0,7,4,0,0,2,0,10,1,0,1,0,20,16,10,0,3,4,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,2,12,4,10,9,0,11,0,0,0,1,23,5,0,4,5,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480054904447656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940686903624661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295143804105332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282082530808382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489470233225997,0.0,0.09358016361868356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579205714206705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19317162533662505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041895617442708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703863198192767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19633676026347796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107106514603137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110107693311478,0.0,0.0,0.12830863799155304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732786901508904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870273729954865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200448980650923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17684838395584102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916282655220168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314729291319856,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,starid,2019/03/15,"A confession and a plea for help Hello!

My kids are 9 and 12. Their eating habits are not good. At all. 

I’ve been trying to expose them to new foods and expand their horizons but I’m facing a substantial obstacle. My spouse is the pickiest eater I’ve ever met in my life. Ever. He does not eat vegetables or anything with cheese. No potatoes unless they are French fries. And pretty much no fruit. 

It’s gotten very difficult to fight his picky ways and try to model good eating habits for the children. I say that this is dinner and eat it or starve. But spouse is over at the stove making a bowl of white rice with hot sauce and bacon bits rather than eat what I’ve made. It sets a tone, you know?

Has anyone been through this? I feel awful that my kids eat so badly. But without spouse on board, it feels like I’m never going to be able to make changes. 

TL;DR husband is insanely picky and eats like shit and the kids do too despite my efforts ",1.738578947368424,4.078057542105267,2.6476315789473723,93.00092105263157,81.47368421052632,5.273684210526316,18.44736842105263,6.508806274219699,-0.04644210526315806,743,17,153,7,20,234,124,190,0.192,0.732,0.076,-0.9795,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,1,4,1,5,8,2,0,9,1,12,14,2,3,4,32,23,16,0,1,10,4,3,2,0,0,1,1,1,4,9,11,11,0,4,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,5,6,13,4,20,17,3,12,1,0,1,0,21,5,1,2,6,89,22,0,0.11152102610517664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797809444575073,0.0,0.09177230227731532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311539856145012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217520768143249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797445845891988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759280147157304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7987969567219908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017543056227396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277676326137492,0.07967064333249284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485166743669966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337996913862701,0.18707709123555266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475019303596046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128903942061139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877059880665037,0.10896708042074964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552389136632197,0.1488823018003304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819807859610289,0.0,0.0860118903854939,0.10770770194387903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345697608156052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868599608506844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447473069675625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15143091258600375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201652596345317,0.0,0.08852019964580271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750228952829323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,booyahbagwells,2019/03/15,"Cleaning Room Up It’s a battle to get my 8-year old son to clean up his room. As a peace offering, every time he finishes cleaning up (unwillingly of course), he would lay his Bible on his chair. That’s his way of saying, “Alright, we’re good. Can I play some video games now?” ",1.1514880952380968,3.3935635535714286,2.589285714285716,93.12238095238096,83.10714285714286,5.8761904761904775,20.047619047619047,7.1686216300943375,0.3673190476190476,213,6,47,3,6,69,44,56,0.043,0.732,0.225,0.872,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,3,9,2,1,11,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,1,4,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656589963194521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22674415924392075,0.0,0.0,0.3640139083062937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4554041124689213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451297626422287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530656221659833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444845504525182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082971667281145,0.0,0.0,0.27947816170247713
parenting,xPropagandaPandax,2019/03/15,"Accidents Not sure if this is the right place to post. My 9 yo dd has recently begun having accidents (#1) after school. I’m talking 3/5 days. 

She says it’s because she doesn’t want to use the bathroom at school - which I kinda get because bathrooms are gross; especially public ones used by children. But this is unacceptable.

It happened again today and I broke down and told her she couldn’t go to an event that she had been wanting to go to. (There’s one of these events every month, so she’s not really missing out on anything...) 

She was upset, but this opened up some dialogue. I ended up ordering her some travel, disposable toilet seat covers to try to help this issue.

I was wondering if I should also make her a doctor appointment, but she doesn’t complain of any pain or other issues when she goes to the bathroom.

Has anyone dealt with this issue in the past? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. TIA.
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parenting,ninebubblewaters,2019/03/15,"Is it normal for a fever to linger for days and go away only to return as the day/evening goes on? 4 yr old Hi everyone! I have a four year old. It is her first year of full day preschool and man is she getting hit with sickness! Every time she gets sick, which is every couple of weeks, she spikes a fever that lasts for days.

She's had a fever for 8 days now. Diagnosed flu. She's much better but every day she wakes up with no fever and around 5 pm it goes up and stays up all night from around 100-101.7

It went away for a day but came back. Doctors did a chest xray to rule out pnemonia as she got that twice this year following colds.

She says her ears don't hurt but if it doesn't go away I'll have them check for infection.

I just worry and find it weird she's good. Until evening. Is this Normal?",0.21114137086903284,2.2965713197674407,1.3184332925336584,101.733788249694,85.80232558139534,4.551285189718484,15.447980416156671,5.750287758089431,-0.9907023255813954,625,11,153,4,19,195,103,172,0.081,0.863,0.056,-0.4819,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,2,6,4,0,0,7,0,11,14,3,0,1,20,20,12,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,11,11,0,0,1,0,1,5,3,2,0,3,5,3,14,2,27,14,3,37,0,1,0,0,15,11,0,1,20,90,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20947605675218756,0.0,0.0,0.3316226608834255,0.09046954839377684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405641956292004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456614859873708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018318630419487,0.0,0.5311448713929502,0.0,0.0,0.11941750123939335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042503211657606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542023468071167,0.0,0.2973886164212327,0.1124245384007593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753467614730118,0.10007741099775484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229399203043904,0.0,0.1337322669020589,0.0986835582140034,0.09409957193883668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259522721209629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590465096425813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649007326747951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041138866133557,0.2305541340720099,0.0,0.0,0.2469185776599973,0.0,0.0,0.08948204377682842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356409809053633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540473602563948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860566447358467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437586496350556,0.0,0.0,0.10906750334440993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948451655307643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272981785358245
parenting,tukky88,2019/03/15,"Deciding to have 2 or stop at 1? Something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I am wondering how other parents navigated it. 

I have a 7.5 month old. She is, in one word, awesome. I cannot wait to get home from work and hang out with her. I love her so much. I enjoy being a mom very much, and with one child, I feel like I am managing well. I am never stressed financially, mentally, etc. I'm very happy with life right now. 

Ever since my early twenties, I never had the desire to have more than one child. I am an only child and I enjoyed the unique opportunities and situations that came along with it, and I never wished for a sibling, even as an adult. My husband is OK with either 1 or 2 kids. 

But something is really weighing on my mind now that I have a child, what will it be like when she is grown up? Will she move far away? Would she wish for siblings after we are gone? God forbid, what if the unthinkable would happen? I would have no family left. If she never meets someone or decides not to have a family of her own, she wouldn't have anyone when we're gone. 

Then again, I have NO idea how I would balance two kids. No idea. I don't know how to be fair to two. It actually makes me painfully sad trying to think of how to be fair to each kid, spend quality time with each of them, etc. I'm imagining quality time with my daughter out on the lake or going shopping and just having one-on-one conversations with her, it sounds so fulfilling and relaxing. Traveling with her, etc. It makes my heart full instead of feeling slightly heartbroken and stressed over the whole thing. 

How did you ultimately make the decision? I don't want to be miserable with 2 when I should have stuck with 1. On the other hand, I don't want to have regrets when she's grown. I would love having 2 adult kids at the Thanksgiving table but I just don't know if I'm meant to raise two of them, if that makes sense. ",3.0457754927163703,4.378733753213368,4.361087403598972,86.89079991431021,73.93573264781492,7.757360754070268,24.277720651242504,8.344100000000001,1.3136693401885169,1486,44,320,25,30,491,190,389,0.065,0.828,0.106,0.924,1,0,2,0,0,0,51.0,1,1,2,2,20,18,0,3,16,1,44,7,2,9,5,88,72,32,0,17,14,4,3,2,0,9,2,1,1,10,15,27,1,3,13,3,2,9,14,7,1,6,8,4,45,11,47,50,13,46,0,3,0,2,34,16,0,10,23,234,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.08629436905677984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06183191459982695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830823618243271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011397117802804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958665742010093,0.05840680551579019,0.07998948348302715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667267960231455,0.0,0.08942515515910028,0.0631740035411498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620072817478773,0.0,0.05025648378527165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819785424330633,0.09413477418303366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10478930211273477,0.0,0.0,0.08870192990158696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965212901911453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719700585905196,0.0,0.09975225046036476,0.0,0.09607883607872303,0.0,0.062460322645848484,0.08640430698720955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517954040503616,0.15962202891003952,0.0,0.2361093287999765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911606813975119,0.0,0.17857703485953855,0.10356748142511482,0.07058352856682487,0.09398649108578157,0.13001161396411265,0.0,0.27280891633408433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279181294025417,0.0,0.2396882854566032,0.0672545674476099,0.094095149867176,0.0,0.09819041877631662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05665015819153959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755182513409726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314973955118928,0.09939838606733556,0.0,0.0,0.07492597035569609,0.13615459329802565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393096435179343,0.2025912300500794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058748584976874435,0.0566620090888896,0.0,0.0,0.10312782529049952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003777933625741,0.0,0.2591481158645783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14592708415318392,0.104315939666594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950867887700484,0.0,0.0,0.09872830228599692,0.2033789642263694,0.0,0.09589794632767636,0.06437767933012221,0.0,0.0,0.31408865490864274,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DarcanoTheBard,2019/03/15,"What about having a baby being gay couple? Ok, I don't know if this place is appropriated for this discussion (help me if it's not right). First, I beg you for don't be homophobic, second: I know the adoption process is a beautiful way to have a child, but I've been always dreaming about having a baby with my DNA. Please, respect it. My parents are supporting me, because they dream about it too.  I share this dream with my boyfriend, and we're wondering how could we do it? Artificial insemination? In vitro fertilisation? I could pay everything for it... And I have 3 people who are interested to be the surrogate. My sister, my bestfriend and the bestfriend of my boyfriend. But I'm confuseeeeed. Any suggestions? Do I need to pay another ovule to put in some of them? 
P.s I'm just planning for now, and sorry if I committed any mistake",2.7340698529411798,5.346681943750003,4.379338235294121,80.42830882352942,79.5625,7.514705882352942,26.911764705882355,8.4952907291091,2.2686470588235297,661,28,123,15,17,221,97,160,0.047,0.77,0.183,0.9726,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,2,2,7,6,0,0,7,1,18,1,0,1,1,24,25,10,0,7,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,7,0,0,3,3,2,1,3,1,0,2,1,0,20,5,17,19,1,8,0,0,0,1,12,4,0,5,2,89,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17894055739179726,0.0,0.0,0.29248557666846564,0.22550085582090704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109375146437538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434031726547507,0.2379510353247844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932749421841292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292318874340216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441448756122908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363739973067563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945839184255992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387898842999269,0.0,0.0,0.1490900341640379,0.0,0.2246836513055022,0.23606260407978266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618673742054176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365330064763086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24073319613779465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440385510408005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706983306515475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23321480642986886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,losiduh,2019/03/15,"My toddler fell 10 feet from the top of a slide... And she only has a black eye, laceration below her eye and some cuts on her hand. X-ray and CT scan came back looking good. I was so sick to my stomach. More hysterical than her because well... she’s my first and y’know how you get with first kids. 

She’s bounced back like no other. Laughing, being her silly self. Kids are so resilient. Now I’m just nervous she’ll be afraid of this slide. We have a small park by our place, where this slide is. 

Parents - don’t be so hard on yourself when something happens. Accidents happen. Shit fucking happens and we aren’t perfect! Kids will learn and they’ll push their boundaries and ours (especially ours). ",1.4792647058823505,4.106658397058826,2.1932352941176494,93.58705882352942,86.35294117647058,4.376470588235295,22.70588235294117,5.900188976854957,0.29421764705882403,546,20,110,4,17,169,99,136,0.133,0.742,0.125,0.1128,2,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,5,1,2,4,12,11,3,2,4,0,13,8,6,1,1,16,21,12,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,3,11,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,5,1,2,2,7,20,6,10,13,2,19,0,0,5,1,21,7,2,1,7,71,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119597987624512,0.0,0.12365608809428714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320075062958298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450899175448328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875324827576863,0.10598127623865636,0.0,0.0,0.17014179637333512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.538141413733342,0.0,0.18171465389753344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148160575031693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991027532334256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034375244611102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542773279245883,0.0,0.0,0.22524203205093696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21193612257506736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21161783536550105,0.0,0.20822363862367374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616461183131847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823874123272558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LeaveNeverTrot,2019/03/15,"What to expect for shy & introverted child in Kindergarten My 5-year old daughter will enter kindergarten in the fall.  She is very introverted and somewhat shy.  She spends all her free time in preschool drawing pictures and writing her name because it's one of the few activities she can do in isolation.  Virtually never plays with or engages other kids.  

According to her teacher, she doesn't respond well to changes in plans or schedule at her preschool.  And she sometimes has trouble verbalizing what's wrong when she's upset.

Do any parents out there have kids with similar personalities?  If so, what was the transition to kindergarten like?",7.816339285714289,9.85761509821429,6.727142857142859,71.76785714285714,63.19642857142857,9.171428571428573,39.89285714285714,9.516144504307137,4.186871428571428,529,29,81,10,8,160,80,112,0.154,0.7829999999999999,0.063,-0.8487,1,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,0,2,15,9,8,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,5,6,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,3,1,1,1,0,11,6,15,7,3,14,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,4,6,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136463309969543,0.0,0.19685310818021776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646143603189554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062264495758973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414229935605798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232611715970084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30375559787469103,0.0,0.19615593268801665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214280270628005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527586376788459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862984410578037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879535616359814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388474116870688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602730297344406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31649576202103397,0.0,0.18641258121411666
parenting,Gilded_Tales,2019/03/15,"Deaf/ Mute Child Hi guys, so one of my girls is deaf and mute. In our family this isn't a big problem, but lately she has been acting odd. My daughter has spent the last few days trying to learn to talk and acting like she can hear by wearing headphones, and having music playing in her room. Her mother insists it's just a phase, but she's stopped signing to us, so we are beginning to have trouble communicating. Does anyone have any ideas?

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**Child details:**  Female, 4yrs, deaf/mute",2.334110251450678,5.069429606382983,2.932088974854935,89.26136363636364,82.72340425531914,4.69477756286267,22.375241779497102,6.11248444174946,0.4603957446808509,389,13,72,3,11,121,72,94,0.09,0.8370000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.4159,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,10,3,1,0,0,12,13,7,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,4,2,4,0,1,2,1,1,2,1,2,0,1,2,3,10,2,8,11,1,11,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,0,6,43,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591758711738492,0.2906572894548373,0.1626659417431009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16725598997944655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542658608895876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932777007459985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22549888278108166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368481393526885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695986670776455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700305716450324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949820103479803,0.26983090385289005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686228703384023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620898436106026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22888454256979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998404889809104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19226195493144774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16240283491207624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877312245054378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906572894548373,0.0
parenting,catsub,2019/03/15,"Daughter coming to stay for the weekend and I'm worried. So a little back story. I have 2 daughters by the same dad. He took our eldest daughter when she was 5 (because he didn't want to work) and has kept me away from her ever since. (Yes I got our local ss involved and they couldn't do anything, couldn't afford court either unfortunately). I tried my hardest to get her back from him (I knew he wouldn't care for her like I did) to no avail. I have lived 5 years without her and gone through therapy and longing and distraught ways. Only thing that kept me going was my other daughter. So recently in the past 6 months he made contact,wanted to see our daughter I had. I had a discussion with her (not my choice to make) and she wanted to go. So she started going every other weekend and is still doing that. This weekend my eldest asked to come stop. Well I have heard all the promises before ( from Jim saying she was coming) and it never happened. So I thought it would be the same this time. Yet it hasn't happened and she is definitely coming. I'm so nervous and so scared that if I do something wrong she won't want to come again. Or if I discipline her like I do the kids who live with us she won't want to come again. I have battled through all this and I was wondering if anyone else has been where I am? How did you deal with it? Any advice you can give at all ",2.6470942286863703,4.20877903202847,3.7463128578059717,89.96388519263502,75.40569395017793,5.883397802877921,24.317035432461704,6.280692351149826,0.6007727371189849,1072,34,225,7,23,347,149,281,0.107,0.848,0.045,-0.9151,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,4,2,1,1,17,10,1,3,8,1,32,0,0,3,5,53,66,24,0,11,7,6,0,2,0,4,0,2,0,1,14,21,0,4,3,3,0,11,11,5,1,0,19,3,43,5,25,40,6,39,0,0,1,0,40,6,0,5,22,164,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672999355255712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427437081706006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637021793245037,0.11191034216468598,0.08987999482286925,0.0,0.10210736617664176,0.0,0.10261720213470983,0.1679691956483685,0.0,0.06658041753013604,0.0,0.09293945877878686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135860665585758,0.0,0.0,0.564507948143402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260257886581045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912405549508971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987971070512512,0.0920238311898322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057063729987690125,0.10477522286211843,0.18621930005110648,0.0,0.08735441753630678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316843766076786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672022365184868,0.10946864455332272,0.1928891852206379,0.09665759759514772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334803175182466,0.07290620472064947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717956566567064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423836027555241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306787855702316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426428807402473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784306258646198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685732700592044,0.10934978337173457,0.0,0.08703540093370478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034916009607027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408405295202902,0.0,0.0,0.0773075455348657,0.11641559516269008,0.08722443739001966,0.0913140713180906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490431316692192,0.0,0.07256191672123216,0.0,0.0,0.08670967720513019,0.06368793966115648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134911418800312,0.07415423445586106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313800260555775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576867010418735,0.08669494922163185,0.0,0.0,0.09820325268360798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528563615035247,0.1184460663674738,0.07951455865868662,0.1109197431300263,0.0,0.07758782557753884,0.119416573137658,0.0,0.07033507019552364
parenting,pixiemonster,2019/03/15,"Rough morning My ex-husband and I have 3 kids (13-M, 9-M, 6-F) and we share custody 50/50.  Today as I dropped the younger two at school, my sweet baby girl got sad b/c she didn't want to leave me and go to her dad's after school.  When she got out of the car at carpool, she was full on bawling.  It was the most heartbreaking thing and I cried the whole way to work.  I texted her dad and let him know she was really upset when I dropped her off and he said she cried a few times the last time he had her b/c she was missing me.  Now, even at work, every time I think about her as she walked away in tears I cry.  This is so hard.",-0.13809176225234765,1.6478602846715342,1.3183993743482816,103.03972627737228,84.83941605839415,4.498227320125131,17.084984358706986,5.288315135182226,-0.9693395203336808,477,10,124,2,14,152,91,137,0.17600000000000002,0.779,0.045,-0.9471,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,2,6,6,0,1,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,17,11,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,8,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,4,0,1,9,4,25,2,16,7,4,24,0,3,0,0,22,9,0,1,9,75,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829722485710346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5552186574144774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128276836264618,0.0,0.14195589818309548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575392104410667,0.0,0.2695057278379802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092948635807998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259496211988053,0.13733778076041567,0.0,0.17840131154518932,0.0,0.1722873507490392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079358197399109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602678391103766,0.0,0.0,0.3410316755779608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193396241893926,0.10795839931181256,0.0,0.0,0.2947349146781403,0.0,0.1597041009242504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645853851829964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09937683158609828,0.13373556855405516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881075107105396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453182061012357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cleverlady0406,2019/03/15,"r/blackparents is live! Attention Black Moms, Dads, and expecting parents! Please come join us at [r/blackparents](https://www.reddit.com/r/blackparents)! The sub is pretty new (so feel free to kick off the posting), but I hope we can make it place for black parents to connect, ask questions, share experiences, etc. ",7.035294117647054,10.467154882352943,5.278196078431375,75.38788235294119,68.80392156862743,8.785882352941178,31.768627450980397,9.3871,3.403773333333333,253,11,39,6,5,73,43,51,0.0,0.727,0.273,0.919,5,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,8,3,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,5,8,1,6,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,2,1,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066234366897084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903887653613906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24649521364253346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161995227826765,0.0,0.0,0.11175412152666857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952227564532328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195164305196246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753226079031048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588554167963429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21346205130036647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4908320918497746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23091838018608804,0.2426130866214845,0.0,0.0,0.21167562616529068,0.22485633257058704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24759247017550176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658592960768864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dartagnia91,2019/03/15,"Getting a toddler to take liquid medicine? My son is almost 3 and he absolutely will not take his liquid medicine. He took him to the doctor yesterday because of a 103.9 degree fever, and it looks like an ear infection. They prescribed him the liquid bubble gum amoxicillin. We are also trying to manage his fever by rotating Tylenol and Motrin.

The problem is trying to give him the medicine. He won't take it from a syringe or the little measuring cup. He also will not drink anything that we mix it with. He's gotten to the point where he actually doesn't trust any liquids that we give him unless he watches us pour it.

We have literally had to resort to restraining him, squirting the most miniscule amount in his mouth, squeezing his cheeks, tilting his head back, and plugging his nose. Even with this method, he holds his breath, sticks his tongue in the back of his throat so that it doesn't drain down, and then literally spits it like 2 feet in to the air.

It breaks our hearts to do this to him, I can't do this for 10 days. I need a new method and some assistance here. Any recommendations welcome.",5.736805929919138,6.707717990566039,5.510997304582212,82.52254716981132,67.20754716981132,8.321293800539085,29.765498652291107,8.418075326091056,2.0419800539083557,882,31,169,12,14,273,126,212,0.026,0.935,0.039,0.3814,0,0,3,0,0,0,24.0,6,0,1,0,8,5,0,0,14,0,13,16,10,0,0,23,23,12,0,2,4,1,1,2,0,3,5,1,0,0,13,12,1,2,0,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,3,5,25,4,22,17,3,16,0,0,2,0,34,8,0,4,8,107,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.16586012921322524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019417189084846,0.0,0.0,0.27183994282744595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231162393932946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13986570698195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613833072292401,0.0,0.10360834118157347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961257569726132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396512819325255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664997960067768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11225947203352983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879905871695283,0.326089485178138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443187020592835,0.0,0.0,0.20140789461182546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660714329117842,0.17034835608279913,0.0,0.0,0.14272676657965164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12602598736964676,0.0,0.16415207536430662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16067070683004125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16263238090195964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38337482514869453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888360105158784,0.2307884963347885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20444549717413696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SimLow277,2019/03/15,"My son is swearing at preschool and angry outbursts In the past 2 weeks, my 4 year old’s behavior has flipped completely, and he’s starting to have angry outbursts/angry nonsense rants at preschool, and uses swear words. A LOT.   

 And at home, he’s been terrorizing his little brother (slapping toys out of hands, running up to him and screaming in his face, throwing things at him, etc). When I ask him “what are you trying to do?” sometimes he’ll say something disturbing like “I’m trying to hit him because I don’t like him,”... I do not tolerate any of that, I yell at him and send to timeout immediately.   


They send him to timeout at school after he’s been swearing, and even sent him to the office, because they were afraid of other kids picking it up... we’ve talked to him about it, trying to get him to identify his feelings, and help him find words to replace the swear words with.   

We’ve stopped swearing in front of him for a while now (except when I accidentally burned myself making dinner, I swore up a storm because it hurt).       

Where do I go from here? ",5.524371482176363,6.129155463414638,5.6985365853658525,82.29362101313322,67.53658536585365,7.868667917448405,32.354596622889304,7.61054688173877,2.115664165103189,830,34,160,8,13,263,119,205,0.166,0.797,0.037000000000000005,-0.9715,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,2,0,7,7,0,3,6,0,11,3,2,3,0,22,22,11,0,0,2,2,2,2,0,1,0,3,1,1,7,10,1,1,2,1,0,7,2,5,0,0,4,5,28,2,34,16,2,33,0,1,0,0,32,15,0,1,13,104,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770487346323994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17555999645381953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3434284411546736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968961445335604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094375136057453,0.12403472231950123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495318388486987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716383162469037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981134722146261,0.0,0.1067264158005603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258728947260716,0.0,0.18837050147474324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103502134233625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349118959211208,0.188216732731494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965388512346249,0.0,0.0,0.12535249435458146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705591925338173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926853595331693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14933958824055876,0.0,0.190055341922394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445713134206562,0.18573090628844768,0.0,0.13292001280764887,0.0,0.0,0.15700236561831038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093994700557548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476053706276145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3824949450439788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219183278388635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063526610237332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093177149182045
parenting,manzoire,2019/03/15,"Let go from a kindergarden I was just let go of a kindergarten, and wanted to express how I felt here and maybe learn something. I love kids and where I worked, the kids loved me. Most of the other teachers there just sat back and watched, but I was constantly playing with them, and even created games to get them to stop fighting.

The kids where I worked (I won't say where) were extremely out of control. They never listened to anyone, constantly fought each other etc. I know its normal, but the way they behaved was much worse than what you think of as normal.

My boss also always complimented me on how the kids loved me, and told me how she wanted me full time, which is why this was so crushing. One of the kids today, point blank threw a ball at another kids face. I know this kid, he is strong, and is always laughing. I repeatedly asked him to stop, but he kept attempting to hurt the other student. I decided to put him in a timeout and put my knee on his back lightly. Just FYI, I am the only man at this kindergarten, and was hired specifically because of this. He was laughing as he always did, I made sure he wasn't in pain. Then he got up and spit straight in his face. That's a dealbreaker for me because thats how you get sick and I instinctively grabbed his head and turned it away from me. Again, he is not in pain.

My boss saw this and immediately asked what happened. Moments later she brought me in and fired me asap. It has always been my dream to be with kids. It's one of my life goals. I loved each one, and to be let go like that was crushing for me. I know when it comes to kids, its difficult to be logical, so I'm not angry but just extremely depressed. I don't know what to do",3.395559033989265,4.696092947674423,4.1484883720930235,88.88542039355993,73.01162790697674,7.269051878354204,25.73076923076923,7.748469712250963,1.1960218246869403,1330,43,286,17,26,425,167,344,0.118,0.723,0.158,0.9305,0,0,1,0,2,0,43.0,0,2,4,6,21,18,2,0,13,0,26,13,5,8,2,58,59,30,0,4,10,0,3,1,0,1,4,2,0,10,21,21,0,4,9,4,0,8,6,7,0,3,21,8,45,11,40,31,6,42,0,2,2,4,43,18,0,1,16,198,66,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883916912566688,0.3281257172632381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337599136021952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893360642700935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184329158247128,0.0,0.09262476939442177,0.15161305988320434,0.0,0.12019419145373884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492308864138419,0.0,0.2130728327808963,0.11057255465026852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491195638566408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10994942289849463,0.06511510714396718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465799698930484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301420660362257,0.0,0.16808604566495125,0.0,0.07884821074407015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717925270034918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117765309273084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553832595905144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21672109593030006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30243251858226444,0.06963419014983874,0.0481641279426876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559107683848485,0.09328443388871398,0.0,0.0,0.09904286341690262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247203556565511,0.0,0.0760355820698027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19318664874525016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004132256185594,0.07497907695171503,0.20980485788329525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319561281216646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19821227035634112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07839952480460416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589630054623843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484458009683076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291611535246612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316991248251068,0.0,0.0,0.057486275220956624,0.0,0.09344797758018528,0.09420312456245447,0.0,0.0,0.10723323185407477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629712545017602,0.07825295868789436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895850897514546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354352888303673,0.0,0.1004675316438973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CallMeChelley,2019/03/15,Baby rolled off bed second time should I take him to the hospital again? So I was laying on the edge to protect him from falling and somehow he still rolls off when I doze off for a couple minutes. I’m not too sure how he fell but I think his baby seat on the floor broke his fall. Should I take him to the doctor again?,1.5528431372549036,3.205652911764709,2.712352941176473,95.8022549019608,78.70588235294117,5.121568627450982,18.686274509803926,5.46131890053228,-0.4828607843137256,250,5,57,1,6,80,47,68,0.104,0.868,0.027000000000000003,-0.6176,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,5,0,3,1,0,1,1,9,7,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,1,0,10,1,10,4,0,14,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,1,5,40,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4240093403656985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922268295995926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30602822203438856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3611664300456692,0.0,0.5762453421099021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455424625863914,0.0,0.0,0.2234500734282437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BEENSPROUTS,2019/03/15,"Advice on how to deal with bullying in Primary School Hi all!

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This is my first child - shes 5 and in reception at Primary School. Im new to dealing with bullying on behalf of someone else, and i want to learn the tools to deal with it for future, for me and her. 

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Theres another little girl in my daughters class who is being nasty - telling her she cant play in the group / with her friends, laughing at her / take the piss and what she says (like if she saying shes going swimming, or shes got a new toy etc). My daughter said she was upset one day this week, and asked said little girl to 'look after her' at story time, to which the little girl said 'yes', then stood up and laughed 'ha ha, no one is looking after you'.. 

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I know the girls mum thru school, and we've been to her birthday party before.

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I have told my daughter to ignore what shes saying, tell an adult, tell the girl directly shes upsetting her. I have explained maybe shes upset, or sad and is being like that because someone is mean to her and she needs a friend too.. I have asked my daughter what she wants me to do, and she said talk to the teacher about it, which i plan to do at the up coming parents evening.

Should i speak to her mum? or leave it with the school? I think i would prefer it if a parent spoke to me first, but i dont want to make it worse or difficult for anyone.",4.351614035087722,4.632697371929826,4.8692105263157925,88.35364035087723,70.01754385964911,7.596491228070175,27.061403508771928,7.1686216300943375,1.1548245614035082,1081,32,234,9,18,345,142,285,0.108,0.8290000000000001,0.063,-0.9173,2,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,0,1,0,3,5,16,1,3,13,3,24,1,1,2,1,39,48,19,0,9,7,8,0,2,2,2,0,9,0,7,14,16,0,1,6,3,0,3,3,7,0,4,10,11,41,9,40,34,2,29,0,1,2,0,63,15,1,6,13,155,55,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335063867588151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253226673987293,0.3648387647973037,0.0,0.078710040081289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05248575470402324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403474369907208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045757673045650885,0.0,0.06387303542989342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466007844605219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04840938811728565,0.2321597931782305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879732095832455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270545660151798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371502289249466,0.04957836559303204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769700110783785,0.0,0.0,0.11598688636460927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042660000055179774,0.0,0.0600346922563288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108085877746575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041252630138498,0.0,0.0,0.07948081788584184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334392427037176,0.22569836441567645,0.0,0.0,0.12606793324814136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05010509699938121,0.0,0.07541081489748998,0.08176554985010179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556582207528018,0.0,0.14499251524781362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172918497932444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669702911620646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28560819027527456,0.17907919407191358,0.0,0.3038708209614203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272011752021985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05643799106980076,0.06033274985659996,0.1968249608631446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048097302652260386,0.0,0.0,0.043769805418346776,0.0,0.0,0.07172585832097511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328222049202694,0.0,0.06021096475541465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649555122527567,0.05332256069876822,0.0,0.3648387647973037,0.0
parenting,hercouragelessons,2019/03/15,"Introducing Letters of Courage - Her Courage Lessons We have rewritten the very first lessons we learn – the ABCs, to help you inculcate courage in your girl. Let’s begin #HerCourageLessons today. To get the [Letters of Courage](http://www.hercouragelessons.com/) on your WhatsApp, give a missed call on 9512104443.

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parenting,grocko55,2019/03/15,"Divorce Advice: How to explain to a 5/6 Year old? So my wife and I are splitting up. It's amicable. We are going to do 50/50 custody. Our daughter is 5, about to turn 6, and has high functioning autism*. 

Trying get some ideas on how to explain the divorce to our daughter, and any issues you may have experienced for me to watch out for.

Thanks in advance!

(* basically a normal kid, smart as a whip, and with some heavy special interests, and some issues adapting to transitions).",2.5903333333333336,5.280436255555556,3.9155555555555566,83.02000000000002,80.8888888888889,6.2666666666666675,27.88888888888889,7.554174236665415,1.9353555555555557,373,17,67,6,10,122,67,90,0.0,0.865,0.135,0.8932,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,3,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,2,0,18,13,9,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,4,17,12,3,9,0,0,1,0,12,5,0,4,2,47,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637294183587699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18353169491105556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100426523144716,0.0,0.15338240000133774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851493148178702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046683771706989,0.0,0.5633816084310551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26443092032601023,0.0,0.0,0.2831998957599664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484747144885513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18323483840794752,0.2935584045054522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379769768049685
parenting,unhappytod,2019/03/15,"My two year old seems to always be upset Lately my two year old has been crying at pretty much everything. She wakes from a nap and is just so upset and cries.  Food is ready and she cries. Give her a drink and she says no and cries.but then will drink it anyway? 
It breaks my heart to see her so upset all the time. Sometimes she will just burst in to tears for no reason. And lay flat on the floor with her head down :(

I try playing with her as much as I can and we go out a lot. She’s around other kids often in a crèche. She’s around family often. I just don’t know what else to do. 

She does have a 6 month old sister but I don’t think it’s that, as she was fine. She adjusted a couple months after she was born and seemed fine. It’s been the past month that she’s been whiny a lot.

I don’t know what else to do. 
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parenting,kitttkat134,2019/03/15,I just found my 12 watching porn She was already in trouble for not doing homework.  I caught her on the computer and took it way.  I discovered porn sites on it.  She has learning disabilities and mentally is 8-9.  I took her phone and computer away.  I need advice.  How long should she be punished and can you think of any other punishment?,1.9072692307692307,4.6198440923076936,3.3725961538461564,85.35427884615387,85.0,6.9423076923076925,26.586538461538463,8.07648339933343,2.1487307692307684,266,12,50,6,8,87,50,65,0.13699999999999998,0.863,0.0,-0.836,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,7,2,0,1,0,12,13,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,5,1,12,0,6,6,0,10,0,0,1,2,7,5,0,0,1,36,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705365358849932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055130275697136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18826882975487105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601115343838544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30355388966021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450052768669956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790016642894654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528222395609946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773955602820557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6151854393014397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21975220329790535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xL0Tu5,2019/03/15,"2nd grader Morning rant idk if this is the place to do this but the school that my 7yr old goes to is getting on my last nerves ! 
It’s some anniversary today and they’re telling all the kids to bring in some form of electronic (game system, phone, etc) so they can use at recess and in between? 
WHY ARE YOU NOT PROMOTING BOOKS OR CRAFTS OR ANYTHING ELSE?!
Why promote electronics ? Now I got my 7yr old sitting here giving me a face since I won’t let him ( he broke his glasses and is very forgetful losing jackets and sweaters all winter) so no I’m not letting you take your 2DS to school for you to lose or some greedy lil kid steal it, no I’m not letting you take your phone in (he has a old iPhone to FaceTime dad who lives in ny, fills the gaps between visits ) so you can forget it somewhere or drop it and break it or something! 
Am I wrong ? Should I talk to someone at the school? Mind you this is a “good school in a better neighborhood “ than where we live where they promote to get on iPads to learn on some bs program and math bs on macs at school such bs -_-
Idk what to do ",1.9416216216216209,3.781760144144144,2.6119729729729757,96.10633783783784,78.18918918918921,5.521081081081082,22.36126126126127,6.2581,0.1805596396396396,840,25,189,6,20,261,134,222,0.195,0.737,0.069,-0.984,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,1,8,2,6,8,7,0,0,9,0,16,1,1,1,2,29,26,16,0,2,10,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,11,7,0,0,1,2,0,3,6,5,0,0,1,0,21,2,27,20,8,29,0,3,0,0,26,15,0,10,7,118,32,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500446777792376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210501969002893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644259971259828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875585125005554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063439272749575,0.11074894145183202,0.0,0.09683291715058676,0.0923348956844368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410612354531153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541624444150753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038866871111715,0.0,0.0,0.2583151960688955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657030639136813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634320641586633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061935065912115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5842013904897441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550038232674177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781933413671004,0.08887807253506537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360615411566035,0.0927933159143846,0.10090727847711503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094318968098704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971063510239786,0.0,0.09525729287596016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20834904353440464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622506262005292,0.0,0.0
parenting,brushedsuede,2019/03/15,"Daddy needs a break, reaching out to you. So we have a major problem with our 2.5 year old’s sleep habits and we really need help as we don’t know what to do at this point that doesn’t involve crying.

Ever since my wife got pregnant a few months ago, I started to help out more often with putting our son to bed. He will only sleep if cuddled, and he sleeps in our room in a crib (He still doesn’t sleep through the night). 

Day by day, I put him to bed more and more often as my wife couldn’t with a belly (he would move around on our lap a lot before he falls asleep). 

Now, my son will only ever accept to sleep if it’s with me. His attachment and anxiety if I am not around to cuddle him to sleep (which can take 45 mins to an hour) in our bed keeps growing day by day.. my wife is busy with a newborn and besides, the toddler will only sleep if with me. Otherwise he will cry hysterically, bang his head and throw a really big heartbreaking tantrum. 

And it keeps getting worse every time his Mom tries to put him to sleep until I have to come into the room. What to do! 

Dad needs a break! What’s a gentle approach to rectifying this problem? 

Have not left the house at bedtime in months because we know he will cry so much if I am not there!",4.752175032175033,4.3931999189189215,5.313111969111969,87.72400514800516,69.11583011583011,8.142187902187903,26.533075933075928,7.3011,1.059168133848134,965,24,218,8,15,311,133,259,0.101,0.8340000000000001,0.065,-0.89,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,9,1,0,0,11,5,1,0,15,0,19,12,10,0,2,48,31,17,0,12,8,7,0,0,0,6,0,0,5,1,9,23,0,2,3,0,0,9,7,4,0,0,1,0,27,1,38,23,7,47,0,1,0,2,34,17,0,8,19,138,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426563182378673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640912262995331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916335601219122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0510713156435008,0.0,0.07129033747616778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721687764270112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27608413525387043,0.216123852118098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515670350548755,0.07058799424459769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043771425204381265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700626394887928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598212267447712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123115077348136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250610920234287,0.09667050287019907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893445901898714,0.0,0.0,0.0920862427958658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910268680448813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122648840705029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812174928618184,0.1337442834076404,0.08904454166219287,0.061587705011937235,0.1863647146601675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862155479742779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087912681469591,0.0,0.0,0.1911546669274719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919887809805777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033167917131386,0.0,0.2526651571431339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734281731301888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930341749964337,0.0,0.6707214818023634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929968909925173,0.0,0.06690656110343808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299189325766716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048852605462363335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056880903645329016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537865197061109,0.059514681300546574,0.0,0.0,0.05395136744430137
parenting,guitarlollypop,2019/03/15,"Resources for parenting/helping a neurotic child Hi,

I have a 5-year old child that I suspect is overly neurotic. Compared to other children, he seems to have more/larger/more overwhelming feelings. He worries a lot, gets scared easily, gets angry a lot, gets sad a lot and have a hard time with transitions (I know that every five year old is like that, but compared to other kids I see, he seems extreme). I have a feeling that he gets this from me, because I am pretty neurotic myself (hence this post about my worries).

I am looking for resources in how to help a child like that (I know of adult strategies, but they don't really work for a child with limited reasoning skills). How can I help him find good ways to deal with his emotions?",6.890585106382978,6.873910496453902,6.766019503546102,77.94562500000002,64.60283687943263,9.886879432624113,34.64627659574468,9.516144504307137,3.170410638297872,584,24,107,10,8,185,82,141,0.135,0.7040000000000001,0.162,0.8402,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,3,3,6,0,2,9,0,10,0,0,3,0,21,22,5,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,7,9,4,0,1,9,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,5,15,3,16,22,3,8,0,2,2,0,18,2,0,5,6,68,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912602685649334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434180153266094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840072486586494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12613497872639462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139316417639348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368298919920038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128638429842424,0.0,0.0,0.1255675015314359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410846463320206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010372328282486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16455059249596252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627899062617322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571654850295091,0.0,0.0,0.38182774689054144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141855587657764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14337834876423486,0.15230629174082422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959064223534382,0.15392418657097262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498832685076644,0.0,0.11929745048942357,0.2725760695056994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872956147382775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883080104759475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089888025218436,0.3040703534974946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928133716695788
parenting,TheFleshIsDead,2019/03/15,"Another PSA regarding mental health, this is about behavioural problems This post is about children who have behavioural problems either at home or at school and are not diagnosed on the Autism spectrum or ADHD. You could have child psychologists tell you they will grow out of it or he/she is just spoilt or even to give in to the child's demands, as silly at it seems this does happen.

The truth is some but not all will grow out of this, Oppositional Defiant Disorder is not always diagnosed because child psychologists or counselors simply don't like dealing with it.  Most people don't get diagnosed until they are adults and in jail despite being in and out of the mental health system at some point in their lives.

The treatment for this is DBT which you can get a self-help workbook on and as this is personal development I would put it at a higher priority than their homework.  

If you want to minimise your child's chances of being a maladjusted adult the sooner you can intervene the better. Teach them to recognise their emotions, teach them to recognise them in others, amongst other skills this therapy brings  It's simply too common for early signs of pervasive behavioural disorders to be ignored by teacher's who aren't mental health experts but even child psychologists a lot of the time.  

You can get DBT books on amazon they teach people of all ages the skills they need to regulate their behaviour so they can better respond to reward and punishment.  

If you even know a child who could use it, perhaps they bully your child, perhaps you've heard of them from neighbors, putting a suggestion for DBT in to their mailbox or with a teacher could in the longrun make one less post in /r/imatotalpeiceofshit  

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/23628528/",9.916407728706623,9.471210236593064,8.366527996845427,70.3669528785489,58.621451104100935,11.079574132492112,38.10902996845426,10.270032843473604,3.9126026813880133,1443,58,235,25,16,436,163,317,0.073,0.862,0.065,-0.5669,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,9,15,5,8,10,1,0,17,0,27,6,0,2,3,46,40,19,0,10,15,0,0,1,1,3,6,1,4,11,19,10,0,1,2,1,0,5,6,4,0,1,1,1,25,6,49,30,8,33,0,0,0,0,45,20,0,13,6,170,44,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308594878997202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060165011359124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417618195224068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637573044017965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926011595717996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26080918616431936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112256406597077,0.0,0.33155017213474103,0.0,0.0,0.2495849602689389,0.0,0.0952866361957629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248179076609167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21575399345491092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706648996843431,0.1044531141060796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628729154423173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472213181729513,0.0,0.0,0.07298380968657121,0.0,0.10922126530986236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059840749665954186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05319606770582773,0.0,0.09614809457477416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257075395723796,0.0,0.0,0.07268207036647123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291936172909379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073738919770357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378378871397395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097531054603425,0.09507481962215042,0.0,0.0,0.10293220994141958,0.0,0.20856486131774868,0.0,0.0,0.20837787677104386,0.0,0.21892046642157853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019817201285974,0.0,0.09912547923897937,0.11359156361023312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517092745747134,0.0,0.12452032187738747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06349214486866121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940423105576161,0.0,0.0,0.06422362475660645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734929859283914,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,starky_poki,2019/03/15,"Baby #4? Is it crazy?

My twins are 3 yrs old and my youngest turned one last December... I told my husband that I would only possibly consider another one after our loans are all paid, we build a house and become financially stable.

But then my parents told me that would most definitely take a while so it's better to have another while I'm still young (turning 29 late this year). Honestly, the only reason why I've suddenly become more open to another was because I have my parents support.

I'm already crazy with three. What will happen with another? Will the craziness multiply, or will it be relatively the same? I always thought we'd be a family of three, definitely not five, much less six. Is this just the hormones? Is this just baby fever? 

Someone knock some sense into me please. 

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parenting,Matt41834,2019/03/15,"Worried about extebded use of bonjela Hi there,

I have been using baby bonjela with my child since he was teething a few months back. 

I've been using it every night as a bit of a ritual, after his bath and before he goes to bed. He hasn't got all his teeth and I assumed it would help him. 

I feel terrible because I just realised it's not meant for prolonged use. I've been using just a tiny bit every night for months. Maybe 6 months. Fuck. I feel terrible. 

Please tell me this isn't super bad? I know it was banned in parts of Europe. 

I've stopped use now but worried. Thanks. ",0.7100840336134446,3.0518912268907563,2.1031512605042018,95.12346638655464,86.31092436974791,4.7445378151260496,19.42436974789916,6.18269132825596,-0.05195126050420162,452,13,97,4,14,145,78,119,0.141,0.779,0.08,-0.6121,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,4,0,9,3,2,6,1,22,22,4,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,5,3,0,2,5,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,7,2,11,2,11,14,5,10,1,0,0,1,10,1,1,1,9,52,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989552458812072,0.10745140380592348,0.07844868890556056,0.0,0.10950635275737244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809939445483291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168550205213535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013982344849145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189725279707017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292575174570508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625869942635868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07072507260241401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928715916357747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081591951296725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415351089299689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935954528269395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126380230047691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645432119807888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759123236634384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248139088568702,0.11848115572968315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6668849517107842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613834140752749,0.0,0.09141821901066116,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FaeSynful,2019/03/15,"My child has been misbehaving but here is a back story I need help Back story: I have a 2.5 year old who goes to school because he has certian disabilities.. anyway DHS recently shut off his Medicaid because no one told me they needed a copy of his social security card.. I had a csection when I had him right? So you any mom whom has had a csection how drugged up you feel after and how hazy those first few days are... I have a Medicaid worker (I guess or dhs) come ask if I wanna put him on Medicaid I say yes i have my husband help me apply since i was soo tired and not once did they mention i need to give them his social security card or anything and I didnt receive it until I was leaving or later idk which I just know they had me apply for him like a day after he was born... anyway 2.5 years go by his school tells him his Medicaid has been shut off so I'm like what?? I call DHS they tell me the copy was due in 2017 I tell them no one called told me hey I need a copy of your child's social security card nothing no letter nothing at all not even all the times I went to them for food stamp renewal and Medicaid renewals no one told me at all so now I have to wait the 45 days to get it back on... meanwhile he has had about 5 or 6 ear infection in the last 5 months or so and I'm sitting worrying about what will happen if he needs medical attention because he keeps getting ear infections anyway onto my questions I need help with... my son has had bad behavior for the past week at school I keep getting notes on it but I try fix it at home but nothing is working so they suggested play therapy I was like ok sign him up but as I am about to do so his Medicaid is shut off now I have to wait for him to get the help he needs
 question time: my question is this does anyone have any advice on how to deal with your child whom is misbehaving I tried alot of things idk how to do play therapy at home so any advice would be welcomed I really am worried they will kick him out because of his behavior 

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parenting,oopsdidntmeantoo,2019/03/15,"Wife accidentally took edible and is breastfeeding...what to do? Long story short, I was given edibles and I put them in the cabinet, Wife was baby brained (Lack of sleep and all that..) and took was she thought was a piece of candy...started chewing...and spit it out before she swallowed it... Looks like what she took down in saliva was enough to get her high though, and she's very concerned about it. 

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When will she be able to start breastfeeding again? Our son is 1 month old and we supplement with formula as it is.",5.212257142857143,6.470669540000002,5.203428571428573,83.20100000000002,68.6,8.914285714285715,28.285714285714285,9.23628265651192,2.2286714285714284,414,14,81,8,7,129,71,100,0.025,0.945,0.03,0.1179,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,11,4,3,0,1,12,19,9,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,11,1,12,7,4,16,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,0,7,55,17,0,0.18130548786591505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964444203540862,0.22030601263165175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427761639372856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023968857832394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873370349773583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472463430188996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155920229236625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857670327735333,0.0,0.0,0.16044965141035686,0.1522509468534223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471631065932236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19024961064946114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226209221701176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18143642452094305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566579149714389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1781317212900198,0.14393630534601784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6043112043392472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149596015336126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030601263165175,0.0
parenting,Dazzee_Gren,2019/03/15,"Discipline for 5 y/o from step parent I’m sorry if this is the wrong place for this or anything like that but I’m not really sure where else to ask. I’m a step father to a 5 year old boy. We have an amazing relationship. He can’t be around me enough and I absolutely love him and his mother. But I have noticed that lately he has been getting more and more out of control. His mother will ask him to do something and he refuses. When it’s bed time he screams and yells and refuses to sleep. When it’s time to eat he won’t eat anything besides sweets and throws temper tantrums. He scratches and hits and when told not to he Laughs and keeps doing it. How do I help to correct this behavior?? I absolutely refuse to raise my voice or do any sort of physical punishment. I’m a pretty large man and am aware I could intimidate him, but I refuse for that to happen. I grew up in an abusive home and will not let anything similar happen in our home. But I honestly have no idea what to do. His mom is overwhelmed and doesn’t know how to handle it. I would like to be able to help her with some ideas on things she or we can do to help him. Thanks for any advice. ",1.9652105470287324,3.6447006528925634,3.4348642266824108,90.96147382920113,77.59504132231405,6.758284140102322,22.680834317197966,7.62386473244151,0.7952933490751666,906,27,203,13,21,298,135,242,0.147,0.691,0.162,0.7918,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,1,7,15,3,1,6,0,25,4,1,3,2,47,40,26,0,3,11,5,1,2,0,4,0,3,3,2,12,18,2,7,3,0,0,4,7,6,0,0,2,5,23,9,28,29,4,20,0,1,0,1,38,8,0,6,10,129,35,0,0.12569859080574822,0.148932275719135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283120815455704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095870427250634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31031769005725346,0.11189839546593308,0.23502242868178586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098165795676826,0.1003600965709663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25724207816375355,0.1050050433273209,0.0,0.0,0.12988024565365658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567232567799093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230969744710413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25275934741354755,0.0,0.2521718708296141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837968178692629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172668300952776,0.0,0.0,0.06908065820469703,0.0,0.1417934854741214,0.0,0.0,0.1285353254389612,0.0,0.12281996437323912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134478858028298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472166703535007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310867875699465,0.13189952627173246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957340966447246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313282738107258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788065630855636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052573596653248,0.0,0.0,0.13495324514096718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257893688247457,0.0,0.0,0.09676891627978572,0.0,0.14070928131183186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846943425269944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157263742756534,0.0,0.0,0.08350855837436487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659171828024445,0.0,0.0,0.12011039020966074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929267243964717,0.1374316765507209,0.0,0.08094577128871902
parenting,taylorc71317,2019/03/15,"Have you ever gotten Pregnant after PLAN B!!!! so im suppose to get my period in 5 days. I took a cheap test this morning and it was negative (I may have put too much in the sample) but after a while a curved second line appeared.
the only reason I took a test so soon is because I never usually PMS . my period comes its spotty to heavy for 3-4 days then its done. only time ive experienced cramps was during my heaviest period days 
im worrying because I had the signs of implantation bleeding (small amount of pinkish and brownish cm) for just a day last week. these last couple days I've been feeling sharp tingles on my side and lower abdomen sometimes near my cervix.  bleeding 2/7/19 (also got a negative test on this day)
I really thinking its impossible that im pregnant because I took a plan b in January .however, my partner and I have had unprotected a few times since then.
but to my understanding plan b only delays your ovulation so I should have at least gotten my February period. but nothing. last periods 1/19/19 took planB 1/28/19 (Weren't really trying to have a baby)
I also thought maybe ovulation symptoms but my cm is clear/whitish watery. a couple time I thought my AF came full throttle but just cm
but again I took a test and it was negative at first. until I was gonna throw it away and saw a dark pink curved line 
I guessing an evaporations line or bad test ?  could this all just be my period ????",3.7037968921676345,5.601524823104699,5.252082875529741,78.8585229948203,73.33212996389892,8.427499607596923,28.288965625490505,9.085049710711278,2.5602580128708206,1124,45,206,25,23,379,152,277,0.108,0.885,0.006999999999999999,-0.983,2,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,0,4,12,1,0,0,16,0,21,7,1,1,3,34,41,22,0,2,10,0,2,0,1,3,6,0,0,1,11,8,0,1,6,0,1,10,5,1,0,2,21,6,28,0,20,15,6,54,0,0,2,0,3,12,0,4,32,134,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542601756340272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906168428289097,0.0,0.08053073739682379,0.17638291939273545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031175769333183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830821196778637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700653596500423,0.213437573310603,0.0,0.3732090656631152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987006308501618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724348096980504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04876742218244398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203931841342693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05039052852695942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713893343054792,0.0,0.106249250769322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31254383420615833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358559874604027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689580493697987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090098144675785,0.0,0.07438727712761166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925452455996908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200610250156089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695770508835204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235751697076214,0.09916545217127276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978346193264929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539035078885792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002472552749513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06180051047218465,0.0,0.15313918188352274,0.16872025055202758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5357909482547785,0.06548241882451399,0.0,0.0,0.10040662477437637,0.0,0.0,0.10622475084613857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736542701386744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794846010946592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,donicosan,2019/03/15,"Need advice about family cars Hi there,

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I currently have a Suzuki Swift which is a great car and love it. But with the first baby coming along the way, we had a rethink about our car usage. 

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We wanted to get an SUV type of car. We were originally going to get Honda CR-V but found out that their 2017 to 2018 models have an issue with their oil diffusing. Basically their oil gets mixed with the gas. So not a good risk. [https://www.cars.com/articles/honda-cr-v-fuel-oil-defect-fix-coming-late-1420703403599/](https://www.cars.com/articles/honda-cr-v-fuel-oil-defect-fix-coming-late-1420703403599/)

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Anyway, anyone has any experience with other cars? any recommendations or experiences? 

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Thanks!",11.649002647837598,16.489753194174767,7.422983230361872,58.52120035304503,60.74757281553398,7.240600176522506,21.984995586937334,8.296473431620573,1.6055514563106792,621,13,76,9,11,169,76,103,0.033,0.841,0.126,0.8459,1,0,0,0,0,0,67.0,4,0,3,1,5,5,0,1,9,0,6,1,0,1,0,20,16,5,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,11,0,0,2,0,0,7,1,1,0,1,3,2,8,4,12,13,0,12,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,3,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256310318619882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548849595251917,0.510138651219883,0.14274918801431166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338861627777861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904114594965449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205336847057492,0.09894444427085827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927666437277902,0.0,0.11508031181794665,0.0,0.0,0.1645076430376106,0.0,0.059649678129132785,0.08803324164711687,0.0,0.11571584382643688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095481998146217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367929144442525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472810202445324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782454169832408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663062217269376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190656166313342,0.08331025540971243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.510138651219883,0.0
parenting,JadziaK,2019/03/16,"At my wits end How do you handle toddlers (2 and 3 year old) who will want something but then when you give it to them they emphatically say no? But then when you say “ok” and remove it, they have a meltdown, but still continue to say no when offered again.  This goes on ad nauseam until they finally take it. 

After a while I have to walk away and let my husband handle it so I don’t completely loose my mind. But I feel like there’s a better way to handle their indecisiveness and I’m grasping at straws trying to figure out the right words. 

Any suggestions?",3.2537400793650804,4.8685626875000025,4.540119047619047,84.6771031746032,73.91071428571429,7.477777777777778,24.051587301587304,8.167268648758528,1.2928539682539686,439,13,90,7,9,145,77,112,0.108,0.7979999999999999,0.094,-0.3909,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,5,1,8,4,0,1,4,1,6,0,0,1,0,17,11,17,0,1,4,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,6,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,4,14,3,12,9,0,24,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,16,63,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506630490543025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081555237555229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959448590444015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322931981996909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622943133238954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202341628431542,0.15827688941542434,0.0,0.2426995343612867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253299581132232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22655206851535925,0.0,0.1082391820642086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22370449879899396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324816964597593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892043126340034,0.0,0.5285614502874855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17056165747669078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693182109336694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665796329147355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15041935650892754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067718936097586,0.17585777225242868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426723109806807
parenting,fox_loves_hound,2019/03/16,"Toilet Training Stress Have got a bright and bubbly nearly 3 year old. He's been in undies during the day for nearly a fortnight. He's doing pretty good I think, but still a lot of accidents - especially when we are not at home. 90% of pees at home make it to the toilet, but in public it's more like 50%.

He often flat out refuses to go to the toilet unless he thinks he needs to pee (and then if I don't persist will have an accident soon after), except in public this can lead to a full on melt down. He's also not very good at telling us when he needs to poo, and we're 50/50 success with toilet with that.

My point of stress is we're going overseas for a holiday in two weeks. I'm terrified of the plane ride, and day to day when over there. All the books say to not go back to nappies, and he is making progress, but I'm worried we won't be able to enjoy our holiday. Flights and accommodation we're organised months ago, so no chance to change the dates.

Does anyone have any words of advice or experience that can speak of?",3.470704225352115,4.337556821596245,4.684150234741786,86.7712957746479,72.33333333333333,7.557934272300469,23.58967136150235,7.793537801064563,0.9542634741784046,805,20,174,10,15,266,131,213,0.104,0.741,0.154,0.8958,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,4,10,8,0,2,12,0,14,2,2,3,1,33,26,18,0,3,10,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,5,11,0,1,2,3,0,5,6,2,0,1,2,3,7,6,37,21,4,37,0,0,1,0,18,15,0,4,18,106,12,3,0.14973916016956082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632337430178086,0.13273473074638287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974635228832928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182776368989634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10470110239944616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514017132364207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584041767553052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28970811209316205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103774813877625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647363133794078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25530064639398503,0.2511882064477853,0.11976008532020398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004011732698487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315499004171487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730287925311992,0.0,0.0,0.19990410431363256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952036905242534,0.0,0.0,0.2220593798554404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571260597600029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155190633407153,0.0,0.0,0.15233855809225036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907859025664652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958188673736975,0.0,0.34305140411683915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087862600884234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918936152687332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627340153470786,0.0,0.1801177727874734,0.0,0.0,0.1235504890933611,0.0,0.0,0.12011172216111575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206738566399328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642710975798666
parenting,arielle93,2019/03/16,"Teaching a 4 year old bouto wipe their own bums Okay soooo, how do you do it? Do you teach them to wipe WHILE sitting down, or do they have to get up?should they do front-to-back or back-to-front? The problem with wiping while sitting down is that my son usually sits far back on his potty seat, so he wouldn’t have space to put his hand on the backside and wipe. Or should it be from back to front, sitting down, open legs a bit, put their hand in between their legs and reach their butt?

Yikes. ",3.6336554621848727,4.362251637254904,3.281092436974792,97.49205882352943,71.84313725490195,6.220728291316527,23.394957983193283,5.288315135182226,-0.021892436974790368,385,9,91,1,7,114,64,102,0.026,0.872,0.102,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,7,0,4,2,0,0,4,1,11,5,5,1,0,11,12,9,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,12,1,13,9,2,23,0,0,0,1,13,9,1,3,7,55,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7129468256444771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25306104164445475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110376845324967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432307600468989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22179733078625008,0.0,0.4660377181992128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552903890180954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926893241888042
parenting,gboss3,2019/03/16,"Is this my place? Or do I shut up... Hi reddit. First time I’ve posted on here for advice. I’ll give a bit of background... 
I have a friend (24f) who I’ve (24f) known since our college days. We’ve been extremely close and together through so much since we met. 
She has a boyfriend she’s been seeing on and off for two years now. I dont know him (we live in different provinces) and I’ve never met him. When they first started hooking up, she told me she wasn’t about to start a relationship with him because of his drug habits. 
This past January they decided they were going to give a relationship a try. I was supportive of this because people change, etc. 
It’s now March and she has found out she is pregnant. She keeps telling me that “she thinks she is 100% sure this is what she wants.”
I am a person who isn’t even sure if I ever want children... so maybe that makes me biased? I don’t feel like I can be supportive. But i dont know if it’s my place to voice that. A life is the most serious thing, and I am so pro-choice (as is she). What do I do? Do I put my own opinions and thoughts about this aside and “act supportive” ? 
Please don’t be polite with your thoughts. If I’m being an asshole- let me know. ",0.7488233505624821,2.7722875019762867,2.19709486166008,96.64206369717242,83.07114624505928,5.6314381270903,20.40270598966251,6.8449194561589275,0.14688580115536665,930,27,219,11,26,300,139,253,0.016,0.8909999999999999,0.093,0.941,1,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,3,1,3,2,11,8,0,0,10,0,30,2,0,1,4,38,55,17,0,5,5,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,0,2,15,13,0,1,10,0,0,3,7,1,0,3,11,3,41,7,21,40,5,29,0,0,1,0,36,11,0,6,15,146,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1112770250821982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388339031021457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432166366947155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046431839093065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343975175927565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897480972791158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669205674571761,0.0,0.13205848277270313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700037614298212,0.0752131560300135,0.10300617280536976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757846272016388,0.08135209832861957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937234992320616,0.0,0.1248577153655782,0.08797929981381712,0.0,0.0,0.21847795009337406,0.06471760821501486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012170530143953,0.0,0.0,0.18774764779809686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644458153356647,0.0804330582945019,0.05563341947658181,0.0,0.10055343389162716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601223706017188,0.0,0.1144024277402265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371099669329682,0.0,0.08782717788369349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870627283864208,0.07894636901229612,0.09943098333789037,0.2379496194558232,0.12500020914329732,0.0,0.0,0.10906047117928487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447551168435667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445175923952403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074338122179153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18839663377689908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120217751704946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3876709320992346,0.21465108753507567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09953149466791883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565328131519851,0.07296630063810876,0.0,0.18080756128731926,0.06640124507848091,0.0,0.0,0.10881214232766764,0.0,0.07731343676538951,0.0,0.1112390214420994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343324802182491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333156416290194
parenting,DialMforMurder,2019/03/16,"How do kids communicate with each other these days? When I was in elementary school and I wanted to have a friend over, I would look up their last name in the phone book and dial every number until I found my friend and then we could talk or arrange a time/place to play.

I have a 6 year old who is always talking about wanting to have his friends over and making plans with them at school, but I don’t have a way of getting in touch with their parents. I’ve tried sending a note with my phone number on it with him to school to give to his friends with mixed results. I ask him to ask his friends for their phone numbers but I think most kids don’t have theirs memorized because it would just be their parents’ cell phone, which is the case with my kid too.

One friend that we had over was a year older and his mom told me that he communicates with his friends over Fortnight. Do kids ever talk directly to each other now besides over video games? Is there some kind of chat app that I can set him up on to be in touch with his friends? Do kids talk on the phone to each other? Should I set him up with email?

I feel like an idiot asking this stuff but I’m a person with a couple of close friends that I see maybe once a month, whereas he seems to be craving a social life that I’m not sure how to help him foster.

We’ve also had a poor record with school events this year so I haven’t had much opportunity to get in touch with other parents in person. I suppose that would be the best way to make connections with the other parents? Maybe I’m overthinking this, but I’d love to hear what others do.",4.803636363636365,4.8563676969696985,4.861969696969698,89.59295454545456,69.0,7.56969696969697,25.893939393939394,6.742157984588678,0.7868303030303032,1260,31,281,8,20,392,160,330,0.032,0.797,0.171,0.9934,4,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,6,3,11,17,1,0,17,0,30,2,0,5,2,54,52,17,0,7,7,5,4,1,9,4,1,1,0,7,22,25,0,0,5,5,1,1,4,1,0,1,7,7,37,16,53,36,7,38,0,0,2,1,67,19,0,4,15,189,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06484113557937146,0.06746660434177985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274017865805168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04942675037253502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509041159523233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647372689481519,0.08971553786894612,0.0,0.05229109311946668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334318601322287,0.06831496559007602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040997425558366656,0.05792489826367862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890207638863226,0.5637928075801066,0.0,0.08472385250965661,0.07778111008824236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913851510875197,0.0,0.054347462825525404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443428184120037,0.0,0.06609253921076218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05727051685778702,0.039612502067544894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808834291486704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317954591268988,0.0,0.10824554471156418,0.0,0.16291525662194709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496209656979444,0.06471876851467266,0.0,0.05960449781421926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508177451133712,0.08634953658061978,0.05494316796396203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36012724850539823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415951084836033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282366915418341,0.06461174614257391,0.0738138817518326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265274721524958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281933308404504,0.0,0.0,0.0764186951726302,0.0,0.0,0.2606821167217723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051953983092929486,0.0,0.0,0.04727948565279329,0.0,0.0,0.07747719362717043,0.0,0.055049261802200516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564836568465357,0.128718015677738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279468478999924,0.0,0.0,0.15664218185844286
parenting,Metal_Daddy,2019/03/16,"My 4 year old learned to ride a bike with pedals in about 10 minutes To start with I just have to say I am super excited and have to brag about my boy. He's four and a half and we bought him his first pedal bike today and we did not get training wheels. He's been riding balance bikes for a couple years and it took him about 10 minutes to figure out how to pedal and balance together. We ended up riding to the park, which is 5 blocks away, and then he spent 45 minutes riding around the basketball court. By the end he was super comfortable and was riding around without really paying any attention to what he was doing, he looked like an old pro.

If you aren't familiar with balance bikes they are amazing. They are just bikes with no pedals and you start with them when they are really young. The theory is that they can learn to balance at an earlier age than they can learn to pedal. At first he would just push around on it but it didn't take long before he was picking up his feet for long distances. Then he learned how to pedal on his trike and big wheel, and sure enough today he put the two together like it was nothing. 

I've already called all of my close family and posted on facebook so I thought I would share with the r/Parenting community, because I know some of you will share my joy.

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parenting,Mr-home-owner,2019/03/16,"First time Father at 45. My GF and I might be pregnant, I’ve not had children, never been against them, but I own my own business and have always been career driven.   
With that, is 45 too old to have a child?   
She’s 33.  
I find myself worrying to death about the elevated developmental risks of being an older father. ",2.4247311827957034,4.665642225806452,4.2367741935483885,83.09182795698926,78.35483870967741,6.068817204301076,21.623655913978496,7.1686216300943375,0.7745075268817208,246,7,47,3,6,83,51,62,0.173,0.8270000000000001,0.0,-0.9022,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,3,0,9,0,0,0,1,8,10,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,4,0,8,0,7,3,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,5,37,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32778572712092324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600497274844745,0.3350811649605521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179031002488012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3038271887213057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133688303276082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297068413891847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000604192513676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iatentded,2019/03/16,"Thank goodness for youtube. I know that most of the time when it comes to kids and YouTube it's grim and anxiety inducing stuff. Everybody knows too much screen time is bad, and predators abound, then there's weird questionable content everywhere. But today when my eight year old sensitive soul kid was absolutely distraught because he lost the instructions for his lego set and his baby sister smashed it and there was *no way* to fix it, YouTube saved the day. In less than five minutes I was able to pull up a video on his tablet showing the exact instructions to rebuild it and he's now happily putting it back together. So anyway what could've been a night ruining accident was solved in moments and damn that's cool. Despite what my playgroup circle thinks, it's not all bad.",6.316620689655171,7.746183455172418,5.445689655172416,81.84577586206899,66.17241379310346,9.386206896551725,34.5,9.642632912329526,3.2847793103448275,631,29,115,13,10,189,103,145,0.184,0.7170000000000001,0.099,-0.9184,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,9,12,1,1,6,1,6,0,0,1,2,19,12,12,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,12,8,0,0,5,2,0,3,2,8,0,2,6,2,7,4,12,6,4,22,1,3,1,0,9,4,1,2,13,69,19,2,0.2187655630052354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673550569113275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682172143587073,0.3653202145314004,0.13335745669944704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884471617022456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17466650094380545,0.0,0.0,0.14108569011490074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834901749869558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404556644278893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388084544677223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081786029714165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20529666129475246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295576580452789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21991981427420804,0.2450674974169621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25043423043860996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014099383348867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017613940747928,0.0,0.0,0.25512791810881624,0.0,0.20736417414308927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364592121477052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087785006464718
parenting,bounceb-all,2019/03/16,"Who else is hiding in bathroom browsing Reddit right now? I more day until March break is over! 
My spouse has been sick so we didnt get our planned outings. Kids are bonkers, arguing, yelling and have had WAY too much screen time. 

So now, I'm pretending to have tummy issues so I can hide in the bathroom until bedtime!

Yay parenting?",2.5701785714285705,5.217472625000003,2.9100892857142884,90.48312500000002,80.5625,5.5321428571428575,26.330357142857146,6.868970318607317,1.2352482142857149,264,11,50,3,7,81,54,64,0.162,0.7659999999999999,0.07200000000000001,-0.7475,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,1,1,10,1,0,0,0,2,12,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,5,1,6,9,2,13,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,7,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26441633377889845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425027166700508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21420828221209698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279338868714944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013974627143722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4552569140509625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501380938025758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23907452519116765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32543922651458024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pinchmedaddy,2019/03/16,"Getting them to talk! I have two girls, my eldest is 3 and my youngest is 27 months.

I’ve found my youngest isn’t as far along verbally as I think she should be and I’m waiting on the health visitor to get back to me for her two year review so I can follow up with her but me and my husband are still on the fence about it.

The main issue is she’s never been expected to verbalise her wants, because her sister can ask for things; we think my youngest understands that if her sister is asking for something (drink, cookie etc) that she will get one as well. According to milestones she should have over 100 words in her vocabulary right now but we don’t hear it! She babbles and follows cadences with babbles so you can kind of understand her meaning but nothing close to what her sister was doing at her age.

Here’s where it gets conspiratorial...

I’ve heard her counting over the baby monitor, she can count to 8, I’ve heard her reciting her ABCs under her breath, I expressed my worries to my mum and then when my mum started talking to my youngest she was repeating words back like she’s been speaking them for months!

We’ve been making a conscious effort to address her directly with open questions which is coming a long very well (does Jd want some juice? What colour purple or orange? Would Jd like an apple or an orange?) and we are actively trying to engage her vocally (we fully admit it’s our fault for allowing her sister to take the reigns or just automatically presuming what she would like rather than asking).  My concern is I was born half deaf, my loving and very observant parents /s didn’t notice until I was six and it delayed my speech, how I used to eat and I still automatically lip read to this day and now I’m worried my youngest may have the same problem but I’m not sure, I can whisper to her and she looks up, she responds to questions if pushed to answer (or it’s her precious nana!!! Yes I’m bitter!) so I’m still doubtful.

So my youngest is either super stubborn and refusing to speak to us peasants or there could be cause for concern. We will more than likely follow up with a health visit and see if we are referred for speech therapy in all honesty as I’m so concerned this will hold her back with her peers! Will parenting always be this hard?? Is running to the Bahamas still an option?? 😂 Thanks for the rant! 

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parenting,Bryanne419,2019/03/16,"Having trouble navigating my 3 year olds nap schedule. And he definitely still needs a nap. We have always been very sleep focused.  So my son naps at daycare every day, results with a later bedtime of 8pmi—unless some big event exhausted him, he is awake in bed TIL 9:30.(fine with us though the 7pm bedtime used to be the best)—awake at 7-7:30am every day.

Weekends, if we get him to nap, he naps 2 hours or more, then asleep 8:30-9 and up at 7am

But if we don’t have a nap-because he refuses or fights it— he can’t even make it to 5pm, and we straight up have put him to bed at that time-only for him to be wide awake at midnight or 4:45am.   He can’t make it to 6:30-7pm (has fallen asleep with his head in food). 

We are quite active, today we went cross country skiing in the morning than tried to convince him to nap after lunch(it used to be so easy) and he refused. Currently having a 5pm cat nap on the couch, because we couldn’t keep him awake. But there is no way I’m putting him to bed and ruining my night, we will wake him for supper and bed at 8pm. Wish me luck. 

Sorry just a rant. Any pointers would be good!",3.759873417721522,3.910846506329115,4.662295358649789,89.77774683544304,71.27848101265823,7.332658227848103,27.19240506329114,6.742157984588678,0.9885321518987348,870,27,199,6,15,283,141,237,0.086,0.825,0.08900000000000001,0.4335,1,0,0,0,1,0,38.0,9,0,0,1,7,7,1,0,9,0,20,8,5,5,0,39,30,18,0,6,8,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,5,0,3,17,2,3,0,9,0,5,5,4,0,0,2,0,22,3,31,21,2,37,0,1,0,0,29,15,0,7,16,109,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530059165311364,0.0,0.0,0.11057714402497892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982452988152959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706441749242211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20973386481437534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739923216767254,0.0,0.2740038676401997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966229102820567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495453034523706,0.0,0.0,0.136385566545192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687989517795315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013341409765872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453101491556586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170805302293628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056973038881008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259400925696254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706268537240128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269263704875044,0.0,0.17295069580617067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627226787022627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202326148270825,0.0,0.0,0.1298567604097239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15975882972060584,0.0,0.09481642724260264,0.0,0.1541307613537978,0.0,0.0,0.1103982891175754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559409125033245,0.2808774507510339,0.0,0.13416635828749668,0.0,0.1290684765264508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15073669316867158,0.0,0.0,0.18698800939441432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551010219398378,0.0,0.0,0.1047124479340728
parenting,dondox,2019/03/16,"What song are you currently sick of? My two year old is learning the ABCs and when he gets going it turns into a competition between him and his four year old brother. 

After the tenth rendition, the remixes really get to you. ",5.3434108527131805,6.611556209302329,6.1906976744186055,76.20759689922484,68.30232558139535,9.454263565891472,30.6124031007752,9.725611199111238,2.9994403100775187,179,7,32,4,3,59,37,43,0.07400000000000001,0.926,0.0,-0.5106,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,5,0,5,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,7,24,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3300069237246192,0.0,0.17948837893256758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6628021233646775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023230495694337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435226085017252,0.30851127202280154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067567989366807
parenting,ouchitforrealburns,2019/03/16,"Hair pulling.. Help me. I have a 19 month old little boy. He is the light of my life. He is very strong willed and stubborn (gets that from me), recently he started pulling my hair. Like, yanking it as hard as he can until I yell out in pain. I know he’s doing it for a reaction and I try to not give him one, but he just yanks so hard! I wear my hair in a bun, ponytail, down, doesn’t matter he’ll go for it anyway. Every time I gently unravel his fingers and look him in the eye and very sternly, but calmly, say we don’t pull hair. He might get upset or give me a nod, but the second I let my guard down I lose a chunk of hair. 

I am at my wits end. Does anyone have something that worked for them? It’s so hard because I know he doesn’t have impulse control yet but I need to protect my scalp! ",0.12962257735464533,1.8542601329479813,2.0886501190071414,98.21339680380824,83.50867052023122,4.764229853791226,19.425025501530094,5.5289334501034215,-0.43586405984359056,605,16,148,3,17,201,104,173,0.09,0.802,0.108,0.6157,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,1,4,5,7,1,1,8,0,14,11,9,1,0,21,25,14,0,1,7,0,9,1,0,3,2,2,0,1,6,6,0,4,2,0,0,4,4,4,0,2,0,14,25,3,18,21,0,20,0,1,2,0,19,8,0,2,9,88,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184299665869161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032485808854354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899669062944946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14821998792805535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001474614274707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14270457186139593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698144168567012,0.3249572013444492,0.09625892605761667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.455176459893409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352756086868875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616661364498702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17319599213880066,0.11963359006153985,0.08274739069368482,0.16975685375458813,0.0,0.0,0.14223117497741242,0.18948574604615867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967863483972893,0.0,0.0,0.13519239997428614,0.0,0.0,0.1255883860528016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772911250081888,0.0,0.1147719418912356,0.0,0.1802254632883664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723600697384575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469269322026084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303920802008083,0.0,0.0,0.11988351326571732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098763114342972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499356354663985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27950193378673144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330600566638306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ebsj55,2019/03/16,"Wipes or washcloth on face? My friends and I had a “robust” discussion yesterday about what we use on kids faces and hands after a meal in the high chair.. 

One was a wipes person after every meal cause they cleaned so damn well.  Another was disgusted at this cause “who knows what the f@#$ those unpronounceable chemicals do to their thin skin on the face and if it gets into their mouths...?!”

...suffice to say she was a washcloth rinsed in water sort of person - a new one every meal, vs another again who said that was too much washing and why add so much to the pile of shit you need to wash already.  She simply used a wash cloth and rinsed it out and hung it to dry over the oven door handle for reuse and washed it every couple of days. 

So now I am curious what people have near their high chair..wipes or wash cloth - once or reuse - or some other fancy cleaning method..??  



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parenting,rylee10312012,2019/03/16,"What should we do about this bullying situation? My daughter is 6 shes in kindergarten. She rides the school but every day morning and afternoon. The morning ride is about an hour long and the afternoon is about 30 mins. Theres a boy on the bus a year older than her and hes been causing her problems on the bus all year. The 1st incident he put his arm around her neck in a choke hold. We called the transportation department to file an incident report. They then give the report to the vice principal and they deal with disipline. The boy was talked to they called me to tell me it was taken care of, the end.  Well a bit later on she was telling me how he is constantly hitting her and kicking her and yelling in her face etc so I called and filed a complaint again. Vice principal called said he talked to the boy it wont happen again etc. I didnt believe it so I called transportation and asked to speak to the bus driver I told her the problems hes causing and can they please get separated a bit. She moved my daughter back a few seats and it seemed to solve the problem. She wasnt complaining about this boy anymore until this week. They had a sub driver on Friday and this boy took advantage of that and moved to my daughters seat and spit into her mouth. That is so disgusting and I cant believe that happened to her.  I called and filed a complaint against this boy yet again. I wont hear anything from the vice principal until monday but I need some advice. How should I handle this? I am scared that every time theres a sub this problem is just going to continue. What if she gets sick from this? This is her only way she can get to and from school so I dont have any other option in that regards and if she cant take the bus im going to have to pull her out and homeschool her. They do not have a monitor on the bus because they cant hire enough people for that job. They just recently put a camera on the bus and Im hoping they look at the footage.  How would you guys handle this?",2.4610087360087363,4.350309257985259,3.3154811629811647,91.4286571799072,76.81326781326781,6.487824187824187,23.34486759486759,7.3871296695380915,0.8280898716898721,1576,49,336,20,36,500,180,407,0.103,0.848,0.049,-0.9787,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,2,1,9,1,22,11,1,1,34,0,34,6,5,5,1,51,55,33,0,11,7,3,0,0,0,5,1,4,0,7,23,25,0,1,1,0,0,13,9,7,1,0,11,5,52,4,43,38,8,53,0,0,1,0,66,14,0,6,25,231,75,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828203961171194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763546504281921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405295869449919,0.0,0.0,0.06974512530602814,0.07544881774424549,0.07923332731263545,0.0,0.0,0.06517041206519641,0.0,0.051665107154472915,0.0,0.0,0.19097693504838825,0.0,0.0,0.18505831591811875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5192584072215192,0.0,0.08641210972946457,0.174130921813625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158870827438524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05465916551016027,0.08737740793438062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933077880308172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750666776022429,0.08757329309412593,0.1890456983625386,0.0,0.0,0.14281740113858046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284102896081204,0.08130353213623154,0.09633503311507097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839195501519151,0.1498949451028668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552365040546863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417961000590994,0.0834653840248219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309721531229,0.0,0.08410503187119876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500441304362346,0.07117181498182884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015967391995585,0.0,0.06284384121438903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445905576967588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058757587640187875,0.0,0.0,0.09303418049074742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243916190632401,0.0,0.17040188154571867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368411600714548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062023685101738,0.0,0.0848533019887105,0.17155066550725334,0.0,0.07715664253572149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526678044463216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372428189902428,0.1362437282663139,0.14815704874275482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049420600667634935,0.0,0.0,0.08098585240999136,0.09416454897997303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06727359195757278,0.06798435625996856,0.0,0.07620381128610232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06020664139770088,0.0,0.0,0.10915728897988117
parenting,NoSwimminTa,2019/03/16,"16 years old step son won’t stop going into dangerous beach It has been quite rough for the last year or so. 

My wife’s grandparents handed down their business to us, so we moved to new location.

We love it here, it is quite nice change. But it took all of us quite a bit to adjust to everything.

Unfortunately, my step son’s father and his wife divorced. Since his father is constantly traveling for work, my step son cannot live with him. 

My stepson moved here at the beginning of the semester. 

He’s used to living on coast where the beach is safe to swim in.

Here, the beach isn’t recommended for swimming as there’s quite high chance of drowning. We made sure all of our children are quite aware of this and to stay away from the water!

My step son... on the very morning after he moved in, he put on a wetsuit and went right in! We were upset!

We have tried to told him many times to not go in. He just ignored us and keep going in!

He start to illegally use speargun to catch fish. We took the spear and wetsuit away. He start to go in without wetsuit and used home made spear to catch fish.

Few weeks ago, one of my oldest son who is 19 tried to go in the water. He nearly drowned!

We are getting frustrated with this! We have tried to ground him which just push him to the beach even more! 

We can’t keep our eyes on him all the time! 

Any suggestions on how to get him to stay out of the water?",2.2406993006992977,4.022117643356643,3.1058657342657376,93.17095244755244,77.11188811188809,6.394181818181818,21.230209790209788,7.24861992348623,0.3973134545454542,1090,28,244,13,25,345,146,286,0.07,0.875,0.055,-0.6701,1,0,0,1,1,0,33.0,14,0,1,6,12,8,2,1,14,0,15,6,2,6,4,41,37,12,2,0,6,9,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,19,3,5,1,7,0,22,6,4,0,1,8,3,29,4,53,28,6,63,0,0,1,1,45,23,0,1,16,145,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056657435823053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06180683871450068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078420973218209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992259668264212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614726916947744,0.0,0.0,0.09821745198340616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06003055223735072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168411800127473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497027620695454,0.0,0.2582682316294201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602797881335776,0.09116790054664912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16157055252053792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408570925583963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605112319304236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202981193797271,0.17200051807046618,0.0,0.09214599068957588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897981277817866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778002921734114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537148496167057,0.0,0.061587943449902025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09136736904542303,0.0,0.4833519555740171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761770725111886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518334931173573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286617428252889,0.19374866013460212,0.0,0.07598629266375834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856607008881302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599484509646792,0.0,0.0,0.08684721315846,0.20195943893590584,0.18512060453393767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279805937659529,0.23549370148121676,0.0,0.07499197542770683,0.0,0.0,0.07290473217050139,0.0,0.0,0.08425392575638135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761262143204533,0.0,0.06616742018019661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170575608174471
parenting,maxjwellington,2019/03/16,"Help with knowing where to start. Potentially ASD 4.5 year old. I need some advice on where to start my son is exhibiting signs of ASD. We thought we were over to possible symptoms reacting until a friend who happened to teach special education approached us.  To be honest he seems like every little boy but he has a few things that stick out when he is with other kids his own age.

It hard because many of the signs seem totally normal individually. Combined they seem off. 

- Regular temper tantrums / we can't give him a tablet or phone! If the screen time ends there will be a meltdown. I've tried everything and it seems impossible not to end with a meltdown! He often says ""why am I like this / why am I doing this."" He feels out of control and it's heartbreaking.
- Toe walking 
- Trouble pronouncing words. Weird speech. 
- Fine motor skill issues - for example, he can't grip a pencil properly or write letters still after 1 yr of preschool
- He lines up his toy cars - usually it's a  a ""battle""
- Jumps and flapps hands when really excited
- he is social but he is very content playing alone. He seems to have difficulty when playing with other kids. He does like his friends and kids at school but often talks about how they get in arguments (weekly/daily) and are mad at eachother. 


Based on all of these things and recommendation from our friend we are going to get him diagnosed. 

We found this place (http://www.vcardd.com/our-services) and are hoping it would be a good place to start. Any other recommendations? We hope we are over reacting and at the least we would like to get him some occupational therapy. 







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parenting,018547637999,2019/03/16,"It feels like I'm being coerced into sharing custody of my son (3yo) with my parents as well as my ex. My first time posting on Reddit ever, so I hope I'm doing it right. I really need some outside perspective on this.

Background info: I broke up with my child's father a year ago and we have an agreement that he will get our son (A) for a week out of a month, which is his time off of work.

I don't like A staying with my parents too much or too often because they treat him like a little dictator, bending over backwards to his every whim and want and generally, allowing bad behavior to fester. The kind of stuff that you hear people referring to when listing reasons they don't want/don't like children. I understand that it's a ""normal"" grandparent thing to want to spoil grandkids, but when he comes home to me, the burden of discipline and correcting his bratty, ridiculous behavior falls on my shoulders.

Now, all that said, my mother is constantly berating me on social media (I don't have Facebook, so I suppose she thinks I don't know what she's posting,) and guilt tripping me through text and phone calls about NEVER getting to see A, even though he does spend a couple of nights per month at their house. I've explained several times the reasons I don't like letting him stay with them, but as far as I can tell recently, they haven't changed a thing. She's always asking about keeping him and I always feel pretty much forced into allowing him to stay the few nights per month because of her emotional appeals. I also found out about a month ago, my mother had been keeping A during my ex's time because my ex is too much of a pushover to tell her to fuck off and she has no shame about asking him. I put a stop to that, of course, but in turn, feeling even more pressured into handing A over to my parents sometimes. I travel a lot, so letting them keep A is really going out of my way and inconvenient some of the time.

Am I being a bitch? A horrible daughter? An evil parent? My ex's mother sees A maybe a handful of times a year, so it's not like my parents have any ""competition"" there. I'll answer any questions posted.",6.93527873070326,6.044735212264153,7.232967409948543,77.53261578044598,64.80188679245283,9.784562607204117,34.602915951972555,8.841846274778883,2.84867358490566,1686,65,323,22,22,550,217,424,0.132,0.79,0.078,-0.9862,6,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,1,6,2,22,22,4,3,29,0,24,4,3,4,4,61,53,25,0,5,5,17,5,6,0,1,0,2,1,2,15,21,0,5,14,1,1,6,9,10,1,1,4,9,56,12,55,44,9,61,0,1,2,1,57,22,2,7,32,223,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201564091632192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954881347121072,0.1239199838678571,0.0,0.0,0.1012761122202658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922752844169653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0621743083103907,0.1361776430404728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603604349337889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877301140622467,0.06414412050492428,0.0,0.08046910257785356,0.0,0.0,0.08239297141068054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516392585232833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376194868863361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836550568647824,0.06735692804052608,0.06273911008600275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295366863462422,0.053197078231616186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333901863429225,0.0,0.08164590451364988,0.0,0.06884074449020099,0.0778087065345134,0.0,0.042319592707617516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392631109132513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469343780304248,0.07395952841955006,0.0,0.0859214288002926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856100573448346,0.0,0.0775427705732049,0.04092345296111288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15228891794447358,0.0,0.21827601959814832,0.07463246479522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330660822752203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480907098179475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23774573593944234,0.0,0.16421876748469502,0.055214093531236186,0.05743120766065425,0.0,0.0,0.13975879140229372,0.07295888477034923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4134171570934605,0.0,0.0,0.05162394400061469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139477113619936,0.07575663230614121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485686141834456,0.08341669327443373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540705759405524,0.15312273540113372,0.07352419137675831,0.0,0.0,0.06359182732314543,0.070832291788416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867629351998615,0.0,0.0,0.08412309581022984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590664449081412,0.0,0.0,0.07364677477815683,0.0,0.0,0.2381060670764557,0.0,0.062255216923198374,0.0,0.0,0.08524343540495337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016959161817387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894111171776024,0.047713508109372985,0.07316047683103245,0.0,0.26052325398033344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809954213420863,0.0,0.07751962352419746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176234429167594,0.059106036912287975,0.05973050871275073,0.0,0.06695205580183647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05421066026729896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590471630768743
parenting,CommercialTowel,2019/03/16,"Why does my wife enable our 4 year olds bad behavior? By enable I don’t mean going out there and telling him to behave badly, but she does not like to punish him in any way or magnitude. He’s a handful, he won’t listen, make a mess, misbehave and sometimes bug our older kids. 

He doesn’t behave not just around us, but worse when we’re not around. 

He can do no wrong to her though, whenever I try to take the iPad from him or make him go to sleep he’ll cry and then she’ll go comfort him

I’m telling you guys, he’s just badly behaved. He is not like our other kids growing up who were not like him, yet my wife treats him like he does nothing wrong for the most part. ",3.641717171717168,3.71833586013986,4.4696037296037305,91.317567987568,71.5174825174825,7.474436674436674,24.28049728049728,6.937597516519254,0.6214823620823617,520,12,122,4,9,168,88,143,0.274,0.672,0.054000000000000006,-0.9888,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,1,0,2,8,13,1,0,4,0,8,2,2,2,0,21,18,10,0,0,11,2,1,4,0,3,0,1,0,3,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,4,9,7,0,0,1,2,19,6,13,14,2,16,0,0,0,0,32,5,0,3,10,67,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812570171464874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25690668685311924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36144145926402504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850153008308404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3788211737532439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460189065126143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428749597164963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819814349898632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263636753479904,0.0,0.0,0.1571798026137307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384551609268269,0.0,0.15141356652555013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15625766819614476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439943419898704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14271166804685556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849205212378006,0.0,0.25224077503414744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176932683217328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796698660721104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17356939017019948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453483393944135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130203997699384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704916269088586,0.0,0.3155283553825783,0.0,0.09292139458284833
parenting,westcoaster86,2019/03/16,"When to ditch the stroller? Hi! I’ve got 26 month old twin boys (first kids) and we splurged on a fairly high end stroller when they were born. It came in handy for a year and half or so, and it will last quite a while longer; thing is, we haven’t used it in months. 

These guys don’t sit still for long, would rather be on their feet and I’m wondering if I should sell it and keep our cheap umbrella strollers for what seems to be the odd time we need strollers or keep it?

Would love to hear from others about your experiences with strollers. Do they come in handy as the kids age? Are they more likely to want to sit still for longer? What are some use cases for strollers as the kids age? I can’t seem to think of many. 

We can’t travel with this stroller as it’s too big, so vacations are not relevant to the discussion. 

Thanks for any insight!


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parenting,down2marsgurl,2019/03/16,Can you think of a time your child completely messed something up while they were trying to ”help”? Today my daughter sprayed tire shine all over my windows while we were cleaning my car. I told my friend about it and she told me how her son once tried to kill a spider by throwing a rock at it.. but the spider was on a window. What’s your “thank you for helping” story? ,3.1311261261261296,4.763429229729732,3.2524324324324314,93.71126126126127,74.27027027027026,5.473873873873874,23.144144144144143,5.46131890053228,0.15524144144144092,289,8,61,1,6,88,60,74,0.061,0.805,0.134,0.6872,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,1,4,1,0,2,4,1,0,5,0,4,1,0,1,1,6,8,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,5,1,14,2,10,3,1,10,0,0,1,0,16,4,0,0,4,42,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641260116288208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462737656873985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33770397825646603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787044357813735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682791478002691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393495235875285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319276658726857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16141569325027494,0.0,0.0,0.14689250946383478,0.28953696188137834,0.23878409026002576,0.481427377687139,0.0,0.3420648130413456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zehnpae,2019/03/16,"Son(7) wrote, ""I love you"" on birthday card to his friend He custom drew a card for his friend for her birthday tomorrow.  It's got hearts all over it and says, ""I love you"" a few times.  I think it's cute.

I'm just making sure my litmus test for, ""How would I feel?"" is working correctly.  If a girl in his class wrote I love you on a birthday card to my boy I'd think it sweet and move on with my day.

Just making sure I'm not going to get a weird call from the girls mom after I drop him off tomorrow.

Thanks in advance!",0.8232142857142861,2.3469477500000018,2.3690714285714267,98.02592857142858,80.42857142857143,5.551428571428572,18.34285714285714,6.2581,-0.4188778571428573,396,8,98,3,10,129,68,112,0.031,0.7020000000000001,0.267,0.9834,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,2,3,11,0,0,6,0,2,4,1,3,4,20,18,4,0,2,4,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,3,4,3,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,3,17,10,16,14,2,16,0,0,0,3,22,7,0,1,5,54,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870874970991825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255011488036778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839580124694004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30069554793076136,0.0,0.10167066881488546,0.0,0.1105958828051846,0.0,0.15563970418279655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306023920259517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5269033328481926,0.0,0.2597945348578654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22791361781416405,0.0,0.2068294112617541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475403605880908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668171178725197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916188821786494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493841369195689,0.0,0.0,0.11347304885587894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167139724467828,0.0,0.0,0.13823852944878906,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AKHMommaart19,2019/03/16,"We all can agree on 1 thing..... New mom to a 7 month old, I love being his mom, he fills me with so much love and happiness and I like being a parent even the challenges but if I could change just one thing just ONE .....it would be how other parents and people are soooooooooo judgmental. Nasty,name calling brick wall hubris. Why??? Seriously why are we doing this to each other? 
Parenting at one point or another is HARD no matter what. PERIOD

So why do we have such a competitive, harsh judgmental community. We either agree or walk on eggshells or avoid each other all together.

I was looking forward to making friends with other parents/guardians, but reading posts from here and hearing the shit in person I am not feeling so thrilled anymore.

Does anyone have any thoughts on why parenting culture is like this, I am looking for any and all perspectives
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parenting,ramondiego1996,2019/03/16,"At what age? hey guys just looking for others parents views on this subject. i have a 6 month old daughter and my wife and i want to put earrings on her but just thought of piercing her ears n seeing her cry just makes me guilty for putting her through the pain. just watching her get her shots at the doctor is very tough for me, i guess it’s a “protective-dad” thing. anyways, at what age did you guys take your daughters to get their ears pierced for the first time?",4.842482269503545,5.329637361702133,4.07744680851064,93.73333333333336,69.0,6.692198581560284,30.56028368794326,5.46131890053228,1.064253900709219,368,14,81,1,6,108,67,94,0.155,0.833,0.012,-0.9403,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,1,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,3,4,2,1,0,11,12,3,0,1,5,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,2,6,15,0,13,10,0,13,0,0,4,0,16,5,0,1,6,51,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334392227511694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175194811839816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807662919898141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22206203487264947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23411071008023945,0.42084918081662187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784602037195936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185630853960873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962851670587256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300015189240852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22613237146503065,0.0,0.23597424824101984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42727524235001024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16934801003601313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15978584124190426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411864146004171,0.0,0.0,0.16871423728763876,0.12391998806469365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534823870899555,0.12534764465388662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IvanTheTerrible_13,2019/03/16,"Reaction of parents When my parents scold me ,i don't eat food for like 2 days and i thought they'll understand but they get more mad as if i made them signed all the property papers.",2.999649122807013,4.45436457894737,3.9447368421052635,89.3414912280702,74.26315789473685,8.224561403508767,28.456140350877188,8.841846274778883,2.0647087719298245,146,6,32,3,3,47,34,38,0.172,0.782,0.046,-0.7040000000000001,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,1,8,6,5,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,8,1,3,3,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,3,19,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464533345048596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088315013539008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36495519662242665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768557835725058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745128116044207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855841032891729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6702583957251779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23960693775557595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141994569470798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trippyprissy,2019/03/16,"Aunties kisses So my 2 yo son came home from his aunts house last month n had a bump on his lip. I told his dad to tell his family to stop kissing on him, he said no one was but obviously some one was. I picked him up from his aunt house yesterday and as she was giving him a hug bye she kissed him on the lips. I didn’t say anything bc i just didn’t want to seem rude i guess plus i had already told his dad so he could tell his aunt. I feel like since that it’s his aunt he should let her. Maybe I’m wrong🤷🏽‍♀️",-2.6248076072534268,-0.9582605042016789,-0.05829279080052885,106.63587793011942,103.62184873949579,3.513666519239275,11.305174701459535,5.399115186594226,-1.708724369747899,396,6,110,3,19,132,80,119,0.062,0.769,0.17,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,3,0,10,6,2,1,1,15,20,6,0,3,2,7,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,11,3,23,5,11,6,1,9,0,0,0,4,33,4,0,3,6,58,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969533002872508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468709854546722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041296153749864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249899463660326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682517981603751,0.0,0.09024310138005917,0.12750367602953022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121096038466582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661203072946065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902652197749566,0.0,0.0,0.4118759295030562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454822012658097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18250435458069653,0.0,0.08719462237720269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793036735777716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424582716772636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24188064539099235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16977206051237234,0.14193170834576388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247833915090626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763763843626107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921437931540424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31199272573424663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410839653424214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527008761841206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951360790675652,0.0,0.0
parenting,JGSimcoe,2019/03/16,Question for parents with experience in bilingual parenting. Does anyone have experience with one parent speaking only English and one parent only speaking a second language?,11.699615384615386,15.167024346153848,10.810769230769232,40.70923076923079,55.53846153846153,9.815384615384616,51.46153846153846,10.125756701596842,7.2620615384615395,147,10,10,3,2,47,20,26,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,10,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12720583445368042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592033485314326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559141226368227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24655348744743946,0.2767235473254614,0.0,0.0,0.8080224742600898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379706592270602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beaverflipn1,2019/03/16,"that ""baby"" phase First off let me say I have a wonderful relationship with my wife.  We get along great and have very good marriage.  But I'm stuck in that phase, my sister calls the ""shit phase"" where I've pretty much given up all my hobbies out of the house so I can be at home and help.  Most of my friends haven't called to ""hang socially"" in months.  About once a month I will get out ad sub for a bowling team.  My wife today was said its family day! (Saturday)  Accidentally, I just popped off along with every other day!  Then we started the whole ""talk"".  Were stuck in the baby zone two kids: 2 daughter and 6 month  old son.  I am wanting to be done with kids and she is stuck in the what if phase.  She made me cancel my vasectomy because she flipped on her decision the day before all I could think about is we have our boy and our girl I don't want to add to the overpopulation lol.  We mutually agree we would have to give up way too much to have three+ kids.  Although many days we struggle to keep our heads one straight!  I Love My Family  and I know this might sound conceded... but when does this change?  I lost a lot of my friends when we started having kids cause we entered into the baby phase and single/married no kids don't understand kids have schedules! I can't just drop everything on a dime anymore......  I hope there are some of you that understand what did you do?  When did you start getting your head on straight?   Is there every any free time for just us/just me until they are old enough to be left alone?",2.2893837535014043,4.281089614379088,3.09436507936508,92.34250000000002,77.69281045751634,6.332212885154062,21.712885154061624,7.310402129719878,0.5210806722689076,1186,33,260,15,28,374,176,306,0.059,0.804,0.136,0.978,0,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,11,4,1,3,13,10,1,1,13,1,32,4,3,2,2,50,57,17,0,6,6,5,0,0,2,3,0,3,1,8,9,24,0,1,6,1,2,2,5,3,0,4,12,3,43,8,37,37,9,45,0,1,0,1,47,19,1,7,22,171,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751418056866996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059326198738668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295002442554306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328062838137047,0.0,0.08833329034447847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21199993645642085,0.0,0.0,0.10663980740471088,0.10981550752344672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288254898119304,0.0,0.0,0.2677912835788881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084341784003723,0.10623202002789556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726181211340907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17492608426848485,0.0,0.09329628342437347,0.0,0.19572261457371792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829935980855771,0.0,0.0,0.1604042025001685,0.0,0.16270679091662826,0.09958246264394434,0.0,0.08706954873285565,0.0,0.11444911166166775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213074704806333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958057271844133,0.0,0.10412827483149828,0.10310514990602322,0.0,0.1197809394665116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226966287836696,0.0,0.0,0.057050373932783165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278811475461205,0.10615110756669248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133191156723974,0.08825417726183292,0.09369112100462083,0.0982260044895806,0.0,0.10524540968490588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012429247798763,0.0,0.0,0.2485765891228401,0.0,0.15262221560637745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21785887659210665,0.11055254278456628,0.07034324870272428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561044800057813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145135699085218,0.0,0.0,0.09874554664009093,0.08255259483725852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10655781610942153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581957627815028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204283289986925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108523063904742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343724819862891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06651622192954329,0.0,0.0,0.06053150448100762,0.0,0.09839821160606338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101405708837642,0.2161363809347417,0.12486870635490868,0.0,0.0,0.08565278985993098,0.12245775088502055,0.08239826465120485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158983553738846,0.0,0.0,0.11257576607480216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374249876201992,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,radicalrepublik,2019/03/16,"What are some ways you would discipline your child in response to them mucking up a pair of brand new shoes on purpose? It happened yesterday. He was put in the room and early bed time. He already lost electronics and tv for a few days, And his favorite stuffie got thrown out. I don't feel as if he is understanding the consequences to his action though. ",4.971911764705883,6.494217073529412,4.811058823529415,84.79276470588236,69.44117647058823,8.381176470588235,31.24705882352941,8.841846274778883,2.465684705882353,283,12,55,5,5,87,59,68,0.034,0.921,0.045,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,1,1,0,0,10,10,6,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,4,0,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,1,6,0,10,6,2,14,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,2,5,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34949467454895794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20425017952748495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601368613834496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532999723426377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28006345469939536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34572372051332484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30587814080357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183785790789712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111635756144051,0.0,0.1846747286481027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32970374553163545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513877243925146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249799681252261,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chengjih,2019/03/16,"Electric toothbrush for 4 and 6 year olds Our pediatric dental hygenist suggested an electric toothbrush for the kids (or at least the almost 6-year-old who already has his molars coming in).  Specifically, the Philips Sonicare for Kids Rechargeable HX631 (it apparently has Bluetooth but I don't care about that).  This would also go well with the oldest, who has mild sensory issues since the OT has suggested vibrating toys for him to use.

The handle and replacement heads are expensive (so, likely just one handle) and only come in one color.  I can see conflict and confusion between our kids because of this.

Does anyone have this toothbrush with two kids?  What do you do with the lack of different colors?  Does anyone have different suggestions for an electric toothbrush?

Thanks.",6.008473019517794,9.148381776119404,5.337462686567168,75.15478185993112,70.7910447761194,8.003673938002297,31.94948335246843,8.841846274778883,3.311953616532721,634,29,91,13,13,192,91,134,0.09,0.8640000000000001,0.046,-0.7337,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,0,0,5,5,0,1,9,0,12,2,1,1,0,18,19,8,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,8,9,0,1,0,1,1,3,1,1,1,3,0,3,7,4,16,18,2,9,0,0,3,0,14,3,0,3,4,67,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17434737732195235,0.0,0.19213621599186334,0.13923679217908386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24348542326551495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613666938765888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751813606085318,0.0,0.0,0.2999630405926429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638186282571151,0.0,0.0,0.3047320499798162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895149863536333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17868848711970545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172702493039666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506201609194182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654011685640979,0.0,0.23596472798025706,0.13241953550607224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874421213627505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402671671785292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029834825522185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008149995063168,0.0,0.0,0.1503763131179521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654702312665908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236837150818894,0.0,0.0,0.2242440155416916
parenting,robofaust,2019/03/16,"Stay at home parents don't get enough respect  

I don't think this can be said enough: being a stay-at-home parent of a young child/children is one of the most difficult jobs one can perform. Period. There's no place to run or hide, one gets no breaks for a bad day or a mistake, the pay is absolutely terrible, and respect is hard to come by.

But what really drives the point home to me is the number of people I know that go back to work as soon as they can, once the child is old enough for daycare/school, even when finances aren't at issue. Working a regular job is just easier.

I'm sure this point has been made before, but I don't think it can be over-stated. Props to all the stay-at-home parents, hang in there, you're fighting the good fight.",4.929358974358976,4.579370141025642,5.466153846153849,86.74551282051283,68.74358974358975,8.728205128205127,26.948717948717945,8.167268648758528,1.39255641025641,586,15,131,7,9,189,99,156,0.16699999999999998,0.7759999999999999,0.057,-0.8921,5,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,0,0,1,3,7,10,2,0,12,0,19,0,0,1,2,15,29,8,0,1,5,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,5,2,0,0,3,0,2,5,6,6,0,3,3,2,5,4,16,23,5,20,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,3,7,79,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449769684413498,0.10261113589185916,0.0,0.0,0.10457351738376422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586207140312637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07925629267105595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809462411027499,0.0,0.08117015327840674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284138091239277,0.0,0.06984334198831371,0.1030774347078415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008864824420367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24654487375639156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826913109728771,0.2439061393958948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06753918309783723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628502400364768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12895630248611062,0.13087781752062658,0.2498279271277456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093768494352865,0.0,0.0,0.08519904245135805,0.0,0.12839779702942122,0.0,0.2323486056811152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872887385375174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690008487023733,0.0,0.0,0.12437502133864382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929651116259406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582589134835747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749068699072202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178936206244713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Iwanttoseeuranus,2019/03/16,"Ex won't be involved in kids' lives I have 4 kids with ex, two are grown but the younger two are dd16 and dd7 and are with me full time, except dd7 goes with her dad every other weekend. Their dad won't speak to the rest of the kids. 

Last school year I would inform him of all the school events, teacher meetings, father/daughter dances, breakfast with dad days, and I'd have to remind him once or twice after that. I felt if I didn't stay on him about it he just wouldn't go, and that would hurt the kids.

Well I was right. At the beginning of this school year, I told him when registration and meet the teachers was and that he could get the paperwork and check the school's website calender and that I wouldn't be informing him of these things anymore. So- he has not shown up to *anything* the whole year. Dd16 get an award she was so excited about and he said he'd be there and wasn't. This week was another breakfast with dad day and dd7 told me to text him so he'll know. ""You just don't want him to go!"" I explained that he DOES know they have these events, he just doesn't go to them. I was so sad at her wanting me to tell him. I still have this guilt feeling, because if I don't tell him AND remind him at least once, he won't go. But he can get the info as easily as me if he wanted to. 

Dh goes and does everything with her and dd16, so they aren't without someone, it just hurts that their own dad won't be involved.",2.2412320044296763,3.5623175681063124,2.943774916943525,96.2952415559247,75.97674418604652,6.212679955703213,21.51176633444075,6.6274283507984215,0.09592015503876006,1112,27,264,9,24,348,137,301,0.064,0.8809999999999999,0.055,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,1,5,1,15,7,0,1,12,0,34,2,0,0,1,50,54,28,0,11,13,7,2,0,0,9,0,2,0,4,15,20,2,0,8,2,1,6,14,4,1,3,11,4,36,3,31,28,6,30,0,3,0,0,55,8,0,4,15,170,51,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114615565936965,0.0,0.0,0.1145774375585828,0.0,0.0,0.09507360435475017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042768845847326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224349516747317,0.0,0.0,0.1490181242996385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022069658216151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734131977858436,0.0,0.10383338078987164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058416826780271464,0.0,0.1109295522759388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810832710398264,0.0,0.26263968366811136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473603840975516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698754941442125,0.0941746063797771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201752968565436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460772037407777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866433218898726,0.10989809635767324,0.0,0.0,0.4677012200541851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789051914587674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314253307460345,0.0922645986665587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019614212854336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07675482152810974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736807216608043,0.0,0.0,0.22079297604170256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257174068148351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204432617435762,0.0,0.09267339847784292,0.0,0.10387781185780948,0.0,0.0,0.12898818285951713,0.0,0.11136944250301464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414229320421336,0.0,0.0,0.22319789790412864
parenting,BarbraLia12,2019/03/16,How to do a digital parenting?  Technology in terms of cell phones and gadgets and its connection with the cyberspace and its after-effects on the youth are pushing parents to do digital parenting on kids and teens digital devices. ,10.824750000000002,10.502127975,10.5,55.40500000000003,56.75,15.0,52.5,13.816669648895859,7.9449999999999985,189,13,26,7,2,62,29,40,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,3,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,20,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iron-raven,2019/03/16,"Healthy relationship with step(ish)-child? Hi, first post here. First a bit of background:

About six months ago now I met my girlfriend, and she came with a kid pre-installed. :p He's two, and is adorable. I wasn't exactly looking to be a father when I met her, but I've certainly got no objections. I'm 29, she's 31.

Bio father is out of the picture entirely (he did some bad things and went to prison, he's out now but she never wants to see him again and is trying to ensure the kid doesn't either. Kid doesn't know him, hasn't seen him since he was about 3 months old. Let's just say father doesn't deserve much sympathy but for his part, so far, hasn't made any attempt to interfere and seems to genuinely want to move on and start anew elsewhere).

Anyway, things have progressed between me and the girlfriend to the point where I'm seeing her almost every day and staying over quite a lot. There are some valid reasons why I can't physically move in at this point, but I figure I basically have for all intents and purposes.

The kid loves me to bits now, after a shaky start where he wasn't sure (not surprising...). The feeling is mutual. Whenever I'm around though (which, as above, is most of the time), it feels like he wants me to do everything instead of his mother.

He wants me to get his food at meal times, wants me to strap him in and get him out of his car seat, wants me to change his nappy and put him to bed, etc. I don't have an issue with this, and the majority of the time his mother doesn't either as its one less thing for her to do. I just worry that it could lead to problems down the line.

Whenever I can't do something for him (for instance if I'm in the middle of cooking our dinner when he wants a nappy change or if I'm busy with something at meal times) he throws what I would call a mild tantrum when his mother has to do it instead. He quickly calms down when the food is presented or when his nappy is changed, its not like he outright refuses, but he certainly makes it clear it wasn't what he wanted.

I'm kind of worried that he likes me more than his mother. Is this normal behaviour? Am I worried about nothing?",4.802020510212736,5.0159755720823815,5.222451055174169,86.44776930248327,69.0228832951945,8.396270870412748,28.084498686329354,8.167268648758528,1.5955794389355038,1683,52,362,21,27,537,213,437,0.083,0.826,0.091,0.1414,0,0,2,0,0,0,60.0,1,0,0,6,25,15,1,1,20,0,36,7,0,5,7,73,70,30,0,14,15,7,2,3,2,1,0,1,1,4,18,21,6,2,6,1,0,8,16,4,0,5,12,7,42,11,56,54,15,56,0,0,4,1,58,20,0,11,29,235,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792273732093875,0.0,0.08949821761116777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060779467375056864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956453466916746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462611391123165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951532076035468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912639737746461,0.10222354918726287,0.0,0.0,0.2836472434715888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713603117343418,0.0,0.0,0.057640811337333425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967905045517024,0.0,0.0,0.07530402996352888,0.0,0.08032634071533554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038345656791982,0.06385099131362328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520481674208951,0.2161501975123792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339165251573513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148300163716159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093286432367818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307245688845728,0.04911929614191714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913941018950041,0.0,0.13099535439382912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505422231776711,0.0,0.0,0.07598518238973694,0.0806662884263703,0.08457073759140597,0.05965988324791208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267983717288368,0.1899873457286018,0.06570242479950962,0.0,0.06893310052678657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757054471000181,0.08575970198849596,0.0,0.0937861922612557,0.0,0.06056421065153012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678664896428696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898042657814874,0.0,0.08559851978001637,0.0,0.0,0.08552177818357225,0.0,0.08984863393018355,0.0,0.09506350761663686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189450598628283,0.0,0.09595751670098003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107622743844799,0.0,0.0,0.14244389426211207,0.08136552093897048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393362970314897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376136585726971,0.0,0.0,0.12652308972781892,0.0952640566362541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08423682367907813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178134446708099,0.0,0.0878125101213264,0.0,0.2084659355973024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060681158578015176,0.0,0.08730840307454875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217352571733443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285343237477395,0.08064889720009293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723002363261743,0.0,0.06349090085201321,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cowie71,2019/03/16,"Family holiday - 2 bedrooms (Not interconnected). 10 and 7 year old Is it irresponsible to have the kids in one room and parents in another?

We have had interconnected rooms before but I think this hotel doesn’t have them 

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parenting,tallerkenmilk,2019/03/16,"Need help in understanding/interacting with children who live in an abusive and neglectful environment I’m not their parents, but this is a programme where I volunteer to read/play with children of incarcerated mothers once every weekend. (I’m in Singapore. Not sure if this info will help) 

I need help knowing how to react to certain behaviours of these kids as I’m just a 21 year old trying to befriend them. I don’t have kids of my own so this is all pretty new to me. There are five kids in a very small flat. Their parents are not staying with them, only their grandparents are with them. 

The eldest twins being 9 years old, a 5 year old boy, 4 year old boy and a 2 year old girl. 

The eldest twins played together at the playground outdoors today, but at a certain point one of them suddenly became upset. He sat down and stopped wanting to play. He was obviously upset so I asked him what was wrong. He told me that the other twin usually goes off to play what he wants on his own even if he chooses the game. He feels upset that the other twin doesn’t listen to him. At this point I’m at a lost of what to do as I’m not sure how to comfort him. I listen to him but I feel like I could’ve said more. Should I ask the other twin to come and apologise? But for what? Or should I comfort him? In the end I gave in and told him we’ll play what he wants, and he was happier. Was it a good move? 

But at the end of the playground session where the other kids wanted to go to another playground, the same twin got really upset again, way more upset than what happened just now. He said that this playground is big and fun and the other playground is small. However the majority wanted to leave and I needed to leave too so I had to convince him to go. He wasn’t happy at all and started walking off really fast, kicking things and ignoring what I’m saying. I don’t know what to do because we had to leave and I couldn’t make him happy by staying there. 

The other issue is of boundaries (?). The 5 year old really likes the ukelele I brought for them to play with and wanted to play it badly but I had to leave. He snatched it over from me and also took my bag. I asked him to give it back to me but he was holding on to it and saying no. At this point I was getting frustrated so I used a slightly stricter tone and gave him a slight frown. I found it rude that he took it just like that. And he let go when he saw my frown. I felt bad after because he retreated into his shell and put a pillow over his head. He didn’t want to talk to me either. And he suddenly whacked the elder twin REALLY REALLY hard and I was shocked. I knew that the kids were physically abused since a young age but I didn’t know how bad the consequences were. The younger 4 year old saw his brother hit someone and he started to lightly hit the 2 year old girl as well. I was seeing cause and effect right before my very eyes. 

I felt helpless and angry and sad because I didn’t know what to do. The grandparents started to force them to say thank you to us as we left but the eldest twin who was upset about leaving the playground didn’t want to and the 5 year old was hiding behind a pillow still. 

I left with my mom and once outside, I heard the grandfather shouting and hitting them for not saying thank you. I felt so sad. At that moment I realized that it is a cyclical thing. They hit each other because that’s how they were taught to behave. 

I understand all 5 of them greatly desire attention and is severely in need of it but my mom and I can only do so much. 

I’m at a lost on what to do when I see them being upset/not listening to instructions. I don’t want to use corporal punishment. Yet I also know I’m just a weekly volunteer and I don’t have enough influence to change their toxic family dynamic. Any advice is greatly appreciated. 

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parenting,RemoteRaspberry,2019/03/16,"My 8 year old son is in school. I want to teach him to not believe everything he's taught in school. How can I teach him this without making him untrusting? My 8 year old son recently came back from school, excited and telling me about the stuff he'd learned. He loves science and biology in particular, and so far I was fine with this, until he blurted out ''did you know most of our body is water?'' 


I quietly took him into the living room and I told him that this is not true because I have a friend who is allergic to water (she cannot drink water or even get an IV of it without going into anaphylactic shock)and if those science teachers were correct, my friend would be constantly in the hospital or dead. 

It worries me sometimes the things my son is being taught behind my back, our family is also very religious and I am also iffy about him being taught things like evolution, since I raised him to be a Christian and I do not want him to lose faith in God. ",6.886020942408379,6.077174068062831,7.242246073298433,77.15844764397909,64.86387434554973,10.571937172774867,33.759685863874346,9.888512548439397,3.0701430366492146,761,28,150,14,10,249,113,191,0.07200000000000001,0.8029999999999999,0.125,0.8221,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,2,1,0,1,9,9,0,0,7,0,20,8,1,2,2,29,33,14,1,4,8,3,0,1,2,1,2,1,1,0,11,11,4,0,2,1,0,3,6,1,0,0,9,1,29,8,23,18,1,22,2,1,0,1,25,10,0,4,10,109,40,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22305861327781612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447840754415107,0.0,0.08501595706502366,0.0,0.0,0.15712816448768308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15491305884952475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950965696868688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071103340626665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366216208774202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211465356654266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534124626783671,0.0,0.13147424277278494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21549907359672066,0.0,0.07286418136996105,0.0,0.07926060246697322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664576450762478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813506349557398,0.0,0.12314926293157205,0.0,0.0,0.1560245372105316,0.0,0.0,0.1258717007786179,0.0,0.09309329980544352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926880053555451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770387027779546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4234350265538419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536605807723845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793345741759674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596529081277042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189767899962815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853073628964817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13326382408879006,0.15494963030257894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150724019576128,0.16451895560798793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688766293323598,0.0,0.0,0.14163245695083734,0.0,0.09907122082980288,0.0,0.0,0.1796204809079648
parenting,ADreamOfMeme,2019/03/16,"Conversion Therapy for Minors should be considered Child Abuse. Periodt. You don’t even have to be the parent of or an LGBT+ person yourself to agree on this one, it’s just a matter of ethical reasoning.

Conversion Therapy has literally no regulation in 35 of 50 states in the U.S., and has lose bans in the remaining 15 (+D.C.)

Conversion Therapy has been proven to be not only ineffective, but incredibly harmful and lacking scientific research or reasoning. Different organizations use different methods, but it’s essentially *torture* and I don’t need to elaborate. Just google Conversion Therapy Survivor stories. 

This is a mild case but a girl in Utah was sent to live with a separate family (they were given legal guardianship of her) and would verbally, mentally, and emotionally abuse her. These people forced her to wear a backpack around filled with rocks to teach her that this was “the weight of her homosexuality.” If some parent did this for any actual disciplinary reason, CPS would have been contacted ASAP. 

But since it’s Utah, and since it’s “controversial” it’s somehow legally and socially acceptable. 

How is this not a fucking crime? Homosexuality has been declassified as a mental illness for a little over half a century, and yet parents are still getting away with this shit? The only reason it’s “controversial” is cause it stems from religious beliefs. 

Well, sorry, but “Freedom of Religion” doesn’t give you the freedom to commit crimes. If you can’t legally kill, rape, or raid for your god, you most definitely can’t *abuse and torture children.* 

Conversion Therapy should be a crime and parents and institutions who practice it should face serious criminal charges. 
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parenting,ladyroxious,2019/03/16,"Pregnant and Nausea Hello there. Can anyone share any good tips to remove nausea from pregnant lady?

It stays from morning untill at night. There's always feelings like there's a clump in the throat that triggers me to vomit.

I don't really want to rely on medicine. I've been drinking hot chocolate a lot and I want to reduce it. Any advice? Thanks.",1.6035820895522406,4.35569570149254,2.5215074626865683,88.91808208955227,91.98507462686571,3.2770149253731344,18.64029850746269,4.935628992294339,-0.2111779104477609,280,8,47,1,10,88,51,67,0.043,0.794,0.163,0.8394,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,3,3,1,1,0,7,7,3,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,10,6,1,7,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,3,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28158669719643176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397722723367015,0.0,0.0,0.3919174745273445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014882294655135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822871767767837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570239575547916,0.20586162023502955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416950052096579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078046058997726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449833971061308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27041871655900906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460272735896352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071403066081549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26529908807699343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399285647951161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brain_checker,2019/03/16,"How to know kids inborn talent  

 Children are interested in many different things. Studies have shown that children’s participation in activities that are interesting to them is filled with powerful learning opportunities, including opportunities to build language and communication skills.

“You can play a crucial role in awakening latent talents or developing current strengths through experiences you give your child at home.

Here some ways for you to bring out your child’s hidden skills

* Let your child discover her own interests.  Pay attention the activities she chooses.
* Expose your child to a broad spectrum of experiences.They may activate latent talents.
* Give your child permission to make mistakes. Their recorrection helps to boost their confidence.
* Ask questions.  Help your child open up to he wonders of the world by asking intriguing questions: Why is the sky blue?  Find the answers together.
* play shared activities with your child, Shared creativity can awaken and develop new talents.
* Don’t pressure your child to learn.  If children are sent to special lessons every day in the hope of developing their inborn talents, they may become too stressed or exhausted to shine.  Encourage, but don’t push.
* Expose your child to images of success by taking him to work. Let him see you engaged in meaningful activities and allow him to become involved.
* Keep your own passion for learning alive.  Your child will be influenced by your example.
* Give them multiple choices for play; see which play or game they prefer!Because child’s choice  can indicates their interest level for particular game.

Know more about it on [How to know child's interest](http://www.brainchecker.in/blog/how-to-know-childs-inborn-talents-or-interest-at-early-age/)",7.20281507656066,10.919081113074212,6.1434169611307405,67.81917726737339,70.02473498233215,9.568386336866904,35.228386336866905,9.80755857964246,4.598048386336867,1437,73,195,41,30,433,164,283,0.036000000000000004,0.7170000000000001,0.247,0.9952,3,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,0,16,8,9,6,28,0,2,7,0,17,2,0,5,0,38,34,10,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,16,5,7,0,1,15,6,1,4,2,4,0,0,1,4,29,24,39,27,4,22,0,0,4,1,63,14,0,11,3,113,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26423965537767297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615042793596887,0.3121647895811001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114295428139034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765457921497624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907243498019568,0.0,0.0,0.1382429997007142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916851916950228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067155458692827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18945438024405725,0.0,0.14176053029853736,0.14036764510734698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256161821683026,0.0,0.0,0.3106741670513019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890288411054988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433555644237897,0.1432814008737035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649259681157322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166327597751161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22523550659992295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188734696976653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625883614446294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389007172505057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217723247154612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752385991471488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532609689669092,0.10288630666043758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AliCandyBar,2019/03/17,"7 month old and teething Hi guys, first post yada yada

I’m a young mother, and my own mother isn’t a role model so any advice helps a LOT. 

My 7 month old son is teething, and tonight it got especially bad. He has a 100 degree fever which has been floating downwards, hasn’t got higher than 100 though. 

He won’t keep any food down, and has been fussy all night. He won’t stay asleep, and Tylenol doesn’t seem to help. He won’t take a cold rag, and idk what else to do. 

Advice?",0.32209720972097244,2.4004344950495096,1.426552655265528,101.18872187218723,85.23762376237623,4.068766876687668,16.112511251125113,4.851557810540192,-1.1307900990099014,368,7,89,1,11,115,65,101,0.055,0.885,0.059,0.0953,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,0,13,6,3,0,1,10,19,8,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,3,6,1,1,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,1,2,0,4,12,3,12,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,8,39,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36708646034926057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554587981350979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682843394807156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569060919165799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976629849477056,0.2271222176579857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30044622754974337,0.0,0.0,0.1859791311297596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517941370010747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695004961981974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596845465062801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29984484313903736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762637412601012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3941875273253855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988718830168862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099144732909974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019952843284194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122319004325534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18453993812083136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawy_27182818,2019/03/17,"1 year in, really struggling with fatherhood Hi everyone,

I've read other accounts on this subreddit about people struggling to connect with their newborns, and I read those accounts hoping that--like so many of the other people I saw posting--I'd feel better by now. Well, my son's first birthday is in a few weeks, and I'm having such...a...difficult...time.

The disrupted sleep constantly throws me off, and I feel like I have no energy for anything. I dread going to sleep now, knowing that I'll get waken up and everything will be disrupted. My wife and I fight far more than we ever did prior to our child's birth, and I feel like our marriage is suffering greatly.

I love my kid, but I don't really like him? I kind of associate my son with just desperately trying to keep him occupied and amused, and with loud screams that seem drill right through my brain. It's nice that he can crawl and communicate by tone of voice, but I don't feel whatever ""warm parenting"" feels I thought I should get from all that. ""All Joy and No Fun"" would be an improvement on matters.

All the volunteering I used to do that gave me purpose has had to drop by the wayside as I just don't have the time and energy, and it leaves me endlessly frustrated. My physical fitness seems to be declining as well.

We moved to a new city recently to be closer to my in-laws for more family support and so we could afford a larger home to raise our kid, but as a part of that I don't really have any local friends to draw on. So that's great...

This might be exacerbated by low-grade depression (I've been there before), but I am already taking meds and seeing a therapist (but again, a new one due to the move) so I'm not sure what else to do. My wife and I try to have date-nights every couple of weeks and I try to make some space for myself, but at best I'm barely treading water.

I \*don't\* want to feel like I regret parenthood, but right now I'm constantly wondering if things are ever going to feel better. I'm not feeling optimistic at present.

Any other advice? General commiseration? Am I just screwing things up?",5.306690258893648,5.799014808716713,6.204999999999997,78.86804758800524,67.98305084745763,9.937381262804992,29.928198919724345,9.943994293440598,2.7705687092568447,1648,58,324,37,26,546,219,413,0.112,0.731,0.157,0.9736,3,0,0,0,1,0,67.0,6,0,1,4,17,32,3,3,13,0,32,6,3,2,6,68,65,31,0,7,13,5,9,4,1,4,0,3,1,4,18,23,1,1,13,3,2,5,9,10,2,2,6,14,43,22,51,49,9,43,0,3,2,2,25,17,1,7,24,212,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686664581712335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809725651879124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209025738369991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315257329682469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564264532815185,0.0,0.09328926036455104,0.1572398669567454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992356260402166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921266802749404,0.0,0.07097499970880965,0.09836003862356214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07656467548260255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742599217639273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608202721712211,0.07489742371965484,0.08494247416479549,0.07989261636222685,0.0,0.08380179352066745,0.0,0.359581714131002,0.19051867822954172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075613589515961,0.0,0.0,0.06867964587047519,0.0,0.0928873816412945,0.0,0.10104155007365324,0.0,0.0,0.1960129307486331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891683999429292,0.08829226507279937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901348807949986,0.0,0.09256990951985204,0.04885407511037773,0.0,0.0,0.09412640682043427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17371738835389858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802307285159619,0.0,0.05933774801757785,0.09012503854622912,0.0,0.0,0.0987417147083211,0.0,0.0,0.0943029832290944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18896150367117515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717096632766888,0.0,0.08342143683465945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023719247975179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09870678734638966,0.09626404671030957,0.0,0.12325646323620384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17783704926214852,0.0,0.17084421843102546,0.0,0.0877725633602609,0.0,0.0,0.15183078081916732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07083738220912053,0.16185237100558866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791733409492305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586359912231848,0.0,0.0,0.10087638943553326,0.08378198456238521,0.0,0.06683757727800636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10321332949857434,0.1181150698098933,0.0,0.0,0.07057227840069212,0.05183507946755097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18106052682778054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677627919406158,0.0,0.0,0.052432260712553636,0.0,0.14261156123881685,0.0,0.15985360600168533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640225913166764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314807993355613,0.0,0.0,0.057245123210734765
parenting,literalshowerthought,2019/03/17,"Looking for an expecting mother to share clothes with Our son was born in December 2018 and my wife no longer needs her maternity wardrobe. I'd like to find an expecting mother who is due around December 2019 and send these clothes. They are pretty high quality, size 14 Long pants and XL overall. It's about 60 items of clothing. 

Ideally, this mother would also be expecting a boy and we can continue to share clothes as our son outgrows them. We buy lots of clothes, many that he never wears.

Please share this with people you know that may be interested on Facebook or wherever. Anyone who may want these should send this account a private message stating their situation and optionally proving that they are the right size and/or expecting a boy. Financial status isn't an issue: you can be rich or poor, I don't care, but if you're well off it might be nice to offer to help cover shipping. Where you live IS important since shipping can be expensive. We live in the southeast US and will not ship internationally.

The clothes are working professional (teacher), mostly Old Navy, Gap, Loft, Motherhood. I will share pics in pm but not publicly.

My greatest desire is that these clothes get used, everything else is secondary.

I don't check this account often so I may not be quick to respond, but I will update if/when we find a recipient.",6.261456356736243,7.634583959677421,6.1340891840607235,77.06745730550286,66.25806451612904,9.383681214421252,34.34629981024668,9.627879704456738,3.338064231499052,1074,49,190,22,17,337,155,248,0.045,0.8220000000000001,0.133,0.9572,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,7,3,4,2,8,11,0,0,10,0,29,1,1,1,2,46,36,15,0,11,9,6,0,1,0,9,0,0,1,2,15,13,0,0,4,0,7,2,8,0,1,0,1,1,22,11,19,20,4,20,0,0,1,0,37,9,0,11,9,122,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441273183933073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12601877913842707,0.0,0.0,0.16044007515493466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18375324880884786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055637726469034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619762397263596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294480866277695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416107195731854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080223470075847,0.1904195245943341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881099698786821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904794387769576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804971792722464,0.0,0.3182871581171981,0.15949505937206715,0.1513451328462816,0.0,0.0,0.15322239266479426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18272170212482086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911921691132473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336358992613952,0.1390020299266086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911772434109386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494658046028045,0.0,0.0,0.1978349211582141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833554629945834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391271478895605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908548331706656,0.20258249063778347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167906670286412,0.15565810171557895,0.0,0.0,0.10630244467230833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204555055161496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120726740313265,0.0,0.0,0.1280279580180707,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,desertchoir,2019/03/17,"Transgender FtM (15) wants to spend the night at a boys house My teen says they are asexual and therfore should be allowed to spend the night with either gender. I can't quite bring myself to be ok with this. I'm really out of my depth raising a trans kid as it is, so this situation is really testing my parenting. What would you do? ",3.758507462686566,5.071799179104481,4.958388059701496,83.38026865671642,72.13432835820895,8.942089552238807,25.34029850746269,9.3871,2.011450149253732,263,8,54,6,5,87,53,67,0.0,0.965,0.035,0.29600000000000004,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,9,0,0,1,0,9,12,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,9,8,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,36,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386659183876338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5508700228090523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259031027281629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31217920745220723,0.0,0.0,0.3760542536583442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334073390170632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299124581524843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17311713721678731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20849787268884032,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sithlordmama,2019/03/17,"I win... at Trouble! I just whooped my kids and husband at Trouble (the old school version, it’s awesome because the die is contained in a little popper bubble!).  Every time I landed on a kids’ piece and sent them back to home base (you have to ‘pop’ a six to get back out) my husband looked at me and asked if I was enjoying myself *insert evil grin here* 
And yes, for the record, I helped my kids remember that they could boot me back to home base as well.  I even pointed it out when one of them miscounted and missed my piece!  

TL;DR: A simple joy of parenting is absolutely annihilating your kids and spouse at a board game.  I currently reign supreme!",3.108554044380813,5.063326125984254,3.9646957766642816,87.20140300644239,75.14173228346456,6.822906227630638,25.71868289191124,7.686295010490155,1.3339039370078738,506,18,102,7,11,162,85,127,0.112,0.7190000000000001,0.16899999999999998,0.8429,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,2,3,1,8,10,1,0,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,13,10,9,1,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,8,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,4,1,2,2,1,19,6,16,7,3,19,0,1,1,0,17,11,0,1,7,70,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481806154213813,0.0,0.0,0.4807209458090962,0.0,0.12703361535589758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638377519798564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162776314542194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764071915186504,0.0,0.17557895262002432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088760358516516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396805299986515,0.0,0.4180676314684618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20886317931881335,0.0,0.0,0.1749965008598653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21867198097401586,0.0,0.1412115749662312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23139426535733496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699746697650647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360671154374208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090347486301456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151484670493375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18736911979353246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JRPGNATION,2019/03/17,How do you deal with a kid with endless energy? So My sister decide that she going to dump her son on me today. Her brother and well  I completely spend.  My back hurts and I was so tired that I sleep 10 hours straight today during the day. I love the kid but Jesus that kid has a nuclear reactor for energy.    I 25 years old by the way and  this kid drain me lol.  Also if anybody could answer this also it will be great.  He loves to kiss My ear and put his finger in it. Why?  -.-,0.21275454545454764,2.288454330000004,2.587454545454545,92.70372727272728,85.7,5.636363636363638,16.090909090909093,6.980632752743323,-0.12829999999999986,363,7,81,5,11,124,73,100,0.053,0.7040000000000001,0.243,0.9721,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,0,7,7,1,0,5,1,6,7,3,1,0,12,9,11,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,7,6,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,2,1,0,1,2,15,5,8,5,0,13,1,1,0,3,16,3,0,1,7,54,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32665969408410217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157047176897754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214140695898604,0.0,0.0,0.1630682149648476,0.0,0.0,0.13171725270618606,0.2105614312674598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607372508200772,0.0,0.0,0.22517420823067985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201134264989332,0.0,0.2186420636738312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36866732618818987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21431446400244672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20531659680200265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20438648961743056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347426749955151,0.3871893642164657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211540424416696,0.0,0.0,0.1836353807209199,0.0,0.1842939217286752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152321374731346
parenting,UndecidedYellow,2019/03/17,"Pregnant with 2nd Child, Anxious About Losing 1st Before I had my first child, I have three miscarriages. So, when I got pregnant for the fourth time, I was (predictable) very anxious about losing the baby. Then, after he was born, I was anxious about SIDS and sending him to a daycare full of strangers. He's 19-months-old now, and although my anxiety did decrease, I feel like it's suddenly spiked now that I'm pregnant with my second. The thing is, I'm not worried about my second child (I mean, I am, but it's a normal amount). I'm really worried about my first. I'm worried that he's going to be fatally hurt or get fatally sick or get kidnapped. I'm worried that I was never supposed to have kids, but had one anyway, and now that I'm having another, I'm going to get caught and be punished for it. I know this anxiety is crazy and unfounded, but that doesn't change the fact that it's there. I have an OBGYN appointment next week so I'm going to mention it. I think I had a touch of postpartum OCD after giving birth, so best to get ahead of any possible resurgence. Anyone else feel anything like this?",5.1172792207792215,5.648686922727273,5.771298701298702,81.67409090909094,68.4090909090909,8.467532467532468,31.168831168831172,8.418075326091056,2.3152467532467536,873,34,168,12,14,284,113,220,0.171,0.73,0.098,-0.9509,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,0,6,14,9,1,0,8,0,18,1,0,0,2,21,41,16,2,1,6,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,14,7,0,0,5,0,0,5,3,6,0,6,10,3,19,3,21,29,3,23,0,3,0,0,11,1,0,2,19,111,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243624936293713,0.12711358278756624,0.18547154435170687,0.4108447106448074,0.0,0.08476240539132619,0.12420797068348476,0.09975674764323536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031524106534027,0.0,0.12721675786099176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823856423772945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126681730459444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258865511175872,0.08660221073540883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062255756099376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533374472565197,0.1162887858073247,0.2066826078273369,0.0,0.09695363915924383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977244094627802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06662135619419368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11844751927553855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712365473894645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204810948270046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349516390659672,0.0,0.12892274333396578,0.0,0.1187734538049691,0.0,0.0,0.12720384475139548,0.0,0.08214429292264458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136661468472355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765898412156684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053561673133998,0.07767522994820722,0.0,0.0,0.0706864941104674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000222194688515,0.0,0.0,0.09723831223122524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924340659289457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellolamps,2019/03/17,"Son home with me now after spending 2 years in daycare My 3 year old recently switched to staying home with me, after we had his sister, from being at daycare full time. I work really hard to get to activities almost every day of the week, out of the house. He goes to a daycare/preschool program 2 mornings a week. It’s tough with the his new baby sister here to give him all the attention he is used to from being in daycare full time but he seems happy and his normal self. 

Has anyone else went through this experience? Do you feel like your child was negatively affected by no longer having that stability of a class of friends to love on them? The preschool program he attends is also a drop in daycare so it’s not always consistent with the teachers or classmates.. I am worried about his emotional and mental security.

To add, we also moved across the country 6 months ago, a few months before his sister was born so he’s went through a lot of change. 

Thanks ",4.567127578304053,6.100927534759362,5.268483575248284,81.08070855614973,70.44385026737967,7.695798319327732,29.93468296409473,8.192908349453996,2.163554927425516,767,31,142,11,14,248,122,187,0.064,0.797,0.139,0.9624,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,2,1,1,7,7,0,0,13,0,11,1,0,2,1,22,20,8,0,1,3,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,4,10,0,1,3,0,1,4,3,1,0,0,5,2,16,6,32,13,5,32,0,0,0,1,25,9,0,4,18,94,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741487988629954,0.0,0.1439326357170412,0.0,0.0,0.2298941205191056,0.11960135746372055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050480617373854,0.14727635395838448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231027412696592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205552488993448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269898465124148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007448111036212,0.16168566932109826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12110528904447455,0.0,0.0,0.1406031416080032,0.0,0.0,0.07267814642720949,0.10268630726081547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105146147281104,0.0,0.0750970637144983,0.13788638752977822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301155228178756,0.12876082857194024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883614498982533,0.0,0.0,0.1658541132590145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022302465101092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220073056997093,0.1297289690970309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14485388675602226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294602683283925,0.1527705252321706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388228551137448,0.0,0.0,0.14083251764909754,0.0,0.0,0.1508286333106067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208211011418768,0.0,0.14192372885490007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085348734112426,0.14994986500993585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320536125450818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233444700952895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676293247430807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414330188924895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305955730808185,0.0,0.0,0.2664927462961404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464282441946472,0.14597270488326428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18512485072309084
parenting,breadispain,2019/03/17,"I'm entering the era of Lego. What tips should I be aware of to keep my family safe? My five year old has recently acquired what cannot technically be called *all* the Legos, but we have spent several months building sets from Christmas and his January birthday and still have more to open somehow.  I was not aware the fifth birthday is the Lego birthday, but for those of you with a four year old, brace yourselves!  Lego is coming.  I have enough awareness to know I will be stepping on Lego, sitting on Lego, clearing Lego out of my orifices shortly if I am not careful.  So far, HE is the only one who has bruised a foot for failing to return his Lego to the bin, but I have just pulled a helmet out from under myself and I'm frightened.  What advice can you give me to ensure our relationship to Lego does not evolve to garage sales and tensor bandages in the near future?  What Lego tips and tricks should I be aware of to ensure a healthy and happy family?

Signed,

A concerned parent.",4.146561954624784,5.856760026178013,4.326785340314139,86.72113787085517,71.77486910994764,6.768726003490403,26.869458987783595,7.3011,1.3298772076788832,779,27,150,8,15,242,111,191,0.06,0.848,0.092,0.8159,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,0,2,4,5,1,0,12,0,20,1,1,0,2,29,28,11,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,12,0,2,1,0,2,4,4,2,0,3,2,0,18,3,26,19,3,26,0,1,0,0,12,10,0,2,10,105,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417830734184013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20290637595419708,0.0,0.2025993352818124,0.0,0.0,0.17117212354107872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389353035965532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20532181224201174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37465451244224107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906219118875116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115317919292885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662366525297052,0.0,0.0,0.10920649142658954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860940240215302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41702800347625457,0.0,0.13465186740797505,0.1511288393804446,0.0,0.0,0.22064529728042892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620336003569072,0.2133414879286052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22448712111628727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869103939276435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25592702524826616
parenting,ericatmckelveen,2019/03/17,"Educational preschool videos beyond shapes and colors In search of a decent YouTube channel or videos that are educational for our 2 year old daughter. She only watches a few videos on the weekends (no judgement either way-it’s just what works for us). 

Friends of ours with a boy watch “truck tunes” (hey andrea!) which is awesome- music was actually kind of cool in my opinion and it showed real trucks (not just cartoons) and actually taught the correct parts and actions etc.  

The only thing she ever wants is Blippi and will occasionally watch Little Baby Bum. 

Not sure if this is a good sub to post this but would appreciate help or direction. Thanks! ",6.860593220338982,8.303803491525425,6.5625000000000036,74.28408898305086,64.9322033898305,8.272881355932205,31.69915254237288,8.472884824447931,2.498742372881356,524,20,88,7,8,164,91,118,0.012,0.83,0.158,0.9524,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,7,1,7,0,0,0,3,22,10,9,0,3,9,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,0,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,5,6,6,11,6,4,12,0,0,4,0,10,6,0,4,4,57,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.4108952450361612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347974146191445,0.0,0.19043709789713176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626555193272027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658318729788816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1411143101514485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192353573782269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21100709931367806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209165854747031,0.0,0.0,0.3202362132458925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227984263921994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163024274205527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396300611537985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842272097557276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938284099798463,0.0,0.0,0.1398672618123975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532425455605168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417647889133895,0.1671094936367136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326887844677795,0.0,0.0,0.14955498977789378,0.0,0.0,0.13557488724318814
parenting,velma-dinkly,2019/03/17,"Should I have a baby shower for baby #3? I have a 4 y/o son and a 2 y/o daughter. We are pregnant with our third and we decided not to find out the sex and I figured it would be fine if we didn't have a shower. I'm not totally against it I just thought people would think it was unnecessary. The people I have told have acted almost like weirded out that we aren't having a shower. Are baby showers for third children even really a thing? If it was our first girl or boy maybe I could see it. One friend pointed out that since we have given away most of our baby gear (swings, bassinets) to friends and family that it would be good to get new ones. I figured I could just see if anyone wants go pass any along to us? I guess I wouldn't mind getting new stuff for the baby since the handmedowns we have are all mostly faded, but I also had people throw our other baby showers before, and this would probably be us throwing it. Would it seem greedy to make a baby registry and not have a party? Or should I just have a shower? I really don't know what to do.",3.455309200603317,4.060862615384618,4.785864253393665,86.99197888386128,72.16742081447964,7.160301659125189,24.23559577677225,7.03164865440522,0.8295898039215688,822,21,176,7,15,274,113,221,0.029,0.92,0.051,0.3019,6,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,12,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,13,0,33,1,0,1,2,56,48,13,0,14,12,2,0,1,2,8,0,0,6,3,16,17,0,0,8,0,0,5,7,1,0,5,7,2,25,5,17,28,4,14,0,0,2,1,20,5,0,10,5,133,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871492991027528,0.0,0.0,0.10279394058889448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741207469798938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987863675150443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120768206308893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937865678016644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052585575093075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489991116633099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117671944569225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11748385879048058,0.10933664230942304,0.0,0.0,0.19862043113011849,0.0,0.13431440679627166,0.0,0.07305263438433046,0.10781382930167606,0.0,0.0,0.1416020580335328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064259969530386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279848660460709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580190640301638,0.0,0.12913639667616122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297894505788612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24829079210413396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17420499172287665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26734178180371954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151249680586255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858860074345905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16469291054516044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048605699138145,0.11701861337924326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21266036842426667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14714833300324848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539672049579661,0.08236368169205946,0.0,0.10204694698204646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282613448305114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092372382306638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581662729809678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4565580785425256,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Skr000,2019/03/17,"How quick can a stomach bug hit? My in-laws wanted to surprise my son (3 y/o) with a trip to Chuck E Cheese today. We met there at noon, by 1:30 his mood went south, but I attributed that to skipping his nap. By 2:30, we were back at home and he was throwing up. 

Could a stomach bug have hit him that quickly at Chuck E Cheese? ",1.0901904761904753,2.494615542857148,2.4457142857142853,98.30761904761906,79.28571428571428,5.238095238095238,21.666666666666664,5.46131890053228,-0.20047619047619047,248,7,61,1,6,80,53,70,0.0,0.97,0.03,0.2287,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,5,2,2,2,0,9,10,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,8,1,10,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,5,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36907516479387065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832251524647062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4814592998007643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549651296745781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831047719348357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4449464763025511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MaryLee0010011,2019/03/17,Come and see my top #3 girls What's your plan for the next 7 days ? If are you free then please join our party for free and make a chance to date with sexiest girls in my [collection](https://www.girlsopendate.com). So don't miss it guys.,3.977,6.264589755555555,3.2197222222222237,92.01625,73.66666666666667,6.277777777777778,15.694444444444445,7.1686216300943375,-0.6095555555555561,189,2,42,2,4,55,40,45,0.0,0.631,0.369,0.9462,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,6,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,5,4,5,6,0,7,0,1,1,0,6,2,0,1,4,21,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36548651950019534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27363064195603504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4201117994833228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832155164612486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45123507246255895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4657407827934145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381025815333574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,grief_bacon_taco,2019/03/17,"Special thanks to servers in family restaurants My family has been to 3 restaurants in 3 days and our 14 month old has caused a ruckus all 3 times.  Admittedly, this was our fault.  Containment of a toddler for a 3 hour hockey game and then a meal is unfair.  His little body isn't made to sit still for that long. 

Each server was very patient and had the ""kids will be kids"" attitude, which I really appreciate.  He wants to feed himself, but is not as successful as he wants to be, so there was a lot of food on the floor and a lot of screeching and eventually several spoons on the floor as well.  After dinner clean up is always fun in restaurants!  Lol ok it's terrible.

Thank you to all the servers out there that deal with this on a regular.  

What are your best ways to stop the screeching and food throwing?",3.525384615384617,5.299514213836481,4.245408805031449,86.4094484760523,73.52830188679245,7.911175616835995,25.43831640058055,8.617729084823388,1.6697959361393324,636,21,130,12,13,203,103,159,0.084,0.733,0.182,0.954,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,2,0,2,5,10,0,0,12,2,15,6,1,2,2,22,21,12,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,7,9,5,2,1,2,0,1,2,2,1,0,6,0,8,8,25,12,6,24,0,0,0,0,13,11,0,2,10,87,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373573702762552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812827715867532,0.0,0.0,0.19187816093303284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745430311362276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111404729537459,0.17809010451878293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256928253906524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4177622371137314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011673058376642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17313353340924326,0.0,0.15287182435464575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937192762066609,0.0,0.16345328820955934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788154869706534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812643705180829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066337577595256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19515004440644196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795251696581853,0.14442060447349156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31807647803375005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007276382573608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253079130805127,0.2037762011487184,0.1371150885143617,0.0,0.0,0.15531640314694775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kitsune-girl,2019/03/17,"Tub PTSD?? Ok so this is my first post on here. 

I have a 2.5 year old daughter and she loves to play in  water but she hates bathes. She freaks out when she hears the tub running. She fights, struggles, runs and crawls out of the bathroom to the best of our abilities. She grabs the door frame and tries to pull herself out. She turned purple screaming and crying last time I try to put her in for the bath. It seems that the issue of washing her hair and getting water on her head she seems to freak out if any bit of water gets in her face. After many attempts of trying not to get any water in her face whatsoever I have not been successful which usually causes a huge tantrum and for her to spaz out.

We have tried many contraptions to help with this but after using it a couple times it ends at the waste side. 

Dh has stopped washing her hair, which is becoming another problem. But we are at a loss of what to do now.",2.6400806451612917,4.446379284946238,3.2179435483870966,92.69691532258064,76.04301075268816,6.155376344086022,22.37768817204301,6.9077264865688965,0.4665494623655917,721,20,155,7,16,225,112,186,0.198,0.71,0.091,-0.9774,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,3,0,0,5,4,14,3,1,11,1,9,12,5,2,0,26,19,12,0,2,6,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,9,14,4,1,2,3,0,4,2,9,0,1,1,6,23,5,33,18,2,33,0,1,1,1,24,15,0,3,13,103,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19827984430141893,0.15287001530570454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610099025331458,0.0,0.0,0.1529940962631274,0.0,0.15916126485518392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976304971087318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613101568048928,0.1601397908868094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12912370131948775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400605115743232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22850252461415455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393413589781798,0.14961916372811646,0.0,0.1643121515149401,0.0,0.09771771934466772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521633874412386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883557872991228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157814472818166,0.0,0.0,0.2956095646846692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297856663035067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962331283425214,0.0,0.0,0.1394981364181733,0.17041679385718025,0.1465558511432687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26543738403840883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218841684170885,0.0,0.1524078616595867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700187375668989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959182662997893,0.1585740129706822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259128586060104,0.16056339987163878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388182366194166
parenting,SharonHolbrook,2019/03/17,Non-screen activities for teenagers? What are some ideas of hobbies/activities for younger teens who aren't into sports? My kid likes to read but seems to have trouble developing other ideas of what can occupy him when he isn't on a screen...home ideas are great as we can't always drive him somewhere for activities...,6.461440677966102,7.805511033898307,5.962500000000002,78.5857838983051,65.77966101694915,9.289830508474578,30.00423728813559,9.516144504307137,2.549166101694915,257,9,48,5,4,79,44,59,0.059,0.81,0.131,0.6553,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,10,8,1,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,2,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117235147911113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805329921603621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8617322108713847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12431184656817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25451973681500684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23164252354694956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peachyturkeyberry,2019/03/17,"How do I ask other parent for more custody? I (21F) have a wonderful 3 year old son, am in school full time and am working as a restaurant server. I currently live with my parents, but need to move out due to various conflicts at home, (which I won't get into because it would be my whole life story).  The point is, I've lived with my parents since my son was born, and am used to their help when I need the occasional babysitter. I am terrified of taking on even more time constraints, and educational, financial and psychological stress that will come with this big change. I don't think it will be healthy trying to keep the custody arrangement I have with my son's father now, because I'm already losing my mind, and it'll only get harder when I move out.

My son's dad has him every other weekend and once during the week, (8 nights a month, vs my 22 nights). He works 7:30-4 M-F.  He has a consistent enough schedule that he could work in more time with our son. I go to school 4 days a week, and work 3, and have hours of homework. 

My question is, how would I ask my son's father to help a little bit more (closer to splitting custody evenly)? We already have an official parenting plan, so I'm worried he'll say ""that's not the amount of time I agreed to, sorry, no."" 

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TLDR: I love my son so much, but I don't think I can be the best possible parent for him if I'm constantly burnt out. How can I ask his father to relieve some of my stress?",7.9449961149961155,5.3148750976431,8.179259259259258,77.1128205128205,64.01683501683502,11.023983423983424,35.304066304066296,9.057496981413335,2.841375239575239,1132,37,239,14,13,374,160,297,0.081,0.8009999999999999,0.119,0.927,6,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,0,1,7,10,6,0,2,13,0,28,2,0,4,0,41,48,19,0,6,5,16,0,0,0,7,1,1,2,0,10,19,0,2,4,1,0,4,5,3,0,0,1,1,34,3,29,36,13,39,0,1,0,1,34,13,0,4,22,147,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949861797190656,0.0,0.0,0.09572391645187926,0.10735125135642587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477775023823185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771099860154168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271470545058824,0.0,0.09645202102970213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345939096875154,0.07610310091741286,0.0,0.09547170007180797,0.0,0.07053787506346622,0.0,0.0,0.0569764936538664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128604748453682,0.0,0.11670469478922416,0.0,0.07443614143835986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231530183962612,0.0,0.050209624970450416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843423749845182,0.0,0.08861922480575685,0.0,0.08700397964041004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852685555965765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062402085051968224,0.0,0.0885468840373275,0.15602400473193748,0.0,0.0,0.09883767288790377,0.0,0.0,0.07973659919025468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920526540358734,0.0,0.07051771694919014,0.18779771739974568,0.06494519599532889,0.13101633318827907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581531280591638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270529446438801,0.09408665089023414,0.0,0.06719185973141999,0.0,0.0,0.4904943333794439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835164528324536,0.09959794612675303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896883730713488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025706487522254,0.0,0.1788237217557535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308153521531698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889721158673608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024023353201201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642593441244625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321835560884025,0.0,0.0,0.20606333916944655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05998180050582001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630342531662329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173323748560585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863624866652362,0.0,0.0,0.09580853171347642,0.2572706160219388,0.08972064715390206,0.0,0.12551832028533494,0.0,0.10735125135642587,0.05689255886718004
parenting,auntkracker,2019/03/17,"Someone with herpes held my newborn. Today I went to lunch with a friend I haven’t seen in a while. She’s pregnant and I had a baby 3 weeks ago so we thought it would be good to catch up. While talking she kept mentioning she has a “situation” that could cause her to have a c-section, but said she couldn’t talk about it in public as it is embarrassing. I didn’t think much of it and later let her hold my baby. Literally seconds after she hands my baby back to me she says “there’s fewer people around, I can tell you what the situation is. I have herpes.” It didn’t hit me at first so I was just asking how she was doing and she says “well there’s no cure so I have to live with it my whole life. The rash is itchy and it sucks that I can’t kiss my baby when she gets here.” Then it hits me and my face drops. I’m instantly frantic and so pissed off. I said “but you just held my baby??” She can tell I’m livid and freaking out and says “well I’ve never had an outbreak! And I’ll start taking medicine next month”. I said “you were literally just telling me about your rash and taking a pill NEXT MONTH does nothing for me now...”.  I immediately sanitized my baby’s hands and face after she told me and came straight home and gave her a bath. It’s Sunday and I can’t call the doctor but we do have an appointment tomorrow and I am going to bring this up right away. I don’t know what I’m expecting from posting here, maybe some assurance that my baby will be okay. Google searches are making this a lot worse for me. While I was still pregnant I saw so many Facebook posts about babies dying from HSV. I just feel like my baby and I were so disrespected today. ",1.2370333954907586,3.2267454927953922,2.876749449059165,92.61551067977626,81.10374639769451,5.696185794202408,19.42778437023224,6.794906146795322,0.07534283776911366,1294,32,290,14,34,426,176,347,0.136,0.7959999999999999,0.068,-0.983,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,2,4,0,1,25,13,2,2,13,1,34,12,7,3,2,50,64,32,1,4,7,0,3,1,1,2,3,6,2,1,16,24,1,4,4,1,0,5,9,5,2,2,22,11,56,8,29,33,4,43,0,0,2,1,39,11,2,2,25,200,72,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985718052219452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09899128920072034,0.1039566881608115,0.0,0.10447575803491208,0.08550568850454937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354730419901392,0.12718280780245386,0.0,0.1142327007592858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887838945545322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540770969216395,0.0,0.0,0.11381758245870288,0.09731158765777474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622589841867618,0.07944107224608621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458638937678628,0.0,0.0,0.08591259544943715,0.0,0.058097242204452226,0.0,0.06319733965601004,0.09326901414871623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154234379160882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06111243495532687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370920485549445,0.07854362119998698,0.054326545801967996,0.0,0.09819135302582124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453798977381284,0.0,0.0,0.07422664860458074,0.1127390201034177,0.11171502289378264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17751704428890372,0.0,0.08174455819493695,0.0,0.08576404698554442,0.0,0.23652423836265146,0.0,0.0,0.10669909019904818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709185544222971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21299710635977115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496391750395487,0.3173290750003166,0.2652913417357841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24998619451357504,0.0,0.0,0.09421912638887718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870770449354947,0.0,0.08880420656497952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672166379056527,0.17875617815924874,0.2915802599240436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125226367372549,0.0,0.08828012327871025,0.0,0.0,0.2108085851840684,0.10625605777230036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891976743024398,0.0,0.1999637302943695,0.10308321565112967,0.0,0.12415046941779705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332197202776327,0.07899306084035275,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Arcane_Pozhar,2019/03/17,"Why do I keep seeing posts that are locked, with no explanation? I feel like this sub is one of a few I follow that seems to like to lock a post, with no explanation why...  if the mods don't take the time to tell us what's making them lock the post, how are we supposed to be able to learn?

It kind of feels like being put in time out, but not being told why.",8.115384615384617,3.7160848974358975,8.165384615384614,82.82961538461542,65.41025641025641,11.425641025641026,29.84615384615385,7.793537801064563,1.5325846153846157,274,3,70,2,3,90,54,78,0.043,0.882,0.075,0.3421,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,14,17,3,0,1,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,3,6,4,11,13,1,9,0,0,1,0,5,2,0,2,5,43,11,1,0.17650601458517706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849348877321086,0.2521918641744396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688665572479385,0.0,0.1838038527131464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586957691894328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781913532727095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196050434944775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5071319136110837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743729594645494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065244131364102,0.16068444657604922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327105565235067,0.0,0.1542740365649562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205844153056772,0.0,0.0,0.1686590609352177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21231500293360184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4778076732263194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AREM101,2019/03/17,"Help with grieving friend Does anyone know what subreddit I can look at for ideas to help my grieving friend? She lost her 6 week old girl to bacterial meningitis just this morning and I am at a loss. I’ve got a meal train going, have assisted her with various random tasks, and have met with her pastor to coordinate efforts. Any advice would be appreciated. 
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parenting,Blakedagoat25,2019/03/17,"Parenting tip from a teenager If you constantly bug your children over minor problems, don’t be surprised if they don’t pay attention during your more serious lectures",8.55793103448276,10.544181517241382,7.968448275862072,63.75887931034484,61.41379310344828,11.317241379310346,45.53448275862069,11.20814326018867,6.21388275862069,140,9,18,4,2,44,25,29,0.192,0.743,0.064,-0.4201,1,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,1,13,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5934088363430828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6097381137753946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5254382794958629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saulmessedupman,2019/03/17,"AITA for telling my neighbor that kids are supposed to ride on the street not the sidewalk? I don't live in a busy area, maybe a car or two every few minutes, and I taught my kids to stay right, stop at stop signs, etc. The vast majority of people drive by slowly, smile and wave when passing. But one lady today told my kids multiple times to get off the street and onto the sidewalk. I politely told her that the sidewalk is for walking. She replied that they're going to get hit by a car, yadda yadda. I just ignored her and quietly told my kids to not listen to her.

I get her concern and can't get too mad for her wanting safety but am I a jerk for wanting them to be on the street?",5.190422535211269,4.685266739436621,5.8747535211267605,84.55818661971834,68.22535211267606,8.226760563380282,30.426056338028175,7.1686216300943375,1.6567436619718308,535,18,114,4,8,175,85,142,0.061,0.899,0.04,-0.4303,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,11,0,6,0,0,0,0,17,19,9,0,2,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,3,5,0,3,0,0,0,7,4,3,0,2,4,2,17,0,20,13,3,25,0,0,0,0,17,12,0,1,5,74,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21624044925444835,0.0,0.0,0.16336208256024076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.405201550464216,0.0,0.11019309627345156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120988440477514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947902291446336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13138600398202954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13442006095325815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558241471834256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666270706590886,0.0,0.3242042124241802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946985336268874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130597837809544,0.0,0.1837866186211292,0.5558153587226373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940397423849675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287246443991232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,veggieMum,2019/03/17,"To all dads Dads can arguably be the most important man in a girl’s life.

Through him, she will learn what right looks like. And a good Dad usually will do these things.

A good Dad will send spoken and unspoken messages to his daughter. She will learn what to expect; Demand. What’s more, ingrained in every cell of her body will be an understanding of what she deserves. And what she doesn’t.

A good Dad will raise his daughter to know her worth, value, gifts, strengths, purpose.

He will teach her to be brave. Take chances. Breakthrough glass ceilings. Shoot for the stars.

A good Dad will not comment on his daughter’s body, even innocently and in jest. Rather, he will focus on what her vessel allows her to do: run, jump, kick, dribble, walk, skate, dance, ski, move, thrive, be still. He will celebrate how her body gives her the gift of breath and life.

A good Dad will make sure he tells his daughter she is smart, hard-working, kind, funny, brilliant, and has beautiful eyes. He will do this often and without hesitation.

A good Dad will be good to his wife, her mother. He will hold doors and hands; refer to his wife affectionately. He will listen to his spouse. And value her opinion. He will always fight fairly and respectfully with his wife. He will call her beautiful, say no to sin, and gently pat his wife affectionately on her tush when passing in the kitchen.

A good Dad knows his daughter is always watching. Listening. In his eyes, she will learn her worth. He knows it. And will lead with it.

A good Dad will not only tell her but will teach his daughter what real love looks and feels like. Unequivocally, he will ensure his daughter knows the value in every ounce of her spirit, mind, and body.

A good Dad will make loving his daughter a verb. And will show her what RIGHT looks like.

Credit: my battle call
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parenting,jxs1,2019/03/17,"Parents who have had their spouse go into hospital for long periods of time, how did you cope ? Long story short my partner has a long term illness that sees her in and out of hospital. Today is the first time she's been admitted since our little bubba's been here. I work full time and live at home with her parents. Suffered with anxiety and depression due to my girlfriend's illness and today has just been a bit of a blow mentally.

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So for those of you who have had partners go into hospital for a long period of time, how did you (or do you) cope ?

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I'm just struggling with the fact that I want to raise my son (not my girlfriends mum), trying to hold a full time job down when I have XYZ going on in my head and trying to be strong for my little one.",8.130164835164834,5.863286705128207,8.002710622710628,77.38038461538464,63.35897435897437,11.221978021978023,35.10622710622711,9.606745405546679,3.0311073260073256,610,20,124,9,7,197,90,156,0.108,0.8540000000000001,0.038,-0.9034,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,4,1,3,7,4,0,1,7,0,15,3,1,2,1,21,22,10,0,1,4,5,0,0,4,0,2,0,1,2,5,11,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,3,0,2,7,1,18,1,24,14,4,33,0,2,1,0,21,13,0,1,17,87,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654060454531233,0.2976442267829283,0.0,0.0,0.09369403627746063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13371240138468118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054886599865622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417828044768676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20881831575169565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256960209097172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228537176424498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153883195402047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455068618233705,0.10814881908974057,0.4335506948825301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342730631445298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299311237184707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719908799486827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975977561335582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131366316844666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803882396228566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35708458495141066,0.0,0.2321864282249033,0.0,0.0,0.16630673985649808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223969654113065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916420699835881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976442267829283,0.0
parenting,Foot-Note,2019/03/17,"Florida K-12 McKay Scholarship Does anyone have experience with this? We just got a letter saying our daughter might be eligible. After visiting the website we found out she actually is. So we went ahead and applied honestly not knowing too much about it. We figured if we read up on it and decided it wasn't the best thing for her we would simply not use it.

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We actually don't dislike the school she is at right now. So far she has had good teachers but being a public school it is overly crowded. That being said, there is a private school down the road that is in the McKay network that we have heard nothing but amazing things about. We would love for her to go there but it is also one of the more expensive private schools in the county. I have looked around but haven't been able to find out how much the McKay Scholarship will pay.  


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parenting,huggle-snuggle,2019/03/17,"The best kind of date night! My husband and I don't have family that live nearby so date-nights are pretty few and far-between.  

Instead of doing dinner out and then feeling tired and stuffed by the end of the night (and struggling to fit in a quickie before bed), we did something a bit different. 

We rented a hotel room with an in-suite jacuzzi.  We brought fast food to the room instead of going to a nice restaurant, hung out, watched some hockey on tv, had a few drinks and copious amounts of ""fun time"" and were still home by 11:30 to bring the sitter home. 

The hotel room cost about the same as a dinner at a nice restaurant so we came out about the same from a money perspective but got to spend hours re-connecting, snacking, relaxing and hooking up pre-kids style.  It was only 5 hours but felt like a week-long vacation. 

Highly recommend!",5.151740576496675,6.092614817073172,5.118447893569846,84.9205654101996,68.51219512195122,7.914855875831485,29.543237250554323,8.00094639256281,1.887617073170732,666,24,129,8,11,207,111,164,0.024,0.82,0.157,0.9626,2,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,18,0,8,6,0,0,0,24,15,14,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,2,17,5,0,2,6,4,4,1,1,0,0,8,3,6,7,24,7,8,26,0,0,1,0,5,12,0,1,11,80,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853952049203705,0.0,0.17085929956433835,0.0,0.17774661176573026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621153845050326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010204569681667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159492050153302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442015457031697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348300208645846,0.0,0.08232174793283188,0.0,0.15632335996459434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19687078532866767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252880988131147,0.0,0.13021421985193854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720179547219161,0.32662388570744666,0.0,0.3206705764403871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954180834417013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954085813390109,0.0,0.1437644224514587,0.1440819367650597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583591362131776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238245220576587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563654277895776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12533927494378727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002046590311298,0.0,0.0,0.17020461002933124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493595871677593,0.18712641754492407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059655188508718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashmankrystle,2019/03/17,"Screaming child in the car... ...and we’re two minutes from Grandmas house. She decides to stop in a parking lot where she sees her friend, get out of the car, and start up a conversation with them. “0h, I’ll only be a moment!”    WTF mom, my child just wants to get out of his car seat so I can nurse him, why would you do this?!?!

Sigh....",0.427267080745338,2.3309653913043498,1.7644306418219493,99.96913043478264,83.4927536231884,4.522567287784679,18.552795031055894,5.288315135182226,-0.7094944099378884,248,6,61,1,7,79,55,69,0.145,0.8109999999999999,0.044,-0.8109999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,11,9,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,1,5,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,0,2,9,1,11,7,1,12,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,1,3,37,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425166114555104,0.0,0.3279972218421933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3621958415502921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668646292644507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676332335295135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387333722918731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25013585437137464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221784325029645,0.0,0.0,0.2624325619258909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066324760353233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514501695220245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832438822282349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229839448253664,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forrestgumpsgirl,2019/03/17,"Baby proofing suggestion for stairs? http://imgur.com/gallery/MaE5wn1

Does anyone know where I can find something to baby proof the stairs? Every type of item we've bought either isn't tall enough or we can't grasp to something on one side or the other and we don't know how else to block off this area from the baby. Thanks!",4.450999999999997,7.307807433333338,3.0599999999999987,90.935,74.66666666666666,5.333333333333334,18.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,-0.0931666666666664,266,5,48,2,6,75,46,60,0.049,0.901,0.049,0.0,0,0,2,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,2,14,8,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,8,7,3,8,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,2,0,29,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274446963835728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846564186736653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717313225036339,0.0,0.0,0.3361031984773469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740640646532849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29730180116604993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35753289591757675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22041946163724652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5008358601592607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994759083375557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,prettyarcade,2019/03/17,I have a VERY important question. How do you guys keep baby socks together? Every time I do laundry I manage to lose either pairs or one sock out of a pair. How do you NOT lose themV,-0.02947368421052232,2.2782076315789475,2.27926315789474,92.2578421052632,91.10526315789473,5.145263157894737,18.12631578947369,6.742157984588678,0.19782526315789487,142,4,30,2,5,48,30,38,0.141,0.785,0.07400000000000001,-0.3765,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,5,0,3,5,1,2,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,2,1,20,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635316768487905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097025936002153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2780143291069995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6998443812015904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119486566356557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503865615189399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238525083058715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25807727227141003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fredhyman,2019/03/17,"Watch me!!! I have a 6Y0 Boy and he constantly asks me and my wife to “watch him” do whatever he doing. Play outside, play video games, or just running around the house. We have a 3YO girl so him and his sister do play sometimes but mostly he wants a constant audience. ",2.2656603773584933,4.37264424528302,3.2383396226415115,90.72505660377364,78.24528301886792,6.504150943396226,23.807547169811322,7.554174236665415,1.052603018867924,207,7,43,3,5,66,40,53,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.6093,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,7,6,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,3,2,7,1,4,0,0,2,0,13,1,0,2,2,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968182383377436,0.31170662886056955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7206262431781041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38472677376353936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297650708805926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966622387091269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katemnorris,2019/03/17,"Please help me work through these emotions Hi. I am struggling with a lot of emotions right now, and am not sure where to go from here. This is long, so I apologize.

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My partner and I separated last fall (October 2018). We had been together for almost 3 years, and share 1 daughter (she will be 2 in May). We needed the space. I needed the space. I needed to figure out how to be happy with myself, and not rely on him to make me happy. But I love him - and I have always loved him. My intentions were to take some time to grow; and I remember telling him, ""We need to re-center and remember how to like each other again, as friends, before we can remember how to love each other."" To me, that meant that I still wanted him...I just needed a little time to find myself again too.

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We went through the holidays together - spent with his family, and some time apart. January rolled around and I started really falling in love again. I was afraid to have the conversation with him, but shared my feelings with my friends. They were supportive of my feelings.

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In February, I found out he had been dating someone for a few weeks now. When he told me, some things came flooding back from the last month - times he shared little white lies so I would never find out. But, like all things, the truth came out, and I eventually knew they had already been sleeping together. I was hurt, and sad, and confused. But I tried to be happy for him. She ended things with him, and my heart broke for him. I didn't want him to feel like that, despite also not wanting to feel like this myself. That was my time to share my feelings for him again. Bad timing, perhaps, but I needed to say all the things.

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About a week later, he met another girl online. He switched around a night with our daughter so he could go on a date with her, and I agreed. By the 2nd date, he was sleeping over at her place. And the 3rd, she was at his. We discussed the clear boundary of ""waiting for a long time to introduce new partners to our daughter,"" and came to an agreement of at least 6-12 months.  


Last night, I found out that his new woman was over at his house... with our daughter... and staying the night. He introduced her to our daughter after 4 dates and 2 weeks of knowing her. I also found out that he lied to me repeatedly over the last few days about it.  


I am absolutely distraught. Someone please help me navigate these emotions. I don't know what to do anymore. The worst part is that I still love him - despite all of this. But oh my god, every fiber inside of me is absolutely crushed. How do I move on? What do I do? I know him, and I know he will never be willing to have a calm, reasonable conversation with me about this. He is not going to want to hear why I feel this broke all of my trust, and disrespected everything we talked about. Not to mention, if things don't work out, how this will impact our daughter.

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Help me. I don't know what to do anymore. I think my brain knows that I have to officially be done with this for good, and my heart is just not ready. I want our family back.",3.296448445171848,5.018305926350248,3.911315548281504,88.78554615384617,74.02454991816693,6.917459901800327,25.14962356792144,7.627320914984058,1.156318206219313,2415,79,499,31,50,763,242,611,0.092,0.757,0.152,0.9882,0,0,0,0,0,0,124.0,13,0,2,2,32,35,0,4,22,0,49,10,5,8,9,130,99,40,0,14,15,6,6,4,4,6,0,2,0,4,28,53,0,1,25,1,1,11,12,10,0,0,28,9,95,25,88,59,15,89,0,4,1,5,85,30,0,8,51,359,123,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05096911765515708,0.0,0.056169548112112055,0.08140961512024777,0.04235297734885519,0.2757512936747839,0.30924608537117776,0.0,0.05337321386464031,0.0,0.0,0.10095848350436266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062379647267048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827810077894667,0.042499474085773266,0.0,0.0,0.043312253133941235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056821367580588374,0.0,0.17464853193913862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040639604025393454,0.0,0.0,0.032826366526707916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05208849488607027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176735203364665,0.04508239834827688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04288554638924609,0.0,0.04574574578139188,0.0,0.0959682062492488,0.0,0.15441978024315126,0.07272611177133392,0.0,0.0,0.09304357506076442,0.0,0.0,0.16742806300785895,0.07865061287020811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678313353896809,0.04269260570130234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625523726150723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736813452807196,0.1206337745070529,0.10235183248692772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05873190447862822,0.054489631182353976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16784024873475092,0.16596156533630502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994689102358904,0.10203058432711996,0.0,0.0900900089019071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04327346180342035,0.22969672778687064,0.0,0.03397622533408226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125598030877336,0.054098772220821205,0.0,0.226450764082701,0.07851462084639635,0.0983193061152224,0.0,0.1432989436040446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511986976032876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05317979184318911,0.11174609344277273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03260792023271122,0.05233380074479757,0.0,0.0,0.17297974066361566,0.04346842435133804,0.0,0.04047781839113311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187375888039396,0.0,0.08625501296770957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036027366904938816,0.05425275542464993,0.08129780313643123,0.0,0.0,0.05321185700637582,0.0,0.0,0.05776085296218188,0.04797276070512387,0.0,0.03827055562858513,0.040911588379481126,0.0444889483781175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16907888996827844,0.032614741627881354,0.0,0.0,0.20776188502713314,0.0,0.0,0.04863724591979146,0.0,0.034557840296343116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011104771092296,0.0,0.12248701800563627,0.0,0.0,0.047184921170055835,0.045929441276797836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411178712920857,0.0,0.0,0.03615798483962624,0.0,0.30924608537117776,0.032778008442603174
parenting,jaylynn82,2019/03/17,"TIFU and my child stuck corn up her nose This was last night so it's still fresh! My 2.5 year old daughter shoved SEVERAL pieces of steamed corn up her nose. So much so, after getting out what I could at home and running to urgent care and then removing what they could, she STILL has a couple pieces up one nostril. The hope is, with saline rinses, that since they are so far back, they will go down to the throat and see a specialist now. 

Did I mention I feel horrible cause I was sitting right next to her and just thought she was having a snotty nose everytime I looked over at her!!! Between the doc and me, we easily removed 5-7 pieces! They had to strap her down and everything just to get her to be still to even go up her nose and it was horrible to watch my child crying and not being able to do anything other then just be there! It was traumatizing enough for me that I couldn't even imagine what it was for her! 

Not only that, she got dinner all over her so I changed her. I went to take plates to the kitchen and she apparently pooped right after being changed, took her diaper off and got poop all over herself, the carpet and her clothes. So before we could even leave to get looked at, I had to change her again! 

TL;DR- Eating dinner, 2.5 year old shoved corn up her nose and got food all over her. Changed clothes, pooped, undressed and got poop everywhere. Took to urgent care, some corn removed, more still in her nose. 

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parenting,Watchme_watchme_,2019/03/17,"Handling isolation Hi All, 

I work in a job where having any kind of personal connection with colleagues is a bad idea. We moved and had a baby, he’s now a 1.5 year old. Social contact for me is basically my kid and my wife. In all previous eras of my life I was surrounded by dozens of people and close with handful. After moving having a child that’s not a part of my life anymore. I find it destabilizing, and I imagine I’m not alone in this. If you’ve had a similar situation (social contact restricted to family only), how did you cope with it? 

I’m getting better at it but I think I could use some tips. ",1.8169892473118312,3.9069517741935513,4.331935483870968,82.40956989247313,79.64516129032258,7.681720430107527,24.849462365591396,8.59863814320734,1.9467655913978497,476,18,95,11,12,167,85,124,0.054000000000000006,0.916,0.03,-0.3777,1,2,0,0,0,1,15.0,1,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,7,0,9,3,1,2,2,24,14,7,0,2,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,9,0,1,4,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,1,13,2,15,9,4,14,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,5,65,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19535717002347594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827052033171893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870639325830712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574928322859272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668222512667445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506006010337982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778175487664886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239855877691188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985480490385856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21293309195038587,0.0,0.0,0.1871798239611596,0.0,0.0,0.19642245957774365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2664608625120328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4009540844224473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979287447033283,0.0,0.0,0.1434567521494779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20426098417748603,0.0,0.13076785854758174,0.1646988573008475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120208362833895,0.0,0.3845560249901931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086239050586847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291023373303634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373202317420914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146741806496128
parenting,KindaSortaNot,2019/03/17,"She's scared of kids. She's 2.5, 3 in July. She is terrified of other children. Now, at daycare it's different because the adults facilitate the connections. But at parks, birthday parties, or anywhere else where there are other children, she will not go near them or interact, doesn't matter their age. 

I have tried exposing her multiple times and it is not working. Her teachers find it hard to help me since she socializes fine at school. But in less than 2 years she will be going to one of the largest elementary schools around. I'm worried for her first few weeks and how hard the change will be on her. I would rather get this issue resolved prior to that. 

Thoughts? Suggestions? Anyone's kid go through same? I feel I'm at a loss. ",3.1472036474164122,5.656578375886529,3.5690628166160074,87.41250000000002,77.29787234042553,6.8654508611955425,27.80192502532928,7.957251820313856,1.8834818642350561,585,25,112,10,14,182,100,141,0.125,0.812,0.062,-0.7914,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,4,6,4,0,1,5,0,11,0,0,1,0,18,19,7,0,2,7,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,7,3,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,2,0,2,1,3,16,2,18,12,3,20,0,1,0,0,21,10,0,2,7,75,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367567998519915,0.0,0.0,0.17411112372466467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922612087194145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20690181669337745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434353177983927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338523903180524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889308882779274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876012746911688,0.16636355255519905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10218450741671506,0.0,0.3334644870097465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504094885044522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109575529610334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413876151430366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253270213772184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19581358863810056,0.3958826664246845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178901067144527,0.0,0.0,0.19937314016418012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527175765376658,0.11404653611084735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278861936242814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688559500355945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238739757720287,0.1986249289518114,0.0,0.13893718023489018,0.0,0.0,0.12594960938585828
parenting,livettedarling,2019/03/17,"New App with monthly cash back$/Blogger You can check out my blog post & journey on this as I support this Apps initiative on Liv by the broad on wordpress. The blog is geared towards women in vintage chic, to inspire & motivate & spread kindness. This is an App with a cause & Im a mom of 4 who backs it.


It helps businesses & families.
The app will release its phase two platform March 31st but, you can join & add now.
The app can be found on google play or iphone store. Free join, no fees & no card info to give. The signup process is simple.

The app will list every business geared towards kids so parents can find things easy  When you add Businesses they get locked to you-Nobody else can add. When those Businesses starting March 31st want to be on it, you get 10$ a month for each.

Businesses are already giving positive feedback on this, and parents are backing it. It's a win/win scenario. It helps parents & its helps businesses with affordable advertising that accesses their target audience.

The App is called kidazzler and the access code to join is
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parenting,GladysNottmie,2019/03/17,"My four year old has been married and divorced already. Last year, a girl in my son’s preschool class asked him to get married. He said they got married in a church and there was “food and toys” and “the teachers took marry pictures.” I asked why I wasn’t invited to his wedding and he said it was because I was “at work.” Talked to his teachers and they had no idea. I was disappointed I didn’t even get the “marry pictures.” No worries, though, my son assured me I can come to the next one. How many times does he plan to get married? “A thousand.” A few weeks later, my son started complaining that his wife “won’t leave me alone when I want to be leaved alone.” Teachers confirm she follows him around a lot and they try to intervene. A few weeks ago, I get the update that he’s “cancelling the marrying. She is my friend. I am NOT her husband.” Hopefully this is not a glimpse into his future!",1.8252309612983808,4.065970449438203,2.7183520599250954,93.1865418227216,80.46067415730337,5.303870162297129,26.181023720349565,6.42735559955562,0.8799952559300874,692,29,145,6,18,218,103,178,0.125,0.8340000000000001,0.041,-0.8922,0,2,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,3,2,6,5,0,0,12,0,15,1,0,1,1,18,30,10,0,2,2,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,4,10,1,0,1,1,0,3,7,2,0,3,12,2,28,3,12,16,3,22,1,1,0,0,31,5,0,2,14,93,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299387562174597,0.0,0.0,0.30363570023166864,0.16176019026419827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049172596710026,0.2740743710574727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935685417518095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12626999617955464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282775194927898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681800864568757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772511613296105,0.0,0.1132512057679992,0.0,0.3063384453480767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723741362565895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559197783780226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547662025683588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948633773838377,0.0,0.3104246951746739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462132329674863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486141804588957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558948082513285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381629705924876,0.0,0.09932978823560937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788718012846016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037536159918708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178194687816688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14401901619712246,0.0,0.08547489108856683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16286132624321228,0.09952159149115232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645962965559634,0.0,0.2351632869105403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227016077882736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671562429977473,0.14886418078607142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879186535644066
parenting,thr0wawaybaybay,2019/03/17,"Wife refuses to get our 2.5 year old son vaccinated I am just looking for some feedback for my current situation and if I’m just ‘conditioned’ by her to think I’m in the wrong..

She refuses to get him vaccinated with no real reason or data she can show me that she’s actually read/researched. I want to take him, without her consent or knowledge and just get him vaccinated.  But, I can’t even take him to get a haircut without her knowing without her flipping out and throwing around phrases like “ I can’t believe you went behind my back..” 


Sorry if I don’t really have a “question” just, ionno, hoping for some advice or words of encouragement ",8.313091397849464,6.998229717741939,9.028064516129033,67.1454301075269,62.306451612903224,11.492473118279571,40.82795698924731,10.504223727775694,4.382482795698925,511,25,90,10,6,174,80,124,0.044,0.8759999999999999,0.08,0.6409,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,0,7,4,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,32,20,9,0,4,13,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,2,5,1,0,2,7,1,0,0,1,1,21,3,18,19,2,9,0,0,1,0,19,3,0,9,5,67,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.167149700677913,0.0,0.0,0.16737796879793898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248019152648482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170778828166596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19297982727860769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113132295493044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3579579047822317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012490639463906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413389664764844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836813236370716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383647490015855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973506183374546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187868606409492,0.0,0.17133160721540086,0.1949601192964032,0.10972972035802044,0.17610976965155334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253180318278768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173981963409065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575703900832039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109752675203933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102848124269648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587831474118817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4953386204534996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872735375248492,0.0,0.11030208840769808
parenting,jacksonbrowndog,2019/03/17,"13mo whines only with mom My wife and I are losing our minds. Our 13 mo son is amazing. Great temperament, interacts well, plays independently. He and I can just hang out but the second mom enters the it all breaks down and he claws at her and whines like he is dying or something. She is starting to feel terrible like she shouldn’t be around because she makes the situation worse. He is our first is this just a phase or something?  ",3.0524999999999984,5.390751392857148,3.8169047619047625,86.39892857142858,76.73809523809524,6.5809523809523816,22.404761904761905,7.6454224807358475,0.929290476190476,343,10,68,5,8,109,61,84,0.158,0.696,0.146,-0.4939,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,2,4,10,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,1,18,12,7,1,1,5,4,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,4,1,2,0,1,10,6,6,10,1,9,0,3,0,0,16,4,0,2,4,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19829290395286528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578508500191533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311772084006953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262805813339165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894692954842629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24558040513940754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176467973249143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491979832834532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486859886494347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249119347644996,0.5217594220741926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940985606899847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503780325444126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34296451422008617,0.0,0.0,0.15766214798803066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002771611799028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699919454010944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elephant_Jones,2019/03/17,"Any recommendations for tricking my six year old into watching more educational videos? Hey Folks,

I'm looking for some content on Youtube / Netflix / Hulu that can trick my kid into learning.  Let me specify by saying, if the content seems too babyish, or even if the content makes it clear that it is for teaching, he will just zone out.  The kid loves mindless videos like ""Chad Wild Clay"" ""Guava Juice"" etc, but those videos are just so mindless and brain rotting. It would be cool if I could get him into something that has some sort of story, plot, morals (more like a philosophy, not talking religion here) and has you learn some stuff along the way.

Any recommendations are welcome! Thanks

(I have seen semi similar posts lately, but they seem to have been focussing on toddler age and clear educational channels, so I decided to make this post regardless)",10.524257703081233,9.093491901960787,9.130364145658262,68.53235294117647,58.08496732026144,11.357236227824464,41.46498599439777,9.957137785484203,4.1295142857142855,683,30,115,10,7,210,112,153,0.041,0.813,0.146,0.9501,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,1,0,7,8,2,0,5,1,14,2,1,2,2,33,24,11,0,6,9,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,9,8,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,5,9,6,14,17,6,13,1,0,3,1,11,6,0,10,6,75,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671169468894037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192469242735784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680911188254418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903748729909786,0.12972009382162372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261069306111176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215473209733812,0.0,0.0,0.20083191344246065,0.0,0.19190186331870235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492621260537774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725832104111885,0.0,0.2621965369755866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060883586114661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761930837727881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618485723656222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35758966759559085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119801931377685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22483057167728515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578585715422344,0.0,0.18081837893330546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558928732217217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951665194920393,0.0,0.0,0.1264749132386109
parenting,BrandonCole84,2019/03/17,"Is my son normal ? I am pretty disturbed at what i found. Okay so first off, I am a 48 year old parent of my 14 year old boy and a 17 year old girl. Me and my daughter have noticed something really concerning about my son and we decided to hide it from my wife because she will get panicked. I plan to take him to a psychatrist with my wife when she returns home next week from her parents home. My son has a personal cell phone since 1 year. I would not care if he was watching porn but this is something strange. I checked his phone will he was asleep and youtube was the only app he used. His history was full of videos of st. Baldricks charity headshave videos or extreme women haircut videos. I was totally bewildered at all of that but yet felt nothing abnormal.But yesterday morning i caught him pleasuring himself to all those videos. (He had forgot to lock the room) I am totally freaked out. I dont even have much knowledge about porn and masturbation but this was something bizzare. Does lead to bestiality or pedophilia ? I am very confused and disrurbed atm on whether to put him on medication and not. And yes i made him confess he only pleasures to such youtube videos where women cut off/shave all their hair instead of porn. Does he need any medication or therapy ? Is this normal ?",3.0537096774193566,5.589538048387097,3.647348387096773,86.58152258064516,77.79032258064517,7.032516129032259,29.67806451612904,8.109356740369918,2.2443498064516123,1028,49,196,19,25,323,147,248,0.08800000000000001,0.847,0.065,-0.457,2,0,3,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,1,3,9,8,1,2,6,2,21,7,2,3,5,40,31,18,0,5,10,8,2,0,0,3,2,0,3,5,7,11,0,1,5,5,2,3,3,4,0,1,12,3,32,4,24,16,7,26,1,0,1,3,35,9,0,5,14,123,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460875790437285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584428337810213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126852819989821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21775870758336185,0.0,0.1458174027043759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217715978934527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194611463470525,0.0,0.0,0.10583020173353427,0.0,0.13641832051875766,0.0,0.0,0.06500346300530373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24960353858679604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177276697492418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25067683605405183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914618175129537,0.09225464465566154,0.0,0.0,0.1323203477039226,0.0,0.24380717162925514,0.11938278133831752,0.14165113857747552,0.3916684488285939,0.0,0.0,0.1892515533728815,0.0,0.0,0.2763037513285213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863732140835787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657821122715426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507482616337107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970559356373752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292016114495324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287350018650146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354712998010753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422832489551659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745752407035984,0.0,0.10265818517336517,0.0,0.0,0.09980091139736473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838324011906495,0.0,0.0,0.3204854035595952
parenting,youlikepete,2019/03/17,"Getting dauther (1.5years old) to sleep Hi,
I’ve got an amazing daugther who’s currently one and a half years old. Everything is going great except that it’s difficult to get her to sleep. I always carry her and walk with her through the bedroom singing her to sleep, but sometimes this can take over an hour.

Putting her in her bed while she’s still awake makes her cry. I’ve tried letting her cry (altho it’s difficult for me to hear her cry and do nothing) and coming back to her each 5 minutes while keeping her in her bed, but it doesn’t work; she’ll just keep crying. 

Any tips would be great!",4.635249999999999,5.403123358333333,4.5183333333333335,89.38500000000002,69.58333333333334,7.333333333333332,30.0,7.1686216300943375,1.5257500000000004,473,18,99,4,8,145,80,120,0.165,0.755,0.08,-0.906,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,4,0,8,3,3,1,0,15,18,9,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,6,7,0,2,0,1,0,4,1,2,0,2,1,1,16,3,13,13,1,16,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,0,9,60,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088600791114007,0.0,0.0,0.09062383184976204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247149841140887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479480922700595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5855353188484793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976874935696903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924948307840396,0.0,0.0757367866796552,0.0,0.10658309130133826,0.2938472244683865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501977857832723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123782243314547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369016582635724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362710810064107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895450159627466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278700381583245,0.0,0.2796755050473339,0.0,0.09030287824552853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339667464174148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000795861446428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180112836988328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10642449959882566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019765787043836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047725077103223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701750299899854,0.0,0.0,0.09466665259334013,0.0,0.0,0.08581740248247641
parenting,Mothersloth91,2019/03/17,"How do I explain to my son (4) that he can't see his dad anymore due to DV. Just before Christmas i kicked out my son's dad due to domestic abuse. There was a few months of turbulence as he tried to carry on controlling my life through contact with my son. The police have been called on numerous occasions. The last time my son seen his dad he grabbed my son while ignoring him and repeatedly said to me he wouldn't leave until I spoke to him as I looked like I had been having rough sex (I hadnt). I ended up grabbing my son back and trying to close the door while he pushed it open. I quickly sent my son upstairs while his dad was banging and kicking on the doors and windows trying to get in. I asked him to leave or I would call the police. He didn't so I rung the police. As he was trying to smash my Windows and door to get in he started shouting through the letterbox to my son that he needs to let him in or he'll be in trouble, I held onto my son and cried while singing a song to calm him down while on the phone to the police.

Since then my son has been traumatised. He has nightmares, wets the bed and his behaviour has gone from a lovely boy to one who is confused, angry, lashing out overly clingy and generally an emotional wreck. I've tried talking to him, explaining to him and every thing over what's happened to create a safe place for him.

 But just recently he's started to ask if he can ring his dad, when I've asked why he's said to make him say sorry. He's also said things like 'Mummy my daddy made bad choices because his teeth hurt', 'Mummy, daddy had a hammer in his car to get you', 'mummy daddy wants to get in the house', 'Mummy, daddy made bad choices because he wanted our dog'. I self reffered to social services for advice and support for him, but still haven't heard back. When I ring they say they'll get back to me in a few hours and never do. What can I do? How can I help and support him? 

It was the police and social services who told me to stop contact with his dad for his son's safety. ",4.7109999999999985,4.585487147619048,5.459142857142859,85.84585714285716,69.19047619047619,8.053333333333333,28.228571428571428,7.404127859558343,1.414102857142857,1582,48,340,14,25,516,193,420,0.06,0.873,0.067,0.4603,0,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,1,1,2,1,15,13,0,1,19,0,30,4,1,6,1,46,65,34,0,6,7,17,4,2,0,4,1,11,6,2,10,19,0,5,2,2,0,4,6,6,0,1,23,18,56,7,58,36,2,52,0,1,3,2,85,21,0,4,29,214,66,2,0.0,0.11538185055141285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516064958992422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787642079849601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657686420640377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731173207229905,0.0,0.0,0.22464244450354215,0.1626199520894323,0.11872643427109668,0.0,0.08286498457971138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887600016768994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092222925508434,0.0,0.0,0.1069696512432366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954174202197482,0.08625162566338261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204860941423855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25439060909240196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611465903920236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527316103448573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959017408084185,0.11236585508281427,0.10424953958679108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937939934623682,0.0,0.20622714120803204,0.0,0.09957978308438603,0.06878384886866927,0.09515193872930387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177642783291117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789113670539356,0.18429057302436466,0.0650033000979862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772945376996987,0.0,0.0,0.07220758452097238,0.07510706988157198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598862327335922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017435555109652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615306389427493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778979986277997,0.15488429043065047,0.0,0.0,0.0776009162419031,0.0,0.1015907562996676,0.0,0.0,0.0805554697275639,0.0,0.0,0.19853755073142998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901127501829047,0.13785508658684273,0.0,0.07776946147816081,0.08141578626678345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22101607945541848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827203377560041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939266462678428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678427879052695,0.0,0.0,0.09305275855032404,0.0,0.3305802280025628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487695747753456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787218783993765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06917744147143197,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,skyrimnerd77x,2019/03/17,"I've been raising my younger sister since she was 7 My sister is now 12 and she's going through that stage of not liking me and being well a little teenager. Since I'm not really her parent she cant be pretty sassy and a little mean. I don't want to force ""being the authority figure "" and ""force discipline"" but i can't deal with this new teenage attitude.  Any tips? ",2.1391428571428577,4.173140400000001,3.8499047619047637,86.54400000000004,78.33333333333334,6.419047619047619,21.38095238095238,7.447530270364453,0.8030952380952372,290,8,58,4,7,97,57,75,0.052000000000000005,0.892,0.056,-0.1833,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,13,5,0,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,0,1,0,2,0,9,2,4,8,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,3,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678895258815752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680183185320181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774730792322066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270085249584551,0.5211177637436705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283184244153502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510812678055763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886666345389254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26448360592437703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665438513761975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43010080610296464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333742134718534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337448300362785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ohheylookausername,2019/03/17,"Is it normal to feel like this with a newborn when we have a two year old? I know I’m a great dad (one of the very few things I’m very confident in) and I know how to objectively tackle the newborn stage as we already have before and me and my wife work amazing as a team but I’m sadly I’m just not feeling ANY connection whatsoever to my son, I just feel like it’s work. I remember when my daughter was born I had that bond right away, I also always feel “off” when we put our daughter to bed and then me and my wife wait for our sons next feed and it’s just us three. 

He’s only a week old I know, I just feel bad for feeling like this. ",0.461374795417349,2.0299187163120607,2.6995744680851077,95.02615384615385,81.69503546099291,5.756901254773594,20.066012002182216,6.67199483983844,0.014292525913802478,493,13,121,5,13,168,80,141,0.084,0.804,0.112,0.4379,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,6,0,0,3,9,7,0,0,7,0,5,1,0,1,0,29,19,15,0,1,6,7,6,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,10,1,1,10,1,0,1,1,2,0,3,2,6,20,5,13,17,1,16,0,1,0,0,17,4,0,0,13,74,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543445964249512,0.11988663020966644,0.12474093450019808,0.0,0.0,0.10194705072246027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408496766238687,0.0,0.12517240687848846,0.0,0.0,0.1275662602592212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548078765321224,0.32129700363912894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528134645197876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24716738685768494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197220643015196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943584958701054,0.0,0.14688445208402384,0.0,0.0,0.31462025293918433,0.0,0.1015859947761106,0.11401678850324068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070555298059846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982398759713624,0.1280262265902692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959658120455284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644475480202745,0.0,0.18032877334222652,0.0,0.0,0.24739044680867195,0.0,0.0,0.12025242809821535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21827918986260167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654007014683284
parenting,raesofsunshyne,2019/03/17,"Single Parent Empty Nester I (41f) have a child (25M) who is grown and living his life. I moved to a new state to accept employment  and I am struggling with living somewhere with no memories of my child. My coworkers have never met him and some prob don’t even know I am a parent. I have been so busy raising him (single parent) that I don’t even know what I am supposed to do or who I am supposed to be without him. He is happy and successful and I am so very proud  of him. I know
it is time to focus on myself, and I am looking forward to it, but I am honestly at a loss on how.  
How do you refocus on yourself when you have had to put that on the back burner for so long?
** I saw that there was an empty nester reddit but it isn’t very active so hoping I can get some feedback here. Thank you. ",2.036755656108596,3.0695155352941192,4.086470588235295,89.05604072398191,76.0,6.642533936651581,22.488687782805425,7.010146845296331,0.5991085972850683,611,16,136,6,13,210,92,170,0.059,0.7929999999999999,0.149,0.9552,4,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,0,3,0,3,12,9,0,1,6,0,24,1,0,2,1,22,33,16,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,9,8,0,0,4,0,0,4,6,2,0,0,5,2,25,7,18,27,4,16,0,1,2,0,17,6,0,4,7,109,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13334949576048816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22908492739945266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060494206331618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184609119768193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722454744704214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28592176246454803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249187703650605,0.0,0.0,0.3062665804588354,0.15347149637741705,0.14562936368564186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843183195586234,0.0,0.0,0.1337524160078855,0.16749039339891875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5776881159151858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433528698597106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129653708174434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966210010371587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112276369553598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861797968886373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717096771556866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UsagiGreen07,2019/03/17,"Babysitter fails Our babysitter (aunt, uncle and teenagers) watched our three young kids today... Or so we thought. We went on a long date for our birthday. Our aunt said she could do it for a while and then her husband and teenagers would watch them at THIER house, next door, until we got home. We came home after an amazing date to our the children in OUR house alone happily watching tv. Our two oldest have communication disabilities and could not tell us what happened. Called aunt, she wasn't home so couldn't tell us why they were alone in our house. We looked on the security cameras to find out they had been home for TWO HOURS completely unsupervised. Personally, BEYOND pissed! Tell your worst babysitting with relatives story.",5.157954545454548,7.835139795454547,4.075757575757578,85.43363636363638,71.5,6.824242424242425,27.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.672684848484849,591,22,106,8,12,172,90,132,0.106,0.826,0.067,-0.68,0,2,0,0,0,0,19.0,15,1,3,1,3,5,1,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,0,20,17,10,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,3,2,12,0,1,2,1,0,2,3,3,0,3,9,5,22,2,15,4,1,21,0,1,4,0,34,7,1,1,12,68,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25483094156422514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256209718871458,0.14070636054448105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289880286567048,0.0,0.0,0.19644885804277976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244145032444043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839330644580513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10878946834322227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936112832450224,0.0,0.12115358188886105,0.4258585624368334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088721199078672,0.10330893957206913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083712073827128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741956610930477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702372883499053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32258445846117273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766709093464268,0.0,0.0,0.11661210074420605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403525946661424,0.0,0.29596477268414123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11404421995480195,0.11100977120411906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739252019328632,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeathsDesign72,2019/03/17,"Need an app to monitor and limit my child's time on iPhone I am looking for an app that will allow us to monitor (the more detail the better) and let us set custom time limits for each day of the week.  Showing phone location would be great too. 

I recall a computer program called Golden Eye that would take screen shots every x seconds and log every key stroke. I am hoping there is an app that will allow us to see exactly what my child is doing on tiktok Instagram, etc.

Thanks.!
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parenting,lostinnwportland,2019/03/17,"My 15 month old son still isn't walking I can't get my 15 month old son to walk. He moves around on his own just fine, as he  currently crawls every where. He will pull himself up onto chairs, coffee tables, ect. and will walk while holding on to those. He does have a walker that he pushes around and will use that. He however won't even stand on his own. My husband and I will hold one of his hands and walk with him but he gives up after a few steps and will just sit down and start crawling. If we try to just have him stand, he will get upset and sit down. I have watched videos and read articles and don't know what to do. My other son didn't have this issue as far as I can recall (my other son is 8 years old).

I need advice in how to get him to stand and walking on his own.

Help. ",2.443098039215684,3.0706215647058848,3.4702941176470574,95.41465686274508,74.52941176470588,6.372549019607844,20.049019607843128,5.985473137389443,-0.24874509803921585,606,10,148,3,12,195,92,170,0.021,0.949,0.03,0.1406,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,2,0,18,1,1,2,0,25,26,17,0,2,5,5,1,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,14,0,2,1,2,0,9,5,1,0,1,1,2,19,1,24,18,4,39,0,0,1,0,24,14,0,1,11,95,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957394811420488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32718129151963005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081481101402176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137566913262085,0.0,0.1548307288074164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880303543623784,0.17628503298495254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317443484641745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19180389573238407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009929538146056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933604374998293,0.19531411013190567,0.0,0.13626011478587138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5784943185742707,0.0,0.12452455571586077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838156680080381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007047699181554,0.0,0.14675571573470622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476500941666492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871476844428126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183392392849752
parenting,darkmagiciangirlkt,2019/03/17,"Tooth decay at 3 yrs old I've been regularly brushing my child's teeth but there are more times she wanted to do it herself. I also don't know what kind of dental care her dad does for her whenever my kid's with him. But her tooth decay is getting worse and last time i took a good look at her teeth it wasnt this worse. Also, she still drinks milk after brushing her teeth at night. 

She's only 3 and since we have old school families, believing in handmedown knowledge that their ancestors passed down (some have already been rebuffed by science), and they believe that children under 7 shouldnt undergo any dental procedures. I've done some research and it seems some parents even let their children at 2 have dental procedures. 

But I do want to know what other parents have done and what do you think i should do. Maybe i misunderstood what kind of procedure were made etc.

One of my kid's aunt is 8 and her dentist refused to do anything when she was 6. Or is it just in my country? I live in the PH btw.",3.6209514925373165,5.275634661691544,4.220817786069651,87.17659981343286,73.02985074626865,7.015049751243781,26.99036069651741,7.6454224807358475,1.4564450248756216,801,29,160,10,16,254,121,201,0.098,0.8540000000000001,0.048,-0.875,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,1,3,0,7,6,0,0,2,0,24,8,5,1,0,27,35,13,0,4,5,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,12,8,2,1,5,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,9,3,27,4,19,23,5,22,0,0,1,0,27,9,0,5,11,107,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000734993267378,0.21741390190379636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924402748095892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186269678102884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30630377225290684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385945123255893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189573944220884,0.2782168396386349,0.0,0.1331642801992403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516031517679324,0.08978360422906044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814716141661306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102028362804604,0.0,0.0,0.1140155984554193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28311019703023804,0.1494123403811143,0.11080494433161152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390024667872778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120032853146014,0.0,0.1141509334700369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12862472412858833,0.0,0.0,0.13656470273596014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756553150644012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.285281255673963,0.0,0.09211288808613152,0.10338448427350468,0.0,0.0,0.3018788519812183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757319951766553,0.0,0.12374986883663487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244660972850624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855764745964328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710148336198494,0.0,0.0,0.15852926331303446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102848183081036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035564621448056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27705819723348185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,overzealouszebra,2019/03/18,"Night time asking to go potty - advice wanted A week ago we potty trained our 2 yr old (3 in July) with the 3 day method. It went fantastically - she has been peeing and pooping without prompting and no accidents for 5 days. She uses a floor potty so we dump and flush - still a bit scared of the big potty. To continue the bragging, she is an excellent sleeper and other than being sick ALWAYS goes to bed happily and sleeps thru the night without calling. She has a doorknob lock on her door so she can't roam the house without us noticing. So - now at night she asks to sit on the potty, sometimes waking at midnight and calls for us. So we go in and help her use the potty and then it's straight back to bed for her.

Our house layout means she can't have free reign to go to the bathroom and she needs help wiping still. She doesn't want a potty in her room, and that seems kinda like a bad idea (she'd probably play with it...). Tonight she peed on the potty before bed, then once we got a pullup and jammies on she asked to pee again. I let her try because it seems so awful to say no to her if she tells me she has to go potty. But she is CLEARLY manipulating us, she just wanted to avoid bedtime and at night she asked me to read a book while she was on the potty. 

How do I continue to support her potty training and respect her bodily needs, without having her take advantage of it? I honestly don't know what other parents do - do you go in at night and help your kid potty? Do you only night potty train once they can go alone and use the big potty? I'm keen to enjoy my full nights sleep since I also have 15 month old twins... sigh. Thanks",3.4944238377843715,4.442502857566769,4.5924814540059335,87.14650655291794,72.35311572700296,6.922304648862512,24.42742334322453,6.996647511020387,0.8412236399604347,1281,35,269,11,24,420,176,337,0.08,0.782,0.138,0.9588,1,2,1,0,0,0,37.0,9,3,1,2,13,16,1,2,20,1,22,7,6,5,1,46,50,27,0,6,7,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,1,9,21,0,1,5,3,1,7,10,4,1,0,4,1,47,12,41,43,2,53,0,0,0,0,53,19,0,4,27,174,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492606992606614,0.06796789484234854,0.0,0.0,0.07941233218051952,0.0,0.061317090367547074,0.06379986775759919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867236623358422,0.0,0.0,0.05895845806632308,0.06402054816845452,0.046740460235417405,0.0,0.06524490591223582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370940594918799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658780346071138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988982581373612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614575309674607,0.0,0.06132412247784011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541812119518072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769456587679408,0.0,0.08655691228613288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042138657633905036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840553656112498,0.0,0.037459605653992166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352171727751283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061201373819755225,0.0,0.0,0.11370730549497116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036810441531003,0.0,0.0,0.08729516734933873,0.16091534516562803,0.16331306632433895,0.0,0.05831490727401406,0.0,0.0,0.08513868103601939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08266878093217743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669590015316577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609751574062647,0.07676520200740207,0.0,0.0,0.1396043550846284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342647705479335,0.0,0.15346104929065546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583368468850897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224657488980015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701005245037265,0.0,0.0,0.0576501710376112,0.0,0.06701746136568308,0.07059217719618283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04470989701830223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05205739428268363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766922968363492,0.19866813583436926,0.0,0.0,0.13567497152363125,0.0,0.06150418097263944,0.0,0.0,0.07107863293780163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956484367265349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squeakmouse,2019/03/18,"Kids mostly playing online with their friends My pre-teen kids mostly play with their friends online instead of real life. They do play with kids around the neighborhood, but most of them aren't their best friends, they just live nearby. Personally, I don't have a problem with them hanging out with their real friends online on Discord or in games, but I was wondering if that's a trend with a lot of other people?  For the most part, the only time they see their real friends is at school. ",10.047903225806447,7.710512903225808,8.322661290322582,76.80399193548391,59.75268817204301,10.590322580645164,37.228494623655905,8.07648339933343,2.8828301075268814,392,13,73,3,4,117,58,93,0.077,0.693,0.23,0.9207,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,10,1,3,10,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,0,23,8,4,0,2,5,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,4,2,8,0,0,1,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,1,13,9,15,7,7,7,0,0,1,0,20,5,0,8,1,55,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524942439386632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712292213718528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.630295611763941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115246663228879,0.0,0.0,0.1440756820384119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871512037949713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409261042704199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668933915755888,0.0,0.11311649458099525,0.14246740450053774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561246993519778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5571447312087772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651293960879442,0.13001957301718628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514150141498533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769430232922662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kissmylovelybutt,2019/03/18,"Rising a 10 year old in whatsapp era Hi.

I have a 10 year old boy who has just started in a new school a few days ago. The school year just begun here.

The first few days, he talked  with some school mates, made jokes, etc etc.

Some days later, he was sad because in recess, he asked to play and he was said ""no"" by some other kids.

I asked in the whatsapp the parents have, explaining he is new, if there was the possibility that thye kids make him feel welcome, to ease the transition , etc etc. It was well received by parents and many said they would talk to their kids.

He is a very happy and social kid, he also has ADHD, I´m not sure if that plays a role here, because he never had struggles socializating before.

Their class group have a whatsapp group just for the kids, he was added, but today the girl who runs it, expelled my son from the group.

Son was very upset because he didn´t understand why and felt rejected, he asked two other boys and they said they didn´t know the reason.

He was hurt and went to bed earlier.

I don´t feel I should interviene this time.

What should I talk to him about?. How make him deal with those issues in this media/apps times?

The thing that first popped in my mind is that is ok, it doesn´t matter the reason, he can create his own whatsapp group, and add whoever he wishes to.

Any ideas/thoughts?",4.536468103084069,5.470046577946769,4.5554816223067185,88.42601499788763,69.91254752851711,7.2132657372201106,24.116814533164344,7.1686216300943375,0.7774074355724543,1042,25,216,9,18,322,141,263,0.069,0.846,0.085,-0.6006,2,1,0,1,0,0,40.0,0,0,5,2,10,13,0,2,19,1,21,0,0,6,2,40,39,12,0,6,7,4,3,0,1,3,0,3,1,8,16,10,0,0,8,3,0,4,3,5,1,3,14,6,16,8,19,22,10,31,0,3,0,0,58,6,0,5,21,126,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197195795916784,0.0,0.08258937959923585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450783144059797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335863855553353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613034739820671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038628113963625,0.0,0.07928061202720456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802603818013332,0.09605394184155318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156356876493283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421887034233388,0.0,0.08945759021054496,0.0,0.0,0.15850031760240854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918095269363983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997401658120706,0.0,0.0,0.09724503365676744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05120366901463043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815948916373256,0.12438308995517927,0.09445952324807494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407490802568144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185827038986686,0.1799678889666577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955320016318296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069080074635751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503491670620904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19158808201118294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658773609153787,0.0,0.0,0.2828783441348189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094974847411145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594604277730161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740127297288187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781140564484792,0.0,0.0,0.22465899585274168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189785526101409,0.0,0.0,0.07396639024837025,0.10865608432487726,0.0,0.08831404794374577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101332723312616,0.09699301642125713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374963562324345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377081250655724,0.08636931025613041,0.08407122583144036,0.0,0.10714063747896352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618513146593953,0.0,0.0,0.1799948316468008
parenting,SavAlexis,2019/03/18,"Is there a supermarket that sells fresh produce within a one mile radius of your home? Conducting research for a college essay and I would love the help of you parents. 

Is there a super market that sells fresh produce within a one mile radius of your home (fresh fruits & vegetables)?

​",5.198301886792457,8.033683547169815,4.796830188679248,79.55147169811325,72.01886792452831,6.504150943396226,27.581132075471697,7.554174236665415,1.9122256603773589,240,9,37,3,5,73,34,53,0.0,0.727,0.273,0.9409,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,3,2,2,0,0,6,0,3,3,0,2,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,6,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,0,26,6,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5332894305512105,0.29903335460374536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649528388891892,0.0,0.4937083404470751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22211108337610344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335217896856245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27326028168520883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481940780797572,0.0,0.29903335460374536,0.0
parenting,OtterLarkin,2019/03/18,"My 11 yr old is jonesing for his cell phone... (tech rant) First, it’s not my choice for him to have a cell. He lives with his mom 300 miles away. I’ve told her my concerns months ago about him having one. Basically we don’t agree. This is his third phone because mom upgrades every year and he gets the old one.

Second, screentime has an app that shows you how much your child uses their cell. I highly recommend it.  I installed it at Xmas on our phones and now I can see My boy AVERAGES 4.5 hours a day on school days, over 6 on weekends. You can see his time, the sites, etc. He’s pretty clean, mostly downloading app games but a lot of time on instagram and twitter so who knows where he goes from there. 

He is now with me on spring break and I immediately addressed this. I’ve cut back his cell to 2 hours a day and have taken away his phone. You’d honestly think he was going through addiction withdrawal. He’s a complete potato with no motivation to do anything. His siblings are trying to get him involved but he’s... just so not in the moment. After 2-3 days he returns to somewhat normal interaction but these first days are so frustrating. 

He’s not doing well in school as he’s not having assignments in. He failed to link 4 hours a night on his cell might have something to do with it.  He was a Montessori student but ever since the intro of his own cell his social, academic, family interaction has gone to shit. 

Yes I know I have to talk w his mom about it but she doesn’t see the problem because he’s not ‘causing trouble’.

TL:DR - preteen kids should not have unlimited cell phone use. It’s an addiction. 

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parenting,FightingAudrey,2019/03/18,"Bitey Toddler My son is 18 months and loves to bite (mostly just me). When I tell him to stop and try to get him off me, he just laughs and latches on more. I have bruises and bite marks all over my arms and legs. 

I’ve tried giving him other things to bite on but that doesn’t last long. 
I think sometimes he does it for attention but mostly it seems like it’s just fun and gets a reaction from me. He’s a little button pusher. 

 Any advice on getting him to stop?

He doesn’t talk yet",0.399876434245364,2.446613912621359,1.8093909973521605,98.76780229479259,84.63106796116504,4.5221535745807575,16.15975286849073,5.565023196281405,-0.8460019417475726,375,7,88,2,11,120,66,103,0.042,0.825,0.133,0.8573,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,4,3,2,0,1,19,11,9,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,12,4,12,11,4,13,0,0,0,1,13,6,0,3,8,53,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22773941359370264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848592407708628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20394868599883706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36528608235509175,0.2235683430639228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899715684627528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385928333768977,0.2335831202425279,0.0,0.2062470338748336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103419430155891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18602290229012985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216523163081086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304981283370714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38969013981238537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732141015911194,0.20370102645207053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15483190632060684,0.149332735190843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3164591565753565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrProfDrDickweed,2019/03/18,"Getting a second chance  

I am an expecting father and I couldn’t be happier. I know it is going to be a challenge but I know in the end it is more than worth it. One of the biggest things I think about all the time is what it means to be a father. Growing up my dad passed away when I was 11 and my parents have been split as long as I remember before that, while I have plenty of very fond memories of him I never really go to learn what it meant to be a man from my father. I am not worried about failing as a father because of this (although I know it is no easy feat) but I am so excited I have been given the chance I never thought I would have. That is to experience that father son relationship that I never had, although from a different perspective for sure. I know I have many sleepless nights, blown out diapers, and general shenanigans in my future but in the end it is 100% worth it. My wife being the amazing person she is suggested we honor my dad and name our son after him. I can’t wait to meet him and learn what it means to be a dad. I am not looking for any advice or anything just wanted to share it somewhere. ",5.265950900163666,4.6056389404255365,6.473617021276599,80.84692307692309,68.1063829787234,9.443535188216039,30.417348608837965,8.841846274778883,2.2302700490998366,881,29,186,13,13,299,123,235,0.012,0.787,0.201,0.9921,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,14,0,29,0,0,0,5,38,45,17,0,4,7,12,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,19,7,0,1,12,0,2,4,8,1,0,2,7,1,32,7,29,30,2,23,0,1,1,0,25,7,0,1,12,148,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503231818081525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078883967468808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305565894989716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14905821880649972,0.0,0.0,0.09671242479800816,0.0,0.1350006616261098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575695246718372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28103611169283005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519151828640332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288881175355177,0.0,0.18033050077102808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34876265547937296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14040150220364292,0.13322722400609516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16084762477617134,0.0,0.3456357836665544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367085235515505,0.0,0.0,0.14888359757413724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075062989136277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616361168943673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852828860660485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163615344725092,0.0,0.0,0.17033223685223328,0.1797211162184274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952707297851542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540094481872436,0.1016574151640758,0.0,0.12595149515493856,0.09251091091809037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13090402560709796,0.09357671001642068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111820433119972,0.0,0.11270140718195895,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,elsynkala,2019/03/18,Do you swear AT your kids? I saw a dad yesterday at the store who was shuffling his kids out of the car. Apparently they didn’t want to get out because he just started screaming “GET OUT OF THE CAR! GET OUT OF THE FUCKING CAR!!”  The kids were maybe 3 and 5 (guessing). I have no idea what his day was like - maybe he got fired or someone died or something serious was going on and this was the last straw. Maybe it was just a mistake. But it left be a little shaken up and left wondering. Do people swear at their kids??,1.5991509433962283,3.540589858490569,2.7930566037735858,93.9175094339623,79.66037735849056,5.749433962264153,22.864150943396226,6.742157984588678,0.4726030188679245,399,13,89,4,10,128,68,106,0.184,0.782,0.034,-0.929,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,2,0,2,5,1,0,9,0,11,1,0,0,0,17,22,6,1,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,7,0,0,2,0,1,4,2,4,0,0,9,3,8,1,13,12,0,20,0,0,1,1,14,12,1,4,5,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148824218360869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215400035960844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19558994696658352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422664847451647,0.2953850280535925,0.0,0.1071051868607306,0.0,0.15072730717120145,0.0,0.20760804881799955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127464654819501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15361865614471046,0.0,0.0,0.4095209579540429,0.0,0.0,0.0920711990613749,0.18888471217092084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5679950358979151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065324628416086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15968009401446062,0.14508439567160414,0.0,0.0,0.13339174470074538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115757976901668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20437497189161088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Joz86,2019/03/18,"My 14 year old kid is a mess. My kid is gross. She's 14. She leaves food around the house, clothing, sneakers, backpack etc. Getting her to shower is like pulling teeth. She would wear the same underwear for 4 days straight if I don't have her change them and she'll go without bathing even longer. There's more but I'll spare you all the details. 

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I  literally have to tell her to wipe her mouth in between eating. If she is too tired to wipe herself after using the restroom (poop or pee) she'll go lay down somewhere and play on her phone and in some cases will fall asleep like that.

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Her language can be foul. She tries to act grown but throws tantrums when her phone usage is limited. I installed a parental control app on her phone and after 4 months she's finally hacked into it and now it does not work.

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She does not do homework. I get home 2 hours after her only to find her playing on her phone . I try to sit down with her to help her whilst cooking and cleaning and it's almost impossible. She gets a special lesson plan and she cant seem  do that. It's laziness. Shes smart,  above average in some areas. Her teachers try so hard to meet her more than half way. I  might request for her to repeat the 8th grade. I'm not sure she's ready for high school. 

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She really does not see her blessings. She gets to go to events, to eat out,  clothes/shoe shopping, gets to decide what she wants to eat etc.. She has a family who loves her, she's healthy...

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I find that I want to block myself away from her. I literally would wait on her hand and foot but it's too much now. I can't do it. I'm worried about her future. I don't know how to fix this. I  find myself laying off of helping her too much, not joking with her too much, just being serious. 

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This is a rant/looking for advice.

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Thank you. ",1.7655323076923075,4.077057184000002,2.414400000000004,94.87858461538464,81.16,4.912820512820511,22.415384615384607,6.02186152331457,0.20565230769230736,1464,48,310,10,39,453,202,375,0.099,0.799,0.102,0.4886,2,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,0,2,1,5,14,15,1,0,10,0,26,15,8,3,2,51,45,18,0,6,13,1,2,2,0,6,1,0,5,2,13,14,5,4,7,6,1,8,10,4,0,1,0,3,61,11,46,37,11,43,1,0,1,1,59,17,0,8,18,197,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573634479566822,0.0,0.0,0.05878211964225774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44522928382539545,0.4993101257323573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052257711058817366,0.0,0.0,0.05515297376286341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209950934212051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583989623283543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03785828543567719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411297917891242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020207711928854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093771085227335,0.038772477592732814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055339535400270264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430576911621379,0.16095918899859132,0.0,0.07098335089795613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334828553845636,0.0,0.10008602803626328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052585950313809915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869415755577841,0.062022462197170176,0.05888343933844585,0.0,0.05781018248115681,0.0677348558246243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032261383741762635,0.0,0.0,0.062157519588826274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05735819699420972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04929535351315285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052981339114222606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062274123971708464,0.0,0.0,0.04685581167477771,0.0,0.1294593757877015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615984465550407,0.0,0.0,0.044645931006557525,0.0,0.0,0.06518222967692604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03760635374095962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059410109913283736,0.04677832843108913,0.053440592608990437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05532645431331437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05130861208966071,0.05404541685875034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06746994043170808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956552494913406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0507001514151718,0.0,0.0,0.06924856440221569,0.04659534815143942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056587158950055234,0.0,0.0427361521873421,0.05961528433218365,0.0,0.08340120797248284,0.0,0.4993101257323573,0.037802514592148985
parenting,deboosher,2019/03/18,"Expecting our second son (two under two); need advice 
My wife and I have a boy who’s a year and a half. She has a scheduled C-Section tomorrow for our second boy. 

I was just wondering if there’s anything special I can do for my wife and son during this time. Aside from the normal let her rest and basically just make sure she’s good, what can I do for her and my son to make them feel better during, what I assume, is going to be a pretty tough time?",1.860131578947368,3.3702445263157905,3.8223026315789497,88.80924342105264,77.42105263157895,6.434210526315789,20.296052631578945,7.1686216300943375,0.4014473684210525,350,8,76,4,8,119,60,95,0.017,0.8290000000000001,0.155,0.91,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,1,3,5,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,2,1,17,16,6,0,4,3,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,1,1,15,4,7,13,1,7,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,3,5,57,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389419029915456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20121894782342653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21625787828782544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236365498046072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389662282266637,0.20509159368441574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500380458961038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32643770913871323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130832156163465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395774718865435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487645268108569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045700267844835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851629048914687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777205977722479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265171275268282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746272402130868
parenting,KneeDeepNZombie,2019/03/18,"3YO choked on his food, now he won't eat because hes afraid. I've tried everything. He's simply afraid of choking again. From favorites to stuff he never heard of. Rewards, time outs, he will only eat yogurt because he doesn't need to chew it. He loved pouches, but now he won't touch them. Pediatrician said to wait a few more weeks before we talk to someone. He will trust that the doctor told him to eat but doesn't. He's lost 2 pounds in the past 2 weeks.

Anyone dealt with something similar and got through it?",1.6843881118881114,4.02380586538462,2.506888111888113,93.92902097902099,81.69230769230771,4.935664335664336,20.993006993007,6.11248444174946,0.05647307692307724,406,12,86,3,11,127,73,104,0.057,0.8340000000000001,0.109,0.7518,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,1,2,3,6,0,2,3,0,7,7,0,0,1,9,15,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,0,4,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,5,3,5,3,13,6,2,11,0,1,0,1,19,3,0,0,8,40,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944097599600912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22569620620817,0.0,0.15752441957816254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894792880475049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5682752963361464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663749061980099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22384916650969586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805825319843552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20208154653576607,0.0,0.16707901854810528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372649485002403,0.14277680312521127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407929368991659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767190349223321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609255649538927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568525055880526,0.14251526543288898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119193673663216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879332630350356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794560094363898,0.0,0.0,0.1768911423218387,0.0,0.12568507386863187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29698595695356383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tSubhDearg,2019/03/18,"Dealing with grief & parenting This is quite raw, please be kind, it also probably needs a CN for suicide.

Last week my husband killed himself. He had been suffering with his mental health severely got the last year. He did all the things you’re supposed to do, but it was just too much for him.

We have a 4 year old and 1 year old together. He also has 4 kids from his previous marriage, who live with their mum. 

I am feeling at a loss on how best to help my kids through what’s happened, while also suffering through my own grief. 

Has anyone gone through this or similar and how did you cope?

My friends and family are being amazingly supportive but I need reassurance that things will get better eventually. Thank you.",4.399466403162053,6.254953557971017,4.779538866930171,83.14049407114628,71.3913043478261,8.786297760210804,29.93675889328064,9.339509955726095,2.6945565217391296,573,24,110,13,11,181,101,138,0.139,0.6629999999999999,0.198,0.8952,1,0,0,0,0,1,17.0,1,2,1,4,7,14,1,0,5,0,15,1,0,2,1,17,24,12,4,2,4,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,9,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,7,1,14,8,13,14,4,12,0,5,0,0,22,2,0,1,9,74,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585686242060278,0.0,0.1619395315077596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450570316003636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568487429376739,0.13218496628377305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540863965114444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089731141907372,0.0,0.0755713192821243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547219988767335,0.0,0.0780865288687892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953658213784067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216672645821054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588686808800122,0.0,0.0,0.10017969200319683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653550229443775,0.15563928672287186,0.0,0.2436592207845852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197566066446914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062023267557814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987008266058793,0.2216449598261075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313665644079634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595731871168884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16406187781377346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114284433022735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896879714435244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884692837307844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348466259632724,0.16960510580987484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760241886461186,0.0,0.0,0.1985887780574272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988756273378764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887414557633647
parenting,tmorr46,2019/03/18,Mind blown Lol I had depeche mode just can't get enough as a ringtone for 3 years (weird I know but love) any way my 4 year old hears my ringer and starts singing baby shark totally hit me like yes baby it does sound like it OMG my 4 year old blew my mind today and I changed my ringer to mj just leave me alone,-0.3486764705882344,1.7301600147058842,0.7397058823529434,104.89867647058823,88.55882352941177,3.988235294117647,15.852941176470587,5.148860815047168,-1.1970352941176472,243,5,62,1,8,75,51,68,0.054000000000000006,0.7659999999999999,0.181,0.8733,0,1,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,9,8,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,10,3,3,6,2,8,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,9,25,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137954265515112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14037698542115784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21837168965772288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18064507550334746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132935837131501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784923930609656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326574804312247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344651436088678,0.0,0.0,0.21857568153664114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169895907455165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18630782538009866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168635025464728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332194246627151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461096213015742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956680273332657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385161515468152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987953724071929
parenting,Jack107106,2019/03/18,"Recommendations for my little sister, 10 y/o? Hello guys,  


I have a little sister that's 10 years old, and her daily routines are going to school, come home, play on the iPad and draw, watch Netflix/Youtube. Rinse and repeat. She plays basketball 2x a week, but she's not that interested in Basketball despite playing 1 season already. What I'd like to know is how you'd change the routines for your children, or your little sisters that are around the same age of mine? I want her to grow an interest for reading books, and what she should spend her time doing after coming home from school. I want to divert her interest from things that won't matter years from now. Any tips?",5.3434108527131805,6.611556209302329,5.367441860465117,82.10992248062018,68.30232558139535,7.593798449612403,26.73643410852713,7.793537801064563,1.5206806201550385,537,16,99,6,9,168,89,129,0.045,0.8170000000000001,0.138,0.9002,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,0,3,7,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,1,0,17,14,7,0,3,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,7,7,0,0,1,5,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,15,7,15,11,1,20,0,0,1,0,16,6,0,1,11,60,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464219676066666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994597708828045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701759598479414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18658903099985288,0.30387537751047183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024209630506548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464615636053596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3538515522745693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693507074148397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861714569924073,0.5303440495168246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508349865504425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17642997960492812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35701650327840856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718052815235047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284990727437082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080696396288003,0.0,0.14148320018345445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227168769667642
parenting,JustDigItxx,2019/03/18,"Just found out I’m going to be a mommy again!! Hey guys, i have never posted here before, just usually lurk around. 
But today I just found out I’m going to be a mommy again, I’m 22 and have a daughter who just turned 3. I’m married and have a stable life but I’m so nervous. I recently quit my full time job to go to school full time and now I’m so scared and confused. Me and my husband can’t have another baby and me not work but I also really need to finish school. 
So I guess my question is should I continue to go to school, get a job, and try to manage having two kids, I mean people do it all the time right?! Or should I put school off and just focus on working and being the best mom and wife I can be. 
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parenting,Aero247,2019/03/18,"Gel like substance in newborn diaper Our second baby, who is now a week old had a gel like substance in her diaper the other day and we aren't sure what it was. Can anyone identify it from this photo: [https://photos.app.goo.gl/Yh7XgsAM74NjM9gv5](https://photos.app.goo.gl/Yh7XgsAM74NjM9gv5).

​

We took her to the doctor this morning because she has so far only pooped once - last Thursday - and showed them the photo and they had no idea what it was either. Their best guess, and hopefully worst case scenario, is that it looks like the mucus plug that people with Cystic Fibrosis may experience.",10.170733333333333,11.47042314,8.02,67.24833333333335,57.6,9.866666666666667,31.66666666666667,9.725611199111238,3.0834666666666672,494,15,71,8,6,145,75,100,0.075,0.7929999999999999,0.131,0.7301,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,0,3,1,2,7,0,0,6,0,10,2,1,0,1,13,14,5,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,12,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,5,1,9,6,5,8,3,10,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,3,9,53,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333384744447129,0.2616814914152791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058214087130695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127920913701252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22600316337147164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888700547564206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22042631110757405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21065979710427904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372392575270731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21389741037401985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431110633706367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755441377806453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156366484244057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084506349177995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259802229690688,0.2293474441716548,0.0,0.16378817986113522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493009510875418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20297077574252012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392687869953273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274584366607476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616814914152791,0.0
parenting,b2g1,2019/03/18,"Am I that horrible parent if I don’t do loot bags? I hate loot bags.. I hate my kids getting them and I hate giving them even more.

They are such a pain in the ass, it’s all shit stuff from the dollar store that breaks or is unhealthy. I don’t want to spend another $50-$100 on this junk after spending $$$ on party food etc...

Any way to get out of this without looking shit??",0.409756097560976,2.1789325975609763,2.222134146341464,97.38734756097564,82.78048780487805,5.0756097560975615,20.006097560975608,5.985473137389443,-0.21534634146341425,291,8,70,2,8,96,60,82,0.339,0.594,0.067,-0.982,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,3,0,2,6,5,0,3,0,6,5,3,0,1,7,14,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,6,0,0,0,1,10,0,10,14,3,7,0,0,1,1,6,4,3,2,1,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333868819425595,0.20567753375014486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875607519171325,0.1295534337424628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23718207910190384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20495772448392974,0.1881623516789817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5809645148799173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471432087111554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20871454372741974,0.0,0.21779835073573972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026847446144072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22454171680700535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569275239873555,0.1556925872226422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907898599403064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,texican_81,2019/03/18,"Teenager wants me to compromise Son (13): Dad, I need a haircut

Me: ok, I'll give you a haircut

Son: I hate getting haircuts

Me: ok, I won't give you a haircut

Son: dad how about we compromise 🤔",-0.5578048780487848,1.5289971219512208,2.2860487804878065,93.27785365853659,89.97560975609754,5.231219512195122,27.71219512195122,6.742157984588678,1.3387229268292682,146,8,33,2,5,51,25,41,0.1,0.782,0.119,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,0,2,3,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,7,1,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,9,2,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,16,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644775762703355,0.7948433110934195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090224519007906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071884180196291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24435709260003385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlainJessGlory,2019/03/18,"Should I relinquish my rights and visitation? Proud mother of an incredible 8 year old daughter!
Her father and I separated when she was 3. I've been with my husband 5 years and married for 2 now. Her father has been with his fiancee 3 years. 

My ex doesn't acknowledge my existence unless it's to criticize my parenting or accuse me of something. I am lower than the scum of the Earth at the very best so I get treated as such. 

We have a strange visiting schedule: M,T with dad W,Th with mom and switch every other F,S,Sun. 

Also my ex pays no child support but quarterly pays a check to me to cover our daughter's health insurance, about $2,000 annually. This decision was offered by me in court and approved by a judge. The health care plan provided through my employer was overall more affordable and covered weekly hour long counseling sessions for our daughter. So in an attempt to keep finances even I offered to pay all doctor and medication copays, including the weekly therapy sessions. We also alternate claiming her for tax seasons. 

I really genuinely try to respectfully and fairly co-parent with him. I try to be as even and fair as possible.

Reccently though I'm starting to get the feeling my daughter is much happier with her father and ""other mom"". I feel pretty pointless like I'm what's holding her back from a normal life. It sounds insane and the idea breaks my heart greatly but, I only want what is best for her. 

Is stepping out of the picture for the best? 
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parenting,milkshake125,2019/03/18,"Potty training regressions My almost 3 year old went from potty trained to peeing her pants at least once every single day for a week now. We have a 4.5 month old baby as well. 

Has anyone else dealt with this? How did you get back into good potty habits?",3.754200000000001,5.4692146200000025,4.153000000000001,87.55150000000002,72.8,5.8000000000000025,18.5,5.985473137389443,-0.10499999999999997,201,3,38,1,4,63,46,50,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.6553,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,2,7,3,2,11,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,8,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25998813776062724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815436593857174,0.2660279568359347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996442020700538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674438619963644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689271915945707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21875468627930916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356491920623667,0.0,0.0,0.21777051601181235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072391280669412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5448890072783175,0.276504066450137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20826448887862775,0.0,0.2334441139284364,0.2406853473192032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719719246762885
parenting,Significant_Pain,2019/03/18,"In search of any advice or words or wisdom about antisocial personality disorder (M, 12) Hi all, this is quite a heavy topic to be posting about, but i figured if there is any chance of getting any help at all it's from the thousands of you subscribed to this sub. If you have a moment please read because I currently am desperate for any and all advice/wisdoms. Please if you have nothing helpful to reply to this just don't. 

My step-son(12 years old) was just recently diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder; for those of you who don't know what that is it's characterized ""by a long term pattern of disregard for, or violation of, the rights of others. A low moral sense or conscience is often apparent, as well as a history of crime, legal problems, or impulsive and aggressive behavior."" He also has a history of lying about anything and everything. Here is where it gets heavy: I caught him raping my daughters (4, 5) and we had him removed from our household and put on a 72 hour psychiatric hold, which might i add they only kept him for 48. The only reason that could happen was because after he was caught he threatened to kill himself. If he hadn't done that the cops said there was pretty much nothing they could do. He is currently in a halfway house. This is where you guys come in, my husband pities him. He believes he wants to get better and is telling the truth, but when telling doctors/psychologists/psychiatrists asked how long this has been going on for/how it happened his story has changed multiple times leading me to believe he is lying once again so he can get pity out of us, which he has done many times before. I am constantly asked by my husband what we should be doing and i don't know what to tell him because i have no pity for him. I am doing what I can to help my husband, but he refuses to stay cynical. Am I wrong for not pitying him? Do you think he can be helped or that his condition can be changed in some way? He was diagnosed with mild autism very young, but is extremely high functioning and extremely smart. In the state of California what he did is not considered a crime because of that diagnosis. If he is let out of the halfway house or refuses to be there any more or in a mental facility we have no choice, but to take him back into the house or else the state could take away my daughters. I am at a loss of what to do or what to say to anyone at this point. One more thing I'd like to point out is that CPS refuses to give my daughters counseling due to there being a CPS case open. This case is going to be open until he is 18 I am assuming and if that's right then my daughters  won't be able to get appropriate counseling for the next 6 years unless it's out of pocket which my husband and I can't afford. Is that correct that since the case is open with CPS that they can't receive counseling? That just doesn't make any sense to me. To clarify, I am not in search of medical or legal advice just general advice seeing this is an extremely difficult situation and the medical officials i have spoken to offer pretty much nothing of substance. For them this is all just protocol and legalities. If you have any questions that could be of any help to better your advice let me know and i will be happy to answer them seeing as any advice is helpful at this point. Thank you for reading and as I said earlier in this post - if you have nothing beneficial to add, keep it to yourself. 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parenting,Vespr337,2019/03/18,"Am I in the wrong for cutting off my mom completely? To start things off I was an only child up until I was around 13. My mom and I were extremely close until she met someone and got married and started having kids with what I have to shamefully call my step dad. 

By the time I was a sophomore in high school as a child it wasn’t home, I didn’t feel like I had parents anymore. My mom quit buying me cloths not that I was being needy but I noticed I started wearing the same clothes for a year while the little kids were getting name brand clothes and all the latest toys.

Then comes my 16th birthday I hope I get a car right? Wow I did but there’s a catch, my “parents” bought a car for me. A truck that was fairly new at the time and my first thought was that’s maybe why I came up short on shopping trips, and Santa practically missed my ass every year. Instead it was a massive loan payment to come around full circle the loan wasn’t in my name it was in my step dads. I practically started working second shift after school and all weekend and my grades started taking a decline. All my parents cared about was making the loan payment instead of just taking the loss and selling the truck so I could have some time to do some homework.

Luckily I have some very supportive family members that couldn’t figure out why I was paying for a practically brand new vehicle with no credit “in my name.” They sensed the bullshit when it was practically to late and I damn near paid the thing off.  That loan wasn’t in my name I was young at the time and I was essentially repairing my step dads credit while my parents were living out of their means, buying brand new vehicles, and taking luxurious “family vacations” that I didn’t get invited to. Because fuck me right I ain’t family....

Btw at this point my parents still never really took care of me I was practically a grown ass person in high school taking care of myself not like that’s an issue or anything.. just the lies that went along with what I was doing and why I was working full time.

As I got older (like 18ish) I got in contact with my real dad, he reached out to me via Facebook. at the time I was a college accident and my dad couldn’t financially support me and had to move out of state temporarily to get his life financially together he was back in the state I live in within 2 years with the job he left to train for. He made numerous reach outs to my mom throughout my life to get back into my life and actually wanted to be in my life when he was working out of state. My mom ignored him and went as far as threatening him with 0 contact through court when I was a kid. She never told me my dad wanted to meet me even as an adult. 

My dad is honestly a great person, successful, married and I’m his only child. He can no longer have kids to personal reasons. So I can see why he wanted to be in my life. 

I’m 22 and recently like 9 months ago landed my dream career in insurance. The opportunities are endless now and I make very good money and can live on my own.

I haven’t spoke to my mom since I was 20. She’s reached out but I have since changed my last name to my dads, and changed my phone number and she has no idea where I work, or what city I live in. She has no idea that I know everything now. To even look at her or think about her makes me feel disgusted. Not only did it affect me, but also my dad. 

Am I morally wrong for doing this? I have no idea how to feel. I’m completely happy on where I’m at in life, and now I’m getting educated. 

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parenting,fellowrobot,2019/03/18,"How come nobody's at the park? Hi, stay at home dad here. My little guy and I have awesome days out here in Southern California. Most days we hit up the park, typically in the mornings. The last couple months on the, NOBODY is at the park, except us. It's been raining a lot here, but even on the sunniest of days, it's only us. I'm surprised that all the other stay at home parents in my area aren't partaking in these epic places. Have they been absorbed into the matrix with their little ones? Have the screens taken them all? Just writing this post is getting my pumped about our upcoming park trip in 5 minutes. Cheers!",2.458414634146344,4.736428764227644,3.373353658536587,89.13368902439026,78.4308943089431,5.726016260162603,23.258130081300806,6.816661863887847,0.733759349593496,490,16,97,5,12,156,83,123,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.938,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,3,0,7,3,0,0,11,0,8,0,0,1,2,15,13,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,1,11,3,18,9,4,28,0,0,1,0,12,18,0,2,5,67,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209300977244933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19536311211849494,0.0,0.3416047297008877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661790433697612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224664918764372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17482469151452285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542132833466429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439220502349292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3539241354652284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010717284789898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409305492653058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964335875429452,0.134283781548534,0.0,0.0,0.19605182585389674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18447029365212286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690981241347745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763843887968785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42476603532319945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snakes55,2019/03/18,"Second Child Support Thread Hello! My wife and I are having our second child next month. We already have a 2 and a half year old boy. 

Life is great but we are just nervous and stressed thinking about the life adjustment! Raising a toddler is hard enough as it is, and it's hard to imagine dealing with two. If anyone could provide any tips for how to manage that first year with the second little one, please fire away. I'm just nervous and could use some internet support!

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parenting,princess_pussywillow,2019/03/18,All the feels... When your beautiful little girl stares you dead in the eyes all adoringly and then softly caresses your face. Only then she grabs hold of the wad of hair she was actually going for and then proceeds to fall back with said wad of hair tightly in her little drool covered fist. Love her! 🥰,2.283719211822657,5.06011205172414,2.900049261083744,89.0284482758621,83.65517241379311,6.0729064039408875,20.354679802955662,7.447530270364453,0.8167507389162565,241,7,46,4,7,75,43,58,0.062,0.767,0.171,0.8172,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,1,6,5,0,2,8,5,6,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,11,7,2,8,3,2,12,0,0,2,1,10,4,0,0,6,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.3359396716742733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647080489695078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406383285450794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564598300983985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6900606081059851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107002958022499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618186743109428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274618792181808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cherrie_pie445,2019/03/18,"Baby Body Wash ??? So I am 7 months pregnant and I am seeing alot of horror stories about how bad Johnson and Johnson products are...the powder causing cancer, body wash and shampoo burning skin and causing hair loss ect.  So what products are good for baby skin these days?",5.073,7.115572900000001,4.8610000000000015,82.47550000000003,70.0,5.0,32.5,3.1291,1.5854000000000004,215,10,34,0,4,66,36,50,0.249,0.703,0.049,-0.9179,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,3,8,5,3,0,8,4,7,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,2,1,3,4,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23860673251909564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.634854008924917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5871307874999868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842985642976218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396910401421623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280995750674785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22772237756884406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,truthpunk101,2019/03/18,"I need help from the moms please I am lost about my 3yo girls actions. Ok so I get about 6 hrs per week with my girl. The Mom is almost a complete jerk for this ridiculous amount of time but the fact that she does let me see her (even though it's court ordered) saves her a 1% of completion. 
However, she has managed to keep me out of the loop of fully knowing my daughter (like one knows another when they live together) with constant lying and withholding information from me. 
I've not raised nor babysat girls so I don't know what their 'curious' behaviors are. By that I mean like being curious of their private parts and what would be considered inappropriate in any social circumstance, but is totally normal for being a kid curiously exploring their bodies. 
Being a guy I know what I did myself and heard others stories about  guys doing funny things. Here's the thing: is it normal for my girl to have an object, like a toy (not anything that would resemble penis, just whatever she happens to have at the moment)  or even just her hand with her thumb touching all her fingers, and openly act like she's sticking something inside her? She does it in a cartoonish, immature way like she thinks it's funny, and she does it with her clothes on when she decides to act up and be silly. 
I've never seen a little girl do this before and  I can't help but wonder wtf? Is this something every little girl does at some point in their life? Or is she mimicking this?  I don't think for a second that there is anything going on as far as molestation or anything like that but has me wondering if there's any carelessness by her mother for her to know these types of actions?  I tell her to stop it and girls aren't supposed to do that and that's usually about it. She doesn't push the issue and she doesn't do it too frequently either, but has been enough times that have occurred to have me asking this. 
Any input on this would be much appreciated 🙏",5.582381889763781,6.148055246719164,5.962929790026248,80.58644192913387,67.39895013123359,9.07965879265092,29.260826771653534,9.075114841892004,2.278276377952756,1543,51,298,26,24,496,195,381,0.062,0.82,0.118,0.9678,1,0,2,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,5,1,18,14,3,0,16,1,37,4,3,0,4,59,57,27,0,7,14,4,3,6,0,3,1,1,0,10,29,16,0,3,13,1,0,7,10,5,0,2,5,6,46,9,43,42,8,35,0,1,2,0,47,15,0,8,17,216,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631685699368232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19623029676688367,0.10085990190912478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374598110152759,0.0,0.08992136653381154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184760268758336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684148603049433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169937046397587,0.10394340470649352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366937172229203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09938633721411336,0.0,0.12706051439850946,0.0,0.08104125063760073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05025346135295153,0.0,0.05466498831108494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904794581903048,0.08505737899265886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289435285026597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039368610510482,0.0,0.08549495527603088,0.0,0.0,0.2643078459218957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835718383277288,0.06793934931720266,0.2819511081394495,0.1928082268581852,0.08493441645839397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049988958895658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477526537795996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22530486556529025,0.0,0.0,0.07070812383153967,0.07132104976399943,0.07418493644661309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884846392882718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517844234174759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416057521605566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558386133491557,0.09092730568205236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664816439626544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980499945378051,0.0,0.14809808984922135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041619703013173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407121558834553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278040351877858,0.12326481405905612,0.09450271977882037,0.0,0.11217420996144001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059358091177266,0.0,0.0,0.07634834388052113,0.0771549854734293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862025037238266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20498432865998256,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Klutze,2019/03/18,"Finding time for chores! With life pulling everyone in every direction, how do you manage chores?

Life's busy between school, work, dance night, lazy nights, and everything in-between. How the heck do I help my kids develop a routine?!

We have 3 kids... 4, 7, and 9 who we are trying to work with having set accountabilities and chores around the house. The part we struggle with, is once dinner is wrapped up, it's pushing 6 o'clock. When bedtime is at 7:30... That doesn't give much time for chores, homework, showering, and just being a kid!

Is it fair to have the kids doing chores up until bedtime? I don't want to be a slave driver, but at the same time there's no reason why they can't help out.

Anyone have any tips, tricks, personal thoughts?!",3.730641025641024,5.688047559440562,3.9106468531468543,88.25007284382286,73.4055944055944,6.724708624708625,25.90268065268065,7.492282038375204,1.2489351981351984,583,20,115,7,12,180,97,143,0.081,0.868,0.051,-0.4835,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,3,1,1,2,7,2,1,1,8,0,17,3,0,3,0,21,20,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,5,4,12,1,0,3,1,1,3,4,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,17,17,3,19,0,0,0,0,14,7,1,0,8,68,12,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267296289882944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13030563945365126,0.0,0.0,0.16589786641315474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701440290208682,0.17807277206133468,0.1674862876639724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032756501972415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17877129047900708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498232810654552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503176919594152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26325991473896365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369943548055875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34976816139513983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19846487237413574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20180723267242848,0.0,0.0,0.162720358711846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916067572267588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18860394529893584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482153449401815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479472003736843,0.326000027014704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265246479656984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099186019989593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815884149516716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713412555941511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imhooks,2019/03/18,"3 year old refuses to poop So we're dealing with a very stubborn 3 year old. He potty trained #1 very easily and does it like a champ now. We finally got him to poop in the potty a couple times and since then he's gone into holding his poop for extended periods until he does it in his pants or in the bath tub.

He gets to where he's so uncomfortable and lays on the couch most of the time because i guess he feels less like shit there. He is completely unbearable when he gets too far along. We've tried the reasoning with him but like many 3 year olds there's no reasoning with him.

When he goes finally have an accident it's not super hard too where you would think it's constipation. I think he's just willfully refusing to go. I'm sure it all began when he held it for a while and then used the potty it was like a grown man's bowel movement. So im thinking it probably hurt him and he's since refused to use the potty anymore.

He won't even use it in a diaper now. He's worn a diaper for 2 days and nothing. 

Anybody else deal with refusal to go? Any tips or suggestions? We feel like we're going to have to force a suppository or enema at this point. I suppose were going to take him to his doctor for a check-up.",2.5455813953488367,3.784123751937986,4.488286821705426,85.8601046511628,75.04651162790697,8.415813953488373,24.527906976744184,8.982922981607832,1.6780427906976745,960,30,212,21,20,329,140,258,0.122,0.7959999999999999,0.083,-0.9198,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,0,2,16,11,2,0,17,0,8,7,5,5,2,42,30,20,0,1,6,0,3,5,0,3,2,0,2,1,10,14,0,7,7,1,0,7,3,3,0,0,7,3,14,8,28,20,3,40,0,1,0,0,33,11,1,5,27,111,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595472753228537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076894358673227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808670900683976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710745725384505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123585622648365,0.0,0.07203241997582463,0.23030011841502784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11432200270317733,0.1954857122588964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330474852838627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377184035997066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295016415132048,0.07979314162076498,0.0,0.2447073402580609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11670943868016907,0.0,0.2539096782383137,0.0,0.08933069253530028,0.0,0.1230418769158357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000545379760526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956912728862842,0.0,0.12064706245219978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27283655924954936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323866034224468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071719624917182,0.0,0.3516074582656317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558551113842034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204234019718587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296769769577321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465074231125072,0.18478637415240454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052688558662046,0.0,0.08397885685896739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21470412490804844,0.0,0.0,0.13025758551278552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583187324915633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893993658889187,0.0,0.18431601354116686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934314470437555,0.0,0.0,0.215778916760804
parenting,_smithers_,2019/03/18,"How to help a 1 1/2 year old who generally doesn't like to be hugged? My daughter is 1 1/2. Lately, I've noticed that when I drop her off at daycare, other kids immediately run up to her to try to give her hugs. Sometimes she accepts the hug. More often than not, slaps them away, shouts ""no no no!"", and/or cries.  She almost never reciprocates. She's been at daycare since she was 8 weeks old and has known her classmates anywhere from 7 months to 1.4 years. I think it's less of a familiarity issue and more of the fact that she isn't overly affectionate and doesn't love hugging - even with me, her dad, etc. 

I want to equip her with more effective verbal tools to express her desire or lack of desire for physical affection. She has a decent vocabulary and can some two-word utterances. My thought was to work with her to either say ""need space"" or ""space please"" if someone is trying to initiate a hug that she doesn't want. But, I'm curious as to what other parents and teachers out there might have done, would recommend, etc. ",4.7291684434968015,5.833312368159206,5.390380241648898,81.98787313432841,69.59701492537314,8.329921819474059,27.789978678038374,8.634040054169528,1.8999918976545849,810,27,161,13,14,262,132,201,0.1,0.72,0.18,0.9483,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,1,2,5,9,0,0,6,0,17,6,0,3,2,36,25,12,0,8,6,3,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,1,8,9,0,0,5,0,0,1,9,0,0,0,5,2,22,9,29,17,9,20,0,0,0,6,26,9,0,7,10,110,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16470842779516434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453950371294015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18067955359809948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16832573318115948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3668895341785505,0.10864109468810874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778944081196733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11025113628566134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168008503451973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554676277726928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035928702109955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845454912300746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449307908807654,0.0,0.0,0.1312907244751837,0.0,0.0,0.12196388401772244,0.12686132655893556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18726778582178769,0.34519964058633684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826416372122752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18055564045406172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080543934248684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360640718288003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936799604304606,0.0,0.16268032530935114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539564080388401,0.0,0.13058308162406565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334965975739773,0.0,0.16067839324121913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403557134679486,0.0,0.13194031398596034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974737351478115,0.0,0.0,0.1168457510971576,0.0,0.0,0.21184648607671314
parenting,IanicRR,2019/03/18,"The Good Old Days You know how people like to think back on their past? You often hear, “I wish I could go back then with what I know how”. Nostalgia, yearning for memories long-since gone.

Last night, it struck me as I was playing my 3 ½ year-old daughter that having a child has actually taken me back with my current knowledge. Through her eyes, I’ve been able to relive so much of my childhood. Getting to play with toys, roughhousing, playing make-believe. Only now, I’m also armed with information I never would have had back then that I get to impart on my daughter.

She was asking me about the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles toys we were playing with, which were mine and have since been passed down to her. It was awesome recounting the tales of their history and connecting them to my own. Same goes for my childhood teddy bear that she now sleeps with every night. It’s like being young again but being old enough to appreciate it. She loves that she gets to play with dad’s old toys and it’s extra special to me.

Nothing too crazy, I just wanted to write down how appreciative I am of my daughter for giving me the ability to go back. They might not know it but as parents, I think we learn just as much from them as they do from us. It’s certainly not always easy or perfect, but damn parenting is the best job I’ve ever had.

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parenting,clitorophagy,2019/03/18,"What to do with a violent child?  He won't stay in a ""time out"" setting. He very rarely has screen time because it usually causes disruptive behavior and stress. He is not neurotypical but an evaluation a couple of years ago gave an inconclusive answer. The evaluator said to come back in a couple of years and we have a new evaluation scheduled.

 He's always had strong tantrums and meltdowns every so often but he's always been small enough that we could restrain him safely as a family member who works in the field showed us.  Now he's grown too large to restrain safely. The last time it happened I decided I had to quit trying to restrain him because he hurt me and I was afraid that I would hurt him. He's only 8 but he's big and strong and I am small.

It isn't often that he gets out of control but we've just had our first full blown fit since I quit and it's scary. He punches, kicks,  bites, head butts us. He throws things and swings things around. He literally acts like a monster,  snarling and crouching and leaping. 

My husband was home and we managed to get through it ok but I have no idea what I'll do if this happens while I'm alone. 

He's kind and thoughtful most of the time. We have implemented many of the tactics and suggestions of the last evaluation to good effect. We brought him to a therapist for a while who was very nice but no help at all. We have an appointment with a new therapist. 

My question is, what options do I have to keep us safe? Who can I turn to? I'm scared. He's only going to get bigger and stronger. ",1.7575180840664686,4.132739312903226,3.032991202346043,90.04918377321606,81.6774193548387,6.080156402737049,23.26490713587488,7.348242739294969,0.9495376344086022,1217,43,253,18,33,393,163,310,0.102,0.7390000000000001,0.159,0.9733,1,1,0,0,0,0,29.0,10,0,0,8,8,17,2,3,19,1,24,2,2,3,1,57,39,25,0,3,9,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,17,26,0,8,6,1,0,6,5,7,0,1,11,2,26,10,29,25,4,39,0,2,1,1,39,13,1,6,19,153,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259725740235733,0.0,0.0,0.10818878796963173,0.0,0.0,0.17383774473785474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299131598606032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032309269363809,0.0,0.12735537675729028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730892847257227,0.0,0.08998281712705683,0.0,0.0,0.11716048160214955,0.08340260299320848,0.23116543248676796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793483600578817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801183686273598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847534686577143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885340208755729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372770931788966,0.0,0.05936687792310968,0.08761587445159252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847468074585831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107205830607901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001716228337819,0.0,0.10478163706222134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236526258429371,0.11792233238211862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928486171812576,0.0,0.1087787452550443,0.0,0.17029726147462465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103375284726792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590578147879534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20177573702174476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889267989751074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170188163337734,0.22221158490474027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936513445839618,0.0,0.10458242360324588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641017697532195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134018478975348,0.0,0.0,0.11965828005460695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425716204042005,0.13879682022241535,0.0,0.0,0.08292936586019496,0.2436452594119255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092130702695013,0.11362220152655085,0.0,0.0,0.3769566188688445,0.0,0.115047646434832,0.17238045199525684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604793534888185,0.0,0.0,0.07420520270644053,0.0,0.0,0.1345372963446339
parenting,snufflesthefurball,2019/03/18,"My 9 y.o. daughter stole from me. So this morning after getting the kids ready for school, my daughter proudly tells me she's saved up ten dollars in coins and is taking it to school. I told her to maybe save that money for something she really wants instead of spending it and the conversation came to an end there as I helped her younger brother get ready. Once I got home I started tidying up my own bedroom and I noticed that my change jar on my dresser was nearly empty. My wife insists she didn't take anything from it and it was about half full.  

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A little later, I was in my daughter's room and I found a stainless steel medallion of mine that I also kept in the same change jar (not sure why I do this, but it came in handy today) sitting on her dresser. So all the evidence lines up. The medallion in her bedroom and her sudden new found riches could have only come from one place. My bedroom.  I'm livid but I don't want my hot headedness to get the better of me. I've already decided that until trust is regained, she is never allowed in my bedroom and she will be working to pay that debt off. But is there anything I should avoid doing, or additional punishments that should be inflicted because of this blatant act of disrespect? ",4.885025210084034,6.0015965469387815,5.202016806722689,83.43563025210084,69.24489795918367,7.234093637454983,31.962785114045616,7.285733465282438,2.0393001200480194,994,43,186,9,17,315,143,245,0.08800000000000001,0.816,0.096,0.2064,2,1,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,3,7,9,1,1,9,0,18,0,0,1,4,35,35,16,0,5,5,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,8,1,14,11,0,3,3,0,7,5,4,2,0,3,11,1,35,7,32,18,4,32,0,0,0,0,20,17,0,1,9,134,49,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123437447521118,0.1095961480267232,0.0,0.14848997654885393,0.16652666739162506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22555541421646355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354235936656855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120661558569468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134896916992651,0.0,0.0,0.2899543455307012,0.1180535449174034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942058998646892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138264492417655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005291328325019,0.0,0.0,0.2148036381089379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960871698907933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185947358081197,0.0,0.13746895343338314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735673613800115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13768176961286022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10569881697430522,0.13236049833883345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602850731317944,0.0,0.14595019825870065,0.09286634966262368,0.1042301448333246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318456929854462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779558648911898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27739703131807364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550519851481073,0.0,0.0,0.09700231675323824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916483576843926,0.0,0.20608403435098294,0.0,0.11978480342400548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299041897226396,0.13095393696590124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616673173661136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366327583103075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977158571184044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652666739162506,0.0
parenting,JQSHIE,2019/03/18,We hid their mobile devices We had to hide the mobile devices for them to concentrate more in school. Now the two kids are rebelling. When you call them they act that they are deaf.  ,3.7816190476190457,5.8545304000000025,3.120000000000001,93.47333333333334,73.57142857142857,5.80952380952381,23.095238095238088,6.42735559955562,0.401380952380952,144,4,29,1,3,42,27,35,0.14,0.86,0.0,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,1,5,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,8,0,4,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,22,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.587470373038438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5822588448772746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5620081835385142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hiscoolDad,2019/03/18,"Help me understand ""every child develops at their own pace"" ? I am a joint custody dad of a 1 year old boy.  I was not able to see him for ten months so just had my first weekend alone with him.  At his mothers he spends a lot of time sitting, eating foods that are unhealthy for him, strapped in front of t.v. and other electronic devices.  No reading to him action figure toys rather than educational. Pacifer pushed in his mouth constantly.  Compared to other children his age he seems behind/delayed.  Everyone has told me don't worry about it every kid develops at their own pace.. I can't see how this applies.  I feel like everyone believes that environment has no factor on what and how fast your child learns.  I know this to be false,  all I can do is work with him on my weekends though.  He'll me understand why I'm outnumbered and considered to be wrong by everyone I've talked to.",4.427624831309044,6.019436116959064,4.928304093567252,83.15753036437248,70.87134502923976,8.302474134053082,29.528115159694103,8.841846274778883,2.337539451192083,700,28,135,13,13,223,117,171,0.077,0.878,0.045,-0.6479,0,2,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,2,2,8,2,0,0,3,0,13,3,1,2,1,19,23,7,0,1,3,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,8,5,2,0,7,4,1,3,5,1,0,2,3,3,22,1,23,17,4,21,0,0,2,0,24,7,0,2,11,87,30,3,0.1610161405321366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16676416166406094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141005184750028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17400124588335233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16475970948792715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713260859350438,0.4615734674207045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141459864674852,0.1150299629687045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696024688150185,0.19470135626713606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10792572492411684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849025990060129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866435302458903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689016468874785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128521547189165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895935365824566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105971378650344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566180343482441,0.1465830469971448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12941867457673045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15819754054922555,0.0,0.09388980640179068,0.0,0.0,0.15385782247356816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352469616662793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529202237169014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722166800037367,0.16351970661984225,0.0,0.0,0.17604587293468738,0.0,0.103689115381161
parenting,YouBetThisAThrowaway,2019/03/18,"Parents of Reddit, what number of children do you think is ideal? For me at least, if I only had one child, they would be my entire life, but I’d do my best not to spoil them rotten, if that makes sense. Also, I’d have a lot more money.

However, if I had multiple children, each child could keep the other in check and they wouldn’t get as lonely, but… I would have a lot less money.

To the parents who have 5-6+ kids, I salute y’all.

What do you think is the ideal number of children to have?",4.231142857142856,3.619959304761906,5.507380952380951,86.74678571428575,70.23809523809524,7.761904761904763,24.16666666666667,6.42735559955562,0.6370952380952377,377,7,85,2,6,127,67,105,0.07,0.787,0.142,0.782,4,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,3,3,1,5,0,0,5,0,16,1,0,1,0,19,21,7,0,9,5,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,5,2,0,1,2,0,3,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,13,3,10,14,7,2,0,1,0,0,15,2,0,5,0,64,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19448776413650531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552244613352609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941762213374198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706249278641865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21616823688499684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178006947423985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135216126577887,0.0,0.0,0.16233856625567686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479930211597055,0.18496533125703066,0.0,0.0,0.5400918933684526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116667812629818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455260471016048,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ConfidentOil,2019/03/18,"Really sad about sending daughter to daycare. Hi parents, 

I don't really know what I'm looking for here. Maybe just to vent to someone who 'gets it'. Or from someone who has been there, done that and tell me what your experience was looking back. 

My 8 month old daughter just started daycare in a center this week and it is killing me. I think it's especially hard because we're thinking of being one and done, plus I'm not exactly in love with my job either. I'm choking back tears at work and wishing I was home with her. We were lucky enough to have her in the care of family up until this point. 

It's just the realization that I really only see her 2 hours a day during the week, and I want more time with her than that. My job is flexible enough where I think I could switch to working 7-4 without getting 'official' approval, and that makes me feel a bit better netting that extra hour. Maybe that's something I'll start doing. 

I'm daydreaming about staying home with her, but I think that's because I miss her so much. It also kills me that we make enough money so that I could stay home, but it'll be pretty break-even. I have a good state job with great benefits now, and I don't think I'll ever find anything quite this good in our small town again. 

I'm just afraid I'll look back and wish I would have done things differently. Would you mind telling me what your attitudes and experiences have been like in this situation? I know it won't change my situation, but maybe it'll give me the perspective and change to either push for a different lifestyle or to embrace this current path for all it is. 

One other thing I have been thinking... by the time I would theoretically quit work, maybe she would benefit from being in group daycare environment. Plus, if I'm being honest with myself, who am I really doing this for? For her, or for me? Right now, quitting would probably alleviate my broken heart, but can I give her a stimulating environment at home (especially in the winter)? I'm not sure. 

Anyway, I'll quit rambling, and will take solace in the fact that I am (unfortunately) far from the first person who has had these thoughts and feelings. Any dialogue you've got about this would be greatly appreciated. ",6.383018433179723,6.3800607764976975,6.7596626728110625,77.5192082949309,65.65898617511522,9.801142857142855,31.645714285714284,9.490545024520769,2.66316803686636,1763,62,345,31,25,573,214,434,0.061,0.805,0.134,0.9883,8,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,3,3,0,10,22,18,2,1,14,0,44,2,1,3,5,72,82,26,2,12,17,3,3,1,0,10,0,0,4,1,37,22,0,0,12,0,1,2,6,5,0,3,12,7,47,13,44,53,10,45,0,2,4,1,31,18,0,5,23,236,84,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523242497960094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04449456072490682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053843214605621366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093461230586658,0.0,0.07977089265908235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05786740998678504,0.07143248058422325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671012129195968,0.0,0.13843227045979278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448086700789326,0.0,0.0,0.042196858430095456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367205929369755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20087244588181544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028196634430791,0.0,0.0432158173339455,0.05918507058059541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280059513829878,0.061681465866698724,0.0,0.06616662452752407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059801723128185325,0.055654620800413744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836882147088552,0.12553260202194474,0.0,0.10975895473073596,0.052330250568279585,0.14427334296158745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058612318948621685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753472046046563,0.0,0.0,0.2625260098335004,0.0,0.1288704999659858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19478717375229287,0.0,0.1447769315241893,0.0,0.07191709961736625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03196573339913196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483385574792173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059053019446382124,0.0,0.08734990327027661,0.0,0.2629324272901751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606552481663341,0.0,0.05222550438072797,0.0,0.04809848878694078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865765046896026,0.0,0.08867395734028623,0.049762370600865496,0.0,0.0,0.07265213641300276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057130845719998165,0.0,0.0,0.061852383513874634,0.0,0.0,0.06656570838993035,0.07054447492368629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27837091669592035,0.0,0.0,0.1676642210937442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055876758307696735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052139141529716486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709184854883608,0.0,0.0,0.11087704659981763,0.0503711166976456,0.0,0.0,0.09262320882574214,0.13947908844763238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061666885682518775,0.0,0.049195125405871516,0.0,0.11437719461810432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693740719313955,0.2515489432714629,0.0,0.051944014542289,0.07630537606780079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0385922372730319,0.0,0.10496780292153624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048226127001024,0.06307206751963881,0.0,0.14290119134636126,0.0,0.0,0.2788770483301357,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,biciklisticke,2019/03/18,"Today my 4 year old asked me what a COUGAR was! And there I was, thinking to myself: what show did I let him watch that he wasn't supposed to see? I immediately had these thoughts of what would be an appropriate vs. inappropriate answer for a 4 year old. Then it hit me........a cougar is an animal! A.N.I.M.A.L! 

Naughty mom...

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parenting,themack50022,2019/03/18,"When my son plays, he does a bunch of stuff he shouldn't, and I have to tell him ""no/stop/don't"" the entire time Let me first say that my son is a pretty sweet boy. His teachers say he's the most well-behaved at school, but his behavior in rough-and-tumble situations makes me doubt that.

Whether we go camping with a bunch of boys, or go to a park with a bunch of boys, or play in an open area with a bunch of boys, my son has to be told “no” so many times that it’s impossible to count. Don’t hit. Don’t push. Don’t throw things. Don’t pull down your pants. Don’t run out of my site. Don’t climb on that. The hitting and pushing is always in response to another boy playing rough with him, and he's usually the smaller boy of the group. He's not picking fights and it's usually a pulled-punch and he runs away and continues playing. I know it sounds like I am trying to rationalize this behavior, but I just wanted to frame what I see for whoever is reading this. It's not some type of bullying/extremely violent behavior. It all happens while giggling, laughing and having a really good time. 

It’s extremely frustrating. I know he’s just playing, but this type of behavior should not be condoned. I’m at my wits end. Every time we do something fun like this, I leave feeling like I have the worst-behaved child on the planet and a huge failure.",2.8465316205533604,4.316307032608698,4.0099736495388685,88.6578853754941,74.68840579710145,7.626877470355732,26.31357048748353,8.296473431620573,1.5571289855072463,1055,38,229,18,22,344,146,276,0.076,0.7509999999999999,0.173,0.9735,0,0,1,0,1,0,39.0,2,1,0,2,6,17,3,1,17,0,20,0,0,2,1,39,33,17,0,3,11,3,2,3,0,2,0,3,0,7,17,16,0,0,3,6,0,9,11,4,0,1,1,7,22,13,30,25,7,34,0,0,1,0,30,14,0,5,14,137,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303845739151949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16431061483364176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722212196243367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712672390205188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387871565981902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202409943992566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923078262495728,0.11194446871715058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332865079395946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810919243925227,0.13143012728110334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856676413401778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17223330122970565,0.0,0.0,0.1659196468559277,0.0,0.16023344305281687,0.0,0.2296629237908684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459655827598408,0.15886630621090367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594173258611661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673954529979028,0.0,0.10038420087407704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249223711498393,0.0,0.15858587217910608,0.12486733359276685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17613415164359847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063311453910895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100582616577802,0.0,0.0,0.17938073678567018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696020778980122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10410261760340678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654854517675223,0.0,0.0,0.14973083316967736,0.0,0.10638707275180133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3451595252336493,0.0,0.0924240335433288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408895481745314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,katstes,2019/03/18,"What superpower did your parents have growing up? My mom could 100% accurately tell if me or my siblings had strep throat just by the way our voice sounded. 

She always said she could just tell. ",4.718333333333334,6.88628527777778,4.495555555555558,84.20500000000001,71.22222222222223,7.022222222222222,28.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.7338999999999998,154,6,29,2,3,47,31,36,0.0,0.954,0.046,0.1779,2,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,1,0,0,6,6,2,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,7,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,2,0,20,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575523232961588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49426628727243105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625157785135318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343694522792888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2944322738768517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5410827164006573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456891399182447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,opedangit,2019/03/18,"Rest stop etiquette for dad (40) and daughter (6) My husband and our daughter are going on a road trip for spring break! Any tips on how he should handle bathroom breaks?  Most places have family bathrooms these days, right?",4.2940000000000005,7.111812400000005,3.0599999999999987,90.935,75.0,5.0,25.0,5.985473137389443,0.6920000000000002,176,6,31,1,4,50,36,40,0.07,0.93,0.0,-0.4314,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,4,3,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,3,2,12,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,3,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167263695150493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003705971643263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.439068201417036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646967910554748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4866102320528509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39774845533332825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3893883445401619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vetter81,2019/03/18,"Have to put down our dog today. How do I help my son with his grief? Last night, our dog bit the neighbor child’s leg pretty severely. Since giving birth to my last child 2 years ago, our dog has become increasingly aggressive to strangers. We’ve tried every trick in the book to fix this, and it’s only escalated. She has nipped at people a couple times before this, but it always seemed more like a warning, and she never broke the skin. Last night was the first time she actually hurt someone, and I know things can’t continue on this path. 

So, how can I help my 10 year old son with his grief? He LOVES this dog. He seems to understand why we can’t have her hurting people, but he’s still absolutely devastated. ",3.7856866537717617,5.3686714113475205,4.472920696324953,85.82454545454549,72.47517730496455,7.68046421663443,22.747259832366208,8.296473431620573,1.1008950354609928,563,14,116,9,11,180,95,141,0.17600000000000002,0.69,0.135,-0.7737,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,1,4,9,2,0,6,0,9,3,2,2,1,15,15,8,2,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,7,6,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,7,0,1,1,1,16,2,11,14,3,23,0,5,0,1,22,4,0,2,18,61,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.1439220013770098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307346610303687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271755811208633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288323702145993,0.12549705531088234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16101309062469232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16318698472232948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426067447022435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254488494495749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147900269178798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977093109280952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3157669141438729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105272547901353,0.3606546572412577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205267808963567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310904358936784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374787735703908,0.0,0.0,0.27680535568621223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475845730994725,0.0,0.0,0.11216736450597684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449209724320394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500430945394313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826101415555235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268525722073423,0.0,0.16661365788538018,0.0,0.12199934980099415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496175273743508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778000633348185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798106203633927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719968889708359,0.0,0.1397965111031317,0.0,0.0,0.10013118416359262,0.0,0.0,0.15353486351002155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308034598170812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994825901949672
parenting,SundogPictures,2019/03/18,"Documentary Casting Sundog Pictures are making a documentary series following families with a large number of teens.

We are keen to speak with Families with 7 or more children, a majority of whom are teenagers. 

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If you’d like to see more of what we do, feel free to look on our website: [**http://sundogpictures.co.uk/**](http://sundogpictures.co.uk/)",9.435905797101453,14.079086141304352,7.708521739130436,50.72053623188407,78.8913043478261,8.540289855072464,34.39420289855072,8.648137234880735,4.5923411594202905,543,26,61,14,15,163,64,92,0.019,0.805,0.17600000000000002,0.9247,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,3,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,2,17,17,5,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,8,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,6,14,11,5,4,0,0,2,0,13,3,0,3,1,47,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23074968454553155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8521310397769077,0.0,0.1142617027759546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20654058635619899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040185757542054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897653302539654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084264546130693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24805693082635585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007589581613564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,move_illdoit,2019/03/18,"Get this kid out of my bed. I have a 2.5 year old and an 8-month old. Between the two of them, I haven't gotten more than 3 consecutive hours of sleep in months. My 8-month old was waking up fairly consistently every 3 hours and for several months and my toddler wakes me up or prevents good sleep in between those times. So even if the baby sleeps more than 3 hours at a time, my toddler is kicking me, sitting up in bed, hitting me, etc. He's a restless sleeper. 

He's been in our bed since he started in his big-boy bed about 6 months ago. He falls asleep in his own bed and between 9:30-11 he wanders into our bed. We usually put him back in his bed if we're still up and then he makes his way to our bed a few hours later. He.does.not.sleep. He's up kicking me, laying sideways, asking to go to the bathroom 100x and then once he stops, the baby is up. 

I am becoming the absolute worst version of myself. I hate my reactions in the middle of the night when I'm dying to be asleep and I get rhythmically kicked over and over and over. It's like a sleep deprived demon is speaking through me and being the worst parent ever. I can't handle it anymore. It's affecting my life, it's affecting my relationship with my son. I'm so tired all the time and have no motivation or energy. How do I get this kid OUT of my bed and get him to actually STAY in his bed through the night?  ",2.5479679633867285,4.010467003508772,4.1478718535469135,87.3946681922197,75.45614035087719,6.9214340198321915,25.72463768115942,7.586124646067393,1.2377383676582765,1076,38,230,14,23,360,144,285,0.08800000000000001,0.871,0.04,-0.9376,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,4,0,1,1,9,7,1,1,16,0,13,10,8,5,2,30,26,22,1,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,10,2,7,17,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,5,0,1,3,1,34,2,43,20,9,56,1,1,0,0,27,23,0,4,28,149,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.095591750246775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683283268883235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971468684216324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157642684566764,0.0,0.0,0.07532276726738872,0.0,0.0,0.10818563919184672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166373968841526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924777586504547,0.06469957225023275,0.08860757441133779,0.08253286673201407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20471363391034456,0.0,0.05567113241330713,0.08216155403051056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967121043404518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858710415699402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918981653097604,0.04785676646139224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538695466540348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39094109546455547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18385172645294315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30836769204583503,0.10432084292837207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876948392908453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847368505782232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105168992172831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106633525096674,0.0,0.0810309144179848,0.0,0.4901379411638586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933435905147535,0.10440896316596752,0.07822846292972868,0.08189630861278796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17135827215173238,0.11258698325996036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568960385024024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788562549656452,0.0,0.0,0.07775358402202942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308099651990368
parenting,puffin751,2019/03/18,"What is your take on this issue? (Roughly translated from Korean) Hello, I’m a stay-at-home mom in my thirties. I have a 4 year-old daughter.  She’s the apple of my eye and I love her so much. But she is physically challenged. After suffering from cerebral palsy, she has trouble with her eyesight and struggles to walk..The family has worked hard for her recovery and now she manages to take about ten steps by herself. 

She’s been recently going to a daycare center. I considered sending her to a place for special needs children, but since she’s just physically challenged and has no trouble mentally, we settled on a regular daycare center. The teachers there take care of her well and helps her practice walking. My daughter loves going to daycare.

Last Friday, I received a call from the director and she told me my daughter pushed another child in class and she fell, getting a bruise on her thigh.  She said this kind of thing often happen, but the child’s mother got sensitive to the issue and paid a visit to the daycare. 

She said that led to her calling me and asked if it was okay if she could give her my number.  I said she can and a little later, I received a call from the child’s mother. I said I’m sorry, explaining that my daughter was new to making friends, and is probably having trouble controlling her strength. 

But she said this wasn’t the first time.  She said she doesn’t mean to be prejudiced, but she’s been watching my daughter closely BECAUSE she’s disabled, and has run into her several times around the apartment area, adding that my daughter always pushed her daughter even then.  She said my mother and I were just watching and smiling. 

She said she understands that my daughter is disabled, but that’s all the more reason for me to teach her. She asked if I knew that by overprotecting her, that I’ve caused the other children to suffer. She pressed on, saying the teacher was always preoccupied taking care of my daughter. 

Thinking back, there were times that such an incident occurred in the apartment area, but I never smiled in response. I just thought it was something that happens at times when children play. 

I was offended that she had her eye on my child because she was disabled.  Isn’t that being prejudiced and biased? Is it mandatory for children with physical disabilities to go to a daycare or school for children with special needs?  I’m at fault for not apologizing right then and there,  but I never realized this is the social view. 

Am I wrong to do my best to help my daughter get better so she won’t be teased, and raise her in the same environment with everyone else? 
I apologized to the mother on the phone, but I want hear what you think and maybe ask for an apology.

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 After countless viscous comments that said:

1. She is selfish for sending her daughter to a regular daycare center since other children suffer because of her disabled child
2. She should focus more on educating her child because her daughter is  the one causing harm
3. She has no right to ask for an apology
4. Defaming her and her child

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My mom said she was telling my daughter she shouldn’t push other kids,  and missed the chance to apologize to the other kid’s mom. 

I will ask the daycare teachers to care for my daughter but in a way that doesn’t interfere with taking care of the other children.  I think this is something the teachers must work out, not what I should be telling them how it should be done. 

I’m sure they accepted my daughter because they can manage. It hurts to read the comments that dwell on the fact she’s disabled when my daughter only finds it difficult to use her legs. 
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parenting,betamat,2019/03/18,"In the UK, Mother’s Day is a week Sunday, on 31st March – I only just realised. Have a present idea from a Dad for your little ones to make and give. Hello! 5yr old daughter and I are going to make some chocolate chip cookies, including one big one, and we’ll put icing on it, then with edible ink write a little message on it.

It’s cheap, it’s really easy, and it’s handmade, you get chocolate chip cookies to eat. Feel free to pinch this idea, or us it as inspiration for something else.

Now I’m no cook, but this Mary Berry recipe is an absolute doddle: [https://100cookbooks.wordpress.com/2012/09/12/chocolate-chip-cookies-mary-berrys-baking-bible/](https://100cookbooks.wordpress.com/2012/09/12/chocolate-chip-cookies-mary-berrys-baking-bible/)

Get some ready to roll fondant white icing, like this: [https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/250535520](https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/250535520)

And some icing sugar (although you’re not going to need very much): [https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/280404100](https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/280404100)

And some cake pens, like this: [https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cake-Decor-Edible-Decoration-8pens/dp/B07GCQJMN4](https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cake-Decor-Edible-Decoration-8pens/dp/B07GCQJMN4)

Make a bunch of little cookies, and one larger one. Eat the smaller cookies (this is the most important step)

Roll out the fondant icing and cut it so it fits over the larger cookie, and then glue it to the cookie with a little bit of icing sugar mixed with water.

Now get your pens and write a nice Happy Mother’s Day message on the cookie.

And Dads, if you're lucky, come Father's Day, you might get something similar in return!",13.269876543209875,16.899500946502062,8.176234567901236,60.48805555555558,51.88065843621399,8.198353909465022,26.257201646090536,8.680891452615391,1.9548337448559665,1442,31,181,17,18,381,134,243,0.018000000000000002,0.847,0.135,0.9811,0,0,2,0,0,0,149.0,2,4,0,0,4,8,1,0,15,0,7,6,0,3,0,38,21,19,0,2,5,6,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,14,16,6,0,4,1,2,5,2,1,0,5,0,4,8,8,24,19,8,32,0,0,1,0,18,14,0,9,15,102,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13377354084374826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555073051062706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370695985289485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25076227530070244,0.10236001734539718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195601480120394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560722869112971,0.11754415166924465,0.13927586472585027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304379165396061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766481140254717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972618919280795,0.4912382377018876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24537379404834656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998741137567152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007534250019432,0.09085615113012062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12857704134208348,0.0,0.4151553031975167,0.09319133903249714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231788095969369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849733183377983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18866270866662144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739127521884302,0.0,0.0,0.10110198377185747,0.0,0.0,0.0982880235752584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hanky86,2019/03/18,"new dad asking questions to experienced parents Hi

warm welcome from germany, please excuse any issues on grammar,- I am not a native speaker,- just loving reddit ;-)

I am looking for some advise due to a simple questions.

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Did you watch TV when your baby was sleeping in the same room?

Our midwife said its injurios for our baby and when we take a look into the internet they all saying dont do it. Of course we dont want to risk something therefore we put everything down already for 8 weeks.

  
It sounds crazy but my wife is feeling a bit isolated from the rest of the world.

I think it would be quite relaxing to see at least sometimes a bit of netflix / television when our little guy is sleeping. 

And we are wondering if it would be benefitial if there are sometimes surround noises when he is sleeping. Because at the moment we are always silent and he wake up because of quit little noises.

​

What do you think about this and how did you treatened this?

Its our first born :-)

​

Thanks so lot.

PS: I hope I am here at the right spot to ask.  
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parenting,icantaskelsewhere,2019/03/18,"Family member convicted of grooming. How do I protect my children? Throwaway. If there's a better sub for this please let me know. 

[UK] A member of my family (M29) was recently caught grooming online by a police officer posing as a 15 y/o girl . His computer was seized and they found a lot of something.... I'm not clear on the details but it aided in convicting him. 

This is a very close family member with a lot of health/mental issues so he's on a suspended sentence. 

We see this guy maybe four times a year including a big family holiday this year. All people there will know he's not allowed to be alone around the kids. I just don't know how much / if I should worry about my kids at this age.

My son is 2 and my daughter is 6 months. Do I actually need to worry at this stage? When my daughter starts going through puberty I don't want him anywhere near her but is that how it works? Should I worry about my son? (Pedophilia. It's difficult to write that word but that's what I'm talking about). 

Please don't think I'm being dismissive of his conviction. Everyone is being very quiet / embarrassed about this so I don't have anyone to talk to about it. I don't think it's quiet sunk in for me yet, he's the most quiet gentle person... I don't think he understands what he's done wrong... I'm rambling but any advice, resources, stories - anything would be appreciated. It's not a topic I want to Google around about.

Thank you in advance. ",1.5018879757785475,3.9135166574394447,3.406927984429064,86.72226048875434,83.11764705882355,6.657482698961939,21.834018166089965,7.8658589789855275,1.234021539792388,1130,37,224,22,32,379,153,289,0.109,0.8009999999999999,0.09,-0.7392,1,1,1,0,0,0,45.0,1,1,1,3,18,5,0,1,14,0,26,0,0,4,2,42,46,15,0,8,10,4,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,6,18,7,0,1,8,1,0,3,9,3,0,1,5,4,27,2,33,32,5,25,0,0,1,0,26,12,0,5,9,145,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.11385766185739772,0.0,0.0,0.11401315166274785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083978622826792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934278662211867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158165244675926,0.0,0.0960133242783398,0.20773041191652966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318927725442244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11939871115484038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148766132801262,0.0,0.0,0.439962036264038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279277697056013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06630891215161723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155262815383001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401973400801485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177805791592072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923640664091856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930777017883827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838528941324168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721540304387275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312862028083999,0.0,0.08576931810301859,0.08651280041348093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088753574040433,0.10187583443127676,0.0,0.2561475343612489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152021755195816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929746178781138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898218725827752,0.0,0.0,0.08258294243596208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18755738419747287,0.0,0.10741837404275734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242812807435455,0.0,0.0,0.06803394699072758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146246164999615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253766827377786,0.13763550408579778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494056013678165,0.3554664178720096,0.0,0.08288234853493835,0.12756545195034566,0.0,0.15026934338684075
parenting,anonywp2018,2019/03/18,"Almost 2 year old sometimes walks on tip-toes My daughter is 22 months old and will sometimes walk or run on her tip-toes. Of course googling this was a terrible idea as all the top posts are about autism (not that it would be the end of the world if she was autistic of course).

Im going to ask her doctor at her 2 year checkup but just wondered if anyone here has any experience with this. She has 20+ words and several 3 word sentences, plays with other kids, smiles/makes eye contact, and hasn't shown any type of repetitive behavior that I've noticed. What do yall think? ",3.5296168582375467,5.017528206896554,3.779770114942533,90.92001915708816,72.9655172413793,6.879693486590037,25.819923371647512,7.3871296695380915,1.0568325670498089,456,15,97,5,9,141,88,116,0.042,0.91,0.048,-0.09,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,11,3,1,0,1,19,15,8,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,3,1,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,1,7,1,12,10,1,17,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,5,7,52,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652422313683812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26692459196111123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722828638837972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18347491034325725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20087856882082672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382649965579994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191978164211719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111538049474818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22155160256966608,0.21199251819231146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566514110901837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234412447488804,0.4118799025737364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879610907394416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22171588671190928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882087271311682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575432057885652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21283363013877413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13941618391116364,0.0,0.0,0.2527676735052737
parenting,AllyPawelczyk2019,2019/03/18,"*Vent* Dealing with a deadbeat parent who doesn't want to see our kids. Wanting to move out state😬 I have been seperated from my ""husband"" for over a year now. We barley have any communication at all. I know nothing about his life, he knows nothing about mine or our kids lives. He has barley ever been in our daughter's lives. A little backstory. He was in the army for 3 years. Came home on leave for a week, got me pregnant with our youngest. Left us all as soon as he found out about my pregnancy. Literally had NOTHING at all to do with my me or our kids the entire pregnancy. He didn't even see our youngest daughters birth, and saw her once in the hospital, even though she was very premature and was in the nicu struggling to breath. Called the hospital while I was in labor with her, had my doctor put in a red cross request for his leave to come see his child be born. Instead spent it hanging out with friends and family leaving us in the hospital. He finallly gets discharged from the military Novemeber of last year. Told everyone he was going to come here and a father to his daughters. He wishes he could see them more. And I keep them from him. Which is laughable. Long story short, he hasn't seen or spoken to them, even asked me how they are doing in 2 months now. He lives 15 minutes from me and our children. We only communicate through email. I have 12 emails throughout the last 2 months alone asking him if he wants to come see our kids. Even said, come see them at my Mom's, and I won't be there. Just come spend time with them. Have basicially sent him emails begging to come pick up his sick daughter from daycare so I didn't have to leave work early. He just never replies to us, outright ignores me,  or chooses another woman he calls his ""best friend"" over seeing his daughters. I cant count how many times in the last almost 5 months, I have called him asking for help, and he outright refuses because he is with that woman. Or with another friend ""helping"" them out with things. I really have realized I cannot make this man be a father. His family refuses to help me. They don't give a shit at all he doesn't do anything at all parenting wise He lives with his mom and pays some of her bills with his unemployment benfits and his illegally working under the table. None of his family at all care about what he does these kids and I.  Our child support case just started last month, and he is already behind almost $1500. The only time he replies to me is when I say I want full custody of our daughters. He refuses to give me it, but does nothing at all for them and has no realtionship at all with them.  I have met someone and am wanting to move out of state soon. I have already been ordered a job and am looking forward to a new life for my kids and I.I know he is going to make this horrible for me. He is the only thing stopping a fresh start for my kids and I. I am so scared to face this man in court😬",3.723348794063078,5.044597506802724,4.41195423623995,87.2331539888683,72.23129251700679,7.454298082869513,26.969078540507113,7.924219607001951,1.4803523809523809,2306,80,479,31,44,737,258,588,0.053,0.902,0.045,-0.6381,5,1,0,0,0,0,63.0,15,0,10,3,25,11,1,2,23,0,47,7,3,5,10,90,95,33,0,8,10,13,0,0,3,1,4,2,1,14,12,43,0,6,6,0,4,16,12,4,0,0,22,13,80,7,86,68,13,81,0,0,11,0,124,33,1,9,32,309,92,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885860469578773,0.06146751198832207,0.13098586795573167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04035925451464501,0.12446489207448826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04883904834099192,0.0,0.16644949532429806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03617850931929921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622829586343131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180544045539448,0.06787927596634713,0.0605101100013316,0.0,0.0,0.30674268531705345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04738522905701945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061186060406274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060746064841852784,0.10387316064928118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679742803823507,0.05368443441430293,0.0,0.05671037141926458,0.0,0.0,0.16784644724160466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507295290281535,0.1375583274876787,0.0,0.03100732563323417,0.11386565351690905,0.0674586405658283,0.0,0.04746669856026016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934085341403125,0.0,0.05953173755940384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889457792576535,0.05275198656712991,0.0,0.0,0.09784973084769484,0.1935089422428538,0.0,0.2513674598548458,0.0644827013436738,0.0,0.08383969863460246,0.0,0.05948314120065186,0.2096244945276365,0.05252186641506603,0.049838088284476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792316391145156,0.06017042075106473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139017316325111,0.1894867497615393,0.1261568745495332,0.0,0.0,0.04577349339829727,0.05731949108172839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22778729654180874,0.0,0.0,0.06320459043641746,0.0,0.1354124289089692,0.0,0.0,0.13179975335204205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059661988516694464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038020394301444736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05645434899647017,0.04719658919397424,0.05941855433674637,0.0,0.3310534578210813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06092074370572784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028608970005252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401484581616958,0.0,0.0,0.04961829773250362,0.0,0.06204430612121526,0.0,0.0,0.06734837392686209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885748025347197,0.0,0.05830994575333982,0.0,0.10382037860524998,0.0,0.0,0.05671037141926458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416808455144148,0.0,0.0,0.048969018409491014,0.1750274529084168,0.0,0.0476060692018693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824825083772497,0.0,0.0,0.08641334218582153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465614456640598
parenting,antisocialbartender,2019/03/18,"Are grades really that important? My son is in 5th grade. Middle school next year! He got another “invitation” to summer school. It’s completely optional, but “recommended” for kids who are invited. We recently had conferences and his teacher thinks he is a great kid, friendly and kind, but he is a bit low on his test scores. He was recommended for summer school last year as well but we declined. Am I terrible for not caring that much about test scores? He’s within the low end of his grade level- not anything I was super concerned about but apparently it’s a problem. He misses a lot of school due to vacations, sports, and family/social obligations. He likes school but I think he’s more into the social aspect of it. He is also in several sports and activities. He has many interests and i have always let him lead the way when it comes to extracurriculars. I always got good grades, was in accelerated classes, and never struggled at all to learn but that never got me anywhere in life. I feel like kids are all pushed down the same path in life instead of exploring their strengths and weaknesses.  In my honest opinion, charisma and life experience takes you so much further than grades do. Should I send him to summer school? ",4.079186602870813,6.7204820701754375,4.90971291866029,78.32117224880382,74.78947368421052,8.355980861244019,26.15311004784689,9.095868883498916,2.4756947368421063,984,36,172,24,22,318,133,228,0.099,0.7170000000000001,0.184,0.9731,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,1,3,8,19,0,1,8,0,17,4,0,1,4,36,27,18,0,2,8,1,1,2,1,1,4,0,0,3,8,12,0,0,5,2,0,5,4,7,1,0,7,1,19,12,27,18,8,35,0,3,0,0,27,16,0,3,15,109,27,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746925497628746,0.18202190830947965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11469198682574328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09000847380407638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941204856580005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151778824415193,0.0,0.0,0.09421914736197777,0.11468036901750232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687611936853953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699231468823413,0.0,0.0,0.055304618549539886,0.07813940410558014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845048892692096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174077062453878,0.2624378589912791,0.12058922842646193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389997508706902,0.0,0.0891573707431432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184604207259324,0.2317699742716058,0.10687277490239123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298895366595587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089175411730533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081029335655728,0.0,0.1687175496416737,0.0,0.11632435539724427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046596246640909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700701135822488,0.0,0.10799721887940206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6641760344380757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123565594138614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149672435658753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434525225005802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223836910213654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14016954371893894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681887533860315,0.0,0.0,0.09834362934785773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087122135861213
parenting,trashsnax,2019/03/18,"1 year old maybe sleep regressing? My 14 month old has recently (over the last 2-3 weeks) begun sleep regressing. He wakes up screaming bloody murder at least once per night, and sometimes as many as 3 times in a night. Nothing calms him down unless I give in and bring him into my bed, and will otherwise scream until he (finally) goes back to sleep, and then he may well do it all over again 2 hours later. I have tried rocking him back to sleep, but he wakes up screaming again as soon as I put him back to bed. I've tried patting his back until he falls back to sleep, but it doesn't calm him down at all and he will continue screaming the same as if I weren't there. I've tried holding him just long enough to calm him down, but he screams again as soon as he's put back to bed. Any suggestions on how to make him sleep all night again, asap?",6.102183908045973,4.971702551724139,5.78448275862069,88.02545977011495,66.58620689655173,9.342528735632184,28.528735632183906,8.167268648758528,1.4908666666666663,660,16,151,7,9,204,93,174,0.141,0.85,0.009000000000000001,-0.9649,0,0,0,1,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,0,16,10,1,0,3,0,8,8,8,2,3,20,11,21,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,2,6,0,1,0,1,0,4,2,6,1,0,1,5,15,4,30,7,6,49,0,0,0,0,19,13,0,2,32,90,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07041757342298417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4777415023750757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699486491115648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343399982865225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933462737739006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019759240856118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440709765492317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163852080699438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691204512058721,0.1049834807923042,0.10402992636819723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265264853426632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915240743150059,0.0,0.09935904956591447,0.0,0.21731668159794912,0.11027740579576503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20819276805081116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102243165365157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6217488944648171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024136305514518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060380857056253526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109110259156067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306159055008955,0.0,0.09310391565963257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666828263264994
parenting,S4r41,2019/03/19,"Daughter (9) of mother (30) wants a right side undercut. I would post a pic but rules said not images. My daughter would like the “new” right side undercut haircut [20 Cute Shaved Hairstyles for Women](https://therighthairstyles.com/shaved-hairstyles-for-women/) (#1 but right side and mid-back length). I love the idea of it and would do it if I had the confidence. She doesn’t know anybody with this hair cut or never even seen it until I showed her what she was describing. I am dying to let her express herself, my question: as a mother, do I let her go to this “extreme” at 9 or do I wait.  The side of me that says no, feels like it may be too of a grown look for her just turned 9 in December. ",2.9727696078431407,4.978255051470589,3.232941176470589,92.06990196078434,75.69117647058823,6.298039215686276,23.098039215686285,7.1686216300943375,0.6825068627450981,541,16,113,6,12,166,88,136,0.04,0.8079999999999999,0.152,0.9538,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,8,0,14,2,1,0,1,21,24,9,1,5,7,4,2,2,0,4,0,2,0,0,8,3,0,1,4,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,4,6,17,4,13,13,0,15,0,0,2,1,16,9,0,5,5,73,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205406329665288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917315021287752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201937694448108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341036219423976,0.1319786706892499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499229986549108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20854957032331986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152856324751648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778194145081951,0.0,0.18050978153648034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15513551610279985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673553999586055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248328470465949,0.17842355390833908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693035959370698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20695167211475973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4733022065761338,0.17573054804638286,0.14691308344545187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20094464575859255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896475034963804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39370311358927135,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Aven,2019/03/19,"My New Disciplinary Action. Thoughts? My four year old boy started throwing a tantrum over the choice in what to watch after dinner and also a fit when he couldn't eat dinner away from the table. He didn't nap and was tired and cranky, no big deal. I told him alright, you can watch something. He was excited saying he wanted to watch paw patrol.

I then proceeded to put on Blue Planet and when that was too boring out on Planet Earth. He was not amused but I was. A punishment where he can learn something. Good idea?

Couple questions though, I am not sure if he should see a predator killing its prey at this age or if I'm over worrying. Also I don't want to have him growing up hating documentaries because he relates them to a punishment. Any ideas?",2.534285714285716,4.979482700680276,3.242884353741495,89.2675918367347,79.1360544217687,5.824761904761906,23.40544217687075,7.03164865440522,0.8914511564625851,595,20,115,7,15,187,102,147,0.218,0.715,0.067,-0.9763,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,0,7,11,5,0,7,1,13,4,0,0,1,21,21,14,1,6,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,5,3,0,5,2,0,4,6,6,0,1,8,6,11,5,16,11,0,26,0,0,5,0,17,12,0,4,10,71,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845079700656409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096740230541342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16712812559072068,0.0,0.0,0.10843659884871662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682555937963436,0.0,0.0,0.18339086966939172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202001525183398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492008845263457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17562388737975018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4016193733600759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19680258704550427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180173472007407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866596161488583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788228215320744,0.1992710911408091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146070984534947,0.0,0.0,0.14175073102257965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738880006394212,0.0,0.0,0.125907400615936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765381762952125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477039036465794,0.1412202391061695,0.0,0.20445179849325898,0.0,0.16997604135314978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20984150044477584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806501090917502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455163657296365
parenting,j_marko,2019/03/19,"My son just had the worst ""freak out"" he's ever had James was diagnosed with severe AD/HD about two years ago. He's nine years old. 

About a year of therapy seemed to help quite a bit. But we got lazy about making new appointments because he had a streak of several months with practically zero problems. Also, his therapist went on a long vacation, and told us she'd call when she returned. She never did.

In the past two months, he's had more frequent and more extreme freakouts than any other time in his life. The symptoms that have been hurting our family lately sort-of seem to fall into the definition of ""Oppositional Defiant Disorder"", but I really don't feel like that term accurately describes the behaviors we're trying to solve. 

He was really down today because we had to put down his bird yesterday. (It escaped from its cage and was mauled by a dog that we were dogsitting). In his depression, he started going on to my wife about all the things she does to treat him unfairly. Typically, when this happens, we send him to his room. We've tried to make it clear that we don't intend this as a punishment, but as a way to give ourselves some space from him so that we can respond rationally when we're ready.  He refuses to do this anymore, so I calmy pick up him from under the armpits and carry him to his room. 

This always triggers his worst episodes because he feels like he has no control. After almost an hour of mumbling to himself, he begins screaming and pounding on his door. This lasted for another hour. 

We know the textbook advice is to ignore this kind of acting out and especially not to engage. But my wife and I were desperately trying to get to sleep. This was long after bedtime. I tried about ten more times to calmly put him back into his bed every time he came out demanding that we explain to him what he should do when he's getting beat by us.

We've never done anything that could be considered beating. I have spanked him about four times total in his life, and all those instances were over two years ago.

My lack of overreaction seemed to aggravate him further, so he kept escalating and fighting harder. Thankfully I kept my calm. 

It finally stopped after he ran out of energy. And nearly collapsed with exhaustion. Now he's asleep.

My wife is crying and repeatedly asking where we went wrong. She's an amazing mother. I've never met another woman who could respond to James' insanity with nearly the compassion that she does. Our 7yo daughter is perfectly healthy and well-adjusted.

Tomorrow one of us is going to take off from work and take him to some kind of therapist. Not sure yet. Whoever will see us.

I think I mostly needed to vent. But I would be happy to hear about how you've handled similar episodes. Or if you have any reading recommendations.

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parenting,jessieram8,2019/03/19,"I have a 4 yr old son, single mom, & currently 31 wks preg & high risk. I work 4 jobs to keep everything comfortable for us. I take bedrest when I can (per Dr's orders) but I still have bills. MY SISTER THREATENED TO CALL CPS AND PSYCH WARD AFTER BABY IS BORN BECAUSE IM NOT FOLLOWING DOCTORS ORDERS. She has a rich husband of her 2 children that pays for everything (fancy home, fancy car, live in nanny, expensive things) all so she can focus on becoming a nurse practitioner. I HAVE ME. And she's saying I'm irresponsible and selfish for not being on strict bedrest daily when I have real bills to pay by myself, with no help. Wtf do I do here? ",1.7250498338870417,4.142935441860467,3.6454318936877113,85.33831395348841,82.17829457364341,6.4764119601328884,22.392580287929125,7.7094869923839395,1.215318493909192,508,17,99,9,14,171,95,129,0.177,0.745,0.077,-0.928,2,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,3,0,11,2,0,0,1,10,15,7,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,6,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,16,2,13,14,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,7,59,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256094598828632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197266619395251,0.21691388613517884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20055145921078635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20102883469544394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530322903383967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164612805696904,0.2075126605181541,0.19701022379175612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121510977826852,0.0,0.19490165167274254,0.17457378375155982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342920882291565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23002715629466114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20609400329490668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235518827473676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561891350816732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684928265181486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476721132785448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048275146419294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362510261826228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429851754758087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pink_simplicity,2019/03/19,How did you know you were ready to be a parent? This question comes about because I'm simply interested in seeing everyone's perspective. I'm not asking for advice on whether or not I myself am ready to be a parent. :),4.686201550387602,5.791111883720928,6.1906976744186055,76.20759689922484,69.69767441860466,8.524031007751939,28.286821705426355,8.841846274778883,2.3238589147286817,173,6,31,3,3,59,33,43,0.0,0.7609999999999999,0.239,0.8658,2,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,8,11,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,6,7,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,2,0,23,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.294911025562798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821380108286169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18397170807044685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599700614981327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883784902034667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658588893147225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6702162749006391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380799784893864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404919038713201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saultry,2019/03/19,Kids Softball Coach smells of alcohol Our kiddos are in a 7u softball league.  We recently searched public records regarding the coaches just because.  All coaches and any parent on the field are required to pass background checks.  The Asst Coach is currently on probabtion for Felony manufacturing and distribution of a controlled substance.  I am unsure how he passed a background check but was willing to trust the league had good reasoning.  The kicker is that two of three practices this same coach has smelled of alcohol.  How would you handle this?,7.223467741935482,10.168169774193547,5.819018817204302,74.04852822580645,66.31182795698925,8.520967741935483,37.43145161290322,9.188382445141503,3.9677322580645176,451,24,66,9,8,133,70,93,0.039,0.8759999999999999,0.086,0.7615,2,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,8,0,10,2,0,4,1,13,10,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,3,2,2,1,5,2,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,4,2,10,6,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,2,45,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6147665691383314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955946288625057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753333204045995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225955084512122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412459148391764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193731419358601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29572604975256234,0.2839946480859322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280967495002311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20432030296784173,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cvisathep,2019/03/19,"Taking a moment to spend time with my toddlers. Day to day life can get busy, and I forget to really just enjoy my family. During the weekdays I’m always in a hurry from dinner until bedtime. Well tonight I took a moment to make some cookies with my 4 year old. While watching my 3 year old play with their dad.  Taking that extra 30 minutes with them and sharing a cookie before bed was so special for us and the kids. I have to remind myself to enjoy them more and appreciate their willingness to wanna still hang out with me lol. ",4.91,5.746114666666667,5.993333333333332,78.81000000000002,69.0,7.523809523809526,25.47619047619048,7.447530270364453,1.3931904761904756,420,11,75,4,7,140,74,105,0.017,0.755,0.228,0.971,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,4,0,4,7,0,0,6,1,3,2,0,1,0,15,9,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,10,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,14,6,18,7,3,17,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,1,13,54,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403987299747733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984347883767307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007875427196251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983883681914626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183661636169035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471503088088738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566184153844848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4894052956021153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939296117367729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623266158634574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506725722041489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597994861248472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25909216720225065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805091401416506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096735005802099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30034443826343554
parenting,arthistorynerd101,2019/03/19,"18 and not allowed to go to boyfriend’s house? Hi I’m 18 and my boyfriend is 17. I ask to go over to my boyfriend’s house when his whole family is home, but my parents say no because they think of only the worst. Is this normal among parents? I’m basically an adult and this frustrates me...",-0.8526229508196685,1.2295792295081966,0.9103114754098378,99.40087704918035,100.96721311475409,3.7514754098360656,20.854098360655733,5.6839178017228535,-0.09458819672131158,227,9,52,2,10,73,41,61,0.201,0.799,0.0,-0.9368,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,8,9,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,7,0,7,9,2,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,1,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21724771835534973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165916071662898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907100184500947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26413842320867315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331001508171349,0.0,0.0,0.5362799892698504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22768703039566945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673854258382451,0.0,0.0,0.5160699761764158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848011247478181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890231676893578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25944849428100025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angelikk95,2019/03/19,Does making your children smoke cigarettes count as physical/corporal punishment? Say you caught your children playing with your cigarettes pretending to smoke them and you decided to force them to smoke them for real as a form of punishment. Would that count as physical/corporal punishment?,8.796702127659575,12.081210319148937,7.571223404255321,61.70875000000001,62.829787234042556,14.061702127659574,41.53723404255321,12.602617957971056,7.32491914893617,243,14,31,11,4,74,29,47,0.191,0.748,0.061,-0.8299,0,0,5,0,0,0,5.0,0,5,3,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,8,1,9,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,0,22,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584315770041746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34967921492763765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5962649753362655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4165928268316638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721336207233937,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anonymous0212,2019/03/19,"Question for parents We’ve (61F + 66M) had the 10 year old daughter of close friends staying with us for ten days so far, and mom and dad haven’t once called or texted to see how she’s doing. Is this normal? We’ve been friends with them for years and are her surrogate grandparents so they obviously trust us with her, but even when our biological grands stay with us their mom (my SD) calls them every evening before bed.",4.353928571428572,5.5352246309523805,4.3390476190476175,88.88928571428572,70.54761904761905,7.504761904761906,27.095238095238088,7.793537801064563,1.2828238095238105,335,11,72,4,6,103,68,84,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.6577,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,4,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,14,7,9,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,12,4,9,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,21,2,0,2,5,41,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259634252099795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182312815381557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10049479823261072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584304163907827,0.0,0.13129002041624285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407813689898323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650027630030358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267627255016653,0.0,0.0,0.16351304309617215,0.16594947128612114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302619345675085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456064244524944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241730475440643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33217929895027903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5623180239325593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069350911720088
parenting,BruceSharkbait,2019/03/19,"11 year old son has never said I love you to me or his dad My son has never been very openly comfortable with emotions and very rarely gives hugs. 

His dad and I say I love you to him 2 or 3 times a day and to each other as well. We also say it in other ways, like that we are proud of him, or like things about him... but never... and I mean never has he ever said “I love you” to either one of us. 

It crushes me because it’s such a basic way to connect. It doesn’t feel normal to not have it be part of the normal interactions. 

He doesn’t hug. He’s not overly affectionate. I’m not sure he even likes my husband very much. 

And we are about to move into teen years where I imagine it gets worse. I’m at a loss.  It makes me sad. ",1.002783653846155,2.1174645187500007,3.148750000000004,94.40894230769231,78.8125,5.6730769230769225,17.93269230769231,5.873414542411696,-0.5042788461538463,553,9,136,3,13,189,94,160,0.18,0.721,0.099,-0.9458,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,3,0,2,8,15,0,0,4,0,10,5,0,1,6,32,22,11,0,2,8,5,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,11,12,0,0,3,0,0,1,9,2,1,1,3,5,23,13,18,18,4,19,0,2,0,5,30,6,0,3,13,93,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716502953231442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168917950049254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642317085216862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507393881028596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851009539382987,0.12121664164070535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775776336201256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001291753423063,0.12855134144681016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640656734277684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628385651556839,0.0,0.08945044601784165,0.0,0.0,0.1459724726822901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242780816843173,0.09851026993043133,0.0,0.4134166043799336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26259603123206393,0.0,0.0,0.1406173842684811,0.0,0.0908063402166896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511608885407487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549419274329257,0.21313485375810665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262996345116637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902803046042138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814032605971431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119343989358018,0.0,0.0,0.3317084376952422,0.0,0.2127364030286068,0.0,0.0,0.12048802686424195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365641738118193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725917135254148
parenting,TheYoojBooj,2019/03/19,"2.5yo bedtime and nighttime help needed! Things were going so well! We had and have a solid routine, finally got him to sleep past 6am..... but now, oh Lordy I forgot how to troubleshoot this!

Little dude 1) keeps pushing boundaries at lights out “one more kiss? One more big hug? One high five” and 2) wakes up in the middle of the night screaming for me. 

Been like this a few weeks. 

At bedtime, I try to verbalize boundaries: “This is the last hug, then mommies leaving” which of course leads him to ask for something else and the cycle repeats. During the middle of the night, I go in and give him a back rub and ask what’s making him cry and it’s always crabs. Yes, crabs. Is he dreaming? Thinking of Moana? No clue. 

I don’t want to not give him emotional support if he is truly scared, but I’d also like to get back on a good track with things. 

I welcome and ask for any and all thoughts or things to consider!",1.6042539039907489,3.8867599285714327,2.409525737420477,94.8486321573164,81.58241758241758,4.710699826489301,21.666859456333146,5.750287758089431,0.060556043956044185,705,22,148,4,19,220,121,182,0.07400000000000001,0.6940000000000001,0.232,0.9867,0,0,1,1,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,1,8,11,0,1,10,1,8,5,2,3,1,27,25,17,0,3,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,12,0,2,2,1,0,4,3,2,1,4,6,3,12,9,22,19,4,27,0,0,0,3,15,12,0,2,13,92,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331648165018647,0.11790475543935244,0.0,0.0,0.0963600451716662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3974077589176074,0.0,0.0,0.2179152660880916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15564948154968572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837116760249845,0.15939208135772842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522411262078514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740317762209114,0.2718608073498791,0.16106139051165236,0.11885023319185414,0.11332947727656414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949777208399492,0.14971256528653396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594840686810135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550343681940745,0.0,0.15003857279815874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845375543000127,0.14201942632432754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458505138306604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506786704472013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659494555512303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28805632853716445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526754111927078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186522146602992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180113628782562,0.0,0.0,0.10908666140882692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16079812255887446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824151653962421,0.09079487148397518,0.0,0.112493021756945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620418595583508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357762536182001,0.0,0.11366223271227685,0.0,0.12740424133520212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,callmelate4supper,2019/03/19,"When did you retire the baby monitor? How old was your child when you decided it was time to do away with the baby monitor, or that it was just no longer necessary? What developments, if any, in your child, your comfort level as a parent, your living arrangement, etc. underlined your decision?",5.812358490566036,7.704409433962264,6.720896226415096,70.47681603773587,67.86792452830188,11.337735849056607,30.23113207547169,11.20814326018867,4.119079245283018,232,9,38,8,4,77,40,53,0.04,0.905,0.055,0.212,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,7,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,5,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,7,1,5,1,1,7,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,4,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766387335035619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3822030738455576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536908180618972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592128705970461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4268693782256275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517045381767433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23720902342893754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrh1985,2019/03/19,"Issue with my 6 year old and disrespect. My wife and I have 2 kids. One is 6 and the other is 1. This post will be about my 6yo.

He has a serious attitude problem. He disrespects my wife at every turn, listens to nothing that she says and basically treats her like he runs the house.

However, he only treats her this way, not me.

I think this is due to our parenting differences. I discipline him, follow through with consequences, never yell at him when doing so.

My stressed out wife just can’t handle him and flips. She threatens and threatens but rarely follows through. She gets so stressed and yells and screams. I told her that he doesn’t respect you bc you don’t discipline him. Your not consistent and he knows he can run you around.

I don’t know what to do. She’s recently started punishing him but he doesn’t seem to care. He barely listens to a word she says. I told her it may take some time for him to break, but it will happen if she remains consistent.

She just has such a hard time disciplining him. I think it makes her feel like a bad mother, but she is drained over this. It’s every day.

I know that I can step in and discipline him but I feel that is not fixing the real issue here between him and her.

Can anyone help her with any tips or anything to get this under control. I’ve told her what to do but she is just having a really hard time with it. He just runs her over and she flips and it turns into war with no discipline 3/4 of the time.

Appreciate any help you have.

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parenting,scantron3000,2019/03/19,"Daughter is sweet as can be to adults but so rude to her peers My daughter is almost 5 and the loveliest little girl, so long as you are over the age of 12. She's polite, says ""excuse me"" when she wants to speak, loves to share her food and toys, and tells me on a daily basis that I'm the best mom ever and that I'm her whole world. But as I watch her interact with her friends and classmates at preschool I see a completely different child. She finds the rudest way to respond to everyone and can't seem to make it through a playdate without throwing a tantrum because her friend doesn't want to do what she wants to do.

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Yesterday, as I was signing her in to preschool, two of her friends who are sisters came up and asked if she could come to their house for a playdate after school, and my daughter said, ""I don't want to go to your house, I want you to come to my house."" I told her they'd already been to our house and wouldn't it be nice to try going to their house? ""No."" Well how about the playground? All the girls could agree on this, but then another little girl I've never seen before came up and asked if she could go to the playground, and my daughter pointed in her face and very loudly said, ""No! You can't come with us!"" Whoa, whoa, whoa. I told her that was super rude and she could say something nicer, like ""Not today, but maybe we could play together some other time."" Fast forward to the park, my husband is there with the girls and the report back was that our daughter just refused to do whatever her friends wanted to do, would pout and sulk, and run off to do something on her own instead. What the hell is the point of a playdate if you're not gonna play with your friends?! And despite her rude behavior, she's somehow the most popular kid. Parents are constantly telling us that my daughter is all their kid will talk about, or their son says they ""love"" her and wants to give her gifts. When we show up to preschool, every day there's a different friend who runs over and wants to give her a hug and she runs away from them to hide behind me. I don't get it.

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I just don't know what to do. We're constantly trying to give her advise on how to navigate social interactions when someone doesn't want to do what she wants, and it all goes out the window the second she's in the situation. All the articles I see online are about kids who are rude to adults, but I can't seem to find anything about kids who are rude to other kids.",5.138658698539178,5.1539620159362585,5.0395856573705196,88.73512881806109,68.28286852589642,8.047915006640107,28.88472775564409,7.42949916751922,1.398729667994688,1940,61,423,17,30,600,219,502,0.092,0.773,0.136,0.979,3,0,2,0,0,0,66.0,6,5,7,2,20,26,7,0,25,0,42,5,1,3,6,84,82,42,0,20,14,11,0,1,6,4,0,7,1,12,20,33,1,1,5,4,0,13,15,7,1,2,11,12,67,19,71,59,9,52,1,0,4,3,106,22,1,10,19,287,87,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653586712265711,0.0,0.07202728234070478,0.0,0.0,0.14144045628200755,0.1586208602521013,0.0,0.06844148962683749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05371180844175985,0.0,0.12203764148809132,0.0,0.06132349600988698,0.050188750447536165,0.0,0.039788104565412506,0.0,0.055540127883239206,0.0,0.06849704195698778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493034279625663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16867347864385082,0.06843455679635632,0.14106778452763974,0.0,0.2605646949045209,0.0,0.0,0.04209387558752336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638692176280226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904062743878386,0.05499295368992906,0.062368467646327766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193115500504646,0.0,0.07892497790373408,0.0,0.3025655407534097,0.0,0.03410098253912288,0.18783935326999668,0.1112836665402061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3765652037867528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03587079176669042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0318877199589656,0.13083576335790156,0.0,0.05776206792960682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11781779715954953,0.0,0.04356836145672404,0.0,0.06557268297954855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644366258335496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034039754324927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247482644716392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340286141149727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417380280760312,0.15571643453360282,0.0,0.06605692113500017,0.10402378842624156,0.11883906683668467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733664329894467,0.0,0.06653474331272917,0.05530322373188808,0.10049636860942578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246170970316503,0.11409805325390285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03805957512427451,0.0,0.06186851225365229,0.12473693529265553,0.0,0.08862835482106915,0.0,0.06375949559865123,0.0,0.15702401421979356,0.0,0.0,0.05385474585883737,0.38498051628804897,0.05180844207476041,0.0,0.0,0.05868574321677189,0.0,0.0,0.07287184088603371,0.0,0.06291813803195356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04636607326298025,0.0,0.1586208602521013,0.0
parenting,Arbichre,2019/03/19,"Why does my father get mad so easely? Why does my father get mad so easely? I ask myself this question every single day. Everytime I do something wrong, my dad would just scream at me. He would also tell me that my attitude is wrong and that if I don't change, he'll take all my technology away from me. Here's an example, I walk with a cup in my hand and BAAM, I drop the cup. My father then says how bad of a kid I am and in some cases, grounds me. The thing is that if he drops a cup, no one says anything. Please help me. ): What should I do?",0.5543356643356674,2.223112529914534,2.5769852369852373,95.53139860139862,81.8205128205128,5.622066822066823,17.473970473970475,6.574015621080383,-0.3430957264957266,414,8,100,4,11,139,74,117,0.207,0.7290000000000001,0.064,-0.9534,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,6,6,2,0,6,0,9,1,1,1,1,14,14,10,0,5,3,4,1,0,0,4,0,3,0,1,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,0,4,20,0,7,10,3,10,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,4,2,65,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982694366648006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417639646988088,0.0,0.17515071959193818,0.0,0.17602527094188666,0.0,0.15643278254783127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981957129692488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082784474801055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279095343346722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785384400791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957694874364589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255794516616491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695593403539046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056584547472624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987938256930852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297982876193303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423427938858707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086690801275625,0.0,0.16375567314950507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446968719874292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381157275168186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26618184349149304,0.4096844233564976,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alabatman,2019/03/19,"When does baby food end? How old? My daughter is nearly two and still does baby food from time to time. Mostly baby meats because she's not wild about solid meats yet and it's nice to know she's getting some protein other than milk.

Also, are there any good sources for rough developmental guidelines? If that didn't give it away I'm very much a first time parent trying to learn the ropes. 


Thanks!",2.1056410256410243,4.756979307692311,2.4643589743589764,92.83064102564106,82.84615384615384,3.97948717948718,17.641025641025642,5.033348758259628,-0.6131128205128205,318,7,62,1,9,97,64,78,0.018000000000000002,0.862,0.12,0.8397,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,2,0,3,3,0,1,0,9,8,6,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,1,3,3,9,7,3,11,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,3,9,36,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159367066271585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741313865165372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18984949545668606,0.0,0.0,0.12317874988248495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536620583838037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17897223124360218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718788993543543,0.4886827467089681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557216647573303,0.1938419951327712,0.0,0.16948501366182206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105126357179737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485431972118598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120363273551067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437255097273956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137172993910098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603702434063135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3534823487627514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719087740222213,0.0,0.19739103047916787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16672722519929226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Samsinthepond,2019/03/19,"My 6 yo lied for the first time She took her iPad to bed last night even though she knows she isn’t allowed. This morning while looking for it I couldn’t find it. I looked everyone in the house for a good 30 mins until I was looking in her room and she tells me it’s under her pillow. 

So she lied when she took it and effectively hid it, she lied when I told her I couldn’t find her iPad (she said she didn’t know where it was and told me to just retrace my steps as if I lost it) she let me call her dad to see if he put it up somewhere.. 

I asked her how long did she remember it was under her pillow and she said since she woke up because she felt it under there. 

I’m at a toss up, I don’t know if I should punish her for lying. I handed her the iPad (she uses it to watch cartoons during breakfast) and told her I’m disappointed in here and I need to think about if I’m going to punish her for lying or not since she did end up telling me the truth. 

I’m not sure what to do.

Tl;dr 6 yo lied about taking her iPad to bed but finally told the truth- does she deserve a punishment?",2.1539495798319344,2.7888236386554617,3.653193277310926,93.80651260504202,75.21848739495798,6.6084033613445365,21.142857142857142,6.522977012572876,0.04970756302520973,838,17,206,6,17,278,113,238,0.116,0.847,0.037000000000000005,-0.9214,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,12,9,3,0,8,0,13,2,1,4,3,34,41,20,0,8,9,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,5,0,13,6,1,0,9,0,0,5,7,5,0,1,17,9,47,4,28,20,0,30,0,2,5,0,42,13,0,5,12,135,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171182972780575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636848765349406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792314918430864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096318827921196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095938743561466,0.0,0.0,0.08274513428369694,0.0,0.0,0.11970878239714773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028681231512768,0.13723625187508892,0.2290041894800092,0.10656165625776977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07119854377782228,0.10507749255154253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455433567510512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20654902876702186,0.10211853352005612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810554754222733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108673514283736,0.3156066544563045,0.0,0.1367560611752719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289227055176467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756519606343745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593929156140096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191589005926586,0.0,0.23833669962864515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983058364892412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072630053476988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807331323222126,0.0,0.0941936889994835,0.0,0.21899750858659808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027327482542589,0.1230852916862551,0.0,0.07305078300970465,0.0,0.0,0.4788351295885909,0.27837759726977857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820022597262316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Parentthrowaaway3,2019/03/19,"School said my child (15m) can't do his English project because it's ""inappropriate"" If this isn't the right place I'm sorry I don't use reddit beyond what my friends send me. I’m not sure how to explain this because it kind of confuses me, but I just found out from a message and my son crying when he came home today that he was sent to the office and ""given a good talking too"" about an “inappropriate” school project, his English class was told to write a story about anything they wanted as long as they made up the characters and stories themselves and after a couple weeks of writing they had to dress up like their main character and read parts of the story and kind of explain it. It didn't sound so bad but my son chose to write a story about a heavily pregnant stressed out bride going through her marriage to someone she loves when her traditional family doesn’t agree. I read through part of the story it's not bad in fact i think the whole premise is pretty cute. I personally don't see their problem with the story the principal and my son's English teacher say his choice is ""immature"". The school also said that they don’t know how students and staff would react to him dressing up like that all day. My son says a girl is doing a pregnant character and is going to dress in her mom's old maternity clothes with balloons and she was even told she had a good idea by the teacher (same one in the office with my son). I support my son at the moment, honestly I believe he has gender issues and that's why he's choosing this hill to die on he hasn't ever discussed this with me and I don't know if this is the place to ask about that. To me there is no reason why he wouldn’t be able to do this. I don’t mind him dressing like a woman and there’s 0 in his student handbook about boys wearing dresses only on the length and allowed styles, so they can’t use that as an excuse, He had plans to use his own money he's saved on a bridesmaids dress from a local boutique made to specific measurements so the dress looks proper and is in the dress code and he is absolutely crushed he can’t do this he’s crying and he refuses to redo or change the project and is willing to take an F on the grade he says it's unfair to make him change something that someone else is doing. I don’t want him to fail this since it is the only project this semester so its like 35 percent of his semester grade but I don’t see what else to do I've called the principal and she says she will not allow him to come in dressed as a pregnant woman and that he wouldn't act proper and it would be a distraction. I asked for a meeting Thursday with all of us and she said she would call me back after she checked if her schedule was free. I’m sorry if this is unclear or hard to read I’m still upset this is thankfully the first time we've had to deal with something like this. I’ll try to clear up any questions you have.",4.5903868421052625,4.95296153166667,5.199894736842109,85.90468421052636,69.51666666666667,7.849122807017545,29.28947368421053,7.573540080772713,1.6035499999999998,2309,81,487,23,38,744,255,600,0.101,0.7859999999999999,0.113,0.8099,1,0,2,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,7,3,23,26,0,4,39,0,52,2,1,12,6,89,90,44,1,12,13,7,1,5,1,7,0,8,1,6,31,32,0,1,10,3,3,7,20,8,0,2,20,12,57,19,71,61,9,46,0,1,3,1,90,22,0,9,22,312,88,17,0.07726189150982532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178630672645475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254073564983303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635799535727882,0.0,0.14445887794596834,0.0,0.0,0.05940962547910907,0.1290209043586796,0.09419626389087876,0.0,0.0,0.0870476940902452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778605925772934,0.08836702108448936,0.0,0.0,0.16346567331235054,0.06655427830030529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548881341095885,0.16973711976922673,0.04982752830702807,0.0796536175883583,0.0,0.0,0.08018564530766174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908479265415873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103075066798645,0.06988780419740362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728356351832082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06571892544900186,0.0,0.0847136761453367,0.05969234572408255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781942689204457,0.1296072178656544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921147901072308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774999767339331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721927116483608,0.0,0.08064134146665787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160912741254582,0.08492223000155626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887312877140836,0.0,0.0,0.06837434269625779,0.06488052996364238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973187359325954,0.14621413972196068,0.05157291253122828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801248553545506,0.09048819354599913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107335829048867,0.0,0.05235465724052619,0.11752230009478636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673341987775532,0.0,0.0,0.06746210353629925,0.16144446454483122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860311981687798,0.0,0.07392919572853568,0.0,0.0,0.08655100070553881,0.0,0.23184839902480603,0.0,0.0,0.07943809242196027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598123319758774,0.2204812548629191,0.24576702877547466,0.0,0.2345794770704076,0.12313544880503152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06391183505928442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13092749990392086,0.1189599575175233,0.0,0.17297672404205014,0.0,0.0,0.061701446363000415,0.0,0.08850323568382215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767587889051205,0.0728184183910825,0.0,0.05809132705435185,0.06210018176716296,0.0,0.07113236923975197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04950630038105052,0.0,0.0,0.04505203026305203,0.0,0.07323523915546283,0.14765409664651902,0.0,0.05245575273141509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293654248052907,0.20018840267626292,0.0,0.0,0.09114213079815717,0.0,0.06197482900372825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943367953828428,0.08626014268950627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16465389292985375,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tragicanimals,2019/03/19,"Boundaries with the ""in-between"" stages of dating. My daughter is 16 and a sophomore in high school. Her best friend, who I will refer to as Ethan to avoid confusion, is a 15 year old who is also a sophomore. My daughter's female best friend and Ethan's male best friend are dating so they all hang out a lot as a foresome, but because the other couple wants some alone time they have been left on their own here a lot lately. 

They have moved to a stage that I call the ""in-between."" They aren't officially dating but they are hanging out together a lot, going out to eat, flirt, and they spend a lot of time over each others houses. I'm fine with this but we previously didn't have rules about them spending time alone in her bedroom. Her room is the only room in the house on the first floor so leaving her door opens invites a lot of noise since we have 4 younger kids. We also didn't care about her having friends over if we weren't home but now she wants to only invite Ethan over this weekend while we are out with her siblings. Should we leave things how they are or start setting more boundaries now that they are in the pre dating stage? ",5.9914477662075925,5.756534493449784,5.450305676855893,87.36149815250252,66.51091703056768,7.7448438024857245,28.095733960362786,6.297961479604792,1.068763923412832,905,24,189,4,13,275,122,229,0.057,0.845,0.098,0.8558,0,3,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,10,4,10,12,0,2,17,0,21,1,0,1,1,38,27,17,0,4,6,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,2,9,18,1,1,1,1,2,4,4,2,0,1,4,0,27,10,28,21,13,43,0,0,0,0,34,19,0,9,16,134,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23667343289771586,0.0,0.18274398791862667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06965054970296583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597198215980297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667008126242433,0.0,0.11649353451750545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642418290443755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691434675961812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971877035104881,0.0,0.0,0.35310145188418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493539239216703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207197347798344,0.11460998044972773,0.0,0.0,0.26367653075443515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888787749897884,0.2419652175523541,0.12414153262315925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4856898641100793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143805572021965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198944361050148,0.0,0.0,0.1737965491591308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563508538523724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451530794387468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087232316098478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590786562501031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19987408481665334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478452857844098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357833555636009
parenting,redditalien75,2019/03/19,"Baby head banging So our otherwise normal 11 month old began banging his head against the bars of crib repeatedly before his afternoon nap. I’m not sure if it’s out of boredom or if he wants attention but we don’t want him to hurt himself. I know it’s a thing some babies do, but does anyone have any tips on how to stop it?",3.1710294117647067,4.24603875,4.811058823529415,84.79276470588236,73.26470588235293,7.792941176470588,26.835294117647056,8.238735603445708,1.6570082352941178,257,9,54,4,5,87,56,68,0.153,0.826,0.021,-0.8435,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,3,3,2,1,1,17,8,7,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,7,7,1,8,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,4,6,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033061675667109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541912035203534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256475516149412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320596768896291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5442997228239301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28387929454226696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573528447142312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116631170634987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598188338806168,0.0,0.0,0.2782604491969053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217012762034961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499277967332945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617295241201125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128185484285487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bebetrigena,2019/03/19,"Raising my little sister since she was born, now she's 13 Long story short: My mother, who never really grew past her 15 year old mentality, had 4 kids & abandoned us all to be cared for by grandparents. The first 2 were born in Central America & she left them out there. My sister (13F) & I (21F) were born in CA. Now, we've lived with our grandpa foreverrrrrrrrr & he is about 76 years old which means I do most of the parenting. We see our mom here & there but its very rare, she only comes when she needs to shower, or needs money (She's homeless btw because that's what she chose). I choose not to talk to her because she's just shady. My sister is at that age where she's lazy, doesn't like to clean, I ask her to do something & I constantly have to repeat myself. When she gets fed up with me she hits me with this line, "" You're not my mom, don't tell me what to do.""  I didn't get to have a childhood when she came into the picture & I know she doesn't understand that yet but I was changing diapers at 9 years old because my mom just knows how to pop kids out. She doesn't listen & I don't know how to discipline her. She has a phone but I don't pay for it so I can't take it,  grandpa contradicts me all the time to the point where I've said don't ask me to help. I feel guilty but I know this behavior needs to be corrected NOW. My question is how? Regardless of her behavior she's spoiled by grandpa & it needs to end now. & no I'm not a hater. Grandpa rewards behavior that shouldn't be & he doesn't get it. I go to her DR appointments, school conferences, everything ! You name it, that's my kid & I need help parenting. PLEASE ",3.3177674307545364,3.9823258710601728,4.281823065902579,90.26432008118437,72.52435530085961,7.994317096466094,25.143385864374398,8.212053250817874,1.1926990448901624,1295,37,298,19,24,420,172,349,0.07200000000000001,0.8759999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.7603,4,0,1,0,0,0,65.0,4,1,1,2,20,5,1,0,8,0,28,2,0,3,4,46,56,12,0,7,10,13,1,1,0,1,1,2,2,3,17,9,1,2,9,0,2,4,16,2,0,1,9,4,57,3,34,42,3,45,0,1,1,0,58,14,0,3,28,177,74,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8074083755364088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610800339394466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356456885567574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710244917437905,0.06331387226840965,0.0,0.06569230365627918,0.05349262351091829,0.0,0.06710674921683794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500111098088039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055810403456976763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03139902261182365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052821213397027215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733219066124836,0.0,0.03529218300951214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324704251121777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651152091780766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747053535856284,0.0,0.0,0.030338340302832088,0.062239318421648385,0.05483438416555783,0.05495548994091709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764380556611839,0.0,0.0,0.06258099152567391,0.0,0.0,0.21818811621838446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23022739220006194,0.0478944281250672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954867549865237,0.0,0.0,0.04722894090099935,0.0,0.0,0.13790675225273016,0.0,0.059280337780054565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816584201715045,0.058703444596586885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695648756695086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03978208580918575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059070185813248,0.0,0.0,0.06284730784546144,0.04948470911257174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136877475091677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780669539865266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04669057447136064,0.049912668697892015,0.054277094316589856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03621031366893937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464704797955224,0.07469721863537362,0.0,0.0,0.05123801917761653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199687868970324
parenting,easily-entertainable,2019/03/19,"I don’t know what I just witnessed So my 6 year old was drawing and she drew a leprechaun and labeled it. She called to me “ Momma, how do you spell leprechaun?” And then I walked in the room to see her complete the word unassisted in mirror image. 

“ Why did you write that backwards baby?”

“ It’s not backwards.”
“ Where is the L “ 
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parenting,aleimira,2019/03/19,"Data contrary to ones' beliefs is rejected. **Two true statements.**  

* Vaccinations are good for our society.
* Vaccinations are sometimes dangerous.

Would we ever put something in our children's bodies that was undefined? No 

Why should we believe big pharma and researchers that have proved time and time again that they are profit driven?

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Case in point:

\- Tobacco is prescribed by doctors to pregnant mothers

[https://envisioningtheamericandream.com/2014/01/27/smoking-just-what-the-doctor-ordered/](https://envisioningtheamericandream.com/2014/01/27/smoking-just-what-the-doctor-ordered/)

\-Sugar isn't the problem it's cholesterol

[https://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2016/09/13/493739074/50-years-ago-sugar-industry-quietly-paid-scientists-to-point-blame-at-fat](https://www.npr.org/sections/thetwo-way/2016/09/13/493739074/50-years-ago-sugar-industry-quietly-paid-scientists-to-point-blame-at-fat)

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhzV-J1h0do](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhzV-J1h0do)

\-Take thalidomide for morning sickness

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhzV-J1h0do](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhzV-J1h0do)

\-More recently

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrF9wq7vpwk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NrF9wq7vpwk)

\-Is our Government okay with collateral damage 

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8bJDjy1RjM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8bJDjy1RjM)

\-Have you read the list of ingredients in vaccines?

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hs6pWsnhwsQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hs6pWsnhwsQ)

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\-Why can't you sue the pharmaceutical industry for vaccine injury?

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-uKDkJb914](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-uKDkJb914)

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We look more closely at ingredients at the supermarket.

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Why are we following blindly?

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We have been lied to time and time again - maybe just maybe  - some vaccinations are not **made** safely and corners have been cut for profit.  

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We need to push for **safer** vaccinations.

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This post will be down voted to hell and that is okay as long as we  have the conversation. Social media companies have decided that this does not need to be debated.  As parents, we must demand more information and more debate on side effects and how these vaccinations are made.

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\-Do we really trust them?

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**Two true statements.**  

* Vaccinations are good for our society.
* Vaccinations are sometimes dangerous.

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parenting,BellaFromSwitzerland,2019/03/19,"Getting an 11yo take responsibility and organize his tasks Just venting. I texted and called my 11yo that I’ll be home later than usual, at 7:15 instead of 6. I told him to do his homework and shower and wash his hair before I arrive so that after dinner we have time to play. Long story short, he hasn’t done anything, using as an excuse that his friend came by and of course he had to spend his time on his phone in addition. So he did homework until 8:40 which was of course exhausting, being upset with me for the mistakes he was making. Then spent 15 min in the bathroom and I still had to send him back to wash his hair and brush his teeth. We did mange to have a calm discussion on the fact that right after a snack he needs to prioritize his homework and other duties (getting sports equipment ready etc) but it still pisses me off that he didn’t do his obvious responsibilities and I spent 2 h micromanaging him and arguing instead of spending quality time together. It’s not the first time it happens and I feel it’s getting worse. He thinks of himself as being mature beyond his age and I try to give him more autonomy. 

Any thoughts ?

I’m thinking if this pattern prevails, I’ll set up some rules like limiting screen time etc",7.0485600762873535,6.5422480454545475,7.224545454545456,76.42220279720281,64.41322314049586,9.760203432930707,32.66497139224412,9.057496981413335,2.6388146217418957,985,34,188,14,13,319,147,242,0.068,0.8690000000000001,0.063,-0.5023,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,9,9,2,1,8,0,16,9,4,2,2,34,34,20,0,3,4,0,3,1,1,0,3,0,5,0,12,17,2,2,4,2,4,2,3,5,0,1,13,5,28,4,30,18,4,31,0,0,1,0,34,10,1,2,19,123,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948840590586263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249277304847673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380232421037002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700275176354276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440333284857298,0.1841459612912984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647632394589185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591245796611073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140858259597455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695012634030962,0.0,0.0,0.12439147829351345,0.0,0.25235421435410005,0.1544499401800374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14237551983372446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615003826153459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865854020047931,0.0,0.0,0.1424836880200443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747158202351163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938260566567367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749674330130596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571563919239669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12105515306307495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20633003493300908,0.0,0.1278193841208684,0.4694143425397513,0.0,0.0,0.1538464533028376,0.0,0.10931131199669432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905597132571182,0.17732342650064828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407707798754445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IcyWarp,2019/03/19,"Recommendations for software/apps for learning to read? Like the title says, any parents out there have some recommendations for software or apps for learning to read? Our daughter is 4-1/2 and we've been working hard with her to learn words and learn how to sound things out. She's picking it up pretty well, but we're looking for something extra to help push her further.

Any help would be great! Thanks",5.355600000000003,7.468363960000001,4.546333333333333,84.73150000000003,69.4,6.066666666666666,29.83333333333333,6.42735559955562,1.4067333333333334,327,13,59,2,6,97,55,75,0.014,0.722,0.264,0.97,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,2,0,16,7,5,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,4,14,4,2,5,0,0,1,0,9,4,0,2,1,35,6,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32759934220556536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655597194465445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157719597618465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322899795407113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176767796340126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20226990234486047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26745732187221805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24505110205281544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4818698106179592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154927116755555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854332802421776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22176047864815335,0.0,0.0,0.1600231407250821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165708078553489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753560267545774,0.0,0.0,0.17110694000334548,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunshinemystery,2019/03/19,"Sophomore daughter failing My daughter is failing 4 classes, has 1 incomplete, and one D. She is passing one class. As a freshman, she failed 3 classes. She just turned 16 and I am debating having her take GED classes and the test, rather than continue to fail. We have done counseling, tutoring, testing with Sylvan, punishments & rewards. Nothing has worked. Home schooling was talked about, but she doesn't do work now....I don't see that changing. She only really cares about going to school to see her friends. Am I wrong in pursuing her GED over continuing high school? She has progressively gotten worse as time goes on, and I don't want to continue to see her fail if this would be a better option. Thanks for any input.",4.9771777476255075,7.132731805970148,5.0997150610583475,80.19732021709635,70.49253731343283,8.156309362279513,31.58480325644505,8.841846274778883,2.826501492537313,578,26,100,11,11,181,94,134,0.165,0.7140000000000001,0.121,-0.5637,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,10,4,12,1,0,3,0,17,0,0,0,0,14,27,8,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,7,0,2,3,3,15,5,15,22,0,10,0,5,3,0,15,4,0,3,4,62,17,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1802458058113508,0.0,0.11312725067635784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471276688411517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16961022855589872,0.0,0.1759817594202706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023914211102598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852562634816408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454350226919576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757634180473627,0.16686784429177312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962231529465176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22545319780815146,0.12652063716324555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657141041573913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5050810761945863,0.3976907045121541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507841842181808,0.1337100202905811,0.0,0.1531575313261576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700306358507076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180946703678262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812061584650923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422171554157435,0.0,0.1695301760781902,0.11817397168079018,0.18188331258341026,0.0,0.0
parenting,MsWhatsit83,2019/03/19,"Potty Training Resources My son is 20 months old and I'm completely overwhelmed by the idea of potty training.  He's not showing any interest yet, but I'd like to start doing some research and figuring out how to go about things once he is ready.  

Any book/website recommendations?  He goes to daycare, so I think they will also start working with him, once he moves up to the 2 year old room.",5.443815789473682,6.313633644736843,5.70905263157895,81.20436842105265,67.81578947368422,8.185263157894736,32.305263157894736,8.238735603445708,2.3648610526315794,311,13,59,4,5,99,59,76,0.023,0.8740000000000001,0.103,0.7190000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,11,9,6,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,10,8,1,12,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,1,8,30,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911856692757425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.304631293680777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348411834387875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729430456933932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528487570664891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942643954883977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878053747956815,0.2380577414208825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.470063498609487,0.4770676857825225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3170716540376597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880388968349598,0.14351881586641327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16306178432876098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423725969731965
parenting,throwawadad872,2019/03/19,"I hate my life I'm completely burned out. I hate work so much. Not specifically my work, just work, I've always hated it. I work at home 3 days a week and because I refuse to send a mortgage payment to a daycare center, my two kids are home with me those 3 days a week and it is a living hell. They are 5 and 1. I am a prisoner in my house. I cannot get a new job, everyone is dependent on my benefits and salary. No other job could match my ""true"" salary - my pay, benefits, and massive amount saved by keeping them home. The amount I have sacrificed is lost on my wife who gets to escape this life every day for 9 hours. She does not see what it's like or fully understand and therefore just doesn't get it. I take them to daycare, wash their diapers, do the laundry, maintain the property. All of it. They annoying the ever living shit out of me, so I have to work almost every night when I can actually get something done, after they go to bed. I have been doing this since the oldest turned 2. I hate doing it so much, that going to the hardware store feels like paradise. A 10 minute reprieve where no one is sucking the life out of me. The 1 year old (18 mo) is in some sleep regression. I hear him scream all night. I hear him scream all day. I fantasize sometimes about emptying the bank account and buying a flight to Budapest in the middle of the night. There is no joy in my life. The only sense of achievement is surviving another day.

When Saturday rolls around my wife will almost immediately ask me if I have any plans, and then say she wants to go for a run and disappear for 2 hours, leaving me alone with them some more. Almost 2 years ago my friend had a 30th birthday in Las Vegas which I made plans for and even bought a flight, until about 2 months prior to it my wife took issue with it and guilted me into not going. I still resent it for it. I could have gone, but would have heard about it from her until I died.

I am hoping the pressure is lifted only slightly when my oldest goes to kindergarten, but that six months feels like a lifetime away right now. Truth be told, the 5 y/is the least of my problems. It is the baby that I hate. I have always hated them. I am not looking for a solution, just pissing and moaning about what I've become. I used to run marathons. I ran them in under 3.5 hours and could work out 4 hours a day. I am always tired, feel fat, and have absolutely no source of joy day to day. I can't believe I've done it as long as I have.",3.0709833522903485,4.215928188605112,4.2854208458277325,88.19572717402546,73.59724950884086,7.243945817392204,24.20023782442353,7.669130373188453,1.0123406679764242,1924,55,415,24,38,632,245,509,0.142,0.789,0.069,-0.9861,5,1,1,0,0,1,63.0,0,0,9,11,20,30,12,2,31,0,41,10,4,4,6,63,80,29,1,8,11,3,3,3,1,2,7,6,4,1,24,23,1,2,4,1,6,11,11,18,0,3,12,11,63,12,57,62,11,71,1,1,2,0,28,21,4,9,42,270,87,10,0.0,0.0,0.06402625206849166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581596300852741,0.0,0.19709791018062414,0.06795255134119932,0.0,0.0,0.16377923945760214,0.0,0.0,0.04461729824073541,0.06879818863073013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840713527174531,0.061336834754213684,0.0,0.06164309790723323,0.0,0.0,0.03999546967892245,0.07246149366662273,0.0,0.0739204139484696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879121966816387,0.0,0.0,0.15715361364829664,0.0,0.0,0.33850606217470003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809320058176879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741607276486092,0.13428436615231862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04333502745710785,0.059348331626863836,0.11055912493865944,0.06269351566040593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995237161137346,0.0937441160787688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05069040543342568,0.0,0.13711483148665166,0.0,0.14915153023691113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886599139313242,0.0,0.0,0.14789530009060078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19743763764367492,0.065165896772623,0.2584519742520556,0.07570555247450843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848017520596501,0.13021632731707644,0.058317507242430434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947190340377865,0.0,0.0,0.18537016520144395,0.0961617310509516,0.0,0.11587030909489575,0.05806310860253206,0.05509618241163704,0.0,0.07162146411700218,0.0,0.0,0.06208211398547491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047391351556108,0.0,0.09646233535841246,0.0,0.0,0.06336689959604284,0.0,0.18471264963841347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884704147145354,0.0,0.04445928149845877,0.09979927856763754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627802586644647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603089342883307,0.0,0.05217599584870679,0.0,0.0,0.05228296649628618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06734809707596433,0.0542735721280645,0.0,0.06565774826441674,0.0,0.0,0.05051006459672038,0.06489032887831897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239652243566326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04933082935226003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540946317254474,0.0,0.06269351566040593,0.07289552990372272,0.0,0.07136523689405118,0.06409179328376498,0.06830270409208189,0.0,0.056666289854734486,0.0,0.0,0.03869869332644581,0.0,0.1052573548839037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865907638768065,0.0,0.0,0.04660772101549838,0.0,0.0,0.0845018481927264
parenting,Laneyrush,2019/03/19,"Son said something **extremely** inappropriate at school So I received a call from the Asst. Head Teacher of my son’s primary school (he’s in Year 5, age 10). Apparently he walked up to a girl at lunch and asked her “who’s penis would she like to suck, x or y’s.”  Of course I’m completely horrified and appalled.  The fact that he thought it a normal question to ask someone shows me that he doesn’t even understand how bad it is.  We never speak like this in our home nor do we watch anything that he would hear his type of language. Our tv is in the main living area so we can see what he’s watching.

For a background, my son has been saying for a few months now that people in his class are saying and doing very inappropriate things. I did email the teacher a few mos. back and she said she spoke to the students involved. However since then, the behavior in the class has continued.  He will never tell me what they are saying, just that it’s “sexual” and inappropriate. So I’ve told him to ignore them.

Now apparently he’s repeating it, probably to gain acceptance (he’s been feeling a bit uncool lately).  He actually said the same thing yesterday at dinner and we were shocked and horrified, but the teacher said they didn’t address it with him until today. So it sounds like he said it at school before he said it at home, and before we explained how awful it was.

The problem is when I brought this up to the Asst. Headmaster after my regrets over what my son did, and scolding my son over the phone, promising he would be punished, etc., he was quite defensive and I was told that “people don’t speak like that in the school”.   So he pretty much denied there was even an issue. I know this is not the case based on what my son has been saying. I told the Head Teacher that we emailed the teacher a few mos. back and that I’d be happy to forward that email. But he just seemed to be defensive (although he said he would discuss with the classroom teacher).  

Has anyone dealt with something like this? I will of course be addressing this on our end with my son but I also want the school to address it going forward in the classroom. However, I’m getting the feeling they don’t really want to admit there’s an issue.  And then of course there’s the issue of the poor girl he said the awful thing to (he’s writing an apology note), and how I approach this with her parents. I probably know them, making it extremely awkward, since we are all friends in our neighborhood.

Parenting truly sucks sometimes.",3.2405250392352687,5.297219069529653,4.1682246635278455,85.43342987587387,75.0736196319018,7.084624530365722,26.505017358634138,7.97965635744439,1.6546757121795792,1971,74,383,31,43,635,209,489,0.091,0.8079999999999999,0.101,0.209,6,0,2,0,0,0,58.0,11,0,5,2,21,20,5,1,34,2,38,4,2,4,4,65,73,32,0,9,7,9,2,5,1,6,0,17,5,2,35,25,2,3,11,2,1,7,8,11,0,0,25,22,44,9,47,38,9,47,0,1,3,0,93,22,2,3,27,251,79,11,0.0,0.0,0.06892570148825365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648361315280605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04938686190927112,0.0,0.058123323631854164,0.0,0.13206096642923085,0.0,0.0,0.10862181220740633,0.058973963945481815,0.0,0.0,0.12020361708775525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711079691719369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212218373463132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07405529636169512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625581325877425,0.0,0.07877227447024182,0.09330226493028758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714263470190197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545693624153621,0.0,0.0369018005870127,0.0,0.04014124487026123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518805011176083,0.0,0.0,0.14497563788094475,0.0,0.07960630972632682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416973739690015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116134999095768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776339393244189,0.0,0.0796748839253774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725337798918623,0.0,0.06236849790522661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047146764306113566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056377018259250684,0.0,0.05192193761912936,0.0,0.10895001687888077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692034178887691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685481144499522,0.0,0.0,0.0979333327527192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185715488702668,0.1523044036824859,0.0675843615433444,0.0,0.0,0.07912292384595178,0.07512479984396993,0.0,0.0,0.04524804961727257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5374903088590091,0.22467453574344734,0.0,0.3574118910385067,0.056283790245732615,0.06429984152689475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685344402787888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05984544672962886,0.10875044289088508,0.06985589962312759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061734637758771374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407723635470006,0.0,0.0,0.056073152208560635,0.0,0.0,0.06694996248803545,0.20247294224105405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352939834827761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0582780009363971,0.08332002883288292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006970429770294,0.0,0.0,0.04548407079573412
parenting,Just_MJ,2019/03/19,"My parenting style 

Yesterday when my kids argued over who was going to wash the dishes, I tied one of their sleeves from each of their shirts together and made them learn to use co-operation to wash dishes. They laughed at first then did it. It was pretty entertaining for me to watch. Then after they finished with the dishes they used cooperation to clothesline me onto the couch lol. I guess it kind of backfired.",6.70038961038961,7.782752285714286,6.353662337662339,76.93906493506495,65.1038961038961,9.276883116883116,29.685714285714287,9.3871,2.512477402597403,334,11,60,6,5,104,56,77,0.03,0.8270000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.8555,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,6,1,1,4,1,0,3,1,3,6,1,3,0,8,8,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,3,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,1,12,3,15,4,1,11,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,1,7,44,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696485064659341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801640633831588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34922220634128537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301170861680328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29996248516588403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481415033784929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520020403261802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225130921933833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5475896369744552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CthulhuBerm,2019/03/19,"Post-Divorce, single parenting challenges and would like advice! First time posting here!  Just out of a 12 year marriage, two kids (M 6, F 3).  Wondering about how I can be a better parent to my son who wants to play video games or watch TV constantly.  He has nearly no responsibilities so I’ve been trying to tie helping with chores, playing alone, and being kind to his younger sister to “earning” TV/Video games rather than just having those things be the default.

Any thoughts on how to make this successful?  I feel like no matter what I do, son pretty much refuses to help out and is regularly mean to sister.  He doesn’t know how to ride a bike, or swim, and often is bossy/controlling with his friends when they won’t do what HE wants to do.

Kinda wishing for a manual at this point - single parenting is fucking hard!!!

Feel like I’m having to make up for lost time since my STBX didn’t/doesn’t do much with the kids except TV & video games...",6.894590163934424,6.519503076502732,6.764486338797816,79.15886065573774,64.68306010928961,9.505792349726775,30.86830601092896,8.841846274778883,2.2991315846994542,745,23,144,10,10,236,121,183,0.053,0.7490000000000001,0.198,0.9787,3,1,0,0,3,0,31.0,0,0,1,6,11,12,1,0,6,0,18,1,0,5,0,34,32,11,0,5,6,7,3,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,7,9,0,1,6,11,0,2,4,2,0,2,3,4,8,10,26,24,4,16,0,1,1,1,24,7,1,5,9,89,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737093710158144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559613896504284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523159187421093,0.0,0.0955976814216292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432958398698893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519145919778447,0.1576698850286231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421606549041855,0.20085752605854454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957535083476598,0.0,0.0,0.10861001048543044,0.1299618521352584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593003960362148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884525870205733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639007985783187,0.07725784754337463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20603754356350146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345720560364814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18767346140733293,0.0,0.0,0.1531303668011255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206681622787294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682848203189355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328913997125477,0.0,0.26926922454247243,0.1430180966075592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628735630557548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339360161184752,0.0,0.0,0.1116030200786889,0.16394401727409133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544305530418497,0.0,0.1373240217958408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583278243760902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165745922786542,0.0,0.15245055856659095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998623906222957,0.0,0.0,0.09052745327026307
parenting,andoranges1,2019/03/19,Best Sit to Stand stroller compatible with Chicco Keyfit carseat. I'm looking for the best Sit to Stand stroller that is compatible with Chicco Keyfit car seat. I'd like to have baby in car seat in rear (sit to stand) area and older kid up front until new baby is old enough for regular stroller use. Then I’d like to switch older kid to in sit to stand area with baby in front stroller seat. ,3.91,5.442655384615384,4.154358974358973,88.43230769230772,72.07692307692308,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,0.8562923076923079,312,9,64,3,6,97,40,78,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9246,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,18,6,3,25,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,0,8,28,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6666412078912758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281844053915715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31034432353578384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667192126182265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067575433818988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332867703095524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743200626702351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,surgicalapple,2019/03/19,"4 Year Old with Behavorial Issues? If so, how to deal with it? My 4 year old attends a STEAM-based preschool from Monday to Friday (0700-1700). Currently, I live a few states away for school and work. This morning, his mother calls me stating that the preschool teachers told her that he is being a bit abrasive. He is lightly pushing and hitting other kids, and it is exacerbated when he is excited. So far, his actions have not mandated a write-up. My son is physically larger then most of his peers (taller, stronger, etc), and intellectually performing above his age with minor OCD quirks. We really have not witnessed any malicious behavior from him, except the occasional defiance or his obliviousness in how to interact with dogs (slap pets them). He was with toddler and adolescent cousins this weekend and nothing seemed out of the ordinary - he interacted with them appropriately and seemed to behave in a socially acceptable manner. The only thing reported by the grandparents is that he gets a tad over-excited. Our discipline model varies between us. I am strict, will not hand out warnings, and will immediately follow-up on consequences. My fiancée (mother) is a bit more laissez-faire in her approach. She will give multiple warnings, not follow-up immediately, and takes a considerably more loving and emotional attitude towards discipline. 


In essence, what are we doing wrong that is leading to these issues at preschool? I’m afraid that he might be on the spectrum or have ADHD, and having to medicate him will kill me (I was and the medicine made me droned-out husk). I’ve heard of numerous stories from other parents where kids began to display these behaviors and were eventually expelled from the school, and progressively had major behavior issues to deal with as the child grew older. As a healthcare professional, I regretfully admit I am way out of my depth here and just not able to think clearly and unbiased about the situation. Any advice would be appreciated. ",8.522337038561822,9.486426599423632,8.367254013997531,64.50425552353506,61.10374639769452,11.6815699190339,39.002195690956505,11.398264407604922,4.929193056127351,1598,78,247,44,21,515,209,347,0.047,0.872,0.081,0.8665,3,0,0,0,0,1,56.0,4,0,2,4,10,7,1,1,19,0,29,3,1,4,1,55,43,27,1,3,10,5,1,0,0,6,1,1,1,3,15,28,0,2,6,1,0,6,5,4,0,0,8,3,28,3,43,25,8,37,0,1,0,1,42,16,0,7,12,172,43,7,0.1279196761129578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373459212729715,0.1250016270108869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397953261883245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201847465663644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793103108194133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062029158852476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637591382766608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389241810938125,0.0,0.0,0.14266425290522144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683275107909255,0.12271220949473476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40054472186009626,0.0,0.0,0.14152416874220033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129554176048499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545250200954653,0.12104069050645387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288656158513278,0.0,0.1357025613770562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274237924312616,0.0,0.2684603633497696,0.0,0.0,0.09728867796527547,0.0,0.0,0.14203966205040391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194862008847065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589230830637684,0.0,0.2329065376123933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437870755752932,0.0,0.1303980004924902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617967663682676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498414875960784,0.08196576328304674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12223273240321927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387162002959226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153668472765087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09312704772622273,0.0,0.0,0.0908704677158382,0.1398600846623417,0.0,0.16475215481083946
parenting,inneedoftherapy-67-4,2019/03/19,"Step son struggles in school I have been in his life since he was 9, he is turning 11 soon and I have been trying to help him become a stronger reader and master his math facts. Last night as we are doing measurement conversions which is just multiplication and division which he can do and has done. But he became so frustrated that he said ‘ I guess I’m just an idiot’ with tears in his eyes. I tried to comfort him but I wonder if it’s how he really feels or not. His Bio Mom doesn’t make him do his homework and DH will get frustrated and give him the answers and I make him work out the problems out and I will help him but I won’t give him the answers. I wonder if I should be signing him up for Sylvan to help him catch up because he is behind but maybe I’m not explaining this well enough to him. I just want him to feel confident in his skills.",2.23198501872659,3.837909314606741,3.4896853932584304,91.17909737827715,76.64044943820224,6.769138576779027,21.979026217228466,7.554174236665415,0.6618032958801496,670,18,149,9,15,218,104,178,0.084,0.8009999999999999,0.115,0.59,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,3,7,7,3,1,5,0,21,2,1,3,1,40,37,18,0,5,12,2,2,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,5,12,0,0,7,0,0,2,4,5,1,0,5,4,29,2,17,27,1,13,0,0,1,0,35,8,0,6,3,102,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363842388838096,0.18776614092781446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17398245567060813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756690070119151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192749012734365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888248415450311,0.3261841653386708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872886262507469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418686448401209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385833894188318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008529910783168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22697016417813126,0.0,0.17080103685161355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911731893056994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954580218252734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267960125291095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891476224849718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617214158825962,0.0,0.0,0.17206236055038684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063661507916342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773463358869898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308555058302654,0.1849254610958645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027814687737667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286221844786252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3687439667541079,0.12377158091320935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jay-Ren,2019/03/19,"Oldest jealous of the baby? My oldest is a sweet almost 6 year old who is very funny.
She is also very sensitive and her feelings are hurt very easily. She has always been the type to want a lot of attention. She rarely doesn’t want attention and it never seems to be enough. I do try to go above and beyond to spend time with her. 

About 6 months ago her little sister was born. She’s very good with the baby, always wanting to hold and play with her. She even practices reading to her. 


That being said my husband and I have always done separate mommy-daughter and daddy-daughter days as well as family time. This continued through out my pregnancy and still to this day however less frequent trips (we live in a small town so big things like museums, indoor parks, play gyms are over an hour away) due to going down to one income. My oldest is also in school Monday to Friday full time.

As a present to my oldest we decided to paint and redecorate her room. The 4 of us spent Sunday afternoon with her picking out paints and decorations. She had somewhat of an attitude but I chalked it up to her being tired from being in the car and all the shopping. The behavior continued at home until I got frustrated and asked her what was upsetting her. 

She burst out in tears and said that the baby gets all the attention, and that the baby gets more alone time with me than she does. This was surprising to me for 2 reasons. 1) she has never been that interested in my attention. Most of the time if I tried to engage her in an activity she would excuse herself to go play with her dad unless the activity was going to the park or out somewhere fun (we live in a snowy state so this is not always possible). He has been more of her primary parent since I worked full time an hour away and my husband does 12 hour shifts 3-4 days per week and has more daylight hours to spend with her
2) I try to spend time doing something with her everyday and I try to engage any activity she shows interest in. Art, gymnastics, basketball, decorating “making videos”. 

I guess my question really is what else can I really do? I’ve asked what she would like to do to spend time with me and in her mind we are not spending time together if the baby also has to be present, and it’s currently not possible to have 1:1 time with her weekly in the way that she wants. I’ve tried movie nights, playing games she likes on the computer, coloring with her, board games. It seems like nothings working ",4.475776397515523,5.781545480331262,5.354318840579712,81.25408695652175,70.38716356107659,8.832629399585922,26.84347826086957,9.23628265651192,2.1809935403726715,1949,63,376,40,35,637,229,483,0.05,0.846,0.104,0.9666,4,1,1,0,0,0,46.0,5,0,0,2,10,21,2,1,25,0,38,1,0,3,4,74,59,32,0,8,8,5,1,4,0,2,1,2,2,0,18,37,0,1,10,13,7,6,6,4,1,1,13,5,59,17,73,39,12,81,0,1,1,0,53,29,0,11,48,261,77,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676463061064256,0.0,0.07541983530526186,0.07800646226074623,0.0,0.18069470437495225,0.2506815674502812,0.0,0.0,0.05121864481462395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408238363685184,0.0,0.14152698892471652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572113101102355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182212072666927,0.07707619606416527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291830580738877,0.0,0.0,0.07782335738772404,0.0,0.0497466558235284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100286058343616,0.0,0.038082911540699774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870081929703229,0.0,0.17121922554663585,0.06317294547905357,0.060238475742870674,0.0,0.08297098015917596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554983257052197,0.0,0.2966912025786567,0.0,0.08062919663279254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718576999391475,0.0754881604789996,0.13301388564746802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064032447734011,0.0,0.0,0.0502751751821169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604944503206931,0.0,0.060117900155911584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617936597125192,0.0,0.0,0.07068059525218233,0.0,0.07226940125111067,0.0,0.07903329656219772,0.0,0.05103724872574016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363143515378506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698188665210542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437310419541771,0.0,0.07533812037218457,0.0,0.09650094358066112,0.07743917914717252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328883346652474,0.0,0.0,0.07622557220454915,0.0,0.13713288046483407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062303611452435424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798327465245667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060148843116267475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003775863368829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4391837890507885,0.0865666605148607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556790016740685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059796557349037,0.0,0.0,0.24858008811103155,0.17769741391177668,0.059783714928281925,0.12083069317279725,0.0,0.06771969204870304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966442105748299,0.0,0.0,0.1070071206656976,0.0,0.0,0.04850215409066405
parenting,girlfriendbeatsme,2019/03/19,"Hey guys, I became an uncle today and I want to make sure I do my best for the baby. Not sure if this is the right subreddit but I couldn't find a better place to ask for advice and possibly discuss this life changing event. 

So my sister had her first baby about 8 hours ago. It's the first baby coming from this generation. Even though I'm about 7 years younger to my sister and my brother-in-law they've always asked for my advice and guidance on certain subjects. I don't know if it's because they think I'm a responsible adult or if they just like to keep in the loop of things. 
I never expected this but I can't stop thinking about the baby's future. I can spend as much time and as much money to secure a great life ahead for the baby. 

I want him to be the coolest guy at school. Ideally, I don't want him stressed about anything. I can financially secure him but I don't want him to be spoiled. I don't want him buried under books, I've always maintained that knowledge is more important than grades. But hopefully, he won't have to repeat any classes either. 

I don't want to impose my dreams on him and put any undue stress on him to perform but I wish he would take a liking to sports and fitness from an early age. I believe if he's the fittest guy in school it would do his confidence wonders and it will reflect on his grades too. I can train him too but as you can tell so far, I have no experience with kids. I wouldn't know how much to push him or how do I make sure I'm not imposing anything on him. 
I've wasted a lot of years in my life and realised later that I should've stuck to the skills I was comfortable with to achieve the goals I'd set for myself. 
I don't want him to have regrets about these things at least. I know raising a perfect child is not a possibility and I recognize the fact that he might not even not like any of the things I want him to like. I just don't want him to waste any part of his life on things he'll regret later. Happened with me, not with him. 

So keeping all that in mind. Do you have any suggestions for me? Is it possible to condition a child into liking something without actually imposing it on them? How do I best use my resources for the betterment of his future? 

Sorry if I sound a little controlling. I'm just really excited. And I can't discuss it with anyone else cause their are people who ask me for advice. ",2.607570993914805,4.11341510953347,3.98470131845842,88.44642317444222,75.3894523326572,6.877261663286004,23.88686612576065,7.554174236665415,0.97415784989858,1871,57,400,24,40,617,215,493,0.056,0.731,0.213,0.9971,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,2,4,14,20,25,0,2,24,0,38,4,0,8,8,92,72,34,0,24,24,2,0,5,0,7,4,1,0,7,21,18,0,6,9,3,2,3,21,4,0,2,3,1,67,21,64,59,11,43,0,2,0,0,48,20,0,11,24,273,88,8,0.0,0.0,0.07165753765796311,0.0,0.0,0.21526619049165696,0.06509167331160501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220005221682252,0.0,0.0,0.2496761582625453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134428581296814,0.07523818510787814,0.12085402577049907,0.0,0.20594270650975516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04476252758945575,0.0,0.0,0.08273098416784258,0.15412147745590832,0.1298865513331519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543331100190061,0.07767969141588843,0.06325384034476995,0.0,0.0,0.08235850615250816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134172794002364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700025416432984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182908125252307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711411123008446,0.12491982556625315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095734270319448,0.0,0.21812310392031772,0.06493431432964847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293301655395766,0.07231421284010932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053673567750476,0.0,0.0,0.1210663833060218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746442536376689,0.1793720711276157,0.07359661299481222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06242795221247389,0.0,0.0,0.09803080609320154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789811521161223,0.07414383313860852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193951399324846,0.0,0.05663409852030744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951803373132513,0.0,0.05090743603743924,0.0,0.07671920307502443,0.0,0.0,0.24834543561393185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381789513355379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04704143373791644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270921264594505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14863109399538155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565303565180386,0.0,0.08219938947085678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139115356000094,0.16822869041356145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20762202199616064,0.0,0.055210568287312224,0.0,0.0641814596657209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19513574228985814,0.0941025490873313,0.07214505530030779,0.0,0.04281789243673259,0.0,0.06960349121732484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342034193816193,0.0,0.0,0.3898006967905244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444140647403921,0.07078434422283987,0.07963220283556728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432578562453383,0.0,0.0,0.09457361899866118
parenting,burninupandout,2019/03/19,"How important are NICUs and location for hospital My wife and I are trying to decide on which hospital to have our baby at. We are in a unique position with our insurance where if we use a specific subset of hospitals in the area we only have to pay up to a $1000 deductible and nothing else. If we don't, we pay our deductible plus 25%. 

My wife is concerned because the closest hospital that is in that subset is 30 minutes from our home and doesn't have a NICU. She is afraid something could go wrong and we'll have to be taken to another hospital. How much should a NICU affect our decision here? I'm aware that 25% could end up being a significant amount of money, and that is a huge concern of mine. Also, is 30 minutes away too far for a hospital?",5.420628654970763,5.425156355263161,6.6782456140350925,77.26383040935677,67.68421052631578,10.439766081871348,32.678362573099406,10.25414643259724,3.26191432748538,594,24,117,14,9,202,88,152,0.041,0.918,0.041,0.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,11,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,10,0,21,0,0,4,0,24,25,12,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,13,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,16,0,22,18,2,15,0,0,0,0,14,13,0,2,1,88,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854921410653896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865674755304473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25676412857273445,0.0,0.0,0.1665945137024129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43639825631071694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22829799580489246,0.0,0.24205304777576145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553165073898589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741312744822804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20089895153928786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26222828558283595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078486940433293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103913197199589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855453763496944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23603405779341266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987987559686322,0.0,0.0
parenting,sourdensweet,2019/03/19,"100 mg Zoloft during pregnancy I’m 19 weeks pregnant with my second child. I take 100mg of Sertraline (Zoloft) every day. The doctor says that the benefits outweigh the risk BUT I keep reading about birth defects, specifically heart deformities. I’m freaking out because all of the mommy forums I find on this topic the women were taking much lower doses than I do... Has anyone taken Zoloft during pregnancy? If so, how long, what dose and was your baby born healthy...?",4.6065000000000005,7.285855223529418,5.212573529411767,76.61533088235294,73.23529411764707,7.0735294117647065,25.919117647058826,8.07648339933343,2.019735294117647,374,13,58,6,8,120,68,85,0.138,0.841,0.021,-0.8796,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,1,5,0,4,7,1,1,1,9,10,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,6,1,7,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,5,33,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20248378129572872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652764476428154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867576452215737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964013707858961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439869076335262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646744190711344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34315829080256893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573954571523745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562726201637602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21287747094837475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896622444221413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302887235565348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43546207556664296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322867202327885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Candid_Concentrate,2019/03/19,"I'm afraid and anxious  

This is my first post here on a new account. I really need to *get something off my chest*.

I'm married, and my wife and I have completely different feelings about kids. I never wanted any, she wants several. We have one due to carelessness. I love my little girl, but the whole experience of parenting is draining to me. Sure there are nice moments, but they're what I call the ""shampoo commercial"" moments - they don't represent the whole. Parenting has made me into a haggered shell of who I used to be.

So the night before last my wife and I had sex for the first time in like five or six weeks. I usually only engage in sex on her period because we haven't even agreed on a method of contraception. There was a condom in the room but we got carried away and I didn't quite pull out in time (I didn't completely ejaculate inside her but there was definitely semen inside her).

I talked to her the next morning about getting some emergency contraception, but didn't get her to agree to anything. She's had the morning-after pill before and it really messes her up, so I suggested a copper IUD, and she said she was afraid of being allergic to the copper. She went on to say that she thought it would be fine and that it was highly unlikely she'd get pregnant. So at that point, I felt shut down, I couldn't force her to do something with her body that she didn't want to do. Then again though, if we have another kid, I'm going to be forced to do something I don't want to do for the rest of my life!

So, we're just sitting and waiting to see what happens. I suffer from anxiety anyway, even our toddler being just a (fairly good) toddler is enough to trigger my anxiety. Now with the prospect of a second pregnancy hanging over me, I feel like my chest is being crushed and there's nothing I can do except hate myself for not being more careful.

This is what I need to get off my chest.",3.700290666185232,5.10303051308901,4.806927243184692,84.06081151832463,72.40314136125654,7.991478606246615,27.30853944755371,8.53829466247534,1.9098359631702475,1504,54,300,26,29,494,192,382,0.099,0.821,0.08,-0.6726,3,0,4,0,0,0,44.0,5,0,1,3,19,15,1,2,18,0,39,11,4,3,2,48,69,23,0,9,11,4,3,2,0,1,3,2,1,3,13,18,0,1,4,0,1,4,10,6,0,6,16,6,54,9,49,43,6,46,0,1,1,4,36,22,0,3,20,221,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720310986625375,0.11106923342434788,0.16206121959131067,0.11966255183504627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716539371057731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951790543799607,0.0,0.0,0.06456952204844002,0.0,0.18026490837401926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765629082226567,0.0,0.0,0.1081589652428345,0.0,0.10799529763378858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22211596517109636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066672373653977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094465102412184,0.0,0.13992194782681028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361276932776464,0.0,0.0,0.1071154447163978,0.07567122999995063,0.10170244584597124,0.0,0.0,0.18019566511448507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767013116085259,0.0,0.060198336821045875,0.08884297280949488,0.0847160951879911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366713335008864,0.0,0.0,0.10457678116795473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191319537017863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634117427590494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481636711098177,0.10349700542180447,0.10616241712361298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559941261948496,0.10022666216897616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708074615112272,0.08169415066636941,0.10230084690727424,0.11265004068839918,0.09940132052621556,0.0,0.10163573032129401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177599313167707,0.08055902042934945,0.0,0.0,0.23522934582337515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001312310272357,0.0,0.1014447097009586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266187730942501,0.0,0.0,0.13571364516270634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007567863033368,0.08423401803749378,0.0,0.0,0.08440671368634757,0.0,0.0,0.11966255183504627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24463351143228296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998309333644564,0.0,0.0,0.08513668993224771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406855889872656,0.08409082763074603,0.123528808521197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148324251600964,0.11665893866816708,0.0,0.2499039168233199,0.0,0.08496483666146817,0.0,0.0,0.09819144555989356,0.0,0.2365179235449908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752444787846493,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Collegefears01,2019/03/19,"How to get over my fears of my son going to college? It's starting to leak over to our younger kids. My oldest is 18 and is finishing up senior year. He'll be off to college soon and I have an overwhelming sense of fear. I wouldn't be as worried if he was healthy but he has cystic fibrosis. He manages it well and always does all of his treatments and therapies but it's a lot of work and he finally got back to school this week after a lengthy hospital stay. He hasn't officially decided on where he is going yet but it looks like he will be choosing the school that's a little over an hour away instead of the one that's out of state. That was his choice after his hospital stay. 

I'm still very worried and can't get over my fears about something bad happening. I am in a support group and the amount of kids that end up dropping out or leaving school is alarming. Just this year someone shared a story about her college Sophomore passing away from CF while at school and things like that are hard to hear. It puts me right back into that mindset. My wife is more at peace with him leaving. We have 3 younger kids (16, 14, and 10) and all of them have expressed concern over him leaving. The 16 year old had a hard time with his brother being in the hospital and told me that I need to stop him from leaving. I explained that we can't really do that. 

I was in therapy but haven't been in a while. My kids have as well but my 16 year old especially thinks it's worthless. I think it could be beneficial for my 10 year old. She's starting to express her own fears about losing her brother after looking up life expectancy rates when a friend told her that the oldest is going to die soon. My 14 year old doesn't say much but I know he's worried deep down. Therapy might be good for him too. ",3.0445616837357896,4.515485356948234,3.878487268627268,89.79599455040872,74.17711171662124,6.914930000939584,26.82410974349337,7.503015589744147,1.2841328384853896,1414,52,302,17,29,452,177,367,0.099,0.789,0.112,0.7167,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,1,2,17,17,0,6,16,0,34,1,0,1,2,43,56,25,1,5,9,4,2,2,1,4,1,2,0,4,20,18,0,1,6,0,0,5,6,9,2,1,8,6,36,8,54,37,7,69,0,3,2,0,44,26,0,4,36,202,56,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06443334472346328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14550822157067694,0.11908772812460144,0.0646562162980625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06182671867492692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036682819396346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776517502543601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06858572633060786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3485502207020616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482786568378355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059827223125728586,0.0,0.08091471696722045,0.0,0.13202678795024134,0.0649500354517405,0.061933017455320885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847681295848064,0.0,0.13873573060023525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727652740307743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625932264030934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04255705770151854,0.0,0.0,0.32797615488521803,0.0,0.0,0.05469566745192672,0.075663093643989,0.07761168427588021,0.0,0.0,0.13005426057781247,0.08663160026619311,0.0,0.06583371598154647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214785541715018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056924713970734064,0.05741815986492359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250261880085801,0.0,0.05247295482201698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07784503848593215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049607784306721615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613032060876485,0.0,0.06158058746536079,0.0,0.3134793592080483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561166808766812,0.05961437630818995,0.0,0.0,0.10961986129777307,0.16507394338210327,0.06184086341324856,0.0647403546650541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787398627912846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656660496097985,0.0,0.051445348519664716,0.0992363239574122,0.0,0.0,0.0451538272473563,0.0,0.0,0.1479877273768329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389319594398844,0.0,0.0,0.062114863773715674,0.0,0.1392493690452537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563746710040599,0.23592147648021736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29919927941801633
parenting,strengr,2019/03/19,"Mom ruins everything we are first time parents to a 2.5 yrs old boy. Mama and baba are strict in different ways and as the child grows older, our parenting style is becoming more and more obvious. I planned out yesterday to the tee with my little one and by dinner time he was pretty well stuck to me like glue, which I wanted because I haven't put him down for days. He had a tantrum over me drawing some firetrucks wrong and started to throw, mama was tired to listening to him yell and cry and decided to take matters into her own hands. She wanted me to leave when giving a bath and by the time he came out he wanted mama to put him down. Mama was so daft that she had no idea wtf she did and we have not spoken since last night.",5.087173750932141,5.181669201342281,5.5968680089485465,84.42305741983597,68.39597315436242,8.769873228933632,27.29381058911261,8.515128840125781,1.6912096942580166,577,16,120,8,9,186,100,149,0.147,0.784,0.069,-0.9136,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,2,3,5,1,0,6,0,11,3,1,0,1,25,20,12,0,3,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,2,2,16,1,0,2,1,0,5,3,3,1,2,8,3,17,2,21,12,4,26,0,1,0,0,21,8,0,1,13,77,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877614066642262,0.17895693559226772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853269534134774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779898366039341,0.10450034304580837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929398769115833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562824439166494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782843515145685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15544048138628794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291984504567885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208163395081132,0.0,0.17157359466120026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916300478752457,0.16240346086846671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18977556359781655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15206057761059175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003038362705244,0.0,0.10980034185057133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35984542265140745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484969783612466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257835151886604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403853081430714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146904942263459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183152188004025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28345491602891915,0.1862374864380234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867205415743037,0.12861728443664774,0.0,0.0,0.14569055978938208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716182420767335,0.0,0.0
parenting,dontchuworry,2019/03/19,"12 year old not doing her homework. Hey guys, I wanted to see what your thoughts are on this. Beware this is a little lengthy. 

For the first quarter of the year my daughter hasn’t been doing her homework. I used to ask her if she had any homework and she would say she finished it at school, and it’s my fault that I trusted her. I went to a meeting with 2 of her teachers in Jan. This was all new to me, especially when they said she hasn’t been listening in school either. She will walk to another classroom where her friends are. Her teacher has to nag her to come back in. 

Growing up, I was in a typical strict Asian household. My parents stressed me out but I still maintained decent grades, grades that would actually pass me to the next. She’s on the verge of staying back if she doesn’t complete her homework. She’s been skipping homework help after school. Today she has detention for hitting a boy that’s her friend supposedly. 

We are not poor poor, she has everything she needs. Her clothes aren’t designer but they are you know Aeropostale, Old Navy, etc. I asked her many times why does she feel like she doesn’t need to do her homework. I asked if she’s depressed she said no. When she didn’t stay after for homework help it was because she didn’t know anyone there and she didn’t wanna be alone. 

Now I’m at the point where I’m trying to figure out how to physically grab her homework for her everyday since I can’t trust her to bring it home. She had a phone, that got taken away. I thought she was progressing after the meeting. She is in class, it’s just at home with the homework? I’m so fricken confused? Like wth? And we have a family trip coming up soon where I already paid for her flight. 

What else can I do here? ",2.0448260335652857,4.313353793696277,2.769917314776915,92.96385673352437,79.83094555873926,5.4785427752763,24.298076135898484,6.610729790773281,0.6820795906672124,1370,50,287,13,35,428,174,349,0.07400000000000001,0.825,0.101,0.8898,2,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,2,2,2,2,15,11,1,2,13,0,37,0,0,2,1,37,64,13,0,9,9,2,2,2,2,3,0,4,11,2,14,12,0,0,6,0,3,8,12,5,0,2,20,7,62,6,41,39,3,52,0,1,1,0,63,21,0,4,23,199,76,16,0.0,0.0,0.1063171616096056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283687783253225,0.120226408245685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07408811783281988,0.11424107928849095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617870932940847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30555395462830354,0.0,0.10235987568519953,0.16754799027690884,0.0,0.06641345816958502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769745615493588,0.114229507155257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093836425792463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534079678130376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101175697581644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150539572870585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791509621618248,0.0,0.10270612040619496,0.0,0.055087190374834526,0.07783220176963017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267079024097044,0.0,0.0,0.16834532250167702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713536457397641,0.0,0.0,0.10787527289860832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605058684949465,0.0,0.21856669257818748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974952587100153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064526083235022,0.10919413718955114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045578706211256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615665600858638,0.0,0.10522229066048233,0.11586703026001102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22864440125696026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097343935254515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029907162439192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072682714745336,0.08663952056501738,0.0,0.3307824247871729,0.08681714794845405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012259741359488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322473347700217,0.0870057103704051,0.0,0.12479913105193995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298448203196082,0.06352823357827067,0.0,0.10326960521120757,0.0,0.0,0.07396828272972031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09409576387288428,0.0,0.0,0.06426012923678591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099553559357076,0.0983082816763804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478652731880535,0.0,0.0,0.1403173910758649
parenting,alexaary,2019/03/19,"On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And how long it takes a new habit to form can vary widely depending on the behavior, the person, and the circumstances. It is very difficult to get rid of habits that you have been developing over many years. It has become a second instinct to constantly check social media to see if you have notifications or take a big bowl of ice cream and chips whenever you are watching TV…. and a lot more vices that we engage in. You first have to understand how habits form and work before you can get rid of them.

What would you get from this article:

¶ How habits form
¶ The habits forming process
¶ Types of habits
¶ How do you understand hidden habits
¶ How to control your habits

Link: https://thezeroed.com/control-your-habits-by-understanding-them/",5.72127201565558,8.747666958904112,4.964814090019573,78.04178082191783,71.1917808219178,8.281017612524463,24.81213307240705,9.04235418022936,2.146533855185909,680,21,115,15,14,204,91,146,0.02,0.964,0.017,-0.101,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,8,1,3,5,2,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,7,1,21,21,12,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,10,1,17,18,7,14,0,0,3,0,12,6,0,4,8,77,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561603518689163,0.2744117577436643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424635209075626,0.361695370314568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398836688402062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371531754235235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25272836729020204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269494143760972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370829945097495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347504861111714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287025885882728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114589020315013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407911291540219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848975919361513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436688714376693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637039064000007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33571920605108563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304232486671747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738679186671885,0.0,0.0,0.11454236917237608,0.0,0.0,0.10383517666762546
parenting,CitizenJosh,2019/03/19,"What word games do you play in the car with your children? May also help to add their ages.  


I like to play complex word games to create play-based learning some include:

* ""I'm going on a trip"" game
* singing the alphabet by each taking every other (3rd, etc.) letter in sequence
* reciting the alphabet backwards saying every 2 (or 3, etc.) letters
* rapping
* adding up numbers in a license play to see who can find the highest number",2.293125,5.122662062500002,3.1650000000000027,86.62000000000002,84.625,4.2,26.75,5.6839178017228535,1.0892250000000003,335,15,56,2,10,106,62,80,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.9153,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,11,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,8,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,11,6,4,10,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,3,2,33,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22958152067134124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6403506273826239,0.0,0.0,0.4837624617348516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26239020316699124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315684363222122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924268143768104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402550769816694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22830126603518175,0.0,0.0,0.2287693267568553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158519566802981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thedonvalentine,2019/03/19,"Children & cyberbullying - It's not just the playground anymore. Hi everyone,

My boy went through some of this and had a tough time at school, this stuff doesn't stop at the school gates or playground. I wanted to share a comprehensive guide I found for cyberbullying which helped me a lot.

[https://homeguides.co.uk/cyberbullying/](https://homeguides.co.uk/cyberbullying/)

If anyone has had a similar experience please share what you did to action it, my gut reaction was to take the mobile off them, but turns out this can just alienate the child.

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parenting,peterparker818,2019/03/19,"Uptick in Positivity After Playing Co-Op Video Games? Bought Mario Party a week ago to play with 6-year old daughter. We’ve been playing about an hour each night together. In this version of Mario Party, there are a lot of awesome teamwork games, some as simple as passing different sports balls to one another and placing them in a basket.  Since we began playing, my daughter is significantly more helpful around the house and most importantly, has been in a really upbeat mood in the morning and done a great job helping me get her 18-mo sister ready in a variety of ways. 

I bought the game for the family time, but had no idea how great an opportunity it would be to work on manners/teamwork/and even how to properly handle losing.

Anyone else experienced this? Any other video games anyone would recommend? It has been a fun week and I just wanted to share my experience!

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parenting,BurntoutMillenial,2019/03/19,"Santa Hi everyone. I am expecting our first kids in a few months and Im considering skipping Santa/The Easter Rabbit/The Tooth Fairy.

This is why:
When I was a kid I could just tell it wasn't true. My mom and dad tried hard to make it real but it just never seemed credible for me. I was about 5 when I finally approached my mom and grilled her about it and they confessed it was made up. I think what ultimately ""debunked"" it for me was the Tim Allen movies LOL. I just remember feeling annoyed by the whole thing.

Is it a bad thing to just give your kids holiday gifts and explain the historical/religious significance of the holiday?",3.2048581818181816,5.2560357840000025,4.512218181818182,82.95210909090913,75.16,8.385454545454545,27.363636363636363,9.095868883498916,2.3418000000000005,503,20,100,12,11,166,82,125,0.087,0.785,0.128,0.7418,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,1,1,8,3,1,0,7,1,9,1,1,2,2,23,16,8,0,2,5,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,11,5,0,0,6,2,0,1,2,2,0,1,6,2,15,1,10,9,2,9,1,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,6,68,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16957124801266482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215043883645042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406071881907785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268815248876263,0.0,0.0,0.22247461843326155,0.0,0.17274782349157874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19482195246907785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192829961916376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21937150847899714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216819377443065,0.13556381711999774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475711931683554,0.16210409994301134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663514114662228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23116031099610185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23006081162351336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488505172912764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17750917303171485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269847276948913,0.13013155010550592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788443818966947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832566836500727,0.2267421720893574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThonSousCouverture,2019/03/19,"I feel bad about a punishment Hi !

First of all, sorry in advance for the formatting, i'm on phone app, and for the english. It's not my native language.

My son (2,5 yo, only child), try to hit me when I don't give him what he want or refuse to let him do something that i don't want him to do. It pairs with full tantrums (He lay (laies ?) on the ground, screaming.). Time out aren't effective, a little slap on the tight neither. He says it's bad to hit mum but does it anyway. 

Yesterday evening i was alone with him and he tried to put himself some body cream after bath time. I put a little piece on his finger to let himself put it on his face and I put the tub cream away. He started screaming and tried to hit me. And succeed. I don't know if he actually wanted to slap me like that but it was hard on my cheek.

I was on my wits end and screamed at him and put him on time out in a dark room. He was screaming from fear and now i feel bad about it. It was only 2-3 minutes but sounded like eternity. We talked about it and he had seem to understand why he was on time out (it's forbidden to hit mum), but he also told me he has been scared.

I've talked with my SO about that and he tells me it's not a good punishment because now my son can have nightmares and he will be afraid of the dark.

This morning i asked my son what was the punishment if he hit me and he said ""time out in the dark"". I feel very bad about it but was desperate. He don't try to hit his father, only me.

What can i do about that ?",1.0353549517966698,2.4358356073619656,2.6691191936897454,96.66351226993866,79.42944785276073,6.006836108676598,21.15205959684487,6.7097532225279775,0.09920105170902672,1152,31,285,11,28,379,142,326,0.189,0.774,0.038,-0.9938,0,1,1,0,3,0,44.0,1,0,0,4,13,19,4,3,13,0,26,4,4,1,1,44,47,23,0,5,10,6,6,2,0,1,0,7,2,1,20,20,0,2,7,1,0,6,8,15,0,1,12,15,38,4,44,25,5,43,0,0,2,0,46,23,0,5,16,176,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.09889264387001144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049570643718956,0.0,0.08104108800349141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473866671085772,0.0,0.09521170975091678,0.0,0.33845669108248905,0.061775562548006216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256523700771116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886827988974901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975663640110924,0.0,0.0,0.06693372326133556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140350080870976,0.15372074885356532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619924871682079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721399434706823,0.0,0.08499868745545966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078020452318504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055693488408995184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072528213691651,0.0,0.09901863184258286,0.20313741936473645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23121955904858454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5093704761054647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963969835450912,0.08058916474619926,0.10145842625925204,0.0,0.0,0.09225559104539607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801602731128622,0.0,0.11344117053079432,0.07172855460782174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629055550417178,0.08857510934963461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29545911891515425,0.0,0.0,0.09683414719529697,0.0,0.2752112238860093,0.0,0.0,0.10549789770469936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361562476141778,0.17931782544165178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914430534271966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Zola365,2019/03/19,"Getting a child ready for day care My 9 month old son is going to day care / nursery for 4 days a week from April. I am kinda dreading it. We have no family close by sadly.  


My wife is going back to work, it will be great to have her earning money again, but I hate the thought of our son feeling deserted by us for up to 10 hours a day.  


So far he has been going to day care for a couple of hours at a time, twice a week to get used to the place. He cries when he is handed over, but they say he starts playing and is ok a few minutes later. He is at that funny stage now where I pick him up in the morning from his cot and take him downstairs.....if I set him down for a second to close the door he thinks I am running away and can start crying ! He stops as soon as I am back haha.  


I am sure I am not the only one who has felt this way, its gonna suck when it comes to it.  


Any words of advice?",2.837797319932996,2.3592566281407024,4.3970979899497475,93.07427345058626,73.17085427135676,7.035343383584589,22.613484087102176,5.46131890053228,0.04798458961474017,675,12,172,2,12,228,124,199,0.112,0.745,0.14300000000000002,0.6797,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,1,2,9,12,2,1,13,2,18,1,1,2,1,20,38,10,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,8,7,0,1,4,1,1,5,2,4,0,3,3,4,19,8,31,32,1,45,0,1,0,0,22,13,1,1,24,109,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688634575241725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0883013591806868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199683853441515,0.19969079661097447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971672684403729,0.0,0.0,0.11185289205643856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367477587755814,0.2852647225750326,0.4187073534188997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12240950766905324,0.0,0.06565524845049228,0.0,0.12467481916765605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568085094233856,0.0,0.221387500416388,0.0,0.0,0.14315831047095054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128198404402157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557490201026145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036437475858427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13625404444476413,0.0,0.08798863085184343,0.0987555532298982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566393271039115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326065296890424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838147202206533,0.0,0.0,0.1085590698515556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238057266982595,0.0,0.09762983087438694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320160647899122,0.0,0.10308511895967447,0.07571564152793836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561916276406464,0.11214731978843692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306760954227263,0.2083130952901778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453117578751362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Abdelosamira,2019/03/19,"does anyone have experience with 3 languages with children? how does it work  Hello, I have a question please, my wife is from Ukranie, I am from Peru, we live in Germany  
how should work with language, I want  my daughter  to speak all 3 language flow,  
should you go home in german, or spanish spanish, russish?  


does anyone have experience with 3 languages with children? how does it work? ",4.925476190476188,7.28249421428572,4.637142857142859,82.59619047619049,71.14285714285714,5.80952380952381,33.09523809523809,6.42735559955562,2.0253809523809525,305,15,51,2,6,93,42,70,0.0,0.93,0.07,0.5514,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,3,1,15,9,4,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,10,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,2,0,32,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655998805335996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6648184107607825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3715660875876829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793872529902457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19051020931047766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677072094914637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208480560533272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275940916797606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202265566460033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4148028744485627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dawnnyxu,2019/03/19,"10 month old independent play? Looking for a little help/advice here! My Spawnlet is 10 months and doesn’t do so great on independent play. I have to animate her toys for her and constantly talk/move them around. Or maybe I’m missing the mark and not understanding what independent play really looks like? 

If you have tiny humans the same age-ish and they’re great at playing on their own - could you drop a comment and let me know HOW they play? Like at ten months does independent play just mean biting blocks 😂


Thanks in advance y’all ♥️",2.031604395604397,4.783394504761908,2.8438095238095267,89.05978021978025,84.90476190476191,6.278388278388277,20.457875457875463,7.61054688173877,0.8461282051282057,433,13,87,8,13,136,79,105,0.052000000000000005,0.667,0.281,0.98,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,3,1,5,12,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,5,0,21,15,9,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,1,3,7,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,11,11,9,13,2,14,0,1,2,0,10,7,0,2,7,47,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541389297231514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689107958181764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20504392335246546,0.0,0.15149371632725406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16604468783385998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183829158032572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718020469770175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427735719008786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940242665700514,0.0,0.18539692046754855,0.19017154287598936,0.0,0.0,0.3186713395339218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19062155442357148,0.20668489303439694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543512686454285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910253277386453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155371924070447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250760220463272,0.0,0.17468913557392227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19752833367104147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tcho80,2019/03/19,"8-month-old sleep regression? Our 8-month-old has never been a great sleeper.  We eventually got her to STTN at about 5 months when we used the Ferber method to sleep train her. She really needed to be sleep trained because we were up all night holding her so she'd sleep. Literally, all night. Until at least 1 a.m. and sometimes 5. So that worked for a while. Bedtime routine is PJs, books, nursing and sleep. She's usually sleep by the time I put her to bed. I realize that's not how you're supposed to do it... I get it, no sleep associations. But we are lucky to get her to sleep flat at all. Sometimes she will fall asleep by herself, but that's not typical. Generally we go through 2-3 rounds of nursing-crib-nursing-crib before she's done and goes to sleep for the night.  Now that she's a little older, I'm concerned that she's backsliding. The past two night she wakes up, I nurse her because she's hungry, totally fine, but the problem comes when I try to put her back to bed .... she SCREAMS for me to come back and get her. She stops when I pick her up. I don't think it's hunger. This goes on for hours. Last night she wanted her dad to wake up and play from 11-2.  Tonight it's better, she's quiet and nursing on me and it's only 1 a.m. which is better, but it's v night #2 of this and I don't know what to do about the screaming.

It's loud, folks. Like ..... ""Are the neighbors going to call CPS?"" loud. That shriek.  OMG. 

Anyone go through this with an 8-month-old?",1.3252475247524735,3.3725685709571005,2.6024653465346543,94.393400990099,81.11221122112211,5.492145214521452,21.98118811881188,6.588339656340683,0.2944130693069309,1139,36,256,11,30,366,151,303,0.057,0.8690000000000001,0.07400000000000001,0.6949,0,0,1,0,0,0,68.0,6,0,0,3,11,10,0,0,11,0,15,13,12,3,5,40,30,20,0,3,6,1,1,1,1,1,0,5,3,0,18,16,1,2,3,2,0,8,6,3,0,1,4,6,40,7,38,23,5,42,0,0,1,0,33,10,0,1,25,153,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052978950815330966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652227786775014,0.0,0.0923752939585228,0.0,0.06447323510062483,0.0,0.0,0.13402179240974085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736789658332208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053534754435964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753726795144703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187574145865801,0.0,0.12918259768486146,0.0,0.060598823932273026,0.08353480838814477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461650434210322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04164027125903167,0.061761269879598374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037016559811661916,0.07593973269450575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24191010823558026,0.0,0.0,0.056181227770465685,0.0584371770386989,0.0,0.0,0.4266204508956721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23851822763260555,0.0,0.0,0.0576251996072471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232940718533863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250002182094975,0.0,0.15233611973171304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04853910741619983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6824070901958756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987355451307285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334568401242119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04854926152693515,0.0,0.0,0.04418109983426512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05144169607399117,0.0,0.07401461081024335,0.0,0.0,0.0654394763318477,0.08344806814797824,0.0,0.04469010116069561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055160218293567764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mahlerific,2019/03/19,"Talking to a 2yo about guns Hi, everyone. First time post here. What is the best way to talk to a very young child about guns? My daughter (2) the other day began pretending to shoot my spouse and I using spatulas or other kitchen utensils. When asked, she explained she was shooting monsters, ghosts, and other things with guns. We don't have toy (or real) guns in our house, so I believe she observed and/or participated in simulated gunplay at a friend's house.  Still, it struck me as early for a child to encounter and repeat behavior regarding guns.

My family was targeted with gun violence when I was around her age and my spouse and I don't want her to play with guns, even facsimiles. At the same time, we are also trying to set her up for imaginative play with a broad spectrum of friends. Complicating matters is that her friends' parents are almost all colleagues of mine, so thoughts on how to broach this issue with coworkers would also be appreciated.",5.222479935794546,7.208318455056182,5.477560192616373,78.4367415730337,69.50561797752809,8.456500802568218,30.69181380417336,9.04235418022936,2.7147049759229542,767,32,136,15,14,243,117,178,0.065,0.8220000000000001,0.113,0.835,1,0,0,10,0,0,24.0,3,0,0,2,13,6,0,0,8,0,12,1,0,2,1,27,18,15,1,2,2,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,8,13,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,0,20,6,27,11,3,23,0,0,0,0,24,8,0,3,12,96,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870149568210413,0.0,0.0,0.2694557894176266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997679685929602,0.15749962676863247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898115162629413,0.17680214745929307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086512261862603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127490810135174,0.0,0.0,0.16098328772416826,0.0,0.0,0.15882146559524374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14330315141620892,0.0,0.0,0.3904857481727197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3887907260564688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17584216856330534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18706946441051311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161350680499597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917592961725922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454285276799874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708246274555913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192605616170573,0.0,0.0,0.13374884015136548,0.1964760643995535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143821908980309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455066851468188,0.0,0.13900796949298858,0.09936981227956616,0.13372612237897644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967847206157395,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,B3C003,2019/03/19,"Babies I have a 9 month old who sleeps in his own room in his own cotbed, sometimes co sleeps if he’s having a bad night, was just wondering when to change from blanket to his toddler duvet? Ftm so have no idea! 

Also, I’m aware not to give cows milk until after 12 months, do you do straight switch over? Or do you wean them onto it? Do you add water? (Cold or boiled) 

Thanks! ",1.5925824175824204,3.3295290641025663,2.5223809523809533,96.82500000000002,78.87179487179488,4.96996336996337,17.553113553113555,5.288315135182226,-0.6993501831501834,289,5,66,1,7,91,62,78,0.094,0.847,0.06,-0.5751,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,8,5,2,0,0,8,12,7,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,8,1,10,11,2,13,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,4,7,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987595436282367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752281069628656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26292526894582924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23842484876151745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28057450672784284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967688961403759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23324052972594905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260803801812717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4974444798160962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458151303329465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22882476711032834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695340051648028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OgBolo04,2019/03/19,"How do I get my sister's life on track? For the past 3 or 4 years my sister has been going on a downward spiral of anxiety, depression, leading to drugs and alcohol. It started when she was 13 and she is now 17, she stopped attending school during grade 8 and hasn't had a solid education plan since. She is doing better now and is sober from drugs and only smokes cigarettes. My mom decided it would be best for her to live with our grandparents about 7 months ago, whenever I visit my grandparents or she visits us, all she ever does is play video games and eat unhealthy food. She missed a key part of growing up due to her not going to school and having anxiety problems so she still acts like she is 13, with all of the problems above combined she really isn't putting herself on the path to success at all. I'm really concerned about what she's going to do with her life with a lack of social skills, friends, and an education. I feel really bad for her and all I want to do is support her, but I don't want to be offensive to her or make her feel bad by telling her what kind of position she's in. I love her very much and all I want is the best for her.",6.5012203626220355,5.150563163179918,7.137332635983268,79.36519002789402,65.90376569037657,10.811854951185495,32.468967921896784,9.928628108626363,2.805150348675034,912,30,194,17,12,303,130,239,0.114,0.762,0.125,0.5848,2,1,5,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,7,9,17,1,0,9,0,22,8,0,3,6,39,37,17,0,7,5,3,2,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,4,14,3,1,3,3,0,10,4,7,0,0,3,2,36,10,32,31,10,29,0,2,0,1,35,7,0,3,13,135,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250227227070947,0.13563327532450792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194178879630949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119370375579127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663784096700628,0.11224578674167006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10931149208526728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106395693088784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943616449162905,0.12986547816195704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480166145672152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283438264789919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346582492163194,0.0,0.0980540245050121,0.0,0.0663077210156186,0.0,0.21638573921081256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216218664849566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928728884435924,0.06200413833934209,0.0,0.11206805341413124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454552102373368,0.0,0.08471658414140211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14864102657962766,0.10130214620861812,0.0,0.09329694756009432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652438979902964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743631137652826,0.12115449387896512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24288055969886546,0.0,0.12758438236807676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24391452472204636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25688901442914097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498519642753887,0.0,0.0,0.1293736094660842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983091646539604,0.0,0.10135428689027816,0.10610641763281874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402135940454994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109290894317378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266282306812393,0.0,0.0,0.1047179640550814,0.2245728313651108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015660023825534,0.0,0.0,0.08172894083763549
parenting,hunterkiller84,2019/03/19,"Need help/advice with emergency situation Myself (35m), and my partner (39f) have been together for ~5 years. she has 2 young girls to another guy. They girls are currently 7 and 10 years old.

My partner has had ongoing spinal problems for a long time, and last friday tweaked her back the wrong way and is now in a neuro ward in a hospital pretty much until further notice. Could be several weeks maybe more.

The girls father is an abusive drunk, and i will not even go there for any kind of help as i support the kids financially and im more of a father to them than he is.

The problem i have is i run 2 companies which are in construction. I work on the tools as well as run the dealings and paperwork end of the whole lot.

I have to get the girls ready for school, go to work site, leave the work site, take them to school and then pick them up for school. Take them home Do the washing, cook dinner, etc etc.

Id do anything for them, i love those kids. but this situation has put incredible stress and pressure on me and my business. At the moment im keeping it together. Just.

I dont really have anyone to try talk to or anyone i that can help me out with much at all really.

This really isnt a complaining sort of post.. i m not really very good at dealing with working and being technically a single parent temporarily.

Can anyone at least give me some pointers on how to try and handle this a bit better or anyone out there that can relate or has been in the same position?

Im nearly at breaking point and i dont know what to do.",3.5499370893331452,4.755315977491964,4.936211379840628,83.75609394659584,72.50482315112541,8.366895009087097,25.41884523975954,8.841846274778883,1.7418154900041936,1203,37,249,23,23,402,169,311,0.076,0.856,0.068,-0.3343,2,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,0,0,6,5,8,12,0,2,20,0,30,6,1,2,1,38,41,23,0,4,7,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,9,9,18,3,1,1,2,0,5,5,6,1,0,3,0,26,6,43,34,14,43,0,0,0,1,29,20,0,6,15,169,35,7,0.0,0.10926473081083524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011558327012782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627122519679077,0.09669992380683597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579273737165761,0.0,0.07588858471906909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709109104827838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815604320325399,0.10067953583780133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362956674788229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901479937261733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21616054711589308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167888290114644,0.0,0.20569768041869327,0.06090994453010501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818075163545791,0.08846510719433298,0.1048206493269504,0.07734913113722512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131155565849043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854378570508562,0.0,0.09250342630976928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988378429693221,0.0,0.0,0.08196870614161371,0.0,0.09603215723566057,0.05068128776334645,0.07517099665191801,0.0,0.09764686977326263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161113380454571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784015081021948,0.08323147312058389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09264663119555698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13558351847684322,0.06837940497122726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499222673912507,0.09676858936431246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239856311669594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717699863854292,0.0,0.08832054923086262,0.0938201301228898,0.0,0.1764827345095397,0.0,0.09270581683830856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363120504603182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799924114230817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418150272786464,0.0,0.0,0.20731660046384795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056368386839786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464931144349186,0.0,0.0,0.13867479753851614,0.07412233951557867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05377378596965459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522163391022942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609053878839027,0.0,0.07319934777129279,0.07397271934014407,0.0,0.08291618035420607,0.0,0.0,0.10295949868660016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685468477411955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100827272467891,0.0,0.11877234625511016
parenting,lightermann,2019/03/19,"Small Parenting Triumphs: We Pooped! I never though I could be so pumped for poop, but my newborn came home from the hospital and hadn’t pooped for three days. As a new dad, basically everything that happens is new and kind of scary so this was a “big deal.”

But, after a dreadful night where we’ve done nothing but cry and keep me and mom up, we’ve pooped. So now I can say I’ve seen a true emotional roller pasted, and it all had to do with my babie’s poop. ",4.186350877192987,4.426386810526316,4.86921052631579,88.35364035087721,70.36842105263158,8.438596491228072,26.35964912280702,8.344100000000001,1.3679122807017547,357,10,81,5,6,115,70,95,0.08900000000000001,0.795,0.116,0.1614,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,5,0,9,5,5,0,3,16,13,13,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,8,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,1,6,2,7,3,9,5,1,13,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,8,50,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402949505606501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774532596969186,0.0,0.2307816440041376,0.13549515762955053,0.2166007393422375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21500213310333527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363308005316776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18882159956655592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857880469361579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107443800773405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867438304794092,0.0,0.21878365214653256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24606301907211164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203972680240708,0.4058259042855481,0.0,0.19716176360833548,0.0,0.20159369845074251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332878096058097,0.0,0.20056132027614595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670775344247925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064191954395563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sasquatchshawty,2019/03/19,"Cosleeping to crib transition...help Vowed to never cosleep and well, here we are almost 11 months later. 🙃

If you’ve transitioned your baby at a similar time I would GREATLY APPRECIATE ANY TIPS! 

He rarely naps in his crib & truly won’t cry it out and stop, he stands and screams and is just so panicked I don’t think crying it out will work for him. He’s still nursing and usually nurses to sleep. We don’t have a routine but plan on creating one. ",3.681571428571431,5.22137207777778,4.502063492063492,85.685,72.66666666666667,7.80952380952381,27.301587301587304,8.418075326091056,1.8221587301587303,357,13,72,6,7,115,73,90,0.129,0.787,0.084,-0.2388,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,0,8,1,1,0,1,17,9,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,9,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,1,7,2,9,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,7,42,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431058403236469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26304850094793936,0.0,0.16509651124932706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5333577072497189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676622175966613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272813414681572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378208102340336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724439186583056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451180500539228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429520746965581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938818215538484,0.20297222900373968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15556153481072632,0.0,0.0,0.14156507192248705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673842845351529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218285449382438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767443612603967,0.0,0.0,0.17246163349970456,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Curtisupfront,2019/03/19,"Toddler having a lot of trouble with biting. Might be asked to leave daycare. Please help!! Hello parents,

My two year old son is having a really hard time with  biting at daycare. He turned 2 in January and started at a new upscale daycare with program and better activities. His previous daycare was just a glorified babysitters establishment. No program and no structure. We had a little problem there with him biting, but ever since starting the new daycare it has become increasingly worse and I am nervous the daycare is going to ask us to leave. 

I think he bites when he is frustrated or excited about something. It seems to be when they are transitioning from activities. The ladies say he bites unprovoked a lot. 

He does not bite at home. He does not bite his cousins or his family. It's only at daycare. He is a very sweet and loving boy and I know he can be good, but I do not know what else to do. 

How do I curb this? How do I ensure the daycare that he is not a bad boy? What other ways can I help him show his frustrations? Or deal with his excitement? Any help is much appreciated. ",2.925857142857143,5.403855680952384,4.324285714285718,81.87071428571429,77.90476190476191,7.047619047619048,27.142857142857146,8.11559375814309,2.0344285714285717,863,36,158,16,21,285,120,210,0.106,0.691,0.203,0.9825,1,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,1,1,8,12,2,1,12,0,23,1,0,2,1,34,34,15,0,1,10,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,8,12,0,1,4,1,0,2,6,6,0,1,2,3,18,6,18,28,4,19,0,0,0,1,33,6,0,7,10,107,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327685670355193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25646138926425194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145269880482296,0.0,0.15148788984932268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213112349285777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141102102616698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400679110094125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458369927722872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240735329800779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930688963274697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795399128583888,0.11504743642316227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287283628744973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27581628592125884,0.0,0.1375876095934081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15076451787036246,0.0,0.0,0.29047571387013915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747529543780404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23322543863783304,0.12379670555391885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551031585542346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083200672493592,0.0,0.0,0.2649494902841085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393152151766012,0.0,0.0,0.10432011095611723,0.0,0.0,0.15230542356178656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505659044430494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124831449141272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787136714285754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907905857243418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12486980167826953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346424839228272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559626519863838,0.0,0.0,0.19417208837002195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788974934310655,0.0,0.0,0.07998197434953774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491960570867531,0.1339902067970864,0.0,0.16499252338708786,0.0,0.0,0.11317543319434288,0.0,0.10887513776973587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978278307330985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832971847073813
parenting,CCAnalyst89,2019/03/20,"Parents of teens... I’ve been doing a lot of reflection today. I’ve been a working mom my daughter’s entire life thus far - went back to work due to necessity at 10 weeks and she will be 3 next month. I took a personal day today and was able to spend the day with her. I love my job, and the career I’ve built, but today was the most wonderful day. We went to the park, practiced writing the alphabet, I made her hot breakfast, lunch, and dinner. We stayed in our pajamas the entire day. Watched a movie. She helped me clean up around the house. We took a long bath together. And I’m just basking in how great this day has been just to be able to be with her, and honestly tearing up a bit about having to go back to work tomorrow. My husband and I are going through some things at the moment, and I’ve been feeling pretty down. She is absolutely the best and most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. I just want to be with her more than I am currently able.

My point of this post is I would like some input from parents of teenagers as to how to keep this amazing relationship going through what I fear: the teenage years. It is a miracle my mother and I didn’t kill each other when I was 13-18 years old. We are very close now (I’m 29.) But then, I see my husband’s little sister (18), and her mother is her absolute best friend. They couldn’t be closer if they tried. For those mothers who have had successful, loving relationships with their teenage daughters through those tumultuous years, is there a secret? Is it luck? Is there something I can do through her childhood to increase the chances she won’t hate me in 10-12 years? My kid is my best friend, and I want it to stay that way.
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parenting,Dullpugs,2019/03/20,"I’m a kid who needs advice from a parent... So... Um hi! I’m a 15 year old female and um... I figured it would be good to get advice or something from a parent. I haven’t had a great past with my mother. I have feared her due to her bipolar disorder. She always fought with us and my father. I just felt unsafe... My father passed recently due to cancer. A part of me is terrified of my mom. But I’m also afraid that she is a widow now, and it must be lonely. As you as a parent, what would you enjoy from your children/ child. Then being around more? Asking about there day? If anyone can help please let me know. I love my Mom regardless of what she has done and her bad behaviors. I am afraid but I also want her to feel wanted. ",-0.09470588235294032,2.047210803921569,2.2243464052287583,94.25455882352942,88.01960784313727,4.70718954248366,14.382352941176471,6.139981653823899,-0.6873294117647061,555,9,123,5,18,188,96,153,0.103,0.802,0.095,-0.3187,3,2,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,3,0,0,8,10,1,3,8,0,16,3,0,0,1,23,29,14,0,8,5,8,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,6,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,4,2,25,4,16,18,2,11,0,1,0,1,28,1,0,2,9,88,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811867361913049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23011419830522395,0.11971585191841964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060101948788082,0.0,0.0,0.12807960240250352,0.13450406994619574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201299427984765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927877254475324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489366422774854,0.0,0.0,0.14723447867833792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189981595238254,0.07274772126248047,0.0,0.13814293917565393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751689541808093,0.0,0.0,0.12067585284619288,0.0,0.15862312781287274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643664262102647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907015288038259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471223363690729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985315872071432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370102408954961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668178026949818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509730216561081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4792697895627052,0.15580302918582087,0.13734534168414453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157931975653873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205959252976708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076230602260458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306438189329082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697228679916212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20440990124847325,0.0,0.0,0.09265103542954244
parenting,fakeassfoo,2019/03/20,"Another Man Is Making My Son A Wooden House. I'm Annoyed By It. Should I Be? Hey guys. I need some advice.

Some exposition:
I'm 27M, father of a 2 year old boy. I live with my girl [23F] and her mom [40's] and her bf [30's] have a room in our two story. 


We all had an apartment before, and we moved into a two story about 7 months ago. We all agreed weeks prior to moving to not have her bf move in with us because he's had a history of alcoholism, he's abused the mom and he's cheated. He's been cleaning up his act the past year, but we still don't like him. We don't want anybody like that around our son.
The week we move into the two story, the mom flips out on my girlfriend, making her cry, saying that she's not leaving him on the streets and starts bring up MY past, saying I've never been no saint (I used to be a junkie, but cleaned up upon having a son) and just blowing up. My girl caves and let's him move in, and it KILLS me that I didn't say anything because I let the fact that my past keeps following me get to me. I've always had depression, and that just put me in a funk for the longest while.

Fast forward to now:
The mom's bf tends to keep to himself, but he'll play with my son every now and then when I'm not around (which BUGS me), the mom helps us out with our son every now and then, but we're separated most of the time. Leave is up in 3 months. My girl and I are looking at other places.

The mom asked her boyfriend to make a wooden house in the back for my son. My girlfriend asked if it was okay. I said no. That's the type of stuff I'd want to do for my son myself. 
My girl isn't the type of person to say no to her mom, so it happens anyways. I'm pissed off and annoyed.

I was gonna ask if I was being unreasonable in my anger, and to just accept the nice gesture.
... but the fact that I've condoned this shitty guy for so long. The fact that I haven't said anything as to avoid drama between everyone, makes me feel like the situation is null to me and I've failed as a man to stand up for myself. Idk what to do. Just lay it on me, guys. ",1.881653679653681,2.548785991208792,3.5841958041958044,93.92337995337995,75.9010989010989,6.394272394272393,21.699966699966698,6.273863323946077,0.06457509157509067,1586,36,392,10,33,532,202,455,0.134,0.813,0.053,-0.9903,0,1,1,0,1,0,61.0,11,0,0,1,16,16,6,1,30,1,28,2,1,5,6,68,57,30,1,6,14,15,1,3,5,3,1,6,3,11,18,31,1,3,2,2,0,10,12,9,0,3,11,8,57,7,60,38,5,66,1,2,1,0,70,30,1,5,30,246,75,3,0.0,0.08002876472361069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06600335495212555,0.059873807515261036,0.07218414753350991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056202137942891306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082592336703894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11116614934428452,0.12025721517316668,0.1894339681468689,0.0,0.0,0.051937276825295316,0.0,0.08234856547495786,0.0,0.057475090952891175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419406961320267,0.0,0.0,0.058175671515065676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11381770750479825,0.06454132331313739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034152348247173614,0.048253549356821336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0352890270101541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20063796295782094,0.059729062712782874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527341537885611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558737450719413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200726757815886,0.07472758688958829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303898996667933,0.0,0.1381369252374317,0.0,0.09899596965863064,0.0,0.05964271586072359,0.05977444119071065,0.056720068812392964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034496014542548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.553748188749389,0.10782618129494928,0.35894367400097715,0.0,0.05008312629128977,0.052094207155689534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087621608000426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934355822253016,0.0,0.058976940492809375,0.07056925354566483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679005196755349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849989516295518,0.21485525460063154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592244688061232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780809216392103,0.0,0.053940839963772164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732188410327592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039385533041889235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979424399065257,0.0,0.16249457541840212,0.05833645307564325,0.0,0.0,0.07967857126747452,0.0,0.10835967485769936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699242732384832
parenting,sln1224,2019/03/20,"Parents, what do you think of this behavior? My neighbor downstairs has a 7 year old son. My bedroom is right above his. For the last several months, I noticed this kid jumps off the bed and on the floor for 2-4 hours on a daily basis and it makes my floor shake because he is pounding on the floor. He does this repeatedly, non-stop, in the same area. I understand kids are very active and they should be but something about this seems rather odd to me. More so, there has been school nights where he is up past 11pm jumping.

I don't interact with the kid often enough to know his daily habits at home and school. I took a developmental psychology course and thought this could be a sign of ADHD. **I am not diagnosing nor am I asking for a diagnoses**. However, it is very concerning to me when I hear him coughing and choking from the jumping. I did contact one of the parents about this, they said it was just him playing around. It did stop for a couple days, but it started again today.

Any thoughts on this? Is this normal?",1.7080370210934142,4.2333185940594085,2.731256995264744,91.12362247094276,83.35643564356435,5.691261300043049,23.139044339216532,7.079830092131019,0.8381551442100736,804,29,165,11,23,255,129,202,0.06,0.918,0.022,-0.8148,3,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,2,0,11,2,0,1,14,0,20,3,0,1,0,27,32,11,0,4,5,3,0,0,1,1,3,2,4,3,14,8,0,1,6,1,0,5,3,1,0,1,8,2,20,1,23,20,3,34,0,0,0,0,22,15,0,2,14,113,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164418812113716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712380022229228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714178494363024,0.1335192116024866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706291416242386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140316781310101,0.1580297331636843,0.0,0.09210832023966507,0.0,0.0,0.2899224760383235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498442085566845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475732175833606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097067893166447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432620263961367,0.0,0.14065081764294168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849118973202765,0.11641892345163488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533473773469496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399909048080388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340286928268283,0.13993515338474244,0.0,0.16260369759840113,0.1498675752550254,0.0,0.09677982631275957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171736710167953,0.0,0.1363396791359308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219691356096069,0.135856347684101,0.0,0.0,0.2890868070961046,0.0,0.1300197080026142,0.0,0.1613481120559561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995128832404374,0.0,0.0,0.10109008700588626,0.0,0.0,0.2388110332708551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151451665997416,0.0,0.2267692953455801,0.0,0.0,0.13537847631925146,0.0,0.15868040340020828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486826510894615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356860758842483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197263108584804
parenting,cmh1598,2019/03/20,"Help!!! Need parents advice or opinions on my relationship situation!! So I (20 almost 21F) need help with telling and explaining to my parents why I’m going to see my bf (20M) in a different state. 

Background information, my bf and I began talking 8 months ago, we met on instagram through a mutual friend. We had been talking for 5 months and things started getting serious so we decided it was time to meet. I told my mom that I was going to fly out to meet him in a different state since he couldn’t come to me cause he’s in the military. She was NOT at all happy about it and was concerned about my safety which is understandable but she also didn’t like that I was seeing someone in the military cause I had already been down that road before and it didn’t work out. 

So I go to see him and I had an amazing time and we really hit things off and started to officially date. Then a month later when he got holiday leave I flew to see him again, my mom at this point doesn’t like him at all cause “he doesn’t have respect for me”  and again wasn’t happy but not as mad as the first time when I told her I was going. Again I had a wonderfully amazing time with him and haven’t felt this strongly about someone before. 

About 2 months pass by and my bf and I are trying to see each other again, now I have tried to get him to come here many times so he can meet my family since I’ve already met all of his but since he can’t just leave whenever he wants it makes that very hard for him to come to me, on top of all of that one of his parents might not have much long to live so when he does get leave he goes to see them, which I completely understand. 

I told my mom about the plains that we were trying to make happen and she said no and that is final since I’ve gone to see him twice and he hasn’t come to me ( sidenote: I still live at home and they pretty much pay for everything for me besides gas and my wants). 

My mom not liking him or our relationship has definitely caused problems between me and my bf but we work around it. But when I told him I couldn’t see him cause my mom said no it really effected us since he’s being deployed soon and won’t be back for 9 months.

Fast forward to now, me and my bf are ok again and I decided to just go on ahead and go see him even though my mom said no, yes I know that’s disrespectful of me but I’m an adult and should be allowed to make my own choices. I leave in several days and I still have to tell her but don’t know how to explain everything to her so she understands where I’m coming from or what’s going to happen when I do tell her. 

What’s y’all’s advice/input on my situation or how I should go about it?",3.185173507293648,3.8307600742049455,4.559399293286218,88.2228617377911,72.81625441696113,8.066612304068135,24.76017033614207,8.303829127061777,1.2072503035245088,2086,58,479,32,39,695,220,566,0.054000000000000006,0.8370000000000001,0.109,0.9897,6,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,8,1,2,7,38,14,1,0,11,2,42,0,0,12,4,98,104,53,0,9,17,9,2,3,6,4,0,3,1,1,24,41,0,0,13,1,1,17,19,3,0,3,30,14,84,11,71,64,8,81,0,0,9,0,84,24,0,8,43,317,108,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050387752796471515,0.04570838276706927,0.0,0.051633906588449185,0.0,0.11380433226089988,0.041235719352257255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04590290019751842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03964954004979125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775434754762368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26485220591552444,0.0,0.22208913973719926,0.05406388236987974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033254520008484716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774682908981337,0.0,0.0,0.04512401174268569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03405754161996415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268481281061927,0.0,0.04860995858767203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049509534937843866,0.05648585140944797,0.0,0.043860319697449135,0.0,0.0,0.03983822542839044,0.0,0.08082019939919986,0.0,0.23444011677402365,0.0,0.04124044844368609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119576569765647,0.10978169277749178,0.046191223843111535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912453659412987,0.0,0.051722905279894565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05667646164085501,0.0,0.0,0.21839536102144455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557471056773056,0.0,0.09106392925269173,0.045632525323135234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325812918701374,0.052277811815138464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470126493569225,0.0,0.3623468646807391,0.20578950009504246,0.0,0.07581095926337574,0.07646811858792349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03494110697232535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176718935186586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874465544732642,0.0,0.0,0.05245913472916544,0.0,0.049339792722951685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606644904982217,0.0,0.0,0.11072089670710276,0.0,0.0,0.14714754173950464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698085522854233,0.0,0.0,0.05825265303649985,0.0,0.21327140538277228,0.11592021308305743,0.0,0.0,0.08738003495553086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07299454190999431,0.0,0.0823581683597753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289039441739192,0.13520764987433315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851367268915194,0.0,0.050661377018708834,0.0,0.15033694151694527,0.0,0.0,0.19708648123225625,0.0,0.10502573204223703,0.0,0.0,0.16103985555389044,0.06202515389474431,0.0,0.0,0.04254570762891203,0.060827576948378315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652849783649122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591896816614897,0.07507842532458284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wisconsennach,2019/03/20,"My 10yr old daughter just saw Titanic for the first time I don't have anything else to say, really. I've been trying to connect with my oldest daughter lately with little luck... She's more interested in hanging out with and talking to her dad than with me... Preteen I guess.

But she just saw Titanic and spent two hours talking to me about the movie and the history. I was only a little older than she was when it first came out, and her excitement made me so happy.",3.981428571428573,5.467393913043484,5.0552795031055915,82.2276086956522,71.82608695652173,7.86583850931677,27.27329192546584,8.418075326091056,1.9291161490683224,368,13,70,6,7,121,62,92,0.0,0.882,0.118,0.8987,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,5,4,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,17,11,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,11,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,8,3,13,4,15,3,1,16,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,2,9,51,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17488473923747275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430647172754056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17753206029791535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3615365062183572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341132499290239,0.0,0.0,0.22623005217070816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20928805929430144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397302911877725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259990311551797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20109028287377168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300257120361616,0.0,0.0,0.16163000797991472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614488752298673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900335846959033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416288778039662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392133246295273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442862116506037,0.0,0.20759983856759465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Savvybomb,2019/03/20,"Need help with building empathy and getting this new Hitting phase to stop. My son is almost 17 months old and has recently started smacking me. He doesn't do it when he is angry, it's usually when he is excited or over stimulated. We have been reading ""Hands Are Not for Hitting"" and I explain every time he does it that that hurts mama and that I dont like that behavior, no we dont hit, we use gentle hands and then explain what gentle means. 

It's exhausting. He has really been pushing boundaries lately and I'm not sure what to do about it. He will hold hands until he wants to go in a different direction and he will go limp until I let go or pick him up.  If he wants to get down he will hurl his whole body out of my arms. I am strong but I know at some point i will be physically unable to prevent him from falling. 

Any advice on either issue is welcomed. ",2.9331234866828098,4.3817782485875725,4.540714285714287,85.02622881355933,74.42372881355931,7.543018563357546,26.202179176755447,8.192908349453996,1.6321060532687652,678,24,139,11,14,228,114,177,0.079,0.8340000000000001,0.086,0.2991,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,1,0,22,6,5,3,1,35,40,16,0,4,7,1,4,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,12,12,0,3,4,1,0,5,6,2,0,0,2,4,15,5,19,29,3,27,0,1,0,0,21,8,0,5,15,89,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16293305974571345,0.0,0.0,0.16696260341400873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338659448107292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520675629441327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742042417768936,0.0,0.0,0.14591230791606435,0.0,0.3908280683522448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404827629629623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422596625229192,0.0,0.2842807286977947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176001732284843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849496125924122,0.0,0.0,0.17402967374170608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163406580171728,0.0,0.1880861288219028,0.0,0.0,0.17049945346812104,0.0,0.08145907255105404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18162502003201056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308755026032454,0.0,0.0,0.12363306401908955,0.0,0.16103523143092371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496199636351276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576199655174861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667817048757241,0.0,0.10681572498084899,0.0,0.1646322610420484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180170120522316,0.0,0.0,0.13939924984974694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714725678548838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972254427503803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400687360848616,0.18363679045533304,0.0,0.1966911139925083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861554410695736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dd525,2019/03/20,Anyone here have a child through a sperm donor? If so does your child know who their biological father is? Or if you have gotten married afterward how do you all go forward ? ,3.766363636363636,6.097911090909093,4.433333333333334,82.87000000000003,74.45454545454545,6.824242424242425,26.15151515151515,7.793537801064563,1.5257151515151524,138,5,26,2,3,44,28,33,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,6,7,5,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,2,19,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5099952232582496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6382800570937158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4145200231001088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4008448470659143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,exitthewarrior,2019/03/20,"ABBY HAD A WAND And I want it GONE- forever!!! I am so done with that commercial!!!! 😂😂😂 It comes on everyone .2 seconds and last 3874727728373 years and IM SO READY FOR MARCH 25 TO BE OVER!! 

In all seriousness we love Sesame Street but that commercial will haunt me. ",0.27816037735849264,2.697892547169811,1.6880896226415096,94.7596816037736,95.2264150943396,6.423584905660378,19.83254716981132,7.6454224807358475,0.9330773584905664,207,7,46,5,8,66,44,53,0.084,0.779,0.13699999999999998,0.44,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,9,9,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,1,6,4,1,9,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484695359235941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41397791920908095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865488128611708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369652791875791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3297485540563139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3651070111598583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23860416515233734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605061206042897
parenting,C_Swirl,2019/03/20,"I need advice!! My almost 2 year old is now in a toddler bed (I didn’t want to... but he climbs out of the crib). Naps this week have been hell!! I took almost everything out of his room (blackout curtains are coming tomorrow). I’ve sat in there with him and I have tried to go in to redirect, but he will only fall asleep when he is on me or in his high chair watching Little Baby Bum or Super Simple Songs. This is all new to me, but he hasn’t done this ever! 

I don’t know what to do... I feel like I’m a failure. 

Please help!!",-0.601700404858299,1.3531087894736835,1.8036842105263169,97.75002024291494,88.2982456140351,4.560323886639677,15.786774628879893,5.873414542411696,-0.7430828609986508,398,8,96,3,13,135,80,114,0.08900000000000001,0.769,0.142,0.6776,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,2,4,3,1,0,3,0,13,1,1,0,2,18,22,7,0,2,5,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,3,0,4,5,0,0,2,2,0,5,3,1,0,0,5,3,12,2,15,16,1,23,1,0,1,0,8,10,1,4,9,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21823749264768835,0.0,0.0,0.4472695718336223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19238078426042665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22854622442922765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201662350043054,0.0,0.0,0.2007164442916608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292339389262845,0.1595484597809075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692474961985456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969476419865935,0.23596257058968695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273745299382792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109108757760353,0.22383738362257025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16559788383024632,0.0,0.2156954837175062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343494159785552,0.0,0.0,0.16985408630162024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451515234498661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24813012288215694,0.1516278007539353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172702829861074,0.0,0.17914349779807298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438185167425457
parenting,_raisingboys_,2019/03/20,Grove collaborative Want to get 5 free products with your $2 grove collaborative purchase? Message me and I’ll give you the details! ,3.96125,7.20510929166667,5.23,71.81500000000003,81.08333333333334,6.533333333333335,33.0,7.793537801064563,2.8651000000000004,109,6,18,2,3,36,22,24,0.0,0.795,0.205,0.5983,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208593448708596,0.7727435914540086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.475126039805893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThePoorCollegeKid,2019/03/20,"Need some help. Overbearing Mother Here we go. I’m a 21y.o male, who’s pursuing nursing as my profession in college. It is extremely stressful. Somehow I pull through and keep pushing toward my degree. I don’t have much time for myself. I have a job and most of my time is dedicated to studying or playing music. However, the occasional video game helps me de-stress and acts as therapy for the hell I go through every day. 

Here’s some major things about my mother to keep
in mind. She is a good woman. She cares for the best interest of me, but since she grew up in the third-world country, she tends to take everything to the extreme, when things don’t go her way. 

1. The video games. My mom reads in articles that video games make me anti-social and make me more prone to violence. She’s even said that I’ll turn into the next school shooter if I continue playing Assassins Creed. She’s gone to such extremes to destroy my desktop (with crucial essays and years of work) by smashing it. 

2. The relationship with my father. My mom and dad live in the same house, but not a couple. More like two human beings who agree that the bills need to be paid. My dad has cheated on my mother (and this has led to her extreme control of everything in the house). His unfaithfulness has led her to look to religion. She has threatened to discontinue supporting me through college if I don’t go to temple with her three times a week. These services last 6-7 hours at the place she goes to. To make her happy, I have been neglecting my studies for religion. 

3. The overbearing care and insults. I’m a bit big for my size. However, I’ve skimmed down after I started doing martial arts. I went from a Buddha belly to a faintly outlined 6 pack by training hard. Ive gained muscle, and in return a bigger size overall. She insults me everyday by telling me that I need to lose weight, and slim down. Another part of this is that she tells me that I have no friends. I don’t have time for a girlfriend, and I don’t think I’ve met the right gal yet. I’ll know it when the times right. But she doesn’t understand that my time is solely devoted on my studying. I try to argue back, and I find that I’m the one in the wrong because I’m not fulfilling her wishes. She provides for me, and I try to give back as much as I can to show her that I am an adult now. 

4. The constant arguing. I can’t argue with her. I will lose every time. I’ve pretty much succumbed to the fact that I have to listen to her command, or face something extreme. She once embarrassingly made me cancel a project meeting at my friends house (because she lives closer to school) and accusing me of a date on the phone. This happened while I was at my friends house. She calls me 11:00PM at night to yell me saying that I’m up playing video games and not studying (Can’t a guy watch Netflix for an hour before sleep jeez?).

So I’m losing hope. I have a sister, but she’s the perfect child. She’s older, we’ll established, and always siding with mom due to the reason that there is “no father figure”. Even when my mother in the wrong, she’ll use the same excuse, “If you had a proper father, you would have friends”. 

But still. I’m lucky to be living under her roof. 

You people are parents. I’m asking you guys to give me some pointers. I am arrogant as my father, but in no way I am perfect. ",2.4773214285714293,4.411895422619047,3.738714285714284,88.20628571428574,76.91666666666666,6.503809523809522,25.33690476190476,7.42949916751922,1.2165983333333328,2612,95,533,34,60,852,308,672,0.128,0.7559999999999999,0.116,-0.8741,4,0,1,1,0,0,91.0,2,4,0,9,18,36,8,2,41,0,43,4,2,9,3,72,88,37,0,9,14,15,2,1,5,4,1,4,0,7,23,23,1,4,6,15,2,12,14,16,0,3,9,8,94,20,85,72,15,78,1,4,2,0,89,31,2,12,34,349,117,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05789688062403608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296163776608151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504874631330021,0.0,0.0,0.10700683021514763,0.0,0.08483173842441517,0.0,0.059208218789407276,0.0,0.0730208589930242,0.0,0.07596431863719412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104987582881775,0.0,0.14188472439154054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519223099385425,0.07804089298792105,0.0,0.0769899394937079,0.0,0.04487392252174297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191505296395024,0.0,0.1172498140729583,0.0,0.12506964791387154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635956796349316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503211483085027,0.0,0.0,0.13349667408102353,0.15817770987856275,0.05836115547338624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377920557852849,0.061530157752743536,0.07407015910537917,0.062330816965375374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327721761387443,0.0,0.0,0.06910953107422707,0.1370463358164942,0.3211480538345993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06904830413437882,0.12369339726896494,0.0,0.0,0.03823984149867983,0.056717718197879775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033993711789697664,0.0,0.18432362148520634,0.0,0.05843042939674487,0.23352967816931616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583912749030661,0.13933736790354945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025687106283443,0.24447691813821604,0.0,0.0,0.15344989695005742,0.15478006123779967,0.0,0.0,0.07400007373454673,0.06529695864556187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741013848277085,0.04714981682790816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726135218898124,0.07534933124630566,0.0,0.04823863318660062,0.0,0.07269722821598591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078878741276744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959972695228553,0.0,0.0,0.0715407511818183,0.0,0.07470384385498202,0.0,0.11884341234642327,0.06618736726715375,0.05533352236395234,0.0,0.14083916577714614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755803733632566,0.0,0.06963114786520946,0.0,0.0,0.05356677421302306,0.0,0.0,0.04924971729171652,0.0,0.05556739452360571,0.0,0.15940936570354514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895957776825195,0.0,0.0,0.0523161753751798,0.0,0.1216335424128758,0.0,0.07957182018167427,0.0,0.0924529128415814,0.044584629483298124,0.0,0.0,0.2840122656917714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448172381278708,0.07568403568445957,0.06797042623386594,0.0724361680677209,0.0,0.06009555478444927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046015522144476,0.0558135988178107,0.08473078779775635,0.0,0.06450218896620542,0.0,0.0,0.08001459805726878,0.0,0.0,0.05065572199223138,0.0,0.0,0.049428273120499584,0.15215157657082282,0.0,0.04480781660905687
parenting,woobboomooboo,2019/03/20,"I watched the Apollo 17 moon landing with my 7 year old She absolutely loved it, looked like her eyes were going to burst out of her head.

I realised she had never actually seen the whole thing and I hadn’t actually seen it all either.  Definitely worth it, I highly recommend doing it one night

https://youtu.be/vIGbOoZzlYI

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parenting,banonophone,2019/03/20,"Separation anxiety in infants? Ok, so my son is a little over 13 weeks old. My parents live locally and see him at least twice a week. Up until about two or three weeks ago, he’s lit up when he’s seen either one of them. Smiles, giggles, the whole nine. 

Now when he sees either one of them, he will go from being completely content to crying hysterically in a matter of seconds. He’ll stop when I pick him up or if my mom’s holding him, when I take him from her and hold him myself. 

From what I’ve read, separation anxiety starts, at the earliest, 6-7 months. Does anyone have any similar experiences? Can it really start this early? It’s making me so upset because I know it upsets my mom and she’s taking it so personally. Kills me. ",2.4976455301455296,4.364871560810812,4.716216216216218,81.5269126819127,76.63513513513513,7.7970893970893975,23.546777546777548,8.617729084823388,1.6339806652806654,573,18,115,12,13,199,100,148,0.127,0.818,0.055,-0.899,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,0,9,5,1,2,5,1,5,0,0,2,0,15,16,14,1,1,5,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,7,1,4,19,2,17,12,4,27,0,0,4,0,20,10,0,3,16,77,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392548234429937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682966827517988,0.0,0.2403537728935829,0.0,0.0,0.10984414890463023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576336817293744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16471062720434784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256096602625884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13747448296933415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366859567442134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928044237446213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738018233762433,0.0,0.08633504601760951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744999056227527,0.13871734923035806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486181949211998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679744327816651,0.12539135610286006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484428443961524,0.0,0.21290264007500365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443488610821556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716888529998325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571370432967426,0.0,0.10063877937688427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503680046740784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238463561002975,0.0,0.0,0.13133806238217366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23623107374215505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15345853033778764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780352716036053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539043401115614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,StrangeElf,2019/03/20,"Me and kids dad are split, kids told me some things dad has said about me, I try to defend myself now I'm being called a liar and ruining kids emotionally Me and ex can get on at times but I'm not going to lie, sometimes we argue.

I'm really upset at the moment, my kids came to me and said that daddy said I don't love them and I chose my youngest kids dad over them

I didn't

I choose them all

THe thing is, I called their dad a liar (which is true because I do love them and I don't choose anyone over them)

But I get a message from their dad calling me out for calling him a liar and that I'm going to mess them up emotionally 

The thing is, I don't want to bring this up to him, either he'll admit he said it or deny it. He doesn't believe a word I say when it comes to what the kids tell him so what's the point in him explaining himself to me? Surely I can't believe it either?

I know this is a messed up question an dmaybe I'm not even looking for an answer and more just somewhere to vent, either way it's hard sitting here for the last week thinking your kid thinks you don't love him

My oldest thinks this, my 2nd oldest wants to live with me and come home, yet he can't because of his brother (his words not mine)

I just want my family back to how it was but it seems no matter what I do I'm being called a liar or a bad mum 

I guess I don't want any confrontation because the boys have told me enough things I should be pulling up and arguing over yet I say nothing because I'm scared of the arguments or the hatred (dad has apparently got recordings of me choosing and step mum and dad have called me disgusting names) called me an unfit mum and that I don't want them (untrue, and I never chose for them not to be with me)(neither did courts this had all be outside a courtroom(

I don't know how to approach this

I don't think I want to approach this

Every week my kids told me they wanted to come home and now everything's changed

I'm just a shell now, not to over dramatic but I've lost a sort of me losing them ",2.7217079098541745,3.436359376712332,3.9294550007364855,92.05567609368096,73.95433789954339,6.838827515097952,23.033141847105608,6.828538100315305,0.4392920017675648,1589,39,372,13,31,520,184,438,0.196,0.768,0.037000000000000005,-0.9971,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,12,2,16,21,8,2,23,0,33,3,0,2,5,77,81,26,0,8,18,12,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,9,24,23,0,0,14,0,0,11,19,16,0,0,14,8,69,5,41,60,8,42,0,3,1,3,75,14,0,8,15,242,93,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051691616318058686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053150231500635005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05844949690717606,0.06346788832161135,0.18534788565174515,0.0,0.0,0.17128180443735372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5433261862655759,0.08693890735585358,0.0,0.0,0.08041193905572966,0.19643605151361904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17100934934188194,0.0,0.07854200643592185,0.0,0.050206034447872375,0.0,0.06404444119356993,0.0,0.06831580735758128,0.0,0.07165852669564705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942757114607447,0.0,0.08640016292177287,0.0,0.06079473962958304,0.0,0.08373716421908953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809294109758128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249497413543264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835497880991,0.061960943758892426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712109200417482,0.0,0.0638319852189502,0.08503938284093474,0.08297744124483013,0.0,0.20581477649715374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05862610414231995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293676305823732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07185709050425337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515223597614317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04869603410980825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892240288286193,0.12089757402484615,0.07610252344562743,0.0,0.0,0.06919960755730953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751790474858529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164158814688519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643893055028423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019993016269526,0.19482488419493296,0.0,0.0,0.044323937110969165,0.0,0.0,0.2179017523424895,0.0,0.05160800682233853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31384208825314985,0.06033577938904387,0.1219464875249876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway678937u1y,2019/03/20,"My 2 year old hates her dad when he comes home. I really don't know how to explain this. So my 2 y.o. freaks out when her dad walks in from work or running errands and clings to me for, at the most, an hour. When he tries to approach her for a hug she freaks out and cries. He's never done anything to hurt her, so I dont get what the issue is. He has to stay away for a while and let her warm up. Sometimes if he gives her a snack she warms up quicker. Is there any logical explanation for this? ",1.8922222222222231,2.6959102592592608,3.2231481481481516,95.9991666666667,76.03703703703705,6.511111111111113,21.833333333333336,6.6274283507984215,0.09386666666666654,380,9,96,3,8,124,73,108,0.113,0.8220000000000001,0.065,-0.6402,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,7,7,1,0,6,0,7,2,0,1,1,14,13,12,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,1,0,3,0,0,4,3,4,0,0,1,2,13,3,17,11,1,20,0,1,0,1,17,7,0,3,8,61,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303880681944668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18519345251014288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21143786209278567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19385696096245053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472021562048164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23029990587477805,0.2637519079125389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757710033643667,0.21588436111500814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22218605724649065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257392063739346,0.0,0.2216247022973763,0.0,0.2409160978810196,0.0,0.0,0.2348892630782209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236792423168716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301244961236101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735691329752216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23614762648762636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14417005092565868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225759715901555,0.0,0.0,0.23986879434839534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279127156372824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383596451961124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492206533525534
parenting,scroopyty,2019/03/20,circumcision If you had your son circumcised why and would you do it again?,6.092142857142857,7.705169642857148,5.884285714285718,77.8107142857143,66.85714285714286,11.314285714285715,28.285714285714285,11.20814326018867,3.2800857142857147,61,2,12,2,1,19,13,14,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,10,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7857315166653895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6185676872571882,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Stay_spacey_,2019/03/20,"I suck Sometimes I feel like world’s worst parent. I lose my temper more then I’d like to but I apologize no matter what. I can’t get him to school on time. I forget about homework (why do 4 yr olds have hw anyways). I don’t always cook home made meals. I can’t seem to send out birthday invitations on time. I check out, I don’t play with him as much as I should or give him all the attention he deserves. I truly suck. I always make an effort to acknowledge what I do wrong and make a change but yet I still feel like I fail almost every single day. I just love my son so much and I want him to always know that and I’m really sorry for the times mommy checks out. I try not to stay gone too long  just a quick visit to the blue vines inside my mind, I’ll be back soon. ",0.529285714285713,2.2408312142857163,2.5526190476190465,95.4632142857143,82.09523809523809,5.390476190476191,15.857142857142858,6.322622252153567,-0.6126142857142853,596,9,142,5,16,200,108,168,0.16399999999999998,0.695,0.141,-0.6051,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,3,11,12,3,0,6,0,9,3,0,3,1,29,24,10,0,2,6,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,7,2,0,6,2,2,3,6,7,0,0,2,3,26,5,17,20,6,22,0,2,1,1,12,6,2,3,15,86,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564371046941726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38997597700981984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012763816775685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526568799377386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075241584152286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162658133012586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798444522287938,0.2232148187878455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162128873694344,0.14986557520076926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670674723201616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858573575894133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289714199537376,0.0,0.0,0.13825450393156458,0.0,0.17477618717828444,0.0,0.0,0.14099946283479686,0.14782418783052173,0.20856324630382675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774305189427446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22968719112768884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393220747014184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17346974471533758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10008194895223466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810837786998355,0.0,0.14222167611120468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154510849400799,0.1748814703812112,0.0,0.16651541895888733,0.12476175305511998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732887447034571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606674647616804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214574929620968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096906409436905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708078774056258,0.0,0.0
parenting,Terriere,2019/03/20,"A humbling lesson in patience from a four year old. I have a large fish tank set up in the play room for my nieces. The girls (2, 4, and 1) love to watch it. I've given them instructions before to never, ever put their hands in the fish tank or try to feed the fish without me around. I've never really had any problem with it either! They're good girls. They usually don't need reminders.  
Today they were running around playing when I heard a commotion and looked into their toy room to see that they had dumped a half a can of fish flakes into the tank.   


Of course I leaped right to action to save the poor fish. I grabbed my siphon and started draining. The four year old was cheerfully telling me about what she had done when I impatiently interrupted her and began to tell her that what she had done might have *killed* the fish. It was a bit harsh. I was mad, on the verge of losing my temper. All I could think was that I'd recently poured about $300 into that tank.  


And then she said something that stopped me in my tracks.   


""But Aunt Courtney..."" She said with wide eyes. ""YOU left it sitting there!"" It was true. I had left the can sitting right there in front of the fish tank for anyone to grab.  


In other words...I had put fish food in front of her and expected her, a barely four year old, not to be tempted.   


My anger instantly cooled. I told her that she was right, that I *had* left it sitting there. And then I calmly explained to her why it was still important not to touch without asking.  


Sometimes it's too easy to expect adult actions from a child. I was reminded of that today.  
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parenting,Des1368,2019/03/20,ADHD Parents Does anyone here have a child with ADD/ADHD? Was it hard to try teaching your child at home? I’m currently trying to teach my daughter sounds/sight words as other kids her age are working on these things. She doesn’t seem interested most of the time and when she is she gets frustrated so easily. She hasn’t been diagnosed with ADHD or ADD but I feel like she may have it. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make her want to learn or be more attentive/interested? I really need help here. For context she turned 5 last month and she is currently not in school.,3.3992105263157875,5.484268043859654,4.175298245614034,85.4324210526316,74.7017543859649,8.068771929824562,22.803508771929828,8.841846274778883,1.5685361403508775,463,13,92,10,10,148,83,114,0.03,0.855,0.116,0.8663,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,1,0,2,0,12,1,0,2,0,19,20,9,0,2,4,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,3,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,13,2,13,16,2,11,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,5,8,58,18,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6226830188300448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744710921017128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24152237783364405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529460661456292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022752176543541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873261658317989,0.12338236371361085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023260721132348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547121111539995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576228230435352,0.0,0.17323983226879128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407797675282524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843762230786454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528368256414065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378535806765734,0.0,0.0,0.12806051754435505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917713819539696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064092871475653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747893396187509,0.0,0.15722653778278206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473927364054425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10070720657032577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345142847183499,0.18785630465748307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018674334980776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257332098791784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,frustration1987,2019/03/20,"I wish I knew what parenting was really like before I made the decision to have a child. My husband and I have one child. a two year old girl, and while I can honestly say that I do love her, I really hate being a mom. I will admit this is better than when she was brand new, but I still hate it. I hate the immense responsibility, I hate that all she wants is me a lot of the time. I do my best to be a good mom, we spend a lot of time together since I am a mostly stay at home mom, not by choice and it may be changing soon, hopefully. We play, I had to her, we spend a lot of time outside I try and teach her stuff and really be present. But I hate it. I look forward to her going for her naps, I can't wait until she goes to bed at night, so I can have time away from her. 

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I wish I knew what it would actually like to be a parent before I decided to get pregnant. I miss my old life, I miss just going out, I miss being able to pick up shifts at work whenever because we didn't have to worry about child care. I miss being able to be spontaneous with my husband. 

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I hear it gets better, and it has to an extent. My friends all comment on how sad they are that their kids are growing up, but I haven't felt one pang of sadness about mine growing up. I relish each additional piece of independence she gains. 

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We are not having anymore children. In large part due to my realizing that I actually hate motherhood, I think this is the best decision, I would actually go crazy if we had another. Thankfully my husband is onboard with this.

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I'm not sure what I hope to get out of this post. I guess I'm hoping I'm not the only one who regrets having become a parent, and some reassurance that it will get much better.",3.193681318681317,4.0867997967033,4.911758241758244,84.78324175824177,73.01098901098902,8.127472527472527,25.813186813186807,8.502166056373571,1.5525307692307688,1362,43,297,23,26,464,175,364,0.14,0.669,0.191,0.9565,3,1,0,0,0,0,54.0,6,0,2,7,8,32,6,0,16,0,39,2,0,4,3,61,78,16,0,10,9,9,1,2,1,5,1,2,2,6,21,19,0,1,9,2,2,6,7,13,0,4,9,4,61,19,39,56,14,35,0,7,1,1,41,12,0,11,19,215,82,2,0.1316707099210894,0.0,0.19273742873209668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853303183761177,0.3199886492630263,0.0,0.06903410996647598,0.0,0.0,0.0652909816332623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061854483152793176,0.0,0.0,0.04013262132227573,0.07270997713277512,0.11204207613681774,0.0,0.13818028662493653,0.1746780642276872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712353207867687,0.0,0.06964507609171378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632122651244594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050864231930857776,0.0,0.1375850228512605,0.0,0.11224724820128397,0.055219572203645234,0.0,0.0,0.07252506583258768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899926985274086,0.0,0.0,0.07420122980838971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603822891216161,0.19616808698314425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046501458191387325,0.0643276579229867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0552851171090143,0.0,0.0,0.16791259347864734,0.05941897823576148,0.062295004695955586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23131671612317706,0.0,0.0,0.04839656100902972,0.0,0.0,0.0635841960669574,0.0,0.06178202082121718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816626066471532,0.0,0.1338352210609302,0.05007075410220828,0.0,0.0,0.21930711178411685,0.07129327381376367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305207147921149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652744259500476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05235491670228575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05445968594714888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701717287152322,0.05257619951448591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536573045914986,0.0,0.0,0.06204904292089096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606123495887758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042184637143595334,0.0,0.0,0.15355649964557475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446978844720117,0.0,0.06431157554522847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038831398090959285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141481826157002,0.0,0.0,0.047928922506569785,0.06685899868661195,0.0,0.09353509451071727,0.0,0.3199886492630263,0.04239581009769112
parenting,kbg2387,2019/03/20,"Student Teacher requesting permission to use kids' image and samples of work My son is in PreK in a public school in New York City. We got a note home yesterday that the class has a student teacher until the beginning of May and she's asking for permission to possibly use the children's photos and/or samples of their work in her portfolio. I'm a little uneasy about this but I'm hesitant to make waves. I'm thinking of asking that images showing his face not be used and that I give permission on specific pieces of work to be used and have the purpose explained to me. I just don't want to have something he draws or paints being put up and discussed in an early childhood class at her school as an example of lack of development in a certain area or something, you know what I mean?   
I don't know, do you think this is unreasonable? The permission form also states that by signing I would be giving her permission to use images and work as a sample of her experience to potential employers, with no end date. I know the Dept. of Ed. is very stringent in background checks, but who knows who would eventually see his picture if she applies for work in other places. And if she's sending digital copies of this ""portfolio"" there could be any number of copies of his photo floating around the internet, eventually. As I'm writing this I know it sounds more than a little nuts and paranoid but there are weirdos everywhere and the permission form is just more vague than I feel comfortable with. I don't want to make things difficult for her or be a pain in the ass but my gut tells me not to sign this form without some major caveats. Does anyone else have experience with something like this?",7.311296296296297,7.200018895061731,7.236172839506175,75.24277777777779,63.7530864197531,10.656790123456787,35.592592592592595,10.25414643259724,3.585618518518517,1358,57,248,28,18,434,170,324,0.107,0.848,0.045,-0.9542,1,0,3,0,0,0,22.0,1,2,1,5,7,5,0,0,19,0,23,4,3,7,1,57,53,23,0,8,14,1,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,2,16,14,0,0,10,1,3,2,7,2,0,0,1,6,28,3,50,42,9,28,0,0,1,1,32,17,1,7,9,170,44,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846390334447562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197382911340551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400476038177621,0.10844408043284004,0.0,0.0942187299278045,0.19788947502546955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845034532888099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262001000697176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0884145101198191,0.0,0.09374152220062762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20706078046930426,0.0,0.0,0.05351514038084548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030599223565549,0.0,0.0,0.084648740216795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616467418569027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908304382525692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051707359184376384,0.21215602177938025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129607998418006,0.0,0.0,0.11528918576600225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221951088037774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126196570828355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057873627709536,0.0,0.0,0.11931703897531472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063969544954886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21422848370073785,0.08433960469417216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24443901140156796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250753941375613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031441581778512,0.13563411168849807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570525360466268,0.0,0.08732787077563578,0.12485261323361513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202456514974764,0.0,0.3852585484045368,0.0,0.0,0.15036930876608218,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DarkMutton,2019/03/20,"My Step-Daughter, 8, misbehaves, and can't take anyone telling her no So my 8 year old step daughter does things and I don't know why, like she will walk up to me or my wife and pinch us, spank us, when she gets embarrassed (I.e. Makes a silly mistake and we chuckle at her) she will hit me repeatedly or try to scratch me. Today she took it way too far, I was talking to my wife at the computer and she took a pencil out of the jar and jabbed my butt with it. I turned around and told her very firmly ""No! That is not funny! That is mean and you should NEVER do that to anyone! Would you like me to do that to you? (then of course she shakes her head no) Then don't you dare do it to me!"" to which she starts bawling her eyes out and runs into her room. What can I do to get her to stop making violence her first response to a situation? And how can I get her to stop crying at the drop of a hat? ",0.9633099664736342,2.461963746113991,2.5941237427613517,96.68482170070101,79.93264248704664,5.784699786650412,19.12496190185919,6.522977012572876,-0.2305706187138065,685,15,169,6,17,225,105,193,0.158,0.823,0.019,-0.9775,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,3,4,0,1,5,7,0,2,7,0,16,3,3,3,1,30,30,17,0,3,3,3,1,2,0,4,0,0,1,0,10,16,0,2,2,0,0,6,8,3,0,1,4,2,38,4,24,21,0,30,0,0,1,1,29,10,1,2,14,119,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22370763810736566,0.0,0.0,0.14240603867163698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757180811368301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998966805142513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606927571262634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507310952372913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417401450327102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791460183855099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630523139636449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21356066936792695,0.0,0.0,0.17425278667198255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337770616256062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16786021784147406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981149639889976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322665358097615,0.0,0.0,0.2674819553167425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027653744285326,0.12857676380052022,0.13981967540071588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062760814733305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15163160201482195,0.15285692705280773,0.3554621743443304,0.10860823168301938,0.17399998540693887,0.0,0.0,0.3848452462106831,0.0,0.0,0.13199091255333262,0.0,0.1269756905981568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434685028016495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363715906369255,0.0,0.0,0.1030145837967462
parenting,Phoen1xAshes,2019/03/20,"My 10 year old daughter is struggling in school and I am unsure how to help her. As the title states, my 10 year old daughter is struggling in school. We have her enrolled in the 504 program currently. She also has a nanny/tutor for her homework. Her homework grades are great, but she fails her in class assignments. The teacher is helping her everyway she can (reduced workload, more 1 on 1 attention, rewards for good work) and she still does not do well. This is her second time through fourth grade, but she still acts like she doesn't know anything she is being taught.

On top of this, we went to Wal-Mart for shopping for groceries. I caught her stealing from the store. My wife took her back up there and made her speak to the manager of the store.

I am do not understand. I am lost on what to do. ",3.07714285714286,5.155146382165611,3.289303912647864,91.45377388535034,75.62420382165604,6.014376706096451,26.50090991810737,6.868970318607317,1.0770349408553228,630,24,127,6,14,193,95,157,0.094,0.77,0.136,0.8029999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,5,7,10,0,2,7,0,17,0,0,2,0,14,25,8,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,5,0,0,3,1,3,4,3,5,1,1,6,1,26,5,21,18,1,23,0,2,0,0,25,9,0,0,10,90,29,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373155082807088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479040553281821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13820275165550722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728461366117194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15075060647997934,0.0,0.1981550753987172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24094103367211314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877596238225726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780793709849433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19619862124015588,0.0,0.0,0.17006668765841204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771968300200228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637965952665404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870682856430362,0.0,0.0,0.3757896518081299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480312743614936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19968877539723187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871072664466739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160058027315466,0.16661328973131634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084697775547707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23148292641119245
parenting,throwawayyyyyy2419,2019/03/20,"How do you react? Just fair warning, this is a throwaway account used rarely, because... reasons. 

How do you react when you pick your kids (s11 and s7) up from their dad and stepmom and your oldest is trying not to cry? When you ask him what’s wrong and he tells you that ‘Daddy didn’t say goodbye or get out of the car. Brother and I were arguing and when he saw your car he yelled at us ‘just go!’. And it feels like he doesn’t care about me.’. When you minimally probe and find out that the reason their step mom has been the one to make to drop off the last 3 times is because when daddy gets home, he goes to his room or office and they don’t see him again until the next morning. That he usually eats dinner in one of his rooms. That stepmom is the one who puts them to bed and tucks them in at night. Who signs their school stuff. But Daddy is the one to take them to theme parks or arcades most weekends he has them? That he’s the one on their scout board. I just.., don’t know. I’ve been telling them that their dad loves them. That he shows love a different way. But fuck if it doesn’t undermine my effort to make time for them, even if it’s going for a hike instead of to an arcade. I’m sorry; I’m frustrated. I got my oldest an hedgehog a few months ago and he died last night. I texted dad and step mom separately, as oldest was sobbing crying, and stepmom was the only one who responded. They deserve better than that. Am I missing something vital? Am I overlooking or overreacting? Why did he ask for 50/50 custody if he’s not going to spend his time with them with them? ",2.41405698005698,3.99415036923077,3.3007521367521377,92.83709971509974,76.07692307692308,6.045584045584046,21.883190883190885,6.605766666666668,0.2732849002849003,1230,32,272,10,27,391,171,325,0.099,0.831,0.069,-0.848,1,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,1,9,16,2,14,12,3,0,15,0,22,5,0,10,0,46,44,31,1,3,14,6,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,1,17,17,2,0,5,2,2,7,7,6,0,6,9,5,39,6,32,35,2,42,0,2,2,3,62,11,2,8,23,170,56,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966213979902593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037994641148935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289005408007148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640111808053066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111132160248771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394614615677162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312417606843572,0.11388118136587942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153360547677274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199308057346457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055113375434675815,0.07786919840799653,0.0,0.0,0.09962348365022584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076819572537628,0.11389538313787807,0.0,0.18584062531106535,0.0,0.08717678336335624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933529286583443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990322371267565,0.17769812993588807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325160467081904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19675244155432547,0.0,0.14551590163450984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25531757709342034,0.08700228705192715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592210631490413,0.20457711999865172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44316491618586384,0.0828989610102935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957451025046418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22413908921485864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668070366067315,0.0,0.11031321946439372,0.08685841547723545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839130690267083,0.0,0.12201591264368356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12477824356493583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195398920257453,0.0,0.1905405727786624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19067529297158467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400344269878853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111286632938618,0.09414049120769764,0.12004744790356554,0.0,0.0,0.08651865606968481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09835501138288882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917374095121387,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sotaredditor,2019/03/20,"Ever tried to get a YouTube video of your minor child taken down? I filed a complaint and was surprised when YouTube refused to take the video down.  There doesn’t seem to be an appeal process.  Have any of you had any experience with this?  Or do any of you know what our legal rights are as parents?  I (perhaps naively) assumes that if they didn’t have my consent to show images and video of my son on their site, they would need to remove it.",3.4816233766233746,5.097800409090913,3.526493506493509,92.17045454545458,73.31818181818181,5.483116883116884,26.20779220779221,5.288315135182226,0.5400110389610391,348,12,72,1,7,106,67,88,0.05,0.883,0.067,-0.163,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,3,3,0,3,1,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,1,12,16,6,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,11,1,14,10,0,8,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,4,2,50,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6046558117576899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680971659817118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899213641034621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484890951421434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288542367103126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197656934275172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291004248836501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25311113764980603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26981773745427073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228446054392858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20122593359790064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105433729069712,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heathersmithx,2019/03/20,"Little miss Attitude (9) getting into trouble at school My daughter has been acting out lately. I only have her on the weekends, so it's really hard for me to put any kind of plans in place for corrective action. I've been mostly relying on her dad to do most of that, we have relatively few conversations about how to handle her new attitude. We will follow through with our plans, and it works for maybe a month after, then she just picks it back up. It's getting worse. Now she's slamming doors, throwing devices (remotes, PS paddles, phones) 

I've been taking away Minecraft. That helps temporarily. At her dad's she's been grounded from the iPad for over a month. It's not making a long term difference. 

At school this month, her teacher took her mints away because she had them out and was sharing them with everyone in class. She wrote a note on her math homework that said, ""don't take my mints, ever again!"" She also ""took scissors to a tablet"" whatever that means... Very concerning to me..  this year, she also got into a fight with some kids, and just hasn't been listening to anyone in general. 

Right now I'm in school for computer science, and working full time I can only take 2 classes at a time. This semester I'm taking an extra one and so I haven't been able to spend that much time with her. I try to do something she wants to do at least 4 hours out of the weekend, like go to the park. 

Her dad isn't having the greatest year either, and he's been really stressed out and impatient with her. I've had a conversation with him about it and so he agreed to let me have her every weekend. I feel like it's my fault for not providing her with more structure, and attention. I also feel like not attending a church regularly, and not teaching her morals on a weekly basis might be having an effect (I don't know!) 

My new idea is to ground her from all screen devices, and I'm going to go buy 10 books from the thrift store that all have to do with morals, behavior, and following the rules. I'm going to tell her that she has to read them all and write what she learns in a journal. When she's done, she can have her screens back. Not sure if that will work. 

I have a meeting set up with her teacher in two weeks. Not sure what to do there either, but I want to be prepared and have a plan in place. Any help would be greatly appreciated. ",4.1645680687471724,5.197970948827297,4.79707695289785,85.9832577372876,70.85501066098081,7.902332493377268,26.79207856819797,8.199878495009871,1.5491557924662405,1841,59,381,26,33,590,225,469,0.042,0.905,0.053,0.8266,0,0,1,0,1,0,63.0,3,0,3,7,19,13,1,1,22,0,43,0,0,4,7,71,73,25,0,4,12,4,3,3,0,4,0,2,2,1,20,31,0,0,8,5,4,13,11,5,0,2,16,9,52,8,70,49,16,76,3,1,2,0,56,34,0,5,31,264,72,15,0.0927199970715009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244444447780096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610555502559775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483197779970584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422697880867427,0.14259190896825125,0.0,0.05652124961888826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968726624943111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488474869954168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387054567118431,0.07812059651342222,0.08859793063000111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376403288709204,0.13247836886842332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688474318621423,0.0,0.21077964427561988,0.0,0.07415665179100743,0.10222412410167414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305890531261984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429651916674145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131052009431287,0.0,0.0,0.104669590776892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965536088124032,0.05095648555308986,0.0,0.10459219529545613,0.0,0.0,0.09481247897760756,0.0,0.13589492130353867,0.09292979548287107,0.0,0.0820542796801268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189131802780359,0.0,0.0931496994729702,0.10099925860942602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983612644732242,0.0,0.0,0.22202465118630346,0.0,0.06815986634715067,0.0,0.0,0.17909910189305528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628294696280339,0.14103547179192372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937453249886222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09320920649189014,0.0,0.0,0.09274508841951072,0.0,0.11879760871043765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07918237088560484,0.08819794988068162,0.0,0.0,0.28151276136226155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07138038363484771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621044337723458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477499988759362,0.0,0.27885559460703296,0.0,0.08104136423979195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621973277805711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060306567151408,0.06295079171109433,0.0,0.09057396439634624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650370800762414,0.10937731313011946,0.0,0.1487487777335014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025037864736642,0.0,0.0944895983068179,0.06586562565291675,0.0,0.0,0.11941727633906285
parenting,ObviousElevator4,2019/03/20,"Babysitter or Nanny Service Hi my wife and I are trying to find a new nanny. We also are looking for the occasional sitter for date nights. What has been the best service you have used from the below? 

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Peyper - launch.peyper.io  
care.com 

Sittercity

Bambino ",4.928000000000001,8.477510133333336,4.641666666666668,75.14250000000001,81.0,5.666666666666668,29.722222222222214,7.1686216300943375,2.443888888888889,216,10,29,3,6,66,39,45,0.0,0.909,0.091,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,5,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,5,6,1,4,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,3,23,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361454917753453,0.0,0.3199495526730421,0.3588129918153329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098915050142226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010706213715118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698922081477296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479715242204196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28519556147386,0.0,0.2771122261031975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20048438208238398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25503811066638843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588129918153329,0.0
parenting,steppedonarock,2019/03/20,"Resources for bipolar parents? Crossposted to/r/bipolar

Aka how do I screw up my kid as little as possible? Looking for books, websites, etc. I'm a single mom to a 5 year old daughter. Most of the stuff I see is for children of bipolar parents which she might need in 20 years but it's no help right now. There's enough worry that she may inherit bipolar or depression from me. I just want to be a decent mom.",0.9357831325301192,3.374610108433739,2.7168795180722927,90.36712650602414,86.4698795180723,5.247710843373494,26.37228915662651,6.742157984588678,1.2678202409638564,321,15,64,4,10,106,65,83,0.159,0.7809999999999999,0.06,-0.8504,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,4,0,5,4,0,1,0,9,10,5,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,7,0,12,7,4,8,0,1,2,1,10,4,1,4,4,43,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092895632012886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050570121233249,0.221329726742854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302016871006825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198903994354675,0.0,0.0,0.1666521745605892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052933875343588,0.0,0.4648560742321545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471518296785354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824508470585876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4407214694370383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237281359983453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947944165575107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814289988346286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22718343607011476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705387039925648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015406334058522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555969604299164
parenting,somnolenta,2019/03/20,"Parents of reddit: do you know when your children lie?(adult children in particular) I've been skipping class a lot, ignoring my school duties, while pretending that I was studying and actually going and stuff. Do you think my mom suspects/knows? I've read about similar situations on the internet and in the comments there would be parents saying things like ""I waited for my child to admit it."" Is that a thing? Do parents instinctively know what's up?",5.637936507936505,8.210486197530866,5.82162257495591,73.93444444444447,69.74074074074075,8.579188712522045,33.79365079365079,9.23628265651192,3.5115947089947093,366,18,58,8,7,116,62,81,0.034,0.882,0.084,0.4515,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,12,14,5,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,7,3,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,8,1,8,10,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,3,42,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.19387628081341055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11291049774796895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275566101494965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706163836668233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890475990848894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326835265311635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6618088785609316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987268577687336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15799281850922695,0.0,0.20106777778632454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233168817412716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274331605178149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639791514292821,0.12730169657236168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113166577371292,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhateverYouSay1084,2019/03/20,"9 month old barely rolls over, no interest in crawling My now 3 year old son was pretty early in all his developmental milestones, so this is all new to me and I'm not sure how concerned to be. 9 month old boy is the easiest, happiest baby I have ever encountered. He slept through the night from day 1, never stops smiling at everyone, and rarely cries even if he's hungry.  He also seems to have almost zero interest in crawling and has just now started rolling over from belly to back with LOTS of prompting. He is so easygoing he will just lay on his belly sucking his fingers or raise up and scooch himself backward with his arms like a crawdad. He is normal in all other respects - great social skills, good at eating, grins and belly laughs and babbles all day, excellent eye contact, recognizes people he knows vs strangers, loves peekaboo, sits up well and plays with toys, all that jazz. It's just his gross motor skills severely lacking. I can't tell if it's because he is so easygoing that he is content to stay wherever you put him, or if there is something else going on. He failed his gross motor portion of his Easter Seals assessment at daycare, so we are in contact with them to see if he needs intervention. Until we hear back, though, I was just curious if anyone else had experienced this and what ended up happening. Thanks all!",7.459142857142857,7.270170513725487,7.4320028011204515,74.2204411764706,63.470588235294116,10.266106442577033,35.46918767507003,9.784248007369934,3.42650700280112,1071,44,189,19,14,344,161,255,0.064,0.732,0.204,0.9898,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,2,1,1,4,19,18,1,0,3,0,17,6,4,1,9,45,30,23,0,8,13,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,14,1,1,2,3,0,2,4,4,1,1,4,5,18,14,31,24,9,41,0,1,2,1,32,16,1,10,22,123,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853119188095595,0.0,0.0,0.11063337499267784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673310378602352,0.14174942846072655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275547033111875,0.0,0.08433301113211554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196401449227254,0.1784404317466481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156010180581602,0.2311367522707899,0.0,0.1225314202669336,0.0,0.0,0.09137468274004952,0.12513976087642828,0.0,0.13219329580436914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786238901606792,0.11603609841393245,0.0,0.15252437364647942,0.0,0.0,0.1223368417316203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559233594336457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603005758680424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758772431232925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176148325933654,0.12486055452934101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22084917921844635,0.0,0.0,0.10258007101141063,0.1066991592783844,0.13361316898991105,0.0,0.1298261533389629,0.13554741374902346,0.0,0.0,0.4355051980713536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591007481588512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074523775624329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907358916688511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024198567856694,0.1259428723224535,0.0,0.1562889579456956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102393943496627,0.0,0.10650370839785217,0.0,0.0,0.09792035466340274,0.14745593444744112,0.0,0.11566149445520894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038726240591067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091845666328413,0.12736825515498254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359219436303937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438756482757288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908878132361425
parenting,MacMuffington,2019/03/20,"Oh no So if he tries to crawl and in the process he falls back and hits his head, am I going to jail? He seems ok but it probably hurt a lot it was like 1/9m off the ground so ",-1.2650000000000006,0.0008879761904783123,1.1478571428571414,105.53464285714287,85.90476190476191,5.152380952380953,15.261904761904766,5.985473137389443,-1.155352380952381,133,2,40,1,4,45,35,42,0.135,0.76,0.105,-0.3291,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,1,2,1,1,0,0,6,5,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,4,3,1,6,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,3,2,22,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009742572663998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22245037373353246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017050907751724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190182467543952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122577758936368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327673486205299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4220119683623965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35632985037944004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26574534160696306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ariasmommy,2019/03/20,"I’m more messed up than I think. Want to be better for my daughter. I grew up in an abusive household. I’ll spare you all of the details but my dad came out as gay when i was 6. My mom already had her fair share of mental problems because she was raised in a cult. They got divorced. Mom moved us across the country in with a new guy (my now ex step dad). And there shit went down often and it was a very abusive, toxic house. My childhood was spent crying my self to sleep and constantly living in fear. I had to be careful about what I said, what I did, everything. 

I’ve been to therapy throughout the years. At 16, I moved out and moved myself across the country to get away from the toxic environment. Best decision I ever made. 

So it’s been 10 years, have a 2 year old of my own now and my mental problems seem like they are slowly creeping up more and more. I get frustrated and irritated very easily. To the point I was to punch something. And I know this is my mom coming out of me. I channel it well sometimes, sometimes not. If I don’t fully give into it, it’s still there and it ruins my day. I can’t think rationally and I literally have to go sit in a room by myself and talk myself down. Yesterday, I cried for 2 hours out of frustration just because I had no other way of channeling it. 

It’s hard for me to be honest and actually open up to people about my feelings and thoughts. It’s like there is a barrier there that I can’t get past. 

In the past when my husband and I have argued I’ve hit him and pushed him and said terrible things. We have moved past this though and I’ve worked really hard on my anger issues. 

How can I get past this mental barrier for my daughter? I am trying so hard. I’ve done therapy, medication etc but it’s still there. It makes me want to crawl out of my skin because I don’t want to be that person and I don’t want to feel that way. My husband says I just have to stop being frustrated but it’s like little things trigger it and I can’t shut it off even though I try hard. 

Thanks for listening. Any advice is appreciated. Just trying to work through this 


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parenting,halibee,2019/03/20,"Should I go back on my word? So I’m actually not the mom in this situation, but I’m a 19 year old sister with younger sisters that are 8 and 9. I think I messed up. Since my mom isn’t very tech savvy, my mom leaves the kid’s electronic devices to me. She trusts that I know what games are safe and what restrictions should be put Into place. 

I began playing a phone app based on a Nintendo game that I had been fond of as a teenager. I was really excited that they had a free mobile version. Naively I told my sisters that they could play a new game on their iPad. Now I want to go back on my word due to the nature of the game. 

Specifically the game is Fire Emblem Heroes. In the Nintendo DS version, it is drawn in an anime style, but nothing is too sexy. Apparently the iPad version has a LOT of sexy women in swimsuits, lingerie, playboy bunny costumes, etc. I realized this after I told them they could play it. They haven’t started it yet, but tell me how excited they are to play it when it’s the weekend. I really don’t think this game is appropriate for children anymore. 

So how do I go about fixing my mistake? Should I just come clean to them and deal with them crying about it? Should I just let them play it even with the sexy girl figures and hope that it flies over their heads? Please help! ",3.298609022556392,4.5434902518797005,4.324819548872181,87.74452255639099,73.17293233082707,7.4252631578947375,25.706015037593986,7.908726449838941,1.2840231578947372,1021,33,219,14,20,332,144,266,0.083,0.7170000000000001,0.2,0.9878,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,11,1,15,15,0,0,17,0,24,1,1,2,0,36,39,13,0,9,6,6,1,0,0,4,0,0,1,4,19,9,0,2,5,14,1,5,4,2,0,0,7,1,35,14,27,24,5,30,0,0,0,0,34,12,0,2,13,145,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.13755509029455598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397928819492645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167766575243984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142320270106788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250876665650861,0.0,0.15483621208119774,0.0,0.1453219477591452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720590568538872,0.09310171097322456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403297656798893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466401159966974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448146168266416,0.0,0.0,0.14000352238476796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746706455727861,0.0,0.0,0.14925462036132844,0.0,0.14413954082727307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11983781307808852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952664147635532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613852621414385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525341143246464,0.0,0.14791215634468316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727155371544678,0.1547300227450621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170215112494405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806031543057184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660226662491074,0.15844317676891642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977109944341267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320387733241565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18064093547899468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693836333985325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630546382409306,0.08314093177133224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907726048509993
parenting,shepardsguide,2019/03/20,"Will my son be tormented in school if I name him Woody? I know this may seem ridiculous, but I don't want to set my child up for lifelong torture. I love the name Woody. Do you parents think kids will just fixate on the concept of  'a woody' and torture my poor kiddo? Should I just move on from this name? I feel like all names can be manipulated for bullying in some way, so maybe I'm just giving my families feedback too much credit? ",4.1010606060606065,4.899487590909093,4.745909090909091,87.159696969697,70.81818181818181,7.684848484848485,27.166666666666664,7.793537801064563,1.3654484848484851,340,11,73,4,6,109,64,88,0.246,0.615,0.139,-0.92,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,5,6,3,0,3,0,9,1,0,1,1,20,17,4,0,3,5,2,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,12,3,10,11,3,8,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,4,1,47,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28315832769291344,0.0,0.15187407178996554,0.2145815264619476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881384315370549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16507329530873224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467436528233105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710920370762844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017580133739989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192415169770349,0.22080356648624236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335208909347589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039864221739644,0.0,0.27344192040336684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924624010060545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17716364575018326,0.2384165455202979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jt47000,2019/03/20,"Realling struggling w our 2 year old, can’t figure him out When it comes to kids my wife and I haven’t had it easy...

I’ll cut to the chase. We have a 2 month old and a 2 year old. The 2 year old is out of control. I grew up in a well structured family and so did my wife. We believe in boundaries for the child and telling them no and take the more conservative approach.

Recently our two year old has been really bad, he won’t stop getting in his brothers face while sleeping, demands everything, only will eat what he wants and on his terms, he throws temper tantrums when he doesn’t get what he wants and he has been physically hitting us and his brother. 

We tell him no and explain why he can’t do it but he still does it and laughs.

We’ve been doing time outs where I take him into the laundry room and pin him down for 5 minutes because if I don’t he’ll kick the door and break stuff. At the end of 5 , I tell him why we went to time out and get an apology and then we hug but literally as soon as he’s out, he does it again... 

I know he’s 2 but he just doesn’t understand... I’m at my wits end. 

To top it off, the daily (I mean hourly) temper tantrums are out of control, in public, at home, anywhere. We want to do nice things like take him to the park and stuff but as soon as it’s time to leave.... he freaks out, kicks and screams and causes a scene. 99% of the time. 

I used to think kids will finally stop crying, that’s not the case here. He does not get tired of crying, not one bit.

My wife and I are desperately seeking help because it’s literally taking a MASSIVE toll on us. Everyone we know constantly tells us how easy their kids are.... I wish ours was.

Would like to know What has worked for you? Any advice is GREATLY appreciated.",1.7840164796633928,3.2768948315217408,3.180438288920058,93.40390252454418,77.58695652173913,6.3788218793828895,22.74053295932679,7.1029339738359605,0.4915105890603084,1350,40,317,15,31,441,181,368,0.104,0.779,0.117,0.8765,0,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,13,1,2,4,12,16,5,1,17,0,28,5,2,5,0,64,53,33,0,6,9,5,0,2,0,5,1,1,3,4,15,34,1,5,8,0,0,5,12,9,1,2,7,1,39,7,41,40,3,60,0,0,0,1,57,23,0,1,33,185,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956093483377015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055367176364397086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679808064920359,0.09926357313442273,0.0,0.0,0.09173044441040308,0.0,0.0,0.08888760078126026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083638931787809,0.0,0.07013458069976376,0.0,0.08798416322741195,0.18263489661913207,0.0,0.0,0.17886816637820402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137488789507695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331115733852162,0.0,0.0,0.14422473991681767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779859102505286,0.073173439405917,0.0,0.07675384459171328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918967196591905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701506222123704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897638665748631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054572911532633855,0.0,0.08166910544728892,0.0,0.08018053873931921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423596075312094,0.0,0.0,0.08621013104320076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955365194722884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868830184310803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498724034258715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4271735893497816,0.0,0.05517108782512802,0.06192221935627119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05215859167983753,0.0,0.08039066235388269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147701163415917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502068957478496,0.13613854242326584,0.0,0.08511599336339183,0.18640874806522095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448654523374868,0.0,0.2846524250745399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409064252241859,0.05216950296650735,0.0,0.0,0.18990245753488866,0.0935782580220611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07953376296130939,0.08475923044974566,0.29380825418075895,0.0703191943038507,0.0,0.0,0.1440677133955742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320475085925464,0.07547549856569412,0.1469345457510271,0.0,0.09362692611982616,0.0,0.0,0.05927342829515414,0.0,0.0,0.0578371620684933,0.0,0.0,0.20972263747393927
parenting,RedSky_87,2019/03/20,"My child talks so much he barely takes a breath I love my son more than anything. He is sweet, kind, and funny. I am grateful that he is able to speak so we'll or at all. He functions and is healthy and I am so happy for it. But at nearly 5 years old, he doesn't stop talking. From the moment he wakes up until the moment he is passed out at bed time, not a second goes by in the day where he isn't filling the air with words. He talks non stop for the past year and more and it makes me on edge having no quiet time in the day. I get snappy, I feel rude or mean trying to drown him out in my mind or ignore him. I hide from him in the closet just for a few moments of peace. You would think it would be as simple as having quiet time where no one talks but it isn't. He will try to stay quiet for a few minutes but then falls back into the nonstop chatter and commentary on every possible thing imaginable. When I try to remind him it's quite time he gets upset and offeneded and I feel like a horrible parent. But I just can't handle the nonstop noise. I've always been sensitive to lots of talking and excess noise but this is taking me to a point where I feel like I can't be the parent I want to be. Any suggestions?? Thanks 💙",1.8937824675324682,3.115577912878788,3.481796536796537,92.49090909090911,76.68939393939394,6.089177489177487,19.768398268398272,6.42735559955562,-0.026769264069264054,955,19,218,7,21,317,143,264,0.071,0.8059999999999999,0.123,0.8965,2,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,1,0,1,10,10,1,1,16,0,22,3,2,1,1,41,35,25,1,3,11,3,3,2,0,4,0,4,2,1,8,13,0,3,6,0,0,3,8,3,0,2,1,8,23,7,35,27,7,42,0,0,0,1,29,19,0,4,21,143,31,0,0.121725478319978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128534918698012,0.0,0.0,0.08277749940209696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100169696974419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359937916269706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700572683763298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255896546141248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464417783992074,0.17392141206738582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719307677669295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957903514768862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675835404898134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893784023147147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348664872334763,0.1098619966637541,0.0,0.08125270199241519,0.0,0.0,0.13259473093722055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290803306991288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948223247822829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773041306737482,0.0,0.08248433438975689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703234768703741,0.0,0.11620074258138655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506992216403665,0.13722718721657529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12947002967858826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297431637988499,0.0,0.20353590076323108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18304482154786544,0.4891916429721498,0.0,0.11206846610325336,0.0,0.0,0.08086899898217885,0.07799677144805005,0.0,0.0,0.2839164211949815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24793082852704926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179684091151732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294057464784435,0.0,0.0,0.15677443422298545
parenting,TheIndigenousOne,2019/03/20,"9 year old (F) is obsessed with knives and cutting herself My 9 year old stepdaughter has a fascination with knives and suicide. She talks about death and suicide all the time, talks about how her life is horrible and not worth living when I ask her to do even the most basic tasks like cleaning the room or homework. If I leave her alone for even a few minutes she'll organize the knives and play with them, cutting herself on purpose many times. She seems to enjoy it, and she loves the attention she gets when I have to clean her wounds and bandage her. This is absolute insanity I don't know what to do. My wife (their mother) is hardly involved in their lives at all. It's me doing everything and I'm very young and have no idea what to do about this situation. 

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I can't tell if she's serious or just trying to get a reaction from me. She loves blood and gets excited when she cuts herself. I've tried hiding the knives but she just finds other sharp things like scissors to play with. This is such a ridiculous situation I don't know what to do. She doesn't seem to be depressed or SERIOUSLY suicidal, she just loves knives and blood. Please help me reddit!",3.7859664444955214,5.70025566375546,4.156814525396463,86.72734313950819,73.14847161572052,7.441139967823489,26.463111928292346,8.20500826718156,1.6207240174672486,933,33,186,15,19,292,125,229,0.172,0.693,0.135,-0.6539,0,1,0,0,0,2,25.0,0,0,3,0,13,17,4,1,10,0,19,7,2,1,2,36,31,21,4,2,10,2,2,2,0,1,2,0,4,0,10,15,0,0,7,2,1,0,6,8,0,0,0,2,33,9,21,29,4,14,0,1,0,3,33,4,0,8,12,125,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893291084043973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488362335948478,0.15126758590585496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638027550858172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072220691735322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444743048250302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188255659741717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378055898912125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951208673630616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115175627854054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834422559989987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053276547832425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683163907836635,0.0,0.0,0.13181572362897162,0.0,0.0,0.0879301604968021,0.12163793363794408,0.0,0.2198518810069849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370681584643844,0.0,0.0,0.1262121605865985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612602259802159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13665138047915415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22665995787841786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798613798260563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4085118089953006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001188536407881,0.1088087471272362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270486425865327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518090597923786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16903952298938654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271634364726312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126758590585496,0.16033348334751246
parenting,mrsslipdrive,2019/03/20,"cleaning room help stubborn son  My three sons share a room (20x25) they are ages 9, 7 1/2 and 4. The room is constantly a mess. I will go in and help the 4 year old stuff. The oldest cleans no problem but the middle boys whines, complains, doesn't clean, or puts things away wrong. I have tried timers. Taking things away spanking. Letting older extra PlayStation time etc. I don't know what else to do to light a fire up his rear to get him to clean. Its a huge battle. I have purged pretty much everything they don't play with at the point. I'm so fed up. Any ideas on what else I can do to get him to do his part. they also have an older sister so child in question is number 3 but middle boy if that matters. ",0.8182397959183696,3.0182532857142874,1.7999277210884372,98.52193239795919,84.17006802721089,4.21921768707483,16.670493197278912,5.148860815047168,-0.8634078231292519,551,11,124,2,16,172,100,147,0.207,0.6990000000000001,0.095,-0.9582,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,3,0,3,9,2,0,10,0,15,1,0,0,0,13,22,9,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,3,7,3,1,1,3,1,0,2,4,7,0,1,1,2,13,2,15,19,4,25,0,1,0,0,18,15,0,3,8,75,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491262954515666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123228212926899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405033067399382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582236105062428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027534372724725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209573700347574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628588048695243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18934826083268566,0.0,0.10298514954468002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429209074388909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456270331006526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958762959281216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18529829784593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320933438008709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19014817616378124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962314956374036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130090872921916,0.0,0.0,0.18435451779867829,0.0,0.1733923699406622,0.0,0.18216491639878085,0.20299535231216767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074407474460691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624648248492022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240774178919173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566432139520522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302889533005855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19812340030254327,0.0,0.1166925402522776
parenting,skyamese,2019/03/20,"How do you discipline a depressed teen? Our 15 year old daughter “Emily” was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety around this time last year. She has made some improvement thanks to meds and therapy, but lately she’s been resisting everything meant to help her. She stopped speaking to her therapist (who has since left the practice for unrelated reasons). There have been several days when she has refused to get up to go to school, and her school system doesn’t take kindly to so many absences. Her grades are abysmal because she is not doing the homework. She is failing 3 of her classes and is in danger of not getting promoted to 10th grade.  

Now here’s the problem. We worked out a schedule where she rides home on the school bus with her boyfriend Ken every other day and my husband picks her up after work. But this works on the honor system. There is nothing to stop her from getting on Ken’s bus if we don’t want her to. The school says they are unable to control which bus she gets on.  Yesterday, Ellen was supposed to come directly home so she could work with the tutor we hired to help her with geometry. She went to Ken’s house instead.  We’ve responded by forbidding her to visit Ken for the rest of the week. Now this morning she has completely shut down and won’t respond to us at all and won’t leave her bed to go to school.

We are really at a loss for what to do with her. The standard parenting practices of offering incentives for good behavior and taking away privileges for bad behavior simply don’t work with her. No incentive we offer really motivates her and taking away any of the few things she enjoys sends her into a downward spiral.

Does anyone have advice on how to deal with with this situation? It’s especially frustrating that we are between therapists right now, because I really feel like professional help is needed. Has anyone had success working with one of those online counselors? Is there a useful subreddit for parents of depressed teens?
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parenting,TrashyNash,2019/03/20,"I’m convinced the tween age is just Advanced Toddler My 12 year old has blown past me in heigh (2 inches) recently and with that has come a slew of attitude and disrespect. My husband and I are evolving our punishments because taking things away has done zero except him have complete meltdown at 6am (like today...) so we are dipping our toes in switching it up to earn things via chores. 

Background, he’s 12 with severe ADHD and anxiety. 

As far as earning things, how has that worked for y’all? We are thinking along the lines of his normal chores earning him TV time (he’s a huge basketball fan), outside time, a set amount of time playing with his toys, etc.  This would be especially beneficial because he tends to take over the TV and then have a fit when someone else wants to watching something. It’s also like pulling teeth to get him to do the chores, even though we literally pay him via allowance to do them. 

Is this going to be a turning point or am I just blissfully naive?",4.239122807017544,6.001693789473691,4.565789473684212,84.88885964912281,71.63157894736842,7.171929824561403,30.035087719298247,7.793537801064563,1.96681403508772,780,33,148,10,15,245,127,190,0.069,0.8420000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.6063,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,5,1,1,5,8,5,1,0,9,0,18,2,2,2,0,23,28,14,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,9,13,0,0,1,4,1,4,0,1,0,1,1,1,18,4,24,24,2,27,0,0,1,0,17,11,0,1,13,95,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662050662728826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748840478051566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131522196889387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152924908307065,0.0,0.0,0.20960783618251588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809821204136742,0.18026014969638976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593902289614588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436213229414874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917418832351813,0.11355487770382665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982374556159252,0.0,0.09770897106362074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798779570925024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684500512590453,0.0,0.0,0.18040642485571765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412191921457125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625247485506015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975525112779916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422637621047845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567154161994747,0.13235630723368094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258532490820214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34265810242874684,0.11016263354451876,0.16891549413227994,0.0,0.3007526473663667,0.0,0.16296484995910834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700509087780431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140585216732496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516348803243213,0.0,0.0,0.12213062666701745,0.0,0.0,0.11071409896728347
parenting,Jtt1018,2019/03/20,"TV in background? I keep the TV on while home with my 5.5 month old. I am constantly talking and playing with him, but I do like to glance up sometimes when he is entertaining himself. I don't like the silence. We also listen to music but that's not what this post is about. 

Did/do any of you do this and did it affect your kids language development? Is there anything I should be concerned with? 

Thank you!",1.677407407407408,4.140761432098767,2.779259259259259,91.1666666666667,82.82716049382717,5.0814814814814815,23.814814814814817,6.42735559955562,0.6438740740740747,320,12,65,3,9,102,61,81,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.189,0.9416,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,3,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,10,0,0,1,0,12,13,7,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,5,6,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,12,5,10,10,0,9,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,0,7,48,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430578973088788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20668723228025868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501138301535887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284473649565047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048730760010206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701527129766253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29697602836999565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425992026672783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189302134710427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291087136901749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30060095537946285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442926337974997,0.0,0.27982388030664096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dinosaurchan,2019/03/20,"21 month old tantrums ? Hey all! Totally need some advice here..
Have a 21 month old and he doesn’t really speak yet. He understands when I talk to him but he doesn’t really talk. He can say words like ‘more’ or ‘no’ or ‘mama’ ‘papa’. But not like 3 word sentences. Usually it’s gibberish but we get by knowing what he wants. 

Recently he has been asserting himself, started with saying ‘no’ to more food or drink. But right now, he’s refusing to shower, or change out of his clothes. If I force him, he will just meltdown and cry. 

He is also waking up in the middle of the night and crying hysterically and would only want me to just hug and hold him. I can’t even lie down while hugging him. I have to be in a specific sitting down position on the bed and just hug him. 

Is this normal? I’m going crazy trying to figure him out! ",1.14637391882901,3.4028738203592823,3.1492914171656707,89.00847471723223,83.25149700598803,6.5853626081171015,20.655023286759814,7.793537801064563,0.9184600133067198,636,19,134,12,18,214,110,167,0.099,0.785,0.116,0.6088,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,0,0,9,6,1,0,5,0,13,6,1,0,2,38,22,18,0,6,13,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,2,0,3,10,2,2,3,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,1,3,14,5,18,18,5,24,0,0,0,3,25,10,0,6,14,86,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334902573087232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133679598864242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683550607105614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672397863749767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637553753849365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040909613256966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021332682277004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733538144053804,0.0,0.0950021645685259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918680063814548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333407301037553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668546420948737,0.0,0.0,0.12394869762563428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687045705320626,0.16378352281356456,0.0,0.0,0.3508173441352209,0.0,0.0,0.1271344312893482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21417684827854613,0.0,0.1650525650660455,0.0,0.0,0.14275565661290726,0.0,0.2658682769809829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831830795105305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687173850602219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349220166699213,0.0,0.0,0.1740218078708107,0.0,0.0,0.1841056127960684,0.0,0.19719326385166872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874727332787485,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,absolut_chaos,2019/03/20,"Middle school grades My son is 11 and a 6th grader this year. Our middle school and high school are connected which gives the kids lots of wonderful opportunities. My son got to join the spring high school musical as a stage crew assistant. It's been intense to say the least. Everyday after school, some nights he's not getting home until 11pm.
As such, his grades have slipped a little. I'm not panicking, I realize grades are fluid and all his teachers are great about accepting late work. 

My question is, I feel with all this freedom of middle school and working on stage crew is it appropriate for me to have him email his teachers to connect and see if he can make up his missing work? I'd obviously been right there helping him. Or is it still my responsibility to contact them? I personally feel like it's on him because he's the one who missed his homework. And if he's old enough to stay out late on school nights for a school production then he's old enough to email his teachers. (I want him to email because he keeps forgetting to talk to them in person. Not sure if it's pure forgetfulness or if he's avoiding confrontation.) Am I wrong for wanting him to do this himself with my limited help?",4.855942684766212,6.272668666666667,5.209004524886879,82.23305429864256,69.59829059829059,8.582805429864255,29.57667169431875,9.007467420416297,2.3245784816490698,964,37,189,18,17,306,126,234,0.056,0.809,0.135,0.9591,0,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,2,5,4,10,1,1,8,0,14,0,0,1,5,39,28,16,0,6,9,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,10,9,0,3,6,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,3,4,26,5,29,25,7,29,0,2,1,0,38,13,0,10,14,114,36,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204790049255173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899232222838074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293905475864002,0.06565638230079097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801615382255983,0.08816288768409883,0.0,0.0,0.07350418821917619,0.10132471028608456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320290249307768,0.19420367660819976,0.09218741086502556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168868000463943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20734389224909205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04489975222396586,0.09211215735027063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813366842922392,0.0,0.0,0.06134677037832813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724917409609155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287600605588992,0.0,0.062276667698878574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049441351113786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295374268579724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848568877703704,0.0,0.07308591245318759,0.0,0.744095694632605,0.07323575237970703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795765411553757,0.07339481670246413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661862541980372,0.0,0.0,0.07386911858072355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841496234055974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099666189777721,0.2007220670912368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048282062840412,0.0,0.05918329471903335
parenting,Slippyslavy,2019/03/20,"18 mo old uncontrollable crying attacks of severe intensity My 18mo old baby sometimes has severe crying attacks with such intensity that he gets short on breath, screams like he's being murdered and it's terrifying the shit out of me. My SO claims this is normal, but I have searched this issue and nothing I read online describes exactly what I am witnessing. Is this really normal? 

There seem to be a few factors that trigger them - sleeping (possibly night terrors - this kind of describes this event), but also when awake and just gets upset over something. I know he can't control them because he tries to walk around doing his usual things but the crying / screaming episode has him at a hold and won't let go. Sometimes it lasts a minute, sometimes 15 minutes. The longer it goes on the more nervous and terrified I get. 

Has anyone experienced this? maybe everyone is? I just want to hear something re-assuring that this is not some serious behavioral or worse, psychological issue. ",7.100084745762711,8.602778966101699,6.962500000000002,71.41629237288139,64.42372881355932,9.289830508474578,35.65395480225989,9.516144504307137,3.6514259887005647,795,37,124,15,12,252,120,177,0.249,0.715,0.035,-0.9915,0,0,2,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,2,1,8,13,4,4,7,0,15,3,3,2,1,25,23,12,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,15,8,0,2,2,1,0,2,3,11,0,0,0,4,13,2,13,19,3,16,0,0,0,0,9,7,1,3,8,83,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652165756680564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439442003488351,0.0,0.0,0.10744626464108464,0.0,0.274621406552816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357600744450216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13537238373514945,0.0,0.0,0.3977412395745225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533152659494696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18917821086740655,0.0,0.06859510706567055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360347282808318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519534297860828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568775617446545,0.06633212792851817,0.0983844804755608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342125671540258,0.0,0.05896664711011546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125674906497586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326632236093613,0.236515627491528,0.11581239900052202,0.0,0.2533032104136095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606816984007095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207300504147833,0.0,0.07732183737801918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098783689469143,0.0,0.27270738656044297,0.12389413430105535,0.0,0.0,0.12078455419759247,0.0,0.0,0.18583749202720745,0.35811840883144896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018598144795705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194560365885772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293112086965106,0.0,0.0711904465964955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300094982555335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strollerrecieptguy,2019/03/20,"Having grandma/grandpa travel internationally with your kids? (x-posted in /r/expats) I am American but live with my wife and son in Madrid Spain. This summer my parents will come out for a visit and bring my son (6YO) back with them to the US for a good part of July to escape the heat, to be immersed in English, spend quality time with the US side of his family etc.

But I am a little bit worried about how my folks can show that everything is on the up and up with them crossing international borders with my son. (I assume sharing a last name will help).

Has anyone had experience with this? What documentation/authorization did you provide? I guess I am more worried about emigration on the Spanish side rather than immigration on the US side. The trip back from US-Spain will be with me, so there is no problem there. Thanks!",5.3072612197928635,6.551867999999999,6.068780207134638,77.13565592635216,68.36708860759494,8.530264672036825,28.920598388952822,8.841846274778883,2.216156962025316,656,23,123,11,11,215,102,158,0.071,0.8420000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.5819,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,2,2,0,9,4,0,0,11,0,15,0,0,1,0,21,19,7,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,13,0,0,1,2,1,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,19,3,28,12,4,24,0,0,0,0,18,13,0,2,5,93,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028691327407733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262510956665872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061601197488762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673012382512036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16407674522139984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222120876888682,0.1439107619673489,0.13869084454645686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12339656584232235,0.0,0.0,0.16206833381876312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861086737845604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992174574443655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147452041284845,0.12990890779094014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16335840946127364,0.15931570646420298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14089948145715125,0.0,0.0,0.14077316091828027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544755035960773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578636144242381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7078649088968926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988132832017715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TerrorTomo,2019/03/20,"Ex partner advice Hey all. First time post on this page but I have a question. 

My ex partner has allowed my 8 year old son on Facebook. I am so annoyed by this and she has told me I am over reacting. Am I? Facebook for younger people can be so dangerous and I don't want him on it. 

Does anyone have any advice to deal with this because right now I don't know how to handle it. Are there any legal standings on this. I am guessing not but worth the ask. 

Thank you
Tom",-0.7194372294372293,1.4558050000000016,1.3516955266955293,97.96659090909093,94.95959595959593,3.6366522366522367,20.202741702741704,5.288315135182226,-0.2740712842712845,361,13,81,2,14,119,69,99,0.132,0.8190000000000001,0.049,-0.8544,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,2,0,2,0,13,0,0,3,1,14,19,7,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,13,1,10,17,2,13,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,2,5,56,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4505263883046334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135254010048369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118617322974751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155067257649944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052392417177284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376578105254921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20173114405760584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19608168976095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25394570590769155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668872964071035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418938072949789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981476173811093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22077612225394225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582371265642929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686432195142947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21223346337355892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441909101200722,0.0,0.0,0.2202734187509132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596770559786753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844845432665596
parenting,srk1309,2019/03/20,"4happymom.com - Baby clothing and Mom accessories 4 happymom is an online Online store for baby clothing & mom accessories with free worldwide shipping that ship products from it warehouse to all over the world. We have a great collection of selectable products that what their clients like the most. We prefer the customers opinion and we ship product through worldwide, Dont forget to look into 

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parenting,ComfortableHippo,2019/03/20,"I'm the best cook in the world. Following a successful Taco Tuesday at my house last night, my wife offered my 7-year-old son a pre-made fruit pie for dessert. He said, ""I want dad to open it. He's the best cook in the world.""

I didn't think he had any strong opinions on my cooking and my wife swears she didn't prompt him to say it. Just thought you all should know you're in the presence of greatness.",3.1080392156862766,3.900718176470592,3.123235294117645,97.90289215686278,73.11764705882352,6.6078431372549025,25.93137254901961,6.42735559955562,0.5126078431372552,315,10,77,2,6,95,61,85,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.9517,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,4,1,5,0,0,7,0,4,5,0,0,1,10,11,1,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,5,0,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,3,10,5,9,5,3,12,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,1,3,37,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18370223288510928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5669836427559618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978266873079494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117015054638768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846007654746532,0.2201974813505829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535050120218585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834630456017337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569618812697244,0.21482356212373035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17309270244123084,0.0,0.21445838100146927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15933363637230846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395919080718536
parenting,Mikes_toy_box,2019/03/20,"What type of YouTube videos do your children like to watch? What type of youtube videos do your children prefer to watch?

\- Educational

\- Unboxing (surprise toys and eggs)

\- Creative play (playing with toys)

\- DIY videos

\- Vlogs

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If there are any other common categories I have not listed, please let me know and I will add them.

I have a youtube channel currently geared towards creative play with toy cars, and would like to know if that is a niche with enough interest. 

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parenting,catsrfluffy417,2019/03/21,"Is it right or wrong to make a child go to the non custodial parents house? (6f) My fiancé (30m) has full custody of his daughter (6). He is okay with letting his  ex (32f) have their daughter every other week for the past almost 3 years now, since she has finally gotten her life back on track. For some odd reason though she always wines,screams, or complains when her mother picks her up. Idk why bc her mom is not a bad mother. We just think it’s bc the mom always spoils her and lets her have her way. But we suspect no abuse. when I communicate that it is time for her to go to her moms the next day, she always asks to stay here at her dads for one or two more days. I am weighing more on the side that we should not force her to go if she doesn’t want to. Her dads home is where she feels stable, (also in school district) our home seems a lot more family oriented and organized for her needs, and the mother doesn’t do her homework with her, and doesn’t teach healthy eating habits, morals, respect, or redirecting negative behavior. She is a loving mom, but just lets everything slide. And by the time we get his daughter back for our week, we have to remind her of the expectations and boundaries that we expect. Also his daughter has told me that her mom argues with her fiancé (not sure how much but according to my fiancé the mother has a bad & crazy side) Personally I think the 2 different households with the 2 different parenting styles is not good for a child. Also it doesn’t feel right forcing her to be around the person that my fiancé left for good reasons. Are my thoughts overstepping boundaries? Is their a right answer/ approach to say when a child does not want to go? (And yes we do express that her mom loves and misses her, and that she should spend time with her mom)",5.345505761843789,5.719392478873242,5.361773367477593,85.36194302176699,67.87323943661971,8.370038412291931,27.40396927016645,8.150884317080207,1.5397605633802818,1410,40,290,17,22,441,177,355,0.083,0.838,0.079,0.2197,4,0,1,0,1,0,46.0,9,0,2,0,16,13,1,0,20,2,29,5,0,5,1,61,50,25,0,8,15,20,2,0,0,2,1,1,3,5,12,22,2,0,10,0,1,6,11,6,0,2,3,3,52,7,34,41,7,39,1,1,0,2,78,14,0,9,17,195,64,3,0.0,0.08983669619299765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592480140827958,0.0,0.0,0.1819045280285686,0.1892699859560449,0.08215312790770198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749767375417448,0.0708833542698406,0.0,0.0,0.11660490763189582,0.1266164406356826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779786169178543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584357477775269,0.0,0.0,0.06635236139724336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758485631292651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388332273905117,0.0,0.06814394330356625,0.0,0.07147825326583608,0.0,0.07667578387233577,0.0,0.0,0.08305931768485107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03961387645312976,0.0,0.17236560706200313,0.12719182746713273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211133811493374,0.0,0.0,0.087488431996011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238084750058221,0.23259946023998965,0.05355533564653893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446117070149106,0.13686466820431806,0.0,0.05061178768183255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6216128409817236,0.0,0.0,0.05573790951477813,0.056221067719401066,0.0,0.0,0.08063757935097521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05137896361405131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16838276243484554,0.0,0.07238069833726156,0.0,0.1324097280207519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559153311372733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425477455203125,0.0,0.060296714249206414,0.0,0.07673593303987361,0.0,0.06902552010154989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272075916631903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808161857801306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146135732987162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716737879721528,0.07449475051101248,0.060194215149198475,0.13263729029818158,0.0,0.0,0.07245119019893778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406709699525876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08944358475067647,0.06018399092237641,0.12163970321650044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841758045190095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289947705402012,0.0,0.04882689550172649
parenting,KrogerWater556,2019/03/21,"Help me Interview! Hello Parents!

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I figured this would be a great place to ask for an interview. I'm in a Child Development class, and i have been tasked with interviewing them about there parenthood.

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What i need (the simple stuff):

I'm looking for parents who became a parent at different ages (ex. teens, 20's, 30's.)

Your life circumstances when you had the child (in college, working full-time job, unwed mother/married, living with parents, etc.)

Your age when you had the child, and your current age. Your name (First name and last initial is fine! Or make up a name :P)

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If you're still going this far then thank you, I just need you to answer 10 questions:

1. How has having a child affected you financially?

2. What is the most rewarding part of having a child?

3. What aspects in your life did you have to change to benefit your child?

4. What regrets do you/did you have while raising your child?

5. What have you learned about your experiences in parenting?

6. Why did you decide to have a child?

7. What do you do to help with your child's learning?

8. What were Your Fears or Concerns for Your Child at this Time?

9. What type of parenting style did you use?

10. How did you discipline your child?

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Thank you so much, Parents!",2.0911479944674944,4.8650586473029085,2.6234979253112023,90.56166459197789,84.93360995850622,5.702959889349931,23.386030428769025,7.1686216300943375,1.0450613001383124,998,37,193,15,30,308,130,241,0.029,0.868,0.104,0.9597,11,0,0,0,0,0,70.0,0,25,1,3,10,8,0,1,12,0,23,2,0,5,0,30,34,13,0,5,4,8,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,11,13,6,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,8,1,31,6,23,24,4,22,0,1,1,0,57,9,0,5,12,123,44,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3457102596086701,0.387702784751835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457142360450082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438296173067042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333958926828572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896134575780601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802748059373907,0.0,0.08976010734623356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06784981163045092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533345251318225,0.0,0.0,0.08794345377308166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693234384305443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915648845832361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502079178042525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268365223169223,0.0,0.0,0.07043576618620938,0.0,0.06698423180904002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05324512500121389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058637959561464226,0.11829251308962392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6200030814143632,0.08637994146145808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333958926828572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935735108534135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370206884019483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131418767873407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687756443887975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04651280808432453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889311979964108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719773552821909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058071362120966086,0.0,0.0,0.056664223398785005,0.0,0.387702784751835,0.0
parenting,mamaa2,2019/03/21,"How do you feel about toddler boys playing with baby dolls? Or vice versa. I’ve heard quite the array of opinions on this from my family members, so I would like to gauge your thoughts. 

My son (2) has a wide range of things he enjoys playing with that includes, but isn’t limited to, baby dolls, trucks, cooking set, dinosaurs, sports toys, etc. However, his “favorite” toy is a babydoll that he carries around with him and takes care of. He will pretend to feed and change it, rock it to sleep, pat it’s back and say “shhh baby”, on and on. 

I have never had an issue with this. I think it’s teaching him valuable life skills and really, it’s just a toy so who cares. BUT his dad had a conniption when he found out that I bought him a baby doll and he thinks that he should not play with “girl” toys. We had quite the heated discussion about it and never reached a consensus. We’re separated so I allow the baby doll while he is with me but his dad prefers him not to have it at his house. My son gets upset when I make him leave the baby at my house but he quickly forgets and it’s not an issue. 

What are your thoughts? And would you allow your son to have a baby doll or your daughter have a traditional “boy” toy? ",2.4438501742160286,4.1650777520325235,3.416782810685252,91.43036585365856,76.35772357723576,6.149128919860628,23.096399535423927,6.868970318607317,0.5826936120789781,941,28,202,9,21,301,130,246,0.05,0.828,0.122,0.9642,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,6,0,4,12,9,0,1,14,0,17,4,1,4,2,47,30,22,0,4,10,6,1,1,0,4,1,3,0,3,17,18,2,1,7,12,1,0,6,1,0,0,8,4,27,8,25,18,1,16,0,0,0,0,37,8,0,3,8,131,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431936771021078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368637734667225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32800163364406343,0.0,0.17016162607900054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793941210625032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516383209775108,0.0,0.08133233952145806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17636750997227515,0.0,0.0,0.08403929080950638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3712065789713744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357784301769165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17032058253474827,0.0,0.0,0.1136155516647152,0.07858487267365813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073709296896258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481202002757367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421748966534339,0.0,0.0,0.10304684161366487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791712292136498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096962058631414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094177905800968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068638874876615,0.2061367968771832,0.0,0.25539935017259924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285313574277265,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,at14728,2019/03/21,"At our wits end about sleep Our daughter (2.5ish) has never been a great sleeper but around a year ago we started doing CIO so she could learn to fall asleep on her own without one of us rocking her or sitting on the couch with her until she fell asleep.

CIO worked pretty well for us and she adapted quickly and we were all getting good sleep. Fats forward now and we are all miserable. Her going to bed in her crib is dwindling by the week and we are just about at our wits end. It feels like no matter what we do, it doesnt work and my wife ends up sleeping with her. We try to let her CIO, but the past month or so she has been vomiting. I've tried cleaning her up and walking out, but that only makes things worse. Tonight she vomited 4 times before we eventually gave in because we couldn't handle hearing our child scream like that any longer. She sounded like something out of an exorcist movie.

We have a tight schedule that we follow. Quiet time/reading time for 30 minutes before bed and she goes to be around the same time every night. She pretty consistently takes snaps between an hour and a half to an hour and forty five minutes long.

I have a lot of sleep anxiety/sleep issues myself so co-sleeping isn't really an option for us. Just looking for some help as this is just so emotionally and physically exhausting.

Any help would be appreciated.",3.7564695830485313,5.6473116804511285,4.119439507860562,87.06347915242651,73.17293233082707,6.6408749145591255,26.00068352699932,7.348242739294969,1.2174646616541356,1081,37,212,12,22,338,160,266,0.069,0.8029999999999999,0.128,0.9542,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,17,0,0,2,14,9,0,1,13,0,21,10,7,1,3,50,31,21,0,3,9,2,2,3,0,1,4,4,4,1,8,26,1,1,2,1,0,6,6,3,1,3,4,7,36,6,33,21,6,41,0,1,1,0,40,13,0,5,26,147,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434867814111296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294165772139849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941526783982375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05800526918936254,0.0,0.1619388560408801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597308509297246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703594818568896,0.25283579661126593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017172763427946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811294871016506,0.06797835769551505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049714272479394916,0.0,0.05407846645414407,0.07981103762130866,0.0,0.10490811643666983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072459801380682,0.0,0.12756004338513793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741593059617476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931652331739113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730187146763013,0.0,0.13946297268425548,0.0,0.0,0.08420869342199466,0.0799057722724393,0.0,0.0,0.0808969101619321,0.0,0.0,0.06351633389024508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595137371975867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338897749690844,0.0,0.0,0.0892960048639626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447911755972724,0.07236924662583381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083568894463027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361256745314376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518019958934457,0.0,0.06095837688272465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5713390130960705,0.0,0.0,0.07325454400774002,0.0,0.0,0.06735080907369048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154430386450315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321638806794935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22194129873031526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920725014067164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433772598681839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632715971602501,0.0,0.08555527764008647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172549366951976,0.0,0.13854714495843595,0.0,0.09697051325542706,0.06759499077045293,0.0,0.0,0.06127634568073161
parenting,vectaur,2019/03/21,"Afraid my little girl (5) is showing signs of bullying and it's heartbreaking - how do I respond? My wife and I live in a fairly social neighborhood with lots of kids.  Our street is basically one big family and the kids are almost always at our house or our kids are our neighbors'.  My daughter (5), although maybe a little shy at her core (like me), LOVES her friends and always wants them over. 

In the last couple months though, she's gotten where if multiple friends are over, she'll pick one (seemingly at random) to try and exclude from playing.  She'll make silly rules -- ""only three people can play in our playhouse right now"" -- and lo and behold, there's four kids in the yard and the one that has to stay out is her current ""singled out"" friend.

We've disciplined her for this, tried to explain how bad it would make her feel, tried to explain how she'll lose friends this way, and tried to have her explain why she's doing it.  She never has a good explanation, and it doesn't seem to sink in that she might actually lose friends over her behavior. 

I'm not sure what to do.  It'd be one thing if it was the same friend each time who got ""excluded"" -- we could focus on that relationship.  But it varies from day to day, one day a friend can be her bestie, the next day shunned.  And it very rarely happens if only one friend at a time is over.  Is this in any way normal?  Any other approaches we can take to help her?",5.3761512605042014,5.586237942857141,5.414957983193278,85.57592436974791,67.78571428571428,8.588235294117647,27.899159663865557,8.313332769828598,1.6192394957983187,1104,32,232,14,17,346,154,280,0.078,0.797,0.125,0.9371,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,7,0,1,2,7,20,0,1,11,0,28,1,0,6,2,48,43,21,0,7,6,2,1,1,9,5,0,0,2,5,18,17,0,1,6,4,0,1,3,5,0,8,3,1,30,15,32,31,4,39,0,3,0,1,49,23,0,10,13,153,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.08846414398246552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077577473590906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086093336857034,0.0,0.0,0.12329414788967227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569137672946183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237895631870715,0.10030569874250377,0.0,0.2338544585674477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545947696437732,0.0,0.04583682509135534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5603055846523814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760353432886686,0.07250339757885746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016405140349311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06076272140908037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460126398172888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738942047796219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0442884230892996,0.18171602266524012,0.08004816286996135,0.0,0.0,0.20283479200811397,0.0,0.0770698454559728,0.08181777271573658,0.0,0.121023016257417,0.0,0.09107301276591384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961683907272378,0.0,0.0,0.07235827206544118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991709748291718,0.0,0.0964103771447584,0.0,0.08882058494876716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685724670214273,0.13789121592045206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628472997898738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732727815998947,0.0,0.07741707289772398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650539730772076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240920535441392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966239191847594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543927616505204,0.0,0.06815969152660062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06022575211994102,0.0,0.08906600433541584,0.0,0.10572085855444964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461894472903797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479812834006917,0.05346942336561838,0.14391208936588332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818001332355204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06439721222786803,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cakebakerthefirst,2019/03/21,"4 year olds have no filter So, I'm reading the Wonky Donkey book to my kids, and there's a line about how the donkey is slim, and my 4 year old hollers, ""It's like how you're fat, mama!"" 

Me: ""Whaa? That's not a nice thing to say, ‘child’s name!’”

4 yo: ::squeezes my arm:: ""But your arm is fat!""

Me: ""Seriously, please don't say that to people, it’s rude.” 

4 yo, now poking my arm: ""So squishy."" ",-1.8294224598930453,0.01587369411764783,0.6118716577540121,104.43887700534759,94.41176470588236,3.561497326203209,13.609625668449198,4.851557810540192,-1.5546470588235293,284,5,77,1,11,95,58,85,0.106,0.833,0.061,-0.5586,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,0,0,7,4,1,0,4,0,4,5,5,2,0,6,5,7,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,5,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,7,2,4,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,6,35,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412739029635675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6068707468055041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004741355124478,0.0,0.0,0.3174219306143725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892483507708009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599193355193721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19211176346795905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724321236115021
parenting,djester1994,2019/03/21,"17 year old won’t listen at all My brother just refuses to listen to my mom. He refuses to do any school work, he’s failing classes and not doing papers. My mom has bent backwards trying to talk to the teacher and to let him get another chance to complete assignments for some credit. My mom tries to reason and he just refuses to reason back. He complains about her texting him or e-mailing and even face to face. So any communication ends in a fight and my mom crying. It’s pissing me the fuck off. He works at Dunkin after school with his car my parents bought him. How do you discipline someone with this behaivor. He get’s his things taken away, and still same bahaivor. ",3.695454545454545,5.609347939393941,4.555151515151518,83.77772727272728,73.39393939393939,6.921212121212123,27.90909090909091,7.686295010490155,1.7436727272727268,536,21,100,7,11,173,87,132,0.127,0.84,0.033,-0.9217,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,1,0,3,8,6,3,0,3,0,6,4,3,3,1,22,13,9,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,8,0,4,2,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,2,2,14,1,20,9,3,14,0,1,0,1,27,7,2,2,6,64,17,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19163471955229552,0.14774674962186352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238091777823238,0.10834399991344773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773178350737864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477288689568214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479626649443225,0.0,0.0,0.09306363407222087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026049751454685,0.14722968060857902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408059038512305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6600851464490863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785166297162367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645363792284142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897389306558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851982164893458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11938477076619886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125235421954181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325070699818675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360821510894862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19132475667232568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20515488695842315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073548051190146
parenting,ineedmoresnacks,2019/03/21,I missed parent day at preschool I’m so disappointed in myself that I missed it.  The school calendar online made no mention of it.  I missed the paper calendar passed out at the beginning of the month.  Maybe I have been distracted?  We have two teenagers that seem to be sucking the energy out of us lately.  He had Grandma call me when he got off the bus to ask where we were.  Thanks mother-in-law.  Poor kid even received an award.  The balancing act is so hard.  My Dad told me not to worry about it.  He said my son knows how much we love him.  The guilt is there though.  I’ve broken his trust.  I hope to god he forgets this.,0.5998809523809534,3.0281753968253966,1.9034722222222242,95.44187500000002,88.68253968253971,5.372222222222222,18.19246031746032,6.9077264865688965,0.10392222222222224,484,13,106,7,16,154,89,126,0.172,0.67,0.158,0.0125,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,0,1,9,12,1,2,9,0,8,1,0,2,0,12,24,5,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,5,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,7,0,1,7,2,16,5,14,16,1,15,0,4,0,1,21,7,1,2,5,65,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20489439792354527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379711148271147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413465417654084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475974176698844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752902993903493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19633330291550927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21768529853029675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045012001963508,0.0,0.2472333470354665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19780951450163786,0.20738398741713585,0.0,0.0,0.2201857596639503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749394317683423,0.0,0.16111519452186318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24336238800475585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848089371363016,0.0,0.0,0.2218117774090171,0.0,0.19952416936601094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20178232276877586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153334476288031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20942636176815052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21409727856580027,0.0,0.2636345676693723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22257781037211846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meh0001,2019/03/21,18f here a question for the parents. Would you mind your children (like my age) talking to you about sex and their sex life. I’m an 18 year old at uni so as you can expect I’ve started having way more sex than before I started. However I’ve never been the child that beings a boyfriend home or talks about relationships. In fact when I visit my grandma she sometimes asks me if I’m seeing anyone and my mum immediately goes no she better not be (im sure she’s joking ) but it always puts me on edge and as a result I’ve never talked to her about sex.Im much closer with my dad but it’s my dad you know I don’t really want to talk about that kind of thing with him. ,0.61755868544601,2.6884426338028216,2.6442535211267604,92.96576995305166,83.92957746478874,4.913427230046949,17.91737089201878,6.079149491110277,-0.32231417840375576,522,12,116,4,15,175,99,142,0.024,0.935,0.041,0.2979,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,5,1,1,7,5,0,0,6,0,7,4,0,1,4,21,15,11,0,4,5,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,5,0,0,2,1,0,2,5,0,0,0,1,1,21,5,17,11,2,15,0,0,1,3,25,4,0,3,9,72,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385649473869987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248384921458718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503914731639354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368882838151012,0.0,0.0,0.1422761951386505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16136544651200102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475338077672565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675210589492131,0.08840979146382075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362704130804566,0.0785928197561214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243255924008404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182577547204506,0.0,0.2481452920220908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880571081570456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862678733844806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617185019534089,0.18021090409946752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030572624710134,0.0,0.0,0.17271387636355134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819233963188806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15910426733313351,0.0,0.22772883279671044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161780807128772,0.0,0.0,0.5172039518792315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687469435286742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488512933875716,0.12769089652903434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427723410284035,0.0,0.0,0.10359482589624762
parenting,mindfulzen,2019/03/21,"Relax my kid Hi everyone. As a parent of 3 small children (2 of which with sleep issues) I started a YouTube channel that provides music for relaxation, stress relief, and inner peace. I've found music is one of the most effective things that will help my kids actually get sleep and just calm down in general :)

If you are interested here is the link to my newest video for stress relief - [https://youtu.be/LECZykTnQeU](https://youtu.be/LECZykTnQeU)",8.032072072072072,10.88165256756757,6.60108108108108,69.70315315315315,63.864864864864856,8.717117117117118,28.54954954954956,9.2995712137729,2.7345657657657667,366,12,54,7,6,109,59,74,0.06,0.619,0.321,0.9735,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,1,2,8,0,2,4,0,4,2,2,1,0,10,7,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,5,6,10,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,2,2,34,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.23831080960454004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23335025854713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677603761758979,0.0,0.0,0.1275880808446321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16368680779461592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25488866625734274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548098672088113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711629791116064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4887667367743473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728509750717364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5594765982963159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224028290592274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,etherealnoise,2019/03/21,"convertible car seat concerns long story, short question. look for tldr at end

so im an american, i live in serbia with my partner who is from here. my parents visited, and since i havent seen them in almost 3 years and our child is their first grandkid and prices are cheap here (for Americans), they are splurging. one thing we are pretty sure we needed was a new car seat.

our daughter is only 3.5 months old. but shes hefty (about 14lbs) and just over 2 feet tall. we have been getting concerned about her infant carrier as a carsest because her head and feet leave a total of about an inch, but did not have the money to buy a new one til they got here.

well, we got a new one today. convertible car seat, shes rear facing, and it reclines. the problem is, our crappy fiat has a relatively slanted rear seet bench. when rested flat on the ground, the carseat reclines at about 45 degrees or more. however, in the car, id say its more like 40. question #1, is this safe? i have read differing opinions but no clear facts about whether it impacts spinal function or growth.

 doctors here recommend no higher up than 45 degrees. but we sit her upright on our bellies holding her arms slightly away from the support of our legs (she has a hell of a grip, holds on to us as we hold onto her, and has no trouble keeping herself and her head up, if a bit wobbly, and we do it no longer than a minute or two before a rest back on the knees dropping her to 45 degrees). she likes it and we dont believe it necessarily is bad for short bursts, esp since drs here arent the best in public hospitals and sometimes its the only way to calm her (crazzyyy drooling and face rubbing, teething likely). in the car, i always ride in the back with her to ensure she is safe, breathing, happy etc. 

second question. my parents are in their 60s, so a bit fuzzy remembering, but insist its fine that our carseat jiggles a bit from side to side. it is installed as it says to as per instructions for her weight. i get about an inch side to side if i shake it hard. there are bumpers on the side that more or less hold her head in place (dont worry she wasn't in it during the shaking) so im inclined to believe them, and it doesnt move front to back (we have the passenger front seat pushed back to be barely touching the head of her seat anyway just in case, but even  without it it barely moves a quarter inch). so is the side to side movement fine? am i overly concerned? i have to shake it pretty vigorously to get it to do that, but thats how crashes are so, yknow... worry. her infant carrier did it too, so it could well be the car itself. 

third. my partner, daugher, myself and our dog are going on a trip to the mountains 6h away in a month. obviously we will be taking breaks not just for food and bathroom but for baby and dog to pee. dog will be in front seat, with me and daughter in the back. is this too long a time to be sitting at around a 40ish degree angle evenwith breaks? i dont think its any higher than 40 and i dont have a protractor handy (or at all) so it could well be 45. but it does look slightly higher. but she will be 4.5mos then so maybe itll be ok?

she hates the new seat but shes been fussy due to incessant drooling, likely teething and used to old carrier. is this a phase? i assume so but would like input

tldr: 

1. 3.5month old, chubby 2ft daughter got new carseat, possibly around 40 degree angle in-car due to seat decline in crappy but only affordable car. safe? subquestion, drs say no higher than 45, bs or no? i get the choking, i sit in back with her watching her so no danger of it, would remedy immediately. spine tho? idk

2. wiggle of carseat. little to none front to back, about an inch side to side with vigorous shaking (sans daughter). safe? parents insist so. yes/no?

3. long trip in a month. 6h. will be breaks. still too long? 

4. hates new seat. phase? get used to it? but also likely teething so shes been kinda ridiculously fussy past week or two, kinda hard to judge. was able to get her to calm down in the 5m from mall to home but not in the 30s from one parking space to another. 

please keep in mind this is Serbia and according to my wife a lot of people just friggin hold their kids in the back, no carseat (not my kid!! jfc even the thought scares me). so, yknow, answer facts and dont assume our older fiat punto had any modern amenities (not even a passenger airbag). 

thank you!",2.065823244552057,4.14626736158192,3.14559523809524,91.27548728813558,78.77401129943503,5.61541565778854,23.19108151735271,6.5995527802579295,0.5749895076674738,3425,112,712,31,84,1097,356,885,0.104,0.804,0.093,-0.8965,6,0,0,0,0,0,139.0,19,1,7,2,56,38,5,5,52,1,70,25,20,3,7,115,95,69,0,8,35,9,6,6,2,7,3,3,1,7,36,38,2,11,9,2,4,28,24,13,3,10,14,15,76,25,111,63,15,135,2,0,4,0,79,60,1,19,45,468,112,3,0.054109187080428334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054182534805168936,0.0,0.0,0.04327109735910769,0.04502317824751848,0.0,0.0,0.07359220539555679,0.05673820052076173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633729663083927,0.0,0.0,0.10167472485516306,0.3328529992324608,0.0451789110699034,0.032984458220912095,0.0,0.046042932875503914,0.12192504926830572,0.05678425356935327,0.0,0.1772196544057225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640356595819428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05653258394563734,0.0,0.055383045779392064,0.04735131424945997,0.0,0.3170778213703229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047924679295656816,0.0,0.06034604671232604,0.10721582325217713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460252468889213,0.06542904379805901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696189018511126,0.0,0.030751497964513017,0.0,0.1298281796295849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057600235803361335,0.09694240699318388,0.10684323996464228,0.2221265457814804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427592643511647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689441445996725,0.0,0.0,0.09618946328810858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05729381636832712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586100938813205,0.0542316204480788,0.047779403518280285,0.19153971139744336,0.09087617880112646,0.0,0.0,0.04600169589293915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435995119134696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054634854155885385,0.0,0.12956831068752392,0.11501900537510955,0.0,0.04012127660511762,0.0,0.3135539403477837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033546908778874,0.0,0.1466631420898661,0.1234574250840538,0.0,0.0,0.1802455465867364,0.0,0.05165334165040622,0.03751249733954279,0.0,0.05653258394563734,0.059395638730387924,0.0,0.06099997837842939,0.0,0.11009699172938067,0.0,0.051775184430635265,0.0,0.0,0.18184401899785446,0.0,0.05412382979490681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129516100649455,0.0,0.0,0.12908939205030376,0.054172735691514935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951935740368253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05351536959087472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04321166669811642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06140246427599296,0.05099726846737788,0.0,0.04068337471306335,0.0,0.0,0.049816469665104966,0.0,0.0,0.035947739580297206,0.03467098224792346,0.0,0.04295665048701215,0.0315515021211537,0.0,0.051289182531065985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571362681037713,0.0,0.06508668976927164,0.0934659292791154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04294935412909792,0.04340312606006854,0.06589041276409112,0.14595197231230955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05215932545468911,0.0,0.0,0.10990101200523902,0.0,0.07687522806703301,0.0,0.0,0.034844542440411894
parenting,Jedi_Tinmf,2019/03/21,"I don't know what is wrong with my kid but I could use some strength Tonight I am checking on my daughter every half hour. You know when they get so sick you can't help but worry? Then after a few days they get better and you are relieved to see them bouncing around again. This winter has been so brutal, everyone is passing crazy things around and you're bound to catch it no matter how many times you wash your hands. She got sick again a week later, fever for days, hard to bring it down with Tylenol. Finally goes away, back to herself in about a week's time then I catch and I am out of work for three days. A week later she gets it again. And again. and again. Bring her in to the PCP, they say no she is fine, it's just going around. Express concerns for redundant fevers and they tell us not to worry. 

Played some soccer with her yesterday afternoon and an hour later she is laying down with a fever again, came out of nowhere. Enough is enough, bring her to the ER. Strep test, xrays, blood , work, urine, examination. Sent home with a clean bill of health and a ""follow up with your doctor"". Dr's apt tomorrow morning, fever is back again today. 

This is that moment I have been terrified of since I learned I was having a kid over 12 years ago. I'm so god damn worried.  But I gotta keep it together and can't show how worried I am. I gotta be there for her and make her feel better and stay in good spirits. I gotta be the big brave parent. 

I'm falling apart inside, I'm so god damn worried. I just want to see her bouncing around again. ",2.1734584086799282,3.9991219968354486,2.7399095840868037,95.51987341772151,77.4493670886076,5.653526220614829,20.462929475587703,6.367922702773337,-0.04062350813743221,1205,29,270,9,28,373,169,316,0.172,0.7,0.127,-0.9593,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,1,6,5,5,25,12,3,0,12,0,23,15,3,4,0,46,49,23,0,2,6,2,3,0,0,3,12,1,2,2,10,24,0,2,5,3,2,11,6,4,1,2,6,6,38,8,39,37,5,66,1,0,2,0,32,17,2,2,37,168,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031960230523456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3628158722328443,0.0,0.0,0.09572928988167068,0.1566947011506454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180227378777758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116535358106877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813511128179071,0.0,0.0,0.19713244093477594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428903843108922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105598316063154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584697135309677,0.09736054705407382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051518796607153534,0.0,0.0,0.1116158421349684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970042749411253,0.0,0.05790660495288245,0.08546074860195309,0.08149097992167016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127369455975616,0.0,0.0,0.10830462317256584,0.0,0.0,0.06829491962701256,0.0,0.10220427746826903,0.0,0.20068284044467166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056477927810272,0.0,0.0,0.11199248727648926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06801256573643005,0.10330077081469108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313711907367027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102725529762207,0.0,0.0,0.16238675295419788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428470819198723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860150173892567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08905661227399822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769138717169257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188261053889518,0.0,0.09658008967921024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256148420832592,0.08800050406594062,0.0,0.0,0.060097538203940724,0.0,0.2451907556549837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14835470227804692,0.5173727222535116,0.0,0.0,0.11140104688845226,0.0,0.06561401191543
parenting,Tiff2016,2019/03/21,"School threatens they'll fail 1st grader,tried to intimidate mom into signing consent for ABIT eval done by school staff & refused any outside eval My brother is 6 years old in first grade. He spent first semester in a different school and the second semester in this new school. We changed school due to location and the first school didn't have ESL services. He speaks his native language at home like the rest of the family except when he's doing homework. He does homework daily including reading assignments and he reads just fine. He sound things out when he encounters a new word to help him pronounce it. He stutters. Stuttering runs in men the family. We don't want speech therapy for stuttering because from my two other brothers' experience, stuttering get way worse after 3 different speech therapy clinics, and stuttering got better when they stopped therapy. And it gets better as they get older. My mom was called into a meeting, first meeting since the beginning of the semester. Mom speaks English but not enough to sign papers and know everything the other person is saying. So she needs a translater. School provided a translater. The teacher told mom she loves my little brother, and she wants the best for him so she thinks failing him is his best option. She provided his grades saying he never passed a test. She handed mom a list of sight words saying he doesn't know how to read any of the words. Mom told her she reads the whole list. He reads sight words well and he reads stories every night no problem but his teacher is saying otherwise. She's basically saying he cannot read anything when he reads all of his sight words and assigned readings and stories daily. Then she handed mom a paper telling her to sign it. Mom said she doesn't want to sign something she cannot read. She asked the translator to tell her what's in the paper, and the translator kept saying ""she wants what's best for him."" Mom told them give me the paper, and I'll ask my daughter to read it for me. ""The teacher said ""no, I only can fill out the paper and you can't have it. You need to sign it. It's what's best for him."" Mom insisted to getting a copy and she refused to sign. The teacher then asked how old is her daughter. The translater made a copy and gave it to mom. I saw the paper and it's ABIT student referral for an evaluation that will be done by school staff. The teacher told mom to sign another paper for vision and hearing  evaluation and mom refused. She told the teacher, ""I'll take my son to his pediatrician and to an eye and hearing doctors at Children's Hospital."" The teacher said ""no, don't take him there. It has to be at the school."" Mom refused. There's nothing wrong with my brother. He reads. He keeps getting Fs because his teacher says he cannot read. I gave the sight word list for a friend and asked my brother to read it and he read it in front of her. I don't understand what his teacher is doing. Why didn't she want mom to know what's the paper for before signing it? Why is she insisting for school staff evaluation and not professional doctors evaluations. I don't want him to get evaluated at the school, and I don't know what to do if she fails him. Can they force the parent to sign the evaluation papers? If they fail him when he clearly can read, what can I do? 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parenting,soup_d_up,2019/03/21,"Bringing Baby to a professional meeting. Soooooo... I am a first time parent. My child is a little over 1 year. I am back to work - higher education. Part of my duties is hiring instructors. I set up a meeting with a potential instructor to plan a course, who has never taught before. I anticipate the meeting to take maybe 1.5 hours because i’ll provide assistance on syllabus, assignment creation, etc.  This potential instructor wants to bring baby. Baby is under 1 year old, but older than 6 months. Thoughts? Although I have my own child and can understand the difficulty of setting up childcare last minute (i sent a notice to meet on a week before), it seems unprofessional and counterproductive to our meeting. I don’t imagine the potential instructor would be as attentive. Am I being harsh/un-understanding? My plan is to ask her not to bring baby, but worry this might be the wrong response. ",4.8830020703933785,7.591519701863357,5.966186335403731,71.40526293995863,72.47826086956522,8.765383022774326,31.85134575569358,9.3871,3.547190973084886,716,34,112,18,15,237,104,161,0.105,0.885,0.01,-0.9465,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,12,0,16,0,0,0,1,16,27,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,5,0,0,4,3,1,0,1,3,0,14,0,20,19,3,25,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,2,12,78,18,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034284112419662,0.0,0.0,0.14010913746707992,0.0,0.1110742340145988,0.0,0.3100965592146547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032136125895556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549887225456561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17944129235177245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852641760957286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826234543643881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305560452776404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329724982619098,0.0,0.0,0.14543921226773354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405324822124719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20744861727220915,0.19119996482109192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232393377083852,0.1973169336651697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16587819982971852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700011845328566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465531059269215,0.10624879470948084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379376494340906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747286512967497,0.0,0.1461588045094734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265189711411615,0.18504428122108468,0.0,0.12943758261928426,0.19921930324197798,0.0,0.2346760304648052
parenting,overtherainbow123,2019/03/21,"How do you all ""tell or teach"" your children about your financials? Hi all, 

I (30M) have been struggling over the question of (1) **whether** to tell your children about your financials, (2) **when** to tell them, and (3) **how** to tell them.

This has been partly motivated by my family history, which made me realize the importance of telling your children and loved ones what they can expect truthfully. My grandfather, although he was a genuinely nice man and I have fond memories of him, failed to put much thought into financial planning. The problem was that he told my parents, uncles, and grandmother that he would leave a good sum of money. 

My parents never relied on that promise entirely; but neither they have investigated the financials of my grandparents. The financials seemed okay, at least in appearance. When my grandfather passed away and when my parents inherited what has been left for them without putting much thought into it, they were surprised to find out it didn't have much value in terms of real dollars and would only incur a significant tax consequence. What was worse, there was not enough money left for my grandmother. Uncles, who were living in a different state, refused to believe it and thought my grandmother and my parents were lying to them.  It complicated family matters and detracted careers of many family members (taking another job solely for money, supporting grandmother and uncles financially, going to a different uni for scholarship, mental health consequences after getting bullied by fraternity boys, etc.) which my parents and I are still trying to resolve up until now. 

From this experience, I find giving an accurate representation to one's children and loved ones is crucial for the long-term health of the family. It will allow them to plan their future better without relying wrongly. But I fear being an accurate representation (e.g., ""my income is $xxx, we have $xxx in bank, we are spending $xxx, etc.) may ONLY over-stress children, especially when told to them when they are too young to understand and don't have enough power to muscle through the stress. To retrospect, when I was in high school, I did not have a good understanding of the financials.

I am mimicking my parents by telling children that I cannot support them once they go to college, but from my experience, I don't think it is enough. 

So I am writing this post to borrow some wisdom.

How do you all deal with these three matters?

* (1) **whether** to tell your children about your financials
* (2) **when** to tell them, and 
* (3) **how** to tell them

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parenting,Cjharvey70,2019/03/21,"Feeling devastated... Today my son, who is always very happy and exited about going to school (he is in first grade), came home and told us that two of his “friends” pushed him to the ground 3 or 4 times because he didn’t do what they asked him to. This led to a more in depth discussion... which boys did it... has this happened before... how do the boys normally treat him... etc. We have since learned that the boys my son considers his “friends” regularly tell him the he is annoying and to leave them alone. We also learned that no one in his class ever asks him to play, he is always asking them to play. Additionally, no one wants to sit with him in class. 

All of this was extremely surprising to my wife and I. My son is a good student, with no real behavioral issues, tends to get along well with other kids on play dates, and always tries to find other kids to play with at parks. His is not really into sports, but has found that he really likes to be in kids theater programs, and if that is where his interests lie right now I feel we should let him explore it.

While I made an appointment to meet with his teacher next week to find out how he is doing socially from her perspective, I am extremely concerned. I have given some thought to starting him in Karate (or some similar class), primarily because I have heard it builds confidence. He is somewhat interested, as long as he can continue in his theater classes. What else should I do? Am I over worrying about something minor that he will likely grow out of, or is this something I need to quickly help him with? I feel like I am must have really messed up as a parent somewhere, and I don’t know how to fix this.",6.493333333333332,6.089942385321102,6.687048929663613,79.47656727828749,65.5137614678899,10.324770642201836,31.62232415902141,9.861636050157227,2.7470232415902136,1308,44,264,25,18,421,179,327,0.046,0.828,0.126,0.9755,1,1,2,0,0,0,47.0,4,0,3,1,12,18,1,0,8,0,34,0,0,5,3,56,55,20,0,7,6,5,3,3,2,4,0,1,1,6,20,22,0,0,11,5,0,6,6,2,1,4,10,4,40,16,48,39,6,39,0,0,0,0,57,19,0,7,16,186,60,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241856575173055,0.0,0.09452373520275144,0.2950532275622285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3315004598131642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441060839666215,0.0,0.10057868324816477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518822121261145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098740136819988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182318194128653,0.0,0.10691780505839228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929496898137734,0.08444142281283824,0.0,0.0,0.2160635752514108,0.10054004901851582,0.0,0.12959915418580822,0.18264058105413236,0.0,0.06175412358545695,0.0,0.06717524232312466,0.0991397527298148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452302692696416,0.12582508346179008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922632969271537,0.0,0.11856328152854505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336909601889715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495910507349764,0.0,0.0,0.12515572420570795,0.0,0.12086653381478615,0.0,0.17323825173763344,0.0,0.0,0.10460243711113457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184279622963098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764309567527663,0.0,0.0,0.12570602745136766,0.0,0.11580997005179006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601894665607331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124605380850773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453639258046227,0.22716400855377397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094134033179554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962374593651542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777547313536222,0.0,0.0,0.12048904328627638,0.0,0.1819908021675361,0.0,0.0,0.08366189385233501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331117693482736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383684037716793,0.06892281485256245,0.0,0.11203887592907676,0.11294425474246066,0.0,0.08024939414160367,0.0,0.1154632939513766,0.0,0.14217890010777234,0.0,0.0,0.09752659260226584,0.06971686036779133,0.0,0.09481214586784774,0.0,0.10627513841148516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200368697734344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acinomismonica,2019/03/21,"11 year old is having an existential crisis So I made a mistake of mentioning death in passing as a semi joke. We recently got our first cast iron pan and he was asking about it, at the end I said ""yeah and when mommy and daddy pass away you could have it since it will last so long"". He immediately broke down into tears and I realized my mistake. He started sobbing at the suggestion that we will die someday. Over the last few days he seems sad asking questions like, ""what will happen to you /me when you die? Why do we have to die? How old will i be when you die?"" I have no idea what to say (we used to be Christians and are now more agnostic). As a mom, I want to tell him a happy story of heaven and we will meet again, but I feel like a liar since I don't really believe that anymore. I want to speak to him but he starts crying when we do and he thinks about losing us again. How do you bring this stuff up with your kids as a parent? Should I be concerned and send him to therapy, he doesn't seem depressed just moments of sadness when these thoughts come to him. Any resources you recommend for him? ",2.4499837699976794,4.0765224008810605,3.62453976350568,90.35599814514259,76.09251101321586,6.541061905865988,22.96058428008347,7.273561745256523,0.7096484581497795,863,25,187,10,19,280,136,227,0.16899999999999998,0.742,0.09,-0.9614,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,8,7,0,2,15,14,1,0,10,1,22,0,0,4,0,38,40,22,5,6,3,2,1,2,0,6,0,3,0,1,10,17,0,0,8,1,0,5,3,9,0,1,5,4,32,5,27,25,2,34,3,6,0,0,41,8,1,3,23,128,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817501966011631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922079388237447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22476924859927933,0.0,0.11294577600443248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544093011910585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355441865069837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598174787883736,0.0,0.13205032952078158,0.07752861060791998,0.0,0.1035408440823706,0.0,0.49905599435689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064746445200073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06078422255928185,0.08588148791856663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225466030166168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614676945782888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063055639663536,0.1279709060460483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135707893636205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19598223830789646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746177273378965,0.0,0.0,0.1063863284128215,0.0,0.13448962832410571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137501647084209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079413850942218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25229045225159685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334843256904619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466810535089435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701268882132092,0.0,0.11869762707555395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435181806387006,0.09559964602695192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887810540592675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19888587461200555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017732972238175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761720213266687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507304706893593,0.0,0.13747611787757832,0.0,0.0,0.0770287994465867,0.0,0.09543713505432508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460362089048412,0.10382700250670047,0.0,0.0,0.14181162519413545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084751723981099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741439951881719
parenting,Spectrum2081,2019/03/21,Book suggestions for a 4 year old? My daughter turned 4 in November and we are still reading her baby books to her because she loves them so much. I want to advance our nightly reading to something more age-appropriate but I don't think she is ready for Harry Potter.  What do you'all suggest?,3.8510714285714314,6.126851964285716,4.370857142857143,83.67414285714288,74.0,6.622857142857143,32.628571428571426,7.554174236665415,2.3610328571428565,234,12,42,3,5,74,47,56,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.7391,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,6,8,2,6,0,0,0,1,11,1,0,0,4,28,11,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18136476516962766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685224308626598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21871063073441185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792013411724412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121960464355821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5951988427453231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22904459124565835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375989846734366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19063810329946013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323615137776103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548436070050855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915924225531716
parenting,tquilla,2019/03/21,"To parents: I'm (19f) wondering what it means when mom says things like ""you should be grateful I let you have a social life"", ""think about what you're doing to me"", or says I need guidance but only says thing that are negative. I know parents aren't perfect, I'm not perfect, people make mistakes and make ugly choices. 
I just wonder if it's normal for parents to react this way? 

Examples of things I've gotten in trouble for: 
1. Got home super late twice without telling my parents (never doing that again)
2. Trying to bring my curfew up to 3am (I only go out once a week, every other week) (I don't drink and drive, or wait till I can drive) (legal drinking age is 18) 
3. Trying to bring up past mistakes and apologizing for it. (mom says: you're only apologizing because you got caught. Or whatever)
4. Talked to a boy I liked, tried to bring him up but she went though my phone and saw inappropriate messages. Told me to stop taking to him, but honestly he was a really genuine guy. I was just exploring my sexuality)
5. For coming out as bisexual. (she specifically told me that I was going through a phase and to *only* date boys-but I never felt like I can talk to her about things like dating because it's awkward (I'm not sure if she'll get mad or not)  and mixed signals. 

Even until now I keep secrets and not always open about mental health or things that happen to me. Though, it's also my fault I let it happen. At least I know better now too and can read certain social situations. 

I've always felt like I had to be there for myself (which I know now is a lot more important. It just would be nice to get a hug once in a while) and that I went through things alone. Though that might just be my personality as I am more introverted. (I'm a social introvert). ",2.7296244131455403,4.472933253521131,4.381619718309859,84.72501173708923,75.61971830985915,6.76150234741784,23.66431924882629,7.554174236665415,1.058406572769953,1375,42,278,18,30,462,182,355,0.127,0.757,0.116,-0.5263,4,1,2,0,0,0,60.0,0,3,0,4,19,20,1,1,9,0,26,5,0,3,6,63,64,29,0,8,19,6,2,5,0,4,2,4,1,3,24,13,2,3,11,3,0,12,10,6,0,1,15,7,39,14,39,39,4,40,0,0,1,1,36,9,0,11,23,184,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017466459589509,0.0,0.061905714379966635,0.12882465124183215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437830673235482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846392195810433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668290049224501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516670244808126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051129372231841885,0.0,0.06522228073133772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865379710075885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088832139919877,0.0,0.08798914591642913,0.0,0.12382562799243695,0.0,0.0,0.07664926563878216,0.1369089496345222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228449327592985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764975248295132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880663773393532,0.0,0.0,0.12762952489443516,0.0,0.08732321344595811,0.0,0.0,0.1583164081356982,0.054677824922596686,0.18909602808139486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581224005734577,0.0,0.0,0.10334516374432312,0.0,0.0,0.08432349844575436,0.0,0.0,0.07801228948437686,0.08212105758127099,0.0,0.18132614040901374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739942921861844,0.11940859038798005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584654703922362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488081834590673,0.0,0.23549884524266404,0.0,0.0,0.34382393810991546,0.0,0.07389775647341756,0.05366718404917481,0.06759248018301985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743215570954781,0.0,0.04959160151953343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24624199589637075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701344022499516,0.0,0.2367329311605074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471923541135886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295914660309591,0.0,0.058203593823810365,0.1244403920254383,0.0676608070752525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085713977523945,0.049601975806169034,0.2281683539233068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793945160858266,0.0,0.15767138472383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144541303065314,0.12418920198735155,0.0,0.0,0.14352192913233502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462164125518941,0.1678983039992278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05499070051444932,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,13BuTTonSalute,2019/03/21,"When Momma Ain't Happy, Ain't Nobody Happy. And right now...momma AIN'T happy. So my 10 yr old son is turning into a challenge.  He is super smart and usually...a really sweet kid.  He does, however go through cycles where he is a disrespectful butthead.  My SO and I have done just about everything we have thought of to deal with it.  

Today, I had to make a last minute to the store for groceries.  SO was at work, so no option for boy to stay home.  He literally complained all the way to the store, through, the store...to the second store (because 1st didn't have what I needed) and through that store.  By the time we left the second store (we had been gone from our house for about 20 minutes), I lost it.  I had asked him multiple times to drop the attitude.  He apparently didn't think I was serious.  I punished him from TV for the night.  He started bawling because he was really looking forward to basketball with his dad.  

I made him explain to his dad why he got punished.  My husband tried to talk to him. Son listened, finished his supper and went back to his room...and promptly decides to watch videos on his tablet.  Our response was to go in and take the tablet, and controls to his gaming system and TV remote.  We also decides that the punishment will continue until he shows a change in attitude.  

I am flabbergasted. ",3.7215462184873966,5.581757580392157,4.555126050420167,84.0323529411765,73.19607843137257,7.366946778711482,28.22128851540616,8.11559375814309,1.9285406162464984,1033,41,197,16,21,333,142,255,0.108,0.8440000000000001,0.048,-0.9408,2,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,6,0,0,5,11,13,3,0,15,0,22,1,0,3,1,27,40,15,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,5,15,1,1,5,5,5,5,6,6,0,2,17,4,28,7,35,22,1,29,0,1,2,0,40,9,0,1,13,126,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957084956806315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978073523735035,0.0,0.0,0.11497141951706888,0.0,0.18229164189137986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817201633128547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676990567641509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541482446648922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084569651618885,0.15301056458870482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437866470996826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169950981672225,0.0,0.1195845624725235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4774995008680346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499804495615501,0.0,0.0,0.17252565817654333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187851111687713,0.0,0.0,0.1624535908567594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555888997419662,0.0,0.16321841440248624,0.0,0.0,0.1414791547811737,0.09980556037051563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086696252734228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031410911870704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568957725705762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157229617724544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276890063022019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583081278939588,0.15936810530185927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242020597180337,0.12017827064991952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095806186016932,0.0,0.11870193978913035,0.17437227821913934,0.0,0.14172719212539728,0.0,0.0,0.1015140611429688,0.16263449725456958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868177779260602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860625929190595,0.13491827238198767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885212191407236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megamose,2019/03/21,"Taking away books as punishment My 6 year old can be a real brat sometimes. He doesn’t respond to most punishments. We take away privileges, toys, etc. It hardly phases him. He loves reading books before bed, and we often threaten to take away his bedtime story if he doesn’t listen. Lately I’ve been wondering if we are doing him a disservice by taking away something that we should be encouraging. Thoughts?",4.525542857142857,7.152264906666666,5.108571428571427,77.52000000000002,73.26666666666667,7.485714285714287,28.04761904761905,8.418075326091056,2.4453619047619046,328,13,52,6,7,105,57,75,0.109,0.772,0.119,0.204,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,2,0,9,1,0,0,0,13,17,4,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,2,8,3,8,12,2,7,0,0,0,1,14,4,0,5,3,35,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6332975380588103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14339294291969254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793757676226147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095538190473154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19009105315864214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15209040118290326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768270225975625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855953241209093,0.19180574490433674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973025627472975,0.16666458580776422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5068060146198418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13378123734994374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274616892399964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851744606997094
parenting,MB00254,2019/03/21,"What’s that one kids book you can’t stand but your kid demands you read on a regular basis? For me it’s ‘We’re going on a bear hunt’, it’s boring, repetitive and has a depressing ending and yet he LOVES it. Also the Mr Men books are way over rated",-1.2211111111111101,0.8309182777777799,1.6832407407407397,95.01708333333336,97.70370370370372,4.9222222222222225,14.157407407407408,6.6274283507984215,-0.37510370370370394,193,4,44,3,8,67,45,54,0.155,0.737,0.108,-0.17800000000000002,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,4,1,4,5,0,9,0,1,0,1,9,3,0,0,3,26,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34435424161047656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708790017591385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38138775303806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447224453790548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886373489452024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917887351424849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4307210008427664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34179378780354297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motionerror,2019/03/21,"Comprehensive guide to cyberbullying Hi everyone

I found this guide which explains everything to do with cyberbullying, I thought it was a good resource so thought i'd share as it's a topic very close to me.

https://homeguides.co.uk/cyberbullying/

Thanks",6.743392857142857,10.625621125000002,6.108571428571429,61.44500000000002,87.75,8.285714285714286,30.714285714285715,8.418075326091056,3.6911785714285714,215,10,31,6,7,66,31,40,0.0,0.745,0.255,0.8505,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,3,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,17,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448927744665015,0.32438878649918323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3957510893987196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027385895535443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323042264137825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5730906507577278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978125552606292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoingBlindIsNotFun,2019/03/21,"Possibly dying father of two: Video and written letter life lessons Hey folks,

I’m a 39 year old married father of a 7 year old girl and soon to be 5 year old boy.  I’ve had cancer for more than 3 years and it’s recently come to the point where my oncologists believe my time with my family is measured in months to years.  I have the next 4 days to film life advice videos while they’re out of the area and won’t question what I’m doing.  They’ll be back Tuesday night.  I have a few ideas but I was hoping some of you might be able to help with more.  Throw out your ideas and tomorrow I’ll write them down then hopefully figure out a plan.

Thanks!",4.697867647058821,4.464974816176472,5.2694117647058825,87.56235294117648,69.22058823529412,8.564705882352943,25.823529411764717,8.07648339933343,1.2004147058823524,509,12,115,6,8,164,94,136,0.021,0.8640000000000001,0.115,0.9223,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,2,2,3,3,0,0,7,0,12,3,0,0,0,22,19,8,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,2,11,0,0,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,10,3,18,10,4,30,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,5,20,64,12,0,0.14283482225708885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957653520151733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983116164829636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092593218078882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230395519149829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921166439258006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823999479268934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13465195845034042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573917053009327,0.0,0.0,0.28373441447018644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224862568278677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017769181754345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152517441497865,0.0,0.0,0.11400939240191617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190645389614274,0.1340408047920595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4496433556665357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502507532755112,0.16102480076845854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000769021266684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103215525752374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150311387074345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328813350532184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952886663375935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4599047125498252
parenting,ontheedgeofacliff,2019/03/21,"A tough week. It’s been a tough week. We have two children, 4M and 2F. My husband was away for three days and since he’s been home he’s been sick and had to work crazy long hours. He’s currently out for dinner with his employees because his last day of work at his current job is tomorrow. Which means on Sunday he leaves for two months to start his new job. We’re moving to join him in two months, which is necessary for a multitude of reasons (house there won’t be ready, school year ends in May, need to sell this house etc.) 

I have been an absolute wreck. I’ve broken out in stress eczema all over my body and have had a massive panic attack. I’m not sure why. I normally handle stress ok, and my husband used to travel constantly for work, sometimes up to five months at a time. But this feels like too much right now. 

And then last night my back started hurting on the left side. In the last twenty four hours the pain has gotten worse and I’m at the point where bending, standing or walking is excruciating. I yell out involuntarily with every movement because it hurts so much. I grabbed a heat pack and and ice pack and have been alternating them, and I popped a couple ibuprofen. But it still hurts like a bitch. I don’t want to bug my husband at his dinner because it means a lot to him. He loves these people, and they love him, and he’s really struggling with leaving them, and knowing he’s going to be away from me and the kids is making it so much worse (he hasn’t travelled much for work in 18 months or so). I know we can do this but it’s just gonna suck. 

My kids have been difficult this week. They bicker and hit and yell, and there’s never a moment of peace. I just need five minutes. But they won’t give me just five minutes. I’m feeling awful about how much tv they’ve been watching. At least 3-4 hours every day this week. But even when they’re watching tv or playing on a tablet, they need me. Right. There.
If I go downstairs for a glass of water, or to change the laundry over, or to stand alone for five minutes in a silent room, one of them is down there in less than a minute. I go to the Y every day to work out, even if it’s just a long walk on the track, or water aerobics (don’t knock it, it’s kinda awesome) and so my 2yo is in the childcare there, and my son is in school. So I get a 1.5-2 hour break to do what I want. I could sit in the locker room and watch the West Wing on my phone for two hours. But it’s not enough. I love them, but my kids are draining everything I’ve got. And that, along with needing to maintain our marriage long distance for two months seems like I’m going to need to give more than I have. 

While writing this, I reached for my charger and again, yelled in pain from this back pain. My lovely son, who I just spent a good amount of time complaining about, insisted I lay down and rest. He got me a pillow and water and his favorite bear and told me “shhhhhhh and just rest”. He’s now snuggled against me and I can’t think of a reason to ever be mad at him. 

But give him five minutes.",2.5093533123028378,3.836424736593063,3.370026498422714,93.48562018927444,75.29337539432177,6.207646687697161,22.616908517350158,6.55674776486733,0.2929508895899056,2369,63,541,18,50,753,275,634,0.113,0.8170000000000001,0.069,-0.9723,5,1,0,0,0,0,76.0,3,0,8,5,31,29,4,4,31,2,39,15,1,5,4,94,82,54,0,11,24,5,3,3,0,4,5,3,4,4,23,40,5,0,10,5,2,10,9,18,0,13,15,9,59,11,81,58,15,106,0,3,3,4,54,43,2,12,52,339,82,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150627955536597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756047056070924,0.11159073611537383,0.09132877235584204,0.0,0.10860398132815202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596477309121662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282281341424975,0.0,0.0,0.06417547490714755,0.0,0.047415114926561516,0.06570979295035274,0.0,0.15319695935154665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259862024031816,0.06136190562554453,0.06623140395879065,0.07844816009727454,0.05371829319340506,0.1501065150239098,0.0,0.05337256219993308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06005497841127569,0.04242557267099715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03102688195715968,0.17090620289697106,0.13500237347674202,0.04981039688715391,0.09499327162525502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956928423328764,0.0,0.2924176330805635,0.13704759519654444,0.19072273365677192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786344548598647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527429645630296,0.1452232412666224,0.0,0.1257629986706773,0.06452337059099891,0.0,0.0,0.08703941494190492,0.0,0.0,0.15766497588718276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050488094406561615,0.2143937571727193,0.0,0.03964080525931415,0.0,0.0,0.12937814444580986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23700782384613844,0.06311822085257822,0.2182787565741041,0.22017088301106186,0.04580236274596973,0.0573556424914984,0.0,0.055730003960300235,0.05818594875347384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040241682507908806,0.0,0.18957357749590484,0.06967700798852706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04117097142489108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05613923308217885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038044373768604506,0.12211798005255407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014311229512667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020417840792065,0.0,0.05406304194330209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049124947244668656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05873455270854123,0.0,0.08406783398931185,0.0,0.0474259625731373,0.0,0.13605357379951025,0.062083437472386635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05597086922295279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03805233243955389,0.0,0.0,0.06925723875350187,0.0,0.0,0.0567461386571918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900588482044184,0.0,0.0,0.05129068145904269,0.0,0.0,0.07005513709742463,0.0,0.19054437742126684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05358688375239512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21616960772726587,0.0,0.121039392433967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03824281940342519
parenting,babygreenvines,2019/03/21,"Reminder not to be afraid of being “THAT parent”. I’m not usually an “I Know Best” parent, but sometimes it pays to stick to your guns. 

My preschooler has had intermittent breathing troubles since September. Persistent wheezing, coughing, needing her inhaler every day, etc. Far beyond her usual mild asthma troubles.

After a particularly bad episode, we were back in the hospital for the 3rd time in 6 months. 
They immediately said “oh it’s pneumonia again, take these antibiotics”... which is the same thing they said the last two times that she was struggling to breathe — it didn’t help either time. 

I put my foot down and said I wanted a second opinion. Doctor rolled his eyes at me and treated me like a pest, but I refused the antibiotics and cited their ineffectiveness the last two times we went through this. 

Guess what? 
The second opinion (that was then confirmed by a third opinion) said it was bronchitis and the antibiotics that we were prescribed the other two times undoubtedly made it worse. 
After a round of steroids my preschooler is breathing freely for the first time since the summertime and hasn’t needed her inhaler once. 

I’m non confrontational by nature, which is probably why it took me so long to challenge the authority in the first place. But in the end it was worth it, and the apology from the initial doctor was the cherry on top. 
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parenting,Angie31,2019/03/21,"I don't know how to feel I found something out today from my daughter that I honestly wasn't expecting to hear. On the way home from her therapist, she tells me she's got something to tell me but is afraid. Initially I thought it was she's had sex. No. Something to do with school? No. Mind you I did get an email from a teacher saying she was in danger of failing. That still wasn't it. She said it was about a boy she was""dating"" in school. So jokingly I asked her if she had oral sex..YES! This is the same boy she was crying about when I picked her up one day because he won't talk to her now (there's a surprise) I could not believe my ears and immediately went into full on mom mode. Why didn't you come to me and tell me? She basically did it to keep him around. Now he wants nothing to do with her..I don't know how to process this. If she would have come to me, I could have maybe prevented it. I was a kid once, I know how boys can be. But she didn't. I'm really hurt that she feels that she can't confide in me. Thinking I would overreact. When truth be told I didn't. I just cried, this is my baby. She's 15. I don't know how to feel or what to think. I love that kid more than life. Still seeing my little girl. I'm just at a loss right now.",-0.5499793956043959,1.4721027875457864,1.4822424450549467,99.63072630494509,88.8901098901099,5.024221611721612,17.322458791208796,6.4784943948869325,-0.4273662087912085,963,24,242,11,32,318,137,273,0.094,0.835,0.071,-0.804,0,0,3,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,0,2,18,10,1,1,8,0,33,4,1,5,1,44,59,14,0,8,8,2,3,0,0,3,1,4,1,6,14,9,0,2,11,1,0,3,13,5,0,1,20,8,47,5,31,32,3,26,0,3,1,2,42,13,0,3,9,162,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741914914534703,0.11280728921066807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355743955921627,0.0,0.0,0.13595030699370186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788774846328129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192685447131012,0.0,0.2650939095173465,0.07782018628839192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303847389502306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230505872543466,0.0,0.0,0.06304348974220644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650836577059684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13600039810558384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210387677594284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12917644253885124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725431026729243,0.0,0.0,0.2652615525307779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852306200699086,0.0,0.12093996259058774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890661402726358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122614830958045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183919940362165,0.14132364815006254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157831721993675,0.0,0.0,0.12850634059739233,0.08176703356461676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773023241826666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304889753582007,0.1147818813515226,0.09595918467500217,0.0,0.2442427472697236,0.09615591913035673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27868589019196155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272952977499616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698750626131274,0.31640464208028496,0.0,0.0,0.140103604268453,0.0,0.15463699079607127,0.0,0.0957960625183614,0.0,0.0,0.11437813890417675,0.11530242114834773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117248073925797,0.09577979117618307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118594515317222,0.1088831343357518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143664765597533,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Random_dude_1980,2019/03/21,"Love daughter so much it hurts My daughter turned 1 yesterday. Normally, my wife feeds her and puts her to bed but today I fed her. I love her so much it tears me up inside and I don’t even know why. I hope one day she will realise how incredibly much my wife and I lover her. ",-0.6587711864406778,1.5142786101694945,1.4862500000000018,97.54259533898306,93.40677966101694,4.983898305084747,17.54449152542373,6.6274283507984215,-0.16562881355932202,214,6,51,3,8,71,40,59,0.07200000000000001,0.6729999999999999,0.255,0.9385,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,0,8,8,7,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,15,4,2,6,3,5,0,1,0,3,13,1,0,1,3,33,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765306534532544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146003109181573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24279868587709835,0.0,0.0,0.26169382403151553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434591610896462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412598416084596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5391070196588915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395137141060641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656488386944251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457445033742779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23171448266536265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658965286036376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205823541571072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Coronaandlimeplz,2019/03/21,"Will I need permission from my sons father to be able to get him a passport and take him on holiday abroad? I tried to post this to asklegaluk but it was deleted as a mod thought I was trying to get advice on immigration and visas or some other nonsense, so I’m hoping someone from the uk will be able to answer this for me, LO’s dad has very little contact with him, maybe two or three visits a year tops, I’ve finally got myself enough money saved so I can afford passports and a holiday but then one of my friends told me that unless I get permission I cannot get a passport or go abroad with my son? I don’t know if this is true or not, I’m hoping I won’t need permission as my ex just loves to be awkward and I know for a fact he will say no simply to spite me, any advice welcome guys.",4.32715976331361,4.054312396449706,5.593899408284024,85.05783136094676,70.00591715976331,8.41680473372781,28.142603550295853,7.908726449838941,1.5594965680473365,621,19,137,7,10,209,102,169,0.069,0.7190000000000001,0.211,0.9821,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,3,9,1,1,7,0,14,1,0,0,2,28,32,17,0,5,10,5,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,6,6,0,0,4,2,2,2,5,2,0,3,5,1,20,7,20,20,2,10,0,0,0,1,17,4,0,8,3,89,26,0,0.3316438901265842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240785711295551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127646089198271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133839625036298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816498355041958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811362341677973,0.0,0.3465404889887259,0.0,0.09424043274769246,0.0,0.13262295759008114,0.0,0.0,0.1641897961017239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293972138261653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226280877655607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661971519414563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966077954060242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16659043180035552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24590974228438894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236524148055572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15881158595132558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186826631986054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050039593957658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467746589190695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164410188924947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844997465131594,0.0,0.2251644317192568,0.0,0.1619839454558384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682047095618005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678389593473434
parenting,SeleneMartyr,2019/03/21,Days out/activities with 7mo? Need ideas what to do all day with my 7mo. He is up early and I can't cope staying in the house more than one day in a row. ,-1.3101428571428568,0.4732944857142876,1.3082142857142856,101.26803571428572,89.85714285714286,4.642857142857143,14.464285714285715,5.985473137389443,-1.107714285714286,117,2,32,1,4,40,31,35,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,7,4,2,8,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,19,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.66384524013612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959103545676185,0.0,0.38733674589240585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544165251009761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325046093257596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3657165185961142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,youngmomthrowaway98,2019/03/21,"My ex boyfriend took all my money out of my bank account and left my baby son and I to get evicted. I have no idea what to do I don’t even know what to do so I’m basically desperately making this post asking for anyone’s advice and help. I’m a young single mom to a beautiful seven month old boy. My ex boyfriend (his dad) and I broke up because although never confirmed I had every reason to believe he was cheating on me, he pushed me down on the ground when I was 7months pregnant, he wouldn’t come home for days at a time and overall he was just a piece of shit person. I have gave him an out because we’re young, he’s two years older than me (just turned 22) and I figured that he would want to be involved in his sons life no matter what but surprise, as soon as I gave him the out it really showed what his priorities were. He hasn’t been in our lives since my son was less than 2 months old. I don’t drink or do any sort of drugs and he’s into partying and go to raves, clubs etc. 
So to get into why I’m asking for what to do, I’m about to get evicted from my apartment, the constable is coming tomorrow and I have nowhere to go. I’m a hairdresser and I’m pretty good at what I do, and I make a fairly good income off of tips too. I’ve been really proud of myself for providing for my son. I’m in the South West region and I have no family to help me, I’ve been pretty much completely alone most of the pregnancy and since my son was two months old. So almost 6 months ago my son and I moved into a really nice apartment, I’ve been up to date on my bills, I was even able to buy myself a safer car. What I didn’t realize is that my ex had my banking info logged in on his phone, and I changed the password but it was like the auto log in or something, not sure exactly what happened but he took almost $3500 out of my account on Venmo. I’ve disputed it with the bank already but they can’t do anything until the investigation is over which takes 10-15 business days. I’ve pleaded with the manager of my apartments, but he says they’re a corporate run company and he has no choice in the matter and filed for eviction without really even giving me a chance to explain what happened and that I HAVE the money just my asshole of an ex boyfriend screwed me and his son over. I’ve tried every avenue I could possibly think of, I have nothing to sell for money and the few things I might be able to get $20-100 for aren’t even close to covering my rent which is $1400 with late fees and now an eviction fee. I’ve gone to several payday loan places and they wont even give me the time of day because I’m considered self employed and I don’t have pay stubs to show, and the one place that would give me a loan wanted to give me $145. I have no friends that have the means to help me, and I have no relationship with my family out here. I have no where to turn and I feel like not only a failure as a mother but as a person. And the best part is I feel like I’ve done a good job, I was saving money. One of my friends told me to file a police report because he stole the money out of my account, and I did, andTuesday I went and talked to a detective and filed a report and explained what happened but it’s not getting me the money before I get evicted. And I’ve texted and called my ex’s phone probably 100 times and nothing but absolute silence. I’ve called my bank, I’ve called Venmo, I’ve gone and talked to my apartments. I have nowhere to go, I don’t have friends that have space for me and my son and it’s not their obligation to take me in any way. I was supposed to pay my rent on the 15th, and I  discovered my bank account when my card got declined at the grocery store for money orders for my rent and diapers. I know there are homeless shelters and women’s shelters but I don’t want to do that. I feel like it’s not even an option. I’ve made the money, I’ve worked hard, and it’s all taken away from me. I feel like I’m suffocating, and my son has no idea what’s really going on but I’ve made it comfortable for him. I have a nursery for him and ALL of my stuff and furniture and clothes and belongings are in my apartment and I have no place to put them. I currently have $30 left to my name. And I know the bank will find the charges weren’t me, but it might be another week before it gets solved and we’re going to lose the apartment and all my and my sons belongings and have nowhere to go but maybe someone’s couch. I felt so proud of myself and felt like I was doing so great and now it feels like everything is crumbling and my life (and more importantly) my sons life is falling apart. I’ve been crying and wondering how could I have been so stupid to leave money in my bank account with my ex having access to it (even though there’s been no issues for months) and I’ve been basically feeling sorry for myself and trying to think of everything I can. Except for maybe robbing a bank or prostituting myself I’ve done every option I can think of. I don’t even know why I’m posting this except if someone knows a way to get $1500 by tomorrow morning. Luckily I have food in my fridge and pantry left still and my son breast feeds exclusively. And I don’t own my car, it’s a lease and I don’t have the title or really know how it works and I can’t get a title loan. I like to think I’m usually a very positive person but this has been really taking a toll on me. If anyone has been in a situation or has words of advice or what I should possibly do it would mean so much to me. Thank you ",4.078018581721654,4.064752196245735,5.327104664391356,85.86237296169891,70.55290102389078,8.490633295411454,27.199279484262423,8.256446698504663,1.5227280621918848,4322,128,967,58,72,1447,399,1172,0.07200000000000001,0.81,0.119,0.9965,17,1,3,0,1,0,85.0,1,1,4,6,34,30,4,0,56,0,101,10,2,7,7,179,184,103,0,12,32,21,9,8,3,9,4,1,5,6,41,81,3,0,30,4,36,20,33,6,0,5,42,10,135,24,131,128,16,116,0,2,0,2,82,57,2,17,42,619,176,9,0.0946309595540137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092472278458614,0.041942317969629016,0.0,0.09475923657955818,0.049004567446892314,0.05221380850786575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06435229753060333,0.04961440605887235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616816719956962,0.0,0.038936608316322785,0.0,0.08846717294246345,0.0,0.044454450780848066,0.0,0.0,0.11537230922263113,0.0,0.0805239766809575,0.053308342947289915,0.04965467689284485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494318512031162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005350379534616,0.08151619245798347,0.04960938033151742,0.0,0.0,0.07555512101261927,0.0,0.05197383277127584,0.09154371043257233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096840326791155,0.0,0.046351156990184536,0.054870934870692764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0527692672335888,0.250011425198363,0.0,0.11959599723611294,0.0,0.08504820460765106,0.0,0.08920964672779927,0.0,0.14354476947810774,0.1690109410338679,0.09086056128800762,0.0,0.04324549132399378,0.0,0.0572140659598956,0.0,0.10966746691377943,0.0,0.22248346778168496,0.18155727854135192,0.16134286525759406,0.119057938707661,0.03784251152900897,0.05216548349246735,0.0,0.0,0.1255227675151066,0.0,0.04238537617283355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951437061810581,0.0,0.04746128408474947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682683481649613,0.0,0.04938506793962105,0.04695331278037966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602010167247754,0.0,0.053373922105698746,0.05010026126789977,0.15422522166282995,0.0,0.1002609679544308,0.1849276273747676,0.0,0.04178043550287145,0.0,0.0,0.05293391903946792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954210201088726,0.06316690032374775,0.0,0.09506951813746953,0.1030808569707308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038849368027324,0.0,0.055415318058051034,0.18883382270999327,0.050288866978431386,0.06956464364995893,0.0,0.036492614910831216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908009579031689,0.0,0.14894891011669667,0.0,0.06412438726228234,0.03598555448759013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123805373865395,0.0,0.0,0.12394215569444808,0.14830381734135845,0.0,0.0,0.10668218833420268,0.09063030083944848,0.09627370631049527,0.05101408987377695,0.0,0.0,0.04756512579909741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121805554907761,0.04864819359279183,0.0,0.050799117956514726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03762716862297577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936036453012373,0.05345302433214938,0.048568660049382865,0.0782797076324337,0.05318458171024548,0.0,0.0,0.08018050494104498,0.03642576795753296,0.0,0.05296580583497432,0.0,0.0,0.037786203269814536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054164904215316334,0.0,0.0,0.04459427973412655,0.0,0.10672605692458886,0.0760607807324776,0.0,0.04356173674347669,0.0,0.0,0.031434302323050105,0.12127139570307513,0.04648721864709682,0.0,0.08277011027694517,0.0,0.0,0.045211968587270085,0.10513847798907054,0.06424820979784872,0.10293131003066927,0.09244069706805236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211131629374086,0.03904022609393922,0.08372368762286468,0.07511365098537537,0.037953623851371215,0.0,0.0,0.04386192378679255,0.08538972209330857,0.0,0.0,0.04561043404820128,0.05131161947492729,0.06889246560461071,0.0,0.0,0.10083467785845254,0.0,0.0,0.030469617677451807
parenting,daggah,2019/03/21,"Bedtime routines and our four (almost five) month old For the most part, our LO is an easy baby but my wife and I are still struggling with bedtime.  We've been trying to establish a routine that gets her down for sleep at around 8:30 or 9 PM (we tried for 8:30 at first, with no luck.)  We start the bedtime routine with bath time, then dressed into pajamas, my wife feeds her (or I feed her with formula so my wife can pump), reading a book to her some nights (this could be more consistent for sure) and she'll fall asleep.  However, she always wakes up about an hour later!  

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This is where it gets difficult...prior to going down for the night, she doesn't tolerate me holding her for long.  She wants her mom.  If I hold her, she gets fussy!  When she falls asleep with me holding her, I seem to be pretty decent at putting her down without waking her up.  If Mama tries to put her down when she's sleeping, she wakes up!  Unfortunately, my wife ends up basically falling asleep with her, eventually waking up in the middle of the night and putting her down with varying degrees of success.  My wife swears up and down that she's OK with this but it has me feeling pretty guilty, because I can't seem to help with it.  Other than nighttime, I feel we do a pretty decent job of sharing the workload with our daughter, so it drives me a bit crazy feeling so helpless at bedtime. :(

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She went through a period a few weeks ago where it was rough at night and she only slept for a few hours at a time.  I'm not sure if she's actually gone through the 4-month sleep regression or not.  There are still bad nights at times now, but most nights she seems to sleep OK once she's gone to sleep for the night.  

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The two main issues I see are that we haven't figured out how to get her to know that when we put her down after her bath, story time, and meal is bedtime, not naptime, and I can't figure out why she gets so fussy when I hold her at night.  Any tips?",5.213988549618321,5.4329767124681965,5.178438295165396,87.1013979007634,68.13486005089058,7.873155216284987,28.843193384223923,7.333567415737692,1.4159025445292612,1540,49,325,13,24,479,187,393,0.09,0.823,0.087,-0.3284,2,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,8,0,0,2,17,10,0,1,19,2,19,16,13,1,2,63,40,27,0,5,13,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,13,27,3,4,9,4,0,12,9,3,0,4,6,5,58,7,63,30,9,74,0,1,1,0,49,29,0,14,33,220,71,4,0.0,0.0,0.06751890779194626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061332259410414626,0.0,0.0692832246853728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757115250862775,0.22490017150633448,0.2522182097889478,0.04705118835660357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615932660963206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057770288118709115,0.04217723733786507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553694303282177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05524213379297194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128130283226739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495277162571837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05885249800274545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074312030149692,0.0,0.039321950339685614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046376219780305566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627531250387392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221579408336594,0.06865983805925673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038024703975368994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123047264510105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103382995923347,0.11045269370468218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194367812586502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726026730392823,0.07368449009747573,0.0,0.05262168305668419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749254155638095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21117158811226264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782179694037593,0.0,0.0,0.06920815856986579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055135021649805036,0.1889623889499784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34619701354294896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04897263815679738,0.0,0.1105095442153228,0.0,0.0,0.07233182002171945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304204471891393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137966364854295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092525380320275,0.0,0.067588024304746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0408097213558897,0.0,0.05549959125538022,0.0,0.0,0.06413929935582888,0.06243270329267806,0.0,0.0,0.06669614623806715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522182097889478,0.0
parenting,JapaneseShowerHead,2019/03/21,"Suicidal 8 year old?!!! 
Not quite sure how to process today's events...  
Bit of background : I have an 8 year old boy and six year old girl, my girl is an absolute ray of sunshine and always positive and happy, but in contrast my boy has always been a bit on the negative side, and a deep thinker, beyond his years.  He's often in the past spent time crying and ""wishing he was a better person"", we have felt he has some kind of mild depression and this genetically runs in the family.   He worries about bad people in the world and things that might go wrong.  When he's needed it, he has talked about his feelings with his school support counsellor etc.    
I grew up in an old school household where, i',m ashamed to admit, these things were seen as a weakness and I have had to recondition myself to take his feelings on board and work with him on them, and for the last 12 months we've had this cracked, I think he;s been happy generally and just getting on with life.

He is also a bit of a tearaway and he goes to an after school sports club where he can get over excited.  The PE teacher is sometimes strict with him, doing timeouts etc, which I think is entirely fair but he doesn't like this of course!   

Last night, he got a time out and got angry about it. Tonight when we discussed it, he gets really upset talking to me about it , and he confessed that when he was being told off he had the urge to throw himself in front of a car to stop it happening, and to teach the PE teacher a lesson.    He was in tears saying this, it wasn't a play and he clearly felt embarrassed telling me.    He went on to say he was a bad person, his sister is more important, we would be happier without him etc.    He said often his friends wind him up at school and he thinks about dying, and that dying would be a release, would make it easier because the feelings would stop.   He also said he wished he didn't feel like this and he wasn't able to learn how to be happy.

This has scared the life out of me,  it's not the first time he's spoken this way but it's WAY more extreme than anything he's said before.  He was much younger last time and perhaps I overlooked the meaning of it.   I just don't know how to process this and what to do next.    I feel like I want to be with him 24/7 at the moment and scared to leave him and go to work.
Does anyone have a similar problem or any experience either themselves or with their children?  
I clearly need some professional support but I don't want to make a massive deal out of something and upset him even more, make him think even more that ""something is wrong with him""..... 


TL;DR   8yr old son recently started talking about being better off dead and having urges, i'm scared and don't know how to deal with it.

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parenting,Krebstar_,2019/03/21,"*Rant* They are never fucking satisfied... So I have 6 year old, boy girl twins. Let me start off by saying they are two of the coolest people I know but on the other hand, they are two of the most annoying people I know. So I picked them up from kindergarten today and brought them home. My son got another yellow dot (bad behavior) so i sent him to his room. My daughter asked me if I could build a fort so, of course, I said OK. She is a very well behaved kid so I was glad to do it. So I spent the next 30 minutes trying to engineer this huge freaking blanket fort in my living room. I had to go through 3 iterations before I could get it to stay up properly. I finish this feat of engineering prowess and my daughter is really excited about it. I am happy with it so I tell my son that he can come downstairs to play with his sister. He didn’t even know that I was making it so when he came down he was hysterical with excitement. I’m
Not exaggerating when I say that they played in it for 4 minutes when my son comes out and says, “I’m bored of this one, I want a smaller one.” And my daughter was like, why didn’t I think of that! I’m sitting there looking like that orange angry emoji with the smoke coming out of its ears. Being a parent is great but it also sucks. End of rant.",1.4446067415730326,3.3186338052434468,3.3362486891385785,90.16558651685392,79.86142322097378,6.2195655430711625,21.915955056179765,7.24861992348623,0.6402465617977526,994,30,218,13,25,334,156,267,0.077,0.738,0.185,0.9868,2,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,6,0,16,17,3,0,9,1,21,3,2,2,1,29,46,19,0,4,4,8,1,2,0,0,0,5,3,3,17,14,0,0,4,2,1,7,4,6,1,4,13,8,37,11,32,29,1,32,0,0,2,1,32,12,2,2,13,145,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906224993354537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430052895266471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749597027553822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138707819203047,0.0,0.0,0.1160484979446616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598126267794876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524353397397729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177750942500359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079132886210014,0.0,0.0,0.09007705393831884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608020283781804,0.07125240709603388,0.0,0.07750733772714727,0.0,0.10907475766614884,0.15035834675287402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517799863689165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13679927285217022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22485102195090828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945678396261482,0.0,0.13325579703012175,0.0,0.12042516982966248,0.0,0.11452402562339815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103405227283813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518390474563843,0.0,0.1450406308494578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310683601749075,0.0,0.1848279017042001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15143275805332707,0.0,0.0,0.1890960761417139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736788992258873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12972767482812747,0.3253622024585969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652976956174608,0.14536188539810582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920127125347553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738616679820943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927136091946104,0.0,0.0,0.0925923998042812,0.0,0.26644496424235464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252697108023046,0.0804398771769317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226211139698819,0.0,0.12306084966595958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782361503148615
parenting,DirtyTulip,2019/03/21,"My two year old is becoming aggressive and I’m worried we will get kicked out of daycare My son is going to be 3 in May, we are expecting our second child in the end of May. He has gone through a few changes here at home (new bedroom) but seems to love his new space. At home he does act out a bit with hitting or not listening but we put him in timeout for 2 minutes and it seems to help. 

At daycare he is spitting, hitting and kicking other kids and teachers. They have started a smiley face and frown face chart to show how he does throughout the day during different activities. We talk every night about his chart and what are good and what are bad actions. He does comprehend the good verses bad actions but the next day will repeat those actions. 

My husband thinks we should put him in timeout once we get home from school after we talk about his bad days and actions. I am not think a 2 year old is going to respond to that in a constructive way. What is the best way to help my boy get through these tough times? 

I know he is two and these actions are normal for his age, but I don’t want to get kicked out of daycare. They have sent messages about “protecting those around him” from his actions. 

Please help!!",4.305083514887439,5.334148053497945,4.406928104575165,88.92647058823532,70.52263374485597,7.199128540305011,29.108932461873646,7.285733465282438,1.475223384168483,959,36,199,9,17,297,128,243,0.07,0.789,0.142,0.9705,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,8,0,2,1,6,9,1,0,10,0,21,4,3,1,0,40,41,15,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,5,0,1,4,3,10,21,0,1,5,1,0,13,3,5,0,3,2,1,25,4,34,31,3,45,0,0,0,1,39,13,0,5,17,123,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719956606146284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27349971639446696,0.0,0.12058844707571813,0.0,0.0,0.11458500495847113,0.0,0.11920390896170248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550535295910973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21124971845994767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140771605602672,0.0,0.0,0.28665080037220725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670726072006934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199474446208046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281827735444573,0.0,0.12410696012550475,0.18316172615660176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21955720441098725,0.0,0.328570346994046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000631173287034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985455173392776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21090694192547407,0.1161215977562015,0.10246458934274608,0.10698006317727607,0.0,0.0,0.2291467480644631,0.11628057605736612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198545218195174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195261561081772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105030585196411,0.0,0.1987994616072969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07728311030432755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755207259969505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13992522303533456,0.0,0.0,0.06366780929125075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21331963864684095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440131297272852,0.17333509367469765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088468381627027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406256776250067
parenting,savytown,2019/03/21,"How do I explain properly to my 6 year old that ""I hate you"" is not an appropriate response? Anytime my child is upset with me or a situation she will shout ""I Hate You."" I have explained that it is hurtful and not how we handle situations and I've tried grounding her. Neither tactic worked long term, because she will say it the very next day.
What is something I can say or do to express my dislike for this phrase in a positive manner?",4.443448275862072,5.407759954022993,5.662701149425288,80.28991379310345,70.14942528735632,8.098850574712644,32.89080459770115,8.344100000000001,2.5284804597701145,344,16,67,5,6,115,63,87,0.174,0.7879999999999999,0.038,-0.9146,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,2,0,1,2,4,2,1,4,0,10,0,0,2,0,12,14,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,6,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,3,15,0,5,12,2,8,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,2,6,49,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944492138396802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475259310832132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4516899170359024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448834405116792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20243806809589188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24328004249296026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24003644319158995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36382508807428415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5142530207045306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761042448890322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553073978442014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887441204969422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665339718847932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14730860360722986
parenting,homicidal_bird,2019/03/21,"Parents: we always see parents talking about how burdensome children are. What are some good things about having children that you wouldn’t have expected beforehand? I’m a teen who babysits and has younger siblings, and I’d like to hear different adult perspectives. Obviously I’ve got many years until any of this would be applicable to me as a parent, but what makes parenting worth it?",8.833695652173912,9.497219869565221,7.7259057971014515,70.39581521739133,60.44927536231884,11.537681159420293,40.43840579710145,11.20814326018867,4.843257971014493,317,16,51,8,4,97,58,69,0.028,0.877,0.095,0.5439,5,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,1,11,13,6,0,3,1,4,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,7,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,2,7,9,1,2,0,0,1,0,12,0,0,1,3,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467119297752696,0.0,0.0,0.12640815959061413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942102388441636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591150064254194,0.1486691981554733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20950588038392046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081401104127787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240796665134057,0.18845819231311664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8256130821089844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812626118852018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494073044531996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349371994937933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204735536637527,0.0,0.0,0.1197038316216964
parenting,Bacon5150,2019/03/21,"My neighbors told my 4yr old daughter that she isn’t allowed to play with their kids. Some background; my daughter is 4 and she has autism. My neighbors are concerned her behavior will “rub off” on their kids and told her she isn’t allowed to play with them anymore. 
My daughter was really upset over it. Watching her cry absolutely broke my heart. I always want her to see the best in people, so I did not want to set a bad example by acting out of anger towards my neighbors. Instead I took advantage of their fancy Bluetooth compatible sound system, which I was able to connect to because they didn’t secure it. Guess who’s listening to 27 different versions of Baby Shark right now? DO DO DOO DOO DO DO, you big meanies. ",5.003812949640288,6.393739345323741,5.4511438848920895,80.73801079136692,69.2158273381295,7.8621582733812945,32.605035971223025,8.238735603445708,2.5421735251798565,575,26,104,8,10,184,93,139,0.109,0.784,0.107,-0.5083,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,5,2,3,9,1,1,2,0,14,1,1,2,0,12,22,3,0,2,1,3,1,0,3,1,0,2,3,2,5,5,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,4,0,0,7,5,24,5,19,14,3,14,0,1,2,0,25,8,0,2,2,72,29,0,0.2270582150078551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18893062414089976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251807369253764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895841253035821,0.1384125803906309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382835882720993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24941278735373704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23722750780562135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501302226006604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690650780269893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23825940134781284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741357699096434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14545930669191376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390647499169894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18093600003506305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339277096120853,0.2522700314289319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267849636174262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,User226868,2019/03/21,"Advice on cooking toddler food Is it essential to mash toddler's food? For example - we eat pressure cooked rice and lentils, can a 15 month old digest half chewed (most of the times at least) mix of cooked rice and lentils? Or, should I mash it before offering it? Likewise, can they digest cooked Edamame, broccoli and other such food even if they are not very soft? 
I'm constantly adviced by family to offer supersoft food to my son, but he prefers food which he can hold and bite into. I wonder if he is getting the nutrients as has not mastered chewing yet.",5.870107816711588,6.874128867924532,5.6779784366576855,81.32537735849056,66.9245283018868,8.698652291105121,34.01078167115903,8.841846274778883,2.8831121293800543,444,20,81,7,7,138,76,106,0.025,0.975,0.0,-0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,1,3,1,0,1,3,0,8,14,0,0,0,17,11,9,0,4,6,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,6,14,1,2,4,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,6,0,11,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,5,5,49,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279636942682901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12175258913842962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462125012000008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464090220797017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450457983680262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488535853449413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8650790674874241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475465171832163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142070115237408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014091623009834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834325016793378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805796989683047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516676601084078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,queen_beef,2019/03/21,"Backstreet Boys are Back A conversation between my 4yo son and my wife in the car today:


Wife: we are not going to Walmart for ice cream right now.


Son: but I want to!


Wife: we are going home right now and that's final.


Son: why?


Wife: because I said so.


Son: TELL ME WHY!!


Wife (without missing a beat): AINT NOTHING BUT A HEARTACHE!!!!


Thought you guys might want to hear that. Made my day!",-1.0401136363636354,0.5015299480519531,0.23232954545454554,101.96849431818184,113.15584415584415,2.4444805194805195,17.79951298701299,4.557286568694721,-0.8950253246753248,294,10,65,1,16,91,52,77,0.037000000000000005,0.908,0.054000000000000006,-0.471,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,13,14,5,0,2,4,9,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,3,3,9,0,7,10,0,12,0,1,1,0,18,3,0,1,6,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483401690717986,0.0,0.13067536135404642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382481639493213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348271827251731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436579725989413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21225577850797364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24160576106560025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21502630882194795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028380400030747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227408167104362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20568970258528305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661343299419451,0.20391090163534925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873650994637724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018244736216145,0.0,0.0,0.2031936500491461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528769270599537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868634637080112,0.0,0.0,0.2066409172503405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flipester,2019/03/21,"Should I ask my daughter's school about their sweets policy? The handbook for the elementary school my daughter recently joined says not to pack candy in students' lunch boxes. My daughter complained yesterday that one classmate had chocolate pudding. Should I ask the director of the school for clarification of the policy (i.e., what foods are included and whether the policy is current), or should I just tell my daughter that we will follow the policy in the handbook regardless of whether others do?

FWIW, I wouldn't want to put chocolate pudding in my daughter's lunch, but I would occasionally put in a small treat (such as a few chocolate chips) if the policy allowed it.",10.255574229691872,9.883182302521014,9.101302521008405,65.13609943977593,57.907563025210074,12.303081232492998,42.52240896358544,11.538034831475384,5.162057703081233,550,27,85,13,6,171,72,119,0.026,0.921,0.053,0.6186,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,11,0,10,3,0,1,0,18,14,7,0,8,7,5,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,0,5,2,3,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,1,2,12,2,13,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,2,3,62,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995219766831659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25838145343747904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447943971787468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296127580068161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21098220015573185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16992608992964026,0.0,0.6487635630364399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18676483425873414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603339017078266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179140644790315,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Popular_Might_1,2019/03/21,What's the strangest phase your baby has been through? My 6 month old will only sleep if he's on his Dad's chest...,1.7759999999999998,2.9996772000000007,2.029,102.7795,77.0,5.0,20.5,3.1291,-0.7557999999999998,90,2,23,0,2,27,23,25,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,11,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381907231316798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5760623255678446,0.0,0.0,0.41752414681104416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5493766231397289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PhisherPrice,2019/03/21,"We need to train our kids to be Machiavellians. Being a Machiavellian is considered evil, but studies show that's exactly what gets you ahead in life. Studies show dark traits and disagreeableness leads to career and romantic advancement. Executives have the highest rates of psychopathy of any profession, and that's just the ones foolish enough to admit it. Furthermore, dark triats are a spectrum, so you can be assured there is almost nobody from the other end of that spectrum. 

Therefore, if you want the best for your child as every parent should, you need to train your kids to value success and power by any means necessary. You should train your kids on how to employ the use of ""force or fraud."" Remember, you don't make the rules. Society has already made the rules, and even though it is evil, you have to either accept it or suffer the consequences. ",8.289971139971144,8.891217896103901,7.2508658008658,73.55423520923524,61.59740259740259,10.740548340548342,33.34487734487736,10.504223727775694,3.555588167388166,692,25,114,15,9,211,101,154,0.108,0.741,0.151,0.7935,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,10,0,6,6,7,2,0,10,0,14,1,0,6,2,30,23,13,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,4,8,6,0,0,4,2,0,2,1,3,0,1,1,0,12,4,19,17,3,6,0,1,0,0,18,2,0,4,2,82,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315443210792329,0.0,0.2551690215816472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144898498438666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24266253854650965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480192317237653,0.23892330681329246,0.0,0.15272581280507685,0.0,0.19482198593259775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208085890054932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16332520602544548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187962457961686,0.1543484052645577,0.0,0.0,0.2518782116138557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3429095292705955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566880258770464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567545234643869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619395067381953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22718316164286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19970923487422185,0.0,0.0,0.13638596164790082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SurroundedByCrazy789,2019/03/21,"Help! Classroom treats & allergies I hope this is allowed, and that someone has some suggestions. My kiddo wants to take a treat to his classroom tomorrow for his birthday. I finally got an answer back from his teacher on allergies in the classroom, peanuts, milk protein, red/blue dye. So what kind of treat can I bring that is store bought but avoids all those? He had his heart set on cupcakes and juice, but since it took so long for his teacher to get back to me I do not have time to find a bakery who can make allergy free cupcakes. I am not against buying separate treats either, I just want to make sure I bring something for everyone. Thank you for any help! ",5.146657986111112,6.4191620859375025,4.798854166666668,85.98850694444445,68.765625,8.188888888888886,31.409722222222214,8.515128840125781,2.310221180555556,529,22,103,8,9,161,90,128,0.015,0.807,0.177,0.9622,1,1,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,0,0,5,10,0,1,4,0,9,2,1,3,2,20,22,6,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,1,1,2,0,4,3,2,1,0,0,4,0,15,10,16,18,3,13,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,6,65,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261106968386284,0.0,0.1419133242336929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209325997796859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940797775922528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286048100537628,0.19073480411445207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902958216465863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690489118526308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472933712528037,0.27975503889656017,0.0,0.0,0.20727182958893967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731387789453607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468013712233775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785984386095417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17262683628159964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681858195518965,0.16065632516571232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668365300764948,0.0,0.15690555584095495,0.0,0.0,0.19212960866610487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216862173517543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23185731494985626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461762782598121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DriftingInTheDarknes,2019/03/21,"Had a much needed reminder to be vigilant and advocate for my child. Never blindly trust the professionals, because they make mistakes too. Yesterday, my daughter fractured her arm pretty significantly. We ended up at a Children’s hospital in our state. At our local hospital they weighed her and the weight was 10lbs less than what I knew it to be. I had just weighed her the day before and corrected them. They were going to administer narcotics and I decided to make them weigh her again just to be safe. She was 2lbs less than what I told them. Nothing huge, scales differ but glad I checked. 


We were then transferred to the children’s hospital. They have a scale in the bed and her weight matched the weight from the other hospital. An hour  later they are ready to administer more narcotics to set the fracture. The Dr. started going over my daughters stats and she rattled off her weight in KG. It was nowhere near what it was at the other hospital. I stop her and ask for the standard conversion and it turns out they input her weight wrong by 7lbs! My daughter is 5 and weighs 40lbs. That’s a pretty significant discrepancy. The dr thanked me for speaking up because it made a difference in dosages. 


Listen and be vigilant. Speak up if something seems off. I was extremely nervous that they were administering narcotics, as necessary as they were. Human error is real and as far as I can tell, much of our medical personnel are stretched thin. A second set of eyes and ears can save your child’s life. ",4.7587365591397885,7.091258498207889,4.930846774193551,80.41627016129034,71.54480286738352,8.090860215053763,31.33826164874552,8.841846274778883,2.7935745519713264,1207,55,213,24,24,378,151,279,0.064,0.8340000000000001,0.102,0.8994,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,5,1,11,0,4,8,0,1,19,0,22,17,3,3,2,34,36,19,0,3,4,3,6,0,0,0,5,4,1,5,12,15,9,2,3,0,1,2,1,3,0,1,14,12,40,5,36,18,5,35,0,0,2,0,42,20,0,2,10,155,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224957400726902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463875484175118,0.0,0.102171028859341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774354460705561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508959314742443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634669612882748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136477500010509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824511375335482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480924293248493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136134734742168,0.1602957892033408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095825103941225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765310534056255,0.08903064713490434,0.09260566019931986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11521074433690227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244309435059768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666635120937376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093075420434189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924360257059402,0.0,0.0,0.08498641556206707,0.0,0.0,0.10038419352226764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494678294859594,0.11054465130590838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147323701018851,0.0,0.0,0.13060206762193194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7310667287721262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312780846870617,0.0,0.0
parenting,RightMeow0129,2019/03/21,"Are any other parents of young children afraid that they are the last generation that can survive on Earth and that we will not have grandchildren of our own? Global warming, nuclear warfare, etc.  Things are not looking optimal for continued reproduction at this point.  Is anyone else bluntly honest with their children about the bleak outlook for life on earth?  Do you encourage them to have children of their own someday?  Are we the last parents and are they the last generation of all?",7.596392156862747,9.503870305882355,6.593823529411764,73.02053921568628,63.58823529411765,9.431372549019608,37.69607843137255,9.725611199111238,4.019901960784315,396,20,61,8,6,120,57,85,0.046,0.856,0.098,0.705,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,5,1,1,4,0,1,4,0,11,1,0,0,1,8,12,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,6,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,9,3,12,11,4,10,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,0,5,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630551793955403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167656210998047,0.2456777582515434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003011926187873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674124364014253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5863457279779608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693601289931232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20135055822220968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5324833841840896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266648175773784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929581386029282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,christina0001,2019/03/21,"Are Bob the Builder or Ben and Holly's Little Kingdom still on tv? Recently my son noticed commercials for these shows while watching other shows we have DVRed. He asked to watch them but I can't find them anywhere. 
We have DirecTV, in the US.",2.7112765957446814,5.321636297872342,2.8887659574468114,91.09400000000002,79.63829787234042,5.4621276595744686,26.421276595744683,6.742157984588678,1.1534885106382975,194,8,37,2,5,59,42,47,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,5,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,4,5,0,6,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,1,3,24,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35160067357148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34374657565546496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.376948800082849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4281898381112545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713512047682748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30035218894168275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523993457540274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lebanatron,2019/03/21,"Loud disrespectful son. Have a son who is disrespectful by mocking me and calling my stupid idiot. (He's 12) he yells loudly on the Xbox. He makes death threats (he justs try to scare everyone but no one cares). He was suspended a week ago. He's not bad at heart, he does listen but whines when doing it. What do I do?",0.600468750000001,3.009590609375003,2.2800000000000007,92.965,88.21875,5.7,18.9375,7.1686216300943375,0.3315062499999999,245,7,54,4,8,80,52,64,0.306,0.644,0.05,-0.9479,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,8,4,1,3,0,6,1,1,1,0,6,9,4,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,7,0,1,1,4,3,1,4,8,0,5,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,0,3,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852117152315684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686475783241904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285424398752059,0.0,0.32804528501167923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815653499019216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3074456475941201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812749696622107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21477043782181032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21802593853411026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221276013537402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844694099013545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580882192954081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TryingAtIt,2019/03/21,"Daughter (16) possibly taking Non prescribed antipsychotic. I was snooping around my daughters room because I was missing something and I figured she had took it. I was just moving shit around on her table and I found a glass pipe obviously for weed.  I tell her not to smoke till she’s older. Explain everything to her. I don’t want her out with her friends getting high we had a big talk when she turned 16 I let her “try” it. She approached me and I told her to wait until she was actually 16 but once that happened  I allowed it, just a couple times, I answered questions. The whole bit. 

So fast forward to me finding out she’s sneaking, getting it other places, stealing it. I calmly explained to her that it was for special occasions. ( writing this I realize I totally fucked up) we really worked through it, we had a punishment stage, earning trust back stage, the whole bit. She said she felt better, that she understood. we talked about how some drugs like meth or Heroin can become addictive immediately and about the difference between physical and mental withdraw.  Also the difference between people who consume cannabis for recreational reasons, like just for fun, and the medicinal reasons other people might use cannabis as medicine. I explained to her that she would fit into the recreational group and recreational was in no way to be considered “daily” as a medical patient might need daily use. 

I always answer questions about friends, life, sex or drugs and I try to discuss the economy the college cheating schemes I really put in 100 percent effort in communication with all my kids. We talk about bullies and boys, what you should expect out of friends, how to stay safe, that it’s ok to walk away from family who don’t have the same beliefs and values as you do.  We’ve covered strangers, sex crimes, apportions, gender equality, sexuality, man I gave it my all!!! Addiction is definitely a big subject we have covered. Drugs ruin lives and I left my husband because he insisted on using. I’ve walked away from family who were such heavy drinkers I didn’t feel comfortable. I stoped smoking cigarettes years ago because it’s a senseless drug that kills. I’m just trying to convey to the person reading this that I really did try. 
    
So I kept looking, harder, I found some weed, I was angry, that she’s smoking. That she’s lying. I was angry she had stole it. I was angry that I’ve confronted her about the smell. Just  lies. Lies. Lies. I’m trying to back off. She’s leaving for college in one year. She gets almost always straight As. Sometimes she’ll get a B or her grades will drop lower but by report time it’s always As. She will graduate High school with significant training in her chosen field and hopes to enter her career while furthering her education. She has hopes and goals and she has friends and she loves to laugh and dance and she loves music. I thought she was ok. I thought being a teenager is just tough. Ya know? Sometimes we mess up, as teenagers our brain isn’t formed just enough and so we make mistakes, sometimes our feelings over relationships are confusing. Friends = Drama sometimes; I was probably too understanding. I’m tough as hell but I try to be approachable. 

Fuck man. Fuck. I guess I fucked up. 

I kept shaking, looking, a little more weed fell out and I could hear something else, it didn’t sound like weed, it was inside a string of decorations. Shit. I considered ripping it all down. One good shake and....A pill fell out. A fucking pill. My heart dropped. My little girls life flashed before my eyes and I tried my damnedest to catch the moment I failed. To see past the void of darkness and understand how to stop this in the future and how to stop the spread of a disease. It looks like someone bit off pieces of it. Maybe once maybe several times. It’s a seroquel 100 mg. WTF do I do?? Omg. Wtf do I do??? 

This is my first post. I hope it doesn’t go against any rules, I read over them, I hope people are not judgmental twats. 

*not seeking medical advice*
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parenting,LittleJohnStone,2019/03/21,"Parenting Toddlers the Inuit Way Not usually one to post articles, but NPR had an interesting one about dealing with toddlers.  I'm not in love with the idea of telling them there are monsters everywhere, but the rest of it seems pretty solid.

[https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/21/702209976/can-inuit-moms-help-me-tame-my-3-year-olds-anger](https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2019/03/21/702209976/can-inuit-moms-help-me-tame-my-3-year-olds-anger)",28.155,36.447824888888896,13.708611111111107,16.816250000000053,22.333333333333343,9.833333333333336,35.694444444444436,10.125756701596842,4.431111111111111,420,11,32,6,4,95,37,45,0.084,0.737,0.18,0.6367,1,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,8,5,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,7,4,1,4,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,1,23,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656138241634645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34537910807085204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29084233530440673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23252866815048456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491648249873339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860768962667809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467463197872055,0.2621108228082709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23454427600916086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251872722230969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837522417039313,0.0,0.0,0.20450132874715896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33182129851044034
parenting,TLB414,2019/03/21,"Aggressive 2 yr old This week, my two year old son has started being aggressive and violent towards the other kids in his daycare (mainly the girls).

He has very calm homelife. His father and I do play wrestle with him, but I don't understand why he is acting this way at daycare. He is pushing his friends down, sitting on their heads, twisting their arms, and punching. He does NONE of these things at home.

His daycare teachers suggested no movies with violence. Incredibles 2 for example has a fighting scene with the baby and a raccoon. This has recently been watched at our home. I'm not sure what other things to do to stop this behaviour and I need some advice. ",3.786413333333332,6.336424168000004,4.331700000000001,82.55968333333334,75.32000000000002,7.366666666666666,31.21666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.6795466666666656,531,26,93,10,12,168,86,125,0.163,0.78,0.057,-0.9238,0,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,2,0,1,8,4,0,5,0,11,2,2,0,1,15,15,6,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,10,8,0,1,1,1,0,2,4,4,0,1,1,1,12,4,14,13,3,18,0,0,1,0,19,7,0,1,7,64,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647062882074185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490173826682893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324251427776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168450077954832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238831932319607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156669226680548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4434276685810193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862387605426724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955250167153625,0.0,0.0,0.17664831691331548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991387934197804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28074403595824365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20640011439547856,0.21996085950831545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433678860907734,0.0,0.16771256219141545,0.1694844922876138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19065680990356845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606415299059904
parenting,evilprofessor666,2019/03/21,"What country are you in and is having kids affordable? I’m in the US and having kids here is so hard in terms of work/day care and all that. Every time I see an Instagram mom popping baby after another they tend to be from another country so I’m wondering, is having babies easier and more affordable in other countries? 

I have a good job and I have one son. I want more kids but due to the nature of my job I’m gonna wait a few years due to the negative stigma of having kids and taking maternity leave not to mention I can’t afford day care for two kids. A good day care is approx 2,400 a month per kid, unless I find a nanny they tend to charge between $15-25. ",1.848617021276596,3.4073875673758884,4.2237056737588645,85.70875000000002,77.58156028368793,7.253191489361702,21.679078014184398,8.07648339933343,1.061443971631206,521,14,110,9,12,182,86,141,0.056,0.802,0.14300000000000002,0.9027,5,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,1,2,0,3,5,0,0,9,0,13,0,0,0,1,14,27,10,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,3,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,11,5,17,25,5,13,0,0,1,0,13,4,0,1,9,71,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466662014925043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5056078779267636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31981749744754345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13927369544763235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108263304791755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772942151810864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480777310851181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280725878235702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503048657799045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19359919166308528,0.131942129780824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120126165013039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13172394330983606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428620264854084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638867016694208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147560689265936,0.0,0.1988374261338974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974991441287015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926249277976486,0.12034150592402665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644878635287196
parenting,41i5h4,2019/03/21,"Parents of multiple children - if your first was a great kid, was your second a terror? We have a baby who is excellent. He read the baby manual and does everything by the book. All pregnancy long everyone kept saying ""oh just wait..."" about everything. Well, we're still waiting.. I know eventually he'll give me a run for my money, but the process of having an infant/baby has been fairly seamless so far. When I let it slip to other parents that he's great, they all say ""just wait for #2!"". I know the reverse seems to be popular theory, first baby horrible, and second baby much easier, but can the same be said about good babies?  

So, parents of reddit, if your first kid was great, was your second a terror? Anyone have two +  awesome kids?",4.096728553137002,5.716479415492959,5.565672215108837,78.1519910371319,71.74647887323944,8.543918053777206,25.585147247119078,9.095868883498916,2.1907943661971827,575,18,103,12,11,194,93,142,0.07,0.711,0.218,0.9784,3,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,4,1,4,9,9,0,2,11,0,14,0,0,0,2,19,24,9,0,2,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,4,4,3,0,4,3,2,1,1,0,2,1,7,7,3,11,7,10,13,4,8,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,3,6,74,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219702307906926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279037895864468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13966016568745004,0.2627146465431508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37296558207855823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020800462328836,0.0,0.12259033736625735,0.0,0.4834189018110056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16064915206461625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945638604753925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934516883185956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074428957830998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4868732543107176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619748252878476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13902966137065018,0.2324613047578744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305669027071698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167219117914681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427750601466024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314135320370997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RodneyBowen,2019/03/21,"How to parent and just do life with your adult children (into the empty nest season) Recently coming across Dr. Jim Burns' book:  Doing Life with Your Adult Children within a podcast I listen to, I am looking for other recommendations of similar books that are available to also help guide parents move into the empty nest season. Eager to hear your thoughts and recommendations! ...thanks!",9.15681818181818,10.29077543939394,8.366212121212126,64.4693181818182,59.75757575757577,9.024242424242424,33.16666666666667,8.841846274778883,3.1372848484848497,313,11,42,4,4,98,49,66,0.053,0.863,0.085,0.4912,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,4,3,0,1,0,10,10,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,4,2,7,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,2,12,9,0,9,0,0,1,0,12,4,0,0,3,31,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21135581073255236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22766587279860984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297878538437632,0.0,0.1771506924440807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3733573267461648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219403899950522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28090268810332497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5869344043301811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609584334438988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433263997564351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20981990853362004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mohcinekhallouk,2019/03/21,"Heeeelp . How to get my child to share with me what's going on in his life ? So basically my child is still young and just started talking.. but I see a lot of people facing this problem so I'm looking for ways to avoid it when the time comes . I found some articles like this one 
https://shared-content.com/teach-your-child-to-share-with-you/

But this is not enough I need more info about this please .",4.567359154929576,7.7802288873239425,3.1613908450704247,88.20433978873241,77.02816901408453,5.240140845070423,20.142605633802816,6.6274283507984215,0.12453380281690185,325,8,60,3,8,92,58,71,0.093,0.797,0.11,0.0772,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,2,0,2,2,1,1,0,15,11,7,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,1,2,7,2,9,10,4,10,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,2,6,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24102281450525195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891080629376685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067861176332794,0.0,0.0,0.14618388477648475,0.0,0.15901671521589994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976309242187551,0.13669608419400514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349614230338319,0.0,0.0,0.23787584538800144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746805971457888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959963450631398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19397800111600985,0.0,0.0,0.3071362370690336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26773068965154084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229642721271904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980437894834346,0.0,0.22344853916606866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489253843716744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16315355542104612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22209211473649115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TrollingQueen74,2019/03/21,"""I couldn't be a foster parent, because I would love them too much to give them back."" I have been licensed for only 6 months, but I have already lost count on how many times I have heard this phrase. It's jarring each and every time I hear it, but I just remind myself of the saying: Never assume maliciousness when an action can be explained by ignorance.

Because this is what I hear: ""You are detached and don't love your kids as much as you should."" I don't foster because I compartmentalize my feelings, I foster because these children need to learn what true unconditional love and attachment really feels like. 

Yesterday, I was told this, but this time it was different. This time, my 16 year old foster daughter was sitting right next to me. The woman had been asking several (awkward) questions about foster care first, such as would the state have to make her move out at a certain age, some questions about board payments, etc. (I could also rant about that right now...) I was having to be diplomatic in my responses, trying to answer while still protecting the privacy and feelings of my daughter. Then they followed up with that comment. All I could do was turn to my girl, look at her in the face, and say, ""You know that I would be absolutely devastated if you left, right?"" Inwardly, my stomach was in my feet. I realize the woman didn't realize what she was implying, and thankfully my daughter also brushed it off. I did my best to wrap up the conversation after that point.

I don't really have a point to this post, but I just feel like I need to rant a little. I love answering questions about the foster system and correcting misconceptions a lot of people have about foster care and adoption. But if I keep hearing variations of this comment, I might eventually snap on someone. Please, if you meet a foster parent, avoid saying this yourself. Here's a better alternative that gets your point across without disparaging us: ""I thought about fostering, but I'm not willing to go through the emotional hardship that goes with it."" That's completely respectable.",7.218588663783294,7.815025083769632,7.042888686546783,74.15047234236287,63.86910994764398,9.994263601183704,34.14796266788072,9.867487886160001,3.3666597769178246,1650,67,284,32,23,523,202,382,0.062,0.7659999999999999,0.172,0.994,4,1,0,0,0,0,60.0,1,7,3,4,18,18,0,2,17,0,39,7,3,2,5,63,71,26,0,12,13,5,4,2,0,6,0,7,0,5,24,12,0,4,16,0,0,4,8,4,0,1,16,13,50,14,43,42,8,47,0,1,1,4,46,20,0,10,21,215,74,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094205865811654,0.13653774216749856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980768747886496,0.0,0.0,0.06564283055343327,0.0,0.2081585042656009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958859661776439,0.07550118286912523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17407701737596282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950687107618666,0.0,0.0,0.13631902737808987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891915370989227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960276677806942,0.0,0.0,0.09520804266246724,0.0,0.0,0.07192634023583333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726587873701685,0.1219740332049472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261409666552297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044601329950646765,0.08189289915913285,0.0485166815333756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886482959999684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587912567057595,0.0,0.0,0.046916097427445375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275273439434092,0.0,0.0,0.08341312263551164,0.08556130375680078,0.0,0.0,0.07168773747139592,0.0,0.0931894097230992,0.07257694022608127,0.3081923190419956,0.0,0.05698389665198107,0.08654989536766326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905621064134138,0.0,0.0,0.06814003525615041,0.09073282317026432,0.12551081164547348,0.1265987889116341,0.06584117270220269,0.0,0.09078998586037533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957950294656766,0.0,0.0,0.06492631765608872,0.0,0.0,0.1895824346865849,0.0,0.0,0.059183519744125675,0.0,0.0,0.09370858265438306,0.2421014584706021,0.0,0.08175908062773016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868955641981756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937803351056384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187117765294876,0.0,0.20366451516180106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644169964546744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233214838225076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06817510724642471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859551416480855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677727678119597,0.19911539686009966,0.0,0.0,0.08157291658147192,0.0,0.05795936366089195,0.09285602274258753,0.0,0.0,0.10268736187230397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229184103490282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18192923295498986,0.0,0.0,0.054974283552252486
parenting,helloreddit3645,2019/03/21,"Should I have children? I think I might hate kids. I live with my brother and his 2 daughters and they drive me crazy. They are messy and selfish. They have tantrums if you ask them clean up or help with anything. They need constant attention and they interrupt every conversation I have, not after I have been talking for ages, immediately. They never say appreciate anything and they rarely say please or thank you. They go though my things even after being told not too. They won’t follow instructions even if it’s for something they want to do, like help bake a cake. 

They won’t even get dressed unless you do it for them. It takes my brother over 2 hours to get them ready for school in the mornings, they have a bath the night before. All they have to do is eat breakfast and get dressed. How dose it take that long? 

I walked in from the shops the other day and the first thing the 6 year old said was, “where are my sweets?” Not hello or where did you go. Nothing. I didn’t go to the shops to buy her sweets, she just assumed I would get her something. Her parents by her toys  and sweets all the time, regardless of behaviour. Every time they go food shopping she gets a magazine with a toy on it. Every week. If they don’t get her anything she won’t be quite during the shopping. 

They won’t eat dinner unless you bribe them with ice cream. Last night the 4 year old chose toasted sandwiches for dinner. She helped pick out everything for them. When dinner started she refused to eat it, wouldn’t even try. She just ate ketchup with her fingers. Then she got up and helped herself to ice cream. When my brother said no, she had a melt down. 

Is it really worth having kids? Would I be happy if they were mine? I don’t think I like them or appreciate them. How do you know you are cut out for kids? Maybe they just annoy me because they have no discipline, no responsibilities, mine would. I would be strict, or dose every parent think that and it turns out to be too hard? I used to love kids but now I hate them. Is this just a phase? ",2.2838771712158774,4.577634456575686,2.6573641439206,93.9552769851117,79.12406947890818,5.518833746898261,20.993114143920593,6.6274283507984215,0.1870337965260549,1598,44,340,15,40,489,186,403,0.087,0.847,0.067,-0.7186,2,0,2,0,0,0,48.0,0,7,27,2,18,14,5,0,16,0,42,15,1,4,3,62,74,28,0,13,19,6,2,2,0,11,2,4,3,5,14,18,11,2,6,7,6,7,15,6,0,1,11,11,74,8,38,47,2,43,0,0,2,1,76,12,0,11,26,233,88,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21673416798624948,0.0,0.0820729725866685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0535167342707333,0.0,0.07470389197362465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487115836738637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661809676153996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694971132885872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319411841045748,0.0,0.2958716753695315,0.0,0.07890111928691128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467519675486682,0.10615753416586113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27520384409116944,0.0,0.19957517373445352,0.0,0.07021468660134524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345542354446547,0.07864372062552613,0.17335137789793414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23537851098043186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645670208920468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04824777787297636,0.07156159026359578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578074548577473,0.0,0.07752128667921589,0.07769249814940928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923503534309914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819811571235507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931326481427924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650961032707632,0.06771002810591452,0.0,0.0,0.16477229157033804,0.0,0.08423807702860348,0.0,0.18424430833453345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949635988270744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636843490002754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337680625678596,0.0,0.0,0.05624132605191412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670191752239866,0.13963025950499874,0.0,0.08884943713045508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517199456441467,0.0,0.0,0.062139102231363985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320161961838933,0.07056328538990622,0.0,0.08082639258519697,0.0,0.0,0.11664921787513838,0.1687592742715775,0.0862544624125162,0.0,0.1023835737153162,0.0,0.0,0.08388830647647477,0.0,0.059604499455530265,0.0954916756744477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582345702174235,0.0,0.0,0.05178155686136196,0.0,0.07042084936848167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494575551255884,0.0,0.0,0.11306937989277345
parenting,Psychedelic-Song,2019/03/21,"Nephew has high fever and his mother refuses to take him to the hospital? So my 4 year old nephew has been running a fever since yesterday between 101•-103• F, His mother refuses to take him to the hospital because she doesn't have insurance (She gets it free from the state but was too lazy to renew it)  She refuses to let the father take him because it's not his day to have the child.  She instead is posting pictures of him on Snapchat saying ""Mama snuggles makes him feel better""  4-5 people have told her to take her in with the huge flu outbreak in WI  (He's not vaccinated either)  including us telling her.  What can I do?  I'm at work and don't want to ""forcefully take him""  and get charged with kidnapping.  Is there anything we can do?  He is so sick he can barely move and she still thinks it's important to bring him into work with her.  Ugh please help I'm so concerned for him, I know three people that passed away from flu complications this year and I know probably 10 people that has the influenza virus right now.

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I know he's not my child, but come on he hasn't seen a doctor since he was two and she thinks it's okay to self medicate him herself.

Am I in the wrong with this not being my child? (even though she's posting it on social media)  Is there anything I can do?

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Thank you.",4.080330198118872,5.26812002281369,4.614504702821693,86.6331719031419,71.20532319391634,7.970302181308786,27.53031819091455,8.371475516178862,1.731187072243347,1038,36,214,16,19,330,136,263,0.102,0.8140000000000001,0.084,-0.7909,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,2,1,0,3,11,6,0,0,10,1,26,7,0,1,0,31,48,12,0,1,7,5,1,0,0,0,7,1,0,4,11,13,0,3,6,0,1,5,7,2,0,2,5,3,36,5,29,41,1,27,0,0,1,0,50,12,0,0,7,138,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24289763367945574,0.2724017768340317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448004926023853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531167999100913,0.0,0.0,0.1366573143437865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913396444767608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965550920485008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228838934329343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472824937279524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403399081000812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566757679757245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712416917522435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513116131605961,0.11842860403586945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480420667546946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461900462854112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482054413080735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129182769536032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191332920172894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11761896864237065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233126027404336,0.0,0.0,0.1230405001389796,0.0,0.0,0.21470131948193646,0.0,0.12085133014699875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572373418460547,0.0,0.08913798891646026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11693368880569892,0.0,0.0,0.18544301808196456,0.0,0.0,0.11426102639197823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951473872533618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4213863912432191,0.0,0.09797107514821768,0.10319685878917707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14364472164221892,0.11012726527586034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710622410112948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949505546439717,0.0,0.13482974563087896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611323158673779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16320483470397645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255216157021115,0.2724017768340317,0.144363795747472
parenting,sunflowerliz,2019/03/21,"Anyone have some magical ideas on how to get my little ones into their car seats more easily? I have a 2.5 year old and 18 month old. I have to go out 4-5 times a day to pick up my older kids and take them to various activities and my two little ones are constantly giving me major issues with getting strapped in. I experienced this with the older two but this is like a new found type of warfare my little have suddenly realized they can wage against me! I do have the luxury of leaving/planning to leave early, which I do but it’s getting hot here and I don’t like being a sweaty mess when having to go somewhere. Any advice would be amazing! ",2.364974554707377,4.379933786259547,4.160629770992369,84.67672073791351,77.54961832061069,7.114758269720102,23.13040712468193,8.07648339933343,1.3426330788804073,510,16,101,9,12,172,91,131,0.056,0.825,0.12,0.8584,1,1,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,3,0,3,4,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,2,0,17,23,8,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,3,0,1,3,1,1,0,4,1,2,15,3,16,19,4,24,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,1,15,72,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622035499122626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287892196952405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160640982341725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937626853384595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704984637422273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819995156347108,0.0,0.0,0.2601688410300595,0.15923277539331293,0.18867193450853265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873825553123099,0.0,0.1732504803815313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575948953874146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218870204687394,0.4990968937486794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324916694932395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031421885653127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34835725732014644,0.0,0.22495829935770284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12480385538140296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679012952015734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242963074066104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791456477932788,0.0,0.0,0.1068921461465672
parenting,KillerQueen1891,2019/03/21,"I'm worried I won't love my second child as much as my first. I know it sounds terrible, but I'm so worried that I won't have the same love for this baby as i do my first son. I'm only two weeks away from giving birth to my second son and I just don't feel the connection yet. My first son is 7 and he is the sweetest boy ever and I don't know what I would do without him. Has anyone else had this fear and what was the outcome? I know I will love him, but will it be the same? Will I feel the connection once he is born? I've had a really rough pregnancy emotionally with problems in my relationship (same dad as first son). I know I'm a great mom but these feelings make me feel like a terrible person. ",1.7163419913419915,2.7786189675324664,3.743571428571428,91.08059523809523,76.85714285714286,7.2112554112554115,21.924242424242426,7.793537801064563,0.6733956709956717,547,14,131,8,12,187,80,154,0.193,0.732,0.07400000000000001,-0.959,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,4,4,9,0,1,9,0,19,3,0,1,1,25,36,12,0,2,5,6,5,1,0,6,0,1,0,3,8,5,0,0,8,0,0,0,5,4,0,7,3,6,20,5,11,26,4,11,0,0,0,3,18,2,0,0,10,89,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972902573197328,0.14256586246188158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307270592045124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623401516307788,0.15651430983280853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586052819651827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657172098461886,0.2814144253042505,0.09940198520803004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4734112776618768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13347622501227013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340286808559006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058718712475777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797700924129504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767391411149762,0.0,0.09287734943680448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629596460503953,0.0,0.0,0.10228426095961203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14818006790163182,0.0,0.10582260334735948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149209839736624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313864601118716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913695303353718,0.0,0.0,0.14938480138639604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359200289988504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11161009854116892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412645544889953,0.0,0.0,0.2826078186788454,0.0,0.09884140335953996,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gnurdy,2019/03/21,"Am I overreacting? Sexism from 1st grader's teacher My child informed me today that they are doing a project at school, and the teacher has made it so all the girls in the class will be nurses, and all the boys will be doctors.

I'm pretty disappointed with that, and I'm debating on whether to say something to the teacher.

Should I say something? Or am I overreacting?",3.9900469483568095,6.0464145070422575,4.813732394366198,81.62698356807516,72.94366197183099,6.986854460093897,30.143192488262912,7.793537801064563,2.081420657276995,294,13,54,4,6,95,49,71,0.045,0.901,0.054000000000000006,0.163,0,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,1,2,11,13,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,7,7,2,4,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,1,1,40,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269414292980898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022443364199061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249664886687892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5080335777879527,0.0,0.3232716002236958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918125358983153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027742228376484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AppropriateWaltz0,2019/03/21,"Feedback for student project developing on Child-Friendly Play Cafe! Hello parents and other child carers!

For a student project we have been exploring the idea of creating a cafe for children and adults. Would love if some of you could go check it out and give us feedback on our website content and design! We aren't parents ourselves and so would be very interested in getting feedback for the types of things parents look for on websites!

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[www.thelittlecafelondon.com](https://www.thelittlecafelondon.com)",10.556296296296297,13.511932469135804,7.447839506172841,65.71027777777782,57.641975308641975,7.869135802469136,41.89506172839506,8.344100000000001,3.998743209876544,434,23,56,5,6,122,57,81,0.0,0.8490000000000001,0.151,0.9179,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,7,1,0,0,0,15,12,7,0,4,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,2,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,3,13,7,1,7,0,0,1,1,14,5,0,2,0,40,8,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21517431059850728,0.2413109738789059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855952410278767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534316591679937,0.0,0.10375610488639116,0.19050750827403146,0.11286438999659383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22418615525851207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667672335417068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923700153720268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6615386245115814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193567689511107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23888168134715185,0.0,0.0,0.16385916897112354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821480674420248,0.0,0.2413109738789059,0.0
parenting,NewMeistheRealMe,2019/03/21,"My 7 year old suffers from anxiety about water Let me add that I’m from Australia where swimming is an essential life skill. My daughter has had several ear infections and complications due to which we stopped her swimming lessons when she was younger. She isn’t confident in the water at all. This month, her school has offered to help kids who haven’t quite learnt how to swim independently improve and the cost is only $10 per lesson. So we naturally enrolled her and made it exciting by getting her new set of swimmers, goggles etc. She went to the first lesson, came home from school and burst into tears.. we have tried motivating her and have explained to the teachers that she needs a little tlc due to her anxiety. She has since gone to two more and is struggling to focus and it’s affected her in other ways like falling asleep at night. This is unlike her and I am wondering if I should persevere. It is important to learn this skill but hard to see her like this.    Any words of advise?",5.634902834008095,6.839230773684211,5.698421052631581,80.2393319838057,67.57894736842105,9.004048582995951,31.9838056680162,9.265573868473778,2.7846396761133607,797,33,149,15,13,251,125,190,0.064,0.851,0.085,0.7243,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,9,5,5,0,1,6,0,17,6,2,5,1,32,27,13,0,3,2,1,1,2,0,1,2,1,1,1,12,14,2,1,7,3,1,7,2,2,0,2,6,3,22,3,22,19,3,26,0,1,1,0,24,7,0,2,12,98,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205921951287342,0.0,0.2713177860484338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282116186166446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977726364161904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083895159397054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926489229831124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885510697138347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886225067670912,0.0,0.17787897716275167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133451715407434,0.1252552037799598,0.17327142449316946,0.17773377275678232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16779631889286958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154512624397864,0.0,0.0,0.13148981719388395,0.0,0.17126885360826707,0.0,0.16641455792740173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608065002872606,0.0,0.0,0.13486937297054358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886149641520556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589399567426996,0.14131105975110012,0.0,0.0,0.2003352727979315,0.0,0.14669129370154138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14825792780544214,0.0,0.18538645374833476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203971412043132,0.0,0.1732281053891731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14075830085401927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16438902339122013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923095542983258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419632931395506
parenting,bastillecat87,2019/03/21,"My son was an ""accident"" and I love motherhood but I feel (from personal experience in my friendship circles) the more my friends have wanted and tried for a baby the more they built it up in their head and the harder they coped with motherhood what's your experience? Let me start by saying I don't mean any disrespect at all I'm genuinely curious about the stories. 

I read a post on here recently about a parent who wasn't enjoying being a parent, I wanted to comment but it was locked but I was really curious about the concept. Had you previously tried to get pregnant or were they a surprise baby? ",3.9408620689655143,6.080363086206898,5.515034482758622,76.18341379310345,73.3103448275862,9.467586206896552,29.703448275862065,9.888512548439397,3.3235717241379303,482,21,86,14,10,163,77,116,0.031,0.778,0.192,0.9599,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,4,0,4,4,0,0,11,0,10,2,1,0,1,13,18,7,0,2,4,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,2,16,4,14,10,3,8,0,0,0,1,15,5,0,1,2,66,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421635219082618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40898879722250336,0.0,0.0,0.10570371099707154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151418502508375,0.0,0.10922180476295316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21454916242745575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213771327196073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867891011935226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277205046379561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642582562164882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182537418165948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20021542747271814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20911003336426245,0.0,0.1339249999345963,0.0,0.2064150718748745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624770260407282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796911535459906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838671541391176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24661029481665914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WIMPDRAGN,2019/03/21,"Hi, please help! I have a question about how much you would pay me for what I'm doing right now. I'm currently at my friends house to help out, currently his mom just got back from a bad hospital trip and is needing an adult with her at all times so of the 2 adults here they need another to help out since she has 7 kids. 1 of them are generally out and about which leaves me to watch the children. I'm 21 years old with around 10 yrs knowing them and the kids range from 1-14. I started babysitting them a year and half ago but babysat others beforehand, I told them I could only come if I was being payed because I'm trying to find a job and some other stuff. The first day I was watching them for 12 hours straight all alone without a break until they went to sleep and the few days after its ranged from 5-9 hours a day. This will likely be around a week if not more, how much would you guys pay me an hour to watch 7 kids if you were the parent in the house. Keep in mind I honestly do my job well, actually involve myself with the kids and make them laugh and everything, they love me and really I do more when I am here than anyone who lives here. I dont just babysit while I'm here either, I do anything I can",5.195730961645361,4.368052933852141,5.481347971095055,88.46008754863816,68.29961089494162,8.899277376320176,27.69566425792107,7.957251820313856,1.321045803224013,952,24,223,10,14,303,156,257,0.03,0.852,0.118,0.9709,5,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,9,1,17,7,0,0,17,0,20,2,1,3,2,44,36,19,0,8,9,2,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,8,8,18,0,1,3,0,3,3,3,1,1,2,6,5,34,6,31,24,9,37,0,0,3,1,35,11,0,5,23,149,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.114287682256219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381568666887656,0.0,0.0,0.1212961768849849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280565030764473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08188977202474244,0.0,0.09637594974705914,0.20851497321106535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005447091293198,0.09778642084534422,0.07139242705418933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088449928763804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350707291565218,0.0,0.0,0.2265891257048795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725831166346247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525572010221096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704130325806764,0.09961825230420616,0.0,0.0,0.09048302473518108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366783978185778,0.0,0.0,0.11596260402069622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23549984043706754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34600507007906856,0.270270766965478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324378166797236,0.10409749942207812,0.0,0.0,0.06436353057153757,0.0,0.0,0.1240082398303162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05721664165610565,0.0,0.10341499495083044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057011710066517,0.0,0.0781754019484913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825311223294245,0.13716407615660567,0.0,0.0,0.1721865075179122,0.17367908814314342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289285325577197,0.0,0.0,0.08907149700201672,0.0,0.0,0.1300427305323821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285574793133269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119598907862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750270886724856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000158643969397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687902330510947,0.0,0.117199923919883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289484371043779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340690499876235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829089926377688,0.0,0.0,0.11190873065093587,0.0,0.07951363134292581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394286516437866,0.0,0.10530075979961012,0.10856709778990016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128950129415417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16639076122736618,0.0,0.0,0.15083688431399198
parenting,g3t0ffmyl4wn_k1d,2019/03/21,"My son (19) got a tattoo on his face. I am sad and disappointed. 

I have tattoos. All three of my children have tattoos. So, the tattoo is not the problem. It's the fact that it's on his face!  

I'm also mad at the tattoo artist for doing it. But, I know that's projecting or deflecting or whatever. 

I don't even know what the tattoo is or where exactly it is. I ran into a friend of his at a restaurant and we exchanged a few words, and the friend mentioned it and pointed to his temple/eye area.  I just kind of nodded as I was in disbelief.  I texted my son to ask him and he admitted he had one.  End of conversation. 

He lives on his own (with roommates) and has a job. I haven't seen him in a few weeks, so it's fairly new. 

I know he's the same person that he always has been but this makes me very sad. I cry about it when I think about it too much.  It's just so limiting... people will not look at him the same. It may not be ""right,"" but it's true.  Even tattoo artists call face tattoos ""job stoppers.""

He's not a musician or artist. He hasn't been in jail. 

I don't even know why I'm posting this anywhere. Should I be this sad? Or does this have nothing to do with me anymore? ",0.010125896647636523,1.95812619762846,2.2431005709266607,95.67031913336264,85.44268774703558,5.329175816132338,19.6470502122676,6.605766666666668,0.02350458205240802,900,26,214,10,27,304,122,253,0.083,0.871,0.045,-0.8999,2,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,1,0,0,1,14,10,1,0,15,0,24,3,3,1,4,43,38,20,0,2,14,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,19,10,0,2,6,3,1,2,8,6,0,2,7,2,28,4,23,26,7,22,0,4,2,0,27,14,0,6,5,148,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359964723746345,0.13900920241191558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16568089361298866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618068271458696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058926947316913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351007307062706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619732953517547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796759589275071,0.0,0.0,0.3310291866621724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581438106284988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361496902538347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33156707519163264,0.0,0.0,0.1739696593518895,0.3672522463935805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751905647974306,0.0,0.14029024188317366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151537106247758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281000032761988,0.0,0.0,0.16134979380781914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030076608957022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320572646524253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581995182528808,0.14587234149225814,0.0,0.0,0.15792785659547434,0.0,0.1599994866902697,0.0,0.0,0.15985604243363527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267027674137106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704676517116303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784387952916252,0.0,0.0,0.13400728626097155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074772539657494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fuck_thatshit,2019/03/21,"I’m glad I knew what parenting was like so I didn’t have a child So since the other post was closed, I just wanted to share my experience in that I’m glad I had to take care of a baby/younger brother growing up, so I knew what it was like and not to rush into anything. I was 8 years old when my brother was born and it felt like I too had just had a baby, as the child of a single parent who worked it was me that had to take on that responsibility. 

I never really thought about it that way until I read that other post that got locked, but I’m thankful I can enjoy adulthood childfree until I’m ready for it. I feel sorry for my mother who basically gave herself up and had a child at 23 years old and ended up having to raise me alone and then have another child again at 31 and the fuckers never stayed around (she’s the opposite of a toxic person, if that’s what you’re thinking). I myself am 27 this year and I still have some growing up to do, and I would love to give back to her in anyway possible for what she has done for me and put up with. 

Anyways I hope anyone that plans to have kids knows what they are getting into and what they are giving up, and or have a plan in place. I see friends and that having kids and while I’m happy for them I can never help but think, “god am I glad I am not in their position”. 

Your life begins at 20 and your brain isn’t even fully developed until 25. Take your time with this shit, I’m telling you now. For those that already have kids no it is not the end of the world but obviously you will be limited in what you can and cannot do and that is okay, you also get to experience a new life being made and that is awesome. 

My opinion in this matter is my own and I respect anyone else’s just wanted to share my thoughts and I got a little too ranty but that’s all I wanted to say and I’m tired goodnight.",2.140404647761436,3.3199484357682643,3.820133257495733,90.4838067766312,75.97732997481106,6.432404322743155,21.62257251970423,6.828538100315305,0.3334175509872428,1447,35,329,13,31,485,186,397,0.065,0.759,0.17600000000000002,0.9921,2,1,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,7,4,4,19,19,2,0,15,1,42,7,2,1,5,62,78,37,0,6,12,5,2,3,1,2,3,1,0,8,34,26,0,1,9,1,0,4,10,2,0,0,22,4,47,17,48,52,4,55,0,0,1,2,40,23,2,5,27,242,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840085154560823,0.11549987275830773,0.08370015874904163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974984875725938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636769679517692,0.10724114369225354,0.0861299613012882,0.09317359061333777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048053601646085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684019092359076,0.0,0.0,0.10671242806295704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710811700861056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743375522568769,0.0,0.1854033528086196,0.0,0.0,0.06912991176027705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20476391908814934,0.0,0.0,0.0529215134324236,0.0,0.10049432867870936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086352912026641,0.0,0.109365757424284,0.20080744126059852,0.0,0.0,0.16741951569370347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11141730103844527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015440469169232,0.0,0.0,0.1039554595443518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05752086917836024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785525607486302,0.1534013561857666,0.1049013202288608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446379301265004,0.09903607574623582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421711324610984,0.10108562137020813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196555618472132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324350707342253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138899983990882,0.10935212045754657,0.0,0.0,0.11799349185878692,0.2004793083313685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521672589160093,0.0,0.0,0.10469281858844057,0.0,0.0670507555138951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832334072614986,0.0,0.0,0.08340405146924539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743659993505654,0.08657955174579535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716333302059725,0.0,0.1115584254982364,0.0835852008195432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23608402349981694,0.0,0.09148138180793848,0.09636100477605468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412956431647294,0.0,0.16618383560976366,0.061030708659747926,0.12029644010650856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852014925484784,0.08307780431220463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619699882780946,0.0,0.0,0.07435065419857118,0.0,0.0,0.20220150944609672
parenting,IWasJustGonnaCutYa,2019/03/21,"Story apps for toddler? Does anyone know any good apps for reading stories to toddlers? Not an app that reads for you, but one that has a good collection of stories with slightly interactive illustrations, sounds, etc.",7.140990990990992,9.76924832432433,6.122702702702704,73.13288288288291,65.75675675675676,8.176576576576577,36.65765765765766,8.841846274778883,3.6130792792792796,176,9,26,3,3,53,31,37,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.7319,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,6,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,16,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948060720706305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153916546049132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695715397497304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34355069099769314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5167456900082761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929302650676156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873871013067816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6162550867373977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThunderOrb,2019/03/21,"My three and a half year old reminded me why parenting is worth it. My wife and I have two kids. The oldest will be four in July and the younger will be one in April. 

The baby has been incredibly difficult since birth. He has always cried about everything. He's always been difficult to feed. He's been sick a lot because of my daughter being in preschool. All in all, he's been very emotionally draining for everyone in the house. 

My daughter, of course, has picked up on how much he has exhausted my wife and I (and he gets on her nerves, too). One day, after putting him down for his nap after a particularly difficult day, my daughter came up to me with a big smile on her face and said, ""Do you love me, Daddy? Because I love you even if you don't. I love you, and Mommy, and even Roland when he's bad because being a big girl means being patient and loving your family no matter what.""

I have to admit I choked up a bit. Like she said, no matter what, your kids will love you. No matter how difficult things may be that current day, week, month; at the end of it, your kids still love you. That's what makes all of the bad days worth it. Especially when they aren't afraid to show it.",3.703448529411766,4.667358545833338,4.61671568627451,87.10808823529413,71.875,7.980392156862745,24.534313725490193,8.313332769828598,1.2402622549019604,921,25,200,14,17,299,124,240,0.14,0.716,0.14400000000000002,0.2796,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,9,1,0,9,15,0,1,12,0,24,10,1,4,3,26,37,14,0,1,1,6,0,1,0,4,2,2,0,4,10,11,1,0,2,2,2,2,5,8,0,6,7,2,30,7,27,20,6,35,0,0,0,6,41,15,0,3,19,135,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19288243961560936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354960990164935,0.21196158352279335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265368958098634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256303344089174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731484669272236,0.2989933674430918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037613874489706,0.10265633635994433,0.0,0.0,0.1531066912586349,0.0,0.0,0.11075101724161662,0.10416683313279318,0.0,0.10926375727035764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060554935012401875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373738669891827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056624726504390585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853723876961648,0.6276460546656472,0.0,0.07736666512708107,0.0,0.0,0.12625318167256722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251328180672616,0.0,0.08520260551597349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216215073715309,0.0,0.15707878557831104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286974180438379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651529964476555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205020500693942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958767945807759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925608988193616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700131331017805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322113982992454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095632746999295,0.0,0.0,0.09297101145754044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045851229145062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746382265179904
parenting,jesslynng,2019/03/22,"Reminder - you’re doing a freaking great job even when you’ve failed. Early last week my 5yr old daughter came home from school with a test she had done on “sight words” - she did terrible, only had 4/20 right.  Instantly I felt like such a failure as a mom. Teachers aren’t the only ones who are responsible for teaching our kids. 
Everyday that followed we practiced her sight words - it was easy, fun and she really enjoyed it ... little did I know how effective it was being on her. 
Yesterday, on my way to daycare to pick her up I get a call from her teacher. She wanted to call me to say that they had done another sight word test at school that day and she was so pleased to see she had gone from 4 to 12 words correct! The joy I felt when I heard that was so amazing!  I imagined how happy it must have made her feel to have done so much better.
So, even though I made the mistake of getting so busy I often forgot to make sure there wasn’t any homework or subconsciously figured the teacher would teach her all she needs and she’ll be fine - it didn’t mean I was a failure as a mom.  We can’t always do everything right all the time; mistakes will forever happen but just don’t forget to remember how awesome you really are and all the things you’re doing right! ☺️",2.7621604278074865,4.612574180392159,3.7382976827094483,88.90552139037433,75.82352941176471,6.675579322638147,24.924242424242426,7.520522993642371,1.1499803921568628,996,34,205,13,22,320,148,255,0.063,0.797,0.14,0.9579,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,1,1,3,17,15,0,0,13,0,32,0,0,8,6,45,51,19,0,6,3,3,3,1,0,4,0,2,2,1,11,8,0,1,9,0,0,3,5,5,0,1,24,9,31,10,22,21,4,23,0,1,4,0,28,9,0,2,11,136,42,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962432364746757,0.0,0.0,0.08141999269744965,0.12554655339479115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058907880375356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24451389257555076,0.13693836072920249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721545845738619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675737620589919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816007504820825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760492575720523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060538704035685086,0.0,0.2299177036542521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510717836521346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200191595321906,0.0,0.0,0.1058761764704506,0.12745400829540054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200981954608282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881280173039815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580006219041039,0.09759531521194988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058493661641411725,0.12000015809065645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22658141423384806,0.0799202011495277,0.0,0.0,0.13042024828736629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804508907839807,0.0,0.0,0.08801477173813099,0.08877771852719238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563570262820034,0.0,0.08113163543447015,0.18211897296750928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13142675764899747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340324114532347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562989544104906,0.3067443646537555,0.0,0.09521350167960883,0.0,0.2423447771691645,0.09540870734396267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284339703874345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954279066338005,0.0,0.11763337590150165,0.0,0.06981508594531136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706194111315183,0.09503550221807763,0.09603957886199263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505222087297996,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kingIouie,2019/03/22,"I always hate this as a young dad This has happened at least half a dozen time. I’m sitting down watching my kid play or run around at the park/playground/anywhere outside with other kids. Then a mom sits next to me while her kid also plays and engages in conversation. We make good conversation and kind of befriend each other. I’m not saying I’m extremely handsome or a good catch or anything. I’m just good with moms.

Anyways, then the worst part happens. To me it’s nothing casual mentioning I’m married but to them it’s like I’m mentioning I’m a murderer. It’s like watching a dish break or a car crash.

I mention that I’m married, I talk about my kids mom (my wife), or (my favorite) my wife comes by and sits with us and 99% of the time..... the other mom kind of just sits there starstruck. Just quiet. Like I broke her heart. I always manage to hit it off with other moms for some reason but then I feel like I always end up breaking their poor hearts. 

Either I’m overreacting about this and just looking at it wrong or it’s one hell of a coincidence that it’s happened like 6 - 7times. It’s annoying nowadays like geez get over it my kid has a mom who’s active in our life!",0.8039013964092341,3.2011406611570266,2.3901025933314344,92.78979338842976,86.60330578512396,4.990823596466232,21.567968082074668,6.48374012150746,0.3864535195212313,928,32,196,10,29,302,126,242,0.149,0.711,0.139,-0.8605,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,2,0,10,23,4,0,13,0,2,4,2,2,0,31,21,19,1,0,14,9,1,6,0,0,1,2,0,5,19,13,1,0,2,3,1,4,1,7,0,3,0,6,22,16,27,20,6,29,1,1,3,0,29,10,1,7,15,117,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809895201869922,0.24378372070165574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036615241328615,0.08693842271600599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412574991133387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08649808896134344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049380010744162664,0.0697685783840944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051023505625463636,0.0,0.0,0.2457386213626733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590821928685452,0.0,0.0,0.09641938361617086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314559859580437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20339646637364325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898039814073488,0.28627150379192673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201010329055199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518904648360231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6862717770746989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386289734876956,0.0,0.0,0.09370774622733777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661771852116967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575664944074148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041111206058408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766343549668668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849569545657235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389307878318546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747338458187714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677626913938656,0.0,0.0
parenting,Akaara50,2019/03/22,"Toddlers version of, “Hold my beer” After a full day of hearing it, I’ve come to conclude that a toddler saying, “Watch Me” is the equivalent of an adult saying, “Hold my beer.”  Thoughts?",2.0541428571428604,4.673188057142858,2.9939285714285724,89.18232142857146,82.71428571428572,4.642857142857143,28.75,5.985473137389443,1.3057142857142856,142,7,26,1,4,45,28,35,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,2,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,3,0,5,3,2,4,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36439928053866577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27281665326115845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767808357056719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6728142108446372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358352429921445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ama_throwaway6256y46,2019/03/22,"Please tell me I've nursed long enough! I've been lactating for like 5 years straight. Currently nursing my near 2.5 year old and I'm over it today. I want to wean her cold turkey so bad, but she still loves it and is such a polite nurser. I need encourgament to stop this or reasons why I should let her keep on. (Shes my last baby for sure so I'll never have this bond again after shes done, but we bedshare so I know that adds some stress to the weaning process. ) 

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parenting,WhatisAleve,2019/03/22,"Relationship with a single mother is getting serious. What books/advice/resources do you recommend for me? I'm a 30yo guy, she's 25 with a 3 yo daughter. Open to any thoughts you might have but hoping for at least some book recommendations and practical advice, tips, or small things I can do. ",4.108909090909093,6.525536618181821,5.005454545454548,78.76818181818184,73.72727272727272,8.036363636363637,27.363636363636363,8.841846274778883,2.3485636363636364,234,9,42,5,5,76,47,55,0.023,0.867,0.11,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,10,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,6,8,3,3,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,4,0,28,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36916060014587393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569022108371162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19737357895036695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37405992908127456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752191103491209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007630956269336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4055925339852191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250979128105674,0.0,0.0,0.2999137862754415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bellazezinho1,2019/03/22,"Teen daughter’s boyfriend (14) doesn’t have food at home sometimes and is struggling. What should I do? 
My 14 year old daughter  is dating a boy the Same age as  her for a few months now. They were friends for about 1 year before they started dating. His mom is a single mom, and there are 2 younger siblings. I know his mom struggles financially, so I am the one who pays for movie tickets and food when they hang out. When he comes over to hang out with my daughter at my house, I always feed him. I know how teen boys are constantly hungry.   My daughter told me today that he told her that sometimes he doesn’t have enough food at home, and has to go to bed hungry. It broke my heart. He is a very sweet, polite and smart young man. I cried when she told me this, and now I don’t know what to do. He is not old enough to have a job.  What  should I do ?



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parenting,rock_lobsterrr,2019/03/22,"Bedtime story ideas for 3 year old I’ve started telling my son “bedtime stories” recently. By bedtime story I mean I make up a quick 5 minute story on the fly. I’m the least creative/imaginative person I know so they aren’t very good even for 3 year old standards. 

I’m wondering if there are any bedtime story repository’s out there that suitable and simple enough for a 3 year old. Anywhere between 5-15 minutes would be perfect. Book with story collections, websites, etc. 

Any suggestions would be great!",3.4490526315789487,6.213371852631584,4.262368421052635,81.4240789473684,77.84210526315789,6.326315789473685,31.605263157894736,7.554174236665415,2.4619263157894737,406,21,68,6,10,130,66,95,0.0,0.871,0.129,0.9059,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,5,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,1,13,13,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,9,9,3,12,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,9,35,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24730654494086796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878830033566333,0.20279283971786807,0.12009956158159278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525136299164817,0.0,0.20047249255641347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052683155008777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999311440475869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137552560777848,0.0,0.0,0.1980703996998086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5724122020064696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587703287140622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795390180402161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870295482661362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893082412879495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003199263260095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19719108430635468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583391398941147,0.0,0.0,0.3512851675527032
parenting,marirod498,2019/03/22,"Help choosing a group name A few of my friends and I are making a mom group on Facebook. We are cannabis friendly. We need help choosing a name for the group that involves cannabis & “mommas” “Mommy” etc in the name, since it is a mommy group. It doesn’t have to be “cannabis” other weed friendly names are welcome. Thanks ",3.989838709677418,5.8067105645161305,3.329870967741936,93.27480645161293,72.38709677419354,4.960000000000001,30.14193548387097,3.1291,0.8623122580645166,253,11,50,0,5,74,42,62,0.0,0.698,0.302,0.9628,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,1,0,11,10,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,5,9,2,2,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,0,0,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950442939333156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30369405265762817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6311506529797409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650430036241514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18176689727585166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189224221337821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191203490247986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252549911913119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507035072871036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,p511,2019/03/22,"Hey everyone, so I made an app that lets you save parenting articles, videos, recipes, etc. from any app to one place. Its called Figgle. So the title says it all. The app can save parenting articles, videos, recipes and in addition to that you can save photos, websites, social media posts, notes, music, etc. from any app and store it in one place.

[**App Link**](https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/figgle/id1449424159?ls=1&mt=8)

If you'd like to know when the Android version comes out comment below and we'll add you name to our list. You'll be PM'd when it comes out (1.5 months).",3.98807443365696,7.125834854368932,2.9943932038834937,88.88213996763756,79.09708737864077,6.5401294498381874,22.175566343042068,7.793537801064563,1.19091003236246,462,14,83,8,12,133,65,103,0.0,0.883,0.117,0.9022,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,2,5,0,0,4,4,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,1,17,11,8,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,9,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,8,4,11,5,4,13,0,0,0,0,15,7,0,1,4,46,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393973085440247,0.0,0.2434438732120525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182772704500047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083746561190502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3992508517911893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17103626709197758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837032322485822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830333097258075,0.0,0.0874473398766749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693682818295077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287116065155914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24258169174233155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975029126562712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740208932301513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171426602571854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234307117355155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246165983528312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21530752838315426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tchtilldeath,2019/03/22,"YouTube kids Why is my 6 year old interested in watching other family’s blogs on YouTube kids. How do you explain that the videos that these families post are not reality? No family is that perfect, where the kids never cry, the parent’s never struggle with the demands of parenting. It drives me bananas. ",3.9270238095238135,6.85847575,4.907142857142858,76.50452380952382,77.21428571428572,8.019047619047619,30.76190476190476,8.841846274778883,3.2023190476190475,246,12,40,6,6,80,44,56,0.0,0.789,0.211,0.8958,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,1,3,7,5,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,4,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,4,27,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405267443868747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6192723747092831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377641936585114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297707296157063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4862774731652791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971140708101813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22891354223046556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975851189346424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100861052372882
parenting,bismuth482,2019/03/22,"Is it bad that all I want to do after getting the kids in bed is relax and not be productive? I feel like my days are so routined (go to work, come home and make dinner, play with the kids, put them through their bedtime routine, rinse and repeat). It’s the only time I have to relax and do nothing. Mostly with regard to household chores and honey do lists. With three young kids, all of the other stuff just tends to take a back seat in terms of priority.",4.411123188405798,4.958146271739132,4.883478260869566,87.3607971014493,69.97826086956522,7.0028985507246375,25.11594202898551,6.42735559955562,0.7479724637681162,355,9,74,2,6,113,67,92,0.036000000000000004,0.8390000000000001,0.124,0.7579,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,1,3,5,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,1,2,17,16,6,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,5,9,1,0,1,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,2,6,4,14,15,4,12,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,8,51,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307742627884502,0.2505882156936292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585273747529544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355299783312951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175002370161506,0.2144062600202224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680065822826691,0.0,0.1705654877982889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010454930941211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662379517153518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20033287153834306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2879738683067103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282552864696501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30170415795543826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435663533413609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2256533864211096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17500277080074758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770189415796721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184914154595538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Elkish21,2019/03/22,"Penis disease - is this even possible? I apologize if this post is weird but I'm concerned and genuinely curious. 

My 14 y/o son came to me telling me he was concerned about his development in puberty and thought he might have some kind of a rare disease that affected his penis size. I told him it's natural that your body undergoes changes during puberty and that included the privates and that he shouldn't worry. But he bugged me about it some more and told me about stories he had read about it. I decided to look at his browsing history to see where he was getting these ideas from. Turns out he's been searching a ton online about this stuff and even has posts of his own claiming that his flaccid length is almost 8 inches. 

I'm kind of freaked out. I know it's easy to lie on the internet, so I doubt any of the articles and stories he's read concerning this ""disease"" hold much truth. Some of them seemed totally made up. And it's very possible that he's lying with his posts too. But I just don't know how I can talk to him about this issue without it being super awkward. His father isn't part of the picture so there really isn't another male that I can have explain these things to him. Also I feel bad for spying on his search history because it's something I've never really done and I feel like maybe I was overstepping my bounds. Any advice?",4.944888888888889,5.789669118518523,5.643703703703704,81.31666666666669,68.92592592592592,9.407407407407408,31.296296296296298,9.586721724236666,2.8274074074074083,1082,44,212,23,18,352,150,270,0.098,0.8270000000000001,0.075,-0.7976,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,1,1,16,10,0,2,6,0,20,1,1,3,3,43,37,17,0,2,6,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,23,13,0,2,9,2,0,1,6,5,0,0,11,4,30,5,29,23,9,14,0,0,2,0,31,9,0,8,2,141,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473483640112185,0.0,0.0,0.12781968898426502,0.0,0.0,0.10207898590084707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17360820860726595,0.13384865012625385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065796272243047,0.0778122176504238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178666062504766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599377074469505,0.0,0.0,0.13503323831281347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062684861530713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861882685461266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908397078952286,0.09119079763691222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669011013241817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440975391349196,0.0,0.1332299468075472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26584870201928035,0.14030252944841715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062361709182289865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719104368415701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078235371197528,0.0,0.0,0.12823822435518353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541293179412833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383498048946012,0.0,0.09844897144583444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822889101760935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878048541809422,0.36675063932546587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25536240103563074,0.0,0.16354743477287395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171785957455076,0.11620472293253985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826863320993164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461248836645391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259754814469396,0.11156880492618518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848027673375407,0.0,0.0,0.10133718780044718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439437028743596,0.0,0.0,0.13884290872074528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532186069298036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230468227671659,0.0,0.0,0.12963137682721995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,A_lunch_lady,2019/03/22,"Neuropsych testing for 11 year old It looks like I have to take my 11 year old son to be tested for learning disabilities and ADHD, I am taking him to a private psychologist for testing rather than having the school do it.  Are there any parents here who have had this done and can tell me a little about what it entails and how much it cost you out of pocket?",9.213749999999996,6.2408028750000035,8.683888888888893,75.55000000000003,61.91666666666666,10.711111111111112,36.5,7.793537801064563,2.707799999999999,285,9,57,2,3,91,56,72,0.0,0.964,0.036000000000000004,0.3612,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,1,0,7,13,4,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,1,10,10,1,6,0,0,1,0,6,2,0,0,5,44,13,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933119367237477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596874183159602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497574727373982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923508104235295,0.2446116070276031,0.0,0.0,0.20494840420962224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941171994762756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5121985105504461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709990496679705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24700111375399697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36700454773968016,0.0,0.21331864811925424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143324670023803
parenting,Katie7331,2019/03/22,"Tula love In case any babywearing mamas or dads haven't heard, Tula has an awesome sale today only. They're giving away a free gift with all orders over $50 from brands including Britax, Fat Brain, Ergobaby, and  more plus there's a % off discount on orders too. I'm trying to decide what to get!",3.3724137931034512,5.3707258965517255,4.599517241379309,82.74720689655173,74.51724137931033,6.708965517241379,20.220689655172414,7.554174236665415,0.7591751724137934,234,5,43,3,5,77,54,58,0.0,0.728,0.272,0.9531,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,2,3,2,0,1,6,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,10,6,2,8,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,1,22,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659753535134493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367470586611438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43661983164659146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434431943765147,0.3751984248892686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3530015234984878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29746476640286457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3707365034596378,0.0,0.0,0.26554514709381605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,endo55,2019/03/22,"Different eye test results from different opticians Hi, my child is 5yo and I noticed that they can't always read things that are fairly big at not too far a distance. It's not about knowledge of reading as they struggle to just state the letter / number whereas reading a book is fine.

Went to two opticians. One on Tuesday and Wednesday who concluded my child needed glasses and had a prescription of +1.5.

The other optician today said the eye sight was fine and no prescription is needed. Furthermore he stated that children have very variable focus and that it can adjust frequently. That there's no chance my child has a prescription of +1.5. And even if they did, it's negligible and glasses would not have much effect and be a distraction at school. 

Teachers didn't notice anything at school. 

Anyone else experience this type of discrepancy? Did you do anything more about it? ",5.895195936139331,8.25792981132076,5.7296855345911935,75.76793904209,68.49685534591195,8.665892597968071,32.35655539429124,9.265573868473778,3.281808514755684,716,32,113,15,13,223,103,159,0.062,0.894,0.044,-0.5803,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,3,2,6,4,0,2,8,0,17,2,2,3,0,21,21,10,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,13,8,0,0,4,4,0,1,7,2,0,2,7,4,8,2,14,12,2,13,0,0,3,0,13,6,0,1,4,82,21,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286658901058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165200009978812,0.16361107605573033,0.26280614256746465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336633213904709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339218777001366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546716364004624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561977240542082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738320598061625,0.2368014599043005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3635935788106045,0.0,0.0,0.10820333093726324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4791697695909434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15189228900747265,0.0,0.0,0.32320946058251593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693225312404142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608432648661267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513580116130376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598420139304986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175276004213105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802500133483254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343212241174963,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ononymous9,2019/03/22,"What’s wrong with my mom? Is it a mental disorder or something? I’m 16 and my mom has a problem. She’s always sitting on the couch and complaining about how terrible she feels. She’s been “sick” since October, and she’s went to multiple doctors, the hospital (ER), specialists, etc. NOBODY FINDS ANYTHING WRONG. She also is extremely easily offended, and if anybody mentions anything including logic that remotely goes against her or what she says it instantly offends her and she “feels attacked” and we can’t talk to her. She acts like a baby. She also is extremely unaware of how sluggish her lifestyle is. I live primarily with my dad and when I come to her house I am forced to sit on a couch in the living room for a day doing nothing but watching terrible Netflix shows. ",4.08997365648051,6.413123582191782,5.277671232876717,77.22755005268706,73.45205479452055,8.875869336143309,33.14857744994731,9.466822959209583,3.6143599578503682,617,32,105,16,13,204,94,146,0.197,0.779,0.024,-0.9624,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,6,10,3,0,8,0,9,2,0,2,0,22,14,16,0,2,4,3,2,1,0,0,2,1,3,0,5,11,0,0,4,2,0,3,1,9,1,0,2,4,21,1,13,12,1,11,0,0,1,0,22,4,0,3,3,73,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26996917250868985,0.14045021870280178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778063354746085,0.0,0.0,0.19202766443614505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540117698889232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885823492215672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19345267007142533,0.17276792076693578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18825004783092653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069474422499226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427475568642812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19476573655992024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246427448115279,0.0,0.2980965775778724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010475889460966,0.0,0.0,0.3953792357515989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196249791284992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151316410145747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342318486565764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962822944617942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994594997747255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567030926888174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647382811418656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690997161680667,0.0,0.0
parenting,lady_dejaneira,2019/03/22,"My six year old refuses to verbally communicate his wants and needs. My son is 6 and has no disabilities or health problems but absolutely refuses to use words to ask for help or let us (his family) know he needs something. He will point, whine, and/or grunt at what he wants or indicate that he needs something instead. We all know that he can talk because he talks a whole lot about everything else and when he plays. We have never heard anyone outside our home say anything about this so I truly believe that he only does this around us. Is this normal behavior or an indication of something else? And if it's normal what can I do to get him to verbally communicate his wants and needs to us?",6.466184210526317,6.8673115112781975,6.774953007518799,76.10047462406017,65.46616541353383,10.559774436090226,32.41447368421053,10.411451182825502,3.2623691729323308,553,21,105,13,8,179,86,133,0.048,0.87,0.08199999999999999,0.7796,0,0,3,0,0,0,12.0,6,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,1,2,33,22,13,0,11,6,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,9,8,0,2,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,14,1,12,19,3,7,0,1,0,0,27,3,0,6,4,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072921698754008,0.0,0.10677907925228086,0.11551137450902775,0.12130542026292072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909875489102072,0.0,0.0,0.14619187501213804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355135726349852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167908991833855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661736053493812,0.0,0.1223234938778981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779275587180998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792578380161458,0.0,0.0,0.08697348315607291,0.0,0.1301570022105894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262227350064638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326854782197462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103148896258042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3848531332967017,0.10007671413057002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542689158685284,0.0,0.0,0.13615830247875116,0.0,0.0,0.09868616042134372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266244891851165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241600694268722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318809455078673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29968018261611645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085877657304539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682456282513857,0.11206851695419164,0.0,0.0,0.2296023886658695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448692252033666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08355935099265957
parenting,childrenhealth00,2019/03/22,"Healthcare for Children Hello,

I can heal any diesease for kids who are under the age of 10 in approximately 21 days without medication, so please if you have some kids that need help or you know someone who does, please contact me.

Thank you

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parenting,MiaStegner,2019/03/22,"More Like Children I’m an independent singer-songwriter, and a few months ago I wrote a song about why kids are awesome and what we can learn from them. I sometimes work as a substitute teacher at a children’s center in Boston, and I was lucky enough to get to make a music video with the kids. :) I hope you enjoy their smiles & silliness as much as I do, and that this video reminds you to take some time to play today. [https://youtu.be/d9ApTqO83B4](https://youtu.be/d9ApTqO83B4)",7.095968992248063,8.799407744186054,5.230232558139537,83.09364341085275,64.58139534883722,7.593798449612403,27.124031007751928,7.793537801064563,1.4188589147286816,390,11,70,4,6,111,65,86,0.021,0.713,0.266,0.9698,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,2,2,1,1,6,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,2,0,13,10,7,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,3,6,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,6,12,8,5,7,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,3,5,45,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27654274886722663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380195688584693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223485995689337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299154737654528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30985678896988056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15241287585948352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824252328639029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490116280609084,0.0,0.22933398426928744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30854649344567153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345627565541928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18191232568980786,0.0,0.2957112609450025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815045712279333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271180127471198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zsharpe11,2019/03/22,"Saying yes to everything your kid wants What happens when you say yes to everything a toddler wants when you go grocery shopping? This is what happens....

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parenting,DiarrheaDrippingCunt,2019/03/22,"Had a shitfit with son. He ain't talking to me no more for the last 3 months. I ain't got no clue how I can reconnect with him. It started all with him not going to his classes and the fact that's he's constantly hanging out with the wrong people.

Last night we got into it and it got out of hand quickly and he left and came back the same night. He has literally said nothing to me in the last few months and it seems no matter what I do I can't make thingsa righta.

Who can help?",0.6414285714285732,2.380827666666669,2.4402380952380973,96.26892857142859,81.85714285714286,5.342857142857143,20.97619047619048,6.2581,-0.010638095238094893,375,11,90,3,10,124,67,105,0.094,0.8390000000000001,0.068,-0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,6,0,8,1,1,2,2,22,17,6,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,14,0,0,1,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,6,2,10,0,13,11,4,19,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,11,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340554466224942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330416892221946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20153821617485732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105991181090754,0.0,0.4474787574147425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250057605631541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4560625851908776,0.0,0.0,0.20263075620887785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448894521242232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977220447938787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500317092106384,0.0,0.17894997879757288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929431611006958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740242251121102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697808867017216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132004331283904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990012675767914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039064204171716,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaJ612,2019/03/22,"Potty training troubles - almost 4 years old... I have a son who will be 4 this summer. We have been struggling to potty train him since last fall. We said ""no more diapers"" and put him in cloth training pants.  Accidents happened. Constantly. We decided on pullups for sleeping times (nap and bedtime) because he would wet the bed regardless of when we cut off liquids. He would go through the day wetting or pooping himself and not say anything. We would have to literally tell him every so often to go, most times met with compliance but sometimes met with resistance. 

Flash to now...nothing has changed except he screams bloody murder now if we tell him it's time to go potty and runs away to his room (only sometimes). He's super excited when he pees in the potty, but he never does it on his own. He would be perfectly happy walking around in wet/dirty clothes. 

The hardest part about this is I'm pretty sure this means he's not ready, but my husband (his father) is refusing to accept it. I'm trying my hardest as a stay at home parent to potty train the kid so he can go to school, but I also have a 6 week old baby to tend to. I've tried everything - sticker charts, bribes of chocolate/candy/toy cars, telling him the characters on his underwear he picked out would be sad if he peed/pooped on them, going naked, going commando, just underwear, etc. and nothing is working.

Help?",4.928277511961722,6.3019216363636374,5.29409888357257,81.85456937799043,69.37878787878788,7.9821371610845295,31.31897926634769,8.371475516178862,2.4159651515151523,1088,46,199,16,19,346,163,264,0.121,0.7759999999999999,0.103,-0.0521,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,6,0,1,3,10,12,2,1,9,0,19,3,3,1,3,43,33,18,1,8,11,4,2,0,0,6,0,3,3,1,7,15,0,1,3,1,0,11,4,6,0,0,4,5,21,6,32,20,5,40,0,1,0,0,43,13,0,6,15,117,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307882055492804,0.0,0.0,0.09030667670089458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929282654387445,0.10052785383368873,0.0,0.0,0.10609745380324882,0.0,0.0,0.06883848542110324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946046376317795,0.0,0.0,0.1220326116896112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282776278486988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882207959277473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594205516445192,0.0,0.0,0.09514480979167847,0.0,0.10149037723908834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3850698162382026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985986250168298,0.12021155436434974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569174584999125,0.0,0.11327372866327225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920495533817632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230092405636371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709529544631572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21671059403961032,0.0,0.2369931444068708,0.0,0.0,0.08588511696282733,0.0,0.0,0.12539067488319186,0.12228757624978374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148860792151086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352156304874683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741824230658112,0.08980308415919352,0.0,0.11428688177490046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341334240307443,0.0,0.11300729765062455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337289669658925,0.0,0.0,0.1203638178863719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805450646661618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643117732587104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961062330544931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19754372840393625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533383351100902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905822202840388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08221128659209645,0.0,0.0,0.4010960428009496,0.0,0.0,0.0727204767386044
parenting,dsieczka,2019/03/22,"Force my preschooler to give a speech at school? Just came from my daughter's Montessori preschool, where they had a “Countries Around the World” program. All 5-year old kids picked a country, personalized and memorized a speech.

My daughter picked England. We practiced soooo much at home. Her teachers said she was the first to have her speech memorized. She could bust this speech backwards and forward. Imagine my surprise when it was her turn, she stood up at the podium, got through 2 sentences, then started to cry! What?!

They encouraged her, but ultimately let her sit down. From the audience, I could see the teacher whispering to her, and my daughter shaking her head “no”. They gave her the option of having a teacher or even ME stand next to her while she gave her speech. After all the other speeches, they assessed one more time at the end of the program. It was not going to happen.

I was (and still am) CRUSHED!! We practiced so much, she enjoyed the little factoids about England, we added small jokes she thought were funny, and we bought an English nanny costume. The part that kills me is no less than 1 month ago, she gave a speech on Ulysses S. Grant. Same environment, same length, another costume, and she did great!

My question: is there any value to forcing a kid her age to stand up and do it, even if she has to struggle through it, or is fed her lines? Would she learn anything from that?

Do I try to make her explain? Leave the door open for her to talk, but if she doesn’t bring it up, let it go? I worry that if I leave it at “Mommy is proud of you anyway”, that tells her it’s ok to quit next time. But how best to encourage her, or turn this negative into a positive? I don’t want to her to feel bad about herself, but I don’t want this to happen at the next speech either.

Begging for advice before I pick her up at the end of the day!!! Please share your experiences!

TLDR: daughter cried and couldn't give a speech at preschool. What do I say to her now?",3.434388005380172,5.445641979112273,3.447590790410633,91.01672838040984,74.37859007832898,6.000126592293693,26.74966373921988,6.714681859716394,1.022635161009573,1550,58,312,13,33,471,202,383,0.1,0.759,0.141,0.9559,0,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,4,2,4,4,14,14,1,2,25,1,27,2,1,5,2,53,53,23,1,9,13,4,1,0,0,1,0,12,2,3,18,16,1,0,8,1,1,6,8,4,0,2,17,14,58,10,48,30,11,51,0,0,1,0,62,23,0,8,21,224,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066201265953823,0.09671861288952713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419791340479827,0.11441037991335246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978747311258528,0.09713021038908758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110152123502377,0.0,0.0,0.09284378768205363,0.0,0.1145032440989834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479171631636188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422943830458829,0.0,0.23970239393206866,0.07036632785539904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327651265342108,0.0,0.0,0.14413103174953906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672961302770156,0.0,0.0,0.055168827346494885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280812457632442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20933473625888385,0.12401840498051045,0.0,0.08726449563402755,0.12029314182769747,0.0,0.0,0.19296959169665226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197739026989616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944529975564823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120713027089523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23106151542425246,0.0,0.2231428457991972,0.0,0.0,0.10935595845185483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728311556870535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870898237544356,0.0,0.16041545068754318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481162214338935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449162147186227,0.0,0.07393513387707586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815449704878325,0.0,0.0,0.09526983690620963,0.0,0.11976900095471485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222713625953223,0.116050933164154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037877173039552,0.08676791680444992,0.0,0.11042421028776414,0.08694580742443159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722796579807514,0.0,0.08713464928820917,0.0,0.0,0.11406449668618752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769774256476047,0.0953661418777344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662041899312206,0.12724475966407253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407790071095847,0.2373586871444973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871072026019406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080556327989532,0.0,0.07750795732283104,0.0,0.0,0.0702626678661704
parenting,CeisodninHyRib6,2019/03/22,"SAHP tips for introvert mom! I can't do the constant chatter. A walk or quiet time in the afternoon are not enough. I need a way to structure all of our interactions/time in the house so it's not just constant constant constant! I'm losing it and I'm being a jerk, help me, thanks!!",0.6595812807881778,3.0325772241379307,2.696600985221675,90.48706896551724,87.10344827586206,5.383251231527094,23.802955665024644,6.868970318607317,0.9303714285714286,221,9,46,3,7,74,43,58,0.09,0.789,0.121,0.4153,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,6,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,8,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,4,1,5,7,2,10,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,6,29,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8393156559133439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062963360501976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014813506757034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22404624278230914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21722669174861514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274096917889705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397467985614248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876575419541527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322215545589287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541231993095708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,resting-witchface,2019/03/22,"Son goes missing for hours - am I wrong here? So my 16-year-old has a truck. It’s an old Ford that needs work but he picked it, he paid for it with his money, and he was excited to work on it with my husband who is a mechanic. 

The last couple weeks it hasn’t been working properly and has broken down several times. It has transmission issues and my husband thinks the whole transmission should just be replaced. This is relatively expensive, though possibly less so because my husband can get one through his shop and can pay on it out of his checks. We were willing to do this because he is our child and it is our responsibility to take care of him. But he wanted to try some other tricks that involve complicated mechanical words and knowledge that I do not possess. They have been working on it that way for about a week but it still not in driving standard. It’s still too unreliable for me to feel comfortable with him taking it anywhere further than down the road from our house.

Yesterday he asked to go to a baseball game at school in passing and I told him it was OK as long as he had a ride. He said he wasn’t sure if he wanted to go anyway and a few hours pass. Eventually, he asks me if he can drive his truck to AutoZone (not even 5 mins from our house) and for some money to buy transmission fluid or something. I transfer the money over into his account and tell him to be safe. And uncomfortable amount of time passes and I begin to worry that he broke down. By then my husband is home, with our only other vehicle, so I so I tell him what happened and tell him that we need to go look for our son. We immediately hopped in the truck and drive to AutoZone. He’s not there. We drive all over the neighborhood and the surrounding places and businesses. Anywhere else he might’ve gone and driven to (like nearby fast food chains) and broken down. We don’t find him or his truck. 

Now it’s important to note that his phone is off. I allow him to keep it because when he’s home or at school he can use it to text me in an emergency but otherwise it’s kinda useless because of some other trouble he’d gotten into. This was another reason I didn’t want him going far in his truck. If he broke down, I wouldn’t have a way of knowing unless he was close to WiFi. 

So we can’t call and we can’t find him and I start freaking out. Before I do anything major, like call the police — or heaven forbid my mother, I call his girlfriend and his sister. They know his friends and message them to ask if they’ve seen him and luckily they confirm he went to the baseball game and actually made it there. 

So I’m relieved but angry. When he finally comes home, he acts like he did nothing wrong and acts like he’s confused as to why we would be angry. When I tell him why, which is 1) He isn’t supposed to be taking his truck that far and he knows better and 2) He was intentionally sneaking by asking me if he could go to AutoZone and then adding the baseball trip to it and trying to manipulate the fact that, yes, I did tell him it would be okay to go but not by himself in his truck. 

He then tells me, “I assumed you would just figure it out.” And that he wasn’t “intentionally manipulative of the rules and what I said”. 

I’ve already taken his phone and because of some technical issues the internet in our house has been down almost all week so he can’t really watch TV or play on his phone or his computer. There’s not really much I can “take away“ beyond no longer letting him use the phone at all even at school. My husband told him they were putting a pause on fixing his truck until he could be more responsible and I took a time out before talking to him further (I was really upset.) and will be talking to him when he comes home today. I’m considering grounding him for this weekend and possibly through next weekend. I will also be trying to explain to him why what he did was so alarming and potentially dangerous. 

My only worry is that I might be disproportionately punishing him considering most of his privileges have already been taken away, not because of anything he did, but because of the technical difficulties with the Wi-Fi. (I hate you [name that rhymes with mompast]!!)",4.2187900641025635,5.429425093749997,5.206221153846156,82.43461217948717,70.89903846153847,8.142820512820514,27.92916666666667,8.548686976883017,1.9293119551282047,3306,117,660,54,60,1085,322,832,0.1,0.815,0.084,-0.9352,0,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,15,2,5,6,29,33,4,3,27,3,73,1,0,10,5,140,127,76,0,17,28,9,1,4,2,9,0,2,4,1,45,59,1,3,12,7,10,24,18,16,0,1,35,6,98,17,102,70,15,101,1,4,3,0,139,43,0,21,36,450,143,10,0.0,0.0,0.057774843056780524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059284540635631225,0.0,0.13066680416432996,0.04734564632235789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06208085624751537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744016609946643,0.0,0.22139206260166533,0.0,0.11124875163126367,0.0,0.0,0.25263268367591696,0.0,0.10075697399011496,0.0,0.0,0.052361380000791886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18136258708476394,0.0,0.0603627155883581,0.0,0.0,0.10199850059323452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453961014432537,0.06550841664954694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945758423186285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820774539535412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029935466016593762,0.0,0.0,0.06485540170169456,0.10822329010861692,0.0,0.07159005793554127,0.0,0.04574108469238306,0.0,0.03093179599761645,0.0,0.20188296142724385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05235415480367396,0.0,0.0,0.058451975568352924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23754690531549125,0.0,0.1166085923173682,0.20494139223061167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358778617224372,0.0,0.052623489889581695,0.0,0.0,0.0976113821876512,0.04825939518269075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06054039390137855,0.0,0.11569689494644295,0.0,0.0,0.052393930278966605,0.049716689467546885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056020527147318165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561278346604673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04352196252453625,0.08779845615574942,0.0,0.0,0.06296443008240138,0.0,0.0,0.05680810940308819,0.0,0.12424987836807465,0.0,0.040118356580405634,0.09005505507736355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061855878138847076,0.0,0.0,0.13348787427359815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951666001251463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378334534798408,0.060871866722575274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126336677333704,0.0,0.0,0.17975369534595986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688399162979983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04557835201319655,0.0,0.0,0.04190509852890368,0.0,0.09456123894939833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05579933913449977,0.0,0.17805702077571495,0.095172325334777,0.3104829342901693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03793571606321711,0.058167910641775136,0.0,0.1035674862578576,0.0,0.056118740787321285,0.11314446530723173,0.06577814042938478,0.12058747227229558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226698884279847,0.0,0.0,0.10476066587715346,0.09398721338144976,0.14247032184120434,0.0,0.0,0.054882966493970606,0.16026797910267465,0.06609947128859289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17240570203185626,0.1202496530579449,0.0,0.12617107888920662,0.12946118593457906,0.0,0.038125619254740124
parenting,ConsistentInterest3,2019/03/22,"My baby is keeping me awake all night and a close friend of my recommended me this. Is it for real? Hello! I'm a single mom who's currently struggling with imsomnia. My baby is keeping me awake all night and I don't know how to deal with it. Do you have any methods to solve this problem? Also, a friend of mine strongly recommended me this:  [http://sleepbaby.cf/](http://sleepbaby.cf/)  but I don't know if it's a real product or the best alternative and I don't want to spend my money yet.  


Any recommendations?   
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parenting,14Holidays,2019/03/22,Grateful but trying not to lose my shit Due to last minute work commitments my wife and I had to leave town on different jobs for 24 hours. We arranged for our kids (2&4) to stay with their grandparents. It was their first ever sleep over without one of us being around. we were anxious about it but all in all it went well. I was very grateful for them looking after the kids. When we were packing up to go home we can’t find my sons favourite toy 🧸 since he was a baby. We turn the place upside down and we can’t find it. They went out during the day but my stepmum reckons it didn’t go with them. What shits me is that she was completely indifferent about it. “Oh well” she said. This “toy” has been my sons best friend for his entire life. I felt like butch in pulp fiction when he realised his watch wasn’t there. I just don’t know what to say to him when he asks for his best friend. Anyway I’m heading back to the park and shopping centre first thing in the morning to search for my sons best friend. I hope I find him. ,2.400542390731964,4.107769530805688,2.794936808846764,95.90282122169563,76.44075829383887,5.636756187467087,21.674828857293313,6.139981653823899,0.02926835176408593,805,21,181,5,18,247,128,211,0.063,0.72,0.217,0.9914,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,8,0,5,7,13,13,2,0,6,0,16,5,4,0,4,30,28,9,0,1,6,4,1,1,3,0,1,2,1,2,11,13,0,0,6,3,1,4,7,3,2,3,14,5,33,10,31,13,5,28,0,1,2,0,35,11,2,1,13,122,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311108141616939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367032375700974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772170439904266,0.1131250206233389,0.0,0.0,0.09304675770862336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809675042652191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268733245667045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803937352262767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642634804341316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945757579687478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618550166895154,0.0,0.3317940611310097,0.20585663968794496,0.0,0.0,0.2804686539356069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754190285221726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241878843431928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137968383796585,0.12018705311223968,0.11916732023491768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008057452155822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650217111543122,0.09863669024366707,0.0,0.1281287261852907,0.0,0.0,0.08547067942695112,0.059117808800676415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161523326985024,0.13537565367683865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199733743297646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642634804341316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510517437244368,0.09622946195512183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484234767310912,0.10009807305662746,0.0,0.12109418681706402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897714530090648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039153915064154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215567217369085,0.13162064732847004,0.0,0.0,0.14555627780390193,0.0,0.0,0.0998432805101392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217599285949528,0.2243490265564287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664623432011148,0.0,0.08809438951307848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fast_and_hangry,2019/03/22,"My little brother is playing 6+ hours of Fortnite every day and I started to get worried. My (22M) little brother (11M) starts to play Fortnite (an online video game) from the moment that he comes back from the school to the moment he goes to bed. On weekends, it is even worse. And, when he is not playing, he just watches other people play it on YouTube. He is doing very poorly in school. We try to control it for a while, but it is exhausting. Whenever we make him close his game, he gets so mean and annoying to everyone that we cannot take it anymore and just let him play. My dad never cared, and my mom eventually got sick of it as well. I try to talk to him, but it feels like he does not hear anything I said. He is not interested in anything else. I thought him to play guitar, but he does not like to play it. I don't know what to do about it. I am worried. ",2.8882787930301745,3.7418809558011077,4.312928176795584,88.93954101147474,73.69613259668509,6.8951976200594975,26.630259243518914,7.010146845296331,1.068684317892052,667,23,148,6,13,222,101,181,0.12,0.757,0.122,-0.3806,0,0,0,0,0,1,28.0,3,0,0,1,8,14,1,0,5,0,12,2,0,2,1,26,27,12,0,0,9,4,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,13,10,0,1,4,12,1,1,7,2,1,0,3,4,18,12,22,23,0,19,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,0,13,91,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615761580685985,0.0,0.0,0.2425561547673845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332322141353833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025988532781834,0.0,0.0,0.12695156980068625,0.0,0.0,0.16529497000516724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504547415152914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25793985843779776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311392658258588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734060785959392,0.0,0.12417082735906665,0.14082430037177526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451784842754344,0.1052856058692883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15399599154156415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787023164224715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661037185755245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513589671258414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099412002506116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070217694242627,0.0,0.14400116030225504,0.29541939274450785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837477578061096,0.0,0.0,0.1605359158007711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726052556269733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113665631560254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217211926193036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401885404981014,0.0,0.0,0.2983052191149243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20862730373311456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080858135188004,0.1184554285853195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700026199070325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200117567927988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160082159268955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250892706173711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29933542424459075,0.15018896580708482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DumpyDiapers,2019/03/22,"Getting 2Y.O to sleep in new room. So I’m sure I’m not the only one who messed up when it comes to naps & bedtime...
My son is 2 & i am still breastfeeding him (I don’t want opinions regarding breastfeeding, to each their own, thanks) but I messed up bc I would let him fall asleep while breastfeeding (for cuddles + time together) & I let it become a habit. 😅 So we recently moved into our first house and now he has his own bedroom! Before we lived in a one bedroom apt and he slept with me which I had no problem with since my bc works over night but now I’m having trouble getting him to sleep on his own bed in his own room. Idk if I should wean him off the boob first then try the cry it out method? (I tried that method when he was a few months old but I couldn’t bring myself to do it) My dilema is that now he’s in a bed (never had a crib) & he knows how to unlock his door so I can lock him in there....
Any suggestions/tips
Please and thank you",1.9726456310679623,3.080035621359226,3.0642597087378647,96.02512742718449,76.28155339805825,6.5092233009708735,20.64199029126214,6.9077264865688965,0.06944757281553349,742,16,181,7,16,238,125,206,0.103,0.852,0.045,-0.9119,0,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,3,1,1,3,11,7,0,0,8,0,16,6,5,1,2,26,28,15,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,8,11,0,0,1,1,0,4,5,4,0,4,4,0,29,3,21,19,6,35,0,0,0,2,21,14,1,2,17,115,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5706594180621352,0.0,0.08954040670647638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541964370994645,0.11204183686226436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342241545269055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463378319076464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239975988244439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13758472902776106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519299963420251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236262414974813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692838686378553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162674008809625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050980800015762,0.13994482791901094,0.0,0.0,0.10155235185953483,0.1271681205559391,0.0,0.12356377776182895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381659655999374,0.0,0.17844658032723154,0.10014129434445006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453459085575862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259908178129367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13000866353008322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891913928852176,0.0,0.26353103907397946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515217446785888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240978208206837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24244888058558745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677808585687325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879115606483492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077662630326987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585764030126843,0.0,0.0,0.09353489475926018,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WillyDreamwold,2019/03/22,"Sleep Training Disaster (cross posted) Hey Parents, I'm between a rock and a hard place.

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Our first child is 14 months and has been rocked to sleep since she was born. Overall she has slept ok. Sometimes she sleeps through the night, sometimes wakes up once or twice, and once in a while has a bad night. I realize now that it could have been worse, but my concern was that she would never become an independent sleeper as long as we rocked her to sleep.

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So, I told my wife we need to sleep train her. I knew it would be hard... we would be starting a bit late and she clearly hated to be put in the crib still awake. But here's where the huge problem lies and makes me wish I never started -- my wife was never really onboard. She told me to go ahead and do it if I thought it was necessary, but she wouldn't be partaking. To be honest, I don't really blame her. It's a brutal experience.

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Fast forward three nights, things are going generally well. She's crying when I put her down, but slept through every night, no wake ups. Then on night 4 my wife intervenes. The baby was crying more than usual (I believe this is commonly known as extinction burst) and she decided to go in and rock her. We've been doing a combination of Ferber and rocking ever since and it has been a fucking disaster. She cries when we bring her in her room, doesn't want to be left alone ever, and wakes up during the night. We're now through night 6 and I see no end in sight. Last night was the worst as we were all up for several hours in the middle of the night. At one point I cried myself to sleep (can't remember the last time I cried but I'm pretty sure it was 2015). To make matters worse, I won't be home next week so it's all on my wife. Things could get ugly.

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By far the worst of all this is that my wife is furious with me. Probably the most angry she's ever been. In other situations where she's mad at me, I can humbly say sorry and we move on. However sorry isn't cutting it here... the baby is still not herself and I'm not sure if we should cut our losses or continue with the sleep training freak show. If we continue sleep training, my wife sees me as a psychopath and her anger is constantly reinforced. If we stop, I know the baby won't be herself for a while and we'll be rocking her for the foreseeable future. 

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To be clear, I don't blame my wife. If there's anything I know about marriage, it's that you have to be on the same page with each other when you embark on things like sleep training. I shouldn't have ever gone forward with it since I didn't have her commitment. 

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I simply have no idea what to do.",3.1046808785529727,4.633038783333337,3.9484151593453936,89.12182170542637,74.12962962962962,7.023255813953488,24.40999138673557,7.65591337171366,1.0528505598621876,2093,64,442,27,43,670,237,540,0.202,0.725,0.073,-0.9978,2,1,0,0,0,0,88.0,12,2,0,3,20,20,8,0,27,1,61,15,14,3,15,88,89,41,0,17,14,8,2,1,0,9,0,1,2,1,23,30,0,1,9,7,0,11,18,14,1,4,21,6,71,6,55,46,11,89,0,1,3,1,52,30,1,8,52,307,94,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04844098019620581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040602225773964,0.3409936261624413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038488809729878073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0390520970839728,0.0,0.0516552463507607,0.0,0.052695259228657435,0.0,0.0,0.0510621658434996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050543179192961335,0.0,0.07468618358198212,0.0,0.25688048432656313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041425505490304264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16922934019530966,0.039406852840390534,0.0,0.0,0.045751323942659516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039783659394511714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04323933004197181,0.024436083360949504,0.0,0.07974365398911254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379582862442628,0.046176993657611125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04691544568631113,0.0,0.04606032709335338,0.0,0.0,0.05279912525885794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05140858664869742,0.07624973368659929,0.052760084180274634,0.0,0.05081717410947421,0.0,0.0,0.02285010357733637,0.0,0.0,0.04139114482726002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06244043620942963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037332419987919765,0.04971050937306678,0.0,0.03468033983138075,0.10821877194115156,0.0,0.04974182754815784,0.395025424057838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961985493154413,0.031693455684843906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051934013883659716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488660727842016,0.0,0.044214013554763225,0.0,0.044793994079202,0.04758324523378466,0.050427391691216836,0.04475383494297417,0.0,0.09403618629472194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059925808214203465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052982786032617996,0.0,0.0,0.03719442952088448,0.0,0.0,0.07454137025492269,0.0,0.0,0.0528382766750686,0.0,0.11606915328750565,0.05257292133353727,0.4212458632628509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092516059340781,0.10471332307171632,0.06620995954971384,0.0,0.07470327031318265,0.03910291632246792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816282783460737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321835671517477,0.0,0.0,0.03713120226880831,0.02727273178572213,0.0,0.0,0.08938399782187316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151199922984733,0.0,0.027586935295964975,0.0,0.03751713028282447,0.0,0.04205303209956132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053784707731199775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532793812665344,0.09967500761078243,0.0,0.3409936261624413,0.0
parenting,-badmama,2019/03/22,"Only having one kid, I'm still a little disappointed its a girl. First of all, I know how awful this sounds. I also want to clarify that I do love my daughter, more than anything.  

We had initially decided to have two kids, then we had one and decided that we are done. We had our awesome little girl 2 years ago, and I can't explain why, but I've always wanted a little boy. I do love my daughter, and for the most part have accepted it. But occasionally I still get pangs of sadness that I will never have a son.

I feel terrible for even thinking this. 

Anyone ever felt similar? how did you get over it?",2.776475409836067,4.377698614754102,4.836852459016395,82.1142950819672,75.14754098360655,7.830819672131147,25.31475409836065,8.548686976883017,1.773774426229508,469,16,94,9,10,162,81,122,0.096,0.78,0.125,0.5577,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,1,0,1,7,6,0,0,5,1,14,2,0,2,3,25,26,9,0,2,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,8,7,0,0,8,0,0,0,2,3,0,4,6,3,16,3,8,19,4,12,0,2,0,2,17,4,0,1,8,73,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569508794885955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159289887071724,0.1473261071133284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380279081905912,0.0,0.145703318638111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811913980390962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694487502900452,0.16015873607448525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952564262141564,0.0,0.17000306248341535,0.0,0.0,0.15060510423757867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18501057659073247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730622658610634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5323746901521814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31960279385103724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655773649041014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23995762429654596,0.13466028343502168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917361268251524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827968563886548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345136090350112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295954787090634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208866319945284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976694458727933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401928943508073
parenting,yellowbirdie33,2019/03/22,My son doesn’t know how to play on his own. My 6 year old son doesn’t know how to play on his own.  He will play with me but I’m not allowed to move anything I just get to watch.  He is really good at computer games and tablet games but he just can’t seem to play on his own.  Does any one have any advice???  ,-0.7524285714285703,0.8119720428571462,1.2899999999999991,103.625,85.71428571428572,5.142857142857143,14.285714285714285,6.18269132825596,-1.1307142857142858,233,3,65,2,7,77,42,70,0.0,0.8190000000000001,0.181,0.9007,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,0,13,11,5,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,6,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,7,5,10,10,3,7,0,0,1,0,10,4,0,1,2,35,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976793521410929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4143155236793324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25068322163948514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26658237043884164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591557687589017,0.0,0.0,0.25550785347064603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348316097970671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3237717852653294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196562674762692,0.0,0.20642409135862086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19515275696905834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27732225925284937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19617070545677115
parenting,Muhryzzle,2019/03/22,"The ""Mom"" voice I have a stereotypical ""Mom"" voice and my kids hate it. My neighbors look at me funny. Strangers sneer at me. But guess what? The ""Mom"" voice can save lives. 

My kids know when they hear the ""Mom"" voice they need to listen. NOW. And it's stopped my kids from running into traffic, falling off a ledge, from toppling a shelf over them... And countless other dangerous activities. 

So if you're pulling out the ""Mom"" voice and someone gives you flack... Remember that using it to stop your kids from annoying the adults having a conversation, or being too rough with the pets, it is practice for stopping them from possibly becoming a statistic. 

I know not all kids respond to it... But it's a free tool you can utilize on the spot if yours do. Embrace the ""Mom"" voice. ",3.2372309197651674,5.646649650684933,3.4291976516634044,89.0513698630137,76.46575342465755,6.36320939334638,26.866927592954998,7.447530270364453,1.4181091976516638,603,24,118,8,14,185,92,146,0.11,0.813,0.077,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,4,4,0,4,5,3,0,14,0,7,0,0,1,1,24,17,11,0,3,6,6,1,0,1,0,0,8,2,6,9,7,0,3,3,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,0,10,16,3,16,16,1,15,0,0,1,0,26,7,0,4,5,77,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334112040004085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587984396087175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330719212752023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926239358435282,0.0,0.0,0.13614741466595814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327741502613325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666629034290788,0.0,0.1014393667508457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8488585148929453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956971883611382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618088392700894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13683987155747054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235121914053134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029760294482176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10433014244141248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TrueBench,2019/03/22,"Plumpy Nut An amazing invention to treat malnourishment is Plumpy'Nut.  It is a peanut-based paste for treatment of severe acute malnutrition.  It is made by Nutriset out of France.

It is being used in nations where starvation may be occurring.  Fortunately (and sadly) families may use it to supplement nutrition in poorer households in 'developed' countries like the United States.

Do we laugh or cry?",7.263181818181818,10.463255015151518,6.578787878787877,67.48818181818183,67.03030303030303,10.460606060606061,36.75757575757576,10.504223727775694,5.007230303030302,325,17,45,10,6,100,55,66,0.103,0.7040000000000001,0.193,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,3,0,9,12,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,4,10,7,0,8,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,3,2,30,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789880467786159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32525395919871697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855924548271106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264660747158969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293604366100894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897741653035652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5959726571784169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BodyByCake,2019/03/22,"For fun, I like to write children's poetry about everyday parenting experiences. Here is one of my past favorites and a newer one.  I have two kids 3 and 6 and in my down time I like to turn my stories about them into children's poems. Here is one of my favorites from last year from my own children and one i wrote from a post i saw about a child that only ate their food with dipping sauce. I hope you enjoy   


 

**My shoes**

I'm running late for the bus and really need my shoes  
If you could help me find them of that'd be oh so kind of you.

I know I left them somewhere, maybe by the stairs?  
I've looked and looked and looked but cant find them anywhere.

I think the doggy ate them, he chewed them into bits  
oh me oh my I need them now, I'm at the end of my wits!

Maybe they grew legs and walked right out the garden door  
I have a friend at school that told me that happen to them before

I think one fell into a pit, yes in a deep dark hole  
The other one is probably underneath my cereal bowl

Or maybe they blasted off to space atop a Falcon 9  
I really wish I could find them, I haven't got the time

Oh I know, they traveled by balloon and now are high aloft,  
Oh look! Mommy found them, right where I kicked them off.  


**The big dipper**

I always eat up all my food but only when there are dips  
I just love it so very much when its past my lips  
It really is the bestest I drown each single bite  
I love it with my breakfast and with my snack at night  
We have so much yummy food its coming out my ears  
If we run out of sauces I'll just use my salty tears.

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parenting,RedundantPangolin,2019/03/22,"15 month old diaper change My 15 month old almost always rolls over after I lay him down for a diaper change. He then stands up and wraps his arms around me. I have tried different kinds of distractions and they some times work. When my mom is around, he will lay down for her. There are times when I ask her for help and she just needs to be in the room. 

I have tried talking to him, being patient, distractions. It feels like I'm not getting any where. Today I had to take him out of the room and put him down because I started crying. (Pregnant with #2) I just want to change him before going to the store. Maybe the laundry room (where the changing table is) is just too distracting of a room. Although I think this was a problem before we moved and then it was in his bedroom. I don't know.

Feeling upset and stupid that I feel upset, so hoping for some advice.",2.0081774906494374,4.199403017341044,2.770731043862632,93.32322339340358,79.52023121387282,5.4578714722883355,19.425025501530094,6.522977012572876,0.03199721183271054,674,16,141,6,17,211,105,173,0.095,0.823,0.08199999999999999,-0.3151,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,1,1,12,10,1,5,8,0,13,1,1,0,0,27,27,12,0,4,4,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,4,11,0,0,5,0,1,3,2,7,0,0,3,3,25,3,24,21,2,33,0,0,0,0,18,16,0,4,14,96,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292748829049736,0.0,0.0,0.1324720166646436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007811355720293,0.0,0.0,0.08996356385506386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355370787025227,0.12367580440001225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064439426518047,0.0,0.22514266610468528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5597924870012129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531730498316672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821770113692414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067347290689808,0.09450992222103034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911746892074021,0.0,0.07518498286331733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886729996688051,0.0,0.0,0.13139648850642144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776247604743955,0.07270460117247811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06463152463975197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329057857112721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493959643922006,0.2111895216706121,0.1406061902750688,0.0,0.09809335133824114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776378425350056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658623520241422,0.0,0.13299069019458915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936374449584255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946763680108824,0.10633185087196227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476781225983394,0.0,0.0,0.15428185963677998,0.0,0.12539799895672554,0.0,0.0,0.17963610147636366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802965453884593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631065193291287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monogramchecklist,2019/03/22,"Thumb sucking and hands down pants (comfort) Our 3 year old has always been a thumb sucker and instead of having a comfort item, he finds comfort in touching skin while sucking his thumb.

We give him reminders of “thumb/hand out of the mouth/pants please” and remind him that he can put his hands in his pants in the privacy of his own room as long as he washes his hands after.

Any ideas on how to put an end to the thumb sucking and hand in pants habits? We thought it would slowly run its course but it hasn’t and don’t want it turning into a problem. ",6.238690476190477,5.503583107142859,5.7025000000000015,87.42583333333336,66.14285714285714,7.8238095238095235,30.273809523809533,5.46131890053228,1.238209523809524,436,13,92,1,6,133,69,112,0.052000000000000005,0.87,0.078,-0.0129,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,7,0,7,6,5,1,0,17,14,10,0,3,1,0,6,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,9,0,0,3,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,2,6,10,3,17,11,2,18,0,0,0,0,14,9,3,0,6,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20739258417602388,0.0,0.0,0.16949578246442948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075791785048565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22780626865833994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23909941190401435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813683217263465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22057480871663607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26154168057426297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27359718892700835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23849469791376884,0.0,0.5011220127146533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19787343094861887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27110800395961404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470117099051136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705716065060242,0.0,0.0,0.1605062099663402
parenting,Throwaway36678,2019/03/22,"Is this PPD talking or do I really regret having children? Throwaway because people know my Reddit account.
I'm a FTM with a 7 week old. I feel protective of her and sometimes I really like her. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and he wanted children 100%, whereas I was ""Eh, okay I guess?""  We decided to get pregnant with one and were excited the entire pregnancy. Everyone in our family is excited... but me probably the least so now. I feel tired, terrified she will wake up (she cries a lot... at everything). I was diagnosed with PPD (I've been crying daily, lost my goal oriented  nature and wasn't eating). I just started an antidepressant.

Today I had a family member over to help me get a nap midday in (LO is a velcro baby) and I woke up feeling rested but did not want to go back to take her. I heard her crying and it was just... I don't want to do this anymore. Even the prospect of returning from maternity leave at the 12 week mark terrifies me because I probably won't get ANY sleep at that point. I don't want to break safe sleep guidelines because I'm pretty sure if I did and anything happened to her I would actually commit suicide.

I feel amped up 24/7 and unable to relax. Ever. Even when I went to see a movie with my husband last week while we had a family member babysit I cried because I didn't want to go home.

I can't do any of the things I used to do that made me feel good or fulfilled.  I'm terrified of something happening to my baby. I'm excited for older ages (like... 4 and up?) But it feels so far away and if I feel like this for 4 years I might have to commit myself.

Do I really regret having a baby or is it the PPD talking? I just wish I could hand her over to someone for a week to get away. But then I guess I would dread the end of that week? I feel like I've ruined my life.",1.8047277266344184,3.615380339522545,4.071281791231083,85.62288149477298,78.49602122015916,7.300015603058199,23.82033078483383,8.219915518859313,1.466035169293182,1416,48,294,27,34,490,179,377,0.163,0.691,0.146,-0.8735,0,0,1,0,0,2,53.0,3,0,0,2,11,17,0,1,18,1,34,8,4,2,4,62,72,25,1,13,13,2,9,4,0,5,3,1,1,2,10,17,1,2,10,2,1,3,7,5,0,1,17,11,53,12,42,49,3,40,0,4,1,0,20,15,0,9,25,195,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.07854416406952934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720814434425174,0.0,0.10946848457131632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982194648023093,0.0,0.0,0.06623433304316413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15124126243092922,0.06188989923448285,0.0,0.19625766812892104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426269858446428,0.0,0.3536468427178621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169309176133982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235877952044965,0.0,0.0,0.07128801192821216,0.0,0.0,0.10632243483212284,0.07280552813815587,0.0,0.07690923052717326,0.07233695167980056,0.0,0.2276292815759344,0.0,0.32557508145811764,0.1150005348738396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16820553246085307,0.0,0.09148577250482574,0.06750907440569265,0.0,0.0,0.17733205347964326,0.0,0.1423496147131014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053949057152600496,0.0,0.0807354988700362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423381072661418,0.0656080337492264,0.0,0.08522461338720418,0.0,0.0,0.056850683113556226,0.1572884566744317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786158562721963,0.06842757205119218,0.0,0.07615919391068048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538449047876326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08445806440850019,0.0,0.05454039534740802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05579988008476256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608667868697007,0.0,0.0,0.08188469672634456,0.1735582201276207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468701034131355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413809595059668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16109120198382068,0.0,0.06819677544445901,0.061963189671064435,0.0796041697473121,0.0,0.05696944829377117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804023280188779,0.0,0.07585849162141685,0.0,0.06051656358371541,0.1293855654203468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347230123717764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250851106329668,0.07629271410469796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951533509724339,0.0,0.0,0.2373679873262935,0.0,0.3228109831683597,0.0,0.0,0.07461269467557635,0.0,0.0,0.09255662280800846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435198432143352,0.0,0.0,0.10366258861330724
parenting,Xx_SnowRose_xX,2019/03/22,"My daughters grandmother cussed me out I simply didn’t want my daughters grandmother, her fathers mother, to drive her around without a license. Especially when she hasn’t had one due to multiple DUI’s. 
What do I get? 
I get her father saying he doesn’t see the big deal and to take it up with his mom. 
When I politely say I’m just not comfortable with it...she sends a voice message cussing me out and saying that her not having a license has nothing to do with my daughter riding in her car. She also went on to say I was jealous of her. Which is far from the truth. 
My daughters father had nothing to say on it. 
Now I’m sitting here completely fed up and tired of the entire situation. 
(My ex and I share physical and legal custody with week by week switches. In my home things are calm and stable and she has her own room. In his he lives with roommates and our 6 year old is still in his room. And he, his roommates and his family are really into smoking pot. And he plans on moving in with his mother.) ",2.8701448855404266,4.603622256157639,4.180359316140252,86.3600260793973,75.20689655172414,6.943958272964357,25.73427991886409,7.724431198458867,1.3978208635178206,790,28,159,11,17,260,113,203,0.044,0.897,0.06,0.0511,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,8,5,1,0,6,0,15,2,0,0,1,27,24,14,0,1,4,11,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,6,21,1,0,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,1,6,7,31,4,31,18,1,34,0,0,1,0,41,18,0,0,9,111,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441603030887073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384978051056334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631210448903682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16039455059127505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14666551659479402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625666377915695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605787050769496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737862173765567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822116003899878,0.0,0.16535527098013136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29856343762474485,0.0,0.16325341223207546,0.0,0.1054239841666872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996675389262027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6186111397713305,0.0,0.0,0.12397588189280538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487669635576447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424515119162068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169756324726592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335940916960093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788145418363617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176420074760176,0.0,0.24959129659107776,0.0,0.0,0.1442227818850171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997207403373036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018742100268327
parenting,raeina118,2019/03/22,"Did you guys find a wide range of normal for eating(how much/how often)? My twins are 6 months but only 3 months adjusted, so when it comes to the pediatrician and physical development, they're considered 3 months. For a long time they would take 800mls(27+ ounces)+ of food a day. They were on 8 feeds a day, 3 were neosure 22(due to being preemies), rest pumped BM. They sleep longer stretches now so they dropped a feed, but instead of upping their food they've kind of just stopped eating in general. It's been a month and their intake isn't increasing and they're serious pains in the ass around feedings. I'm dying here...

My ped said 2.5x their body weight in oz, but they eat 10+oz less than that per day and are still in the 85th/60th% for weight. So she just shrugs and says they're getting enough, don't worry about it. 

Pumping parents: do you see pumped breastmilk babies didn't need to do the 2.5x their weight? 
Neosure22+ parents: Anyone on a higher cal formula like neosure see that trend? 
NICU parents: Any of you have this issue, maybe it's a preemie thing?

I see people saying their 3 months old take 6oz per feed and mine can eat 4 in 10 hours and be happy. I can't help jump to the 'they have a aversion to food bc the NG tube they're going to struggle forever I'm starving my kids!' conclusion... They're so fat and healthy looking I feel like a moron complaining to my ped.

Tell me this isn't super abnormal...maybe just a phase? Anything!?",2.8232817137695183,5.058051379790938,3.2336043360433635,90.81177958446251,77.01393728222996,6.063698541747322,24.218479803845657,7.0931098945946705,0.8864901019486391,1154,39,233,13,27,357,166,287,0.132,0.8029999999999999,0.065,-0.9601,3,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,0,3,11,2,15,10,1,1,17,0,19,18,4,0,0,26,33,16,1,3,6,3,4,2,0,1,2,4,0,2,9,10,14,1,4,0,0,4,5,5,0,0,6,12,24,5,26,24,4,32,0,0,4,1,26,11,1,1,18,122,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457868474124168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640094252197734,0.0,0.07814716956009962,0.08453797347839875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548344609363312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180296113821041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183731510541864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09855749914900497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915152253629445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812305812534627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801658355695605,0.06784220422685762,0.0,0.0,0.08679525231757841,0.0,0.3444920480079149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04961470004385348,0.0,0.05397015299914145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940291566808924,0.0,0.10109080028171127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365227704737783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352027814369462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911760281382108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889025210443232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278909538934192,0.0,0.0,0.0840400323055866,0.07974572945249693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908079330775012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3789962557117065,0.0,0.06980936755631947,0.07041450271456275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304442509423562,0.0,0.0,0.09964860181724236,0.0,0.0,0.07222429867053949,0.10104824795356866,0.0,0.3163384020487697,0.0,0.0,0.06583598701862693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033238224933422,0.1510381542510196,0.0,0.0,0.2270217164977031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503244690231806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583826536634151,0.07939404345295058,0.0,0.09927685070439396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280201636481174,0.0,0.08300260382945575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308977232136134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055374193439177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469212129592819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644041469992763,0.0,0.0674596051452443,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sjj138,2019/03/22,"9yr old behavior issues So my 9y/o daughter goes through cycles at school where she’ll be pumped to go to school at the beginning of each semester then about 2-3 months in starts making terrible choices. Last semester she took $14 cash off the teacher’s desk while her classmates were at Fall Fest in the gym even though I had her do chores the night before to take $5. She returned the money after questioning and I allowed the principal to paddle her. She then made other smaller bad choices and was short, disrespectful and not trying her best the next 2 months at school I think due to embarrassment. At home she lost her tablet for 2.5 months and all but 1 stuffed animal. 
She improved and started this semester great. Last week she drew a picture of booty cheeks in Art free draw time, then asked classmates for money during lunch because she was still hungry then dropped a tiny glass necklace I’d give her which shattered in class. Then yesterday I get a note from her teacher saying her behavior is disrupting class and learning. I’m lost. 
I work, we are not poor by any means and she has everything she needs. She sucks at decision making. It’s as if her moral compass is constantly spinning. 
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parenting,SestoElement0,2019/03/22,"How do I explain to my 6 year old son that my girlfriend's son is not a normal little boy? Let me give some context; My gf and I have been dating for almost 5 months. We've been getting serious and now we figure it's time to intriduce our children to each other. Thing is, her son is a 4 year old bed bound type 1 diabetic who suffered multiple strokes and has 2/3 of brain damage. He has nurses that come take care of him everyday and I help as much as I can with him. I love him as if he was my own. My son isn't a bad kid. He's very shy and he's very sensitive. But he hasn't been exposed to another child like this. And I'm nervous as to how he will react when he sees him. My gf's son has very limited movement, he can hear you, understand you, and see you. He just can't talk or walk. How do I explain this to my son? As I said, he is not a bad kid. I just don't want him to react negatively. ",1.4626166666666691,2.2362366950000023,3.8290000000000006,91.35866666666668,77.05,7.133333333333335,23.833333333333336,7.554174236665415,0.8074333333333334,689,21,170,9,15,241,111,200,0.08,0.818,0.102,0.7487,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,3,0,1,7,9,0,1,4,0,22,4,1,5,0,33,37,19,0,3,7,6,1,1,3,1,2,2,1,5,8,11,0,2,4,0,0,3,7,6,0,0,5,5,27,3,16,30,4,14,0,2,2,1,44,1,0,4,11,101,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16894201459468608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691062138237784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817371420805327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833985661744135,0.0,0.0,0.1720144690093827,0.0,0.0,0.14533158215534553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814574381180967,0.1618451852730596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190152167951662,0.0,0.11308497886104985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252079547880667,0.0,0.08242480377276568,0.16909506441841038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227035398441818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466535858151504,0.0,0.12402369908202455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530322767696845,0.0,0.0,0.3540724873565302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16048499772491726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688853376712477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268514164065972,0.13560537201881034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11208562992961306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837809085535264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756365111279915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176184624073852,0.0995114845219865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172916870235329
parenting,taradactyl819,2019/03/22,"If your toddler has to pee in a cup... If you suspect a possible UTI in your toddler and they ask you to have them pee in a cup for testing-Please remember to ask for 1. Gloves 2. An extra sterile cup

Don’t be like me lol I was overly confident in my pee catching skills and underestimated the power of the stream she would have after chugging water all morning. 

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parenting,MamaBear167,2019/03/22,I a mom to be but have a hard job I just found out I'm about 6 weeks pregnant and I just started a housekeeping job for a small Clinic and I'm just starting to realized I might not be able to keep up with the workload there understaffed and has a lot of heavy lifting and bending down and when I'm at work I'm also in a lot of discomfort I'm debating if I should quit and look for less than physically demanding job but at the same time I'm scared of not being able to find another job. But I don't wanna lose my baby that's about it I just wanted to get a little advice,3.3411904761904765,3.4134373650793686,5.255674603174604,85.43446428571428,72.17460317460319,8.839682539682537,26.86111111111111,8.841846274778883,1.7290349206349211,452,14,104,8,8,157,76,126,0.099,0.875,0.026,-0.8029999999999999,4,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,3,9,3,0,2,9,0,8,1,0,0,0,29,21,12,0,4,10,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,2,8,0,21,15,4,14,0,1,1,0,1,9,0,4,5,71,10,5,0.31349116297799823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531699681258629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253493848861338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436140909023295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432626217953079,0.0,0.0,0.17186343963353445,0.0,0.0,0.081893096892705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041325304428814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6221832135513462,0.13932267485185398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571002511937482,0.0,0.0,0.1316268110672941,0.17535821171922342,0.0,0.2665189762138179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662822916609825,0.0,0.18357853060655407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667182201085472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1569296715582656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218906586859879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09139960908081114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09245260510019226,0.0,0.12573185072275012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411265015485687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,XheavenscentX,2019/03/22,"Chronically sick 2 yr old I'm needing some advice and to see if maybe I'm overreacting. My son is just about 2.5. He's been in daycare since June of last year, so almost a year. For the past 5-6 months he has had a chronic cough, much worse at night. He's been given antibiotics a few times and the cough will go away, but usually comes back a week after stopping antibiotics. Sometimes he has a fever, sometimes not. We keep being told this is daycare, kids are always sick, etc. However, if it's really just ""daycare,"" wouldn't this have been going on when he first went? The past 7 weeks he has had a near constant cough, it was so bad one night he puked 3 times and went to the ER because he was struggling to breathe. They did a chest x-ray which was fine, and said it was viral bronchitis. His ped did blood work and said he had ""elevated inflammatory markers"" that were consistent with him having a fever, but everything else (I'm guessing CBC?) looked ""normal for a viral infection."" He's up all night coughing and I feel awful. We've tried every remedy and nothing seems to work. It may be unrelated but he is constantly rubbing his face on the floor - it makes me think maybe he's having sinus pressure pain?

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I'm at my wits end. Is this normal for a daycare kid? Should we be asking for some other kind of testing or treatment? I just feel like he's been sick way more than healthy for months now and it seems odd to me that it didn't start when he started daycare.

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parenting,corrigan88,2019/03/22,"Pour Levi I have a friend 34 F who has a 3 year old son. I’m a 38 m.  We started off friends so she never really hid him from me like she does with other males she dates. Hard times hit me n she let me stay with her for a month. During this time I would watch her kid while she went to work so she can save the child day care money. I would take him to the park , walks in the neighborhood, wrestling n play fighting , toss his little butt around , u know all fun stuff.. well I become attached! Things didn’t end up going well with me and her. She was still sleeping with other men and I was focusing on just her. She started accusing me of sleeping with her sister, the neighbor, and one of my sisters friends. I did none of them. The assumptions and accusations became to much for me, so I left.. we’re still friends n communicate. She wants to see me tonight, and that’s fine, but I wanted to spend some time with Levi b4 he goes to his dads house for the weekend.. she said NO! it’s better I’m left out the equation.. this breaks my heart..I miss the little guy and he’s been asking for me..  is she right or wrong in   her method? What am I supposed to do? ",0.4071953281081875,2.5740133402489684,1.6985799907791623,98.78265406485326,85.72199170124482,4.7321960965114505,18.05455663132012,6.0378880255834675,-0.4723777163055174,889,22,209,7,27,282,149,241,0.067,0.812,0.121,0.8331,0,0,1,0,3,0,35.0,1,0,1,2,9,16,1,0,12,0,14,3,3,0,2,27,30,12,0,4,3,4,1,1,5,2,0,1,1,5,10,15,0,0,1,2,2,3,4,3,2,1,7,4,42,13,28,19,4,34,0,1,2,1,43,12,1,2,18,130,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11294589095482123,0.11861125216005294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012376953630518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221086743108133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935779531713792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818240541332133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102940528382947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237383217247698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920940808277578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210614076304572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562646630945748,0.0,0.0,0.11365532262242242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034780787462398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14639702897047796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972733126499908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27570070792228035,0.1297385614013667,0.0,0.06198484904726876,0.254324707196368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127063143011772,0.0,0.09326792317367054,0.0,0.09785403116664304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313425495734788,0.0,0.08597396767863381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127954789397893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835078881835873,0.12068743755526065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110316496794096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539337990575725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960594070064992,0.13523215836668268,0.20264551178195206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524183148220093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539441451473814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429029289179438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219459737400932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966864497657487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281522127765439,0.1176146479979381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236670889292144,0.0,0.0,0.1802571056079774,0.13871819241734956,0.0,0.08170351522165431
parenting,veemun,2019/03/22,"I didn't have a good father figure to learn how to be a good dad. My father is a old drunken sailor and for years he would drink to treat his PTSD. This lead to my parent's divorce and his pretty much disappearing from my life in probably the most important times in a boy's life (when he starts to be interested in girls). Every good experience I've had with my father is book ended with bad ones where he would yell, throw things, and call my brother and I stupid. He parented through fear and intimidation.

I wasn't sure I wanted to have children because I didn't know how I could be a good dad. 

But here I am, a dad to an almost 3 year old toddler and it's the greatest thing I've ever done. The best leap I've ever made, and the best thing I think I'll ever do with my life. All because my father taught me what NOT to do.

I still remember the fear I had of him and what caused that fear: unchecked rage, refusal of mental health treatment, and booze. I'm not saying I haven't lost my cool with my son, I have, but I remember that yelling, name calling, and throwing things across the room is not acceptable. I've had to walk away and cool down, but I just remember the kind of father I want to be and the kind I don't want to be. I don't want to be my father.

I heard somewhere, can't remember where, that anyone can be a father, but you have to earn the title dad.

I try to earn my dad title every day and when he calls me ""dada"" or ""daddy"" I know it's because I've earned it.

I just wanted to put this out there because maybe some of you didn't have a good dad or mother to learn how to be a good parent and you don't need one. You can learn from other people's mistakes. You can be better. Good luck to you all.",3.7193086243763362,3.8029487213114814,4.866360180565454,88.51604775481114,71.34972677595628,7.6766928011404145,24.382988833452124,7.255503002510835,0.7757701591827035,1336,31,307,12,23,442,158,366,0.114,0.797,0.08800000000000001,-0.6413,3,0,1,0,2,0,40.0,0,6,0,8,15,27,2,3,19,2,39,6,0,6,6,70,54,25,0,10,11,19,0,0,0,2,4,4,1,3,15,19,2,1,12,2,0,6,12,8,0,2,12,6,43,19,37,30,8,30,0,1,0,0,44,10,0,6,14,201,58,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722935096847758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05392745648922676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246129254286644,0.0,0.06439599018276915,0.18805825970363355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618754480261875,0.06821062202588023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362591451387937,0.0,0.0,0.07922841914115904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0615778806243373,0.0,0.0,0.04973911847293873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892545207851065,0.0,0.07555294660873586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830968485850394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20929140322004888,0.1299619481733328,0.0,0.0,0.0754428578092758,0.0,0.2603605408224829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4528203874825701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198006057657847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606272310308053,0.08477155103914273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342659063301046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419083465825515,0.0,0.0,0.07297735473890284,0.0,0.0,0.07748223231492933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772366290451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669560534005731,0.0571870652301856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185901689371365,0.0,0.1045235269568582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25691390459872265,0.0,0.0,0.05346862846407945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784636529595397,0.08315358361697235,0.0,0.09015476914015397,0.07753173045276995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34946947528843275,0.0,0.0,0.061332740035196925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05458933352537863,0.0,0.061591968433402686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268921542823564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20495317220229853,0.049418460507153976,0.0,0.0,0.044972093676665464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05236267959386269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274510393989481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957449647786256,0.0,0.0,0.09933169081671914
parenting,onetonsoup12,2019/03/22,"30 year old son  

I'm at a lost with what to do with my step-son, who is a 30 year old man. I use the word step-son loosely as I consider him my son period. Anyways, he lives on his own and pays rent (shared accommodation) on a place about 1.5 hours away from where we live. He does not have much of a social life and we try to encourage him to make more friends but

he does not make any effort whatsoever. His regular schedule goes as follows:

Monday to Friday works

Friday night to Sunday - commutes to come to our place and leaves on Sunday night.

We have do not mind having the adult kids come over once in a while but not every weekend. My wife and I like our quite time and the lack of it, is causing some issues.

My question is:

Is his behavior somewhat normal for a 30 year old man? Secondly, how do we go about telling him that coming every weekend does not work for us? My wife is torn as it is harder for the Mama bear but I just see him lounging around the house and not making forward strides in his life.",4.4589423076923085,4.682117394230769,5.116346153846155,86.87865384615385,69.76923076923077,7.938461538461539,26.57692307692308,7.61054688173877,1.2122192307692303,790,22,172,8,13,255,119,208,0.035,0.926,0.039,0.2159,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,7,0,0,5,7,5,0,0,11,0,12,2,0,6,0,39,24,14,0,2,10,4,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,4,5,16,0,0,1,2,2,6,6,1,0,1,1,1,24,4,29,23,6,36,0,1,1,0,33,13,0,3,20,108,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086891248368787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586301046801884,0.0,0.0,0.11172819705457092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216244170484385,0.0,0.30731424145749475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31220012506311245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20038856119653287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187642735874432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758433679946912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11711113688604947,0.13721641468646112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241204087643008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12591791744364467,0.0,0.0,0.16799183565395615,0.058097755200092825,0.0,0.21001508955326967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12981399909919725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23813781621632346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12007416316832123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741905565395157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231946156494833,0.1165152480294401,0.0,0.0,0.37435606307729935,0.1266447201277037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484898262800265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321635517400812,0.12648486092191608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476294640618883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122281662841553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394033777395592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693425519740851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073810966741307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304476379021416,0.10270772583118833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314871373831767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22973956858626346
parenting,damntran,2019/03/22,"What should I sign my 2yo daughter in? My daughter is not your typical baby girl. She loves running. I’m not sure if it’s because I walk fast, but she never really learned to just walk. She went straight to running. Instead of sitting down or just hanging out she prefers to run laps around our living room for fun. I kid you not my boyfriend has counted the amount of times she’s ran around the couches and it was a total of 10 times before she stopped to rest. Her calf muscles are hard as rock. Just the other day I tried putting her down for bed and she got off the bed to run circles around our room. 

I feel like she has a lot of excess energy that’s not going to much. If I had her join a sport or dance, maybe she’d wear herself out and actually sleep at a decent time.

More about her: she’s a tomboy, hates hair bands but loves hats, likes cars, teddy bears, running, and dancing (I have to be honest she isn’t very coordinated nor does she have rhythm lmao)

What would you recommend for a daughter like mine? ",2.21372253449157,4.219016033980584,2.8442462953500254,93.98171946857435,77.98058252427184,5.501890648952478,23.463464486458868,6.339386263674448,0.3922174757281556,797,26,173,6,19,248,128,206,0.042,0.785,0.173,0.9843,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,3,0,0,8,9,1,0,10,0,13,5,3,0,3,33,22,12,0,5,13,3,3,3,0,2,0,0,5,2,6,9,0,1,3,5,0,15,7,1,0,0,5,3,33,8,26,13,6,37,0,0,0,2,30,13,0,5,11,112,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.17118459014082452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684829045794072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069343880561992,0.0,0.14926947771520854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313137119827825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351120151831218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869760971377952,0.1253200645876566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969521386777903,0.0,0.14029937825221073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571418408494397,0.1731909071696848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571040157024944,0.0,0.15489905102271012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913578894984175,0.3166467510577985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623294208683232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128953865085622,0.0,0.1352946983675281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634552534881184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123785273295265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17554666036347294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665895318094735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533124963196555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068663928613842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190986475824406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473985014463567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16261607350018306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461331659552725,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,seffend,2019/03/22,"Recommendations for books? I'm pregnant with #2 and I'm hoping to get some recommendations on books to read to my (just about) 3 year old about becoming a big brother. I'm not due until October, but I'm hoping to get started with getting him excited about, or at least accustomed to, the idea.

Thanks in advance!",5.4594999999999985,6.4320972833333325,6.780000000000001,73.17000000000002,67.83333333333334,10.0,33.33333333333333,10.125756701596842,3.438833333333333,247,11,46,6,4,84,43,60,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.916,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,11,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,15,11,2,10,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,4,5,26,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30915786660422695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43875160416825376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5560622229032334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160040088233456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937367612273144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800031940672433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19813408403230134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257719578903412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026409468986
parenting,1st0fHerName,2019/03/22,"Parents of Children with Anxiety & Depression, how do you motivate your kids to go to school? I'm the older sister of an 11 year old boy with diagnosed depression and anxiety. He takes Zoloft to help and has been in therapy for probably a year or more. How therapist is great and a few months ago, he made the mature decision to go from bi-weekly therapy to weekly therapy. 

Lately, we cannot get him to go to school. We tried a reward chart and several other things, but the big problem is that he won't let us help him and is resistent to most ideas (example: fidget toys, rewards, etc.). He's so challenging that my sister just text me to tell me that our father is in his own room crying. My brother has been much more challenging than my sister and I ever were. 


Some back story: Our mother lost her battle with her own mental illness and addiction a few years ago. My brother missed a week due to illness, and the Sunday before he was due to go back to school on Monday, a family friend that my brother was close to had a heart attack in our basement and passed away. He was devastated. He then missed a second week of school because he was so distraught. He hasn't hit himself in years, but has started hitting himself again. He returned to school this week for a day, but was interrogated by a teacher about where he had been (clearly the teacher didn't read my message via Class Dojo about what happened) and other kids made fun of him for missing so much, and he hasn't been back since because he's anxious. He was also informed by friends that this teacher has twice made negative remarks about his absensces in front of the class, which furthers his anxiety. He trusted this teacher a lot and felt safe, and now this teacher has made the problem worse. I called the school counselor to report the first time remarks were made about my brother, and she said she would talk to the teacher, but I'm guessing that she never because the teacher made second remarks to the class. Or maybe the teacher didn't listen (I had this teacher 15 years ago and he talked used to talk about other kids in a similar manner then). 

I'm not sure what to do. We've tried many options, but I wanted to see what others have done to motivate their depressed and anxious kids to go to school. My brother is begging for Cyber School to finish the year until he attends the magnet school he was accepted into for middle school, but my father is extremely computer illiterate and with my work schedule, I'm not sure that I could help consistently. 

Long story short: Older sister asking for advice on how to motivate depressed and anxious younger brother back into the classroom after a 3 week absence and unsupportive school staff. ",9.063662790697672,7.470558389534888,8.574069767441863,71.88459302325585,61.03488372093025,11.08062015503876,38.74806201550388,9.725611199111238,3.748734108527133,2163,89,380,32,24,690,231,516,0.157,0.745,0.098,-0.9883,1,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,6,2,1,10,21,26,2,1,30,0,40,6,1,13,5,73,73,37,0,5,11,14,1,0,2,2,5,2,1,6,21,28,0,1,8,2,0,8,10,13,0,4,28,4,39,13,62,39,12,69,0,8,1,0,75,18,0,7,43,257,60,25,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059489093961937065,0.0,0.053324938589123405,0.14511840092813974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043639417916081925,0.0,0.05912631291917848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523715271392594,0.18494489077764906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051015359878058435,0.06208098074240932,0.05127008650409462,0.1678431103512253,0.0,0.09979565887309012,0.0,0.04643484710270026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05572182693945925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04356951353691235,0.0,0.0599423197301241,0.03519298120767555,0.0,0.18800341971537854,0.05538715842581186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558438114120886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060859708045012326,0.0,0.04936147273068768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051443513803397116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05239552795300412,0.0,0.0,0.04641701057423575,0.0,0.0,0.08432092350097176,0.0,0.028510447681808094,0.0,0.15506626283149566,0.0,0.0,0.060163353819657685,0.06011474365999962,0.0,0.04825585916739037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466542917236248,0.1097308809475736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160261757592112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061557066960793924,0.0,0.0,0.05580127752990199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04829252100905767,0.0,0.0,0.0595693400476833,0.04639325911382152,0.0,0.30981136209433163,0.0,0.055325172286929666,0.05482265929726179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054993483840658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043557062364658575,0.0,0.0802301059829193,0.0,0.04208756357068722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05726178423259006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060593261361293775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883543165677831,0.10443178236500834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0545845280519951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05190833877492703,0.0,0.0,0.6075026228549559,0.04348503410696912,0.0,0.0,0.061648296925883014,0.0,0.04514066995918408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03862475749230293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286270730585524,0.0,0.04102966875570225,0.13158331975399692,0.04769637611115033,0.0,0.18721583148591425,0.06335969813635313,0.03625372422760805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03182006630241755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409857092392769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564070312438662,0.047130752368910865,0.0,0.0,0.03218665871446238,0.0,0.2626354226167158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03972743571213423,0.0,0.05561124817813247,0.038764792318182896,0.0,0.0,0.21084682050455086
parenting,Spongemage,2019/03/22,"I’m not sure how to deal with my mother in regard to what she feeds my toddler when she’s babysitting. So here’s the deal, I’m 30 years old and I was raised in a southern down home fried food and collard greens kinda house. I was also absurdly overweight for most of childhood and it caused immense mental and physical turmoil for me. I have since lost weight but my wife and I have noticed that when grandma babysits the toddler he always comes home on these crazy sugar highs and starts demanding pop tarts and cookies and shit. A lot of times my mom will even pack cookies into his travel bag without us knowing.

My mom is a sweetheart, don’t get me wrong. She is NOT a bad person or a bad grandma. She has nothing but love in her heart for everyone, but she is very naive when it comes to health and the like. My wife is a huge health nut and basically gave me the ultimatum that I could talk to my mom about this or she would, but someone is going to talk to her and she’d rather it be her own son. 

I get it, but here’s the thing. I have severe, terrible anxiety and my mom has a tendency to take things VERY personally. She’s a wonderful lady but she’s entirely too sensitive for a grown ass woman and sometimes calling her on shit leads to a very long period of pouting and depression from her. She immediately shuts down and sees herself as a failure and I get a lot of that from her.

As much as I’m ashamed to say it, I’m terrified to discuss this with my mom because I don’t know how to do it without her thinking I’m accusing her of child abuse or something. She always takes things to a crazy extreme. 

Has anyone dealt with anything like this? I don’t want my baby to end up with the kind of food and sugar dependencies that I had which lead to my lifelong weight struggles.

TL;DR-grandma is a sweetheart but VERY sensitive to criticism. I need to explain to her that the high sugar, high fat diet she feeds my toddler while babysitting doesn’t work for me without her shutting down and becoming depressed and angry. ",4.777705710636745,5.562701913793101,5.358680897646419,83.42610198868822,69.27093596059113,8.182302499543878,30.8005838350666,8.285830014693849,2.146852691114761,1611,64,321,22,27,519,197,406,0.207,0.713,0.08,-0.9957,0,0,1,0,1,0,29.0,1,0,0,4,13,19,2,3,21,0,25,19,5,6,1,62,50,40,0,5,16,9,2,2,2,2,4,1,2,4,20,26,12,0,5,1,0,7,9,12,0,0,5,9,53,7,51,40,5,35,0,3,2,2,51,16,3,9,14,218,73,3,0.0,0.09360139565080493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317580832854254,0.13146769335205455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043434073511246,0.0,0.0,0.05523823190077404,0.0,0.06500979218963872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192243323793276,0.04815731371662477,0.08724865368233839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066724137368046,0.0,0.0,0.08115416662614824,0.0,0.1361020119865586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307460932382082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16288986812939069,0.1360841708737859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997003862098776,0.0,0.0,0.052178372423771865,0.0,0.0,0.07548733208769852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105282659238906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382181047216152,0.0,0.04489719142315052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679453804120431,0.0,0.09361469409908443,0.0,0.2504016765570197,0.1584857207046206,0.0,0.0,0.09115472501943436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226574007835293,0.08683203139432193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719025324502098,0.0,0.0,0.06991200150371442,0.0,0.0,0.08623719996327801,0.13432496515637968,0.07130006167906612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961283537551228,0.0,0.0,0.4626158346676533,0.0,0.0,0.058073664129783126,0.05857706957754904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580207495153785,0.0899413642658545,0.08289660307076033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379584943090539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628235102809069,0.0,0.0,0.06295231034439673,0.0,0.0,0.08924685929267179,0.1621835405430495,0.06534913730167954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693595294087894,0.060817613748717435,0.07813244725101963,0.0,0.05591619670002354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258734730719805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744560192508307,0.0,0.11879546579096815,0.12699348410187947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745111477450527,0.050619639037097035,0.0,0.0,0.0460651976061814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502657636523616,0.0,0.0,0.26073118282770763,0.04659590523391783,0.0,0.0,0.19240002410507925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22845786785515398,0.08567150204452822,0.05751251927238416,0.0,0.0,0.05611892198238466,0.08637346518518764,0.0,0.050873036942935115
parenting,showmethememez,2019/03/22,Is it worth having kids if you’re unsure about it? I’m wondering if anyone here has had kids when they didn’t feel ready or perhaps they were never keen on the idea. How has parenting been for you? I have a gf and feel like one day I might be dragged into it if I’m not careful. I have a nephew and I love the fun side of having him around. But I’m not a big fan of responsibility. I don’t know how I’d feel about giving someone 24/7 care. I’m not deadset against it because I think me and my gf together would manage but I’m scared of the commitment of it. There’ll be no going back once I have kids. But then again I would like to have that addition to my family that will be around forever. I’m just not entirely sure. I guess I don’t know if I’ll be a fit enough father even though everyone says I’d be fine. What do you guys think? Does it need to be a solid yes or no? Or can you kind of go into it feeling blindfolded?,0.9607115489874118,2.4882668472906424,3.1078407224958973,92.86785851122059,80.0344827586207,6.678598795840178,20.14477285166941,7.594959193182576,0.4063587301587308,722,18,174,11,18,246,114,203,0.094,0.741,0.166,0.9285,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,3,2,0,13,11,0,1,8,1,27,1,0,2,3,43,50,18,0,7,15,3,4,2,2,4,0,1,0,4,10,8,0,0,10,0,1,2,10,1,0,1,4,5,19,10,17,36,1,16,0,0,0,1,18,8,0,10,8,113,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821521396076368,0.0,0.0,0.27554713955291804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900465219297272,0.0,0.09434324431276994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31558625264877505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981055473743916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543580370028024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159913509149427,0.0,0.1022207543881172,0.0,0.0,0.14788449072503798,0.0,0.0,0.1458985705149731,0.0,0.3130151269501078,0.11056407284504012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846459086760194,0.17591291425913705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17049098163059015,0.15324157944603126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17471072988241207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16116382363959744,0.17010947911699226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512206217172282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396813613418294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418109768771413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147562095925844,0.11936422898499265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481956358690014,0.10487269908446076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718481021580048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307525735122796,0.15494666015752373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113179440964912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586408320181007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983341928415099,0.15205572483709676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678359282162091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21988108382904487,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,openmicpod,2019/03/22,"Screaming in his sleep. My son screams in his sleep. He yells at the dog, cries because he wants something, argues with his friends over his toys and does it all while dreaming, screaming and yelling.

He is three and has always made noises in his sleep but over the last two weeks he is having full on conversations and yelling, so loud he wakes up the whole house 3-5 times a night.

It is extremely stressful. Once he was screaming, ""LET GO LET GO LET GO!"", with a blood curdling scream. I went running into his room thinking someone was taking him but he was just sleeping. He has no clue he is doing it. When I wake him up because I think he is in destress, he is just a regular little guy looking at me like I'm nuts.

Has anyone else had this behavior?",3.3970581655480987,5.059497201342285,3.6659228187919446,90.8951705816555,73.63087248322148,6.040492170022372,27.852908277404925,6.42735559955562,1.067106935123042,589,23,121,4,12,182,93,149,0.166,0.8009999999999999,0.033,-0.9609,0,0,1,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,4,9,1,1,6,0,18,7,7,1,1,16,29,9,0,1,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,9,1,1,4,7,0,0,2,2,0,5,1,7,0,2,6,10,13,2,14,20,3,26,0,0,1,0,24,15,0,0,7,72,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149671369759358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661052402035697,0.14156980420549212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845228941915674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517714463583335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091205559457124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542192839505908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674852571297362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23557277493373574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680839089183985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942772692070356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262564764691473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4238595021423506,0.0,0.06750207744394729,0.1384809864422417,0.0,0.0,0.11602661676438385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307382350649777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296616382057684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471447851381636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5530725405670821,0.0,0.1170695959464563,0.10636874736479256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827137994786955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388540514768904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706540143717872,0.0,0.0,0.08056707694462098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497040287689432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149527359851312,0.0,0.1108303174755713,0.0,0.0,0.12808344619255374,0.0,0.1542600302969927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nimohjoe,2019/03/22,"Did Your Baby Hit All These Milestones By the age of 3 months? I am wondering if all babies are meant to hit the milestones the same time. Is there a way you can tell if you are on the right track, going by this video? 
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parenting,TonksTBF,2019/03/22,"I don't even know where to start. I'm not afraid to admit that parenting has been one looong learning curve for me, three years later it still feels like I have no idea what I'm doing half the time... This is Just the latest. 

Any advice on potty training? Where do I start? How can I get my son to sit on the toilet and actually, ya know, go? What worked for you? Help!!",-0.2692207792207775,1.9670535714285755,1.3584545454545456,99.03768181818184,91.20779220779221,4.118961038961039,12.894805194805196,5.6839178017228535,-1.2140535064935063,283,4,66,2,10,91,60,77,0.05,0.862,0.08800000000000001,0.6062,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,1,6,2,0,1,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,10,18,2,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,1,1,8,1,7,17,0,13,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,8,43,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.27110381372858,0.0,0.0,0.271474046864749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18892125215121605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18349178394960566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404697715035751,0.1984684919272023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514496996879486,0.0,0.15788659871666608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621109937822988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313615211442698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30535571740550155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357245982724241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882521681414518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.308476639818185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3932726226427852,0.0,0.22186051189171307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619940387963966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20224997964708435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789014081884344
parenting,MessyMothers,2019/03/22,"5 Ways In Which Permissive Parenting Hurts Children Though hard to admit but the fact is that [permissive parenting](http://messymothers.com/parenting/what-is-permissive-parenting/) is not the best way of grooming the children and if a parent is doing so, they will end up harming children rather than leading to some benefit for the child.

* **Children dictate the rules**

If no limits are set, it is almost sure that the children will end up dictating the rules. It might seem as fun in the initial stages but it will turn into a serious problem in the later stages. The danger is that the child might fall in wrong hands and the parents will be mere spectators, in case they end up adopting [permissive parenting](http://messymothers.com/parenting/what-is-permissive-parenting/), the child will definitely become a brat.

* **Being overprotective affects their behaviour** 

[Permissive parents](http://messymothers.com/parenting/what-is-permissive-parenting/) are often overprotective and the child behaves in the most irrational manner that one can even think of. Such children feel that the world is at their command and they can create any sort of problem and escape easily.

Since such children are overprotective, parents also do not take the initiative of scolding the child for any wrongdoing, with the end result being often disastrous for the parents and the children.

* [**Permissive Parents**](http://messymothers.com/parenting/what-is-permissive-parenting/) **end up giving maximum rights in kids hands** 

Even though if the parents do not wish to fulfil every desire of the child, they often end up giving the child everything they demand. The end result is that the child will never understand the value of hard work and will take life for granted. This situation will turn into a complication in the long run since the child will make unrealistic demands and will turn into a problem child.

​

Complete article: [http://messymothers.com/parenting/5-ways-in-which-permissive-parenting-hurts-children/](http://messymothers.com/parenting/5-ways-in-which-permissive-parenting-hurts-children/) ",9.987546337157989,14.415630996763758,7.308420123565757,59.342559576346034,64.27508090614886,9.441247425713446,32.66460723742277,9.725611199111238,4.28807572815534,1754,72,206,44,33,504,141,309,0.157,0.738,0.105,-0.9588,22,0,0,0,0,0,129.0,0,0,7,4,12,12,1,0,34,0,30,3,2,5,3,49,44,18,0,9,9,6,5,0,0,12,1,0,0,19,11,12,0,1,5,0,0,3,5,8,0,1,0,5,7,4,33,29,3,37,0,1,0,0,35,19,0,13,10,149,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142909505440532,0.0,0.0,0.06503066555732766,0.0,0.08810895435129157,0.09881131963580103,0.11059923109847627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981029555548778,0.0,0.0,0.08533913000045193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526128095626144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041706328239092,0.0,0.0,0.1074206844737107,0.0,0.06851464953772245,0.0,0.0730841508140316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0411172606151236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601692695941538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569145762995475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705352498050256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743791799443599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07196463501642902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05428097266735688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725329263790836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271812048344255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05510376628353197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.541769845169533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334335093192815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944586489250701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402963897533403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345356080044144,0.09140580941418466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664206623919305,0.0,0.12228332980567708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05210584405560936,0.15979074051957798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653547157334299,0.0,0.08465580450178434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909425712471428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351267952347003,0.0,0.0,0.059201100945344386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890941130938758,0.09881131963580103,0.0
parenting,TootieBSana,2019/03/22,"How Can We Help? The title is my dilemma folks.
My LO will be four soon and we are going through a phase of the 'I, Me, Gimme's.'

I know that this is perfectly normal for kids this age but I feel like I could be doing more to shape this into a learning experience. 

On a personal level I hold the idea of ""love thy neighbor"" very highly. 
As a family we are not rich by any physical means but I try to make a point to show my son that giving back to our community is important on any level.

On holidays like Christmas and birthdays we gather up old toys and donate them, and donate what bit of food we can afford to food banks and shelters.

Anyone have any further ideas on activities or other ways we can help to keep the giving back attitude and values going?


This post is in no way a bid for bragging rights or pats on the back. I know there are plenty of people doing more than we are. 

I just want my son to know that even a ripple in an ocean can make a difference. 

I need ideas!


---I'm aware that posting links to specifics organizations may be against sub rules and I get it, but if you have any you know that truly do some good to our world I'm open to a DM. We are coming up on a birthday and I would love to incorporate a donation drive into the fun.---",3.6588073788073814,4.481830532818535,4.9652960102960115,85.09205383955386,71.85714285714286,7.917717717717719,24.81359931359931,8.167268648758528,1.2775017589017588,984,27,210,14,18,328,148,259,0.029,0.7859999999999999,0.185,0.9924,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,10,2,1,1,8,8,0,0,18,0,25,4,0,3,1,52,46,16,0,6,8,2,1,2,1,3,0,0,1,2,12,20,2,2,11,3,5,4,2,0,0,1,0,1,29,8,34,39,4,35,0,0,0,2,25,21,0,5,8,146,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31931920802388725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208241025314887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707989475549695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816040183181088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112182088148212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372703978605083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264845058003075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753554783077002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11483077468354272,0.11066564378554117,0.0,0.059356339846714914,0.08386404512230727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28389895825323186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133187284560899,0.2252239959545593,0.13343184815289344,0.09846187356146133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736922157153665,0.12402987590280183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975599349006921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434237930602933,0.0,0.0,0.25805975965436945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470247718615853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118996467638174,0.0,0.15671860491935613,0.0,0.0,0.12787304755771928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704382618778661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501810640452335,0.0,0.0,0.12318194749733186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138403297656978,0.1025011603206636,0.0,0.0,0.1109722952438562,0.0,0.224855964724932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025114260633736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970067991684827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685974359704644,0.06924016352293302,0.18635878177485696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339109016735209,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DTK101,2019/03/22,Newborn rolling onto her side in bassinet Our 4 day old daughter occasionally rolls onto her side from her back while swaddled tightly. The bassinet is empty except for her. I know the space is safe but it’s worrisome to wake up to feed her and she’s on her side. I’ve read this typically goes away soon (until they gain the strength to roll over in a few months). I know not to use blankets or anything to hold her in place but any tips we can use? Or do we just deal with it? ,1.49295918367347,3.679515642857144,2.440163265306122,95.02269387755103,81.34693877551021,5.144489795918368,23.065306122448977,6.2581,0.2735600000000007,375,13,84,3,10,118,70,98,0.048,0.8420000000000001,0.11,0.8053,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,4,2,1,2,0,18,8,7,0,0,7,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,14,2,19,8,1,21,0,0,0,0,15,14,0,2,7,55,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953780355234856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23642848304437966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26993358736592565,0.22092069655540192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852886998099912,0.2962000271650529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31579189489385084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293250294842908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30147947645148193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30017377886685903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873839011481737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4962805382112694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,forgedinpain_,2019/03/22,"Today I Lost It and I Hate Myself for It TL:DR- Today I lost my patience with my 15 month old daughter and I sounded exactly like my mother who was verbally/mentally abusive during my childhood, and I’m very upset with myself over it. 

I am a first time mom of the most beautiful 15 month old girl. She is a sweetheart by nature, but she’s also loud, and stubborn. She gets it from me. 

This week she’s been cutting molars. Low grade fever, constant snot from her nose, and nonstop whining from the hours of 6 pm to 8 pm (bed time is 8). 

Normally I’m a very patient mom, I’m blessed that it’s just a part of my nature. However, tonight I couldn’t do it. She was standing at the baby gate screaming nonstop (as she had been the last 20 minutes with nothing soothing her for more than 15 seconds) while I rushed to prep her dinner plate, I had a pounding headache, I was gagging from moving around so much (8 weeks pregnant with our second) and I snapped. I turned and I yelled back “please just stop  screaming” very loudly. 

Her eyes got wide and the screams turned to real tears. And immediately so did mine. I ran to her and picked her up and told her how sorry I was and that I loved her. After a few moments she was fine and back to playing with toys. Me, however, I’m stuck here in bed at 1 am blaming myself for losing my temper like that. I put her to bed tonight with extra hugs and kisses and said “I promise I’ll be a better mommy tomorrow, I’m sorry you had to see me like that today”. 

I know it could have been worse. I know that it wasn’t that big of a deal on the scale of “losing it”. But I heard my mother come out of me, and I hated it. While I have a better relationship with my mom now, my earliest memories are partially of her screaming at me just like I did to my daughter tonight. As a teen she would scream that way as well, and throw things or threaten me. I promised myself that I would never do to my children what my mother did to me. 

So I’m here, writing this, knowing that you all will understand that sometimes it happens. I know I could have been worse, but I also could have been a lot better.  Tomorrow I’ll do my best to be a better mommy, but tonight I’m criticizing myself. Am I being too harsh? Probably. But I think the fact that I immediately heard my mother in my words is what’s making it so difficult. 

Anywho, thanks for reading. I appreciate it. ",2.603086419753083,4.182473166666668,4.032039094650205,87.79534259259262,75.56378600823045,6.506090534979425,25.52448559670782,7.1686216300943375,1.0902865843621394,1853,65,386,20,40,613,220,486,0.171,0.67,0.158,-0.0237,2,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,1,2,0,10,18,38,5,1,19,0,41,7,2,3,4,63,74,35,0,7,9,9,0,4,1,3,1,12,4,2,30,27,1,2,6,3,0,6,3,18,1,3,26,15,81,20,49,38,9,52,1,6,2,3,42,13,0,3,35,275,111,2,0.0,0.10325828748156088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938736132963925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758181785616923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340256663952614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145836081320637,0.3083077393936587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507185433941796,0.0,0.09417799636187306,0.0,0.2087461227600902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984763909870998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412959353851042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045532184690638036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.069701673438877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706629922254847,0.0,0.0,0.17208481184319166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582501905674765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19158105064527872,0.07103873614988561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703080024593698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949967161085817,0.19026864981016844,0.07409166162336399,0.07865611634442249,0.0,0.05817318249525896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062064524839636,0.13912431192265995,0.09262646801480794,0.06406514629538207,0.0,0.06721531485814844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853883212854335,0.08362260405010757,0.0,0.18289815470399565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437476385777338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566433326626436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396224746969488,0.0,0.0,0.08760964142103321,0.0,0.0,0.0871734053513514,0.09919557624534726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356629324334673,0.0,0.0,0.08289943723304928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944712430806857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619340175206347,0.19511417992996133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07286115297766735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023584657156231,0.0,0.0,0.0578984688587753,0.05584208657961885,0.0,0.0,0.10163552336461523,0.0,0.2478235214985177,0.08327538904448589,0.0,0.0,0.18958795990307786,0.0,0.0907260375517708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21572318909861785,0.0,0.06917547171480674,0.1398126598168485,0.0,0.07835815568621282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762622679119242,0.12381746530426932,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Natalie_James,2019/03/22,Child depression Has your children ever been depressed due to their teacher at school? Has the teacher ever made them not feel included into the classroom community? Has the teacher ever made your child feel awkward with race/ethnic topics in class? Please feel free to share your child's stories.,7.4791176470588265,10.009676862745104,6.041323529411766,74.45845588235295,64.68627450980392,7.452941176470588,34.318627450980394,8.07648339933343,3.0124862745098038,244,11,34,3,4,72,35,51,0.152,0.7170000000000001,0.13,-0.327,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,2,0,3,5,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,2,3,11,9,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,5,3,6,6,0,7,0,2,0,0,10,3,0,0,4,22,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011155257534436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6318923277983691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532156165829247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4406662658193236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556049829495381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356618003225404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,411011,2019/03/22,"Daughter wakes up multiple times a night She used to not. She is 3.5 right now. She started sleeping  in her own room and crib with no issues since 9 months old, all the way until a few months ago.  Now she wakes up multiple times night. She wants her mom only and asks for random things. She wakes up crying and sometimes it looks like she is sleep crying. We had our son 8 months ago this started a few months after he was born. Another thing is that we changed her room. It's bigger and  better room and she even says she likes it better. We tried to to see if it was the room but she doesn't want to go back. No issues at home except a super tired mom. She goes in every time she cries so she doesn't wake up our son. Another thing is that she doesn't wake up at night when she goes to her gramma's. They spoil her way too much and she loves going over there. We don't yell at her or anything but my wife goes get irritated after waking up at 1, 2, 4, 6.  Any help would be appreciated.",1.4466437833714707,3.2417445314009714,2.682135774218157,95.23771167048055,79.53140096618358,5.517315026697179,17.17493007882024,6.339386263674448,-0.4740763285024157,766,13,177,6,19,246,117,207,0.094,0.7909999999999999,0.115,0.7729,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,1,3,8,6,0,0,6,0,13,10,8,1,1,23,25,13,0,4,6,6,0,2,0,1,1,2,5,0,10,11,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,0,3,4,30,6,24,20,5,46,0,0,2,1,40,19,0,3,25,109,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914821904151699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344800839531214,0.22650810942732896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888000721783851,0.0,0.10097133918019832,0.0,0.0,0.08305020127684147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910456444688615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425637647908565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559196472112745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713371626248492,0.0,0.09099999167205487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056428849858947715,0.0,0.12276497319387818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0723943666194068,0.0,0.10833915573103522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22546109611128534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553287488677283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069811548169766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747993007240753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25299141768923045,0.3448384900725999,0.0,0.07939708024238397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040698737104644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333447517830646,0.0,0.0,0.08214368125264053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223681606073733,0.0,0.08589096902400029,0.0,0.0,0.08606706173537586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08934395264808298,0.0,0.21616866264391207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682102252166267,0.0,0.15289487318448194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21526382020715265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889380795335525,0.12413738846979892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332920864825458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932827915873628,0.0,0.0,0.12740986408421098,0.17146079564766936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672459829284962,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ooSUPLEX8oo,2019/03/22,"Is it strange to attach a lot of self worth to my child? Long story short, I finally felt good about having a kid. Me and my wife now have an 8 month old and I love him so much it hurts. I'm having a hard time finding things I like about myself that even compare to him. ",1.0747457627118635,2.4207656271186444,2.612000000000002,97.35291525423729,79.16949152542372,5.397966101694917,18.57966101694916,5.6839178017228535,-0.5213620338983049,208,4,51,1,5,68,46,59,0.106,0.7090000000000001,0.185,0.7128,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,0,5,7,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,9,3,6,6,2,7,0,1,0,1,7,1,0,1,7,34,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18495258624202968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688660453703055,0.3067515682968839,0.25593599835955905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348700521362801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25084565429878425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997704709388528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368051196997439,0.0,0.0,0.2478115910257428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380655868371281,0.2527317391132654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235117301697513,0.0,0.20584916459488803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938370902813183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29212511613666875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603487442221184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163283694704357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catticus_thegrey,2019/03/22,The proof of the love for your kid is.. When you have to get a knife to cut up their turds in the toilet cause it won’t flush. ,-1.0049425287356328,0.6027772413793073,0.3868965517241385,109.50609195402299,86.93103448275862,3.866666666666666,9.666666666666666,3.1291,-2.4159747126436786,96,0,28,0,3,30,26,29,0.067,0.799,0.134,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,4,0,3,1,0,1,1,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,4,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7017664108341998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569091238339601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6165547680044006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DarkofLight,2019/03/22,"When teenagers have sex When your teenaged son has sex with a teenage girl, do you let the parents know?
Our 14yo son admitted that he had protected sex with a girl in his social group. A social group our family is part of and we know the girls parents. 
Because of other reasons surrounding the circumstances, our 14yo lost some freedoms and privileges, including his phone.
My husband was at an event within this social circle, supervising, and saw the dad. He says he is compelled to let the dad know his daughter was involved with our son. Not in any condescending way, but as a fatherly courtesy.
What do you think?",6.181438053097348,7.757322575221237,5.686891592920357,79.44856747787614,66.61061946902655,9.189823008849556,33.59402654867257,9.516144504307137,3.206611504424778,493,22,87,10,8,151,74,113,0.014,0.888,0.098,0.7657,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,10,0,11,3,0,2,0,17,18,7,0,0,2,10,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,7,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,12,1,11,11,2,9,0,1,1,3,36,5,0,1,3,57,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285098727476002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519775785585774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814935579255567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31156810527957784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3864806623569789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628916591972146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196700294672177,0.2046421345767105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429836720397464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502809639171488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5779104081125981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210879193731558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000001709570265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bigfootpdx1,2019/03/22,Any advice for flying with a 2 year old? My wife and I are going to fly from the west coast to the great state of Ohio with our soon to be 2 year old. Any good tips out there for keeping her occupied or sleeping well or just anything you might suggest for travel? Thanks Reddit!,3.7086842105263145,4.610746842105264,4.044692982456141,91.44493421052631,71.80701754385964,6.401754385964912,23.021929824561404,5.985473137389443,0.2884771929824561,218,5,47,1,4,68,46,57,0.0,0.795,0.205,0.9127,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,0,9,6,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,11,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,3,5,29,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415945316588193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33625565287727266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20345279271506087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050897060948464,0.2073684309993147,0.0,0.27257672814364464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21975323747948328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262276560271785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5188616924705726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24741288558062144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22762015951613385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229335962421712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184216128470025
parenting,throwitinthetrashhun,2019/03/23,"I hate my life as a mother.. I need to rant, vent, scream or something. I fucking hate my life. I’ve never wanted kids but had an abusive boyfriend when I was a teenager and got pregnant because of it 10 years ago (he isn’t in my child’s life and wasn’t there during my pregnancy). 

I love my son, I do everything I can to be a good mother. I’d never hurt nor abandon him and I do my absolute best to make sure he’s happy, healthy and safe. However, around the age of four, he has become aggressive and just hateful, I believe it has a lot to do with my mother babysitting him for me while I was working. She let him get away with so many things, spoiled the hell out of him and would tell me it’s fine because that’s what grandmas do. She hasn’t baby sat in almost 6 years and yet he is still very aggressive and violent and incredibly hateful. I’m a very small woman and he’s already bigger than me and every day is a struggle. He has been through therapy and has a meeting with the school counselor every week but none of it seems to be working. Every day I hate being a mother because of this, I am trying so hard to help him but nothing seems to work. Idk what to do anymore, all I want to do is run away and die alone in a cave. I am incredibly depressed, I have no life outside of the constant fight with my child. He’s gotten to the point where he tells me he wants to kill himself because “I know it hurts you when I say that” he does things just to hurt me. Idk the point of the post, I guess I just need someone to talk to and vent to. I have no family that I can talk to, my mother is of no help. I’m sorry for the grammatical errors, I’m just too tired. ",2.319218340153185,3.4234204475920684,3.916254327982376,90.27133039555142,75.40226628895185,6.589403000734446,25.25537719022138,6.937597516519254,0.862288301332494,1290,43,290,12,27,431,169,353,0.24,0.6409999999999999,0.12,-0.9935,1,1,1,0,1,1,35.0,0,1,0,4,14,26,12,1,18,0,32,7,0,1,4,47,56,25,2,6,8,6,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,4,13,20,0,2,3,0,0,1,10,19,0,1,8,3,44,7,40,43,4,29,1,5,0,2,39,12,2,6,15,190,57,4,0.0,0.102521300090455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670167856557254,0.0,0.08664509804283242,0.08961671081884892,0.09548558474413996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858123320936683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702809163299049,0.0,0.0,0.1625914427080881,0.0,0.0,0.21098618783468176,0.09556316275480957,0.0,0.09748720584701874,0.09080559326907503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350581790984604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116065522397278,0.0,0.07452627187184567,0.0,0.08980220087139627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572106547532784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21871022351163047,0.0,0.07776561201408484,0.0,0.08157071401273895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0799935616636359,0.04520720693994178,0.0,0.0,0.07257541776022976,0.0692041903242882,0.0,0.09532013271447896,0.0,0.0,0.09211045766718902,0.07751191771145481,0.4271414688902279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599552786314996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27788941539397866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573019634879827,0.0,0.047553418868089996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848054330683247,0.24446859111864014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356284576040234,0.07809472250967049,0.0,0.05775798190414744,0.08772561344798026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831854240685614,0.13347115535839582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302576280569536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16359348844011354,0.0,0.08286971893544591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881038370702172,0.0,0.0875707584125867,0.0,0.15754332828598205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331472859543213,0.06661333184794263,0.0,0.0968607938422117,0.0,0.0,0.06910121704559519,0.0,0.0,0.0904576492485566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155143243411099,0.0,0.0,0.13909554449073272,0.15125823131272026,0.0,0.09895208627698228,0.0,0.11497045797332912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945098338112386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058746699930800825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14278900251306684,0.15310902418467773,0.0,0.06940738609521993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18897981829071592,0.0,0.0,0.06146687024596105,0.0,0.0,0.11144213931161837
parenting,throaway657,2019/03/23,"Daughter is constantly paranoid about me My daughter is 16 years old and is constantly paranoid about me. Sometimes she’ll go in to a store with me but she’ll usually stay in the car while I go into a quick store (Walgreens, CVS, etc.). She’s usually fine when she goes in with me but I’ve noticed she’ll get extremely paranoid whenever she stays in the car. She tells me where to park and will even advise me to ‘park by the door’ so she can see me. I’ve noticed she’s not like this with anyone else—her father, brother, etc. and it’s very irritating to me. She’s a hypochondriac who’s always convinced she has something (diabetes, cataracts, and even fast food workers poisoning our food). I did—and still do—baby her. I constantly held her, never let her cry for too long as did the rest of my family. She’s since been convinced she has paranoid personality disorder but it really is starting to make since. I was curious to see if anyone else’s child[ren] were like this? Does this seem like a ‘normal’ thing? ",3.076515151515153,5.236720792929297,4.075757575757578,85.43363636363638,75.91919191919192,7.632323232323233,27.161616161616163,8.515128840125781,2.031119191919192,799,32,157,16,18,258,108,198,0.14400000000000002,0.78,0.076,-0.918,0,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,1,0,0,1,10,7,1,0,8,0,16,4,0,1,1,18,25,12,0,2,5,4,0,3,0,4,2,0,1,1,7,8,2,1,1,0,2,4,2,1,0,0,5,2,31,6,20,15,3,27,0,0,2,0,25,6,0,2,18,101,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153140474575208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17064010594720172,0.1250251286467482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955846717381005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403454721397118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984685481857853,0.0,0.10678156539449098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193304657892713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721717627250332,0.16118768997782154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115030718043246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29509701387437776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637510353804062,0.0,0.13869490817411273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247749336588124,0.0,0.17884016928007165,0.0,0.0,0.1079849131033427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145009163613917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411026386590278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955485835627895,0.0,0.2778438664534122,0.12804071241877904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654419627107717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816989865422272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447018011158415,0.1110835083093006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187437810732264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393787324854358,0.12068207668900165,0.0,0.08636722611067936,0.2601167055728289,0.097446279717199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106651898101176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106545648458778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687782028658009,0.10068026059690872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785776455462246
parenting,nandlald,2019/03/23,"Tips on how best to support my wife during mat leave My wife and I have just had a lovely baby boy, and she's committed to a year off for maternity leave (we live in the UK). I'll be back at work soon and am really stressed out about her mental health over the next year. I know motherhood can be a pretty lonely place and luckily she has some support in the form of the other antenatal class mums, but there will be days or even weeks where the sheer difficulty of motherhood will be overwhelming. What I'm really asking the community for is for any mums out there that have any advice on how to best support my wife through the next year. Perhaps you've had particularly difficult mat leave or your husband/life partner has done some amazing things that have kept you sane that you would perhaps share? ",9.156703296703297,7.144792692307696,8.60783882783883,73.04192307692307,61.17948717948718,12.247619047619047,35.74725274725274,10.914260884657429,3.5684791208791222,644,21,126,13,7,205,99,156,0.08,0.737,0.183,0.9636,0,2,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,3,0,3,10,12,0,2,10,0,18,2,0,2,1,19,26,9,0,1,4,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,6,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,12,8,19,15,5,20,0,2,0,1,17,11,0,4,9,86,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583472763131824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18905723862814128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995153294866013,0.0,0.0,0.10688677653724593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917557401542493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964715465896038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225105764309245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09181193113387018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477565223327782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639387850048661,0.0,0.0,0.4415607871041344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122744549424947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12545804034578786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008501644138285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956682046968829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523133470220856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141873535209154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810117765123648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923052029146995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4732259460870785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234918757285747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115019602502781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119778010488224,0.0,0.0,0.0987456365734851,0.0,0.0,0.26854527349616897
parenting,stiqlegxx,2019/03/23,"I am having second thoughts So, I am the sister and daughter of addicts. Raised by a single mother addict.... not only to drugs but my mother and brother seem to be addicted to each other. I had removed myself from the toxic situation. Living a really happy life. My boys are grown, got out of a terrible marriage..... finally free to do some of the things I always wanted. 
Fast forward December of 2016.... my brother loses custody of my little nephew. My mother gains custody..... my mother loses custody of my little nephew...... guess what? I am up.... little nephew comes to live with me on a days notice..... it was supposed to be Christmas.... i was told to show up for a court date three states away..... i show up..... they tell me I have to take him or he goes into the foster system...... i was like.... wait.... what? I know i sound like a terrible person...... anyone would jump at the chance to take on a little kid..... he is cute..... so cute.... he looks exactly like my oldest son at his age...... but i feel so detached. I am having trouble connecting. It’s not working. I feel so guilty. 
He has so many things wrong with him. I feel so bitter and resentful. Not towards him.... towards my brother.....towards my mother....... the little boys mama passed away.... which makes me feel even more guilty. He’s such a handful, so strong willed..... and I am not young. I am not old, but i am not young like i was when my kids were 5....... 
i don’t know what to do. 
My brother doesn’t even understand how much this is. Since he’s not in foster care..... he gets no assistance.... a medical card...... so there’s that. And free lunch...... which is good. 
There is so much more to this, but I am already crying. 
I feel like I am in prison. My freedom has been taken away from me. I know it sounds so selfish. I don’t mean to...... i used to go places and do things. I can’t take him places like i took my kids, he screams and cries and gets in peoples personal space ...... it’s a really stressful thing to take him out so I have limited it to like once a month. 
Please give me some advice on what you think I should do. 
Please don’t be rude to me, I feel terrible enough as it is. Thank you. ",-0.4367026405577832,1.8110724228971973,1.6165331553182014,95.57308930425756,95.79906542056077,4.30624536418929,16.84037976561341,6.096657356929545,-0.3109707461800917,1599,43,346,17,63,528,196,428,0.172,0.696,0.132,-0.9696,0,0,1,0,0,0,188.0,0,2,1,6,18,29,3,1,17,0,43,8,1,3,1,53,78,27,0,3,12,14,7,7,0,3,6,3,0,7,20,15,1,2,14,2,2,8,13,13,0,2,12,12,61,18,48,60,9,48,0,2,1,0,42,28,0,5,19,239,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641274243074197,0.0,0.07891966825554186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912284880367415,0.0,0.0672004337495021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056470651437493836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276356049565924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234221704840622,0.0,0.0,0.06956929118079593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742647671924047,0.05208479325656043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365825194422103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344871025804187,0.0,0.10668504694399072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450140901870516,0.0576963718004174,0.0,0.08847079710761847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438959827791394,0.07747424650229205,0.0458988921284362,0.06773931375338202,0.0645927299642027,0.0,0.08896842176357954,0.0,0.0,0.08597262522826951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315400972518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05704457207309225,0.27619355424347536,0.404723584485079,0.14262860889425952,0.0,0.06781971942717747,0.180703986089417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053909246115441414,0.08187996758341816,0.0,0.08797346806230047,0.0,0.08135919424190485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644634387390733,0.0,0.11873868992266272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194804497713407,0.08474610819857888,0.08600886866767518,0.0,0.06142312203161227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05599018528602565,0.14103648463916335,0.16875815124563565,0.17730479459125206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034763797245338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352266975419484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680714112886661,0.09077984483232647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251257065621564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428918200382327,0.0,0.07058952676321151,0.07435477679873656,0.0,0.0,0.2146186729714722,0.051749013203219625,0.0,0.06411598775375399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771715290585004,0.08972952696849126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08407606525319118,0.0,0.06975241678660288,0.0,0.0,0.047635505922885936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058795680407675084,0.0,0.0,0.05737099058506881,0.08830054254239975,0.0,0.0
parenting,ieatkarate,2019/03/23,"Daughter smoked pot and told us, now we have to punish her? My (45m) teenage daughter (17f) told her mother and me that she smoked pot at a sleepover a few weeks ago. She's always been really open and honest with us and I want to encourage that. We are not overly concerned with the pot smoking. We talked to her about it, encouraged her not to do it again, and thanked her for her honesty. 

But now I feel obligated to tell the parents of the girl whose house she was staying with. There were 4 or 5 girls sleeping over. I know the girl who lives there didn't bring the pot, and I don't know if she smoked any herself. I do know her parents will not take the news well. This friend will be punished and probably be angry with my daughter for telling us. The other girl's parents will probably also be informed. 

If kids were smoking pot at my house I'd want to know. But, the consequences of telling her friend's parents are going to negatively affect my daughter, effectively punishing her for her honesty, so I'm torn. 

If there was a way to let her parents know without implicating my daughter that would be great, but that doesn't seem possible. 

If anyone has any thoughts or ideas I'd appreciate it. 

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parenting,VvVigilante,2019/03/23,"A tablet, my 5yo, and their relationship. Im considering taking away my kids tablet permanently. Right now I can use it as my leverage for punishment when needed but i'm considering the long term benefit of removing it completely. Right now his screen time varies, from 20 30 mins during the week, to damn near the whole day on the weekend if we don't have anything going on. I have time limits set on his amazon tablet, but he can easily switch to the adults account just by selecting it (which is partly why he's had it taken away for the moment) Would I be doing more damage psychologically by taking it away all together as a punishment? Should it have an ""accident""? Is there any evidence to support his continued use of it? ",5.265652173913047,6.7676074492753635,6.3804057971014485,73.8975652173913,68.71014492753623,10.157681159420287,28.29275362318841,10.355215969177356,3.0675049275362314,580,20,105,16,10,194,93,138,0.102,0.812,0.085,-0.5468,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,5,6,3,0,9,0,13,0,0,2,1,13,22,7,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,1,4,0,0,2,1,11,2,19,17,5,25,0,1,1,0,10,9,1,1,13,73,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464316959938786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083167066998293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5166196571760168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217559104059204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820658741596694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416766709528306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979841512894044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622054713838673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13590686833085613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19848470581963126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19678436723854487,0.0,0.3130565241657337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799479312886654,0.0,0.0,0.2756218404913825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137552045825683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166066192005858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14702380975187795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539029718184292,0.2046362210565984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020362738754584,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,d2864212,2019/03/23,"Questions for Teen Moms (past or present) Hi, I am doing a project for my health class and could not think of a better place to ask some questions than here. Anyone who is willing to share their experience I would much appreciate. If you want to go beyond the questions please feel free to do so!

 

1. How old were you when you got pregnant?
2. How did you find out you were pregnant?
3. Did you want the child or was it unexpected?
4. Did you consider giving up the child or did you plan on keeping it all along?
5. What was the scariest part of being pregnant?
6. How supportive was the father been of the baby?
7. How do the people around you respond to you having a child at such a young age?
8. What effect has the baby had on your social life?
9. How did the baby affect your school situation?
10. Did your parents let you stay at home when they found out you were pregnant?
11. How did they support you otherwise?
12. Did you need to get a job in order to help pay for the child or did you have outside support?
13. What effect did being a parent have on your mental health? 
14. Do you wish you waited until you were older to have the child?
15. If you could give advice to yourself before you had the baby with what you know now, what would you say?",0.34957282913165244,2.7700229722222254,1.9101120448179287,94.56920168067228,91.1031746031746,4.075816993464051,17.332399626517276,5.7212163849143,-0.445713258636788,967,25,203,7,34,312,141,252,0.014,0.873,0.113,0.9717,3,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,26,3,4,14,6,0,0,18,0,39,3,0,9,1,42,58,17,0,10,7,4,1,0,0,3,3,1,1,5,8,6,0,2,10,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,22,2,32,7,30,28,4,25,0,0,0,0,51,12,0,10,10,151,40,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482584215710027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216316986374253,0.0,0.0,0.10460556147291564,0.1098525720972968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099989246402832,0.0,0.0,0.103924814721116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763851273413654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494375490206955,0.0,0.0,0.059414739629049536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10739867219769136,0.0,0.0,0.12883964417698665,0.0,0.0,0.061392216324226576,0.2254455903516237,0.06678156483957969,0.0,0.09398055997080187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498075036763115,0.0,0.0,0.07876202735415581,0.0,0.11786844675461933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660691770422378,0.10444504015498808,0.0,0.0,0.06457841516253822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015820093452455,0.0829982078431286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184187598191521,0.0,0.0,0.13762201322350004,0.0,0.0,0.08638068537523992,0.08712946725858152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233031443052883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26095378443717465,0.12724792270939536,0.1121731041716488,0.08146410546459078,0.0,0.12276912248864323,0.1289866823280934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949020031287212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934457633604018,0.0,0.1189226963586667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208205716235755,0.0,0.11978292267226327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524613100621393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4000344296160016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529332235176152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861657569222788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512649974201166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669462747356392,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Havonasun,2019/03/23,"Should I say something or just let it go? My stepson is very private with his sexuality. But sometimes I find dried semen on the toilet seat or on the floor in front of the toilet. He and my wife use this bathroom the most, but I don't think she  notices it. I use the room occasionally when the master bath is in use, and being a guy I spot this pretty quick. I don't want to embarrass him, and it's not that big of a deal to clean up when we clean the rooms, but it would be nice if he were proactive in covering his tracks. Besides, it grosses me out a little. He's 17 and doesn't live here full-time. Is it worth bringing it up to him?",3.233937908496728,3.5989083088235354,4.61950980392157,88.85751633986929,72.52941176470588,7.220915032679738,25.405228758169926,6.937597516519254,0.7907689542483659,494,14,115,4,9,165,87,136,0.025,0.799,0.17600000000000002,0.9724,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,10,0,12,0,0,3,0,24,19,12,0,4,8,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,1,10,7,0,0,2,1,1,3,4,2,0,0,1,1,15,1,14,13,1,19,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,4,3,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351394602286741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208460097178139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962256619468918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22583409363863885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23322625625626475,0.0,0.0,0.2285951019195392,0.20139795799339785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259669482068758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320383646797707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181377595387194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755863766543145,0.22557598804557186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614383002260756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5909611436934499,0.0,0.18818908228899506,0.13452691848048673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202079570806713,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawaymama00,2019/03/23,"My kid walked out the front door while I was sleeping. Throwaway because I’m humiliated on top of all the other emotions I’m feeling today. 

So I stay at home with my daughter, who is three. Her dad is working nights today. He left the house at 3:20 or so. After he left, we had some “quiet time” that involved watching Frozen and having a snack. 

Now I just found out I’m pregnant again and the nausea and fatigue just started hitting me hard. I knew I would probably fall asleep but my daughter was preoccupied by her goldfish and movie so I figured it could hurt. She’s usually really loud so I knew she wouldn’t let me sleep for long.  At 3:54 I laid down and my daughter said “wake up!” And I told her “6 more minutes of quiet time and then we can play”. 

Some time later I wake up and my front door is wide open. The doorknob was locked, so I must have tried to lock the door and then not shut it all the way.

I ran outside and looked up and down my street. The neighbor across the street asked if everything was Ok and I told her I was looking for my daughter but maybe she was actually inside so I was gonna go check. She said ok, that she would start looking around outside. I went back in and looked all around the house because my daughter isn’t really a “runner” and I could easily see how she might try to go outside but then change her mind and go play in the bathroom or something. But no, she wasn’t inside.

I ran back outside and a group of my neighbors about half a block down are walking towards me, holding my daughter. I ran towards them and thanked the woman holding my kid, even gave her a hug. I told the woman I had just ran upstairs to get something (why did I lie?) and she disappeared. She said it’s alright, it happened to her brother growing up. I thanked her and went home. 

When we got home I figured out from watching my security footage that she walked out the door at 3:57, three minutes after I dozed off, and I found her and came back inside at 4:13. She was gone for 16 whole minutes. Not only that but she carried a little chair outside with her, which I am now too embarrassed to go look for. 

I had a talk with her about going outside that I’m not sure she comprehended. But she knew I was upset and put herself in timeout, I told her she didn’t have to. 

I don’t really know how to get over this. I’m deeply upset and embarrassed. Not to mention that I’m sure my husband isn’t going to trust me now. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest

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parenting,asianeddie,2019/03/23,"Red shirting your kid. Hey all first post in this sub. Lots of families and friends having been talking about holding their kids back a year in elementary school so they aren’t the youngest in class. My son bday is August 12. 

What are the pros/cons of doing this and  what bday range does this benefit the kid the most?",2.9565053763440865,5.329496370967746,2.7141935483870974,94.0079569892473,77.2258064516129,6.068817204301076,23.23655913978495,7.1686216300943375,0.6672494623655916,253,8,53,3,6,75,49,62,0.0,0.8959999999999999,0.104,0.765,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,2,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,6,1,1,0,1,6,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,4,2,6,5,3,8,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,2,4,34,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28476848944659355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240869035453693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491234567081873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315010892212179,0.0,0.0,0.28612365397503137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148497019794633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546832105289713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748037056385853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976651479213985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384867251091576
parenting,theroadtoredemtion32,2019/03/23,"I feel like a single mom and I'm not Ok so I have 3 children. My 15 year old step daughter,9 year old son and 16 month baby boy. My 15 year old step daughters mom is on drugs and not involved at all, same as my 9 year olds father the only one him and I share is the baby. My fiance and I have been together 8 years. Anyhow he works swing shift doesn't get home until 1 am and I usually stay up and wait up for him to make him dinner even though I know I have to be up at 5 am by the time I go to bed its about 2-3 am and as soon as i close my eyes the baby crys so im up for at least a hour or more as my fiance snors. Ugh 5 am rolls around and i feel like a zombie I get the kids up and ready and take them to school. No time for naps for me to much needs to be done! So eventually around 12-1 pm fiance wakes up I figure oh goody i can close my eyes for a hour before the kids get out.... Then it comes.... My fiance says its like you don't want to spend any time withme. Wtf? R u kidding me?!",-1.0713043478260855,0.4138951739130441,1.5465217391304336,101.7858695652174,86.3913043478261,4.521739130434783,13.478260869565215,5.192301501255418,-1.4282608695652177,750,8,206,3,23,258,128,230,0.056,0.877,0.068,0.3887,0,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,0,1,1,1,9,6,0,0,10,1,16,5,3,1,1,31,30,22,0,2,3,5,2,3,0,0,1,1,2,5,3,17,1,1,4,1,1,4,5,1,0,1,2,5,28,5,32,26,6,39,0,0,2,0,19,15,0,2,22,118,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220708039290972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152295299862056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286565171072924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10413316142334356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237090334810536,0.0,0.0,0.14019015722023015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984450485491112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224786430618337,0.17272292116992574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947488563066436,0.0,0.06870267990429736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125918563980595,0.0,0.2380980366673898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057834692331188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664361518975543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771773609548045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069279034856182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831620117016297,0.09649058597815284,0.0,0.08886561121328586,0.08963593341482354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5074008957261761,0.0,0.08191593557805177,0.09193975923976684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613393133246037,0.0,0.12234376299674699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288491048157021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089173065857313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877053865084693,0.0,0.21146996675389854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313958731318476,0.0,0.07130208952193279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880069348841927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892352574918269
parenting,uncle_splash,2019/03/23,"10yr old son is severe sore loser with younger brother. Parents of reddit

My 10yr old son, whatever the situation, whether it's playing board games, playing sports, running a race, playing PS4 or any kind of competitive game, if he loses it's epic tantrums and I mean epic.

For example, tonight playing a PlayStation sports game against his brother he started to say I'm going to lose even when he was WINNING but things were getting close. At that point it was almost like he gave up and eventually lost which resulted in screaming and shouting, kicking things and running off upstairs, slamming doors etc. This is a similar pattern of behaviour that can be applied to any situation regardless of the activity. 

He always blames others for the loss, never owns any of his own mistakes and genuinely believes he is or should be better at everything than his younger brother (8). The older they get, the narrower the gap becomes in skill and proficiency at certain things. 

He can be very difficult to reason with or help to look at things from a different perspective. Any strategies for helping him to manage these emotions and deal with not only losing but also to a younger sibling? ",8.679439178515013,9.129102848341233,7.932902843601898,69.50545221169038,60.800947867298575,10.44565560821485,43.175750394944714,10.125756701596842,4.7413314375987365,955,54,148,18,12,298,135,211,0.13,0.752,0.118,-0.6102,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,9,3,19,1,0,11,0,12,1,0,2,2,28,21,16,0,4,8,6,0,1,0,1,1,3,1,0,13,11,0,0,2,9,0,3,2,10,0,0,5,4,7,9,29,12,3,21,0,6,1,0,26,11,0,5,8,94,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12741617022158752,0.0,0.0,0.10175672892765764,0.10587693920431754,0.0,0.0,0.34612027670465345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14053065306084392,0.0,0.14336005954416745,0.0,0.11253669903968702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118265199003187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329425683937611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313201910030213,0.0,0.0,0.14191034413111436,0.08404325388288403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435841936348573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295914725273145,0.0,0.07231551852094964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17057751975591007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250471714825812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062164837167284485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685264826431784,0.42705940754382704,0.13890151328984082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13860567573634405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813817420121287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670416854447738,0.0,0.0,0.09677455626733322,0.0,0.0,0.14128905392460986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028641112463455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082770059228369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10118928550455847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374914558214272,0.0,0.0,0.28605446649697625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006373516710875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381402012227373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049893661669222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yours_Dearly,2019/03/23,"Angry 3 year old Some backstory: my 3 year old son is a fraternal twin. His twin brother died 8 1/2 months ago, they were 2 1/2. Since turning 3 in December I have really struggled with parenting him. He’s very angry a lot and he doesn’t listen AT ALL. I know age 3 is hard and they’re going through wanting to be independent but he also just seems really angry a lot. He hits and screams and spits when he’s mad or when I say no/send him to time out, etc. I feel like I don’t know how to parent him. I try to be calm and gentle and talk to him sweetly but it doesn’t help. I’ve tried being stern. I don’t know how to punish him when he disobeys or does something he shouldn’t or I’ve asked him not to. Nothing seems to work or help. I would love some advice if anyone has any to offer. ",0.42871001031991796,2.2670626725146192,2.6171517027863795,94.21476780185759,83.09356725146198,5.6609563123495015,18.83075335397317,6.794906146795322,0.002098452012383678,611,15,143,7,17,207,101,171,0.146,0.7040000000000001,0.15,0.5744,2,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,1,7,8,2,1,3,0,14,2,1,3,1,34,27,19,1,4,9,4,2,1,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,8,0,0,6,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,1,6,17,4,14,20,6,15,0,0,0,1,27,3,0,11,12,76,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693076776647732,0.13328571727453195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024342360142765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225045431253288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051357203519599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056698785013055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605070162503692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13158169043253365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769196300436498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07602690427820025,0.10741773747104118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545346944724748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346936826247361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20156725929616548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479029792263709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345865897412776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556626359499751,0.1357064317198528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001650230117634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442751782591273,0.0,0.31555659110271955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339155992991861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19264987112453627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195728896661037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27376552775781393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243799518589395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575503797885082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15718968461367588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085426136593246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876765523954686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20417013510583096,0.16354929998598655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406335151191485,0.08868665584770395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094644041796956,0.0,0.0,0.10681195043664624,0.0,0.0,0.1936547641530287
parenting,bigbabe54,2019/03/23,"wanna know what teenagers actually do at night? You’re under the assumption that we actually sleep? Ha! Yeah, right.

The time is 10:30. You have just sent your 16-year old son to bed; shortly after, you go to sleep yourself.

Unbeknownst to you, your son has other plans.

First, he gets out of bed and raids the fridge for shredded cheese and devours it all, as if his mouth were a vacuum, destined to purge the earth of any and all dairy products.

He shrugs on a black hoodie and goes outside. The night is cold. His friends are already there, in their monster truck. They’re wearing Supreme™ hoodies and white Vans.

They all drive to a shady alleyway, shouting at girls to pull down their tops, and arrive. People are already there. They’re gang members. And your son is the leader.

First, they buy drugs off of shady people from Craigslist and smoke them until they’re in debt. Then they drink and pick up random chicks they find on the sidewalk and bang them.

They go back into the considerably more crowded truck and drive to a building. There are people inside.

The Gucci Gang™ (which your son has so-cleverly named) beats them up and steals everything. Now they have money to pay back those wicked awesome dealers from Craigslist.

Then the black cloaks go on. Hoods are up. And the ritual begins.

Everyone makes a blood sacrifice, and they drag the people they beat up to the center of the room, where the pentagram lays, and start to chant. A low, cold voice laughs and says “Thank you for your sacrifice.”

It’s almost time to get up for school. The Bros™ drive back to their houses, and leave after doing elaborate secret handshakes, followed by “no homo”.

Your son sneaks back inside your house, takes off his hoodie, pats the dog hello, and goes back inside his room. He slips in his bed and gets a few minutes of sleep before you go into his room to wake him up.

You briefly wonder why he looks so tired. Maybe the teachers are overworking him, the poor baby. You suspect nothing.",3.932297447280799,6.338384269541786,3.4235397177739024,89.95255073727608,74.22911051212937,6.0897732677976855,23.31068653876645,7.048011613610866,0.7743257650229909,1568,46,297,16,34,464,202,371,0.07200000000000001,0.8740000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.5985,2,0,3,0,0,0,60.0,1,14,14,6,12,6,0,0,26,2,15,11,7,2,3,40,32,25,0,2,2,5,0,0,1,0,2,3,7,2,7,23,1,0,6,1,5,10,1,2,0,2,2,9,37,4,50,30,5,60,3,1,4,1,55,30,1,4,20,177,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.2153079490753206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046704915827732,0.0,0.24347622709419586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501968854289802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.424136771665772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387207423275322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806915974842944,0.12793328605243418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541310666383888,0.09914626308041982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082820394929252,0.1876720322842957,0.0,0.0,0.08523103320175715,0.0,0.17290903458407747,0.0,0.25078392877348016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25458318596352697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06062761746946865,0.0,0.0,0.11681031262165167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263892273624992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736377933710025,0.0,0.11082876469491444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20705101671613935,0.0,0.10585262442344168,0.0,0.11575966748190306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059210797396432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421054926122048,0.0,0.08772891036265952,0.0,0.1116472078963858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311915346362775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780833001241584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294503700339703,0.0,0.0,0.10156553995074434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865405239411112,0.12679374734587695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995443923840985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963463184232508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104085839659638
parenting,privateadoptionaccou,2019/03/23,"Inactive bio parent doesn’t want step parent adoption to happen. Any advice? Repost from another group because no one responded.



Hello all, I’m a dad to 2 wonderful girls. My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married for 5 and we have a 3 year old together. My 9 yo, “Kayla”, is from a previous relationship.



Kayla’s mom “Sara” has been a bit of a mess. We were druggies that ended up becoming parents to our sweet Kayla. Our relationship was incredibly toxic and at one point Kayla was taken by CPS and placed with family members. That was enough for me to get my shit together but Sara didn’t care. I got full custody of Kayla and Sara continued to use drugs and get in trouble with the law.




Kayla and I moved on without Sara and I became a stable productive member of society.  I blamed drugs for Sara’s behavior and figured she would eventually quit for good and realize what a mistake she’s made all these years.



During this time Sara would see Kayla about 2-3 times a year under my supervision. She would call on her birthday and promise to see her at Christmas(never happened) but that was it. 



Fast forward to about 3 years ago, I realize that Sara is off drugs. She starts dating this guy we went to high school with. He’s a clean cut guy with a good job and good family. Sara soaks up this new “pretty” life and I was cool with it. I thought that meant she’d finally be truly involved in Kayla’s life. Nope.



She’s been clean for 3 years now and still makes no effort to see Kayla or keep the one promise of seeing her on Christmas. She has a kid with the clean cut BF(husband now) and she seems to be a decent mom towards him according to social media and town gossip. 




To me, that says that she just doesn’t *want* to be in Kayla’s life, period. It’s not the drugs, it’s her own doing. 




So my wife and I discuss step parent adoption. She’s been an amazing mother to Kayla since day one. She’s a teacher, caring for children and loving them despite not sharing DNA is her thing. She has never said or done anything to make me think she sees Kayla as anything less than her real daughter which is great because Sara has never done anything to make me think she even considers Kayla her daughter. And Kayla deserves a mother. She has repeatedly told my wife that she wishes she was her mom. She’s told me the same. I always remind her that if she wants her to be her mom then she can be. But I think it’s time to make it official.



Sorry for rambling, I’ll get to the point.



I contacted Sara about this. I knew she wouldn’t be happy but I tried really hard to be as delicate as possible about it. I didn’t want to frame this as an attack on her but as a benefit for Kayla.


She said she’d fight it in court and plans to get the best lawyer possible to prevent this. 



We have a meeting with a lawyer on April 1st but I’m just wondering how this could play out. Can they forcefully take her rights away so my wife can adopt Kayla? I know that sounds harsh but she offers nothing positive to Kayla’s life. She just disappoints her and makes her feel bad about herself. I want to be done with this. 



Has anyone gone through this? How did it play out? 




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parenting,universitystripe,2019/03/23,"28 Month Old Late Talker--Gifted Or? After speaking to a friend who is a Speech Language Pathologist, I insisted on placing my two year old son in speech therapy. At that time, my son had perhaps 5 words and only used them when he absolutely wanted something. On my son's initial visit with the SLP, they noted he might have ""some apraxia"" and we were able to get him in for therapy. After three months, he's making good progress and they are especially happy with him. He's starting to point at things and call them by name, or issue commands like ""up,"" etc.   


On his initial visit, the SLPs checked for comprehension. I already knew my son understood most of what I told him, but at 2 years old he tested at four-and-a-half years for comprehension. He already knows and can point to all the planets in the solar system, as well as numbers up to 20. He's able to put 24-piece puzzles (age 3+) together unassisted. He might be able to do more, but I just haven't purchased toys that advanced yet.   


The only slight issue besides vocabulary that I can see is he clinches his fists and shakes when he gets *very* excited--I know that can happen with children on the autism scale, but apparently it happens with normal children sometimes, too. And it doesn't happen too often with my son.  


The SLP told me they do not diagnose Apraxia until at least 3, but they treat it through therapy regardless before that age. I really don't think he's autistic, and neither does his pediatrician--he's very affectionate, points at things, makes good eye contact, etc. He's shy around strangers, but not around anyone he knows. He also seems to retain knowledge and skills once he gets them.   


 I was just wondering if anyone else had experienced anything similar. Thanks!",5.588696977730648,6.952507570121952,5.836983032873808,78.6144856839873,67.8109756097561,8.509225874867445,31.33404029692471,8.841846274778883,2.608228366914104,1385,56,248,23,23,441,184,328,0.008,0.895,0.097,0.9792,1,0,1,0,0,0,56.0,1,0,7,3,12,10,0,1,9,0,19,2,1,3,1,54,42,23,0,4,12,5,0,1,1,2,1,3,0,2,12,17,0,1,9,1,2,5,6,1,1,2,8,6,27,9,41,31,8,46,0,0,2,0,46,21,0,11,20,147,39,1,0.27415895518009525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20169414962368432,0.07308160580220661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779887731675893,0.0936360827294704,0.07520315341877562,0.16270639678943488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777630260323591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331564868255594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275518950237573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997278306756589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634154258140513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038398037817963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07060484289714958,0.0,0.1432367385880159,0.0,0.0,0.1533010161476916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424378586419045,0.09728243525142267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907671469835267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15067059189089116,0.0,0.10308774765556462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04464673906575455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200215430792655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389288431043195,0.0,0.0,0.14588737493049986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953918887289078,0.0,0.0,0.28768370496126544,0.09732344656214988,0.0,0.13900682632675332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547925213469602,0.0,0.25916882865080104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091868491055841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585444156432107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282306393298367,0.08319467203523663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035365263077381,0.09038340563314874,0.0,0.06468370652162322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413624383751614,0.3135246584383025,0.0,0.1214260184660977,0.05855666280866183,0.0,0.0,0.05328809716447622,0.0,0.0,0.1746470869989964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892711541188989,0.0,0.0,0.0789284374143047,0.0,0.15080656684806346,0.05390201832627218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0821672752912649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910456401825654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17654937848155508
parenting,seeamom,2019/03/23,"Finding it harder to be a stepmom now I'm a mom My DSD is 12 years old and I have been her stepmom since she was 2. Our relationship was good until she turned 5 and her mom started using her dislike of me to turn DSD against me. It was never something I cared about. Yes, it hurt to have her reject ne and push me away but I loved her so much, it didn't matter if she was telling me she hated me. Having a DH who stands by your side and tries to help you work on the relationship and try to nip his ex's behavior in the bud helps tremendously. But after the birth of my DS seven months ago, it got much harder for me. I feel the rejection much harder because it is also a rejection of my son, who is her brother, but who she refuses to acknowledge as a sibling to people. I still love her and still want to work on my relationship with her and I give our relationship the same energy I did before having a baby, but there are days I don't want to try as hard or where I want to rant and rave about how unfair it is, and get annoyed that we don't have the close relationship we once had. I always plaster a smile on my face around her mom and I will continue to be a bigger person around her but I hate this so much and I wish she cared more about the damage she is causing her daughter. I wish I didn't feel the way I do. Some days, it feels like it would be easier if I was no longer a stepmom, and I hate saying that because I know it's not my DSDs fault. I know she's a child and she has the right to her feelings. I know I sound like a petulant child here. I know my DH isn't at fault for any of this, but even in therapy, it doesn't help me feel better. If anything, I feel like I'm not as good of a mom as I want to be because I am so focused on trying to improve my relationship with DSD. ",3.192185089974295,3.3230796529562987,4.856806169665814,87.95573881748075,72.52185089974294,7.869244215938304,25.07156812339332,7.699297019823105,1.015757964010283,1391,37,326,16,25,474,174,389,0.131,0.684,0.185,0.9705,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,4,2,0,3,18,21,4,0,21,1,34,3,1,3,1,59,66,33,0,10,12,8,7,3,1,2,0,2,0,3,18,20,0,1,12,0,0,1,10,11,0,1,11,9,69,10,44,49,7,33,0,5,0,2,58,15,0,5,18,233,87,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736633754793771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06077439674626892,0.06323520004321652,0.0,0.0,0.05168024571950342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253866800372361,0.13530604593445322,0.0,0.0,0.07140124060332861,0.0,0.0,0.1389803360249088,0.0,0.06466744872946313,0.0,0.0,0.06721275406578497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496705233979238,0.07806936944124626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980229482763592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05019499063258042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305567708705406,0.1085838709365242,0.0,0.0,0.06945945066908626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03970504973645432,0.07290279544968271,0.0,0.12748456570838895,0.06078136661809995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680779627016088,0.2250925161908774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281661425570608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135585604090664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706281932474462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138419593924892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371796689638645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3560248648468309,0.06065970436045194,0.0,0.22346477221018432,0.0,0.058613208165321264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974557314313335,0.08093382307568027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0526864243200636,0.06635723775827271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4895509871258091,0.0,0.06490062048718245,0.0,0.06043549010009513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286511407570458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850584084186523,0.0,0.0,0.05379073434434109,0.0,0.12138185237985928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664243159868107,0.0,0.0869086540199902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20638661846141546,0.16532480109465025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563660058267598,0.0,0.0,0.1792988871126646,0.060322507334989076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747845155038763,0.0,0.0,0.11065275638295734,0.0,0.0,0.05398575372069228,0.0,0.0,0.04893927300112888
parenting,Academy05,2019/03/23,"Preteen son feels ""left out"" when hanging with his cousins. Anyway to help him feel more included? I have 2 boys, ages 12 and 10. My nephews are 11 and 9, but will be 12 and 10 in a couple of months. The older boys are in 6th grade and the younger boys are in 4th grade. My BIL (husband's brother) is divorced and gets my nephews every weekend. We live around the corner so my nephews come over to hang out and play a lot. Unfortunately they only want to play with my older son and neither wants to play with my younger son. My younger son isn't a bad kid by any means. In fact he's probably too much of a goodie two shoes but he doesn't have the same interest the other boys do. They are outdoorsy while my younger son prefers the indoors. They like doing things that are dangerous and my younger one doesn't like taking risk. My older one and nephews are sports obsessed and my younger one couldn't care less. It's simple things and I don't blake anyone, but my son comes to me complaining because he feels like the odd one out and like no one wants him around. 

I have told him to try and get involved with what the other boys and doing and haven't had any success. He will sometimes go out with them but he comes back way before they do and complains to me. It's gotten worse since the weather has started to improve. I'm not sure what to do other than encourage him to join in. ",3.8148220640569415,4.83852851601424,4.083094306049823,90.81339590747332,71.66903914590749,6.6164412811387905,27.21725978647687,6.508806274219699,0.9525585765124558,1087,37,233,7,20,338,142,281,0.109,0.7440000000000001,0.147,0.9004,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,0,5,1,7,18,1,2,13,0,26,1,1,0,2,49,45,23,0,5,5,13,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,6,10,31,0,0,5,5,0,6,9,6,0,6,3,3,28,12,31,38,6,31,0,0,0,0,42,14,0,1,14,148,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043576031996825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276361540903323,0.0,0.0,0.2362029140358565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201247480707544,0.11077112209791758,0.08087236638503885,0.0,0.11288955883437082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526250467750014,0.0,0.0,0.3428417491438525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679313922688936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177738542673674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20124075296938448,0.0947770905408212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862571158471898,0.0,0.07539752187586797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892366770212465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14414271750496874,0.0,0.0,0.2592569211197604,0.0,0.11714709397710182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278845266066152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445128885499586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589326467668166,0.0,0.09752526211203877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4494918213766814,0.10089897538492898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430371011855284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974323455635736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13121072196480996,0.0,0.0939021468886688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503675981299556,0.0,0.0997488199908867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627567180767648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12676868178213924,0.0,0.09007195569481155,0.0,0.12959605251117684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23475070530059866,0.10530462194849838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519866360651828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,very-birdy,2019/03/23,"Recently separated with a 6 month old. Co-parenting advice?? Hi all. Just as a preface, I am not seeking legal advice of any sort. Just wondering if anyone is in my boat and may have some advice for me. Also a warning this is a little long. Thanks for reading if you have the patience. 

My ex and I split up about a month ago. We have a 6 month old baby. The reasons we split are upsetting/surrounding betrayal and came out of nowhere. There’s a lot of heartbreak but we are handling things in a pretty friendly manner and we are civil. 

Im on an 18 month maternity leave so I get ample time with her. He works full time and for the past month he works in a different province and comes back home (to his parents) on the weekends. Since the split I have never declined him having time with the baby. If he wants to see her, I help him make it happen. So last weekend he wanted her for the weekend/two nights. I said yes and felt pretty confident about it. And now he has her again this weekend for two nights. I’m doing a lot of thinking about what’s best for the baby psychologically and developmentally and a lot of the reading I’m doing says that for toddlers and babies under 3 it is not recommended to have overnights away from the mother if the mother is the primary attachment, which I am. Something about that age range where they can’t verbally communicate it can traumatize them if they are uprooted from their normal environment. Baby will not understand why I’m not there or when she will see me again. 

I’m feeling uneasy now about letting him have her for overnights on the weekends but I’m scared to bring the topic up because I know he will get mad if I threaten that time they have together. I was thinking of offering him to stay at mine next weekend instead. The reason why I’m torn is because she is generally happy with him over there so I don’t know if we are actually causing her long term damage or not. 

We are going to couple counselling for co-parenting in a couple weeks so I’m sure this will all be talked about. But I just wanted to throw this out into the world and see if anyone is doing what I’m doing or doing something different? Any ideas I should consider or big warnings against what I’m doing now?? 

Thank you so much ",3.6255655206776254,5.356756103139016,4.851532137518685,82.34547957149977,73.17040358744393,7.4667663178873935,26.962879920279022,8.167268648758528,1.786646437468859,1786,65,343,28,36,590,208,446,0.087,0.807,0.106,0.9339,5,0,2,0,0,0,38.0,6,2,5,3,27,10,1,1,29,1,42,0,0,4,4,79,76,35,0,13,23,4,2,0,1,6,0,3,1,0,16,27,0,0,11,7,0,5,8,4,0,1,4,8,45,6,52,64,10,63,0,2,3,0,44,21,0,19,36,248,61,5,0.0,0.0,0.08306149331145098,0.0,0.0,0.2495247789151084,0.07545070294223552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806768962515282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157643716341044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903096846535732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996981861505034,0.06544938777069062,0.0,0.10377254110299568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932458808422558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735067983441983,0.0,0.08743816299064094,0.0,0.0733203876164288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883597297194734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785739731925726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043037494846481526,0.0,0.08172525447771394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576085021124077,0.0,0.08893978868422578,0.0,0.048373707779713115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526830102815267,0.09060817063317632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05705184214416027,0.0,0.08537885887300085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608624618500082,0.0919405007959695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935556808665306,0.06938136424260342,0.0,0.09012615690410612,0.0,0.08703745881524816,0.0,0.0,0.08530916324801617,0.0,0.15065097053227794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170891899702786,0.0,0.0,0.056815970871710135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33969616731853924,0.0,0.0625704719886509,0.0,0.06564714542520729,0.0,0.09052243695424307,0.15975226845043625,0.0833961658421009,0.0,0.0,0.17863104242231634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451187721265132,0.0,0.08125339642725282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318830163943502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702792058740748,0.0,0.0,0.17502801853269004,0.0840423435303718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096534879276977,0.06768811214452443,0.08521653445933125,0.0,0.20348065668228624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040930559985506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310537867552641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072293763088753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022135914326285,0.0,0.0,0.06841347415224225,0.0,0.15672780226690933,0.0,0.0,0.0565476664520613,0.10907852135412098,0.0,0.0,0.1985286239234242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629304034424816,0.08860935031820187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506118733980205,0.0,0.0682753776475765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360892930732936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230528845094277,0.123931752199666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,svellis,2019/03/23,Today is my Sons first birthday and my first reddit cake day! I have a 5 year old daughter and as of today a 1 year old son and my wife is 3 months pregnant! I feel so blessed! I'm also grateful for being able to read the advice of some of you wonderful parents and will continue to enjoy it as I'll continue to need the motivation and advice! ,5.232500000000002,4.6048994722222245,6.835555555555558,78.11500000000002,68.16666666666667,9.422222222222222,31.88888888888889,8.841846274778883,2.5130722222222226,270,10,55,4,4,94,49,72,0.0,0.759,0.241,0.961,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,3,2,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,9,9,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,6,2,9,7,1,12,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,12,35,7,2,0.20726420272543927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40507236023512394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574910803703982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366826421822836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479900849046918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525976499145832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16543630919960878,0.0,0.0,0.1536837800857365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349778303373563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301423690619059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20732029136224706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929244588332029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22476918655678685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.266942702262735
parenting,KoalaT_02,2019/03/23,QUOKKA ACTIVITY BOARDS fro KIDS! ( Now on KICKSTARTER) Coolest wooden boards finally on KIck! Check out the video. NOW live! Back project now and surprise your little ones with awesome presents! [http://kck.st/2CnOWXy](http://kck.st/2CnOWXy),10.293214285714283,14.47604725,3.5241071428571433,77.93875000000003,92.125,5.578571428571429,32.69642857142857,6.868970318607317,3.0009053571428566,200,9,23,3,7,47,28,32,0.0,0.809,0.191,0.7966,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,6,12,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38281189687101264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5453646094575261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4989712465740815,0.43960605154528337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373524994754449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrdenver,2019/03/23,"Kicked out of Karate Hi, My five year old has been going to Karate for a year. The last month of classes he has been goofing around and not paying attention. Today, he got kicked out of class after several warnings from the instructor. He won't listen to me or the teachers. Not sure if I stop taking him or do an alternative form of punishment like making him go and not participate.",5.38283783783784,6.4345764729729735,5.968486486486487,78.63191891891893,68.05405405405405,9.163243243243244,28.313513513513517,9.3871,2.4023978378378383,305,10,57,6,5,99,55,74,0.095,0.8490000000000001,0.056,-0.4541,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,15,12,5,0,1,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,0,1,2,4,1,0,1,3,1,5,2,12,8,1,13,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,3,9,38,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25918270954975553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309312942711268,0.0,0.23285698996551446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373238037867582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223980165449246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434299786847128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323908947017089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055099804165161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32891343221224284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434120722033249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744027636910068,0.0,0.2189064393651318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759734757750772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37497846580994426
parenting,Mami11223,2019/03/23,"Boyfriends frustration led to him yelling at my 7 y.o. How as a parent was I wrong? A huge argument arose when my daughter grabbed a juice right after my boyfriend said for us to have tea for dinner. I explained to him she doesn’t like tea and told her to ask if she may have a juice. This is where things went so bad.. 

a little bit on my daughter. She’s very stubborn yet very caring to others- in her own special way. She wants love and attention and pretty much goes to the beat of her own drum. She’ll argue till she turns blue yet at times will just look at you with a blank face and not respond. When she gets into her no respond face I acknowledge her and explain to her if we do not communicate we cannot understand one another. After some cuddles and more talking on my end she’ll open up.

Well He flipped on HER, my daughter 7 years old, and yelled saying “if you’re going to be like that to me I will talk to you the same since you want to disrespect me like your mother does.” 

I was livid and responded for him to not talk to my daughter like that, she is a child. He then smashed his cup on the table, mumbled some stuff, gruffed and ran upstairs slamming the bedroom door behind him. 

Now the problem lies is this, he saw no problem yelling and talking to a 7year old like that. To him it’s he had a rough day- he watched my two kids (7&6) for 4 hours while I worked, and since she’s been disrespecting him all day he will do the same. Mind you, my kids have manners and have in every way shown him respect. Yes they’re children occasionally will test you but they say yes sir no sir, they ask prior to grabbing, they listen when said no. They’re children you know. 

My boyfriend isn’t their biological father though they see him as dad. Their bio dad is uninvolved. To my boyfriend he says they are not his kids so he has no obligation to them. That as their dad I make it seem to be some great honor when it’s not, if they were to be his (boyfriends) bio-kids then it’d be that, but he’s only here for them because he loves me. And I understand they are not his I don’t expect anything but for so long we’ve seen us as a family, we call him daddy, we share a life, he’s integrated into our life as their father. 

Am I completely wrong for making this groundS to break up? We share a life, we share a home, we have everything together. It makes me so sad. And What I’m scared of is boyfriend has abused me while under the influence a year ago, he’s then become sober and has been better but I fear if he’s snapped and laid a hand on me is this recent outburst a red flag that he will do the same to her when she frustrates him?? Am I completely wrong for thinking that what he did was wrong, how he sees my children is wrong? I feel he’s being disrespectful to me as a mother and to my children. ",3.0215143664625543,4.261704336787563,3.7672613440100484,91.49095796043336,73.853195164076,6.921667451719265,25.248900926362065,7.348242739294969,0.9166680483592398,2197,70,492,24,44,698,253,579,0.122,0.778,0.1,-0.9501,1,0,0,0,3,0,61.0,10,7,13,4,19,32,4,2,25,2,48,12,3,7,1,76,81,50,0,10,16,12,5,5,0,8,3,9,3,10,21,28,3,1,10,1,0,4,15,15,1,2,15,22,96,17,60,52,12,57,0,1,8,3,127,21,0,10,34,321,117,3,0.0,0.09698820666452332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256207486317465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886929827710013,0.0,0.0,0.08583512836230793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06736206352765184,0.0,0.15305214248370336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834791366947622,0.04989980611593713,0.09040560128091732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239664600752721,0.08936760797617449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358605150072063,0.0,0.08345956795709576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716528672610753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558312608395637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163438564180624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250178823630267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06896879750476044,0.0,0.07356858762774714,0.0,0.07716832757153873,0.09211287699004768,0.04138980554448572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042767365664973266,0.0,0.046521721712893496,0.0,0.0,0.09024860574456224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08211013161823236,0.0,0.08061352641306331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044986952103744884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734559322122299,0.19995813583124192,0.08204310428832602,0.0,0.07244165114235035,0.06874000585916022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775987193868426,0.0,0.16392231898647555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265312746057878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017496319604381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717921578949175,0.0,0.05546902048249017,0.06225660919866565,0.0,0.0,0.09089349260289846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327889614632136,0.0,0.15665387907251455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082478472859662,0.0,0.0,0.06990618540166707,0.1557311852991448,0.19529002391952066,0.08195402179025855,0.0,0.1304602702393371,0.07452034293818062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13542737455772333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937076924903021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631770647324749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05438274060314177,0.05245122658778775,0.08042495510367341,0.0,0.04773199025939959,0.0,0.0,0.07821871580193951,0.0,0.0,0.0890378713644105,0.07996325794288707,0.17043388757528588,0.19692991035127533,0.0,0.0,0.1350826537796494,0.09656380132209927,0.1299499557939046,0.0,0.0,0.07360006816791749,0.07588307827346942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959351424413732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.447493727709174,0.0,0.10542758655182276
parenting,visalviswambaran,2019/03/23,"LEARNING VEGETABLES FOR KIDS Hello, 😁

Here is my new video... from my channel... 

Please watch my video and like 👍 comment your suggestions and share it with all your friends and family...

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[https://youtu.be/IpiqsFq4BFY](https://youtu.be/IpiqsFq4BFY)",10.733714285714283,15.755534942857144,6.020000000000002,64.37000000000003,71.0,7.371428571428572,29.857142857142854,8.238735603445708,3.042257142857143,213,8,26,4,5,56,29,35,0.0,0.742,0.258,0.8442,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,3,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,2,15,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3833392777581922,0.4299025017650388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3335286516799066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27334295273028675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284751279440466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416996824713582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38836324375664333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4299025017650388,0.0
parenting,stephanieshannon,2019/03/23,"How To Talk To Your Kids About Head Lice  Great little interview with useful information about talking to your kids about head lice!   
[https://licecaresolutions.com/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-head-lice](https://licecaresolutions.com/how-to-talk-to-your-kids-about-head-lice)

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parenting,Penelopeslueth,2019/03/23,"Teens learning to drive and I'm very anxious about it! I have 3 kids-10, 15, and 16. My older 2 are getting ready to get their permits this coming week and while I am very excited for them, the idea of them driving on the road is a source of great anxiety for me. I lost my stepbrother years ago when he was 16, fell asleep at the wheel and flipped his car. Killed him instantly. 

So for those of you who have crossed this point, how did you keep your calm? I've allowed them to practice with me in the vehicle on our property and they have done well, but there was literally nothing that could possibly hurt them, no traffic or things like that. 

Any advice is appreciated.",4.743333333333332,5.701285454545456,4.9693939393939415,85.55742424242428,69.45454545454545,8.593939393939394,30.57575757575757,8.841846274778883,2.2349939393939398,528,21,110,9,9,166,100,132,0.103,0.775,0.121,0.3699,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,3,6,1,6,8,1,0,5,0,12,1,1,3,0,16,18,11,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,1,2,0,0,6,1,3,1,0,5,0,19,5,15,12,0,18,0,2,0,0,14,6,0,1,7,73,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047403054545936,0.1857266444758096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248063606454034,0.0,0.16028205925987232,0.23669771550257795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048273949270574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728449663653192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21441148004607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893087630151387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23099629861968485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22429525933753508,0.23652233032049216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623080852559865,0.2318025951371171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023607819197631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287155916121183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20103988099508907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980639161638381,0.2362020725582597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391956328242457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34575152461791364,0.0,0.0,0.16806413056895192,0.0,0.18838344575721952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492386982025426
parenting,ahoward777,2019/03/23,"Babymoon? My wife and I are expecting (July) and are taking a short trip away for a babymoon. My question to all of you wise parents: what are some things we should discuss and do while we’re away for our final kid-free vacation? I know that’s a broad question, but we’ve discussed the basics like religion, discipline, school, and work/family goals/values. 

What would you have wanted to ask your SO on your babymoon?

Thanks in advance everyone.",3.7891867469879514,6.354487120481932,4.094804216867471,84.1838930722892,75.3855421686747,7.041566265060243,27.24246987951807,8.07648339933343,2.003555421686747,353,14,62,6,8,110,63,83,0.0,0.877,0.123,0.8654,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,4,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,16,12,7,0,4,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,3,9,10,2,10,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,3,3,43,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21758094885727933,0.0,0.43733472021839465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22239352061858267,0.0,0.0,0.21940702903303094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549558403304485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279080915312509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370525160868468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584307810992783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5214452479715874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355458103563289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499189029547865,0.0,0.0,0.2142761817579731,0.0,0.0,0.15462244578707274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727637637718995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943785515919615,0.0,0.0,0.16533217280063245,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Extra_Guy,2019/03/23,"Nephew (18m) posting snaps of drinking and driving. His mother (38f) asked me (31m, uncle) to have a chat. What should I do? I know I'm not his parent or guardian, but he doesn't have a father figure aside from me - so, while I know I'm violating rule #1, I do hope that an exception could be made as this is a fatherly chat- if not, I totally understand and appreciate the time all the same.

Details: I'm an EMT, as the kids were growing up, I explained (not in graphic detail, they're kids) some of the accidents I'd seen due to drinking and driving.  
I've offered him rides if he does drink.  I know he's underage, but I was his age and in college, but I never drove.
I've talked about the legal ramifications if he does get caught, not to mention the worst case scenario (see: I'm an EMT.)

I know he's an adult and can make his own decisions, but...is there any way I can help steer him towards better ones?
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parenting,brendalee1229,2019/03/23,"I’m at the end of my rope. I love my son, more than anything in this world. But they don’t give you a manual on how to handle them. Much less how to handle a deaf child. A little background my son lost his hearing between 2-3 and he was a tough kid to handle. He was just awful. A great baby but then became something out of a horror film. He has since started school, learned ASL, and is still learning correct behavior like not screaming at me if I don’t understand what he wants. 


My 6 year old son just threw the biggest tantrum I have ever seen. In front of so many people at his soccer game all because I told him if he didn’t listen to me, he will be disciplined. He screamed at the top of his lungs, and when I went to grab him he run away. I was so embarrassed, I’m standing there alone with my twin one year olds, while my 6 year old screams at me like I’m trying to kidnap him. My parents and sister arrive and I take my chance to grab and take him to the restroom to have a stern talk and calm him down. But this makes it worse. I tell him it’s time to go home, he’s not going to play. We head to the parking lot and he’s SCREAMING the entire way. And  I have people just staring at me like “poor lady” or “wow having a deaf child must suck”. I had to walk away. I told my parents we have to leave I can’t do this. My sister talks to my son to calm him down. But my parents are insistent that he go play his game. IM TRYING TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON THREATS. Bad behavior means no game! I’m in tears at how embarrassed and overwhelmed I am. I don’t know what to do. Ever since finding out he was deaf at age 3 it’s been quite a journey. Mostly with ups! The older he got the easier he became to handle. He just turned 6, It’s like he was 2 all over again. My heart hurts because I’m so mad I don’t even want him around me. I left. I’m sitting on a park bench with my twins just crying. I’m so angry, I’m embarrassed , and I’m just  tired. I’m a SAHM Tuesday through fridays, work at a nightclub Friday’s and Saturdays and I cut hair a hair salon Sundays and Mondays. And for fun I’m a travel agent, plus dealing with therapies, soccer practices, PTA. My husband works a lot and helps when he can. But on top of that I’m having to be a housemaid and a wife. I’m exhausted. I’m at a loss on what to do right now.
Sorry this got so long. If you’re still reading my rant, thanks for reading. 


TLDR; I feel defeated. ",0.36914766518540176,2.2849045328185333,2.32247031397975,95.81944452538794,83.7876447876448,4.9905150433452325,20.1982953303708,6.065201188426455,-0.08659019450717631,1860,54,431,14,53,619,239,518,0.2,0.7,0.1,-0.9959,3,1,1,0,0,0,60.0,2,1,2,8,25,33,5,4,26,1,31,11,5,4,6,67,74,39,0,6,17,11,5,4,0,2,5,9,1,3,13,27,0,1,7,11,1,11,9,20,0,1,16,16,56,13,64,54,8,74,0,5,2,1,62,34,1,7,30,254,69,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976957572965962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776242222757408,0.08397226004431556,0.0,0.0,0.1772492426933821,0.0,0.07876026007701943,0.115003414046835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361529989422334,0.0,0.097248421385949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354694958436391,0.0,0.0,0.06230300763297609,0.17065084645499232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047695264920380384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621443356559777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048838069547774,0.16082698233002088,0.0,0.1508860506049077,0.1039973757561016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968081351534264,0.0,0.10631494372013657,0.11177958855529137,0.06322632706591906,0.0,0.09461905966119356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098048542345824,0.0,0.10189084095201953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184041264079916,0.0,0.0,0.09988013812445537,0.10248806461366616,0.0,0.0,0.18433633376133787,0.09454182116696212,0.0,0.08347765100733835,0.0,0.0,0.10297057340007776,0.1603892367793446,0.08513504888471192,0.0,0.06296492842116183,0.0956341753875918,0.0,0.1027512628843365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934221539467518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29694531204919616,0.0,0.06391935385980194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142215204109442,0.0,0.0,0.1307908480587116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032984690354038,0.18870782008957832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055592406014449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546535999796488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605882709595742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261859804349617,0.0,0.1055929024877137,0.06676611530760211,0.0,0.15066153773557106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184641007632665,0.1516351630341956,0.08244716482236615,0.08684490205777344,0.10787272726901537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055003638955302726,0.10841660050378196,0.0,0.18026962547073272,0.0,0.12808556096232762,0.10260219411052747,0.0,0.09819917383492738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111274649039517,0.07487348015346916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744335648876399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373443731865645,0.0,0.0961286814292822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822331587823361
parenting,asrmar,2019/03/23,"Parent's social life I was wondering if other parents could help me with this issue. I'm 31, male, if it matters. 

My whole life, I've always felt very guilty when I got out with friends on weekends or whenever and leave my parents alone at home (specifically my mom). My parents don't really have friends, and only spend time with relatives (if that). My mom is incredibly social and talkative while my dad is more reserved (but nice and pleasant in social situations). I hate to say this but my dad is just a weak person and doesn't want to do anything except watch tv. I know my mom wants to go and do exciting and social things but my dad isn't a strong enough person to plan things.

I've tried to tell my dad to plan weekly trips to the even the movies or something, but he never shows any interest, or is willing to go if someone else plans it but doesn't show much interest in doing it himself. 

I feel a burden to be the source of my parent's social life, entertainment, and general happiness. With retrospection, it's actually diminished my own happiness is some ways. I don't know what to do. ",5.255119047619047,5.964235120370373,6.160476190476192,78.37500000000001,68.16666666666666,9.504761904761905,29.780423280423285,9.606745405546679,2.6352589947089946,870,31,168,18,14,288,121,216,0.113,0.762,0.125,0.6071,5,1,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,4,3,14,1,0,6,0,19,4,0,0,1,39,31,22,0,7,14,12,2,0,2,1,4,1,1,3,11,13,0,0,5,5,1,3,6,3,0,0,3,4,20,11,21,25,6,15,0,0,1,0,27,5,0,9,6,108,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0915215289683133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713392858591044,0.0,0.0,0.07803739832838424,0.0,0.0,0.06377764153771022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717782093830337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488042555107782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834610166799931,0.0,0.0,0.09690592573660266,0.0,0.06194471552880609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474209790154697,0.0,0.09004919062891108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449175380226221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660139906864377,0.0,0.0750091675914457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19967371119312372,0.0,0.09259417926893557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286272513683018,0.0,0.09407492442168304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788813395110768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308457764503054,0.0,0.0,0.09930574747763113,0.0,0.0,0.19873130625617905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32952280739849243,0.0,0.0,0.06894344221813888,0.0,0.07233348308814833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132841818285726,0.0,0.0,0.5206908257556485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378049540049258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060081661766077626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745823277365938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10541930336010163,0.0,0.4780146726146559,0.0794645055215114,0.07220098304731246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197302770941847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461439559910653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05468732405676047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367448329219555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738320591230873,0.11063473084519784,0.07444289778241013,0.07522940780470838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047086301971212,0.0,0.0,0.10170682941149137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dalenia,2019/03/23,"He makes me go crazy💆🏻‍♀️ Hi everyone. I am 1 month pregnant. My husband has a very bad temper and he get annoyed easily. Now that we are starting a family, I am hoping that he can tone down a little bit. I’m afraid he will keep losing his cool in front of our child in the future.

Also, he only want a baby girl. He said he will not love the baby if the baby is a boy:( I am so upset when he said that. Any suggestion on how to talk to him?

Thanks everyone.",-0.6780481283422475,1.1267246176470636,2.7185204991087346,92.08788770053478,87.13725490196077,5.6698752228164,16.13547237076649,6.980632752743323,-0.11479607843137266,349,7,82,5,11,127,75,102,0.175,0.716,0.109,-0.8444,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,1,5,10,2,2,8,1,9,1,0,2,0,9,21,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,2,3,9,4,7,17,1,12,0,1,0,1,22,5,0,2,5,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733611351682732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741974488226306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100459167339286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366706827187236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142905307516382,0.0,0.0,0.20436354048423488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326007106186615,0.0,0.12320266692128914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21531424483414946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268652246628992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21727332692465265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425245139602265,0.0,0.0,0.19565495016652296,0.0,0.14470420929884908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17303397104546991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487309592899868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41242019093954896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343998898750874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424181142553952,0.0,0.1995844861420112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178868521925807,0.12786411823235366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,concernedmom1969,2019/03/23,"I found my 19 year ole daughter wearing diapers, now she isn't talking to me So this is my third subreddit I've been directed to for help.

I have a transgender daughter, Jessica, who is a sweet and lovely girl. She's 19 and been on hormones for a year now, and she well, well she looks like a girl. Right now she's taking a gap year before she goes to university. In regards to her transition, I haven't been the greatest to her in the past, I admit, but she's my daughter and I love her. 

Lately however, Jessica has been very withdrawn. She constantly goes to Walgreens and is very secretive about what she buys. I don't mind as long as she isn't doing drugs. But, she spends all day coped up in her room and I never see her besides at meals. I'm worried about her. It feels like she never leaves her room. And honestly? Her room smells awful. It has this ammonia scent to it that doesn't seem to go away. What's really weird though, is when I ask Jessica to come out of her room, she's always shuffling and wearing sweat pants. I don't mind if you're having a lazy day at home, but everyday?? I don't know.

But the issue is, what happened a few days ago. I had came home from work and when I opened the front door, I see her half asleep on the couch, wearing an adult diaper, a shirt that says 'baby girl', and sucking on a pacifier. Her hair was in pigtails, which was cute I guess, but just strange. I kind of cough, and she looks up at me, terrified. She ran to her room sobbing. I knocked on her door, but she just yelled at me to go away when crying. She's been up there two days and isn't leaving her room for meals now. I've tried to call her, I've texted her saying I love and accept her no matter what, but she doesn't respond. I've been leaving her meals on plates by her door, and I find empty plates around an hour later, so I assume she's eating. 

I don't know what to do. And I have so many questions? Is she healthy, does she need diapers? Is this just a fetish? Is she a pedophile? Is this just a cope? Does she want to actually be a baby? Please help me reddit, I don't know what to do.


Tl;dr I found my transgender daughter on the couch wearing a diaper. She ran up to her room and isn't talking to me.",1.5384058418183706,3.3075298142548597,3.032395865473621,92.95641648668108,79.1511879049676,6.396564846240872,21.822945592923993,7.35660576581511,0.5826949912578421,1716,50,389,23,42,562,191,463,0.076,0.81,0.114,0.937,1,0,1,0,0,0,67.0,0,0,0,1,21,15,1,0,22,1,39,17,8,0,3,55,68,33,0,3,12,4,2,2,0,0,2,3,14,4,17,21,4,0,13,0,2,7,15,3,2,3,14,12,76,12,50,53,3,62,0,1,4,3,68,31,2,5,26,255,93,1,0.0,0.0,0.09472282582321163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604352640564646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807670388910938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640969481174611,0.09074400151917826,0.0,0.18239419730593606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259637579940972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911566948722893,0.1110181279206032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361412766129363,0.0,0.10489431864948327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066229066237152,0.2503992482113028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16988695993452335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256623291225124,0.0993231823133539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04907969945742148,0.0693442712356577,0.0,0.0,0.0887169511555283,0.0,0.0,0.212856643112038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103301689811784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069296071427739,0.0,0.08583551636334315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012315312105374,0.0,0.19473107105568727,0.0,0.09559087307872532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101312125867349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010797414771727,0.16003550099196162,0.0,0.1094951518750128,0.3083379766794837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09484350150053894,0.0,0.0,0.08590072892332322,0.1630226952693887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628187066072317,0.0,0.0,0.09841011667964764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19601883128545444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197352195153994,0.14972721712542805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926608830455734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10654978280132868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087366072779192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06218323542876636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289419398312943,0.0,0.1543822293906168,0.0,0.0,0.1546987421238007,0.08836562498315867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298186924091782,0.15603662630491735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536726673244274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590172889657303,0.0,0.09481978994211612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017992745315976,0.05725229057021025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454874108285728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066551123489137,0.09857566320617253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875227798638736
parenting,espectro11,2019/03/23,"So wife is pregnant, this would be our 2nd child My son is about to turn 2 and we just found out that my wife is pregnant, my main concern here is that my son will feel like he's being neglected or that we don't love him anymore? I am stressing myself out here I don't know what am going to do if my son ever feels that way, I love him alot and i do not want him to feel bad about having a little brother or sister around, what do I do? ",3.016941580756012,2.7969909175257754,4.339742268041238,92.74335910652924,72.81443298969073,6.879037800687286,23.38316151202749,5.46131890053228,0.16548934707903795,337,7,83,1,6,112,59,97,0.177,0.7979999999999999,0.025,-0.9351,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,8,6,0,1,2,0,17,2,0,0,1,22,27,6,0,3,5,7,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,5,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,3,17,3,8,22,2,7,0,1,0,2,17,4,0,4,2,63,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448211912834137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197598957605784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611981308431526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22330119618438365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744631777795828,0.1763585654542768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27067190668916363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14029760484268522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356691325458567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120604511153148,0.24742100252752802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44560595269443504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827800733095592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685154296268403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456058540094907,0.19594790214142835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536398360148464,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sam_Playtime,2019/03/23,"WATERPARK Family Fun Outdoor Amusement of Giant Slides at Kids Playtime  WATERPARK Family Fun Outdoor Amusement of Giant Slides at Kids Playtime with Sams Review Kid Playtime at the Fun Valley pool, There were many children and there family! This is such a beautiful and fantastic play center for kids and adult also.. Big Slides, train, Disco Dance and Bumper Car etc, there is lot of toys and games for Kids children and for their family member also... ",10.420769230769233,10.271969666666667,8.958589743589744,65.56557692307696,57.46153846153847,11.902564102564106,36.16666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.351682051282051,366,13,52,8,4,112,46,78,0.0,0.733,0.267,0.9753,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,6,6,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,7,0,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,10,2,2,12,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,0,31,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3596943668464435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508156065899645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8480379899407484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19119633991198834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280066252795274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Terr0rBytes,2019/03/23,"The amount of times I have to say that's not true My son is 5 and at that age asking all the right and sometimes awkward questions. It's great. I love interacting with him in this way as he discovers the world.

What I have noticed and do not like is the amount of times I have to explain, reinforce and correct things that are not true.

""Person A said pink is only for girls and blue is only for boys.""

""There was a film on TV at mummys house that said football is only for boys, girls are not allowed.""

And so on. I guess I'm just having a mild rant at realising there is still a long way to go to change bias like this.",2.497,3.6787000846153854,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,75.07692307692308,6.430769230769231,22.23076923076923,6.742157984588678,0.2991384615384618,481,12,111,4,10,155,78,130,0.109,0.8270000000000001,0.064,-0.2462,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,1,8,0,14,1,0,1,4,20,22,8,0,0,5,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,5,9,7,0,0,2,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,3,5,7,6,17,19,3,16,0,0,2,1,16,8,0,2,7,71,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646198179304132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19967950103156876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10727475063938627,0.0,0.0,0.20810486629339425,0.20793672389218326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21779982413375348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844339235077623,0.0,0.0,0.1670436900457033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17036024069093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21490069017570412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306738002082337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16481502078945012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114506401798692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119714256052878,0.3591015864125197,0.15010685938363966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668514733365424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074129966293234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540152691020456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201310340231701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996524760932658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,born_again_tim,2019/03/23,"4yo won't put toys away - am I not being patient enough? Just looking for some tips. Our 4yo would rather sit and cry all day instead of putting a few toys away. It's starting to creep into other areas of our life because it becomes ""clean up your toys so we can join your friend for a picnic etc"", but then just crying and no action and then we end up not wanting to reward the bad behaviour so we stay home amidst hours of wailing. I've tried explaining and demonstrating and telling our 4yo we can clean up together, I've tried asking why he doesn't want to clean (he always says he's too tired) but...none of these approaches work! When I get really frustrated, I take a prized toy and put it on the mantle, but this only makes the crying worse. This form of discipline helps for other behaviour we want to curb, so it's weird it doesn't work with cleaning.

I don't feel he is too young to learn to clean up after himself. This has been going on for several months. Cleanup time wasn't a problem before that, but nothing has changed in our approach.

Any critique / advice please!",4.031471962616823,5.424039098130844,4.293539719626172,88.10236565420561,71.57009345794394,7.219158878504674,25.99182242990654,7.6454224807358475,1.273683177570093,853,27,172,10,16,266,132,214,0.152,0.721,0.127,-0.8042,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,9,2,0,4,10,7,1,0,7,0,14,2,0,1,1,34,26,15,0,6,8,0,1,0,1,2,2,1,6,0,12,13,0,2,3,4,0,7,8,4,0,0,2,3,16,3,27,21,6,31,0,0,1,0,22,11,0,1,11,106,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584907909858406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716102702074366,0.0,0.0,0.08757951590572174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039837701465315,0.0,0.2419990849520121,0.0,0.10753169141710994,0.07850730570915593,0.14223502514399985,0.10958817582492872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623947551202606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4243991237492589,0.0830569034471072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406697734061932,0.13307130617850352,0.14363144926782362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511853191521028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950044812150896,0.0,0.06728584561700275,0.0,0.07319256952912143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632315186416491,0.0,0.12918377257407376,0.0,0.12682916538191086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090966004060304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814856959355364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596626327114354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279648381911033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357451469628665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794824932624496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136935451135646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323168096381767,0.0,0.38839925081139387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08250419309050706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241652091243633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549255191642946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115603860824563,0.1372697116928394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683172949172933,0.0,0.11256543689958047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509668359621763,0.14802160910164874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487571781656902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22788557093444345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621015583320335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875168103931044,0.0,0.13124486508397554,0.09148652663776803,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mcfarlie,2019/03/23,"Typical timing This weekend my fiancé and I are supposed to be having a night away.. My best friend booked it for us as she knows I've been having a hard time, and we struggle to afford a break with the cost of hotel etc.  My mum is booked to stay with our 3 year old - they adore each other so this is not a problem in anyway.

At the beginning of the week I said no one was allowed to get ill. LO has some sniffles but nothing more than that yet.

Wednesday he decides he wants to wear pants (we have tried potty training a couple of times and it's always been a disaster as he gets so upset, had to roll with it while he was enthusiastic) and we've had several pretty disastrous days of potty training.

And then Friday LO and my mum have come down with bad colds (I've got a sore throat but OK really).  So far everyone is still up for following through on plans.

And then today.  It's Saturday morning and we've been up since 4am with LO who has now got a bad cough and is feeling awful.  Somehow I don't think we're going anywhere tonight :(

Feeling so disappointed but almost like it was inevitable.  Something always comes up.  Not sure what the point of me writing this was but wanted to get it out - not that this really conveys how disappointed I am, I think I'm just trying to pretend it's not happening. :(",2.892613636363638,4.607100609848487,4.242272727272732,86.0209090909091,75.09848484848484,6.921212121212123,25.25757575757576,7.686295010490155,1.3130666666666664,1027,35,207,14,22,339,158,264,0.2,0.722,0.078,-0.9908,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,4,0,1,2,11,13,0,2,12,2,23,5,2,2,1,45,43,23,0,3,9,2,3,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,16,20,0,0,6,5,1,4,6,7,0,1,12,5,16,6,33,30,5,37,0,2,0,0,16,11,0,3,21,138,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050060874678216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23349900384829375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318262498024473,0.0,0.23430666470896094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14724711980371696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417299901619772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552508009443428,0.0,0.09048860745739827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648319756599333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407261051155794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418903192419162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840347542737627,0.0,0.2199191958325335,0.0,0.0797416399846493,0.0,0.22443810643699774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407603300072598,0.0,0.12569056841745688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711093241136982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854857942644604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167181576732634,0.0,0.13463162347741295,0.0,0.14723217351654747,0.0,0.095077965706286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263869065900966,0.0,0.0,0.1427461304162881,0.0,0.1342581139224812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17977288418681853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346733155262172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585108265771671,0.0,0.11606622184680696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801780927826624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955222915424266,0.11205207541285464,0.0,0.0,0.14668290615751073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224090179343412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981049167221355,0.0,0.0,0.24544838687435766,0.0,0.13299786349331408,0.0,0.0,0.19052311760468613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16877614838025684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655174313645822,0.0,0.1125485482523272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903553043796304
parenting,Tbone4201991,2019/03/23,"15 yr old smoking pot. Heres the situation....

I'm watching my niece and while putting some of her laundry away I found a grinder full of pot.

Little back story...

My sister is active military deployed overseas. About 8 months ago her husband was killed by a drunk driver, so when she got deployed a few months later, she had no one to watch her daughter, so I volunteered. 

My niece Amy is amazing! But since her dad died she has become more introverted. And I can understand that. She was probably closer to him than I was and I knew him since he was 10. But I'm also worried that shes relying too much on it to deal with the loss.

Now I smoke pot, but it's for medical purposes. And I've never done it around her.

I know I need to talk to her about it. I'm just not 100% sure how to bring this up.... any help would be appreciated. ",1.1568704799474077,3.384363467455625,2.9438560157790934,90.6792422748192,82.96449704142013,6.122419460881,22.40664036817883,7.3871296695380915,0.8386683760683762,642,22,139,10,18,213,114,169,0.086,0.84,0.07400000000000001,0.3609,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,13,4,1,0,5,0,13,2,0,1,2,21,23,13,2,2,5,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,4,1,0,2,3,2,0,1,9,2,24,2,18,12,5,19,0,1,2,0,21,7,0,1,10,93,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604586319984275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144757410264387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309622032804078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16114148269014367,0.0,0.0,0.17006929287268965,0.13918915023044673,0.0,0.0,0.1999165422692906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661823324914212,0.0,0.0,0.18786470611530973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852409107484391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847330294504165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477401167304174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213303546085021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026597376140973,0.0,0.0994809589714352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814243088256856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823532918242434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889684531886841,0.0,0.13306665077038946,0.13422012503307887,0.1396097152016605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994450403916074,0.0,0.12266026242629036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516448947143125,0.0,0.0,0.1819697953289774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29947450231607403,0.20346813523311005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17060423618633966,0.0,0.0,0.14549277932019908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18844271265720866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18382924000383813,0.0,0.12858766714551026,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,intjish_mom,2019/03/23,"what should be expected of a step parent? So, I am ""single"" mother to a 5 year old. i am currently pregnant with my new husbands child, we are due soon, but the 5 year old lives with us and he will have a little sister soon.

Me and the husband has been married for a year, but since day one I've had issues with how much he wanted to do for my son. Now, my sons father is involved in his life. he sees him every week and speaks to him every day. However, my husband has been saying how he's going to be the boy's primary father figure since he lives in the house, hes talked about how I can't show him how to be a man so of course that's going to be his job,  he's exchanged contact information with my son's father and have been talking about parenting things without really letting me know what they are saying, he's constantly suggesting programs or things to get my son involved in, etc. 

I want to say, dude, slow your role. None of this is your responsibility. You are overstepping your boundaries.The other day we had an argument because he took it upon himself to show my son how to ""groom"" himself when it came to brushing his hair.  While its not that I don't teach him grooming skills, i see this particular topic of self care as he can focus when he's a bit older, and its not something he should be showing the boy since yeah, he's not the kids mother or father. After all, at 4 I'm trying to get him to master a lot of other skills and brushing ones hair by himself is not high on my priority list. I just do that for him in the morning for now. 

I get hubby means well, but a lot of this I feel like he's really going over board. He was married in the past to a woman which according to him wasn't really there for her son, so in that case he had to step up and parent the kid while his wife was strung out on drugs (this is what he's telling me, idk her like that so i'm just going by what he tells me). Now that they are no longer together, i feel as though he's acting as if my son doesn't have a mother or father in his life and is trying too hard. I was raised by a single mom myself, and when she had new relationships the men never really got involved with me as parents and I preferred it that way. Sure, they were civil, and friendly, but they never tried to be my father. Of course, i was older than 5, so i know that makes a difference.

my question is, how much is too much. when should i just step back? i feel like he's getting way too involved, but after talking with him tonight he says he's doing all of this so that my son isn't going to feel left out after his sister is born. it's a constant argument between us because i ask him to know his boundaries and he always quips that ""i don't want him to do anything"" or ""i don't want him to have any sort of relationship with the boy"" which isn't true, but still. i just think he needs to step back. 

what should i expect of him in this situation? what can be done when he's doing too much? is he even doing too much or is this like normal? anyone have any advise on the situation? ",4.94476388888889,4.363858337500002,5.982708333333335,83.83368055555556,68.75,8.673611111111112,27.309027777777786,7.8897218956490685,1.4275225694444449,2376,61,521,25,36,794,244,640,0.025,0.917,0.058,0.9629,7,1,2,0,1,0,68.0,4,4,4,3,40,9,0,0,26,1,66,5,2,7,6,86,99,48,0,14,21,28,7,4,1,5,3,5,0,10,35,24,0,0,13,3,1,12,17,0,1,2,17,16,77,9,76,69,14,75,0,0,2,0,125,20,0,10,45,365,112,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05895426303222875,0.0,0.0,0.09636312679126748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049541133184605166,0.0,0.05830488526417274,0.0,0.06623674468705228,0.0,0.0,0.10896111753782224,0.0,0.08638103757317002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735167030988452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810354323327629,0.07223799686508094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313096374838034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708039205844869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402491235736675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250585485814245,0.0,0.0,0.08216544019404141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901833787199859,0.04679685805739536,0.0,0.1193911710757592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432989274378176,0.10123289060324778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547398224285828,0.0,0.14806828755319215,0.0,0.20133317662162936,0.0,0.0566665507915348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346917724726082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07485867656688401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817533113787188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395073285764077,0.07030934723929733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11681467030995718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769805438696732,0.07245063019832082,0.10008925594421267,0.1384581832175334,0.07101198407147659,0.12512664064069912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047110777882092,0.0,0.0,0.04729403811894944,0.0,0.0,0.07717823660685323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298061646776331,0.0,0.0,0.2604206389462023,0.052535613571378176,0.10929034743242858,0.13685796363545893,0.0,0.0,0.06941959075585243,0.0,0.0,0.14869381267152176,0.0,0.09602184688478392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146895673881185,0.0,0.06763593350541541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937008258206052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815575694241154,0.0,0.0,0.15213635044499355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22537635857292584,0.0,0.0,0.11291921134089213,0.0,0.07391374120585968,0.0,0.0,0.1758276941436384,0.15928048530816338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454507501448222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658223305730679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677685796907706,0.0,0.0,0.17084365917349598,0.12385496033051292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414139903584924,0.04539888756392875,0.06961140342399158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871880938115361,0.14431089388652646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704516641388462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716059639254433,0.11247751131521846,0.05683293383019435,0.0,0.06370415787818294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06829847896419554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687845240354105
parenting,LobsterBloops93,2019/03/23,"Finally teeth brushing isn't a battle!! Good news story time!

Our 2-year-old daughter LOVES brushing her teeth now! I can safely say ""It's time to brush your teeth!"" And she jumps up from what she was doing and goes ""Brusha teef!!"" Heck she even asks me and gets sad when I say it's too early.

Before, it was a fight where her daddy and I would have to tag team, holding her down and forcing it. Eventually, it got easier and easier. So if you're in the same boat, it's okay!

Our trick: She LOVES pokemon. I found some huge sticker sets of them at the dollar store. I now use them as rewards. At first, she got one. When she didn't fight as bad, she got 2. (She loves having stickers on her hands idk why haha) Now, she gets 4 stickers since she stands at the sink by herself and we only have to brush for her. She even spits in the sink and washes her hands!!

I promise it gets easy eventually! She's growing into such a good kiddo and we're so proud. Stay patient!",0.4143697123519488,2.7410981421319853,1.8071890862944184,96.72587669204741,87.88324873096447,4.298561759729274,16.837774957698816,5.7366,-0.6144448392554986,742,17,164,5,24,237,117,197,0.061,0.716,0.223,0.9885,0,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,3,1,2,4,12,17,4,0,7,2,10,10,6,1,0,20,22,16,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,8,11,0,2,1,1,2,2,2,6,0,2,7,8,32,11,18,14,2,26,0,1,0,3,35,11,1,2,10,101,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561298572180975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944463408614374,0.0,0.0,0.14211143595611347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206143070972792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294900889426488,0.0,0.1420568481878592,0.0,0.18311555993032969,0.0,0.0,0.2617642296217091,0.0,0.0,0.2801566329120754,0.4007144611012494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4521934943342768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17524671427698746,0.0,0.11316888620335455,0.1270170459208768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656227963087389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381506740774344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800821753904572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947673179349108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424121785141894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506986679340593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863763196405863,0.0,0.0,0.10754762245120073
parenting,rick854,2019/03/24,"How to react to my toddler son when he is stealing from others? My son is now 26 months old and has a twins sister. The problem we very often encounter is that he is always interested in playing with things currently used by his sister / other kids in Kindergarden. My wife and me tried to overcome this issue with different strategies. One was by trying to buy the same things / toys twice, so that he cannot be jealous of her playing with a particular toy. But instead of using his toy, he is still stealing the toy from his sister (which makes me believe that it is about being in a superior position is the main goal for him). Another strategy was to talk him into giving the things back to his sister by explaining him that he cannot do that, that his sister would be sad, that he could exchange things with his sister, that he should ask her to give it to him etc. Even though this might work for that particular case, it is not preventing him of doing it again. The last strategy was to scold him and to give him a clap on his hand, but this also seems not to be working... This whole situation makes me and my wife tired, as we cannot let our kids alone for at least 5min.

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Recently our kindergarden teacher also reached out to us stating that he is always stealing toys from others and being furious when they try to get it back. 

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He is probably not the only child with this problem... So I hope some of you might give me some advise of how to handle this situation better.",8.173177339901477,6.797132258620692,7.991330049261084,74.66310344827588,62.620689655172406,10.9064039408867,34.50738916256158,9.784248007369934,3.1193596059113298,1185,40,224,19,14,381,144,290,0.086,0.8390000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.8264,2,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,5,1,1,4,18,14,2,0,11,0,30,2,1,7,0,41,43,17,0,6,5,10,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,29,14,0,1,2,7,2,0,6,8,0,2,3,1,32,6,42,29,7,20,0,1,0,0,53,7,0,7,12,180,61,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570819112759558,0.0,0.16324211945385309,0.16985192172683766,0.22117400041812946,0.2480394304001205,0.0,0.10702367945676074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954166653552722,0.0,0.0,0.15696282385198768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499190378681512,0.0,0.09026788430197714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149031395212393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663583066661347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382905873899553,0.06741273542408112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053324564446601184,0.3916388308386636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137322197739304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065289721466935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319630805698093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436801459784127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362578861571801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165489183934979,0.0,0.0,0.08146702588086344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709967580012668,0.0,0.06916164490184848,0.07762476172714215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004294994383287,0.19532416225612745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077652376126103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929158195227435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22944987462895694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150895733465019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203569550630495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712288597611794,0.0,0.1002779954963008,0.0,0.0,0.11730829510502452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788558275543606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277120103975125,0.17630216615058103,0.0,0.08421402119455668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395153119742693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860855427967504,0.0,0.0,0.07250379542616009,0.0,0.2480394304001205,0.0
parenting,MrsLollipop,2019/03/24,"My 3 year old doesn't sleep through the night. She wakes multiple times and often is awake for a couple of hours and wants to eat. Advice please. My three years and eight month old daughter still does not sleep through the night. She never has. She has milkies (breastfeeds) to fall asleep and wakes at least two times and needs to have milkies to fall back asleep again. It's only recently that she's waking as low as two times. We bed share. I've tried a few times to night wean but it just results in many tears and no sleep. She loves milkies and is extremely attached to having it.


The last few months, a couple of times a week she will wake up between 2am and 4am and be awake for about two hours. She says that she can't go back to sleep and she's hungry. She calls it a midnight feast. I'm not sure if she's actually hungry or just likes the idea of having a feast. I try to get her to fall back asleep but I never have any success. I normally end up heating up her leftover dinner which she always eats all up and she'll watch the tablet while I snooze and she'll let me know when she's tired again and ready to go back to sleep. She rarely eats all of her dinner. I think she gets bored eating. She generally goes to bed at 7 and wakes up at 7.


I'm so tired. Advice would be much appreciated. Thank you in advance.",1.6536979020979032,3.6169993054545486,2.2659090909090907,97.65578671328673,79.58181818181819,5.2489510489510485,18.576923076923077,6.093298490706669,-0.44210209790209865,1039,22,241,7,26,320,141,275,0.084,0.8340000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.1179,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,0,2,13,8,0,0,11,0,17,22,13,1,5,38,29,23,0,5,8,1,0,1,0,4,2,1,2,0,7,15,6,0,3,0,0,6,7,2,0,5,0,2,31,6,34,22,6,48,0,1,1,1,28,11,0,3,32,145,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.08586906974021777,0.0,0.0,0.17197267380551642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321773220949149,0.0,0.0,0.059838671958423476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706466170485379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08985131367841477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19472651071757488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700380074068905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601577210039605,0.0,0.0,0.07793622021982784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194605842889587,0.0,0.100017592300052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331196098911025,0.0,0.0,0.09933407462105064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048358986605253805,0.07172653617579768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997942756691958,0.0,0.04298923292235928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941766816518814,0.0,0.0,0.08921170899271127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047131935172666,0.0,0.06468542773154183,0.06524614655648721,0.1357321927171808,0.0,0.0,0.2477281252810805,0.08621505459708469,0.0,0.0,0.1846689823166837,0.0,0.0,0.06692310524580243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659055935734473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688307385325976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06997605015994282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4402857876696955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027181029368736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293293568776029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101269340671095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05638275200637149,0.0,0.0,0.2565489069223096,0.20227141970792464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948376973428612,0.0,0.2578709118271628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05190091077873958,0.0,0.07058316592956326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250813560086506,0.0,0.0,0.11332999919902165
parenting,toomanyp00pies,2019/03/24,"Has anyone else had issues with non-parents discriminating against them as parents? I’m tired of random strangers chatizing me for doing my job as a parent. Everyday I get discriminated against by random people of how because I parent my kids. Does anyone else have this problem. Like how do you resolve these issues?

For example, two nights ago my wife and I took our 3 kids to Olive Garden. Some background, our youngest, Jacsin, is 7 years old. We decided to continue breastfeeding him till he’s 8, as well as diapering him. It’s just too difficult to potty train and much healthier to breast feed. I did the same for the older two kids.

Anyways, while we were dining. Jacsin did a big poop in his diaper. After 10 minutes of him screaming about his butt being mushy, the poop started to stink really bad. I realized I had to change it. However, the bathroom was too far from the table. Honestly, the restaurant should have bathroom closer to our table. My wife and I have talked about suing the restaurant because of this. 

I couldn’t change Jacsin at our table, because we didn’t want to mess up our food. So, plan C it was. I approached the neighboring table of two dining couples. I said excuse me and plopped Jacsin on table, accidentally knocking over a few glasses. 

I proceeded to change Jacsin’s diaper and accidentally spilled some creamy clumps of poop into the customers pasta dishes. Instead of being understanding of my dilema, the couples started to scream. I hushed them and told them to be more compassionate. Suddenly, Jacsin, with diaper down, started squirting and spewing diarrhea all over the couples’ , their food and their table. All of them got it in their mouths. 


They immediately called for the manager while I quickly sat Jacsin back down at our table. Once the manager approached us, he told us to leave the restaurant. I told him no, this is a restaurant and families are welcome too. I was so angry that I threatened to never come back.

 Luckily, the manager let us stay. He ended up kicking couples out because he didn’t want to loose our business. Honestly, I was so mad at the couples I tipped 18 cents on a $75 meal.

Fuck those customers. They’re just another example of people mistreating us because we’re parents. I just wanted to see if any other parents have similar problems. I am interested in discussing some solutions.",4.697285629099582,7.250302190697679,5.504418604651164,75.23653249850925,72.44186046511628,8.038163387000598,31.025641025641022,8.841846274778883,3.0284871794871795,1882,86,301,39,39,612,221,430,0.126,0.8109999999999999,0.063,-0.9812,8,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,14,1,8,2,19,18,2,0,21,0,28,16,6,2,3,43,47,22,0,8,4,7,0,1,1,1,1,4,2,3,11,17,8,0,4,1,1,4,5,10,1,3,18,6,56,8,59,23,9,45,0,0,1,3,54,19,2,6,22,218,67,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593157197208567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05057956190309209,0.0779917739952168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401359507928054,0.15241801490467347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438411710056308,0.06210248807987045,0.2267005639329986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594821097348531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360460518892337,0.06407002485920861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4114889786431096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650886521853829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426647971419448,0.0,0.06587679415480223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011691924248531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17987624386339465,0.0,0.0,0.06876122357114565,0.03885941316746585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948684749102354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552625281018185,0.07380864651183784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875551809026657,0.0,0.07605650121693817,0.0,0.03633731325577705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467635709644028,0.0,0.05736486639067737,0.0,0.0,0.06979867499119033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804715510028014,0.07921009773305715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41293960106862704,0.0,0.0,0.10312862190372883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233932150164574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04764842438930783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075047034700767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926960270225025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793530427559227,0.07927700682271037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05978218517569371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854865211702205,0.0,0.2132139785218677,0.08263664795054322,0.0,0.0,0.2179693719946056,0.07743007725689431,0.357870101764988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161013991340326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687471658870865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478969663125802
parenting,bulatbulan,2019/03/24,"Honesty hour: how many of you parents secretly have a favorite child deep down? It doesn’t mean you let any of them know it. You can still treat them all the same, but deep down, do you actually have one you like more than the others?",4.7422695035460976,5.204534148936169,4.5795744680851085,90.13333333333335,69.21276595744679,7.9687943262411345,26.30496453900709,7.793537801064563,1.0951049645390072,183,5,41,2,3,56,36,47,0.0,0.8109999999999999,0.189,0.8205,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,2,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,7,8,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,7,2,5,7,3,6,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,3,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.3344158704526391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330408566232985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33748048319010554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833338533571087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504236005310808,0.0,0.167420956012625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3474337314660817,0.0,0.3732897212954815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23221551850483416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38051653571492494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27367256543877144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Astroxoxoxcreep,2019/03/24,Looking for help I have a 3 year old and I was 20 weeks pregnant and the baby died and the dad left me and kicked us out the surgery left me flat broke and I was looking for some help from some compassionate people to get me on my feet with my son. The relationship was abusive and I’m left to start all over flat broke ,4.524705882352944,4.248803823529413,4.92235294117647,90.05058823529413,69.58823529411765,7.976470588235292,27.294117647058826,7.1686216300943375,0.9863705882352938,252,7,60,2,4,80,43,68,0.174,0.7140000000000001,0.112,-0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,0,4,1,1,0,1,11,9,6,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,9,1,9,6,3,10,0,2,2,0,7,6,0,2,4,36,9,0,0.0,0.24319224548894874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21302108791534696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072366635841326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27515465432867353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6690267164069249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447230741699543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153793851471372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229717372886644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22036581770727395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527972943279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468951058550815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646422554446955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217674803856672
parenting,kikicoldhands,2019/03/24,"Save me from the cool parents I’m trying to have a friendly relationship, but it started out awkwardly and seems to be getting worse. I think I might be jealous of my son’s girlfriend’s mom, for getting to be the fun parent while I am the scary one. Not fair! I’m a nice, exceptionally patient and easy to get along with person! Maybe I am projecting my difficult feelings onto her?

What’s up with a parent who agrees to sleepovers on a school night? And tells my son she was “scared” when I texted her to set up a chat?

It all started with me trying to track my kid down when he went out without permission and then lied to me about where he was. When I texted this mom to ask if she has seen him, she responds by saying that she asked him to contact me and that he is such a polite young man. 

Like, really?? That’s so polite that I have to ask strangers if they know where my kid is. And why does she think that she needs to defend him to me?  Where is that coming from? Of course my 16 year old agrees that it’s so “weird” I want to communicate with the parents of the the friend where he is sleeping over. 

I just want to get along. And to not be judged. I expect I will have to settle for getting better at letting go of my stress and insecurity. The fact that I’m feeling judged means that I agree on some irrational level that I have done something meriting judgment. Sigh. ",3.703500000000002,4.723245207142857,4.367142857142859,88.68785714285715,71.92857142857143,7.171428571428571,25.42857142857143,7.365786028017652,0.9871571428571432,1078,32,233,11,20,344,145,280,0.14800000000000002,0.715,0.13699999999999998,-0.8543,4,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,1,12,17,1,4,13,1,21,1,1,0,2,41,48,18,0,6,8,8,2,1,3,2,0,1,0,4,16,17,0,0,7,1,0,3,3,7,1,1,5,5,37,9,45,36,2,30,0,0,1,0,41,15,0,5,12,161,53,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232144540105159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192449027192177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992730250931938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10085133283279783,0.1179352457676019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165422727494047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780753960909907,0.0,0.30105275493163536,0.0,0.06549616637856208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333542249436275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11784541945162733,0.0,0.056302694100508525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577869837975407,0.12553516291818745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225631683332705,0.0,0.2699461834142838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545241636298638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814925745851664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092982956926232,0.0,0.07809272874288647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.511861994359346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006271462666879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382864671030395,0.0,0.0,0.12372957959753925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164713763636237,0.1153799569090201,0.11663369562550488,0.0,0.10491436258073546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11532783599437092,0.0,0.0,0.0887209293626146,0.0,0.0,0.1631414530055767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201230876886572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007288667563049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768818250341312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156487047570141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594851103255226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683290593991823,0.10399033331247877,0.0,0.0,0.1110916893257101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744410088584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421374892682324
parenting,AwkwardProperty,2019/03/24,"Kid siblings constantly using hate speech So I am not a parent but I am an adult sibling in a caregiver role for my younger brothers (ages 12, 10, and 7). Throwaway account, new to the Subreddit. Sorry if this isn't the right place for this kind of post. 

I take care of my younger brothers while my mom works, and they stay with me overnight a few times a week. Over the past several weeks I have noticed an increasing amount of homophobic, racist, and other offensive jokes and words coming from all three of them. I think this is coming from the internet (they are always on YouTube at my mom's place), I do not allow them to watch YouTube unsupervised anymore because of this and I don't let the younger two use voice chat for Fortnite either. However, I can't control what they do at my mom's. 

I feel like I have tried everything I can to get them to stop. I tried explaining that people would find it hurtful, and that people would think they are mean and that it is not funny. I have tried sending them to time-outs and confiscating their video games as punishment. Nothing seems to work. 

Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks. ",4.842402073732718,6.349932027649771,4.870803571428574,84.29763392857143,69.7373271889401,8.189976958525346,29.69153225806452,8.660442795831766,2.1850463133640563,898,35,175,15,16,279,134,217,0.133,0.787,0.08,-0.9011,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,9,3,1,9,3,0,11,0,20,0,0,4,1,34,35,13,0,4,6,6,1,1,0,3,0,2,0,2,11,11,0,2,7,4,1,4,6,4,0,2,0,4,28,5,23,30,5,23,0,1,1,0,22,8,0,2,10,113,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616649349716265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989162641293777,0.0,0.0,0.08084131674080038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789532455017468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246710491221249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120434402135158,0.0,0.0,0.2048062489413376,0.0,0.1284652040196008,0.13333211565945607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684014574077724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060108437570268736,0.08492667731269146,0.0,0.0,0.10865260747130126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210900233283138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736770432642148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726167291499266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379345019157015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12156111033258454,0.0,0.05807792989682607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949331302928327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4176864650987169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114813397563576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406692969629145,0.1353437261586944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320002776962283,0.0,0.11348278341807595,0.16483048240581766,0.0,0.2484050315035719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385254509353945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152141392583937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822233451665526,0.0,0.1342986353745647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307451793467456,0.0,0.12670844463019218,0.0,0.09938757718324877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938168284496048,0.0,0.0,0.10944716173292922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234482198508886,0.0,0.0,0.1386377789829476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421316756792065,0.0,0.11612681999216785,0.0,0.0,0.20534535560426112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907139943695577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730896283958928,0.0,0.0,0.25334318879089474,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LibraryBeast,2019/03/24,Daycare troubles Does anyone else here have (or had in the past) issues with their daycare provider becoming unreliable? Closing all the time more and more frequently with little to no notice. This is my first time having a child in daycare so I dont know if this is just to he expected or not. ,5.335178571428571,6.760193589285716,5.673571428571428,79.32142857142857,68.46428571428571,8.457142857142857,31.857142857142854,8.841846274778883,2.7115142857142858,235,10,42,4,4,75,45,56,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.6022,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,12,7,5,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,6,6,3,9,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,3,5,33,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19951159590525214,0.2923575651352465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31512808317284435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24969699130059994,0.0,0.33440836546673736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383592612716571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24270425972732146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29781371120060834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681165528881968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859788091181821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248537200613186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723828093298486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327601472331437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kennedyz,2019/03/24,"6-year-old still wets the bed nightly, says he's afraid to go in the dark but knows where the lightswitches all are Hi, all.

The title basically explains it. We've got a 6-year-old boy who wears pull-ups to bed every night and still wets them. We're looking for advice on how to make the transition to dry nights.

He knows how to use the toilet. When we're still awake he gets up and goes to the bathroom if he needs to, but never once we're in bed and the lights are off. We've tried implementing a rewards system -- a trip to McDonald's if he makes it five nights in a row, but he hasn't had a single dry night. If he doesn't sleep in a pull-up, he just pees all over his bed.

We've given him nightlights that plug into the sockets in his room, and have toyed with the idea of giving him a flashlight to use to go to the bathroom with, but we're concerned he'll just use it to stay up all night playing.

Any advice?",5.653298969072164,4.374971855670103,5.7832164948453615,88.15327835051548,67.55670103092784,8.584742268041238,27.64742268041237,6.742157984588678,1.0224428865979371,716,16,167,4,10,227,102,194,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.8573,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,1,9,3,0,1,18,0,6,3,3,7,5,33,23,14,0,4,9,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,5,7,0,0,4,2,0,3,3,1,0,1,3,5,5,2,27,19,5,29,0,0,1,0,20,13,0,3,11,88,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355928759237348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197560988139803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156544717140302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298046037131652,0.1156389842161914,0.13701846747806393,0.0,0.09641187901827697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608208676026012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13249817519233867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012285219728324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609311672483546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938354547867262,0.09297272912625228,0.0,0.0,0.6787471543085688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529861034032563,0.12837786303632548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958632469807865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063334557763104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284863043360236,0.2888052651117039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184301701834333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31233986729726537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525571504416313
parenting,BriefVolume,2019/03/24,"Should I call CPS- and for those that have, what happened after? HELP I want to call CPS on my cousin. 

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Today I saw my cousin’s three-year-old daughter for the first time in two years. I noticed that she refers to her mom (my cousin) by her first name but refers to her grandma (my aunt) as “mom.” I asked another family member about this, and they confirmed. They then showed me a photo of my cousin’s daughter with bruises and told me that the daughter told her grandparents that her parents hit her. I wasn’t surprised because I know the baby daddy is extremely violent and abuses my cousin. My cousin denies that they beat her, and told her parents to tell her daughter that she is going to get a ""time-out"" when she gets home for lying. The daughter also tells her grandparents that she only loves them but not her birth mom and dad. She also tells them that she doesn’t want to go home and wants to live with them. Along with this, when she plays with her grandma’s iPhone, she loves to answer the phone— except when it’s her mother calling, she will decline the call. 

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She also stays with her grandparents three days a week.  

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The grandparents are immigrants and speak very little English. Also, despite that my entire extended family knows about this, no one is doing anything (they never have, even about past situations). No one wants to be a “snitch/ don’t feel like they are in the place to say anything/ hate involving the law. 

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But I am completely okay with reporting this because I grew up differently than they did and I believe that no three-year-old (or anyone) should feel this way about their parents or should suffer this abuse.

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Also, the reason why I am asking Reddit is that I want to know, for anyone that has called CPS, what happened after? 

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I’m scared nothing will happen/change if I call CPS because my cousin seems perfectly normal. But, she definitely isn’t. On the surface she paints the image that she is a wonderful mother with a loving family, she constantly shows this off on social media. Also, her daughter only calls her ""mom"" when my cousin is around and acts normal when she is with her (I think she has to or my cousin will punish her). My cousin is very pretty and lives in a very nice large home. Everything seems great from the outside. But I especially know how fucked up she is. I would visit her often when I went to college in the same town she lives in. I thought she was very sweet and really liked her until I got to know her better. I realized there is some sort of human-empathetic-quality missing about her. I would even lock the bedroom door if I slept at her place because something about her made me feel off. I’m not going to go into detail, and I have cut her out of my life (just like the majority of the people in my family have also done to her), but she does an excellent job at painting the picture that everything is perfect. Even despite her being a coke addict, her man being a big-time drug dealer (also abusive and creepy as hell- he sent me dick pics randomly before, I’ve had to block so many phone numbers of his), and the fact that they have unconcealed guns EVERYWHERE around their home.

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She isn’t stupid, is a great liar, and can definitely get away with this. But, I don’t want her to. This situation isn’t fair for the three-year-old. I won't feel right if I don't interfere, but I'm scared whether I might make matters worse or jeopardize my own safety (her dude is psychotic). 

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My question is, is calling CPS the right thing to do? And what do you think will happen after? ",5.136373287066989,6.4344632925072105,5.151252720108218,83.3569802387814,68.81268011527378,7.913144739163678,26.987472798917842,8.225684150193146,1.699409198376758,2871,89,540,39,49,895,292,694,0.132,0.733,0.135,-0.7944,10,0,2,1,2,0,128.0,0,1,12,7,30,29,8,2,32,1,56,10,2,4,4,103,109,53,0,16,20,27,4,3,0,11,3,2,6,1,30,31,1,2,21,3,0,9,15,12,0,6,15,8,112,17,75,79,4,60,1,2,1,5,123,27,3,16,25,376,142,4,0.0,0.13848198736355086,0.0,0.04247162924668205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492473231424545,0.0,0.3377010034993495,0.3787206651558208,0.0,0.04085245539983719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448280679208085,0.0,0.0641207335134089,0.06936446834460533,0.07284378719949175,0.0,0.036603753065065504,0.0,0.0,0.09499745116974777,0.0,0.03315168342510148,0.04389403956804886,0.0,0.03445653089299793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182562203733967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041214008064081126,0.0,0.04084831722064836,0.042101402286760375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02512566842746338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040704408019278084,0.0,0.0,0.03409373994495813,0.039869117111338,0.0,0.0,0.04518067629172976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719718985383835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002861188033861,0.0,0.1469102788354727,0.0,0.07879641900816621,0.02783269005569762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627789843663197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036017449985824665,0.061064226211283726,0.0,0.08856637591907797,0.0,0.031159488488529542,0.08590602033039439,0.0,0.0,0.13780710533926385,0.0,0.0,0.03846446182085449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02611374613470636,0.0,0.1563183071457531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03866131369100707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070556711137791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027518262315738805,0.057100963079359614,0.03904767573313046,0.10320591418195182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548746812810927,0.03686444139295804,0.026005783231183133,0.039498840020705764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041329895755114185,0.0,0.18251568358980574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03004798487961682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07634411866686439,0.037382711773270905,0.04435567362759895,0.12264439284381125,0.0,0.052799960309225916,0.05926094360570481,0.0,0.0,0.12977981475213465,0.0,0.03719127178264347,0.027009626855180515,0.0,0.08140881603855615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03963583972525663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04364358056038248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02495846718855368,0.04005687696178265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665424372464366,0.0,0.030982175341740005,0.07801055544279961,0.0,0.0,0.07093457059707575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758426936316255,0.0,0.03971432604028319,0.0,0.029992943160987936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152566635624919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215701741394204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02588297504062855,0.049927376721563485,0.0,0.030929508374254983,0.04543522076385356,0.0,0.036929071112817034,0.1116824775484738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038057791618238516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858274215031176,0.13787601167549754,0.030924254874257862,0.03125097827051524,0.0,0.0,0.036115866894078585,0.0351549085288059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04224993933426375,0.0,0.0,0.03970308097275915,0.055351452762616,0.0,0.3787206651558208,0.10035461843410258
parenting,emacd92,2019/03/24,"Parent brag: 4 yo environmentalist! So I just got reddit and my daughter is now almost 6 but till this day this story of hers always melts my heart  ❤️ 

One spring day about a year and a half ago we were leaving a Tim Hortons and there was a Tim Hortons cup on the ground out front of the store, pretty much right next to the garbage can.. my daughter started walking towards the cup picked it up and threw it in the garbage and says to me “some people never learn” while shaking her head. 

I was so shocked I just gave her the biggest hug and told her how much she can help the planet by doing small acts of kindness for the earth by picking up trash that should be put in the garbage /recycling and from then on in every time we go for a walk she collects the garbage and throws it away when we find a garbage can.  

Start them young! Our planet needs help! 🌎",5.487413793103446,5.2409599252873615,5.166114942528736,89.01537931034485,67.56321839080461,7.419770114942527,29.46896551724138,5.6839178017228535,1.0594524137931027,673,21,147,2,10,206,115,174,0.022,0.855,0.123,0.9596,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,1,0,9,4,0,1,16,0,10,3,2,3,1,25,18,16,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,12,0,0,2,0,1,9,1,2,0,2,7,1,18,2,22,9,3,39,0,0,0,1,19,14,0,2,16,97,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684735446230442,0.0,0.1903140461131863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814216245089754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785642582449378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24514132950701145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601307267732614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370812022344653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801344054338284,0.0,0.1520054771256828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19505271315207365,0.0,0.0,0.225217766959127,0.2547816176254772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791450963965504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201242301592764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794266665145686,0.14092442358783533,0.14658322391822426,0.0,0.20212715358362054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287871455588158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103515728917224,0.0,0.0,0.13176118788406074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335570065383467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105919109233796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230714003013685,0.0,0.15114048957980822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690458176212696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082342402800804,0.0,0.0,0.18160704930039168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239010006901338
parenting,Mrmslordofdeath,2019/03/24,"Hello Parents, Need Help With A Project If you had your child as a teen or as an adult, it would be wonderful if you could answer the next 15 questions:
1.At what age did you become pregnant/ find out about the child?
2.What was your initial reaction?
3,Who was the first person you told about the child ?
4.How long was it before you told your parents?
5.What was your parents reaction to finding out you were having a child?
6.Did you have a plan in place for a child already?
7.Did your significant other leave you when you found out?
8.Did you spread the word around or keep it to yourself?
9.What kind of area did you live in?
10.Were you financially secure ?
11.How did you manage time with the child incoming ?
12.How did life change when you became a parent ?
13.Were your hopes in life altered when finding out ?
14.Would you go back and  change anything if you could ?
15.Are you happy now, elaborate?
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parenting,northerntouch,2019/03/24,"First time at a cheer competition. (Dad) 3 hours to get ready.
1.5 hour drive.
2 hours warm up.
90 second routine.
5 hours in a hot stinky high school gym waiting for awards.
20 spontaneous hugs and huge smiles 
1 incredibly happily little girl.



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parenting,Kizzitykel,2019/03/24,"While you were away... While you have been doing whatever, smokimg whatever, having the time of your life...  We used the 45 dollars of child support you sent this month for frozen pizza and Redbox movies,  soda and one 6 pack of beer so we can play stupid games in the backyard with their stepdad and then crash. You are the one missing out here. ",6.259615384615388,6.80243676923077,5.089038461538461,87.51971153846155,65.92307692307692,7.730769230769233,28.55769230769231,7.1686216300943375,1.3673846153846152,270,8,53,2,4,79,51,65,0.114,0.812,0.07400000000000001,-0.4472,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,2,5,1,0,2,4,1,0,4,0,7,4,0,1,0,8,11,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,0,2,3,0,8,2,8,8,0,9,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,0,5,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37644191856335335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830045171393357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198103463747073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5430076616335718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546746792676233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336334425091819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34604955939893284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tkilla96,2019/03/24,"So I accidentally let my one year old taste a 250,000 scoville unit habanero hot sauce A little backstory: I just got married last week and a
my fiance and I went on our honeymoon to New Orleans. While we were there we took a tour of the city that included one of the",3.81111111111111,5.091405111111111,4.971296296296298,83.46583333333334,71.96296296296295,8.362962962962964,30.16666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.3127555555555555,212,9,44,4,4,70,43,54,0.055,0.945,0.0,-0.4005,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,5,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,2,8,0,4,0,0,10,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,6,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482825424066225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25304525918038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31743994319993635,0.0,0.0,0.3111365646987397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29981922920462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257484118455868,0.0,0.42071641803007054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449037546025262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490115439652969,0.0,0.0,0.2877755601470133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999094097471923
parenting,Wynterphantom,2019/03/24,"My son is a super entitled idiot. My now 24 yr old son uses everyone in his life, and had just gotten out of jail a year and a half ago for stealing and hurting his grandfather. Now he's on his second girlfriend in a row that he's moved into a cabin my father and I built where he lives for free. Also second gf in a row that who's claimed to be pregnant multiple times. We suspect he's doing it to get welfare. I'm all for welfare to help needy families but these are people who ruin it for others. 

We had him young, but his mother left me for a convicted child molester when he was 2 1/2. My parents insisted that I sign guardianship of him over when I was about 19. I was a complete moron. They emasculated me and undermined me every year after. They are the most conservative, Republican people I've ever known. I was hoping he would at least be self sufficient. He turned out to expect everything to be done for him. (Lol no he's not a liberal). He steals what people won't give. Ect. He's put hand on me out of nowhere...

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parenting,throwmeinthetrashho,2019/03/24,"Kinetic sand is gross It’s gross because it gets my long hair in it and it just 🤢 
But it keeps my 2 1/2 year old entertained 

Not to mention how many other particles get rolled up in it. It’s jut impossible to keep clean. 

And now his dad wants to get him a sandbox too because our son loves sand. He’s mesmerized by it. Sand is just so nasty though. Play dough too. I never realized how gross these thins were until becoming a parent.",0.6616343207354447,3.070759044943824,2.4148927477017392,92.15980592441271,87.76404494382021,6.382431052093973,20.450459652706847,7.686295010490155,0.8838674157303372,341,11,74,7,11,112,64,89,0.141,0.74,0.119,-0.4858,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,2,1,13,10,8,0,1,4,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,5,6,3,8,9,0,10,0,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,6,43,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086248066259328,0.27957434492228483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967671716274679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4500067017611889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2240218180760689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22846963472261075,0.0,0.0,0.2566452407561229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523794394020305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656288953657736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28108312197595764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487097460769801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930911976319106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301450368863835
parenting,2000195,2019/03/24,"Why do I hate my child? I know this sounds horrible but. I don’t love my child I dont think. 
I had the worst pregnancy possible, she came 4 months early. Spent 8 months total in the NICU 
Emergency c section etc. . . 

She is now 5 months old and I still have no love for her.
I feel like I ruined my life. I don’t want to hold her or care for her at all. (But I do ) I just don’t think I was meant to be a parent and if I were to give her away today I wouldn’t even care. I just simply don’t want her. I get so frustrated that she is now all my life revolves around. I can’t live freely or do anything and I’m drained. My husband is a great father , and I pretend I’m a great mother but I honestly wish I aborted her when I first considered it. And that makes me feel horrible but I absolutely resent this child. I don’t know what to do anymore. Why do I hate my own baby? ",-0.8021448863636351,1.1128473177083364,1.8261363636363648,97.5143181818182,88.84375,5.36590909090909,17.58143939393939,6.7829847944221076,-0.18757083333333344,663,17,166,9,22,228,101,192,0.199,0.5770000000000001,0.224,0.8235,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,1,9,14,4,0,5,0,21,4,0,1,3,32,44,14,0,5,9,4,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,6,7,0,1,7,1,1,1,9,6,0,1,6,3,40,8,10,36,7,17,0,1,0,2,19,5,0,3,12,111,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958238373684573,0.0,0.0,0.11582210781686053,0.1252939336632516,0.0,0.0,0.13223566237330048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16097612641043138,0.2870002067055829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16495346623269874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696918717964636,0.09296151968837713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233098777695427,0.10054909393044124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971862263548852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353406617447639,0.13501655382588146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3103463046549101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27791541362831657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547008314189484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198826368335268,0.06876147063873017,0.0,0.1242814491220167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25405783199712434,0.0,0.09394916321829408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33702675686137873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768943223976866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156281968645192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867016226735342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240007536228018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18036892882545286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334109147429125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16603147858353542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25400305846867777,0.0,0.16185115261970678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TX-SC,2019/03/24,"How to help my teen daughter find friends and fit in? My daughter is an introvert and socially awkward. I love her dearly and would like to help her make friends and be more ""accepted"" at school. Unfortunately, she has a difficult time with it. When I recommend changes, she asks why ""I'm trying to change her"". I try to explain that being in a friends group has it's rewards and that with a few changes, she can fit in more. But, at the same time, I do love her for who she is and don't want her to think I want to change her because I don't like her. 

It's a bit of a tightrope I'm walking here. She is 14 and has been bullied in the past. She is thinking of changing schools, and I would love to see her have a fresh start and make new friends. At the same time, she needs to know I love her regardless.

She says that even just saying hi to someone she doesn't know is difficult. She also tends to be into more ""geeky"" types of things like Dungeons and Dragons and is big into anime. I have zero problems with that and encourage her to pursue what she enjoys, but I also know that it can lead to being bullied.

Thoughts?

PS, I'm her dad.",2.843205128205131,4.110894260683761,3.7005128205128233,91.68615384615387,74.34188034188034,6.7384615384615385,27.102564102564106,7.1686216300943375,1.1189846153846157,883,33,197,9,18,282,110,234,0.078,0.7440000000000001,0.17800000000000002,0.9537,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,0,0,2,7,20,0,1,10,0,24,4,0,4,0,42,47,18,0,7,3,3,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,0,12,17,0,0,9,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,2,3,34,16,28,39,7,21,0,0,1,4,44,12,0,0,10,136,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864297466170866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985735196997535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0642761276171871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151147513834676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5577153511643402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06964308151618673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963715726221672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.325855202577894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413503590632531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17384358575323605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545400953292946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806600916790646,0.0,0.14076596971138455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818349714775735,0.0,0.10183600687372812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065579242016323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089322491151367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770254204528973,0.0,0.2134247478862136,0.08402318196781701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748427699326438,0.08934019614804023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463199912078378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005061236226963,0.1351252438136383,0.0,0.08370873125208919,0.1844512676185905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317564275058395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438419505196485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514450584281152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498051578335228,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AdmirableExternal,2019/03/24,"Thinking about quitting my job to stay at home with my 3 year old. Is this the worst idea ever? My husband is a fly-in fly-out shift worker who is gone for 15 days and is home for 13 days. I work Monday to Friday 40+ hours per week. I stayed at home with our daughter for the first 2 years and have worked full-time for the past year. I underestimated just how difficult it would be to manage everything while he is gone. Also my time with him has been reduced to basically 2 weekends per month (which is also spent with his 15 year old son from his first marriage). He is fortunate to make a good salary and although I have a good paying job, we could make it work with just his income and some adjustments. I feel like I'm missing out on quality time with my husband and daughter while I'm at work. Plus we use daycare, a housekeeper and an occasional mother's helper just so I can work. I have this nagging feeling like it's just not worth it.",4.7683506044905,5.0259409948186535,5.356075129533679,85.30834412780658,69.10362694300518,8.298618307426597,28.00043177892919,8.07648339933343,1.5512317789291885,744,23,160,9,12,240,110,193,0.08199999999999999,0.826,0.092,0.2285,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,0,9,10,9,1,0,8,0,16,0,0,4,1,34,28,14,0,2,5,6,2,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,8,16,0,0,5,1,3,2,1,4,0,2,4,2,19,5,23,21,2,30,0,1,0,0,18,5,0,1,23,97,27,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933717853603253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653101510330632,0.0,0.0,0.15594455502058174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936346731644347,0.0,0.0,0.10865960392173872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226413532955645,0.1727459103542634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20567965006062425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202814996089865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36382597521420623,0.0,0.11906486359504848,0.0,0.0,0.1364844985608224,0.0,0.0,0.2399546653837577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813396201265272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16140706089696605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650342874304403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537342150453645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541536388449793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859496639640752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577325089102989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746960611880538,0.0,0.0,0.14099874207797064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442116515482998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698090051659124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44009324243369,0.0,0.0,0.08588585111405472,0.0,0.0,0.3114296513373665
parenting,mzuern,2019/03/24,Activities I've decided to start making projects for children to do with their parents.  They will be educational and have all the parts and instructions needed as well as have instructional videos available as well.  Is there any particular thing anyone would want to see made available?,9.825625,11.3817553125,8.349999999999998,63.69500000000001,58.375,11.4,38.91666666666667,11.20814326018867,4.806866666666666,237,11,35,6,3,72,40,48,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,2,1,10,13,5,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,2,8,9,2,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,26,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058702886205332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21167946136482535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28645532625939424,0.20207806869257686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22447428365881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361515665862223,0.3278326747079913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412407256139293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142775029492707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20112378703352105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856103974218554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5443905280125472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505437029456007,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,prettyprettyflowers,2019/03/24,"Tips for having kids super close together? Hi all. Wondering if you parents who had/ have kids very close together have any tips for me and my husband? Especially for coping with the newborn stage. We are due for baby number 2 in mid-May and our first will be 15 months at that time. I had terrible PPA the first time and I’m definitely worried about that happening again. I don’t think I’ll be nursing this time around as it contributed greatly to my PPA. I’m currently a SAHM and hubby will take a few weeks paternity leave but will eventually have to go back to his high travel, demanding job. We have family around so I’m hoping they’ll be able to help out a lot. 

TIA!",2.4935476463834654,4.760433268656719,4.104626865671643,83.9935878300804,78.25373134328359,8.003673938002297,23.74052812858784,8.841846274778883,1.8568043628013784,534,18,107,13,13,178,95,134,0.052000000000000005,0.8079999999999999,0.141,0.9351,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,1,1,3,6,4,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,0,1,19,25,8,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,12,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,2,0,11,3,16,16,3,22,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,4,11,66,16,1,0.19557017933397952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329944283343146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481978457861332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503813960810987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843661597758434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327037892688211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114703983205193,0.0,0.0,0.21561681313909653,0.0,0.0,0.17294206370460227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108656876511454,0.206630632014284,0.0,0.19424531582809487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940732260152551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20708058181001093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626677281395374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561022512960365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171575399800552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14704443585002944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531347413948132,0.0,0.0,0.3421156329100936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16136587971662308,0.0,0.0,0.15687460125035255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21208751702238907,0.0,0.19861101031607192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bgrzebien,2019/03/24,"Proud moment Took my daughter (5)  roller skating for the first time today. I am very much a beginner but my boyfriend is experienced. 

We got her a “walker” to help her keep balance and within 2 hours she was skating by herself and taking laps with my boyfriend. I need to practice some more so I can keep up with them.

So proud of how she kept getting up when she fell ! She’s growing up fast!",3.5476923076923086,4.990359153846153,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,72.84615384615384,6.2256410256410275,28.384615384615394,6.42735559955562,1.1489846153846153,306,12,63,2,6,96,59,78,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.9157,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,3,4,2,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,12,12,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,1,15,2,11,8,3,15,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,1,8,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561785005078647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735101518983982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408764075467933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20187062309551634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965957809628957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.535394683037223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22139758670391,0.2233167483917259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264454105970449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756170156278613,0.0,0.2854777923254416,0.0,0.3346154608888897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485001399580449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hitandmisanthrope,2019/03/24,"We need a term that is the opposite of the ""Fellow Kids"" meme--something like ""Fellow Adult"" for when teenagers try to comment on parenting. So over the course of parenting my three kids (11, 8, 3), I've occasionally had a teenager comment on or offer some parenting advice while out in public. The tone is usually a mix of over-confidence and naiveté. Generally, it has been harmless, and I usually laugh it off.

For example, once while at church, our youngest just happened to be quiet throughout the services. A college-aged young man, who was with his girlfriend, commented to me (dad) that I had done such a nice job keeping her quiet. I laughed at him and said, ""You're assuming that I have a lot more control over this situation than I actually do.""

It's things like this. It happens at the park, at the grocery store, etc. It is usually well-intended (""Oh, don't worry, she'll outgrow this stage!""), but the source makes it hard to take seriously. It is a bit like if I try to use the latest slang with my oldest and her friends (even if I get it right). 

Has anyone else had an experience like this?",5.81557418884433,6.257952715639813,6.3987677725118495,78.09536638716736,66.86729857819904,9.904629967189207,34.24024790375501,9.851270322608157,3.237220634341961,857,38,167,18,13,280,138,211,0.018000000000000002,0.865,0.117,0.9531,4,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,2,0,0,1,5,10,0,0,17,0,17,0,0,3,0,22,26,12,0,3,5,4,1,4,4,1,0,3,0,4,17,8,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,7,4,17,9,24,17,6,23,1,0,0,0,26,12,0,6,14,111,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.13223029767270505,0.0,0.0,0.13241087808258803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474607164493813,0.1388376985636379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14793296854407353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519768909225875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386654781082356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319444137173802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112042498880066,0.08949772000051433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13254684860808305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468842362413623,0.0,0.07079414457770973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396477465906407,0.0,0.12138307761968845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446471694582393,0.12044030523522682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647975147858125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519886077519285,0.0,0.0,0.09044856336449043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047293405253284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14430508990865076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513764378365252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571787317859088,0.1288933264406695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15230980099318087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431597448414008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188055741124424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002143435605761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839937766511261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11703012644694147,0.4477085628369273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183247169409445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376087461048104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,matthyaz,2019/03/24,"Dad Sooo, my dad was away from home and I was watching some TV. When he arrived he told me that he had called me and I didn’t answer (i know its stupid to keep my phone away from me). I could tell he was really really mad. He told me “I blocked your number, so now do whatever you want but I won’t answer your calls either”. Again, he said in a really really mad way. 

What should I do?",-0.7098795180722917,1.3202043373494021,1.7216987951807248,97.50206626506028,89.96385542168676,5.729638554216868,13.119277108433735,7.1686216300943375,-0.5331436144578312,292,4,72,5,10,99,53,83,0.138,0.833,0.028,-0.8748,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,0,5,3,3,0,1,0,10,0,0,0,0,13,16,5,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,3,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,8,2,16,0,6,5,2,7,0,0,1,0,18,3,0,1,3,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892593137180395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4230583873081044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16539701895229747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207794118997032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841295588445075,0.0,0.0,0.11384738879999115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5308371407708395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970525671549032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810632661052864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3958924147074249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218583521472873,0.16443060098506612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayparentz2018,2019/03/24,"18 y/o Senior in HS and Marijuana Hello Reddit,

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My husband and I's son is 18 years old and a senior in high school. To preface this, I think he's a good kid... decent grades, works weekends, pays his phone bill, and plays baseball for school. He's going to college next year, but the admissions process has been far more rocky than we anticipated (although we think it's over now). Our main concern is his frequent use or marijuana, the apparent lack of motivation that comes with it, long term effects, and even an addiction to it (?). We first caught him with weed about 2 years ago, but recently it seems the use has increased. Throughout the entire college admissions process, he's seemed relatively uninterested in his future and has my husband doing most of the work regarding checking application status, talking to admissions officers, etc. We have had many discussions about the potential future effects his regular use could have, and he dismisses them without too much thought. His best friend's parents are extremely lenient and allow them to smoke there, which has become a daily habit of his (or at least multiple times a week). His circle of close friends has pretty much become centered around this house where they're allowed to smoke. This has also become a loophole of his to not bring any weed into our home, which was a rule we made a while ago, but to still be able to buy/smoke it. At least one time a week he will come back from practice clearly stoned despite our asking him not to come home high, which generally leads to another fruitless conversation. At this point we were fed up, so we gave him an ultimatum: if we catch him at this friend's house again (we have his location on our phone), and he fails to pick up a full-time, 40h/week job by the time he graduates, we will kick him out of the house. We don't see why we should be feeding him, housing him, sending him to college if he fails to respect/even consider the things we tell him about his marijuana use. We're very concerned and just want to make sure we set him down the right path before he leaves our house for college. He clearly did not see this coming and is pretty upset/taken aback by our approach to this. Did we do the right thing? Does anyone have any personal insight or suggestions from a similar circumstance in their parenting?

 If anyone has any questions, please ask. Thank you.",8.339136270790775,7.70892533557047,7.670102130142982,74.68721914210684,61.86353467561521,10.816418636319423,36.437019745160974,10.074871250255047,3.5130415134714523,1903,76,347,34,23,594,244,447,0.022,0.866,0.112,0.9909,5,0,3,0,0,0,67.0,21,1,3,10,15,10,0,0,23,0,30,3,0,13,3,79,56,24,0,7,14,5,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,2,18,36,2,0,10,2,3,12,5,2,0,2,11,2,49,8,51,39,12,65,0,2,2,0,78,25,0,10,27,219,67,18,0.0756935985786268,0.0,0.0,0.08251719524548617,0.0,0.0,0.1341956160991107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060532143435983926,0.0,0.08201398243549067,0.09197600735026144,0.15442272803268567,0.07937133795613059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585344818000954,0.0,0.0,0.0673833507097952,0.14152659357259492,0.0,0.0,0.0582037050199628,0.0,0.0,0.2507928980582448,0.06440967729344536,0.0,0.07943576178434722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608133312248964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043517922086005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623997820631575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441837111432186,0.09998981595570544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643849362828872,0.0,0.0,0.17544205948727212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04301841643189738,0.06348819922929202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599488855305219,0.15185370210630275,0.0,0.0,0.4367012497132672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511421687542262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08014859160193062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06698645280344756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716231131697436,0.05052606482165907,0.07674142837864938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128700874473747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805010008135229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07942769867446271,0.0,0.051291941362606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16809756697621905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609273064065499,0.0,0.0830888408782861,0.07155491699003573,0.0,0.0,0.15401520418872586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479415370189804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473829685262039,0.0,0.0,0.1292838392067024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321192569986533,0.12063599596784165,0.13781721858647308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604490056022987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134032086341235,0.0,0.0,0.060839647314945976,0.06615954148812825,0.06968849581550478,0.0,0.0,0.10057492697332504,0.09700280319126316,0.0,0.0600922622144212,0.13241263812897752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26149986401073383,0.0,0.06245514610230175,0.044646045595188935,0.0,0.1821505170368764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830169933109652,0.0,0.0,0.07296592789743192,0.0,0.11021168254329676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197600735026144,0.14623258731756858
parenting,Renchan7,2019/03/24,"I'll Nickname My Child Whatever I Want, Thank You Very Much! Just needing to vent :)

Earlier today I sat outside with my 5 week old daughter by my condominium lake. She loves to watch the trees and birds and feel the wind.

A resident passed by and she stopped to greet and asked how old my daughter was. Then she asked what my LO's name was. When I replied with ""Isabella"" she responded with:

""You're not going to call her Izzy, are you?""

To which I fired back with a smirk:

""Why not?""

The resident couldn't think of a response. Her facial expressions showed intensely that she  didn't like the nickname, nor approved of it. 

I shrugged with a smile and told her, ""When she gets older she can say whatever she wants to be called. It doesn't matter to me.""

The resident walked away annoyed I didn't agree with her.

I don't expect every person that I come across to like her name. That'd be foolish. But if someone comes to me trying to push their unwanted opinion and/or shame me for not agreeing, shame on them. Grow up.

What are some experiences you guys have had with someone trying to push their opinions on you?",2.493535353535353,4.922853000000004,2.9344612794612814,91.51121212121214,79.18518518518519,6.334680134680134,24.170033670033675,7.520522993642371,1.097896296296296,872,31,178,13,22,269,128,216,0.139,0.792,0.069,-0.9119,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,4,3,1,7,7,1,2,9,0,15,2,1,1,0,36,30,12,0,7,6,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,8,14,0,1,2,1,0,8,9,3,0,0,7,4,36,4,28,19,2,23,0,0,1,1,36,5,0,4,12,114,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104153715901793,0.0,0.15598265886657187,0.12766028112186173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390530157278233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860256333602798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988026928696948,0.0,0.0,0.16240087832579034,0.0,0.0,0.08394545584035082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673937841960833,0.0,0.09435384110392576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643873810909188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221943196422384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984088040076862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204490089326407,0.12310283427670644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484232606211815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496356496212093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202695577922147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813389465010933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880140307693853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528502861409889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637986981033257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736896408984674,0.1586406523747356,0.0,0.2254353932093409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136985119868094,0.19584755746069585,0.0,0.13317242836141685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14980857549735127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ventedabde,2019/03/24,"Toddler demons. Help. Okay, we have a 2 year old girl and a 1 year old boy. These children are evil. The boy is a monkey demon. He can climb anything. He is aware of what he will get in trouble for doing because he knows to only attempt bad things when we are occupied and he has a chance to run around unsupervised (this is a small window of time i promise). The girl is a puppeteer. She enables him to do bad. She will help him in his endeavors. She will use her height to get him things that he then devours. She knows to flee the scene when we are approaching, so the boy is the only one usually caught red handed. Evil. Pure evil. We have shelves lining our house all 6 feet (or higher) above the ground. We try to remove all furniture or objects that could be used or manipulated in conjunction with one another to enable them to reach said heights. Our endeavors have not been successful. The girl refuses to eat anything except the purest and most concentrated forms of sugar. It’s at the point where things such as peanut butter and jelly, mac and cheese, toaster strudels even, are not adequately suited for her appetite, and she WILL NOT eat otherwise. I mean, borderline stuffing food in her mouth, with no success. I love my children, but the attitude and unwillingness to do anything remotely not bad is driving me to the edge. Also, their audible signals when they do not receive what they desire is similar to the sounds of the burning souls forever trapped in hell. Seriously, make the mistake of letting them see candy in the grocery store and it’s screaming at the top of their lungs until we return to the car whether that be immediately or 30 minutes later because we tried to persevere and failed. We’ve tried depriving them of sweets. We’ve tried giving them sweets when they are good, and we’ve tried just outright giving them sweets whenever to see if the behavior wears off but no. I’m about ready to just start grabbing bags of candy for their diet and say to hell with it. Let them be spoiled little shits and kick em out when they turn 18. We need advice.",4.639499387505103,6.468330612658228,4.853785218456514,82.95813801551655,70.72151898734177,7.932217231523071,28.94446712944059,8.558390810932622,2.1705149040424665,1652,64,309,28,31,518,218,395,0.145,0.7559999999999999,0.099,-0.9749,0,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,10,0,13,9,14,24,6,0,24,1,32,12,6,4,3,57,51,30,0,5,16,0,2,0,0,4,0,5,2,8,13,25,5,1,3,0,1,9,7,15,0,2,3,15,40,9,46,38,4,44,5,2,3,1,58,19,3,6,16,201,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924091632473204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939925909268795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172226589659352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759835169167542,0.09951773201306137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2800225616705107,0.1362935680623594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892560537062845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287802974348927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383693155280216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351781765585001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11681241505355655,0.2144803156565281,0.0,0.09376502548980672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986236335179462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12899185772433372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287487058014004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286278372086309,0.0,0.0,0.11204399664788367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089578362373942,0.0,0.07462139127292616,0.0,0.0,0.12177322175597716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289164410560894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23461179498603754,0.0,0.1515050118815617,0.17004425595232986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567867252401393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633888463256948,0.08890072673874261,0.0,0.0,0.17816598004395834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114751902232701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912627774015582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280701073038847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518625791908228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794939103658924,0.12159655643488645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19310314130972145,0.123122043442759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397953681389056
parenting,get100,2019/03/24,"Is this OK or too much? Hello. I just made few t-shirts, for kid. But my partner says it's too much and hursh.
https://imgur.com/kAfAxJf
https://imgur.com/a/SXPDodG
I want to make a collection with something like this (and even more crazyness) but not sure in results. What do you think about?
This on Redbubble https://www.redbubble.com/people/MyLittleIrony/shop?asc=u",7.915919191919192,12.177900309090914,3.0987878787878813,83.73040404040404,82.27272727272728,6.080808080808081,22.47474747474748,7.3871296695380915,1.3527777777777783,307,9,45,5,9,76,48,55,0.045,0.8540000000000001,0.1,0.2414,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,1,14,6,5,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,3,6,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24876859446796906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400833443438352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3563879185966383,0.25141156645892226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5537506491708514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995209629230413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28995753582132505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35498077840141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413370879693736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22215330441628384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JNA9057,2019/03/24,"Yesterday was a day to learn from and remember (FTM) My DD, who is almost 3mos old had been so fussy and cranky yesterday. It was abnormal for her to be that way. She screamed and cried in her car seat while we were out, we pulled over. I fed her, changed her, and cuddled her until she fell asleep. Crisis averted, continued with our drive. Again this was new, she’s an angel whenever we go out. 

We get home and begin to cook dinner. She started to coo and scream playfully. Every time I checked on her she was fine. She began to whine and cry a bit, I let this go for 2mins while I cleaned up a bit and washed my hands. 

Crying then suddenly turns into uncontrollable screaming. I assumed she was hurt but I checked everywhere, nothing. Normally doesn’t take long to calm and soothe her, but this went on and on. Screaming, crying, hyperventilating. I checked her temp, normal. Tried feeding her again, not having it. Diaper was clean, she burped but didn’t help. She wouldn’t even calm down to sleep while I cradled her. I finally calm her a bit and the dogs barked which in turn made her cry again. It was the longest 20mins of my life and all I could do was stay calm and speak softly. She eventually stopped and fell asleep, I still don’t know what went wrong. She literally screamed bloody murder and cried for 20mins straight. ",3.1842647058823523,5.510370803921571,3.26904411764706,90.54944852941178,76.25490196078431,6.759803921568627,23.958333333333336,7.793537801064563,1.1007156862745109,1045,34,214,16,24,318,150,255,0.193,0.711,0.096,-0.9773,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,5,0,0,0,6,16,1,1,7,0,21,12,4,1,1,40,35,24,1,4,4,0,2,0,0,1,3,6,3,0,10,23,4,2,4,2,3,9,5,10,0,0,17,8,42,6,25,14,4,46,1,2,0,1,31,12,0,2,23,135,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509073103135187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437296372639288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102156358377027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379281204647543,0.0,0.6916857852710334,0.06768307975693963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931747339011915,0.0,0.08842361076793759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149659169673432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483124299606114,0.0,0.11928926592380475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034474595135147,0.0,0.10527187048336696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123495057011828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057676933430408465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073169191126031,0.07412820671679023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287609173635046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930477806780892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135988447014588,0.0,0.0,0.20565443214456647,0.1007008856216296,0.0,0.1101257630425974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11888615588066602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050242606325464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428306589081538,0.1118611031608613,0.08381198219532097,0.0877416186162729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789081870162038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06119629572466905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125312084424422,0.2283075931717936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330320903186543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457656273224325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474467478519765,0.0,0.0
parenting,jack-and-coffee,2019/03/24,"Burnout with my 3yo son, he’s becoming seriously intolerable and I’m about to have a breakdown My (28) 3yo has been a difficult (but loving and very lovable) child since he was a tiny baby. He was a very unhappy baby, and had what I think is colic until about 9mo. He’s very large and very strong, about the size of a 5 or 6yo right now and has always been in the 97th percentile for height and weight, though not overweight. He’s also hyperactive and very ahead intellectually. That makes him a NIGHTMARE when he’s angry.

I have always been generally good about calming him down from a tantrum, I would say I yell a lot less than most parents I know and I’m an extremely patient person.

Lately though he just goes all psycho on me and his father (28) anytime anything happens that he doesn’t like, and it’s ridiculous stuff. I’ve been letting him flush the toilet if he’s in there with me(because he’s always with me) hoping that he will find interest in using the “big potty” soon, and lately if he’s in the other room and hears anyone besides himself flush the toilet he runs in screaming like a banshee hitting and throwing anything in reach. If he doesn’t get to hang up the phone when I’m talking to someone, same thing. When it’s time to turn off the tv(which he knows we don’t watch tv for long periods of time), or pretty much if I tell him he can’t do something he wants to do, he has a full on tantrum, often hurting me or breaking something.

He has never been like this until a month ago, and nothing has changed. Literally we have done nothing different. I have panic attacks, GAD, and depression which i take medicine for and have attended therapy and I’d say you probably wouldn’t be able to tell I have any problem at all now. Except for when my kid has had a big ol tantrum for the entire day, which is every day now, and it’s really stirring up my anxiety, and burning me out on being a mommy.

My sweet little boy who usually loves to sit down and read with me, loves hugs and cuddles and kisses and listening to me sing has become the main trigger for panic attacks! I don’t know what to do!

Me and my husband live separately(long story, my anxiety was so bad at one point I moved in with my parents to not be alone while he works long hours, now we can’t afford to move in together but are working on it) but he sees us most days for as long as he can and has many days off. My parents are emotionally abusive and just not the best parents in general but I am with my son 24/7 and it hasn’t been a problem for him. Until he has started with these horrific tantrums, they have no idea how to handle it, often yelling or showing visible disappointment and making things even worse. I have no where to go, so I have to make something work here with them for now.

It’s like this horrible stressful pressure from all sides, to keep my parents calm, and to keep my little man calm, and to get all of the housework done, and to provide a healthy environment for him to learn and feel loved and grow.

I would never do this but most days I want to walk right out the door and disappear! I love my kid more than I have ever loved anything, he is my little buddy, I wouldn’t trade spending my life raising him for anything but this has got to stop and my gentle, patient parenting techniques are being stomped on like a doormat.

Sorry so long, I am new here and though I love reading Reddit I never post. I’m a pretty bad rambler. This is a last resort for some advice.",6.0627312304002965,5.736818333812952,6.470791366906475,80.41048883969748,66.38129496402878,9.027485703744695,32.64065670540491,8.384062270229773,2.37188470761852,2742,103,547,33,39,890,314,695,0.127,0.754,0.119,-0.8449,8,1,3,0,1,0,70.0,4,1,2,7,32,44,7,4,32,0,64,13,0,6,8,113,101,68,0,13,20,10,2,5,0,5,2,7,2,6,25,49,2,3,8,5,2,10,17,21,0,1,14,12,61,23,83,76,16,91,0,3,2,10,72,37,0,16,46,369,86,8,0.05627493357773434,0.06667659414437818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05499121379055633,0.04988433318146514,0.0,0.0,0.05828385955455526,0.0,0.04500304405054064,0.140475758482835,0.0,0.0,0.038268884582558366,0.0,0.0861003403114001,0.0,0.0,0.03934874201493042,0.0,0.18523790159753376,0.0,0.0,0.12804172211572204,0.0,0.0,0.09397443786372456,0.034304677183937614,0.12430248567924328,0.0,0.0,0.05905707090233527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059531417935336964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146338324270087,0.0,0.048469517830034635,0.0,0.0,0.05879532807967752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151775905792808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330172587596754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03716906288655464,0.05090389922181033,0.047414058657224416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028454297289464893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143426978366756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058802660264275164,0.0,0.031982341608579636,0.047200744338864134,0.045008205195131636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04976373791196829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342594007970066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589370671560675,0.05541947385193823,0.0,0.060243480300824825,0.06352755020080463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003949328180103,0.0,0.0,0.09278169533300093,0.045871581781184584,0.1269611524785164,0.0,0.0,0.05754493232663376,0.03974864983345813,0.13746544994694673,0.16920680220119702,0.04969179735371669,0.24900772673704444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047842936117121065,0.3555322727180231,0.0,0.11269186543547526,0.057053949947735424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04491811508756413,0.11962269693758852,0.04136855125648101,0.0,0.13020809404427694,0.05435068152068272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799463302237544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038133351399000974,0.0,0.0,0.13205301888335855,0.374919924292114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491371013747015,0.0,0.0,0.05319800189697371,0.0,0.05389583053904183,0.1145036773047417,0.060673896422592175,0.10769502267620762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125803247479455,0.0,0.036051163451925966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09611697158874397,0.0,0.0895041717829167,0.0,0.0,0.04484383612124255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046551206584619566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768156860135238,0.12996957963792652,0.0,0.0629951808436023,0.03983168763181391,0.0,0.0,0.047048364295707565,0.0644627462801411,0.0,0.0644213352866078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042311746548560285,0.04523165995318544,0.0983735447300838,0.0,0.06435529095523157,0.0,0.07477313063838782,0.0360587051543864,0.16586950955003998,0.0,0.06562873264040962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061210967978601774,0.0,0.0,0.06769181614419788,0.04860347425054863,0.06197888887314343,0.2321635689472385,0.06638482771480188,0.0,0.0,0.06852770854230647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290646562744414,0.0,0.0573489650177887,0.0799521964138001,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaMaIxner87,2019/03/24,"Burnt out SAHM afraid I’m doing more harm than good to my kiddos I’ve been lurking around and I decided that this is the place to ask for some help. Thanks in advance for reading/sharing your thoughts. (I’m still somewhat new to reddit so forgive me if I don’t use proper acronyms or understand some of them)

So here’s the deal. I (f31) have been a stay at home mom for a bit over 3 years now. My husband (m32) is a hard working supportive man, and he’s an amazing father. My boys (6 & 3) are good kids for the most part.  They are kids after all! I love them dearly. Recently though I feel like I can’t stand them. I know. It sounds horrible. How can a mother not like her children. I just don’t know how else to put it. I’m exhausted with them. The bickering, constant questions, need for a snack every 30 seconds... I feel like I’ve hit he end of my rope. I’ve been short tempered and unkind over the last month or so. I find myself apologizing for raising my voice more often than ever before. I fear it’s beginning to be bad for them, and I am at a loss for how to correct my impatience. 

My oldest is in 1st grade and he’s been having a rough couple months in the classroom. He’s been in two physical scuffles (not really fights, no one got hit) with a bully and has told me he doesn’t like or trust his teacher. He such a sweet boy. I can’t believe he’s been struggling so much. 

My youngest has started throwing tantrums like crazy. Every little thing warrants an ear piercing scream and throwing any near by objects. This could be a phase, but he has always been my mellow one. It seems out of character. 

I personally feel like I just can’t do this anymore. I take every opportunity to check out when my husband is home. I know it’s unfair to him and the kids, but I’m on the verge of loosing my shit pretty much all day every day. So when I don’t have to be involved I’m just not. 

The reason I started staying home in the first place was the cost of child care vs the income I could bring in without pulling 60-70 hour weeks. I live in the suburbs. It’s a beautiful house. We have a pool and a park. We have an amazing yard and safe streets to play on. I have everything I could possibly need. But still I’m just exhausted with being alone with my kids all day most every day. Any advice on how to snap out of it would be so much appreciated. I want to give my boys the best of me. And right now they’re seeing me at my worst. ",1.2692292490118575,3.2959423339920946,2.815298023715414,92.9031209486166,81.19367588932806,5.6290276679841895,22.17533596837945,6.742157984588678,0.44415886166008,1895,61,418,20,50,620,251,506,0.102,0.75,0.14800000000000002,0.9814,1,1,0,0,1,0,64.0,2,1,6,6,26,37,4,3,30,0,43,6,2,6,5,76,78,31,0,8,16,5,5,6,0,1,2,4,4,11,12,22,1,1,14,3,2,6,12,15,0,5,11,11,55,22,57,56,17,64,0,1,1,1,47,28,1,12,33,265,67,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123344605474535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08609736782715631,0.0,0.0,0.06917062540315902,0.09007106764705668,0.0,0.11306218419373723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824423910771416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07400311702752879,0.07771511030793676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940988298424189,0.0,0.0,0.07073730878983013,0.09365878019356083,0.08723956160647584,0.0,0.09075617497565397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475633760865603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983374557047284,0.0,0.19911706348898664,0.091981505862343,0.0,0.21444728984816816,0.08570313940304615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944425322164886,0.0,0.07362829920406873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519563338173207,0.3502020696285858,0.0,0.07471167420342717,0.0,0.0,0.0935440991533352,0.12609872366299968,0.17816376613600185,0.0,0.0,0.07597910087509831,0.07071013721286891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797456472257034,0.0,0.13945060873173193,0.06648646859596162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446794274430965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055720130417006165,0.0,0.2501578024021293,0.0,0.0818660751275672,0.0959205897248478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705783748303946,0.06776185516217169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24367803020723885,0.08331786535365511,0.07340510713349076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502786018186029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736057822107036,0.13270677358545968,0.0,0.18332983099747946,0.12327933756662675,0.0,0.08028724683482492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266176286108325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09002143655824166,0.0,0.0,0.07258570594588046,0.17370582617151642,0.0,0.0,0.0937163216425686,0.0,0.08457285857365507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356837627651699,0.09312436400910012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325505730127671,0.08547124556143644,0.08208061591123364,0.0,0.0,0.07099236667367925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06624366132955553,0.07567821760146394,0.0,0.0,0.08533151106120031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176793536811906,0.17721054138212086,0.13277507837360705,0.0,0.0,0.08690528171554802,0.0,0.0,0.09433467428523123,0.0,0.0,0.06250323904152102,0.0,0.0,0.07653472047595249,0.0,0.0,0.05522772326132041,0.0,0.08167457385391848,0.06599574919114726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943405466983437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120570298158564,0.08654101901601388,0.0,0.07179742783352015,0.0,0.0,0.049032090304124254,0.0,0.06668168465411617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013412874748825,0.0,0.06051946033507979,0.0,0.0,0.05905300125830454,0.0,0.0,0.05353284433275322
parenting,hellomynameissarita,2019/03/24,"Noise sensitive parents- what are your tips and tricks for taking care of yourself? Hi Parents,


I’m a soon to be FTM in May and recently have been feeling anxious about my sensitivity to sound and how it will affect my mothering. I have a lot of experience with kids 1-10 yrs from being a nanny for six years. From that I remember that there were times I just couldn’t handle certain things after a while or that I was feeling particularly drained. Kids music is absolutely painful sometimes when driving, especially if I need to concentrate on the road. Tv shows and certain toys that make loud repetitive noises can get under my skin. Kids themselves, when they’re hyper and can’t control the volume of their voices, can sometimes make me feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed. 

My coping mechanisms in the past were mostly to take little breaks from the kids when safe and to just breathe for a minute in the bathroom or another low stimulation kind of place. But I have to say that I mostly got through the tough days comforting myself with knowing I’d be able to leave in a matter of a few hours. 

Obviously that won’t be an option when I’ve got a little one of my own. So, I was wondering if there are any parents that have similar issues as me and how you’ve learned to take care of yourself amidst the chaos. 

I also want to mention that I absolutely love and adore children which is why I chose to be a nanny for so long and am having children of my own. This problem isn’t extremely severe for me, but one that I do feel like I need some help with which is why I’m trying to prepare myself now. 

Thanks for taking the time to read this!",6.787882270985719,6.6942230250783705,6.9686886102403385,76.66575322187394,64.8307210031348,9.722117729014279,33.08272378962034,9.2995712137729,2.8222934865900378,1311,49,247,21,18,423,180,319,0.065,0.8290000000000001,0.106,0.9174,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,1,16,17,1,1,18,0,30,4,2,7,3,52,54,27,0,7,8,4,5,1,0,3,1,4,0,6,16,13,0,2,8,4,0,1,4,6,0,3,7,9,26,11,42,38,7,30,0,2,0,1,17,11,0,11,18,174,42,2,0.1134543615297413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072941192540228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07715285635605583,0.11896679033194782,0.0,0.1281711350285154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313485658327917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272487136757786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316867734153355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110980135761219,0.0,0.0,0.2294637364463086,0.08105181854610051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05927522124320402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814796343370053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604606701808445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172969246601797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184168770685356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181452587056934,0.06235155000886276,0.0,0.0,0.12013178734340985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055428070242272726,0.2274221515660345,0.0,0.100403539753271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964548410062238,0.10239699083460577,0.0,0.15146333461731545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682499429986163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15375922318901494,0.0,0.120723439794895,0.0,0.3779329261809257,0.0,0.10830502570873296,0.0,0.0,0.11853566026865572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856050163775306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348506389124136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202249477446033,0.0,0.12852167500719888,0.0,0.0,0.0902234620130842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281711350285154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244185291468534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412142412034393,0.0,0.0,0.1044535330223902,0.0,0.0,0.07537403650987813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231230116759812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702806413881097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691832193138904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047498291670333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303641543996158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306088907779634
parenting,matanuskamaid,2019/03/24,"What do you do when your child is overly confident, to their detriment So. My 17 year old daughter seems blind to her own short comings, and I’m unsure of how to respond. From when she was a toddler, she’s always believed she excelled at anything she attempted, even when it was clearly apparent that was not the case.  She played soccer for several years, from 4-7 years old, and was an average player. We went to all of her matches, and were glad she appeared to enjoy it, was part of a team, even though she was no Lionel Messi.  In her eyes however, she was invaluable. After the matches she’d talk about how great she had done, how she had some great moves, came very close to scoring, etc. even though that wasn’t exactly true. I never called her on these exaggerations, and always praised her, although sometimes I wondered if that was the correct response. I figured it was an age thing, she’d figure it out eventually. 

Except she is now 17 and still behaves exactly the same way. Everything she does, from cleaning her room, to school assignments, saving for college, being responsible for her vehicle, her chores, her pets, it’s all approached with a laconic half-assed attitude, which results in a half-assed final product which she then turns in, presents, as some of her finest work. Her professors don’t think so, but when she gets the grade she’s earned, which is lower than what she believed it should be, it’s the professors who are unable to see her brilliance. At home, she is aware of what’s expected of her, but only does it when asked, and then, again, only half-assed. It will take her 8 hours to clean her room,  after forcing me to continually check on her progress so it will eventually get done. Just like with her teachers, what she’d like to claim as ‘cleaned’ is far from it, and she knows it, but she’ll declare it finished, perfect, forcing me to point out what is not done, then check again, and again, and again. Sometimes I just say fuck it, and do it for her to get it done, even though I know that’s exactly what she’s working towards. A new car at 16, huge wardrobe, newest of electronics, and I have to remind her to hang up her bath towels daily or it doesn’t get done. Same goes for chores, she has 3 daily chores, feed and water the pets, clean her room, unload the dishwasher if it’s needed. That’s it. These have been her chores for 5 years. And yet I have to remind her every day to see that they are done, and most of the time have to go behind her to see they’ve actually been done, and done completely/correctly. 

So I’m thinking I need to leave an impression, because clearly I’m not being heard. Tomorrow when she’s at school, I intend to empty out her room, leaving 5 changes of clothes, and bedding. That’s it. I’m going to put all of her make-up, accessories, electronics, additional clothing, all of it into a storage unit. I’ve purchased a flip-phone that has call and text abilities only, and am intending giving her that and confiscating the iPhone XS. Ideally I’ll leave her with the barest of necessities, and she can earn the rest of it back by pulling the tiny bit of weight she’s responsible for. I’m also not going to allow her to continue to turn in C work while pretending it’s otherwise, I think I’ve been enabling her by not being the voice of reason.  She’s brilliant and capable of great things, but would like to submit little effort and still be given 100% credit. What do you all think?",6.2387585151167215,6.2947358417910495,6.3091044776119425,80.42796976655188,65.95522388059702,9.43895905089935,31.657099119785684,9.127657967737557,2.520544584768465,2714,97,532,43,39,863,302,670,0.028,0.835,0.13699999999999998,0.9973,4,0,0,0,0,0,105.0,1,3,2,14,33,18,1,0,24,0,59,6,1,8,14,94,96,53,0,8,15,1,1,3,0,5,1,3,17,1,47,34,3,0,11,5,4,13,10,1,0,0,28,9,77,17,83,55,15,81,1,0,5,1,77,27,1,9,43,373,124,15,0.0,0.0,0.06632964965042558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435618630670421,0.1131142223933899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05593413791626351,0.0,0.06354347831512679,0.0,0.0,0.052265313174501636,0.0,0.04143433991059227,0.0,0.0,0.15315952443917366,0.0,0.0,0.07420645758178072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881147600527455,0.07774043337308523,0.0,0.0,0.07190404366338803,0.058550784833538025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04383551235470978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896332731525715,0.5564614309070922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075805356419459,0.1795761642113094,0.0,0.057268290630178624,0.0,0.06108772966828632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07445863710236676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283786552372944,0.1420476514017667,0.0652037394675708,0.11588803528811925,0.0,0.0,0.22481398413788176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818020686630909,0.0,0.06693749965741012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470989609367518,0.0,0.0,0.21591363844277894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962122917275942,0.06812455067469612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04537100517009097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224215315243618,0.0,0.10079890361512008,0.0524232346783999,0.0656465764252915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264774191013846,0.0,0.0,0.15508446072265705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736057013773678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425433130720784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832938002295931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698852541980546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054053070623353,0.0,0.13758006085738794,0.1624916688864043,0.06187802037507961,0.0,0.07678760334608921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444962468193367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108563061674776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110554689973161,0.05463231626322183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031349557490463,0.17421165494042146,0.2003427580049513,0.0,0.039634292454402635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786532109792308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608298937802126,0.0,0.053952019645336864,0.0,0.08277006525411668,0.0,0.06300956864120599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737113817695888,0.14845055228799872,0.0,0.0,0.04828447247944016,0.0,0.0,0.17508374469400775
parenting,MammothCalligrapher,2019/03/24,"A fascinating journey through space for kids This could probably be a great game to get your kids interested in space.

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNpXcJ7CxXM](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UNpXcJ7CxXM)

​",22.335942028985514,30.19089621739131,9.46086956521739,40.888115942028996,43.34782608695652,10.023188405797102,38.10144927536232,9.725611199111238,5.30251884057971,195,7,17,4,3,43,20,23,0.0,0.628,0.3720000000000001,0.8924,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,10,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39788986600018816,0.4462205120768672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932005573659287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918607409737603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048686212202613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3959323837760457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4462205120768672,0.0
parenting,miltf,2019/03/24,"Stuffed animals I couldn't think of where else to post . I apologize if this type of post isnt welcome..just send me in the right direction ...

...
So the thing is i have a ton i mean a SHIT TON of stuffed animals and they need a new home!   We moved , my house is small and they are taking up wayyyy too much room . I realize a lot of places dont take stuffed animals for obvious reasons ...but there must be somewhere I can take them . I mean there are kids in this world with absolutely nothing and they would love to have something to cuddle with! 
I live in ky does anyone know of anywhere I can take these ?????? I am a super clean person and actually I just washed about 30 stuffed animals last weekend and that does even begin to touch how many my kids have in this house.   The ones that are too big for the washing machine, I spray with disinfectant and tossed in the dryer ... please tell me there is a place I can take these !!!!!!!!!!",2.009154589371981,4.185077934782612,2.8260144927536253,93.00835748792272,79.43478260869566,6.480193236714977,23.265700483091784,7.594959193182576,0.8925251207729463,716,24,157,11,18,225,107,184,0.024,0.884,0.092,0.9061,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,4,1,11,3,1,0,11,0,19,5,1,2,2,26,31,10,0,5,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,3,3,8,10,0,0,6,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,1,22,2,21,27,4,22,0,0,0,2,12,14,1,2,4,104,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.12968495876671002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929222773512508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23259212552663866,0.0,0.15575027979444173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101552912063647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777495273216092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330309089166614,0.0,0.0,0.3066826851137568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07303483318120682,0.10832600043972088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734746117251132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298136488039286,0.11994163966733758,0.0,0.0,0.13473322626213127,0.0,0.2895201238429093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124483850235325,0.09769206832623974,0.09853890174265792,0.0,0.1283494425457889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751496907250573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900521255212215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603754347328435,0.27769100118649565,0.14587723781574688,0.0,0.0,0.25455061874784124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663672817270198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349038666525403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364133446850776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023079663873234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49959714677909,0.0,0.11615484179857695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828858595994263,0.08515283665260512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440378255530807,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,treyscandi,2019/03/24,"Our 1 year old son is hitting himself We have a video monitor set up in our sons bedroom and this morning my husband woke me up to show me that our son was sitting up in his crib hitting himself in the face. He wasn’t fussing/crying or making any noises at all. It went on for several minutes then he stopped and started playing with his blanket. 
I caught him on camera last week also, banging his head off the side of the crib. As far as I know he hasn’t done that before or again. 
Is this “self-soothing”? 
FTP here and I am concerned that he may hurt himself. ",2.2999130434782638,4.0720811217391315,3.465434782608696,90.69989130434786,76.91304347826087,5.295652173913044,28.89130434782609,5.6839178017228535,1.0808434782608698,439,20,90,2,10,142,83,115,0.048,0.936,0.016,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,9,2,2,1,1,12,17,9,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,1,1,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,0,17,1,16,8,1,24,0,1,0,0,19,12,0,3,8,62,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166528831505688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799921462993911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252240238116604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907396338866928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27086054323367675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716390513803824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28334646902231825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546174751322907,0.2157503295172208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667661296699108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27773816993464506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27611999244229657,0.2990141749379416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734256369846367,0.0,0.0,0.2212851553379117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123111210939859,0.0,0.0,0.24536192509523566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704458766240106
parenting,SaltyCity_,2019/03/24,"Two year old shuts himself in his room and cries My son just turned two a few days ago. He was a super sweet baby and infant but we had quite a few big life changes throughout his short life and his temperament is a little chaotic. We've moved 3 times (for my husbands job and because we bought a house, hated the unsafe neighborhood, and flipped it for profit). I also had another baby when he was 19 months old. (She is super sweet just like he was) 

I know when kids get siblings sometimes they don't know how to handle the change so I don't need advice on that. 

For the past few months my son's tantrums have been getting worse.  They don't worry me, but I'm not sure what my response should be. Half the time I try to comfort him or talk him down or distract and it works. Sometimes I give him space and that works. Sometimes no matter what I do he doesn't stop.

Recently he started closing himself in his room (like a little teenager haha) and screams if I get anywhere near him. Advice?",3.2263881909547765,4.837424386934675,3.669670226130656,90.90540986180905,73.97487437185929,5.779020100502512,25.502826633165828,5.985473137389443,0.6589218592964823,779,26,160,4,16,243,120,199,0.13699999999999998,0.7390000000000001,0.124,-0.5944,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,2,5,7,14,2,1,10,1,16,2,0,1,1,27,28,18,0,3,8,3,0,2,0,1,2,1,2,2,6,11,0,1,2,0,2,1,6,4,0,3,7,3,27,10,10,19,3,30,0,0,0,0,27,14,0,3,17,97,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476624106283763,0.11233134674354467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133948322746364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287899477825427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724851354946148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681100026295992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919809188535492,0.08172516268841849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986209376266682,0.12156322419048768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511167251557795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622009550192866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575196398325306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928611951160272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901489635182422,0.1238198699946565,0.2540173337961119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20229647423020494,0.1346853590205648,0.0,0.09396270688136278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659467013960668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097042296806992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478437318021225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251226199904053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3759936930227508,0.0,0.08969443569534014,0.0,0.0,0.1059452093745018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943392120626528,0.0,0.0,0.10185428879051812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778515522601826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603587357379887,0.13783707288417993,0.24757782827085395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451015147643976,0.1286922731628162,0.12914047485334004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816047694585572
parenting,8rick80,2019/03/24,"Time between adrenarche and puberty ( thelarche) in your (now)teenage kids Whats your experience about your child starting adrenarche( acc to wiki happens between 6-8 years) ( start of androgen production which may cause  an unclear skin or greasy hair and start of body order ) and thelarche ( start of puberty, as in breast development ) ",8.957222222222224,11.515686759259264,7.1564814814814826,67.7991666666667,61.03703703703704,9.844444444444443,43.12962962962963,10.125756701596842,5.1951629629629625,271,16,36,6,4,80,41,54,0.038,0.962,0.0,-0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,4,1,0,7,6,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,10,5,0,9,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,3,6,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31048944070657136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28714934027303235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734292452516151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471831777392149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7913973938987109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629933699288321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000503982925026
parenting,hellaTeaplz,2019/03/24,"8 almost 9 yroldSD I think it's almost a game by now. But, she says she cannot sleep by herself and she needs someone in the bed with her to fall asleep. Her room is right across the hall from ours. She has fallen asleep several times by herself before. Sometimes she wakes up crying because she wakes up by herself. Because of this, we just let her sleep in our bed with us. We have started to, within the past couple months, make her fall asleep by herself while we finish up chores or talk about our day together but still in our bed. She stills whines and begs for someone to stay in the bed with her just for her to fall asleep but she accepts when we say no.

Now, I see all these things on FB about how you should let your children co-sleep with you for as long as they want. Her mom lets her sleep in her bed while she's over there. And her grandma too. SD is the baby of the family.

Anyway, we are buying her a new bed. I'm worried if she'll sleep in her room after it's all said and done. It's been a year since we tried making her sleep in her room all by herself. We kind of just gave up because she would cry a lot. I think she's growing out of it though as she has no problem falling asleep by herself. I'm just worried about her waking up by herself and being scared.

Is she too old for this? What are some things to encourage solo sleeping?",2.3545837187789083,3.825065031914896,2.9584057971014524,95.69021739130436,75.98581560283688,5.4717237126117775,21.835337650323773,5.511479884284512,-0.08008899167437589,1057,27,239,4,23,329,139,282,0.112,0.851,0.037000000000000005,-0.9666,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,12,3,1,0,18,6,0,1,10,0,18,14,14,3,3,44,30,18,0,6,9,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,10,1,10,17,0,0,3,1,1,6,3,3,0,0,4,4,55,3,50,19,5,47,0,1,1,0,61,22,0,6,18,176,65,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873947820907674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17111921903200186,0.0,0.0796216474925954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353403544612234,0.20556571408040009,0.060345264790763777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575516114142067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820998834722901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743933031739192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870466853888256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280699354533562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955033673360645,0.0,0.0,0.1249181393687113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958869896825693,0.0746871214573282,0.0,0.0,0.0693813782767336,0.0,0.090371021671558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981865534924786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932367909367739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953438076472747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990873968291863,0.0890070218756706,0.148822116330055,0.0936804455224908,0.0,0.07456361489057735,0.0,0.0,0.10570808934710738,0.0,0.07740252709609415,0.0,0.6554668889269583,0.0,0.15856404920210346,0.0,0.09254366798313894,0.0,0.0662297179257922,0.09973375789444634,0.14945112652610512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520846487112305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432823324948622,0.11991246231991833,0.09193259172222834,0.0,0.05456174102864168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06352826230655301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255385236386606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519033557834994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005087405316315,0.0,0.06646983508431845,0.0,0.0,0.0602563673068555
parenting,MyDogCanSploot,2019/03/24,"How to protect my daughter when I suspect her friend is being sexually abused My daughter (6) has a friend, T (6). T was in my daughter's class last year and they sit together on the bus. My daughter likes to draw on the bus ride. I was flipping through my daughter's notebook and found that T had draw pornographic and explicit pictures in my daughter's notebook. (I feel pretty certain it was T. The handwriting and drawing style were not my daughter's. And before I expressed alarm about it, I calmly and casually asked my daughter who drew it and she said T did.) I took my daughter's notebook and hid it. I only know T's first name and my daughter told me the teacher's name. So I contacted the principal and school social worker. They said they would handle it. I never got an update (not unusual for reporters) and no one asked to see the drawings. Last night, my daughter told me that T and another boy recently started playing game. T made up the game and called it the ""penis game."" My daughter doesn't know what happens in the game but assures me that it doesn't involve touching or looking at private areas. I'm going to contact the school again. But I don't know what to do if they don't follow up or report it. My question is.... how can I shield my daughter from this? We will teach her about the birds and the bees later and she knows some things. But I don't want her exposed to pictures of sex when she's 6. I told my daughter not to play with the girl but my daughter is very kind and very forgiving. She doesn't understand why I don't want them to play together. I try to explain the T is not a bad kid. She just may be having some problems at home that cause her to make bad choices. But I also emphasize that T is talking about things that are very inappropriate. So what do I do to help T and shield my daughter?",3.5974611801242204,4.988058233695653,4.5101708074534175,86.13576086956526,72.6413043478261,6.9962732919254655,29.990683229813666,7.447530270364453,1.7809368012422366,1442,62,289,16,28,467,171,368,0.054000000000000006,0.831,0.114,0.97,0,0,0,0,1,0,43.0,1,0,5,2,12,16,0,1,17,0,30,1,0,5,4,61,58,32,0,5,13,16,2,1,2,3,0,2,1,3,21,19,0,1,11,8,0,4,13,4,0,2,15,6,52,12,28,38,2,28,0,0,2,1,61,10,0,7,14,192,73,7,0.0,0.141490315323271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954982025541106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521975398312804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232786505252764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994173970085216,0.0,0.0,0.101615572478767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121938709768825,0.0,0.0,0.12267475870304767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06038112095334036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157653995978512,0.0,0.13093522225640386,0.18452346563215666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06786776764835767,0.0,0.09550915470283654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056005793214721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004309250353711,0.0,0.11978557820008208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12435504217706946,0.26251513488062234,0.1946825465182899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583414018326512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028069843561403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299580984231475,0.0797121677626331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210220628083386,0.0,0.0,0.11206531744336516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092044866740793,0.09082245738335663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149061912521195,0.0,0.11426650470634613,0.0,0.0,0.13377502936422528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791046221465712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271869464486405,0.0,0.0,0.24171395036861135,0.09516035716162437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217311930873515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452438393418697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598333435438047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586714793623821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423258706477125,0.13267733500961276,0.08107670396373043,0.0,0.0,0.12431792134382713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955960513441168,0.14087117565887688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077557996010685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483082876789741,0.0,0.0,0.07690101187552545
parenting,savemefromthem,2019/03/24,"5.5 year old is still not reading or writing more than a few words. Can you recommend anything? My 5 year old (6 this summer) hasn’t learned past sounding out the letters and can’t read simple words yet. 

I don’t pressure her to read or write. If she wants to then great but otherwise I don’t push it. I read books to her daily, since she was born. We can’t go a day without reading a book. And she sees her sister constantly reading. 

The thing is, her older sister was reading short books by this age and I’d really like my younger daughter to learn as well. 

Are there any books that you can recommend for practice ? We have the BOB books which she enjoys sometimes but if the words get too difficult, she stops. Which is ok with me, again, I don’t want her to hate reading so I never pressure her. ",2.220828157349896,4.268125658385095,2.9612173913043485,92.9493623188406,78.13043478260869,5.784016563146997,24.39792960662525,6.742157984588678,0.7320356935817807,625,22,132,6,15,196,100,161,0.086,0.779,0.135,0.81,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,0,0,8,9,1,2,7,1,15,0,0,0,1,26,21,12,0,4,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,1,2,13,0,2,9,4,1,0,2,2,23,5,12,19,2,21,0,0,1,0,21,2,0,4,18,85,30,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377424152349361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892747844680453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172348913995816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996453442031479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05667948919705047,0.0,0.06165512844326796,0.0,0.0,0.1196062650764856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710752515075472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05300080948867725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367113808097368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276757430845852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356222053491212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8681233497496448,0.0,0.06949894852481556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644934475974593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089740790599081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072954881619728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663710833191092,0.09069920455478302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207331830228356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797577893240747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754199735622797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457669132522207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397229326642669
parenting,yahooborn,2019/03/24,"Can’t convince my wife to stop using her phone during family time. After dozens of chats about it, my wife still flops on the couch with her phone in front of her face while our daughter plays or chats with me about 4 yr old stuff. It’s to the point that my wife is confused that our daughter “acts out” towards her for attention more than me. I’ve internally committed to sticking to no screen time family time, putting MSU phone aside, but I don’t know how to get my wife on the same page. She knows socially it’s harmful. ",5.935714285714287,5.747905380952384,5.619761904761906,85.94107142857145,66.6190476190476,9.285714285714286,28.92857142857143,8.841846274778883,1.867285714285713,415,12,89,6,6,128,71,105,0.064,0.8909999999999999,0.045,-0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,0,3,1,1,2,1,14,7,4,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,1,3,3,0,3,3,2,0,1,0,1,14,2,19,7,3,17,0,0,1,0,19,6,0,2,8,54,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4783789837481885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256091953937066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788814155570119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662418653348828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398522793841815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25506385661469466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25864083959260104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026252337381303,0.2121255877143152,0.0,0.0,0.29045459525697875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44384752873000544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913706660564702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,janznote,2019/03/24,"""I'm A Big Kid"" Cartoon Promotes Positive Mental Health **Play this for your child and let us know their feedback.** 

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""[***I'm A Big Kid***](https://youtu.be/Hmk2TqeVkMk),"" an original story about a little boy who now feels as ""big"" as the things he's singing about. This animation was inspired by my daughter singing to my grandchild that she is a big girl. It's for children who may feel small in a big, big world to empower them to believe they are bigger than they know, especially in negative situations where they may be picked on or bullied. It's an affirmation that promotes positive mental health in children.",4.411216216216218,7.486386450450452,4.1760585585585615,81.5976013513514,76.38738738738739,7.303603603603604,31.77252252252252,8.344100000000001,2.8614198198198197,500,25,84,10,12,152,75,111,0.069,0.782,0.149,0.8137,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,1,5,2,4,2,0,0,8,0,7,2,0,2,0,11,13,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,9,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,10,2,15,8,0,17,0,0,0,0,18,15,0,3,2,54,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341595187143754,0.2626022657947059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434865652912724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21854754780323302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4594383287056604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375412963669941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22099129211574536,0.0,0.0,0.2166030864424704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4355843303186368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429212841953294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14357659386514549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25995863250749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626022657947059,0.0
parenting,mitcheg3k,2019/03/24,Is it bad luck to give a pregnant woman a mothers day card I was gonna buy my wife one but thought i should find out 1st,1.3821428571428598,1.8253186428571448,2.934285714285714,98.96071428571429,76.85714285714286,5.6000000000000005,24.714285714285715,3.1291,-0.06420000000000002,94,3,25,0,2,31,26,28,0.08900000000000001,0.8320000000000001,0.079,-0.0644,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,3,1,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196823902409946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241604340574065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4594027434228958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4821769235167351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406010491116804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.399039049994854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentingsquare,2019/03/24,"Ways to Announce Pregnancy Wondering how to announce this wonderful news to family and friends, I have jotted down few interesting ways to get at the top of it. Check out here: [https://www.parentingsquare.com/pregnancy/ways-to-announce-pregnancy/](https://www.parentingsquare.com/pregnancy/ways-to-announce-pregnancy/) ",27.06909090909091,32.652026969696976,15.517727272727274,13.19659090909093,21.727272727272734,13.872727272727275,40.74242424242424,13.023866798666859,6.168042424242424,282,8,24,6,2,69,28,33,0.0,0.7,0.3,0.8995,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,8,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145351960570853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577768920145308,0.0,0.1743181712964678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.52967112427509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7236576259873708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boogerbikes,2019/03/24,"Parents of kids with 5 year age gap in a small house? After 2 years of trying, it looks like we’re going to have two kids in a couple of months, current kid will be almost 5 when the second arrives. We only have 2 bedrooms. Ours is bigger and we plan on having baby in our room for a while. 5yo sleeps well in his own room but likes to join us for morning snuggles. 
Mostly I’m nervous about the bedroom situation but would also appreciate advise about having kids with a bigger age gap too. Our friends and family all have kids nicely nesseled between the two ages so our socializing shouldn’t change too much",6.177678571428572,6.237669125000004,6.53404761904762,78.75000000000001,66.08333333333334,8.19047619047619,28.809523809523807,7.447530270364453,1.6969523809523808,485,14,90,4,7,157,86,120,0.021,0.8079999999999999,0.171,0.9565,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,7,0,0,1,8,6,0,1,7,0,10,1,1,0,1,13,13,8,0,2,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,4,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,3,0,1,8,5,18,9,4,21,0,0,1,0,17,10,0,2,12,62,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20536531121037727,0.0,0.0,0.1640082437545897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169551751394871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22692520221785525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19333805890089345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584499431426092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655584170021205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366432144820787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003905957775969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17222168368655594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369873024599166,0.0,0.15076276686144893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559781370804369,0.0,0.0,0.2277251818147275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305267237003996,0.20523541665161849,0.2090606802478295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924081784647002,0.0,0.4006809933709431,0.0,0.2466947762444772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18439811723750266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456881372671481,0.0,0.0,0.2641390008049505
parenting,spooky1289,2019/03/24,"How do i bribe a toddler to poop? He has a pretty healthy diet overall. We've tried everything. He isn't constipated, he just does not want to poop. I've tried to give him things like juicy juice, prune juice, apples, raisons, fiber in his drinks, suppositories, laxatives (toddler laxatives)..he just does not want to let it out and it's making me insane. In the past 2.5 weeks he pooped once and it was just a little bit. He'll squat down and say, ""Oh no I'm pooping!....oop nevermind it disappeared."" 🙄 I've tried telling him we'll get a treat, we'll get a toy, he can watch a special movie...I'm out of ideas. Our doctor says not to worry unless he's in pain or getting sick but neither is an issue. I'm just stressed out.",0.9004681872749103,3.2569681224489813,2.3116046418567437,93.89088835534216,85.4625850340136,5.363585434173669,20.891956782713088,6.794906146795322,0.34425762304921914,562,18,123,7,17,181,95,147,0.108,0.8109999999999999,0.081,-0.3941,0,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,8,0,9,8,3,2,0,21,19,7,0,2,10,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,5,6,2,0,1,2,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,3,8,3,14,14,2,11,0,0,1,0,17,8,0,1,3,57,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19293412735808024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18088196216798255,0.3093003828930656,0.0,0.0,0.17311980921152648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882590545234193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27698909797972915,0.16952738325765399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994970833847726,0.0,0.1844513512665054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18070972556709966,0.0,0.08633720722397377,0.17712138760428894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796298563643665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18820264927327596,0.0,0.0,0.18804415511499495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687006855396752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978931650065286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810720886453352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024339019718388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446239618747815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740592412863116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599469315752266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846986021406275,0.0,0.1417553421897714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17946927995743808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaB2016,2019/03/24,"Toddler waking up too early Hi everyone! I’m sure I’m not the only one facing this, but being 8-months pregnant, and already lacking sleep, I just can’t deal with my toddlers new sense of waking up at 6am or in the middle of the night. 

We recently moved her to a big girl bed, as we’re using the crib for little brother. It actually started out great. She would play for a little bit, then put herself back to sleep. But it’s been getting worse. We removed all toys, and I’m about to remove the books. She still entertains herself playing the her bookshelves, bows and hairbrush! So I’m going to baby proof those to see if not getting into the drawers at least helps. 

Anyways, any tips on helping her figure out how to stay in bed until at least 7? She’s 2.5, and we have had a night light/sound machine that changes colors for a few months, and I’ve tried explaining colors and when we can wake up but she doesn’t seem to grasp it.

I’m desperate!",3.270312500000003,4.733360822916668,4.336375,86.77112500000004,73.58333333333334,6.370000000000001,26.8625,6.742157984588678,1.17312875,746,27,148,6,15,243,128,192,0.036000000000000004,0.84,0.124,0.953,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,11,0,8,6,6,2,3,33,21,17,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,6,14,0,0,4,5,0,5,4,0,0,1,2,3,15,5,28,17,6,34,0,0,3,0,20,16,0,3,12,96,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.1572825036678904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785943689236708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960379762183924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239328016112814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596018520071732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705006444452163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16616324217815828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400859472865025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684134498701535,0.0,0.09159885727991468,0.0,0.0,0.1776948241151689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21606297246913875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32307723462542154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572949825590519,0.1713023780173312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566278356377705,0.0,0.30250162556426863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921562452027886,0.12258003467527542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202431372282727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913980928574878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843475299668666,0.14672669036994998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225806508610408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140797354758384,0.17178996189230195,0.128713706736357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519045192985224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942651707035116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392025248079304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425000164484646,0.11449333382391798,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Uppgradez,2019/03/24,"Caught my son doing something to his brother So, right now, my two oldest, 11 and 10 mostly stay with their mom and see me on weekends. Probably for last 2 and a half years they have slept together at their moms. When they come see me, i let them stay up playing PS4 later then usual. They have separate beds with me but with finances, I only have 1 bedroom so it's all crammed into 1 bedroom. My oldest fell asleep with me in bed while the youngest stayed up playing. It happens from time to time. I wake up at midnight to my oldest asleep and appear to see my youngest on top humping his oldest. He had his covers on still put I could see the motions before I quickly said what are you doing!? He jumps off quick and says was trying to wake him up to see if he wanted to play.

Now I can't sleep. I'm torn. Do I tell their mother and tell her to keep an eye on him? Our relationship isn't that great. Everything already a hassle with her. I can't tell my ultra conservative parents. Or do I wait it out and see if happens again or try talking to him about it?",2.4717023445463795,4.034911073394497,3.639755351681959,90.53855249745158,75.88073394495413,5.945361875637107,24.037716615698265,6.42735559955562,0.5894273190621813,826,26,176,6,18,268,130,218,0.021,0.922,0.057,0.6598,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,7,1,10,4,0,0,5,0,15,8,7,0,1,28,32,17,0,4,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,6,15,0,3,0,4,1,7,3,0,0,2,5,9,36,4,31,25,2,46,0,0,7,1,33,16,0,6,20,120,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293041023742968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997061967120392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093477564619828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355367269221863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530817488328972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918442861524945,0.0,0.0,0.2072326490495752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414937699735602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551221238068287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11981805694060227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744648652933644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911588628433849,0.0,0.0,0.1301075380597482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263330771701269,0.0,0.0,0.11779194185473515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580071319225147,0.0,0.10006570786640864,0.1114590304441226,0.09318123697004878,0.0,0.0,0.560233656647109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725833116222285,0.0,0.0,0.09020604632457876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746747522793722,0.0935750759341765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417978940398147,0.3072449607816119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664986483629354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591065148181029,0.0,0.11446168838113148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905028706898775,0.0,0.06911208985332992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545602736252026
parenting,Poopachoo1231,2019/03/24,"Kids (3 and 10) will NOT listen and cry over everything These are my boyfriend’s kids.  I don’t think they’ve been raised to respect their parents and it’s starting to drive me nuts.  I suspect their mom is too leniant and my SO is too short tempered.

What happens is I will ask them to stop doing something (like rough house or scream because it’s 1030 PM and dad’s sleeping) and the older one will say yes and they stop.  Then 20 min later older one starts up again, they start screaming over something, dad flips out or I tell them to settle down. Then cycle starts again.

The older kid only stops when dad yells or takes away his games.  And then he starts crying and saying he hates his dad and wants to go back to his moms.

I have no idea how to handle this.  I’ve never had kids and in my culture we have always been raised to respect our parents and listen.

Any advice  would be appreciated.",3.0872253258845466,4.877887368715086,3.369027932960893,92.16289013035386,74.75418994413408,5.443724394785848,21.989199255121044,5.6839178017228535,0.08164998137802604,705,18,146,3,15,217,112,179,0.126,0.797,0.077,-0.7388,2,0,2,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,6,0,8,7,2,0,2,1,16,1,1,1,1,28,30,21,0,2,4,8,1,1,0,4,0,7,0,4,5,14,0,3,3,1,0,2,4,4,0,2,3,8,20,3,15,22,0,31,0,0,0,0,33,8,0,3,22,89,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043610477777964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106689892917508,0.0,0.0,0.09077166869149116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478673210676365,0.0,0.12540980922157016,0.10263866263723316,0.0,0.08136878892279358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932452583653379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996413100527688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586033792568941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803682233932,0.0,0.0,0.1317848694419144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15401917189706354,0.0,0.1506838206159184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521208242791607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126627072674064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029487890093389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090038301581046,0.10151832817076144,0.0,0.0,0.2964297455135251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21229892420977609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335774152063209,0.0,0.0,0.20552041606918006,0.0,0.0,0.4723927536139684,0.0,0.0,0.33478832081818505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036111272536856,0.0,0.11666829210795085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855292458461122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873056208980933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482108458601583,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,idontwant_a_username,2019/03/24,"r/Parenting has a serious judgement problem Yeah, this is flaire'd ""rant"" because it's a rant, take it for what it is.

The last that I remember posting to r/Parenting was maybe 5 years ago, I believe it was a different account.  I stopped posting here because for every good helpful post, there were 5 just terrible judgemental post, with people that make no attempt of understanding that other parents could have varying relationships with thier kids, or live in varying cultures and neighborhoods.

So today, I try to post a serious question, because everyone I know IRL doesn't know what to do to help my neice with a serious situation.  But the first two posts I get are just judgy BS- ""I'm a good parent, I have a productive relationship with my kids, why can't they?""  No attempt at  all to help - no compassion.  This is exactly what I remember from 5 years ago, I had forgotten why I had stopped coming here.

Maybe I'll get banned from here for posting this, but I just don't care.  I'm sure that there is a lot of good people here, but you are being drowned out by judgy a-holes.",6.626594202898552,6.741927371980674,7.041847826086958,75.30016304347829,65.13526570048309,10.76473429951691,37.53985507246377,10.504223727775694,3.998620289855073,854,42,159,20,12,279,113,207,0.15,0.758,0.092,-0.8147,5,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,0,1,1,3,10,10,0,0,10,1,20,0,0,1,3,30,31,6,1,2,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,15,7,0,3,6,0,1,1,6,5,0,2,5,0,15,5,20,24,2,20,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,3,9,102,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839827076046326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339202706684472,0.0,0.0,0.10066145302306413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910933932618872,0.0,0.0,0.07696298481685887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133487784439142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09334672534096697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07527719047300027,0.08537317426144284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759969875819179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335836632408827,0.0,0.0,0.2248155624738536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965862716188002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820357856984817,0.07282826859442244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889345481651787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595810012622392,0.0,0.0,0.05963861956690927,0.0,0.17951853884077149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.396829117106318,0.0,0.0,0.12388143409030508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5989760782478116,0.0,0.0,0.08549129693367555,0.0,0.0,0.10008707964839834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918466319933796,0.20242140584642934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042775628330347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939318762543624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420680040632117,0.0,0.06717647664815495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468880954201649,0.0,0.0,0.06065953089910201,0.0,0.08727728504463028,0.09301151159822063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124030543675075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115070768247373
parenting,boscodash443,2019/03/24,"First night in their room Hey parents I could really use some encouragement.

My son is 5 months old and hit sleep regression HARD last month. My poor son wakes up to :

My husband snoring
My tossing and turning
The dogs shaking
My coughing
Everything


So we think it’s time to go to his own room. YeS I know 6 months is recommended but he’s just miserable in our room. He takes all naps in his own room and does GREAT during the day. He’s asleep in his own room right now for the night and I have no idea how I’ll make it with this anxiety. I have a video baby monitor that some what loud but for some reason I have a fear I won’t wake up to him crying if he needs me and it’s really stressing me out.

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parenting,frostywheeler17,2019/03/24,"Is this okay? After my little one eats, my significant other will put the plastic baby plate onto the floor so our dog can lick up and eat up the scraps that the baby doesn’t want. Afterwards, she will wash the plate in the sink. Then repeat for the next meal. Is this okay to do? It seems a bit gross, but then again the plastic plate gets washed between uses. ",2.160357142857144,4.352071305555562,2.8436507936507947,92.99500000000002,79.0,5.2253968253968255,17.23015873015873,6.18269132825596,-0.3966174603174606,282,5,59,2,7,88,54,72,0.028,0.892,0.08,0.1926,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,9,2,7,5,0,1,0,5,11,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,4,2,8,9,1,14,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,1,7,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264976524525855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6120290581601553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624726684995027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29973814401748905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31805525000546697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20265178157398708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006393634469116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27225431652779797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582930764332748,0.0,0.0,0.17639419448246085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,riverisaberry,2019/03/24,"My 6yo refuses to sleep alone and I don't know what to do. He's been sleeping on his own since the day he was born, we've never co-slept or had him in our room but for some reason the past 6 months-ish he's been coming into our room every night and it's now to where he will have full-blown meltdowns when he asks to sleep in our bed and we say no or when we find him on our floor and put him back in his bed. I'm at a total loss of what to do to get him to stay in his own bed. Him sleeping in our room is absolutely not an option, and as great as it would be to get a pet for him to have sleep in his room I know that we cannot afford everything that comes with adopting a pet right now. We've tried reading stories, putting on relaxing music, he has a 4 foot tall stuffed panda that he sleeps with in addition to tonnes of stuffed animals, we've been proactive in him decorating his room to make it feel like a special and safe space for him, everything that we can think of we have tried. I'm at the end of my rope. I don't know what to do anymore. Anyone have any experience with this that can offer some words of wisdom?",4.842026266416512,3.621450219512198,5.652601626016259,88.24027204502819,69.16260162601625,9.032645403377114,27.459662288930573,7.882392219407189,1.2461335834896818,878,21,215,9,13,289,125,246,0.029,0.8540000000000001,0.116,0.9768,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,10,0,0,1,6,7,0,0,9,0,22,7,7,2,2,39,35,13,0,1,4,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,10,0,12,18,0,2,7,2,0,4,6,1,0,0,5,2,28,6,39,27,5,40,0,1,0,0,34,24,0,5,12,133,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263004853648385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051826371250408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742419860674125,0.08279029872110395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106910465394567,0.0,0.0,0.09104478329479213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20398781498204616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763602948216485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487012707728582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975983675214058,0.0,0.21282639562689287,0.11582108894105694,0.0,0.0,0.0598682359807091,0.084587298621261,0.0,0.0,0.108218416697437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12372161242226536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305399905742071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19521397328420245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057845842495398564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790350824032389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09131987834783427,0.0,0.0,0.11111342028805614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130292905963268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380559196531456,0.0,0.0,0.11843528202839015,0.0,0.0,0.12173825119386192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111572038288508,0.0,0.0941590091480054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794438402900207,0.0,0.7109324990050822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620210024592465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758680155542233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607760561182553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411026484652649,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UseDaSchwartz,2019/03/24,"Just read a post about missing kids...Get a Road ID for your kids I was just reading a post about a mom who fell asleep and her very young daughter left the house. Then there was the 2 y/o who hopped on an elevator by himself, and several other stories.

You can get a Road ID (or similar brand) bracelet for kids. Put their name, parents name and contact info. If your kid gets lost, whoever finds them will know who to call. ",2.1129705882352923,4.172992929411766,2.8525735294117682,93.53533088235297,78.52941176470588,6.132352941176473,24.742647058823533,7.1686216300943375,0.8732647058823537,329,12,72,4,8,103,64,85,0.057,0.943,0.0,-0.5423,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,3,2,1,5,2,0,0,8,0,4,1,1,0,0,12,9,6,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,3,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,3,0,8,0,7,5,0,10,0,2,0,0,20,4,0,2,2,40,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21979161724200288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673218444804855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373735795357031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483665499166113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182943180129207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23386688281096396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349679166360474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25209510262622586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23900671675815244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.412294935621092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163830451571449,0.0,0.0,0.4306112112933497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243168245295988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760161176721406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,7goddess7,2019/03/25,Teenagers! Mother of 4 kids ages 17-16-11-5. So my 16 year old decides to not answer my phone call or text when I asked where he was. His curfew is at 10 pm it is now 10:49...am I wrong for locking the top lock on him. I’m so sick of him doing whatever he wants to do. Mind you he’s failing and is way behind. He has a relative that lives close so I’m not worried about him. I don’t know what else to do or say to him. ,-1.236082474226805,0.3039394639175299,1.5744432989690722,101.05135567010313,87.35051546391752,4.7047422680412385,16.916494845360827,5.6839178017228535,-0.8173868041237111,316,7,86,2,10,110,72,97,0.116,0.841,0.042,-0.8394,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,7,2,0,0,2,0,9,1,0,0,0,11,14,7,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,11,0,11,13,0,11,0,1,0,0,16,5,0,2,5,47,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29462087060650405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218013791126712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26326574409675946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731971180494868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27828148843821554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31820967646211085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306948488340163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25061836632597523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588247608242164,0.2501498410278934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32004812690873136,0.0,0.0,0.3445649032000054,0.0,0.2029450018260797
parenting,Lovebeingdownvoted,2019/03/25,"Son is a little wild- almost stabbed someone tonight. My kid is good for the most part.  Solid C student and mows the lawn. He crossed me a bit today though and I grounded him but not sure if it is enough. 
 
We were leaving the mall. I had bought a set of knives among my new purchases. While I was loading the car, he grabbed a knife and ran over to a lady who was loading her car and tried to rob her. I stopped him before he got anything but it concerns me what would have happened if I didn’t. What do you guys do in this situation?  Grounded for a week?  No Video games for a day?  Any ideas are appreciated. ",0.7815657142857155,3.0406992079999995,2.0521428571428584,96.2525,84.92,4.531428571428573,23.32857142857143,5.773587663045528,0.1769771428571434,471,18,106,3,14,150,89,125,0.117,0.82,0.062,-0.7824,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,11,0,13,0,0,0,1,16,17,10,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,5,0,1,1,3,2,4,3,0,0,0,8,1,15,2,9,8,4,18,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,4,7,69,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21750925611431127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771351976201855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787492811508078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848338051197381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371423149374123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008558304790542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244409644387154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821894773713492,0.1737265269177492,0.0,0.0,0.21507681287164415,0.1920823395736407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245209081591472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22999912099047706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177063045121688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20978741754452854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352224723567246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441585479603119,0.0,0.0,0.18404540405888808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816013078241656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20472238827672914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21341244846910554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058942421050969,0.0,0.0,0.14747459798363266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742366187980664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543031691909992,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,childdevelopmentgoal,2019/03/25,"Nephew wants to play with me everyday (good or bad?) I've noticed since he turned 4 he calls me everyday to play with him. My sister lives 10 minutes away so her and my nephew stop by quite a lot. I usually agree to play with him before i go to work in the morning. We play on average an hour to 3 hours, and its not everyday but it would be if i agreed. I found that all he thinks about is playing with his cars, trucks and dinos with me. 

So to answer my question is this normal that he calls me everyday to play?",1.883611111111112,3.3474860648148166,3.2937037037037062,92.82166666666667,77.24074074074073,7.022222222222222,22.185185185185183,7.793537801064563,0.7418629629629621,397,11,92,6,9,130,71,108,0.015,0.83,0.155,0.908,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,1,23,9,8,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,1,4,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,16,7,17,6,2,13,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,4,8,56,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905939121523988,0.0,0.16937986151158874,0.0,0.0,0.1726191581283038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142860569514465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22242582789134555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529017285175255,0.17014957941976344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3995530282266217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912934507232553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246455691657545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987600044820516,0.0,0.23095777495306785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227249941954191,0.2157668798627929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780812109638332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960027875473754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998467719900686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22065373339589872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22342194010670527,0.0,0.11965224991406158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768470093285038,0.0,0.0,0.14410612357963692,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,twinklebear101,2019/03/25,"Has my 10yr old son entered puberty? Isn’t this a little early? Hello, I’m new here, I am a mother to four kids. Ages (10, 8, 7, and 4) Two boys and two girls. 

I was just wondering if my ten year old son has entered puberty because the other day he came up to me and said “mom I need to tell you something”. I said what do you want to tell me. He got up next to me and whispered in my ear “the top of my penis hurts but below it feels really good”. I was surprised he told me that and not go to his dad. We’re very open about this stuff but he usually doesn’t just come right out and say it. I was happy he told me and I told him that it’s normal and as you get older it will start to happen a little bit more frequently as more changes occur. 

He knows everything about puberty down to masturbation, sex, and safe sex. 

But I’m asking does puberty in boys start at ten? I mean that is considered puberty right? 

Every other kid in his 5th grade class haven’t even hit puberty yet. Is this the normal age? And is it normal? 

Any advice would be great!! Thanks!! ",0.11695067264573925,2.2131756367713082,2.4403695067264586,93.45384573991032,86.3542600896861,5.899838565022423,17.44017937219731,7.24861992348623,0.13673790134529185,809,19,185,13,25,275,130,223,0.009000000000000001,0.8590000000000001,0.132,0.9835,0,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,3,0,1,7,7,0,0,6,0,16,3,1,0,0,32,40,16,0,7,7,5,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,5,15,14,0,1,4,0,0,5,4,1,0,5,10,6,23,6,22,26,3,35,0,1,0,2,32,15,0,2,15,109,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602902292804687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074564972455618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100364140280784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238134787630182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963072254764754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135804199226383,0.0,0.0,0.12560865237247335,0.10228194137065076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657593860379233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039080868370096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842507470927447,0.0,0.10004156154843068,0.0,0.10671371190260896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600373056898729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0620355029988938,0.0,0.06748132277872697,0.09959147779450277,0.09496531741281528,0.13090863945585676,0.0,0.0,0.10499928059716084,0.12639839883126705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711107239262534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525508781637747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23801256696460055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293400716005123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390640593418549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804243682726902,0.0,0.11467752823817914,0.12627880034840008,0.0,0.3490129562526021,0.0,0.0,0.2491903057523347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606635646701491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20280254847111606,0.22589332455795114,0.09442491703774072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091410016838892,0.0,0.0,0.16808618973557599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592616117720344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20756381774865104,0.10931764277132006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403766378817389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23197879274476885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13077270753663198,0.09797096738774792,0.07003452157222574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876587820199775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434779477842352,0.0,0.0,0.07646313094119618
parenting,Magic_Shop_Rose,2019/03/25,"R/singleparent F[28] Hi guys, Magic Shop Rose here 
 I’m 28 years old, I’m a single mother of one little angel. I met my ex in high school. He was my first love, first kiss, first touch, first everything you can think of. Him and I have been at it for 10 years now on and off. I’m not claiming that I’m a perfect woman nor was I a perfect girlfriend but I was and always will be loyal. He has drifted from me so many times that I lost count. On one occasion he ghosted me yet again came back 2 months later and he said he was engaged. I literally said NOTHING back and decided to let him be happy and free. As I suffered in silence, months went by he pops up again 6 months later in Oct 2016 saying that he loves me blah blah right? So my dumb ass self thought it was destiny and that he was my one true love. Stupid. Anyways turns out he got that girl prego hidden from me for months. Girl texts my bestie one night and tells us EVERYTHING. I went through the process of watching him become a parent while I wasn’t one. I loved him more than anything so I waited and stayed. One year later here I am single mom to a little angel. I gave him another chance....but this time you guys he slept and dated someone who I thought was my friend too...they went out behind my back. He cheated on her with me, I had no clue of what was going on. As always I find out by looking at his phone, something always tells me to look. And damn it I’ve never hurt this much not even when he was engaged, got some girl knocked up, left me out in the cold alone, cheated back to back. I know this sounds pathetic but I love this man still. As I said PATHETIC. I’m coming to a point where I want to love myself and somebody else but I’m afraid of not letting anyone in or that people will run like hell when they hear “I’m a single mom.” There’s this stereotype of single moms/dads that we are out to get people’s money ugh major eye roll. Most of us are hard working individuals who always provide for our kid/kids. Does anyone have any feedback. How did you make it as a single parent? Should I just say fuck (my baby daddy) this guy and move the hell on? I feel so pathetic, I hope someone can relate and share. Thank you for reading. ",1.4591774418142052,3.441786474835886,2.7394564352496538,93.92128729858769,80.3129102844639,5.117346329818979,20.014372389098867,5.985473137389443,-0.11430809628008733,1717,44,376,11,44,553,238,457,0.16,0.682,0.158,-0.5359,3,2,1,0,4,0,56.0,4,4,1,8,24,33,8,1,11,0,28,11,3,2,4,50,72,31,1,3,8,6,3,3,2,3,0,7,0,9,20,23,0,1,7,2,3,9,7,13,0,10,28,15,55,21,50,37,10,70,4,3,4,9,66,27,6,4,34,232,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160616837395746,0.0,0.0,0.23011358298869086,0.0,0.0,0.04701624452885168,0.07249727319551735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668586354982757,0.0,0.05689472382408006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658144622782957,0.0,0.0,0.07635754381123233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907551008200908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059556307773516025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060503173061573275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057755968786129215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045665029661695215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427364175060075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034958275211079776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319092473403297,0.2352351584626863,0.0,0.0,0.05341588556674765,0.06391701271984301,0.03612177731451568,0.0,0.039292746837977545,0.0,0.11059202818905753,0.0,0.0,0.2053726167263008,0.0,0.07359873934730217,0.06193411228687246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792360662684733,0.0,0.0,0.07304814527653508,0.0,0.0686696832486881,0.0,0.0,0.0740137119748601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037996463908487765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751186931154778,0.14139667979235168,0.0,0.03377735870524918,0.13858897770370074,0.0,0.0,0.1161170974941152,0.0,0.0754723482419416,0.0,0.3743987342125559,0.0,0.046150184930671294,0.07009513058298457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194729602139762,0.22074132609493816,0.07348280504864386,0.05082442153449925,0.0,0.0533235260273006,0.0,0.0,0.06488137594910699,0.0,0.06633982319277938,0.0,0.0725487527157023,0.0,0.2810983900320723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353924414519013,0.0,0.0,0.09586323651120407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06535780420353246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915675927355552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059043516539396435,0.19729835268676946,0.10996270397742106,0.0,0.0699713972341858,0.0,0.0,0.07212606411380748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716089001988515,0.05322584831188463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369196169459373,0.055213735668276136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085940535375662,0.06365302702234575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430087047023773,0.0,0.10977577707215816,0.08062990535518366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520234440387383,0.0,0.0,0.16632912169528993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04077941292110896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19227499375154264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05033332349200919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356791136252055
parenting,PopsicleFeet,2019/03/25,"Toddler ingrown toenail help My three year old daughter, bless her heart, has her daddies feet. The toenails grow down and around the tip of her toes. I've always kept them well maintained and comfortable shoes due to this, but noticed today she has what looks like a swollen cuticle or ingrown toenail. I clipped around the edges the best I could, but the toenail doesn't look like it's growing to the side. So it must be down further closer to her cuticle were I can't see very well and I don't want to hurt her. Does anyone else have any tips on what I can do to soothe her foot? I'll make an apt tomorrow, but anything I can do in the meantime to help. 

 

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parenting,elle3458,2019/03/25,"In Law trouble brewing I’m 35 weeks pregnant, and starting to worry about trouble brewing with my in-laws. Sticking to the facts. My father in law is a relapsed alcoholic (5 years not sober) and my mother in law (husbands step mother) is strongly codependent. They are moving across the country to about 30 mins away in mid-April. At my shower this weekend, when talking about having grandparents in town she said to me, “yes, we will tell you when you can pick her up”, as if she plans on bossing me around about who has authority over where my child is and when. She also indicated that my daughter has her own room at their new house. And she told me she will be coming down as soon as the baby is born, without asking me if that is OK. 
I am genuinely excited that my daughter will have grandparents in town, and I think they have potential to be great grandparents and have good intentions with my daughter. I’m not comfortable with them watching my daughter, especially until my father sorts out his alcoholism. But beyond that, I’m afraid this is getting off on the wrong foot as my MIL seems to expect she is going to be 50% parent, instead of 100% grandparent. My husband thinks she’s joking, but he wasn’t there for the conversation and she was pretty serious!
Has anyone else had this type of conundrum? Should I try to manage expectations now so that she isn’t disappointed that the baby will not be living at her house, or that I’m not going to tolerate her telling me “when I can pick up my child”? Or should I wait until she actually does something that intrudes on these boundaries and then explain that it is not OK? Am I crazy? ",7.320294117647059,6.9593946974522325,7.284230048707383,75.73639752716376,63.80891719745223,10.190783064818284,34.39415511427501,9.627879704456738,3.1349384038965917,1301,50,240,22,17,417,170,314,0.047,0.871,0.081,0.8756,6,0,3,0,0,0,35.0,1,2,4,2,17,14,0,1,7,3,34,3,1,4,1,45,51,27,0,6,12,11,0,0,0,6,2,1,2,2,15,15,2,1,4,2,0,5,8,6,0,0,5,2,46,8,48,36,1,47,0,1,1,0,45,26,0,6,16,182,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.1540403894605192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373907054439142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262338660373059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037350768252233,0.16173761637806225,0.0,0.14052138886574733,0.14756993590234324,0.0,0.14830677265046446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359751746995605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813699731371834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186475520782007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247094496653888,0.0,0.1794214018786267,0.1323984313381512,0.0,0.17403194426264193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642791014854973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938585317156268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777126768671755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245405716140034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752755193058214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605918240267574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501530175249767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370216649504114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152187221315963,0.0,0.0,0.11172817365215114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268751353078035,0.2759385088067867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20228986069589408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508339666461691,0.0,0.10717087351570598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12661903060135327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15216330770168485,0.0,0.0,0.16030596025447988,0.0,0.0,0.1725859426548697,0.0,0.10165125386237443
parenting,Kbabes98,2019/03/25,"Severe separation anxiety So my xSO and I just split up and DD who is 8 months old has gotten super clingy. I was a SAHM but have to start work tomorrow as we were left with nothing and I have bills to pay.LO will be going to daycare and I have no idea how to make it easier on her. She loses her mind any time I’m out of sight. She cried for over an hour when I left for my interview and she was with my mother whom she usually loves spending time with. 

How can I make the transition to daycare easier on her? Poor thing just doesn’t understand ",0.8910579710144937,2.9950992000000056,2.923152173913042,91.17400362318844,83.08695652173913,6.96376811594203,19.14855072463768,8.07648339933343,0.7525507246376817,428,11,96,9,12,144,80,115,0.131,0.75,0.119,0.1154,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,3,0,12,1,0,4,0,20,20,11,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,10,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,1,0,0,4,1,17,2,17,14,0,17,0,1,1,1,13,7,0,0,9,66,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035300825330094,0.0,0.15788860723478765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267109041890387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172968040410228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032536342718428,0.0,0.0,0.2329904013379385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484890131258359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23089881980648386,0.0,0.0,0.1862760029699736,0.0,0.2755352900417661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839614997383546,0.0,0.1647393867466138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803780258087106,0.0,0.2165727141908403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23316316753683194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460846649677069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371170591472881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240696590831164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486038754373327,0.0,0.0,0.2273106100800071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025516049362295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mikail2018,2019/03/25,"SIL rant I left my 13 month old with his grandparents today as I am ill. They had to nip out for an hour, two hours top so left him with my SIL. SIL has her own little one who is 10 months.

So here is my rant... my son now finally sleeps through the night. He has milk before bed then we don’t here a peep until morning. 

He has woken up twice already wanting milk because he is hungry. I have asked her what he has eaten. All she has given him since 2pm is a rice cake.... meanwhile she has fed her own child. Apparently she didn’t know what to give him?!?!",-0.007385919165578514,2.0173513644067818,1.75,98.68294002607566,86.20338983050848,4.647718383311604,16.704041720990872,5.873414542411696,-0.7027621903520207,423,9,102,3,13,138,83,118,0.053,0.931,0.016,-0.6535,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,4,0,15,6,1,0,1,7,23,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,6,0,19,0,10,17,3,17,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,0,11,63,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22482928514925696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904669647765056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419642691183692,0.0,0.17336551988759655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22318436110707898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544347709259446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40128059487861706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196874584958758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427225585126745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041983967170357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252424949273228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911937466474163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378812707659528,0.0,0.13805773377593406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16853368114338585,0.0,0.20388453489808145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19311923109135296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990218338256088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016959610389072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2newkidshelp2019,2019/03/25,"About to take in 15yo and 11yo nephews and have no idea what to do or where to start First of all, I apologize if this doesn't belong here. Just not really sure where to post

Secondly, I understand that people have different parenting styles and that there are no ""right"" answers. We just have no idea where to start or what's normal


I won't get into the messy details but my husband's nephews (11 and 15) are moving in with us. I've never met them before and my husband hasn't really had much contact with them in the last 10 years so we're really going into this blind. Plus neither of us has any experience with kids these ages

We have no idea how to parent. Like do 11 year olds have bedtimes? Are we supposed to monitor their phones? Internet time? Social media? How are we supposed to punish them? What are we even supposed to punish them for??

Their father was pretty indifferent when we started asking about these kinds of things saying not to worry about it because they're ""not babies"" and ""not bad kids."" We honestly aren't sure if they really are good kids who don't need a lot of rules or if he just doesn't care. And if they are good kids, should we just let them do their own thing. I know at 11 years old he isn't really a little kid but they still need parenting right? 

Sorry for the rambling- this is all just so overwhelming. Just hoping they're old enough that we can't completely screw them up",3.7293173730184392,5.318459202846982,4.382822711096733,86.38954302814625,72.62989323843415,7.6713684891620835,22.737140084115172,8.296473431620573,1.1741587188612104,1120,28,225,18,22,357,145,281,0.114,0.775,0.111,0.701,5,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,11,0,12,1,21,14,3,1,5,0,29,2,0,2,5,60,43,22,0,9,19,8,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,5,15,22,0,0,6,0,0,2,18,5,0,2,3,2,29,9,30,37,7,32,0,1,1,1,46,13,1,9,17,160,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853908794039168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422288836319803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415351441711788,0.061439242662124735,0.0,0.08576290405826714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275977097543072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567397938179976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530168845249882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414062994284456,0.0,0.06656932120265126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098589704177268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572996085774251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265741015115701,0.0,0.057279969039106586,0.16907187143718305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010492131357873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413311151353796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495487346314243,0.05539028068585226,0.08215542240022336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030622454843278,0.0,0.049239776206978364,0.10101574706348544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568609306560261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712136811022896,0.07409055172271241,0.14946559575098492,0.07773368282177816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987505406691004,0.0,0.0,0.3172791909802091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33573841963209244,0.0,0.0,0.06987349652586612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652675036730543,0.10253731842323877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228358873191649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721442796189447,0.0,0.08015041943053075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274036133418828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128235715975992,0.21401414526636267,0.0,0.08048918246039984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18998241726379397,0.0,0.07577980255335325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339177306134133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877011476717538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492354371335838,0.2424703719567799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235479540364342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947119110560281
parenting,keccsy,2019/03/25,"My almost-two-year-old refused to nap today.... Normally this would make me super upset due to the whole 'not being in control' thing. But today I did something a bit different...  

I went into her room and said ""Not feeling tired honey?"". So we had a tickle war on her bedroom floor. Then went splash pant and rain boot shopping which she had a blast with. I took her grocery shopping -- we picked out food for the week and an experimental can of beans which she tried when we got home. We made dinner, watched TV, played games, had a bath and went to bed (super quickly I must say!) an hour early. 

I'm proud that I just went with the flow instead of googling ""nap regression"" ""how to help my toddler nap"" etc. etc. It's probably a one-off for some random reason that doesn't matter. Tomorrow is a new day. We had so much fun regardless! :)",2.5254805725971394,4.5990444110429465,3.4884907975460138,89.40656032719838,77.28220858895705,6.064458077709613,23.136605316973416,7.03164865440522,0.756323844580777,641,20,130,7,15,205,117,163,0.066,0.804,0.129,0.9104,1,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,5,0,0,4,7,7,1,1,11,0,11,3,0,7,1,33,22,10,1,4,4,0,1,0,1,2,1,2,5,0,7,13,2,2,2,9,2,6,3,2,0,0,13,5,18,5,14,6,6,24,0,0,1,0,16,6,0,2,12,81,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309951843391816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15601612397595555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16028100895301467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216242026571372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493061475904594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187554903061041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225746754786977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728022635478616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142948248972993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578674704424328,0.0,0.1433461716648773,0.0,0.14073342921243345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522092557764342,0.0953907328042106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050522077389098,0.0,0.0,0.13801931448995527,0.0,0.0,0.14001734460724585,0.0,0.0,0.1499556003075293,0.0,0.0968366701582545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407662530402672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469309658265082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359361432110356,0.11364442991177955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001586845694523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494026518371174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424919760126802,0.27091598233476144,0.0,0.1587736046868567,0.09702365926718362,0.0,0.13959820394952027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114630414764758,0.0,0.0,0.5299004422607811,0.0,0.15954922495341572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151618187896766,0.0,0.0,0.09202665141457143
parenting,grimlyunicorn,2019/03/25,"Ex fiance and his mother step over boundaries So here is a little background to the situation. 

5 years ago my ex fiance (SF) and I broke up when our son was 5, he moved in with his mother and started dating other women. I did not want women in and out of my son's life so I declined him ever meeting anyone his father ever dated. 

I married another man a year after I set that boundary. I am still holding tight to that boundary because so far SF has tried to introduce my son over 7 women. He has essentially been a ghost in my sons life he doesn't call, he doesn't take him for weekends, I do not see any cash support or any support from him what so ever. So for 5 years weve been doing the dead beat dad dance of him not showing up to anything ever or calling. But maybe on Christmas he will show up once in awhile and try to be father of the year and show up my husband.  

Here is the large issue that is at hand. My sons grandma (sf mother) takes him once in awhile on the weekends and spends much more time with my son than his own father. She does help with holidays and back to school once in awhile maybe throw in 100 bucks twice a year or so. My son has a fabulous relationship with his Grandmother. 

SF mother has been very manipulative and actually has been enabling SF behavior for years now. She is the major downfall to us parting. 

SF has been trying to play father to 5 kids that aren't his own. He shacked up with a random woman a month after dating and now has been pushing my son to be in their little family. SF and SF mother manipulated  their way into a forced introduction of this to my son when I haven't even spoken with her yet. He son even said he did not want to meet her when his SF originally approached me with this idea before Christmas. I was extremely mad when I found out about this forced introduction. I set even tighter boundaries that moment when I found out and I called every party out on their bullshit. I've spoken with her and I've said she does not have a role in my sons life so she can stop and she will never spend the night under the same roof as my child that SF does not even help take care of. Christmas I found out she spent the night at SF mothers house with all of her children. When i found out i showed up before dawn to pick up my son. I was angry. SF mother takes him this past weekend with promises of taking him on a shopping trip and getting some good one on one time. When my son gets home he tells me that SF and this other woman spent the weekend with him. I was fuming. SF mother tried to make me feel awful and guilting and down right lying about her intentions for me even saying anything against what she wants. This has always been her role. She would rather lie and manipulate than face actual consequences. I'm down right sick of it. It is MY child she corrected me in saying that my son was ""our child"" I corrected her by telling her that she did not carry him, she did not raise him, this is MY child. SF has no part in his raising even when we were together. He sat by on a computer vs being a father. 

Do I have a right to be furious and cut off all contact? I do not feel they are making the best choice for my son and regardless of sperm donation SF has never been there and has no right to MY son. 

What's some good advice to help overcome this situation? 


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parenting,HankyHenry,2019/03/25,"I (mom) can't fall asleep without 12 months old next to me Most parents have probably looked for answers to the opposite problem - their kids not being able to sleep without them near. But I could not find any advice on the issue I'm dealing with. Our son (12 months) has been a difficult sleeper and after we failed sleep training (I'll spare you the details) we put a mattress on the floor in his room and I've been sleeping on it with him. It's been working well sleep wise, but my husband is missing me and I am missing him. The problem is that when I sneak out after my son is asleep and go to bed with my husband, I just can't fall asleep. I will lay there for hours, almost hoping that my son wakes up - so I can go comfort him and then fall asleep easily next to him. Does anyone else have this weird opposite problem? Any solutions that worked for you? ",4.783578560168156,5.225551456647402,5.003751970572782,87.20014188124017,69.11560693641619,7.678192327903311,29.60010509721492,7.348242739294969,1.5787618497109823,674,24,140,6,11,212,103,173,0.117,0.797,0.087,-0.6669,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,2,2,3,5,12,0,0,7,0,16,9,9,0,0,27,23,10,0,5,7,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,11,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,8,1,0,3,1,25,4,22,17,1,25,0,3,1,0,21,9,0,3,10,92,31,3,0.12991554770672484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695196963296632,0.0,0.0,0.13009165476629966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17669405486906212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083997164348344,0.1331138313346754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372699351949012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393722511307665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136899712835815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852776970999604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874045698535406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766799933340702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290354525480978,0.12794064499690064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355980786868722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909634000686176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215551930961493,0.2073947014257689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763333176917128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632451317080355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425584125980356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007093361298836,0.3729349010321201,0.0,0.13060100836031124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5200374846462554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680967961839832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504679038843032,0.0,0.1891601320344022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,petarob,2019/03/25,"What have I done wrong??? I have 3 kids who all I was devoted to, enrolling them in parent participation school, took them on trips, had all their needs attended to, and they treat me like a POS. Honestly, I can’t wait until they are all out of the house for good. 
I had my first child when I was 37 because I wanted to be stable myself first. I was a stay at home mother, driving kids all over the place as they needed. I considered myself a progressive, and respectful parent, but ....

My eldest is first year college student, and informed me today she gets angry whenever she’s around me, and can’t tell me why. She reported me to child protective services and I had an urgent surprise visit by social workers this week. They could not substantiate  **any** of her claims that her two siblings were in danger. I bought her a car to learn to drive, drove her to gym and extra curricular activities, supported her through her anxiety and depression, and generally was a supportive parent whenever she needed one. 

My 15 year old son is in special ed due to major behavioral problems. He is super smart, but is a lazy student. I have helped him follow his passion for the outdoors, helped him buy a boat, then an engine, drive him to the store to get his rods, tow his boat to the marina, and am helping him reach independence through helping him get jobs so he can buy all his own fishing equipment. That’s not good enough for him, since I spent money on his sister’s activities, he wants me to spend the same on him. Never mind he agreed with me that to pay for his own interest (as his sister also did). He has narcissist tendencies like his dad, so he blames me for whatever goes wrong in his life. He shouts and swears, which is behavior I have told him won’t fly in our small townhome with neighbors. He doesn’t stop. He has zero respect for me, such that I have refused to teach him to drive until he can obey my wishes (read: reasonable behavior).

My youngest is into health and fitness, and I am always supporting her green grocer trips, and have paid for an elite personal fitness trainer for her, a lovely young woman who is a certified nutritionist. But nothing I ever do is good enough for this daughter. She thinks I am dreadful because I don’t clean my bathroom often (she has the en-suite bedroom so that she doesn’t have to share the other bathroom with her brother, they do not get on). I admire that she doesn’t take shit from anyone but she is just so critical of me, and also has problems doing things I ask her to. 

WTF! Where did I go wrong? I once met a mother years ago who flat out told me she didn’t like her kids and was glad they grew up and moved away. I couldn’t  believe any mother could have such feelings, but today I am appreciating that mother’s reality. 

I am a single mother. I left me ex because he was such a narcissist, who couldn’t handle 3 kids. He was a harsh father, emotionally unavailable, unable to give fatherly advice, and has never even dreamt of having the kids stay with him because he lives in a loft (no other bedrooms for kids). He never makes plans to see his kids, and only recently started driving our youngest to her music lesson on weekends, and teaching his son how to drive. 

I suffered from depression a year before we split, and got over it two years later. It hasn’t been easy re-calibrating my life after being together for 23 years. 

My ex is very stingy and refuses to help much financially. I have been looking for a full time job for months, but for now am raising cash by driving for Uber and Lyft at night, from midnight to 7, and on weekends when my kids are busy. But my kids criticize me for sleeping during the day and being lazy. I haven’t told them about my night job. 

My current theory is that because I am the 365-days a year parent, that I am the only one they can take out their frustrations on. 

Do you have any other theories, anything to help me think about my kids differently? 
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parenting,lacacola,2019/03/25,"Lost my child’s photos from her first year of life, should I move on or try to recover? I have a hard drive that failed, and I’m now stuck in a limbo of fixing it or giving up her first year of life via photos. The cost is more than we can readily afford, but there may be potential to make it work. But we have a lot going on that it doesn’t seem possible. However, these photos are the only way for me to remember her at this age, I can’t imagine her in my head, I don’t see pictures in my mind, I have to have a physical object in front of me. I know my husband doesn’t want to pay for the recovery, but I can’t imagine never being able to revisit all those firsts, all those memories... even if it’s the responsible financial decision.


I just don’t know whether to try and figure out a way to recover them, at a cost way beyond what we can afford, or if I need to just let them go. 

Can you help me make peace with letting them go?

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parenting,7772637292,2019/03/25,"Wife went through our daughters phone and discovered that our daughter is sleeping with her boyfriend. Caused a huge fight and i don't know what to do. My daughter has been dating her first boyfriend for 8 months I want to say. I found out about it 8 months ago so it may be longer. I like him. I don't think he's given me any reason to have an issue with him because my daughter seems happy. The only thing that annoys me is the late next phone calls and texting the two of them do. 

When I got home from work yesterday I walked into a house of pure chaos. My daughter and wife were screaming at each other. I managed to calm down the situation by getting my daughter to leave the room. She slammed her door.

My wife decided to go through out daughters phone and looked through her messages with her boyfriend. The gist of it is my wife only now put two and two together that teenagers are going to have sex. We had this talk months ago when she got her first boyfriend. She also found a conversation about how my daughter thinks her boyfriends impersonation of a Mexican accent is funny. Her main issue being that he's white. 

I decided to go and get my daughter's side of the story first. She was very upset on the invasion of privacy. She explained to me that they have been fooling around but she's been safe. Went on to say she feels safe with her boyfriend, and that her boyfriends fake accent was just playful teasing. He does it to tease the way she sounds and she does it back. She apparently does an Irish accent. And showed me. She calls him a leprhacan and he calls her a Cholo. 

Am I happy she's fooling around? No. But I can't stop it. They're going to do it regardless of what I do or say. 

I tried to talk to my wife, but when I brought up that she shouldn't have taken out daughters phone. She started to scream at me saying I'm always protecting our daughter. I agreed that there is other stuff that's an issue, but she just doesn't want to hear anything anyone says. I don't know how to fix this because everyone in my house is so tense. 
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parenting,shock5006,2019/03/25,"19 month old wakes up too early - Looking for advice Hi mums and dads, I'm hoping someone can suggest something we haven't tried yet, because we will try ANYTHING at this point.

And the point we are at isn't really that bad, in retrospect. He has been a bad sleeper his whole life, but we've fixed a lot of things over the past year.

He used to wake up every hour or two, all night. We fixed that by taking dummies away, feeding him until he was about to burst right before bed, and a bit of controlled comforting. 

So we've gone from horrific nights, to sleeping through, which is a huge win.

But he's still waking up too early, and that's the last thing we can't seem to fix.

We've tried: 
- Putting him to bed earlier
- Putting him to bed later
- Using a GroClock
- Feeding him more before bed
- Feeding him less before bed
- Using reverse-controlled comforting in the morning until it's wake up time (holy shit this does NOT work at all)
- Giving him a breastfeed and putting him back down

None of this works and we can't seem to convince him that it isn't time to get up. It's pitch black outside, there's no sunlight waking him up. But once he's up, he's up, and he's got a pretty brutal scream on him so he makes damn sure that his older sister gets woken up early too, which makes her pretty grumpy.

Please, does anyone have any suggestions for extending his sleep to make his wake up later?",5.19383934218849,5.388922455197136,5.275104364326378,86.47383301707781,68.17562724014337,7.711659287370861,27.881298756061557,7.048011613610866,1.2861079907231698,1091,32,224,8,17,342,153,279,0.096,0.7759999999999999,0.128,0.7751,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,6,0,0,4,10,12,3,0,11,0,13,13,9,7,3,32,31,15,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,15,13,3,1,2,0,0,4,8,6,0,1,5,3,21,6,39,25,8,48,0,0,2,0,36,23,2,5,21,129,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193386912918828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093670431817999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293837037721318,0.0,0.0858410585876679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800589416930924,0.0802105829722764,0.17419470112396346,0.06358849411661935,0.0,0.2662891183469242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388324036382065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339927464313236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825707578641998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788855740585891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899891569325744,0.10006693994551293,0.0,0.0,0.08342897313694278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10360676538607916,0.10272770876357834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502936181479805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367965518305143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08759700284197185,0.0,0.0,0.08868354147433334,0.0,0.0,0.20889005845505665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326197858269277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957821611479052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945938944333257,0.11109039047569354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957896502778328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450481310514855,0.19721980256532065,0.0,0.0,0.21224850394549305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31459140333533697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682584951224843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08908309280403152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899260441005808,0.0,0.0,0.10707622910945264,0.0,0.0,0.2087775126902734,0.0,0.08838442432269679,0.08030556888624969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08330483390690993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831416615009186,0.0,0.07843071170851301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386024055024957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216519909809818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124658995695531,0.0,0.10189905638978046,0.0,0.0,0.2702799142976968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164622109060433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188282780488435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06717442400080613
parenting,GretaGrundler,2019/03/25,"Would you put your kid in daycare if you didn't have to financially? I know there's a myriad of reasons to put your kid in daycare which is largely why I'm wondering. I also have the opportunity to switch jobs. Current job has me working evenings/nights so I can stay home with my 18 month old. New job offer pays almost double and has better working conditions but is during the day, so daycare would be necessary. After day care costs the take home money would be the same roughly. Neither will become a long term career position. 

On one hand I think the time out of the house/time to socialize/more structured activities would really benefit kiddo getting older. On the other hand the stress of daycare in general makes me hesitant to add that into our lives. Do you feel as though the pro's of daycare outweigh the cons?",5.536363636363635,6.881498108280258,6.210758540822238,75.95582513028374,67.91719745222929,9.021192819918936,31.47017950202664,9.339509955726095,2.948915923566879,661,27,115,13,11,216,108,157,0.038,0.831,0.132,0.9464,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,5,0,4,5,5,0,1,12,0,16,2,2,2,0,20,25,8,0,5,2,0,4,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,3,5,0,0,5,0,3,2,2,1,0,1,1,4,13,4,19,17,4,21,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,3,11,75,16,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377391808449913,0.0,0.0,0.11482030564840308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857204439902214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269842133937457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14638865433229836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851935269491612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259800266216962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501425255701308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288043467486438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274408694595868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890742238642112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267831428017304,0.12706315270874655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584029040982568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460361876214682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386697721468651,0.0,0.1347394365264799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066231131226798,0.0,0.09729304217985783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886736848951601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198056917842982,0.14762342232878972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303641838682616,0.0,0.0,0.16446959060166824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795375676737344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199981100084174,0.14106592258438946,0.0,0.08372223812934086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295579761155431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570561438572506,0.20905486502438128,0.0,0.0,0.4079784300450404,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,faayth,2019/03/25,"Ugh, parenting and having to enforce rules... Kiddo is 13, and has a cell phone.  We discovered Kiddo was abusing the privilege of having a phone by staying up and playing on the internet at all hours of the night, and then having a hard time getting up in the mornings for school.  So, new rule, phone has to be downstairs on the charger between 8:30 PM and 7:00 am.

Kiddo generally complies without complaining, and has been having an easier time getting ready for school etc.  Problem solved.

Except, now when I'm playing on the internet at all hours of the night and I wanna text funny memes to the kid, I can't, cause kiddo doesn't have their phone.  ",5.939939024390245,6.845904731707318,6.235518292682929,77.74157012195124,66.72357723577235,8.751626016260163,32.44817073170732,8.841846274778883,2.7759439024390247,514,21,90,8,8,165,77,123,0.076,0.787,0.13699999999999998,0.7263,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,1,2,16,18,10,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,1,4,3,21,15,3,19,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,0,10,66,4,2,0.0,0.24387982803092484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114483877421528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295595044924432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150797121094624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843869824625524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4054103820392754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879591980846947,0.0,0.3863228417277241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22855448211141496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695549800570136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166303291775691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21939183346448327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24004711451777336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198416790467118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lolaindisguise,2019/03/25,"My son is not meshing well My son is 3.5 almost 4. He started school this last January. It's now late March and he isn't doing well. Every time I come to pick him up he is standing there watching the other kids play. Or crying in a corner for his mom. He is a very sensitive child and is the baby of the family.  His sister and brother are teens.  He is the center of our world I won't lie. He has a bigger vocabulary than the average toddler and likes retro things like pacman etc. He doesnt hit and doesnt understand violence that most kids seem to do without thinking.  If a kid raises their voice to him he cries. He never went to daycare. He does have one child that he has attached himself to and it's a little girl who mommy's him and grabs him by the hand and drags him from activity to activity but she isn't in his class so they play before class and after class but after she leaves he is back to just standing there.  It breaks my heart but I cant figure out what I did wrong. I didnt helicopter, I made sure he had some freedoms. He is wonderful at home. He says all the boys in his class are angry all the time.  My husband says we should try a different school but I love this school and thought he would love it too. I am not a fan of the aftercare helpers who just let him stand and cry until I get there. But maybe they didnt want to call attention to his tears? I dont know. Does anyone have any advice?",0.9633528836754656,3.086162094276098,2.6481351145867262,93.14094819159338,82.93939393939394,5.717779950038015,19.344954925600085,6.968188349444268,0.19695121103508173,1110,29,246,14,31,365,165,297,0.095,0.7909999999999999,0.114,0.8681,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,3,0,11,11,0,0,16,0,31,4,2,2,4,46,46,20,0,4,12,6,2,2,0,3,0,3,1,7,13,14,0,0,8,2,0,2,13,1,2,1,7,6,33,10,26,34,5,29,0,0,1,2,56,11,0,7,14,157,46,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175067860655848,0.0,0.0,0.12041287968778325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177403849891908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408150850258837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246473124230928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232378674690258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278856704945365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035846196038984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39626652334706586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563552542462694,0.0,0.0,0.21046295180840102,0.0,0.14093195784811005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411039717011275,0.0,0.0,0.1013157059663293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336088012280847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282559652236712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424966807771608,0.0,0.0,0.12062042913413447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608618645772035,0.0980196976080804,0.13564709664123772,0.1273272548436618,0.0,0.12296364429812848,0.0,0.11749602967373825,0.12052196545933964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217060413992703,0.11378333918272747,0.0,0.0,0.12080716205276144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083520017770607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09274411671861132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148442734638615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912550540479012,0.0,0.36509787980238856,0.0,0.10947096987030404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511348040087342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333408402631873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988867366015427,0.07705126438045871,0.0,0.09546496865608617,0.14023733819558698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164177167097103,0.0,0.0,0.12518436064572694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921874040609284,0.07092649180280088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21623815798985987,0.11147283879560344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591658830941673,0.13040585984949996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542206101553097,0.13147436109852406,0.0,0.0
parenting,marylisaeyes,2019/03/25,"What comes first, the child's wants or the adult's needs  I'm a childless stepmom of 6 months, so this is a genuine question because I have no idea what the norm is here

I'm looking to move in with my SO who has 4 kids (15f 11f 8m and 3m). The oldest 3 kids have a cat who came with them from SO's first marriage and lives permanently with SO. I have a cat allergy and also do NOT like cats. I will suffer in an environment with a cat and I don't want to be dependent on allergy medication.

SO is insisting on not rehoming the cat because the kids love it. I understand that, but I guess I'm of the opinion that if a working, bill-paying adult wants to make a decision, ESPECIALLY if that decision is based on something like allergies, that's what wins out? My parents were big on putting each other first, presenting a united front and never prioritizing the kids above their marriage, and I believe that's why they're still together. They always insisted that letting children rule the roost is destructive to the household and will turn kids into useless spoiled adults.

More experienced people - do you have advice here? My SO disagrees with my upbringing and my way of doing things and it would be nice to get some more input",6.266948051948052,6.274205128099176,6.803494687131053,77.0726446280992,65.900826446281,10.220070838252656,34.22786304604486,9.957137785484203,3.244386304604486,979,41,190,20,14,321,137,242,0.098,0.8390000000000001,0.063,-0.7335,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,3,5,10,8,1,0,19,0,21,2,0,2,1,41,37,20,0,7,6,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,10,16,19,0,0,5,0,0,5,5,3,0,3,2,2,16,5,22,29,4,23,0,2,1,1,21,9,0,8,10,128,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735625368634767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12877530660163142,0.133989520415612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19632428940897326,0.0,0.0,0.18142520712662674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841749545576195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387127350355529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4109150662634486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08413131560633433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739225030410227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178280886003464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466366798232993,0.0,0.15734184953505714,0.0,0.1421920799985113,0.0,0.13522430100142324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533549386005598,0.0,0.1074885031233702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622203728402902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853228407999095,0.17114897224898876,0.0,0.1194014021228748,0.12419594856542734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880430542859913,0.0,0.0,0.11163764362624247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16187921670418404,0.18038999647411527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396844717113507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285984402391453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698090569949516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515395536299042,0.0,0.16763748436058648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28493827661089266,0.12781779487624906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14530416029421134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723146088163976,0.0,0.0,0.11439080204328173,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,magwisdom,2019/03/25,"How to get kids choose healthier food at school? We all want kids eat healthier, but it’s hard to know what they eat at school exactly. Just curious what your kids in elemetary school eat everyday? Have you tried to motivate them eat healthier? What are some good incentives?… Also wondering if there is a way to work with the school to have a better idea.",4.047810945273632,6.385377388059702,4.263507462686569,84.38441542288558,73.6268656716418,9.839800995024877,26.092039800995025,10.125756701596842,2.842812935323383,283,10,55,9,6,88,48,67,0.021,0.7659999999999999,0.213,0.9388,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,2,3,4,2,0,0,3,0,4,5,0,2,2,15,8,4,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,2,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,9,8,2,5,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,3,1,33,9,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263250493987765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562402650259428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6276539926632542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18542925940120888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011810842437936,0.0,0.0,0.12862119964154112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736987192414027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731114589730716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842761636188902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6207862853925553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10411336583751442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044874501740033,0.12172066815616732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662995880170754,0.11163932034074173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lets-chat112,2019/03/25,"How can I discipline my 18 year old son? I have 6 children, 3 currently live at home, 14 year old son, 20 year old daughter and 18 year old son. 

When it comes to chores, my daughter does most of it, the 14 year old still needs to be told but he does it in the end. But the 18 year old doesn’t do anything. I assign them all tasks to do, within an hour, the other two will be done, the 18 year old will still be sitting yelling “I will do it!” but after hours, the task is still not complete. 

The problem is, he makes majority of the mess in the house. So my other two are complaining, saying it isn’t fair that they have to clean up after him, which is true. He also makes the house smell of very strong BO/sweat, I’ve bought him lots of deodorants, he never uses them. The smell lingers even if he left the room 5 minutes ago. 

On top of this, I do weekly grocery shopping, within 2 days, it’s all gone. I’m not sure why he eats so much, he goes to the gym, not overweight, he doesn’t have any health issues. My two other kids complain, and my daughter ends up doing her own weekly food shopping and shares with my youngest son. So I’m really just buying a week’s worth of food for a FAMILY for one person. 

I’m not sure how to discipline him, it isn’t like my 14 year old where I can give him consequences like no TV or video games for not cleaning. 

My 18 year old is very muscular, tall man. I am very small, if I’m being honest I am scared of what he is capable of doing since his father (divorced) was very abusive. When I try to be assertive, he whines or gets up in my face and I don’t know what to do anymore. 

He can’t move out because he’s still in the equivalent of the last year of high school, and doesn’t have a job. This is an important year for him academically and I’d rather he completes it while living at home. 

TL;DR 18 year old makes the house a total mess, refuses or drags it out when asked to do chores, makes house smell like BO. Gets in my face when I try to put my foot down. 
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parenting,PigmyTrex,2019/03/25,"2 year old with a big heart So my two year old is a mamas boy. By this I mean he would rather cuddle on my lap all day than play with other kids. While its cute at times most of the time it makes it hard to get anything done. Well today was an emotional roller coaster for me. I'm 9 weeks pregnant, off of my medication so my hormones are all out of wack. 
I started crying for no reason and he crawls into my lap and wipes away my tears "" aww mama sad, no cry"" he then kisses my tear stained cheeks ""Kisses make all better"" then runs to the bathroom and comes back with a box of bandaids. 
My little hero cheered me right up. Its moments like these that I cherish the most.",1.981810551558752,3.6414633381294936,2.8498021582733815,95.2620893285372,77.48920863309353,5.2088729016786575,20.93585131894484,5.46131890053228,-0.19927386091127092,520,13,117,2,12,164,101,139,0.107,0.7040000000000001,0.189,0.919,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,2,5,11,0,0,7,0,5,7,2,3,3,20,12,8,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,8,9,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,1,1,1,2,1,13,10,20,9,5,27,0,1,0,3,5,10,0,2,16,72,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444451268590539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491494919955044,0.13497070077527684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15524083095278976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120239370880673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856199701323751,0.11320146119864707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962675606951362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19744611109701585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170647743545976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157239197325954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080023010313352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575443442223925,0.1759258251044101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343334801129039,0.0,0.0,0.19120216302501228,0.0,0.17682665312237034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683755921511476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180472691352236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990051209508026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424008528207532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470434031237394,0.0,0.16638064068816022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171465990392088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079849912540798,0.0,0.15782134077566976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246905201802945,0.0,0.0,0.2260693974683642
parenting,PitoChueco,2019/03/25,"Advice Needed: Cut Child Slack or Heavy Hand? Wife and I set a goal with our 14yr old son.  If he made all A's and B's on his report cards this year, we would send him to an out of state camp.  He was over the moon with this proposal as he really wants to attend this camp.  It would require airfare and a pretty pricey camp so this was a pretty big commitment for us and a hefty goal for him.

So far this year, he has maintained his A/B grades.  Until this last report card.  He missed a B by two points in P.E!  After further investigation, he has been participating fully in gym class but he is docked points almost daily due to not dressing out to his uniform.  He is very thin kid and it turns out other kids in the dressing room have been picking on him for his build.  We have had discussions with him, his counselor and coach about this but apparently not much has changed.

SO.....

I/we are torn.  The hard-ass part of me wants to tell him that is life:  You committed to a goal, failed, live with the consequences.  The  other thought is, kid is really doing well in school, had a hiccup and going through some pretty tough adolescence stages and dealing with shit heads in his class.  He is a good kid for the most part and this will crush him.

Any advice here?  If I let him go, how can I turn this back pedaling into a positive moment?  I will appear weak in future dealings!

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parenting,dallass419,2019/03/25,"I am so good at parenting I was driving in traffic the other day and I stopped at a crosswalk to let a pedestrian cross. The asshole behind me honked for me to go, and before I could respond at all, my 3 year old lifted her hands and said, “Heeyyyy maaaan!! What the fuck?!” I am really impressed at the context.",1.968924731182799,4.096624387096775,3.475483870967744,88.5498924731183,79.32258064516128,6.068817204301076,28.075268817204304,7.1686216300943375,1.558539784946237,240,11,48,3,6,79,46,62,0.031,0.845,0.124,0.7623,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,6,0,5,2,1,0,1,6,8,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,2,9,2,9,4,1,12,0,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,4,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765544241404985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594892086030312,0.0,0.0,0.20960066111879408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004609151249595,0.0,0.0,0.1847072347460779,0.2725978939093501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323385590019263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410369744230412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608784253236585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20820585284467674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091531820109096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717178552697032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20929188840127305
parenting,edistobeachbum09,2019/03/25,Starting my next chapter I'm not allowed to tell anybody because we had a miscarriage last year and she's really nervous ! We were trying a couple months ago then decided to wait till after we started building our new house and get married.( we already had a date set and everything. The pregnancy had nothing to do with this) but I guess God had different plans ! She's pregnant and I'm so freaking excited. I have my stepson who is 6 and a half I've been there as a friend to her and then as stepdad since his first birthday and I have a 12 year old son I didn't find out about until he was ten. Long story but I was trying to hide she wouldn't give me a DNA test back when I was new in the army and since she wouldn't give me a test and I never gave it a second thought. But now I'm having to try to build a relation ship with him while not having my stepson think I'm treating my other son better or my blood son thinking I treat my stepson better. It has been killing my nerves for 2 years now! But now I finally get to go through the pregnancy ( I know I know it's gonna be horrible) the newborn stage the every thing I've never gotten to experience with my other 2 kids! She's nervous because she almost went into heart failure with my stepson. And I totally understand that and of course I'll always try my best to make her feel better even though I'm not a very good talker.but she's excited too! I'm hoping for a girl. I want a daughter so bad. Anyways just wanted to tell somebody since I can't tell anybody yet lol it's driving me nuts she's my best friend and soulmate and I can't wait to start this chapter in our adventure called life !,1.8402616279069757,3.78690616569768,3.4554069767441864,89.43595930232559,78.91279069767441,6.16046511627907,25.57558139534884,7.1686216300943375,1.159696511627907,1307,51,272,16,32,433,182,344,0.098,0.728,0.174,0.9846,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,0,7,15,19,1,2,18,1,23,3,2,2,3,55,55,29,1,5,9,4,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,11,23,0,2,9,0,0,3,10,5,0,4,15,1,47,14,30,36,3,40,0,0,0,0,36,4,0,4,31,176,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251575058372488,0.0,0.10450926798140583,0.0,0.11517245395063715,0.0,0.0868423638311515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025238995435792,0.08714274703261392,0.12724327482375114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21905511784352696,0.2769144924987433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065711848441585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548097695051315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904212928576944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689339424250529,0.0,0.08793436626559391,0.0,0.09379904194580503,0.10209172737047703,0.0,0.0,0.052771491632274736,0.0,0.0,0.11432981488618316,0.09539027127919693,0.08877519072005041,0.0,0.0,0.16126859470016178,0.0,0.10905572759446093,0.2002381927288144,0.059314621457989686,0.08753875239216459,0.0,0.0,0.11497288962563215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367633625584705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036607668161089,0.0,0.12042641949863613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546749868276918,0.0,0.1147156182675328,0.08507368041808043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371805814572628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923622118247912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06966631171565824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833053759988153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16098975081363354,0.20159812810693206,0.11099633102028693,0.0,0.0,0.100143711420716,0.0,0.1095164413504942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686068016662862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590023486184018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22161618146935214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736661517107413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933732359757871,0.13374933409653353,0.10254082592192833,0.08285636900292198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834355200593687,0.0,0.0,0.10865055239711692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611435883573451,0.12311765581920467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09674998897580342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201628309012616
parenting,KidsSharingRoom,2019/03/25,"Need advice on 12 & 10yo sharing a room, 12yo is starting to self explore I have 2 step sons ages 12 & 10, and need some advice on how to address a sensitive issue with my 12 year old.  They live with their father and I full time, and when I told their dad about this his response was, ""I'm not ready for this"".  They stopped living with their mom when they were 4 & 6, and she is still having trouble seeing that they're growing up.  This leaves me on first for this, and I want to address it in a way that doesn't cause my 12yo shame or guilt.  

Currently he and his brother share a room while we save up to move to a bigger place.  One of the reasons I really wanted to do it last fall was that I know my 12yo was going to need privacy soon.  Over the last month it's pretty clear that he needs that sooner rather than later, since I'm pretty sure he's started masturbating regularly.  We can't really wait until we have everything set for a bigger place, because we can't move until our current lease expires.  I don't care that he's exploring himself, but I am worried about three things.

First, his 10yo brother is also in the room when he's doing it.  I don't think his brother knows he's doing it yet, but I'm not sure what kind of psychological effects that will have on him.  So I'd prefer he do it in the shower or bathroom until we can get him hus own room.  This is for privacy more than anything else.

Second, he's not cleaning up after himself, which is obvious from stains on the sheets and the smell.  Again, I don't care if he plays with himself, but I do care he's not cleaning up after himself.  I feel like this is especially important because he shares his space with his brother, so he has to deal with it as well.

Finally, because he shares a room, he's been waiting for my 10yo to fall asleep, which has led to him sleeping through his alarm for school and being cranky in the morning.  I want to find a way to address this so he knows playing with yourself is healthy so long as it doesn't get in the way of other things, like getting the sleep you need for school.

The best way I can think of to handle it is to tell him playing with yourself is ok, but you really don't do it with other people that aren't romantic partners in the room.  I was going to suggest he just do it in the shower or bathroom until we can get a bigger place, but I don't want to make him feel shame for being normal.  I also want to talk to him about the importance of using a tissue when he does get his own room to help keep things a bit cleaner.  Finally, I wanted to let him know masturbating is fine and healthy so long as it doesn't get in the way of the rest of life.  Currently the time he's doing it makes it difficult for him to wake up on time for school.

Do any parents with older kids have some advice on how to talk to him about in without making him feel bad about himself?  Will the approach I'm thinking of be too harsh?  I don't think it will be, but he has a very low self-esteem I don't want to damage because he's normal.  ",7.1920520247008,4.989013285261488,7.426131482594677,80.57535657686212,65.11727416798732,10.098060003278867,33.01060167222252,8.104835398774808,2.238572282638396,2377,71,513,22,29,777,243,631,0.07,0.8059999999999999,0.124,0.9801,6,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,7,2,6,4,26,29,0,4,29,1,58,5,4,10,4,92,107,40,0,17,17,9,3,2,1,3,1,0,14,3,38,25,0,4,17,3,0,12,18,9,1,5,7,5,64,20,93,92,9,94,0,2,1,0,82,38,0,6,40,340,102,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19767017634409825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784461783746822,0.0,0.2191752866583558,0.0,0.04585348969102242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548766513540039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0562997323387868,0.16441442480133842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076173819386444,0.0,0.07361413302456421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062426379165564,0.06926733758751957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951551568068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05900687411455306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05632761071983625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06060012031990511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022811750323982,0.04817072110708091,0.0,0.14772859923789522,0.06162815522367125,0.1147087886498009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21137071584220032,0.0,0.0766420023599091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0451957025928417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037752467448306,0.0,0.05993328423247068,0.0,0.0702160964346393,0.1482271060636499,0.10992596859084224,0.0,0.07139673024021198,0.0,0.06894990512507602,0.04762653328550938,0.06588402730595283,0.0,0.11908067572607038,0.11934367416735076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350265456224646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897109544818298,0.053820547674036434,0.14333101580232474,0.0,0.2499857876680095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213064353851714,0.0,0.0,0.07075455553887558,0.0,0.045691094849813166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487103892632832,0.0,0.0,0.046746225386176114,0.0,0.2113443597368791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719744497779482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958869873455872,0.06932742198778898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047228212650188,0.053731547175233325,0.0,0.14068464082736334,0.0,0.0,0.055777305623518375,0.0,0.13495379603373112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545205710196343,0.0,0.053848249358038884,0.056372996253879086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710056514112286,0.0,0.0,0.10839246954777937,0.05893522071983885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438890415643692,0.17282107729074964,0.0,0.0,0.11795378079559027,0.0,0.0,0.06443053675096291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058236317305969815,0.0,0.055635328447513885,0.2783963045337641,0.2676068418128377,0.0,0.0,0.06062605155745601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649983807163271,0.0,0.0,0.06847661235220186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043421551480675856
parenting,NotALonelyJunkie,2019/03/25,"Netflix and Amazon rant What happened to Daniel Tiger today?????? Now the episodes aren't included with my Prine video subscription  anymore. Apparently you now have to subscribe to a PBS channel that costs extra. Was there any warning that this was going to happen?

Im stil salty about Netflix dropping Clifford and I had to buy it on Amazon. So after I purchased all 5 season they started including it with Prime!!! 

We aren't rich, we aren't even middle class, we can't afford a cable subscription so we pay for Netflix and Prime video as well as Amazon music. Its ridiculous that they switch kids shows around and corner parents into purchasing,  renting, or starting additional subscriptions within an existing subscription! 

Not really sure what the point of posting this is, basically just ranting.",6.285191846522782,9.013701302158276,5.905917266187051,73.3512979616307,68.3525179856115,8.086570743405275,33.166067146282984,8.841846274778883,3.3436757793764977,647,30,93,12,12,200,101,139,0.114,0.836,0.051,-0.8753,4,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,1,2,0,10,4,1,0,5,0,9,0,0,0,2,18,14,9,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,10,13,0,0,0,7,7,1,5,1,1,0,3,0,10,3,17,11,2,17,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,1,7,67,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359486232442745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531629055424839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22724770450143056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16860586413485906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507792032393296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4514753605081168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757393894584622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834512221879487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24131614798746265,0.0,0.2444816300329223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353486192082106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3613680621224983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405924309764151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419696089376985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295217036763674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pewterschmidtt,2019/03/25,"Just got home from hospital .. Still have stitches due to second degree tear and husband is expecting me to not rest. I’m exhausted and in pain, he thinks discharge means you’re well enough to function again. ",5.602543859649124,7.703755921052637,4.876315789473686,82.66254385964915,68.73684210526315,8.224561403508767,31.08771929824561,8.841846274778883,2.6641824561403515,167,7,29,3,3,50,35,38,0.079,0.8190000000000001,0.101,-0.0232,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,7,6,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,5,5,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,18,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936709348653593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047174763023121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821702662965587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4150165689600475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.405406832995072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042640679543078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441269894175273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425613514049245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,witchoftrouble,2019/03/25,"3 year old boy brags about bad behavior He says things like “I’m gonna hit you!” And laughs when he knows it’s something that has consequences.
He says “I’m gonna hit my sister!” Or “I hit kids at school today!” Like he’s proud of it or just waiting for my reaction.
I’ve tried to talk to him and ask him why something like that makes him excited or happy. 
I’ve tried to be calm and talk but he really seems like he likes to make me upset. I don’t know how to go about this",0.3455769230769228,2.046817788461542,2.1948461538461568,97.85015384615384,82.65384615384616,6.083076923076924,17.130769230769232,7.1686216300943375,-0.22554307692307685,366,7,92,5,10,121,66,104,0.052000000000000005,0.737,0.211,0.9228,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,5,12,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,15,18,9,0,0,5,1,0,5,0,2,0,2,0,2,6,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,9,10,10,12,0,6,0,0,0,0,18,1,0,4,9,38,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909999866663975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15996001164602064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887845359807607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20393883278114425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21057302252805266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4679777921380282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557602190163072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20102936653235676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273006695682966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047017611645513,0.0,0.19388762914359225,0.0,0.1744058345643453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949729159704657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079670181532758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727621595428493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159397915302028,0.0,0.0,0.2601383972473593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728697617929154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12337024692659256
parenting,walrusOnTheHill,2019/03/25,"The appropriate amount of money to spend on a gift for a daycare friends birthday? My son started the preschool recently and this is our first invite for a birthday party. What would be the appropriate gift (value)? We are in Canada, if it makes a difference. ",5.088829787234044,7.452391446808518,5.562712765957446,76.10875000000001,70.70212765957447,8.104255319148937,33.026595744680854,8.841846274778883,3.130451063829788,206,10,34,4,4,66,38,47,0.0,0.737,0.263,0.9111,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,1,0,5,6,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,4,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4749961646890061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867117726676868,0.0,0.0,0.351249395390152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3034719799559619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4488966042468928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217925552275598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229592205315358,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,calliescastle,2019/03/25,"Learning about empathy and reciprocation via FaceTime My daughter (8) and her cousin (11) have just figured out they can text and FaceTime through their iPads. Last night they were on FaceTime and my daughter was kind of showboating and talking a million miles a minute for most of the conversation (fairly typical of this age I think, paired with the excitement). Her cousin eventually had to go down for dinner so they said goodbye and promised to talk tomorrow. My daughter came out and said “that was so fun!” And I said, “I’m glad you guys can talk even when you’re not in the same house! How cool! I know it’s fun talking about you, but maybe next time, it would be nice to ask her about her and and listen to some of her stories as well. What do you think?” 

And she sighs and says, “ugh, mom! Why didn’t you give me that idea when I was still on FaceTime with her!” 

It made my entire night. Little humans are so funny. ",2.5400993171942865,4.940432770949722,2.7911266294227173,92.76373525760398,78.83240223463687,5.7654872749844825,23.352265673494724,6.937597516519254,0.6512865301055246,722,24,150,8,18,220,113,179,0.02,0.856,0.124,0.9557,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,4,4,0,13,11,0,0,5,1,13,1,0,2,0,32,26,20,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,7,17,1,0,6,0,0,2,2,1,2,1,11,6,24,9,23,13,3,20,0,0,0,0,35,8,0,2,10,100,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375230491052732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17586960579499686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156230110801877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750825868809098,0.08738988708173942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522544763744711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742760457634854,0.0,0.17358533363731413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601256895645369,0.08450686087587977,0.12534142750332927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15411591307475386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454989814014981,0.0,0.0,0.15448060455014995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18009120068470405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353399205658525,0.28860166693259304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4388056868054137,0.1222824701390129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227993081091507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4943715134064017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705662645478256,0.0,0.0,0.08966334618264014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825588154490062,0.0,0.13875168560620538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923236175215974,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,salamanderthecat,2019/03/25,"I am still my mom's little girl. 2.5 yo LO has been difficult lately. Well...normal toddler tantrum and stuff, nothing most of the parents on this sub haven't experienced. But still i am so frustrated i have this urge to run to my own mom, cry on her shoulder and tell her i don't want to play with [LO's name]. I need my mama's hug today 😢",2.8389041095890413,3.3562427534246595,4.490301369863015,88.87353424657536,73.5205479452055,7.4838356164383555,25.558904109589037,7.554174236665415,1.0502295890410966,263,8,61,3,5,89,53,73,0.219,0.738,0.042,-0.8984,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,0,7,2,1,0,0,8,9,4,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,1,10,2,7,8,2,8,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,1,4,36,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25639846981130265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.263305421710058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233945935640093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467521634095621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307632552572433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22397065429278626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591828204824113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728154797047677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672075122764122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040174271783725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212527616970888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376758537187446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987061569741344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,amercedes93,2019/03/25,"Working with the department of child services is worse than I imagined... I'm not sure if this is the correct thread for this, but I need somewhere to take this...Please bear with me, as it is complicated. 

For Reference: FM-Foster mom, DCS- Our case manager through child services CASA- volunteer child advocate BIOM-biological mother (fiance's sister) BIOF-  biological father John-name for child (not real name)

My fiance and I found out that his sister's son has been in foster care since the first week of December. We do not typically speak with this side of his family, so we didn't find out until the end of February. As soon as we found out (on a Saturday) we planned to attend a ""family meeting"" the following Monday. 

​

At this meeting, we met DCS, DCS Transportation dept, and a foster advisor. BIOM and my fiance's mother were also there. At this meeting, the foster mother agreed with us, to do visits, without the supervision of DCS, since she was so confident in us taking custody of John. She gave us her contact information, so we could work everything out between ourselves. That evening, I sent her a message, asking for John's clothing sizes and interests, so we could start to get clothes, toys etc together. A few days later, we bought a bunk-bed for John. and my son to share. We bought him a Paw Patrol bed spread and toys, and sent pictures to FM, explaining how excited we were to have him HOME with us.

​

Everything was going great, but FM seemed a bit more distant, the further the process went. When we got the bed, her response was ""well John is so happy with us, and I just don't know how happy he will be with you""-- Seems a bit rude, but I cannot begin to imagine how hard this must be for her, so I let it go. We remained in contact over the next couple of weeks, disregarding her sideways comments about being the best thing to happen to John. When our background checks came back okay, this was our green light to start visits with him. DCS called me to tell me that FM would be getting a hold of me to set up meetings. We were ecstatic. I waited that entire day for a text from FM, but didn't get one. I sent her a message the following day, that said something to the effect of ""Hey, I'm so glad we can start visits, here is our schedule, please let me know what works for you. I know this is hard, so please let me know what we can do to make this easier on you"". I did not get a response. Up until this point, her responses were immediate. I figured she was busy, and didn't send another text until the following morning, saying ""hey, just wanted to make sure you got my message yesterday"". She finally did respond, but stated that she was told by his CASA that she should not allow visits, due to 'safety concerns'. I think this is a good time to mention that I have had full custody of my own child for his entire life, never been involved with child services, and couldn't possibly wrap my head around what 'safety concern' they had. However, I understood, being that everyone is just trying to look out for John's well being. I am okay with being under the magnifying glass, if it means they are just doing what's best for John. 

​

I did, at this point, contact DCS, to see if she could explain the safety concerns, considering that this information was just coming from the FM. The DCS agent confirmed that this was correct, but stated that she did not know what concerns she had, and would get back with me after their meeting the following Tuesday. I did not hear anything from anyone, despite a daily call, and text message, to ask the status. I know that may seem over the top, but when someone tells you there is a safety concern with having a child in your care, it's very concerning. I did not hear back until the next Monday (this was my attempt to reach out, she still did not reach out to me). She said the concern was no big deal, and we would proceed with a supervised visit first, and then unsupervised visits to follow. She advised that FM would contact to schedule this. 

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Fast forward to this past Thursday. My fiance gets a call from john's CASA, requesting to meet us in our home Sunday. We agree. I then get a call from DCS, asking if we are able to do a supervised visit the following day (Friday). We also agreed to this. Note, the visit was SUPPOSED to be set up by his FM, but at this point, we are getting a STRONG feeling that somewhere her feelings have changed.  The visit went VERY well with John. I don't know how to describe it, other than that he is already so comfortable with us, and having him with us just feels so right. We love him so much. However, i have some STRONG concerns about his Foster Family, after this visit. When i initially talked with her to get his sizes, she said he was just getting into 4T clothes and size 10 shoes. When he arrived to this visit, he was in 3T clothes, size 9 shoes, and his socks were filled with holes. When his Foster Dad came to get him, he cried and attempted to slam the door in his face. It was a bit concerning, especially since this woman had made it a point to brag about her parenting at every opportunity. 

​

Sunday. we met with CASA. She was very nice and fond of us. BUUUUUT, together, the 3 of us (myself, my fiance and CASA) figured out some HUGE red flags. DCS had told CASA she had already done our home visit. She has not. She said she already did a drug screen. She has not. I am not worried about MYSELF in this situation, but I just don't feel as though this is part of the process you just skip, and say you did. We also found out that CASA never put visits on hold. So between DCS and the FM, we are unsure as to who did... This is all so confusing and stressful. And a part of me wants to shout from the rooftops that this UNACCEPTABLE behavior is happening, but I do not want to ruin our chances of getting John, by stepping on the toes of the person helping us. What is happening at DCS, that is not being caught in this way? How many children are at risk, because these major steps are being missed? 

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Sorry for the long post. This is the most stressful thing I have ever endured in my life. I'm not sure if I left anything out, so this may sound a bit all over the place. ",4.996392419085215,5.967646483897608,5.3702947574067,82.86417549495478,68.88439306358381,8.12036414170913,28.558548669714607,8.292971314355103,1.888180914785201,4896,167,950,67,82,1560,423,1211,0.048,0.8220000000000001,0.13,0.999,3,0,2,0,0,0,213.0,42,8,3,15,56,34,1,4,64,2,114,9,5,10,11,199,209,79,0,19,40,11,6,0,0,9,3,11,6,10,66,82,0,4,32,2,3,39,27,7,3,3,68,23,148,27,156,115,20,153,0,2,5,1,198,54,0,14,56,676,214,14,0.03699435666359868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247257750370558,0.0887531209745608,0.0,0.24050021993358126,0.2697131554823541,0.0,0.038791808559161665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025867314340824368,0.0,0.060886406821341076,0.032932820689679815,0.10375418882820404,0.0,0.0,0.08533913024684953,0.0,0.02255141645292543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776465898960333,0.0,0.16155302408911112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511014974822832,0.08462337722818025,0.07543642432632927,0.0,0.0391351240734468,0.031867362561487284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886109506130537,0.0409335520043625,0.04063656367380162,0.09543319832501587,0.038139557303420266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03785807103315468,0.0,0.0,0.042901708798860086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032766019497147414,0.0,0.041258486696457375,0.02443442367421966,0.033463513569114575,0.031169341042601505,0.03534969315039451,0.06649628471870887,0.0,0.1046249611470372,0.0,0.07482183314064526,0.0,0.0,0.04052550945510442,0.033812171781249414,0.06293476175896234,0.0,0.12168720782120528,0.0,0.0,0.23193629365160756,0.0,0.04204949085441399,0.031029111184062937,0.0591755330453531,0.04078640882316941,0.0,0.0,0.09814196226564363,0.07876236115133545,0.06627935427680423,0.0,0.03796688280900808,0.0,0.08339065725564386,0.0,0.024796537464039783,0.0,0.11132506820718148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423179165541364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04019447675902668,0.11348770839863405,0.05226041632920731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032738841502771315,0.03106594233061266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033388851245014686,0.03500495476122011,0.04938804067767897,0.03750647116301063,0.0,0.04029769967394221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043327343409133766,0.0,0.0,0.02719510877297843,0.027430846712267202,0.05706465697742736,0.0,0.0786878360071262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02506833349673014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04107785508798193,0.08012256638587588,0.03531529943411446,0.0,0.03230204529979825,0.038651228866016525,0.1218260832594733,0.13988649871964384,0.041705578633977884,0.03543036749902212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03718954635678985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04210767697856555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0315929784569826,0.14076041923806412,0.05883879452729038,0.0,0.0,0.029479712585384576,0.1010348186870207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180634236378676,0.04158320689266807,0.0,0.0,0.031345198349842195,0.02848006314037853,0.0,0.04141215351230892,0.07855438816621177,0.0,0.029543741019108536,0.0,0.0847538211345365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460023003564242,0.0,0.05563030441306651,0.029734662564876262,0.06466939663251962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915481348137639,0.02370448998338242,0.0363467675913776,0.0,0.021571706871279992,0.0,0.0,0.07069938630078902,0.0,0.02511673980123473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4894962167844512,0.0,0.0,0.09157265582976716,0.06546069015276318,0.029364398374001132,0.059349282900688485,0.0,0.09978710845260988,0.06858827851551096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035661239677013,0.0,0.0807969967552836,0.03756956494069055,0.03770040995651647,0.10511891821549788,0.0,0.2697131554823541,0.0
parenting,RoseAllDay18,2019/03/25,"Single mom raising an entitled and ungrateful 6 year old, how do I discipline her without losing my mind? I’m a single mom, her dad was absent for the first 3 years and he’s involved now but really just in a convenient “when he has time to parent” way, I have her 100% of the time.  

I overcompensated by giving her everything she wanted and keeping her happy bc of my guilt of raising her without her dad/being a working mom and not always being “mentally present” as I suffer from depression, which I’m being treated for with therapy and medication. 

My thing is I try to get her to listen to me but she doesn’t, she’s not a bad kid, she’s sweet and a great kid, but I can’t get her to eat her food, even her favorites without constant nagging from me, she refuses to sleep in her own bed and/or sleep early and will cry and scream all night if I try to make her stay in her room. I can’t even get her to clean up after herself, basics such as putting away her shoes, etc.  I’m going crazy, I’ve tried an allowance, I’ve tried time outs, nothing works.  

I adore her but I’m so afraid I’m raising an entitled kid who thinks everyone is here to please her, help anyone? I’m exhausted and resentful. ",3.814339440694312,4.693281147540986,5.192892960462874,83.39627290260368,71.54098360655738,8.364127290260367,27.87753134040501,8.671277953709913,1.9612871745419485,936,33,193,16,17,314,136,244,0.135,0.701,0.16399999999999998,0.78,1,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,0,0,0,4,9,15,2,2,10,0,12,7,3,3,1,32,28,19,0,2,11,5,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,3,3,11,2,3,1,0,0,2,8,10,0,1,1,3,38,5,30,24,5,25,0,3,0,0,40,7,0,1,14,124,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556068032729144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803026642656489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790115510986907,0.0,0.09589121973023136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410721737772705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615242102875993,0.0,0.0,0.09891628596274546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751564752712895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280831230347499,0.15170877772485078,0.0,0.0,0.10973982468948387,0.10321575630779807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976875484168932,0.13887166970162265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18000614670237958,0.11017029638827533,0.06526936082603517,0.0,0.0,0.12661760131624447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225520131255944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697853734211484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207998313219156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284827707580536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666028249052995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569478824523635,0.11573728141552905,0.0,0.11596124565032265,0.4035170871003452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777474924758597,0.0,0.11019738261006144,0.0,0.1205110637341154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275223690569674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606590352964978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11545147733283805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357298675438131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298569384136116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224100533784512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133587145772568,0.0,0.07629826645369796,0.07358837781314609,0.0,0.0,0.2009020548129523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31189030250783056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773886863132676,0.09115903541129004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321209754536213,0.0,0.16721782603389992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791351081406456
parenting,Myschism,2019/03/25,Amazon Prime has removed a substantial amount of Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood These are truly dark times,11.451176470588234,12.895643529411773,7.698823529411764,70.14470588235297,54.88235294117647,11.505882352941176,34.64705882352941,11.20814326018867,4.224458823529412,88,3,12,2,1,24,17,17,0.0,0.652,0.348,0.6597,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tercerero,2019/03/25,"What's the most disgusting thing your kid has picked up? Bonus points if they put it in their mouth A friend told me her daughter found a tooth at a playground.  Root and all.  I mean, that's just beyond disgusting.

My daughter used to enjoy pulling apart cigarette filters.",2.9529411764705884,5.851820274509804,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,81.54901960784316,5.752941176470588,24.18627450980393,7.1686216300943375,1.026003921568627,218,8,42,3,6,63,46,51,0.129,0.698,0.173,0.3641,0,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,2,1,2,5,2,0,4,0,1,2,2,3,1,10,5,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,7,3,5,3,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,0,26,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4147073445706753,0.29221791938245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120010391390116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35754759763172583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38022348342661455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512777949718412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614129448839325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266674468055106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,teacup_elephant,2019/03/25,"Help! How do you disguise your kid’s antibiotics? 20-month old has never done meds well, but after our last attempt with liquid antibiotics in December, it was pretty clear that we couldn’t make her swallow them, no matter what we tried. 

She’s on chewable amoxicillin now and I’ve been crushing it and mixing in applesauce with lots of cinnamon and sugar, but she figured it out after 5 doses. 

Shout out your suggestions and what’s worked for you, because we’ve got 14 doses left.  She’s also allergic to dairy, so things like yogurt are out, unfortunately. 

Thanks in advance!",5.767924528301887,7.648939141509437,5.941650943396231,76.06360849056607,67.9622641509434,8.69622641509434,30.23113207547169,9.188382445141503,2.8412490566037745,463,18,76,9,8,147,81,106,0.124,0.7190000000000001,0.157,0.7135,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,4,1,3,5,3,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,2,2,21,10,9,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,7,11,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,4,2,12,3,14,5,1,15,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,1,7,54,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21304872178663886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624016281461605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726308738562519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21307315513956565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856962842903526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171604626086452,0.0,0.0,0.28945625130798186,0.0,0.0,0.13015492182320654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264930428889512,0.0,0.0,0.17783136225049406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959224814586611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21264665993978926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20547253034152926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795534523726969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710356888552733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452753878181828,0.0,0.0,0.1769915818205914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087553151965555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23953541772020415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19395032753660926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alyraff,2019/03/25,"Share your Parenting tips on Jumprope and we will generate files for your social! Hi there! Would love to share Jumprope with you all! We are looking for Moms and Dads to share their parenting tips with us!  Please check us out at www.jumprope.com. 

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parenting,avsh8,2019/03/25,"Is ""not sharing"" reason enough to not having any more playdates with a family? Not sure I described it accurately in the title, but here's my dilemma:

Around a year ago I met a mom who has two kids (4M and 3F) and we hit it off almost instantly. I have one toddler (3M) so I was thrilled to have someone who lives close by, works full time, and has more or less the same lifestyle and priorities as us. We started having tons of playdates and mom dates and my son loves to play with her kids. However, after meeting on a very regular basis for a year, her kids still don't share toys with my son at all. I don't butt in when this happens, but the two toddlers really don't know how to share and when we visit their place, the 4M keeps snatching toys from him even when he himself doesn't want to play with that particular toy. Recently, the 3F has also started doing the same thing. My son goes to a large daycare and is super generous with his toys when they come to our place. He is also great at asking other toddlers questions like - do you want to play with this? Do you want to play this with me? and other such stuff. But, that politeness is just not reciprocated here. The parents do chime in and say things like, ""You need to share with him,"" but in one year, I haven't seen any real change in the toddlers' behavior. 

I have never been someone who has a really large group of friends and I don't have a lot of time to have several playdates a week. These are more or less the only other toddlers my son meets outside of daycare. Should I put an end to the playdates and find other kids for him to play with on weekends? If I did that, I would probably still stay friends with the mom and try to continue having mom dates/hangouts with her, but the purpose of those will not be playdates. Or is it worth bringing it up with the mom so that we can continue having the playdates (which are super convenient for me)? I know that they don't have any other playdates apart from the ones with my son either, but they do go to daycare too.

TLDR: Should I put an end to playdates where toddlers refuse to share toys or play together with my son? Or is it worth discussing it with the mom to see if there would be any change in the kids' behavior? ",5.571347433054751,5.374072330376941,5.853048780487808,83.99450750469046,67.38137472283813,8.800989254647792,30.20646426743988,8.263242389622931,1.9333035306157251,1755,58,367,21,26,561,193,451,0.045,0.8109999999999999,0.145,0.9955,2,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,6,3,4,3,20,21,0,0,28,0,45,2,1,2,3,79,64,36,0,10,20,13,0,2,2,5,0,1,0,5,28,35,0,2,5,12,2,6,13,0,0,5,5,3,43,21,59,51,13,50,0,0,2,2,62,19,1,10,26,272,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488297392903122,0.0,0.08459062095066085,0.0,0.0,0.13511102823023444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297866046290933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520164728370438,0.07897375879204636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787290450889081,0.0727686881665098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14964151806696746,0.08728640283086757,0.0,0.05579567350284954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963655770018672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720963351876989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305320650409136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048009719687994,0.0,0.0,0.0931352087691088,0.0,0.0,0.07470194449863175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508624742004197,0.0,0.0,0.0928517208992036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254151993631939,0.0,0.07459395221719949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181856726267376,0.07624298684268216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5936243896317083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263796467928166,0.0651531833063856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172959383361894,0.06424788778882504,0.0,0.0,0.09380072234339708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765191088642318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09107953367759672,0.0,0.0,0.16984364468001326,0.09463257572145944,0.0,0.0,0.09615230659761118,0.10823511754928608,0.08685550987290169,0.08340996669491138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671787927662425,0.0,0.0,0.06731652198154382,0.0,0.0,0.09543395838042708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14315266660904433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958524996744604,0.09004029264750528,0.1349254600749299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670493445691368,0.0,0.0,0.07961773331489673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224434677352514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851739738465942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05735373308126429,0.0,0.165041767923769,0.0,0.10161435826144614,0.0,0.0,0.06970163725554802,0.1494785939595695,0.0,0.06776163938846863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06149961370175525,0.0,0.0,0.1200188086677263,0.0,0.0,0.16319953426181755
parenting,Redheaded_stepmom,2019/03/25,"You picked the WRONG mom on the WRONG day!! My toddler is a tough chick. She knows what she wants and will probably be my go too person if we ever go post apocalyptic in this lifetime, because she will cut a b*tch if she needs too. That being said, sometimes she can be tough to handle. After about a week straight of non stop battles, I took her to the grocery store because I never learn.  
Battle 1) The Cart. She doesn’t want to sit in the front of the cart, she wants to sit in the back. I try to force her in, she fights back complete with blood curdling screams, kicking, biting and smacking.  I’m an Amazon woman myself and the genetic strength I passed to my child is unbelievable sometimes. I surrendered Poland and put her in the back of the cart ...I know, call CPS. 
I look up after the battle to a woman in her 70’s rolling her eyes at me ...like the exaggerated roll 🙄... I let that go. 
Battle 2) The free cookie.  Kroger lets kids have a free sugar cookie, which they deserve a medal for btw. My feral child knows exactly where they are and gets very verbal about wanting one. I stop in front of the cookie case and begin instructing the demon to calm down and ask nicely. I hear a audible sigh, and turn around to see the same old lady stomp around me to the other side of the case. I guess she was trying to walk up my butt and I almost got rear ended 🤷🏼‍♀️
Battle 3) Standing Up. The terrorist enjoys challenging me at every turn. She knows she has to sit in the back of the cart, but will periodically stand up and give me that “ what are you going to do about it ?” look. At this point I’m done, I grab her and force her into the front seat despite the screams and war wounds. I win the war you little sh*t!!! I look up... and who should be there watching me fight my child? Yup, old lady complete with her eye roll and her sigh. 
The showdown: When checking out, I naturally choose to get in line  behind an extreme couponer with a checker who is part sloth..it never fails. The terror demon is losing her sh*t about everything at this point. I was ready to just start ugly cry, screaming with her. And then I heard it, just a slight whisper from a few people behind. The old lady in all of her judgmental glory said to a fellow shopper “my kids NEVER behaved like that in a grocery store” 

WRONG F#CKING GIRL, WRONG F#CKING DAY!!! 
I turn, ready to scream and instead, the most beautiful words came dancing out of my mouth: “ No, your kids were waiting in the car while you went to the grocery store, then you drove them home without seatbelts while blowing smoke in their face, so unless your Elon Musk’s mom, lets get of our high horse !!”

Her face was priceless 😳😳😳😳😳

The local fire department was there, they high fived me as I left ... mic drop moments are real !!!!",2.4903818181818167,4.505006001818188,3.3320000000000007,90.76600000000002,77.16363636363636,5.636363636363638,22.090909090909093,6.4601748715692375,0.3669454545454545,2151,61,443,17,50,682,277,550,0.142,0.763,0.095,-0.9864,0,0,1,0,2,0,91.0,2,7,5,6,21,36,10,1,45,1,29,9,7,1,6,62,69,27,2,8,7,2,2,2,1,4,1,10,1,11,15,27,1,3,6,1,7,17,6,23,2,2,14,20,73,13,73,44,5,91,2,2,7,1,63,39,1,5,30,284,88,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990899576824884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14207930021140075,0.07460299600823579,0.0,0.0,0.2454476244306148,0.0,0.09729168049706667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148556126375588,0.09127088088959967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16733928664139755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765745552398198,0.1029298565306547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166394689401285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706798419232683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218441194750784,0.06723563409755369,0.0,0.0717198329936317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507790710580166,0.07655221974311156,0.18141058402303895,0.0,0.06382400708964396,0.0,0.08790960197130637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994132584855917,0.0,0.0,0.1686278990758655,0.08004673076697309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542577862708358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670382631505842,0.2448052407021168,0.0,0.07797330121436642,0.07998138781202586,0.0,0.0,0.20103777573436094,0.08927670726790464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869235158930028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059171298168007314,0.1846419398725516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512126154205005,0.0,0.05407510207283226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641651341160468,0.0,0.055323841934320224,0.06967899948258158,0.0,0.0,0.15087514089962425,0.0,0.07642712824278829,0.0,0.08603878289842834,0.0,0.0,0.08022186698401998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083080576388476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518177113589506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06359092307992321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15785010640607836,0.0,0.05648343236047005,0.0,0.0,0.13343412043856367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866164920667129,0.10835903939651163,0.2604011360123837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584403535401745,0.1882743689220739,0.0,0.06401140568882939,0.0,0.0,0.07397616124362408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692514445883482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489986849212803,0.0,0.0
parenting,dirty_nail,2019/03/25,"Daniel Tiger removed from Amazon Prime? Is this true for anyone else? A specific Season 4 episode is a part of our daily routine, but the chyron is telling me I have to pay for an add-on to access it. That episode was part of the Instant Video program as of yesterday. 
Do I have to toggle my settings or is this a new development?",3.653181818181821,5.031696136363639,4.754969696969699,84.48245454545456,72.48484848484848,7.098181818181819,29.86666666666667,7.554174236665415,1.84643393939394,259,11,51,3,5,85,50,66,0.026,0.909,0.065,0.3432,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,3,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,10,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,37,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23810048615870394,0.34890442370044034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28446194183200885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288776980016581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7375030031104536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2976307198906188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tobyandtrooper,2019/03/25,"Dealing with baby's pain My daughter is 8 weeks old. She was born with a birth defect that, without treatment, would prevent her from walking. The treatment takes several years and ranges from uncomfortable to painful. Since she was 2 weeks old, she has been in full leg casts. It is incredibly difficult to find positions (holding, sleeping, baby wearing) in which she's comfortable. 

I am a SAHM and also have a toddler. I feel obligated to put on a happy face for the benefit of my toddler. It is so incredibly difficult. I have been plugging him in front of the TV (something I swore I would never do) so I can dedicate more time to comforting my daughter.

I feel like a failure because I can't comfort my own daughter. I'm angry that she has to suffer. I hate that I can't dedicate more stimulating time to my toddler. I'm struggling to cope.

This is my first ever Reddit post, so please forgive any format errors, etc. I don't have a specific question per se... Just reaching out for advice/support. There isn't anyone in my life I feel comfortable talking to about this except my husband. He is wonderful, but he works long hours and comes home stressed. I try to keep on a happy face for him, too.

Thank you in advance for reading this and any advice. I don't know that I will have time to thoughtfully respond to comments, but I assure you I will read and ponder them all. ",3.66852994257588,5.7719146716981165,4.75555373256768,81.48911402789173,73.98113207547169,7.325676784249383,30.767022149302697,8.18289091462,2.4309819524200162,1088,51,197,18,23,356,148,265,0.118,0.75,0.131,0.8111,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,0,2,1,3,9,20,1,2,10,0,27,8,5,1,4,34,40,11,0,2,5,4,3,1,0,4,3,1,1,0,10,9,0,3,10,3,0,5,7,9,0,1,5,4,36,11,32,31,6,30,0,1,0,0,23,9,0,2,16,138,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444852106683695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184467462249916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320970972983815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904863908349568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07763360811558312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970390006055596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312960297450167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203299355146554,0.0,0.11519867517049615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19318150873102535,0.09098147901781244,0.0,0.0,0.11639893658483605,0.10832695678876224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711406750278696,0.0,0.12573537157502054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277461031723908,0.0,0.12541770009739914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319778314598612,0.0,0.0,0.0699902400787324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995365523331897,0.062218564619581765,0.0,0.0,0.11270398011095348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822299247329727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672724826296439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27102654330723386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397960733533061,0.0,0.0,0.12196960095840735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280256020230962,0.14266524367822625,0.0,0.25477624424635026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387338423077387,0.0,0.1053482622769018,0.0,0.12744563170357218,0.0,0.0,0.09804306818432207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458831854307602,0.1331376952186432,0.0,0.0,0.1445194223596896,0.0,0.0,0.09575410176938924,0.10236204656276704,0.0,0.117250138164484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110457923945726,0.22278282711753175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864647743497806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043108458517794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227643820857192,0.13810961000721775,0.09271498010053723,0.0,0.0,0.18093676996544844,0.0,0.0,0.08201158056525869
parenting,onthedown_lough,2019/03/25,"When to introduce books? As the title states, at what age do I start introducing books to my son? I was an avid reader the majority of my life and would love for my son to be the same. 

Any suggestions on what books to start him on? Thanks everyone. ",1.7505999999999986,3.936692860000001,3.414000000000001,88.397,80.4,8.0,20.0,8.841846274778883,1.2168,193,5,43,5,5,64,36,50,0.0,0.821,0.179,0.8702,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,8,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,10,5,2,8,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,4,29,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27658317629588725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886378686793656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872779790770656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670801873812043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5757562470192173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37445262953498426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28892183136740823,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noharambessky,2019/03/25,"Video Game Bounderies Hello everyone, first time posting here, and usually just a lurker in subreddits in general, so forgive me my stupid formatting.

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First of all, this is not about my kid, this is about my 10y/o brother. I live at home with mom, the 10y/o, and a 4y/o.

We've always had problems with him playing a bit too much and never really going through with any punishments when it came to him doing something wrong.

So recently he lied about his grades in school, because I told him he could make a ""YouTube Channel"" (which is being overlooked, making sure he doesn't share anything personal etc). Once we, or I, found out, I calmly explained to him that he should not do that, and also should never do that again. I explained to him, that we're on his side, and that he can be honest about him messing up a test or anything, as long as he doesn't lie.

So as ""punishment"" we took away most of his electronics. Obviously mum got too soft again and gave him back his phone after a few hours, while his monitor and PS4 was with me. While he wasn't allowed to play, I was trying to get him to learn english (2nd language) with me, which he refused, even though he had all the time in the world for it, which made me really mad. But I thought to myself: ""Hey, if he doesn't want to get his stuff back earlier, that's fine with me.""

Now, after the weekend, I'm trying to establish requirements for him to be allowed to play, like learning and bringing back work from school, that he worked on. While I despised this as a kid, I set up times, and an hour count for his PS4 for each day of the week. Meaning, if he does learn etc, he'll be able to play 4-4,5h everyday (weekends probably more) between 2pm-8pm.

This is where I want to get feedback. Is this fair? Is this too controlling? It feels like to me he is at a point, where he kind of ""needs"" those kind of rules to not forget about important stuff like learning etc.

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Thank you very much everyone!

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parenting,gadamsmorris,2019/03/25,"What to do about self-esteem issues in younger kids? Really looking for some guidance here:
I have two sons, 6 and (almost) 4. The 6yo is the one I'm worried about. He is very bright, but is constantly negative. He will constantly put his brother or himself down, and he'll start it with whispers, so it seems extra malicious. We only know it's happening because the younger one will yell out ""I'm NOT stinky! I'm NOT yucky! I'm NOT stupid!"" We've tried asking him nicely to not be mean to his brother, and he immediately redirects it to himself: ""Fine! I'm the yucky/stinky/stupid one! No one loves me! Throw me in the garbage!"" 

He always looks to the negative, which is hard because my wife and I aren't like that at all, and neither is his younger brother. He's constantly saying he can't do things and that he's not smart, which is really heartbreaking because of how smart he is. He could read at 2, and we didn't really teach him. He just could. It was amazing. But now, he insists he ""doesn't know how to read"" and will only gravitate towards very simple baby books at bed time. 

My wife and I are already looking at family therapists but in the mean time, if you have any experience with matters like this I'd love to hear about it. 

Thanks!",2.9729070660522257,4.786462104838711,4.003617511520737,87.39268817204304,75.12903225806451,7.304454685099848,26.325652841781874,8.11559375814309,1.593584639016897,974,36,200,16,21,315,130,248,0.116,0.76,0.124,0.6351,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,2,1,0,0,9,13,1,0,7,0,23,2,0,2,1,38,44,17,0,3,11,6,1,2,0,4,0,4,1,1,13,14,0,0,5,3,0,2,13,2,0,5,2,9,17,11,24,35,4,19,0,1,4,2,35,10,0,5,9,121,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11676743480957975,0.0,0.1286813338978996,0.0,0.09702833301988058,0.0,0.0,0.07929836687152464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090140151210902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21325195963361784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780398918253954,0.0,0.18620617864441785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406633450394595,0.10992893130716808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311727631696364,0.0,0.10445908658171953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314272292091771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170988094368737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817091475636402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393889109608794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29376749321698226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21048900920193528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25404356727462235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31607009425688265,0.17737335332744622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722461949748778,0.0,0.0,0.2332818422005115,0.0,0.224108835421276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273244736545708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615678630904037,0.12164899920039413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253670869673388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735823628370783,0.0,0.13539246037299507,0.07747008059123997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359917169000615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917010436131862,0.0,0.11391040555274427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242987680880935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842247046002315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,onecrazywriter,2019/03/25,"Bad table manners/happy dog How do I get my granddaughter to stop throwing food on the floor? I'm afraid of attracting ants when the juice coats the carpet fibers and sometimes the dog snatches up the droppings and then gets sick. Also, it's not as if she doesn't want any more to eat or doesn't like what's served. She often wants more after she does this, but we don't have more because it's leftovers. This is an every meal occurrence and we eat at the table,  so it's not asd if she doesn't see  appropriate behavior demonstrated. At 20 months,  she's certainly old enough to feed herself. We don't want to feed her forever. We had our kids trained by this age and she lives with us. Is not something her mother's allowed her to do. ",3.239004474272928,4.862186765100674,3.9035067114093964,89.19181487695751,73.96644295302012,7.114317673378077,25.168344519015665,7.793537801064563,1.2164357941834452,584,19,122,8,12,185,95,149,0.07,0.893,0.036000000000000004,-0.2141,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,6,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,7,0,11,7,0,2,1,24,18,14,0,5,7,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,9,6,1,0,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,1,1,18,3,14,17,4,14,0,0,1,0,18,5,0,4,8,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673728958045921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423275728770964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747523320777601,0.1275841063877629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18315520219681325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42832145672497857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162573728811168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763398113780062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530799817560359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21869568463840655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22279809974374865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022508184329157,0.0,0.1848110543697013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705703258309326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21961958026975487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16678077825512702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16112528511090038,0.2069978097422214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497974061928712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25175575406860345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703423097214416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_nick85,2019/03/25,"Help! 6 month old boy WILL NOT stay asleep past 1230am. Our six month old little peanut goes to bed just fine between 630-7pm. Wakes up briefly once or twice between there, but as soon as 1230am hits.. look the hell out. Between 1230 and 630 this morning he must have been up 5 times. Before the time change, we seemed to be on a decent path, but since the clocks went ahead it has been an absolute nightmare. 

Any tips or suggestions would be fantastic. 

Just to add;

-Breast fed only. 
-2 or 3 naps a day. Usually 45 minutes on his own, or 90 minutes if snuggled. 
-Came one month early
-Black our curtains in his room with a white noise machine. 

Thanks in advance!",1.8606510416666675,4.4810223046875,1.7505000000000024,97.71116666666668,83.765625,4.663333333333333,21.81458333333333,6.079149491110277,0.11997645833333292,517,17,108,4,15,152,101,128,0.047,0.8590000000000001,0.093,0.6351,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,0,2,4,3,1,0,7,0,9,4,3,0,1,19,16,10,0,3,10,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,2,6,1,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,0,3,5,3,5,2,17,5,1,27,1,0,3,1,9,9,1,6,14,57,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312528713572216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642366093837045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207511011631645,0.0,0.0,0.20417813649946248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244749637027866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936999513646458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344591900476235,0.0,0.0,0.16207911342660036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4621742947703227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4050613656085443,0.2055484938337184,0.130788025838463,0.146792190337316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842491163397235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570832246382487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965920083699633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20572212147710744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1776969354099484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250904278123413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21257236046638886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892145770025833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13710819462204288,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dill-Ag13,2019/03/25,"Nightly dinner battle with my 2 y/o Hi All,

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Need some help here. My 2-1/2 y/o daughter has recently become a big sister (3 week old now) and overall the transition has been going very well. However, dinner time (and all meals on some days) has become a challenge. Refusing to eat anything, throwing food (rare), dropping utensils, dumping food off of plate onto placemat, playing with food, doing anything but tasting it. This isn't with food that she doesn't like, it's with food that she does like, she just doesn't even try.

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We have tried a lot of things. Bribes (watch her favorite Disney song video, a cookie if she eats), punishment (no bath, straight to bed, no cookie, time out, etc.). Nothing seems to really be sticking.

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Any parents have some wisdom they can share? We're being firm but not overly harsh as we understand it's a transition period.

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parenting,LittleKidLover-MS,2019/03/25,"My six year old male has been inappropriately touching woman/teenagers. At school or in public he’ll walk up to women and just slap their butt or bounce their breasts and run away laughing, he only does this to woman/teenagers and not girls his age.

I keep explaining it to him why he shouldn’t do it but he does it anyways, there have been times where he’s been smacked across the face yet he still does it. I’ve talked to the school about it and no other child in their classes has acted like him or encouraged him.

It’s gotten to a point where I need to to use a harness for him and when I do I get labeled a helicopter mom and controlling, and when I tell them why I’m a terrible parent for not using my words with him. Yet no one says that to my husband, when he’s out with the harness and people start asking questions he really does care about the development of the child’s morals and is so respectful of women.

It’s frustrating and embarrassing knowing that my son is a little shit and I’m getting all the blame for it.

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parenting,whompatap,2019/03/25,"Need help for patience/anger issues Hello, 

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I've never posted anything like this asking for help, but I am not sure what else to do. I'm married w a 3YO going on 4, and on occasion (few times a week) he wakes up at night wanting comfort. In most cases, either my wife or I will go calm him down and return to bed, but every once in a while something triggers in my head where I get extremely angry at the situation and lash out. 

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I either hit a pillow or punch the bed, which my son sees me do. It obviously upsets him very much which doesn't help the situation. This leads into a huge late night argument with my wife where I get defensive and say mean things. Everything smooths out. My son continues to show love towards me no matter what which I am now feeling I don't deserve, and my wife is getting fed-up with this cycle of me being this way, to the point that my promises of trying to control my temper are empty. 

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Ultimately, my relationship is now suffering (I hope it is not to the point of no return) and I am looking for advice on how others might have dealt with a similar issue. I just feel like a horrible dad and a horrible husband, but I get so reactionary sometimes I feel like I can't control these outbursts. Thank you. ",6.3574114285714325,6.085231724,7.091885714285716,76.02280000000002,65.76,9.702857142857145,33.05714285714286,9.23628265651192,2.8615142857142866,1001,38,188,16,14,333,148,250,0.165,0.7020000000000001,0.132,-0.9025,0,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,1,0,3,7,14,2,1,13,0,16,3,2,5,3,42,36,15,0,3,10,7,4,3,0,2,0,1,3,0,15,13,0,3,4,1,0,3,8,4,0,0,0,7,28,10,29,32,5,36,0,1,2,1,19,19,0,5,15,131,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09784140743994167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254575715869714,0.3649900554460549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239469432586229,0.0,0.09360375733358008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245983581037488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836419455755062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435998974547923,0.0,0.08998627672807785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187927139338006,0.14305924862360508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20924561015808807,0.0,0.11380717392878564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275757322100926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013358874026933,0.0,0.0,0.09944713991800323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090098625997275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129458416394178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674867678025907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408014057346265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036710608649044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906594164482956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621725425365758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360370865973791,0.07424173466464576,0.07722290103703892,0.0,0.0,0.18792185916211235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663031090695832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930178185979396,0.0,0.09589248084554956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749723658636692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962375746369472,0.0,0.0,0.07978700120749012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22509034773978864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770814445897059,0.09902660647491444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436702903151988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218203994870754,0.0,0.0,0.06651888398221584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05838394106459997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797859182124004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826139623998576,0.0590565703915203,0.07947490267205687,0.08031457723248918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649900554460549,0.0
parenting,fiestiier,2019/03/25,"Sleep train your baby, now. My almost 3 year old has been up since 1 am. It is now 7:45 and we have to leave for work and daycare. This was a really, really bad night but none of them are great. Every night is a 1.5-2 hour battle to put her to sleep. Then a battle to keep her to sleep. It is just the two of us and I am exhausted.

I strongly believed it was wrong to let her cry it out. I regret it majorly. I’m not sure if it’s wrong or not but I know it is wrong to fight and get frustrated every night for years. I am generally a patient person and rarely get frustrated with her, EXCEPT when it comes to sleep. And I feel so guilty for being crabby. But I’m so tired.

Deal with your kids sleep problems when they’re little.",-0.4170445344129554,1.7027744615384641,1.8326180836707169,96.54746963562755,89.64102564102564,5.079082321187585,14.620782726045885,6.5966054737557815,-0.5694435897435897,560,10,132,7,19,188,93,156,0.329,0.627,0.043,-0.9953,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,2,1,2,7,15,5,0,5,0,15,7,5,0,1,28,23,16,0,3,9,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,9,11,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,12,0,1,3,1,16,3,18,18,2,17,0,1,0,0,13,3,0,3,12,86,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699809389807547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755627894812144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163834447867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064706601351146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834293703308253,0.0,0.12045661244280552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968849928800606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059077668922462315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208785405988876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881619473086425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150635805472543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385250430101693,0.0,0.0,0.06421204997832597,0.0,0.0,0.12371638446492815,0.0,0.11947652143977087,0.0,0.0,0.11710408610901332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32893846373235525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226036229704327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201992961881626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117998246369927,0.0,0.11745618169568665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497010224512565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665101698243417,0.0,0.5846204601715458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012004562256908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342900608887153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413542094644395,0.0,0.14054378719124982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506070173867329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832376491172456,0.0,0.15048188730697298
parenting,Kaskein,2019/03/25,"I can't convince my girlfriends son not to call me daddy. I took the father's role when he was 1, but now after a grueling 2 year long battle to adopt him we've lost and he gets to see him every weekend. We're now suppose to make it clear to him that I'm not daddy but he just laughs and says I'm being silly. Am I at a point where I put him in time out if he calls me what he's always called me?  What am I suppose to do?",2.3565646258503388,1.8872357448979609,4.506530612244899,91.8444217687075,74.20408163265307,6.941496598639455,22.455782312925173,5.46131890053228,0.07797414965986338,325,6,83,1,6,114,66,98,0.081,0.8,0.119,0.5484,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,1,11,13,6,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,3,2,13,3,10,9,0,15,0,1,1,0,17,5,0,1,8,48,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19272514509150332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7095251495548172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19514857437571054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12101110561987367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20497508231713715,0.0,0.0,0.2528389515544506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460714611010956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189543465342836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328405641712983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18419232627170934,0.0,0.0,0.1845699553346519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505860893970484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25733667387411124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915471894402654
parenting,GrlPwrGang,2019/03/25,"A positive message to parents that apologise for their children being children As a seemingly random member of the public, people have no idea I’m a childminder. So usually, their child makes a noise or wanders slightly towards me and parents give me an apologetic look/tell me they’re sorry. Okay, so I’m probably more patient than most with kids. But I see the struggle parents go through on a daily basis. I’m sorry people have made you feel the need to apologise for your child. They are beautiful, exploratory and just being their natural inquisitive self. People who can’t handle that will get over it. Your kid is adorable, allow them to be a child for as long as possible. So what if they make a bit of noise?! They’re exploring their voice. So what if they don’t sit still in a café?! Their attention span isn’t developed for that yet. So what if they cry?! Some children have no other way of expressing their emotions/are still figuring out when it’s appropriate. Any rational human should allow for this and you’re doing an awesome job. Apologising for your child being a child isn’t something others should expect, let’s stamp it out and empower our kids! ",4.175410958904109,6.6274833789954375,4.952646118721463,79.05773630136989,73.65753424657535,8.398264840182648,28.75821917808219,9.120678840339163,2.8054290410958904,936,39,161,22,20,302,130,219,0.042,0.809,0.149,0.9736,5,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,1,4,11,0,10,3,0,1,14,1,18,0,0,5,0,31,31,18,0,7,6,3,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,13,13,7,0,0,6,1,0,2,6,1,0,0,1,3,20,2,24,22,4,17,0,0,1,0,37,7,0,8,6,113,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234126948632244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430077354273726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531089735693322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609442863856741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862704866189928,0.14436782433111678,0.08552936614355995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698897212663882,0.0,0.0,0.14934234894246734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389059521991694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331826999618746,0.12637729029295844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240132433360336,0.2009121979079005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158959998846654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5013182566765803,0.0,0.0,0.3130013494252116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965968589558264,0.0,0.0,0.16225828508729956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992445474557263,0.13700433822372562,0.15699835319533598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585784743785756,0.0,0.3369320454138891,0.0,0.0,0.24036984910209425,0.0,0.0,0.15732929483469732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574818518541612,0.0,0.0,0.1194553526848072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TogeMi,2019/03/25,"How do you get out of a downward spiral during the day? I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and I work 3 days a week. We are often fine, but today is not going well. I am tired, finding it difficult to split myself between the kids and household tasks and if I'm honest, I would just like to be left alone for half an hour to calm down and breath. But that is not happening and I have lost my patience, I was snappy at the eldest and angrily put the youngest to bed because i felt like the crying and whining was driving me crazy. (He did fall asleap though so yay for that)

Now I feel guilty and so angry with myself for being unkind to the kids that depend on me and I love them so much. And that feeling is making me act even more snappy, impatient and unkind, even though all i feel on the inside is hate towards myself and sadness. Hence the downward spiral. 

How do I turn this around? I know tomorrow it will probably be ok again, but how can i stop hating myself for what happened and start doing positive, fun things today? ",3.6025714285714305,4.597248400000002,4.591904761904765,87.07642857142858,72.14285714285714,6.933333333333334,24.0,7.03164865440522,0.8385142857142855,804,21,165,7,15,262,130,210,0.24,0.605,0.155,-0.9695,0,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,1,2,16,18,2,0,13,2,20,3,1,5,1,40,37,26,0,2,7,0,4,2,0,2,1,0,1,2,9,18,0,1,6,0,0,5,2,8,1,1,5,4,24,10,19,27,3,30,0,3,0,1,7,10,0,3,17,124,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066305787509693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949914945180732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867716728869514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979197415211396,0.18763224275575036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216313798156567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206620223205245,0.0,0.139674021393357,0.0,0.1329569528237325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600207565452598,0.0,0.08267395847806294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572772970909422,0.0,0.0,0.2872430342967988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14325865617300926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994651258250447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580535904288798,0.0,0.0,0.14213859685662758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587976989881868,0.0,0.13129236265988242,0.0,0.09710236060731534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693719461612053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052926075331591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684127369204373,0.0,0.0,0.14623753814115426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296442110731377,0.0,0.0,0.12161944124818727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09664381009573283,0.0,0.2858470905215181,0.0,0.0,0.1671963758542017,0.2757771183595928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822959703824227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166872666121539,0.0,0.13079500834575966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590389909873413,0.0,0.0,0.1033377206622551,0.0,0.0,0.18735583276171205
parenting,tallboyq,2019/03/25,"8 month old not sleeping, please help!!! My 8 month old daughter doesn't sleep for more than 30 minutes during the day and wakes frequently during the night. Sometimes she sleeps as little as 3-4hrs a night total.  
We have to rock her or feed her to sleep, which is becoming a longer and longer process. 
We have attempted sleep training but she works herself up so much that she just wont sleep if we leave her. We have tried gentle sleep training too. 
She doesn't ever seem tired and is generally happy.
Willing to try anything at this point. Any tips or advice?",3.3769444444444403,5.686796879629629,3.2627407407407425,90.90633333333336,75.57407407407408,5.801481481481483,23.76296296296297,6.742157984588678,0.6945562962962968,445,14,87,4,10,134,76,108,0.04,0.845,0.116,0.9095,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,4,0,9,10,8,0,2,17,10,10,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,13,1,9,8,3,13,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,4,9,53,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213283773039733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780342590975188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944298649256339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673288599559218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740045643824543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037983757373254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215401619229245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691482567606453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12150418613332213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501012365581825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831854713901264,0.0,0.0843548037119564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537109788976155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408226443158328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12596156446290036,0.10847629108559767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044645242344109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8038334366474849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349115558931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188879245580615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581608248043755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353971368777473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SumitKale94,2019/03/25,"Do you What Does Right Parenting Mean? Why Does It Matter? Are Parenting in a right way. Do you know many things you do for your child are not even required.

Pampering, fullfilling their demands,  Ignoring their mistakes doing all these might make them happy but have you ever thought will this take them anywhere in life. You are spoiling them. Dont Ignore their mistakes, Dont Fulfill all their demands, Dont Pamper them. By fulfilling their every demand you are creating an environment which is normal for them, when they will get into a situation out side you home they wont be able to face it as you have tought them that everthing is normal and easily available.

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parenting,NoonyPie_129,2019/03/25,"My 7 year old is a jerk to me First, let me say I'm very lucky to have a kid who is so great to others. At school he tries his best and almost never gets in trouble. He regularly visits a friend's home without me and the other mom says he is a perfect child. Also, he has been diagnosed with ADHD and I know that he has processing speed issues, so I don't rush him on shit or nag him. He's not medicated and I don't intend to change that, just needed to mention the situation for context.

My problem? He's an asshole to me so much of the time. Like, follows me around whinging that no one loves him or helps him, that I'm rude and a bad mom because I'm ignoring his bullshit demands. Anything I say gets turned back on me with such fucking attitude. If I ask him to please put away something, his response is that I never clean up so why should he (obviously false) and I just want him to work all day and never be happy, etc. He'll also reference shit he knows I'm sensitive about just to get a dig in. When we confiscate something due to his bad attitude he fucking forgets about it 5 minutes later, then when he remembers the only thing he recalls is that WE took it--he won't acknowledge that we clearly explained why he lost that thing and he'll completely twist it and insist he did nothing wrong. I honestly wonder if he believes his own BS. It's exhausting and miserable being around him some days. Unless we are pandering to his every desire he brings out this asshole, mean attitude. He does this now to babysitters too, and in dreading later today because I need to work but after this morning I half expect him to make our sitter cry again. 

And the frustrating thing is it's not like we give in. We don't. He doesn't get his way with this behavior, but it seems like that's not even the point... It's like he's just out to make us miserable. I know that ignoring his bratty behavior is the best option, but it also feels like such a defeat to be spoken to in such a shitty way by my own kid.",3.9732334494773554,4.751492668292689,5.288031358885019,83.23054878048781,71.09756097560975,8.296167247386759,28.057491289198605,8.527137837955566,1.9248954703832757,1574,55,322,25,28,527,205,410,0.165,0.7609999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.9882,0,0,2,0,0,0,40.0,8,0,0,8,25,35,8,3,16,0,23,8,2,3,7,76,56,30,0,9,16,2,1,5,1,4,3,3,2,3,27,25,0,2,11,0,0,6,13,21,0,3,4,4,44,14,42,44,8,44,0,4,0,3,62,15,4,10,26,211,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768790691578176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972655557616335,0.0,0.0,0.2149714775800685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373735534706713,0.15953505739970858,0.08376866463063491,0.0,0.08418693295923091,0.06890078426959018,0.14963301696979694,0.10924486402677372,0.0,0.0,0.10095425351210624,0.18807003039124956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479030545595753,0.0,0.09394923349087364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842698533652212,0.1155757421758762,0.0,0.0,0.09094728156590354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841401929396681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993336291122952,0.059183317762650664,0.0,0.0754961541132247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04530702652728163,0.06401389517705935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621804494261998,0.0,0.0,0.06922867131567856,0.16567692618454433,0.18725984770354145,0.08595736854433372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987899295666978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538628596086593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060060403949535976,0.0,0.08988121259442519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935244352543236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773384452037852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916272768541968,0.0,0.2188826075714396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781454214280348,0.0,0.08087209337572747,0.0,0.11962418856581188,0.0,0.0,0.09760621313213567,0.0,0.09026770261927686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098888000783709,0.0,0.0,0.06587005224924472,0.13288207973438254,0.20732691132439413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597850183002753,0.0,0.09402547019166832,0.0,0.060718728908774264,0.06814870974522715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983594824178558,0.08470577426759895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573997100701015,0.0,0.09007786591688503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015051010510206,0.0,0.0,0.2137726954219525,0.0,0.09068513625167196,0.0,0.08157310984931869,0.0,0.0,0.18395667725845047,0.0,0.10071987700350027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1379647540871419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858892343559826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05224944936158762,0.0,0.08493514936829155,0.0,0.09955455350845073,0.060835975206023074,0.09746460865838698,0.0,0.0,0.1077838921314904,0.0,0.0,0.07393358458270839,0.052851404476559324,0.14224870150804342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170931555797724,0.0,0.0,0.08637611051336197,0.09717289929102713,0.13046714741440876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796910096772768,0.0,0.05770274102250636
parenting,mndwrit,2019/03/25,"Help! Toddler wont fall asleep on her own. We moved my 2 year old to a toddler bed because she climbed out of her crib, but now she won't go to sleep if we aren't sitting there. The worst part is she wakes up during the night and needs us, and then will still wake up early in the morning.

We've been trying the cry it out method for a few days, but she is not giving up. Last night she cried for 3 hours and then woke up 4 hours later and wouldn't go down again because we weren't there.

She seems happy to be in the bed, just not if we go. She says ""no leave"" and it's breaking our hearts.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!",2.171333333333333,3.044345874074075,3.048333333333337,97.25250000000004,75.44444444444444,5.696296296296296,20.166666666666668,4.935628992294339,-0.5164666666666666,483,9,120,1,10,153,88,135,0.138,0.76,0.102,-0.6414,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,6,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,7,0,11,5,5,0,0,21,19,11,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,2,0,2,11,0,0,1,0,0,6,8,1,0,0,3,1,16,2,16,11,4,33,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,3,15,76,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667890360277687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599336120523028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20795562008299764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747259873661461,0.11000345574528153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362616252567072,0.290816365007185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157479915526806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20212611810960135,0.11432938891021965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359539280244127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903721032478794,0.0,0.18060886478715976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812887786720264,0.0,0.1264753978837368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32013653797205643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898438641940842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847105481178604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356440073997158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528040418134548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17069305427829154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362173191210617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703782020868187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580574574399988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20517455280707506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10984140441497617
parenting,Racismthrowaway64,2019/03/25,"20-year old daughter hates me and my husband because we’re white and she’s white My 20-year old biological daughter has a history of profound emotional problems starting from seventh grade.  She started failing in school and was diagnosed with autism and ADHD.  She struggled all throughout high school. When she was 17 she was hospitalized after we learned she was obsessed with a local student who jumped in front of a train and was planning to kill herself in a similar way. She has been hospitalized twice since then for self-harm and overdosing. She also has been cutting herself for years.

She has a problem of over dealing personal information on the internet and texting it to her friends. She previously was found posting about how my wife abused her as a child. I admit my wife can call her, and myself by the way, some names but I don’t think it escalates to the level of abuse she alleged.  My wife explained to me my daughter is exaggerating.

So a few weeks ago I received a text from her best friend, who had my number for emergencies when she texts her friend she’s injured/going to injure herself, and this conversation was a *bizarre* conversation where she said she wanted to kill herself for being white.  

She’s started making openly angry and aggressive comments to me and my wife.  Like, “I wish you had shaken me to death as a baby” and “I wish you aborted me or I was a stillborn is miscarriage.”  She told me she wishes *my wife had been raped and impregnated by a non-white man.*

I’ve talked to her about this and she says she hates me and my wife for having a baby when we’re white and we could have chosen to reproduce with a person of color.  She points out all her mixed-race friends as examples.  We found a 23andme test hidden in her closet. She’s also obsessed with Islam and has a romantic relationship with a thirty year old Arab man she met on the inernet. I looked through her texts during one of her hospitalization. I fear she’s going to genuinely harm white people or herself or join some terrorist group never to be seen from again. She has joked about running over our neighbors children who are white.

I don’t want to kick her out since she’s autistic and mentally ill but this level of rage is juts unacceptable. Yes, she’s in therapy.",4.477214452214452,6.620051913752918,4.9558682983683005,80.75636655011655,71.8205128205128,7.657109557109558,30.09848484848485,8.430304187100639,2.3890051282051283,1817,78,326,31,36,578,209,429,0.177,0.7170000000000001,0.107,-0.989,0,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,4,2,0,3,12,23,8,4,21,1,32,4,0,2,3,58,54,34,3,8,5,10,0,1,5,0,3,2,2,6,8,29,0,0,8,1,0,5,3,16,0,2,20,11,76,7,54,31,6,43,1,1,9,1,90,18,0,5,18,233,84,8,0.0,0.2272868966635674,0.0,0.0,0.11527104631799308,0.0,0.08502275368471714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153406189292043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846882041769728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10065674877129127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793981610399786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658022677867446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888402936636276,0.0,0.09735158390698044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10789132987688453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793090559060167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103314298411056,0.29641439252797724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902127298985698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939217277720874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133933649935901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21223120684106575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04685916537555605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054434217144286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402392699352029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665963932094457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397546819232895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301939594889085,0.0,0.06499440478387881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649530077697374,0.1674983466959322,0.0,0.0,0.09067056374898234,0.0,0.09185994143461497,0.0,0.0,0.1835551725781391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029766856601761,0.0,0.0,0.09123701488474044,0.07627536208182734,0.0,0.1941419578225277,0.0,0.0,0.10006013778903408,0.0,0.0,0.1586835592959707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036671365765367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027105761946964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709274711482908,0.0,0.0,0.1096870240059256,0.0,0.0,0.06145838204108455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916507778988314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131461622362656,0.15226553407739254,0.0769371310020156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308921343470816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24706415134551055
parenting,Bonnieisamazing,2019/03/25,"My fiancé daughter is a thief. My fiancé daughter is 10 and she steals my daughter belongings. I have told her father about it and he does absolutely nothing. Today I bought her and my daughter something and  what I bought my daughter, magically disappeared. She had it last and claims she doesn’t know where she put it. Every time she comes over, I have to hide my daughter stuff. I can’t leave my purse or money around.  I don’t know what to do giving the fact her dad will not do anything. She does steal. That’s a fact. Not only from my kids but others as well. So her parents know she steal",1.7488852672750994,4.209838177966102,2.650000000000002,92.23039765319427,82.47457627118644,4.986701434159062,20.941329856584094,6.297961479604792,0.2047801825293356,467,14,95,4,13,147,68,118,0.126,0.836,0.038,-0.8074,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,0,2,16,19,9,0,0,4,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,0,3,0,3,3,5,4,1,0,4,0,25,1,7,14,0,9,0,0,0,0,24,3,0,1,3,66,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839416120696874,0.19898418855416475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925465583531396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912155799433487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18832902573309415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442506128532945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685296467499608,0.18220229506486552,0.0,0.2366801635073777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21447777934960705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700004491889454,0.0,0.0,0.2481974969362129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22470385316318528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720800749914355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558820665124235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033892929964155,0.0,0.211875083160338,0.21358723182111847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20097536325751492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HotCheetoKiller,2019/03/25,"Remember that your kids can remember EVERYTHING. I am that exact rare child that happens to remember as far back as being 2, despite being 26 now.  I remember the exact layout of my grandmothers house that I haven’t seen since I was four.  That time aunt Jenny beat us with a fly swatter. Finding my uncle’s porn at 3.  I remember every time my dad failed to show up for his weekend with me.  I remember a spanking I got at 3 for running across the street and visiting my other grandma. I remember other family members doing drugs.  I remember then time a thug in a car pointed a gun at me with I was 6 and the man running away from them.  I remember helping my mom make meatloaf at 5. I remember my 4th Christmas and when I learned Santa was actually mom. 

You have no idea when your kid is going to “wake up” and start remembering stuff.  So please be conscious that your child is watching you and there is a chance they will remember that time. ",3.6021261261261266,5.351414329729732,5.165945945945946,79.99234234234235,73.27027027027026,8.609009009009009,30.171171171171174,9.21078282632365,2.8218900900900907,741,33,139,17,15,250,111,185,0.046,0.914,0.04,-0.2748,0,0,1,1,0,0,14.0,1,5,2,2,6,1,0,0,9,0,15,3,1,1,2,27,21,11,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,10,8,0,0,16,2,0,5,2,1,0,1,5,2,30,0,21,12,0,28,0,1,2,1,20,12,0,0,11,99,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.06670596231416377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422306527531023,0.052561833649514896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927169428524361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05759319484885539,0.0,0.06143430297893013,0.0,0.0644403075996963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247648915640772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038848503674867835,0.0,0.05467083824948018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060447317423113385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045817837848784695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887408004040733,0.0,0.07716602797992919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0456284116828951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011632250004346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503477366050121,0.06461886992151328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9292133828512682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654510048716972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048382994662454666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825169624072507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594366098868707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222430366170859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,filler0,2019/03/25,"Childcare options: What is better for the kid? I am choosing between sending my 3 mo old baby to a grandma nanny (someone’s grandmother with free time who is willing to watch an infant for pay, plenty of attention and cuddles, raised own kids and grand kids but no formal training ) or to a family daycare ( licensed run out of a family home with a 3:1 child to teacher ratio - 6 kids max bc two teachers , more focus on development but also fewer cuddles and 1:1 time).

Neither are bad options. But I need some insight/advice as a first time parent - what is better for the kids well being and development?.

I would like to send him to the grandma nanny until he’s a little older - so he can get more 1:1 attention and get exposed to fewer kids germs and not get sick as much. When he’s crawling or walking I wanted to switch to the daycare where social skills will be learned and there’s a focus on child de elopement - when he’s 6-12 months old. Then when he’s 2-3 he’d go to preschool. 

My significant other wants stability instead- saying we should pick either daycare or the grandma nanny and stick with it until preschool. Saying fewer changes and more stability is better.

what’s better? Why? All else being equal, any thoughts or advice is appreciated.",5.2474033965050415,6.622742807531385,6.087083435884813,76.4615284272705,68.62343096234311,7.464533595865125,31.21363524489293,7.724431198458867,2.292622741816392,997,41,168,11,17,328,139,239,0.022,0.82,0.158,0.9873,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,0,6,9,9,0,0,13,0,16,3,0,1,1,38,24,26,0,5,9,1,0,1,0,4,1,2,1,9,6,14,0,0,5,0,2,5,3,1,1,2,1,3,9,9,26,15,10,24,0,0,1,2,24,5,0,7,15,109,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789890843017116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141578552736552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970755174417458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11919105144334445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5050063356922889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101154013638407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192500722132804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691457166009677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142385550510745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22374438402265354,0.0,0.08112863477778395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319080709700202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974088651668849,0.14307391899467295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394241855223862,0.0,0.10493834776853082,0.1058479947959368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995861443296808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850799784596178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270425146642903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14551658095220446,0.1209523871652112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332828119981027,0.24971761979511986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944690158559325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683963766122582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283502164185832,0.0,0.12881049744141265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140615440110208,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kat_love92,2019/03/25,3yr old eating problems I have 3yr old daughter her eating isn't so great been going through this since 2 she hardly eats at times shell go with out a whole day eating tried vitamins Every one says its a stage but starting to get very worried she eats only sertain foods any other moms go through this did anything help ,1.6900896057347694,4.4668716290322585,1.9418279569892505,93.41051971326168,90.77419354838707,3.4007168458781365,21.405017921146953,5.033348758259628,-0.007210035842293737,259,9,47,1,9,78,52,62,0.119,0.825,0.055,-0.4782,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,4,7,0,0,0,4,9,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,2,4,1,6,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,5,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728955275873928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773084580968615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226551330328753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7319594179711236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053898647833572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299556044910852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747459010177527,0.0,0.2439225296386663,0.0,0.0,0.15773039201939942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815872780314827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589389425981808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755676849881473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002466817860681,0.0,0.09694499181958202,0.10880787901031648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368945124061161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377155276130076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183453899532116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126260845060447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342273515881861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713219009484138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804415015557565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15972769698350753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529011935777775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,singleparentstudy19,2019/03/26,"Want to participate in a single parent research study? Hello Reddit community! Hopefully this is appropriate for this thread....if not, feel free to delete! I am a psychology graduate student looking to recruit participants for my study. If you are interested, please contact me at [dnguyen@wi.edu](mailto:dnguyen@wi.edu) for more information! This is an opportunity to share your story and experience!

​

**Are you a single parent?**

If yes, does your child display four or more of the following behaviors: often loses temper, is often touchy or easily annoyed, is often angry and resentful, often argues with authority figures or, for children and adolescents, with adults, often actively defies or refuses to comply with requests from authority figures or with rules, often deliberately annoys others, often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior, and/or has been spiteful or vindictive at least twice within the past 6 months.

If you answered, “yes”, to these questions, please consider participating in my research study exploring experiences of single parents raising a child with these behaviors.

My name is Di Nguyen and I am a doctoral student in clinical psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. I am conducting interviews to collect data for my dissertation about single parents’ perspectives of raising a child with oppositional defiant behaviors.

Participation will include a brief screening in order to determine eligibility for the study and an interview either in person, or via video call that will take approximately 1 hour of your time. Eligible participants will be entered into a raffle for a chance to win one out of two $25 Amazon gift card.

​

Participants must be:

•	At least 18 years of age,

•	Identify as a single parent

•	Your child must be of elementary school age (6-11 years old)

If you are interested in participating, please contact me via email at [dnguyen@wi.edu](mailto:dnguyen@wi.edu)

​

Thank you in advance for your time and consideration. Please feel free to forward this email to those who may be interested.

Sincerely, 

Di Nguyen, M.A. 

Clinical Psychology Doctoral Student, 

The Wright Institute Berkeley, California [dnguyen@wi.edu](mailto:dnguyen@wi.edu)

Dissertation Chair: 

Katie McGovern, Ph.D. [kmcgovern@wi.edu](mailto:kmcgovern@wi.edu)

​

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parenting,hehehehuhu,2019/03/26,"My daughter asked for condoms, what now? Today I was at walmart with my 14-year-old. Her and I are very very close and open for a parent-teen relationship, especially a father-daughter one, I believe. She asked me, somewhat casually, ""Can I buy condoms?"" when we passed the isle they were in. She has a boyfriend of about a year and is extremely interested in sex (she doesn't know I can see her search history.) I don't know what to do. Is it normal for a 14 year old to be sexually active? I think she's mentally ready, but at the same time, I never had sex til I was married with her mother. I'm very ignorant on this and am on need of some insite. ",1.5948776223776235,3.6910930681818215,3.6563636363636363,86.93339160839163,80.43939393939394,6.78881118881119,24.547785547785548,7.882392219407189,1.3582533799533798,503,19,107,9,13,171,86,132,0.027000000000000003,0.91,0.063,0.3073,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,7,0,15,4,0,0,1,20,23,7,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,1,3,1,1,1,3,1,0,1,4,1,21,2,17,18,3,18,0,0,1,4,14,8,0,2,9,76,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503168694514799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21109312297213392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059388123733797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888171047439356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892675257511147,0.1445053367080592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835752483541577,0.0,0.0,0.3932103789822468,0.0,0.12696152625916374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804363313992189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20115696457257173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930347500004754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005418022214565,0.0,0.0,0.10925244906089336,0.0,0.17759752864803555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4637804961892997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619654858336143
parenting,Makeleleroll,2019/03/26,"Good novel to read to toddler What’s a good short novel to read a 5 yr old girl?I want to start reading something that my daughter will look forward to and stimulate her mind since each night will be a continuation of what I read the previous night. I’m thinking something like the Lion Witch and Wardrobe. Good story, good lessons but don’t know if anyone has other recommendations. ",6.114583333333332,7.542213513888887,5.9232222222222255,78.24400000000001,66.6388888888889,7.982222222222222,32.455555555555556,8.238735603445708,2.45156888888889,311,13,55,4,5,97,53,72,0.025,0.758,0.217,0.8271,0,0,2,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,11,11,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,3,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,6,8,1,7,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,7,28,7,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202681634501824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.537526624397976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805057384304378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782734894505579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454116535646354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16177257988145366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007038969628424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811983671953504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6410377927617164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253240646716016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466843492821628,0.0,0.0,0.11340177414943065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266000215297484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449960178752284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,gooddaymatey2,2019/03/26,Daycare Question My kids have been at a local family daycare for two years. I want to change daycare for reasons I rather keep to myself. I politely decline to answer any questions ( from the provider) about why I'm leaving. The daycare provider seems angry about me leaving. My question is why? Is this normal for a provider to be angry when you put in notice to change facilities without any explanation? Be gentle.,4.232700000000001,7.2281559200000025,4.58625,78.87937500000002,76.46666666666667,5.883333333333333,33.375,7.1686216300943375,2.6137,334,18,51,4,8,105,49,75,0.091,0.853,0.055,-0.5803,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,11,10,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,6,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,8,0,14,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,4,2,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23042282313723325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584477973594971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971410065288802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15058828287431258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587826413119897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16599563147887034,0.0,0.19288579610467516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703138969404084,0.5693675302009109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17419197974783887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423360758573695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16549872505379287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992830717683857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057504018762805,0.0,0.0,0.1633148369396314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910092715511427
parenting,bobbybottombracket,2019/03/26,"Noise Canceling Headphones... are amazing Okay.. Yes, they are expensive.. pretty damn expensive for headphones. But, the fact that you can't hear any crying or whining while your favorite tune is blaring is amazing. I can't even hear my wife. Another plus at times. Noise canceling headphones have saved me. Easily worth the $300 for a great pair.",3.6933196721311496,6.9228129836065575,3.439487704918033,83.98414959016395,83.09836065573771,6.9844262295081965,28.936475409836067,8.07648339933343,2.654981967213115,276,13,45,6,8,83,48,61,0.058,0.5579999999999999,0.384,0.9768,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,1,0,1,7,1,0,3,2,7,0,0,0,1,5,9,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,6,5,4,9,0,3,0,1,0,0,6,1,1,1,2,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20619837903890864,0.31795011208271223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33307031702418577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002723779698534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33429849595695915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.683496588735898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084813277389439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680863234511465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,knriley,2019/03/26,"4 year old bad eating habits Our daughter who is 4 years old has randomly decided she doesn’t like eating most of the meals we fix at home. Even if it’s something that she has had multiple times before, she now says that she doesn’t like them. We don’t eat out at fast food or restaurants very often, so she shouldn’t be spoiled to them. I don’t want to get her into the habit of always having us fix a separate meal for her just because she doesn’t want to eat what we fix, but then again I feel like a terrible parent when she goes to bed without eating any dinner. I know the saying of “they will eat if they’re hungry”, but sometimes I really wonder if she would actually eat what we fix or just let herself be hungry. Has anybody else experienced this with their child? Was it just a phase, or how did you get them back into good eating habits? Thanks in advance! ",6.631299435028247,5.4501135988700575,6.746666666666666,81.72079096045198,65.55367231638418,9.674576271186444,29.271186440677965,8.515128840125781,1.873210169491526,685,17,144,8,9,220,111,177,0.037000000000000005,0.8640000000000001,0.1,0.8403,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,6,1,5,1,11,7,0,0,6,0,19,12,0,1,0,32,27,12,0,7,12,2,1,3,0,3,0,2,2,1,8,8,12,0,4,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,4,27,5,16,18,1,18,0,0,0,0,29,6,0,10,14,97,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.09744672129951544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830896149962504,0.0,0.0,0.0679066677548338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678441591941794,0.08337701763546669,0.060872333787021116,0.0,0.08497155720308748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8174349429595336,0.0834183040887383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595507634278303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504910590760622,0.07133836869933476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12074834052953977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434306505725577,0.0,0.0,0.08375591027967766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016542604491054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05487918646732525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211127507646513,0.0,0.14635630077763806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095677396636646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088017071522564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397140667697719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882171958323038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687534454323224,0.0987618295457164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193556399306617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058227834325412876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011653119151447,0.0,0.0,0.08239306953023619,0.11779733035766375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625926998463533,0.10829142794751992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093605284507845,0.0,0.0,0.12861018385586345
parenting,isthatthingon,2019/03/26,"Cheapest place to get diapers or place for free diapers I have found myself in a bit of a pickle. Due to some unforeseen car expenses I am left with $20 till payday on friday and still need to get diapers for my 2yo along with some food for us for the next few days. Anyone know of some immediate resources that I could use?

In the Philadelphia area. Any help is appreciated.",3.7039639639639645,5.478546243243244,5.325405405405405,78.84909909909912,73.05405405405405,9.257657657657658,25.84684684684685,9.725611199111238,2.424565765765766,298,10,59,8,6,101,56,74,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.8519,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,1,0,13,10,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,2,16,8,5,13,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,4,5,38,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135378907213005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590681146281516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25904068311509154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944319825398376,0.0,0.0,0.1530214678762943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869114758944452,0.26015761795529474,0.0,0.0,0.24793071824952784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903910285283884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039904578543496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577978289374212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759349368007279,0.0,0.0,0.2523425470623317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4957996068544286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18948653913513588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854102266941518,0.20492770609703115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ghulican,2019/03/26,"Cloth Diapers - Looking for studies. Hey there! 

I am an expectant father! Woooot!! First time posting this to social media! 

My wife and I got in a discussion and talked about diapers... then we talked about cloth diapers! I was apparently raised with them, but have no recollection. 

I did my google research, after reading an article about reused toilet paper for families (gross) and they mentioned cloth diapers could be a base for infection of E. Coli. 

I was wondering if you people have used cloth diapers as a tiny new born and what your experience was, also as an infant. 

Most importantly, who has a university study article that proves it won’t cause issues! I know single use diapers have problems tested in mice (scrotum issues in males, breathing issues), but I could not find anything! 

Thanks! 

Researching daddy. ",5.3339637826961805,8.362580746478873,5.816418511066399,71.42732394366199,72.52112676056338,9.409255533199197,30.56539235412475,9.784248007369934,3.8020124748490955,654,29,98,19,14,210,102,142,0.076,0.9,0.024,-0.804,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,2,2,1,5,3,0,0,7,0,13,2,1,3,1,23,20,11,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,1,14,1,15,11,2,10,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,3,6,69,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13921987395210314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14326140517627348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883859577425978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27799372550879303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029362567198958,0.16411675153721314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15911529335790878,0.14808103934395314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923584029203787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.545114831544527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567542375441933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619192636766667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813740470583674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12069222806850136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673029330555195,0.0,0.0,0.1665808146823614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413731617014386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746304018714465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279854224538894,0.0,0.1602788709044587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015133984667015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30071608272526984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18879340101039788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lanadol,2019/03/26,"High school senior no longer wants to take ADHD meds but is becoming painfully forgetful. I know I can't make him but is there anything useful I can do? My 18 year old takes medication for seizures and ADHD. He's a high school senior, set to attend college this August, and stopped taking his medication this year. At first he did so secretly and then after my husband found out he admitted that he's tired of taking pills. He talked to his doctors about it. They warned him of what can happen if he doesn't take his medication but ultimately left it up to him. He hasn't been taking his meds and is becoming so forgetful. It's the smallest things. Yesterday I asked him to go fold the laundry. He agreed and when I checked an hour later I checked and the laundry was still in the laundry room unfolded. I looked for my son and he was outside playing with the dog. I asked about the laundry and he said he forgot. This is happening with school as well. He's forgetting assignments, what time he has to be at school for practices and games, etc. At first I was helping out but I won't be there to help him next year so I told him that he needs to download alarms to go off when he needs to do something because I am done being his alarm. This works most of the time but he doesn't check beforehand so today he came home, took at nap, and then woke up to his alarm for baseball practice. He got there on time but was raging because he had to rush and this was everyone's fault but his own. 

He refuses to consider going back on the meds. I'm really worried about college next year. We live in California and he'll be in Arizona so it's not a quick drive. His medical needs terrify me but him not taking his ADHD meds is becoming another issue. I don't want to pay for him to fail in college. I already told him that we aren't going to pay for his education if he isn't taking it seriously. Is there anything else I can do at this stage? ",2.900585135239865,4.680096480818417,4.150602185538247,86.40827636983649,75.24040920716112,7.501542276989848,26.170735487871035,8.296473431620573,1.6654528559249775,1528,56,315,27,33,501,177,391,0.126,0.815,0.059,-0.9842,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,2,0,1,4,18,10,1,3,11,0,35,8,0,2,0,49,72,32,0,7,12,2,0,0,0,2,8,1,2,0,17,19,0,3,4,3,5,9,11,8,1,2,18,2,41,2,48,48,3,59,0,1,1,0,58,20,0,3,28,199,58,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598604416919264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795365579959255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557692491135615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186231724525252,0.0,0.13476079666576748,0.0,0.0,0.055421228331664865,0.0,0.08787250562489889,0.2388035342849522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243460235639194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377181958211176,0.0,0.07375775190780001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602094164888096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038268043777265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887075400963424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12261392135190452,0.0,0.07902652054449245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384754054547654,0.0,0.057644964022976426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747137412600176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662071038132926,0.15230239558361444,0.07229710457912875,0.0,0.07097935948605245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522757738923927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039610536688246004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830970157617881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364354806580631,0.0,0.06052484991104457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04811062412987703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32023632045249306,0.2904319311236497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032810424908495,0.0,0.0,0.15330516658633989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563059125851651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766928847871021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617309246531569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855983279963429,0.0,0.0,0.2917750034790392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055486858524483984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755919044600411,0.0602579297576458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335314588913896,0.05793115720559566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788342933080799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608254146754427,0.08283961321114519,0.06831867527234672,0.1377415080192685,0.08007798024272927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224966119883382,0.0,0.0,0.08502340825857163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648040834973574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247146054494347,0.07319566408316619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18565575527027428
parenting,PoolFloat1243,2019/03/26,"Anyone have suggestions for games that don’t require WiFi for 6-7 yr olds? I have to take my 6 yr old (F) to work with me tomorrow. There is no WiFi and I don’t want to waste money on a game, or download a “free” game that she can only play for 5 mins. I have an iPad.",0.18983606557377186,1.1486001147541032,2.7089836065573785,97.37003278688525,80.63934426229507,6.191475409836067,18.757377049180327,6.742157984588678,-0.24499606557377,201,4,54,2,5,70,45,61,0.086,0.7929999999999999,0.121,0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,5,9,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,3,8,9,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,4,30,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659019632532467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7980838178577332,0.0,0.0,0.2892215393588576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28592468017572176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243001315378338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768497698050477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,babybeekeeper,2019/03/26,"Help me understand what’s normal - 5.5mo sleep I’m having (what I assume) are major problems with my 5.5 month old’s sleep, or lack thereof. Before I go in detail and ask for advice on our specific situation, I want to make sure I’m not just being completely unrealistic. I know what all the sleep “experts” tell me I should be doing or expecting of my baby, but I want to know what’s actually normal for babies at this age. 

So, please fill me in. What did/do naps and nighttime sleep look like for your 5-6 month olds? How do they fall asleep? Do they have sleep crutches? Are night wakings still normal at this age? Is CIO really the only option?

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parenting,brittanyperdigon,2019/03/26,Advice about race talks? So my amazing four year old has recently become interested in skin color. She attends a predominately black prek and wants to know why her friends are brown and she is not. I have explained to her that we are all the way god made us and that every single person is different and special regardless of color. Then i kind of changed the subject because i didnt know what else to say. The next day when i picked her up she was crying because she wants to be brown too. I told her no one gets to choose what color we are its all up to god. Like any 4 yo my answers arent good enough and i was curious how black parents explain race to thier kids?,3.7064444444444464,4.960741755555556,4.534259259259262,86.5991666666667,72.18518518518519,7.177777777777778,26.833333333333336,7.554174236665415,1.331311111111111,527,18,109,6,10,170,90,135,0.054000000000000006,0.794,0.153,0.9221,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,4,0,12,1,1,3,2,22,21,9,0,3,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,7,0,0,6,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,5,9,19,7,13,15,4,12,0,0,7,0,20,3,0,0,8,71,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472889383431176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855451316521008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304755481000209,0.20878117700618307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998054644633892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076529051993512,0.1219159489205986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750784116442754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579196833794256,0.0,0.0,0.19533011578245665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15927538245115774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605277884557422,0.0,0.09876623588002907,0.0,0.0,0.15855880765032146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19685734181500691,0.2077842230362596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923559920166604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788753746721321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104748376231565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836696187818872,0.0,0.12809922415901068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990790502979084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650635030124004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18665540019443086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150333166949061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194417314128453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18063698839076356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273933135133073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300282073865915,0.15005212253524186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058029898307114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217363487291849
parenting,MAMA_OLIF,2019/03/26,"When I was seven my dad shoved me in the dryer and turned it on  My dad is an idiot, here’s the story: I was hanging out with my dad in the garage/workshop when I was 7–8 years old and I was sitting partially in the dryer I think because it was still warm. When I was a child I LOVED crawling into the dryer with the warm clothes, it felt so warm and so amazing, anyway my dad asked if I could fit, I smile giddily and push myself a little farther back and then he said no all the way and shroved my legs in and turned it on. It hurt the back of my neck really bad and it felt like the air was leaving the dryer. My dad was laughing for a moment then realised he fucked up bad when he heart me screaming at the top of my lungs. He stopped the dryer and made sure I was okay, which I was only in there a bit under 30 seconds and then frantically told me not to tell my mother. I told my mother and she straight up didn't believe me. It’s only now that she believes me because I’m fucking 20 and she even said that “your father would never do that” as soon as I reminded her. After I heard that cried, I kicked, I screamed, yes I admit I had a mini temper tantrum, all the anger and frustration of my dad very conviently forgetting and my mom not believing it just emptied out right then and there. I would remind my dad that he did it but he denied every time until I was an adult then he laughed and said it was funny. Please believe your children, I don’t care how much you love your partner if your child says they did something to them TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY. I was denied so much I almost thought it didn’t happen. Don’t let this happen to your kid just because you don’t think your spouse wouldn't do something

TL;DR me and my dad were chillin as he’s working on something in the garage, he sees I’m partway in the dryer and the gears start turning in his head, he shoves me in the dryer and turns it on and laughed until he heard me screaming and he took me out begging me not to tell my mom, I did so anyway but it was no use because she didn’t believe me.",3.1130197132616497,4.0165898240740745,4.157801672640385,90.07381720430106,73.21296296296295,6.5001194743130215,25.50955794504182,6.3737218528115,0.7396425328554361,1612,50,352,10,31,524,189,432,0.108,0.777,0.114,0.5748,0,0,3,0,0,0,28.0,0,8,3,2,23,28,7,1,24,2,33,9,5,3,4,56,66,44,0,6,9,14,5,1,1,3,0,9,0,6,20,27,0,1,6,1,0,3,13,15,0,2,34,15,68,13,37,27,5,57,0,1,1,4,63,28,2,3,25,246,88,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527913952153303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961655936412892,0.0,0.0,0.13097125053199712,0.14221625748648695,0.20765999411271505,0.0,0.0,0.4797516083877322,0.0,0.0,0.09297669866232552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683006377997207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799628130173685,0.0,0.09354832091010336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056249817909750616,0.0,0.07175408683213988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354100693032264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746492900418346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061994996216813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.087402521667037,0.0,0.0,0.10091938962725223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911694978028852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017605723624332,0.0,0.0870856490216483,0.0,0.04160668000696234,0.08535639654550331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15372712103125194,0.0805839481835281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19948538257101675,0.0,0.0,0.12521023101763432,0.0,0.06568349241339701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936497271698668,0.0,0.0,0.12954165663124154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348416386337297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455804430138176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727293309277817,0.24303053112508474,0.06772558915889823,0.0,0.0,0.0678644394100948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668952135687987,0.0,0.0,0.060279302256449285,0.0,0.06801183751475398,0.07120066310691092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026577546592939,0.0,0.06403250052507985,0.0,0.14887364782622975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913891508033298,0.0,0.06761046162628337,0.04965963591734959,0.0,0.0,0.16275512198580655,0.09461999966603553,0.0,0.3705345828475454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355408945119181,0.0,0.07026896813846745,0.0,0.06759897772050442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200018487216692,0.0,0.0,0.12099569212942687,0.0,0.0,0.054842627924753085
parenting,gracielynneauthor,2019/03/26,"TRAIN YOUR CHILD  

“Train your child in the way he should go,  
\[a\]And when he is old he will not depart from it.”

This is one of the few verses that is found in the Bible relating to parenting. On some of the commentary it states that you should train them to follow the Word of God and teach them Godly precepts.

But could it mean more?

When I was a child I wanted to play the flute but my mother insisted I play the saxophone. So I played the saxophone. I didn’t enjoy it at all but I did it throughout high school. I think I would have done better if I had the opportunity to play the flute.

When my youngest son was in elementary school he had a difficulty learning how to read. I tutored him every day and made sure he did his homework before he was allowed to play. Yet he struggled with learning the alphabet because they were teaching phonics and he was more suited for whole word learning.[https://singleparentssurvivalguide.com/phonics-is-it-the-best-way-to-teach-reading/](https://singleparentssurvivalguide.com/phonics-is-it-the-best-way-to-teach-reading/)

I can remember the day when his kindergarten teacher started teaching math. She literally was exploding with joy when she told me that he was a wiz at math!

Considering I am an author and also a very successful blogger I could have shamed him for his difficulty with reading. I could have pushed him into something which he had no desire for. I chose not to be like my mother in that aspect. I chose to encourage and support him in his reading and stand in awe of him for his genius in math.

He has now graduated from engineering school and has a job offer which far surpasses anything I have ever been offered coming right out of college.

I think that the Bible may mean more than just teaching your child the Word of God. I believe it may mean to acknowledge the gifts which your children have been given from God and support them in every way possible.

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It is on sale right now in kindle form! [https://www.amazon.com/Shattered-Vase-Battle-Life-Book-ebook/dp/B07KRNQ6NW](https://www.amazon.com/Shattered-Vase-Battle-Life-Book-ebook/dp/B07KRNQ6NW)",7.56172559449312,10.813540156914897,6.014962453066333,71.63529411764708,66.31382978723404,7.29586983729662,27.01627033792241,8.219915518859313,1.8937427409261576,1873,60,292,27,34,551,180,376,0.05,0.7829999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9932,5,0,1,0,0,0,115.0,0,5,4,3,14,17,0,2,22,0,40,0,0,3,3,51,57,20,0,9,7,4,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,5,17,14,0,0,10,9,2,5,4,2,0,1,21,0,45,15,41,26,8,41,0,0,0,0,45,19,0,4,14,202,62,21,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099278282242822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334399067384393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173874073566784,0.0,0.08618097276214373,0.11410675530191113,0.2125721323361957,0.08957304859273005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724289399826005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24258913038390156,0.0,0.0,0.130633157816555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364358430200653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161265735394908,0.17066385781556107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104720022359013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05755919188816031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700682821651036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005037837574963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14307271125173351,0.04947980550220883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583264230776946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309675785917985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627527762385212,0.0,0.06862927415936704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124583482615462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11117393276085194,0.0,0.11417685943980485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052256457207032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472936824930935,0.17298343189171714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30749927690414103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796952524155909,0.0,0.0,0.07168580023589644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10587880489865126,0.0,0.0,0.2298604268153905,0.09545426258171924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979099245585834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677642843647223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356578500737058,0.05973698054481572,0.3215622365638403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307439096519906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07194569852926695,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fearlessofflying,2019/03/26,is it ok to leave your 4yr old unattended at your apartment complex pool for 1-2mins? Here are some details- my 4yr old knows how to swim and was sitting in the hot tub when his little sis has to use the potty. My husband ran upstairs with my 2yr old (told my son to stay put and not get in the pool).  I went back down to the pool immediately and found my son in the pool. The time between him being left and me arriving was about 1-2mins. ,3.6943840579710137,4.063386336956523,4.6269565217391335,89.1999275362319,71.5,7.872463768115942,26.20289855072464,7.793537801064563,1.131885507246377,341,10,79,4,6,111,63,92,0.013,0.962,0.024,0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,1,6,0,0,2,0,12,13,6,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,5,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,1,11,1,14,6,1,20,0,0,0,0,9,8,0,1,6,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946034231730656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24163775554508826,0.0,0.0,0.11514062659274568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111631785554032,0.0,0.0,0.23335297580205225,0.2394459530281353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208809050660928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6937622786505009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215450252897183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23489814940402803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850665879304482,0.0,0.0,0.21058467849684048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903395001056601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429654818205165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deslumbrados,2019/03/26,"A boy almost ran right into the street near Target My three year old and I were just leaving target and heading towards our car. We saw this mom and her son shouting. The mother yells ""Nathan please stop"" and the boy proceeds to run even faster towards the road. ""Nathan!"" she shouts. All the while my daughters watching saying ""Look mommy the boys running"". I proceed to scold her and tell her that she better not ever do that. That she better not even think about doing that. This boy almost got ran over right in front of us. It was the scariest thing to see. ",2.053608914450038,4.783306280373832,1.9564485981308408,95.69572250179726,84.32710280373831,3.292307692307692,18.51114306254493,3.1291,-0.7325537023723938,440,11,84,0,13,130,74,107,0.044,0.882,0.075,0.5411,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,8,0,4,1,1,0,2,16,11,6,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,4,8,7,0,1,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,6,8,13,2,11,5,1,24,0,0,4,0,19,10,0,2,8,58,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3984678563754201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35193537171871825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26282798454300266,0.1799745298755995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15912986420238032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041946931328768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067438311945064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707983620867692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330244923239192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20877948178988293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21840296811555526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3398287172338809,0.0,0.1582243353141156,0.0,0.0,0.1585487250902197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663429987679198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390349988559722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218298833387526,0.12748823974771248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23932946146014836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812643578359054
parenting,tacolover000,2019/03/26,Having step son for the summer - need help So I’m a stay at home mom for my 3 month old son. We’re having our 3 year old stepson over for the summer. He wears pull ups because at his daycare at his age they can’t be in diapers anymore but he’s not potty trained at all. He still poops and pees in his pull ups because his mom doesn’t work with him. What are some tricks to get him to go potty in the training potty? He’s very delayed in speaking because he’s had a pacifier in for so long - it only recently wasn’t used constantly. I’m not sure if there are non verbal cues. I know he knows what he’s doing when he goes poop in his pull up because he pulls at it afterwards because it’s probably uncomfortable. Any tips would be appreciated!,3.2932167832167814,4.124663333333333,4.766550116550119,86.14814685314686,72.71794871794873,7.724009324009327,27.002331002331005,8.00094639256281,1.489212820512821,584,20,127,8,11,196,96,156,0.071,0.888,0.042,-0.5227,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,1,1,5,2,1,0,5,0,12,4,4,1,2,15,20,6,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,6,5,1,0,0,2,1,11,1,22,15,2,36,0,0,0,0,24,15,0,2,14,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449217939553966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16697022256048338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5131606652627044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819399012494501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796238512502633,0.0,0.09568421010650048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284974216870143,0.0,0.16888117628402138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185055101946186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489953921126137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943679265434789,0.13438523089483476,0.0,0.0,0.12483855794131525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35333595416161595,0.0,0.0,0.1280471628252838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152310185199053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623752086200902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794518763226436,0.13445439959269698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867953348227962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541102396479336,0.0,0.13891658079384228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256980455520007,0.0,0.0,0.11959979124983765,0.0,0.0,0.10841984100354192
parenting,fr33py,2019/03/26,"Toddler - In-laws and Pool Safety Hello /r/parenting,

 I am a fairly new father married for 6 years now. I have a 20 month old healthy boy who is full of energy and curiosity. My in-laws are retired and will often watch our son a couple of days a week while we are working. My in-laws have a good sized pool in the backyard which is accessible from the house and has no safety fencing of any sort. When my in-laws first started watching our son he was just starting to learn to crawl. I expressed my concerns to my wife that I felt that as our son learned to be more mobile the pool is going to be a safety issue. I mentioned the pool would need to have a safety fence added as his mobility increased. She initially didn't think there was any issue with it but after a few more comments I at least had her mentioning it to her parents (supposedly). The in-laws are pretty well off and money isn't really any issue for them and while I feel like as grandparents who have a pool they would want to keep their grandson in as safe an environment as possible. Alternatively, I said if the money was an issue we could also offer to pay for any fencing that was needed. 



Our first child was delivered stillborn at 41 weeks and was very difficult on our family. I expressed that we had already lost one child and I feel like taking smart precautions and reducing risk where possible makes sense so we should have our son cared for in an environment that is safe when dealing with a pool especially. The in-laws agreed to look into putting in a pool fence. 


Fast forward 10 or so months to last week. Our son is growing up quickly and walks/runs very well now. A couple of weeks ago he learned how to use our doggy door after watching the dogs use it. Now he immediately runs to where the door is located and crawls through wanting to play outside. We have to keep the sliding doggy door on to keep him inside. Our 20 month old son is rather large (wearing 3t already) for his age and is already trying and sometimes successfully opening different types of doors. 

His new found love for the doggy door immediately made me more concerned for his well being at the in-laws because they also have a doggy door, along with the 3 other possible doors exiting to the backyard where the pool is located. To this day they have yet to put in that pool fence so the pool is still accessible from the home. After picking up my son from the in-laws last week I decided to breach the subject again with the wife. It started that evening when I started to mention it, and as always I got a similar response as always ""Yea I know you want a pool fence and I've told my mom and they are working on it"" (been working on it for 10 months +). 

The next morning I decided to bring it up again with some more reasoning. I tried to stay as calm and neutral as possible. I explained that I was uncomfortable with the situation and was worried our son could get access to the pool and potentially drown. Drowning is the #1 killer of children under 5 (in our city at least) and those are accidents. I explained that accidents happen and despite how careful her parents are they could potentially make a mistake of forgetting to put the doggy door on or locking a door and as quick as our son is at this age he could be out the door and in the pool in seconds. She immediately took offense to my suggestion that her parents could possible make a mistake or have an accident happen on their watch. I tried to explain that it has nothing at all to do with her parents, and I would feel the same way if it were friends, my parents, or even myself. I would not even trust myself to be 100% vigilant and not make a mistake. Accidents are by definition of the word - an unfortunate incident that happens unexpectedly and unintentionally, typically resulting in damage or injury

I ended up putting my foot down and said our son would not be babysat at the in-laws house until a pool fence is installed. They are more than welcome to watch him over at our home or take him out to the park or what ever. This of course caused more strife and a huge argument has brewed for the last week. She keeps making the point: ""You are being overprotective and by not allowing my parents to watch our son you are insinuating that they are incapable of watching him safely. You are saying they are incompetent."". 

The last week he has been watched at our home as I've been lucky to have my mother available to watch him during the days we work. 



What do other parents think about this or similar situations? How did you deal with it? Am I being over protective? Is it reasonable to enforce our son to not be watched at the in-laws house until its made safe by having a pool fence installed?

Thank you for any advice you may have!

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parenting,whatstaterprecious,2019/03/26,"CODE BROWN Welp, It happened last night. Our toddler pooped in the bath, and I had to catch a floating log with my bare hands and gave him another bath. I realized at that moment how much I love my son lmao!  Never thought I would be catching hot ones in the tub and not even be mad, lmao! Wish me luck y’all! 
P.s. Anyone else had this happen!?! Hehe 💩",0.6670833333333341,2.879497097222224,1.6866666666666674,99.00000000000004,84.97222222222223,4.711111111111111,18.722222222222214,5.985473137389443,-0.3875611111111113,269,7,62,2,8,84,60,72,0.0,0.733,0.267,0.9702,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,3,0,5,3,2,1,1,12,11,4,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,2,2,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,3,10,2,5,4,1,9,0,0,1,1,6,3,0,1,4,35,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28740100872227803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19164593017495124,0.2808314838032591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289620417046567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810299202938221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847432142813072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234150701873972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247371542712694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20148330237673726,0.0,0.21139050468207712,0.0,0.0,0.2572093000625529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18572643559422675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175921084557491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3151831140070324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19470143474268084,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hollapainyobidness,2019/03/26,"How important is preschool? TL; DR: is preschool important long-term in a child’s education? Or is it fine to start their education in Kindergarten?

We have the option to start my 4yo in preschool this August for a monthly fee, or wait to start him in Kindergarten the following year, which is free.

He was just accepted into a Montessori school with a waiting list. I’m so excited for him and us that he got into the school. But it is $700/mo and I am only working part time (self employed) and still have to stay home with my 1yo twins because we can’t afford daycare for them plus preschool for my 4yo. 

My husband thinks we should wait for him for enter Kindergarten for financial reasons, and I see his point. I think we can make it work financially although it will be tough...and I want him to start preschool because I just have this feeling that it will be more beneficial for him (education-wise and socially).

What are your opinions on preschool??",5.186373626373626,6.574429065934068,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,68.78021978021978,8.237362637362638,32.68131868131869,8.617729084823388,2.5234373626373627,758,34,147,12,13,234,107,182,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.119,0.9516,2,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,5,1,2,2,5,4,0,0,7,0,18,1,0,3,0,33,34,12,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,11,14,0,3,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,23,5,23,27,2,20,0,0,1,0,20,8,0,4,9,98,34,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158045567342016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950043431120447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156926356510435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755320046825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566462841313085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815404421120765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412858932301279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462236627409932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19168213845241167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673295328937981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18199344235978435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3582825756710442,0.1410522554186459,0.0,0.18465768188979706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043710481887512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5011479715881773,0.18866670443799236,0.14135861373070646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22683883135023936,0.0,0.0,0.1032146395122071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212918522730942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440375405702007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25772749288462554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398718429141487
parenting,patty1082,2019/03/26,Kids activities (Kidpass) First time user here!  My friend just told me to sign up for Kidpass but I can't tell if it's a good deal or not.  Has anyone used Kidpass or Sawyer or a similar service to book activities for your kids?  Are they worth it?  Are the activities good?  I have a 5 year old and a 20 month old.,0.0957307692307694,2.358362938461539,2.4649038461538453,91.86197115384616,88.84615384615385,5.711538461538463,20.43269230769231,7.1686216300943375,0.5036538461538465,241,8,55,4,8,82,48,65,0.0,0.8,0.2,0.9183,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,1,2,3,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,10,7,6,0,1,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,6,3,5,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,4,6,33,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18750989453690348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764703081820053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281042860623483,0.0,0.0,0.20718658760397488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4498546149041052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21404981688283167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5627961925786406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343913941462251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563714124752001,0.0,0.0,0.2562468274520969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23161178386311346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17269194656840725
parenting,DullSublunary,2019/03/26,"When I became a parent, I knew I would be tasked with teaching my son how to be sincere, respect himself and others, be kind to animals, be strong... But I never imagined, not once, that I would tried with the infinitely difficult task of teaching him to clear his throat. The frog that settles there through the night that he wants to clear in the morning, but can't quite figure out the physics of how, has been a source of intense frustration. And it is hysterical to me! Who knew? Maybe mind is the only one that struggles with this, but wow, it's hilarious to listen to him try to imitate the process of clearing your throat.",7.998749999999998,6.974217375000002,7.451666666666667,77.26000000000002,62.75,10.333333333333334,37.5,9.2995712137729,3.27875,495,21,95,7,6,155,79,120,0.08,0.765,0.156,0.8356,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,1,0,2,4,8,1,1,9,0,11,2,2,2,4,24,15,8,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,3,1,12,5,18,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,4,72,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741540313987805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26448898128413745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26582652488837705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030491945526333,0.0,0.0,0.2470600147707389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28037277095003266,0.1783978103049425,0.20022785081554575,0.0,0.0,0.2923289416376877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28001886619629834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27522580098634997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.357484583737785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528280976245087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37403732549104735,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wrldruler21,2019/03/26,"My kid just got in trouble for buying food for a disadvantaged classmate We choose to send our kid to the public school. A large percent of kids are from the nearby subsidized housing projects. 

My 9yo 4th grader is at lunch. Boy in her class complains that he is still hungry. My daughter asks what he wants to eat, the boy says chips. She goes up and uses her lunch card to buy a bag of chips from the cafeteria, and hands the unopened bag to the boy. Teacher sees this, scolds her, and writes up an incident report as ""the county has a policy against sharing food due to the risk of allergies, and our daughter has been warned more than once about sharing food"" . The boy could have gone up and bought the chips himself, with no questions asked, but my daughter hands him the bag, and it's a policy violation. 

My wife and I are drafting a letter. Are we wrong for thinking our daughter should be allowed to buy cafeteria food for the less fortunate in her class?",7.249945652173912,6.909488451086961,6.5283913043478226,81.02965217391306,63.94565217391305,9.53391304347826,33.61739130434783,8.841846274778883,2.6143604347826086,761,28,147,10,10,233,110,184,0.098,0.865,0.038,-0.8569,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,0,0,3,7,1,1,19,0,12,11,2,2,0,21,21,9,0,3,2,5,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,7,4,10,9,0,3,0,4,2,1,5,0,0,4,4,18,2,28,14,3,11,0,0,1,0,37,7,0,1,2,94,22,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30108192701742986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856905377381825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477350914532876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.778870654899805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879010276211114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580656889356595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714912969354559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803900352005872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280572223618278,0.0,0.16297057912336832,0.12831976385778668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12859846784690615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318128266097612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390778951567894,0.0,0.0,0.09497944592733024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606061787895208,0.0,0.0
parenting,incogneatogang,2019/03/26,"Going on my first vacation and my son isn't coming..I feel SO guilty! I have never been on vacation in my life. Sure, camping trips in the summer at the campground or to someone's cabin at the lake but I've never gotten on a plane and gone somewhere warm to lay on a beach. My Mom, who lives in Florida, invited my boyfriend and I to come down for a week while my son will be with his father because he still has school. I leave next week and the guilt is starting to eat at me. Have any of you ever gone on vacation without your child(ren) and how did you deal with the guilt - if you had any?",2.2805645161290333,3.6728936693548384,3.5201935483870948,91.91029032258066,76.01612903225806,6.572903225806452,23.690322580645162,7.1686216300943375,0.7266670967741935,461,14,103,5,10,150,81,124,0.077,0.89,0.033,-0.6491,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,4,0,1,4,4,0,2,8,0,10,2,0,1,4,18,17,11,0,1,4,4,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,1,1,0,5,4,2,0,1,6,2,15,2,21,9,0,28,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,2,11,71,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916442222753691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071665148919584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184715445015402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22107148925169495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21941897062749574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396734790246348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842400417335804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239699791306613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121867481202085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22705408033521746,0.0,0.0,0.15146069964707462,0.0,0.0,0.1893486804067324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511418854858559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307686190816294,0.0,0.22805242538209186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21701811716759248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18168878115079645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177711198029384,0.0,0.17124684414139754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20210100540395826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34401118640406314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670621059494854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,too-many-commas-,2019/03/26,"Best way to introduce new partner to child, when the child already knows the person and has for a long time? I’ve looked up a few different combinations of words, but I can’t find what I’m looking for. I always find articles and discussions on introducing a BRAND new person to a child as a new partner, advice like “make the meeting short and non confrontational, on neutral ground” etc. 

...but I can’t seem to find anything about telling a child that someone they’ve known for years that they’ve already established a good relationship is now dating their parent. 

Any advice? ",7.867320872274142,7.982815934579445,7.355654205607479,74.08930685358256,62.55140186915888,10.497819314641744,35.59034267912773,10.125756701596842,3.5314062305295937,463,19,82,9,6,145,69,107,0.034,0.866,0.1,0.7691,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,3,4,1,0,10,0,4,0,0,1,0,13,10,7,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,8,3,3,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,13,10,3,15,0,0,2,0,14,5,0,1,10,44,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29364411612529034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316080863237163,0.0,0.12501960796206835,0.0,0.0,0.1021748022433714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364252427369685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576775651117102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15697873311189106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756789270982864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.411975922554609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260221396879021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257318772907862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340430909777187,0.0,0.0,0.132966066369359,0.25234345261784924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029269810975107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4353356673504306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16683427254068134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623841102523705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131171785673235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13678148839421986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730590127305014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132467262132844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761168312275723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192610478523873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675574237716214
parenting,JasmineWindsongScarn,2019/03/26,"Family planning Hello! I(21f) and my partner (33m) currently have a beautiful 1 year old.  I had a very rough pregnancy with HG and although I want more kids, I am not looking forward to being pregnant again and vomiting for 9 months. We do want our kids to be closer in age than 5 years. When would be a good time to start trying again? After potty training? Any advice would be welcome!",1.3483999999999978,4.008823373333335,3.068333333333332,86.4225,88.6,5.666666666666668,23.5,7.1686216300943375,1.3462000000000005,303,12,55,5,10,100,61,75,0.0,0.818,0.182,0.9071,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,0,10,14,5,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,2,8,7,1,15,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,0,13,36,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27634031631913386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923077332135683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2665904031607845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23719186615481186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374734097778609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257212612006096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967418244914673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001610875806972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489783992173984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919966817560526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333323804235669,0.3335951877579745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40177355116306335,0.0,0.0,0.3642165599230248
parenting,DatBassTho5,2019/03/26,"Looking for how to transition a daycare toddler to naps at home! Hi! My wife and I are in the adoption process and our little guy just moved in Friday. He's 21 months old.

We are having the hardest time finding out how to transition him to taking naps at home. The daycare said he did great and would lay down on a cot with all the other children no problems at all. Now that we are home and he's by himself we cant get him to nap at all unless we are holding him. The second we set him in his crib, its  full on melt down. We tried crying it out for 15 minutes to a half hour to see if he settles down and nothing! He just works himself into such a frenzy. 

We are at a total loss and this being our first are definitely behind on the learning curve and trying to catch up! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",2.4007142857142867,3.9930252619047657,3.910238095238096,88.40142857142858,76.14285714285714,5.752380952380952,25.095238095238088,6.18269132825596,0.7212809523809525,636,22,132,4,14,211,103,168,0.079,0.862,0.059,-0.3346,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,9,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,11,0,13,0,0,2,4,34,18,11,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,2,5,18,0,1,2,3,0,2,2,2,0,3,2,3,18,2,32,12,5,29,0,1,2,0,26,20,0,1,6,102,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686438851018135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173608096576303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18957182040459236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773565422158609,0.14679707478646264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016630473968912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3805417126526838,0.0,0.17088204883253447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.519337609501332,0.0,0.16995724837581688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297122298813733,0.0,0.0,0.14492434172024024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13775228655014862,0.18342599633049167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655958582074948,0.0,0.18109443754362706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513644433651822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641637881223992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375244920972106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975922572958118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063320741510502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23434196478666516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564082174101915,0.0,0.0,0.24519278801520195,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,runningSalmon,2019/03/26,"Today I registered my son for kindergarten in one of the best public school districts in the state. I consider this to be the greatest accomplishment of my life. I was raised in domestic violence, poverty, chaos, addiction, homelessness. We moved at least once a year and I went to 10 different schools before I graduated.

I have worked like hell over the last 20 years to overcome the remnants and effects all that shit left within me, to get to this place where I am emotionally and financially able to raise a child in a healthy and loving home, a stable home, and get us into a school district that will truly benefit him and prepare him to do well in his life.

I moved out when I was 17, graduated high school with honors, finished boot camp and earned military awards, earned two bachelors degrees—one in electrical engineering, just received a fellowship at my school to pursue a PhD in electrical engineering. But nothing makes me feel happier than getting to provide the life for my son that I always wanted as a child. I feel like this is my ultimate purpose in life.

Here’s to all of us who are fighting the good fight every day. ",8.496501507970706,8.043196857819908,8.220766910814305,70.28867729426972,61.46445497630332,11.84334338647135,38.613097802671255,11.20814326018867,4.4058492890995264,911,41,159,22,11,292,131,211,0.103,0.715,0.181,0.9468,1,0,0,0,4,0,20.0,3,0,0,8,5,13,4,0,15,0,9,7,1,2,2,20,18,10,0,1,2,2,2,2,0,1,5,0,2,2,7,11,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,4,1,2,3,2,24,9,32,13,5,30,1,0,0,1,16,18,2,0,9,107,31,13,0.1141875416392504,0.0,0.0,0.12448127510096567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501318201709734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716518762516206,0.0,0.119832780138913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364151785768981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930167743366107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844561512123018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620792869935624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154733040090847,0.08157560256283013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789748327685884,0.0,0.0,0.09577509233578477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206454070729392,0.22907882909445815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307808684415292,0.0,0.0,0.1240650980992832,0.0,0.3226161503463986,0.11157253001884213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10305871450870037,0.0,0.0762210707249919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24272657147950485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956602585788908,0.0,0.0,0.12160600516759296,0.07737643341156121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930167743366107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5778194416041098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172118705736251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823643787521584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154463608280993,0.0,0.2747071061016888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735077055601912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266831330614427,0.10585299509561127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312989028043151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706606606013214
parenting,Kasaisu,2019/03/26,"Single dad asking for advice Not really sure if this is the right place to ask this but I figured why not. I'm 28 years old and my son is 1 year 1 month. Unexpectedly and abruptly his mom left to go be with her boyfriend shed been having secretly while I was deployed. Cliche situation I know but more importantly after filing and gaining full custody I am a bit intimidated by the challenges of being a solo parent. Looking for any advice on the matter or experience others may have. I know this is kinda vague but I see other posts like this sometimes get really good insight and I'm hoping to get some of my own. Thank you reddit!
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parenting,taytayboy,2019/03/26,"Stepson's bday at our house My fiancé invited his ex-wife and all his old neighbors from when he and his wife were married over to our house for his son's 10th bday.  He did not ask me.  She still lives in the same building.  I have met some of the neighbors.  I try to avoid his ex.  She seems OK, I just don't really want to go there.  They have a 14 year old son as well and have been divorced about 10 years.  We have lived together about nine months.  I expressed my displeasure at not being asked and he got super upset and said this was about his son.  I said I know that and I want your son to have the BEST bday possible, I am upset because you didn't ask me before doing this and you clearly planned it with your ex.  Survival advice? His sister, her husband and their two kids will be there too.  I really like them.  ",1.5764571005917176,3.5257566863905367,2.5636945266272204,95.49512758875744,79.76923076923076,5.645118343195268,20.029955621301774,6.6274283507984215,0.03903816568047347,636,16,143,6,16,201,106,169,0.06,0.828,0.112,0.9018,0,1,0,0,1,0,17.0,3,4,3,4,10,8,0,3,4,1,16,0,0,0,2,22,28,10,0,2,3,9,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,1,4,10,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,3,1,2,9,2,33,5,16,16,4,12,0,0,0,0,43,4,0,2,8,96,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591790222081378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4474946302994418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972648707710522,0.0,0.13577181974803046,0.0,0.16744592402467173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068029723278337,0.0,0.12761283945243612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36821624234930395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768871912223232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795181486701051,0.0,0.2817846803848448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735740481816396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348578549244638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798772917316951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044334500217658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30355175284551583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525530437645684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127422956261546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083291799456052,0.0,0.15586465270379454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822248797788052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434615016832052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20549980811231824
parenting,Throwaway533460,2019/03/26,"Stepparents (Posting here since stepparents deleted mine on that sub, hopefully you guys can help.)

For the past few days, I've been visiting this sub and others and honestly it just scares me that people get into a relationship with someone with kids , then say they hate the kids, or can't wait for them to leave or wish they didn't exist at all. Like what did you expect with pursuing a relationship with this person. I've been single for about 6yrs now after DH passed and a single parent to my 8yr old and I have been thinking about dating again but this stuff just scares me, like it would kill me if I found out my new partner despised my child. Maybe im just overthinking it but I really would just like an understanding not trying to be rude.",6.082727969348661,6.6526113724137925,5.9926436781609205,80.79394636015327,66.3103448275862,9.478927203065137,27.145593869731805,9.444778638647367,2.10188122605364,599,16,116,11,9,188,96,145,0.142,0.769,0.08900000000000001,-0.8859999999999999,3,1,0,0,1,1,12.0,0,2,3,0,9,11,4,2,6,0,11,0,0,0,1,30,19,10,1,6,10,1,0,3,1,2,0,1,0,6,11,10,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,6,1,15,5,17,10,4,16,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,4,12,82,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10754371476763544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283916007543424,0.0,0.0,0.08712303840634125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511448868146786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463685822706686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177291756169326,0.0,0.0,0.1656261650398516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012491148106727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844906185914808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657034597306176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444054256344373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752864440430254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16105381941075456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498219188241051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516261461983047,0.0,0.15918730822963484,0.11560749577188667,0.14560475839033615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597059892491747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682805450975964,0.0,0.0,0.35806670886385944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261092883765874,0.3339033525665385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794214550518616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129167333111387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089552898247952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685040234334936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321626220165586,0.0,0.0,0.1735986996403296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917609744623608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369171138695151,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DizRN,2019/03/26,"I need help with kid room arrangements! I have a bit of a math problem...we have a 3 bedroom house and 4 kids: 1 boy and 3 girls. They range from the boy as the oldest at 7yr and then my girls are 5, 3 and the youngest turns 2 on Sunday. My middle two will be 6 and 4 at the end of July. 

Right now we have the older three in their own room with a triple bunkbed. The baby is in her own room still because of the giant crib. Well she is getting to the point of not wanting to be in the crib and would rather sleep with her siblings in the room. 

The original plan was to put the three girls in the room with the giant bunk bed (seriously I put it together by myself and I refuse to ever tear it down again until the kids are in college...even then....) so the three girls would be in one room and the boy would have his room. I am ruminating on possibly putting them all into one room and then having the other room as a play room and do the switch in a few more years when a play room isn't as big of a want for them anymore. Would it be weird or wrong to have the 4 of them in one room and the boy as an 8 or 9yr old (I figured around 10-11 is when we would definitely switch) rooming with his three sisters?

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Any advice, ideas or help would be much appreciated!! Moving house isn't really an option as any homes with more sq ft and 4+ beds or  even just family rooms (dens/rec room) run well over half a million dollars around here and that's waaaaaay out of our price range. We did look into building on to the house by doing a home refinance but unfortunately even the smallest add on was out of our price range. We are kind of stuck with what we have. The rest of the house is very very open concept, essentially my living room, kitchen and dining room (well...I kind of turned that into a craft nook) are one giant open room. ",4.761803940185138,4.330339503916452,5.27944101590316,88.21908082126755,69.10443864229765,8.321338713505815,26.025278898647045,7.520522993642371,0.9926146214099224,1422,33,330,13,22,457,186,383,0.031,0.92,0.049,0.4285,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,7,0,5,1,16,9,0,0,38,0,35,3,1,1,2,60,43,31,0,10,8,1,0,0,0,7,0,3,24,11,7,36,2,1,2,2,3,5,3,3,2,11,4,4,27,6,58,27,10,73,0,0,1,0,32,51,0,5,17,222,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071548028786268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058467981447902,0.11280243898919334,0.12625945149018486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920655403145466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528237148592614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565902269172208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134975680407947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222261703109635,0.0,0.0,0.18394626118523416,0.0839728994529758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751483238130392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04850148960517946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12444820792348465,0.0,0.18623843826898487,0.0,0.0,0.4284679667791237,0.0,0.10479732725897696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933428814547834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197337270056189,0.0,0.07795646581918404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866694748140237,0.0682430471590937,0.06883460483376114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741277526494682,0.0,0.2516245813610521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775733357730231,0.10465542878592188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882878766682338,0.0,0.2799688709140347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947129335849161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07927900332130082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290019352154807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413667393109911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20195162013381215,0.09068449888391424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319414292331807,0.10951079481372446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25040445342021844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39567603974180415,0.10149847691294817,0.11280243898919334,0.0597815052872229
parenting,kryptokaren,2019/03/26,"Should family ask permission before grabbing baby out of your arms? Not sure if I’m overreacting and wanted to get others input. I’m 32 F and stay home with my 10 month old who is exclusively breast fed and is cared for by me the majority of the time. He has developed some attachment anxiety. This is the first grandchild for my mother in law and I know she’s excited etc. she comes over to see him every 1-2 weeks- we also go to events on my husbands side like holidays, birthdays, and game nights.  Anyhow, mother in law will come up to me while I’m holding my son or he’s in his sling and put her arms out and just snatch him from me and walks to another room to play with him. This enrages me as I think she should ask if she can take him or pick him up. I think that is very disrespectful.  I don’t care if she wants to hold him and spend time with him as I almost always say yes when she wants to come over or family events.   I think she has crossed a boundary.  I always had the feeling she has never liked me and only tolerates me.  She has never tried to cultivate any relationship with me and I’ve reached out multiple times to try and bond with her but the wall is up. She is only nice to me because I’m with her son.   This is not the first time she has been disrespectful. When I gave birth she announced his birth with pictures on Facebook before I even had a chance to. I think it should be the parents pride and joy to do so. ",2.8991480017566964,4.2196829932659945,4.1861542965890814,88.04947299077735,74.2861952861953,7.589459815546772,23.350753915971307,8.18289091462,1.091064236568584,1127,31,247,18,23,371,157,297,0.022,0.872,0.106,0.9681,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,0,3,6,11,1,0,9,1,23,4,3,1,3,60,49,27,0,9,10,6,2,2,0,4,0,1,2,0,7,27,1,2,6,3,1,7,5,1,0,2,5,4,48,10,41,39,3,43,0,0,1,1,41,16,0,9,21,163,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056119101493312,0.0,0.0,0.09628222549749506,0.20036153761786088,0.0,0.0,0.08187475875581869,0.12624778547965912,0.09210412935581963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251117277989617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733934944608036,0.0,0.2048996358421317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455075406236429,0.0,0.0,0.31113661119945313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427557959113334,0.07952173391548245,0.0,0.1014404954975817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22700101114670795,0.0,0.060876839018273225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20482092990434786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290297817475657,0.0,0.06842494972644389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076899609784013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661675841457852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764074834620032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610052335407138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571669742000496,0.0,0.0,0.11298535339884272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263374326502965,0.0,0.0,0.18313618661180928,0.0,0.0,0.13368771474531485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103322956384766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292623787276621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09574531048267823,0.0,0.0,0.09594160645553752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832823307028293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347367647238298,0.0,0.09052430137406224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085846705767994,0.0,0.0,0.2808201342159129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348465803231044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934094712605436,0.21304155373814526,0.0,0.09657600166528106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubble_Guppie97,2019/03/26,"My Husband and I Dont Know What To Do About His Brother ​

Backstory: My Husbands Brother is 14 almost 15 has been having a really hard time. His mother isnt really in the picture and his grandmother is out in Arizona because she was helping her mother. He has had it rough. His mother would give him absolutely nothing not matter how good he was or how much he did for her. She even kicked him out because he forgot leftovers from his sisters house. There is a lot that goes on because of his mother and we are just getting him away from her. We are also considering taking custody over him. She didnt even call the school to ensure he stayed in the program he is in to get help with classes. 

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His grandmother absolutely loves him but gives him whatever he wants and whenever he wants. There is no discipline, no chores, nothing. He gets games, he gets whatever food he wants and turns down food that was actually cooked. He missed a lot of classes when he was in middle school. Got into fights and had to transfer to a lot of different middle schools. He was missing class for any reason and his grandmother just let him. He is now a freshman in high school and have been living with us for the past 3 months because of the fact that she had to go help her mother with her illness. 

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I do want to point out that his brother has been having a real hard time since his grandfathers death. He has only been dead for less than 2 years and it has only gotten worse. We havent been able to say anything and he was seeing a councilor when he was living with his mother but that fell short quickly when she kicked him out. Now there is more to this than I am saying surrounding his mother but I really need advice about my new little brother.

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Problem: Because we have been taking care of his brother we are having trouble finding a way to get through to him that he cannot just get away with anything. Him and My husband fight often especially when getting up for school or going to  bed. We have been giving him chores and that is even an issue in itself because no matter how many times we show him he doesnt want to do it on his own. We know he can do it because he has really good days. However during the bad days we dont have a way to discipline him because he will call his grandmother and she would just yell at my husband. We cant take his phone away because his grandmother pays for it and he is so attached to that thing.  And we reward him after behaving so long. Trying to do positive reinforcement but he doesnt seem to respond that way. However today we got a call from the school saying that my husbands little brother wasnt in any classes and was threatening another student. My husbands little brother isnt answering his phone and we have no idea where he is besides on school campus. 

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My main question is how do we establish disciplinary actions  and boundaries so that he learns that his actions has consequences and that we are not just sheltering him from the world? How do we go from here? Me and My husband were even thinking about fighting for full custody of him in hopes to get him on track before its to late.

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TL;RD; My Husbands Brother his constantly acting out and we do not know how to get through to him that what he is doing is not okay. ",5.262079333709772,6.3636136692546605,5.472840203274988,81.8939977413891,68.36335403726707,8.090570299265952,30.474872953133826,8.296473431620573,2.2099329192546597,2649,102,492,36,44,838,240,644,0.105,0.84,0.055,-0.9897,3,0,0,0,4,0,64.0,18,0,0,1,35,15,3,0,19,1,78,5,0,7,1,103,118,41,2,10,15,24,3,0,0,3,1,4,3,0,25,49,3,3,11,3,1,7,19,8,0,0,26,8,82,7,78,88,9,70,0,2,1,1,140,38,0,10,21,358,107,17,0.048717235482310536,0.0,0.04754099428503035,0.0,0.0,0.0476059186812189,0.0,0.0,0.04878327414544862,0.0,0.0,0.03895915561415135,0.0,0.3167106257474249,0.3551806408689336,0.066258781426319,0.051084269137214734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08018026764892225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731433922687108,0.0,0.04067685670744376,0.2672781711568636,0.0,0.041454779201506066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923723302270694,0.0,0.04967046840775887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264602444139959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062837173219511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050899142144001715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141924743164612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287090982915022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04452667064369558,0.0,0.11781814904572464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290747032878772,0.14020203431168746,0.08306138284118801,0.08172341149796017,0.07792724723872199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728214790381106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796240808562692,0.05147243404889346,0.0,0.04838720721512836,0.0,0.05621314884534453,0.0,0.05499582897724506,0.0,0.050848136708392465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08032115566590739,0.0,0.054955163597462206,0.0,0.0,0.04981667397435085,0.0,0.0,0.14648240529076315,0.08603642294401928,0.04311322035984829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425295438669973,0.04396920707064912,0.0,0.0,0.04939163030659752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03888563257244256,0.0,0.035812773556456304,0.0361232128162839,0.0,0.0470514096051247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349100271276756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07410330573400968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04650611373796227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04605353433288962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04661581495020586,0.0,0.0,0.05457445320329943,0.0,0.0,0.055450879539049536,0.12483803410430999,0.05008943191992707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622570306656273,0.0,0.3451311023801909,0.03882132923766078,0.04435034149169181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04029940062098784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05192609098970513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988789444380408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0323655665273072,0.031216037381312758,0.0,0.0,0.08522223535009525,0.0,0.046178242880402384,0.0,0.0,0.033075805009164475,0.05299036269842136,0.0,0.0,0.05860083589022565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14367343853757172,0.116008421775601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04964702498634002,0.06921465264172526,0.0,0.3551806408689336,0.031372302393301306
parenting,Responsible_Parent,2019/03/26,What are the qualities of a good tutor? How do I choose a tutor for my child who needs homework help in high school?,2.428750000000001,4.028024375000005,3.3483333333333327,92.43000000000002,76.08333333333334,6.466666666666668,20.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.29348333333333354,91,2,20,1,2,29,22,24,0.0,0.7609999999999999,0.239,0.7149,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,13,4,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278490360356013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419103624360062,0.5389503665244031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782338866835413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5162500710021835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ooo_a_sparkly,2019/03/26,"Toddler runs from me in public. Help! My daughter will be three next month. I am somewhat of a helicopter parent when it comes to keeping her next to me while we're out in public. I am either always holding her hand or she has on her backpack leash. The reason why I'm so strict about that is because she will dart away from me the moment I let go, even into the street. 



I have tried yelling, I have tried crying, I have tried explaining in great detail what would happen to her if she got hit by a car. I don't want to spank her. Before we go outside, each time I tell her to stay right by me and don't run into the street, but if she gets the opportunity she always does anyway. She thinks it's a game and laughs when I catch her. I have so far been successful at getting her before she goes too far, but one of these days I'm going to have my hands full and not be able to get her in time. 



What would you do to get through to her how important it is that she doesn't run away from me?",3.2727142857142866,3.70216646190476,4.195238095238096,91.70142857142858,72.47619047619048,6.9523809523809526,22.619047619047624,6.5431188927421005,0.2946190476190478,767,16,179,5,14,248,117,210,0.015,0.875,0.109,0.9658,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,1,1,0,2,9,4,0,0,8,0,22,2,2,2,0,26,39,14,0,5,7,2,2,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,8,9,0,2,3,1,0,9,4,0,0,2,2,3,37,4,29,29,4,37,0,0,0,0,28,17,0,4,10,128,45,1,0.14748840675900715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24544433894683906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771404263430992,0.0,0.0,0.08990756382239204,0.0,0.251003542234929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704820290685348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620090893027285,0.09511782094809748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12906809866164115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741470166803164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082264206883242,0.0,0.251463181298434,0.0,0.11795995220754715,0.16260648913162098,0.0,0.0,0.13042351100904667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885837012837784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13109447261035104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508168885563667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177238391535615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313711187615396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999419614498716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16376842162970273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164264630771745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595429350922874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15720301764815212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891136832204614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450461573032327,0.0,0.0,0.1720033521030513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004048403882394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08699248359931606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308534674582947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095430650249616,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YiirTheGreat,2019/03/26,"Pls I need help to put my autistic brother down My autistic brother, Bryson has autisim and he eats too much. We are too poor to feed him or afford any handlers. Me and my mother thought we should pit him down so he can be put out of his misery. Can you help me pay for lethal injections?",3.906864406779661,4.61643930508475,3.9625000000000017,92.92476694915257,71.20338983050847,6.5779661016949165,28.309322033898304,5.985473137389443,0.9066237288135592,225,8,50,1,4,69,44,59,0.123,0.777,0.1,-0.3612,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,9,8,4,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,12,0,7,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,0,32,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22580965947079265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397764759560003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44514065475941067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24409957525345544,0.24621552674061006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6676165589439462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26361559804711937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nealj85,2019/03/26,"My 3 y/o b/g twins won't let me get them out of bed, dress them, and scream at me while going to daycare For the past couple of months my twins have seemingly turned on me, which is odd because I did have major anger and patience issues while they were two.       

For two days in a row I've had to get them ready and go in the morning due to my wife needing to go in early. Yesterday they screamed at me for 20 minutes when I was in the room, and if I'd walk out they'd scream louder. They wanted mommy to get them out. They wouldn't even let me grab them, instead would throw themselves against the wall/bed.        

Today I had mommy help me get them up and even with her there, they yelled me out of the room. They won't let me strap them into their car seats, and my daughter screamed at me the entire drive over.       

In the pockets where they calmed down, I let them know the way they were treating me was making me sad and made me feel like I didn't want to give them kisses. I hypothesize that telling them how they're making me feel might help, but I really am crushed and don't want to do anything with or for them.      

Anyone gone through a similar rut that could offer some advice?",7.315996289424858,4.854230432653062,6.871057513914657,85.47063079777368,65.08163265306123,9.725417439703156,31.252319109461965,6.980632752743323,1.6056938775510208,916,22,210,5,11,286,133,245,0.08199999999999999,0.871,0.047,-0.7552,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,21,0,7,10,1,0,10,0,25,1,0,4,0,36,46,15,0,8,3,2,3,1,0,5,0,5,3,0,3,15,0,0,4,0,0,8,5,6,0,2,10,8,46,4,35,25,2,39,0,1,0,1,29,20,0,6,11,141,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324047732691948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474170337025026,0.0,0.11150136845176717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259688578454688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818224481707417,0.14992335078897226,0.0,0.08738347986433033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789871874029396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702133564445368,0.0967981137725194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2831635224336109,0.12997976637613853,0.2310158876705392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181639745516193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142224745453325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446486136789099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5542138965339627,0.0,0.06619632656916917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820925268003114,0.1808887864534836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437394640440419,0.0,0.0,0.1081513288013634,0.0,0.0,0.10046830174042724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293459220131706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868019778781946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335014368571508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842916338673865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12843402559861994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473803500257804,0.26471910804316623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397565208026657,0.107550133877053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625221657101593,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,icannevertell,2019/03/26,"An unexpected lullaby In an effort to soothe my sleepy, cranky, teething 5 month old, I often sing to her. While holding her, gently rocking and scraping the back of my sleep-deprived brain for something to sing, this came out:

*Pizza in the morning*

*Pizza in the evening*

*Pizza at suppertime*

*When pizza's on a bagel*

*You can eat pizza anytime*


And now it's stuck in my head, and become my go-to lullaby. My wife heard me singing it and has joined in. This kid has no hope.",-0.03444444444444628,1.9297843478260928,1.4098550724637704,94.05809178743964,107.69565217391305,3.7835748792270527,20.328502415458935,5.82211442006289,0.2354473429951693,368,14,72,4,18,117,64,92,0.045,0.8640000000000001,0.091,0.6369,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,6,0,3,10,3,0,0,9,7,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,6,6,1,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,10,1,13,4,0,15,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,2,6,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263179799542997,0.0,0.0,0.3250591582097125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32856436221912483,0.0,0.3366297219539475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011682494739719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19439907781932408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727184471092785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.302062659801254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29233142289816016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23492763799443064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088448804119566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945378476321332,0.0,0.0,0.2265859872343612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ninja_genius,2019/03/26,"Tick prevention for the upcoming season Spring has sprung and a poster on another sub has reminded me that the ticks are on their way to wreak havoc anyway they can. We live next to some woods that have a large range of wildlife from deer to mice and everything in between. With two cats (90% indoor) and a dog (stays inside when we aren’t home) and an outside-loving 2 year old, checking for ticks when we come inside can be extremely time consuming and tedious. I still have the two ticks we found attached to him last season in the freezer in the event any mysterious illnesses arise and they need to be tested. We spend a considerable amount of time outside and live in the southern US where summers can be brutally hot and shorts are a must. 

The animals get treated and all that. But how in the world do I treat my yard  that my kid loves to play in without exposing him to huge amounts of pesticides? I hate treating our yard with anything because it’s not exactly nature-friendly and not every insect needs to die because of ticks. Are there any effective child-friendly pesticides to put on his skin/clothes that have worked in your experience?

I would love to hear your tips, tricks, and solutions. Also, if there is another sub more appropriate for this please let me know! 
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parenting,InRealLifeYOLO,2019/03/26,"Fiver Birthday Party [What is a fiver party](https://www.mother.ly/child/what-is-a-fiver-party?utm_source=rebeccaeaines&utm_medium=partnership&utm_campaign=fbpost)

I have never heard about this. I cannot decide if it’s tacky asking for money or fantastic because it’s only $5 and will not go to waste. 

What’s your thoughts? Have you heard of them in your area? ",4.684588744588744,8.059094111111115,4.811890331890336,70.76467532467534,92.015873015873,5.465512265512266,18.425685425685426,6.980632752743323,0.8776793650793655,311,8,46,5,11,97,47,63,0.0,0.813,0.187,0.847,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,1,7,10,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,3,2,6,0,5,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,1,27,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7629152352281003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32912922656632243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21461293290287087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20008420708685834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27153091302682403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26775802418290745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794968674930774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pretty99,2019/03/26,"Need to bring stroller, how to get her to sit? She's 3 now, and makes a giant scene when we try and put her in the cart for shopping. We haven't used the stroller in months because of the snow, but we have to go out tomorrow where walking is the only option. Was hoping to bring he stroller so everything can move quicker and smoother. But I'm afraid she's going to pull a fit about sitting in the stroller, she did before at least, and with the cart incidents I dont know how to convince her. 

I'm also afraid of having to walk with her. We have never walked long distance before, not terribly long but 20 to 30 minutes, and she is a nightmare at hand holding. Add in all the bags we need to bring and the stroller just seems like something to want to try. However, if she refuses to sit in it, then we will have to drag the stroller along for the trip too for no reason. So I'm torn. 

Any ideas how to get her to sit in the stroller? Or convince her it's not the end of the world?",3.4218188153310085,4.063119868292688,3.9353484320557515,92.92859756097559,72.26829268292683,7.027874564459928,27.32578397212544,6.868970318607317,0.9771881533101046,763,26,176,6,14,240,110,205,0.038,0.8440000000000001,0.118,0.9539,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,6,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,16,0,12,1,1,6,2,43,30,19,0,5,8,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,17,0,2,4,1,1,12,6,3,0,0,2,1,18,4,35,27,2,38,0,0,0,0,19,13,0,5,10,112,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15204054681448506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12928952386816805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158966462687007,0.0,0.3235597485886641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228216444052929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839171850784676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708694530189317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986618640882668,0.0,0.216101501983517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883410915460536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21462466982161732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448611488711763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288403759781637,0.0,0.0,0.3365040897377011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690795481236036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517536185356594,0.20206966703617787,0.0,0.2819462045675785,0.14663385730034065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14459639777802746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911251875465763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19547714776360214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17307998763085752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463652542792952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25816080459895746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420442123510934,0.0,0.0,0.11213891992071373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FYIMOM,2019/03/26,"Siblings ""Sleeping"" in the Same Room? I thought it was impossible for siblings to sleep in the same room--luckily not. The cot option Iwill have to try. [https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/parenting/siblings-sharing-a-room.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/parenting/siblings-sharing-a-room.html) ",25.559482758620693,34.253371758620695,11.24439655172414,27.35900862068968,38.31034482758621,7.037931034482759,31.38793103448276,8.07648339933343,2.988924137931035,267,7,22,3,4,59,22,29,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,2,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,15,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8865161064445783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35164342917439023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007259412369018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alaskan_Lost,2019/03/26,"How to punish a 2yo I have a 5yo and a 2yo. As the 2yo gets older he's starting to listen less and get slightly more, um, mouthy? Like saying ""NO"" over and over and crying the moment you say ""stop"" or ""no"" when he's doing something. Things were different when our 5yo was an only child. He acted completely different so we are not used to this. I don't know how to punish a 2yo at all as he seems to just not fully understand at all that he did something he's not supposed to. Any suggestions?

A couple things to know: First, I don't spank. I will give a swat on the butt but I don't believe in spanking or smacking in the face. Right or wrong in what people believe that's the choice my wife and I have made. Second. I have way more parenting questions after this one is answered so I'm sorry if I show up a few times. 

Also, I get grief sometimes when I ask people for advice. Mostly I hear ""we're not going to tell you how to parent"" and the such. I'm not asking people to tell me how to parent. I'm asking for advice. I take that advice and read it and then decide how I'll proceed in whatever the matter is. Also I am a firm believer in it takes more than just the parents to raise a child. I'm sorry if this post is too long and if it is, kindly say that in the comments and explain why so I can learn how to post here. But please, that doesn't mean everyone tell me to shut up lol. Thank you",1.4088111888111925,2.9903401077441067,3.3269528619528614,91.55572843822846,78.89898989898991,5.781351981351983,19.840585340585342,6.490185161304077,0.0816387982387985,1080,25,239,9,26,364,151,297,0.067,0.872,0.061,-0.1933,6,0,2,0,0,0,35.0,2,3,0,1,19,7,2,0,19,1,19,2,2,8,2,49,45,35,1,3,15,5,0,1,0,1,0,5,0,2,14,11,0,1,10,2,0,2,11,4,1,3,4,5,22,3,33,40,8,33,0,1,0,1,34,15,1,9,14,163,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717277487539574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14824884442453246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303260186587231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25995883461486524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132907777405725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718404592352267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025600854855168,0.10181597345323386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368333030060314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856958103721034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884234607006388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528061296493186,0.08891700913014028,0.05267804973523356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446873674584577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652271355928783,0.10188036096268753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04528381253509548,0.0,0.0,0.08202802392675727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770582998379338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096694083593642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06280936543523223,0.07049517160938132,0.0,0.0,0.4116865625476237,0.0,0.0,0.1927794089405633,0.0,0.0,0.10174614630825476,0.0,0.0,0.17754342545673618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038343810966872,0.0,0.09271541181790907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791570340864849,0.0,0.2211332086184652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438179385988122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427150866359626,0.09167310497071414,0.2075184681705168,0.06560669158583744,0.0,0.0,0.07749326502302778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13938318315452722,0.0,0.2430462977982393,0.08533680114316704,0.0,0.0,0.12315867120784718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05404847594343142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649390086708493,0.0,0.0800546834628489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357326838255722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363860441168215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134232344172096,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wandererinwaiting,2019/03/26,"The Boy Who Doesn’t Sleep My two year old thinks sleep is over-rated. Naps are short and they are a fight to get. At night, he wakes up every few hours and I feel like I haven’t really slept in a hundred years. Anyone else? What do you do when you don’t have any big dogs to call in? ",0.11809523809523625,1.7275108888888902,1.4288095238095233,103.52035714285715,82.96825396825399,4.834920634920637,12.087301587301589,5.46131890053228,-1.6168603174603176,218,1,58,1,6,69,50,63,0.051,0.907,0.043,-0.1179,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,2,1,0,1,2,1,0,3,0,9,4,4,0,0,4,13,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,1,6,1,6,12,1,12,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,7,31,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937132778727307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17415058616223936,0.2551943966276896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543210904098551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20806011239251826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098462538993836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12593369693787634,0.17793060134252114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012509712555606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452768084035788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167956310386295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23372868044409695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26134963989368937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595560855440148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4984855848090676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595894637878135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24329828467354056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32077671202004066
parenting,Fire-Kissed,2019/03/26,"My 6 year old stayed up all night. My 6 year old daughter with ADHD started kindergarten this year. She’s had many doctor’s visits to talk about and adjust her medication— it’s a moving target. It’ll work for a few weeks and then we’re back at square one. Last night she stayed up until 3am reading books and playing on her iPad. I fully expected a rough morning, but I underestimated the power that sleep deprivation would have over my ADHD child. She refused her meds this morning, wouldn’t use the restroom, wouldn’t sit still for me to dress her, hit me and kicked me, and wouldn’t sit up at the table to eat. I caved. I took her to work with me today. I couldn’t imagine sending her to school like this, just to disrupt the other kids’ learning and be completely unproductive herself. I am having a hard time walking the line between punishing her or just letting natural consequences take over. She feels awful today, just miserable. I don’t know what the right call is. 

I wanted to take all toys and books out of the room this afternoon as punishment, but we have a small apartment and nowhere to put it all. I will do no screens for the rest of the week through the weekend, but is that enough? This isn’t the first time she’s stayed up late because she couldn’t sleep but it doesn’t happen much. It’s not entirely her fault, but she has to be responsible for her actions regardless. I’m not sure what the right call is with this one. ",3.9699043062200943,5.537824894736843,4.408939393939394,86.52613636363638,71.98245614035088,7.287081339712919,26.638755980861244,7.84624498591911,1.4338421052631585,1145,39,231,15,22,361,154,285,0.118,0.833,0.049,-0.9659,1,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,1,0,0,4,6,8,2,1,17,1,24,4,2,1,4,44,35,17,0,9,11,1,3,1,0,6,1,0,1,2,16,13,1,1,5,6,0,7,11,5,0,3,2,5,34,3,33,21,7,50,0,2,2,0,27,15,0,1,24,156,50,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27519751303709905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880383184164112,0.0,0.06979408308993301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23382102167076346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004409849218245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718879458355905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715527970626433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183022359054824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05789127758405028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738798448911516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124609073190224,0.0,0.10256355225399368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292255055654017,0.09332736096411116,0.12915348507386998,0.0,0.0,0.11707720689732032,0.0,0.05593566722198762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607828582411553,0.0,0.0,0.12717630047721445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168831096613755,0.084165785563984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21488850479181645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402830206285579,0.0,0.1551673132948568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509743939680545,0.0,0.0,0.1145243329010077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955533895698217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587338207533325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22915207020457065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0810389819814062,0.3661040298254882,0.0914345367076771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790862681246637,0.0,0.1721694997131837,0.09202541729634373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335239855029582,0.0,0.2170526157024127,0.0,0.1272063239118884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888549313883492,0.0,0.0,0.06753114388155783,0.0,0.18367931747192984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670504390789712,0.0,0.0,0.08133279042107128,0.0,0.0,0.22118988955607186
parenting,Knottygirl420,2019/03/26,"Dealing with her father abandoning us. Opinions wanted 
4 years ago i met my ex. We hit it off right away and i moved in to help him take care of his 2 kids, whose mom had left them for drugs. I soon became pregnant as well. I was not ready for this but he told me if i didn't keep the baby he would leave. (I do not regret this.best decision i ever made hands down!) But the point is he absolutely INSISTED i have this baby because if not i was a murderer of his child and we would all go to hell. at this point i start to question his apparently ""christian"" standpoint, but all is well otherwise
We have our baby and things are OK, 

fast forward to last year. Baby is now 2. I am feeling absolutely defeated by him at this point because i am working outside the home and coming home and taking care of everything, he is rude, doesnt think about anyone but himself, plays games all day and basically tells me to go fuck myself if i mention that anything is wrong with our relationship. We have obviously drifted. He has become so disrespectful to me and the children. My breaking point happened last march when he said, which i have recorded, that he would be happy if child services took all the kids. And he admitted that he had come close to driving us all off a cliff once or twice. I left a few weeks later with no plan on going back.

Since then he has seen her maybe a handful of times. He was paying child support (just a random number we agreed on) up until January but has since stopped. He never called or tried to visit. The last time he saw her was around christmas when he took her for 2 nights, and his father let me know later on that on this trip his son left our daughter at home and went to the bar with out telling his parents (thankfully they were home in the same house as him and heard her when she woke up crying). His father also told me how he had been bringing young girls home from the bar on multiple occasions when our daughter was there with him and left her in the room while he took the girls to another room. Also many of these girla were underage (my ex is 34) After that, his father kicked im out.

 He has since left the province, and i believe he is in ontario but really have no idea. The last time i spoke to him, was a couple months ago, i asked him if he ever planned on helping support his daughter again and he told me to fuck off and ill see him in court. After a year of dealing with his horrible attitude and realizing he simply doesnt care anymore, i told him if he doesnt want to be her father emotionally or in any way then i do not want his money. I believe i will only hurt myself and our daughter more by trying to fight him for something that he doesnt want. He doesnt want our child so why should i force him to? I understand he should be financially responsible but at this point i would rather him just disappear. To me he is no father to her. 

Any opinions on how i have been dealing with this? He is such a tyrant, the emotional grief he has been giving us is not even worth it anymore. I am sick of the name calling and belittling. I just want him to go away (which he has, havent heard from him in 2 months now). So do i continue allowing him to just disappear from our lives and focus on our new happy family? Or do i stress myself out by trying to take him to court? Has anyone been through something similar and have a story to share?

I am 100% positive there is no way he would ever try to take her. He has 2 kids of his own that are his full responsibility and he hardly wants them either (they are still with his mother) while he has been partying the past year. 
Sorry its so long.

TLDR; father abandoned our 2yo daughter. Do i try to fight him for child support or just let him disappear?",4.289928746034221,5.0778850636604815,5.090205960368233,84.90080485775215,70.3793103448276,8.088791803193427,26.98590523742653,8.251243910053105,1.5861812867321996,2934,92,610,41,51,953,306,754,0.123,0.778,0.098,-0.9605,2,0,3,0,2,2,73.0,17,0,4,4,35,29,7,1,25,1,75,9,2,4,10,118,131,58,2,22,30,18,4,0,0,8,3,4,7,11,22,41,2,4,9,4,3,20,17,15,2,1,34,11,108,14,89,83,11,119,2,6,3,2,156,47,3,15,51,417,130,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946222025498505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536321682440161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258964723764469,0.05596524711500911,0.0,0.0,0.1058614624932949,0.0746379554373188,0.0,0.0439206488465792,0.04751243926359608,0.0498956612462141,0.0,0.1002895941295772,0.04103981132649807,0.0,0.0650702115451319,0.05894523504306065,0.0,0.12026404519673654,0.056010672775695734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089976590437507,0.0,0.16324908346785294,0.0,0.0,0.09195058889493386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059055157217674514,0.058626689818822374,0.03442055633401107,0.1650727173048125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061894632494965435,0.0,0.0,0.12007274319578246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03525173509131396,0.14483422215613484,0.0,0.0,0.04796735631488912,0.0,0.05031441793578758,0.0,0.02698651169439498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09868319880313446,0.0,0.05119933284618182,0.12133026193602416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04719672678809613,0.11363107751146685,0.04781087268807592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154831900426137,0.0,0.26768258487734714,0.0,0.0,0.061584178835802424,0.057135882468311576,0.06025054700771065,0.05765097175775336,0.0,0.0,0.04743952957063945,0.0,0.0,0.02933188240611685,0.1740213740771826,0.0,0.0565132937207282,0.28994443776019097,0.10915307261942744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712849720938583,0.047232583965951334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05050192337574621,0.0,0.05411088075072765,0.053619397049265514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06250869889272924,0.08520212084446982,0.056726041711396065,0.0,0.0,0.041163814577042886,0.0515470576389632,0.0,0.05008605259346638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05683949045583244,0.0,0.04059184840545847,0.0,0.0,0.05926334441064601,0.0,0.05094966007466475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25226918902732204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05978890980088671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03419150134669311,0.0,0.0,0.057301606841516216,0.0,0.04557943834321709,0.05076904080571686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04253061305982448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13244973173340216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08217682189637991,0.0,0.05974563937503481,0.03777701108371489,0.0,0.04262298738442663,0.04462142292083097,0.06113750196129196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816979066203736,0.0,0.0,0.1605165548707138,0.0,0.09329904682834707,0.049137812084554366,0.0,0.0,0.035458017885166414,0.034198654018206084,0.0,0.0,0.09336501317559208,0.0,0.0,0.2039971206379173,0.17789493121127614,0.18118058965408868,0.0,0.0,0.05556218541819681,0.19260001075478164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22036152182247606,0.08472849668136538,0.042811838465458205,0.0,0.0959757637994698,0.049476424261831284,0.04815997285509562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038855487429893615,0.0,0.0,0.18956986194071607,0.05835395724685121,0.0,0.1374793990918691
parenting,millandted,2019/03/26,"Toddler night waking We have a 9 week old and a 2.5 year old. The 2.5 year old had been sleeping around 11-12 hours straight through until baby arrived; now she wakes up more than the newborn (6+ times a night). Most of the time she has kicked off the blankets and is crying for help to get them back on, but other times it’s for milk or non-existent “boo-boos”. The increased milk has caused her to pee through her night diaper a few times. 
I started this post wanting to ask for help on how to keep blankets on a kicking toddler, but after writing it out this sounds more like big-sister anxiety. She’s great with the baby otherwise, but the lack of sleep is getting to us all. 

Any advice on getting us back on track? ",7.2149359605911325,5.600886710344831,6.811330049261084,83.12310344827587,64.65517241379311,9.389162561576356,34.50738916256158,7.447530270364453,2.250083743842365,563,20,118,4,7,176,95,145,0.05,0.823,0.127,0.908,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,12,0,7,7,5,2,1,18,14,8,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,6,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,2,25,12,7,32,0,0,0,0,14,10,0,2,21,75,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435197137366273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093496755782118,0.0,0.10517816992399594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223937324257286,0.12853299696723908,0.0,0.0,0.21144002556595376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123835262566325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510244369244375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154958797220937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158133143674882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843110130198658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539827640206975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222059144650159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671698364996319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38707035553630187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4328125150953836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167578204983407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751751762986521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973149233776896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32068212360529075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307629825911689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109415903014901,0.0,0.11028481768162146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770759094597012
parenting,Tooiewoo,2019/03/26,"Custom cartoons of children Hiya, I'm a mum of two. I left work in Jan 2019 wanting to do something more fulfilling and enjoyable (that's the dream, right?). I'm thinking of setting up a business to make custom cartoons of children but I need a bit of info first. Please could you take this quick survey. It'll only take a couple of mins :) https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/SLW3NF3

Thanks!",2.6847887323943667,5.704562338028174,3.3001267605633835,84.04821830985917,87.59154929577466,4.530140845070423,25.409859154929578,6.2581,1.1095847887323944,310,13,52,3,10,97,54,71,0.0,0.789,0.211,0.9284,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,8,12,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,10,10,2,8,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,29,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875991423189001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103287432722992,0.2914821190107138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22407483370831985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862192671918467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758426772856527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19533123646581133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20035164658309607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28916885342585164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249691965534701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20280256042357947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3961356446614637,0.0,0.0,0.2425324775135731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879636953294874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25733445173479885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553788171587427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178138446932966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LinuxMage,2019/03/26,"At the weekend, my 19 year old daughter told me I was to be a Grandparent. I don't feel ready for this. I'm 46, and I just feel too young to be heading into Grandparent territory. My youngest child is 15 and still at school. However, my 19 year old daughter has her own place, a healthy and steady relationship, and seems to have her head in the right place. 

I suddenly feel as nervous as I did when I was the expectant father. I mean, I know what to expect, and whats ahead now, and will help her as much we are able to. 

I just....... feel too young to be a Grandparent.  ",3.3940384615384613,4.0371186068376055,4.535972222222224,88.59062500000003,72.33333333333333,8.585042735042737,27.445512820512814,8.841846274778883,1.7333769230769236,435,15,101,8,8,143,70,117,0.039,0.911,0.05,0.2937,4,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,0,1,7,1,0,1,6,0,12,2,2,0,0,19,21,10,0,2,2,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,7,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,4,17,0,15,13,2,19,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,1,12,68,20,1,0.19070215420455866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856989564977364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914308555733944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278236341344295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480491665863688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20773055218097056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018802581144246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4002196625649026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3984863245185441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474274532679507,0.0,0.16285859771182515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930007611571211,0.0,0.1736080789158178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229498668777555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222408070373508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456118697840217
parenting,iamtallAUS19,2019/03/26,"6 year old won’t stop stealing. We have a 6 six old Foster girl who has been with us for just over a year now. Prior to coming to us she’d had no schooling or preschool, lacked empathy and had little to no social skills when it came to friend making. We found out early on that she was taking kids lunches from their bags at school amongst other things (rewards from school cupboards, other kids belongings etc) at the time we thought we’d dealt with it. Discussing why it was wrong with her, talking to her teacher and making sure everyone who could help was aware. There have been isolated incidents throughout the year but we believed they were isolated and opportunistic rather than consistent. However we found out this week via her headmaster that she had been caught stealing again from someone’s bag, a biscuit and some other stuff. We now believe that the stealing has
Never stopped and that it’s just that she was sneakier and didn’t get caught. She has no empathy towards the kids she’s stealing from and sees the issue with more that she was caught rather than what she did. School punishments have no effect on her and sending her to bed early stings for that night, when she wakes up she resets and it’s behaviour as usual. We’re struggling at the moment. We’ve tried talking to her, early nights in bed, removing treats etc and gone as far as cancelling weekends away we had planned with her. 

Does anyone have any experience with a stealing kid who lacks empathy? Given her rough start to life we’re really concerned that as she approaches 7 if we can’t get on top of this soon it might get worse. ",6.570866873065016,7.264975660130722,5.768830409356724,82.38815789473685,65.27450980392156,8.795046439628482,31.46474028207773,8.6894789155246,2.372767320261437,1296,47,241,18,19,391,163,306,0.166,0.804,0.03,-0.9926,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,11,0,2,5,11,12,1,1,10,0,28,3,1,3,2,50,46,19,0,6,7,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,5,25,28,1,2,4,1,0,9,8,8,0,1,24,2,32,4,40,17,6,51,0,0,1,0,47,16,0,4,26,169,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386023327724586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594439441053165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204503120727973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447382173938891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422378009350216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356006268395127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671825369760472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950475419958116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24226332468634426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378391059592594,0.0,0.10624387875719464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23817602873200394,0.08391375806822678,0.0,0.17023666557640418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280067796649918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336324508688753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671622993926595,0.0,0.10885827149134457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499939154756095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522071233043647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837686657241381,0.0,0.0,0.20385097155129056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22794112346709244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957995696819866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4396866465402504,0.08655011069936262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071677904046988,0.09202702974849676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687649568059307,0.0,0.0,0.18160984831931007,0.0,0.11354538082399265,0.12433534199397946,0.0,0.0,0.1023660080644976,0.0,0.08166309273274985,0.1745972474558073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215732744845126,0.0,0.0,0.08622620313458891,0.0633328297308136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737407667699483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2612949599084787,0.0,0.11962133833713205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712240647028968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800589932770716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068542970685433,0.0,0.11875073261597816,0.0,0.20982869198615714
parenting,counterfeitPRECISION,2019/03/26,"Kids in a homestead environment? Appreciating advice from anyone, but mostly looking for personal experience from people who live further away from urban cities or who live in a farm/homestead environment.

How is raising kids in a farm in the middle of nowhere with literally no neighbors or much civilization around, while working myself and schooling the kids in the city? Is it a huge problem or is it manageable/actually better for the kids?

Me and my wife have decided to move outside the city (not TOO far, just about 50km or 30mi), closer to nature, while continuing to pursue our white collar careers in the city. Commute time is not a factor for us, the 50km can be covered in 30 to 45 minutes depending on traffic and we're fine with that.

Naturally that distance is well beyond the common suburbs with the standard housing projects with the the square 0.1ha (0.25 acres) grass land, packed with neighbors and perfect utility. This is the band where actual farms begin. Land with actual forests and fields. Low population density.

We've analyzed every bit, every aspect, every pro and con and we've made our choice. We want to move, we'll never live in an apartment and we don't quite enjoy our current suburb house situation either. We want a remote, yet accessible modern farm-like property with loads of land, we're talking several hectares and a house from whom you cant even see the neighbors.

We don't have any kids yet, but they might appear down the road. And while I want to live outside the city, I don't want to murder my kid's social life. As someone who grew up in the suburbs and had plenty of friends to hang out with during my childhood at any day and any time I wanted, I don't want to encumber my kids with the difficulty living remotely would impose on their social life.

The vague plan is that we'd put the kids in a school in the city and we'd just take them every morning with us while we drive to work ourselves, same with going home. There's a pretty decent and frequent bus option for those times when we couldn't drive the kids. But it still would be far from living downtown where anyone can visit anyone within less than 20 minutes.

Any opinions? People have been growing up in remote locations all the time, so there must be a way. I'm just generally worried before making the decision.",8.535268171464068,7.6689961207289326,8.292956098571132,71.14742337958172,61.59681093394077,10.62418720231932,35.672085317871186,9.688023934748609,3.3722656036446463,1863,69,323,29,22,599,238,439,0.046,0.8540000000000001,0.101,0.9703,1,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,14,1,3,6,19,9,1,0,34,0,30,2,0,4,4,74,45,29,1,11,13,1,0,0,4,5,2,0,4,10,12,33,0,0,2,1,0,11,10,3,1,0,3,4,28,6,59,31,7,70,0,1,4,0,42,37,0,10,21,211,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.16611873737511745,0.0,0.0,0.08317279877964957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315228210113353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785418856713169,0.0,0.0,0.0757698541737287,0.0,0.0,0.07996777307288012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242607861576482,0.0,0.0,0.0752767629710544,0.09292287162326758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05489174149820817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05621725317913327,0.0,0.2868501848345132,0.0,0.0,0.08325820754153325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06575916811923925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04837247043216242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537667497338355,0.0,0.0,0.2946317420524121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202376243940521,0.0,0.0,0.4509454049922678,0.0,0.07147465266762344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053729568468998,0.05681451758012624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029291938987263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18092625741564666,0.06256887150310173,0.0,0.06564546624165221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180152050145724,0.07431860407407721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659193583423594,0.0,0.0814429781886016,0.0,0.08556347270685262,0.0,0.0905296328232908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17228061747703247,0.06782515062179273,0.0,0.0,0.09615503610482162,0.0,0.0,0.09567214275456233,0.0,0.17352680785964408,0.07211714812993253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797246339320548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399543016275973,0.06841172420896599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19852354577420164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047642674203808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012160418157446,0.06755984261604936,0.0,0.0,0.07652806023021742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392858215839615,0.08643779662088306,0.0,0.12092564404275792,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrEctomy,2019/03/26,"Is there any evidence that daycare is unhealthy for babies? There's a popular conservative figure on Youtube who strongly opposes daycare for babies and very young children. His reasoning is that your baby is very accustomed to the mother's face and voice and mannerisms, and for a stranger to be taking care of them, is confusing and stressful for the baby. Is there any evidence for this?",8.901956521739132,9.582435101449278,8.409963768115944,65.49146739130438,60.30434782608695,12.117391304347828,41.88768115942029,11.698219412168324,5.5012289855072485,318,17,47,9,4,101,43,69,0.118,0.7759999999999999,0.106,-0.2168,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,1,3,5,0,2,4,0,7,1,1,1,0,10,9,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,9,8,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,1,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4652125502596789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34874358965176694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516851934628522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3918180386082504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25717963474127703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5644554690604112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeaddropSav,2019/03/26,"I need help / advice (estranged 3 1/2 year old daughter) Hello. Thank you for at the very least giving this a read.

I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter that I haven't seen since she was a month old. The reason why? Complicated. Isn't it always?

I'm her father. Today, her mother and I came to a resolution in a court appointed mediation. We're working on a gradual step up plan. I will be able to see her every Saturday, starting this Saturday coming up. I haven't had contact with her mother, either. We didn't even mediate in the same room today.

The plan is that every Saturday, our daughter, her mother, and I will do various activities together that we've already agreed on. This Saturday, it'll be a very simple meeting at a Chick-fil-A.

I really want to get my relationship with our daughter off to a good start, but I'm not that experienced with kids.

Does anyone have any advice? Tips on how  I can make this a positive experience for everyone, especially our daughter?

What kind of things do little girls like to talk about? Should I bring a gift? What do little girls like? If I bring a gift, I want it to be special. I'm lost. I don't want to sit there crying in public the whole time. 

I want our daughter to look forward to seeing me again. If you have any suggestions at all, please share.

Also, do you know if there are other subreddits that might also be of help?

Thank you.",2.0622002085505757,4.394651992700734,3.9884723670490096,83.89666058394161,80.16788321167883,7.125964546402503,22.559436913451513,8.192908349453996,1.4414998957247138,1082,35,212,22,28,366,147,274,0.026,0.7809999999999999,0.192,0.9906,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,5,4,0,4,8,9,0,0,17,0,26,0,0,3,1,27,51,9,0,9,6,10,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,3,16,8,0,0,2,1,0,6,6,1,0,0,6,5,31,8,29,36,6,38,0,1,4,0,39,16,0,4,19,138,47,2,0.11439435741600112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235696842327538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262370180044549,0.1829622525920662,0.09518526931102038,0.0,0.0,0.15558417158508986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998719450655982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083666987936565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854060974524466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256568300762755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010727306471356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075556394194389,0.0,0.19276435982232007,0.10930871077347802,0.0,0.11189963210905003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976633029687532,0.10973749136022036,0.0,0.0959485595970152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335225289276302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191241197707688,0.06286814716493498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177460950254613,0.2293063972136589,0.0,0.0,0.09606244927431824,0.0,0.12487495435325753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635912186192383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12135433562797544,0.0,0.0,0.0913084847036217,0.0,0.0,0.08482196653832517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601129047177781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255706524619606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442531415373774,0.0,0.07328395459562144,0.11761645177697252,0.0,0.12281672897162693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231498434634075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094628194573188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619378299271439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194585130973758,0.0,0.21063790988405603,0.0,0.0,0.07599852800843993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670426974432384,0.0,0.21686495009848292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18877465042896333,0.26989102343823484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322311466385888,0.1277172147969452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328045462907005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14733243121914388
parenting,tink69435,2019/03/26,"Just wanting opinions on this. I currently have my 16 year old daughter and her 16 year old friend staying with us for spring break. My daughter was getting in the shower and she asked her friend to come sit with her while she showers. I did this with my best friend when I was younger. The issue is that my boyfriend thinks it’s wrong and they were probably in there having sex. Am I missing something?  By the way, her friend is female as well. ",2.4598850574712654,4.928184873563222,2.2857471264367817,95.89229885057472,79.57471264367817,4.786206896551724,24.60919540229885,5.82211442006289,0.41793333333333305,352,13,72,2,9,104,60,87,0.054000000000000006,0.752,0.194,0.93,3,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,1,1,4,8,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,11,15,6,0,1,1,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,0,16,6,10,11,1,16,0,1,0,1,15,3,0,1,8,51,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851931844951674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003979279976932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16449282413108415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5901326122331849,0.0,0.09976731911747304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19930983158912585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40075517329838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058842902442919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700827557829171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20353509725621066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235774122913767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22969814605488076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263157587455025,0.15157303363683922,0.0,0.0,0.17169356526418594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20878185430061905,0.0,0.24594050879115065
parenting,Toasttimebitches,2019/03/27,"Anyone have more children after a traumatic birth or a postpartum mood disorder? Tell me your stories I have a 2.5 year old, I developed PPD and PPA with a lot of PTSD symptoms after a slow going several day inducement where I didn't respond to the drugs that ended in a vacuum delivery resulting in a 3rd degree tear.... I'm starting to get fits of baby fever despite that though, my husband quite frankly i think would start trying the minute I give the okay, even the PPD I think I could prepare myself for but the birth....oh god the birth. The breastfeeding, pregnancy as much as I disliked it, sleep deprevation, I worked overnights for years baby bring it on but if it wasn't for my supposedly magical amount of colostrum and a  wonderful post birth high I don't think i could ever bear the possibility of it again...and I'm terrified of a c section because my breastfeeding success really helped me bond during my depression and self doubt.....I'm sorry if I'm rambling but i have a lot of feelings about the whole thing. I'm also planning on calling a local perinatal psychiatrist in the morning for an appointment if anyone has some advice about that! Any is appreciated",4.483210288163847,6.744631171945702,5.498351988568706,76.35926411050252,72.12217194570134,8.9965229816623,30.63610383424625,9.549672527348893,3.224234389140273,943,42,163,24,19,310,138,221,0.094,0.8190000000000001,0.087,-0.134,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,0,4,7,4,0,0,22,1,11,4,1,2,1,25,26,14,0,6,7,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,2,8,4,0,0,6,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,20,2,24,21,8,27,0,1,0,0,9,10,0,8,14,107,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416616649086778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179809626660809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032654320309553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063150420405832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08993389055115436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506462528091485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355839465990421,0.0,0.0,0.09514567334411513,0.0,0.12706874599696238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908398861440996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17108981121554642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306692028593699,0.0,0.0,0.09744322663655758,0.13345077339438774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459640691033644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07707916888371401,0.1415257484843729,0.08384560491192704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888731783183688,0.15587522943256416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508521714011452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845269701888324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480959074041067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631970555242764,0.14129448584729076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17245653880436368,0.0,0.0,0.15691801056901575,0.0,0.0,0.0945125170758168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390762830797025,0.1666687083688098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14763813986060406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514954123781697,0.20884724358371828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334181532413885,0.0,0.0,0.12894911614307372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098013435761882,0.2835968657028506,0.14494904234838693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016426830666078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647137563874487,0.0,0.0,0.15999172075010848,0.10740475774873162,0.0,0.0,0.10480221170788104,0.0,0.0,0.1900110194415315
parenting,johnahnsn,2019/03/27,"My 9 year old son ask me if I ever killed somebody in the military I told him we don’t talk about the war we just had a job to do . Then he proceeded to say I want to be a solider like you were , daddy . This is horrifying there’s stuff men should never see and one of those is war no one should have to be involved in a war . It might seem Cool but if you were over there it you would understand. I know it’s not my choice if he joins but it just makes me realize how grown up he is already . I don’t even know what this post is about I guess just a rant , I’m not afraid of him dying as much as I’m afraid of what he might have to witness ",0.5970833333333339,1.741415652777782,2.5288888888888903,98.305,79.97222222222223,6.188888888888887,18.944444444444443,6.816661863887847,-0.24811388888888875,490,10,130,5,12,164,85,144,0.124,0.8440000000000001,0.033,-0.9118,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,3,0,0,10,8,4,2,6,1,19,0,0,2,2,29,31,10,5,7,10,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,10,3,0,0,5,0,0,1,6,6,0,2,4,3,17,2,16,20,1,12,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,7,7,90,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21417959562461533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814449459668828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014314424567267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12819249227542107,0.17556261043485266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138084773149456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19260118792182807,0.0,0.2147282733617962,0.0,0.2133300445512647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482100038005403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955443736844624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41179081925361055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426761202879326,0.0,0.14969169513289188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20366143394625466,0.0,0.2630364596262479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18588149131284035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15434560302097328,0.0,0.0,0.15466204066318065,0.17668932140942073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22218293615059392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599960743833194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18545824229534127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020511900074596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144774155324922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13787368479616066,0.0,0.0,0.12498552738228536
parenting,crispy4014,2019/03/27,"Sweet things Today as I put on my 4 yr olds pajamas, he said “mom, I just like being with you” and gave me a hug. What has your baby said recently that makes you melt?",1.0549999999999995,2.3130678333333385,3.184444444444445,93.605,79.0,7.022222222222222,17.555555555555557,7.793537801064563,0.11112222222222146,126,2,31,2,3,43,33,36,0.0,0.7709999999999999,0.229,0.8225,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,7,3,3,2,0,5,0,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,4,18,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371309997818747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21001902641835904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3684927101873369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33015292216287223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162916451683985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106607331593538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.59857337527421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20902724484473026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982339540671212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,britain2138,2019/03/27,"Childcare: Where do I even start? I’m preparing to go back to work. I have an interview tomorrow in Seattle. I’m a single mom and have support from my daughters father so we will be splitting costs. I’m in that magical zone of income where I don’t qualify for assistance but don’t make enough to pay for full time childcare without selling my soul or body. I’m also in the unique situation where my job will start WAY before regular childcare opens. I’ll need to be at work by 5:30, off by 2. Any suggestions or solutions? I’m willing to get creative. I need to keep costs as low as possible while also giving my daughter the best care that I can. Thanks. ",2.7245165394402022,4.828777374045803,4.250706106870228,84.03091921119595,76.78625954198473,7.725445292620865,28.47391857506361,8.59863814320734,2.331106361323154,520,23,101,11,12,173,86,131,0.031,0.7859999999999999,0.183,0.9716,2,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,0,3,8,5,0,0,4,0,11,1,1,1,0,11,28,10,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,4,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,10,4,20,23,4,19,1,1,0,0,8,11,0,2,6,64,12,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065870389496299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303550043736515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739690819671408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631131091696955,0.0,0.20116564200247472,0.0,0.0,0.2129231205618232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954395775821751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980658435881245,0.0,0.12660869027130256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001495225108478,0.18388543025267426,0.1089412018600126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902216246415479,0.1703818745507745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795380870521889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450368689289613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28426973531913513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610039828465044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546632047295225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713567365285308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752625719607255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764813565830902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117753211740706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15215370201915682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478122951274464,0.0,0.2791035596182068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Said_something,2019/03/27,"Alternative schooling with kids from poor homelife I have a 13 year old who never does anything she doesn't want to if she can find away to avoid doing. To the point that we took her to have her evaluated for oppositional defiant disorder but it was decided she doesn't have this. We asked them to scan her for any other underlying disorder that may be causing this but they told us she is healthy, just an abnormally stubborn idealist. To give you an idea why we took her to get her evaluated, well there's been many things, but after starting high school last fall she dropped out in just 2 weeks. Why? Well, it started with her getting reported for going to the bathroom without a bathroom pass. Since our daughter finds it unreasonable that one human should have to ask another human for permission to use the bathroom she decided to quit the school before they could kick her out and started an online school (without mine or her mother's support but we allowed it because we know she needs to be at the school she wants to be at to give it her best effort and in the end that's worth more than the quality of the school). Fast forward she did online school the entire semester and hated every second of it but she completed all her courses well before deadline and got A+ in everything she took. She wasn't happy being home all day though and this spring she enrolled in an alternative school aimed at people who for some reason fell behind in regular school. Now as parents we aren't allowed to enter this school because the school is specially aimed at children who have a questionable homelife.  But our kid tells us quite a lot and brings home friends, each one of them with some story (I sometimes wonder what on earth my kid wrote in her application letter but somehow she got accepted). Our kid is doing well in this school as there are no specific rules as they only accept a small number of very motivated kids who need a second chance. So kid is back in school and her grades are good, everything seems fine. But her new best friend is 15 and sleeping rough some nights from what we can tell. My daughter often sneaks her in at night and she leaves again early in morning before we see her. I feel like normally we should intervene or report if a kid seems like she doesn't have a proper home but my daughter says don't. We ask her why and daughter says she has been through a lot but right now she is doing fine, sleeping at different friend's places and being back in school and working real hard and passing. My daughter says a bunch of students in this school are 16-20 and some of the older ones rent a room which they all split. This sounds pretty foreign to us but I guess it is called an alternative school for a reason. I guess those kids have their reasons for not staying with their families. Now my daughter is spending a lot of time over there and they don't want any adults around. My daughter says it's because a few of the kids are technically run-aways from foster homes or homes that abused them and the school choses to overlook this. This sounds very foreign to me. Does anyone have any experience with alternative schools? We don't get past the reception at the school and we don't know any of her friends parents, but many of them are i foster homes. Is there anything in particular we should we wary of? Our kid is sometimes home late because ""she doesn't find it reasonable that she can't go out to see the stars"" at any time of the night and she is impossible to fight on this so we don't. We are content that 6/7 days a week she is asleep in bed by 10 pm on her own accord. But anything particular to watch for? We finda bit alone as none of her friends seem to have parents we can meet and the school has no parent meetings.

Thankful if anyone has any input about this type of school ",5.56871436833843,6.507978237516871,5.435960230245943,83.02417582417583,67.56950067476383,8.316186069569529,29.42744223195352,8.418075326091056,1.9931225921947728,3058,106,592,42,49,950,306,741,0.059,0.83,0.112,0.9936,8,2,0,0,2,0,48.0,25,1,11,7,23,26,3,1,39,0,62,3,3,9,4,126,103,45,0,13,24,12,3,2,5,4,0,6,10,14,37,47,0,2,21,0,4,12,19,4,4,5,12,13,92,22,96,81,19,83,0,0,4,0,132,39,0,23,34,412,129,28,0.0,0.04154941508076704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036319495682362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308317249279434,0.036771474589404704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04904021376209449,0.0,0.08657303092184647,0.031217631353822942,0.09835051934281493,0.0,0.06589439790266632,0.05392969591450508,0.0,0.08550762316628134,0.0,0.08951992770551802,0.0,0.07360264224240698,0.0,0.03828477674013491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035807977775881066,0.0,0.0,0.03602412262380158,0.0,0.0,0.03676774979613588,0.0,0.0,0.02799865435371971,0.0,0.0,0.04523144908082856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03663821649172182,0.08038109934579714,0.0,0.06137585022851754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031059517410686386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029545996298896975,0.0,0.0630330612220537,0.03430287755671632,0.033058646856404576,0.0,0.017731250734725833,0.02505232660120451,0.0,0.0,0.09615355367388438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546584528020975,0.0,0.05496417829658358,0.06728014486843714,0.03985949203921069,0.02941306981592409,0.056093584973567034,0.0,0.07726191057298967,0.0,0.0,0.03733015125165949,0.031413714416984234,0.034622031077385734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03705088342557605,0.24622989132277526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03958709328556861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038544511966129534,0.028584804252460273,0.03955782153509417,0.037131563803244776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034264551826042364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943975184643511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110615887916162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05200441641217399,0.027046323205044125,0.03386854195845011,0.0,0.09872580423558824,0.03435883831379557,0.0,0.0,0.03679758561103238,0.0,0.07128821437401342,0.026670517850317564,0.0,0.0,0.15575384192271546,0.0,0.033476027130270584,0.024311483798316103,0.0,0.03663821649172182,0.0,0.03315025145853461,0.0,0.0,0.035676393475551044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0392837786091344,0.07459749619141616,0.0,0.03991464774514877,0.0,0.1442214837678493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029947570058838524,0.0,0.1115487685773535,0.0,0.7452967288480447,0.0558887323122967,0.09577277796493598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02900831138295287,0.0,0.07018592407603359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936557856935828,0.0,0.07446316105460063,0.03737743472900285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03979433845501156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130132013201036,0.032285568305148366,0.0,0.0,0.02329737955012765,0.0,0.034453774921450166,0.0,0.04089644182779507,0.0,0.0,0.03350862957164163,0.1168843037390075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654614723373894,0.0302871787606699,0.0,0.05786894556691699,0.06205140193157435,0.0,0.0562582856830128,0.0,0.12612006706585008,0.0,0.09492926285637544,0.0,0.0,0.06760790060149201,0.0380293560185849,0.02552965710579502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022582408239369342
parenting,gio_johnny_johnson,2019/03/27,"Garbage dubs in Netflix cartoons Kind of a PSA I guess.

My son is really into Mini Force and Power Battle Watch Car on Netflix. Premise wise they're a lot like Power Rangers and Beyblade respectively but the dubs are straight garbage. It sounds like they just picked people off the street to voice the characters (Mega Man 8 style).

I thought I knew bad dubs in anime/ games but wow...

I can't believe I'm saying this but I'd rather marathon other shows he enjoys like Pepa Pig or Paw Patrol - at least the VAs are decent. Please stay away from Mini Force and Watch Car. Your ear drums will be better for it.",1.4567372881355922,4.155228635593222,1.6862500000000011,96.10869703389831,88.91525423728814,3.966949152542373,19.239406779661017,5.602791699666715,-0.27147627118644024,481,14,96,3,16,144,90,118,0.051,0.7490000000000001,0.2,0.952,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,3,2,11,1,0,6,0,6,1,1,1,0,15,10,7,0,1,6,1,0,3,0,1,0,4,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,6,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,6,7,9,11,6,2,12,0,0,2,0,7,9,0,3,3,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257672349706675,0.0,0.22899213524608364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089923673540299,0.0,0.2425569657340143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021236808260401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855952094844268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019625883995773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23316247156037656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013443796606544,0.0,0.0,0.30105050819246315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756952866040779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180992179993024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29232018924753944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21772846855075087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aortiz46,2019/03/27,"Parenting survey Hello!

We are in a research methods class, currently doing research related to raising children. It is a short 5 to 10 minute survey. [Parenting Survey](https://asu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_bKKRa7PJkRk1jql)",10.841612903225801,15.844195741935485,7.382838709677419,53.174258064516145,75.45161290322581,8.931612903225806,41.68387096774194,8.841846274778883,6.091640000000003,192,11,17,5,5,54,26,31,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,10,2,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LaundryFairy,2019/03/27,"Consequences for 4.5yo We mostly try to do the natural consequence thing with my 4.5yo son. We have a 2.5yo girl as well and they obviously get into conflicts frequently. My son is definitely “spirited” and highly reactive/emotional. 

For example, the kids are playing and my son tries to snatch a toy from his sister. She holds on for dear life and begins to screech at him. We’re working on getting her to use her words, but even when she does say no or stop he doesn’t listen. If I’m close by I try to disengage them calmly. “She said no. It’s not your turn. Use your words. We don’t snatch toys.” etc etc. If I’m not in the room he may resort to hitting or pushing before I can get there to break it up. 

My son will not be ignored. If he’s upset he follows me around grabbing my hands, legs, and clothing while screaming. He’s ripped a few of my shirts this way. So when he flips out we take him to his room, not as punishment, but like “you can be by yourself until you’re calm and ready to play safely”. This works ok and we go talk to him and debrief once he’s calm. 

Problem is I’m a small person and I’m beginning to have trouble getting him to his room. He won’t walk there himself, he just collapses screaming and grabbing me. Carrying him there has turned into semi-dragging him. It’s really not safe anymore and I don’t want to hurt him, plus it pisses me off. I want to be able to tend to my daughter, who’s been hurt and is crying, but instead I’m dragging my son to his room and telling him to stay there while he tries to run away screaming that he’s calm and ready to come out. Uh huh, you sure seem calm. 

Am I doing this all wrong? ",2.184325007584185,3.82294252199414,3.460378197997777,91.1967741935484,76.85923753665689,6.580281120436848,24.07533623217716,7.372421405659032,0.8922143998382039,1284,42,282,16,29,418,179,341,0.149,0.705,0.146,-0.8552,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,5,4,2,2,13,26,2,1,7,2,22,5,4,2,3,61,48,31,0,6,14,7,3,1,0,3,1,6,4,3,10,28,0,6,1,4,0,6,11,12,2,0,2,9,45,14,44,39,5,37,1,2,0,0,56,19,1,8,10,175,55,2,0.13260698531689255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315104968744575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804833124554212,0.0,0.0,0.12458862786024474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283877753870485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142291760255782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566254662628286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604526647351725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149165010069237,0.0,0.0,0.2957836834036792,0.0875856631555432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771267067063821,0.0,0.07536360568476587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140106560616001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839170408492773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366423538378342,0.06478507478827912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122211153867187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578730468884613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688697598371507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495143038992302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261396097304498,0.10545439717865687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072041906243686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134140242698515,0.0,0.11086537747266564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249805143219622,0.0,0.09970394981535773,0.10658447173439067,0.11590435005643675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880981887163516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601257539161706,0.2884766419407304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22905971758774496,0.0,0.0,0.1564300713368446,0.10525725259744967,0.0,0.0,0.11922960525860192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930789293045408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14498492145071815,0.0,0.0
parenting,boobsincalifornia,2019/03/27,"If I just let them eat cereal for dinner, will they be unhealthy? I give up. I try to make healthy meals for my family, I try to make them tasty. But whenever I change something up, my 7/m and 12/m complain that they don’t like it, and all the food I cook is wasted. I’m at the point where I don’t want to make dinner - or pack their lunches, because they complain about those, too. I know there are people who will say to tell them they eat what is cooked, or they don’t eat- but I can’t do that. 
They’re able to microwave pizza and corn dogs, and other crap food, so do I just let them eat that every night? Or cereal? I’m so over it. My husband eats everything I make, even if he doesn’t like it, but his attitude hasn’t rubbed off on them.",1.0636607142857135,2.5572781875000032,2.6583928571428572,96.35875,79.625,6.071428571428572,18.92857142857143,6.868970318607317,-0.10658035714285716,570,12,139,6,14,187,91,160,0.079,0.867,0.054000000000000006,-0.5775,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,11,0,9,5,1,0,2,0,16,15,1,4,1,21,25,14,0,3,10,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,4,14,0,1,2,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,2,26,2,14,20,1,9,0,0,0,0,20,8,1,5,3,89,36,0,0.13212654366005386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054311466092838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977236383785507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6759921979601037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726833597235441,0.0,0.11132231160469606,0.0,0.11874681787293982,0.0,0.12455714640144548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3195358821107385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674782017983371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726132929879335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702166854792378,0.0,0.1291007105255864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35278197549004714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399181072742813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915999090905492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249022908318306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507233068962264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171746842839316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154844228720365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941050026213556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793165873140473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,father_of_three_sons,2019/03/27,"HowApp - tips for parents, teachers and homeschoolers.. As my nickname suggests, i am FATHER of THREE SONS (2, 6 and 8yo). I spend a lot of time learning a home as well as playing games outdoors.

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parenting,madi-exe,2019/03/27,"Mom scared me into brushing my teeth (TLDR below) 
When  my other siblings and I were younger we went through that phase I think every kid goes through where they're like ""toothbrushes? But why?"" So you know my mom, having to raise 3 children at the time had to come up with something. So since we ate candy and stuff like most kids she'd say,""you know there's so much sugar in that. If you don't brush your teeth before bed, the sugar bugs are gonna eat your teeth and you won't have any!"" And it absolutely freaked me out but my sister couldn't care less. So I brushed my teeth religiously and now that I'm older I realise that it's just general hygiene and she was just trying to help 😂

TL;DR- mom said ""sugar bugs"" would eat my teeth if I didn't brush them",1.938537634408604,4.058689864516133,2.676129032258064,94.28086021505376,79.38709677419354,5.165591397849463,20.655913978494624,6.079149491110277,-0.030556989247311424,599,16,129,4,15,187,103,155,0.053,0.899,0.048,-0.1878,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,2,5,1,0,10,5,0,1,2,0,12,11,5,0,0,25,22,15,0,4,6,4,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,3,8,12,6,0,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,7,8,23,3,12,10,3,13,0,0,0,0,19,7,0,3,6,79,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043929266713925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070558731158967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18057307884928028,0.0,0.0,0.1525625803164059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362450734171246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492208552573548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871154166357785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946674934525027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730517284564501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6222791072839859,0.0,0.0,0.13019451981272726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846995671467233,0.14084313219316666,0.17731567992726233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465052994099741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634614135031595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20274591588509167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348344720939588,0.0,0.0,0.1032729098858322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024448605744005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641805896173024,0.15981212986328724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581221125596914,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayadhd007,2019/03/27,"14 month old My 14 month old isn’t walking or standing by himself from the middle of the floor or for very long when he lets go of furniture.  He’ll cruise furniture and take a few steps but that’s it. This lady at the park today asked how old he was and when I said 14 months she gave me this shocked face and said she thought he was 9 months old due to his “abilities” and how he was acting. He definitely seems so much more babyish than my daughter was at this age but now I’m so upset that he’s not only walking but I apparently is acting like an age that he isn’t and it’s obvious. When we do the ASQ questionnaire he’s in all the white (minus gross motor, he’s in the grey) so I thought he was on track but now I feel like I’m failing him. Wtf should a 14 month old be doing? I wish people would just keep things to themselves.",0.9906835359842284,2.8063417653631326,2.623733158067697,95.00574761748275,81.06703910614527,5.7760105159382205,20.58527768649359,6.794906146795322,0.15143943476832036,652,18,153,7,17,214,103,179,0.115,0.799,0.085,-0.8265,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,11,6,0,1,9,0,14,1,1,2,2,26,29,19,0,3,8,1,1,2,0,3,0,2,0,0,9,6,0,1,4,1,0,7,3,4,0,0,10,5,14,2,13,14,4,35,0,1,2,0,22,7,0,3,22,86,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875356869929375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422892272417359,0.0907484741715488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219265781960252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290788203266006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298942291203096,0.0,0.12411844400255415,0.0,0.0,0.1124153436341392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5069607085223764,0.0,0.09337983134263868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6664699851145908,0.0,0.0,0.09661014079885924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08806487695388106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24166449044009425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564106873638105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550887416919247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843914291883724,0.0,0.0,0.20169129798254629,0.0,0.0,0.12040722076645735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481099411863884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607536049311082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023669417749458,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BionicSix,2019/03/27,"How do you (or have) describe how the 'internet' and 'wifi' works to kids? My oldest is turning 8 (3 younger brothers as well, so the 5 and 4 year old might get it, youngest is a year) and has asked about internet and wifi, and as I've always encouraged questions and given him answers, he so far knows that's how to play some videos, go on his google classroom, etc - but what ""internet"" is and we use ""wife"" to connect to it are concepts I want him to comprehend, just don't know how.",4.6193127147766315,4.797352597938146,5.0696391752577314,87.51036941580757,69.41237113402062,8.52852233676976,31.630584192439862,8.344100000000001,2.1005408934707903,370,15,81,5,6,118,71,97,0.0,0.929,0.071,0.5346,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,9,3,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,5,0,23,18,17,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,7,3,9,16,2,7,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,4,4,51,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275638110072117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255674234133963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050112609460889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288612083275434,0.0,0.15542945530218755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006035548014876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901274041418616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869795070309498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3063689976491932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974762613654743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23620570441690586,0.0,0.0,0.16131022766127376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458984337712677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910242178208745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522344347593763
parenting,milky-sky,2019/03/27,"How much screen time does your preschooler get? Please help settle an argument between my husband and I: how much screen time does your preschooler get each day/week? How much of that is TV/movies versus educational apps?

And in comparison, how much time do you (or your caregivers) spend reading to your child each day?

We’re experiencing some issues with our daughter’s speech, and I want to get a better sense of what’s normal and what might be affecting her speech issues. ",8.004827586206897,8.383638908045981,6.793701149425285,77.34641379310345,62.2183908045977,9.258850574712644,31.193103448275863,8.841846274778883,2.3418662068965515,383,12,69,5,5,115,59,87,0.029,0.856,0.116,0.7691,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,5,0,18,8,9,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,10,1,7,6,7,5,0,0,2,0,11,1,0,3,4,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211840809199424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23643316736424005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32082294430297736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28730794680071803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228655016323009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826456665877584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19445767559231533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5390011708179228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796000157980718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201213883904567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833546408054899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206599215291774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811805941964968,0.0,0.14703624297717655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Southsidetaco,2019/03/27,"Its time.. time to get rid of the paci.. Alright team,  we need your help. My wife and i are about to ""cut"" the paci. We are first time parents, or daughter is about to turn two. Weve tried to only let her use her paci during car rides and bedtime/naptime.  We are planning on going cold turkey, any tips suggestions or shoulders to cry on will be helpful. Thank you in advance I apologize, as I'm sure this question has been asked a lot",2.0001136363636363,3.8929669659090926,2.913636363636368,93.76545454545456,78.20454545454545,5.3090909090909095,24.63636363636364,5.985473137389443,0.4971545454545461,335,12,72,2,8,106,67,88,0.034,0.8170000000000001,0.149,0.8225,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,2,0,4,2,4,1,0,3,1,10,1,1,1,1,12,18,5,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,2,1,11,3,12,13,1,11,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,4,4,44,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525894921602912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21343947051195244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250788331495404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942007697954836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928279780460972,0.0,0.1297541019494277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30606339194369403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334629248591331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941013977799413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928932115662101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364040107635376,0.0,0.0,0.2535117590557141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557599785563805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21517991674729373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21019760699611711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39938901457192094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550078229527271,0.2483362311841487,0.22302615512302,0.0,0.0,0.19718694241294324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,desilucia,2019/03/27,"Finding a name for the nameless 31 weeks pregnant this Friday, expecting a little dude on the very last day of May. 
Need name inspirations pleaseeeee",13.851923076923079,10.877441884615386,10.888461538461538,63.30653846153848,53.23076923076921,13.476923076923079,49.07692307692307,11.20814326018867,5.564123076923077,123,6,19,2,1,36,23,26,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.119,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,9,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945385517448285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174223763885325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722775642842543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4577408912579145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33864282055179584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.376831513574135,0.0,0.0,0.3663432042407135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Cwdearth,2019/03/27,"A smart way to tell if your kids asleep A man tells his kid,    
“You beep when you sleep.”    
The dad ends up convincing his kid that he actually beeps when he sleeps.
The next night the dad peeked into his kids room to see if he was asleep.    
*beep*    
*beep*    
*beep*    
Now his kid makes beep noises when he fake sleeps.
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parenting,CLOWN--BABY,2019/03/27,"Am I overreacting? So I have a 2.5 year old daughter, and we have been having some issues with our daycare provider.  It is a small daycare provider, and they let the kids play outside.  My issue is, the backyard isn't fenced in, there is an alley at the end of the yard, and usually, they only watch from inside the house through the windows.  Are my wife and I overreacting in saying that our daughter can't be outside unless someone is outside with her?",5.20137931034483,6.353942873563224,5.3914367816091975,82.23474137931036,68.54022988505747,7.179310344827586,32.89080459770115,7.1686216300943375,2.12123908045977,358,16,66,3,6,113,59,87,0.0,0.966,0.034,0.4137,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,9,0,14,0,0,0,0,10,14,6,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,2,7,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,11,1,9,11,1,8,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,1,4,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2538193586918047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33066773010499184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5982172602246935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930411628389549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007110335199704,0.0,0.0,0.21795231546053612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278950162746485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428130809089279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31562059303085066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845441544130735
parenting,elephantastronomer,2019/03/27,"The vomiting bug Dear god I hate it when this demon enters our house! The boy got sick, the SO got sick, I’m over it. Sterilised bathrooms, made food, decided they can sleep together, I’m staying healthy with the dog ",2.884285714285717,5.180756714285717,3.3954761904761916,89.42035714285717,77.09523809523809,7.057142857142857,27.16666666666667,8.07648339933343,1.7772666666666672,170,7,34,3,4,53,33,42,0.208,0.647,0.145,-0.636,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,4,0,1,5,1,1,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,2,4,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,15,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39524384769912746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5228441507306358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3227093872455397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3771558358516578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092855256490448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32709889984809365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483923005916685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BubbleNuts2413,2019/03/27,"Would you let your children... Do you have any restrictions for who your children can be around on a normal basis?

Would you let them be around a relative similar in age that was exposed to drugs in utero?

How would you go about setting any sort of boundaries without offending anyone, particularly family members?",7.110999999999998,9.094708418181824,6.72159090909091,71.36238636363636,64.81818181818181,9.863636363636363,35.56818181818181,10.125756701596842,4.045999999999999,253,12,39,6,4,79,42,55,0.023,0.918,0.058,0.4482,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,6,1,0,4,1,1,0,2,0,11,1,0,1,0,10,12,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,7,0,10,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,1,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146940922344699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178700769607135,0.0,0.0,0.4119563743009559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683285554952817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21812545839728414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131499180990394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4732055934935059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22670429887068666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22304307212019894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4930993706841693,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itsgems1,2019/03/27,"Whats the best way to tell my mother that i disagree with how she treats me Im 16 and my mother always tells me off and swears at me when ill just be asking a question. A few days ago i asked what she was making with the hamburger she was frying up and she said ""shut the fuck up its none of your buissness"" this happens a decent amount when i ask her to stop she tells me to find somebody who cares cause its her house not mine, what should i do about this? I know she loves me and other than this shes nice but yeah",0.2263095238095261,2.2385928214285715,1.4303571428571438,101.43130952380956,85.07142857142857,4.090476190476192,14.690476190476188,4.7782277997778095,-1.3081273809523808,404,6,98,1,12,127,74,112,0.068,0.818,0.115,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,5,6,1,0,6,1,6,3,0,3,0,17,16,8,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,11,6,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,23,5,12,11,4,11,0,0,0,2,22,5,1,1,5,70,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223994175093615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15229082573057753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133088613073934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920726434955297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660540605336687,0.18801630623999765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803549070256968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672808355150006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692029565384692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618477270363997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211185394502648,0.0,0.0,0.19769758149383826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058533335253092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651865183131913,0.0,0.12217009842580565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20502903086276048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740979601215892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301645618966708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4799137469308298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527611909041133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,atbs_photography,2019/03/27,"What to do about rowdy neighbors while baby is asleep? First off I live in a communal building so have neighbors either side and above. My actual neighbors either side are perfect don't make any or much noise but the ones upstairs are so rowdy. Take for instance last night, the people living above me were screaming, kicking on doors etc past 12am, at 2, me an my partner an neighbor went upstairs to tell them to calm down an stop banging cause my 7 week old is trying to sleep right below them (he was with my neighbors partner at the time) this resulted  in them still banging and waking him up anyway despite 5 of his friends being told to leave, they apologized, apparently they was unaware of a baby. Could understand that I guess, but the other 3 were still at it till 6am this morning. Landlord was informed but I feel they don't listen to him, this is nearly every night now and it's unfair on my child to be woken up cause of them. Is there anything else I can do to stop them ? I live in private rented accommodation so if landlord can't do anything then I don't know what to do, council probably won't do anything either and the police will make them do it more cause of a lack of any authority. Any advice would really be appreciated! ",4.876019768563161,6.018657397540983,5.579778206364511,80.62250241080041,69.28688524590164,7.544455159112826,29.516875602700097,7.724431198458867,1.9114101253616202,991,37,183,11,17,322,143,244,0.096,0.846,0.058,-0.8559,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,9,2,9,4,0,0,11,0,30,3,3,6,1,30,41,15,0,4,8,0,1,0,8,3,0,2,9,3,10,5,0,2,4,0,1,1,5,1,0,2,8,3,25,3,32,26,7,34,0,0,0,0,27,17,0,3,16,136,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.1255356710682569,0.0,0.0,0.12570710895605888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624421527865591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175832938640067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3964511603534758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270987140835182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746357233476006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14346941886227985,0.0,0.0,0.10838611892389688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06504507180470925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094225021172389,0.0,0.0,0.09938820182696068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171325520615752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069807387034104,0.10486009548573376,0.0,0.13621290849342585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407787401069585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717385697372571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456639746049428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414429048296087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498774757169135,0.0,0.08717089565309992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228029889713538,0.08918390659512312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386974315102904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241112024376171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098592464793676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287345303358846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20546673881730845,0.2151003205439531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672249377434967,0.0,0.11243845201232892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501196714894849,0.0,0.0,0.12292258731056376,0.0,0.0873392204011121,0.0,0.0,0.133920470384611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318855354898336,0.0,0.0,0.11925207693365884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138332083508016,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nikoko13,2019/03/27,"Write and share interactive stories :D Hi everyone!   


I'm the co-founder of Elementari, a new online platform write and share interactive stories.  There's fun illustrations from space dinos, to deep sea creatures, to food, and tons of characters. These are stories that can include sounds, music, voice overs, animations, and can end differently.     


**Our mission** is to promote arts and literacy in an engaging and collaborative way and have kids build computation thinking skills as a consequence of making a beautiful story that they can be proud to share.    
Check out our demo video: [https://youtu.be/FUKOvFBTJ3U](https://youtu.be/FUKOvFBTJ3U)

And try it for free at [www.elementari.io](https://www.elementari.io)   


I'd love to know what you think! If your kids would be interested in writing their stories or if you would be interested in writing for or with your kids. Also let us know of any illustration requests and we'll ask our amazing community of illustrators to get them out there :D  


Thanks!",7.355757352941175,11.116285737500005,6.591838235294119,64.56580882352941,69.75,9.014705882352944,31.911764705882355,9.478462496947786,3.7449595588235303,818,36,118,21,17,251,110,160,0.0,0.7290000000000001,0.271,0.9937,1,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,5,4,3,3,3,12,0,0,5,0,13,2,0,1,0,27,23,15,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,5,12,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,12,13,23,16,1,13,0,0,0,1,28,10,0,4,2,74,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182527415768208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521440281554194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133782311426201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384674085951873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20215729198545954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180978449464344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759947172481618,0.2502588228082689,0.0,0.0,0.11924857356627072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508749269006009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333959404244053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599999187527626,0.0,0.15235528625526998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204404091436551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101372977718826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925003144403447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549633486045832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745505894130436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18117022901079288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32427734843922845,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,samantha-1996,2019/03/27,"I think my mother is a narcissist and I don’t want her watching my baby I’m 22, 4 months pregnant and an only child. I live with my (almost) husband and our lease is up in January, 3 months after we have our first baby. I was raised being watched by my grandmother on weekends, who is a narcissist 100%. She ruined my childhood and I spent years of therapy healing from the damage she caused in my life. Her mental and verbal abuse made me a very strong woman though. I’ve planned on letting my mom watch my baby while I work and just moving to a house in the area but I’ve noticed lately she’s been acting a lot like her mom. A lot. My mother is also bipolar type 1, and the thought of her having an episode in front of my baby gives me anxiety. I saw things as a child that I shouldn’t have seen because my mother is mentally ill, but she keeps it together 90% of the time.

 I’m having major second thoughts about her being heavily involved in my life and my child’s and I’m scared. I think it would be best if my husband, baby and I move closer to the major city that my husband actually works in. It’s about an hour away. He commutes in the morning because he got the job after we moved in where we are now, but it would be easier for him to just walk or take a bus downtown. 

My question, have any of you dealt with mentally ill parents? I’m going to try to find a job online or find a way to somehow survive off of just my husband’s income for a while because daycare is not something I want to do. I just feel so alone and scared. I just wish my mother was not like this 😥 my gut tells me to just move away but I’m scared I’ll fail without family to help. ",2.7854639629711286,3.8464666790830933,4.352736389684814,87.76358551906547,74.18624641833811,6.859202115935641,25.45746087723165,7.1686216300943375,1.0555848798765703,1297,42,277,13,26,435,177,349,0.11,0.82,0.07,-0.9367,4,1,1,0,1,0,29.0,5,1,0,8,14,10,0,3,21,0,25,7,1,2,0,53,47,24,0,7,16,11,1,2,0,3,6,0,0,4,9,16,0,1,8,1,1,8,5,6,0,2,10,6,51,4,41,29,5,40,0,3,5,0,39,17,0,8,16,186,60,6,0.0,0.11438319265175502,0.09420835537424448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667008644076117,0.09998551997843202,0.0,0.07720238148940345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564998188563932,0.0,0.07385224110199183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814035551480245,0.0,0.0,0.1765482422822931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131195819394936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991723746334066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100858736114496,0.0,0.04881313166031881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17647020112720113,0.08211621348480992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260921913298764,0.05486546498981381,0.0,0.07721123539389019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470820599527285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507168798302557,0.11139330135539544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19160056450427604,0.08580849681717735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10890044812271976,0.0,0.0,0.09871789591107256,0.13637701594963472,0.09432837562275244,0.0,0.08524590229690646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16414838967510986,0.0,0.09134774670976234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918664905472924,0.0,0.0,0.2261311416250772,0.15411337299230515,0.4104236626035992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991054486583864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342242906343767,0.0,0.0,0.10719538212671313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10814602342783597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899578098844316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432061008996023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258548099227209,0.0,0.08437953575082202,0.0,0.11040101459820373,0.0,0.06413636986665648,0.12371687160612925,0.09484929611547464,0.15328271852607664,0.056292797085912887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554379519095903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965496910687671,0.113882669549881,0.07662834142338189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110153417129494,0.09306036564231704,0.0,0.14056340775863888,0.0,0.0,0.13715738787629314,0.0,0.0,0.06216809423582091
parenting,Ezada,2019/03/27,"A wholesome Wednesday morning story So my son is really tall for his age (5years old and 49.5"" tall). He's the average height of a 7-8 year old child. 

The other day we were at the park and he was running around and he starts trying to play with a group of children who look to be 7-10 years old. After 10 min of trying to play with them one of the little girls approaches me and asks me if my son is ok (not in a malicious way). I asked her what she means and she said that he wasnt listening or playing the way the other kids were and asked me if he understood what her and they other kids were saying and if they should try a different game with him that he knew. Basically she wanted him to feel included. 

I told her that hes only 5 years old and he kind of marches to the beat of his own drum so she may have to explain the rules a couple times but he would catch on quick. She said thank you and ran off to play what I assume was tag or something similar and my son had an absolute blast.

Whoever is raising that little girl, you are doing an amazing job!",2.9847589686098672,3.8555208699551566,4.34427970852018,88.74045543721978,73.48430493273543,7.727466367713005,23.802970852017932,8.07648339933343,1.0633769058295963,826,22,185,12,16,274,129,223,0.006,0.917,0.077,0.9387,2,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,3,1,4,8,0,0,16,1,18,0,0,0,0,33,35,19,0,6,7,3,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,6,11,16,0,0,6,6,0,4,2,0,0,1,13,6,28,8,23,18,1,32,0,0,1,0,48,10,0,7,16,118,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751025588819485,0.37021369634745616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605831112282214,0.0,0.08513072461263334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791456970043536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674445563917565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309921627953295,0.0,0.0,0.13746034298550167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646024673291554,0.0,0.0,0.1108488965180617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14378947509572146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5540578850727746,0.0,0.08944834430214746,0.10039388772773383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456421380852852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511293071349018,0.10497372615309426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016220122434452,0.0,0.0,0.09343208448023847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153021316811642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697174858707458,0.0,0.0,0.12613409360874314,0.0,0.26886320023403354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785852420550565,0.20955496035072926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937708243593018,0.0,0.0,0.2550159434618668
parenting,shake_them_bones,2019/03/27,"Handling young child lying without punishment. Kidergarten-age child is lying, about relevant and irrelevant things.  When verbally addressed for a given behavior, full of excuses or rationalizations or whatever.  Sometimes these are honest based on independent verification, sometimes lies.  I think I can pretty well tell when he is lying and when he isn't, but I do think sometimes I get it wrong.

Anyway, we have always done the emphasis on honest as important.  We emphasize us being honest to him.  We keep our promises, we show our value of honesty.  Put differently, we feel we model the behavior we want to see around honesty.

Other than punishments, how would other parents handle this?  I get that many people would punish, but that would be my last resort if I had absolutely no other choice.  Also, I am not convinced punishment would achieve the outcome I want (I think it would just further undermine mutual trust and make a more skilled liar).  So I'm looking for other approaches.  Natural consequences sure, but sometimes there is no obvious natural consequence.  

I want my child to feel I will believe him when he says things.  So I don't want to go around accusing him of lying.  But he is lying, sometimes.  So how do I get the outcome I want, which is a child I whose honesty I can trust and who trusts me to believe him. ",5.768720546135218,7.949671276150633,6.398634661968732,71.59205461352126,68.4560669456067,9.550407399251268,33.08103941863026,9.93914555978268,3.7884092050209217,1061,49,167,27,19,346,132,239,0.151,0.607,0.242,0.9748,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,10,0,0,2,17,16,5,0,7,0,24,0,0,4,2,45,44,22,0,11,10,1,2,0,0,6,0,1,1,4,15,13,0,1,5,1,0,3,6,6,1,0,3,5,33,10,18,33,2,15,0,0,2,0,28,6,0,3,6,127,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861504917604304,0.09220314246608408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19728952579086872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496907842904122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577329931839613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133975275283462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205815103280277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736816055759109,0.0,0.06297611270976332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09849338865563614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032527823578898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305284063587202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396681274930107,0.11234436885265174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230418527944922,0.0,0.0,0.07682198971919757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273402954478087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139507353841444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812088994576449,0.0,0.0,0.08830155441626363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5479716713229288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10443750514520694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685318724315628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723503239305488,0.21300851961648584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329128602272175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267942700655847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963187125777492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681728618522428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3935826990383572,0.12115379395047025,0.0,0.0
parenting,-therealme0929,2019/03/27,"Deciding between one and done? Or two? I know this has probably been covered a million times, but here’s to a million and one.

My husband and I have one child, an incredible little girl who recently turned two. 

Up until recently I was really against having a second kid. Party was due to the state of my marriage, and truthfully part of my thought process was that it would be easier to only have one if/when things ended. I’m happy to say my husband and I have been working on our marriage together and are in a really great place.

Another thing was I stopped dwelling on all the negatives of having a child, and started focusing on all the positive aspects. The mind shift of just realizing my life will never be the same and embracing the chaos has left me in a much better place emotionally and mentally. 

If we started trying right away, there would be about a 3 year age difference.  So not super close, but hopefully close enough they could still play. 

I just can’t decide what we should do! (My husband is happy either way) sometimes when I see siblings together I get a pang of sadness that my daughter will not have that. And while the baby stage was **hard** I can really see now that there really is a light at the end of the tunnel. 

Any former *on the fence* parents here? What made you decide to go ahead and have a second? Or stay at one?",3.1903735632183903,5.425965704980847,4.429794061302683,82.67273706896553,75.8582375478927,7.874904214559388,26.583812260536398,8.72156446121922,2.1926869731800767,1063,41,199,23,24,349,152,261,0.056,0.785,0.159,0.9851,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,1,1,4,11,10,0,1,21,0,32,1,0,1,4,45,44,20,0,6,10,5,1,0,0,5,1,1,0,4,11,15,0,2,6,1,0,1,5,2,0,11,10,5,22,8,26,25,7,41,0,1,2,0,18,17,0,4,19,161,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686877069495353,0.11852874097283272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620161562430766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997169533792176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025053486530968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180991983798539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11567569705795815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715097144932924,0.2002337700633416,0.11679703427140155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059056963083892994,0.0,0.06424131014568563,0.0,0.0,0.12462326110010022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406591455790865,0.1012585995177395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122708584710396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212196445439831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281460703342308,0.0,0.07984110022570805,0.0,0.11329237856733165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695797308162558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391431594757888,0.0,0.1141347525458055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309491418953406,0.0,0.08718080178274648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829826602596957,0.08596943519916586,0.0,0.0,0.1255137779414787,0.12240763282209953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361983967597078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187258348792468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896565862215287,0.0,0.22322003021521916,0.0,0.0,0.09653264694727864,0.0,0.08989124888367472,0.0,0.0,0.18015108584883774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117960971987668,0.0,0.16001578809320136,0.12048198579720495,0.09027118241424026,0.0945036670409694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501930013347096,0.0,0.0,0.08973844168308523,0.06591255605389795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674443797695747,0.1229513719275674,0.2208406853671868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972319925189558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08229199802310687,0.0,0.0,0.1605959285129345,0.0,0.0,0.07279187050927308
parenting,scottbabe,2019/03/27,"Need IMMEDIATE advise! YIL Young teenage Stepdaughter, her best friend wants to commit suicide, and has tried to in the past. I do not know what to tell my stepdaughter who is DEVASTATED and feel awful she has to be going through this at 13 years old! :(( Advise??? So I’m a 34 year old male. My fiancé and I have split custody of her 13 year old daughter. Technically she’s not my stepdaughter yet but she tells everyone I’m her stepdad and that she loves me. Anyway that’s not the point. She came to me with this problem, not her mother or her father, but me, and me made promise not to tell her mother. Her best friend also 13 years of age, lives in a house where she has 7 other siblings. I believe she is the oldest. We always let her sleep over at our house, and it sounds like her stepfather is the best parenting figure that she has. Her dad has been to either jail or prison, and has either hit or beat her when she was younger, I don’t believe she sees her real father. Her mother was just on house arrest. For what reason I’m unsure. Anyways she is unhappy because her mother tells her she’s useless and stupid. She has A LOT of responsibility at her house and my only assumption is that her mom makes her clean up after everyone and watch all of her other siblings. So on top of the responsibility, she’s talked down to and has a low self-esteem. She recently told my stepdaughter the only reason for living is because she loves her grandparents, loves her baby cousin and loves to watch her, and that she loves her best friend (my stepdaughter). But sometimes it isn’t enough and she just wants to go in the medicine cabinet and take a bunch of pills and end it. Which is what she tried to do before, I’m unsure how long ago, probably a few years. My stepdaughter wants advise on what to do. She does not want to tell her mother or the counselor at school for fear of losing her friend. I told her to just re-assure her you’re always there for her. Hang out with her as much as you can and talk to her as much as you can. But if it get worse and it turns into her friend saying that my stepdaughter is her only reason for living is the point she needs to tell someone to get her help. Is there ANYTHING else I can say to her as far as how to handle this? She called me and told me all of this crying her eyes out in her moms car when mom was inside the gas station. Of course mom asks me why her daughter was balling her eyes out, and I told her that I could not tell her because I promised her I wouldn’t tell, and I cannot break her trust as she’s at an age where she loves and respects me and I do not want to jeopardize that bond we have.",4.012188236473953,4.83667469758813,4.606008123150982,87.98621019906736,71.04081632653063,7.5338915910344495,24.029534172391315,7.63319966405982,0.901754811211954,2078,51,447,23,37,663,210,539,0.1,0.747,0.153,0.9911,2,0,0,0,0,2,54.0,3,2,0,7,17,26,1,1,17,1,39,10,3,7,3,79,74,46,1,11,22,16,1,1,5,1,1,3,1,1,25,32,0,0,6,1,0,5,12,6,0,0,11,9,99,20,64,58,14,53,0,3,5,6,122,26,0,6,22,315,124,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05231987371157516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720026170933343,0.09822287512759592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04857047794407093,0.0,0.05517805810495966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079386811557208,0.0,0.05022378941660082,0.13299626276235665,0.2477618357768309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06026855856607171,0.06750600161501849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712465334540481,0.0,0.06483343073381719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165097631583356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049305714476073334,0.0,0.052276404878711914,0.06098600700843921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279703179259445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664167073559658,0.029843542968106963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280031360908608,0.0,0.06167362702313613,0.0,0.06708767932706665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03956152904606386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724161029857857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03243721540728882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060354492083083085,0.0,0.028835405916988025,0.0,0.1563538126844386,0.05223304386447825,0.0,0.06603106583687468,0.0,0.05017880797429982,0.3196205946721292,0.055848504516023065,0.039397968539593466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765056947575895,0.0,0.0,0.08677663864911024,0.08752885281174944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858025150738053,0.0,0.0,0.13466778356849904,0.0,0.0,0.06553748722255846,0.0,0.05634364258958701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159065636230488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363622395976422,0.056476549112998625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718051212858334,0.0,0.18205484114498802,0.05827758560845009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387410166046427,0.0,0.05973390813157355,0.04703328065088254,0.0,0.061573326501492616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05906511255907153,0.0,0.05000956189025463,0.0,0.05837474906629174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645610212864715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04437756495378758,0.09488007899822416,0.4127060428463609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22559406358518885,0.0,0.08014478897547597,0.06419951736657964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740649609251275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325861435964791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0601489569140938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900427332221616
parenting,Toasterfan,2019/03/27,"What the F Amazon Prime... They removed all but Seasons 1 and 2 of Daniel Tiger from Amazon Prime. Great, now I have to go back to actual parenting. \s

Worst Wednesday news yet. That is all. ",0.2387387387387357,2.6028329189189168,1.4852702702702736,95.39745495495498,98.18918918918921,4.628828828828829,16.977477477477482,6.42735559955562,-0.04717657657657659,146,4,30,2,6,46,33,37,0.129,0.664,0.207,0.34,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,3,3,7,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.4697800477444455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701693201742735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735925137430268,0.0,0.0,0.5307486911133588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5345412467229924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madatmyselfmom,2019/03/27,"Help! I Lost My Temper and Daughter Went To School In Tears I'm a single mom. My daughter hasn't seen her dad in months because of his work and she misses him. She's been acting out a lot lately at home. Normally we get along great and are very close. We are very affectionate and normally she needs very little discipline because her behavior is usually pretty good for a little kid. She's 7. She's normally very sweet and thoughtful and tries very hard to have good behavior. But lately she's been acting out, I think because she misses her dad. She is in therapy to help her with it but right now it's not helping I guess. This morning she was in a really bad mood and had a tantrum. 

I lost my temper on her and yelled a lot and said she was ungrateful and a brat. I feel like the worst mom ever. I tried to apologize before I dropped her off at school but she needed space and wasn't ready to talk. She was crying but as we pulled up to drop off. I hated to say goodbye to her under such circumstances. I tried to tell her that I loved her and hoped she'd have a good day but she was not ready to say the usual ""love you mom"" like she normally does. It broke my heart to let her go like that. I feel so, so bad. I cried all the way home. 

My friends say I shouldn't try to make it up to her because that would be spoiling her but I really want to show her how sorry I am. They say that just apologizing the once is enough. But it feels like that's not good enough. Can I please get some advice? ",0.8883986833188118,3.0211951309904173,2.397269822828928,94.76890115209606,83.31309904153355,5.838667828444186,18.430535385806948,7.106945922332613,0.09172928647497304,1168,28,265,16,33,379,150,313,0.193,0.633,0.175,-0.8284,0,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,3,1,1,3,7,28,4,0,12,0,23,3,1,2,2,55,48,23,0,10,11,7,4,4,1,2,0,6,2,1,11,20,0,1,5,1,0,5,6,12,0,0,14,12,56,15,33,29,8,35,0,5,1,2,58,19,0,5,12,171,67,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546880500156844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896857583978946,0.18831611921837166,0.0,0.065717514431158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696682774981052,0.04980731917294065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06758497956542535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595996177202457,0.0,0.0,0.06985945898233703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11715026813778348,0.11034704856093787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059668135600487865,0.0,0.08069955535006139,0.0,0.04389190446939991,0.25910930309746016,0.0,0.08514696008636798,0.08507816393287221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918340810078152,0.07624918446478537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915185801179182,0.15529804020387314,0.0,0.15493708832183942,0.07670736763514359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17423886106003733,0.0,0.0,0.07897347552879391,0.0,0.15092379340469236,0.15481061161148704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861254891525362,0.13131731299030044,0.13940718324158768,0.0,0.0515519955012243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27135447956944164,0.06164469257748115,0.0,0.0,0.11453095663660814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026781871610697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224802107465116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477595803825945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07857123982920769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895174290916654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06595447241626368,0.07346394389958771,0.2456673501639211,0.0,0.1563228906167963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645328392334553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207499506931088,0.06750290958137313,0.0,0.08831987092370082,0.0,0.0,0.049486221531134314,0.0,0.061312434330097726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20973791055029567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011709166471992,0.3186164826271983,0.04555258260849178,0.061302020169300885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715934986881628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05622476421534855,0.0,0.0,0.05486237077418705,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ellergy,2019/03/27,"I made a terrible mistake A few days ago I tried to commit suicide (for the second time) by taking an overdose of sleeping pills. I spend two days in ICU and was transferred to a psychiatric hospital where I stayed for a week (I should have stayed longer). I was only recently diagnosed with bi-polar and have been taking the wrong meds for years. When I did it I was not thinking clearly, I believed my daughter will be better off without me. I am really struggling to forgive myself. Now, instead of supporting me, my husband filed for divorce and want full-custody of a daughter. The worst is he wants to move to Ireland and take her with him. He said that the court would see me as an unfit parent. I don't want to loose my daughter, I plan to see my doctors regularly and take my new meds religiously. I'll even go back to the psychiatric hospital if I have to. I don't know what else to do.",3.6249878934624684,5.245485175141248,4.740714285714287,83.5923305084746,72.954802259887,7.543018563357546,29.59200968523002,8.192908349453996,2.1271907990314767,704,30,136,11,14,231,110,177,0.127,0.789,0.084,-0.8916,1,0,0,0,1,2,21.0,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,1,12,0,17,4,1,1,2,22,32,8,1,7,3,5,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,3,7,0,0,3,0,1,2,4,5,0,2,7,3,25,3,24,21,2,18,0,0,2,0,12,3,0,1,11,98,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459643323907628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808064015192133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836104713924895,0.0,0.12431237513561988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129692329083286,0.0,0.0,0.14266369412079774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386735418224472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11741840578380235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092837417424362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988250893455531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07724715404008417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299964183387208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122571220117302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493912058385536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13575206141286428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690090472660216,0.0,0.0,0.15607333451142766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004523251596545,0.0,0.1387843431088281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370311053642736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22401349991546046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065978817714006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996328463747732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694203133932976,0.0,0.15374794333241615,0.1595038689429384,0.0,0.0,0.4227293314627458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006406947673433,0.0,0.0,0.08196066263179237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542984472871076,0.0,0.13730501434319198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248714743495704,0.0,0.11274737280382632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354931648033154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09984856835262773,0.15367841251661274,0.0,0.09051492307883004
parenting,strock4,2019/03/27,"We believe our daughter may be on the autism spectrum. We have so many questions on what we should do My wife and I believe that our daughter who is 22 months old may be on the autism spectrum. She has always been behind on things from rolling, to crawling to even walking but eventually she was able to do them. She still does not say any words though. We already are enrolled in a help me grow program and have had speech and OT coming to the house to do a session every couple weeks. She exhibits other red flags like walking on her tippy toes, flapping her hands, and not being very sociable. She is super attached to her mom, and usually doesn't even like me picking her up which crushes me. But I will say she's made huge strides lately. She makes more eye contact and lets me hold her a little more. I also feel terrible for her older sister who is 4. We envisioned them being best friends and experiencing life together. I myself grew up with 2 mentally handicapped brothers so I know the feeling of not having the normal sibling relationship. We are looking for any advice that would be helpful. Our main concern now is if we should get the ADOS done now or wait? What are the pros and cons of having it and not having it done? I don't want to get it done and have her labeled that way if she is possibly just behind on things like she was with crawling and walking. And maybe therapy could help correct these things enough where she could live a normal life. Are there any benefits to having it done? This whole thing has been weighing pretty heavy on my wife and me,and I just needed somewhere to let some of this out. If anyone has any advice for us it would be greatly appreciated. I'll probably end up posting something over on r/Autism as well, just figured I might be able to reach some more people on this sub. ",4.921295774647888,6.1484405098591575,5.1051830985915485,83.75270422535212,69.25352112676056,7.370140845070423,29.411267605633803,7.554174236665415,1.7566484507042253,1451,54,275,15,25,456,191,355,0.034,0.816,0.15,0.9931,0,0,1,0,0,0,28.0,11,0,2,2,15,10,0,0,11,0,52,6,3,3,1,64,64,24,0,13,13,7,3,3,1,8,2,3,0,0,22,24,1,2,5,0,0,6,6,1,1,0,10,10,45,9,37,35,9,36,0,0,3,0,48,18,0,10,13,214,67,2,0.1865853754430014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823290694249169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295080077031617,0.0746061286651644,0.0776269897056815,0.0,0.0,0.2537689071727917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523241641790656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21021782363703165,0.0979049200622781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036338977295987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897323970105555,0.1032265845085606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164105971341358,0.3818832402737529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826296305844887,0.09639628512370146,0.0,0.12323788075151634,0.0,0.07860311308599226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434317208722924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207769911111357,0.0,0.09748315764159424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285551756507452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875963661627944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764723591459097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05127122135717537,0.0,0.1052382152933048,0.0,0.0,0.19079618793642206,0.13179076866049985,0.1367342844751421,0.09350378196540292,0.08237915245935737,0.0,0.0783423613222544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827579684490428,0.06227359348369425,0.09458414248325636,0.09372504420575016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401708654894304,0.09896879875132103,0.0,0.1092632683202697,0.07446533327514347,0.0,0.0,0.06917534583813896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828140521078601,0.0,0.0,0.097894982244462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467740302122255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517348792208207,0.08934860635640371,0.0949122027394211,0.10058529636433312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450916128267948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016143279916258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838017954087795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182126887635125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450366092546802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668831894789164,0.0,0.2479180652241985,0.0,0.09165959201352686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122196165032976,0.0,0.10274871523358904,0.0769762377708908,0.05502644434833272,0.07405139309615294,0.07483376676201305,0.0,0.08388133026301126,0.0,0.0,0.10415795416710467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325448973187583,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,akashyy,2019/03/27,"My 2yo son is a troublemaker and a handful in kindergarten. What can I do at home to fix it when I can't reproduce the situations? He started kinergarten late - on the 1st of February this year and hasn't adapted to the kindergarten's routines at all.

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I keep being told every single day about the various ways he misbehaves:

1) He steals food from other kids sitting next to him and eats it himself - if the teacher tries to reprimand him and takes the food away, he'll drop to the floor angrily and cause a fit. He starts crying and hitting with his feet on the ground, but no tears. Just pointless baby rage.

2) He refuses to ""make a train"" and follow the other kids to the dining room in a line holding each other. Instead he'll again drop to the floor and cry until the teacher supposedly carries him. Only him. All the other kids do it, except my son.

3) He will often take off his shoes and so the teacher has to keep putting them on.

4) Doesn't follow any sort of instructions - doesn't speak nor understand the language. Won't stay seated when told. We're a bilingual (sometimes trilingual) family. My son is probably still confused by so many languages and just doesn't talk at all yet.

5) This week he supposedly also hit another child. I don't know how often this happens.

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I don't know what to do to help my son become sociable and follow routines of the kindergarten. I can't reproduce these situations at home but I'm sure there is a way to improve his behaviour. At home he still throws fits, and in those cases I ignore it entirely and wait for him to get back up. I don't carry him, even though he loves to protest about it and drops to the floor. 

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Any advice anyone? please :(

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parenting,Jada_Li,2019/03/27,"What do you think of bedtime stories? Dear parents,

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I'm curious to learn about how you approach the age-old tradition between parent and child(ren), of reading bedtime stories.

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That's why I made this simple questionnaire.

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It won't take you a minute.

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I appreciate your insight.

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Thank you! :)

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parenting,puns_within_puns,2019/03/27,"Road trip with two young children? My SO and I are thinking about taking a three week long road trip this summer with our two young kids (one will be be almost 3 years old, and the other will be 5 months). Each day would be about 4-5 hours of driving, which we could split up. The trip itself is a really unique opportunity. Obviously the kids won't remember it, but it would be really special for SO and I. Is this idea feasible, or is this just a disaster waiting to happen?",2.9508684210526286,4.7318942315789485,4.319144736842105,85.24713815789475,75.10526315789474,7.697368421052633,22.40131578947368,8.472884824447931,1.2511315789473685,372,10,77,7,8,123,67,95,0.059,0.875,0.067,-0.2456,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,0,1,19,19,7,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,8,7,0,1,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,0,5,2,8,8,1,17,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,10,55,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305950055883633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838621139323624,0.0,0.0,0.14851338459271876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036383598504489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267822159771753,0.0,0.0,0.2599613025672177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379307178460654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380957033787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416431087214965,0.0,0.15604561595092278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950501752516074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26086557311607794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17314404084353302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14755594905189354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4499057575058214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847190082996844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271726527647252,0.0,0.0,0.1482946024519365
parenting,costdown5566,2019/03/27,"Should I get my 10 year old a cellphone? So, I’m a fairly new parent who just started to learn about parenting a while ago. I’m now a soon to be step mom of a 10 year old girl. My fiancé went through a pretty bad divorce and the mom took the kid away for about 2 years.

We just started to see the girl about 6 weeks ago. We got alone pretty well so far and she talked to me about a lot of things. I guess it was because I’m fairly young (25) like her siblings and am not in the part of the messy divorce.

My fiancé wanted to communicate/contact to my step daughter as much as possible to make up the two years without her, but I told him I’m not sure if it’s good to get a 10 year old a cellphone.

Last week when my step daughter came over, she asked for a cellphone too. Her mom basically refused to let her call or text us when she’s with her. When my fiancé or I texted or called she’d just ignore us. My step daughter is getting kinda depressed when she can’t talk to us and when she asks to, her mom just starts to talk s**t about me and her dad. She said it’s not necessary to be a smart phone if we’re worried that she’d get addicted to cellphone, she just wants to talk to her dad.

Any parents in similar situations that can provide some advices or recommendations?

I guess we can try to talk to her mom but I believe she would either ignore me or yell at me. She’s kinda mean to me, when I went picking up my step daughter and put my hand on my step daughter’s shoulder she once yelled at me and said things like “get your f**king hands off her you bi**h.” I really don’t wanna get into a fight with her in front of the sweet girl so...",3.417295652173916,3.7751436885714327,4.47106832298137,90.11106211180127,72.11428571428571,7.229813664596272,26.07453416149068,6.8959733430537185,0.864890683229814,1281,38,296,10,23,419,164,350,0.08,0.8440000000000001,0.076,-0.0934,3,1,0,0,3,0,34.0,6,2,0,0,23,12,1,0,19,0,14,4,3,2,1,52,44,28,0,7,19,15,2,2,0,2,1,4,0,4,8,14,0,3,2,0,0,12,6,5,1,1,9,8,56,7,49,28,5,52,0,1,1,0,73,13,0,13,29,188,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284100023710976,0.0,0.07425716137367769,0.13472221192217065,0.0,0.0,0.07870337215881977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05167623229523434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14208195681912744,0.0,0.07139569567087152,0.0,0.06344899954404737,0.0463231809943616,0.0,0.0,0.08561541449574858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518985317400946,0.08691303333158516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545061581869145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382117977469897,0.0,0.0,0.06373733270696877,0.0607766464119845,0.0,0.16742448614121289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194250346545799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770556478878868,0.0,0.0742503639864638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06460451375688156,0.0,0.0,0.05072433370304407,0.0,0.0,0.0827760703878224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4449965204925748,0.0,0.0,0.05586185455275963,0.0,0.0,0.07339222123414542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239218140600247,0.0809275378546021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531357957145837,0.08229044397661796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856680143160463,0.0,0.15461957388105327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639156904311874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04868154160689267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14456897620639722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055469130309909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541664880500964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135967106636967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162026678172524,0.0,0.0,0.3053919381681124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096959214934388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07261230075366051,0.0844283828273078,0.05159264768266703,0.0,0.07423180086072796,0.0,0.2742221039660109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964248149089571,0.0,0.12191019484000185,0.0,0.06832469992004425,0.14088814538093186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325225284584233,0.0,0.0,0.07717217054901528,0.0,0.0539815612535097,0.0,0.0,0.24467736218713615
parenting,Panden44,2019/03/27,Stepparents Its the graduation of my stepson. My wife does not want me to attend because his real dad will attend. I feel left out and i think i should go to. But i thinm i need a second opinion on what i should do or not do,0.4437500000000014,2.431647541666667,2.904,91.34100000000001,84.0,5.506666666666668,20.016666666666666,6.742157984588678,0.2305366666666666,174,5,39,2,5,60,37,48,0.03,0.97,0.0,-0.0572,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,10,3,0,4,4,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,10,0,5,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,30,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599216752109982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.373134305882248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155941762335673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423256678236505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632709326815026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161607008052786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4853219735602269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732116964521678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514942136855904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,You-Done,2019/03/27,"Name a thing you got/bought for your firstborn that you found completely useless? Howdy!   
We're expecting our first baby soon and the market is full of stuff. I am flooded with adds everywhere for babystuff they want me to buy, and they try to make me believe you need ALL THE THINGS. 

So I'm asking the people who've been through this before: What did you get that turned out completely useless and a waste of money in the end?",4.7806425702811275,6.146493108433738,4.3062048192771085,88.82790160642574,69.72289156626506,7.461044176706826,27.086345381526108,7.793537801064563,1.4103429718875504,340,11,68,4,6,102,65,83,0.119,0.865,0.016,-0.8625,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,5,2,1,2,2,0,0,6,0,4,0,0,1,1,13,12,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,11,0,10,9,2,6,0,2,0,0,10,3,0,0,3,46,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22391486154796653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20381023254280795,0.2698521911208154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5022553410014197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213983171310766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373194506603284,0.0,0.2626166191377611,0.0,0.0,0.12513707559060672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19156259769160466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15987859982374528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759786799232755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16605003913860705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741881903702144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182471969393845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626154484550595,0.2605243195626676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412725745141756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellfirewana,2019/03/27,"AITA for explaining child support to my 12yo So a couple of months ago I explained to my daughter (12) what child support is and that it is supposed to be used for ""supporting"" the child of two people who are not in a personal relationship with each other but have a child together. I broke it down so that she would have a better grasp of the concept. I explained that it wasn't for toys, or things that she wanted but for things that she needed like clothes, food, personal care items and other things related to the child. I told her that Everytime I get paid part of my paycheck goes to her mother for these reasons. 

If my kids ask a question I do my best to teach them everything I can about it based on there muturity. She asked the question after seeing something on TV.

The about a week ago I got a message from my ex straight freaking the fuck out about how dare I tell ""her""duaghter about her income and it's not my place to discuss child support with ""her"" duaghter and she will use it for what ever she wants. Knew this was happening anyway... 

When I asked my daughter what she was talking to her mother about she told me that she needed ""girl stuff"" and asked her mother to get her some. Her mom told her that she didn't have any money for her right now. Evidently my daughter being the person I raised her to be considered this and then asked why not because dad said he just got paid and you should have the money from him to buy me the things I need.( Love my daughter to death but she is a smartass and has trouble turning on the social filter). 

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parenting,HardAtWorkPainting,2019/03/27,How to explain to a 5 year old where the world comes from? Usually I have a pretty good ELI5 explenation for these kinds of questions and I started out with a big bang and dust clumping together. Then I had to explain gravity and suns and I just gave up...,2.2329411764705887,4.472012686274514,3.6585882352941184,86.99964705882354,79.0,7.217254901960787,27.84705882352941,8.238735603445708,2.0080870588235293,201,9,41,4,5,66,40,51,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,12,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,9,5,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,5,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036144244845559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956280337363722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670344760392215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36984911634574813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585801182939508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948376113283467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24947410596868336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38818661246504893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269736884526912
parenting,Adviceplease739384,2019/03/27,"Wife claims I'm being unreasonable for wanting our kids to play outside more. Am I or is there a middle ground? My brother met this girl when he was in college that came from a small town. He ended up marrying her and they moved back to her small town. They run a pretty successful business from there and they started a family. My nieces and my nephew are (8F, 10M, and 13F). I went there for a week to visit my brother and it's just a different world. 

I was stunned to see that my nieces and nephews barely sat in front of the TV. They were all out with friends. My oldest niece was playing a game called Mafia with her friends. My nephew and his friends were playing outside every day. Walking around town. Just having fun outside. 

It got me thinking about my kids (10M and 7M) and just how attached they are to technology. They play video games, on their phones all the time. 

And I suggested to my wife that we should encourage to play outside more and get out of the house. Let us take them to the park without complaints. And she said to me that I'm being unreasonable. That their world is different to hours and they come from a small town. 

What do you think? Any advice?",2.1024499284692446,4.4690998798283275,2.6297263948497864,93.50035497138771,80.24463519313305,5.6000715307582265,23.01305436337625,6.816661863887847,0.5816668097281825,924,31,194,10,24,285,129,233,0.006,0.841,0.153,0.9862,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,1,10,1,11,11,0,0,12,0,16,0,0,1,2,33,32,16,0,2,5,7,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,3,9,21,0,0,2,9,0,8,1,0,0,0,11,2,34,11,28,17,4,35,0,0,1,0,43,18,0,1,9,126,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16840371284964425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719367160839204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15341463738327488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13251493441543385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759732461329877,0.1971052655030804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845129476759233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114178203346613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36010667393310025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15263760875555474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519962315359236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246204788487145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39943665096046094,0.0,0.0900378954323132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783199789746148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971520571242435,0.1988513873645791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762241563969778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18316477230438194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532659368547618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639299961488913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732863817119673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12197956044055625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957443061848425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208505472047644,0.0,0.0,0.10048989178849152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072977187162227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164761507752404,0.0,0.13823669707738973,0.0,0.0,0.1597562197351897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612473633032726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,junior1976S,2019/03/27,"Slime/putty/flarp accident :/ So my youngest went to bed fidgeting with her noise putty the other night and accidentally fell asleep with it in her hands. Resulting in it all over the bed sheets, pillow case, comforter and her stuffed Mickey Mouse. How on earth can I remove this? It’s basically ruined an entire bed in a bag?? I’ve tried freezing and soaking in warm water.....advice please? 

Also this was very much an accident, so am I right in not handing down a punishment? She knows no putty in the bedroom, but I also didn’t flinch when I saw her with it and allowed her to have it at her bedside so that’s my screw up. 

Thanks in advance",3.242538181818184,5.303074592000005,4.22901818181818,84.98250909090909,75.08,6.785454545454545,24.96363636363636,7.686295010490155,1.335,504,17,97,7,11,163,85,125,0.121,0.794,0.085,-0.3801,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,1,7,6,2,0,7,0,5,4,3,3,1,14,9,12,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,9,7,0,0,1,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,4,5,13,3,17,5,2,19,0,1,1,1,7,13,1,0,2,67,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30872050923552496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5052939085631742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362538641193112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322429226399429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29647637730796994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34679331328960394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26980019506451897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29086341928189524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21449390430170645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606731159065158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928677799059249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gordon-Lee,2019/03/27,Daughter is on drugs. My wife found a small tin containing a white powder substance in my 17yo daughter's room. What now. What's next,1.2034615384615392,3.845155115384621,1.468076923076925,96.11442307692309,94.0,4.138461538461539,21.884615384615387,5.985473137389443,0.3102615384615386,107,4,21,1,4,32,21,26,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,10,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6046808626362903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5717093627677213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5545353540444088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flowereater9427,2019/03/27,"Is it alright to let other people raise your kids if they are young and you need to work? As a baby I was raised by a maid/nanny in my grandparents house.My father and mother lived and worked in another state.The reason this happened is that my parents worked in different states but each wanted a child near them like in The Parent Trap movie only my mother couldnt really take care of me as she was working so she left me with my grandparents while seeing me on the weekends.My sister was raised by my aunt who lived next door to my father.

I only saw my mother on weekends and I did not see my father and older sister till I moved back home when I was about 2 or 3 and my mother quit her job.

I was told I was extremely attached to the maid but when her visa expired and she left I did not exhibit distress and when a new maid/nanny came I immediately formed a bond like the old one never existed.

I dont feel like the experience negatively impacted me.I barely remember it.But I knew this girl who lived with her grandparents with her sister and her parents worked in another state.I felt that was wrong but the same thing literally happened to me as a baby.",3.6371394799054393,5.0770306170212764,4.967198581560286,82.70361111111113,72.61702127659575,7.945626477541372,24.119385342789602,8.515128840125781,1.5138888888888893,925,26,183,16,18,308,124,235,0.048,0.885,0.067,0.4701,8,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,2,6,6,7,0,1,12,1,15,0,0,1,1,31,29,23,0,4,7,14,2,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,9,14,0,0,5,1,1,2,6,2,0,1,14,5,36,5,24,13,3,26,0,0,3,0,32,10,0,2,16,124,45,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414800755667144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853973895621957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316957128758653,0.11739845423179215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030248155454593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494960284652818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263433894133792,0.0,0.0,0.0582209962358661,0.0822599282233301,0.1105576834872668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364547176696896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550026874935332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426408596789073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250211723702734,0.11774401786483613,0.0,0.16876274319842818,0.0,0.3050266099267181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223813843876948,0.0,0.08537888774681555,0.08880726492863733,0.11120818736240642,0.1224584860241994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082577396263995,0.0,0.07802553286333315,0.17514659767693466,0.0,0.0,0.3835661671575384,0.0,0.0,0.07982735272802896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247135326047914,0.0,0.0,0.07376511991425275,0.1183886939111181,0.0,0.0,0.13043734182498454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351202192459815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657504388445136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649751658167499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002640622180253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791576620542829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191362731531604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589346721393602,0.0,0.0
parenting,sweetteadolly,2019/03/27,"I’m considering filing a grievance with my daughter’s pediatrician’s office tomorrow. My eight year old daughter has been coughing for almost 9 days, so after a few trips to urgent care and being told it was viral and later being told it was allergies, the cough wouldn’t abate so we finally went in to a pediatrician. A doctor sent her for a chest x-ray and said he would look at it and call us later that afternoon. We had the x-ray and went home. 

By 2:30 when I hadn’t heard anything, I called to inquire and was put through to a nurse’s voicemail. By 3:30, I started to get nervous since the office was closing in an hour and a half and still nothing. At 4 pm, I loaded the kids in the car and we drove back to the office because I am nothing if not a strong advocate for my children. 

When I arrived, I was told the doctor left already, as if this was some kind of an answer. I was polite, but I insisted that I needed to know what the x-ray showed today. The receptionist said she would see if there was someone else who could look at it, and they would call me. No, I smiled, I’ll wait. 

A few minutes later a nurse came out and said a different doctor would look at it “later this afternoon” because she was with patients, and they would call me. I understood that she was with patients, I said, and I would be happy to just wait. But it will be later this afternoon, the nurse insisted. By now, it was like 4:15 or so. I asked, what time do you close? And she said, 5. I said, ah, later this afternoon, then? That’s fine. I’ll just wait right here. The nurse said, no one is going to speak with you in person, someone will call you even if you’re out here. And I just smiled and said, that’s fine. I have my phone. I’ll wait right here. 

The nurse went back, and less than five minutes later, someone appeared and guided me back to the office where a different doctor proceeded to tell me the x-ray came back fine, it was just viral, there was nothing that could be done. At my request, she complied with a request to write my daughter an excuse for gym for the week. 

And then.... 

An hour later, we got a call from a different nurse saying the original doctor read the x-rays... 

...and my daughter has bacterial pneumonia. And is on a steroid and a z-pack for the next seven days. 

Wow. Oops, original doctor? There’s a big difference between “I read the x-Ray and it is viral and nothing we can do it will pass”  versus “bacterial pneumonia requiring  antibiotics and steroids.” 

I may file a grievance tomorrow. I typically don’t answer numbers I don’t know due to so many spam calls I get, and I thought I had the final word from a doctor. I just happened to answer this unfamiliar number. I am floored that I had to push so hard to get test results that revealed that my daughter had a pretty serious illness. And to be told originally by a physician who claimed to have read the x-rays that she was fine and there was nothing they could do only to be told an hour later she had bacterial frickin pneumonia. 

I just feel shocked sometimes at how hard I find myself having to advocate for my girls. 

So just proceed with caution, if you use this facility, and be prepared to advocate hard and consider what you’re told carefully.",4.054083972054535,5.191722739469579,5.123816387438108,83.14673387370276,71.21528861154447,8.070012887472021,28.59936919215899,8.456263369488248,1.9881717832191548,2520,94,505,40,46,830,247,641,0.052000000000000005,0.86,0.08800000000000001,0.9713,4,0,0,0,0,0,93.0,6,4,3,2,32,14,0,1,48,1,61,12,1,6,0,103,110,50,0,16,17,5,4,1,0,11,11,11,1,4,31,47,0,5,11,5,0,14,7,3,1,5,48,19,65,11,59,40,4,81,0,0,4,0,65,21,0,10,47,347,96,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052233979407754594,0.0,0.05756346498444991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04292592617702353,0.0,0.04876561543274145,0.0,0.0,0.1604413375106538,0.0,0.06359648981659312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728517123400133,0.1193217676453212,0.10636785945317538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494437832907547,0.0,0.0,0.0672819868999234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21799805684999984,0.0,0.3737392165625413,0.0,0.05338113537040276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357571819948886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03445334752288366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026375316376028583,0.0,0.0,0.11428462397267578,0.047676283280294315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175946601903668,0.0,0.029645588144073764,0.0,0.04171973180227971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612780692243251,0.055528770325222215,0.14018413061039728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05232401241364989,0.0,0.15411093881897822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432001805513244,0.05733513742915359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056675544909222934,0.0,0.0,0.025484338595606386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141202610459884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05288536789593373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038678403355256345,0.0,0.0,0.05547622886308527,0.0,0.0,0.2502603195487157,0.0,0.05473657650467955,0.0,0.035347181390394375,0.03967251700056231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045546954872035535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05306879808712437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243849341127512,0.0,0.0,0.1565321567812443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909429422801067,0.3969537162926927,0.04148232556463236,0.0,0.0,0.041567372168086085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04314999554776549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325933068427883,0.0,0.05159080731936257,0.0,0.036921430615304895,0.0,0.04165765438254916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04559299670788239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04141180926719303,0.03041682191514682,0.0,0.04944468016864894,0.2990654363310014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274599048110087,0.0450523166076222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04184222833069665,0.0,0.0,0.14506762020651806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222331739974452,0.0,0.0,0.033591435300134274
parenting,ipariah,2019/03/27,"I find it hard to engage fully with my 6yo son during activities he enjoys, thoughts? My 6yo son is super energetic and loves doing physical activities. He's not super great at calming himself to focus on more creative endeavors like coloring, building things, reading, or otherwise using his imagination (outside of wanting to race his hot wheels around the house).

Unfortunately, I'm a very analytical, ""left brain"" type of person that much prefers reading, puzzles, creating things, playing board games, etc.

Of course, I understand we don't necessarily enjoy everything about being parents, but I am hoping there may be some psychological tricks to play on myself to really immerse myself when my son wants me to play with him (constantly).

I don't like that I sort of half-ass the experience, but I don't know how to whole-ass it. Him asking me to play is like telling someone to imagine what the color yellow sounds like. I do what I can, but there's no heart or conviction behind it. Not for lack of desire, because I want him to be happy and enjoy his time with me, but because I just don't know how.

I don't know if that makes sense to anyone. Hopefully I'm not alone in this.",7.124796380090497,7.494694420814482,7.752217194570138,69.7619004524887,64.06787330316743,10.419909502262444,34.1945701357466,10.214889679676881,3.551653393665158,941,38,162,20,13,313,136,221,0.06,0.679,0.26,0.9928,1,1,0,0,0,0,35.0,1,0,0,2,8,21,1,0,4,0,15,3,2,4,0,42,31,12,0,9,11,4,2,4,0,1,0,1,0,1,11,7,0,0,9,7,0,0,9,1,0,0,1,6,27,20,27,26,5,9,0,0,3,1,19,6,0,9,7,108,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14974502168561946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109622580522948,0.0,0.0,0.1287100714430371,0.13516616328765027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627366025815722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161403131747943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562435242568226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124895041246026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994243094888647,0.14143051953510974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321468053592092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940394668896773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391194739033512,0.12951852051408325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133228069879455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287208307349098,0.0,0.166830080302574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23837812193380875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709052145937266,0.0,0.0,0.2825450056417225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304923580534201,0.0,0.0965106861625081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106285593513346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054299487191254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12624483634334194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892454840773768,0.0,0.09262396646617646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250522835624085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12637245286672452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921098594794745,0.0,0.0,0.11478324068659805,0.08430786900135691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051664291601172,0.0,0.12487382203699683,0.0,0.11929662493978715,0.25583748764383724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142244350460455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tumblejumble21,2019/03/27,Decisions My 3 year old has never had a playdate. I am thinking of putting her and her sister in preschool next year. She is in daycare some days of the week and has a boy she likes to play with that is a little younger than her. Not sure if preschool is a good idea given she almost never spends time with other kids outside of daycare.,3.7944117647058815,5.024254323529416,3.943411764705882,91.01335294117649,71.94117647058823,6.028235294117647,28.30588235294117,5.6839178017228535,0.945978823529412,266,10,55,1,5,82,49,68,0.029,0.852,0.119,0.7301,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,3,14,9,3,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,8,4,9,7,1,13,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,3,10,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26570502932186546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17112579306396375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22255908227486496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995425913277395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963433019213313,0.26594573976916264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4093013690237208,0.0,0.2821977797568351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784352988238009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667453559429325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500848430621413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002257993148642,0.0,0.0,0.15472500181830326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284402665766305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34174739901439205
parenting,anonymous_01299,2019/03/27,"I’m a 17 year old male and don’t know what to do about my mom. Please help Okay so this whole past year has been a shit storm. My sister lost temporary custody of her son which my mom had to raise fur a few months, this was in December of 2017. The following g summer, her and my step dad got a divorce after being together for 8 years. All of that has passed and now my mom has been going out so much lately and it’s honestly worrying me. I texted her long paragraphs a following morning after she lied to me that she was on the way home explaining to her that I was sick of all the lies she tells people. When she goes out; she usually drinks. For instance l, part Thursday she didn’t come home, the next Friday she took me out to dinner after she got home at like 7. Then the next day she went to go kart with her friend at 12PM, and didn’t come till the next day after telling me she’d come home! She knows how much I hate her drinking but she always finds out a lie or occasion and I’m honestly sick of it. I found out that she made her own fake Facebook account and was commenting encouraging stuff under her own pictures from a different account, where she replied back, it was a full blown conversation. It was just so weird. She never showed up today at home and when I called her she said that she was at work, and that she had to be quiet because everybody was listening to her, which really creeped me out and I honestly thought she was on something, which I would never expect from her because she’s NEVER been like this. I called my aunt and explained it to her and when she tried to call my mom she was being like quietly and unresponsive and said that she’d text her cause she was at work. It turns out she was at a bar in downtown and she u weed to this really small house in the poorer side of town... which is weird because we live in a really nice neighborhood and I don’t see why she’d want to go somewhere 30 minutes away from home. Please help. Idk if it’s alcoholism or what but I’m just trying to get good grades in school and would rather not worry about this crap. ",4.2912037962037965,4.814373284382285,4.825916583416582,87.75228146853145,70.23543123543124,8.459573759573761,25.810939060939063,8.527137837955566,1.4231764235764233,1645,45,361,25,28,525,204,429,0.081,0.809,0.11,0.9302,2,0,4,0,1,0,31.0,1,0,0,3,15,18,3,0,17,1,34,9,2,3,5,57,65,31,0,6,9,8,0,3,1,2,3,5,6,1,26,29,5,0,7,4,2,12,8,7,0,0,29,6,62,11,55,28,10,72,0,1,1,0,67,28,2,3,34,241,88,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080857213828077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295493457388034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108478233016427,0.05817764206415825,0.0,0.13836435965292138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317710506718693,0.0,0.0,0.07772335727630841,0.0,0.195522406490599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975884996214073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904828717386599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823541164152848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915159862578918,0.0,0.0,0.08295696007131823,0.05845449951080454,0.0,0.03952907252136211,0.0,0.1289974598258022,0.06345976993720392,0.12102395362514548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469829367283932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014262093021498,0.0,0.4553571112471825,0.0,0.0,0.0873011399740796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316118912511873,0.0,0.08534744144506014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089052874233624,0.0,0.06680890464764451,0.06695645703327589,0.0,0.0,0.08259150431710162,0.0,0.0,0.0715910411559004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544469228813836,0.06039085377563909,0.0,0.11123717569047507,0.0,0.17506028364065568,0.0,0.2413948601483021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939213185617343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08193208628285728,0.07222574839666815,0.05245291220292605,0.0,0.0,0.16610326928448238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540863098703488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393940851421913,0.0,0.0,0.07657165957278843,0.06029098827182203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07766359874061325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05824653642073195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661225948018574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225983199883978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006535358422745,0.0,0.0,0.07171655259075435,0.0,0.08406071485644917,0.1027359449585281,0.08229603155552913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332847466591159,0.0,0.044626053604768484,0.06005515124505465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013730346905259,0.06827111460851865,0.08447135738228143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016233100785268,0.15367220373373802,0.0,0.10749296566105787,0.0,0.0,0.14616710603146946
parenting,Probably_unique,2019/03/27,"I'm writing this for no reason I dont do nails. One of my biggest fears for as long as I can remember is finger or toenails getting ripped off. I have nightmares about it. 

My 3 year old was playing with 2 lb dumbbells today. One slipped, fell on her toe and yanked the whole nail out of her foot. I cannot believe how much nail pulled out from under the skin. My wife who is okay with nails, and can stand to look at normal nails, went pale when she saw. She said ""her nail is gone""

Since wife was going to panic I jumped up and somehow played it cool. I scooped her up, walked to our bedroom. ""Oh my gosh dude you're so lucky. Now you get elsa bandaids"" ""those darn weights are so mean sometimes"" I was just trying to keep the panic down.

I finally laid her on the bed and got a look at it. Oh my fucking God. I cant believe I'm the one who needs to take care of this. It wasnt totally detached. I had to get scissors and cut the rest off. 

That kid is a trooper. She says shes got no pain. I did random squeezes throughout the night so I could feel for a break and she laughed because I was tickling her. I soaked her foot at dinner time and put vaseline under a new bandaid. 

She doesnt do blood. So once I heard my wife say the toe nail was gone I knew I needed to scoop her up before she saw because then real panic would set in. She glimpsed at it when I was putting her foot in water and just about fainted. 

Theres no reason for me to type this out. I never in my life imagined I'd be taking care of something like this, that happens to be my top 3 worst nightmares. I'll not sleep for weeks. I'm glad I kept my cool for the little one.. dont know how I did.",1.1392130281690136,2.7824519802816923,2.331492077464791,98.10611135563386,79.90140845070422,4.775528169014085,21.79797535211268,4.8782641753992095,-0.2684911971830992,1283,38,304,3,32,409,188,355,0.085,0.812,0.103,0.5568,0,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,1,1,0,1,15,19,2,4,13,3,30,19,10,4,2,41,62,20,0,5,4,3,5,1,0,1,5,4,2,1,14,13,3,2,8,2,0,10,11,8,0,4,21,15,50,11,46,37,5,50,0,0,4,1,30,23,2,4,15,189,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279712537462601,0.0,0.08931739619263326,0.23651898893472495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140374157722348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380592906637138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460361547497982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811469093891545,0.053073405691551064,0.0,0.0,0.11498391385971846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703835575952828,0.16451947901928038,0.0,0.059653969799014564,0.0,0.16790003347959814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928201116359244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329762316934856,0.0,0.0,0.05768596224164976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413981082863,0.051280546621034574,0.10520240191533528,0.0,0.09289063066294108,0.17628815454480232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433754418773255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716127660337066,0.15566028202343524,0.08095539933428808,0.10137575145907697,0.0,0.09850244518017913,0.10284331275893364,0.0,0.0,0.11014300225189956,0.11178418946565784,0.2845077224840811,0.0,0.11169005082793468,0.3694610715225121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103742567423872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947303236002603,0.0,0.21584279168919174,0.0,0.0,0.11890476645159635,0.0,0.09984565362748822,0.16694459792123534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682804735478249,0.0,0.10504070124699327,0.0,0.0,0.0808071057189425,0.10381296693387593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784107878294093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120587546079409,0.0,0.09949444899416326,0.0,0.0,0.07126427488694713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419650887114606,0.12781896666008288,0.0,0.09730351098177907,0.0,0.1171895588247033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456405113492763,0.0,0.0,0.06759395216452603
parenting,Babislug,2019/03/27,"I have been blessed with the most beautiful, amazing, wonderful little boy ... and I hate my life right now. Everyone said parenting is hard, I had no idea it would break me this bad. I have a 2.5 year old and an 8 month old. My 8mo is up to usual baby stuff, but my toddler is an absolute terror right now. 

Every single hour that I spend with him is full of screaming, hitting, throwing things, tantrums, crying, and frustration. Within the first hour of being home with them after work, my toddler earned 4 time-outs for hitting and threw in a fair share if screams and tantrums for good measure. 

I’ve read so many books and blogs and articles. I’ve listened to podcasts, talked to other parents, brought these issues up with his pediatrician, and reached out to anyone who will listen seeking advice.  Every single day I think “today is going to be better! I will implement the strategies I have learned and today is the day they will start working,” and I am always so wrong. 

Just today I thought “I am going to try to really recognize and give attention for all the positive behavior that I see today! That’s gotta help! I’ll make sure he knows how to get positive attention from me and seeks attention in the right ways.” I was giving myself a pep talk and ramping myself up to start on a good foot and see results. And then, waking to the car from daycare, my toddler slapped me across the face. Hard.  I was immediately overcome with so many feelings - sadness, frustration, rage. I was immediately so deflated and disappointed, and it was impossible to reach that level of positivity and preparedness for the remainder of the evening. 

If he doesn’t get his way, he melts down fast and hard. He isn’t motivated by sticker charts or toys or attention or special play time. He is highly motivated by food (like a cookie after dinner) but I am so hesitant to use food as a reward. We minimize screen time, ensure he gets healthy food, try to get him lots of exercise to get his wiggles out ... things are constantly getting worse and nothing ever seems to improve. 

When he is happy, this little man is the sweetest, silliest, smartest little kiddo and I love him so much it hurts. But in this moment - in most of my moments these days - all I want to do is cry. 

I’m not sure what I’m looking for, and I’m sure I’ll get plenty of hate for saying all of this. I just needed to vent in an appropriate direction so I can build up my stores of positivity for tomorrow. 

Wish me luck. ",4.517161146347191,6.137986625792817,5.475392882311488,79.20854151984969,70.69133192389006,8.469086210946676,29.840791637303266,8.998388855275968,2.5538095372327927,1946,79,360,38,36,639,251,473,0.14,0.649,0.211,0.9916,2,0,0,0,1,1,66.0,1,0,2,8,15,31,7,1,20,0,33,10,3,6,7,74,74,41,0,6,11,2,4,1,0,5,2,6,1,2,19,30,4,0,14,6,2,6,4,15,0,1,10,14,42,16,60,55,10,64,1,3,4,1,32,24,0,11,32,233,61,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579915805585445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06454330601982472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05423778290562038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06476655794480572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860314114825901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382412183593327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041097421479207,0.15007602909240406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051233342170922944,0.07016525798955732,0.13070981629598796,0.07412014087003556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039221025122795364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597982883967914,0.28138885086430315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836848182253943,0.14882177752877435,0.0881680690234691,0.13012175705457707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257323874009989,0.20845874339860695,0.15316590701962626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05199261114104554,0.08195550620748414,0.07780765076495456,0.0,0.15277893206266185,0.0,0.08303881239190189,0.08756553068481203,0.0,0.08096148668013586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042629685147048055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054789010526450965,0.03789610975830891,0.2332324067808957,0.0,0.0,0.06513810493372596,0.0,0.0,0.06594606713737568,0.07000870834267854,0.0,0.051777656410629376,0.15728481230730276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061914532711733576,0.0,0.057021861113569675,0.05751614911754632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07442918325847905,0.0,0.16279043721174136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17226154653204667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775896115154891,0.0,0.049692444451176286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872953384117967,0.07378552098361099,0.06168568027495265,0.0,0.0,0.12362429514398653,0.07061555868863226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980693744766097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879751216543165,0.0,0.0,0.2193225200653097,0.0,0.0,0.12469343757271086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306628926535052,0.049702839833591125,0.0,0.06158082005511666,0.13569265894082105,0.0,0.2941039289061471,0.0,0.0,0.10532800295285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699438279017693,0.0854308764981001,0.0,0.045751982013252715,0.12314072061587425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920008526883487,0.0,0.08411985990855769,0.1129417588982304,0.0,0.07904905100439058,0.05510252234078795,0.08480910942145348,0.0,0.049951648315192665
parenting,AOMPlaya1,2019/03/28,"I think I’m doing alright I’m (21) a single father of the most precious lil man. He’s almost one, and I absolutely cannot wait to spend the rest of my life raising him and teaching him. However there’s a problem:mom(19) doesn’t want me around. I’ve been fighting for him for the past year, since before he was born. But just the other day she texted me something. “I want to solve this out of court, the fighting is getting out of hand, and it’s only going to hurt *insert baby name* and drain us of money.” Now normally I would’ve been happy to hear that and jump at the chance to resolve this peacefully. But I had suggested that same exact thing for the same exact reasons a year ago. And since then, I have gotten everything I wanted through the courts despite her fighting me every step of the way. She has spread rumors about me, she has lied to her lawyers, put my son at risk a few times, and because of he fighting I’ve lost my best friend. But I’m winning the fight to see my son, I’m getting time to grow with him and see him before I deploy next year. 

So I met with her, and we talked, and while it may not seem like it’s in my favor, the agreement is pretty much on my terms in favor of my son’s growth. I know there’s different parents of different backgrounds here, and I doubt any of my friends would even know this is me posting, so I thought I’d post this since I’m proud of myself. 

Single dads out there, you all still fighting? Keep it up, because even if the fight never ends, you have to keep up the fight. You kid(s) will see it, the courts will see it, and you will see it. It is worth it to see the smile on your toddler’s face as you pick him up, something I never thought I’d see. Every moment I have with him is a memory forever seared into my brain, and I wouldn’t change it for all the things I could’ve bought had I spent my money on anything but a lawyer. Keep it up fellas, you have more riding on your fight than just you. 

Sorry for the long read, like I said I’m very proud of myself and I wanted to get this out there. ",2.4123200329082692,3.7426797459207455,3.413866035924862,93.06025606746195,75.55011655011656,5.979459755930344,21.94165638283285,6.2272716619740125,0.17385473741944324,1597,40,357,10,34,512,200,429,0.077,0.8140000000000001,0.11,0.8963,4,0,2,0,15,0,52.0,2,9,0,6,15,28,9,2,23,1,25,4,3,2,6,65,63,24,0,8,8,6,1,2,2,6,1,2,0,1,21,24,0,4,8,1,6,7,6,13,0,1,13,10,60,15,53,44,13,48,0,2,7,0,52,18,0,6,22,232,81,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899259300576812,0.0,0.08923300107169235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059935518468448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733317518593858,0.07932875533061562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864394611139727,0.0,0.1516558460543544,0.0,0.09351776135667177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947869195064726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426889702856883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114884456282454,0.0,0.0,0.05747000015334025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620657530866752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892696372230057,0.0,0.0,0.1177155419246671,0.0,0.1501617521732598,0.0,0.08008830386184419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769573705434615,0.0,0.1396723474186344,0.0,0.050644519690536086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948615992524724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043593150776237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953964585101886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376210667755933,0.0,0.0,0.09794747476011273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629425857493427,0.08707144425896501,0.0,0.0,0.07886149722349825,0.0,0.0,0.09727649844361824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436713747710727,0.0,0.0,0.06550772405344366,0.0,0.13745765217148356,0.0,0.09477184096868216,0.0,0.08731104058301609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06038473634697085,0.06777384744885723,0.0,0.0,0.09894855792908658,0.0,0.08506768292441498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706897189941885,0.09065914889645127,0.0,0.08526834531457173,0.0,0.0895823789766929,0.0,0.0,0.08913632002377772,0.0,0.0,0.09162218835220022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476611344037167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4970762298976057,0.08112440460758383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22114361049728784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13720585806800134,0.0,0.09975381776882923,0.0,0.0,0.07116512202036712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162501486508469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840437868135935,0.05709950276801073,0.0,0.14149027367313913,0.10392408670853928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719101051323016,0.0,0.0,0.0735269017064053,0.2102427492959569,0.07073312049374024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266055073495331,0.0,0.0,0.17215601507616896
parenting,sarcasticmonkey1987,2019/03/28,"At my wits end My 7 year old is special needs. He has some developmental delays, cognitive delays, speech delays, the list goes on and on. Because of this he is mentally 4 years old. He has an IEP and yearly potty training has been a goal for the last 5 years. A new IEP is due in May and we would like to be done with this issue. 
Here is the problem, HE REFUSES TO POOP ON THE POTTY. We are at are wits end. We are sick of changing diapers. We have tried everything. When he needs to go he crosses his legs. We have rushed him to the bathroom and nothing. I have had him sit on the potty for an hour, nothing but a tiny piece. We know he needs to go. He wears underwear at school because he knows what to do when he needs to pee.  
We are afraid to try suppositories/ child laxatives because we are afraid it will scar and terrify him. 
I dont let him wear underwear at home because we are sick of washing shit out of his underwear. Not only that when we do laundry our laundry comes out smelling like literal shit. We are at our wits end. We don't know what else to try or do. Any advice welcome. Please help my husband and I. ",1.2391884057971012,3.4296968826086984,2.8718478260869595,91.54182971014495,82.34782608695652,6.0942028985507255,23.06159420289855,7.333567415737692,0.8678550724637688,873,31,190,13,24,287,120,230,0.092,0.8390000000000001,0.07,-0.81,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,14,0,0,1,4,9,2,2,11,0,30,10,7,0,0,40,40,11,0,6,3,1,0,2,0,3,3,1,1,1,6,22,0,4,3,0,0,5,3,5,0,0,3,2,26,4,28,32,2,37,0,0,0,0,35,12,2,3,21,116,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11810358289628625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218935482782093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947020082847695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278544928984082,0.10411070813681532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368235922727205,0.1416477271122048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009635256825916,0.0,0.3211398639680998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862171723772816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737573234053238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101031485555632,0.0,0.12123303962443352,0.0,0.11902334887659767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614706942375434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19926548062303084,0.09851752285577436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358815557671685,0.0,0.11809277187456872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179906155307772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35846642413488594,0.0,0.1167279239351859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23193801726381386,0.0,0.25364574474286816,0.0,0.0,0.09191993510565497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266864882219315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564727491377162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223173831238231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481233452410732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461692487179562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585590502567693,0.0,0.0,0.3113210641866141
parenting,_notthemama_,2019/03/28,"Help, Sleep My LO is 6 months, and for the past two months has been waking every hour fussing/screaming. It got so bad that we started bed sharing, which really triggered my PPA - I’d barely be able to sleep because I’d be so anxious about rolling on her. I know it works for some but with my anxiety it is more harmful than helpful. 

In my desperation I also started nursing to sleep EVERY time she woke up because it would get her back to sleep the fastest. My husband works out of town, and we have no family or friends nearby to lean on, so I’m on my own in this the majority of the time. 

Things have gotten so bad with my sleep deprivation that my husband and I agreed it was time to consult a sleep consultant. We are starting a ‘gentle’ sleep training approach tomorrow and I am SO anxious about it. 

The plan is that we lay her in the crib awake (we have never done this), after her bedtime routine. Then sit on the ground or in a chair facing away from the crib. If she cries pick her up and  console her until she settles, then put her back in the crib awake. On repeat until she falls asleep. All night.

I have a strong hunch that the minute she calms and we put her in the crib again she will cry again, forever and ever and the thought of it is already breaking my heart. 

We’ve laid the groundwork this week by breaking the nursing to sleep association and changing it to rocking to sleep, which was so hard in and of itself for her. We’ve started doing the crib for half the night and bedsharing for half the night. We introduced a lovey but she couldn’t care less about it. We also got blackout curtains and a white noise machine. 

Tomorrow is going to be the hardest. No rocking to sleep, no bedsharing at all.

I’m desperately looking for some reassurance that I won’t scar my baby emotionally or make her feel like she’s abandoned. That’s my biggest fear, that she will think we have abandoned her. My aunt-in-law said that she would cry until she thought she was abandoned in the woods and I broke down and now I am so upset. I don’t think that sleep trained babies are scarred emotionally by default, but that comment just shook me to my core and made me question everything I am doing. I have a very sensitive baby and am sensitive myself so this is all just very nerve wracking, and those comments with my PPA and isolation just did not mix well.

Please share your tales of success or tips, I am so anxious for tomorrow. Thank you.",4.334801422643746,5.618941502074691,4.738948429164196,85.61509128630706,70.70124481327802,7.417285121517488,29.53906342620036,7.760100539840176,1.7840558861885003,1932,76,385,23,35,611,220,482,0.162,0.757,0.081,-0.9922,0,1,0,0,0,0,46.0,9,2,0,5,24,22,0,3,26,0,38,15,15,4,5,67,62,42,0,4,12,2,2,1,1,5,0,1,2,0,28,31,0,3,7,2,0,6,8,11,1,3,14,5,63,11,56,39,9,64,0,5,2,0,48,22,0,8,34,276,91,5,0.06608707353322985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292872900310668,0.10569961765584376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05055643036464603,0.22397874646484767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209098103789959,0.1016337604709104,0.11035989188268258,0.08057213325563456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738017593969284,0.0,0.06991136096492302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778064119905124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06763002116634062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867812529593585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977954156717001,0.1113624195277111,0.0,0.05939480037256601,0.0,0.062301011328205126,0.07436633102499797,0.0334156100727815,0.047212618536961085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051058709075699406,0.0,0.03452776827774216,0.0,0.03755880686614175,0.0,0.1057117397471699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05920103706163575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831350033373033,0.0885935446672031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650824552030223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03631972728757876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032286805941311086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05549649731312732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253318689573074,0.04411363475796711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550014317352999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050970425247677885,0.0,0.0,0.1860547249493953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06308758959570784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07254376116376926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287152454617385,0.0740326470945146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042337071561619456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286394071766309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7274828091010962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871070831804833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06084409823104747,0.0,0.0,0.043905315107862684,0.08469185648204297,0.0,0.10493150877527296,0.11560771210618065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455746801460271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10905751372631617,0.0,0.0,0.05301106407753277,0.0,0.05942021584483932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622435325087662,0.0,0.0,0.093892721814471,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Allegiance_to_Mhysa,2019/03/28,"Son (4) is picking up behaviors from autistic friend My son goes to a daycare and is best friends with a little boy who is autistic. My son is the only kid the boy will play with and my son just adores him, and I love that they are so close. I have noticed though that my son has picked up and mimicks a lot of his friend's behaviors at home. He'll repeat sounds or act as though he's nonverbal, and we've been able to work on that with him and getting him to use words. But one of the things that he's started recently is pinching himself constantly, and I know that is something his friend does. Does anyone have any experience with kids picking up these behaviors and how to direct them away? Particularly the self-harming behavior? I've tried searching on Google but I can't seem to find anything.",5.389622641509434,5.8947449748427685,5.4537672955974825,84.28140566037737,67.80503144654088,8.624150943396227,31.62327044025157,8.548686976883017,2.2444862893081754,637,25,130,9,10,200,97,159,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.9064,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,2,2,5,8,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,5,0,27,20,16,0,0,4,5,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,4,8,13,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,16,8,20,17,2,14,0,0,0,1,26,9,0,3,4,83,24,1,0.16514087229290295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230145608098206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547033762373085,0.0,0.13589686698282924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551552856242764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733051570892341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17845861557893725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28903178041643884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153946115141735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093576549655935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5103497131354047,0.0,0.08627928983489512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656497596734845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075710460526387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551453810128972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403968641299478,0.14904608477446996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880139776518019,0.0,0.0,0.11190372894503822,0.1255970749114605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305668864596295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033804787805566,0.17227794568748125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12713351154412406,0.0,0.0,0.11688755938432174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10971225759545086,0.0,0.32450013712354303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112119812155325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426286913891085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202245218475298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wackykats,2019/03/28,"A message to all parents Always listen to your child’s symptoms and take them seriously. 

My son is 6. This is his first year of kindergarten. He was about 4 months in and started complaining of headaches at school. The headaches started escalating from mild to severe. The school did not inform me of these mild headaches, only when they got severe enough to where he was getting sent home. The first two times the school told me they thought he was bluffing to get out of class. So I just watched him closely. I asked him if he was making it up, he said no and I believed him. He was fine all weekend, I made sure he got enough sleep but otherwise acted completely fine. I sent him to school that coming Monday. I got another call that day informing me his headache was so bad he was curled in a ball in a corner and was in a lot of pain. I immediately am concerned and call his pediatrician and they get him in right away. They tell me it’s a sinus pressure issue and prescribe amoxicillin. We get home and he starts throwing up. I insist he needs to go to the hospital. The hospital tells me it’s going to be a 3 hour wait and that we can go somewhere else because it doesn’t sound serious and he just saw his pediatrician. I opt to wait. So we wait and wait and they do a flu test and a strep test and they draw blood. And they tell me he looks perfect. I say I want a scan of his brain and they’re very reluctant but 6 hours later they finally do a cat scan. 

An hour after his cat scan they are moving us to a different room and I’m immediately alert and asking why as they haven’t given me the results yet. They feed me some vague answer and I go along with it. Eventually the doctor pulls me outside the room and drops the news that will change my life forever. He has a 4cmx4cm mass on his brain. They say he needs an emergency transport to the nearest children’s hospital as it’s putting a lot of pressure on his brain and the fluid in his brain is running out. Not even 12 hours after finding the tumor they’re wheeling him into emergency surgery to relieve the pressure on his brain. 

It’s been almost two months since that night, but I relive it every single day. They were able to remove the tumor completely and after 6 weeks of waiting, pathology came back as a low grade tumor (non cancerous). I am so extremely grateful that he is doing much better and almost completely back to normal. 

Listen to your children. You are their voice. If I didn’t listen to my gut my son might’ve developed life long disabilities that couldn’t have been fixed. 

Thank you for reading. ",3.3518604651162787,5.228868023483368,4.192987757702635,86.16715241432671,74.24461839530332,7.101824967004963,25.77804578346152,7.9007802657071995,1.4391792745642382,2044,71,408,30,43,656,245,511,0.108,0.835,0.057,-0.973,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,4,4,15,4,13,16,0,3,31,0,32,18,8,3,4,71,74,36,0,7,9,3,0,0,0,1,9,8,4,3,17,34,1,5,5,3,0,16,7,9,0,4,25,14,67,7,52,46,9,71,0,1,6,0,80,25,0,7,29,255,84,10,0.07254055260013809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527776993585012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060359550865824126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606509432854182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356312488526614,0.0,0.06815423705680017,0.11155841457683616,0.06056833140020896,0.044220047567977434,0.0,0.0,0.08172836191916362,0.0,0.06415622382934293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048962365143993,0.14814402944947647,0.08296706715084412,0.0,0.0,0.07673828611692478,0.062487262885527035,0.2281721677784293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356531059380506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075789437997555,0.0,0.0742483293926441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06059832349701226,0.0,0.0,0.14990756429589314,0.0,0.04791235084614578,0.0,0.061118544213995575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946462961925252,0.06630075089361029,0.12340591396863795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515977789307037,0.0,0.1649058709613966,0.0,0.1740519198597712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552817770614435,0.0,0.28575132851825263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571349028730266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247507516096928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419610633305564,0.060915794379094584,0.0,0.0,0.12334276749185615,0.0,0.06863962482743524,0.04842138214721458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769540628202752,0.0,0.0,0.11580235401637898,0.07709912733513065,0.05332565278405944,0.10757580118999582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807439458343054,0.07107433973047768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05517035905489661,0.07718826245578497,0.0,0.08054769906683218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729232911982084,0.0,0.0,0.07256018310388704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061949235565672375,0.06900267714212906,0.11537431798443472,0.0,0.2936596479464448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639003531815411,0.0,0.06000629472422105,0.0,0.07259294051968286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15403372948365884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836861234345316,0.07539740943306046,0.05454146777214414,0.0,0.19021092098040598,0.06678559470359953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05758909590615467,0.04229897957681165,0.0,0.0,0.06931560666651933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172315867157592,0.0,0.08725735309530258,0.0,0.0,0.05985355295636045,0.04278629738447192,0.0,0.058187655717150025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545656576043989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046713737539049234
parenting,SquaredCircle84,2019/03/28,"Three year old won't stop biting nails He's been doing this since he's been two.  I can't remember the last time my wife or I cut his nails ourselves, because they never get long enough to do so.  No other concerning behaviors, just nail-biting.  He's not afraid of getting his nails cut, because he'll willingly let us do it if he has a hangnail that he can't bite off.  Any tips to get him to stop this?",3.1634509803921564,3.969892894117649,4.233823529411765,89.9405392156863,73.0,7.549019607843138,24.75490196078432,7.793537801064563,1.0461372549019607,316,9,71,4,6,103,61,85,0.08900000000000001,0.8640000000000001,0.047,-0.509,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,1,2,0,11,0,0,0,1,8,15,3,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,2,0,8,0,5,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,2,8,41,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15694874070698464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813813855882547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519687281010559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23847327440622704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36174310720196257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881290001871561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23600386479124374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424660694448374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17800358884268702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24218087796452095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614461213573583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909162843794152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859104653340335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134578614643007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254535044068479,0.0,0.2776183684444962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486246274897997
parenting,kperalta87,2019/03/28,"Number 2 on the way! Any tips or your best life hack, things you wish you did differently or Protips? Number two is on the way, little guy is 3, just looking to see if anyone has any get prepared items, or be prepared for xyz to happen. My wife had bad postpartum with our son who was born 5 weeks early. I want to be super prepared and thought I would turn to the Reddit community ",4.437142857142857,4.9573693376623424,5.43418181818182,83.53127272727275,69.9090909090909,7.718441558441559,27.08831168831169,7.554174236665415,1.3792306493506494,297,9,61,3,5,98,60,77,0.04,0.723,0.237,0.9215,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,3,0,2,1,3,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,11,17,5,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,2,7,2,8,10,2,8,0,0,2,0,8,3,0,4,3,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148911978181109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618883414146393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933145140365468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24297222141328265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24189536077511606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209627634009236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292471106814287,0.2047376505735439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16353363959051573,0.0,0.2320498459140313,0.0,0.0,0.19442350342681305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449622225745466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381556666837898,0.0,0.0,0.183805758414272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518337709164998,0.2261672305721269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656001568954934,0.3675490765505017,0.18571616763819154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26624343925237554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16446940622620632,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lilybear032,2019/03/28,"My 8 month old said her first word... We were at mass for Ash Wednesday. I am Catholic. Her father is not. Everything was quieting down as we prepared to say the Lord's prayer and then receive communion. 

My beautiful, brilliant baby girl looked at the alter and muttered in perfect English "" Fuck. "". Everybody within earshot heard her. I turned bright red and my mom was laughing for a solid ten minutes. 

She hasn't said that, nor any other words, since. 

I don't know whether to laugh or cry when I tell her this story one day. ",2.9752000000000014,5.465454120000004,3.1780000000000013,90.089,77.8,6.0,27.0,7.1686216300943375,1.3861000000000003,412,17,79,5,10,126,82,100,0.058,0.7240000000000001,0.217,0.9517,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,2,1,5,1,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,1,12,14,9,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,3,6,8,14,4,10,8,0,14,1,0,3,1,16,6,1,1,7,49,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038033555331622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27521376570434625,0.1615818828522776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22517520267815727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21311487994439404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316263705002985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769390421208386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21039611130982527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934372461537804,0.199983971430662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26290659655070114,0.0,0.1697769161031543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4766545388975063,0.19924477794611908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20725480464915585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21898884359331303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725228440154409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alexhalliii,2019/03/28,"Sleep routine ideas for babies New Parent here. We are coming up on the 3-month mark and I’m looking for bedtime routines. What does everyone do? We’re planning on setting the ambiance, swaddling/dressing him in jammies, and maybe singing him a lullaby? Any others?",3.372674772036472,6.564667361702135,3.5987841945288745,81.22000000000003,88.14893617021276,4.387841945288755,36.501519756838896,6.18269132825596,2.847203039513678,214,14,30,2,7,66,41,47,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,6,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,19,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21861121210432385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769186854734204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813213205710552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071791881178873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629014773465797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26995456233905685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229606928070056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25659497766520595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31047856491087217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3569553523948961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32170302770641546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heatherlyswan,2019/03/28,"My [41F] son [15M] is being bullied and his school is doing nothing about it. We don't know what else to do? He has been dealing with the bullying since he was in 5th grade. We talk to the schools about it, and nothing is done. We've talked to his teachers and they don't really help. It's as if the schools and his teachers don't care.

We tried moving him to different schools, but the bullying keeps happening. He keeps getting teased and physically assaulted. He tells us that people call him names and consistently make fun of him. Our son has told us he has been pushed down the hallway, kicked in the back, smacked in the face, and had things thrown at him.

Our son is suffering. We have him in therapy right now. We complain to the schools and his teachers about the bullying he's enduring, and they do nothing.

My husband and I don't know what else to do. What should we do?",2.636521428571431,4.711084920000001,3.3076250000000016,90.82943750000004,76.94285714285714,7.117857142857144,26.9375,8.07648339933343,1.6090071428571435,691,28,147,12,16,217,91,175,0.17800000000000002,0.8,0.023,-0.9834,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,10,0,2,0,6,6,2,0,9,0,24,1,1,1,0,26,33,13,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,17,0,2,2,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,6,0,24,2,18,25,0,11,0,1,0,0,41,7,0,1,2,97,32,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09569186912186052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707404574578704,0.0,0.1268817555810993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829913482669905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002036662481006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12735223225377826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079185819582026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501829053249109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004785004629516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341403330994708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122797879166692,0.0,0.0,0.136785358488803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08306917197966261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226720064727218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35823003895953665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627570715305961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972377470057104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627684454706328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6297337745488555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294363760938993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000511674054143,0.10877194472538952,0.0,0.14231570428361534,0.0,0.08267689097774082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189142026873549,0.0,0.08449117436076665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993882350869985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jessrushesin,2019/03/28,"What would you do if your preschooler got in trouble at school? **What would you do or say to your 4-5 year old if they came home from school with a note or teacher saying they'd gotten into trouble?**

My son goes to preschool and I'm just wondering how other parents go about things when their kids come home with a bad report for something.

**His class uses this behavior chart that looks like a traffic light**;- **green** for a good day/behavior- **yellow** for if you've been talked to (but you can come back to green if your behavior improves)- and then **red** for bad days where the teacher had to talk to you too many times about something or if you did something really bad you go straight to red.

You have to clip yourself (clothespin with name on it) down if you've gotten in  trouble.

He has, 95% of the year, been on green but there have been a handful of days where he's come home saying **he'd pushed someone** (today he apparently pushed his friend for popping a bubble he wanted to pop? *""I felt so mad, so I pushed him.""* He's never, ever been a hitter or done aggressive stuff, so I know he's learned some things from his classmates that are unfavorable...*)*, or **another time he hid from his teacher during recess and it was time to go inside**.

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I really dislike the 'traffic light' system but it is what it is. He gets so down on the days he makes a bad choice and it carries on through the day and he says stuff like *""I don't like it when I get on red.""* Then he's less happy to go to school the next day.

On the days he comes home with a bad report, I try to keep cool and try not to make it a long drawn out affair (though I was really upset at him for hiding from his teacher.) But I wonder if I'm handling things right? What would you do?

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Some days, depending on how bad of a 'red day' he had he may lose weekend video game privileges (he only gets an hour or so each on Saturday and Sunday to play Minecraft or some retro-games.)

Other times I've gotten really upset, often because this was the first time he'd ever really shown this kind of behavior and I go into full blown Mom-mode (*""You know better! Blah, blah, blah. I'm so disappointed!"" )* then he'd cry a little, and I'd comfort him and we'd play with Legos or read or play.

Lately, I've been less confident in my method and today he and I just chatted about how sad his friend probably felt and if his friend was hurt, and how next time words would be what we use instead of our hands.

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**But I don't know what's the right thing to do?** He's four and only been on the planet for a few years, but I still have expectations of him at school and he'll be going to Kindergarten this fall and....

TLDR; **I just want to know how to navigate the bad school days.**

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parenting,Bambooearings,2019/03/28,"I think that I just broke my 10year old daughters spirit 😞 For the past few months my children have been loosing teeth and the good old tooth fairy has been depositing coins in exchange for their pearly whites.

My eldest 10 year old daughter came to me this morning and was telling me that she knows that I am the tooth fairy.  (BTW has been happening for the past 6 months and I was sure that she already knew the truth).

In the past I have always denied that I was however she was adamant that she knew, so I let her in on the secret and for a moment she was fine but the next conversation went down hill....

Daughter: So that means that the Easter bunny and Santa are not real?

Me: (flabbergasted and perpetually tired) ah “daughter” yes that’s correct they are not really real.

Daughter: Bursts into tears.

It is precisely this time that my 8 year old daughter walks into the room asking what is going on to which I let the 8 year old know that her sister is a little upset. 

Now I have to have the conversation with the 10 year old to ensure that she doesn’t tell her younger sister and ruin it for her (digging a deeper hole).

I guess in my eyes I have known that a good percentage of kids at her school have already known this however I feel so bloody bad for setting her up like this as I thought that she was emotionally ready for the truth and to put it bluntly I feel like a shitty parent for introducing these fantasies then pulling the rug out from her (so to speak).

Is there anything I can do or say that will help her process this in a positive way?",5.484678742310322,5.855229798701303,5.4821052631578935,84.6313157894737,67.57142857142857,8.302392344497608,28.223513328776484,8.032893268588372,1.5975753246753244,1230,37,252,14,19,385,159,308,0.09,0.792,0.118,0.7286,3,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,2,0,7,12,0,1,21,2,30,5,4,0,5,38,45,16,0,0,5,9,2,2,0,1,1,2,2,2,26,13,0,0,12,1,3,6,3,4,1,0,14,6,40,8,31,28,1,43,1,2,2,0,37,15,0,2,22,169,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21872322993802087,0.0,0.08246087350341262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155257179233327,0.0,0.09264707154308682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08274610135863895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334638397961658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147650668802817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100217983576224,0.07079854922328284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563219986326026,0.16624425382275154,0.0,0.0,0.10917211933768436,0.0,0.08763564634927139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664260384972688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892782818783116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20267719227565426,0.0,0.09683254564281267,0.0993263240784338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795122318084174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582046772874319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539619153392443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6239458037535042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004113729252,0.0,0.28381246089157186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962496746066342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255997375492496,0.06348733321322568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880995554461437,0.0,0.10029660068295576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934025421526034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323918053222598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350061440948275,0.0,0.07867598556605794,0.05778722263789787,0.113903268037361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786626221370327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186862552362314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552739738333746
parenting,gilawlor,2019/03/28,"Toddler and a baby How do you guys do/did when it comes to having a newborn/baby and also taking care of your toddler without any help? I mean, daily basis living with them two and having no babysitter or daycare. Any tips when it comes to how to cook and keep the house clean while taking care of them? Lol also, big important question.. how do you put one down for a nap without leaving the other just watching tv? we are against tv for a while and want to avoid it, but I just can’t imagine how to leave one child “alone” while you put the other to take a nap? 🤷🏼‍♀️ my son is still napping twice a day and we are about to have another one this year and I’m freaking out 😭... any help is appreciated!",0.9642857142857152,3.0195323673469403,2.7612517006802726,92.72065306122452,82.46938775510203,4.736326530612245,21.364625850340136,5.6839178017228535,0.03349197278911609,546,17,118,3,15,181,90,147,0.11,0.79,0.1,-0.3649,0,2,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,4,2,0,12,4,0,1,9,1,10,1,0,4,0,29,21,20,0,1,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,13,1,2,3,6,0,4,4,2,0,5,0,1,11,2,18,21,0,15,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,2,8,83,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891190504626675,0.0,0.2299603723454276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29332438950016737,0.15076504311506278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931849838519361,0.0,0.0,0.2477061250299075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272569902313353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236402764138031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274435396167156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659019097745653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779757241807346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30448285690119953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695968087337575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566177152971351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922855510611159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28907564602768904,0.16106562605556393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148222667095573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32431222807833804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140451400975293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480470611187192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771960646919446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258910037922376
parenting,BazookaSharks,2019/03/28,"Vaccines for adults around a newborn My baby is due in about two weeks. My mother was going to be her primary caretaker starting around the four month mark after my wife goes back to work. After consulting with our doctor and getting the flu/Tdap vaccine recommendation for anyone spending time with the baby, I asked her if she had gotten them. Well, to my surprise I learned she doesn't believe in them, but that she was willing to get then if it meant not being able to see the baby. Which it does.

I am having trouble understanding this anti vaccine position. It is so illogical to me I am finding it difficult to converse with her effectively about it. I guess I am looking for some advice on how to handle this?

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Thanks.",4.388695652173915,6.679667217391309,5.2268840579710165,78.07119565217394,72.47826086956522,7.208695652173913,29.61594202898551,8.07648339933343,2.3135246376811587,588,25,99,9,12,191,93,138,0.068,0.856,0.076,0.0129,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,2,2,8,5,0,0,5,0,13,1,0,2,0,18,25,7,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,9,6,0,0,5,0,1,1,2,2,1,2,5,2,20,3,23,17,1,15,0,0,2,0,16,5,0,4,9,83,29,4,0.1982697587999757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374691361138105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148252008235434,0.2409194586485197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863482535445446,0.0,0.0,0.3530042419237729,0.1853554600279228,0.0,0.0,0.152457206055354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22338212246812755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20293749954081086,0.17350720204218528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812149675836404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717553138094955,0.0,0.11268127305441075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841649244842995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664966618772216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582570298703042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579953276913732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403363557674709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254015552082253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561269079942987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368074462483867,0.20640581126937252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15904004106185154,0.0,0.17826832440197185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434274578781273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409194586485197,0.0
parenting,AnnaBanana1129,2019/03/28,"My son is going through a phase but I don’t know if I can wait it out... My 8 year old son has entered a phase where he doesn’t want to wear anything but jeans or sweats.  We are in Texas and dammit, the hot as hell days are coming. He plays hard and now has (what looks like) heat rash on the backs of his legs.  Today we had a 30 minute meltdown trying to get him to wear shorts to school.  I DETEST starting the day like this; bad for him, us and his teacher.  I don’t want to give in after all the whining but literally dragging him to school won’t work.
I have taken away the fun stuff (tv, tablet) one day at a time, but it doesn’t feel much like a loss, because he will spend hours drawing and playing with Legos in his room.  I don’t want to give in but confess there are some days I have no choice; we have to get to work and kids to school.
Background:  hubby & I have 3:  19,11 YO girls, he is the baby.
Any tips, different angles would be appreciated!",2.020371287128711,3.250156420792081,3.0030569306930697,96.01864480198022,76.37623762376238,5.6440594059405935,20.54579207920792,5.602791699666715,-0.29850594059405955,735,16,176,3,16,234,126,202,0.124,0.763,0.113,-0.6683,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,0,3,4,10,1,0,11,0,22,5,5,0,1,28,37,13,0,5,7,2,3,3,0,3,0,0,1,2,5,11,0,1,3,3,1,3,7,4,0,1,2,4,20,6,24,31,3,27,2,2,1,0,21,11,1,3,16,103,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963035246900634,0.0,0.10018842223833553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123879035303378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841996186963973,0.11328651129271487,0.12301313146440858,0.08981007729764276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269104448890576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38005873982337424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539269100613644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449370898652549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394610581306742,0.2826618159871241,0.08373017348698619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13197738473020518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508888113856785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096788264939342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21593176847507836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12371882217954895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830338866373787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459646219691164,0.0,0.0998335946553089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44731287840756817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427986032131363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686558678481494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859084246701687,0.0,0.13965017757143475,0.0,0.0,0.10002637074803576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721802795960367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606944736641614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451378421267173,0.0,0.0,0.10465792902726707,0.0,0.0,0.09487471429772816
parenting,NewPCBuilder2019,2019/03/28,"Trofast Ikea (or similar) storage for kids' room We're getting ready to move into a bigger space and have been walking around places like ikea just to look at ideas. One of the things we saw were the ""trofast"" style shelves/dressers for kids' rooms. These are the dressers that instead of drawers its just a plastic tub that looks like it's pretty easy to take out and slide back in. My initial thought was that these types of drawers would pretty well in a young kids room, but after thinking about it more, it seemed like the type of thing that could actually be awful and they'd pull them out and leave them everyone forever.

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Anyone have any real life experience with these and young children? Will I want to burn them within the first week of ownership, or are they actually pretty good.",9.506951102588687,8.1438495704698,7.679213806327906,77.91859060402686,60.00671140939598,10.393480345158196,37.39309683604986,8.841846274778883,3.0705486097794816,642,24,119,7,7,189,101,149,0.033,0.805,0.162,0.9477,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,5,1,7,5,0,0,8,1,12,1,0,0,0,24,21,8,0,3,5,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,4,4,13,11,0,0,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,5,3,8,5,22,11,1,24,0,0,3,0,10,14,0,3,9,78,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.3006629515459133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691410741970542,0.18718872947027745,0.10475990820697603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771598510145328,0.0,0.0,0.13713797946004044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845564845687635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299712435418245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720225573318993,0.0,0.15069135977919607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103563382482664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804852474641899,0.0,0.0,0.12921060276980206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17390473749745866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631176810454895,0.0,0.0,0.1088107205978547,0.22578449424631866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587279481090681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16373174822508654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438889023706784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609504232959352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4701755037278914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1753436729580264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024217178772802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582711993973885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046891720903684,0.09870960920971264,0.0,0.12229922279704496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908632239167505,0.0,0.12357035578724795,0.0,0.13851027781979208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094333536059372,0.0,0.18718872947027745,0.0
parenting,reasonablemanzach,2019/03/28,"Where to have a party that is kid and adult friendly? My wife just passed her citizenship test and we need to celebrate! We have kiddos, as do most of our friends.  Our favorite place, Joe's Crab Shack, had an outdoor sand playground with a patio and served drinks. Sadly, they're closed now. 

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Do you know of good places to celebrate that are kid friendly, and allow an adult to have a drink or two?",4.513846153846154,6.196482435897438,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,70.7948717948718,6.7384615384615385,25.820512820512814,7.1686216300943375,1.0225743589743592,322,10,64,3,6,96,58,78,0.03,0.669,0.301,0.9764,0,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,0,0,3,5,0,0,5,0,8,2,0,1,0,14,10,6,0,1,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,2,8,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,4,8,9,1,6,0,1,0,0,14,4,0,2,1,40,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24099415213242795,0.27026708433939245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357777806937936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5155280736154776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18655702709855068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222373184500552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492310021645132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647673153237623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21727398208546173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27026708433939245,0.0
parenting,TheSparknanator,2019/03/28,First Time Dad Here So within the next 48 hours (at most) me and my girlfriends child will be born and this is our first kid so from other parents of reddit what advise do you have?,2.8128828828828847,4.366142000000004,2.933513513513514,95.99774774774777,74.94594594594594,4.933333333333334,17.738738738738736,3.1291,-0.8515153153153157,142,2,31,0,3,43,34,37,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,5,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,4,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,6,25,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6638057677908723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3842671998534165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149808304396597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332695695316099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275280471719664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ThePigsPancake,2019/03/28,"My daughters preschool teacher tells her that she loves her, is that ok? First of, my daughter is super lovable so I don't fault the teacher for this and my daughter loves all of her teachers. I don't have any worries about my daughters safety I am just wondering about the appropriateness of this. ",5.755714285714286,7.285180285714286,5.252142857142856,82.34285714285716,67.57142857142857,7.028571428571429,35.42857142857143,7.1686216300943375,2.425264285714285,240,12,43,2,4,73,36,56,0.0,0.631,0.369,0.9755,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,2,1,6,2,0,0,1,4,9,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,11,4,6,9,1,1,0,0,0,2,11,0,0,1,1,34,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24972228207520916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3123572564349399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6628610121923226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.320966580993852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3982345682734929,0.0,0.3729298690371936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lostintranslationnx,2019/03/28,"Creepy recurring birth dream So I’m 39 weeks pregnant and I’ve had this weird dream about 3 times now. 

In the dream, I give birth to my baby and I look into his eyes and he’s so beautiful. He’s calm  and alert, but moving around like a human baby would. Then suddenly I take a closer look to find out that he’s actually a plastic doll and he’s no longer moving like I saw before....because he’s a plastic doll....I give birth to a plastic doll..Wth ? 

I get when your pregnant you have some weird dreams, but why have I dreamt this 3 times lol. So creepy. ",-0.18505747126436844,2.067877275862074,1.5656551724137948,97.6115287356322,90.89655172413794,4.47264367816092,16.354022988505747,6.079149491110277,-0.5592280459770111,428,10,98,4,15,139,67,116,0.059,0.72,0.222,0.944,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,0,7,5,0,0,6,1,4,1,1,0,0,13,12,12,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,1,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,4,10,3,8,9,1,18,0,0,4,0,11,5,0,1,13,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.22336424864255208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376119894354194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952961082872492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20920190001190453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958591329070588,0.4391455209432189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22364881185908814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844209832642861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.486549057450375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17209727693250398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669359479874779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836022664780937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20653820267151632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625973448271174,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,inigometoya,2019/03/28,"Kid at daycare keeping all kids from sleeping? New poster here, so please forgive me if this isn't the right kind of post...

My kid is almost two in full time daycare. Most days, she does great: has a great nap (they have an app where they report what she eats/how she naps) and comes home in a good mood. There's another kid in the class with her that when I drop my kid off, this kid is screaming. Like full meltdown. Then, when I pick her up, more often than not, he's still going. He only comes some days. I notice on days when he's there, my kid doesn't nap at all and she comes home in a really bad mood. I have this feeling that the two are correlated. It's not just that she's not sleeping, but the fact that it takes at least one worker to try to help him (they are trying their hardest to comfort him/help him, but from what I've seen he just don't respond to their efforts!) so the other children don't get as much attention and the fact that it just seems like it creates this really stressful environment. I'll also say that this is a really nice and really expensive daycare where we are paying more to get more individual attention in a safe environment for our child.

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I know this kid and his parents are having their own struggles, so I don't mean to come off as upset with him.  I'm really just looking to see if anyone else has ever experienced this situation where one child is clearly creating a problem in a daycare situation. If so, did you stick it out? He has been this way for about two months and again, he doesn't come everyday. Or would you think about moving daycares? 

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tldr: Ever had a situation where a kid in your kid's class was causing issues for all the kids? What did you do?",4.57342062398196,5.283028622478387,5.256449066533016,84.24796391429645,69.69164265129683,8.224984337802281,26.902518481393308,8.321376580360154,1.5820636261120167,1360,41,282,19,23,440,171,347,0.059,0.823,0.118,0.9599,1,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,4,6,2,26,18,0,3,17,0,27,2,2,2,8,54,46,23,0,5,13,1,1,2,0,1,0,2,2,14,23,15,0,2,8,3,2,7,9,6,0,5,6,7,33,10,35,39,13,47,0,0,3,0,48,22,0,9,17,193,56,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979722572558584,0.0,0.0,0.07171359758124331,0.0,0.1943270929645492,0.2179314989967829,0.0,0.09403275460896936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06270331062533938,0.09188331704313064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487543522960571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212161112688724,0.0,0.3862382285179217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735001573713542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847577949889988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491251188748417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622335475799982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453427111059887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370366835992143,0.0,0.05096474747903147,0.07521569388175166,0.0,0.19773547636486255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021541707456596,0.0,0.1799040091086506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359809667787468,0.0,0.07970785215535199,0.0,0.09338340631942116,0.049283400729840283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762200128283502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753049739203504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768308943282857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715782609256373,0.09531104096126347,0.06592193261403782,0.0,0.0,0.08660931688228173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209633993642812,0.0,0.0,0.12153310400873844,0.06820238481911936,0.0,0.0,0.09957421452676106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843695200615048,0.0,0.0,0.08588449924060851,0.0,0.0,0.08580750125514723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872426391005417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07658252865630512,0.0,0.07131368880151841,0.0,0.0,0.07145989533477738,0.08163735820728686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30239761703521595,0.1794808570866254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161510258651403,0.0,0.10272317224861796,0.09374847662083588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06742494044481331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057460545731934876,0.0,0.0,0.05229060190968128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176778129356088,0.0,0.2628002854544241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07118036949299021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370302009922485,0.0,0.2179314989967829,0.0
parenting,theogbcheeks012007,2019/03/28,"How to get the ENT to help my son and not blow us off. My son is 4. He's always snored and he always looks exhausted no matter how much sleep he gets. I've brought him to his dr before (when he was 2) because I was concerned about his tonsils and was told ""they're huge, but that's normal"". So just last week my son started complaining that his throat hurt. I looked and his tonsils are beyond huge. (He hasn't been sick recently either) Took him back in to get a referral to an ent and again was told that it's ""normal""  He hasn't been wanting to eat much these past few months. I'm pretty worried, and I don't want to get blown off. It's a 2 1/2 hour drive to the ent. ",2.0256628787878803,3.0493549375000017,3.282121212121215,94.8477272727273,76.0138888888889,6.347474747474747,21.424242424242426,6.574015621080383,0.11630000000000028,517,12,124,4,11,168,87,144,0.098,0.797,0.105,0.2663,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,5,0,11,6,2,2,0,17,25,11,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,6,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,10,2,13,0,13,15,4,19,0,1,2,0,20,6,0,0,10,68,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27589525815315097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747956680977954,0.0,0.10106189711742464,0.0,0.14107208049573333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964095379233324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464663649213168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112318036830324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326628391503514,0.0,0.1774778516501614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513810532967924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784377712349815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13232918360804655,0.0,0.2437442712877035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32487109374943424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826195066423582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866444761003174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369414461854215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590620521096536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734452115306905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31683216526598845,0.1841948751343844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19942071811886114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19557031808515585,0.0,0.13298391112200492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683642140487337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FrankCastleRulez,2019/03/28,Needing a little break from 10 year old son. Hey reddit gang.. ive recently come home from active duty overseas. Ive been home for around 7 months and my relationship with my son has gone sour. He just wont accept me has his dad again. So im thinking about going on a little vacation to Bolivia. Is it a bad thing that i am leaving my wife and son again. Im only staying for  in Bolivia for three weeks. Please respond and give me tips on how i should win my son back :),1.5567913832199594,3.381441867346944,3.2260544217687084,91.32767573696148,79.3061224489796,5.580045351473924,22.113378684807266,6.42735559955562,0.3577650793650795,365,11,79,3,9,121,71,98,0.057,0.8240000000000001,0.119,0.7283,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,15,5,0,2,1,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,6,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,1,11,2,12,11,0,19,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,8,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17087157801424913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475937129613711,0.16026590110913658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16534346023205693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18413095459417828,0.10908666045786118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3850725948307256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146666713384245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20324184206308227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847582561816097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320851827965487,0.0,0.0,0.14232464653296134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014137923920847,0.0,0.0,0.14598267946369595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21069776445806465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952234619950745,0.20607689555657005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458763132543645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275196046172705,0.12299048562071095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539665508583761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236061662554831
parenting,123cook456,2019/03/28,"Advice for a parent of a soon to be teenage girl For parents who have survived the teenage girl years, what is the one piece of advice for parents who's daughter is about to turn 13.  She is a very good, well behaved child, so I am looking for advice on what pitfalls to avoid that could turn things around in a hurry...Thank  you",5.231818181818183,5.390899606060606,4.790454545454548,90.10568181818184,68.0909090909091,6.6000000000000005,30.13636363636364,3.1291,0.9769818181818182,258,9,54,0,4,78,46,66,0.033,0.8320000000000001,0.134,0.7698,3,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,1,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,10,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,3,2,13,8,1,5,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,0,2,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272583204925876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010958166523132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436000311796396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085431211427067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103337419710572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187478342733454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5991249509857025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558683702082114,0.0,0.0,0.1194880435158402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912624089979693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839967454789732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16171174991333315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582108505346678
parenting,scrubzork,2019/03/28,"Got am email from teacher that daughter (5) has been disrespectful to adults and saying mean things to other kids. How do we start the conversation about bullying without it turning into a lecture? **tl;dr** daughter has struggled with following directions and being respectful to adults this week and made a negative comment about another student's solo singing that really hurt his feelings. 

Hi folks,

Our daughter, in our view, has pretty severe perfectionist tendencies and a fairly significant lack of empathy. We've noted over the last year or so how she'll make rude, uncalled for responses to very basic comments from other kids. e.g., a classmate says ""your shoes are cool,"" and her response is a super-bratty sounding ""I *know,* Emily"" (imagine an eyeroll accompanying that).

Despite that, she is highly verbal and has a few close friends. She has dance and sports activities that she enjoys. She also loves to draw - she can hardly resist an opportunity to pick up markers and paper and draw something - but if she makes one little error in her drawing she will whimper, crumple the paper up, and start all over. She's gone through double-digit numbers of ""drafts"" before being satisfied with the drawing. 

Back in the fall we had parent/teacher conferences and we expressed our concern about her social skills. The teacher assured us that her social skills seemed fine. So today's incident is the first time the teacher has written about her social behavior. The email reads ""She has struggled with following directions and being respectful to adults this week.  Just a few minutes ago during our play rehearsal, she made a negative comment about another student's solo singing that really hurt his feelings.""

The only recent incident we had was that we had to put our old dog down last week. Our daughter never showed any interest in the dog and would often try to avoid her, although she did cry a little the day we put her down. And I do realize that it's still a significant change; she's never lived without a dog in the house. But her rude comments started long before the dog was gone.

She also has a younger brother (4) who she gets along with most of the time (otherwise it's the typical ""my toy"", ""me first"" and ""my turn"" kind of squabbles that as of yet have not escalated into anything abusive or physically harmful).

My plan on the approach to talking to her about her behavior at school is to start by just showing that I want to listen to her. After that, though, I'm at a loss. My concern is that it's just going to turn into me talking *at* her about how bullying is bad. I don't want it to be a lecture; I want it to be a conversation ... Anyone have success with getting one started?

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parenting,sidenhigh,2019/03/28,"Amy advice on talking to a toddler about losing a pet? My son is turning 2 in a couple weeks and is smart but doesn't have alot of words. He is totally obsessed with my 14year old dog, everything he talks about includes Sadie (my dog). First thing when he wakes up, ""Sadie?"" Anytime he sees another animal its ""sadie, sadie, sadie"". So now we are hitting alot of major health issues and I'm not feeling optimistic. Today we had to take her in for some more tests and leave her there for a few hours. When my son realized she wasnt coming with us, he lost it, screaming for sadie and holding onto the door of the vet. She hasnt been eating and I know her days are numbered, how do you tell your 2 year old his best friend isnt coming home? Is there a book I can read to help us through this? Any advice is welcome.",2.446493506493507,4.1391003030303075,3.309458874458876,92.32704545454546,76.27272727272728,6.1688311688311686,22.69480519480519,6.868970318607317,0.5188441558441563,630,18,136,6,14,200,111,165,0.093,0.7909999999999999,0.116,0.8453,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,4,2,0,4,9,8,0,1,9,0,16,3,1,1,1,23,26,10,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,4,11,1,1,3,2,0,2,5,4,0,1,4,3,18,4,19,21,8,18,0,2,1,0,25,5,0,3,11,86,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002999965307608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449074602306664,0.16112078360893062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125156151884928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647205489079518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700164601704853,0.0,0.09909483643294552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722754082769094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380953079903588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769264204510931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069896077906035,0.0,0.0,0.11871355928751676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16332820007694504,0.0,0.0,0.1029917834560647,0.0,0.15412860679511087,0.0,0.1513193350201306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603760173117926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08444483177723898,0.0,0.0,0.16269857881434113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17190076819645006,0.1677327070875214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32247038742768186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369669443923878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244323141261312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552952249914815,0.2470043192491737,0.13430134154556522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208162960733776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564708087707054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16713263996707156,0.0,0.0,0.3696563642091209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325286346218366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989488551093448
parenting,RedLetter0192837465,2019/03/28,"Wasn’t notified about another classmate hurting my 6 yr old yesterday. What should I do? My 6 yr old came home crying yesterday. Telling me she was resting her head on her desk when a classmate came over trying to get her “up” & as she started to lift her head off the desk, he shoved her head down. It hurt her enough to make her cry. She told the teacher & said the teacher talked to her & the other classmate out in the hall & told him that it was wrong & not to do it again & made him apologize. The school never notified me. What should I do? 
I’m upset because I was never notified. I could have came to pick her up at least but was not informed so my daughter remained in school for the rest of the day. She never mentioned if they sent her to the nurse, either. She said she had a headache afterwards, but by the time she came home, it was gone.  ",4.0018952380952415,4.816180080000001,4.392357142857147,89.54605952380953,71.05714285714286,7.661904761904763,27.72619047619048,7.793537801064563,1.4244190476190477,674,23,146,8,12,212,94,175,0.07200000000000001,0.921,0.006999999999999999,-0.8466,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,12,0,14,3,3,3,3,21,29,6,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,8,5,0,0,1,0,0,6,6,4,0,0,18,2,29,0,22,8,5,30,0,2,0,0,32,11,0,1,13,101,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6027003312523328,0.0,0.0,0.09721336585447037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651448539274138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4241371380134346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402051344183196,0.0,0.2036727483569088,0.05978957135552852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579307710646574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04843657421320564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28543823600569457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859891729099363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19849359136736072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772340347916009,0.06188391113438755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21450845869867285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945647920030501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763747894397512,0.0,0.0,0.1876527140636227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561983710752993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745159026568729,0.0810316655491461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054059305561505205,0.0,0.0,0.17717465520235245,0.0,0.0629432580243105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136262926234636,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lefik58,2019/03/28,"Is there no hope for this kid? So I'm not sure if parenting includes adult children but anyway. Reddit, what would you do if your son was 20 years old, and completely socially maladjusted? Im talking completely sheltered since birth, absolutely no confidence whatsoever, and so anxious he can barely go out on his own without a parent. This kid does have a job thankfully but I'm concerned for his future. What would you do in this situation?",3.7125925925925927,6.6814377901234625,4.9644444444444495,75.50000000000003,78.50617283950619,8.538271604938272,29.987654320987648,9.150863307647796,3.3589358024691363,355,17,59,10,9,117,62,81,0.105,0.7709999999999999,0.124,0.5604,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,1,13,13,8,0,5,6,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,6,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,3,4,40,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274747772555425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4222355191943783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620784608063006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443515995211301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999177504254706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174988521156221,0.0,0.1998145942081478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21128907468804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471636466427738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16656362553659113,0.2263323923973155,0.0,0.20525691406691968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897754893410329,0.0,0.0,0.16184219107502162,0.0,0.18538139771124315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19409983729214375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860748126923124,0.0,0.0,0.12966655452778916
parenting,vixiecat,2019/03/28,"I think my 12 year old is depressed I thought about posting this on a throwaway, but I’m working on being transparent about my own issues so here we go.. 

A few weeks ago I, myself, realized I’d been in a depressive episode for (probably) the last few years. It took all the courage I had but I made a dr appointment and I’m now receiving the help that I need. I say this to preface the actual issue. 

I believe my son might be falling into a depressive episode, but I’m really at a loss as to how to get him to agree to go for an assessment. 

He loves playing baseball. It’s one of his great joys in life but recently he’s been making excuses to not go to practices or games or flat out saying he doesn’t want to go. He has been sleeping a lot more lately. Often not even able to get up to go to school. For the moment, I’ve pulled him out and we’re homeschooling. He seems to enjoy that more and is actually doing a lot better with homeschooling than he was in public school, so that’s a major plus. 

I get that some of this is probably in part to his hormones as he should be hitting puberty soon. He is beginning to show signs though of how I was in high school and I’m afraid he’s going to end up like me. I want nothing more than for him to be so much better than I was. 

He’s usually very open with me about things he’s going through but suddenly he’s very closed off. I’ve tried talking to him. I don’t interrogate. I chill with him and I tell him things I’ve gone through and ask if he can relate. I tell him he can tell me everything without judgement and if there’s an issue, we’ll work through it together. 

His father is not really in the picture, although he tries to be. I don’t force the child to do something he doesn’t want to, but I do try to steer him into making good and right decisions. His father always tries to take him on vacations when he goes and at first, kiddo will be really excited to go, but at the last minute he’ll change his mind - saying he won’t have anyone to play with. His father has a young son from another relationship and his wife brought a young daughter to the fold. I suspect my kiddo is afraid his father wouldn’t make time for him on these vacations as the young ones obviously go as well and he thinks his father will be too busy taking care of them. Yesterday I asked him if he had ever thought about wanting to live with his dad. It’s not a subject we’d ever discussed before but I brought it up casually. He paused for a moment and then said he wouldn’t have anything to do there or none of his stuff. I jokingly said in a weird voice “you’re right. You have to leave everything you own here.” He laughed and I was like “kiddo, if that’s something you ever thought about, of course you’d take all your stuff.” If that was something he wanted to do, I would support his decision. I’d hate it, but I certainly wouldn’t keep him from it. Especially if it would help him mentally. 

I’m just..I’m at a loss here. I would like to get him checked, as I have severe depression and anxiety, but I don’t want to force him into it. One of the worst experiences of my life was being forced to the doctor to be tested for it. How do I ease him into the conversation and get him to agree to getting checked out?",3.3846365775136213,4.3153200772659766,4.693875371471028,86.38245743561171,72.5958395245171,8.223489351163943,26.502259782070322,8.59863814320734,1.6662669886082218,2544,84,553,44,48,845,267,673,0.07,0.7909999999999999,0.138,0.9932,1,0,3,0,0,0,60.0,3,5,1,7,27,32,1,2,30,0,59,6,1,7,7,101,115,50,0,20,24,10,0,3,0,13,4,6,0,1,24,31,0,1,10,6,2,16,15,11,1,4,21,6,76,21,101,69,17,76,0,6,0,1,95,31,0,15,31,369,100,7,0.06516994010939353,0.0,0.12719292133977653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776921977779794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05422661082606863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06833636447645429,0.0498548258057158,0.0,0.0,0.04556833740106983,0.0,0.05362930787126409,0.0,0.12185019341406787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055454819040198784,0.07342420564219128,0.0,0.11527503209550033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644509729035314,0.0,0.06894115541005641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22452309568708773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.066704195188774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057721223473888535,0.0,0.0,0.043044130809910965,0.17684982563529186,0.0,0.0,0.11714107997665295,0.06374870655805538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05543351776497079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042916235024428,0.0,0.3333382092542476,0.0546614537968934,0.0,0.07185008904070572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434182368365178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736407426389384,0.06885561980357267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20406145737662612,0.0,0.057926037147101775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624439861038758,0.07351453104618318,0.06900555677934075,0.0,0.0,0.0920629120067284,0.09551622262986983,0.0,0.057546251085245914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081030516378797,0.05881841535306721,0.06166537307473832,0.1305043232276958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567597149676936,0.06913500773582879,0.06580306164888543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047907404529819536,0.04832268482580257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06253231517796749,0.0,0.06838488938090061,0.0,0.13248251408829498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057269437417081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624147879894626,0.0,0.14052843583020616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524859721729922,0.0,0.06434745369786997,0.06996812650824834,0.0,0.11130954554183788,0.12398307362030785,0.1554772563145615,0.0,0.19786637594327086,0.0,0.05932826586381714,0.0,0.07362348243766442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521700506074574,0.0,0.0,0.15051301143424173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920797930738014,0.0,0.07395407573740913,0.0,0.0,0.14699905338943958,0.05238112926647414,0.17088420041098562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659202482690483,0.08351653235050345,0.0640291352716202,0.15521295868172394,0.03800111616056295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240620137461028,0.17698444586823214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177548189070883,0.10754405147702163,0.230633515028676,0.0,0.05227539496556658,0.0,0.05859560275351415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282149667071926,0.0,0.0948889851397582,0.0,0.0,0.13888456691035678,0.0,0.0,0.08393460950006525
parenting,weedsmoker666,2019/03/28,"Questions regarding a UTI So this is the first time my daughter has gotten a UTI. Does anyone here have any helpful advice on comforting them during this crappy time? She's on antibiotics and ibuprofen at the moment. I just want her to feel better. Thanks, dudes. 🍍",2.4479591836734684,5.411797061224494,3.03387755102041,85.77897959183677,88.59183673469389,5.248979591836736,21.285714285714285,6.868970318607317,0.9972367346938776,212,7,35,3,7,66,43,49,0.077,0.693,0.23,0.7469,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,3,4,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,4,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33142720735878434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306432004617995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23715140620026165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999630611998845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968047663707397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17149154633905328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884927877197769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273345292446427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799413837472673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31225671081632433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39553859757215604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004775803193114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dannylouisiana,2019/03/28,"Need Help Recalibrating the Sleep Modulator on a 2017 Human Male [xpost Daddit] Hey /r/Parenting

Having some trouble tuning the sleep modulator on my 2017 Male. When the unit was brand new, it seemed to rapidly oscillate between sleep and awake, never staying in any one position for all that long. There was also a high pitched whine associated with the awake position.

I have a few earlier models, so I was aware that this behavior was expected and that sleep modulator would eventually sort itself out. In the interim, I was able to correct issues by refueling it, emptying the waste receptacle and switching it back to sleep by gently rocking the unit back and forth. This worked well for a while and the rapid oscillation began to correct itself.

Around October, I finally got it calibrated to go into sleep mode around 7pm and switch back to awake around 6am. This worked great until about a month ago. For some reason, the wake switch is now misfiring closer to 2a or 3a and it gets stuck in that position for hours.

So far, I've tried the following:

* Refuelling
* Emptying the waste receptacle
* Rocking the unit
* Talking to it
* Singing to it
* Begging it to sleep
* Placing it into it's bed in the awake position (this resulted in a persistent high pitched whine and nothing else)

I also had a retired expert recommend striking it on the housing of its waste disposal system, but that recommendation seems outdated and counter productive.

Other than the sleep issue, the unit seems to be in excellent condition. The mood gauge is frequently set to happy or mischievous. The ambulatory system came online over the summer and is always running. The communication system is working as expected and is rapidly improving. I also checked for an automated update to the mastication module as that can frequently interfere with the sleep modulator, but there were no indicators of a recent or pending update there.

I should also note that this unit is currently sharing a housing bay with two older models until we finish procuring a larger housing bay next month, so prolonged awake state and the accompanying whine triggers the awake switch in the other units. This makes self-recalibration difficult.

I'm at a loss on how to correct the sleep misfire. Any recommendations on diagnostics or calibration techniques would be appreciated!",6.709622895622896,9.256721560493826,7.260561167227838,64.86707070707071,66.72839506172839,10.439955106621774,34.741863075196406,10.570968289372207,4.514135802469137,1892,91,279,56,33,620,214,405,0.066,0.857,0.077,0.8896,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,0,0,6,21,12,0,0,38,0,21,11,11,5,5,52,34,32,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,29,23,0,1,4,3,1,4,2,6,1,2,11,0,9,5,53,18,4,62,0,4,0,0,8,25,0,10,27,194,38,4,0.07288661189034402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064609583714278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331495887820021,0.06064749991750719,0.0,0.0,0.0991307909477092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465361232446032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681359165648638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08336286678759289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060887411628621074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07984372065642867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03808024642873805,0.0,0.04142314120991266,0.0,0.058294081847419216,0.08035774692144818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758915367831214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04885435956625802,0.15401741442965372,0.0,0.0,0.07177863082208043,0.25230409253286595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15214937255450287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645023579150371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04865237941062146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635479646406732,0.0,0.0,0.05404449917378427,0.05621464840692765,0.07039434394892065,0.07751573862596449,0.0,0.0,0.06993666987157833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493898545372391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093195695524996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615099630085488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493957627134187,0.07196673613533841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19905970210581314,0.07603663218102574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7293924972976953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768743040281044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058583497741670265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049485225070684376,0.0,0.0711996289779376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553381741961377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918696459458526,0.0,0.0,0.10355311573568664,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ACollegePup,2019/03/28,"University Student creating a Family Nutrition Newsletter - need topic ideas Hello! I'm a student studying nutrition and I have a project where I and a partner will be creating  a small family nutrition newsletter for our local parks system that has an after school and summer care program. We could use some help picking theme ideas for 6 newsletters that will be released in the summer. Each newsletter has a main article, a recipe, table talk idea for light family discussion around the table at dinner time things like ""what are your favorite and least favorite school lunches and why?"" and a nutrition buzzword like ""gluten free"" or ""keto"".

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So far we have topics like ""Kids in the kitchen"" thats focused on geting kids involved in making their own food. ""The lunch special"" focusing on getting older kids who want/need packed lunches involved in picking out good choices for themselves, and how to shop with younger children and involve them. Also a ""picky eaters"" with a main article on how to encourage kids to try new things.

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What sorts of topics would you like to see or do you think would be welcomed in a relatively lower income neighborhood? They must be food related",7.8490225563909775,9.450267043062203,7.113482570061523,70.65187799043062,62.77990430622009,10.181954887218048,37.416609706083385,10.290406445055957,4.337229391660971,968,47,143,22,14,299,130,209,0.01,0.7909999999999999,0.199,0.9898,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,3,3,3,0,6,10,0,0,16,0,16,7,0,6,1,34,24,14,0,5,2,0,0,4,1,5,0,0,1,6,8,15,7,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,11,11,23,14,6,22,0,0,1,0,25,15,0,4,10,95,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996611703970346,0.0,0.2700584851116956,0.3028617861737318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094111683182108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270617121354675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950152683218884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35245113522193866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3013898644056883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511050605616155,0.0,0.0,0.1045280719041914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353233953885814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42205345031937896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435385058038643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318698909131288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240656300221088,0.0,0.12036191432171905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522507707030099,0.09930859761212438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016745011454366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16558830343350014,0.07985354845445307,0.0,0.0,0.07266882101654981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461100830019201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10763447743072437,0.0,0.0,0.07350602349512816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245310192331524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705756662736652,0.0,0.3028617861737318,0.0
parenting,Stankyankee,2019/03/28,"Daily showers are becoming necessary but my son hates showers/baths. My 9 year old is starting to get smelly. I feel like it's early for puberty. My 13 year old son just started showing signs recently and my 11 year old son hasn't started yet but the 9 year old has clear and obvious body odor. He uses deodorant but he needs to shower everyday to keep the stank down. 

The problem is that this kid has always hated showing or taking baths. When he was younger we used to let him get away with bathing a few times a week but that isn't going to cut it anymore. Sometimes he'll go in and won't wash his body at all. He hates water in general and won't voluntarily swim. Teaching him to swim was a nightmare. He doesn't like it hitting him but doesn't like sitting in it either so that leaves us in a bind. He doesn't like lathering up his hair with shampoo or conditioner and doesn't like bar or body soap. It's like everything about the shower makes him want to get out as fast as he can. He has come out with his hair still covered in shampoo because he didn't want to wash it out. I don't know what to do about this anymore. Do we start punishing until he starts showering? It's a whole process every night to get him in the shower. The other boys shower at night too and our daughter, age 4, takes a bath every other night so he isn't being singled out for being smelly. ",3.1176015473887837,4.534649992907802,4.221856866537717,87.62454545454548,73.8936170212766,7.113088330109607,26.293359123146356,7.686295010490155,1.3443347517730495,1086,38,227,14,22,354,142,282,0.08800000000000001,0.8170000000000001,0.095,-0.4174,7,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,0,9,13,5,0,12,0,25,9,5,3,3,41,53,20,0,4,10,4,3,6,0,3,2,0,9,2,15,16,2,1,2,8,0,5,11,7,0,0,3,5,18,6,35,43,5,48,0,0,0,0,30,15,0,3,33,131,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796395647674123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18984001100179435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992402525201428,0.0,0.0,0.05834479037354761,0.10570573847670728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189414172372718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244690936770943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16128199069077004,0.0,0.08601924851663853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04839456735531578,0.06837625417675351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002105649502974,0.0,0.10879000591100048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834856220837748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507270354573614,0.0,0.0,0.052600490750193934,0.0,0.0,0.10134456910955866,0.0,0.09787140673719788,0.0,0.2805585775171921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388811288892722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096880165097272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694560386216755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017321196363176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158289828274303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450347584558988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946610370141823,0.0,0.3387251616801336,0.0,0.07643525985201081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14392614566682618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05581009592154371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512904790683172,0.16532786484882933,0.0,0.0,0.1129061450202986,0.0,0.07677392408785591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685837707197834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465400535891291
parenting,Beavercrazy,2019/03/28,"Question about nanny compensation. We are on a tight budget and have a nanny to watch our daughter. We pay her by the hour.  A few times I got out of work during lunch and have come home for 30 minutes to an hour.  For about 15 minutes of that time I will watch my daughter while the nanny doesn’t have to do Anything.  I tried to cut her pay for this time but she gets very upset.  I think she being pretty unreasonable about it.  I’m also thinking about setting up a camera and seeing if she’s not working certain times as well, for instance when The kid is napping.  ",3.24754385964912,4.7638304210526385,4.151754385964914,87.8572807017544,73.73684210526315,5.76842105263158,24.947368421052627,5.82211442006289,0.6222526315789474,444,14,89,2,9,143,78,114,0.08900000000000001,0.85,0.062,-0.0156,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,0,0,2,7,4,1,1,8,0,9,1,0,0,1,15,16,9,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,7,1,1,3,1,3,1,2,2,1,0,1,4,13,2,19,13,1,13,0,0,3,0,12,3,0,2,8,63,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075094328132373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17570781652964618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18392757879990104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155478389750807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707705257412643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21417681089414792,0.0,0.4205461046477556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21722542687343016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23918997259121744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701468751637318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736285088493093,0.0,0.0,0.4980182225950165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496528007533388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617540870692894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19197908432406205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310888524454641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Tanks4God,2019/03/28,My decisions are no longer under my control Gained some winter weight. Gonna work out. Swore off carbs. Psyched to start. Kids brought home Girl Scout cookies. I tore open that box like a mad Lunatic. Literally scared the kids. ,1.925426829268293,4.383459195121951,1.0867987804878076,96.39897865853659,103.39024390243902,4.001219512195123,22.19817073170732,5.985473137389443,0.4284853658536592,181,7,34,2,8,51,39,41,0.237,0.6579999999999999,0.105,-0.7506,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,3,1,4,2,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,3,13,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4571613835623147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088590070323725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991342194995396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080816741016433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885034759996761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.496350601548634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967398124839598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,askmydog,2019/03/28,"5 year old sleep issues My 5 year old either can't get to sleep at his bedtime.  His bedtime is at 7 p.m., and we keep to a regular routine every night: snack, bath, brush teeth and story.  The routine usually ends with him asking for more books because he's ""not tired"".

The problem is that every night he gets out of bed within minutes, sometimes to go to the bathroom or get water, but usually because he ""can't get to sleep"".  We tell him he can read in his room until he falls asleep (he's still learning how to read), but we usually can hear him doing things until 9ish and he wakes up exhausted every morning.

Does anything have something that worked for them in this type of situation? ",7.087746031746033,6.227999192592598,7.140317460317463,78.22000000000003,64.48148148148148,9.492063492063492,34.1005291005291,8.418075326091056,2.6361640211640207,541,20,103,6,7,174,86,135,0.025,0.962,0.013,-0.3861,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,3,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,8,10,6,1,0,17,16,9,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,4,8,2,1,1,4,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,11,0,20,16,2,23,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,1,13,58,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643425123277367,0.0,0.12091368146804007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576866331723993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11318465912457736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455518343496605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326918829520298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702953148031828,0.0,0.07350583336181077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14577345959759208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13499539265287572,0.0,0.11496166248188965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427501252821821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714371967791965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12375911194398186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25874623853436285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453814642885886,0.3882945749335588,0.0,0.0,0.0995708025373516,0.1279187063986932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10328958853527362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11304721640832532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08592649887730244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865514085065476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4273429944451584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415969070336892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665790156400936
parenting,lechyentel,2019/03/28,"Three year old not listening at school I have a 3.5 yo son. He goes to a montessori school, with a class of 12 others. He was doing really well there (minus the first two weeks where he was still adjusting to the new classroom) but I had my mum come up and visit me for two weeks, she's a shitty mum and I had hopes she would be a better grandparent but it was not the case, while she was here she said mean things to him, would threaten to leave when he would get upset (like a three year old does) and I made the mistake of letting her put him to bed, where she would feed into his desires and what was a good easy 7 o'clock bedtime turned into 10.30 after hours of screaming.
the first night i put him to bed again after I realised this wasnt going to get any better, he went straight to bed without any fuss, then he tried to call out to his grandma. She responded, he called out again, she responded, he called out again, she ignored him and he got upset. Not a tantrum, he didn't do anything but cry at the door. I asked her not to respond to him because it'll only encourage him to do the wrong thing and she just snapped and lost her shit.
SHe dragged out her suitcase and started screaming at me and him that she had had enough and couldn't take this anymore. I tried, desperately, to make her see reason but after 40mins of her trying to make herself to as the victim, bringing up all sorts of things I lost it and demanded she leave.
My son heard the whole thing. I tried to say that grandma had to go because she was sick, but he started saying things to me like ""When i grow up and have a baby, and he wont go to bed, im going to get my suitcase and leave.'
I tried to tell him that grandma did the wrong thing but I seriously underestimated how much he mentally was holding from the event
since then his been an absolutely terror at school, never listening to his teacher, throwing others kids toys through the fence, getting scissors and cutting up other kids work. The other kids in the class have turned against him, none of them say goodbye to him anymore and they all say to their parents 'that boy doesnt listen in class.' and its clear the teacher is trying but fed up with it.
I'm so hurt and at a loss of what to do, he was doing so well and was so happy to go to school and now he begs me not to go and he looks so cut up when he sees the other kids at school.
I tried talking to him more about it, we had a good hour long chat about it tuesday night where he told me a lot more about what he had heard and how he thinks me and his teachers will get our suitcases and leave him. On wednesday i kept him home from school and when he had a tantrum I kept saying to him 'its ok, I still love you and i'm not going to leave you' and he'd hit me and scream at me, which he doesn't do much, and i kept saying to him 'I don't like it when you hit me, it hurts, but i still love you and i'm not going to leave you' to show him that his fears aren't true. after that his been much much better at home but today, Thursday, he still acting up at school.
I really cant describe how upset I am for him, that i didnt protect him from my mum's bizarre behavior and how its affecting his likeability at school. The teacher's trying to work with me, but by the sounds of it she doesn't have any experience dealing with badly behaving kids as she has always been at pleasant montessori schools.
What can I do to help him when his at school? How do I unfuck this?
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parenting,Carlyarly44,2019/03/28,"Fatherless child My daughter is 11 and has never met her father. He left when she was a baby. I've sent him pictures and letters throughout the years, but he has choosen not to be apart of her life. He now is married with other children. My daughter is getting older now and asking questions, but I'm not sure how to answer them without hurting her. How do I explain to her that he wants nothing to do with her? How do I tell her she has siblings? What age is a good age to tell her? Any advice would be great. (I am single and have not dated anyone since she was born so she has no father figure in her life.)",1.6386533333333304,3.655212112000002,3.0101000000000013,92.03488333333335,79.88,4.486666666666667,23.21666666666667,4.7782277997778095,0.14410666666666705,474,16,97,1,12,154,77,125,0.043,0.86,0.098,0.8515,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,0,3,0,18,2,0,3,2,23,25,11,0,2,6,4,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,6,0,0,4,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,4,0,19,3,10,18,1,14,0,1,0,0,32,3,0,1,10,72,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248366390230689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564658569180696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088095342136427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21509864534329756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12021004436990115,0.0,0.0,0.19298458762806653,0.0,0.2536697954665177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24631101407359726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499882924861459,0.0,0.3250320266905744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745592565639046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22077299851717805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577481324731245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903288927358032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21685262096278726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022092920177716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357102391153688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217939660775312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634459569546557,0.0,0.0,0.14816735447871932
parenting,bassface69,2019/03/28,"How can I help my 12 year old get the proper technique for studying efficiently? School’s become a lot harder lately, and he’s just staring at his books during study time. How do I give him the tools to store knowledge efficiently? ",5.813787878787878,7.0376152272727275,5.952727272727272,78.50742424242426,67.18181818181819,7.684848484848485,28.303030303030305,7.793537801064563,1.7729484848484849,186,6,33,2,3,59,39,44,0.0,0.81,0.19,0.8156,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,3,4,1,5,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,1,4,18,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970391198661708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18782372974715075,0.3448648230197582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409650380103136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4055312648159083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305633747289209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37723440917429946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638328393897429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096271374067272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315059884623861
parenting,0Square,2019/03/28,"What is the best part in Parenting? New father here. I am enjoying best days of my life. It's very magical feeling. I do not have words to describe.  


Whats the best part you enjoy in parenting? Is it you taken away by unconditional love? Or is it watching your little on learning things in most cutest way possible?",1.1077413479052822,3.7388276065573782,3.1090710382513684,84.84408014571952,92.60655737704916,6.645537340619308,23.171220400728608,7.793537801064563,1.7682444444444452,248,10,47,6,9,83,47,61,0.0,0.618,0.382,0.9852,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,3,1,6,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,6,6,8,8,6,9,0,0,1,1,7,6,0,2,2,37,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961113168534246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6018654524038917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232892630595966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666163170243644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350294934991556,0.0,0.1916032275609303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725389879687309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463381845222326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4245447974712715,0.4140383991120567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155161996246064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700529451630554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577358187271769,0.0,0.15174237474004995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IShouldvKillMyself,2019/03/28,"I tneed some advice about having a baby as a teenager and not knowing what to do I (17 year old male) have been friends with a family friend (21 year old female) since I was 6 or 7 years old. Our families are now super close and they always come during family gatherings and on the holidays. I didn’t really want to sleep with her, I was into her younger sister who’s 18 and I was trying to get in a relationship with her sister.  but her older sister came onto me really hard and she asked me if I wanted to sleep with her (I was 16 at the time). 

I fucked up obviously and I slept with her 2 times in the span of a month (with protection). She messaged me this past weekend about wanting to hook up again and she and I had sex on Monday. She said she was on birth control since December and that we could try it without a condom. We did and I didn’t cum inside her so I thought it was fine. 

she messaged me that she was throwing up when she ate food and that she has been feelings sick. She told me she was going to take a pregnancy test tomorrow with her friend and I am nervous out of my mind. I’m talking with her about it because I am graduating high school next month, I just accepted into the university I wanted to go to and start this fall, and I am barely building my life.

She told me she wasn’t 100% sure if she was just sick or pregnant but it’s been eating at me these past few hours and I am scared for my life. What would happen with my future? School? My mom would kill me. Would any other girls even want to date me knowing I slept with a close family friend and that her kid is my kid? Wtf do I do?! 

TL;DR I think I got my childhood friend pregnant and I an freaking out about  the situation",1.941721944570652,3.6442555774647896,3.5679600181735616,89.87865515674694,77.73239436619718,6.608814175374827,21.310767832803272,7.4822170145007005,0.6190899591094952,1330,35,291,18,31,442,176,355,0.11,0.802,0.08800000000000001,-0.9428,0,0,0,0,0,1,31.0,3,0,1,2,11,14,2,2,14,0,33,14,4,1,2,67,61,26,1,11,10,4,2,0,5,3,4,1,0,4,15,37,3,2,6,2,0,6,5,5,0,0,26,3,68,9,43,31,2,51,0,0,0,3,51,19,1,5,26,206,83,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087467180704972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738017020679201,0.0,0.0,0.06324050856755373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693876090056461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668953393919219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063627161832594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010786973195316,0.0,0.0,0.1043029869209972,0.07424978533903655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515818406133317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142301939462379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506736290504553,0.0,0.0470216012603163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11245120275000814,0.0,0.35924261951147785,0.08597335731570811,0.04858660215475295,0.0,0.10570360597495083,0.0,0.07437744311863749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223610716915591,0.0,0.08330620188727042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825544135856684,0.0,0.0,0.0915823847277787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288635991988217,0.0,0.10221640309305896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137173229695706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389950861673528,0.10891585944564908,0.14845713289109716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890236294556358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29275115847676353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17755052060894036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11915131240542612,0.0,0.0,0.09984296373646576,0.0,0.0,0.08846054726039189,0.0,0.0931052775823978,0.1882339515040083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538546007262691,0.10453146583333826,0.18612643774342946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582308866373161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764768431923545,0.0,0.06992146228719541,0.07474670897771096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958811909794155,0.0,0.07382848247462144,0.10845349881755173,0.0,0.0,0.17772343779579847,0.0,0.12627643823403822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27425742294608874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964488156225972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818519473936186,0.0,0.0,0.17965923751498838
parenting,KAH82,2019/03/28,"12yo sharing my bed? My husbands work takes him out of state five nights a week. My son and I are home alone all week.. is it strange to let him sleep in my bed on the nights his dad is gone? I have a cali-king and he goes to sleep way before I come to bed. I probably wouldn’t let him if his bedroom weren’t on the other side of the house. I just feel better knowing he is near me. I don’t baby him at all and he is a completely normal pre-teen. IDK, thoughts?",0.4907843137254915,1.8798041568627468,2.133921568627453,99.94931372549021,80.9607843137255,5.31764705882353,19.176470588235293,5.82211442006289,-0.5007529411764708,352,8,91,2,9,115,66,102,0.071,0.87,0.06,0.2601,1,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,6,0,11,2,2,0,2,14,17,4,0,3,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,1,17,2,11,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,1,4,55,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028120014281413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662966050375408,0.0,0.0,0.1731881899092364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16868286980720626,0.20531510099642705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901322641658657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19642491541241136,0.0,0.0,0.2259517017909109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761836678968563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004814707333289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3675303960667103,0.19186347811957286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111286805979532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3919258091696667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723338617274315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554603853404271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15543397977574575,0.31415236643357336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14256037304821215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,certifiedxan,2019/03/28,"Help With Diapers And Whipes til Friday 
I feel ashamed for even asking but i can't start my job until my backround check comes back in a few days as to start my job ive tried posting my sons old carseat on market place to trade,sell for diapers,old clothes everything,Would anyone be kind enough to help out even 20$ is enough for even a pack of whipes and food til 3rd My resource available near me are not are not open until Friday. I feel so ashamed, please do not judge me.i am in the usa. Please pm me if you can help.",4.245072083879425,4.6317405321100935,4.12322411533421,93.23550458715596,70.28440366972478,7.32948885976409,25.66317169069462,6.868970318607317,0.7200107470511141,414,11,95,3,7,126,75,109,0.053,0.775,0.171,0.9283,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,13,15,10,0,1,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,0,2,12,1,18,14,3,18,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,1,9,56,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485370559132957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355998308045962,0.0,0.0,0.12630502483621212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14149457610420696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593346026999093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33944689342080875,0.0,0.3254745428144669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661085623755053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19862262370427275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3302980173420396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260034056164949,0.0,0.0,0.17105046208185368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447243590530999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716156846601759,0.3606140917367569,0.0,0.0,0.15731470782426854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23252671827395635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152107252171388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668487425603648,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kings16104,2019/03/28,"Make a free map of stars on the date when your child was born Hi all, i stumbled upon this website where you can make a free map of the stars based on the date and location where you child was born. They sent me an HD image which i printed at a local fedex store and framed it looks amazing.  I found them in google under ""twinkle star maps"". I framed mine in our bedroom where i can see it every morning when i wake up",2.4332512315270947,3.851155379310349,2.955993431855504,96.00620689655176,75.66666666666667,5.4311986863711015,21.623973727422005,5.288315135182226,-0.16326469622331752,326,8,74,1,7,101,59,87,0.0,0.878,0.122,0.8859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,3,2,0,5,3,0,0,7,0,4,1,1,2,1,6,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,14,5,10,6,1,22,0,0,2,0,10,15,0,0,6,47,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755025859815633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4886624664846698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3742569233387149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5949864954053334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551473319463294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ladybullis,2019/03/28,"Danish doin it right, again So often when my two-year-old is napping in the car seat and I have a quick errand to run I long for the days when you could leave your child in the car, windows cracked and pop in to a Trader Joe’s for a pint of salsa. We’re talking 3 minutes tops yet I’m sure some doogooder would call the cops and smash my window out to free my sleeping beauty. I imagine I could get away with this if I lived in the country. 
Amiright people? 

Concerned citizens will be happy to know I order most of my groceries delivered 😹 ",1.5336769480519483,3.6052370267857192,2.8148376623376627,93.016525974026,80.51785714285714,5.144155844155844,22.68181818181818,6.11248444174946,0.33927499999999977,425,14,90,3,11,137,84,112,0.011,0.836,0.152,0.9451,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,1,7,3,0,0,8,0,7,1,1,0,1,15,10,7,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,5,0,0,2,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,4,15,5,2,19,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,4,7,57,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348551905834901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552474781660806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991616594804963,0.0,0.0,0.16121007145306324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059908965429404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660978798127617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737706074990444,0.0,0.0,0.26468230293432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220728227890186,0.22121572243560866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26230162978214605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329783236671553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21347314787123498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501506819973273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355939142634473,0.0,0.0,0.2009165431254294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24418452085501105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757162721169134,0.0,0.0,0.1609725852181028
parenting,marinasacpd,2019/03/28,"My shy toddler is starting school Help!! My kid (4 yo) boy is starting transitional kindergarten soon and he's been really stressing out about it. He's really shy and I'm trying to prepare him for school by saying hell meet a lot of friends and it will be fun. But it does the opposite. The more he thinks about it, the more he's stressed. What do I do?. I'm expecting a storm when the school starts.",1.2703703703703724,3.632626160493828,2.487901234567904,93.25555555555556,83.69135802469137,6.0691358024691375,22.58024691358025,7.3871296695380915,0.8404172839506168,313,11,68,5,9,100,54,81,0.165,0.732,0.103,-0.6763,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,2,6,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,13,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,4,2,7,10,3,6,1,0,0,0,11,1,1,1,5,38,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17623763750551205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555933185184849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498738867103768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712144706841178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580310227138938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601533124797962,0.0,0.6114519181810312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42763437204028254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613828447392994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290425006828457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673050612874696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,barneybear09,2019/03/28,"4.5yr old has failed potty training... what do I do next? My 4.5 yr old son has been the most complete failure at potty training. He continues to poop and pee himself on almost a daily basis at daycare and there does not seem to be anything my wife and I can do to change it. I'm the stern one, she's the nice one and we've tried everything we could, but nothing is getting through to him when it comes to potty training. He does not care if he pees himself or if there is a load of poop in his pants and he always waits to the last second possible, which causes him to have an accident. In daycare, he refuses to stop playing to go to the toilet... and ends up having an accident, sometimes multiple times in the same day. At home if we tell him to go when he obviously needs to, he denies and throws a fit and keeps doing his thing (it could be playing.. or literally just sitting and staring at the wall), like hes in total denial that he's about to poop.   

I'm fairly certain at this point he has major fear of missing out or losing a toy (cause someone else takes it) if he has to stop to go to the bathroom. We've tried making the punishment worse by forcing long time outs or taking away toys for weeks, but he'll just find something in his own imagination to play with. He can literally make a toy out of anything to amuse himself. Doctors have said that he may not even know what it feels like down there cause he is so use to holding it in that his muscles are all screwed up. That combined with what I can only assume is ADHD has made it a two poop punch to us. The boy can not concentrate on anything we tell him to do and the slightest thing distracts him. He's like a dog chasing a squirrel. What can I do now? Is this pretty much mental and he needs to learn to focus? What kind of doctor do I need to take him to see to correct this before real school starts this fall? I do not want to put him on ADHD medication and I doubt my wife will even entertain that idea, but I'm at my poops end.

In contrast, we have a 2.5 year old daughter who is more potty trained than he is. It took 2-3 weeks, but she is pretty much reliable. She knows when to go, goes when we ask her, and has no issues patiently trying for several minutes until she poops (this is why I suspect the son is ADHD). She's like the perfect pooping child.",4.183589553246051,4.631170031380755,5.136519098393844,85.6998360102578,70.44351464435147,7.674018086111487,28.390066135780806,7.4822170145007005,1.4939738696180314,1817,62,383,18,31,596,235,478,0.119,0.79,0.091,-0.9316,0,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,6,0,0,3,14,22,2,3,24,0,42,13,9,7,6,84,76,31,0,10,19,5,1,4,0,3,3,1,1,2,27,24,0,6,10,8,0,9,6,8,0,4,4,4,39,14,64,65,9,60,0,3,2,1,57,26,1,14,28,251,66,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.299721005907973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324343393227113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691714401576987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20522856233895045,0.0,0.07771602570719123,0.0,0.07810407238694912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07073814199819169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475733594588993,0.2561945267555329,0.0879413065504882,0.07160977680090637,0.08716100557818225,0.0,0.0,0.13274627258057736,0.0,0.0,0.05361245395084927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701756822150357,0.14549655210871004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944507119922587,0.0,0.14725833293028975,0.0,0.0,0.10981414744904393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471255422547947,0.0,0.0,0.09354520100081744,0.04203340298948642,0.05938862157029569,0.0,0.0,0.0759799958260547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043432383702852274,0.0,0.1889804748583377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338691632941846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384449355261043,0.0,0.08676690080382943,0.0,0.07389042669373615,0.0,0.08656787948078283,0.09137296791660626,0.06776265332293414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245393364580954,0.0,0.0,0.0735680942597682,0.0,0.0930020407802378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866032190584296,0.11098083698450936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374548082175443,0.08377623943268045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12222132694865025,0.1849211844941888,0.0,0.0,0.08841049149493296,0.0,0.0,0.07976619285923983,0.0,0.2616952015685148,0.0,0.11266308989379695,0.06322467836660613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858542522499279,0.09371742551864397,0.0,0.1691477094994121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356936062086184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09462098861246382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07907637621870194,0.0,0.0,0.08413275311562839,0.06624444160765015,0.07567910900834347,0.0,0.09391408078171973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07043641133719164,0.06399810969053865,0.08221843346601919,0.0,0.05884036990782637,0.0,0.0,0.13900205204996158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875119257845596,0.0,0.14531987232293522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045674756735398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694841305341108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236131761017977,0.16932095911569398,0.0,0.08120665949621546,0.0,0.0999960518488278,0.07179827352892805,0.0,0.0,0.04903266784868067,0.0,0.13336494018329584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750125681268175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471733225740835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353347489128422
parenting,undetermined_unicorn,2019/03/29,"Grandparent trying to parent my child... help? My mother, mid-sixties, is over-involved in my daughter’s [10] life. I’ve tried setting boundaries around my personal life with her (I spend zero time with her outside of transporting my daughter to & fro her house) and would prefer my daughter didn’t spend as much time with her, but they’re close & daughter enjoys their time together when she’s not complaining about gma controlling her every move.

I got a text tonight asking how “we” were going to manage my “getting too obese” daughter who is six pounds overweight. She is in the 91st percentile for her height/age.  She is medium-active but a grazer/snacker like her father. 

Her father, (we’re divorced), other grandmother, & I are obese, but I’ve set a better example by not having sugary drinks or unhealthy snacks in the house. Also, I’m dieting have lost 20 pounds & plan to lose more. And I had a good track record of being physically active until the last year or so. They do not set a good example & are likely big enablers of bad eating habits. 

So basically I feel like she’s blaming me with this “we” talk when I’m not guilty. And also fretting about something that is none of her business. She has a long history of undermining my parenting and my child’s fathers parenting as well. 

How do I tell my mother that this requires zero intervention on her part? And that if she starts her historic patterns if shaming, manipulative behaviors & comments, that I will restrict her time with my daughter? I don’t want my child absorbing grandmothers shittyness. 

Clearly I want to be “nice” and “respectful” but also get a clear message across for her to butt out. 

Thanks. 
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parenting,katiehittjhc,2019/03/29,Mental Health I am bipolar depressive and just found out I’m pregnant. Does anyone know which bipolar meds (if any) are pregnancy safe ?,3.96125,7.20510929166667,3.7550000000000026,82.39000000000001,81.08333333333334,6.533333333333335,28.83333333333333,7.793537801064563,2.4609333333333336,109,5,17,2,3,33,22,24,0.102,0.784,0.114,0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,7,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,8,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509622140702182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580437743264005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178565992248791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229524268040653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046371156496871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922759504690034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028166393311491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4099240993446358,0.0,0.37190901696539796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bradleycarter0332,2019/03/29,"I haven’t seen my kids in 8 years and I did not expect this at all... Hello, I’m a mother of two boys and one girl. Ages 15, 11, and 9. 

My husband and I split eight years ago when my oldest son was eight. He’s now 15 and a lot has changed. 

Back when we got divorced, my husband and I didn’t get along very well at all and we decided to just split up. He isn’t a very good father and I’m not surprised by the way are kids act. They’re starting to take after him. He’s not strict at all, he lets my oldest son do what he wants and gets away with it. 

Anyways, he won custody of our children eight years ago. I was very upset and cried every day, in hopes that I would get my kids back but I never did :(. 
They came for visits every now and then until my husband cut of all contact between me and my children and he moved away to California. We lived in Mississippi at the time. So I never saw them again. 
(He cut off all contact when my oldest son was 9) 

He made sure he changed all there contact information like phone numbers, emails, address. Stuff like that was changed to were I couldn’t find them. 

Now I don’t know why he cut contact but he was very pissed off every time the kids came and visited me. He didn’t like the fact that they were spending time with me and not him. I believe that’s why he cut off my contact with my kids. I have the right to see my own children. It says so in the custody papers. But he signed something on the papers to where I couldn’t be involved with my own children. 

So for years I have been searching and trying to get in contact with my children again. Just Recently, I came across my oldest sons Instagram page. (I was seeing if he had one). And man did he grow up :(. He looks like he’s 18 and not 15 by the stuff he posts. He shouldn’t even be posting stuff that he’s posting. I figured out he’s dating a girl and they’ve been together for awhile now. (Idk how long but awhile). 
He posts things about vaping, drugs, sex, etc. 
That’s stuff a 15 yr old should not be posting at all. He posted yesterday that he just fingered his girlfriend for the first time. I mean come on, I really hope that didn’t happen because I know my husband didn’t have “the talk” with him and go over this stuff. I just don’t want the girl to end up pregnant 🤦🏻‍♀️. And if he’s doing that, I know they’re already having s*x. My son also posted a picture of his junk on Instagram saying “it’s getting larger”. It made me sick. 

But unfortunately their father isn’t strict enough and doesn’t care what they do. 

My nine year old daughter also has Instagram and she’s posting pictures of her in a training bra, saying “repost this pic if you think it’s hot”. I mean, she’s nine and she shouldn’t be on Instagram at all! Nor should she be posting pictures of herself half naked. 
She is coated in makeup and she takes pictures of herself in really short skirts and she even wears very sexy bikinis that are not for children. 

Oh and my 11 yr old son is following in my 15 yr old sons footsteps and it’s so sad. He hasn’t hit puberty yet but he claims he has a girlfriend as well and they touch each other in the school bathroom. His Instagram is filled up with drugs and sex posts. 
He’ll post a picture of what it looks like cocaine and say “I’m so high asf today”. And he’ll post “time to f my b****. 

I feel really disappointed that I wasn’t in their lives to help them through this and they think posting this stuff is so cool and they will fit in but it’s actually disgusting to watch. 

Any advice? Should I get on my Instagram and contact my oldest son or should I just not talk to them? I mean, I’ve been waiting for years to get in contact with them and then I find them and...
I just want to talk to them again. But I’m afraid if I do, they will tell my husband and then I’ll really be in trouble. 

If you can’t see, they really need someone in their life right now. I would be willing to do it since my husband doesn’t have anything to do with them. 

I found my husbands Facebook page and all he posts is how he’s been at multiple bars and str*p clubs and he brought my oldest son in a bar! I have no clue how he got away with it. He’s not strict at all and doesn’t seem to parent them like he should. He never showed any signs of being a good parent. (But that’s just my opinion). How did he bring my oldest son to a bar? 

I need help please! Do I contact my husband or my oldest son? Should I get the police involved before this gets worse? I need to know. 
I’m very upset and worried. 
Any advice on what to do would be great! Thank you! 
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parenting,Pink_Raku,2019/03/29,"My children interrupting me is driving me nuts. I am so frustrated with my children constantly interrupting me. I have a 5 and 7 year old. I feel like I have tried to correct this for years but it continues to be a problem. 

I think what is more frustrating is the other adults that I am speaking to will completely stop listening to me and turn to my children and give them their  full attention. How can I teach my kids that interrupting is disrespectful if everyone else condones it?

My husband gets frustrated with me because I get so frustrated I just stop talking.  But I'm with them all day, so by the evening when he is home every sentence I have spoken has been interrupted by a need, want, whine, or a scream.  

How have you taught your kids to not interrupt?  Am I expecting too much from a 5 and 7 year old? 

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parenting,MableXeno,2019/03/29,"Can you help r/Parenting?? # Hey folks! 

A little while ago the mods talked about creating a resource for r/Parenting. It would serve two purposes. **First**, for our parents - when you're really struggling and don't know where to turn a couple of good options to call, email, etc. Our community has rallied in the past for folks in need looking for local resources. **Second** \- for the not-parents that show up and really do need some kind of help but their post technically breaks the sub rules. 

*If you've peeked around the sub* you already know we offer a  [reading list](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/wiki/reading) and  [YouTube channel suggestions](https://www.reddit.com/comments/215grh). The ""**Parenting Resource**"" would expand this idea a little bit. A good example was when someone posted that they were thinking of ending their life [and people in comments](https://np.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/9agkpp/i_want_to_give_my_baby_up_and_kill_myself/e4vadyq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x) provided links and resources to the OP. As a mod, I was able to grab the most helpful bits and sticky them for the OP's use.

**While sourcing every post like this certainly helps, I'd like to be able to provide this information in a single click as our sub approaches one million subscribers.** 

*We've had a huge spike in subscribers* in the last month or so - which means more people than ever are visiting the sub and that means more people with parenting issues that sometimes need more help than an upvote. And because it's the internet we never know when that help is genuinely needed or just a prank. A tangible resource would help the people that really need help and prevent others from wasting their time with a potential troll, too. And once the resource is in place - those posts that don't really belong here but obviously are looking for some help can use the resource. 

**So** \- what are we looking for from you? Links!

* General child care. 
* Care specific to an age or stage (age: newborn, tween, college students - stage: teething, puberty, learning to drive).
* Child/family welfare - something general like [this](https://www.childwelfare.gov/organizations/?CWIGFunctionsaction=rols:main.dspList&rolType=Custom&RS_ID=%205) or maybe something specific to your local area, state, or even religion. 
* Mental health resources (PPD, grief counseling).
* Special needs or early intervention. 

*It's certainly not a comprehensive list.* For example, as a former military spouse, I have a ton of resources for military families. Links to videos that help kids cope with deployment, official government websites, charities, etc. We've also had discussions about bone marrow and organ donation - every country [has its own database](https://np.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/9dbf8l/your_child_has_cancer_is_no_longer_the_worst/e5gxkla?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x). Also, subs relevant to a specific issue (I use the resources from the r/SuicideWatch sub all the time, it's been an amazing community resource) that better fit someone's needs.

And this is important - **I WANT OUR INTERNATIONAL COMMUNITY** to share as well!

What kinds of links?

* YouTube
* Official websites
* Unofficial, but ""trusted"" sites (like Kellymom)
* Government websites
* Other types of websites I haven't listed, but have sound, helpful information that can be verified
* But NOT: Amazon/retail links

I'm not sure how long to keep this up. We can play it by ear and see how it goes. **Cheers!**",5.865718489161111,9.604543632058293,4.667046578194121,72.34760403530898,87.17850637522768,7.877667687503754,29.165936067575412,8.315366998970973,3.514112816509538,2830,127,380,75,91,833,279,549,0.025,0.778,0.197,0.9984,9,0,2,0,0,1,221.0,8,4,5,2,19,23,0,1,37,0,29,5,3,5,7,83,55,40,1,12,16,4,1,4,0,3,2,2,0,3,28,21,0,2,15,5,1,3,7,2,1,5,6,8,22,21,54,44,14,51,0,1,5,0,45,20,0,11,24,234,50,7,0.12157437145919285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388417246037513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708017102173827,0.09722298093230593,0.0,0.2634515613655992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05411348293111055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037055304214502455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053761325959576514,0.13272772614729228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062070513044719965,0.0,0.12395317420976495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725986481904755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053839403963807896,0.0,0.13558756091073867,0.040149362876795984,0.05498548962448056,0.10243165141401553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11460949756974995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051705549128446514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10197081472298547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461393589360671,0.0,0.0,0.44818806181232895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06862133364703732,0.0,0.12689205779007262,0.0,0.05403044367893845,0.0,0.12660099950642384,0.10022114266422603,0.04954966952722438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04293578697146798,0.11879019387251695,0.12184945893547695,0.0,0.053794746509512346,0.1531377791067812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06106889841846145,0.13243013126733133,0.0,0.0,0.06125918591676535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048519751705783855,0.0,0.0,0.3155104959080349,0.046882825045796564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473636892289315,0.04119097023510628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33748488037144125,0.0,0.05802824699233473,0.16856872305772064,0.0,0.06350967119445874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328692831953045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216072712106996,0.0,0.1557673108929144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04843951688302114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300957041362688,0.09359389073568046,0.060120081010885285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06354796483759276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057291203163351075,0.0,0.0,0.04885843731177851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03894997413654327,0.0,0.0,0.07089099367305238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611900259400448,0.05938024773427044,0.0,0.0,0.15750183404253995,0.0,0.0,0.03585385708499124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05465498021843531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954441801823205,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Senior_Highlight,2019/03/29,"Are we ready for kids? I am a 26F, my husband is 28M. We have been together for 10 years, married for 5. Our relationship is full of fun and adventure. We have traveled all over the US and out of the US. There are still many places we want to go.

For the past few years, our adventures have gotten lesser due to the work grind and trying to pay off debt. I work from home as an online teacher and he works in the restaurant industry. Although, I love our life, lately I have been finding myself wanting a baby. I want this because I think it could add so much value and enjoyment to our lives but at the same time I am SCARED SHITLESS because it's a big change. Neither of our parents live in the same town as us so we would essentially be doing this all on our own.

I would love to hear advice on when you knew you were ready for this in your marriage. How did it end up working out?

Any advice is appreciated!",2.8128828828828847,4.366142000000004,3.9540540540540574,88.68099099099098,74.94594594594594,6.663063063063063,24.76576576576577,7.3011,0.9673495495495492,710,23,151,8,15,231,116,185,0.04,0.805,0.155,0.9615,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,14,3,0,4,6,7,0,1,11,0,20,3,0,1,2,28,30,13,0,6,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,6,13,0,0,3,1,2,2,1,1,0,0,6,1,27,6,27,20,9,26,0,0,0,2,26,15,0,0,9,113,33,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588366457905605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006338504567216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146775030347174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010340448408884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105742144679385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730206538573695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210472814820606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526840613140141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926891456578548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328475926210415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939749729113336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935459184150856,0.0,0.0,0.23389296696246206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23906359527365434,0.0,0.0,0.13427284120168315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735825334956744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14705836465292285,0.0,0.12642846543194,0.0,0.0,0.13837106384177272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219043285353888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259501946810553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576633640422684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08486186838191766,0.0,0.0,0.07722652335347391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991771047128495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4779251474144876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343487025381095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856700627382003,0.0,0.0,0.18816240738161324,0.0,0.0,0.17057336035430484
parenting,siamese_gun,2019/03/29,"Oh god sleep training Hey all! Hoping to share my experience and get some advice or encouragement regarding our sleep situation as it is overwhelming me with guilt and sadness!

Our daughter is 9 months old and has been sleeping in bed with us pretty much since she was born, and does a glorious 11 hours snuggled up next to me (though with periodic wake-ups to nurse, which I think is mainly for comfort).

The 3 of us were getting cramped in our little double bed, plus I’m going back to work soon, so we decided it was time to transition our little sweetpea to her crib with dad leading bedtime (he’ll be doing a bit of paternity leave when I go back). 

We’re following the advice of this Sleep Sense book that was recommended to us, but holy hell i’m having a really hard time with it. My girl is extremely attached (which I love) and I’m currently sitting downstairs listening to her scream and sob while my husband does his best to comfort her. She’s not used to sleeping (even napping) alone and she’s not used to falling asleep without a nipple in her mouth so it’s a double-whammy for her.  We’re using the gentle method of going to her and offering comfort (soothing words, back rubs, etc.) every time she cries, but not removing her from her crib.

I want her to learn to fall asleep without me so she can have more restful sleep and be able to nap with dad and sitters without being totally distraught that I’m not there! But oh god the guilt, it is eating me up inside and I just want to grab her and nestle her next to me in bed again. 

Any advice on how to stay strong? Or are we going about this all wrong? I’m a FTM so could really use some advice!",4.461961147086036,5.525085115501522,5.267723007797013,82.77322981366461,70.1854103343465,8.153350072684024,27.98215937623893,8.456263369488248,1.9026747984670282,1309,45,258,20,23,426,179,329,0.09,0.769,0.141,0.9465,1,1,1,0,0,0,35.0,9,0,0,4,16,18,1,4,10,0,20,12,9,6,3,53,43,27,0,4,13,4,3,0,0,1,1,2,3,1,11,21,1,0,3,3,0,9,7,9,0,0,5,5,39,9,44,33,13,38,1,3,0,1,38,9,2,5,18,173,50,4,0.08476091911956471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313095567105027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778674965214632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764033157706981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19552774447094734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895135528283944,0.0,0.09253697079298118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767469685821148,0.0,0.09310588958670332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483497030305707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673158084597063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453083035540684,0.05598378767920551,0.0,0.07141473006669867,0.0,0.0,0.08291244324414157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856816372409718,0.0,0.192686334607185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759291347899154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08418671783361621,0.08347243154581949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974957483705233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699054169004585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650003879263484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765535697489856,0.0,0.06230902826923115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028839815063827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894232629468712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623232684507325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860003043073978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011510819087392,0.09527482443368704,0.5089327946499678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034386198230993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054311374475907975,0.08327717268027998,0.0,0.1482743207036209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.305870848092388,0.29282487871371443,0.0,0.0,0.09998837235281728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24511950399242396,0.0,0.061706958616717614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267275906524423,0.0,0.0
parenting,article13bad123,2019/03/29,"PSA to young parents. DONT let your child watch fucking youtube kids for god sakes. I was in wegmans with my dad today, and i saw this kid, sitting, almost squating in a cart, peering at his mom's phone, watching fucking youtube kids, i could see the screen. It's laced with all sorts of things that will make your kids do things or feel things. Just dont let your fucking kids watch it, please! It's a fucking cancer that needs to be stopped tbh.",3.6421915584415565,5.298249875000003,2.856038961038962,96.97727272727276,72.97727272727273,5.0285714285714285,27.34415584415585,3.1291,0.35603376623376626,351,13,75,0,7,101,63,88,0.08,0.8690000000000001,0.051,-0.54,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,0,0,1,4,4,0,3,0,9,5,0,1,1,13,18,2,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,9,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,7,8,0,9,11,1,7,0,0,6,4,14,3,4,3,3,42,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629974207606474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259707011648691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38927643456721306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397231764151189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6141332388282245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33964510083195715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108560981573995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945045872626837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314222609158912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440621143275385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230006102195756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13233997004842915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884581829457013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33099779339876884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15741932076228352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hedgeh0gHugs211,2019/03/29,"Daycare Drop Off Advice My daughter is 2.5 and up until this week she's been with my in-laws while my husband and I work. We found a great daycare that's minutes from our house and we enrolled her 3 days a week (MWF) so she can start socializing and get ajusted to an academic envoirnment. I'm hoping for some advice on how to help drop-offs go a little smoother for her. I've only ever seem her cry this hard once in her two years of life and it crushes me to pieces. I try to explain that I'm going to work and I'll only be gone for a little while. I tell her every day that she's brave, beautiful and strong. Her teachers tell me she does great during the day and the pictures I see looks like she's having a good time. 

When I pick her up she cries as soon as she sees me. Like she's reminded of how sad she was when ""she lost mommy"" that morning. The last two days she's been in a really sad mood for about an hour after picking her up. She's not interested in going to the park or anything. She just wants to go home and have a snack. Today she told me that she was ""sad at mommy and daddy"" and everywhere we went after that she kept asking if I was taking her to school bc she didn't want to go. She never says anything bad about school and despite her mood she still says she had a good day.

I just ordered her a teddy bear with a picture of us on it. I notice in a lot of the pictures her teacher sends she's clutching her bear even tho she never really had a security object before. I don't know what else to do to make this easier for her. I feel like we're breaking our sweet little daughter. Does anyone have any tips that can help make this go a little easier? ",1.8863559322033936,3.433960290960453,3.5120000000000005,90.90037288135592,77.4463276836158,6.07593220338983,20.839548022598876,6.742157984588678,0.2659825988700568,1309,32,288,12,30,435,174,354,0.081,0.775,0.14400000000000002,0.9777,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,6,0,0,4,14,20,0,0,20,0,17,2,0,6,3,42,47,25,0,4,5,3,2,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,14,17,1,2,5,0,0,9,5,5,0,2,14,8,59,13,41,32,3,52,0,4,3,0,56,15,0,6,28,187,73,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618716666512105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130512386683655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303500950035368,0.0,0.1483716160810887,0.0,0.0842781253118023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752715243257663,0.0,0.0,0.07671105079548628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19805118873103533,0.2906966144516068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778182864436405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07530879711819627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954325633292696,0.08154587940408224,0.07595530339380159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04558257286311061,0.06440321214641638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988448742689321,0.0,0.0,0.04709967915871641,0.0,0.30740609797010904,0.1512271658745849,0.0,0.19878149186877345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807567355363594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208513534901289,0.0,0.09042784830832147,0.08953933857634873,0.08877963771843103,0.10402105136029266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049544108632117466,0.0734843211067858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367564480022159,0.13212827907059846,0.361416124569026,0.0,0.0,0.07570333526496285,0.0,0.09840942644098202,0.07664234682580799,0.0,0.0,0.12035171383865174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905854884322416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263642690731137,0.0,0.0960068587057579,0.0,0.13712634730589865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550485806274005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338187270425798,0.0,0.18247332246815476,0.1436758326282582,0.08206921769933663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189662084785492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380866781799073,0.0,0.07199394460817247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677816166182148,0.0,0.15759023056674626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05256721782763335,0.0,0.08545170432643755,0.08614223394861688,0.0,0.061205964837642526,0.0,0.17612699473235213,0.0,0.10843940759596997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634566777494674,0.0,0.14462586112311696,0.0,0.0,0.08356999746616045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126061693054333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058053675084499275
parenting,HarleenQuinzel0330,2019/03/29,How to get baby adjusted to new house? My husband and I just moved into a new apartment (or shall i say are moving...)and my 7 month old is not taking it well... i cant be out of her sight or shes freaking out. She is never usually like this.  How can i help her adjust?? Im sure it will be easier when everything is set up... but even then everything is going to be new for her (long story short we have been living with my family and all of our stuff is coming out of storage and she has never seen it) ,0.1821464646464648,2.037370564814818,2.9890909090909084,91.11954545454546,84.0925925925926,6.149494949494951,17.225589225589225,7.348242739294969,0.1681740740740736,383,8,87,6,11,135,76,108,0.034,0.908,0.058,0.358,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,17,0,0,2,4,23,22,10,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,10,0,0,2,0,0,3,4,1,1,0,2,3,15,3,13,15,1,22,0,0,2,0,11,7,0,2,12,67,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805580769613595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118990274035818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298084041228305,0.0,0.17297302956240249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958631738988456,0.0,0.10427857384466743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298591542943768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21171668923878592,0.0,0.0,0.1981949439399593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964134802148242,0.0,0.16202033682342135,0.1623781706682536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14645572355043854,0.19501518038876614,0.0,0.0,0.2830293982461685,0.5316319510772263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253630952801765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459143845828802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21004606388965885,0.0,0.0,0.17293214242404176,0.0,0.1379576467839763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20208245597735505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16497476578330592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,neonnie-1,2019/03/29,"My 3 yo has 2 tumours My 4yo has 2 tumours on her brain. The left one was quite large. I found it through taking her to an ophthalmologist because her vision was quite poor and she was super clumsy. It took 4 months to get in to see her!

Anyway she did some testing and said she had a pale optic nerve, her eyes were turning inwards and her head was turning inwards to compensate for her sight so she would send a referral off to an outpatient neurologist and they would call me. Over the course of the weekend though She vomited once and kept on complaining of a stinging headache behind her forehead. So I called her back on Monday and she said take her to the ER straight away and she would fax the referral to the registrar. We were in ER for ages and they decided to do a CT scan. That’s when they found the mass on her brain. The senior specialist of paediatric oncology came to see us and said it’s unusual and she has to stay on the ward.

She had an MRI scan and it showed the tumours in more detail so they booked her in for surgery on Thursday which took 6 hours and the goal was just to relieve some pressure off her brain, not to remove it all.

She had another MRI and then she came home on Wednesday night. At this stage they know it’s a glioma so she will have to have chemo weekly for a year as well as numerous other types of therapies. On top of this I have to contend with my abusive ex partner and have to play nice for her sake. It’s exhausting and I’m lost. ",2.8919,4.606209723333336,3.7220000000000013,89.751,75.1,7.2,25.666666666666664,7.976525956113202,1.3399666666666672,1167,41,250,18,25,372,156,300,0.054000000000000006,0.877,0.069,0.3609,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,5,6,10,9,0,1,20,0,23,10,6,0,1,32,43,24,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,4,4,3,1,1,12,19,0,1,4,4,1,6,1,4,3,1,22,9,40,5,47,17,4,43,0,1,6,0,42,21,0,2,14,174,52,6,0.0,0.1347898480058105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928980134186486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688352483987396,0.08747626773066867,0.0,0.0693485065163787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38098940422727795,0.23232827092387304,0.2602277705880046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494692116025695,0.0,0.0,0.059436161527659875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675304854500748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411296838223715,0.0,0.11203305377130718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252084294416058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360318649005307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418510423564365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080406675017244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067583111282368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115324910323988,0.07708835019217733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24200064317895545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246422970090021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18130781670375404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125558774235315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710703421290958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009722523382308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177098584567947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25278843684674984,0.0,0.24748165907391115,0.0,0.0,0.13684216667631047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09125333968649424,0.0,0.10228606490153468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424406466910577,0.0,0.0,0.07325925932465774
parenting,SharkOnGames,2019/03/29,"Record number of interrupts while trying to have adult 'cuddle' time with Wife this morning.... Everyone wakes up and all piles onto Momma and Dadda's bed early this morning.  Momma was sleeping on the kids bed all night and just got into bed with me.  She wants the kids to leave so she can 'cuddle' with me (have barely seen each other for 5 days due to work/schedule, literally maybe 30 minutes a day at most).    


Our 3 kids (ages 2, 3 and 6) take some convincing to head downstairs by themselves, but eventually they head out.  We slowly begin said 'cuddling', but our open bedroom door is not enough of a safety net. :)    


So, Wife gets the idea to turn the shower on, lock the bedroom door, says that usually buys her a few minutes of privacy.  Literally not 3 seconds after closing the door our 2 year old comes knocking, calling out for Momma.  We open the door, get her to laugh, and she leaves.  She returns immediately, rinse and repeat....two more times.  Finally kids are downstairs again.  We are about to begin 'cuddling' when a few moments later, 6 year old is now at the door.  Ok, we let her in, everyone is in a good mood laughing.  Try to convince 6 year old to head back down stairs...but nope, now the 2 and 3 year are back.  

Wife: ""I guess I'm just going to take that shower""  
Me: <insert darth vader voice> ""[NoooOOOoooooooOOoooo](https://youtu.be/Tim5nU3DwIE?t=18)!""

Definitely a record number of interrupts when attempting 'cuddle' time.    


Our kids often ask if they can have a baby brother.  Never going to happen at this rate. :)

​

We'll try again tomorrow... (right, RIGHT?).    


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parenting,naab2002,2019/03/29,"I have a question as a teenager Hey, parents. I just need advice. I thought I had cancer for about 10 months. I have been to countless doctors appointments to relieve my health concerns. I went to the hospital today for my mental problems. The counselor asked about my feelings, and I told them about what my parents have said to me and what I felt. In response, my parents said they didn’t deserve what I said. They took away my ability to go to college out of state and said I HAVE TO take the pills they want me to take and go to the therapist of their choice (I don’t feel comfortable with). For some examples, my mom told me that I didn’t love her and my dad said I was insane. They take zero accountability for what they say and blame me for everything. What do I do? ",3.027232767232768,4.839163961038962,3.818311688311688,88.78647852147854,74.97402597402598,6.816383616383617,27.43056943056943,7.61054688173877,1.4779496503496499,606,24,125,8,13,193,81,154,0.08,0.831,0.08900000000000001,0.1027,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,7,0,4,4,0,0,6,0,12,5,0,0,0,18,34,7,0,3,1,5,3,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,6,8,0,0,5,0,1,4,3,1,0,1,16,9,34,3,24,18,1,10,0,0,0,1,25,3,0,2,2,91,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224310311444207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694858096406452,0.0,0.1175325211248299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804183158196716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242889889648648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265053581414995,0.0,0.12011250450087026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421907397057787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329720028914956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129047072862831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606810797391432,0.0,0.0,0.14651180986141066,0.0998510379361446,0.0,0.0,0.09275766021227984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41671543330045896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970070175265575,0.0,0.0,0.14013699756574918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5949783138294195,0.09948196217402618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821715783172642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524697669622688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931285160611501,0.0,0.0,0.11857709844594992,0.2390706244139585,0.13898709992168706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378530841747492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596594701981665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,huntingscience,2019/03/29,"My 4 year old is more extroverted than me and is fine with going up to random people and... ...she will even join in with other parents playing with their kids at the library. 

She I stop her? Should I ask if they're ok with it (even if they seem ok with it)? I don't want her to feel like she's doing something wrong so I usually just let it be and let her do whatever. She's very polite.
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parenting,HeliaxPrime,2019/03/29,"I think the mother of my child is not taking my son (4yo) to school. I’ll try to keep this as short as possible but I’ve never been here or posted here so sorry if I have the wrong flair/wrong sub. Basically, “baby mama” works night shift so is understandably tired when she has custody of my son. We split 50/50. During the past year or so I’ve noticed her telling me that she hadn’t taken him to school because he was “sick” A LOT, yet, when I or my wife go to pick him up he is completely fine. No fever, no cough, no runny nose and is acting like his usual energetic self. If I’m correct then I suspect that she is not taking him to school because she’s too tired to get up and take him real quick so she just calls the school. She also lives MAYBE two miles from his school. There have even been several occasions where she hasn’t told me that he didn’t go to school but my son will tell me that he didn’t go to “big school” that day but went to “the school with two hearts” which is his after school daycare program because I don’t get off work to pick him up til after he’s out of “big school.” I guess my question is, what do I do about this because my son is slightly behind the recommended learning curve in certain areas and him missing school is obviously not good.",4.122092245989304,4.499300875000003,4.814197860962569,88.20673796791445,70.5530303030303,7.575401069518716,24.999108734402853,7.285733465282438,0.8720100713012475,997,25,221,9,17,321,143,264,0.132,0.8170000000000001,0.051,-0.9736,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,2,17,6,0,0,7,0,23,7,2,2,4,33,40,22,0,2,12,6,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,2,9,6,0,1,5,0,0,5,12,2,0,2,9,1,35,4,28,30,1,32,0,1,0,0,36,12,0,8,15,140,44,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05865018125597269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883017268840962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488860773069282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07689586965387714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047298401888343305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048440551553865126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663452007735218,0.0,0.12504288355874665,0.06151433240343108,0.0,0.0,0.08079256736639501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690856393289942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518819490459342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0358303475950108,0.0,0.06476079525770513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06235126832611145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736801510712617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656453156157733,0.0,0.0,0.06882486795327201,0.0,0.0,0.08349837471281829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001157897918123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268012615474551,0.07023969815255236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215787847199815,0.0,0.0,0.08347727471246956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.816466869756107,0.0,0.0,0.07650988848503841,0.08285362091167163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209841917761711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542824980080606,0.0,0.12820524368823533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0469934787252471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16858768542719815,0.0,0.07007976354570943,0.0,0.04979322391345836,0.0,0.14328555900027048,0.07634979952685375,0.0,0.0,0.08077393747790225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798715790720558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678516885043142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037212733308195,0.0,0.047228724359620285
parenting,bethc824,2019/03/29,"My little pee-er My three (almost 4)year old son has been Fully potty trained for about two years now.

Recently, he has been going pee as usual but then within a few minutes says that he needs to pee again. He will return to the bathroom and have another full pee. 

I am wondering if this is something I should be concerned about (kidney stones?) or if it is just an active 3 year old not knowing his body well enough to know when he’s actually done peeing? 

Should I reach out to his doctor? Change what he is drinking(almond milk, watered down juice, and water)?
Any advice or insight  is appreciated. 
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parenting,Shad0wguy,2019/03/29,"2 year olds refusing dinner I have 2 year 3 month old twins. Lately they have been in a dont like it stage particularly when it comes to dinner. Even when it is something they used to like a lot. Only simple things like pasta and sauce will they eat without a fight. I want to enforce eat what you're given or don't eat, but I dont think they get it at that age. Do i just cave and give them something so they arent hungry or is there a better way to go about it? I dont want this to become a habit.",-0.2332121212121229,1.7113308000000025,1.9304545454545448,97.54901515151516,86.45454545454545,4.393939393939394,14.62121212121212,5.46131890053228,-1.0774242424242426,388,6,94,2,12,130,69,110,0.092,0.852,0.056,0.1238,1,0,2,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,6,1,7,5,1,0,5,0,12,6,0,1,0,14,21,8,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,3,6,1,1,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,2,0,11,4,9,18,1,15,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,12,58,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496150755762246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210088421853186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286644098868952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5251627295655802,0.0,0.0,0.4585119404296062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865393462994912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803685849552823,0.14328417091018028,0.08488736581806205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684898173971636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189160521103421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698447379771433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922142893605366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134661232423491,0.0,0.0,0.11359853773800845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22997639107585435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923122846264383,0.09570682887537256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129003090181123,0.0,0.0,0.1761982666548623,0.11855869719951592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398218082920852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19237185936864484
parenting,SnipeyMG,2019/03/29,"Trying to stop cosleeping Yeah i know its a taboo idea to start with, but when you strictly breastfeed it was easy on my wife. The question is now we are going to attempt to get him into a crib at 1.5 years old. Here for advice, dont really care if you are against co sleeping we are trying to get away from it and need ideas. We dont really want to do cry it out if possible. I had the thought of me sleeping in the same room as him with him in the crib me in a bed and then if he wakes i get him to sleep and cut my wife out of the pic? Any thought a re e appreciated!",1.2802380952380972,2.337146706349205,3.1843174603174624,94.67457142857144,77.96825396825399,6.309841269841268,22.123809523809523,6.742157984588678,0.22648190476190466,439,12,110,4,10,148,79,126,0.107,0.818,0.075,-0.4969,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,3,2,0,1,3,2,1,0,9,1,9,4,4,0,0,26,20,10,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,11,0,2,6,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,16,1,24,16,1,18,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,4,7,74,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572188749580004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836827428927027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14972121588376314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247515660921755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504626195960715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3735306056679529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497724804093992,0.0,0.0905662970232303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597894770219585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757847982372505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816125049138905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672184414647396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17965115607072993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851639244222234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2041764431872788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4784164765923462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279375654069235,0.0,0.0,0.1332296486420848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530234313540987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21638598431258144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399293050890724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262073034421272
parenting,kstrike155,2019/03/29,"How important do you think a neighborhood is? I grew up on a cul-de-sac with a bunch of kids to play with. Those were great times, with very fond memories knocking on friends’ doors, playing street hockey, etc.

My wife and I are looking at building a new home in a new neighborhood with lots of young families. It’s *very* expensive. Our current home is on a busy road with no young families.

I feel like that experience with other children was valuable from a growth perspective. How much is a “neighborhood” worth to you?
How important do you think it is?",3.4225714285714304,5.85273968571429,3.9011904761904788,85.79464285714288,75.95238095238095,8.390476190476189,28.595238095238088,9.120678840339163,2.6075523809523804,437,19,85,11,10,137,69,105,0.02,0.741,0.238,0.9663,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,3,0,0,3,7,0,0,8,0,9,0,0,3,0,14,13,4,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,5,7,0,0,3,3,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,7,17,11,4,16,0,0,1,0,8,8,0,1,7,56,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325371336148252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20395697171501465,0.3931181278118875,0.0,0.1054259135722634,0.14895533645971767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108971341243436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298764534908789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41829312921448253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018645478948087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509089065121752,0.0,0.0,0.1772626888942503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327446905498798,0.0,0.0,0.4027490255199247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672019550833589,0.0,0.0,0.12158038950704875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34407535853675025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ProudMobile,2019/03/29,"How much, if any, say should a parent have in their child's major in college? I thought the answer was none but my sister m recently asked me ""Do you really plan on letting him major in that?"" when I told her my son's college plans. 

How much say should parents have? Do you only plan to pay for specific majors? I thought my job was to be someone he bounced different ideas off of, not the decision maker but do you step in at some point?",2.1786797752808984,4.068083089887644,3.5981882022471936,89.08020365168541,77.65168539325842,6.6971910112359545,24.608146067415728,7.6454224807358475,1.2122910112359553,341,12,71,5,8,112,64,89,0.031,0.969,0.0,-0.3736,4,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,1,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,3,0,15,15,6,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,5,2,13,0,11,6,7,11,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,2,2,50,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437953817022791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768013559008368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22092351882608105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387048493673317,0.0,0.0,0.20983460707771545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21622515521948188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108847662159013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081963634166685,0.0,0.0,0.4695873615466809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19989155869100864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546229177904054,0.0,0.20878445926870376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363120374649408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916355368036455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357403366419155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20205253052313213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kdwizard,2019/03/29,"My 8 year old cries about everything. How do I stop this? If there’s a group of kids playing and one cries, it’s mine. Always. He cries if he gets a minor injury or if he is frustrated or if he thinks something isn’t fair. He cries more than what I think is normal. His teachers have told me he cries a lot at school. I don’t want him to feel like he can’t express his emotions but I also want him to toughen up a bit. ",0.2173067632850234,1.9481780978260872,2.1205797101449297,98.06596618357487,83.23913043478261,4.958454106280193,18.917874396135264,5.82211442006289,-0.4253009661835749,323,8,79,2,9,107,62,92,0.171,0.731,0.098,-0.7506,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,17,14,10,0,7,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,1,11,2,7,13,3,5,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,7,4,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796054338515333,0.12273685889979045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610384144620269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8101424061990417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659244644242559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256893603934894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458349631057128,0.10537835917986384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706582858569022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720640103998993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540437787227818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452462090526694,0.0,0.0,0.1547827974302683,0.0,0.09995392416280588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928400831993507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355737195919445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332167156229595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890318552229291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094836215554069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17400579260757232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09498906686296213
parenting,Tigerzombie,2019/03/29,"If you live within walking distance from the school, how old does your child have to be for you to trust them to walk home by themselves? My daughter had been begging for me to let her walk home from school off and on since 2nd grade. I gave in this week, she's 8.5 and in 3rd grade. I gave her a cellphone and let her go.  She loves not having to take the bus home. Maybe when the weather gets warmer in the morning I will let her walk to school also.",3.990673758865249,4.266260053191495,3.700851063829788,96.43333333333334,70.80851063829788,6.266666666666668,24.177304964539005,3.1291,-0.03904397163120565,351,8,83,0,6,105,63,94,0.0,0.903,0.097,0.8481,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,1,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,0,6,15,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,4,0,15,2,17,6,0,14,0,0,0,1,16,6,0,1,3,55,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462953480731124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473243296100005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795599235377306,0.0,0.09567725614240673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.506606707929322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5164482292099418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865624542990635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194256139416015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913032919648846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766551375248586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5111379453889461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926096377320693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657834319652195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350403162220754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Designer_Mood,2019/03/29,"My son was punched in the face today by a kid who mistakenly thought my son was friends with kids who picked on him. I was not notified and my son had to miss afternoon recess. My 7 year old (first grade) was playing on the playground during recess. They have before school recess and lunch recess. This was before school recess. My son was/is friends with one boy a lot of kids pick on. My son was playing with one of the boys who picks on the bullied kid. The bullied kid came up to my son and asked him why he was friends with the other boy. My son said he wasn't friends with him but they needed someone else for their game. The other boy called the bullied kid a name and the bullied kid punched my son in the face without any warning. My son was sent to the nurse because his lip was bleeding. 

My son walked home from school and when he came in the door I noticed his lip. I asked what happened and he said that he was punched in the face. He's been home for an hour and still no call from the school about the incident but my son said that he, the bullied kid, and the other boy were all made to miss lunch recess. He has a note stating the he had to miss recess because he was involved in an altercation but they said my son wasn't at fault. We know the bullied kid and I asked his mom what her son's story was. She said that her son got mad and hit without thinking. He's not suspended. 

Am I wrong for being pissed about this situation? I didn't get any call to explain what happened from the school, my son was punished for being punched, and the other kid isn't being disciplined beyond lunch detention for punching my son. Am I too into mama bear mode?",3.5429289940828426,4.747371316568048,3.8916757396449695,91.24178579881658,72.52071005917159,6.47308875739645,26.241893491124266,6.55674776486733,0.8322599763313612,1307,43,281,9,25,407,135,338,0.14800000000000002,0.79,0.062,-0.9897,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,4,1,6,14,3,0,27,0,28,10,6,4,1,40,53,15,0,1,7,17,0,0,4,0,1,5,3,15,15,20,3,1,4,3,0,4,9,8,0,3,31,5,36,6,39,18,2,26,0,3,0,0,80,13,1,1,8,170,51,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642955123532545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607101549603846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11333293324192288,0.0,0.15820119290404175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28476220045857764,0.2126388730864684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765466263804678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790702123735064,0.0,0.0,0.2872771531931771,0.0,0.04856683196904536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434717848193316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16440528958792794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18648934313599516,0.0,0.09154511929506033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05108740530660026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902975235688962,0.0,0.08795931309616811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887154091600826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892734045553743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058335468212655,0.0975440120796996,0.0,0.12598178799995624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421227606122041,0.0,0.0,0.4703933948934471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448893134028543,0.0,0.0,0.07876319608244972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742365526268515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059563872327673885,0.0,0.07379844121336214,0.0,0.0,0.08811352093303176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388033262706839,0.0,0.0,0.17921680902286916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163521808243113,0.0,0.05986204435731595
parenting,livingsinglexo,2019/03/29,"Disciplining a toddler My toddler who’s 2 now has become very disruptive. They tear and break and hit people. part of me wonders if they get what they’re doing is wrong, we can otherwise communicate well enough, so it makes me think yes.

I want this to stop, so I’ve started timeouts about 2 mins, but I don’t think they really get it. Do you time out your toddler and if not what do you do and if so how do you do it?

Thanks in advance",1.2751159951159965,3.3062693076923075,3.0060805860805893,91.51947496947498,81.19780219780219,6.242246642246642,22.1990231990232,7.3871296695380915,0.7155777777777774,341,11,76,5,9,113,63,91,0.061,0.8440000000000001,0.095,0.4503,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,4,3,1,7,3,0,0,1,1,10,0,0,2,0,19,20,12,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,2,3,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,13,2,5,19,2,9,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,4,5,53,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938396766384272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749085855453522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27800819240446084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759549011105386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881144149677937,0.0,0.18445081528291413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044328845504225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831691337045334,0.0,0.0,0.22243603698628453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24495005920491364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34095788848201863,0.0,0.0,0.1551403052953426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952535431259307,0.1569276447113912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392177024941925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28852807917869794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29089218009668394,0.0,0.0
parenting,RealisticStar,2019/03/29,"How to deal with losing a child. My son passed away almost a week ago after suffering from worsening seizures over the past month. I feel like my worlds just been torn apart. I can't focus at all, I have moments where I can't even breathe, I just want to scream and curse and cry. But I can't, I have another little baby who needs me to be strong for him. It's just so HARD. It's worse than any pain I've ever felt and I don't know where to go from here. Moving forward feels IMPOSSIBLE right now and I'm facing it all alone. I'm just at a complete loss. ",0.28499030381383506,2.36172409243698,1.862352941176472,98.01443438914028,85.38655462184875,5.006076276664512,16.71687136393019,6.297961479604792,-0.5434685197155789,433,9,103,4,13,140,83,119,0.27,0.6729999999999999,0.057,-0.9768,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,3,12,7,0,0,4,0,8,3,2,1,3,21,17,7,0,2,5,1,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,4,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,2,5,12,2,14,14,2,22,0,3,0,0,5,11,0,1,10,61,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831488486245952,0.0,0.2068918209129348,0.2139874603912844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405030738598164,0.21665043289823646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941185387666612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166284871350285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22695330376254405,0.0,0.21300764020144136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646511114750182,0.1868921550792826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893821585345976,0.147603474265426,0.19837967941272386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742221792605312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508354378973488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354841349929685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094006385475657,0.2070792506461287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23114569710444255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16491552629856768,0.2195955906014653,0.0,0.15319999339330342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984946739799946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972342923548676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644530413711293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186496227061505,0.0,0.16573148185427045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105550228487928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Adviceseeker32h,2019/03/29,"Need advice on child custody Hello..

So here goes. Legally, my ex and I have shared custody of our now 12 year old son. For 3 years now he renounced  to having him half the time and only see's him every other weekend. He has never truly cared about our son  and often gave up some weekends he could have had with him to either work or go out with his friends. He doesnt feed him properly, sleeps all the time when  he is with him or ignores him and plays video games. 
He has disappointed  my son many times ie: anot taking him during he holidays  because he wanted to attend adult parties. 

He now suddenly announced to my son that he was having a baby. My son, low and behold, has never even met the mother (ex's new girlfriend) yet they are already  4 months along in the pregnancy.  

Now, he is asking to take our son half the time again...  this is his third girlfriend in 3 years and every time he meets a girl he acts like he cares about our son and then when the relation fails he stops caring. 

My son loves his father and does not see the bad side of things. 

Now for deeper set reasons that i will not disclose  right now , i really do not want to lose my son even if only half the time. 

But i know he is old enough  to be heard in court and i also wouldn't want to stop him from seeing his dad more if that is truly what he wants.

I am also married now and have 2 other kids from this marriage. My older son is very close to his 2 siblings.. 


So what should i do... ? 
I don't want my son to end up disappointed 
I dont want to be selfish but also dont  want him to go
I also dont want it to affect my 2 other kids and our whole routine and life. 

Since i dont legally have full custody do i still have any power over this?!? 

Thank you for any help...
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parenting,bluevioletfire,2019/03/29,"Private part names??? So my son is 3 & this little ducking follows mommy everywhere. We’ve recently mastered potty training, but after learning from mommy, he does indeed sit. We’ve encouraged him to stand and the best way is distinguishing that mommy is a girl and she sits and because he is a boy and has a “pee pee” he stands. So now when following me to the bathroom he tries to catch a glimpse of my girl followed by the question “what’s that?” He also caught a full view one day and said “ewww it’s ugly”. But I’m really here just to figure out what name I should call my girl. The last thing I want him to say in public is that I have a vagina, only because he has quite a personality. So what are y’alls terms for the “special parts?”",2.6033866804336623,4.466303979865773,4.006174496644295,86.75455859576665,76.31543624161074,6.4638100154878675,24.213216313887447,7.321109707123232,1.0366041300980906,579,19,117,7,13,191,99,149,0.03,0.868,0.102,0.89,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,3,8,3,0,0,12,0,10,3,3,0,0,17,17,12,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,5,9,6,0,0,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,2,3,11,3,12,14,5,21,0,0,1,1,24,4,0,1,7,74,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17059603586603905,0.0,0.2311376980046675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26008204834639875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238715713204508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21782881718003172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375770661259199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668226592373935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388845967811584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21380783090046995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455463447428926,0.1622433803236645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620206723579374,0.0,0.0,0.18626728225445607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389729764229733,0.22689754307925705,0.0,0.0,0.13666154596898458,0.0,0.210632838136984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20292105729784715,0.16964471206092938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172374275256594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14483376573982892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582469351491693,0.16932756515565042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,awesomexsarah,2019/03/29,"UppaBaby Vista vs. City Select Lux double strollers We have a 2.5 year old and are expecting #2 in June. We are in the market for a double stroller and have narrowed it down to the UppaBaby Vista or City Select Lux. Anyone with experience have recommendations for one or the other? We are leaning towards UppaBaby because it’s slightly more light and compact and it seems to push and turn nicer (at least when I was pushing it around the store). I also like that you have the option to add a snack tray, because my toddler uses his all the time in his current stroller. Thoughts before we spend a small fortune on this stroller and associated attachments??",5.094876033057852,7.314310264462817,5.1223884297520685,79.88903719008266,70.32231404958678,7.4846280991735545,31.934710743801645,8.238735603445708,2.5407646280991742,526,24,91,8,10,164,79,121,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.7929,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,10,0,8,1,0,1,1,22,12,10,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,13,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,10,1,14,10,5,18,0,0,0,0,7,10,0,4,7,65,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407904868889353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21053693029301596,0.0,0.0,0.2680438673508825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367096941816266,0.0,0.25621490790673523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2945347088429899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471028163604156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159550141573578,0.0,0.20403393689903065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741111852433469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390406857502163,0.17557450634495628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275115960146585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600547246568499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389927345771307
parenting,lildookiesquirtt,2019/03/29,"How to deal with 1 year old always in personal space.... I am tripping balls over here Hi I basically take care of my daughter myself, her father is present but doesn’t help. I have never let anyone watch her but her father. Our family members have too many health problems/smoke so they can’t watch her.

Anyways... this child is always in my personal space. Please don’t judge unless you’ve been there. I love my baby but every person has a breaking point. I always think “oh my god can I please have my space for a sec” 

When I sit on the couch... she is there
When I sit at the table... she is there
When I go to the bathroom... she is there 
When I’m doing dishes... she is there 
When I’m feeding the dogs... she is there 

I hate to say this but I feel like she is still in my dang womb! I know she is only 1 and I’m her only caretaker but uuuugggghhhhh geeeeeez y’all I’m flippping outttttttttttttttttt 

Do I need counseling or is this normal? Maybe I just need a break from being a mom for a couple hours. ",0.2969268110530265,2.6427637038834995,1.9922330097087373,94.89113517550413,89.14563106796116,4.528454070201644,16.660941000746824,6.093298490706669,-0.45797998506348,777,18,170,7,26,253,118,206,0.026,0.8540000000000001,0.12,0.9551,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,1,1,0,18,4,1,0,9,0,24,5,1,1,1,18,38,15,0,3,8,4,1,1,0,0,1,1,1,4,3,2,2,0,3,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,4,36,3,15,35,0,27,0,0,2,2,28,10,1,1,12,113,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743173241770477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485023166870093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15288650500510328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591952122013162,0.0,0.0,0.1545943798538873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263413969543683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136181372957174,0.0,0.075820458545751,0.10712605213016364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08522142653746631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804698841303812,0.0,0.15939243018786842,0.0,0.0,0.10050995876224136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14767294644714224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240993868443305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333652810343684,0.0,0.07325918713188148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533793041152695,0.0,0.0,0.15202823682049807,0.15064737959691102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756224838102872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223756664301764,0.11565256495791915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692155195512094,0.0,0.0,0.15734985964305942,0.0,0.0,0.22809117341095256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927980564698368,0.0,0.3292054955208295,0.14175352343140332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192481978609782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975221120365105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274557205006867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608346786985532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656445410379587
parenting,Alkhan88,2019/03/29,"Learning a second language? Not sure if this is the right sub since I am fairly new to reddit but anyway I'm Swiss my wife is American,we have a 9 month old baby and live in NY. 

Recently we decided that from kindergarten onwards my son will spend summer vacations in Switzerland with his grandparents (aka my parents) and other relatives. My relatives don't speak English and the obvious thing to do is teaching the kid German however I will be joining the military soon (the US military that is) and therefore will be out of the picture for quite a while. My wife doesn't speak a single word of German and that leaves me in a bit of a dilemma as to what to do to gradually teach the kid German over the next couple years. 

The only thing I came up with so far is using the little television/computer mobile floor stand I have to tune in to German kids channels and have him watch that for an hour or so each day.",7.567,6.4352310333333325,7.87777777777778,74.20500000000004,63.66666666666666,11.111111111111114,35.0,10.25414643259724,3.448833333333333,726,27,136,14,9,239,114,180,0.021,0.979,0.0,-0.3676,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,17,0,18,0,0,2,2,23,21,13,0,1,4,4,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,9,12,0,0,2,1,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,3,14,1,23,15,3,24,0,0,1,0,13,11,0,2,11,99,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306208187924716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416038035237562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23373451119363045,0.0,0.13623318078873967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803015643079115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367406516366264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117193054142638,0.18652996245397085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16861081238712336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20401819059262508,0.2246575484586588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22166223877455613,0.0,0.0,0.16065854859253886,0.0,0.0,0.23455849565288106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22468115418703172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085753267313994,0.0,0.0,0.18039893962797887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474100915705093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990924513914369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2806787033937129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540973077294804,0.18244468322515373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603248920110753
parenting,nomadg4l,2019/03/29,My 10 year old just got into an accident! So I have a 10 year old son who is a curious fellar. I just came home after being part of a reacon task force in northern Russia. I keep alot of weapons and equipment locked away in my house as they are a part of my work and help keep my home safe. My arsenal is safely locked away in a hidden basement with 4 locks separating it and my family. Somehow my son has gotten there and accidentally flashbanged himself. This is a valuable lesson but I'm afraid he might need medical assistance. Does anyone know if an M84 stun grenade can have dangerous effects on children or is he just being dramatic?,4.6935644444444415,6.011665112000003,5.780266666666666,78.35857777777778,69.88,8.755555555555556,29.88888888888889,9.150863307647796,2.611382222222222,509,20,94,10,9,169,86,125,0.081,0.8420000000000001,0.077,-0.3699,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,3,6,6,2,1,9,0,12,1,0,1,0,24,20,9,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,7,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,0,12,3,13,14,3,13,0,0,0,0,9,7,0,5,5,64,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586138190149865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3382350664224585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2058740049078312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752071070929002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696895938229698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439638121243123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065135291879968,0.0,0.3611127860748741,0.0,0.0,0.20769780753312556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31998758345046,0.0,0.0,0.098924233167305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18133278715605064,0.0,0.19095337042509525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346898825462306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37776303326174016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898486249461768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131043389753346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23183040118538206
parenting,Trident2w,2019/03/29,"How to make the most of 1 on 1 time with kids Nearly a decade ago, I was nervous about the birth of my first child because I was afraid I'd be bad at dadding.  Now, a few kids deep I'd like to think I'm doing ok at it.

A couple months ago some of the kids expressed that they were jealous of my wife and my super rare date night (seriously maybe once every 4 months).  I thought it was a great idea since I was afraid that having a big family might mean that the kids felt that we didn't have enough time or love for them.  So we put together a rotation where we take turns taking each of the kids out 1 on 1.

I had the first 1 on 1 with my oldest (8) this week.  We went for a game of bowling.  She got a 12, and I got a 78 (yes in a full 10 frames.  I'm not an athlete).  She didn't seem frustrated or sad, but I was terrified that is how it would go if we kept bowling, so I opted to bail after that first game and we went to look for fish at a nearby lake.  I mostly listened to her and asked what she wanted to do - ""Let's go check out the bridge... let's go check out the pavilion where the fish will eat your spit""  I asked a couple times if she had anything in particular she wanted to talk about just us, but she was more interested in the fish.  Overall I think it was fine and we did what she wanted.  She said that she liked the individual time.

What can I do to make the most of the time 1 on 1 with each kid? It IS rare time, and we don't get much of it.  It'll be 2 months before the rotation comes back around to her and I. We did take a couple selfies together.  I don't think I'm looking for activities advice, maybe conversation ideas to make sure we are spending memorable time?",4.019276556776553,3.4432450851648366,5.174395604395606,88.83727106227106,70.67582417582419,8.471794871794872,25.300366300366306,7.793537801064563,0.9529135531135532,1297,29,317,14,21,432,174,364,0.039,0.885,0.076,0.8931,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,11,1,2,4,12,17,2,3,28,2,33,3,1,5,1,61,70,17,0,6,8,2,1,2,0,4,0,2,0,7,18,27,1,1,10,2,3,7,5,8,0,3,22,5,43,9,43,40,11,50,0,1,2,1,44,20,0,10,25,201,61,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103980155862383,0.16517037834523188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666689203663038,0.08293664021547778,0.17419347729685095,0.0,0.0,0.07163816716740894,0.07778891921972758,0.056792545355575715,0.0,0.07927658948110124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802534349633309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30925604344524515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533109744832902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626439378350712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849556672240515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782771086200303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945305130409971,0.0,0.0,0.2377384134007176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867488961025738,0.0,0.15884352241331487,0.0,0.14902519100890546,0.10271478857286666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103439864344284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905351367465488,0.0,0.09103146791414267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647034344897193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408508852033028,0.0,0.18656516849385607,0.0,0.18719361542243845,0.10148404386194762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883338764613178,0.0,0.0,0.22309034491587432,0.0,0.06848702615479563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742908148141701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921772998883624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365660035723772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08862129026944765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481395591791663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706708613342272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780695026264829,0.0,0.210145552926924,0.07488253236214837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908919273282256,0.0,0.07396263733568123,0.3802769996328987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133681353547748,0.0,0.0,0.11206607536218703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16485346817431612,0.0,0.07473137769403841,0.0,0.0,0.1727298560861664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618177335938775,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kelemvor33,2019/03/29,"Anyone use a Child Tracker when you go on vacation or to a crowded public place? Howdy,

We are going to a convention at the end of April that will have upwards of 30,000+ people there.  Some of the families we are going with have younger kids who don't have cell phones.  I'm looking for any ideas on some sort of Child Tracker products that we could look into for people who want to safeguard against them getting separated from their child in the crowds and then not being able to find them.

I've done some quick searching and found that most are $100+ and have monthly fees on top of that.  We really only need this for one week so I don't want to get locked into a really expensive device that only works with a long contract.

If anyone uses or has used something like this, please let me know your experiences with it.

I've thought about something as simple as TILE but those only work within a short range unless you mark something as Stolen to then get other people pinging for you.

Thanks for any information anyone has to provide.",8.069603960396037,6.952479326732671,7.476118811881187,77.44091089108912,62.66336633663367,9.862178217821782,33.071287128712875,8.548686976883017,2.508628118811881,832,26,156,9,10,260,127,202,0.022,0.912,0.066,0.5592,0,0,3,0,0,0,15.0,4,4,3,3,5,2,0,0,9,0,16,0,0,3,0,36,35,15,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,12,12,0,0,6,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,3,3,13,2,35,28,4,23,1,0,2,0,23,11,0,8,10,104,25,2,0.13105067002097462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823789906644733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27490102667554595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046332963216752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411033525225122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160719957389247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281927019325199,0.12354290848482342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197779382161037,0.0,0.0,0.1436902954592359,0.0,0.0,0.20540569850707024,0.0,0.22343734751038696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794025491130094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202202097242195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340081890509912,0.0,0.06402473774721572,0.0,0.0,0.11597571904447634,0.22009911372594285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460339451442004,0.0,0.0,0.09717241128354236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888033256242103,0.2990098197609339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27256210132300857,0.0,0.13692005745864402,0.14385428190542074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790882991925454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30266762501579897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065384974251372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403959349476158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395571062069671,0.0,0.0,0.15459416116830202,0.0,0.10512094263626813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908128971624329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,robstraightedge,2019/03/29,Keep kicking butt and being a great parent. I just wanted to write a post to say thanks for some of the advice and tips I got from this group.    I also wanted to write and say that being a parent is hard.   Are you doing the right thing?  Are we there enough?      Well we are all trying our best and I just wanted to remind you that you are doing a great job.    We all have doubts and and get stressed and were are ALL tired but we are parents and we are doing our best.     Keep raising your kids.   Keep smiling.   And just remember you are doing a great job.   To your kid or kids you are their world.      Have a good weekend!   ,1.0119323076923088,3.1362810240000023,2.0368000000000035,97.58578461538464,82.76,4.166153846153846,15.215384615384615,4.713530739802397,-1.1068276923076923,468,7,104,1,13,147,64,125,0.046,0.731,0.223,0.9812,5,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,7,7,1,2,6,10,0,2,8,0,19,2,1,0,3,33,28,12,0,3,5,3,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,4,14,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,19,8,8,24,7,4,0,0,0,1,26,2,1,3,1,82,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017206176947735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652863659771604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795930531994688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764237618333186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959715013096622,0.0,0.0,0.11173090725084303,0.1065408537645358,0.44059616477095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193307204550374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26438234824135337,0.3552116656798223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44374452007405946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757913307325927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090187978985894,0.11376130385481442,0.0,0.21186916554208826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259253273746995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264261637492588,0.0,0.0,0.0884993429789409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.153106229947884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044139577599908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23571356126343504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977251612967925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VenisPagina0,2019/03/29,"4 year old completely potty trained, except at night. Help! So my LO has been fully potty trained since 3 years old, but for the life of me can’t get him to get up at night to use the restroom. Any advise? Washing the bedding is getting so old HELP! ",1.4941176470588218,3.5496831176470636,2.7330980392156867,93.63494117647059,80.56862745098039,4.864313725490196,23.925490196078428,5.6839178017228535,0.36122431372549,193,7,41,1,5,62,39,51,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.8177,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,1,0,3,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,8,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,21,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230548173946295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21940745048039748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279926102268789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805281025878851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1478080906915562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927568249178657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6587564771450288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17310386625683788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18073536485012232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695160103612472
parenting,Reveen_,2019/03/29,"Bad day for our family, need some support. So for the past 3 weeks, my 3 year old son has been extra thirsty lately and been chugging water like crazy. Hes being peeing a lot more lately as a result.

Mom and I were a little concerned so we took him to the clinic this morning to get some labs. We got a call about 45 min later that we needed to go get checked into the hospital because his blood sugar was high and he has sugar in his urine.

They confirmed our fears, and diagnosed him with Type 1 diabetes. My head is swimming and have no idea what to expect. I feel so awful that he has to deal with this for the rest of his life and has to have daily finger pokes and insulin injections.

Anyone else have a kiddo with diabetes?",4.173513513513512,4.924885000000003,5.171189189189189,84.34813513513515,70.62162162162163,7.541621621621622,24.93513513513513,7.554174236665415,1.1797627027027022,572,15,114,6,10,188,100,148,0.098,0.867,0.035,-0.8613,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,5,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,9,1,14,14,5,1,0,23,23,11,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,5,14,3,0,2,1,1,3,1,2,0,0,6,4,16,2,17,16,6,16,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,3,10,77,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246143085656838,0.18260560579434734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14880475204001967,0.10864015998842684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198070723442997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493599477309155,0.1837351377010222,0.0,0.18088772058722585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488784368588813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680082570648251,0.20054502155664589,0.09011247630492636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622330665298184,0.0,0.10128550956857564,0.0,0.14253737433449848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18290328819223325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18829731217014656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011866539504931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4020757823670579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258807845378237,0.08706840991414436,0.17862145506381466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15151473970184468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087270007925018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642930728240031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870100203906415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17012943681698064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022399003176071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19800697665903624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295588933378922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11476667708459935
parenting,kidseduleap,2019/03/29,"How to actually learn the unknown? here is an educational article for parents on kids  experiencing the unknown 

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parenting,LunaJade13,2019/03/29,"My almost 4 year old will pee but not poop in the potty and I am so frustrated! So we are in the middle of potty training my son (3 but going on 4 in May) and we have come up on this big road block of him refusing to poop in the potty. He has successfully been peeing in the potty for almost 3 weeks now thankfully. And he knows that his poop belongs in the potty, he tells me every time he goes to the bathroom. I’ve tried every technique I could find online to find out if it would work (ex:rewards, potty books, etc) but so far nothing is helping. Either he poops in his big boy underwear or he will wait until night time when I put a pull up on him (I don’t have the energy to overnight potty train him atm with a one year old not sleeping well from teething.) 
Has anyone else dealt with this, and if so how did the breakthrough happen for your child to poop on the potty?
(Also sorry if this post is a little bit scattered, no sleep does not help the thought process lol.)",4.707089552238807,4.606557681592045,5.442997512437813,85.87255597014928,69.19900497512438,7.894029850746268,26.20273631840796,7.1686216300943375,1.0937094527363187,758,19,162,6,12,247,122,201,0.117,0.835,0.048,-0.9298,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,0,2,9,4,1,0,13,1,16,10,10,1,0,34,23,19,0,5,11,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,5,10,0,3,4,1,1,4,5,1,1,1,3,0,15,3,27,15,3,36,0,0,0,0,21,20,0,7,11,103,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022042049364593,0.0,0.0,0.12067271881205678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551107777161177,0.1546123755470997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474104601964296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12998488073787706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047941762028833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205146572516346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260555429848861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829065983469968,0.0,0.0,0.2542753935336457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27583525985209084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08575855694448095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343820798752604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022868983121196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292934895138229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15123899056088452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160713163962055,0.0,0.14479027206787154,0.0,0.3166831968594875,0.0,0.10225208733802786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14451814407212138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169371919486102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020130593061484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689174566928737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189111261481526,0.13892619330212738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11979580185608482,0.17597915356600552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244953347765898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121040915212854,0.0,0.13567502243466426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098552159433766,0.0,0.0,0.10719329236277436,0.0,0.0,0.19434615383802284
parenting,eyeslikeperidot,2019/03/29,"Please tell me I’m not the only one I have a 5 year old son, and for four years it was mostly just me and him doing everything. We are extremely close.  I now have two daughters as well (1 and 8 mos old). The past few weeks I have no idea why but I have been super emotional about anything having to do with his life pre-sisters. I had a meltdown going through his old toys, anything having to do with Thomas/trains (his obsession for 4 yrs), and even having a hard time looking at pictures. Why am I feeling so “homesick” for before them? There’s really no rhyme or reason for it and I don’t know what’s triggering it. It’s making me feel like a horrible mom since I love my daughters too. Is this normal with your first kid? ",2.129225606608156,3.874372671140943,3.5310067114093973,90.16127000516263,77.3221476510067,6.4638100154878675,22.870934434692828,7.321109707123232,0.7966712441920502,564,17,120,7,13,185,105,149,0.11,0.748,0.142,0.7094,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,1,2,8,6,0,1,6,0,17,2,0,3,0,23,25,9,0,1,4,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,10,0,0,5,1,0,1,4,2,1,4,3,4,19,4,13,22,2,13,0,1,1,1,14,2,0,2,11,84,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26161768488813364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352615011181314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17880628996840653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499022174165397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286114889993126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074782358876846,0.11355958576265948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352095445431585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033946181400092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423950938068841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794441684646083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735912799586233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122766956133222,0.0776588213471851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13348463697736965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434657490862691,0.0,0.1061056608346818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616962088617872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574503351769414,0.0,0.0,0.5003988626174853,0.0,0.10771401558745718,0.12089467806203913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174334242115065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744880865053836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183252820806236,0.16343523912431396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314916525223643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893624795232745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268965447919353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527881216512382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275064731427604,0.0,0.1429222802371194,0.0,0.2868696372550698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047274064407857
parenting,JonnyAU,2019/03/29,"How to tell my kindergarten son his ""girlfriend"" from school is in a coma. My son is the youngest in his class. He wears glasses and he likes some very traditionally non-gender appropriate things like unicorns and painted fingernails. As a result, he doesnt have a lot of friends at school.

The two friends he does have he talks about all the time. One boy who he says is his best friend and a girl who he claims is his girlfriend. After Valentines day we took the valentine from her and taped it to his bedroom door.

We learned today she was in a terrible accident where she got hanged on her swingset and is in a coma. She's been resuscitated twice already. Knowing nothing else about the situation, I have no idea if she has any chance of living or coming out of the coma. This week is spring break for us so we haven't missed her at school yet.

So how do I tell my son about it? Should I give him the full picture right now? Should I wait a bit until the medical outcome is more certain? Do I leave out details of the accident? 

If you go in for enneagram stuff, we suspect our son is a 7. So he does not like dealing with uncomfortable emotions. He will get up and walk away from difficult emotional conversations and then does not want to talk about it later. It happened the other day when we had to tell him the family we're good friends with were moving away. So if anyone has experience with that let me know.",4.1645871873929385,5.652793985611512,4.556310380267217,85.97459232613909,71.37410071942446,7.59739636861939,27.98629667694416,8.11559375814309,1.6830498115793082,1120,41,228,16,21,353,163,278,0.073,0.804,0.123,0.9434,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,7,1,0,1,14,13,0,0,19,0,25,5,1,3,2,40,37,21,0,6,6,4,0,3,6,3,4,1,2,2,11,18,0,1,5,0,0,6,5,3,0,3,6,1,31,10,36,27,7,36,0,1,0,0,54,16,0,6,16,156,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293594759319865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575783976313845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789554686437862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209333514932376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691054398639388,0.0,0.12162319011172608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596379435242784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369139901028674,0.11485157037066215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924684693062224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306288650892526,0.2506266936155925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897348120319922,0.10502080549520117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442786330659441,0.0,0.0582034538312302,0.10686787996206512,0.06331287512719959,0.09343952574866188,0.08909913195518826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851327844731443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257603931014691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224483177331898,0.0,0.0,0.1179596598993204,0.0,0.11391708459589295,0.0,0.1632775918657671,0.0,0.09837086349731143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471082127674132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112226772077054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840372675458916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689415425916117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07548953559607086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513752767511943,0.0,0.08859211312305929,0.0,0.3382372594487497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252216058691058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752974771035205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908297481531188,0.2921133181651541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401118312281504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495996767953907,0.0,0.10559698954219553,0.0,0.12377279870463688,0.0,0.0,0.10882451419460107,0.0,0.13400405621085754,0.0,0.0,0.0919191173037708,0.06570835805093775,0.0,0.08936074280161457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Clg_100604,2019/03/29,"My mom won’t call an exterminator, how can I convince her? So in the last month I recently have been having a problem with getting painful and itchy bites all over my body. The second I thought it might be bed bugs I grabbed all of my sheets, covers and pillows and threw them in the wash on the hottest setting. I’m very paranoid about bugs so I made sure that I would get rid of them. I sprayed down my whole room with chemicals to try and get rid of them. And then I thought that was the end of it. But a few days later I started getting them again and they were everywhere. I had at least 10 on my back and then more on my legs and even a few on my face. I tried to ignore it but I finally brought it up with my mom. Turns out my dog was itching too. A lot. A trip to the vets to find out that my dog had fleas. She got medicine for it but my parents would do nothing for me. The dog kept itching a lot, like. A LOT. She would whine and bite herself to itch cause she was in so much pain! Then we went to the vet again and she got a stronger medicine. After that I went on a trip. And viola! No more bites. I just got back a few days ago and I already have bites on my feet, face and legs. My dog is still itching too.  My mom is a health freak and she said she “doesn’t want those types of chemicals in her house” and that it’s all in my head despite the fact I have clear red bites on me. What do I do, cause I can’t pay for an exterminator cause I don’t have the money, and I don’t even know if it’s fleas or bed bugs and something else. Help!",0.8372321428571396,2.3644473065476177,2.1232380952380936,99.78842857142858,80.39880952380952,5.432380952380953,21.319047619047613,6.079149491110277,-0.1877766666666667,1189,34,304,8,30,380,157,336,0.08,0.863,0.057,-0.7684,1,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,5,0,15,9,0,0,23,0,28,15,11,5,6,55,49,29,0,6,6,4,1,1,0,5,8,1,4,0,14,23,0,2,4,0,2,6,6,6,0,1,19,3,52,3,37,24,14,45,0,1,1,0,22,19,0,6,20,209,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943284047935916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174290192619176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364953810577526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820047909512207,0.0,0.0,0.10865922613052767,0.0,0.0,0.3279453515219235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725472811244974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889412500067505,0.0,0.0942500340833557,0.0,0.0,0.14056912004846053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656987043304028,0.09725924575893252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223848966837359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553237817113013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921009184833436,0.11311168422900712,0.0,0.0,0.07132616463645883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278592536554073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058481616415651486,0.08674052270153716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05198785181936335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714047210866531,0.0,0.1006902342720802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128870187306852,0.0,0.3738876728747261,0.08493757202550298,0.0,0.07822555098512739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210581969906976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22646115124514185,0.0,0.1181586686918288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182254673327852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506966656631801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122281035639658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192166649691726,0.0,0.0,0.07531943026837279,0.0,0.08498128978538971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10029267512790628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895953533796956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449442554566275,0.11574641970835176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780159105391022,0.06276494543943657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19729120860617175,0.0,0.11880593754155125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226777507078912,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,magicman1336,2019/03/29,"When buying underwear, do you get your boys boxers, briefs, or boxer-briefs? My friends and I all started off wearing briefs (usually tighty whities) because that's what our parents bought us. Most of us eventually switched to boxers or the hybrid later in middle school. But the other day with my nephew I noticed he was already wearing boxer briefs and he's not even that old (6), like I was still wearing cartoon briefs at that age. And then at Walmart there was one of those promotional bins for underwear and all the options for boys were boxer briefs. 
So are parents still buying briefs for their sons? Or are they just outdated now?",4.418951048951051,7.047605658119661,4.089805749805752,84.68524475524478,73.61538461538461,6.305827505827506,28.585081585081586,7.348242739294969,1.7641692307692307,510,21,88,6,11,154,78,117,0.0,0.947,0.053,0.7303,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,2,2,1,8,2,0,0,3,0,7,3,3,0,2,15,10,11,0,0,6,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,1,5,0,12,2,11,5,3,22,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,5,12,61,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330826780532747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287556279425123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621717955664994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950651703651298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631853566075462,0.0,0.1103519121666884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318972094339657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404714038287097,0.22163620349513574,0.0,0.14312577782337485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690618912940641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137623908850251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950013741699136,0.0,0.3373555656361287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5081349255952899,0.0,0.23262515234445305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Astars26,2019/03/29,"2 year old in front facing car seat question My daughter will be 2 in a month, she currently is in a rear facing car seat but cannot stretch he legs out all the way even in my ex's crew cab f150, she is pretty tall for her age.  I keep seeing back and forth comments about 2 year olds in front facing car seats, I know safety is the #1 concern but I dont want her uncomfortable.  What would people recommend I do?",1.3857758620689682,3.1731492298850625,2.8926293103448266,93.69342672413794,79.6896551724138,5.729310344827588,20.070402298850574,6.6274283507984215,0.059391954022988365,321,8,73,3,8,105,62,87,0.016,0.82,0.16399999999999998,0.9286,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,9,4,4,0,1,10,13,3,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,10,0,8,10,1,22,0,0,1,0,9,8,0,1,8,38,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19800142525152664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017878075510529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007616665534545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288776230845813,0.0,0.0,0.1415151369853262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553385622859005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5404053757951803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17851791523828264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26196983447456923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28845866908669104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20519397459386454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188003335286138,0.2043913283234034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829204454688208,0.0,0.0,0.3316428131985311
parenting,LexsButta,2019/03/29,"Is Twitch Kid Friendly? I am an avid watcher of Twitch.  I allow my children to watch select streamers as well as long as I screen them.  What do you think?  Is Twitch kid friendly?

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Here is an objective view if you are interested

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[https://toptwitchstreamers.com/is-twitch-kid-friendly/](https://toptwitchstreamers.com/is-twitch-kid-friendly/)",12.792674772036474,18.32436936170213,5.8583586626139805,65.02000000000001,68.14893617021275,5.238905775075988,27.99088145896657,6.868970318607317,1.8072030395136776,308,10,35,3,7,75,34,47,0.0,0.706,0.294,0.9305,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,2,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,3,0,1,0,3,7,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,7,4,5,7,0,1,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,1,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4434270387296305,0.4972889666171366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.474283473359315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810886602476518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111686717995927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839844554684952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4972889666171366,0.0
parenting,chancesare78,2019/03/29,"Disney Cruise with a 20 month old...good idea or hell no? My family wants to go on a Disney Cruise when my daughter will be 20 months. My two nieces will be 5. I’m not sure if this would be super fun or my worst nightmare. 

Also, my daughter has peanut, tree nut and egg allergies so there would defiantly be some anxiety. I’ll have to look into the allergy issue. ",1.1439189189189207,3.4075708918918965,3.006689189189192,89.98138513513516,83.32432432432431,6.402702702702705,18.70945945945946,7.6454224807358475,0.5545729729729731,282,7,60,5,8,94,57,74,0.174,0.74,0.086,-0.7478,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,1,0,3,0,10,1,0,0,1,13,14,7,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,1,5,3,5,6,2,8,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,4,3,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21321654458628334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039641699379585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513463464528698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15152673578927695,0.22362886382820765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009824118705252,0.0,0.2782828281749596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238943083460202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256283320543232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27977366229761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512869335324285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604497643904598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572598462718407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3787995103684435,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ladymontrevor,2019/03/29,"Daughter with Asthma allergic to pets Background info: My kid had to be in NICU and ever since she has had a bad chronic cough,congestion,throwing up large amounts of mucus,etc. She never slept well snoring,gagging,and choking. We would be scared she would stop breathing and we would be asleep. When she was little she had a allergy test done that showed she was allergic to cat and dog dander as well as tree pollen,dust mites and weeds. Her allergist strongly recommended we get rid of our pets but we love them and she bawled her eyes out about it so we have tried keeping them. We bought the expensive filters,the hypo allergenic covers for her bed matress and pillows,dust and vaccum frequently,have a HEPA air filter,etc. This past year she has missed so much school due to sinus infections and after a referral after a ER visit she was put on 2 inhalers,one as a maintence dose and the other before play and at night. Today she woke up with a fever and complaining of her throat sore. It looks like another sinus infection which means more missed school today. Im exhausted at this point and as much as I love our animals Im about ready to rehome them even though that makes me feel like a bad person. Casual people like friends and such keep saying to hang in there it gets better but it just seems to keep getting worse. :( has anyone else been through this? ",5.562298850574713,6.804506168582377,5.346226053639846,82.55887931034484,67.77394636015326,8.405363984674329,27.90996168582375,8.680891452615391,2.0182122605363984,1094,35,202,17,18,338,164,261,0.14,0.721,0.14,0.7172,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,8,0,3,2,13,19,0,1,10,0,18,19,5,1,2,39,36,24,0,3,3,1,1,3,1,3,12,1,3,2,11,22,0,4,4,3,2,3,1,7,3,0,11,4,28,12,31,19,4,26,0,2,2,2,34,11,0,1,15,128,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610583627729988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409041569233673,0.12322325963798827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008285180099484,0.0,0.0,0.1023346264356826,0.0,0.0,0.10636250871455427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230704080270025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046398192298904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26824920835838706,0.07943232207624393,0.10878441918927544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080839093652698,0.08591563520401334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929145969631278,0.0,0.1884967558897534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598085197683595,0.0,0.0,0.3206848101722821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17626271495520845,0.12053473297545955,0.0,0.0,0.10099030653261568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170834083267572,0.0,0.08027622844984736,0.0,0.0,0.13100124243198685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768137172175555,0.0,0.0927539415833214,0.0,0.0,0.11285831607512012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480427270438415,0.08337495381303152,0.10500867547296217,0.0,0.0,0.113687042188562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089714345088907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563765734325076,0.12040385622219076,0.24342437100803235,0.0,0.10948256669721564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948247675097684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054492999469623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815740728089398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22798979155824395,0.0,0.0,0.08165042040675867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162610652180763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255787760740325,0.2562933306508537,0.0,0.0,0.07744518021046709
parenting,ChakaRulas,2019/03/29,"Daycare Toddlers My son, whom just turn two, is such a sweet boy. He is really calmed & always happy. Our daycare has a cameras, and in occasions when I get to see him interact with his other classmates, I have noticed that the majority of the other kids are not friendly towards my son. I just breaks my heart. I see how they push him away when they are playing together & he wants to participate. I see that he is just usually by himself, not for lack of trying. 

I know there is nothing we can do about it, I just wanted to voice this out, since its made me so emotional lately, just feeling helpless. I know this is life, and expected for him to be picked on when he was MUCH older, but not now. I just wish it was not like this. I hope this post mainly helps me calm down since I am an emotional wreck at work, need to get my emotions together. ",4.6385668449197865,5.1815564823529465,5.499625668449202,83.1592245989305,69.47058823529412,8.77005347593583,29.572192513368982,8.841846274778883,2.1761176470588235,662,24,136,11,11,217,109,170,0.07400000000000001,0.784,0.142,0.8540000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,2,1,16,9,0,0,5,0,15,2,1,3,0,29,30,8,0,7,11,2,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,12,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,1,0,1,3,6,26,8,19,26,4,17,0,1,3,0,21,7,0,1,8,102,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031095839363486,0.313327699698965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584762413355406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.487934875833788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310934956221436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171033543545274,0.0,0.15108523681731278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539193775948884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713405518818558,0.0969160283460756,0.0,0.0,0.14361108626330898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589264198671483,0.0,0.16310448968300653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212861367608893,0.07063966142379059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681511754660924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629072452308412,0.10721209448610776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138738576042768,0.16461735135306338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847782198731562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926284379515228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456599532942004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392136695639205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981675231901872,0.1572730477039753,0.14124400199939824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924611337289832,0.0,0.1705665589157165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627204909818494,0.0,0.0,0.10526367561289232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,daddydaycare555,2019/03/29,"Do you watch TV while the babies are around? We have a 2 year old and try to limit TV and screen time. We only let him watch TV if he is fussy drinking his milk and sometimes while feeding him meals. 

My wife doesn’t let me watch TV when the kid is around and able to see the screen. I get her reasons, but is this too strict?

I don’t watch a lot of TV but will sometimes turn it on while washing the dishes or to catch the news. As soon as the wife sees it she tells me I must turn it off. I feel like I can’t catch a break and watch a little TV until the kid has gone to bed. 

Am I being unreasonable to want to watch a bit of TV when the kid is awake?",2.8112480974124807,2.511798602739727,3.8298173515981766,96.49821156773214,73.24657534246576,6.7628614916286125,21.016742770167426,5.033348758259628,-0.36469923896499257,500,7,132,1,9,162,84,146,0.0,0.961,0.039,0.6416,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,13,0,17,6,0,1,1,20,25,17,0,3,4,2,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,3,4,9,5,1,2,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,11,17,1,15,19,2,19,0,0,10,0,15,5,0,3,11,83,21,0,0.18331394883367744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263765585520728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001313542298829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957788150780846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926890404981837,0.1309595216746381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577397226137642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749018651649086,0.0,0.0895579358549199,0.18372873503365592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15584696392954728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19235715257562735,0.0,0.0,0.13941851853091178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18847727029608533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29215496696695475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626043654440832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602244711699942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689183773664357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244581382144368,0.3987858728110128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081233165227454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804817286499153
parenting,throwawaydino9090901,2019/03/29,"My little sister (13yo Female) is in 'love' with some kid from roblox I'm not a parent, an older brother, but me and my mom have no idea what to do. My mom found out about this months ago and grounded her for a little bit until she stopped talking to this kid. It seems my mom found out that shes been talking to him recently again, and now she doesn't really know what to do. From my own experiences and simply my opinion, i think it's unhealthy for this type of relationship to be built over online, and nevertheless we have no idea who this kid or potential predator is. From the chats, it sounds this person is a boy around her age. 

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If any parent was in a similar situation, advice would be helpful! ",7.381215805471122,6.124624730496452,7.496919959473151,77.19000000000003,64.1063829787234,10.326646403242153,32.19959473150962,9.23628265651192,2.557070111448835,561,17,112,8,7,182,94,141,0.08900000000000001,0.885,0.026,-0.8459,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,0,0,25,21,9,0,2,4,7,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,12,10,0,1,7,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,1,15,1,20,14,3,18,0,0,0,1,26,9,0,5,9,81,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516568399916526,0.12261322401421353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498707497752191,0.16807515954681454,0.09406302578058226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313501909490746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101071127113155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530448338897672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033236822694555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271365313323887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31229515349078074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601760625525529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772679679817493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484010629858625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.485999663522946,0.11040650553537104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071782109585023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077656518628115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08861197691515772,0.0,0.1365753040347174,0.14850499283889934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592224684209366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554786036399469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564255274109456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223543666184681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08863051404684326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825927244183462,0.0,0.16807515954681454,0.0
parenting,jakeyboi136,2019/03/29,any good youtube channels for bedtime stories? just seeing if anyone had any suggestion i've been using this channel as of late [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AYQQXbZhgLg&list=PLvRaW99JJqSit0-5vU7pQvFB7UTC7jBkC](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AYQQXbZhgLg&list=PLvRaW99JJqSit0-5vU7pQvFB7UTC7jBkC) but i've already gone through all of their videos and am looking for some new channels. Thanks,23.967142857142854,31.500089761904768,7.0478571428571435,63.23464285714289,32.33333333333333,6.104761904761905,36.69047619047619,7.1686216300943375,2.8632190476190478,358,11,30,2,4,66,36,42,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.7461,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,7,8,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,2,6,5,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,2,17,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939352120782596,0.0,0.0,0.5772025427398749,0.0,0.3622682727602917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624531339928324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22341038040645828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004660177436334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223675565587325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572524354004328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122546715536132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24522877556924866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23004977619494624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squishypoopoo,2019/03/29,"Introducing new baby to boyfriends daughter My boyfriend and I just had a baby two weeks ago, his second kid, my first. She's six and since the mom and him rotate weeks with custody, the mom agreed to keep her an extra week so we could get adjusted. She comes back today and I'm rather nervous because she already suffers with attitude problems such as throwing stuff, hitting, kicking when she doesn't get her way because we disipline at my house and not her mother's. I fear and am almost certain there will be some jealousy issues to overcome here soon.. note that her mother doesn't give her hardly any attention when she is over there so she really fights for it when she's with us. Can someone provide me with tips on adjusting? ",7.135642857142859,7.245867421428574,6.4907142857142865,79.69678571428574,64.07142857142857,8.714285714285714,34.64285714285714,8.07648339933343,2.6278571428571427,589,24,106,6,8,181,100,140,0.094,0.86,0.046,-0.7859,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,3,0,0,1,13,6,1,2,4,0,9,0,0,0,1,25,16,12,0,3,3,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,13,0,1,3,0,0,2,3,5,0,4,1,1,23,1,12,11,2,18,0,1,0,0,25,3,0,2,12,77,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14957998581987927,0.0,0.16897117219578256,0.0,0.18621147123685144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147506410956409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975251538948246,0.0,0.20572764230656249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535666484605084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13472710232503654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18988215069621853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353222759669448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763219136658633,0.16187311803663473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116007588072675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947061122813145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612325974619064,0.0,0.14998602799886326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39525819699948705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16297249362020474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614637195427534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810072369440568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958548459484793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14297491617889174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931697149005663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994809627125295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16483683813841124,0.0,0.2029763705999208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393988927135098,0.4060650049154653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cuporasberries,2019/03/29,"How do you discipline without forcing insincerity? I’m too young to have kids at the moment, but I plan to eventually. I’ve always wondered this so I thought it was time to ask.

Normally, parents will tell their kid to say sorry when they do something wrong to another kid. When the child claims to be in the right though- I find it hard to understand it. I don’t want my child to lack sincerity or be locked down by others morals of what they should do in that situation.

My thought would be to instead pull them to the side and ask them if they thought it was wrong, and talk to them honestly about what they think they should do. My only problem is that I don’t know if this would cause any problems in school?

Let me know your thoughts or a solution to this.",4.164156698564597,5.3839991118421064,4.549090909090912,87.05954545454546,71.03947368421052,8.158851674641149,28.949760765550238,8.575989854853784,1.8957947368421053,603,23,129,10,11,190,93,152,0.134,0.805,0.061,-0.916,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,9,1,8,7,0,0,5,0,19,0,0,2,0,30,32,12,0,11,6,1,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,5,12,2,0,1,10,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,6,2,20,2,21,17,1,13,1,0,0,0,22,7,0,5,5,92,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12245336032137465,0.0,0.0,0.1000774844748262,0.1543157009964791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751594726659372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117935295085644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134506463721052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183124732661428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175645524246435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048654107228265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419079677989827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119258801548511,0.0,0.0,0.16340970526460832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.281634729557976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12567840475188435,0.0,0.11703179305779235,0.0,0.14893919092344732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654200193202431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329507623313755,0.0,0.16473956065439666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828593375827405,0.12862900242388542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429761396586786,0.1445892091178323,0.4673313972964915,0.08581329902304706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15320431935349982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680193631799805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186214573545636,0.15959454435758613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090840844359781,0.3218044155138347,0.0,0.0
parenting,AspenProjectPlay,2019/03/29,"Advice for youth sports parents Good morning. I'm a dad of two boys (10 and 12) and work with the Aspen Institute's Project Play initiative:  [https://www.aspenprojectplay.org/](https://www.aspenprojectplay.org/)

I'd like to generate a conversation here about youth sports and what information parents need to navigate it. Youth sports is now an estimated $17 billion industry. It's a highly competitive, commercialized and confusing world. It leaves a lot of kids behind who don't become physically active because they don't have the money, time, resources or ability to play. And this becomes a public health concern given how little kids are physically active these days. 

I've seen this with my kids and still wear some scars as a parent from our competitive sports culture in America. My oldest son declared he was retiring from baseball at age 6. It was a stunning and heartbreaking remark to hear from a child in T-ball. It was the result of playing in a way-too-competitive league. His coach, like others in the league, played to win and not to develop kids. My son played the outfield almost all year once we lost our first game and became bored. Parents yelled at umpires and at each other. One game got delayed 20 minutes to settle a dispute. Non-conventional baseball tactics were taught with an eye toward gaining a competitive advantage. The kids on our team even mirrored some parents and got into a fight in the dugout one game.

I blame myself for my son retiring. I didn’t do a good enough job giving my son – and his teammates – a better early experience in sports. The first experience may be the last if it’s not fun and positive. My son is now 12 and has played only one season of team sports since then. 

What problems do you see in youth sports? What information would be helpful for you as a parent? Thanks for any thoughts you all share.",6.388592814371258,8.373491356287424,6.225190419161677,74.22669580838324,66.57485029940119,8.817053892215569,30.725269461077843,9.281916038205594,2.8533428982035933,1499,58,249,29,25,470,194,334,0.08900000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.162,0.9716,7,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,4,3,1,10,7,22,1,1,26,0,18,3,2,2,2,41,31,20,0,4,4,12,0,2,0,2,1,2,0,7,15,20,0,1,3,19,1,0,5,6,0,7,12,5,19,16,38,15,7,35,0,2,3,0,46,16,0,8,21,155,34,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10160206241029887,0.0,0.0,0.1041148118051124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070579701220092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338150609809125,0.22966194119371505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195643866323397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705454460281464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743280167173208,0.0,0.06867376053046098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341279175215746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768802414045323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974121030043742,0.0,0.17441669828911474,0.16631480405681148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051936176682388,0.11718610807452827,0.0,0.06969149338221316,0.10985410221080028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031780225382352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475258125310592,0.0,0.11009331568252842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159276191258046,0.10420913265023844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349976137618142,0.08839486612856777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709530715281669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072877820414162,0.2113661555195848,0.07907681337285702,0.0,0.0,0.6927040689058871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09948895160689908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285371284330778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600825969579648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303366688615016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572517016097036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254363878167248,0.0606279997295206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10156736299044752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252961841636776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569421567882863,0.0,0.0,0.07386005408804425,0.0,0.0,0.06695576335924111
parenting,Canyounot87,2019/03/29,"RSVPing to birthday parties My daughter’s 8th birthday is coming up & she decided that she wanted to invite some friends from her class to her birthday party. Many schools advise you need to invite the whole class when bringing in invitations so no one feels left out. I asked her teacher and she advised me that this was not the case, so I sent in 10 invitations with my daughter. In the past, I have handed birthday party invitations directly to parents after school. This year, my daughter is in a new school where the majority of the students ride the bus so this really isn’t an option.  So basically, it is about a week and half before her party & I have gotten zero responses. I’ve asked my daughter if she’s sure she handed them out, asked if the kids were going, etc. 

I suppose I’m just worried that no one from school will end up at my daughters birthday party and this will be a blow to her. She did invite 4 or 5 friends outside of school. Everyday she asks me who responded to the invitations and i have to tell her no one. I knew not everyone would be able to but do people not RSVP anymore ? Anyone ever been in this situation? ",4.3278818253758935,5.911307206278032,5.347407016618308,80.08830123977845,71.10762331838566,7.758269585861251,29.709575309944604,8.313332769828598,2.2215441308361914,909,37,168,14,17,299,123,223,0.034,0.878,0.08800000000000001,0.7821,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,1,0,9,3,0,0,12,0,17,2,2,0,2,26,31,13,0,5,8,6,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,0,3,0,0,5,7,0,0,5,7,3,29,3,26,19,4,26,0,0,0,0,34,12,0,5,9,124,39,10,0.11711084244989603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537790977321384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614248708819865,0.08188662400368217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43793131555593995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965270130374304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088062106792196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372544607097857,0.0,0.13060954618476475,0.0,0.10593346171819372,0.0,0.11190442863577324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05921476072976625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809590927415688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655679058469924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272412729835124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11873201297064068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683620577050137,0.0,0.11310638140195935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380720130894229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13003773140679745,0.0,0.11179555048646074,0.08118991252452877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502420446790924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5926121240438855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163749366563415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037558305913593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236003817053703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907500911425025,0.0,0.09393925379618596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075007332601554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189317452034413,0.0,0.08319218240218716,0.0,0.0,0.07541554290793995
parenting,the-bacon-king,2019/03/29,"Food vs 5 yr old My 5 yr old son pretty much eats the same few things for the last year or so (grilled cheese, toast, nuggets, granola bars, sausage, apples, yogurt, snacks). He used to eat anything we gave him and just slowly dropped food choices over the years. My 3yr is now getting picky too so we are finally putting our foot down. We spent months telling them about how we are gonna eat better, try more new things, encourage them to pick out foods, help cooking, etc etc. Still they haven’t changed so now we are going cold turkey. We’ve been giving them good breakfast we know they’ll eat then offering other things for other meals. The last few days they’ve been skipping lots of meals and going to bed without dinner for refusing to eat pretty simple things like oranges, chicken, rice, veggies. 

We had a showdown with my 5yr old last night, chicken nuggets was a staple for him but he got used to only one brand. We made delicious homemade nuggets, he refused to eat, crying and sat at the table for two hours with a piece of chicken in his mouth refusing to swallow. We told him he has to finish it the next day if he wants something else.

Has anyone been thru this and actually made it out the other side? Everyone says they’ll eventually eat it but I’m not too sure. I feel so guilty and trying to stay strong. ",5.243726253147173,6.104646712062259,4.8607461661707525,87.13961547264822,68.26070038910507,7.447837033646143,29.125429159990844,7.285733465282438,1.5005694209201188,1043,36,208,9,17,317,163,257,0.05,0.841,0.109,0.9035,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,10,0,6,2,12,6,0,0,10,0,14,20,2,6,1,41,32,15,0,2,8,1,1,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,11,18,18,3,2,2,1,3,3,0,0,2,12,3,24,6,27,17,9,33,0,0,0,0,37,7,0,3,22,117,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.08336308325871117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973158041678644,0.0,0.0702980073118446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555201969578948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036897993792674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938360333416116,0.11018491686215284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.611882157370722,0.07136214473215485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19054429721719748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162784165765169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04319376070787523,0.0,0.0,0.09357959218551268,0.0,0.0,0.3098909998411189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04463136113682865,0.08194803968755081,0.09709869804656764,0.07165095786643601,0.06832267285719437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725899303174228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412702896034109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046947687204215036,0.2088998480537219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041734643384127516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262580808735028,0.0,0.16166357610661447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818591563880899,0.0,0.06279766060030208,0.0,0.0,0.08250459703967106,0.09085111701883722,0.08016615837657792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26891945717021554,0.0,0.057886611591972385,0.06497003416265461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738171351539213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587634377522338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793388251726819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576481652986557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105234569814673,0.06822101124392778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051263677997038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466575800186644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22701194686463155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162784165765169,0.0,0.11599677828766362,0.0,0.08344841884543053,0.0,0.0,0.1475606172939548,0.0,0.0,0.050386244541142204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234725018082076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002259821283293
parenting,RabikaLee,2019/03/29,"20 years later and I finally get it... My mum was so strict I was never allowed to do anything even as I entered my teens. She was so intense about it. 

She used to ALWAYS say: “it’s better you cry now for a little while than me cry forever”.

Once my sister and I turned the house up and hid under the table to trick my mum that we got kid napped (seemed like a funny idea at the time) IT WAS NOT. She started panicking frantically and broke down crying then absolutely belted us. We never pulled that shit again. She was such a psycho about it!

Moral of the story: she would rather I had a tantrum because I couldn’t go somewhere knowing I was safe with her than let me out to play and Mayb I went missing and she would never stop crying or missing me. I thought she was cracked as a teen (This gets dark)She once said: “she would imagine me in the dark alone with a stranger hurting me crying out for her to save me but she couldn’t”.

That hit home hard. I always hated her and I would tell her I hated her but actually it’s because she couldn’t stand the thought of losing of child.",0.9988235294117658,3.3340018597285086,2.327283257918552,94.12212850678736,84.70135746606334,4.621972850678733,20.152217194570134,5.927762680638738,-0.06776647963800908,845,25,180,6,25,271,125,221,0.181,0.741,0.078,-0.9706,1,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,1,0,2,9,16,5,1,12,0,17,1,1,2,3,39,35,16,0,8,5,3,1,1,0,4,0,2,1,2,10,13,0,2,6,2,0,4,7,11,0,0,13,3,41,5,25,13,0,26,1,5,0,0,27,8,1,2,14,128,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.10476368744425144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118813954834328,0.0,0.0,0.17865710286085634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834460264762586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308860896666687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494740198881156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5896260361136347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090743445435371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760293362060968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217785584631976,0.0,0.06101272443237862,0.0,0.08586216901735089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961696300211483,0.2119830768877621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768653113156587,0.0,0.0,0.12387407635151647,0.11492650874117448,0.12119153005438515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058999891033647785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109778487813504,0.0,0.05244857752589355,0.1075986255283672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010357980160705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10785324103634204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483980271994076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286606564741195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021198651333561,0.08537357013087539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977326070680108,0.0,0.0,0.11019909434154776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598692462544725,0.0,0.0,0.08975418125726319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938336230897296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045688517200533,0.06259997826990557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11677218532728448,0.0,0.0,0.12913570167186406,0.09272086506978658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995198194158117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050496669230741,0.0,0.0,0.06913355792756873
parenting,FluffyBag,2019/03/29,"The Common Signs and Symptoms of Teen Drug Abuse You Need to Know  

# What Are the Common Signs and Symptoms of Teen Drug Abuse? 

You must have heard about teen drug abuse and drug addiction. A person can abuse drugs or get addicted to them, especially at a very young age. It is noted that drug addictions usually start during adolescence – a time when the teenage brain is still developing. There’s a slight different between drug abuse and addiction which needs to be explained. Most of the teens experiment with drugs by getting influenced by their peers, but they do not get addicted. This is drug abuse. On the other hand, drug addiction leads them to develop the habit and become addicted to drugs. The risk of addiction ultimately increases when teens get hooked on drugs whilst using them at an early stage of their lives. Teen drug abuse can severely affect the behavioral and cognitive abilities of an adolescent.

The signs and symptoms of teen drug abuse can be identified if parents take proactive measures to find out if their teen is using drugs. If a teen starts behaving differently for no apparent reason, it could be a sign he or she is involved in drugs. But, the question is, what are the common signs and symptoms of teen drug abuse? Let’s find out!

**Poor Academic Performance**

If your teen is not performing well in academics, not paying attention to homework, or skipping classes, he or she will eventually not be able to score well in exams. Consequently, they will get bad grades. One of the causes leading to their poor academic performance can be drug abuse. Parents need to find out the actual reason before it’s too late.

**Bloodshot Eyes**

It is said that eyes are the gateway to the soul. Parents can easily know if their teen has used drugs or not by simply looking into his or her eyes. The excessive use of drugs can cause the white of their eye to appear bloodshot, hence giving a straight clue to the parents. Teens will also try to avoid having direct eye-contact with their parents due to the same reason.

**Mood Swings**

Seemingly, mood swings can be normal in teenagers, but they may also be signs of drug abuse. Teens involved in drug abuse may have dramatic and frenetic mood swings and laugh for no apparent reason. When you, as a parent, notice mood swings that seem to be about more than just normal teen hormones, try to find out what is going wrong with them.  

**Loss of Interest in Activities**

Teens who become addicted to drugs lose interest in extracurricular activities and stay away from their social circle. They become secluded, putting their friends at a distance and prefer living in solitary environment.

**Poor Hygiene**

Drug addiction makes adolescents live in poor hygienic conditions. They no longer care about their physical appearance but prefer displaying messy and careless appearance all the time. Their clothes reek of smoke and their breath is full of unusual smells. If you notice any significant change in your teen’s personal habits or their hygienic conditions, perhaps they are using drugs.

**Frequent Hunger**

Teens abusing drugs may have an increased appetite. They frequently become hungry and crave for more food. There’s a considerable increase in the consumption of munchies. A sudden shift in their eating habits can be a warning sign for parents to identify if their teen is involved in something as dangerous as drugs.  

**Secretive Behavior**

Teens tend to keep a low profile from everyone around them when they are into drug abuse. They keep things from their parents and become secretive about their activities. They may even lie to their parents to cover up drug use. Now parents have to be extremely careful in this regard and find out what makes their teen behave so peculiarly.  

**Unusual Fatigue**

Drug abuse can cause unusual tiredness and extreme fatigue in your teen. They would find themselves getting weary and short on energy too soon and become lethargic. If these symptoms are evident in your teen, then never delay in evaluating the underlying cause.  

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parenting,jaded_lady06,2019/03/29,"8yr old little miss, ears and throat pain/discomfort First off, taking her to the Drs as soon as they have a same day appt available. She was ok yesterday and just told me that she was hurting when she woke up,  but didnt make any gripes about it until after dinner (with her,  that means it probably wasn't until after dinner she started feeling it)...

Anywho, she was asking me to look at her left ear, I have a scope to properly look, and it was a bit red, but behind her eardrum it looked like there was fluid (not sure if anyone will get this,  but her ear drum looked like a reading from a tanker meter, the ones that have that bit of clear glass/plastic to read how much fuel is in it) her ear drum was about half full. She also said her ear felt stuffy too. 

Later on before bed she started complaining her throat was hurting,  and sure enough, her little nodules are swollen. After looking at her throat,  her tonsils were all angry red and swollen too. 

I've tried to get her to drink warm tea, but she's 'too scared' to do anything.  Has anyone had a similar problem and what helped your little one out? 


TLDR: daughter sick with an ear infection and sore throat, need advice to help her sleep and be comfy until I can get her to a doctor tomorrow.  

ALSO: I took her temp,  it was low/ normal... 97.3° F or so.",4.640404977375567,5.263906411538468,4.897782805429866,87.18839366515837,69.5,7.348416289592763,24.909502262443446,7.048011613610866,0.9086764705882352,1017,25,208,8,17,320,157,260,0.102,0.8079999999999999,0.09,-0.6432,0,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,0,1,1,1,13,13,0,1,10,1,22,22,11,2,4,32,44,24,0,4,8,1,3,2,0,1,7,7,1,0,13,11,4,0,3,5,0,1,3,7,0,4,17,17,30,6,31,25,7,31,0,4,7,0,32,14,0,2,18,141,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825548404990253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771856259061881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533597349411765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492355305358085,0.0,0.09116464849368787,0.0,0.10356678551722977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426784133064793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418918346978865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144561844039564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339069528990345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085247821268112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446804987918867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056015016109716036,0.0,0.10636867834592477,0.0,0.0,0.09423163121819804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17363802355525376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851049617054465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23719014989032786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036562958548595,0.0,0.0,0.1082455745081223,0.3330998356681551,0.0,0.0,0.465147454177376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394825221636211,0.0,0.0,0.12067473899909882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143796494054889,0.08214390137181009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854343613161628,0.0,0.0,0.1162477132402079,0.0,0.1501383268195039,0.0,0.1178805074764164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194423904050894,0.10600399596544474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162517809666926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053796307878397,0.0,0.11091271849304342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108626155766535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568250026824115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20882259716938675,0.0,0.08329473542913132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10585753105357776,0.12308355559845745,0.07521412002537188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nkfuu,2019/03/29,"A question from a teenager (Sophmore) Hi, sorry if this is not the right forum to ask this question but I am currently a highschooler who coaches middle school kids for swimming. There is an upcoming highschool swim tournament in 3 weeks and I was thinking about emailing this middle school student's parents if they were willing to have his/her kid come watch the tournament as a spectator for experience to see how experienced swimmers compete. However, the only dilemna is that the tournament requires spectators to pay $15 for the meal throughout the 2 days, and was wondering if it was rude or out of my place to ask about something that requires money. As a parent, would you see this as a rude email coming from a teenager, or actually understand their true motive (which is to provide them with a learning oppurtunity, though may require some money) Thank you ",10.973170506912446,9.49303110967742,10.022488479262671,62.64516129032261,57.25806451612904,12.728110599078345,46.6589861751152,11.491704259439757,5.622253456221197,702,38,107,15,7,223,106,155,0.071,0.883,0.046,-0.4215,4,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,3,5,5,4,2,0,15,0,13,1,0,2,1,28,23,13,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,9,6,1,3,7,3,3,4,1,2,0,0,4,4,8,2,20,16,1,13,0,0,3,0,17,6,0,10,3,78,17,11,0.0,0.0,0.16435449811209005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3149016025810452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29015937536535363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861754389650123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474795234328096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809167967060064,0.0,0.0,0.3740229443424977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596398828468449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37733989374279225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14383052374230293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409018737716447,0.2684192949203428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129658632954537,0.0,0.1885334026699084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505933167612346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791730871454204,0.16547267381344904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17533209094831806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350970826470062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264527582668605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964137128401815,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,homecaterer,2019/03/29,"So I'm slightly struggling with the fact that parenting means worrying any time you're not with your child/kids. Does this go away? My daughter is about two and my wife is due with our second in the summer. My worrying isn't at all any kind of debilitating state, but I still find myself like low key concerned that something will happen to my daughter when I'm not there. Reddit doesn't help because there's so many stories about two year olds being found dead in the night, or being in an accident at daycare, or any number of out-of-your-control situations. 

I've never been a worrier in my life but as my family expands I feel like there's a baseline  of concern that I'm going to have this amazing gift that is my daughter / impending daughter / amazing wife taken away from me. 

Is this like a temporary state people go through as your family expands or is this just the long term reality of being a parent that never goes away?",7.961056166056164,6.804709598901103,8.051611721611724,73.35449938949941,62.9010989010989,10.726251526251524,36.156288156288156,9.725611199111238,3.387144566544567,745,29,137,12,9,243,106,182,0.104,0.726,0.17,0.9347,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,0,0,10,8,0,1,9,0,13,1,0,0,4,20,24,11,1,0,8,8,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,4,0,0,3,6,2,0,3,3,1,14,6,24,17,2,27,0,1,0,0,12,10,0,3,15,91,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781774439638448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38432895065329997,0.0,0.0,0.08312050829393534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293329627208646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932484330773828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570859933618298,0.0,0.06894499082925316,0.09741176488970378,0.0,0.0,0.12462564871905085,0.0,0.0,0.14950579842116335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324804116372925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057793657903168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913956248487986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199234971299646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631129774052144,0.19984793346712731,0.0,0.0,0.12066954429870975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382421788843713,0.0,0.14853015051034255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103301716539194,0.0,0.0,0.1279595701673161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308123213906568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028113290945634,0.0,0.0,0.09453112206223384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326830137811898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497244505298232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088929724453796,0.0,0.0,0.14254745036686414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950947310344983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26639729339265034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769494626442512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780790211919841
parenting,serenabeans08,2019/03/29,Airplane Travel with a One Year Old I'm traveling to Seattle next month with my husband and our one year old. We're afraid he won't do well on the plane as this is his first trip.  I looked into Dramamine for kids and it's for ages 2-12. Any ideas on what else I can do?,0.054999999999999716,1.8199465000000004,1.6833333333333336,100.80500000000002,84.0,4.666666666666667,18.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.6881666666666661,210,5,53,1,6,68,50,60,0.034,0.966,0.0,-0.2057,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,2,0,3,1,1,1,3,0,1,5,1,9,6,0,14,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,8,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958048939799587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206013101259872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246226028028533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2981092519355988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22175702679391887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21078265484478376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28084743691474634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5542059196116829,0.0,0.3578889733169505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374357127956539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34011210565928784
parenting,RockStarLacey,2019/03/29,"Kindergarten screening heart break today First of all,  I'm on phone so bare with me. 
We had my sons kindergarten screening today. I knew he would likely score lower than I would like but to hear he's in the 10th percentile crushed me. He is a smart boy in so many ways but his mother skills have always been delayed (from age 2-3.5 we did speech & OT weekly) but the 10th percentile makes me feel I've failed as a mom somehow, I hate that he will forever be labeled in a small town school. 
My 8 year old daughter set the bar high with a very high 90th percentile (was told at screening she was like 98%) and in no way was I expecting my son to be anywhere close but at least average percentile. 
The school here is a wonderful small rural school that I attended as well. Most all the faculty know me & my family so I'm hopeful that we will get the support he needs to hopefully get up to speed with the rest of the kids. 
All in all I just don't want my boy to feel ""less than"" or ""dumb"" because he's not and I just love him so much.",2.669678394722375,4.076839453271031,3.380159428257283,93.24952996151731,75.02803738317758,6.530621220450798,24.27047828477185,7.048011613610866,0.7025566794942284,809,25,181,8,17,255,128,214,0.111,0.767,0.122,0.524,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,0,3,9,12,2,0,13,0,16,3,1,1,4,37,35,13,0,7,8,5,2,3,0,4,0,2,0,3,3,9,1,1,5,1,0,1,3,3,1,1,8,7,22,9,24,21,9,29,0,1,3,1,24,15,1,6,12,106,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379029340959836,0.29634583048908736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833639766228875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891951204689092,0.0,0.13829387528359005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632289304294545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428966542769244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501627492367071,0.0,0.0,0.15413171089581196,0.1620541630780524,0.0,0.28897624472528083,0.0,0.27165518188803045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07515642876042701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043330816471366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234258353777773,0.0,0.09128436515503563,0.13864710413055314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016464644828535,0.0,0.0,0.10052993419459304,0.10140136735272834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435003314589366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41520708433533177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551868326048866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592536269591371,0.1306743192635891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283638222642033,0.08066105965752064,0.21709793925408472,0.10969581983122652,0.0,0.12295828059808027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14830389285651105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429225341637488,0.0,0.0,0.0880651002961171
parenting,TailesofMom,2019/03/29,"Teen cousin committed suicide. What do I say to 3.5 year old if he asks? Hes bound to ask questions. The funeral will be a just family service, toddler may or may not go. Probably not as ... it's just not a place for littles, but it is just family...so I don't know. My toddler doesn't know the deceased cousin as they live in another state, but I have to go to the funeral. 

I wasn't going to tell him anything unless he asks. But... in the event he asks what do I say? I was thinking of just saying he was shot with a gun. Guns are very dangerous and should never touch them and if you see one.... blah blah blah... I didnt want to tell my tot what suicide is, or that cousin shot himself. But what if he asks who shot him?

It's been  month now since his death. The first few weeks I was kind of a mess but I never told him that someone died. He would ask me why I was crying and I would just change the subject and play with him or something. 

I'm sorry this post is a but word vomit-y. It's just hard. Hard to deal with death and hard to know what the right thing to do as a parent is.",0.8148722665031691,2.376981605150217,2.512250153280199,96.81281831187414,80.58798283261801,5.811485796035153,19.678929082362558,6.655083550727371,-0.07712940936031076,826,20,202,8,21,272,120,233,0.228,0.753,0.019,-0.9942,1,0,1,2,0,2,39.0,0,1,2,1,7,4,1,0,13,0,26,0,0,0,3,46,43,21,7,7,22,4,4,3,0,6,0,3,0,0,14,8,0,1,5,1,0,3,9,2,0,2,8,8,24,2,21,28,1,19,0,0,1,0,35,5,0,9,9,129,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046958813395301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08669480148433706,0.0,0.5909331342231077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114472667952929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572299975077613,0.0,0.10861213600016772,0.0,0.0,0.1093375853740238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931543793854516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961140855572518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962000645748924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28312109852688266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970673439856923,0.17369427290860326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558926296127268,0.09302676115043466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840900709192405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16250619363847327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105480313793538,0.0,0.07138848585429823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697968982484686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006925153252706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089702569763748,0.0,0.11358607197065955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801710134700165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996907975417018,0.0,0.2513377555398719,0.0,0.0,0.08395101513888076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714734034244076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926346257878531,0.08110425788342221,0.0,0.11793169001821005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304735370527665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841626332005202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999044645994562,0.06750459291930115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066728487355923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692551296767234,0.06213868123826004,0.0,0.08450612489600054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506278699907612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967649139949893,0.0,0.0,0.0678425155676169
parenting,polarain,2019/03/30,"Tips for toddler girl hygiene post potty training? Hey y’all. Hope you’re well. QQ: my 2.5 year old 90% potty trained daughter much prefers to use the toilet independently but she’s apparently terrible at wiping herself (to be expected) because im constantly battling irritation on her labia. Its gets bad quickly and i know it’s uncomfortable. I treat by thoroughly cleaning with water only, drying, and aquaphor. I try to stay on top of it but if i forget to do it for even a day, it flares up. We live in the desert and her skin is prone to eczema so i only shower her every 2-3 days (and even still its hard to get her clean in the shower so we go through the cleaning process after.) 

All this to say, i wish she would just wipe better :). How do you get tiny littles to remember to wipe and wipe properly at that?",1.7652035886818496,4.264622086956528,3.3629296066252614,86.88309696342306,82.78881987577641,6.06224982746722,25.09351276742581,7.3871296695380915,1.3577781918564529,640,26,126,10,18,211,113,161,0.145,0.743,0.112,-0.7892,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,2,0,2,9,7,1,0,5,0,5,2,1,3,1,24,13,11,0,6,4,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,8,8,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,3,18,4,23,11,2,20,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,2,8,78,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584218011747601,0.11566142605883953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780624958046153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050374264826298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447283041991697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506379404580153,0.0,0.1598609312114381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973879992698501,0.0,0.10783145456565643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699663666341404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18845085735039602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049476541982592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427405313500836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19016551724138234,0.16754054015843764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13947793785254273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990962241585287,0.0,0.0,0.2886058588995503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817148310519565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21493412700720388,0.0,0.0,0.150885841180203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202233543307396,0.15152357389683407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288184247505559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387115707547606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705956296213009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818726549083695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13478315222401266,0.0,0.0,0.12218389163871952
parenting,EdgarFriendly,2019/03/30,"Upstairs master bedroom - kids downstairs? My wife and I are considering buying our first home and we found a great 1-story home with the attic converted to an amazing mbr with tons of space, great bathroom, etc. There are two bedrooms on the first floor. We have a 9-month-old daughter and want to try for another in a year. We are discussing various solutions, but having the kids’ bedrooms on the first floor might be a dealbreaker. We could have our daughter upstairs with us, but when would she move downstairs? And wouldn’t that be lonely for her and feel unsafe for us if her younger sibling took her place up there when she is 3 or 4? I just don’t know if it would work. Alternatively, we could take the larger downstairs bedroom and all sleep on the first floor until the kids are old enough. What do you think?

TLDR: thinking about buying 2-story house with mar upstairs, but nervous about sleeping on different floor than infant and future baby",5.836369230769229,7.6374341314285745,5.2360000000000015,81.49953846153846,67.68571428571428,7.670329670329671,31.17582417582417,8.139509932561175,2.3125120879120886,763,31,132,10,13,231,106,175,0.034,0.904,0.063,0.4696,1,2,0,0,0,0,22.0,9,1,0,6,7,5,0,1,12,0,18,2,2,0,1,36,26,16,0,8,7,3,1,0,0,4,0,0,6,4,3,16,0,0,5,0,2,2,2,2,0,5,2,1,18,3,20,16,5,24,0,1,0,0,23,12,0,4,10,99,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13894161040122807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21158673501193145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384380925277186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13691167136817453,0.14777657441726968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699781716724047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4508300836591274,0.0,0.1452833922753009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921714421090392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658238913359329,0.0,0.0,0.15289139999864046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282053037718746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405654132102261,0.0,0.0,0.10576313417685113,0.14083039016823828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27808054263600673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384380925277186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651986472533873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962624029856584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698059530793947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721640958073326,0.08996126774264512,0.0,0.12943679404331454,0.0,0.3187711069165338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815407466698847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646422154341296,0.0,0.0,0.18825355562143328,0.0,0.0,0.08532799411911574
parenting,j0jji,2019/03/30,"What is a normal time it should take for a toddler to eat? We have two boys, 3.5 y/o and 1.5 y/o. Honestly I think it can take up to 2 hours to feed them a meal. They won't sit still and just get off their chairs and run around. When we have to be somewhere like school, the older will eat within 15-20 minutes, but otherwise it can take up to 2 hours sometimes. I've suggested we should just let them skip a meal if they won't sit down and finish their meal, and let them get hungry, and therefore will eat their next meal more quickly. My wife won't go for it. Then she gets mad at me if I'm not feeding them. Is this normal and I should just suck it up, or is 2 hours excessive? ",2.6459459459459467,3.0179062972972983,3.656324324324327,95.20894594594596,73.86486486486487,7.0010810810810815,22.232432432432432,6.742157984588678,0.19212756756756733,524,11,131,4,10,169,86,148,0.061,0.912,0.027000000000000003,-0.7757,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,9,0,7,4,2,0,5,0,18,9,0,1,0,26,28,13,0,7,8,1,0,1,0,8,0,0,0,1,7,11,9,0,1,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,17,2,15,17,1,23,0,0,0,0,16,8,1,3,12,83,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13979865218933352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820725399671762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246140328760581,0.0,0.08924929634917242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639574962203506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211675230956234,0.0,0.07672167867030825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670135322016127,0.0,0.3077311813070425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589325885886818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553163063914212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254121295597488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3542229946431281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10062471665389068,0.0,0.0,0.09157112822022437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534049953962069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thisisworst,2019/03/30,"Any plagiocephaly parents/ parents of helmet babies?! Are there any other parents out there who are trying to transition into the helmet for 23 hours a day?! I feel like he is so miserable all the time and it makes his head so hot and sweaty! We live in Texas and it is already so hot and we still have 3 months left wearing this! How do yall clean your baby's helmets to keep them from being so smelly? 
Have yall had any issues with the helmet rubbing certain areas raw? We have a fitting appointment on Tuesday and I'm worried that they are going to say some shit like he hasn't progressed enough and he needs to wear it more but 23 hours a day is crazy! 
Anyone have any words of encouragement or advice on how to help my little guy through this?",2.2215999999999987,4.524677960000002,3.099333333333334,90.653,79.4,5.333333333333334,22.0,6.42735559955562,0.42600000000000016,594,18,118,5,15,188,101,150,0.061,0.8340000000000001,0.104,0.7731,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,3,2,1,9,6,1,1,6,0,14,4,4,3,2,24,20,14,0,1,2,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,8,12,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,5,11,4,16,18,4,18,0,1,0,0,20,9,1,2,10,76,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491458281061772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842824332415002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151677395959252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067206978755752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686422393047096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577050090419522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771730507455246,0.10903711762993724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674172645386156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511252226324244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15663984966320205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230299706389367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006146891878722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930345778667213,0.0,0.13566233622032606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583022705596456,0.0,0.0,0.14913217552471275,0.15297285327321106,0.13477288016648892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188004248107846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218258156151812,0.0,0.0,0.11317135849046893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084243347948739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137551528107125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566699370625886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188851992409964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899832357304445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036240548450219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500063657650126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boredalterego,2019/03/30,Best swim flotation device for 1 year old Does anyone have recommendations for a life jacket or life vest for a 1.5 year old (~25 lbs) learning to swim? He’s too small for many of the learn-to-swim vests and gets frustrated with the limited mobility of a conventional life jacket or baby canopy float.,8.066842105263156,7.605548666666667,7.967368421052632,71.78157894736844,62.33333333333334,11.108771929824565,31.280701754385966,10.504223727775694,3.0103964912280694,242,7,45,5,3,78,41,57,0.094,0.8320000000000001,0.07400000000000001,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,1,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,19,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548821525197048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783923988097695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321461520067757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859655920321098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5621200886284586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689497759512912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5567282812986228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3416600605154549
parenting,wisesushi,2019/03/30,"My toddler locked me out. I’m having a really emotional evening. My husband travels for work, and is currently out of state. I have two babies [1F,2M]. 

Since my husband is usually gone, I keep the house locked up tight. This evening I stepped out back to get some herbs from out back. The pots of herbs line my back door at the moment, so it was one step out of the door. I could reach the door from where I stood. I just shut it so that the mosquitos didn’t come in. This is when my 2yo locked the door, and couldn’t unlock it.

After and hour of trying to get him to unlock it, waiting for a locksmith, locksmith breaking in, I finally was reunited with my babies. They were fine. It helped that I could watch them the whole time through the door window. 

I feel terrible though. Why didn’t I have a spare key outside or something? I know stuff happens, but I feel so guilty that this happened anyways. I just have this terrible guilty feeling now, even though I’m inside with the kids and everyone is safe. 

I’m going to replace my locks tomorrow, hide a spare key in the yard, and get a garage pin pad so that I can avoid this from evvver happening again. Any other tips from anyone would be appreciated. ",3.1818907563025185,5.0099266428571445,3.627470588235294,90.25061764705885,74.58823529411767,6.944873949579833,24.92521008403361,7.7348632917899725,1.1543018487394958,943,31,197,13,20,294,131,238,0.091,0.85,0.059,-0.8846,1,1,1,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,2,1,19,5,0,1,16,0,19,0,0,0,0,31,38,14,0,4,4,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,7,1,16,13,0,5,4,2,0,6,3,3,0,2,7,5,25,2,28,26,2,34,0,0,1,0,7,12,0,2,14,134,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003526722901536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028580259269736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393400008930376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671644073233404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348999806082636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547137793889033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29148096520716504,0.0,0.0,0.14056347739337685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22313949812345246,0.0,0.0,0.16114444071444725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305661595894045,0.0,0.08360217770449675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39024880458161737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986002203309558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14486708815643892,0.16973742183235493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075214437346466,0.0,0.0,0.08084410949731899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968098206017764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09423812084332324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216853441463488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324728320448987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16839804872658726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28905642959426425,0.0,0.08577709906101058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987346346192502,0.0,0.14369851876137635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16201346808545675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13273781972047327,0.16423554635145615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070929317410242,0.0,0.0,0.10449794161816836,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mgbridges70,2019/03/30,"Smartphone app controls? Does anyone know of any software that will allow us to put time schedule limits on particular apps on our son's Android smartphone? What I'd like to do is block specific apps (games mainly) during school hours.

I've been using Qustudio for general control, but it will only allow me to put a time limit on each app (i.e. can only use it for x hours per day). I don't want to lock down the whole device during school hours.

I've looked at Zift but it is quite vague about app controls.

Any other suggestions?

Thanks.",3.1987500000000004,5.608650605769235,3.896769230769234,85.64823076923078,76.59615384615384,6.083076923076924,22.9,7.1686216300943375,0.9629184615384614,429,13,78,5,10,136,74,104,0.051,0.8540000000000001,0.095,0.6826,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,0,6,1,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,7,0,16,14,2,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,6,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,13,11,3,14,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,8,38,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357790337385787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10466119521352983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036435634525028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965325629493595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309878026495962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422201123416836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226136025564144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312710676521254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569525432429926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276799435434435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3009436789506733,0.0,0.15920532380234267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029725255136793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780715489363182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17456165678405142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004912027779835,0.25855452785058675,0.0,0.0,0.08828637278974663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711470420299787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ShyJalexa,2019/03/30,"Son going to daycare for the first time Hi all! My son is an only child and is 4, turning 5 this summer. He will start preschool this fall. I (Mom) have been a stay at home parent with him basically ever since he was born, and my husband works. I am also a college student who will be finishing my 2 year degree this May. Our original plan was for me to get a 4 year degree before I started working, and that way I could still stay home with our son and take him to and from school, etc. Well, our plans have changed and now it looks like I will not be continuing school and that I will have to go back to work as soon as I graduate. This means my son will have to go to daycare over the summer, and I'm so stupidly worried about it. I know tons of kids go to daycare, some from the time they are babies, but for some reason I feel bad sending him there. I guess what I'm hoping for is that you all can tell me some positive things about your experiences with daycare to ease my mind, or if you have any advice about what to look for/avoid in a daycare I would really appreciate it. Thanks!",5.675533333333334,4.755580164444449,6.144722222222224,84.40375,67.35555555555554,9.1,29.416666666666664,8.07648339933343,1.6851999999999991,847,24,188,9,12,275,130,225,0.039,0.848,0.113,0.9493,1,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,3,1,6,12,6,1,0,8,0,24,0,0,2,3,32,43,15,0,4,4,7,1,1,0,7,0,0,2,2,14,11,0,0,4,0,0,6,1,2,1,1,3,3,28,4,28,30,7,30,0,0,2,0,25,3,0,8,19,131,42,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804692614787974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047894938256292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910901760721096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075864559906604,0.10940964088149764,0.0,0.0,0.11150204003911056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13861878199083738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462163538802444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613985027655935,0.0,0.11852962273427065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817841540381156,0.0,0.0,0.06625577164909979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145920993553317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06846093563997263,0.0,0.29788326183069896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14435099871640064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26287971441315106,0.13014837903384535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201399442602156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06401760246384873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200745846204671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14273668930628358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230907145060591,0.15346785560207082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965883213151706,0.0,0.0,0.14550004309186973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394505859891851,0.13472689882929353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652309868907557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083943870440466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549600246911346,0.2793340207393145,0.10464557076235874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852281322842384,0.0,0.11453129644431835,0.12064040338665935,0.0,0.0,0.08705453905023315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528163665125105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14252961074924045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401032915747338,0.0,0.0,0.1178171592193285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28618744782092675,0.1330734846331487,0.0,0.093084260956218,0.0,0.0,0.1687658593270172
parenting,PJwonder,2019/03/30,"Super Wing Yes, this is rediculous to question this cartoon, but some things have to be pointed out. First off Jet shows up ""on time every time so he says"" so he says. Even though he has no other deliveries. What kind of delivery man has one delivery? But Then after enviting himself into the home of the so called customer he invites himself to whatever the child is doing and the patent has no problem with it. He always says, ""that sounds likes fun"" and the kid all willy nilly invites him along and the parent says have a great time and off they go. We know Jets a great walking talking airplane that delivers packages, but how do these cartoon parents know? More importantly how do our kids know they next time a jet like character wants to skip off with them for a quick adventure? ",5.828378378378383,6.990778594594598,5.49010810810811,82.06164864864867,67.10810810810811,8.082162162162161,31.69189189189189,8.238735603445708,2.3176005405405404,624,25,114,8,10,192,98,148,0.052000000000000005,0.754,0.194,0.9793,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,3,2,8,9,0,0,10,1,11,0,0,2,1,23,16,14,0,2,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,5,1,4,9,10,0,0,4,1,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,5,8,8,18,15,3,19,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,2,11,79,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282419933242934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15737596919769836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179624084714002,0.0,0.12985457689214927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310962405148135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875911819240451,0.0,0.0,0.3398404767969929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15459710456903789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16049452486695387,0.254104544770233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059261616220934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391067808104312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044371722571871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422688650874159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456952689450202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474741036631182,0.0,0.0,0.17265210482018678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4902565477879411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387756356849075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239192253234587,0.0,0.1514242511744063,0.0,0.3594795109441601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090525003653477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kandisong,2019/03/30,"Another person's child hit/hurt/left marks on my child. Just a little backstory to begin; so today, my husband, myself and our son went over to our friends house, we've known them for a while, we're rather close, and I consider them good friends. It's another man and a woman, and they have 2 kids of their own, a 3 and a 2 year old. 
Myself and my husband have a tiny 14 month old boy, he's still learning how to do all things, he's adventurous, a typical brand new toddler, etc. Their 2 year old is also a boy, and the entire time he was trying to pull my son around by the arm and was just generally being a toddler with no boundaries. That I didn't have a problem with. But when he started to pinch my son, the parents didn't do much to stop him or really didn't try/couldn't get the concept across to the 2 year old. Sorry if this is all jumbled, I'm trying to articulate it the best I can.

While my husband and I got into conversation with our friends, the kids went into one of the bedrooms and started playing with toys. They were still within eyesight and I could keep an eye on my little. Anyways, we looked away for too long and then I heard my son screaming his 'I'm in pain' scream, one I haven't heard in a long time. We all ran to see what happened and we only found my son on the ground, on his stomach, and the other 2 kids hiding under the bed. We couldn't get the story of what happened out of either kid. So I let it go and we left their house and went on with our day. 

Fast forward to when we got to the grocery store and I'm getting my son out of his carseat. I see his left eye is damn near swollen shut, it's got a few busted blood vessels, and the under eye looked rather dark. 

Cue my panic and hysterics. My husband calmed me down and then took a picture of it and sent it to the dad to let him know that this is what we found and that we may think it was the 2 year old. 

I honestly think this was an accident and I will admit to not keeping an immediate eye on my child was my fault, I'm just trying to figure out the best way to address the situation as a whole. I'm not confrontational in the slightest but I also need to stand up for my baby and be like ""hey, you need to teach your kid to keep his hands to himself,"" kinda deal. I dunno. 

Any advice from parents who've experienced this before? It would be greatly appreciated. 
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parenting,bs46855,2019/03/30,"What do you do at a (small) party for your kids first birthday? My little guy is turning 1 very soon! We’re having a party for him and having some friends/family over with a few of their kids (there won’t be many), what do you do as far as games/entertainment? Or do you even do anything? We’re going to have food and cake and sing him happy birthday but can/should we do anything else? I’m not sure if we should  like have a game for the kids that will be there or just have some toys out or something, maybe goodie bags? Any advice on what other parents did would be much appreciated, thank you! ",3.299826958105648,4.427435303278688,4.011420765027324,90.4466029143898,73.01639344262296,6.405828779599272,21.752276867030965,6.42735559955562,0.1964888888888887,465,10,102,3,9,148,83,122,0.02,0.831,0.15,0.9442,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,5,1,1,5,4,0,0,5,0,21,1,0,0,1,19,25,10,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,4,5,7,1,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,11,4,12,17,4,10,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,6,3,73,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157089236193272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15011379695775245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633077505734996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18440366427265226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14579962860493664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080982235203209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18776511803874005,0.26692506748641964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254541590859935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857171279751866,0.0,0.2349865737989283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784458897684714,0.2212439324756074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22380022703864136,0.22176747202805994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227257134591438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451105905163708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699398636888433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20804903353458026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323183337867745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24010657532765314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821372910660521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681052517869298,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lovinglife1214,2019/03/30,"Birthday 4 year old daughter: 🎶happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you. 🎶
Pappy: thank you 
4-year-old daughter: time for me to blow out your lights...
Pappy: wow 

Everyone else in tears 😂 ",1.533333333333335,4.262572333333338,2.6235555555555585,89.07700000000004,89.55555555555556,3.9911111111111115,23.86666666666667,5.6839178017228535,0.6663400000000004,148,6,26,1,5,47,25,36,0.049,0.6940000000000001,0.257,0.8442,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,6,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,11,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282529037996801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610878913349733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5817277876239867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5734286454694854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515582122306852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932561099065132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519089514464807
parenting,subter-fugue,2019/03/30,"You started it! 3yo : \*pokes boob\* Mommy what is this?

Me : My boob.

3yo : Oh, you have 2 boobies. 

Me : mhm.

3yo : ....

3yo : ....

3yo : Shhh! Mommy stop talking about your boobies! ",-2.005434243176176,-5.447659483870964,-0.5761290322580646,103.4404218362283,176.09677419354838,0.953846153846154,18.5136476426799,3.1291,-1.0214535980148876,120,5,25,0,13,37,23,31,0.09,0.91,0.0,-0.4724,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,2,12,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5209532423218067,0.0,0.0,0.6153391780018388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5915787482072175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NaturalHotel,2019/03/30,"At my wits end with 12yo son He stinks like onions. He does use deodorant and showers, but he still stinks. I did his laundry and his shirts still smell like onions. Ironically, he smells worse when he hasn't been physically active. Do I need a stronger detergent?",2.83904761904762,5.775625183673469,2.5256122448979603,91.50093537414969,82.87755102040815,6.531972789115647,22.452380952380953,7.793537801064563,1.1200585034013608,210,7,42,4,6,62,38,49,0.192,0.662,0.146,-0.3893,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,1,0,6,6,4,0,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,5,2,2,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,6,18,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32190580595628554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32580368165897033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594233930846027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27275424317737385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5875269405148641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177021141962281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374868005097626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rcrist92,2019/03/30,"Baby struggling with sleep We currently have a 3 month old daughter that constantly fights sleep! She sleeps decently through most nights, but during the day she’s impossible to put down and if she does sleep, it’s only for 30 minutes to an hour tops each time. (And she only naps maybe once or twice a day). I think this leads to her being over-tired, and therefore makes getting her to sleep even more difficult. I have been trying to break her of using motion to help fall asleep, but I’m afraid she might be too young to let sit there and cry-it-out too. I have read that setting up a routine for naps and bed times help babies settle into sleep better, but I would really love any advice to help her with naps and bed times! ",6.41,6.074862222222228,5.934166666666666,84.5775,65.66666666666667,8.866666666666667,27.027777777777786,8.07648339933343,1.4321694444444448,576,13,118,6,8,177,97,144,0.048,0.785,0.16699999999999998,0.9696,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,3,4,6,1,2,5,0,9,8,7,4,0,24,15,11,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,11,0,0,1,4,0,4,0,4,0,1,1,0,14,2,17,9,3,23,0,0,0,1,16,4,0,4,12,68,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958336676373288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321914984646027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082306822330563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224382647849245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784341400535712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709112724023767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082748812121009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393585087835958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24607601112807795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051465699103255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513665863094264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044815352999983,0.0,0.08168621704420911,0.0,0.12294206701711642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982046358898305,0.0,0.0,0.0976785028115562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484058332306647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841190494738308,0.1303253081794105,0.0,0.18614329968788285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302060635701165,0.0,0.0,0.12240804791097087,0.0,0.07839651471870761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.734779855371306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279328488673518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841291483263825,0.0,0.0,0.21407342004128024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308454559825665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056926495463741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869316402410395,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,adjectivity,2019/03/30,"I wanted to ask the members of r/parenting if they knew of any subreddits for singles who still hope to be parents. I know that I am violating rule #1 but I haven't thought a more appropriate group to ask this of.  My r/findareddit search was fruitless.

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I am wanting to start or find a support/discussion group for single men and women that are wanting to become parents but haven't even found a suitable partner yet. It would mostly skew towards singles in their 30's and 40's. I thought that this demographic might have included some of you at some point. I assume everyone here wanted to be parents, we do too.  Subreddits like r/DatingAfterThirty , r/relationship_advice , r/adoption , r/SingleParents ,  r/Fosterparents , and r/infertility don't seem to be quite the right fit for such a niche group.  This a sincere request.

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I would welcome any suggestions and/or ideas for the name of such a subreddit as well. Thank you.",6.4661434108527125,8.013148598837212,6.533720930232557,73.74829457364345,65.9186046511628,9.686821705426356,36.42635658914729,9.928628108626363,3.8469984496124034,757,38,129,17,12,241,106,172,0.014,0.847,0.139,0.964,6,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,2,2,1,8,7,1,0,9,0,15,0,0,0,0,29,30,8,0,8,4,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,3,8,4,0,0,9,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,0,14,6,20,19,7,9,0,0,0,0,21,6,0,9,4,88,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630085367087169,0.2949554988934945,0.1650714285879677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22692900146737516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13404355203927107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016369404134599,0.0,0.0,0.11597416922722607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109299171400274,0.0,0.0,0.1330758636065425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205477258778949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137011877674638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670173938303722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929521712418115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875431570812412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.53906777602814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473381399730102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290918601838662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364925699280976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049062585823204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590626108096573,0.0,0.096926182809516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13772915816804385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174112490077004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927083343985024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863485169997048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912614293559887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724354318754678,0.0,0.2949554988934945,0.0
parenting,sorar3,2019/03/30,"What is a routine that my young brother can follow? What skills are necessary for a young child to learn at that age? Hi I have a young brother who is in elementary school. He has autism and is still learning to be potty trained. Currently trying to focus on helping him learn that.

What is a daily routine that the he can follow? What are some activities he can take part in other than playing on the iPad or watching tv? 
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parenting,Skyly09,2019/03/30,"Tv/media question... Eh. So I decided to cancel cable a few years ago to save cost and I don’t have netflix.  I do have prime but the play station is in the basement and the kids don’t go down there much.   

My 2 boys typically play with each other during the winter in the house or I’d take them out to museums /bowling indoor stuff and we go outside a lot in the summer .  Honestly I’m too lazy to find the remote on most days and turn on the tv....they probably watch like maybe 30 mins or something before breakfast maybe 1-2 times a month at home and sometimes when they go to grandparents.

Daycare has days where the kids would take toys to share with each other and shockingly even with the lack of exposure my older one (4) knows most of the superheroes and crap.  I guess my question is...are they going to feel left out or something because they have no clue who pj mask is?.....I know it probably sounds silly but I’m looking for confirmation they wouldn’t be completely clueless about pop culture with the other kids .",3.3045428072218996,5.170365039603958,4.173820617355855,86.30213453698313,74.34653465346534,7.129178800232964,25.74373907979033,7.928766900206844,1.4851452533488647,806,28,159,12,17,259,127,202,0.095,0.8109999999999999,0.094,-0.0699,1,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,5,0,7,9,1,0,15,0,11,2,1,0,0,36,25,14,0,3,5,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,4,6,16,1,0,7,5,1,4,4,2,0,1,0,4,13,7,24,22,8,26,0,0,2,0,15,11,1,9,12,97,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134167011301842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226455918936707,0.0,0.1287918957798942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15869276219868753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522281436000025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996850238006497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652959922575599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833566202567474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440739738826069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16673451692798832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518213333561936,0.0,0.0,0.17464326543286152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663614201418522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444757196339105,0.0,0.0,0.07394437251292171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271000196781189,0.0,0.0,0.1286765471513627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041127370129316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081005939656125,0.0,0.11126328708812662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256201620487627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32637242307896963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391043167803772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330408359774221,0.1496938937753327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326518103462402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276001387742567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825627559118138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16463069883498332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075181981568822,0.0,0.0,0.09746761116669013
parenting,fast_info,2019/03/30,"Homebody? kid My 5 year old daughter sucks her thumb constantly. While she is friendly / social, she is introverted -- she seems to get tired of the social interactions. A lot of times she just seems ""lazy"" -- she doesn't want to do anything, just stay in bed, cuddle, and eat sweets. She even prefers to stay inside to going out into the yard to play. 

It seems that she's always been like this. It's not recent. 

Is there a name for this personality / behavior / condition? What should I look into? How do I address this? ",2.401771321462043,5.090745690721652,3.298575445173384,87.11959700093723,81.78350515463917,6.0014995313964405,21.189315838800376,7.348242739294969,0.8050701030927829,400,12,77,6,11,127,70,97,0.064,0.816,0.119,0.7676,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,4,0,8,3,0,1,0,16,16,3,0,3,3,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,3,2,7,4,1,0,4,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,11,4,12,14,1,13,0,0,1,1,16,4,1,4,7,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640772779939316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468490580211774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031309091466558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923422410518704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415370594839956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522666904539913,0.0,0.0982075901902188,0.0,0.10682879597293296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918336042147102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578491034021902,0.0,0.0,0.15980703738812252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972449504208662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412986396377982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559963215923814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133678345380018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832274801567037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40070619512444094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960796077738867,0.21604611479056904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087073145607973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104777853204375
parenting,realjewbanpride,2019/03/30,"Perfect place to start a family 24 year old here, not starting a family any time soon but carefully planning my future. I currently reside in LA right now and quickly realized when I moved there that the big city life isn’t for me (despite amazing food), so in a few years I wanted to move to a small mountainous town because I grew up in a similar setting and I wouldn’t trade that childhood for the world. 

Similarly, I want the same experience for my future children. So here is my bucket list for the perfect place to live:

1. Nearby small city to find work: im an accountant so I can virtually work anywhere

2. International airport nearby: for family and friends to visit so I can pick them up

3. Great schools

4: amazing scenery (mountains!)

5: not a crazy cold climate, for reference I was born and raised in NJ and wouldn’t want to go back to cold winters like that or worse.

6. Affordable living: this should go hand in hand with a small town

7. Nearby hospital within 15 minute drive 

Does such a place exist? The closest I have found is Ashland Oregon, it has all of these things but of course it’s not perfect with more than average rainfall and wildfires in the summer. 

Any thoughts?",3.7108951965065486,5.8534918253275166,4.5401288209607,82.905826419214,73.97816593886462,7.54943231441048,28.917248908296948,8.395991825355821,2.2282172925764194,944,40,176,17,20,304,144,229,0.017,0.772,0.212,0.994,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,1,6,13,9,0,0,15,0,11,4,2,1,4,31,21,14,0,6,6,0,2,1,1,3,1,0,0,1,8,8,1,0,5,0,2,7,6,0,0,0,3,4,15,9,28,15,4,47,0,0,0,0,4,21,0,1,19,106,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854912718267171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487069559049753,0.0,0.08313827630285424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390523362918994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935035042894886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340949060166865,0.3857114228800203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12465228895120788,0.0,0.1649157880685106,0.1495377570847266,0.10536975729150604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502007141529736,0.0,0.0,0.15036358063007402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731786804780175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633188543942232,0.06663021778929107,0.0,0.2408587235045093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899087135192881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311181747427298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4274760148590427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647098875893505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13802764974664128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19306625940169345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09060731225820194,0.0,0.0,0.10827347392870404,0.0795264692101416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413280317117272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857800816203114,0.0,0.13898670649972175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17565334422991094
parenting,bitttttchh,2019/03/30,"Was I wrong for showing my boyfriends daughter slaughter house videos? The other day I was looking after my boyfriends 7 year old daughter whilst he was working and she started asking me why I was vegetarian. I personally think kids should be shown the truth about where their food comes from so I decided to show her a few videos. She got really upset by them and said she didn’t wanna eat meat anymore. I said that she could be vegetarian with me and there’s still loads of fun food we can eat. We even went and got some vegan chicken nuggets for her to try. 

When her dad came home she told him she wanted to be vegetarian now and she had seen what they do to the animals and that he needs to stop eating meat too. He asked to speak to me alone and asked me why I had shown her the vids, I said because she asked about it and I was being honest, he got annoyed with me and said to her that not all animals are killed in horrible ways, he told her that the meat they buy is from animals who were killed in nice. he buys meat from a regular store so the animals he buys are treated badly. She said she still wanted to be vegetarian so he said ok. Then he got a call from her mom this week angry at me for showing the videos and angry that she won’t eat the food at home now.

Was I wrong for showing her the reality of the meat industry? ",3.9041006362058965,4.797895384615387,4.7961017929438965,86.26863504916138,71.34432234432235,8.091690765374976,25.72373240794293,8.371475516178862,1.3793047619047618,1052,31,230,16,19,342,134,273,0.132,0.82,0.049,-0.9758,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,2,0,4,1,14,13,3,1,13,1,23,7,0,0,2,29,49,15,3,6,1,4,0,0,0,2,0,7,2,2,10,16,7,1,2,7,4,3,3,7,0,0,25,9,44,6,30,16,3,23,0,0,2,0,56,5,0,1,14,147,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907157453632942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686471079010351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275354095250957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313312159711008,0.05339341601554716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089438119468956,0.10017843434394737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07545013192920921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993265603355824,0.0,0.0,0.05648763205737337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3585014838414931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785168089379609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31773874819575115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802115654622153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17571773350772174,0.0,0.0,0.10106589797315184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938084099763501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355266513905498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258312937111563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494610275252984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190987769952813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764792999342373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056111729537990256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.499902942144849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061995915510977814,0.0,0.13989731050212748,0.07322829112258636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612346779906691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739000641851995,0.0,0.05946715320347917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332447392790158,0.06952403817747382,0.0702585790731958,0.0,0.0,0.08119584187125031,0.15807082257085148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06376580483044032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152955193782067,0.0,0.0564044174359901
parenting,MrSpectroscopy,2019/03/30,Summer Vacation Ideas for 2 and 10 yr Old? We are trying to figure out where to go with our kids this summer. They are two and ten years old. Budget limit is ~$8k. We are not averse to roughing it.,-0.5518699186991861,1.6678221463414682,1.4652439024390242,96.7284349593496,95.82926829268294,3.7089430894308943,11.711382113821138,5.46131890053228,-1.2597837398373986,152,2,33,1,6,50,33,41,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,5,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,4,0,6,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030808624992792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033860261121329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7499227954463918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426059901493097,0.0,0.3490629063883764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301110580160203
parenting,angban615,2019/03/30,"What is the strangest/worst name you've ever seen or heard of for a child? Mine would have to be a little girl my old neighbor had named 'Heaven-Leigh, (all her first name), pronounced 'heavenly'.",7.169189189189191,6.754947135135139,5.657432432432432,87.45209459459461,64.13513513513513,8.481081081081081,29.31081081081081,7.1686216300943375,1.4036054054054057,152,4,31,1,2,44,35,37,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,2,7,7,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,3,1,3,2,1,4,1,0,1,0,8,1,0,1,3,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439228181083337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174423695723472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918729974492214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5149727352166179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34862363088639353,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Unicorn31783,2019/03/30,"Challenging 4 year old Need some input. We have a 2 year old daughter and 4 year old son. Our son has been challenging since he was a baby, but recently he has been way more stubborn, telling us no, hitting us and basically trying to be in control.  I do not agree with spanking, but my husband does and will spank him when my son tells him no. This isn't working. We do time outs and it doesn't work either, it almost seems like a game. In addition to this,  he is very sensitive and will cry when getting in trouble.  I do not know what to do. ",3.3291216216216206,4.314864288288288,4.4915202702702715,87.57349662162164,72.78378378378378,7.712162162162162,28.289414414414416,8.07648339933343,1.6795846846846847,420,16,91,6,8,138,71,111,0.17,0.784,0.046,-0.9479,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,5,2,5,1,0,3,0,16,0,0,1,0,22,21,9,0,1,5,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,2,2,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,11,3,8,14,3,15,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,3,11,59,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974101337119762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012126093496445,0.0,0.0,0.18620012912355305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483404217625234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856262259491939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315894020853208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281462579262641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12569043093290466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5336205705396662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16737189197736338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543166595524789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402214430967329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963205772017711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884336276783427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508699976931575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4078022823457486,0.0,0.0,0.13986451935716535,0.0,0.13455012615644607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468123920679548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3274790280055509
parenting,meeowsers,2019/03/30,"Lonely mama Hey guys. I’m a mostly SAHM to a 17 month old baby boy in the SF Bay Area. While it’s definitely a busy area to live in, I’m having trouble making friends. 

I do have a few friends that have kids of various ages but they either live far away (1-3 hours) or work full time so it’s hard to coordinate play dates.

If I’m honest I’d say I’m very lonely. I’ve made my SO my whole social life and that’s not fair to him. Poor guy works 60 hour work weeks and just wants to relax (not that he isn’t attentive!) I work part time (2 days a week/12 house total) bartending at a restaurant. I love it. I love the social aspect and being able to contribute financially. 
 
I take the baby to the local park, we have an Oakland zoo membership and I’ve recently joined the Peanut app. I’m so lonely. I already have a general anxiety disorder so it makes it a little more challenging, although I am very social.

DAE have this problem too? I don’t know how to make friends at 31 years old and with a baby. Solo activities are usually out of the question since I’m the main care taker. 

Any advice is welcome. Even play dates with local redditors! ",0.6043009118541036,2.9422749361702145,2.9478951367781185,88.87625,86.87234042553192,6.080547112462004,20.307750759878413,7.447530270364453,0.8029240121580545,890,28,186,16,28,304,145,235,0.115,0.7020000000000001,0.183,0.9667,0,6,0,0,0,0,29.0,1,0,1,5,8,17,0,0,17,0,13,3,0,5,1,29,29,15,0,3,7,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,4,9,9,0,0,3,3,1,0,4,5,0,0,1,2,13,12,18,27,10,29,0,3,0,2,20,13,0,4,16,100,22,5,0.11496827631050445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123456690177979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268703517759367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818237032132468,0.0,0.08795041669552553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10801648011794864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721781993251493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414502713208082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176360503618512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593546221145045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26647261525906674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276733376681044,0.0,0.0,0.10298899350337012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22644118714032005,0.13265795492606988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318355798007826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120549357397368,0.0,0.11522841611302527,0.20303818859727926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20752671606284767,0.10878576286162607,0.2302266515416741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176658128970863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24127973248431545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12449943966753725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000911362428628,0.0,0.0,0.12879078119385207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351730298042395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142738781083702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510294621343536,0.0,0.0,0.35158703820637593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644183580697459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407785293408445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12662131376028687,0.1897217368161918,0.06781126809326259,0.0,0.18444123295352655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12835797474683286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347930976784381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403580056096201
parenting,Selfishmamas,2019/03/30,"My wife and I were thinking about moving to a different country after our twins move out for college. Is this completely selfish? My wife and I have 3 kids and live in Washington state. The oldest is 20 and is attending college in California. My daughter got accepted to her top choice school in California and my other son is committed to a university in Idaho for sports. Our daughter's safety school was in Washington but she's going to be attending her top choice. None of our kids will be in Washington come September. 

My wife is originally from Australia and we have always wanted to move back. We were considering selling the house and moving there at the end of this year since all of the kids will be out of the house anyway. I was talking to a friend about our plans after our kids graduate and she said it sounded awfully selfish. We are funding their tuitions and give the oldest money for his apartment since he doesn't live on campus (not enough space for everyone) and will probably do the same for our daughter after freshman year. Her twin brother is guaranteed four years of room and board with his scholarship. We are older parents. I'm 57 and my wife is 60. We are a close knit family and plan to visit but is it really that selfish to move forward with our lives as our kids do the same? ",5.69822820694543,6.902891730923695,6.187413182140325,76.78992204110561,67.43373493975903,9.553602645877627,31.514528703047482,9.773937934552695,3.093265343727852,1047,42,187,23,17,339,130,249,0.045,0.902,0.052000000000000005,-0.4283,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,13,0,1,4,5,5,0,0,12,1,26,0,0,1,2,35,34,16,0,1,3,10,0,0,1,3,0,2,1,5,6,24,0,0,2,1,5,11,3,3,0,1,6,2,30,2,37,22,5,40,0,0,0,0,42,17,0,0,13,136,36,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019475975339782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421137324306612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554131427874112,0.12846132879528266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280087577105539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085175704371312,0.1265973306039776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11707442268698146,0.0,0.0,0.11550224658551288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465970905241963,0.0,0.0,0.11753366549843748,0.06963171992918815,0.0,0.09799153473559627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827464294126225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324565851849674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6511041493048325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604548557704516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209876294915035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849032904871715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654588308137775,0.0,0.0,0.2479963416838881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20270189212139836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847803879837176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850674878808274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07226628036742087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23669924207315546
parenting,TwinToyzTv,2019/03/30,"Dental work for 5 year olds My 5 year old twins have cavities, 2 in the front and 2 in the back. The bill is $1300 for fillings and crowns. My husband doesn't think we should shell out that much money because they're going to fall out anyway. We're on 1 income with 3 kids and one the way and trying to budget that in has been very stressful. As a mom I feel like I'm not taking care of their teeth but I also feel like paying $1300 is a bit excessive for 5 year olds. I've cut out candy and a lot of sugary sweets in the past year. Has anyone dealt with this and do you think we should pay that much for teeth that will fall out anyway?",3.1668984812150285,3.3494138273381324,4.100959232613911,93.16896083133496,72.59712230215827,6.753317346123103,19.760991207034373,5.82211442006289,-0.25391191047162304,498,6,119,2,9,161,87,139,0.064,0.865,0.071,0.4478,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,1,1,2,4,6,1,1,8,0,11,2,2,0,0,23,19,9,0,2,2,2,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,14,0,0,4,0,5,5,2,2,0,1,1,3,8,4,20,15,4,24,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,1,11,68,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320824037316557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548721956034808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700170238073716,0.0,0.10068306083038248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18031742025661315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683967416221674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670247896238703,0.2359878410584877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386708489950243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138256815388208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404173903621411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934392707077517,0.0,0.0,0.2428305819808905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5199387020661919,0.0,0.11192008943811516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15766869671314454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18919596794969687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418353709455998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166214653807106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11213620424009148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627843579217996,0.0,0.1311003020102365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024209885301396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4254434209758347
parenting,CaptchaNose,2019/03/30,"[URGENT] My 5mo son's penis glans is purple and colorless. Is this a concern? WARNING: The link below has a photo of my son's penis. Mods, if this isn't allowed, I'm very sorry and please feel free to delete it. I'm just concerned for my son and was hoping this would be okay. I sincerely hope I'm not breaking any subreddit rules or laws.

https://imgur.com/8w95KpC

Background:

Our son has had issues in the past. His foreskin was too tight and had to be stretched as per doctor's orders (pulling skin back every diaper change), or he needed to be circumcised, and we opted to go with the stretching as circumcision was too expensive (our insurance doesn't cover it). It appeared red and ""raw"" at first, but as we kept stretching it, the foreskin was no longer too tight BUT it became colorless, purple, and dry. This was a gradual process, and I finally noticed that the color was off.

Also, I noticed that the foreskin when retracted, is red where the skin meets the glans (picture below). Maybe I'm being too paranoid and I am NO doctor whatsoever, but I was considering the possibility of the skin somehow constricting the blood, thus making the glans purple and the skin red?

https://imgur.com/9LIDQHV

I doubt this is an infection or virus of sorts. We give him regular baths and fully clean his diaper area, making sure to pull back and clean with baby soap. He also shows no symptoms of one (pain, fever...).

Please help me reddit. Again, I might be freaking out for no reason, but I can't go to the pediatrician either since it's a Saturday. I'll be here answering any questions and replies. Thank you.",4.6344295302013405,6.8149291275167805,5.056115436241615,80.0435825503356,71.48322147651007,7.9894765100671155,27.35624161073825,8.726425361277474,2.2314803758389257,1272,46,223,24,25,404,165,298,0.081,0.815,0.104,0.7358,1,0,0,0,0,0,63.0,5,1,0,1,14,10,0,1,19,1,27,11,5,5,1,54,43,27,0,5,11,4,7,0,0,2,6,0,3,0,13,19,0,4,5,2,2,5,8,3,0,2,10,14,21,8,23,25,1,26,0,0,7,0,19,11,0,12,8,146,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22810303038794905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19397017972928335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193287853568305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087087019148793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919510099212873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016176561921847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721119157183832,0.0,0.0,0.15623098230046004,0.0,0.12131074701652733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368121236583588,0.16210612401300364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955937990106906,0.0,0.0,0.2833035886889521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14885607618959795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039716496388173,0.0,0.14327889001268146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129509674968766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574939549960577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247429402022991,0.0,0.0,0.09664160721208102,0.0,0.15175554360869167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614496140853927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3131033417939809,0.0,0.1607802987551278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15976473259235807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466349954360415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797503384706713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964910767063914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441572075671265,0.1482346472270364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313034379453753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767473676463548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10131169275837697,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubblybunnie,2019/03/30,"4 year old incredibly picky eater need tips This is long, I am sorry, bear with me!

So as the title implies I have a very picky eater. In the beginning I made everything he ate at home and from scratch. He is my first kid and of course I was an over zealous 24 year old. The problem began when I had him a tad early, he was 35 weeks and 5lbs at birth so I was constantly needing to get weight on him. He was exclusively bf. I used to make him zucchini, lots of veggies and fruits when he started tolerating solids at 6 months. His pediatrician at the time insisted I feed him a lot of butter rich items, even sugary to try to get weight on him quickly. When he was about 15 months I began to do just that as she was not pleased that he was only up 3% in the weight chart. She would say to buy him the meal shakes as well. This did not help.
It did not take long for him to turn his nose up at homemade food that was not sweet. 
Then it got even worse. Soon he had me making him separate meals at each feeding time. When he started even refusing those we then decided to try prepackaged food. He was wasting so much food and money it was not even a laughable matter. Of course that worked but now his diet consists of food I really, really do not like him eating. He likes the frozen mini pancakes, he always wants got dogs, always wants macaroni. (Although I often like to sneak him the cauliflower kind from kraft) He hates lunch meat. He hates cheese and I could go on. Sometimes he eats the chicken I make but more often refuses it. 
If I try to make him eat the lunch or dinner I make for the family he cries and refuses or runs to his room. He would rather not eat then eat the good, healthy food. 
For example this morning he had cereal with a cup of milk then applesauce then wanted pancakes.
I offered him scrambled eggs with toast instead of course he refused.
I really do not want him to go hungry but I really do not want him eating junk. He is still a lean child however. (So was as I up until I had him) So I do not think his lean body type is abnormal he seems healthy and happy but really the junk food has to stop.

I took him to a new pediatrician who thinks his weight is fine.

I have tried making the food fun, like cute cut out sandwiches, ants on a log, etc.

I have tried bargaining with him, like if you eat all your dinner you can have popsicles. I had tried giving him healthy choices so he feels he has power to no avail. He will let me make it then run away and refuse to eat it. Hooray for wasted time, energy, food, and resources.

I have tried having cut up fruits and veggies ready at his disposal and that does not work for the vegetables.

He does love apples, oranges, blueberries, blackberries etc but you cannot survive on that alone. 

Twice I have gotten him to eat tuna sandwiches with me but no other fish.

Help me! 

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parenting,DocMom3,2019/03/30,"Need advice for 6 year old woh is terrible at soccer My daughter begged to play soccer this yet, so we signed her up. She’s not athletically inclined in any capacity, and actively avoids the ball and other players. She runs during the games, but there is a lot of hesitation to get in the mix and move towards the ball. Almost like she’s got anxiety or is waiting for the perfect moment. She’s playing AYSO, so she always gets a chance to play.

My husband and I are pretty much of the same mind that soccer is not her thing. She’s great at a lot of things, but sports aren’t it, and that’s fine. My question is how many more seasons do we play if she wants to? At some point, her teammates will start to notice that she’s not helping and I’m terrified of her becoming a source of their mockery. Any tips to gently steer her in another direction?",4.1331568627451,5.180450452941177,5.136176470588237,83.47112745098042,70.94117647058823,8.019607843137255,27.696078431372552,8.344100000000001,1.789901960784314,667,23,135,10,12,219,105,170,0.097,0.7040000000000001,0.199,0.9672,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,1,1,5,10,0,1,10,0,9,0,0,1,1,29,17,13,0,3,7,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,2,1,11,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,20,8,21,15,6,17,0,0,0,0,21,9,0,7,7,92,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887339836505735,0.0,0.0,0.19340161727875324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607077911620511,0.0,0.0,0.26268338300874544,0.2025239273441058,0.14775142336857486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330774211734865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20181515474811748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544715469600784,0.21293731857159565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945754112221053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435835361488684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32840111357843194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958134493566268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501614665191008,0.0,0.0,0.20527704856674284,0.14197998076975366,0.14321071929579984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219890949886222,0.20266773736820876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257954549806346,0.0,0.0,0.196492618281458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636078546414014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367053491655883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566270108013361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139188619866687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12437570308487902
parenting,timb626,2019/03/30,"Disciplining my kid??? My wife and I just had a baby boy who is turning 3 weeks in two days. It’s been a little tough on us having to adjust to a new little human being in our home that requires all of out attention 24/7. While our son allowed us to take a break by taking a nap, I started to think about discipline. Obviously he is way too young to even think about disciplining right now since he hasn’t misbehaved. But I’m curious, what advice or methods do you guys have for us when it comes time for disciplining our son? Thank you ahead of time for your advice, as new parents we sure need it.  ",4.427541322314049,5.082102859504136,5.619493801652894,81.71287706611571,69.99173553719008,8.694628099173555,26.695247933884296,8.841846274778883,1.8124950413223133,470,14,97,8,8,157,88,121,0.033,0.898,0.069,0.6432,2,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,7,3,0,2,7,3,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,3,21,19,6,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,4,0,5,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,0,14,2,19,16,1,22,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,1,12,64,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005683771513084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247856593917134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918339831773466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157845355620428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15227869089613735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426635282113044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30828084727788596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140351426299143,0.0,0.2970673861456868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707683001193733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13133790007417712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721869234296868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885507779742927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494755091296574,0.0,0.2312655444008809,0.0,0.0,0.14159141244410034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1970879663014944,0.0,0.0,0.17935521244679786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728200780638666,0.15023286310023867,0.0,0.5549800937940107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207327728324713,0.12336301557794252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Canaan0506,2019/03/30,In a relationship So long story short my ex husband and I got a divorce and it’s been two years. I found someone that I’m really in love with but my son (9) does not know. He’s met him and loves him but I’m not sure how to tell him we’re dating now. He’s only seen me with his father and I don’t want to upset him. He had a more so difficult time with the divorce because his father used him a lot to get to me. Telling him to tell me to come home or telling him I was coming home etc etc. Things are starting to get back to normal but I don’t know if this would be to much and I should wait or if I should tell him. It has been two years but still I have a lot of anxiety over how he would feel about it. ,-0.8094263792473484,0.9058750869565236,1.5892436974789952,100.53663865546218,86.9503105590062,4.782024113993423,16.30288637194008,5.900188976854957,-0.8290331750091338,543,11,143,4,17,184,89,161,0.08199999999999999,0.858,0.06,-0.5479999999999999,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,6,0,14,2,0,3,1,37,33,17,0,8,10,5,1,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,6,10,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,2,0,2,8,2,23,3,17,20,6,15,0,0,1,2,30,4,0,6,9,96,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837844165184503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888525457818942,0.0,0.07839320194367551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215545612320884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253849056410872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868453860747412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502388760628942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410029665114047,0.0,0.0,0.13437610259982471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285295209355312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579920296529584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135009714889346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380671447783065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866178378521245,0.2321325548469692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453559861175648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260004313414532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978058897844242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238428018540209,0.0,0.0,0.13806798318792748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896213412284277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102355097340037,0.0,0.1026999107003846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120372384968765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5620091625254776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543594651344769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749875368831058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512465003742324,0.0,0.0,0.1110688770413943,0.0,0.0,0.07585145280829637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18270711733273945,0.0,0.0,0.1656280199524009
parenting,PM-me-happy-puppies,2019/03/30,"Finally Got The House Clean!!! A couple questions 1) Can somebody explain the birds and the bees of toys to me?  Because either somebody is smuggling thousands of toys a day into our house, or they're reproducing.  

2) Anyone wanna take bets on how long this neatness and cleanliness lasts?  It took about 2 and a half hours to get the house presentable for guests coming this evening..... Kiddo and Momma will be home in about an hour..... The question is how destroyed will it be when they show up and I try to pretend we aren't animals?

3) Who put all these socks under the couch?

4) Why does my daughter think when she's done with her pacifier the storage place for it while in her crib is to throw it in the crack between the wall.  There's a pile of Binky's down there.

5) We had a full bucket of Legos.  Riddle me this Batman! Why is there only half a bucket?  Huh?! Where could they have gone?!

6) I just remembered I have to dust..... Crap",0.9361594202898544,3.4759210217391328,1.9576086956521763,94.68268115942031,88.78260869565219,4.371014492753623,19.6231884057971,5.985473137389443,-0.041611594202898505,724,22,148,6,24,227,124,184,0.069,0.902,0.029,-0.7966,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,3,0,2,0,12,3,2,0,16,1,15,1,1,2,1,24,23,11,0,2,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,9,10,0,0,5,4,1,5,1,2,0,3,5,0,14,1,24,13,3,27,0,0,0,0,15,12,1,4,10,101,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858032450998847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946615518084163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376605404848044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12398408336138725,0.1718221807420354,0.0,0.10014730855536197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358927546119297,0.15891257917002322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025656400507778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17010938629308087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113108077410656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12419724940241356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15576558474227672,0.0,0.30585295218500336,0.5375412616939821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657968159941704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374241634680154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118102808323209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224192885608085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610638810796662,0.3479140976057753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17590997009442633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675654507795538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995016792554046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725296398811816,0.1054297219385821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28024484059668753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ScrappleSandwiches,2019/03/30,"April Fools Pranks for Kids? My son is 11 and I’d like to pull a prank or two on him, but of course nothing that’s too scary, high effort or messy. Have any of you pulled off good ones?",0.00768292682926841,1.676994097560975,0.7831097560975628,107.7044207317073,83.63414634146342,4.1000000000000005,12.689024390243905,3.1291,-1.9553463414634151,142,1,39,0,4,43,39,41,0.112,0.691,0.197,0.6189,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,6,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,2,20,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30862686198594663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3806595819974302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795070315910915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22172337088679334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.435471860031822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3075338282695851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.443335876894511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SmallerPotatoes,2019/03/30,"No more shopping carts Shopping carts are the worst. My 3 year and 10 month old always fuss about who sits where. 

Last weekend, we went to Menards and my 10 month old was chewing the (metal) shopping cart when he twisted one of his teeth. 

Today, he fell out of one!!

No more shopping carts for us! Anyone else have issues with shopping carts? Gonna have to stick to 2 man shopping, 1 cart and the double stroller. 
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parenting,kellevrahh,2019/03/30,"How to tell Kiddo I’m moving out of state Son’s Mom & I are divorced and live in the same town.  It is not amicable, but I do have pretty standard visitation with a court order.

I am taking another job out of state, and I am torn up about it. The court order doesn’t provide for long-distance visitation, so that will have to be rewritten.  My kid is 11 and has special needs — doesn’t do well with conflict, high anxiety.  He is seeing a bunch of specialists.  I anticipate Mom will go into high drama mode when she finds out I am moving.  I can’t see her working with me to make a new agreement allowing for, e.g., extended periods of time with him over the summer and breaks.

What is the best way to talk to him about the upcoming changes in his life? We have a good relationship when Mom isn’t telling him that I’m to blame for everything.  This may just make him hate me and refuse to see me.",4.9581118881118895,5.0257653406593406,5.969320679320678,81.73477022977025,68.67032967032965,9.475324675324677,29.732267732267733,9.339509955726095,2.3067846153846157,700,24,149,13,11,233,112,182,0.095,0.779,0.126,0.8402,1,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,1,0,0,2,8,6,1,0,9,0,22,1,0,4,0,28,33,10,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,14,0,2,1,1,0,5,5,1,1,0,0,3,19,5,28,29,3,28,0,0,3,0,22,11,0,1,6,100,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195569203931225,0.0,0.0,0.14705939437457088,0.10728724809708673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14717875898911306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483609003750753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260434060966568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12818163651885567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970461920302405,0.11763107903954186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846316959301322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29635365665634833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391717908135202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905938212980103,0.0,0.0,0.12383914330179413,0.12411265116912258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722961421943826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4927606975494908,0.0,0.29811705547199546,0.0,0.10399009106614553,0.0,0.13544975621387093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267985922694448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150570935235685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352719690187677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544698970894514,0.11272383606590546,0.2451610960299289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177814507612023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113201678768948,0.0,0.0,0.1260973409979072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021002272682983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monachopsticks,2019/03/30,"New PE game I picked up my 6yo from school and started taking to her about her day. Then this part happened.

Me: what did you do in PE?

6: We learned a new game

Me: What's it called?

6: Umm... I think it's called Slap The Balls. 

Me: [cringing] How do you play that?

6: You have to slap the balls. But if you use your feet you gotta sit back down.

Oh boy",-3.129999999999999,-1.8911622051282042,-1.156871794871794,112.61853846153849,113.35897435897436,2.08,10.328205128205127,3.1291,-2.442739487179487,260,4,74,0,15,82,56,78,0.0,0.918,0.08199999999999999,0.6298,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,4,1,1,3,0,9,10,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,15,1,7,8,1,10,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,1,6,42,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046995650330385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.543661695185943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168385238696196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23540920711466684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5142158278206249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882802023130243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694193998292713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884252750473004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20015728569774055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705770415596964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299205368491426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ornaic,2019/03/30,"My 15 year old son has been acting different, should I be concerned? My son has always been smart and more mature than other kids his age. By no means a genius but definitely gifted. So its normal when he brings up a serious topic or has no problem understanding an ""adult"" topic. But recently he's been...""different"". 

He has somewhat normal interests as a 15 year old. Some of these include reading manga , watching anime, playing videos games, board games, card games, table tennis and japanese culture. He doesn't really have friends, but seems content anyway. Despite this he is pretty well adept at talking with other people. Though he does has troubles looking people in the eye, saying that it disturbs him. He's rather blunt, monotone and when he says something he means it, no beating around the bush.

So here comes the weird stuff. Every week or so we go to our local bookstore and buy a couple of books and order a few as well. It's mainly just manga with the occasional history book about some specific topic. Lately though the books his requesting are different. Not in a bad way but there not something I would ever pin him with. Some examples are: The allegory of the cave, The art of war and The complete manual of suicide. The latter shocked me, so obviously I asked him why he wanted it. He said he found it interesting that if such a book was published in western culture today that the public and media would slay the creator. Something he found interesting. I didn't really understand him but it sounded reasonable enough.

It only started to alarm me when his grades in english went up. I know that sounds weird but even though he loves to read, he never really took any interest in writing and subsequently english became his weakest subject. With his grades going up I asked him to bring home some of his writing every so often. I read through all of it. Most having a ""happy"" ending and some ending with a open ended ""sad"" conclusion. All of them though sharing the theme of regret, remorse or some other depressive theme though. Again I put it off since it didn't seem that weird for someone his age, but I couldn't let it go by and asked him if he was ok and that it was also a bit different of him to be writing stories in the way he was now. He said that he was ok and that writing how he is currently comes more naturally and is easier for him to write.

So that's it. I'm probably just overreacting but I can't help but feel that something's wrong. Is it just a phase? Or do I have reason to be concerned. If there is then what should I do?",4.217469387755102,6.1552902469387805,5.0813775510204096,80.45022959183677,72.04081632653063,7.675510204081633,27.352040816326532,8.395991825355821,2.0387714285714287,2031,74,365,34,40,660,243,490,0.135,0.765,0.1,-0.9619,5,0,4,0,0,1,61.0,2,0,1,2,34,29,1,2,26,2,37,2,1,3,5,88,66,48,2,14,22,2,1,0,1,4,0,6,1,2,32,23,0,0,13,13,1,11,11,15,2,0,15,10,34,14,43,42,16,51,0,3,3,1,66,14,0,18,23,255,66,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061310461026981636,0.06379296998980136,0.0,0.0,0.05213609448529775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824976059090683,0.2150194972533193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640136265416381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370035564759606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320834243734669,0.08038374508978671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483042344771402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603305502129095,0.0,0.0,0.3204022080594668,0.0,0.0,0.06709168669273015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20371224869585006,0.07921736173642385,0.0,0.05063773861510956,0.0693495650173182,0.1291902739810267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038765068493070716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812251176480147,0.059232626613017675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071463165084798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161329912802938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051388180847032734,0.0,0.07690311259700748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04213410178315037,0.0,0.0864835585592042,0.0,0.0,0.07839705969112082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438085418111955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919483530883093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670253745360286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059130209550075225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023449168964928,0.0,0.0,0.16089794768934676,0.0,0.0,0.0583086025165958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630229629139308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799775985102624,0.08265984313849473,0.07335983187241985,0.0,0.0770713708143053,0.0,0.0,0.2300628243651308,0.0,0.14734426293348252,0.1576526038708519,0.07569927605903362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585548265357154,0.12193713006804616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958926166110286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341961965639528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495958251525091,0.2360875807463237,0.0,0.0,0.0542651988040328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776521343667275,0.08386110237739702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616219187668961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3766240082712107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267121978857795,0.0,0.08517970348878061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596258121651527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045220100976062265,0.121709171395065,0.061497531404641,0.0,0.1378654306823198,0.07107094822116153,0.06917991726733483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892387672142333,0.08382317711650515,0.0,0.09874188969909384
parenting,toughtittiedkitty,2019/03/30,"How do I approach this? So I have a 5 year old child, and lately more and more they have been making inappropriate comments and gestures. Such as, talking about their private parts in a joking manner, and touching at their privates in front of me. I don’t know how else to approach it so I just say “Stop, that’s inappropriate.” Or “Stop talking like that, it’s inappropriate.” 
I know I need to be explaining to my child why it’s inappropriate to talk about in public or do in public, or when the appropriate time would be. I just don’t know what to say or how to even begin. ",3.4954385964912262,5.073296263157901,4.979824561403512,81.92043859649127,73.21052631578948,7.171929824561403,25.824561403508767,7.793537801064563,1.328919298245614,450,15,92,6,9,151,64,114,0.047,0.911,0.042,-0.1349,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,3,0,12,2,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,4,0,22,17,15,0,2,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,7,4,0,2,4,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,12,2,15,13,3,16,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,4,9,68,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787282480648241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131233395955306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35274491466862656,0.0,0.2413455624869117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452544165610417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428136671219246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864163702322334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224505133316709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316876184553377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402841619215526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577445139199752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5158960926476535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475629816831582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930571119394116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15198434669863128,0.0,0.0,0.13777715271819227
parenting,cosmicstatue,2019/03/30,"When is it ok for your ex to bring their partner in your child’s life? Don’t know if this belongs here.

Let me start with a small back story.
Me and my ex split up a little over a month ago. He instantly moved on for another girl the same week we broke up.
I have been adamant about not letting his new girl meet our (4yr)daughter, especially since my daughter is adjusting to a new life and a move.
Honestly don’t care if it’s a fling or something serious but I don’t think it’s a bright idea to bring a new face into my daughters life where she may become attached and next thing you know, that girl disappears. 
I keep reminding him to not have this girl around when he has time with his daughter. I know eventually i’m going to have to suck it up and realize that I have no control on whether he decides to have them meet without me knowing..
I came heartbroken from this relationship since we were together for 12 years. Ive been trying my best to leave my bitterness behind and focus on being a good parent. 
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parenting,begil115,2019/03/30,"The Constant Sick Cycle My son will be 10 months old next week and has been in daycare full time since he was 4 months.  He's been thriving there, and honestly, I'm a better mom when I have projects and goals outside of our home.  The first few months went great. Then January hit and it's been an unended cycle of colds, teething and developmental jumps. It feels like it's been months since everyone in our house has been healthy and happy at the same time.  I know bugs are a normal part of daycare, especially when he's at this stage where everything goes in his mouth, but my husband and I are beyond exhausted.  

Does anyone have any advice on how to help us break this cycle?  Does it get better when cold and flu season slows down?  How old were your kiddos when they built up an immune system strong enough to not succumb to every little thing that comes through?",7.21994047619048,6.728552065476192,6.440000000000001,82.13833333333334,64.05952380952381,9.371428571428572,29.97619047619048,8.515128840125781,1.9677333333333344,689,19,137,8,9,210,114,168,0.049,0.7979999999999999,0.153,0.9504,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,1,1,5,9,8,0,0,7,0,15,6,2,2,0,17,22,16,0,1,2,3,1,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,8,9,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,8,3,11,7,16,11,5,37,0,0,0,0,13,12,0,0,20,82,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006867709477566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747506315803724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022557895096723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535424263710706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234733849940006,0.0,0.15489794550935154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25087289189248024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810693847903209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076882858243113,0.13696603424135834,0.12882335881894566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247622855128269,0.10240101928818347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192361468848514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748884254877549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15803115019101424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525864483248513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607674343642483,0.0,0.14378015521582355,0.0,0.0,0.16539332948962487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877506500948059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002792771093021,0.14366278602267155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16787626347178858,0.4576455418401006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244207064369042,0.0,0.14044125006423133,0.0,0.0,0.3008191880855281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552215761028595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23714209867442565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952276988342492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671636089968892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17241850986545856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497746075746408,0.0,0.0,0.1328761817499179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrskendle13,2019/03/30,Porn found in 12 year old sons phone and chrome book The other night my husband ( sons step-dad) found a lot of porn in my sons phone and chrome book. I know this is normal for age but how do I talk to my son about this?,1.0549999999999995,2.313067833333335,1.6275000000000013,104.7675,79.0,4.800000000000002,14.083333333333336,3.1291,-1.664016666666667,168,1,45,0,4,51,35,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,9,5,4,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,6,3,1,6,0,0,0,2,8,2,0,1,4,23,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.699209585706615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17523273678620385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710765933388388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992210301832032,0.3124072903458611,0.0,0.0,0.3345815684169022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562811835200575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053302531102391
parenting,irisbelou,2019/03/30,"I completely understand that I can’t have children right now, so, why do I want them still? First of all- I know how this sounds. Like the ridiculous title of the Maury or Jerry Springer episode where the 16 year old desperately wants a baby and will stop at nothing and no one to have one. We all laugh it off and admire the absurdity as comic relief on daytime television, forgetting about our daily lives and the hustle. But I don’t think this is that. I completely understand that I’m far, far too young for a child. And I absolutely won’t be ATTEMPTING to have one, because that is plain irresponsible. So, why is it that despite understanding how I cannot have a child at this time, how it’s just not in the cards for me, why do I still want one? It doesn’t make a lot of sense. I have plans to get my PhD, to win the Palme d’Or, to write several books about life, death, raging hormones...there’s so many things I want to do with my life, but for some reason - one of those things is having a child. It’s like a mental blockage where no matter how much I try to remind myself that it just isn’t possible for me right now, my body still wants to convince me that it HAS to happen, or else. Just ‘or else’. I’ve learned so much about the “biological clock” in 10th grade health class (hold your applause, please) and it’s absolutely horrifying knowing that with each passing year, my chances of conceiving diminish by just this much. I live with my father, who was a teenage parent. He’s married to my step mother, who was also a teenage parent. It’s been repeated to me thousands and thousands of times through out my life that having a baby too young will ruin my career, my finances, my mental health. Is there anything I can be told to help me knock my senses straight? I don’t even want a baby just to hold, take cute Instagram photos of, to dress in cute clothes and admire- because that isn’t even close to what having a child is about. It’s about instilling loving and understanding values into them, it’s about having the strength and endurance to not only birth them but to stand with them through out their life and trust YOURSELF and them when you believe that they’re going the right direction. 

Watching “Enter The Void” by Gaspar Noè really changed how I feel about birth and every stage of life, and I just haven’t been able to stop my racing thoughts about having my own children since then. 

This one especially goes out to teenage parents/young parents. Why is it that despite knowing that it isn’t the right time, I still want one? I can’t make sense of this. ",6.323940886699507,6.296150206349207,6.148645320197043,81.93428571428575,65.78571428571429,9.0152162014231,30.672961138478374,8.53829466247534,2.1125667214012047,2040,67,407,26,29,639,226,504,0.049,0.8109999999999999,0.139,0.9912,4,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,2,2,6,5,38,16,2,0,23,0,41,10,2,8,2,76,67,33,1,7,14,5,1,2,0,3,7,1,0,6,38,25,0,4,12,2,1,4,15,3,0,10,6,3,48,13,60,56,9,50,0,1,1,1,28,21,0,5,25,284,86,8,0.07441560038913643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595101287455765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061237698500181986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072611859317294,0.0,0.0,0.08384089868407782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265895623608392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872183805522072,0.0,0.1560466823839283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432937064768645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830160445356463,0.0,0.0626983528463747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03762676349536008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06329787167577237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038879079812684035,0.0,0.04229210060933017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580546966281899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820060676659453,0.0,0.0,0.04987920832730426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269060351337295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628096964280257,0.07271140694593192,0.0,0.13142067700121507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06326548232379099,0.06716298473021308,0.0,0.09934598221271132,0.07544573880425369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998684491248904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641120859642109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140377557321749,0.0,0.07808665455702775,0.0,0.35298155700187944,0.0565964173913192,0.0,0.0,0.2478891532187083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816859826418792,0.0,0.0838924082893324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767253912963167,0.07651163110077534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542020645295596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840684468812047,0.0,0.0615573536314897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377135783892565,0.12442954807065792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055951270356894345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887683655361114,0.04768251195911132,0.0,0.05907767440574889,0.13017700506393445,0.0,0.0,0.07110729518231496,0.0,0.05052330789592342,0.0,0.0,0.3098770576487739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072457440586533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685940189799355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584241367861518
parenting,dvsbrooklyn,2019/03/30,"Big Kid Bed Pro Tip When switching to a big kid bed, if you have the room, save the crib mattress to use as a cozy book nook.  It has saved us many times when there was a throw up or bathroom accident and our son had a comfy secondary bed close by.  It has also given us a place to rest while he falls back to sleep after having a nightmare and doesn’t want to be alone.",5.496392405063291,3.98765506329114,5.7049050632911396,89.33811708860762,67.9873417721519,8.40632911392405,27.34493670886076,5.985473137389443,0.8425164556962019,286,6,68,1,4,91,60,79,0.064,0.8440000000000001,0.092,0.29600000000000004,0,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,8,0,8,1,1,1,0,9,11,9,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,9,7,1,14,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,6,42,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912454169223444,0.0,0.22488096065439692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162306562359983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850995381326985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29380123366098115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28140986453084793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397393503127472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6765142653840173,0.2428723703296536,0.0,0.0,0.16586304487109396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NotTobyFromHR,2019/03/30,"Entertainment ideas for kids at a party I'm hosting a party for family at a venue. (Dinner, music, etc)

We are prepping entertainment bags for the little kids. Nothing big, just a coloring book or 2, etc. 

We are stumped as what to prep for the 8-11 year olds. There's gonna be about 5 of them. 

We're obviously not giving them iPads. So we want to have something to give them/to do. 

Any suggestions will be welcome. ",1.4536412315930392,3.80192493975904,3.5030522088353417,86.37323962516736,82.73493975903614,6.5804551539491305,22.475234270415,7.793537801064563,1.184425435073628,322,11,66,6,9,109,61,83,0.025,0.787,0.189,0.9108,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,2,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,7,1,0,0,1,9,12,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,12,8,2,6,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,1,2,38,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182607363816665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5635936148634796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381972970055349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4847732794210773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852366782550745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532443852862521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424462323457264,0.0,0.26513745305275804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945197585034584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903288167143638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627129091477376
parenting,Cotton_Candy_Grapes,2019/03/30,"Parenting at 4AM My child is awake right now. 

I had to use the bathroom. 

She cried and screamed for me before coming out to find me. 

Now I’m using the bathroom with a toddler on my lap. But at least she’s not upset anymore. 

She’s rubbing my back and telling me she loves me. 

This is parenting at 4AM. ",-0.4357142857142833,1.8118882857142893,1.3749206349206349,97.67285714285715,94.71428571428572,4.06984126984127,21.285714285714285,5.82211442006289,0.06349523809523827,234,9,52,2,9,76,43,63,0.076,0.8340000000000001,0.091,0.2462,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,3,1,0,2,0,10,8,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,2,12,1,9,7,1,10,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,0,3,36,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534892435969921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19654273586436014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174991125917571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201791348645981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807676165953225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23361628111909924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306914595478525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5676332064138712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21828335027828746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234080679769186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4415174144257648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GreenAbstraction,2019/03/30,"I have an anxious kid - what now? *tl;dr my son is severely anxious and it’s effecting his quality of life. No he doesn’t have autism and no he doesn’t have OCD or a related condition and yes we’ve been told this by multiple, revered doctors and psychologists. What now?* 

Hi! Longtime lurker. 

I have four kids, three boys (12, 8, and 6) and a girl (6). 

Our family lives in a wonderful place for outdoor sports (especially skiing, snowboarding, rafting, hiking, and swimming) 

We play a lot of sports as a family, the older two play on lacrosse and hockey teams and their little sister wants to do everything they do. Every day they want to get out and ski or skate or climb or do something physical. Their brother (let’s call him Nick) always seems like he wants to do these things with us, but then gets absolutely terrified. 

When he and his sister were 2, she was ready to ride in ski lifts with us and take toddler classes and go for helicopter rides (their dad is a pilot so when he doesn’t have tours booked he’ll take the kids around and it’s one of their favorite things.) 

He was always scared of heights since before he could talk. If we took him in a high place he’d start crying and wouldn’t stop until we took him down. One of the first phrases he learned was “too high! Too high!” 

We figured he’d eventually get used to it so we started gradually introducing him to heights, but nothing even slightly above ground level would cut it. We figured he’d grow out of it so kept someone behind with him when heights were a factor. But, then he’d complain he felt left out because he wasn’t doing what his siblings were doing. 

We took him skating when he was three, same age as the other kids, and his sister took to it immediately (they were in a class for little kids) and Nick was terrified, screaming “Too slippery” and that he was going to fall. I didn’t want to tell him he wouldn’t fall, because everyone does when they’re learning. His older brothers tried to reassure him by intentionally falling and showing him you just stand right back up, but it did nothing. So I took him home and he never asked to go back and absolutely flipped the couple times we tried to take him. He couldn’t even sit with me or dad at practices while I waited for them because he was so scared watching them. 

By this point after lots of trial and error I thought maybe he was just a sedentary intellectual kid who wasn’t into sports and we just had to accept that. But now his anxiety has leached over into other aspects of life that are affecting his quality of life. 

We’re getting a dog, something three of kids have always wanted. Anticipating Nick might have some reservations about the dog, we found a retired service golden retriever. This dog couldn’t possibly be more docile and calming. Nick is terrified the dog is going to bite him. He has never been bitten by a dog and neither has anyone he knows. 

We floated the idea of maybe getting a cat instead, something that would be smaller and less intimidating to Nick, and not only did the other kids hate the idea but Nick was scared the cats we took him to meet would scratch him. His resistance to a dog has caused a lot of fighting between siblings. 

His art teacher has had three conferences with us because he refuses to use any paints or clays as he’s worried they’ll stain his clothes. I’ve told him again and again, it’s ok if he gets stuff on his clothes, I’ll wash it or I’ll buy him new clothes and I can’t tell if he doesn’t believe me or what. 

He stopped participating in gym because he’s worried he won’t win at the games. We’ve never been a “must win” household *ever* and have always emphasized sports are about having fun and being healthy, even when the kids are on travel teams, let alone in gym class. I do not know where this is coming from. His wonderfully supportive brother was on a losing streak at that point with one of his teams and brought Nick to a game. Not only did Nick barely watch because he was so scared, but when the team lost and his brother said “See, I’m ok, everything’s fine, I had fun, it’s all good.” Nick was totally out of sorts and it did not penetrate. 

We’re a pretty laid back family. My work schedule changes every week and my husband’s is also subject to change so between that and the kids activities we just play each day by ear. Some days we have dinner together at 6:00, some days I leave out leftovers for people to graze on whenever they get home, some days I’m packing lunchboxes and sending kids off to late practices or husband off to a night shift. It varies. And it works for us. But Nick *hates* not having a set schedule or when things change last minute. If we’d planned dinner for 6:00 but don’t get to it until 7:00, he has a complete melt down that’ll last the rest of the night. 

He has a different bedtime than his 12 year old brother, and that also always grinds his gears. He wants everyone to go to sleep at the same time. 

If his sister uses one of his markers and puts it back in the wrong spot in the box, he screams at her and completely loses control. 

We’ve had him tested by three different professionals (including one at a top hospital out of state) for autism, OCD, you name it, and they said he doesn’t have it, he’s just anxious. We talk to him constantly, we read books, we do CBT techniques, I’m out of ideas and I know I’d be doing him a disservice to let him go through all of life too afraid to access some of the best joys. 

Has anyone else dealt with anything similar and have any suggestions? ",3.451855899390395,5.328199941122357,4.081818898672626,87.07341872478949,73.96780128794849,7.059530717672392,26.38847720816442,7.84451677740318,1.4669601969327817,4364,157,875,62,91,1383,423,1087,0.098,0.82,0.08199999999999999,-0.9544,2,1,3,0,2,0,121.0,23,2,12,18,44,34,4,5,48,3,101,10,2,8,8,179,162,93,0,20,34,14,2,1,0,11,6,5,2,13,42,80,2,6,18,26,1,25,26,16,0,13,46,10,97,18,120,90,19,137,0,3,3,0,168,54,0,28,55,555,139,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04898031451994831,0.0,0.07563889106854083,0.196753923684972,0.0,0.0,0.06432044883461432,0.0,0.03617829859722594,0.16027970943740022,0.0,0.0661354198086892,0.04845630705507459,0.03891733813874258,0.042099962390738994,0.04421169475792723,0.0,0.0,0.14545870851067078,0.0,0.17297281519956267,0.0,0.040242062217002605,0.0532819600320972,0.049630102219220484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048290483687462686,0.0,0.0,0.048581975692902464,0.15008619521303146,0.04073792457598634,0.09916965615136984,0.051105919072695793,0.05304206975488717,0.03775886395488972,0.052327767977768544,0.051948110320596784,0.15249734065332224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988202800451322,0.0,0.0484054302111398,0.041385602851059806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03950645008367428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093707884370171,0.042778378323457385,0.07969120519633201,0.09037918532269168,0.08500611326799576,0.0,0.1337482437634959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454077966729189,0.0,0.0,0.04022660445773365,0.0,0.051853305865498814,0.0,0.0,0.19766520723686426,0.0,0.16126301480838298,0.039666338519144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338224221617243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989998258494264,0.09487558989316486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016094747146978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797144276024913,0.07709868633757452,0.05334750673462242,0.05007546606941704,0.05138296460590568,0.14507801504202406,0.13361513018977186,0.0231045130692668,0.09479814199071362,0.041759757882340716,0.0,0.0,0.1058154428619914,0.051624873085568006,0.12061806183481727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502246713389748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050169405127107686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942366288152308,0.04567496894684492,0.0,0.08876079456948152,0.0,0.09075601945940327,0.0,0.04962506452638815,0.0,0.16023162840429972,0.07193548964133051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03278636171885052,0.0,0.0988202800451322,0.0,0.08941257098142638,0.05331469504295134,0.0,0.048113029670137725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754158526846548,0.0,0.0,0.04730486070290895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04038716323097092,0.08997116299066653,0.0,0.1893904201157449,0.0,0.03768565112685319,0.04305291780661887,0.0,0.05342656981246674,0.0,0.03912048305008914,0.0,0.04732621656124506,0.0,0.040070411341113735,0.10922322127161824,0.0,0.0,0.06694713092019658,0.0,0.0,0.07907656419684565,0.0,0.0,0.05413809737804985,0.0,0.05366647242809346,0.0,0.0,0.10667323696521633,0.07602313737279674,0.08267069473687799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425623537030786,0.0,0.0,0.03754461528779099,0.05515276426167329,0.0,0.0,0.09037918532269168,0.31525933122259897,0.06421641261608196,0.0,0.046197473549208966,0.0,0.22754611451672085,0.12253547416463192,0.0,0.0,0.16736450360395433,0.0,0.037934840164166435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257244952252814,0.06885836992695553,0.09605477076764037,0.0,0.1007847736106868,0.05170644663839738,0.0,0.03045453791142094
parenting,Techscrolling,2019/03/30,How to Monitor Teen's Facebook Messenger Spy App  You need to get familiar with the Facebook monitoring apps which can help you monitor Facebook accounts of your teens and keep them safe. ,8.8,9.845332181818184,8.008636363636366,67.03295454545456,60.51515151515152,12.660606060606062,43.77272727272727,12.161744961471696,5.9747090909090925,154,9,24,5,2,48,28,33,0.0,0.843,0.157,0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638299439747134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4667690094173899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6189747721003903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5163571392148418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,supified,2019/03/30,"Vomiting without fever or many other symptoms Let me preface by saying we're going to the emergency room when she wakes up.

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She's 4, vomited twice just outside 24 hours.  What concerns me is that she seems to vomit the entire days stomach contents, at least lunch and onward and she has no other symptoms.  I know Gastroenteritis is the most common cause of vomitting, but she has no fever, complains of no pains and is perfectly active, playing and willing to eat the entire time between.  The last time she passed stool was Wed (three days ago) it was large, hard and followed by watery.  Now I gave her oral anti constipation chewables (ped chewables) which probably explains the wet stool and she has a history of constipation.

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Obviously I'm freaked out about bowel obstruction and that's why I'm taking her in, but I wonder if people who have experienced this have a notion of what symptoms do and do not make sense.  For example, I've been told with medicine you often want to look for the more common cause with the rare presentation before going to more rare causes.  Could she have gastroenteritis and just having a mild form that doesn't cause her to lose her step most of the time?

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Once again I'm taking her in as soon as she wakes up no matter what anyone says here.    Mostly I'm only posting to give myself something to do while I wait as I cannot sleep.  ",6.392256398742702,7.392209393129772,6.274023349797938,77.53099012123934,65.7557251908397,8.607453973955996,30.67894027840144,8.671277953709913,2.429900493938033,1119,40,195,16,17,352,157,262,0.11,0.838,0.052000000000000005,-0.928,2,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,0,1,0,2,9,6,0,0,12,0,21,17,5,5,2,39,41,18,0,3,8,0,2,0,0,1,10,2,1,0,12,12,2,1,4,1,0,5,8,4,0,2,5,6,23,2,31,33,7,29,0,1,1,0,24,7,0,8,16,135,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936927041295127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277095029024115,0.36751552299525136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704944446736311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578888095714764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4142723409060803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049514628339646,0.0,0.0,0.1300388248797245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316220997951198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671402480157867,0.1145946373687735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031332382458043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928563997839696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055407057959618096,0.08218030662171293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309346221560273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466191441464486,0.11278980165285613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729694577525143,0.10221385264303127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10736811563872604,0.0,0.07667680055952522,0.10727769598108527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989466065007123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965559875492909,0.0,0.10869909469718557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16034939270525878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917811224646775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008910313003152,0.0,0.0,0.07761479250988029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3143662045076287,0.15160551130099242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763637472970963,0.0,0.0,0.0963361311957871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0594651992017172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909727637105026,0.0,0.0,0.09718516790267506,0.10933306069306392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36751552299525136,0.0
parenting,Zaardo,2019/03/30,"12month old taken off milk and given tea? As the title says, my partner babysits a 1 year-old girl, and told me the parent instructed her not to give her milk but warm water and a regular teabag, given that the kid is size 3-6months clothing at 1 year makes me think she isnt getting the nutrition to grow healthy. Considering  action, start by asking why shes on tea, and if its a good medical reason, then cool beans, but i half expect some woowoo facebook influence...

 Opinions, reddit?",9.642741935483867,7.204719268817204,9.083951612903226,71.34592741935488,60.61290322580646,11.880645161290325,39.379032258064505,10.125756701596842,3.891432258064516,384,15,70,6,4,123,73,93,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.9195,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,7,1,3,6,0,3,0,15,13,9,0,2,4,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,2,4,5,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,4,3,8,3,7,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,3,4,37,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23477819946646014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120816139918148,0.2409124737358327,0.0,0.2106409082018265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676351875009277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25299303485825503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5270498388132153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27885673719070914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582095690214877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19971337630667926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775530821594346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609177674778299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399711492116287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22661112070402464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32344661816631404
parenting,magnanimis,2019/03/30,"First time parents Hey guys so my wife is getting C-section on Monday. And I love being hands on helping her out with anything at all she needs. So naturally when my wife comes back home I wanna know what to expect, what are the things she’s not gonna be able to do, what things should I prepare to help her out with? ",4.589545454545455,4.5891017424242415,4.9692424242424265,88.82386363636365,69.45454545454545,7.206060606060608,27.10606060606061,5.985473137389443,0.8275878787878792,249,7,55,1,4,79,51,66,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.8442,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,1,0,1,13,12,4,0,4,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,9,1,11,8,1,11,0,0,0,1,12,5,0,0,5,40,14,0,0.27955771212320285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300521772166009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21496262455500453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408142152626201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377916471198729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605736626531413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768060870028601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3747632832250433,0.0,0.28041917900216795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363760751713154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523117498529916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072885012764468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3104157558880932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3714514438419111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301235008260798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hellohiheyyosup,2019/03/30,"Toddler with severe separation anxiety, advice? My 3.5 year old has always had separation anxiety since he was about 10 months old. Due to travel and finances we never put him in daycare but he is surrounded by family and friends. He will be starting full time school in September and I am seeking advice on how to ease the transition for him. 

He’s a very sensitive boy and gets easily traumatized. He’s always been cautious when in a new place or learning a new skill. Very attached to us. He does often go with his grandparents on outings but that’s as far as it goes. 

Any help is greatly appreciated if anyone has had similar experiences! ",4.238295454545455,6.721389208333335,5.774545454545457,73.09227272727273,73.58333333333334,9.363636363636363,30.90909090909091,9.800150414767053,3.61825,515,24,86,15,11,174,89,120,0.073,0.7809999999999999,0.146,0.9271,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,1,1,15,14,12,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,7,2,15,8,1,23,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,3,11,52,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292675284515938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803727032902199,0.0,0.0,0.11457013015834015,0.0,0.2577688715978516,0.0,0.0,0.1178030283190486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147435348827218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16480282389642342,0.15882511159951873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301649041354165,0.0,0.08802227336415712,0.0,0.09574935566670503,0.0,0.0,0.18574647566118366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292657469586904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344767256267254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993984055235389,0.3254322525437361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535765191268139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602259549161475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936590806905796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17050770789577108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903310430269843,0.0,0.1393659066786183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924888028963253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824028741310084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026570743018168,0.0,0.0,0.2780223212926651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10849365748038386
parenting,elephantt0424,2019/03/30,"Social anxiety mom I feel like I’ve shut down over the past few years not 100% sure why but I am very drawn in and closed off to others. My daughter is 6 and I am 26. I’m very fearful of how others think of me for being a young mom. 
I get nervous to be around the other moms and am so closed off and have yet to have a full out birthday party. Everything is always family or my small misfit of young parents like myself. 
I’ve tried putting myself out there in the “adult” mom world but scramble to find what to talk about or even how to talk/connect to other moms. 
I have people who think my mom is my daughters mom or will tell their kids that so they have their kids see that I am her mom. 
I have had her pre k teacher if I bought the teacher appreciation week gifts or if my mom did. ( I did but why would you ask that or how is that appropriate)

My daughter is my best friend. The kindest sweetest kid out there. 

What should I do? I am so happy in my small bubble of husband and daughter but at times I feel like I’m holding my daughter back from social interaction outside of school. 

 “just go for it” it easier said than done. ",1.8026849037487336,3.5733917446808547,3.135136778115502,92.5166666666667,78.36170212765956,5.667679837892604,21.403242147923,6.42735559955562,0.1836220871327252,880,24,195,7,21,286,126,235,0.041,0.8109999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.9841,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,1,3,1,14,9,0,2,7,0,25,0,0,3,1,36,37,22,0,4,13,16,2,3,1,3,0,1,0,4,13,11,0,1,5,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,6,4,30,7,29,26,3,29,0,0,1,0,35,19,0,7,11,136,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06723868772272891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181786050715277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193620770841437,0.07554452490311217,0.0,0.0,0.062136325510845886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480295798594448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269458868837022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05337288880374833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262497486074597,0.0,0.07617854346051188,0.09093140960653856,0.08171785497281238,0.11545843113703028,0.0,0.0,0.0738570022667619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243202165483783,0.0,0.04221881860767928,0.0,0.045925020159055266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860215653067812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843604769002095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8517716486759865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972766540921352,0.0,0.0771403318080619,0.056022057804243006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123430897439321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686686520755563,0.0,0.0,0.08178195944884586,0.06439347384510963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647470571151975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761605364761024,0.0,0.0,0.12990073838873156,0.07062970998400675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355694285251366,0.0,0.0,0.047119765438242936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05486329362203767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333500431530618,0.0,0.0,0.06481926316483523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458332118591186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05740364912929812,0.0,0.0,0.05203767035529888
parenting,matatavish,2019/03/30,"How do I voice an issue I am having with my child's 4th grade teacher without becoming known as the problem parent? Hi,  

Two weeks ago I received a phone call from my daughter's principal and was informed that she and several of her friends were sending pictures (funny stuff, nothing bad) to each other with the school's computers.  From what I can gather they were supposed to be doing educational activities.  The principal said that she talked to them about it, sent them back to class and basically that was it.  

Today, which is now two weeks later, I learned that her teacher revoked all computer usage.  The only reason I found out was because my daughter had to take a math exam which was administer by computer.  She was forced to take the exam with the teacher standing over her so the teacher could mouse click the answer for her.  Because the teacher was also doing this for the other students who got in trouble, my daughter was being verbally rushed by the teacher because she was holding her up from clicking the mouse for the others.

 My daughter already has trouble with math and gets anxiety over it.  The teacher knows this, my daughter gets extra help for it through the school.  Now my daughter is not only experiencing a higher level of math anxiety, but starting to not like school.  She feels ashamed and embarrasses because this punishment is being carried out in font of the rest of her class.   

I am not denying that my daughter screwed, but to carry a punishment out to the point that it exploits her weakness, shames her, and negatively affects her academically is going a little to far in my opinion.  Especially when it was the first time I have received a phone call for a disciplinary issue.  If the teacher wanted to take the computer away for fun stuff, I'm fine with that, but not allowing her to even touch the mouse during a computer test is extreme in my opinion.  

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If anyone could share any thoughts, opinions, or similar experiences I would greatly appreciate it.

Thanks",10.147393341952167,8.872866063186816,9.423225597931484,65.63942146089208,58.69780219780221,11.641628959276021,43.93923723335488,10.46071229359064,4.815541564318036,1613,82,256,28,17,514,183,364,0.113,0.825,0.062,-0.9567,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,3,1,9,18,3,3,30,0,32,2,0,4,1,48,49,17,0,7,11,8,2,1,1,1,1,2,0,1,26,15,0,1,9,0,0,6,6,11,0,3,17,7,37,7,47,26,4,34,0,0,2,1,44,15,1,6,13,204,63,20,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848629767847544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260516195972332,0.08884920194635168,0.0,0.12038028845850678,0.13500256867534915,0.07555399698559957,0.0,0.16998731275568654,0.0,0.0,0.07768595212566395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438512902186324,0.0854315153537153,0.09276654483830003,0.27090995777059745,0.12270477348316057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22689761188309526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17741375535253653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338262653644792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868026459147967,0.0,0.0,0.05617712444682555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450433904015024,0.0,0.12181894206394063,0.0858380693212664,0.0,0.11609368981653427,0.0,0.06314251820624922,0.0,0.08885939155880378,0.12249168821572833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447014394043336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319257846214012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061059422086416536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427941945111885,0.11135461060950112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660653252423603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899800501994752,0.0,0.0,0.12336697353824425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502845115051354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631077319602276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423261058602327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568460109577944,0.0,0.0,0.3373271592842157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551501016235847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863942835263643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543732029373549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506073751082657,0.08930055675869332,0.0,0.10228891439467036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820354340415308,0.0647851789014795,0.0,0.10531285810820368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170633968213776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553155556746541,0.0,0.17824059696985284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709953579981778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892453716293396,0.0,0.13500256867534915,0.0
parenting,Badma1,2019/03/30,"Attention seeking infant I am a new mother that has had challenges with being a mother, but my infant wants constant attention holding patting soothing and I am so sick of it. I am told you can't spoil a child under two but the people that tell me that are parents of brats. Hopefully someone can give me a logical explanation on this ""need"" . As of now I had my husband sound proof the nursery so I don't have to contend with this obnoxious screaming and crying. Being held seems far from a need to me",3.8714285714285697,5.723301193877552,5.0813775510204096,80.45022959183675,72.77551020408163,7.348979591836735,30.617346938775512,8.07648339933343,2.3710571428571425,399,18,71,6,8,132,67,98,0.179,0.748,0.073,-0.9183,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,7,0,13,1,0,0,1,17,21,7,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,3,6,4,0,2,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,2,11,2,11,15,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,3,56,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924666975317033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972863524255589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596234403733429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688075091547137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40135363947084735,0.0,0.2613866959078678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005147237005386,0.0,0.0,0.1876283434478946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24638133739645304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293131810623021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365521011172267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25860900592878344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643768621796289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15963103211669852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_Zoned,2019/03/31,"My 3 year old is scary I have a 3 year old son, Caspien from a previous relationship and a 2 month old daughter, Avian with my husband. Caspien still sleeps in my bed at night and he says the funniest things.

But, more recently, it's been creepy. He asked me if he could hold the baby to which I replied ""No, she is sleeping and you cant wake her."" He got angry and said, ""but shes my sissie. I wanna hold her"" I said, ""Maybe in the morning. She needs to sleep too, ya know,"" And he looked me dead in the eyes and said ""Shes my sissie. She doesnt sleep"" it scares the crap out of me and my husband. We have been monitoring our son ever since because he has been saying weird things like that, being very controlling, refusing to sleep, eat, and etc. At first I believed it was his independence kicking in but he is like a little monster and I am worried for him.",2.125928030303029,3.760402312500002,3.3337272727272733,92.0597575757576,77.01136363636364,6.511515151515153,23.665151515151514,7.3011,0.7455633333333336,661,21,149,8,15,214,106,176,0.124,0.813,0.063,-0.9014,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,2,0,2,3,5,1,1,9,0,17,9,8,2,1,26,25,13,1,4,4,5,0,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,7,12,1,4,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,8,7,28,2,15,15,2,19,0,0,2,0,33,8,1,1,13,94,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163137570374568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279067007723028,0.0,0.0,0.13453314855134635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392744271243806,0.09533843819771566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218530476166335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317269446363472,0.0,0.10801235394322004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015693069468248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550235373330096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562411045757541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166744949728475,0.11967927335204598,0.0,0.0,0.10027355769630804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119962475844912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953111926487058,0.0,0.0,0.08854032371490796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120573375506282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758992447224325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790206610368804,0.1282006699979144,0.0,0.0,0.3407561535462243,0.1899177947034163,0.11954932545783135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877642929065712,0.0,0.5974766055126073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09536024975895004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586601807606861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852500089465048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212657223661057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15379107189118682
parenting,1birdofprey1,2019/03/31,"Should I allow my 17 year old to talk to strangers online? I walked into my 17 year old daughters room tonight and found her talking to some guy on her computer I have never seen. She lied when I first asked who she was talking to and said it was her girlfriend but I walked quickly into the room and saw this guy before she was able to close it. She said it was a sight called Omegle and she was just talking to someone to make her feel better. She was feeling down because the guy she's been interested in for years and has dated casually is saying he's not straight and is on a date with a guy (she was floored and found this out online...he didn't tell her...so that was even worse). She is introverted and has a hard time with boys. 

Should I be allowing her to randomly talk to people online? How would I even stop it if I decided it was not ok? Is this just how things are in this internet world (I'm 41)? She's a good trustworthy girl but sheltered in suburbia and I'm scared for her. Advice? 

And as a side note that might mean nothing...I came home on Friday to find a bouquet of flowers by my front door on the mat. No note and I have no idea who left them. I know I'm maybe being paranoid, but what if it's some random??? Ugh ",2.0046834099752395,3.630078490272375,3.1993721259285444,92.93126193845067,77.32684824902724,6.2291475061903085,22.576759816059432,6.980632752743323,0.4831416342412456,960,28,217,10,22,310,137,257,0.097,0.8140000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.3289,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,2,8,7,0,1,10,1,26,0,0,5,1,51,42,20,0,5,9,1,3,0,1,4,0,3,4,6,16,18,0,1,9,1,0,4,6,2,0,1,18,9,30,5,28,18,2,37,0,0,3,0,39,19,0,7,14,142,46,1,0.11467942893686625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120634107072725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720978547100007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990751546393735,0.0,0.0975837474862218,0.0,0.0,0.10142463556971594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171005188733558,0.13116271575531568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148936249069375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597073000355305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481492045526793,0.097546263669685,0.0,0.2514801492338407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618766406359017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.454202658086524,0.0,0.0,0.10273024299199647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503281761277658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945911644165614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302481501753811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459953508738562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07654940931571794,0.0,0.11521090032998225,0.12491951753885397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165675146213445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844784535865127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406735390257652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795042765381059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181727964878848,0.09119768478583523,0.11481411435393435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716750798939372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587713759612784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4608749049994583,0.10023487559126032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618791685988556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687049724062473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686813542437435,0.0814649760031925,0.0,0.0,0.2215493769677164
parenting,fairlysocial,2019/03/31,"What is the reasoning behind this behavior? Backstory: I have a 17 year old niece who got pregnant at 16, shes a single mom, hooked up with a guy when she was with her boyfriend at that time and ended up accidentally pregnant.

Now to the actual questioning.

Im no one to judge I just want to understand why is she this way, and whats the psychological aspect of it, and how should one understand it? Or if you parents have had a similar situation.

My niece talks to any guy on facebook, instagram , she flirts and texts them and meets up with them, my sister allows it.  I can’t fully understand why she still does this, I understand shes young or whatever, but she has a son now. Wouldn’t it be logical to not even think about dating at the moment ? Wouldn’t one be scared to make the same mistake and disappoint your parents one more time. Why is she still so wrapped around the idea to keep talking to guys, and keep posting revealing pictures to get attention? I don’t understand it. 
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parenting,Tragicgirl416,2019/03/31,"Potty training advice (going #2) If discussing poop issues is not for you, move on now. My son is 3, and we finally thought he was ready to start potty training 3 weeks ago. He is a very difficult child in a number of areas, so my expectations were low. As far as peeing on the potty, he’s doing great! He tells us when he has to go, will go on his own, and even wakes up dry! However he. Will. Not. Poop. On.the. Potty! We’ve ditched diapers/pull-ups completely because I feel they send mixed signals. He has no problem, however, with just pooping in his pants and saying “sorry mommy, I gross,” after the fact. What do I do? Nothing I’ve read has helped.",0.747884615384617,3.1724961538461582,2.82798076923077,89.25889423076927,87.46153846153845,5.403846153846153,21.201923076923077,6.9077264865688965,0.7061153846153845,500,17,100,7,16,168,93,130,0.113,0.8270000000000001,0.059,-0.7326,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,2,1,1,0,5,5,0,0,4,0,13,5,5,0,1,14,19,8,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,1,0,5,3,4,0,0,3,2,11,1,14,14,1,21,0,1,0,0,20,9,0,1,7,56,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181798287135534,0.1921470377363291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213651824143816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272715466402797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431697062704335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096017243560347,0.0,0.0,0.2374529214400335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36957368023373227,0.0,0.0,0.2389816207206069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529145571769872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262439219472036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23038442529616254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20798963826163264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20741261099856506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682133976834608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17237838391634544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24264807443111164,0.15342574107687068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18946013714112453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720853558561559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607388156073939,0.0,0.0,0.17885191280889312,0.0,0.0,0.17387394754101546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lonelyislanddweller,2019/03/31,"Traing a 3.5 month old to go sleep without sleep props. So my daughter is now 3.5 months and we have started gentle sleep training to get rid of her sleep props. Her sleep props are being held and rocked to sleep, as well as a pacifier. Also, she is swaddled but we aren't 'getting rid' of swaddling yet.

So we started last night and she cried for about 30 minutes and then fell asleep for the night. She was put to bed around 7:00 and fell asleep around 7:30pm. She then slept through the night pretty much like she normally does and got 11 hours of sleep. She only fed once knstead of twice, which I thought woukd happen because I was pretty sure her 2nd feed of the night was ready to drop off. (She isn13 lbs and gaining weight well) i am not trying to get rid of all night feedings yet, she isn't ready for that yet.

 Since we are wanting to get rid of the sleep props, we are also doing this for naps. I am using the sleep sense program where she has a bedtime routine and then I put her to bed awake and check on her in regular intervals. I chose not to stay in the room because she cries harder and longer if she knows I am around. 

Anyways, I have post partum anxiety and just constantly question if I am doing the right thing, etc. During her naps today she slept between 20 to 40 minutes with crying for 15 to 20 minutes beforehand. So, it seems like she barely sleeps long enough to make it worth it. Today she had a grand total of about 3 hours of sleep. That is at least 2 hours less than what she normally sleeps during the day. (The sleep sense book said this is normal and her naps will get longer as she gets used to self soothing)

I am just looking for encouragement. It is very hard to see your baby crying and know that if you give in now, then any progress will essentially be lost. I know it will get easier, but it would be nice to hear some encouragement!",4.928286416443253,5.499587292225203,4.707174932975871,88.99586516979447,68.83914209115281,7.503529937444147,25.99743074173369,7.1686216300943375,0.9757382484361026,1472,39,311,12,24,450,187,373,0.061,0.8009999999999999,0.138,0.9861,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,5,2,0,3,21,10,0,0,13,0,31,21,17,3,3,51,62,30,0,8,10,1,2,2,0,4,0,2,3,1,14,22,4,1,6,5,2,5,5,1,2,1,12,6,42,9,49,43,8,48,0,1,2,0,38,12,0,6,30,198,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09071681812405727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03857107353213344,0.0,0.04339011436469088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147662441677825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915112580839694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0612934206211383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24921398022991675,0.036579260539168865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049635447502687516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05860620582960738,0.06325702002280853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074344771705852,0.05441032728926457,0.032234889084709964,0.0,0.0453636109614229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05015669558111866,0.0,0.05080935798048335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392678086504279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757127554453166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093514342844375,0.04623380517141427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055420376484639385,0.0,0.0,0.05019480156169133,0.04762993249104591,0.0,0.061915823410700864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03786057764333214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905456189207511,0.0,0.04169521661885052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26613613525249824,0.16671863369987114,0.0,0.0,0.05951737114913001,0.0604042104991512,0.0,0.04313758860203419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05432141713752064,0.11540785171025787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403713838746375,0.06353860430775449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048437977997993424,0.05395304924577909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045197943952714884,0.051635126575744164,0.059170606891196235,0.0,0.0,0.04691879660906646,0.0,0.7378834929394409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029243440535916,0.06045523417986096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053457275303015805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03768178706462142,0.0,0.0,0.04502879389802164,0.0,0.0,0.10752654144147723,0.0,0.0,0.038508686084475316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797453987407216,0.0,0.04679936813955511,0.0334545166280158,0.0,0.0,0.06906883526933483,0.10199493684527056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054675387608937184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04029176811097555,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Respiratoryliving,2019/03/31,"First day I feel like I’m kind of getting the hang of this. My LO is a week old. FTM.My baby had jaundice that kept getting worse. On top of a terrible delivery experience. Yesterday was the first day his bilirubin was lowering and we were able to relax a bit. He was poked everyday this week. Today was the first day we didn’t have lab draws or doctor appointments. My husband and I were able to enjoy a day with our little guy for the first time. He’s going back to work this week and I’ll be alone with the baby (thankful for maternity leave and saving up). I know this isn’t gonna be easy but I’m feeling more secure in my mom ability. 
Sorry I’m all over the place, just needed to get this out there to people who understand. ",2.3628307692307686,4.135194893333335,4.09266666666667,86.27146153846157,76.73333333333333,7.282051282051282,22.871794871794872,8.139509932561175,1.219964102564103,574,17,119,10,13,193,97,150,0.065,0.8170000000000001,0.117,0.8289,1,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,6,3,8,0,0,10,0,13,1,0,0,1,20,28,6,0,1,3,2,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,9,0,2,4,1,0,2,2,1,0,4,9,2,10,7,17,16,3,27,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,1,18,72,17,2,0.2759936398847336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429230877969163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10611103650033582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065678651405187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3559861306830012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412455926369486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349873694173111,0.0,0.0,0.13955067700673246,0.09858495573989524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695200981890762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21629292843355613,0.0,0.07842677291121057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663854757206814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370245244718968,0.07583944331170511,0.0,0.0,0.14611870715113462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741827573522294,0.1383090666476349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162020768141958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232289343590856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448044489657984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956696195279898,0.0,0.1441773057138506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447614195942708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12704893134545772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046705544942341,0.0,0.1308048497607307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365955627924654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33207817535371364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046332845223624,0.0,0.14063054891942353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MaleficentZorro,2019/03/31,"My 1st grader has been writing about how he wants a mom. How concerned should I be? My son is 6 and in first grade. They do free writing during the day and one of the main topics my son focuses on is wanting a mom. 

The teacher emailed me after they made stories. The goal was to write a page every day and have them connected to each other. The prompt was ""If you could have one wish, what would that wish be?"" My son wrote about how he would wish for a mom. 

It's just me and my son and has been since he was a year old. His mother left and my son knows that. We have talked about why she isn't around anymore but I haven't gone into specific details because I don't know them. We weren't together when she left. She pretty much dropped my son off at his grandmother's house and never came back. I know that she is still alive and tried to get in contact with her when my son was around 3, but she told me to never speak to her again and I haven't since. It's hard to answer my son's questions when I don't know the answers myself. 

His teacher wants him to meet with the school counselor twice a week. I am okay with this but should I be looking deeper? Into therapy outside of school? He is a great kid but probably has some attachment and abandonment issues. He still sleeps in my bed at night and doesn't like for me to leave him overnight, so we haven't spend a night apart since his mom left. I have just accommodated those because I didn't think they were a big deal but with how much he has been writing about his mom, I feel like shit. Like I missed all the signs that he isn't okay. ",2.6313021316033343,3.949271500000002,3.1803614457831344,95.00435125115852,74.96385542168673,6.312511584800742,22.10658016682113,6.67199483983844,0.21727442075996306,1246,31,288,10,26,388,157,332,0.057,0.84,0.103,0.9228,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,1,5,2,20,10,1,0,17,2,40,2,2,5,3,68,60,25,0,12,8,14,2,3,0,4,0,1,1,1,10,24,0,1,9,0,2,2,12,3,0,4,15,4,50,8,32,37,7,37,0,2,1,0,58,16,1,3,21,192,60,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891308309952131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596228641096905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893870666282773,0.0,0.10930499145110892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025407599540195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158175052590415,0.0,0.0,0.11563935406055904,0.0924297592060706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553770654074139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045331963121176835,0.0640491278689845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625999469257931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04684072847432708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988443026859105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031274075105056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344915102207854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935759102911992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708687459371846,0.0,0.0,0.09493107430169924,0.2922293338667831,0.0,0.0,0.1314018471945506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752871237147449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483316976804071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5250108026274637,0.0,0.0,0.1318126131078022,0.0,0.13829401483712622,0.0,0.0,0.16826917941557576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940772209938218,0.0,0.12150429593960975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121076553065173,0.09666261679445523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043345671504836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18147009712607334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09202896270794672,0.22248916133889984,0.0,0.08971915657391635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1431962540476487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206081809184517,0.0,0.0,0.10252763041578616,0.0,0.0,0.0574469253493476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856686300762709,0.0,0.06086945879839738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864148029165773,0.0,0.07191535921513778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089915948038269,0.0,0.3092944381096117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273758400151878,0.0,0.0,0.057734500109999164
parenting,drd1170,2019/03/31,"Saving for college Hubby and I are expecting in August and are totally clueless about this- but from what I understand your two main options are opening either a 529 or Roth IRA. We are leaning towards a Roth in the event our child does not go to college in the U.S. (husband is French, and he’d like our child to go to France where tuition is free, plus we may move to Europe in a few years).

I have to say, one of the scariest and overwhelming thing about raising a child is the cost of school. Especially for my husband- he nearly fainted when he found out how much college in the U.S. is!

Are there any other plans? Who is best to get in contact with? I’d like to speak to someone about our options that also won’t take advantage of us.  

P.S. not sure if it matters, but we also won’t be contributing to college right away- we have a few debts (car, student loan myself, husband dental implant bills) that id like to have paid off completely before we dive into this.  ",4.7455528846153845,5.654046135416671,5.165833333333335,84.33173076923079,69.41666666666666,7.574358974358977,30.39423076923077,7.61054688173877,1.8895716346153857,766,30,149,8,13,244,120,192,0.022,0.856,0.122,0.9681,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,9,1,0,3,9,9,0,1,10,0,18,1,0,1,2,32,25,13,0,2,7,3,0,3,0,3,1,2,0,3,9,14,0,0,2,0,8,4,4,1,0,2,2,2,16,9,33,18,7,23,0,1,0,0,23,15,0,5,7,110,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296737259501695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401710265878942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19365978345650126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539588964856725,0.0,0.21631386297125724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611653464745811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038003598227592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260037436564516,0.0,0.0,0.10769100465367676,0.0,0.2342894340851798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021045444561346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907662603519465,0.15152446592910884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396745965068193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760283155241758,0.0,0.16391765502918065,0.0,0.20860795413139546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17464774563141586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19426892932012588,0.0,0.15497919563460638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693927321245253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20135267742954133,0.21458179963427731,0.2479411528198997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327367554377674
parenting,RabidZombieBunnies,2019/03/31,"Looking for some info about tubes and speech delays. So my little guy might need them. I have horrible anxiety and I just want to know what the process is like for finding out, did your little have speech delays? My little guy has speech delays and the preschool thinks it might be connected to his ear issues, this same up in conversation when I informed them that he will be going to see an allergist because he has one ear infection for every month of this year. I was told by the women who runs his school when her son got tubes he caught up and excelled his peers. I am not looking for information on the conditions, just on recovery, and adjustments. How did your little handle it? Did you need to use ear plugs? My son is gates to be messed with, he will not let the doctors check his ears or nose or mouth. We have to hold him, restrain him just so they can. I was told this is normal but that my son is mostly to only muscle and is very strong for his age. Anyways, just looking for how you as parents handled it. I am almost certain he will have to get the tubes.",4.343364779874214,5.458749500000002,4.6720000000000015,86.73966666666666,70.50943396226415,7.540125786163522,25.92578616352201,7.793537801064563,1.2927159748427672,842,25,171,10,15,265,119,212,0.025,0.917,0.059,0.8095,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,4,3,2,12,5,0,0,7,0,28,8,6,3,1,44,44,16,0,4,9,4,0,1,0,5,2,7,1,3,10,9,0,5,7,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,9,12,27,4,25,26,3,21,0,0,4,0,34,10,0,7,9,123,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717930693386482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479973301867417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351003020814897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402187598498756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542302087628238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252096733147318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715735045203752,0.0,0.0778566228604649,0.0,0.109566300691496,0.0,0.0,0.2712904145262757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298573178459914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528810273185432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008524292929878,0.0,0.06692815569196754,0.5492143277326441,0.0,0.0,0.3451203769691641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29065713241858965,0.0,0.0,0.10934698868444584,0.0,0.0,0.20315804484905212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422464661061673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283041231356083,0.10418980993148604,0.0,0.0,0.15211518648702602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864484221338247,0.109166166731565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777997066007961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26180652102278873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11831848995753805,0.0,0.11303407143031538,0.08080237773555889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821939024431433
parenting,charleybrown72,2019/03/31,"What April fools pranks will you be doing tomorrow? The mustard in the tooth paste is a good one. Also, freezing their cereal tonight is also a good one. Maybe our elf on the shelf will make an appearance? (My birthday is the next day)",2.328666666666667,4.95377786666667,2.8666666666666667,90.54000000000002,81.44444444444446,6.2666666666666675,22.333333333333336,7.554174236665415,1.0331333333333332,184,6,36,3,5,57,35,45,0.092,0.784,0.124,0.3736,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,7,0,7,1,1,1,0,2,9,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,4,2,2,6,0,9,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,6,25,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795864260699768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338108625318184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5030067801612764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001549381513784,0.0,0.3012437435644233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31889823392792105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4063777928217218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28624466478287425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anon404040,2019/03/31,"Child with cancer and coping with alcohol Burner account.

My third child was born on the first of March via unplanned c section (two weeks early). Within 6 hours, they were diagnosed with lukemia and sent off to the regions best pediatric oncology center. So far everything is going “as planned” and they are responding to treatment very well.

I understand everything that is going on and am dealing with it as best as I can. It has been long enough where things are starting to “normalize”. I go to the hospital on certain days, my wife on others, things are becoming organized and we are handling everything in stride. 

I am finding that my inability to deal with the general anxiety of our situation is leading me to drink more than I typically do. It is still restrained to the weekends, and does not interfere with my work week, but I don’t necessarily like that I am drinking to get some “peace”. I feel like this is leading down a road to alcohol abuse, but quite frankly i am pretty ignorant on the subject. 

Any opinions/thoughts would be helpful. 

If someone knows a better subreddit for this, please let me know (or repost it there for me, I’m clearly not caring about karma here). 

Thanks everyone!",7.541447552447558,8.054935172727273,7.529999999999998,71.21807692307692,63.18181818181818,11.132867132867133,38.74125874125874,10.891193690592663,4.487356643356644,958,48,162,24,13,308,145,220,0.07200000000000001,0.752,0.175,0.9783,0,0,4,0,1,0,26.0,2,0,2,9,7,10,0,0,8,0,23,7,0,2,2,35,36,14,0,3,6,1,1,2,0,1,5,0,0,2,12,13,4,3,5,3,1,6,3,1,1,3,4,1,20,9,33,29,6,32,1,0,0,0,12,14,0,3,14,123,32,3,0.0,0.14955481582249824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697901667472108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583665765956823,0.0,0.09656102492010356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13940450611337482,0.0,0.0,0.2649286297584431,0.11163488255096037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869379426328087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140404652530601,0.2602628311048325,0.0,0.12811471681790726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045948491732324,0.0,0.0,0.2473029587047331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304231478631585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061245421408873,0.34032601337952945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382265388765862,0.09017446054258743,0.0,0.0,0.115366461697259,0.10736608149373304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594683740634713,0.0,0.2152080473015569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460529563369226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12430522751296233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873883367207598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907260585315095,0.0,0.12333335445572315,0.0,0.0,0.11170428000536246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367273344055535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385560625821255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284152001917548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342547756934729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14188107987469,0.0,0.0,0.10694919711798627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893420065034542,0.0,0.10080266031786916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621011299955016,0.0,0.0,0.1677152518750623,0.0,0.0,0.10020776744592597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233025202288822,0.13140364969526638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414803047502584,0.0,0.0,0.202498580003046,0.0,0.11349054712857665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189258522765764,0.0,0.0,0.08966591772353033,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ashmac2004,2019/03/31,"Need advice 22 month old boy who only says a couple words. Babbles a lot. I have a older daughter who I compare him to (even though I shouldn’t) I remember by now she was saying so much more. He says momma, dadda, ball, a couple other things. But he will not say things when I ask him to repeat. Like say apple.  He refuses to repeat me.  I am wondering if other parents have had this happen and if their child ended up talking more after 2? ",1.4547815230961303,3.6035102584269687,3.6464419475655454,86.53260923845195,81.24719101123596,5.303870162297129,18.87765293383271,6.42735559955562,0.20830986267166016,339,8,65,3,9,116,66,89,0.0,0.969,0.031,0.3612,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,12,11,7,0,4,4,3,0,1,0,2,0,5,0,2,7,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,11,1,6,7,4,10,0,0,0,0,22,1,0,4,10,49,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291842392309255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586219594630532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368948572120565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476658574151926,0.0,0.0,0.11011804844387184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743136567267434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145175530961403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174074748997664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330755953766337,0.0,0.12255956372152252,0.12362195840554566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749462800150432,0.0,0.0,0.12679929420665487,0.0,0.0,0.18512461340847247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886307928296486,0.0,0.0,0.6629185644525033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400451168553273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22152485380298434,0.0,0.16380313150698006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18080246995401894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tlelepale,2019/03/31,"Bluey! Not sure if it’s outside Australian shores (possibly the UK?), but is anyone else excited about new episodes of [Bluey](http://www.abc.net.au/abcforkids/video/show.htm?show=BLUEY)? I feel like I’m more excited than my own toddler.
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parenting,AudgieD,2019/03/31,"So frustrated with our toddler eating with her fingers and inadvertently hurting us. Advice? Our little girl will be 3 in May.

She eats with utensils perfectly fine at school and has for about a year.  But at home, she will hold a utensil in one hand and grab her food and shove it in her mouth with the other.  She inevitably will put that hand in her hair, and since she has moderate eczema, she can’t have a bath every night.  She makes a massive mess.  We are SO tired of telling her 15 times every meal to use her fork/spoon.  What else can we do?!

It’s also become more than a minor aggravation that she climbs on my like a jungle gym, with no awareness of the effect her body has on another’s.  Her bony little knees and elbows leave me all bruised up, all the time.  I try to remind her in the moment that she’s hurting me and that we have to be careful with people’s bodies.  It doesn’t help that I’m 7 months pregnant.  She does the same with my husband,  but not as much as with me.  What practical ways can we help to foster an understanding of her body and the effect her actions have on others.",3.7958783783783794,4.897552225225226,4.438367117117117,87.9545777027027,71.7927927927928,6.9914414414414425,24.23536036036036,7.1686216300943375,0.8198549549549541,862,23,181,8,16,275,129,222,0.059,0.863,0.079,0.6534,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,7,0,0,4,4,8,1,0,13,0,18,15,10,4,3,34,23,15,0,0,3,1,5,1,0,4,1,0,2,1,12,20,4,1,3,2,0,3,4,4,0,1,0,5,33,4,31,17,5,23,0,2,0,0,32,13,0,1,7,128,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401697529961856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967519040222908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380899318432994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146640712827053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4570131314486137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982895661142333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12001693331246725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28066812785815043,0.1145674499938626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23110196301981376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583685818814853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18385144800467867,0.0,0.13756809809159715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29363414461766946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521726054040165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700235379512448,0.27491159972685825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915456725144918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946821328808873,0.0,0.10081770758936966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870174201575355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293332625818893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950794072550026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13786908672730094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879854709585482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134481578598974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987119400964752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994126397561856,0.15762855376355828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311277811086452,0.0,0.0,0.14277328084859012,0.164969125554039,0.11844966057523215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10885969802589528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831719230310578
parenting,problmatiq,2019/03/31,"Wild toddler not adjusting well to new baby, help! I had a baby on the 26th after 36 hours of labor and basically no sleep. I have not been able to sleep with the new infant either (I am struggling with breast milk supply). 

I love my 2.5 year old and I find myself disciplining her constantly. Mostly she has no body awareness and I’m constantly concerned she’s going to hurt the baby. She is also still going through the “terrible twos” and tests everything to the extreme limit. She is like a lawyer with rules. 

Because I am so sleep deprived I feel like my parenting is becoming me taking things away or being unusually stern. She does not like this and has been tantruming constantly and today refused to nap, making her tired and more cranky.

I don’t know how to help her transition. The baby got her a gift while I was still pregnant at Christmas and one when she went to stay with my mom while I gave birth and another when she got home. We talked about the new baby all through pregnancy and how some things are just for baby and some things are for her. 

How do I help her adjust in a positive way?
How do I handle tantrums positively?
How can I help her body awareness? (I plan to have her do dance because she loves it and jui-jitsu when she’s 3)

How did everyone adjust from one kid to two?

She’s struggling with change and I don’t want her to hate me. She’s been withdrawing from me because I’m breastfeeding and pumping a lot and because I tore during birth I have to rest a lot and can’t play like I used to.

This is way harder than I expected and I expected it to be hard, help!
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parenting,evadantic,2019/03/31,"April Fools Prank Ideas Any good ideas and/or stories about cool April fools day tricks with the kids?  I need ideas!  

I'd love to start out this by sharing some of my own but I always forget and this year my son has really gotten into harmless pranks.  I don't want to disappoint. 😉",0.8258928571428577,3.386848375000003,1.2578571428571443,98.51214285714286,92.03571428571428,4.228571428571429,14.142857142857142,5.985473137389443,-0.8315642857142858,223,4,47,2,8,67,46,56,0.147,0.626,0.227,0.722,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,12,7,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,5,5,8,6,2,7,0,1,0,1,4,2,0,1,5,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20311631803154545,0.0,0.0,0.16600091750064974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15742861826074456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20474510695658307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8267002084018269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22031581500243425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18100201487232487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15638099399200006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17277996901675982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439804482020647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571967026645986
parenting,maddsskills,2019/03/31,"Wanting feedback from other parents with children who have speech delays My 2.5 year old understands things really well, even his speech therapist says he's really bright and clearly understands things but he just doesn't say many words and only strings two words together occasionally. Unfortunately we just got him into speech therapy a few weeks ago (first time parents and he was so smart we just tried to pretend it wasn't a problem.  My husband's sister didn't talk for a long time and she's fine so we let it go for longer than we should have.) 

I just wanted feedback from other parents...his speech therapist is so nice and reassuring but I still have a nagging feeling of worry.  I'd also like to add that it probably isn't autism or anything like that.  Speech delay is literally the only symptom in common with that, his doctor and speech therapist don't think that's the issue and my brother is autistic so I have some experience in that area.  He's very warm and snuggly and reads social cues really well for his age.  He did have asymmetric crying facies (a pinched nerve basically) when he was born but that seems to have improved and the speech therapist is still unsure how big of an issue that is.  He can pronounce all sorts of different sounds, he just has trouble stringing them together sometimes.  
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parenting,Throwawaythway81737,2019/03/31,"When does it get good? My LO is three and tbh, it’s been 3 years of misery.  Loss of freedom, loss of sleep, ugly whining noises, fighting every step of every single day from eating to brushing teeth to getting dressed and so on. I figure there are billions of people on earth and people go on to have 2,3,4 kids and so I figure there must be something good about it so when does it happen?? ",2.5587362637362645,4.535652346153847,3.4300732600732613,90.31730769230772,76.8205128205128,4.457142857142856,21.399267399267398,3.1291,-0.15511941391941386,305,8,59,0,7,97,53,78,0.181,0.71,0.109,-0.6747,0,0,1,0,2,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,8,6,1,0,0,0,6,3,2,0,1,7,10,9,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,2,1,1,3,2,13,7,1,9,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,40,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15970007338734013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4334032176678209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533860563530364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4172758444067512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25875162778751143,0.0,0.1407331388492283,0.4153985338613424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897730700690451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433492249879598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24780760849980546,0.0,0.0,0.1906367282422849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946481160245402
parenting,scootanastoot,2019/03/31,Does she know what she’s doing? So my stepsister is pretty young and I’ve noticed recently that she always walks around in very tight spandex short shorts (like the cheerleading ones) and frequently bends over in my sight so I was wondering at what age do girls start to get ideas like this or is she just entirely ignorant to what she’s doing? And what should I do about it as her stepbrother because I don’t wanna seem creepy. Thanks for the help.,5.363793103448277,6.556696356321844,5.120172413793107,84.17956896551726,68.19540229885058,9.47816091954023,27.143678160919546,9.725611199111238,2.2999747126436785,361,11,71,8,6,111,64,87,0.027000000000000003,0.82,0.154,0.8877,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,15,7,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,4,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,2,11,3,11,13,0,14,0,0,1,0,8,8,0,3,7,48,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250087049737113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24072856692172964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484376531005962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23664384241157985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128178318421825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812548941551752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052680111191311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14861417612274316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642242892745415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078716813390031,0.0,0.0,0.1832416377159861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27511142587867776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670042808198726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461775882171863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19140262806369504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24896375071711546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231224428545495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932558294237495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CarnivorousSpider,2019/03/31,"How can I help my 7 y.o. over fear of jumping in the pool? My child is currently in swim lessons and one of the things they do is practice jumping in the pool. He is afraid to jump in to the point of meltdowns. He won't let the instructor hold his hand and guide him in. Just standing on the edge of the pool is a trigger at this point. 

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When we go to the lesson, he says he'll try. We talk about methods to overcome his fear. He says he's afraid to swim up, he's afraid he'll forget to spread his arms and legs out, he needs goggles to try (but won't try when goggles are provided), and various other excuses he gives for not trying to jump in. I've worked with him individually, the instructor also has, and he will do it if you spend an hour working in incremental steps. However, there's not time to do this in class with several other kids needing attention too. 

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Do we just need to do individual lessons until he overcomes this fear? Should we let it go for now? He's wearing floats around his waist during the jump in so drowning is not a concern. ",3.6703283410138248,4.8867432995391695,4.544536290322583,86.63680443548388,72.2258064516129,7.636981566820276,28.309043778801843,8.07648339933343,1.6779495391705068,844,32,179,12,16,273,118,217,0.056,0.917,0.027000000000000003,-0.7303,2,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,4,1,1,5,12,6,0,6,13,0,19,5,5,2,0,32,27,13,1,5,7,0,1,0,0,6,0,2,0,2,8,13,1,1,4,5,1,10,5,6,0,1,0,3,15,0,35,19,1,35,0,0,0,0,33,17,0,1,7,112,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10250837735903386,0.0,0.2777737507050431,0.3115142049912318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411057911043115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4327265562116739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229653878373268,0.14569938596846652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591876403838616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12623502384135604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26215282821375163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28513954209884995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686052371887215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423498662480396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20387348478087652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448109802237152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302912091567573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515948702479062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474488707411595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481129965867831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663837264362146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115142049912318,0.0
parenting,interstellarenergy,2019/03/31,"What did you find important to consider and useful to know during your first pregnancy? I am about to become pregnant with my first child and I have hitherto never been pregnant

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In your experience what did you find particularly important to know during your first pregnancy?",9.7275,11.259258416666668,9.0875,58.4075,58.58333333333334,13.06666666666667,38.91666666666667,12.45797560212912,5.817491666666667,236,11,32,8,3,75,30,48,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.7059,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,8,0,7,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505203166437655,0.28095036725159284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553577425368816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261716984319264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4226508890540553,0.5900116350537415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254138380145964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832652218489914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969469469977064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28095036725159284,0.0
parenting,GatorStrips,2019/03/31,"Child with mental illness and guilt I don't even know what I want out of this post...maybe just to scream into the darkness?

Last night, my 9-year-old--who deals with anxiety, and some significant oppositional behavior--had a major meltdown that ended up with her outside at night, refusing to come into the house, and hiding in the bushes like a feral cat. To make a very long story short, we ended up calling out local PD to help, and after a several-hour stand-off (the term is completely applicable here) we eventually had to call an ambulance so we could take her to a hospital for a psych eval.

Now, I've fought with her before. We've gotten into shouting matches. I've locked myself away from her to avoid physical assault, I've taken privileges away, and in the heat of the moment, I've said things I wish I could take back. But none of that...*none* of it...compares to how fucking horrible I felt having to physically carry her, literally kicking and screaming, into an ambulance and help the EMTs strap her onto a stretcher.

I have been telling myself since last night that there was nothing else to be done. It was either me or a stranger, and today, I know she is better for having gone. But the look in her eyes when she went from fury to fear, from opposition to confusion... I don't even know how to characterize it. Betrayal? Profound loss? A completely undefinable feeling when you feel trapped and frightened, and the person who put you there is your own father?

I feel like last night was a long time coming, and was probably inevitable to some extent. But if there were ever a memory I could completely excise from my mind, it's this one.",5.705064658451242,6.785497047923325,6.2829210406207245,76.56417465388714,67.33865814696486,9.28458846797505,29.601247527765107,9.48565724429506,2.6649995131598967,1308,46,236,26,21,426,181,313,0.158,0.769,0.073,-0.981,0,2,0,0,0,0,57.0,3,3,0,2,15,14,3,4,22,0,20,3,1,3,1,55,42,21,0,6,7,1,4,2,0,0,1,4,0,2,10,26,0,2,7,0,0,5,3,10,0,1,15,10,30,4,44,23,8,43,0,1,2,1,28,17,1,5,23,163,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858254216233204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930226125586336,0.07898737321560095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740940490521783,0.0,0.0,0.09084983172150883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20978261098770515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697292574415402,0.3231082163024882,0.0,0.0,0.246047019936233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590253632615164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10512093024391636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581158870811152,0.0,0.18196354731935308,0.0,0.0,0.13569467627436627,0.09291851326853284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11559153407548454,0.15581896715124924,0.07338507802104037,0.09862984813834932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496542993290673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770564711367314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116111329719264,0.11852814037522327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693610375761273,0.2511979973367552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037019112584948,0.0,0.0,0.1818126164360296,0.08626115033272302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856816310602941,0.0,0.103198703635152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352026540638908,0.0,0.10372058838567294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3855929743558037,0.0,0.09856514819910348,0.0,0.10779013598368499,0.0,0.06960752264776475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969345130453582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983798986250322,0.0,0.11075238510178158,0.0,0.0,0.10326463028058913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771275852162686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497323334409503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446928990471853,0.0,0.08978411930139979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824436082075136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059898400298106114,0.0,0.09736905629442937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847569400045136,0.06058847739707311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522492092987292,0.0,0.0,0.11812597208493188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661500154029377
parenting,vaxxmom12,2019/03/31,Does any one know how to block my son from certain sub red its? Hi I am an anti-vaxx mom and don't want my 15 year old son to go to some sub red it's like vaxxhapened and anti-vaxx please help I don't want my son to be brainwashed into wanting vaccines!,0.6310526315789461,2.028566140350879,2.105122807017544,100.27452631578949,80.57894736842105,4.5600000000000005,20.171929824561406,3.1291,-0.6996217543859653,198,5,50,0,5,64,41,57,0.092,0.738,0.17,0.6755,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,11,9,3,0,3,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,2,5,2,6,8,1,4,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,1,3,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267817916785475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736863569083381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777409049945795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096272235423645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17187716373040685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527920236616001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36628463613095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32817458695592183,0.0,0.2119249575620976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433014740567429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5533975357563952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139833560719103
parenting,streberzh,2019/03/31,"Love child from a previous relationship, how do I act further? So we splitted before the kid was born. Now the mother is questioning me whether I would like to be in contact with the kid early in its infancy. Basically trying to seal a ""from now on or never"" deal with me, to not ""traumatize the kid later"" if I suddenly decide to get to know the kid at a later stage in our lives. I could not handle the mother, but I wish nothing but the best to the kid, as to all other human beings, may be a tad more. But I do not know what would be a better course of action here: eradicate myself from kid's life completely, leaving a void, allowing the mother to bend the story, or do skype-parenting playing a mentor? we are in different countries, physical contact won't happen. 

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This all is next-level stuff for me, please pour in your thoughts gently. Thanks.

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parenting,HabitsIsTheAnswer,2019/03/31,"Habit stickers for young parents and children I am a young father who wants to help my daughter build good habits. For doing so, I decided to put habit stickers in the house where they will remind me of certain habits. Right now we have 6 final designs from world class designers. Please help me choose the right ones, so I could share those stickers with you as well.

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parenting,ZeroWayOut,2019/03/31,"Does anyone else hate Mother’s Day because their partners don’t put in the effort? I hate Mother’s Day because I know my husband doesn’t give a monkeys about it.  It’s not about him so he’s not interested.  I’ve been talking to the kids about daddy taking them shopping to get me a present for the past two weeks.  (And I mean like a key ring or mug, nothing expensive). He has an opportunity to do this everyday when he picks them up from school ( I work FT and he works PT).   But no!  He’s obviously grabbed something last minute, my Mother’s Day present was face wipes!  Which I’d bought myself a few days earlier and purposefully told my husband I’d bought them.  When it’s Father’s Day he gets his favourite football shirt with ‘daddy’ on the back or ‘worlds best dad’ stuff.  I’ve been a mother 6 yrs now and I hate Mother’s day!  My husband has ruined it!  And I don’t think he cares, which hurts more than anything. ",1.6716723259762318,3.9059408870967793,2.8827334465195267,91.83094227504243,80.98924731182795,5.421165817770232,22.692699490662136,6.5966054737557815,0.4737354838709673,719,24,153,7,19,231,111,186,0.127,0.805,0.068,-0.8931,0,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,4,5,8,10,3,0,10,0,9,2,2,1,1,16,23,11,0,0,5,10,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,8,6,0,0,3,1,4,1,6,5,0,1,6,2,18,5,13,17,3,21,0,2,0,0,28,4,0,2,17,78,26,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966926037007408,0.14605197331218722,0.11730060288665242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960663690940968,0.0,0.17378557113006926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958990491297888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533191421619934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5515699948482818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12474019029642007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907624298983364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894548989925094,0.13674007028517005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4221945989142493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525950466580108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833781103864265,0.11619143062823314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963922616612701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527092871710912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677368889192898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607325940253406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14329491380672255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426095301507771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10973643382895054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631774362095857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717446778504072,0.11457052657831107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133568923948293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620578171303924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924363171610987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143392594272968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20754575447654167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sharktr3k,2019/03/31,"Failing mom Hello, all. I’m a mother to my two year old son and lately I’ve been overcome with the feeling like I am failing as his mom. It started when he was diagnosed with a speech delay in December of 2018 and he began speech therapy in late February this year. 
I feel like I’m not benefiting him. At all. I’m constantly drowning in school work (I am a SAHM). So it seems like all day he is just playing alone with his toys and his speech hasn’t improved at all. Before, he would say “mama” all day long and now I can’t get it out of him. 
At this point it’s getting harder and harder to get out of bed in the morning. I’m scared that I’m losing my will to take the time to help my son learn the language out of my own selfishness. I love my son so much but I hate that he’s not talking. I really hate that he can’t tell me what he needs. 
Every time I sit down to try floor time with him and he brings me toys to play with and I try to talk non stop and engage him in mimicking me but it won’t work. 
I feel so frustrated with myself for not having the patience with my son. It feels like I wasn’t meant to be a mom at all. 
Are there any other parents that feel/felt this way? How did you get past this? 
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parenting,Smashlee91,2019/03/31,"Struggling to get my soon-to-be 4yr old to eat healthy. My son doesn’t like to eat almost anything but junk food. I’ve tried to get him to eat veggies and he’ll pretty much only eat carrots and occasionally peas. We tried broccoli and he literally gagged uncontrollably and had to spit it out. It doesn’t help that my husband is a ‘meat and potatoes’ guy and refuses to eat ANY veggies ever. I’ve tried sneaking in veggies into meals and my son will spot the tiny speck of a veggie piece and refuse to take a bite unless it’s not on his plate. 
Some back story for context on one of my issues with trying to buy healthy foods for him; 
I have joint custody with my ex husband and I get my son 4 days out of the week, two of which I’m home with him all day. My concern is shopping for fruits & veggies only to have them go bad before I get him back and not all be eaten; wasting food and money. 
I guess my question is that how do get tasty and healthy foods into his diet that are inexpensive/don’t have a short shelf life? ",4.65481589500547,4.808889909952608,5.280284360189572,86.11432373313892,69.33175355450237,7.44017499088589,28.55304411228581,6.67199483983844,1.2299220561429092,805,26,172,5,13,260,121,211,0.08800000000000001,0.8270000000000001,0.085,-0.1655,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,1,0,4,4,0,2,6,0,13,15,1,1,3,34,24,15,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,7,20,13,2,1,1,3,1,4,3,0,2,2,1,21,1,28,19,5,16,0,0,0,0,21,8,0,4,8,101,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060754533671796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477712324172212,0.0,0.07203729559436904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717289266606909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162910119124034,0.08844867615751167,0.0,0.0,0.09014020840268563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663456900613755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5419736802185237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095821429737171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5123728898411047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767251165927282,0.0,0.060203515764538036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166958837961002,0.10488919341500433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100389107163575,0.0,0.10625829013410104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056533717145517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482280366318603,0.05175295470385581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787210386926577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115766469133333,0.0,0.07178216811643832,0.16113190205941044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10777078217225228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866792393937785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074297763304007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07964757338712311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876831105161801,0.0,0.10348003218492673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497214630009156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pharmtomed,2019/03/31,"New parents looking for stroller/car seat advice Hey everyone, first time poster here. My wife is due in July and we’re looking for advice on how to pick through which strollers and car seats are best to buy for our baby boy coming this summer.

To preface, my wife is a teacher and I’m a grad student. 

I just didn’t know if quality rose with price, per say, on these things. Just as well, what are some good brands to go with? We’re in the process of making a registry for her baby shower and there just seems to be too much to process, help! Lol",1.776535626535626,3.938981117117123,2.2715806715806757,96.74948402948404,80.17117117117117,4.7570843570843575,22.703521703521705,5.565023196281405,0.05697477477477486,428,14,93,2,11,131,81,111,0.0,0.866,0.134,0.9324,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,8,3,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,3,0,17,14,7,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,7,0,0,2,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,1,3,5,3,19,12,3,12,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,3,5,56,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4593680360300157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24666604721089103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202471128960165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22459631752536696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999298222372473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358193463714094,0.19714525040927944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754623323345546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291750149002143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947585184531172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689488475624766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727856946063644,0.0,0.0,0.22700868107894426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609905253024364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869178400253476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139768523817652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615397352381533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370570857691326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113343860309244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trigger4151,2019/03/31,"Grrr Parenthood Advice My partner and I have a 14 mo old. Due to many reasons, he doesn’t really help with any care of our son other than maybe an hour here or there, once or twice a week. We live together. 

I was forced to leave my job due to my son being sick all the time from daycare and he was falling behind in development.

Struggling with PPD, daily migraines and a very difficult boy who whines/cries and demands attention 24/7. 

What time he heck can has anyone else done to help the transition to parenthood? We have no friends/family nearby to help and the stressors of everything are pushing me over the edge. Help!
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parenting,MOOSEA420,2019/03/31,"I dont trust my stepson around my 8 month old baby So my boyfriend and I have an 8 month old son together, he also has a 6 year old son from a previous relationship, and I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship. 

My issue I have is that I don't trust my stepson around my 8 month old baby. I'm about 99% sure that he has ADHD, but he has never been formally diagnosed. I think he has ADHD because I have been around many kids who have ADHD, and he falls into almost every single symptom. I'm worried for my son's safety because my step son does not listen when I tell him not to do something. For example:

- he jumps all around the baby in the baby's play area and has come extremely close to falling directly onto his head. He has stepped on him and knocked him over many times. 
- he tries to give my baby small objects constantly, and even tries to out things into my babies mouth
- he is extremely loud around the baby and the baby gets scared all the time
- he is rough with the baby's toys, always pushing them into him to push the baby over, or hitting him with them
- he is also violent, always punching the baby's toys, or making them fight. 

Now my boyfriend and I are on rocky terms right now because of many issues, to which my boyfriend said he doesn't want to hear me complaining about anymore, so I stopped. BUT this one I just can't let go of. I can't stop worrying about leaving my baby with him, and my stepson. He doesn't discipline him at all, and he also doesn't remove him from the area, he removes the baby from the babies play area. He also has claimed that I am ""mean"" and ""targeting"" ""his son"" whenever I say anything about his behavior. His behavior is also bad with the other kids in the house, and he is a bully at school.

It has become so stressful for me when he is around because I can't even leave my baby to play with his toys and fix him lunch, or tidy up a few things without worrying about him being violent. 

Also I know some people will say this is how 6 year olds are blah blah, but I have a 6 year old daughter, and my 6 year old neice also lives with me, and neither one of them are like this around the baby. My daughter actually saved my baby from eating a piece of Lego that my stepson was trying to feed to the baby. 

I don't know how to approach my boyfriend about the safety of our baby without completely insulting his parenting. I don't want my boyfriend to feel like I don't want ""his son"" around the baby, I just want him to step up as a dad, and enforce the rules with my stepson instead of immediately turning on me like I'm just targeting him. 

Am I being irrational? How should I approach him about this? Thanks anyone who offers advice.",7.306153846153848,5.555854853479854,7.749816849816848,76.9035164835165,64.56776556776558,10.524542124542123,34.00366300366301,9.162432508145574,2.8051926739926745,2114,71,425,29,26,701,203,546,0.106,0.807,0.087,-0.8518,1,0,1,0,1,0,58.0,1,0,4,0,40,19,4,2,28,0,47,7,2,4,5,76,70,38,0,5,13,11,2,5,0,2,2,6,0,2,15,37,3,4,5,6,0,14,17,8,0,2,4,8,74,11,68,60,9,71,0,0,0,0,71,30,0,5,30,290,89,1,0.0,0.0,0.05745280922348656,0.0,0.21226634787910145,0.05753126969753149,0.0,0.0,0.058954091830132935,0.0,0.0,0.3295722098515159,0.09797624250814606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058387470505337866,0.04116626881053336,0.0,0.048448519956303664,0.4192847641893225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915756860726276,0.1435568701918557,0.0650220220172171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050714983248898976,0.061728567457268665,0.06362218636977779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05975615975346345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05152128335409355,0.0,0.06900022328442712,0.0,0.0,0.0602430913069356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777181967560459,0.0,0.04960412415068025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02976860735696417,0.04205980080745935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030759383848854925,0.05647757863989005,0.03345961279650386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042200141152475,0.0,0.06635559779499486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793302001847208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12289891457305567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647115344344184,0.0,0.0,0.12467873360383658,0.0,0.060202945038072636,0.0,0.08628900505936953,0.0,0.051987072083917264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03929904225415027,0.17906785223476826,0.0,0.06413135570883466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097867724377433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045407477903614255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4942292652119714,0.0,0.07978947808507612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06537292594164641,0.0,0.0,0.040816016099749684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641789752637908,0.0,0.05027831751489385,0.05600292689732754,0.09363838858893236,0.0589434297625813,0.059583919341148414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04532430075771142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984430765770402,0.06744029429521753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548831665263698,0.061192924443065684,0.0,0.0,0.05145871988318021,0.05420353141192382,0.0,0.0,0.07822691750849467,0.03772426444489626,0.0,0.0,0.06866013781443388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991532425962312,0.0640383156595947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890231416351476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350541918021086,0.0,0.0,0.17936908204680302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895655456317851
parenting,EastCellist,2019/03/31,"My very very shy 6 year old. My son just turned 6 and he is incredibly shy. You wouldn't be able to tell if you looked at him. He participates in all the school plays and events, he regularly gets the lead not because he volunteers but because it is assigned to him and does very well but socially he is very very shy.

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Example: if i meet someone from work and that friend says ""hello"" to him he will frown and say ""No"" and run away and refuse to talk to them. He will stand outside the door when we go to someone's house until I force him to come in.

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And normally I wouldn't care that he is wary of strangers but he is afraid of kids his own age. Especially other boys. When we go to a play ground he has trouble approaching kids to ask them to play with him. He prefers to play alone. Approaching other kids is extremely intimidating for him. He prefers to play with girls rather than boys because boys can get aggressive and he isn't an aggressive child at all. If someone wants to take his toy or ball from him he will let them. He does fine with playdates where he has to play with kids one on one but when that same boy starts to play in a group of kids my son refuses to follow. He gets very intimidated and comes sits next to me. 

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My biggest fear is that he wont get over this and will be bullied as an older child. Friends that play very well with him one on one ignore him a group. His teacher has echoed the same concerns as I have. She tries to get him to lead a group for class activities (he's in grade 1) but the other kids over power him and just take over the activity.

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What do I do? I have tried very hard to encourage him to talk to other kids, he just flat out refuses. I am ashamed to admit that i sometimes lose my patience and shout but it's because I know it's a tough world out there, especially for a boy.

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Background: he is not an only child. He has a sister who is 2.5 and she is the exact opposite. He is generally a very happy child but gets moody about the strangest things. He gets upset with me if I am 5 mins late to pick him up from school. He won't spend that time talking to friends, he will be standing in a corner waiting for me to pick him up, sulking, while all the other kids are laughing, playing and having fun.",3.8806183894620716,4.872408779443255,4.407463500097332,88.66864252806438,71.48394004282655,7.630627473882292,26.78534812796055,7.898369717300924,1.3098913633119205,1808,59,396,23,33,573,203,467,0.125,0.747,0.128,0.5385,1,1,0,0,0,0,63.0,2,2,3,5,12,31,2,4,21,0,38,0,0,4,4,69,61,34,0,11,18,3,1,0,3,9,0,3,1,18,19,27,0,5,4,11,1,10,8,11,2,4,0,5,44,20,64,48,6,50,0,1,1,0,95,22,0,5,15,238,63,8,0.06347300466215178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573889037335454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34386487016350104,0.3856332406554187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059338691133309994,0.0,0.05963497728363652,0.0,0.0,0.15477021802767255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471495850707115,0.0,0.0,0.10935274646503344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110913082337586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142477679062886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711725785114807,0.0,0.23213417629022395,0.0,0.07214634257093461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756819373858636,0.05685934480860313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323932533138809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034883103399841235,0.0,0.07160031394838902,0.0,0.0,0.0649054476946872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05330133783149027,0.07101005645114175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750426054373647,0.0,0.062190067973970475,0.0,0.0,0.06660424108428772,0.0,0.1720438026133844,0.04827408024869904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095256185441116,0.0,0.12847613876017713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470273490910361,0.16134141261766716,0.0,0.06277642461139481,0.0,0.04492651939363312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544760038608573,0.1530515904982606,0.05547820376064845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216864390482283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03701161945488292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618800737629825,0.06904040234030315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4713468864937162,0.03743802267858142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11413970798537867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620910335388348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856332406554187,0.04087453395822301
parenting,Mady206,2019/03/31,"How to tell a child they won’t be going back to the same school next year? So I’m a primary caregiver to my 8yo brother. He has ADHD, anger management issues, dysgraphia, and a multitude of other characteristics that make his day to day life a little harder. 
He has been going to his school for 3 years and he loves it. My family would love for him to go there until the end of elementary but that is just not an option. The school is very small and just not equipped to educate my brother the way he needs it. They have tried everything and we are very grateful for all of their help. 
Whenever my brother receives bad news he has a “freak out” hitting, kicking, biting, cursing, running away, etc. I am trying to think of a way to let him know he will be going to a new school next year and not returning to his current one, without him thinking it’s his fault. It’s no ones fault, this change just HAS to happen for the benefit of everyone involved. I know that if I just say “you’re going to a new school next year, buddy.” He would resent the family and probably hold it against us for a long time (he still brings up things he’s mad about from years ago that are insignificant so I can’t imagine what it’d be like with something as big as this). 
So I’m asking if anyone has any experience with anything like this. I can’t go about this like you would with a typical child. So if anyone has ideas or suggestions please shoot them out. No idea is a bad idea. 
Thank you. ",3.643995700245701,4.9037501993243255,4.606597051597053,85.99958230958235,72.3445945945946,7.949385749385749,25.61670761670761,8.438071523408619,1.5316945945945943,1153,36,241,19,22,375,158,296,0.128,0.77,0.103,-0.8426,1,0,1,1,0,0,30.0,2,2,4,0,14,15,3,0,18,0,26,3,0,2,1,44,47,19,0,7,13,3,0,3,0,5,1,1,0,2,17,12,0,1,8,0,0,9,9,8,0,2,1,1,24,7,38,35,3,39,0,0,0,2,38,7,0,5,24,155,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046605752126153,0.0,0.07719657790088089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05922153793477888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12178525940027507,0.0,0.0716644444702274,0.0,0.08141375272426304,0.0,0.08182026265762364,0.06696383949495091,0.14542652072442586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212555223455753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232666696931977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713244079762856,0.0,0.09712402761621072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321450563668611,0.07826737612688342,0.08518692152703512,0.1641940592820682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29695824335765386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700995533779427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058371980706955824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949288382840821,0.0,0.09089526828492957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572049198285566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890514429649519,0.0615114916372881,0.1276376165266897,0.08728315588227603,0.0,0.07706846277788786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719722025930746,0.0,0.058130651543035164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064573243638794,0.0,0.1682166063928178,0.2778511829690618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11802359755661397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955943921866612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389355080077362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692543663394201,0.0,0.4406789395004688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704313852585045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954707621092789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611709453463583,0.08017718540140115,0.0,0.0,0.057856138752234124,0.11160251982639527,0.0,0.0,0.05078060834632834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825149807512265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475386208368274,0.0,0.0,0.14371031458543107,0.0,0.13824979377417554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394789786402701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18559041181383504,0.0,0.0,0.2804029830147548
parenting,dimitrihazien,2019/03/31,18 mo What are some of the things I should be teaching my brother as he’s growing up. I feel like right now he’s not learning anything new or learning new things as his age is progressing. He barely speaks and my parents always put on youtube cartoons for him. ,3.91,5.442655384615384,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,72.07692307692308,5.9692307692307685,32.230769230769226,5.985473137389443,1.5866769230769235,208,10,41,1,4,64,43,52,0.0,0.916,0.084,0.4939,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,5,4,0,1,2,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,6,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,5,25,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526833265983165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24990003449674825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354805496917112,0.21694668242064413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14836108760718275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5865856639404392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371970178388335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052789416445809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593382273130854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034985878119395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ladyoscarmirror,2019/03/31,"Mom wants to be the good guy, Dad has to be bad guy My fiance has joint custody of his 9 year old boy. Him and his ex are on pretty amicable terms, despite the fact that they have radically different parenting styles, which has caused a lot of tension and resentment with everyone.   


Before I say anything negative about his ex, I want to point out that she's a very loving and devoted mother and we absolutely respect her for it. She does a lot for him. Throughout their separation things could have been a lot worse, and she has generally been great at settling things as they adjusted themselves and their boy to their new lives. We have no intention whatsoever of doing anything that would compromise her reputation, her relationship, or her time with their son, we just want to work with her as a team to do what is best for their boy. Any complaints we have against her are just that, complaints and worries, and they don't mean we think she's the devil or anything. She does a lot of things right and we acknowledge that, as well as acknowledging our own faults and failings as parents. We also make a firm point of always encouraging and supporting their son's relationship with her, and NEVER speaking negatively about her when there's the slightest chance he can hear it. His relationship with his mother is a priority to us, because it's good for him. 

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The big problem here is his ex has a very permissive parenting style (high affection/love, low discipline and expectations), which doesn't jive at all with our authoritative parenting style (high affection/love, high discipline and expectations). There are a lot of things we don't know, since we don't live with her, but from what we do know we can safely assume she does things like enforce regular bed and mealtimes, and encourage him to say please and thank you. He usually does his homework before he even gets home, so that's not a problem. He is certainly not neglected, I'd actually say the opposite, he's quite spoiled. She gets him whatever material things he asks for without restraint and showers him with love and affection. All these things are great, except the material spoiling. 

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The problems come in when she generally has the attitude that if he doesn't want to do something, she rarely if ever makes him do it. This became a serious problem when he would often complain he didn't want to go to school, so she would let him stay home and he missed significant school time. He used to have a very serious eating problem, to the point where he had a list of about a dozen foods he'd be willing to eat, most of it junk food, and she made no efforts whatsoever to work on that, insisting it wasn't a problem and supplementing him with a multivitamin even though he was getting bullied for it. He subsists to this day mostly on hot dogs and other junk foods at her house. He doesn't know how to swim, because when he said he wanted to stop going, she insisted he not be made to. He also doesn't know how to use a knife and fork, and his manners weren't generally great. In general, any skills he may need to learn, she might or might not try to teach him, but doesn't push him to follow through and lets it drop as soon as he shows the slightest resistance.  Importantly, she completely neglects teaching him how to communicate his feelings and argue and express himself in a constructive way, preferring to give into him than having to face a tantrum or him 'not liking' her.   


Before I get flamed I want to point out that I'm not saying at all that these problems are exclusively her fault. Mom and Dad have an equal role in teaching him how to do all these things, it's not all on her to teach him. If he doesn't know how to use a knife and fork, that's Dad's fault just as much as it is hers. We have an EQUAL role in the CREATION of these problems. We are also NOT perfect or better than her for our parenting style. My fiance owns his fuck-ups and admits openly he could have been more involved and made a lot of mistakes that were HIS fault, not hers. But after you've made a mistake, you have to get back up and work harder. That's what we're trying to do here. What I AM saying is that she presently does little to nothing to fix these problems, meaning we've had to pick up the slack and work twice as hard to attempt to resolve them, and our efforts are not supported at her house. This has been frustrating.   


This attitude manifests in more negative ways as well. If their son doesn't want to go to Dad's house because he has to do 'hard stuff' there, like eat his vegetables and eat with a knife and fork, she waits until he calls and tells him he doesn't want to come and says she's not going to make him if he doesn't want to. During her weeks with him, fiance likes to stay in touch on the phone, just five minutes a day - his ex will similarly purposefully 'ask' the boy if he wants to, with emphasis on 'you don't have to', and refuse to put him on the phone if he doesn't, instead of just saying 'talk to your dad for five minutes' which is what we do for her when she calls. To us, consistent access to his mother is not optional. Even if he doesn't want to go to his mom's, we make him go and lecture him on the importance of being with his mom. During custody arrangements, she also tried to make the claim that they should put joint custody on hold because their son feels 'anxiety' about going to his house because of his parenting style. This 'anxiety' was just a normal kid not wanting to eat his vegetables and manipulating his mom to give him what he wants. He doesn't know better. We have no idea how his ex speaks of my fiance when they're at home, but their son has commented before that 'Mom hates Dad', and has used 'I'm going to tell Mom and I'll never come to your house again' as a threat many times during tantrums. She will also exclude fiance from parent-teacher meetings, school plays, and general events in their son's life (the school usually contacts her first and might not contact Dad at all) by simply not communicating - he found out his boy got glasses months after the fact because his son happened to mention it one day.  When he tries to respectfully confront her, she says to him that she can handle it herself, missing the point that he wants to be involved too. 

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This frustrates us because it gives us the impression that it is more important for her to be the 'good guy' and for their boy to like her more for the sake of her own ego than to teach him the skills he needs to succeed, like persistence and frustration tolerance. It forces us to be the 'bad guys' who tell him no and enforce boundaries. Although she could be much worse, she also seems to at best be doing nothing to promote their boy's relationship with his father and at worst working against it. We are very worried that as he gets older, this will create a negative dynamic of 'good guy/bad guy' where he gets to do whatever he wants and gets everything he wants at Mom's house and will idolize her, and as a result it will undermine the work we're trying to do with him at our house and his relationship with his Dad, creating tension and resentment for everyone. It will also create instability, inconsistency, and confusion for the boy, and encourage manipulative behaviour. We can't force her to change, but we really want to work with her to find a way to compromise to find a way to resolve this problem that would be very unhealthy for their son as he grows older. 

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One last time to avoid flaming, EVERYTHING IS NOT HER FAULT, we have a significant role to play in the creation of his problems, we are not perfect or better than her, we just want to work WITH her and support her, and work hard to solve these problems with the right approach. My fiance has recognized in himself that he could have been more active and involved and that was his failing, and has since been working hard to resolve that issue. We have legitimate concerns and complaints and we want some advice on how to address it in a respectful, constructive way. In case anyone is curious, the information we have about her parenting methods and the things she does with him we get through a combination of fiance's past experiences with her, direct reports from their son, and communicating directly with his ex and getting the info first-hand. Mostly the latter. 

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TL;DR: After separation, Mom is very permissive and Dad is authoritative. It's causing tension and resentment for everyone, and the son is suffering as a result. How do we resolve this in the right way? ",9.73883764123201,7.4268673968254015,9.039943421211026,71.34159804983749,60.318681318681314,12.427192213107707,39.06553853032726,10.888915746687235,4.023204928717605,6828,262,1293,131,71,2170,489,1638,0.14,0.747,0.113,-0.9952,10,1,2,0,0,0,175.0,37,5,19,36,57,97,12,5,73,0,134,14,1,30,14,325,226,132,0,57,45,45,8,6,0,16,1,12,7,14,80,127,10,10,29,5,0,18,48,51,2,7,22,20,189,46,218,170,32,124,1,8,0,2,335,57,0,33,46,899,269,28,0.0,0.0,0.025176959836420983,0.0,0.0,0.02521134277139796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444250751665608,0.021467565780426943,0.13977078842040996,0.15674838218250395,0.03508960432714192,0.0,0.03947367302333482,0.0,0.0,0.01803987499421375,0.0,0.06369330538715863,0.0,0.04823880752688915,0.0,0.0,0.01983851411197601,0.06462546290818554,0.11009156570143776,0.0,0.0878151857511873,0.0,0.05415076172947534,0.06845368805055352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05268912130002015,0.0,0.0,0.05300716445179313,0.027292850617035718,0.06667293280971473,0.027050681848923917,0.0,0.0,0.08239641482765507,0.0,0.0,0.049916361978992435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02695538191281217,0.0,0.0,0.135465885751321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199858377303866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112172947265448,0.02333746726467328,0.0,0.07395866889557516,0.04637453459990405,0.025237231879413125,0.0,0.0,0.0260903876396034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04716124327247664,0.043890727114661965,0.09359194683880527,0.02828823521665853,0.0,0.023851572032043862,0.13479371717807884,0.07424878339074514,0.11730132453476615,0.08655885641110063,0.020634519780226124,0.08533337171439315,0.0,0.15327561639112633,0.022814747440619308,0.0,0.09244649445216813,0.02547203875218781,0.0,0.0,0.029078338260322013,0.0,0.0,0.08177696475775285,0.07763814548812067,0.0,0.0,0.2083871716251724,0.0,0.029124922567443364,0.0,0.026928370239558682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507363132084217,0.02103034452296926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276424772761815,0.018223217248273898,0.07562710489068178,0.025858256228555938,0.045563530959069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160480504025246,0.0465707954621212,0.09764987578534884,0.08610809652437988,0.026157027449384262,0.0,0.0562072625780847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210878222094653,0.0,0.27194855398216466,0.020593216953362782,0.0,0.037931758686235655,0.03826056614572915,0.03979691377685055,0.02491768352115064,0.0,0.0,0.025278403195149585,0.04951135868664913,0.0,0.027072632584036718,0.0,0.034965330891004336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22918169580460745,0.0,0.02462890344086448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02832051914472198,0.1219461226739104,0.0,0.0,0.02624775176003784,0.0,0.2962439936464488,0.0,0.05187200793467647,0.0,0.027441346660985844,0.0,0.0,0.016528062874842122,0.0,0.0,0.1384970714071411,0.0,0.06609886606891065,0.02454159266140181,0.16413679195251454,0.0,0.10444341813213803,0.0,0.023487240501814152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04268385237310575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01986200701434588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05499847560915661,0.0,0.02156985375173485,0.0,0.0,0.02953468843018591,0.0,0.08783218947883897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020736965136690717,0.06765069321638177,0.023753061891920703,0.0,0.0,0.15426263642909294,0.016531520453475213,0.025348249731413558,0.0,0.060176466755274424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758212010463155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551703865029888,0.08913124586617709,0.056829842597129324,0.127725610961475,0.3043487370023257,0.1228724564833332,0.020695106388275458,0.0,0.04639437860461352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024870162299636237,0.0,0.1878261889590968,0.05240205814852703,0.052584560877493386,0.07330997409119222,0.0,0.15674838218250395,0.01661427593618737
parenting,bthrowawayk,2019/03/31,"How do I enter the life of a younger child without feeling like I’m doing too much? I’m a 20 year old male recently finding myself involved with a 26 year old female with a 4 year old daughter. Age has never really been a factor to me, so I’m fine with a 6-7 year age gap. However, someone with a child is completely new to me. The daughter’s father is still around so I have no interest in being “her dad” but I don’t really know how I can make the daughter comfortable as well as show the mom that I’m fine with the situation and know how to handle it. What advice would some of you with experiences in this situation have for me?",5.635112781954888,4.569836120300753,7.257593984962408,76.8703007518797,67.49624060150376,10.607518796992482,31.781954887218053,9.957137785484203,2.832927819548872,496,17,105,10,7,174,82,133,0.036000000000000004,0.853,0.111,0.8826,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,9,6,0,0,12,0,12,1,0,4,1,21,20,9,0,1,2,6,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,4,8,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,1,10,6,18,17,2,17,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,14,70,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563766913742128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245810259415445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16778543552032468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15653727199424367,0.0,0.0,0.08091454177483318,0.11432343705793695,0.0,0.0,0.14626192763542584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589348717323694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303191763000828,0.07818118844528063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681937378036158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18742187894172005,0.0,0.0,0.117638377597404,0.0,0.12342281328999667,0.15455523099578322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5037647635830331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050349964005075,0.0,0.15800751741476174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597544716578757,0.0,0.0,0.13559049570737988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779789890375812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438836378200125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426047432780782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367870502831445,0.0,0.0,0.4122089845094149
parenting,mecrjzak,2019/03/31,"My daughter disappointed she doesn’t feel different now that she is 5. Not sure why I’m posting- this is just about me wishing my daughter would be more excited.
My daughters birthday is today, we celebrated a week ago. I told her this morning -you’re five today!!! And she said “I don’t see that I’m 5”, we saved a present for today so I was like here you get this present. She seemed sad, and I’m like baby you ARE 5 today. She was quiet and then said “my feet aren’t bigger” and I’m like yeah not much changed since yesterday but you are now 5 today, so if we go the the store and a cashier says “how old are you?” You say “I’m 5!” So I said how old are you, she refused to answer. A few weeks ago she told me she would quit sucking her thumb when she is 5 and a big girl but definitely doubt it will stop anytime soon. I told her again, yay baby you’re 5 now and she said “you’ve got to be kidding me. I don’t see that I’m 5”..I know she was a little tired so she went back to bed, but I thought she’d be more excited. It’s slightly silly but I wish she felt it and not sure if there is anything I can do to “prove it” or excite her.  I know it’s not super serious whether she feels like it or not, I just thought she’d be more thrilled about her bday and being able to now say she’s 5.  ",-0.2865842167255579,1.5694947173144875,1.8904134275618392,98.3110500588928,85.92579505300354,4.904075382803299,20.034040047114253,6.079149491110277,-0.2183120376914016,987,30,246,8,30,331,127,283,0.08900000000000001,0.752,0.159,0.9588,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,6,0,2,20,19,1,1,8,2,28,2,1,2,3,50,58,26,0,6,16,3,3,4,0,3,1,8,1,2,12,12,0,2,10,0,1,2,9,5,0,1,15,13,49,14,8,33,5,30,0,2,2,0,47,3,1,6,28,151,61,0,0.10056026382859606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17828121284985396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275252884116098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732463566954678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637942531551044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050640725397596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169258177918214,0.07184027257203981,0.09655362323068437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253858737861244,0.0,0.05715071534598048,0.0,0.08042722933865516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053058224420008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965146616461016,0.1007878024854614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392336452627075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211042161661938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630893532341253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695821878925556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826233558788039,0.2399086739698411,0.0,0.0,0.16026702138028653,0.09154628741017673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318448940010797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840728833512509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895537171532264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15966723357886886,0.0,0.11557923025856455,0.4765968595324338,0.28826892451096825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613267558833839,0.0,0.0,0.0932203720392805,0.09073999695683534,0.0,0.2312786812050695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287025241782908,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Original_Ossiss,2019/03/31,"Am I being too strict with my child's internet usage? They like to play Roblox.  I told them that they could only add people they are actually friends with in the real world (kids from school) and that I would be monitoring them to make sure they didn't add any randoms.  My SO and her older daughter consider this to be too over bearing.  I feel that I am being just safe enough.  


Thoughts?",2.9625187969924838,5.148188710526316,3.549548872180452,88.9518421052632,76.36842105263158,6.448120300751881,22.69924812030075,7.447530270364453,0.8270248120300758,306,9,62,4,7,96,56,76,0.0,0.825,0.175,0.9111,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,6,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,10,0,0,1,1,16,14,3,0,2,1,1,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,14,5,8,5,1,4,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,1,2,44,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.2946100626605024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20530180364741515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24104193966521195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119425688716251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264930291982828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332465674400613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749269606971613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20152005545901014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296079401995307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092988876126812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34362737551585737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30553810071097465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845364163546662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396742365915744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288477616296532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21446052463215293,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NecroLicorice,2019/03/31,"How to get a kid to eat? I'm not a mother, I babysit my sister's 5yo. She only eats rice, beans, meat and pasta. When I get her everything except pasta, she complains where's the pasta and barely eats. When I get her only pasta, she says she doesn't wanna eat it that day.

It's really hard to get her to eat, and I don't want her to starve, I dunno what I can do to make her eat, so please help!",0.9125324675324684,1.8906089545454563,3.3924025974025973,93.1318181818182,78.77272727272727,5.9376623376623385,15.980519480519481,6.18269132825596,-0.6037389610389607,300,3,73,2,7,105,50,88,0.105,0.8220000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.187,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,4,10,0,2,0,10,11,7,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,3,10,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,16,0,8,11,0,4,0,0,0,0,15,1,0,1,3,44,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09130450963389272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8692027172937002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723896453810732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958695007585776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682387360601233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489509870818744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945027708386504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21534915228151436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540742617667264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069691476839084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258655009061756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350492029463255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,curious_bee1212,2019/03/31,"Need advice dealing with f'in four and/or jealousy - struggling with punishing, teaching values Hello parents!

I feel like I need some help.

My 4 y.o. has always been very energetic. Overall, he's a good kid. He's very loving, and demonstrates empathy when someone is hurt or sad. I'd say he's probably your normal / average 4 years old kid.

He's also a charmer, a class clown, and a master manipulator. 

Ever since he's turned four, he's been a lot more difficult with us. He challenges everything, tests the limits, tries to impose his will, screams at us when we refuse to give in to his ways, etc. Having read about the ""f'in four"" period, I know this is normal, and to some extent we are able to get through to him by talking to him. It's not always easy, but that's not the part I feel is problematic.

The issue that we're struggling with is that he is absolutely out of control when anyone else is present. Whether it's his friends or family members, he immediately disregards all the rules and completely goes rogue. He's bossy, arrogant, he lies, he throws tantrums, he hits us, he won't listen to anything and we simply cannot get him to behave ever. 

It feels like a serious issue because his behaviour has caused other kids his age to be uncomfortable around him. His cousin - 1 year older, whom we know our son truly loves - no longer wants to see him, because he doesn't feel that our son can share and play constructively with him. Moreover, he feels that our son always purposely gets him in trouble and throws him under the bus every chance he gets.

And I know that to be true.

We tried many things, mainly along those two lines:

We tried talking to him calmly and conveying that his behaviour hurts the people that he loves. It felt like it resonated with him at the time, but that didn't last a minute when the next visitor came over. We tried reading books about sharing, friendships, etc. and it has no effect whatsoever. 

We tried punishment - he was recently without TV and dessert (his two greatest loves) for more than a week, but generally speaking punishing him is ineffective. (We experimented with different punishments.)

I should say - and this is probably very relevant to the situation - that he has a 1 year old baby sister who obviously takes up a lot of our time and attention. We are very mindful however of being equitable and not neglecting him when taking care of his sister. We are also very mindful of not changing his routine as much as possible and giving him extensive 1:1 time.

At this point I don't know what else I can try. I don't even know where to begin.

Does anyone have any experience with a similar situation? Can anyone point me to any relevant resources on the topic?

Thank you!",5.210291021671825,6.874493682352946,5.770877192982455,77.59263157894738,69.0392156862745,9.133126934984519,29.891640866873054,9.549672527348893,2.8322352941176465,2158,84,389,48,38,697,259,510,0.122,0.733,0.145,0.9495,3,0,0,0,0,0,77.0,18,2,0,6,14,33,5,2,22,0,34,5,0,4,5,87,68,30,0,6,11,7,6,3,1,3,0,5,0,3,25,38,1,5,13,5,0,3,13,16,0,5,6,12,54,17,50,55,14,42,0,4,1,4,94,14,0,6,27,241,79,7,0.06763905693334687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609610361023976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081818587845586,0.16884334146126778,0.0,0.0,0.09199375631353912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418844038826111,0.0693042070421567,0.055661180634989794,0.06021310098350197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246428260707901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736106188137966,0.06896252645038364,0.06948394350628365,0.07155315361659179,0.0,0.07091826430770337,0.0,0.07586295381649899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973289767725734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066841825593187,0.0,0.0,0.05919139453393296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300750562718985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508708561158121,0.04467495918533677,0.12236679881060472,0.05698882271494932,0.0,0.06078962298012387,0.13232795319650809,0.06376408315485001,0.0,0.171001697558821,0.09664271157621124,0.06494410187659072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052257767600768536,0.0,0.14135446219420286,0.12977109349623156,0.0,0.05673243184237123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533703409229396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481801878279554,0.0,0.0,0.1411952045194517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18586328388205373,0.055134859065348325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913507991069603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500861481833186,0.2441875587497685,0.0,0.0,0.06857538736063609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365923315499857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04972248949564823,0.1003070073293966,0.0,0.0,0.07193490439698501,0.0,0.13254382932618206,0.0,0.0,0.14195162427496694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510516818176513,0.07324650728083433,0.0,0.04689240552606861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278815433546201,0.07625287373729386,0.0,0.0,0.14585268692771788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531472204551545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678540868505077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757858581270843,0.0,0.0,0.05389957111765497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595172685799272,0.1520582679169485,0.0,0.0,0.05731035344258871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142205664097615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171230605875857,0.10873142368216973,0.0,0.062272956030329424,0.0,0.0,0.04493638391725773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832263411016505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755348782806241,0.07357187089933848,0.1321470605690179,0.0,0.2440843719401892,0.0,0.0,0.27904652852552503,0.039895268246824704,0.05368873505474098,0.054255971546911065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06520163717837096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067200509445084
parenting,Liakada,2019/03/31,"Parents friendship falling apart, trying to save the kids friendship For the first seven years of my son's life we've had a very close friendship with another mom and her boy of the same age. The kids have known each other since they were a year old and I quickly became close with the mom as we just clicked. We arranged playdates or outings for the boys and our families almost every weekend, hang out while the boys played, and would go on mom dates without kids almost monthly. We were practically like family and shared all aspects of our lives. I would say on average we/ the kids would see each other at least 2-3 times per month. 

The kids never went to school together nor were we neighbors, so this was always a friendship that we had to make the effort and make time to see each other. Even as the kids grew older and started developing different interests, we still kept it up. Until last year things changed. My friend moved houses and had stress at work and kept bringing those stressors in her life up as excuses for not hanging out. I didn't push the issue too hard, because she can be pretty introvert and assumed that she'd rather deal with the problems by herself. That's not exactly my perspective on friendship, but to each their own. I kept trying to reach out occasionally, when she said she didn't have time because of so and so, I offered my help, but she never accepted. I saw her maybe 3 times last year, she never initiated any contact and the kids playdates were only monthly now and just a quick drop-off. 

It took me a whole year of such disappointment and rejection to understand that she was no longer interested in the friendship in the same way, and I was grieving over the loss for a long time. At this point I have accepted that our mom-friendship is over, and I'm trying to figure out what's happening with the kids friendship now. Even though she said a few months ago that she still wants the kids to continue seeing each other, it has become a similarly one-sided effort. I don't remember the last time she initiated a playdate. My son is lucky now to see his friend maybe once a month and that's after me asking multiple times and offering to pick him up. The kids have a great time together when they see each other and her son usually asks for the next playdate right away, so I'm not sure if it's the boy pulling away or his mom not wanting to put effort into it anymore. 

After dealing with rejection for a whole year I am getting very emotionally tired of this whole situation and almost want to have clarity and ask her if she really wants to keep the boys friendship up, or if they want to pull away completely. At this age, if they don't get to see each other regularly, a friendship pretty much doesn't exist. I would hate for my son to go through the same prolonged heartbreak that I have been going through as I can already see him hurting the same way. He still asks for a playdate weekly, gets his hopes up, only to be rejected most of the times. I've already reduced my outreach to once a month, and it's still hard to get them to commit. 

I'll do anything for my kids and I know that he will have to learn to get through heartbreak sooner or later in life. I just wish it wasn't this early in life and am not sure if a clean and immediate cut would be better than this long and drawn out process. What do you think?",7.41565295010265,6.584678792109258,7.135430241899493,78.42716214406856,63.810318664643404,10.120164241720971,33.79813442827814,9.247498795725024,2.7854410961349636,2680,95,523,39,34,847,279,659,0.101,0.772,0.127,0.9292,2,1,0,0,0,0,53.0,10,1,6,7,25,29,2,1,43,0,43,5,0,3,8,122,89,51,1,19,21,9,2,1,3,6,5,3,2,16,32,53,0,4,10,2,0,15,17,13,0,2,22,14,64,16,85,57,20,109,0,9,9,0,84,33,0,16,60,360,96,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047963553526373534,0.0,0.16254429663709885,0.0,0.11941923672393487,0.0,0.04502226204393983,0.0,0.0,0.03679535391188001,0.0567370459211891,0.0,0.0,0.053660682015960505,0.0,0.0,0.04452634445401179,0.0,0.2023350253472089,0.0,0.1525089837230761,0.0,0.0,0.06596757400089319,0.05975812990873939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04785420500253911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057239180490907475,0.0,0.056731298700847775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156612153505348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05653143353027936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086431397847983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147576096884879,0.0,0.045588396100950036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201657593164068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04602431029364863,0.0,0.0,0.0836075460148185,0.0,0.14134620847887033,0.0,0.09225261655167334,0.0,0.0,0.05965435581151893,0.0,0.0,0.04784760173761255,0.0,0.09694043425417108,0.05342053287382925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03626750948304111,0.0,0.0,0.05374153813160562,0.0,0.062433466530492164,0.05792382513188031,0.0,0.0,0.05647478404128267,0.0,0.04809375293559875,0.0,0.0,0.029736389006034668,0.13231593535174807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528725651761556,0.026434477704944843,0.0,0.04777843122662536,0.09576790682065638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223513509594368,0.0,0.10871768997638433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168536817377353,0.2591313480489721,0.0575083323922931,0.0397756689516297,0.0,0.12519447469692185,0.0,0.05754456328281849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05677733427648843,0.11524669134408876,0.03666503938847028,0.08230327518338766,0.0,0.0,0.0600806262207732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051149630530285824,0.0,0.0,0.11009475129985644,0.0,0.05177413082644501,0.0,0.054393571163751285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03466302539565602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061293913674607875,0.0462080097855509,0.10293836078841058,0.043028921711022565,0.0,0.05476027170482922,0.3018199739011079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04475876786037245,0.0608197556817032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03829798174959157,0.0,0.1728431494322784,0.0,0.061980629678205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199246138692952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035947008058247236,0.034670276707371966,0.05316091975381066,0.0,0.28395774054691925,0.062189285213270926,0.0,0.0,0.06011607441870286,0.11020751589757873,0.0,0.0,0.056328425729552725,0.0,0.0,0.059592412374406725,0.08928967518172394,0.15957175501651494,0.08589696025401286,0.04340224282390067,0.0,0.0,0.050158737789382825,0.0,0.18122923705730834,0.062221628561786625,0.05215826403338343,0.0,0.03939133101779569,0.0,0.0,0.1921841592176115,0.0,0.0,0.20906300020788152
parenting,iamianyouarenot,2019/03/31,"April Fool's Day is upon us - What's your best prank given to or received by your kids? Drawing a blank this year and need some inspiration for one of our houses favorite traditions.  Two years ago we put colored bulbs in all the lights and told the kids it was always that way.  Year before I had my son rush through his morning routine despite it being Sunday and drove him to school.  We went for doughnuts after since ruining a Sunday morning was pretty shitty.  

So far my son's been making me proud with his pranks.  Last year he filled up an Amazon box with dirt with a note saying ""April Fool's!"" and convinced me it was a present he and my wife got me.  My daughter basically copies what he does in far worse way but the kid's 5 and I appreciate the effort.

Inspire away!

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parenting,cw910,2019/03/31,"How to be more interactive with my young toddler? Hi all - I’m feeling like a pretty terrible parent.

I have a toddler who is 18 months old to be exact. I think it’s a difficult age for activities because she’s not big enough to really play in play museums around here (3+) or have the attention span to do bigger toddler/kid activities but too old for baby things.

I feel like I’m not being interactive with my child. Most days I have her watch YouTube videos (Little Baby Bum, Cocomelon) as it’s my go to when I have to be doing something else, or she plays with her toys. We do love going out as the weather warms up but the mosquito population is terrible in our area.

What can I do to interact with her more? Any favorite toys you would recommend? Educational activities? Just any tips or comments? Because I feel like a lousy parent. I feel like other parents probably do way more with their children. She is my first and I never grew up around babies/kids so I’ve been learning everything as I go!
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parenting,EB314,2019/03/31,"4 year old son is making repetitive strange noises My husband and I are starting to be concerned but really don’t know if there anything to be done. My son is an otherwise very bright, happy, typically developing kid. A few months ago he started make weird slurping noises. Since then it has become increasingly frequent and in the last few weeks he’s started adding in other sounds before and after the slurp. It’s always the same pattern of sounds in a row and sometimes will be as frequent as 30 seconds-1 minute for awhile. He says he can’t stop doing it. Any ideas for what I can do to help him control it?",3.4521956856702616,5.807560906779663,4.293636363636363,83.38580123266567,75.52542372881356,6.6637904468412925,26.828967642526965,7.686295010490155,1.6885152542372883,489,19,89,7,11,157,86,118,0.063,0.8290000000000001,0.108,0.861,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,3,0,13,20,9,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,6,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,5,2,12,15,4,19,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,1,15,54,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146389236875685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703358970107814,0.0,0.0,0.13921045566951662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16845965704217705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260871444388489,0.17419392805278958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22960072058012104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20949036067236734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21791859694265028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13721342464116293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310937281682037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11250377624876017,0.16686673446841535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27329227750160856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339831529883486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480969024674812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114306691463348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627943520452295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933900089589338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024643492072344,0.0,0.43468636040449504,0.0,0.0,0.1711475080487702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890796047782625,0.0,0.0,0.16420676412201707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318271304590749
parenting,artguy1011,2019/03/31,"Gasping for air If you have asthma , the cost of your meds will have you gasping for air !

A little context ....
Changed medical providers due to career change ....

Old provider ?
3 bucks :)

New provider ?
58 bucks :(

Gasping commences....",2.2479532163742677,4.115210578947373,0.9619298245614054,95.68628654970762,114.26315789473685,2.7415204678362577,30.53801169590643,5.033348758259628,1.2577976608187136,174,10,29,1,9,48,30,38,0.065,0.853,0.08199999999999999,0.1906,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,13,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6771120166242814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207604853553869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3554882224028635,0.3224029391116286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090930876982247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358242988525229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NoPatNoDontSitonThat,2019/03/31,"We’ve allowed our five year old to develop unhealthy eating habits; how do we get him back on track? My son has developed some really bad eating habits. He refuses to eat most things and will only do so if he knows he’s getting a dessert at the end. I know it’s normal for kids to dislike veggies and new foods, but every meal is a chore and an unpleasant experience because of his whining, demands for a treat, and general negativity in regards to the meal.

Here’s an example of his daily meals, which are often the exact same every day:

Breakfast: Fruity Cheerios with half a banana (he’ll often refuse to finish the banana because he’s full). Offer him something else to eat? He won’t eat it and I can’t be late for work because he’s not eating. 

School Lunch/Snack: plain ham and cheese sandwich (he’ll eat about 1/2 of it); GoGurt; Cheetos; blackberries; fruit snacks; apple sauce

Dinner: whatever we’re having but his is often deconstructed to be a protein with dip (say chicken breast cut into strips with one of our extra CFA sauces); veggie with some kind of sweetener (sweet potato with marshmallows); fruit

Dessert: whatever we have in the house 

Big Issue 1: His diet is very carb heavy. If I pack a healthier lunch for him, he just won’t eat it at school. If we try to give him healthier dinners and not give him things like marshmallows for his vegetables, he won’t eat it. When it gets to the point where we take away dessert for not eating his dinner, he throws a fit.

Big Issue 2: the bigger issue really - I feel held hostage by his behaviors during eating. I mean, it’s a daily struggle to get him to eat and the threat of the tantrum is always there. My wife is more lenient on him because she cares more about him getting food in his stomach (though she’ll take away his dessert when necessary). I’m to the point where I want to tell him he can leave the dinner table when he’s disrupting everyone and that he can eat his dinner later or go to bed hungry.

 My wife and I are kind of health nuts and eat mostly protein and veggies with some carbs. We eat desserts sparingly. It’s difficult to see him eating an unhealthy diet when we’re doing well for ourselves. Feels selfish. Worse, discipline and authority is being challenged and I’m not sure what to do.

**Feel like I should note the kid has never been in trouble at school or elsewhere once. Not once. Just challenges our parental authority at home sometimes. I know that’s typical, but I didn’t want anyone thinking he’s this problem kid all day long. Mostly during eating times. ",3.7745209059233455,5.826255168699187,4.400116144018583,84.38036585365856,73.53252032520325,7.124738675958188,26.34843205574913,7.957251820313856,1.6558846689895468,2021,72,377,30,42,643,244,492,0.125,0.813,0.062,-0.9868,2,0,1,0,0,0,65.0,8,0,0,3,20,21,3,1,23,0,30,44,2,2,4,75,57,29,0,8,15,4,3,2,0,8,1,1,3,3,15,26,41,4,8,0,0,2,12,10,1,3,3,8,43,11,52,43,12,41,0,1,1,1,59,22,0,14,19,224,58,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04104515471730976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03449154262722863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269125314915064,0.03793047099126642,0.041187127764041626,0.1202804638536238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0502935598766604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06362543449060562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8580790195811447,0.04120752271787958,0.0,0.04369029360063234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312255698975317,0.04713537061062471,0.0,0.04825261036682532,0.0,0.0,0.07482571672926834,0.03524019675234768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11929611947574968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12886018454733034,0.09464053301046237,0.02803444894101941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05243374967118509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04948037621216722,0.0,0.0,0.056918315005608774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544580043316449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273581115956247,0.08132874485264277,0.0,0.0556445489547446,0.05223162043902875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048198698955277515,0.0,0.0,0.04365405439391785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373305507365397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038045079259325786,0.047641646276220105,0.0,0.0,0.048331328328684725,0.0,0.0,0.051761825461823216,0.10506620640827807,0.033426179540851995,0.03751644753373935,0.0,0.0,0.05477331628379229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326250630409652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047200587301714995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320203276086818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03922789901636356,0.0,0.14976882918230736,0.03930832361953026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03797538851113769,0.04878701837830679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515687217366572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649140411403712,0.0,0.0741775891670646,0.0,0.04311516884277791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554315311545922,0.03160762713693038,0.04846487220211434,0.0,0.02876376871945193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033490724630197116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040701070604975326,0.05819030031652631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04435212793375997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03591164021408421,0.0,0.050269822369110366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031765852416236286
parenting,malhoward,2019/03/31,"Just saw an IG acct for my dad's friend that concerns me Hi- I was just checking in on IG and had a recommended account. Looked at the bio- and I'm pretty sure it was my dd's best friend, a gay 16 yo guy, whose mom is a friend of mine. I love that boy and his whole family. 

The bio said ""loves big cock😍"" - among other things- and it concerns me very much!  It's dangerous!

His mom knows he's gay, but she told me he has tried to meet a person IRL that he first met online, and it worried her.  So I texted her & asked her to call me.  I dread telling her about it. I hate feeling like I am butting in, but I would TOTALLY want to know if my dd had a profile like that. 

Really just venting. Any support welcome. ",0.4166666666666643,2.2046191633986965,2.193228758169937,97.50552941176471,82.85620915032679,5.38718954248366,20.657516339869282,6.42735559955562,-0.023416209150327383,544,16,133,5,15,179,100,153,0.083,0.6890000000000001,0.228,0.9604,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,2,5,14,2,1,8,0,8,4,0,0,2,19,23,10,0,3,7,3,1,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,12,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,1,8,4,22,11,11,14,4,7,0,0,2,4,31,6,0,1,3,79,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17532312354328214,0.0,0.1100376391958959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127228133998294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16981160362534847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652280391966633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254185625243022,0.0,0.08181695737580809,0.1155984520415878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763711751383195,0.0,0.0,0.375046412291573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021921874383874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159755748948647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785517444790155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810623955376732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588124069215388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29208311044778074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790242778199354,0.0,0.0,0.11895036311803747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128790768743374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646208723784567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366084509093096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392016925532184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836222239413561,0.15250579860807853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414307307295266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10750063479096646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461820253973962,0.0,0.10985965691987658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335117619074325,0.09544084965952168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065720513535588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432783664105902,0.0,0.11494652950913085,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parent_mcparentface,2019/03/31,"my 10 year old can't tell time What it says in the title. George can read a digital clock but not an analogue one. He is protected at the moment because he is young and at the moment segregated from nuro typical students, however all of this will change next year. I'm worried other kids will pick on him. I have tried to teach him myself but I'm not getting anywhere I find myself avoiding it now and I often have to cut the sessions short because I find myself getting annoyed and I want to avoid traumatizing him or turning this into a chore, also this brings back some very painful memories for me which I'm not gonna talk about right now. I had to cut a session short yesterday which upset him as he wanted so bad to prove to me he could do it, which also made me feel bad. I know for a fact that he is not being taught about this at school, because I have looked through his school books and seen no evidence of this. What am I going to do?",4.222973296133919,4.9640356735751325,4.995854922279793,85.68739736946993,70.50259067357513,7.803746512554803,27.799521721801515,7.882392219407189,1.5634945396572348,747,25,155,9,13,242,118,193,0.212,0.763,0.025,-0.9915,1,2,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,9,9,3,3,9,0,16,1,0,2,3,28,33,11,0,3,7,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,1,1,15,5,0,3,5,2,0,2,6,9,0,1,4,4,21,0,22,24,2,24,0,0,2,0,14,9,0,3,13,105,36,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651239393495942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746282126911326,0.2768131988651,0.3031458652966084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17535707162784706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234962352917634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381561234319199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30301186309311273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321042678793186,0.0,0.09420789832981537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09109994329344168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920059801604234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15685056594870245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629263764496633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17394216667972684,0.0,0.11232644987471732,0.0,0.176385326715068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16580955699858568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156214698133673,0.0,0.1318227417275376,0.0,0.335525449712876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332353857734846,0.14488565305345166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09665872886624023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254334934820104,0.1803043916725208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13677323672511338,0.1955446282369976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834209795700494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134940623291516
parenting,Yeahnofucks,2019/03/31,Happy Mother’s Day! ...to all the UK mums here,-2.9160000000000004,-1.726766599999996,0.5200000000000031,100.24000000000002,115.0,2.0,5.0,3.1291,-2.655,34,0,8,0,2,12,10,10,0.0,0.667,0.333,0.6114,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5181574424015346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.855285253517153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Needadvicedesperate,2019/03/31,"Me [52M] just found out at least 4 of my 5 children [33F][30F][28M][24F][14F] are not mine. Wife [51F] wont say anything. I apologize if this is not an appropriate sub to ask. I posted this on  r/relationships but it was locked, and the mod suggested I ask here.

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First of all, I'm sorry if this ends up being long and rambly, I am not really in the best state of mind. My world has been turned upside down over the last couple of weeks. I just want to write as much context as possible so I can get the best advice needed. For obvious reasons, I am not yet comfortable talking about this with my friends/parents/siblings.

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Background: I met my wife when we were in highschool and we married in college. We have 5 beautiful children together - really, I consider them a total blessing regardless of what I'm about to bring up - and up until a couple of weeks ago I thought that we had the perfect marriage. We were typical highschool sweet hearts, we go out together, we never fight, I feel like I've done everything a loving husband should do. I am saying this not to make myself out as the perfect husband, for example my work has always meant I work long hours and maybe haven't always been there when she needed me, but I want to stress that I've never felt our marriage was in any trouble. And never in a million years would I ever have suspected my wife of being disloyal - she's always done everything she could to support me and take care of our children.

Now, my eldest daughter recently had an ancestry test done. And the results of the ancestry test strongly suggested I was not her father. She confided this to me privately, showing me the results and I could tell she was visibly upset by this. Of course, the first thing I did was reassure her that no matter what, she's my daughter and I'll always love her unconditionally. But secondly, the two of us decided to get an official paternity test since the ancestry tests are not completely reliable. It comes back and I am indeed not her biological father.

This news really broke me. I'm ashamed to say I broke down in tears in front of my daughter. The combination of finding out about my wife's infidelity and how upset I was making my daughter by how I was reacting. I really wish I had kept it in for her sake, but I didn't.

Following this I asked my other children, except my youngest, to come and see me. I wanted to know the extent of my wife's infidelity - if it was a one off, I could maybe work past it, especially given how long ago it would be. However I didn't want to tell my youngest as she is still in school, a teenager, and really I didn't think it was appropriate to tell her yet.

We tell the other three what has happened, I reassure them that I love them unconditionally and that I'll always be there dad, but that I need to know how long this has been going on. God, I can't begin to explain how touching their reaction was. They didn't care I wasn't their biological father, they were just upset at how heart broken I was. I feel like the only thing that has kept me going these last couple of weeks is their unwavering support.

So we have paternity tests for each of the three done. Not only are none of them my biological children, together four of my children have three different fathers. Which somehow made it worse. It's like, she wasn't just having an ongoing affair, she was having multiple? I can't explain how this make it worse, but it just does.

So I confront my wife with this, expecting her to confess and beg for forgiveness. She doesn't confess. She doesn't even take it seriously. She says the tests must be flawed. All four? How the hell am I supposed to take that seriously?

I keep bringing it up and she keeps brushing it off, getting progressively more annoyed at me. When I bring it up she will try and guilt trip me. ""We've been together since highschool, do you seriously not trust me?"" etc. But how am I supposed to trust her in the face of such overwhelming evidence?

Now that I have rambled and explained what has happened. I guess let me ask a few direct questions for advice

How can I reassure my children this doesn't change anything between us? I feel like the way I have reacted, total break downs, has made them second guess this despite however many times I reassure them.

How do I handle my youngest daughter? I feel like our marriage is beyond saving, and I will need to tell my daughter something. I don't want her to know the truth until she's older, but I also don't want my wife lying and making me out to be the villain.

Is there anyway, anyway at all, you think I could or should save my marriage? I've been with my wife my entire life it's almost impossible to see a life without her. I know that the answer should be a clear cut ""leave her"", but we have 5 kids together. If there's anything that can be done to save our marriage, I want to consider it seriously.

tl;dr: Found out at least 4 of my 5 kids are not mine. Wife refuses to confess her infidelity. Unsure of how to do what's best for my children and marriage.",4.06240528987443,5.650621681218276,5.205925060112211,80.82280690622498,71.78172588832487,8.35172321667112,28.595044082286936,8.916525866297963,2.31907614213198,3976,154,763,78,76,1314,342,985,0.11,0.768,0.122,0.9634,4,0,1,0,1,0,169.0,16,2,11,12,45,52,6,7,37,0,103,8,3,23,15,180,182,61,0,28,32,22,6,5,0,9,2,4,0,10,53,44,0,5,28,1,0,11,32,20,0,12,46,14,156,32,106,114,17,87,5,3,2,3,131,36,1,10,41,575,209,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351472380007357,0.09390160018830107,0.0,0.05303738788283887,0.0,0.0,0.04235656347572983,0.22035807082654496,0.0,0.0,0.03601841771294667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13075850371891698,0.0,0.19806270863350592,0.0,0.0,0.04072726961680962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1667523580997888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10800389868913236,0.0,0.0560305716152552,0.0912503324041949,0.05553341378095419,0.0,0.0,0.169154856215698,0.17581625493836373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533776877596135,0.0,0.0,0.04635054505370281,0.2710109409973525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04691179203970952,0.0,0.059070634073993475,0.03498327290304337,0.04791040881877548,0.0,0.0,0.09520411475092246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071239756977309,0.15135451334761954,0.050855272860272166,0.0,0.048409590037355614,0.09010500820711947,0.0,0.11614807199265853,0.0,0.0,0.08301700466845283,0.0,0.09030469678395042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669513835213922,0.0,0.09367459326932112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12552895919425675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05216043739985565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415650066941524,0.0,0.0,0.11643401317014887,0.08634805073473847,0.0,0.056082912564755436,0.0,0.05416090467263311,0.07482232570110782,0.12938156027531347,0.0,0.0,0.18749152295813384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341053964647332,0.10023464450790318,0.14141977140199752,0.05369879534789684,0.10642210915361652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053480147472015085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03893580321425103,0.15709325651241335,0.12255098553436546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035890854788848264,0.08056543638086154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050561649181020615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059710744905808716,0.050726394524342834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05933358294909116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965556723346464,0.05445744829769855,0.05229713066502943,0.05686522222883698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16848145335271802,0.0,0.05360400514321937,0.08441343607918972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762736735581172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04077549912449848,0.0,0.059290642052358365,0.0,0.0,0.04229838888071575,0.0,0.06067190480644525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020944854197993,0.0,0.0,0.11947059690720342,0.04257173523124621,0.23147130264193125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703759694701333,0.06787642329301702,0.0,0.04204876243275823,0.030884661677478432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03596015910243838,0.05761135286059312,0.05173968558138376,0.0,0.1274221674462355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186833424022048,0.04204162028324048,0.127457405257238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06090781498352861,0.05105693902647883,0.0,0.11567874179977622,0.0,0.10795292310961772,0.0752504714708173,0.0,0.0,0.03410810364737428
parenting,throwaway888881144,2019/03/31,Is verbal abuse as serious as regular? I'm an uncle and I've noticed lately that my nephew who is 5 is hated by his dad.. while the other kid is loved and does nothing wrong. He wants to do something he gets pushed off.. he asked a question and gets called stupid.. he asks to sit next to him he gets threatened with bed. Keep it up and your going to bed. Whispers to them so that they can't be heard that if they don't get away from them it's bedtime. Is this verbal abuse? Is there anything I can do about it? Literally everything they do is wrong and it irritates them to no extent.,1.3617493112947656,3.423697619834712,2.7755578512396717,93.12273071625349,81.06611570247934,5.686225895316805,20.82713498622589,6.816661863887847,0.30151184573002743,456,13,100,5,12,148,80,121,0.166,0.767,0.067,-0.9236,0,0,1,0,2,0,14.0,0,1,6,0,4,6,2,0,3,0,14,1,0,0,0,10,27,10,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,10,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,1,2,11,1,15,25,1,9,0,0,0,1,24,3,0,2,3,63,21,0,0.0,0.4178945090387961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14512195571930886,0.0,0.3297290059285035,0.0,0.16568769383644394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007422322595654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432606420708442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584930264445267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685447518225747,0.0,0.10022441244890233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17411023297061246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567489891541388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19893175844856345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159163782028249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18755142976628825,0.0,0.0,0.1692136675727149,0.2007769328695665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975536279288329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576371731276024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401646687828478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38562455801622586,0.0,0.0
parenting,tailwhipped,2019/03/31,"How dangerous are smoke-drenched second hand toys? (Smell lingers after cleaning) I got my daughter a set of second hand plastic toys (Paw Patrol). The seller didn’t mention it was from a smoking environment and stupid me just didn’t even think of that possibility. 

As soon as I opened the package, the fumes hit me. Many were grimy and discolored from what I guess were layers of years of smoke deposits. My mom was a smoker but this seemed extreme. 

I’ve washed the toys with dish detergent, soaked in vinegar and baking soda but the smell remains. Is it just the smell now? Or would they still pose somewhat of a health hazard?

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parenting,WHARRGARBLLL,2019/03/31,"My daughter turns 17 next month ace I swear to live her as much as I did our first year wig her, as it will be our last. God I love this frikkin kid.",-0.1095098039215685,1.1304113823529427,0.9770588235294112,108.24343137254904,82.23529411764707,4.533333333333334,17.215686274509807,3.1291,-1.3909490196078431,113,2,33,0,3,35,28,34,0.034,0.789,0.177,0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,8,1,4,2,1,5,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,19,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240847795338228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105719597873801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364365973495018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438741386221974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30411654647631875,0.0,0.2800843471798458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052057920236984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41442674412842107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24535633414442476
parenting,JadedHedgehog,2019/03/31,"Shout out to the single dads who can’t afford a lawyer I’m with you.

Just last week I had court order made and so far I have yet to see my youngest daughter. It’s been 6 months now, and I probably won’t see her until the end of April. 

I’ve been to the Attorney Generals office, the district clerks office, the district attorneys office, the judge, the sheriffs office, the local PD, CPS office. Everyone told me the same thing.

**We can’t give you legal advice.**

This is the most frustrating thing that I’ve ever dealt with. What’s the point of having a court order if you don’t even have to obey it?

But shoutout to the guys that have to listen to “gEt aN aTtOrNeY” even though they already charge hundreds of dollars an hour. Must be nice having money to afford one.",2.2329411764705887,4.47201268627451,3.2729673202614395,89.76435294117647,79.0,5.910065359477124,20.657516339869282,7.03164865440522,0.5073681045751628,603,16,120,7,15,193,98,153,0.022,0.947,0.03,0.0276,2,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,3,1,0,8,2,1,0,16,0,15,0,0,2,2,16,23,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,9,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,1,0,1,5,4,11,1,15,15,3,16,0,0,2,0,13,4,0,2,10,82,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126520854890704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24014494842352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19274340973060125,0.0,0.0,0.2874669676724838,0.1968463611345561,0.0,0.20794165709785686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136955112968502,0.20875734090848536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154743057238359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430817541520653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738629242852835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591376193041688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17369921831492555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746240613219022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057177004735566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346271289474213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468239602359888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2891491398855157,0.0,0.2138068653367473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20794165709785686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17455863310373507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MightyJoSlim,2019/03/31,"Seriously Craving a Fun, Sexy, Mom to be my bestie I need friends. 

Current friends are single with no kids and our lives have just taken such different paths.

I need a friend who doesn’t care when my house isn’t clean because they get what working full time and having kids is like, someone who will babysit without a question, or go halfsies on a babysitter so we can go drink wine and make fun of our kids and partners.
I also need you to be sexy because I still like going out and pretending I don’t usually look like shit/have booger’s and food all over me ❤️
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parenting,Valhallas_table,2019/03/31,"Over Reacting or Seriously concerned Hello 
First post. Great site,  thanks for your help .
Father to 4 daughters 19-30 yrs in age. 
Sorry to the grammar police 😎

My 20 yr old daughter wants to move in with her boyfriend who is a good kid, but walks around with blinders.  The problem I have is he Graduates in Dec 2019. He’s on the deans list here in Montana. No drink, no drugs. But he’s pretty busy and always broke, which I understand. Pretty much a nerd like my daughter. I’m scared for her safety. 
Here’s the problem, the house he lives in is never locked and it has 4 other roommates who are guys that bring guys over. They don’t even have keys to this place for the front door and of course the inside doors are hollow core. Also roommates have come and gone with crazy ex boyfriends and girlfriends coming in drunk looking for their ex. I have been there several times to validate this . My daughter isn’t going to college yet and will work instead . 

I’m concerned with her safety as this is a well known street for parties and all around things that college kids do. 

I suggested they move into a studio together instead so they would not deal with other roommates, as we all know how that can sometimes go horribly wrong. Plus the fact they can be safe with the endless game of others never locking the doors.  They would have keys and privacy. I like the young man.  Maybe Possibly wait a few more months until he finishes school. 


Being a guy I could probably live there at the large place and not worry. But my daughter is blonde with blue eyes,very pretty and noticed.  So I’m very concerned for her safety. 

I don’t think any woman would like no locks in a place like this. Yet love is blind. 

Thanks 

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parenting,HarMony20,2019/03/31,"How does this particular study make you feel? I’m in a mom group on Facebook as an expecting mother I stumble across interesting articles online anyways..I linked this study on a mom group and got dragged for about 4 hours on how I was the literal devil and an anti vaxer plague to society.  What about this study gets people so fired up to the point they light there pitchfork and torches?  So I thought I’d bring it to the reddit hive mind... https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-fallible-mind/201706/there-is-new-link-between-screen-time-and-autism%3Famp 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5849631/ 

Also I am going to clarify rn that yes it’s a correlation study and no correlation does not equal causation just thought it was a neat view point. So other then the big A word what has people so fired up to the point of calling me down to the lowest? ",8.050569430569434,11.729740195804196,5.6397252747252775,72.82134615384616,66.62237762237763,7.722077922077923,26.298201798201795,8.634040054169528,2.1397516483516483,740,23,111,13,14,209,92,143,0.153,0.79,0.057,-0.9334,1,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,0,1,1,0,11,3,0,0,13,1,4,0,0,3,0,16,13,13,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,5,5,7,2,19,8,1,16,1,0,1,0,8,12,0,0,2,70,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13796768041011578,0.0,0.1869300883056811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761666763253961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30195448648558026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723350781157113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901368652917676,0.0,0.0980495781766268,0.0,0.1379835031430554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990175705256824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516136003126393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484008752944612,0.4041169258850588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662511650759002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23921335765421806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4892738977347175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739301652877404,0.10060035050611416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075255808401435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flamiethedragon,2019/04/01,Do you seperate your media that isn't appropriate for all ages? I have a seven year old. All of my games are kept together including ones she shouldn't play. On the same shelf are a lot of comics with questionable materiel. I also have my book shelf which has a lot of books that kids shouldn't read. Do other parents worry about media that is just present but the kid probably wont engage in or do they seperate it.   ,4.326666666666668,5.579760481927714,4.732710843373496,85.77007028112452,70.68674698795179,7.9429718875502004,25.88152610441768,8.344100000000001,1.5266080321285145,332,10,67,5,6,105,61,83,0.098,0.902,0.0,-0.6829999999999999,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,1,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,0,2,13,14,3,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,1,1,6,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,8,2,8,10,5,6,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,4,4,51,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390862965687342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5083474086939945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31371884825353485,0.0,0.20258989039724246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319709370035932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3223403549720157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349149563934865,0.0,0.2990510250846948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036186687319829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19252695485331128
parenting,whit1and,2019/04/01,"April fools prank on 4 & 5 year olds My 4 year old daughter is on a little league 
t-ball team with 9 other children. Every game, one of the kid’s parents is responsible for providing snacks at the end of the game. Well, lucky us, we got snack duty for today...April Fools Day. 

So the game is done and the coach calls all the kids over to present the game ball to one kid and then announces that it’s snack time. The kids are always SO excited about their snack. I then present every child with their very own...brussel sprout! 

All the parents were aware of the planned prank and were ready with their phones to record their reactions. It was priceless. ",3.3017755681818173,5.267815796875002,2.8684943181818205,95.22252840909091,74.625,5.904545454545455,22.57386363636364,6.574015621080383,0.283725,514,14,110,4,11,151,81,128,0.049,0.847,0.103,0.72,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,4,2,4,5,0,0,11,0,8,4,0,0,2,11,9,7,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,7,4,1,0,7,0,0,0,2,1,2,5,0,8,3,16,4,2,17,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,1,12,59,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16119220742103038,0.20989768610845824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19781180261173906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493465190104044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19824484599432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158017595165342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32643824928763515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493716551133885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941603181362952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065572642519327,0.0,0.26254205656919344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4302106701930071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296084533166875,0.0,0.18362578722345865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330236914852839,0.0,0.0,0.15984092301273212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741793265173809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24950120942896084
parenting,jillevator,2019/04/01,"Even Mr. Rogers had a difficult time with parenting I’ve just finished a [biography on Mr. Rogers](https://www.amazon.com/dp/1419727729/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_awdb_t1_TITOCb1WK4ZXQ)  I don’t think this is very well known so I thought I would put it out there.  

Good grief the shit his kids put him through.  He would come home from work and his kids would be fighting so much he thought they were going to kill each other.  They did typical kid things like refusing to eat their dinner, and other not-so-typical things, like growing a marijuana farm in their basement.  Part of Mr. Roger’s parenting journey involved discovering his basement full of grow lights and making his teenage sons destroy all the plants before they got caught by the police.  They were also careless drivers as teens, included drinking and driving, and got into multiple bad car accidents.  Mr. Rogers once yelled at his son for an hour trying to impress the importance of safe driving (and then thanked his son for the opportunity to express his feelings, because, you know, Mr. Rogers).  There were broken bones, hospital visits and near drowning experiences that Mr. Rogers was said to be almost traumatized by.

So if you are having a difficult time parenting and blaming it on your own shortcomings, take heart because even one of the greatest, most patient, kindest humans to ever exist found it challenging.  If even Mr. Rogers had trouble with parenting, maybe the rest of us can shrug off some of the self-blame we feel when it seems like we aren’t good enough people and we aren’t doing enough for our kids.
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parenting,bbwolverine,2019/04/01,"How can I not resent my spouse? TLDR: My child is behind in development and my spouse has checked out. How do I keep from hating my spouse?

The first time I noticed there was something wrong with my child was at age 2 and a half, all other children were saying at least 40 different words and my child was only saying 3. I mentioned this to my spouse and the repose was that I was being paranoid. I trusted my spouse. Later it became more and more apparent that my spouse just didn't want to hear that our child might be different and if I wanted help I was on my own.

This was something I had to do in a country that I am new to. Here I am trying to help my child with no support from my spouse who has lived in the USA all their lives. Jumping through the school system bureaucracy and hoops in a language that is not my primary language, with a culture I am not that familiar with. To say it is very difficult is severely understating it. Even people who have lived in the USA all their lives have issues understanding all the steps that it takes to get help.

That's where I am right now, my spouse has been very awful through the whole process, impeding me from getting help because ""I am being crazy and our child doesn't need any special help"". Well I finally had our child diagnosed and he needs A LOT of help. 

My spouse was not fazed by the news or did my spouse even try to help out. Is like my spouse totally checked out. meanwhile I am trying to navigate my child's needs and finding him help and trying not to cry myself to sleep every night because I am overwhelmed and tired.

My child has a huge delay in development, like 2 years behind any peer. I understand that this is hard on my spouse, but I also am trying not to hate him as I take all of the brunt of this task. I just wish I could go into fetal position and give up. But I continue to fight for my child every day by myself and resenting my spouse every passing day.

I don't know why I am so upset. but how can I keep from hating my spouse? ",4.133950508950509,5.004111457002455,4.8361767286767305,86.27928439803442,70.79361179361179,7.878167778167779,26.083625833625835,8.07648339933343,1.3921527553527555,1581,47,331,21,28,509,181,407,0.094,0.8190000000000001,0.086,-0.7368,3,0,2,0,1,0,32.0,3,0,2,1,14,16,6,2,15,1,46,3,1,3,6,62,68,25,0,8,13,14,1,2,0,1,2,4,0,11,20,22,0,3,4,0,2,4,10,10,1,2,14,5,59,6,47,49,12,36,0,1,0,0,51,18,0,4,15,241,79,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814099402767941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158890422104562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10388429727051234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803184147452981,0.0,0.09359724409225936,0.1099045237908508,0.0,0.0,0.08648456399581217,0.0,0.17804893797999102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255847001472928,0.0,0.2153748366995959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093341455514802,0.07787878229327995,0.0724780803997879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890355709578161,0.08173950241049392,0.048425803065542776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632984115390169,0.2523764713860289,0.0,0.0,0.09603587258046634,0.0,0.4569062656566821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893525860983093,0.0,0.15147398710610968,0.0,0.0,0.04682821707544791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325687829763267,0.0,0.3009617272024145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244099355950633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039247103823048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18954247775438693,0.0,0.08229464346327156,0.0,0.07996215554205371,0.0,0.0,0.09701013928320427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480470166579158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907266081014026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07276736635450498,0.0,0.20328302330158207,0.0,0.08623528196324877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626105097738112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526977047112527,0.0,0.0,0.1311949230210878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669329429739046,0.0,0.0,0.1281319755005104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0496856065322163,0.09793433046436784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892539887044547,0.0,0.0,0.1774095534630272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061143372712331,0.1005160482869269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661243555657772,0.0,0.07688717798540573,0.09513195041508654,0.09798526406444054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316182777949153,0.0,0.05487130910095992
parenting,JasonMetz,2019/04/01,"1 year old son keeps hitting mom in the face I have a 1 year old that just seems to always try and hit mom in the face. He will do it to me SOMEtimes but it seems way more common with mom. Even when shes been gone at work all day, as soon as she gets home and picks him up he starts hitting her. I try and just grab his hands and hold them while telling him NO but most of the time he seems to think we are playing with him. btw hes laughing the whole time he does this. and what makes it even worse is that most of the time its hard for mom and I not to laugh bc hes so stinking cute but we know its not good to laugh. I have no idea where he gets the idea of hitting things considering i dont hit things and dont watch things that involve alot of hitting . Although, every now and then i will swat the dogs whenever they are in his face too much or begging for food when the he is eating. I dont think its enough to cause the kid to do it, but im keeping an open mind.  Hes at that age where he loves doing things even though you just told him not to. I'm still not sure why he chooses to hit mom so much though.. Anyone have any ideas? Mom really doesnt like it, it makes her feel sad bc she misses him so much and when she gets home she feels like he didnt miss her at all and she will even get to the point where shell kind of ignore him for a bit to see if he notices. Oh and i have caught myself swatting his hands a cpl of times when he does it out of pure reaction, not something im proud of and somthing i want to fix. idk im still very new to all of this so im still learning alot ever day. For the sake of my Wife, I hope someone has some helful tips lol ",0.5592227682227673,2.012677072972977,1.7946191646191672,102.16604832104835,80.97297297297297,4.917280917280918,17.42833742833743,5.1180229611663055,-0.9632522522522526,1287,23,337,4,33,408,176,370,0.134,0.799,0.067,-0.9787,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,2,2,27,18,0,0,17,1,25,8,5,4,6,67,59,33,0,3,14,8,6,2,0,3,0,0,2,1,21,18,2,4,13,1,0,2,12,5,0,0,5,9,39,13,39,44,15,42,0,3,2,1,50,13,0,11,28,204,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059909309853313,0.0,0.0,0.048962094719224594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034368925650454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860475130921153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396326793798312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286737729951468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260144071454505,0.0,0.2531484562505548,0.0,0.0,0.07367341166055755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439467814068106,0.0,0.19021982976799276,0.06512762424259609,0.060662641629642584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281017015534966,0.05143642120656351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870620202944014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504669630697321,0.0,0.0,0.06038972236443664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449736474124562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444263692362647,0.07151169918512279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438358445098023,0.3110870431005059,0.0,0.0,0.127992838023797,0.0,0.07497634722270928,0.039569014572002736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070350588519539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498231434323322,0.0,0.09612038343465062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269891939705317,0.5059493113570233,0.0,0.0,0.1587836395372811,0.0,0.0,0.06953751711600513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197185062041805,0.1511026215651076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806275218536789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046124691088486464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057374239560208214,0.1966367845168632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100490003005327,0.05542869390511112,0.07120929671176612,0.0,0.05096158103192515,0.0,0.17249656045582887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785862920401721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293069248659874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19133294030933307,0.09226868023356592,0.1414781874135905,0.0,0.1679338323493715,0.0,0.0,0.06879855959640889,0.0,0.0977658002705157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940708634256201,0.042467140837087886,0.05714981182301615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06496830449903664,0.08038481427069356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052416456844757625,0.0,0.07337359026477147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273056994258763
parenting,SpaceMom-LawnToLawn,2019/04/01,"Does anyone have experience with petechiae? My 10mo (11mo on the 10th) son had very mild petechiae on his armpits about 2 weeks back after playing with my brother. Since then he’s had small lone spots appear on his brow line, groin, legs, back, neck, shoulders.. everywhere! But only line spots.

This morning he awoke with a mild but true petechial rash on the back of his right hand. He has a small cluster of 4-5 petechiae spots under his left eye. The petechial rash on his hand has spread (small amounts) up his left arm. He saw the pediatrician today who was just as stumped as we are because he’s otherwise been totally normal- good appetite, temperament is decent except random fussiness but he has canines and first molars coming in. No fevers, he’s just run hot (99.7Fish) a few nights. 

Where he had the rubber tourniquet for his blood draw he did develop another small petechial rash. We get results tomorrow but I’m sick with worry tonight. Does anyone has experience with something like this?",4.960796703296705,7.443615340659338,4.795700549450551,80.93992445054947,71.41758241758242,7.4071428571428575,30.05631868131868,8.278499904357787,2.3884934065934083,800,34,136,13,16,246,118,182,0.117,0.78,0.103,-0.4087,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,1,7,5,0,0,8,0,13,14,12,1,2,22,18,8,0,1,7,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,9,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,1,7,5,11,4,21,11,3,30,0,1,2,0,21,16,0,2,12,72,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918542500252505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523068162588669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4161940426281837,0.0,0.10998196435077054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541529910135274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31577238715684025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35296949833210456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534646113836573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426166656866423,0.0,0.0,0.15132719522099058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920523146949101,0.0,0.0,0.08814378362730507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693113429325419,0.17677266146028894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372170496530377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15407714356406998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924475504093102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388956341412637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101645286796166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488648631006997,0.0,0.0,0.14472152403049104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322461299077186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,raptir1,2019/04/01,"I love being told how to handle my child by someone who has never raised a child Just need to rant. We're visiting my dad and his wife (not my mom). She has no children. It's just been constant. 

*Why do we need to keep it so cold?* 73 isn't cold. He's not going to sleep if it's 75 and he's sweating. 

*Why is he crying? Let me just try to entertain him.* No, he's tired, he doesn't want to play a game. 

*If he's tired why is it taking so long for him to fall asleep?* He's four months old, that's what they do. Also you're clanging pots in the sink...

*Well why don't you turn the monitor off so he can't hear it?* ...that's not how baby monitors work, you just have super thin walls and the bedrooms are right off the kitchen. ",-2.1918894230769226,-0.4334982562499992,0.3062500000000004,103.82759615384614,103.4375,3.4615384615384617,13.028846153846152,5.369823440869387,-1.3523269230769228,549,11,141,4,26,183,95,160,0.123,0.812,0.064,-0.7592,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,2,1,2,11,5,0,0,6,0,15,7,3,2,1,20,25,11,0,5,9,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,3,9,4,1,1,0,3,0,3,10,0,1,1,2,4,13,5,12,21,0,14,0,0,0,1,28,6,0,2,5,78,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12721937679249448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719132336021288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17474624831676727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041107448728876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17929917274830834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140112361793414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16267411644285576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14078428906465046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435794753096825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863171987438384,0.1269792905945615,0.0,0.0,0.2359174653447064,0.12269534892682755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693184400637506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585682349586534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919883784156533,0.0,0.13479131400845198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196113316438014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656871950886446,0.0,0.15201153096423906,0.0,0.10800755904082067,0.1730376547497014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383183502953232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303557564927544,0.0,0.5741940813286979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581500978268268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,secretasianmanmanman,2019/04/01,Need some advice. My ex-wife asked our child how I treat my new wife. Not sure how to respond. Earlier tonight my daughter was on facetime with her mom.  After that was over my daughter ran up to her step-mom and said “my mom wants to know how daddy treats you.”  We were pretty shocked at what was said.  I mean is it really appropriate to ask your 6 y/o a question like that?  I really don’t know what to do something like this.  Anyone ever have to deal with something like this?,1.973424971363116,3.9428991030927847,3.0896219931271496,92.1079266895762,78.58762886597938,5.9605956471935855,22.117983963344788,6.937597516519254,0.4989001145475367,371,11,80,4,9,119,66,97,0.043,0.818,0.139,0.8590000000000001,0,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,2,2,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,3,2,17,18,4,0,2,1,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,7,2,14,6,13,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,2,7,50,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16208087254012354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597631693358593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101218402029498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099901935112002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003393874863705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823095860683015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24309905385665145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806750684474282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.58277550327413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298642720081965,0.0,0.16019297041840225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687438287622631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580620306526208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21251409545639924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31555024959614514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553811953987191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632533100912874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783118118124386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,User0728,2019/04/01,"Help. My daughter has become abusive to me and won’t do anything I say. I worry she will seriously hurt me or I her. My 14 year old daughter spent the last two weeks visiting her grandmother. When she left she was perfectly fine and happy. A day or two in to her visit she texted me and told me that even though I had already already told her that she was too young to date that she had a boyfriend. I don’t take too kindly to my children telling me that they plan on purposely disobeying me. So I told her that she no longer had a phone and had her grandma confiscate it. 

Today she finally comes home and is increasingly rude and defiant. I told her to go to her room. She refused and then proceeded to taunt me and try to incite me into hitting her. I have a nursing license and I try to be very mindful about how I discipline them. I always worry I could get in trouble. 

She tells me I’m stupid. That she hates me. That I will fail out of school (I’m trying to get started on my masters), and calls me a bitch. Had I said any of these things to my parents I would have been picking my teeth up off the floor. 

I finally just go outside to call her grandmother. Now this is an interesting twist because a few days ago she had called me and told me how much she had been missing them and asked me if she could keep them on wed, thurs, and fri. And then continued on to saying that pawpaw could keep them on Saturday and Sunday. I was kind of blown away. That’s five days out of the week and I have no intention of basically giving away primary custody of my children who I have full physical and legal custody of. 

So I’m crying on the phone asking her what do I do and she is steadily pressuring me to let me my oldest just live with her. I’m saying no no. I don’t want to do that. That’s my kid.  

I go inside to talk to her and I can’t find her anywhere. I run outside. Can’t find her. I drive around for an hour. Nothing. I see a cop and I flag him down and tell him what’s going on. He tells me to follow him to the station and we make a report. He tells me to go home and check one more time and he would start patrolling. 

I go home and she is there. I call the station back and tell them she is here but I would like them to come talk to her. They do and they talk to me as well. I’m desperately hoping a talk with police officers will help straighten her out. 

I go inside and she’s sitting on the couch. I tell her she needs to go to her room. She tells me no. This is already getting wordy so I will just say that over the next three hours she wouldn’t get away from me and kept repeating that she hated me, that I was stupid, used all sorts of profanity, and attacked me physically several times. 

Now that is where I draw the line. She comes at me and I am much stronger than her. I grab her hoodie and I put her on the floor and restrained her. Hard.  And then I got the belt and whooped her butt. Something I haven’t done in years. She never yelped or cried. She was taunting me for more. 

I stopped. I realized that I was doing exactly what she wanted. She wanted me to get physical with her because every kid now a days knows they can cry abuse. I have bruises and cuts all over me. My arms, my face, and ear. She will probably have some marks on her backside. 

It did not stop there. I did not get the belt back out but she repeated tried to hit me and her sister. I continued to just grab her and put her down and restrain her. 

I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE.   I’m afraid to keep calling the police. They were very nice and understanding but I don’t want to be “those people”. 

I told her I was enrolling her in online school and she would be coming to work with me. That she was essentially grounded for the foreseeable future.   She still won’t do a single thing I ask. I’m a prisoner in my own home. 

Important to add that about four months ago she had a fit and threatened self harm. I had to call the police to take her to the hospital. Psych was willing to place her inpatient but I chickened out and we followed up with outpatient. I really just wanted it documented her erratic state. They diagnosed her with mild depression and anxiety. No mood or personality disorders. 



Side note. I understand spanking is a hot topic. It is not something I have done in years but I won’t even lie, all the things she was saying to me it took everything I had not to punch her in the face. ",1.1022952248170128,3.2727713498896236,2.716564889043802,92.57232380620428,82.74172185430464,6.110542581619612,21.56774718252585,7.355638262480363,0.6619551434878588,3417,109,756,52,95,1120,353,906,0.109,0.8370000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.9935,2,0,2,0,2,0,86.0,2,0,12,5,30,28,8,2,34,0,82,7,6,6,6,131,150,66,0,16,19,4,4,1,0,14,1,7,7,6,35,65,0,10,7,0,2,22,22,17,1,6,38,12,188,10,96,89,13,118,0,4,1,1,144,46,2,8,49,549,223,7,0.0,0.11619068426645805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692847739012942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232532292141824,0.0,0.04079886080570619,0.0,0.0,0.03334369386154728,0.0,0.03750962982112655,0.0,0.048626936917824666,0.0,0.0,0.04034946373403465,0.043649205904919344,0.13751594478754597,0.055781400873097055,0.13820258059146154,0.07540573385218248,0.0,0.05977935685963245,0.05415240180016986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004051993432493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689481849368549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11744507599836038,0.0,0.16157927240243733,0.1264872925129974,0.0,0.04223150953498312,0.04976682472513469,0.0,0.0,0.056195345451454534,0.0,0.0,0.10035427898874567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477083758927905,0.0,0.041311887551603296,0.0,0.044067133680241184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742513210609578,0.08962939810586923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15370434154149712,0.04703631840914126,0.222929812395512,0.0,0.03921566650437877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05219587098000392,0.04392337372698719,0.09681863087016436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657307298209106,0.0,0.19673386499311526,0.048700208167596085,0.09657401778202113,0.0,0.05249016756606414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074667348312186,0.0,0.10211933876552416,0.053893817895577865,0.039967926856009126,0.0,0.0,0.05327381486169045,0.050138921677827936,0.0,0.023954739886303828,0.0,0.04329648215426524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032729488571504164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049508717434200315,0.0,0.03913717095899112,0.0,0.072088869254397,0.03635688201664552,0.03781678748036717,0.0,0.05214648311560968,0.0,0.0,0.047047882652809465,0.0,0.051451225524935744,0.0,0.03322560374656445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05444464571568392,0.0,0.0,0.03399287249373125,0.04281317533431827,0.05122839197857123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052865189298571744,0.0,0.0,0.09858215193493926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031411392587112084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046641013386612286,0.19496254828270448,0.0,0.09924675489594617,0.03907245166705471,0.0,0.05115145680708977,0.05539262303595074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549502983138326,0.0,0.0,0.06941072951937043,0.0,0.03915731504130745,0.08198651582741001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0737324820962031,0.15764145088419998,0.3428516294985107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772478624366038,0.0,0.04817405583091933,0.0,0.0571823400016343,0.0,0.04647695476804223,0.2811151919606111,0.05447676862616172,0.13315904611692553,0.0,0.09579500411525622,0.10208885544230084,0.0,0.04234822581571953,0.0,0.08091368278143245,0.1446028148271897,0.0,0.07866162130634817,0.0,0.04408599033111279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03569615026401962,0.09958950624404499,0.0,0.1393247589972912,0.0,0.0,0.0947257185431978
parenting,jhonotan1,2019/04/01,"Picky eater, but not in the way I expected (advice) My son is 4.5 and has developed some picky habits in the last few months. He used to be a great eater and would try just about anything I'd put in front of him (except for potatoes and mushrooms).

Now he won't eat half the food he used to. It kind of started with him not liking things to be mixed together (stews, soups, etc), so I'd just set portions of ingredients aside and serve him everything before it was combined. Then it was no meat, except chicken breast, chicken nuggets, and *sometimes* hamburger mixed in with spaghetti, which was fine since we're not huge meat eaters anyway. Then it was no meat at all, except chicken nuggets. Then it was no salad (which he used to love) and no green veggies, except broccoli. Now he'll only really eat a few things...

Here's where I'm confused and need advice: he eats his veggies raw, and will eat broccoli, carrots, bell peppers, onions, and a few others I'm probably forgetting. He also eats just about any fruit. He also will eat beans, yogurt, and nut butter for protein. To me, that sounds like an excellent diet...for a baby or toddler. I feel like at this age, he should be developing his taste buds and eating real meals, rather than just pieces and ingredients. What also concerns me is the regression to only eating a fraction of the things he used to.

Am I way overthinking this? Or is this any cause for concern? Maybe I'm just a crazy person??? Please be nice, he's my oldest, so I have zero experience with this...",4.749504240052186,6.0740230958904124,4.986966731898238,84.07440639269406,69.75342465753424,7.616699282452707,27.26092628832355,7.957251820313856,1.622889889106328,1192,39,228,15,21,375,161,292,0.07400000000000001,0.838,0.08800000000000001,0.8141,0,0,0,0,0,0,61.0,0,0,0,1,18,10,0,1,12,0,20,15,1,5,1,46,32,23,0,5,16,1,1,3,1,6,0,1,0,1,17,15,13,0,1,0,0,2,8,1,0,2,5,6,13,9,30,17,8,23,0,0,1,2,20,8,0,4,13,142,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755304210334552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154726926031709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221532124902969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390927708608026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764251068844511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226372806061496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7352172296602041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016636174141896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071904040734602,0.08785533514974075,0.0,0.0,0.045412661761328514,0.06416314626055761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860345667238007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902026243405047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935274698372518,0.0,0.07321040497659148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13163576493496862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081060650055925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023024426496784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716886854269012,0.0,0.0,0.06659594994041054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661520264488816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842212871964385,0.0,0.09858881167961353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683469276892742,0.0,0.0,0.0902878862421616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222800548542592,0.057537154240348866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429507668747676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08882835183419542,0.0,0.06357081812300394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17900531100660644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060977816835720136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102818690775143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14258036032629798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380129538745474,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jhonsmith78601,2019/04/01,"TOP BABY NAMES FOR 2019 & WHAT THEY MEAN Choosing a baby name is an important task for any parent and also the exciting and meaningful thing for every parent life. So what are the [top baby names for 2019](https://parentology.com/top-baby-names-for-2019-and-what-they-mean/) and what they Mean.

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parenting,_Zyrax_,2019/04/01,"Baby Bonding Employer Denial? Hello Folks,

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My wife and I are expecting our second son. In doing so, my wife and I would like to schedule baby bonding time in December. My wife's employer is denying baby bonding time she's requested in December. It would be for a 2 week continuous period.

I'm unable to find information regarding employers capability to deny baby bonding time in California.  Would someone be able to point me in the right direction for information regarding utilization of that baby bonding time? ",7.222527472527473,9.57793520879121,9.060219780219784,53.259780219780254,65.04395604395604,12.672527472527475,40.47252747252747,12.031772070788634,6.536182417582419,428,25,54,17,7,151,57,91,0.058,0.914,0.028,-0.3939,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,9,3,0,4,0,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,12,4,0,15,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,9,36,10,3,0.2284131226499225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474855229611964,0.2775469450817933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087654560494117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115911141342759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159242305499933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506355871493494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935336975926801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5327581146673788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832192293226004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4867743865135787,0.0,0.2775469450817933,0.0
parenting,weirddogmom,2019/04/01,What are the pros and cons of having your second right after the first? One and done? Our girl was born 1/31 and is so perfect. We've talked about another one by next year or the next but 2 under 2 seems like a lot of work and I know for sure I'm done if we have another. ,1.0549999999999995,2.313067833333335,2.66,97.365,79.0,6.133333333333334,17.0,6.742157984588678,-0.4635999999999996,210,3,53,2,5,69,47,60,0.0,0.8440000000000001,0.156,0.8566,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,2,1,0,3,2,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,2,13,10,8,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,4,3,7,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,4,7,36,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4579450483078706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4469220903088384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18573935828486665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000653081926245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668107559212336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18564431595100905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4644628105772437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29593668407209706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18648071052948448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19878936921197504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20580443473279608,0.0,0.0,0.17551181538653124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897078084496175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14061853852151254
parenting,MidasLew,2019/04/01,"Discussion: What apps/websites are you using to help raise your kids? I'm a single father and struggling to maintain my business while also making sure my child is not missing any dental appointments or enrichment programs. 

Parents of reddit - please let me know if you are utilizing any apps that can help me with this or anything child related. Would also like to stop this youtube addiction that i'm currently enabling :( ",7.865135135135133,9.533416864864863,6.9252432432432425,71.77245945945947,62.78378378378379,9.703783783783782,37.77297297297297,9.888512548439397,4.200100540540541,344,17,50,7,5,105,58,74,0.094,0.736,0.171,0.6692,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,1,2,4,0,1,1,0,6,1,0,2,1,12,12,7,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,2,5,10,1,3,0,1,0,0,11,0,0,3,4,33,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26861107699717124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39409008493114817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351192856737333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276522931164576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303118622049176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541434424144982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519594812574443,0.0,0.12037801439353953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644731216057314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27359672351779474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704719055024338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20600044144063007,0.0,0.25758953922103905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322279661037461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128094632202716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17503464787715728,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SarahCannah,2019/04/01,"Personal parenting fail #5725: Reassured 6yo there was no reason to worry about the dark and“Franken-Einstein” because that was just a story about a sad monster who wanted friends and now she’s upset that she’s going to die one day, alone. My little one wanted to keep the door open because she was worried about monsters. I managed to get her to understand that mummies are just people that got buried and can’t move or anything, are basically fancy dirt, which seemed to make her feel better. Then she wanted to know about “Franken-Einstein.” I explained that was a book written by a teenager about a guy brought to life by a scientist who was scary to people because he was creepy-looking, but really just lonely and she burst out crying, said she hates Mary Shelley and pointed out that her two best friends who are a year older will die before her and she will be alone, just like Franken-Einstein. So, nighty-night!",7.364736842105263,7.741989479532165,6.398298245614036,79.6469210526316,63.561403508771924,8.477426900584796,34.64385964912281,7.908726449838941,2.6039445614035093,735,30,128,7,10,222,105,171,0.203,0.6970000000000001,0.1,-0.9409,1,4,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,3,12,11,1,1,9,0,13,1,0,2,0,25,30,9,2,3,6,1,1,1,2,2,1,1,1,2,10,8,0,1,6,1,0,3,2,5,0,3,10,2,14,6,18,17,1,13,0,3,0,0,23,5,0,2,6,84,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29824008144169056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848341736622894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633069376846588,0.0,0.12251652557368164,0.0,0.15109831238212482,0.12733876570309974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815546311413375,0.09285530266973886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988573833697893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280070336653635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224774544353461,0.0,0.07522369966675804,0.0,0.08182725233827852,0.0,0.115154099998953,0.0,0.0,0.14256301128153756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421506160011298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279761963765573,0.0,0.0,0.07912773960605482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169745667264476,0.07034144152588433,0.14430596181817462,0.0,0.0,0.1209070859390256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610788584854846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302814170854245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13511564217523564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19512938768643687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159872947115444,0.0,0.0,0.19963545120201948,0.12571793655911231,0.0,0.0,0.136107805313046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223738789901198,0.14803560132256066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369581189949876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107414518254068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064771131783013,0.1498884414863728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547697155199083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29243771643132976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09271851310052408
parenting,TheFredBeard,2019/04/01,"How do you talk about sex with a teen who doesn't want to talk about sex? We have tried journals, car rides, books, etc. and get no where. Is my son doomed? My kids are 13, 12, and 7. The older two are males. I have no issues talking about sex and puberty with my 12 year old son. He's very open and we had a conversation about puberty a couple of nights ago when he got out of the shower. He tells me about girls he likes and I took him out to get something for one girl who he has a crush on. No problems with that one. 

The older one is a different story. He has always been uncomfortable talking about sex and I gave him a journal a couple years back to write down any questions. He did at first but hasn't anymore. He's a late bloomer and is just now showing early signs of puberty and he'll be in high school in early September. Maybe that's part of it but he has become closed off about discussing anything related to sex ed lately. He won't write questions in his journal so I started taking him on car rides to try and ease the tension. He wasn't engaging but I kept talking. He eventually asked me to stop and said he wasn't ready to talk about that yet. This isn't new behavior. This has been ongoing since he was younger. He has books that haven't been opened and YouTube videos that he never watched that talk about it. 

I want to talk to him about sex but don't want to add more drama. ",1.5602644587246637,3.590590996539796,2.6035232328225426,94.78020328719722,80.21107266435986,5.7894710825506674,21.39409293129016,6.868970318607317,0.30686742461690564,1094,32,246,12,28,347,147,289,0.098,0.883,0.018000000000000002,-0.9361,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,0,1,18,5,0,1,12,0,28,6,0,1,1,40,42,18,0,4,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,4,12,22,0,2,2,5,0,5,12,3,0,5,13,2,19,2,38,26,3,40,1,1,1,6,51,15,0,2,21,144,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054173727398647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498940386519739,0.0,0.0,0.06945930861775916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129631805450956,0.0,0.0,0.08405325053969111,0.0,0.09548794532206084,0.0,0.0,0.07854004059861389,0.0,0.0,0.11280658959530025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260339068585801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067154917870278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139140934810533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08688098992775016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10672879994791007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169140148926397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791745954112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660855343962984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23043874857253815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049900880134331714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026142539403789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877735212655121,0.09864830925987396,0.0,0.09585230723454274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717968343092876,0.0,0.20763993403611194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060863167827062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773503850792392,0.0,0.0,0.22884234850644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715937761778044,0.0,0.0,0.10337203499787556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449200074579209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863304824502804,0.0,0.0,0.07229584855068655,0.0,0.0,0.08539435866039664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679723863737395,0.6567758349379749,0.08927564100397184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348228844154935,0.1386939209238043,0.0,0.09977680910983998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427693234966292,0.1807360321346059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155077030260076
parenting,seaofsad,2019/04/01,"What do you do when the relationship is one-sided? My husband's parents live about an eight hour drive away. They used to live one hour away but moved when we announced we were expecting. Before our son was born, it was a day trip, no big deal, according to them. Our son just turned two. His grandpa has seen him once when he was 6 months old because we made the drive there and visited. He's never come to see us. My mother-in-law came when he was born and has visited a couple of times since (and when she's here she sleeps until noon and we barely see her). For my son's birthday last week, we got a call from my MIL and nothing from my FIL. Usually we hear from them maybe one a month. Maybe. They don't ask about their one and only grandchild. They seem to have little to no interest whatsoever. MIL said she would call Saturday night. Didn't hear a word. My husband texted her, she said she was busy eating dinner and would call the next day. Nothing. This morning she texted that she ""forgot"" and we should know we need to remind her. Who forgets about their grandson??? I don't understand this behavior. If you're not interested, just tell us!

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We planned to visit them in May. I've been dreading it, but going along for my husband who is desperately trying to keep this relationship in tact and he is hurt that his parents show no interest, don't return his calls or texts, etc. But he is getting fed up too. I will be about 27 weeks pregnant with our second when we go, and we will be staying in a tiny room in their house with our son. We are seriously considering canceling this trip. Are we wrong? I don't think his dad is taking time off work, and generally his parents will sleep until noon so we will probably be on our own most of the time. My husband also has a  younger brother (early 20s) that lives his parents. We haven't heard from him in months, not when we announced to his family that we were pregnant nor when we found out the gender. Nothing. I don't know what to do because if we cancel, his parents will be pissed, but at the same time, why should we drag our toddler and my pregnant ass there when they can't even return a call? Not just once, but over and over, since our son was born, this has been a reoccurring and disappointing theme. I feel sad for my husband and that his parents are missing out on their awesome grandson. They just have no idea. I can't understand why they don't seem to care or think this relationship should be one-sided with us making all the calls and visits. Thankfully my parents are close and extremely involved. Maybe that is skewing my expectations? When do you give up? ",3.472109154456245,5.301232973025048,3.9865734641752937,87.97840569969084,73.79768786127167,6.985903123179639,25.171886902361432,7.738981096181357,1.2148955594389923,2079,68,424,28,43,654,230,519,0.119,0.851,0.031,-0.9935,7,0,0,0,0,0,73.0,30,2,13,2,25,13,1,1,17,0,56,7,4,3,2,94,94,41,0,10,16,22,1,0,0,11,0,5,1,0,18,46,3,2,11,1,0,13,19,8,0,6,21,9,84,5,47,57,5,75,0,4,3,1,118,21,2,8,40,289,102,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04921505090358952,0.0,0.06668064422065947,0.07478016846436594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05753338731721114,0.0,0.1156413186804028,0.0,0.0,0.07503076600519043,0.0,0.05236764083916934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770470845243634,0.07038756111650912,0.06274608862942209,0.0,0.0,0.05301291447800269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809496353835906,0.0,0.07937889386680105,0.06344701685474967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297274775131506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863550827310845,0.04064785750817518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05801624474832159,0.0,0.031117443699012638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747753838372478,0.0,0.0,0.032153112964121995,0.05903661708152421,0.06995138233380578,0.0,0.04922069509942395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872443233506052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121278834428187,0.07101111249109779,0.06588189781750703,0.06947333636812904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547012858586173,0.0,0.0,0.06764365915050613,0.05016487839919903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061681171124137714,0.16302792763357365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058232452387057765,0.0410797092421777,0.0,0.1854813902311872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736651934334233,0.0654093211161052,0.0,0.04563255362004938,0.0474649223672643,0.0,0.06545052971760892,0.05775292262047645,0.0,0.1771533950750658,0.0,0.06457789219958278,0.1310802718164783,0.2085119873356382,0.04680540307319731,0.0,0.0,0.47834513137448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635259822876623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19821897082654572,0.0,0.0,0.11708091707553965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808188419168347,0.11205090457927458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181622376978032,0.0,0.1231727289616336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655954979258969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04627186458472817,0.0,0.053790350337417366,0.05665953118910739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886715430616892,0.0,0.0,0.1435423530020976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041782923719526056,0.06693993636389768,0.060117513100008235,0.12813461748032734,0.22208205561950867,0.05315245912355826,0.06777972990924881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873043157162194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106402048810723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04480325046043394,0.0,0.0,0.08743522798013233,0.06728642811662927,0.07478016846436594,0.0
parenting,barndoordan,2019/04/01,"Train baby to nap in crib/bassinet/help! My baby currently only naps while wrapped on me or in a moving stroller or car seat. He falls asleep independently at night in a bassinet by my bed. However, refuses to sleep in the bassinet for naps. I want to train him to sleep in the bassinet. Currently we do modified bedtime routine, with swaddle, drawn blinds, and sound machine. Most of the time I can’t even get him down in the bassinet before he’s awake! If I put him down he will wail even if I talk to him and have my hand on him. I’m willing to dedicate the time necessary to achieve this goal but would greatly appreciate any tips on how to approach the issue!",4.687777777777779,5.685886106870233,4.949262086513997,85.50385920271421,69.61068702290076,8.570313825275656,32.876166242578456,8.841846274778883,2.5434217133163703,524,24,109,9,9,165,84,131,0.0,0.935,0.065,0.7973,3,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,8,0,6,5,4,2,0,15,9,9,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,3,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,3,14,1,24,6,1,23,0,0,1,0,11,12,0,5,6,65,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780819403431385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099782544184479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259710015056623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892416817210578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720585250786053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540091673113422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575578302940509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622714113251116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315715904914477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18767537886317587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480662902692995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938850443683778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833980667880807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877805094472841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455479846305366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17529428719476414,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhitestTrash,2019/04/01,"My 6 y.o killed April Fools day My sons bus drops him at the end of the block so he walks home, he got dropped off about 5 minutes early so he rang our door bell and hid where no one could see him.

I opened the door and was like ok no ones here maybe the Amazon package I'm waiting for is on the other side of the screen door. I walk outside and this kid jumps out and yells ""APRIL FOOLS MOM!!!"" Scared the absolute hell out of me but he won out of the pranks in our house today. 

How did your kids get you guys today?",-0.2726611226611233,1.8167280540540531,0.7093693693693729,105.18467775467778,88.2792792792793,3.775744975744976,13.943866943866944,4.713530739802397,-1.547369230769231,398,6,101,1,13,122,81,111,0.158,0.762,0.08,-0.7609999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,2,0,1,6,8,2,1,8,1,4,0,0,1,0,13,10,8,1,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,2,8,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,2,4,4,11,3,13,5,0,22,1,0,2,0,15,10,1,0,8,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937581945583036,0.0,0.0,0.1565068770884138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21494018752895092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678894989718054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940913233449238,0.0,0.0,0.2402888261896233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24342526601589004,0.0,0.0,0.2800171913003667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684866394121599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855994247597433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24380211354260664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28422089287657404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32888903721091617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429624598352971,0.0,0.19338250567646087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4600596883882739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PlaneToday,2019/04/01,"I'm the guardian of my brothers until my dad comes back. My 15 year old brother is suspended for juuling and wants to beat up the kid who ""snitched"". I'm looking after my 15 and 6 year old brothers while my dad is in Barbados taking care and spending time with my very sick grandpa. I was more than happy to watch my siblings and my dad is in no rush to come back. I want him to take his time and spend time with his dad. Multi-generation homes are the norm in my culture and I would never want my dad to worry about the kids while he's dealing with his own dad being very sick. He's been there for almost 2 months now and there's no rush. We keep in contact with him and he facetimes the 6 year old before bed. 

Right now, my 15 year old brother is currently suspended for juuling in the school bathroom with his friends. I didn't know how to ""punish him"" and the first thing I did was yell at him and call him a dumb ass little *something*. I was mad because he was dumb enough to fuck up his lungs for clout and a little headrush. But I realized that as the ""authority figure"" of the house, I couldn't yell at him so I tried to approach him. We actually had a conversation about why it was wrong and that if he's going to juul, he's not going to do it on school property. 

I was talking about this with my bestfriend who's little brother is very close friends with mine (and also suspended). Apparently she overheard that my brother and his friend's wanted to beat the kid up who told on them for juuling. Then they decided that jumping is for pussies, so now only my brother will beat this kid up.

When I was a senior, I was this kid's mentor and he's a nice boy. I know he was just doing what he felt was right and he thinks he did everyone else a favour. The kid is socially awkward and kind of clueless about school gossip. Unfortunately he's the subject and a bunch of highschoolers are calling him ""snitch9ine"" right now. He's such a sweet boy and I loved mentoring him.

I don't want my brother to jump this poor kid, and I don't know how to approach it without him thinking that me and my best friend report to each other. I don't know how to tell him not to beat this guy up. The ""violence won't solve anything"" will not work on him. I don't want to be aggressive when I approach him, no matter how upset I am with him. I want to tell my brother he's being a dumb fuck for risking getting in more trouble, because someone got him in trouble in the first place. But as the adult here, I need to think and act maturely. I'm the grown up and want to act accordingly. It's easier to be the grownup when it comes to forms, food, advice and safety. Not when it's time to take action.

I'm 19, I'm the adult here and I have to be mature. But I don't know how. I'm more than just the older sister, I'm the grown up. I want to act like it. ",2.7704973723723683,3.9499432381756776,4.071409909909914,89.3040705705706,74.38851351351352,7.0189789789789785,25.48663663663664,7.471455274886353,1.0727169969969967,2215,73,489,26,45,729,230,592,0.136,0.773,0.091,-0.9838,2,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,2,0,2,8,29,28,8,3,29,0,43,8,2,5,1,84,86,47,0,13,11,17,1,1,4,4,2,2,2,13,23,40,1,1,12,0,3,18,17,15,0,2,18,6,70,13,75,58,9,80,0,0,2,4,90,28,6,2,35,316,93,9,0.0,0.0,0.07365231815571513,0.0,0.0,0.07375290150185798,0.0,0.0,0.07557690540707546,0.0,0.0,0.060357006989965566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06210916148790265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607061079695555,0.0,0.09201722613493124,0.0,0.06422332205587984,0.0,0.07920593187554209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413600174713568,0.0,0.07695138053230803,0.0,0.0,0.19504404390287144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781099418745667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304934009908546,0.0,0.0,0.07798543308861745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211921067597335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246744796146766,0.0,0.0,0.12839730525599036,0.09126418082473256,0.0,0.2332459419571214,0.1395500952642245,0.039432361204428217,0.0,0.08578790420739628,0.0,0.060363928993726126,0.0,0.0,0.07473171593724197,0.0,0.0803441106694142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570717340593777,0.0,0.0,0.08708755013555859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708528859182518,0.0,0.07859517717797893,0.20739432009183228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03687307513691155,0.2269361186265061,0.0,0.0,0.06337965170608813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681187694309894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060243102294846126,0.0,0.0,0.05596345644771887,0.0582106611392369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167915683779718,0.0,0.0,0.05740183111851827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788548886581325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19336467727119608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291529610262151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693684567421072,0.06394938009376222,0.058104031199010836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024250932810567,0.06066362117407394,0.1319362468066208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0501419677692732,0.14508322036670726,0.0,0.0,0.17603937503744027,0.0,0.0,0.07211921067597335,0.0,0.051242296263005534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868233376128096,0.4006518487192912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810408338362042,0.0,0.0,0.07275481703026261,0.0,0.05494640463769911,0.07664811565506008,0.0,0.05361498738164645,0.08251962230255466,0.0,0.1944126606435998
parenting,cuddleup89,2019/04/01,"[Academic] Looking for participants. Hope as an influence on resilience among parents with a child with a developmental disability. Hello all,  
Are you a parent of a child with a developmental disability?  

A Tennessee State University researcher, Matthew Kettelhake, B.A, wants your valuable input about your experiences as a parent who has a child diagnosed with a developmental disability. This project is a Masters’ Thesis examining the influence hope has on resilience among parents who have a child diagnosed with a developmental disability. 
You qualify for this study if you have a child between the ages 4-25 diagnosed with a developmental disability living at home with you. 

If you are a parent with a child with a developmental disability and are interested in participating in my study, please follow the link below to complete the survey.  

https://tnstateu.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8rgk5LRWyNaVzVP 

Thank you in advance! 

Respectfully, 
Matthew Kettelhake, B.A. 
mkettelh@my.tnstate.edu 

Faculty Advisor: Dr. James L. Campbell 
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parenting,Catlady8888,2019/04/01,"My (26yo) 3.5yo son’s dad (30yo) has filed for a contact order. He has met him properly twice since he was born. Hi guys. Just looking for some moral support I think. I’m having a really hard time and your thoughts would be appreciated. I don’t post much on Reddit so sorry if this is a jumble, I’ll try simplify. 
I was in a relationship with my son’s dad for a couple of years which gradually fell to bits when I became pregnant. It was towards the end that he finally left. We stayed in strained communication for the weeks leading up to my son’s birth. We had an argument and I told him I was having really bad braxton hicks that I was afraid might be labour pains. I rang my midwife and she told me to stay calm and find them, look for a show etc. I didn’t hear from the dad for another 3 days.
I didn’t rely on him to turn up for the actual birth. I saw him a few times in the months after that, in passing in the street. He was always very good at quickly changing direction if he saw us (me and baby) coming his way. I snapped one day when he had no alternative but to crash through some bushes by the pathway we were on. Absolutely fucking ridiculous. My son was 7 months old. I had it out and it was long and horrible but by the end of it he agreed to seeing our son. We met once after that in a coffee shop. We initially had to reschedule because he was on a night out and too hungover. 
He met our son and I made it extremely clear verbally and over message that he had to be consistent and see our son regularly. He didn’t. We set up CM payments and I said he should try to set aside an afternoon or morning a week to see baby. He didn’t.
On our son’s first birthday he turned up with presents. This was the next time he saw his son. There was no communication. I simply asked him to leave.
A year later he missed a CM payment. I texted him and asked what was happening. I stressed it was absolutely fine if he didn’t want to pay anything. He never replied. I drove by his home (I’d like to stress here he lives 2 minutes from me) to see if his car was there. Long story short, he hid in his house for an hour till he finally came out and was livid. I was like look, I just want to know. If you’re not paying that’s fine, if you are, that’s fine. 
Off the back of that contact, we agreed to a trial day with him seeing our son. He seemed very remorseful that he had missed 2 years and wanted to be serious about things. He talked a lot about all his friends having now gotten married, having children, or were in serious relationships and moving away and he felt very left out. I was extremely on guard after this and disappointed. Regardless, we went on with the trip, and I kept an open mind. 
We had a trial day and he wasn’t serious. He was on his phone, didn’t take money, didn’t engage with our 2 year old very much. I was drained. Physically, emotionally. I felt more tired than I did when I gave birth. I didn’t even need hindsight, to go away and think over the situation and come back to it with a clear head. I gave him 6 hours with our son, together on an Easter egg hunt at a castle and then a play area. It was so so fucking exhausting, and I told him that when I dropped him off. He didn’t accept what I said, but I just told him tough. There’s absolutely no way I’m meeting up with you to babysit two children while you sit on your phone. 
A year later I’ve received a contact order from his solicitor. And it’s a punch to the stomach. It really is. After having every opportunity to be there before. The only thing that’s changed between the last time we saw him and now is, he got a girlfriend with 2 children and I’ve heard they’re engaged. 
I’m just done guys. I’m so fucking done. I’ve condensed this as much as I can and tried to keep my resentment from bubbling over but I’m actually so sad and angry. 
I’ve been doing this alone for 3.5 years. I had such a horrible birth, it gave me ptsd. My life was derailed when he left because we were meant to be buying a house together. We were homeless, housed in terrible conditions (living happily now thankfully). He’s had every opportunity to be there and he’s squandered it. Where was his concern when we didn’t have a home? When I nearly died in labour? When his son had to go to hospital?
My son has a right to see and get to know and love his father. I’ve always asserted that. A dad and mam are no more or less than each other. But equal rights means equal effort and responsibility. So how has this been fair? 
I feel shattered and heartbroken for our son. He’s never asked and never lacked for his dad, which has been a huge relief. And now the court will likely decide its fair for them to get to know each other. For how long? 6 months? A year? And then dad breaks up with his fiancé and fucks off again for another year. 

I’ve raised my son so well. He’s so amazing. He’s literally the loveliest, kindest, brightest child I’ve ever met. Like I was such a fuck up till I had him, literally just partying all the time, and I’ve turned my life around. I’m a psychology and criminology student and I’m doing things a bit backwards I know but everything is for my son. I’m devastated. I feel like everything I’ve done is about to be ripped apart. 

Guys I really need some feedback here. Has anyone been through this? How did you cope? How can I be there for my son? How do I explain anything to him? 

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parenting,lukamu,2019/04/01,Best way to clean bird poop off of a netted trampoline? The net makes it a little more difficult because I can't just sweep or spray it off - it will just get stuck at the corner of the mat and the net. Anyone have any ideas?,3.9405673758865234,4.2037084468085135,4.5795744680851085,90.13333333333335,70.91489361702128,7.9687943262411345,22.04964539007092,7.793537801064563,0.6127645390070922,175,3,40,2,3,56,37,47,0.08900000000000001,0.768,0.14300000000000002,0.5783,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,6,0,3,1,1,1,0,6,6,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,6,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,25,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2764332234680057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842335153806825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24779798516278745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42659556598499937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21237892223224167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4588878320492709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074187360951398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713412037025075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32265994323611513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,YESSSorNOOO,2019/04/01,"Let's brag about our kids! My two year old  is speaking in full sentences like ""Mickey Mouse is hurt, I got him a band-aid"". The most mind blowing thing she does is sing her ABC's while subbing in the word poop every third letter. It's appalling.

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parenting,wysockm001,2019/04/01,"Thoughts on Martial Arts? I am interested to sign my son up for martial arts more specifically for Muay Thai (Thai kickboxing). I am new to all of this, and is this in any way beneficial. Also, are there any better options to sign my kid up for example, taekwondo or just not doing martial arts in general. Id love to hear everyones opinion. ",4.489692307692309,6.166329353846152,6.181538461538462,73.89846153846156,70.84615384615384,10.123076923076924,34.53846153846154,10.355215969177356,4.008600000000001,268,14,49,8,5,92,46,65,0.0,0.82,0.18,0.9136,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,11,8,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,3,13,7,2,7,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,3,1,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749014741229971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4675316084384629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040241641507546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284734998656926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38743788988952027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102531266193626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33200159644413485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729037917449644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272857437950659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JakaylaDanyellBitch,2019/04/01,"Overwhelmed I’m a mom of 3 boys and for majority of my older two sons lives I’ve been a stay at home mom. 
However recently I got a job where I am only home on the weekends and on Wednesday nights due to the long drive and gas prices. 

For the past two months give or take my middle child  4 has started crying as soon as he wakes up for no reason..and will whine persistently. When my husband goes to drop them off for school he will just stand there and cry. 

Asked what’s wrong? His answer is “I don’t know” 

I’ve asked if something is going on at school if he’s being picked on or whatever and his answer is always no. 

I’m at a loss. My husband is frustrated. 

Does anyone have any advice? ",1.2242955665024624,3.1587678482758648,2.934802955665024,92.46870689655177,80.86206896551724,5.798029556650246,19.322660098522167,6.868970318607317,0.11402463054187173,538,13,120,6,14,178,95,145,0.17,0.8220000000000001,0.008,-0.9689,2,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,2,5,5,1,1,7,0,12,1,1,1,0,14,22,12,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,1,5,0,0,3,1,1,2,3,5,0,2,2,0,10,0,19,17,1,28,0,3,0,0,16,11,0,4,12,67,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923751705008492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707638158071174,0.0,0.0,0.10385574206689116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678630553088514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28554765710206953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3355144215607466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336474658637458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465042167421476,0.08679505182938348,0.0,0.12214519970016878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30638389410883715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155235565555905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393164946877615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485573319165747,0.1351535720090044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3577307539675485,0.12190070929820462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331862344684868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615145405554195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457897911471337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570229638931062,0.1507938898502341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30912428059855795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757234183556292,0.0,0.0,0.10809694408140737,0.16278061854686107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482743445179293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983730980736986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669768007707986,0.0,0.0
parenting,spitz006,2019/04/01,"Stepdad with no authority (vent) I’ve lived with my girlfriend and her kids 14, 11, 9 for two years. I’m not technically their stepdad since I haven’t proposed to their mom yet. Their real dad is a deadbeat who has joint physical custody so they go back and forth every week. Week here, week there.  He has no job, no heat, no hot water (boils water on the stove for their baths) no toothbrushes or toothpaste. So I figure I’m kind of an improvement.

So anyway, today our house is pretty messy and I told my girlfriend I was gonna have the kids do some cleaning for the rest of the day. And she said “no, you’re not their real dad, you can’t tel” them what to do” then she went up to their bedroom and they’re all up there together watching movies while I sit in the living room typing this. 

I don’t know what to do, I’m thinking about leaving them. ",1.1186431396410086,3.41551502312139,2.352960146029816,94.4104989351993,83.73988439306359,5.0293885001521135,20.087922117432306,6.339386263674448,0.040001156069364274,661,19,143,6,19,211,109,173,0.093,0.862,0.045,-0.7351,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,9,0,10,1,0,0,7,0,12,3,0,0,1,17,22,11,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,1,0,1,5,2,4,7,3,0,3,1,0,2,11,0,0,1,4,3,22,1,16,17,3,18,0,0,1,0,25,5,0,2,10,90,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180888677958178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118936725542605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553832178316919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481108965718787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21279785558617065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301005877152265,0.0,0.0,0.19204679815720452,0.10135333123413666,0.0,0.0,0.1952759287080241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256954410286229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599244045000346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18762314740652875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41982448941762296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17542724800192705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255551787621344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816996469841473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174810186967507,0.17622281663137696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015318197499067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4437958380564481,0.0,0.0,0.17096074323018284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876151418705475
parenting,JimMcDowell,2019/04/01,"I'm about to be an uncle!!! The title is everything. I'm literally at the hospital waiting to meet my neice. But as a single dude with no kids, I'm at a loss, what's the best way that I can support my niece, sister-in-law and little brother in the coming days? ",2.3914285714285732,3.0852867142857145,5.252142857142856,82.34285714285716,74.71428571428571,7.742857142857144,24.714285714285715,8.07648339933343,1.381157142857143,200,6,43,3,4,73,43,56,0.081,0.778,0.141,0.6458,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,7,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,9,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,8,8,2,7,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42881344037910496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519833490201417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635211549852115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672344227974237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4095369099687428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4636884399965797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3243374553416491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,s315039,2019/04/01,"Diagnoses like ADHD? I need help. Hi all,

Posting from a throwaway account.  I'm seriously struggling with my kid's behaviour and at the end of my rope. For those of you who have a child with ADHD or similar condition diagnosis, would you be willing to share some information? Some things I'm wondering about:

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* How old was your kid when diagnosed? How old are they now?
* Who diagnosed them? Teacher, doctor, counselor, someone else?
* How did they reach their diagnosis?
* What treatment(s) have you tried and how have they worked?  Medicine, counseling, etc.?

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I know I'm asking about some sensitive information so I understand if you don't want to share.  My kid has wonderful days but then has days leaving me with a pit in my gut and crying in bed.  I'm just really lost, feeling fragile, and don't know what to do now.   

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parenting,RachelWang76,2019/04/01,"Digital Sleep Solutions--Pediatric Insomnia Program Director at University of Chicago  

**Dr.  Lisa Medalie--director of Pediatric Insomnia Program at University of  Chicago and one of less than 20 board-certified pediatric insomnia  specialist**, is looking for participants in a pilot study on digital sleep solutions for children! *The study will be done completely remotely from the comfort of your home and consists of using an app for 6-10 weeks!*

DrLullaby is an app developed to provide **personalized**  sleep solutions to children with sleep problems. The step-by-step  strategies are based on the exact same techniques that Dr. Medalie uses  in her clinic that helped children sleeping better. By participating in  the study, you will get free access to DrLullaby which will launch  commercially soon for a charge.

If you feel that you may be eligible, please fill out some short screening questions [https://forms.gle/iW9nsgvb5SbE4Fdr5](https://forms.gle/iW9nsgvb5SbE4Fdr5)

Due to limited spots on the pilot study, please fill out the form before **Wednesday April 3rd**, and we will contact you for a brief phone interview if you are selected.

Thank you for supporting our initiatives to help more children sleep better!",7.699013112491375,11.83339157671958,6.906846100759148,60.18006211180126,72.38624338624341,10.271083505866113,37.31792040487693,9.971965246562196,5.47185787899701,1004,55,126,33,23,309,114,189,0.023,0.8340000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9681,0,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,7,0,3,1,7,0,0,12,0,12,14,6,3,1,20,19,5,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,5,8,0,1,5,4,7,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,3,10,7,31,11,5,19,0,0,2,0,21,11,0,5,5,81,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979655343825086,0.0,0.0,0.2282362730711439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528738155069453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320443246069488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524235224675051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674137870104468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17297458389586606,0.0,0.12942941044518805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835420985215333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743528329001743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126655859274904,0.0,0.28327632557610866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346600116644554,0.0,0.0,0.14454514010007538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7747498780271029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14642375124861254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11879514036343496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288408356822892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350152243183527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,evilsteff,2019/04/01,"How old is old enough to receive cash for your birthday? Hi reddit,

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I have 3 nieces/nephews who live far away, so I always send a nice gift to each for their birthday. My niece's birthday is coming up, she's turning 7. Since they live far away, I only see her a few times/year and don't know much about her interests. In the past, I've tried asking my brother for gift ideas, and he hardly ever gets back to me. His wife always suggests clothing or items for her activities (eg a dance costume), but I don't know her size, and with them living far away, it would make exchanges/returns difficult.

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I'd like to send my brother some money and tell him to take her out shopping so that she can pick out something nice for herself. My husband disagrees, and says I should still pick out a toy for her. Her baby brother's birthday is a few weeks  before hers, and we would be sending a toy for him. My husband thinks that sending money is too impersonal, and with her brother getting a toy, she might feel left out. I think she would enjoy the one-on-one time with one of her parents, and would love to get to pick something out for herself. 

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Our daughter is only (almost!) 2, so we don't know much about 7-year-olds. Reddit, what do you think? Is it ok to send cash, or should I just pick a toy off Amazon like I usually do?",5.43104553903346,5.4778817769516746,5.486577602230487,85.67142774163571,67.66171003717471,7.468494423791822,30.5671468401487,6.322622252153567,1.4782804832713756,1054,37,214,5,16,331,144,269,0.034,0.8390000000000001,0.127,0.974,1,0,2,0,0,0,55.0,3,2,3,0,11,9,0,0,10,1,21,1,0,6,1,48,38,15,0,6,4,9,2,2,0,7,0,1,0,0,6,20,0,0,8,6,5,8,3,1,0,1,0,4,41,8,33,30,8,32,0,0,1,1,50,15,0,5,11,140,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352090710620872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15542308921696169,0.3035780759791166,0.3404529144721857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731106920384184,0.0,0.26324107571989924,0.07181445675524276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947167595297923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08045092528910756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096501284410029,0.0,0.0,0.08448049708743226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047222967514001804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463840111995068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366295404655866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543080396110996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539812050191281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101473187200099,0.0,0.0,0.091255481182391,0.0,0.24740665091199515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08429200790680172,0.0,0.06234142475815103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907660013831687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731112261973974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29400484194275617,0.0,0.12657279819605785,0.14206115709147982,0.0,0.0,0.10370332481527414,0.0,0.08915543326983777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427090104307751,0.0,0.0,0.07442317042005156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725673538587031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379899983971092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458481375429253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022089536764364,0.0,0.08163074033717092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795299013832628,0.0,0.0,0.054458971134223634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340860350009411,0.1015861865414732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286063388021276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491527915736243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265378542686406,0.0,0.3404529144721857,0.12028574257169054
parenting,bgruber08,2019/04/01,"Children and Household Chores Hi There, Parents!

I'm a student at Georgia Tech — And while I don't have any children of my own, I do have parents, was a child (maybe still am?), and hope to have a family one day! :)

I am working on a project for school about developing a system to help motivate children to participate in weekly chores. As a first step my team hopes to collect some very basic information on children and chores in different households.

We're looking to hear any anecdotal information on:

* Struggles with getting children to do chores
* What works best to get children to do chores
* What types of rewards or incentives are used related to chores
* Any other anecdotal information on your children and chores

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We welcome anything you can share and appreciate your time!

Thank you!!",4.664178403755869,7.740145605633807,4.721718309859156,78.07140375586856,75.33802816901408,7.4486384976525795,34.114553990610325,8.447377352677275,3.3042351173708924,644,35,103,13,15,200,87,142,0.016,0.758,0.226,0.9844,3,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,4,0,7,3,8,0,1,6,0,12,0,0,2,0,17,21,9,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,3,8,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,1,0,2,1,2,10,7,22,20,3,15,0,0,1,0,24,7,0,4,6,68,13,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18266852476415046,0.20485679487133895,0.34394344820377265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13873621548432485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769260922072229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872739465500034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761419501211261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158932805229982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340361214722988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616391624217448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19001456644249484,0.0,0.11300314616924816,0.0,0.0,0.3348982588223107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14157417047290152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937254841456792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11424177905720165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744012138435208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170623323077151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346371722104474,0.0,0.0,0.1762481562603173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15521615151006496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830690064008192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456086906352803,0.0,0.13910541914496755,0.0,0.0,0.13523371358587122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24547284333856334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20485679487133895,0.0
parenting,Naor-Reingold,2019/04/01,"I think I just had the best dumb idea in a long time on how to help socialize my kid at the park Alright, this is not an April Fools joke, hear me out: 

*Kid business cards.*

That's right. Business cards. For kids. That they can hand out to other kids (and that I can swap with other parents) at the park. I mean, how often do you go to the park, strike up a conversation with another parent, and then *never meet them again forever*. I'm an introvert and I feel weird asking for phone numbers or giving out mine, but I think making custom business cards for my kid would be a hilarious way to get around that awkwardness. You know, something like ""Hello, my name is X, and I would like to play! Likes: [list] Dislikes: [list] You can text my mom and dad at [cell #] or send an email to [address]. Let's be friends!"" or something similar.

Has anyone else here ever tried something like that? How did that work out? How would you feel if a kid handed your kid their (professional looking, natch) business card?",1.9076558664703,4.364310644329901,2.671620029455081,92.36245704467356,81.73195876288659,5.55090819833088,21.09376534118802,6.868970318607317,0.4249188021600401,771,23,159,9,21,241,119,194,0.05,0.785,0.166,0.9721,2,0,3,0,0,0,46.0,0,5,3,2,10,13,1,1,11,1,15,2,2,5,2,38,29,15,0,4,7,4,4,4,1,3,0,1,1,7,9,12,0,0,7,2,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,6,21,9,22,21,1,22,0,0,1,0,33,12,1,5,11,101,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901461820963544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603478586830056,0.1553797997326205,0.0,0.1349975704419436,0.14176904297553278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591436865951669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668122428667875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717297624910496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335409294541386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716173968114355,0.0,0.07922905752924701,0.14547317817417849,0.08618422268101515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17091667053281812,0.0,0.10164547836824088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17119048379549429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334097181048129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550688602635686,0.0,0.29634735552935026,0.0,0.0,0.13420241477654513,0.12734489941326116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122524218619194,0.0,0.0,0.16518753743089093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760659340576168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695915941493712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367710703007935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295053155302253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458454898095994,0.0,0.35023474298292484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943379576547974,0.0,0.0,0.0884263162681706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295804548717874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036996391328705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040048632889547,0.0,0.0,0.3231760505794885,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,auntguardian,2019/04/01,"Guarding my teenage nephew (Throwaway because it's too personal and also wall of text with probably tmi)

For about a year and a half my nephew has lived with us. We officially became guardians last spring and for more perspective, I was there when he was born, changed at least a hundred of his diapers, helped him on and off the bus throughout elementary, etc. 

This kid was dealt a hell of a hand. Two violent (towards each other), drug addicted parents who came around to play house occasionally. He has seen his parents handcuffed and arrested on more than one occasion. There is a laundry list of shit no kid should witness that he has. It's unfair.

Still he is a great kid, very upbeat, and for the most part takes things in stride. I admire him for it. 

Now for the resentments... His father (my brother) is an absconder for close to a decade. He is a shadowy figure in all of this. I haven't seen him in a very long time. My nephew's mother is pretty recently out of prison and a halfway house, managed to get knocked up and has a newborn son. There were probably 5 years where neither was trying to reach my nephew. He went through some phases of defiance and bad grades (around 4th and 5th grade) but now has almost a perfect GPA.

Well my nephew is getting older and of course has a cell phone. We decided to allow him to speak with his parents (it was never off the table before but think they didn't want to deal with me in the process). It has proven to be a bad idea but I don't know how to regulate without coming off like an ass. 

His mom asks frequently to come over. I have allowed it on a few occasions. Last time she came over (with her newborn) she said she doesn't have a driver's license and her car was unregistered. She implied to me that she steals from her retail job and offered to steal something for me. Then later texted me about how she took melatonin and to disregard any of her weird behavior. 

It really stinks and I'm having a hard time explaining my discomfort to my nephew. His mom is toeing the line that has landed her in prison. She is risking so much to come have dinner with us and willing to do it again and again without working towards fixing the situation. Today his mom asked to come drop off a gift for him. I don't want her to come. My nephew knows she's bringing him goodies and it seems like I'm being unfair.  Really I just want to keep some distance. 

Is that ok? 

My nephew is also defensive of his parents and shuts down anytime an ill word is spoken. I completely understand but how can we stay realistic without addressing the truth of the matter? 

As you can see this is a unique situation. Sometimes I don't know where to turn or who could possibly give me good advice. It's isolating. We also have two other children to consider. Thanks for reading. 

TLDR- Dealing with bio parents bs and I don't know whether I have to or how it will effect relationships.
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parenting,Blackhole28,2019/04/01,"Transitioning out of booster seat into regular seats in car My daughter turns 8 in about two months. She is average height and weight and right where she should be for her age. 

Where I live, the regulation is that they can stop using a booster seat at 8 years old. I don’t really want her to stop at 8 though, because I want her to be as safe for as long as possible. She uses the booster seat with the back thing and headrest attached to it. 

So, assuming I still have her in a booster seat past age 8, what are signs that she will be ready to stop using it? When do I know she has outgrown it? How do you know when it’s time to get rid of it??",3.4795555555555566,3.960382140740741,4.594814814814813,88.83666666666667,72.03703703703705,8.074074074074074,26.11111111111111,8.167268648758528,1.2918888888888889,499,15,115,7,9,164,81,135,0.05,0.878,0.07200000000000001,0.449,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,1,0,10,1,0,0,5,0,14,1,0,4,0,21,23,11,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,6,1,4,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,17,1,21,18,0,27,0,0,0,0,12,11,0,1,15,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066490989727234,0.0,0.1115148333793944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557543460438277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010714212572324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153402267889494,0.1618907824631275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601612756325671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195839978844936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17463114746514402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062305337701288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719216781778155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622458730889108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609128273725305,0.4588229013563324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215331827739766,0.0,0.17973166964003512,0.0,0.10667025295202108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19897959856976333,0.1786998804215118,0.0,0.0,0.4739885733640496,0.0,0.0,0.2157983578111667,0.0,0.0,0.22276425919976686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780346120586732
parenting,joope265,2019/04/01,"When you need your own time...all the kids will fall in love with this game! Download it, try it and help it go viral! Top kids game is finally published and ready to roll. Help it go viral! A super crazy and hilarious racing game for the whole family. 

\-Be the fastest animal

\-9 lovely cute characters (Dog, Monkey, Fox, Giraffe, Panda, Rhino, Tiger, Elephant, Lion)

\-unlock new levels and superpowers

\-play endlessly

You can teach animals to you kid at the same time. But keep it mind, you can get hooked too.

Download now and have fun!

 [https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.animalrace.adventureendgame](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.animalrace.adventureendgame) ",9.913366666666667,14.575462670000006,7.130000000000003,58.78666666666669,67.3,6.933333333333335,22.333333333333336,8.07648339933343,1.6558333333333333,577,14,74,9,12,165,76,100,0.02,0.716,0.264,0.983,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,0,5,0,2,3,6,0,0,5,0,6,2,0,0,0,11,13,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,6,0,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,6,6,11,3,13,0,0,0,2,15,4,0,0,6,40,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242851377714872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821986941511388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459036887051942,0.0,0.2928109126421173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453405317247868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22897522394233505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4650053927631984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601122313767442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19101423339878207,0.0,0.2488009298000076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004284260228889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489998937816226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876118872490806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,contigo87,2019/04/01,"My second grader won't stop using the most annoying voice on the planet. Help! Am I really overreacting here?

My son will be eight next month.  He does well in school and rarely gets in trouble there.  He's a pretty good kid at home (mostly).  The problem I'm asking about is that he has a tendency to use what I could best describe as an exaggerated baby voice.  I don't think he means for it to sound infantile, so I don't think he's really pretending to be a baby specifically or even associates using this voice with being a baby.  I think he just finds it silly and fun.  When he uses it, he'll often contort his face into something weird too.  The issue is that he does this all. the. time.  He does it so often I don't even think he realizes it.  It sounds so bad and it grates on my last nerve.

My other concern is that at some point, other kids aren't going to find this funny or interesting, but just annoying and won't want to be around him.  I already worry about this a little bit because even at this age I tell that some of the neighborhood boys are a little faster and stronger than him - his teacher calls them ""risk takers"" whereas my son is a ""leader and rule follower.""  I've heard them make fun of other kids for doing stuff like playing Minecraft (which my son loves).  I'm concerned that certain behavior that annoys people is going to lead to him being left out.

Am I just being silly here?  Will he just grow out of this in a few months and I just have to ignore it, or is this something I can or should try to put a stop to?  I coach his soccer team and never hear any of the other kids do this.  I've tried ignoring it, telling him to stop, just flat out ignoring him if he asks for something in that voice, but it hasn't worked so far.  If it was just once in a while, I wouldn't mind, but I've heard it at least twice just typing this up!",4.067999999999998,4.5960982210526335,5.119052631578949,85.43436842105264,70.73684210526315,7.974736842105262,24.147368421052644,7.976525956113202,1.1016768421052632,1444,34,307,18,25,476,187,380,0.09,0.795,0.114,0.4913,1,0,3,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,2,4,26,23,3,1,18,0,33,2,1,6,3,66,57,24,0,7,17,3,0,1,0,7,0,9,1,5,35,14,0,6,8,5,0,6,9,11,1,3,3,9,29,12,40,40,9,41,0,0,0,1,42,22,0,12,14,208,64,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465928410967725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065744270081717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249548889122064,0.19427011755447388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675446816816684,0.06333816072598109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903954084048943,0.0,0.11343490803431365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609633937459136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295790264774411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727780276788612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588038766722516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899304884237055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05428490591769528,0.0,0.11810067078234678,0.08714870906060397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710596678768713,0.0,0.06964383273323947,0.0,0.10422294430530958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084474911423422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469462062077215,0.0,0.0,0.11289065742607443,0.0,0.0,0.05076164230506613,0.2082757321260518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377630141446296,0.0,0.06935590198766275,0.0,0.0,0.1131805704605471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491217259321456,0.0,0.16586839034628048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013621722950373,0.0,0.11050176858297676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065305295887633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203309418672021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982216966037868,0.0,0.0,0.10570646500995788,0.0,0.09942091305916284,0.0,0.104450976256399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312554278434424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515514457426936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399682725610854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26060209023491404,0.0,0.0,0.11894380660360808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18163119139380704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663067838118202,0.0,0.0,0.06058653742655003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108631320467527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589545119362031,0.0,0.0,0.061284542411252266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09342106332501077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564244988550545,0.10551830070567278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bobateacup,2019/04/01,"My unpopular son is running for class president and I am worried about it but don't want to prevent him from running. Just need to rant about how some kids behave. My 7th grader just turned 13. He's a great kid but very quirky. He's extremely bright and part of the GATE program. We had him evaluated because we though he was on the autism spectrum. He didn't meet the criteria for an actual diagnosis but he hit a lot of the bullets points. He's socially awkward and struggles with peer interaction. He was diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type. 

He decided to run for class president because he wants more say in how the school is run. One of his friends is his ""campaign manager."" He's part of the more popular crowd and told his mom that he overheard kids talking about how they were going to vote the retarded kid in as a joke. They were talking about my son. This was a step up from when they all agreed that he wouldn't get a single vote. 

He's at that age where he's getting too old for me to be involved. I don't want to prevent him from running but right now they are either not going to vote for him at all or are going to vote him in as a joke. I told him what his friend said about them voting for him as a joke and he was okay with it because he only cares about winning. I know I have to suck it up and deal with it. I can't prevent him from running but it sucks that these school bullies are doing this to him. These exclusive school clubs suck for kids who aren't popular. ",3.1318069306930703,4.637646013201323,4.054542079207923,88.48003094059406,74.01650165016504,7.4262376237623755,26.48638613861386,8.07648339933343,1.485206930693069,1174,42,250,18,24,378,147,303,0.096,0.753,0.151,0.9766,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,5,1,16,17,3,2,15,1,23,1,0,3,2,39,42,20,0,5,10,3,0,0,2,1,1,2,1,5,15,12,0,3,2,4,0,10,7,5,0,1,11,3,30,12,46,28,10,25,0,0,1,0,59,11,3,3,4,163,45,8,0.0,0.0,0.13280982228015634,0.0,0.16356064695473513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24888812237768435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875868986366038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030874476523889,0.0,0.13813432387841906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210294481386186,0.0,0.14220882695300952,0.0,0.2320390572259393,0.0,0.0,0.15004604746546354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479466629978111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11570374184817375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593937003354477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091327593099096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280959835907672,0.0,0.09222200400231637,0.10350695239881473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947568747989537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286544760392204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622502892284335,0.1294582261325201,0.10822880478064144,0.0,0.4132085016593832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387324806150025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227682994941274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21877722110432507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337133857230881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600906473197803,0.0,0.0,0.14803309771656106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229324881843562,0.24081840262935544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821184279272414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,I_Like_Knitting_TBH,2019/04/01,"Choosing Battles Last week was restaurant week in a town nearby, so my husband and I decided to pack up the toddler and try one of the restaurants. The toddler was mostly behaved except for one “lesser of two evils” situation I think we’ve all faced: let him scream, or let him eat a fistful of whipped butter. 

Obviously we chose the quiet, self-entertained fistful of butter. Counts as Keto and good fats, right?",5.2307017543859615,7.23955715789474,5.4973684210526335,78.20991228070176,69.52631578947367,7.171929824561403,32.40350877192982,7.793537801064563,2.497735087719299,328,15,54,4,6,104,57,76,0.116,0.847,0.037000000000000005,-0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,6,0,4,3,2,0,2,12,5,6,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,4,6,1,10,1,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,3,36,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564959408147288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102484234716004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20432787420476373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.512650021516412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397182449399246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21406910027008627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615013900901905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817613318091849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061793129170499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701871160482445,0.0,0.24486621010921955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021414951276052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Samiautumn,2019/04/01,"My child expects nothing but perfection from herself, and we don’t. My daughter will be 4 next month. She should start Junior Kindergarten in our area but I don’t want to put her into the local public school system. I went through it myself, and as the years have gone by it’s only gotten worse.

I’ve never had issues directing and teaching my daughter myself so this shouldn’t be as complicated as it is. 

My daughter gives up after the first try. She will never learn to write if she storms off and cries when she gets one little one off. If something is completely perfect the first try, she’s done. There is no encouraging, no reasoning. No amount of explaining that everything she does is the perfect the way does it work. 

She will refuse to count, if she mixes 4 and 5 or 6 and 7. As soon as she does that refuses to correct it or try again. Even though they’re so easy to mix up because they start with the same letters. 

I don’t know how I can help her understand that mistakes are okay. I don’t know where she got this reaction from either. If we make mistakes we shrug them and correct them, or ask for help, as we want her to do but she doesn’t seem to understand that.


Any advice at all would helpful here. I feel like a terrible mother because I can’t seem to help her at all. ",3.5031081081081084,4.957123277992281,4.221889961389961,87.8590897683398,72.97683397683397,7.187722007722008,25.691312741312746,7.7348632917899725,1.275297915057915,1015,33,209,13,20,324,143,259,0.115,0.735,0.15,0.8999,0,0,1,0,0,0,25.0,5,0,3,6,11,9,0,0,8,1,24,0,0,3,9,57,44,28,0,12,11,4,1,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,11,13,0,2,10,0,0,3,12,3,0,4,6,1,37,6,30,30,5,30,0,0,0,0,42,12,0,9,14,151,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288081815317932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551387618437925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175586756601223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331128404977554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318458103297928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13812976602169955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301323341621525,0.12868525340428533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305626558603373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301541541797755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358265420763802,0.0898353671273505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139246808903124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569884991426082,0.12063024346702347,0.0,0.0,0.1005732497385561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33714857836410106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312496599872778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382171180482422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061434784915318924,0.12603389316432306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393867352858984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003719385587817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939713155785936,0.0,0.1337358697904067,0.0,0.0,0.1206599013479204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042204002547875,0.09563805393007437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641283790509927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12929128448007132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272650646493122,0.0,0.22895498706222844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968080000425806,0.0,0.0,0.17801208692213702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12354810665939354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256126680874532,0.0,0.0,0.2618190348180218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14834045987094738,0.09981398794760088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657091553347347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154703095017926,0.0,0.1281493397920621,0.08932873664045789,0.0,0.0,0.08097846427987693
parenting,squiiiishy,2019/04/01,"I need help. My sister has a 4 year old, and I have a 3 year old. I just found out she is anti-vaxx. Am I wrong for wanting to keep her away from my son indefinitely? I iust discovered she doesnt believe in vaccines. I'm floored. I told her I dont want my three year old playing with her 4 year old anymore. We are all really close: me, my sister and her husband + 4 kids, along with my parents. We spend all holidays together. We are tight-knit. Finding this out was heartbreaking. I want my son to stay away from them now, and I feel like this is going to crush/ruin the family. I won't be able to spend the holidays with them anymore, or have them come to his birthday parties. I can already see my family hating me for this decision. Can you guys give me some encouragement/ advice? 
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parenting,DoomDiva,2019/04/01,"Ongoing sleep troubles at 5  

OK  guys, I am at the end of my rope. My daughter has never been a good  sleeper. She is 5 1/2 now and still can't manage to sleep through the  night. She wakes up EVERY NIGHT and comes to my bed, no matter what I  do. Take her back to her room? She is back in mine an hour or 2 later. Last  night she woke up at 12pm and was up until 3. I am beyond tired and I  can't keep it up. She missed preschool today because neither of us could  wake up at 7.

She has had the same steady, consistent bedtime  routine since she was a couple of months old. She has had the same  bedtime (8:30 -  9) for over a year now. I just don't know what to do.  She starts kindergarten this fall, and I need to go back to work. I  can't do that if I can barely open my eyes, let alone trying to drive and  then function.   


There have been no major life changes for her, nothing I can think of that makes her feel insecure.  We bought her a nice comfy bed. She has lots of stuffed animals and other comfort items. Her room isn't too hot or cold. She has the same kind of fan I keep in my room, a medium red night light in her room and a carry light she can take to the bathroom so she can see to go potty.  She doesn't fall asleep with anyone in her bed. She doesn't have any screen time within an hour of bedtime. I am at the end of my rope and I just don't know where to turn. 

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I am the first of my friend group to have kids, and the first of my family to have a baby. My mother(not the best) used to does me with NyQuil when I was young because I wouldn't sleep either. So, not exactly the fountain of wisdom I can turn to. ",1.3720827586206887,2.6799480742857185,2.6700394088669945,97.41585714285715,78.25714285714284,5.5133004926108375,19.783251231527096,5.727593064623523,-0.3650403940886706,1246,27,304,6,29,402,172,350,0.059,0.888,0.053,-0.194,0,1,0,0,0,0,45.0,2,0,0,4,15,11,0,1,20,1,41,9,7,2,2,40,62,18,0,4,7,1,2,0,1,1,2,0,7,2,7,15,0,2,4,0,1,6,14,3,0,2,9,9,52,8,48,50,9,58,0,1,4,0,30,23,0,4,29,210,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191375219250864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170789699936442,0.13130024765187506,0.07348199825111652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555548648633892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492659043442184,0.0,0.13174025092877167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339843395224845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430925140171598,0.09308094569252376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627417331093598,0.11956225507425053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456080768784687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19141164101606856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104210413586038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186587513394428,0.0,0.05463651858340703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838252892800582,0.0,0.0,0.08348403938108956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228217856769918,0.0906325086501369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699273846261438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21282740404312445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19209083177005545,0.0,0.11252402183951088,0.1187698474198106,0.08808031718168284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11049490108508496,0.07632336947906805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186561318510067,0.0,0.0,0.07212842800073632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624951812188877,0.0,0.0,0.0801223869153897,0.08333969004855288,0.0,0.0,0.4056141192728953,0.0,0.10368294662156108,0.0,0.11338692346864322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610689136563822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938529873947265,0.0,0.32440304994083363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764828145065392,0.0,0.08629391114647944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16248979920883486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923812224983883,0.0,0.0,0.06300850507808523,0.12419483607152705,0.10242475003409897,0.0,0.0,0.07336314352658088,0.235068478792442,0.0,0.0,0.12997843992008812,0.09332596047246064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866628281089201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13130024765187506,0.06958472280875258
parenting,bounceflow,2019/04/01,"Pregnant neighbor smokes- how can I help? We are not close, but friendly. In the few years I’ve known her, I’d seldom see her without a cigarette in hand. She mostly smokes outside, I think. Anyway, she’s pregnant, and I still see her smoking. I don’t know what to do. I’m definitely judging her, so I haven’t said anything because it’s going to come off wrong. It’s not like we’re close anyway.

I don’t think she takes it seriously, or knows the extend of the harm she’s causing. She didn’t take radon seriously when we were having a mitigator installed and kinda brushed it off, like, “everything causes cancer.” General vibe is “whatever, what harm can it do,” for the stuff we’ve discussed- proper disposal of chemicals, exposure to substances, etc. If I were confident that she knew and was trying to stop smoking, I wouldn’t feel the need to say anything, but I really don’t think she sees it as a big deal.

But what can I do or say? Am I just wanting to stick my nose where it doesn’t belong?",2.3628220047606447,4.539119939698495,3.8525257868288816,86.09667283787356,78.2462311557789,6.8025390108436925,26.05157365776249,7.85451343220497,1.5973055276381904,784,31,156,13,19,259,116,199,0.192,0.7509999999999999,0.057,-0.9829,0,0,3,0,0,0,31.0,2,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,8,0,20,3,2,3,0,36,38,13,0,4,10,0,2,2,2,1,1,3,1,0,12,8,0,1,8,0,0,2,10,5,0,0,6,10,25,3,15,31,3,14,0,0,3,0,21,8,0,5,6,102,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705465723485205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002064129165279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377334532689746,0.0,0.14160148645487194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947175959336833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18333061086635027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14773693213123112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311703527042133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700197643747022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934227047840396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018252787839376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806813071734222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061856014887485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188798686048187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530802408123027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563659728637941,0.2614480803110509,0.0,0.0,0.3929761473951766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13127655718830525,0.13743163342957734,0.0,0.0,0.188179322887974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471912691747904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31599016179877903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160533551820534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969574122752092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584594438069752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797271161823617,0.0,0.10585732784471494
parenting,SirLenzalot,2019/04/01,"Lice? Got woken up from my mid-morning nap an hour ago by school office telling me that my son has contracted lice and to get him. Told them ""yeah, whatever"" and hung up.

Really don't think it's appropriate for schools to participate in April Fools.",1.9006250000000016,4.632674479166667,3.017500000000002,87.67750000000002,85.45833333333334,7.366666666666666,22.583333333333336,8.344100000000001,1.644683333333334,197,7,40,5,6,63,43,48,0.068,0.932,0.0,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,8,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,20,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912513514391867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716606515304981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627819147396148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235684557856929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21048592627534168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6650467684984493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28717861922975263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105299587579603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.313956109001978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fat_mummy,2019/04/01,"Soft Play Etiquette? Need advice as a total novice parent here! I have a 5 month old and come to meet my sister with a 15 month old at soft play. There’s the whole “big kids in the little kids” drama as always. And parents that just don’t watch kids at all. Fine. Whatever. That’s part of it!

There is a girl here that very obviously has chicken pox. They have not scabbed over! The staff are just teenage girls, and they are here with their grandad who just wants an easy life (4 girls with him and he’s not looked up from his phone once)

Do I say something? Who to?",0.5377709359605909,2.8805121120689665,1.0690147783251265,102.15603448275864,87.36206896551724,4.0039408866995085,16.04433497536946,5.288315135182226,-1.0532492610837436,439,9,103,2,14,132,80,116,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.8725,2,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,3,0,8,3,0,0,8,0,8,2,0,0,3,18,12,6,0,2,5,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,6,6,8,0,0,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,8,3,14,12,4,12,0,0,2,0,20,7,0,0,4,62,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044730019559232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17410963230368035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18024710602713628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14779680597880773,0.0,0.2097197013400132,0.0,0.0,0.17571413982863054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33403670154060683,0.0,0.0,0.15515343405718585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43913745535107657,0.2228404143105015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4646863691417618,0.22659328475420626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640100691116666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108797678560574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726500603105257,0.1234188524995184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336159520071007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
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parenting,owlbeastie,2019/04/01,"Shoes for babies with wide feet? Unfortunately my toddler was cursed with my very wide short feet. She needs about a size 5 in length and 6 or 7 in width. Everything we've found so far will slip off easily. And when we buy bigger ones with Velcro heel straps they make her trip because of all the sole hanging out the back. 

I barely know how to find shoes for myself that fit, let alone have a 1 yr old try on everything in the store. We we're using soft soled shoes for a long time but the daycare requires hard shoes now that the weather is nice because they go outside. 

Any suggestions?",4.641987179487182,5.595027846153847,4.535972222222224,88.59062500000003,69.68376068376068,7.559401709401709,24.881410256410252,7.6454224807358475,0.9885051282051288,466,12,98,5,8,143,91,117,0.042,0.8909999999999999,0.066,0.5733,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,2,1,6,1,0,0,8,0,5,7,7,3,1,19,11,7,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,1,3,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,2,10,1,15,7,1,22,0,0,0,0,7,13,0,1,6,51,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517801893287369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531758670815513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18693030826401927,0.0,0.2963852490979368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369685148509865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22219067651131572,0.0,0.0,0.26654861848261496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13816037727987354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217771497506454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360241294772188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24858810083686045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151374773782337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16227236512248047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18025693314550045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550944857002927,0.0,0.1647320975027866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417546371833909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16505019092828058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996193530016646,0.0,0.2005844767025296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,waterbottlecrystal,2019/04/01,"Is living in Sweden as awesome as they(rankings/news sources) say for families? I recently read some statistics about raising a family in Sweden and it all sounds amazing. I wonder if this is really the truth? Are there any parents out there who have experienced this first hand? Are the same services offered to immigrants (if we decide to move there, for example)? Is there a catch or is the government sincerely invested in their families and next generation?

By comparison, I currently live in the US...

Thanks in advance!",6.047719780219783,8.800504032967034,6.611085164835168,67.92453983516485,69.1098901098901,11.143406593406594,35.55082417582417,10.9516,5.088218681318682,421,22,63,15,8,137,66,91,0.0,0.7909999999999999,0.209,0.968,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,1,2,5,4,0,0,6,0,7,1,1,0,2,13,9,7,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,4,6,4,14,9,3,13,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,5,4,50,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112830222440406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5869257105581606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652589477321656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665076247456355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220572774859508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20043488310211044,0.22071173816667364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23043878842483745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075873162865966,0.0,0.13294977229369415,0.0,0.2049119792208555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16503710447157216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910668052101688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24963442731934715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22505868535423726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WynterOrion,2019/04/01,"What should I do when you’re disciplining your kids? Hi parents!

Need some advice if anyone could help. I (F36) am not a parent (yet) but often visit a friend (F35) with two children (M3, F16mths) to have a chat and distract the kids for a bit!

I’ve just been round there today for a bit, my friend was having a rough day by all accounts so I got us a coffee each and a cornflake cake for the kids.

What occurred to me is I never know what to do when she’s having to discipline her kids. For example today, her boy deliberately tripped his sister because she was heading for his colouring book and he didn’t want her to damage it. 

His Mum quite rightly took him aside and told him off, explaining why what he’d done wasn’t right etc. He got a little upset and I had no idea what to do, stay well out, support what she was saying or let him back to playing with me like nothing has happened. The last thing I want to do is undermine what she’s doing or give her son the message he’s got away with it!

What do you prefer friends to do if you’re having to discipline your kids? What could/should I do/not do in these circumstances? ",4.783246753246754,4.830913796536798,5.352359307359311,86.07711038961041,69.04329004329004,7.985281385281386,27.75541125541125,7.447530270364453,1.3383021645021649,881,26,189,8,14,284,134,231,0.067,0.8029999999999999,0.13,0.9313,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,3,0,1,9,10,0,2,13,0,28,1,1,0,2,33,41,13,0,8,7,5,2,1,3,1,0,1,0,7,13,10,0,3,4,3,1,3,5,3,1,1,13,4,29,7,23,24,6,20,0,1,2,0,46,7,0,6,10,132,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12844685804517433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091909633038795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234972172007054,0.10107334738469677,0.0,0.08012785492084314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870085190271169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20989680507628616,0.0,0.0,0.08477136553685245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345142124291745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659629221819526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046630144655184,0.0,0.0,0.1260943407721174,0.0,0.0,0.3153865215042746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623667380248935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490083356259466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810503591228239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14838578129369726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722389173842603,0.10714549011040864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441175861165716,0.0,0.06421755010791827,0.13174275552086742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974650488276228,0.10137874410105682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612534204371326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919089734181424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398082914937347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245071922291634,0.0,0.10453060457292092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010323554215445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916260610791884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732643848599356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24918961223091174,0.1256016485777635,0.1460406013829525,0.0,0.0,0.12840299051581358,0.0,0.1581125510742407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505972598300505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818514025126693,0.0,0.11860896795297247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coffeeaddict12,2019/04/01,"2 year old waking apartment neighbors This morning, as I scraped off my car, my neighbor's boyfriend, who stays over a few nights a week (and who I have never seen or met, just know because of his car and their...noises...at night) popped out of his door in his pajamas and approached me. He asked if I lived upstairs and let me know that my toddler wakes him and his girlfriend every morning at 6:30. I nodded. He then let me know that as it got warmer he would appreciate if we would take our son outside or keep him quiet in the mornings. I said we could try. He wasn't an asshole and neither was I, though it sure would have been nice if he had at least introduced himself. Now I'm sitting at work wondering how on earth to keep my two year old quiet and, really, there is pretty much no way except putting on the TV and I'm not willing to start that habit. He gets maybe 1 hour of screen time a week and I'm happy with that.

Now, we don't let our son dribble balls or bang things on the floor early in the morning. In fact, I thought we were doing well because he just plays, runs and walks around (though the floors are wood). I get noise travels, because we can also often hear them, and I know they tend to stay up late (she is a grad student, unsure about him) so they want to sleep in. I get it, sleep is precious, but I am at a loss of what to do and even IF I should do anything. When my son gets up he is full throttle, but on weekdays when he goes to daycare, we are up 6/6:30 and out of the house by 7:15/7:30 and he goes to bed at 7:30.

Thoughts? Should I write a note apologizing to them? Like I said, I wasn't rude to him, but I basically said it's hard to keep a 2 year old quiet but that we could try. Also relevant is that we are \*probably\* moving in 2 months, though I didn't tell him that as we are waiting on more info on a house.",3.7260465116279065,4.02964763049096,4.351075968992252,91.43907906976746,71.40310077519379,7.122232558139538,26.59111111111111,6.55674776486733,0.8159950180878557,1431,43,330,9,25,456,200,387,0.025,0.906,0.069,0.9186,0,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,11,0,4,2,19,9,1,0,15,0,35,5,4,1,3,68,65,38,0,12,15,3,1,1,3,6,1,7,4,0,16,27,0,4,8,4,0,8,8,2,1,1,15,10,51,7,47,39,6,63,0,1,2,0,53,29,0,9,23,217,67,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624984286093698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524772649296922,0.08140141661407509,0.0854845082948584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16722380963535424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14601557061448994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060395576800783064,0.0,0.07704255094645109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910955137567409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313330771412263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734009476444933,0.08191271226410209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10306007033153117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900504567333196,0.2110200813069953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438295088870005,0.0,0.0,0.2010131929088132,0.0,0.10314884799000293,0.0,0.0,0.2805122682621844,0.0,0.04467320128605265,0.0,0.0807436219902916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186425587597624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07298692134901058,0.09718676257808406,0.06721927647661294,0.0,0.07052453782093597,0.0,0.0,0.1716213983919398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878542157250112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302784492761844,0.09858830668875908,0.0,0.0,0.09192294171225276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05857911504693855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26094251773490273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301304097683904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647220446965379,0.19492677723406854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618157332357555,0.0,0.06875186350671311,0.0,0.0799230127760395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06074899396696009,0.0,0.2695194316174553,0.14518705942259633,0.05331968113669771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416417165191862,0.0,0.0893240653280038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053933966170914574,0.07258119941158843,0.14669608014048668,0.0,0.08221597601578702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916330351100508,0.06656976086780557,0.0,0.0,0.19487008726742827,0.0,0.0,0.17665401968592145
parenting,Cranberry888,2019/04/01,"20-years old, low functioning autistic boy - support/care options in Europe? [X-post form r/autism]  

Hi all, I am desperately looking for advice regarding care of 20-years old, very low functioning autistic boy (Europe based). Apologies for any English mistakes, if anything is not clear from my post I'd be happy to clarify.

To give a short overview of the situation - he is non-communicative, not aggressive but often highly hyperactive and requires full-time care and attention. There are times when he's quiet and more ""in contact"" - he would then sleep all (or almost all) night and walk around/sit during the day and you would be able to do some exercises/play with him. On the other hand he can often spend whole day running around, swinging back and forth (it's literally impossible to have him sit for a bit), pulling the hand of their guardian, chewing on his clothes, screaming... He won't go alone (nor communicate the need) to the bathroom or eat. There are also periods when he basically doesn't sleep at all - sometimes it can be as little as 30min-1h of sleep per night at that's it and it can go on for weeks (even very strong, prescribed by specialist sleeping pills don't seem to work for him). He's been under specialist care and medicated he's whole life (tried various medications/treatments across the years).

We leave in a country with very low support for adult autistic people - the only resources here seem to be for children or highly functional autistic people. He currently goes to special ""school""/center for a couple of hours a day Mon-Fri (various engaging activities, therapy, hypotherapy, going to the pool etc.). He can keep going there till he's 25 years old, unless expelled before which is an actual possibility - we had various complains already due to his hyperactive episodes which make it difficult for teachers to work with him. There will be virtually no other support for him after he is 25 years old.

Currently the parents are taking full-time care of the boy, however they are becoming older and have various health issues and he is becoming stronger and more difficult to take care of. We had private carers/sitters come for a couple of hours a day during the week, however usually they don't last long and resign after a few months.

We looked into care homes/centers in Poland and the only place there are are either for high functioning people or social welfare homes which have very bad reputation - he would probably end-up highly sedated and tied to bed there for most of the time, not even mentioning any sort of therapy/engaging activities.

We are quite desperate in finding some sort of long term solution that would help us. The situation is already very difficult even though he's going to school for few hours a day.

Are there any centers that could take such low functioning autistic people full-time and at the same time provide decent quality of care? At this point we are considering all different options in other countries in Europe as well e.g. Germany.

Basically ,what I am looking for is any:

\- personal experience/advice on how to deal with such situation

\- personal experiences/opinions on care centers for adults in Europe (either full time care or e.g. Monday-Friday, basically anything that could help and give at least some free time to the parents)

\- contacts/organizations that could provide help/support

\- anything else that you think, could help!

I ended up with super long post - apologies and thank you very much if you made it till the end :)",9.302574300699296,9.197464796474355,8.671404428904433,66.57208041958044,59.68910256410256,11.858508158508158,39.74242424242424,11.26911803661169,4.708154487179487,2819,130,450,67,33,893,285,624,0.065,0.779,0.156,0.9971,7,1,0,0,0,0,113.0,7,4,3,6,23,32,1,0,28,0,47,12,6,3,6,83,80,38,0,12,14,2,2,0,0,6,4,2,2,8,20,31,2,2,5,1,2,9,9,13,1,0,4,7,25,20,82,61,29,96,0,5,3,0,59,38,0,20,46,282,45,5,0.048737395483629584,0.0,0.04756066753820258,0.0,0.0,0.09525123760236956,0.0,0.0,0.04880346147466349,0.05047724329161345,0.10756585569659573,0.038975277559922576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257240082148938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032017136340978,0.08677322981662842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0374760487470261,0.04069368946646134,0.0,0.10765324841795022,0.04147193387777432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320861299336232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4472192058542756,0.0,0.0,0.04198295070522612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565137798285525,0.1078540022051173,0.0,0.15715794071405495,0.05024611469176789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05092020505454256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0498705228838742,0.040713840080578434,0.0,0.1295005991193345,0.0,0.054355079112915344,0.09657177019083983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04454509651967197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350670149498716,0.1384929250353318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051881863760510204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051805572335738834,0.0,0.0,0.13067059540988746,0.20597493678859166,0.04888758147441229,0.0,0.1439895514520122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05086917851203676,0.0,0.04332003645390477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03972748221268108,0.0,0.05160586469279303,0.0,0.0,0.03442466376610783,0.0,0.04884767404779844,0.0,0.1293931839798522,0.12278141213861148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046116502027533535,0.03253258993740096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909779851570036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03890172409315778,0.0,0.03582759347706528,0.03613816120181552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147348819934382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456679219079493,0.0,0.0,0.07413397091290484,0.0,0.0,0.1082342200053521,0.0,0.0,0.13515349367184962,0.08511122769465355,0.05092020505454256,0.0,0.04607259205042441,0.05494409047955767,0.14003085783859134,0.0,0.052547155500342516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051838219301431065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986496923895922,0.0,0.08873738879947195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434862362126634,0.19509037219110725,0.04968163705062146,0.0,0.0,0.048202530345285294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22122647532222486,0.0,0.0,0.10993336787995048,0.0,0.0,0.044870845685734836,0.055735459241664176,0.0,0.0,0.031228955096132827,0.047884243609393286,0.0,0.14209583621128324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03308949232672286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05862508588957696,0.0,0.05367735555784791,0.24128073280177514,0.0,0.0,0.07818839772518145,0.0,0.04382077166567845,0.0,0.0,0.10882712308947694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096280874332207,0.0,0.0,0.13848658962952393,0.0,0.0,0.1569264238658958
parenting,feellikeADD,2019/04/01,"Would you refuse to watch a tv show with your kids if you don't like it? I'm curious what you guys do when your kids want to watch tv with you...the other day I was on the couch with my daughter and she complained that I was on my phone instead of watching her show with her. So I put my phone down and watched it. My question is: do you guys watch shows with your kids that you don't really enjoy to make them happy? or do you tell them that you can't because you don't like that show and that you guys can watch something else together? I wonder what is better. On one hand I think I show interest in what they are into if I just watch even though I don't want to. On the other hand, I could teach them to speak their minds and to say no to what they don't like doing and take a stance.
Thoughts? ",3.3934725158562387,3.535983156976748,3.8860887949260032,95.05130021141649,72.08139534883722,7.184778012684991,22.61310782241015,6.574015621080383,0.1855046511627912,621,12,153,4,11,195,84,172,0.092,0.7829999999999999,0.124,0.7639,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,12,6,1,6,8,0,0,4,0,18,2,2,1,0,26,26,11,0,6,4,1,2,3,0,1,0,2,1,6,13,11,0,1,4,7,0,1,7,1,0,1,3,11,34,7,20,21,0,10,0,0,7,0,36,7,0,5,5,105,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586749324196376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810522013909965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175881513184072,0.0,0.0,0.1225821611368046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878263874480833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554224369248704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5646101467102356,0.0,0.20233756419410234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785820197169356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687603196455685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919207995561152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879922501022684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910771112830947,0.21292665069925984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217664260541948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115466563901195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463284370778598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291217436573064,0.0,0.16613326468697975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179189891185158,0.1867469769383314,0.15089771602935387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242214242498474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20612740657804676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502328746579395,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KidbayParties,2019/04/01,"The good, the bad and the ugly of cooking with kids. Have you tried cooking with kids? What was it like? There will be mess. There may be tears... But there also will be LOTS of fun! I am a mum of two gorgeous boys age 5 and 3.5 and I happen to be a caterer as well, keen on catering for kids parties mainly. So I cook a lot and I encourage my boys to join me as well. Have a read through our blog for some tips.",-0.926006128702756,1.0887867977528105,0.9564657814096053,102.61598569969358,91.13483146067415,3.685801838610828,17.079673135852914,4.851557810540192,-1.0047842696629212,311,8,78,1,11,101,60,89,0.08900000000000001,0.6409999999999999,0.27,0.9513,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,1,0,0,7,10,0,0,7,0,11,3,0,0,0,11,12,9,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,2,6,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,8,8,13,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,4,2,58,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23478608683305546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451377567213139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24625174347059015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596231774325149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343463091759964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4992042645349794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29367228883761665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19933026536473772,0.0,0.28679754245375405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5279504416907052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saRawr89,2019/04/01,"Bullying situation, but I think the school is trying to protect their reputation... First off let me say I am the guardian of my little brother who is 13. Our mother passed 3 years ago and his father signed over his rights to me. 

Current situation... We have had a bully situation for going on 6 weeks now. Our current issue is one of these said bullies made it into my brother's class and stayed. He is not supposed to be in the same building, let alone the same class as my brother. 

This happened Wednesday last week. Thursday I went to the school to try and get answers. After being there for almost 3 hours and really getting no where with the vice principal and the principal refusing to speak with me I left... Half way home I received a call from the school stating I should keep my brother home for his safety and so they could investigate... They explained he could stay but there was no guarantee that they could keep him safe... How exciting is that?

Friday rolls around and I call the school at 830 when they open to speak with the VP about the investigation. Nothing... Tried her direct line at 930, 1045, 1130, 12, 130, 215, 330, 4, 410, and 430 when they close. Absolutely nothing. Even my emails went unanswered. 

My brother gets home and says ""sis, ive lost all hope"" and it broke my heart. I asked ""why buddy"" he explained that the VP pulled him aside and told him the principal reviewed the security cameras for 48 minutes and said the bully never went anywhere near his class... 

So I talked with him... Asked if it was a ploy just to get the kid out of his hair because he's scared to just tell me... He looke me dead in the eyes and said ""no sis... I remember exactly what he was wearing... Exactly how he was sitting and just staring at me""... So I told him I will 100% back him up and I believe him. 

So here we are today... I started calling the school at 830, and shockingly... Nothing... I plan to go down today and ask to see this video. I want proof! 

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parenting,drfakeit,2019/04/01,"tablet for kids trying to get the little one of my back when we’re in public places like the restaurant so im looking for a tablet, eorher for kids, or one that i can just protect to withstand his throwie little hands.
something with expandable storage for all the movies we have, so i guess android, and a nice HD resolution.
i’ve seen amazon fire and some other made for kids tablets but they don’t convince me. whats your experience?",3.9801344537815098,5.904572929411768,3.999831932773109,88.01352941176474,72.6470588235294,6.26890756302521,27.43697478991597,6.868970318607317,1.2058739495798323,349,13,68,3,7,107,66,85,0.021,0.8640000000000001,0.115,0.6808,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,1,0,5,3,0,0,5,0,3,1,1,1,1,11,8,7,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,4,8,3,10,6,2,6,0,0,2,0,8,4,0,3,3,42,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20520979251957824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26105418422524224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943075866936036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939920273884771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28826994010379464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038125751989074,0.5349561328664969,0.0,0.0,0.22410712043759864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.252522828024922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616817397221245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788267457125202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20545280334154767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119006890991451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,discardFather,2019/04/01,"Thank you to all the parents who are trying [After reading the post about the boy wanting a mom](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/b7vrjl/my_1st_grader_has_been_writing_about_how_he_wants) and feeling like she didn't want him, I felt compelled to write this. It's a throwaway account because I'm not looking for sympathy. (And apologies for posting on April 1st; I needed to say this)

I grew up without a father. It never occurred to me that he didn't want me. I knew that he fought with my mother, so I knew they divorced because of that. While I often _wanted_ a father, and was envious of many friends who had one, it was more an itch I couldn't scratch instead of a real problem. Meanwhile, my mother was never home, always away in a bar, offering her ""companionship"" to whoever bought the next round. I had plenty of temporary fathers—all of them very nice until they got tired of mom.

As an adult, I finally tracked my father down, living in another country. As it turns out, I wasn't wanted. At all. Neither were several siblings I hadn't known about.

I tried over the years to get to know him and he was moderately polite about it, but the last straw was when I took his grandchild to see him. He didn't care and pretty much ignored his grandchild, my wife, and myself. I've never seen him again.

He's in a nursing home now and I've recently received notice that the country he lives in often requires children to pay for their parent's retirement care if the parents cannot. Finding out that I might be financially on the hook for that SOB is the shit icing on this shit cake.

I'm a moderately successful middle-aged man still struggling to come to grips with my father rejecting me. I can't even imagine the struggle that little boy is having to deal with.

For all you parents trying to figure out how to be a good parent for your children, thank you for being there. When you can't figure out how to deal with your child's tantrum, it means that you're there for your child's tantrum. Don't know how to get your children to brush their teeth?  At least you're trying. When they grow up, of all the things they can say, ""mama/papa didn't want me"" won't be one of them.

As a parent, I know how hard things can be at times, but if you're still there for your child, *never* sell yourself short. Many of us would have loved to have had you for a parent.",5.029022925764191,6.229081080786031,5.012399017467249,84.618292849345,68.97816593886463,7.38438864628821,28.286299126637555,7.531066641456977,1.5842945414847165,1877,64,357,19,32,583,218,458,0.132,0.807,0.061,-0.9825,8,0,0,0,1,0,71.0,1,10,8,2,22,22,6,2,25,0,36,7,4,5,8,65,69,24,0,12,6,15,6,1,1,3,2,2,2,10,21,16,1,2,13,2,4,5,19,12,0,2,23,12,53,10,69,37,8,49,0,2,4,1,73,21,3,5,22,250,74,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212822330013329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829397498822535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015131156505312,0.0,0.0,0.09103159152900064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15225424487232056,0.0,0.0,0.06431828213228619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395505682710595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049316291945590056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03775345201779277,0.053341516874515764,0.0716912191235155,0.08179312441243926,0.06824351403212668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057686887026192825,0.0,0.07801996971571076,0.0,0.0,0.06262642926912787,0.05971734595851369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688620998515238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497924850548897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310370019859278,0.06086288282358693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03647811236299869,0.07483510396807715,0.1318631676605151,0.0,0.06270076601633971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738912108920894,0.0,0.0,0.15139952604451662,0.0,0.08133333318406212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920899228323416,0.0,0.1748961993358673,0.0,0.0,0.054888215970295966,0.055364008695822094,0.23034857059002325,0.0,0.07940830413750448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500791366383717,0.0,0.0,0.10119143956880253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5803555118463741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301907592482815,0.0759623237750091,0.0,0.07144542755351542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468636187499078,0.08498643220369954,0.0,0.0,0.07372382140862792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875504850544047,0.0,0.0,0.05949925939390264,0.0,0.0,0.08435150357620595,0.15328747261856987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925697750755655,0.0,0.0,0.15611455634281352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374851297419699,0.0,0.0,0.09920975278562616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043538436101980604,0.08581776266227928,0.0,0.0,0.08295684680986247,0.2027736752499724,0.08121533696769255,0.0,0.0,0.08981419245041157,0.0,0.0,0.061607398498463674,0.264240200593688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719755100632386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05304069505422514,0.0,0.0,0.04808255653627029
parenting,uriDium,2019/04/01,"Help us please. Our little one keeps hitting us. I know it is not uncommon for a 2 year old. But we have tried the standard advice and it helped at first, but it is getting worse again. We don't smack and we don't reciprocate the anger or violence. We try to be calm and say the usual ""I won't let you hurt mommy/daddy"". She is usually quite aggressive when she doesn't get her way. Which can be very awkward, because you cannot reason with a 2 year old about bath time. After I have tried a couple of minutes of coaxing, making fun and other various ways of getting her into a bath, I eventually have to try to pick her up to to take her for a bath. I will warn her first that I have to pick her up and take her. It is then at this point she will try hit us. It is not just bath time, I am just using it as an example, there are many scenarios. It is in general if she is not getting her way. She used to be bad with other toddlers when she felt threatened, but that has gotten better and stayed better.

We have read articles that say that she might struggle to express herself, but her vocabulary is much better than kids her age",3.5751923076923084,4.263266722222223,4.838536324786325,86.42139423076927,71.94871794871796,7.901282051282053,25.73611111111111,8.07648339933343,1.3346162393162393,879,26,191,12,16,292,126,234,0.109,0.774,0.118,0.3252,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,9,2,0,6,7,11,2,2,9,0,29,0,0,6,0,37,44,16,0,1,11,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,4,1,15,14,0,1,3,5,0,0,8,6,0,3,2,3,36,5,25,32,2,28,0,1,0,0,35,8,0,3,16,141,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437225353175301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891808270642411,0.06510960965516555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28339092245818265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818182677646083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255312940119214,0.0,0.0,0.18170290014467444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22321260952048447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14318327883780288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11434095314827647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09493650563673628,0.0,0.0,0.05869928400613485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921916161258503,0.0,0.0,0.10705040582121357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129565579327445,0.10828728661296827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330718231148156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851670516725784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241555872255032,0.0,0.07237635880143922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724391005770635,0.10096877225734437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113604230322966,0.10683763266285216,0.0,0.0,0.10981716207633226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987717610772973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11384389344488155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165967390267736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606137429501875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456205728066308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625805784045581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854332488569474,0.1844968964068749,0.23526944968779626,0.08812838709575484,0.0,0.2543393919243562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884721947432616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756263884726813
parenting,queen_of_bandits,2019/04/01,"I found my 2 year old at 5 in the morning, asleep on the floor. I don’t know how to feel other than guilt. I’m a new mom and I just feel awful.

Some backstory. We are vacationing and my toddler decided to upgrade from a crib (playpen) to a big girl bed (one of the twin beds provided in the house we are staying in). We said sure and once she fell asleep we put all the pillows we could find around the floor of the bed and made a barrier of pillows next to the nightstand. She has actually slept *really* well with the twin bed and has had no issues with rolling. Also, every night/morning, she wakes up and comes sleeps with us normally and has been so far in the vacation. This is because I would bring her to our bed when she woke up because I was too tired to be anywhere else.

But I just woke up this morning to it being quiet. And I mean that quiet of, “Why am I up? Where is the toddler? Why is she not here? Did she stay in bed?” So I at first just laid there thinking I am just used to her waking me up at this time. But then I got a feeling that I should check. And there I find her between the foot of the twin bed and the playpen, on the floor. I picked her up and she wiggled, but was fast asleep and put her back in bed.

Should I be worried about the fact that I found her like that? That I didn’t *hear* her get up? Nothing looked messed with or different around the house so I don’t think she went far from our rooms. But I just feel like I messed up somewhere with not having woken up to her.",0.8653530127814975,2.744924393081764,2.1773118279569914,97.72306451612906,81.7987421383648,5.361087441671738,20.32095759789004,6.3737218528115,-0.09460004057618177,1159,32,277,10,31,371,153,318,0.037000000000000005,0.906,0.057,0.7825,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,8,0,0,1,21,7,0,1,22,1,26,9,8,4,3,64,51,24,0,5,12,1,4,2,0,3,1,4,11,1,10,25,0,1,13,0,1,6,6,3,1,2,16,9,47,4,46,28,2,48,0,0,1,0,28,30,0,2,12,194,57,0,0.0,0.0,0.11672961600941616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565822808890953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297021931527446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09197862448580432,0.0,0.14583567417760454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304005322942318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09550499669018016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249750327487123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992523580661047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078306775337392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419292043594615,0.08545490575733622,0.0,0.0,0.21865681374917886,0.10174675091345077,0.0,0.2623092586141249,0.0,0.0,0.062495309000404335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566919859005897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481783667975292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760455214738063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484979672867105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06573875732104165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687832805800287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044873795853676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131851559704768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13029873782038287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400947995791178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552751595768307,0.12721477648233714,0.11225310435324053,0.1171999446109642,0.11477640519639876,0.0,0.12551864984616218,0.12738894209354978,0.0810560463826302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404976457520106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663015889507288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11378382085198467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970408223722895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549930960954624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273826264396787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15329237899442025,0.0,0.0,0.06975004034229264,0.13748294481130835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388535987037124,0.10331128313344767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107550674003098,0.11088680237525926,0.21587273017628444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147757643343406,0.0,0.08497297907416447,0.0,0.0,0.07702987425432244
parenting,Bingobangotwat,2019/04/01,"Tantrums affecting older sibling Hi

I have an 8yo boy and 5yo girl.   Boy is calm, sensitive lad and girl is a whirlwind of chaos and noise!  They are great together and get on really well, but my daughter still has the most intense tantrums every couple of days.  She is SO LOUD!  I have to put cotton wool in my ears sometimes as my ears end up ringing otherwise. 

Its always about not wanting to go to school, go out, or go to bed etc. and have to stop whatever she's enjoying.   We are very careful not to turn it into a shouting match so we remain calm but firm and don't ever give in but also don't shout back, just let her burn out while we get on with the day.  I have generally believed ignoring her is the best approach as it seems to be about control/attention, I always then come back and pay her lots of attention once she calms down.

The problem is, it's really starting to affect her older brother.   I'll leave her to scream it out in the back of the car / lounge / bedroom and he;s right next to her and I;ve found him crying as it upsets him so much.  Same issue at bedtime, he's in his own room across the hall but she's screaming in hers and he's sat with me in his room worrying his sister is going to be sent away for being so naughty.    The volume and intensity I think he is finding a but traumatising.   She is a lovely, fun and sweet girl 99% of the time it's just this once a day moment that is overshadowing everything else.

Often the tantrums are at times when we can't separate him away from the situation eg. bedtime or school run so other than explaining to him that it's not his fault and his sister isn't going to be sent away etc I'm not sure what else to do?",2.1642591897974484,4.060934191860465,3.624951237809455,88.83805326331587,77.72093023255816,6.764291072768192,23.306076519129785,7.717688229018142,1.0368050637659412,1318,42,279,20,31,434,184,344,0.127,0.7609999999999999,0.112,-0.5573,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,1,1,18,21,3,1,17,0,27,3,2,2,2,56,49,32,0,2,13,4,0,0,0,0,0,8,4,5,13,24,0,2,6,0,1,12,8,9,1,0,4,9,35,12,49,40,8,56,0,0,0,1,44,24,0,6,20,191,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875150203602178,0.18211714523038144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084529683396026,0.2524459637836395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12329561555353598,0.11484513706735815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157613622477022,0.0,0.0,0.09426844440302128,0.0,0.0,0.12274050422925095,0.0,0.12108759436542887,0.12020905828093785,0.21172929983959413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828375712330168,0.0,0.09692680658198136,0.0,0.2440975999688293,0.0,0.098990098798832,0.09220359191897168,0.0,0.09835299841519933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002148215297284,0.0,0.0,0.11998967870778625,0.0,0.0,0.11435039826380786,0.10497989235059686,0.3109717726981918,0.0,0.0,0.12065232273700904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422156484566405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587571871304456,0.0,0.11190456180113016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303760704898692,0.0987692364311092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044721600205078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638521825456075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330891149399442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047143843382879,0.0,0.11001226337273036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402135508860956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345677501398207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150784749976607,0.0,0.09962538914006104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300937109236132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823387769582926,0.0,0.07745855925135252,0.0,0.0873948229114795,0.09149244559167384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314106321823363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012144138972543,0.0,0.0,0.127624697271378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190337058733168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902952228764815,0.06454751752510221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839508438717898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113641541635924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ell3T33,2019/04/01,Raising a Teen Any other parents out there trying their hardest and giving their best efforts to raise a teenager? Some times idk if i'm coming or going. It doesn't help she has been a victim of bullying and we're still dealing with the aftermath. Any suggestions are much appreciated ,4.487358490566038,7.14615886792453,5.24211320754717,76.35901886792455,73.52830188679245,7.258867924528303,29.467924528301893,8.238735603445708,2.5220369811320755,232,10,37,4,5,75,48,53,0.162,0.672,0.166,0.3054,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,2,2,2,2,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,8,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,4,7,3,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,3,3,26,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4375816602890811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376410289866649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27714621081901153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316946536934923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30863752511676296,0.1828494126974532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156521860361183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365122414727399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572486384538538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256937983526742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876062635788664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21843694314545686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Choice_Wrap,2019/04/01,"My son(18) is in an relationship with his ex-girlfriend's father(40) ​

My son is now 18 and was seeing his girlfriend (also 18) for the past  2 years. They  broke due to her moving to a different province for university and being in a long distance relationship wasn't working for them.

Her parents are divorced and her father lived in a different city. He moved back 7 months ago. My son has never met her father until then.  He confessed to his father and I he’s been seeing  her dad since October and they broke up mid November. 

 He says he isn’t gay, that he’s just attracted to this man, and that he's more happy with this man than he's ever been- This is true, btw. He's been an angel lately . He admits what he's done is wrong but that it just happened.  I did ask if he's been having sex with him and he said yes. He did assure us that he's been safe. 

 I’m worried about some things – the age gap. What is a 40 year old man (8 years younger than my husband and I) doing with an 18 year old??? My husband asked my son for this man's information. He gave it. He's a doctor, he's fairly good-looking BUT WHAT IS HE DOING WITH A BOY 22 YEARS HIS JUNIOR. I know my son is technically an adult now. He's not disrespectful. He's smart, respectable, ambitious(he's been wanting to be a doctor since he was a 5 years old) but still.  A mother can't help but worry. My husband was trying to keep his head together. We're not anti - LGBQT. We accept our son regardless. Just this man in particular. What kind of parent starts sleeping with their child's ex? 

 I’m also worried about the hostility he will get from his ex-girlfriend. He broke up with her to be with her dad. They were seeing each other WHILE they were still together. He did acknowledge what he did was wrong and wants to make things right. I'm worried though.  This most definitely cause tension between the dad and his daughter. 

 We're pleased that our son has been honest with us, but angry over what’s happening.  We've brought him up to know that cheating is wrong and he does harbor a lot of guilt for cheating and wants to make amends( easier said than done though). 

We can't stop my son from seeing him. The more we push the more he will resist.  What should my husband and I do about this?  We’re sick with stress. 

​

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parenting,SirDidymus,2019/04/01,"Our Pancake Plant bears fruit today for the very first time! We've had a pancake plant for months now, and our 4YO has been living up to the moment for it to finally blossom. [Happy April Fools to all of you](https://imgur.com/gallery/O0R8Ddb)!",6.884242424242423,8.373945000000003,5.148181818181818,84.2756060606061,64.9090909090909,7.684848484848485,30.57575757575757,7.793537801064563,1.993403030303031,196,7,34,2,3,56,36,44,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.5837,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,2,1,8,1,1,9,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,8,21,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4332569218072763,0.0,0.33641675972722274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4210229384593516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492385853380056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156887012471346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306224262901264,0.0,0.3748929503366254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263334421534733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Teachesthepeaches,2019/04/01,"My 5 year old daughter's dad showed her his drugs? My daughter went to her dad's house over the weekend and when I picked her up, he showed me his mushrooms that he was growing and told me to smell them. My daughter said, ""yeah mommy smell them, they smell like mushrooms."" I asked him if they were mushrooms like you buy at the grocery store, or psychadelic mushrooms. He admitted they are psychadelic shrooms and I freaked out. I told him that you can't expose a 5 year old child to drugs, but he thought it was no big deal since she can't get high off of smelling them. He said he would keep them out of her sight from now on, but I don't trust him. Just last year he told me he would blow vape clouds in her face because she liked how they smelled. I freaked out then too, telling him there are still dangerous chemicals in vapes. He honestly had no idea and stopped doing that. He is a major pot head and has the mind of a kid and I don't know if my daughter is safe with him. Do I have enough evidence to get supervised visits for him and my daughter? Or am I overreacting? ",3.5870376712328778,4.724664561643838,3.541732305936076,94.04903681506852,72.33333333333333,7.118835616438358,27.386130136986303,7.413659706084162,1.1186184931506855,845,30,192,9,16,256,120,219,0.09,0.8170000000000001,0.094,-0.489,2,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,8,0,7,9,1,0,6,1,19,4,2,2,0,30,32,16,0,4,7,7,0,3,0,2,2,2,0,2,4,11,0,3,4,3,2,3,6,3,0,0,11,8,42,6,20,19,2,27,0,0,1,0,54,12,0,4,15,115,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13811855468762835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006197480260647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231521514461746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34266695618850795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526566797286052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437789076549174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516256173981847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609722763546008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704740965442333,0.0,0.16678240680647208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131961969648995,0.0,0.0,0.0811949797440099,0.12042921203955036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21653740957191212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14917701013539236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100601425117759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810723964298557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221346879247055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798672002673795,0.123518684550918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913276605430715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729041440834925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42352060418506987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13695804483750687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20990294297840675,0.0,0.0,0.28542245098515523
parenting,Awolrab,2019/04/01,"Toddler attacked by a dog; should therapy come in? So I have a son who is almost 3 years old. About a month ago he was attacked by my moms dog. This wasn’t a new dog, but the dog never liked my son for whatever reason (the dog was fine with similar aged girl cousins, dog was not fixed in case you’re curious). Regardless of the reason, it was pretty traumatic for everyone involved. He had severe lacerations on the back of his head (6 staples), punctures on his cheek, a black eye, and an intense amount of blood. 

He had to be taken to the hospital in an ambulance and the 5 hour ordeal at the hospital was another traumatic event for him. Numerous cleaning, scary tools, scary people touching his head... they had to do twilight sedation since his anxiety was so bad. They didn’t want us letting him eat (he has a lot of hair making it hard to see and didn’t want to rule out surgery if it came to it) and he was out past his bed time. 

After that he had all the medicine he had to take, all the bandages, cleaning, he couldn’t sleep well since the stitches were at the back of his head. His anxiety at the hospital made him constipated/impacted. So with all the pain I had to help him with that. 10 days later he goes through it all again to get the staples removed. 

It wasn’t until after the staples removed did he start to talk about the dog. He would bring up how the doggy was hungry and he was very fast. Every week gets worse... He jumps when he hears a dog bark, he talks about him being scared of the doggy (the dog went bye bye, I remind him). He will scream and refuse to be let go when we go to my mom’s house. 

Has anyone had something similar to this? I am worried that I am not doing a good job helping him through this MENTALLY. The first 5 years are very influential to his development; should I look into therapy? I am seeing his doctor in a month for his booster shots and I’ll bring it up. Just wanted to see if anyone had a similar experience. ",2.642264855180649,4.463979398477157,3.9639295312033447,87.28309346073458,76.08121827411169,7.3764108689160945,25.293819050462822,8.219915518859313,1.5269438041206325,1529,54,318,27,34,502,198,394,0.14400000000000002,0.799,0.057,-0.9905,1,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,2,0,2,1,14,10,2,1,32,0,43,11,8,5,5,43,65,17,0,10,6,5,3,1,0,4,2,2,3,1,14,16,1,1,2,0,0,10,8,6,1,1,27,11,31,4,52,28,6,51,0,0,6,0,53,14,0,4,30,202,45,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0864830549510641,0.0,0.0976945083264708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230253389097127,0.14926972032218774,0.0,0.0,0.13643559814875422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219823055363057,0.0,0.15003870814615455,0.08146041006701844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158523201684736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404124632370262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291958514307866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985910490337496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983054615200723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822004100042634,0.09322491824629234,0.0,0.09543460883711656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298640662689419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194450591139884,0.0,0.11089375883754206,0.08183059301483922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873966197893738,0.0,0.30038106957911503,0.0,0.10995975512555793,0.0,0.13078784972991686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607917149180313,0.1125737465171968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681548674206457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952803724792068,0.0,0.047663991090700894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08192772485163925,0.0,0.0,0.0829439427041311,0.0,0.09231576726694972,0.06512356465065665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09831980895304608,0.0,0.0,0.22852747433822926,0.15574652672151582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524602772137517,0.094226236511616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10237517780054574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381312092720446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313421444938094,0.06763738530990733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925589042577676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062049993526548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767683990999848,0.0,0.23323346406468046,0.0,0.0,0.11021758129737272,0.0,0.1614090156302555,0.0,0.09763271607452016,0.0,0.0,0.07510819249873464,0.0,0.0,0.06905506820597751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335467607682195,0.15683369441981942,0.0,0.0,0.22314188881013086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056889337085677526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735538358386152,0.0,0.0,0.16099816042732534,0.17263424216651554,0.0,0.07825855832543502,0.0,0.0877201864992204,0.09044119039532708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907920855900157,0.09942427565340067,0.06930542872809288,0.0,0.0,0.1256537906104805
parenting,showmeevol08,2019/04/01,"Helpless, mean mom, Please help!! - im desperate for change! Before reading, please understanding i am only asking for help...

I have a 1 & hr yr old son who i truly do love dearly. He is my light, my world, everything i do is for his future. Hes always been a ""golden child"". Hes super intelligent and has a such a strong personality, i even felt it in my pregnancy. But even though my love for him is deep i have a problem.... i can get very easily ticked off and snap on him. It hurts me so soo much that im like this. I dont want to be like this. I scream at him very meanly... grab him hard.... but i feel like i cant control myself. I tried to get counseling but no one would understand me.. its like as if i need an extremely deep and well experienced counselor. My mom treated me how i treat my son & i hate it soo much. She was very verbally abusive and sometimes physically. Its very scary. I dont want him to develop in this environment. I have no family to talk to... no friends. Im in a new state all by myself because i wanted to give him a better life than what i had. My family is a bunch of no bodies & im trying so hard to be different but its soo soo hard doing this alone. Im a single mom holding down a job, a place, and $200 daycare thats due every single monday. Im so stressed out from many aspects of life. I really really really just want healing from my childhood so that i can be the best mother i can be. My mom never gave me hugs or told me she loved me etc and it effects me... but i am overly affectionate with my son. However, i get so crazy so easily im so hurt by my actions and i dont want to continue to have my son in this environment. Im scarying him... im scarying myself. I want help. I want healing. I just don't know how. Has anyone been through this? How did you heal your childhood to be a good mom? I wish i was softer...and kinder... & i spoke with a kind gentle voice. I wish i didnt snap and i can manage my stress, anger and frustration.",0.03157376054985761,2.0970859239905018,2.842596654369032,90.636778187699,86.43467933491686,6.148299388487391,19.17122353060089,7.459000224883572,0.5086946075706278,1518,43,345,27,47,533,198,421,0.175,0.633,0.192,0.8848,3,1,0,0,1,0,85.0,0,2,0,6,17,30,3,2,15,0,39,10,1,5,2,48,68,28,0,13,9,10,6,4,1,1,5,3,0,2,18,12,0,2,8,1,0,1,11,10,1,1,11,11,71,20,35,51,8,25,0,3,0,4,41,14,0,2,13,223,89,3,0.0,0.06923840373852506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060523208347138424,0.0,0.0,0.0486243456499352,0.2532662789039441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040860576656531714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05463079687094139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035622711679575286,0.0,0.0497256650911503,0.0,0.06132612757478938,0.051682863081721285,0.0,0.06491044059619283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181869969555528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554217281783746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06105432822055727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054635259129725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517280983176715,0.07719430231092224,0.0,0.049235774237095006,0.0,0.05251949435730966,0.0,0.11017858776801856,0.0,0.029547551867420956,0.0417474734706077,0.05610877687402955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045148355855596234,0.0,0.09159291317717573,0.05605818788221205,0.0,0.04901426407918477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704448095131118,0.05769453459992108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750746210249992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511624102006064,0.0,0.5680988294296349,0.0,0.057989801360352373,0.0,0.0,0.0608532435418294,0.032115500016396625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255169900462822,0.1141976544622558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822528359087987,0.0,0.0,0.059246043863684324,0.0,0.127310259187621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422041061871527,0.0,0.0,0.0859159796846223,0.0433303666577875,0.0450702914126057,0.056438912018278525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061319902679423374,0.0,0.0395984890042512,0.04444404522292825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102501870679715,0.06105432822055727,0.12829276742071144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05591640932152787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845291048485371,0.0,0.11230890130304308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779578274694869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387899338031314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696952467039566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05741415068516525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05583915004569958,0.0,0.07934990532749724,0.0,0.0,0.1216701568622826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928668988141607,0.24127399529690866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525419678355312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439955420886876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04151203676580783,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,schplatjr,2019/04/01,"7-year old keeps waking up and doesn't remember in the morning My wife and I are at our wits end on this one. Almost every night for the last 6+ months, my 7 year old daughter will get up in the middle of the night. She'll start hyperventilating, run to our room crying/whimpering, and will just stand there silently. She doesn't seem awake because she doesn't respond to us when we ask her to talk, but she will follow simple instructions (go back to bed, go to the bathroom, etc.). It takes forever to put her back to bed because she will cry ""Daddy!"" whenever I put her back to bed and close her door. This whole process can take 30 minutes to put her back to bed.

She shares a room with our 1 year old. This is starting to affect her sleep. We're trying to figure out what to do but are not coming up with anything solid. We've tried making her room cooler (she sometimes seems very hot), taking away anything overly stimulating like a nightlight or thick blankets, even making her wake all the way up once. But no matter what we do, she keeps doing this.

Has anyone experienced this kind of thing? What works?",3.5087665647298683,5.329557165137615,3.9645259938837927,88.21011213047913,73.6788990825688,6.312334352701327,22.66156982670744,6.937597516519254,0.6034640163098874,874,23,175,8,18,274,134,218,0.032,0.906,0.063,0.6859999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,6,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,8,0,16,3,3,4,1,30,33,9,0,0,6,2,2,1,0,5,0,0,8,0,10,11,0,2,4,0,0,8,5,0,0,1,0,3,26,3,29,28,3,44,0,0,0,0,28,17,0,4,18,110,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185206207034837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810368901055532,0.0,0.1838402286641337,0.0,0.10442502574238026,0.0,0.1049464340896835,0.3435636083133111,0.0,0.13618335434282086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962202160724852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12269791482091225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989336180478578,0.0,0.12457574727425468,0.07377722335834046,0.0,0.09411261205471176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058358977378891015,0.0,0.12696410278519366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985693334005596,0.0,0.1163190340857528,0.0,0.09105093516078523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054571293528410766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912209745107854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915839013120849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20964697934747945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516331144288156,0.11895754271588978,0.07569124871813422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33687000414768714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12653505743434454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20337614628241105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178131509675644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047479529557032,0.0,0.1581245846375644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519549539348622,0.08978074829112251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420894598752771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167481312883418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343621240719725,0.0,0.0,0.09216473137441317,0.0,0.08866277373702605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470978245120007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131940080075079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21579466175986448
parenting,uhtf,2019/04/01,"Vaccinated one year old baby with measles!! crying help!!! I really have no idea how to start this. Or if this is the right subreddit to put it in. 

But I feel embarrassed and so hurt so to just make it quick. My baby got her measles vaccination (MMR) when she turned one which was about almost 2 months ago. I have it documented and signed. About three days ago, in the morning her head/body was so warm than usual. Which she ended getting worse later on throughout the days, with a fever. She was really fussy and sensitive. But wasn’t to the point where she just wanted to sleep the whole day. She did want to be held for the most part but would play, be active & talked a fairly good amount. On the third day she started to feel better and her temperature was down. So we decided to go out that night to a friends to hang with a couple of friends. They all love her and so was all holding her and playing with her while she would run around getting chased. Had a blast honestly! Which i was so happy to see! Ended up falling asleep there and when we got home she was fussy. she played around a little bit towards the time she got tired again she was extremely hard to take care of because everything I did would not make her happy. The next morning we saw what seems like hives/rashes? not sure what but on her inner thigh. I didn’t think much of  it. But It got worst throughout the day.. searched up measles because I’ve been seeing it every where about anti-vaxxers and the outbreak. So I remembered how it looked like. Looked at pictures on google. And yup. Looks just like it.... my whole life just feels like it’s crashing down. She is still playing, running around, and talking but will be more sensitive when slightly tripping over on carpet! When she isn’t sick it’s nothing to her, will get right back up or laugh because she’s a strong and healthy. (Updated on all her shots) If anyone could please give some advice on what I should do. Please help.  Btw I’m sorry if I don’t make sense or it’s messy I’m having bad anxiety.",2.113335708348174,4.5317050723192045,2.493671179194873,94.18955320033251,80.57107231920199,5.51480821755136,21.018940743379645,6.763600653459839,0.29772100700629434,1598,46,335,17,42,488,207,401,0.08900000000000001,0.7,0.211,0.9963,0,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,3,0,1,2,30,25,0,1,18,1,32,8,3,5,4,70,66,37,0,10,18,0,5,4,2,6,4,0,2,0,20,22,0,2,8,4,0,7,7,4,0,4,20,11,39,21,46,36,13,64,0,1,6,1,36,28,0,10,33,221,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277830312919339,0.15018182610845138,0.0,0.08482551679943959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178399419167067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480344384622176,0.0,0.0,0.059231682113256114,0.0,0.0,0.2262314139553397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651372895797121,0.0707298854459441,0.15491654598659388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491971888923653,0.0924821305490085,0.09409447682404384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636819127384211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676345907594849,0.09373076416604788,0.09305071218402336,0.27315692652510404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500570507939276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137240750970833,0.0,0.07613250348056062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284968061621512,0.06051733186314068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089453359671854,0.0,0.13277351327518044,0.08126221008566185,0.04814303569547807,0.07105130535374796,0.2710035000961088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18035220343082192,0.075884136858377,0.0,0.08693760410315353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355957601376893,0.0,0.08497172615091285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068454267790073,0.09562805483083073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983366356345472,0.16554145145933793,0.08490236287248203,0.0,0.0,0.2134069269539353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645470252589348,0.0,0.16963512448990564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761526233757936,0.0,0.06227210203009988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009077686117437,0.07949524147979793,0.0,0.08128218903023557,0.0,0.08888961634717424,0.0,0.11480430795585167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173341924361553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185973792811824,0.08007898031978583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515763788686291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853567072549736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09596069523836198,0.14468492803844007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13500690034078014,0.07711742811783734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477186424725723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482667895658596,0.11991732081025147,0.0,0.06765006422481327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07983882017812889,0.0,0.06369189440084358,0.1361744831784155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427918789144095,0.0,0.0,0.04939548293281685,0.09736247349326144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921409023896504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329685411731577,0.0,0.09992911617998958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891529141360922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632742729536311,0.1805281251599574,0.0,0.0,0.054550905209144525
parenting,GotToGiveItUp,2019/04/01,"How to create a behavior chart for a daughter (9) with mild attachment disorder and anger issues So my daughter (9) has been through a lot in her life.  She is the first born and her mother suffered from severe post-partum depression for many years.  I also have struggled with anger and frustration issues especially when she was a young child.  She was never abused, but she has seen me be angry and her mother struggle with depression.  She unfortunately has been through trauma.  Eventually her mother and I divorced which was very hard on her as she was very aware of the situation (Age 6).  

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I have read through the literature on RAD and she doesn't seem to meet the criteria, although she does show signs of some of the behaviors.  She exhibits very extreme bouts of anger and physical violence towards others.  She routinely hits, kicks, or pinches her brother and has started getting in trouble at school for being physical with boys in her class.  She rarely shows any remorse, and is very adept at lying and manipulating narratives around a situation to suit her aims.  She prefers to growl or bark at adults rather than speak to them, make eye contact, etc.  Don't get me wrong, she is also very bright and I love her dearly.  However, her behavior problems have begun to overshadow her strong suits especially at school. 

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Her mother and I are now on good terms, and we are working together and with a therapist to set boundaries for her.  In my research about attachment disorders, I have found that these kids feel an overarching need to control their surroundings.  Because they have had a hard time developing an attachment as a child, they feel insecure and attempt to control situations.  By refusing to eat certain foods or complete certain homework assignments, or by displaying extreme anger/violence these children are attempting to control what they perceive as a chaotic situation.  Setting consistent boundaries can actually help these children feel more secure as it lessens the amount of chaos they are experiencing.  

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Her mother and I would like to create a behavior chart that sets very clear boundaries regarding anger, physical altercations, and lying.  We are looking for ways to set some clear boundaries without being too authoritarian and losing any more trust with her.  

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Is anyone here a parent of a beautiful, but difficult child?  Does anyone have any advice?  What might be some examples of punishments or lost privileges that would be appropriate for a AD kid? Despite her violent outbursts, she has an underlying fragility, so holding her accountable is a difficult task.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.  Her mother and I (and her therapist) are kind of at our wit's end!  Thanks in advance.  ",8.433642302980807,10.001181561181436,7.824280658772293,66.20013270722744,61.447257383966246,11.179420171498572,39.762896420307605,11.076767947671922,5.014622104260242,2236,116,332,60,31,701,243,474,0.18600000000000005,0.659,0.155,-0.9568,2,0,0,1,2,0,71.0,3,0,6,11,12,35,7,3,23,0,42,5,1,6,5,69,58,38,0,7,9,10,6,1,0,4,1,1,1,9,11,29,2,6,7,3,1,1,4,21,0,1,10,12,54,14,62,37,9,36,0,5,4,1,68,17,0,11,14,239,65,8,0.0,0.08104705095377157,0.06675202187731785,0.0,0.0,0.13368636365685593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940462844701318,0.0,0.296460979786842,0.33247132313551264,0.18606710666658252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956587402213545,0.0,0.0,0.06089368416068298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04169818442824134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717198469675289,0.0,0.230161277549753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11783179785006374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679284634297025,0.0,0.11972085891298867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999393420842343,0.0,0.0,0.0605852642038441,0.0,0.07628806780674949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376070847047612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058184045961162126,0.0827138744248109,0.07500098932999423,0.0,0.0,0.07147608938057698,0.0,0.0,0.057373673334369185,0.0,0.07541518293648229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225523347585739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04584947444501638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279112101146058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712317971491984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04831546796496844,0.03341853155279287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05744177512942671,0.07652610348148811,0.07467058253713417,0.05815427334014905,0.06173689710213881,0.0,0.04565991748292585,0.06935048869645845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07256538336032985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072038413279165,0.05275705399583496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595407503341299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551171636684233,0.0,0.0,0.06545298318182105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842208599078696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845613960929698,0.0,0.06227204563224965,0.0,0.07727656945994534,0.0,0.0,0.30755393724339786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048416402464709934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302053722178126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297682156084224,0.0,0.15884364558786004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03988667467643293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386406791204608,0.0,0.05429557392013002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593860532423039,0.0,0.04979861729132887,0.0,0.0,0.1457758112820815,0.07478857110243868,0.33247132313551264,0.04404965960837903
parenting,viciousworlds,2019/04/01,"Just found out my husband is in a serious relationship with someone in another country. Two kids. Today I found and read hundreds of communications my husband has had over the past few months with a woman in another country. I am totally stunned and afraid for the impact on my kids (two kids under 7). He is in love with her and definitely planning to leave. 

My question is: I am so rattled and distracted. What strategies can you offer to help me be present with my kids when my mind is spinning like this?

I’m also interested in other guidance you have to offer for the situation. I’m going to speak with a lawyer tomorrow. ",4.89186741363212,6.567937831932774,6.225490196078433,73.97915032679741,69.84033613445378,8.986367880485528,34.23062558356676,9.444778638647367,3.458528664799253,498,25,87,11,9,168,76,119,0.055,0.825,0.12,0.8733,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,1,4,6,0,2,6,0,11,1,0,0,1,16,17,7,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,10,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,2,3,1,13,3,21,13,2,16,0,0,0,1,18,9,0,1,7,66,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584696742502044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4155792065751901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4345476975253771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261974302846045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132823471602278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20982440868301236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09681169589010824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884848405170778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000866183017717,0.0,0.15817061303376356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891675673797422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22198622339670213,0.0,0.1982151181790426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127512834683292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22274182062111667,0.0,0.0,0.1679015898459942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878339248206417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871499690756536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yukdave,2019/04/01,Dad 101 - When by the pool always empty your pockets and prepare to jump in I explained that to my nephews today and Godmother last month that my 3 year twins might fall in and be prepared to go without thinking.  Today I was in the water and lifting him up before his head was wet.,4.241785714285712,5.395228178571434,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,70.78571428571428,6.314285714285715,30.07142857142857,5.985473137389443,1.5016928571428578,222,9,41,1,4,72,43,56,0.033,0.932,0.035,0.0258,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,2,1,0,0,8,7,5,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,9,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,6,29,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559573933096811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617547125251237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748226927937621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156981240337299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507444122710725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263271684683725,0.0,0.0,0.24553254827099635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19710501535181688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5831594292817232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29652648924022496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809170745532495
parenting,Filo_uchiha,2019/04/01,"Dad getting out of prison soon. My dad (39) got locked up when I was 5, (I’m 17 now) so I never really had a good relationship with him. He’s getting out in a couple of months and he wants to be in my life. I want him to of course but it is gonna be very weird not
being comfortable around my own father. Any advice would be helpful on how we can rebuild a relationship.",-0.2650555555555556,1.7440980499999978,2.479166666666668,93.1202777777778,87.25,5.555555555555557,17.63888888888889,6.937597516519254,-0.025027777777777867,284,7,67,4,9,99,61,80,0.125,0.8140000000000001,0.061,-0.6308,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,1,1,13,16,5,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,9,2,13,7,1,12,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,5,45,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24703453464676944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719135738721725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504678140806356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797198641739221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641565227074857,0.0,0.0,0.2120377621985651,0.20218831808318904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16944740321303084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17856105616879456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017836103805371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194975971021966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195100585960456,0.0,0.0,0.5428280420480971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085875734085484,0.29821754952694485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17958281217700686,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shittycomicaz,2019/04/02,"My 6 year old scars so easily! I don't know what to do, and I'm worried by the time they grow up their face will be scarred to hell.  Never, ever have we had a problem with cuts and scrapes healing- they just immediately scar up! She has a scar from three years ago when a cat nicked her face,  a fingernail scar,  and some random ones.  She has very fair skin so they are very prominent.  Tips, tricks, advice? Knowledge on wtf is happening? Thanks in advance. ",1.6483333333333334,4.104466055555559,2.4733333333333363,93.36000000000004,82.8888888888889,5.822222222222222,21.222222222222214,7.1686216300943375,0.5286888888888881,355,11,76,5,10,111,72,90,0.18,0.71,0.11,-0.7909,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,4,1,5,5,3,0,5,0,10,5,3,0,2,13,14,6,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,2,1,1,10,1,9,11,1,14,1,0,0,0,8,4,1,2,8,47,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26780264277116983,0.2429325584584223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24789776037457034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423452695144109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15061304948097107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21136753365766853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28757383605141074,0.0,0.1857062533892986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622329068406773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523123344219561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980323792964254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522469175243726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783153952978821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35296390547576645
parenting,BlackPershing,2019/04/02,"Need help with child development Son is 18 months and he is still only saying one word and making little to no gestures. He is a very active boy who likes to run, play and explore and responds to his own name. Constantly baby babbles and likes to play pee a boo. 

He had a cleft lip so his development has always been a few steps back physically and mentally. 

What are some ways we can help boost his development? 

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parenting,whitneyoj,2019/04/02,"Dogs and Bassinets - is it safe? Has anyone had a bassinet knocked over by a curious dog? I like the idea of a bassinet for our family but I am having visions of our pup putting her paws up and knocking over the bassinet (I've been looking at the halo bassinets, something similar). They seem sturdy and safe but are they sturdy enough to stay standing while being pushed from one side? Maybe I should just go with a pack and play? ",3.7925473321858902,5.790019855421691,3.251153184165233,92.87228915662651,73.33734939759036,6.1886402753872645,28.72461273666093,6.868970318607317,1.2761889845094665,340,14,69,3,7,100,62,83,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.9275,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,13,12,7,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,8,4,11,8,1,11,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,1,2,46,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22085974220825594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32637237513724904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977688579368643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17951302535179067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3565724758150583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543153975611449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652465549454872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31732825853216623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21403790129617145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175309780126492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875510991111537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431678573346008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33666943780878444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway10473737479,2019/04/02,"2YO still breastfeeds and cosleeps — how to stop? Should I stop? Burner account because this is embarrassing. 

My son is two and he still cosleeps and breastfeeds. At this point the breastfeeding is obviously for comfort as he does eat normally. He’ll feed more often if he’s upset or bored, but mostly he feeds to go to sleep. He also wakes up a couple times a night to feed. I had 33 from my friends that toddlers lose interest so I think I was waiting for that to happen, but I don’t think it’s ever going to. 

He does go to daycare and naps just fine so it’s not like he actually needs the breastfeeding, but if I’m there, he refuses to go down without it. We’ve tried CIO and Ferber several times since he was 5 months and my husband and I just hated it. I might be willing to try again but if there is any other way, I’d probably prefer it. 

The weird part (that I never expected) is, we all like the cosleeping. It’s very sweet and warm to all be in the same bed and my husband also coslept until a pretty late age (in his culture it’s a lot more common) so he doesn’t find it weird. A part of me would actually like to keep doing it but I’m getting a lot of weird looks when I mention it and also I don’t want my son to grow up with dependency issues so I think I know I have to cut this out. 

I really want to wean as it’s long past due but I suspect it’s going to need to go hand in hand with getting him to leave our bed. Is this the case? Any suggestions on how to approach this?",1.9575018315018329,3.391189742857143,3.7819841269841277,89.52645604395607,76.96825396825399,6.750915750915753,23.86141636141636,7.468242284971852,0.90691452991453,1159,37,259,15,26,391,160,315,0.125,0.768,0.107,0.3101,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,1,19,18,2,2,12,0,20,8,4,3,5,62,44,33,0,12,14,4,3,3,1,5,0,0,2,0,21,14,4,5,7,1,1,8,6,9,0,1,3,5,25,9,38,34,10,38,0,1,1,0,24,10,0,10,22,168,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.2155291051961001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649344657698181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019349181654787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731760421158588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122189604300735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327751331823625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299830016251755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989100093455393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093177083823628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531857927125379,0.0,0.11539109343702787,0.0,0.3765622867031404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976536113394917,0.0,0.0,0.10902757432685818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115261087514735,0.0,0.09815598873242168,0.0,0.0,0.060689891847861235,0.0,0.12457077743319185,0.11693029572361048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16185276490453088,0.0,0.0,0.09772780256308487,0.09273407790759183,0.12354384289529492,0.0,0.18776867192678606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11714965108179198,0.0,0.0,0.08814482868274658,0.0,0.0,0.1637661107469409,0.08517105789995831,0.0,0.0,0.10363184581531884,0.10819875904070468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23917163800508096,0.1054187152670388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10439282134462027,0.0,0.0,0.11234784674173964,0.11906310394499947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074481242342875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475539616565336,0.0,0.09134951725773656,0.0,0.11051057398676427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17638039446484075,0.1846502241941464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21227883553165955,0.0,0.0,0.12878620093424742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995055876461996,0.0,0.10787486703177804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111699353962856,0.1302699201568874,0.08765484650503698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645137183656808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844688765284838,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,4gotmyusernamegrrrrr,2019/04/02,"Letting babysitter drive toddler Hey everyone ! Mommy of a wonderful two year old girl, needing advice/encouragement 

I stayed at home with P until she was 18m. I started working two days a week and started P in daycare. She has been thriving since, enjoying her new friends and new environment. I ( F27) have been enjoying work again. I missed my coworkers and my interaction with patients. 

Because I started working again our financial situation has changed. We have been bumped up into a higher tax bracket and health insurance is getting too high. If I want to continue to work I need to work a late night in our other office 45mins away. With this late night I would have to have my newish babysitter pick up P from daycare, drive her home and do our night time routine. 

If I don’t get health benefits through my job is doesn’t pay for me to work. And if I want to work I need to do this late night 45 mins away. I’m nervous to have a teen drive my daughter and have a ton of guilt missing bedtime with P. My husband is supportive with whatever I chose. I enjoy working very much, I have been with this DR for 12 years and live what I do. But for my DR to put me on the insurance I NEED to do this late night. I’m so emotional about this decision. I trust our babysitter, ( I’ve known her since she was a kid, she is a coworkers daughter and wants to be in childcare as a career) but still feel uneasy about her driving my daughter in her car. The drive would be 5 minutes. I feel ridiculous posting this but I’ve been so anxious and upset about this whole situation. I want to provide my family with health insurance but I’m so nervous. I also feel guilty not being around for bedtime. I only work Tuesday-Thursday. 

I’m not sure what I’m asking but could use some support or advice, maybe a cyber hug too.   

Thanks in advance and sorry for the terrible grammar ! ",4.082706457925635,5.642201019178085,4.850092954990217,83.50785958904113,71.68493150684931,7.734833659491192,31.11790606653621,8.306716005460428,2.3337769080234847,1472,66,283,23,28,475,176,365,0.101,0.8059999999999999,0.093,-0.7218,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,5,0,0,10,13,19,1,4,13,0,33,6,0,2,1,53,62,26,0,14,11,4,3,0,1,2,5,0,2,2,10,21,0,0,6,0,2,8,4,8,0,2,7,3,46,11,46,48,4,50,0,2,0,1,24,14,0,6,26,185,56,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306154846922837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05979122586172199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446554563523644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665585738900822,0.06989714919551987,0.0,0.1404923103241784,0.0,0.0,0.04557733248699282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909368201055142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969544849522071,0.0,0.0,0.048218596594983884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410292834938389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144317171348681,0.0,0.0,0.07048377132010311,0.0,0.11341348247867294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776487889470271,0.0,0.07812545162906914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384218050783336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899555011793133,0.1499950024102267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741948137252801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3373621986540399,0.0,0.0,0.07645442921761493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602072241411634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511360510550809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496242407448356,0.22175544026061453,0.0,0.14442106942330804,0.0,0.3508193100663445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845549821218556,0.0,0.0,0.05686375154179436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716062178626388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516159008823428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236962416991537,0.16808271448303522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369565138282235,0.15876162258975451,0.07969178452507426,0.05970910564080524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696896466259583,0.07046711045847953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06883550386209424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0435972994617256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460731925706677,0.0,0.0,0.06457477194909952,0.0,0.06169069084392768,0.1763982997785474,0.0,0.059973660751548474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347480125728785,0.0,0.0,0.08108173467316104,0.4898820780618862,0.0,0.0,0.10622481067168722,0.0,0.0,0.09629512696721623
parenting,SummerSocks123,2019/04/02,"Our ""Good"" Divorce My husband and I are divorcing.  We have fought for 3-4+ years to make our marriage work for our son (5 years old now.) It is clearly not working, and we have come to terms with that.  Our relationship will soon begin to have a detrimental effect on him in more obvious ways.  HOWEVER, we are also TRYING to do this divorce in the best way possible - we THINK.  Our son is kind, sweet, well-adjusted, has good friends and even a strong network of loving parents at the school he goes to (parents of his school pals.)  I will take primary custody of him, but his father will have visitation rights with a week head's up up to 182 days/year.

HOWEVER, what ELSE can we do to ensure that we are doing this ""as right"" as possible? My husband and are proceeding with a mediated divorce (we are comfortable with 50/50 custody, child support, dibbying up of belongings, etc.  There is no war over ANYthing.)  We are civil and polite in our discussion.  We include our son in any (age appropriate) discussion so that he does not feel blindsided. And, talk about how he will get to choose colors for his TWO bedrooms, etc.

I tell my close friends, ""If we could be doing this better, tell me how bc although the split of a family is not ideal, we are having an 'ideal' divorce.""  But, I ask you all, ""What can we be doing better?""  Tell me how to make this better for my son.

(Note: We are also researching child therapists to establish a relationship so that our son can have a 3rd party in HIS corner to represent only his emotional interests if we're overlooking any.)",5.663044860473331,6.345169818791945,6.4845602260685276,76.50680148357475,67.255033557047,10.166301660190747,32.12716354645002,10.186864033877496,3.272198657718121,1218,49,227,29,19,403,159,298,0.057,0.79,0.153,0.9807,4,0,0,0,4,0,59.0,21,1,0,10,12,19,2,0,11,0,34,2,1,6,3,47,46,20,1,5,7,10,1,0,3,4,0,0,1,2,11,25,0,0,4,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,1,3,39,17,38,38,6,29,0,0,1,1,65,15,0,2,10,165,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807820671090233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514309639062432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162389463680937,0.0,0.10408850800056244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684517682932308,0.2954153562915631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591013896597034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889647488928218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743498133371713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301085308137916,0.12524328146600114,0.0,0.0,0.2483485845399177,0.07353947053591467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049620861423145,0.0,0.0562971943501889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204306980142675,0.0,0.05817091104955353,0.0,0.0,0.18677456346830654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11426766175866195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159441869798729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10048931274574907,0.0,0.14864153993019102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683331648482476,0.0,0.0,0.08467960604149262,0.0,0.0,0.2472613026767199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25103977994558835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390764492622413,0.0,0.1901686685436632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22536542923025726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263480867512318,0.0,0.0,0.08371433652034599,0.08949142286880296,0.2919499914325952,0.0,0.0,0.12927511365484873,0.0,0.07134261343520339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559301464187798,0.0,0.1087636681077559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675410214877355,0.08931077932089244,0.0,0.10010864480585678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211468545350158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150992467311824
parenting,wakeNbakeCake,2019/04/02,"Special Education Assessment I have a 7 year old ( just turned 7 last month). He is in 1st grade. When he was in Kindergarten last year they wanted to place him in Pre-First because he was a little behind in his class. The school did not have enough kids for the pre-first program so he went into 1st grade. 
My son is again behind academically, however I was assured he was able to do all the things his class can it just takes him a little longer. 
I received a phone call from the school psychologist asking if we would sign off on an evaluation to see if he would qualify for special education. At first I thought I had a biased opinion because he is my son, but he has no issues that would make me think he needs that. I’ve asked everyone who knows and spends time with my son and they all said they are crazy. I’m meeting with the principal in the morning to find out why they wouldn’t recommend him to stay back a year or try a tutor before jumping to special education. 
Is this normal for the public education system to jump to this vs. any other option? 
He started school at 5 years old rather then waiting until he was 6. We live in TN and I’ve been told the school curriculum is more difficult the most. 
I just want to do what’s best for him but I’ve been told the special education system is almost impossible to get out of once the child goes in. I’m just looking for some insight. ",4.1486559139784935,5.302601741935487,5.076306451612903,83.51445967741941,71.00716845878135,8.017275985663083,26.85322580645161,8.395991825355821,1.6729238709677423,1102,36,225,17,20,360,155,279,0.04,0.875,0.085,0.9067,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,4,2,9,7,0,0,19,0,26,0,0,1,3,46,48,12,0,11,12,3,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,9,10,0,1,5,0,1,4,3,1,0,1,14,3,22,6,36,30,7,41,0,0,2,0,39,17,0,8,17,140,31,12,0.11126714932727773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114179775448482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756654770556783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080395293198457,0.0,0.0,0.085557569721433,0.0,0.13565484297113292,0.0,0.0946801488647307,0.0,0.1167680085813852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361619987623413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496870883892245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063205294311443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016961587107614,0.2839313411307985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813249314127135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613399578473378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06114951538292946,0.1813951546606512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22303782910977213,0.09825093136466076,0.0,0.09343638208727348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427168617953217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881237704250815,0.0,0.0,0.08250318136524659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901818208803764,0.0,0.0,0.2335123121396665,0.11849588266663635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625048904146833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584053893105566,0.0,0.0,0.4504331815552047,0.08866551220745396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875546098272182,0.11859597661758188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08365904892652436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07392094991029309,0.07129549651834388,0.0,0.08833368790467185,0.06488076955944794,0.0,0.0,0.2126410588622886,0.0,0.07554309062571789,0.1210267073018286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312564950113238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314576216425404,0.10040129576988878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371229714148769,0.0,0.0,0.28660958451991475
parenting,SageRiBardan,2019/04/02,"My 4 year old doesn't want to go to Disneyland For my daughter's 5th birthday we decided to take her to Disneyland. It was going to mean a big chunk of money, some on credit, for travel, hotel room, and tickets. Because of the expense we weren't going to have a birthday party for her. She seemed interested in going to Disneyland even just a week ago. Today she has told me she would rather have a birthday party than the trip. I'm torn, I would be happy to save the money and debt for an emergency. However, I also worry that my daughter is going to regret the decision after her party ends. I don't want to force my child to go on a long drive to Disneyland if she truly doesn't want to go. 

What would you do? Should I cancel everything? Wait? I can't wait too long or I can't cancel the hotel. I can't get a refund on the park tickets. My daughter is an only child and I think being with her friends to celebrate her birthday is the motivation for her decision.",2.848991116751268,4.42016340101523,4.845377538071066,82.25354854060916,74.88832487309645,7.564593908629442,25.002855329949234,8.278499904357787,1.6498428934010143,758,25,148,13,16,261,102,197,0.1,0.74,0.16,0.9475,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,15,0,21,0,0,1,0,29,40,6,0,10,4,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,3,6,0,2,7,5,6,10,7,1,0,0,3,0,27,5,28,31,1,25,0,1,0,0,20,6,0,4,9,105,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13838447616797073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248432579873019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516484393890644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826950242589756,0.0,0.0,0.10311095626956024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030401529284253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061227336490216,0.0,0.08156243472628356,0.0,0.6210570564950422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661848563453384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27630962772164697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005248023213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638140021828296,0.0,0.0,0.11873073183473308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421191254633107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173773108397494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000307051501116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14797657183371535,0.14917236081235735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27623791949053844,0.0,0.1252241795303585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585400097548919,0.0,0.3326939175157719,0.0,0.0,0.10053145094140356
parenting,AutumnSummer13,2019/04/02,"Son’s homework says: Best day with dad, worst day with mom. I’m the mom. Some context:

Divorced for 3years, my ex husband spends 2 Saturdays a month with our 9yo son. This afternoon, I read in my son’s notebook, a gist of his essay from an English homework:

Best day recently: going to the mall with my dad, we went to shops to look at ps4 games and we ate my favorite cheeseburger.

Worst day recently: traveling out of the country with my mom, very uncomfortable in the plane, long hours waiting for my aunt to pick us up. The only thing that made my worst day better is sleeping with my head on my mom’s lap.

I was telling my friend that I’m a little jealous (okay, not little) that I spent a lot of money to travel to LA with him to bring him to disneyland and he had the best day with his dad in a mall (which was just across our condo?) She said didn’t you see the best part of his worst day was on your lap?

Sometimes we cannot really see the best part of things when we let jealousy get in the way.

Parenting. Not for the faint of heart.

Has any parent out there experienced parent jealousy too? Or is it just me?

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parenting,lopezjessy,2019/04/02,"Working Mom is sad that her Baby does not respond the way she responds to her Nanny. My wife is sad

Our 3 month baby girl is responding more to her nanny to her.

She leaves home for work from 7am when comes back home 7pm, Monday to Friday

She tries to stay awake to take care of the baby until she falls asleep around 10pm.

She cannot resign because she has to help pay the bills.

Many times the baby smiles and responds to the nanny, but to my wife, not so much.

It's heartbreaking. :(

How to we make our baby more responsive to her mom?

She is afraid the baby will recognize the nanny as the mother...

Thank you for all your advice, suggestions, and tips.",3.316315789473684,4.565594954887216,4.147375939849623,89.01670300751883,73.13533834586467,6.823759398496243,20.818796992481204,7.1686216300943375,0.4206396992481203,511,10,107,5,10,164,81,133,0.093,0.807,0.1,-0.0227,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,2,0,2,5,7,0,1,8,0,7,1,1,2,1,11,12,8,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,5,0,0,0,0,19,2,18,11,4,11,0,4,0,0,29,1,0,0,6,67,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950851311337895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772122802589485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351023395013605,0.0,0.12169821296215985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203545485755476,0.0,0.0,0.17197150713994944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747056230838884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338139581308395,0.0,0.4005088220507188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21138910389581486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332607267645997,0.20240283019841349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4676300733744275,0.159350117375386,0.0,0.14675779438917244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21278884119062533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010384486808834,0.0,0.0,0.1838009675260713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641123218394407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554192285998526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846431705451985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906794535752808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,graceofcows,2019/04/02,"Is it possible to co-parent while one parent is in the military? My soon-to-be-ex-husband and I have decided to end our 7 year marriage due to growing apart. We still love and care for each other and want to best for each other regardless of this. Though, I am 17 weeks pregnant and he just accepted another 4 years for active duty in the Marine Corps. He’s been in for 7 years. We agreed on 50/50 custody because we want our baby boy to grow up with two parents that have a healthy relationship despite not being together. We also agreed to co-parent and be a team always putting the baby first. 

I’m moving back home to Texas in a week and he is stationed in Arizona and will soon be moving to another duty station in January (baby is due September). He tells me he’s going to fight his hardest to get stationed in Texas so he can be closer for the baby, but knowing the military, that’s slim to none. If not, he says he’s going to always try to visit us in Texas to see the baby whenever he can get leave. Holidays, birthdays, and such. 

How can we successfully co-parent being long distance to a brand new baby? ",4.435104166666669,5.186072897321432,5.9848928571428575,78.75177380952384,70.02678571428572,8.651904761904763,29.665476190476195,8.841846274778883,2.40506761904762,875,33,166,15,15,299,125,224,0.014,0.861,0.125,0.9599,5,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,8,0,0,4,9,6,1,0,10,0,17,1,0,1,0,30,28,15,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,6,16,0,2,3,2,0,8,3,1,0,3,1,2,13,5,32,21,4,35,0,0,1,1,29,12,0,1,15,107,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627737699794732,0.2419710795538948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049319076604897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180463415178464,0.0,0.0886352904756823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258970682057332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1482463284860241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878240539453062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367828205309615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15193236902713916,0.0,0.16526983322823807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584937164022588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990875872476624,0.0,0.0,0.15395899554437642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286755859656446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123036129144422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30907716850669525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042949357333245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09852769230092936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229019006802962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16391813278759745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616847907863076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561065946004629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562895960552493,0.0,0.0,0.11586602081512408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161176759088816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270871558639262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428560511947778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09871794672993943,0.0,0.1420359545823177,0.0,0.17489987603138762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1715229225487263,0.0,0.2332643246780878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809010340579192
parenting,Hillvalley_34,2019/04/02,"Chicken pox vaccination advice Hi, sorry if this is not the right place for this! I live in the UK and have booked my daughter (20months) in for the vaccination for chicken pox on Saturday. It is not a routine vaccination here in the UK and we have to pay for it privately if we want it.

I was not going to do it just because it is not in our usual vaccinations however, I have known two friends kids have chicken pox recently and the most recent is so so poorly and I really do not want my daughter to go through this. So I straight up made an appointment and we are going Saturday morning.

Can anybody put my mind at rest as to what your experience with the vaccine is like? Side effects? 

Obviously I know it is for my daughter's well being and any side effects (within reason) are way better than actually getting chicken pox!

My MIL is asking if we have 'done our research' as she has never heard of the vaccine for chicken pox. I'm just basically looking for some positive stories on the vaccine!

My daughter was really fine after most of her previous vaccines except MMR on her 12 month jabs, yikes she had a temperature and was up most of the night.

Thanks all in advance.",4.17714912280702,5.924327328947372,5.652631578947371,77.09675438596494,71.76315789473685,8.4,32.40350877192982,8.998388855275968,2.9914192982456136,933,45,169,19,18,315,123,228,0.012,0.8809999999999999,0.108,0.9662,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,6,1,0,4,7,6,0,0,12,0,24,0,0,4,3,39,37,15,0,5,11,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,10,12,0,0,5,1,2,5,6,0,1,1,7,2,23,6,33,29,6,32,0,0,1,0,20,17,0,7,10,132,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.17049775490582264,0.0,0.0,0.17073059529873486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881297021526732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633360111011295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650534064317012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154522232542143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879527700161016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090591570365185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13498526061496816,0.0,0.09128197488334976,0.0,0.2978856354768083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601942434756383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535748344031316,0.0,0.1542775574290214,0.0,0.14671755883847235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16532064133642807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641350098554345,0.0,0.13945676045277422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13475186232211464,0.0,0.0,0.16395926696008892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254118561666705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563798315564572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22385527334609667,0.17963729651200674,0.34502223154653683,0.0,0.0,0.14920663362840664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955804206712505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085515292648755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706722869094443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19242515056256326,0.0,0.20610421871608986,0.13868154393464002,0.0,0.0,0.15709079737448153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway2sdfs,2019/04/02,"When does the guilt stop? (I’ve had to use an old throwaway account as deleted the app and this was the only login info stored in my phone)

I split with my LO’s dad when he was 12 or so weeks old. There were other women and drugs involved and I couldn’t remain in the situation so I made him leave. 
The guilt is still eating me up. Being from a single parent family, I never wanted my children to be from a broken home and I just feel like I’ve failed him so much. It’s been 7 months and I can’t stop the guilty feeling. 
I know I’m not the one who made bad choices in the relationship but his dad doesn’t really care anyway, he prioritises spending money and time on his new girlfriend instead. 
My son is never going to know what a 2 parent family is like or go on family holidays or spend Christmas as a family and it tears me up. 
Now I need to share family celebrations with his father and not see him for the whole of Christmas or his birthday etc. 
I know it’s bad but I try to make up for this by buying him so many things and spending all the time I have outside of work holding him and probably “spoiling” him, as I’ve been told. But it doesn’t fix the problem. 
I have counselling sessions set up but I just can’t sleep or eat anymore and it’s the most horrible and heart breaking feeling I’ve ever had. 

How can I stop feeling so guilty that I’ve ruined his life? 
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parenting,robloxdruglord,2019/04/02,"Why does your kid vape? As a teenager who vapes I can tell you exactly why. I don’t think it has anything to do with advertising or the flavors of the juice. Teens always have done drugs so of course if a new device called a vape comes out, teens are gonna get their hands on them. Blowing big clouds out of your mouth and doing tricks is actually pretty cool. That type of vape that creates a lot of vapor acts as a toy for teenagers. On top of that the nicotine feels good. 

The way it got way too out of hand was when the Juuls Bos and Sorins came out. These have a fuck ton of nicotine. So curious teens wanted to try them out of course. And what they discovered is that the buzz you get from these vapes feels really good and gives you a dopamine rush. We do care about the flavor, but it’s the nicotine rush that we like about vaping the most. If your friend tells you that it feels really good and you’ve heard that vaping is way healthier than smoking (which it is) it is only human nature to have the curiosity to try it (especially if you are a teenager that doesn’t know much). 

Then once the person tries it they figure out they enjoy it and decide they don’t want to stop because it’s always around them and there’s not enough initiative in their mind to say no. Then eventually they get addicted and buy their own device and get really addicted. I think getting addicted to these things is extremely pointless because if you’re addicted you are constantly chasing the dragon and never get the nicotine buzz you’re just wasting your money. This is why I just use my friends devices every now and then and don’t buy my own. I know it’s unhealthy but nothing has convinced me enough to stop.

If you figure out your child is addicted to nicotine please just talk some sense into them and help them stop instead of punishing them and only ever discussing it once. It’s not all their fault they just want to fit in. Thanks for reading this if you did. 

TL;DR: Teens vape for the nicotine rush that gives a burst of dopamine not because of the flavors and advertising. Some teens vape to be cool others decide they’ll just try their friends vape and decide the like it and don’t have enough initiative to ever stop. They eventually get addicted and buy their own vape and get extremely addicted then they don’t feel the buzz anymore and they’re just wasting their money. ",4.454756773399018,6.006356661637932,4.559165024630545,85.98805172413796,70.7456896551724,7.802857142857144,25.972660098522173,8.329178653251315,1.557391699507389,1897,59,375,29,35,589,193,464,0.07400000000000001,0.7929999999999999,0.133,0.9766,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,2,13,22,1,18,18,3,0,26,2,32,12,3,1,5,83,62,38,0,9,18,0,6,2,3,2,8,2,0,4,33,34,0,4,13,2,5,6,11,4,0,0,6,13,45,14,47,53,13,40,0,0,0,1,55,16,1,11,17,248,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.07027448906327928,0.5495350750713582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198414920986186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141773766882313,0.0,0.0,0.05926072252720234,0.06410701011330389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169572350692024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353352236745704,0.0823639091061657,0.07342225044687621,0.0,0.0,0.06203298992405406,0.0,0.07782067927841417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301923113122995,0.07369449964403339,0.0,0.0,0.08351244206386507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232266384241114,0.0,0.0,0.13028011314403856,0.0606742216304977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564813803958182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691164454388704,0.06657503720854953,0.3009913719583143,0.13816323469965186,0.0,0.18120375080172585,0.057595529565243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048268925791718216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915313594483941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036401787001449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06122304210254832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07271279702463693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05293798334401577,0.0,0.055541014485748885,0.06955079125781684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909860160120967,0.0,0.0,0.15338340215586313,0.0,0.10953855775787293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06287914309640326,0.0,0.07904886157156746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326330724522691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203268153410299,0.0,0.1384004877413822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057267782060915935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408250180198569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05788147731784021,0.12588541087952898,0.06630007351914123,0.0,0.0,0.04784236604967832,0.09228629356802186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19556892592022093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219627790165235,0.0,0.0,0.12742574239813292,0.17148216376039885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949421192468816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mag3014,2019/04/02,Backyardagains When you have a kid/kids you end up learning the song to every kid show my son watches the same four episodes and I know every word and song and character I catch my self singing the song at work ...s.o.s send help !!😥😂,2.8841489361702126,4.70012076595745,2.8010106382978712,95.90875,75.38297872340425,6.402127659574468,24.51595744680851,7.1686216300943375,0.7161957446808511,184,6,41,2,4,55,36,47,0.0,0.926,0.07400000000000001,0.508,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,3,2,1,6,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,2,20,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617799200178231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6883009826922886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27378636398724804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22448240698412392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4261194546301437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973683455441963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,baloras,2019/04/02,"TV watching with baby New parent of a 9 week old. She's still mostly in sleep, eat, poop mode but is starting to take in more of her surroundings. When will we have to stop watching R rated content around her?",3.9614285714285695,5.045237047619049,4.479523809523811,87.88214285714287,71.38095238095238,6.552380952380951,25.904761904761905,6.42735559955562,0.90127619047619,164,5,33,1,3,52,37,42,0.07,0.93,0.0,-0.4215,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,2,0,0,6,5,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,8,4,2,11,0,0,2,0,5,4,0,1,7,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942265872100161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381972477343346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192114546190156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3468177296730293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669955035534501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307516300166665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23393875832160596,0.0,0.26394805884917305,0.27632361516134885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485045961769089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26511754225023715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,motherofoctspawn,2019/04/02,"8 year old saying that 6 month old baby wants something when it's the 8 year old who wants it. Is this developmentally normal? Do I ""call her out"" on it? The details vary on what the 8 year old says but of course, this is for things the 6 month old clearly can't ask for. This ranges from claims like ""baby wants to lie down"" when my niece wants to stop holding the baby (which is fairly innocuous) to ""baby wants to have a treat"" which feels more manipulative. The older child is my niece so I also don't want to step on any toes but how far should I go in talking to her and clarifying if she meant the baby or herself? It feels like lying to get her way but I have not been around very many children to be able to gauge whether or not this is normal. 

Adding to this, I have also heard her use similar statements about her dogs so it is not just about the baby. I am only getting more involved now because she wants to hold the baby often so I end up talking to her more. ",3.0086567164179097,4.135703497512441,4.07779104477612,89.69370149253733,73.72636815920399,6.355024875621891,22.35522388059701,6.42735559955562,0.29145014925373136,757,18,167,5,15,246,110,201,0.045,0.884,0.07,0.7194,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,14,3,0,0,10,0,16,1,1,3,1,36,32,16,0,11,11,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,0,2,16,3,0,3,4,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,3,6,18,3,26,27,3,28,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,4,18,111,34,0,0.11396573409739208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822767127659976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775006072377709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145366548542224,0.10654257713781323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694724537140699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637175664638595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093981358827653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524899889361567,0.08141714321060729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908478460735435,0.0,0.06476935302892083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135580209680156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554336674547727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819327233200259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22332444439790244,0.0,0.0,0.5979393341762438,0.0,0.0,0.08667607627372867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126025200774407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877363899701772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528045675318797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320268024440475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571376972122898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842980294230097,0.0,0.0940336660875639,0.4705395990469709,0.09046069505823287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22017058873606568
parenting,elways_love_child,2019/04/02,"The worst part of youth sports The worst part is not the coaches, the parents, the refs.  It is the group text.  Coach sends out a note saying the practice is cancelled or the location has moved and every parent needs to respond.  Or worse yet it turns into a conversation between two parents.  Leading to 2 hours of my phone pinging.  Oh and I have 4 kids so multiple that one notification times 4.",2.851099999999999,5.503399626666671,3.6422500000000007,85.64737500000003,79.4,5.883333333333333,26.70833333333333,7.1686216300943375,1.4438333333333335,312,13,58,4,8,99,56,75,0.168,0.8320000000000001,0.0,-0.9231,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,10,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,7,5,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,3,0,3,1,2,0,2,0,1,2,0,7,7,4,9,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,2,4,40,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1728720824315361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20205989791563356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807271209555654,0.0,0.15213756323974248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903454066433069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6834807005872731,0.4443775337423466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316650589102413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964147343840027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22317573736115184,0.20042998310421206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209094839983876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeyondBoredBoys,2019/04/02,"Raising sons to manhood - what do you do to prepare them? My son is 13 and I look back at the things I've done as a father to prepare him for the next stage of his life, and more often, the things I haven't done.  I decided that as he approaches his bar mitzvah (which I find somewhat lacking as a rite of passage) I would try to create some other meaningful challenges for him to accomplish as well.  For example, he did not know directions or his way around our neighborhood well, so I created a ""find your way home"" challenge.  He wanted to become stronger so we did pushups, starting at 20 and working his way up to 50.  There are more but I wanted to leave the question here: how do you help your sons prepare for manhood?  Is it important for you to help your son become a man and how do you help him prepare for that?  

To illustrate some of the challenges and ideas behind what I did I'm including a link to a post on Medium that I wrote.  I hope it's not a violation of community rules.  It a more eloquent version of what I wrote above with pictures.  
[Finding Home - A Modern Rite of Passage for my Son] (https://medium.com/@joshhorwatt/finding-home-creating-a-modern-rite-of-passage-for-my-son-3f444f7ca?source=friends_link&sk=6b8a5940300d5a6064fcd08190c02845)",6.761168521462637,8.975520824324327,5.608346581875995,78.1127265500795,65.98198198198196,7.7460519342872285,30.175940646528893,8.313332769828598,2.1710929517753046,1021,38,175,14,17,303,116,222,0.006,0.8270000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,2,7,1,5,11,7,1,0,14,0,14,2,0,2,0,34,23,15,0,5,4,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,13,8,1,0,9,1,0,1,3,1,2,0,7,1,30,6,35,15,8,15,3,0,1,0,33,5,0,7,4,132,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467784974747081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120594399616852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416580339835256,0.0,0.0,0.2992254382417538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772596608055569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37144330218086297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724021342930157,0.0,0.407653504364332,0.1345493518938237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292581596729096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444915064817575,0.0,0.0,0.14344005132659668,0.0,0.0,0.0956843871700678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137582079346756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407074981285112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973999211940992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175410467103706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958842787608744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799965838311119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919732380412764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980395771668726,0.32258232831533035,0.0,0.0,0.2436023027349373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862162943122924,0.0,0.0,0.0962319091190347,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,layynizzle,2019/04/02,My 12 year old sent a nude on Snapchat ADVICE PLEASE: Let me first start out saying my 12 year old daughter is amazing! I’ve never had any behavioral issues with her and she’s been an awesome kid. I got called into the school today and the principal and teacher explained to me that my daughter confessed to her teacher that she was playing a game of truth or dare on Snapchat with two other 6 grade boys and they dared her to send a picture of her “downstairs” and she did. She was freaking out and very upset that the boys screenshotted it and I would find out and be mad at her. I just got home and have no idea what to do. I want to approach her calmly so she feels comfortable coming to me in the future but I want to be stern enough for her to realize how bad what she did was.i need any and all advice on how to handle this please and thank you in advance. ,4.794488636363635,5.101005380681818,4.930681818181821,88.20977272727274,69.05681818181819,7.536363636363636,27.93181818181818,6.980632752743323,1.2220181818181817,681,21,144,5,11,213,107,176,0.067,0.8059999999999999,0.127,0.8037,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,2,4,10,1,1,8,0,13,1,1,2,3,36,24,16,0,4,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,8,18,0,0,6,2,0,5,2,4,0,2,9,2,26,6,24,11,2,24,1,0,0,1,27,10,0,1,9,102,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192750709217645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22218641846547854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364022233990322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16681304018993148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407237312744644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879881450905096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08260181180691638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14931185366751928,0.13895744406997013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26131443398335663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386754057301858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441821609083145,0.0,0.1705097066031025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705088943617094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113243114864032,0.12599648681729808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34284634367485184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35864951107365883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991371177322503,0.0,0.16533321942534934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562997083513095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15040374066778692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485009195400162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15958301560434016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479251471588524,0.1927127909696396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604918959231353,0.0,0.0,0.21040228503251013
parenting,UncookedLegume,2019/04/02,"Recommendations, advice, or anything that could help I hope this is ok to post here.  I'm a lurker but have decided that I'm absolutely clueless as to what to do.  

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I would TOTALLY appreciate any suggestions for reading (either books for me to get advice or to read to her) or perhaps a movie or film dealing with this in a productive way, or any sort of advice that can help.

My kid ""Lala"" is 6 years old and in kindergarten at a small school.  Lala is a typical kinder girl who was described by her teacher as ""the happiest kid in class.""  She seems to have quite a few friends, although her bestie moved schools after TK leaving a void which Lala seemed to work past.

For the past month or so Lala has been acting out at home in little ways.  I thought it was just her testing boundaries and doing what most kids do as they start growing up.  She wasn't doing anything terrible, just talking back a bit more and questioning anything we asked her to do (get dressed, brush teeth, etc)

On Thursday night she told her dad (my SO) that two of the girls in school are being mean to her.  One of the girls she absolutely ADORES.  The other girl she seems to like just fine, but doesn't talk about her much.  Lala told her dad that the two girls would run away from her and say things like ""let's kick Lala out of the friends club!"" right in front of her.  To her credit, she responded by saying, ""ummmm, i can hear you!"" Then the two girls laughed ran off without her.  She told her dad that this happened weeks ago and since then things have been fine.  Last night I found out that things are not, and that when girl #2 is absent from school or not around, then girl #1 will hang out with Lala.  Other than that, they still exclude her.  This has now been going on for a few weeks to a month.

At bedtime the other night I told her a story of that happening to me around her age, which actually did (as probably did with most girls at some time or another).  I explained that while i stayed friends with friend #1, I found new friends that liked to be around me and were nicer people.  I didn't want her being mean to either girl #1 or #2, rather just stop letting them hurt her. 

Lala seemed to understand, but of course, she still wants to be friends with girl #1, so every time girl #1 is nice to her she comes running back.

This all in itself is not a huge issue.  But I can see a pattern forming as it did with me growing up where I didn't value myself enough and let people treat me as a backup.  This also carried forward to many of my romantic relationships.  (Yes, the story i told her was a true story, however, the ending I told her was different than the way that I actually handled it as a kid.  IRL it was terrible and I just let my friend pick and choose when to be my friend.)

I don't know how to teach my kid that she has value and that if someone doesn't treat her well that she should find others that do.  I want to teach her that some people, even good people will treat you as poorly as you let them.

I'm hoping to find a book that i can read to her, a movie that i can show her, or any suggestions as to what i can say to her. 

Please, if you have any suggestions, I would very very very much appreciate it.  This parenting thing is hard!  (And yes, i know that I'm still in the easy stages, and yes, i know it gets way harder before it gets easier...)",5.387153237464808,5.177813998516324,5.436053412462908,86.86997907631441,67.76854599406528,8.693235943087577,27.51944000608689,8.139509932561175,1.4333423571482915,2601,69,571,30,39,816,271,674,0.04,0.764,0.197,0.999,3,0,0,0,0,0,98.0,1,4,4,2,27,29,0,0,31,4,63,1,1,2,3,96,105,51,0,13,28,4,1,3,8,6,0,4,1,17,50,28,0,1,19,8,2,12,10,3,1,4,25,7,83,26,89,63,17,83,0,1,1,0,100,31,0,24,38,396,133,16,0.0,0.0,0.10692891898867954,0.0,0.0,0.1606124198263328,0.04856559749231586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04381334948062593,0.0,0.059361969868854725,0.0665725137939537,0.14902885347634384,0.05744921575913619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13525573254504733,0.14631682241416333,0.0512186893857166,0.0,0.0514744312636217,0.08425603734993334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04661992027717444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05981349466654544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04719437055061262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043743166486877656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05648325607558324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057241022498166386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04852524781846276,0.056609881846487416,0.06110227370567984,0.03618646641518503,0.0,0.04616062682139642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10014912034758468,0.0,0.0,0.12014279847398705,0.3386279896749725,0.0,0.1144963217001874,0.0,0.0311368606206235,0.04595295165237796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689638052709226,0.0,0.049078620792031465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061749220246708626,0.0,0.07344548675417112,0.0,0.054956085665019035,0.1088322160317983,0.0,0.0,0.058650891557135286,0.0,0.0,0.057183661938356216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032893060443747,0.04465892666174009,0.0,0.058011794311381586,0.0,0.2801184102162401,0.0,0.08029885880528183,0.05491122445713112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554567921012092,0.0,0.1193587682118222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746133137715073,0.058230183505537825,0.08054987532273898,0.0,0.0,0.05291387403264474,0.0,0.15424238739011012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057490009818442475,0.0,0.03712526312299254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06083476505801266,0.0,0.10460127187391892,0.15193034206538375,0.0,0.0,0.06013995567810002,0.0,0.0,0.05247104743189618,0.0,0.05906992925476104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137426628521935,0.05827299151917675,0.1644062490734393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882101026050161,0.0,0.0467880179672695,0.0,0.1307070768555643,0.0,0.22179051539408887,0.043658350351265016,0.19950504375457068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04532058499301115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04642106490772805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038778702361908834,0.0583959260879964,0.1312595221914156,0.0458045999080561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807184344650741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559287592817075,0.0,0.0,0.04349496211490058,0.06389378007220126,0.0,0.0,0.31410943045654605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055756702456198,0.05703546652049121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561567397349278,0.09694483067456462,0.1739502972904624,0.08789406540073287,0.0,0.049260323561449305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05281296048155335,0.0,0.039885775474181935,0.0,0.0,0.11675788595391876,0.0,0.0665725137939537,0.03528119711789418
parenting,kikibutt1,2019/04/02,"Need help with entertaining 6 month old Hello. I’m a first time mom and my son seems to be developing very quickly. He turns 6 months in a week and he is already crawling, sitting up on his own, and today he has started to pull himself up into a standing position on the couch by himself. I feel like he is progressing faster than I can keep up. He gets bored playing with his toys. He wants to walk already and gets frustrated and cranky. When I do hold him he kicks and tries to crawl up my body. He is such a happy baby but he is bored a lot of the time because I don’t know what to do to keep him entertained at such a young yet developed stage. 
Any advice would be greatly appreciated thank you!",3.152447552447552,4.4969450839160885,4.415664335664335,86.55888111888115,73.68531468531468,7.437762237762238,26.98601398601399,8.00094639256281,1.5196489510489513,549,20,117,8,11,181,93,143,0.044,0.8079999999999999,0.149,0.936,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,2,5,10,1,0,8,0,12,1,1,0,0,20,25,8,0,3,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,9,0,3,3,4,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,1,13,7,20,22,2,28,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,2,15,69,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17404164339208897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930854605052628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111715862279125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857084216884316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783393427401605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005498006803378,0.12723788109943668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15149558565709664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861044869313041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19636082568107596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189595538250498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937968335433904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166149029041164,0.0,0.0,0.09788156822022284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870128559428458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141806577028896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859382259592404,0.2843226046142365,0.0,0.0,0.13206222035640489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868906987065133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213963582766772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260632725970442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397468253669906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770831729556133,0.0,0.16882222846452352,0.0,0.0,0.12092125558711905,0.1937265378645976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469548543854434,0.10505064096047416,0.0,0.14286467637399314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265203174971061,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrDamK,2019/04/02,"Seven year old boy woes Our usually sweet, loving seven year old is being an asshole.

He's had an attitude for about a month, but then today at school, he purposely destroyed a younger kids model, then pushed the kid over.

I am so sad, so disappointed and now me and my OH can't decide on how to ""punish"" our kiddo. We had a chat with him and he admitted everything but we really can't let him off scott free, because this is really bully esque behaviour.
Any thoughts?",5.076666666666668,5.788994782608699,6.422608695652176,76.32601449275363,68.56521739130434,10.046376811594204,28.3768115942029,10.125756701596842,2.8209072463768115,368,12,69,9,6,125,71,92,0.206,0.698,0.096,-0.9428,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,6,0,9,1,0,1,0,12,12,10,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,5,0,2,3,1,9,4,8,7,0,15,0,3,0,1,15,4,0,0,10,46,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721200156874702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15429040170520206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274743695716319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588169151736605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228437059899192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020259215249454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5311820448726111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242909683197368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25615567790047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20093702358734067,0.0,0.0,0.23991385648506725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27875929600517896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259825226995314
parenting,88alm,2019/04/02,"Ideas for a birthday. Hello. My son will be turning 7 next week and was looking for some birthday ideas for him. He has learning difficulties so only one child will be coming to celebrate with him. ( had parties before with loads invited and no one showed up ) 

My current situation is that I have very little money and I will be lucky if I can even get him a gift and cake. 

What kind of things could I do with him and his friend on the day to make it fun for them. I want him to be happy as he remembers the last party with no shows and it broke my heart. ",2.0771052631578932,3.833783552631584,3.4507368421052647,90.62715789473688,77.50877192982456,6.314385964912281,21.92631578947368,7.1686216300943375,0.5487115789473682,431,12,94,5,10,141,78,114,0.073,0.723,0.204,0.9509,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,4,0,15,1,1,1,0,21,21,9,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,5,11,0,0,4,2,1,1,2,1,0,2,2,1,15,5,15,11,1,9,0,1,1,0,13,3,0,3,5,68,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710282891740383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731356983437145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604747258859801,0.0,0.0,0.1296223793645875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275246730254578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528492272248207,0.0,0.10500934954778847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21395834648733286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381749571737249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4537880901965825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930089350383427,0.0,0.16383425320969205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20144549195964312,0.0,0.0,0.16878157424349965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341628585682155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21375589856178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27239301136987104,0.15286249071817434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22768329180796684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259219774100201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335292957274457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862017479262133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658383838709014,0.11854952729763675,0.0,0.16122262269717325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Thowingawaywords,2019/04/02,"My 15 year old son is using the n-word, -a ending, with friends and it's making me uncomfortable but it's so common here and no one cares. My son is Latino. We moved from to a different state in the beginning of the year and our town is racially diverse. Over the weekend multiple friends were over and I heard the n-gga would being thrown around like it was nothing. Two of the kids were black and one was white. The word was used by all 4 boys including my son.

I told my son I didn't want him to use that word ever again because of how disrespectful it is. He said that it isn't that serious and everyone here uses that word. One deli by the high school is called the n-gga deli to differentiate it from the others. He says that as long as he isn't using it towards a black person then it doesn't matter here. 

How do I address this with him if everyone around him is saying that it's okay? ",2.963986175115206,4.1322800376344135,4.182826420890937,88.73709677419356,73.89247311827957,7.464823348694317,23.50076804915515,7.957251820313856,0.969005837173579,701,19,156,10,14,230,103,186,0.038,0.868,0.094,0.9019,2,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,0,0,0,10,6,0,0,13,1,18,0,0,8,2,29,30,14,0,3,2,4,0,1,2,1,0,4,1,3,17,11,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,4,9,7,14,5,20,19,1,21,0,0,3,0,23,8,0,1,12,105,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457830837868353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415247408944425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409619311307668,0.0,0.14074862563008206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14423025455905233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226910945942965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487186622822427,0.0,0.2638206024103186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21331031059589275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585476204378064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744303497058246,0.0,0.0,0.12216769252749053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921477775494154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672264441630267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246029846725604,0.0,0.14485762812818356,0.0,0.2806336740912972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053775140029847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13131478412317082,0.2195618240764484,0.0,0.13971143900817615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319103012051593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485234745225178,0.0,0.0,0.5961435791387306,0.0,0.0,0.0814239916068619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806498252455187,0.0,0.0,0.17779612660221036
parenting,shiteinmemooth,2019/04/02,"Any moms who chose not to breastfeed? I feel alone. As the title states, I feel alone in my decision not to breastfeed. I just came here for support. I don't think breastfeeding is for me, and I think it will just be difficult and painful. There's a multitude of reasons, and I feel like the only people supportive of my decision are my mom and my husband. I see so much about breastfeeding online that it makes me feel like I'll be a bad mother simply because I don't want to go through it. 

I don't think breast is always best. I think whatever makes mom the most comfortable is best. I have an issue with one of my areolas that would make it especially painful to feed a baby, let alone anything else. If you're a breastfeeding mom, more power to you. I just can't imagine myself doing it. I hope I'm not alone. Thanks for reading I guess.",3.0555367709213845,4.7804944733727845,4.129691462383772,86.95528106508877,74.68047337278107,7.668808114961961,26.272612003381234,8.418075326091056,1.7277215553677086,662,24,136,12,14,215,96,169,0.135,0.722,0.14300000000000002,0.6559,1,4,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,3,7,13,0,0,8,0,15,4,1,4,0,33,36,7,0,4,7,6,4,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,8,6,1,0,12,1,0,2,7,4,0,1,1,5,23,9,16,30,5,4,0,0,1,1,8,1,0,4,2,90,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444679640200972,0.0,0.0,0.08927139069065064,0.0,0.0,0.07295884892372582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828807153006238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958017576917293,0.06540116826871906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251822053786755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270776306047862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962453388902226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169901526859778,0.1532917292655499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609736828000164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818874217379498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065602133047164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119797691506281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970824129685736,0.0,0.10483003206717237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21484474593197106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5026130190717566,0.0,0.0,0.07886830029769401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270045767006952,0.08159660910468748,0.2283218955601743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07437930719528649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731604794163352,0.0,0.0,0.11030891958630556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549386010119579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434960654095097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877546853431313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749807474601002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328066089335713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621361692278161,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hardcore_Lycan,2019/04/02,Biting advice My almost 2 year old daughter has been biting kids and daycare employees. The problem is she barely does it with us but when she does i make sure i tell her thats bad and not to do that she even repeats it  back to me my dad suggested i bite her back not hard just enough to show her it hurts people is there any other advice you all can give me,2.441885964912281,3.75806643421053,3.6342105263157904,91.56780701754387,75.44736842105263,6.119298245614036,20.561403508771924,6.42735559955562,0.10839298245614072,283,6,62,2,6,92,56,76,0.132,0.813,0.054000000000000006,-0.8103,1,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,1,1,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,2,12,8,4,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,15,1,4,7,2,6,0,1,0,0,14,0,0,1,6,45,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41442440287641613,0.0,0.0,0.2123368251063696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14420085090572066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261057706985089,0.1770523762470989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711316854590993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21910369546610192,0.0,0.14005661659791974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341708888745894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995459508419368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270032486094529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154460874422595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22251015534286644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700834162763782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029026202046391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19985403256599135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18534050588915435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25506929699737724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13655284937638945
parenting,GritsNGreens,2019/04/02,"Tips on introducing a 2y/o to a babysitter? Our daughter has never had a babysitter or been to daycare. We finally found a babysitter who we think we can trust and we really want this to be a successful first visit. Does anyone have tips on how to introduce a shy, clingy toddler to a new babysitter? I am wondering if we should all hang out together for the first time or if it's better to just say ""bye"" and go someplace out of sight?",3.3535960591133005,5.0000917816092,4.7192118226601,83.3648275862069,73.71264367816093,8.189819376026273,28.52052545155993,8.841846274778883,2.291218062397373,343,14,68,7,7,114,62,87,0.023,0.836,0.141,0.8788,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,6,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,8,0,8,0,0,1,2,22,13,7,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,9,0,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,2,7,3,12,8,1,13,0,0,1,0,11,4,0,5,7,50,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977609682380665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501397160953377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475060085689925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.309825901621875,0.0,0.4811492703609286,0.0,0.3101079573992017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607385273113284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813555260003706,0.2731585014293629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811878252081468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249173768556516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812257286913172,0.0,0.0,0.1649201606785796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682017178865666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067165369298865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,slickarooni,2019/04/02,"What’s your favorite double stroller? I have a 2 year old and another one coming in July. I’ve been poking around for a double stroller, but there are soooo many to pick from. I would rather have one that doesn’t weigh 50lbs, but also want it roomy enough for 2 kids to be comfortable. What have you used and loved? ",3.4857142857142875,5.090410269841269,3.1843174603174624,94.67457142857144,73.28571428571428,6.309841269841268,20.536507936507935,6.742157984588678,0.0725136507936508,249,5,54,2,5,74,49,63,0.0,0.7859999999999999,0.214,0.9275,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,2,0,11,12,5,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,7,9,3,5,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396565026333753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142439071898156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2667815353987258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581504934961617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096527989446918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704757386037096,0.0,0.0,0.30383167170954195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31446704834878786,0.0,0.4061461095703065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588300169569944,0.0,0.0,0.1767608833324849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128863077447517,0.0,0.0,0.1929861197608772
parenting,RampantTardigrade,2019/04/02,"Help! My kid is suddenly being a huge jerk at school! My 5yo son has had a stellar year in kindergarten. He's doing well and getting grades. In face his teacher just opted out of having him come in for mid year conferences because she saw no need. On his report card she commented that he's a pleasure to have in class. He caused a little trouble at the beginning of the year for refusing to sit up at story time but we took away some privileges for the day and that was that. Cut to 2 weeks ago, and we get phone calls to come pick him up, not once but TWICE in a week. One time he flipped a chair and the second time he got so mad he hit his teacher!! His teacher told me that this is ""learned behavior"" as there is another kid with behavior issues in his class and she has seen an increase in usually well behaved kids acting out. 

I spoke to my daycare lady and she was shocked! She said she has never had any issues like that with my son and in fact he's usually the one setting the example for other kids. He had had outburts at home but nothing that isn't pretty easily quelled. Nothing like what his teacher is describing. 

Well, we grounded him and took away privledges again and it seemed ok.  I chalked it up to being excited about an upcoming Disney vacation.  Having just come back from vacation, we set up an incentive plan for his good behavior this week. He seemed invested and excited. Came home yesterday with no problems but I just got off the phone with my kids school again! My husband is on his way to see whats going on this time but they said he is acting out again!

I'm so disappointed and I just don't know what to do! This is all so sudden. He's a good kid and this type of behavior is so out of character for him. I'm going to set up a meeting with the principal and his teacher but I just don't know where to go from here. 



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parenting,ActuallyDidMethOnce,2019/04/02,"Feeling guilty after getting mad at little ones. My kids are 3 and 1, and I love them more than I could ever describe. I am not, however, immune to getting angry. I don’t hit or even spank my kids. I struggle with anger issues, I’m a 23 year old dad. Anyways, I do what I can to stay calm and breathe and not get too worked up when things are chaotic. However this morning I yelled at each kid on different occasions when i was trying to get them ready for daycare. It was total chaos, with lots of crying. 

I had a very negative day yesterday and I find when I’m struggling in life I’m quicker to lose my temper. My 3 year old yelled at me, so I yelled back at him, I even got in his face and put my hands on his shoulders and yelled “don’t fucking yell at me!”

Awful, right? What an awful example. Ironic telling a child not to yell by yelling at them. Not my proudest moment. I feel rather guilty. We kissed and hugged and made up before I dropped him off at school. Yet I still feel awful now. I wish I could be better. ",1.4349526066350715,3.353589308056872,2.8410876777251204,93.484095971564,80.09004739336494,5.5470142180094815,22.398341232227487,6.508806274219699,0.38654293838862586,788,25,173,7,20,256,127,211,0.24,0.6679999999999999,0.092,-0.9868,3,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,0,3,3,14,12,4,2,4,3,13,10,4,1,2,30,29,14,0,4,6,1,4,0,0,0,2,7,0,4,5,13,0,0,4,0,0,1,7,7,0,1,5,11,34,5,26,20,4,35,0,1,0,4,15,16,1,2,16,116,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11484204494758292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708708238171695,0.0,0.0,0.13208921924221104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384899575075771,0.0,0.16405555312468134,0.09631932871677296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604047580063962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972904462756658,0.13509693565983516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265497395441341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650451815874906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807300747997708,0.3121198702572556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194499968443697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588410946310155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054913448912222,0.0,0.1496893873857849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16708606820077387,0.0,0.12697326061856926,0.1347955133009934,0.14131995169559006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134384430725558,0.0,0.10120440671934652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013945684468755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275453209385887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115163933030426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918877221108044,0.1192722596617324,0.0,0.0,0.31226912320356875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305397488817106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992224659934359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101399829814763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323058632484594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717467950051447,0.0,0.0,0.10872963324280588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192354872251582
parenting,PrismaticMind,2019/04/02,"Quality youtube channel for the toddler crowd My little one has been attending a music class for most of their ambulatory life, going on 2 years now.  Recently the instructor of this class has started a youtube channel, and it's good stuff.  It's a bit of a hidden gem at the moment, very few subs.

[https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5\_XvfTsma6M196roiMlFwQ](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5_XvfTsma6M196roiMlFwQ)",14.323620689655172,17.741930155172422,8.171896551724139,62.300258620689675,49.17241379310346,9.937931034482759,35.1896551724138,10.125756701596842,3.8102620689655167,351,12,43,6,4,89,44,58,0.0,0.945,0.055,0.4404,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,7,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,7,4,3,10,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,5,28,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3844807034543793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014751088392987,0.2953852349809841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487495575692744,0.0,0.3529689466318294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386409180910261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34772744613780404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24926921334850385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4031527792191028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905788513637421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267872753836542
parenting,Sylvan88,2019/04/02,"Feeling like I won't be as good as the nanny I'm pregnant with our 3rd child right now and I've been on bed rest the last 6 months because of it. We have 2 boys (20m and 3yrs old). We recently got a new full time nanny and she is amazing. I am so happy we found her it has been wonderful, but I am starting to feel like I won't be as good with all the kids as she is with them. I'm due in 2 weeks and whenever I am around the kids they start misbehaving and crying. No matter what I do they just instantly change from these happy playful good boys to these little monsters who trash the house and refuse to do anything they are supposed to do. When she is alone with them they are great! They follow the routine and play nicely together and eat their meals happily. If I am around it's a nightmare and I just feel so terrible that my presence makes them react like this.  
  
Now since I have been on bed rest so long they haven't been able to see me as much as they used to because I am in bed most of the time. I do play with them as much as I can but they are rambunctious little boys and they have hurt me before because I am so delicate right now. So I have to be careful with them and try to keep our time to cuddles and simple things. But they are boys and they want to rough house with me and I usually have to stop then and go rest.  
  
I am just worried that when I am back to myself again and taking care of the kids on my own that I won't be as good as their nanny is. That they won't be as happy to be with me.  
  
It could be because they sense baby is coming or that they miss me, but I am so worried I'm not going to be good enough for them anymore. Anyone else have this worry or can relate?",2.555457975267238,3.2353109564032723,3.83707084468665,92.69371567805494,74.31335149863759,6.845063927897716,22.56225110039824,6.8449194561589275,0.37176805701110816,1319,31,313,11,26,433,158,367,0.133,0.7140000000000001,0.153,0.8076,0,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,22,0,18,22,0,0,10,0,49,3,0,3,1,57,73,43,0,3,11,0,4,3,0,4,0,0,3,8,16,30,2,3,5,3,0,4,7,3,0,0,6,5,58,19,45,54,10,39,0,2,1,1,41,12,0,5,26,230,74,0,0.09584369344455157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992651614629768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09505118992830697,0.06701613893330116,0.09820319021762457,0.07887119329293407,0.1706424144173245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369788418073152,0.0,0.2337017037391938,0.0,0.08155592389973362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19543806622808566,0.0,0.10138991924410604,0.08256085532188458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076523390343159,0.0,0.10527979677571113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980720257980756,0.08006510747879737,0.0,0.0,0.09903215596242672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538435355900456,0.13694150749452624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050876628616082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894035940664168,0.4019457139402706,0.07665495713563035,0.10566801038057944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30608218163388895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22118150802881414,0.10260265611880977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851902784852229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812540224466913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047316209516128,0.19212111974629925,0.0,0.08481865267328427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397640961271478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650152170526846,0.0,0.14091228519690827,0.0,0.0,0.09256643636860414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005718336254522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463408460716352,0.0,0.0,0.16369998104120626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637501475048598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928289363873288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135677319049673,0.0,0.0,0.08012961931614826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206252957548219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367429115572115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676616852062511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507157650358064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827781783158399,0.10555828763415567,0.0,0.05653109361806735,0.0,0.07688002967875131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393839712237866,0.0,0.2920017691696043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,93195,2019/04/02,"Ever okay to leave small kids in the car? At the post office this morning, I noticed the SUV I parked next to was still running, with two toddlers strapped in their car seats in the back and no adults in the car.  I don't know if the car was locked or not, but for sake of this discussion, assume that it was (it was a newer SUV, and I know with my push button start, I can take the keys with me and lock it while still running).  I saw mom inside, and she was inside for no more than 3 minutes.  It was 45 degrees outside, so no danger of a hot car, the car was running and warm.  Relatively small town.  This okay or not?",5.054285714285712,4.15313834883721,5.40954595791805,89.10209302325585,68.6124031007752,7.991583610188261,27.730897009966768,6.18269132825596,0.924396677740864,473,12,110,2,7,151,76,129,0.105,0.848,0.047,-0.8190000000000001,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,0,6,4,1,0,10,2,9,0,0,0,1,18,14,11,0,1,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,8,0,0,3,0,0,10,6,1,0,1,8,3,10,3,15,6,1,27,0,0,1,0,6,8,0,4,8,74,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21304752968555413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506230921223412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045377103678609,0.0,0.0,0.2933740977951679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32449768779408433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946640485284145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154427772914706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653537333817626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961095490001128,0.0,0.4425323546362167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083200091782645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706543380769993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Myshkinia,2019/04/02,"Misadventures in Baby Kissing The best part of parenting are those tender moments when your baby gives you one of those adorable, loving smiles, leans in for a sweet little kiss, then [clamps onto your lip](https://imgur.com/a/zg8w8ZR) like an angry piranha. 

Ugh... babies. At least it wasn’t my nipples for once. He is the cutest, sweetest, funniest little dude though. 🥰",6.024285714285713,9.100657380952383,4.800238095238097,79.3489285714286,70.42857142857143,7.374603174603175,27.96031746031746,8.344100000000001,2.3452031746031747,297,11,45,5,6,87,54,63,0.039,0.561,0.4,0.9837,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,3,0,1,2,9,0,0,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,4,8,8,4,3,9,0,0,0,3,7,6,0,0,4,29,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30222737152672063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27626591546205576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069719672318146,0.5772825764677665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25992190419667044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30669957970650324,0.19514924097546352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197784265302433,0.3118647280093305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829483702334707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chavez42088,2019/04/02,"What are the sweetest moments you’ve had with your child? This morning I woke up to my toddler daughter in a panic looking for me(daddy). When I went to her and asked her what was wrong and she said she just wanted to tell me not to have a bad day again and today will be a good day at work. The other day I had a rough day at work and told her about it. It was the sweetest gesture and today I’m wondering how I got so lucky to have the best daughter ever. 
What are your sweetest parent/child moments???",2.761357142857144,3.952369361904765,3.801130952380955,91.18741071428572,74.42857142857143,6.011904761904763,25.505952380952376,5.985473137389443,0.6467380952380952,393,13,85,2,8,127,65,105,0.059,0.8079999999999999,0.133,0.8453,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,0,3,7,6,0,1,8,0,10,0,0,1,1,13,20,8,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,9,3,13,3,12,9,1,16,0,0,1,0,14,4,0,2,11,63,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809982774092538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16165542589524753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20318069819554774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4994471461702011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513042260201642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16239004142246982,0.15484680185372549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258279626415278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271584432279191,0.2149798796914862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416649267779975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692227975146581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36703738312992906,0.1850016940837334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141956029870696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794774804079855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20996069902858014,0.28189931216679803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21168104556375056,0.0,0.0
parenting,Apathfarahead,2019/04/02,"What to tell a 4 and 6 year old about their mother So life has been turned upside down, and I'd be interested in any suggestions as to how to ensure I can best support my two children.

I'd love to hear from anyone with similar experiences.

After many years of suffering depression, self harm, eating disorders, anxiety etc my wife had an affair during a particularly bad period. I battled through supporting her for our whole relationship, but this has been the last straw and the relationship is almost certainly over.

I am looking after the children, she is out of the house, being looked after elsewhere, but I still want her to have contact with the children.

She sees them most days (I work), and the current line is 'mum is poorly, so she has to live elsewhere'. 

The kids seem ok, I'm providing consistent, stable parenting, but they are sad she's not there. One (who has residual separation anxiety from mum being hospitalised when she was young) is finding it harder.

It's tricky because mum is around, but not living at home.

What can i do/say/tell them to help them? Anyone had a similar experience as a child and found anything particularly helpful/unhelpful?

Tl;dr: Mum has had an affair/breakdown -how can i help my kids?",6.470587371512482,7.628468158590312,7.050325991189432,71.46938032305434,65.65198237885464,10.458619676945668,32.754478707782674,10.504223727775694,3.6661303377386174,980,40,167,25,15,322,144,227,0.086,0.7859999999999999,0.128,0.8681,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,0,5,2,9,13,1,0,13,1,26,3,0,2,1,24,38,16,0,1,6,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,6,9,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,6,0,2,7,4,23,7,27,28,4,19,0,3,3,1,38,6,0,3,13,119,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13212320868043226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972668356780901,0.0,0.20187413546206887,0.0,0.0,0.18451711682101926,0.0,0.10857895887682883,0.11745844663999375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016802216263398,0.08043205199615026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846745655374015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509319121771683,0.0,0.11364347658572528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121965791322187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350120115026906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471528298091204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581337877577561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059474687495407,0.0,0.0,0.14467017104627528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871087353603915,0.0,0.17687903505266622,0.0,0.1323509426145668,0.0,0.0,0.15224606641476493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755225683037303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319619750505703,0.0,0.0,0.2330185593705409,0.0,0.22160004841036104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190849286578792,0.0,0.0,0.13377086291109858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384534014443972,0.0,0.0894089073063202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14650858775206946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833177093787761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492744415164897,0.0,0.0,0.1051425652330424,0.12011718209983925,0.13764673458254986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537092952764304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994577728857332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153251788721176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351756563081206,0.12889045912724947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07782419706040124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731115641773435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09605705932366138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16993567276920848
parenting,SeeEyeEmmEyeGee,2019/04/02,Son's mother doesn't have a working car. If my ex doesn't have a working car is it my responsibility to pick up and drop off my son at her apartment? I have full custody of my son and she sees him here and there whenever she has off from work. Now her car doesn't work and expects me to drop off and pick him up whenever she's available.,3.032465753424656,3.5978804657534265,4.490301369863015,88.87353424657536,73.10958904109589,7.4838356164383555,26.928767123287678,7.554174236665415,1.1383117808219176,266,9,63,3,5,89,41,73,0.062,0.938,0.0,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,9,9,6,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,13,0,10,9,1,14,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,1,1,44,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639422139056622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9645384946794906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cecefisherman,2019/04/02,"Unsupervised play Question for all parents: when did you start letting your child play alone in their room/playroom? 

My daughter is 1 yrs old. We have a playroom set up for her with all the toys. It is baby proofed and we live in a small-ish (1300sqft) one story home. When is it appropriate for me to leave her in there alone to play? She would be within ear shot and I’m just needing to get some laundry done or cook dinner. Nothing that I can’t immediately drop to attend to her if she needed me. 

What are some of your thoughts?

FWIW, this is my first post so please be kind :)

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parenting,QuickOrange,2019/04/02,"Being newly parents can be isolating. I stumbled upon this video yesterday and it has brought me a great deal of comfort. Hey guys, I'm a new parent and I stumbled upon this video yesterday. 

[Loneliness by *Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell*](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3Xv_g3g-mA)

I think a lot of new parents can sympathize with some of the contents in the video, and I hope it bring you a whole deal of comfort as it has done for me.

Enjoy!",5.846296296296295,7.632081469135802,5.69969135802469,78.24361111111115,67.64197530864197,8.362962962962964,34.48765432098766,8.841846274778883,3.0750395061728386,353,17,61,6,6,110,51,81,0.0,0.8,0.2,0.9381,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,7,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,12,4,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,5,12,8,3,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,3,4,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068174664707967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019074896524597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175251192860062,0.0,0.1953590727125354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19596447457460708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16773830882252566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3811091936043833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6572384467654286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642255496443866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202795916169614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mallism5,2019/04/02,"When did you move your baby into their own room? My son is getting too big for his bassinet, but he is still relatively young. My husband and I are debating whether or not we should move his crib into our room for a few months or if we should just have him sleep in his room. ",5.835789473684213,4.820356087719301,5.690175438596494,88.10789473684211,67.0701754385965,9.003508771929825,29.52631578947368,7.793537801064563,1.4775894736842097,215,6,50,2,3,67,45,57,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,7,1,1,0,0,14,8,7,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,13,0,5,5,2,13,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,3,4,39,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965212619652998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002369152156755,0.799569381936611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3764186093312391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003914485400398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,questionsaboutkids34,2019/04/02,"I want kids, he probably doesn't but is willing to compromise My husband and I have been married about 5 years, and are in our late 20's (28/29). When we got married, we were religious and the question only about how many kids we wanted and when, not IF we wanted kids. Well, we left our religion and reevaluated everything. We've each gone back and forth on the kids thing (whether or not we still want them, now that we feel like we are allowed to choose and not that we are supposed to have them based on religious beliefs) multiple times. Eventually, we landed in wanting kids. Me more than him, but he decided he did too. I think that part of his deciding on kids was that I really wanted them and he didn't want to lose me. But, he also decided that he was interested in it, I didn't feel that I was forcing his hand. So, I got pregnant. Then, had a miscarriage. Per doctor recommendations, we were waiting a bit to try again. Well, now he doesn't think he wants kids anymore. I am pretty sure I still do. This is so complicated because we are so so happy together. We have a very good life and relationship. Neither of us want to lose the other. But what do we do? Does one of us just compromise? On paper, we'd be good parents, and are financially/emotionally/career-wise ready. ",3.043820346320345,5.018919781746032,4.47012987012987,83.41577922077924,75.3888888888889,8.073881673881674,26.533910533910536,8.841846274778883,2.064088888888889,1003,38,202,22,22,333,134,252,0.0,0.7959999999999999,0.204,0.9946,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,19,0,3,2,20,10,0,0,6,0,29,3,1,2,1,59,46,26,0,10,11,2,3,1,0,1,2,0,0,7,11,25,0,1,10,0,0,1,8,2,2,1,13,3,37,8,19,30,5,22,1,2,0,0,44,9,0,3,13,145,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128753025509302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320837967112067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777605056373798,0.0,0.06958616516702681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12462471526970564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11683968689879587,0.0998954220248398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259270101921826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543763669774393,0.0815504055492053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914910187878816,0.182595999011256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151721563615718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876873434481384,0.0,0.1240267769607447,0.0,0.08062912522530387,0.05576903378788717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554143855167562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573248636641705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735253343429277,0.08681794635377871,0.0,0.0,0.12675258846052204,0.12361578594790155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613389857069505,0.12307545572142745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787666902466768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312886814174205,0.0,0.0,0.12255681926726697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232430291010507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758716492691373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583769686506182,0.1462883325867368,0.0,0.0,0.06656310748431284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07750189917845404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746222547677382,0.0,0.0,0.09418757895843627,0.6059697056847403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20527320238229968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735103201995515
parenting,zalik9,2019/04/02,"School vs commute - your opinion? Less than a mile from our house is a tiny little primary school where we figured we would send our kid.  It's a little house in a little walled yard with a play house, small dirt sports area, about 35 kids total from k-5th grade.  The school is the next step as it were from the preschool our kid currently attends, so he would move there with several of his current classmates.  Teachers seem nice, director and school philosophy are good, it's just a basic little school.

We now have the opportunity to send our kid instead to a medium sized  k-12 private school. 2 kindergarten classes, recruited teachers with continued development opportunities and better pay, 30acre campus with all the sports fields, swimming pool, etc.  But that school would require our 5 year to make. 1.5-2 hr bus ride each way, so 3-4 hrs per day on the bus (plus the headache of us getting to PTA or school events, and school friends no longer local to our neighborhood).

I'm a bit stuck in this one. If our kid was older I wouldn't hesitate about bussing him down, but is it too much to bus a 5 year old? How much is a kindergartner going to get out of all those facilities? I wish I could watch the teachers at work,as I think good teachers matter a lot at all ages but doesn't necessarily correlate to better resourced school (but might, given continued teacher development?).  We likely have only 2 more school years in this city before we relocate again for my job.  We are not able to move closer to the private school 

What would you do?  (As an aside, the opportunity to move our kid to private school remains next year, so kindergarten at small school and move to 1st grade private school is an option we are considering).",7.078539271255058,7.381954483076925,6.475514170040487,79.10269635627533,64.16923076923078,9.426720647773278,32.18218623481781,9.134995656068208,2.5747846153846154,1377,49,260,21,19,424,184,325,0.019,0.882,0.1,0.9742,3,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,16,2,0,6,13,11,0,0,23,0,21,0,0,2,4,49,31,17,0,8,9,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,6,9,18,0,1,3,6,1,11,4,0,0,1,4,1,25,11,39,20,12,50,0,0,1,0,30,21,0,7,18,152,34,24,0.05562001446528294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04732853570232027,0.0,0.0,0.09838276576402014,0.06072265033864005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04440805570876035,0.0,0.0,0.03587030800111538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062031018615621825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297188520446627,0.0,0.058118323853342514,0.0,0.031610135984356635,0.09330285851953346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925340870205437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055194282047769945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027173129592287768,0.22298346558519389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04728614730784398,0.0,0.0,0.03712679155206685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05900404578966292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364610923922019,0.0817742207057407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830503275827015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058363848887812986,0.0,0.037689561258964055,0.042301527334689226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8443563607457995,0.0,0.05063437222754217,0.0,0.06283478473808142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035639059431602275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669040290899823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044148578583969283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396027170366025,0.0,0.0,0.040492032961901125,0.0,0.0,0.15804344983984753,0.0,0.0,0.1432698629673468
parenting,tthhrroowwaajunk99,2019/04/02,"Would a therapist mandatorily report for past stoned driving with a kid?  I  am quitting smoking weed (24 hrs sober... we'll see if I can sleep tonight), and talking to a therapist  in two days to try to deal with all the reasons why I smoked weed all the goddamn time. Part of the reason I need to quit is that I was  usually mildly stoned around my kid, including when I was driving him  to school. I want to know if I need to hide that particular fact from my  therapist, because they are mandatory reporters in California, meaning, they are required to report to CPS/police if they think I might hurt  myself or someone else, or if there is child/elder abuse going on. I am  bad at being cagey, and I would like to be open with my therapist. 

(Some  background: I was vaping a gram of oil every couple of weeks. Once in the  morning before work, and then 3-4 times in the evening. Weekends, all  day long. So I had a strong tolerance, which prevented me from ever  getting mega-baked, and I usually kept the dosage pretty low, because I  was more self-medicating than trying to get really high.  The effect on  driving for me from being mildly stoned was very small, when I was used  to being stoned all the time, but I am not recommending stoned  driving! I still feel bad about the stoned driving, but I feel worse about being usually stoned around my kid for other reasons. Lots of good  memories that are foggy; lots of times I was absent-minded/tired when kiddo  needed attention.)",8.7848021978022,7.100885699999999,8.48714285714286,72.5763186813187,61.64285714285714,11.472527472527476,36.181318681318686,10.214889679676881,3.5200164835164838,1156,41,213,20,13,372,158,280,0.079,0.8640000000000001,0.056,-0.845,0,0,1,0,1,2,43.0,1,0,3,6,12,7,0,0,14,0,26,1,1,5,6,49,41,17,0,10,9,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,3,5,10,0,3,10,1,0,6,1,4,0,1,9,4,32,3,38,23,9,39,0,2,1,0,10,13,0,10,21,146,37,6,0.0,0.11469989091136512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17235664587981978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616587936103345,0.11802470660775337,0.0,0.08237521452673968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10711456807630786,0.0,0.12486438774767528,0.09980326668797428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086942173300478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06393979046281184,0.08756703551867093,0.08156366451280783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789656586220084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115481758120216,0.0,0.05501737364765198,0.08119671222078198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10228139863876093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036333770087774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053202329192274765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047294773571831976,0.0,0.0,0.08567071986604806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460287523476874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545067514744537,0.10753021521854288,0.0,0.0,0.10269641470506703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153424137664941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309577955084584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483202252608982,0.09241277290002828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848702880178067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20593129070009647,0.0,0.0,0.062016732681484,0.2985996630113477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797336190710634,0.07714225924641557,0.0,0.10099030834994932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968764279760084,0.0,0.08202384640726305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730980830304797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778094101677772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4495993032808368,0.0,0.062029706236306326,0.0,0.0,0.225794630667734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314505389127991,0.0,0.09456589907565928,0.0,0.0,0.08360974740821119,0.3198561002004883,0.07987551365980107,0.05709899099352503,0.0,0.07765234742966276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735282291986447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047629622094763,0.0,0.0986541096741768,0.13753714214810595,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,my2wins,2019/04/02,"My son’s school is taking the entire senior class to Mexico for a service trip next week to help build and repair people’s homes. Is there any more danger than usual given the political climate?should I let him go? (we are in California, he is 17) The school goes every year, and has for the past 20 years, with no issues. But the timing this year makes me nervous about letting him go. Is there any chance he’ll get stuck there or that there might be political unrest?

The city they go to is Tecate. Thank you for any suggestions on where else to ask, if this is not the right sub. 

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parenting,iammeandthatsall,2019/04/02,"I need advice bad! I hope this is okay to post here. So, I’m a single mom of an 8 year old girl. I’ve been on my own since I just about found out I was pregnant. 
So my daughter goes to bed at 8:15, I’m up folding laundry and what not, well.. getting to the point, at about midnight I started watching porn in my living room with my hitachi, and I randomly noticed the kitchen light on all of a sudden. (It slowly turns on) So I realize that I was completely irresponsible and my daughter woke up and walked in seeing me pleasure myself hearing porn sounds (she wouldn’t have been able to see anything) 
So I put things away, I go to her and just say that adults do those things sometimes. I asked if she had any questions, she said no, but she couldn’t even look at me. I reminded her she can always tell me anything and I will always tell her too. 
I just don’t want to ignore something that might affect my child but I also don’t want to make huge deal out of it if it’s not. 
How am I supposed to know how to handle this?",2.6889018691588795,3.748006803738321,3.8524182242990683,91.26498247663551,74.42056074766356,6.284579439252338,25.05724299065421,6.322622252153567,0.6239635514018693,792,25,177,5,16,258,129,214,0.046,0.894,0.06,0.1768,0,0,1,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,0,5,1,16,3,0,4,1,36,36,17,0,8,9,3,0,0,0,3,0,4,3,3,12,9,1,1,4,0,0,3,7,2,1,0,8,9,34,4,28,24,3,24,0,0,4,2,22,16,0,6,4,125,46,0,0.14932402278164414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591770685092825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941436706919732,0.2484990981047744,0.0,0.0,0.1015454560304454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.245761895035965,0.0,0.13959780403946842,0.0,0.1402948348496015,0.0,0.1246793217540744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656339687813212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394651069203774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862710873887637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16372608357684876,0.0,0.0,0.07801563878165149,0.0,0.08486428332026376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16829902621432338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831244755576353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08206457776022599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318558478591096,0.0,0.12539457092043926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967494472678724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584091906916763,0.0,0.17488649074575507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072187081476673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170006389649861,0.15669044290500955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115946731822818,0.0,0.14301113685244318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501118864673911,0.1672770799234759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204134052248868,0.11874845634338048,0.0,0.0,0.2379838262211356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352237471685018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11495692804900515,0.14768527673642193,0.0,0.10569231189137507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610315552677643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984084911886804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16242165731386402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17615035497727718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13426022957490394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615977489098222
parenting,tobmom,2019/04/02,"Give me ideas on how to play with my kid. I have twins. 5.5 years, boy/girl. My boy is just difficult. He doesn’t handle transitions well, he explodes over unpredictable things, he’s just hard to parent. I know that when we are more connected he is more apt to talk through stuff than explode but connecting with him is hard. He connects best through roughhousing (like tickle wars) but when it’s time to move on from this and it’s not his idea there’s an explosion so now I avoid it. He asks me frequently to play with him. I’m having such a hard time with this. He suggests building legos then he just bosses me around. He wants to play cars. It he just wants to make the cars pretend to do the same things over and over again. In short, I’m friggin bored and it feels unproductive. I’m totally aware that this is a ME thing. I’m not putting any of this on him. Ideas on things I can do with him? Ideas on how I can change my mindset? He loves RC cars/flying things, dinosaurs, angry birds (this I can snuggle on the couch and play together with him, I give him tips, he wants to take turns beating levels; but I don’t want to promote additional screen time), legos, less often he plays with cars and his play work bench. I feel like we need a hobby we can do together. 

TLDR: I get bored and feel unproductive when playing with my kid but his behavior depends on connection, which he seems to get by quality time/interaction. I’m feeling like a jerk for it. Ideas on a hobby or activity or how to change my mindset?",2.6324972497249703,4.596973481848188,3.4295709570957094,90.4622662266227,76.55775577557756,6.997139713971398,23.763476347634764,7.921354282810032,1.1001344334433438,1187,38,254,19,27,376,147,303,0.08900000000000001,0.772,0.138,0.9497,1,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,3,0,0,4,18,19,2,1,9,0,16,1,0,6,1,57,41,20,1,5,12,1,7,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,20,19,0,1,11,8,0,5,4,6,1,0,0,8,31,13,40,41,6,31,0,0,1,1,36,15,0,5,14,154,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07026977896354733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198801019494234,0.09660212497060383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844129281032233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21862458889691652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089924702958345,0.1476418020751861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797414098456448,0.19825228192135355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27769740592730896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5832501991370771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678894916005853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144941204739062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932617955098606,0.0,0.06897537918442312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982630620829298,0.0,0.07661988721830525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11473873398897085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387790349478644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407020855174103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11829121858413645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769332997189228,0.08305490953643549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432482694287021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241016511800879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11239630412331107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.243793213255992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290850644262197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752274357879386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654287046333089
parenting,splitend06,2019/04/02,"Anxious Daughter, Possibly Anxious Mother Hello all, I’m seeking advice for my five year old daughter. To begin let me give some context:

When my daughter’s mother became pregnant, we were on board with doing the family thing. Things were going well to my knowledge, but a month in, it was like a switch went off for her. Within a facebook message, I learned that she didn’t wish to be with me and needed to “work on herself”,  and she (unbeknownst to me) moved home with her mother 3 hours away from me, enrolled in college, and officially ended the relationship.
I have always been involved. Made weekend trips to go see my daughter, who I’ll refer to as “Grace”. I’ve always paid my child support. And most any time I could be of assistance for something to benefit Grace, I was ready to help. Mind you, I’m not perfect by any means, but when I think about my relationship with my little girl, a smile pops on my face and if she’s not with me, I’ll give her a FaceTime to check in.
In the last couple years, things have been amicable between her mother and I for the most part. I have moved to my hometown, only an hour away from Grace and her mother. I have a fiancée with a seven year old daughter as well, and she primarily lives with us. I have a work-from-home job, so when the kids are home, I’m present. I’ve really been enjoying having Grace more, seeing her participate in events and sports, and most of all: becoming a better father. I feel like the life I’m living is important for her to be a part of... Not to say she goes without when she’s with her mother... but I feel I’m helping provide a very stable home life for my family.

Okay, now that we’ve covered that... about 4 months ago, I requested to have Grace for the summer. I still see her regularly every other weekend Thurs-Sunday plus time when she doesn’t have to go to preschool for breaks. I feel that it was a simple request, as I grew up going to see my dad for summers. We discussed and her mother suggested a schedule of 3 weeks with me and 1 week with her through the summer months. I happily accepted the compromise.
Now skip forward to yesterday. I received a message from Grace’s mother that she needed to register Grace for tee-ball in her town for summer. I responded with, “Since she’s going to be with me most of the summer, doesn’t it make sense for me to register her in my town so I can get her to practices and let her meet kids in my area as well?” I was left on read for a day...
Today I received a message saying that Grace has anxiety about staying with me for that much time for the summer. (Which I’m aware that Grace has had minor reservations over when speaking with me). She also said, “I’m not going to push my child into something she’s uncomfortable with.” I have yet to respond, because I don’t want to just react.

Grace has mentioned the fear of being away from her mom. I was the same way as a child. But it made me look at my father differently when I simply didn’t have a choice in the matter. He was all I had to rely on at that point and he was there for me. I would love to have this same relationship with my little girl. And a part of me feels that her mother is using Grace as a scapegoat because she herself is a bit anxious about letting go a bit. The way she says “I’m not going to push MY child into something she’s uncomfortable with” makes me want to respond with something along the lines of—this is not just your child, it’s OUR child and she will be in good hands, her FATHER’S hands.

Basically, her proposition is to let Grace come with me more over the summer, but still not the original plan that we agreed on. She says, “Grace said she only wants to stay for 5 days at a time”—now wait a minute! Grace has no concept of what 3 days as opposed to a week  or month even means yet. *eye roll*
So anyways, a trial-run, so to speak. Although I’m a bit offended and hurt that this isn’t considered something good for Grace, I’m trying to respond with something non confrontational. But I’m also wondering if I’m just being a jerk by taking it personally. Any words would be greatly appreciated.",4.437911518093557,5.1657258118932035,5.3036372462489005,83.72238658428951,70.00728155339806,7.983018534863198,27.603177405119162,8.061468544071445,1.6343896116504857,3215,104,654,41,55,1051,313,824,0.053,0.785,0.162,0.9983,2,0,6,0,0,0,103.0,5,2,0,4,34,36,3,1,47,1,59,7,4,7,4,109,116,48,0,11,20,19,6,2,0,3,2,8,3,11,27,45,0,2,12,4,2,19,15,5,3,2,22,20,104,31,131,78,19,112,0,1,6,1,111,37,0,9,55,449,131,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625990688014439,0.05103520628324966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208260349551516,0.09581110079708967,0.0,0.0,0.11745533884131852,0.0,0.04404337342613788,0.19512413156780076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622758714088222,0.0,0.0,0.07019222929948056,0.06358512376104038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0509188549276815,0.18856521054716893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959425109182949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459675498791826,0.06370369848674635,0.0,0.11138993675178907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060151785253342575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050992804788469716,0.0,0.0,0.03802658411549565,0.0,0.04850794046890528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854985951195713,0.06478590486001179,0.11644304647955615,0.041130336411237166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030079643298771955,0.11045900192369924,0.2617616068720645,0.09657940962321622,0.0,0.06347470382612891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718026258537987,0.0,0.1732519713493456,0.0,0.11339609451545073,0.0,0.061633347552009526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713256013088716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692987736701972,0.0,0.0,0.06255349714133479,0.23549016731662675,0.08133136856222127,0.056254756934137735,0.11540702934330882,0.10167645698728714,0.0,0.04834702405559834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0519620997538781,0.10895438946580084,0.07686117373461063,0.0,0.0,0.1254282799335216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05813256329646546,0.06742908654672859,0.18381765361156255,0.12238249215761453,0.042322958178744284,0.08537966057810928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12082686765150928,0.0,0.0,0.08757409153309738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870386355850398,0.0,0.0,0.050270735216534926,0.0,0.0,0.05442532409509136,0.06490518111477522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057588823288926276,0.0,0.03688289381011135,0.0,0.0,0.1854363508804036,0.0,0.0,0.10953067675453614,0.18313821509995795,0.0,0.0,0.18351368303587592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762518168054725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26593617211398823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273083367187387,0.09195613270264116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533343405472616,0.0,0.0,0.043287913771546345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474731353106613,0.036890609505927006,0.0,0.0,0.13428568429400306,0.0,0.054572702645166345,0.0,0.0,0.039088452893054466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925352270501138,0.04972479687031287,0.0,0.0475039551579299,0.10187457144646338,0.0913979211998368,0.1385453486753532,0.0,0.1552957795857012,0.053370973203246935,0.0,0.0,0.06620638829824027,0.055498551892245264,0.062435726287868976,0.08382801341687718,0.0,0.0,0.08179676015581726,0.0,0.0,0.11122584293027267
parenting,turtlellve,2019/04/02,"Keeping my daughter away from my MIL My husband and I moved in with my MIL for two weeks and things didn’t work out because she crazy. We had a little 5 month old baby at the time. I’ve never meet her in person. I wanted a relationship with her since I didn’t have much of a relationship with my mother. Before we moved into my MIL home she always told us to sleep train our daughter because she needs a routine and that we don’t always need to go to her when she cries, she doesn’t always need to be held, etc. Once we moved in and the very first night that we got there not even a min in of my daughter crying she called my husband wondering why my daughter is crying and that we need to fix it because she lives in an apartment. At the time my daughter had the colic and has a sensitive stomach. She hasn’t been sleep train yet. We thought it might be okay to sleep train her then cause his mother knew that it was “important” to us to do so. I ended up having to nurse her to sleep that night and every night we were there. My daughter adores me and only wants me to hold her not because I only want to hold her but that’s her preference. My MIL mentions I don’t let anyone hold my daughter. No, it’s not that I only want my daughter to myself. If you want to hold her then let me know I’m not going to go around and handing her off like it’s a parade or something. Make an effort as a grandmother to want to be around your grandchild. I’m not going to force you to hold my child. I don’t want to give someone that pressure and making the feel like they HAVE to hold my daughter. Just ask me.  That brings up two other things. My husband and I agreed that we felt like we had to BEG his mom to spend time with her 5 month old granddaughter. If she agrees to watch our daughter she refuse to get off the couch and spend time with her. She rather have my daughter sit on the couch with her and watch tv. Not that’s a bad thing to do here and there. My daughter is active back then and still is to this day she wanted to crawl around and get into everything. When she does get up from the couch she hold my daughter in the most awkward position as if she a football. Her head is hanging and her legs are up in the are dangling. She not holding her up right. Mind you my daughter was 5 months at the time and she could sit up at that time but she definitely didn’t have the head support to have her head dangling like that. When I tried to grab her from my MIL she refuse to give my child back and told me that I needed to let other people hold her. First of she my child, I and my husband choose who and when she gets to held from. Don’t tell me who and who can’t hold my child. Later that week, my daughter was teething really bad one night. She was crying so bad that I physically couldn’t do anything for her. I EBF my daughter she hasn’t had solid food at this point. My MIL had the audacity to come in and throw baby food at me WHILE I was holding my daughter telling me she not full from just breast milk. Mind you she formula fed all her 3 kids. Which is fine I don’t care if you formula fed your child or breast feed them as along as your feeding your child’s needs and not hurting them. She hate be breast feeding my child. That brings up another problem. She always made condescending comments about me breastfeeding. I left all my breast pump and parts at her house she still refuse to send me my breast pump. If anyone breastfeeds or pump knows how crucial pumps and parts are. We need them. It’s been almost 6 months and she refuse to send it to me. Even when I suggest paying for shipment. She also brought up my husband dirty laundry that didn’t need to be brought up in front of my daughter. Yes she 5 month old at the time but I don’t care how old my daughter was at any point of time, you do not get to trash talk about her father in front of my daughter. That’s not fair for her or her father. She might not understand right now but you don’t get to trash my husband in front of her. That between you and my husband. NOT MY DAUGHTER. She was not in the picture when those things happened. Things got so bad living with her for two weeks that we ended having to move out because she was soo crazy. She was making everything possible for us to not live with her. We felt like she was making us walk on egg shells. If we said anything wrong she would blow up. My husband and I decided to move back in with my parents. The day we left she begged us to come back and live with her. And that, that wasn’t the real her. She didn’t even treat my daughter like her own grandchild. She only wanted to love her from far away if that makes any sense. Once we got my parents house we decided to sleep and try to get some rest since we drove roughly 20 hours on the road with the baby. His mom decided to blow up his phone and my phone. My husband was sleeping the entire day since he was the one driving and I texted her telling her he’s sleeping and I would let him know to call her when he woke up. She blew up my phone and demanded me to wake him up and if he is okay why wouldn’t I just wake him up. My husband hates it when anyone wakes him up for any reason unless it’s an emergency. I told her that I wasn’t gonna wake him up because he get upset if I wake him up for something ridiculous like this. She threatened to called the cops on me and my parents just so she could talk to him and hear his voice. I told her she being ridiculous and she proceeds to tell me that my parents are horrible people and she doesn’t trust them. Cops where never called and I ended up waking up my husband. And my husband of course got really upset and got really upset with his mom and yelled at her for threaten to call the cops. She has yet to this day apologized to me for all of this. She has only apologized to my husband. I feel really upset that she treats me and my daughter this way. I’m not sure if I’m the crazy one but I really don’t want my daughter to be around my MIL. I never got enough times with my grandparents when I was growing up and I wish I had more time with them before they pass but I don’t want my daughter to feel that way. I always don’t want my MIL to tell my daughter bad things about me and my husband behind our backs. My husband and I agree that she is capable of doing so. My husband doesn’t know that I don’t want his mom to be around my daughter as much as my mom is. Only because of his mother’s behavior. Am I wrong?",2.8508253331006017,4.0229228531157295,3.596313492756156,92.81736923255951,74.17804154302671,6.38419735846861,23.37889102228429,6.569791320753125,0.4282235759585733,5058,137,1136,37,102,1603,357,1348,0.084,0.8340000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.7588,5,0,2,0,0,0,88.0,26,12,7,4,48,38,4,6,37,3,94,35,25,10,7,225,187,97,0,41,42,57,8,7,0,6,0,4,4,9,58,93,9,18,19,1,3,27,46,19,0,8,53,14,270,19,176,113,15,169,0,1,2,6,261,73,0,20,72,791,328,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03401854693384722,0.0,0.0,0.027167792383339155,0.14133918871012854,0.0,0.0,0.06930738573461616,0.03562312365595405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126307627590549,0.0,0.05591293831674425,0.15121361794444516,0.031759697349621724,0.0,0.06383655567072878,0.1306137602409322,0.14182807358294708,0.14496522558003375,0.0,0.05781618296853409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344858132877458,0.0,0.06927444663585246,0.03489911104067342,0.0,0.05852859349858141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054248546591072165,0.0,0.14926876435752034,0.08763779651135446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029729559755128556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026864234598417,0.03510266927961789,0.03788831271436857,0.06731553864119523,0.0,0.02862329268669688,0.0,0.061064576805781375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051532543463448585,0.0242699575785085,0.06523784657164661,0.0,0.0,0.0577939746474655,0.08215935283517514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419938139165644,0.06517902659605145,0.07722940837327491,0.0,0.16302544862274132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03004176558129996,0.0,0.0,0.06708161193216719,0.10459674436733507,0.0,0.0382894714826011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034077182941889717,0.0,0.033456064836691043,0.07839939716195146,0.036368259076530816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030196314948852575,0.0,0.0,0.07468158029340875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382243154192977,0.13895671345320973,0.0,0.1161807170151753,0.034049365393210775,0.1199933437520006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03066150357020422,0.032145596669674086,0.11338452275968522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720788982087961,0.06860507198524707,0.1989408807266132,0.1355826089874487,0.1805369316287652,0.04994738624673538,0.2015213996384464,0.07860504861965484,0.0,0.0,0.12752354269492128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259367698461214,0.07235919794613098,0.0690619265127152,0.15502568215590945,0.0,0.0,0.15088974354869994,0.07357780407797845,0.0,0.04710450169744791,0.029663472696819536,0.0,0.0,0.06422997827090772,0.0382988842233402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032507090114841486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038668137413205135,0.10881825268750717,0.03492938349273879,0.0,0.07294749264683427,0.0,0.058024651081506874,0.03231562285072445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430719803739688,0.0,0.2379792102615128,0.0,0.028784785198500862,0.052307373575108666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05426095759253407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03855158530950591,0.03201867496774992,0.0,0.0,0.05461161006717169,0.14846729235907866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541889878080005,0.0,0.0,0.02697036666829928,0.1980963532993389,0.0,0.0,0.1298487012665078,0.0,0.046130188872696584,0.0,0.09955857514217707,0.035366565927601366,0.20432364586175591,0.0,0.0,0.0280308666811522,0.2604921546145002,0.05393157128853107,0.08175206012007794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130978622354226,0.0,0.03906669323972645,0.0,0.0368417222081352,0.0247323813398522,0.0,0.0,0.048266172179879004,0.07428718149129175,0.0,0.0
parenting,DeepAdvice,2019/04/03,"They aren’t going to remember it anyway.... I never quite understood this when people say this to me and my wife.  It could be in reference to us going on a trip with our young toddler or discussing sleep strategies or anything else that would either seem really joyful or really traumatic.

People would advise to do something or not do something under the presumption that my daughter wouldn’t remember it anyways.

I don’t believe this is true and honestly, I don’t believe other people do either. If that were the case, why do anything fun or good with our babies at all?

I have a feeling that we are all made up of a collection of experiences that start way back there. Our entire being is built upon a foundation and the things we do actually matter. I don’t think you could live out the other side of that coin.  They might not remember specifics, but the things my baby learns one day carries onto the next and develops her personality.

There are so many things in my life that I either don’t remember or struggle to recall unless someone reminds me specifically. There are fundamental things that have built up my own character but they aren’t defined easily.

Am I just being crazy here?  This is something people outside of my immediate circle say, right?",7.317014652014652,7.883243619658121,7.620024420024418,70.20076923076924,63.65811965811966,10.446398046398047,33.38095238095238,10.290406445055957,3.5807824175824177,1013,39,166,22,14,331,129,234,0.037000000000000005,0.8909999999999999,0.07200000000000001,0.6111,2,0,3,0,0,0,21.0,6,1,3,1,10,6,0,1,10,0,30,2,1,1,4,47,38,16,0,6,16,2,1,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,21,9,0,0,10,0,1,3,10,1,0,1,3,3,26,5,22,26,6,23,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,9,7,142,47,2,0.0,0.0,0.10938593767506803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844848617854204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619207729280184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525793258812881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17899319766059904,0.0,0.0,0.07229027512820874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363875244159678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096478006633368,0.0,0.0,0.0566772464746824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740930058800598,0.09401772229577282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917412265460717,0.0,0.0,0.0989795747804087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606446624248904,0.0,0.1136440218729016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891224083382627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645250972194943,0.0,0.11921145710375786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595665899459987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108428119408048,0.09787469278661584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922398316083735,0.0,0.0,0.14361842472352235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5079150031831862,0.09572623132661684,0.0,0.17828062851268822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204464090911447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11217327467261183,0.0,0.09497546147164568,0.2588824395982176,0.0,0.0,0.07933952311121474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718323378690385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978766343630361,0.07182423444875354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483326293016806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897366847965854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114588660561094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925434025794502,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,breakfastculture,2019/04/03,"Teenager Help Any ideas how to get my tweens and teenager out of the house and not watching screens? I'm at the end of my rope... They are all sliding down the path to obesity. 

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parenting,thatslife94,2019/04/03,My kids wanting to live with their dad. How to adjust and not make them upset during the transition? My kids will be transitioning into living with their dad during the week day and me during the weekend due to better schooling and work schedules. How do we make this transition easier? How do I work through feeling like a failure as a parent? How do I make sure they know I am still here as a parent and love them no matter what? ,4.74642857142857,6.025212214285716,5.3223809523809535,81.83928571428571,69.71428571428571,7.504761904761906,25.904761904761905,7.793537801064563,1.4787761904761911,342,10,63,4,6,110,54,84,0.059,0.7240000000000001,0.218,0.9177,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,5,3,6,5,0,1,6,0,6,1,0,7,1,22,13,10,0,1,1,4,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,12,4,9,11,0,7,0,0,0,1,13,1,0,0,7,47,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19280403660021886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059251380057097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022778019640933,0.1557398511430462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119807566210193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650420389726314,0.0,0.384997489872856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967542788815638,0.0,0.4365517815034575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4841282915981739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206284991978369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17409576079818856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20546322164529304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858254982162126,0.0,0.17486713264815335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174144310571429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,muckfin,2019/04/03,"Co-sleeping to cot sleeping,help! I have a 19 month old daughter and we co sleep,my partner sleeps in our room whilst her and I sleep in her room.  
From birth to 10 months she did sleep in her crib by herself but it was a fight almost every night and when I returned to work when she was 6 months,the little sleep I was getting as well as working almost fulltime hours were leaving me exhausted. Around 10 months old she caught a pretty bad cold and to save my sanity and hers I started coz sleeping with her (best and worst mistake) I started getting full nights rest as well as my partner.i was going to work well rested and my daughter was getting plenty of sleep as well. 
Now she’s 19 months old is like to start getting her back into her crib but as soon as I go to put her in there she’s screaming and won’t stop until she’s out. 
I was just wondering if any other parents have gone through this and what advice you could give me if any! Thanks!",4.264579698651865,4.978234458762888,4.402164948453611,90.08086042823156,70.39175257731958,6.5877874702616985,27.29421094369548,5.873414542411696,0.8607054718477403,751,24,158,3,13,233,109,194,0.11,0.76,0.129,0.4453,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,2,1,0,4,12,14,1,0,3,0,13,7,6,1,0,27,27,23,0,4,5,3,0,1,1,1,1,1,2,1,4,14,0,1,1,0,0,5,1,6,4,0,10,2,31,8,27,15,5,39,0,0,0,0,24,11,0,5,24,107,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08329201005263284,0.0,0.0,0.17070385670872698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11592733091848527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587845483286651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06554151961785333,0.0711688221053602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945032859269418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805431858940811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07181533154287023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812997503592695,0.08176650841453488,0.0968836050396844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713215292749702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394067079093953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025302576562004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04164219281458036,0.08542925132000061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721394808754856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15997714865301865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683237468690907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464491976847968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08671604774404715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568611052416687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6823835427544871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099225846941314,0.0,0.0,0.07126143545045692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847421249324299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3065509904934627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243522483411667,0.18615931282340015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Qs_Dad,2019/04/03,"Becoming a father made me afraid. {Long post, but just my thoughts}

It wasn’t until my daughter was born that I realized just how much that aspect of life had changed for me.

I didn’t grow up affected by the death of a close friend or family member. Even now as an adult, the closest deaths to me have been pets. My father’s parents were too distant for us to build any solid bond with, though I do remember my grandmother as being someone very pleasant. I was 10 when she passed. My grandfather never made much effort to have a relationship with us. My mother’s parents made every effort to have a relationship with us and were a big part of our lives. As I got older, I became more self-centered and stopped visiting them or returning phone calls. They moved away in the middle of the night and whenever the last time I saw them was the last time that I saw them. My grandfather passed away when I was about 29. My grandmother now has dementia. As far as I know, she doesn’t have a single memory of who I am. It’s odd to think of how much effort they put into being a part of the lives of my brother and I, only for us to simply stop making the effort to be part of theirs. Aside from odd, it’s extremely sad. It’s not like we tried to actively avoid them, I think we just grew up and started living our own lives. By the time they flew in the night, I think I’d come to some sort of weird terms with where my relationship was with them. I’ll speak for myself when I say that, I know I’m, at least mildly, self-centered. In some fashion, I’ve always been that way. I’m sure there are lots of reasons I could dig up for use as an excuse. I’ve made an effort to change that in myself as I’ve gotten older. When we’re young, most of us are quite self-centered. Especially, in our 20’s. I mean, single and reckless, who the hell else are we going to ‘centered’ on? The trait has certainly faded in me. I don’t think I’m self-centered enough to negatively impact the well-being of those that I care for, but certainly enough for me to recognize that it could (still) use some shaping up.

In any case, I’ve never been heavily impacted by the death of someone close to me. Enter my, perfectly alive and well, daughter. You grow up hearing about how everything changes when you have kids or that you’ll understand when you have kids of your own one day. It’s hard to grasp the concept of something that you literally have zero concept of or context for until it happens to you. If you are currently childless with plans to one day be a parent, trust me when I say, they’re right. Everything changes when you have kids. It is a unique experience that will only ever be specific to you when it happens. Good, bad, indifferent, it is like a fingerprint. No one can ever experience exactly what you do when your child is born. You’ll understand when you have kids of your own one day.

As a father, I was elated when my daughter was born. Looking at this little, tiny human that was literally part of who I am was something that was otherworldly and, honestly, took months for me to begin to wrap my mind around. I will say, becoming a father was instant, but building the bond took time. Mom gets to bond with the child in a way that Dad can never fully comprehend, no matter how hard he tries. For me, I knew I was going to do everything required of me to make life easy for my wife while she was recovering. I had 15 days off of work. I slept when she slept, I woke up when she woke up, I wrote down every feeding, I fetched everything my wife or the baby needed. I was happy doing all of these things. Unfortunately, my bond with my daughter didn’t grow until she was old enough to begin really interacting with me. It’s just how it goes. I knew that I’d fight and protect her with everything available to me from the day she was conceived, but the life altering bond didn’t happen until she started smiling at me, laughing at me, and then walking around looking for me when I wasn’t there, and then telling me that she loves me. That’s when it begins and then never stops growing.

That’s when I started also getting very scared. I’ll be driving home from work or lying in bed trying to get to sleep for the night… a stray thought will enter my mind. One of those ‘what if’ type thoughts. What if she’d been in the car with me when I was rear ended last year? What if she makes it to the street before I’m able to reach her? Random thoughts like that. We live in a neighborhood seated in a rural area, what if my wife takes her out for a walk and someone’s dog gets loose? Then there are stories you hear of other people’s children that simply freak you the hell out and make you want to stop thinking altogether. I think in some aspect, it’s normal to have thoughts like these. I love this child so much that it is literally incomprehensible even to myself. So I’m naturally going to worry over her well-being. I came across something work related that made mention of Sandy Hook and it was a completely different feeling. At that point, the concept of ever not having my daughter scared the shit out of me. It was a feeling of fear and despair that has no words. The life fact of death had impacted me in a way that I’d never experienced and nothing had even happened. Just momentarily having the thought of being in the shoes of one of those parents terrified me beyond anything I can put words to. I wanted to drop what I was doing right then and go get her to hug her. I thought of her being upset when she got scolded for doing something (she didn’t actually know it was wrong) and how she had that slow build cry with her lip stuck out and her eyes welling up with tears and how I absolutely never want to see that look on her face because of me again. (Its seriously the most heartbreaking look a child can give, especially when they don’t exactly know that what they were doing is wrong.)
It is absolutely insane what your child can do to your world. She has done nothing but make me better. I’ve also learned fear in a way I never knew I could.
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parenting,Dirty_Red_Neck,2019/04/03,"Going to leave my wife and kids in 2 weeks I've been married for 20 years. I have alot of kids. In 2 weeks we will receive a semi large amount of money from a settlement and I plan to tell my wife to keep it all for the family and I'm walking out. I told her this was my plan and she keeps trying to talk me out of it so I no longer bring it up and she acts like everything is good and will continue, but I'm leaving no matter how terrible that makes me I have a chance to escape and I'm doing it.There is no other woman and my wife was always a good wife and I've always been good to her but I hate my life and want to start over. Our extended families will be shocked because like a lot of couples we attempted to portray or selves as the perfect couple even though we were often unhappy. Sorry if I'm a dick but I'm 39 and don't want to waste the rest of my life being unhappy.",1.740171821305843,2.7637748041237127,3.8694639175257737,90.35612027491413,76.73195876288659,7.235189003436426,22.21168384879725,7.793537801064563,0.7745151890034361,688,18,161,10,15,237,108,194,0.168,0.687,0.145,-0.8309,0,0,0,0,0,1,8.0,4,0,0,4,5,9,1,0,10,0,16,3,1,2,2,33,31,20,0,3,5,4,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,3,6,16,0,2,0,0,1,5,4,3,0,0,6,0,22,6,24,20,5,16,0,0,0,1,19,6,1,5,7,105,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564400200178139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393534014797868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34100803725754164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177879087767458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849132573706832,0.0,0.29053552161069346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757616699385419,0.3877446172370643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213765254794678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739347692814744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32633030337436386,0.0,0.0,0.21768477356650684,0.15056680149035231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100669782556829,0.0,0.0,0.10286011102637772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724975783476527,0.10906976638492888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385632840613375,0.1346864792843699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139829394320276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472450946547185,0.0,0.10462090049031923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817793340138087,0.0,0.2472126346676368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923261205380686
parenting,astrongnaut,2019/04/03,"My nephew has been acting very strange lately. My nephew is four years old, and he is a scaredy cat. But lately he's been becoming scared of nonsense and it's a little worrying. He is scared of the kitchen for one, and as of this week he is horrified of a song to the point where he is shaking and crying if it's played. My sister isn't really sure what to do, I believe she's putting too much thinking into it. She is nervous because our grandmother had a mental disorder and did crazy out of the ordinary things and she believes it to be hereditary. any recommendations? ",3.185044247787616,5.256358876106199,4.271867256637169,84.56196017699116,75.28318584070794,7.705840707964603,28.1141592920354,8.548686976883017,2.1608201769911504,455,19,89,9,10,148,73,113,0.247,0.733,0.02,-0.975,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,2,6,0,4,7,0,14,1,0,0,1,12,15,9,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,7,8,1,0,1,2,0,3,1,4,0,2,4,1,8,2,12,10,1,13,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,5,61,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247894196015774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186270000025343,0.20266641178791794,0.0,0.4134936859496325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015711847090644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21031216794142385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140023599475986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839198160564268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18492947451730649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489699418642567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255720730002696,0.0,0.1243474650607704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347115948376984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184472805774266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755774468477298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674402314124404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295091237187302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191230128523314,0.11758233710974465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15141051189540514,0.0,0.0,0.14719632006726258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18635782727321007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817094498119393
parenting,Wahdelita,2019/04/03,"Vacationing with an almost 2yo Hello oh-wise parents who have done this before! In June I’m about to embark on a trip to Mexico with my husband (33), 22month old, parents, sister (23)  and her husband(22). I love Mexico, I speak Spanish, but I’m worried about the logistics of having a baby on vacation... how do I deal with lugging a car seat everywhere? What about nap time? My parents are hoping for us all to go on a boat excursion... how well do babies and boats mix (because it seems like a terrible idea)?
Side note, I would so love to have one afternoon baby-free where we adults could get a little bit of r&r all together, but I have zero idea of how to go about finding reliable childcare (...is that even an option??)

Thanks in advance for any and all your insights! 
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parenting,OoklaIsMyHomeboy,2019/04/03,"My 4 year old is a fucking asshole and I am at the end of my rope 
I'll start by saying that I love my son completely. He can be funny and charming and sweet, but those times lately seem to pale in comparison to when he's just being a straight up fucking dick. Basically, whenever he is told no, even for the smallest of things, he will either hit or call me a ""jerk"". I don't even know where he got that name from. We don't say that in our house and as far as I know,  nobody has called him that. Either way, that's his go to insult right now. A month ago it was ""you're stupid"". I don't know what's worse. 

Anyway, we have talked to him about it. We talk calmly and explain how it's not nice. We have taken things away when he hits or name calls. We walk away and leave the room. He gets timeouts. Nothing seems to make a dent in this behavior. 

For example, earlier tonight he wanted me to make a video on my phone of him dancing, so I did. He ended the dance by running toward me and pushing the phone out of my hands and in to my face. I got down to his level and held his hands and looked him in the eyes and told him how that is the type of behavior we have been talking to him about. How that hurt me and that it is mean and that he should not do it again. 5 minutes later, he asked to do another video. I initially told him no, but after about 30 seconds of him asking and asking, I finally relented. As you could guess, he ended this dance the same way with jumping and pushing the phone in my face. I immediately put the phone down and off to bed he went (it was bedtime and we were working towards that anyway). I again told him, this time in a not so calm manner, that this is the type of thing that makes me very angry and that we don't like. 

But that sort of thing is not atypical. He'll do something wrong. I'll correct it. He'll do it again almost immediately. I'll correct it again. Cycle continues until I've lost my composure and now I'm very angry and almost yelling. I know this is a toddler pushing his boundaries, but I'm really at the end of my rope with this. Do we just keep at this over and over week after week to stay consistent until this phase is over? Should we try something else? Is my kid just an asshole? I hate going through this and getting so angry with him several times a day and just want to fix it somehow, but don't know what to do. ",2.5279445091602253,3.6817905633802814,3.8512321296198273,90.74618632849732,74.95573440643864,6.841236895054539,23.54172402838081,7.273561745256523,0.710431790744467,1838,52,416,20,38,604,218,497,0.112,0.85,0.037000000000000005,-0.9923,0,0,2,0,1,0,57.0,11,1,0,2,30,16,6,0,22,0,37,9,6,6,2,86,82,43,0,5,17,1,2,1,0,5,0,3,2,1,40,37,0,2,9,5,0,13,11,9,0,1,15,8,54,7,65,57,3,77,0,2,2,4,67,29,3,9,33,282,94,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569974618080386,0.0,0.17102655515018375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954674246396198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395054515797305,0.0,0.16046755656919182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26160123844824085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953767176154116,0.0,0.0,0.06818296842173541,0.0,0.0,0.05507433366949912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133866743787994,0.0,0.30254741075094904,0.0,0.0,0.11280850907859655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354880561607716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789725667760598,0.08923335590292301,0.0,0.09706675373328633,0.0,0.13660039102581156,0.0,0.0940749927165917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431236808107946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853726886493497,0.09141980812354827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590523683999405,0.0,0.0,0.2346612098760261,0.0,0.09633211876847372,0.09042364001718327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041720913184343504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717124063199333,0.0,0.09322147762640924,0.0,0.07707459318492475,0.0,0.17101051705100134,0.0,0.0,0.09302293109353738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816348328601375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194122069291704,0.0,0.0896103286256613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584809148261598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0547078360836438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729290128672995,0.0,0.13582306616072642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554853842413934,0.0,0.09647488671155656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314863613795875,0.0,0.0,0.060444802032589125,0.09102239056265576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591786796088446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269372626423388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14938793663857478,0.0,0.0,0.3264039482862273,0.0,0.05797930836571742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14092379006293318,0.10073933613558024,0.13556914804813058,0.1370014739896321,0.0,0.0,0.07916435376953315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062170409415797476,0.0,0.08702736548138211,0.0,0.09336877885303664,0.0,0.05499320104528877
parenting,morticia87,2019/04/03,"Adult daughter trying to cope Hi,

My father passed away 2 years ago at the age of 83. My mother who was 50, at the time of my fathers death, started dating men again about a year after my fathers death. It was strange at first. That relationship broke up. And now, she is dating a woman.

My mom was/is a born and raised SLC Mormon. She went to BYU Provo. She married my father and they were together for over 30+ years. I was baptised when I was 16. My dad was baptised a few years later after me.

Also, I know my fathers views on the whole topic of LGBT and I wonder if he would be actually happy for her or if he and I would start arguing for LGBT rights, like always.

I am a supporter of the LGTB community and I do believe in basic human rights for EVERYONE and I also believe in gay marriage and even gay adoptions. Even when I was younger I explored myself in that regard, albeit w/o the knowledge of either of my parents.

But after seeing her with my father for basically ever, im just having difficulty with processing this. I love her very much, and I know she is happy. Ive met her partner and she is remarkable. However, even though I do support it, everytime I think about it I just have this  weird feeling, that I just cant explain, Im sorry.

Is there anything as far as media, movies, books, message boards like this, to help me cope with this. This is very surreal and Im trying to process this as healthy as possible, but I still get that weird feeling almost everytime I think of it. Im just trying to get my hands on anything that I can possibly fet to help me process this.",2.2394252873563225,4.327836730407527,3.9450877742946737,85.71740177638455,78.24764890282131,6.384994775339602,24.73991640543365,7.42949916751922,1.2625171577847445,1243,45,244,17,30,416,164,319,0.051,0.857,0.092,0.8628,2,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,1,1,19,11,1,0,10,0,23,4,1,0,1,38,41,25,2,4,10,11,3,2,1,2,0,0,0,5,17,14,0,0,10,1,0,3,1,4,0,1,9,5,45,7,41,29,4,40,3,1,2,3,39,14,0,5,25,173,62,1,0.0,0.0,0.10019160981038233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101121455596754,0.0,0.10280968755406797,0.0,0.0,0.16421114352099742,0.08543009117168325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897816740240926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646232620984656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313490180066848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20343871561278346,0.09287135656316413,0.0,0.09810607455156103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038265920576836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733148549184205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728221043479988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21858933943486453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137635760668011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4436070874372776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11285005721937627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031925264906774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266414606481063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024646337192114,0.0,0.0,0.07547464011550717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400345390649598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23149115265434006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022970706917178,0.0,0.17536011340296492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181510567449027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493123299640096,0.14534143439376415,0.0,0.08199280391547975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330185617917022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157423752576444,0.10087325725451618,0.0,0.059868001499034165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20911961557476166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942785069350866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517659370871873,0.0,0.1146279606421541,0.0,0.0,0.11134179118637008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586837265253588,0.0,0.0,0.2644657754861225
parenting,tonyprent22,2019/04/03,"My wife doesn't allow me a say in just about anything. Any other dads experiencing this? So as the title says, my wife, since my son has been born, mostly marches to the beat of her own drum.  One of the biggest issues currently is his naps.  He's 1.5 years old, and she CONSTANTLY lets him nap after 6pm.  No matter how much I beg her not to let him nap after 4, she doesn't listen, and he ends up not going down until after 9:30.  

Tonight on my way home from work I called to check in at 5:45.  She said they were in the car, and he was napping.  I asked her not to let him nap any more than 10 minutes (because I'm exhausted from fighting this fight since he was born).  When I get home, it's 6, and he's still napping.  She tells me she'll be inside in a few.  At 6:20 I look outside and she's still on the phone with her friend and he's still asleep.  He ended up napping for about 30-40 minutes.

This happens constantly, and with any situation you can think of.  I ask her not to let him jump on our living room table, and next thing I know, she's watching him jump on the living room table.  I mention he shouldn't eat snack so close to dinner, and she's feeding him goldfish just before dinner.  I'm just so close to wits end.

Anytime I speak up, I just get told I'm being aggressive or I'm just always complaining/yelling about something, and it's my fault if he grows up like that.  I literally can't win.  Anyone have experience with this or advice?  I'm just trying to be smart and keep my kid safe but I feel like she thinks she's the mom, so she's always going to be more right than me.  It's frustrating.",1.7744205264231785,3.353465458579884,3.304037951438485,92.1334023668639,77.84615384615384,5.963844113446235,20.826770046929198,6.647476241863616,0.17448447255662106,1247,31,281,11,29,411,177,338,0.057,0.905,0.038,-0.5966,1,0,1,0,4,0,46.0,1,1,1,3,18,12,4,0,9,0,21,7,1,2,0,41,42,23,0,2,14,5,1,2,1,2,1,5,4,1,10,16,5,2,4,8,1,6,9,6,0,1,6,9,47,6,43,26,6,49,0,0,2,0,56,21,0,4,23,171,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564189992553523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990905572816934,0.0,0.0,0.2205514697709815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559163691074673,0.0,0.08896368398738354,0.0,0.20213279885529095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659016418121995,0.0,0.09199195724308903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039036932725163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23365271376265845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106214873496046,0.0,0.0,0.28725483630086196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10575038183317886,0.0,0.0,0.05466266007791402,0.07723238668553517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352398331627223,0.0,0.11296395047131325,0.0,0.12288055122646055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559955960309294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168823049326063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128366791011456,0.0,0.0960913699607426,0.0,0.0,0.059413337135526316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421910747579037,0.0,0.10563222962725664,0.0,0.19092271369586752,0.0,0.09078350392331568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266147992071023,0.0,0.0,0.07947182923705617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149740991734031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344117479566534,0.0,0.07325678803275193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923236531239046,0.1028354776442278,0.1719436634808846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885613240527615,0.12151793710003098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08322683073074008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590055984950483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449116914637336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182216066465573,0.13854250011183586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330184008757724,0.0,0.0733982449983298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08581110936927963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870392163293459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961801645000643
parenting,purplelotusflowers,2019/04/03,Diaper Jelly in Huggies PullUps? We have noticed lately that my niece has been getting a weird clear jelly substance in her pull up but it's not in every wet one she has. Is anyone else experiencing this? Is there a recall we don't know about? I don't want her to have a reaction to whatever is in her pull up and we are actively trying to potty train her but kids are at their own pace on that one.,1.6328012048192768,3.6625071445783166,3.6682981927710863,87.2417243975904,79.96385542168673,6.559638554216868,21.218373493975907,7.6454224807358475,0.8315072289156626,315,9,66,5,8,107,58,83,0.034,0.9,0.066,0.5584,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,12,0,0,0,1,10,15,3,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,1,2,11,0,12,14,1,11,0,0,0,0,10,8,0,0,1,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365738840309296,0.34666739241921923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826380891693052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850644630507824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17676770612885606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859417854118761,0.0,0.3816601424194072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3852001982546385,0.0,0.0,0.4585333400572193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22970937804681946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19956059239779167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawayadvice1774,2019/04/03,"""Vulture culture"" and my child... really need advice My partner is into ""vulture culture"".  In brief, this is the processing of animal corpses into either taxidermy or bones and art.  It is all ethically sourced supposedly, either found outside or ordered from an ethically sourced provider and then processed.  Processing could be burying an animal so it decomposes and then cleaning the bones or doing taxidermy stuff to the skins to prepare them.

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The potential concern is will this cause developmental issues for our 3 year old child?  In some cases my partner has allowed our child to participate in some of the animal processing.  Also, we have a lot of bones and taxidermied animals around the house.  Our child does in some cases play with some of these items.  But, overall I would say it is not heavily pushed on our child.  Our child seems to be developing normally and is generally a happy and well adjusted kid, with some mild separation anxiety issues sometimes.

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Appreciate any advice or thoughts on this.  My partner is passionate about this stuff, but there have been some concerns raised by others regarding this environment and our child.  Thank you.

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parenting,Throwawayloser1000,2019/04/03,"Preschool teacher slapped my daughter Back story, I guess: My 5yo daughter recently started therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD and severe separation anxiety. Her father completed suicide in front of her a couple of years ago.

She’s an amazingly sweet kid and incredibly well behaved at home. At home she has intense anxiety over me dying. But beyond her anxiety she’s delightful. At school, though, she’s been having very violent outbursts. She, almost daily, will hit, kick, scratch, or push the other kids and teachers, tear things down, try to run away. And they never know what is going to set her off. But, outside of her outbursts, they say she’s one of the kindest and most organized children they have. 

She’s started music therapy and the music therapist goes to her preschool to work with her. She also does regular therapy. And I have her in a sport as a physical outlet. Even so, she’s had to leave one preschool and just started at a new one two months ago. I’ve started going in to have lunch with her, as a check-in and to help her get ready for the afternoon. I asked if I should take her out of preschool for now, but her therapist said it was best for her to continue. 

However, last week she was suspended from her new preschool for three days due to her hitting and kicking a teacher.

This week she’s back, but a new teacher has started in her classroom (technically, this teacher was just on leave for the two months, but she’s new to her and my daughter was really attached to the stand in teacher). This week the new teacher has not reported any outbursts on my daughter. However, my daughter keeps telling me about when she’s had an outburst or a rough day. So it’s strange to hear one thing from her but silence from the teacher. And when I’ve asked the teacher just says “oh, we worked through it.” Same thing happened today when I picked her up to go to her therapy. 

My daughter had a small scratch right under her neck, but I assumed she scratched herself. As we were going in to her appointment though, she randomly said, “this scratch isn’t from me, it’s from my teacher.” I was confused, so I asked her more about it. She said that her and her teacher were arguing and her teacher scratched her. I didn’t really think *that* was a big deal, because if my daughter was hulking out, I could see how a scratch could accidentally occur. But then after that she said that her teacher slapped her face (and she demonstrated how) and that it really hurt her. Then, as quick as she brought it up, she moved on to play with toys like it was no big deal. 

So I was super alarmed, and her therapist was alarmed. Her therapist left the room and then came back and said we needed to report this, and that I could call or she could call on our behalf. I tried to call, but was on hold for the entire appointment so I elected to have her call on our behalf at that point. 

The therapist just called me back and let me know that she reported it and I will get a call tomorrow about whether or not there will be an investigation. She said in the mean time, she recommends keeping my daughter home (obviously) but that it’s up to me if I want to talk to the director of the preschool and let her know a report has been filed or not.

I’m so confused right now and I’m not quite sure what to do? Do I go talk with the director or wait and see if they even proceed with an investigation first? I’m not sure how any of this works. Like, I have no clue what my next steps should be. And I weirdly feel a ton of guilt about this. 

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parenting,someguy3,2019/04/03,"My niece (7) claims to already know everything. It’s becoming an issue trying to teach her anything. My niece 7 has this odd behaviour when you try to teach her something, she says she already knows it and will refuse to learn anything. 

How do I address this? I think there’s a deeper issue here that I can’t figure out. I try to reinforce that it’s OK to not know things yet, that I still learn things, and I try to give positive feedback for doing and learning things.

If it helps at all she has a *very* active imagination. A good amount is healthy I agree, but I’m wondering if there’s a issue dissociating fantasy (super heros, unicorns, etc) with reality. In this case it’s her own made up fantasy rather than just TV or the like. Her mother also noted some issues with this. It's also worth noting this isn't exactly new. Years ago when starting with letter sounds she'd say 'I know what sound it is, but I'm not saying'. 
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parenting,WrenCorvida,2019/04/03,"Hogwarts House Points Y'all. I started awarding house points to Hufflepuff when my 7 year old does a good thing, helps out, etc. And all I can say is I wish I had thought of this years ago.  

I dont know how long this will last but shes practically tripping over herself to be helpful. ",2.6968421052631544,4.6074481578947415,2.726175438596492,95.82189473684211,76.19298245614034,5.261754385964913,27.18947368421053,5.6839178017228535,0.6073957894736841,223,9,49,1,5,67,49,57,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.85,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,8,11,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,9,2,5,7,2,13,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,8,30,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18244496807943053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18011245166917988,0.0,0.2412168054135159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295411351127145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263011741387976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759105246993641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4749719722906056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311202244471645,0.1677688913546664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821421831612316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597104839225825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891284954206453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367449179392327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456788236920098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673613099020554,0.0,0.0,0.16339625958322934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366801915659407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650796948599985
parenting,Pammielou712,2019/04/03,"Well this broke me apart. http://community.today.com/post/i-put-my-daughter-down-and-never-picked-her-back-up

""One day, without me realizing it, she got too big. Too big to scoop up. Too big to rest on my hip.
One day I put her down and never picked her back up.""

My oldest is turning TWELVE next month and reading this today has me a weeping disaster. ",6.2087499999999975,10.106678089285717,4.418571428571429,75.8514285714286,80.60714285714286,4.942857142857143,19.5,6.6274283507984215,0.2671857142857146,287,7,46,3,8,82,42,56,0.157,0.784,0.059,-0.7964,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,1,6,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,1,2,1,0,9,1,7,3,1,17,0,2,0,0,3,8,0,0,8,33,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197846886505307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268207053947707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16630790607925167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1659750179517858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207509294685417,0.0,0.2211456081050096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818098520239652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19914819274596976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180724880260739,0.0,0.0,0.20799538654540886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942039351823911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22617804619115325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18696223710946847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20044588679341308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thedugong,2019/04/03,"Kid's phone. App to restrict calls/SMS to specific numbers? Near my last birthday, my son (soon to be 8) asked if he could have his own phone. I said that he could have one if he didn't lose any food and drink containers, sports equipment and clothing at school, after/before school care and holiday/vacation care by my next birthday, thinking that there was no chance he'd do it.

Well ... It looks like the little tyke is going to make it (<deity> damn it!!) and I don't want to break the trust thing.

On the plus side he is alot more organised with his stuff.

The good thing is that mobile phones are banned at public primary schools in my (Australian) state, and he always choose playing with his friends over using devices anyway.

That's the context done.

Android parental controls seem to be pretty good apart from one glaring feature missing - limiting call/SMS numbers. As usual with the play store there are a million apps for that, but I suspect at least half are scams and at least half of the rest do not work properly, so I am asking ...

Can anyone recommend an app which restricts calls and SMS to and from only certain numbers?",6.599323792486582,7.0782237302325575,5.6786046511627895,83.80660107334528,65.18604651162791,8.289803220035779,32.817531305903394,7.882392219407189,2.2412540250447237,902,35,169,9,13,270,142,215,0.09,0.768,0.141,0.779,1,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,0,0,0,4,6,14,1,0,10,0,21,2,0,3,1,33,34,14,0,5,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,13,12,2,6,4,4,1,1,4,3,1,5,4,2,12,11,25,25,6,18,0,2,1,0,21,11,1,4,5,109,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385435289796797,0.0,0.0,0.09304977180400716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956754163389638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558370274356445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643310250657404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794394982520943,0.0,0.2790166466239447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15346760093030914,0.21849683814334694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002561921052165,0.0,0.1340422874175491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545658774703229,0.0,0.10571529080007153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776421029507803,0.2295347009780536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153552719363656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684871476148703,0.13714060830577945,0.0,0.0,0.11490357782341322,0.1530788884412998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133575468530887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14552132029632994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854404529687416,0.10406614097091227,0.0,0.0,0.15193463210255492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920631813739692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015761452083238,0.0,0.0,0.4154408296979017,0.0,0.1245658029440454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566387579130102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18180887211288735,0.08767577949457248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11817805084281725,0.15070001462599114,0.0,0.08070646868194781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230275013049605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961459729508336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nendez1521,2019/04/03,"Am I being unreasonable.... today is my nieces 1st birthday. My sister in law doesn’t want anyone posting anything about it except them. I have pictures of her from the past year and I made a video montage and she tells me if I post I won’t be able to see the baby. Am I a jerk for wanting to celebrate my niece? I feel like what they are doing is selfish. My niece is the first girl in our family in 50 years and This is her first birthday. 

 My sister in law is one of those types of chicks that only post things that she’ll know she’ll get likes on. I just feel like she’s not trying to compete for likes (which I don’t give a fuck about) with everybody else. I know it’s her baby and all and the mom will always win, I was just hoping that today of all days she’d let me post something. 

Ps in the past year I’ve posted 2 photos of my niece, the day she was born and on my birthday. I don’t think it’s too much to ask to make a birthday post for her. ",2.239420289855076,2.989732169082128,3.7011787439613535,93.10626086956523,75.13526570048309,6.292946859903383,21.046376811594204,6.079149491110277,-0.018364637681159486,737,15,175,4,15,244,113,207,0.045,0.843,0.111,0.9042,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,0,2,4,5,9,2,0,10,0,23,1,0,2,2,26,38,7,0,4,5,3,2,4,0,4,0,0,0,2,11,7,0,0,5,1,0,0,5,3,0,3,3,3,34,6,25,27,3,25,0,0,1,1,21,7,1,2,16,117,45,1,0.11544979713612526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960634797076768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072518249906642,0.0,0.09500534608279942,0.0,0.1079299757452445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891113645876444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964434913128307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883579397111788,0.0,0.11674977262059268,0.16495471628401615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19640307693286385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673147711910114,0.06031775398897218,0.11074996531247278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466769823174047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12689637846596388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180552395347562,0.0,0.2256117571448248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924138950951497,0.07706363607073041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521340707496812,0.0,0.0,0.0848688847189647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07823177040367263,0.08780477308912696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204197895665432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6634139543091975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199854098186808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887889420215404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090821135276554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669971526052945,0.07397556834633702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21886581698918373,0.0,0.0,0.07838283393171239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619056310397626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22303765255614413
parenting,Collegewithautism,2019/04/03,"Kid with high functioning autism and college. Encourage dorm life or commuting from home? We live in a college town and are close proximity to a well regarded university that my son got accepted to. He knows what he wants to major in and this is the perfect school for him. They require freshman to live on campus unless they get a medical exemption, which we technically could be autism falls under their list of disabilities. He doesn't drive but would be able to get to campus everyday on his own by bike and/or public transportation. 

My son wants to use the medical exemption but I would rather he live on campus. I love my son to death but he's not going to get the college experience sitting at home. He loves the school but is resistant to change and doesn't want to leave his lizards. We told him he could come back home for his sophomore year since housing is not guaranteed by the school beyond freshman year but he wasn't hearing that. My wife is more willing to let him stay home but she can be a little overprotective and is worried about how he'll do on his own but I think it's a necessary step. If he stays home then he'll come home and do the same thing he does now. I think living on campus will help him break out of his shell more but that could be wishful thinking. 

Anyone have experience with this?",4.75399054276316,6.280618605468752,5.0139555921052645,83.11311677631579,69.9765625,8.670723684210527,27.92680921052632,9.134995656068208,2.1955734375,1057,37,207,21,19,333,138,256,0.036000000000000004,0.8740000000000001,0.09,0.9201,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,3,2,7,6,0,0,11,0,25,5,0,2,1,48,47,19,1,11,14,4,0,0,0,6,3,1,7,1,9,15,0,1,5,1,0,7,5,0,1,0,3,1,24,6,34,30,6,32,0,0,0,2,40,15,0,2,6,132,33,12,0.09354170636480376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540653604327591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192779820958786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895472214632688,0.1611557945690958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22405632292312155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818589776062751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300347614191326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661504235217246,0.0,0.05316190739658709,0.0,0.07481384777743423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542830147727493,0.0,0.06269903400178313,0.09883194857047264,0.5629797504506695,0.0,0.0,0.10793456999507968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514080754911346,0.0,0.0,0.0990471606841708,0.0,0.09565273240251766,0.06607127356237108,0.0,0.0937533640655375,0.33039616193450805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688500842125718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18846685615182626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840076023836255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737866613828738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940602572963206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06214495322763546,0.17981324517002376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938310907333015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079000058478902,0.0,0.0,0.1655199659880103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410522792927752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075683458955465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949961434359389,0.0,0.13289868871777544,0.0,0.0,0.12047558402724208
parenting,ombremullet,2019/04/03,"Found inappropriate texts on my 12 year olds phone Before I start, please don't chime in if all you have to say is ""He shouldn't have a phone at his age"" or ""Just take the phone away"". It's just not doable for our specific situation for a multitude of reasons. 

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I'll try to keep this as brief as I can. My son is newly 12 and hormones seem to be hitting him hard as far as I can tell by the interactions my husband and I are having with him lately. I'll add the obligatory: he's a great kid, has lots of friends, honor roll, respectful, obedient, etc. I was checking his phone, as I do regularly because he's 12, and saw a group text. It was him and 4 other kids his age, one if which is a girl (let's call her Kate) that he likes and I guess she likes him too (though they won't admit this to out loud to the others or to me). One or two kids on the group text were teasing about how Kate wants him to ""F"" her and ""finger her"". The other kids kept teasing and driving the point home while Kate kept telling everyone to stop and shut up. From what my son tells me she is very shy. My son didn't respond to any of the texts for quite some time until finally he texted back ""This is cancer"" referring to the inappropriate texts. 

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I have to say I thought his response was sort of funny but that's beside the point. My husband and I are going to have a conversation with him tonight about it. I definitely want to touch on a few points, such as:

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\- Yes, we check your phone periodically

\- Yes, we trust you

\- You didn't do anything wrong

\- Did the texts make you uncomfortable and why

\- Do you think the texts made Kate uncomfortable and why

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I didn't realize this sort of stuff was going to happen so soon! Anybody that has gone through this or is currently through this, any advice is appreciated. I want to open a dialogue and keep the conversation going. Are there any talking points or questions I'm missing? Thanks in advance, this sub is invaluable.

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parenting,musteatbrainz,2019/04/03,"Is the Uppababy Mesa a Good Car Seat for Taller Babies? Doctor thinks we're gonna have a relatively tall baby (I'm 6'4"", and my wife is 5'9"").  Is there any particular baby car seat that is good for tall babies?  Stroller-wise, we are going with the Uppababy Cruz, so I was hoping to go with the Uppababy Mesa car seat for compatibility reasons, but not sure if it provides enough room for taller/larger babies...any help would be appreciated!",6.426785714285713,6.727432869047616,7.2572380952380975,72.95442857142861,65.54761904761905,10.053333333333336,28.704761904761906,9.888512548439397,2.5212219047619047,347,10,66,7,5,116,58,84,0.028,0.802,0.17,0.9032,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,1,12,15,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,7,11,1,9,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,0,33,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867416694315022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29104891568063523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29381424738808565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32321047035867884,0.4770061856556333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059685085765093,0.0,0.0,0.2824282139615919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923638211356155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680007840166047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822029042793364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20199730311633554,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brave_little_blender,2019/04/03,"I think my daughter has ADHD As I said, I think my daughter has ADHD. I had to pick her up early from school today because she was acting out within five minutes of being there. This isn't an isolated incident either. Things like this happen all the time at home and at school. The principal and school counselor met with me and we discussed what happened. Apparently she started screaming and acting out. She wouldn't listen to anything the teacher was saying and she got sent to the principal's office. She was jumping up and down on the chair in his office and screaming and yelling. The counselor said she is normally able to redirect her and she normally displays empathy for her bad behavior but today she was suspended for it. I have ADHD and school was hell for me. I was sent to an alternative school when I was her age and I was absolutely miserable. I hated school because I was different and I was put in different classes than everyone else. I was bullied a lot for it as well. I'm terrified that she will end up like me. If anyone has any experience or advice, it is greatly appreciated. ",3.6265789473684222,6.1251447081339725,5.028083732057414,77.62633612440192,75.60287081339712,8.007751196172249,29.588755980861244,8.841846274778883,2.8436754066985643,880,40,151,20,20,293,114,209,0.16699999999999998,0.772,0.061,-0.9826,3,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,3,10,2,1,9,0,22,0,0,1,1,28,36,18,0,4,4,2,0,2,0,2,0,7,1,0,8,16,0,0,2,0,0,6,2,6,1,1,18,7,32,4,27,15,3,26,1,1,0,0,25,12,1,3,10,120,40,7,0.10634178377548116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3834064762728896,0.10391596035184583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231605958247513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435664778544533,0.0,0.08751022714002228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879094755325101,0.12964992872156306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222090607009213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883491486476035,0.0,0.09418725651140708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161413157449904,0.0,0.10402266992088556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505123899207763,0.11724219203194387,0.0,0.0,0.1880753763870477,0.0,0.0,0.10499049547079146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666947970587376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390644804344153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040798174773927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20838473920280445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069028644921236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023107767878696,0.08456725470492908,0.0,0.6457413749859958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526926189444286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064875589395032,0.13627904230059398,0.0,0.0,0.06200874929745483,0.0,0.20159915360150074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561403474897527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheIndividualChef,2019/04/03,"Long time parents of this community, Do parents ever stop being parents? My brother turned 24, but my parents still ask if everuthing is okay, if he needs anythinf. I dont dislike it at all but it made me wonder is there any point when parents just dis-continue (for a lack of a better word) being parents",5.184152542372878,6.210975169491526,5.762500000000002,80.01968220338985,68.49152542372882,7.255932203389831,35.08898305084746,7.1686216300943375,2.5018779661016937,241,12,43,2,4,78,45,59,0.073,0.784,0.14400000000000002,0.6626,6,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,1,2,13,11,5,0,4,5,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,4,8,2,8,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,6,30,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09099178783980708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508933697883914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833938815377992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681811787409006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12103401624412427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184129534418486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660924724607314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992144934125182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8914457418926927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12648869584030825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068566103506625,0.11186672485761748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802259958385692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554109618122066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451054949750362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lostme101,2019/04/03,"Abuse survivor not sure how to socialize child I’m the adult child of a mother with borderline personality disorder. My mother was physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive. I spent a good deal of my childhood in and out of foster homes and the hospital. Due to this, I’m not a very socially adjusted adult. Aside from my husband, I don’t have any friends. Not for lack of trying, I’m just too weird for other women to relate to. I’ve been through periods of being a shut in, and I struggle to do anything where I may have to deal with people and I have difficulty making eye contact. My life is fine for what it is, and my marriage is wonderful, but I’m often extremely lonely.

Almost two years ago, I became the mother of a beautiful baby girl. She was unexpected, but not unwanted. During my pregnancy, I secretly considered giving her up for adoption, because I had no experience with what a good mother should be. I’m so glad I didn’t. She’s an amazing little person. 

Next week she will be two. Everything I’ve read says she needs to start socializing, but I’m not sure how to facilitate that. I plan to sign her up for a ballet class for 2-4 year olds and probably soccer when she’s a little older, but will that be enough? I know I can’t control whether or not she makes friends, but I want to put her in a position to be able to try. I don’t want her to suffer because of me.

Any advice is appreciated.
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parenting,notenoughcharact,2019/04/03,"Sleep Regression Advice? We have a 1.5 year old who we night weaned a few months back and for a while pretty much slept through the night from 7:30pm to 5:30am. 

Lately they've been waking up around midnight, go right back to sleep with a couple minutes of shushing (not picking up from crib or anything) and then wake up at 4:30 inconsolable unless they get their morning breastfeeding from mom, and then not going back to sleep. 

For the midnight wakeup I think we just need to set a timer and let them cry forr 5 min and see if they'll go back to sleep. Not sure what to do about the early mornings though. We should probably try and further delay morning breastfeeding like until 6 no matter what, and see if that fixes it?

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parenting,LMA-No,2019/04/03,"How do I politely ask someone if their child is vaccinated....? My next door neighbor (70s) is an old man who will be watching his grandkids alone tomorrow for the first time. 
He asked me if he can come by or call me if he needs any help since their about 1 and 3 years old. 
Anyways my neighbors are super religious and I know some religions forbid vaccinations, not sure which but I know some do? He’s told me before that he’s Christian but a certain kind, always brings pamphlets and whatnot. They do not drink and do other stuff because his church absolutely forbids. 

I will def be asking if his grandkids are vaccinated, I just would like to ask politely. 

So far, I said sure you can come by with them as long as none of them are sick. 
It wasn’t until later that I thought about vaccinations and now the convo is over and I don’t know how to go back and say that (via text) I also don’t want to sound rude, we have an excellent relationship with our neighbors. ",6.86042105263158,6.099481568421052,6.973684210526319,78.90578947368424,64.89473684210526,10.126315789473685,33.21052631578947,9.3871,2.716589473684211,758,27,154,12,10,244,122,190,0.095,0.797,0.109,0.5785,0,1,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,5,3,10,10,1,0,5,0,21,2,0,2,3,38,37,21,0,7,10,2,0,1,3,3,1,3,4,2,8,12,1,2,4,1,0,4,6,3,0,1,4,4,25,7,15,28,3,18,2,0,1,0,34,2,0,7,13,102,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149459402759031,0.0,0.11540292865877096,0.12007568433426595,0.0,0.0,0.09813428070269987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.539633406461136,0.0,0.0,0.11096382247224378,0.0,0.08796872072196105,0.0,0.12279534428664025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14735444068929834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486168550138496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413667460375143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227481762051166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820134718631554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672650423529353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027441016586002,0.2379234470301459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050152205462985,0.0,0.0,0.12770789856724216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700243590620796,0.0,0.0,0.15347302650314024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028536087889611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15493261599940394,0.0,0.0,0.13726980336808425,0.11475938760193967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937293767131345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12227156575142957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16519795309477187,0.0,0.0,0.272016865479113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456430675726802,0.08414706283380577,0.0,0.0,0.13789232666805193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511650376574967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251215016135083,0.0,0.0,0.09292951856586086
parenting,Butterflyinthesky23,2019/04/03,"Unbreakable shoes? My kid is 7 years old and DESTROYS shoes when he's at school. He steps on the backs of shoes, he rips tounges out of shoes, he rips the velcro part off, he gets velcro part so dirty it doesn't work. He can tie shoes but he mostly walks around with them untied or pulls the laces all the way through the shoe and leaves it whereever he pulled it out. We got him  elastic slip on ones that had a pully thing for the laces so he didn't have to tie- you pulled once to tighten and then you just slip on and off. I hid the end under the other laces so they didn't hang out. He still pulled the laces out and made it so you couldnt use the pully bit, and ripped one of the ends off... I fixed them, We cut the ends off so he had nothing to pull and he still managed to grab them from the toe of the shoe and pull the laces out the very next day. IT's infuriating.  He doesn't do it at home- only at school. 

He wears cleats for sports and they are always perfect. He ties them no problem and doesn't pull the laces out. And he wears those just in the yard to practice sometimes. I have no idea why he is so hell bent on destroying his everyday shoes when he's at school.

 I'm at a loss on what shoes I can buy that work as sneakers but are strictly slide on with **nothing to touch** (velcro, laces) Or any advice to get him to stop touching his shoes constantly. I already use a points chart that has ""did you wear shoes properly today"" and ""did you respect your clothes"" ... After the 5th pair were destroyed this year we told him he was going to start paying for his shoes with his allowance, NEXT DAY he came back with them ripped to shreads..I need to buy another pair., Again. I feel like he's too old to be this destructive with shoes still.  I have no idea what to do. What are unbreakable shoes or what can we do to get him to stop. Does anyone have any ideas?",1.6213888888888908,3.5034257036082512,2.0860137457044665,99.30328751431848,79.33505154639175,5.238946162657504,18.767468499427267,5.985473137389443,-0.4870277205040092,1455,31,344,9,36,443,176,388,0.14300000000000002,0.8270000000000001,0.03,-0.9934,0,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,4,6,7,4,18,11,6,0,22,0,29,18,18,4,2,52,43,27,0,3,7,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,18,29,0,2,4,2,3,13,9,8,0,2,12,4,33,3,55,29,5,67,1,1,0,0,48,26,1,4,28,201,51,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019495660728783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314872662271933,0.0,0.08531643242240153,0.0,0.0,0.13945315863594254,0.1075157516398798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169409851095837,0.0,0.0,0.0912769242164158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576845056311362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119404808630284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172714852301477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080273799092223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225178756055325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897281213704324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724438492557017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05184422902660867,0.07325025049804139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070921845838387,0.0,0.05827238769225709,0.0,0.08200573974732954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284987844277907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34724493407145024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10856861293836534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009289245694349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702007104238776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760275999478038,0.0,0.0,0.21809196702749986,0.0,0.0,0.19676811664330085,0.0,0.2151841947966341,0.10919527482167904,0.1389592709579182,0.07798166392076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220684796161456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692769306679773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811111066725137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113093928362227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014086652914458,0.0,0.07257403390048472,0.0,0.2456511547080121,0.17144589086563602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811897813565736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719016394967826,0.09797555129473738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711276612459315,0.0,0.08460121940591309,0.0,0.08138665042694841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925209115905638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14929182489890386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205696115292592
parenting,Aparty,2019/04/03,"Same car seat for 3 little ones, does it exist? I have a granddaughter, age 2 (almost 3), one aged 18 months and one about to be born.  None will be in my car at the same time so I’d like to find a car seat that can be used for all three.  

Things to make this possible, easy adjustable shoulder straps (no rethreading) and adjustable recline for rear facing.  

Does such a car seat exist?  I’ve looked at so many my head is spinning. ",1.8730172413793085,3.7814096781609203,2.485732758620692,96.61066810344828,78.65517241379311,5.269540229885059,20.070402298850574,5.985473137389443,-0.20060804597701187,330,8,74,2,8,102,62,87,0.0,0.927,0.073,0.7217,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,3,3,2,1,11,10,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,1,3,1,10,6,4,13,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,1,6,42,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432627763538723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4251854295760791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220367884755932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24931982428931865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186850213328567,0.2434831556664369,0.0,0.0,0.20400292861053054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16215997617838596,0.2462964064528244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390717629254267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4938540148848807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27387098354149525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139420138599433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165645870437804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20981651682308552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MENDACIOUS_RACIST,2019/04/03,"Beware of a lower standard of quality in strollers -- particularly in Britax. The Washington Post just published a [report](https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/economy/after-hundreds-of-crashes-this-britax-jogging-stroller-faced-recall-then-trump-appointees-stepped-in/2019/04/02/faf23c20-4c06-11e9-b79a-961983b7e0cd_story.html?utm_term=.4c3db07c430a) describing how, after hundreds of claims of the BOB jogging stroller falling apart while being used causing many injuries, Britax fought the Consumer Product Safety Commission to prevent a recall.  In short, after the 2016 election, the Republican-controlled commission shut out their Democrat counterparts to favor Britax over the course of the investigation.

Ultimately, we as parents are responsible for the welfare of our children.  And I know better than to try to pin this evil on Britax -- this is probably just the one report that managed to break the surface and catch a reporter's eye.

So I'm discouraged companies building the equipment we entrust our children to are doing the barest minimum for safety -- and with the blessing of the regulators.  As Britax explained, it ""complied with all legal and regulatory reporting requirements"".  Hm.

It seems to be that our best defense is (as always) to arm ourselves with the best research we can.  I like (and pay for) ConsumerReports' solid safety tests; [SaferProducts.gov](https://www.saferproducts.gov/Search/Result.aspx?dm=0&q=britax&srt=0&t=2) is the Consumer Product Safety Commission's complaint database; and of course reading the instructions and watching the safety videos related to our strollers, carriers, and car seats.",15.743856345885641,16.68884817991632,11.432730125523017,48.5693741283124,46.28033472803346,12.987587168758715,52.134239888424,12.161744961471696,7.0376189679218975,1381,77,148,30,12,390,149,239,0.073,0.755,0.172,0.9688,3,0,0,0,0,0,95.0,7,0,1,4,4,10,3,0,22,1,9,2,2,3,1,29,15,14,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,15,0,4,3,3,1,5,0,4,1,1,1,2,10,6,35,12,3,20,1,1,2,0,13,10,0,1,4,99,16,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159733821085917,0.6239959110111821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.402919836102168,0.16978122984189947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19720533313875588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153098734086646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550129703823992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378649451465496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946267213280793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008335378773664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21315916979277186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838535070871781,0.0,0.20697535476064446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920212317623484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476162460577174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303345413840421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657998236266457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wisstig96,2019/04/03,"Questions about Vacation Hey Moms and Dads of Reddit,

What makes your life easy when you vacation with your kids? We are having our first family vacation that they should remember and I want to know what to look for in order plan the best vacation possible. Thanks! 

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parenting,needing_advice_42,2019/04/03,"How do I (or should I) try to draw out my possibly transgender child to confide in me? I'm a divorced father with sole custody of two kids, one being in elementary school and one in middle school. My oldest, who was born female and is still referred to by family/etc as she/her, has for the past year or so shown signs of wanting to present as male or hide her developing form: preferring short hairstyles, wearing loose clothing, and wearing multiple sports bras. That being said, she has not made any announcements about gender to myself or members of her family.

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I periodically monitor her texts/social media/etc for bullying and so forth given her age, so I do know that she is instructing friends to refer to her as he/him, and even to refer to her by a male name. I have not confronted her with my knowledge since I'm not sure that's the best way to begin a dialogue. Additionally, I'll admit that I may be overprotective given that I'm a single dad, and I know that I sometimes parent from a position of fear because I grew up in an abusive household and I'm very concerned with making decisions or acting in a way that could 'screw up my kids'.

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How do I draw her out? How do I refer to her gender/what pronouns to use when she hasn't confided in me or provided input? How should I address her wearing multiple sports bras...I know that can be unhealthy, so should I push the conversation out of concern for her health? I feel awkward with my 'secret' knowledge and like I'm creating an environment where she won't feel comfortable talking to me, but I don't want her to hide things from me, and I'm not sure that I want the conversation to start from ""I was going through your phone and accounts and noticed...""

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To be clear, my goal is to support her in any way I can, not to judge her or try to change  her.",8.223353430014665,6.569608324099723,8.414202379012547,72.55929281407855,62.711911357340725,11.485807397751346,37.30177611210689,10.328600350310266,3.679363891152029,1459,58,279,27,17,481,173,361,0.077,0.872,0.051,-0.5654,1,0,0,0,2,0,55.0,0,1,0,2,14,11,2,2,12,0,27,5,3,7,3,67,52,31,0,8,13,3,2,1,1,5,1,1,1,5,11,19,0,0,15,2,1,4,8,4,0,3,6,3,49,7,53,35,3,33,0,0,0,1,39,15,1,8,12,194,60,4,0.0,0.12333835697799553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383683587930807,0.3794690823595546,0.14157955751527426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06345678832013556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10924376366997096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012121076274137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311327653758245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321921607160595,0.06875532869769371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981337325509576,0.11713847791583484,0.10526951238831192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042536700465132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059160932212129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065063260030407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17162757046687194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050856715029517836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984994449938648,0.06948580035696975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851554152349325,0.0,0.0,0.14107813897731564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558780622070987,0.0,0.09937271502793328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11735413962442222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902043344027578,0.0,0.0,0.21070418444549172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611041714364953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029549570666876,0.0,0.07368065167712068,0.0,0.08313229122205662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812845770575844,0.19622107165536676,0.0,0.0,0.08366951992078718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915766467517864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135055721984333,0.0,0.1016880009689971,0.0,0.0,0.08990670166062194,0.0,0.08589122918334997,0.18419797119994286,0.2478829321861157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794690823595546,0.06703529095261443
parenting,trifangle,2019/04/03,"MIL buys birthday gifts for for only one of my kids. Second year in a row. I'm pissed My MIL goes to Arizona over the winter, and misses our youngest kids birthday. Second year in a row she comes back, no gift. However she's already asking about paying for a summer camp for my oldest kids birthday gift, coming up. I let it go as a one off last year. Now I'm pissed. I left so many hints. Not sure how this convo is going to go down. Ideas on how to tackle?",0.6890624999999986,2.7378897812500007,2.4123333333333328,94.86600000000004,83.47916666666666,4.256666666666667,16.891666666666666,4.935628992294339,-0.7454008333333331,353,7,77,1,10,116,66,96,0.14400000000000002,0.7979999999999999,0.058,-0.8254,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,5,0,2,2,2,2,1,8,11,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,5,2,3,0,4,0,0,8,1,17,10,0,22,0,1,0,0,7,8,2,0,9,46,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24204222939693826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20504912760972627,0.0,0.0,0.16865549628134655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3778763035741384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739603365492381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24760313408768125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878774450894572,0.0,0.0,0.2383087127541808,0.2242854564657457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22237181780955972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29725488515815346,0.16681456655185745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672115659926774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4237347017357562
parenting,misery-hates-company,2019/04/03,"How do you find time to take care of yourself with a new baby? So I just had my daughter 3 weeks ago and she’s been an amazing newborn, just eating sleeping and pooping. I’ve been breastfeeding every 3 hours and have an oversupply so I’ve been pumping as well to have a freezer stash. I know it’s still early but I feel like my life has become a never ending cycle of sleeping and feeding the baby. 

I want to exercise and eat better and clean the house but all I can think about is crawling into bed 24/7. What can I do to be more productive? I feel so lazy and useless. My house is a giant mess but I just don’t have the energy to do anything. Thankfully my husband has been home with me being a huge help but I feel horribly useless right now. I just want to be able to get up and take care of myself and start the day but I’m lucky to even get out of my pajamas. 

How do you new moms find time to take care of yourself? What can I do to make it easier on myself? I’m scared I’m going to just continue being lazy and gain a bunch of weight and end up not being a good parent. ",1.2684078674948225,2.997551699999999,3.303167701863355,90.88789855072464,79.82608695652173,6.12008281573499,21.387163561076605,7.07126945348624,0.52071635610766,841,24,185,10,21,285,120,230,0.121,0.674,0.206,0.96,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,2,15,14,0,1,13,0,26,9,3,3,2,41,48,22,0,2,11,4,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,1,4,15,4,0,7,1,0,1,3,4,1,0,5,4,22,10,26,38,3,25,0,2,0,0,9,8,0,1,17,126,26,0,0.12304020658146403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10906771931321332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125160631151414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588824139114444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881906396497414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3763430724291305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793507543827196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518016967081698,0.0,0.0,0.2179542055260664,0.0,0.0,0.08126689602723176,0.0,0.10366668072547937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18663847617643545,0.08789994816639363,0.0,0.0,0.22491303950834435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856685928313005,0.0,0.06992658486291936,0.1032002876774702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247125689531262,0.0,0.1234193592864491,0.0,0.12116981892052288,0.28394375740130745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06761967975778402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690693663969076,0.06011122993480818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213029331598935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14410320287935702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489619250375747,0.23766599645686856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13662158858196732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10507566414030316,0.0,0.0,0.12318471132562953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462581294943349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708849150282802,0.0,0.09826006791347132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775327684198577,0.0,0.0,0.11327889124711706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788391962316098,0.0,0.0,0.14349146784156494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514460340715288,0.0,0.0986954320487988,0.14982982439157966,0.11062792225151356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,monkeywrench101,2019/04/03,"Late Night Workers & Single Parenting So my work has assigned me to work 3:30-12/2:30-11 shifts lately-I’m (essentially) a single mom (pay all the baby and house bills, SO is out of town worker) and have really been struggling with a work/life/baby balance.
Basically I get home from work at 1AM, babysitter drops her off, I put her to bed, go to bed myself. Get up at 7/8 AM, prep everything for the day, bathe the kiddo, drop her off at daycare, then head to the gym, then work. 
On my days off I’m so tired I try to sleep in, but then I feel guilty about a) taking kiddo to daycare to sleep or b) laying on the couch all day with her because I’m too tired to do anything else.
If anyone is in a similar situation, how do you manage it? What kind of fun morning activities can be done with a 2yo? What would be the cheapest way to arrange childcare (I currently pay $11/hr for 7 babysitting hours, on top of $300/mo for daytime daycare)?",5.179409804854835,4.875591795811516,6.132603522132323,82.02138029509759,68.2146596858639,8.830271299381248,30.452641599238447,8.296473431620573,2.0182,727,25,153,9,11,242,123,191,0.091,0.8759999999999999,0.033,-0.8658,2,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,0,1,0,7,6,3,0,1,11,0,13,5,3,1,2,14,20,12,0,2,3,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,5,0,3,6,0,0,1,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,14,2,33,15,4,30,0,0,0,0,7,15,0,2,10,91,17,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534478012938912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902566855216102,0.0,0.11654316064243582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633169495778335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740041778696833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14492887606181495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118307334949265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272810730125287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160853607980806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479837079189465,0.0,0.08048726839733496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534543105118333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14205880518531047,0.0,0.13946952730826442,0.16341322443036774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14747792660762288,0.0,0.0,0.15975622549213248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000320829141225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586643248491967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13290302002905122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572549051354886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236961914985308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072693001355954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918950103724044,0.2834493376516473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480544724120723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648241277931954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32554820952500074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615230703492804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241326186028718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.515513936189826,0.0,0.0,0.10060448309994396,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,EskelD,2019/04/03,"Single dad needs advice dealing with daughters masturbation habits Hello, I hope this is an appropriate place. Another user suggested I post here. 

I'm 42 Ive been divorced for 2 years. My daughter who is 17 moved in with me early December last year. After her mother (my ex wife) moved to Scotland without giving my daughter a choice. They didn't have the best relationship as it was. She decided to move in with me to be closer to me, stay with friends and all that. 

So being her dad I've never talked to her about ladies issues or sex stuff. I've only ever bought her toiletry stuff which she found to be embarrassing at first. 

I'm just gonna put it bluntly. Basically she masturbates really loudly I can hear her in her room from the living and have to turn the TV up to block it out. 

I have also spotted her doing it in different rooms of the house. On just one of many occasions I came back from work and she was doing it in the kitchen. She didn't see me and I quietly stepped back towards the front door and called out to her pretending I just got in. (I call out everytime now) she will be doing it in the living room during the day as if I'm not also in the house. Again when I see it o quickly turn away and sit in my room or go to my office

So I've taken measures to avoid it but still she is very loud and it's every day. 

I just need some advice on how to approach her about this. I don't want to upset her or make her feel uncomfortable. I totally get masturbation is a healthy normal thing. But it's an issue of boundaries I need help getting across.",2.2207413793103465,4.155275100000004,3.869073275862072,86.97687500000002,77.6875,6.788793103448278,22.90948275862069,7.753152298057669,1.0532780172413791,1232,38,255,19,29,411,180,320,0.045,0.906,0.049,0.5091,1,1,0,0,2,0,26.0,0,0,1,3,20,6,0,3,13,0,23,2,0,2,4,45,48,21,0,7,12,8,1,0,1,2,0,4,6,0,18,15,1,2,3,2,1,9,6,3,0,2,10,7,42,3,48,32,5,54,0,0,2,1,40,25,0,6,17,183,60,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20850014609890652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062982634226964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118671572098777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002328442323578,0.16406635411045414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195795712209733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178719631970649,0.12201772739698488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376043164342826,0.10998620614117252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146175588372917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650151081566166,0.08988561513504104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053942482198983406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907450973434092,0.0,0.11697316618623105,0.08242355891213947,0.0,0.11147565593661453,0.10234072235533173,0.06063080298037672,0.0,0.08532469745599675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024027896024635,0.0,0.07150783265286119,0.0,0.0,0.1059609818815707,0.0,0.2461973231819549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22270012272107573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0869614511473776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18840731626015575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121219551225208,0.10816052310583296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401636561873219,0.0,0.23731382646529295,0.08228104321929004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10452737101561972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229163342542952,0.08113775818199041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146175588372917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10217349069899886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10724658074433828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06834430746874118,0.0,0.0,0.11453836427712973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002618670185024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371062525015252,0.08519773745820815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24425461620654446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574831376203212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087590720289665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320824525714628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802522204493622,0.06292480799752731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028392759559895,0.0,0.07766700130625569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13740160496142154
parenting,megstiiel,2019/04/03,"Is anyone willing to help me with my paper?! :) Hello r/parenting! I'm an ECE (early childhood education) student and writing an interview/research paper on preschool preparedness for kindergarten! I can't seem to find anyone I know IRL that didn't send their kids to preschool so I thought I'd try my luck here! Any responses would be helpful, thank you!!


1. What type of care was your child in before entering kindergarten?

2. What type of relationship did your child have with their caretaker(s) before entering kindergarten?

3. What types of things did you do to prepare your child for kindergarten?

4. What type of curriculum did your child learn before entering kindergarten? (if your child attended preschool, what curriculum did they teach? letters, numbers, colors, etc.)

5. Describe your child's temperament and behavior before entering kindergarten? did your child's behavior change after being in a kindergarten class?

6. What kind of socialization did your child have before kindergarten?

7. How did your child do academically in kindergarten?

8. Do you feel there's anything that could have helped prepare your child more for entering kindergarten?

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parenting,xMyxUnicornx,2019/04/03,"My son’s first experience with a bully. This is kind of long. Also I read the rules and they didn’t seem to have super strict guidelines so I’m sorry if this is done incorrectly. I had my first mama bear moment this past weekend and it took me for a ride. 

My son is six years old and he has made a friend recently. This boy is great. They play and do boy things together and I love that for him. They get along great and the little boy never gives us any trouble. 

There is another boy who lives across the road. He is 13. I thought it odd he wanted to play with a six and eight year old but whatever let them play right? The only time my son and his friend fight is when they go over there. I thought something was up with that but I wasn’t there and maybe they were just having a spat. I noticed my son would act more “macho” (for lack of a better term) when he’d come home from there. Again, I didn’t want to blame everyone’s kid but my own. So I dealt with him and left the other kids to their parents. 

This last Sunday they came running home and my son had red marks on his face and was crying. This 13 year old boy had held my SIX YEAR OLD down and punched him in the face then put him in a headlock and punched him in the stomach repeatedly. when I got the full story out of them I told my son that he was not off the hook for slinging his jacket at the boy first. But at that point I was seeing red. I am not a confrontational person and most of the time prefer to let things go. But I was bullied growing up and my dad just told me to ignore it and it would go away. It did not. 

I am proud to say that my anger did not get the best of me. I was shaking like a leaf but I didn’t curse the boy or his dad a single time. I was able to work it out with the dad and he is punishing his son. 

When I got to their house the boy was in the yard and this was our discussion. 

Me: are your parents home?

Boy: no. Listen he hit me with his jacket first. 

Me: I am aware and I will deal with that but you are thirteen years old and he is six. I need to speak with your parents. 

Boy: I’m going to call the cops get off my property. 

My boyfriend: good we can tell them all about how you assaulted our six year old. 

Boy: F*** you B****! 

Me: go get your parents or I will

Boy: *curses and throws a stick at me* I’m recording you! Your on camera. 

Me: did your camera get the footage of you beating up a kid half your size?

Boy: *more expletives*

He finally got his dad. His dad apologized and said he would be punishing him. I thanked him for the apology and shook his hand and told him I think it’s best if they don’t play anymore. 

When I got home I calmed down. I told my son that what he did cannot be excused no matter how out of line the other boy was. I told him that none of their actions are how you treat friends. I asked him and his best friend if they liked being treated that way. They said no. I asked if that’s how they wanted to treat other people and they said no again. I said that that was good and that they should take this bad experience and learn from it. Now they know what not to do to a friend. I was angry beyond belief but I hope that something can be gained from it. My son has always been big and strong for his age (yes since birth) and I want him to be responsible about it. I want him to defend the weak and take care of himself. I’m raising a person, not a child and I can only hope he hears my words and takes them to heart. ",-0.3042717996289426,1.8162371632653065,1.2975904452690197,100.63581052875696,88.93197278911562,4.42934446505875,15.699211502782926,5.852544927426893,-0.8775612244897961,2645,54,647,20,88,849,276,735,0.127,0.7340000000000001,0.14,0.5777,4,0,2,0,2,0,80.0,4,12,20,14,24,44,6,2,36,1,66,8,6,5,2,104,124,61,0,18,22,18,1,2,5,6,1,8,5,20,40,49,0,2,8,7,0,17,18,12,0,11,45,12,123,32,69,64,13,89,1,0,3,1,141,30,0,10,43,437,163,3,0.058190944105611236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04653527697744826,0.04841952707520845,0.0,0.0,0.039571837444315264,0.061018278656617214,0.0,0.0,0.05770978017964076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088013550774142,0.0,0.054672307515965725,0.0,0.04858700769082628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18320341722865896,0.05146516122449928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05941946006941571,0.06655493781242679,0.05932954573879572,0.0,0.0,0.05012634576866205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392001966378498,0.0,0.059992308217103975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05954953928430511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055603940811036534,0.0,0.11384381860403504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06374533491682031,0.0,0.19798874931750135,0.0,0.0,0.22479089533558602,0.0,0.1520118327626752,0.05582205600238255,0.1653562727302601,0.09761560613028697,0.18616245538067014,0.12831144261703098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558542319602154,0.06895654894362138,0.0,0.0,0.2334810461500009,0.1155934749829783,0.0,0.06714453663216581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060596913622256415,0.031980221055783936,0.04743338608792285,0.0,0.0,0.06322463103515114,0.11900836581014555,0.0,0.05685831190375992,0.058322613303358015,0.051383669752772115,0.051497154371244816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05251959898145765,0.05506167831089566,0.0,0.0,0.05846062474857616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04314784771953528,0.04488044345215996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625077555121904,0.3663696424105332,0.0,0.0,0.08851367035337086,0.0,0.0,0.258456627981337,0.0,0.055549840591377735,0.040342273719665436,0.10162017572734472,0.0,0.0,0.055009251155150464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849797127274819,0.0,0.0,0.058206691401509525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057456537096486286,0.0,0.0,0.04969474831627519,0.2214116537462124,0.04627577436625757,0.0,0.0,0.046370648445241136,0.05297485001473258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04813615029278581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959646344961371,0.0,0.06513999776346814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125704404521427,0.0,0.050861450017988835,0.053574403132542005,0.0,0.0,0.07731895515380137,0.03728640733553565,0.0,0.09239421925664658,0.101794822401475,0.0,0.0,0.2780197040551827,0.06465228002384286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06999654089707981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161263254431874,0.04618926286553732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04236370035968436,0.0,0.0,0.12401153133862848,0.0,0.0,0.22483836083381306
parenting,CharlieandtheRed,2019/04/03,"4 Year Old Separation Anxiety or How Do I Use The Bathroom Without An Audience? My (30M) four year old has recently become very clingy. She can't be left in a room by herself without throwing a fit and rushing to whatever room I or my wife is in. If one of us needs to use the restroom, she follows. We've explained personal space and whatnot and from 3-4, she completely respected this. In fact, from 3-4, she would often go to her playroom and play for three or four hours without even talking to us. Now, if I work from home, she has to sit next to me all day. When I wake up to go to the gym, she springs up and goes absolutely ballistic if I leave (which wakes up my wife and our 1 year old baby, and I hear about it).  


Does anyone else have experience with this and know if any possible solutions, or at least can let me know this is a phase that won't last forever. Thank you in advance!",4.6217341897233215,4.511788179347825,5.8760276679841885,82.72747035573123,69.3804347826087,9.73438735177866,32.48814229249012,9.573946990214177,2.736963043478261,691,29,152,14,11,233,119,184,0.042,0.913,0.044,0.3402,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,1,0,2,6,3,0,0,7,0,12,2,2,3,2,31,23,18,0,6,11,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,1,6,9,0,0,3,2,0,6,5,0,0,4,0,1,23,3,27,19,2,34,0,0,0,0,18,13,0,9,14,102,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900172897946385,0.0,0.1012639820806368,0.0,0.0,0.09255736485789323,0.13563044144080216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14619413392417074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387892006096888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536879051823007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583935972675667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057956312101196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743025415428643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948491493512715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15045976616746073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14919251739189576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277960002751446,0.0,0.13035945239621632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549604023447524,0.10790059641344536,0.0,0.14016250888928766,0.14382223069775313,0.1353590235504364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815193235972182,0.0,0.0,0.14077879619097594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167054703895835,0.0,0.08969848432136279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558185566064215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14922919354416547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13070107643317952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639535189782216,0.0,0.12187006931743125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184536940151543,0.2286532818692045,0.0,0.1092205090043624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3828047622470975,0.0,0.0963681683322685,0.0,0.0,0.09403305208403016,0.0,0.0,0.25572908905998193
parenting,picklesandwine4me,2019/04/03,"You know you’ve been out of the infant stage for awhile when... So I have started watching my 4 month old nephew. I have a 4 and 5 year old. Today was the first day I had to get my kids to school while watching my nephew. So I get him in his infant car seat carrier and snapped into the base, no problem. I get to the school and I can’t get the car seat off the base. I hear the first bell ring, 5 minute warning. I am yanking, pushing buttons everything I can think of, while my kids are just staring at me. I hear the 2nd bell, kids are officially late for school. I finally give up and in latch the base from the van, get my kids out, and struggle to carry this now ridiculous contraption or base and car seat into the school. The office staff standing there to write down all the tardy kids and give them a hall pass looked at me and are like “aren’t you supposed to leave that part behind?”  They had a good laugh. My son goes off to his class and I take my daughter to her preschool room (this is why I actually had to get out, the preschoolers have to be signed in). Cue the whole scenario all over again, though with more laughter because the teacher actually knows me. I finally get him back to the van and all hooked up, I get home and pretty much instantly find the right button to unlatch the car seat from the base. I was soaked in sweat. I had a text waiting from my sister-in-law asking how drop off went and I pretty much made her morning too. Honestly I can’t stop laughing when I think how ridiculous I looked carrying a baby in a car seat strapped into the base into an elementary school. So there’s your morning laugh. I am sure I will have more moments later, it’s amazing how less than 4 years ago I was doing all these things but I am feeling new all over again. ",2.668512396694215,4.285296112947659,3.3345096418732787,92.70721900826449,75.47382920110194,6.162314049586778,23.945730027548212,6.742157984588678,0.5766599449035814,1391,43,305,12,30,437,179,363,0.043,0.884,0.073,0.8778,1,1,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,3,2,2,18,12,2,1,28,0,26,1,1,4,6,44,51,25,0,1,3,4,1,1,0,1,0,3,2,7,6,20,0,2,6,0,0,9,4,4,0,2,10,9,47,8,44,39,12,63,0,0,5,0,28,25,0,1,27,199,53,7,0.0,0.0,0.19054822205614025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654429823829653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09127213003553553,0.0,0.0,0.0750724792991934,0.0,0.05951516285434257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629641418741937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774475923726972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04936534245777153,0.0,0.0,0.2139007365688432,0.08923328227389545,0.16609034750001295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080667931235391,0.18731376831383093,0.0,0.08188854164437415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007524704535766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793220125738812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731126988967477,0.0,0.11013241176150614,0.10337749945354403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04769774451787415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16397148453086935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238114101044216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792840959302766,0.0,0.14354054707330038,0.0,0.0,0.0942929631607934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20489535030376607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057252345261154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986523576850221,0.0,0.09342001352774293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337663675565457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940406764718726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910396980154887,0.0,0.0,0.08162417760341295,0.0,0.10206548175878064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201638898038253,0.0,0.07340662245521197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648619286403948,0.12511644975250566,0.09592230257222556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925431010738028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050523665044788,0.08809710494159799,0.10900191213426484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574277279542476
parenting,BelgStudentNeedsHelp,2019/04/03,"Expecting/recent parents from the UK? I could really use your help.  Hello everyone

I’m a Belgian student that is looking for people from the UK who recently (within the last year) had their first child or women who are pregnant of their first child. I would love to do some interviews regarding what baby products you use, do not use, recommend and why. This is to help the UK baby products market expand and be more relatable to what parents actually need.

Please contact me if you are interested or know someone that is interested.

Thank you in advance.",5.6344801980198005,7.761923277227722,6.39117574257426,71.72755569306932,68.70297029702971,9.406435643564356,33.41707920792079,9.827888789773867,3.7737217821782183,445,21,70,11,8,146,70,101,0.019,0.779,0.203,0.9613,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,4,2,3,0,4,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,3,0,14,20,5,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,1,9,4,9,16,2,8,0,0,1,1,19,2,0,4,5,51,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.18361694230779152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023038768457905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17979486970086786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32009746851173193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522392600926984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340777279203853,0.1533754504942627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580069459076717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982167662725747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951819862859316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4178586542017787,0.0,0.0,0.13044639896142607,0.0,0.0,0.20654309192647716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205400646887973,0.0,0.18578522403353484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15942729202996886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17323237687867749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4875292808295015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16978506396957058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13366341062171774,0.0,0.0,0.12116882125091046
parenting,pting834,2019/04/03,"7yo sleeping in same bed, husband disagrees. Not as crazy as it sounds, I hope.

Don't want to get into too many details but I didn't have custody of my child between the age of 2-7 because of an international custody dispute, and I didn't get to see her because I'm an alien in the country my husband lives (where she was born) and he would conveniently be out of town during my visitation. Initially I took her with me home because of my husband's drug problem but I was forced to return her and by then had no status. I didn't receive primary custody until he got arrested a few months ago.

My daughter is with myself and my husband and had no memories of me and I barely speak her first language. I noticed her crying during the night and I brought her into our bedroom to be able to comfort her. That kind of stuck, I was scared of leaving her in another room and not being able to comfort her through the night. It's nothing big, but I hear her crying and hold her until she falls asleep.

I have a 3 yo with my now husband and he thinks what I'm doing is highly inappropriate with a 7 yo because it's barely appropriate with our 3 yo to cosleep. He thinks I'm causing her damage, but I look at it as temporary, she still wakes up during the night crying but it is a lot less frequent now. I've thought of having a baby monitor to please my husband and take care of her at the same time but I'm afraid it wouldn't wake me. I can calm her down when she cries and whereas when she first came to live with us she was highly anxious and treated me as a stranger I feel this is strengthening our bond, it's letting her trust me, I noticed her point at me once when someone asked where her mother was. My husband thinks it's the wrong way to go about it but I don't know what else to do. I don't think I'm as crazy as it sounds but it's true I don't have experience with older kids, I basically jumped to the 7 yo stage without any inbetween adjustment so maybe I am babying her.

Do you think this might be causing her harm, any other solutions you can think of? Sorry for my English, not my first language.",4.311650246305419,4.732779494252878,5.3613423645320255,84.29521551724139,70.14942528735632,7.869458128078817,30.70812807881773,7.7094869923839395,1.8751231527093601,1660,66,348,18,28,549,198,435,0.141,0.777,0.08199999999999999,-0.9813,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,4,2,0,3,11,15,0,2,16,0,36,5,4,2,1,59,66,34,0,5,12,9,1,0,0,3,1,4,4,2,17,24,0,1,10,0,0,8,14,6,0,3,16,7,70,9,55,42,5,52,0,1,2,0,51,19,0,3,23,239,87,0,0.1831960372216068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119611679028704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457958737048755,0.09604850909179632,0.0,0.10347968869078808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563178257749401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233492078522986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476373130017112,0.09339028466164184,0.18819279389753768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4024644893294808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622462114228284,0.0,0.07651839094829625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960043848310577,0.0,0.0,0.04631471042213663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337396835124397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09571236831069184,0.0,0.05205726485368682,0.0,0.07325930312130469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032376241155934,0.0,0.0,0.1935566714850169,0.09188028111257,0.0909775003268704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095385240900284,0.050339875533362166,0.0,0.0,0.09698907599904083,0.0,0.09366517998517797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16176545717366855,0.0,0.07691926608259059,0.0,0.0,0.07787335984676197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286601399384396,0.09202252130504468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717102263121008,0.0,0.0,0.0731126645590713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578756063388622,0.0,0.08789076926928906,0.20856990259195865,0.0,0.09754890038457402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054711806591722,0.08658973468330368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764693322791585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170559603295816,0.0,0.07299176159736248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166416960438482,0.0,0.07761070392212828,0.0,0.0,0.10253648259455704,0.0,0.0,0.07315029598457183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887031048125601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3521538705594971,0.0,0.07271859517901243,0.053411541263712566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176876900479406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11018113822223287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402688459948081,0.07270624363643563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829722125789781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506860434557192,0.10014805405305446,0.0,0.0
parenting,robert_ah_booey,2019/04/03,"Troubles with 15M son I have two bio sons (15M and 9M) and two stepchildren (20M and 15F).  His mother and I divorced 7 years ago but she and I are great co-parents.  My new wife and ex-wife are friends.  I'm 46M.

All the kids are pretty good except for the 15M.  He used to be such a fun kid to hang out with but now he is moody all the time, doesn't engage with the family very often, keeps to himself in his room.  

I know some of it is just teenager stuff but I wonder if I'm doing anything wrong (I'm a 46M).  I tell him to hang out with us more in the evenings (he still rarely does).  He just doesn't seem that interested in his family.

My youngest son is great to hang out with and my two stepkids are great too, especially 15F.  20M goes to college and works so we don't see a lot of him but when he is around, he engages in the family at least somewhat.  

15F is very engaging with the family and helps me make dinner and take care of 9M, etc.


Anything I can do better for 15M to get him to appreciate his family?

Bonus question:  15M and 9M share a bedroom.  15F and 20M have their own rooms.  They live with us full time whereas my biokids, 15M and 9M, only live with us part time.  My ex-wife is buying a huge house with her boyfriend with a pool, on a golf course...they are pretty well off.  I struggle with guilt for not being able to provide as much for my biokids as my ex-wife and her boyfriend do.  Any tips for that?

Thanks in advance!",1.019814814814815,2.4218017292993643,2.6996956829440935,96.4207348431234,79.47770700636944,5.798348667138478,20.865298419438545,6.42735559955562,-0.03148133993866509,1109,29,274,9,27,366,157,314,0.059,0.718,0.222,0.9962,1,0,0,0,1,0,44.0,4,0,2,4,12,21,0,2,14,0,22,1,0,2,2,52,36,23,0,1,9,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,4,30,1,1,4,2,2,4,4,5,1,3,0,1,33,16,43,34,12,29,0,0,1,0,37,16,0,8,9,162,37,2,0.10026456957374508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887849130917198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818334552873984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650183953284039,0.08925672424381244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867586387415623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222641096370454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08774220050499533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182149881673267,0.06622380258578182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4726025643797497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746415773565687,0.0,0.05238409933478309,0.0,0.0,0.08409716393817435,0.0,0.3316261257602371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720522749886207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569185150930535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911975631583832,0.0,0.0,0.05510278529270677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707090373137174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524135155665971,0.0,0.0,0.06692737875761719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370599522593825,0.0,0.0,0.09683614608240204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625572325537602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857675813738824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20401022603984648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231926454731156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989788065269125,0.09127709846605993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800714147786173,0.0,0.0,0.1048182978904792,0.11477894407383675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075386478239813,0.0,0.08763565314724728,0.0923101446937454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539523047428152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938317463853333,0.0,0.3618177958391297,0.0865963958675908,0.0,0.16545754090705433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09014988933752943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873264870253913,0.07299380079494665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962356703306847,0.0,0.06456709550245078
parenting,billiebusstop,2019/04/03,"(F22) Nervous bc I don’t think I will or can be a good mom. Tips and advice? My fiancé (M23) and I (F22) want to start a family in the next two years but I am kind of nervous! All my life I have been known as the “sister who isn’t good with or like kids.” My family used that as a joke ALL the time and it unfortunately made me feel super conscious of myself and my abilities of being an awesome mom to my future kids. I was never the sister who would get asked to babysit. I didn’t care about the getting asked part - it was the jokes which they somewhat believed was true that I cared about. To me, when I saw a baby or a kid I never was like “oh my god! You’re so cute!” and pick the kid up. I always looked from afar because well I didn’t hate kids but I didn’t love them either. I was a kid myself (12 yrs old) so I was always like whatever! But then it turned into a joke leading up to my teen years and I feel like my family scarred me into thinking I won’t be a good mom. So my question is, what are some tips and advice from moms who have felt the same way?? ",0.16849237718802712,1.9472973982684003,2.323493318275929,96.29281761716548,83.67532467532467,5.056352343308865,16.96988518727649,6.046907544983943,-0.5693235083756827,813,16,196,6,23,274,122,231,0.049,0.667,0.284,0.9962,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,2,2,7,21,1,2,17,0,24,2,0,4,5,39,44,20,0,2,7,6,3,4,0,3,1,0,0,6,10,10,0,0,8,3,0,1,8,3,1,1,13,5,33,18,20,25,7,18,0,0,2,1,21,5,0,6,15,133,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173476080368297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850724142326343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079339749093619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779300743207888,0.0,0.0,0.12529637012443656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267734306481173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31451863715203376,0.0,0.1124629377665438,0.07944894270601373,0.10677970733505067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162059961371262,0.0,0.0,0.2798347637501637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979753725950524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580882524624615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855140274680827,0.21732771236852635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338897464378808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037199416395087,0.10523024854073572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5209944873979934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17154508776223334,0.0,0.1182738357561861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669691671630945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043034524712296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458143012724365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871550229658372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14251864568876066,0.0,0.0,0.06484785056849958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096530117010065,0.10863668943763743,0.0,0.0,0.0960503337030408,0.0,0.0,0.06559494926181761,0.08827387323375621,0.0,0.0,0.09999177064368513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900088691447685,0.0,0.0,0.1432320827469338
parenting,Too-Far-Frame,2019/04/03,"My almost 4 year old has horrible night terrors. He has no idea what's going on when it happens, and i would love some advice! Seriously. The car is running but nobody is driving. He doesn't have any memory of them happening, and while we try to talk to him about it, we're getting nowhere. 

It has happened early consistency over the past year, with the past few weeks being every night. 

At this point I would just let him cry it out but he shares his room with his brother so that can't happen without waking him up worse than he already does!

any advice would be amazing because I think we are all sick himself included with not sleeping through the night!",4.92587673611111,6.143544070312505,5.167604166666667,83.34475694444446,69.234375,7.563888888888887,29.847222222222214,7.793537801064563,1.9074086805555552,523,20,99,6,9,165,94,128,0.149,0.7759999999999999,0.075,-0.86,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,0,4,5,0,1,4,0,15,4,2,0,1,21,23,7,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,7,8,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,0,13,3,15,17,3,23,0,0,0,1,17,7,0,2,12,67,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708089104085473,0.0,0.0,0.13875318115331606,0.0,0.15291030810519074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18845837765691986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844681505438463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522075291877286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12125947055685055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674728268331964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239467570193467,0.0,0.07874988099299575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4901315214872004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564234126230417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169245729201807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250606372924364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901025796737337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540102442086994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645526089528469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309890429451233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13866541909098878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137357864608202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878708052157416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407677620294652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114876471704643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133572051578488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120992845035482,0.2952985445737192,0.0,0.0,0.17846308323610022
parenting,AnonAngryParent,2019/04/03,"Help. Neighborhood 9 year old sexually abusing other kids? I'm seeking advice and don't really have a judgement on what's happened. I'm not sure saying ""sexually abused"" is the right word given the age, but it drives home clarity about what's happening.  I'm in tears and freaking out. I'm being anonymous and vague for hopefully obvious reasons. 

A couple 9/10 year old boys in the neighborhood have shared with parents that another young boy has shown them porn and then asked / encouraged that they put their mouths on their private areas - which they did.   Now, I get that kids, particularly younger boys, will be exposed to pornography.  What I'm seeking advice about is that the boys who were exposed to this, are clearly having trouble rationalizing and understanding what happened.  One recently was involved in those body safety talks that kids get, and he now believes he/they did something terrible.  

Not sure how best to help these boys. All of them.  Not sure how to have a conversation with all the parents, particularly the parents of the boy who's clearly exposed to this stuff at his age.   Is this something we should be concerned about or is it normal and just unusual?  None of this has any concern about their sexuality and preferences, I'm concerned about their exposure and comfort with what happened at this age... and how it will affect them as adults. 

My anger is as great as feeling a need to call CPS on the family of the boy prompting this.  Clearly they're neglecting what he's exposed to.  I don't actually intend to though, unless all the advice and some professional guidance tells me we need to... I'm not a fan of helicopter parenting and we have to accept the fact that in today's world, if we're going to give our kids space and freedom from being watched like a hawk, they're going to discover these kinds of things.  Again though, it's not the pornography that's as great as a concern as the impact the \*touching\* has on the boys introduced to it.... seems that were it an adult, this would clearly be a crime - since it's boys, how do we best parent??",7.580725863284003,7.7534914806201565,7.278206483439039,74.21278541226219,63.13436692506461,10.44721634954193,35.420366455250175,10.125756701596842,3.5275953488372083,1661,69,296,33,22,525,184,387,0.128,0.7190000000000001,0.152,0.9554,5,0,2,0,1,0,55.0,5,0,9,2,15,19,1,0,24,0,31,3,2,7,12,64,55,30,0,8,10,5,2,1,0,4,0,1,1,15,37,21,0,1,6,0,0,4,8,5,0,1,6,4,19,14,47,40,7,33,0,1,1,1,51,15,0,5,15,198,56,1,0.0,0.21594636964291053,0.0889289407886847,0.0,0.0,0.26715115999957795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06197097198750522,0.0955568980762158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519348813651881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267138716891287,0.19126891867764287,0.0,0.0,0.10122398294741683,0.0,0.0,0.0930530885925144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008327119065077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590848703971449,0.0,0.04607765497960828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522247778522967,0.08741941977489735,0.1035816338803576,0.0,0.0,0.2009405003567432,0.0,0.0,0.32234095576871624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216394600321895,0.0,0.09141000459566537,0.0905118445686126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948970247312484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0445211175650238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135142274659909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928725452077918,0.0,0.0,0.19124950396726373,0.0,0.061751495428069764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.505940887732186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161000279986097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058379690570195326,0.0936959815909581,0.08997907807328555,0.0,0.0,0.07782382761901345,0.0,0.07246958701341352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08296058910392834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538300503680817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403114003596308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432111643681363,0.0,0.0,0.2576645403119256,0.0,0.0,0.07324618845004828,0.0796509259582405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060542182438229585,0.0,0.17906792671613625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637981364495526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486869731831386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473555968962456,0.0,0.0,0.11736841704285035
parenting,Pylon17,2019/04/03,Daughter waking increasingly early Within the last week my daughter (14  has suddenly started  waking up anywhere from 4-6 am crying.  In the past it used to be a simple fix of putting a pacifier in her mouth ,8.246923076923077,7.5581922820512855,8.958589743589744,65.56557692307696,62.07692307692307,10.876923076923077,40.01282051282049,10.125756701596842,4.3543743589743595,165,8,26,3,2,56,34,39,0.081,0.919,0.0,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,3,3,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,4,1,12,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,6,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460768220726997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419241268345807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004316854967908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216833205192901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969031039483817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3622874958513521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364736214298005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MajorExpression4,2019/04/03,"My daughter thinks she's a boy and my ex is putting her on hormones. What should I do? I have a 16 year old beautiful daughter, but she thinks that she is meant to be a boy. My ex (her mother) is supporting this nonsense and has allowed her to start taking hormones that will make her into a man. She is such a beautiful girl, but she says she is not happy being one. I did tell her that she was born as a girl, so she was meant to be one and she needs to embrace it. 


Is there any way I can stop her from starting the hormones?",2.6016964285714295,3.347780062500004,3.7771428571428594,92.91785714285713,74.26785714285714,6.671428571428571,25.607142857142854,6.6274283507984215,0.7158892857142862,405,13,95,3,8,132,64,112,0.092,0.784,0.125,0.6092,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,7,0,18,0,0,2,0,16,28,7,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,5,6,4,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,5,1,22,2,8,18,0,10,0,0,0,0,27,2,0,0,6,72,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454702232149796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732340902260792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17133179053235378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903204103075644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26933603239820075,0.0,0.34785769224476176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580281168867873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20411735069461925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633501496587577,0.0,0.0,0.2145908348908515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912704475961748,0.0,0.0,0.1929867946200638,0.0,0.2243442615998361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289324829883104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373575798064605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16528954647950167
parenting,Laujaa,2019/04/03,"My 5 year old melts my heart I have really bad depression, and I didn't have a great childhood so I feel like I know what not to do with my kid, but because I didn't have great role models I feel like I don't really know what I'm doing. I definitely put a lot of pressure on myself as a mum, because I am so scared of fucking him up as an adult by doing anything wrong when he's a child. But I know when to be firm and fair and that's definitely helpful, because I was worried when I first had him that I wouldn't want to discipline him ever because of this.

My son has just turned 5 and he's a really good kid. Like he will have tantrums and stuff, but he listens, he respects others, he is always very happy and smiley and really confident. I always get told off everyone that this is due to me, but I feel like I can't take credit and that he's just a good kid from his own personality. But lately I've been struggling with my depression and I've felt really not well, and every single day my son has picked me flowers and told me I'm the best mummy in the world. He calls me beautiful and kisses me and tells me he loves me and I realised that this is a reflection of my parenting and I feel really good about myself for the first time in a long time! I tell him every day he's amazing and I'm so proud of him and I tell him I love him multiple times a day. I tidied the flat yesterday even though I was feeling really low and rubbish, and my son told me he's really proud of me for making the place nice and tidy.

I don't really know what the point of this is, but I feel really happy and proud of him and wanted to share it.

Tldr; proud of my son and realising I'm doing okay. ",4.7649722991689725,3.9945929972299226,6.3547631578947374,81.65109210526316,69.16620498614958,9.879279778393354,27.191274238227148,9.3871,1.9428491966759,1316,33,295,24,20,456,153,361,0.111,0.599,0.29,0.9981,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,7,13,36,2,3,16,1,27,5,1,2,1,57,55,38,0,3,10,6,7,4,0,2,0,1,0,6,15,25,0,3,12,0,1,1,8,10,1,2,10,8,54,26,28,42,4,29,0,3,0,4,45,9,1,1,23,189,69,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483372964695226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666742719903765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765005623829769,0.1975612426941352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502767898661351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273260705668488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567576250813523,0.0,0.13956840526356548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053514322655413775,0.07328911400561629,0.1365292012408128,0.07742007383689585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458032020977815,0.1736465800045187,0.07779390705141702,0.0,0.0,0.13783468732123738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749036115206782,0.04233069507272138,0.0,0.0,0.20387244116176384,0.0,0.17865426832404374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249903103717876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601156020389573,0.054307395348462566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17811047485811393,0.0,0.09139644035653413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583331915552512,0.0,0.0,0.07170199514025195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688820788398222,0.1462511890963512,0.0,0.054082870530982936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501904827037822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996543648745581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707453589923234,0.08465083360024482,0.0,0.07659205847688383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08144957334293572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5190482200096861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111724097207769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470187446932692,0.0927509023550656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0609185241991349,0.0,0.21245061906094492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960378662086187,0.0,0.14173388705161066,0.0,0.0,0.23226022151068754,0.0,0.0,0.08812876182686917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668517050074413,0.0955778492612748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284858430032483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228185968555868,0.0,0.0,0.0885849303087969,0.0,0.0521755659857398
parenting,Acrosthemult,2019/04/03,"Why do parents care if their child self harms/is mentally ill? Like, it's just cuts, hits, stabs and scratches. You really expect me to believe that parent, the people who have sex and want to have an orgy on top of their kids dead body care if their child is suicidal and cutting? Lmao, my mom told me to kill myself all my life and would force me to watch her have a threesome. I would cut my neck amd stab my thigh and she would laugh. Now it's kinda funny.",1.7303073286051998,3.75984640425532,2.5429078014184405,95.43388888888893,79.63829787234044,5.454373522458629,17.891252955082738,6.42735559955562,-0.29347612293144243,358,7,79,3,9,112,70,94,0.237,0.584,0.179,-0.8423,2,0,0,0,0,1,12.0,0,1,3,1,2,8,4,0,3,0,8,6,3,0,1,15,13,7,3,7,3,3,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,4,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,15,4,6,8,1,3,0,0,1,1,15,2,0,3,2,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220924037254211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189614683053559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019642090483661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808963782975554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923523749903002,0.09630533188658487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19865566469728635,0.0,0.0,0.2308704512329429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4377680325466061,0.0,0.0,0.13666167459237955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12628334110408093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056443963770874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21562278678613991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18836141259602826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162694493011724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787467762691653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200958939317532,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,esagher,2019/04/03,"Wife working herself to the bone trying to feed baby Hi everybody! So my wife and I recently had a baby. He’s 5 weeks old and doing great, but my wife has had a milk supply on the lower end that is barely/not quite meeting the little guy’s increasing demand. She’s pumping every 3 hours with a few breastfeeding sessions during the day, and I can tell that this schedule is really taking a toll on her at night. 

I’ve suggested that she space out the feeds a bit overnight, but she has been resistant to this due to fear of this causing her supply dropping. 

Does anyone have any similar experience or advice?  Thank you all!",5.305245901639342,6.11581899180328,6.219795081967213,77.6316598360656,68.09836065573772,9.050819672131148,29.1844262295082,9.188382445141503,2.4972590163934427,495,17,90,9,8,164,88,122,0.077,0.8740000000000001,0.049,-0.5004,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,2,1,3,0,1,10,0,10,4,1,1,1,10,12,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,11,2,10,9,4,17,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,1,9,56,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21058645145983326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465490221085255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068428898282768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23527280651507265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22138032799496093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389812201364379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885876027634528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19087116218064165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157006681034504,0.0,0.0,0.2108026991796715,0.0,0.24250011359153603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375921571410551,0.0,0.213381257554072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122264546605605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21599001963070694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223440416561628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2261335177282199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22921332945312706,0.0,0.0,0.13805635589813592,0.0,0.2127826219108736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620309854346101,0.0,0.1883585965308437,0.19840565655234288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631198386693936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17286302663081046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688831405280632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tarandos,2019/04/03,"As a parent, do I have the right to check my teenager's phone? Have two sons, 13 and 16. Yesterday more joking than serious I asked to see my eldest's phone and he equally jokingly declined. I insisted and in the end things turned serious, with him insisting not to give it, and mentioning he has a right to privacy.   
So i got thinking, who's right here? He has paid the phone with his own money, if that matters, and I am paying his usage bill. I don't suspect him of anything, and wanted mostly to play around rather than go to snapchat/instagram/whatsap/facebook and starting to read his messages (which would take me a couple of days honestly).   
What does the sub think?  
Thanks",3.7600416377515593,5.727899854961834,4.457598889659959,84.31521165857045,73.35114503816793,7.81707147814018,28.7029840388619,8.575989854853784,2.2503221374045808,535,22,101,10,11,171,90,131,0.026,0.884,0.09,0.7841,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,20,21,10,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,3,4,5,1,2,2,0,1,2,1,14,5,16,18,4,10,0,0,1,0,18,5,0,2,4,68,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16855095778607546,0.18233490066610406,0.1914808117201568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266315178087713,0.0,0.13209317006888874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792410101182127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141139401728198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19648381378373347,0.1164049962535166,0.0,0.1638147707018217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274304620797613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20487731074995355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5247503069640307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321652240391968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497398302783174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400056564787726,0.0,0.0,0.1885724712149579,0.0,0.0,0.13607455792871498,0.26248318461316195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227873926627008,0.20008121794600314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080925336872238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454995890843739,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,abray93,2019/04/03,"Nappy pants - what’s the point? My boy is still in taped nappies and I have no problems with them whatsoever. I keep seeing Pampers adverts for nappy pants (I know it’s an advert so it’s biased) saying how amazing they are for when they “kick and roll”. 

How is a pull-on pant better? I find putting on trousers hard when he’s kicking so why would a pull on nappy be better for kicking babies? Surely with taped ones you can hold their bodies down and just whack it on real quick... 

They’re also much more expensive and you can’t buy value versions either. Is it all just marketing and a money-maker? ",2.1704341736694666,4.48795617647059,3.3497689075630284,88.70907913165269,79.67226890756302,4.9750700280112055,20.841036414565828,5.985473137389443,0.2146633053221283,471,13,90,3,12,152,82,119,0.053,0.8140000000000001,0.133,0.89,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,4,2,11,5,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,2,2,21,12,12,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,7,0,2,2,0,2,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,11,4,10,10,5,12,0,0,1,0,9,6,0,0,4,62,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19418846554304767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42952105741002894,0.0,0.2697257796819706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2219392518070688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21752507342055769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21583557405894632,0.0,0.0,0.13345123222452734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850560244798505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645456913063389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295497688273681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23235240683530214,0.0,0.2441079545812377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2763900048898678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931055792437794,0.0,0.0,0.1935014821590357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939217575192524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288613396693201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191133740558027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724971573140249,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,johnty989,2019/04/03,"Sophie la girafe baby teething toys So'Pure [Sophie la Girafe](https://www.sophielagirafe.ca/sophie-la-girafe-so-pure.html.html) is a your baby's first toy will stimulate each of their senses:

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SIGHT:

There are dark and contrasting spots all over Sophie la girafe's body providing visual stimulation and making her easily recognizable to baby. She will soon become a familiar and reassuring object.

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HEARING:

Her squeaker keeps baby amused, this will stimulate their hearing. Recognizing the result in their actions while squeezing Sophie.

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TASTE:

Sophie la girafe has flexibility and has different parts for baby to chew (ears, horns, legs). She is an asset for soothing baby's gums when teething is painful. She is completely safe, made of 100% natural rubber and 100% naturally pigmented paint.

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TOUCH:

Sophie la girafe is perfect for baby's tiny hands. She is light in weight and her long legs and neck are easy for baby to hold. She is very soft to touch, which stimulates soothing physiological and emotional responses.

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SMELL:

The scent of natural rubber, from the Hevea tree, makes Sophie la girafe very special and easy for your child to identify among all their other toys.

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parenting,WonderNotEnvy,2019/04/03,"How are you able to help your kids (15 and below) be more responsible users of social media? After reading [a post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/b8h085/what_words_of_wisdom_could_i_give_to_my_sister/?st=jtzmkw2j&sh=3379ff3c) by /u/YTheD3vilNot I was reminded that this is another community that could be of help in terms of perspectives. 

I'm keen to hear from:

- Parents banning their kids from social media until they reach a certain age
- Those who have been able to let their kids have free reign on the net, and somehow their kids have been responsible users (not just the net --- but any other platforms they sign up for).
- Siblings looking after their younger sisters and brothers.

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parenting,RTHAMETZ,2019/04/03,"Sleep help please Need help: my almost 2 year old still doesnt sleep through the night. My wife and i have tried a lot different things but nothing seems to work. It ends up morr often than not me sleeping on the floor of his room just to get him to stop screaming snd go to sleep. (Dont tell me.about conditioning, I studied psych, I know, but we have neighbors who've complained and we need to do our best to keep him from screaming through the night.)",6.3053333333333335,5.944198866666671,5.065555555555553,90.805,65.8888888888889,8.088888888888889,31.333333333333336,6.742157984588678,1.4236000000000004,358,12,79,2,5,104,66,90,0.134,0.753,0.113,-0.4588,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,4,0,5,4,4,0,0,17,12,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,0,2,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,2,12,1,13,12,2,12,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,4,7,46,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971231476888031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738132707514602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663948769267306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18692825278486866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126621230233374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333013439542374,0.0,0.09064531477132637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138137606896546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14176747076674678,0.0,0.0,0.08765489074572147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559788889120986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23652868885250303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993525889118666,0.0,0.15304081895774996,0.0,0.16736433706960566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507883274411598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519926807924746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.638445183810171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737379929148546,0.13334588953037715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394066300141933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059621281972665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082873889339107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611506750173048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10271026540622034
parenting,SadDogHours_72,2019/04/03,"Drug abuse Hi please answer honestly as the results of this question (and a few others)  are very important for my qualifications. 
You will all remain anonymous so please be honest thanks! 

If you found out you son/ daughter was using heroin/ other hard drugs how would you react? 
- A) be angry 
- B) be sad 
- C) be disappointed 
- D) be understanding 
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parenting,morethan_nice,2019/04/03,"my teen left and went to a shelter yesterday It had been quite a past day and a half. I am relics t to post my story for fear of judgement or not getting support and sharing something that is not easy to share.

yesterday morning my 16 yo left and got on a bus a few hours away to a bigger city and went to a youth shelter where my teen opened up and has been getting needed help.

We have gone through years and years of difficulties and went to counseling and did all I could to help. It got to the point where my teen refused any and all encouragement to go to counseling or see a doctor and things got worse and worse.

The last two days have been phone calls and visits from DHS and a police officer came for that visit. 

The plan is teen flys to be with family many states away, I bought a plane ticket and drove to where teen is to being passport for ID and also $20 for food for travel day for my teen. I made sure to get a non stop flight and spent a lot of time on the phone to ensure smooth travel.

It’s been hard. Really hard. I am thankful my teen is safe and made a decision to seek help and not do anything harmful or dangerous.

I am a single parent and have been walking on eggshells for so long. Now I live alone and I feels strange. Except for our pets. Teens cat misses them.

Teens bedroom is absolutely thrashed. Paint all over the place, looks like the Sex Pistols had a party in there. There is a mini electric guitar shoved into the ceiling. I was forbidden from going in there. And when I let teen know landlord wanted us to repaint and color was up to teen I thought we could paint and I could get a new comforter and rug or whatever and make the room a nice space and Teen had no plans of cooperating, they went the opposite direction. Also a painted note on the wall that said “F you I hate you I’m sick of this BS”

I love my teen very much and I pray that being with family will have a positive impact on her. Teen is being welcomed with open arms and I am trying not to go to fearful thoughts of what if. It was the best option. Teen is loved and cared about by our family. 

I guess that’s what I had to share and I hope for supportive comments and may end up deleting this. I am a very private person and it’s not easy to share this",2.9713194444444464,4.320563109913792,3.932356321839084,89.82605363984676,74.15086206896551,6.965900383141763,23.88026819923372,7.492282038375204,0.8751515325670498,1769,51,384,21,36,570,232,464,0.113,0.755,0.132,0.9392,1,1,1,1,1,0,29.0,5,2,2,4,12,25,2,2,32,0,42,7,1,3,4,78,84,42,0,7,11,1,4,1,0,2,2,1,5,1,16,42,1,3,5,4,2,15,6,6,0,2,30,8,38,19,60,44,8,62,1,1,3,3,31,27,0,10,19,253,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101795752388003,0.0,0.14055641418198686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059761926166904525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231837248027306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513372217002345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222542933763918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973607532232195,0.1005121706866952,0.0896002854794717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21049689304443508,0.0,0.0,0.17002744808960932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899496753759782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778362635076715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485384605850479,0.19778056073538616,0.044435149659919126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106265756369542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365626693665466,0.0,0.14983397285070896,0.0,0.21085880070324176,0.0,0.09681055811247513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15744778779298418,0.08676405040288855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671385054539931,0.0,0.0,0.08728541765377469,0.08654484029716696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482969640271683,0.07163454366307033,0.0,0.0,0.19096539235356014,0.08986402489899534,0.0,0.042934097295189766,0.0,0.07760031568589472,0.07777170169746894,0.07379769988753772,0.0,0.0,0.07471307426457988,0.1586316228586548,0.16630978829184032,0.05866108558975393,0.08909729095843136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646024657574785,0.06516246543527987,0.0,0.08487577967298153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758117714714984,0.0,0.08389212344958061,0.0,0.07673408452957581,0.0918166832920458,0.0,0.08307571794352131,0.0,0.08416546968934129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347199915878013,0.0,0.0,0.05629866122167949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359472138672595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002958284652733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765489776695692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347224524529722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945207603464135,0.0828265704629978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090879097914873,0.0,0.0,0.05838406790821735,0.0,0.0,0.13953500433823607,0.05124397427918809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059665263209427326,0.0,0.08584672692332296,0.0,0.1057097263910582,0.0,0.0,0.14502165106106546,0.05183434552339708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32586535697664804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791159920403594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131846483714262
parenting,jrhod015,2019/04/03,"Son unwilling to ""learn"" after getting home from preschool My son is almost 4 (next month) and has been going to preschool from 9-3 pm 4 days a week. I've been noticing a big leap in the older students in the class in regards to letters and number recognition. I am trying to reinforce the learning once we get home, with fun practice work book  exercises, but he refuses. I feel like I haven't taught him anything and am failing as a mom. I work night shift so I leave for work at 9pm, which leaves a short amount of free time between dinner and cleaning, that when we do try later in the evening, the husband just wants us to relax and watch tv together before going into my shift. I think my son is feeling burned out after being in school all day that when he is at home, he just wants to relax.

I guess as a FTM I just need some re-assurance/advice about what i'm supposed to be doing this year to prepare him for kindergarten. I feel as if i'm leaving it all up to the preschool to prepare him and he's going to be left behind

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parenting,helpme3333333,2019/04/03,"9 year old with serious mental and behavioral issues I just resumed custody of my 9 year old son.  He's been living with his dad for the last year and a half.   Before that I had custody from the time of our divorce when he was 3.  We live too far apart to equally split custody (dad moved away), so the non custodial parent had every other weekend. 

I willingly gave up custody because I didn't know what else to do.  My son has serious behavioral and mental health issues.  I'm a proactive parent.  My daughter has Autism, and she is doing great.  But Autism is like this magic diagnosis that opens up all sorts of treatment options. It's insane how different my experience has been with my son.  He's not Autistic, but his issues are much more severe than my daughter's. 

I gave up custody after he was suspended for the second time in second grade.  The school refused to give him an IEP. I formally requested it 3 times.  He kept getting denied because he's very high IQ and his academic scores were good.  My ex blamed me, and said it was because I am such an awful mom.  My son's therapist encouraged me to switch custody. She said the only way dad was going to get in board was for him to experience parenting him first hand. So I did it because I didn't know what else to do. 

He's been at his dad's for the last year and a half.  Dad has taken him off meds he clearly needs.  His teacher called DCFS for bruises, which I found out came from stepmom. His teacher flat out told me she's very concerned about his home life and that she thinks I should be, too.  

My ex agreed to return him to my custody a week and a half ago, and he's been here ever since. 

My son is a total mess.  He's getting feces everywhere.  On his clothes.  On the bathroom walls.   On all sorts of random stuff in his room.  He can't figure out how to clean his room.  Not that he won't.  Like he doesn't know how to separate dirty clothes from toys and everything is a jumble.  This us an intelligent 9 year old not being able to self care to the level of a preschooler. 

I'm losing it.  I have very little support.  I have lots of people claiming to give me emotional support, but no one is willing to help me with him.  I need a fucking break.  Why can't anyone take him for just 2 hours so I can go to a yoga class?  I don't give a shit about people saying they understand how hard this is. That's fucking useless. I don't even know why I'm posting this.  I guess i'm just hoping someone has some advice or idea I haven't thought of. I can't even get respite care because he doesn't have the magic autism diagnosis. 

I need help.  I'm on the verge of checking myself in somewhere and telling everyone else to figure it out. 
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parenting,-stuey-,2019/04/03,"Any advice for how to keep my daughter from removing her nappy? She’s not quite 2 years old, and has been doing it frequently the last few weeks Tried the nappy on backwards trick. Putting on pants i thought she wouldn’t be able to remove easily (i was wrong)

She isn’t sitting around in a dirty nappy, she will remove the nappy even when it’s completely clean and dry, then poo on the carpet and “paint” her walls ect.

Serious answers and suggestions only please, another thread i asked in was full of stupid unfunny comments.

TIA",4.608539603960394,6.481163653465347,4.755532178217823,83.45428836633664,70.88118811881188,8.218316831683168,26.48638613861386,8.841846274778883,2.041048514851485,423,14,78,8,8,132,77,101,0.083,0.805,0.111,0.6028,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,4,4,2,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,11,12,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,5,0,1,2,0,0,4,3,4,0,0,4,0,10,0,11,5,2,21,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,0,7,48,12,0,0.24585201198176496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402437407243221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718779877231996,0.25779727079469683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21886041431717299,0.2298384436208636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577711570326109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238293522840816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218524564466996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004022031960672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579803298149956,0.0,0.0,0.18698153362808675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698716811823949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24714917682302764,0.0,0.26149387726493417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19517903557729446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691737798570908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972076544470155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688005806066424,0.0,0.15832063514141873
parenting,rootberryfloat,2019/04/04,"My daughter just came downstairs with a pencil eraser shoved deep in her nose and I knew how to get it out because of the Mother’s Kiss post on here the other day. This is the craziest thing. My kids have never put anything up their noses. I read the post the other night about someone using the Mother’s kiss, and I filed it in my memory bank. Well lo and behold, my daughter was picking her nose with the end of her pencil and the eraser broke off. I breathed hard into her mouth 2 or 3 times and it came rocketing out. Thanks, random internet stranger!",4.199363636363636,5.459891436363634,4.576136363636365,86.74420454545454,71.0,6.954545454545455,24.65909090909091,7.1686216300943375,0.9859999999999992,438,12,86,4,8,138,74,110,0.049,0.852,0.099,0.7574,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,9,0,3,7,5,3,1,20,9,7,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,12,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,1,1,0,4,4,13,4,14,5,0,19,0,1,0,2,10,9,0,2,5,57,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858113979227176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376435376963883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5165024129556051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562015493080274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19998880554711893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796942646239815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022694409891075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17414829086678224,0.0,0.0,0.2118948534055546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4325015357353232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269879914885943,0.0,0.0,0.2258577466015495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913167627263426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788321197595372,0.0,0.0,0.15000925632556186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166383823874142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19501580219834416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030182989847724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mnachtweh90,2019/04/04,Please help! It’s everywhere! Ok fellow parents I’m in need of tips! My Sony threw up in his car seat for the first time. It’s all over the straps and the liner. I have already taken the liner out and it’s in the washer per manufacture instructions but how to you get the clips and straps and buckle and plastic shell clean!?,0.577121212121213,3.0603503484848464,1.93060606060606,94.28257575757576,90.96969696969695,4.751515151515153,16.424242424242426,6.42735559955562,-0.265684848484848,257,6,54,3,9,82,48,66,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.6449,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,1,1,10,6,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,1,9,4,1,10,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,2,32,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.450841596952522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475097332835011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134488616808445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273840334964188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029323050821937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536429174120154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4484617458590682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382269477723364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brittrose90,2019/04/04,"IEP advice My son who just turned 5 March 30th was approved for an IEP for speech and fine motor delays. He has great language, just needs help with word production. For an example he will say “bish” instead of fish. “tite” instead of kite. His fine motor delays are mostly pencil grasp issues. He can’t trace a shape, or cut on a straight line. He also has some sensory processing issues. He is delayed academically as well. He was premature, so he’s always been slightly delayed. I had a meeting today to basically sign for the approved IEP and schedule. He’s in preschool right now and I intended on not sending him to kindergarten this coming school year (as recommended by his teacher) She said socially and emotionally he is not ready. Unfortunately the IEP team informed me today that if does not start kindergarten when he is age eligible to start, then he will lose all services :( I have no clue what to do. I don’t want to send him and then him have to redo kindergarten. And I’m in the ECE field, I know that they push children through kindergarten in my district even if they shouldn’t move on first grade. I see it happen all the time and the kids end up retained later in a higher grade. 
I’m torn. Should I send him to kindergarten so he can receive the IEP assistances or should I wait to send him and have him reevaluate when he starts kindergarten  if he still seems behind? Any advice would be great! ",3.441032313411497,5.929913825278818,3.842026022304832,85.94480626251074,76.17472118959107,6.368944809837004,25.959536745782103,7.468242284971852,1.4061408635973698,1125,42,210,15,26,351,158,269,0.064,0.825,0.11,0.8961,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,2,5,14,7,1,0,12,0,24,0,0,1,2,43,39,22,0,9,10,1,0,0,0,6,0,3,0,2,6,10,0,6,4,1,0,8,7,2,1,1,5,4,22,5,28,27,4,42,0,1,1,0,41,11,0,8,23,129,28,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30103590662901303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317906109890628,0.12816667851504635,0.0,0.0,0.1047468092800118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326846343064681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479414174875504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326488293958747,0.13642632979962252,0.0,0.0,0.10173645727498297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101924944432689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396408930255549,0.0,0.0,0.13620968630220162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324417338066652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215380641408725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465177085538751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723220253149134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16371127560107954,0.0,0.11421252253654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154219415330304,0.14651937947007196,0.1224921566669272,0.0,0.15588826105937845,0.12274328872696595,0.14022463624386403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570158774711326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32707320057916034,0.0,0.1230098808962265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981709835759083,0.0,0.2920080023058337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754221239104838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090851862597767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849295882778442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941967032260036,0.0,0.0,0.09919133750204112
parenting,TBHNate,2019/04/04,"Should I call CPS My parents have given me many things, they are not completely bad, but I am not sure if I can handle it anymore. Let me start off with saying that my older brother is clearly the favorite out of us two. He gets away with everything and rarely gets punished. Me, however if I speak a word that contradicts my father tells me “SHUT THE HELL UP.” My dad used to have major anger issues when I was growing up. My childhood is filled with memories of him smashing and throwing things around the house. One time when I was young he got really mad and punched the glass in a car repeatedly until it cracked. Today he claims that he is past that. However, recently when he came back from work he was talking to my mom and apparently got very angry and punched a hole into the wall. When I got my wisdom teeth removed he started over reacting about my swollen face, but when I tried to tell him that the dentist said that it takes a little while for the swelling to go down he told me “SHUT THE UP.” My mom told me to eat her scrambled eggs, but when I told her that  it would get stuck in the holes where my wisdom teeth once where my dad yelled my name and told me to “SHUT THE HELL UP!” This kept escalating until he told me that he would just have me locked up in my room until the end of spring break without anything. My mom also has done some bad stuff to, but she always has remorse when she does something bad. She commonly calls me dumb and stupid. She even admits to liking my older brother more to me. One time she said “I wish I had a better child.” For the longest time I always thought I was a bad person at heart, someone who was only known as a failure. Im not one of those people who always feels sorry for themselves. I always take harder classes and do well in them, I exercise and am pretty athletic and I even taught myself how to code and play some instruments. I always strived for the better, but for the longest time I thought I would never amount to anything exceptional. My dad  who has ways tormented me with fake stories about random things when I was younger always used me to make himself feel better. He told me laundry detergent would melt my skin and leave huge scars, he would also tell me many more terrible things. I remember my dad always told me to come downstairs and would tell me to get him something such as a coke. One time when I was very young I could not peel open and orange so I went to my dad and asked him to open it and he just peeled it and licked it while laughing and sent me away. It was when my friends from school who I sometimes talk to online with started mocking my parents for what they did. I at first was offended, but when I heard the words selfish and crude I could not help, but think about it. I always thought all parents were like this, but no one else has the same feelings that I do. I will admit that I am sometimes at fault for things, but with the stuff I watched and experienced I feel that a lot of it is not needed. I really do love my parents I don’t want to hurt them which is why I never called CPS. I don’t know if the stuff my parents did is bad enough for them to do anything. Also keep in note that I left out some details and many major events as I don’t want to give out to much information. If you could give me advice it would help a lot. Thank you.",5.127421085057804,5.3045315750371484,5.241722175914184,86.71827709926434,68.31649331352155,8.051737759576705,28.301706954662407,7.590005382236693,1.438278686623419,2622,80,554,25,41,823,288,673,0.127,0.74,0.133,-0.1166,8,0,2,0,0,0,48.0,1,2,5,5,29,34,10,0,28,0,52,12,5,5,5,110,107,58,0,19,23,16,5,2,1,9,3,6,1,2,40,36,3,2,14,2,0,10,13,20,1,7,37,14,103,14,76,57,14,88,2,1,1,1,88,35,3,10,43,387,143,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049528858231925335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159848283802188,0.3373922703806356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050265964307470906,0.0,0.0,0.1251284678268797,0.04512045308907514,0.04738369314440019,0.0,0.09524057272961577,0.03897368584821419,0.21159955789049165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448046149904885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15526535275586467,0.05797021090968599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043660694936426235,0.053142325600056786,0.0,0.0,0.12140369869889565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04435484133389889,0.051868418262442435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05186347432415822,0.0423408674614026,0.0,0.044891922850084164,0.05237122039875446,0.0,0.06695401390241101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04555246760549285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251156571350208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04311268980532911,0.0,0.0,0.039159154952280506,0.0,0.10592341660185384,0.09724346430885576,0.028805490082278874,0.0,0.1216124282802739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06006204524045752,0.06794626041663722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058483759100936665,0.054259409631902816,0.0,0.05474856705006868,0.05290203874126869,0.0,0.045051213992287516,0.0,0.0,0.02785518581306563,0.0,0.0,0.053668164753413815,0.055069470669844925,0.051828912270000416,0.0,0.04952432443583839,0.05079974987773851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618125831406484,0.04574524941226469,0.0,0.033832673999540964,0.15416009960947785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17808520419679946,0.0,0.0,0.03725935416239621,0.03758233295401631,0.07818289245418444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05397793930324117,0.17172755656410504,0.03854827536039908,0.0,0.0,0.2813988286885389,0.0,0.04838462901366181,0.03513864174430387,0.04425624313703139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051564932007689225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064940300118018,0.0,0.050045386309437785,0.0,0.05741629739474145,0.0,0.09642620583392507,0.040306797484830764,0.0,0.05129599102306685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042945290506349314,0.07803967750032659,0.1002576492227046,0.056737779842078874,0.10762544816895303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740668170013918,0.0,0.0,0.04777007327433553,0.0,0.07621772104650966,0.081477469544442,0.17720392094873216,0.046663997458865,0.0,0.0,0.16836452278772646,0.032476942633426674,0.0,0.12071483844456785,0.14777434297358572,0.0,0.048043514512097325,0.3390222570287704,0.0,0.03441183160807283,0.0,0.049511942998063184,0.0,0.06096789167151085,0.0875512439097265,0.0,0.08364097244189432,0.059790728263609524,0.04023144484973402,0.0,0.0,0.04557195984168433,0.04698556240263582,0.04573538697779345,0.0,0.058285322566515564,0.04885859328925204,0.0,0.03689933047021948,0.0,0.0,0.252036508196982,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VestiCat,2019/04/04,"How to gracefully quit a sport? I'm in a weird awkward situation that I don't quite know how to handle.
My daughter is 11 and in the 6th grade.  She's right at the cut off so she's younger than a lot of her classmates which often results in her being placed on younger sports teams.  
She has played soccer since age 5, and the last 2 years has played volleyball.  She tried basketball last year and hated it but I had her finish out the season anyway.

This spring I heard about a free volleyball league (not through school). Some of her friends were doing it, so we signed up.  She was placed on a younger team and is the only middle schooler.  In fact some of the girls are 8 and 9 year olds.   The coach seems like she's nice enough but seems a little....checked out?   There's not a whole lot of skill building going on and no team building, the girls still act like strangers and it's several weeks later. 

My daughter is not enjoying it at all.  I sat in and watched the last couple practices and she appeared totally joyless and unconfident.   Volleyball has been her favorite sport for a couple years now so it made me sad to see her not having fun with it.

I asked her tonight did she want to quit and she said yes.  I felt like I could see the weight come off her shoulders.  She doesn't want to be a quitter and was worried people would be mad that she quit.

I told her in this case it was fine and I wasn't going to force her to spend 2-3 days a week going to something that makes her miserable.

My problem is....how do I dump the coach??  What should I say?  They already gave her a t-shirt, but since it's a free league should I give it back? Offer to pay for it?  I'm having mega anxiety about this and I don't know why.  They have a game Saturday so I need to contact the coach tomorrow to let her know.  Help??",1.5061891891891896,3.63157626756757,2.3743243243243235,95.85094594594595,80.91891891891892,5.513513513513514,21.35135135135135,6.643151254067905,0.21751351351351372,1409,42,315,14,37,441,189,370,0.124,0.75,0.126,0.274,0,0,1,0,0,0,44.0,1,0,2,8,14,22,4,2,25,1,31,2,1,5,3,55,59,23,0,8,7,2,2,3,1,3,0,3,0,2,18,19,1,0,6,13,4,6,9,9,0,0,15,8,45,15,38,36,8,48,0,2,3,0,46,20,0,8,25,199,63,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114601496770337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944527033930537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970861035038199,0.0,0.0,0.07985454588045872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945792246984298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291609254480754,0.22981698058985184,0.0,0.0669749154823842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073052222577912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971266814821586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023456000428968,0.0,0.0,0.09962276486330954,0.1770617235184984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253076796600886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960873281240568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712203887141515,0.25395580567863874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619406819559668,0.0,0.15220817656029795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657978957593246,0.0,0.09826575773402947,0.06932094718156459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700375435003118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897352334879228,0.0,0.0,0.07898290747680449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07199679009769841,0.0,0.2170031252877484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993708057339246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44183072655394606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868767259741075,0.0987855101494917,0.08258600486446575,0.0,0.10510214724335046,0.16551064355000752,0.18908300426847569,0.0,0.11732139007716215,0.0,0.1718122450322666,0.11673219868993535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994911017290378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829350621174589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099233505850355,0.0,0.07050760342964549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250731100844092,0.0,0.1666050504846919,0.12646180749545366,0.0,0.0,0.0937088314408448,0.115945260831114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546512034704042,0.0,0.07377234323747009,0.0,0.0,0.26750500617704337
parenting,Miseryorsorrow,2019/04/04,Forcing your child to drink milk/eat ice cream until vomiting: abuse or a normal discipline technique? My boyfriend just told me that this was one of the ways he was “disciplined” as a child. I believe that he was abused and I’m sickened that his mother thought that this was ok. Is this a normal disciplinary technique in certain cultures? He’s hispanic if it means anything ,4.934782608695652,7.361389072463773,4.45731884057971,83.58858695652177,71.31884057971014,7.498550724637681,33.23913043478261,8.344100000000001,2.8051913043478267,302,15,52,5,6,91,53,69,0.156,0.784,0.059,-0.8426,0,0,1,0,2,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,1,4,1,5,2,0,0,1,11,9,5,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,8,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,1,5,2,5,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,2,1,32,13,0,0.0,0.5709205575901966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19826321257108398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714433482163384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360177141419936,0.0,0.2465294879698829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624412184487825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4721165650619177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325904556821286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126991715532013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302170252208977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912374291992535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nyquil815,2019/04/04,"What Should I Do? Please Help! About a few days ago, my dad signed up for a golf round. However, my friends asked me to come over and hangout. I want to hang out with my friends, as I don’t hangout much. However, I’d feel really bad ditching my dad for friends. What do you think I should do? By the way, my dad can cancel the round without penalty. How would you feel if your child did this to you?",0.4889424364123158,2.5976181084337355,1.512690763052209,100.64311914323963,84.78313253012048,5.13467202141901,21.27041499330656,6.42735559955562,0.013582061579652029,305,10,74,3,9,95,55,83,0.064,0.728,0.209,0.9026,2,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,4,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,15,15,4,0,5,2,3,4,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,3,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,4,14,3,13,11,2,8,0,0,2,0,13,3,0,1,2,48,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263489025217913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23871412542377946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132033197494932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995804707289154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467710411387393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582213112910652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5918392683078123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711531019938108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770875701111112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280293328370992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635812440810397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361546436556984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506097399626729,0.2026818412522632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461445191901067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813905364499735,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,squirtleluv,2019/04/04,"My 9 year old daughter wants wine So we are catholic and my daughter drinks wine every week at mass. Gross, warm, everyone-has-had-a-sip-too, red wine. She likes it and asked us why kids can't drink it at home like I do. My husband and I thought about it and decided she could have a small amount with dinner. Our decision was based on other countries (we are in the US) allowing kids to drink at an early age. This may just be something false floating around but we really didn't want her trying to sneak it. I only drink white wine, mostly moscato. Of course she loves it. Now she's become a little crazed and ask for it all the time, sometimes shouting about how much she loves wine. I'm worried she is going to tell everyone at school or my family and something is going to happen. Should we cut her off? Maybe buy her a red that is less sweet than moscato? I don't know what to do.

TL;DR: My daughter loves wine too much. What do I do?",1.9264456079115744,3.9451640209424106,2.819537521815012,93.74744473531125,78.9476439790576,5.710413030831879,21.082315299592786,6.691623216298621,0.2614290866783011,732,20,158,7,18,231,120,191,0.054000000000000006,0.821,0.125,0.95,0,0,12,0,0,0,29.0,7,0,0,0,8,9,1,0,6,0,18,14,0,2,1,28,31,10,0,4,3,4,1,2,0,2,0,1,1,2,11,12,11,0,4,10,1,2,3,2,0,0,3,6,26,7,19,24,6,20,0,0,3,3,28,11,0,3,9,98,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629431079459275,0.2442552572001861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442779110103551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043027311821694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5118967135765453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006700788332012,0.12482891278771407,0.0,0.0,0.1231526027196998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848763196618706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552155390573204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103920658469695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179448375198452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276449322541962,0.13093223795662004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35371401803237856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124206885003434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920659309166669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13708118367590305,0.0,0.0,0.09935505537827218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368918005000597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322112592880315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20114094358973106,0.12920298246144518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418218593765628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371090402451882,0.0761752783612802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869370686814709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142795985909315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15410575602147114,0.0,0.10478883688896652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787925305196673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266785444222398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412571641051117
parenting,Amavauno,2019/04/04,"Bullying :( I have a daughter who is super sweet, super kind, but also super “on”. Always loud, always in your face, not afraid to be who she is. This sets a lot of people firmly in the belief that she’s annoying, which is fine. She’s not for everyone. She had her good friends and life was fine. 
However, we just moved back to my hometown about 1.5 years ago and she’s been struggling big time. She’s now 13, and being bullied constantly. The school hasn’t done anything and talking to the parents hasn’t done anything. She comes home crying nearly every day. Kids tell her she’s fat, ugly, mean.. they tell her to kill herself. 
There is so much more to this but it’s too much to type on my phone.. I just don’t know what to do to help her. I’ve tried encouraging her to be herself but she’s struggling. She is big into makeup and hair but other girls make fun of her for it because she’s still learning. I can’t really help because I know ZERO about that stuff (I’m a terrible girl) and don’t know what to even direct her towards aside from YouTube tutorials. She loves some boy band and received tickets for her birthday but she can’t even be excited because they call tease and make fun of her for that too. I’m at a loss.
I’ve talked to teachers and the principal multiple times. It’s as though they don’t want to admit the issue exists. I kid you not, my most recent conversation with the principal included her saying the phrase “some of graces actions warrant the inappropriate behavior from other students”. THE FUCK?",2.411018826135105,4.750167272425252,3.533631229235884,87.59867497231457,78.93355481727575,6.272469545957918,23.65459579180509,7.42949916751922,1.098254396456258,1203,41,236,17,30,388,164,301,0.146,0.6779999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.765,2,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,1,2,3,4,15,24,4,3,13,0,23,6,3,2,0,37,36,18,1,1,10,2,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,5,16,13,1,0,7,2,0,4,10,9,0,1,5,4,39,15,34,27,7,25,1,1,0,2,57,10,1,4,10,163,55,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203175774938463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106920965976464,0.21032316347713886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20800646610116447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718146643623964,0.0,0.2311274726251956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905215693754524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886859344204478,0.0,0.13657616542613596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388268489727943,0.08150720073926386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586693477288013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166950831393506,0.0,0.10648393983895016,0.12076529284360467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764393641103178,0.11683993739653856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600487203319074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942501286287734,0.0,0.1267734197453658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191202193104407,0.0,0.0,0.13982512986962736,0.13160944911943906,0.2083719627425252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926873078182555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744712592618376,0.11406646109092895,0.0,0.1687245535636339,0.0,0.0,0.13766918658508784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343261516184745,0.18581350966243226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033443453049976,0.0,0.0,0.08761872681450747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096480303219349,0.0,0.12478891652332967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050560016775713,0.0,0.12790731801288535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093039621840223,0.0,0.0,0.26424791834325745,0.14467940069413898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20316528446091897,0.22093030876162764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417160209613215,0.0,0.1473910105167322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858064149091173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454453595405244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138712859953176
parenting,kelklklk,2019/04/04,"Tales of the horror potty We finally had a decent day to go to the park after the snow has melted. There has been a wind advisory but we figured we could dress warm and get some fresh air and sun. My daughter is now potty trained, for about 1 month. I made sure she went potty before but soon after we arrived to the park she had to go. The only option with limited time was a dreadful, neglected porta potty-the horror potty. It was worse than I had imagined. When we entered the porta potty and I didn’t let her touch anything. I held her in the air, so she was hovering a foot above the potty, until she was comfortable enough to do her business. All while the winds decided to begin making the entire porta potty rumble and slish slosh. 

I hope I don’t experience this again. 
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parenting,ihavefilipinofriends,2019/04/04,"Good night, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs _________. I get tired of saying the same thing to my son every night so lately the bed bugs have been evolving:

... don’t let the bed bugs invent language,
...discover calculus,
....start a space program.

You get the picture. I’m running out of ideas so hit me with your best.",0.7592213114754109,3.2599549836065584,1.6985040983606583,96.46611680327871,89.32786885245899,4.361475409836066,19.100409836065573,5.985473137389443,-0.15764098360655732,238,7,50,2,8,74,45,61,0.045,0.846,0.109,0.6369,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,6,0,6,2,1,0,0,5,11,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,5,2,5,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,27,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490499547320669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995013267375528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479770779888738,0.0,0.0,0.1990505634855172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26790244182469064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677043476283823,0.0,0.0,0.4853462107766434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4454125798868619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872431014848304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374887732480516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679744669018595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576631258216452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727614238005709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sinistrasprout,2019/04/04,"Our youngest child (22 months) is finally moving out of our bedroom and I’m kind of devastated. He’s our third, and last child. I’ve been looking forward to getting me and my husband’s bedroom back to ourselves for the past few months, but now that it’s actually happening, I’m holding back tears. 
Is this normal, or am I just being over emotional?",4.556323529411767,5.975406691176474,5.505176470588236,79.81629411764708,70.32352941176471,8.381176470588235,34.188235294117646,8.841846274778883,2.991420000000001,277,14,52,5,5,91,51,68,0.077,0.894,0.029,-0.476,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,10,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,1,7,8,1,12,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,9,33,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.2533110482963548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991994934254969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919907323441895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843554205173969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356189866607633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22954429876952914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703109314210597,0.0,0.21159102019301368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21798045759244367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41438596305058384,0.27589073125930497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543316927152679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24779692979332915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cgaines1579,2019/04/04,Funny story with my toddler So one of my favorite things for my toddler to do is go to Sam’s club and have pizza after we shop. She LOVES it. We get there and do our shopping. Afterwards I’m walking with her and my second daughter (who’s 1) to the food court. My oldest toddler turns to her sister and says “guess what!!!! We get to eat!!!!!!” Like I never feed them and this is a treat. Literally was so embarrassing 😂😂😂😂,0.6932070707070714,2.6881335227272736,3.107424242424244,90.19919191919195,83.0909090909091,5.2747474747474765,21.141414141414145,6.42735559955562,0.29223080808080804,322,10,70,3,9,111,61,88,0.036000000000000004,0.787,0.17800000000000002,0.9237,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,0,1,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,6,5,0,0,1,12,13,7,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,10,4,0,0,3,2,2,1,1,0,2,1,1,14,3,10,12,0,6,0,0,0,1,13,0,0,1,5,48,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319549030324723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922807951095831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3389842075288624,0.0,0.18437105866260195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35737686352411097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849152539506672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927948817684815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502068635164488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21983025676583853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25798578334722194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21552520175099288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3528675637980793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zealouswatermelon,2019/04/04,"Natural consequence ideas for buying lunch at school behind our backs after being told not to and racking up a huge bill? (She makes lunch each night at home) I just checked my older child's (11) school lunch bill and it's almost $200 (since about December/January).  There was a previous balance (like $50) that her dad hadn't paid because she is supposed to get hot lunch once a week on his night. It was $150 back in February, when I realized she'd been packing lunch at night (so she can decide what she wants to eat). I buy her food she wants, but I can't afford the high ass prices of school food. 

Well shes been getting it 4 times a week again (while making lunch at home and dumping it). I talked to her and she said sorry, but then tried to rationalize it out as not a big deal, but that she wouldn't do it again. Lots of ""I mean it could be $500"" and trying to say it wasn't a lot of money. I tried to explain how it is a decent amount and compared it to other things which she was then rude about. 

I told her I'm more upset about her entitled and dismissive attitude and told her she should ask how she could help instead of telling us how we should fix it or assuming we have tons of money (she tried to tell me that too). I don't talk about our money often, but I don't want her thinking we have unlimited funds and I want her to value how it's earned, not just a given. 

I feel like she learned something from the convo, but I want her to have to work toward earning things as well. She does have chores, but I don't think more chores would be sufficient. Maybe I could look up volunteer things and have her work it off that way to us? Ultimately it's me working on my days off to do that, though. I'm struggling to think of natural consequences for it...she's already not allowed hot lunch other than her normal day, but I want to encourage her to be more aware and appreciative others finances. ",4.675518707482993,4.7821623852040815,5.198877551020409,86.88064625850343,69.28061224489795,8.574149659863947,26.792517006802722,8.344100000000001,1.4552700680272102,1493,41,329,20,24,479,191,392,0.07,0.84,0.09,0.8881,2,0,1,0,0,0,50.0,7,0,0,5,23,9,2,2,10,0,34,11,1,7,0,66,60,31,0,14,14,1,3,2,0,4,0,2,4,1,27,16,10,0,11,0,12,0,11,4,2,0,13,6,55,5,48,35,8,35,0,0,1,1,51,16,1,6,20,224,82,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998389448334793,0.0,0.09916504195136333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400891609770544,0.0,0.0,0.1381967882690416,0.0,0.054779091063451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152426807860998,0.0,0.0,0.1159072174564952,0.0926438606197946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863891345047916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195134388862257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04543696866781567,0.06419748927273941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21732317228943035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389845775602093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060232659293767025,0.09494422330996496,0.18027799012672074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144335242767576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780414822557109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546151646185359,0.0,0.0,0.1527950570850887,0.0,0.0,0.11996727493261483,0.0,0.09027853956466178,0.09788615117344973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529884293481956,0.08804576074653389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570018445446833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547941810736236,0.07146193433574785,0.0,0.2728356732055245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433484276617504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918022091943797,0.0,0.10059324358271536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394335916349232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444554750503086,0.15708684084416688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791011227292976,0.1727399808508154,0.08828903922316063,0.0,0.05239930261421018,0.0,0.0,0.25760121066355185,0.0,0.24404181966323624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21618604022600332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31801790494533616,0.07132833788558741,0.14416388342407593,0.0,0.16159360728092625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962619976510116,0.0,0.0,0.06383544472071544,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,anderson01832,2019/04/04,"Ice cream and an aunt Hello all

My girlfriend and I have a beautiful 11 months old baby girl. We are currently feeding her with fruit juice and baby food only. My girlfriend's sister came by and was going to give ice cream to the baby I told her not to do it but she tried again behinds our backs but I cought her on time. She got mad and claims we should give our baby every food out there. Like are you serious? I said she doesn't need ice cream that is not a need. 

Am I wrong for not allowing this? My girlfriend had a discussion with her, is not her baby so she shouldn't be even thinking on giving the baby what we don't want. Does that make sense or are we overprotective?

Thanks",0.981143617021278,3.3186513829787216,2.2412012411347533,94.69031250000003,84.81560283687944,5.227127659574467,17.32313829787234,6.6274283507984215,-0.18772021276595785,539,12,117,6,16,172,86,141,0.058,0.828,0.114,0.879,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,6,1,0,0,5,5,1,0,6,0,15,4,0,2,1,29,29,9,0,5,7,2,0,1,3,2,0,1,0,1,5,13,4,0,1,0,0,2,7,3,0,0,6,5,24,2,11,20,1,11,0,0,3,0,29,3,0,1,7,79,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415123593440782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21048820861985207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610511838664056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12155407255791464,0.0,0.1550583059862478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4450742341557916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5296324339991205,0.10459192593385444,0.0,0.1471904378296707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991071595244311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284548962703434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468958159419617,0.0,0.0,0.2729207920795739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19311487185976595,0.0,0.0,0.1399677058038694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17506042337514385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16943566493936413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792286709133715,0.0,0.0,0.10731289827785856,0.0,0.0,0.17585432844224014,0.0,0.12494839464696525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854922801549373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20121452560708025,0.0,0.0
parenting,violet_mage_,2019/04/04,First time parent. Isn’t normal to keep baby in your bedroom in a bassinet for the first few months? I am planning on having my baby in a bassinet in our room. I am also planning on nursing. My husband seems confused that the baby won’t be in their own room.  I tried explain it but he still doesn’t seem to get it. ,0.8397402597402639,2.976959424242424,2.390173160173159,94.71954545454548,83.54545454545455,3.771428571428572,23.064935064935064,3.1291,-0.10627012987012964,246,9,52,0,7,80,45,66,0.028,0.972,0.0,-0.1655,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,1,4,2,1,0,1,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,12,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,8,0,10,10,2,14,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,3,5,39,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291373155860463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4874432202996912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969969261570892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25468033803932005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287048916244563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807378019800804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31815679296249244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5216908854687495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22882260708651306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707749375408235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19453453369750465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Herdo,2019/04/04,"Fever goes away then comes back through out the day? My 20 month old has had a fever since Tuesday. It started around 101, then spiked to 102.8.  We gave her Tylenol and took her right into the doctor.

He seemed to think it was odd that she had no other symptoms (no cough, runny nose, etc), so he suggested an ear infection, strep, or a UTI.  Ears were clear, rapid strep clear, UTI clear.

He then suggested roseola, and said we'll probably see the rash show up in a couple days.

What I find odd, is that the fever seems to go completely away and then come back. It will start out around 100 - 101 in the morning, then be completely gone after her afternoon nap, but then it spikes. For reference, I checked her after her afternoon nap today and her temp was 98.5. Checked again 30 minutes later and it was 102.5. 10 minutes later, it was at 101.4.  we've only been giving her a dose of Motrin at night before bed, so it isn't medication that's causing this as it's been 20 hours since she last had a dose. 

Is this normal?  Do any other parents remember this happening?

For the most part she's acting pretty normal. Running around playing, eating and drinking normally, sleeping fine.

It's only been two days and I suffer from OCD which manifests as health anxiety, so I'm probably over reacting.  My wife and the doctor don't seem overly concerned, I'm just looking for reassurance I guess.  Thanks for taking the time to read this.

TL;DR: Is it normal for a toddlers temperature to return to normal only for the fever to come back in the same day?",3.746464646464645,5.723025168350174,4.299765656565659,85.39498181818183,73.41077441077441,7.445602693602692,25.011313131313127,8.238735603445708,1.5521440808080809,1213,39,233,20,25,384,168,297,0.045,0.871,0.084,0.9137,1,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,2,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,17,0,21,21,5,2,3,41,44,21,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,2,14,3,1,0,21,18,2,0,7,6,2,8,4,1,0,1,15,6,18,4,36,26,4,56,0,1,2,0,23,17,0,6,31,143,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062664530724664,0.0,0.07049378992491999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460966396728797,0.0,0.0,0.17315417809160547,0.2125708512717547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841207547246186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466248335115557,0.0,0.23813480526060585,0.19323310323380585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196119845579517,0.0,0.2377141195235433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863696529892146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027101169010623,0.0,0.09429150846320128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027705768020068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422258485757571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839778917007894,0.05237044273014856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151259476423426,0.0,0.08148712243314067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795015732461523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074827656519402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511379485635925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738201441326928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09283049818923547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355251227472492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647566425953744,0.4514326405406688,0.0,0.0,0.09669495275828263,0.0,0.0,0.2102505711246068,0.0,0.0,0.10232064235025946,0.09978846804190436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374873716361544,0.19870457621288884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921740115516146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438693825030038,0.07869480630263306,0.08765487196862129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07343088195761407,0.2516671701980493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245333367367553,0.0,0.09221562366300692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044717872736888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577817186727078,0.06928463608304093,0.0,0.0,0.0848384873681674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904540625332193,0.0,0.0,0.05373286650272641,0.0,0.08734654811024144,0.0,0.1023810125995474,0.0,0.0,0.09001625620088433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LordTerracotta,2019/04/04,"[Advice] Getting guardianship over my nieces need some advice. So like my title says I will most likely be getting guardianship over my nieces in a few months. We get along great and I love them dearly and really could use some advice on making the transition for them as easy as possible.

I am 26 Male, they are 6 and 7 girls, I currently do not have a significant other and will be hours away from other family so I'm pretty much going at this alone. I make enough to care for them, so that's not a problem.

If anyone has advice on making things easier for them or us I would be hugely appreciative.",4.904745762711865,5.862170449152548,5.762500000000002,80.01968220338985,69.08474576271186,8.611864406779661,23.224576271186447,8.841846274778883,1.5081491525423725,475,10,90,8,8,156,82,118,0.03,0.718,0.252,0.9832,1,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,5,0,3,7,0,0,4,0,12,1,0,4,0,21,24,11,0,5,4,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,2,5,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,16,6,15,17,6,12,0,0,0,1,11,8,0,5,5,69,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608733164463292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16129539529218115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889414232438588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631897769456614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878310014715416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434242097214802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091678598189965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468139194211857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440966951411373,0.0,0.08850828465292061,0.0,0.0,0.1716993480177909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336846272965188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521693604896307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055770427563088,0.0,0.3118647104111971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243068867470375,0.0,0.11448378468027272,0.11547617532330348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556879526228086,0.0,0.15843936927331706,0.0,0.14901819634387686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09976838706569427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384741571988532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034639929109675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873310780457864,0.1345057903119403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063029476429116,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VainNightwish,2019/04/04,"Toddler won’t go to sleep on his own anymore My son has always been great about going to bed on his own. He’s 2 1/2 and has just started this thing where he needs to be rocked to sleep before he’ll go to bed. Otherwise he will cry and won’t give it up. I’m not a huge fan of the cry it out method, and he’ll cry for about 30-45 minutes before I go back to check on him. I don’t know how to break this habit that is forming. Any suggestions? ",1.7739571428571423,2.178378310000004,3.3154285714285727,96.73700000000001,75.9,6.514285714285713,21.285714285714285,6.18269132825596,-0.10182857142857138,341,7,89,2,7,113,67,100,0.133,0.826,0.041,-0.7978,0,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,9,2,2,1,0,9,20,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,6,4,0,0,1,1,1,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,16,13,3,14,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,0,2,50,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529681090158583,0.0,0.0,0.12501627979012594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231809517859693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413602278168045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128655350268668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6058128895624022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635435254868273,0.41791794148124944,0.0,0.0,0.202682264035099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103266670105833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13631369557801715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679419306442831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012162386779574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213393103352642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,catchinwaves02,2019/04/04,"My(35) wife(34) is pregnant with our second kid. I missed almost all of my first child’s 3rd year and really regret it. I asked her to get a job and she refused Hey reddit, asking opinions and I’ll try to make this as not one sided as i can.  I work travel and my pay/stipend is a good wage.  My wife(34) is pregnant with our second kid.  I missed almost all of my first child’s 3rd year and really regret it.  I asked her to get a job after the new baby is 6 months old and i can work making a substantial wage on the weekends and some nights.  

She refused saying “i don’t want to miss ANY of our baby’s first year.  I feel that 8 hours a day 4-5 days a week isn’t too bad considering I’ve lived in a car for a year now saving money. I’ve expressed multiple times how much i regret leaving the family for work that missing my first child’s 3rd year (many milestones) hurt.  I feel that my wife is unconcerned with my emotional experience with my children as long as the bills are getting paid.  Please don’t bag on my wife, she is a great wife. 

Depressed/lost father-",2.3980291603821016,3.872070615384615,3.774803921568626,89.8671732026144,75.87782805429866,6.540070387129211,22.685017596782302,7.1686216300943375,0.6523240824534944,830,23,180,9,18,273,116,221,0.14400000000000002,0.79,0.066,-0.9401,4,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,0,0,7,3,12,0,0,13,0,12,0,0,3,2,30,28,12,0,4,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,6,11,0,2,2,2,5,2,4,9,0,7,1,3,28,3,21,27,4,28,0,8,0,0,26,4,0,4,22,102,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522934874798096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987373888270463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294149925853229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807040097266256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15149810660021776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321215807200713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489397546151818,0.1107265521509308,0.0,0.11877801700159353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3996302089068437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409688639178698,0.0,0.0,0.09851606519281757,0.0,0.1294950566508021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11566996612919475,0.0,0.1257384966251806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331128359738513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436837036205158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371532093861976,0.10394438386236818,0.0,0.0,0.12821650679994512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568048600002038,0.1190813986365647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375182566054087,0.0,0.08634327592923663,0.0,0.0,0.11343921285488985,0.0,0.11022399030040388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324974460952427,0.0,0.07959085783635347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289308212255016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504899475062952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340529419506137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848922187442116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974454572712256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927827205449921,0.0,0.09421568327735798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565269160470079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3781873188081975
parenting,helpaway99,2019/04/04,"How can I get my Husband to start putting his children first? This is probably more of a vent then advice, since I know deep down that people really can't change but here I am again.

My daughter has her school sports today, she is 7 and absolutely loves sports. She does athletics in the summer season, plays football in winter, runs constantly. It's definitely 'her' thing. My husband took the day off work so he could go watch her during the day, great I thought since I work on Fridays and if I don't work I don't get paid, whereas he can take an annual leave day (we need the money).  I hate that I cannot be there to watch her but I figured with him being there it would be okay.

So when I got to work this morning he sends me a text telling me he booked his hobby car into get looked at this morning so will go and do that then go back and watch her. Full knowing that all her major events were scheduled for this morning.  

I am furious. I just know how devastated she would of been when he told her, that he would rather go play with a car then watch her at her school sports. He is constantly putting them second in everything he does and I can tell it is really taking a toll on her and my younger son. 

I quickly rang my dad who has gone to cheer her on so she has someone there for her, but I truly am at breaking point.

I told him how devastated she would be, that I hope she isn't upset at school because of it and that she is going to be very angry at him and he didn't see any problems with what he has done. 

This is just the most recent example of his behaviour. He will always justify having to do something for himself over anyone else in the family. How can I get the point across that kids should come first, or do I have to face the fact that despite endless attempts at trying to get him to see their point of view, nothing is going to change?

​",3.4793081525804013,4.610969761780108,4.218148840688111,89.11996073298431,72.586387434555,7.237247569184742,24.899401645474946,7.5804360353943165,1.0221590127150342,1467,43,316,17,28,469,185,382,0.068,0.83,0.102,0.9104,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,2,7,20,11,2,1,13,1,45,2,1,4,2,43,77,26,0,11,8,5,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,2,21,14,0,0,5,6,2,15,6,4,0,3,11,9,57,7,39,53,5,63,0,0,8,1,55,23,0,4,24,218,78,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874226330361755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444074448630242,0.09693359418457408,0.10870786549379326,0.060838203468410984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255491371236384,0.09166586121078033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879185908185162,0.0,0.05453607945985839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892809030950291,0.07706482741149231,0.0,0.193356381015276,0.0,0.07142927294958154,0.0,0.0,0.17308954288389086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565801092831086,0.09155215480015924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473522004441435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040396652633414,0.0,0.08433816424953419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15219510380815973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337047609738994,0.0,0.30506478995718617,0.0,0.07155208141753358,0.0986337526561038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832662015297646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885737692280665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475002922187566,0.0,0.0,0.09472885991016956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512675325624138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074424275621504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633600328716106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584257849399304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202268116533766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537155889562617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645671401306842,0.08560442476413876,0.0,0.1798709237997224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462513429831392,0.0,0.0883343488758947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716253166045699,0.14258154926687672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14801015544549673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580207795197105,0.06887332286588957,0.0,0.0,0.06332267958860069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13453073815474442,0.0,0.15638997048075354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059435530789178265,0.0,0.0,0.07102397403646905,0.0,0.0,0.08480087546722327,0.17097229156809288,0.09939716780455647,0.0607397996676628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381670304549186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605217840373518,0.0,0.0,0.2542090288874549,0.0,0.10870786549379326,0.0
parenting,ComfortableWatch9,2019/04/04,"what do you think of this? Is this normal? (please read!!) My son is 15 years old and ever since he was 10 he has been getting $60 into his checking account from my husband. He started stock trading last year and is very successful but him and his money have become a problem lately. We can no longer punish him because if we take his phone he will buy a new one from online with his money (he has $20,000). For his 15th birthday we bought him a new car and when he turns 16 he will be able to drive his car anywhere and we cant stop him, he even bought a wheel lock and he has the keys in his safe. Last week we took away his laptop because he cussed out his friends dad and he had another laptop  sent to the Amazon Locker at the Whole Foods next to our house and he keeps it in his safe. We are worried he we cant stop him. Even if we closed his bank account and brokerage account he still has 4000 dollars in his safe. Has anyone's kids ever been like this?? HELP!!",1.7153685368536848,3.452052000000002,2.689636963696369,95.76721672167218,78.50495049504951,5.082948294829484,20.628162816281627,5.46131890053228,-0.22710979097909825,752,19,169,3,18,238,120,202,0.06,0.7829999999999999,0.157,0.9724,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,9,1,0,1,6,8,1,0,7,0,21,1,0,0,2,35,31,13,0,4,3,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,21,1,6,1,1,12,5,3,2,0,1,8,0,29,6,15,20,1,30,0,0,0,0,49,8,0,2,18,98,34,6,0.150681059987349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800222952038218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10535970065230524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415698159752944,0.0,0.0,0.18370755119450666,0.1664153923463834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19904683802944345,0.27259929082408985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822041358484252,0.0,0.11641581316569545,0.0,0.07872463471198714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099833828909366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1738657123990282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339322494932561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24565035004572774,0.16997479887073114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361515471548867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910574133777952,0.16025101673590075,0.0,0.14763544616930507,0.0,0.0,0.158114425174168,0.0,0.10210538590391102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16540255519302927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418142448624002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072183642214246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246449299166448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665282981020514,0.0,0.12033408914855702,0.25195222640131565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329340462119485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655033900535756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674122019211605,0.0,0.1638977241106276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432765508676526,0.0,0.0,0.12086725738042428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682300223449987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302393064986236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406732471848734
parenting,BenditlikeBeck,2019/04/04,"Should I go, and should I take my 10 month old? I've been working on a research project since September with a local university. I'm co-author on a paper for which I worked terribly hard on, especially during the qualitative research period. I also have 3 children (4yo, 3yo, and a brand new baby). 

I've been invited to present my research with my co-author at the beginning of June in a city halfway across the country. This is a huge opportunity for me and would be so good for my CV, especially if I want to pursue a Master's degree in the future. But I am breastfeeding my newborn and would feel guilty leaving my kids with my husband for the week while I go on this trip. I'm not sure what to do.

My options:

1. Don't go and let my co-author present without me. She will do incredibly so I'm not concerned about that. 

2. Go and leave the kids with my husband. I'm worried that it would be the end of breastfeeding if I do this.

3. Go and bring baby along. She will be 10 weeks at this point. I'm concerned about flying with a baby this young. I'm assured that the conference is super baby friendly. 

What do you guys think? Oh, it's not financially viable to bring the whole family. Thanks for your help!",2.1159461867426934,4.182604831967215,4.022801140413399,85.11635424091234,78.54918032786884,6.866429080541698,24.95295794725588,7.893859768569023,1.4549624376336419,945,35,192,16,23,320,126,244,0.055,0.8340000000000001,0.111,0.9338,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,2,0,5,5,8,0,0,17,0,22,0,0,0,2,31,41,14,0,8,7,2,2,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,13,13,0,0,2,0,0,8,5,1,0,0,2,2,24,7,29,28,1,34,0,0,0,0,13,12,0,3,14,123,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731059845120704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100219255077515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150077724256947,0.0,0.08049530188140272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299599473932415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4523795152041829,0.1335277454203906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576310681017967,0.0,0.0,0.14261015554075174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670707653096036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371354319430045,0.0,0.16279076064522222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707034010134435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537544389854657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670515411789767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504935855073743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316902466032737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004224908089162,0.0,0.11969709801326853,0.0,0.0,0.14656814716662178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020076625800029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389911641266156,0.0,0.2553980966788429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777389031668002,0.0,0.15346120953066308,0.0,0.23179610805852655,0.16167331617065325,0.0,0.33926911571242,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dr_m_hfuhruhurr,2019/04/04,"Vent/advice needed: fiancé’s son keeps acting violently toward my daughter and won’t discipline him. Am I overreacting? I’m engaged to a man who has two children from a previous marriage. A 7 year old girl, and 5 year old boy. I have a 6 year old daughter. Our girls get along great. 

Here’s the problem.

He favors the boy. REALLY favors him. When he gets in trouble (think violent meltdown, throwing shoes, hitting), it’s all snuggles and rainbows. When his daughter does the *slightest* thing, he screams at her. I don’t think it’s healthy to choose a favorite.

It gets worse.

His son hits my daughter regularly. However, he won’t discipline him. He gives him snuggles and attention (“did she do something to *you* to make you upset?”, “let’s talk about your feelings, don’t cry...”). He says it’s not his son’s fault that he hits, he’s 5. He’s not old enough to know better. He said we should be watching him vigilantly, and compared his son to an alcoholic (“you wouldn’t leave an alcoholic alone with a drink, even for 30 seconds”). 

Yet he’s never asked the child about his feelings any other time than when the child is abusive. He’s straight up associating talking about emotions with being in trouble, but that’s another story.

I said look, I’ve got to look out for my daughter. You’ve got to discipline your son. She needs to be safe. Seeing as how what you’re doing isn’t working (the hitting has persisted about a year), let’s see a licensed child psychologist who can work with us to handle this situation.

The answer was no. He won’t use any voice but a happy nurturing voice with the boy, even when he’s violent. End of story.

Am I crazy here?

I have a background in child development, and work in a field where we dole out the advice on child guidance and development. I know that it’s actually good for parents to have different parenting styles. And it’s good for parents to parent kids based on their unique personalities. But this seems so bizarre. He yells at his daughter if she stands in the wrong place, is whiny, etc. literally nothing the boy does even gets a stern tone. I feel so bad for how his daughter will feel as she grows up. I tried talking to him about her. He doesn’t care 🤷🏻‍♀️

Xposted to r/stepparents and r/blendedfamilies
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parenting,CanadianCannabis420,2019/04/04,"The daycare battle Our daughter (3) has been getting in trouble for hitting other children at daycare.  It started when her best friend would hit her and then she would hit back.  Now every few days her teachers are telling me she’s been hitting them.  When I ask my daughter what happened she gives me mixed stories, which I expect from any 3 year old but it sounds like the 24 kids get hyper and our daughter wants some attention and then when the teachers try to get them to calm down some act out.  I’m not too concerned with the hitting as I think she is learning this from the boys in the class who play games with finger guns some times and tend to get a bit rough.  And I think she will grow out of the hitting or on the flip side she will reach an age where she can understand that hitting is a no go.  

But in the meantime does anyone have experience with this? What did you do to mitigate the hitting and how did you talk to your children about not hitting people?

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parenting,CaffeineFueledLife,2019/04/04,Never Wake the Toddler My son is almost 15 months and he's been fighting naps like mad. I gave up today and went to run some errands. He fell asleep on the way home so now I'm sitting in my car desperately needing a bathroom but not going inside because I don't want to wake him. The things we do to keep them asleep lol.,1.7606372549019618,3.465058102941178,3.232941176470589,92.06990196078434,78.26470588235293,5.121568627450982,23.098039215686285,5.46131890053228,0.1855215686274514,253,8,55,1,6,83,56,68,0.102,0.818,0.08,0.1197,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,4,1,4,4,4,0,1,11,11,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,5,3,2,0,0,3,0,7,1,6,8,1,14,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,2,5,30,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396651367128964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677641884591405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19277820422765107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402505999229148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015012800303563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.165718588766555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707504556685941,0.0,0.0,0.2515164517897959,0.26161605939684235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225352946719215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32152698759758425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007209027165815,0.269245399729784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31444673632470915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ornages,2019/04/04,"The love/hate relationship I have with my son's emotions My 8 year old son is a ball of emotion. As loving as he is filled with frustration. He gets upset over everything. Watch the earth explode if his sister gets one more meatball than he does. Cue running to his room freaking out. 

But he's the most loving human on earth. He hugs and kisses and snuggles and tells me I'm the bestest mommy in the land. The other day he told me he's so lucky to be the son of such a beautiful and awesome mom. 

As frustrating as he is, he is also totally bucket filling. 

I love that kid. But man, I hate the emotional see-saw that is my eight year old boy. 

Momming a boy with emotional regulation issues sure 'aint easy. ",2.284195804195804,4.247608328671333,3.8832167832167848,86.81405594405598,77.60139860139859,6.917482517482518,24.98601398601399,7.882392219407189,1.4120321678321683,553,20,113,9,13,184,90,143,0.106,0.677,0.217,0.9605,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,3,12,3,1,11,0,8,5,0,0,2,15,16,13,0,1,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,8,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,5,0,2,1,1,10,7,16,14,3,14,0,0,1,5,28,6,0,3,5,63,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741687656315244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08662627273222889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11754567340009263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6043745544871986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207195273096672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403549078168803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326146991794932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019677629480554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4849216892957538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146314978684909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28189569441673434,0.0,0.09101974292151456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14421105150306254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10703686630273357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659644950893012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740293500461801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834997521167565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299731888742811
parenting,violetsky600,2019/04/04,"I secretly can't stand my adopted son and I feel awful about it. My spouse and I recently adopted our Nephew (14 years old) when the state terminated his biological parents rights to him. Prior to his placement with us we hadn't been allowed to see him for a few years but we did raise him from the time he was a toddler until his biological parents took him away at age 8. When he young I could reason with him and he was cooperative with me despite having high functioning aspergers. He's been with us about a year now and I have realized that I can't handle him any longer. I love him to a certain extent but I also hate him and I feel guilty and awful for feeling that way but he has driven me to it. He is mean, violent and manipulative. He steals, lies and cheats. He has twisted my daughters wrist until it popped because she didn't want to play with him. He stole money from my purse and went to a pawn shop and bought a phone because we took his away. When he got caught he threw the phone at my head. We had to put locks on all of our cabinets and fridge because he steals food and hides it in his room. He stole $400 worth of tools from my spouse and did God knows what with them. He uses vulgar language and is combative. He lit a fire in his bedroom. We have tried therapy and adjusting his meds to no avail. We decided to place him in a group home with people who are trained to handle kids like him but that was thwarted when my parents insisted that he move in with them instead because they were ""ashamed"" that I was willing to send him away. Now he is living with them full time and they are starting to understand how bad he is and constantly ask me to take him for a few days or the afternoon. It may sound awful but I'm scared of him and I don't want him in my house. I have some chronic Health issues and I can't handle the stress that he causes me anymore. Is it wrong to tell my parents that they prevented me from placing him in a facility so they need to stop asking for help unless they decide they want him placed?",4.2158550824175824,4.949764314903844,4.982651098901101,85.80163461538461,70.51442307692308,8.058241758241758,27.116758241758237,8.192908349453996,1.526325824175824,1609,51,343,22,28,521,201,416,0.159,0.7829999999999999,0.058,-0.993,5,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,10,0,9,1,12,14,3,3,15,3,32,6,2,6,2,69,59,35,0,5,7,9,4,1,0,2,2,1,3,1,15,34,1,2,12,2,4,9,7,10,0,0,20,7,71,4,53,36,6,54,0,0,2,1,84,19,0,3,24,227,86,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700504697615526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548217608780997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549624762887812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004090666239864,0.0,0.2714098130716189,0.0,0.0804001835312178,0.2347959640316129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098918883330439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10405794276879124,0.0,0.07688169542247178,0.0,0.0,0.06210067183616826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460650859742726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643722712786672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701387824946278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506887061682287,0.09882384626509697,0.10235438414022427,0.0,0.0,0.06454280744037215,0.10173827279953576,0.09658919047336773,0.0,0.0,0.11110857253643937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050431263601244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05291981878397127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0470436329545836,0.0,0.08502800799997377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690770635567298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489072009013732,0.10695921756735803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234364798466034,0.0,0.07139964036687681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104274060777753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42768553389392294,0.0,0.0,0.06675706871613205,0.0,0.3018153835773451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680052034611884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900468829981174,0.09507718929762232,0.0,0.0,0.08223323631268997,0.0,0.0,0.09640555269795854,0.0,0.0767326250915199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06815630013344674,0.0,0.0,0.08050480982294135,0.11030268974559757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239994758923242,0.0,0.0841638559454292,0.0,0.11011882213137117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11229781777171946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21396893641631276,0.06537626081350953,0.0,0.0,0.1002438487534373,0.2316559509277285,0.08316577015689425,0.0,0.0,0.17038736660595566,0.0764324741954017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926407687591764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528069082218147,0.0,0.18602756513558533
parenting,mccoya2,2019/04/04,"The Stress of the Cough! My 3 year old baby girl gets the worst coughs and I find it so stressful. My heart bleeds for her that she can't get the rest she needs at night as a result of them, or play and be her lovely self during the day. Just to be clear - she a healthy child, and the coughs she gets are temporary (3 days at a time), and seldom (4/5 times a year). But when she does get them, they are so harsh and consistent. It seems like she's chocking. Strangers are always quick to point out she has asmatha, but the doctors say she's too young to be tested - and they do always seem to be linked a virus (runny nose etc). I'm really only here to voice how stressful I find it and how sorry I feel for her : (",2.6021903599755944,3.5611997986577184,3.235009151921904,95.99508846857842,74.50335570469798,6.223550945698597,19.585723001830388,6.11248444174946,-0.2902,546,9,130,3,11,171,92,149,0.112,0.825,0.063,-0.8606,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,4,0,9,7,0,3,12,0,10,8,2,3,1,23,20,16,0,1,4,0,1,1,0,0,5,2,0,3,4,8,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,20,3,13,16,3,15,0,0,0,1,20,4,0,3,12,81,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524831952454278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569122238308947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528988517792414,0.1327695154598837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16920576564580594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07671322058373438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27733515562436123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31706574243419416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978665697560714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412179100502213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369314919500363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249703495936623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142377141747043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15920260472091427,0.0,0.0,0.11538843759774245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14342262655867574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719448792052278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12065230786229103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27623688638246363,0.15827504740409587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698359708063056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5213776489907579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693606671983114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954029403222996
parenting,artificial_redd,2019/04/04,"Anyone else always think they’d never have kids? Or did you all want a family someday? I was pretty adamant on no children growing up and in my early twenties, and here I am pregnant with my second child and super excited, younger me would never believe it. Curious how common it is. ",4.945,6.5069247962963,6.06388888888889,75.63250000000002,69.55555555555556,7.622222222222224,32.01851851851852,8.07648339933343,2.679051851851851,225,10,36,3,4,75,48,54,0.069,0.716,0.214,0.8270000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,3,12,9,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,7,2,4,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,4,31,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662807904652682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22376417626881626,0.32789647860624954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605509402090095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267334154250489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30168469159907363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4936355508103225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255735726204916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050547499874288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18875503421066853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273317577043284,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,robbschiller,2019/04/04,"Making a will Do you have a will to outline what would happen to your kids if you passed?

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEBkK7y0VlE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEBkK7y0VlE)",20.779,27.69129090000001,6.599999999999998,65.555,40.0,6.0,20.0,7.1686216300943375,0.4455,158,2,16,1,2,31,16,20,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,7,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,14,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6718961651422665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5071780872702087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5397461728072267,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RadiantInfluence8,2019/04/04,"My 3yr old behaves aggressively in daycare My 3yr old boy is our only child. He is super energetic and fidgety most of the time. He has been in a daycare since he was 1 and half year old but he started to behave aggressively toward other kids after 6-8 months in . The owner requested us to pull him out after staying there for a year. Now we changed a daycare. But after three months, teachers started to complain how he is physically aggressive to some kids and verbally defiant to the teachers. He has trouble sitting through classes and throws tamper tantrum often. I’m working but teachers wants him to do half day instead. 
Teachers all agree he’s very smart and has good language skills so language is unlikely the issue.
What should I do? Any suggestions? Any books/videos that can help me?
Thank you all in advance!!!",3.9260784313725448,6.585684614379088,4.584078431372549,80.36435294117645,75.40522875816994,6.694379084967321,32.42222222222222,7.793537801064563,2.6263877124183,658,34,110,10,15,210,100,153,0.121,0.742,0.136,0.6864,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,1,0,4,6,10,4,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,2,18,18,10,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,7,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,3,2,0,10,4,18,15,4,26,0,0,0,0,22,6,0,3,15,72,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554822469528746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19871523019699375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114456273346785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755557488912592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590862471797612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960615021885523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29987236619613844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5913355652872935,0.0,0.0,0.14286467882459816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553874248797217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659154863567369,0.20021790494715844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294254923999267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095340004192539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22595455129521305,0.0,0.0,0.1549918972090246,0.11079591901593397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13675348500509518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419321978155776
parenting,mcwho3,2019/04/04,"Thinking of only having 1 child.... Hello lovely redditors! 

I currently have a young toddler and I absolutely love her! I’ve been considering having another child so she can have a playmate. 

I’m nervous about having another, so I thought I’d reach out to this community and get your thoughts on the matter. Do you have 1 kid or 2? What would you say are the pros and cons of each situation? 

Thanks in advance! 💕",2.2758509142053462,4.9433251645569625,4.4130801687763705,79.05720112517585,82.16455696202532,7.561744022503518,27.765119549929686,8.515128840125781,2.5726444444444447,324,15,59,8,9,111,60,79,0.027000000000000003,0.785,0.189,0.9152,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,3,0,1,3,4,0,1,4,0,11,2,0,0,0,11,19,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,8,3,7,15,1,6,0,0,0,2,12,3,0,1,2,39,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5472168681726912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363254435899448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4710000200768072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19844944231308986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20750244745082952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932968723239473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402297945947673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719376141685344,0.0,0.4142994231565404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853575772442316,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madfoot,2019/04/04,"Sudden abject terror in my 8 year old daughter Hi, I'm writing from the planet of total meltdown. I have 2 daughters, ages 8 (C) and 10 (A). The 10 year old (A) already sees a therapist for generalized anxiety disorder and some sensory stuff, possible depression. She is doing okay, but sometimes is too panicked to go to school and I've arranged for her to be able to stay home and complete schoolwork from here on those days. Not a perfect system at all but we are in the process of figuring it out.   


The younger kid (C) is usually put in the role of ""oh, but she's fine!"" which is obviously unfair. Until recently I was able to say to her,  ""Well, A stays home from school sometimes because she has a sort of illness that doesn't give her fevers,"" when C objected to A ""getting"" to stay home even tho she doesn't have the proscribed ailments listed as excuses for missing school.   


Suddenly, in the past week, C has developed significant anxiety of her own. Not surprising. It's OVERWHELMING, tho. As it is, I lie down with the girls till they fall asleep; suddenly this is not enough, and she is very miserably terrified unless my husband comes down to also lie down with us OR if she can lie between me and the 10 year old, who is sometimes kind about this and sometimes ""goes on strike"" about it. (Which just means crossing her arms and legs and sitting at the foot of her bed glowering at us.)   


I have worried, over the past months, over C's habit of saying she loves me, which obviously is lovely but she says it SO MUCH, and then peppers it with stuff like ""I never want to be away from you"" and ""I wish I could wear your clothes"" and -- it felt even months ago like she ""loves me too much,"" or that what she calls love comes from a place of fear. I know she really loves me, but I also wonder what else she puts under that heading??   


Anyway I'm exhausted. If I go bak to my bed after they fall asleep, usually I end up back in their room at 3am. (Last night everyone had to pee!) If I refuse to engage with them when she is hysterical at bedtime, she really gets MORE hysterical -- I have left the room out of total stress and frustration and said ""I will be bavk in 10 minutes"" and this results in such misery in her part, it's not tenable.   


I've suggested to her that she is upset because we have been talking about moving to the East coast this summer so we can be closer to my parents. This is legitimately upsetting. She says no, it's not that, it's ""creepy movie previews"" and ""stupid creepy myths they talk about at school."" I've tried keeping the lights on, surrounding her with stuffies, spraying lavender scent to get rid of scary monsters. In the morning she jokes about her fears. But boy, when the sun goes down, she collapses again and the cycle continues. My husband says ""she needs hugs"" and ""I'm glad she can talk to us about her fears,"" but he gets to sleep at night! I feel like I need something more!   


(I know there are parents out there who will tell me I should have ""cried it out"" when they were 8 months old, or that I need to do so now, or that she is ""playing me,"" and I am going to say at the outset that I don't believe in that kind of parenting relationship. Like, I'm not buying into my kids ""manipulating"" me as if they understand what that means. If she has a need, I would like to fill it, not get her used to the situation of not having her needs met. That kind of thinking was disastrous for me was a child.)   


TIA. This is overlong! ",4.6540865462827385,5.3387754758418735,5.239142996583702,84.53380152920127,69.49780380673499,8.647977875386367,28.794176020823173,8.778014704023537,1.999005557182366,2682,93,559,44,45,863,304,683,0.141,0.75,0.11,-0.9576,4,0,1,0,0,0,119.0,6,2,7,1,31,37,2,9,29,1,50,18,9,3,7,96,92,53,0,15,26,7,2,5,0,4,3,7,7,5,40,34,0,2,10,2,1,12,13,14,1,0,9,12,86,23,99,74,11,99,0,4,1,6,91,42,0,12,45,386,126,4,0.1167189170229674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05173213876219652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440111366728929,0.09334007577388377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928965204884533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05483063234743793,0.04487482128094082,0.0,0.07115076847138059,0.0,0.0,0.06575112506964656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959153211885158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10054301201607192,0.061188781914128014,0.0,0.0,0.046595278869060834,0.0,0.06410512482580898,0.03763702278236338,0.0,0.050264916100988655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688499548053309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875183906419018,0.0,0.05168915823617482,0.06030092110896808,0.0,0.07709174389134645,0.0,0.0,0.05576496354737388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19701184716202055,0.029508295728934836,0.04169200882137513,0.056034232156242564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245204187213895,0.05598371037569445,0.09950107549897604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05989364113697045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561788567924536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05187256818015218,0.0,0.18231718633283145,0.06414566433243801,0.04757074782002705,0.0,0.0,0.06340772243019806,0.0,0.0,0.1425574178929891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633584490599961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714111796103827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397458890064649,0.062026868581886024,0.08580183386259944,0.2163639950812571,0.0450104121505524,0.0,0.0,0.1095327968697752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449537383608445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19440381690216066,0.06319760648022127,0.11142141331917094,0.0,0.0,0.06097321296692959,0.0,0.0,0.06579152080192686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733474958928244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477312700359462,0.0,0.05762292474255595,0.06265621802368053,0.0,0.0,0.055513209225948455,0.27845870271288203,0.0,0.2362515507056508,0.04650493260908781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559847653236735,0.058401605014475326,0.0,0.0,0.04492796234731646,0.23087598686139024,0.0,0.0,0.1866102534006205,0.0,0.0,0.06685056254887642,0.0,0.13361523523505978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14072136640359625,0.05100873903629447,0.0,0.0,0.06775982938670437,0.0,0.03739438456250524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03962224151383046,0.0,0.0,0.060754254467300824,0.2105977289361385,0.05040383450867605,0.1285493971764079,0.048152665168902514,0.03442192067150504,0.0,0.04681243742964057,0.0,0.052472161891034035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711049716110491,0.0,0.06328834330787568,0.0,0.059266862953941166,0.0,0.041456884911893456,0.0,0.0,0.11274473367416668
parenting,Peachfluzz,2019/04/04,"Looking for tips to help my premature son with language skills Hi everyone! My son is just turned one, but was 2 months premature. He’s fully caught up physically with where he should be, but he’s having a few developmental delays. He’s very vocal and babbles, but is still not really forming anything resembling words or recognizing his name well. Does anyone have any ideas of things I could do to try and help with get better with his speech? ",5.802088353413656,7.421641518072295,6.01222891566265,76.5965763052209,67.55421686746989,9.388755020080325,28.29116465863454,9.725611199111238,2.6567285140562245,358,12,64,8,6,114,65,83,0.0,0.857,0.14300000000000002,0.9041,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,18,13,6,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,6,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,2,5,2,9,8,2,6,0,0,1,0,12,2,0,1,3,39,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861164186084152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365164004933093,0.0,0.21613933944047975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322934070947788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970539876436914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298476023895687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509742231749465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372242725409128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520987693437101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965009345982926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22056063430174894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096454697490876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17797907039433875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826091393520273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097533752388405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744936098357639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783227433823368,0.28568879416810433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21671452764964166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23615473284986074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,popcontest,2019/04/04,"Children sensing new things -- How does it compare to previous generations?  Curious what you think -- for those with young kids --

Do you remember the retail store Service Merchandise? There was one in Dover, NH that I loved going to in the 80s and early 90s. There was nothing more exciting than walking through one of those stores, especially through the technology and toy sections -- and then taking the catalog home to think about everything you'd ever dream about owning. In this age of iPhones, Netflix, and instant access to pretty much everything, do you think our kids experience new things in the same way? And with the same sense of euphoria? And if it is different, in what ways do you think it is?

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parenting,epere126,2019/04/04,"My 4 year old Thank me for the first time. It happend last night, at 1 am. It was a usual 'dad-i-have-to-poop' call, i take him to the bathroom, he had some diarrhea so it takes him longer than usual, but no biggie, I then put him back in bed, i tuck him in and just when I'm about to leave he whispers 'Dad, thank you for taking care of me'... it left me speechless, I was touched by his sincerity, it was unexpected, all i said was 'i love you son' kissed him in the forehead and went back to bed. 
For the first time, without being prompted he thanked me for doing something for him. And eventhought it was insignificant, i never thought it would feel so good. It has made everything worth it.
I just wanted to share this with any parents (specially moms) that sometimes feel unappreciated, our kids have the greatest ROI.",2.759603174603172,4.61724391975309,3.636437389770727,89.60111111111117,75.85185185185185,6.3569664902998255,25.151675485008816,7.1686216300943375,0.9322119929453264,633,22,135,7,14,202,103,162,0.059,0.73,0.211,0.9844,1,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,2,0,2,8,10,0,0,6,0,12,3,1,1,2,17,28,8,0,2,4,4,3,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,11,4,0,0,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,10,5,23,10,19,16,3,22,0,0,0,2,22,5,0,1,15,90,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099944855254752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260222033745907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007312572508294,0.0,0.14984603304151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208744404418354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14862521628170916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25002575279012873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327172877712747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11980042406348385,0.0,0.15562034465868915,0.15968367923868146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13264644902137254,0.13906686735510038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721298587536547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335256875314972,0.0,0.0,0.13792168627980006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422062441916512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319314404831142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774576186356378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980242714607272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314493019701465,0.1453574013420573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33151016266873146,0.0,0.0,0.4059315648895284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166780147999917,0.1713991472667076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32373408030292605,0.0,0.08668690072157792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624295611143336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167414075266047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044034962743425,0.0,0.0,0.0946440654117234
parenting,Mint4you,2019/04/04,"For my Blog: What do you wish Teachers should know? Hello Parents,

So I'm writing a blog about parent rants teachers don't know about and would like for some parents tl comment below some rants or some things that they wish teachers should stop complaining about.

No names will be posted on the blog just the rant itself and I will post the blog link when in this group when i'm finished.

Thanks",7.777631578947368,7.244505184210527,5.948947368421052,86.25263157894739,62.94736842105264,8.126315789473685,30.842105263157894,5.985473137389443,1.4246947368421052,318,9,62,1,4,91,52,76,0.155,0.718,0.127,-0.1027,3,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,0,7,3,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,18,15,6,0,5,2,3,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,8,9,3,9,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,4,5,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243887235175457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997363652301872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6800463410206689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910345647652351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067680812489905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795198305784214,0.0,0.0,0.1356268114939595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695200821232451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450208300623895,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,watch_the_film,2019/04/04,"Found out my 15yo is having sex... It’s been a very rough year with school performance, lying, and bad choices. We’ve (husband and I) had her checked out medically, and are trying to get her into regular therapy for depression which she’s on medication for. Her judgement has been so poor, we took away her phone and severely limited her social life. However, she chats with a few friends through an app on her school computer and I monitor that. I’ve told her not to expect complete privacy, that we want to trust her and that by passing her classes and showing she’s trying, we could begin to give her some freedom back. 

She has had a rocky relationship with a boy that she’s started “seeing” again. Just read messages between them and it appears that they have found a place at school private enough that they had sex while she was supposed to be at Algebra tutoring! I am freaking out, but I gotta get over it before I pick her up from school. Planning on checking her out early to go shopping for condoms and figure out birth control. Any thoughts or encouragement?",5.626909476661954,6.919647886138617,5.809420084865633,79.11079207920794,67.66336633663366,8.939745403111743,34.23055162659123,9.23628265651192,3.145476944837341,851,40,154,16,14,270,127,202,0.07400000000000001,0.867,0.058,-0.3155,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,3,4,4,6,0,0,6,0,15,6,0,2,0,37,30,13,0,3,4,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,10,21,0,2,4,4,4,4,1,3,0,0,11,2,30,3,30,16,3,27,0,1,1,3,35,15,0,3,8,111,40,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953006317281786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166700817571647,0.10775971765274632,0.1170118151130432,0.0,0.0,0.11924960166823785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469350890848532,0.0,0.15717995901454354,0.11189112182633976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070316966770905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14480303313570536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3073145723148084,0.10827252771554953,0.0,0.14643569394852354,0.1344359409359965,0.07964531479533102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898567676564038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823544681104166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14641743468040727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14017884484582813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504589025803731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5673203741510403,0.11167416970958984,0.0,0.0,0.1583193508891579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285602031420214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919246498868227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16026335624842228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125623716084466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391065535748278,0.15570171937579438,0.19029297215776134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563093634050856,0.0826587459681321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902461582446631
parenting,rinnyssance,2019/04/04,"My four year old niece won't go ""brown"" in the potty. My niece used to go to the potty but when she moved in with me after my sister started going thru a divoece, it's almost like she reverted. It's been about six months, she turned four last month, and she refuses to ""brown"" in the potty. She'll go ""yellow"" with little fuss, but *usually* when she knows she has the opportunity to do something like go outside or play with a toy. So she generally holds her waste in no matter what. I'm getting a little worried about this because she's four and should be starting school soon. She's otherwise an excellent kid. She can read up to first-grade sight words, knows her phonics and is learning to write her letters as well. But I just want her to understand this is the last thing that's been holding her back (well, besides picky eating, but it's fine for now) and that she needs to use the bathroom. We've tried a sticker chart (full of ""yellow"" stuckers, with no brown stuckers ever after two weeks), bribing her, encouraging her when she uses the potty--but something is keeping her from doing it and either she can't articulate what it is or she just refuses. Our mother bought her a potty seat that is supposed to help children squat while they potty because she thinks she's in pain when she uses the bathroom, but it doesn't help. When she sits on the potty she cries and cries and my sister and I are frustrated because we've tried everything! She'll wait until we put some underpants on her and go when no one is watching. We were potty trained much younger than her so it's hard for us to understand what's going on. I bought her some new underwear the other day with her favorite characters and she was very happy! I  would tell her, ""Don't yellow on Minnie Mouse!"" ""Don't brown on your Paw Patrol friends!"" and she understood and enthusiastically obliged. But today while getting her ready for a bath, she went and put some pants on and did her brown in the pants. It should be noted that the bathroom was less than five feet away from this happening and my sister and I are from earshot of her. She's ok with calling to ask for a snack or other needs but she doesn't ask to go to the bathroom. My sister and I are at our wits end with this. She knows she should go but simply refuses. She can't be around the house with no pants (no that it helps any because she will hold it)! Any advice would be helpful.

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tl;dr My niece refuses to poop in the potty. Will pee just fine, but will hide away in another room, put on a pair of pants and poop in them. Otherwise seems fine deveopmentally. ",4.779481026785714,5.764936535156252,5.072564732142858,84.74989062500003,69.390625,7.8045535714285705,27.128571428571423,7.957251820313856,1.5120299553571424,2054,64,411,25,35,649,221,512,0.068,0.804,0.127,0.9864,0,0,2,0,0,0,71.0,5,1,2,2,20,16,1,0,24,1,40,7,4,4,1,84,78,42,0,8,16,5,1,2,1,11,1,0,2,2,25,29,2,9,9,4,2,14,12,2,2,7,10,11,69,14,62,53,7,69,0,0,10,0,78,25,0,8,31,286,94,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112172179712951,0.0,0.0,0.0831279660850536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994718858425353,0.1008728393950128,0.1129066843447593,0.08704892130972987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390133698848446,0.15521644997271172,0.0,0.15599146680492404,0.06383374488430345,0.0,0.20242175336989013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476804029423858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18237711336112206,0.053538087549208635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494551430715233,0.0,0.0,0.07352703466996849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509221321770426,0.0,0.0,0.07460891965168764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061288616702878,0.0,0.0,0.06413751875673109,0.0,0.08674427636854301,0.0,0.4246162605986622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341027455504574,0.08837147367819574,0.07436552340814509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225739833881688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957886655335503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378793250173475,0.0,0.0,0.13686933526028625,0.1353373180603106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811142960385318,0.1664065485882481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252425558973865,0.08823226905440543,0.061025896226986974,0.1231097855761853,0.0,0.0801768239304144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08711073379596722,0.0,0.056253406865392284,0.0,0.0883342753185436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503603220318671,0.0,0.0,0.08303789964353993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401605168437018,0.0,0.07557413371619437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781867447205855,0.0,0.0,0.11751750361738955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255914879589168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055151765922553504,0.0531929384035744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868892515463931,0.0,0.0,0.11272406148221585,0.09029695424082222,0.08109401688035,0.17284398999707512,0.09985734626819748,0.2867947255387953,0.09142977275627584,0.06849642753221377,0.04896465411675768,0.0,0.06658997413244838,0.0,0.14928169071517747,0.07695613946641394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430620338763692,0.0,0.11794356566218525,0.0,0.1008728393950128,0.053459218042332037
parenting,11somefun,2019/04/04,Mom leaving for month affect on 11 year old Basically my mom is leaving for a month for a yoga course to become a teacher. She's never been away for longer than a week and although me and my other brother (16 and 14) will miss her a lot  I am unsure how it will affect my 11 year old brother? My dad will be home more often but my mom does a lot for us. Just know when she left he said he's really going to miss her and hugged me but he doesn't want to talk about it. My mom is also a little concerned and she will face time call as much as possible.. Are there any ways I can help him make it easier? Have you had similar experiences? Whats your advice?,1.4602619047619037,2.95660383571429,3.541428571428572,90.45190476190477,78.5,6.3809523809523805,19.52380952380952,7.1686216300943375,0.2379523809523807,507,11,115,6,12,173,90,140,0.044,0.871,0.085,0.8666,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,0,7,3,0,0,7,0,14,2,1,4,1,18,21,13,0,1,3,7,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,1,19,1,14,13,4,16,0,2,0,1,23,4,0,3,10,78,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290409800079117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10560299559378457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980078870692328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406844494572412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584252159409092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13484120837910707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556075383406328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291734900411971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504894727069407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851255959686205,0.0,0.13246025106802087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07257305344671862,0.0,0.0,0.2796508065087036,0.14347632304540406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132352122426977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453402780025303,0.0,0.0,0.08814661926478345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6186370288571528,0.21080740690989572,0.0,0.0970743874826159,0.0,0.10184766439495756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771354998196717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887028157519944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845967408535514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561295115050555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613945984123756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770013552424081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884388962628684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778884719530006,0.10481778211470227,0.10592521127992978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700760223973269
parenting,moonbee33,2019/04/04,"(24f) stay at home mom to a two year old boy. Can anyone help me with a good schedule to help keep my little one busy throughout the day ? I’m having a hard time finding fun/learning activities for us to do. I want him to have a bit more structure, so if anyone could help I’d really appreciate it !! ",3.868548387096773,4.197526016129036,5.490483870967744,83.30572580645162,71.09677419354837,8.135483870967743,26.79032258064516,8.07648339933343,1.4801483870967749,231,7,50,3,4,79,51,62,0.021,0.735,0.243,0.9257,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,8,2,0,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,1,7,7,2,8,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,5,28,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30252203926497706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361732921560437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17271967966643614,0.0,0.0,0.1395131583359743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977191567795997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18144500562177945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378669498498932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4349987197062444,0.0,0.21699383638883984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19228156965705565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168167021281508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533598214210163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269990235581233,0.0,0.14658892049022146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385847542624539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23057602953296305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614213959635134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21132025694286635,0.0,0.2602150057773435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759539713439771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930763485718656
parenting,enviorngirl,2019/04/04,"How can I deal with a pathological liar? My 11 year old daughter is the worst liar I have ever met. She lies about literally everything she can. She has lied to me, my parents, her teachers, my husband, random strangers. This has been going on since she was 9 and it just gets worse over time. I asked her pediatrician and she told me to wait out this ""phase"". I've also asked friends and they've given me poor advice as well. I feel so alone and like I've let her down as a mother. Also the lies aren't small either. She told her friend my husband and I were drug addicts because ""it was funny"". That's her excuse for almost every lie. I ask her ""why would you say that?"" and she'll say ""I don't know"" or ""I thought it was funny"". We're considering taking her to a therapist. Any advice?",0.6785263157894725,3.029140300000005,2.4442105263157887,92.53763157894736,86.625,4.868421052631579,18.421052631578945,6.339386263674448,-0.12168750000000016,608,16,131,6,19,200,103,160,0.166,0.76,0.07400000000000001,-0.9474,1,1,1,0,0,0,29.0,0,1,0,0,8,7,2,0,5,0,16,3,0,1,1,20,30,13,0,1,3,5,1,1,2,2,3,2,0,0,7,8,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,3,1,0,10,3,30,4,12,17,2,10,0,0,0,0,32,5,0,3,5,85,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514578289454654,0.0,0.29606733418192577,0.0,0.0,0.1516947296577119,0.15689730899442625,0.0,0.24229200200711826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301797195845484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248663571225114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234651886847532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15617889703325954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756795840010231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370308154996111,0.12763633480482114,0.0,0.13614888502188005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659758135724759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23408063560135825,0.0,0.07914694760856121,0.0,0.08609490469706599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325460046140007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490815291434412,0.0,0.07401005815751012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15896261914965912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682110269160822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409408677434941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531357908331225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390115930996993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589084411648795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026564475175645,0.08833467466543367,0.0,0.0,0.2895091855823761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620714413194707,0.0,0.136695601147191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438061847095522,0.1076137078205782,0.0,0.0,0.09755419277727664
parenting,LadyMotherof3,2019/04/04,"Kids' dad's wife wants to talk \*\*Sorry for the long post but I'm hoping maybe someone has logical, impartial thoughts to this that I can ponder over because I'm emotional about this\*\*

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This morning, I woke up to texts from my ex's current wife, M, asking me to call her sometime today to discuss the possibility of my kids going to spend some time in Montana this summer with them. Some background to this, my ex, R, and I got together when I was 21 and he was 24. He was just getting out of a divorce and I was stupid. I can honestly say that the events that happened after that were my fault too. We were not good for each other, but he was a ""single dad"" who just wanted to be with his kids, and his evil ex wasn't letting him be there for them. (She wasn't really evil. I don't know what prompted her to leave the kids with me while she moved to New Mexico, but I know it all wasn't her fault as   
 he made it seem.) So of course, the stupid girl with the daddy issues, me, jumped in to ""save him"" and help him take care of his kids, because they were his life. How could I not, when I knew what it meant to grow up without a father? So we moved in together, and had his first two kids and then I had our two kids. By the age of 24, I was raising 4 kids, while he was out partying up and getting high and cheating on me. That became the norm for my life. He and I stayed together off and on ""for the kids and because he really wanted to be a real family and be the dad his father hadn't been"". I would leave him, he would cry and be sorry, I would go back, he would cheat, then make it my fault and I would leave. That was the life I was giving our kids. Each time I went back to him, the fighting got worse and the hurt starting lasting longer. He would beat me and the police would show up, drag him away, lock him up, he would get bailed out, I'd go to court and say I wasn't scared, and things would be ok for a few months, until they weren't. I don't blame him for all of it. I went to the classes for domestic abuse. I went to the court hearings. I spoke to counselor after counselor, but I didn't get it. He almost killed me several times, and the last time he tried in 2010, I was finally scared enough to pack up our two kids, get on a bus, and go to Texas where he couldn't find us. I fled. He realized we were gone when I stopped answering his calls, texts, emails, fb mssgs. We were in hiding. Kids were 6 and 5 at this point, and had seen and heard too much. I allowed it to happen. I hated myself for doing to them what I swore I would never do - expose them to the cycle of domestic abuse as I had been as a child. This wasn't normal, and I was telling my kids that it was by staying with him! He was furious when he found out that I had ""kidnapped his children"" and filed a poilice report. We were never married, but mostly, the domestic abuse charges against him, I think is what saved me and kept me from having to bring back the kids to the state he was in.  He was eventually arrested for a probation violation. I didn't know he was on probabtion for lewd and lascivious behavior with a 16 yro girl, until after he was arrested for drugs the fall of 2010. Life was scary. I was now a single mom of two kids, didn't have work, didn't have a car, didn't have anyting but the clothes on our backs and the bag of clothes I had for the kids. We ended up staying in Texas for 2 yrs and I was able to get us an apt and found a great job with some amazing ppl who gave a struggling single mom a chance to be more when no one else did. Lots of nights of crying myself to sleep, but I kept on because that's what moms do. We keep going on for our kids. They deserved betther. When we returned to our home state, he was still in prison and the kids and I were placed in a battered women's shelter for 18 mos, because I needed the help. I knew I couldn't stay broken. I hadn't dealt with  my issues while we were in Texas, but I knew it was time. It took me years to get a great job that I love, and a stable home for my kids and now they are these AMAZING teenagers that I know I don't deserve, but somehow love me in spite of it all. 

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R was released from prison in 2012 on parole with the condition that he leave the state and go back to Montana. While he remained on parole, he wasn't allowed to come back to our home state. I was grateful. Our home became a code red home, a system that was put in place because of the domestic violence. When he got out, he swore he changed. He wanted to be a family. He begged me to move myself and the kids out to Montana to be with him. I didn't. I'd worked too hard on myself and on us as a family to take that risk. Because he had ""changed"" I made the effort to let him have contact with the kids. A phone call  here and there, because he was never reliable and would always have an excuse about why he missed a birthday or a holiday call. I tried. When he started letting my kids down again, I said no more. I decided that if they wanted to have a relationship with him, that I would let them make that choice on their own when they got older. He's seen the kids twice in the last 7 years, and that was because we went to visit my in laws, and he happened to show up to see them, but always with a different woman who was the love of his life and their future step mom. None of them stayed. Kids have thrived. It's essentially been us three against the world for so long, so they don't miss him.  Now that they are older, I've told them that if they wanted to get to know R, they don't call him dad, they could and that I wouldn't be upset. They still say no. R has remarried a nice lady, M, and I am sure he is fantastic to her and her kids and her grandkids. He's found  God, and I'm happy he has something to hold on to keep him on the straight and narrow, but I just don't think that I should have to encourage my kids to have a relationship with him. She says we need to confront  him and forgive him for ourselves, and that it eats him up inside for what he's done to us in the past. I know she means well, but Christ, it infuriates me that she keeps begging on his behalf. I already said no. I already said my kids don't want to have anything to do with him. He hasn't paid any child support, and is THOUSANDS of dollars in arrears. I've never asked him for a cent. I have done this on my own. She offered to pay me half of what he owed in child support if I would let them go to Montana for a few weeks. WTF. I am not selling my children. It isn't about the money. Argh! I don't want to speak with her. The kids said no. I said no. I want what's best for my kids...so I don't know. Maybe I'm wrong and should push for it. He's essentially a stranger to them...so maybe I'm not wrong. 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parenting,myshaaf,2019/04/04,"Does taking a vacation make me a bad parent? Hey Reddit - could use some advice. I’m leaving in a couple weeks for a much needed two-week vacation. This is the longest I’ll have been away from my kiddo, who’s 7. 

I keep having panic attacks thinking I’m being a bad mom for leaving for such a length of time, but I have an amazing opportunity with this trip. My son’s dad and I are not together, so he’ll be with him the whole time I’m gone. He just recently went on vacation for 2 weeks as well, and my son handled it fairly well. I can’t shake the anxiety that I’m being selfish for leaving him for two weeks. 

Some background: my divorce was bad and I left my ex because he was super abusive, mainly mentally and emotionally. I took a vacation a couple years ago after we split and the whole time he blamed me for my son’s behavioral problems and issues at school, telling me I was a terrible mother and I’m causing these problems by being selfish and taking time to myself. That among other remaining PTSD issues from the split is part of the anxiety I have regarding the trip. 

 I’d love some advice or thoughts.",5.709982829670332,5.607741049107148,6.828214285714285,76.79755494505496,67.08035714285714,9.570879120879123,32.40934065934066,9.265573868473778,2.8179042582417577,881,34,168,15,13,298,125,224,0.199,0.698,0.103,-0.9668,2,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,0,0,2,5,17,1,2,17,0,17,1,0,3,0,28,35,12,0,4,4,8,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,11,0,1,2,0,0,6,2,11,2,1,8,0,21,6,22,21,8,23,0,0,0,1,20,6,0,4,11,110,29,1,0.0,0.12295918425528578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282004129525374,0.09199235494587728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877877004137414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180617119397258,0.09750223194905552,0.0,0.2599492453577926,0.06326170640246373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660792029742468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285776569626563,0.22965531715627915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908162541205838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673554529204985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166331723591226,0.0,0.09224207268750796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296556728773416,0.11275438919936852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093663105773724,0.0,0.0692721837598578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458315526130904,0.0,0.0,0.12154277243156393,0.0,0.0,0.07628828949039478,0.07694958650179706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217603545045098,0.11523246061476368,0.1123807518143204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19860180782400533,0.1213101630338254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246760858475104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502821374219833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605529666862972,0.0,0.09070597386933148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664963324534034,0.0,0.08238762004038963,0.2420536181467033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530044897188875,0.0,0.0,0.20275077362882832,0.0,0.0,0.08963030614430585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329757062397796,0.0,0.18661659297121175,0.09620263869358404,0.0,0.23172739960811056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06682920782964337
parenting,ladymental,2019/04/04,"12 year old son won’t go to bed on time and turns into a suicide threatening monster on school mornings! Please help me!!! I just got back from dropping my son off at school, and my heart is racing and I’m shaking!  Now I know this sounds dramatic, but I’m not kidding at all!  I need some serious help! 
He is my youngest child and I share custody with his dad. At his dad’s house bed time is very flexible. It is not unusual that they eat dinner at 9 pm and sleep any time they want. At my house I make my kids go to bed by 10 pm on school nights.  Usually I will go in his room and remind him that bed time is coming and it’s time to brush his teeth. I give him a bedtime tea, and let him know he needs to wind down for bed. Most nights I will take his phone away or any electronics.  
Last night I fell asleep right after I told him to go to bed because I had really bad period cramps.  
This morning he didn’t want to get out of bed and kept asking if he could sleep in.  I told him that school is important and he couldn’t miss it just because he decided to go to bed late. While he was crying and complaining I managed to get him out the door.  While we were in the school drop off line...he wouldn’t get out!  He was crying and pleading...begging me to let him stay home and sleep. I explained to him that it’s important that he sleeps during normal hours and that school is his responsibility just like work is mine. He started to cry harder and told me he would have his dad pick him up from school so he could sleep. He also started to tell me that he hates me and I’m a horrible mom and that he wants to kill himself. 
He had threatened this before during a tantrum. I’ve taken him to therapy and the conclusion was that he uses the threat of suicide as a manipulation tactic.  He only says this when he’s extremely tired or he doesn’t like my discipline.  He doesn’t get any discipline at his dad’s house.  He tell me I’m “evil” and that he hates me and wants to live with his dad when I discipline him. I don’t have this issue with my other kids at all! 

Finally one of the school helpers came and encouraged him to come out of the car and put his shoes on.  I told him goodbye and drove off.  

Now I’m feeling confused and sad. Am I making a mistake?  Am I really a bad mom for making him go to school even though he was crying and screaming in the car?  Is there a better way that I could handle this situation? 

I texted his dad and let him know what happened. Hopefully he won’t coddle him and pick him up from school. It’s his day to kick him up today. 

All of this is ok to handle except the threats of suicide and crying.  I don’t know what to do anymore!  

In the past when he calm down he will sometimes apologize then tell me he was just frustrated and doesn’t really want to commit suicide.  There’s always a chance that he really does have these feelings.  I’m so confused. 

I will definitely have him back in therapy. 

Can someone please help me process this and share if you have similar experiences?  I’m at a loss!
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parenting,RocketteBlast,2019/04/04,"Son has been angry and upset over another kid picking on him I wrote a note to my sons teacher about how another student picks on him and he tells me a lot that this kid steals his snack and says mean things to him. Last night he was so upset he was just crying and saying how angry it makes him that he picks on him (he's only 5) we tried to console him and give him a little pep talk about how to deal with people like that.. 

 I guess I'm just checking in to see what other parents think about writing a note to the teacher to have her talk to this kids parents about his behavior.. I know kids are kids and my son has had his fair share of not ok behavior but seeing him angry and crying really made me think maybe this is more serious then we previously had thought. ",5.3250314465408835,4.897462257861637,5.8459119496855365,84.61654088050315,67.93081761006289,8.827672955974844,27.729559748427675,8.167268648758528,1.5623257861635227,605,16,130,7,9,196,93,159,0.145,0.825,0.03,-0.9519,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,5,1,10,1,0,8,0,31,23,13,0,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,10,10,1,0,5,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,8,4,21,3,19,15,2,9,0,0,2,0,39,6,0,2,4,83,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34126383941646177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35749273506707463,0.0,0.16776288915685764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15610116816551578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926053100401804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942970256749819,0.13264303590062418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949948052538007,0.16309374321023326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834343719050798,0.0,0.15397484293874458,0.10862056326412588,0.0,0.1634796793322894,0.17725582050921293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270689839120874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12376010783433745,0.0,0.0,0.36137491555564394,0.0,0.0,0.11281340217608575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10424614940953536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588117655870046,0.0,0.0,0.2593423785962184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615852544015005,0.14222929664326914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081076198656171,0.2085359142459371,0.0,0.1291859041978653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104799618342268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,axepack,2019/04/04,"Playset / Swingset recommendation for kids & parents? I know I could build my own playset for my kids, but with my job, 2nd job and school my time is extremely limited right now.  I've been looking at Rainbow and Gorilla playsets, but the one thing I cannot find is a recommendation for a playset with swings that is sturdy and tall enough for adults to swing on as well.  My kids love to go on the swings at the park which are some crazy industrial heavy-duty swings that even I can use.  What I need to find is a backyard set with the same sort of sturdiness made from redwood or cedar.  Thanks!",4.944224137931034,6.032916525862074,4.916724137931039,85.63818965517244,69.08620689655173,8.213793103448278,29.15517241379311,8.472884824447931,1.855262068965517,471,17,98,7,8,146,76,116,0.05,0.8440000000000001,0.106,0.8272,3,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,7,0,9,1,0,2,0,20,17,7,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,1,10,3,17,14,4,10,0,0,1,1,6,6,0,3,2,62,15,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374887866324819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750028099704577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264785380409721,0.0,0.14477080225682126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006654955387039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245688993251606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4350181199559373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12045932311237048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840616932091634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782462830397865,0.2073998327651332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252422148629353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852663602588811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24338098231271296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18718431414142644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22182872512444465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20179774011687399,0.0,0.0,0.1456179584458837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780957518957814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18930700462362152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19707524021823294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Derp_Stevenson,2019/04/04,"How do I get my 4 year old to finish potty training? Our first was easy. She took until after she turned 3, but she just decided she was ready and started using the potty on her own and was done.

Our second, not so much. It's like 50/50 whether she will tell us she needs to go to the potty to do #1 and go or just go in her pullup. And she won't ever go #2 in the potty. She finds someplace to hide under a table or wherever and goes, then comes and tells us ""I'm mad at poop, I need a new pull up.""

She knows to use it, it's as if she gets too distracted playing toys and what not and just doesn't want to commit to it. Our pediatrician told us make sure we're not punishing her for it, that she will be ready when she's ready, and that's what we've done, but we really want to get her finished with this.

Are things like ""you can use your tablet each day only after you've pooped in the potty"" punishment that we shouldn't use? 

We've considered just trying to make her sit on the potty often enough to annoy her into wanting to just go herself when needed, but she gets very angry when we do it and I don't want to work her little feelings up like that.",5.1252357320099255,3.8915825161290334,6.029032258064515,85.81547146401984,68.59677419354838,8.921091811414392,25.528535980148877,7.61054688173877,1.033048635235731,896,16,208,8,13,298,131,248,0.107,0.774,0.119,0.6384,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,9,2,0,2,13,10,4,1,7,0,17,2,2,7,3,55,47,25,0,9,15,0,1,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,14,17,0,0,4,2,0,8,7,5,0,2,7,1,36,5,29,35,4,36,0,0,0,0,35,11,0,4,19,143,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843884092129616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369870514386476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23388848856439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807787854027027,0.0,0.0,0.10336937933102568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057781488158617125,0.08163895116650326,0.0,0.0,0.10444639065300196,0.0972032905022597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388184240285835,0.0,0.32472903374514234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06280321944206682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674887596947122,0.11453478934171207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256052239353074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08400616716162998,0.254203097350957,0.0,0.11036868100281093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991366480907435,0.0,0.0,0.08691221134977309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320826984095254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088529348737515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770398067868876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19976489850083465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759200397502768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919582108290772,0.12696508015641114,0.07758604901754196,0.12429970719194605,0.0,0.0,0.41238065025974985,0.3947918366503496,0.0,0.09428984573766944,0.26961229071960663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319444588660935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359013607092584
parenting,BrobaFett87,2019/04/04,"How to get my 5 yo daughter to potty train through the night. Hello! I'd like to start out by saying that I've mostly been a lurker or Reddit, if you can't tell by my history, and apologize in advance for whatever errors or misunderstandings are in my post.

Our five year old daughter is completely potty trained during the day, with the exception of wiping after she poops but we're working on that, but she has a hard time making it through the night without wetting the bed. She's been in pull-ups at night and it would be a struggle to get her to take it off in the morning to get her to sit on the toilet, but she's recently wanted to try wearing underwear to bed again and I've decided to set an alarm around 1:30 am to get her to pee and then my wife takes her again around 5 am. My main question is: is this a good strategy? It's only been less than a week but she's only been successful one night, two nights I missed my alarm by an hour and the other time she went before that time. I know it's still early and I'm not going to give up, just wanted some advice or opinions to help everyone with the process.

Thanks in advance! ",3.4398923654568208,4.47733530212766,4.6139424280350445,86.60411764705883,72.57446808510639,7.571964956195245,25.73842302878598,7.928766900206844,1.339826032540676,896,28,189,12,17,295,137,235,0.064,0.8490000000000001,0.087,0.815,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,4,7,8,0,3,16,0,14,3,3,2,0,34,31,16,0,4,12,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,2,0,10,11,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,4,0,3,5,3,20,4,40,24,4,41,0,1,0,0,22,13,0,8,22,128,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378229913048693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255296657565567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778844357295216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328130604810886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169288596294116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104041369440967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26472332508328394,0.12151521372851655,0.07199055090808848,0.10624636650479374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347312729040185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849054938063248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247462897640728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961555476410487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188548414387634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455446628276997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5943649113551551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13292083389421078,0.0,0.0858361469833517,0.192679351875292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131664965750187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190150045268712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507320377239384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073456650053147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965901156668077,0.0,0.10116033029818504,0.0,0.0,0.1324249567115933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048298471661185,0.0,0.11071681002244683,0.1166224520062588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22159018292059454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600189436615714,0.0,0.12374002465430205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14942871843520936,0.0,0.1016085447220596,0.0,0.0,0.11742610566355348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210717600848475,0.0,0.09221864030443744,0.0,0.0,0.0899840720949135,0.0,0.0,0.08157254028146158
parenting,__WhoIsJohnGalt__,2019/04/04,"Advice for international travel with toddlers? Hi all, there's a good chance that my family will soon relocate to the other side of the world. This will mean that we'll have an international flight of about 20 hours. In economy class.

We have two kids - a daughter who will be about 2.5 years old and a son who will be about 9 months old.

I'm curious if anybody has any advice for getting through this trip in one piece please?",4.7238955823293205,6.075651530120485,5.017048192771085,83.73151606425706,69.8433734939759,8.424899598393575,25.88152610441768,8.841846274778883,1.6809453815261044,339,10,69,6,6,107,63,83,0.0,0.88,0.12,0.8343,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,1,6,13,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,12,6,2,12,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,6,45,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4829207235374252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680344563948598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329410925220574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909800167761434,0.0,0.0,0.20725326862619414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24334080451991666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26916110893408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972304950445462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185735418415771,0.0,0.16743934511657313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712383414151304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413778975522222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591223884603339
parenting,Cas_Castle,2019/04/04,"My(28) bf/bd(25) is a ghost in our home and I feel like a single parent. It's been this way since before our son (we'll call him Ollie) was born. The pregnancy was a nightmare. It was my first full-term pregnancy and let's just say he handled it dismally. There's a lot of emotional destruction to unpack there, but that's another story for a different thread.

Ollie is a little over a year old now, and he's silly and sweet and so easy on the eyes, but he's my first attempt at being a mother, and it's a lot to do alone when there's someone sleeping next to you every night who is supposed to be sharing that responsibility with you.
Don't get me wrong; I love him to absolute death, he's a good provider and we don't want for anything, although I rarely ask for much.
But I can't remember the last time he changed a diaper, he's never once gone on a walk with us, he's never been there for bed time, he's fed Ollie less times than I can count on one hand and participated in bath time less times than that. He works a standard 9-5, 6 days a week, and when he is home he's gaming, full set up with the headset and everything.

That fucking headset. It's like he puts that thing on and he's not even here anymore. Once, I told him that, and he got an attitude and made me feel bad for making him feel bad. That happens pretty much every single time I try to talk to him about it. 
He used to game to ""unwind"" because his job is stressful and he is admittedly doing much more work than he's being paid for, but we got into an argument about it then and I made a point about how no matter what I say, there'll alsays be a reason why he needs to do that instead of watch our son grow with me. But where was my time to unwind? I work a gruelling 24/7 on top of cleaning and cooking and making his coffee and shopping and laundry and all that. I don't remember the last time I had a moment to unwind, much less 4-6 hours at a time. (that's not an exaggeration.)
Now he games for money, which was pretty tight before, so as begrudgingly as I must admit this, it's helpful. But that's so bittersweet. It's now another 'reason', and one I can't refute.

I go shopping alone, after the baby goes to sleep of course, because God forbid dad has to handle a sleepy baby or go with us as a family to go grocery shopping for the next 2 weeks. Every single time, Ollie wakes up when or before I get home, and o times out of 10 he's crying his little baby heart out in his crib because dad's headset is so loud he can't hear Ollie screaming, or because he's ""right in the middle of a money game"".
Once I begged him for help to just pick him up for a minute or help me unload the car and he said that shit, so I'm running back and forth while Ollie screams and I'm cut short by him crying so hard he vomits all over himself. What the fuck, dad?

Ollie loves his dad so much, and it breaks my heart because he'll try to jump on him in the morning or wave him down from the game at night and dad just gets irate, because he's tired, because he worked all day yesterday, because he has to work today. Hey, I'M tired too. But i vant even run to the bathroom to change my tampon in the morning before I bleed all over the bed without being made to feel like a monster for waking him up to watcg Ollie for those crucial 40 seconds. 

That happened bit for bit this morning.

I haven't had a shower in almost a week because I've been asking dad to watch Ollie so i could go get a good scrub in and when I'm trying to work around h8s work/gaming schedule, it leaves small, almost nonexistent windows of time to do it, and I've had to go to the laundromat and fold everything and go shopping and do fucking everything.

There's no doubt in my mind that he loves me and Ollie, but it's almost like his life hasn't changed at all since we had the baby except for where his money goes. I feel like a single parent. I feel like if I actually was a single parent, this wouldn't be so frustrating, because I guess I just expected him to be as much a part of this as I am and now that he's abysmally NOT, I'm resentful. 

 I didn't ask for this, by the way. I wanted to work. I loved my job, but he made the point that Ollie needed his mother and we couldn't exactly trust anyone to care for him while i worked my full time bakery job until he can talk and tell us everything that happens to him while we're not there. I didn't want to be dependent on dad, but here the fuck we are. I've gained weight. I never get dressed anymore because I'm always inside, we live in tye ghetto and dad has the only car so it's hard to take Ollie anywhere outside of walks around the block. I'm Depressed as all get out and I have no family or friends here, no interaction with sociable adult people. It's been a year.

I don't know what I want out of this post. I just don't like the way this all panned out and I don't know what to do about any of it. I've tild him I'm unhappy, a zillion and a half times, but he's dismissive. It's not like he's exactly distant or apathetic or anything; he's very sweet to me most of the time and he does love our son. His priorities are just askew and he's complicated it far passed anything I can do to understand them, and all I've done is perpetuate this dynamic. It's drained me and it's killing me. I feel like shit inside and out.

SOS


Edit: sorry for the length of this. I've been putting off posting this for a long time because i didn't know how to say it so it all kind of just poured out.",4.233449296817174,4.122454442141623,5.413009622501853,85.71861139896373,70.20898100172711,8.206089316555639,26.732839871699976,7.760100539840176,1.3014406711078217,4276,118,949,46,70,1428,392,1158,0.116,0.7659999999999999,0.118,0.65,8,2,0,0,3,0,119.0,14,2,1,13,50,45,11,2,62,0,69,27,10,13,15,168,142,94,3,12,34,16,12,9,1,4,5,8,9,1,58,67,3,3,17,14,8,18,29,20,0,7,30,25,99,25,135,97,32,136,0,1,3,9,129,54,6,18,66,585,157,12,0.0,0.0,0.038522236282884606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858654882248272,0.08176909171538814,0.0,0.0,0.03284664418519935,0.0,0.0,0.0268445840511625,0.08278666930034738,0.0,0.0,0.07829785749961578,0.02760207473642266,0.0,0.0974545209470709,0.07028284157997199,0.11071233899737457,0.0,0.0,0.03035409887008495,0.06592051802427665,0.2887656016288246,0.0,0.1343624232914344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619369189334683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04030873452244176,0.0,0.04024773880019032,0.0,0.12527902262234153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031517845894382585,0.0,0.0867236121057571,0.05091665562562196,0.0,0.03400005146480544,0.0,0.0,0.04124332714860282,0.0,0.0,0.034545135003642174,0.04039697713746618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0444044429148464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05214617795344983,0.0,0.09977902648963377,0.0,0.14191155651621068,0.0,0.07442767241123144,0.0,0.13971942179008726,0.14100594963193386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715540603487606,0.0,0.0,0.03049854883419922,0.14597725849448706,0.12374541143138475,0.0,0.1346084684980559,0.06622008258163678,0.06314406915864737,0.0,0.043486536177434934,0.0,0.10472373519504448,0.0,0.07072429963642997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04449157580802672,0.09355693308909352,0.07937846247997285,0.0,0.11879095031687953,0.0,0.03887525701670453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11751954784340148,0.0,0.043673613624361014,0.04110749073157788,0.06508384150582906,0.06435533965084599,0.0,0.041798684000419625,0.0,0.040366208459204224,0.02788259921902221,0.1735709090524261,0.0791293200427496,0.0348574473822828,0.03493443262168169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712104279285969,0.17814017243639824,0.1494100801859277,0.052700190360285115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039858839034037724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17411349665292816,0.05854092706024799,0.09133744458040301,0.0,0.08396494130386978,0.07408986266234291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04142272760404244,0.12611984245948107,0.05349902240158585,0.030022773984422317,0.0,0.0,0.13149807643860906,0.042747945076899926,0.0,0.02736722951534661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463390944653146,0.0,0.07561292515810222,0.08032122240048928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936723731181551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117444578993459,0.0,0.0,0.08943572720638844,0.033711723645758015,0.037550086960587516,0.09417712151393336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104173600502512,0.06530881636479131,0.0,0.0790076948354976,0.0,0.03344732646306735,0.0,0.0,0.044189409893200776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04521886722234652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029680542011198012,0.06345756405663776,0.03450318605733693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02622566103096708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36829420010630864,0.09074218978773617,0.037418005452347664,0.037720377902041684,0.0,0.08040349144806526,0.0,0.0,0.04109521986357171,0.14245191631900528,0.0340940182586879,0.0,0.03257128870206208,0.09313431038040486,0.09400105954139458,0.09499420700929756,0.04807032794041604,0.0,0.0,0.035620353270978844,0.0,0.0,0.038052817922613315,0.0,0.2586466511598548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04316008603548265,0.0,0.05084164787497514
parenting,AndTwiceOnSundays,2019/04/04,"We moved to a new state, and we things were going OK, but we but now my 14 year old has issues with boys picking with/testing him... So, I am mother of 2 kids, and I a girl, 16, and a boy, l4. So, I recently separated, I moved out of state. Things were going well until now, my son has a boy who has been instigating problems with him.

My son is a good kid, and I never been in trouble. So I told him always treat people how you want to be treated, and but if someone hurts you you better defend yourself.

And now, you this kid knocked my sons notebook off his desk twice, and so my son picked the notebook up and hit him with it. Thos got him detention.

Now, I get a text from him that the boy pushed him so my son punched him. Now my son has iss.

I don't want to be breeding a trouble maker, but I but I don't want my son to be bullied. What do I do? ",1.5496350931677014,2.4316012771739146,3.452018633540373,93.7221739130435,76.98913043478261,6.126708074534163,22.92546583850932,6.18269132825596,0.22177919254658374,641,18,157,4,14,217,95,184,0.087,0.777,0.136,0.6587,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,4,0,1,13,10,0,0,9,1,17,0,0,4,1,30,26,21,0,5,6,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,7,15,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,4,1,1,6,0,35,6,15,16,0,22,0,1,0,0,34,4,0,1,11,111,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024868729779072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18095749110540935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10689825590976336,0.0,0.2325647528531632,0.17161391082616212,0.16364220990564154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903508940410496,0.0,0.0,0.2135556369662412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43492786252799065,0.0,0.0,0.15780485776337094,0.19760987125263715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214699710543334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184812529690807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195780429703505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020238653334987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17336210639514113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27186243677525146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955099213786005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3620459824277944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18396547927743376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175963672220867
parenting,COWimbly07,2019/04/04,To all the single parents out there As a single parent myself I know how hard it can be especially if the other parent isn’t in your kiddo’s life for any multitude of reasons. Just know as long as you’re doing your best I’m proud of you. And more importantly I’m sure your kiddos are proud of you too. ,4.232500000000002,4.39943225,5.9531250000000036,80.87937500000002,70.25,8.275,23.8125,8.07648339933343,1.165825,240,5,50,3,4,83,48,64,0.021,0.75,0.229,0.9344,3,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,5,0,3,4,4,0,0,3,0,5,1,0,2,2,10,9,6,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,7,4,10,8,5,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,1,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074006201754976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480562823548484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21174156187410226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25980611706875023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669554916229752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091804758626482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7873844840227721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24302826644000985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22277642182651253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stopte11ingme,2019/04/04,"What are some things you can tell an overweight child to help him understand? Serious please. Besides the obvious ""don't buy your kids junk food,"" ""give them healthier meal options,"" ""sign them up for sports,"" kind of advice, what are some things you can advise a pre-teen child that he/she will be able to understand about the severity of their weight and their food choices?  Telling a child things like ""at 20 you can have a heart attack"" is too obscure for them to really grasp.  What are some ways to really get through to them so they stop their destructive patterns now?  Serious only please.  ",5.734885321100914,7.4350820642201905,4.77145642201835,85.12122133027525,67.80733944954129,9.119724770642202,28.303899082568808,9.516144504307137,2.4121825688073395,471,16,89,10,8,139,76,109,0.129,0.7879999999999999,0.083,-0.6617,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,4,8,0,4,6,2,0,6,0,11,6,1,0,1,12,15,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,7,1,5,1,3,1,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,13,2,13,13,3,5,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,5,3,57,20,1,0.1667623025088682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629581919773064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18971619369149104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4032992762763026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712642020067272,0.1599735961121595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976141314021901,0.111777256173224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365727598848232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147163751656747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683024565514586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661098607503232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21366440235996728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18839393483279354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394207520190217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29151520547753595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323683913503778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347210876200407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236815358528642,0.0,0.2030715584299363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,impossibleoctophant,2019/04/04,"Brave little dude My son, now six, had some rough allergy/asthma/eczema issues as a tiny fella. He had an allergy panel done sometime in his first year, showed a reaction to peanuts and some other stuff. He hasn't had any major reactions since babyhood (we went to one of those peanuts-on-the-floor places and found out the hard way, FYI those are dumb places to take your baby...) 

We take all the precautions, epi-pens around just in case (haven't had to use one yet, thankfully) no peanut exposure, yadda yadda yadda...

A couple of days ago he mistakenly took a big bite of a peanut Cliff bar and freaked the fuck out when he realized it. He hadn't swallowed yet, started hollering and spitting it all over the living room, just assuming he has just taken a big bite of his fate, like, this is the big one, Elizabeth, death is certainly imminent. 

He was totally fine, no reaction at all.

We have discussed before this (in an informative, no-pressure way) what an allergy panel is and how they suck to get done (what with the stabbing and whatnot) but that they could tell him if he had grown out of any of his allergies.

He came home from school yesterday (after thinking about his Cliff bar brush with death all day, I guess) and asked me to schedule an appointment to get a poky panel done. 

I reminded him that the procedure sucks, for the sake of full disclosure.

He said, ""I know. I just wanna know, you know? But can you schedule it on a Saturday so I don't miss school?""

He's awesome.
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parenting,Lyndatee,2019/04/04,"4 year old out of night diapers So ever since we made the decision to stop night diapers, our now 4 yeae old's sleep has become crap. His diapers were 99% dry before anyways! But now he pees in bed like every other day, or he will wake to pee then have a really hard time going back to sleep (and I have to lie with him which results in me not sleeping). Tried limiting fluids an hour before bed - didnt work. Tried rewards - didnt work. I miss sleep.",2.9575155279503065,4.1891654347826135,4.4139751552795055,86.8254347826087,74.0,7.86583850931677,22.92546583850932,8.418075326091056,1.2230291925465837,348,9,74,6,7,116,71,92,0.102,0.8540000000000001,0.043,-0.6592,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,4,6,4,1,0,3,0,7,8,8,2,1,13,10,5,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,4,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,1,7,2,9,5,0,18,0,1,0,0,6,3,1,1,15,39,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12106196353556245,0.0,0.0,0.17388057266166493,0.26794040005398306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101536045149684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241387208040493,0.1326503428548677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947701799481303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14103569044017736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550470981706574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0769174358094431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897393064384865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29549433473128445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33041446957177195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008603635218686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130236341048114,0.0,0.6302164799647757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162723950094482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180477407363134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21378341887154698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292369994087725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138646756524386
parenting,redlat,2019/04/04,How to get a teenager to care. My 15 year old is failing 5 of his 7 classes in 9th grade. He is already a year behind in school. Currently his in a three day school suspension for disruptive behavior during class. He does not care at all about school and the non stop punishment has no effect. Any suggestions to get him to care about his education and future?,3.5797619047619023,5.602536785714285,4.637142857142859,82.59619047619049,74.0,8.666666666666666,27.380952380952376,9.2995712137729,2.4795238095238097,285,11,55,7,6,93,51,70,0.165,0.7140000000000001,0.12,-0.3818,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,3,5,1,0,4,0,3,0,0,2,1,7,8,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,5,3,13,8,1,11,0,1,0,0,7,4,0,0,7,32,5,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21647501727944574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340019736168834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6000155885158407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12651140163896396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716669484835051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049781845019275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20584412956845294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5955940310153133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400428575471218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526500633345236
parenting,Harryplayzone,2019/04/04,Toy Cars Slimed When Crashing into Truck - Tonka Toys Harry rescues the Mustang GT from slime - car crash,5.050000000000002,8.351025111111113,3.653333333333337,84.90000000000002,75.66666666666667,3.6,25.66666666666667,3.1291,0.6114666666666668,84,3,12,0,2,24,18,18,0.118,0.657,0.225,0.34700000000000003,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Maaijke,2019/04/04,"16month adorable Recently I had to go out of town for four days with just my 16 month old. Due to a family emergency that I had to deal with and such short notice DH wasn’t able to travel with us. 

The trip was a 4 days 6hr drive to ILs the first day. ILs watch LO I travel 3hrs to family and then 3hrs back to LO and back home 6hrs the last day 

LO did AMAZING slept three hours then “talked” to me the last 3hrs. We got to ILs no one was home so let ourselves in. ILs have a phot from DH&my wedding. LO loves to pack around the photo when we went to it I asked if LO could find daddy LO began to kiss his face. LO kisses Daddy’s face the whole 4 days we were there. 

The first morning LO woke up and I was trying words out and when I got to Dada it was an excited “DADA” then looked over me to see dada was not in the bed next to me and excitement turned to a few sad “dada ☹️”",-0.08339378238342121,1.7583334455958592,1.8688367875647671,98.8516489637306,85.01036269430053,5.1035233160621765,15.349481865284975,6.2581,-0.7671676683937823,677,11,168,6,20,224,112,193,0.04,0.8440000000000001,0.116,0.9454,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,4,0,0,2,9,8,0,0,13,0,13,6,3,0,0,21,25,13,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,15,0,0,1,2,0,6,3,1,0,5,16,3,15,7,29,7,2,38,0,1,3,3,10,9,0,1,23,100,18,0,0.14035201817964582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207135305919242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494305253571415,0.13121019086819416,0.0,0.0,0.2158440771341845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120596659687861,0.0,0.0,0.4525772034655322,0.14469676790677752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646227834600628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827920192499948,0.23876670992948998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976528634502092,0.0,0.22450466067825686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2815690356765302,0.0,0.13821846614584307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22881125470148025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435194477288507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786034671186077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667317611577394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11202764187463374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926596359298394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979170294443978,0.14727583332883548,0.0,0.09510615985730828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858068575876445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184238705212682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280963577284114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528980739554277,0.15266269268286745,0.0,0.0,0.16882619678191374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301077269792313,0.0,0.15669801603804662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kidzwitgunz,2019/04/04,Breaking up when children involved never easy So my ex and I have been rocky for the last few years and it blows but it is what it is now she’s 5 years younger than me I’m 28 she’s 23 well she’s all about snapchat and social media I’m more about marijuana money investing tryna find my life now anyways she’s found a new thing where she likes to come home from work at 2am and go through my phone then wake me up snapping about what’s been said whether the finds it truth or she don’t wanna believe it either way she beats me up like usual when this happens and I go get my dose from the methadone clinic then I’m not so angry but this is the 2nd time she’s hit me or done something abusive in front our child whose 3 and he’s the most sweetest boy ever she’s suppose to be moving to an apartment in like 40 some days should I kick her out now and make her live off her money she saved up for her apartment and stop caring or live through because I’m scared of losing my son as a father it’s hard to sometimes get people to listen that we can be abused too ,1.6335589519650642,3.2601950960698716,2.633578602620087,96.57482205240177,78.38864628820959,4.929344978165938,21.493668122270737,4.935628992294339,-0.25911895196506585,843,23,194,2,20,267,142,229,0.097,0.787,0.116,0.6999,0,0,2,0,2,0,0.0,2,0,0,3,15,9,0,1,8,0,12,4,1,1,4,33,28,21,0,2,8,3,1,3,0,1,3,2,1,3,13,11,0,1,3,0,3,5,3,2,1,0,5,3,28,7,27,19,6,36,0,1,0,0,29,12,0,5,20,124,41,1,0.0,0.3616222259927474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302615021364352,0.0,0.0,0.17193276106090996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559022989996985,0.0,0.0,0.1314550712477749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984171333681316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15616715739698814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803930438049827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2789550871660653,0.0,0.0,0.16732271189386608,0.0,0.0,0.159458871377096,0.0,0.17345705360882144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494745726272936,0.0,0.13670345674046236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307453139662908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243928527423064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778891316686516,0.2236642227073059,0.0,0.26950474305452593,0.0,0.0,0.17072515015575196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10186453920599088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219419460807102,0.0,0.0,0.11769782538833755,0.14738616067561489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057965902918721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516161248129658,0.0,0.15278350228374685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155560841448492,0.0,0.11748222721713868,0.15092953102207113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12758400788356689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138350006056866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898478053302321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680720502184873,0.0,0.0,0.12113017112584698,0.0,0.0,0.13720957113972368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109773041910563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965443008023916
parenting,TataNech,2019/04/04,"The baby doesn't move Hey, mommies. I'm a newbie here and I'm extremely worried that the baby still doesn't move. This is my second pregnancy, with the first son I felt movements since 17 weeks. Now 19 weeks already and still nothing, plus with the second child, the stirring is usually felt even more than with the first. I'm getting nervous that something is wrong. Is it normal? When did you start feeling the baby move? ",3.2284259259259267,5.740079296296301,3.509367283950617,87.93590277777781,77.0246913580247,5.531481481481482,26.174382716049386,6.6274283507984215,1.1535790123456788,337,13,61,3,8,104,52,81,0.101,0.88,0.019,-0.7617,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,2,6,2,0,1,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,15,4,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,3,0,0,4,2,2,0,4,3,3,3,0,5,12,1,14,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,10,40,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977080598351062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833381634364945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058892875281883,0.0,0.3440443400154306,0.0,0.0,0.3047876487250203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360396334807554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5712577537863545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17553924438857,0.17190932562887348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820341172906742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792650099068576,0.0,0.0,0.12681071952948525,0.0,0.2861556032973372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19731997213604893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28742348240066085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18194617794456602,0.0,0.0,0.1958838747053764,0.0,0.0
parenting,tashamazing92,2019/04/04,"Should we have another child? Hey everyone.

So my partner and I are considering having another child. We currently have one beautiful little girl. As much as I'm broody and love the idea of another, I can't decide if we should take the plunge or not. It seems very final for me as I have a health condition that will only get better with a hysterectomy, so if we decide not to have another, then there would be no going back after the surgery. 
We can afford it, and our relationship is perfect, I love my hubby dearly, and our daughter just as much. He has said he's willing to see what happens for until Christmas, if we're not pregnant by then to take the hint and leave our family at three, which I totally agree with. 

So I'm asking for advice and experience from my fellow redditors. How many children do you have? If you're thinking of having another, what made you finally decide yes or no? If not what influenced your decision? Do you regret having as many as you have?",5.077960927960927,6.181261248677252,6.312804232804236,75.69750915750916,68.78835978835978,9.836548636548637,29.353276353276357,10.035473477838034,2.9830265364265363,772,28,141,19,13,260,112,189,0.042,0.818,0.14,0.9711,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,8,5,0,2,7,6,0,0,6,1,22,3,0,3,2,41,37,26,0,9,12,1,0,0,2,5,1,1,0,5,7,13,0,0,7,0,0,1,7,1,0,2,2,2,22,5,21,29,3,11,0,1,1,2,28,2,0,8,8,111,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311403145675975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6605471012563189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177817881648019,0.0,0.0,0.0968770078049181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142616216311586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038694873007524,0.0,0.12324045520528702,0.11877028917815766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27602742735419683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658235385846344,0.0,0.07160189309252334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114107867855817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13391936992572845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422251351566979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13340311809205835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627309063248535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22741820733144516,0.119212907342891,0.0,0.2554641479764592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523137678352586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537274048121685,0.09581956367944168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526397987204392,0.0,0.0,0.11984345452407133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003961373156768,0.11469475831542512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894546178016704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08072803371053289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395330802969996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894982720495615,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Pumber22,2019/04/04,"3yo Child Running Amok Hey all. My nephew (sis in law's son) is 3yo at the moment and every time we go over to their place he literally runs amok like he is a king and is completely unchallenged.

Random shouting, sprinting around smashing into things, screeching, demanding people play with him (then proceeding to have a tantrum if they say no, until they do) and literally just being incredibly unchallenged by his parents and LOVES being the centre of attention as the only small child (other son is 14 and totally neglected) and they are all just too happy to indulge him as that centre of attention even when he is screaming, jumping on things and being generally crazy.

I know kids at that age can be tough but he literally.has no discipline being instilled in him at all, just ignores his parents, and is an absolute nightmare.

Surely this isn't normal and his parents should be doing more?

I can see him turning into a rude and spoilt 10 year old in no time at all...",8.901500000000002,8.101188816666669,8.664444444444445,68.56500000000003,60.83333333333334,11.555555555555555,37.77777777777778,10.746095033038511,4.133111111111111,777,32,130,16,9,251,115,180,0.114,0.8220000000000001,0.064,-0.7638,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,4,1,7,11,2,0,7,0,20,1,0,0,6,37,25,17,0,3,5,7,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,6,15,0,3,3,1,0,4,4,6,0,0,0,4,15,5,22,18,6,28,0,1,1,1,29,14,0,2,11,98,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812416657495174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980146162035672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473930352570088,0.0,0.1591214896184092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733267689722666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201043458299842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379173033495066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226675710154658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704522318740294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850412989543807,0.0,0.0,0.19817529852621704,0.0,0.0,0.14363545186646276,0.0,0.0,0.6291152722473421,0.0,0.0,0.1309307520953795,0.0,0.19731700790005807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018791413872826,0.0,0.0,0.15049582773333608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799696604590678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509384825422301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202499004568788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20542389075261736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12161872633665888
parenting,Luigodeez,2019/04/04,"Help! Is my 15 years old son turning a emo!? For the past year my son and I have been drifting further apart. He  seems to have adopted a style frequently referred to as 'emo' in the  media. Many things worry me about this. I think he will get bullied and  won't be able to fight back, as he is getting increasingly skinny and  doesn't seem to care as I caught him last week taking topless photos in  the bathroom. His voice has also seemed to have taken on a bit of a  higher pitch and I'm worried he may be turning gay. And not to forget  the 'suicide chain' of the emo teenagers in Wales.  
 

Has anyone else had experience with emo teenagers? What should I do? ",2.861186675919498,4.605790885496186,3.5568355308813326,90.77322692574604,75.25954198473283,5.6796668979875085,24.88619014573213,6.11248444174946,0.5965053435114499,510,17,106,3,11,161,90,131,0.147,0.821,0.032,-0.9492,0,0,0,0,1,1,12.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,9,0,17,2,1,0,0,15,30,9,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,3,6,1,0,5,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,4,1,9,1,18,20,2,17,0,0,0,1,10,6,0,4,8,64,12,0,0.17116136861373465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687768464150435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968000863476826,0.17537504905951692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13161252730319933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868638841203872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17451042260894034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14298336052966198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674286617958603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788495013514154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472585745498225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951936002374776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353076293523492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960506391882772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16339289365436102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4674566448435374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722275664915786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12869204790238006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137120078331268,0.109673293814528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723488376549329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729532560733818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34764535639559063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044461928268355
parenting,teachermom40somethin,2019/04/04,"Hope to all the hard parents 
I’m the divorced parent of a 9 and 12 year old . Always up against Disneyland dad . I made peace a long time ago with the fact they will always hate me for the chores , homework and behavior rules I enforce. Tonite my 12 year old told me I am such a good mom . This, after I made them earn time for electronics by hanging up clothes and doing dishes . I said I was sorry I am not always fun mom . My 12 year old said it’s okay mom you are doing it for a good reason , to teach us about life . My heart be still as fall asleep . Maybe I’m not as horrible as I feel ...
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parenting,daddypav,2019/04/04,"Red Lipstick on 1st Graders My seven-year-old girl attends a foreign language immersion school. Friday is International Festival; each grade level and language section performs songs in their language, walks a super-cute parade of nations, and unveils their second-half projects/art. It’s a blast for the kids and parents, and the kids especially await this particular event in earnest. This year, the first-grade French girls outfit/costume includes red lipstick. 

This makes me uncomfortable, but as a dad, I feel like I don’t really have an expert frame of reference beyond my gut and my observations. I anticipate some will snap at the notion that “hey, it’s just a costume“. But if we follow that statement through, it’s a costume portraying a French female, because their class is doing France as their Francophone country. Is this to say all French Seven-year-olds wear red lipstick? Or all French women wear red lipstick? Maybe they do. Thoughts?",7.305883534136548,9.298943343373498,6.36765060240964,74.04838353413656,64.36144578313252,8.424899598393575,36.122489959839356,8.841846274778883,3.403174297188756,769,37,118,12,12,233,111,166,0.012,0.925,0.063,0.764,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,5,1,2,2,0,0,12,0,8,3,3,1,2,20,12,11,0,1,5,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,5,9,7,0,0,4,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,1,7,13,2,12,10,5,13,0,0,4,0,15,8,0,3,3,69,22,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423245882990005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279293844305867,0.18075029046706795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21521005281908945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360783479054767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168886042400264,0.0,0.25418240548208576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5309825625026869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809375015047408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16208459135340986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20120359121287146,0.0,0.2560594801050243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008615628407706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4887901527496053
parenting,zakishaheen,2019/04/04,"Sleep training advice My 8mo is a happy, healthy girl. She doesn’t really have a sleeping routine or preference. It wasn’t a big issue since mom was at home for first 5 months and I took parental leave for next 3 months. Now we’d like her to have a better sleep hygiene. She sleep better in her car seat which we detach from car but if we put her to sleep after a good meal to bed, she is usually awoken after 30-40minutes. At night she wales up 2-3 times one of which is for a diaper change. 

What are some sleep training tricks?  

We do not want to use a pacifier ",1.6010023310023342,3.5297460854700917,2.879549339549339,93.36216783216786,79.59829059829059,5.963947163947164,20.03807303807304,6.980632752743323,0.23869914529914515,440,11,97,5,11,142,81,117,0.038,0.8390000000000001,0.124,0.8597,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,0,3,1,6,1,0,7,0,11,7,6,1,0,12,14,4,0,3,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,4,1,0,1,0,0,4,3,1,0,2,3,0,13,5,15,10,1,19,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,3,11,58,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523849692035796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266978816596373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355784822309123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090145959781631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749626834999226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364309125707664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855701145818227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13376790930561872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13570513284837338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06261351638975032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010187389423826,0.20459549190850013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630182129816729,0.1202714259521908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684593924287694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230881792217706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12883828451513174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210390736501101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601699327262376,0.0,0.7695277959172572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473233689637553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239278161333946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069088388246053,0.14115241959979027,0.0,0.07559331271522568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spinlynn22,2019/04/04,4 year old sleep pattern We got motion based camera several weeks ago and noticed every 15 minutes (that's the timer minimum for notifications)  every night we get a notification of motion. Every time it's a clip of her tossing and turning. Every. Single. Night. All. Night. Long. Should I be concerned????,1.9578787878787869,4.304828592592592,3.806026936026935,76.51893939393942,105.66666666666669,4.926599326599328,23.42760942760943,6.574015621080383,1.6009851851851855,240,10,36,4,11,80,43,54,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,6,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,3,2,2,11,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,9,18,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454592088671374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6255903965959767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698173020150556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148461773445993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427284115357493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5225912370765454,0.0,0.0,0.21133600994666912,0.194782872976258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20970412553932669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18575968649862448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823979754987033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20190738157743887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488976835313201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953681967298163
parenting,Thlimshady,2019/04/05,"Are We Stressing Our Son Out? Our son is 4 and he’s a happy, fun, bubbly little boy.

2 months ago, my MIL was seen for what we thought was a gastroesophageal issue. It turned out to be Stage IV Metastatic Breast Cancer. A trip to the GI doc turned into a 4 week stay in the hospital. She’s now been in home hospice for 3 weeks. Needless to say, things have been hectic. 

It started out light in the beginning with my Wife being away every other night to stay with her Mom. As the severity of the situation became more apparent, family started pouring in from out of town. Soon, my Wife was gone more (this is significant because he’s very attached to my Wife, *especially* at bedtime), he was missing stretches of Pre-K to spend time with/help occupy his similarly-aged cousin, which lead to late nights. 

Now that we’re nearing the end of my MIL’s life, my Wife is spending more time away, we’re spending a lot of time over there, people are tired and emotionally drained, and routines are definitely off. My son is, by no means being deprived, neglected, mistreated, or any of the above, but our routines are *very* off.

He’s been complaining on and off the last couple of weeks about a stomach ache. His eating habits haven’t changed, his energy levels aren’t off, his bowel movements haven’t changed. Sometimes I’ll even ask him if he’s fibbing and he’ll laugh and say yes, but sometimes he persists. He’s also been telling his teachers he isn’t feeling well, despite acting totally fine. I asked him about it one day and he told me he just wanted to come home and play with our Nintendo Switch.

I can’t help but think the stomach stuff is stemming from all that’s been going on. We’ve been trying to keep things as normal as possible for him, but all things considered, it’s hard to do that sometimes. Is this hurting our son?",4.253968997086972,5.78843317134832,4.733121098626718,84.61271119434045,71.21910112359551,7.633624635871827,28.35372451102788,8.167268648758528,1.857259592176446,1443,54,281,21,27,458,195,356,0.08199999999999999,0.833,0.085,0.6359,3,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,7,0,0,2,10,12,0,1,15,1,30,9,4,1,3,39,50,18,0,3,7,10,2,0,0,1,4,2,2,1,16,19,1,2,4,2,3,7,6,6,1,1,14,6,27,6,51,32,7,54,0,4,1,1,47,24,0,3,20,170,43,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062842883185668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817602424415437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695258142521103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911587455127608,0.0,0.1921132271119922,0.0,0.0,0.06232375570611955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163099526252398,0.08806957751085441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312516447155095,0.0,0.06593549623676065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046157024899506,0.0,0.11500476387274675,0.09055313216643908,0.0,0.0,0.06752768967176527,0.0,0.08614050477560242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638153672669973,0.0,0.05169495295202062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058104602898175026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883498527641737,0.09158578337927507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705687591663285,0.0,0.20510748166364612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944863083897603,0.0,0.0,0.1067106285914684,0.0,0.09087444412941856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333817693298225,0.11532969409406645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221420940898599,0.0,0.10247002517719687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691967707024728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136790432831324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974071658260338,0.08160594593227935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19188816707343787,0.10017220762882688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06927958144319005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087943371566087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525875990060995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626086176811173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550061718194908,0.0,0.0,0.11492056976844485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30335003217877443,0.0,0.14473014020898525,0.21794567779686874,0.0,0.0,0.1171140725145845,0.0,0.11703883820671795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936112030480604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376852559935987,0.0655104235224585,0.0,0.0811660986812375,0.1788486047449944,0.11750833277930188,0.0,0.09769344842663663,0.0,0.06941335852556878,0.2224126695248264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871525101193444,0.06030302752750241,0.0,0.2460291274756753,0.0,0.09192485954341248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,acehighdiamond,2019/04/05,"New to this sub and fairly new to parenting tbh. I am a step father to 2 boys 11 and 13. The 13 year old was put on ADHD  meds at a young age. In the past few years since I have been in the picture we have taken him off of the meds. He sleeps much better and other bowel problems have cleared up.  His behavior has become way worse at school as of late. I don't know if it is because he is behind in class, he is newly off of his meds (3 months) or if I am just a terrible father. I catch my self yelling at him out of frustration more lately. I don't know honestly what any of you all can do maybe I just needed to vent but thanks for reading ",2.1559285714285714,2.7912941642857163,3.9457142857142884,91.70928571428571,75.21428571428571,7.028571428571429,21.857142857142854,7.1686216300943375,0.4198,493,11,118,5,10,167,95,140,0.07200000000000001,0.877,0.052000000000000005,-0.1877,2,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,1,0,1,2,6,1,0,7,0,15,2,2,0,2,17,20,8,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,2,1,0,3,2,3,0,0,3,1,14,3,23,17,4,26,0,0,0,0,14,11,0,3,11,76,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847930756950529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456401677639482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373241158444706,0.16981899707413753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599075325352322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16900809196415978,0.0,0.3469024044605825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447545885557035,0.0,0.5123876185073192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273204695703975,0.0,0.11303339344176537,0.11401321152093613,0.0,0.2970102544837344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16134825467431893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707354581540496,0.0,0.1467840474098912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471302897992169,0.0,0.15457414273866169,0.0,0.0,0.1538044692711184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556162221713263,0.0,0.0,0.16040819622212588,0.0,0.0,0.12719422578869874,0.0,0.15387390455553546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156418174464167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220498002893514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669748950461956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803647958211676
parenting,sadandtiredandhungry,2019/04/05,"TL;DR New mom w no example need advice please Hey guys, so my 11 month old has started throwing tantrums and I have no idea how to ""discipline"" my son right now because hes just so young and sweet. But I know I can't let him throw tantrums. Alongside the tantrums hes also taken up biting and I don't know what to do about that obviously hes teething but I just tell him ""don't bite"" and he smiles and shakes his head and I'm like ""yes you're right no biting"" but really he just bites my leg or arm again right away. I try to be as consistent w telling him what he can and can't do as possible but he sees his dad 3 days a week and im not sure how hes doing things. 
Anyways sorry for the long not well formatted post I'm just trying to get advice on this. Thank you(: ",-0.14131106208635202,1.922983000000002,1.7576552158840248,98.11607942010721,87.26347305389221,5.192436180271037,18.370312007563818,6.5966054737557815,-0.1909089820359285,599,16,145,7,19,197,103,167,0.105,0.784,0.112,0.7336,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,0,14,9,3,1,3,1,16,4,4,2,2,28,26,20,0,1,11,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,1,3,0,0,3,9,4,1,0,1,2,19,5,11,23,0,20,0,0,1,0,21,6,0,1,11,81,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30889710791136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639573848437965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484969496684086,0.0,0.0,0.09634826038128756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10193176402501436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257669926285639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564983238095778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622090177077817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784237442408685,0.17072545812449658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372470606324816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162093855895834,0.0,0.07721720798539239,0.0,0.0,0.13987282937527082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851109518165612,0.12615720664235416,0.0,0.0,0.11719504923469501,0.0,0.15264955233297134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585110092277888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349584545487978,0.0,0.1781821535674539,0.15137205595605338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10125344904690994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049317949869488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594858642565218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692852942885545,0.11187144513264914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489640384001881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2762923507912288,0.14551490154617802,0.0,0.0,0.1050040643385598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146166021411476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267813969533708,0.0,0.14210954077551435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stahpitmeow,2019/04/05,"Middle School Woes My oldest son started middle school this year.  He’s always been an A/B student, but starting in second quarter of this year he’s making low Cs in core classes.  Electives are still As.  How hard should I be on him?  His dad feels this is unacceptable.  I don’t want to set low standards but I also consider other factors...
(1) He started school in a new county this year and had to make all new friends (which he now has).  (2) His dad moved in with his gf in the summer (who had two boys) and moved out in October.  Dad and I share custody.  (3) Middle school is a lot more responsibility.  This is a big part of his low marks- assignments will be late or missing because it’s up to him to turn them in.  
I’ve started checking his binder every night and that helps.  I also have an app that tells me when an assignment is missing.  So tell me; should I be harder on him or save it for next year?  ",1.0628804347826062,3.3202299619565245,2.748000000000001,91.74700000000001,83.61956521739131,4.984347826086957,21.156521739130433,6.2581,0.2147617391304344,699,22,148,6,20,230,114,184,0.111,0.8059999999999999,0.083,-0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,0,7,9,0,0,7,0,17,0,0,3,1,22,28,14,0,3,4,4,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,6,0,3,3,2,18,3,20,19,4,39,0,6,0,0,25,18,0,3,18,96,30,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20846166490384646,0.10845122113323136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945251560896044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981494492276343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590254405867904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069841062639807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675677758916288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736246275360766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470263500067874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11080826116632002,0.0,0.0,0.17400255460806005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770562201958245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517614929722543,0.13861538435162227,0.12231289190487706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14114278519250098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5276339363117944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690141453690453,0.0,0.10408767668175914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22784139772740455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417697465183143,0.127320775256909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687642026082209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3357322449975781
parenting,dontcare0090,2019/04/05,4year old daughter constantly throwing massive tantrum As the title says my 4 year old losses her mind on a daily basis for at least 30 minutes a time sometimes for hours. She screams and carries on. Anything and everything is possible to set her off it has been going on for over a year now. I have tried quite a few different things but nothing seems to curb the behavior. I’m curious how common this is and any advice would be appreciated.,5.475357142857142,6.935189154761907,6.024761904761906,76.80357142857143,68.16666666666667,8.933333333333335,34.23809523809524,9.2995712137729,3.289609523809524,355,17,62,7,6,115,68,84,0.063,0.85,0.087,0.6187,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,2,2,3,1,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,9,10,6,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,2,5,0,12,7,2,18,0,1,0,0,5,6,0,1,9,41,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21300509472454088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823217789948515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937691340399986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355562445523149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22774009816678875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590412586959816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388163916138233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21466393381270546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22009514125083127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20915529455565046,0.0,0.4574614466427863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457368847218166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318459075303009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733444606394173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984385335311352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155853257260907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448145683339638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12710443586464973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14799241720855572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484496519225036,0.0,0.0,0.2807407325866141
parenting,Speckledlillie,2019/04/05,"Barking Spiders My 2 year old asked me what sound a fly makes, so I buzzed. I told him hummingbirds buzz too! He asked what sound a spider makes, and I told him I don’t think they make sounds. He put his lips together and spit trumpeted over and over. I asked him what he was, and he told me a spider.
I call farts barking spiders.",1.1589075630252097,3.289356235294118,2.080924369747901,97.44558823529414,82.23529411764707,5.650420168067227,20.00840336134453,6.868970318607317,0.10084621848739506,256,7,59,3,7,80,40,68,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,2,2,3,0,8,12,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,3,14,0,2,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,0,2,30,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.571616585737576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20811719282407096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081428929369045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138688274440835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048896700334358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059597674063542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5842599070083999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124972986188355
parenting,crazyfroglovesme,2019/04/05,"Mummy issues This is a throwaway account. I'm a 16 yr old and recently started going to school again in Feb after spending 2 yrs out of it. (I'm from the UK so GCSE season is soon.) There has been testing after test since I got there, doing mocks, etc ( I go to a school that only has 32 ppl, that need to catch up, but I came really late) I haven't really been learning, just tested. They do not want to hotter with me.

Recently, I did an AQA English test, where I got a 5A, which is about equivalent to a high c, and low b.  I was quite proud of it until my mum said ""do you even speak English?"" to me. Yes, I got 44/80, I'm not proud, but I'm still just getting into the swing of writing in a formal way instead of short cuts.

My parents said it doesn't matter what I get cause I'm restarting the yr, but y is my mum acting so cold? She knew I was already upset. She said that phrase, cause my school is filled with ppl from ppl that just loved from other countries. She WANTED to hurt me. I feel like such a failer. My dad congratulated me for passing tho. I don't know anything that I used to, its kind of embarrassing. Idk how to math. Idk how to English. Idk how to do anything.

I feel like my mum is being particularly cold towards me, idk what to do. I'm pretty upset. 

(Idk what Reddit to upload this too)",1.308540145985404,3.044774116788321,3.2836700729927024,91.04125693430656,79.72992700729927,5.551883211678833,20.44905109489052,6.360717304075467,0.10378937226277384,1004,26,222,8,25,339,150,274,0.113,0.785,0.102,0.6913,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,1,1,3,20,13,2,3,11,1,22,1,0,6,0,31,49,12,0,3,8,5,2,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,16,7,0,0,5,0,2,7,5,7,0,0,13,8,30,6,34,35,1,30,0,2,0,1,16,10,0,0,14,140,46,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13876369464740693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20695627388291235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381977643976968,0.0,0.2583512940024055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14023988470532733,0.08305396133707238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716178043905696,0.17966574960845105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313940544321001,0.0,0.14292855171169125,0.0,0.301711378535698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285741580567206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346135547992337,0.0,0.0,0.1312460186979594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13094497352930778,0.0691066417295711,0.0,0.14184681870302435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286616103207622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134905573123272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323896944160512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131949138054695,0.0,0.0,0.09563540062168302,0.0,0.0,0.13962590784929038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792875646134094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337462113349181,0.0,0.0,0.16111204872888207,0.0,0.2483177534778523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3588393542566837,0.0,0.0,0.3817846017165992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401828326082513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900357414605957,0.0,0.10042081438337352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860405826138488,0.0,0.0,0.14833634442766114,0.09981121878531754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,taakosauce,2019/04/05,Toddler bath time I find myself getting bored while supervising bath time for my 2 year old. Any suggestions for how to end our day on a fun and hopefully positive note?,6.587499999999999,7.339357750000001,6.8750000000000036,74.27000000000002,65.25,11.4,34.75,11.20814326018867,4.096137499999998,136,6,25,4,2,44,29,32,0.057,0.6809999999999999,0.262,0.8176,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,4,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,7,12,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640335695492385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25039885715346194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438876189651123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3548672504118332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028524799968157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856348325915408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074188897438877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4528009826536089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500299826700765
parenting,Blonde-Bunny,2019/04/05,"I get hateful looks for not allowing my child to eat food I didn’t pay for. Example: I’ll go to the grocery store and he’ll want an apple. Of course I’ll buy it for him but I make him wait until we check out and pay for the item before eating it. Today my son was whining and I said “you can have the apple when we check out” and I got the most hateful stare. I smiled and they waited a good 10 seconds before returning a very sarcastic smile. One that came off as fake/snarky instead of understanding and compassionate. Another time I was asked why I didn’t just buy the banana he wanted at the beginning of our shopping trip. I don’t want to do that because I want to teach him patience and not be fueled by instant gratification. 

Of course I end up feeling like a terrible parent. He’s not screaming through the store. He’s whining. 

Am I wrong for making him wait? Why do people get so judgmental? I love my child more than anything but I also feel he needs to learn patience. Sometimes the produce section isn’t the end point for my shopping trip. In any case why am i getting dirty looks for making him wait 5 min? He’s not loud enough to be buggy anyone with his whining so I don’t think it’s that. Maybe I’m taking it too personally, I don’t know.",2.0,3.986319717054265,3.5583139534883728,88.69816860465119,78.5736434108527,6.16046511627907,23.92829457364341,7.1686216300943375,0.9206945736434112,989,34,206,12,24,327,143,258,0.116,0.7390000000000001,0.145,0.8627,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,1,1,1,7,12,2,0,13,0,16,4,0,5,0,41,50,15,0,5,7,2,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,7,13,3,4,6,2,10,4,10,8,0,2,7,8,32,4,29,40,5,21,0,3,3,1,26,8,0,1,10,124,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10176406249817467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653630536683925,0.13343571428085066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0889781552806721,0.0,0.10471825735850253,0.0,0.11896424193789346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757215954114988,0.0,0.21656561468071184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455433660443922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26042287959430804,0.0,0.0,0.22541651849380184,0.13148621647353514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12868573443408932,0.09090946533300276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387465788084628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945309435531647,0.0,0.07232073027411956,0.1067336576491614,0.10177573324293876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25127169895960194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993484138502908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06216931736453386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137206981917834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485067029295234,0.0,0.2548268073673524,0.0,0.1278425972081248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943563798732822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622982815728379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129923657543952,0.0,0.0,0.0882211073142649,0.111112284974736,0.0,0.0,0.12029508012262145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104660610794805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258563278500362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09567831045693204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153849150322419,0.0,0.0,0.07420216333137589,0.0,0.12062082764520213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247471029738075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499693271243167,0.3002281245203234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444777272827923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13913102090564305,0.0,0.0
parenting,Toastman04,2019/04/05,"Are any other parents of smaller children quick to anger? Could use some tips I’d consider myself a decent father. Not perfect by any means, but I try. I do have a problem with jumping to anger so quickly over little things. Spills, not listening to parents, etc. I realize I can be a bit too much and I want to try and fix this, but the reaction is so automatic. Any tips would be really appreciated. ",1.8641025641025628,4.455448487179488,4.12846153846154,80.89987179487183,83.35897435897436,7.056410256410258,26.615384615384606,8.167268648758528,2.207015384615384,314,14,58,7,9,108,57,78,0.157,0.7659999999999999,0.077,-0.7656,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,2,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,1,16,13,6,0,4,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,6,1,8,9,4,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,44,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4549529069723814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24346357670522226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1780512546320734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24870939549911855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235094802958208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429176959311928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16393424977559828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952410679769118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21338555751603985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14286263972328636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481545365050284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028113570345815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19260461983190733,0.0,0.0,0.13153405905414012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841627200993896,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JessicaBalon,2019/04/05,"What is an appropriate amount of time to make a 3 year old go to their room after kicking another kid in the face? I am livid right now. My son is 3 and he kicked his 2 year old cousin in the face. My go to was a timeout but he is refusing, so I am going to put him in his room to be away from her. How long is an appropriate amount of time for him to be left alone in his room?",1.454922480620155,1.7572606162790692,3.720930232558139,93.91457364341088,76.55813953488372,7.593798449612403,21.310077519379846,7.793537801064563,0.3606031007751933,287,6,78,4,6,100,53,86,0.102,0.898,0.0,-0.8253,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,6,0,9,2,2,2,0,5,13,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,0,16,10,2,23,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,0,9,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24733782623519346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504158282358212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22437229416482973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071681034081012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25947058314557364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113416315172424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940926152467955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5011872915491032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24007261838403074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039446512187244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27850708916515005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30757496271039025
parenting,sls0989,2019/04/05,"Wrong to ask husband for 5-10 mins for some me time? My husband works for his family business which is about 11 hours a day. I’ma stay at home Mom of an 8 month old with 2 small dogs. 

He said I shouldn’t ask him for help since he works and pays the bills. He said I should take my 5-10 min free time (which is a shower) on my own time when our daughter is sleeping. I’m ok with him coming home and doing nothing but is it wrong for me to still ask? He told me that he doesn’t feel sorry for me and that he works all day. 

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parenting,lemonpee,2019/04/05,"5 year old son about to be kicked out of second pre-school for behavioral issues. Where to begin....

My son is 5.5 and an only child. I have him about 60% of the time, the rest of the time he is with his father. 

My sons father and I split up in January of 2017. Later that year, he started acting up a lot at his daycare / pre-school: hitting kids, throwing toys, being intentionally disruptive, excessive loud talking, acting defiant toward teachers and adult figures at school, and laughing when he would hurt other kids or when the teachers would try to talk to him about how the behavior is not ok. 

That went on for a few months before we saw a specialist who diagnosed my son, age 4.5 at the time, with ADHD. That was a year ago. They recommended behavioral therapy which we put him into but we didn’t see much improvement. 

Eventually the behavior escalated to the point where the daycare asked us to find another provider after having my son there since he was one years old. 

In September of 2018, we found another preschool and were up front with them about the reason why we were switching to a new provider after the school year had started (free voluntary pre-kindergarten) and they said they were willing to work with him and us. 

There were some rocky days but overall there seemed to be an improvement in his behavior until about a month or so ago. The administrator called a parent conference and told us that his behavior needs to change, or he’s out - basically same issues as before: disrupting the classroom, refuses to nap and wakes others at nap time, defiant toward authority, doesn’t stand in line, etc. 

I told them I need daily communication in the form of notes so that we can punish him accordingly because unless we are told about this behavior, we have no idea that it is happening. 

Since then, I have set up appointments for him to be evaluated by a pediatric neurologist along with an organization that provides accommodations to children in public school so that we can get a head start on that. 

His bad behavior is escalating and I am at a loss as to what to do. I am punishing him by taking away privileges (Wii and Netflix) and I have started bagging up his toys, and also telling him we can’t do certain things (mini golf, play places, etc.) because of his behavior at school. He acts remorseful and cries about it but continues with the bad behavior at school.  

I try to make sure his father is on board with enforcing the same punishments but I’m honestly not sure what goes on when I’m not around. 

A few serious problems that I am really struggling with are: 

- he does not display the same behavior at home that he does at school. He is a pretty good listener to his father and I - although we have always battled excessive hyperactivity, I am told by many people, including teachers, that my son is very bright, smart, and can be very polite and sweet with great manners. There have been a few instances where my son has laughed at me when I was crying and has laughed about intentionally hurting our cat. 
- I haven’t been able to find any kind of behavioral therapy to benefit us that accepts our insurance. I am waiting on those appointments and hoping for help with that. 
- I’m extremely worried about my son starting kindergarten, as the administrator at pre-school has assured us that public school will not be tolerant of my son’s behavior and that he is likely to be suspended and/ or expelled. 

Someone suggested to me that my son may have a combination of ADHD and may be low on the autism spectrum, which is why I requested the neurologist evaluation. 

If anyone has any suggestions I would really appreciate it. I feel like I am losing this battle and completely failing as a parent. ",8.658302666942319,7.9388244602026035,8.622883605540625,68.40497250361797,61.272069464544145,12.412338226173249,37.83258217903659,11.657316460667493,4.481490518916685,2966,125,523,78,35,967,304,691,0.115,0.765,0.12,0.6996,2,0,0,0,0,0,82.0,18,0,5,4,26,39,5,1,38,1,64,4,2,5,4,97,95,49,0,8,15,16,1,2,0,7,2,3,1,5,31,49,0,2,9,7,1,7,10,16,0,2,19,8,70,24,101,60,13,84,0,6,3,0,90,41,0,11,36,375,101,11,0.05644539760384825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356727978333541,0.0,0.10007087851080873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04513936407063699,0.04696709255292688,0.0,0.0,0.07676961193155274,0.11837584190503105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394679344254753,0.0,0.0,0.05024837098665712,0.05276882719101582,0.0,0.05303230911768229,0.0,0.09425909854676058,0.06881718094413355,0.0,0.09606175192179738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057637061927316977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05971174627224225,0.0,0.05918192546900496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400523759229508,0.036402611843246634,0.0,0.0,0.05729089040162068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09879149564389927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590307799060282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028540489022939,0.04032460332651293,0.0,0.0,0.10318014163063896,0.0,0.0,0.0618894650268701,0.0,0.0,0.029490390550138888,0.0,0.0,0.04734372147635755,0.0,0.06223125012800135,0.0,0.0,0.04991447868729474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05792926243915127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03783416019594303,0.0,0.05661933607306961,0.05606301595642553,0.0,0.0,0.12085193113280128,0.06371998333733468,0.0,0.11782866024744805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877919555260298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055152740204156135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06314796174516761,0.0,0.04798785853627187,0.0,0.0,0.03767774120626431,0.05722677371482809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901083556937732,0.0,0.041493861929516984,0.08370709421243487,0.0,0.05451531673933213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845989929469762,0.0,0.03824886223473945,0.04292926840475684,0.0,0.0,0.12535186835325554,0.0,0.0,0.039132131560144515,0.0,0.058973426705548074,0.0,0.053359145500493886,0.0,0.0,0.057425261849852326,0.0,0.05401062238942525,0.0,0.05674321491529754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232073414407081,0.058035269704451616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05369249898724968,0.0,0.0,0.5712575585105077,0.044979673880003485,0.051385770037669316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338443237709528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04782600221750204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997617147343544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05900898518529106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639823847557058,0.0,0.04243991428168816,0.09073734496062652,0.049335765437371566,0.0,0.12910046285036006,0.0,0.03749981404365625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316550610586689,0.0,0.0,0.21574398529940014,0.0,0.07664543959960754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3394843168946549,0.0,0.0,0.09314672892685744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052325449081007135,0.1018663836350052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041092921717042416,0.05732304119150991,0.0,0.1202915728805986,0.0,0.0,0.18174492710911794
parenting,djluzclaritaa,2019/04/05,"Is 4 years old too young for a concert? The concert is indie rock, GA indoors, and won’t be over until 11pm. My sister is insisting on bringing her toddler to the show bc of the artist and it’s her daughters birthday. I feel like she’s too young. Am I wrong for asking her to not bring my niece ? ",1.015238095238093,2.8474825079365083,2.7399206349206366,94.12035714285715,81.06349206349206,4.834920634920637,23.198412698412696,5.46131890053228,0.18758412698412694,230,8,51,1,6,76,48,63,0.059,0.899,0.042,-0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,10,3,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,3,8,1,8,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,6,32,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4363636791950297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360111728652439,0.3334580889194589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.228038540121948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4897929350048899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5103359058450706,0.0,0.3005823297201103
parenting,pchouinard187,2019/04/05,"Parents of LGBTQ Kids Hi There,

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I found this [great article](https://medium.com/@dbink/5-things-to-do-when-your-child-comes-out-as-lgbtq-f4be65df3a72) for any fellow parent out there who is dealing with a child coming out.  Our 18 year old son recently came out to us and though we suspected, it been difficult for him.  I feel our son is scared to confide about his person life to us fearing we're going to be upset.    ",7.55092105263158,8.944093302631583,5.864315789473686,80.09121052631579,63.342105263157904,8.185263157894736,28.35789473684211,8.238735603445708,1.8098610526315784,345,10,60,4,5,100,59,76,0.193,0.807,0.0,-0.9118,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,0,0,0,4,5,0,3,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,11,9,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,3,1,9,1,12,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,18,3,0,0,3,33,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330021379718816,0.22799456145453825,0.1275968344742662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460209916831288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162916500513996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934413238222437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111392243273789,0.09487285299609048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057298357004918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663612469617888,0.0,0.0,0.2068659804816768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13253069559510694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19688920891798048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166883535003653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638338472376212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852648935920988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878533073413164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18434841242651195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513986521441621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22799456145453825,0.12082946258243853
parenting,farmoutsam,2019/04/05,"Get your kids interested in STEM Education this Spring Break! Hi, we at STEM Beginnings ([www.stembeginnings.com](https://www.stembeginnings.com)), Westborough, MA will be having a limited-seats only workshop focused on 'nature-ology' from April 16 to April 19 for kids ages 5 to 10. If interested, click on this [link](https://reg134.imperisoft.com/StemBeginnings/ProgramDetail/3536373339/Registration.aspx?utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=spring_break) to register.

The children will have fun becoming different scientists in nature each day: from ornithology or entomology to zoology or marine biology! They will create their own nature kit and build the tools they need to see the sights in the wild. Let your kids explore the outdoors!

All materials are provided by STEM Beginnings. Additionally, a newsletter will be sent out to parents covering the STEAM challenges done in the program. All instructors are certified teachers and/or have STEM degrees or backgrounds.

 

Our STEM School is located at :

**Suite 1, 125 Turnpike Rd**

**Westborough, MA 01581**

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parenting,roxygirl1414,2019/04/05,"4.5 year old learning My 4.5 year old has ZERO interest in learning anything.

I buy flash cards, cool workbooks, an easel, a vetch activity table, all the things I think would interest her.

I ask if she likes it or thinks it looks fun and she says yes but then never finds it interesting again. 

She had a small speech delay but she’s catching up. 

But when it comes to visually identifying and writing letters and numbers, it’s as if she retains nothing. 

I can say and show her one letter over and over and over again and I’ll ask her to say it and she says “I don’t know”. 

It’s driving my to the brink of insanity. I honestly have no idea what to do anymore. 

The end of this month we’ll be speaking to her dr but I was just curious if anyone has gone through this with their kids. ",1.6678066037735846,3.8537389685534578,3.1283922955974863,90.33334316037735,80.69811320754721,6.2391509433962264,24.402908805031448,7.413659706084162,1.0638455974842769,612,23,131,9,16,200,100,159,0.083,0.797,0.12,0.2413,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,0,4,7,0,0,6,2,11,1,0,0,2,32,19,19,0,4,9,0,0,1,0,2,1,6,0,1,11,10,0,2,7,1,1,4,3,0,0,2,3,8,21,7,15,13,1,23,0,0,1,0,23,7,0,4,13,89,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17556362408514709,0.12378168260911156,0.0,0.14567847641751547,0.0,0.3309934666759402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249344041681412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679374257105833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16179984750662715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998424003722068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728963600485696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648665153562096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486584406426752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14130159137130016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13653445357931634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986257633332874,0.0,0.3715209794951663,0.0,0.11995835592156492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5631172137406886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760914644817168,0.22686403519696796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575519436732174,0.0,0.0,0.22799969859801986
parenting,peachpie_1337,2019/04/05,"Do you give your kids teachers & coaches a thank you gift? So, I work and have 3 kids and do not have time to coach or volunteer at any extracurricular activities. 

I do participate in fundraising, buy everything any kid is selling, and attend the PTA. 

At christmas and at the end of the year I usually give my daughters teacher, sons preschool teacher, dance teachers, soccer coachs (at the end of season) or music teacher a box of chocolates, coffee mug, #1 coach pint glass, christmas ornament, or some small token of appriciation. I have my kids write a thank you card too. I live in a small town, and these teachers are not getting rich of these things, if even getting paid at all. 

Here is an example, my daughter joined a theater group. The cost was $50 and there is 50 kids enrolled. Thats $2500 income, for 4 adult instructors for ten two hour sessions, plus performances, and planning. They also had some costs as they provided scripts and other materials to the kids. It just doesnt seem like a viable buisness model, am I right?

So here is my question. What is the proper etiquette here? I read on facebook that gift cards are what teachers and coaches really want, but that feels odd to me? My husband thinks all the thank you stuff is too much, but I want to show these voulenteers how much they are appriciated.

What do you do for your kids teachers and coaches to show appreciation?",6.187275185936443,7.165677206896555,6.040558936218165,79.10004056795131,66.20306513409962,8.593283750281723,33.36060401171963,8.671277953709913,2.670479197656075,1105,47,203,16,17,346,150,261,0.025,0.899,0.075,0.8952,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,0,7,3,3,12,5,0,0,15,0,21,0,0,1,2,32,34,22,0,3,9,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,13,11,0,0,4,11,6,2,3,0,0,2,3,1,24,5,23,31,6,21,0,0,0,0,27,12,0,8,8,134,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313191824288026,0.0,0.18037819552717252,0.0,0.2264206842439217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948991301447877,0.0,0.0,0.10995675394357726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961915440411214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417597654383871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17395514290045666,0.3194005871915276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394670666352498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133244952499075,0.0,0.14700259598455556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447600912293428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864927903974497,0.0,0.16652245316192482,0.0,0.10664968662680632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217079170172464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155477433835934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905767959350032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598100744866649,0.0,0.0,0.11060018855318364,0.10667199714682908,0.0,0.0,0.09707431188937422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262423165373247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833513385667244,0.0,0.19638536997562325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119753140149114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720598872011476
parenting,boymommiller,2019/04/05,"Used as a Human Tissue At what point do kids stop using you as a tissue and coughing in your face? In the past 2 hours, my two year old coughed in my face and my 3 month old sneezed in my open mouth. Send help and airborne.",3.4475000000000016,3.4194570833333344,3.9250000000000007,95.42,71.91666666666666,6.4,24.333333333333336,3.1291,0.019783333333333264,172,4,42,0,3,54,35,48,0.047,0.8959999999999999,0.058,0.128,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,5,3,2,0,7,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,7,3,0,15,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,7,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367462690367692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698615508002289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21872586212092446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5750908092928637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26158992790664576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590442365033164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290989731402821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26768471441052577,0.0,0.0,0.4733429613775853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646450459330007
parenting,RobotCloud,2019/04/05,"School withholding children from parent I live in Ontario, Canada. And my question is can an Elementary school legally withhold children from parent? The parent was to pick them up 15 min early to beat the traffic. Been doing this the whole school year till now because ex does not want kids to be picked up early from school. It does say in the custody agreement that parent can pick them up after school, not early.
So are schools legally allowed to enforce this?

Thanks!",4.938970588235293,7.700903529411768,4.240808823529413,83.58238970588236,72.52941176470588,5.191176470588236,29.448529411764717,5.985473137389443,1.4899705882352947,380,16,60,2,8,113,57,85,0.014,0.875,0.111,0.8319,5,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,4,0,11,10,3,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,4,2,14,7,1,13,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,8,41,8,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528747900762732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161600505100673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090571448919197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5485505815690989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383538238046482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982161035661426,0.0,0.7499616959762946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137067763558974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284642697852406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13788888037968142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795331467912268
parenting,kjeksfjes,2019/04/05,"TIFU by telling the truth about the tooth fairy My 7 year old son told me that he thought it was scary that the tooth fairy ""breaks in"" during the night, and then he put me on the spot by asking if it was really us, his parents, who switched out the tooth for the money. At first I tried to be a bit vague, but he kept asking and said he really wanted to know, so I told him.

I thought he would be able to deal with it since he had been so persistent, but he got really upset. He cried a bit, and after a while he just seemed depressed, and muttered ""so this is how life really is"". He didn't even want the money anymore, because ""it's just money we already have"".

It was heartbreaking, and I actually felt bad about lying to him all this time. He's so down to earth at times, and sometimes I'm a bit worried he misses out on some of the ""childhood magic"".",7.141991525423727,4.720346949152546,7.30541666666667,82.09337923728816,65.38418079096044,10.431920903954806,31.164548022598872,8.472884824447931,2.027746327683616,658,16,148,7,8,214,106,177,0.18600000000000005,0.805,0.009000000000000001,-0.9868,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,2,10,6,0,1,13,0,12,4,3,1,2,28,28,16,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,10,10,0,1,5,0,3,1,1,5,0,1,14,2,12,1,21,11,5,20,0,3,0,0,27,8,0,3,10,90,22,0,0.13644451829238655,0.0,0.13315016749498074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505699188435311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13531629841027634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25511441189463674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392547348280625,0.08317531191880688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.446886225464628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14987789640319685,0.0,0.1406683071007575,0.11751946367112134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012031749322154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13100813491848656,0.0,0.0,0.11605963755678955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912714572237923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498633892107127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637479841370787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280439374122489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143175569509388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150549044360478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13716442711267735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3496394091186893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297899823763536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421396495566775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128683155102093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494711746846913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192585230231313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166434130471283,0.1591237917480815,0.0,0.0,0.2607571688594985,0.0,0.09263687146712277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412595553531228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609570240888393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856603150044894,0.0,0.09692627101043336,0.0,0.0,0.08786579627104214
parenting,futurealDad,2019/04/05,"It's so weird - I've never had to try really hard to not hit my kids! After reading this subreddit I just can't understand it - is something wrong with me? I've never felt the urge to hit my son (now 5). I've never had to leave the room or fight with myself over some strong feeling of the need to resort to physical violence to bend him to my will. Strange, huh?",3.584605263157897,3.992639828947368,5.088000000000001,85.65700000000002,71.76315789473685,8.71157894736842,25.72631578947368,8.841846274778883,1.6370978947368418,281,8,62,5,5,95,54,76,0.192,0.736,0.07200000000000001,-0.8747,0,0,1,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,1,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,3,13,11,2,0,1,3,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,3,7,1,13,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,5,40,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363666076063464,0.0,0.2589508462015495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415950082398377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28556955551085045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19997646958957246,0.6240194894667201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2697693921751185,0.0,0.17277442525425646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20762547143519366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18310615803210414,0.0,0.0,0.2807634725998318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948706850397277,0.0,0.0
parenting,mkhan94,2019/04/05,"7 rd old with high cholesterol I don’t think allowing your kids to eat garbage is okay. I have a colleague who invited over to his house a year ago for a birthday party. His wife cooked a wonderful meal we all enjoyed while his children were enjoying microwaved chicken nuggets and French fries while playing games. My children asked for what he was having and my wife and i shut that down and said we are going to enjoy this wonderful meal. I asked them why wasnt he joining us and they responded “oh he doesn’t eat anything else”. I wanted to argue that stupid ass answer but didn’t want to do it in front of the children so next day at work I brought it up and asked him how long has this been going on for and he said for a good year. Anyways a year later he tells me his 7 rd old has high cholesterol and he doesn’t know what to do because he child refuses to eat anything else. I said just starve him. Make him a healthy plate of food and leave it there, say when you’re hungry, go eat after a few times, make him eat on a schedule and if he says no then he can eat the next day. Advise I got from a doctor when my two year old was refusing veggies, mix it make it fun and also let them know that this is there option. 


Now Im not saying we are perfect, we order Chinese food here and there and stop at a drive thru sometimes throughout the year but Children’s diets are fully controlled by an adult. And this is completely the parents faults. 

If you have a child who refuses to eat healthy, please don’t just let it go. Speak to her doctor! ",2.99223974763407,4.439248577287066,3.5747583596214514,92.01779684542588,74.26813880126183,6.333829652996847,25.298296529968447,6.742157984588678,0.7894493123028381,1217,40,262,10,25,382,171,317,0.076,0.799,0.125,0.9325,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,2,3,3,13,11,2,0,17,1,26,16,1,6,2,47,48,26,0,4,7,3,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,8,17,19,13,5,6,3,0,7,8,3,0,1,11,7,31,8,28,35,2,44,0,0,0,1,59,11,1,5,25,158,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020769991967123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333772570795951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035282001064594,0.0,0.22212923717700772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048280739221466834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304167857480058,0.0,0.0888316583613898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10215733834321766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213298837026932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5673031695880838,0.1323260382983416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915424882814199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18004904539590955,0.06643079065471758,0.0633449895534913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736229817699896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913883513803329,0.0,0.0,0.08555163621589536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705457884317615,0.0,0.0,0.08386336948617974,0.0,0.16197860462479693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700911835098141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860363699963234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846422476796474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493271924648379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794432994574873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693989530548724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260174136330931,0.1889535741983779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833269797105043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621632948702459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922594598307935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050749375395313386,0.0,0.0,0.04618326109086099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736874157525797,0.0,0.0952701261452407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343065780724133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146738991979652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717821501947818,0.05765992184071893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550171137554522
parenting,xrp_oldie,2019/04/05,"Very anxious 5 year old I have a very anxious 5 year old who is scared of a lot of things. It is to the point where he is scared to go to daycare and will cry in the mornings and not want to go because a kid keeps telling him about monsters and vampires and how they are real. The other kid is not being malicious by any means. But my son has trouble sleeping at night and will ask all sorts of questions about 'bad guys' and whether they will get him.

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We mentioned this to the daycare and they are being very responsive about it by making sure kids aren't scaring each other. However, his fear seems so extreme that it seems unreasonable to expect adult supervision to shield him from such things as he transitions to a K-5 school. 

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Any tips on desensitizing? We've repeatedly tried to assure him they are not real, he is safe and he will not be harmed by any vampires or witches or 'bad guys'. for reference, any show with a bad guy, no matter how silly, is too scary for him. i.e. pj max, superwhy (if there is a bad guy like an 'eraser man')",6.1408692185007965,6.04794206220096,6.107763157894741,82.2939254385965,66.17703349282297,8.880542264752794,31.770733652312607,8.344100000000001,2.18046379585327,837,30,169,10,12,264,124,209,0.17,0.7440000000000001,0.085,-0.9681,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,4,0,10,16,0,4,11,0,20,1,1,3,3,40,30,17,0,3,9,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,9,10,11,0,2,5,1,0,2,6,11,0,0,0,0,13,5,26,23,3,13,0,0,0,0,30,5,0,8,7,108,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21299390406330168,0.23886571903877704,0.2673617249404853,0.0,0.0,0.2220789829909777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188769036279157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282714936903209,0.05991654685961398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079667246914405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060334578705608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513523612290992,0.0,0.11172071140012907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892894013811898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736448611499592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04801942912426349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356246900073483,0.0,0.0,0.06560920152722388,0.0,0.0,0.10706640161111453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223831445969936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062772118735259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291562653125053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010706529777887,0.0,0.0,0.22375061061926585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952156953588776,0.09947452018178413,0.0,0.17895867608286992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09836077891228938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09263696876187366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590961330086827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13059874493827706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673231902762329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432981243345269,0.05797386780837752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23886571903877704,0.12659081109958067
parenting,rachaeln2k,2019/04/05,"Music during nap time and bedtime It took me 3 and a half years to figure out that nap time and bedtime is exponentially easier if I play relaxing music for my kids while they settle down to sleep. They don’t fight it at all! It’s amazing. 

I’ve been playing the Away We Go soundtrack and I think it’s time to move on to an equally relaxing and mellow album. 

Any suggestions?",0.8381578947368418,3.361338078947369,3.0555789473684243,86.69205263157896,89.26315789473685,5.67157894736842,20.757894736842104,7.1686216300943375,0.8797989473684202,298,10,58,5,10,101,56,76,0.032,0.752,0.21600000000000005,0.9312,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,1,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,3,0,3,1,1,0,1,11,6,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,0,2,6,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,7,5,10,4,2,13,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,5,38,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277045547978264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3145957894983021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190298853410866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35588485589547764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3350845731830297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21455371624569927,0.0,0.0,0.5857485073385568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37202261987984575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156277551645978
parenting,KempGriffeyJr4024,2019/04/05,"Speaking of things stuffed up kid's noses, my son had SEVERAL peas in his nose for a WEEK!! I was laying down on the living room floor with my shirt off one day (it was hot and we had no AC) when my three year old son walked over. I tickled him and as he laughed an enormous, gray snot rocket flew out and nailed me in the chest. I was more amazed then grossed out by its size and density, and didn't inspect it any more as I cleaned myself up. A couple of days later I somehow happened to notice another giant gray booger up his nose. We couldn't get it out and suddenly realized it was something he'd stuffed up his nose. My wife then took him to the doctor who manages to pull out 3 nasty peas!! And we hadn't had peas for a week, that's why they were gray! So he walked around all week with 4 peas stuffed up his nose! No pain, no nothing - he was fine and we ended up with a funny story to tell 😂",2.579229618548993,3.4873333141361265,3.445897531787587,94.656609947644,74.49738219895288,6.5042632759910255,24.114061331338817,6.5431188927421005,0.4458762902019449,697,20,165,5,14,222,114,191,0.094,0.856,0.049,-0.7601,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,1,0,4,5,0,0,8,0,13,9,7,0,1,24,17,14,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,8,20,0,0,1,0,0,5,6,2,0,2,13,10,23,3,31,2,3,39,0,0,3,0,22,21,0,1,13,103,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13560865525962074,0.2091034242856312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17752112709811618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22064828143375276,0.0,0.2572116292265214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20410912601292486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17662200169435324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041858127184746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763415279161262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608660116637787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913435303794464,0.2270346580456402,0.2092519063384971,0.0,0.13512838328499285,0.0,0.212191020554698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22528155255980986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351897598282122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17429700734012074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324820909471337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215567767314092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4798746982047961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994051231130528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12841635926204575
parenting,pattke1,2019/04/05,"3 month old will NOT STOP COOING. She has always been pretty talkative with goo, emma, and ack being her main sounds. but this started yesterday. She goes “OOOH OOOH AAAAAAAAHH AAAAH OOOH” for hours. She did not sleep well last night and kept waking up to coo loudly and laugh. I took her into my bed at 1 AM and she woke up every hour until 4. Not crying but kicking me and cooing and laughing. 
All. Night. Long. 

Right now she is nursing and keeps stopping to go “OOOOH OOOOOH OOOOOH”

She’s also started doing the tongue thing where you make a fart noise with your tongue a lot. She also did this all night long. 

I’m worried she’s going to do this again tonight. She had been sleeping 9-10 hours straight before. Ugh. 

It’s funny and cute but also SLEEP. Has this happened to anyone else?",0.7578260869565234,3.299720519480524,1.3498757763975142,97.31034161490685,93.8051948051948,3.1977413890457367,15.786561264822135,4.813696971540001,-0.9368505928853756,616,14,123,2,23,187,105,154,0.063,0.78,0.157,0.9511,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,2,0,0,7,5,0,0,3,0,13,4,4,1,2,25,24,15,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,6,11,0,4,0,0,0,3,3,1,2,0,8,2,16,4,12,14,4,30,0,0,0,0,13,7,0,1,20,75,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3187769681500747,0.1105614997397599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290832760818016,0.1361447304206557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306566771334906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595543707905131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099886316977704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11195175930369997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510302855791006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749970718704154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392561263881459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181041824927366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830973824816598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351779525137069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296440381296337,0.0,0.0,0.08869417603137403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605845926443724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740786860268915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942851700138414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518024488983268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134733491821004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3989087522644081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880972704173912,0.0,0.0,0.22217659928015027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827533183912986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476274857027858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946934576758254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349396153622973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Budbongbowl,2019/04/05,"My son cries when I see him Context: 23M with my son who's 2 now. He lives with his mother and grandma. I have him 2.5 weekends a month with him and I live with my parents. 

I pick him up every other Friday but every time I have EVER picked him up, he cries and asks for his mummy. I get it, she's been with him 99% of his whole life. ButI've spent some really quality time with him. But I have just picked him up and took me a good 20 mins to get him strapped in and a 30 minute journey for him to calm down. I have never ever seen him cry/behave like that ever. His mother has told me she tries to get him excited that I'm coming around but he doesn't want me. When he is at my house, he hardly pays attention to me no matter how much attention I pay to him. Its always nan and grandad. I try my absolute hardest to interact and do fun things but he just doesn't seem to respond. Don't get me wrong, I know he likes me but I don't feel like he's bonded with me even still after 2 years. I have never loved anything so much in my life. It makes me cry everytime I pick him up because he seems to hate me. I'm just venting but any advice? ",0.4115860215053786,2.152480104838709,2.4762903225806454,95.71360215053762,82.62903225806451,5.423655913978496,18.397849462365595,6.42735559955562,-0.2328715053763437,878,20,209,8,24,295,127,248,0.096,0.79,0.114,0.6683,1,1,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,14,10,1,0,3,0,13,3,0,6,5,45,34,17,0,1,9,5,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,8,16,0,0,6,1,3,3,7,2,0,0,5,4,49,8,28,29,4,28,0,0,2,1,40,9,0,3,19,134,57,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097947986538912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10301454252720343,0.0,0.0,0.08419071762008623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187984335087658,0.11021148358490652,0.11573968702988817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546954716201525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664586975206244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079774410291248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177113369829889,0.3359624288943613,0.20861980521125095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06259883804575664,0.08844534201452943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587291591914224,0.0,0.0,0.10384061572315446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090373999129244,0.12223045901572352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285277329577956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680392403846344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489233827492146,0.1814526083826788,0.0,0.21864175685685103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117376147516564,0.0,0.08263988811842694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881888078565032,0.0,0.18201983439955385,0.0,0.19096999206378049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746928616870646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931177914289145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865546866776637,0.22541236023385505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886974331914923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224963434151754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438179104940824,0.0,0.0,0.11829967931040485,0.13755039448551146,0.16810908378568432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302259192239728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13822233787211258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353598405155617,0.0,0.07972548226904876
parenting,badunkamonk,2019/04/05,"Feeling held hostage by my teenager's emotions Apologies for the long post - I kinda have to add context so this makes sense. I really need some outside perspective on this situation. 

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I have two kids(18M & 16M) whom I(27F) adopted after my late fiance passed away four years ago. Things have been a bit of a struggle, but we live fairly comfortably and we are getting along well. 

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Recently, the last year or so, I've been struggling with my 18 year old son. He's a transgender person, and came out about this about 1.5-2 years ago. I began to refer to him as a new male name, and use male pronouns. He's been going to a youth group we have in our city and connecting with like-minded people. We've recently begun talking about beginning hormone therapy. 

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Issues have begun to arise where if I ask him to do something, I feel like he immediately cries or belittles himself, or does whatever he can to make me feel sorry for him and not have him do whatever it is I asked. As a very recent example, I have the kids do some chores around the house. Litters every other day, dishes every other day, their own laundry on alternating weeks, and room cleaning on alternating weeks. This has been the case kinda forever. His room has always been an issue - I know having a terrible room can be a symptom of depression, but cleaning his room has always, always been a form of contention. A few weeks ago he went to the renaissance faire with this friends, and now he wants to go again this weekend. I told him he needed to clean his room before he goes. I thought this was a pretty simple request.

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So this is where I have issues in knowing what to do. I told him Monday that he had to have it done by Friday, 10PM. First day does nothing. Second day does nothing, I remind him and he snaps at me - I tell him not to speak to me like that and he just shuts down and says ""I don't mean to do it!"" cries and runs to his room. 

Forward to yesterday. I come home from work \~9PM. My mother who lives with us tells me that he said he hasn't cleaned his room at all because, according to him, he's been crying on the floor instead. I get frustrated, but I ask him what's wrong and then he starts talking about how he misses his dad and he's thinking about graduating without him, and it's made him so sad this whole week that he couldn't possibly clean his room. 

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I feel like shit. On one hand I'd hate to believe that he has it in him to emotionally blackmail me about his father's death over fucking cleaning his room. On the other hand this isn't at all the first time this sort of thing has happened. There have been numerous other situations just like this one, where I've felt bad about how he's feeling and let him get away with not doing what I've asked. I feel like it's too convenient. I have issues with anxiety and it affects me in situations where I WANT to do something as well, not only situations where I don't want to do the task. I'm not trying to brush aside his emotions or his grief, but I'm having a hard time with basic 'actions have consequences' scenarios. I feel held hostage because my fiance's death has amplified my anxiety, and I dread losing my kids.

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Has anyone else had a similar experience? I'm trying my best, and I just want to act in a way that's best for my son - I'm just having a hard time figuring out what that is. Thank you for taking the time to read this.",4.620099353266472,5.633429052863437,5.222378229762242,83.42785734370607,69.77826725403818,8.145230730777643,28.29259224544631,8.399286722034276,1.8911161370950105,2719,94,538,40,47,875,296,681,0.126,0.777,0.097,-0.9683,0,0,2,2,0,0,103.0,5,1,1,6,30,27,4,3,27,0,55,6,3,7,2,93,108,37,3,8,19,5,12,5,1,0,1,3,17,5,39,35,1,2,15,2,0,10,11,15,2,7,23,16,75,12,77,82,11,91,0,5,0,1,83,38,2,10,48,345,114,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658650145689027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882377807315468,0.3610303816766331,0.3470432589942101,0.0,0.0,0.07282941796989845,0.0,0.0,0.033283793866905685,0.04877294920748932,0.0,0.042375068429934916,0.17800240041855064,0.0,0.08944559529923783,0.0,0.039744927772122025,0.05803437393895253,0.0,0.04050502763827411,0.05363013585346682,0.09990882928611647,0.0,0.05196806944769455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054442973995544486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04100413025501153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568627099385722,0.12279507873364055,0.0,0.04099875517420745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249681225283146,0.04871244907236229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039764608580452464,0.16063448188577112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021195463588816,0.0,0.0,0.04656300688974356,0.0,0.0,0.16847981459625688,0.10201869981962446,0.0457045180565477,0.0,0.0,0.08097893773773829,0.0,0.0,0.03677648953314897,0.044006447227091836,0.0746088257021988,0.0,0.05410560088945237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04209349295284202,0.0,0.08528246637105122,0.046996228492136714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047747781538846304,0.0,0.0,0.05492527499778301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987327128403425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523206361703405,0.038801247363245694,0.05369611087689045,0.0,0.0,0.048675346848902366,0.0,0.13953294968727226,0.0,0.08406528164837346,0.04212547300667357,0.0,0.053253451756136425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04504130901421127,0.06354820387410318,0.0,0.0,0.05185154947226812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048063538514823465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705912206838472,0.0,0.04597343619203484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134907293567328,0.0,0.04994934403096318,0.0,0.06451147063034628,0.03620277932555591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03300060718606505,0.04156344192025893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05366308477423126,0.04558869285494541,0.048427428645210886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047613978624248335,0.0,0.030494481692470182,0.0,0.14100102221569402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527954387542386,0.037854302975179666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048861842118123264,0.0,0.21402251015384646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329130024022495,0.0,0.053285531034545634,0.03369230152275848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952600397221656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049475766012463764,0.035790100983067716,0.07651991748902978,0.08321091392224336,0.04382469479262592,0.054436003000703684,0.0,0.06324810755085866,0.030500860968077106,0.0,0.03778995399638877,0.11102633004739128,0.0,0.0,0.0909697763419689,0.0,0.06463604061389859,0.0,0.04649935514831882,0.0,0.05725825883239345,0.04111206446083839,0.0,0.03927589029053588,0.11230544146550504,0.037783535222420256,0.15273091533106042,0.0,0.08559820589413335,0.0441266938986645,0.0,0.05314492496931143,0.0,0.04588575894694881,0.0,0.03465416560883173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052044327123979814,0.3470432589942101,0.12261418345422485
parenting,TheGreenShepherd,2019/04/05,"[humor] Late Night Trauma The other night, my wife and I were getting ready to turn in when we heard a *thump* come from our daughters' (6 and 5) room. I went to investigate and found my youngest huddled up, in tears, eyes still shut. She was having night terrors of some kind (unusual for her) and was completely unable to wake from them. I tried a few things to snap her out of it and then brought her into our bedroom so my wife could have a try. My wife took the poor kid in her arms and started rocking her. Just as my daughter was coming to a crescendo, we hear...drip...drip...and then *splooooooooosh*...she completely unloads her bladder all over my wife, all over our bed, all over our carpet. My daughter has been fantastic about potty training and has never had an incident like this before, so my wife and I were just completely shocked. We just sat there for a minute, staring at each other with our mouths hanging open. My daughter was now blissfully asleep and on to much happier dreams.

Once they're potty trained, you sort of lose perspective on how much urine a kid can hold. Let me tell you - a 5 year old can hold a lot of urine. A *lot* or urine. Thank heavens for steam cleaners.",3.09097308488613,5.272798391304349,3.149254658385093,91.99137681159422,75.95652173913044,6.12008281573499,25.30020703933747,7.07126945348624,0.9713685300207042,930,33,189,10,21,282,140,230,0.07200000000000001,0.83,0.098,0.7441,0,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,8,2,1,1,11,9,0,1,12,0,16,9,9,1,4,36,28,17,0,1,4,9,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,5,19,0,2,1,2,1,6,1,4,0,0,14,3,32,5,30,12,10,34,1,1,2,0,31,15,0,5,14,128,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492367175586362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529259604193667,0.4617794252090273,0.0,0.0,0.117215064703667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16096852408972934,0.0,0.0,0.07670165899195569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546444685915035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287901343429305,0.0,0.0,0.16560698068534732,0.0,0.0,0.1501221800576997,0.0,0.0717234765748327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642417525661456,0.0,0.24962357517411715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215843058610298,0.0,0.11322817462669815,0.0,0.0,0.413310989349695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15405138132157625,0.15634682589924034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391218724046784,0.0,0.11724188120716453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831756331780986,0.13516203064880022,0.0,0.0,0.09753339631593064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631102344244229,0.1993473894983716,0.15968606764937854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609344186842073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454020216477434
parenting,family_man3,2019/04/05,"SAH Toddler Bored I know there is likely other posts very similar but don't have much time to research today since it is a rough day with our son. I work from home and my wife is a stay at home mom with our almost 2 year old son. Our house has tons of toys and our son loves to be outside. But lately he isn't interested in any of his toys and only wants to be outside, however today is rainy. So they are stuck inside and our son either needs to have 100% of someone's attention or starts acting out, which includes self harm(hitting his head against almost anything). It is unbearable to watch so we try to keep him happy and occupied.   


What are some recommendations that my wife could do with our son on days like today or places they could go (preferably low cost) where our son could be social and have more things to do? Thank you!",4.841960569550931,5.616313951807232,5.009912376779848,86.02254654983574,69.12048192771084,7.964074479737133,25.331872946330773,8.00094639256281,1.229946987951808,660,17,136,8,11,207,109,166,0.064,0.84,0.095,0.8577,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,8,1,2,1,4,8,0,0,2,0,21,2,1,0,0,28,30,12,0,6,5,9,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,11,0,1,3,2,1,2,2,2,0,0,1,2,18,6,19,23,5,21,0,1,1,1,27,7,0,5,12,86,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28901403527461283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981366981196446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875598301131828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456627216153002,0.0,0.0,0.1861378240344604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201549216386131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536221648005158,0.0,0.0,0.14810512642302662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895121938035386,0.0,0.0,0.16651597568919246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12827059972258534,0.0,0.0,0.0793097693269188,0.0,0.16278954076682134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100651754530716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13024666943658747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16901576317087427,0.0,0.0,0.10608548094852563,0.10700507177921617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514305346070037,0.0,0.0,0.10975531979218664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077469399854246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821042628266428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505482594670292,0.0,0.0,0.11937587827637215,0.0,0.0,0.14710729494569966,0.12227457776061525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214434905429323,0.15381674719317248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13286254484788165,0.0,0.0,0.09587407928090767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414913569289319,0.0,0.4103709893568539,0.0,0.0,0.09797796522588212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907201544378693,0.08511860050581854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506041523292127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293180776991104
parenting,lubear2835,2019/04/05,"16 month old waking up too early for the past week my 16 month old has been waking up at 5am.  we try and reset her and put her back down but she just lays awake for 15 mins then gets up again crying/whining to be picked up.  with my older son, i would have just let him cry till 6am (the earliest i want them getting up) but the two share a room, and he's a great sleeper but won't go back to bed if roused.  we were bringing her into our bed to chill until 6, but she's up and not just laying there... this morning she beat me about the face.... any suggestions? is this a ""sleep regression"" thing??? how can i keep the big one sleeping and get the little one to chill the f out???",0.8316859852476313,2.3455554246575367,2.3680821917808252,98.0878240252898,80.36986301369862,5.31422550052687,17.395152792413064,5.873414542411696,-0.6445441517386725,516,9,127,3,13,168,100,146,0.029,0.8959999999999999,0.075,0.7724,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,3,0,1,1,10,2,0,0,10,0,10,5,5,2,0,24,17,14,0,3,9,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,3,10,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,0,17,2,20,11,0,31,0,0,0,0,15,13,0,1,15,84,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641179206454492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28587636354198986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20419178780541528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29136005961188216,0.0,0.10564575271168593,0.0,0.0,0.20494473407294395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16522785757838834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008544667534247,0.0,0.0,0.18631093579972446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967517598863266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39012124148757227,0.0,0.2519281834502045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17745334438759136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18687111487138386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720491355727092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349726867376375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620732513275915,0.0,0.1815878317399784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964292700013624,0.0,0.14911000198909322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320511498886399,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cynomys09,2019/04/05,"Easter Egg hunt ideas? I've got a 2.75 year old and the neighbor kids are 4.5 years and 3 years old. I'm thinking of doing an Easter egg hunt for them but I don't want to use a lot of candy to fill the eggs nor do I want to use cheap small toys since, really, we've all got enough of that stuff. Any ideas for what I could put in the eggs? I though maybe they could find puzzle pieces and work on a puzzle together but my daughter isn't quite there developmentally. ",3.0065800865800867,3.7854046363636407,3.871168831168834,92.49818181818183,73.34343434343434,6.8692640692640685,19.19336219336219,6.868970318607317,-0.14253650793650818,365,5,87,3,7,117,67,99,0.035,0.965,0.0,-0.2561,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,7,0,7,4,0,2,1,19,15,7,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,4,0,4,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,7,0,10,11,4,10,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,3,5,46,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790025771970453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27685004518121553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914167635309194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846068494724375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773260339250062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914362606946729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739636547564194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17417747492799882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3638536734755801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17428874509155928,0.0,0.1844045782530205,0.0,0.0,0.1110678168031704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341675524013772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19847173796124246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109105157140127,0.17033906385575429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2994789214642753,0.0,0.0,0.2045209412719728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621832881517214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349414937439378
parenting,DeeHatty,2019/04/05,"3 year old doesn’t like daycare My 3 year old daughter just started going to daycare 3 days a week about a month ago. The first two weeks were great, she whined a little bit when dropping her off but other than that she was doing just fine. The last two weeks however have been getting worse. She cries about going almost every time and says it’s because of their nap time. (She doesn’t nap, hasn’t since she was 18months.) it’s a two hour nap time and they can look at books and things but must stay quiet. I was wondering if there’s anything I can do to make it easier for her or if she’s just needs more time. Thank you for any help",1.4878321678321669,3.557460090909096,2.2260606060606065,97.18793706293707,80.66666666666667,4.9706293706293705,18.48717948717949,5.873414542411696,-0.4312163170163168,500,11,112,3,13,155,87,132,0.069,0.8009999999999999,0.13,0.8057,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,2,1,7,5,0,0,6,0,14,0,0,1,1,16,23,9,0,4,8,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,0,1,4,0,2,3,1,0,4,5,3,14,4,10,17,2,26,0,1,1,0,14,3,0,5,20,68,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275061158376595,0.0,0.14403569927573315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09781661935444544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836865320370715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768396536197208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157036807398786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800227223159494,0.0927653621423344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119200698723412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12235083950615795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751508372773541,0.0,0.16349598737017254,0.0,0.0,0.15858489713740753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964133998692422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416541307051673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724938166401296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027330813805048,0.1441661856940291,0.0,0.0,0.12078997418812247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601479483820853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481228715095465,0.0,0.0,0.10665606827796344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018732695537546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438791066717792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189865266429324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181119909363824,0.15331506458664626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242920563726052,0.0,0.0,0.09556138018364004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354987128277807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42153443582951305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34614103799099344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598912061382794,0.0,0.0,0.14658597820938696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852574101375891
parenting,KatyPetty,2019/04/05,"Rebellious 17 year old teenager. My teenager won't go to school no matter what. Out of 5 weekdays, he is absent 2 days from school usually, and I am afraid that the school will expel him. He seems to have a mindset that school is useless and that he should be studying specific subjects that he is interested in, and not the other subjects. Nothing I do seems to work on him, I bought him a computer, spoke to him nicely, and even bawled my eyes out to him. What can I do? I am at my wit's end and I honestly don't know how to handle him anymore.",3.442767857142858,4.3977534553571465,4.7253571428571455,86.11964285714286,72.48214285714286,7.742857142857144,28.285714285714285,8.07648339933343,1.7275857142857145,425,16,90,6,8,141,69,112,0.091,0.821,0.08800000000000001,-0.1027,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,1,4,0,14,1,1,1,0,14,20,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,0,3,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,2,2,15,3,13,14,0,11,0,1,1,0,11,5,0,2,5,62,22,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19040889515910572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12382183181601003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700518740507261,0.0,0.0,0.12681184962098385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091160115328396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551623207055676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842257794406323,0.0,0.2014679851897868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7772426620166829,0.0,0.3495727286129253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114569732211314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977570795157246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363942397772272
parenting,Mallardquack,2019/04/05,"Friend might be adopting niece and nephew... how to help. Hello all. I hope this is okay to post here but I thought this would be a good place to get some help. 

As the title states, for sad and unfortunate reasons my coworker might be adopting her 6 year old niece and 4mo nephew in order to keep them out of the foster care system. Coworker is 30F and already had 2 young kids of her own. 

She is one of the only women in the office who has children (small work place and many others, including myself, are in our early 20’s). And we don’t know how to help her but we really want to. 

Since we don’t have any experience with children or parenting needs, I was wondering if you guys could please give me some ideas on what we could do for her. We want to put some gift baskets together with essentials like wipes, diapers, etc and a few gift cards. 

Is there anything else that we could do in addition to that? Maybe something parents use a lot of that we’re not thinking of? Or what would be really helpful?

Thank you!",3.4193811881188125,4.996646816831685,4.112957920792081,88.06121905940594,73.40594059405942,7.624257425742575,24.506188118811878,8.278499904357787,1.3349594059405945,795,24,166,13,16,253,129,202,0.036000000000000004,0.7509999999999999,0.214,0.9897,2,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,7,2,1,1,4,8,0,0,7,1,24,0,0,4,1,49,38,15,0,10,6,4,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,5,9,17,0,1,6,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,3,0,21,7,24,24,8,18,0,1,0,0,32,9,0,11,5,111,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151419795799675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720646924678764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552922789110512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130747535117034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307163640920088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712667858180844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14301964830371572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544170434339866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907662401891708,0.0,0.06699924024311603,0.12301790173161535,0.0,0.10756023606417486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697611902827918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438218268496395,0.0,0.0,0.12736960768396846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476547757640087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139841295285588,0.0,0.0,0.07047643839968652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265077576239521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902365153008127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001354980156904,0.12883264977166428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720812285745288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950871048258406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13456456669380046,0.0,0.08689761858305013,0.0975310368447449,0.0,0.0,0.28478700302202903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679635440627421,0.14076718898405546,0.0,0.0,0.1228168821668546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891495220496085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430552973650947,0.1318503724422284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608008071582764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987241399320227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806463487492655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216995076878092,0.0,0.10180691826003642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107567526138267,0.0,0.0,0.15127659192875134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390690103524316,0.0933590394379744,0.0,0.0,0.1821936759805886,0.0,0.0,0.0825812870375435
parenting,Sheshirdzhija,2019/04/05,"Baby travel system, maxi cosi vs bersteiger So, need a recommendation for a baby travel system.

Bergsteiger is 400€ at amazon.de, great reviews, top seller.

Maxi cosi is twice the price, but wife insists.

Dies it make sense ro invest double?

We do plan on having 2 children, so it needs to last. ",3.305555555555556,6.173302518518517,3.8718518518518543,83.33333333333336,79.37037037037038,4.340740740740742,21.962962962962962,5.46131890053228,0.3683185185185187,232,7,38,1,6,73,45,54,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.4497,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,6,7,3,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,7,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,19,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4384957875880131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4658157000543829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34439977442141034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820268492174601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6265674979995108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WE_ARE_YOUR_FRIENDS,2019/04/05,"2-Year Old Making Herself Throw up to Get out of Bedtime So my daughter has thrown up a few times before during really bad tantrums. I think that's pretty normal. She has also been sleeping well for several month (going down without much of a fight, and staying asleep most or all of the night).  However, last night, she did NOT want to go down. She started throwing a tantrum, but I left her in the crib and left the room because I figured she would settle down in a few minutes.

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She did not settle down. She kept throwing a tantrum for 5-10 minutes until I heard her start heaving and I knew she had thrown up. I was pretty frustrated because we had JUST did bath time and put on PJs. I had to give her another bath to get the puke out of her hair, change her clothes, and change the sheets. She was freaking out so badly still, that I caved and brought her back downstairs. I let her hang out for another hour or so and then tried to take her to bed again. 

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This time, I put her in the crib, walked out, and heard her start heaving immediately. She puked again! I changed her AGAIN, and changed the sheets AGAIN. I didn't know what to do, so I brought her into our bedroom and let her sleep with us. Halfway through the night, she really wasn't sleeping (just wanted to play), so my husband tried to take her back to the crib. Puke again within seconds. 

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So, clearly this is her new thing to get out of going to bed. I have no idea how to get past this without just letting her sit in her own puke to teach her it won't work. That seems pretty mean and gross, so I'm wondering if there's another way. Has anyone had this happen before??",3.795909090909092,5.209873439393941,3.89678787878788,90.63518181818183,72.18181818181819,6.492121212121212,27.13939393939394,6.742157984588678,1.0409793939393936,1305,46,271,10,25,401,160,330,0.14,0.81,0.051,-0.9863,1,0,0,0,1,0,56.0,3,0,0,1,22,11,5,0,14,0,23,5,5,2,2,49,52,26,0,5,11,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,6,0,10,20,0,1,8,3,0,12,8,9,1,1,18,3,48,2,47,29,6,63,0,0,0,0,38,23,0,6,25,190,58,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06177074469806392,0.0,0.2510764273225433,0.28157402724663155,0.0,0.24298627348708884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05400970419833297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878932412402532,0.12898840804868766,0.0941725388130962,0.0,0.13145524035129275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3268490028956844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16142392993115284,0.07409797886268597,0.13169596190856606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06830522722705974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606823589010041,0.0,0.0,0.08719730337219707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04245042038068902,0.06296289121953012,0.0,0.0,0.16784825603140793,0.23695685914649736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515599229357737,0.0,0.0,0.08413965248135286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06165417202170001,0.0,0.05678207490415664,0.0,0.0,0.07460122183311597,0.0,0.21746036872409075,0.07568118291363626,0.0,0.0,0.08105293846010388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373664119053233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357499664857357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552999566584614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989669592641851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703186087677974,0.0,0.08726196160090892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23189464568545126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401777209790205,0.08233015472564374,0.06168590570826751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615339135037492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131643936965356,0.04949383130023191,0.0,0.0,0.13512204921856394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10488508155253293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291313468697003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111917496049296,0.06131144691889445,0.0,0.0,0.06945022251274903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489178954509079,0.08376612220252852,0.05623341020730364,0.0,0.0,0.05487080726339195,0.0,0.28157402724663155,0.04974159350166111
parenting,homesteadinhustla,2019/04/05,"I now know what Poopocalypse truly looks like. Facebook reminded me that I wrote this 2 years ago when my son was about 6 months old. I've definitely learned some lessons since then. 

I now know what Poopocalypse truly looks like. 

So for a little reference, my son has only been pooping every few days in recent weeks. And when they finally explode forth, the heft of the crap is so great, that it's sometimes a two person job. One person cleans the mess, the other holds my flailing son still. The last one was Saturday. 

I should have known better.

He was a ticking time bomb. 

I decided to go to Aldi. Simple enough right? Grab some coffee, get him out of the house, run a couple errands. Just put him in the carrier and we're good to go. 

Wrong. 

So very, very wrong. 

There I am in the parking lot. He smiles up at me as I'm about to take him out of the car seat. I kiss his cheek and pull him towards me to put him in my carrier. 

Then I see it. 

First, I see it all over his pants and onsie. Then, all over the carrier I'm about to put him into. 

Then, the car seat. 

The car floor.

The diaper bag. 

Everything in his wake looked as if a can of pumpkin puree had exploded. 

It begins to rain and I'm stripping him down to a diaper as my minivan becomes the Red Cross of Crap. Wipes flying everywhere, I triage the situation like I'm on the front lines. 

This was of course the one time I have no extra clothes in the car, or a plastic bag for such instances. So, there was no where to contain everything but wrapped in my detachable changing pad. I drove home with him in a diaper and my car filled with a scent any mother is all too familiar with. 

So, now I've gotten him home, given him a bath, taken a part the car seat for washing along with his clothes. I write this as a PSA against teen pregnancy and not planning trips when your baby is about to poopsplode.",2.0637828571428583,4.079062784000001,3.157638095238095,91.50720000000004,78.49333333333334,6.419047619047619,22.714285714285715,7.447530270364453,0.8103485714285709,1444,45,309,20,35,463,199,375,0.042,0.897,0.06,0.6574,1,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,1,1,4,22,12,2,0,31,0,16,7,5,0,4,39,37,26,0,2,5,4,1,3,0,1,1,0,4,2,12,15,0,2,7,1,0,21,3,5,0,5,12,8,39,7,51,24,10,68,0,0,6,1,26,22,2,5,28,199,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313154603939348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791176102894924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12849232120640133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289642412929624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307605971707715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287319360854984,0.0,0.0750319712414728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202139979202229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802446703124243,0.0,0.2091241794364591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274486829887318,0.0,0.0989617725753114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06078470811891275,0.0,0.13224145240367285,0.09758345812039244,0.0,0.12826918546481572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334041532096261,0.0,0.0,0.13424484748295126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115453031046548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278787556945659,0.09483552944682444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051875980930678,0.11660681152077065,0.0,0.0,0.2930978652021693,0.0,0.0,0.09891113410043408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928643194909363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208299497054442,0.0,0.2365122214505422,0.08848451990844584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598873772172794,0.0,0.0,0.20317341776356615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508722358719851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487522956143653,0.0,0.0,0.09935676442252964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854215082998973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624059497010204,0.13077503587684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150667555899775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291211718428607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747587787344316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568173071873976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365075259420378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199124272105825,0.0,0.0,0.09332378597729978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544068375586103,0.0,0.07492143807073982
parenting,p_b1315,2019/04/05,"My little brother (14) has been caught smoking weed, drinking alcohol, sneaking out at night, etc. My mum is pretty worried. Any similar experiences? Recently there's been a lot of arguing going on between my brother and my mum because my brother's been doing a lot of stupid shit. I get it, he's a teenager, but obviously my mum and I can't help but worry he'll go down the wrong path and start doing much riskier things (e.g start experimenting with hard drugs). My brother is very defiant and thinks my mum is out to get him because she's punishing him by taking away his phone for 2 weeks. He's becoming increasingly more aggressive and threatened to kill himself the other day if she didn't give the phone back. He's not depressed or anything and I'm not convinced he'll try anything stupid like that, he's just very manipulative and controlling. My mum doesn't really know what to do. She can't really police everything he does and knows he'll probably just continue to do this kind of stuff behind her back. She's tried multiple times sitting him down and talking through things calmly, but usually he just gets defensive and can't understand why she's so disappointed in him. It's even getting to the point where he's starting to scare her because he gets so aggressive. She's afraid one day he'll get violent towards her. She's going to see if she can organise for him to speak to a psychologist. 

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Did anyone go through a phase like this as a teenager and turned out fine as an adult? Do you have a child or a sibling who has gone through/is going through something similar?",5.928811074918567,6.8444834039087965,6.4245130293159605,76.34204641693812,66.75244299674267,9.918501628664496,34.89397394136808,10.008157457239328,3.551129120521173,1283,60,235,29,20,417,164,307,0.199,0.736,0.065,-0.9935,0,0,4,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,1,10,21,10,2,13,0,21,4,1,2,1,37,50,22,1,2,12,9,1,2,0,4,2,1,0,2,11,15,2,2,4,1,0,8,7,15,0,1,7,3,30,6,33,39,6,35,0,2,1,0,50,13,1,6,15,144,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105372229752787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206839764996092,0.12568105413113462,0.07033722452945143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07232197468637573,0.0,0.17023124684914895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717765506100164,0.1590654609171996,0.0,0.1891533401992608,0.11423238409167873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600764725536432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13341001045881504,0.0,0.0890857257961262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905139343012532,0.0,0.0,0.10132386446243163,0.1199481421562429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535388603331387,0.06831578057000473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295790349163928,0.20235244930716448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32423332660882626,0.09922128312237978,0.2939136020344776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265464746510674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932820822275207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443204937184202,0.10770838542026606,0.11368691140852275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10106318303687617,0.10366591525691153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758681694815772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760343320670336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706381174514343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008811802773196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777655776387603,0.0,0.0,0.10522740534358488,0.11151705941535556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252222038484876,0.0,0.10212650236742736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355335468554308,0.0,0.08242181616809738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617133740604807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962691365504923,0.0,0.0,0.21962884888649964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184047555597264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776790072882675,0.08313462638566177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374310888820447,0.06627497164736566,0.0,0.0,0.060311960404193586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404469127467443,0.1125041831069786,0.0,0.107676233728272,0.0,0.0,0.11391560193899886,0.17068426482483087,0.0,0.0,0.08296681439448872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333118297024692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008018759261568,0.0,0.0,0.11308652264465698,0.12568105413113462,0.0
parenting,stemlearn,2019/04/05,"Simple Yet Effective Ways to Foster Creativity in Children Creativity defines us. It helps us open our minds and adds meaning to life. In today’s world, apart from just adding meaning, it has become an integral part of learning, one of the most important skills of the 21st century. It is time that instead of being spoonfed everything, our children learn to use their own minds so that they can become the changemakers who will innovate today for a better tomorrow. Read More here  [https://thestempedia.com/blog/7-ways-to-foster-creativity-in-children/](https://thestempedia.com/blog/7-ways-to-foster-creativity-in-children/) 

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parenting,bicycle_dreams,2019/04/05,"ideas for a small gift for a new mom who's 9 year old just started daycare? A friend of mine just started her 9 month old in daycare 3 days ago.  and she's having a rough time (as is he but he seems to be adjusting ok, slowly). Apparently so is their dog!

Anyway, we don't live near each other, but I was wondering if there's something small (less than $10) that I could send her that might help her feel better? Perhaps something I could send from Amazon? 

Thanks! :D",1.6639583333333334,3.5973266458333337,2.8283333333333367,93.78333333333336,79.41666666666666,5.516666666666668,21.08333333333333,6.42735559955562,0.1391958333333334,362,10,80,3,9,116,73,96,0.0,0.731,0.269,0.9795,1,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,1,5,4,0,0,4,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,15,6,0,3,5,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,10,4,9,10,2,16,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,4,10,47,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796651140758643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17925550899941933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236497192543707,0.0,0.0,0.13071294080365034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248196662995096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659139271338288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585328336723715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288029893527491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178971670478447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150132734918324,0.0,0.2373783787452915,0.16177861377685115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957512664345417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253607370479604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845138240631476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3120685776179579,0.0,0.0,0.2869183266887101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18660209497784075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181853398100016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21979967757279614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052038134447844
parenting,mamashae,2019/04/05,"My daughter has become heartbreakingly sensitive lately My daughter is four and we are preparing for pesach. She can be a little bit tender hearted and we didn’t want her to hear about it for the first time in temple or Hebrew School, so we tried to tell her a little bit about exodus. Eventually thought maybe it was time to watch the prince of Egypt. 

She sobbed violently the whole time. The concept of a baby (she has a new baby sister) being separated from his mother literally broke her. She cried until she got sick, even after we turned it off. 

That was over a week ago and tonight she crawled back into my bed sobbing and made me promise to never put her little sister in a basket and float her down the river. 

It’s charming but I also feel awful that I introduced her to something that I never knew would make her so sad. I’ve heard so much that kids are little sociopaths and compassion isn’t really their thing, but she was heartbroken by the whole story. ",3.906209677419355,6.02698439247312,4.8039650537634415,81.32594758064519,73.35483870967741,7.230645161290322,23.45295698924731,8.07648339933343,1.4074634408602145,771,22,139,12,16,250,117,186,0.149,0.807,0.045,-0.9663,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,1,1,8,9,1,0,12,1,14,3,1,2,2,23,24,14,0,2,3,5,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,9,11,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,6,0,2,9,4,27,3,21,12,5,25,0,5,1,0,29,10,2,1,14,105,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113782420105408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928422795340187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508048461659077,0.0,0.0,0.1509264702726448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29838721135524343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501108503793427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026039075816178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909767943127369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624002809260388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10929676114340894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402191207431318,0.16193872053854172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415458911075722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5478632281631075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930777240115965,0.0912193369031786,0.0,0.13728991544238167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045831967584308,0.0,0.21079597808142486,0.13198378896455296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13737762064853876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754571269092397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383037677417708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520492163602388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944388556019801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907885680388425,0.0,0.0,0.10849007005710136,0.23905667481446385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278085619111384,0.14864313112484967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08060359913080771,0.0,0.10961767580965688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051444113242883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707692271269723,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,madi1950,2019/04/05,"Having freedom once I’m 18 I just turned 17(f) not too long ago so I have a bit of ways left to go until 18. Anyways, my mom is especially crazy when it comes to me and my boyfriend like on high level of it. She’s been like this for a long time though, not even just with the boyfriend. She’s been so strict and has always been but she’s stepped it up a notch the past few months. I want to move out once I’m 18 but I can’t financially support myself as I want to go to college. It would be great if my boyfriend and I could move in together but I don’t think we’d be able to handle it financially either.  However, I want to be able to have the freedom to do what I want once I’m 18 but I’m not sure that, with my parents, I would be able to. I don’t know what to do, any suggestions or advice on what I should do? ",0.2009082094376211,1.7565724780219796,2.2655138978668425,97.88830963154491,82.46153846153845,5.601034259857791,19.49709114414997,6.522977012572876,-0.217503943115708,629,16,162,6,17,211,94,182,0.024,0.8220000000000001,0.154,0.9666,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,6,0,23,0,0,0,1,30,38,15,0,9,12,2,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,0,2,0,0,6,6,0,0,0,3,0,22,5,23,26,3,23,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,2,10,106,32,1,0.3999442511038703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027363113262894,0.11817548244944112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109285519281254,0.0,0.0,0.0906586018077948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554517918418422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148388529472695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644098024884588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805313529667994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15153168974747533,0.0,0.0,0.14697998292308528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408543532514481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326630032030701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484686634848007,0.0,0.0,0.13026170608327092,0.0,0.0,0.235958717810204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15613662438355053,0.1064105618467947,0.28338496319231754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4259275746573085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803025354658786,0.0,0.12726401410464838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128399886628985,0.1256475745065349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542270902209954,0.13098106536055892,0.0,0.0777369030283788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450081661060724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31452997533240057,0.10581904355123303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894059473486941,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Texas1911,2019/04/05,"Teaching languages to toddlers, any pitfalls to avoid? I’m curious about any negative outcomes from teaching toddlers several languages at once and how they can be avoided. 

Our son is 3 YO and

We live in Texas, which is predominantly English and Spanish. Our household is English with some Spanglish at times (it’s Texas after all).

I speak English, German, and basic Spanish. My wife speaks English and some Spanish.

So far we’ve been exposing him to other languages (Spanish, German, French, Italian, Korean, Chinese, etc) through kids shows dubbed in other languages. I will also speak to him primarily in German at the grocery store since it offers plenty of interactions.

I’ve also been working on teaching him basics in Spanish. He knows several colors already and will ask: “how they say this in Spanish?”

We are moving closer to my in-laws who speak Spanish natively. I’m hoping to entice them into doing some immersion when they watch him or we come over.

His speech is constantly improving and he communicates well at his age.

My concern is that me speaking to him in various languages is going to confuse him rather than help. 

So I’ve tried to always say: “in Spanish, the color Red is Rojo” or “In German, this is an Äpfel (pointing to Apples), in English it is an Apple”

Although, the majority of bilingual people here simply speak Spanish and English in their households and it works out.

Am I overthinking it? Any suggestions or experiences?",6.53621787025704,8.456827162790699,6.7654793961648325,70.74306609547125,66.13178294573643,8.377315381476949,37.22235822113423,8.841846274778883,3.744973643410853,1160,61,169,19,19,373,146,258,0.047,0.901,0.052000000000000005,0.3313,0,2,0,0,0,0,40.0,5,0,5,2,11,5,0,3,5,0,18,0,0,2,1,31,25,20,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,9,0,1,12,16,0,2,1,1,1,3,1,3,1,0,2,13,25,2,36,20,7,29,0,0,4,0,37,21,0,8,5,126,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946473574577172,0.28211311978472337,0.1467680513463763,0.0,0.0,0.3598474719224246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489796403580942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519417171950875,0.0,0.1906116029120407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967180467299341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254025827629002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024475410023707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822843749648185,0.0,0.0,0.1751920154574825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096937640854964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557528859983735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874713863368102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878463180746153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228448434699905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674265705909053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805399242223381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3985340365588752,0.0,0.14590908677845776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028526342124241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975514347566067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859302845209955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568235637640575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,yuyyuyyuyyuy,2019/04/05,"Won the spanking battle, for today. I got (deservedly) ripped to shreds yesterday for spanking my kids. It's something that I hate that we've resorted to and I literally feel like the most awful parent in the entire world, but it just feels like nothing else works sometimes.

Today, though, I didn't resort to it, and I'm so damn proud of myself (I know this is something that most of you do literally every day, but small steps). My five year old has these awful, uncontrollable, kicking, biting, punching, house destroying tantrums like once a week-ish. Usually the only thing that will get him to stop is the threat (or act, sometimes) of spanking.

Today he had one and in a situation where I 100% would have spanked in the past, I didn't. I didn't even threaten. I got punched in the face three times, put him back in time out about 850 times, and had all my nicely folded clean laundry thrown across the room, but I sat there and held him and I put him back in time out over and over and over again and I didn't spank him.

It's a small step, but it makes me feel like maybe there's hope and it won't always be the way it's been lately. If anyone has been through this or has any advice I'd love to hear it. ",4.4997993827160485,5.141346477366255,4.706787551440332,88.36783564814816,69.8230452674897,7.556481481481483,25.475565843621396,7.413659706084162,0.983650411522634,946,25,203,9,16,296,140,243,0.13699999999999998,0.73,0.133,-0.0309,1,0,2,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,0,3,11,16,6,1,12,2,19,2,1,1,1,32,35,19,0,3,8,1,3,4,0,3,0,1,2,1,16,12,0,2,4,0,0,5,5,7,0,3,13,4,23,9,24,18,3,41,0,0,0,1,11,17,1,6,22,127,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11967750220473128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190590300219853,0.0,0.0,0.0832846595538913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08563475571171962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883456853451008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789838337841374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230902628996998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089111512423731,0.0,0.10318732245294976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18577545348774327,0.2624804874112445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398618086722778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590291630901904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091501835365838,0.0,0.0,0.13803401599091594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164159958652113,0.0,0.1413153958843287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673070040489559,0.0,0.13815292078779515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23933309421768506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053509777585424,0.0,0.08175052003444135,0.0,0.12303884641051464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175144813211417,0.0,0.12851299017042708,0.13042789962411333,0.08298969838180692,0.09314491539114596,0.0,0.0,0.13598984568989644,0.0,0.11691267984298374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462348951523876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766283260197318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18856872557748028,0.24225442427334926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10239146099181927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136446615738346,0.0,0.12032739551496376,0.0,0.28565591678629804,0.0,0.348265315567384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488479519679605,0.0,0.0,0.09721198916311867,0.09823906099994888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916053915525797,0.0,0.0,0.08700007240273781,0.0,0.0,0.07886747893645904
parenting,IAmATerribleDaddy,2019/04/06,"I hate my daughter (and feel so guilty about it) My daughter is 8 years old. She’s getting her own, full, unique personality. And it’s terrible. She’s obsessed with commercial characters. She’ll go around asking questions like “Who is.your favorite  princess of LaLa Land?” She gets really snotty when you explain you have no idea what shes talking about.

She’s mean and rude. She has one friend, who is a complete pushover and wants to be told what to do, 

I’d she wasn’t my daughter, I wouldn’t want my kids to hang out with her.

Just to be clear: she goes to a small private school, gets very little screen time, and participates in extracurricular activates. We do everything we can to teach her character. Maybe it will work - eventually. But in the meantime I have a daughter I can’t stand, and a mountain of guilt.",3.304423076923076,5.740570339743591,3.7454871794871814,86.73284615384617,76.37179487179488,6.98051282051282,27.707692307692305,8.021203637495839,1.8109953846153848,647,27,127,11,15,202,103,156,0.124,0.7959999999999999,0.08,-0.7793,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,2,0,1,6,7,2,2,5,0,16,0,0,0,1,23,28,9,0,3,2,4,1,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,7,12,0,0,5,0,0,2,4,5,0,1,2,2,24,2,16,21,2,15,0,0,1,0,30,8,0,1,5,80,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634318945548145,0.19569015610894314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21947276167299773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18812736841134026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584075958533723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16172359386072227,0.0,0.3280902440514873,0.0,0.1189639404809024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666461280371254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23630188788173895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022653801013872,0.20979814624358264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210294601112924,0.2280157523013105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21965085657215275,0.0,0.1418437024308164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277408436460205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344913525603752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340986384190108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21184757508191834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682471086194536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205880262338742,0.0,0.0,0.20001853561184116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727146394475633,0.24693003375900655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239073320071278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479811870462427
parenting,momsthrowawayyy,2019/04/06,"I think my son is developing severe mental illness and I'm scared to confront him about it. I need some urgent advice because since my son is an adult, this is even harder for me to deal with considering he's dominant over me. Although he's never hit me or really acted violent, but the way he's behaving makes me extremely wary of him. He's 22.

I don't know when problems truly started, but he was diagnosed with Aspergers when he was three - however, this wasn't too much of a concern since I know people can still function normally with these disorders and my son is quite intelligent but has been anti-social his whole life. But seemed to get on life fine without associating with many people, works full time too. 

The only thing I have issue with him is that he smokes cannabis - which I have no power - because he's an adult and he can make his own decisions - but I personally just don't like drugs. If he was a teenager, it would be different and I definately wouldn't allow it.

When I noticed anything strange, it was a few months ago when we moved house. His bedroom was naturally warmer than all of the other rooms in the house for some reason but this was no concern of ours. I got into an argument with him because he believes me and my husband planted radiators inside the walls of his room - before we moved - and were trying to drive him out the house. He refused to talk to us for days and had actually damaged our wall with hammer trying to these ""radiators"" we put in his room. 

I know this was a big mistake, but I stupidly didn't realise how concerning this should have been and I shouldn't have shruggled it off as him ""just being irrational."" I know this could have been the first signs of something I should have recognized.

Currently, his behaviour has been erratic and quite scary. When he thinks I'm not in the house or sleeping, he starts yelling to himself or people he's imagining and I've seen him just stand in one spot for minutes at a time. I'm afraid if I come out while he does this, he'll get violent. 

He's slowly talking to me less and less and most of the time, he's just in his room. He hasn't been out in days - and it used to be everyday he would go out - and seems to just be scared of doing anything and interacting with people. I believe he sees things that aren't there and it's stressing me the hell out. He claims we've been in arguments that never happened. And earlier on today when I was speaking to him, my son gave me this scared shitless look on his face and told me I was speaking backwards.

I can't deal with this anymore. I've told him so many times that he should book a doctors appointment and he keeps insisting he's fine and won't go. I've considered just phoning the doctor on his behalf and they can perhaps just visit him regardless if he wants it or not?

I'm just concerned for him and although he's never violent, I'm afraid it will eventually. Please help, what else can I do?




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parenting,rtt790,2019/04/06,"How to cope with cheating ex bringing bf around my son My ex gf and I have a 4 year old son together. We were together for 9 years, unmarried however. She cheated on me, broke up with me a few months ago and immediately started dating the guy she cheated on me with. Her and I are the same age, late twenties, her bf is mid forties. Her and I are barley speaking as we have a scheduling conference soon. We were co parenting fine with me having our son 4 days and her 3 days. All of a sudden she wanted to change this and filed in court. 

Back to the question, my son has recently started saying his mom has been taking him to her friends house on the days she has him and they’ve been spending the night there. I’m very uncomfortable with this, I’m very uncomfortable and pissed that this old ass dude is around my son. I know legally I can’t do anything about it. It just pisses me off, she destroyed our family and is now making a new family with someone literally 15 years her elder. Honestly, I’m over what she did to me, but I’m not over my son being brought around this guy and the fact that this guy will be a major part of my sons life. Does anyone have any tips on how I can get over this? ",2.9838061617458256,4.31001741056911,4.281424903722723,87.427567394095,74.08130081300814,7.6179717586649565,25.142490372272142,8.20500826718156,1.3529707317073179,937,30,203,15,19,309,137,246,0.08900000000000001,0.883,0.028,-0.9104,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,0,0,0,11,10,6,0,12,0,23,4,3,3,2,34,36,14,0,1,3,11,0,0,4,1,1,2,0,3,11,22,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,7,0,0,6,2,38,3,29,27,5,39,0,1,0,1,41,14,3,1,23,136,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798259216738037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905106255701567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306462140245547,0.0,0.10952761320183127,0.3554540431392533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234349215892584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079913583009318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575099511971603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647421221450326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509442938967619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10283052733110996,0.0,0.06953776708891385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953613097164889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535762402427606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314671242405807,0.0,0.1501393816319371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940104526494377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884338062539633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588177255732474,0.10623687469220536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854605610437367,0.0,0.12490265830148435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27932613752692664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778863323103436,0.14413124239045008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909926784792338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141737790204538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584419519379913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277278262355435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884136945404294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007249207418857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963817434691454,0.07850414704237649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25713060102242585
parenting,SadStepdad098855,2019/04/06,"Do i have the right to be upset? Im a Step dad of two children 6F and 7M. Ive been with her 3 years . I've done so much for them I've supported them emotionally, financially, and I'm very big in there school things where as the birth fathers are non existent. The birth fathers have began in the past 6 months to come around and speak bad about me to the children.  

The father of the little girl even called cps saying he suspects abuse an investigation and forensic was done what a suprise no charges.     Now he takes it upon himself to text Every night late 11pm -1140. Not asking about his child just texting my wife things like wyd and miss you etc..    I told him it was innapropriate and he responds threatening to kill me and has now created a rule that I'm,not allowed to see his daughter. .

He came and picked her up yesterday and took her to his mothers house, in order for her to see her daughter today she had to go over there without me.    Am i wrong for thinking I'm being treated wrong ?  My wife just tells me their stupid and i should just accept it but I'm hurt I want my family and i feel like I'm nothing",3.484752526561288,4.751642118942733,4.224695516973308,88.55665457372378,72.74449339207051,7.103291008033169,25.687742938585124,7.5105763829236425,1.1016646281420055,879,28,188,10,17,281,144,227,0.11,0.8240000000000001,0.066,-0.8766,1,0,0,0,1,1,18.0,0,1,3,0,13,13,2,1,11,0,16,0,0,2,0,29,35,14,1,2,6,9,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,4,7,15,0,0,4,0,0,5,3,8,0,1,10,5,29,5,26,22,2,29,0,2,2,0,39,11,0,0,14,115,36,1,0.0,0.16832759072236872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12647082187880193,0.13281459305815846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862101625074856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506752058813605,0.16248817811651445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223791782743965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907701956917124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980760778207584,0.0,0.0,0.15844360163208698,0.0938347089468048,0.0,0.11969858932593035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13392925910179773,0.0,0.07183395267704283,0.10149355341280568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08074063436675831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392763311696906,0.15208695083930485,0.0,0.15345803948022382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571774187076737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025912230735812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881469678568994,0.14238966318870466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339748512210487,0.0,0.10443647660826706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333213856063587,0.0,0.1363182734576998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356201761887973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132547007447725,0.0,0.11297833811964188,0.0,0.14378060723299102,0.22641993010898076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121731445560808,0.0,0.0,0.10681760889514727,0.0,0.12417387231401013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887676041741849,0.09103156874004617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466404591052925,0.13575225723968545,0.15784300214899255,0.0,0.0,0.13877999211177233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722114698832495,0.0837955076526228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694867905991764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3106585579387138,0.0,0.09148726556686428
parenting,BrewersWife13,2019/04/06,"Parenting. A moment of peace. If you ever think “ahhh...a moment of peace” just know it will always be interrupted by a little one. It’s been a long 12 hour day for me. I finally get my kids in bed and sit on the couch for a few minutes. I get up to go poop and shower. The toilet seat wasn’t even warm yet and I hear KNOCK KNOCK “mom, can I go get a cough drop?” Me: “really? Your dad is closer to the cough drops than I am? You couldn’t have asked him? Sure, go get a cough drop.” Lol",-1.5591913746630723,0.37168790566037657,1.2779514824797855,99.38584905660377,94.47169811320757,4.538005390835579,11.345013477088948,6.18269132825596,-1.2275477088948787,362,4,92,4,14,125,74,106,0.061,0.795,0.14300000000000002,0.8611,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,9,1,9,4,1,0,2,10,20,4,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,1,3,1,3,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,2,2,12,2,11,15,1,20,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,8,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238435892401025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049138704415192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135997489536692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14477349927672042,0.19827068655628727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401128789453495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4580727213501395,0.0,0.373713659976004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470440354732605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585884965967506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046156721951372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21968683051330912,0.0,0.193977018235258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567136922620611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852940301541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24338551639929776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041928099888473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065847965055866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044865592983294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eillybee,2019/04/06,"Loaded hurtful questions I am a mom of two under two and sometimes I have a bad day a bad week but I just have to remind myself that not all days are good and not all days are bad. Some days I get alot accomplished and others I don't. But each day is a new day for my little children and a day that they get to experience, learn, and grow. So I just have to take the good with the bad and be the best that I can be each and every day. Know that simply being there is a huge accomplishment and often enough. They may not be able to look back at these early days and remember I was  there for them but these days will be gone before I know it and they are passing quickly. I love to enjoy these precious times for they grow up way to quickly. I never feel guilty for spending all day holding my baby I will never get a time like this back so yeah I may not have gotten a lot accomplished today but I held my baby close and that is an accomplishment in and of itself right? I always dread the what did you accomplish today questions from my husband as if I'm only worth what I did around the house. I know he doesn't mean it in that way but it comes across as condescending and belittling. Like I was watching two kids who are under two they didn't die the house didn't blow up that's what I accomplished today stop asking! ",1.5042565558258971,3.5798844270073005,2.8809164639091662,92.4828048121114,80.64233576642336,5.5191132738578,18.542308732089754,6.605766666666668,-0.06852160043254908,1039,23,225,10,27,337,132,274,0.084,0.708,0.208,0.9918,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,6,7,12,14,0,1,16,1,30,1,0,0,5,54,47,23,1,1,12,2,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,2,20,19,0,3,9,0,2,5,10,6,0,4,9,3,31,8,25,29,10,46,0,1,2,1,17,13,0,9,28,171,51,7,0.08571687969142155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132331053932772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630619595918232,0.08013371158326896,0.0,0.0,0.13182197899096498,0.2862800565835215,0.0,0.0,0.07293875127089648,0.0,0.08995457692492281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383750196293316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6080832584248093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08896058816967711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885684502874924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222016807872947,0.0,0.0,0.08384755611786951,0.0,0.0,0.043341029876044525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343505954150787,0.0,0.0,0.14379050375070576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197811541190672,0.09176169254834024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14132326616501995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375387538079054,0.0859108320830831,0.0,0.0,0.07198059059299591,0.0,0.0,0.07287342584902151,0.07736283053192826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337081074830972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003905735169596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222028379207834,0.08278589654166048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519154955585629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204504496774735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09710051518331582,0.07320174690740036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477618578975435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166314956982847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444842593065007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996440372990928,0.0,0.24374873800739102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349317452350534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607613861342835,0.06875691052597954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Bwompuss,2019/04/06,Past your bedtime. Some nights we anxiously wait for our 4 y.o. son to go to sleep so we can watch our shows and play our video games that are not child friendly.  9/10 times these are the nights he doesn't want to go to bed on time and we end up staying up past ours just to get our entertainment fix.  Who else has this issue? What do you do to remedy it? ,1.2599428571428568,3.0755682133333337,2.119238095238096,98.95200000000001,80.2,5.885714285714287,17.38095238095238,6.868970318607317,-0.4097047619047625,276,5,68,3,7,86,58,75,0.077,0.857,0.066,0.2047,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,8,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,7,1,1,0,0,10,12,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,5,0,1,0,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,10,3,10,12,1,13,0,0,1,0,16,3,0,1,7,40,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738107528012078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20247024796621046,0.0,0.21466916707415595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872555828140052,0.0,0.12662908031085907,0.0,0.2754905635820442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2529728261147894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4548983785710307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4627419522322978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425464900582806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583357195975941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826574858645051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14295696219082973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sassafrassquatch,2019/04/06,"In search of songbook for toddler My 2 year old loves when I get out the guitar and play for her. 

Mostly she demands baby shark.

I'm not a good guitarist. Can anyone recommend a songbook with basic chords that I could use as a reference for new kids songs to sing? Digital or print",1.9925595238095253,4.443536946428573,3.2214285714285715,88.59023809523809,81.32142857142857,5.8761904761904775,23.619047619047624,7.1686216300943375,1.064104761904762,223,8,43,3,6,72,49,56,0.043,0.8029999999999999,0.154,0.7347,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,9,6,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,9,5,1,6,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,2,4,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28283043386135953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32295420231294586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21133054150036815,0.0,0.0,0.3392689655713675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3650701096888184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39066120155308987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4244466451108025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493514914463115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26047979117546105
parenting,Jwell0517,2019/04/06,"Need help getting my kids to talk to me. I'm active duty army, recently divorced. Ever since I left my ex-wife has made it as hard as possible to talk to my kids. Now, when I do talk to them all they want to do is play with the camera filters on Facebook. My boy is 7 and my girl is 3. How can I get them to be more interested in talking to me? They literally ignore me n just play with those damn camera filters. I wasn't harsh but I told my boy earlier this week to stop and talk to me and now he says he doesn't even want me to call. All they care about is playing with those filters and it breaks my heart that they don't want to talk to me.",1.5095454545454532,2.4867021056338032,3.4051088348271463,93.64213188220232,77.23943661971829,6.572087067861714,22.06402048655569,6.980632752743323,0.3196676056338021,497,13,123,5,11,168,80,142,0.053,0.799,0.14800000000000002,0.8673,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,6,0,8,7,1,0,1,0,12,1,1,2,3,21,22,9,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,6,7,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,24,5,21,18,3,11,0,0,0,0,24,3,1,0,7,79,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771810120149848,0.0,0.157479440037637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201754370575243,0.13971540739416322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613950553941789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383633396038932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303256125334733,0.10352942546207997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781823234980842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615116566217548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11452807893754778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741273192195074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250788078324568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228305887692138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277686167874798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12913316043159515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7448812245132542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759050240093213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733086283395432,0.0,0.1238962732035753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kirasews,2019/04/06,"18 mo old aggression My son is 18mo old. And hes super aggressive. He bits, kicks, hits, pulls hair. He even climbs on the arm of the couch when were sitting there and throws himself at us. Im 19 weeks pregnant and exsauhsted and sick all the time so I am 100% frustrated and done with this behavior. I dont know where he picked it up, we dont hit him and he dosent go to daycare.
I know he does it out of frustration (hiting and hair pulling) or sometimes because he thinks its funny (mostly biting and tossing himself onto us)
Does time out work for such a young child? He dosent respond very well to language, dosent know his name, but he hears fine. And he dosent talk yet... 
Im tired. Send help",1.1794285714285735,3.5812157285714328,2.0667857142857144,95.82946428571432,84.57142857142857,5.214285714285714,20.892857142857142,6.6274283507984215,0.2594285714285713,542,17,117,6,16,169,99,140,0.092,0.8270000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.1117,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,3,8,7,4,0,4,0,7,5,3,1,1,23,15,13,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,4,13,0,0,4,0,0,6,2,4,1,0,2,3,12,3,12,11,3,22,0,0,0,0,25,7,0,2,8,59,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811333952200517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757152010423437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816960363972265,0.16470724952810026,0.3772633006084153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10630564652014328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147132690176063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814018176056696,0.0,0.10788107719343976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477062226495959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265360957248602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377789139220469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918320049853746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936513544015155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312995987592924,0.0,0.0,0.1877019303642464,0.1849878079396356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872049344528771,0.0,0.0,0.13280021813134166,0.0,0.0,0.12910400452623044,0.0,0.1447129566039597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717317463638582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,quiidge,2019/04/06,"Karma decides my recent misuse of the word ""sh*tshow"" needs correcting A timely reminder that I will never have enough parenting experience to not panic in the face of a midnight vompoopsplosion.

I take it back, universe, Brexit is pretty damn stupid but it pales in comparison to the look on my 10yos face and the state of my carpet. It's been a long time since last incident, and f*ck me but 10yos can hold a damn sight more volume than 5yos. The award for worst clean-up operation goes to the last hour of my life. 

LPT: Get good, waterproof terry cotton mattress protectors. For all the beds. Put them on and never, ever remove them. EVER. Tonight could have been worse.",5.053387096774191,7.13441885483871,5.233096774193552,79.62964516129036,70.12903225806451,7.863225806451613,25.30322580645161,8.548686976883017,1.8237638709677424,534,16,93,9,10,168,89,124,0.127,0.7809999999999999,0.092,-0.7049,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,2,1,3,7,3,1,11,0,8,3,2,0,6,17,12,5,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,2,9,2,14,8,4,20,1,0,2,0,3,4,2,0,13,61,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279803098696687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586561608771237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20532364807576511,0.0,0.0,0.3594945696172092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437944379150585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381934079322568,0.0,0.0,0.16667103631662056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956922770690078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239552333354848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035686836561362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17585475164609576,0.16686887264289355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734317143199888,0.30651943135146303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331468901000522,0.22064727012530036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021625593595932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997614496484441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620511433907886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437744683740607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494074456747104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23174229632470075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20250552327265445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,organicwomana,2019/04/06,"I love my boyfriend but not his son and I don’t think I ever will I was a bit hesitant to date my boyfriend when I found out he had a son but he only has him every other weekend so I thought it would be fine. He looked cute enough in pictures and I’ve dealt with my cousins sons who are a similar age to him and been fine with them, I didn’t meet his son until after a few months and at first he was ok but it’s becoming increasingly hard to deal with him. He has behavioural issues, he gets angry if he doesn’t get his own way, he pees the bed, he wants to sleep in bed with my boyfriend, he’s a really fussy eater and is addicted to watching tv. He screams if we turn it off. I think his mom lets him do whatever he wants because it’s easier than telling him no, 

I know it’s only every other weekend I have to deal with him but I dread it. are there any others in my position, how do you cope? ",1.1163710407239795,2.606337210256409,2.922503770739066,94.5400452488688,79.46153846153845,6.434389140271492,21.726998491704375,7.285733465282438,0.4489849170437403,696,20,168,9,17,232,110,195,0.093,0.8170000000000001,0.09,-0.1655,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,1,1,5,7,0,1,6,1,19,4,2,1,1,29,31,15,0,5,7,6,1,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,10,12,0,0,5,3,0,1,5,2,0,1,7,4,29,5,20,20,5,18,0,0,2,1,37,6,0,2,10,106,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787814614614504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719842464066448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050580430451432,0.1903381253391128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881527552188987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553539318711532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807528721424726,0.0,0.0,0.15589314561789835,0.2904110240505616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465939605991179,0.0,0.18896403460967628,0.0,0.0,0.18008309421158805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438452101560815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988020274002825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471461952385317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762313035329199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472381871977993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554532366731225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20184478959050026,0.1375616870863772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621476129122327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11040665567123677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246639678907036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063444616227964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208595042564878,0.0,0.13682024442282628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18745853442229327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330347521449965,0.13679700496020747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224267648308856,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,zozo213,2019/04/06,"Her father always let's her have what she wants, I feel I can't imput goodness. Not sure if this belongs here I've just joined and looking for some advice...?

I have 3 children and my eldest who is 10 seems to always get what she wants, I feel it's not really down to me. I want to put my foot down but she ends up going to her father every time who gives in to everything.

I feel it's damaging her quite a bit, her moods and the way she handles things. She also now seems quite entitled and is often quite bratty, I want to stop it getting worse but feel I haven't got much control and I'm letting things spiral out of control.

How do I rein this in and change habits?

Also I can't talk to her without her whinging or snapping my head off. It's hard to be around her most of the time, she's super hard work. What to do in this situation, I don't want to feel like I'm failing but I often feel it?",1.6353432642487036,3.0113178549222863,3.359970854922281,92.45788374352331,77.70466321243524,5.861269430051812,20.870790155440414,6.322622252153567,0.09164274611398948,698,17,159,5,16,233,101,193,0.119,0.799,0.08199999999999999,-0.7948,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,8,9,7,0,0,3,0,13,2,2,3,1,40,34,14,0,6,9,2,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,15,8,0,4,8,0,0,2,7,2,0,0,1,9,30,4,23,30,4,17,0,2,1,0,21,9,0,8,6,108,45,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405353189120244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866754983575568,0.1942341366396523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390199207183076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742365121299232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234700601422707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26181385436857824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10337573966401607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833827039623852,0.0,0.10489682181724873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35409072246043705,0.08338193921239002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195859348154245,0.11196462985100744,0.06633239688984442,0.09789584969418567,0.09334845355732596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091092350541544,0.0,0.11978429645565958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387000512223613,0.0,0.057021545802486175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801205077920253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579969516574235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173318249028407,0.0,0.3724255230967309,0.0,0.0,0.07477126320832922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125077397027087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119368284895316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757980862300776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11000345596756778,0.0,0.0,0.09381190585483293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508185857383192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611608537485298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442106267057148,0.09264373421878336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251006638959983,0.0,0.08497064367691158,0.0,0.11894358316031715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ultrarnner87,2019/04/06,"Baby on the way and possible move (With MIL) Hey everyone! My wife is pregnant with our first child, reached the 2nd trimester.

We are looking to escape our rental and possibly buy our first home.

So eligible for a home loan but wife wants MIL to move in with us.

So the MIL is set to retire in a year. Wife wants MIL on the loan and look into buying a place with an in law set up.

Then eventually down the road plan would be to transfer the loan to my wife and I instead of myself and MIL. Then rent out to the MIL.

Curious anyone gone this path?

There is pros have someone home with the baby 24/7 between the wife, myself, and MIL.

Look forward to reading responses.",2.5267042606516306,4.5185581052631605,3.4603195488721816,89.99443922305767,76.96992481203006,6.5385964912280725,23.865288220551378,7.492282038375204,0.9744491228070172,520,17,109,7,12,166,77,133,0.0,0.956,0.044,0.5848,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,13,0,7,0,0,0,0,19,13,11,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,1,14,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,0,2,1,3,10,0,24,10,0,23,0,0,3,0,12,12,0,0,6,70,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573896854446965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816628543973446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28159105795062983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981053849532062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41699807813436507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518538801776905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17293845441344796,0.0,0.0,0.3732092624729005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655698504895606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024884369642415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910626307846388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952619345187236,0.13138608573569766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758425138835317,0.0,0.0,0.10659270979340496
parenting,mmoalemm,2019/04/06,"Sharing with you an album of lullabies I have recorded for my kids and subsequently put them online, hope you enjoy and maybe play them to your little ones you can find it on:
Spotify	https://open.spotify.com/album/13SZD5MeOCGLJhSRXe1Wja

Itunes	https://geo.itunes.apple.com/us/album/berceuse-pour-josephine/1369766428?uo=4&app=music&ls=1&at=1000lHKX

Google	https://play.google.com/music/m/B6yo7nmt6qey7jjrsyolpog6z5a?signup_if_needed=1

Amazon	https://music.amazon.com/albums/B07CBSSM3M",23.3658,31.08280198000001,10.904000000000002,25.792000000000034,59.2,8.4,29.0,8.238735603445708,4.0116000000000005,449,12,33,8,10,104,45,50,0.0,0.7290000000000001,0.271,0.9074,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,4,5,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,0,20,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7810880099719245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219627923639643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238670030742226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24084162037916385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414115348294015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283207333183342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24156575626921145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890487818662008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brewtality,2019/04/06,"She shouldn't have said that Out for dinner right now at a Mexican restaurant. Enjoying our 4th basket of chips. My wife looks at our youngest (2f, who has always been a very skinny baby) as she turns her mouth into a wood chipper for tortilla chips and says, ""She is finally getting a little round in her cheeks. Growing a bit.""

Our eldest daughter, sitting next to mommy, says ""Only thing growing around here is mom's butt.""

My wife puts her head in her hands, but I can tell she's laughing. 

""I shouldn't have said that.""",3.8624009900990117,5.5497021089108935,4.054542079207923,88.48003094059406,72.46534653465345,6.238118811881187,25.496287128712872,6.6274283507984215,0.9223356435643559,407,13,79,3,8,126,73,101,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,9,7,6,0,0,7,14,3,0,2,1,4,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,7,15,2,12,9,1,16,0,0,2,1,21,9,1,0,3,49,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178285074176395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19448280969895906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385104386917869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23932098065867394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11414049651149097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.224211163501124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189622978457871,0.0,0.0,0.1834580708204172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25586704407741817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323431627675985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615473444691056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21962064941387488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18657045125193608,0.41562613305699625,0.34746899413183624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1909506336724159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514041062814434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376304148698945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18025895367605926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,downwithwindows,2019/04/06,"Relief / an answer--I'm not a horrible mother after all! TLDR: 3YO with a history of significant behavioral problems later diagnosed with mixed receptive / expressive language delay.  He spoke pretty ""typically"" otherwise which is why it got missed, but looking back outburst were 95% out of frustration.  

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My almost 4 year old entered the planet on his own terms and has been making this world his bitch ever since.  Kid spent the first two weeks of his life in the NICU because when the doctors told him to cry he was like, ""nah thanks I'm good... pneumonia sounds like more fun!""    

Jokes aside, he does everything intensely, and we have been dealing with some **significant** behavioral issues.  This isn't going to be a post where I list his faults because I don't want him finding this one day and thinking less of himself. But I will say  behaviors include; kicking, hitting, biting, to throwing toys, and screaming.   He is our youngest, but none of the behavioral management strategies that worked on our oldest helped.   We went to his pediatrician who said ""oh he looks good it's just the terrible twos continued, but he is a bit delayed on his fine motor skills and referred him to OT.""  He spent 6 months in OT with little behavior improvement, the opposite really, so we got a referral to behavioral health.   

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The therapist at behavioral health **changed our lives**.  You see, she put in a referral for a speech language evaluation.   She noticed that he follows rules and only seems to hit or yell when he is frustrated or doesn't seem to understand what is going on around him.  He was later diagnosed by the Speech Language Pathologist with a mixed receptive language delay.  It was missed because he does speak, but looking back most of his early talking was him just parroting back things his brother said or stuff he heard on the radio or tv.    Everything now makes so much sense.  Why he just blankly looks at us when we tell him to take off his shoes and put them away, but if his brother is home and doing it at the same time he will do it no problem.   

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He has started speech therapy and we can already see a change in just a few weeks.  My sweet little guy is so much happier and less frustrated.  I could kiss that therapist who suggested the speech eval.  When I say she changed our lives, I don't think there is a way to adequately explain it to strangers on the internet, but damn she did.   This is the first time in two years I don't have bruises or scratches  somewhere on me from one of his meltdowns.   I'm just so relieved that he is happier, and on the selfish side it's nice to know that it's not something we (my husband and I) were doing wrong.   

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TLDR #2 / LPT: Don't be afraid to ask for a Speech Evaluation if you feel something isn't clicking with your child and they aren't understanding what you're telling them. ",5.51425342201658,7.1521986372180475,5.544661654135336,79.60627626759208,68.26691729323308,9.065432812801236,32.62598804704068,9.466822959209583,3.1061742240215926,2273,101,408,48,39,713,270,532,0.119,0.785,0.096,-0.9239,0,0,2,0,0,0,88.0,11,3,3,4,21,28,5,1,28,0,40,8,1,2,2,74,81,35,0,6,21,4,2,2,0,2,6,15,1,3,24,27,0,3,11,4,2,8,12,15,0,6,19,25,51,13,51,55,14,66,0,2,7,1,81,25,2,12,33,262,75,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776476134239212,0.0,0.07467886825665228,0.0,0.0,0.2932947865749359,0.3289205406776594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060243341678592625,0.06326514519826154,0.0,0.0635810366674301,0.1561091420154591,0.0,0.12375854769727268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388141848763739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21476726880515135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054031405575086726,0.0,0.07433564264393164,0.043643504062016635,0.06976791947919082,0.0,0.13737339610281554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926621083990421,0.11844224419921955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061214127411264585,0.0,0.0,0.12164030644121256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03421751587408866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185192081501236,0.11512528464633184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07692028170994626,0.113521848897099,0.10824860372136914,0.0,0.0,0.06700693641685597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14386652665446328,0.0,0.0,0.04535980361257951,0.0,0.06788156395300324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063305834036604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03719132591918738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047799460405353884,0.0661232455378883,0.1356523030932345,0.11951304560189152,0.0,0.2273131956749799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034454222483344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05401596463293898,0.0,0.09949492302737584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770461899442902,0.07101145816565016,0.0,0.09171398917734827,0.051468386611110514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648120534573756,0.06884779750416052,0.0,0.12950789508155774,0.0,0.13606016740291146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043353074059304615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12874509157422384,0.10763261477249808,0.0,0.0,0.10785328196467324,0.12321396459275925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05597982737240024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041960050103681,0.0,0.0,0.04789931692806056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746942545706934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088169440479635,0.05439301581461088,0.11829841707734952,0.06230423124195194,0.07739000430903427,0.15714720083895475,0.044958952219874976,0.08672428656153279,0.0,0.0,0.07892137268668314,0.0,0.0,0.06466447750586915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221342850058962,0.14090001576165778,0.08140231930161088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039915304760854135,0.05371569903168411,0.10856644081161436,0.0,0.0,0.06273357415526885,0.12212876227402007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0492667697471985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398983169894971,0.3289205406776594,0.08715842147474087
parenting,bluesnowbird,2019/04/06,"It sucks when the whole family is sick So my 9mo threw up Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. 3yo was diagnosed with influenza A on Wednesday, after three days of fever. I've had stomach pain since Monday and haven't been able to eat much. Nursing baby ducks me dry, and she's not been sleeping well without any solids. And then my husband come down with the stomach flu last night. I went to urgent care out of desperation, and they couldn't diagnose my stomach pain but I officially have influenza A too.

I feel like this is never going to end.

I feel like I can't take care of myself because I have to take care of everyone else.

Thank God we have a good friend who has been filling in when she can. I'm dreading tonight though; the 3yo is the only one who slept last night.",3.8157843137254894,5.436459418300657,4.26746732026144,87.1761029411765,72.46405228758171,7.191503267973857,27.12908496732026,7.793537801064563,1.5047084967320257,613,22,123,8,12,193,103,153,0.106,0.703,0.191,0.9561,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,1,0,6,13,1,1,7,0,16,13,5,0,1,17,31,11,0,1,3,1,2,2,1,0,7,0,0,0,4,10,1,0,2,0,0,5,6,4,1,2,8,2,15,9,17,22,2,27,0,0,0,0,8,5,1,0,19,78,19,0,0.14296316487357194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972198545298444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714901837080738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372814237522407,0.0,0.0,0.1231501077148512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09219941429591244,0.0,0.0,0.2902092059913928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628700845890155,0.11942737961923,0.0,0.12662293036252745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660743058853406,0.0,0.0,0.13477294844696033,0.0,0.14457294344510455,0.20426582710214167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104529865458579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124926118507833,0.11991071985453647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330681208227934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968916201767514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509437573465397,0.0,0.11026200615005076,0.0,0.0,0.2683224912869232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968755404341202,0.10872992905328836,0.3042457741561215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826060732400093,0.0,0.14306641116148688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21498101599906505,0.0,0.0,0.13162127450862673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404605836246497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854105440722227,0.1325282861244601,0.0,0.15961326807239085,0.0,0.1378113892856878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Grand_Dude12,2019/04/06,"My 13 year old daughter crying....normal? Ok. So my 13 year old daughter has had a very up and down moody day. And she has closed herself in her room but is audibly crying. 

I know she's in pre-puberty or heck even in puberty. She hasn't had her first period yet, for example.

My question is this: do I let her cry it out or should I go and talk to her and guide her through her feelings. I'm torn.

The story is a bit longer than this but I think this may be enough.....",-0.8633461538461518,1.2263206500000052,1.4520000000000015,98.35330769230772,92.5,5.0769230769230775,17.69230769230769,6.67199483983844,-0.1365461538461532,355,10,86,5,13,119,66,100,0.128,0.856,0.016,-0.899,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,1,13,0,0,0,0,16,18,9,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,4,6,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,2,17,1,10,12,2,17,0,0,0,0,14,8,1,4,8,60,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463263902206644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4956816177068101,0.1455108338773484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23313314033568636,0.0,0.14902459213571725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140838568089068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191918322431794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822909816991498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399877058027263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23071902823130214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4735154389916666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527540240001339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135054135527426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457275516941676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18616601272264005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29059294987408285
parenting,gingerfred2000,2019/04/06,"My kids (5&9) won’t stop peeing in their beds and it’s pissing me off My 9yo still pees in his bed, if we don’t take him to the toilet every night. Even then it happens that he goes to sleep at 8 and when it’s time to pee around 10:30 he’s already fully wet. We tried it all, underwear with pee sensor that goes off (he doesn’t wake up from it, and anyway once it rings it’s too late), we let him sleep in his piss (he wakes up early morning on half hearted cleans a bit but mainly tired to sleep around the puddle), we make him set an alarm at 10 to wake up, he ignores it, it rings 30 minutes next to his head. When I take him to pee he is like a zombie, he doesn’t wake up no matter what, he walks into walls and wrong doors. Seems to me part of the problem, doesn’t realize anything once asleep. We tried to reduce water intake in the evenings, but obviously his bladder still has some ammo at some point in the night. He was wearing big nappies until a year ago, but those were full to the brim each night and we feel it doesn’t help him to develop out of it. 

Our 5yo stopped peeing into nappies a year ago and was fine, and now starts peeing into bed every few days again. She wakes up at least and changes herself, or I can go and wake her up and ask her to go to the toilet before, and she will go and stay dry until next morning.

But the big one, we’re lost. We were at several doctors, they’re happy, safe and intelligent kids with a strong support system and clearly no abuse, no dysfunctional environment.

We’re at a loss. Even if some nights work without accidents, we have to still get up 1-2 times a night, etc... 
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parenting,Shshshannon,2019/04/06,"My 5 year old LOVES Tball practice, but hates games. What do I do? He has so much fun at practice, but has been too nervous to do anything at games. He refused to even look at his best friends playing today, but I know he’s going to be so excited for our next practice. He is a social little butterfly when there isn’t another team and when everyone is in regular clothes. How would you handle this? ",3.664541666666669,4.985067037500002,4.655000000000001,85.4366666666667,72.375,7.833333333333335,30.833333333333336,8.344100000000001,2.2583333333333337,313,14,63,5,6,102,60,80,0.094,0.659,0.246,0.9514,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,2,8,8,1,1,1,0,11,1,0,1,0,8,16,9,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,6,6,8,13,2,12,0,0,1,1,14,5,0,0,6,42,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27463678053892804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21553064124986898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27485969668507115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298990950570098,0.0,0.0,0.2502674219238092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20235198091001355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488501982827754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585831342633101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14393957261741372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625038775739711,0.0,0.0,0.2199394847258921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363851274899719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925349035589838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785455841226613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27483179711078104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669855346080411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24826123912144624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18605423634998933,0.0,0.0,0.16866225695129414
parenting,robertaloblaw,2019/04/06,"PSA: keep your stroller/kiddo on the sidewalk side of the intersection! I am a mom and former 911 operator. I am actually usually pretty daring as a parent; I let my child roam further than most parents around me and as long as whatever he’s doing wouldn’t “go medic” if it went sideways I let him at it.

Today I saw another parent with a stroller full on in the intersection as they waited for the light to change on the sidewalk looking at their phone & cars were taking their free right *around* the stroller. 

I have taken this call. Please. Keep your kids on the sidewalk, keep your body between the stroller and cars/your child. The cars are less likely to see kiddo than you because of height.

The kid and parent were fine, they later crossed safely (albeit against the light) and I managed to keep my opinions to myself since no parent needs that. 

Well I almost managed, here I am, telling you. Please keep your kids/strollers on the sidewalk, with you between them and the intersection. 
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parenting,bigoleguy630,2019/04/06,"Frustrated Dad seeking guidance on daughters eating habits Wife and I have been married 16 years. Daughter is our only and she's 13. We all struggle with eating habits. Me so much so that I got nearly 650 pounds. I had gastric bypass over 2 years ago and lost nearly 400 lbs. Now, relearning to eat was eye opening. We eat at home most of the time and get something out maybe once a week and sometimes once every two weeks.

Since I barely eat since surgery I love love love to cook. I dunno why but it's satisfying to see people enjoy something I create instead of actually eating it myself. I've gotten quite good at cooking healthy delicious meals. Daughter has always been interested in culinary so it's been good bonding as well.

However, she is 13. And, everything has to be sweet or extra beyond max. She gets up in the morning to get ready for school and she will make a 4 ounce coffee and put at the very least a cup if not more of creamer. Today for lunch she made a grilled cheese. No biggie. But, she spread extra butter on it when I was done and then grated fresh parmesan on top. I get what she was going for but she didn't stop there even after I commented that maybe the parm was excessive. She made another one after that and ate it too. 

I was visibly upset that she was ignoring me and wife whispered for me to just let it go. Wtf?! Why? I have been in a poor super morbidly obese health condition since my daughter's age. She's 13 and 5'2"" and weighs 175. I'm so scared. I'm terrified to death that she's going to struggle like I did and it's the last thing I want to happen. I would literally fucking die for her to not endure the struggle I did.

Mom is not much better off. She almost died from anorexia as a teen so this is really difficult for us to see eye to eye on. I'm frustrated. I'm angry. And, I'm really really worried about my daughter.",1.5812507317073177,3.9819767680000018,3.23840650406504,88.13546341463415,82.65333333333334,6.005203252032518,22.213008130081306,7.313800181584829,0.9466949593495936,1468,49,291,22,41,485,208,375,0.165,0.682,0.153,-0.8463,1,0,2,0,0,0,39.0,4,0,0,5,15,23,3,5,12,0,27,21,3,3,1,40,54,29,3,3,9,9,0,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,15,20,13,2,0,2,1,4,5,11,1,2,21,8,40,12,45,29,8,38,0,1,5,4,31,19,1,5,16,187,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.08297111351754513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536860450275287,0.0,0.08513920749347995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074674022939441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08915502835579718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519677724976784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764828798411972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870090238589699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5220043825566923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615751924044077,0.0,0.07163634766464999,0.0,0.07641404680333592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860327472023877,0.17768602535172662,0.0,0.14496321602618514,0.14262811610091636,0.06800142249853748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518640106147306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037648640354697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528595753736122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930586989316234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694275274536915,0.0,0.041538408831307966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928136887223636,0.0,0.2302123120898216,0.16090344071327942,0.05675414901499621,0.0,0.17083597806775222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957902644140512,0.0,0.0,0.1250047772377581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109547065538686,0.05761443115819132,0.06466454777133135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05894490366820685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547255678791398,0.0,0.09043344008474327,0.0,0.0,0.16340556484065866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512380975002554,0.08604877989941156,0.13550616530097215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109980782206232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309111862099897,0.08409086381933334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710838320361101,0.0,0.2666564898433645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564861365392697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049578150883550234,0.0,0.08059276608939336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305604785989433,0.0,0.10227334703434972,0.0,0.0,0.07015366585849628,0.050149330520462006,0.0,0.13640217345982547,0.0,0.0764467449364324,0.0,0.15344178635312272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863459516844609,0.0,0.0603985769311343,0.0,0.0,0.10950527654407867
parenting,ConfusedParent01,2019/04/06,"Help with 4 and 1/2 Year old Hi Reddit,   


I normally just lurk around forums, as you can see this is a brand new account. I am looking for help or suggestions with my 4 and 1/2 year old little boy. The kid is very smart in some respects but very difficult in others. He is obsessed with medical things, from a young age he wanted medical flash cards, he uses kid medical apps, and if you ask him, he is going to be a surgeon. He knows more medical terminology than even myself, and I find myself having to look up some stuff he asks about. He has gotten so infatuated with it, we have him use legitimate medical apps to practice surgeries (with our supervision), to keep up with his thirst of medical knowledge. This is all fine, and we encourage him to learn what he likes. He stays at home with his Mother, and we have a 1 year old daughter. 

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The problems lie in what seems to be sensory issues, as well as social issues. 

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I will start with the sensory issues, he took cold baths until just this last year because he didn't like the feeling of warm water. He eats Cheetos with a fork because he doesn't like his hands to get messy. Haircuts are the most traumatic experience for everyone involved. I am familiar with hardship, but even trying to give him a haircut brings me to tears and I don't cry very much, in fact I haven't cried till then for a very long time. Those are a few examples. The meltdowns that occur if one of his sensory issues is disturbed is very very drastic. It is exhausting. I have tried talking with him about it, explaining things, tried doing things with him. He just refuses. He won't talk about it, or he gets worse about it.  I have tried being firm, that sometimes work but I feel like I am being so angry and I know that isn't healthy either. I feel so lost. We have attempted to get him a referral to get help but we typically get pushed so far out because he is so smart, and at first glance you would think he was just a normal kid.

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Today was a terribly hard day. It was suggested to get him involved more with other kids, so I signed him up for soccer, we have played some in our backyard, and he seemed to like it. We got him cleats, shin guards a ball the whole nine yards. Even in the store I had to convince him to try on the cleats, they were not his normal shoes so he was very distraught.  Luckily he grew accustomed to it, and we played in them a few times before the first day of Soccer. 

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Today was that day and it was heartbreaking for me. He was so afraid, I stood by him and attempted to console him but I could see him losing control. Everyone staring, the other kids couldn't even hear the Coach, so eventually we had to leave (looking back I don't think we should have left, and i probably should have had him at least watch). I made the mistake of saying he could have some candy (he is obsessed, we have tried limiting it and it keeps getting worse). It became all about the candy, and when he realized he wasn't going to play soccer, and not earn the candy it became a full blown breakdown. We had to retreat. I felt like a horrible parent, he was the only kid even remotely struggling like this and to this degree. I felt defeated, like I had done my son so wrong. l feel so lost and don't know where to turn.  (Even my wife was there, she too tried to get him to play but he just sat screaming bloody murder, when we left he kept yelling help)

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I scheduled him again for our family practice doctor asap. And will again ask for a referral, but I fear I am not doing enough, maybe it is me? 

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Should I be harder on him? Am I not providing enough structure? Am I being to hard on him? Should I just let him do what he wants? I just want him to live a full and awesome life and I feel like I am failing because he is so unique. Should I just let him eat as much candy as he wants so he self regulates? Should I keep restricting him? Should I stop using candy as a reward it seems to be his only focus sometimes? Should I keep him going to Soccer, and just let him watch? I just want to help him. I want him to not have to be so fearful, so resistant to change. I want him to be able to experience so much more in life.",3.0531119415661614,4.8014776278240205,4.010434686597588,87.70851426872774,74.74316290130797,7.136273144216068,24.261610327841005,7.908726449838941,1.2134556344487848,3299,103,678,49,70,1063,325,841,0.173,0.748,0.08,-0.9983,1,0,0,0,1,0,125.0,16,3,2,14,48,44,1,8,34,0,89,17,3,5,3,146,152,61,1,26,27,5,11,9,0,12,11,4,4,8,35,51,4,11,20,12,2,7,15,22,1,4,29,25,104,22,94,96,22,66,0,6,9,0,124,26,0,12,41,463,139,6,0.04230376297245906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750166570380035,0.3084222143348281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037659317964070974,0.11864492337305428,0.0,0.0,0.032528982470370754,0.0,0.1031519250347162,0.0,0.03599738647019314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04475177194606803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474472673355912,0.0675522248899724,0.0,0.09293739438714264,0.0818472822427322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04329969396623403,0.0,0.04329143707361615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657462133365912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742219131840552,0.0,0.1676474188021108,0.0,0.0,0.08084611681623874,0.0,0.0827623952854947,0.03988022279194528,0.0952069889804119,0.10695026822365464,0.06044363344043256,0.08123649313898214,0.0,0.03866487295954242,0.0719671183469727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681576103746224,0.04058162420383233,0.07212661016354628,0.0,0.033834183771369035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579172463492212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04767941541380445,0.0,0.14177660297693612,0.0,0.04243412349937704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766165507223079,0.0,0.15040611308167473,0.0,0.0,0.06974712537205283,0.034483213030584464,0.0,0.04479357680666378,0.09192632449743336,0.12977539142091266,0.05976079771670115,0.1860073356846414,0.04239948409570024,0.037354997745547465,0.03743749900883985,0.10657351926572034,0.04732708988268968,0.09235910912889007,0.0,0.0,0.04002884338673771,0.0,0.0,0.04249981591804357,0.0,0.0,0.2556995436789877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09329439995433154,0.0,0.0,0.040857237890233364,0.0,0.0,0.12434611732099353,0.0,0.0,0.13317204894210732,0.0,0.028666124620129237,0.06434783604224609,0.0,0.0,0.046973322468096886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04561061150487829,0.04047898791665988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033641650264416074,0.0,0.0,0.06742124400478837,0.11553527097571448,0.04413205088815913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04312335891192992,0.0,0.0,0.08367900656836062,0.0,0.029942821168179607,0.04509018263387399,0.0,0.035367840082089534,0.0,0.04422507819049736,0.04842768751684932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800432447840353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431422111406853,0.05421308632333937,0.0,0.0,0.049335328774181966,0.0,0.08019804169744063,0.0,0.047001037219706575,0.2010503471645728,0.04601434628269542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961060583890646,0.0,0.2443352440252027,0.17466298817702688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03803616338993288,0.0,0.0,0.04723064060427922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030797643279335506,0.0,0.08622229716103222,0.030051379461379923,0.04625252385441609,0.3084222143348281,0.1089689454836516
parenting,britms90,2019/04/06,"Help! Anxiety over newborn Hi all hoping to get support/ advice from some veteran parents. I am a first time mom of a beautiful 5 week old little boy. His birth has really sent my world into a tailspin. I never expected to love this little dude so much. It’s almost overwhelming the love I feel for him. Que the issue

        I had a very tumultuous upbringing, my mom was 15 when I was born and raised me alone. To say she was neglectful would be an understatement. Now that I have my little guy I am struggling with immense anxiety around protecting him. I don’t like for others to hold him ( except my husband) and I am dreading the day my maternity leave ends and I have to bring him to daycare. I also question everything I do as a parent because I want to be perfect for my baby. 

        Has anyone else experienced feelings like this? If so how did you get past them? My main issue is the whole daycare situation. I just can’t imagine leaving him with someone who doesn’t love him as much as I do. ",2.5174251012145774,4.805583738461543,4.3880161943319855,81.88251012145753,78.28205128205127,7.387314439946017,26.673414304993248,8.371475516178862,2.108794871794872,779,32,146,16,19,264,126,195,0.132,0.77,0.098,-0.7089,2,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,1,2,8,12,0,3,10,0,21,3,0,1,3,26,33,12,0,5,3,5,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,7,0,3,4,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,6,4,33,8,21,24,6,21,0,2,0,3,27,7,0,5,14,110,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176709365709111,0.0,0.0,0.1205810898457695,0.124716584123294,0.0,0.09629811704353566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18423866259988808,0.0,0.0,0.08419896573694415,0.123382325213063,0.0,0.1071974231393248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340560818262794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765955609134688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059366816165716,0.0,0.10665447972781064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822380562771282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217737736894059,0.0860265413751517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242736797462088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582672083784088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11923261087789225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071355150443496,0.0,0.0,0.11960210303222572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25136991513295875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550102480054959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766016515297785,0.3620709840124139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32604545314602484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28206387838423,0.0,0.0,0.1770419612657404,0.0,0.09287367513932164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635828485969694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26741956026270025,0.0,0.11495247043679613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348955591904393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07714276291511209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09576111340997707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535471700911164,0.0,0.0,0.10202965979003024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588689005678388,0.0,0.0,0.13664875754223352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070216621014875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935734351933267,0.07102557220368899,0.0,0.09659194169958077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344422373986877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08554139092788078,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Riya232019,2019/04/06,"My 10 year old pulled a knife on me (35f) and tried to grabbed my throat. My son was a bit cranky in the morning. Me and my husband(his step-dad) took him out to breakfast. He kept complaining that I am hungry. So asked the waitress to bring him my biscuit that I ordered with meal so he could eat something. We waited for 25mins for our meal. He got crankier by the min. To the point that me and husband decided to ignore him. We were having a conversation and he got mad at us for ignoring. He pushed the table on me. My husband grabbed it before the whole thing came down on me with the coffee. I told him to step outside and scolded him. Took his phone away which he refused to give to me. Got back inside and he was still furious. He ate his meal. My husband took him outside to cool off. On the way home, I told him that it is total unacceptable behavior. I was very mad and was a bit colorful with my language. Got home and he wants to take a nap. Told him to give me all his electronics and go move some bricks in the back. He refused. I was beyond upset at this point. Have him a warning that I will ground him for another month. At this point he pulled a knife at me and said you want me to do this. I was a bit scastic and took a step further to see how much further he would go. I told him that is this what u do to your mom. And then he grabbed my neck. I was taken back a bit that he has so much anger in him. He is seeing a therapist. I think he is very possessive over his phone. I just don't know how to deal with this much anger. When he gets angry he goes nuts. Right now, his moving bricks in the backyard. Grounded for a month with no electronics. Any advise would be much appreciated. His biological dad is on the picture. His dad use to hit his mom, sisters and then me. I don't want my son on that same path.",0.9307685560054004,2.9954218973684235,2.401052631578949,95.20262483130905,82.65789473684211,5.47638326585695,21.059379217273953,6.67199483983844,0.19749662618083708,1411,43,324,15,39,457,169,380,0.123,0.856,0.021,-0.9893,0,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,4,2,0,0,14,10,5,1,23,1,26,8,2,3,2,46,61,21,0,6,1,10,3,0,0,3,0,1,3,0,18,22,6,6,4,1,0,15,3,9,0,0,25,8,59,1,47,30,13,58,0,0,3,0,70,28,0,1,13,210,77,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057890821082327085,0.08926545949332093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958437347222752,0.0,0.07998174906632782,0.19637745589065206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072438736544844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717564471338407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09736520328292464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06796879303827566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776453674154841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710849316034966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04447652866887456,0.16332750082828454,0.0967618490087893,0.0,0.2723426075894101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707831925647159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0467848190754058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994047383556598,0.13589873821797774,0.18095787795590926,0.25031922673968016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932884591906158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24142402189260134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269992927563801,0.08097742776413254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13567400889040998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553666913331521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06798434296251826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400661466469433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09884164086314454,0.056556102624496674,0.054547397221615515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3253786527849436,0.3783269938568365,0.057797184576017485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024000270686636,0.0735243543811148,0.0,0.1404811222314501,0.15063434272017862,0.06757165007149606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09504378698188408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209467782565025,0.0,0.0,0.0548204571739938
parenting,leonbuxus,2019/04/06,"If your kid opens up about some personal problems , no matter what they are , take it seriously Im in my room crying because my parents ridiculed me because I wanted to go see a psychologist. 

Jesus Christ how some people are allowed to become parents I don’t know ",4.6961999999999975,6.645184819999997,5.805,75.70750000000002,70.8,7.4,32.5,8.07648339933343,2.6810000000000005,211,10,35,3,4,70,42,50,0.233,0.746,0.021,-0.8779,3,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,10,8,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,7,0,5,8,2,5,2,0,1,0,6,4,0,3,0,23,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219183032227895,0.2916165415409689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900406201531096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500626443519822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852135034865945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451120196214261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5863806132780347,0.0,0.0,0.18305529550185065,0.23055358042017354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25265504452624304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104093788253252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985286959890551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557403600032453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pinkfish14,2019/04/06,"Réacting Child Hy every one! Here is my deal. I have a nearly 2 years Old daughter shes great blabla. My issu is That im clumbsy so i hurt my self constenly. An example:  Last week i fall on the stares. And she freak out every time. Cries and else and i have to show her that im fine and its not a big deal. 
Advises on That ? Similar experiences? ",-1.5243624868282382,0.27489291780821995,1.30958904109589,95.67511064278187,106.12328767123287,4.985879873551107,16.574288724973655,6.67199483983844,0.07813888303477379,265,8,61,5,13,91,53,73,0.142,0.778,0.079,-0.6925,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,6,5,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,10,2,5,5,0,11,0,1,1,0,9,5,0,0,5,35,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230139243025354,0.0,0.4319956243145651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17502050528430624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35304602085574605,0.0,0.0,0.2049430708443006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309878691425461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22428707439356746,0.0,0.4526181178233857,0.21867623660538188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17078035372677988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198477425782158,0.0,0.1419708452996976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21856685033042933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12216821112071083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805799760164922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491894620163816
parenting,LeMeowLePurrr,2019/04/06,"If I may be allowed an opportunity to brag of an often unappreciated milestone.. I sat down and watched ""The Shining"" with my children last night and they just  analyzed it beautifully!

I'm so proud!

Being the parent of teenagers is so thrilling. I am constantly fascinated by
this phase of development.

Of course, all of the milestones throughout their development were fascinating and exciting. Infancy, toddlerhood, childhood but, for me this journey through the teen years is my favorite.

Sharing your loves and experiences with them and hearing their opinions and thoughts and feelings,  encouraging their individuality, 

I genuinely love this phrase of parenting. Teenagers are freaking the best!
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parenting,sillyhumanist,2019/04/06,"Question - is it safe to let my nine month old stay overnight at my mother in law’s when she regularly smokes in her own room there? What the title says. It bugs me a lot that she smokes, but it is what it is. She smokes on her room regularly with the door shut. She never smokes around the baby. The baby wouldn’t be going into her room, the door to her room would be shut, the baby would be watched at all times, and the room she set up for the baby is at the opposite end of the house from hers. She has my sister in law there to help for if she went to smoke outside and come back to wash her hands before handling the baby again. 

I’m paranoid about what I’ve read the dangers of third hand smoke, but she asked to talk her overnight and I’m thinking if she promises not to smoke in her room at ALL while my daughter is over, it would be okay, and my husband agrees. She has babysat her at our place a bunch before (not smoking inside of course) and once took her on a day trip to visit some extended family. 

What do you guys think?",5.18535658914729,4.590417144186048,5.228197674418606,89.49051356589148,68.25581395348837,8.096899224806203,26.28875968992248,6.816661863887847,0.8428062015503879,806,18,185,5,12,252,113,215,0.03,0.889,0.081,0.8836,0,0,7,0,0,0,20.0,1,1,0,0,7,4,1,0,15,1,17,3,2,0,3,30,26,11,0,6,6,4,2,0,0,4,1,1,8,1,10,9,0,1,3,1,0,6,4,1,0,2,2,4,28,3,31,15,6,42,0,0,1,0,33,24,0,5,10,127,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070771829905384,0.16876881078268358,0.0,0.0,0.13881447763846047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072311532499462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15550842649412625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642528055302982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989375100138342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701852278967462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025979188743991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17875057328682814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100375473794815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20830445705206696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460156453637971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347799540546028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409530059264147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13923391052310286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18943320700527505,0.1922558589290646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886127780867116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223207695948545,0.0,0.18057631874966687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435626863706649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19241825823003245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510113847281314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23134942096629765,0.0,0.0,0.10526701686946008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20057265658592988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673507691028416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847245956168147,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hurricanejaclyn,2019/04/06,"Parenting question except I’m the child So to quickly sum up years of issues - I’m 30, my mom is 62. My parents divorced when I was 21/22 and my already semi-absentee parent mom totally abandoned everything - moved across the country and didn’t keep in touch besides the standard holidays. In those years I got married (she came but left early) and had two kids. I BEGGED her to come to the birth of my first child and she didn’t because she didn’t want to run into my dads new wife. 

She moved back to our hometown six months ago and is truly trying to be close to my family, but she won’t admit any fault and doesn’t think there are any issues in our relationship. 

To add more to this - she is very socially awkward/inappropriate and immature, possible undiagnosed autistic. 

I guess my problem is I don’t feel like being the bigger person or letting bygones be bygones but she is very alone and moved back across the country to be by us. How can I move past this?",5.5092857142857135,6.120035444444442,6.098531746031751,79.39160714285715,67.57142857142857,8.839682539682537,31.62301587301588,8.841846274778883,2.5369714285714293,765,30,145,12,12,249,116,189,0.065,0.8690000000000001,0.066,-0.162,3,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,6,0,20,0,0,1,1,30,31,15,0,2,5,7,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,13,0,2,4,1,0,7,6,3,0,3,7,2,24,1,21,18,2,30,0,1,0,0,27,10,0,3,14,98,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311539704388067,0.0,0.0,0.12047797245991425,0.12836790754770375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582104430985219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788940153790358,0.0,0.07091084881130982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304520186250873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10020398201283184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10454571671905988,0.0,0.10966117977960098,0.0,0.05881758811798584,0.08310284759219445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09894627650953297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303600254704536,0.0,0.12814547888578567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428268696222508,0.0,0.1033953088266837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638782448360614,0.11895054351310473,0.0,0.056830686297965234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724776693556408,0.0928497782032668,0.4945417169478123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11234774020579784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3874965784588998,0.0,0.11104570145853387,0.0,0.10157080178672932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113934493984128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113076422462135,0.0,0.0,0.1303110053835656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12488988380084222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185790370082016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07453658216412333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897727144528527,0.0,0.1136329564342105,0.0,0.1399250637056491,0.0,0.0,0.19196117950726704,0.06861170061750796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498194127878564
parenting,synthphreak,2019/04/06,"How to transport my 3 month old to and around the airport? I’m soon to fly somewhere for the first time with my 3 month old. Once I arrive at my destination, someone with a stroller and car seat will be waiting for me. So what I’m wondering is, how to get safely and conveniently from my house to the gate?

The airport is far, so I need to drive. I was planning to park offsite and then take a shuttle for the remaining 2 miles. My airline says it checks strollers and car seats for free, so I’m tempted to just do that from my car to the gate, but is that the best option? And how would that work with the shuttle? Some people recommend a baby bjorn, but I’m afraid to be encumbered with that for hours on end.

Anyway, that’s my situation. I’ve never done this before, so I’d love your thoughts and recommendations. Thanks.",3.283892493049116,4.763949650602413,4.104457831325302,88.37905004633923,73.57831325301207,7.035403151065802,26.62465245597776,7.61054688173877,1.271159962928638,646,23,138,8,13,207,96,166,0.0,0.855,0.145,0.9784,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,4,11,6,0,1,11,0,10,1,0,3,1,27,22,17,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,8,12,0,2,2,0,2,5,1,1,0,1,3,1,12,6,24,15,2,21,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,3,11,89,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635115241373595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16856865527829515,0.0,0.20789390830183627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20272525447387715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545795280583562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16850390477720173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349916338639356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19508876480115567,0.22858100060690026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879313923068615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162433339963065,0.0,0.0,0.14688876713523608,0.15278706483859492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4157456121509348,0.21097021748104056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373377158608762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575372076278651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22267289296840734,0.0,0.0,0.16784963255103286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894667518481855,0.0,0.0,0.18238402242673865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15726940825934754,0.11551380314877364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21483118573018847,0.14421928429823466,0.0,0.0,0.1407246781445412,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,reallywhom,2019/04/06,"Looking for Discipline Advice for Toddler Basically I feel unstructured with my parenting. Dressing him, changing diapers and feeding him is a little bit of a struggle so we just do what we can to have less so. At daycare he behaves better though so I think rules are good for him and can make our lives easier. However, the daycare doesn't write a how-to book so I'm looking for the best podcast, blog or short awesome book that deals with toddler discipline.",4.208953488372091,6.743924255813957,4.9304069767441865,78.8609593023256,73.88372093023256,8.020930232558143,34.00581395348837,8.841846274778883,3.3812372093023253,370,20,62,8,8,119,63,86,0.022,0.792,0.18600000000000005,0.9419,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,2,6,4,0,1,5,0,7,1,0,1,0,14,13,8,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,2,2,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,9,3,9,13,3,3,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,1,0,43,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448818922852397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629875989002264,0.22163395282989573,0.2735885887400463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26509991814241946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583559847708521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671009937022956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21019007936423886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511654684108776,0.22128301101661685,0.0,0.4208791444435658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727640260313656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782599079244742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26197989707026664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057335968601716,0.2462116919607125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Permanent_cancer,2019/04/06,"What am I going to do? I have a daughter that is five and she always makes me little crafts. I am not a very sentimental person and am sort of a minimalist. But I have had a problem recently of her making me all kinds of papers. She will put stickers (usually around 15, I dont give her any I have no idea where she gets them) on a medium sheet of paper, and give it to me. She will talk to me multiple times a day about putting the papers on my wall, but I just don’t want this much stuff because she does it every other day. She also remembers what she made me for the past week so I can never get rid of things without hurting her feelings. I need to get rid of stuff but I dont know what to do. Help?",1.7989514348785889,2.9919889337748344,3.774453642384106,90.41391004415013,76.88079470198676,6.622737306843268,21.85485651214128,7.1686216300943375,0.4933704194260482,543,14,125,6,12,185,91,151,0.036000000000000004,0.905,0.059,0.6378,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,8,0,16,0,0,3,2,23,29,8,0,3,6,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,11,4,0,0,4,0,0,3,7,2,0,1,2,1,27,1,17,25,2,17,0,1,0,0,17,6,0,1,8,95,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627150768572493,0.12097943281164016,0.0,0.0,0.09887288741774794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294314612901416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886308164480842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18753416889476274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723524557267651,0.0,0.3408013070569622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250069305053272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07351556135332526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22788704994645595,0.27895029470478483,0.08263074546631194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745451533436857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155647255215573,0.16413209811169194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140544906127565,0.07990472518474008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572295732201745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13757529274010294,0.19410321197212627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068812994063999,0.10780778870566704,0.11213679523849056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13879499890784447,0.0,0.1269524091242938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912239628444162,0.0,0.2923222019172614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14355900788657067,0.0,0.16470302855779814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328826277835531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686216807864395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659329515513716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478039488877756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013092016338426,0.11996525462090332,0.08575713230852419,0.0,0.11662627511838572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401546015844368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momlifefor3,2019/04/06,"Preteen son just came out as gay, how can I be the best parent to him and support him through this? My 12 year old son just recently came out to us that he’s gay. Does anyone have any advise on how to be his biggest support as he navigates his identity? Thank you!",0.7944242424242418,2.9942073818181854,2.5740909090909128,92.93446969696971,84.27272727272728,5.848484848484849,23.71212121212121,7.1686216300943375,0.9242121212121206,206,8,45,3,6,68,41,55,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.9145,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,0,9,9,5,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,8,4,9,5,1,9,0,0,0,2,12,4,0,0,3,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551144318856396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15949139437009674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23937473228631176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5217665913282836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19961005841215976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393504346056873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532757865541219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252192135980272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5176857147495666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100019519490443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743737560958322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14688760517254118
parenting,passionfruit1233,2019/04/06,"Am I being over dramatic for not wanting my child to learn about transgenderism at a very young age at school? So recently it’s become mandatory in my country that 5 year olds learn about transgenerism. My daughter is 4 and not in school yet, but she should  be starting this year and I’m thinking of possibly homeschooling her for a while instead. 

Of course she will find out trans people exist and I don’t have a problem with trans people, but this is something I want to teach her about as the school might confuse her. 

When I was a little girl I was a massive Tomboy and  wanted to be a boy like my brothers. I never wore dresses, I played football and watched action movies. If I was living in todays world then i most  likely would have been labelled trans and put onto hormones etc. After going through puberty I started embracing my femininity more and today I’m a very feminine woman. I feel like a lot changes in puberty.,,of course there are some people who will still feel they’re the wrong gender when they go through puberty, and if my child felt that way then I’d be willing to let them see someone, however I will never support 5 year olds knowing what they want, because I was that little girl once and children change so much throughout their life. 

My daughter is also a bit of a tomboy, I teach her that she can dress, act, play with whatever she wants and it doesn’t make her any less of a girl. I don’t want her being taught differently and being made to feel like she has to fit the stereotypical definition of a girl..,

A lot of people seem to be calling parents like me bigots but it’s not that I hate trans people or anything, I just don’t want my child to be confused at a very tender age. 

I’m thinking of homeschooling her while she’s young. My husband thinks I’m being a bit dramatic? Any advice? ",5.429424338110273,6.113376195530732,5.741328637357303,81.62345518581495,67.7709497206704,8.460723828030119,30.649016273985914,8.456263369488248,2.2256049064853043,1450,54,278,20,23,463,181,358,0.054000000000000006,0.855,0.091,0.8554,3,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,4,0,13,14,1,2,18,0,35,2,0,2,2,57,66,27,0,12,10,5,4,5,0,7,2,0,0,10,12,14,0,0,12,2,0,5,9,5,0,0,9,6,44,9,36,40,10,45,0,0,2,0,34,14,0,11,30,189,56,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08811138119691518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210752583969536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263501912422282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420079606689768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496573506639208,0.09958376024506636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968807755333838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207187601811248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907721287575632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09420664153290273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005614460507004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136775346224106,0.12883244751927952,0.08657567094549677,0.0,0.08241215712667141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248940144425253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902249026191658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955411820706776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220315608042552,0.06368850942039002,0.2202582890389107,0.18074457138606914,0.07962022652689836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331566231110347,0.0,0.08531938884781974,0.060188014464726575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565427587474676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06628404681530939,0.0,0.13908664334336868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18923284421980954,0.09602625531767583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012118327799154,0.0,0.0,0.3125565950840453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165116638110053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627884840089975,0.0,0.09064400706508367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890302798746011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737652823173884,0.07185242998744913,0.0820857984393752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639927503877192,0.06941593263181006,0.0,0.0,0.12764311862655836,0.0,0.07200848980445149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232187417521588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17332854267007994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093793688489706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231947758213629,0.3722850361081193,0.07157136868890394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405294564489833,0.09858483868248477,0.0,0.1741962116335504
parenting,KurtzM0mmy,2019/04/06,"Easter gifts for 10 year old boy Over the past two years, my next door neighbor has unloaded her sons’ baby clothes and it’s been more than I could be thankful for.  As a thank you present, I’d like to give a mini Easter basket to each of her sons , ages 2 and 10.  The 2 y/o is easy - he’s the same age as my son.  I’ve been so out out of the loop with young boys (my brother is now 31) that I’m clueless. What are boys this age into? I feel I could start with an iTunes gift card, but that’s not nearly enough.",0.35070796460176723,1.7180414601769949,1.974522123893809,101.03275663716816,81.3008849557522,4.873982300884958,17.494690265486724,4.935628992294339,-0.9336930973451328,387,7,101,1,10,126,82,113,0.017,0.89,0.093,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,15,6,0,2,2,4,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,5,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,9,3,16,10,4,17,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,13,57,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.416770259630144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696800100407683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196809173254248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25037242049676395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275101115596382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775736205474673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27387279251216873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491514831786027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18473525294906512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4805825492486859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549564662268818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361474457341373
parenting,TryingToBeSuper2864,2019/04/06,"Too many extra curricular activities I have two children who are in elementary school. I insist on them taking swim lessons for safety, their dad insists on music lessons, they choose one activity themselves, and may take part in the activity their sibling chooses if they can do it at the same time and place. Are four activities too many for children this age? All activities take place between 4 and 7 PM. The activities for one of the children are now swimming, piano, gymnastics and horseback riding.",7.740606060606062,9.44300881818182,7.69590909090909,66.009696969697,63.09090909090909,9.957575757575757,38.53030303030303,10.125756701596842,4.34749393939394,408,21,62,9,6,131,61,88,0.0,0.967,0.033,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,1,12,10,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,4,3,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,0,7,0,10,9,4,13,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,3,47,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4664913391094844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.311790475070492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491335636708539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4807294035626869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328339395594232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.518931554929505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341503760980978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247360956199617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BitchItOut,2019/04/06,"Older child stealing diapers... It’s been going on for a few weeks and I just thought it was a silly “I’m being a baby” attention thing, but today she took it to the next level and peed in one. She then yelled downstairs to me to say “I don’t want anyone to come in my room!” I found her hiding under her bed with the wet diaper and wipes...

I didn’t freak out or yell at her, but I did take the dirty diaper and put it in the trash, as well as her “stash” of clean diapers she had under there. I asked if she wished she was a baby (she said yes) and I hugged her and said she’d always be my baby. I said “you’re not in trouble, but I really don’t want you peeing in little brother’s diapers. You’re a big girl and I need you to use the potty, OK?” 

Is there anything else I should consider here?

Info: she is 5 years old, brother is 2. This is my semi-anon account...

**TL;DR: 5 year old peed in a diaper and hid it**",-0.3020779220779204,1.5515410000000005,2.5689610389610387,93.43772727272729,85.96969696969695,5.58961038961039,15.994227994227991,6.868970318607317,-0.24288629148629104,690,13,162,9,21,243,114,198,0.075,0.8140000000000001,0.11,0.6896,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,2,0,0,5,7,0,0,11,2,16,2,1,1,0,28,32,16,0,6,7,2,1,0,0,1,0,6,3,2,7,11,0,0,4,0,1,4,4,3,1,1,12,7,30,4,21,16,1,28,0,0,0,1,24,15,0,2,9,106,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14315659645730647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029901904581705,0.0,0.14157973489872638,0.0,0.1608403946060066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14820295625642213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372290082368647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18864027318331628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777807689100912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243594312756744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757041212716616,0.0,0.0,0.18297356574733084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3610680388741115,0.0,0.11658326369083452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729544044091196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102174904875361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4909672917249615,0.1368184027574206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935767049365068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430015047710652,0.0,0.0,0.13658582353114304,0.0,0.0,0.16308010877996235,0.0,0.19115016028640555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485930674058416,0.0,0.0,0.20295514531534525,0.0,0.13800544617725422,0.0,0.15469060171329918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19784515851830856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215848056509191
parenting,hilarymeggin,2019/04/06,"Need advice on finding an Easter dress for a big 7yo So I'm having a problem finding dresses to fit my 7yo daughter. She's big (tall, big head, big feet) for her age to begin with, and she has a tummy, on top of that. She has outgrown all of her 10/12 stuff, and she's now firmly in a 12, sometimes even a 14. Of course, the arms and legs are way too long on most clothes that fit her trunk.

The problem I'm having with dresses specifically is that most dresses in the 12/14 size range are made for girls who have started to develop. They have narrower waists, with more room in the bust and hips.  That's just the opposite of what we need. I got her two size 12 dresses at a consignment sale, and they won't zip past her middle, but are way too long in the torso.

Does anyone know a good place to buy a dressy easter dress that has sizes that might work for my girl?

I've checked some sites that have ""plus sizes"" for kids, but a lot of them don't start the plus sizes until size 14. I'd be really grateful for any help!",4.999182389937111,4.4906801132075485,5.215094339622642,89.13918238993709,68.62264150943396,8.19874213836478,27.10062893081761,7.1686216300943375,1.0582534591194968,792,20,181,6,12,250,120,212,0.019,0.898,0.083,0.9196,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,3,2,6,3,0,0,17,0,16,6,6,1,1,28,26,11,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,10,11,1,0,3,0,3,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,16,1,29,21,6,32,0,0,0,0,19,21,0,5,9,108,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726212852716729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012871852064827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12351846690111125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458845595078669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667630091341155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32291157605222376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816645409186438,0.1412839196120644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812948609891668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840542283047667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708275434125106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31266110252185625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018233922172947,0.0,0.16715142086570664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873987652778737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261968914674012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16863334116488274,0.0,0.0,0.18456266740608954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380622457713684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113167136013996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747123281754182,0.0,0.2500689342748895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022230994654157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17256233116866726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804346381569129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860401145544198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,court12b,2019/04/06,Are there single parents out there whom have to travel for their career? How does that work? Is this a thing? Are there parents out there who do this? I'm facing a career change soon and some of the jobs that would be a good fit require substantial travel. ,2.6925999999999988,5.112663060000003,2.7059999999999995,93.473,78.4,4.800000000000002,18.0,5.6839178017228535,-0.3943999999999997,203,4,40,1,5,61,38,50,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.7998,3,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,1,2,6,1,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,0,7,8,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,6,2,6,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,1,1,33,8,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33484634305744704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769971831900101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654900081268943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141067834776517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7029373169248293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028819925317968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304373162989209,0.0,0.0,0.2248535438686436,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SupriyaKaushik,2019/04/06,"Kids Birthday Cake Design ideas  One can have a plethora of ideas, if we talk about creative **birthday cake designs** for girls, but on the other hand, its a difficult task too, to put across a girl’s small imagination or dreams into realities and that too under discrete and edible forms with bright colors and sparkling ambiance which is nevertheless a soulful desire of every girl.

There are a variety of options which we can hand list while having a best creative option for girls, which is a perfect set of her own imaginations and then to prove it with a pinch of reality, to give it,  as a utility option to girls.

[https://www.kingdomofcakes.in/blog/creative-birthday-cake-design-ideas-for-girls/](https://www.kingdomofcakes.in/blog/creative-birthday-cake-design-ideas-for-girls/) ",15.14368115942029,16.349614513043477,10.867608695652175,51.28518115942029,47.34782608695652,11.144927536231883,37.42753623188406,10.504223727775694,3.9921884057971013,659,21,84,10,6,185,79,115,0.024,0.69,0.28600000000000003,0.9897,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,2,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,10,0,7,2,2,0,2,22,8,10,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,8,9,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,4,3,3,19,8,3,9,1,0,2,0,11,5,0,5,2,63,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332783044274696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671753702018808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041968432983919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7159478527507321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.214879142718446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31877898226769913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25487768470115063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Happy2BherMommy,2019/04/06,"Cheetos are an ok breakfast, right? It's almost 6am on a Saturday morning and I'm damn it tired. My 1 yr old is currently enjoying a breakfast of Cheetos puffs because she had refused everything else I've tried to give her in the past hour. 

You know what, I honestly don't even feel bad about it because at least the little morning ruiner is eating something. Maybe if I'm lucky she'll go back to sleep. Also, I'm not usually lucky. ",3.2675324675324653,4.8305344545454565,4.867402597402599,82.55681818181822,73.77272727272727,8.21038961038961,30.75324675324676,8.841846274778883,2.6346701298701287,344,16,67,7,7,116,70,88,0.112,0.705,0.182,0.76,1,0,1,0,0,0,9.0,0,1,0,0,4,7,1,0,5,1,6,5,1,0,0,9,13,3,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,1,6,5,7,11,1,13,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,4,7,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22663894527049985,0.0,0.0,0.18099773112183207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403544552554506,0.18897788355918335,0.2759399444262703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315942837857386,0.18907146122339108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494902443229341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341273405304985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444033084240605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21711841293828527,0.1286297713686934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228915674215602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438622541511167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226844264537622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227381056409849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374975084685373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21605963828455008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19328641147392853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22649559503466896,0.0,0.0,0.17424153947530108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26013550089665416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1536646666826716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492728769834484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Nursingnursw,2019/04/06,"Is this a normal toddler reaction to a new sibling? My daughter is 2.5 years old and has a language delay but is not nonverbal. A little over a month ago I birthed her brother and we brought him home after a 6 day hospital stay because he has a spleen issue. My little girl isn’t a super interactive little kid and is very hyper and independent. It takes a bit of effort to engage her and she’s mostly still parallel playing with other kids and isn’t interested in interacting with them besides smiling at them. Her dad and I always pointed to my belly and told her “baby!” when I was pregnant and she knew what babies were, so I assume she had some understanding of what was going on. 

She really doesn’t care at all about the baby and has pretty much no reaction to him at all. She isn’t more clingy or fussy or having more tantrums. She isn’t giving him kisses or wanting to hold him either. She barely acknowledges his presence. Sometimes she’ll stare at him if he’s in his car seat next to her or sitting in his bouncy seat. Sometimes she’ll cover him with a blanket and once petted his head. Besides that, she is the same little kid as always and doesn’t care at all when I am nursing him, playing with him, sleeping with him, etc.

Is this normal?",4.723109582542693,5.714148754032259,5.801024667931689,79.45536053130931,69.5241935483871,7.7707779886148,28.7011385199241,7.928766900206844,1.9179432637571159,993,35,183,12,17,330,137,248,0.032,0.8059999999999999,0.163,0.9889,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,2,2,5,9,1,0,12,0,23,3,2,1,3,42,33,22,0,4,8,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,7,18,0,2,4,2,0,3,8,1,0,0,7,1,39,8,26,24,12,33,0,0,1,1,44,15,0,8,13,140,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090922282880273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22698929972877055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314738502396142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891205973428012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781351420379879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796588123147375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15212061229135404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308460673492284,0.0775185277925182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13998442313678716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681902314744288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142364811316603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5468293455868752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887214561765507,0.0,0.10026874296944747,0.0,0.0,0.13173471997663588,0.14506157098478226,0.0,0.26728354291384426,0.0,0.0,0.14312749696259638,0.14526017006165556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894086490060902,0.0,0.0,0.1387665199772618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738050359799318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13649721127352635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698036154039952,0.0,0.0,0.1453828719143215,0.10892818261290893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255485170274944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033480859130067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199586305433398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254321707963263,0.08045149062554746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783629450187093
parenting,rogybaba,2019/04/06,"Toddler refuses to sleep in crib So my son will be 2 in June. For the first year and a half we have never had a problem with him sleeping in his crib. I was really adamant about him not sleeping in our bed, but my husband took a nap like a month ago and my son fell asleep with him. Then something flipped. My kid now refuses to sleep in his crib at all. He screams until he vomits, he won’t go to sleep unless he is in our bed, and I am so unbelievably tired. I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried the cry it out, but he literally won’t stop. He cries until he pukes, and I have also tried to go in and pat his back but if I walk in his room he like recharges and screams louder. I just don’t understand what happened. I am trying really hard not to snap, but I’m running on like 3 hours a night because he kicks and pulls my hair and I’m just uncomfortable. I feel like a pos because I know a lot of people cosleep, and I should love having him next to me, but I hate this. I just want him to sleep back in his crib. I’m sorry I’m rambling. Any advice would be appreciated. ",1.4850907441016332,2.7610852586206924,3.3117604355716885,93.0671778584392,77.8793103448276,6.4359346642468225,22.55535390199637,7.0608816371341465,0.4400051724137932,828,24,200,9,19,278,122,232,0.149,0.7440000000000001,0.107,-0.8825,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,3,0,0,1,10,9,1,0,9,0,18,11,8,0,2,39,33,22,0,5,12,3,3,4,0,5,2,2,3,1,4,13,0,3,4,1,0,7,7,4,0,2,3,5,31,5,28,23,2,36,0,0,0,1,29,13,0,2,20,122,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104124726335796,0.1001587743311233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035802316681008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683704141869598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17376459606621542,0.0,0.13775525105524228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482283116269934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057131114303941924,0.08072004372652794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961091947850029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842958626316106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09991664070694517,0.0,0.10121680280304632,0.11155418444582382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127234185718828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124192644493708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2208047312887132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09606001596656674,0.10197784239638036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018750107511456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714481598878733,0.0,0.12016609496328612,0.10603341506879133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783330054128585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811612368930412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476851204648455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6784293072562543,0.0,0.0,0.08698518463710643,0.0,0.12648299976488425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446465857326806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298653274316895,0.0,0.0,0.12553599324255751,0.230138280065294,0.0,0.0,0.11762652402248475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664440069700911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026481950512313,0.0,0.0,0.0727618240632611
parenting,Minniemoo523,2019/04/06,"Response to NB  I hadn’t sat down and figured out exactly how much per month, per week the spread of incentive was for the raise.
And I’m thinking 11 dollars a week if I’m perfect- more than base. And I’m ok not breaking my back for 11 bucks.
So I need a list of bare minimum expectations. 
For example, if we are enjoying the park, museum, library and I don’t finish putting away 15 pieces of clothing on a Friday. I’ll get the base but not the 11 dollars. 
Or if one of the boys is full of energy and I decide to go back out to let him run . Causing me to not unload the dishes. I’ll lose the 11 dollars but get the base? 
I’m not being sarcastic. I guess the time strategy involved in caring for curious active children is perceived differently to different people. 
I have always presented myself as a nanny that focuses on a child’s intellectual growth and emotional security. And then the other things involved in their care. 
I definitely have been doing things to attain your housekeeping goals. I also have been conscious of a positive attitude. 
But realizing I’m not getting 11 dollars more and feeling like I am worried about things not related to the boys intellectual growth or emotional stability makes me want to attain the minimum.
Not less. Just the minimum requirements for the lowest amount offered",4.109452354874044,6.403225080321287,5.836942314713397,73.37355147864184,73.29718875502006,9.507192405987588,31.39850310332239,9.910423181423305,3.6669983935742967,1051,50,180,31,22,359,143,249,0.035,0.7240000000000001,0.24,0.9947,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,1,1,6,7,8,0,0,21,1,15,1,0,3,2,44,33,21,0,6,16,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,11,1,2,7,1,5,5,9,1,0,1,5,1,17,7,30,26,7,24,0,1,0,0,11,9,0,6,10,125,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754057056190735,0.13270478893899207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498419639341896,0.24526915207995545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252123810661679,0.16383563564629156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332569984037121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587996503839773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064070748549486,0.11393653902385315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499739183945343,0.0,0.09063933746533027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569136051087658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308482363199264,0.0,0.07791660448165744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17842358297730718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10645787130299343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729987821267227,0.0,0.11724026100647104,0.11825654587453545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10807156487912878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056722860947524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603270705030084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3178654226237431,0.10219192781602034,0.0,0.0,0.09299733143398507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09406873448261817,0.0,0.2558594442812941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619653606211232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SBCraft444,2019/04/06,"Fisher-Price says 10 infants have died using Rock 'n Play sleeper ​

Read and shart to save lives!

[https://www.cnn.com/2019/04/05/health/fisher-price-rock-n-play-sleeper-warning/index.html](https://www.cnn.com/2019/04/05/health/fisher-price-rock-n-play-sleeper-warning/index.html)",46.213,59.44248630000001,16.630000000000006,-6.3549999999999915,-14.0,6.0,30.0,7.1686216300943375,2.0695,266,4,14,1,2,48,20,20,0.141,0.628,0.231,0.3164,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018800579879693,0.33854864265661466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28915916962286364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5923110453636483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24602281927980915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786911559343547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215664340192207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406345593981462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33854864265661466,0.0
parenting,lil_person_problems1,2019/04/07,"7 y.o. sharing 'bad' thoughts and other issues Recently, our 7 y.o. is coming to us and telling us every 'bad' thought she is having. All kinds of 'what ifs?', like 'what if so-and-so died', 'what if i jumped in the river', 'what if i ran away', all kinds of thoughts we never thought we'd hear from our little one. 

At the same time she is telling us things like 'i just looked at her privates', or 'that almost hit my privates', and 'she almost touched his privates'. This has my SO concerned as she was molested as a child and is fearing something may be happening to her. She is doing things like touching her dolls private areas saying 'we don't do this to our dolls'.

She's also been laying into my SO pretty hard, saying things like 'I don't want you as my mom', 'I don't like you', 'what if you were never born?'. Now, she'll also follow this up with, 'i love you, you are the best mom ever, this is just coming from my head'. This rightfully has my SO upset, and falling into depression. How could someone she's given her life and love to say these things to her?

I've looked through websites and articles telling us to just remain calm, they don't really mean it, they are just saying it to hurt you, they are just upset/mad/stupid children. But she's not mad when she says these things to her. She's calm as can be. She'd be out running around with her friends, then take a break to come whisper it in the SO's ear.

We're at our wits end. We just don't know what to do. Tell me someone has gone through the same.",2.999430139299278,4.108190893203886,3.7026396510482655,92.44529759392151,73.72491909385113,6.280061910792178,24.11439425918109,6.280692351149826,0.4750820599409038,1162,33,257,7,23,368,147,309,0.071,0.7979999999999999,0.131,0.9615,0,0,1,0,0,0,45.0,12,6,3,1,17,22,2,2,7,0,33,5,2,1,5,52,55,27,1,7,14,2,3,5,1,2,1,8,0,2,23,19,0,0,6,0,0,9,8,8,0,1,10,13,54,14,33,36,5,34,0,2,2,2,59,14,0,9,15,187,77,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695883288302573,0.0,0.0,0.13543613480191724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538259883187587,0.0,0.0,0.07955906241035804,0.0,0.14140748590419958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886578213189752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188313564548691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676095923184236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293422355208036,0.0,0.0878838244463098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500079408153791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659734471745684,0.07134602753309431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952878416856675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542307681475311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488169365302799,0.0,0.07585608930014623,0.0,0.08690547106963062,0.0,0.0954398124816344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09065102473730484,0.0,0.0,0.08838326946648034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763610812051533,0.046537571185031004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059811548425397765,0.2068503320432301,0.08487098208507134,0.0,0.0,0.14221869970443365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285288816143572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224066644616756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835092641701127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306199121217709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738093755084475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614936945900843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054247777412096417,0.0,0.08361066924800091,0.0,0.0,0.07231572549973311,0.0,0.3367021978921955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349712311476506,0.06519032167476704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06366835322094756,0.0,0.2960540324792986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812860778186737,0.0,0.0,0.2689038670646644,0.049377225853784894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4074354581879465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04994609067492595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jmrawlins83,2019/04/07,"Suggestions for travel bed for our toddler First time poster, so I apologize for any formatting issues! My husband and I have a son who is nearly 2 years old. We transitioned him to a twin bed from his crib about two months ago. After a couple of times getting him back to bed each night, he sleeps in his bed all night long. We've been so lucky that he's such a great sleeper! We also love to travel, and before his transition to his big boy bed, he slept great in his Pack n Play. However, we haven't gone in any trips since the transition, and we're a little concerned about using the Pack n Play. We moved him to the big boy bed so early because he demonstrated that he could get out of it, even though we never gave him the opportunity before the transition. We're afraid that he'll just climb right out of the Pack n Play, even though he's never done it before. What do you use when traveling with your toddler? Do any of you recommend that we take the risk and just try him in the Pack n Play? Thank you so much in advance for any and all ideas!",4.392576769025368,4.958705373831776,4.873297730307076,87.34897196261684,70.02803738317758,8.357276368491322,24.631508678237648,8.418075326091056,1.242780774365821,826,20,179,12,14,263,115,214,0.01,0.825,0.166,0.9866,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,7,4,0,4,16,12,0,2,13,0,8,3,2,2,4,26,19,13,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,2,8,15,0,0,1,7,0,8,3,2,0,2,5,0,24,10,26,12,4,36,0,0,0,1,37,12,0,1,16,106,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869464084137818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10708011533232956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642275016008149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029611557188236,0.0,0.08162445156307697,0.0,0.341818178653836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690858763234726,0.14815826490807202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13702661612266046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768799255542389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389562654637207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991488299935864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952513655510786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115727270899565,0.0,0.13975724723332994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420339502938716,0.0,0.11849765570390833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085035442826672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068780355987816,0.14231495285136608,0.0984322134898374,0.0,0.206544513030506,0.0,0.0,0.251312941932919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050596347439154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435022474877787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107638088735084,0.0,0.13399711857300473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067644969180042,0.0,0.0,0.1232775141549805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631129602816552,0.0,0.15615682024436875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090959388771976,0.0,0.1308012512036679,0.0,0.0,0.2312939374703536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622747863906957
parenting,crawlintoahole1,2019/04/07,"When did you introduce your kid to a new partner? My wife and I are divorced, the divorce went through3 months ago and we were separated for a year before divorce. I’ve been dating a new woman for the past two months, we met three months ago, but only started dating two months ago. I have a 9 year old son and she has a 7 year old daughter. As of right now my son doesn’t know about my new gf, and her daughter doesn’t know about me. 

My ex and I share 50-50 custody, and I have my son for a week at a time. I see her when my ex has my son. It’s harder for my gf as she’s widowed and has her daughter all the time, her parents do help out, but mostly I end up going over to her place after her daughter is in be when my son is at my ex’s. We usually can get out together once or so during the week my son is at his moms.

We were talking about her meeting my son and maybe me meeting her daughter. We’re not serious-serious, but we’re not seeing anyone else, and really like each other, just taking it slow.

Anyone been in a similar situation? When did you introduce your kid to a new partner?",2.8707051282051275,3.383801829059826,4.636826923076924,87.86754807692309,73.44444444444444,7.559401709401709,26.163461538461537,7.6454224807358475,1.2106846153846158,844,27,192,10,16,288,113,234,0.019,0.932,0.049,0.7528,2,0,0,0,3,0,25.0,4,4,0,0,10,2,0,0,13,0,20,0,0,0,1,27,30,20,0,0,7,18,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,3,16,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,8,2,39,2,23,21,3,46,0,0,2,0,53,11,0,2,34,126,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31375527723916297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649933579345908,0.1208878515817018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039511345966584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985599226289981,0.0,0.10449820015625813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616414139034506,0.0,0.06705263836145622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908173085610751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968109172797607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057640689448547465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853010064049806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818063571013764,0.3766926341674416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4557960936452982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476072899397781,0.1256483827651832,0.0,0.08973162962392432,0.0,0.0,0.13100651189404958,0.0,0.11262842681167196,0.0,0.0,0.12326745550151336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558313443826341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075710864475122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880348576710499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261819237418895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08350919950733153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870877168672096,0.0948305216187077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759404266626862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305051154442653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994195586169696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927820159010972,0.0,0.0,0.10937171750921758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279321650434942
parenting,Stargazingsloth,2019/04/07,"Tips on sleep training? I'm a FTM to a 2 month old baby girl who is only comfortable sleeping on her stomach. She sleeps on my chest every night and the only way I can keep her down for naps is if shes on her stomach. I never leave her side for these reasons. 
I really would like her to sleep in her crib because, well, I'd like to sleep in my own bed and I'm starting to develop some separation anxiety. If my husband takes her so I can take a nap, I wake up in a panic and run into the living room to check on her. Anytime I place her in the crib, no matter how deep of a sleep she is in, she wakes up immediately. I cant simply let her cry it out (nor do I want to do that) because were currently in a one bedroom apartment. Any advice?",2.592664772727272,3.075290618750003,4.832727272727271,86.32136363636366,74.0625,7.5681818181818175,25.79545454545455,7.686295010490155,1.2058125,569,18,130,7,11,200,97,160,0.067,0.8370000000000001,0.096,0.3746,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,9,0,12,11,11,2,1,15,19,8,0,4,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,4,5,0,1,1,2,1,1,4,1,1,1,1,0,25,4,25,16,2,29,0,0,0,0,17,21,0,3,8,88,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12498886299009893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698088371154877,0.0,0.0978482097119174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559413695719908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049940958741844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077668389696474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136892755906512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135434636104143,0.0,0.1307931788838476,0.0,0.12497742170035055,0.0,0.1129438836325897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209383909647744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864946600794912,0.0,0.0,0.12003169272721127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421647531865372,0.0,0.08667283198214366,0.1945574874738328,0.0,0.15007085265933418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336351882283918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08194025224626436,0.13150930213981024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7679939205286013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053295981133937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923397112990436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544263495863775,0.10152631673176477,0.0,0.0,0.11500340706766082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086118885630112,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,corgimama84,2019/04/07,"Getting above ground pool, worried about toddler My husband(N) was given a used above ground pool and and plans to put it up in our backyard. I have a huge fear of my 3yr(Z) wandering off and drowning. We have a pool ladder with a lock, a deck that has a swing door and an alarm whenever the back door is opened. My husband keeps reassuring me that it will be ok and will be watched. But this morning my son opened the front door when N came home from work. I work at a daycare and take him with me to work, but I plan on leaving for a higher paying job, there will be days Z will be at home. I’m worried I won’t be there if anything happens. N does landscaping during the summers and am afraid of my father-in-law who is diabetic(doesn’t watch his sugar) and afraid of something happening. Am I being paranoid? Or worrying too much? I have anxiety and it’s only gotten worse after having Z ",3.4231540930979136,4.962083241573037,4.350593900481542,86.51651685393259,73.32584269662922,6.8834670947030485,26.759229534510432,7.447530270364453,1.3334690208667728,699,25,142,8,14,226,114,178,0.12,0.85,0.03,-0.9356,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,2,0,0,5,6,6,0,4,12,1,21,1,0,1,0,21,31,14,1,1,4,2,0,0,0,5,0,0,6,0,7,15,1,1,0,3,1,3,1,4,0,0,4,3,17,2,17,16,1,19,0,0,2,0,8,11,0,2,5,93,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920618595511618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898831684743934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987181314036322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19317383601569613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892496617087834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14780340992178764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005673315762567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824201425084834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29871114335765786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388360864288282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676047862397032,0.15012392895400153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17883814970918274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415915447040175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845421995719228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697887171308097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002560821843628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698996015269354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587328016053389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688783481113146,0.5145710711212701,0.17212106274197295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ienjelicdelites,2019/04/07,"I dont think my 10 y.o is being unreasonable (I posted this in a group I'm in on FB but I didn't put all the details of how truly bad she was when I got her back) 

Bear with me and this long post

Now my daughter's dad wants her to visit him in June. I live in Georgia and he in Maryland. 

Back in summer 2015 he had got her for what was supposed to be for the summer. He got a hair up his ass and decided it wasn't his responsibility to bear the cost of bringing her back so he didn't.

Y'all my baby was miserable and cried when she called me every night for almost an entire year. I was working a shitty job and for some reason child support hit my checks and it literally took me a year to get the money to go get her and I've had her since summer 2016. (All the money I gave came back to me in one large lump sum 💁🏿) 


Last year he wanted to get her, promising to bring her back and would give us gas money to meet him halfway which we decided was North Carolina. Ok all well and good. He then decided he wanted to dish out $50 for our gas money and we were like fuck that. 

Myra, my daughter, whom I did not know was outside my room listening to the fb call. Y'all my baby had what I think was a nervous breakdown. She came in my room crying. Mommy if he uses his money to get me he won't have enough to bring me back. What if I'm stuck again? I don't want to live with him. What if I never see you again? She started hyperventilating and literally broke out in hives in front of my eyes. I panicked, made her take a cool bath to calm down and gave her some benadryl. She immediately went to sleep. I completely cancelled the trip. She had to go back to therapy 3 times a week instead of her usual once a week because she started opening locked doors while sleepwalking (I was at work,  night shift, and my nephew just happened to get up and saw her with the front door opened just standing there so he led her to his room so he could keep an eye on her)(wetting the bed, hyperventilating until she wheezed, she already has asthma but her wheezing because of this was a whole new symptom). 

Today he inboxed me asking for her and pretty much blaming me for her not going last year. I had to let him know that it was his fault and he needed to do better. I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she rather he visited. I don't think she is asking for a lot and I believe he should do this because this is his fault she breaks down the way she does when I ask her. 

What do y'all think?",1.96629845298105,3.4980696481835563,3.4854523726751268,91.24452828958805,77.18355640535374,6.054736659134365,21.637797670780465,6.680037744263671,0.2738340344168253,1938,51,437,17,44,640,239,523,0.109,0.823,0.068,-0.9764,1,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,4,4,0,3,23,16,1,2,22,2,39,12,5,5,4,71,93,33,0,13,10,4,1,1,0,3,5,2,7,1,18,29,1,1,10,1,7,17,10,7,1,1,33,8,88,9,59,52,9,85,0,2,4,2,87,25,2,7,39,287,106,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07846949237283941,0.0,0.08647581378570816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930363056113033,0.0,0.0,0.4217956068529952,0.06543005472816622,0.1433085607066053,0.0,0.0,0.08828856713717896,0.0,0.06930594155829604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003531433750004,0.1792534025230368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216239454983264,0.0,0.0,0.06256669224061336,0.0,0.17215673833795575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857622305236732,0.0,0.0918411653315322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097020265620647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602443224668034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244557763369276,0.2047078634741407,0.07517318626650613,0.1336069515937194,0.06572739045868146,0.18802278977637385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06929637822957563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776345086964026,0.06965287230446895,0.0,0.0,0.08613280435847365,0.1277530432589705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013174980456414,0.0,0.038284333985817535,0.0,0.13839240092543034,0.06934902536695138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666216473258151,0.0,0.07414921800147843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05760601785480525,0.05810536956003606,0.060438582470137225,0.07568373160301996,0.0,0.14707723525516425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08345432187888817,0.053100977791922674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010069640015253,0.07972361466519122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877672743747266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057048988310439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454141194624213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062445378090767674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06482290426489626,0.0,0.07841986003703874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093184746448292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892570677071614,0.0,0.0814494391957128,0.058919424372215624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961522526698247,0.0,0.0,0.20084806935261645,0.0,0.0,0.04569425118167979,0.0,0.07427921436127988,0.0,0.08706447302082923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426136161381646,0.0676807023800243,0.08630606754661102,0.0,0.23110342606135706,0.06220111385283721,0.12571657201253808,0.0,0.07045798810350888,0.07264353361808877,0.0,0.08748978911732662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409878338917084,0.0,0.0,0.055667016541009605,0.0,0.0,0.2018534988881427
parenting,kissmyasari,2019/04/07,"Head Lice Just picked up my oldest (11m) from his dads and he has head lice again. He’s been there for 10 days for Spring Break, so at least this time it’s irrefutable that he got it while there. Head lice has been an ongoing thing for awhile now with him. 

I swear I will get it under control and he gets it again. But my youngest (9m) stays with me full time and he doesn’t get it. I don’t get it. Only the oldest does. 

My oldest has long curly hair. He likes it shaggy and wants to donate some length for kids wigs. It’s finally long enough to do so and still allow him to have some length once it’s cut. Except he keeps coming home with head lice. 

We use the fairy tails Rosemary Repel shampoo and spray. When he’s with me, he wears it back in a low pony and takes really good care of it. (That’s our deal. If I have to start taking care of it because he isn’t, it gets cut). 

I use Nix and Super Nix this year to kill the eggs and bugs. I reapply a week later as instructed. I even use a straight iron on his hair to help cook anything that I might have missed. 

I’m losing my mind over this. Every other Sunday, my evening is spent picking out bugs. He then has to go to my parents for a day or two because he can’t go to school until all the eggs are gone. 

What else can I do to prevent more lice?! I don’t like the idea of constantly applying pesticides to his head every week and it’s incredibly expensive! I’ve tried the mayo and I’ve tried the coconut oil in the past.  It didn’t work very well. ",1.183735095069288,2.8475307165109065,2.401662906864328,97.55887850467293,79.84112149532709,5.549081533999356,18.23407455150929,6.311591054244273,-0.4047674078848429,1164,23,280,9,29,372,174,321,0.047,0.857,0.096,0.9388,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,0,0,4,14,13,3,0,13,0,22,11,8,7,1,39,45,21,1,2,5,2,2,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,24,18,3,3,1,1,3,4,6,6,1,1,6,3,25,7,35,37,7,45,0,3,0,0,24,11,0,5,30,157,49,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841472877082981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862790969341689,0.0,0.12466759840581222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20851191038745792,0.0,0.0,0.08808376995655512,0.0,0.11050150605048753,0.11468786196003483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189224353379744,0.10542058462721217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948418357068064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854210688735421,0.0,0.0,0.10565691949395087,0.0,0.13507714356895434,0.0,0.17230877270100556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201553455602377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671205152184227,0.0,0.116227932953784,0.08576678054921569,0.08178279626633997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5247164971471168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685394813419929,0.0,0.10257026740591707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543363421952366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088908858043493,0.11313018919582335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999134165686566,0.0,0.0,0.1809852056636368,0.0,0.11439737325745912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847657032283596,0.10324856651045056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088984129830886,0.0,0.0777696604236704,0.0,0.0,0.11354225913415655,0.0,0.09761412496247132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065507276794772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348768565292968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237673176288946,0.10899039991260782,0.08166110648667829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376631583737158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06793378765809069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192516175101618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884908902905824,0.0,0.099888437494954,0.0,0.0,0.26494689236567504,0.0,0.08437121976919948,0.060312745383179274,0.0,0.16404585010836786,0.0,0.0919396732692698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444297763520114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658489733938008
parenting,idontwanna1,2019/04/07,"What would you consider a real dad? So I have a guy I'm with and has been with the last 3 years. He and I are having a baby together soon. My oldest calls him dad even though he's not their biological dad. He's been called dad from the first time they met. My oldest actual dad was severely abusive and tried to kill us and myself. Even mentioned that he'd never want his kid to call anyone else dad. When my kid was 1 years old, he said that he didn't even want our kid just me. Since leaving all that drama behind my friend mentioned to me that it's not fair for me to keep my oldest away from him. My oldest is 10 now and when I had the conversation of them seeing their real dad, my kid looks at me with fierce eyes and says no. I left my oldest dad when they were 5 and my kid still says they remember a lot. To my kid their dad is my current husband and I don't want to force my kid to see someone that my kid doesn't want to see. Am I wrong? My so called friend thinks I am, and I'm starting to think my so called friend is trying to keep up drama.😒",1.7510628019323669,2.8466167826086988,3.3481159420289863,93.81685990338171,76.82608695652175,6.328502415458938,18.864734299516908,6.691623216298621,-0.17520772946859875,820,14,198,7,18,272,116,230,0.108,0.85,0.042,-0.8959,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,2,1,7,1,14,5,1,0,7,0,20,1,1,0,2,30,37,16,1,5,3,10,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,9,7,12,0,2,3,1,0,0,7,2,0,1,9,8,41,3,21,26,2,24,0,0,5,0,53,4,0,1,20,125,48,1,0.0,0.12658172802858658,0.10425532057239772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470135245984065,0.10946484297504404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037477949700167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5454512049410749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08924673830375875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21169006619603947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087359743242908,0.0,0.0,0.2476208257241085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578321493548214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899192976667997,0.11819683975579008,0.0,0.0,0.08708459338360712,0.0,0.11312259153304235,0.11607628591640005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971429646539109,0.0,0.0,0.09082709765518332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08239755773839749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121051154359197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432027057618923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12102296375081227,0.0,0.10162432743648384,0.16991858800580786,0.0,0.0,0.25540042981347616,0.0,0.0,0.12069287633846693,0.0,0.08837482248324602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052075058908317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561819729142534,0.0,0.08531838217806822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136910808582456,0.10496461522231927,0.0,0.06229621123089106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506758667041034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850906935006365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25205565205757097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589235256846938,0.11680704548195475,0.0,0.13759617325200588
parenting,ojonegro,2019/04/07,"3yr old froze and locked her fists. She's fine but asking for any advice. She had a freak out episode at my friend's house cuz of a funny little dog and basically lost it. Now, 4 weeks later, when a neighbor brought her dog by, my kid froze in place, stared at the ground, and clenched her fists. After about 20 seconds, I started freaking out thinking she was seizuring which is not like her. So I picked her up and took her inside where she still wouldn't respond to my voice. Finally she looked at me when my wife asked if she wanted to shower or have a popsicle. Maybe I'm just an overly concerned dad who hasn't witnessed this kind of behavior, but it was like she saw a ghost. Freaked. Me. Out. Anything similar?

  
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parenting,kevinthedavis,2019/04/07,"Is it really so bad to cuss around your kids? (Let me know your thoughts). C’mon we adults do a million things our kids can’t do. You don’t hide them—that’s ridiculous—you explain to your kids that they are “for adults” which is 100% honest and prudent— and kids get it! There’s nothing wrong with drinking beer, or eating wasabi (in moderation) for your kids to see and explaining to them not to do them. Then why not cussing as well! We tell them not to say “something ugly” or annoying in public, why not in private as well? There are a million things kids shouldn’t do that we do—why do we stigmatize some things over others? ",4.108969534050182,5.334045362903228,4.057526881720431,90.5118458781362,71.17741935483872,7.124014336917562,25.87455197132617,7.3871296695380915,1.035257347670251,491,15,104,5,9,150,71,124,0.134,0.821,0.045,-0.8869,0,0,3,0,0,0,15.0,5,5,4,0,6,6,1,0,2,0,13,3,0,0,0,21,19,9,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,8,9,9,3,0,4,2,0,0,7,3,2,2,1,2,15,3,16,16,1,6,0,0,1,0,27,5,0,3,1,73,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652460668735614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655680569434775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19425362558847414,0.0,0.202905307454205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036009623934302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897775583386596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20277009043844346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902694174746505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270328659362203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769215700893374,0.0,0.0,0.15801545571898332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265719239961253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733185856266713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.395215195732207,0.0,0.0,0.15742409424012474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35658207027061617,0.0,0.536791231817471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21680447291923696,0.0,0.0
parenting,SoloTetherballChamp,2019/04/07,"Spider-Man Themed Birthday Activities Hey all,

I've been drafted by my sister in law to dress up as Spider-man for her son's third birthday party, which is going to be spider-man themed. It just so happens that I'm the Funcle so I don't mind doing this and I'm looking forward to it, the only problem is I don't know what sort of games I can play with the kids.

I can imagine that I can have a ""follow the leader"" type game where I crawl, jump, and pretend to swing, and I can also get them to do spider-jumps on a trampling, but other than that I'm sort of at a loss regarding what else I can do. 

The games only have to be memorable enough for a bunch of three-year-olds, so I don't think it will have to be too elaborate.  ",5.288076923076922,3.8644397307692313,6.386794871794872,84.00403846153849,68.35897435897436,8.825641025641023,28.474358974358967,7.1686216300943375,1.3834128205128209,562,14,127,4,8,190,92,156,0.048,0.925,0.026,-0.4385,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,1,1,7,3,0,0,9,0,21,0,0,0,1,16,31,9,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,11,4,0,0,4,5,0,4,3,2,0,1,1,1,12,1,20,26,3,9,0,1,1,0,9,6,0,2,1,88,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24149924380680776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25227175295452914,0.0,0.0,0.31203374816081586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777597146209574,0.0,0.17162641942551432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670464927048893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596439740735094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535933891205673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049212238516161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316885014777041,0.0,0.0,0.4593501069578519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889611923679272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19350135554513326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19447000801292413
parenting,AcceptableTwist,2019/04/07,"Icy Revenge. 13 y/o is cold blooded. I’m super hurt (kinda beyond words) that my 13-year-old, who lost her phone as punishment for trouble at school yesterday, is apparently getting revenge by giving me a non-covered, non-double-bagged ice pack while I have a severe migraine.  Everyone with migraines knows how fast this will leak and how helpless I feel. Screaming Inside. Can’t get up. Can’t call her back up here. I have her phone - can’t even text her. Heartless monster.",3.3599500624219734,5.98187695505618,3.7790262172284654,85.58204744069914,77.20224719101124,5.7533083645443215,28.990012484394512,6.937597516519254,1.7005570536828962,375,17,66,4,9,117,71,89,0.32,0.617,0.063,-0.9747,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,6,8,2,0,2,0,8,3,1,2,0,8,15,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,1,3,9,1,8,13,0,8,0,3,0,0,9,4,0,1,4,37,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247341825127296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2984358237678177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303865227047454,0.0,0.0,0.2792722764779886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777825356604976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053933945544909,0.28036776584678424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128763369915587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606215136238218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31904239406490903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30668355088993954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957883597062315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.330176903513018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882094444919131
parenting,Collegegirly101,2019/04/07,"Would you forgive your parents for this ?? In my teens, 15 my mom knew about a boyfriend that cheated on me and was talking to my friends about it.

They were all sitting together discussing details I didn’t know about and when I walked in the room they all pretended they weren’t talking about me and changed the subject.

It took many years before I got more info out of my mom, Still hurts It’s like bullying in a way not disclosing information that one would want to know.

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parenting,Emaftw,2019/04/07,"Help with a very wild 2.5 year old who doesn’t listen!! I have a very rambunctious 2.5 year old boy who will run away from me towards the street. He won’t listen when I tell him to stop/don’t go in the street. 
He also jumps on me when I’m on the couch. Jumps like wrestler style. He just did this and kneed me in the lower back. (I’m in horrible pain now) I need advice on how to get him to listen because no matter how many time I tell him to stop or threaten consequences, and even follow through he still does this. I need some advice from someone who’s been there!! ",1.5129564553094,3.353094428571432,2.313124522536288,97.7469824293354,79.50420168067227,5.335676088617267,18.38120702826585,6.11248444174946,-0.4277966386554626,443,9,103,3,11,138,73,119,0.14300000000000002,0.805,0.052000000000000005,-0.8972,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,2,0,12,16,8,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,1,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,0,2,3,11,1,16,12,1,26,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,2,12,60,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599291232757724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727722006232324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302970968123849,0.14161203265060415,0.0,0.11226568329715117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611646192164364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163968837542838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621896161363827,0.0,0.10466559457412067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12344236680719504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997404397829636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18671508381612376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731130220578765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865017821182529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1959652579250921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15604297486924718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707494225862855,0.3079414936540512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219378266779556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738848341723303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039119308986925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371933072266938
parenting,Code_is_compiling,2019/04/07,"To those who have successfully toilet trained your children, what are your secret techniques? I have a boy who turns three in June, and am wondering how to start the toilet training Journey. He can sit on the toilet (pants still up) and is in pull ups but, I have no idea where to begin. He is the eldest so I will have to do this again in a year with his little brother. What are your tried and true methods for success? Preferably related to boys but, if I can even get the poop going I’ll be happy :)",3.2361000000000004,4.822431009999999,3.916999999999998,89.24350000000004,73.9,6.2,24.5,6.6274283507984215,0.7358999999999996,391,12,80,3,8,124,70,100,0.025,0.792,0.182,0.961,0,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,3,0,2,6,4,0,0,6,0,14,1,1,1,1,13,20,8,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,6,4,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,4,13,18,0,18,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,2,6,61,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224256867280157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594231701018778,0.0,0.1913875073248508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35848548140485764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801591399462976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375202947096361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383592640493189,0.0,0.2689356201850226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286367860827777,0.3662963370769314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36520002043209204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168613096259948
parenting,suddenlyfosterparent,2019/04/07,"3 year old toddler won't sleep the night through, we're recent foster parents and could use help. Long story short: my partner and I became foster parents very suddenly a few days ago. Our 3 year old niece whom we've never met was taken from her mother by CPS and then placed with us since we're family and have the resources and space. We have zero parenting experience other than the occasional babysitting we do for our nieces and nephews. It's been a very difficult few days, for her and for us and we're trying out best to do the right thing and give her a good home for the time being. Most parents have months to plan for this, we had literally a few hours.

She has been waking up throughout the night. She cries, but doesn't say why. She kicks her feet up and even shakes a bit. It happens about 2-3 times a night, and each time one of us goes and lays with her until she falls asleep again. But then it just happens again a few hours later. We've developed a nighttime routine. Dinner, bath, light play, and then we move her into the bedroom and watch TV a little more. Then we turn that off and I read a story. After that we just lay there until she falls asleep and I sneak out. This is usually done around 8:30pm. 

We don't know what kind of home she was living in other than it was bad enough for her to be taken away from it, or whether she has experienced any type of abuse. Is there something we should be doing that we're not? Are there any suggestions to help with the frequent waking up? Any help is appreciated. ",3.4925490196078437,5.0329402320261485,3.958970588235297,89.38786764705885,73.15032679738563,6.6686274509803924,22.22712418300653,7.1686216300943375,0.5518653594771239,1205,29,252,12,24,378,167,306,0.047,0.883,0.07,0.7281,4,0,1,0,1,0,32.0,13,0,0,2,10,7,0,1,18,0,27,7,6,1,1,45,36,26,0,2,7,6,0,0,1,2,0,1,4,1,15,32,1,0,1,4,0,4,5,3,0,2,10,4,31,4,36,20,10,51,0,0,1,0,42,15,0,2,32,172,46,2,0.0,0.11482025156610247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08590318324749098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770249266521556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626875440667763,0.0,0.0,0.09104834964912976,0.0,0.08091421536117628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016990718374151,0.0,0.10579854584978693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737323209381505,0.0,0.10644899702153614,0.12499541454589867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991706317246381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013197211559167,0.0,0.06400688586266554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947947166728362,0.09135633175843116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296307955456252,0.0,0.08128191622026062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139102496894876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486636939892446,0.0,0.19441345072276286,0.0,0.19086991502780906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091487317461653,0.05325815720679382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712737452949864,0.0855716274375212,0.08576061867809548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735112059055453,0.10299797351412576,0.0,0.0,0.07474150065180538,0.0,0.0,0.2728250603855856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033774977900811,0.0,0.06566743633022007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43041990548337217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124833830597364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693432436697512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568505733293582,0.0,0.0,0.08275898761186215,0.0,0.07706521045508923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016338145853373,0.0,0.09697808552953492,0.0,0.0,0.07460458961882732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643814353481687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16952367667624044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579423845368197,0.10540818456757194,0.0,0.0,0.3497055357302689,0.08369748353298442,0.10673058070111187,0.15991866251167058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744448685150599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12481127784699232
parenting,AKASmokeScreen,2019/04/07,"Tips to curb lying? My daughter (7) has developed a lying streak. It's not new per say. I got custody of her about two years ago and at the time she lied about everything. This is still her go to in any situation. She can think up a lie quicker then the truth.

And its almost always dumb stuff. Like today she moved something in the fridge. No one cared! But she STILL lied about her doing it. She lies about kids at school, her step brother, her friends. Anything. And I can't seem to get through to her

Ground seems to have zero effect, same with taking her electronics. I lost my cool today and told her I'm at the point where I have zero trust in what she tells me. She started crying but almost as quick she clicked back to her 'whatever' attitude.

Anyone have any tips on how to encourage her to be truthful?",1.8527475337961263,4.229269130434783,2.615330654000733,93.18011691633177,81.29813664596273,5.527365728900256,20.65071245889661,6.794906146795322,0.3188550237486303,634,18,132,7,17,198,107,161,0.1,0.7829999999999999,0.117,0.722,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,2,10,10,1,0,6,1,9,0,0,2,2,19,21,9,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,6,5,0,1,4,0,0,3,3,2,0,4,3,3,25,8,24,17,1,26,0,1,1,0,26,11,1,4,13,90,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438483623708761,0.0,0.3249930299835651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13502708179643225,0.0,0.0,0.22070722512961155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346753056939594,0.0,0.13353976636758616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478064327907165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545174869168314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825316034510846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584369137934433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253744530153106,0.0,0.0847827949438226,0.0,0.09222549790220504,0.0,0.12978737406432114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928012101719806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714401396173654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17247428159722594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567276944857744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996278391664642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534037836377403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904881868921067,0.0,0.16423252300087635,0.0,0.2954609364516281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18240563117991476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492840935941707,0.0,0.0,0.1148601709370674,0.0,0.2591885104925184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857678150976436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201176325082032,0.0,0.14183684944292824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039802550192254,0.0,0.0,0.0946247560377002,0.0,0.3076383726986709,0.15506218911295475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852060083196207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450077194450556
parenting,lauren-ge,2019/04/07,"Needing present ideas for two boys! My best friend's in a different part of the country and I'm going to see them in a while, and hoping to take some presents for her two sons who will be 3 and nearly 2! Sadly I don't have much experience with what sort of presents boys that age would like as I've only really been around little babies and when I Google it it's just companies trying to sell me their products. What are presents your kids would have loved to receive at that age? 

Thank you in advance and please tell me if there's a more relevant place for me to post this!",4.186271186440679,4.965244025423728,4.362500000000002,90.05697033898306,70.61016949152544,7.594915254237289,25.76694915254237,7.6454224807358475,1.068827118644068,457,13,100,5,8,142,86,118,0.023,0.8190000000000001,0.158,0.9458,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,2,2,4,7,0,0,4,0,9,1,0,0,0,16,17,9,0,5,2,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,3,8,7,0,0,1,0,1,3,1,1,0,2,1,1,11,6,18,12,5,20,0,1,1,1,14,8,0,4,9,67,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892275204079214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092547282375101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999064439789475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19660573173545387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528354198531516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422663573945782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996273492188255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22689202763880115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819303458154706,0.20144370077945006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814003485620272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774998320246524,0.14903073838755604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286113152039352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21765141548935693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999064439789475,0.22062547969525867,0.0,0.0,0.19249182809076015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287586495699896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16016214811510174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111865540220842,0.0,0.17567317612022693,0.18504359497635967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364582842713407,0.0,0.3926739424629247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28555352600820144,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WhitehandWeasel_,2019/04/07,"15yo son acting immature He has very little manners, and ever since we got him a computer, he has never came out of his room unless he has to eat. He never cleans his room, he never brushes his teeth unless told, and even when he is told, he does a crap job. He has been caught watching porn twice.

His grades are terrible. As soon as he gets home, he takes off his bag, and goes straight to his room. I don't know what to do, I feel like the internet has ruined him.",2.1834375,3.7217821354166674,3.3483333333333327,92.43000000000002,76.60416666666666,6.466666666666668,20.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.29348333333333354,359,8,80,4,8,116,63,96,0.08900000000000001,0.867,0.044,-0.6597,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,3,0,10,4,2,0,4,14,19,8,0,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,6,1,0,2,0,0,3,4,3,0,1,6,3,11,1,10,13,0,16,0,1,1,1,22,7,1,0,7,46,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524452902808254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19315387369110248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258520302976275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457837155482597,0.1996542013205853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160284548560702,0.15768266867116867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531727775344328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17653023439227702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22140051665483854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903089873568402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130213704692165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783281845950694,0.22121978517653265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5106994438403896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18258216194133148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595424108517645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4218155238416899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18211741199596493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aero_mum,2019/04/07,"Resources for teaching bicycle rules of the road Spring is finally here and we got our bikes out today!  It got me thinking whether anyone has any good online (or otherwise) resources for teaching bike safety and rules of the road to the 5-8 crowd?  I am thinking some quality you-tube videos or something we could watch together and I figured y'all could help save me some time screening the options.  Any suggestions?

Obviously we cover the material by example, but I am looking for something to augment the practical.

We're in Canada, so I guess this is a ride-on-the-right kind of question, but I would take quality suggestions for the other and consider filling in the details.",6.087724444444448,7.752101008000004,6.441066666666668,73.6209777777778,66.92,9.715555555555557,37.888888888888886,9.994966539143718,4.2441822222222205,546,30,89,13,9,176,83,125,0.0,0.927,0.073,0.7545,0,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,4,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,0,1,26,15,10,0,3,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,12,3,13,10,2,10,0,0,3,0,10,5,0,7,4,58,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960254585633982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15218929851134844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.347559297846937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23843019706354274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18255852162744,0.3481568571266064,0.0,0.2397713033795641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458894260316287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266539829973453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277521618965534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438231912447495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858760119392856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351226009615181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364932387348002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27892881762732585,0.0,0.0,0.12691626556883254,0.0,0.2063113028953652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546157267498009,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iluvpntbtr,2019/04/07,"Negotiating the cost of braces Hello,

We are preparing for our first round of braces for our oldest child.  So far she's had about 10 extractions due to major overcrowding issues.  These have been directed by the orthodontist we chose at around age 6 when we first saw signs of trouble.  We saw three ortho's when selecting this one that seemed most reasonable with his plan of treatment.  So far we've paid him nothing for this treatment/plan.  Pediatric dentist has done the actual extractions etc.  

We have been saving in our HSA for braces and between our lifetime max of 2k per kid through our dental and our savings we should be able to pay cash up front for the braces.  Does anyone have experience with this?  Can i get more of a discount by paying up front?  Is it advisable to pay up front?  Also I feel obligated at this point to the ortho we've been seeing since he hasn't charged us anything and has been good to work with.  Should I shop around to other orthos?  How tacky is that after they've given us all this free consultation?

Also any advice on questions to ask during this process would be much appreciated.",5.186830568720378,6.951944184834126,5.267816943127965,80.78333678909955,69.23696682464454,8.308175355450237,26.93157582938389,8.841846274778883,2.0227462085308057,897,29,165,16,16,281,133,211,0.026,0.914,0.06,0.8453,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,14,0,0,4,10,5,0,0,6,0,21,2,0,2,1,27,30,10,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,11,14,0,0,4,1,9,3,1,1,0,4,10,5,20,5,36,15,6,23,0,0,4,0,25,12,0,3,8,113,31,6,0.17034196863442158,0.0,0.16622918926280944,0.0,0.0,0.16645620028569835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724448215481775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11583837994640787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910706511723405,0.0,0.1401769261097702,0.303280933358378,0.15924674619768125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14906740466625207,0.17431897538131216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18997632289324365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666271313855634,0.0,0.0,0.08613001754504564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28978558300240803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899664800600357,0.0,0.0,0.142874761470591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779275902149305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12522094674441475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344771305302694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542812643148252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102821974957596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908219894614644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513991417099892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357404947526085,0.15507293064785682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409086367197272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4098008292276059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240109819289138,0.0,0.0,0.12100604716805215,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rachealmarieee,2019/04/07,"First time my daughter has ever said she was having fun with me. I’m usually not the “fun parent”. I’m always the disciplinarian and the one that makes sure everything stays in order. So I never hear that I’m fun. I have an almost 4yo and a 6mo so I stay pretty busy, especially breastfeeding. Me and my 4yo daughter finally got some quality time together while my boyfriend napped with our babygirl. We practiced her letters with flash cards and as a treat I let her take this HUGE princess art set outside (I hid it in a closet at Christmas time, it’s as bad as playdough) and painted with her and colored and put lots of stickers all over the pages. I got up finally to check on the baby and in the sweetest voice ever she said “mommy I’m having so much fun with you today! I love you!” 

Moments like these melt my heart and remind me that, even though I may think I’m a bad mom sometimes, my girls love me more than I think they do. I hope some of you moms/dads realize that you’re doing a good job no matter what. ",2.2365866121614744,4.2475590000000025,3.5316249361267253,89.05356412876851,77.93203883495144,6.278589678078692,23.463464486458868,7.273561745256523,0.8949359223300966,798,26,165,10,19,260,127,206,0.048,0.754,0.198,0.9861,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,3,1,1,7,13,0,0,12,0,9,3,1,1,5,32,26,17,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,4,1,1,9,15,0,0,3,2,1,1,3,2,0,2,5,5,30,11,19,19,7,26,0,0,1,2,22,8,0,6,14,107,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785623864605076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455215278155415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22989676539190435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09092948598063066,0.2490601070452809,0.0,0.0,0.12372857796260188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30162068015082955,0.0,0.11710170891187707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547074602703054,0.22021394382716591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516366788390815,0.1631391632059724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673699648318882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661585562564615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407765144152659,0.0,0.0672584226399399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704178827999555,0.2485044150557306,0.0,0.09189554073972336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161236995708458,0.0,0.0,0.10120301157433544,0.0,0.10617929843160484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932884978029462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15286582152039724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14005949722206298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839599325780833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26191067033923005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13615877492773626,0.0,0.0,0.293474995962369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975198811600974,0.0,0.10351042145846097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17642626798651578,0.13525970320423195,0.0,0.2408287885586445,0.0,0.1304947029958623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162363721911845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emotionalunicorn35,2019/04/07,"Did your teen boys have an emotional puberty? Wondering how normal this is. I am one of 4 girls and have 3 boys. My mom joked about how much easier my life would be than hers when my boys hit their teen years. She was right with the oldest. He's 16, mature, responsible, caring, and generally an amazing kid. Puberty has been uneventual. 

Now with one of my 13 year olds (twins), it's like world war 3 every single day. He's reduced to tears over the smallest things. Yesterday I asked him to unload the dishwasher and he did. While unloading he was crying and I asked what happened. He said that this is his least favorite chores. It's so random. I get that he doesn't like it but to reduced to tears over it? Is this just puberty? He slams his door so much that we would take it off if he didn't share a room with his brother. The other day he called me a bitch because I told him that he was punished. When I went to his room to talk to him he was crying. He also has cried in the past month over losing a track meet, not qualifying for a music competition, and when he couldn't find his shoes. 

My husband doesn't think this is normal but he is a stonewall of emotion. He doesn't cry for anything and grew up as one of 6 boys and was in the military so he has certain ideas about how boys should act. I grew up with emotional sisters so this is more normal to me but with the opposite gender.",2.0920666305525444,4.036831419014085,3.3784507042253518,90.29596424702059,78.11971830985917,6.763596966413869,21.838569880823396,7.748469712250963,0.8080286023835317,1089,31,236,17,26,354,149,284,0.113,0.8029999999999999,0.084,-0.9244,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,1,1,1,1,15,11,3,0,14,0,29,2,1,3,1,36,41,24,1,8,6,4,0,2,0,3,1,1,4,7,17,13,0,0,4,1,0,4,6,4,0,3,12,1,27,7,31,23,5,30,0,1,0,0,48,12,1,3,16,152,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204625439859188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471834280565232,0.0,0.2152078564659775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016452130633945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753102362379705,0.0,0.1173531740892528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057323195035055,0.148461288256221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3884195093984472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697758445698312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520025880907928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06013553905287901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178346323696864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993505596056076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129926345564795,0.112465101361796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876861407379198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348049385777225,0.09187254630624228,0.0,0.16922500570311946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383237218381764,0.0,0.0,0.12077917191576246,0.0,0.23398631612573165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098769598245455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829565316674917,0.1094874401274829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654165221542906,0.09251385026856844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646801177705563,0.07375209428493301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099839694504718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669981061527573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482216026252865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16352894267698806,0.0,0.0,0.14824258286103348
parenting,cjmelendez330,2019/04/07,"Need Advice/Suggestions My wife and I recently had our first child who is 4 months old. We live in PA with no friends or family in close proximity. My mother-in-law doesn't work and decided to stay with us for a few months to help out. She lives in Texas but used to live where I do now.  She was out with a friend one day and forgot her phone. She called my wife from her friends phone and asked her to check the phone that she left to see if her husband had called. As soon as my wife opened the phone, her mother's text messages were open and the last text was sent to my father-in-law stating that my son ""doesn't like his mother"" and that she ""traumatized him with the nasal asperator.  There were more messages but the point was clear that she thought my wife was a bad mother.

The thing is, my wife has been absolutely amazing with our son. I always said she was the type that was born to be a mother and she's been so great with him. She has been borderline post-pardum depressed but never took it out on my son. Reading this has absolutely shattered her.  

She chose not to confront her mother who has since flown back to TX.  My question is, how do I get her to realize how amazing she really is? I want to do something to make her understand just how much she means to my family but nothing seems good enough.  Money is tight since we are on one income, but I'm open to suggestions.

TLDR- My mother-in-law thinks my wife is a bad mother and I need help convincing her that she isn't. ",3.612403240324032,4.716508897689772,4.151660666066608,89.82795904590462,72.23432343234323,7.621302130213023,23.34368436843685,8.00094639256281,0.9173709570957098,1168,29,257,16,22,369,146,303,0.08800000000000001,0.764,0.14800000000000002,0.9683,2,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,0,2,10,13,1,0,12,0,31,1,1,5,2,52,49,21,0,4,9,17,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,11,23,0,2,8,1,2,2,6,4,0,3,18,4,50,9,32,30,4,31,0,1,1,0,69,15,0,4,13,171,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351491338303262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163018675223876,0.0,0.0,0.09565975439197767,0.2077459321254624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540627979615868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023092354766179,0.0,0.10714983127511923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12854360503812956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345558961673451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10581881667587456,0.0,0.0,0.2883449483983712,0.0,0.06499647002823031,0.0,0.0,0.10434499905083368,0.0,0.13715693513407518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166772078181738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140666687488788,0.0,0.0,0.1351663801902115,0.0,0.0,0.06077799172512696,0.0,0.32955564284005306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304129349798804,0.0,0.0,0.1355134992196608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19859774424438276,0.0,0.09145197818496424,0.18448944007298512,0.0959487937444385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936993831404985,0.0,0.13054210457071638,0.0,0.16860007490422632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760292205552013,0.0,0.1191455869014702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936205460145734,0.0,0.12443865074066768,0.0,0.07969701895305302,0.0,0.1228349143434126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833762917558666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09913466626529473,0.11325362600581695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581817829037155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577303531906586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13259916138399394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264914414777848,0.07971369112522105,0.0,0.0987636619063727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821851577130154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295099767467612,0.14964387935509224,0.10744596394775333,0.0,0.0,0.07337728336613615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056831072525699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HumpingTheShark,2019/04/07,"Being a dad has turned me into such a mush ball I posted this a few days ago on /r/daddit, and the great feedback there inspired me to share my thoughts on this subreddit too.

Seriously, I cry about everything now. Reading the cute posts on this subreddit? I‘m crying. Looking through old photos of my son, thinking how fast he‘s growing up? Definitely crying. Sometimes I watch my wife and my son in their sleep when I can‘t sleep yet, and I am just so overwhelmed with love and gratitude that they are happy and healthy that there I go crying again.

This is unacceptable. It’s getting embarrassing. What is happening to me? Have I finally managed to rid myself of society‘s toxic and unrealistic expectation that as a man, I should always be stoic and never show emotion under any circumstances, or does that happen to everyone?





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parenting,oofmama,2019/04/07,"Desperate for advice with 7 month old My 7 month old and I used to have a good bond! She would say ‘mum mama mommy’ and look to me for comfort/security. She also had a great relationship with my husband, always giving him the biggest smiles and having so much fun with him.

Unfortunately we had to start sleep training, because the sleep deprivation was getting dangerous for her and I. My husband is gone often for work, so the day and night care about 5 days a week is 100% all mama, and with how things were with her sleep I started having major clumsy moments (almost fell down the stairs with her countless times), and emotional/mental struggles (became paranoid, trouble concentrating while driving, etc). Things were terrible so for our safety we hired a sleep consultant to come up with a ‘gentle’ sleep training program. Well, it’s been hell.

She went from nursing to sleep and co-sleeping, to sleeping in her crib on her own, going to sleep awake. That’s a hard transition, and we’ve been working on it for 2 weeks. I’ve been in the room and we’ve gone from patting/calm words to help her crying, to shhhing, and different positions (1 beside the crib, 2 middle of room, 3 by the door). Trying to make this gradual and painless for her and also me, as my PPA makes it torture to hear her cry. 

We’ve had a couple good nights, have seen improvements with her cognitive abilities due to getting more sleep/being on a routine, but there have been some nights with 40 minutes of tears. Waking up 3-4 times a night crying for ten minutes. Now, in this program I’ve been gradually doing less support - so the first few nights I’d go in and soothe her when she cried after just a couple minutes, but now we are at the point where I’m supposed to wait ten minutes before going in and shhing her. It’s agony. And the frequency of her tears is not diminishing and I just feel like I’m torturing her, but the sleep consultant says that to go in earlier now will lead to mixed signals, confusion, and more tears.

The sleep coach has also recommended that  I be in charge of all the sleep training because my husband is not around as often, so all these negative experiences for her are all with mommy.

Well, I’ve noticed that her relationship with her dad is getting amazingly strong! She looks for him in the morning, her face lights up every single time she sees him. She will hold her arms out to him, she will babble away immediately. 

But with me she has become more detached. I try to talk to her/look at her, and she turns away from me. She takes hours to warm up to me when her dad is at work, and even then I’m getting about half the smiles and babbling she used to do. She never says ‘mama mummy mom’ anymore, and it’s just so hard to make her happy when it’s just me at home. 

I am so torn. I feel like I’ve cleaved her attachment to me, I’m desperate for a solution. Half of me wants to say screw this program we’ve been working on, half of me wants to continue because I can’t imagine going back to the way things were with less sleep. 

Please help me, I don’t know what to do.",6.313992428654629,6.048884866336636,6.529823335274706,79.99263249854398,65.84818481848185,9.373636187148126,31.519899048728405,8.841846274778883,2.3770578140166947,2423,83,480,34,34,779,266,606,0.108,0.7809999999999999,0.112,0.5466,1,0,0,0,0,0,76.0,4,0,0,7,32,24,5,2,27,0,39,16,15,7,5,78,79,44,0,3,10,7,5,2,0,4,0,5,4,0,18,41,0,2,4,1,0,12,6,10,2,6,17,15,69,14,91,57,16,79,1,1,4,1,64,32,2,5,36,326,87,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034858285543707,0.0,0.0,0.05159376792450408,0.0,0.0,0.12361099178981808,0.04287203280686022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05109788836423902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045867216647563165,0.0,0.0,0.09681684655079388,0.03961871767610718,0.0,0.09422551872210808,0.05690412675008937,0.04384306496335505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253207507332544,0.0,0.0,0.04438329884850175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402048525571602,0.2263864474169189,0.06645733786652337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053831534954055085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0574627957225067,0.03403106629961358,0.0,0.043411128728818436,0.0,0.0,0.050400284976651874,0.0,0.0,0.052104088850567935,0.07361740413416977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382622398885026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076764962385466,0.049426443438062635,0.14641116874810609,0.08643164692581194,0.0,0.056805308825388125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484817587662637,0.09231063231785168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05807120772873721,0.0,0.06907080123440146,0.0,0.051682697431012586,0.0,0.05074068707896422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028316201522261737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050343974023009226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298013602295633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317785938716936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060344197833405465,0.08225181018225351,0.0,0.03787601303872325,0.0,0.03973842704161011,0.0,0.0,0.2417585648024134,0.0,0.0,0.05866032971573727,0.10813138333262973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05655779692483079,0.04870676280132318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063482557365063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389557161196328,0.0,0.0,0.04105789712344482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7218558846129223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293779812318567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05386399309074697,0.0,0.0,0.058468739110116574,0.0,0.0,0.03873957910753163,0.04141297894452009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026906182952941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013204442880772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996272544032163,0.0560432345550698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900025592037739,0.0,0.0,0.06078029139841621,0.0408972931482826,0.08265876896285562,0.0,0.09265239207532204,0.04776319434946235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15004012317751989,0.0,0.0,0.03660111777988877,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wastedtime666,2019/04/07,"My 6 year old thought it was a good idea to pee on the couch. Is this normal. 
HI, he has been getting in a little trouble recently and has always kind of been this way.  I've cleaned  so much pee from the bathroom floor because of him.  I didn't go through this with my oldest.  

I made him clean the couch, go to time out and then no electronics for that day.  But what gives? 
Plus it was a pretty new couch. Ugh",0.06697674418604649,2.2271077906976764,1.3477209302325583,100.71762790697674,87.3720930232558,4.370232558139535,19.06511627906977,5.6839178017228535,-0.4814986046511627,314,9,75,2,10,99,65,86,0.084,0.816,0.1,0.3384,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,6,0,8,2,2,1,0,10,14,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,5,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,7,0,6,2,12,7,1,16,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,8,46,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20492846580338506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013276897971828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588331529754822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867350655296195,0.2362585713980695,0.2799383581664809,0.20657178633400666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27802526655492343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564674479728133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468418092423055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330403856131177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810474739497899,0.0,0.0,0.23786314236052775,0.0,0.0,0.2413065569578688,0.0,0.0,0.25843419405118223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505599169458177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431762701702828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19552241363237896,0.1436104951972521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19548920337287445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859916829234766
parenting,katch_22,2019/04/07,"How do I tell my 1 year old ""No"" without him finding it funny? Hey all,

I'm the proud father of an absolutely wonderful 13 month old.  He's a sweet boy and we're just in love with him.

However, one tiny dilemma that's coming up...

Whenever my wife or I try and tell him, ""No"", he finds it hilarious and thinks it's a game.  For instance, if he's playing with something he's no supposed to like the knobs on the stove, we'll say, ""Bradley, No"".  He'll then look over at us and think it's a game.  He'll give a big smile and slowly start to mess with the knobs again.  

This is probably totally normal behavior, but I was curious if anyone had any insight or techniques that could help.  Thanks!",3.216408450704228,4.020100077464793,4.656450704225354,86.96988732394367,72.8732394366197,8.215211267605634,27.580281690140843,8.548686976883017,1.7437470422535215,529,19,118,9,10,177,97,142,0.033,0.765,0.202,0.9674,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,9,0,6,1,0,1,2,27,18,12,0,4,7,2,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,1,7,9,0,0,6,3,0,1,5,1,0,1,2,3,10,6,13,12,2,14,0,0,1,1,23,6,0,5,8,65,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12823307422094854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185150835572654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624351011353195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505566360855481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446964606684861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180892127149577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12639351822747952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212506420371064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15835008230130612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019047052643754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505136104362426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18475713336005606,0.0,0.0,0.3957419264280449,0.0,0.12777892362377025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033087807000898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995727244888507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516927554395528,0.0,0.0,0.13346978392895106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296344327866823,0.17360857763821624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416542141121696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280256614249491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22682473707963585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817733445110096,0.2044945389990564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143195798902108
parenting,ShortChimp68327,2019/04/07,"It is the responsibility of the parents to make the internet a safe place for their children to navigate. The internet, as most of us on Reddit should probably know, is a crazy place filled with content that children of a certain age should not be exposed to. Though it seems that every other child above the age of eight has their own mobile phone with internet access, as far as i’m concerned this is not a problem. The problem is that we have a generation of parents who are so damn out of touch with modern day content consumption that they’re not taking the right steps to keep their children safe.

Here are a couple of links to show how even the most seemingly wholesome parts of the internet are not safe for your children to navigate freely and that we cannot simply rely on online media companies to restrict our children’s content for us.

https://www.bbc.com/news/amp/blogs-trending-47813350

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elsagate


After seeing the possible dangers of the internet the approach here should not be to restrict children’s access entirely. It should also not be to accept defeat and give children unfettered access. But rather to find a middle ground that lets our children make the most of what the internet has to offer but that also shields them from inappropriate content.

Online companies have a lot more to do and have been far from perfect when it comes to creating friendly environments for children but virtually every new phone release and major app update has increasingly more efficient settings to help us set limits on what our children can and cannot see.

https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201304

https://support.spotify.com/is/using_spotify/system_settings/content-censor/

https://scontent-ams3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t39.2365-6/43595707_563053030782661_2535156359733706752_n.pdf?_nc_cat=107&_nc_ht=scontent-ams3-1.xx&oh=6f5de431a5a713181193c3abe26ec68e&oe=5D374B15

Restricting content in the social media era is arguably more difficult than it ever has been and finding the balance between respecting your child’s freedoms whilst keeping them safe is inevitably going to be more difficult when they have a seemingly infinite amount of content available in their pocket. But that’s the way things are now. Times are changing, and it’s our responsibility as parents to keep up and to maintain a level of responsibility in a chaotic and ever-changing world.

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parenting,ABCJMC,2019/04/07,"Number of kids How many kids did you want? How many did you end up with? Do you and your partner agree on these numbers?

I originally wanted 3 and husband wanted 4. I had one and thought I was done (horrible postpartum depression and a baby that cried a lot). Had a “surprise” second who I think perfectly completes the family. However, husband is from a large family and still wants more! ",2.8112671232876707,5.5232551095890425,4.294777397260276,80.52380993150688,80.09589041095892,8.033561643835617,26.93321917808219,8.841846274778883,2.6620698630136994,305,13,54,8,8,101,53,73,0.083,0.755,0.162,0.6036,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,0,1,3,3,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,3,1,17,14,7,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,8,2,5,7,2,5,0,1,0,0,10,2,0,1,3,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289464507323992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23985835873025702,0.0,0.0,0.18807326731611368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345823469714812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19340226998022972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4117010100294496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856419811126607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427658149019778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796648104635132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438268866625867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991635974912678,0.0,0.17335355889775142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5151778687925588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Flowereality,2019/04/07,"21 month old inconsolable in public Everywhere we go he screams, shrieks, cries, and flails his body around (to the point where you cant hold him) it’s gotten so bad now that we are never able to leave the house as a family. He becomes inconsolable instantly after entering a public place.

We have tried letting him watch shows on our phones and he ignores it, we let him run around (but then he starts throwing himself on the dirty floor beneath people’s feet) and we have tried keeping him occupied with snacks (which he immediately tosses to the floor)


Can anyone relate? What can we do? Thank you in advance ❤️

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parenting,mysoulishome,2019/04/07,"Am I the only one who HATES hearing their kids say “get rekt”? My kids are 7 and 11, the phrase of course ties into gamer and meme culture. I feel like it sounds too much like get fucked, maybe it’s the hard K syllable. It just sounds very wrong/inappropriate coming out of kids’ mouths (though still really annoying from anyone else). They don’t understand why I don’t like it. ",4.810000000000001,5.719459459459461,4.852270270270271,86.63462162162165,69.27027027027027,8.622702702702702,22.90810810810811,8.841846274778883,1.1746951351351358,296,6,63,5,5,92,57,74,0.159,0.7440000000000001,0.096,-0.7119,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,2,0,4,6,3,0,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,8,12,3,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,0,4,0,3,5,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,6,6,3,5,12,1,4,0,0,0,1,9,2,1,0,4,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676647255285608,0.22972030273448346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931292113477328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729107158066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11336270453950352,0.16016915789011346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20727010655579328,0.2342714189657357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008399564824038,0.2213519586577476,0.0,0.0,0.2526906931578832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285996845016873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252399248230621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648134482327241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519243228454828,0.17051487682478225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362882868378465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829354346129705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17904711732177314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22027623234956775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334010293905593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498921132132026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20230642756754091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451284734017537,0.0,0.0
parenting,TinyTargen,2019/04/07,"Talk to me about school We live in a ridiculously rural area and I'm on my way out the door because the school here is so frustrating. But I haven't been in school in 15 years. Can you guys give me an idea how things go at the schools your kids are in? 
    My kids are in 5th and 2nd grade. Neither ever gets home work besides one spelling list a month. This isn't teacher specific, it's a school wide thing. My 5th grader struggles and no matter how much I ask for them to send extra work they hold firm on no because no homework. My 2nd grade child how ever is reading at an 8th grade level and doing math at a 6th grade level but there is nothing to challenge him. Not that there isn't extra help given at home don't get me wrong .
   They do a "" math power hour"" basically the kids learn one standard IE how to add fractions and then move to another class that will have nothing to do with what they learned previously but they will build on it later in another class, usually months down the road. Are any other schools doing things like this? It seems like they use this school to experiment on teaching techniques and I've seen lots of them flop and the kids suffer from it. They're also offering a basically learn at your own pace program. The kids get to pick what they want to learn about and when they want to do work. 
   And the grading system is a mess! They grade 1 2 or 3 . 3 means you know the material, 2 that you need help doing it , and 1 that you're pretty clueless. Students never fail. No matter what. They are always pushed through. The grades are very subjective though , each teacher pretty much has their own idea of what is considered a 2 or a 3 there is no consistent base line. Where you could always say 95% is an A that's not the case. The child can miss, let's say 3 questions but if the teachers feel they grasp the material they get a 3. It makes no sense. Are they doing this other places? 
     I'm so frustrated, I'm ready to pick up and head some where with what I consider normal school! But is it like this every where?",2.9543817818389506,4.6347145266990335,3.6281153626499134,90.63364648772136,74.8495145631068,6.594631639063393,23.03997715591091,7.285733465282438,0.6986676756139345,1603,45,342,18,34,506,198,412,0.11,0.805,0.085,-0.8637,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,1,6,15,6,21,13,3,1,28,0,34,1,1,8,3,61,56,29,0,6,10,0,1,3,0,2,0,2,4,8,27,17,0,1,12,1,0,4,14,9,0,2,3,4,33,4,38,49,10,44,0,3,1,0,41,27,0,7,14,219,60,33,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525043630208477,0.13578495594768036,0.0,0.0,0.05548650026877593,0.17111617522663264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07627907632847844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947749983046808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514591402708532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761230951267504,0.06874619438547437,0.0,0.0,0.07981427549908625,0.0,0.0,0.041256216151105175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17051732027985442,0.07827209261481441,0.046371568589415685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079057119779294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373865530975459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938104737342234,0.0,0.16369022727572616,0.0,0.08035333886325198,0.0,0.0,0.18421866588179367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484175258993902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08343506579399235,0.0,0.11958765156544444,0.0,0.07204871417860992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936802879620796,0.0,0.0,0.054464414889376415,0.0,0.0,0.08887943737039229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302545936243442,0.08672116888408507,0.11996148596699716,0.06050067974367027,0.0629300759959732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07994448228058078,0.15658267283163646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057997826329866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524802912031203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602021174249346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140359502990644,0.0,0.08161576026483908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977313830444984,0.0,0.6606172807458133,0.0,0.07427982169685897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529943007301127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558190915481925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262164596071274,0.0,0.08016537618505758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047074186990115,0.08986391089343324,0.06732333106286602,0.0962521327971705,0.06476526519673582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820351213423247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920988013239467,0.0,0.0525436546735701
parenting,sallyandpaul123,2019/04/07,"May have to give up dog due to daughter's allergies. So, we have a 2 year old English lab that we adore. We've had him since he was a little puppy, he is a great dog and has become very much part of our family. Now the problem is that our 9 year old daughter has been getting sick on-and-off for a year now.  It didn't occur to us that she could be allergic to dogs.  She has been treated with antibiotics for what we thought was an upper respiratory infection. It didn't help. Lately she has developed asthma symptoms. She hasn't been able to sleep well because of all the wheezing and coughing. She has missed school days, and lately spends a lot of time in bed because she doesn't feel well. She also just finished a round of steroid medication, and has to use her inhaler on a daily basis.  We are also treating her with antihistamines and allergy medications on a daily basis. It has been months, and she is still sick, she hasn't been able to completely heal. 

Not long ago the doctor ordered an allergy test. The results were that she is moderately allergic to trees, grass, pollen, dust. But the worst result was for cat and dogs, she tested 5 out of 6 (with 6 being the worst) on the allergy test. The doctor suggested we get rid of our dog. However, she saw that my daughter was sad about that, and then suggested that we do a 3 month trial period, trying out different things. So far, we bought a large and expensive air purifier to filter the air in our entire house. The dog is not allowed in the bedrooms or furniture. We constantly vacuum and clean the house to keep our environment as clean as possible. Unfortunately, none of it is helping. 

Now, we have to face the reality. I am trying to figure out how to re-home our dog. The entire family is devastated. I'm not sure our kids will ever be able to get over it. It feels like a death in the family to them, especially to our daughter who   
loves the dog so much.  My husband on the other hand is in major denial and refuses to even discuss with me the possibility of re-homing the dog. He insists that we will some how figure it out and come up with a way to remedy the situation. My husband doesn't want to accept the fact that our daughter is highly allergic to dogs. Even though he witnessed on an occasion, after taking our daughter to visit his mother that our daughter got very sick after playing with her grandmother's dog. She ended up in the doctor's office the next day. My husband is still in denial and just won't accept it.

As difficult as this is, I am still moving forward with re-homing the dog. I'm just hoping to hear others stories who have been through this. I am just looking for advice. Thank you so much. ",4.589737407862408,5.700929346590911,5.865178132678135,78.42908476658478,69.92803030303031,8.88992628992629,28.09602784602784,9.21561531244674,2.3475422194922198,2117,73,403,42,37,711,244,528,0.094,0.8390000000000001,0.067,-0.9177,3,0,0,0,0,0,63.0,22,1,1,0,25,20,0,0,39,0,53,21,3,6,4,70,76,29,1,4,9,11,4,1,0,4,17,1,5,1,26,35,0,2,7,1,3,4,11,6,2,0,18,8,50,14,69,50,11,62,0,2,3,1,70,27,0,5,32,290,76,7,0.267181500920448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702889015232496,0.07894675991889556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244329983737644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858090871471457,0.09836032546073366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767177350586929,0.09337824012477028,0.0962427615092895,0.0,0.07110756257612623,0.0,0.0,0.11487330981306924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304926725939787,0.0,0.27347158764165097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888116871485466,0.0,0.0,0.11764724100613808,0.0805603213373831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518749405231555,0.0,0.09006332984749292,0.06362483921431873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395913067211545,0.08543494717501746,0.0,0.0,0.07122981792689732,0.09818951599945053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037765656578664,0.0,0.11939075208176707,0.09409730833492333,0.0,0.08845717209453864,0.0,0.2055277197248081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916106475550512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20092824709686413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043510461830276036,0.08926201834036157,0.0,0.07881574020102804,0.0747883897975567,0.0,0.0,0.07571605252722513,0.08038057868098633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1794381688385568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217448331633056,0.09465721734345564,0.1964091454740385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471685244564594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869080269666049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644384294988363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008046650197382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521887091033238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09013398102368478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367176617961421,0.1001077338335474,0.0891248187350255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21337149176748432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393846755144654,0.09256796047530286,0.06696241251470683,0.0,0.0,0.08199494302693651,0.0,0.0,0.05916783904296381,0.0,0.08750148936658829,0.07070408908919146,0.05193189393447583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093246724709955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712881613892407,0.07691967734486986,0.0,0.14696847984650774,0.05253019055895677,0.07069207971848526,0.0,0.0,0.160152171023868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17205612670316614
parenting,ezrider504,2019/04/07,"Do you monitor your child's cell phone use? Looking for parenting advice regarding my 14 year old son's cell phone use. I'm a coparent and I'm debating between monitoring my sons cell phone with the qustodio app or not. He's a good kid, active in sports and gets pretty good grades, but I doubt that he's being truthful in maintaining his daily 2 hour screen time limit. On one hand this app would tell me how much he's using his phone and monitor it for appropriate use (no porn etc.), but on the other hand I don't want to be too over bearing. I think there's something to be said about learning by being allowed to make mistakes. What have you parents with adult children learned about monitoring your children's phones? Yay or nay?
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parenting,boobychick,2019/04/07,"Motherhood Controverisal, but if you think you are going to be a terrible mother or father, you probably are going to be one. Let's say you still go ahead, ignoring that nagging inner voice telling you that this is not for you, then you could still tick most of the right boxes, but you would know that you have done it grudgingly.  Because you hate to fail at something. Or because you feel a deep moral responsibility. And your child would know this. Children know. And when they are adults, this knowledge will shape them and their behavior towards you and others. 

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parenting,EdwardLewisVIII,2019/04/07,"Stepdaughter masturbating in common area of the house I have literally no idea how to handle this because there is no way I am going to talk to her about it and I don't even know to bring it up with her mom. 

For the second time recently I walked in on my stepdaughter (15) masturbating in the the den of our house. The first time recently I walked in and she quickly stopped and acted as if she wasn't doing anything. I didn't say a word and acted as if I didn't see anything. 

Late last night (1am-wish) I get up to go to the kitchen and she is in the couch, her pants are down and she is rubbing herself rapidly. I don't know how to say this delicately, but she looked to be about to, or was in the process of, bringing herself to orgasm. In other words she had to have been doing it for at least a few minutes. I was there for only 2 or 3 seconds at most and then turned around and went back to our room. 

I haven't said anything and don't know if she even saw me. I don't even know if I should say anything.  Is it just a phase? Hormones? I have no idea. I'm at a loss. ",1.9148888888888893,3.0511333391304376,3.5020289855072453,92.71338164251208,76.47826086956522,6.502415458937199,23.64734299516909,6.937597516519254,0.543444444444444,828,25,197,8,18,275,112,230,0.052000000000000005,0.94,0.008,-0.7984,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,0,2,13,1,0,0,12,0,25,2,1,2,0,32,41,21,0,5,8,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,7,11,1,1,6,0,0,9,11,1,0,3,10,8,30,0,38,29,3,40,0,1,3,1,20,17,0,7,13,148,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43460302226817793,0.11753611479774605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152414925673983,0.0,0.08048523684135704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616168763421311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230601005258313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06898106070049308,0.0,0.15007319994913035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3046934750376336,0.0,0.2980952070440715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29024445397067605,0.10762337462470008,0.14893739375675594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11087328955139523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15463381217185454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390271092442424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041598006718648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607305497908597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559228490051955,0.3149904789489123,0.0,0.0,0.10521208964424143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103843281496176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061219974331788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15397737345957918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361246510587322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480053715334824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239461437788635,0.0,0.0,0.1518298220693256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TomGallagher209,2019/04/07,"Regret So, this is something I'm trying to battle with but lately it's wearing me down more and more to the point were it feels like shards of glass are piercing my head with negative thoughts, regrets and a barrage of 'what if's' and 'if you did that at X time in your life then you wouldn't be here'

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I regret being a dad. I regret getting married. I'm being wholeheartedly selfish and desperate to turn the clocks back. a couple of years ago I got into a relationship with a woman that I coveted for years. I idolised her, she ticked every box that I could ever wish for in a soulmate and life long partner, and at first everything was bliss. 

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A couple of months in she got sick, she had a kid and even though I was young at the time (early 20's) I felt mature enough and devoted enough to help her out. Take care of the kid while she was locked in bed because of her illness. Shortly after I proposed and shortly after that she was pregnant. Everything was a whirlwind, when we first got together I was in my final year of college, I had ideas to go travel, I was politicly engaged, actually loved doing what I was studying . and was super confident in myself and my abilities. Obviously this all shattered within those first few months. I didn't mind, I enjoyed watching the kid, her being pregnant was the most adorable, wonderful, stress free thing ever. I was working a crappy retail job but I enjoyed working with the staff so everything was great! I didn't mind the early hours or the obnoxious, entitled customers.   


When the kid was born I never felt anything like it. I wouldn't let them go, family visiting the ward had to pry the kid off of me and I felt a surge of what I can only describe as a deep primal instinct to protect this kid, even when in the arms of my own family, all trust and love I had in them went out the window and it was just this kid. I could only see them, this little bundle. 

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I was 100% in, hands on dad. I got a full time job ""I'm a dad now I need a proper adult job"" but lost it within months due to cuts. That was what I think was the start of the negative snowball that has since spiralled out of control. My confidence and my perception of who I was and what role I played in this family was shattered. My wife went back to work but I'm not that kind of guy who goes 'oh the woman can't work blah blah blah'. I supported her because in all honesty she's a genius and I admire who she is and what she does. I dived into the dad role and family commented on how 'devoted' a dad I was. 

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Then my wife got really sick. Then the toll of taking care of a sick wife and two kids started to weigh in. Then my mental health started to spiral out of control, after a long hard year with a few breakdowns, I was diagnosed, medicated and am going to therapy.  My wife's encouraged me to get my independence back, so she helped me get a post graduate degree. But all that feels completely wasted and now I'm in debt up to my eyeballs because; a) by my wife's own admission she struggles being with the kids full time and needs a break. b) I constantly feel tremendous guilt for leaving them to go to work; because of these points I feel like my qualifications are wasted. Even now, I have a part time job doing something I love (looking after people with disabilities) and keeps us afloat - but this is crushed by the duty I feel to care for my family, with the constant ""where are you?"" ""I need you home now."" ""when are you finishing?"" ""Do you have to be in today?""  (In the short time of having my job she's had a few massive flares in her health that have required the services of the paramedics and my staying off work, whereas when I was at home full time and she was doing her own thing; she never had an issue). 

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So here in lies the point of writing this post. I lie here now looking back and regretting going into this relationship. I can't change the fact she's ill but I never wanted to be anyone's carer. I have kids that I loved being with, but now they're older the constant nagging, false crying, bickering, screaming (even when having fun) makes me feel repulsed. I loved my own space and my own company, I loved going to the gym but now I'm rotting because I don't have time and can't take the time even if there was. I'm in crushing debt because I've had to take money out. I had things I wanted to do and achieve with no idea how to achieve them and that was exciting! Now my wife asks me to list positive things about myself and I couldn't name a thing. Not one. My therapist asks me what goes on in my brain and 3/4's of it is my wife and kids. The rest is mental health issues or memes. 

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I'm lost. Depressed. Numb. I envy my childless, successful, well off friends. But because of moral principles and a sense of 'duty' I can't leave. I'm stuck in this for the next 18ish or so years where the kids don't require 100% of my attention and are doing their own thing, and that hits me like a brick in my chest. Apparently struggling with forming and maintaining relationships is part and parcel of my EUPD but still.  

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I understand I am selfish, even looking back on this, thinking from an external perspective I am disgusted at what this guy is going on about. This self centred asshole is only thinking of himself, disregarding the welfare of his own family. But this toxicity needed to be let out. Even if it is on an anonymous forum on the internet. 

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Sincerely, 

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The biggest prick you'll find on the internet today. 

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parenting,Mr_Good_Cat5,2019/04/07,"LO's dad cheated on me My husband just told me he got herpes from having sex with prostitutes. We haven't been having sex because our baby was only born 2 months ago so I'm clean. I also got tested just in case. My options are to separate and become a single mother to a little baby and probably move in with my mom or to forgive him and live out our lives together. 

It seems pretty clear I should leave him but I almost want to stay. He was my best friend. I miss him so much. I miss sharing everything with him and I feel so alone. The baby is doing ok but the thought of raising him entirely on my own is terrifying me. I'm also terrified of being alone forever. I just wish we could move forward being best friends that have a baby together and just not have sex as part of our relationship any more. It's been so long since I've had sex and I dont feel like I miss it but I'm also a new mom that has other priorities right now. I'm sure I'll miss it in the future. 

Please help. I would love to hear from other mothers who have done it on their own to give me hope or even other parents who have moved past adultery. I just dont know what to do and I know I need to make a decision soon as to how to move forward. ",1.0339615384615402,2.9061806269230814,3.2613846153846167,90.2036153846154,81.19230769230771,6.16,20.784615384615385,7.24861992348623,0.5371107692307695,953,27,210,13,25,326,140,260,0.106,0.6940000000000001,0.199,0.9836,1,2,0,0,0,0,16.0,5,0,1,2,16,16,1,0,8,1,26,5,0,2,2,45,51,22,0,7,11,7,2,1,2,2,0,1,1,0,13,13,0,0,8,0,0,6,4,5,0,0,10,3,33,11,27,36,8,25,0,4,0,5,32,11,0,6,12,144,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438037270853013,0.0,0.1066156151935919,0.2205442886302599,0.0,0.2554351516571886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240412690098022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649039089384646,0.11758917257976605,0.0,0.0,0.2234700960143328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500865982624874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895709367306944,0.24956711317548635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032328157416873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568952835265096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767016464146466,0.07606310942636227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16451890600193347,0.0,0.0,0.1021369612254574,0.0,0.0,0.1703096307133502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12000087968170428,0.0,0.0713654600328437,0.0,0.0,0.10575001278838984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702767084812316,0.0,0.0,0.11273772075933125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05201649324786091,0.1067122015942619,0.1880321959096812,0.09422373943039172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609449434318153,0.0,0.07107041150795293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24939577139574376,0.08498436629206313,0.4526485171325909,0.0782686474287544,0.07894711096459829,0.0,0.10283063342201007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097621230951525,0.0,0.0,0.1182237653046387,0.11529802936059876,0.10163889188029418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11687350150426205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831957702237223,0.11479405642673185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431031755260075,0.0,0.09092589820897368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692746181989838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08807414968354467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348422656010575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10034792891091478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452630971949282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173787841775428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279952424263859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243672669007008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756341481898749,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Demagorgon84,2019/04/07,"34 year old dad failing miserably at parenting. I don't know what I'm looking to gain from this, I certainly don't deserve a pat on the back and to be told ""it's all ok man we all have rough days"" but I am stuck in rut I can't get out of. 

I have two daughters ages 5 and 7, I work a shift pattern of early starts and night shifts and my wife works days, my job is very physically and mentally demanding, as is my wife's. Our kids are in school full time so childcare is a cluster fuck of pick ups and drop  offs, before and after school clubs, home involves me and my wife passing like ships in the night, trying to make something edible and healthy for dinner. Then falling asleep in front of the TV having barely talked to one another, or burying her face in her phone.

Needless to say the intimacy has dwindled substantially and I can't blame her or myself as we are basically shattered, we make no time for one another and it kind of feels like two business partners who decided to have children, I sometimes wonder if she is cheating on me and the horrible thing is I don't know if I would blame her or that I would even care. I am so sexually frustrated that it feels like my brain is in a fog and I can't think straight. I am constantly on edge it seems and stuck in this depressive cycle of saying to myself ""I'm going to do better tomorrow, I'm going to sort my behaviour out, be more positive, engaged but it never happens, I have zero patience with anything I snap at the smallest things, I have screamed in my four year Olds face!! FOUR!! what the fuck is wrong with me......it's like I am in self destruct mode, or subconsciously want it all to be over. I can't wait sometimes to get them off to bed or have days where they are at school and my wife is at work so I can Just be on my own.

I feel like an empty shell, an androdgenous, sexless drone who purely functions to provide, I am so tired all the time, I am failing my children. I try so hard to teach them respect and manners and how to look after their belongings but it seems like I'm pissing in the wind as nothing sinks in like talking to a brick wall and the cycle just continues endlessly until I lose my temper and it all ends in tears. I love my wife and I love my children but sometimes I think they would genuinely be happier if I wasn't around. The hardest thing is I genuinely believed I would be so awesome at being a dad but I fucking suck at it. 

The modern world is shit, having a crippling mortgage is shit, chasing the carrot is shit, the whole system is shit, 

I'm gonna be better tomorrow...

If anything in this non coherent rambling of a lunatic makes sense then thankyou for reading.

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parenting,RelativeVegetable,2019/04/07,"Should I let my child consume Jeff Kinney's content My 8 year old has recently  been asking me to get him the book Diary of a Wimpy Kid. I am happy  that he is this interesting in reading, but I don't know if I should get him this particular book. I heard this book turns children into corrupt feral beasts. The Scholastic Book Fair at his school is ending this Wednesday so I need an answer quick.",3.9337130801687765,5.397036316455697,4.780443037974685,84.2404535864979,71.91139240506328,6.785654008438819,25.824894514767927,7.1686216300943375,1.1781122362869194,315,10,61,3,6,102,62,79,0.02,0.8809999999999999,0.1,0.7107,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,8,16,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,3,5,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,12,2,5,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,1,6,39,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27592153543502723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614116262250415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084030581812254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141882540185745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622044448065013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018066365127957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2188469139013936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097059290568862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952257286257138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914209280787365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987033653458196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32103394019917725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19006425579233935
parenting,GuiseFox,2019/04/07,"My daughter caught me smoking tonight :( Throwaway because I worry she might be on Reddit. 

Tonight, my daughter caught me smoking. She’s 15 and has looked up to me as her hero for the entirety of her life. 

Two years ago, I lost my best friend and life hasn’t been easy. I’ve started and stopped smoking pot. I’ve started and stopped drinking alcohol. And now, I’ve started and hoping to stop smoking cigarettes. I’m slowly—very slowly—coming to be independent of substances for safety and well-being. 

At first I lied when she found my cigarette pack and said it wasn’t mine (whose else could be in my jacket pocket??). Then, I told her I got it for a stressful period that started in the last week. 

She was crying because she was heartbroken. I was in so much shock, I tried to not flat out lie and make her question her sanity. But now that she’s asleep and I can feel my own self, I’m devastated. 

I fucked up a 15 year old’s image (illusion) of me, and it was an image I built by being there for her as much as I could and loving her unconditionally through thick and thin. She saw my weakness. My mistakes. She might not trust me fully anymore. She might not even want to hear my voice anymore. I just don’t know what to do. I’m a 32 year who really wasn’t ready for what life threw at him. I’m a single dad and she is really close to her aunts and uncles (and grandparents), but I was always her rock.. her anchor. 

Now what? I’m imagining she sees me as a hollowed out shell of my past self. A faker. A phony. Does anyone have any advice??


I’ve been searching and googling but I need help. Maybe a conversation. Please Redditors, if you have experience or wisdom, I need it ;(",1.6773214285714315,3.9716085178571423,3.149833333333333,89.57850000000002,81.38095238095238,5.982857142857143,22.397619047619052,7.2259226712905225,0.7988997619047621,1306,43,270,18,35,427,173,336,0.101,0.813,0.086,0.5716,2,0,4,0,1,0,54.0,0,1,0,4,8,13,1,1,11,0,26,9,1,2,0,49,56,29,0,8,9,4,3,0,1,3,5,3,0,2,11,20,2,3,5,2,0,3,7,6,0,2,18,9,55,7,32,29,5,40,0,1,3,2,39,13,1,7,24,176,66,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481981332807526,0.09508548969280332,0.11463551928832805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925451762392403,0.0,0.0,0.07294505906880518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21275955810621067,0.07500339614994835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307776137619182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11256982199488674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128752124491758,0.0,0.11782747305113582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386984386041937,0.0,0.0,0.10508056477543996,0.0,0.0,0.08960759407516977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084866771966432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492745104868324,0.0,0.0,0.05423728491651274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124103116418923,0.0,0.11761243983223245,0.08287401443745447,0.09916636930645116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579100808274187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089740780469235,0.0,0.07189863230707312,0.0,0.0,0.10654007250064038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058950993044744965,0.08743670684703142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22729700446991866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007704273794874,0.0,0.11709431401292582,0.0,0.09681241755234042,0.0,0.0716013794708397,0.0,0.10776385431899503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3413791682194468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577067870104703,0.15907385170184754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255839561935972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023982373551084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11774666494446835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201632938869936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374356360884603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203523012904392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547770102049766,0.0,0.22380520009221647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3036957924231844,0.0,0.0,0.269039384090532,0.1228736841022383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249796342226916,0.0,0.07282707282580411,0.0,0.10478401497295207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850629139162007,0.06326870029987361,0.0,0.08604290569103261,0.0,0.0964456782191848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893457764112133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072287840441424
parenting,Lost_Mom_05,2019/04/07,"Need help with my kid My 12 year old is getting really out of hand. Lying and sneaking around. I'm a very involved parent without being a ""helicopter"" parent, as I do believe children need to make mistakes so they can learn from them on their own. 
However, my child has created an alternate reality that they chose to live in. My child has decided me and my spouse hate my child. 
My child decided I lie to them to make them happy and that I don't love them or even like them. In reality I compliment my child on a regular basis, i try to be involved in their interests and I do my best to make sure we have one on one time together, even if my child decides they'd rather hide in their room. 
My child and I got into it physically tonight because they were trying to hide something and almost broke my fingers. I'm at my wits end and I just need to know what to do. I don't know how else to communicate toy child how my much they mean to me and how much I love them. Do I take them to therapy? Do I ground them for life? My child asked to be put up for adoption, which blew my mind. 
I do not do drugs, I rarely drink, I'm a good mom who cares and works hard, but I have no where to turn.

Please help!",2.626657580205496,3.74542352988048,4.0887984902495305,89.27731180540997,74.6573705179283,7.834011323128539,24.76431117634724,8.371475516178862,1.2908517928286851,930,29,213,16,19,309,135,251,0.083,0.8109999999999999,0.106,0.7789,3,0,3,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,16,2,10,13,1,0,5,0,20,7,2,6,1,41,41,17,0,6,7,4,3,1,0,0,2,0,1,11,6,14,1,0,7,2,0,1,5,3,0,2,2,3,50,10,33,35,4,21,0,1,0,2,40,15,0,3,6,142,56,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063237917154358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613308889196425,0.12195831981351628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952448641570513,0.0,0.0,0.14697872039208287,0.13690504089404806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330081175635052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12779676437975293,0.15128700965224326,0.0,0.10897886408522177,0.0,0.11554488729507766,0.0,0.0,0.1723293077942336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681576353615014,0.0,0.0,0.10941991763574198,0.10433721277842016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887234827406406,0.11686253987260473,0.1287978375796279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748831973221576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338990629126416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214460601901607,0.06373398734125596,0.0,0.11519463198674015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354824365744641,0.0,0.26124025811209384,0.0,0.0,0.14210432754829758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317229068321982,0.15278795190362773,0.0,0.0,0.1917996647975341,0.29019339001981004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689114437736996,0.0,0.17680010040934468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2897108778731953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320100799388694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13114384988766936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835731595091481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043104826932736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295280268999108,0.0,0.09808633078177577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491872794460916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606967454260026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714149683675276,0.14189816640471706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076394830126023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575448536377584,0.0,0.09497318692904556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840090906876618
parenting,iBrandwin,2019/04/07,"Having to take an evening job - makes me sad So I am finishing up school, but having to take a part time job which is Tuesday-Friday 5pm-9pm and Saturday 8am to 12pm. Which isn't bad.  But I'm sad because I won't see my son as much. It's the best hours for us because, we won't have to pay after school, we won't have to worry about someone keeping him during the summer or paying for summer camps, I can still go to school parties/each lunch with my son,  if he gets sick my wife or I won't have to call into work, next semester I'll have clinicals during the day so we won't have to worry about working at work schedule around school  and my wife gets off at 4:30. I know it's for the best right now, but for the last year I've not worked just focused on school. I've had a lot of time with it son. Summer is almost here so the not seeing him much weekly will be just a few weeks. But still. It saddens me. My wife tells me it's a temporary discomfort for a long term reward. Guess I just needed to talk at this moment.",2.9021515151515125,3.4027982454545445,4.1827272727272735,91.19742424242428,73.36363636363636,6.957575757575757,22.84848484848485,6.742157984588678,0.4312666666666667,794,18,184,6,15,262,120,220,0.092,0.785,0.123,0.8447,2,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,4,0,0,7,14,7,0,1,12,0,20,3,0,1,0,28,33,13,0,2,12,6,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,8,9,1,1,1,0,2,1,8,4,0,0,1,2,20,3,29,25,8,32,0,2,2,0,16,9,0,6,22,118,28,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142979954153286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906186274367068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291327956741907,0.13566923661872193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23356079648547476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136282551151449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176572030333837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349870049226502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627732257074914,0.0,0.06324239473308371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258631498571365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095873555519734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22085438506191024,0.09890984844787158,0.0,0.0,0.06115600364796581,0.09070720079040027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847837371399637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460538844025723,0.0,0.0,0.0742795667715796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636056721623122,0.08251193535951272,0.0,0.0,0.11834643141541044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050426455690046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503161982569258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5631012184203854,0.17734984011080293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942862977290692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17773503492742804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673358511280739,0.0894418091145831,0.097262711768479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977530745789345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385488183398886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17852253142973784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32404961919668984,0.2260183614736885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716599988024393
parenting,susenstoob,2019/04/07,"Lost “special” blankie My 7 year old son has had his special blankie his whole life. He sleeps with it almost nightly (was every single night without fail up til about 6, but now he doesn’t always remember to grab it and it’s not a major deal). Last night he was having a tough time (it was a long week and he was a bit emotional) and asked for it for bedtime. My wife and I tore the house apart looking for it to no avail.

He was SUPER upset but eventually fell asleep knowing we would look for it in the morning. Well we cannot find this thing. He is devastated. We have lost pets before (2 cats to old age) and his grief then is no comparison to losing his special blankie.

Any advice for coping? I want him to be able to express his grief and sadness but at the same time I don’t want him to be consumed by it. Anyone else lost their “special” and how did they deal with it?",2.3894999999999977,3.9790256166666715,3.4466666666666685,91.725,76.16666666666666,5.911111111111111,23.666666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.4752333333333336,681,21,149,5,15,219,111,180,0.189,0.6940000000000001,0.117,-0.9537,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,2,6,4,16,0,1,7,0,18,3,2,1,0,26,27,13,2,3,5,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,11,12,0,0,3,0,0,1,7,10,1,0,10,3,17,6,21,14,5,20,0,8,2,0,24,4,0,1,15,94,28,1,0.13253138720002464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295081377112303,0.0,0.0,0.13271104016160745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027673101849088,0.0,0.0,0.09012588799093332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266902743849634,0.1357940680211707,0.0,0.0,0.12389895660982835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277444910931468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468994949408406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27326808153908405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071296794945557,0.14907997236298892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166340974788017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113128689230193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292342682416998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728357844099282,0.10803076929663663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361083819813767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11728610715248335,0.22258597273044486,0.14826872206088554,0.4340209945878512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3731151868945117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781387933749118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013222624772934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262709978286175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804796468667085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456023533103572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563408918808279,0.0,0.10630868464181864,0.0,0.11916163347256885,0.0,0.0,0.1479665608401331,0.0,0.1277555278672426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414649495563536,0.0,0.0,0.0853458681446035
parenting,choralmaster,2019/04/08,"How to deal with old timey literary racism? My daughter (6 y/o) is listening to Little House on the Prairie, and every so often, they use a word that would be considered racist by today's standards. And while she's not reading the books, more than likely, she eventually will. And I distinctly remember one of the pictures I saw when I was a kid was of people singing in blackface. 

Obviously, she's young enough that she doesn't know about racism, but I'm at a little bit of a loss as to what to do. On the one hand, I don't want to draw attention to it, but on the other hand I do want to make she she knows it's not appropriate in any way, shape, or form to say things like that, and I don't want something to slip out on accident. 

Now, I'm not going to shield her from it, as I do feel like it will be something she'll have to address at some point, but I just don't know when I actually SHOULD call attention to specific words. We already gave her multiple offhand talks where we tell her to treat all people the same, no matter what they look like. 

Advice please?",6.4827646326276485,5.131686890410958,6.884134495641344,81.16699875466998,65.94063926940639,10.520713989207142,31.78123702781237,9.573946990214177,2.498137899543379,835,26,183,14,11,273,130,219,0.094,0.789,0.117,0.8503,0,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,2,1,9,6,0,0,10,0,18,2,2,3,3,41,34,15,0,5,8,1,3,4,0,5,0,2,1,1,11,8,0,0,7,3,0,1,8,1,0,2,4,7,24,5,32,23,7,23,0,1,2,0,23,14,0,3,11,123,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.14917070696722345,0.0,0.0,0.149374422060366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686863911961182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10395101550561132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688509282570113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608861286015946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15759342412313146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1579467215462176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879234920025467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772913329197613,0.10920423746284756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687467441824671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17638156879596803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520259358328261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987214971075198,0.30641462572247,0.0,0.0,0.1283651036257293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203619275399856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16040235867487995,0.0,0.20716572462449712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21194973960285474,0.0,0.0,0.16779594875413315,0.14450346228748534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290279833285486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731622037403911,0.0,0.0,0.12156154602247456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353603967570299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286422863970985,0.1336076290846423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155434300189532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489476378374358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202319745028734,0.0,0.0,0.27048489903977385,0.1213342894952678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858837538351628,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoldenFalcon,2019/04/08,"Children's tv programming study I keep hearing about some study that was done about the effects of a child's development while watching Mr Rogers, Sesame Street, and Reading Rainbow type programs. I wanna see what they did, and how they came to the conclusion that ""kids don't learn anything"" from these programs. But I can't find this study. Anyone have more info on it, please use sources and not ""I heard"" or ""I remember"". Thanks!",4.722224231464736,7.1809401012658265,3.7481374321880665,88.2913924050633,72.03797468354429,6.53960216998192,29.00723327305606,7.447530270364453,1.6824777576853531,344,14,63,4,7,100,64,79,0.0,0.926,0.07400000000000001,0.6696,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,2,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,3,0,18,13,7,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,6,4,0,1,6,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,5,4,7,1,7,8,2,4,0,0,2,0,8,2,0,2,1,39,13,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007268173083956,0.0,0.2362350899200943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283329099629877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29377344736276645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623778231674994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3235500408668867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551620212404909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31511790820417995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287148827650274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251956428498336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287585330453721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264296538441861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24793729600660105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,arne_988,2019/04/08,"40 pre-schoolers survived a tornado by taking shelter in their church. Some happy news to share.

Forty pre-schoolers and their instructors survived a tornado in western Kentucky by taking shelter within their Baptist church. The tornado passed through the church and destroyed every room except the innermost room which they had chosen for shelter. Apparently during the storm they sang bible songs and hymns.

[https://freedomofthoughtdesigns.com/40-children-protected-in-church-from-devastating-tornado](https://freedomofthoughtdesigns.com/40-children-protected-in-church-from-devastating-tornado)",21.06004975124378,27.62304816417911,11.660522388059704,31.351579601990036,37.50746268656715,8.645771144278607,39.524875621890544,9.2995712137729,4.690723383084578,525,19,41,7,6,130,45,67,0.043,0.787,0.17,0.8519,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,0,0,5,2,0,3,1,0,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,2,9,2,1,6,4,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,0,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942045283153273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3717153224358969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.706790380239006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5250893000116592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eandpande,2019/04/08,"Going from 2 to 3?! Help!! I currently have 2 boys, (ages 3.5 and 8) and for awhile there I felt like we were done having kids. They drain the life from me! But I just can’t kick this nagging feeling that I don’t have closure and our family won’t be complete until we have one more. I know without a doubt that I would feel closure and completeness if we had one more. I am scared to death to have another one for so many reasons, but I’m also scared to death of living with regret and wishing I would have had one more. My husband doesn’t necessarily want another one, but he’s willing to have one if I want to. Who has been in this situation and how did it turn out for you? I need all the help I can get!",3.277200000000001,3.7077663200000046,4.6560000000000015,88.39800000000002,72.46666666666667,7.866666666666667,25.666666666666664,7.908726449838941,1.1508666666666665,548,16,127,7,10,183,94,150,0.14,0.748,0.112,-0.8796,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,1,1,0,5,6,1,3,3,0,24,1,0,2,1,33,36,15,2,9,7,1,3,1,0,4,1,0,0,2,6,11,0,0,5,0,0,1,5,5,0,6,7,3,19,1,17,24,4,6,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,3,4,95,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144641793783539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001768828793765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001464762436543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464757403257816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493396275743802,0.0,0.14474566588733642,0.0,0.13743105193953709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478158860604381,0.0,0.08134633032185458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918793580042869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866268339313086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109975181844773,0.06992802488374968,0.0,0.12638991263659435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511537383397866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061320207367036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5819476704639422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471655540234498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28660413597320383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608885727270544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556886509889586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884824099930892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645969948391353,0.1379760336455353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335652276598956,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xAcidicNightmare,2019/04/08,"Autistic daughter has bloody school incident. So, I'm going to say outright that I'm not quite sure what to do. I've asked advice from a few of my friends, most tell me to sue, others tell me to go directly to the school, but I've decided to ask here so I can get a completely unbiased opinion on the situation.

My daughter is three and has autism, craniosynostosis, and sensory processing disorder. She started school in February, and although she's still far behind I definitely feel like the consistency and peer interaction is helping her. Genuinely. She's in a program with neurotypical children as well as special needs, with a teacher and teacher's aid that I like immensely!

However, today there was an incident.

I got a call from the school nurse. I set my phone down for just a second, missed it, and called back almost immediately. She told me my daughter had a fit today, normal for autistic children, and had a ""slight bump on her head"". 

I first asked which side it was on, as she had skull surgery at 10 months and I wanted to make sure she couldn't have potentially harmed the reconstructed side of her face. She told me it was the left, and it wasn't bad. I calmed, thought it was no big deal... But she immediately started pressuring me into obtaining a helmet for her.

Not only does the type of surgery she had prevent her from wearing a helmet, it could damage her growth from the reconstruction. I tell her this, and she ignores me and pipes back ""she's only with us a few hours a day. Contact him (her surgeon) and call me back."" 

The whole interaction she seemed defensive and snippy. I'm sitting here feeling like *I* did something horribly wrong, and it left a bad taste in my mouth. I'm thinking that, even if I could convince her surgeon to allow it, she's nonverbal autistic with cognative issues. Forcing her to wear something she doesn't like will cause sensory overload, and possible psychological damage. So I'd be shelling out extra money I don't have to get something she might or might not wear. (My best guess is *not*)

I was confused as to why the nurse was so adament about this... And then my daughter came home.

Not only did she have a bruise and bump in the middle of her forehead, she had a busted lip and crusted blood in her nostril. I open up her bookbag, and there's a report that states: ""When it was time to clean up, [your daughter] was prompted to clean up. She became very upset and began to cry and lay on the floor. She began hitting her head on the floor. **A pillow was placed under her head but she hit it so hard blood and redness was found on her forehead, nose, and upper lip.** We applied ice and took her to the nurse.""


Okay, so here are my issues:


1) Why did the nurse lie to me by omission? She said it was a ""small bump"" of which I have on a voicemail of the first missed call, and she stated during the phonecall. Why was I not made aware that she bashed her face so hard that she was bloody? Not only is it a head and those injuries are dangerous, this child has prior issues with reconstructive surgeries on her skull and face. This is something she **absolutely should have told me on the phone, and she did not.**



2) How does a child bash herself bloody through a pillow? I'm sorry, but why were they able to stop her after she became bloody, but not before? It doesn't make sense to me. At all. 



3) These people were supposedly trained to deal with autism, and autistic fits are common, why are they at a loss of what to do in this situation besides ""get a helmet or have a bloody child!""



At this point, I feel scared to send her back. What if this happens again and she *really* hurts herself next time? Why does it feel like they're trying to place liability in the parent and force a helmet which, could possibly cause more problems then it can prevent? Why did they not fully inform me of the situation when they called? There's *no way* the nurse missed the blood and busted lip.

Did something more sinister happen? I don't know, maybe not. But it makes me feel like something did because they neglected to fully explain what happened on the phone initially. I feel like them lying by omission is an attempt to cover something up. My daughter can't tell me what went on, she can't communicate nor does she understand.

So where do I go? The school had already lost an autistic child in 2015 who ended up crossing the street due to their negligence, which made me nervous... but the teachers were reprimanded, so I figured it would be okay.

But I'm honestly at a loss at this point. I'm wondering if they even care. Do I go to her IEP team? Do I just ignore it and force a helmet? Seek an advocate? The school itself? A lawyer? Do I send her back tomorrow? I'm truly and utterly scared now.

My daughter is (seemingly) okay, she's got a doctor's appointment tomorrow to sus out the damage... But what happens if she seriously hurts herself next time? What if another child gets hurt? She's got a field trip on the 11th, what happens if she gets even more hurt or they lose track of her?


I'm just scared and confused.
Thank you for your time.",2.926701803650502,5.241267043654826,3.758834107355007,86.77736985635597,77.04060913705584,6.628037585052383,25.19953558699644,7.69321558396912,1.3656110811102713,3998,145,783,60,94,1274,370,985,0.155,0.757,0.087,-0.9977,2,0,7,0,0,0,159.0,2,3,9,11,35,54,2,8,64,3,75,27,23,9,3,137,146,73,0,16,32,8,8,7,1,5,3,2,5,7,49,47,1,7,21,1,1,12,22,33,1,4,47,14,124,21,96,86,10,110,0,15,1,0,124,56,0,20,44,526,173,12,0.04657451982297777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04551208173777802,0.0,0.0,0.046637653927262566,0.0,0.0513961407734582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048837444941584325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062266680936788,0.0,0.0,0.17906465435165908,0.07777555726638755,0.028391394995023307,0.0,0.039631485993879334,0.0,0.04887708513468771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377889604137545,0.05326884308383338,0.047485826988556336,0.0956897228002775,0.0,0.0,0.048832497917070984,0.0,0.0,0.11155789282643287,0.0,0.05115992305457391,0.030036712271929607,0.09603256971437486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053378434744299166,0.047670994570202685,0.1630307046289534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0412512005132817,0.0,0.0,0.09228609326495678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14129685978143172,0.16636423133782205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923252553764082,0.0,0.05106655702839682,0.03598335848214092,0.0,0.12166632157545113,0.0,0.1058774917025151,0.0,0.11174969449737583,0.0,0.0513070844428037,0.0,0.20592847032372724,0.0,0.08344324318678123,0.0,0.1911955763506777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031217918888599167,0.0,0.046718040836676425,0.0,0.045866520303052716,0.0,0.19943594699051445,0.0,0.0,0.1458350947651631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02559613806578873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012067041257423,0.0,0.0,0.159277704709482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521049743811254,0.05084159016488093,0.0,0.0,0.08813987356255827,0.09326656091673337,0.0,0.04679036520312569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881641084368473,0.0,0.0,0.03717533737586296,0.0,0.0,0.03453441630514018,0.0,0.0,0.09906506041628838,0.0,0.045633140719635035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416880842144669,0.0,0.0,0.05171549254059972,0.0,0.0,0.032288907766309514,0.0,0.09732092066755914,0.0,0.0880559508958256,0.10501154630042484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044565525444295095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049537734802700385,0.0,0.0,0.029836830007338732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430303380937447,0.03703792752757695,0.13988765800042907,0.28281540333477545,0.0,0.08479938726041471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570551350307351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25098738549425303,0.0,0.052136361829723685,0.06593136969688324,0.0,0.03719447169338993,0.03893838404095603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08779186749271001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16283273272136453,0.04287956036891611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02984307170587858,0.0,0.03697496631509618,0.10863190820458103,0.0,0.0882943979530416,0.13351184879416214,0.05174600522215655,0.03162104172802739,0.0,0.0,0.048485717674380806,0.05602341277766891,0.0,0.0,0.03842885653226128,0.02747085849579144,0.036968685970026366,0.0,0.0,0.0418760866958279,0.04317504648604747,0.2941838195596399,0.05199878811036352,0.0,0.0,0.05050808001201825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033085202593988235,0.050921926035816065,0.0,0.0
parenting,cathrightous,2019/04/08,"My first children's book is a first lesson in philosophy. Great for helping grandparents, step parents, teachers and counsellors to get the conversation started. Very gentle, non judgmental book that teaches open minded discussion and encourages children to express their opinions.
Available to buy here: https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/679794990/what-do-you-think-a-first-book-of-open?ref=shop_home_active_2&crt=1
And here's my new website: www.cathbolton.com
Thanks for looking!",17.429323308270675,23.99404356140352,9.115538847117794,44.21210526315792,51.982456140350884,9.572932330827069,44.98496240601504,9.606745405546679,6.42701203007519,421,21,33,9,7,104,46,57,0.0,0.759,0.241,0.9391,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,1,3,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,6,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,1,4,20,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712667172356878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.63887241368722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080361632114038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760245765849876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781212055122768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21024071070336176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527938722433493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241800818550484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779969574383971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720724752926353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304993481304764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16042162081966227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20657456148983666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwawa555575678864,2019/04/08,"Overwhelming Pure rant. Getting a few things off my chest. Also mobile, so formatting is garbage. 



Sometimes being a mom (and STAH mom) is just too hard. Especially with my parents and in-laws out of town for extended periods in an isolated environment(I’m awful at making friends)
My kid is happy and healthy, but all the average milestones are discouraging. They’re  painful when your baby isn’t quite meeting the average. 
I know my kid is smart as a whip, but she isn’t talking as much as expected for her age. Not having more help than just my husband is so discouraging and I’m exhausted. We’re still co-sleeping and I’ve been trying to curb it, but I’m still traumatized from a cry it out attempt 6 months. 
I don’t really have a proper ending to this post. I’m just exhausted and needed to have a bit of a rant.",3.0654716981132077,5.371109509433963,4.648402515723273,80.61562264150946,76.54716981132076,8.265157232704402,28.210062893081762,9.029198982220553,2.6194583647798737,648,28,122,16,15,217,105,159,0.229,0.725,0.046,-0.9832,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,2,10,9,0,1,10,1,14,4,1,1,2,25,21,16,0,2,7,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,4,9,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,1,1,10,3,18,19,5,14,0,3,0,0,13,6,0,0,7,80,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15700900631880751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21434693930904244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21566474776013755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17389451004470144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168791247663382,0.0,0.10257691953712804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20900222872002655,0.17587757095498693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315991932889401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079005661072521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105511849647258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598902930107688,0.1567127016495133,0.0,0.14432879514404115,0.14557989412037967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20891425304474998,0.0,0.21800675192889235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18803463134979065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088264102632933,0.0,0.0,0.12577721062306246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647676294927272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941803077586715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135867247990068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578066136020532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043623146575364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329855834445234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snackattack312,2019/04/08,"Convince me we should have a second child Somewhat new dad here. We have an 18-month old daughter. She's sweet, social, and assertive. I didn't know I could love something as much as I love her, and I also didn't know I was capable of levels of exasperation like the ones I now know so well. She's the best and hardest thing that's ever happened to me. 

My wife wants to have another child, but I'm having a hard time getting on board with the idea. A year and a half into parenthood and I'm just now feeling like life is slowly getting back to normal, so the thought of upending everything again is very unsettling. 

I feel like if we're intentional about making sure our daughter has a strong community of friends and extended family, she'll be fine socially without siblings. Wife disagrees on many levels.

I'm sure I'll cave eventually, but right now the thought of having another child only creates anxiety, not excitement. Can you help me get excited about it?

Some background context if it helps:

*we live in Chicago, and I mean real Chicago, not the suburbs. Our daughter is a pure city kid. 

*we believe in egalitarian marriage and do our best to truly share all household and parenting responsibilities.

*I'm an enneagram #7 who fully embodies all the stereotypical strengths and challenges of that personality type (if that doesn't mean anything to you, just ignore it).

Thank you for your wisdom from further down the road!",4.9074094326725906,7.0841173759398535,5.672071086807933,75.9319002050581,70.72932330827068,8.445386192754615,32.767600820232396,9.095868883498916,3.1647578947368427,1146,55,196,24,22,373,162,266,0.055,0.693,0.252,0.9956,2,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,7,4,0,5,15,23,0,0,16,0,19,3,0,2,6,53,41,20,0,7,10,7,3,3,1,2,1,0,0,5,8,16,0,1,10,0,0,0,6,1,1,3,5,4,27,22,25,32,7,21,0,0,0,2,37,11,0,6,13,134,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771543775695228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562541021512147,0.0934751484266535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055210167258016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395670122134242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13766648282473962,0.2564620975143005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755891098968836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11052800762563576,0.0,0.0,0.1098166492482333,0.0,0.11519002111167685,0.0,0.12356604644716784,0.17458536900340782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440382509010907,0.0,0.19151796762494647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805236705830804,0.0,0.10945839503372068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380299553746291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13793783306140178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014575717392487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630653327277554,0.1790878404083549,0.0,0.10789616199950937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22056280476335216,0.0,0.08156288976295542,0.1238816576195413,0.0,0.2662018408591705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753103088024913,0.0,0.08982383704662747,0.0,0.0,0.11801203116877615,0.0,0.0,0.11972042678970216,0.0,0.0,0.12821803269217513,0.0,0.08279922400156628,0.09293113319434758,0.0,0.0,0.13567772765498518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669174657484123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390791684971246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043497406988609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491149886191157,0.0,0.09406796538136616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23032558529046784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11249629516980772,0.0,0.0,0.08117772194012361,0.0,0.0,0.19401069827628464,0.07125007290828549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081969008771197,0.07207093028292376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986364060078617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778696707444428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868646569668976
parenting,Dirtball231,2019/04/08,"First grade math problem has us stumped ""Stretch your thinking: Tyrone says he eats dinner  when the minute hand is on 12.  What time do you think it is and why?""


Word for word and nothing to so with the previous work on the page..   What?!?!

Loaded question if I've ever seen one, but why on 6/7 year olds?",1.0677142857142847,3.4827705333333365,1.519523809523811,99.43500000000002,85.33333333333334,4.095238095238095,20.238095238095237,5.288315135182226,-0.38569047619047625,232,7,51,1,7,70,51,60,0.03,0.912,0.058,0.4203,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,4,3,1,0,1,12,7,6,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,3,3,0,6,6,1,10,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,2,6,28,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259876534406625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297320145873462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160282657796781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436927719499867,0.0,0.2665006597836082,0.0,0.17209785053374024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24301669320681984,0.0,0.0,0.28450651705226904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20196855262564406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254697225621967,0.0,0.0,0.14809298693012218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054967798462841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583400561731557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18489448016132426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16354949911415878
parenting,jspallanzani,2019/04/08,"Preemie diagnosed with bronchiolitis I had to vent a bit and am wondering if this situation ever happened to other parents here ...

My little daughter of 4 weeks who was born at 36 weeks with a 3 weeks intrauterine growth restriction started having some stuffy nose a few days ago. We were all sick at home and our oldest 16 months boy also had double otitis and  conjunctivitis. We were wearing masks, washing hands and preventing contacts... but she still caught the cold.

At first, I was not too much worried, she was drinking a bit less and vomiting more than usual. Until one evening when she started having difficulties breathing. She was trying to catch her air and breathing heavily. We kinda panicked and immediately drove to the emergency room. Within 5 minutes, we were in the reanimation room where she received a nasal wash and was connected to oxygen and heart monitors. A few minutes later, the first doctor examined her and sent her to the pediatrics emergency area where she was examined by a pediatrician at around 2 AM and diagnosed with bronchiolitis. The doctor said that they needed to keep her under surveillance because she is very small and some complications could happen as the symptoms usually peak in intensity between days 3 and 5.

During her 4 days at the hospital, she went through some periods of apnea, but nothing too serious as her saturation levels remained normal. After being monitored during the stay, having received nasal washes, blood tests, etc she was cleared to leave the hospital today.

Of course this whole event was stressful especially after passing 2 weeks in NICU when she was born. We sincerely hope she will not go through this again and we are doing our best to protect her. Just wondering if anyone else has gone through this and how do you help protecting your infant.

Thanks!",9.2979136189481,9.827685940438872,8.670256008359463,64.4663801811216,59.501567398119114,11.72838732149077,39.03883664228492,11.319583603955671,4.831854615116685,1481,68,221,37,18,469,193,319,0.069,0.8370000000000001,0.094,0.8833,1,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,8,2,1,3,15,6,0,1,17,0,27,21,9,1,3,51,44,26,0,6,7,2,1,0,0,1,11,1,3,2,7,25,1,5,4,1,0,11,2,2,0,3,20,6,32,4,37,21,15,62,0,0,0,0,40,20,0,9,30,171,39,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943909133308214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970876269568273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843751537844312,0.11493969013305055,0.0,0.09986226615050853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838271076484861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772396447515553,0.0,0.2449387989116578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08956506152683648,0.0,0.0,0.2170367262311397,0.0,0.0,0.2277167610788997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296380177260229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989180275345088,0.0,0.0,0.0937103837837516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510820188384236,0.0740925577915608,0.10147148736085272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19083721944478996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375338278437774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19839739508204596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329315540228631,0.07519059624980674,0.0,0.11252375146042758,0.1114181357665786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970902360443354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878037975005196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11243189718540944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895394658770699,0.0,0.08246378941753517,0.08317861810035145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991069173140068,0.1076378843987914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07601476397023776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12456047225173035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067070338573646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260928516641935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588004317893704,0.11956689771320032,0.08958555225293692,0.0,0.12849960109948858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659596778483665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103278496000124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633169448767216,0.0,0.0,0.07616154651611654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24709659319128302,0.0925586566538954,0.0,0.0,0.35992992769839793,0.0,0.0,0.10399019550225708,0.0,0.12524280994635634,0.0,0.0,0.2433046651885264,0.0,0.11392227615783165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Lugozi,2019/04/08,"searching for cheap, creative activities during school holidays? https://imgur.com/gallery/E41kocj

My son is obsessed with gems/rocks/minerals at the moment. I picked up some fishing sinkers, gold spray paint and made ""Gold"". We then prospected at a local stream, I conveniently dropped a piece of gold in each time we collected mud to prospect.

He loved it and cost me less than $10",6.864583333333332,10.089662125000004,4.6106250000000015,81.00520833333336,68.375,8.016666666666666,32.541666666666664,8.841846274778883,3.005029166666666,312,14,50,6,6,87,57,64,0.026,0.7959999999999999,0.17800000000000002,0.872,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,2,0,9,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,9,2,4,9,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,3,27,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5147555897083621,0.5396710416479761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5772161797783149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332570791671056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,beccacoop,2019/04/08,Does a Date Night Daycare exist??? Do y’all know of any program or service that exists for night time care?? It’s so hard for us to find a babysitter 6-11pm and I’m just wondering if there is anything out there to help us out. Any tips appreciates!,1.5864705882352936,3.6649743137254913,2.9644705882352973,91.97611764705884,80.37254901960785,5.648627450980393,23.925490196078428,6.742157984588678,0.6765184313725481,194,7,42,2,5,63,43,51,0.032,0.7709999999999999,0.197,0.8677,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,9,6,4,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,7,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,3,4,23,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324675745314394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19644632453262176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2433910796916401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20890559214696008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818587161441486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138463446903552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600090693556477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131194338918641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4480453363384405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919962599181399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5743018407262158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25888179498778496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,missy0516,2019/04/08,"How much sleep do you get every night? Title says it all, just a simple question, honestly for statistical/educational purposes, how many hours of sleep do you think you get each night?

Do you have any children under 2 as well?",5.7557142857142845,7.285180285714286,6.446190476190478,73.78214285714287,67.57142857142857,9.40952380952381,28.285714285714285,9.725611199111238,2.670085714285715,180,6,32,4,3,59,33,42,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.6848,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,4,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,2,2,1,7,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,2,4,7,3,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,3,21,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173081055935262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21444250147570487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26595043574857224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25064908889562565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580414352273099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710011049674213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4776960462213431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28511855437669104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20240303227780487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5094038791242396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308494046424182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288423649204734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tomrossi7,2019/04/08,"Using Circle by Disney Has anyone figured out how to see specifics in the History for their children? For example, the history says YouTube but not the actual link?

Also does anyone know if you can permit Google Docs but not Google Hangouts?",7.095968992248063,8.799407744186054,6.739534883720933,72.27271317829461,64.58139534883722,9.454263565891472,32.93798449612403,9.725611199111238,3.5292077519379847,195,8,29,4,3,61,35,43,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,3,0,12,5,5,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,6,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,1,0,20,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.3790292562743676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31060898072463844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5431664860860658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33989763034981424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21345835913471686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30887687882705256,0.0,0.0,0.3095101347757505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354589876117004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,snarlinanjell,2019/04/08,"A day in the life Our 3 year old is on a daily dose of Miralax because she refuses to poop. The doc told us to keep up the dose until she was practically pooping clear to get her cleaned out. Yesterday it finally kicked in. 

Today, I wake up feeling shitty. I can work remotely so I figure I’ll work from home while dealing with my cold and the toddlers eruptive ass. 

Fast forward 12 hours. I’m fairly certain I have the flu. The toddler has been alternately shitting her brains out and running around like a maniac.  It’s an absolute crap day out and the dog has been adding to the fray. The older kiddo (F13) had testing today. THANK FREAKING GOD she didn’t mind walking home in the rain. She didn’t even text for a ride. However, testing all day put her a craptacular mood. 

Through it all I managed to keep up with the laundry (you know, because there was shit on so many things), feed the toddler, put the dishes in the dishwasher and pick up a bit. On top of working. There were a few episodes of Queer Eye mixed in because I figured I may as well ugly cry so I could look as shitty as I felt. 

Why am I telling you this? Because my wonderful husband isn’t going to notice that the house isn’t a shit show.  I’m not being sarcastic. He works his ass off and is stopping at the grocery and will make dinner, but he won’t realize what happened today and, well, I figured I deserved a little brag.",2.3404368131868125,4.4042240821428615,3.739285714285714,87.43494505494509,77.82142857142857,6.307692307692308,27.554945054945048,7.321109707123232,1.5242939560439557,1093,47,218,14,26,359,171,280,0.106,0.821,0.07200000000000001,-0.8524,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,2,0,5,9,12,5,0,26,0,22,19,11,2,4,36,37,16,0,1,2,1,2,1,0,3,4,0,3,0,7,13,3,4,8,1,0,7,6,6,2,0,10,5,26,5,36,22,4,43,0,0,2,3,19,21,7,2,18,138,33,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080563695634537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761148121779128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362633350618253,0.0,0.0,0.12641081867319956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041115753010616,0.0,0.12438639020490433,0.21908701128087288,0.11674318466165053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479248939380376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057256426795744574,0.0,0.10872603219723356,0.12404645906575447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05916206923976763,0.0,0.06435564310161787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10013579980041087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22717346353006104,0.0,0.11151640876532977,0.1306612009443415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20130189354187844,0.0,0.0,0.06223252552185291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998319678278303,0.05532226216491789,0.11349400976845166,0.0,0.0,0.0950912202084124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558710116955562,0.11480534118830882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143378829552502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892196939921124,0.11882400730321616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276705019554268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34871087883116586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467185918360672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897481574007044,0.10425413897071724,0.0,0.0,0.07523015306146065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3220085405028452,0.10820355680476404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621111343228515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036287370661306,0.0,0.10217948846036096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280154804325387,0.3297538261834331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292142125635916
parenting,iseenollamas,2019/04/08,"Realised I was potentially emotionally stunting my child My little boy (3) was very upset yesterday, sobbing his little heart out, about something that, whilst a big deal to him, was fairly minor (over tired toddlers, right?). Whilst attempting to comfort him I realised that I was asking him to stop crying (in a soothing voice with cuddles) and that it 'wasn't worth crying over'. After this realisation, I swiftly switched tactics and started just saying 'it's ok to cry, it's ok to feel sad, mummy will cuddle you til it feels better'. It took 15 minutes for him to stop crying, whilst I had him on my lap, cuddling and murmuring to him in a soothing voice. Hopefully I will remember this next time too and he grows up as emotionally well healthy as possible!",8.89727646454265,8.174443064748203,8.538458376156218,69.2138129496403,60.79856115107914,10.820554984583763,39.281603288797534,9.957137785484203,4.004035149023639,602,27,100,10,7,193,89,139,0.192,0.674,0.134,-0.8838,0,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,2,4,9,0,1,3,2,8,5,1,0,0,13,14,7,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,3,0,2,10,6,0,2,3,0,1,2,1,3,1,0,7,5,17,6,21,5,0,24,0,2,0,3,14,11,1,1,11,66,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13516366890947867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787009880845104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6352615272760832,0.0,0.149056608333646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32526821172450193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620894244425886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713291189052608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14360150358034224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898161843246039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376347789024486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299329460794335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378202913438678,0.12347133917921654,0.0,0.11497657249802025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113054769634732,0.0,0.0,0.10233513878717013,0.0,0.0,0.2417522920151156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430631317034848,0.16617453042268626,0.0,0.0,0.16063475248388026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119294423420635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999563526688568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,littlexrayblue,2019/04/08,The SNOO sleeper Has anyone purchased one? They are crazy expensive and I feel like you can hardly trust reviews on a brand website because of corse they put all 5 stars up. I am willing to purchase one if it does all it says.,1.8053333333333328,4.300461088888891,2.6044444444444466,92.42000000000004,82.55555555555556,4.488888888888889,26.777777777777786,5.6839178017228535,0.8222444444444452,179,8,35,1,5,56,40,45,0.052000000000000005,0.828,0.12,0.4779,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,2,5,6,2,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,5,2,4,5,2,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,24,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659356005209597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23184565656829784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328293727916284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923062911186474,0.2717078498661907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34070100300141243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18581004174748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5154429435290313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823367286292384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30245370567615043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,queenbeebi,2019/04/08,"My baby hates me Please PLEASE help a mama out, I have three wonderful, beautiful children. 6, 4 and 8 months and my 8 month old for the last week screams through the night, she wants to lie in my bed (which SAFELY we’ve co slept on two occasions this week just so I could sleep) 

She only has two naps a day (maybe overtired?) and she naps fine in her cot through the day, but as soon as it gets dark, every time I put her down in her cot she screams! I have to settle her and let her sleep on me for ten minutes before putting her in her cot next to my bed, and even then once she wakes up through the night it’s a struggle to get her back to sleep and in her cot. 

I don’t understand where this sudden change as come from, as I also can’t leave a room without her if she’s awake at any point or she’ll cry until I go back, and will cry if everyone but me picks her up although she loves friends and family from a distance. 

The during the day stuff I can live with especially as she sits in her high chair with toys while I clean the kitchen and things but this sudden won’t go to sleep without me after it’s dark is really getting me down; and it’s impacting on my older children who can’t have bedtime stories and a quick snuggle before being tucked in. 

Thank you, if you’ve made it to the end, I’ve appreciate any advice because this is new to me, and I’m also sorry if formatting is wrong as it’s my first post or it doesn’t make sense. 

Love from sleep deprived, teary mum of three beautiful babies.",4.891037271448663,4.414428870253165,5.334514767932493,88.08509845288326,68.84177215189875,8.541209563994375,27.998593530239106,7.793537801064563,1.3659218002812945,1177,33,269,12,18,377,166,316,0.086,0.778,0.136,0.9554,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,1,0,1,10,12,1,1,14,0,18,10,7,3,0,36,35,34,0,6,12,1,0,0,1,3,0,2,5,2,15,16,1,1,2,3,0,5,7,6,0,6,2,2,43,6,45,27,0,54,0,1,0,2,30,20,0,7,27,174,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09364517324063716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15327240720744484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303370513009137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147376608036955,0.0,0.0584178310755099,0.0,0.16309064450462582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137673932872476,0.08255012304105172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651344288667683,0.0,0.21053222241190053,0.18540965498942774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487802954625125,0.0,0.0,0.06329562657882792,0.0,0.08074194823028279,0.09157085131843112,0.0,0.0,0.09034115912153784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151399910704046,0.0,0.0,0.07403897405209198,0.0,0.15020359420773574,0.0,0.10892619799168753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461350406321828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423365644706178,0.101250960745087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811524653887125,0.0,0.10147144039353168,0.0,0.09799393003712496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462073576973063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729828612679956,0.09067783118259744,0.06396809316793033,0.0,0.0962753556447912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15298315418308447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255440343862864,0.10191760506833747,0.17986224357760644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005587600549552,0.10205713714527763,0.0,0.07288397215515682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103878357943736,0.09059149199127813,0.0,0.09177983244740333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19267371886646764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06139194271725456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795022133382269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072752211997451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10018361348716248,0.10970383607614724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822852539167436,0.0,0.0,0.06366601398402941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055879963489095054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722638255955373,0.09976369478052544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565237450075166,0.0,0.15374007172375695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847557806174762,0.10392488592433104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477641108234914,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsaliquinn,2019/04/08,"Anybody else feel guilty spending money on themselves after having a baby? I just got married and we had our first baby 2 months ago. I’m SO in love with my little family, and honestly just couldn’t be happier. But I’ve noticed that lately I have a hard time doing things for myself. I had an appointment to get my hair done because it’s a mess and I’ve been really wanting to do it for awhile now. Instead, I cancelled it and used the money to service my husband’s motorcycle. Today I was supposed to go out shopping for new clothes for myself because most of my clothes are too big for me now. Instead, I went and stocked up on burp cloths, extra formula, diapers, etc. it’s like every time I’m supposed to do something for myself, I talk myself out of it because I think of another way that the money could be used instead to benefit my husband or the baby. 😅",4.346078998073216,5.326427341040464,5.856777456647401,78.75006021194608,70.38728323699422,8.078805394990367,32.33574181117534,8.344100000000001,2.61535105973025,682,31,125,10,12,232,105,173,0.052000000000000005,0.8490000000000001,0.1,0.8782,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,9,5,0,0,7,0,15,3,1,2,0,21,27,8,0,3,4,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,9,0,0,2,1,5,2,1,1,0,1,7,3,20,4,23,16,3,22,0,0,0,1,6,8,0,2,12,93,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16390574046302855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938873757192293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381462569455145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476303487126588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892204131502644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446309532034533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062162092680665,0.0,0.0,0.15578912048998514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431050441648333,0.0,0.09349273347243547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572787690518524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09660441422311147,0.0,0.1050848843468856,0.0,0.1478841698170878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1656371608131638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20857913075966172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033447948346787,0.18532181974702727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688257100213744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758815932947578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17858089165813915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21051378855303912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845387646350505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14234769936504554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486183786406389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284162744484098,0.11847865635425014,0.0,0.0,0.21563736213423568,0.0,0.17526683808193885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3193944041361619,0.0,0.0,0.10906083782380832,0.14676774174181798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140733856466794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vanessaand2smkids,2019/04/08,"Average Son (IQ) Please help me Reddit. My oldest son (7) recently had an IQ test done at school for extra accommodations for an IEP for speech and another issue (fine motor). He is very thoughtful, insightful, and definitely high on emotional intelligence. I was really surprised to see he scored exactly 100- average. I would never have put him at an average IQ only because he thinks very complexly for a 7 year old. I'm a teacher and although I am sure I'm biased... I do think he is very intelligent. His dad I would say has average IQ. I am above average (120 ish on formal IQ assessments). I know one IQ test does not really measure the person he is and I'm totally aware normal is great. But has anyone else felt like maybe that assessment was off? Has it made you feel differently about your kid at school? I will be honest and it has me wondering if I should tell him he can ""become anything he wants.""",2.9338588235294125,5.314795165714287,5.012134453781513,77.46304201680674,77.34285714285714,9.146218487394961,25.72268907563025,9.627879704456738,2.8133193277310924,714,27,132,22,17,246,115,175,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.9839,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,0,0,1,6,0,0,6,0,22,0,0,1,4,26,35,8,0,6,3,3,2,1,0,4,0,2,0,2,3,5,0,0,8,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,7,5,17,6,12,23,2,13,0,0,1,0,20,7,0,2,6,73,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472428706161054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317388949470316,0.15118753865579368,0.1214251956415972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994816077180001,0.16296290890978113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416357350879825,0.0,0.0,0.12912637819729736,0.15099999890954444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326327184591294,0.1659795189353937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460824346249112,0.0,0.14167594338046854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626799126249516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09890300873363006,0.1558999628662404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540090879931161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109237120199016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208792157464355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962011234391286,0.0,0.0,0.1482388340763012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380351542236294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457257484852012,0.0,0.0,0.15483415508433476,0.0,0.0999870893410102,0.11222222948718437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288393378726022,0.0,0.1619710842568131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483335338032349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18905502761603687,0.0,0.14569276510258847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734166146076097,0.0,0.29866708290025873,0.1175822340326942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390688448573071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896957708753132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890945768741026,0.0,0.11714219097811653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3652449940814298,0.0870317642705456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16001710736623942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096376823057325,0.0,0.0,0.09502058467835917
parenting,StrongPain,2019/04/08,"Need Advice for my Single Mother - I'm the oldest brother of 3 kids and trying not to be the ""father"" to my siblings but seeking advice regarding siblings behaviors as young adults. Hi All,

I'm a father myself (2 mo old) but I'm writing this post to seek advice for my single mother.  She raised 3 kids (me being the oldest of 3 at 32) my brother (28) and sister (24).  Personally, I don't want to be the ""dad"" with my relationship between the siblings.  I know they have a perception of me as such perhaps because we are pretty far apart in age across the board.  

Overall, here is the context thus far:

My mother has her own place and my bro and sis live there with her.  First problem is that brother and sister don't help out around the house - they don't clean, they don't pay the bills, etc.  I know my mother isn't perfect and enables their behavior to a certain degree but she's finally coming around after years of me telling her to stop babying them.  So aside from this, here is the most recent issue that we really need advice on:

My youngest sister is 24 y/o and she has 2 cats and a Chinchilla (I purchased this pet for her as a birthday gift when she turned 16 per her wish).  Sister brought home 2 cats on her own without asking my mom but at the time, mom was ok with it (cue enabling behaviors).  Now, over the past 8 years my mom has been getting more allergies and has started to have some liver/kidney issues brought on by work stress and very bad air quality due to said pets.

Bro and sis don't do their part in cleaning the house at all.  Sister refuses to let go of the cats and chooses to stay at friends houses 2-3 days a week leaving my mother to have to deal with all the pets.  Recently, mom basically told sis that she will need to either move out with her cats or give them up for adoption because of the rising health issues and per doctors orders.  My sisters response:  ""If you give away my cats then I'm moving out!"" (storms into her room) - my mom is also calling her bluff because she's given her only until May1st to find a new place to live.

Ok so that's the gist of the story - my wife and I are sitting here wondering what we can do to help regarding the behavior of my sister and brother.  With mom getting sick and slowly getting worse, neither have seemed to care about mom first before putting their own wants.  My sister is choosing her cats before the health of my mom and my brother is choosing to stay out of it and is telling my mom that she has to choose between the well-being of the cats or the well-being of her daughter.

My mother's struggle at this moment is that she wants the cats out but we all know deep down that once my sister moves out, she's going to cut all communication.  It's been evident over the past few years that her attitude towards mom has really soured even though mom has paid for everything in her life - car, insurance, rent, food, driving her everywhere, etc.  Sis basically has been using mom for the better part of her life and doesn't seem to care about her.

Here is the advice I've given to my mother and wanted to see if this was on point and what else we can do:

* They are adults and thus should be able to take care of themselves

* If you're unable to have an adult conversation with either of them because they refuse to (cue, adolescent behaviors) then you'll have to proceed to the next course of action.

* Don't choose your daughters cats over your own health

* If neither of them are helping with anything then you have the full right as the parent and owner of the property to ask them to leave.

TL;DR - Younger sister has pets she doesn't care for or clean up after anymore.  Mom is getting sick from the low health grade at home and bro also doesn't think it's his responsibility to help clean up.  Sister acting like a child, mom wants to kick her out but also fears she will never reach out ever again.",5.958766402648068,5.788670609882968,6.141090849982266,82.16292838988059,66.56827048114434,8.551377231351223,29.570900815699247,7.84624498591911,1.7937409622886862,3045,93,606,30,44,972,312,769,0.085,0.8540000000000001,0.061,-0.946,4,0,0,0,0,0,87.0,5,5,13,7,21,18,1,3,41,2,60,10,0,3,9,109,107,52,0,15,17,51,0,1,1,4,9,1,12,7,19,49,1,3,14,0,5,14,15,7,0,2,12,3,86,11,114,86,24,101,0,1,1,0,133,46,0,12,37,404,105,4,0.043807851740215134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21404262853757733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509936962792744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04344561740537777,0.0,0.0,0.03605012931132113,0.07799655170542114,0.08190885550362216,0.0,0.041158918776228,0.0,0.03657772634789,0.10681943924422374,0.0,0.07455451046036249,0.0,0.0,0.038744484856909706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04473271463821449,0.0,0.1786600979576717,0.0,0.0,0.03773658526190777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02825244023928755,0.045163971547847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04483919255373054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03659583882819297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09771466954593726,0.028934672912722337,0.03962670994586895,0.0,0.0,0.03937167239751859,0.0,0.0,0.04929601251550007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04798936027052952,0.04003958284440594,0.07452587262195112,0.05297262821466736,0.0,0.033845837584415416,0.0,0.0915511777274431,0.08404896640783498,0.04979402339260757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626279140938806,0.0,0.0,0.11745391836633445,0.0,0.08788569433867692,0.0,0.0,0.1516451374603351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371720467387531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222694892637058,0.0,0.0,0.09277237927688774,0.0,0.04479649647713326,0.061885562472412135,0.021402303540205298,0.0,0.07736627136731944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7183011709257048,0.0,0.1396824404501824,0.0,0.09744890093428704,0.03378731593044808,0.042309896194702525,0.046590147314961056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045968971127498336,0.04665393236971626,0.0,0.03331784530583719,0.0,0.0,0.048643435047785004,0.09487926878133082,0.08363910289556553,0.0,0.038251326391943286,0.09153976208515392,0.0,0.04141257984354843,0.0,0.04195581235842236,0.04456833442678863,0.0,0.04191819773577737,0.0,0.044038990808757186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612886317787174,0.0,0.08650993714969916,0.04703323813814818,0.0,0.03741166602410844,0.041671298902051186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034909186015266554,0.07976204583289298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03100742293949975,0.09338668226984692,0.0,0.036625325640570375,0.05018174615713552,0.04579747834323947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03293805255422418,0.0,0.07657998666034921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02807030251160518,0.04304099191014925,0.0,0.02554471064313101,0.0,0.0,0.04186027968201839,0.0,0.02974265570869418,0.04765036295205171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03783591838604746,0.0,0.0361460656150607,0.12919502989339868,0.0,0.0351400162171185,0.0,0.07877703965188983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050376867517838604,0.042229205790732464,0.04750774649442112,0.03189263781587269,0.0,0.04464394353275787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463246067158146
parenting,ilikedawgs697,2019/04/08,Can i out vaseline on fresh peircing? I just got my nose peirced and it looks so bad. I took it out 2 days after i got it peirced. I wash it with anti-bacterial soap and saltwater. Can i put vaseline around the hole?,0.5493333333333332,2.7325008222222245,2.3422222222222224,94.3,85.22222222222223,5.377777777777778,24.555555555555557,6.742157984588678,0.7460222222222224,167,7,38,2,5,55,31,45,0.115,0.83,0.055,-0.5501,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,7,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,2,7,0,6,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,2,24,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269310392057144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066390455789022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368463591163001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5874479655528553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083981449920177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36918845040881937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080291086696052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pepoterouge,2019/04/08,"Paternity Leave - Advice Appreciated! Hi r/parenting! First time poster in this sub. 30M and my wife recently gave birth to a soon-to-be two week old boy, he’s our first. My company allows for four weeks of paid paternity leave... the rules are that it has to be taken within 6 months of the birth date and must be taken in minimum one-week increments (e.g. you can take 1 full week off, 2 consecutive full weeks off, but not isolated days or partial weeks... but it can stagger weekends— so doesn’t have to be Monday through Friday). 

I just took one week of the allotted leave (in addition to a couple vacation days since the birth was mid-week), so I have three weeke remaining. I’d like to use them at intervals that would be most conducive for father-son bonding. That said, does anyone have any suggestions on what intervals would be most critical for parental bonding with a newborn? It’s my first day back at work and I’m feeling the separation anxiety. 

Also, privilege disclaimer: I realize this is not a common benefit in the US, so I recognize how lucky I am to be able to make this decision.

tl:dr; when within 6 months of birth should I use my remaining three weeks of paternity leave?",4.680053942974566,6.189745703056773,5.740385306961215,77.89947084510662,70.1353711790393,10.104392499357822,30.064474698176213,10.328600350310266,3.2406447983560245,942,38,180,27,17,312,139,229,0.056,0.863,0.081,0.8188,2,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,1,1,4,8,4,0,0,10,0,21,0,0,5,1,27,33,12,0,4,6,2,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,2,10,5,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,0,0,8,7,2,14,4,28,16,5,42,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,5,29,112,24,1,0.09007764020848452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802282749230061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203505633057003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06125588423567,0.0,0.06890914820614723,0.0,0.0,0.06298438044322756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692641451594213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996691955865892,0.0,0.17427787799167868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07882754996895024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04554596141966458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298599842354593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38151685918518496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044007385008510334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06012752430350285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437982260471928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452133070875557,0.0,0.12207788046584178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004111896301105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894080265839281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568446341031992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451315481710814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772717513613896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252499639076117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000795726578414,0.0,0.0,0.08799276569064816,0.0,0.10835231020349842,0.1555963192875447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7225484957574791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06557759489129379,0.0,0.0,0.12797714230070395,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lolaa1909,2019/04/08,"First heartbreak at the age of 4?? hi! my little nephew who is only 4 years old is incredibly in love with a girl in his kindergarden. I thought it’s normal for children to have little crushes and liking other children but he’s obsessed with her! Unfortunately, she likes another boy who she “married” last week and my little nephew is devastated. He’s really heartbroken about the fact that she doesn’t like him back even though she used to kiss him and is really in a bad mood. He still talks about her fondly as “she’s so cool and beautiful” and picks flowers reserved only for her in his free time while at home. It’s really sad to see him so sad about that. We tried to tell him that there are many other cool girls but he said he only wants her. The thing between the two has been going on for quite a while already as in half a year ?? 
I cannot recall children in kindergarten being so obsessively in love, is this “normal”?",3.9971896955503503,5.5193529071038245,4.7898243559718985,84.0035655737705,71.84153005464479,7.632943013270882,24.546838407494146,8.192908349453996,1.3710346604215462,734,21,145,11,14,237,109,183,0.162,0.644,0.194,0.8571,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,2,11,17,0,2,8,2,12,3,0,2,1,17,20,15,0,3,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,6,11,8,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,6,0,3,3,4,20,11,26,16,0,26,0,3,1,3,37,13,0,0,15,97,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15931039559683172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137931674434527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11100779355365324,0.1205387662323362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535173785991596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122796817013702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204597093328134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14480989146646933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767676399507546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21158837802517969,0.43407504506764105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605901439547699,0.0,0.0,0.1463634769564541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828941469521855,0.0,0.0,0.15148680954025925,0.0,0.0,0.3293883218838001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354997495190595,0.0,0.0,0.27745179620252197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732419858955808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504023438838183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529009591609485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603513911525412,0.12618139550737473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590970820757344,0.0,0.141837904656002,0.11460970458465725,0.08418040737140188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801437600306064,0.0,0.14102365293789856,0.0,0.0,0.12468503039650007,0.0,0.0,0.08515023245887676,0.0,0.11580091556019008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18593268656691891
parenting,wwwoman,2019/04/08,"How to bridge the divide  *Background, my son is 25 he married his long time girlfriend about 18 months ago. Within 6 months, he had left her and they were separated for 6 months.*  

Once he went back we started seeing less and less of him.  By Christmas 2018, we had seen him maybe once since they reconciled.  After Christmas we have seen him zero times.  We have reached out repeatedly and he will not give us any response, any reason for the lack of communication or interaction.  He has also moved to another city, without telling us. His wife will respond to texts where we say hello but will not respond to any requests to see her.  She has remained in the city where we all lived, and they are still married.  We are just at a loss of what to do, our son has always been loving and deeply involved in the family.  We do not believe there are drugs and alcohol involved because he is still very involved in his kayaking hobby and is working many hours a week in construction.  What can we do to get him back to us, we are just lost and our hearts are broken.",4.594302134646963,6.053713881773401,4.6850443349753705,85.57748440065683,70.2807881773399,7.1867323481116605,28.31165845648605,7.554174236665415,1.5528472249589491,830,30,162,9,15,258,118,203,0.055,0.914,0.031,-0.631,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,15,0,3,3,12,3,0,0,6,0,24,4,1,2,1,32,34,12,0,1,8,3,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,2,19,1,0,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,8,5,29,1,24,23,4,28,0,2,4,1,50,10,0,1,16,114,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114423057029814,0.13435537458158342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053743676197993,0.1046082769363948,0.0,0.0,0.2564796878639757,0.1318273303656806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19334029758737645,0.0,0.07663713390469705,0.0,0.0,0.14164225867423613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457941237891534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11851668199994715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568298725655572,0.12060111789993218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489776171763931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12380788822894093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659405847259606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101217794129184,0.1112573565110613,0.0,0.0,0.13723713660694364,0.0,0.11346630350823325,0.0,0.0,0.12745933093880807,0.12630163062259486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30104311277332785,0.13361939822508312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677732583129595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926006774807927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997679268598578,0.0,0.0,0.20036352799338475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399605375447547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898455339841217,0.0,0.20079870736752772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988394497542647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661551672358045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536734233305119,0.0,0.0,0.10373133917454704,0.0,0.0,0.10084419642336448,0.0,0.0,0.11654277007074634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118862715517865,0.0,0.09152492737884163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,home-econanay,2019/04/08,"Husband spanks and screams at our 2 year old when he’s having a tantrum. And he thinks he’s doing it right. I’ll preface by saying that it’s pretty common for parents in our country (Philippines) to deal with tantrums this way: with screaming and spanking until the kid stops crying. I was raised that way, my husband too, heck, we even hear our neighbor’s kid get beaten until he stops crying. 

I can still recall how unpleasant those experiences were for me, so I want to spare my son from it. (Like, spanking literally hurts, and you expect me to stop crying by spanking me???!!!)

I’ve done some reading and the gist of expert advice on tantrums seems to be simple: console the child if you can; ignore and let it pass if you can’t. Kids have a hard time controlling their emotions, and the best way adults can help them cope is to SHOW them how to stay calm, not provoke them further.

I’ll also add that our son is not a particularly difficult child. Sure he gets moody when he’s tired or sleepy, but he’s not the type that cries and throws a fit over everything. He’s just sweet and happy most of the time.

I always share the articles I read to my husband, but he’s still convinced that our child will end up ‘too soft’ if we do it that way.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you compromise?",5.934221364221365,5.868838200772202,5.950949806949812,83.1510321750322,66.6061776061776,8.605508365508365,30.007979407979413,8.021203637495839,1.847623732303732,1030,33,209,11,15,325,154,259,0.135,0.743,0.121,0.8308,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,7,4,4,3,13,18,4,0,12,0,19,1,0,5,1,40,25,24,0,5,10,6,2,1,1,1,1,4,1,7,13,14,0,5,2,3,0,2,4,10,0,0,5,7,26,8,24,17,3,31,0,1,0,0,43,9,1,7,16,128,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257164533284772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212502079061187,0.09585523560194724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805501883858974,0.11803552991912306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208947972186098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292060660836003,0.0,0.0,0.5061650879023444,0.0,0.11876565480540432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788911339877856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623442342706398,0.12958396338380726,0.10203258863197076,0.0,0.0,0.07608820166355547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353390751124204,0.11268724328064025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12037399721907382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263203950874416,0.10319614944846398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298382403186864,0.0,0.07721581520715043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332347716255496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779932221988886,0.0,0.056280670348125686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088252581826643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791544271774172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719933478782214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23046140493008985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837976733306457,0.0,0.09161128830627002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487332355090226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294890959595233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278736888907785,0.18399698347946208,0.288935890694772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857419165573212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381520588473356,0.0,0.0,0.1343475421833517,0.132404910713214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794766623496705,0.3657600924006785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418471896198983
parenting,ActualYogurt,2019/04/08,"Where would I ask a question about exorcism on children? Hi all! Asked a question here earlier regarding a video with exorcism on multiple children. It was removed, and a mod kindly told me it was removed due to it being religious which turns into quite a dramatic discussion in this subreddit.

Can anyone point me to a subreddit, where one could ask such a question, as it puzzles me quite a lot?",6.323013698630137,7.705721575342466,7.076602739726031,70.33106849315071,66.12328767123286,11.31945205479452,39.257534246575354,11.20814326018867,5.130366575342466,317,18,51,10,5,105,49,73,0.0,0.942,0.058,0.593,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,8,0,6,0,0,0,1,11,11,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,1,9,5,2,10,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,5,1,41,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264595342928762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5072311035955686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14439972907032386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833490538319594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537582934234411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225534950295104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17096847829722764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6078042447704962,0.3847277123850037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281677078241672,0.0,0.0,0.19672066012308648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847574034698914,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Rewlu,2019/04/08,"My first son was born today! First and foremost I want to use my tiny podium to proclaim that ""holy shit my wife is a goddamn trooper!"" \*steps down\*

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Secondly, I'm crossing the 24 hour threshold of no sleep, full on have the opportunity at the moment but I can't because I. Have. A. Son! Full beam mode emanating from the guy chillin in his Guardians of the Galaxy underoos right now!

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Shoutout to all the moms out there! I don't know what you went through, but I have now seen an extent of it in the flesh lol.

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I don't post on Reddit all too much but I do wanna use this opportunity to say that if you are comfortable with a birth out of a hospital, please support your local birthing centers! 

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Okie, that's all. Bye Reddit.",3.6114968814968833,5.755376864864867,4.078378378378378,86.09988565488571,74.27027027027026,6.445738045738046,28.95218295218295,7.321109707123232,1.6371563409563414,608,26,117,7,13,191,100,148,0.039,0.813,0.14800000000000002,0.956,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,3,0,4,4,5,1,0,12,1,10,3,3,2,3,16,18,5,0,3,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,3,4,1,0,3,3,2,14,4,20,15,7,27,0,0,1,0,11,13,1,1,11,81,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690476517045554,0.5260216487442778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06597305149727542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841125273509893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071599210516912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657997983137292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947771622499193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675199644056576,0.0,0.0,0.07955794330253574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187987235209193,0.0,0.0,0.10364978468025053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242369316559924,0.0,0.08606498907706044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1110915689278088,0.0,0.0,0.10830331640601487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12281262619531005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258479486650816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869435757978405,0.0,0.0,0.06383400190567942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003258052561546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5260216487442778,0.0
parenting,Kaycem99,2019/04/08,"Got partial guardianship of my niece My niece is a 15 y/o. My sister is her mom, and my sister sucks ass as a parent. My sister has 2 other kids who are absolute demons, but the dad is involved. My niece's dad isn't involved. It would be very fair to call her a victim of my sister. There's been a lot of emotional neglect, in addition to neglect of her basic needs. 

Over the course of the past few years, my sister has evolved from calling the police during every time she looses control of her kids, to taking them to the behavioral health emergency department, then to calling me to deal with it. I'm a mandated reporter in my state, so I've called CPS a total of 7 times for the neglect that went on in that household and made it a point to have my niece as much as possible to keep her away from all the BS. 

I petitioned for an emergency custody order in January, note I did that without a lawyer while my sister has a small army of lawyers, and I got the emergency custody. I started a petition to revoke custody, also without a lawyer, and I managed to get majority partial custody of my niece. She testified in court saying she wanted me to have sole custody, but still her mom has a day a week of visitation. 

So yeah. Just want to share that success.",4.972275896414342,5.481172729083667,5.995057270916338,80.02214765936256,68.7211155378486,8.82480079681275,32.02216135458167,8.841846274778883,2.6116950199203184,989,41,191,16,16,329,135,251,0.119,0.81,0.071,-0.9105,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,1,2,6,7,2,0,22,1,15,2,1,2,2,24,28,14,0,4,5,11,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,9,6,0,5,0,0,0,3,3,5,0,0,6,1,29,2,40,20,6,25,1,3,0,1,34,10,2,1,10,134,38,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11081298206621124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018943532282176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5659747177391506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554160787253442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936505988512505,0.14285778459628062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587063413701546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116749729768695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239619313298826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22165138116076225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729157346843638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316583032138136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780577367138648,0.0,0.13111663167187512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.324578926946068,0.0,0.0,0.10186361001138763,0.10274660399802908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538636467946076,0.0,0.1322790770583864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309917885453973,0.1562148852845169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101950367123253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807932286211864,0.0,0.11066078604686944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041860814172938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16160052562094446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433332097840115,0.16346229190112951,0.0,0.11115109445449622,0.0,0.0,0.1284541590250691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267149702640004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09843491139629022,0.0,0.0,0.08923341195880233
parenting,smokeinmyiris,2019/04/08,"Redshirting and Kindergarten Can anyone really explain to me why this is so prevalent now? I understand kindergarten is much more academically-focused than when I was a child, but it is now just assumed that kids (especially boys) with summer birthdays should hang back a year. My youngest attended kindergarten screening at the school his older brother attends and was recommended to do their “transitional” kindergarten program. I saw their TK - it’s glorified preschool which he has been in for 2 years already. The thing is, he is much more advanced than his older brother with a March birthday was at the same age. My older son really struggled in kindergarten. I know what a struggling child looks like. My younger son is ready. 

I’m just venting because I don’t want another year of taking my kids to separate schools with separate values. I understand private schools can make up whatever entrance tests they want but even my son’s public preschool teacher said it’s common for kids with summer birthdays to do an extra year of pre-k. Um, what is the point of 3 years of pre-k? That sounds boring AF.",6.339162479061978,8.35446104020101,5.712643216080406,77.735162479062,66.73869346733669,8.321742043551087,35.879731993299835,8.841846274778883,3.3355484757118936,893,45,146,15,15,272,119,199,0.051,0.835,0.114,0.8936,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,3,1,8,4,0,2,9,0,18,0,0,1,0,20,30,6,0,3,4,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,6,10,6,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,3,1,0,6,5,17,1,21,23,6,27,0,0,3,0,21,6,0,1,18,93,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16827980662293246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990219629431812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10662664436037107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11725769660456907,0.0,0.0929583114144067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072018180680678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380615935718609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0745003722750266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280557053956792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179025506106308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241997876757983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441551657940847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19538182860878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505575418808125,0.0,0.0,0.4629931417704809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3188375661918193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465575061555047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130956671074458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317501161426985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17988863311017342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13760120485449015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4910024299284597
parenting,anonymouscallerid,2019/04/08,"Questions about how to talk to a 12yo girl about masturbation? So this is technically my younger sister I'm referring to. I am her older brother but I am currently her primary caretaker and guardian, so I figured I could still post here and it would be relevant. I don't want to get into too much backstory because I want to remain anonymous, but suffice it to say, there was a family tragedy, and I assumed the role of guardian to my two younger siblings. My younger brother is just a few years my junior, and between him, my small remaining family, and some friends we have managed to overcome most of our legal and financial hurdles. It's been a few years since the tragedy, and we are finally settled down and have good routines and lifestyle. 

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I have a small but tight knit support network to lean on when I'm having trouble with things or have questions, but I have to admit, I am really embarrassed to ask even family about this one, so here I am.

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Okay, so basically, my sister is starting to notice and talk about boys. And she is starting to discover things about her body i guess, and she is starting to masturbate. Which is all fine. The problem, however, is that she is masturbating a lot, and she is *not as quiet as she thinks she is*. This has been going on for two weeks, where she disappears into the bathroom or her room, plays some music on her phone, and then way way underestimates the acoustic masking effect that her music has. 

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I am just having trouble thinking of how to handle this - like how to confront her, what to say. I'm really only nervous about how she will react. I'm sure she will be embarrassed and mortified, and I just don't want to me too blunt or say the wrong thing and make her clam up and never think she can come to me about anything related to sex. Because I'm pretty much it for her, she doesn't have a female role model to ask this stuff.

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Any advice on how to bring the topic up or what to say? Preferably a light touch of some sort.",7.192547435426617,6.771301061696657,7.195725302974662,76.46572407883463,64.08997429305913,10.185873423919695,36.004529318154,9.606745405546679,3.32745087526013,1599,68,298,27,21,513,186,389,0.119,0.799,0.08199999999999999,-0.9485,2,0,0,0,0,0,60.0,3,0,0,1,28,16,1,3,15,1,39,2,1,8,3,71,63,39,0,7,12,4,2,1,1,3,0,5,1,2,18,24,0,1,11,1,0,4,5,8,0,3,3,8,46,8,49,54,10,33,0,0,0,1,45,13,0,14,14,230,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041946951647068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566741449858906,0.3999984247402461,0.05596463843911186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772324501489765,0.0,0.15387277649569034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033471716311894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141317983783108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708913964676178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570728928028903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054356252821507724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23274626467040654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015210945966404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358229485584603,0.0,0.04299667545638309,0.0,0.046771161586875415,0.06902664187357642,0.0,0.0,0.0906591910495299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040206054020487436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996578684920762,0.0,0.0,0.05493374554741896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209952178681478,0.0,0.0634723569336799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936954394713698,0.0,0.0,0.05576643392656778,0.06259041629309982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07881757470579183,0.08372542040628515,0.0,0.07874691242651036,0.0,0.0,0.18438247584925807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544286042849067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617828383169574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06807675410011838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747502720068893,0.0,0.06572232181691094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09421013380470937,0.0,0.09338942063241668,0.07756374947098513,0.0,0.0,0.13229408292890724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640229889158464,0.15819737773079864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16078400886969904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562233475423322,0.13064672064704633,0.06601351988360403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058461277530290214,0.08997861935104738,0.3999984247402461,0.10599286752027014
parenting,HawkeyeHero,2019/04/08,"Traveling on a plane with a car seat - Tips and advice? I'll be traveling cross-country from the west coast to the east coast on America Airlines with a a 3-month old. We have the Graco click-connect 30.

I'm planning on buying a seat for our child so we can have the full row to ourselves and help alleviate any disturbance for other passengers. I'm curious if the car-seat will even fit at all (it'll most likely be an airbus 321 plane). Cursory research is sketchy, some saying they fit, others saying they don't, and others saying they fit but the person in front won't be able to recline.

Just wonder if any other parents have traveled on a long plane ride with infants and if you have any tips or advice, specifically with regards to our car seat on a plane seat?

Thanks in advance!",7.279675324675324,6.487045246753247,7.395422077922081,76.32741883116887,64.06493506493507,10.037662337662338,34.185064935064936,9.188382445141503,2.927171428571428,624,23,117,9,8,202,91,154,0.012,0.897,0.091,0.8574,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,1,3,2,3,3,0,1,14,0,13,0,0,0,1,20,17,10,0,3,6,1,0,1,0,3,0,3,0,3,5,10,0,0,1,3,1,8,2,1,0,0,0,3,8,2,19,11,4,24,0,0,0,0,16,14,0,7,3,74,13,1,0.2115821558218909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135112678186068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316493642604925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397480184415224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181905908698292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033683539070726,0.0,0.0,0.18724354980021754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888285816552098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220198805855115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349369449802181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18474537735947896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5047758677864123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479642212165546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22945182249834145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AutismAwarenessWorld,2019/04/08,"Misunderstanding Autism Years after my son diagnoses it is still hard being in a public place when we have a meltdown and people steer. I have to be strong and give my son reassurance, I give the judgmental audience a look that should transpire to shame. Some situations are easier to handle than others. The only feeling of comfort is being in the company of at least one stranger in a crowd that understands. The world around only holds a small population of the education behind the disorder; this is why we always have a Misunderstanding.",8.157500000000002,9.299308083333337,8.472916666666666,62.81375,61.91666666666666,11.816666666666665,33.70833333333333,11.538034831475384,4.4010333333333325,440,17,68,13,6,145,66,96,0.124,0.754,0.122,-0.0516,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,12,0,11,1,0,0,0,10,16,3,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,6,3,14,12,2,12,0,0,1,0,9,8,0,1,4,55,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19704595883943052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108122496624129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24035846841553266,0.0,0.0,0.2714062478246009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973890057030573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4543419241700846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213639598207487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19886183610903185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046945475852845,0.36021130520515626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417512700004028,0.0,0.2474173890612149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26618580521309554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18911779729920647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24652889823623103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368535016560244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.152498702729202
parenting,Qtip_tech,2019/04/08,Daycare Alright y’all so my wife has been taking care of our daughter(2) since she was born. My wife is starting a new job next weeks so we now have to find daycare. We are obviously nervous about the whole thing. What should I be looking out for in a good daycare? What are some red flags? Any advice in looking for daycare is appreciated!,1.0668181818181814,3.681122045454547,2.1809696969697008,91.18145454545456,93.69696969696967,3.852121212121212,24.78181818181818,5.6839178017228535,0.5967018181818187,269,12,52,2,10,85,52,66,0.03,0.8009999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.8736,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,3,1,10,0,0,0,1,7,15,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,8,3,8,11,2,9,0,0,3,0,7,3,0,1,6,37,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616613294074579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209249304717864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730089273750899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447365402763215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245924150677632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26571998542669995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4497180066164284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258613523881618,0.2847759805374889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22150175929640156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895286832179884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013293958852204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778942072575058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21478860126118804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989551676174043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hedgedoglove,2019/04/08,"Should I drag him out? Our 16 year old son is fiercely independent. He likes to be alone as much as  possible. He's not depressed. He's not going through anything. It's just  who he is. It's who he has always been. He stays home when we go out  most of the time, he prefers it that way. He doesn't spend his time  sleeping or playing video games, he plays instruments and works on  schoolwork.   
 I am like this as well. If I do not have enough time alone, I get very anxious and overwhelmed. I value my time with my pets, crafts,  chick flicks, shopping and snacks. I love long drives alone. I like to  vacation alone. I truly enjoy me time more than I enjoy being around  people.   
 As a child, I spent a LOT of time alone. I was often  grounded (months on end) to my room with no phone or tv, allowed out for  meals and to use the bathroom. I learned to love books and knew the  words to every song on the radio. However, when the holidays came and  people were around, I'd find myself making a plate of food and heading  back into my bedroom to be alone again, overwhelmed by the people around  me.   
 I wonder if I am screwing up as a parent? He WANTS to be alone.  Should I be forcing him to come out to places he has no interest in  being? We have a good relationship at home. We talk about things and  laugh a lot. We all have a similar sense of humor, a similar sense of  right and wrong and a similar love for the same things. We have a very  open line of communication when it comes to sex and drugs and right and  wrong. We regularly talk about school and his future plans.   
 When he has a girlfriend he loves to go out with her. He's not going to be a bump of a husband. He's a really good boyfriend.   
 Am I messing up by allowing him to spend so much time alone or am I  allowing him to be who he is? The kid is not depressed. Trust me, I'd be  ALL over that. I just feel weird about it because we are so different  from everybody else. But when I look at it, I think we also have a way  better relationship than some teens/parents.",1.925819994752036,3.7485134660194177,3.1590133823143565,92.24691550774078,78.1747572815534,6.298714248228812,22.05746523222251,7.222845823187471,0.5496101285751771,1556,45,346,19,37,503,197,412,0.086,0.75,0.16399999999999998,0.989,5,8,1,0,0,0,52.0,9,0,0,3,20,28,1,2,23,0,33,12,2,6,2,76,54,33,0,6,13,3,1,3,1,2,1,1,5,3,14,38,3,0,7,10,4,8,8,9,1,0,6,3,44,19,59,37,11,55,0,4,1,6,52,24,1,11,23,225,58,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6042311321653148,0.0,0.0583185475047578,0.06067991152737499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238513033728187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06001152584181496,0.19475764030501352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056075257598458064,0.0,0.04445474718865852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644967354801712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340741808351533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563783292259373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562136352061376,0.0,0.0,0.07619169338460119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08457050237158681,0.0,0.06091995145358092,0.0,0.06459040460562243,0.07535160225910073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061442933262233324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036873356529539575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666526447051599,0.0,0.08818188194445803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03810059750821531,0.0,0.16578111527910624,0.12233300698035365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484266810198223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463005741639621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688324146238652,0.0,0.0,0.06453682966182205,0.06123910732470555,0.0,0.0,0.12399741402292536,0.2632726763066464,0.0,0.048678380514421984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05820848975496841,0.0,0.10721736151646448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652311243924398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097520910939053,0.0,0.0,0.15167221251377155,0.0,0.07619169338460119,0.0,0.0,0.08221261659551757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04671798392152709,0.0,0.0,0.15658952907363533,0.0,0.12455606708107295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380456448458972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297823037216215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777289485971181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722961258960468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09689700915158192,0.046727757063377486,0.0,0.0,0.2976643813813922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298427321479914,0.0,0.1203424560286916,0.04301338732034424,0.11576983723290135,0.0,0.0,0.06556884040533027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908466379733675,0.05309067942371686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594653132527356,0.0,0.04696167251614658
parenting,Aiyakiu,2019/04/08,"At what point did you feel comfortable taking your little one out? My baby is 10 weeks old this week. I specifically don't feel comfortable taking her out in public - for one, I'm scared of her getting sick this early in life. Also I'm scared of her crying and being unable to soothe her (she started out extremely fussy and velco-y and is finally starting to grow out of that a little). In my head I'll be more likely to take her to a restaurant when she can sit in a high chair and snack, but even a short trip like taking her to a store for 15 minutes seems terrifying and insurmountable. Right now me and my husband wait until a weekend when a family member will watch her for a couple hours and we do all our outside the house errands at once. I have an aunt who is going to help take care of her when I go back to work (between her and my parents our entire family discussed it and decided we wouldn't do daycare, I'm paying my aunt and mother for in-home care which my husband is thrilled with) and she comes over every few days to spend time with her and I get errands done like laundry and things my child doesn't really let me do. 

When did you feel comfortable taking your child out? When does it get easier? When she was brand new we didn't dare take her out then as it was flu season plus she was *extremely* fussy and wouldn't be content in her carrier.",5.556141696750903,5.372780469314081,6.114221570397112,82.06209047833936,67.4115523465704,9.091064981949456,27.781814079422393,8.660442795831766,1.8164370036101087,1078,29,221,15,16,351,149,277,0.057,0.815,0.128,0.9709,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,5,4,0,1,10,11,0,2,10,0,25,5,1,0,1,37,50,26,0,2,1,6,3,3,0,3,3,0,0,2,10,27,1,1,5,1,3,6,5,2,0,2,7,4,39,9,36,36,3,50,0,0,1,0,38,20,0,1,26,151,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827387611391778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487832009016476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250872589833096,0.0,0.0,0.09508586010072813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12213756290006073,0.12125140889855608,0.07118841202647988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659759754182053,0.11296094049190025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07290745152335369,0.0,0.09300310297377708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081200245648652,0.0,0.16744008100994015,0.0,0.0,0.1209200452382512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17301292135398544,0.0,0.12546730207041806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132856131495808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398792691860942,0.11662653347813835,0.0,0.0,0.108705796959211,0.12736807199550115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11287490289501925,0.0779673345463845,0.161783830688426,0.22126711070723987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660935117801457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115829217913257,0.11755513265620272,0.14959782424600074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12256813454823733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043483597173468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071468171672893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09426715260573366,0.0,0.0,0.2210268586210596,0.0,0.0,0.1004892557020792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15626042787106845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5809641028188092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333408450337416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643656749986377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770864344385212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036071299393327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,coffee_wrangler,2019/04/08,"Potty issues without mom and dad around? Our 3.5 year old has no problem going potty in a  variety of locations but he won’t poop with certain people. He’ll poop with his parents and grandparents in any location. 

But he will poop his pants at daycare and at his aunt and uncle’s he will hide under the table and poop there. He spends ~3 hours every Sunday for years at his aunt/uncles so it’s not like he’s not familiar with them. 

If I’m at my aunt’s place he will poop just fine if I am around - I even will wait outside the door to make sure he is OK doing it alone. 

Any suggestions to get him over this hump? We’ve offered all sorts of rewards if he goes poop at daycare or at my aunts but nothing yet. 

Thanks!",1.2702908277404887,3.358841711409397,2.7766174496644282,92.8479686800895,81.5503355704698,5.584071588366891,20.671588366890386,6.742157984588678,0.3022962863534673,561,16,121,6,15,183,97,149,0.09,0.804,0.105,0.6522,2,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,0,1,1,7,8,0,0,3,1,9,7,6,1,3,28,16,13,0,4,11,6,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,3,10,0,1,0,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,11,7,21,10,1,20,0,0,0,1,24,13,0,5,7,68,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207311605865686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898619059485861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3794493216401876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407657360299698,0.0,0.17956532521207785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134797476445364,0.0,0.12112271622866712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098832314113495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244504808194945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412113590021482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422612620163138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496070898387889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449727305581653,0.0,0.22363674456667354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366478777272361,0.0,0.0,0.14775265827795991,0.0,0.22266818126461854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203929934688567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008659117724766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962150307514643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20544297331523667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744884578304538
parenting,zen_1305,2019/04/08,"Finding great childcare... Hi all,

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I'm researching parenting and childcare and thought this was a great forum to pose this question. In my research, I've come across various horror stories of child care providers and services. What has all of your experience been like? Is it really that difficult to find a really great childcare provider? 

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I was also wondering what criteria do you consider when picking a childcare provider? What are the must haves? Nice to haves, and what factors you consider in choosing one over another? In a nutshell, how do you define really high quality care - and how do you trust those providers? 

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Really curious about all this. Look forward to your thoughts and stories.",6.3642682926829295,9.612402764227646,5.483922764227643,74.0019817073171,70.13821138211382,9.303252032520325,39.51829268292683,9.725611199111238,4.892214634146342,592,36,85,16,12,178,76,123,0.046,0.738,0.217,0.976,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,6,0,0,5,9,0,0,5,0,12,0,0,3,4,21,20,10,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,10,7,0,0,7,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,1,8,8,12,14,4,9,0,0,1,0,10,7,0,2,3,62,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278133988412747,0.0,0.3771236279273069,0.4229318531322664,0.0,0.12165733221976065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365807235242092,0.0,0.0,0.0999411591804939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349005221057057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21208078551890924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837381554936092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258174806075682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05668162633411442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742777682229696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861831375446864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288267407200724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299692154982562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29730213322413634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842142137530174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581899559148024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4229318531322664,0.0
parenting,wellwellwellwe,2019/04/08,"What to do when toddler hits and bites stuff? What Our toddler is about 20 months and he’s been hitting stuff and trying to hit us lately and we’re not sure why or if we’re doing something wrong. 

We don’t hit him and my wife stays home with him and she spends time with him playing and teaching. He only hits when he gets mad. We’ve tried saying stuff like “ we don’t hit when we’re mad, that’s not okay” or “ ow that’s not nice. Can we play nicely instead” but nothing seems to work at all. After he hits something, he runs over to us and tries to be nice but I still don’t know what we’re doing wrong. 

I see a lot of different tips and it gets confusing. Some people say ignore them completely, only praise them when they do good and some say just redirect them and I’m not sure what will help. 

Any tips would be appreciated.",1.300316218973137,3.3157259884393078,2.3614824889493384,96.25732743964636,81.02312138728323,5.226657599455968,18.26895613736824,6.2272716619740125,-0.36210683441006397,648,14,148,5,17,205,98,173,0.13699999999999998,0.736,0.127,0.2609,1,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,6,0,4,2,8,17,2,1,1,1,14,0,0,0,3,37,27,20,0,2,10,1,0,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,10,16,0,1,2,2,1,1,7,6,0,0,1,4,17,11,12,15,4,13,1,0,1,0,25,2,0,8,10,85,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09059372009568467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13967794432627828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13918585694582492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920321438611552,0.0,0.0,0.11173806259542572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929411605994637,0.0,0.13362986096062252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321386577013785,0.0,0.15027721915765502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0650842407933516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325831966175462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633440691718464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782755053598174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20263862369087265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235751709851156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31782410074188105,0.0,0.0,0.10615856672854737,0.12127788458392633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20511751426098074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199409199867447,0.10638913772663028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575128186363544,0.0,0.0,0.2511153044182072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768126899849034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713415631651915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204929284681044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020973421641525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698526680756993,0.0,0.0,0.09463519752347567,0.2913088722963365,0.0,0.0
parenting,izfiz,2019/04/08,"How much supervision for 8 y/o? We moved into a new neighborhood over the winter and now that it's spring, we are letting our 8 y/o daughter play with the neighborhood kids. She made one friend whose house she goes to/girl comes to ours; we've talked to the dad a lot.   


From there she met some other kids and played with them. This is the 1st time we've been in a safe enough neighborhood and she's been old enough to run around the streets. What are some good rules we should have in place to help keep her safe?  


For example Saturday she went to one kid's house we knew, played with the kids next door too, and played outside with a bunch, we just said don't leave our street without checking in, and also, don't go inside anyone's house without asking us first.   


Are those tracking watches worth the money/effort?  


Thanks in advance!",3.652747914735869,5.224419909638557,3.3936144578313296,93.47543558850792,72.79518072289156,6.553475440222428,22.407784986098246,7.010146845296331,0.4123045412418905,659,16,142,6,13,197,105,166,0.0,0.8140000000000001,0.18600000000000005,0.9798,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,9,0,1,2,7,9,0,0,11,0,11,0,0,2,0,30,21,7,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,7,17,0,3,1,4,2,6,4,0,0,3,7,2,16,9,21,12,7,25,0,0,1,0,29,10,0,3,9,87,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099140982715867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10578972760075747,0.0,0.0,0.13468557593500774,0.14144139883707074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032816473775752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31265856164610845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286923569910701,0.0,0.0,0.11689096577696224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859850412885428,0.1268999625011331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014105642819952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5237260424980829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447889566055107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020068914021152,0.0,0.15471047875758556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286265054555043,0.0,0.14315999643696667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608037751129848,0.1112200173261076,0.0,0.0,0.14612268394264993,0.1609050832839894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875977119682144,0.0,0.20504426065125936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15807218790847666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439172058216139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12160604736898448,0.0,0.13929309089094075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822195314627203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18199053956993227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14025296954213198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29168801844902315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HPPTC,2019/04/08,"independent play - praise or leave alone? Our 15-month-old is (finally!) starting to get the hand of real independent play, so that is leaving mommy and I to actually get things done at home sometimes.

​

We've read differing opinions on whether you should stop to praise our child when she is playing independently. Some argue that the interruption defeats the purpose of independent play, and others argue that by not giving attention until when it is finally demanded, that you are in fact discouraging independent play.

​

Thoughts? Anyone read more on this topic?",8.780892857142861,11.196051375000005,8.196071428571429,60.72750000000002,61.29166666666666,10.902380952380954,39.75595238095238,10.914260884657429,5.235945238095237,476,25,64,13,7,150,68,96,0.19,0.628,0.182,0.5853,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,2,0,3,3,11,2,0,3,0,7,1,1,5,1,19,12,8,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,2,0,2,2,7,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,1,6,7,11,9,2,11,2,2,0,0,11,4,0,3,7,45,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.1475368703793958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156584314016242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276224743255481,0.3674179232837441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571358559470016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15795841567593394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471696751670164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312363128312671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15797811418430724,0.1450325112340943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165306007025614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32017076984386605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067615788733617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586455040771844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024561698060202,0.17208410025938986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952797846663726,0.0,0.10701105814893393,0.0,0.0,0.12639924509347011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044203881950817,0.0,0.0,0.12002572640582275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3674179232837441,0.0
parenting,ievaluna,2019/04/08,"Creative inoculation I recently posted a picture of my kid on his first birthday at the pediatrician's getting his MMRV and whatever else is appropriate, as in ""happy birthday, kid, happy to give you immunity to unnecessary infectious diseases."" My old friend responded with some greetings and a story of her unfortunate attempts to infect her kid with chickenpox:  ""We will try to infect her again with chickenpox, it will be the third try because,-- it turns out, that the two previous infections were something else. Now, I have already become a insecure, I don't want to infect the child with who knows what!!!""

I don't wish for any kid to be sick so I'm just amused with my friend's attempt to treat infectious disease as cooking: ""here, lick this kid, looks like what you need...""

She's a lawyer.

​",6.742397260273973,8.229269952054796,7.076602739726031,70.33106849315071,65.23287671232876,10.223561643835618,35.83287671232877,10.355215969177356,4.066462465753425,647,31,106,16,10,210,96,146,0.08,0.758,0.162,0.9308,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,2,0,3,5,8,0,1,8,0,9,7,0,0,0,15,18,5,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,6,0,0,6,7,9,1,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,2,16,7,21,13,1,10,0,0,1,0,20,4,0,1,6,72,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20127361454400786,0.0,0.0,0.1976211718218968,0.22162570103646625,0.12403251073176115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118419800783996,0.2014371408674675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30472947765502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514216208084322,0.0,0.0,0.2818305233093855,0.0,0.0952920586769455,0.17496659764478853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3883184001366391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023762775451917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910729999986429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15316296830387824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524102571321125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913892536496472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468069040030507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18008965502443536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14041392859227075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476637844191482,0.19838963496123568,0.17817004506625564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075792637514577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097412850225562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22162570103646625,0.0
parenting,LadyLongLocks77,2019/04/08,"I raised a family of rapunzels So my children are all teens now and I raised them to love long hair. I myself love long hair and so I grew it out and my husband wasn't allowed to have long hair as a kid so he grew his out. Then when our first daughter Shannon (Whos actually the one who recommended reddit to me) was born she saw our hair and wanted to grow hers out. And from that point on we just accepted that all our children would have long hair. And so with each child we let them grow their hair out. Though it was their decision if they wanted to keep it or not. Anyway, we raised 5. So there are 7 rapunzels in this house, I myself am 41 and my hair touches the ground. My husband is 43 and his reaches his waist. My 4 daughters, Shannon (19) has ankle length hair, My daughter Melody (17) has knee length hair, My daughter Delilah (15) has calf length hair, and My daughter Rose (14) has classic length hair. Our son Andrew (13) also has classic length hair. We all love our hair and its become something we've bonded over.

Was I a wierd parent for growing my kids hair soooo long?",2.585098985997103,4.438625477064221,3.174645098985998,92.7378343795268,76.33944954128441,5.873877353935296,22.941574118783198,6.5966054737557815,0.4371155963302753,846,25,181,7,19,264,118,218,0.0,0.91,0.09,0.9545,2,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,9,0,5,1,12,4,0,0,5,0,17,19,16,1,3,34,25,22,0,4,4,9,15,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,8,20,1,1,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,5,16,37,4,17,18,4,24,0,0,1,3,39,9,0,2,10,116,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.15326293492818882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255967533188299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345480689306567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805738989103334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335908246553722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18122027742918775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395976186160252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16059928439641086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6949432574905889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4252445593613641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106424470386977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439088932424246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484676528504428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090854131559255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15430564986282228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185270107978592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156730063643386,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,be-love-now,2019/04/08,"Fuck, love is so immense 😭 I love this beautiful manifestation of love i have created 😭😭 can’t stop crying I’m lost in the plane of love right now, suffering so much has made me find love in its purest form that a physical manifestation of it has been given to me so i can love and love and love idk how to process this i can’t believe how much love is in me ! ",3.4588461538461566,3.635881038461541,5.319641025641027,84.7086923076923,71.94871794871794,9.316923076923075,27.138461538461538,9.3871,1.867550769230769,283,9,68,6,5,98,46,78,0.14,0.458,0.402,0.9873,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,6,12,1,0,2,0,9,10,0,3,0,7,23,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,7,9,8,19,3,6,0,2,0,10,9,4,1,0,2,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938679006836706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614774757629854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496284442518827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616890780556053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253628172125178,0.0,0.9328386059598616,0.10866559073706836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688431012199673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980738209944719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601244778628223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MetoJJJ,2019/04/08,"Injury Anxiety Some background...I have a 14 month old boy who is extremely active and super strong. He has broken down our baby gate in the past (seriously broken, we had to replace panels). He legitimately tackles and wrestles his 4 year old brother.

In December he pushed himself backwards while sitting in a portable high chair and fell over. He fractured his skull and needed an emergency craniotomy to remove a large blood clot. He needed a blood transfusion, has the titanium screws in his head, the whole nine. $150,000 worth of medical bills.

He was an early walker at 11 mos. and currently thinks he can run full speed and walk downstairs adult style. He also has massive tantrums when he doesn't get his way complete with flailing and thrashing etc.

Yesterday he was having a tantrum and I went to put him down and he threw his head back causing me to lose my grip on him. He fell and bumped his head. Hard. 

My people...I want to bubble wrap this child. Or make him wear a helmet. Like, he is seriously giving me anxiety. I keep him behind a gate almost all day because I'm afraid he'll do serious damage again. I'm finding it hard to allow him to explore and play in any normal way because the floor is too hard or he might trip and fall or he might hulk out and pull something down on top of himself. 

I am frozen and his world is getting smaller the more I limit him. I think I'm doing him a disservice developmentally. Any advice or commiseration?",3.285698924731186,5.7404536989247354,4.342508960573478,82.33376344086021,76.52688172043011,6.857347670250897,26.46236559139785,7.921354282810032,1.7894,1158,45,211,19,27,376,174,279,0.122,0.794,0.085,-0.7746,1,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,2,0,0,5,6,13,3,1,15,0,19,9,7,3,1,39,35,21,0,4,4,1,4,1,0,3,1,0,2,3,3,17,0,2,4,1,2,13,1,9,0,1,5,4,27,4,24,27,6,49,0,2,0,1,40,19,1,8,15,119,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686099679816826,0.0,0.0,0.1299984320565467,0.0,0.0,0.10381896731626417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656743722689494,0.0,0.19862763964743585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982545150649473,0.0,0.1582771225588428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13336341861623965,0.0,0.0,0.13611637010138988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372474107669323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478635009643584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865536845928858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356537450495602,0.12453752473519301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3488862496250157,0.0,0.3997058661092917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371645474336094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11539215960252534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342469206807427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523811558911354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866574942598347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078246156336398,0.0,0.275442210089931,0.0,0.0,0.10362304196460216,0.0,0.0,0.19252340517205666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271984382537852,0.0,0.0,0.2724536480823888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12393021938119694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305074206515709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994366548023458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16636996944854776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657264529793564,0.20609403804014925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034671289229938,0.0,0.14494213053106356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08360140217266493
parenting,visual_stories2019,2019/04/08,"Children Colorful Lullabies For Sleep Relaxation Learning Music (2019) Colorful lullabies for sleep and relaxation is a video for small children to help them to relax and fall asleep through color and music. This video features lullabies like twinkle twinkle little star, hush little baby, and many more. The music used in these lullabies are called Ambient tunes, which studies have shown to have direct effect on the nervous system, which helps relax and prepare the body for sleep. ",12.114240506329114,12.249217860759494,9.737816455696203,60.42419303797472,53.936708860759495,12.456962025316455,43.800632911392405,11.698219412168324,5.722769620253165,397,19,49,9,4,118,52,79,0.023,0.757,0.221,0.9538,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,1,4,0,4,5,5,2,0,8,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,5,0,0,2,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,5,10,5,1,7,0,0,3,0,6,5,0,0,1,29,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540467623006725,0.0,0.0,0.2335398705985141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066008079144051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173681811431363,0.4584577358300235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318774219439734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6866295995187924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975331824888811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,puhleez420,2019/04/08,"Welcome to Parenthood, here's 99,000,000 cups to find all over the house. What else would you put in a new parent welcome basket? I had thoughts this morning as I'm picking up cups from everywhere(one had crunchy milk in it, yum), what else could you include in a metaphorical welcome basket for new parents?  ",6.428571428571428,8.125159000000004,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,66.14285714285714,7.742857142857144,37.214285714285715,8.07648339933343,3.0024071428571433,248,13,43,3,4,72,42,56,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.8541,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,1,6,6,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,3,3,10,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,2,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19713134421300094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125102714627624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22566416998860225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28489202972615485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4769194346596656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5483114266254915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482049412605793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960127955248976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17539226393581528,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shamgar_bn,2019/04/08,"Any advice for starting piano lessons with young kids? My kids are 8 & 6, and we just recently inherited a piano. I'd like to start our kids learning as soon as possible, while they're still interested in the new instrument in the house. If possible, I'd like to just test the waters with maybe some YouTube videos before we go full-on into hiring someone for private lessons. Neither my wife nor I play the piano, so we don't have experience in kids learning this stuff. 

Does anyone know a good YouTube channel for something like this? Or maybe some pointers you can give as we start down this path? Any advice at all would be helpful.",5.845737704918032,6.7905559918032825,5.736188524590165,81.0988729508197,66.95081967213115,8.395081967213113,32.463114754098356,8.472884824447931,2.471275409836065,509,21,95,7,8,159,84,122,0.016,0.852,0.132,0.9247,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,5,1,0,2,5,6,0,0,6,0,6,1,0,0,1,21,12,9,0,2,4,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,8,1,0,5,3,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,6,16,10,4,16,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,4,12,55,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291416579077382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247496551416129,0.0,0.22905266586325546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11775799523816123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433067056845376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737898806905975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16473982399731302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155669747842955,0.09571275314009617,0.14125648603923874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128834057583198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194325511614068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255515236096057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468336465870552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383861556981204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626539240638209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3797197703229527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662871102680097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269543677344518,0.1296522358478574,0.0,0.0,0.3576098834896916,0.0,0.13449450794955534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19279211749737465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963546840969383,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BiglandBowler,2019/04/08,Stressed in discipling I am a new parent and I am having difficulties in disciplining my 4 year old kid. He doesn't listen to what I say and he just ignores me even he sees me that I am already angry.,3.2885714285714265,4.205258333333337,5.603333333333335,79.82500000000002,72.80952380952381,8.457142857142857,28.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.1315142857142857,158,6,33,3,3,56,32,42,0.244,0.7559999999999999,0.0,-0.8402,1,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,7,0,3,7,0,5,0,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,3,22,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922416692417601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347676351135743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3432903596834396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37297904395738973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946788769451755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.282663606645239,0.0,0.0,0.28324312043425504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071602919693062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288945020580429
parenting,10216throwaway,2019/04/08,"My 10 year old is suicidal and no one cares A week ago my 10 year old son confessed to having feeling of wanting to hurt himself. He told me he's tried to smother himself with his mattress, and shortly after this extremely tearful conversation, I found him writing a list of his belongings and who he wants them to go to. My husband and I took him to the ER. The doctor at the ER was okay, and then brought in a counselor who was utterly useless. They discharged us from the hospital at 11:30pm with a referral to a children's intervention program and said to call my son's PCP in the morning to schedule a med check (he's on meds for ADHD).

My son's PCP just left the practice and his new one doesn't have an opening until May. The children's intervention program has a 4-6 week waiting list; they say we can use their emergency response services in the meantime if needed. I'm so horrified that no medical professionals seem to care or take this seriously. He's a little boy talking about wanting to die, wanting to harm himself, not wanting to live anymore. I'm disgusted and frustrated and scared. I'm lucky enough to have a really understanding and accommodating boss who has agreed to let me work from home in the afternoons so I can be there with him in the afternoons instead of him going to the after school program. 

He's seemed okay since that night, but I'm so scared for him and I don't know what else to do. I'm doing everything I can to keep him safe, but no one whose job it is to help is willing to do so. I'm absolutely devastated. I have nightmares every night of finding him dead. I spend all day thinking about what the quickest route to the hospital is. I'm an emotional wreck and just trying to keep it together for my son and he things as normal as possible for him. I can't believe this is happening.",5.715339025615267,6.017934104972376,6.571471622300353,77.2557358111502,67.06629834254144,9.786238071320945,35.79156202913109,9.688023934748609,3.4050674033149164,1454,70,280,29,22,483,187,362,0.14,0.8029999999999999,0.057,-0.9847,1,1,0,0,0,1,30.0,2,0,4,1,10,15,3,2,24,2,26,2,0,2,1,51,60,25,3,8,7,5,1,0,0,2,2,2,2,3,14,18,0,4,9,0,2,4,7,9,2,3,7,3,36,6,50,49,2,34,1,2,0,0,48,12,0,6,18,185,50,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274698442643808,0.0,0.09402046322388576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518824834936502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194992394371544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083045006082327,0.0,0.21628122554620705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840332530290881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100790058621071,0.0,0.0,0.10856229934812676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860392401137351,0.11930915399990315,0.0,0.10959377808742746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936456546507651,0.0,0.09532462654259326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05362978797639149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694173625717692,0.0,0.0,0.11629509517849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055867569020574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379316895376977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109331546290064,0.0,0.10639211495368034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354506641390025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052534154336425,0.18855137272903374,0.0,0.0,0.058290699153800425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524022740028825,0.10845892584863766,0.0,0.0,0.10630526599548368,0.09365757759311563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356292109916737,0.1068496020075991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864605457749142,0.0,0.10243849976944586,0.0,0.1990701437503604,0.10392144589525286,0.0,0.0,0.22259531985500347,0.0,0.215617718078194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957265657304204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794812862747675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089236152521584,0.08434736073235519,0.21237967922802647,0.10734371691461213,0.0,0.1931156785652044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773828830777974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601819150068532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974788388642637,0.08525124723455052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07046505316355985,0.06796234299727191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134991186984474,0.11784241884705456,0.1440227135484797,0.0,0.0,0.11041768781482564,0.12758346166905032,0.09160633954358832,0.0,0.0,0.3128002247759125,0.0,0.17015832544662787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721678059700247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366051142124826
parenting,c0nsilience,2019/04/08,"Almost 19 year old bringing me to my wits end Hi all,

Here's the story, in a nutshell.

Several weeks ago my better half got into a small tiff with our 18 year old over cleaning up his room and keeping it somewhat tidy (this has been an ongoing issue for years).  The room is filthy and he is content to fill it up with trash, half-rotting food, plates, utensils, etc.  It's just plain nasty.  Based on this, I sat down with my better half and we came up with some guidelines and expectations because I felt that with just verbal rules there is a lot of ambiguity there and I want the kiddo to know exactly where we are coming from.  After we came up with some guidelines, which were all common sense things like picking up after yourself, keeping your room clean, doing your laundry, etc.  We decided that we would sit down with him, have him read it, go over it thoroughly to let him know what the expectations are and for all of us to sign it as a contract for the month of April.  Why the month of April?  He turns 19 in may and this is a last ditch effort before some real consequences (i.e., asked to move out) are put into place.  Anyway, we all sit down and I feel like we've had a very adult and meaningful discussion.  He responds favorably and with maturation so I'm feeling good about the situation.  I let him know, in writing and verbally, that there is a zero tolerance policy with this.  What I'm after is for (a) him to take on a little responsibility and to show us that he can handle it and (b) to respect himself, his mother and our house enough to follow some very basic and very simple rules.  


A week into it, and none of the guidelines have been followed.  His room is back to being a cesspool and his mother jumps him about it, yet again.  I am worried that at the end of the month, should he fail to take on any responsibility and follow any of our rules, that his mother is going to backslide on what all of us agreed upon: his living somewhere else.  I am 100% committed to following through and making sure that action backs up the words.  That being said, I do not want unnecessary tension created between his mother and I if she doesn't want to follow through.  


I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.",5.803068121809544,5.944803361556069,6.1942906178489725,80.58892228480904,66.87185354691076,8.82834008097166,29.16467171272663,8.502166056373571,1.96730565041366,1747,54,346,23,26,564,216,437,0.032,0.865,0.104,0.9773,1,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,12,2,0,4,15,11,0,1,25,0,31,1,0,2,8,89,66,24,0,8,4,4,5,3,0,3,0,1,6,1,26,43,1,3,9,3,0,16,3,2,0,3,11,6,43,9,71,48,15,75,0,1,0,0,45,33,0,10,27,250,69,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321919768136182,0.0,0.0940075325207275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768360998376313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776538243238169,0.0,0.0,0.1443762702431843,0.0,0.05722854310952541,0.0,0.0798851977894302,0.0,0.0,0.16605894489452014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21474804484612825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086954253821926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842492171186853,0.0,0.166300113630051,0.09700341787922533,0.20940264124612848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240606058032118,0.1341361717051028,0.09013978455770456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352039886586032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670864533581244,0.07874231894720067,0.0750846305149898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08409828472236719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832523053732444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979866142436562,0.0,0.1668902005180006,0.0,0.0,0.15478242872449094,0.07652495260021905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919978796320785,0.0,0.13759547806576072,0.09409269686729678,0.0828980011034331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798136509894613,0.0,0.0,0.06266581127880543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22480301492744365,0.09977987304564817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19702310848914695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19616980795971412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437560435930632,0.0,0.0,0.09390567842362424,0.1068563037820717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930163807333086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605798663261458,0.0,0.0,0.105525360380663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08848104635846499,0.0,0.14117256363673816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06236988191477241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021147787211768,0.0,0.0,0.3387792280567646,0.0,0.0,0.2323831717066155,0.16611905226470702,0.0,0.15061018460154732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471234431994426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533997437821752,0.0,0.06668985244540936,0.0,0.0,0.18136745364990184
parenting,sentry5588,2019/04/08,"Help needed i [34m] am on my parental leave. my wife [37f] freaks out that our 4mo baby not going to sleep according to my wife's schedule. Baby sleeps well in general, 10 to 12 hours a day. But in day time, baby's sleep is not consistent and not according to my wife's schedule. 

My wife is losing it and freaks out when baby refused to sleep. I told her let baby choose since baby is very happy and grows very well. 

I cannot do this anymore. I don't know what to do. . . Suggestions? Thanks",1.2475247524752469,3.2755413267326747,2.952960396039604,91.88052970297028,81.27722772277228,6.02019801980198,20.000990099009897,7.1686216300943375,0.4009477227722775,378,10,82,5,10,125,60,101,0.086,0.78,0.134,0.7902,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,1,0,9,4,4,0,0,14,14,5,0,1,4,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,3,2,0,1,0,11,4,11,12,0,14,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,0,7,46,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577126668938366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21560024164614985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949971346284932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793791253874364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203940689543887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164612437794127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091863142381091,0.0,0.0,0.17699132553487398,0.0,0.1709256861278186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18700190896118013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239421350960433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560407989497105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827102759266344,0.0,0.6690965024759705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389240163043116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746849724827354,0.0,0.0,0.15972224590830902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27583813699489473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005819787824472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,angelacos16,2019/04/08,"Adventures in potty training Good morning everyone! My husband and I just put our 23 month old daughter into pull ups because she is showing those signs of wanting to use the toilet ( pulling her pants down & saying potty).I have  3 questions that I would like advice on please and thank You! =) 

my 1st question is how do I teach my daughter that she doesn't need to completely take off her pants & pull up every time she sits on the toilet? I try to say ""No No we keep our pants/pull up on our feet"" but she just starts screaming and wants to get off the toilet. 

My 2nd question is "" she's really good at going pee, but is still struggling telling me she has to poop. She'll say potty and go pee but as soon as I put her pull up back on and we go to the living room...she poops. Any suggestions on how to get her to go on the toilet? 

My 3rd and last question is that she's kind of Turing this whole potty training thing into a game.....she'll say potty and then go pee but as soon as we get out into the living room she goes "" potty potty."" I'll take her back in and sometimes she'll go pee more or not at all. This is constant...it'll happen 3 or 4  times with in the span of 20 minutes....eventually I say go play or the bathroom is broken 😂😂

Thanks again for all the help and advice =) ",2.5431538734896932,3.842472011194033,3.6528144989339033,91.60405472636816,75.15671641791045,6.000284292821608,22.83653162757641,6.18269132825596,0.32655167022032705,1001,27,219,6,21,324,136,268,0.052000000000000005,0.835,0.112,0.938,0,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,6,1,0,0,10,10,0,1,10,0,14,7,7,3,2,42,35,23,0,4,10,3,0,1,0,3,0,6,1,0,7,17,0,1,4,2,0,13,4,2,0,0,0,6,34,8,39,32,4,51,0,0,0,0,37,24,0,7,14,136,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921599031263021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130655348768125,0.0,0.06686290997452865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120840585500092,0.0,0.0599366970653825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308963807922968,0.10625207155843984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284124217641564,0.09395169718638996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541088937814886,0.0,0.3911539925327726,0.16493708420749742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694657198136535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06590373413372726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739386718690921,0.0,0.1023881184683596,0.0,0.08014624613392715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048035578275515606,0.0,0.17364175670008306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848036121476462,0.0,0.0,0.0729051478017836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317329191653367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079289640516557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19768324341301036,0.4405763792078308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298813573107796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3909513855411296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09724381325374228,0.0,0.06959341964916695,0.0,0.0785207554184791,0.0,0.0,0.10278839152268224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785309429326088,0.0,0.08593850509247239,0.18104494129851725,0.0,0.0,0.06532133294351118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466568963648538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06675476140840614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491937402181005,0.0,0.0,0.11598672936478505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10977395127235498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984573197513827,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jailguard81,2019/04/08,Should I be worried? My son is 8yrs old and he is in 2nd grade. He has a hard time making friends and he tells me he plays by himself during recess. He tells me no one wants to play with him and he asked me today if theres something wrong with him should I be worried? I make him play soccer and hes also in the cub scouts. But even still he has hard time making friends. Need some advice. ,-0.14240963855421285,2.028620120481932,1.1530240963855434,101.5791746987952,88.7590361445783,3.3200000000000003,15.528915662650606,3.1291,-1.3468785542168673,302,6,71,0,10,95,53,83,0.136,0.718,0.145,0.4329,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,3,0,16,15,7,0,5,2,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,12,5,6,11,1,7,0,0,0,0,18,2,0,2,5,41,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886347000095747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15437258297886947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18046466364690544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749991396709845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982816770159467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34584863063512616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38656350286981306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14313538319910582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025611238665504,0.0,0.13080768373120633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486102413787241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541605600535153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374477997469585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22512425968233946,0.0,0.18297764719222828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385893489151755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920793354150876,0.0,0.0,0.21105697377280366,0.0,0.0
parenting,not_sauce,2019/04/08,"Question about 'bad dreams' in 3yo - Am I being insensitive? I have a 5yo pink princess girl and a 3yo boy who loves batman and the color black. He asserts things opposite his sister so I appreciate it as much as I can if it's not negative (ie, not being hateful).

 


Sometimes in the morning, I ask him how he slept, 'did you have good dreams?' He often says ""No, I had bad dreams"" I don't want to give him ideas by leading him in what a bad dream is (ie: Was a bad guy kidnapping you? Monster eating you?) So he just says his dream had 'bad guys'. Part of me doesn't believe him because he never really expounds on what the dream is, and he doesn't make a peep all night! [He feels free to yell for us if he spills his water or is too hot or whatever]. 

 

So Can I safely ignore his so-called bad dreams? Is he just being grumpy or playing opposite the norm? He seems serious and I don't want to discount him if he has an issue.",1.8418591892715632,3.5587235181347125,3.6335019811033256,89.23300822919843,78.06735751295338,6.8209692167022276,23.27003962206644,7.724431198458867,1.0116573605608048,721,23,157,11,17,242,111,193,0.13699999999999998,0.6920000000000001,0.172,0.823,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,3,0,1,9,14,1,0,10,0,21,4,1,3,2,28,31,16,0,5,10,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,4,6,4,2,2,4,8,2,1,9,9,0,0,5,8,23,6,13,23,3,7,0,0,3,1,36,4,0,9,2,99,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889962902574727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467587629776432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6681123877065537,0.08129650397093176,0.0,0.0,0.15025379810107994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13646306735749225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743205540689873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279334020038259,0.0,0.1118580850943588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640995603383095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166779675262116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054995881382238,0.0,0.13919573592345494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036480650744524,0.0,0.08902046249402266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803673631620433,0.0,0.10285733320231157,0.0,0.0,0.1251516132148693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444185235536642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14939645123711315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854353922939262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21211032588208828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214081542023086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189886058798886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860007746566045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041859162409114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573212416775916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Murmaider13,2019/04/08,"Not sure how to handle bipolar spouse My (27m) spouse (23f) has been unmedicated for bipolar and abusing me/our baby. I have been working with cps here in ontario but they only seem to care if she says yes to therapy and will not enforce it. I want to go for couples counselling even though I am worried and thinking about a protracted legal battle over my biological baby that she is currently carrying. I guess the current child ""billy"" is her concern and not mine. But I love him. I'm doing my best and can provide more detail but I need some help here.",3.7152777777777786,5.6340947870370375,5.041851851851857,80.28833333333334,73.35185185185185,7.022222222222222,29.592592592592588,7.793537801064563,2.0659370370370365,439,19,80,6,9,146,81,108,0.128,0.716,0.156,0.7494,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,2,6,5,1,0,2,1,10,3,0,1,1,21,19,11,0,3,7,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,1,15,4,10,16,3,5,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,4,2,59,17,3,0.0,0.29550634580416196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617371124034511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25428691587939994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759639468103846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647308788266437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14174366612888298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2747497746826361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671721609959159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22509942865591245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493202647698773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18968515574362985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983383455409124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2270506382895081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350630139535544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852184804485484,0.0,0.0,0.15980984528887868,0.2450409736552388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471066279447477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157116451102331,0.2532847728405554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Azarius_978,2019/04/08,"15 Month old daughter is biting kids at crèche. As the title says, my daughter is biting kids at school. She's still really little so talking to her about it seems pointless. What can I do as her father to stop her from biting the other kids?
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parenting,BellaBeeBloom,2019/04/08,"Breastfeeding Sculpture Design Hello, I am an MA design student who is currently studying attitude towards breastfeeding in our society. I am creating ornamental designs for the home which celebrate breastfeeding in hope that this will help normalise societies views. The aim of this project is ultimately to raise awareness and support for breastfeeding mothers.

If you are a mother and  have a spare five minutes I would be very grateful if you could complete this questionnaire, to help with my project.   
Thank you! 

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parenting,UncleViper,2019/04/08,"Baby Monitor - Two Cameras + Vox? I know this has been asked before, but looks like at least not for a year.  I'm wondering if anyone has any recommendations on a baby monitor that supports at least two cameras and has a VOX mode? (e.g. the monitor turns the screen off and is silent unless one of the cameras registers sound, in which case the screen lights up and it displays that camera's video/audio). ",7.769025974025975,7.097938857142861,7.701915584415584,74.13001623376627,63.02597402597402,10.816883116883119,33.535714285714285,10.125756701596842,3.198664935064936,320,11,59,6,4,103,56,77,0.0,0.907,0.093,0.782,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,12,6,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,5,1,2,9,11,2,7,0,0,3,0,1,6,0,2,2,38,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522959666336745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073851424159286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683884049872801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24429063285079503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15777598567950615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402566322015158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108150636729195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945381710038782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3257839133996845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122691638439655,0.5608862681334386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113345493055725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18487517611401608
parenting,alphager,2019/04/08,"First day at school (or ""time sure flies"") My eldest (6yo fast approaching 7) had her first school day today. Okay, it's not the first *real* school day (that one will be at the beginning of august), but today was a day to get to know the teacher and the school in a classroom-setting.

She was incredibly nervous (she is very shy and doesn't enjoy new situations), but entered the classroom without looking back at me when her name was called.

This was a bitter-sweet moment for me. It feels like we went from having an infant to having a school-aged child in a few weeks. I'm proud of her courage and independence, but I see that the time we have left together as a team is dwindling fast. Puberty feels like it's around the corner and if she's anything like me, she won't want to spend time with her parents.",3.8706041666666655,5.242310518750003,4.359999999999999,87.55166666666668,71.9375,7.083333333333335,25.208333333333336,7.492282038375204,1.084208333333334,633,19,130,7,12,200,99,160,0.065,0.8059999999999999,0.129,0.8884,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,5,3,9,0,1,14,1,14,0,0,1,1,23,24,11,0,2,7,1,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,3,1,1,3,4,1,0,4,6,4,15,8,17,15,1,32,0,0,2,0,16,8,0,2,24,83,21,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101020119099643,0.10927072288606757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438475313538032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253382606870846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166462619939441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12412899386873814,0.17538075241293036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132252310027282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413016442785406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745846022225316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333648147807284,0.0,0.0,0.17990373636757034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307644181437216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185496753725918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317644420889589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13629585398615776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971279125637565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6211318411610657,0.0978133496377955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797260550192264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156874561676538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472403101351534,0.0,0.2326993281898251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012790086967496,0.07239927407589518,0.0,0.0984601213852328,0.0,0.0,0.11378756234581265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832358592173818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ParticipTrophyWife,2019/04/08,"Toddler Storytelling or inappropriate touching? I have a 3 year old daughter who loves to tell stories about made up things that happened during the day (like a dragon flying over the playground and burning a tree with its fire breath). But today she said something that was a little concerning even though I THINK she’s just making it up.

She goes to preschool 3 days a week from 8:30-1. 

Tonight I was helping her get undressed before potty and bath time and noticed her panties were a little wet. A recap of our convo is below.

Me: what happened? Did you have an accident?

3yo: No! Uhhh.....maybe somebody licked them and that’s why they’re wet. Somebody licked my butt.

Me: No one licked your butt silly! It’s okay, accidents happen.

3yo: Yeah! Yesterday at school someone licked my butt and my vagina!
NOTE: yesterday just means “in the past” to her, not necessarily the day before. She hasnt been to school for the past 3 days

Me (thinking she’s making up a story so she doesn’t get in trouble for wet panties. but also becoming slightly alarmed): What? Who?

3yo: Uh......my teachers, a boy and a girl. One licked my butt and one licked my vagina. That’s why they’re wet.


I’m pretty sure she just made that up because she didn’t want to get in trouble for having peed her pants. And that’s mostly how it sounded, like she was just making it up on the spot. But it’s also obviously concerning if it’s true. 

But also- why would she even think about someone licking you there? We had watched a show about cats a week ago and she was asking questions about how cats take baths with their tongues by licking their fur. So it’s possible she remembered that and sorta made the connection? 

Soooooooo.....what do I do now? Do I tell the school? Who at the school? Do I preface it with “I’m pretty sure she just made this up, but here’s what my daughter said....”? What would you do?

Any advice is appreciated!",1.2435869565217388,3.8903234021739195,2.158660869565221,92.6950347826087,89.43478260869566,4.574434782608696,21.218695652173913,6.2581,0.329342,1484,51,294,15,50,464,180,368,0.039,0.856,0.105,0.9764,0,0,1,0,0,0,73.0,2,4,3,0,22,11,0,1,22,2,23,8,7,9,4,51,48,25,0,4,13,2,6,2,0,2,0,3,2,2,25,14,0,0,6,3,0,0,6,3,0,3,15,18,41,8,32,31,1,33,0,0,1,7,41,16,4,5,19,185,66,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871323532501151,0.07904061468743745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391896238971134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060636195131739165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335852746736014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435499681651556,0.098477259779372,0.15174804164492048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300197507315878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778710430876844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975725792417076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23654860250800985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05976634406676699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712437728748818,0.17873627252370194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08047613802522181,0.3374855337499774,0.1785577504242051,0.0,0.08957961213618805,0.0971283263764076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101516513091051,0.09356511500049956,0.0,0.1812643374647128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023879562709904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005216944404722,0.0,0.18142852597058498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988675077953584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010081250709623,0.0,0.16963528999491867,0.0,0.0,0.3609645422640181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110076655940646,0.06864463456478903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807651328575696,0.0,0.06704201985684513,0.0,0.1558706902257839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05923817991375072,0.17140264518729167,0.08760551430744727,0.0,0.05199363245154948,0.0,0.08451930101523697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05259264035273471,0.0,0.14304778105017554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413763633831037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668247417819614,0.0,0.0,0.057420224420140775
parenting,ceciliacloud,2019/04/08,"Daughter (11) does not believe anyone supports her Advice please! Had a conversation with my Daughter: 

“Will you tell me if you are sad?” I asked her. 
She shrugged. She is a taciturn child so I usually have to coax it out of her.
“Sometimes you will tell me but sometimes you won’t?”
She nodded.
“Is it because you don’t think I will be there for you?”
She nodded.

I was a bit shocked as we have always been very vocal about affection and love. She doesn’t talk much but she often displays her love for us through hugs and kisses, and I do so as well. So I did not realise that she feels this way till now. 

Looking back I had often prioritised work and admittedly neglected her while she was growing up. Her father is by nature distant. 

I’m now trying to right this wrong. I’ve been talking to her, spending time with her and doing acts of service.

but I’m am afraid she has grown insecure and she does not believe anyone is supporting her. 

Please advise on how I can do better... any tips on what I can do or say specifically will be helpful, thank you. ",1.1382692307692288,3.68096782692308,2.50692307692308,91.33807692307694,87.07692307692308,5.123076923076923,22.423076923076927,6.67199483983844,0.669571153846154,820,30,165,10,26,264,121,208,0.083,0.721,0.196,0.9833,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,7,0,2,12,15,0,2,3,0,31,4,0,2,0,26,43,19,0,1,8,3,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,6,10,0,1,3,0,1,3,6,6,1,0,7,3,40,9,19,29,2,16,0,2,1,4,44,5,0,4,7,126,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13727236522838368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168880038281164,0.0,0.0,0.09552908436078128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964493784670225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313269044226646,0.0,0.0,0.10801803693919668,0.0,0.08563339215189278,0.0,0.0,0.31653864032583034,0.0,0.12424037006557236,0.15336435179166324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458644998728973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102932306082704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415868050238436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796518536734048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535717078467285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10326665817338238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30840282350229936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996647390643783,0.0,0.11171284021156204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778704200406376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318822960026978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258199634810029,0.2455659409961569,0.1293322222812863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900119019461537,0.0,0.0,0.08191318881233148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537456919683536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689763703727283,0.0,0.15471541876212652,0.11590812434375965,0.0,0.11150399561438833,0.0,0.0,0.12630557091115371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10226882972492647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358939784815373,0.0,0.0
parenting,Evernight2021,2019/04/08,"Fear of ""breaking"" your baby My wife and I will be having our first baby in July. I've had pretty much zero experience with babies in the past and (whether rationally or irrationally) am deathly afraid I'll somehow accidentally hurt the baby while trying to care for it. 

I know people say they're more resilient than they look, but that really doesn't help when all of the babies I've seen look so tiny and frail. I want to be the best father I can be. How do I get past this?",6.6175,5.68760825,7.508416666666665,75.42825000000002,65.45833333333334,9.763333333333334,28.575,8.841846274778883,2.0043025,376,9,75,5,5,127,72,96,0.094,0.79,0.116,0.4846,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,1,1,2,4,5,0,2,4,0,10,0,0,1,1,12,17,10,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,2,4,9,2,9,11,4,8,0,1,3,0,7,2,0,2,5,52,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499279016964504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24281384757021654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23296028372635785,0.0,0.26798943033366085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025736477447932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442562143255904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15962958800954336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549487536788964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088319527825484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999787133631536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17507057247814706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546898297616532,0.16510597847367964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24228820840630236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525675333637201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18938959810397965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169091480729686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404693836126635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,valkadecavel,2019/04/09,"Remember, Don’t Take Yourselves too Seriously If he spills some lemonade, ten years from now he won’t kill 50 people in a car accident. 

It you ask her to do her laundry and she only does half of it, she isnt struggling to complete task and she wont become a jobless crack addict 10 years from now.

If your kid forgot to walk the dog, your kid won’t grow up to neglect his spouse and have toxic dysfunctional relationships.

Not everything is a big life lesson. Not everything imperfection in your child is your failure.

Sometimes he just spilt lemonade. Sometimes she just forgot to do the other half of her laundry. Sometimes he forgot to take out the dog. The world keeps turning, your kids will keep learning, and as long as you love your child, you have nothing extra to worry about.",4.120702116675272,6.360484167785237,4.481342281879197,83.3478471863707,73.09395973154362,6.732266391326795,27.568921011874032,7.61054688173877,1.689490036138359,627,24,113,8,13,197,88,149,0.1,0.843,0.057,-0.7822,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,9,0,1,6,5,1,1,7,0,12,3,0,0,0,21,22,8,1,2,6,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,3,5,0,6,3,0,0,3,7,4,0,3,3,0,17,1,18,15,2,14,0,1,0,1,30,6,0,3,5,75,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18346926877744965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573355744707505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18587152041234956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645687307479815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727839851066366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30251013307169666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29918134968839805,0.1861964027956825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887359996883247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893811498659668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518951904751859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16148612416360208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799793866219206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667639261705184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18068868124663065,0.19064841794951345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4993520066324359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759412341960191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25307776008846616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305950394995535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709144223279655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21675632403462766
parenting,speedtoburn,2019/04/09,"My first born leaves tomorrow and the sadness I feel is overwhelming Could really use some advice on how to deal with the crushing sadness I feel right now.

I am a father of 5, and my first born son is leaving our home to move out to Los Angeles tomorrow to pursue his dreams.

The pain and sadness that I feel right now is almost unbearable. We are a tight knit family, and him just suddenly not being a part of our day to day lives, is awful. I’ve tried to keep it together, but privately, I have broken down numerous times over the last week as I’ve watched this day slowly approach.

Everywhere I turn, I am constantly reminded of him. I look at the old basketball hoop in our driveway, and I can remember how big the smile was on his face when he and I put it together 13 years ago when he was a kid. When I step out onto the deck in our backyard, I see the old play set I built for him, and I can still see him waving at me as a 5 year old and telling me to watch him as he jumps off the swing. I am surrounded by so many memories like this, and it hurts so bad.

I also have regrets, and am questioning if I spent enough time with him, I feel like we should have done more things together.

This is the worst feeling I’ve ever had and as the hours and minutes tick away on him being a fixture around our house as a member of our family, I feel totally helpless, and overcome with grief.

Any advice from other parents who have been through this and can offer suggestions, feedback, etc would be appreciated more than you can know....",8.73063480209111,5.76976787378641,8.725954692556638,74.83738610903661,62.81877022653722,12.743938262384866,37.03783918347026,11.051253699011982,3.7294742842917596,1199,41,251,25,13,394,173,309,0.14,0.7929999999999999,0.067,-0.9745,1,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,8,1,0,2,14,14,0,1,18,1,29,2,1,3,2,48,43,29,1,5,4,3,7,2,0,2,1,0,3,1,11,22,0,2,9,2,1,5,1,11,0,2,6,12,41,3,39,31,8,54,1,8,5,0,31,19,0,4,31,178,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505294459806365,0.09754078879622093,0.0,0.11018573995350847,0.0,0.0,0.0879962131387537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482864760275515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09795588516262077,0.0,0.0,0.10338298893748656,0.0,0.09187594793103256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189104515902468,0.0,0.08785525524008131,0.0,0.0,0.2128934726829292,0.11344288211965345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260562505549827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113697201601214,0.12271987337204275,0.0,0.09953438617364482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074653889268275,0.0,0.333826805962536,0.0786101546203164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871941171905051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110375661408609,0.0,0.10836386595617767,0.12696743933532953,0.11779643454380966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780556803259767,0.0,0.0,0.0604732265720262,0.08969449895201917,0.0,0.2330257000343333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075166294898746,0.0,0.09716431595770864,0.0,0.0924030136404232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155982102833772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695147026200026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3463946411745853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170866790999316,0.0,0.12218259995525026,0.11915889297464285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11061715504124002,0.12326615246928235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07049225068982005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464999460353288,0.187941275898492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536981528860804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878753547961015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617682083418068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310341421924774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832642918479176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07470761471701612,0.11968820106091828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09503627520467306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826470703928425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816682921092015,0.0,0.0,0.14171989944523392
parenting,healthylurker,2019/04/09,"Feeling hopeless. Sleep issues for 3 years and it’s wreaking havoc on our family I am really struggling right now. I find myself wanting to reach out here because I need to know we are not alone. For the past 3 years, we have been extremely sleep deprived. 1100+ days of struggle and it is killing not only our marriage, but our family life. We do not know anyone else with this issue and it is incredibly isolating. 

My son has always had sleep issues. First colic and reflux, then behavioral issues then who the hell knows. We have tried it all — the most successful was a sleep consultant who helped keep us consistent with the Ferber method over a year ago, which resulted in a good month or two (thank god because we were adjusting with a newborn, his brother, so it helped). But it was a short phase and right back to awful. I honestly can’t even remember the last time we slept through the night. He is up multiple times, tossing and turning, usually awake from 2-5am (in addition to night terrors and waking a few times while we attempt to sit and watch a show before bed).

This whole time we have struggled. My husband and I never argued before our first child, but sleep deprivation over 3 years has really hurt our marriage. We are resentful, irritable, burnt out and just don’t have the energy to put love and excitement into most aspects of life. It’s affecting everything - jobs, parenting, friendships..

The worst tease of all is that our youngest, now 12 months, has slept through the night consistently since 6 months old. I can count on 1 hand how many bad nights we have had with him.

I can’t imagine what our life would look like with a little sleep. At this point we are scheduling appointments with an ENT and sleep specialist for a sleep study because we are at a loss. I almost want to find something wrong so it can be fixed. 

I guess I’m posting here because I want to know someone else has gone through this and got to the other side. It saddens me so much to think that we aren’t enjoying any of this because we are so sleep deprived. I just want encouragement it will get better.",5.0954767241379315,6.5583972425000026,5.188310344827587,82.43200000000002,69.075,8.717241379310343,29.29310344827586,9.130062681391069,2.414431896551724,1667,62,315,32,29,522,221,400,0.168,0.706,0.126,-0.9761,3,1,2,0,0,1,47.0,22,0,0,6,13,28,5,4,21,1,35,17,13,3,3,74,58,25,1,6,9,4,2,1,0,2,3,0,1,2,22,37,0,1,11,1,0,2,8,18,0,3,10,4,39,10,39,45,8,53,1,6,2,1,42,18,1,5,32,204,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058662423225739224,0.0,0.06626727741660818,0.06854000481436212,0.0,0.0,0.05506503994015943,0.0,0.0,0.04500301719164065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04627289592272102,0.06780674136929833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088646673324177,0.05525550703773915,0.2017061633625512,0.0,0.11262447638917815,0.0,0.0,0.05852868314785367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04267905816855976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105657366830747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04370966110789543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947613311329133,0.0,0.12477264742388135,0.0,0.03346136800332726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209702008596735,0.1125812151359544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0345750491509422,0.0,0.0,0.055506606270627055,0.05292824847799598,0.0,0.07290205471122803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871486093989286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084445782090883,0.0,0.0,0.27628876006364034,0.06567102724669716,0.05882166523943845,0.07321567661515234,0.0,0.14547784797621666,0.05394355247153618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022952521183993,0.03233101813497115,0.06632731100358555,0.0,0.0,0.055572491881655486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05972784102296338,0.0,0.0,0.06709366939634204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584669159463599,0.0,0.04864812872641668,0.04906982991216871,0.05104022200354412,0.0,0.0,0.2484126672825331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694422278600604,0.0,0.0,0.05033102435808424,0.0,0.0,0.0734823603320478,0.0,0.06317397908662938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255919450083931,0.0,0.06337981926475322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665267366108059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479009233235453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496628670693979,0.1130305670520671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054742770087792235,0.0,0.596028267370349,0.0,0.05607204063818055,0.050946726830755316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20754949579184692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060927415579284175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042403914973543434,0.0,0.0,0.15435469392426662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04493022628585571,0.07198219321797186,0.06464587029518919,0.0,0.0796034689513561,0.0,0.07288524428924945,0.0,0.15613298247396207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07388489400455442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701064727869753,0.07235478449379823,0.0,0.17046474246038942
parenting,brittleporridge,2019/04/09,We’re still trying to figure out what to do with our first born So this might be a little bit of a ramble shamble mess. It’s my first post and I’m stressed out. My husband and I recently moved to a new state and are expecting our second child to be due in about 7ish weeks if I make it to full term. Which isn’t likely as I’ve had some never ending recurring infections that can influence my due date. Our closest family members live about 6hrs (drive) away from us. We are currently trying to figure out a birth plan not only for our second born but on how to care for our first born while this is going on. He will be 3 in a couple of months so he is no where near old enough to go with us to the hospital and I am terrified of scaring him with the “trauma” of labor. He’s incredibly empathetic and he has a melt down if I so much as stub my toe and say owie so seeing me in contractions or with an IV and  hooked up to monitors will end horribly. We have a couple of friends here that are willing to take him if they are available but we are military with weird hours and working spouses so it’s not a reliable option at all. I’m a SAHM and we have never once hired a babysitter as we honestly love doing everything together as a family. Plus before moving we had a close community of friends to lean on that have since been scattered literally all over the world. My mother (gag) has offered to fly down in a few weeks to stay at my house and just wait it out till the next one is born as she works from home and would be able to work here but we do not have a good relationship and honestly I just can’t stand the trampling mess of our boundaries she makes every time we see her for more then a few days however this is looking more and more like our only reliable option. Which is causing an incredible about of stress. My husband is trying his best to be supportive and find a solution but it seems our only option is to have a terribly toxic person (my mother) in our home for a month or have my husband miss the delivery of our second born while staying home with our son. The second option is more terrifying to me as we had a short ish delivery (11hr total) with our first that included a lot of scares and required some medical intervention. Not to mention being alone for that going smoothly is hard enough (seriously women who have done this alone you’re incredible) but my husband would miss out on something he is eager to be apart of. We don’t belong to a church or have an interest in joining one. Especially it just to use the resources so selfishly. I’ve recently joined a mommy group for my area and met a lot of wonderful women on our group play dates but haven’t made any close friends. My own fault really I have an extremely low tolerance for using energy socializing and anxiety like crazy so it’s hard to create a deep bond quickly enough to depend on anyone there. I might start asking around with them about babysitter options they use as references tho? Maybe we could try and find something there. I don’t know. Basically I’m at a loss on what to do in this situation and it’s a weird one to be in. I’m not sure if I’m looking for advice or just letting it out but. I mean. man. 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parenting,guidedredditation,2019/04/09,"Do small children really need to snack all day? I’m pregnant and keep seeing parents mention how to manage carrying snacks and water around. I don’t remember my parents carrying snacks or water on them. We didn’t snack at home. If we were out for a very long time and my parents were thirsty or hungry we would get a snack or drink, but my parents weren’t snackers so that wasn’t very often. They also thought this was a waste of money as eating out , even at Starbucks, is expensive. I picked up after them and don’t carry snacks or water on me. Does anyone else think this is weird or is it just me?",3.781891643709826,5.080548933884297,4.573994490358128,86.21533516988062,72.05785123966942,7.03067033976125,25.841138659320478,7.3871296695380915,1.2400185491276399,475,15,94,5,9,153,77,121,0.054000000000000006,0.946,0.0,-0.7278,5,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,3,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,3,0,13,11,0,2,1,28,20,15,0,3,8,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,10,11,1,3,1,2,0,5,1,0,0,7,1,13,0,14,12,1,13,0,0,1,0,12,9,0,7,4,65,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308350314562758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11439657045213712,0.16763287690351766,0.0,0.14564332781423533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551182905786467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14317202630453116,0.0,0.0,0.16027082570303391,0.0,0.1674089791976728,0.136671163905339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805970161710088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547697236601393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16410937036156115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14541983244172446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14478546706266884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131119400861788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7266569202630636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048096901838668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18533281584813446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037217444566088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483161578688904,0.0,0.12988426595891575,0.09539951663936776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699828732660879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622045078828624,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IKnowCodeFu,2019/04/09,"Singing ‘Old Town Road’ with my Toddler So yeah this song is great and my 2 1/2 year old toddler got the ear worm too. She asked me if it was a cowboy song and when I said yes, she started singing the hook. 

How terrible of a parent would I be if we kept singing it and playing percussion with her?

Possible concerns about the rap lyrics include ‘defiance’, boobies, and fashion. 

Lil Nas X and Billy pulled a sneaky one by keeping it clean as far as I’m concerned.",2.16274154589372,4.376812206521741,2.890144927536234,92.54857487922706,79.1086956521739,5.828019323671497,28.700483091787444,6.937597516519254,1.4063294685990342,361,17,75,4,9,113,70,92,0.052000000000000005,0.804,0.14400000000000002,0.8313,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,6,2,4,1,1,1,0,14,11,12,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,4,8,0,2,0,7,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,4,9,2,7,5,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,5,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25719842175272883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22003719383574388,0.30331883743943283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24453773794181696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5773806385594774,0.0,0.18642724358837812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054862541051723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101544850600068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617004533659936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473011052647474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954361084120691,0.0,0.0,0.17716713030146095
parenting,agoodgrief,2019/04/09,"16 Year Old and depression My oldest child has been an extremely easy child.  He is on the honour roll, but never seems stressed about school. Good grades come relatively easy to him. He's very witty and has a great sense of humor. He's handsome.  He has played on basketball teams the past couple of years and won the sportsmanship award this year.  He recently got his license and his first job.  Overall, he has always seemed very laid back and happy.

He is the oldest of 4 and keeps out of trouble - no drinking or drugs ... but also not a ton of socializing. I know he has friends he spends time with at school, but he spends all of his after school time on video games. He seemed content with that until now. 

Yesterday he asked to stay home because he wasn't feeling well. I let him stay home yesterday though I suspected he wasn't sick.  I leave for work before he goes to school and get home after he is home. That had never been an issue until today, when I got an alert in the evening that he had been absent all day. That was the first I had heard of it. 

I went to check on him and he was in bed. We had a talk and he was very upset.  We agreed that he has lost his xbox for a few days and he put up no fuss about that.  He couldn't articulate everything that he was feeling except that it's been building up. He hasn't started dating yet and that is hurting him. He also feels lonely socially. 

At his age, I had a significant depressive episode and was on medication for a while.  I told him about my history and that it was important for us to watch out for signs of depression for him.  

I know that we need to talk more about it.  But should I also arrange for him to talk to a therapist, or is my own history making me overreact? I feel like skipping school is a huge deviation from his typical behaviour and I'm really shocked he did it.  

It is so hard to know he's feeling lonely and sad.",2.8115772251308897,4.532039513089006,3.954630235602096,87.97184064136127,75.33507853403142,7.4975130890052375,23.717604712041894,8.278499904357787,1.277939528795811,1482,45,314,26,32,482,181,382,0.132,0.7070000000000001,0.161,0.9493,1,4,2,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,0,8,15,24,0,2,17,0,35,4,0,1,4,53,61,30,0,3,8,0,6,1,1,1,3,1,5,2,18,23,1,1,12,6,3,3,9,12,1,2,25,8,33,12,49,33,6,50,0,8,1,0,57,14,0,5,32,198,51,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20023949087447315,0.06944911530680335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780280014153284,0.0,0.0,0.06417901629696864,0.0,0.05087915894615503,0.0,0.07102210636385985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189724017314801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235183532742104,0.0,0.10765534121668313,0.0,0.2156634462841572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176339365075948,0.0967922731414816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05512748737860517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750124730877621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21101068911525853,0.05962702551724337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198965078121573,0.0,0.0,0.06448443325698659,0.0,0.04360673446948609,0.0,0.0,0.07000602747891063,0.13350830347276926,0.0920198596699543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884946762342763,0.07476776033419813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348866268528022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935042860949606,0.0,0.0,0.08711520947086203,0.08282559585044208,0.07418704528665272,0.0,0.0,0.1376096501019349,0.0,0.0,0.08837680977242154,0.0,0.08534806325953206,0.0,0.040776518256993036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111131550695843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571317386923668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408166059220601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188783807945725,0.1287458709577289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758190850411801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967626942148377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390483339138786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346946906479574,0.0,0.08241108311003308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4223524375728775,0.0,0.2279487237444029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016300813649354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907657300624791,0.17792401399143473,0.0,0.0,0.09560825471427728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012567094408437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690866883376567,0.0,0.0,0.08200340627476471,0.0,0.09733759339993404,0.0,0.07911454700086641,0.07975386647003345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039746634220392,0.0,0.0,0.20660075702162284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504457147714896,0.07737238881908763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060763119526811675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612451235086017
parenting,theNeckbeard69,2019/04/09,"My daughter grew up to be such a disappointment how do I get over this? She was a top student all through highschool and was offered full scholarships to any college in our state. Rather than further her education she got with a gangsta thug kind of black guy and chose to get knocked up at 18 and live the ghetto thug life. Then, after he held her hostage in his mother’s basement and pistol whipped her for over a year she decided to come home with the baby and get her shit together. She went to college for 2 years then decided she didn’t want to go to school anymore so she quit and chose to collect welfare and food stamps and free healthcare and all that shit. Now she has decided she is a lesbian and chose a gangsta thug lesbian girlfriend to live with and they are raising my granddaughter as “ gender neutral “.  They have all become fat because all they do is lay around the house all day posting on social media while slamming ramen noodles and cheetos. My granddaughter is fat now too and is confused af because she doesn’t know if she is a boy or a girl and its like wtf? Is this normal these days or something?",7.859228523769808,6.8999586926605545,7.078540450375312,79.6112885738115,62.990825688073386,9.578648874061717,38.16680567139282,8.296473431620573,3.052269724770642,897,40,171,9,11,276,134,218,0.077,0.883,0.04,-0.8818,0,0,1,1,0,0,10.0,1,0,3,2,8,7,2,1,11,0,16,8,4,1,5,37,26,23,0,4,4,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,1,3,5,19,3,1,4,0,2,4,2,4,0,0,6,1,23,4,28,19,6,28,0,1,1,2,28,12,2,4,11,116,28,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742551693225195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17124806951855218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537181389785473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21052322248001126,0.19070693849673204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14874497733628791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22272330969647486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20880035457760332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706480546994228,0.0,0.09813567960125448,0.0,0.13810467221299602,0.0,0.0,0.1709762652212419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320798267598134,0.0,0.0,0.19924477690234865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798153526887765,0.09489814554018364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196607779313692,0.08436071077808091,0.0,0.3049519240083795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16918569583962606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537575710854302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836620491323648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17475720515393722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3544986104213847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17602130991246556,0.0,0.13293432546160305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184870549404404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16007226694144935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2223952053802805
parenting,Oofthedooff,2019/04/09,"My kid takes food into her room to die? We’re on the waiting list to see a developmental pediatrician so I’m not looking for a drive by diagnosis but some feedback or hearing others stories may help

We think our 11 year old daughter is HFA for a variety of reasons but tonight we are cleaning her room and finding so much food in various states of decomposition. She hoards food wrappers and old food, not to eat it or anything but she just doesn’t throw it out. Her whole room is always really really disorganized in general 

Anyone have any thoughts on how to address this? I feel like we have talked this to death with her and she honestly stays pretty emotionless and her go to response is always “ I don’t know”",3.4685618729096994,5.868760014492757,4.7108695652173935,80.1951672240803,75.66666666666666,7.724414715719062,28.73132664437012,8.617729084823388,2.396703901895207,574,25,107,12,13,189,94,138,0.077,0.8190000000000001,0.104,0.6128,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,4,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,9,5,0,2,0,29,20,12,2,0,8,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,5,1,5,10,5,1,6,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,1,4,15,2,18,18,4,18,0,0,2,0,17,9,0,4,5,70,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373264742218481,0.0,0.0,0.09697992965267946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997164739488802,0.0,0.11735616847666315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800703006746835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459259927722904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210807891449274,0.10188086393778206,0.0,0.0,0.13034327809048335,0.0,0.6897800146819301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104874947783658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073223126779776,0.0,0.0955887128240834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837491985635876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967221444235566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197567783145913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483501765074403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2992911494851921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508599729410498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827196864294547,0.1466271935392903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364198669057865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15200366028222626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072252365994373,0.11462479892432208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137895518472733,0.0,0.11321668972830375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15921936505822407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918363910005875
parenting,glitterfartmagic,2019/04/09,"Fisher Price Rock and Play What are your guys opinions on the Rock and Play? 
I let my LO sleep in it until he was almost 9mo but I clipped him in each time. Now I am seeing all these articles about children dying in them.",0.8836956521739125,3.0965399782608722,2.1066956521739115,96.34482608695652,84.0,4.549565217391304,17.895652173913042,5.6839178017228535,-0.4895860869565212,173,4,38,1,5,55,39,46,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,0,1,7,5,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,2,6,3,2,7,0,0,1,0,6,4,0,2,3,27,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40602491312691824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4208193150106429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4014842670232369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146259363896126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231112939282554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40576810039342937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364358912669971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,nilt_war_carnivore_,2019/04/09,"Question for parents I am currently 16 years old and I have a consistent income that is deposited into an account that is joined with my dad which was set up when I was little. My parents are very controlling when it comes to how I use my money, my dad gets a notification on his phone whenever I spend more than 50 dollars. I currently have to consult my father before purchasing things as simple as a shirt. Is this a common practice or is this excessive? At this point I have no motivation to work because I'm bringing home money that I can barley use and it's extremely frustrating. Please let me know your thoughts on this.",4.8718089990817255,6.441175611570247,5.939283746556473,76.42690541781451,69.74380165289256,9.34471992653811,31.626262626262626,9.725611199111238,3.2178697887970618,503,22,90,12,9,167,83,121,0.048,0.909,0.044,-0.1065,5,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,3,3,1,1,0,5,0,13,1,1,5,0,14,21,8,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,11,5,0,1,4,0,7,2,1,1,0,0,3,0,16,0,13,17,1,17,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,7,66,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057715840285247,0.0,0.18227236897906304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451832760742884,0.0,0.0,0.2402487143338081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191308174490797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148647158644704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772126643666647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21903875391121788,0.0,0.0,0.21468931962637347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247717331976572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4756977994592465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351323667344445,0.20249261881026814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23995821622277524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423080425927687,0.0,0.0,0.1700545547097196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3700080617062012,0.0,0.17674125866422416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594352673755324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794076310860698
parenting,FatherDaughterTrip,2019/04/09,"How would you talk to your child about your SO's infidelity? I need to tell my 14 year old daughter about my wife's infidelity. I am wondering if anyone has advice on how to broach this topic?

I am hoping her mother and I can work things out, but at the moment divorce seems likely. So I want to be proactive and talk to her about this properly.

Any input appreciated.",2.559765166340508,4.8009176575342485,4.318238747553817,82.67739726027398,77.90410958904108,6.911154598825831,21.38747553816047,7.957251820313856,1.0620818003913897,291,8,57,5,7,98,52,73,0.0,0.8340000000000001,0.166,0.9062,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,3,0,1,7,2,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,2,0,13,11,8,0,5,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,2,11,9,0,6,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,4,4,41,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777963241985931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933209823064605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987760433006407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823554019114277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888544757353746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21079092719128767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983053257582377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25879895157248306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4569889626460091,0.2484743219933816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888638148566605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767643274766028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30829086330323763,0.20696011852356505,0.0,0.0,0.20194522674067444,0.0,0.0,0.18306778921470626
parenting,nas_deferens,2019/04/09,"Almost 3yo daughter hates new pre-preschool and it’s killing me. I live in Tokyo and starting last week we switched our daughter (turns 3 in May) from her usual all-Japanese daycare that she was enjoying to an international 2-5yo preschool. International in our case means that there are kids from various backgrounds attending and they incorporate a lot of English (but not 100%). Every morning now she dreads going and tells us she wants to go back to her old daycare and play with her friend there or go with me to work (or anything besides her new school). Fucking heartbreaking. I can’t help but think the worst that this is warping her psyche and causing life long trauma that will end up with her making bad life choices and ending up in the streets and it’s gonna be all on me. Am I putting too much on my daughter at such an early age? Is this too harsh of a transition since she liked her old daycare (she didn’t love it though but was able to enjoy herself and seemed quite comfortable). 

FYI: My two main reasons for sending my daughter there is 1) it’s very important to me that she learns English from a young age and 2) I’m American and from a very mixed background (and, accordingly, so is my daughter) but when she sees people that aren’t Japanese she stares like they’re aliens. It’s quite sad because a lot of times I’m thinking “you (my daughter) don’t know but you’re late grandpa/ma look just like that”. 

Any advice is greatly appreciated.",4.091604995374657,5.993520719858161,4.255568917668828,86.39021739130438,72.29787234042553,7.032007400555044,29.636756090040087,7.7425588080867325,1.8256911501695967,1161,49,227,15,23,360,166,282,0.101,0.769,0.129,0.8236,1,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,1,1,3,12,19,3,1,9,0,16,4,0,3,1,40,36,22,1,1,9,6,0,3,1,3,2,0,0,1,14,16,0,0,7,1,0,6,5,9,0,1,3,3,34,10,26,29,7,36,0,2,3,2,34,10,1,7,23,139,48,4,0.12398993057417775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116152515155675,0.0,0.0,0.12415800516167515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843174045863293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102033148235789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09534060316988076,0.10352641296657844,0.07558311084509059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12737181329795785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963655265512388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446686415060064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579431279128857,0.11462669286870385,0.0,0.0,0.21139900468312975,0.0,0.0,0.1366993361809382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241438672738734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310783686830607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717648754378087,0.0,0.06814162322675138,0.1010683421335418,0.1398660423089088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515550956483947,0.1817256513157088,0.0,0.10948538029783134,0.10972718682257393,0.1041203140203325,0.0,0.0,0.21082361010457865,0.11190575323328808,0.0,0.08276424145585344,0.0,0.0,0.13506138328896994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114686543628084,0.0,0.0,0.239500495157404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26021314957257524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595900607193377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12464412647566728,0.0,0.26375710677573433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748229912403086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254844292475374,0.09880392163719236,0.11287577605861185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256575184754872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08776071103307337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10837266439924187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588954820359334,0.1218194772578671,0.0,0.0722995256184119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13486543985985122,0.12112014572941388,0.0,0.14914462000324608,0.0,0.13655739136200906,0.20460935599938831,0.07313247352097918,0.0,0.09945724334928564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902661461709474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hookachic99,2019/04/09,"Heard a horrible rumor So I (38f) heard through a pretty reliable source that my boyfriend (35m) former gf & mother of his child is planning on filing papers to have her current husband adopt their child. She’s planning on doing this behind his back as in my state the child can choose at age 13. This September.. should I warn him? I don’t want him blindsided, as she has often let her visit & even spend several nights with him (us). Granted, he is several thousands of dollars behind in child support (pre-my involvement) but honestly doesn’t do much to help them out financially. What can I do?",5.32,6.622274815789478,5.700833333333335,79.57125,68.38596491228071,8.857894736842105,30.91666666666667,9.188382445141503,2.730056140350877,475,19,86,9,8,152,84,114,0.03,0.83,0.14,0.8862,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,1,0,2,2,4,2,0,0,3,0,13,0,0,0,0,7,17,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,18,2,16,13,1,13,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,1,5,61,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5127363555021895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18193943704741927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15627949130743962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15859552542483954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24195102197694845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393648492621086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22204361858016095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407186925405288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.534606700943822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685036291566383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28461418639959074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955943868515058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ecstaticmincha,2019/04/09,"family visit to area with measles outbreak Hello Parents. I have a 13-month-old daughter in excellent health. In about two weeks we are supposed to visit my husband's family for a major holiday. The area where my in-laws live is the center of a measles outbreak, and has had over 400 reported cases. Needless to say I am \*very\* worried. She had her first round of the MMR vaccine on 3/18; the earliest she could have the second is 4/18 but in general the second dose is not administered until 15 months. Adding to my sense of dread is the intense pressure from my in-laws that we be there for this holiday, particularly this year, as it is the first time we will be celebrating it together since my father-in-law's unexpected death several months ago (unrelated to measles). I expressed my concern to my sister-in-law, and she said not to worry as all of the kids who will be there have been vaccinated. Of course there's no way to know that for sure, particularly since my husband comes from a cultural background that has openly opposed vaccinations... hence the measles outbreak. Plus it's measles. It's highly contagious, even in the air. Ugh. Why do people suck so much??? Any advice would be appreciated. If the advice is to NOT go, it would be helpful if you include constructive ways I might talk about this with my husband and his family, not just FUCK THEM IT'S MEASLES. Thanks in advance!",5.473248292486943,7.031699217557254,5.956597026918441,76.91731016472481,68.27480916030535,9.027239855363598,32.491763760546405,9.414487439383343,3.0587679389312967,1113,49,200,23,19,359,148,262,0.096,0.773,0.131,0.8776,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,3,1,1,4,9,8,2,2,16,0,28,3,0,0,2,28,35,11,1,5,8,5,1,0,0,5,2,2,0,1,13,11,0,1,1,2,0,5,5,5,0,5,4,3,23,3,34,20,3,30,0,0,1,1,26,14,2,3,9,139,36,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674738551707721,0.12131715222260747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306874122989472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11789181914306135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927069080591566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039400895219864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870551563091349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23282421119047786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652384248513368,0.0,0.0,0.0777800635572118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454746048530466,0.0,0.0,0.0917336320018411,0.14459893592508594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521406914965377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084891105682312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518565924309246,0.0,0.0,0.3277183912115733,0.0,0.10060703451231023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361038744610746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519656059855376,0.0,0.0,0.09488072518049064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018414887093865,0.10883568587803656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546115952474972,0.0,0.2264221832866232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289878882392733,0.0,0.0,0.11000199513262587,0.0,0.12600128231864294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07980352186878259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336912533767152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129229208379236,0.0,0.2172644401100371,0.10977994982324328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349386508563175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779737009440593,0.0,0.19444126370458809,0.0,0.0,0.08813264084776498
parenting,Egg-With-a-Bum,2019/04/09,"Just tryna find tips, I’m just a kid, it’s about my dad So my dad always gets mad that I don’t talk with him about things much and even sometimes he asks me questions like “oh what did you do in school today?” and I tell as little information as posible and the reason this happens is because when we are in an argument he always says something that makes me wanna say something but every time i say something RELATED TO THE ARGUMENT he always gets furious and starts screaming “ what are you talking about!!! we’re talking about...” and then we we argue about something, so I lose my trust in him every time and my parents blame everything on my personality and the GODDAM PHONE and I really wanna say “WELL I DONT KNOW WHY I DONT TALK TO YOU ABOUT THINGS HAVE, YOU EVER THOUGHT OF, OH I DONT KNOW STOP GETTING MAD ABOUT STUPID THINGS THAT I DONT CARE ABOUT!!!” but I can’t because I’d be dead If i did that. So please give me tips in how to speak to him calmly and not make him mad or just sort things out.",1.9281527093596047,4.108442246305419,3.016775862068968,91.51206034482763,79.73891625615764,5.636354679802957,21.480049261083746,6.742157984588678,0.39626719211822703,788,23,165,8,20,252,110,203,0.245,0.672,0.08199999999999999,-0.9927,1,0,4,0,0,1,17.0,3,4,0,1,19,14,7,0,5,0,14,0,0,4,1,37,28,21,1,3,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,6,0,2,12,14,0,1,7,0,0,0,7,9,1,0,3,6,30,5,24,24,1,15,0,1,0,0,35,7,1,4,9,112,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25097051136132564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399076973693693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257577347041025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025066216898582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4713257249153648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640532729780373,0.0909436457646475,0.16941756606886058,0.0,0.09035833236150244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189119267635587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575830649570906,0.09644655635454484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890666180345806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050765282295666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049118473735688034,0.10076689419082956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11247787467896336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13422166405581304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07390802922331173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163710870280256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778712848401525,0.0,0.11036207278873164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262714058818148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440811585157702,0.1033712508270574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198118736490085,0.0,0.10175124311193222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30960057654960843,0.09943604009232307,0.0,0.07116230673039879,0.0,0.0,0.08405544254420574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232390542190137,0.08787586944530415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671756470308922,0.0,0.0,0.0798170554125595,0.11725066850428807,0.0,0.0952995980304542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039699735703052,0.0,0.09072117306600253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,barrbill,2019/04/09,"Really really worried at this point. Would like some help/advice. So we have a 3 year old son and he’s been an absolute angel growing up. My wife and I are first time parents and have no intention of producing any more. 

Needless to say he is spoiled. On top of that, he has no siblings or even cousins his age. So when he turned 1, we put him in this preschool/play school so he’d learn to interact and play with other kids. But he was always drawn more towards older people and just made best friends with the teacher. He was also delayed in speech and we had him in speech therapy for a year. He is all caught up now. 

He costs me about $3,000/monthly in between memberships and toys and clothes etc. This is what I am trying to control now. He has too many toys despite us donating so many of them. He knows all the spots for toys and it’s one of his daily requests or rather demands. We are now starting to say no to that or at least offer it as reward. 

Reason being that in the last 2 months, he has become aggressive. Although he has never been around any kind of violence, he has been pushing/shoving other kids who play with toys that he wants to play with. I am seriously concerned about this. He barely even watches any tv so I have no idea where he picked this up.  We saw his pediatrician today and he has suggested some therapy and we are expecting a call in relation to that soon. 

Any other parents who have gone through something similar? How do we encourage sharing and playing with other kids?

He has seen a psychiatrist back when he was delayed in speech and we were expecting some mild form of autism but he was cleared of that. Subsequent screenings also did not put him on the spectrum. 

Lastly. Potty training. We are struggling with that too. He will actually hold but he will not potty unless you put him in a diaper. 

I know we have fucked up as parents and I blame myself a lot for that. I am almost depressed right now given his behavior. My wife is also completely lost on what to do except just rely on therapy. 

All advice and help is welcome. 

Thanks.",3.1669301119301103,5.23156456756757,4.185260032760033,85.19278494403495,75.31449631449631,7.175784875784878,26.784671034671035,8.07648339933343,1.7677213213213216,1637,63,316,27,36,530,206,407,0.087,0.83,0.08199999999999999,-0.63,3,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,11,1,1,7,28,19,2,1,11,0,41,1,0,7,5,73,55,36,0,5,13,7,0,1,1,3,0,5,0,3,23,32,0,4,5,9,2,6,7,6,0,2,17,9,33,13,52,33,13,53,1,2,4,1,68,24,1,8,24,228,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.09580950803930882,0.0,0.0,0.19188070073844116,0.0,0.0,0.0983130783592778,0.0,0.0,0.23554350865947615,0.08169361708433298,0.0,0.0,0.26706304094858346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740100686176414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549435236218346,0.0,0.0,0.10843208583513406,0.0,0.0,0.10303384274676557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025274742417054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293985202788823,0.0,0.11011720769681403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456228190473739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094966420532907,0.1296939154612382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08351184971626611,0.0,0.0,0.07585361707092085,0.09076581911404888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316159560982691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083325870159492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102239351703286,0.10791431023873907,0.16005959224100552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04796578406799048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10717505742432636,0.08346911692567671,0.0,0.09290028085082586,0.0,0.19907820070244472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673266336106734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572246123471726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302338431875746,0.0,0.06652930244287572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32705178170811905,0.0,0.0,0.06806564336009696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928118255468404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960940236741641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579323184133068,0.1009453820305938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838451753926927,0.0,0.15615333811443516,0.0,0.09936339190870376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755837532840222,0.0,0.0,0.06949230256579349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263904317325756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039094430297537,0.3368321266306559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057249541970376475,0.0,0.09306315105580766,0.0,0.0,0.06665776880754046,0.10679163650893447,0.0,0.0,0.11809843992056945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057909102119620665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970654606587584,0.0,0.06974424828976955,0.0,0.0,0.12644938977681755
parenting,Sakurablossom90,2019/04/09,"Unsure what daughter (6) is on about? So I was talking to my daughter today and she asked where she got one of her my little pony toys from 
So I said oh a friend got me it to give you as a gift but I don't talk to her anymore

And then my daughter said ""are you sure it wasn't a boy as I saw him in your bed""

I didn't really know what to say to that as I have been single a very long time and haven't had anyone in my bed, I just told her not to say things like that as it's not appropriate. 

But I'm worried if she's been saying this kind of stuff to people now, even though it's not true and I shouldn't pay mind to what others say but if she has said this to her dad in the past (who she no longer sees) and to her school teachers it won't sound good.",3.944637122671807,2.3387810231213884,5.070828516377649,92.9440976236352,71.13872832369944,8.151316634553629,23.84649967886962,5.82211442006289,0.2137532434168272,579,8,156,2,9,193,99,173,0.08,0.8490000000000001,0.071,-0.3359,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,0,0,8,6,0,0,5,0,14,0,0,0,2,19,26,18,0,3,9,4,0,1,1,2,0,8,2,1,16,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,10,0,0,1,13,10,27,6,22,11,1,12,0,0,2,0,33,6,0,2,7,108,43,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911926896024338,0.10513700726744783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405687084626222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931306147843644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161697510439896,0.0,0.0,0.14424148137493162,0.0,0.12611699247465458,0.2405173712999427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657948154489296,0.08263533789560122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734595581460328,0.1507027999859876,0.0,0.13306614562503488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182333535470968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188957099689876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353808997468034,0.10424247582549008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632611462920214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4290877193147096,0.4782974131999859,0.0,0.15217495152707236,0.1198195033119575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721291723541458,0.0,0.0,0.14171494574883614,0.0,0.0,0.2417114813689525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099894212327742,0.0,0.14773046471128626,0.0,0.08767762560172836,0.0,0.14252613793504795,0.14367788231457485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240648701113786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270049183151316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sharleena88,2019/04/09,"To brat or not to brat In Costco I hear a father and daughter.... 

Teen daughter : we need new popcorn dad 🍿 “ 
The dad :  “ why is there something wrong with the one we have at home ?” 
Teen daughter: it pops kinda funny 
The dad walks away.  
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parenting,punkcore329,2019/04/09,"My 6 year old son told his teacher he wanted to kill himselfad today. Background, he is in first grade and we've had issues with him being able to manage his anger. He isn't violent, but he does have full blown meltdowns in class over anything. We've had him in weekly play therapy for the last year and it's helped immensly. 

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Today he started to get angry in class and told his teacher he wanted to die, for someone to please kill him or he was going to kill himself. When asked why he said ""I'm tired of being angry, I dont want to be mad anymore. I want it to all be over"".

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All i've been able to do is to hold him and let him know how much I love him. I have no fucking clue on how to proceed. 

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parenting,cerjcarter,2019/04/09,"My parents are trying to parent my son So I'm a second time mom, and my children are 12 years apart. I live with my parents, which is why I'm having this problem. Plus, they basically raised my now 14 year old daughter from when she was a year old.

To give you some background information, I was married to my daughter's dad and when we split, I moved back in with my parents temporarily, or so I hoped. I worked full time nights as a practical nurse at a nursing home. I've always had issues with depression and anxiety, and one night at work I became so overwhelmed I just left. The nursing board restricted my license to the point that it was basically impossible to find nursing work anywhere.

So, for about ten years or so, I drifted in and out of severe depression and also jobs. They took over raising my daughter and made most all of the decisions. 

Well, I'm not depressed and anxious like I was, but I still have limited energy as a side effect of messed up serotonin and dopamine levels in my brain, so I get tired easier than other people. My parents say I'm just lazy and don't want to take care of my son. 

My mom also gets upset if she tells me to do something for/with my son, and it doesn't happen for whatever reason. For example, I'm usually really tired and the end of the day, especially if I worked that day, so giving my son a bath is kinda a big deal. My mom throws a fit if I say I'm too tired to bathe him. 

Am I overreacting, or am I justified in that my parents are trying to tell me how to parent my own child?",5.397339743589747,5.163586105769231,6.525128205128207,79.15320512820514,67.75,9.625641025641023,31.115384615384606,9.2995712137729,2.5348,1203,43,246,21,18,406,168,312,0.118,0.7829999999999999,0.099,-0.711,8,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,1,2,6,20,11,0,2,13,0,17,4,1,4,1,44,34,34,0,6,10,18,0,1,0,0,3,2,3,2,8,18,0,2,5,2,0,4,3,7,1,3,7,2,42,4,36,27,5,40,0,4,0,0,35,17,0,10,20,163,50,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126033160669869,0.06556817141527031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060282022322813975,0.08902192195167109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605925752003184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08796720804032937,0.0,0.0,0.08034216895487367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163936337391193,0.08123966065729832,0.20361177750787446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06979368648308779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202205677800683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08233982039726133,0.15118487758180071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696828548836465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07904313704056344,0.07826648916250338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224705184837831,0.07819714970165623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856167686012485,0.0,0.0,0.038497851657017496,0.0,0.06958211840983575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456275969596993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276869916009062,0.0,0.08375225999138285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14789750781808372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537534176801752,0.0,0.05339713018472054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6124889407944547,0.0,0.0,0.054630213847899095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449176452227943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540125552980566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048149710239112,0.08101984400726531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253303404350975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902192195167109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060664329337018624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293003025297947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05924802714443725,0.0,0.13774989037082985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189819022174847,0.27170809692395825,0.0,0.0,0.08755004509661735,0.1070004773278783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678740987738805,0.0,0.04647846514574098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708509432360931,0.0,0.07110502418376201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22947026001756746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029792671729489
parenting,tri_nisvx,2019/04/09,"How do I handle my toddlers tantrums? My 18 month old has started throwing tantrums when she doesn’t get her way and I’m not sure how to discipline her. 

This evening we sat down for dinner. Our table is beside the back door. My daughter grabbed my hand and started to pull me in the direction of the door while saying “bubbles bubbles bubbles”. I calmly told her that it was time to eat dinner and afterwards we could go outside to play with bubbles. She rotated between tugging on me and my husband the entire time we ate. We ignored her behavior. She was screaming and stomping the entire meal. I didn’t think taking her outside after we were done eating was a good decision because I think that would be rewarding that behavior, so I took her in the living room and tried to get her to calm down. She screamed and thrashed for a good 15 minutes before saying she wanted to go to bed. 

We are first time parents and really struggling with discipline. I understand that she is only 18 months old and doesn’t fully understand what I’m saying or why she can’t always have her way. 

Can anyone give me some advice? Should I have taken her outside after we were through with our meal despite her still screaming? Advice on how to handle tantrums in general would also be appreciated. Thanks.",5.210851548269584,6.813112553278687,5.413879781420769,80.39168488160294,68.95901639344262,7.717304189435335,31.998178506375226,8.167268648758528,2.4948495446265944,1029,45,179,14,18,325,132,244,0.086,0.813,0.101,0.6989,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,9,0,0,2,9,16,3,1,8,0,24,8,1,3,1,40,45,17,0,5,2,3,2,0,0,3,0,6,4,0,7,19,7,3,5,1,0,5,5,8,0,1,12,8,41,8,26,27,1,32,0,0,0,0,34,8,0,2,17,129,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533529700639576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10366796880997016,0.10786556669811533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064284974443557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968026133116112,0.0,0.0790234589541686,0.0,0.11030867300740252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350190690205546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132660213544343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652951375606647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562179144352514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026630129932674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545644475458354,0.1243563923207732,0.14734756113939868,0.2174610804741755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11446887220320315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2069446568401324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2720573804738942,0.0,0.0,0.09859221877948726,0.0,0.0,0.14394280741728446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304662422613385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092696022406783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835107041393015,0.0,0.10352558610451512,0.0,0.0,0.1355212188218676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221781641679823,0.0,0.09746835828628386,0.0,0.0,0.11934923167318127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612799423411145,0.0,0.0,0.22677124021087594,0.0,0.0,0.12387049086445658,0.14402773517934092,0.08801272686744831,0.0,0.0,0.2699063657264082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646127494469619,0.20579428653322704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697418981061368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18417602584407536,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GloryHal,2019/04/09,"My brother is a slacker, computer-obsessed and disrespectful with my parents but we can’t really give him an ultimatum due to the fact he’s on the spectrum. My brother is 19, has been diagnosed on the spectrum when he was a child and thus attended a mixed specialized classes and regular classes with support in high school. He was well surround and managed to have quite good marks. Never really made friends though and he doesn’t have much hobbies aside from the computer (and the odd bike ride alone when he’s being forced out of the basement by my parents.  
  
When came the time to pick something to do out of High School, he didn’t show any interest in any major and never really made the effort to try to find something he might like. That’s after being dragged in school/job fairs and having many sit downs with him to trying to look through flyers to see what he could like.  
  
After many rounds of filtering, he picked a subject but yeah…didn’t show much more enthusiasm than that (“yeah, that seems fine”).
One year in - He failed half of his classes last semester, is on the same path for this semester. Doesn’t attend his catch up classes. Bails on meetings. Doesn’t keep up with the school notifications, aka doesn’t attend an exam because he didn’t check his mail that said the classroom moved.  
  
My parents try to keep checking on school, making sure that he does his homework - and all he does is lying compulsively about it, to avoid having to do he. I corrected his work, he’s not really clear in his writing but he could definitely pass is english class if he studied a minimum. He can’t go play online during the week now, so he chills on his phone instead. Once he got his phone taken away, he just lies on his bed doing nothing - even if we propose him other activities - I tried taking him snowboarding with me he’s not interested, once in a while we’ll cook together. Once in a while in the summer, I’ll manage to take him on a hike. And the only time we really have fun together is when we play video games and watch stupid shows (I still have to force it on him).  
  
To top it up, his reaction to my parents trying to check on his stuff and making sure he does his home works is being unresponsive (nothing new, monosyllabic answers or none) and specifically targets my mom (saying shit like he wishes she died so nobody would annoy him. But hey! After me sitting next to him to make sure he sends CVs for a month he got a job as a grocery bagger.  
  
A lot of approaches have been tried and never gave much results. He’s gonna fail his classes and only have that job, if he keeps it (he’s a good employee but everything has to stay within a known scenario with him, improv and adaptation are not exactly his strong suit). My parents told his they were gonna charge him rent if he’s not in school, I’m not sure he realizes they means it, or if he gives a shit.   
  
Other radical solutions to shake him up and to force him to start taking interest in himself worry me, and I honestly don’t think they could ever be enforced. It’s not like my parents are going to kick him out or send him to the army. That seems to be the go to answer for regular lazy teens - but here that’s the kind of situation where he would just become unresponsive, depressed and not power-through.  
  
I love my brother even if it is really hard for me to build a relationship with him. He’s in a perpetual shitty teen phase where he doesn’t really wanna get involved with me as a brother (I’m 10 years older and must be an adult figure to him), anything we do as a family, and doesn’t friends to look up to. I don’t want him to be isolated, to live a shitty live, to be unhappy and I really don’t want to see my parents suffer through that either.  
  
Any advice will be welcome, I feel we are running out of options.  
  
PPS : No he doesn’t have a hidden hobby that nobody knows about. He doesn’t watercolor in secret and just doesn’t want to share his gift with us - He plays Fortnite, has a waifu screensaver and goes on 9gag.  
  
PS : Sorry for the next great American novel above, I’m trying to give the most detailled picture of the situation.",4.53565037748502,5.65359968187423,5.425531832046207,81.50596253271901,70.06041923551172,8.453250264996647,27.914876587275835,8.791512727339544,2.0629468968351827,3246,111,633,56,57,1063,349,811,0.13,0.755,0.114,-0.9666,13,2,2,0,0,0,85.0,8,0,3,8,22,40,4,2,45,1,66,5,2,9,14,126,113,51,1,17,26,12,3,4,2,8,1,2,4,2,22,44,1,4,13,11,4,16,28,10,1,2,16,10,70,30,108,77,11,89,0,4,6,1,122,41,2,15,33,394,92,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240447361740309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05554223611030098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10940624588387553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04413111685524438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050385091228474836,0.0,0.0,0.032691014191578216,0.05922770095751356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061335926097601065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845232360758413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046189552717392425,0.05443109658002322,0.05565719828867775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14079016933534802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084132322813178,0.048509422868029374,0.0,0.0,0.04819721616964202,0.0,0.05055552492368941,0.0,0.02711583121781503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049014845247359856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286542334439805,0.0,0.028018316436775183,0.15433404105468151,0.0914337579508424,0.08996092251568284,0.08578211460100522,0.05912484798660071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04803998267236495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113321447704901,0.05379306428099891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15965197452879726,0.1430005802295498,0.0,0.05584510988730064,0.029472440959839075,0.04371382138237972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047993531837456,0.0,0.09470867449270183,0.0,0.09006770494658359,0.0,0.0,0.045592444878154934,0.048401190770865084,0.10148785778164744,0.10739093542473263,0.10874036082172064,0.0,0.058416404782321726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05689062988659021,0.0,0.06280824094699533,0.04280520495537723,0.05699787323829723,0.11826782881174053,0.0,0.12408321545882033,0.05179407144360254,0.11406756506772972,0.0,0.0,0.10291465685040208,0.0,0.0,0.1713355968893609,0.036339590810692136,0.08157272956550025,0.0,0.0,0.4168313429494698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703977531704892,0.0,0.0,0.2748427777846332,0.0,0.0,0.05757619647992016,0.0,0.0,0.05101232634909637,0.04264698563219258,0.0,0.32564523038176524,0.08546884001758015,0.09764148513496028,0.0,0.0,0.11009634915958584,0.0,0.12055980691919688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825706137122381,0.0,0.06003194083177366,0.037958038743936516,0.057160108253480786,0.04282723699170128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061391010176332465,0.0,0.060856201353997975,0.20217429869947687,0.0,0.12096431336224063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03436253417023626,0.052689049383130085,0.0,0.06254161258009129,0.0,0.0,0.05124366901120184,0.0,0.25486833135365183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450765038126705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489321237278124,0.0,0.04301699304822849,0.0,0.0482178401132116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06166933294557515,0.0,0.0,0.07808336631027106,0.05446164249643886,0.0,0.07619131273548907,0.0,0.0,0.06906910059213067
parenting,lasermouse54,2019/04/09,"Sick day So, today I'm sick, but my 3yo son is not. He does not really understand ""mommy doesn't feel good, no we can not wrestle."" However, he DOES understand ""Let's paint! How about finger painting now? Want some popcorn (leftover from last night) and sliced apples for lunch?"" And the ever popular, ""Today you can watch extra episodes of Stinky and Dirty."" Best part, we snuggled on the couch. To you other parents out there who beat yourself up for taking a ""sick day"", don't. All things in moderation. Enjoy every minute, even the low key ones. Hope this post bring a smile to a face or two out there.",2.1197725752508383,4.7318549304347854,2.8408695652173925,90.45093645484951,82.30434782608695,5.625418060200667,20.150501672240807,7.010146845296331,0.4922508361204008,467,13,91,6,13,146,91,115,0.132,0.685,0.183,0.8421,2,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,2,0,2,8,6,0,0,6,0,6,6,2,1,2,21,14,7,0,2,5,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,4,7,1,0,3,0,0,1,6,1,0,2,0,3,5,5,12,13,5,16,0,1,1,0,9,6,0,3,8,56,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20287114479397675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24934310987089034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383408154711329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768209163615127,0.17486360484562286,0.16287540530120542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774538048065692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16214263411385235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19200444747634016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15757673327295782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197676690019086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141211887490385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13099458769196112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146523497950992,0.2093402529112799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514140091978784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238419157757076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453480900658687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128429249712751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664781879334334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883971473844535,0.4024934393552204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402162170999434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,KitchenEffect,2019/04/09,"Son is afraid of going in the potty. Are we training too early? My son is about two years and four months old. He's shown more interest in the toilet in the last few months, has been sitting on the training potty for fun, and has even pooped in there once by chance. We thought he was ready for training. 

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He's at the point now where he knows he has to go, and he associates the training potty with having to go. Problem is, he's terrified of actually going. He'll tell us ""Poo!"" or ""Pee!"", but when we take him to the potty, he screams and refuses to go near it. He holds it in, visibly uncomfortable, until he has an accident on the floor and bursts into inconsolable tears. It's a cycle of fear, pain, and embarrassment that's heartbreaking to watch.

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Could we be putting too much pressure on him, or is he simply not ready? I don't want to throw away the work we've done, but I also don't want to leave him scarred.",4.798672014260252,5.316862160427808,5.316377005347594,84.70240864527631,69.10695187165776,8.586274509803923,28.417557932263808,8.59863814320734,1.8579130124777188,732,24,153,11,12,235,110,187,0.18,0.75,0.07,-0.9816,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,5,0,0,1,9,10,0,4,11,0,17,3,2,0,0,25,28,13,0,4,5,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,12,0,2,2,0,0,7,3,8,0,2,4,2,11,2,28,21,3,32,0,1,1,0,24,15,0,2,9,95,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.14011738505201113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482416576651495,0.0,0.3111466596025639,0.3489408342428029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13490200357233084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464023315684985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469364021066065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483595450740397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161572049368521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4080108103732529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891007515736259,0.1170402185349884,0.0,0.15203484703602915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292149431910217,0.0,0.10555084633075353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066737639473218,0.15291239756370326,0.0,0.0,0.1527836229591152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13573340019856064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373906076454943,0.0,0.14434169487552473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795738604051804,0.0,0.12549884619406226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398974967887535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140260817837791,0.0,0.17271401261765215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937926361926564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045309465965083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489408342428029,0.0924634631757055
parenting,Mommyof3boys1girl,2019/04/09,"Claim Your FREE Portable Safety Harness worth $45.99 I can only recommend this i take it every where with me when me and kids go out for food etc 

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parenting,castaway000,2019/04/09,Scary parenting.. Went to a famiyl bbq and friends of our family showed. I'm a little cautious around people and typically an introvert unless around someone who I connect with right away (which is rare). Anyway I felt comfortable around the other guest whom I just met that were also parents. They had a 6 and a 3 year old ..the night was going good until the mother confessed that she pinches her kids when they act up. Anyone else find this disturbing?,5.867857142857144,7.425176738095237,5.743809523809524,78.81785714285716,67.33333333333333,8.457142857142857,28.285714285714285,8.841846274778883,2.2872285714285714,362,12,62,6,6,113,70,84,0.096,0.795,0.109,0.2773,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,2,0,7,4,0,1,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,9,7,0,0,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,7,7,0,0,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,6,1,8,3,10,3,0,15,1,0,0,0,15,7,0,0,5,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559948678566188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639525815297632,0.19986901206752256,0.0,0.5209524870448615,0.0,0.0,0.18327170139123908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295330016677265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838916401972389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729474061785306,0.0,0.17828754226478846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070814354554896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086097081283294,0.1636127962278743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955082025130969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830569991721306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046898169396824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4331972446210501,0.0,0.0,0.13523477384661392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658600099279694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527948609011728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082889918778505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561663847825486
parenting,DiligentWait,2019/04/09,"My 3 yo just asked me to swipe a dollar bill... SO and I rarely use cash, because it just seems easier to carry/use our debit cards...

My 3 yo has a little wallet with a couple dollar bills in it and last night we were playing store when it was her turn to pay, she hands me the dollar bill and I pretend to put it in the register. She puts her hand out and says “mommy you’re supposed to swipe it...”

Anyone else have this issue? Lol. 

Guess I’ll have to start using cash...",0.1496969696969721,2.233604373737375,2.103838383838383,96.00909090909092,86.07070707070706,4.4080808080808085,14.050505050505052,5.565023196281405,-0.9996949494949496,359,5,81,2,11,119,67,99,0.029,0.861,0.11,0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,5,1,5,2,2,2,0,13,12,6,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,7,0,0,1,2,11,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,12,1,10,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,2,4,46,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519428815675849,0.22265197515550947,0.0,0.0,0.20314839823919448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246551822661826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404409581292936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18152826075901796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393830782391704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22680723516264426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713044842073175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21779407922393867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20392356979252946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368978366435117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17280758007277974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19782393187653408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380774801342625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363625971747948,0.0,0.0,0.2613880159012442,0.3753589849973927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MikeTheVike,2019/04/09,"Neighbor kid possibly did some penis stuff with my son, weird situation My son turned 3 in February. My neighbor situation is pretty weird, but that story is for another time. Anyway, they have a family temporarily staying there with what looks to be a couple kids. One is 5 years old and I have let my kid play with this kid in our backyard. He seems nice enough and they had fun. Well the weather is nice so my wife was home with the back door open and our son wanted to go over and play with the neighbor kid. So she allowed it while cooking in the kitchen. It only takes a lean to see outside the back door and see them in the neighbor's yard/deck, but kind of hard to see through the railing to see exactly what they are doing. My wife said she heard the mom yelling at the kid and looked out to see her dragging him inside the house, then she could hear more yelling, some cussing, maybe some spanks. So my wife called our son home. When he got inside he said that the boy touched his penis to our son's penis. He made it sound like the boy's penis was ""out"" and maybe my son's was out as well, but my wife said it didn't look like he had to pull his pants up at any point when she called over to him. 

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Where my wife and I agree is that this is not appropriate and should definitely not happen again. I'm going to try and talk to the mom about it the next time I see her outside as well. We were glad our son told us what happened, and he has never done stuff like this around any other kids, so doubt it was him starting things. And he's younger by 2 years.

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Where my wife differ a little is that I think this was probably an ""innocent"" incident. I think boys will do dumb stuff, and dumb stuff with their penises sometimes. It's not ""sexual"" yet at these boy's ages. I'm not worried about my son, he is smart and we explained things to him. We'll make sure this doesn't happen again. My wife is more worried this was a form of ""molestation"", and our son might be affected negatively by it. She is also speculating that maybe there is some type of abuse situation going on over at the neighbors. I guess that could totally be the case, but we don't know enough to speculate, imo. 

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Anyway, after talking to the mom, I guess we will decide if they will be able to play with each other again or not. And if yes, we'll make sure to keep a better eye on them. Any thoughts from other parents of young ones?",4.771093627065304,5.13730581300813,4.89398636244427,88.2430409126672,69.12195121951221,8.055704169944926,26.64332546551272,7.831003766801068,1.23019084710202,1908,53,417,21,31,596,217,492,0.054000000000000006,0.8140000000000001,0.132,0.9907,2,0,0,0,3,0,66.0,13,0,7,1,25,24,3,1,24,1,45,4,2,5,5,75,85,34,0,6,12,20,2,3,5,7,0,8,11,11,33,33,2,1,7,4,0,4,10,6,3,2,20,20,53,18,55,51,11,49,0,0,10,1,88,23,2,12,24,275,86,1,0.06557033887324314,0.07769012942363379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0524365763070216,0.0,0.21313630432248215,0.23902541628668675,0.13377023680960198,0.06875621749176196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05837150331631143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10083908635610488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057991636216314736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390929438592936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104705160166501,0.07255233279546584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850704818731794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06710122220273224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550337622497635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061813879878976685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179540395214917,0.0,0.05244258996138403,0.0,0.14446624146849427,0.0,0.17395090234871793,0.0,0.0587381443033186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739025374172183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13154479233701435,0.0,0.0,0.07565936741750608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05828192996562325,0.0,0.06828141770088335,0.036035743432228894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705011402426843,0.0,0.09610306646315232,0.06571870549709022,0.0,0.0,0.16518771102506444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062044240066329935,0.08753742071983117,0.0,0.19762265595220035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955976754978126,0.0,0.23038556520781936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05057188762221482,0.0,0.06973479927096997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068805040529239,0.0,0.08886431718843524,0.04986919742573318,0.0,0.0,0.0728081015922967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06198516444174248,0.07392070495512712,0.0,0.06670860759642919,0.0706959155037282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711722317490773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31350642396949463,0.05969277386049996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22111142454908603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485074177486108,0.0,0.046411023343163535,0.06988925682768116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002494017749318,0.0,0.0,0.1235985367898916,0.0,0.04930073450332046,0.10540590925204173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712403912125173,0.08402965107146616,0.0,0.05205552478742866,0.07646918379937047,0.0,0.0,0.06265526874852415,0.0,0.0445179559448468,0.07132169969729077,0.0,0.0,0.0788730442016281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038675084736338766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686682798452014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331797239715404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23902541628668675,0.08445029685272529
parenting,joanneshands,2019/04/09,"I need instructions on how to teach my 8 year old son to ride a bike. We have the proper size bicycle and tried training wheels that wouldn't stay straight so they bent. (He's also a little heavy). I don't remember how I learned, I just seem to always have known how.   I can't run fast enough to hold the bike up as he's riding. I don't know what other steps to try.",2.085485232067512,3.089753012658228,3.286772151898738,94.94931434599155,75.83544303797468,6.785654008438819,20.761603375527425,7.1686216300943375,0.1902641350210965,284,6,69,3,6,92,58,79,0.026,0.974,0.0,-0.1695,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,3,0,14,9,7,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,5,2,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,8,8,1,13,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,3,38,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24262792704504724,0.2524521233311365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134920850721972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674005711768966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3040853237534463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22496638096125648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.318366024816618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436917194282328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27620289121359937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233827740303581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41197576683642295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195378893005376
parenting,FenrirAB,2019/04/09,"Middle School Hello,

First off, I am not a parent HOWEVER, I do consider myself one (a GUARDIAN at least) for my nephew and niece.

I used to take care of them when they lived  with us up until they moved 2 hour drive out a different city I do not  get the chance to look after them as I used to and I understand that  with age, comes more independence. Their parents were more focus on the  financial aspect of living (not saying they are not looking after them)  that the holes I use to fill gets bigger.

I still take care of them when they visit me or I visit over the weekend.

My  niece is 12.5 years old and is in middle school. I think this is where  my parental instinct (maybe you can't call it that, i dont know) kicks  in. I understand that during the adolescences years, hormones are at its  prime and things can get a little out of hand among peers. But at the  same time I believe parenting should be at its cautious during these  years.

Recently, my sister (mother of  my nephew and niece), checked a suspicious activity in our family phone  line during 3-5AM. kids are usually asleep at that time... or so it  seem.

It turns out that she has been texting her friends and pulling all-nighters, god knows how long...

on  top of that her group messages is filled with dramas, curse words,  innuendos and other filth...  within the circle of friends. She even use  curses words herself!

I am very alarmed and shocked by this and unable to sleep thinking about what have become of her. :-(

Her parents are just as concern as I am.

We gave her trust but I felt as though I have failed her for giving her that much.

I partly blame myself for not being there during these crucial times.

Her phone got taken away but I feel like that was the wrong approach.

Since  I am the tech-savy in the family, I would like to suggest monitoring  her phone activity rather than take it away because it would incentivize  her to find a more secretive way of communicating with the wrong peers.

HOWEVER, i feel like this would distance us and break her trust.

or am I just an annoying too involved of an uncle?",4.4613533834586505,5.995032416040104,4.561411027568923,86.04828195488722,70.70426065162907,7.6257644110275695,25.580701754385966,8.131152278815165,1.4180331829573936,1630,49,322,23,30,506,218,399,0.076,0.8420000000000001,0.081,0.262,8,0,0,0,0,0,57.0,4,1,9,3,14,15,1,1,19,0,30,3,3,6,0,58,60,26,0,5,14,9,4,3,2,4,0,1,0,1,24,19,0,0,12,2,1,9,7,6,0,2,7,7,59,9,55,47,7,58,0,1,2,0,55,27,0,4,23,230,83,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950464180132928,0.0,0.0,0.05174515299679547,0.09374889471873654,0.0,0.0956364098248306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086677150874168,0.0,0.1730919796743288,0.0,0.0,0.073120974675389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868683505362411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994846740777799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056065790548025685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16004418563946202,0.0,0.08584088745479106,0.12128382709308727,0.08150298242102644,0.0,0.0775834194551321,0.07220320024758196,0.0,0.0,0.13116399460634473,0.0,0.13304684237423184,0.08142949741670963,0.0,0.0,0.06789034776353273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835946987081161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330123303722866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441167776285625,0.08507714386440453,0.14991015032537802,0.0751206189657758,0.14256416595762406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08527846576880352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021939955498387,0.062400296103782685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796588913087176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907260554548553,0.0,0.057520322719893824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4712741438536297,0.09192226272765286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381376957652224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750401757062792,0.0,0.17181645257860242,0.0,0.07727618295250774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021781006685693,0.0,0.08494637659319171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778932943403475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19146903382685396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639387107750416,0.10878185531818442,0.08339915383500546,0.0,0.14849150714587686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233058472323263,0.0,0.1767367105181022,0.20421258385445695,0.2932537971758599,0.09348891610657237,0.07003907561084356,0.0,0.06737782035524564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18089976245858894,0.1856170050169556,0.0,0.1639896130116811
parenting,Bigrodvonhugendong,2019/04/09,"Best Swingset to Encourage Outdoor Activity I am brand new to this sub so my apologies if this is off-base, but i am trying to find recs on a solid swingset for my kids.  All the online ones seem like garbage and i want one that is more active (as-in, climbing and hanging more than just sit in a swing).  Anyone had any luck?",2.0536363636363646,3.9597834545454593,3.003030303030304,93.12454545454548,78.0909090909091,5.612121212121212,24.63636363636364,6.42735559955562,0.5942000000000007,252,9,55,2,6,80,53,66,0.0,0.7290000000000001,0.271,0.9541,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,10,7,5,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,5,4,7,6,4,6,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,3,2,35,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24775544831822904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547465212276037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3823396275426888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33298907737125866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799219680102846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518701319216192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4937559939252584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316704141792757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473547119982743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148900200700545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MoreAvocadosPlease,2019/04/09,"Potty training regression My 4 year old has been completely day and night potty trained for over a year now. However, in the past 3 months or so she’s regressed over time to where she now has a few day time accidents a week whenever we are out and about and she’s now completely back in a pull ups for overnights. It seems she gets distracted during the day and forgets to ask to be taken to the restroom  and at night she just completely doesn’t wake up. I’m at my wits end and I really don’t know what to do. I am due in August with her baby brother (which honestly may be causing this regression even though she’s excited and hasn’t expressed any worries about his arrival) and I just want to get her potty training issues out the way before I am dealing with a newborn. Is there anything I can do or any advice to get her potty trained again? Should I just start over like I’m barely potty training?",3.2437545787545763,4.989326049450554,4.248593406593408,86.21307326007326,74.21978021978022,7.49069597069597,27.51794871794872,8.238735603445708,1.8556164102564097,719,28,143,12,15,233,105,182,0.044,0.9,0.056,0.264,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,0,0,15,4,0,1,9,0,17,1,1,1,0,25,28,12,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,13,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,19,3,25,22,1,37,0,0,0,0,16,13,0,4,23,98,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15208717599452545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2116776911595009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807641166286982,0.0,0.14550006472545415,0.0,0.0,0.11967564022971988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243605994565005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988259772693567,0.0,0.0,0.4895489123804114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3011199600966159,0.16045544143098692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378486404686095,0.0,0.0,0.10279710919473832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439425298363276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16244512721931512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553430663138542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603662708328232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242283776583576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921105247300359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331538838600335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485736164918767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09970537587337366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14168654610010215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016103245313287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15291306587716946,0.0,0.18150697035703048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179903733786253,0.12353781314166365,0.12484302466704958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15805744883116493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004509106270365
parenting,Satans_StepMom,2019/04/09,"Lonely mom I’m a stay at home mom to a three year old and we have a baby boy due in October. I find myself feeling super emotional with this pregnancy and it’s amplified my feelings of loneliness during the day.

All of my friends are childless and have busy careers so they are usually unavailable during the week, even to chat. My husband works HVAC and usually can’t spend time talking or texting me. I live an hour away from my in laws who babysit and they still have two kids at home too! I often just feel so stinking lonely. 

I find myself talking to myself while I make lunch for me and the kiddo and my daughter has started asking “who are you taking to mom?” Lol when my husband gets home I usually spend the 4 hours before bed just nonstop talking, to the point he sometimes gets a little overwhelmed.

For any of you stay at home parents who’ve been there, so you have any suggestions? There aren’t a lot of family activities around here and when the weathers nice we go to the park but it seems other parents are never interested in chatting.",5.144989547038328,6.214284868292682,5.662177700348432,80.54810975609756,68.60975609756098,8.393728222996515,31.22822299651568,8.634040054169528,2.47904181184669,838,34,155,13,14,270,123,205,0.064,0.882,0.054000000000000006,-0.4511,3,4,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,3,2,2,15,8,0,1,13,1,12,1,0,1,2,28,24,16,0,0,4,8,3,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,6,12,1,0,6,2,2,1,3,4,0,2,1,4,24,4,22,23,2,30,0,3,0,0,28,10,0,4,17,107,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644773093500452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09585511413991868,0.1006632026890504,0.0,0.10116582774252976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916249623036488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944257982317723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112182285854015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07111946141222646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150803345122672,0.0,0.16333376261865448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682915204562826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319077071684937,0.0,0.11251328935479192,0.0,0.061195164291505864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43203413883818415,0.0,0.21207976881895288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079203662515738,0.09508052100178783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154290113297517,0.0,0.0,0.07187505013485516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783290371932928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304692846490261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129886098288808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391245211082361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178930942291704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802484648579628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649503442119868,0.0,0.07621414024240503,0.22953812424767275,0.08599077176508865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095949674945314,0.2596394187663394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278716432532566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518451439304403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557721007688378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637177392385592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838993830418484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06934028065117451
parenting,ThePickleMaker,2019/04/09,"When does ""eat what's for dinner or don't eat"" start? I'm firmly in the camp of telling kids (who aren't ill and don't have specific needs like sensory issues) that they can decide whether to eat dinner or not, but that dinner is what's being served--i.e., the parents choose what to serve, the kids choose whether and how much to eat. However, what I haven't seen discussed is when this should actually start. I have a 15 month old who used to eat everything but has started to get picky. If he were, like, 3 years old, I'd be clear on what to do here, but right now it seems too early. He understands a ton of what we say, but I'm not sure he has the capacity to understand that if he doesn't eat the food in front of him now, he might be hungry later. There are many times where he'll start throwing food, so we take it away, offer it again after a few minutes, and he continues throwing it--but if we then give him something different to eat, he'll chow down like he was starving. I don't want to set a bad precedent by teaching him that he can always have a backup dinner if he doesn't want what's being served, but I also don't want to send a 15 month old kid to bed hungry. Has anyone else been through this? When is the appropriate time to stop offering alternatives?",9.575019011406845,5.363981730038024,9.114148288973386,76.56179277566541,62.498098859315604,12.497186311787074,36.5661596958175,9.642632912329526,3.062550114068441,997,27,221,13,10,322,136,263,0.07200000000000001,0.8759999999999999,0.053,-0.6015,3,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,3,0,1,0,13,5,0,0,12,0,30,15,0,2,2,38,50,23,0,9,15,1,0,3,0,4,1,1,1,3,18,6,14,1,6,0,0,4,10,1,0,0,4,2,11,4,24,38,3,37,0,0,1,0,31,7,0,8,28,130,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.09262951412419802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07590854397347313,0.0789821408378942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637119280613002,0.09725810791036506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918170318870419,0.0,0.07925533593849478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917257468092013,0.0,0.0,0.0830662853330743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6798974404847646,0.07929458142623884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530916035205399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295584698057993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959247109390047,0.09105717786530064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907319500261867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912128442350186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623531829545162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069651845538376,0.0,0.0,0.1515305813758137,0.0,0.06977809075859039,0.07038295479720308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29881186830523265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539889082353923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106228721158683,0.0,0.07548524219786866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641280321121181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307506828559998,0.0,0.0,0.2687431906820862,0.0,0.0,0.07935847241821847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946221917730438,0.0,0.07136901827949245,0.0,0.08296541604589837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069876810917632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976328799208898,0.0,0.08198154236562176,0.0,0.0,0.1679611586307773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061126216886127537
parenting,elezarfig,2019/04/09,"What fun/unique traditions do you have while raising your child? Hello! 

A friend of mine told me that while he was growing up, his mother made Birthday Boxes. It was basically a small box that contained a picture of his bday party each year, some party favors etc. His mother collected all 18 birthdays in little boxes :) 

My sister recently had a baby and I want to do something fun like this for her! But maybe something less... boxy? Lol.",2.6811111111111106,5.590255197530869,3.4480123456790146,84.76905555555558,83.44444444444444,5.215308641975309,22.91481481481481,6.742157984588678,1.0148755555555553,345,12,58,4,10,109,66,81,0.0,0.718,0.282,0.9715,0,0,2,0,0,0,15.0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,1,1,8,9,4,0,1,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,10,4,6,4,5,9,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,5,40,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525048533217286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24419715215096816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15441726212133233,0.3167880988556113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29907583703735685,0.0,0.0,0.3175377289025977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31208387489342515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4866567479196819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30202121785571645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18642799601776835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20354059613173126
parenting,Tim-Whatley-DDS,2019/04/09,"“If Mama ain’t happy . . . . . . ain’t nobody happy.”

I think we’re all familiar with this saying, and maybe agree there is a lot of truth in it, and accept that that’s just the way things are and accept it.


 But when did this become acceptable?  If Dad’s not happy he sucks it up and doesn’t inflict his ill mood on other family members (generally speaking). Or if he does it’s not acceptable.

But if moms in a foul mood, everyone in the house is walking on eggshells so that they don’t incur her wrath. How is this acceptable? People often even give a slight smirk when saying it.

I know the above is a general statement and it’s not like that in every household.  However it is in many; the saying didn’t pop out of thin air.

Commence with the downvotes",2.6768307692307687,4.52718496,4.09266666666667,86.27146153846157,76.06666666666666,7.015384615384615,22.871794871794872,7.882392219407189,1.1345641025641022,584,17,117,9,13,193,90,150,0.031,0.774,0.195,0.9737,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,0,8,13,1,0,9,0,12,1,0,1,2,34,16,16,0,4,11,2,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,16,8,0,0,8,0,0,1,8,1,0,0,2,5,5,10,13,14,2,15,0,0,0,0,12,11,1,7,3,80,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20261880731129892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054839053743575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117458713393953,0.0,0.1545742221069519,0.17530532047416103,0.0,0.0,0.17295116976400413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17599298312830886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5858945184131977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21168993313608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082563968030754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08963001942418107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15597240234336646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860011604375999,0.18431173055695813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21486788553771244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271891006271726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376878331179306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188366520664025,0.1175547180999227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14562319524484332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LilithJenny,2019/04/09,"Need advice, nightmares This is my first post on here and I am seeking advice. About 2 weeks ago my 5 year old DD was laying in her bed, almost asleep, when a wasp stung her on the face 2x (No idea where it came from, it was cold outside and we had no windows or doors opened) Anyways, this was a traumatic experience for my 5 year old. Over the course of the last couple of weeks, she’s had nightmares what seems like all night. Last night I brought her to bed with me and she got up twice within 5-10 minutes, screaming about a wasp and jumping around trying to get away from it, to the point I have to physically hold her down and calm her down and let her know it was just a bad dream. This was after she had already been up 3 or so times, yelling for me, needing comfort from her nightmares. Last week she was on spring break but now that school is back in session, I really worry about her getting enough sleep. It doesn’t seem that she hit the REM stage at all last night, even though I know nightmares typically do happen during that stage. So I what I really want ask is, is there anything I can do to help get rid of her bad dreams? Or at least, ease them up? I have tried to google but you know how that goes. I am at a loss here, so any advice is greatly appreciated.",4.166125760649084,4.6425227547892725,4.412972729321614,90.7690060851927,70.49425287356323,7.213973405454137,24.93148523777328,6.794906146795322,0.6468776650890242,993,25,224,7,17,310,149,261,0.075,0.8340000000000001,0.092,0.5492,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,1,1,1,2,19,8,0,0,10,0,24,3,3,1,2,31,41,17,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,14,11,0,1,6,2,0,3,3,4,0,2,13,3,32,4,36,26,4,49,0,1,0,0,19,20,0,6,23,150,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254532238609189,0.0984097636390542,0.0,0.11116736658622522,0.0,0.12250988506821806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549528371563176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135743103398278,0.09882855803070284,0.10378579440205613,0.0,0.10430401098039084,0.08536512623037511,0.18538891127682305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697373276881288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283806351678965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11471011126814737,0.0,0.07332560064589705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859580878543744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443089939443236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17400520951851767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879033862111786,0.12239649950505832,0.0,0.0,0.09817185824450876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441227293638111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12532454181731362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303591780081974,0.3619742899570886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11352227899467075,0.0,0.05423723872825733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646352161376901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31254545748326923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232987076036076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494683318121037,0.0,0.1063234808648964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14224050911179256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11235500706425833,0.0,0.20213119177410385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109705268585912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090735186026319,0.0,0.0647348341169477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074634513564494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548063077106879,0.0,0.26715312838672245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274302811519647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429824587177866
parenting,mutmanj,2019/04/09,"Need help telling teen about dog passing away. This morning I received a call that my two small dogs had gotten out and one had been hit by a car. She was not doing ok and they recommended euthanasia to end her suffering. I cried, I went and got the other dog who had run back into the yard under the fence, and I took him to say bye to his sister. It was incredibly hard. We know about the fence. We know that when the dogs are in the yard to use the bathroom that we have to watch them as they have escaped before, but never for more than a minute and we noticed and got them back in right away. 

Unfortunately this morning we had to leave earlier than usual. My 18 month old sons childcare is closed and he has to go to grandmas for the day. My daughter let the dogs out to potty as she always does and never brought them back in. Thus the escape, and the situation I have now.

My wife and I don’t lie. We just don’t. We don’t like it, we aren’t good at it. I don’t judge anyone who does at all, I think there are good reasons to do it sometimes. I used to lie all the time as a teen and a kid and I just grew tired of it. My wife is a goody two shoes. But here we are talking about whether or not to lie to our daughter. She suffers from depression, and while she is a great kid and on the honor roll etc. she often blames herself for things that really aren’t her fault. It’s not that much of a stretch for her to blame herself for this and I worry that it could spiral her. I talked to the vet who understood and asked her what could cause a dog to die very quickly while previously being asymptomatic and she let me know a brain tumor. She told me what it would look like more or less from a discovery standpoint. The one worry I have is my daughter remembering she didn’t let the dogs back in and asking questions about that. 

So that’s where I am. I’d love any advice or thoughts you all have. She has dealt with death before with her pet fish as a little one and her pet rats as she was a little older, but we had plenty of prep time for those and she was nowhere near as close with them. Hopefully I’ve captured everything here. Thanks in advance for any advice.",3.139648484848486,4.189967235555557,3.9144040404040403,91.28609090909092,73.3111111111111,6.876767676767678,23.41414141414141,7.106945922332613,0.5853111111111113,1696,44,382,16,33,541,212,450,0.117,0.794,0.08800000000000001,-0.9159,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,11,1,6,2,19,14,0,0,29,1,41,4,2,5,5,76,65,37,2,5,12,7,1,2,0,1,1,1,4,2,27,38,0,2,9,2,0,10,12,4,0,5,20,4,62,10,59,37,8,52,0,3,2,1,66,23,0,6,22,280,89,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18361119509551704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817285744112812,0.0,0.0,0.12777669647260326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569112635323654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756587338545715,0.0,0.1765358217887842,0.2889630527059162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15988687462536388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487783729819268,0.09593214270805103,0.0,0.0,0.0965112102702044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002080943557805,0.0,0.10319825257792764,0.0605891493687851,0.0,0.08091789106866791,0.0,0.09750393418758192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443030823471955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321067655186369,0.0,0.10477765209830184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443504771934288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05339322011576369,0.15759945053158875,0.15027874046310946,0.10357879060019168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415959575550039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297184370246797,0.0,0.0,0.09331227282469352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548952713424741,0.0,0.0,0.09947812468050868,0.0,0.28820678071662315,0.0,0.09179719380348134,0.18832258845798816,0.0,0.0,0.07889325950247059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479238381790888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498896845664793,0.0,0.06906311583248823,0.0696617821861742,0.14491808242698365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696123538103196,0.09858337313108503,0.0,0.19098624327611088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524406262844976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060185952897885524,0.0965949267575175,0.0,0.0,0.1064255805498536,0.08023168978224056,0.0,0.07471178945825525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056022926140379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291768197566797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15102483774570996,0.0821153183782555,0.08649535490234242,0.0,0.0,0.06241535206804859,0.0601985434637811,0.0,0.07458478600085616,0.10956450314594764,0.1079802281501994,0.0,0.08977202382490165,0.10438047983610968,0.0,0.0,0.1835484876878436,0.0,0.0,0.16228305174216706,0.10347123724194283,0.07751752946279472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709140057888624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908189621108053,0.0,0.06673847203101002,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,natgirl77,2019/04/09,"Hitting We are at an all time low with my two children. My youngest is four and my oldest is six. Im. Not exaggerating to say they are at each other é ery two minutes. It can be mild such as Walking past and tapping on the head to extrema hitting, kicking, punching and pinching. Over anything and everything. I can not leave the room with complaints of attacks. We have tried everything from giving tokens (which can be exchanged for ipad time, treats etc), praising when we see good problem solving skills. We discuss and tra h activity calming down techniques, what it is to be frustrated. How our body feels when we are getting angry, how it feels to be hit or hurt. To taking away privileges. What has other parents had success with? Does anyone else have it to this extreme? It wasn't always like this.",3.863386944181645,6.299348437086097,4.167421948912018,84.39478476821196,74.56291390728477,5.903689687795647,31.315515610217595,6.868970318607317,1.93453036896878,638,31,112,6,14,199,106,151,0.129,0.738,0.133,-0.2741,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,6,0,1,3,5,12,2,0,3,0,18,2,2,2,1,23,27,11,0,1,3,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,12,14,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,5,0,4,2,4,11,7,19,18,3,15,1,2,1,0,13,8,0,1,7,83,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083110072737307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12674814788932992,0.18573246198644197,0.14916970495196955,0.0,0.0,0.20622071125641192,0.17030906371988844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013500248272354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863053491847695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142776419270826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20216388545753727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258274445722492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18331104356848815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470605536301983,0.17389063174091676,0.0,0.15204061470831193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18603524176370487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940532062661516,0.0,0.19580262753718847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19193867967735184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855933017089973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20127880239391208,0.0,0.1730426567077646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734508393677403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14415312181452433,0.0,0.0,0.1444486629448902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362924259931324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21139990466123773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12307038175201852,0.0,0.35414875880226754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rosiebear133,2019/04/09,"Is it normal to constantly envision tragic things happening? I am trying to figure out if I have some kind of anxiety disorder and need to seek help or this is normal mom behavior. I have 4 kids all between the ages of 6 and 2 (set of twins in the middle) and I work full time. My sister is our nanny and helps me and my husband with the day to day shuttling of the kids to school and such. 

I need my sister to keep me updated every day about what’s going on — send me a text when she gets the three older ones into school, text me again when  she’s back home  with the baby, text me when she picks them up, etc. If she doesn’t text me right away at the normal time
I immediately start picturing that someone got hit by a car, wandered off, got stolen. My imagination is horrific and I sometimes will just get emotional at work if she’s taking a few minutes longer than usual. My fears are always something catastrophic happening... when I am home with the kids I am pretty relaxed about them exploring and just being kids. 

This all kind of came to a head this weekend when I had to travel for work for 3 days and my husband was left alone with them (sis has off on the weekends). I probably asked him a dozen times if he would be extra careful watching them, especially our 2 year old who has taken to trying to unlock all of our doors or hiding in the house. At some point he got offended— he takes perfectly good care of them and is attentive and responsible. 

I’ve always thought that I was a little more anxious in public places because of the close ages of my kids. At one point I had twin two year olds and a 3 year old and it was hard to take them places and coral all of them, especially while pregnant with my youngest. But now the older ones are 5 and 6 and the anxiety hasn’t gone away. Literally the whole time I’ve been gone I’ve been picturing terrible things happening — my youngest opening a door and wandering out to the pond, furniture falling on someone, literally anything that is possible. 

So, it’s starting to feel out of hand. And I am just wondering where to start to fix it. I can’t think of any root cause for all of the anxiety and I don’t want to live with it or torture my husband, sister and kids with it their whole lives.",5.738442776735461,5.582670148558762,6.376330376940135,80.24284453351528,67.02660753880265,9.865290806754222,30.649923247484224,9.565088089820216,2.534678253453864,1771,60,363,33,26,581,216,451,0.091,0.838,0.071,-0.8173,0,1,1,0,0,0,36.0,3,0,8,4,16,11,1,1,24,0,31,2,2,3,6,72,62,35,0,11,11,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,4,6,16,34,0,1,8,4,0,9,4,4,0,6,15,4,49,7,63,42,14,76,0,1,1,0,40,31,0,10,35,246,65,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293628137618479,0.0,0.0,0.13326201709022795,0.0,0.0,0.054455538873862064,0.0,0.18377751847321105,0.09046493617607332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06589707187307561,0.0,0.07486178054385667,0.0,0.15047115117911247,0.061574759655453976,0.0,0.04881458402361195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158748335586143,0.1632889748369112,0.08226179119851396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08653547707365969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065738038230496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177590915596856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900765630308544,0.0,0.0,0.08930773238725016,0.0,0.0,0.06746886256394385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09010960409425774,0.04048965913370491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367452009215759,0.0,0.04550996627523637,0.06716532233060467,0.19213620368464887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21243716878089694,0.0,0.0717338335516415,0.0,0.08218275756042512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734870371089184,0.0,0.16064879730215625,0.0,0.0,0.09239884121846922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07117668276398438,0.0,0.1667770717008688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700458648060219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08025882903303212,0.14142004043361606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0937859601759377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875310577230595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353772453566019,0.0,0.0,0.2520840273409619,0.0,0.1627880369770722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732817320228824,0.0,0.151398499951721,0.09027550339160956,0.0,0.08146774486223697,0.08633723614654319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838586412803713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620856867802968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13569904327554252,0.06164767690161811,0.07919883018700573,0.0,0.17003809004935205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806252508373022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064000471039306,0.05131051614634095,0.0,0.0635726987094106,0.18677565549798966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873491764793546,0.0,0.07822421523213388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819420344246169,0.0,0.04723186481251182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788076430752536,0.0,0.0,0.08684078102009994,0.17489241951605475,0.0,0.0,0.056884855508000286,0.0,0.0,0.15470211758488886
parenting,theadolescentparent,2019/04/09,"Podcast So I am now 27 episodes into my podcast and I am sooooo surprised of the growth and success of it. I have interviewed 25 amazing women, who have gone through difficult situations. I commend them for getting through and for having the courage to share it with the world. My previous episodes cover topics like, Child Loss, Domestic Violence, Unplanned Pregnancies, Single Mothers and Dad's who are called baby sitters.

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I did not expect to feature as many men as I have. And I am so happy for that because I do not think parenting is exclusive to mom. I think Dad's play a major role and I want to showcase all of my amazing dad friends.",4.861229508196722,6.9802556147541,5.223737704918033,79.34052459016394,70.72131147540983,7.830819672131147,36.790163934426225,8.548686976883017,3.4229547540983614,523,30,88,9,10,166,80,122,0.063,0.655,0.282,0.9813,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,1,2,3,12,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,0,1,15,16,10,0,2,2,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,5,8,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,14,10,16,14,3,5,0,1,0,0,17,2,0,0,2,63,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828957816449605,0.3172583956936972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591607837967027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666066765954288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172096301217965,0.0,0.13641109996183606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779399502619564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755758429796182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647088425782147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057907227788374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899145437776904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2934811574090257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33459762610758875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400030081385174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172583956936972,0.0
parenting,frankie9oh9,2019/04/09,"Want another kid My son is 21 months. I’ve been asking my hubby if we can try for another kid for a while now and he keeps saying I don’t think we can handle another kid, but if people ask if we are pregnant again he says not yet. I’m tempted to just stop my bc pill and see how long it takes. I don’t want to wait too long because he and his brother were 4 yrs apart and my sister and I were 5 yrs apart and we were terrible to each other. Should I or is that a total dick move?",1.4561111111111131,2.1514796111111103,3.660185185185188,92.86583333333336,76.96296296296295,6.881481481481483,20.907407407407405,7.1686216300943375,0.2740518518518513,370,8,92,4,8,128,70,108,0.109,0.867,0.025,-0.8957,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,12,2,1,1,1,27,22,13,0,6,7,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,3,3,11,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,3,13,0,5,17,2,11,0,0,1,1,18,2,1,4,8,56,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6096457542798245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623519904918629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813813108296152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17225754242532554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34301220564413537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154688590706193,0.2059777705462158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13435589265305828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082336417820333,0.0,0.0,0.1544327894866405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202472329364262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14571280275575238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417863643985455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157686592364745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286154577826254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megshoe,2019/04/09,"Feeling overwhelmed thinking about commute and housing Hi everyone,

My husband and I are planning on trying for our first baby soon and I'm feeling totally overwhelmed trying to figure out where to live, commute, daycare, etc. Before I begin, it's not possible for me to give up my job for various reasons, and would be very difficult (though theoretically possible) for one of us to not work in NYC because of the fields we work in. 

We are currently living in a NJ suburb about 1 hour from my family, with a 1 hour direct commute into NYC. It's a little long, but it's been working great for us and I actually enjoy the train/reading time. We live within walking distance of the station. 

We've been planning on moving closer to my family when we have our baby, which would mean adding a transfer and probably 20-30 minutes to our commute, which is mostly okay with us. Long commutes are typical in this area. My family thinks (right now... as in, we'll see when it actually comes down to it), that they would be okay watching baby 1-2 days a week and the rest in daycare, which sounds great! We're really looking for the comfort of knowing plenty of family is nearby in case of an emergency or baby needs gets sick at daycare, etc. It will take a long time for one of us to rush out of work, probably about 2 hours in total. It would be a big relief to have family close. But the idea of it just sounds so grueling.... And the family situation can always change depending on how exhausting it is for everyone. 

Our other option would be to move to another major city in NJ with a much smaller commuting time (20-30 minutes), but at least an hour from family, and very expensive rent. Does anyone have experience with figuring out this expense/distance trade off? I'm really struggling to figure out what the best solution is. Being tied to the city for our jobs sucks, but that's our reality, so please no suggestions to be a SAHM or find a job in NJ. Thank you!!",6.821190476190478,6.5881825476190485,7.7564550264550265,71.51261904761904,64.7936507936508,11.009523809523811,34.402116402116405,10.608840637214634,3.7085417989417984,1545,62,277,36,21,523,190,378,0.059,0.8170000000000001,0.124,0.9768,5,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,15,1,1,8,13,15,1,3,21,2,26,2,0,3,2,57,44,22,0,6,9,1,2,0,0,7,2,2,1,0,18,24,0,0,12,0,3,5,3,6,0,3,2,7,26,9,66,29,11,55,0,2,3,0,21,31,1,5,19,197,44,9,0.0,0.0,0.13811435229826236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058882783355257824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420407219730937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049481066549646575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0431381520166131,0.0,0.06021645177166949,0.0,0.07426430187874494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07486079355562444,0.060958438394127276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045638062528906884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06192759567548652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784506261967465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523943740256975,0.0,0.0692224946433743,0.46698164047774704,0.0,0.0715625916208051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467862492611456,0.06019332146064075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036972190174832484,0.06788496766868123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603900603745635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787600856742665,0.08165418877098711,0.0,0.07988593226256882,0.0,0.0,0.2106722999358624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0388910124040668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092588489185121,0.18746239441895066,0.1878764189215012,0.059425417715766586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708466109359767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042561273677066,0.05202097787542248,0.05247191624917607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959054242506188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767955670258257,0.0,0.15955552901156814,0.0,0.0,0.15259492186934429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078491275426567,0.0,0.0906687190802732,0.07275898990597036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043357454640521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05639115066536825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954368205734097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397973989476984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05320704651769266,0.0,0.0,0.06515160646118591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068768647095628,0.06952700239216934,0.0,0.12379225565013835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609061514775297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3404899966790889,0.0,0.0,0.116778330561347,0.0,0.0,0.056764026179711616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060732717634139,0.0,0.0,0.2513498366758811,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LaurenMelissa10,2019/04/09,"10 Questions You Should Ask Your Kids at Dinner 1. **What is something interesting (or fun or difficult) you did today?** 

2. **What's on your mind today?** 

3. **Who did you sit with at lunch today?** 

4. **Can I tell you about something crazy that happened to me today?** 

5. **What are all the things you’re grateful for today?** 

6. **What made you laugh recently?** 

7. **Do you have any questions about what’s going on in the news?** 

8. **What do you want to do tomorrow?** 

9. **How are your friends or classmates doing?** 

10. **What was your best success of the day?**",-2.5653928240024726,-10.361977820754714,-0.3292762140426824,100.51839931951748,223.43396226415092,2.2045159294772656,14.001855861429013,4.591984417741925,-0.9166255490256732,405,13,86,4,61,131,71,106,0.02,0.767,0.213,0.9734,0,0,2,0,0,0,62.0,0,11,0,2,3,7,0,0,3,0,13,2,0,2,1,13,18,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,10,1,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,13,6,12,13,2,15,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,5,8,57,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910136830936247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998515964241568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836673747016928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346736585496456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395175886947493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117896351815294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418722274664551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180756904659856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16199371424597753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35944805449441364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584103044081624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24702155344158505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022734726355213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10658595036685352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7603685694063735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946287776305758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Anony-mous99,2019/04/09,"Advice please! I’m searching for some input, advice, support dealing with my sons father. I’ve been practically a single mom doing it all. Work, daycare drop off pick up, groceries, daily care needs.. ya know.. being a parent. My sons father is suppose to have his parenting time with our son on certain days and he backs out frequently or especially if he’s not getting his way with the situation. I’ve filed to take him through court and I hadn’t told him about it because I knew he’d get verbally aggressive. 

He will get verbally aggressive and abusive towards me especially when he can’t push me to cave on anything to do with our son or otherwise. Other times he can be fine and cooperative. He just recently saw I was taking him to court to enforce our agreement and has opt out of taking our son for this past weekend and this weekend. I’m not withholding our son from him and he doesn’t take initiative on scheduling or really anything.

I’m in debate if I should go for complete full custody or attempt this agreement now going through the courts for parenting time and child support. Mind you he’s paying just over a 100 a month and hasn’t helped out financially for our sons daycare. I’m doing it on my own which I’m fine with if there was consistency. Such as.. he’s either a part of his life or he’s not. Not backing out because he’s upset with me and 99.9% of the time I do nothing to agitate it because I don’t want the confrontation. 

I also deal with depression and since ending our relationship I have become so much better mentally but these confrontations can stir it back up. If we didn’t have a son together I would cut all contact and never speak to him again, but of course I can’t necessarily do that. 

This is my first post and looking for any advice from other parents on how to handle this type of situation. There’s no proof of neglect with our son, I have texts and emails of verbal aggression and abuse towards me, he’s never physically touched me either. Verbal abuse is real and seems harder to prove. Not sure what way to go or if this post will help but I’m running out of ideas. Thanks in advance! Feel free to ask any further questions, I didn’t want this post to be super duper long.",4.701524119562002,5.938578770642202,5.619473216928085,79.82419502811483,69.77981651376147,8.46984314886061,29.890204202426748,8.841846274778883,2.3924815921870373,1768,69,335,31,31,581,215,436,0.099,0.81,0.091,-0.8037,4,0,0,0,3,0,40.0,9,2,0,6,16,22,6,1,10,0,34,1,0,2,8,79,65,35,0,10,23,16,2,0,0,4,1,1,0,1,18,30,0,2,7,2,2,6,16,9,0,1,9,5,41,14,59,48,10,55,0,2,2,0,60,20,0,14,23,224,59,3,0.0,0.304130113801065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508299099975957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842371541877998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636987334147468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408200904081882,0.0,0.07998870363017706,0.0,0.0,0.19737515586985335,0.0,0.1564729799075889,0.09449625114705257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07567243120339251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723592545767311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897098864726983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05518026238395491,0.17642085279742314,0.07369422590087946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757823308812416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043262601036258536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277879664273855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410747794987088,0.0,0.14588017456290509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470049982559301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965888221096878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04702251037661331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043480750837345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07571947271921563,0.0718503363230013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08622613838333934,0.0,0.08639299534477855,0.10020890925496806,0.06829458737164185,0.0,0.06289774476770453,0.06344296725095426,0.1319810212853118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820988245637333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3800248738105225,0.0926550574359102,0.08167838962310274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392112818117207,0.0,0.0,0.2458335685195424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584876253739176,0.0,0.0,0.09738802449616753,0.05481305988502059,0.0,0.08448192422156994,0.09186131885418683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778922206376298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07077757913819566,0.1923500255572787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941889620577436,0.08064095430231867,0.0,0.25732720670707204,0.0,0.0,0.07877378091997891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19956702130813467,0.0,0.0,0.08175793654480304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093309587193963,0.13582989864856065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228998656013709,0.0,0.0,0.060780625510359634,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,The-Whole,2019/04/09,"18 mo, reacting to “No” The past couple days I’ve noticed my daughter (18 mo) starting to react to me and mommy saying “no”
I always try to say “No thank you” for manners sake when she is about to/or doing  something she’s not suppose to be doing. Some things she knows at this point like walking/running across the couch, pulling the cat’s fur or tail ect. But she’s starting to have negative emotions to me telling her no. Example just 15 mins ago the cat was in the bathroom using his litter and she had heard it as well. She started to run down the hallway and I firmly said “No thank you”. She proceeded to turn around and dry cry. Only for a few moments but it still got me concerned about how she may be processing us saying “no”. Its just a lot for me to consider with being a stay at home dad.",2.7834638980651256,4.2406244110429485,3.995705521472392,88.74772534214253,74.8282208588957,6.487777253421425,26.648890986314306,7.010146845296331,1.1759092968381313,621,23,129,6,13,203,107,163,0.094,0.8640000000000001,0.042,-0.7506,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,0,0,9,4,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,4,0,20,21,10,0,0,6,2,0,1,0,1,0,5,2,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,8,0,1,0,5,5,20,4,23,12,3,21,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,4,12,91,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839122821735046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929136335050787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14902272464462787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18522644952135064,0.1838825618955418,0.1079600451624971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18830402757599746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338861807467375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791723917615556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919994237901504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08178386140142854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423186719990413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905875874257094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273162974054655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980356474481475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582484186264312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923705256402346,0.39937290330600056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887376539113907,0.0,0.0,0.35546268774326506,0.1784276039527459,0.13368696305574834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631618982947034,0.3082414101827271,0.0,0.0,0.1112140424201304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11365455254013837,0.18208463738856875,0.0,0.0,0.20136325570114733,0.144581049393461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051395006154553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mothstuckinabath,2019/04/09,"Mom and dad have different opinions about safety This is a recurring argument between me and my husband. I'm very safety-conscious - probably too much so. I get anxious and paranoid easily. I immediately see the worst-case scenario and freak out. He's extremely NOT safety-conscious - definitely too much so. He ignores basic safety rules.

So how do we find the line/balance, where I'm not teaching our children to be paranoid and anxious, but he's not teaching them to be dangerous idiots? I know it's important to let kids learn by trial and error and that if you're overly controlling, it harms their development. So I would love to just let him make these calls sometimes... but I have a really hard time trusting him to make the right calls.

Here are some examples. We have a 10-year-old, who is more like me in this regard, and a 1.5-year-old, who is the source of most of the problems.

Choking hazards: Husband knowingly gives him choking hazards, like nuts. He claims it's fine because he gives him small pieces and watches him carefully and, most of all, ""He's never choked on it before so it's clearly safe."" I think that is a terrible argument. Also, he doesn't always give him small pieces - of that or of anything else. Objectively, I probably give too-tiny pieces, but my husband's are huge. ""He needs to learn"" - maybe. But he also, for example, gives him big pieces of ice. I think he could easily choke on them. ""Nah, they will melt before he chokes."" Big pieces don't melt faster than your need to breathe!!

Climbing: He lets him climb all over the couches/chairs even though sometimes he falls on his head. Normal, necessary to learn safety through trial and error? Maybe, but it freaks me out.

Car seat: I make the straps quite tight. He loosens them. I tighten them. He claims it's too uncomfortable. I claim that too bad, it needs to be tight to be safe. Sometimes he puts him in the seat with a puffy jacket or sweater and claims it's fine if the straps are tight and that I'm being overly demanding.

Dogs: Yesterday - this is what prompted this post - he let/encouraged our toddler to play with the dog's food *while the dog was eating it.* At first he was just picking up pieces that spilled out of the bowl and putting them back, but soon he was putting his hand into the dog bowl. While the dog was eating from it. Husband claims he would have stopped him at that point, but I didn't see him doing anything until I freaked out and yelled. I never ever yell, but I yelled then. 

Our dog has no food aggression (that was my husband's argument), but *any* dog could get annoyed at this scenario. Heck, *I* would get aggressive if you shoved your hands in my food while I was eating. Also, our dog has snapped (not bit) at our toddler before, so it's not like he's guaranteed safe-no-matter-what. Plus, even if he wasn't being aggressive, what if he was just biting his food and the toddler's hand got in the way?

PLUS, even if this scenario was safe, it's our responsibility to teach him how to treat dogs appropriately and safely. He's going to watch other dogs eat at some point, and now he will think it's a fun play time. Grisly images of mutilated blood-dripping hands and emergency hospital visits and surgeries flash through my mind. ""It's not that big of a deal, you're overreacting,"" he says.

I am NOT a nagger in general... but now I nag about safety. I hate doing it but it's my responsibility to protect my kids. I shouldn't have to protect them *from their father!* He is an incredibly loving and active dad, so I absolutely can't understand why he doesn't care about these things. 

How do I know when to let things go? How can I get through to him? What the heck should I do about all this?",2.8884138710589013,5.2192008662952665,3.555168947559647,88.10765633200116,77.24512534818942,6.557862016067176,24.611925235154015,7.638872335909999,1.2292782447216504,2914,102,579,43,69,918,288,718,0.131,0.727,0.142,0.9497,1,0,0,0,0,0,136.0,8,3,9,5,37,34,8,0,27,0,56,16,6,9,7,116,91,63,0,18,29,9,8,3,0,7,0,4,0,3,43,32,8,12,11,2,0,10,17,16,0,1,11,16,71,18,67,61,17,64,0,0,4,2,90,32,2,13,23,368,114,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587035335557432,0.055043188301049685,0.0,0.0,0.04498515849778354,0.0,0.0,0.14946429973998018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887378158599063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050866273290944584,0.05523357981495086,0.040325223929784194,0.0,0.16886967487720425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0722200963133086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509576515554894,0.0,0.13489133641655726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419431792553029,0.10563287480001894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681990948131219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691140382439821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707572149131386,0.05526093026087378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107694698223393,0.05983764616155037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046109793047336,0.05626826958287486,0.31996170135613994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382453144863986,0.31729181649360994,0.0751906266454359,0.0,0.052907244788800295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05925857936047552,0.0653107222210838,0.06789032761578559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090650881460596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33822097634871645,0.0,0.09695456433529197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940827805863262,0.0,0.13246953715333087,0.0,0.1329157623218702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06679396440140338,0.07747561351204303,0.0,0.0,0.09725764706215904,0.14715107211533046,0.10203993509208467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648142374991154,0.0,0.0,0.13882934174930292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506873786394354,0.0,0.0633546680446884,0.0,0.1426445989749274,0.06329786871707815,0.0,0.1995010097678496,0.0,0.07036005977315725,0.0,0.0,0.042378222401954616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05649285638203915,0.0,0.05260617598066116,0.0,0.0,0.10542805715754493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19627600805057385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055305456325436826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789598050308474,0.12716126306964926,0.06499332515567957,0.0,0.07714672042422295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886584554786496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05458175779318427,0.0,0.052507829939053716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05969126713187551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097597567136638,0.0,0.0,0.08519854819077419
parenting,UnlikelyNewspaper,2019/04/09,Parents how have you handled technology? Hello I am a parent to be and this is probably what I think about most. I am a software developer so I know that getting them interested in learning about technology is important. I just am flummoxed as to how I can balance that with not getting them addicted to their phone/ipad/computer.,4.192021857923496,6.928977737704924,5.97827868852459,70.30927595628418,74.90163934426229,9.31256830601093,36.39617486338798,9.725611199111238,4.459456830601092,266,16,43,8,6,91,44,61,0.0,0.916,0.084,0.5423,2,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,2,0,10,12,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,10,1,8,11,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,0,39,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36163649034129336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466322161270455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823110526222318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7366975328638026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35766285204622605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125602621065489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jb1210a,2019/04/09,"Advice Needed - Possibly Unnecessary Medical Procedure **I just want to say that before it gets said, I'm not looking for medical advice and I understand that getting proper diagnosis should come from a doctor and not the internet.**

That being said, I am currently dealing with an issue that's been brought up from my 10-year old daughter and her mother.  On Sunday, I got a text from her mother asking me if my daughter has ever told me that she ""loses vision"" from time to time during the day.  According to my daughter, she temporarily loses sight for 2-3 seconds and it returns suddenly.  As the conversation continued, I find out that she claims it had been happening for four months now and she thought she had told us about it previously.

Yesterday I got a text that she was taking my daughter to the pediatrician as she was due for a well visit and my daughter had a headache.  Here is where this all started.

**Please understand that while I am questioning if this is necessary, I'd like some insight into similar experiences from the members of this subreddit.**

Here's the thing, my daughter is amazingly healthy, never stays home from school when she's with me and aside from the usual childhood sicknesses, has never had a major complication.  I have thought for years that her mother is a hypochondriac and goes to the doctor for the smallest issues.  Which has lead to issues with my daughter attending school (she sometimes doesn't bring her in to school on time and has her stay home from time to time).  She's also super active as a gymnast and has never shown any issues at all.

Anyway, at the end of the visit yesterday, the doctor said that they want to have my daughter get an MRI to rule out possible brain tumors.  Now, I'm not sure on health insurance for most people on here but mine is a high deductible plan.  An MRI tends to cost $5k+ and the payment for this will be all out of pocket.

**I'm perfectly willing to eat my words and recognize that I may be brushing what could be a potential issue under the rug but doesn't it seem that jumping immediately to an MRI knowing the circumstances is a bit unnecessary?  Why is it we are just now finding out about it after four months of it happening?  Isn't it possible she's blowing her account out of proportion because of the attention she's getting?**

One other thing I ask, if this does indeed seem necessary and it's better to be safe than sorry, can anyone think of an alternative solution?  

I don't think this is an easy black and white issue, either outcome will be difficult to handle, either we're out a lot of money (which we don't have) or we have some major health complications on our hands.",5.2674774774774775,6.853151492063496,6.041083226083227,76.01262548262551,68.80158730158729,9.178807378807381,30.486700986700978,9.567723090172098,2.9808287859287854,2128,85,372,47,37,697,235,504,0.022,0.907,0.071,0.9749,1,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,5,0,1,7,16,11,0,0,34,0,46,14,2,1,9,77,83,26,0,8,13,11,1,1,0,5,11,4,3,0,34,28,1,1,14,0,3,8,11,3,1,4,18,10,48,8,66,53,12,61,0,2,4,0,48,19,0,12,33,282,82,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427770668193112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05842208404372305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04967992806955252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05108177816659104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659318958140207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044533670461981006,0.0,0.06216445290833406,0.0,0.0,0.06461124053991447,0.0797571756960266,0.0,0.0,0.08155357834253597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06293044278474343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058328499855163925,0.0,0.0,0.0471144530345877,0.07531653189332264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22432476774985072,0.0639309522868023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475353766876162,0.0,0.0,0.06470507596198095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608246044756354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714618411056893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335419545688644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15267295946007042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11685756828422915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292046500391296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530816919923018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07718665408772747,0.14656031065853664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4575028492401991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04014913595901199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035690999306133585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06134782891488583,0.16345979187889473,0.0,0.062108777166137975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471905213162887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662366180315173,0.0,0.0,0.05416938180035046,0.16903363703318988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07665896867284035,0.0,0.04950398150399106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506471618704957,0.0,0.0,0.08019248897109303,0.0,0.2470757212774819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183835715693147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084761994060376,0.05809629500054414,0.0,0.22180678293354134,0.0,0.13301311782302996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225329632669747,0.08177912910649546,0.051708728854336236,0.15573389125305587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885350467716672,0.0,0.05492829351989138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706903642923008,0.09362143150456882,0.0,0.11599507283865253,0.2129948881732912,0.0,0.0,0.13961443078114058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210573298015226,0.08787621049383364,0.0,0.08045979846645188,0.0,0.0861795033159682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568524883952488,0.0,0.06592080491698457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940900929793659
parenting,kgray0405,2019/04/09,"Son being mean to daddy Needing some advice, please! 

Our son just turned 3 years old. He is very smart,  independent and has a ton of energy. We have been struggling a bit with listening lately but we seem to be moving in the right direction. 

The problem now has arose at he is being mean to his daddy. 

A little rundown- Dad is a dentist and works 3-4 days a week and off all weekends. Mom runs a Country Club and works 5 days a week, which includes a few hours on most weekends. Mom is also 8 months pregnant with our little girl. Our son goes to school about 3-4 days a week. 

Dad is a big gamer and a big ‘clean freak’. I personally feel that a lot of time when we are all 3 in the house together, my husband is on his phone, texting or gaming, or cleaning. I always personally take this time to be 110% with our son. 

But dad definitely does has more 1 on 1 time with our son due to moms work hours. However, for some reason, that does not seem to be helping this issue. I’m not sure if our son is being mean to daddy bc he wants more time with mom? Or he doesn’t get enough quality time with me and his daddy together? Or he senses that daddy seems to prioritize cleaning/his phone and so therefor resents him for that? 

Our son has been telling his daddy to go away, choosing mom for everything, telling daddy no, crying about most everything, not giving daddy hugs and kisses, etc.  We put him in timeout when he is crying/whining for nothing and try to talk about feelings when he is being mean. 

Any advice or personal experiences are appreciated!",3.2738436482084694,4.964465413680784,4.535356351791535,84.41835700325736,74.01628664495114,7.126983713355049,25.309315960912052,7.839951260653429,1.3832648599348532,1210,40,240,17,25,399,154,307,0.08199999999999999,0.853,0.066,-0.7294,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,11,0,0,3,10,8,1,1,15,0,26,3,0,3,3,55,44,22,0,4,12,16,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,4,7,19,0,0,11,4,0,4,5,4,0,0,2,3,21,4,35,35,14,42,0,0,0,2,53,14,0,14,24,145,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16299089884580376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669325965900555,0.06939372238738531,0.0,0.0,0.05671342261778441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835505960534728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104889213440406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160866219645554,0.16135421226549265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459641048724042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617231035766662,0.09301068862152456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990528561948274,0.08157913574266615,0.0,0.0,0.08433695442510948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357195354653435,0.08000285197551638,0.04739694077157418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05589984533188912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16426023784621666,0.0962299637426204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704572599714189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407644846587404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717318325697947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709019007186479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633789890658864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4883729832692616,0.06656739729791722,0.08863875495854681,0.0,0.061838476067967996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002252129713182,0.0,0.08751205278919902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845945291123986,0.0,0.09154583540101688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798005141970004,0.0,0.08383791052773003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574691716353171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122133934546979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440311348270442,0.0,0.2277669108410989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08718557853448049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860152100069102,0.0,0.06270483161139102,0.06703206206846354,0.1457868573266314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24314989126972786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056621690514913774,0.09071295214588757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881199045011538,0.04919023418981856,0.0,0.2006902620689438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214396378734074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053705504563278585
parenting,RightNowWhat,2019/04/09,"Dealing with MILs Sorry if this isn’t the right subreddit!  r/Askparents have like 10 people total on there...  To the parents on Reddit:  Have you ever had to deal with a mother-in-law trying to parent your baby?  If I want something for my child or I don’t want him to have some type of food, my mother in law will get involved and either tell me what’s better (and then proceed to do those things) or tell my husband who will then say “well she IS a mother, and you’re still learning (first child) so we should listen to her”.   How do you deal with this?  For context, my husband and his family are Hispanic so they’re super tight and I come from a dysfunctional family so his other argument to listen to his mom is that I don’t know how families work so really what would I know how it should or shouldn’t be (and I swear he’s a good guy, he just puts his mom on a gold and diamond pedestal).  What’s your advice?",1.8871777221526929,3.729570734042557,3.5357071339173984,89.41029411764706,78.36170212765956,6.551188986232791,20.10137672090113,7.5105763829236425,0.5496735919899871,710,17,151,10,17,236,109,188,0.029,0.857,0.114,0.9343,3,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,4,0,4,12,5,0,0,7,0,19,1,0,3,2,36,27,21,0,8,7,8,1,1,0,6,0,3,0,3,11,12,1,1,3,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,1,4,23,5,19,19,3,13,0,0,0,0,35,5,0,6,7,109,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384599953520352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253152521499453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205529935005745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4382353646084452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816872303449156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007244379778936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205233280788988,0.17133479219772035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402833567093442,0.0,0.0,0.11884470975059765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402975724427529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557406746647395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922366046769568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3318964259838484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146648794513805,0.0,0.0,0.09823154310989282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424398145441935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077166296057188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100437980980372,0.0,0.11267933870536442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908159171943736,0.0,0.15861283731663472,0.0,0.0,0.11315558816799585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476904873925467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413401348149766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09619971496612402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16714748235681992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739832035529364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315362210604297,0.0,0.0,0.10065408617822558,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DadsMatterToo,2019/04/09,"Reddit! Looking for some love and support for a community fatherhood program! Hello Reddit! A little background I'm a social worker who works primary within the urban areas. As such I came across this amazing program that works within the communities to help foster relationships between fathers and their sons. The program is called Dads Matter Too! Its located in the state of Connecticut and has already built up a large base of support out here! What I'm hoping to do is bring attention to their work and seek some help (and maybe some sponsors!!!) As a program they can not pay for a keynote speaker ( funds utilized for other activities to foster relationships- 5k runs, golf tournaments public outreach! ) so I was hoping you guys would be able to point me in the direction of a few public speaker whose willing to speak at some events and really some upvotes to bring some attention to a great program would be much loved! 

Obligatory facebook link https://m.facebook.com/dadsmatter2/

Some more information on the program and their work! 

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fatherhood.org/fatherhood/dads-matter-too-fatherhood-program-graduation%3fhs_amp=true

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.wfsb.com/news/dads-matter-too-campaign-helping-families-across-the-state/article_2057d6e9-bb00-5bf6-9214-5f72a33a5c6f.amp.html",14.033666666666667,18.51532392222223,9.674444444444449,47.07500000000002,51.444444444444436,9.022222222222224,34.77777777777778,9.558583805096642,3.9481777777777776,1126,41,120,19,15,314,116,180,0.0,0.8,0.2,0.9889,0,0,0,0,0,0,72.0,0,1,4,5,4,8,0,0,14,0,11,2,0,0,0,26,23,10,0,4,1,3,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,7,9,0,0,4,1,2,4,1,0,0,0,2,4,8,8,27,16,10,18,0,0,1,2,24,12,0,9,1,89,15,12,0.13841659686663127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527461565890504,0.0,0.0,0.4499229746254549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133882130412326,0.15831171221327664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526047866989743,0.0,0.13705419272432404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555545436612747,0.0,0.0,0.2749578250198742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387297934051028,0.0,0.0,0.11623508025724205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498527656337705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13905807600765124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175212511473283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084842423691678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867321631229141,0.0,0.0,0.2972152481389106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410982892924592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141470276267387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030757242104793,0.0,0.0,0.19665435809575668,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toteszka,2019/04/09,"2.5yo just won't sleep in the afternoon We've an almost 3yo son who always slept less than expected. A few months ago afternoon naps started to become less and less frequent, and now we're basically down to like once a week. Our problem is, that he gets really tired if he doesn't nap which causes some issues.

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We read stories, cuddle on the couch, etc., and occasionally this works. Most of the time he listens, and in best case has some rest laying but awake. In other cases he just can't lay still, and is running back and forth on the couch, like he was on caffeine (you know, the type of feeling, when you are too tired but also drank a lot of coffee, so you are tired but energized at the same time, resulting in nervousness). Going out to the playground and trying to get him more tired physically makes no difference.

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There is a point in most of the days, when he gets really tired, some time around lunch. When we can recognize that very moment, there is a chance. But things happen, like we need to finish lunch, or he needs to go to pee, and the moment is over and is not coming back.

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Evenings on these days are really difficult. He's not fully potty trained, wears diaper only for the night, and through the day he uses the toilet properly (though mostly it's only to pee, poo goes into the diaper in the morning when he wakes up and still has the diaper on). So, on such evenings we can have several accidents (which don't happen on days with a nap), he becomes more nervous and has some more difficult tantrums (otherwise they are quite manageable). But worst, evening routine becomes more difficult and takes more time, which means that we get to the bed later than on a day with a nap...

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So we think he really ""needs"" the afternoon naps and would like to help him calm down and relax and accept that having some sleep is good (I think there is some stubbornness involved as well). Similar stories, ideas are more than welcome. Thank you!

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One thing I should add is that our daughter was born around 1m ago. We expected some setbacks regarding potty training, but not about sleep and naps, and this almost no-nap started even before she was born. I think the potty training related setback itself is more about being too tired than actually about the changes in the family. Relationship with his sister is quite good in general, and mommy even spends quality time with him, just the two of them.",7.034344605475043,7.362442060869569,6.625314009661839,77.90719001610306,64.26086956521739,10.032206119162641,30.950080515297905,9.816601858774405,2.8038317230273746,1948,64,356,37,27,607,226,460,0.112,0.787,0.101,-0.8245,0,0,0,0,0,0,88.0,9,4,2,4,34,23,2,2,30,0,33,18,8,4,0,86,60,37,0,9,14,3,1,4,0,3,6,1,3,0,17,36,3,1,8,8,1,4,8,9,1,2,5,2,23,14,54,51,27,66,0,0,0,1,41,26,0,15,40,246,40,4,0.0,0.0,0.05739970614437346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10428052770569864,0.0,0.11779920225988495,0.0,0.0,0.04703822706100513,0.04894284200465568,0.3186565111524364,0.35736288790778314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472430582838052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045769527114624,0.0,0.0,0.19488576836250732,0.05005137524428229,0.0,0.061727822401128285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06042420695047514,0.062223620939089175,0.050668107877544895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966974355428773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145424272260839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06559970097201505,0.19424983982628305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055450136565831684,0.0,0.02974109251943177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292381298455254,0.0,0.06685737279627102,0.09867062890974687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10402842975149336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03942571754387804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640047121299013,0.0,0.06139266014404085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03232586109269548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11494566528230282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05000654821960357,0.0,0.0,0.03926271852728474,0.0,0.0,0.06407207971342442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04694945733600479,0.0,0.0,0.13084256009964754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519846140117463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626412395773025,0.0398578647188591,0.08947032003489586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055603787370724966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05628266972667922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251243394580068,0.058835785332080635,0.0,0.15072605402964792,0.0,0.0,0.06315052533964953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06644970825001106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17658704053677174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832660104033911,0.0,0.09394724487626857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04422522039317403,0.0,0.0,0.05415343160904768,0.0,0.0,0.07815461312085248,0.11306818881005146,0.057790221508498225,0.0,0.1714916897731777,0.4056287119832024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03993482922616213,0.0,0.05745846401908099,0.0,0.0,0.050801480343940365,0.0,0.04853255108329648,0.0,0.0,0.04718175002190501,0.0,0.05288612517074626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04282156432912,0.0,0.0,0.041783946489428965,0.0,0.35736288790778314,0.0
parenting,drawingdraws,2019/04/09,"Sent underwear for my daughters preschool show and tell for letter U. Wife is mad So I searched extensively for a unicorn or Ursula with no results.  Who knows where toys go?!  Umbrellas are too large for the show and tell box.  I know, underwear!  IMO it’s totally relevant and appropriate.  I sent in a nice clean pair of cartoon underwear.  I mean these kids have just transitioned from diapers to underwear, it’s a relevant and important thing to a toddler.  Wife won’t stop texting me about what a fuck up that was 😂🤬.  Did I mess up or is she uptight?",2.7613893653516333,5.31386539622642,4.198370497427103,82.12578902229845,79.0,9.137564322469984,30.391080617495714,9.573946990214177,3.3924264150943406,436,22,84,14,11,144,78,106,0.16,0.772,0.068,-0.8703,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,1,6,0,7,1,0,1,1,15,14,7,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,5,0,2,3,3,0,3,2,4,0,0,4,0,8,1,13,9,1,8,0,0,0,1,11,4,1,2,1,53,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33168880379239474,0.0,0.0,0.2039044636446236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943551529039031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908195162969386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999583834255455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6271837478475033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23835926844330504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sunshineyhaze,2019/04/09,"My two year old spawn won't eat I'm at my wits end. I offer her food and you'd think I ripped the stuffing out of her favorite toy and put it on a plate in front of her. 

It's a serious melt down every time food time comes around. My carpet is caked in food she just flips the bowls and screams at me. 

I don't understand what I'm doing wrong.",1.2575757575757578,2.2059062077922107,2.747467532467536,98.22215367965369,77.83116883116884,6.172294372294372,19.326839826839823,6.42735559955562,-0.3147212121212117,266,5,69,2,6,87,56,77,0.092,0.866,0.042,-0.3818,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,4,0,5,4,0,0,0,9,10,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,3,6,4,0,2,1,0,3,2,3,0,1,0,1,12,0,10,8,0,16,0,0,0,0,6,8,0,0,5,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17888201763827374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17309474233999045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561502142988328,0.0,0.0,0.17797599947038525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930328157111835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7289438115492913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21085604745961906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020033798513771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875626522457234,0.0,0.0,0.23434314876315535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196292272225192,0.2091889194923784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21969980433086805,0.0,0.12940080889560746
parenting,FoolStack,2019/04/09,"Is charging rent reasonable? (Please read for context) Asking you to read the body of the post because I'm not just trying to charge my kids for living here. Thinking about this because of the rental contract which is trending in r/insaneparents.

I've had this idea for a while that once my kids started working, I would charge rent. A flat 10% or 20% or some amount of their paycheck. It would teach them saving, or responsibility, or just get them used to paying bills. In return, all the usual stuff - car, phone, food, is all covered. Then down the line (college graduation present?), I give them the money back with interest because I don't actually want their money. It's only about trying to teach financial responsibility.

Is this a reasonable idea? Or is any form of charging rent, even with good intentions, just asinine?",5.418399999999997,7.546761973333332,5.411666666666665,78.5275,69.26666666666667,7.666666666666668,29.83333333333333,8.344100000000001,2.2679333333333336,656,26,114,10,12,205,95,150,0.008,0.944,0.048,0.7676,5,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,5,1,8,3,0,0,9,0,9,2,1,4,2,25,17,7,0,3,9,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,8,2,1,0,5,2,7,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,11,3,18,14,5,12,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,6,7,73,19,8,0.0,0.0,0.158061267604111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014648662328684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142191739887828,0.0,0.0,0.12454643881922818,0.0,0.2962098091784117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17991433288994488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698095156658737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958571361937327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462366362207242,0.15537826246767028,0.0,0.1358543948077181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656932536566407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430242075830664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249485053072502,0.0,0.12318697383303033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779657211613467,0.0,0.0,0.15512436388661113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32403158255483905,0.0,0.0,0.33306830123771514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464458650357735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18541914202105164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378509141995866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199366565802402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13989176807163234,0.17838923001438284,0.0,0.09553525818218138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179175154943743,0.0,0.0,0.23012046546056664,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SurrealMoon,2019/04/09,7 year old son won't go to bed I'm having so many sleep issues with my 7 year old I dont know where to start. We have a bedtime routine and then I lay with him until he is asleep. But lately he wakes up at my slightest movement to get off the bed. Also he wakes up at night I used to go in and finish the night sleeping on his bed. I am trying to transition to just going in and tucking him back in and giving hugs and kisses then going back to my bed. But it isnt working. He is getting me up maybe 4 or 5 times in an hour then multiple times like this throughout the night and I am at my waist end and not sure how to deal.,1.1831363636363612,2.159967092857144,3.196493506493507,94.81396103896105,78.07142857142857,5.662337662337662,20.584415584415584,5.565023196281405,-0.20764285714285746,483,11,118,2,11,164,85,140,0.015,0.901,0.085,0.8569,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,5,0,9,8,6,2,1,19,20,17,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,2,10,1,0,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,14,4,23,19,0,38,0,0,0,2,11,13,0,1,21,74,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12369697271248388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378776531921027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15946755653966138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812829764509003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1369999401191902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16162709024666794,0.14838246995774287,0.35163122146092124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15232794335211336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614449923194436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500769283469786,0.0,0.1744849770167034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556848817560159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682052267172505,0.1553961375965128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4354681075579398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246197910021425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095819960267097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948279793143184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457834007228547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038947635316954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501708482038873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359324363370034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260836569064013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19921678341829316
parenting,ohmygotch,2019/04/09,"Bedtime Spotify Playlist It probably only works because we have been using it for so long and he has associated it with going to bed. But when he is really wound up and won't close his eyes, this gets him calm and to sleep rather quickly. Also, the music is enjoyable to his mother and I. We usually fall asleep before it's over.

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[Sleep Baby](https://open.spotify.com/user/1228686440/playlist/1wPXFJoaxdkqIcmbodCtwE?si=TwJVv-OhQGaQQ_yeuJN28A)",9.042100456621004,12.213716520547948,6.612534246575343,69.32418949771693,61.87671232876714,9.798173515981736,31.34474885844749,10.125756701596842,3.658170776255708,378,14,53,9,6,108,60,73,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.6369,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,1,0,6,5,4,1,0,11,9,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,8,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,2,7,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,4,35,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20063298460120754,0.0,0.2718342543489357,0.3048532534768253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293742710970384,0.0,0.21348501901722752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107728021756593,0.0,0.1425839693034638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22202570718508965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19080967187119569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704969226743441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607236282412986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5021332250871597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166844556098058,0.2763148520113485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18264757822401576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048532534768253,0.0
parenting,Frustrated_mama,2019/04/09,"I kicked my boyfriend out...what do I tell my children Yesterday, I found evidence that my boyfriend was cheating on me by sending 3 other women inappropriate texts several months ago. I told him to leave.

I have two children (boys 10 and 7) who are with their daddy until Wednesday, but then they will come home to find my boyfriend and all his things gone.  They love him, and they are always so excited to see him. It is breaking my heart. 

What do I tell my children about why my boyfriend moved out?  Do I allow them to say goodbye to each other?  If so, what is the best way to go about that?",3.668461538461538,5.141124564102566,4.003076923076922,89.51692307692308,72.58974358974359,6.90940170940171,27.52991452991453,7.3871296695380915,1.2990273504273504,462,17,97,5,9,144,77,117,0.027000000000000003,0.8220000000000001,0.15,0.9599,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,5,1,4,4,1,0,1,0,10,2,1,1,1,13,17,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,5,9,7,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,1,0,1,4,2,24,3,13,12,3,15,0,0,1,1,21,2,0,1,6,69,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276184909711566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809410238412104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282069231632707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18731930840035346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987510771045745,0.0,0.0,0.23842955904343724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358540074092975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576867086503172,0.0,0.0,0.2181263536107977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302547753617725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962627597885068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357150772645855,0.2311215845242675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292994167146014,0.0,0.0,0.17328448071849825,0.0,0.0,0.2456636711771457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38013270249454745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446827295660056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077887701035894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124231630636997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260665310463774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19622044657276466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AlmostAlmostNoOne,2019/04/09,"I broke my toddler, how do I fix this? We were on our way home from a road trip yesterday. I  have a 4mo and a 3yo. Well the baby was crying, we kept hoping she would fall back to sleep and we'd been driving for close to an hour with no luck so we decided to stop (for the 5th time, road trip from heel).

Inside the restaurant after getting baby to finally calm down I tell my toddler we should use the potty before we go because it will be a while before she has the chance again. She agrees and says she has to poop. She's been constipated all weekend so I'm relieved. 

We get into the bathroom and I sit her on the potty and then I ask her to push. If I don't she usually just sits there and does literally nothing, so I ask her to push and can tell when she's trying. I try to ask her again, this time with a please (we're working on manners, gotta set an example). She starts screaming, not from pain, but from frustration being asked to do something she doesn't want to do. I try to calm her and my usual tactics are no good. Finally after a few minutes of screaming I snap.

I didn't say anything to her, because I didn't want to yell. I get that she's upset and it's understandable,  but I had reached my breaking point after dealing with the screaming baby. So I went and sat in the corner of the stall and buried my head in my lap amd started to cry. What happens next broke my heart and I'm tearing up just writing this.

The screaming stopped. Her frustrated face turned to one of sadness and she began to cry. Then she says to me, ""Mommy I'm terrible,  I'm just terrible."" And proceeds to cry. I immediately get up and get on eye level with her and tell her she is NOT terrible and try to tell her how amazing she is and explain why I was upset and that it wasn't her.  But, you guys, she's already having these thoughts, so i think I'm too late. 

I struggled with depression throughout my childhood and even now as an adult. I do not wish that torture on anyone, especially not my amazing daughter. 

What have I done wrong? How can I fix this?",2.0461452942304,3.7822527021276606,3.541934700658107,90.03108108108108,77.53427895981088,6.180537984793304,25.144016356782323,7.001395882987947,0.940994428471024,1595,58,343,17,37,526,201,423,0.193,0.7240000000000001,0.084,-0.9946,0,0,1,0,0,0,49.0,8,1,0,1,22,28,3,3,20,0,32,8,7,4,1,65,65,37,0,7,11,1,0,0,0,4,1,8,1,2,13,33,0,3,5,1,0,8,11,19,1,1,15,9,68,9,48,43,2,59,0,4,1,0,52,17,0,3,29,236,81,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964460258088376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313751967655584,0.0,0.07430645211300843,0.0,0.33766072773558004,0.0,0.0,0.06943255291404568,0.0,0.11008800382370176,0.0,0.15367160304725944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39674653576123775,0.0,0.09309188491591523,0.07777237540518606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07901921003581827,0.09240482692862642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05964008807368056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978311406365012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358813731618649,0.0,0.05131766910992562,0.07573654891717597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940788345202855,0.07984903254095609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267041714601293,0.0,0.0,0.10700196923958524,0.0,0.0,0.0905749058678768,0.0896849512041129,0.08892401488879742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018585582701596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960315154628302,0.0,0.0,0.08664207441276586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061187349353478415,0.0,0.09608200578385327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911861004157099,0.08535952407955452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21542256947884772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09036186473136944,0.0,0.0,0.06951477541204598,0.0,0.0,0.12782487229959405,0.0,0.0,0.15098409119879233,0.0,0.09439766781473866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31569302081837824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057858449587342486,0.0,0.0716854566989587,0.10530540968397492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24522200217880874,0.09821682974524523,0.0,0.09400200084687273,0.0,0.07798731686717215,0.19889801378017846,0.0,0.10651861156012828,0.07167328063906131,0.0,0.0,0.08118753574982948,0.08370590250105096,0.08147868509915403,0.0,0.10383669532752818,0.0,0.0,0.06573703922550006,0.0,0.0,0.06414415195719296,0.09872521567051963,0.0,0.0
parenting,peterkelk,2019/04/09,"I’m a Dad, finally. 28 Years old and I’m finally a father, I shared my new experience on YouTube of you would like to have a watch. [First time experience with pregnancy and labour](https://youtu.be/tb0NfxPJ_VI)",4.037837837837838,7.375361432432435,4.517621621621622,75.85372972972975,83.32432432432431,10.527567567567568,29.021621621621623,9.888512548439397,4.264442162162164,171,8,29,7,5,54,29,37,0.0,0.851,0.149,0.5994,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,4,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,8,15,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5450635566957085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6104022053822729,0.0,0.23698355609469016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611364276952875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690810400592207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923519004754322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245838269691046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19791490708223766,0.0,0.0,0.17941421580964598
parenting,Faith0328,2019/04/09,"Parenting with a jerk Begin rant: I am dealing with some very obvious crap lately and my husband is witness. Instead of helping with our kids he yells at them until I intervene and motivate them to do what ever he is yelling about in some other way. His only way of parenting is to follow my lead which is, whenever we face a particular challenge, I research it on books or online articles, etc then implement ideas that have been tried and true. Often he follows my lead. Right now I have been particularly exhausted and unable to look up creative ways to parent certain behavior so he has resorted back to yelling. 

Why can he not pick up a book and take the lead for once? Especially during a particularly trying time for me? Why can he not be a more creative parent and motivate our kids without yelling. I have come to realize this is his way to get my attention rather than help me out. I am seriously considering divorcing this jerk.",5.974356060606059,7.238064693181819,7.025454545454547,70.81651515151519,66.8409090909091,10.63939393939394,35.12121212121212,10.686352973137794,4.142266666666666,750,36,129,21,12,252,113,176,0.078,0.802,0.12,0.7838,4,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,3,0,2,6,8,8,3,0,6,0,17,3,2,6,4,33,24,10,0,1,5,5,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,7,12,0,0,5,2,0,6,3,5,0,0,2,5,19,3,24,21,4,25,0,0,1,0,24,7,1,4,8,94,26,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10913117564845652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225538499482552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631792175035396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582833272018314,0.0,0.128378830434367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741496905596832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025799379258795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16021547896758134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600970113779391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918083062343153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151144954526123,0.0,0.10793997328568143,0.0,0.0,0.6303614212005253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120274267878957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067095570001475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275731395892383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927148309365141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11710257134150845,0.0,0.4506122301684937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25612956234430195,0.0,0.0,0.1368101479278019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,parentunsure,2019/04/10,"My child is going through a child-life-crisis? This is probably the weirdest advice I've ever had to ask for... obviously I'm doing a throw away because I feel weird posting at all. 

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Earlier this evening he seemed kind of obsessed with the ultrasound image of his youngest sister, and looking at himself as a baby this evening. We looked at old photos after dinner and now it's a few hours after bedtime and my 3 year old son is shaking in terror that he isn't able to go back to the womb, and seems to be wrestling with the concept of life itself. He's was shaking for about 30 minutes and is now at least clam but wide awake. We really aren't sure what to tell this guy other than he's safe, we're here to protect him, he's not going back in my tummy!   


Sometimes it seems kids are a lot more perceptive than we expected -- but wth. This kid is literally wrestling with life and even the teletubies isn't calming him. As bizarre as child dilemmas go, this was not one I was prepared for.

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Do I just let him sit with his 'wall' and figure it it himself, or should I be doing more to help guild him?",6.406904761904763,5.713577785714289,6.4926785714285735,81.76065476190479,65.78571428571429,8.895238095238097,33.84523809523809,7.793537801064563,2.3219148809523813,880,34,177,8,12,281,129,224,0.112,0.8390000000000001,0.05,-0.8371,0,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,3,0,0,0,11,9,0,4,10,0,20,4,1,0,4,34,32,13,0,2,6,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,14,14,1,2,6,0,0,7,5,5,0,1,4,3,18,4,33,24,6,29,0,0,2,1,26,9,0,5,11,124,32,0,0.1254469229325922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258528122160348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718433771725857,0.3048634844261119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727593885215767,0.0,0.11786151355535378,0.19292188071746086,0.0,0.07647127986346587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24856952843660826,0.11347392376440675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342973349301073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851775089122623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421217644039415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408442813407045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353994973029345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063366594169296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282779779876391,0.2658206147206528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106876412969968,0.0,0.0,0.10665048785287347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632708863478965,0.0,0.08500608157100781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014347543706926,0.0,0.13525300030840906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036451108266453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426065015427188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407021444984727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11823224026061682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10964613994003382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3048634844261119,0.08078370542966187
parenting,impatientfather,2019/04/10,"I know what I want to be when I grow up! I’ve thought about this my whole life and the answer has always been a great father. When I was in the 7th grade and we had to do a project about what I wanted to be when I was older, most of it was I’m sure career related but the only thing I remember about it, married with two kids. 

After multiple miscarriages, failed ivf attempts I’m finally going to be a father and I know what I want to be when I grow up. A hero, not joking I want to be a fucking super hero for my son. I want him to look at me and think, that’s my dad, my hero. 

I’ve done many things to prepare for having children over the last 8-10 years. But I think this is a defining moment. I own a small motel in a rural town in the Midwest, I recently came upon a homeless family. A husband and wife with three girls, you can tell this was a family of good people just having a hard time. They were staying in my motel all five of them in one room, their girls using a cracked cellphone to do their homeschooling online. So I did what any hero would do, I gave them a studio with a kitchen and then a second room for their girls so they had their own room. I promised them a FREE worry-free, safe place to live, a steady job, a computer so their kids can finish their homeschool. I think this is the first step in becoming the man my son looks up to. 

So if I am going to be his hero this is my origin story.",2.8241085271317843,3.4665196279069765,4.269767441860463,89.97968992248066,73.65116279069767,7.195127353266888,22.971207087486164,7.2636822038024595,0.6439253599114063,1092,26,249,11,21,364,154,301,0.027000000000000003,0.784,0.189,0.9942,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,1,11,9,12,15,1,0,26,0,29,3,0,2,2,36,50,18,0,7,5,7,1,0,0,1,1,0,5,7,14,11,1,1,8,3,1,6,1,2,0,6,13,3,43,14,37,30,5,41,0,1,2,1,32,18,1,2,16,180,57,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801490059443355,0.0,0.0,0.09645006352656207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566413911856834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221708150519842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14514253615417674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2674116208511921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536912105486594,0.0,0.12064152616168725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112063711243213,0.0,0.0,0.16121185205808766,0.11896126160048412,0.0,0.15636937265059073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705287554101408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074555763285734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589341064914164,0.11561133869252073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017955431288957,0.0,0.0,0.1252395271980152,0.0,0.23820493410431365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379455155085408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09610847572470528,0.10786900078326042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832787948103368,0.0,0.1481833920744718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004117601995433,0.0,0.16066707448623868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117316276673146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13367420522110646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396669960527205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18845266275253164,0.2726390727686296,0.0,0.11259811133777475,0.08270289951461261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13854845043276484,0.0,0.0,0.12249659822104088,0.0,0.0,0.4182785126961019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583494433283526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075279835453804,0.0,0.0,0.09133462746136496
parenting,brodantic,2019/04/10,"When to transition from one-arm swaddling to no-arm swaddling Dad to the most wonderful 15 w.o. daughter. She has been an absolute blessing at nighttime so far. Wife and I have been following the 5Ss and it has worked out very well for us. DD has been able to sleep through the night for the most part over the last month.

One of the Ss is Swaddling and that's what my question is about today. We transitioned her to one-arm swaddling over a week ago. She is still able to sleep through most nights (8-10 hours straight). Occasionally she'll wake up once in the middle of the night for a diaper change + feed, but that's alright. I'd say that she has got one-arm swaddling down pat! And it doesn't matter which arm is out. I wish I could just continue to use the same Swaddling mechanism indefinitely and continue to get great sleep myself, but I know I have to move on from this eventually. Which leads to...

**MY QUESTION:** When should I move away from one-arm swaddling to no-arm swaddling? What kind of signs do you usually look for before determining that the LO is ready for the next challenge? Is there a certain time length that I'm normally supposed to keep her with one arm out? Is it even a bad thing to just continue swaddling her the same way that I have been?

Note that we haven't worked in any sort of schedule into my daughter's sleep or naps, nor do we want to yet. But we do try to differentiate daytime from nighttime. We also want to start gradually introducing positive sleep associations.

Thank you!",3.240183301946016,5.469040722033904,3.7911111111111104,87.34247332077841,75.67796610169492,7.217827997489015,26.18016321406152,8.167268648758528,1.591984306340239,1203,45,245,21,27,378,155,295,0.029,0.853,0.118,0.9809,1,0,0,0,0,0,42.0,6,2,0,4,12,9,0,0,17,1,26,9,8,2,1,44,40,14,0,6,6,4,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,16,15,1,1,4,1,0,4,3,1,1,2,5,2,26,8,46,32,6,42,1,0,1,0,22,16,0,9,21,159,42,4,0.20199725558361092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952918962894409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076856615530767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868253028894979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489153548192206,0.0,0.08432963549065636,0.0,0.0,0.08594239335039168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684315626359878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063918595861576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670864111574279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052767614456584004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077782904534388,0.1113513436969438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946330375064577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897722209879882,0.0,0.10517452875758213,0.05550620449207189,0.08232736175760323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848134101907106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806161411203041,0.21469111512610814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741318646103573,0.28434111104378235,0.09895721119683312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10756024235964733,0.410635704340556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10937167165409653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262831554973089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803181626081323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5053578389645579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07148734858812429,0.0,0.080657634619782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929859668771035,0.0,0.0,0.06709900047898577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05889311207485134,0.0,0.09573488968705644,0.0,0.0,0.06857143854658851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148891360049872,0.08723038648173552,0.1112357195340169,0.08333444536022269,0.11914321491164248,0.08016800964197493,0.08101500707127189,0.0,0.09080989583241374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161434375263043,0.0,0.10952870352719847,0.1470564078405716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Shanmtlcanada,2019/04/10,"Pre K VS daycare? My wife and I are trying to decide on what to do come the next school year with our 4 year old son. A public elementary school near our house just opened up a free pre k program so now that is an option that we weren't expecting. We thought we would have to keep him in daycare for another year until he'd be old enough for kindergarten. The daycare that he is at is great. Although there is a cost associated with sending him there we are happy with the staff and how it is run. I do think that the pre k program would be good for him I just don't know if we should take him out of a daycare that he loves... I also wanted for him to go to a french elementary school but the pre k program is only offered in english...
Any thoughts or comments are welcome!",4.319068322981369,4.456569012422364,5.200801242236025,86.4512639751553,70.05590062111801,7.6822360248447215,29.143478260869564,7.1686216300943375,1.4082864596273303,605,21,133,5,10,198,93,161,0.0,0.913,0.087,0.906,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,7,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,11,0,20,1,0,1,0,32,30,10,0,6,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,13,0,1,5,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,18,7,21,21,1,20,0,0,0,1,23,8,0,3,8,91,25,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325900885004102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331841516189793,0.17473271598785045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14354243894676905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17217986835990862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470326359871092,0.1397666433523324,0.0,0.18371713652366087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17738746648792786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922759459588872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148114022082835,0.0,0.0,0.0915789662703468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039578917435814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721962202100633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3497135835539101,0.0,0.0,0.12673443403684506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5059345713826113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528977820795995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067738285413089,0.0,0.2645812570876255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131351263382481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982864218476012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367473284145277,0.0,0.0,0.3219249896234823
parenting,Throwaway7686557,2019/04/10,"Is it normal for my 4 year old to not have remorse or seemingly empathy? Sorry for using a throwaway and sorry for any mobile formatting issues.

Recently my 4 year old has really started to push boundaries. This last weekend he pushed boundaries and said no to every little thing. I can't list all of things without making this a novel but essentially he didn't really sleep and when he did he refused to do it in his bed, threw his toys everywhere, went around breaking things with a purpose while watching us to see our reactions, broke up our large old jade plant, threw balls at our dogs head who just had a heart attack and is recovering, refusing to keep clothes on and then when he messed up his clothes he refused to take them off. On and on and on.

 Every little thing he fought with us. We tried talking it through with him first. He's  pretty smart and was put into a reading program by his preschool when he was 3 so he has a decent ability to understand things. While we talked to him he would laugh and talk nonsense over us. Then we tried time-outs with count downs that would reset if he got off the chair and he didn't care. After hours of this it became clear that he would outlast us with the time-out method. Then I tried putting some of his most treasured toys in a time-out where he wouldn't get them back after a couple days. He laughed through that and continued his destructive behaviour. Finally, after a long two days of this,  I picked up his favorite toy and said I would donate it and it would go to another kid if he didn't start to listen. At first he reacted and pleaded no. Thinking I finally had a chance I asked if he would calm down for a bit and come read books with me. If he did then I wouldn't donate it. He then said, ""fine, donate it, I don't care."" And he proceeded to laugh. I counted down from 5 to 1 slowly. Then I handed the toy his dad who then took the batteries out and I walked the toy out to the car. 

Then he was finally upset. He cried for a long time and I felt so gutted. I believe in sticking to my word so it still got donated.  I tried comforting him and explain why this happened but he wasn't having it, which seemed fair. I gave him time and just listened to him as he cried. He said things about how he wished I would disappear forever when he was crying, which I tried not to take to personally during that time because of how upset he was. After crying for an hour he said it again very calmly with a smile on his face, which I admit...creeped me out a little. Then he whispered that he was going to end my life so that I never take his toys again. He said this all while smiling.  

The next day he was a little better. Then the day after that he was really well behaved. Then tonight I told him that one of his toys would come out of time-out after dinner. He looked at me and whispered that he would make me disappear forever and I'll never take toys away again. I tried to tell him how sad that makes me and why and his response was to start throwing things at my face. His dad took him away and calmed him down with books and I'm now writing this.

My questions are, is this something 4 yr olds do sometimes and there's nothing to be concerned about? Are my methods talking, time-outs, and toy-time-outs the right thing to do? Did I break trust between us when I donated his favorite toy? Also, I would love any book or technique recommendations, if that makes sense.",3.507201944467333,4.9567404716157215,4.082168026145947,88.88266869901956,72.95924308588064,7.106303040290022,25.189338386751256,7.636893063338952,1.1373560682211423,2692,84,561,33,53,851,281,687,0.099,0.7809999999999999,0.12,0.9685,0,0,3,0,0,1,71.0,11,0,2,3,29,24,3,2,25,0,45,10,7,10,5,105,96,65,0,19,14,2,2,0,0,12,1,10,1,2,43,47,1,4,7,17,5,18,15,8,1,4,35,15,72,16,89,48,5,122,0,2,3,1,104,36,0,12,66,363,115,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04019048147146003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835292719405621,0.05269881597476274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044739359197662566,0.04698348359920236,0.05717455973074269,0.09443615703790632,0.038644508444492964,0.0,0.03063618299235692,0.0,0.0,0.056622396155771325,0.0,0.044448206671711135,0.05486759578155686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248066256834652,0.0,0.0,0.08658386074821127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055608382398087866,0.22081969059281006,0.12964635430036608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451275915821791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08468733109741736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04825457340957226,0.1651621652391612,0.0,0.0854971075476654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026257193015319133,0.0,0.057124389469742236,0.0,0.08039018138093608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04444207339075605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05157815127995001,0.0,0.0,0.059554752494489376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09898598568145654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05245522044873584,0.0,0.04467070490432939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040966138992127005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035497984821939166,0.0,0.20148275128751764,0.0,0.08895167550387373,0.042203198014517364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045358878400481126,0.0,0.13418767331034426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752254840426022,0.0,0.05344885870515171,0.0,0.04924116091681198,0.04822291901663887,0.0,0.21094494730870847,0.0,0.034055424142532216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04388244848822552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05112940711257258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010442736461953,0.056299309256219024,0.0,0.10054114230032624,0.0,0.0965877073856608,0.0,0.049622695717695335,0.0,0.0,0.04291917854925479,0.2868353283391295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040048299015415983,0.09150411757524393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029326588343167,0.0,0.0,0.03869027153233783,0.049705429287609335,0.1125171286476856,0.10671642802288407,0.0,0.04013528188038926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511479502386769,0.16157859803708466,0.043926807732340284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26710798657177354,0.032202637665235824,0.0,0.0,0.2637471949892787,0.0,0.0,0.04802268941021064,0.11167468772755478,0.20472710572170447,0.0,0.049093757945903364,0.05231927911426901,0.3022647400759749,0.043405886702275034,0.0,0.041467264328355714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04518705245874916,0.046588715527430914,0.0906981985311239,0.0,0.057793036277961236,0.04844592652349977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3570111018448721,0.0,0.0,0.06472768304028773
parenting,Algernon96,2019/04/10,"5 year old has been sent home from preschool twice now for violent tantrums I just started The Explosive Child and my husband and I have a parent coaching session for the first time next week. We’re trying to figure this out. Just wanted to start with that. 

Our 5yo son has always had trouble transitioning. He gets very focused on what he’s doing and hates stopping. We give lots of warnings. For a while, that was going really well. Then about a month ago, one of his friends at school started having huge meltdowns at school. I don’t know a lot about them because they were during the day and I only heard about them second-hand, but I know that he’d been pretty disruptive in class. About two weeks later, my son suddenly started to absolutely flip the fuck out whenever frustrated. Again, it’s not like he’s never had trouble before, but it’s never been like this. He scream-grunts instead of answers you, like this sharp, quick, “AHHH!” when you try to talk to him. It’s infuriating. “Can you tell me why you’re upset?” / “AHHH!” / “I don’t know what that means. Can you please use your words?” / “AHHH!!” He graduated quickly to throwing stuff and hitting/kicking his teachers, who love him otherwise. I mean, the kid is reading. Not sight words, either. He straight-up reads books. He draws and writes stories as books, too. He’s smart. But he’s suddenly taken to becoming a caveman when he’s upset. 

We don’t spank at home. I won’t. It’s sometimes tough not to because I was raised by parents who would’ve slapped me across the room if I ever hit them. It’s hard to unlearn your parents’ parenting when you’re triggered. We reward the hell out of good behavior. He gets random gold stars for being good. He gets treats when he’s transitioned well most of the day. We’ve now added an additional reward for seven days without a tantrum (cumulatively, not consecutively, and the reward is an event he really wants). It’s starting to feel like we’ll never reach three days, much less seven. Our punishment system has been strikes. One strike and you lose treats, two and you lose video games and tablets, three and you lose TV altogether. He hates getting strikes, but when he’s in that moment, he cannot think clearly enough to weigh his options. He’s on this angry autopilot.

No real purpose of posting here beyond commiserating, I guess. The Explosive Child is starting out promising. I mean, that’s my child described there. He is genuinely sorry after he gets his shit together. I asked tonight as he went to bed after a terrible tantrum if he had any thoughts for how mommy and daddy can help when he feels so frustrated. He sadly said, “Nothing will help.” I assured that wasn’t true, that we’d work together and we’d get through this. Then he noticed I didn’t have my own blankie to cuddle, so he got me one because he is a super sweet kid when he’s in control. 

I hope to hell we figure this out before kindergarten. These teachers are working with us like champs. They’ve had him over a year and adore him. It kills me that he’s being so awful to them. The next teacher might not see past this to the good kid underneath.",2.877532786885247,5.3965424833333335,3.4680655737704913,87.71739344262299,78.33333333333334,6.0677595628415295,25.169398907103826,7.266761967509797,1.2233734972677597,2470,92,471,32,61,774,298,600,0.199,0.665,0.136,-0.9908,4,0,0,0,1,0,87.0,10,9,5,12,30,50,14,2,23,1,42,5,1,4,7,80,84,36,1,5,15,7,4,5,1,4,0,2,4,6,29,26,1,2,13,8,0,4,17,24,2,11,20,9,57,26,59,54,8,75,2,4,2,3,90,19,4,10,55,282,86,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340998769128986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952146728391298,0.0,0.0,0.04864512253801257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687401434783455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081817592354156,0.07900295126974022,0.12173920320499615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023072070068425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845323397385185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391305978803409,0.0,0.0,0.06470599920323218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233880963491224,0.051103430661181816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060846220403908025,0.0,0.0,0.05526647916926596,0.06613141792114997,0.22423929873988185,0.06862129559641647,0.040654044233915484,0.17999630906116806,0.057211744758587986,0.0,0.07880203608568978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407981989350787,0.14124872253800144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958945766455288,0.0,0.1435075401319502,0.07104874474244888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07914103948810693,0.0,0.11793855472901395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473787726909532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24008252170337194,0.0,0.12163017111067699,0.06456163001516887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23376232602790506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588556685425323,0.0,0.0,0.05709722758961669,0.0,0.05258523385363432,0.0,0.16551275949944275,0.0,0.1521530320916595,0.0,0.0,0.06863816667412716,0.08144117895618187,0.0750622045890892,0.0,0.1454185225274327,0.0544043266462918,0.0,0.0,0.3177172239374952,0.0,0.0682866648872992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785221236062506,0.0,0.0,0.06850916376210665,0.07277512101934691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310539103690129,0.08142059880824143,0.09165217554086437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680445850093813,0.0,0.0,0.1447911132299896,0.0570028085999303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342794306561426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074829997070063,0.08007571490175983,0.3037899871210555,0.0,0.0,0.059805073268867824,0.0,0.0,0.08188855732961968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057495787113252886,0.06252329000561731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045835674332578825,0.0,0.056789479688278174,0.041711664399571115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713288129232672,0.0,0.13975535323307509,0.0,0.08604579744286309,0.061781836248466275,0.0,0.05902249508180332,0.08438443174074617,0.0,0.1147594571667676,0.0,0.1286341225883066,0.06631212059979072,0.06454771086829435,0.0,0.0,0.0689555847553557,0.0,0.10415424343438154,0.0,0.0,0.05081523062609925,0.0,0.0,0.09213024817963424
parenting,OnemoreSavBlanc,2019/04/10,"Young girl starting period? My little girl (she’s only 8 years old) has been complaining about stomach and back cramps for a couple of weeks on and off. There’s nothing else wrong, she’s still eating normally etc.

 So I asked her to do star jumps (we were always told to do this by our teacher when we had period cramps in school because it makes them go away) she did a couple of jumps and said it makes her feel better.. she has now been doing this each time the cramps come on and she says it helps.

There have been other signs too including crazy mood swings for an otherwise laid back child

I should mention I got my first period when I was 9 so I guess that’s why it’s on my mind too. But I can’t remember the early signs and my mother just made me feel like a leper honestly. I want to avoid this for my child and be prepared if it’s happening.

So I guess the point here is has anyone dealt with this so early in their daughters? What else should I look out for? Any ways to prepare such a young kid?",2.2953623188405814,4.066400106280195,3.1462077294686,92.98858695652176,76.92270531400966,6.532367149758454,19.229468599033815,7.3871296695380915,0.23639903381642524,790,16,174,10,18,250,129,207,0.032,0.892,0.075,0.8133,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,2,2,18,7,0,1,8,0,19,5,1,3,0,31,36,14,0,5,3,2,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,5,12,12,1,1,3,0,0,4,1,3,0,1,11,5,27,3,21,22,2,34,0,0,1,0,26,10,0,3,20,115,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12095132537938275,0.0,0.0,0.09884991605046176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10163922694104087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589215854220968,0.0,0.1365706865606922,0.2235460321811452,0.0,0.08861022464490463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855927839398473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12521493544799947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216765781601205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14873976694746607,0.24285957856198015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211503974987082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14699696262484852,0.10384535113054733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12364330615498405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261154767354174,0.0,0.116257825480193,0.0,0.320261281923544,0.0,0.1285415388667278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743187350075867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710156480144069,0.14568910116931374,0.0,0.0,0.12206595246322745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375433295532115,0.19405811552263352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677235768951594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242212653264122,0.13947702584762106,0.0,0.1525310706411718,0.0,0.0,0.11055297717803962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13741236722548358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16466476272111674,0.0,0.1382708309678904,0.11559626003497105,0.0,0.147112276019586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288669297530384,0.0,0.11608483813062186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476069766297056,0.0,0.0,0.13889789396260155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08573720815504678,0.11538015547334615,0.11659917906535308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116496511226705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892855233692524,0.0,0.09360719865746614
parenting,twistedrep,2019/04/10,"Child possibly being groomed for part of gang? Sorry if this sounds silly. However my daughter who is 13 moved to a new school this past year. She was part of an arts school but since moving out of area we changed schools. This new school which is ranked the highest in our district has been a little rough. We are a white middle-class family , a larger percent at this school is black. Now this being said it wasn't an issue at all when she started ...however her attitude has changed the past few months..nothing horrendous just the basic entitled..I want everything teen attitude. A majority of her friends are black and or white girls who want to be. Today I walked in and she has a red bandana /handkerchief on her head like a gang member. I immediately asked where she go that from...she said a friend let her wear it and was asked if she was a ""blood""..she said no..but her friends are wearing them...than it hit me..their are areas within this state that bloods are in...not in our area currently but this does pass down to children. Also the past 2 sets of shoes shes wanted and got are maroon/white...red/white. All cause her ""friends"" are wearing them..and told her to get them...before she didn't like red.. I have a feeling they are testing her. 

Has anyone had any experience with this?",3.0354062012818264,5.2182462908366585,3.4278399445695484,89.92399792135805,76.13147410358566,6.5962930885155036,23.662047462324608,7.586124646067393,0.9987445349038628,1013,32,206,14,23,314,143,251,0.026,0.8690000000000001,0.105,0.9502,3,0,1,0,1,0,54.0,4,0,1,1,5,7,0,0,16,0,28,6,6,1,2,21,43,11,0,5,6,1,2,2,4,0,0,4,0,3,16,8,0,0,1,1,0,5,2,0,0,0,12,12,24,7,20,26,7,32,0,0,6,0,36,14,0,3,13,122,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169138074508582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946725687294843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142745859973043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19099774408816028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08692432107598351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493883814560692,0.21612776786338386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939441052374109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180815142230372,0.09992482408091898,0.09630036040030901,0.0,0.05165141342654609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315691317411302,0.0,0.05337050648260672,0.0,0.05805566491306029,0.0,0.08170074946750801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483801736314367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066207526970794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445793336481557,0.0,0.0998131806221731,0.10238372088602712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21714405075149928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973191952470892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09801815489135456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22124257733239872,0.2925485871897714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11516168443334893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915114868073052,0.0,0.0,0.5169193194964241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845016691976777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435144915132532,0.07230412139222267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682870077173188,0.09761116715654024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18075671382772796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578291185372168
parenting,betchy8213,2019/04/10,"What is/was your favorite family tradition? My husband and I were talking today about different traditions we grew up with and we were discussing ones we'd like to incorporate into our own lives now. We have two young kids and besides celebrating obvious holiday traditions (Easter egg hunt, May Day gift basket, planting something on Earth Day, etc.), we'd like to know what type of traditions you grew up with or do now that you love!",9.312088607594935,8.751078658227847,8.841613924050632,66.84950949367092,59.886075949367076,12.963291139240505,40.003164556962034,12.161744961471696,5.102643037974683,350,16,58,10,4,112,60,79,0.0,0.757,0.243,0.9674,1,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,6,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,13,9,4,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,9,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,11,3,10,4,2,12,0,0,0,1,14,4,0,2,8,39,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838822376520469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31095091614881903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319264254611396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805708768318975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16356488464831712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29080547040666954,0.0,0.2628050632063829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26861484585092765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2016758973991125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22912341949529386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23921672964074064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821101952795088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907327669447335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Curious1417,2019/04/10,"My 4 year old gave me an ugly reality check My 4 year old son always always gets toothpaste all over his shirt/pants/sink/floor every time he brushes. It usually makes us late bc I have to clean it and I get so frustrated. The other day he came out ready and as usual had toothpaste everywhere. I started getting angry and getting onto him and through tears in his eyes he said “mom, I’m little. Sometimes I can’t do things right”. I felt like a knife had stabbed me in the chest. I got on his level, squeezed him tight & told him I was sorry and he was right. I try to do better now and have more patience. He has no idea how those words have affected my reaction from other 4 year old “mishaps”.",2.1086511375947983,4.057535119718313,3.2953521126760603,90.89173889490792,78.08450704225352,6.059371614301193,23.599133261105088,7.010146845296331,0.7647891657638137,545,18,115,6,13,176,98,142,0.14400000000000002,0.782,0.073,-0.8506,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,4,0,11,2,2,3,1,16,24,9,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,8,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,10,6,20,2,11,14,2,24,0,0,1,0,17,10,0,0,14,64,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24185279572022156,0.15746524913558885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853278291012207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16621907266792116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372597884237774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244699120909355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395398166293292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30371619845937525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11623386526995068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640601458991095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639388354604037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100101201162695,0.14565907530671388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700906051283932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020901501512078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4574989040391398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482224536029751,0.1382423339771142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373531871072812,0.16268529996000505,0.1028654884947913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965509505961691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474322886783439,0.0,0.0,0.1388692677369878,0.0,0.0986696899828393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17481437892204665,0.0,0.32012144397357273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28076371991586385
parenting,Santanacyn,2019/04/10,"A 6th grader exposed himself to my son So today my 5 year old got off the school bus with his sister who is 8. The first thing my son walked up to me and said was mom ruben took his pp out on the bus. So im just trying to make sense of what he just said so i said can you say that again. He did. So i said did He say anything to you? Did he ask you to touch it or anything he said no. He just asked me to sit with him and then he did it. I couldnt believe what he was telling me or should i say i didnt want to believe it.. I called the city school district and told them what had happened they have suspended the boy off the bus for now and are pulling the video tape off the bus to see if they captured anything, And i will be going up to the school in the morning to further discuss things and so they can question my son. Idk what happens after this or what else to do. Although my son is fine all i could do is cry. Who knows if this boy has done this b4. Im glad my son knew it was inappropriate and told me. But What if he didnt? What if next time it happened he took it further... I just cant even think straight rn",0.2883446830801475,1.8213812289156657,1.8538606600314296,101.05375065479308,82.09236947791166,4.651719923170943,20.063034747686395,4.813696971540001,-0.6399786624759911,862,23,223,2,23,279,123,249,0.059,0.921,0.02,-0.7613,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,4,1,12,2,0,0,11,0,27,0,0,1,1,32,49,22,0,8,12,7,1,0,0,2,0,8,0,2,21,10,0,0,4,1,0,5,5,0,0,1,22,10,30,2,24,22,1,27,0,0,1,0,48,11,0,8,10,145,51,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589494811767221,0.0,0.1961181650998149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23635285395936906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710560977612857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374706235117517,0.0,0.11521802242891263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734008201154864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762311128808753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692796270258651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922037367762539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059612067832296875,0.0,0.08389104881496136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782647396150407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266009211013257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764544263703551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07001566894532299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12284726791298975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155294683291196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100656359269074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750211331609466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4988776016797603,0.25024099977870906,0.0,0.31846638480972905,0.08358468036633032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916795038512767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13937006208616776,0.06721002495425282,0.0,0.0,0.061162883409047575,0.0,0.09942456239475683,0.20045601153441747,0.2330758935635275,0.07121421764374047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06186752835678095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675464730186543
parenting,badnewparent,2019/04/10,"2w old newborn never awake and content, cries or sleeps My wife and I had a baby about two weeks ago. Ever since our son was born, it has been an absolute nightmare: he cries and fusses every time he is awake, and we can never put him down into a swing or a bed. He is never just awake and content --- maayybe 10-20 minutes a day totalled up, which we use for tummy time, but other than that, he's driving us nuts. The only time he stops crying is when he is at my wife's breast or when he's being carried and in motion (bouncing, ...). We're constantly in tears and are wondering if this is normal and we're just wusses... Help!",5.412154017857142,4.676519210937503,6.19924107142857,83.18593750000002,67.828125,8.251785714285715,28.441964285714285,6.868970318607317,1.3984651785714275,481,13,100,3,7,159,87,128,0.117,0.856,0.027000000000000003,-0.8687,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,6,0,12,2,2,1,5,27,14,15,0,2,7,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,11,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,3,0,8,0,9,10,1,25,0,0,0,1,17,6,0,5,16,63,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065279408605284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365846738773825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5600551070179602,0.10960541703694136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373192660997573,0.14319246064062674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391569715863945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39323394599726536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651753940311378,0.0,0.0,0.17833674572938865,0.0,0.0,0.12925666946249856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17084938195064675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405866109212772,0.0,0.1700754151106195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420880482163168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973023186048485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660190706513742,0.0,0.20443214509424196,0.14678454599159207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632578635831427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18430642885726267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,brianadayne,2019/04/10,"Help me figure out the best first Father's Day gift for my husband! I had an easy all natural labor and couldn't tell when I was having contractions. I thought maybe motherhood would come as easy...

My daughter wouldn't latch, so I exclusively pumped for 5 months so she could have only breastmilk til she was 6 months. Looking back, I pushed myself further than I ever should have - pumping 5 hours a day, draining myself completely. I developed ppd & ppa. For so long I would have anxiety attacks, be down and depressed, I'd be pumping, or sleeping because of all of my chronic illnesses (endo, if, pfd, cfs, pots...).

My husband never complained, he told me to sleep so I wouldnt feel guilty, & became a single parent in so many aspects all while I did my best to balance and figure out my life as it now was/is.

Things are so much better, but I'll never take for granted the amazing father, and even more supportive husband he became.

We don't have much money, but I'm trying to save up for something - but what!?!

TL;DR: First 6 months of parenthood, my husband was pretty much a single parent in most respects. What can I do for fathers day that will show him my apprection (on a budget)?",4.515512458258415,5.984336061135372,5.173573079886978,81.96322630362191,70.48471615720524,7.309632674030311,29.191112252761364,7.724431198458867,1.9324788594913955,934,36,169,11,17,301,140,229,0.042,0.7859999999999999,0.172,0.9838,3,0,1,0,2,0,48.0,1,0,0,5,12,10,1,0,7,0,24,5,2,0,6,32,32,20,0,8,5,10,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,4,1,2,2,6,3,0,2,7,2,27,7,23,15,12,28,0,1,1,0,20,8,0,3,18,123,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278051117471148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981580183784153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597296209495794,0.0,0.0986636957575568,0.0,0.07821755689485256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693102038872782,0.11348117796156518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105290769404722,0.13453226531545193,0.0,0.0,0.10244636717980818,0.0,0.0,0.2482510899667797,0.0,0.11051458808981104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474859785063668,0.11606518295458773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487819737256903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21828355300081626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600455691718975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636107390995746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063027362629786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135517231593844,0.10774942304884318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008781724384175,0.12890624265020936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072512710409191,0.0,0.2829713564315212,0.0,0.19792362325153007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758674935055467,0.0,0.0,0.284949681468539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053902017837685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568085186491195,0.0,0.0,0.09878053397229404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560647656618758,0.0,0.0,0.09647435028282976,0.0,0.11214998891574536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08524452173904733,0.0,0.0,0.10186507327108243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260722695526664,0.0,0.08711514988502801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229775019696068,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,maddiepink5,2019/04/10,"4-year-old doesn't want to go to school Hi, I must preface this post by saying that I am not her parent, but her second cousin, but for some reason I'm like her favorite person ever, so it's likely she will listen to me best. 

I love my little cousin to death but I recently learned that she has been trying to get out of going to school. Now she's told her mother that it's because nobody likes her and that she has no friends. We've no idea if she's being bullied, or excluded or what, she's very outgoing and wants everyone to like her but being only 4 isnt really being able to communicate her feelings exactly. 

So I'm going to call her tonight but I was wondering what sort of course I should take with this? Should I just put more emphasis on my love for her and our friendship? How important it is to go to school? Or maybe give her advice on how to make friends? I think that might be too much for her... I just need a little advice from more experienced parents.",3.759755922469491,4.691579135678391,4.836988513998566,85.70096733668342,71.71356783919596,7.896769562096195,24.76704953338119,8.192908349453996,1.3107743000717873,764,21,160,11,14,251,117,199,0.08900000000000001,0.693,0.218,0.9869,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,1,9,9,0,0,1,0,17,2,0,4,3,37,37,16,1,7,12,5,1,4,2,5,0,2,0,1,12,5,0,0,6,0,0,5,5,0,0,1,3,4,30,9,23,25,5,15,0,0,0,2,34,5,0,8,8,113,42,4,0.1272892954513973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24877125264832325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759437305064601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358226245078628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997660245228831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11514045518548327,0.0,0.12163037666672845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06436129239561889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19668678782199991,0.0,0.06650340320142951,0.12210749092325765,0.28936575995197555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14369412085833433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487484805075539,0.2551546282801371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297671177015679,0.0,0.08496659313138563,0.0,0.12787920612508535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503382711337042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357227825082558,0.0943833997004049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356870321201816,0.0,0.0,0.0968092450661182,0.0,0.0,0.2826793978525254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11114410301115553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190795903128172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796089946796682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154478209485562,0.13087459572625684,0.1256828229632311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122555676117234,0.0,0.3864706879439029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570570883117456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156184080877428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163037666672845,0.0,0.08642107612270171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502699956084313,0.1501570488183192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380398111192283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197013292721661
parenting,King-Coopa,2019/04/10,"Childproofing advice on window Hello all,

My 3 year old daughter was able to open and tilt our double hung vinyl window. She is safe and unharmed, luckily. I am looking for a way to lock the window so she is unable to open it. However, I am at a loss because she somehow was able to make it tilt. The mechanism seems sophisticated as a childproof system but she figured it out. The only locks I'm able to find seem to be designed to restrict the opening, but how do I keep her from being able to activate the tilt?

I ordered a keyed sash lock that has a cam action that I'm hoping will be enough to prevent the tilt, but I am willing to try a DIY approach if anybody has any ideas and the lock is insufficient.

Product I ordered below:

 [https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PIKSMG/ref=ppx\_od\_dt\_b\_asin\_title\_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PIKSMG/ref=ppx_od_dt_b_asin_title_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1)",9.865651105651104,12.670715540540545,7.437002457002458,65.70701474201475,59.135135135135144,7.543980343980343,30.346437346437348,8.00094639256281,2.18101891891892,772,25,110,8,11,223,91,148,0.035,0.882,0.083,0.6946,1,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,13,0,16,0,0,2,1,25,24,10,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,7,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,13,2,17,17,3,15,0,1,1,0,8,7,0,5,2,77,18,0,0.6752582422832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16496363480348394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658210116969667,0.0,0.11479969008609095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290778924385773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443056804616885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542934500280825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676709493550008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19057109070549771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15005013799585076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417617138459528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11268503004755505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714248365337246,0.0,0.0,0.1283910803895351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30736487142434143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461400534878514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339971405100981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871104220481592
parenting,VTFarmGirl,2019/04/10,"Any good 5yo friendly vid's for tonsils and adenoids removals? As indicated, need a video or something for my 5 year old. He's getting the set out next month and I'm trying my best to explain it, he's obviously nervous about it and did not like the scope in his nose today but its hard without appropriate visual representation... so far I'm finding more clinical/adult explanations.

I'd even take some hidden Daniel Tiger video for this :)",4.530258175559382,6.710960373493979,5.38368330464716,77.5831325301205,71.77108433734941,7.634423407917385,31.1342512908778,8.418075326091056,2.5245022375215145,353,16,63,6,7,115,69,83,0.056,0.809,0.136,0.8269,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,0,1,13,7,7,0,1,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,3,4,9,6,3,10,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,6,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905949740306324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941287946522981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511740420139064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561640722126136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21653790991685892,0.0,0.14643086189020532,0.0,0.0,0.2350793533604189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510691919615774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692703170496204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237109095811255,0.0,0.0,0.20781857620725425,0.0,0.0,0.2980730820189709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29409893917237057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576753478336136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107301093977802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656656465183497,0.0,0.0,0.1902866929049766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701727778657383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048636063678947
parenting,DiedOfStarve,2019/04/10,"How to explain death do a three year old So the title is pretty set explanatory but here’s a bit more background info. 

Yesterday, my dad got told he only has a few months left to live. He has leukaemia. I have a three year old son and I explained to him yesterday that Opa is sick and that’s why I’m sad (he saw me crying). I haven’t told him that he won’t get better and that he’ll die, mainly because I want to be in a clear head space for that conversation. 

But how do I explain the concept of death to a three year old? I don’t want to use the sleep analogy as I’m worried my son will think that my dad will wake up again.",1.5401194426011957,2.724943131386862,3.3066887856668887,93.53816191108164,77.54014598540147,6.4416721964167225,21.94359654943597,6.980632752743323,0.3278379562043794,487,13,118,5,11,163,79,137,0.172,0.742,0.086,-0.946,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,9,0,13,4,3,3,1,16,28,9,3,2,2,4,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,1,12,1,11,19,4,15,0,1,1,0,17,4,0,0,10,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532823899616106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281444612198347,0.1886366602218803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897964014611445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17932373247437527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027312253539643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819208873945554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17732743815866533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.187731598289526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525724751688307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791547828397216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5439269269618371,0.0,0.0,0.13141091164827878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17578464045043074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290995846934096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071376343315784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33020727867430355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923091462007845,0.0,0.0,0.20382634594613144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15591174549699574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754717324880725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338039633055486
parenting,Stepsonwoes,2019/04/10,"I'm not sure how much involvement I should have with my former stepson. I don't want him hurt him but don't want to cross any boundaries either. My ex wife and I have a 3 year old son together and she has a 9 year old son from a previous relationship. We were married for 5 years and together for 7 before we divorced. 

In our custody agreement I have my son 3 days one week (Friday, Saturday, Sunday) and 4 days the next week (Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday). I don't have any custody over my stepson, but when I go to pick up the 3 year old the 9 year old will usually run over asking to come. We tell him that he can't because he has school but he'll message me on the weekends asking if he can come over. I have been allowing it and treat it like babysitting rather than custody. I think it's good for the boys to spend time together on the weekends and I love my stepson. We divorced in December and I continued coaching his basketball team but told him that I couldn't coach his baseball team this year. He cried a lot and asked if I was angry with him. I told him it had nothing to do with him but I'm not sure if he believed it. 

I don't want him to feel like I don't love him, but I don't know what my role is. I'm not his stepfather anymore and I'm never sure if I am supposed to be the parental figure or the fun babysitter dude that he plays catch with on the weekends. He got in trouble last week at school and his mom texted me asking if I could speak to him but she didn't want me punishing him. I have tried talking to my ex about this but she's my ex for a reason and tries to guilt trip me. I don't want to hurt my stepson. That's the last thing on earth I want to do.",2.1994479620102894,3.3552068781163484,3.6243638702018224,92.04127077562329,75.78670360110803,6.8191927186387025,25.081222793826672,7.310402129719878,0.9118491491887608,1317,44,304,15,28,434,156,361,0.079,0.792,0.129,0.9798,1,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,5,0,0,2,4,17,1,1,15,0,31,2,0,4,4,62,57,27,0,15,19,9,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,13,21,0,0,5,8,1,7,14,5,0,1,8,2,57,12,35,43,3,51,0,2,0,2,60,12,0,7,34,187,70,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349247245886327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900479217002487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395381466501694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055350050681623485,0.0,0.07726301433000339,0.1022990526502204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15643009711163214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249538135246664,0.0,0.09973811904751388,0.11711531235799225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04591055582995829,0.06486661636578189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516029991904645,0.07615764979679669,0.0726200227823714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19440379339580754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04990059627022831,0.14802613432687425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871932629756142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719381601061219,0.1638987610796406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634235142620334,0.0,0.0,0.06674749907699723,0.0,0.07002956249828671,0.0,0.09656545787519086,0.0,0.0,0.08712381083024218,0.0,0.38111188745289465,0.0,0.0615275555947555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082122184024676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335619609500788,0.0,0.0974838337698217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18378628349502324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25673012805504897,0.0,0.0,0.0729805634782366,0.07936207440964614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06032262813999414,0.05818014689680617,0.0,0.0,0.052945457821102174,0.0,0.0,0.1735241164596877,0.0,0.12329272743088833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000019508105288,0.0,0.32133258903473233,0.0,0.2184997441288204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3508283526388836
parenting,KWR1993,2019/04/10,"Death of a pet. We had to humanely euthanize our cat last night and my almost 3 year old daughter was very attached to him.. What's the best way to tell her? Should I deflect or just tell her the truth? I don't even know if she'll understand, however she knows the kitty was sick.

Thanks, from a fellow parent.",1.1623809523809534,3.497814761904764,2.7168253968254,91.61428571428574,83.92063492063492,6.139682539682537,20.11111111111111,7.447530270364453,0.6004349206349207,242,7,52,4,7,79,53,63,0.108,0.747,0.146,0.3736,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,5,0,6,1,0,0,1,11,10,3,1,2,3,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,10,3,5,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,13,0,0,3,4,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26442927419148016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771265502959932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17441661122205115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29025337429698217,0.21525336460832736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.247813037860776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770984206252158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932199415153634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616199326329729,0.24312138521560855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749075490222044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21788648838732053,0.0,0.2096075161523592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005326716780605
parenting,CPTrandomfact,2019/04/10,"Failed potty training, now no naps We attempted potty training with my 22 month old daughter two weeks ago and decided to back off after a couple days when she didn't seem too into it. We were following the Oh Crap method and read the whole book first, plus saw a lot of signs that she was ready, but underestimated the emotional challenge. Night time sleep is still great, almost 12 hours straight, every night. But since a couple days into potty training, and now that we backed off of it, our daughter will go down for a nap and at best sleep for 40-50 minutes, but always wakes up in hysterics—sometimes, like today, after only 10 mins. I am guessing she's waking up when she pees in her diaper...but not sure. This never happens at night-time.

Anyone have advice on getting back to a better nap schedule. She's goes to be around 7pm, wakes up around 6:30-7:00am and then naps start around 1pm. She used to nap for 1.5-2 hours. We've tried putting her down for naps earlier, and later to no avail. Always just waking up shortly after we put her down in hysterics.",5.61379807692308,6.12381162980769,5.683653846153848,82.81134615384616,67.31730769230771,8.13076923076923,27.05769230769231,7.882392219407189,1.509094230769231,841,23,163,9,13,265,133,208,0.079,0.799,0.123,0.8913,0,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,5,0,0,6,13,8,1,0,8,0,8,8,8,1,2,31,17,13,0,0,5,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,17,0,0,2,8,0,4,5,2,0,2,4,1,16,6,36,11,3,56,0,1,1,0,16,22,1,4,31,102,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855371294108318,0.10754396036387144,0.0,0.12148569840849045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201897983312805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483063282069095,0.0,0.0,0.3240048792309431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798656376855588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731915788516404,0.10729877891986868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268479292003537,0.0,0.15648432804709167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364700671412234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022183783909418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319578592676684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633853412628264,0.0,0.06894965731595377,0.0,0.0,0.1337570969048118,0.13364902523953476,0.0,0.10728397306814748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389539688799105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059271430357574185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314298091855904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968374573841488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357042055678184,0.0,0.0,0.3415552994799552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730623438147534,0.0,0.0,0.09227027100141837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24392271344396255,0.0,0.0,0.12135407261435925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044630163012367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035818455496248,0.0,0.2428177162260644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11998980988456245,0.0,0.08587179907405325,0.0,0.09688730006988854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143438342071374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074339147860717,0.0,0.11499835109214344,0.0,0.0,0.08236915915034553,0.0,0.1185132241462429,0.0,0.0,0.10478259956554008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731658183729262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13545083335098645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xophidian,2019/04/10,"13 year old has no motivation and I’m worried. Hey everyone, I’m really struggling here and hoping to get some opinions and advice.
My 13 year old son refuses to do any school work or home work. I’ve tried everything I can think of, taking his phone and console, bribing him with a new game or going out to eat, positive reinforcement, one on one conversations about the reality that he may get held back. He sits at the table for an hour and a half every night to get his work done. He’s failing two of his classes and his grades are continuing to drop in every class that he’s currently passing. He’s moved schools this year which I know has made it difficult for him but we had these issues at his other school as well.
Now here’s where it becomes a problem. He knows how to do the work, he’s done it before and will show me he knows how to do it, but he’s told me he just doesn’t care enough. He’s said to me “I know how to do it, I just don’t give a sh*t anymore, what’s the point.” He gets extremely upset with himself when I talk to him about it. His only interest seems to be video games which is heart breaking because he wanted to play football until he realized he has to be passing his classes in order to play. He used to like airsoft and dirt bikes but he has no passion for anything anymore. I worry that it may be depression since it runs in our family and this is about the age where it starts to show up. I can’t afford to get him a therapist and I don’t know how to help him any more.",4.104999999999997,4.392185582802546,5.301789808917199,85.01478662420385,70.56050955414013,8.572993630573249,27.80191082802548,8.548686976883017,1.7420782165605089,1179,38,258,18,20,393,165,314,0.1,0.7979999999999999,0.103,0.4523,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,0,6,17,14,0,2,11,0,25,3,1,7,0,45,51,22,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,19,14,1,2,9,8,0,5,6,6,1,4,7,1,27,8,38,38,3,36,0,2,0,1,44,11,0,8,17,158,46,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011808398297788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13934616592258006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321615380089136,0.0,0.0,0.08431194053838716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878176263636481,0.0,0.062455769105067886,0.11315377350940163,0.08718187109010801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044599550913346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824455621590961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096945837655572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483729816101683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10586366068890746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264593302841552,0.09790038146582314,0.09208017184654023,0.0,0.09658569089095057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676431957468555,0.0982844110889902,0.05822767934047579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140996389247452,0.0686735940375193,0.0,0.10277096888152397,0.10176118032939384,0.10089778266275776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693666170877122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28153362828747264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05005445966318986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09694563428704288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10889371585688216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895191835089602,0.0,0.09614731109310032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501909892430515,0.0,0.1388526571702342,0.07792183401158463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685332718665107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803583683305514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563545630963738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745840423611904,0.0,0.0,0.3110705467823893,0.0,0.09327141114263783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08475204108239316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251835288986704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710847213717736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703359686784572,0.08234964856622606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11895844134071618,0.0,0.06564918688127347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790038146582314,0.0,0.06956038903243665,0.0,0.10008389137557974,0.0,0.0,0.08848843990631439,0.0,0.0,0.0604307606453254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211957362985806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983545673218707,0.2080965582105808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793346454152486
parenting,MyNameWasJinu,2019/04/10,"My Son has Autism, and I Can't Share My Feelings IRL ""He's just the cutest, he's just so precious!"" 2017, Los Angeles. Tina, the speech therapist, gives Daniel a small hug as she continues the speech exercises. She has always been loving to Daniel, but this time, something felt different. I, the Lord of Anxiety, could feel the anxiety in her. A part of me wondered whether she worried that I loved my firstborn less now, whether I'd abandon him, like I had been at his age. (The answer is no.)

The weekly speech therapy had been going on for several months, but this was the first session after Daniel had been formally diagnosed for Autism. My wife had emailed Tina earlier, letting her know about the diagnosis. For whatever reason, I felt like i needed to say something.

""I just want to address the elephant in the room..."" Tina's face is already starting to turn red, as if she is ready to cry. I'm reminded of three days prior, when I cried in the car driving back from the hospital. That was a rough car ride. Somehow, I felt responsible for his condition. That feeling remains to this day.

I continue, ""When I found out that Daniel was on the spectrum... I just can't seem to let go of how I have failed him, as a father. Because I wasn't able to provide the tools he might need in life. So there is just a lot of fear there now, you know?""

Tina nods. Tears in eyes. No words.

I continue. ""It's the job of every parent to make sure that their children live a better, happier life than they did. It feels like I've failed him before I even started.""

Have you seen the first episode of Parenthood, the pilot, back when the girl was still singing the intro song? In that episode, Max Braverman, a boy, had just been diagnosed with autism. Adam Braverman (my favorite) is Max's father. Adam is trying to tell his dad, who's not listening, that, 'there's something wrong with my son!'

When I first saw that scene in my late twenties, I teared up. I was scared for Max and Adam. Even Adam, a grown man, needed his father's comfort at that time. Kinda crazy that this was years before I had even met my wife. In a way, I was tearing up for the guy I was going to become one day. Life is funny sometimes.

Sometimes I think about that one time during college when I told a friend of mine that my biggest fear in life was having a disabled child. I think about whether I had spoke it into existence. Like I had cursed my life somehow. Whether I had somehow now deserved this. And now I wonder if I'm even allowed to feel this way. Am I disrespecting my son by expressing these feelings? Will he read this when he's my age and resent me?

I want someone to tell me that it's all going to be ok, and I want to fully believe that. I want the feeling that God used to make me feel a lifetime ago, back when I felt I could go to battle and die for Him.

In a just, fair world, maybe I wouldn't have a son with Autism. It feels like a sick joke that I, with the childhood that I had, would be given yet another challenge in adulthood. 'You've seen enough,' God should have said, and allow me to live a quiet, typical life.

My son has Autism, and now what I want the most in life is to know that he will be fine. That he will live a happy, fulfilling life. That he will one day be an independent and free thinking man.

A life where he gets to find love, like I did.

As I said earlier, a life better than mine.",2.888317836010142,4.571742366863905,3.623478444632294,90.58457100591718,75.03550295857987,6.722062552831784,25.08918005071851,7.447530270364453,1.0485203719357568,2624,88,558,32,56,831,283,676,0.094,0.7509999999999999,0.155,0.9897,5,0,3,0,0,0,115.0,0,2,2,8,41,32,2,3,44,1,62,20,2,8,2,88,121,31,1,15,16,12,14,6,1,8,14,10,2,7,35,15,0,1,26,5,1,10,7,9,0,7,41,29,79,24,71,64,6,79,2,3,5,4,64,25,0,12,48,362,114,7,0.06078381514398935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053881184639603945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707645149670592,0.0,0.050577003489707235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06373713001694721,0.09299890442506714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021700565420067,0.0,0.03705324953680102,0.06713094828471675,0.10344509949601648,0.06848254479531005,0.0,0.10751668990102954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706186073684396,0.0,0.1335363334951982,0.1568021289932376,0.0,0.0,0.12338858576378416,0.06308400359267137,0.06350614964989193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628059295817242,0.0,0.160588546547165,0.0,0.051212985843261616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367973818870136,0.2766071095748641,0.08684793936809307,0.23344797885334864,0.0,0.055555305849947764,0.15510804633015293,0.0,0.06664631593094125,0.04696142479947342,0.0,0.031757034653282036,0.05830937416736385,0.17272421454949413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060185533410353015,0.0,0.06470550149122656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060318557433870164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021558550712237,0.0,0.06856679103905115,0.0,0.0,0.12431113842840386,0.4293340622717363,0.17817541062153885,0.0,0.1610196671497786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051676225985620425,0.16457929897811413,0.0,0.08114733720534557,0.0,0.06106551221218162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06448202228111573,0.0,0.0,0.048517061336509536,0.0,0.0,0.13521128622102904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356605871720246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749323343785349,0.06582294846139572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060800264107614375,0.0,0.0,0.062495885498137616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563865511108795,0.048337729486198966,0.060855202781419634,0.0,0.0,0.05533530242664626,0.0,0.06866840968759311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05150192932056652,0.14038305157910394,0.12023349483106845,0.0,0.08604619442299052,0.0,0.04854203329164481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057288026426305635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625546718189696,0.0,0.0695115899791691,0.07057469429431458,0.0,0.11684344320415355,0.0,0.0,0.10633059426285947,0.0,0.0,0.058081540203254074,0.0,0.04126822052835289,0.06611533636475199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05249770024375276,0.0,0.0,0.17925934513135655,0.09649472641517856,0.048757110085298816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318349093193959,0.0,0.06172891479532206,0.0,0.04317907830543557,0.06645755985679308,0.0,0.03914278407706808
parenting,lfbq,2019/04/10,"What About Imaginary Friends? When I was growing up in the 1950's, there was a television program called ​,"" [Rin Tin Tin,](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_nclUG-0SQ)"" about a little boy Rusty and his dog. That dog was an unlikely imaginary friend for this three-year-old, but in fact, in my mind, he was always by my side. I even asked my mother to put out special (pretend ) food for my ""Rinny.""

My granddaughter, who will be three in August, has a best friend who though not entirely imaginary - it is a ""Pete the Cat"" doll - serves many of the same purposes as a friend that others can not see.

Her ""Pete"" is a constant companion. He says hello and goodbye to friends and family members easily - a task that can still be daunting to young children. He also can jump and climb and fly, activities that seem magical to my granddaughter. As an only child, most of the time (her half-brother lives in Italy), ""Pete"" and her many other friends -personified dolls - provide companionship and hours of creative dramatics. 

Her “Pete” doll is someone to practice lots of social skills with, like turn-taking and sharing. And he never grabs or tries to take her toys, which sometimes happens at school or at the park with real children. When asked what she wanted to be for Halloween, she quickly answered that she wanted to be her best friend ""Pete.""  

She first became acquainted with Pete while visiting her local Library, where ""Pete the Cat"" books and songs were introduced. Pete's excellent coping skills provided a wonderful guide for how to deal with life's little disappointments. In the book, [Pete the Cat: I Love My White Shoes](https://www.amazon.com/Pete-Cat-Love-White-Shoes/dp/0061906220), when Pete steps into a bunch of strawberries, turning his white sneakers red, the narrative goes like this  ""Did Pete cry? Goodness no, he just keeps right on walking and singing his song"". In another great story, [Pete the Cat and His Four Groovy Buttons](https://books.google.com/books/about/Pete_the_Cat_and_His_Four_Groovy_Buttons.html?id=UbXDBAAAQBAJ&printsec=frontcover&source=kp_read_button#v=onepage&q&f=false), when Pete keeps losing his buttons, he maintains, remembering that he always has his ""belly button!""

So how should you as a parent approach the imaginary friend or personified doll?  Feel free to play along and enjoy. You will learn a lot about how your child thinks and processes his or her experiences. You will also get a glimpse of their  problem solving skills as their interactions will be a kind of rehearsal for everyday tasks. And be sure that your child has plenty of unstructured time to imagine and create with these pretend friends. Studies show that only children and kids who don't watch a lot of television are more likely to engage in this type of play because they have more opportunity - time and space. Research also shows that these children are less shy and are better at empathizing with others.

While it is tempting to use the pretend friend to manage behavior, i.e., ""Pete says its bedtime,"" the whole point is to allow your child to control the narrative. That’s part of the magic of open-ended play. And as long as it is within reason, ""Pete"" needs to follow all the same rules,  there is no right or wrong.

When I recently shared the story of my adventures with my imaginary  “Rin Tin Tin and Rusty”, with a group of friends, I was quickly introduced to pretend characters named ""Bizby,"" ""Transmission"" and ""Sample"" - all beloved make-believe companions from my friends' past. 

Please tell us about your child’s adventures with imaginary friends and personified dolls and share your own  ""Pete’s”  and  ""Bizby's""  as well!",8.369116583031861,9.919454562998409,6.973189403664375,72.306228264675,61.58373205741628,9.817232660364883,33.633990741821286,9.923748647568349,3.467359232893765,2949,115,457,58,41,882,312,627,0.043,0.715,0.242,0.9994,2,0,0,0,0,0,169.0,1,8,3,12,26,43,0,0,34,0,36,3,0,7,5,82,55,53,0,5,9,2,2,3,15,5,1,4,0,11,28,37,1,3,9,15,1,9,6,4,1,3,7,12,46,40,76,37,17,57,0,2,5,1,87,25,0,11,26,300,74,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752366845098856,0.10926795075264548,0.28456822318820063,0.0,0.0,0.06884972520390674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276556408692275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040025430198099836,0.0,0.0,0.07397578756946926,0.13781121777834085,0.058070504214350976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704570478898826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095460847511591,0.07364272789643582,0.0,0.0,0.07212389280343376,0.0,0.06769207565391967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058154840472671235,0.0,0.0,0.04336748963173924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422760359367499,0.06189794608705405,0.0,0.033199423037530304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055849948917302265,0.07939574474524178,0.0,0.6594689075737115,0.0,0.0343043859770286,0.0,0.0,0.055072085001812855,0.0,0.07238984579042525,0.0,0.0,0.05806249123150599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466139501568577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672238552003765,0.0,0.06837427969044779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046377256397058315,0.0962337655941239,0.13161616445154992,0.057978553645465676,0.0581066035506537,0.0,0.0734562009169005,0.0,0.16746411194254907,0.1185205494911352,0.0,0.04382823533261748,0.13313688270054405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629739153979307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04868569753250248,0.05064066484241257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889861464018668,0.0,0.0,0.09987403798972756,0.0,0.0,0.07290711982299437,0.07110285499948016,0.0626794354747406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207442899782025,0.062069463594972625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062827287219418,0.0,0.06600594667345581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747349014297095,0.0,0.06750891578860715,0.06483084867934331,0.0,0.0743794296063747,0.11214573209799347,0.0,0.10443016154698774,0.0,0.06645093338496719,0.052322131552552255,0.05977395538733336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669316056469583,0.055633092990682295,0.0,0.06493893808227116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052435772556436056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188331473156292,0.0,0.04936778296902488,0.0,0.05738930914320395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04207196524404352,0.06451013896142749,0.0,0.11485977159340913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04457849988344061,0.14283739287497535,0.0,0.0,0.07898031068867811,0.05670873844897612,0.0,0.0,0.07745536486656708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059035788319215736,0.0,0.0,0.07330650234910835,0.0,0.0,0.07120494189579073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178837096439351,0.0,0.042282574171529565
parenting,90799515,2019/04/10,"Advice needed: Spider-Man My eight year old is an awesome kid who loves Spider-Man.  A few months back, we saw Spider-Man Into The Spiderverse which is an all around incredible movie and a very excellent Spider-Man story. My son came out of that movie dancing and gushing nonstop about black Spider-Man. That is because Miles wears a black costume. For those of you who haven’t seen it, Miles is, if I recall correctly, Puerto Rican and African American. 

Our solution so far is to encourage or son to call him Miles and not refer to his costume. Which gets harder when he’s gushing about all the characters, several of which are called Peter. 

As I’m giving him the DVD and action figure for Easter we are going to restart the enthusiasm so I need some advice/reality check. Am I making too big deal about it this or not a big enough deal? 

My son is a tall, handsome, probably heterosexual, white kid. I’m trying not to raise an asshole but I’m also trying not to overreact to basic kid things.",4.343839441535778,6.103036507853407,5.43882722513089,78.74836300174522,71.35602094240838,8.025270506108201,26.345898778359512,8.648137234880735,2.023908621291449,787,26,141,14,15,260,117,191,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.9332,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,3,1,0,1,10,4,0,0,12,0,10,2,1,1,3,28,23,14,0,3,8,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,12,11,0,0,2,2,1,4,5,0,0,1,3,5,13,4,19,20,5,19,0,0,5,1,23,10,0,4,5,91,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918153849024866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15482009803696636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17234309526776484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886476516125768,0.0,0.1180154275515036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953700173616111,0.2214243186294479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3991816807768033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000382888144587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10114686482902638,0.1857166593657996,0.11002609640652884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17472958132626756,0.0,0.129228040923151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452792423735773,0.0,0.0,0.2871006448402513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314833405223293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873118231471308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2187104189205956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286177819767619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628804086457342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597384677563458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467064174286173
parenting,sakenotsaki,2019/04/10,"Washington University in St. Louis Toy Survey  Hey guys! We are four students from Washington University in St. Louis doing a project for our Marketing Strategy class. Our survey contains general questions about toys for children and should only take 1 or 2 minutes! We would love to hear your input!  

 [**https://wustl.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_1UoS1kOEj1hSoqp**](https://wustl.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1UoS1kOEj1hSoqp)",12.10975369458128,17.32669775862069,7.579359605911332,55.48017241379314,62.793103448275865,10.210837438423647,35.87192118226601,9.957137785484203,5.282095566502463,362,16,38,10,7,98,47,58,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.7249,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,9,7,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,7,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,2,0,20,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052930314781332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4613355264727463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694289929918152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113077473820777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4585342023015975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077591257683033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29077053157480737,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,joeyey,2019/04/10,"My son won't stop crying about the Black Hole Photo. My son loves science and wants to be a scientist when he grows up. He's always doing science experiments in the kitchen or blowing up potatoes in the garden (like failed NASA missions). I told him about the Black Hole announcement two days ago and he literally jumped for joy. He ran around the house and immediately grabbed his sack of potatoes. He went through three packs of fireworks in two hours (though cut his hands once or twice; better than some days!) Fast forward to today. I check Twitter Moments and see that the Photo is out. I dart downstairs and grab him, saying, ""It's here!!!""

He swivelled around and grabbed my phone (though this irked me a bit...haha) then opened the article. He stared at me, then burst into tears. ""It's TOO BLURRY!!!"" he screamed, before grabbing his potatoes and fireworks. Now he's setting them off in his room and I can't get him to calm down. Is he overreacting or should I punish him? His mother is at work.

Thanks Reddit!",3.0234293193717283,5.667130544502622,3.0852853403141367,89.9522212041885,78.63350785340316,5.285968586387433,24.20968586387435,6.508806274219699,0.7299798952879581,798,28,152,7,20,242,122,191,0.065,0.828,0.106,0.8485,0,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,0,0,1,3,10,10,2,0,9,0,8,3,1,0,0,20,16,16,0,2,3,3,5,1,0,2,0,2,3,0,4,13,1,1,0,1,1,5,2,4,0,4,3,11,20,6,24,10,1,34,0,1,4,1,27,17,0,4,14,89,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190600786611525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519773698299531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251900360741397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541958853297616,0.0,0.0,0.16153689044969294,0.19940378864923453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062972636828674,0.2355850831789484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17866432375480865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542579170762217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17987101755510207,0.21075071757634606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923235333011917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16484651957314586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19451364988042186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524864036991242,0.0,0.0,0.1455464275202612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527015067443857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815729872054475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589005258794117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312849437121666,0.17452753438743368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568401783965981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077302406657903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16931608269217924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296957128326822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JohnKFisher,2019/04/10,"I'm not convinced my 2.5 year old realizes we are ""in charge"" of her. So, as the title says, I'm not convinced my 2.5 year old realizes she is supposed to listen to us.

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We are not the kind of parents that believe in directing her every activity - we quite like, within reason, letting her set her pace as much as possible, and have her own feelings about things.

To put it in he traditional categories, I'd say my wife is authoritative, and I aim for that though I can fall into permissive now and then. But whatever we are doing, it's paid off nicely - she's smart and adventurous and self-confident, *insanely* verbal for her age, and, generally quite polite and affectionate most of the time. 

But obviously there are times that we DO need her to do something. Be it telling her she needs to come let us put her coat on so we can go to Grandmas, or telling her that its time to give mommy her phone back so she can make a work call (she likes to look at pictures on it), she sometimes just says ""no."" and quietly, calmly, refuses.

And, I mean, all kids do, duh...

..but I really think sometimes she's not being ""defiant"", exactly - she just doesn't understand when she's being TOLD to do it, and not asked. I'm sure we could just punish her every time she doesn't listen and that would 'work', and if she's clearly being defiant so be it, but how do we make sure she knows we are in charge and that this is ""an order"" without either compromising our style or cramping hers?",4.168589490968802,5.3935946931034495,5.37985221674877,81.08798850574713,71.0344827586207,8.83415435139573,27.94745484400657,9.23628265651192,2.2755730706075536,1151,41,230,24,21,383,154,290,0.038,0.91,0.052000000000000005,0.4672,1,0,1,0,0,0,59.0,12,0,0,5,14,13,1,0,5,1,29,1,0,4,6,65,50,31,0,5,17,2,1,2,0,1,1,6,0,1,15,24,0,1,8,0,1,5,9,1,0,0,2,8,44,12,29,39,5,30,0,0,1,0,54,10,0,4,15,167,59,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990751366200285,0.1344723671552307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10345858991599836,0.0,0.0,0.08509599640951293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468367211580288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130032534609094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532971436206122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835849525769353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18648323172096212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595649755750156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061617513147548,0.06289453581994686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524252123807645,0.060819620735039125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22632875677264205,0.0,0.10813249100402343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293230348295743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774199783934874,0.0,0.0,0.12054867082121495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08135288718578612,0.16411617225896186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322525398992984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288246900218845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476027442843525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22250155309256625,0.0,0.2354156892754161,0.0,0.0,0.07089603440636301,0.1137839798349636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26402022436930633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11544968697818685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519676766306708,0.21890473976487906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086044414514256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934554545281207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352215483252893,0.07091086546161676,0.10872964355882167,0.0,0.25812298088659386,0.0,0.0,0.10574694232418916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520812055485195,0.26623725099955803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667891908680102,0.0,0.1611336071951791,0.0,0.0,0.07861457336010394,0.0,0.1344723671552307,0.14253167928126
parenting,whats_my_username16,2019/04/10,What’s the age gap between your children? Are they too close? Too far apart?,-0.08999999999999986,1.8011440000000007,-0.2666666666666657,105.88000000000004,109.0,2.0,18.333333333333336,3.1291,-1.1436666666666664,60,2,13,0,3,17,14,15,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,8,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ramya2485,2019/04/10,"Repeating kindergarten I am a mother of 5.6yrs old boy. He is in his kindergarten now. He was a premie. Even though he is doing okay with his academic standards, he is not up to the mark in reading and other things. Like he lags in social skills. He is potty trained and yet in school if his teacher asks him to go to bathroom alone he goes and doesn’t ask himself. As well through his teacher I learnt that he is not initiating a talk with her, but he replies back if she asks him questions.

As well he takes time to understand about the question he is asked and then replies. Being from other country he got dual language and so he struggles to form sentences. He is totally different in home. He asks us for options by asking us to rise the hands if some thing needed ( like rise your hands if you need curry... daddy you needed it then rise your hands ) which is reverse in school. He haven’t raised his hands even though he understood the concept.

He is into IEP now for making him understand and mingle with his teacher and make him move with her. As only two more months to go, he should be into first grade following year. But his teacher is asking us to repeat kindergarten. We clearly understand he needs to be matured and able to understand the concepts. But still holding back him in kindergarten won’t affect his personal thoughts ? Am much worried about this. 

Have anyone made kindergarten repeat ? What can I do now? Will it be okay to go head to 1st grade with IEP? They gonna be helping next year which ever grade he does. Please help me. Am shattered.",3.6243948965688086,5.892436230769235,3.6466146413972527,88.6423064536108,74.65217391304348,6.034980800198191,26.45868945868946,6.937597516519254,1.200364449399232,1239,46,233,12,27,378,158,299,0.044,0.867,0.08900000000000001,0.9051,1,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,4,4,1,2,17,7,0,1,8,2,28,5,5,4,3,49,55,23,0,9,9,1,4,2,0,4,0,0,1,2,11,16,0,1,8,1,0,8,5,1,2,2,5,4,30,6,38,41,5,38,0,0,0,0,63,10,0,8,22,156,41,7,0.08520336229946718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824498735264376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059576171996636285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5575754949908082,0.0,0.0,0.13103225263721302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901937899169507,0.0,0.0,0.07456203652358998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255203445350018,0.07707131918441776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247393644576898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14526910292112574,0.0,0.06814491230615781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744323088987184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422003547907475,0.0,0.08546591944389363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325211806290349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062148153887007,0.11374781189969105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800851089994256,0.09055769006225332,0.06263427491462421,0.2527088541486853,0.0,0.0,0.09061474241655386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940659598504093,0.0,0.0,0.06480099643929507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439628951300659,0.0,0.09352770571532022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089453096181733,0.0,0.08522641953935703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246070287495496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685409795188112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680435151940244,0.0,0.0,0.08907305390871174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406232475992832,0.06848323517031009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132106558819406,0.0,0.16742374171625485,0.06764195235785285,0.04968276574410856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323130443381935,0.354798820046821,0.3074674620988804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532161104393497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865281502847367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097363436377863
parenting,JaJH,2019/04/10,"It took me almost 4 years to really love my child   

So, I’ve gone back and forth about whether or not to make this post but I’m going ahead with it in case there are any parents that feel the same way. Maybe this will offer them a bit of encouragement. 

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Now, to clarify, I definitely did love my daughter from the moment she was born, and I liked her too. But I just didn’t feel that deep, passionate, (instinctual?) love that I see a lot of other parent’s talking about. Where holding your child is pure bliss, and they’re your entire world. I don’t mean for this to sound hyperbolic, or that I’m skeptical of their feelings. I know of people who had near religious experiences when they first beheld their child. More power to them, that’s great. But I didn’t feel that. For me it was all business right from the delivery, wife ok, baby ok, initial testing ok, commit measurements to memory because people will ask, get pictures because people will ask. That’s continued on for the last three years, parenting has been a list of tasks that my partner and I need to ensure get done every day before we can rest. I’m not the sort of person that keeps strict schedules and to-do lists, but in order to be a successful parent, I had an idea of the stuff I needed to do (or learned as I went), and so I did it. 

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I did (and still do) my best to share parenting duties as equally as possible with my spouse. I got up for the late night feedings, I changed diapers, bathed, cuddled, played with her. Everything that I’m supposed to do. But it was because I was supposed to do it. I wanted to be a good parent, because every child deserves it, and it’s what’s expected. But, as you all know, parenting is tiring work. A lot of times, I found my mind wandering to other stuff I could be doing, were I not comforting a crying baby, or wrangling a sprinting toddler. Stuff that I wanted to do, or chores that were getting left undone, because we had to prioritize. I wanted that passionate, instinctual, love, but I knew I just didn’t have it like other people did. I wondered if there was something wrong with me, or if I just wasn’t as cut out for parenting as I thought I would be. 

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That’s all changed now, I get it. My daughter turns 4 soon, and she’s just amazing. I look forward to seeing her in the evenings, spending time with her, talking, playing, pretending. It’s so much fun, and it brings me so much joy. I can’t really point to a specific moment or trigger, the realization has just kind of dawned on me. I’m not saying it’s easy, or parenting is any less exhausting, but I definitely get it now when I see those social media and r/daddit posts with people saying that their children are their everything. 

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So, all that to say. If you’re not feeling the love. Get help if you feel you need to (postpartum), but stick it out. If you’re anything like me, you’ll get there. It just might take some time.",4.033144765430112,5.3953971418685125,4.882083366862478,84.00189225074435,71.52595155709342,7.937297819264505,27.628711676188946,8.428315365350997,1.8713891043695177,2300,82,456,37,43,746,254,578,0.033,0.757,0.211,0.999,10,0,1,0,0,0,108.0,2,6,7,6,27,30,2,0,20,3,48,11,0,2,6,98,100,47,0,14,34,13,6,3,1,6,2,4,2,7,44,21,1,3,15,4,1,6,11,4,0,2,27,14,67,26,60,62,16,49,0,0,4,8,59,16,0,20,28,319,111,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054148400807117636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23436138995390485,0.2628286578081089,0.07354584366285832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044499199218682166,0.0,0.10110583646881127,0.0,0.0,0.041580413497402234,0.0,0.1648183931015708,0.0,0.0460139266766116,0.0,0.056748480536444226,0.0,0.05903600309685322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144085698932559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04317456665226187,0.0,0.0593989573991199,0.03487396552076045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533760104723042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03571609308669778,0.0,0.09112120678362086,0.0,0.09719842491880724,0.052895823303739216,0.0,0.0,0.16405196985604772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045996251831874495,0.0,0.05929055526947826,0.0,0.0,0.1977640525815925,0.0,0.03073212508771112,0.04535562770882011,0.04324879675661697,0.0596179878691963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036245399199975915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061044205054805574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048064432849763486,0.0,0.056310894610156974,0.05943652076763034,0.04407842322878442,0.060999067344759884,0.0,0.058752753600289476,0.0,0.0,0.07925508622310681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045409464241909614,0.0,0.0,0.09194543134517127,0.2440244417107035,0.0,0.036095548676163575,0.0,0.054325705424243115,0.05890363578547862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736513492970542,0.05460043520498183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950283987777247,0.1202880028215229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050745817536064115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5403959856458491,0.0,0.0,0.1874443257888813,0.04721629092629572,0.0,0.0,0.05111844744587156,0.06096154951660915,0.10357799476368446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928378655457132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617983933241528,0.0,0.12900806811312487,0.0,0.0,0.1292725590224895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055122753888418655,0.0,0.041629653303835314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043184444144720384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570915399899648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04065774493700785,0.08692703296203974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04292958858912778,0.09459487576944453,0.06215137186550354,0.0,0.0,0.060079424992229624,0.0,0.058818179971964014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568468379642424,0.04292229682778452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050128158797151934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864213849080423,0.03936731631451077,0.0,0.0,0.038413399045287636,0.059122632222414,0.2628286578081089,0.06964518204209406
parenting,MyOrphanJourney,2019/04/10,Is Your Kid A Punk... Or A Hustler In Disguise? I wrote a recent blog post that I am looking for opinions on? I am new to reddit and it won't let me share the link. Is anyone interested in reading it or letting my know how to post it here? Can I just copy and paste the article?,-0.5022857142857156,1.5228202000000053,2.3061904761904763,93.79500000000004,88.66666666666666,4.761904761904762,21.904761904761905,6.18269132825596,0.2619761904761906,212,8,49,2,7,74,45,60,0.086,0.867,0.048,-0.2842,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,1,0,10,11,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,7,2,6,7,0,8,0,0,1,0,4,3,0,3,3,37,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19269467339916896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514537065575481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5636064266680002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314210718732097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26616065186216914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26307601944244474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.527866403421842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756584810290294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721058586194565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mpatmore,2019/04/10,"Do we need an SUV? Hi parents!

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My husband and I are expecting our first child this May. My car unfortunately died yesterday and we are considering replacing it with an SUV. My question is, is getting an SUV something parents recommend/ find beneficial when they have a LO?

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Thanks!",4.011346153846155,7.3504509038461565,4.645000000000003,73.33750000000002,88.03846153846155,7.984615384615385,35.346153846153854,8.472884824447931,4.231223076923079,245,15,37,7,8,78,40,52,0.118,0.7829999999999999,0.099,-0.2833,2,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,0,10,10,3,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,1,9,0,4,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,2,3,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4125292725091165,0.4626381291792648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975728749340144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399373643888033,0.16192769901289067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945989915828612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115613584443895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227642955260501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21325674903778932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14655528878383645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526611699192504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4626381291792648,0.0
parenting,Dunya-nachalo,2019/04/10,"Child (10M) can’t sleep through the night Hi! I need help getting my stepson to sleep through the night. Dementia and Alzheimer’s run in the family and he sleeps so little that I’m really worried that it’ll affect his brain development and growth. 

My stepson has been in my life for a just over a year now. He’s 10 years old. I think in the year that he’s been in my life, he’s slept through the night less than five times. I think there have been about ten times where he’s woken up, but just occupied himself until he’s able to fall back asleep or until morning comes. The majority of the time, he wakes up in the middle of the night and then screams his dad’s name over and over until one of us goes in there. 

I don’t think it’s night terrors because I read that night terrors happen involuntarily while the person is still asleep. When he screams in the night, he’s fully awake. He screams and, if no one comes, then he climbs down the ladder of his loft bed and turns all the lights on the top floor of our house. Then, when he finally gets someone’s attention, he acts super nonchalant, like the screaming is no big deal. He’ll say “oh, I just had to go to the bathroom” or “oh, the cat just came into my bed” or “I was just scared”.

I feel bad that he’s scared but his screaming is sooooooo disruptive. I also don’t understand why he screams instead of just coming and tapping one of us on the shoulder. We’ve asked him many many times not to scream in the night. We’ve bought him night lights and security objects, books and comics he can read quietly when he wakes up, dream catchers, sleep chocolates and melatonin patches. We’ve tried “bedtime points” that he can earn by not waking everyone up and cash them in for prizes. Nothing seems to work. 


For context, he doesn’t really ever exercise and he has a lot of screen time. We’ve tried taking away his iPad an hour before bedtime, but he just wakes up after we’ve gone to sleep and then goes and gets it. Then sometime later, he’ll get bored or scared and wake everyone up again. At his mom’s house, he starts the night in his own bed but wakes up each night and moves into her bed. At her house, that’s allowed and I think she even kind of encourages him to sleep with her in her bed. At our house, he’s not allowed to come into our bed ever. I’m just not comfortable with it. 

I feel a lot less angry and desperate about it than I used to feel because, at this point, my sleep rhythm has adjusted and I naturally wake up between 1 and 3am each night. This is not healthy and functional sleep for anyone though. I feel tired all the time. I don’t understand how this kid has been functioning this way for so long. He doesn’t take naps. I think most nights he sleeps maybe between 4 and 6 hours.

What can I do? Any insight into why he does this or what I can do to help would be greatly appreciated. Because of the parenting schedule, we can’t really sign him up for a consistent sport like a soccer team or anything but perhaps making him get some other kind of exercise would help? We all need better sleep.",3.6553401122019618,4.906978717741938,4.11200561009818,89.58779102384294,72.30645161290323,7.391304347826088,25.413744740532962,7.818819491935897,1.1462426367461434,2415,74,521,31,46,759,263,620,0.115,0.8079999999999999,0.076,-0.9779,3,0,0,0,0,0,61.0,7,0,1,8,29,25,0,5,29,0,32,27,22,6,5,99,73,52,0,5,25,3,4,2,0,5,5,9,7,3,20,38,0,1,15,11,2,13,14,14,0,5,11,16,50,11,79,56,13,107,0,0,1,0,70,43,0,12,52,301,70,6,0.04792303773258545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038324035960631934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03258930900914514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033508902248751464,0.0,0.03943657674647122,0.0,0.04480157114540236,0.0,0.04502527147969907,0.036849857903777206,0.04001373476008547,0.0876403169886883,0.0,0.040778975411918265,0.0,0.0,0.042384032450118736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053497959209713716,0.0,0.05481118832315435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651258144434592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04940654760877025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04193777326743785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031652714449439484,0.08669826254962443,0.0,0.09158503250029926,0.0,0.0,0.04517757493314579,0.0,0.09692531121506336,0.0,0.0,0.05249734537646901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518904632418032,0.0,0.02723576673026624,0.0,0.0,0.05283531828336075,0.0,0.0,0.04237818399866273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636540605361492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438907761153843,0.22118700509277112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998089384055066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769891760625092,0.046825551100007835,0.04803147364179472,0.0,0.04241038034328727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148490587239451,0.0,0.0,0.03198899981498743,0.09717287688528432,0.04814513269645302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612688259265496,0.0,0.05093460493467267,0.0,0.07106865049621178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5846428187135114,0.0,0.04598344719589079,0.0,0.05028716657769658,0.0,0.09742167187669412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05321286209288386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041844548070357784,0.0,0.0,0.09060552150400117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587201277439036,0.0,0.09210217533302388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03811032309484261,0.1439379630355351,0.0,0.0,0.04362733368832352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795764717730412,0.0,0.04060503435468415,0.0,0.04739710970642887,0.0,0.03392017276564552,0.0,0.03827139983795422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206432055854177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15353573765794262,0.04708414125371256,0.0,0.16766585213238755,0.05508048210996525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507319373922121,0.052126503606345326,0.0,0.09977914475264156,0.1152910275685922,0.04139011780842626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038039076718330934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648617520393828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034888542229946896,0.048668171057049854,0.0,0.0680863020522091,0.0,0.0,0.09258259524382316
parenting,wtktcc,2019/04/10,"At what point do you decide to end or attempt to save your marriage? I’ve been married 23 years, have 5 children ranging in ages 11-29. My oldest is from another relationship but my husband adopted him. We’ve had way more downs then ups, always love paycheck to paycheck. Stress is always high as hell. 
He’s been a good provider and has helped around the house and with the kids. He’s never actually played with the kids, they don’t have strong relationships. He’s more the do your homework, clean your room type of dad. 
The last 6 months he has been out of work due to an injury and is receiving workers compensation. I’m going nuts, he tracks my phone if I leave the house. He is content to just sit home and stare at the walls. He doesn’t try to initiate anything kissing sex etc. I am not physically attracted to him. Some days just the sight of him makes me irritated.
Is it time to give up or do I suck it up and stay with him so the kids don’t experience a broken home.",2.749853687667958,4.5982907157360415,3.784234099731261,88.57141833383102,75.8527918781726,6.8687966557181275,24.78620483726485,7.724431198458867,1.1325529411764714,769,26,164,11,17,248,127,197,0.159,0.731,0.111,-0.8690000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,4,1,4,4,10,2,1,12,0,20,3,0,1,1,22,26,12,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,3,10,0,0,1,1,0,2,5,3,0,0,4,3,16,7,25,22,4,29,1,0,2,3,30,13,2,4,11,95,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.160082648813588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729944215694639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720137586345464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349937019708434,0.1460333632197066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057943916005243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529371995124532,0.0,0.18295170129557986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046587650884098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15736533181662676,0.09322961778780556,0.13759178136074135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995480150936293,0.1733208088587271,0.32909771631055523,0.0,0.0,0.37856800854284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337172271224399,0.0,0.1736982246454427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480555305995986,0.0,0.10950021182445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093783915555662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652034664622647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155073991911816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522423388340519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17484838744285167,0.0,0.0,0.1879111064099707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565499823068144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137466847587643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302099778784652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942551459941468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563854084309532
parenting,KingNardDawg,2019/04/10,"Please HELP! My family and I are being erased from my babies' lives Myself and my ex have had a bumpy relationship for years.  We had our first child young (20) and have had issues in our relationship since.  Shortly after the birth of our daughter (now almost 6) we relocated from her home state of AZ to my home state of NH.  My parents, who had more than adequate space in their home, offered to let us stay there for a few months until we were able to figure out housing, jobs, etc.  Fast forward a few months, I was working long hours landscaping but was still not quite financially stable enough for us to afford our own place.  My parents were getting on my back because, despite plenty of support in place and myself around to watch my daughter at nights, she refused to get a job or even just help out with basic chores around the house.  I discussed this with my ex a few times and she agreed that it would be best for our family for her to get a part time job during the hours I'm home to be with our daughter.  

This job search effort continued for a while to no avail. Fast forward to Christmas time, she wanted to visit her family for a week and come back shortly into the new year.  Well a week went by and the day of her flight back she is impossible to reach.  Finally, a few hours after her departure time I get a message saying she missed her flight.  No big deal, she would be coming back a few days later.   Then she misses her next flight (I was waiting at the airport expecting her to walk outside at any moment when i got the call). And another (this time is was my step-mom waiting and waiting at the airport until she finds out 30 mins after her flight lands that she never got on it.)  By this point it was clear what was going on.  She had a free place to stay in AZ where her needs were catered to with no expectations of her and she ran with it.  For months I was in a very bad place emotionally.  I pleaded with my ex to reconsider her choice while saving what money I could in a plan to eventually move back to AZ by myself.  

Eventually I was able to pull myself out of a depressed state and I met someone who I started to really fall for.  Seeing this, my ex started to initiate conversation with me again and talk about us getting back together, eventually apologizing for her actions and suggesting she move back to NH.  The idea of having my family back was all I wanted and the woman I was dating understood and supported my decision.  

I could write a novel out of everything that happened since but I'll try to keep it quick.  My ex was once again unable to adjust to living independently.  She had an issue keeping jobs, dropped out of a nursing program that she was selected to attend for free (sucks that someone else missed an opportunity that she squandered) and just hardly put any effort towards our home, but always had time for social media.  She had little to no respect for me or my relationship with our daughter.  I remember one instance when I got home from work fairly late one night and to my surprise they weren't there.  After a few hours of not hearing from her (phone off) I finally get a message saying they're in Florida at Disney.  

Our relationship just slowly degraded until one day she took off to AZ again while I was at work (at this point we had 2 kids together).  I called the police and filed for a parenting petition.  After about a month she once again decided to move back to NH and my idiot self took her right back.  All was well for a few months.  She seemed to have come to actually see the error in her ways.  Again, the holiday season rolls around and she says she wants to visit her family but fly back before Christmas.  Lo and behold she missed her flight.  The new year rolls around and on the 2nd she flies back to NH... without our daughter.  She claimed it would be cheaper for her to fly back a week later with her grandmother which I immediately saw for the lie it is (flights back on the second were a pretty average $280.  Flights a week later were $250 each).  I told her she has one chance to be honest with me and she continued to lie to my face so I told her I was taking our son to my dad's to ensure he is safe and secure until I can file a parenting petition (it was a Sunday so I could file until the next morning).  I said she was welcome to come with or I would gladly drop her off wherever she would like and she elected to join.  About 15 mins after arriving to my dad's, I went out to my car to grab diapers and as I do, two police cars come rolling up, the officers get out with their hands on their weapons.  Somewhat alarmed, I asked them the nature of their visit and they informed me that they received a 911 call for a reported kidnapping!  They quickly assessed that this was a lie and told my ex it was my right to have my son at my dads until the next morning when we are able to file a petition.  Instead she would sneak past us at the first opportunity, hitching a ride to the airport (without my sons car seat, no less).  

Eventually the court would order her to bring our kids back to the state of NH and to remain there pending the completion of the trial, threatening criminal charges if she absconded again.  months and thousand of dollars later we were getting nowhere fast.  One day she reached out to me saying the court case was a huge wake up call and that she was ready to be a family.  Without ending the case we decided to slowly try things out again.  It went great and for the first time in a while I felt genuinely happy.  Eventually I decided to drop the case (i know, I'm a god damn fool) and about a week later I came home to an empty house with all of her and the kid's stuff gone.  

I am mentally, emotionally and financially exhausted over all of this and rather than go back to NH court I decided to quite my good job of almost 5 years, sell what i can, pack the rest and move my life back out to AZ to maximize my ability to be in my kids' lives.  Initially she filed a petition in AZ court and we appeared at the first hearing but shortly after we tried to work things out again (I get it, I'm not very bright but I'm so broken down by all this that my will to live literally goes had in hand with my ability to be a father to my kids).  She said she would drop the case before out next court appearance (I have multiple texts stating these intentions clearly) which was great because I had just started a new job and missing time for court right off the bat wasn't a good look.  Instead her and her lawyer appeared and presented their argument, getting a favorable temporary order.  I wasn't surprised but deeply hurt once again and stated that I plan to fight it and if she doesn't fix the issue then we were finished for good.  She apparently tried to drop the case and was told it's not possible without a final order so she fired her lawyer and with no further action the temp order will expire on April 28th.  About a week ago we got into an argument because it had been 3 continuous weeks where she had blown off my time with the kids and I stated that if she didn't value my time with them, we would have to revisit a co-parenting situation.  Since then she has ignored all calls and messages from me and my family.  The other day was my dads birthday and he just wanted to video chat with the kids but was ignored.  My sister had just flown out to AZ to visit and see the kids and all of our attempts to find a day or two when she can spend some time with them was ignored.  It was not until her last day here that we decided to drive to my exes grandmas house (where the kids were) and were given, at most, 15 mins before she told us she had stuff to do and we needed to leave (it broke my heart when my daughter cried that she didn't want us to leave and that she really misses her auntie because she never gets to see her anymore).  

I don't know what to do at the moment.  With the temporary order in place I am unable to do much.  I'm not sure if I should contest the current order or hold out until the 28th an then file a new petition.  Even then, I'm not sure how I will afford a lawyer as I am still in debt from the last lawyer and I have minimal credit history.  On top of that I am a god damn wreck.  I have never understood how very severe anxiety and depression can be until now.  I can't even look at pictures of my kids without breaking down.  My will to do anything outside of work has just disappeared and when I do work myself up enough to try to go be social, I find myself unavoidably detached and just staring off into space.  Despite my pretty healthy diet, I'm constantly tired and feel just generally unwell.  I hate to sound like a pathetic pessimist but I really just don't know if I can handle this much longer.  Any and all tips and advice would be so genuinely appreciated.",6.031028545327345,5.789504668002294,6.516620353506442,79.77192081085612,66.42987979393246,9.691671147652832,30.35396321544003,9.28620072955928,2.39563199135025,6913,222,1390,115,99,2254,552,1747,0.109,0.789,0.102,-0.6324,17,1,0,0,1,0,143.0,33,0,12,21,79,56,7,1,105,0,125,9,5,4,15,252,221,113,0,29,42,25,7,2,0,15,3,9,8,13,56,124,1,12,22,4,8,44,30,25,2,13,82,26,239,33,258,108,30,318,0,10,10,0,216,96,3,19,162,1001,295,20,0.0860803511533807,0.0,0.028000668495254462,0.0,0.0,0.028038907630179383,0.02543501250209526,0.0,0.05746469159943245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02387524930425649,0.0,0.0,0.058537590605317026,0.030087584556133477,0.02195041100668469,0.0,0.02845619262126655,0.0,0.0,0.023612264825992317,0.1021730168276678,0.02682450277838668,0.0,0.0,0.3750793674791898,0.023957832544801046,0.06996504412555671,0.0,0.07324803871408557,0.0,0.030112005933280582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649610481305034,0.03281766321742074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358433407241373,0.030084536812367918,0.031007426330602945,0.0,0.0687281559740518,0.0,0.031518407906698305,0.1295343122363664,0.029581687421200112,0.049427253542421765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023969695933081188,0.06455253929935972,0.025413880373347717,0.059296008979828264,0.03200078194973946,0.0568552600936811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025787823041191524,0.0,0.18934741959546525,0.0,0.014508270656102178,0.0,0.02755021210298059,0.09429681711420508,0.07867588147714122,0.0976265369558638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1649025790212846,0.0,0.048921447282937035,0.0722001144928575,0.09179509387611856,0.0632692606912916,0.0,0.0,0.025373523413403067,0.030544711486799794,0.025703695576450462,0.02832884183127312,0.0,0.0,0.06467920791948127,0.03400187685916253,0.03846522992145597,0.0,0.20147309179589504,0.0,0.11302907509304624,0.13243355714909896,0.030716932088621026,0.03239141290527103,0.0,0.08984552222678663,0.19931675424185352,0.051008114172232985,0.0,0.0,0.0473075097982328,0.046777983454285264,0.03236746183239892,0.06076444189994496,0.0,0.02934099705885186,0.020267032572684786,0.02803634099137053,0.028758375325115118,0.10134736951143476,0.025392800660020868,0.0481905433856098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028916249215980957,0.0,0.0,0.033605422300091836,0.13741703007234926,0.12198638723199035,0.04218597508658765,0.0425516597733752,0.06639047349480694,0.11084925272607286,0.12206324001588335,0.05385371887636031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167276461960397,0.09721712286421448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12744272404410567,0.031072210610042724,0.027391145123553232,0.0,0.0,0.14989274281078674,0.03149679204070237,0.05424917031220392,0.032347554038336425,0.0,0.058383109045228435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028844842820557107,0.0,0.06103803286098824,0.0,0.0,0.05514527716222055,0.0,0.0,0.12322410995548445,0.03250408583172952,0.07351214954993912,0.05458808409928874,0.09127273366596916,0.0,0.0,0.09145986001148064,0.02612143957938256,0.029933526559995743,0.03241543166850031,0.0,0.07120655600388094,0.032252640440577116,0.0,0.05849871843109024,0.048623734793974464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06092811559949876,0.06116680064955966,0.04582925308374162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569427168469627,0.0,0.0651219749270293,0.05408647482863355,0.0,0.021573903745153927,0.023062708530446133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0381253069112858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18404519832373795,0.0329789002398695,0.0,0.1370891073657707,0.06375895829218832,0.09740484661749227,0.0,0.05605866340841891,0.0,0.20708812728685708,0.0,0.0,0.071025304765202,0.08462070229209752,0.022775525345004457,0.1611130859531726,0.0,0.05159771568098027,0.07979734792131847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829731121227448,0.0,0.12533504170339066,0.0,0.0,0.2038300389781068,0.0,0.0,0.07391056518347258
parenting,jstikk,2019/04/10,"Me my heart happy. So my son 7years old has saved his money over the past year+. He has 235$. We are driving home the other day. Suddenly he randomly says ""next time I see a homeless person I'm going to buy them one of these houses"". I replied saying how nice that would be of him and what made you think of that? He said ""that neighborhood had a sign that said new homes as low as 220"". I just let him smile..",1.3372058823529436,3.204546882352944,2.436102941176472,96.52121323529413,80.17647058823529,5.661764705882352,17.683823529411768,6.6274283507984215,-0.3083823529411758,315,6,73,3,8,100,68,85,0.024,0.868,0.108,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,1,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,2,0,10,14,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,7,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,4,5,12,3,7,7,0,12,0,1,1,0,15,2,0,1,8,42,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13076047690336606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523058168795762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158369223068174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402661572727115,0.0,0.0,0.4067604499779892,0.0,0.0,0.2339525403403992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20733116124972345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191852087487172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19582245488507674,0.2156326968680994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127577135453955,0.0,0.1373923247145668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19355299736525772,0.0,0.17703821825066346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3857336832828806,0.3224785071796502,0.0,0.0,0.16156982451791502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991749074244946,0.0,0.0,0.11822832002346476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14403163803241575,0.0,0.0,0.13056784741650138
parenting,Conscious_Champion,2019/04/10,"Tips for going from 1 to 2? I'm expecting a second late this summer when my first will be about 2.5. I figured the first year would suck again and then it would get better but all the horror stories from other parents has me scared. 

I'm not worried about being able to love two, but I am worried about being able to give two kids what they need as far as attention and emotional connection. What can I do to set myself up for success? 

I figure baby wearing is a must.",4.731719298245616,5.107211663157901,5.614473684210527,83.01048245614038,69.21052631578948,8.017543859649122,27.41228070175439,7.793537801064563,1.576122807017544,368,11,73,4,6,121,70,95,0.101,0.716,0.183,0.8349,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,4,5,5,1,1,4,0,12,2,1,0,2,14,20,8,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,5,0,0,8,3,14,13,1,12,0,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,8,57,13,1,0.3944727939255368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443956486778148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218643992898579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33553835699654144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10304787678097097,0.18920712434191506,0.11209398970849298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22249124678674934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801354888196966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624828917458152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21900767747326316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974680415273796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3853426005264696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4006062703964709,0.0,0.2802221548273286,0.0,0.0,0.12701377299473388
parenting,LURKER_GALORE,2019/04/10,"Daycare is telling us that our 2.5 y.o. is not napping during nap time and wants us to pick her up early The title says most of it. We have a 2.5 year old who is extremely social, and when it comes to nap time, often refuses to nap while she's at day care. She does not have this problem at home, and in fact, she usually sleeps very well for her nap time at home. I'm guessing she's just a bit more stimulated by the presence of her friends and just would prefer to talk to them than to try to sleep.

The day care fussed at my wife over this issue they were having with our daughter, and they said they wanted us to pick her up early (at 12:30 - before naptime - instead of the usual pickup at 2:00). Thing is, my wife and I have plans during that time, hence why we're paying for daycare. Also, if they can't get her to sleep during that time, that sounds more like their problem, not ours. She sleeps just fine on our watch. She's a very good kid with no major behavioral issues. I mean, no kid is perfect, and ours can be a bit stubborn at times, but so far we haven't seen anything we're concerned about, and this is the first issue that's come up with the daycare.

I understand that our daughter's behavior might be disruptive to the rest of the class while everyone else is trying to sleep, but I also think it's the daycare's job to handle it. Is it ok to refuse their request to pick her up early at 12:30 instead of the typical 2 pm pickup?",6.4219191919191925,5.1156341548821604,6.514491582491582,83.62284848484848,66.03703703703704,9.266801346801348,30.237710437710447,7.793537801064563,1.7653916498316495,1132,31,243,10,15,362,148,297,0.051,0.8809999999999999,0.068,0.4873,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,11,0,7,3,12,12,1,0,14,1,20,5,5,4,2,46,34,17,0,7,9,4,0,1,1,2,0,3,2,2,16,15,0,3,4,5,1,2,7,3,1,1,3,5,36,9,42,27,7,37,0,0,2,0,46,16,0,5,20,162,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490764143373415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670203969569557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07931293354651091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20351745346055444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900630342715961,0.0,0.0,0.16058045372003005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022258084126056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.081566733608437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786311827779871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906400324158585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928246790518602,0.0,0.0,0.07201207949949404,0.0,0.048697204437161294,0.0,0.0,0.07817824181169923,0.0,0.0,0.10267884932464501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18698995383997224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918540370059515,0.09249431361527516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04553660048050445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153056885441132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887869745485063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978058585516471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783744651197083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866191837909923,0.07412254703618422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4663753374378382,0.09501356723539617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07491686198798149,0.08146768526116398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061923090090472185,0.05972376517493334,0.0,0.0,0.3261011453541478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265638932455782,0.0,0.0,0.09703255902281734,0.33635235494603244,0.0,0.2053103453945084,0.15381231704924506,0.10995269643327547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380496461341548,0.0,0.08410550041231629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621211415375904,0.0,0.0,0.06002273761551124
parenting,Jerry-_-Garcia,2019/04/10,"5yr 'normal' son is super attached to mom lately and cries when separated from mom for practically anything for the past few months... is this a phase? 1. I understand reddit is not a doctor and comments are to be taken with a grain of salt

2. I would love to hear opinions though

3. what causes changes in behavior like this? Our life routine hasnt really changed, so im stumped

4. Thanks in advance!",3.2770129870129883,5.487017480519483,4.331168831168832,83.60246753246757,75.49350649350649,6.997402597402598,27.883116883116887,7.957251820313856,1.904849350649351,314,13,59,5,7,102,64,77,0.033,0.794,0.173,0.9091,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,4,0,7,3,0,1,0,9,12,5,0,2,1,3,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,4,10,9,1,7,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,1,5,34,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628606383727355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20330505510288874,0.4187188321425975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2173916000860133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256625046627186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22305562742152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137735737027376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22324777124839426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13978760136025,0.0966873873628598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17861883833123282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4635726872378336,0.15796751819300658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19390688815949567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889246717100822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267843231482312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220622086627786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944426705976153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20602821734717175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405874892228554,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,redon842,2019/04/10,"My 5 year old is being paid to clean up other kids space. Need advice on how to handle this My 5 year old is in primary and yesterday he told me that one of his friends/classmates told him that they will give him a freezy if my son cleans their side of the table. He did and obviously didn’t get the freezy so he indirectly asked me if he can go to their home for the freezy. 

This is the first time I have heard of this and then he also told him that another child said that he could have their key chain if they switched places in the bus line. 

I don’t want my son to do other people’s tasks but I am not sure how to handle this or what to tell him. 

Does anyone have suggestions?",1.9249770114942528,3.364114779310345,2.9569827586206934,95.38420977011498,77.06896551724137,6.488505747126437,18.290229885057467,7.1686216300943375,-0.13556321839080487,533,9,128,6,12,170,88,145,0.018000000000000002,0.96,0.022,-0.1136,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,5,1,4,1,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,2,2,17,27,13,0,6,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,11,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,8,2,19,1,14,16,0,16,0,0,0,0,29,7,0,5,8,81,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204753571611584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489818591807782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195348930719357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026338252198094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741627987803373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487432106178302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302999605007693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15846436234006392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733263422257477,0.17871331657827602,0.10587703152813087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868713511459129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813706483407626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39097529171377976,0.0,0.1262398512828788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291550697172873,0.0,0.1946409953650444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721136502199786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755829718474213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628320250029316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863143605870128,0.0,0.0,0.534045074051287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988295639779083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2399386672352764
parenting,pm_me_a_bike,2019/04/10,"Son (age 10) doesn't like music It seems strange that he seemingly doesn't like music at all. He gets annoyed listening to music when me or his siblings put music on  and has not been a fan for as long as I can remember. On a recent car trip I have told him we can listen to what he likes, in case it was just what me or his siblings were listening to that he doesn't like, but he totally  declined his opportunity to have his selection. He says he doesn't like any type or artist.

I know that everyone is different but I wonder if this could be something to be concerned about? I just never met any other person who doesn't like music at all. In other respects of his life, he's doing well - grades are good, he has friends.",4.014391891891897,4.72624138513514,5.171189189189189,84.34813513513515,70.95945945945945,8.352432432432431,26.962162162162162,8.548686976883017,1.724424864864865,567,18,119,9,10,188,89,148,0.095,0.779,0.126,0.8726,1,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,1,5,12,1,0,2,0,20,1,0,0,4,21,30,10,0,2,9,1,0,6,1,0,1,4,0,1,11,2,0,0,5,1,0,3,7,1,1,0,5,4,14,11,16,22,3,14,0,0,0,0,26,6,0,7,11,79,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25563789012897864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15007041290888135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19637773329014335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960341280326353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521708850304724,0.0,0.09820111147674776,0.0,0.0,0.15765155983673432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10329765768475058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327613946648966,0.5509652759424989,0.0,0.0,0.16633829436952918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14496599871446322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411903638559974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889512708884741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185587388229469,0.0,0.2129215390487858,0.0,0.0,0.14947298491915478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3422226452517377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470045086678013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960341280326353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689982159638454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038341231784836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway99543998,2019/04/10,"How to handle this situation happening at school? Need advice on how to handle this situation. My apologies for how long this is, but want to give all the information.  

Our first grade daughter made friends with a classmate. A few play dates in we noticed some concerning behavior from the classmate and even our daughter felt the friendship wasn’t a good fit. Naturally our daughter started to pull away and stick to being friendly at school with no more outside play dates. The friend didn’t like this and became VERY clingy. In addition to calling my cell and trying to question me as to why she couldn’t have a play date with my daughter (!!!), She would essentially harass our daughter at recess. Doing things like not “allowing” her to play with anyone else. The friend started to become more and more physical, invading our daughter’s personal space (pushing, pulling hair, grabbing her and “dragging” her to a different section of the playground, etc). We notified the school and her teacher is aware. It didn’t stop. Teacher confirms that my daughter is kind and a role model in class, that it is all this girl being the instigator and she’ll be on top of the behavior as best she can. The girl will find my daughter in during specials (music, gym, etc) and elbow her, scream in her face, etc. My daughter notified teachers and we followed up as well. It’s getting frustrating because this girl is a distraction and frustration/annoyance for our daughter all day, every day! 

Well this morning our daughter told us that yesterday in class the girl came up to her and said “I wish I was dead.” I was horrified and saddened to hear this. Our daughter then tells us that off and on the past couple months the girl has made statements such as, “It would be good to die” and “I wish I could be dead so I could see ____ in heaven.” My daughter was confused as to why a kid would want to die, and said that dying is bad and she can’t understand why this girl is so infatuated with dying. 

Our daughter claims the girl announced in the beginning of the year that a close family member died. The girl’s parents never mentioned this in any of our interactions. I would assume if it was a close enough family member to where it would affect the child that it would be mentioned. I would’ve expected something like, “Just so you’re aware, she lost ____ last year and may talk about it. If she seems sad, let me know.” However, nothing of that nature was mentioned. 

So now I’m torn if I should be bugging our daughters teacher (Again!) about this classmate. Perhaps the girl is grieving and that’s why she’s being aggressive and physical? I can sympathize and feel bad! However, my daughter is becoming the target of whatever this girl is going through and that isn’t right. It’s also disturbing to have to explain to my 1st grader that you shouldn’t want to die and that if a classmate says that to tell a teacher right away. If the statements were made without all the physical harm towards my daughter I don’t think I’d be as upset, but it is genuinely concerning. I didn’t expect death to be romanticized and suicidal ideation being a topic of discussion until middle/high school. 

Would you email the teacher? The principal? Call the mother? My thoughts are: it happened at school so let the school handle it. They’re trained to respond/deal with this sort of thing. If the mother is grieving the loss as well, who knows how she’ll respond! Also, what am I going to say? It’s not my place to suggest counseling and plus she isn’t in the school and can’t control what her daughter does at school. 

Can anyone offer advice on how to handle this?",5.01171472012614,6.757310234260615,5.167931918008787,81.40526875211172,69.64421669106879,8.006408379321996,30.996987273341595,8.560254945171566,2.4893800202725545,2882,122,518,47,52,905,282,683,0.158,0.723,0.119,-0.9921,5,0,1,0,0,3,80.0,16,2,0,6,24,37,3,4,42,0,65,3,3,11,5,109,101,57,12,26,12,21,4,3,4,13,0,6,0,13,45,41,0,2,15,5,0,7,16,16,3,1,20,11,63,21,82,52,15,64,1,5,1,0,102,35,0,13,25,372,108,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11112138331889558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093817291438036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038665189398086386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951245923050174,0.05825743830344723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683937170771504,0.0,0.09494761810318487,0.034659929470786985,0.12558973703747178,0.0,0.0,0.05966865396374079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161161485487723,0.06503006789908418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377075130220583,0.09079250239850366,0.06291196956171466,0.0,0.07333703251015952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35405592911659645,0.05940420058544023,0.0,0.0,0.049756561142933656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047497317030824826,0.0,0.0,0.058749208689179724,0.19023411349203,0.0375539781714208,0.0,0.047905069042673436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10720076886847396,0.0,0.02874896422740383,0.0,0.0545923136519958,0.0,0.0519669126610543,0.048363135157824005,0.0,0.0,0.17571248856657673,0.0,0.029705804350328036,0.05454309193905702,0.06462708851742345,0.09537909136889863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055816219947708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408276626518174,0.0,0.0,0.0600732874477659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059208550662855575,0.06249501584830705,0.04634661858860845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628171197461185,0.0,0.08333340857780283,0.0,0.0,0.050317280061320836,0.0,0.0,0.06206690194709767,0.0,0.0,0.16140040680166545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045383277987079536,0.0,0.0,0.04215926810432418,0.04385216756208928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455650178121589,0.06473287443532612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313375317832726,0.0,0.05427711337694476,0.0,0.049645955241447284,0.05940420058544023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636936425324719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711233947338699,0.10816939621628127,0.09043105885251224,0.0,0.4603442667307583,0.04530822980283152,0.05176111955976671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782088620265386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04377183942434927,0.0,0.0,0.08048835303819772,0.0,0.0,0.04753558762443776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062193101316186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04570006985980559,0.0993922812290008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554746603037372,0.03643212179953476,0.0,0.045138667011275765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054329974082301925,0.0,0.03860264972109879,0.0,0.0,0.059190876504275465,0.13678563775588776,0.0,0.0,0.046913561566264785,0.10060844331174992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336571644095418,0.0,0.20522094185169554,0.0,0.13076711036727404,0.05480879902272223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3231206606467461,0.0,0.0,0.07322899623440438
parenting,Aidlin87,2019/04/10,"My two year old has started hugging me and telling me I’m his best friend whenever he’s feeling particularly happy and snuggly. I know he doesn’t fully understand what a best friend is, but he knows it’s a good and meaningful thing and my heart just about bursts from happiness every time he does it.",5.343813559322033,6.410292152542375,5.762500000000002,80.01968220338985,68.15254237288136,9.289830508474578,31.69915254237288,9.516144504307137,2.8244203389830504,243,10,47,5,4,78,44,59,0.0,0.611,0.389,0.9743,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,2,2,8,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,11,9,5,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,6,8,2,9,2,4,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,4,26,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4477563780185125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668778428917585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974094250817824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786678799616004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296386889379114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789322938137108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541905781120414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527987883308616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344827650834208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22385546430191816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099709409801207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646108504952413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172793213498885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243952805821138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20839382254978486,0.22208555677660125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373784556116061
parenting,Latino_By_Nature,2019/04/10,"ADVICE NEEDED: Child is hitting other kids with toys My wife and I just switched him to a different baby sitter because the old one would just sit him in front of the TV and would not give us frequent updates. He knows the new baby sitter and she is great, photo updates every half hour and he loves her. She just told me that he is hitting one of the other kids with toys and time outs have not worked. He has been trying this with his mom but not so much with me. There is no violence in my house and we are mindful of what he watches on TV at home. What else should we try?",2.3309243697478976,3.947600621848743,3.1316722689075647,93.80523949579836,76.39495798319328,5.432268907563026,21.1436974789916,5.6839178017228535,-0.054143529411764924,450,11,98,2,10,142,78,119,0.067,0.894,0.039,-0.6757,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,0,26,18,8,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,6,13,0,0,1,4,0,1,4,0,0,3,2,1,14,2,13,11,1,14,0,0,1,1,22,5,0,0,7,69,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961060986818957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223351140185078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096720842413511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764574490656722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908493966611854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192514395533044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2212548371053933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013024317219332,0.0,0.19763333192644167,0.2315624111468775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102906873459587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18112516047638325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026336484831905,0.2350386951143299,0.0,0.0,0.14752584341798458,0.14880465567093462,0.0,0.19382187406006451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105841170477816,0.0,0.27197736718472376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702046411056055,0.0,0.0,0.19176217826937386,0.0,0.2725025484559885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24139816275542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610035443588,0.0,0.0,0.2851203353953168,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,italiansolid,2019/04/10,"Full time Dad slowly loosing his grips. I'm going to make my life story/situation as short and sweet as possible. And mainly to get it off my chest. 

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Graduated from a good private high school, family always loving, hard times existed no doubt growing up in lower middle class Louisville Kentucky. Went to college and met a woman first semester. She had a 3 year old back at home that was taken away from her, and she was pregnant when we first met. I decided to take care of her she wanted to do an adoption for the baby. I ran away with her to Louisiana where the adoptive family was, and I ended up getting married to her and got my first apartment. 

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Jump a few years, we moved back to Kentucky, went to a few more colleges online, went through some hard times/ robberies/ ect. Decided to buy a house in central Kentucky. Had my first born son :))). I've held my job as a Quality Tech for 7 years now, even though its a good job and I like what I do I'm underpaid. I take home about  28k a year. Wife never worked consistently. 

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Caught Wife in a couple affairs, and some money related issues through about 3 years apart. I forgave her. But you can forgive and not forget. Jump ahead a few more years decided to join the United States Marine Corps Reserve, I went into boot camp while she was pregnant with our second son. Found out she had ovarian cancer and they stationed me close to home. I ended up getting an honorable hardship discharge. Second son came out in great health which was a miracle.

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When I got home I found out she hasn't paid the mortgage in 2 years, and I was protected from foreclosure because I was active duty military. I was missing about 11k in savings and I had 4 credit cards opened up in my name. But I carried on and forgave her. 

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Skip about a year I got my house caught back up and everything was going okay again financially. She ran up to me on the front porch and started making out with me with a bunch of makeup on I knew something was off. Yes another affair. This time I caught her doing drugs as well. She went to a mental hospital, then to rehab, then to another rehab. 

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I couldn't really afford a lawyer so we did an uncontested divorce 50/50 joint custody. I gave her the house with everything in it and decided to move out I felt like I did my job. I got an apartment nearby and we did every other week with our 2 boys. It lasted about 3 weeks. She decided to move near her new boyfriend about 30 mins north, she lost her job, wasn't paying on the house I gave her. Now she's homeless with multiple warrants out for her arrest. She also has a bench warrant for the courts because she failed to go to the parenting class twice. 

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Now I've had my boys for about 10 weeks now, and we haven't heard from the ex wife. Technically I don't even know if she is my ex wife because the court still hasn't finalized the divorce because she failed to go to the classes. I haven't gotten a penny from her either. 

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So hear me out. This is my situation. I owe about 37k in student loans, 10k in other debts that are in collection that the ex opened up in my name. Wages are getting garnished this week from the Department of Defense because the USMC overpaid me, daycare is 200 a week, my boys are 6 and 2.  Cabinet Health and Family services said I make too much for any assistance, can't afford a lawyer. Budget comes out to about -350 a month without adding any groceries that's just bills only. 

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So I guess is what I'm trying to say is that I love my two boys with all my heart and none of this is going to get me down. I will survive through all this. My mind is callused. I've been diagnosed with bipolar and I haven't had a single episode since the separation, why? Because I'm in flight or fight mode. I'm a combat hunter and I'll do whatever it takes to raise these two boys and turn them into men. Because one day they are gonna realize who was there and who put in the work. Its easy to feel like I'm done for and hopeless but what good is that going to do my family? Sorry reddit I just needed to vent. From the outside I look like an excellent dad who has his shit together. I may not be superman but I will make sure these boys get everything they need to set them up for success.",2.8485242098285566,4.9859943678025855,3.8067156286721513,87.20268786344877,76.53231492361927,6.714278827322308,25.246331615896835,7.702957570686157,1.3748235439452836,3401,122,669,50,78,1092,374,851,0.042,0.871,0.087,0.9858,12,0,2,0,3,1,122.0,7,1,5,14,33,30,3,1,47,2,55,14,3,4,4,105,127,46,0,5,12,13,5,4,0,4,9,4,5,8,28,55,0,4,13,0,13,27,15,9,1,10,53,11,103,21,119,68,16,132,0,5,1,2,85,55,1,7,52,441,131,28,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0309899457724039,0.032244753138856955,0.3778898039267965,0.4237910945355977,0.052705352849108884,0.08126966333993818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07281752490666593,0.08939364575264958,0.0,0.16535993857066508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044321943429978014,0.039510228037058,0.0,0.0,0.03338140090779761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042878330687120256,0.0,0.02499182233118601,0.0,0.0,0.03933244571236391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0396567316895219,0.0,0.0,0.044939995843116885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864550719417574,0.0,0.0,0.051190636880998314,0.0,0.032650215949543315,0.0,0.10448334725495463,0.0,0.14612767807076402,0.0,0.01959416631910665,0.027684423476298625,0.03720797956339593,0.042450901780886105,0.0,0.13184966338266074,0.0,0.0849790954991948,0.0,0.0,0.12147786608499996,0.0,0.13214186547176107,0.09750997104789806,0.1239739993360383,0.04272419664126762,0.04268967679009342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942832789362449,0.0,0.0,0.08238308886573496,0.0436762997948813,0.04592128490930754,0.0,0.040943596307550296,0.15548558919245564,0.0,0.0,0.17885833580854346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040447000823818746,0.1538214492713409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.021297075695681792,0.03158803725136507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02737167071369121,0.07572904330028413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03254190470001365,0.0,0.04230236574936739,0.0,0.06995035294245794,0.0,0.10346899482071696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039052882999832964,0.0,0.039128454578416516,0.0,0.03093146208507393,0.12356167130876693,0.028487165416665995,0.05746820682607491,0.029887917278281193,0.03742690541394427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0406636860191737,0.0,0.026259345715545338,0.02947262832127029,0.0,0.0,0.043029489700585434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043687036785246894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03895644498724361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02482551178432636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036862008720280094,0.030817131246071668,0.0,0.039219074359606185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03977835234388938,0.032056039722050775,0.043558851085894884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029833168770525168,0.0,0.04337967085234447,0.027428852109358918,0.0,0.03094738265120425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0365232841503642,0.0,0.08741000250580798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038073625275053036,0.0,0.09038636868002953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0263100518338824,0.04215102818829057,0.07571011049407061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022856922841504663,0.0,0.1554225112194002,0.0,0.03484268548277572,0.17961737642111733,0.034967636007672664,0.0,0.0,0.037355527500292515,0.0,0.05642380843682152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4237910945355977,0.19964004549846406
parenting,pamajama4,2019/04/10,"My 8 year old daughter is having increasingly bad issues with lying and following instructions please help This is my first post ever, please forgive my formatting. 

She is technically my stepdaughter but her biological mom hasn't tried to see her in over 3 years.  Her mom also stays in trouble for stealing and drug use. She is overall a dishonest person. I think this might be related to my stepdaughter's misbehavior. 

I was 19 when I met her and she had just turned 4. I didn't have any prior experience with this kind of stuff. So when she started being more and more dishonest over the past couple years I had no idea how to handle it. She ignores us and lies about it until she is blue in the face even if one of us saw her doing the thing she's lying about. I know that every kid will have this problem at some point but it's constant. 

She has started lying about people to other people to make them think that someone is just mean to her for no reason and it has caused some major issues.  

We've tried talking to her to see what's wrong or what's changed in her mind. I've spent hours and hours trying to get through to her about why the dishonesty and manipulative behavior is so bad. I've tried everything I can think of. 

She has told me a bunch of different reasons for it. One is that she had a dream that she lies and got away with it so she wants it to happen in real life. Another is that telling the truth is too hard and she just doesn't want anyone to know that she did whatever thing she did. 

There have been more but one that really stuck out was that she wanted me to be proud that she behaves at school or did whatever it was I asked her to do. I don't understand the reason for lying about that though because I tell her that I'm proud of her for being honest but she needs to work on behaving so she doesn't have any need to lie. 

I've tried positive reinforcement and I've tried punishments. I've tried having other people to talk to her about why it's so important to be trustworthy and do her best at things and so far no dice. I'm getting very overwhelmed and frustrated with all of it because I have 3 other babies and I don't have as much patience as I know she deserves.

I'm sorry this is so long and rambly. I tried to make it to the point as much as I could. If there is anything I didn't make clear please ask and I'll try to answer to the best of my abilities. I love her and I want to do my best to be a good mom to her.",3.63110673665792,4.580157736220475,4.733018372703416,86.26261592300962,72.03149606299212,8.085389326334209,24.74103237095364,8.430304187100639,1.3532163604549434,1942,54,418,31,36,638,213,508,0.154,0.72,0.125,-0.9395,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,1,7,26,21,2,1,12,0,54,4,1,10,4,73,93,43,0,10,11,4,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,36,23,0,1,14,1,1,2,10,10,0,4,18,5,66,11,67,66,14,37,0,1,4,1,56,16,0,7,17,300,102,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05594687293278743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09515020453351664,0.07335901071854696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04891755915670997,0.0,0.057571001926973564,0.0,0.13080604613960034,0.0,0.06572958925376828,0.0,0.11682711792089905,0.0852937598289862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025566345100664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718680451952061,0.07400825310831274,0.0,0.0,0.07560175248689265,0.0,0.05585725369390651,0.07740925189545025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309316110752621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113122415573122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046207826208589015,0.06328269657376268,0.05894419746238469,0.0,0.06287540906972264,0.06843416508200724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950781922688336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07310227633092185,0.0,0.0,0.058679009421979136,0.0559532891632161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618652711246536,0.0,0.0626702909893347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046892617930744326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13779273500318145,0.0,0.0,0.07897616380847892,0.0,0.1460398306096812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285242608927467,0.11534432456289895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941471645751103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191227256269265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631415029961144,0.0,0.140096244800613,0.0,0.0,0.07620679447840109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421635336288583,0.07063951297082903,0.2458084194277252,0.0,0.0,0.102857090198637,0.10374869606376076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341110214911495,0.0,0.1422198304735972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06678460030459292,0.1455040697001315,0.06108624927257322,0.0,0.2303847456351604,0.13226935711574014,0.0,0.06700220499281077,0.0,0.0,0.06694213554079644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962963423302839,0.04481807627188325,0.21579115656308687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080311097841026,0.1114978977189326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059276760407139625,0.0,0.0,0.0783143330054946,0.09903589473338313,0.07456789986080076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008729932563402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246216718575572,0.1222959984835906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394346624835373,0.13448235589092786,0.06873520499189709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684964210323427,0.0,0.42748335987874814,0.07609623570676245,0.0,0.07283067914027436,0.1683061897837798,0.0604228548391891,0.0,0.05772420939759761,0.16505654669288478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625578004226828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05093160962885293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764901219205613,0.0,0.13515556391854652
parenting,whittyforshort,2019/04/10,"Help: My Step-dad is a bit too rough with my baby So, my parents are very supporting and loving people, by no means are they abusive. But, my step dad is always in a hurry and careless with things, so much so that he ends up hurting himself most of the time.

That said, he seems a bit too rough with my 6 MO, and it really pisses me off/stresses me out. He is not the type of person to admit he's in the wrong generally, but I need to approach this situation with kid gloves otherwise I will lose my shit. I feel like it is building to a point where I am just going to say something brash, and I do not want to do that.

Has anyone else experienced this? If so, what was the situation and how did you handle it?

Thanks.",3.5007382550335566,4.036006758389263,5.030395973154358,85.53566107382551,72.0201342281879,7.839194630872482,24.967114093959733,7.908726449838941,1.15359543624161,553,15,122,7,10,187,96,149,0.138,0.7659999999999999,0.095,-0.7014,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,1,1,9,10,2,0,8,0,13,3,2,1,0,25,24,13,0,3,6,2,3,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,10,10,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,3,6,16,4,16,20,4,11,0,2,0,1,16,6,2,3,3,85,26,1,0.0,0.19624992059534085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13782125897698327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581556609258427,0.16971222526668586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616601764745289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836645761029898,0.0,0.146703095909486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374983238589033,0.11832939396758813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413396232485917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102138342214224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731526898064706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092070083326447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853027538322046,0.0,0.0,0.1494916966319754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18042464086040985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217604918698926,0.12281595988363762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18391762585787455,0.0,0.0,0.11483017885329933,0.14462574711284115,0.0,0.0,0.15657823831711326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610976843673496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755643804657868,0.13171928493613794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507875223937402,0.0,0.0,0.1700215404489591,0.0,0.37236046871852585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751361009093318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18973387889972104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879601854023492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249408936189174,0.0,0.0,0.1100402707933299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09658286940664908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666589469872634,0.09769558069774104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109543737333944,0.0,0.0
parenting,bubbleh2o,2019/04/10,"Always sick... I am here to vent a little bit. I feel like my tot is always sick. I’m trying to tell myself it’s a phase and we’ll get through it. But her and I are sick at least once a month, and I was almost never sick before becoming a mom. 

When I say sick, it’s like cough/cold/viral and the pedi can’t do anything. Just rest and fluids. I am constantly missing work, and I’m just so stressed.",-0.13873563218390927,1.6841291494252886,2.2857471264367817,95.89229885057472,85.0919540229885,4.786206896551724,16.563218390804597,5.82211442006289,-0.6256298850574713,304,6,72,2,9,104,59,87,0.22,0.726,0.053,-0.933,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,5,0,8,5,0,0,1,12,13,9,0,0,3,1,1,2,0,1,5,1,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,2,10,2,4,11,3,6,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,6,44,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22859642646605616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37990609677217024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878607266394973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521250249696118,0.194255399035938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492302476088221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246697116291679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542875229561166,0.16308825840558572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192705206689655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223058966590692,0.2288035190762549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673669425125595,0.18221648305993787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606898624629733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431181746916089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815429628968436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26150195511664315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953287567734654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499186883274227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16619563449550875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pantsparty1322,2019/04/10,"Parents of ADHD children who are medicated, what positive changes were immediately noticed in your child's behavior when they began treatment? After a year of behavioral therapy and not much improvement in her social interactions and zero improvement in her ability to focus on nearly anything, we're going to give medication a try for my 7 year old daughter.  She has a lot of trouble controlling her impulses and often can't focus enough to follow simple directions most of the time, regardless of what rewards or discipline are set up (we've tried it all)

Please no debates on medicating, I'm sure your reasons for thinking I shouldn't are valid, but I assure you my reasons are much better.",10.402204301075274,9.606228145161293,10.550645161290324,56.22930107526884,57.87096774193547,13.750537634408605,44.86021505376344,12.745084868956482,6.235144086021505,566,30,81,17,6,190,93,124,0.056,0.813,0.131,0.8526,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,1,3,2,5,0,0,4,0,8,3,0,3,3,19,14,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,3,0,2,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,1,2,0,12,4,18,11,6,17,0,0,0,0,16,7,0,4,7,62,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19985275991070586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368455790133678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14707329946118758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759167273347354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865125698422061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182588671236118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15952410841898548,0.09450856477824998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137699117045416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5025703446916243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444900660529917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893265253688159,0.17449730668832272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18464951891928014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18254058963157554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419553221521441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16951552623682056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672988210281194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017138452532906,0.0,0.0,0.10655431405275677,0.0,0.0,0.096967217190825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258050675326327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141754330275792
parenting,entirestore,2019/04/10,"My [45F] Daughter [16F] refuses to learn how to drive. How can I convince her? My daughter doesn't want to learn how to drive. I ask her why. She says, ""I'm just not ready yet. I just don't feel like I'm mature enough yet to handle it."" I tell her it's not that hard. I try to tell her, ""Wouldn't it be nice to visit your friend's house driving there on your own as opposed to your father and I or your friends picking you up?"" She goes, ""Yeah, but I'm just not ready to drive yet. It's a big responsibility.""

It's annoying because it puts a burden on my husband and I. I would love for her to start driving on her own. Most people start driving around 16. Most kids can't wait to start driving. My daughter is showing no motivation to do it.

**tl;dr: My daughter refuses to learn how to drive. How can I convince her to learn?**",0.12869942196531525,2.2928380982658965,2.038991329479771,95.85062572254336,87.09248554913296,4.6160693641618495,20.788728323699427,5.985473137389443,-0.0547315606936416,633,21,146,5,20,209,84,173,0.111,0.7859999999999999,0.103,0.1989,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,0,5,0,1,13,9,1,0,2,1,10,1,0,7,0,32,21,10,0,3,8,6,2,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,8,3,0,4,6,1,0,10,8,2,0,0,0,3,28,7,22,18,5,22,0,0,0,1,31,6,0,3,7,95,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930573369931753,0.20274108500862087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321999244112786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22408126809600348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965431712631356,0.15492961026716529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351013412505316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942699617940235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502350489940225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595011283567957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19573065931287748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034806027590752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180109274962896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17246110028599768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604980888639604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791021004994589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14723825042707014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127913595555736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956884608151911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540558779455456,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,obsessiveostritch,2019/04/10,How do ya’ll manage the new baby jealousy? We have a 3.5 year old girl and a 6 day old girl and the 3.5 year old gets very upset when mommy is breastfeeding our new little. I know its all normal but what tips do you have to help our older daughter adjust.,5.176918238993714,4.712561283018868,5.771698113207545,85.14861635220126,68.24528301886792,7.821383647798742,23.32704402515723,6.42735559955562,0.5867911949685539,200,3,42,1,3,65,41,53,0.068,0.866,0.067,0.2391,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,0,5,0,0,1,1,9,7,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,10,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464765224588982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866318472806164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223677464458402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482169347669772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276384315109379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4387165432583728,0.0,0.0,0.22253380133538436,0.0,0.0,0.7149869152618638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18740151105612116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925214818334888
parenting,notgoodwithmoney,2019/04/10,"Need dental advice for 2.5 year old My littlest girl (H) lost the genetic lottery with her teeth. My older 2 have had a combined total of 2-3cavities in their 7&9 years here.

H was brought to her bi yearly checkup and they found multiple cavities. Our options were to sedate and fill the cavities or keep H awake during the uncomfortable process. We were so scared we've let it go a few weeks and now my sweet baby is having tooth pain 😭. 

My wife and I are so nervous about putting a small child under. It will be done in an OR with qualified doctors but it's so nerve-wracking. Can anybody give me advice? Can you reassure me that I'm not crazy for wanting to risk her life for fillings?

Thanks for your replys",2.933289689034372,5.1157979645390075,3.8712056737588663,86.62615384615387,76.44680851063829,6.60796508456083,27.1582105837425,7.61054688173877,1.6241506819421714,567,23,109,8,13,182,107,141,0.09,0.83,0.08,0.3341,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,2,2,1,6,8,0,3,7,0,14,7,2,0,1,17,24,10,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,4,7,0,1,1,0,0,5,1,5,0,0,8,1,16,3,14,13,2,16,0,1,0,1,14,4,0,3,7,70,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40378169469421255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22385513666954096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114677492255576,0.0,0.2114274240791752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265304085399479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19819319593792087,0.11741770370978083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363895497708044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21126638870355516,0.1459303776480452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255324592270176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319410372510173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21679593910836267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21984101543668655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2076938886295376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20684645137986207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902130257769773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186027725609715,0.0,0.1657251104216282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39913823042629376
parenting,vyvi84,2019/04/10,"Spotting and Cramping during first trimester Hi everyone! This is my first post on Reddit. I am six weeks pregnant. My pregnancy has been uneventful until the night before yesterday. That was when I was experiencing some cramping. But did not think much of it. Thought I was just having some stomach pain. Then 5pm yesterday, I had some stomach pain and felt the need to go to the bathroom. I sat on the toilet but did not go. Around 11pm last night I went to pee and when I wiped myself, I saw a smear of light pink on the toilet paper. I called the on call nurse and she said to have pelvic rest, meaning no pulling or heavy lifting. I was at work. Being a bedside nurse in a critical care unit, that seems impossible to do. My supervisor was very nice and sent me home early. I’m going to the doctor today. I’m nervous since this is my first pregnancy and I’m 34 turning 35. One article I read said 50% of bleeding in pregnancies lead to miscarriage, another said 14%. So I don’t know what to think. Some were suggesting no heavy lifting more than 10lbs. With my job that seems impossible. Should I ask for light duty during the first few months of pregnancy to be safe? Or is it not necessary? How concern should I be with this spotting and cramping?",2.3146437578814627,4.830932299180329,3.448688524590164,87.05223833543509,80.51639344262296,6.704665825977299,24.958385876418664,7.882392219407189,1.5549683480453966,987,38,193,18,26,318,142,244,0.081,0.8690000000000001,0.051,-0.6477,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,0,6,6,6,0,1,11,0,24,10,3,2,0,37,49,17,0,3,8,0,1,0,0,2,7,3,1,0,9,10,0,2,8,1,0,7,6,3,0,6,19,9,22,3,26,25,8,33,0,0,2,0,10,8,0,8,17,128,31,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336278935936825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344517366723834,0.11913557887261443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10843876045694338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602530737464149,0.0,0.129929627637661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043627891572918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12177068330459735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223586693877688,0.0,0.0,0.43358842807467823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21727466821993888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12782882882787822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264606952392502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003556426745088,0.10387745456758528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881530467668654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171830309945586,0.0,0.09368021848844467,0.09449227560661774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391803503604067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08635401971432073,0.0,0.2712020543239521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12204858587409753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747061595775985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636628264339552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320261330460292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054164835676879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331185282898258,0.0,0.1011700524114966,0.0,0.0,0.12079455045918032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386139151591935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514815338440002,0.0,0.0,0.10222157660191794,0.0,0.0,0.11813456917413995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277502034686844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,lostinmyownmindugh,2019/04/10,"I feel like I am a terrible Father for not wanting to move closer to my daughter (6). Please help. A few years ago I moved away from my daughter after a series of traumatic events with her mother.  I was mentally broken and decided to leave the entire situation behind.  I ended up out west and started an amazing career that allowed me to do so much more for my daughter. 

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I would see her often and at the time everything was great.  I was able to live in a city that I love filled with opportunities and beautiful weather.  I got to start over.  

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Well, her mother isn't being as nice now and my parenting time has been cut down to about two months per year which has been very tough to deal with.  I've missed games and events and that really eats me up.  So, I made the decision to move back to where my daughter lives so I don't miss these life events and to take control of my parenting time. 

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This is where it gets sticky.  I absolutely hate this town.  I am reminded of all of the bad memories that I've had there and mentally it kills all of the excitement I once had about moving closer to her.  I feel like such a shitty person because I should be super excited about having more time with her, after all, it's what I wanted.

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I don't know what to do.  Anytime I think about this I just default to being a shitty person. 

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TL;DR - I miss my daughter and I have the opportunity to leave the big city I live in now to move to her small city on the other side of the US, but that city is filled with negative memories and I don't want to move there.",3.303214804063863,5.022162751572331,4.430943396226418,85.07925979680701,74.0,7.533817126269955,24.49492017416545,8.263242389622931,1.4471544267053702,1257,39,252,21,26,411,159,318,0.105,0.795,0.1,-0.3858,3,1,0,0,0,0,47.0,1,0,0,4,18,21,3,0,16,0,26,3,0,3,3,38,45,16,1,5,3,10,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,16,17,1,1,6,1,0,8,6,9,1,1,9,3,40,12,50,31,7,46,0,3,1,1,23,19,0,1,21,184,56,1,0.06877581963279952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060965614408976625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3725928591895217,0.4178507437122156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06461714650655455,0.05288436001963232,0.05742493662548236,0.041925101294075916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713792984482944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07090485010531038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037483338654807,0.0,0.0,0.06091496244988057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181127199550991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955024177700976,0.09826691857546103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035932527140864534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500630575104145,0.07582558394513382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06790188318547168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04609898216780777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609025443826535,0.0,0.037797391827117034,0.0,0.0,0.14564732509345288,0.0,0.0,0.048578395349272406,0.06720078294349878,0.0,0.18219092630156625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06207286240587712,0.06507734346630449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386196998888949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05489620307130743,0.4385868719260703,0.050558140877338516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732440033089985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273481726542346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010478579266284,0.0,0.07549519696579675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04405955116228249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480542381195589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730690286114905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735975824659293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517108571075042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04406876817481661,0.0,0.0,0.16041493403350393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718398226379363,0.0,0.08272884287493842,0.0,0.0,0.05674725398357421,0.12169728101840352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06183772149377785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048856368992475495,0.0,0.4178507437122156,0.08857874587940402
parenting,okletmethink,2019/04/10,"My toddler has essentially stopped eating. He’s never been a *great* eater but daycare used to always tell me that he ate so well so I wasn’t too concerned since I knew he was eating there. 

He would eat a few staple things at home (oatmeal, pasta, rice, fruits) but now he takes a few bites of his oatmeal in the morning and refuses to eat anything else. He comes home from daycare and demands a snack but then won’t touch dinner. We’ve tried not giving him a snack but at this point if he asks for food he gets it. 

I’m 33 weeks pregnant and I’m wondering if he’s sensing a change and that’s why he’s doing this? 

I’m so worried. Does anyone have any advice?",3.1598540145985443,4.1855486715328505,4.136941605839418,89.80395255474455,73.23357664233576,6.355912408759124,25.37883211678832,6.2581,0.7046910948905105,516,16,111,3,10,167,92,137,0.064,0.907,0.028,-0.5501,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,7,0,8,11,0,1,1,19,20,14,0,3,7,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,5,11,2,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,5,2,6,2,8,13,2,10,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,3,5,57,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14910636328888102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12696470359427822,0.0,0.0,0.10376447097458184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10669245898417032,0.0,0.12556619479098993,0.0,0.14264835524521946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614169358686338,0.13144028901598026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335300130397517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.624538850283194,0.12746695544854764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18450894573919768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972047004737481,0.14637546507542354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822783351767634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061146360772178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11768459017025047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424414466106836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622163873265935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756966095605834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472652115455086,0.0,0.13336786449563534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013720994018963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035966353426203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178627619142724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239618014051296,0.0,0.13719414180964326,0.0,0.13768613833041585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547421782828656,0.0,0.1549596225442554,0.0,0.10839350891239384,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dustybizzle,2019/04/10,"TA at my 5 year old's school grabbed her by the face and forced her to look at her. Help me before I go in there and freak out. A friend whose child is friends with my daughter took her daughter into the school today (they were running late) and saw my daughter in the hallway. Here's the message my wife just sent me, which was sent from the friend:

""Im meddling... but I just came from the school, dropping off (her daughter) late. (my daughter) was being brought from downstairs (there were kids in her class) and she saw us. She was excited of course and I said hi. Her TA kept saying to her you need to focus. You arent acting 5 star right now, look at me. You arent acting 5 star and you are disrupting the class, look at me. She legit was just wanting to say hi. And the TA actually took her by the face and turned her to force her to look at her.""

Every fiber of my being wants to go in and lose my mind at the TA, but obviously that's not going to be helpful. If she were a violent kid or something, I'd understand restraining her physically, but this is just her not paying attention (she's fucking 5, yes she has a harder time with this than most other kids her age but come on).

We just had a meeting with this lady last week and talked about coming up with solutions and all this flowery talk about action plans etc to change her behavior, as she does have issues with restlessness and attention, as well as some authority issues which we're working on. But she's never violent, she just won't listen or will backtalk or sass a bit. 

I don't even know what I'm typing right now honestly, I told my wife it's probably better that she goes in, as I don't know if I could keep my composure. What the hell do I do here?",3.5626912181303108,4.490521053824363,4.491304249291787,88.01141529745043,72.1728045325779,7.687660056657224,25.4514447592068,7.976525956113202,1.2373087592067988,1344,40,292,18,25,436,174,353,0.075,0.8340000000000001,0.09,0.1198,3,0,1,0,0,0,46.0,2,4,1,4,16,14,4,1,16,1,25,3,2,0,3,59,56,26,0,6,18,7,1,0,3,2,0,4,0,4,13,23,0,3,5,0,1,15,8,7,1,0,19,11,54,7,45,31,5,47,1,1,6,1,63,19,2,7,12,196,67,8,0.0,0.0,0.10441485697951552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910476296623355,0.0,0.0,0.09463125669869038,0.11681437631878708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237749294555735,0.0,0.0,0.11318996067263755,0.18433903560933504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854293958221352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363488932094917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193313320744824,0.07067133477213218,0.0,0.09015064013040602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24799974678680986,0.0989181576585659,0.0,0.0,0.18242871316249112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343734263393362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557647061845835,0.22335674724217694,0.0,0.09510496056533713,0.0,0.0,0.1176068795280529,0.0872178543343908,0.2413973722514975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3594063260472779,0.1197036722708518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803773037853692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933784634875728,0.08252364636624585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227666396925093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536221020954955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827518411525195,0.10177983777385526,0.1701786054407372,0.0,0.32486382304218225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237248004538546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720022801009131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623915398305468,0.0,0.10142182969532032,0.10224141285392772,0.2377579846841881,0.0,0.11638337030301735,0.0,0.1113889513860609,0.12870571998711122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12622067975031365,0.0,0.0858275418377447,0.0,0.09620427641240674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789600009132579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890336470194793
parenting,diggthis,2019/04/10,"The thing I hate the most about being a stay at home parent is... Watching the Wiggles. Emma and Lachy are ok, but Simon is on the wrong side of 40 and Anthony is literally the worst person on television. I seriously cannot stand to watch him or listen to him for more than a few minutes at a time (""gee come on""). 

And don't even get me started on that punk kid Danger Danny X from Adventure Bay...",4.463333333333331,4.585591135802472,6.0242962962962965,80.72533333333331,69.74074074074073,8.949135802469135,27.31111111111111,8.841846274778883,1.8854918518518509,306,9,64,5,5,105,64,81,0.21,0.7390000000000001,0.051,-0.9455,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,0,8,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,12,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,3,5,2,13,11,4,12,0,0,2,0,6,7,0,2,2,45,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864796137040393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196593534141718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375410260015284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283440302292129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33359483362780823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36927963632665145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903873027296017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23539476304000326,0.35447537815210217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2209447353961005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939242458329329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636130954915726,0.0,0.0
parenting,Letsbkool,2019/04/10,"When you kid is the odd one out ? Im friends with a woman in our neighborhood that  invites me to hangnout with the other parents whenever they go out on outings with their kids. Im often asked to be a chaperone/like or buddy up with some kid that may have more than one sibling.

Problem is is that the some of the other kids dont like the way my son (10) acts strange sometimes ( I know what they mean ). Then it gets back to the parents and eventually me.

My son knows about my going to meet with the other adults but he dosent know about the other kids being there. 

Now he does play with a few of the kids in the neighborhood sometimes but hes usually in his room.

I do do things with my son though.

But this coming weekend were going on a two day visit to a national park where Ill be partnered up with kids again. Am I wrong for mentioning the other afults but nit the other kids when my son asks me how was it ??


How often do yo deal with your kid or kids being excluded ??",3.634407142857144,4.500919455000002,4.495428571428572,88.27700000000002,71.95,7.514285714285713,25.285714285714285,7.7094869923839395,1.1296214285714283,761,22,164,9,14,246,111,200,0.09,0.885,0.025,-0.9045,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,3,0,14,5,0,0,17,0,17,1,0,2,0,31,28,13,0,1,6,6,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,13,14,13,0,0,4,2,0,6,1,2,0,3,2,0,19,3,29,21,4,28,0,0,0,0,36,12,0,7,10,122,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031871490202311,0.0,0.0,0.12468762896045643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968267080487692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045769319611022,0.16717527900773846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1419034376266086,0.0,0.1900451278313472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528099605746426,0.0,0.0847195959275749,0.0,0.2764702527796357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503116970276718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673493921111833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922102381876757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766349602006838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21976163033224688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3601091554755404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15516098699504632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207520226702137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772895963301486,0.0,0.1593170304725343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840243598455153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17859145820186145,0.0,0.0,0.12871154879995922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772916671493525,0.0,0.0
parenting,ModernAsianMother,2019/04/10,"Are you a ""Tiger MOM""? I'm a mother of 5 kids from Singapore where results are CRITICAL!! Parents are fiercely motivated to ensure their kids get the BEST grades ALWAYS! I know it sounds scary, yet, that's our reality.

Join me in this raw footage of how I've learnt to strike a balance.. 

Do share and I look forward to reading your comments :)

[https://youtu.be/uu6MpTmzjks](https://youtu.be/uu6MpTmzjks)",5.139237147595357,8.746450552238809,4.220796019900502,78.06097844112772,80.7910447761194,5.96285240464345,26.84742951907131,7.3871296695380915,1.7923976782752908,325,13,52,5,9,96,56,67,0.101,0.653,0.246,0.9017,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,1,2,1,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,3,0,5,8,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,7,8,1,4,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,0,2,30,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32196509210540697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4060696766026571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20216018905151914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21265211454427296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3249321617971825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4531794725243442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4296510987396186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870447294772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Barista_Penguiiin,2019/04/10,"Did I just mess up? I have a 4 month old who I used to bathe every night but then switched to bathing every other night. I've noticed a lot of earwax buildup in his ears. I thought I'd ""clean"" it and used a q tip to clean out the earwax. I didn't really go too far into the ear canal but I cleaned them out. Then of course I googled whether it's okay to do that (I realized I probably should have done this before) but I learned that q tips are actually really bad because they push the ear wax into the ear canal. This is the only time I did it but did I just ruin his ears or done something irreversible?",1.630613107822409,3.1445428294573645,3.1619309372797737,93.28065539112049,78.06976744186046,6.551374207188162,23.35517970401691,7.348242739294969,0.7055674418604649,471,15,110,6,11,155,78,129,0.12,0.8320000000000001,0.048,-0.8689,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,8,1,12,5,5,2,0,20,16,9,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,9,5,0,0,3,2,0,2,1,3,0,0,7,5,16,1,12,8,1,16,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,2,7,70,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.19398916166070948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598031762567678,0.12117978770552874,0.0,0.16915459983684364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068598547071212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33497622097025304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297623777867954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690031015536417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15867129783084413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730995843512529,0.0,0.0,0.2263223296011904,0.20859537184185525,0.0,0.0,0.15118781560858352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432791360589093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546983497449868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303730532382698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578160766411032,0.11591532906876464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433793391992834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,christineee-ch,2019/04/10,"My daughter keeps getting in trouble for improper uniform. My daughter goes to a Catholic school. She’s gone there since she was in kindergarten, so her uniform is nothing new. However, this is her first year in the high school portion of the school. The high school admits a lot more students who aren’t necessarily religious, and my daughter got mixed up with some new girls who are bad influences. She’s gotten in trouble at least once a month this school year for improper uniform, like rolling up her skirt so it’s too short, untucking and unbuttoning her shirt, taking off her blazer, wearing too much jewelry or makeup. I make sure she has correct uniform before she leaves for school, but she changes how she wears her uniform when she’s out of my site. 

I’ve gotten sick of the phone calls from school, being forced to pick her up late due to after school detention and being forced to drive her to school on Saturdays for Saturday detention. The last straw was last week when she had two violations in a week. 

This past weekend, I gave her the punishment of having to wear the proper uniform all weekend. We just did our normal routine over the weekend. We ran errands, we went for a walk, we went to church. I even treated her to brunch after church. She didn’t want to go to brunch while wearing the uniform, but I reminded her that this was her punishment for failing to wear the uniform properly at school. I even agreed to let her go to her friend’s house, as long as she wore the uniform, but she ultimately decided not to go since she didn’t want to go out with the uniform anymore. She got a couple of questioning looks while we were out, but nobody really said anything. One woman at church said it was nice to see a teenager so formal at church, which I think embarrassed my daughter, but that was it.  

Today, one of my church friends later asked me why my daughter was in uniform, so I explained the punishment, and she said that the punishment was too harsh and embarrassing. Yes, my daughter was embarrassed, but that was part of the punishment. And it’s not like the outfit is embarrassing in and of itself. She wears this to school every day after all. And this isn’t even the first time she’s worn it on the weekend. She’s had to wear it to all those Saturday detentions she had. 

Was this a bad punishment? What else can I do?",6.505314153439151,6.932912758928572,6.210575396825397,80.08905423280423,65.38392857142857,9.494179894179895,33.11044973544973,9.348350401419415,2.8472055886243397,1868,74,353,32,27,582,191,448,0.174,0.775,0.051,-0.9967,2,0,0,0,0,0,48.0,6,0,0,3,15,23,7,4,26,1,30,11,8,4,5,48,60,26,0,3,10,6,0,2,2,0,1,3,0,2,23,18,2,1,5,4,0,10,6,16,0,5,31,5,56,7,62,26,10,68,5,1,2,0,61,25,0,4,35,245,79,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882181187444687,0.0,0.0,0.0571066856839309,0.0,0.0648755407446893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158848948109497,0.0,0.0,0.05905056481783855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708606910275705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341136868929585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678493806011992,0.0,0.0447544365407412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0579711392226577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750546555254198,0.0,0.05846880625155228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180557646933574,0.0,0.0,0.10722977396009536,0.0,0.036256349355402576,0.0,0.15775652942953255,0.0,0.11100403989074198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664057373754766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007323289243877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061682019171605526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11313339138528505,0.07828128656318993,0.07347994590759901,0.0,0.07096172726508362,0.0,0.0678063931825489,0.0,0.0,0.061412943511046016,0.05827484644824195,0.0,0.0,0.058997677936839535,0.0,0.0,0.046322117903939815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05539092502555774,0.0,0.051013768422755616,0.0,0.0,0.13404545223375094,0.0,0.0,0.06799297746045957,0.06658697286433056,0.0,0.0,0.07390407476069935,0.09404854162725533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514869826715324,0.06624597541239688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773898084499865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044456613728268736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803338966331405,0.0,0.0,0.7725528400806859,0.05529932766786643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11480955461961448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06540455438206386,0.0,0.05217687287640815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04446591380407861,0.0,0.0,0.0404651464350264,0.0,0.06577893736035204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778944109592247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186267405960658,0.0,0.11132996743004916,0.0,0.0,0.12866087743625276,0.06261875688561909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937701329709004
parenting,coffeepuddin,2019/04/10,"Do you change your kid’s Clothes before bed? Just to clarify, we are talking about an infant (9months) already wearing a onesie or a sleeper. Not jeans or something that would be uncomfortable to sleep in. Also, not dirty or soiled in any way. 

I’m asking because my mom has made pointed remarks about changing LO into pajamas. Or the other day when I had LO in just a diaper at home because it was warm and nice outside and we had the doors and windows open (it was borderline hot).

I know this is a small thing I just wanted to get feedback from other parents. I don’t see the point in a wardrobe change more than once a day unless the clothes would be uncomfortable to sleep in, are dirty, or the child is older. 

What say you?",3.3683333333333323,5.235751328671331,4.075681818181817,87.06685606060606,74.17482517482517,6.444988344988345,28.00058275058275,7.1686216300943375,1.4543198135198137,572,23,112,6,12,182,94,143,0.037000000000000005,0.892,0.071,0.5679,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,2,3,0,0,7,2,0,0,12,0,15,3,3,1,0,23,22,11,0,3,11,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,4,3,8,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,4,10,2,16,13,1,16,0,0,1,0,13,11,0,5,4,77,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18171537068743668,0.1316850400823095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197997172146701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539424683270094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007603212309032,0.0,0.1401204460080938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5225911261581018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123946359624042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603229889461753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16517555560925534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049729506526624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581296139879816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928573178331548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17536617895577558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18284446567146664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31132920716360307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095070230727765,0.0,0.0,0.1312191759837055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295740927330251,0.0,0.0,0.12676956759399227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235400137011535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10939818531095093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712552653841952,0.13070589296735585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339510229040487,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Emmagracelynn,2019/04/10,Teen son is dating My seventeen year old son is currently dating a very sweet girl she is extremely innocent compared to my son who is as others would put “aggressive”. I am a tad bit concerned for her future. I do not want her failing her life because of my sons choices. He does not seem aggressive towards her but I am not always around them. From what I have seen he does seem protective. Should I have him break up for the safety of his girlfriend? What would be best in this current situation?,3.9496875,5.926726260416667,4.7004166666666665,82.73625000000001,72.85416666666666,8.133333333333335,28.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.3849416666666667,395,16,74,8,8,127,68,96,0.037000000000000005,0.807,0.156,0.9324,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,2,1,5,2,0,3,0,13,1,0,0,0,11,17,2,0,4,4,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,2,16,2,11,12,2,13,0,1,1,0,17,4,0,2,7,53,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19686892571842987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106228484144872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422826437654485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482955542690425,0.0,0.2583043100396032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4140979260237258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671165347527303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482703510823047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378468658581777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4307808209814264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659466543868593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19521856113779668,0.13955193968018012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33614560661874704,0.0,0.0,0.15236169245275827
parenting,Gambledog,2019/04/11,"Radio as long-range baby monitor? Has anyone tried using a 2-way radio (FRS band, etc) as a baby monitor so they could leave the house after the kids go to bed or before they wake up? My wife and I are going a little nuts not being able to go for a short walk/run on the path behind our house with the dog or pop over to the neighbors' place with the roughly four-foot range of a conventional baby monitor. Living in a fairly large house with a walkout basement, we can't even get to the backyard without our current monitor losing signal.

The only post I could find on this was on some parenting forum that got sanctimommied into oblivion, so I'm going to get a little defensive up front. I don't want to hear from the ""OMG Anything Can Happen"" crowd. I'm not talking about a distance I couldn't cover in less time than it would take me to wake up from a dead sleep if I were actually in the house.",8.267417582417583,5.771922747252753,8.713269230769232,73.11298076923076,63.28571428571429,11.07802197802198,33.739010989010985,9.188382445141503,2.8314923076923075,708,20,138,9,8,238,117,182,0.092,0.908,0.0,-0.909,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,2,1,4,2,1,0,20,0,12,3,3,1,0,21,26,8,1,6,6,2,1,0,1,1,0,2,3,1,3,6,0,1,1,3,0,5,6,2,0,0,3,3,12,0,32,18,3,24,1,1,0,0,13,15,0,4,3,91,15,0,0.132328628205425,0.0,0.12913365249438918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252725363509083,0.0,0.10889518588322088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112601916138816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113072838871099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758139994217392,0.08740181090866732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12094596884452676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13827249314923964,0.0,0.3008216356943069,0.0,0.10583529242612108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170177689000515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491439813392701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.610757880669383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011691052399078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26525609887964097,0.11684860307824532,0.11710667182271615,0.0,0.1480418866096708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064188470658714,0.0,0.0,0.14693528158478633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382552517618604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673424680940504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242419435814115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994946599095041,0.10636073883217306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716188726522218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08984245227219688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428944762251178,0.0,0.0,0.07805085343209467,0.1050363056788238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756007543192013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400246078331154,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,stangelm,2019/04/11,"I compile select r/TIL headlines as notes to put in my kids' lunches You're welcome to have my latest compilation: [PDF](https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B51aaV4k41OVcmJKVGdCQzd0ZEJkQV9FLXZ1cUcxSmJtTTU4/view?usp=sharing).  It's in 3 identical columns because I have 3 kids.

I cut them up and keep them in a baggie, then drop one into lunch each day.  Enjoy!",8.563684210526315,11.931473087719299,6.038456140350879,72.0745263157895,63.73684210526315,7.3670175438596495,32.452631578947376,8.238735603445708,2.7673957894736843,294,12,41,4,5,83,47,57,0.085,0.785,0.131,0.5093,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,2,8,3,1,10,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,0,3,23,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492038939411932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3694407016065127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091751835266636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881778197812061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5758722264211859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,eutamias21,2019/04/11,"Transitioning out of a Rock ‘n’ Play? Our 10 week old has been sleeping like a dream in a Rock ‘n’ Play (RnP) for the past several weeks. We had planned to start transitioning her out of it at around three months but in light of recent news I’m feeling compelled to do it sooner (like, now). We had been putting her in her bassinet for occasional naps but tonight I decided to put her there for her nighttime sleep. She’s since woken up several times screaming because her pacifier has fallen out of her mouth. This would happen occasionally with the RnP, but not like this. she also wakes up from her “drowsy” state when put down, which she wouldn’t do with the RnP. 

Any tips to aid in this transition? We swaddle and use white noise, and we also angled the bassinet by putting towels under the legs on one side so that she’s not completely flat. We used to rock her until she was completely asleep before putting her down but we’ve been working on putting her down drowsy but awake. Is there anything else we can do? Does it just take time? Am I overthinking this / worrying too much (yes)?",4.459575358851673,6.100610014354067,4.296719497607658,87.52297398325364,70.86602870813397,7.713038277511963,27.41656698564593,8.278499904357787,1.651968660287082,859,30,174,13,16,262,125,209,0.048,0.887,0.065,-0.5081,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,7,0,0,2,10,6,0,0,8,1,16,6,6,3,0,30,24,12,0,2,8,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,9,14,0,0,2,7,0,7,3,1,0,2,7,4,25,5,34,15,1,39,0,0,1,0,23,18,0,0,16,113,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409174672084452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827232531148005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471795070600413,0.1024638979221687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070164230850623,0.0,0.0979420959313626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413614869904439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072527254587817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615174548306284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819829969556089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10178304189027963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869695369548834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187216598716128,0.0,0.0846121525864303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077867193371655,0.0,0.07799511583569774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987650497371072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6942471009538522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364791360056888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26006173329981064,0.0,0.0952123696621645,0.0,0.23036736127064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814687662321766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654129396431967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423212009036495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19881985008473216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465344715509646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379457589295312,0.11689020212804105,0.0,0.08176413286318396,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tactics14,2019/04/11,"What's a reliable, science/research based website to get infant information? The misses and I were talking about sleep schedule / nap frequency and length for our 9 month old and had different ideas as to what was best.

We Googled it and everything that came up was a 'mom blog' not something that screamed 'science based accuracy'.",7.421034482758618,9.12490713793104,6.54431034482759,73.96922413793105,63.82758620689656,9.937931034482759,40.36206896551725,10.125756701596842,4.481124137931034,266,15,43,6,4,81,48,58,0.033,0.8590000000000001,0.108,0.6442,1,0,1,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,1,0,0,9,7,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,6,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,1,3,1,6,2,1,5,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,27,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134941108946997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34166253071225244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121046949921085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26847532755276104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15607180830452508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372248667810604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498638386479771,0.2384399418611344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134622897425195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989413585598405,0.0,0.0,0.22997357860461545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401043398302803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,OakleyPrescott,2019/04/11,"Sending my daughter with my mom Hi, so I have an almost 1 year old. I live about an hour and a half from my family with her and my husband. We are in college and we work weekends so she goes to either my mom or his parents on the weekends so we can work. She  LOVES it and so do they. I enjoy the break but always feel like such a bad mom for sending her away for the weekend. I can usually combat that with the fact that I’m working. Well, my sister was going to my moms tonight so I had her take my daughter even though I don’t work until Saturday. She rarely gets to see her and it saves me 3 hours of driving and lets me get ahead on house and school work. I just can’t fight the feeling that I’m the worlds worst mom for sending her even though I don’t have work.
I guess I just need reassurance that I’m not a shitty mom for this

TL;DR: I let my mom and older sister watch my daughter for 4 days this weekend and need to know if that makes me a horrible mom",2.030528846153846,3.096368687500004,3.492500000000004,93.17750000000002,76.06730769230771,6.161538461538463,23.09615384615385,6.322622252153567,0.3220134615384618,749,21,175,5,16,247,110,208,0.101,0.8059999999999999,0.092,-0.711,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,3,0,1,7,14,9,1,0,12,0,13,1,0,1,1,32,29,20,0,3,7,15,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,15,0,0,3,4,0,5,4,3,1,1,2,4,37,6,21,25,2,26,0,0,2,1,35,5,0,4,16,121,46,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391891232651337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973273143459584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873784745973915,0.0,0.06997393331108748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054047491918355166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11070523375435316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900418779908583,0.0,0.08474896562123306,0.05987053021869675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875696310908232,0.0,0.04762848897476708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232099727400213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506269813817154,0.09670007583920713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046057206685189166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139321494443344,0.0,0.04094304130284924,0.0,0.07400162412632565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563756426488996,0.0,0.0559406951928708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7852141297073536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12428115096348195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793957528856702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305587908014604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481544788557219,0.06678198177064988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06301116343059228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16467658317081665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229970905479064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07535103831520976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3660675828372711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539678719836386
parenting,hotel-y0rba,2019/04/11,"If your 6 year old had a unibrow, would you remove it? I just noticed on Facebook an acquaintance posted a photo of her daughter (who is a beautiful child) who normally has a quite noticeable unibrow, and it was gone. I would hope the decision to remove it was the child’s (which makes me super sad, hopefully she wasn’t bullied), but I’m thinking the parent made the decision. Either way I feel like a decision was made due to a parent or her child thinking something totally natural and common is ugly.",10.195,7.465771833333335,10.36375,63.506250000000016,59.83333333333334,13.766666666666666,43.79166666666667,12.161744961471696,5.4382166666666665,400,19,67,10,4,135,65,96,0.067,0.772,0.161,0.7986,2,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,2,0,2,1,5,0,0,11,0,10,0,0,3,1,22,20,5,0,6,5,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,0,6,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,8,1,9,4,4,10,2,10,0,1,0,0,13,1,0,4,5,48,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470982674134157,0.13381467260066185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720832199870522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09151045843761707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35447548517468097,0.12503122629686927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835245393806487,0.0,0.42650853601151795,0.1965508812582052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159723305335905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939170032933013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19922779406052307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442007891219361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24004203533457075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867837184035052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26612003778931204,0.0,0.0,0.12062183338055345
parenting,foid4you,2019/04/11,"I don't even know what to say to my brother on how children should be treated. My father's parenting style was strict while using ""disciple methods"" that borderline abuse. I remember partially what he said to my therapist one day, when they didn't agree on how kid should be treated, it was along the lines of ""kids should be under there parents thumb to keep them in line"". I had mental issues and he thought that meant he should be more stricter to me.

Come now as an adult, I have an older brother that was a problem child. Of course my father was strict to him as well, but eventually he was sent to a rehab facility and haven't had the best life. He is in his late 30's and doesn't have kids. He likes being an uncle because he doesn't think he will ever have kids in the future.

During dinner my son was having a hard time with his food. He has mental and behavioral issues. My brother said the exact thing my father said bank when I was getting treated for mine as a teenager. My son is going to be 8, and I don't discipline him the same way my father did. My brother expects me to because ""that's how we were raised"". I don't know if I should worried or not and I don't know if I should confront him or not. I don't think we should keep children under our thumb, I think we should guide and nurture them, especially when they have a mental illness. My way of disciplining is considered soft because I don't make him afraid of me, I don't know how to express this correctly since he is still a difficult person to talk to. 

Note: at the moment I can not avoid him or keep him away from my son.",5.295450435905714,5.128443042944788,5.869677106877624,83.5399822408783,67.95705521472392,8.703648692282853,29.42783338714885,8.20500826718156,1.837480981595092,1256,40,263,15,19,408,153,326,0.076,0.89,0.034,-0.9027,2,1,1,0,1,0,32.0,4,0,4,1,13,12,1,2,15,0,48,5,0,6,3,58,69,24,0,12,9,13,2,1,0,9,3,4,0,9,9,13,2,6,10,0,1,3,14,5,1,1,18,6,47,7,32,36,3,27,0,0,0,0,55,9,0,5,14,185,56,0,0.0,0.1410532208767434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118501553371714,0.0,0.0,0.21771291425535327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12493424676555635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254989802785132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677655107022871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863053151404563,0.10768634829898392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395413850984956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062198022655722586,0.0,0.06765810931047392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664423529439528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485117878348917,0.0,0.31744781485959706,0.0,0.0,0.2617041683680126,0.0,0.13429209839768044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408760460035923,0.05816117251670527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07946591948924336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599192119337606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067046775074778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643789452200464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394871697316717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139135105489923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485894925724412,0.0,0.33972767462405706,0.0946722899834124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984782997500013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950724310185722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568682089824994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382246951758392,0.07909065427625306,0.2288447648506597,0.0,0.0945113554343276,0.06941824368640874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102819837707889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18899060460951295,0.0,0.0,0.10703906205567594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089971506693595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theotherolivia,2019/04/11,"Please stay asleep (just venting) I cannot wait until this “hey, I can stand up in my play pen” phase ends. My 10 month old has been pulling himself up for a while now but couple that with getting six, yes, six teeth at once, and sleep has disappeared. Every time this little dude wakes up he immediately stands. Cue the loudest baby yelling ever. I can imagine in his tired, dazed little baby mind he’s all just “I want to lie down! Why am I standing? My face hurts! Lay me down to sleep pleeeeeeease!” This phase cannot end fast enough.",1.02542857142857,3.6056335904761916,1.3826190476190483,98.50821428571429,89.28571428571428,3.7619047619047614,17.976190476190478,5.288315135182226,-0.6653809523809522,417,11,89,2,14,125,80,105,0.121,0.8029999999999999,0.076,-0.7861,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,2,1,8,7,6,0,2,11,11,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,2,1,1,11,1,13,10,2,26,0,1,0,0,5,10,0,0,10,49,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193014953842116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3510878837363955,0.20479074821425905,0.0,0.0,0.1792807661972401,0.16698973741771786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10354988662733268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121742631081712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3972914401210593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20012273014391094,0.0,0.15819915983143254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079746811252965,0.21107361052135265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175610709502776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3966807858943068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21125190525313545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557041456742866,0.22779859122403426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690187744480413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17884219706428212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kfryfry,2019/04/11,"Complicated feelings about second pregnancy I hope I don’t get judged for this, but if I do I probably deserve it.

I’m pregnant for the second time. It was a planned pregnancy, took us about 5 months so this was a tried for baby. 
Problem is, now that I’m pregnant-I’m not sure I want to be.

I swing between 2 extremes-being terrified that something will go wrong/be wrong with this baby that I desperately want, and seriously not knowing how I’m going to deal with being pregnant and having a second child. 
It makes no sense to me.

I feel guilty for even having these thoughts, but I felt so bad in my first tri that I brought up termination to my husband. I was vomiting multiple times a day every day, lost 7 lbs (I was small to begin with) and would go days without sleeping. 
I recently found myself googling the abortion cutoff for our state because I have a complicated delivery history and I’m terrified I’m going to die having this baby and leave my son motherless.

I know I’d be devastated and never be able to forgive myself if something happened to this pregnancy, but at the same time I catch myself thinking “I can’t do this” quite a bit.

I’m not attached to or wrapping my mind around the thought that this is my baby at all. 

All this being said, I have terrible OCD and anxiety that has to pretty much go untreated for the duration of my pregnancy, aside from a very occasional (1-3x a month) dose of anti anxiety medication. 

I go to therapy, but I haven’t told my therapist about my feelings towards this. I wanted another baby so desperately that I would cry every time I found out I wasn’t pregnant. 

We have our anatomy scan next week, I’m 18 weeks. I’m just starting to feel the baby move. I feel like I should be more attached by now. We are finding out gender, I’m not sure if that will help or not. 

I don’t know how I can want something so bad and at the same time just not know how to deal with it AT ALL. I didn’t have these issues with my first, I loved him so much that I was constantly terrified of something happening to him. 

I’m not sure what I’m looking for posting this, I guess I just needed to get it off my chest bc I wouldn’t dare say this to people I know.",3.409006359300477,4.790762004504508,4.997085320614734,82.49515898251195,73.09909909909909,8.196502384737679,28.82458929517753,8.757208317658263,2.2358226815050357,1726,70,347,33,34,583,196,444,0.205,0.7490000000000001,0.046,-0.9972,0,0,4,0,0,0,43.0,5,0,0,5,18,14,0,0,15,0,37,6,2,4,7,82,91,25,1,14,20,2,6,1,0,6,3,2,0,1,28,18,0,0,18,0,0,10,17,7,0,5,17,10,56,7,49,62,9,46,0,1,2,1,18,12,0,7,23,238,84,0,0.08285063368158394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687611329496751,0.12676101598851006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375462933098431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13835363690168356,0.050504977300514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09045143385429688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953210178294879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100753073317512,0.16029541398812444,0.17083073073319233,0.0,0.0,0.08598587733335085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054722062163750265,0.0,0.13961046439052904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094588488620705,0.05918850925646293,0.07954960104868278,0.0,0.07572397821918436,0.14094541337057892,0.0,0.18168288694420792,0.0,0.0,0.08657207312965498,0.0,0.2825155464890796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126931366329746,0.0,0.14652908349241014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553303334036102,0.0,0.0,0.08228937336378928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647453629317313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276627077007107,0.0,0.0,0.08772685838167339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040476634669666826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957366582723618,0.0,0.0904412536844155,0.0,0.07477593160233417,0.0,0.055303441328171325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346329710546052,0.0,0.0,0.08365552195762524,0.0,0.13226117072697693,0.08805711187814337,0.12180949734411135,0.06143269507832697,0.0638995162747908,0.0,0.08811258884031077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05743819752716287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.079348005036502,0.08428887979463512,0.08932699599900504,0.07927686721079184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812184720644481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08180500558564226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07880992523539525,0.06588614928453679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291046741838312,0.0,0.0,0.25512986209527994,0.0,0.0,0.05864210494969641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342572252437545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09474692011921353,0.09619597141635207,0.0,0.05308734070119516,0.0,0.13154829727518075,0.2415543538343924,0.0,0.0,0.07916733096865901,0.09205010249039897,0.11250028362273633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09965911118948073,0.0,0.0,0.06836044960759323,0.19546980132519406,0.0,0.13291556173236382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986505433728935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11770942613317767,0.18116832364088853,0.0,0.0
parenting,biobeard,2019/04/11,"Sandifer Syndrome I am curious if there are any parents out there with infants diagnosed with this. 

We took our 8 month to the doctor today after she experienced a weird 5-10 second spasm that somewhat resembled a seizure.

The doctor thinks she has this but we are still taking her to a neurologist to be safe.",4.671724137931037,6.992753758620694,5.41331034482759,76.91272413793105,71.75862068965517,8.088275862068969,30.565517241379307,8.841846274778883,2.82452,250,11,42,5,5,81,46,58,0.024,0.877,0.098,0.631,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,5,3,0,0,0,10,8,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,7,1,7,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,4,34,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20229997796813412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30194097832241656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6089769361175108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374496615646291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33032184959769856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23757187800008775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22367167185395886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061635419644488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2819809636161471,0.0,0.3305167429442161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DrFunStuffs,2019/04/11,"Any ideas for a bowl to slow down toddler eating? Let me start off by saying I am asking for a friend. I really am. I don’t have children of my own. I’m just more familiar with Reddit than my friend in need. Also on that same note I am just trying to help a friend find a product I’m not trying to find advice or give suggestions to my friend how they should parent their child. Again I don’t have children so I am in no position to offer such advice. 

With that out of the way friend is looking for a bowl of some kind that will help slow down her toddlers eating. Her words not mine “something like a dog training bowl” like one of those that has the little ridges and pathways that keeps a dog from scarfing it’s food in one bite. And preferably with suction to keep it on the tray. Does anyone know anything like this that would be suitable for toddler use? 

Thanks!",3.6440034965034975,4.865011022727277,3.97068181818182,90.70823426573428,72.29545454545455,6.324475524475527,23.765734265734267,6.297961479604792,0.4980057692307693,684,18,143,4,13,213,107,176,0.048,0.7959999999999999,0.156,0.9664,1,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,2,0,7,10,0,0,10,0,15,3,0,2,0,26,27,6,0,4,5,1,0,3,5,3,0,1,0,3,10,6,3,2,5,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,2,15,10,29,22,4,15,0,0,1,0,20,10,0,2,7,98,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2625473870894179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10743017667822864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135455431338972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939323638192699,0.0,0.1105488579493564,0.0,0.125588043716402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756022763991925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749229470508942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24556528593797206,0.0,0.16244223428813892,0.0,0.5189466394121249,0.0,0.0,0.1288694024918807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18008807159809007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165142905317516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23881185517127795,0.0,0.13989251938371794,0.07382873856959404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736986857698366,0.0,0.19689251542674616,0.13464212654309918,0.0,0.0,0.11281021906407035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961004220607428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18206202556106585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14916662697178162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606046414874857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683109543966228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10342007744792256,0.0,0.0,0.0950852398978192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236805272857588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824135826300342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160250364408282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663137715257484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542997332470217,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thejurassicjaws,2019/04/11,"my four year old is obsessed with my mom and it’s causing problems Hi, I have a four year old daughter who just loves my mother, which is great. My mom is cool and all, but it seems a bit excessive and I can’t really figure out why. My mom works all week and is tired so she doesn’t do a lot of the normal grandma stuff you’d think a kid would be into. The cookies and the crafts and all that. She’s mostly just on her iPad or watching TV. Yet, still my kid just always wants to be with her. Always. Which isn’t great for my mom who is very tired and needs a break, even if she wouldn’t say it, or for me and my husband who want to spend more time with her. 

I get to spend more time with her than my husband so it isn’t a huge deal to me, but he gets so much less time and usually she’s just talking about how much she wants to go see my mom, which hurts his feelings. He really wants to connect with her and he tries doing the things she wants to do, but it’s still like she’s just waiting to see my mom. I’m trying to figure out what she’s doing to be so interesting but I’ve got nothing. 

My parents live really close to us and we’ve tried just telling her she can’t go over everyday but she just cries. And like for hours, just bawls her eyes out. It seems wrong and selfish to make her that sad and not let her see her grandma just because we want her to spend more time with us. Really what we want is for her to want to. 

I also don’t want it to appear like we’re just pawning our daughter off on my mother so we can, I don’t know, party (we’re not partying, we’re just sitting here). But weirdly it seems to be the impression people like my sister-in-law have of us. 

Has anyone else dealt with this? Any ideas on what’s going on or how to connect more with our daughter, especially for my husband who doesn’t get to spend much time with her? Can you please make us more fun. Thanks!",1.7250696150696143,3.008142014742017,2.9914987714987724,95.58202293202291,77.25552825552825,6.014414414414415,20.44144144144144,6.42735559955562,-0.06638018018018021,1468,33,352,11,33,475,164,407,0.084,0.78,0.136,0.9616,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,9,2,0,1,25,19,0,1,11,1,31,4,1,5,3,89,64,32,0,15,23,15,1,4,0,2,2,1,0,2,23,31,0,1,9,1,4,4,11,7,0,2,1,8,57,12,47,55,15,34,0,2,5,1,65,12,0,10,20,234,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055994329361376785,0.11652316791346158,0.0,0.0,0.04761545741665324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04895905303351118,0.07174294542259199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0426830547443831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644283215768538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192900661406433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691280392666781,0.0,0.07218672120691766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584920573697862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04624702157894281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03540381162624237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974642701275486,0.0,0.11938057575178802,0.0,0.056000751034314865,0.15439283153323147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895480822174202,0.0,0.07495700233192283,0.0790431546246152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03848072144740882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159937648122182,0.0,0.1368313782773407,0.0,0.06182823687344272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952782037474647,0.0631950622045363,0.0,0.0934767201148348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4920338483893791,0.0,0.0,0.1544165066916557,0.05191834997808304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860395002907539,0.06718531133054835,0.0,0.1469467449041362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774803596759096,0.0,0.0,0.0485424974034318,0.0,0.0,0.07686005580347667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699891860137477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17942437119772756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05568207862118692,0.0,0.0,0.16738871220225568,0.19122855125791885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11183484797105983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801552326524158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05627878110058725,0.06119986747870081,0.06446427246573637,0.0,0.0,0.04651764555798801,0.044865476444036934,0.0,0.0,0.20414379452364445,0.16095354152245506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426153229232026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368979079718448,0.0,0.07711625713846065,0.05777317343575656,0.3716922474330481,0.0,0.056165179166857884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06318143768247322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050974811905737945,0.0,0.0,0.04973963110286568,0.07655500397416734,0.0,0.09018013893489712
parenting,EqualStock,2019/04/11,"I sacrificed my time with my children to put them in a better financial position and realized too late that kids don't care unless you are there. I was offered my dream job 18 years ago. I was newly married, wanted to pay off student loans, and get a nice place with my wife. I couldn't turn it down. We had our first child 3 years later and I realized that while this job took a lot of my time, I would be able to afford so many amazing opportunities for my son. We moved out of NYC to a nice suburb in a great house zoned for one of the best districts in the state. We had our twins 2.5 years later. The kids are 15 and 12 now. 

The downside of this job is that it takes a lot of my time. I work at least 60 hours a week and work 6 days a week. By the time I get home it's dinner time and I get filled in about the day from my wife. I have missed my son making varsity lacrosse as a freshman. He didn't even tell me. I found out from my wife. I missed so many games, concerts, spelling bees, and small moments that you can't get back. The kids walk right passed me to ask mom questions. My son went to my wife when he was thinking about asking a girl to homecoming. I have tried talking to him about sex and he tells me that mom already handled it, which is good because I don't even know what to say. This evening was hard. I got back from work and asked one of the twins how her track meet went. She told me that I would know if I went. Her brothers agreed. 

I'm going to try my hardest to get back to being a good dad but I wanted to warn the new parents out there who are busting their ass for their families. Kids care about who is there. My kids won't have to spend a dime for college tuition or room and board, but they don't get to have their dad cheering for them either. I can't exactly cut back hours. That isn't how it works in my field. Don't go into something that will prevent you from being able to be there for your kids.",2.227495437956204,3.4120985401459865,3.0852425486618,95.81903170620441,75.7639902676399,6.110736009732361,22.089492092457427,6.322622252153567,0.09412950121654527,1504,38,358,10,32,476,202,411,0.048,0.875,0.077,0.8568,5,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,5,4,6,8,22,15,1,0,21,0,33,3,1,3,1,44,64,22,0,6,6,13,1,0,0,4,0,2,2,9,20,19,1,1,7,3,5,11,10,3,0,3,14,3,57,12,53,41,5,56,0,2,0,2,58,16,1,5,28,225,77,10,0.16905575676493168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492886406571668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327861571390016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370664675883217,0.0,0.0,0.2599868835262653,0.0,0.051527410102549125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887067934067251,0.07475803934411482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236361099741232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090269774795697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748959941063374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07968536095046208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189937017103876,0.0,0.0926804557151439,0.0,0.0,0.2649739661718969,0.0,0.09607828246095416,0.1417959479783717,0.06760466611110168,0.09319228432629344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572037606334048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478835399954912,0.0,0.16648586672451762,0.09753382272317264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516426292869905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290862272801696,0.0,0.0953511285906506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14372515891047305,0.0,0.0,0.05642301519002855,0.17139600300939656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197996059108456,0.0,0.08983975755880531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163755166833493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455655598129134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09385820574374404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831364206785171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497386453104533,0.09469056890211047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07218634628614495,0.0,0.06721996159035101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507369043732103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355444491935403,0.06794030678470042,0.14776218284665574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05416205138134756,0.0,0.0,0.2464444282000365,0.0,0.0,0.08077001015709427,0.09391358306691476,0.11477776173206655,0.09194205888881606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971346542358084,0.0,0.13560633079077725,0.0,0.0,0.2350745703273638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461492087384314,0.0,0.0,0.12009235915918792,0.0,0.0,0.1632995469688633
parenting,RoverRed07,2019/04/11,"Anyone have experience with drug exposed children? My son was born drug exposed to several drugs while his bio mother was pregnant. We’ve had him since birth and adopted him shortly after. We have no family medical history except diabetes and no-polar disorder. He is nearly 6 and we are seeing a lot of new behaviors. Just today I had to remove him from soccer practice while he was kicking and screaming and pulling my hair. He was not engaged in the practice, refusing to follow directions of the coaches and damaging equipment. One coach nicely asked him to stop. My son just smiled and ignored him before sitting on the cones. 

It’s a battle picking him up from school. He refuses to listen. Most recently, I wouldn’t let him swing on the playground while pick g him up. We have to walk through the playground to get to the parking lot. He proceeded to scream and yell, attempted to punch me and bite me. 

I’m at my wits end with him. I don’t know how to help him. We get assistance at a local behavioral hospital and through local DD services but it isn’t enough. No one really believes it’s this bad. For example, it took me 20 minutes to get him to my car during the soccer practice incident. If he acts like this at 6, I can only imagine what teenage years will entail. I’m am worried that his future will include incarceration. That terrifies me. 

TL;DR: Need help or just the opportunity to talk with parents raising drug exposed children.",3.939670329670332,6.344492901098902,5.050484981684981,78.30284835164836,74.20146520146521,7.884483516483518,31.43282051282052,8.726425361277474,2.9647434139194138,1154,56,196,24,25,379,161,273,0.132,0.81,0.058,-0.9345,1,0,4,0,0,0,31.0,4,0,0,2,4,10,1,0,11,0,19,7,1,3,0,39,31,17,0,3,8,4,1,1,0,3,6,4,0,2,9,17,0,4,2,4,0,7,6,6,0,2,7,6,30,4,35,20,4,34,0,1,1,0,36,12,0,5,15,133,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939522100199472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561457818670513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219044968869686,0.0,0.0,0.11433603028405867,0.15138507969529275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539956975719355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6232901185143542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900887369877496,0.13883655584769394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143626054045562,0.1266688170445502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106029165348357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012612093341182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07384433723976297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739889233267275,0.0,0.0656447050785083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22846725724248665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536015452079506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963108799696804,0.0,0.12977204310676296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18210049195697126,0.10219180962667836,0.0,0.0,0.14919814316804098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607864716014561,0.0,0.13267074966683273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598611352211687,0.10707273710972597,0.0,0.0,0.15179594602064514,0.0,0.1111493916644303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233644525987822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079987363728184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736377030917787,0.0,0.1492861716331626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645574523734313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652764736932496
parenting,TheAnonymousStudent1,2019/04/11,"Hi. Hi, I’m the anonymous student. I am using this blog to talk abt my day, give advice and sometimes vent a little. Sometimes I will just make random post. I am open to suggestions comments and questions and I’m not afraid of a challenge. I am a middle schooler, soccer player, volleyball player and artist. (Not a very great artist though) I am also here to give parents a child’s prospective. I understand dealing with a middle schooler is challenging but I’m here to try and help. If you would like me to talk abt certain topics please don’t hesitate to ask. Again I’m in middle school and my advice will not work for everyone. But, I will do my best to help and answer your questions!

-theStudent",1.903921568627453,4.6461111481481465,2.9781699346405226,87.85470588235296,85.66666666666666,5.250544662309369,23.49673202614379,6.794906146795322,1.05143137254902,555,21,100,7,17,177,80,135,0.028,0.7809999999999999,0.192,0.9728,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,4,6,7,0,1,7,0,11,0,0,2,1,25,21,12,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,1,9,0,0,4,4,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,13,6,11,17,1,9,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,4,3,63,14,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167259810808767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295991877249778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150406484357154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007179358275262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045151836558836,0.16707656899627035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485511275478878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3109251125142309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786715350060775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21725057632526407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917424711699637,0.1624265245864161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081761951276615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17994826303897704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17789302799468554,0.0,0.0,0.1552085199343079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630881980980781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16401320020561605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205626320137476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605151057249345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922296042821707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100279868740385,0.0,0.0,0.1687099986692281,0.0,0.13996766033001948,0.0,0.13371633226011756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798148656770928,0.0,0.0,0.1151226537078206,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mich8171bailey8171,2019/04/11,"Tips to get my 2year old talking I would love some fun ideas to help my son talk. He is our 5th child and has found ingenious was to communicate without words which we all understand. At a recent health review I refused any intervention as I truly believe his issues are only opportunity rather that a real delay. We have really pressed him over a few days and everyone have highlighted every single word he has muttered (or at least tried) and we have managed 31. Apparently he should have 50. Recent events have made me need to prove myself as a decent parent so having baby 5 not reach his ‘targets’ and it being highlighted that I ‘refused’ intervention has really hit me.
I would really love any ideas to get him to use words rather that pointing, pulling or similar.",6.803675213675213,7.665648419580421,7.275198135198134,71.2028826728827,64.8041958041958,10.271639471639473,31.273504273504273,10.25414643259724,3.2932306138306133,616,22,104,14,9,202,96,143,0.037000000000000005,0.828,0.134,0.9479,2,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,4,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,4,0,16,3,0,2,2,33,26,9,0,6,6,2,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,7,0,3,5,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,18,4,12,18,5,11,0,0,0,2,21,4,0,3,6,70,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21387539326155836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17717071883178118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014154263364499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324927620971509,0.15026235166091906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17242022381422212,0.0,0.0,0.16431681019754055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715299847915616,0.0,0.0,0.10540363155466646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550398693442179,0.0,0.16413168188458618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838546454130407,0.14879695842978818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11660139502482385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650109783671119,0.0,0.0,0.1195982880659151,0.0,0.0,0.1746112782491785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14865528092279384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898878326492604,0.3022216421352745,0.0,0.31053749991393553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527886340530986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676472841028938,0.0,0.0,0.16370632327065215,0.0,0.1358164378529056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158665491702705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234165907453747,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BigMo4sho2012,2019/04/11,"My <1m old is a terrorist and it is killing my wife... I just have to vent and recently found this place; no matter what we have done, our kiddo refuses to sleep in any sustainable manner, when he does actually sleep he makes noises the entire time, if he does go to sleep he will refuse to go back to sleep after his first night feeding, changes what his cues mean, holds his burps in despite our best effort which means he just yells... the list goes on. I need someone to tell me we'll survive...",9.451969696969698,6.107407303030307,8.484722222222222,78.31375000000001,61.82828282828282,11.92020202020202,35.861111111111114,9.516144504307137,2.9400686868686874,389,11,83,5,4,121,72,99,0.159,0.83,0.01,-0.9499,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,4,4,2,1,0,3,0,7,6,4,1,0,15,14,4,1,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,3,1,3,3,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,12,1,10,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,1,8,46,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.15350504320300176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697143863299467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209563023346802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16507980059478486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16640572334076975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753138422310998,0.1609755901817305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338018570494948,0.0,0.1724746274881111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879784739171162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17403247041546696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500097837850923,0.0,0.0,0.3426981782721022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11663818620934735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761821568936928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506304420519394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164348161651111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.155317741834202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6296664357713383,0.0,0.1332823270184664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748976117271533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172464814148837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Woolfpack,2019/04/11,"Am I a horrible person for still really wanting a girl? Prepared to be flamed for this. I have two sons and expected to feel done after my last child but I still have a hankering to have a third child. 

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The thing is, I think a lot of it is the hope of getting a girl. 

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I know children are their own people, won't necessarily conform to stereotypes about gender etc., but it's fair to say there's a much greater chance of my being able to experience some of the typical mother-daughter things if I have a girl than if I don't. I'm talking about spending time together doing things that by and large girls are more likely to want to do than boys are. Things that my very non-comformist mother and I never got to do because she wasn't interested in them and didn't care if I was interested.

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I'll never help my daughter shop for her wedding dress. I feel sad when I see little girls' clothes in stores because I'm never going to need to buy them. 

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I should be grateful and I am to have two wonderful sons and I don't want a girl instead of them I want a girl as well as them. Has anyone else felt this way?",2.7633620689655203,4.610400336206901,3.8874482758620696,87.85237931034484,75.8103448275862,6.536551724137932,25.393103448275863,7.365786028017652,1.1493044827586207,906,32,186,11,20,294,124,232,0.081,0.78,0.139,0.9047,0,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,5,0,8,7,0,0,13,0,27,0,0,0,3,30,46,14,0,11,5,4,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,12,10,6,0,0,6,1,4,1,8,1,1,3,6,5,26,6,30,35,7,14,0,1,1,0,27,3,0,7,10,136,36,0,0.09299090849262087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4030224420022541,0.4519765287227252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502140536435723,0.09528017490784306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133727894133882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481042872739907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516198514178384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768197171282892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370944400580548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096295206213648,0.0,0.0,0.09403799479608342,0.0,0.08928585507471927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858391162918575,0.0,0.052848876272683615,0.0,0.07437332440270639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062329845798379774,0.0,0.0,0.09236095426616114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110537138519167,0.07580000175271016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045430660737274337,0.0932013198978173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905754501406967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06835901741314149,0.06895158036375529,0.21516096401152635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446818730146582,0.08119607446920893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059572357148671685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395010281510242,0.0,0.0,0.07410171449511006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14852531928692095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474256981336011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471161103831924,0.05958481935375645,0.0,0.0,0.05422374655512403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18167721097962272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672723830218736,0.2193937885612368,0.07381185479093502,0.0,0.0,0.08360999449401989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084467353366844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4519765287227252,0.0
parenting,flygrl987,2019/04/11,Super market etiquette Are you a jerk if you  checkout in an empty 15 items or less isle with a full cart when there is only one other checkout lane open and 3 people with full carts in that line?,16.82125,6.2439366250000035,14.465000000000005,62.600000000000016,57.75,16.0,47.5,3.1291,4.2515,155,3,31,0,1,49,34,40,0.1,0.8079999999999999,0.093,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,1,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,2,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,2,4,6,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,2,1,23,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5499466287808771,0.6172420578247371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5626463787716334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Loveyurzzz,2019/04/11,"Stop and smell the flowers 🥀🥀 Had my heart broken today when I see a little girl stop to smell some flowers and her dad yelled at her. The simple enjoyment that personally I feel is taken for granted. And furthermore was reminded of a small piece of innocence or possibly hope for the next generation... to have it gets crushed by her useless dad that seems like his only worry is getting the kids on the rusted car to smoke his next cigarette. I could literally feel the sadness like he yelled at me for stopping to smell the flowers.. my only hope is that she never loses that feeling to stop and enjoy the simple incredible moments that life has to offer. 
And her dad stops being a dick 🌝",6.395357142857144,6.778892699248126,7.04111842105263,74.19220394736845,65.61654135338345,9.657518796992482,32.41447368421053,9.516144504307137,2.9980082706766904,551,21,98,10,8,182,82,133,0.181,0.664,0.154,-0.3074,3,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,1,9,0,0,11,0,9,3,2,0,1,20,19,7,0,3,1,3,3,2,0,0,1,2,0,3,6,5,0,5,4,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,9,13,6,15,14,2,17,0,3,1,1,15,5,1,5,13,64,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211615055877141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301908878724983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856815859011414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798266751672887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014476593690522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10718682083783096,0.1482765791199535,0.1520952222534407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16977150566429244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704038339612985,0.0,0.3227796321820995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308282431522766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250386374399908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17107741189118328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092657859192744,0.13814918657579306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6343567159647435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384301173018185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541113718224424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SubstantialCucumber0,2019/04/11,"My daughter has been talking with older men on the internet. How can I punish her effectively? My 14 year old daughter got her phone taken away the other day and I got home from work early today. Since I had some extra time, I decided I would look through it.  I found a whole lot of texts between her and older men about what she was wearing, intimate pictures of her, and how she wanted to have sex with them.

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I am disgusted that my daughter, even knowing better than this, defied the rules. She was taught not to ever send any intimate messages and to ignore any she gets. (I also found ""dick pics"" from some of these men and a few from boys in her school.) What are some good punishments she won't forget? She is for sure not getting another phone until she moves out. Even if she gets a job in a few years, a phone is off the table.",4.381964285714286,5.57022374404762,4.900952380952383,84.8607142857143,70.48809523809524,7.504761904761906,26.5,7.793537801064563,1.4586571428571429,671,21,131,8,12,214,107,168,0.091,0.836,0.073,-0.6242,1,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,1,3,7,7,3,0,9,0,13,3,2,3,2,28,25,10,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,7,8,0,1,5,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,10,1,25,3,23,13,8,19,0,0,1,2,27,6,1,5,11,99,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131069187606258,0.0,0.30649332146569985,0.3437222672378888,0.19236368165131684,0.14830876563326034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288448347822368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250893126185309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091215003693573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868352803688897,0.12793763878315284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3101561945790169,0.0,0.0,0.22168459460044507,0.0,0.0,0.11863043640739755,0.22623978070684184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187259340817918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035415142504207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0777299395178491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187712491739206,0.0,0.0,0.12024446796514007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032488301515504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484140780644387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14314154306810914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11699794208281827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330246408320995,0.0,0.0,0.11368150301094435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08247290697475013,0.0,0.13406550228426695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834230603028067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15790908161345935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296763930951593,0.0,0.0,0.1004726099678211,0.0,0.3437222672378888,0.18216126105382036
parenting,cheslen,2019/04/11,"4 year old son acting sexual with other kids...what to do? On a couple occasions now my 4 year old has acted sexual with either our daughter (2) or other random kids at the park.

today for instance from my wife: ""Leaving the park because 'name of child' was playing nicely with a bunch of kids that were related and then I look over and he is humping their baby sister.  Would you please try talking to him man to man because clearly what I'm saying isn't working.""

""so so so awkward""

""their dad was like um...can you get that kid off your little sister""

""He said he was just hugging her but it was weird.""


We've caught him a time or two before showing his penis to his little sister.

So what to do?  We want to address it but not make it a big huge deal.  We're a ""normal"", if anything, more conservative home/family.  In other words, he doesn't observe anything crazy in the home or on TV (which we don't have), and he is not in preschool, etc.

TIA for any thoughts and advice from you all.",3.167604690117251,4.395164386934674,4.408120603015076,87.08792629815747,73.47236180904522,6.512696817420437,24.321943048576216,6.742157984588678,0.8134881742043558,759,22,155,6,15,250,126,199,0.01,0.871,0.119,0.955,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,3,4,2,1,6,6,0,1,8,0,15,2,0,1,2,30,23,15,0,4,10,7,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,6,11,9,0,1,1,3,0,3,5,2,0,1,8,3,17,4,23,14,5,23,0,0,1,2,37,12,0,5,9,99,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139095659992878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123134309112488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718227156364701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20135815469191268,0.0,0.14053770321649836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18274471835924666,0.0,0.0,0.17027114228975482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841953644889961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556967175820686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08628848989237757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33133484618644266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487898485277345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068809155904583,0.3310643742043972,0.0,0.0,0.13869152819103914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024456884410587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182024535449474,0.0,0.0,0.3466120872683539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129441647029876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710353677008074,0.13134065342461992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327481312969476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311173858894299,0.09630523870247457,0.0,0.15655092893968642,0.0,0.0,0.11213176761669613,0.0,0.16133583791010672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741475146756302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023734152318907,0.0,0.0,0.11732384659333095,0.0,0.0,0.2127132942398033
parenting,juledhook,2019/04/11,"I have learned more from my kids than they have learned from me. I’m 40 goddamn years old and I still don’t get Star Wars. I know enough to fuck with people by intentionally mixing up fandoms, but that’s where my knowledge stops. 

Until now. My teenage son is forcing me through the movies. Last week was A New Hope. Tonight is 5. (Empire Strikes Back I’m pretty sure but am too lazy to look up).

Honestly I’d love to fall in love with this series, but how much hope do I have if I’m still meh about it after episode 4?",0.04603174603174765,2.3588060370370383,1.0759788359788338,101.08833333333332,90.48148148148148,3.8264550264550254,19.75132275132275,5.288315135182226,-0.5420232804232801,404,13,95,2,14,125,81,108,0.127,0.638,0.235,0.9643,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,0,8,8,2,0,2,0,9,3,0,2,1,17,20,7,1,3,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,4,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,10,6,16,19,3,18,0,0,1,3,5,4,1,3,13,55,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16800084334424167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2257525559225765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20198509796912276,0.11414896315118657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340081649087732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200731880051322,0.17809376225137438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834716792541665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3943809938933599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16061100677320633,0.0,0.0,0.21101337641064166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292623872934777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146941631348734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22227695112078336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34896348667232874,0.1826625522783404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2059187480486227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17525482537173628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069664457119976
parenting,Firm_Mood,2019/04/11,"My son is more affectionate with his caregiver than me I have a 8yo son and am raising him as a single dad. He used to be very affectionate but pulled back the last year or so. I thought he was just growing up but he is very playful and affectionate with his sitter. For example, they were having a pillow fight and my son was sort of bummed that he left. I asked my son if he wanted to do a pillow fight with me instead and he said he'd rather do it with Joe (the sitter). The sitter did an overnight with my son and I asked my son how it went he said good. He said Joe helped him with his bedtime routine (shower, brushing teeth, bedtime, etc). When I tried bringing in his PJ's while he was in the shower, he freaked out. I joked that if the sitter could see him naked so can his dad. He retorted that Joe was a guy and I was ""dad."" He even told me he could go to bed himself.",1.6241304347826109,3.2284503260869606,3.003695652173913,94.01032608695654,78.34782608695652,5.9043478260869575,21.82608695652174,6.6274283507984215,0.22790869565217384,676,19,157,6,16,220,97,184,0.05,0.8370000000000001,0.113,0.9005,2,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,0,0,1,0,9,9,2,0,11,0,19,1,1,2,0,27,32,17,0,6,7,9,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,5,13,0,0,1,2,0,5,0,3,0,0,13,5,26,6,17,15,3,15,0,0,1,0,43,5,0,4,5,101,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3502811066963997,0.0,0.0,0.14405531634424365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991565178882016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893713126970914,0.12373838197896098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647142798899002,0.15713454359933246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18549916996852608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255721626746721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15270966948355866,0.0,0.0,0.2035488778031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5346187029645946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928823307459474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872953259883764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901440574993502,0.0,0.12719369955389834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618043285265203,0.0,0.3091554335246263,0.11049984222702976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.173668974545656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064284463588967
parenting,ZombiiRush,2019/04/11,"When should children have access to Social Media (FB, Twitter, SNAP....)? I am planning to ban social media for my kids until at least High school.  By social media I mean instagram, snapchat, facebook, tik tok, twitter.  The reason I am restricting their use of social media is that I've seen it's effects on my sister's kids when they were growing up.  She has two daughters in their teens now that just go on everyday and gain their self esteem through likes from strangers.  They like to compete with each other to see who has more likes and I can often hear them talk about how all these guys are asking them out some I'm sure are men in their 30's.  

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Has any of you tried this before with your kids and if so what were the results?",4.2498295454545465,5.82595124305556,4.101565656565659,88.9727272727273,71.29166666666667,6.06969696969697,24.896464646464647,6.11248444174946,0.6820638888888891,585,17,113,3,11,178,104,144,0.042,0.852,0.106,0.8253,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,8,4,8,4,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,5,2,22,21,9,0,2,2,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,0,7,8,7,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,3,17,4,21,17,5,15,0,0,2,0,28,8,0,3,8,78,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17731756097925852,0.1988558634472697,0.11128940326753348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529931216651642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925633827278405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300756349557776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204183746844025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18444841285939392,0.0,0.0,0.1729079933774165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398572322351595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782656952554503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826216445218786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16562520299147912,0.13040996142424044,0.0,0.17072538897350212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6672930059598482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424067115540874,0.0,0.0,0.13153778846442346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110939630414228,0.0,0.1598648441331249,0.0,0.0,0.14134333166683788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988558634472697,0.0
parenting,Gousf,2019/04/11,"Daughter (3yo) keeps rubbing her private parts and lifting her shirt, I dont know how to properly address this So we were told by daycare that my daughter has been rubbing herself a lot lately and we have noticed and been told she has been lifting her shirts lot lately. I keep trying to tell her that is our private area and we only do that when we are alone (I have read you dont want to shame them) and trying to tell her that only mommy and daddy and doctors should be allowed to see her areas. 

Anyone got some advice, I have read some good books but I worry about her being to young to grasp the material being 3 years old.

Also I'm reading this is a good time to set boundaries,  how do I teach her that No, dont touch me, is different from No, I dont want to clean my room, like of I teach her it's ok to say no what do I do when she doesnt want to listen to me.",3.4889279279279286,3.765314464864865,4.71006756756757,88.75248873873875,71.91891891891892,6.815315315315317,25.68693693693693,5.985473137389443,0.697153153153153,676,19,150,3,12,224,100,185,0.109,0.818,0.073,-0.5841,2,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,5,1,1,0,7,5,0,1,3,1,26,3,2,3,0,27,38,14,0,4,1,2,3,1,0,1,1,2,3,0,9,11,0,2,2,4,0,0,8,1,0,0,7,6,32,4,16,27,5,12,0,0,1,0,27,3,0,4,9,108,41,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513649220485167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203038774212575,0.0,0.09422400913451903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238545425689035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12310126230183364,0.0,0.12059811120820935,0.0,0.0,0.5523565679734228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976507793893468,0.09423481515320836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20945521192324407,0.0,0.0,0.0647531257274867,0.0,0.2658217692436537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575629763930437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20033992565743647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13414368810423558,0.12363672886209852,0.0,0.0,0.17922130103464468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759217947706494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3535684009120968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369857170306004,0.0,0.0,0.09389067147479042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205967173394598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870426694749969,0.0,0.0,0.22517223780287693,0.0,0.1599898613913002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848738385235369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11965624390266295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07587495315744429
parenting,Bees-Believe-Me,2019/04/11,"Parents who have had their child repeat a grade- help me please Warning- this turned out way longer than I planned. 

My youngest child will be 7 at the end of the month. She is smart, clever, and creative. She has struggled with reading skills since pre-k, however (currently in first grade). We have been working with her at home based on recommendations from her teachers, and starting last year she has been enrolled in title one reading, including a summer program. 

This year, due to being almost a grade level behind in reading, and a half year behind in math we had her assessed for a learning disability. We had already had her eyes and hearing checked, and ruled out ADHD. We just got the results of the assessment back and had her IEP meeting. She tests perfectly average in all areas. I’m thrilled that she does not have any learning disabilities of course, but this means that she does not qualify for any services or accommodations beyond title one, and we don’t really know how to better support her and help her make progress. The teachers and professionals said she is just a late bloomer. 

It was suggested to us that we consider having her repeat the first grade, and I have to admit I cried a bit. I worked in children’s social services, and I’ve got a lot of experience with children’s education services, but for some reason the idea of doing this just broke my heart. More than anything I just want her to be successful in school, but also not feel different from her peers. I know I’m bringing a lot of my own baggage to this decision, but I’m struggling. 

Ironically, my husband was kept back in the 5th grade due to untreated ADHD affecting his learning. We talked at length about how it was a great experience for him, and he’s very glad his mother made that choice. I also talked at length with his mother as well. Im embarrassed to admit it, but I think part of me is worried about judgement from other parents in our small school. I also feel like a failure as a parent because I have not been able to help her with this. Im seeing my therapist next week to talk this through. 

So that was a really long story to get to my question for the Reddit community....have you made the choice to have your child repeat a grade? How was it? Would you do it again? Help!",5.4395862068965535,6.651314648275868,5.60844827586207,80.67887931034484,68.0344827586207,8.374712643678162,30.82183908045977,8.648137234880735,2.378549425287356,1812,71,337,28,30,573,215,435,0.054000000000000006,0.807,0.139,0.9889,6,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,9,3,1,10,18,15,0,3,24,0,33,2,2,9,2,72,59,27,0,2,14,6,2,1,0,2,0,2,1,5,19,26,0,1,15,3,1,1,5,4,1,5,19,6,53,11,59,35,8,45,0,1,2,0,63,20,0,6,24,237,72,25,0.08645760139842547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20781047124532226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657479902587603,0.0,0.0954081130476142,0.20742033780614946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175882674168192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114723928584475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296111753229234,0.0,0.052703751342036635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764647225344536,0.0943893084046396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949696153999698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032979189892218,0.0,0.0,0.15131925922251302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657577286334777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691442481613425,0.0,0.0,0.08743112205460551,0.06176532771408075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14708158316522912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045170528324774764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829608378103392,0.09531981076390962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09744400032310004,0.10245267393425476,0.23180283107737434,0.0,0.08672402352455406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097600108323411,0.18677809141837487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502967333392637,0.07047448448205887,0.09752794020547133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04223881690113876,0.0,0.0,0.07651225657555434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14700632191171464,0.0,0.16361654580107424,0.0577111202877264,0.0,0.0,0.09417767383724633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900963258259207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194863992732834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717181649576823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880028043569348,0.09362515708274366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490448360504386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968523003178444,0.0,0.25944299415968425,0.0,0.11077390665848168,0.08889281373076043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224097752140755,0.0,0.0,0.17499941673250602,0.0688955146111573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151862130497844,0.0,0.0,0.0881326367632149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611951352646378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076851387889475,0.0,0.0,0.0981110614980031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20847403514496027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003839389426176,0.0,0.05539853997117421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404104339626664,0.0,0.0,0.10399784923861986,0.0,0.0,0.07133657572620575,0.05099493334400275,0.0686260197199764,0.06935107279969346,0.0,0.07773576679769872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258843270462333,0.08780189097194352,0.0,0.061416999443673535,0.0,0.0,0.16702758203033438
parenting,FNMistress,2019/04/11,"Today I had a parenting win, with my one year old. Recently we've been having (age appropriate) conversations about keeping our food on the tray and not throwing it on the ground. Today for lunch she had her usual spread of a variety of different finger food type things that she can eat on her own. She had about 8 different options and I can proudly say she ate everything but the iced animal cookies, including her strawberries & other fruits that she hasn't showed interest in since she was younger! Normally every time we give her strawberries, they end up on the floor. To some, this may seem like a silly thing to be excited about but at least the last 2 weeks she has been eating less and throwing more so it's a big win in my books!",6.013185703185705,6.6788202797202825,6.284988344988346,78.30218337218336,66.48251748251748,10.551359751359753,30.574203574203572,10.504223727775694,3.132041802641803,592,21,113,15,9,190,100,143,0.022,0.855,0.123,0.9295,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,1,3,4,7,0,0,9,0,13,8,1,0,0,14,17,6,0,1,3,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,5,7,1,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,3,18,7,17,8,5,24,0,0,0,0,18,11,0,4,12,78,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822701570476031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35151563141708325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34426939800905765,0.0,0.0,0.14899614281980886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14173560477759886,0.0,0.15118848866884754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068331931511789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16137536751144188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952482959165686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371246539526233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218553414762997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16482337162017965,0.0,0.0,0.1765223280397504,0.0,0.11399263796014575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18679235553629608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610047092290056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337781269631603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531444110483159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391562672602522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22352051674723056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809251069206323,0.0,0.3189125301544793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18527448496628696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493879279559834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833045725593407
parenting,plasticinaymanjar,2019/04/11,"Books for an almost-6-year-old? My son is almost 6, he doesn’t read by himself yet but we read a book every night... we started when he turned 5, and we’ve read Matilda, Fantastic Mr. Fox, and the first 3 Harry Potter books. He kind of enjoyed the first 2, but he went mad with HP, he really really loves it. 
Now, I don’t want to read any other HP book yet, and I was thinking on starting a new series... I enjoyed Percy Jackson, Artemis Fowl and the Discworld books (city watch being my fav series), and I am super inclined to start with any of those, but at the same time I’m not sure how age appropriate they are, considering he’s kind of young (or I see him as a baby? Idk). 
I have to admit he’s a bit sheltered and maybe sensitive because of it?, I haven’t let him watch any Marvel movie, for example (even though I love them and I have my ticket for Endgame already, I just feel some situations could affect him), which is why I’m not sure if those books are appropriate for him or if I’m overreacting a bit, which is entirely possible.",3.133181279620853,4.388217682464457,4.6526510663507095,85.19376332938391,73.59715639810426,7.7394549763033185,25.50977488151659,8.278499904357787,1.4857319905213269,805,26,170,13,16,270,126,211,0.041,0.7709999999999999,0.188,0.9888,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,0,2,3,8,10,1,0,10,0,15,2,0,2,2,33,30,18,0,4,10,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,11,0,0,3,11,0,1,5,1,0,2,2,4,22,9,17,25,4,17,0,0,3,2,21,2,0,6,14,99,29,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24605966451843614,0.0,0.13558269007252502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506537406737622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489631809719002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268269771590588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809633551345792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115004092297126,0.0,0.1035176165754169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06212336847237916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901489473663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25588640901629234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563603304901086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217778230441912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343268362654533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866212616272973,0.0,0.11529886988829036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892434966987842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850989317314386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4915861337855762,0.0,0.15741873279795784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09790613089947536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810347999362674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608897962710241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315943839756003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872583195973737,0.12071255359994552,0.0,0.07164256946357532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336399728871038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246794870996445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389549601373232,0.1108650044577004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911992724238724
parenting,merrymordor,2019/04/11,"My daughter will not call me by my name My daughter is 1.5 years old and VERY talkative. She has a pretty large vocabulary and calls her father “dada,” her grandma “nana,” and her grandpa “papa,” but will not call me mom/mommy/momma or anything close to it. I’m with her probably 80% of her waking hours every day (I work nights as a nurse) and almost always refer to myself in the third person in front of her (example: “Momma’s going to go potty” instead of “I’m going to go potty”). She says so many words in the appropriate context and still, I can’t get her to call me my name. She even says “watch” and points to it on my wrist. 

I’m assuming she’ll eventually call me my name in time. I’m not taking offense to it or getting upset over it, but I was wondering if anyone else had the same thing happen to them.",4.660180722891568,4.625664536144583,6.23821686746988,79.90407228915666,69.3012048192771,8.567710843373495,26.84096385542169,8.238735603445708,1.6595561445783131,627,17,127,8,10,216,101,166,0.022,0.952,0.027000000000000003,-0.049,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,1,4,2,1,1,5,0,8,2,2,0,0,25,21,13,0,1,8,5,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,5,4,2,0,1,2,3,26,0,20,16,1,20,0,0,1,0,28,8,0,6,7,83,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405181612045527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139085377414007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936052600531156,0.13716599172499533,0.11016389001808123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6834829652146229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633529972625847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111831497994722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842010237853105,0.0,0.11279154208028155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988346320611633,0.0,0.3043264155426108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838110673773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318353267799301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572352122181708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678733376745904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562825309390233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404744109459754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689042436706144,0.0,0.0,0.12655074970332988,0.0,0.0,0.1361942713070916,0.1443348773619639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129181479905937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690903294398284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1006538414233598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893751083244449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780608765514152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045705724426892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451766820202425,0.09745920782677883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620811508393827
parenting,azn-persuazn,2019/04/11,"Can you guys share some stories about gender disappointment that turned out for the better? Just feeling kind of down and afraid due to this irrational scenario I’ve created in my mind. If you guys could share some gender disappointment stories that are really uplifting, I’d really appreciate it.",9.696470588235297,10.70511080392157,8.855686274509804,61.85058823529414,58.607843137254896,13.07450980392157,36.607843137254896,12.45797560212912,5.237596078431372,245,10,36,8,3,77,41,51,0.14800000000000002,0.633,0.218,0.3491,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,0,1,2,7,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,5,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,4,7,4,2,4,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,3,1,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726050978329749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24609721584969074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585075569066026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6103939114406072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32097495030303874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112252450928425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949210912047679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3352666038093993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cameocreme1,2019/04/11,"My family haven’t been sick all this year so far, but all are now and it’s the worst timing! So we are moving cities next week, we had planned to go camping with the extended family this weekend, and my Early Childhood Centre which we run as parents (Playcentre), and I’m president of, has its Educational Office Review today. And my whole family except me (3 kids and dad) has come down with a stomach bug. So we’ve missed my kids farewells at school and kindy this week and now I can’t go to the Review as I’m caring for all my littlies and hubby. How do these things always happen at the worst time! I’m about to break it to the family we may not be able to come on the trip.

And also we are in the middle of renovations at our current house (which will continue after we move) and living in a caravan with no flushing toilet 😱, just thought I’d add that chestnut!",4.127821969696967,4.932895835227273,5.416363636363638,82.35287878787881,70.76136363636363,8.366666666666665,25.46212121212121,8.59863814320734,1.6228348484848485,681,19,138,11,12,228,111,176,0.111,0.866,0.023,-0.952,2,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,7,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,9,0,13,2,1,1,3,32,24,18,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,11,22,0,0,1,1,0,8,4,3,0,0,3,0,14,1,23,18,6,33,0,1,0,0,11,9,0,1,15,97,25,3,0.15768927967402266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610405998374835,0.13121011291360382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607747300672431,0.0,0.0,0.2716707033522458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5946216755606825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17923690317924645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944410923889475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18195225697586295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924252295369066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351974975980362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16770433787919706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17509528380990766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595899696589636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476175056743336,0.0,0.0,0.12518767399770886,0.1838997741630363,0.0,0.14947099900746172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25297765696755803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605444934721626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154672606395343
parenting,NoDownDog,2019/04/11,"Crying when leaving baby w/nanny...what's normal? We have a 1yo daughter who isn't in daycare. As I started back to work part time, my mom has watched her 4 days a week, then down to 3 days per week. I've been back to work full time since January and my mom watches daughter 3 days/week and we hired a part time nanny/babysitter for 2.5 days. My husband travels a lot, so the 1/2 day is to cover an evening so I can get some stuff done. 

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So, we've had our lovely nanny since mid-January. And of course, at first, when we left our LO with the nanny the first few times, she cried. Then after 2 weeks she settled in and stopped crying when we'd leave. Since about mid-February (when we were away for a week and LO didn't see the babysitter) our LO has gone back to crying when nanny shows up. Also, at this time, my husband's work travel changed and he's gone about 3 days/week now. Wondering if this transition has something to do with the increased crying? 

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LO clings to me, gets upset and cries for 1-5 minutes after I leave her with nanny. I work from home, so I can hear them and our LO doesn't cry a lot during play (whines when hungry, normal stuff) I can hear them playing and it all sounds normal. Our LO lets the nanny hold her, she sits on her lap, holds her while crying, etc. When nanny gets LO from nap, there aren't any tears. There are only tears during a transition from me/other close family member to nanny. 

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Still normal? Anyone have experience with this? I wasn't weirded out by it but after a couple months I'm wondering if it'll ever change (a friend of mine has twins and a nanny and after a year the twins still cry when mom leaves). Do some kids just cry no matter what at the parent-leaving transition?",2.941329631794275,4.580564087570622,3.7040229885057485,90.2483898305085,74.79096045197741,6.012702123514515,21.81141632573544,6.48374012150746,0.3441569452561861,1373,34,283,10,29,436,173,354,0.067,0.86,0.07400000000000001,0.6614,1,0,1,0,0,0,68.0,10,0,2,6,26,7,0,1,20,0,25,1,0,0,2,41,38,31,0,6,4,7,0,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,10,21,0,3,2,6,0,5,6,3,0,2,8,6,33,4,38,27,11,60,0,1,3,1,34,13,0,8,41,178,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430309474587504,0.0,0.1800765524601986,0.2019499824400872,0.03767367419803843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038736736200792925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204981203892392,0.1277967759784051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721100671250408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061298679285462135,0.6085393428936122,0.14291281188320995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05669309505269099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061785274425735365,0.036590958443368564,0.05011217169277785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054191505986855966,0.05222587685462091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942458591562846,0.0,0.0,0.04280164632473898,0.0,0.08683212049184882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487890505990845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05557038434499029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29330124838912863,0.0601919017346931,0.05664991430687887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419763380171604,0.050000363612716335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465026594646756,0.04421948671506735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21711964998911965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042133944167463834,0.0,0.0,0.061514775568573564,0.11998488428007716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04414636303750289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748153437379046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04264937126115313,0.0,0.0,0.039212170382486616,0.0,0.08848449337746599,0.046316603354437665,0.0,0.0,0.12683873196013642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151996056946946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666296336533713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12015715421832965,0.16132647339612954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019499824400872,0.03567557005321267
parenting,M1Garand00294,2019/04/11,"My son won’t nap at home like he does at his Grandpas My son, 13 months old now, will nap at his grandpas for 2+ hours at least. I do exactly the same routine that his grandpa does and my son will only nap a maximum of one hour here at home. Is this common? Is there anything else I should try?",3.2757812500000014,3.2050875156249994,4.478125000000002,91.454375,72.28125,7.65,26.9375,7.1686216300943375,1.0133250000000005,227,7,55,2,4,75,46,64,0.0,0.953,0.047,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,0,1,0,6,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,8,1,7,3,2,11,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,0,7,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20691063588665906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4400671686196772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21004274956564925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5044221823427847,0.0,0.4952281785235373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283906658699545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20069404102387572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638400812631533,0.0,0.170379731543272,0.19122862220744336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1707087304042282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PumpPumpSquirt,2019/04/11,"Sleep routine for 8 month old Hi guys,

This question is probably asked a lot but I’m just wondering what a good sleep routine is around this age, generally my daughter sleeps amazingly however I am currently feeling guilty at a lack of a bed time routine for her. She also sleeps a little later than I think babies her age are supposed to. She’s generally sleeping anywhere between 8-9 and waking around 7.30-8.30. Lately she has become more cranky throughout the day and I believe this is due to my poor approach to her sleep. Any advice will be much appreciated!

Thanks",4.763042575285566,6.988410392523368,5.368161993769473,77.75095534787124,71.24299065420561,7.746209761163032,31.515057113187954,8.515128840125781,2.721326895119418,460,21,78,8,9,148,78,107,0.096,0.777,0.127,0.5255,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,0,8,7,7,0,0,14,14,4,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,4,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,11,3,11,12,4,15,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,10,49,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890436627387122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549119529938937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08970571796998159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348620024391413,0.12332133536963726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568812032206382,0.0,0.14862136586817248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507330828485912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669943991119345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11064280304540522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061512547010046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488041977394397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221200323653207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214815851033072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529211414812617,0.0,0.0969716162966494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384210503285741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222508703861111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477733336483159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7920527258157981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214482472435283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452485799432888,0.0,0.0,0.07691983507210874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430545867616263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ORV_has_Bullet_Holes,2019/04/11,"Stay at home dad of 3, nearing breaking point I am a stay at home dad with 3 kids ages 5, 3 and 1. The 1 year old is the fussiest of all of our children and cries much of the day when I am not directly interacting or holding him. I can’t ever get anything done around the house, the older two are vying for my attention that I can’t give them, and I generally fucking hate being a parent right now. I feel awful just saying those words, but they have been true the last few months. I feel like I am going crazy and just needed a place to vent.",5.3960289855072485,4.180879400000002,6.352826086956522,83.65387681159422,68.04347826086956,9.057971014492756,28.731884057971016,7.793537801064563,1.5420144927536237,421,11,95,4,6,141,82,115,0.086,0.85,0.064,-0.1272,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,2,0,6,4,2,0,9,1,11,1,0,0,3,21,19,7,0,1,5,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,6,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,2,3,13,2,11,16,3,21,0,0,0,1,12,7,1,1,11,62,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172448562713658,0.16413237503255027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20252670646679924,0.11890628535612953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18867910439174368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677727094156625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18645055176691405,0.13171716388544275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17045123389168912,0.09632805495161358,0.1768687996316914,0.10478426472906488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18203162580706786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698852687147502,0.0,0.0,0.2127433929601308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028980766096134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900760568105294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716594926255472,0.0,0.1355364556907285,0.13671133919752967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346999948036464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047260385122801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926320873478644,0.0,0.1742934767582626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745479676211616,0.0,0.14662198511351207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.393037323374253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010707429522688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187311188434679
parenting,gr33nway0fLif3,2019/04/11,"Stay at home parents of this sub/ or working parents with a stay at home partner To the stay at home parents... How much does your partner help out with the kids/housework etc? Are you happy with your current situation? If not, what would be your ideal sharing of responsibilities?  
 And same questions reversed to working parents, what is your share of responsibilities in your household?",6.0864676616915405,8.930387522388063,5.67246268656717,74.28292288557216,69.29850746268656,6.257711442786071,36.53980099502488,7.1686216300943375,2.806693532338308,312,17,48,3,6,96,44,67,0.0,0.792,0.208,0.9409,5,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,6,0,3,1,4,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,1,0,13,4,4,0,3,3,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,2,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,4,13,2,3,9,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,3,1,37,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259402284466153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050230134609486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319927167041553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646261041209674,0.0,0.43307283120245466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057934474313911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6391984586820634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16121676632943466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617655163342938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.460179955242253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20954240706053284,0.0,0.0,0.10223247166532663,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwadviceecivda,2019/04/11,"Setting boundaries with family Cw: child sexual abuse 


My husbands brother has always seemed like a very normal nice guy to me, albeit a little bit shy and sometimes make uncomfortable jokes.

 When we had our daughter he started to offer to babysit her very often, which I found weird because he’s in his 30s with no kids. I threw up a yellow flag and refused the babysitting. Maybe he’s just being nice and the niceness is misplaced, whatever, we just decline the help. 

As she’s gotten a little older in the past year (she’s 2.5) he has been spending lots of time playing with her at family events which is also fine, but since I had the previous yellow flag I just make sure to not let them be alone together and supervise the play. I also found it a bit weird that he would spend so much time with her instead of the adults. 


We recently had another baby who is only a few weeks old, and at our most recent gathering he was spending even more time with my daughter because I was unable to be with them the entire time, being preoccupied with bouncing/feeding the baby. My husband was talking with his family and didn’t notice, so I checked in as often as possible but he was ticking/wrestling with her and it made me extremely uncomfortable. My daughter was having fun with him so she was giving him lots of hugs and when he asked her for a kiss when we were leaving she gave him one. I absolutely hated this but because we had never set boundaries about this before and because we had a screaming baby, I didn’t say anything. I don’t think it’s okay for grown uncles to be kissing little girls. Maybe mom and dad and grandma but not her uncles. 

I have talked to my husband about child sexual abuse statistics (male family members being the most likely candidates) and not letting certain people babysit, but I have not brought up my specific fear about this brother. He has other brothers who do not act this way with her at all, and maybe I’m misreading the situation and he is just friendly, but it’s not worth the risk to me. 

We will have another talk with my daughter about kissing and hugging and consent (at 2.5 she’s doesn’t absorb a lot of it yet,) but how should we address this with the brother, or even just the whole family, in a polite way that won’t offend them? I would like to say no to tickling, kissing, and any type of forced physical contact/hugging. 

Thanks in advance!",5.438065215870125,6.468764160520611,5.823560282695402,79.79736687425654,67.91540130151844,8.291120285494367,31.35686795885523,8.460557738077197,2.442857476733608,1902,76,344,27,31,610,216,461,0.103,0.752,0.145,0.9699,0,1,0,0,2,0,46.0,10,0,3,1,24,29,2,2,24,1,42,6,0,4,4,81,59,37,0,4,19,13,0,3,1,5,0,3,1,7,17,38,0,1,4,3,5,5,14,7,0,1,22,5,53,22,48,24,12,41,0,0,2,6,75,14,0,9,21,249,70,2,0.0,0.2004725471488102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761930578865937,0.0,0.13530797405048126,0.07039335036303603,0.0,0.0,0.05753038879128292,0.17741937302910454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961797171535887,0.0,0.07908887561046603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20628366227855666,0.0,0.07198772791713648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18472093277845206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11175400914850384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3987632032673423,0.09519767253390447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551741479453526,0.06536116814689208,0.0,0.0,0.08115530620646434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08376655491271602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352424148519028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05670509179087521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957838709383853,0.0,0.17301692306068167,0.0,0.12399275600137374,0.2543720106543485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157697627530758,0.0,0.08004985275662098,0.11294130819920555,0.0,0.2549739426807968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908161527119257,0.0,0.0,0.06219018044236821,0.0,0.06524815443713669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288929965020303,0.0,0.0963168030938424,0.08877267829198382,0.0,0.0573266390131216,0.06434153930732382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075955358435971,0.05865046562678936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953729393896592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706309998432894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455343309012469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701597687486915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998137109899154,0.09509309786607367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367081818852802,0.0,0.059879782247836674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973378882864188,0.0,0.0,0.2039930098172642,0.0,0.07788762009884477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05420778132079552,0.0,0.0,0.19732200433156774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960647696320747,0.0,0.1343018885274868,0.06786041275897313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445203773302342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019375517673984,0.0,0.0,0.05447914118285917
parenting,megmeg29,2019/04/11,"I always imagined having two children, but after having one baby, I don’t know if I could do it again. My daughter was born in December, she’s almost 4 months old. I adore her, she makes me smile and laugh every single day - but taking care of a baby is much harder than I ever imagined it would be.

I always said I wanted to have two kids, and I feel conflicted because I don’t think I want to have an only child, but I can even wrap my head around the idea of taking care of a baby while also taking care of a child.

I know it won’t be this hard forever, but I seriously don’t know how I would handle it. I am already so short tempered with my dog, yelling at her when she’s playing loudly while I’m trying to put the baby down, and not paying as much attention to her as I should. I feel bad about it. I don’t want to ever be like that towards my current daughter now while taking care of a new baby.

Has anyone else felt like this as a new parent?

Did you get through it and decide to have a second? How are you feeling about your decision now?

Anyone decide after one they couldn’t handle another even though initially wanted two?

Any insight would be appreciated.",5.75764423076923,5.0134836041666695,6.85166666666667,78.82153846153847,67.125,8.884615384615385,28.461538461538463,7.882392219407189,1.7546442307692307,915,24,182,9,13,310,130,240,0.035,0.768,0.197,0.9912,2,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,0,3,1,0,16,12,1,0,9,0,28,1,1,3,2,45,52,21,0,11,6,3,5,2,0,5,0,3,0,4,9,6,0,1,16,1,1,1,7,3,0,6,4,8,33,9,26,37,3,25,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,2,20,140,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105736546858975,0.0,0.11652495332931975,0.08444301157195175,0.1757243515323527,0.0,0.0,0.07180713953530528,0.11072389690939886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766673443587186,0.10819292666990303,0.0,0.09400052171887263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816608644386603,0.06436876245887001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306380744060191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430774541623681,0.0,0.0,0.06809901371933891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08820974433798763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948690243811315,0.19103056878629773,0.08896700186255736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16017360198485334,0.0,0.10138623255154744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055168198350996685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459095441469399,0.0,0.10836930203201356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920210665571288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17409412936313973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10317521248186877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048442090825145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428365218738733,0.0,0.15524661169776752,0.0,0.0,0.20396554612795528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108025207366776,0.0,0.14310565435737266,0.0803085462835841,0.0,0.0,0.1172489853130795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615054182473772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10044351325402602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175724112721786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765999324849821,0.10374498888444056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07169099383986575,0.0,0.3094482538070909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491269154427652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22503158584310384,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,preggersthrowawa,2019/04/11,"what can i do to make my toddler less demanding? my toddler needs nearly constant interaction with others. im currently a sahm, and we go to mom-and-me daycare with her 3-4 times a week. while there she plays nice independently and with other kids. but at home, she needs constant attention and interaction. she is 18 months old.",3.564247311827959,6.0881868225806475,4.807741935483873,78.99827956989247,75.93548387096773,8.004301075268819,28.075268817204304,8.841846274778883,2.4948301075268806,261,11,48,6,6,86,47,62,0.023,0.917,0.06,0.2724,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,13,7,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,7,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,2,7,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,0,8,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.579594245144063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15240751794419996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689969523320126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896702396407365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17900594140064616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140781366873032,0.21405119471899733,0.0,0.0,0.3976901672364115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813999076455721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637241903615173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21511025971703504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,heyitschill,2019/04/11,"Looking for suggestions for streaming nature/educational shows for ages 4-8 or so. Hi. I am trying to find shows for my kids to watch. They don't use youtube, mostly Netflix and Amazon Prime. Right now they watch My Little Pony and Dinotrux which are fine and even sometimes enjoyable to watch with them. That said, I would like to find something educational/sciencey for them to watch, especially nature themed, because they really enjoy that. They used to watch Octonauts regularly (it was probably their favorite show from the ages of 2-5), but are less interested now, although they do love ocean stuff.

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The best we've found is Wild Kratts, but they don't seem to get as into it as they did with other shows. Does anyone have any good suggestions? My kids are in preschool and kindergarten but the older one really likes media that is more complicated like for 2-4th graders as long as it isn't scary, and the younger one is happy to tag along, so anything in that sort of range or a bit younger would be great.",6.112436568666936,7.397956884816757,5.5850261780104695,81.18932339911397,66.5392670157068,8.599436165928314,29.87555376560612,8.841846274778883,2.2484124848973006,819,29,153,13,13,250,119,191,0.0,0.764,0.236,0.9942,0,0,1,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,10,1,5,12,0,0,5,0,17,1,0,2,0,24,25,17,0,2,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,2,10,9,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,8,15,12,27,18,5,11,0,0,6,1,17,5,0,5,9,96,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17486037725996353,0.19610021201911734,0.10974720683572588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284401350454752,0.0,0.1328059500701112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837868397278277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16936340439837885,0.0,0.17619041729470047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412289372480932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659314680835964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2950055903623269,0.0,0.0,0.176950117327992,0.0,0.0,0.0843169037837018,0.0,0.0,0.1353619241392385,0.0,0.1779273258677633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17179713418072795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365334030399659,0.16174997975291636,0.0,0.14282048085801508,0.1355225969614683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565609444995406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21871705167142333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740001239350069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677448716811167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378217483529837,0.15351391373801648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469186723977511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424191345412085,0.15961370647371964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18474699969581249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956969432453313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278769323940052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22928628133559525,0.0,0.19610021201911734,0.0
parenting,kgzz1006,2019/04/11,"Potty training problems ? Tl;dr I’m trying to potty train and just would like any tips that helped anyone because I don’t have family or elder adults to ask and I’m anxious that I’m not doing enough. 
Ok so long story short I have a 20ish month old girl and we started potty training like two weeks ago but when my step kids showed up she stopped trying to go because they kept trying to play with the potty(sd4 and ss2) and she started to see it as a game all of a sudden and tried to put toys in there instead of going even tho she had been only peeing in the potty and hadn’t had accidents she was suddenly doing terrible. So I had to finally do diapers again but I’m trying to start today(Thursday) and they don’t come back til Monday morning so I’m hoping to get her in the hang of it enough. I’m doing the no pants method and we have books and have been watching Sesame Street and just sitting on the potty every half hour and drinking lots of juice, but is there any tips that you guys did that helped? Oh and btw she showed all the signs, tried to take diaper off when it was wet, and she always pretends to sit and wipe whenever I went to the bathroom and she puts her hand down and points when she has to pee so I figured it was time. But now she just doesn’t seem as interested this time around and has peed just standing twice and didn’t warn me like normal. I keep seeing all the “oh I potty trained in three days” things on Pinterest and feel like I’m failing.",2.8261589403973484,4.490533642384109,3.6562993377483473,90.36452847682119,75.15894039735099,6.421403973509934,22.013774834437083,7.087006719466742,0.5492461986754966,1168,30,245,12,25,372,163,302,0.079,0.8390000000000001,0.081,0.5766,2,0,2,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,2,1,20,11,0,0,11,1,26,4,3,0,3,50,50,36,0,4,10,0,3,4,0,1,0,0,0,4,10,25,1,3,3,8,0,8,7,3,0,4,13,6,25,8,31,36,6,48,0,1,3,0,24,13,0,4,28,159,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434781408177683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794884415139954,0.0,0.0,0.16010134640915696,0.0,0.0,0.1329851690399827,0.0,0.08230951391470852,0.0,0.0,0.10479187854959253,0.11004823483081123,0.0,0.0,0.09051606254869166,0.0,0.14351672553798614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140160233179453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591685072095984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531651435166995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432634511309475,0.0,0.07775007134146,0.0,0.09918050542298942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11097183085820436,0.0,0.05952056555688099,0.0840960781688728,0.0,0.12895173192105197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150156441351728,0.0,0.13380102421863924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655699281154945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780462699305708,0.0,0.0,0.11691819344331852,0.11592619536429165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463107132083688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300396665470351,0.0,0.0,0.10417463887895496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007762928122292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395950237543764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533633576730115,0.0,0.0,0.12352276438158775,0.0,0.0,0.0895280502145771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127933075248504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11263797155381353,0.0,0.23667346698647165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760825196443567,0.1071638993907804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24995921187008555,0.0,0.0,0.09841554767347914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850751289514894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820504190949015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372818749941435,0.0,0.1115806644917378,0.0,0.0,0.4795271631811682,0.0,0.11499107748684476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944243875181228,0.0,0.0,0.10912357948093104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362181465339055,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wundy87,2019/04/11,"Grandparents buy the same gifts Hi everyone,

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So our little girl is turning 2 and she loves rummaging in the kitchen when we are making dinner.  
So naturally we wanted to give her one of those children kitchens from ikea.  
She already played with those when we where there, getting her to stop playing and leave was a total meltdown at time

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Great gift for her 2th birthday right?

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Now my parents are asking what they should get for her birthday.  
We gave a few suggestions and we told them about the ikea kitchen that we were getting  


I just got a message that my mom bought an entire set second hand with accessoires for half the retail price.  
They do intend to keep the kitchen at their place. they babysit her one day a week while we are at work

So not only did they buy the same thing we wanted to get, they also got it cheaper so I can get to hear that comment aswell.

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My question is, am I justified in feeling annoyed about this?  


I mean on one hand, it is going to stay at their house and I am happy that my girl will be able to play with fun stuff at either house. I do want to set a boundary on buying toys double everytime but it feels like it invalidates the gift that we bought for her. I do plan on asking her to put it away until after her birthday.  


On the other hand, they have a history of never listening to us and if they pull this off when she is older, that is not going to end well  


Thoughts?",4.046975032010241,5.654368313380282,4.194545454545455,87.98227272727276,71.85211267605635,6.71293213828425,26.64148527528809,7.1686216300943375,1.2117802816901406,1147,39,226,11,22,355,158,284,0.015,0.851,0.133,0.9829,2,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,11,0,10,2,15,10,1,0,15,0,21,9,3,2,2,40,50,17,0,5,6,2,5,1,0,2,0,2,4,3,19,17,5,2,5,4,7,4,3,1,1,5,10,7,43,9,38,37,6,38,0,0,0,1,50,17,0,2,15,171,62,1,0.08829721429164399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974381716201533,0.07061125036812282,0.0,0.3826799791792391,0.42916311990425055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1650919522298199,0.0,0.08295813939355533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056944398571825226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782051238607044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437177214965569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929144916059371,0.0630795475325681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306582506712965,0.08470273367788916,0.10036268338408626,0.0,0.14123869674611966,0.09734799047308706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939940264934832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951737775274996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20376626056327526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848262107434634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934940008235702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043137558838328864,0.08849700523072819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969168325161792,0.0,0.05893907617877797,0.0,0.0,0.0961815515789608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341263021471302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810025501231302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949743266165458,0.06715401029365571,0.0,0.0,0.09804360720005592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225179583069017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876308821733328,0.09891308777343792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540533855728157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411308211670197,0.0,0.07382042483534948,0.0,0.0,0.1010791854404969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058660745730733835,0.0,0.0,0.07009812525302016,0.051486815720845513,0.0,0.0,0.08437177214965569,0.0,0.0,0.09604201396594804,0.0,0.0,0.10621067704360042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623995407344876,0.0,0.07082669929889422,0.0,0.07938979971732907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428142361906355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42916311990425055,0.0
parenting,vodkasprinkle,2019/04/11,"Help Me Find This Post! ""Back in my day"" I swear I saw a post recently and someone was saying how their older relative made them feel silly for being ""overly cautious"" with some of the way they raise their child. Saying that ""back in my day"" we did this and we survived. The poster was very eloquent on how yes, and then we learned and now less children die than back in the day... and now my MIL is of course being a big B and I want to put her in her place using this as back-up but I cannot locate it, please help :) Does any one else remember this post? Maybe it was in r/JUSTNOMIL...

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Thanks in advance!",1.6009733333333322,3.6081733040000015,2.443700000000004,96.09568333333335,79.96,5.126666666666667,20.016666666666666,5.985473137389443,-0.17061333333333328,473,12,105,3,12,148,84,125,0.054000000000000006,0.7929999999999999,0.153,0.9182,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,0,4,2,7,2,0,0,5,1,8,0,0,4,0,21,14,11,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,7,10,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,6,4,17,2,15,6,2,27,0,0,1,0,15,10,0,1,11,70,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991704285233554,0.17934174968747188,0.10036835704855422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4539598792029517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855559837588206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317831733545012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291597008069834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123295081410726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462749701401923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13489740321649302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978570636810983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965614298748008,0.0,0.0,0.14827708888432106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001289220792453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15420335726684642,0.16201288283659565,0.0,0.0,0.42406012262790294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483718130496544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457303628669908,0.0,0.1671941905309418,0.0,0.0,0.2347438857660678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250551395531615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13588388029332266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747303483213132,0.0,0.12177974997673835,0.08705422386053457,0.11715251872297774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17934174968747188,0.0
parenting,Tsarinax,2019/04/11,"2 year old and newborn, some advice about potential devices. Hi,

36 husband here with a 37 year old wife.  2 year old kid and a 1 month newborn.

I was thinking about getting my 2 year old a device to watch sesame street on and other kids entertainment for a half hour once or twice a day, but I was curious about advice from other parents.  I don't want to expose her to too much screen time, but I'm OK with her learning technology and figure her way around it.  

She'll use my phone once in a while to watch Elmo while taking care of my son, but often touches the screen and moves on to the next.  I'm wondering if I get one of the Amazon tablets if I could lock the screen so she can't get off the video she's watching?

Again, I'm not thrusting her face into a screen to distract her 24/7, this is for maybe a half hour at most at a time and a hour total a day but it's a pretty essential half hour-hour a day for me to take care of my newborn and just general chores around the house. 

Any advice on these devices at all?  Sorry if a lack of grammar, etc, we're just so tired.",4.66759742460183,4.185101933920706,5.463171806167402,86.99523890206713,69.30837004405286,8.218095560826837,27.593697051846828,7.321109707123232,1.2328071162317848,837,23,189,7,13,274,124,227,0.062,0.821,0.117,0.9198,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,20,1,7,2,1,1,2,37,21,19,0,6,11,4,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,5,6,12,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,1,0,5,2,8,18,4,31,17,7,35,0,0,7,0,19,12,0,8,21,119,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999639623815496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958254761101336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217675346189355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20864843321560766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169588354815603,0.0,0.0,0.19796789964286968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11411620689792196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037724716013793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5038333648790664,0.11806598375932335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10279631848436588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167253672979825,0.1087522160080308,0.07521852854615654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088207311165146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.429479392967015,0.21793942807743166,0.06933611387507811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11361660074036364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10409837737111093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11454123155479007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15386699407811705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556388030551917,0.0,0.0,0.11932969730931416,0.11760422007655084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088373455301617,0.0,0.0,0.06035223505337551,0.08121853292714787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109639699628252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635683516004887
parenting,Hopnawr,2019/04/11,"Umbrella stroller recommendations for taller people? I'm not sure if this is the appropriate sub, but I'm not sure where to ask this.

My husband is 6' tall and I'm 5'6"". 

We currently have the Disney Baby Mickey Mouse Umbrella Stroller with Basket and it's too short for us. My husband has to use his fingers to push and I have to lean into it. We originally bought it due to thinking it would be a one-use thing, but it turns out we really like the convenience of it over our baby city mini.

Anyway, I would really appreciate some recommendations for a taller umbrella stroller. I'm thinking BABY JOY Lightweight Stroller, though I'm not sure if it's actually taller.",6.182734374999999,6.8340580546875,7.0593749999999975,72.948125,66.109375,10.4625,32.40625,10.411451182825502,3.364184375,533,21,99,13,8,178,73,128,0.049,0.8440000000000001,0.107,0.8913,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,5,0,8,1,1,2,3,26,19,8,0,4,7,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,10,5,13,15,1,13,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,3,4,61,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.19353270523106364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18540338028212414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688963172004422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343874542558212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749082280401384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540990446169785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5607456367570997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13175567193255064,0.2541522007208735,0.19484939306676896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21571631806257635,0.0,0.0,0.4771115316032871,0.17128568386702844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28176312188740593,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hatbat83,2019/04/11,"Damage by someone else’s kid dilemma I mean this isn’t a huge biggy, it could be a lot worse and there could have been an injury or millions of pounds damage but at a young child’s sensory group today (3 months to a year) a child dived onto my phone cracking the screen (as I said things could have been a lot worse) does one tell the mum and see if she coughs up or just leave it? To be honest the phone is now only half usable and I am on maternity leave so can’t really afford to pay to fix it but should I just accept these things happen? I am going to find it very hard to bite my tongue at the next class with the mother even though she doesn’t know and her child is just a child...in fact this experience has put me off going back to the class altogether as it was such an unpleasant annoying experience...what would you do in this circumstance?",6.277891414141417,5.0697337840909125,6.585530303030307,82.67815656565658,66.27272727272728,9.86767676767677,26.373737373737374,8.841846274778883,1.51872297979798,670,12,148,9,9,217,112,176,0.138,0.8079999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.8713,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,10,5,1,0,15,0,21,1,0,0,1,25,28,13,0,6,8,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,4,11,5,0,0,4,0,1,3,3,3,0,3,4,4,12,2,19,17,2,18,0,2,2,0,15,8,0,5,7,102,23,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240974983132243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3865658319610981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123182675238458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13481906096424864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659532767413074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15786854413130094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14750581304682162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834411695531742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427149768399105,0.0,0.1445720509180656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869468717724202,0.0,0.0,0.34177342173377145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27441280765471304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17579896945921172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288184534239421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163809089546192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936076328035904,0.12274293365901975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223963097344835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338935885794964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15351705458946785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860543242907574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367436258640857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410603257199989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443818441015186,0.0,0.15856300328401768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297706212202028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331620965611086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32893655331056426,0.1146454862341765,0.0,0.0,0.10392865455189534
parenting,PurpleWurple,2019/04/11,"Sibling Rivalry Has anyone got some tips for sibling rivalry? 

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My two girls are often fighting. Just turned age 5 and 8. Family situation is a full time stay at home dad, and I go to work. Every day when I come home they are punching eachother to bits, or pinned up against the wall trying to pull a borrowed (stolen) tshirt off the other one. I was thinking it's normal, but it seems to be escalating. The latest is that the youngest has had her arm broken by big sister. (big sister kicked her off her bed, immediately regretted it and apologised). I'm looking for tips. My husband says he wants to go back to work and hire someone else to deal with it.

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Generally otherwise, in public, they are well mannered. No bad language, they don't fight with other children , they are respectful, tidy, eat their dinner, clean up etc. Homework, chores and sports are no problem. It's when they have any free play time that this generally happens. 

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They always always want everything the other one has.",4.815354278074867,7.1365373368984,4.99593248663102,80.06095755347597,71.3529411764706,7.4557486631016054,29.33455882352941,8.278499904357787,2.28251898395722,810,33,139,13,16,254,126,187,0.111,0.7829999999999999,0.106,-0.3013,1,0,0,0,3,0,43.0,0,0,7,2,6,9,2,0,7,0,15,3,1,0,0,23,27,9,0,5,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,11,8,2,1,2,2,2,4,3,5,1,3,3,2,15,5,19,23,4,23,0,1,1,0,22,10,0,4,8,88,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916720856790992,0.3743809448294969,0.4198560234594174,0.07832394361602224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053406010018545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856358973134258,0.0961675347070396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574286588022096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921432344875684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742792895717253,0.11874187476898412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785427429100175,0.0962151547411992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1284522004671826,0.0,0.0,0.09704113661488248,0.0,0.1035131772749176,0.0,0.10857811777412547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13091487500529025,0.0,0.09211713809836314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10185016482335482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23106276426759176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671922000707874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128484783186062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609310265743018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020831905382927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915929452947656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10485232512793534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946316880555794,0.0,0.0,0.097588642349872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276278359875205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380042612128107,0.0,0.0,0.1343206422394974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07819725720350504,0.12527891672137256,0.1125106674169749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586812261738235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355747132541444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16769967191981594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4198560234594174,0.0
parenting,whattaUwant,2019/04/11,"If “screen time” is so bad.. I thought of this last night. If screen time is so bad then why do Amish kids seems so weird and backwards?

For those unaware, TV, electricity, automobiles are all against the Amish religion and forbidden.

I think the entire “screen time is bad” thing is mostly a huge crock. Almost all the cartoons on the PBS network are educational and I’m quite impressed by some of the things my child has learned from them. He’s learned things I woulda never even thought to teach him.. and in certain ways I think it’s made him a more well rounded individual. 

And before I get yelled at, my child doesn’t consume the TV from morning till dawn; but I also don’t have a stopwatch in my hand either,",6.4104347826086965,6.472079137681162,6.01576086956522,82.65668478260872,65.59420289855072,8.63913043478261,32.46739130434783,8.07648339933343,2.1228956521739137,563,21,114,6,8,174,91,138,0.077,0.8390000000000001,0.084,0.2456,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,0,9,0,11,1,1,1,4,24,19,14,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,6,5,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,3,6,12,3,13,16,6,15,2,0,4,0,7,6,0,6,8,73,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899393759173877,0.0,0.0,0.1516888284611108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4751302723710504,0.0,0.0,0.16140562576531747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528333856542964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09910114786754584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461635200124493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948193324668396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629464634695255,0.0,0.0,0.1780039441525054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017504235410464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267959832993085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3780493795320401,0.24308145620330684,0.0,0.30117304088276303,0.3318157397229978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056094272203552,0.0,0.0,0.17054712454604026,0.0,0.17115872931864673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,itriedtoeatyourpopco,2019/04/11,"How do you explain family death to your 4 year old or do you? My wife's father died and she had to go back to her home country. As we are tight on budget and the flight is tomorrow, we decided she go alone and leave me and my son here. She was just on a business trip and it was her first time going away from my 4 year old son. Our son misses her and would cry (without sound) whenever he remembers that his mom is away. 

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That was just a few days ago but until now, he'd be saying stuff like ""I don't want you to go away again"" or ""I want to come with you when you go"". Now, she has to go away again and I thought of lying to him and tell him mom is going to a business trip again. But that's lying and I don't want to lie to him.

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The other way is to tell him the truth but he doesn't have any sense of what death is yet. So how do I tell him that? What's the best way to say it? By the way, my wife's father is not really close to her and left them when they were just kids. That's why my son never really met him. He's still her dad though so she wanted to pay respect.",1.5433333333333332,2.260365740740742,3.1745884773662567,96.34731481481484,76.77777777777777,6.552263374485598,18.849794238683128,6.691623216298621,-0.2597341563786011,837,13,215,7,18,278,120,243,0.123,0.813,0.063,-0.8551,0,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,6,2,2,19,5,0,0,8,0,23,0,0,2,2,39,39,24,3,5,10,11,1,1,0,1,0,3,1,1,11,15,0,1,4,0,2,10,6,1,0,1,7,4,40,4,28,29,2,42,0,1,0,0,51,8,0,2,22,148,51,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824109065013996,0.0,0.0,0.10309912965428722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157150425338545,0.2419173871145897,0.0676943621005238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3741051435445686,0.07654435457932338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446687395955784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574964470666331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934607124781026,0.06419862040513279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331252582563094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09384264991594987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467336212899408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960180616976768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985226554066552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540432456159607,0.1081564906605159,0.0,0.0,0.048632909197783264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331730023937955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07677563607092623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20891254014405053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1275428087063778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276566049029076,0.0,0.0,0.15832517410088556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949717491700692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395579582370308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610214968653201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780296066807086,0.07902801762940542,0.05804578889638165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348580897680431,0.2370437832190028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982434176959428,0.0,0.0,0.09595832181602144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071427602092599,0.0,0.2419173871145897,0.12820809271905453
parenting,PsychologicalTower1,2019/04/11,"Therapist problem with estranged father My 16yo decided to stop talking to his father. I fully support that decision. Honestly I can't tolerate him either. He also stopped talking to his grandmother (father's mother) because she constantly guilt tripped him.

He has just told me he doesn't want to go to his therapist. This had happened before, and I didn't think anything of it because the dude did complain about the lack of ""masculine energy"" in his life. Now the second one he saw for a lot longer and he's very upset because he thinks she doesn't believe him. He said he didn't tell her why he stopped talking to his father because he thought he didn't owe her an explanation and he wanted her to ""endorse"" the decision first. Then in the last session she said something about the grandmother, he didn't tell me what but he did tell me she said ""wow there must be a really serious reason for that"" and he felt she was implying his reason wasn't serious enough. 

I think this is fair to a certain extent. His father was never a real father to him he shouldn't be treated like that just because he's the bio dad. And if I went to a therapist and told her I separated from him and she did that to me I'd be suspicious as well. On the other hand I wish he just talked and told her all he ever did to him (it's a lot) and got this over with. I don't know what to do now.",3.5631442324222107,4.923621638989172,4.890025786487879,83.49720818291219,72.68231046931406,8.164277118789753,28.3529310641224,8.704169506293173,2.1442382327660305,1082,42,216,20,21,360,130,277,0.087,0.816,0.097,0.8688,1,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,1,11,13,0,2,15,0,24,2,1,2,5,45,46,14,0,8,6,8,2,1,0,2,1,3,0,0,12,11,0,3,11,0,1,3,11,6,1,3,23,6,37,7,27,18,7,18,0,0,1,0,65,4,0,3,12,146,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177993834289904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415399719628702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116938469567561,0.0,0.08701855144638275,0.11521574006856418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105103168933298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566534405345357,0.0,0.0,0.09250302568638764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818882217173787,0.0,0.0,0.08698512592725954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811860019677392,0.0,0.08178931722149126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043111425046063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056201245076970927,0.0833582529560344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07223160568745213,0.049960691584840136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17388123174100772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887177506428734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692962707748419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09785218422565314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639804400986052,0.06551250002060388,0.21028744537546132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29182750003625496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872729821939269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564901383281645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160472012280928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287815249087838,0.2681479417335779,0.0,0.0,0.3562067819268155,0.0,0.1965786146114089,0.0,0.08118565145438597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931509478294797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437794711242191,0.1206351088456038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194700408349216,0.09479912018505494,0.09227673832365607,0.0,0.11759776868602168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NitemareHippieGirl42,2019/04/11,"Need help with my son's sportsmanship My son is a 5 year old Kindergartner.  We signed him up for a soccer team in the fall and he lucked out and got on the really good team that ended up winning the championship at the end of the season.  He is an average to slightly below average player for his age but eager to play.   

We have him signed up for soccer this spring through our local YMCA.  There has been 4 practices so far.  The first week was some confusion since no parent had stepped up to coach (and nobody still has) and they kept sending everyone over to the other Kindergarten team that was practicing at the same time so we really did not get much of a practice.  The 2nd week went okay.  

The only game played so far was that weekend and my son did not participate because he had a major melt-down when my husband asked him to start stretching before the game and then refused to take part in the game.  We had a long talk with him about his responsibility to his team and that if he had another melt down and refused to play we would take money from his piggy bank to help us recoup the cost of signing him up since he was the one who told us he wanted to play.  

The next practice the employee that has been coaching the team during practice spit the kids into teams towards the end of practice and had them play against each other.  Well my son was on the team that did poorly and he was crying and upset at the end of practice and one of the other kids even told me that he was crying on the field.  The game this past weekend was cancelled due to weather.  So we went to practice again tonight and he got put on the team that did poorly again.  After the coach told them to take a break and get some water he was over clinging to us, crying, and refused to go back out to finish the practice.   We encouraged him to go back out, kept telling him to try his best and winning is not everything.  Remember this is only a mock practice game that he is having a melt-down about.  

 What can we do to help him realize that it is not all about winning and that he enjoys playing soccer (which he does) and to just enjoy himself.    
He has also shown evidence of poor sportsmanship in other things.  We have recently introduced him to Wii Sports and he gets very upset and gives up if he is doing poorly and shoves it in your face when he is doing well against you.    
TLDR:  Our 5 year old Kindergarten has proven to be a very poor sport and hates losing.   What can we do to encourage good sportsmanship and being there for his team?",8.198255631220533,6.3048914779116485,7.734669111227522,78.1737061288633,62.93574297188755,10.588580408590886,33.70036668412781,8.964715089967882,2.6401832372970144,1988,60,396,24,23,628,212,498,0.095,0.764,0.141,0.9763,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,15,2,3,15,21,27,2,3,37,1,45,3,2,0,1,67,68,34,0,5,8,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,25,40,1,5,2,30,8,8,5,6,2,3,29,0,42,21,70,36,9,73,0,1,0,0,92,30,0,6,34,280,67,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372295089942585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666747150875013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08618361680806569,0.0,0.0,0.1417742258504128,0.0,0.05619713254978592,0.0,0.0784454540516033,0.0,0.09674593419741057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037935590313933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067460333777418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3266058865355567,0.0,0.0,0.060889503276394925,0.0,0.0,0.0880898721246079,0.08285290048645316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841532162603487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449374681911206,0.08843541848398198,0.10478547172986867,0.15464634585173706,0.14746281153539484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101686130674233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18537562448255104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08158374527374772,0.0,0.1031351278199812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776900846166854,0.06835645698175945,0.0,0.0,0.09804330382925128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19347222804440992,0.0,0.12493835704366435,0.1402267139519097,0.0,0.0,0.10236419836682847,0.09983094615841727,0.08800416450456973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267470495441156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118116372308001,0.0,0.09102482543013694,0.0,0.10443137385105096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525182302553913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525135384672287,0.0,0.07362169615966692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079423878370504,0.07409746420893848,0.08057663832466146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124581075515041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375573959626782,0.0,0.0,0.2642696163738237,0.0,0.0625898048920723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326735253033429,0.0,0.0,0.15213000591614084,0.05437504836993786,0.0,0.14789578849146193,0.0,0.16577670770487166,0.1709189570040418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06548792392683739,0.0,0.0,0.1187324864968675
parenting,veromharr,2019/04/12,"Why did I have kids It’s just one of those days/weeks/months. Whatever you want to call it. My son(3.5Years) started school 2 months ago and we have been sick almost every single week. Last week was the worst of it where all of us were sick and cooped up in the house. Since then my son has been an absolute terror. Today we were with family and he wasn’t listening at all, I lost. My. Shit. Packed all our stuff and took the kids home early. Tantrums all the way home and in bed. I know he’s only 3 and learning but please tell me it gets better. What works best when your kid isn’t listening and is throwing tantrums left and right?",0.4738850889192854,2.907896279069768,1.090341997264023,100.7608481532148,90.08527131782948,4.5856817145462845,15.34017327861377,6.2272716619740125,-0.7152393068855454,496,10,113,5,17,150,90,129,0.131,0.77,0.1,-0.0644,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,2,0,4,3,8,3,1,5,0,12,3,1,0,4,21,20,11,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,3,7,11,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,6,0,1,9,2,13,2,9,11,7,20,0,1,0,0,16,7,1,1,10,67,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066770700838894,0.0,0.17019990291959738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783725047124176,0.15032421095483178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355786395642353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320663507434775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023211837312806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880204888960519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34098653536034873,0.0,0.0,0.1961219832796963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341079250487844,0.13854782860737594,0.0,0.0,0.18467235984767733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18554178826912102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27133606772944874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11517573252773043,0.12926946441054324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18657547089869828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14515302491050738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201820895914752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447124995355112,0.14060052740535495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030528743220024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19457441346851997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1485608353313222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111121266294404,0.0,0.18884236928006568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044523815639423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100252415277874,0.13491387823617496,0.2726785621379228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337103732796115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373982084534765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pupsandteaching,2019/04/12,"She’s pregnant! I need to tell someone! We’ve been together since we were 16 and have been married 2 years. We just started trying and I’m so excited. So is she, but it’s not real to her yet so she’s not flipping out with excitement like I am. 

I need a space to release my excitement!!",-0.8997996357012745,1.2326616065573788,1.9484153005464468,93.16539162112934,96.86885245901638,5.334061930783244,23.171220400728608,6.937597516519254,1.0266051001821497,222,10,49,4,9,77,43,61,0.0,0.748,0.252,0.9507,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,13,10,6,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,10,4,5,7,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811156093591761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5497700139594749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4219617863628405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066643345739664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31411079495859545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26239831099467353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240265918724952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516953001120108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387322414042189
parenting,JohnnyEdge93,2019/04/12,"Trouble transitioning from swaddle Our 5 month old is a great sleeper. Goes down between 6:30-7, wakes up once between 2-3 to feed for about 20 minutes, and then sleeps until 5:30-6 when he’s up for the day. 

It’s not ideal, but compared to my 3 year old daughter who is a nightmare when it comes to sleep still, he’s a dream. 

Our issue is that we’ve kept him swaddled at night since the day he came home. Last week he started rolling, so it’s time to transition him out of the swaddle at night. 

Our problem is he won’t sleep for even 10 minutes unswaddled. Unswaddled, his arms flail or he rubs his head and wakes himself up constantly. 

He’s a bit too young to sleep train. If he would even sleep an hour at a time I’d be open to getting up with him all night until he transitions, but he just won’t sleep at all unswaddled really. 

Any advice?",5.189655172413794,4.8692452068965535,5.3695632183908035,87.55675862068968,68.19540229885058,8.109425287356322,31.193103448275863,7.1686216300943375,1.65428,662,24,145,5,10,209,108,174,0.045,0.924,0.031,-0.3045,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,3,0,0,1,9,4,0,0,9,0,8,11,10,0,2,19,13,12,0,4,6,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,7,1,1,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,1,10,2,27,7,3,36,0,0,0,0,21,11,0,2,23,77,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537702183023472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08029191624533336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289022895118573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504107561516365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170718915454892,0.0,0.12759214987372464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522912719077084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596876244284102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061686907319658514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017302543029313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211742868275873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184342313439994,0.0,0.11627555392373005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323481494634915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624312917901112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424266146896504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324031973921836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2477900323654302,0.1257411154559346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129774206261862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563891730850522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976690494374898,0.0,0.7089339739120211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08357083207754361,0.0,0.09429116860128513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769559165183454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470894760305892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387381979004781,0.0,0.0,0.0760334621905877
parenting,captain_i_patch,2019/04/12,"I got my first birthday card from my daughter that she hand picked for the first time. It is such a small thing but I took my time opening it. I washed my hands, face, brushed my teeth . All my night time routines because I wanted to prolong this card.",2.033200000000001,4.289483920000002,1.7620000000000005,100.241,79.8,4.0,24.0,3.1291,-0.1993999999999998,196,7,43,0,5,57,37,50,0.0,0.954,0.046,0.2732,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,4,1,1,5,4,1,0,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,11,0,3,2,1,9,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,27,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403682263387104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5415030683513709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25457896256215984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987092948597075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114688415469701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5568216261044789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3536504789237361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877455510193284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,soccermom34,2019/04/12,"I need help My son decided to ""spit fire"" school and got in trouble also he was caught touching his how do I say it Willie in the bathrom and is now listening to the raper m&m I think how do I discipline him",1.8395454545454548,3.6925175000000046,3.45,89.92000000000002,78.54545454545455,7.127272727272729,26.90909090909091,8.07648339933343,1.6714727272727274,166,7,36,3,4,55,35,44,0.197,0.747,0.056,-0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,2,0,8,9,5,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,7,0,4,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,24,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3403912294235493,0.0,0.4611903482430232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34043026696844503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2853034500696905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31561322691493443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384930476870437,0.0,0.4307793578008705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272738594419046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,infinitesimallyok,2019/04/12,"After completing his responsibilities, what fun things can my 11yo brother do instead of playing video games/watching TV while at home? So here's my situation. Currently, I live at home (19F) while commuting to university, which means I have a pretty big role in my younger brother's (11M) life. He definitely sees me as a ""third parent"" considering our age gap. Recently, I've been trying to crack down on his video-game playing and wanting to put that time towards more productive activities...but I'm having trouble coming up with ideas of what those activities could be!

 **Some Background:** My brother is honestly a pretty great kid, very logical and reasonable if the logic behind decisions is explained to him (etc. after I explained to him why he wasn't allowed to have a cell phone until he showed he was more mature, he stopped asking), is involved in a ton of after school activities, swim team, piano classes, fencing classes. I keep an eye on him and make sure he does some ""at-home homework"" every day to teach him discipline. He also spends time reading before he goes to bed, I'd say for about an hour. That said, all of his friends play at least 2-3 hours of video games a day on the computer and iPad, and he isn't allowed to play more than 30 minutes (the computer has a password and he has to ask permission to access it). I've considered banning video game time altogether because I've seen how addictive it can be, but it just makes me feel so cruel!, I usually get complaints when I tell him to turn off the video games, and the inevitable ""what do I do now"". To that question, I honestly don't have a good answer of fun at-home activities he can regularly do (i.e. so not making slime or something). 

**Thus, I'm wondering if anyone can share some insight on what an 11 year old boy can do at home besides playing video games/watching TV, assuming his homework, ""at-home homework"", and responsibilities are accounted for**. I'd also be open to options outside of the house/locally that I could maybe implement weekly/monthly to give him more social exposure. These are ideas my parents would definitely contribute towards so no need to restrict it to a college student budget/capacity! My only idea so far is to take him to the library weekly so he has more books to keep him interested.",6.1818551587301585,7.121150247685188,6.870661375661378,73.28333333333335,66.19907407407408,9.782539682539683,35.335978835978835,9.871247098662263,3.6113006613756617,1825,86,320,39,28,602,233,432,0.04,0.852,0.108,0.9714,6,0,1,0,0,0,80.0,1,0,0,1,15,17,1,0,19,0,34,3,1,8,2,58,58,26,0,7,6,5,1,0,1,1,2,2,7,2,16,11,0,7,16,20,2,3,5,2,0,1,5,6,30,15,53,47,12,44,0,0,3,0,52,18,0,10,23,195,46,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255991602609752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514116752912175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219619621563969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930533562198641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06294145831005209,0.0,0.0878598435859323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894245185450296,0.10825775318056033,0.0,0.0,0.1648766339642227,0.0,0.0,0.1331779909769196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035651735728722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515326878742632,0.0,0.0,0.08699425971224094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05220731146903946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07977223585372728,0.0,0.053944906254313904,0.09904872282781206,0.0,0.08660287534782843,0.0,0.1138356899185922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107105114240864,0.0,0.2033648347316356,0.0,0.0,0.34967680626150005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355023607986232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292993818186673,0.0,0.0,0.09117340398571007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20676452695232167,0.0,0.10373050782678636,0.11247169282306456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824147579932283,0.0,0.0,0.07656004660964985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108345600772619,0.0,0.0,0.07852779554491117,0.0,0.0,0.22929824464761525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21008879905153527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10379677420581654,0.11566586566345692,0.0,0.10327993729048676,0.0,0.0,0.10616024831301264,0.10194888947252094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821629250730242,0.08211013131888559,0.0,0.10449653214501917,0.08227847259876224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605956940649788,0.0,0.1052524069223588,0.0,0.07948843082915301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632329183558032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731378413640164,0.0,0.07763265099776724,0.0,0.09024679537488507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685960380789095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806212073041472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07010132753230076,0.11230852191044782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113717486079096,0.08519370998685619,0.060900702309882315,0.0,0.08282252299368513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316886641961496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197238504675357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334725539601576,0.0,0.0,0.0664909000674615
parenting,kelloite,2019/04/12,"My daughter signed milk today! My daughter is speech delayed. So I’ve been working on ASL with her. 

Today she successfully asked for milk via sign language. I’m so proud of her!

I just had to brag sorry.",0.7433333333333323,3.280508000000001,2.055000000000004,92.20333333333336,94.0,3.6666666666666674,21.66666666666667,5.46131890053228,0.13466666666666693,160,6,31,1,6,51,32,40,0.073,0.75,0.177,0.7633,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,6,2,5,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,17,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3739160872210615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44773142885903056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7582457917733976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911814667644141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,m1lkwithice,2019/04/12,"My child very lethargic and her behavior is different Hi everybody i’m not sure how to word this, but my 11 month old baby girl is acting very strangely and i’m just worried of what it might be. Her pupils are large and she’s staring quite intensely, she has no appetite, and she puked. What could be the problem??",2.6526344086021503,4.950151145161293,3.285161290322584,89.91440860215056,77.87096774193549,6.713978494623658,26.46236559139785,7.793537801064563,1.5559591397849468,249,10,50,4,6,78,49,62,0.279,0.721,0.0,-0.9588,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,1,13,10,6,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,2,6,0,3,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,2,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23770101192691925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110485605935132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158283146636025,0.0,0.0,0.23763308240455056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124015613646017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2848728196662516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31665629547582863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28059263956929004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4912917151881807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3023437918994862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,_but_is_it_art,2019/04/12,"My Daughter is Struggling With Me Disowning My Mom Obligatory on mobile warning. 


I (23) have finally disowned my mom. After spending my entire life playing second to whatever guy of the moment she was with, I finally had enough this week. The problem is, my 5 year old daughter keeps asking about her “mum-mum” & I don’t know how to explain it to her. 


I’m going to copy & paste a message I sent to a friend explaining the situation; feel free to ask any questions if something doesn’t make sense. 


So, my entire life my mom been the type of person to put men in front of my siblings & me. But she swore she would never do that to her grand babies, they’re her chance to start over & be a good person blah blah blah. Well, I went to the hospital on Monday bc I *thought* I was having an asthma attack. I asked my mom to babysit so michael & i wouldn’t have to deal with them. She was like idk I’m cleaning bc it’s my day off blah blah. I was fine w that I was like okay cool it’s probably just asthma anyway so it’s not a big deal. We get there, they’re like nah this ain’t asthma bc the nebulizer treatments weren’t working but I also wasn’t wheezing. So they said they were going to do a blood test to test for proteins that appear when you have a blood clot. 


Well, the test came back elevated (obviously) so I asked my mom again. Again it was idk, lets see what happens. Okay..... suuuure. I get a CAT scan. Now there’s DEFINITELY a blood clot but they can’t see how big it is because it’s right behind my effing heart. So they’re saying they may need surgery, blah blah blah. So I’m freaking tf out. I call my mom again & I’m like look they’re talking about surgery, I have a blood clot in my lung, I’m freaking out. Please take them bc 1) it’s too much for my fiancé to deal with between me ya know being super seriously not okay & 2) the kids being jerks bc all kids are jerks & 3) I don’t want them to see me freaking out bc I started to have an anxiety attack a little bit not gonna lie. SHE SAID “idk bc I want to wait to see what the weathers going to be bc (her ex) is supposed to take me out riding on his moped” BITCH WHAT. so she told me to ask my fiancé’s mom instead. Keep in mind, she didn’t like his mom for a long time bc she was jealous that she always does so much for them & she cant, but when she has a chance to she refuses. So I was like bruh tf??? I messaged my sister letting her know what was up in case his mom couldn’t take them, & she sent my mom a message cussing her out. 


My mom then messaged my dad about it (keep in mind they’ve been split up since before I was born) & was like I was gonna change my mind but then my sister messaged her being disrespectful. Like what does that have to do with me being in the hospital?? Or her grandkids??? Seriously.?????? Tf????? But whatever his mom takes them. The next day (Tuesday) my mom comes to visit me & it’s awkward. The most she said to me was regarding some sodas she gave me to bring my nana bc she’s also in the hospital, which we obviously didn’t bring bc ya know, I was also admitted into the hospital. (Btw my nana even managed to visit me. She threatened the nurses saying she’d discharge herself if they didn’t let her see me. She rocks) 

my mom offered to take the kids until 5:30. I asked her why only until 5:30, she said she had a side job. I told her no bc there was enough going on & i didn’t want to have to bring my youngest to her, pick My oldest up from school at 2:30, being my oldest to mom, then pick them up at 5:30 to take them back to the hospital, then back to My fiancés mom when she was ready (his mom didn’t even wait for us to ask, when she found out I was staying another day she was like okay bring them to me). That was too much disruption for them & my oldest was already acting out. 


Well, I can access my moms fb & I do it fairly regularly bc she has herpes & doesn’t tell people then screws them for one, & two, my dad sometimes exaggerates so I like to see what is actually being said about me. So I went through her fb. 
Her little “sidejob” that meant she couldn’t take her grand babies?? Screwing her maintenance man. For money. Not only that, but she lied to me about it numerous times when I asked her, & she didn’t even want to come visit me- it was all his idea to see me & bring me a card. She also lied to him about his chance of contracting herpes from her (don’t worry, I messaged him letting him know). 

I just don’t know how to explain to my 5 year old what happened, or how to deal with it personally. 



**TLDR; I disowned my mom after she refused to help with my kids when I was in the hospital & almost died from a blood clot in my lungs because she was too busy spreading herpes to her maintenance man & lying about it. How do I explain to my 5 year old why we won’t be seeing her anymore?**",0.6599238938852992,2.785980913300495,2.457414922944817,94.02969991413208,84.20197044334975,5.222307588014644,19.656754191711485,6.50215548468333,0.03546151760292826,3757,105,842,38,109,1240,336,1015,0.099,0.812,0.08900000000000001,-0.9181,3,0,1,0,0,0,176.0,4,3,16,2,57,42,8,2,36,5,87,17,8,8,5,93,175,45,1,12,17,27,1,18,1,6,6,7,1,11,33,21,1,7,17,2,3,24,27,16,3,3,52,19,180,27,114,101,10,109,0,0,10,2,171,35,3,10,59,533,213,8,0.0,0.0,0.025994810163143426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02667407296836493,0.0,0.029395655523790813,0.08520948032633947,0.022164919861361664,0.6061066771675527,0.0,0.018114728885263536,0.02793222772294772,0.020377969448066826,0.0,0.026417702323108205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992232028497613,0.06060905896341901,0.0,0.06144884985441915,0.0,0.032476511059156256,0.0,0.02266694527332368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029081757372215643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027200339412615144,0.0304667342309848,0.0,0.0,0.02817943370488095,0.04589249437234478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051537848974187866,0.1098502843173004,0.0,0.0,0.027646000903354555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04662212338273919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504827490543367,0.0,0.05278237171951323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.013468954913158516,0.0,0.0,0.05836117472904495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029207152455461825,0.020580424806454185,0.0,0.02783447335972479,0.0,0.060555874954280914,0.022342660263237817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026375772244499603,0.04711172695132425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031566115440933414,0.0178548656768565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03007101882339765,0.0,0.0,0.026434068834203527,0.0710311386804138,0.0,0.0,0.08783716979503732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895649133112204,0.037630363316966765,0.13013963610607185,0.0533964756808212,0.0,0.023573759775758776,0.022369180706881358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01778104772938366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806902496317523,0.5927631653698877,0.0,0.0,0.058745905340195616,0.019751712680056543,0.020544839913747063,0.0,0.02832977677523002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385618627637369,0.0,0.01805057371319934,0.04051874374919228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02542895066089412,0.01846741011395249,0.06977772772735374,0.0,0.02924048509716212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02872023044561758,0.025488933886525487,0.0,0.02677851114280257,0.029840615917110236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022748675596312298,0.12669401835631275,0.04236715607557955,0.0,0.02695904156791044,0.1698160669949038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022035198981122328,0.029942187475096037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02050720599911557,0.0263456273968901,0.0,0.037708975861902534,0.02839252518991853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027847783557356842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401990358550817,0.02141058632933926,0.02328275453682797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02114756782212782,0.03106562189707251,0.0,0.0,0.05090743204237362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02602142005196011,0.0,0.03204219068778707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284704502187881,0.0,0.021367367838076176,0.0,0.07185218582582674,0.04938731876082495,0.04807323824212127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019392754952865254,0.027052145345968892,0.0,0.018922845251641045,0.0,0.0,0.05146192611403081
parenting,jayne-eerie,2019/04/12,"My beloved daughter, 11, got a D in gym class She decided not to wear her gym uniform because the one-size shorts fit funny and dressing out is, in her words, “stupid.”  And because she did that all term, the teacher knocked her grade down and she got a D+ on her report card. I asked, and it’s not that kids are picking on each other about their bodies or anything — she just thought changing was inconvenient and didn’t want to do it. 

Her dad and I completely sympathize; gym uniforms and changing in public suck. But at the same time, she can’t just not participate every time she’s asked to do something she thinks is dumb. 

She’s generally a really well-behaved kid who doesn’t need a lot of discipline.  So even having to figure out a punishment was kind of a novelty. We wanted to make the point that school is important without going overboard.

So we took her phone away until she goes to spring break camp Tuesday, and we’re also making her sort the giant basket of orphaned socks. I’m thinking about having her write an apology note to the gym teacher as well - is that too much?",4.7781674565560825,6.0332377488151705,5.163298578199054,83.09856556082148,69.61611374407583,7.901548183254343,29.70647709320695,8.238735603445708,2.0642926382306483,859,33,164,12,15,273,133,211,0.07200000000000001,0.856,0.07200000000000001,-0.4767,0,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,2,0,1,0,10,6,4,0,13,0,15,2,2,3,1,40,31,15,0,3,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,13,0,1,5,4,0,2,7,4,1,0,8,0,23,2,25,23,6,23,0,0,0,0,31,14,2,3,6,110,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236679504897345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13620938246158545,0.0,0.3094789072720457,0.0,0.15551208876069125,0.0,0.0,0.2017996902133075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838561157520109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3501977771980011,0.0,0.17354524062192564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932482086637599,0.0,0.1394582770372715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094069193455776,0.0,0.2647639508960977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236427431010407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407197280353753,0.0,0.0,0.22097262337827486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167671456824022,0.12273145636725985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216106856001462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647050466638435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603675961472654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751572319275315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742587435651462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21211788382766916,0.0,0.1314048983739935,0.19303283113428885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18389952000311727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952567225145524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29764586502512363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595559891873265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Excal45,2019/04/12,"what worked for you? terrible sportsmanship question. last fall we put my son in a developmental soccer league, it was only an 8 game season and i basically spent the whole time just trying to get him to pay attention and to occasionally try.  By what I believe to be a miracle he scored a goal toward the end of the season and he took a good step forward.

This year i put his sister in soccer as well with him in the same spring league. the first game happens he goes out their and is trying super hard to play and score a goal. downside is everytime the other team scores or even shoots the ball he falls to the field crying.  at the end of the game they do the typical high five lines and he straight up refused and then what i believe is the first ever kick to the metaphorical nuts to him is they gave my daughter the sportsmanship medal (all the kids on the team will get one through the season) he basically lost it after that and was inconsolable for at least an hour.

im curious what others may have done to help me teach my son to be a bit better of a sport.

notes: son is 4. we never have done the ha ha you lose or anything like that. when something is ""competitive"" we have always said things like we will get em next time. we are also always very supportive at soccer games and practice",4.118177349989761,5.462577147859921,4.791099733770224,84.80462215850912,71.29571984435799,7.90079868933033,24.810362482080695,8.371475516178862,1.4082731517509732,1025,29,208,16,19,329,149,257,0.073,0.7829999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.9628,0,0,1,1,0,0,18.0,5,2,3,12,6,13,0,0,27,2,20,0,0,0,3,27,30,15,0,0,3,5,1,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,12,16,0,1,2,12,2,7,1,3,1,4,9,2,22,10,30,16,5,38,0,2,0,0,37,13,0,4,22,138,34,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496986014830094,0.21844034528878412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080171188143453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29577376473848405,0.0,0.11609022503215112,0.14330367900552307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14418471234276248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686523951968117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325176475913163,0.0,0.0,0.0866970538406984,0.1187336389137535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233021126839627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057363169930345,0.0,0.0,0.11009600876291728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11607420607391684,0.0,0.11758461797332186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798188867662775,0.1386850951575144,0.0,0.0,0.12926624281675653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178506077796085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699572942098454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12825558235526438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14684816344925886,0.14328755039666924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123704377756323,0.0,0.13959820877861842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894626236491351,0.09983036742973343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639083406094477,0.14704304110583644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248598474024726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010515983674717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895411674729342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872043795209439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307939790111308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583647574850456,0.2673540459005734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830457307089336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801994908862,0.0,0.0,0.14654889722698128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556001362741727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845281716926857
parenting,happybear33,2019/04/12,"My ADHD son's (6) behavior is getting worse, not sure what to do My son just turned 6, he's in kindergarten. He has ADHD, he sees a guidance counselor at school for some basic strategies to manage his energy and emotions, like count to 10 when you're angry, etc. But lately, his behavior has been getting way worse. He's in regular kindergarten (not special ed or ICT).

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Leading up to this, he's been getting more timeouts than normal for things like misbehaving in class, not sitting when he's supposed to, not listening to the teachers. But this week there have been a few serious incidents. He was more fidgety than normal earlier this week, and was outright defiant a few times. The teacher would ask him to sit, and he would not want to, and throw a huge tantrum and hide under his desk; or recess would end, and he would not want to go back, and he would run away from the teacher. His verbal outbursts are escalating too - today when he wouldn't leave class after school ended. He was playing with a toy, and when the teacher asked him to put it away, he said something like ""if you take my toy, I'm going to kill you"". I'm not sure where he gets this language from - we don't talk like this at home and he watches a small amount of TV, only kids shows. There are older kids in the school, but he only sees them in passing. 

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We've been trying things like behavior charts, and a point system of punishment and rewards. We make him talk through what he does wrong and have him suggest strategies to change his behavior. We've been trying more sleep, and more exercise to get his energy out. But the emotional outbursts are getting worse and I don't know what to do. He has behavioral therapy but I don't think it has been that helpful with the emotional outbursts. We're considering medication (not sure what kind??) but not sure how much that will help. Any advice / thoughts / even stories are appreciated, thanks.",5.545694822888284,6.6964440381471375,5.471984741144414,81.97785177111717,67.7465940054496,8.378811989100816,31.02877384196185,8.608573733854374,2.3643188882833788,1530,60,286,23,25,477,178,367,0.106,0.7809999999999999,0.113,0.7156,0,0,1,0,0,0,64.0,2,2,1,2,12,19,3,0,14,0,32,3,1,3,4,59,57,28,1,11,19,2,0,5,0,7,2,2,1,2,15,19,0,0,3,6,0,7,13,5,0,0,11,5,20,14,38,39,10,41,0,0,3,0,46,16,0,4,19,172,35,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434422283765213,0.07901066285315025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17521292286157206,0.19649558041706527,0.05498423710076194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15117719799791948,0.0,0.15193204629599408,0.06217257701113255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553396929141152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075683832902739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728532965424845,0.1432272298516804,0.0,0.09017480377682834,0.05340402755033275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25346069916028185,0.0,0.09190362735814783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839093137929144,0.0,0.0811042526020599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945418271306545,0.08419813891303607,0.044435845556588124,0.0,0.0912080687301554,0.08561387083512555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750857584416545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053971403626567306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145300161977945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05943779798165497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844165147632175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298788612525195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643419925866153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812817025972195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691171078159298,0.0,0.0,0.24548901774375956,0.12886208441632474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091348737868638,0.0,0.0,0.062246202196646026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30481987985872355,0.0,0.06079296874604266,0.12997652492126666,0.0,0.07444050806376361,0.09246484749084403,0.0,0.10743306444999368,0.05180867995977277,0.0,0.06418991366645582,0.04714725599511524,0.0,0.07664117572871805,0.0,0.0,0.10979060379761676,0.08794712501332032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538085958814428,0.0641790107543506,0.12971415988276144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2471947477239948,0.2871856974861156,0.08840235331422447,0.19649558041706527,0.0
parenting,SeparateCelebration,2019/04/12,"Amazing Child's Book Recommendation  Hey Fellow Parents!

My close friend has recently published his newest children’s book, “Where Will You Go Ricky Jo?”, and it just got released on Amazon. It’s about this adorable little Chihuahua that sets out to explore, letting nothing stop her from pursuing her dream, not even her size! I read it to my kids and it was a perfect way to bring up the importance of going after what you want and letting nothing stop you in life. The illustrations are beautiful and easily grabbed the attention of my little kiddos. I told him it was such a great book, that I would share my experience and hope to get other parents to check it out. Thanks to everybody in advance!!

[https://www.amazon.com/Where-Will-You-Go-Ricky-ebook/dp/B07KBXBKK5](https://www.amazon.com/Where-Will-You-Go-Ricky-ebook/dp/B07KBXBKK5)",10.250384615384617,13.357839423076925,7.361538461538466,65.43846153846158,58.615384615384606,8.584615384615384,33.0,9.120678840339163,3.115138461538462,695,26,96,11,10,197,91,130,0.0,0.701,0.299,0.9914,2,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,3,0,2,5,8,0,0,5,0,8,1,0,0,1,18,17,5,0,3,2,2,1,0,2,2,1,0,0,3,11,8,0,2,2,5,1,5,1,0,0,0,4,1,15,8,17,9,0,22,0,0,0,0,18,10,0,1,5,66,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11069649755229996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16394240995664938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948533023407455,0.0,0.08756272061364892,0.0,0.38099784332971387,0.0,0.1340429456460297,0.184776717661022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664620275070555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34275937921193816,0.11837899525275022,0.0,0.3359532347796125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3216284377819847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721941426429607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764274742323565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654822066734104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28023785044004745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543011622279981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014649142004653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885328480126487,0.13303100969645384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190563795169388,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iHateNumbers123,2019/04/12,"What do you do when your three year old gets violent during a tantrum? Everyone says to ignore him, but what do you do when he starts hitting, punching, and kicking? Am I supposed to keep ignoring him? Do I restrain him? Doesn’t that just give him the attention he wanted?",3.1534615384615385,5.552113576923084,3.896769230769234,85.64823076923078,76.69230769230771,7.236923076923077,29.63076923076923,8.238735603445708,2.331187692307692,214,10,40,4,5,68,39,52,0.194,0.8059999999999999,0.0,-0.8628,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,0,3,4,2,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,13,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,4,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,9,0,2,12,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,0,5,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936112379846023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2152133996594316,0.3951552398887248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661371671387368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322451682554219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275786674706955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915620780042569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429635733162229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26526568759751235
parenting,rockbixarro,2019/04/12,"Whining and complaining I’m at my whits end with my 9 yo daughter who complains about EVERYTHING. There is always a problem either she has a minor pain from a scrape or a bruise. She is tired, kids are picking on her, teachers are mean, the list goes on.  It’s a battle every morning getting ready for school she’s picky to eat breakfast and each night it’s another battle getting ready for bed brushing teeth and washing her hands a face. 

I’ve been over this behavior for a long while I’m so frustrated I just wish she wouldn’t be so whiny about every little thing.  Her teachers tell my wife and I she complains a lot in class too. 

How can I get her to chill out and just go with the flow more. I think that a better outlook on life will make feel better about herself and make life in general more enjoyable if she’s not so picky. It’s like she has to have an opinion on everything and if it’s not what she wants she’ll complain and whine. 

My wife gives in to most requests eventually and I am completely against giving in hopes of curbing the behavior to some extent. 

Of course I think it’s important to speak up for oneself and make your voice heard but right now I question everything she says now like the “boy who called wolf” as an excuse to get out if things like PE, homework or chores around the house.",3.261911510542689,5.087120467680613,3.6988886968544783,89.83573712409266,74.36121673003801,6.759004493605255,26.022986519184236,7.520522993642371,1.244180228136882,1045,37,214,13,22,326,154,263,0.086,0.8079999999999999,0.106,0.7447,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,14,18,3,0,16,0,14,11,3,5,0,48,34,22,0,8,11,3,2,3,0,3,6,4,3,2,12,16,2,1,5,0,0,2,3,11,0,0,2,7,28,7,35,28,8,24,0,2,0,0,37,16,0,11,9,140,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108712403557688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13971991565561895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861707664508865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356902929351995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13605893401092936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970576262512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13634379284366716,0.0,0.0,0.11801629391756152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453078952850045,0.0,0.35925839645271285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673731169279342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2784618762752165,0.2556431655592206,0.07572670022048865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323432169059569,0.0,0.15374784739137248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18823100115346048,0.1952916089673898,0.13354736959097666,0.0,0.1179184045119638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328087622068635,0.0,0.0,0.26682796449246204,0.0,0.0,0.14514381795248654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250422253921442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178300329641882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274983051155348,0.0,0.0,0.14926587239674588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379124741212608,0.0,0.10596246622651627,0.0,0.13485193703079498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646276596275665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704527447363785,0.1707571502414752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531465296369335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859186811698317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322617794877744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,juliefromva,2019/04/12,"How can I welcome nieces (6 and 9) into our family? I’m not really sure if this is the right forum, I don’t have kids I know nothing about children. But my sister got engaged to a man who has 2 girls ages 6 and 9. I (28F) want to be a good role model and someone they can come to and trust so I want to find a fun way to welcome them to the family.  From what I understand their mother is a bit Looney (I obviously only have one side of this story though!) 

What do kids like? How can I make them feel included? I’d like to send a fun gift for them to open and then possibly do something with them like go to the zoo or whatever, but I don’t want them to feel smothered or pressured to like me. 

I have met them a few times before in family settings.

Thanks parents!",1.353207712532864,2.83263536809816,3.5016345311130586,90.69480061349695,78.75460122699387,6.865731814198071,21.458808063102538,7.7094869923839395,0.7049372480280445,587,16,135,9,14,201,99,163,0.039,0.7559999999999999,0.205,0.9644,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,1,0,8,0,5,15,1,1,9,0,14,0,0,3,2,28,28,15,0,4,6,3,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,5,5,9,0,0,5,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,2,2,21,13,18,25,2,13,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,3,7,85,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691789598073282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884960921300882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872821708418646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4882953179409552,0.0,0.17460054657029175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780483920081162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812462189188018,0.144816012784501,0.13808911088673054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488745262892236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3374048208058116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524950050541068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566849077789533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116996458023367,0.13131298698681934,0.0,0.0,0.19171452099589745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19464417052800434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106081232505386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474476386057986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14629122368464487,0.13291934671847114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16272663177757504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895883366454908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16963405522526515,0.0,0.10067734649322768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17974142142780103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055116882275948,0.13704662905467455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AASthrowawayaye,2019/04/12,"Found the cure to kids sneak watching TV Background:

Stepson (10) is obsessed with TV and video games. It has become a situation where he thinks TV is right and not a privilege. Even when grounded, he’ll go through our room to search for remotes, unplug security cameras so he can’t be caught, etc. he always apologizes when caught and simply says he doesn’t know why he did it. FWIW, he’s only left alone for an hour and a half while we go to the gym.

The solution: 

Merkury SmartPlug (9.88 at Walmart). Once synced to your WiFi, you can shut your electronic devices off with a push of a button. It’s a crappy workaround, but I’d rather do this than constantly admonish my stepson for lying and going through our room searching for remotes just to get a TV Fix. 

Hopefully some other parents with TV/video game obsessed children find this useful to help break the cycle!",5.7663636363636375,6.815178484848487,5.564242424242426,81.88636363636367,67.18181818181819,8.181818181818182,32.57575757575758,8.296473431620573,2.4511212121212127,690,29,127,9,11,214,115,165,0.079,0.82,0.101,0.6907,1,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,3,3,0,0,8,5,0,2,12,0,9,0,0,1,0,20,21,10,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,6,9,0,1,4,8,0,6,3,2,0,1,4,2,7,3,19,15,2,21,0,0,1,0,21,9,0,2,5,71,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844320568476744,0.0,0.0,0.17549727167757162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23293784637703024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279230115429187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522476570441195,0.13930665043960927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192771495564442,0.0,0.0,0.2312562193531677,0.0,0.0,0.11019381445473128,0.0,0.3596017120182682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137115009020085,0.0,0.0,0.2094851055828387,0.20770771905125784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115912770775685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22915858373121825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246164339878744,0.0,0.16040953507307326,0.0,0.0,0.2341949405415299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801193293908756,0.0,0.16772720917803688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23707607529400265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13514511919707609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821619021775488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903170010306522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mananahabit,2019/04/12,"It finally happened: ""tits"" and ""bare breasts"" in my son's browser search history \[Note: Since this post was unnecessarily banned from r/CasualConversation after a few thousand up votes, someone suggested I repost it here\]

Last night after I put the kids to bed, I picked up my 10 year old son's iPad and it opened to a weird google search result page: ""My friend told me to do that he said it wouldn't show anything"" was the query (obviously he was using the mic for voice input and it caught that). So I hit the back button and saw another search result page for ""bare breasts"", hit back again and saw another one for ""tits"". His mom and I monitor his browsing history and there was never anything remotely like this.

I immediately started cracking up, because this is a day we knew would come, and started thinking about how I would talk to him about it in the morning.

While we were eating breakfast I asked him what that first search was about (the ""My friend told me..."" one), and he said his friend told him that if he searched for that exact term it wouldn't show anything. I said ""oh, really? whats this?"" and showed him the other search results I found.

He immediately put his head into his arms and started BAWLING. "" I'm sorry!! I'm a bad kid!!"" he starts blabbering. That hurt me, because he's an awesome kid and just would never want to hear anything like that come out of his mouth, but I knew he was just freaking out because he got busted. We stand there for like solid 5 minutes of me just hugging him and calming him down, letting him know it was ok.

I let him know I got caught doing basically the same thing when I was 10 years old, except it was with grampa's magazines. That seemed to mellow him out.

We still need to have a bigger talk about it later but man, this is as big a day as baby's first steps.",5.514139427987744,5.906689019662924,5.769223697650666,82.52169050051077,67.51123595505618,8.382839632277836,29.10316649642493,8.150884317080207,1.785122471910113,1425,46,288,17,22,454,176,356,0.056,0.88,0.064,0.7777,1,0,0,0,0,0,62.0,4,0,0,2,17,13,0,0,15,1,22,10,7,6,4,58,57,22,0,8,7,3,0,3,3,5,0,5,1,4,27,25,2,1,7,3,0,7,4,4,0,5,25,7,41,9,35,23,5,49,0,1,2,5,49,13,2,2,30,179,68,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005218777083866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139956434755573,0.0,0.08917798729687748,0.0,0.0,0.1467000409146151,0.07964774982008009,0.17444895067957036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16434231441386093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303899212233813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760911291479407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10449650490846636,0.0,0.16227957968904014,0.0,0.10459163524703906,0.22109724197196487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15258627127649813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435421030285252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789899273705396,0.0,0.10751292633209626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211835806347958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484912600711012,0.07775664005263416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19508813151983284,0.0,0.13981011026198073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172113599803453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707314392009642,0.14714330030934644,0.0,0.0,0.08951827173689954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001942426397248,0.0,0.12927922533288153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913584954526463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19178920465990293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061110108506436986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722169080216609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684065558386586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890866793481224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082473773339753,0.0,0.0,0.10678274896366756,0.2700738084550904,0.0,0.07617961427080545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334382488661433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633737401120373,0.06112289240053503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734514211026933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08238745440772084,0.0,0.0,0.05626425940791576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032897248111253,0.0,0.0,0.12285773752249153
parenting,electraglideinblue,2019/04/12,"Trying to help teach my teenager the ins and out of talking to boys.... She asked for my help, and together we carefully crafted this message to her crush: 


Hey want to come over this weekend and let me kick your ass at SmashBros?


*1 hour later...*


She yells from upstairs:
OH MY GOD! He says hes busy, maybe next  weekend! Before, he told me he's never busy! What do i say? 


Me, shouting back from downstairs:
Ugh, id just be like, 'whatevs.' No, don't do that. Gather your thoughts before you reply.


Her: I can't leave him On Read!


Me: yaaas! Leave him On Read!


Her: no, thats what thots do! 


Me: Gather your thoughts! (under my breath) and ask them what you should do! 


Me: (looks over at my DH and slaps knee. He is not as amused as he should be)


Man teenagers are weird!",-0.6050432900432909,1.5803612987013018,0.5514610389610404,102.53766774891777,98.35064935064936,3.0861471861471865,16.806277056277057,4.7782277997778095,-1.0061593073593071,576,16,132,2,24,178,98,154,0.116,0.795,0.08900000000000001,-0.6574,0,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,1,5,1,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,14,3,3,0,1,16,23,7,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,0,2,7,8,0,0,2,5,0,1,6,2,0,0,3,5,28,3,19,15,0,17,0,0,1,1,34,9,1,0,8,79,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32969074427957035,0.0,0.0,0.1355873998197882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000888230209608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17978086834005674,0.0,0.0,0.15189325751252444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363814603845629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365018934611492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734174355669165,0.0,0.18031005529078725,0.0,0.08614625781403491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480733515109183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17714785694252594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599708197394858,0.0,0.18752966635805415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527567721295521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28045044994282464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417279120385412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799737088952585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849151021900574,0.0,0.11971694924997167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400439684056467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bekindorbesilent,2019/04/12,"My sons father says he doesn't want him in his life anymore Yesterday my sons father turned up on our doorstep unexpectedly and dropped our son off stating that he doesn't want him back - ever. He said this to our 12 year olds face and left without a backwards glance.

Also I'm not even in the country at the moment but my husband (my sons stepfather) was luckily there to take him in, give him a cuddle, get him settled into his room and deal with the emotional fall out until I can get home tomorrow.

We've had a fairly stable custody arrangement for a number of years now after a long period of very difficult coparenting and poor communication (fuelled partly by his family and his lifestyle) so this has been a jolt from the blue as things seemed to be improving and becoming calmer.

I've since tried talking to my ex to establish what's happened and why he's done this but he's claiming that it ""just isn't working out""

He's had a new girlfriend for a little under a year, his first serious relationship since we broke up, she's now pregnant (unplanned), due in 3 months and she has two children (younger) from a previous relationship. They moved in together approx 2 months ago.

That was a lot of upheaval and stress for everyone but it seemed to be going well and our son was excited to see his dad with someone he cared about, liked the kids and was looking forward to being a big brother.

I'm incredibly angry that he has now traumatised our son with his behaviour but I can see similarities between this and how he was when I was pregnant.

We broke up when our son was only a few months old as my ex wasn't coping with the financial and emotional responsibilities and became violent towards me and I later found out had developed a dependency on alcohol.

Where do I go from here? 

My sons distraught.",7.821063218390805,7.117510244252872,8.158045977011492,71.0082183908046,62.93678160919541,11.526436781609194,36.86206896551725,10.864195022040775,3.975837931034484,1447,61,265,33,18,478,195,348,0.116,0.795,0.08900000000000001,-0.9144,1,0,1,0,0,1,28.0,8,0,1,2,17,11,1,2,20,0,25,4,1,2,1,41,45,27,0,2,7,15,0,1,1,0,2,2,2,2,12,25,1,0,3,0,1,5,6,7,1,2,15,7,36,4,47,27,3,58,0,2,5,1,57,25,0,4,29,181,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400645147476968,0.12539067330531836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938291968388702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11636037594935925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09021994902336727,0.0,0.0,0.12958237206421205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962631334898892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12096264301271348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12006988689202135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639621484620441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749572037798591,0.10613219795943722,0.0,0.11211436669656027,0.0,0.0,0.110608798495529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980130418368592,0.0,0.12864688982262434,0.0,0.0,0.1226007373721112,0.1125541529093354,0.13336330861482495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037550160992704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769210618414505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274799836978951,0.0,0.08287403592331134,0.057321779154008025,0.11759603292895587,0.0,0.10383384279592553,0.09852810985969288,0.0,0.0,0.09975023612272546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809563720255573,0.1247038040887666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331857438362815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462373459901087,0.0,0.0,0.089235168864925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705754969693892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25193819762327657,0.0,0.0,0.11160821956556187,0.09330596106663204,0.0,0.0,0.18699451182478646,0.2136266485294928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19411408351887727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994137925616309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13440174630633334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821797012314672,0.09430585007383058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794920255892736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965974030714593,0.12762194390032622,0.11461489659279447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09680998994246194,0.13840919427075515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549425347718544,0.0,0.10587256996349936,0.0,0.0,0.11310246131395175,0.0,0.08541803633828302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22667107822124305
parenting,Masseyclip,2019/04/12,"Advice on budgeting once my wife becomes a SAHM We're in the process of selling our house and moving into a new house. We have a 2 year old, and the main reason for doing this move is to let my wife stay at home with our son for a few years. She said she would love to stay home for 2 years before putting him in preschool.

I had posted the nitty-gritty and number crunching about the budget to /r/personalfinance and can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/comments/bc37wy/buying_a_house_and_need_help_budgeting_on_one/). 

My original estimate had put us at losing $700 a month and we have savings of about $57k to draw upon for a few years until my wife would go back to work. PF pretty unanimously said that this is financially stupid, and I do not disagree. My rationale was this would be a temporary situation and my wife would hopefully return to work after 2 years.

Since making that post, my wife has actually come up with some ways to generate income while she's at home (babysitting and data entry for a friend's business), so the deficit should be close to $0. However, our incomes will probably come very close to our monthly expenses with little wiggle room.

Finances will still be tight. I figure that there must be people out there that transitioned from two working parents to one and felt a financial squeeze. I'm just looking for advice whether general or specific. 

Should I be afraid to tap into my savings if necessary ie should I avoid this situation entirely? Did people who became SAHPs find this sacrifice to be worth it? Would you do it again if you could go back? Am I missing anything? 

Thanks in advance.",7.275679679330777,8.251922360927157,6.824179156500522,74.44687521784594,63.801324503311264,9.80160334611363,32.45102823283373,9.811843763644266,3.127103311258277,1331,50,228,26,19,415,181,302,0.046,0.88,0.07400000000000001,0.8056,4,1,0,0,0,0,45.0,7,2,0,5,10,11,1,2,14,0,34,1,0,4,1,52,49,16,0,13,6,7,3,0,1,11,0,2,4,0,12,21,0,2,6,0,6,9,1,5,0,2,8,6,27,6,40,21,4,48,1,2,1,1,25,16,0,5,18,156,39,4,0.0,0.0,0.09282741811148568,0.0,0.0,0.18590837589589013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827904465684424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628915136282725,0.0,0.0,0.1050571156715346,0.08094361886051725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388201093004254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594886852690634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133407148393337,0.0,0.08694172124742944,0.0,0.0,0.10429868638445196,0.07349265820488284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812245767922407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286251741252753,0.09447971341272822,0.0,0.21952092293000489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727085631014544,0.0,0.0,0.09533935702156293,0.0,0.0,0.07988030215481894,0.10641955710906699,0.0,0.0,0.08585323109371383,0.0,0.063496087937431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518543281484685,0.2022037683388291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187146667491908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981676106189688,0.10130408198673324,0.06445856471777854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10562407672618476,0.0,0.0,0.13189417343887594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822052221148476,0.09677542653862682,0.10255988880478806,0.0,0.0,0.191252025666297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780343700682656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809696403301377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868765404144336,0.2138469901091306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027793079083403,0.07596624413561016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08757750824544201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09292244197431,0.0,0.11442260257012335,0.0,0.0,0.07848736019823356,0.0,0.075505097825353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20775447418680296,0.0,0.0,0.3378672236898177,0.0,0.0,0.3062840686422009
parenting,louisa_pizza,2019/04/12,"I’m pregnant and having trouble getting my toddler to understand. So I just found out I’m 7 weeks pregnant with my second child. I already have a two-year-old daughter, and she’s very rambunctious. I’ve been telling her about the baby in my belly, and that she needs to be careful around me. I don’t expect her to fully understand everything at two, but I don’t know how to get her to understand that she cannot kick or climb on my belly. She loves babies but I don’t think she will understand that there will be a new baby in the house until the baby is born. Anyone have any suggestions on how i can get her to understand a little better? Thanks!",4.243787878787877,5.077664893939391,5.326969696969703,82.99378787878791,70.51515151515152,8.290909090909091,27.54545454545455,8.515128840125781,1.8935545454545464,514,17,102,8,9,170,78,132,0.015,0.875,0.11,0.9124,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,7,5,0,0,6,0,14,1,0,2,0,22,31,10,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,8,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,2,0,20,4,16,25,0,13,0,0,0,1,14,8,0,1,4,72,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612749453932345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621174233812722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892661020476587,0.0,0.0,0.1259478379697757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12512820103664465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424902497114564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715374993628348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15512630877745606,0.0,0.0,0.2217535130637712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16324975727895885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775410460697339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14180085146475838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769187511235133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049061624464204,0.0,0.13664296264210465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846021780732252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366038678290528,0.13025644000889228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906551337255724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276412214300158,0.7364321043878175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11673641246409422,0.0,0.0,0.1134873009638788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110894614850762
parenting,blackcovenant666,2019/04/12,"Alternative to grounding or beating kids for bad grades Instead of grounding or physical punishment for children's bad grades, parents should show them a documentary about 3rd world children who are unable to get an education due to family financial issues/family sickness, slavery, or sexism. This would better teach them how lucky they are to be in school and how important education is that there are millions of children who are desperate to be in school and will give up everything to have an education. I feel like they should show these documentaries in school so kids don't see school as pointless and boring, but a place of opportunity.",14.816339285714285,10.914303669642864,12.924642857142858,52.27035714285718,52.48214285714286,16.557142857142857,50.32142857142857,14.191785591663535,6.957492857142857,529,25,80,15,4,167,74,112,0.124,0.787,0.09,-0.4767,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,4,3,6,8,1,0,4,0,13,1,0,2,0,14,17,11,0,3,4,1,1,1,0,4,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,2,5,4,17,11,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,8,0,4,2,57,10,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3049677072105526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151655520474045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16413115109885554,0.0,0.34432430582405793,0.0,0.0923404491893773,0.1304670001120471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541377892934126,0.1751900892843002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922112021948046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027829274607739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908037633079896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7393030934163753,0.1455281052519091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973122575163865,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bitchykatie,2019/04/12,Toddler teacher Not sure where to post this so I’ll just post here. I’m a toddler teacher. (1 year olds) What are some fun activities or really anything I should do with them? I’m just curious and would like more knowledge,1.1837121212121209,3.8176038863636386,2.5563636363636384,89.79621212121214,89.68181818181819,5.660606060606061,25.51515151515152,7.1686216300943375,1.42749696969697,177,8,35,3,6,57,36,44,0.044,0.777,0.18,0.7301,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,11,6,3,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,2,4,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927075066415836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377510220670692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732431250221188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6813169028328178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278679703135209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33523927727370745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25267623808056744,0.0,0.0,0.22905656666942897
parenting,ALC8915,2019/04/12,"6 Year Old Infant Car Seat Is it too old?  It was my first child's and was well taken care of

I personally think it should be fine.  We literally used it for less than a year.

The idea that we have to buy new car seats for the second baby is stressing me out.  We still have like 3-4 other car seats the new baby can grow into.

If we have to buy new car seats it seems so wasteful.",1.0119449225473292,2.318782518072293,2.966815834767644,94.91084337349399,79.24096385542168,5.7067125645438885,16.676419965576592,6.18269132825596,-0.6377869191049914,291,4,72,2,7,98,57,83,0.029,0.858,0.113,0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,4,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,13,15,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,3,7,7,0,0,3,0,2,5,0,1,1,2,3,0,7,4,8,10,1,16,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,10,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211492350816108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644288990788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23416725326595306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10134156513605702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6010219077204239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4353332783084349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811229935043017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18883973278798172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16565671811283691,0.0,0.2376144552510933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291505678464807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17915600441789575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865076925039995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671608380740243
parenting,TheBac0nMaster,2019/04/12,"Jealousy as a parent! Hi, 
I’ve always been a fairly chilled out self confident kinda guy,  but having young children as made me compare my children and my parenting to others and I get very jealous these days.   
I have an 8yo and 6yo and I get really knotted up comparing them to other kids. I’m not pushy, but I get really down when other children are way better at sports or skills my kids are into or win awards & get picked for elite squads etc when mine don’t.  I love them to bits of course and I know I shouldn’t care, I’m being stupid, because they are happy, but I can’t help the emotional reaction that their parents are “doing a better job” because their kids are naturally more bright/talented/clever/polite whatever.   
I’ve never had this feeling before.  Anyone else like this?  It’s so hard not to do it!",4.147587991718424,5.549857708074538,5.1070962732919245,82.3437914078675,71.29813664596273,7.8511387163561075,25.83902691511387,8.344100000000001,1.7034219461697728,645,20,122,10,12,211,109,161,0.071,0.6679999999999999,0.261,0.9888,4,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,5,6,3,10,2,0,5,0,15,1,0,2,1,21,26,15,0,1,7,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,9,7,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,2,18,8,13,21,3,11,0,0,0,1,19,5,0,3,6,78,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12907901909196073,0.1680812482565286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084691852169739,0.15894708645054625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18912931863799545,0.0,0.1320026005053209,0.0,0.0,0.27439642349044485,0.16935972421988182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816345242778065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004480102353808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12958963483673794,0.17449825018520546,0.0,0.0,0.17300885496980686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843743623973295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32419215054124434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360122348323346,0.0,0.16513676347078649,0.13896432115810814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039791058123758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15394071790335567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525435528960891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757877613753055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000918078154334,0.1467859736607496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964436596455705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5167542420307164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987580860537085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618324565783096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12799694156024846,0.0,0.12313347740888927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,iamgoingtohavea,2019/04/12,"It looks like my 7 year old brother will be coming to live with me (23f) for the foreseeable future. Very scared, looking for advice So, long story short, my mom is a neglectful hoarder and my brother has been removed from the house. We have no other family willing to take him and so he's going to come live with me. 

I'm really terrified. I don't know a lot about little kids. By the time my brother was born, I was already living at my dad's house. I currently work as a paralegal and I am applying to law schools this fall. I am so anxious and depressed because I want to provide my brother with a good home but I feel like I'm so unprepared and my current life (living on a shoestring budget, planning on becoming a full time student and moving to go to school soon) is completely unsuited for raising a small child. 

I know he's already had a rough life with my mom (who I've been low contact with since I was 16) and I feel so bad for him. I want to give him some stability and be a good carer for him. But I've never been maternal, and I never even wanted kids of my own, so this is a huge shock. I guess I'm looking for any advice or resources. (God, sorry for the rambling, I feel like I'm panicking right now and I can't think straight).",3.1285275445422904,4.227122073929962,4.7451853368830665,85.13380503788655,73.39688715953307,7.745156665984028,28.31230800737252,8.20500826718156,1.863526070038911,971,38,202,15,19,328,142,257,0.12,0.8009999999999999,0.08,-0.8757,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,2,10,11,0,1,14,0,20,2,0,0,2,37,43,20,0,3,3,7,4,3,0,2,2,0,1,3,5,18,0,1,6,0,1,7,5,6,0,0,7,7,31,5,28,32,4,31,0,3,3,0,20,11,0,4,16,127,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20855504203365652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355182160450132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725676729294819,0.0,0.0,0.12055394245970405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909988290767662,0.06505051351744992,0.11785478233149355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838455073009476,0.1118852760282505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191070383438134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048212740112536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10059837355175884,0.0,0.16187005409203048,0.15246984068740754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236766761039172,0.12129353288902207,0.17900956427519685,0.0,0.0,0.117555061689381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704062084612984,0.0,0.0,0.2462621443940351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729201228294475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074737881529654,0.15640196341756882,0.10695324250602203,0.3769138439207193,0.09443657147511053,0.26883306940762325,0.0,0.0,0.0907225433404894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499591051404164,0.0,0.11341773925475004,0.0,0.0,0.16460541393608302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197606723532008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06836230181893008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113128110876836,0.0,0.0,0.10683711255090274,0.2159960464640396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08827309107005024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194551063993014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023398168261399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837660283144847,0.0,0.0,0.12444899967626052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804839817663755,0.1888241263484597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768745022543252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871889069235387
parenting,flyingray,2019/04/12,"Heavy drinking prior to finding out I am pregnant I just found out I am pregnant and at about 7.5 weeks. This will be my first child and I am so so very excited and so is my husband but I am also very nervous about the weeks before finding out and how it could affect our child. I just moved 2,000 miles away from my friends and family so this has been extra hard!

My brother and two friends were in town visiting (my brother was in town for 3 weeks and our friends for almost 2) so there was a LOT of drinking. Practically everyday at way higher amounts than I normally would. I do not smoke but I was also around second hand smoke and continued to take my prescribed adderall as well up until finding out (yesterday)

That is 60 mg of adderall a day and then probably 3-8 drinks everyday/every other day. I found out yesterday so I have of course stopped taking my medications and I haven't drank since Tuesday. At 7.5 weeks do you think I will be okay if I stay stopped/sober and remain healthy for the rest of the pregnancy? I have read that FAS is typically women that continue to drink throughout the entirety of the pregnancy but also how important the first trimester is considering all the organs are developing.

Any advice/ experience/ words would be so greatly appreciated.",3.698815039201712,6.158620331967218,4.554768353528154,81.30241981468285,75.18852459016394,7.8500356379187455,29.87099073414113,8.716276077567194,2.6356591589451166,1027,47,187,22,23,331,136,244,0.028,0.8320000000000001,0.14,0.9837,0,0,6,0,0,0,22.0,2,1,0,2,19,8,0,1,9,1,28,7,1,3,1,42,34,30,0,5,7,3,2,0,3,4,1,0,0,3,7,17,5,1,6,5,0,2,2,1,1,4,8,2,25,7,30,18,5,38,0,0,0,0,13,16,0,3,18,140,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10790715459717984,0.0,0.0,0.11057583701343984,0.0,0.0,0.2649232539329401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509356786776213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830268414787093,0.0,0.0,0.10374900181763283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396451937085776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816629437076315,0.0,0.0,0.14243146131580828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43270234465664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303879301684913,0.0,0.0,0.10801796265711963,0.10409994542661473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027824984339079,0.18785685154055146,0.0,0.2421531449937999,0.255944905950221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174521890639002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892013943159253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388036284552348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124272751041016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736552043512705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819418014670068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905806527969885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045603169849916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134565141157946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769958196949715,0.0,0.09232120496444113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660534424092404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707566173477826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787030184465192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18222627506741745,0.0,0.08765113701470048,0.3543087831050733,0.0,0.09928636943145504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688713567347382,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GinevraP,2019/04/12,"I need birthday ideas My oldest daughter is turning 10 next month. I feel like turning double digits is a big deal, so I want to do something special for her.  The reason I am asking for ideas is two-fold. First, I come from pitiful circumstances and my birthday was never celebrated, so I cannot draw from personal experience. Second, we just lost our only income and are living on savings right now. Whatever we do needs to be cheap. 

She likes art, Harry Potter, and dancing. We live in a rural area and the closest cities are a little over an hour. Help, redditors- you're my only hope!",3.1317126623376623,5.60018647321429,4.395194805194809,81.68616883116884,77.125,6.215584415584416,25.36038961038961,7.348242739294969,1.496953571428571,463,17,80,6,11,152,85,112,0.07400000000000001,0.79,0.136,0.7299,1,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,1,1,19,21,6,0,4,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,4,2,1,2,2,2,0,2,2,1,15,5,9,18,1,17,0,2,0,0,11,8,0,1,9,53,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813361604800685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14570885279932905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438754557215155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546241255690505,0.0,0.0,0.0855279712137356,0.120841710516709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387999507966664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133785395735051,0.0,0.0,0.16800539090351566,0.1665799410215582,0.0,0.0,0.3819024191376009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16527754562118413,0.16953402340379714,0.2987273641230301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184648607200848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350149404535407,0.0,0.0,0.2508470663706009,0.13045989745032904,0.0,0.17989430866356876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257294346245976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769637602183466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17391569123690445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14445427162661328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13022092179200842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3679760462176009,0.16523622504447644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997698093904878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,greenlimejuice,2019/04/12,"When is the appropriate age to get a kid a phone? And does that change based on the capabilities of the phone? My son is still too young (in my opinion) to have a phone. I didn't get a phone until I was a junior in high school. One of those razor phones where if your text is too long it splits it up into multiple messages. 

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I recently found out about a phone that is getting launched nationally in July that is a smart phone (runs google software)  that only lets kids call and text. You can't even text pictures so it would be impossible to send nudes. How awesome would it be to use this type of phone as training wheels before giving kids phones that have access to the internet and apps?

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I think we have done a huge disservice to our kids by giving them access to technology way too young. I wouldn't throw my child into the pool without swimming lessons and I wouldn't let them drive on the highway without a license. But that is exactly what we do with phones. When we give our kids a phone, we are actually giving them a super computer crotch rocket with little to no way to help them learn the ropes. 

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I talked to the makers of this phone (Gabb Wireless) and they said that eventually the plan is to come up with a solution where you would be able to introduce capabilities into the phone one by one, kind of like training wheels. 

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When do you think is an appropriate time to give a kid a phone? And would you give one to them younger if you could get them a phone like a Gabb Phone (if it works like promised)?",6.179806286549707,6.37289549671053,5.940745614035087,82.55133040935675,66.07236842105263,8.992397660818712,29.71783625730994,8.680891452615391,1.994907748538012,1237,39,251,17,18,385,146,304,0.006,0.879,0.115,0.9824,0,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,6,6,7,4,13,7,0,0,27,0,30,2,2,4,1,42,46,17,0,10,6,1,0,3,0,6,0,1,0,7,16,18,0,0,5,2,0,6,7,0,0,4,5,1,29,7,40,29,0,36,0,0,0,1,55,17,0,4,14,169,45,6,0.08067475034990461,0.0,0.07872691886886114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34964423319426785,0.3921146078663787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686482705716393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237794008507926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534318878004622,0.06949415399585965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441222359021681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059901768875039,0.0825582792830113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053284911744420516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845569970777381,0.0,0.0,0.16859690932119076,0.4643434301911953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05407458460878853,0.08523730309582554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401033792436559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499079622868354,0.0,0.11824082394576213,0.08085729386797702,0.0,0.07139461537332341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21866919486417968,0.06135678298458276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965658329612997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674016191469893,0.0,0.0,0.08164715437346699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442695984125721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0648433084260235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338624504114648,0.0,0.0,0.04704209569818603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06967708181982528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807172345444118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555351609042565,0.0,0.0587321790863699,0.0,0.0,0.2292361119076259,0.0,0.3921146078663787,0.0
parenting,fhwoodworking,2019/04/12,"I need some help finding more kids songs We are having my daughter's 8th birthday and she has asked if I would play acoustic. I have no problem playing but I need more songs asap! The list so far is
Baby shark
Happy and you know it.
Maybe the duck song
Maybe a shortened version of Shake it off",0.193833333333334,2.594525383333337,1.1700000000000017,98.54833333333332,95.16666666666666,2.666666666666667,20.0,3.1291,-0.6469999999999998,233,8,48,0,9,72,50,60,0.08800000000000001,0.7490000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.6996,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,1,0,0,1,5,0,1,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,12,10,5,0,5,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,8,3,2,9,4,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,0,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787175250417513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724914996182185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173720109203535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998347140381724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16384810752796447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5990366804062031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4421291010102025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28527651266253995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117877243149349,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Incomingny,2019/04/12,"“Your baby is so cute, you better be careful, someone might try to make off with her” and other bizarre behaviors in the wild. Said to me in a creepy tone this morning at the grocery store by an older woman, as she leered uncomfortably close into our space. I did a quick, polite chuckle as I quickly left the sweet potato area for the onion area.

Not such a huge deal in the scope of life, but I filed that one away as what NOT to say to someone in regards to their infant, because of the instantly repelling feeling it made wash over me. 

Throughout the store today my daughter got no less than a dozen variations of how cute, but this was the first one for baby number two that actually made my skin crawl. Not to be outdone by the old lady who had a vicious hacking fit complete with phlegm production, wiped the proceeds down her jacket and then tried to coochie-coo my first ones cheek while leaning in for a kiss. That one got the wrath.",10.790281030444968,6.97241012021858,9.436315378610463,73.97213114754099,59.819672131147534,11.768618266978926,40.89695550351289,8.418075326091056,3.4710037470725985,744,27,144,6,7,230,126,183,0.057,0.8140000000000001,0.129,0.9199,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,2,1,3,5,8,1,0,18,0,7,5,2,4,0,17,15,11,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,9,6,0,0,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,8,8,5,15,7,32,4,1,28,0,0,0,1,14,18,0,1,10,105,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.1642846121097681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581696898031914,0.0,0.0,0.1026241582174897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889125695258296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164331033456315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17651101656946308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735607149653554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851224540415965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863956222711652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26928859562002466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829119847526238,0.0,0.11891007478567332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185923175433632,0.11237445131524004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785919815261695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17665424943105398,0.0,0.4563113147925578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1601387163950557,0.13387810409823975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852835964009271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957543239490798,0.0,0.0,0.22859622007779146,0.0,0.1644527839577292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,megocaaa,2019/04/12,"I have a child that’s a perfect, charming four year old. I have a seven year old that is somehow much more maintenance. My oldest commented on this yesterday. First of all, the kids have been through a trauma. About 2.5 years ago their father ripped them from me. We had just moved to a new city. We were in custody litigation and reached the agreement he would sign over permanent primary custody to me if I promise to never move out of state. I had my first exam at my new college and we had court which he promised to forward to mediation or have his lawyer draw papers. Instead, he  acted as if he didn’t know where I was and I had every other weekend visitation. It was his revenge for me leaving and it’s called tangential spousal abuse. I was in court for years trying to prove he was unfit and his very good lawyer kept having things delayed, and he convinced a lot of folks I was crazy, like DSS when I made two reports when the children said they were hit. 

About three weeks ago he got a DWI and blew a .18 with my two children and three others in the car, and was arrested in front of the children. He caught child abuse charges. Shortly after, DSS found out how bad things were, and the school is writing a recommendation for me because my oldest was always unclean, unprepared, never did homework, and he would not take her to the doctor. I am in the process of getting them therapy. He may never see his children again. I’ve had custody for a bit over two weeks now. They’ve stopped asking for him and seem angry with him for things like Mia needing four vaccines at her doctor’s checkup, or the fact they had lice and scabies for two weeks and were untreated. They’re realizing their care was not normal. 

However, my youngest is so happy go lucky and thrilled to be here. My oldest is having some issues. Whenever I had visits Harper, the oldest, constantly asked me what we were doing. I understood that her father did not do fun things with her. But as soon as we got in the car from say, playing in the park, she would ask to go out to eat. She would wake me up in the morning asking where we were going. After dinner she would ask to get ice cream. She was not satisfied unless we were constantly spending money and doing activities from wake till sleep. She was unable to stop asking me to do things. For example, as I am preparing dinner she asks me to put on a movie (even though I asked her to try independent play with her sister), to settle their small disputes, I will literally be bent over getting dinner out of the oven and she will ask for snacks, juice, when is it done, etc. My kitchen is quite small and this is dangerous and claustrophobic. I’ve asked her repeatedly to stop this specific behavior, but it does not stop there. This morning I woke her up for school and got her dressed and made her preferred breakfast and walked her to the bus. I received no less than thirty questions (I had been up since 530 am, and she gets on the bus at 650, and this is not at all my normal schedule). It sincerely tests my patience. If it were questions about the world or science or math or something I’d be happy to answer, but it’s always, “what are we doing, where is this, where’s the bus, can I have this and that, etc.” 

I am trying so hard to be patient but boundaries need to be established for me to be able to be happy. I’ve finally stopped answering her constant questions or requests for more or this or that when I finally get to eat and this helps, but I have a LOT on my agenda to make this transition work and continue to be in court. It is stressful. I never yell or spank but sometimes I find it difficult not to have a stressed tone and yesterday she commented on some jealousy issues with her sister who is very happy go lucky. 

Any advice?",5.263434959349592,6.001373287262872,5.5160060975609735,82.90010670731708,68.15989159891599,8.372222222222224,30.00914634146341,8.408885092690799,2.085537398373984,2978,108,583,41,48,945,313,738,0.07400000000000001,0.84,0.086,0.955,1,0,1,0,2,0,79.0,8,0,7,5,24,27,1,2,31,0,79,14,3,5,9,124,118,60,0,13,27,4,1,2,0,8,3,3,3,7,35,45,8,7,13,3,2,17,13,6,0,11,43,6,87,21,94,58,13,105,0,0,2,0,89,38,0,24,53,428,122,14,0.05500005569968239,0.13033214465691992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05374541788300605,0.09750846172860317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152890460946997,0.0,0.0,0.037401923908057806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5141762761743601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04592274915537345,0.0335275234624658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060045815934516786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056161206244251055,0.0,0.0560762223473869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178306563250815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125897751210684,0.048130919381626884,0.05628415259224815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255757551946632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267920142655722,0.03632701807176096,0.0,0.046339919059933635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049974527503672,0.05026905449948822,0.09356603856271672,0.0,0.060304722230698424,0.0,0.0,0.14367629529749698,0.0,0.12503119652364195,0.0461314372609254,0.1319657066812288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23419432805676774,0.04926924679501382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03686537798408041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481153737478092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030226592236826482,0.0,0.0,0.05823711760484319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05374049810948435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935181610705313,0.0,0.10408476509750364,0.036712964261969766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691271008655145,0.040431369326784115,0.08156368879627844,0.16967773440590858,0.10623879304358652,0.0,0.0,0.10777675393630734,0.0,0.0,0.11542661290320938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529024709549821,0.1848379492131326,0.05849932932728665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05231764785642224,0.04373825183298023,0.0,0.1113259853618267,0.04382792351143045,0.05006998505136228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04549661442967051,0.0,0.055039776082139856,0.0,0.0,0.04234172993722001,0.0543964614347686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22991254652201806,0.12600475595639066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041353197044774775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06289735699497039,0.0,0.1826979655280355,0.0,0.054037275474402485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120242825648284,0.0,0.21490825039170608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076161204808487,0.0,0.0,0.13235318139020222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040040695596870665,0.0,0.0,0.195352307701826,0.0,0.0,0.14167293049174598
parenting,knwldgeskr,2019/04/12,"Free Baby Portable Safety Harness - Maybe You Should Need It Too Safety harness I mentioned - https://twitter.com/OutlandishOffe1/status/1116406954879070208   
I know as parents we should spend more time with kids and look after them but I think this kiddo belt might come in handy. What do you guys think? 

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\+ it comes with 2 books or maybe I am just thinking too much.",5.89495446265938,9.715069606557377,2.7221857923497272,87.61785063752279,82.44262295081967,4.0225865209471765,19.892531876138435,5.82211442006289,0.020539526411657686,310,8,48,2,9,81,49,61,0.0,0.899,0.101,0.6059,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,17,13,4,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,4,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,5,10,2,5,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,2,2,30,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2387028864372636,0.2676975045657777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3795504933178312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.218138880964188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12107514014840255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850026608605703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.442656623432994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337112489608807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195122722660465,0.16335508440145158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446252044391695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4234921002489993,0.0,0.0,0.12846296848231933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676975045657777,0.0
parenting,decepticondad,2019/04/12,"Tamiflu recipe I would like to share. So first let me say that I hope none of you ever need to give your children this. My two boys 4 & 11 ended up with influenza type A and the doctor put them on this. It is terrible. The 11 y/o is just taking it like a champ, but the 4 year old, not so much. We have been experimenting with multiple recipes to get him to take it, and I wanted to share something that actually made it somewhat ok to take. 

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 [Blackberry Patch](https://www.vitacost.com/blackberry-patch) Organic Syrup for Breakfast and Dessert Strawberry",6.345428571428576,7.538069257142857,6.218095238095242,77.19857142857146,65.95238095238095,10.19047619047619,32.14285714285714,10.290406445055957,3.2675714285714275,452,18,84,11,7,142,79,105,0.02,0.8420000000000001,0.138,0.8485,0,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,1,2,1,2,4,8,0,0,5,1,6,3,0,1,1,16,15,6,0,4,3,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,2,8,6,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,2,2,1,10,7,12,11,3,8,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,7,55,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.17893252047865146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39734010180488055,0.222801984728061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18767632107046686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.162402182330637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585925649431474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936087356961442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15596558280452735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579782355004447,0.17589523703282378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821174562319144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874976148511183,0.0,0.1791604782376919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349928776372395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479040424288494,0.1359588206812002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19240505667592853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18432704310497253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14581491410282227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115917886560733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4135908013415944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911568682784745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081502432584048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13025339959221202,0.0,0.222801984728061,0.11807757125978773
parenting,gracie2020,2019/04/12,"Toddler refusing diaper change My 2 yo (she just turned 2 on the 6th) refuses to let me change her diapers. She screams likes she’s being injured and does the dead man crocodile rolls so I can’t even get her pants off. I’ve never harmed her or dropped her so I don’t know where this fear is coming from. The women at daycare say she does this to them too but if her dad changes her she giggles through the entire thing! Laughing and smiling like it’s a game. 
I’m working on potty training so it won’t last long but it’s so frustrating when you just want to care for your child and they make it seem like torture!",1.4787098728043588,3.671423921259844,2.5286614173228337,94.33340399757724,81.44094488188976,5.797456087219867,23.942459115687466,7.010146845296331,0.7815649909145974,486,18,106,6,13,154,90,127,0.14300000000000002,0.672,0.185,0.7371,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,2,1,10,11,2,1,5,0,6,1,0,1,1,17,15,12,1,2,6,1,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,3,7,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,0,2,19,6,10,12,0,11,0,0,0,0,23,5,0,3,7,65,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196801940758484,0.0,0.6125848438542898,0.16627402093781402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33783510900982433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12749124957459307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21720688716970094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084764119940427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608153983468144,0.15734120871155646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19738122942189631,0.0,0.28290692246765625,0.0,0.0,0.17082112794895546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288457445116968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887284680001933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535012967312507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572278979159084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282372908995339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20995586622888135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11385119748627978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052456233530566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittyvacant,2019/04/12,"A letter to the lady who makes unpleasant faces each day when I drop my daughter off... Dear Lady,

I just started seeing you this year. My daughter is in fourth grade, and has been going to this elementary school since she began her journey. You were never at the drop off zone before this year. At the beginning of the year, I noticed that you often looked displeased and unpleasant. Understandable, I thought, because teachers and staff are often underpaid. You clutch your coffee each morning like I do, so maybe you are under slept. I began to watch a little closer, because try as I might, I started to get the nagging feeling that it wasn't the morning you were making faces at, but rather me and my daughter instead.

My daughter is loud. She is an oddball. She can be a lot to handle, I know. I see you smile at other little girls whose hair is prim and proper, with perfectly coordinated outfits. Now that she has turned ten, her looks and her style are more up to her. She inherited my weird ""first year Hermione Granger"" hair that is wavy in the back and straight in the front. For the first couple years, I made her straighten it every day. I thought it was more socially acceptable. I picked out her clothes, and tried my best to make sure they matched and looked great. I threw out any shirt that had a tiny stain that couldn't come out. I tried my best to make her look how girls ""should.""


She doesn't want to straighten her hair now. She doesn't care if her socks are brightly colored and show under her pants. She wears her favorite shirts, even if they have a tiny stain. I've explained that she dresses outside of the norm, and she makes that choice. And yet every day, you smile at her until she walks past you, and then you grimace, and look at me. I told myself at first that there was no way, it was my anxiety, but I've even watched you smile and wave to all the cars ahead of me and blankly stare at me when I try to wave after dropping my daughter off. It's becoming painfully obvious. 


Well lady, I have to say... screw you. I have dealt with social anxiety my entire life. My daughter has watched me panic about some out of place hair and my teeth not being white enough, a scuff on my shoes, or an out of place coffee stain. To me, these things could ruin a day. If my pants shrink and begin to look like ""high waters"" I throw them out, because it's not how I'm *supposed* to look. My daughter defies all of these rules. She simply doesn't care, and it's not because she is unaware or isn't told. It is because she will flatly tell you that she is happy with herself and does not care what you think. And I can tell she means it. And I'm fucking proud of her, because I remember forcing my mother to make laps around school functions as I couldn't breathe out of fear of what others would think of me. I'm proud that she does not have my problems. I'm happy that she's happy with herself, with her poofy hair, her favorite high waters, and her bright socks underneath. The other girls gently exit their vehicles. My daughter hops out and skips. Sometimes the attention she brings triggers my own anxiety but I've learned to swallow it and let her be her own person because that's what moms are supposed to do. I'm not supposed to mirror or project my issues onto her.

I hope you get a raise, get some more coffee, but most of all, I hope you learn that you're in a public school environment and shouldn't make your disdain for the ""oddball"" kid so obvious.

Sincerely,
A Socially Anxious Mom with a Kickass Daughter",4.870123164085349,5.842298199710567,4.778562059303507,86.98875142408475,69.17366136034732,7.270141946608369,28.45031868707085,7.211369081168443,1.411994586938449,2780,95,555,24,47,857,287,691,0.081,0.768,0.151,0.9965,0,0,0,0,0,0,93.0,0,18,4,9,21,32,3,2,27,0,48,21,14,12,8,113,103,46,0,14,18,12,6,2,0,5,2,2,0,5,38,44,3,0,14,1,2,9,16,9,1,4,17,25,115,23,74,74,17,82,0,1,17,2,92,39,2,15,32,387,153,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04398401600697992,0.0,0.14843803736792374,0.07306898954862237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05757812494277877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049734246879547084,0.0,0.27599451637589484,0.07143300071927162,0.055037162854932924,0.0,0.13575348120167285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19783400453422084,0.0,0.0,0.0557153303220437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05164101018223888,0.07156621031242229,0.0,0.1668507131115156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320225845687346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683081540808831,0.0,0.08543989064744092,0.0,0.1089898876167258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278198601697845,0.03270370383404369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504806602872168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05979479940944101,0.10137650385669962,0.0,0.036758631472985165,0.0,0.0,0.0713089524069715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065563612311984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667407183709346,0.0,0.12848190992162628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750819169211776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035545949990412364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613877702954539,0.04568477157360053,0.06319789684833291,0.12965092969026715,0.0,0.0,0.3801991660788401,0.0,0.0,0.05498787045796075,0.0,0.06120094230159447,0.3022166796050809,0.0,0.06497886428290704,0.07045451735204464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861431964958073,0.0,0.15150279508439168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988452067655357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363760089281028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882313836640681,0.07588700532681388,0.0,0.0,0.06174353367327241,0.0,0.05647530825569155,0.13515181744130614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061889177760635315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07326882863121377,0.0,0.0,0.051435428120441266,0.0,0.19637615169947809,0.10308176092856773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350323214006921,0.0,0.0,0.1977966369241424,0.0,0.0,0.06396929838024924,0.0,0.09156042071742056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095930025537266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306479436935027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04296992988906948,0.0828875302743654,0.0,0.10269598485173592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236073319125156,0.0,0.1756514932088945,0.07035230382963957,0.0,0.06733323954078635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03814941768853156,0.05133927076515491,0.0,0.0,0.058154291856770485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594618742115806,0.0,0.0,0.20825614672331869
parenting,oc77067,2019/04/12,"My baby eats so much! My son is a week old and is easily taking 100-120 mL per feeding. The nurses told me he'd eat a lot because he's big (9 lbs 2 oz and 21.85"" at birth) but good lord.",0.7826515151515139,0.7568652954545456,3.8072727272727285,93.88924242424244,77.86363636363636,6.775757575757575,19.21212121212121,6.42735559955562,-0.2175060606060604,139,2,38,1,3,51,39,44,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.7043,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,4,5,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,1,3,2,5,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19523184341483085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6554263688330678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686248373193653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722796242168691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354331590966063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33606643272432035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24080099143577924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060289260457905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568989387038399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Disney-Roo,2019/04/12,"My 20 month old has NEVER slept longer than 2hours, usually waking every 45mins and I'm mentally and physically done. My first question and it comes with a heavy heart and lots of resistance is; has anyone medicated their child to help aid sleep? 

My son as the title says has NEVER slept longer than 2 hours, at any point in his life. My and my husband are equally as exhausted, it's gone on for so long now short fixes aren't helping anymore, lay ins, naps in the day, sharing the night shift, its all catching up. Not one friend or family member can or will help. 

It is effecting the whole family, were Late every morning, my 4 year old is exhausted too and now is severely playing up in the day times. 

The other night me and my husband didnt wake up to the 20month old crying and the 4 year old actually came in and soothed him back to sleep! 

My mental health has taken a severe nose dive and I'm half the time feeling suicidal and the other half completely detached and useless. 

I need help, the gp have said ""pay for a night nurse"" that's about £150 a night and God knows what they'll do we haven't. 

NY health visitor has said the next step is medication but they dont tend to do that. 

Weve done everything. 

White noise machine, lavender rubs, routines, massages, gentle retreat etc etc. 

Hes non verbal and hurts himself (head bangs things etc may be on the spectrum) 

CIO has never been an option part morals and part the self harm he inflicts. 

Sorry for the rambling... please if anyone has experienced anything similar I would love to hear.",4.250787230969234,5.828931325581398,4.763746930521453,84.21818431315907,71.29235880398672,7.759699552217247,27.04044489383215,8.321376580360154,1.7696175357503976,1223,42,237,19,23,389,191,301,0.098,0.813,0.08900000000000001,-0.2331,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,2,0,3,2,6,9,0,0,20,0,32,17,9,1,4,37,48,22,1,3,5,3,2,0,1,4,7,4,0,2,10,19,0,0,4,2,1,5,8,5,0,4,13,9,20,4,26,30,9,45,1,2,1,1,27,13,0,7,27,146,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.08293463601393361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779378411158784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428384407276192,0.11884917608024125,0.0,0.0699367084446633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534942890737447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09720199909605452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320840761396159,0.0891068050966133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09335376003339796,0.10961861794181267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739415422488073,0.09960363088102507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843474830194886,0.0,0.0,0.1432097067777458,0.0,0.07638045205511489,0.0,0.16023555526375974,0.0,0.04297176498694637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228953577579418,0.0,0.0,0.06566041566079316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722074276308271,0.1806735063887365,0.09578604466855538,0.10070949847440812,0.2278588343895343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369465539208522,0.0,0.0909798843790551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046706398057448466,0.0,0.09586855636035406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060028530025381936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07521044293889334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225254541329343,0.07670370043930251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123006298069066,0.17129295352516402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783547193464058,0.0,0.0,0.06301646719062629,0.19664065359788413,0.0,0.09038418478396673,0.31901656731978384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35671644930664786,0.0,0.05758910149185864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406435385847456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328973641986163,0.08033978179240676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520441211092356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616833857463004,0.06758473414542547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865953076396724,0.1920212745718719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700958990377512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951355107800791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929615172368884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056461302917515575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911270859108444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360070360250566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094884473968113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060372023240160014,0.0,0.0,0.1094571335344061
parenting,millyxe,2019/04/12,"How can I help my mum cope and deal with my brother? Hi I’m not really sure if this belongs in this sub but I thought that maybe I could get some advice from people who have been in this situation or understand what its like! I’m 17 and my brother is 19, he has ADHD and anger issues and all of my life he has been an emotionally and physically draining son and brother. When he was a kid he would scream if he didn’t get what he wanted and my mum tried to discipline him but no matter what he would always have to have it his way. Since I’ve been old enough to even walk I’ve seen how exhausted she is from him and it breaks my heart to see her cry herself to sleep every night from it. Obviously now that he’s 19 he doesn’t throw tantrums anymore but instead he’s become incredibly lazy and rude. He smokes weed in our garage so every time we go in there it stinks and even our neighbours can smell it and have complained. We tried telling him to stop but he doesn’t and continues to do it. He never washes up after himself, and leaves his plate even with food left on just on the counter. Our shared bathroom looks like a hoarders paradise, Its disgusting and I’m even becoming exhausted cleaning up after him because every time I clean it, it tales less than a week to go back to how it was before. I don’t know what to do anymore because no matter how much we tell him to sort himself out he just doesn’t listen, we tried therapy for him but he refused to go after the first session. He’s also just lost his job and my mum has become even more upset with herself because she’s the one having to clean up his mess again and find him a new job, but I think he’s just going to go back to selling weed but she’s in denial that he even smokes it anymore despite his bedroom and garage stinking of it. She’s so exhausted from it all and I’ve tried telling her to kick him out but she can’t and won’t, he’s her son, she loves him and would never forgive herself if he becomes a homeless drug addict or alcoholic. I know it seems like she’s a bad parent for raising him like this but I swear she’s the strongest and best mum I know of, she’s never spoiled us or done anything to encourage what he’s like now, he’s just become like it on his own. If anyone has any advice on how I could help my mum deal with this or help my brother turn his life around I would appreciate it so much!",3.471978242198684,4.311830535070143,4.3714881190953365,89.11470140280564,72.30661322645291,7.145742914400231,26.08079015173204,7.2259226712905225,1.0338844660750075,1883,59,413,18,35,609,208,499,0.14400000000000002,0.733,0.124,-0.8839,3,0,4,0,0,0,25.0,8,0,0,3,29,27,4,1,11,0,34,13,2,5,7,90,59,48,0,11,23,12,0,6,1,5,9,2,4,1,31,32,2,3,9,0,1,7,13,15,0,2,10,8,62,12,49,42,10,46,0,1,3,1,95,16,0,11,27,271,93,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07990644776038858,0.08809084342658928,0.1432533641350813,0.0,0.07833406331313557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586169772603412,0.06099042493932955,0.0,0.0,0.04984565788116942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21807796743932376,0.051252184481607295,0.0,0.0603186189666514,0.0652514203541925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272441582151647,0.06120138763418952,0.13404669782932555,0.4047635071241674,0.062371830484552415,0.0,0.07692250724766153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704616175900713,0.0,0.08051522592050768,0.0,0.15113556832428648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501006154499767,0.0,0.0,0.08500326956885383,0.0,0.0,0.0824512186785588,0.0,0.07573719417123066,0.0,0.2904787656002827,0.0,0.1852720537088392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06699372200079598,0.062347872250613126,0.08863312942234525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659113449498263,0.0,0.20828682040899127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08685936184152697,0.1473918044835054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650484273031613,0.1454753819240307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084921454207904,0.0,0.0,0.07761278396406376,0.0796392973330087,0.0,0.10354613793682203,0.2148603764111627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061552482273379734,0.0,0.08001423524262456,0.0,0.06615497616378756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363843806438078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077660180307414,0.0,0.16959752498373626,0.07079238149321661,0.0,0.06878590369832989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691469924513726,0.0,0.04966912436646576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138957834348122,0.0,0.0,0.05081611832679283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04695705085854078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058409607119760225,0.06672842154111185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606334765876645,0.08239085677465607,0.07335167718084848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061281030166771736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908319660311586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19219899307210994,0.0,0.08382349918972051,0.0,0.0,0.04696687401186195,0.0,0.058191013365821886,0.08548217148350183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1990601366509526,0.0797279827128065,0.0,0.07630657513511843,0.0881693612365312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04323349696322889,0.058181129390789024,0.05879582928477005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20827729225777786,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,franticshouting,2019/04/12,"7 year old freaking out about getting cavities filled even though she’s already had one filled. How can I help her? My 7yo daughter had a cavity filled last year around this same time. Our dentist is good with kids and she likes him, but he’s not a pediatric dentist so he doesn’t do a lot of the little tricks to make this kind of dental work less scary to kids. She was scared leading up to getting the cavity filled but we all assured her it was very common and that the numbing shot was like a pinch and then it was over. I have never had a cavity myself (good genes) and never even had a shot in my mouth until I was 32, so it was hard for me to know how to comfort her...but her dad and even several of her friends seemed to help prepare her. On the day of, she was a CHAMP. No laughing gas either. The dentist even said he had never worked on a kid who sat so well and still for something like this. When he administered the shot I was holding her hand and she squeezed it and her whole body tended up so I could tell it surprised her, but again, she managed. 

She is VERY withdrawn when it comes to expressing emotions in front of others and gets embarrassed to cry in public or in front of anyone but her family. So yesterday when she was told she had two more cavities that would get filled in about 3 weeks, she took that info in the office and was completely chill and nodded like a little grown up. 

Once we got back in the car? Oh boy. Tears and some hyperventilating all the way home and for another 20-30 minutes once we got home. 

I reminded her a bit about how well she did in the last one and asked her to walk me through her memories of it and to try to remember how quick the “ouch” from the needle was before it was gone.

She just cried “NO it hurt for like TWO MINUTES! The whole thing hurt!!” 

I’m worried that prepping her for getting the cavities filled is going to be way harder this time. Like maybe last time was actually much rougher on her than she was willing to show during the cavity-filling appointment. (I remember her saying “I almost cried but I’m glad I didn’t because that would have been embarrassing.”) 

I’m considering asking if they’ll do some laughing gas for her (I’ve never had it before so I don’t know what it’s like), or even switching to a pediatric dentist just for this procedure. Which I wouldn’t necessarily like to do since the current dentist and her already have a relationship established and meeting a new person on the day she has her cavity filled could make things a little harder on her. But she seems to want me to try that. 

I feel like the last cavity filling left a pretty bad imprint on her that she wasn’t willing to really express on the day of, so it’s gone overlooked. 

Any ideas?

I’ve also reminded her of her friends at school who have had cavities filled (one of them has a condition that makes her have TONS of cavities she has to fill often and she even had to use a special toothpaste to help prevent them) and she’s someone she could talk to. But she just cried “NO SHE’S GOTTEN LOTS FILLED! SHE’S USED TO IT! IT’S DIFFERENT FOR HER SHE CAN’T HELP ME!” So I’m just a bit at a loss.

I told her we can practice some calming/coping strategies beforehand and she can help me come up with a list of ideas (bring a stuffed animal or some music in her headphones) and she instantly just said “HAVING MY IPAD WOULDN’T EVEN HELP BECAUSE I’LL BE SO SCARED!” Bless her heart. 

Right now I’m just trying to be emotionally  validating and not just knee jerk resort to “it’ll be okay! You’re okay!” But yesterday while she was crying the breathing/coping strategies this anxious girl of mine has had lots of practice with just didn’t appeal to her. Though I get it, sometimes we just have to be scared or mad and let it pass.

Anyway, would love some ideas on how to creatively help her with this! I know it’s not possible to just make things hunky dory, but just anything to help her feel more confident and trust that it really won’t feel as bad as she’s worried about...and that she can be brave! (You can’t be brave unless you’re scared right?)",3.3371147528882013,4.974832788063342,4.079634038312482,87.96955108330566,73.73812423873325,7.314369025209465,24.74146458494814,8.00094639256281,1.25919066179456,3233,101,671,48,66,1031,315,821,0.107,0.723,0.16899999999999998,0.9959,2,0,1,0,0,0,74.0,6,1,3,5,51,47,3,6,41,2,76,14,5,12,7,122,121,64,0,10,30,2,6,9,2,10,8,3,2,6,44,37,0,2,14,1,0,25,20,16,2,5,41,9,95,31,92,59,21,93,1,3,0,1,109,32,0,17,43,467,139,6,0.0,0.0,0.05192974166606836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053286702604699664,0.0,0.11744719718088514,0.04255567046918242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03618773076082539,0.055800113973021766,0.0,0.06011731444285344,0.0,0.037208862953441384,0.0,0.04379105494471983,0.04737224729119298,0.09949687450058099,0.0,0.0,0.0409187177310926,0.08886388231347382,0.06487821295607632,0.0,0.09056335514783144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619305069407095,0.05910938821772972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167927606358688,0.055794461659883735,0.0,0.0,0.12746250631561315,0.0,0.2922685186244756,0.10295698127655742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055597896979508114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197184520888351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24603404006415755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016595834078345,0.0,0.08072065286446363,0.038016497713131495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822268858183401,0.0,0.16681449126691145,0.0,0.030243065086864626,0.0892677090789239,0.08512110187667876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047669800146898464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305951880245393,0.2853488234805057,0.0,0.10675710027012976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393459041212503,0.180218308500894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055414783258042166,0.08773600398517561,0.1735079001311949,0.0,0.0,0.057817783381227686,0.05441550074953673,0.0,0.23398154773900856,0.16000493005609842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572336716101924,0.04802822487790586,0.0,0.14208454831466508,0.0,0.053461185659829207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03911883011916255,0.0,0.16416942037211654,0.0513949609713539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055839737023199804,0.11334355547778295,0.10817870459155704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04646490783077343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05999142931264975,0.0,0.05413834621295635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06818122925941779,0.0,0.0,0.05713253058676088,0.12056346302014152,0.0908898999106088,0.10123847956708994,0.04231836001730577,0.21310826202257116,0.053855983382842115,0.0,0.09688908745396882,0.0,0.06011731444285344,0.0,0.04401964020774071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508853042416562,0.040967173952931125,0.0526305680312595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04249722241079553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04277185369016722,0.046511877593406165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606018241197616,0.0,0.10456608492778327,0.0,0.0930895268912969,0.0,0.0,0.10169759956899464,0.059123342601125936,0.10838759487602907,0.0,0.10396580029643387,0.0,0.0,0.0919206012615892,0.0,0.0878151826705092,0.031387330701584164,0.08447849362421626,0.042685516260795586,0.0,0.09569257413717326,0.0,0.0,0.11882432860637553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748167796382023,0.1080839529515703,0.0,0.11340630602849687,0.0,0.0,0.06853687362895149
parenting,curious-experiences,2019/04/12,"Population anxiety - wondering how many of you are concerned about the growth of population on our planet. I will probably get flamed. But isn’t it selfish to want more to beget more than one child in this day and age? Everyone here seems so focused on begetting a 2nd or 3rd child to get the gender they wish that they don’t seem to care about how it will affect earth and what world they will leave their children. 
Why not adopt or foster if you want more? What about the child out there who is lonely and waiting for you? Making more than one when others are abandoned doesn’t make sense to me. 
And especially now that human population growth is threatening the survival of this planet.
No one talks about this- it’s such a taboo subject but I need to understand. So please,
someone explain to me how you can justify making more.",4.500467380720547,6.549487936708863,4.46012658227848,84.73302336903603,71.53164556962025,7.646348588120738,26.077896786757545,8.384062270229773,1.7025028237585196,666,22,126,11,13,205,99,158,0.08199999999999999,0.821,0.098,0.5652,0,2,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,4,4,1,14,4,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,7,0,30,27,15,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,12,5,0,3,5,0,0,2,5,3,0,3,0,0,13,1,21,24,5,11,0,2,0,0,17,5,0,6,4,92,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529531633896814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19364547511604255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248862003021226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18148548758627386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984603334614114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20110759669430944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803376427562821,0.19255839584518533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083009346927222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861028191905494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848522434604455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047757986171649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.345808816587518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092639282064292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265789467651056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977229929608354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22405032333311092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17138155927724716,0.0,0.21840920399945174,0.0,0.2059701130083176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SaturdayMorningRobot,2019/04/12,"My wife and I are having trouble training our son (1 year + 10 months) to fall back asleep on his own, and not cry for help throughout the night when he wakes up. Hey. I'll make this as short as I can. Our son is nearly two years old, and for a while now we've tried to crack the code at trying to get him to sleep on his own throughout the night, and not wake up. Or, if he does wake up, fall back asleep on his own without crying out for help when no one is in his room. I think at this point he has the deck stacked against him in a sense, due to my wife having breast fed him a lot. She still does (in the day), and he's so attached to it, that it's been difficult to get him off. After nearly two years though, my wife is just exhausted at not getting adequate sleep. Recently, we've tried having just me sleep with my son, and it's gone up and down. He wakes up crying at night, and he'll cry for mommy, but I try to explain to him that just daddy is available. This has gotten slightly better, but he is still attached to me by needing to sleep on me to feel comfortable falling asleep. When it's his initial bedtime, I usually sing him to sleep with Disney songs (as in, I sing them while we are in the room in the dark). He'll fall asleep not to long after that (about 9:30pm), but usually wakes up at least once by 11pm to 12am. Getting him to go back to sleep can be a challenge. If he can't have his mom's milk, he will ask for water out of his sippy cup. I try to get him to lay down, so I can rub his back, and he'll go back to sleep. A lot of the time though, that only works for a few minutes, and he'll rise again. So it might take a while to get him back in a deep sleep. And he's cranky at times too. 

So I'm not sure how to proceed. Earlier, my wife didn't want to do a ""cry it out"" method. Now she is more open to it, but from what I've heard it might be too late for that? Besides, he can crawl down from his bed at this point, and run to the door where he can most likely open it. So I'm not sure if there is a solution. Due to spacing in our house, I sleep in the same bed with him anyway later in the night, when I turn in (which is around 10:30pm if I can). So I will be sleeping next to him, but I'm not sure if there is conflicting with any potential solution to get him to try and go back to sleep on his own. We have a nightlight, and a big glass window without the drapes covered (we live high up in a nice looking apartment building) so there is plenty of ""night"" light. Still, he'll probably be scared, and cry out for help. 

What should I do? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.",4.048473579040852,3.342410802841922,4.7692534413854375,92.20576293294852,70.63410301953819,8.03217140319716,25.586645204262886,6.9077264865688965,0.6920568827708697,1994,45,498,14,32,644,221,563,0.065,0.862,0.07400000000000001,0.8713,0,0,1,0,0,0,82.0,6,0,1,3,39,13,0,1,25,0,41,25,21,2,3,71,74,46,0,9,23,8,2,1,0,11,1,2,7,0,21,29,3,1,3,3,0,10,12,4,0,3,6,6,52,9,100,52,11,110,0,0,1,1,63,55,0,11,46,327,73,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476700642560792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048937596295072695,0.051392304095273234,0.0,0.0,0.2958957327586959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048619122695297785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623113428320533,0.03545301643597721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621442917007904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02779598427657328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20104774727860575,0.0,0.09372721337341376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738888616499166,0.058081958714481276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06343142403844569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062011902141316785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026857015279109428,0.0,0.048542137725888286,0.04864934661163305,0.04616344766295552,0.0,0.0,0.09347210275679282,0.0,0.0,0.036694882883904906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166352630763597,0.0,0.06438367549119835,0.04387889843160914,0.0,0.0,0.04076175906965734,0.0,0.0,0.05846437491848905,0.2579420315840168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05768488226591707,0.05854441659189684,0.03725110569826369,0.041809419194756926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393444682402167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059270157115608166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427917372211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055037530887541534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6051393549065386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317044493087455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554341147419576,0.0,0.0413328303213301,0.0,0.0,0.05061172290641645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035224458060189374,0.10802132351663818,0.0,0.06411035921943736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22393821972735986,0.059794803089970885,0.10740120332747892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210899150361534,0.0,0.03242448071361878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598395850388716,0.0,0.04002097528908236,0.0,0.0,0.039051219079276,0.0,0.0,0.10620236672633827
parenting,Tremic,2019/04/12,"Newborn only wants pacifier Hello all, just brought baby home around 8pm, and it's almost 2am and she won't breastfeed. She hasn't eaten since 7:30. Everytime we take the pacifier out and put her to the nipple she just screams her lungs off. The second the pacifier goes in, she's perfect and falls asleep. We don't want her to starve, my fiance doesn't want to give her the formula.

Any ideas?",1.679648382559776,4.199040227848101,2.770042194092828,90.83694796061887,83.43037974683544,6.042756680731365,21.436005625879048,7.3871296695380915,0.851378621659634,314,10,63,5,9,100,55,79,0.098,0.8540000000000001,0.048,-0.2129,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,0,4,3,2,0,2,17,11,4,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,8,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,2,1,11,1,7,8,1,7,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,0,36,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29621147193395897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20116127421381305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633340479526348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28376837265835003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967220363118077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339340324515281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22497720428930149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29737124177536856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24469749079178646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22241267135858808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5234300663806247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jfkfoundation,2019/04/12,"Know Everything about Girls Mentoring Program Activities Mentorship is one of the largest discussed topics in the world, especially when it comes to shaping the future of girls. It is imperative to make the generation physically, mentally, and intellectually strong. If you are a parent and want a better future for your daughter, it is the best time to search for [girls mentoring program activities](https://www.jfkfoundation.org/ophelia-project/)**.**",9.717654584221748,14.01760144776119,8.748827292110875,49.38567164179108,64.3731343283582,11.589765458422177,39.42217484008529,10.914260884657429,6.252805543710022,375,20,43,13,7,117,48,67,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.9201,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,0,3,2,3,0,0,7,0,4,0,0,1,0,7,8,4,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,9,8,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,4,31,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38126133392643424,0.3213096619486331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129511077093842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265109549170566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19966038718217324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425058240677074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3661213328883339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24618173910981536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034020771974905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118433725892293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21428397633263813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,momdonewithgamea,2019/04/12,How to kill his xbox?!? I am over my 15 yr old son’s addiction to Xbox. How do I kill the gaming system without it being obvious? He isn’t super literate when it comes to messing with the software or hardware even. I just want it to stop working because I sure as hell am not paying for it to get fixed and he doesn’t have an income source. Not interested in hearing about how to cure him just how to destroy it without it being traceable back to me.,2.2602419354838688,3.9721977526881713,4.042674731182796,86.78401209677419,76.84946236559139,6.370430107526883,26.678763440860216,7.1686216300943375,1.3218182795698925,353,14,72,4,8,119,65,93,0.212,0.718,0.07,-0.9538,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,2,10,8,4,0,3,0,8,1,0,4,2,18,12,8,2,1,7,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,3,0,1,0,3,1,1,6,5,0,0,0,1,8,3,16,10,0,8,1,0,0,0,7,2,1,1,4,54,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26399589822501923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862101510001294,0.0,0.1476217059215133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208603944429214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994788236591678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652136287992755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729378686188345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5358400012150196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541117229339901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20246101605646866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282379088378898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428353553951145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4668773730808121,0.0,0.17629920673715502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mc-Carl-Rob,2019/04/12,"My daughter wants to visit her mom who lives in a different state. My daughter is thirteen. Her mother left more than ten years ago, and since then it’s just been me and my daughter. My ex recently decided to get back into contact with us. She sent my daughter a birthday card back in November, including money for a plane ticket to visit her in New York (we’re in California). Obviously, my daughter was ecstatic to hear from her mom and immediately wanted to jump on a plane to go, but I was hesitant and told her I needed to think about it. I mentioned maybe she could go over the summer, but now that’s coming up and I’m still uneasy. We haven’t spoken to my ex wife in practically a decade—I barely know who she is anymore. At one point, maybe when my daughter was five, she did come back, only to suddenly leave again and I had to pick up the broken pieces. I’m not sure if now is going to be any different. I suggested to my daughter that maybe I could go with her on the visit, but she didn’t like that idea. Then I suggested maybe her mom could visit us instead. My daughter hated that idea even more. But I just don’t feel comfortable with the idea of my recently turned teenage daughter traveling alone across the country and meeting with someone who is essentially a stranger, even if she is biologically related. Am I wrong? What should I do?",4.9051294903926514,5.849081451127822,5.877092731829574,79.24758563074356,69.07518796992481,9.069005847953218,30.191311612364245,9.2995712137729,2.5656188805346707,1070,41,208,21,18,354,140,266,0.1,0.863,0.037000000000000005,-0.9498,2,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,0,0,0,14,5,1,0,11,0,21,0,0,1,2,41,41,16,0,9,9,16,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,10,15,0,0,7,2,1,13,4,2,0,3,9,2,38,3,34,27,3,46,0,0,0,0,47,15,0,2,18,149,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023390810226836,0.0,0.0,0.10542749780296427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922315673815456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009519248208072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348190465225337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537239177927014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438217834447726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2127053482497214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446746065752652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0514699161637022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05318296851993392,0.0,0.2314066553204885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050013186493302,0.0,0.0,0.11472881531025796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447378421956053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05594311504439338,0.0,0.0,0.10778475272684812,0.1105990731417751,0.0,0.0,0.04973122416060908,0.0,0.08988563723084568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4090615196401477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35765839556571205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547868429931832,0.0,0.09831291888362166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897799582189178,0.07741864002351179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09622787974199867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101785157985025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420473982735313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624940948283648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129252169255433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593928838958768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0652252456768658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972681724834689,0.0,0.0,0.11072223496182293,0.0,0.0,0.24489039855505976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008103669767073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129535085260783,0.0,0.06555175809332495
parenting,tugboattommy,2019/04/12,"Child uses people's age to identify them Asking for my sister, who has 5 kids and no Reddit account. Her son (we'll call him Joey) is turning 5 in June. For the past year he has been asking people their ages, then using that number to identify them. For example, his mother is 33 and he has a baby brother who he recognizes is 0 years old. He drew a picture of them together that says ""33 ♥️ 0"". He does this verbally and in these drawings. It's pretty adorable, honestly. Has anyone else experienced something like this, and/or is it a sign of something else, such as dyslexia, etc? He doesn't have any learning disabilities, though he is speech delayed like his older brother was at his age.",4.3911940298507455,5.861629910447763,5.39868656716418,80.22355223880598,70.7910447761194,8.046567164179105,29.07164179104477,8.548686976883017,2.2574202985074625,544,21,100,9,10,179,91,134,0.03,0.853,0.116,0.8909999999999999,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,4,0,2,4,0,0,4,0,14,0,0,2,0,8,19,6,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,1,0,2,0,2,9,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,3,11,4,11,16,1,14,0,0,0,0,30,3,0,0,13,56,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072882803572106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441768644169613,0.196971145165266,0.0,0.0,0.3594342481059594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962970859849708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822927875339302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3211813358187316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21439683512372532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878361218310276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172205400533585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835134789558568,0.2665480556008783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19557574911200304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287583645462924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29598930500499004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887343095979464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091003747316354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320648248072766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24759068829053
parenting,albertinevas,2019/04/13,Holding my son is my drug of choice This day a couple years ago I would be high as a kite dancing with my friends at Coachella and instead I’m holding my 5 month old son on my shoulder as he falls asleep and I’ve never been happier ❤️,1.9173076923076915,2.95502611538462,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,76.30769230769229,5.9692307692307685,28.384615384615394,5.985473137389443,0.9620615384615387,186,8,43,1,4,62,41,52,0.057,0.88,0.063,0.0834,0,0,1,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,4,3,2,0,1,7,5,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,1,6,2,0,11,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,6,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29990371625161233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743489505874285,0.0,0.218190920985578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3923483030631962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261388199090944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35745776632136306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700469021561138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609362418982702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550140116081256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24033558532046945,0.0,0.0,0.21786949354707885
parenting,irishchinadoll,2019/04/13,"Lice!!! Help!!! My son just came home from his Nana's with lice. I have an appointment set for Monday at the clinic, but what can I do until then to keep him comfortable and ensure it doesn't spread to the rest of the household?",2.3408695652173925,4.12321026086957,3.003695652173913,94.01032608695654,76.82608695652173,6.339130434782609,18.02173913043478,7.1686216300943375,-0.037417391304347625,176,3,39,2,4,55,41,46,0.0,0.782,0.218,0.8972,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,6,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,1,8,5,1,6,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6067214963848717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3555658686317657,0.0,0.532109165577134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4715101004193296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,i_love_life1202,2019/04/13,"Life Life is so hard, I’m a single mom, literally just put $1000 on rent and it was every single dime in my pocket just so I can keep a roof over me and my children! I don’t even have enough for damn food (trying to get on food stamps) but I’m a bad ass momma and I always figure stuff out for my children and I, I don’t have any family and I’m doing this 100% on my own!",0.2668106312292373,1.208111395348837,3.1967774086378737,94.0254651162791,80.3953488372093,5.84451827242525,15.774086378737545,6.18269132825596,-0.6940843853820593,284,3,73,2,7,102,56,86,0.041,0.8690000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.7004,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,3,0,8,5,1,0,0,11,13,8,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,6,2,1,1,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,1,1,10,0,9,12,4,7,0,0,0,1,4,6,2,0,0,48,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918136790682503,0.0,0.0,0.156763607292052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924771525673692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23819197637565914,0.0,0.15225832791627975,0.0,0.19422564709009205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21731665477287432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5574988749051766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043880089463176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065034107639787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20489951575008405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256505540128262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699858588229965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317393780080893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638937877667366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565100472936121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Michael_Mackalano,2019/04/13,"Alternatives to spanking? I feel like my six-year-old is out of control. Not eating his dinner, throwing tantrums in public, and, most recently, he’s not even telling me how his day was. He’s got special needs, but this isn’t about that so I don’t want to make it a big thing. Anyway, he spends the day at home with a care taker while I work (partner left - long story), and when I get home, it’s nothing but attitude. Sometimes I wanna smack him on the head but of course I wouldn’t. It just feels desperate. I’ve heard from some old timers that spanking, although frowned upon, was quite effective and may simply be underrated. What do you guys think?",3.154588068181816,5.084070453125005,3.6981818181818182,89.27409090909092,74.9375,6.529545454545455,25.69886363636364,7.348242739294969,1.1446625000000004,510,18,104,6,11,160,96,128,0.038,0.843,0.119,0.8755,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,4,7,4,1,0,4,0,9,3,1,4,0,25,19,11,0,4,6,0,2,1,1,2,0,1,2,2,8,5,2,1,4,0,1,1,5,1,0,0,4,3,12,3,13,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,3,8,64,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110272838960116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022456983877813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417604591114092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19179305311827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12379921430451644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18954578751551696,0.13390377942773668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792718156429507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990909126281293,0.0,0.0,0.185590365163722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19236264067509096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760256748211302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20364894660473568,0.0,0.0,0.09157139500336928,0.0,0.0,0.16587429723417124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12511448425090424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389808622443296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984917669407993,0.0,0.3933635279124959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19936045930753105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850696961560747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185378254093616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638266692801125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452365092408488,0.12010093933700047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110554166215017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645509370757467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070215513182035
parenting,AgreeablePeace,2019/04/13,"Should I say anything to my workaholic son about slowing down or dating? My son is currently 28 and he lives at home.  However, it feels as if he doesn't really live here.  His job is extremely intensive and more often than not, he is not home.  He makes good money, but at the expense of many other things.  In the last couple of months or so, I have been really concerned about his health and overall well-being.  He wakes up at 5am, is at work by 6am, and doesn't come home until 9pm.  This happens 6 days of the week.  He looks exhausted by the end of the day, and one time when I asked him if he was happy, he just avoided the question by saying not to worry about him.  He has been at his job ever since he got his master's 5 years ago.  It just seems like he works all day long.  He exercises, but eats all junk food.  He's actually gotten a bit thinner because many time he skips meals.

One thing to note here is that I am an Indian immigrant,  Now, a lot of our extended family is asking us when my son will get married (arranged marriages are common in Indian culture).  Now, we live in the US, where people are expected to find their own spouses by dating, and I have tried to keep up with the norms of the country we are living in (USA).  I usually don't ask/tell my son when is he going to get married.  I try not to be one of those annoying Indian mothers who show their sons photographs of prospective brides.  

That being said, I am worried about his social life (or lack thereof).  The guy has practically no friends, except a few work colleagues, who he has never met outside of work.  Even though I have refrained from commenting on my son's love life (or lack thereof), I do worry about him on this aspect.  I do believe that every person needs some sort of companionship in life, the type that only a spouse or romantic partner can provide.  Heaven knows my husband and I (we had a love marriage) wouldn't even be half of what we are today without each other.  I don't care if my son dates/marries outside our race, as long as the person matches his values and he is happy.  However, he has neither asked for me to look for a match for him, nor is he dating.",5.126706841545552,5.160303599078343,6.064239631336408,81.31580999645517,68.30875576036865,8.888904643743354,29.365118752215533,8.617729084823388,2.0754469337114503,1678,55,339,24,26,557,230,434,0.055,0.8370000000000001,0.108,0.9817,5,1,0,0,0,0,59.0,8,0,2,5,21,12,1,1,19,0,39,12,1,1,4,56,62,28,0,9,18,11,1,1,2,3,6,3,3,4,16,15,3,3,5,2,2,2,14,3,0,4,8,6,41,9,55,48,12,47,1,0,2,2,73,16,0,14,30,226,57,7,0.0,0.0,0.08102587462808318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07360160470839394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832709761198025,0.0,0.3104895584118769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05061467456238089,0.0,0.0,0.09354703734083196,0.0,0.0,0.09064789517664758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08465521612349819,0.0,0.0,0.0715234978068015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187176413986793,0.0,0.16064357705925486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496101808453413,0.0,0.0,0.0735404544106854,0.0,0.0,0.10968183794322417,0.07510591862600427,0.06995684978317553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782738469460541,0.0,0.04198275907058661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588845137633256,0.0,0.10040091416953847,0.0,0.06414922477582738,0.0,0.08676010844585673,0.0,0.0471881954633028,0.06964211617570239,0.06640714461103006,0.0,0.0,0.08221333418821432,0.07342367298536336,0.1767752054848161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825763023069429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498593429686941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479008954695848,0.07380139986005615,0.0,0.0,0.04563143862711783,0.0676810095331087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17594087518974194,0.040564550281754506,0.0,0.2932701145085609,0.14695891157623314,0.13944956090185434,0.0,0.0,0.0705896350136972,0.14987669118752298,0.0,0.055423560896771855,0.16835996407248674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627422158565456,0.0,0.0,0.061566127440826575,0.06403830659496569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879102176222274,0.06314850215302509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756295380529776,0.1449982101090136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301325876011618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10638303902004452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898110109702998,0.1320585091787116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07558792708191257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868375875199627,0.0,0.0,0.08463922613676836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032366382518978,0.0,0.08157712917378288,0.0,0.09683160481950794,0.0,0.07870328701456752,0.0,0.0,0.11274463524375047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997511433385146,0.0,0.09144646000403038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660212775990275,0.0,0.07465446838476622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003852194875906,0.0,0.2417890219843772,0.25296477144475904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346897511805632
parenting,xgelidx,2019/04/13,"NYT: Fisher-Price Recalls Rock ’n Play Sleeper Linked to Infant Deaths https://www.nytimes.com/2019/04/12/business/fisher-price-rock-n-play-recall.html

A separate investigation by Consumer Reports connected the cloth-covered cradle to 32 infant deaths from 2011 to 2018, including some involving children under 3 months.",17.018846153846148,23.077387230769233,9.997115384615388,40.75413461538463,48.48717948717949,10.053846153846157,40.519230769230774,10.125756701596842,5.878276923076926,278,12,22,6,4,72,35,39,0.0,0.934,0.066,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,9,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tossoneover,2019/04/13,"I'm a terrible mom and I hate myself. Throwaway account. Going to try to be detailed without being identifyable.

Maybe this should be going into confessions or something.

I'm a mom of three kids, under age 6, and pregnant with fourth. I suffered severe but undiagnosed (because I never told my doctor) PPD after the first two. I sought out and had therapy for a year after my second and during a portion of my third pregnancy. I could do it because I wasn't working and it was free. It really helped, and broke down a lot of issues I'd had stemming from childhood. It's probably why I was a better after my third was born.

I never had the instant bonding thing moms are supposed to have when their babies are born. When my first was born I was asked ""Isn't that the most beautiful sound you've ever heard?"" when the first crying noises were made, but I didn't say yes, let alone think it. My first was so colicky for the first 5-6 months and I mostly took care of the baby while my partner worked hard for us. It was extremely rough, and we had no support. We moved closer to family when the baby was almost a year and they were able to help. Again, I was very depressed.

When I got back into the workforce (something I was already dissatisfied with because I never fulfilled my dream profession) I was there for about four years before I quit. It was a toxic workplace. The first two years were hard, but there was a day, I can remember it perfectly, where I made the conscious decision to be happy. It was a relief. And I was doing it. I actually was feeling better, and things were going on the up. Then, my boss left for a better job, and I was essentially pushed into the position. It went downhill from there. My mood got steadily worse, and I was left with no energy to deal with the kids, no patience, no feelings of love.

And here I am now. Jobless (but searching) because a job I thought I was going to transition into when I quit fell through. And here...here is where we get to the part most hard to write. I'm sorry. I don't love my self, I don't feel love for my kids. I hate myself for it. I have no patience, I have no energy. I don't want to play. I don't care that my parents take care of them more than I do, in fact, I prefer it. I don't know why I'm like this. And I'm terrified the baby growing inside can feel this, can feel my hatred towards myself, my lack of love towards its siblings, my anxiety at our financial stress. I'm constantly asked why I'm always so grumpy. I can see the changes in my kids, they fight a little more, they complain a little more, whine a little more. They're young enough that they can bounce back and be cheerful, but I can see them changing. And I hate myself for doing that to them. I'm scared of the time where they don't bounce back, where they soak up my terrible moods and spit it back out. I don't have money for therapy. I don't want to tell my doctor because I don't want to be reported. Don't get me wrong, I feed them, make sure they're dressed well, bathe them (with help from my partner because now I'm too big to do it comfortably).  I don't think I'm a good parent, but I don't think I'm a bad one. I'm just a bad mom. I've blamed it on the pregnancy, on the terrible morning-all-day sickness I've had since it began. And it's partly true I think. But I'm not improving. Little things get me angry again, get me so annoyed. I've not told anyone about this. My best friend has her kids, and FB is filled with people I know who have kids, and all of them show such love and gush. Even this sub shows love and gush, even from people who say they didn't feel it at first.

My partner is amazing; doing so much for our family. I cannot complain about my partner, I just feel terrible about being such a weight, and I know it makes things more difficult, my partner has said so. I tried to do better, do more chores. I don't want to be difficult. I want to be the kind of mom that has fun with her kids. I wanted to be the kind that does projects with them, takes them places like the park, the beach, museums. I want to feel the love. I always thought I wanted this. I always thought I wanted kids, wanted a big family. I'm so blessed to have food in the fridge, warm water in the shower, a roof over our heads, parents who are willing to watch the kids while we (when I was anyway) working. I'm so lucky, and people tell me I am. My kids hug me. Tell me they love me, give me kisses unasked for on the cheek. They pick dandelions for me, and draw pictures for me. They come to me when they're hurt, or scared.

But...I'm regretting my life. In no shape or form can I say I regret my kids, because if I did, then...it's just unthinkable to wish they hadn't been born. I'm terrified of them dying. I have nightmares about it. I read news about children dying and I cry over it. I see my kids in them. But why can't I feel love? Why can't I be more patient? Why do I say everything in tones of anger and annoyance? I hate myself. I don't hate my kids, I just don't feel love, or like doing anything with them. I don't want to raise them maybe. Dammit that's a terrible thing to say. I don't know what to ask for here. Hate me too if you want. I deserve it. My kids don't deserve this. My partner doesn't. I can't imagine what my partner would say. I'm not looking for pity. I don't know what I'm looking for.",1.869108011226274,3.5445827834681083,3.314238660256944,91.73798593936701,77.85893980233601,6.242880299367362,22.25589796315336,7.063132872152347,0.5533289965820991,4150,120,915,46,97,1361,367,1113,0.173,0.657,0.17,0.9663,7,1,2,0,1,0,171.0,8,1,24,18,52,78,10,3,50,1,111,23,3,6,9,141,217,61,2,22,22,8,16,3,8,3,4,9,3,23,49,49,4,0,28,8,3,12,43,33,1,15,49,31,164,44,107,152,20,103,2,8,6,12,106,42,0,12,52,619,213,11,0.03953692447727343,0.0,0.03858233501989729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03959051876708116,0.040948330045905285,0.04362997930857917,0.0,0.09869366520622656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03024563900779303,0.0,0.0,0.02764513687379202,0.0,0.03253552008050704,0.0,0.11088506188128508,0.0,0.0,0.12160581781728347,0.06602336096016925,0.1687093953501623,0.0,0.033643010698074564,0.0,0.04149156300449991,0.1398687870642415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093158850740388,0.0,0.08364964737570747,0.034057559598628016,0.0,0.04272536961018848,0.0,0.03156701704627789,0.0,0.08685891005467314,0.05099609095937409,0.040760833075540896,0.034053095118252656,0.0,0.08206617106409551,0.0,0.0,0.0809354350508519,0.03459902904469435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04085221187112556,0.0,0.05222753147124737,0.03576341172133785,0.0,0.0,0.03553323836456627,0.0,0.11181568110301313,0.0,0.1999105696737017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23541061434045085,0.0478082060153471,0.0,0.030546129775559813,0.0,0.08262564485198333,0.03792742060219482,0.08987898123686648,0.03316169643486047,0.06324258054252467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04208779129218089,0.10625195546472092,0.23420716539930456,0.04057629091667039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07950230122355001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04232509537504309,0.0,0.0,0.0412662771388119,0.07846859379233383,0.0,0.0,0.08234324547444452,0.10864229856404033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591396825607463,0.04042918398660024,0.027926099004065542,0.05794723263720281,0.1585055401958832,0.0,0.0,0.06640211786406479,0.0,0.0,0.033612879336778916,0.3568361796533128,0.07482158780647401,0.05278240819566005,0.0,0.07944030952251893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315258405146673,0.03155799591349778,0.04202149370870584,0.02906418866763155,0.0,0.09147994059286026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02679124324944837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13170322725736014,0.08562927272744604,0.0,0.08222977580847164,0.0,0.0413076710733332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042627491639564835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841047717556197,0.039547623730537336,0.0,0.02532836622095259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044787628169942674,0.0,0.03760866904249148,0.18864809544167332,0.07916671734798372,0.0,0.09451742983655644,0.0,0.04124563491262653,0.04466547092118993,0.0,0.03270535249090483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060874912123939626,0.0,0.04425835001662495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04528941340739275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04486603336305743,0.0372630834195485,0.0,0.059453693551896114,0.0,0.103671043960873,0.0,0.09042783763379388,0.0,0.13133287909152347,0.10133465909598632,0.0,0.09416370515290612,0.023054298610222467,0.0,0.0,0.07555845131142133,0.04392697784636432,0.05368595289637056,0.0,0.07724366054895576,0.0,0.047558052093046664,0.0,0.0,0.03262210333544666,0.2798388290770436,0.0,0.0,0.04814532270385058,0.0355484432988159,0.03665112509392888,0.21405554859315487,0.0,0.045465511942143294,0.03811218431765145,0.0,0.0863500557058588,0.0,0.040291503776296325,0.02808589677887464,0.043227420305514214,0.0,0.10184193237750697
parenting,i-touched-morrissey,2019/04/13,"In regards to the post about the little kid thinking that their life would be easier if they were white, I have some comments as a white person. My children's lives would have been easier if they had been extroverts. My oldest's life would have been easier if she hadn't been on the autism spectrum and overweight. My youngest's life would have been easier if she wasn't plagued by severe social anxiety. Due to her anxiety, she has been doing online school and will graduate in May, but won't have a graduation ceremony to invite family. 

Parents of minority kids have their hearts broken by mean comments of racist kids, but to hear my own children wish they had just one friend so they could have a secret clubhouse in the backyard, or to have a birthday party to attend, or to have a sleepover with a best friend still makes my stomach knot up. Was I a bad parent? Did I do something wrong to make them so shy and unable to make friends? 

I know there are truly hateful people out there who make life difficult for people with more pigment in their skin cells, but there are also people who are just assholes in general and make everyone miserable because their own life sucks. And there are kids like mine who are awkward and shy and have no friends.",10.358865546218489,7.784815558823535,9.160907563025214,71.77379831932774,59.37815126050421,12.209075630252102,38.50588235294118,10.355215969177356,3.798225546218487,1005,35,183,16,10,312,130,238,0.188,0.648,0.16399999999999998,-0.8488,2,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,9,1,11,13,2,2,11,0,40,9,3,5,0,39,52,20,0,10,11,2,1,1,4,7,6,1,1,7,4,10,1,0,4,0,0,1,4,7,0,1,13,4,23,6,26,30,5,14,0,1,2,0,35,9,1,8,4,137,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241441880927842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17680832657060086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648895137350627,0.07044516368344249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127457151317067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922663835493764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042388070554963,0.0,0.0,0.10894101380522893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3571298386146559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409296883655805,0.0,0.0,0.1302461092035226,0.13694082871380744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350952941990162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081222115427573,0.05645746829452716,0.1158228931242878,0.10204284329910786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38569069672476014,0.0,0.0,0.12588025481782156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830740300213809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25663454279939346,0.0,0.0,0.2403471960242844,0.10090376687443396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067588783361586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11695431769384902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305515014417226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780030575709942,0.0,0.08896482018443158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228749228487394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404708615078047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288991978471335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3283660436751209,0.12634826204552507,0.0,0.0
parenting,plagueisthedumb,2019/04/13,"Expecting my first baby in November this year, looking for informative/entertaining podcast recommendations Hi Parenting,

My wife and I (29M/F) decided to casually start trying at the beginning of the year, 2 weeks after stopping the pill she fell pregnant. Currently shes at 9 weeks today.

Had a quick browse in a local baby store and had the realisation I really know nothing on what to expect and what is good for baby.

I dont have a heap of time with my work schedule to read/watch videos but I do have alot of time for podcasts.

I was hoping to get some recommendations on funny/informative podcasts that can steer me into a good place to start.

Thanks!",4.900243902439024,6.986258414634148,6.475292682926831,70.54562195121954,70.54471544715446,9.472845528455288,29.37317073170732,9.888512548439397,3.205706341463415,527,21,90,14,10,180,83,123,0.011,0.86,0.129,0.9286,2,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,9,0,10,1,0,0,0,14,18,4,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,2,2,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,1,11,5,20,15,2,26,0,0,1,0,5,9,0,3,16,60,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24508982037139626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787935220136902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925778937228656,0.0,0.0,0.3508037874486346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770566529216186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492816686340025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561009346341191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20065852148639216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23220560620717326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184883317364681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20917892750929729,0.0,0.13396912334761885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960357315849801,0.0,0.0,0.17483563680379988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19253175054930607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438818317188381,0.0,0.1982235225284549,0.0,0.0,0.14198033901725984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354906478052049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15224355126864655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693358561231541
parenting,evilgrinners,2019/04/13,"Be aware of background noise when babies/toddlers sleep and/or have issues When one of our kids was around 2.5-3 years old she all-of-a-sudden developed sleep issues and we couldn't figure it out. She would wake up in the middle of the night and scream for us. We knew that some kids start having nightmares around that age, but something was different. Did anything change recently?  Yes. Our furnace did...  Our furnace died, so we got a new furnace that had a barely audible fan blower sound and now at night it was mostly off. Previously, we had a fan blower that ran 24/7, so there was always white noise in our daughters room. So, when the white noise was absent if she woke up it was absolutely silent and scared her. We bought a $30 white noise machine that mimicked the old furnace fan and she slept through the night after that.",4.834811320754717,6.484063000000003,4.346053459119498,87.5032311320755,69.9433962264151,6.809433962264151,25.199685534591197,7.1686216300943375,1.0085761006289309,663,19,127,6,12,199,96,159,0.067,0.8640000000000001,0.068,-0.2139,3,0,1,0,0,0,26.0,10,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,9,1,15,4,4,0,0,21,22,13,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,9,13,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,0,1,16,6,15,0,15,3,2,27,0,0,3,0,18,11,0,3,15,81,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869994479919984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13717217299864393,0.2967799752239396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633656804476208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299854108195006,0.1741562141506126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331771211269774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479633884866964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16099083446426926,0.0,0.4692835501021012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3498275196527879,0.0,0.1129538745582828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458687238430691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16688638480223014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33362199348612204,0.0,0.0,0.12832657902009725,0.0,0.0,0.11798447508934352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005082854997734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11841223014849095,0.0,0.0,0.10734329074835763
parenting,wundurmommy,2019/04/13,"Back to work after birth Hi Fellow moms, has anyone had to go back to work 3 weeks after having their baby?  My family is relocating and I may have a job offer to start only 3 weeks after our LO will be born, I of course will as we are trying to get family situated. We have a 3yo so I understand going back to work but after three weeks... I’m not sure my feelings. Just looking for any comforting words from mamas who had to go back to work right away",2.9217325227963538,4.014053361702132,5.0875683890577506,82.50500000000002,73.8936170212766,7.924620060790273,19.811550151975684,8.418075326091056,0.8937677811550153,352,6,73,6,7,123,64,94,0.027000000000000003,0.933,0.039,0.2748,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,1,4,6,2,0,0,2,0,12,0,0,0,1,11,21,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,9,2,17,15,0,19,0,0,1,0,9,2,0,1,14,51,10,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060453834045502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903773336947024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651191823732054,0.4796367187426602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940150252175544,0.0,0.07884857106453544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147285609383305,0.0,0.2658749829047453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547476079946091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095135784431536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263648309235495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860033189481835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317295780888944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528447546077014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037600475272599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697276316533328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058738584714672,0.0,0.0,0.16234031930690426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752599438424129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4541082888455644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,namenerd77,2019/04/13,"Kids birthday party: Is this normal or am I being entitled? Earlier today I went to a birthday party for my daughters (6) friend from school. The party was being held at Build a Bear, but it wasn’t run by the employees. We had cake and pizza in the food court, then went down to BAB to make bears, then back to friends house for the rest of the party. 

The invitation said each kid (about 8 total) would get to make a Bear, and I just assumed they would get to take them home, since that is what happened at another BAB party I went to. Me and my husband even pitched in about 30 dollars as we know these things can get expensive. 

We get to the store, and the kids go wild getting their animals and accessories. As far as I know the parents didn’t really put a limit, but I made my daughter stick to just a standard dog with a shirt, which about half the parents did as well. All is well, we leave the store, then friends mom announces that the kids need to give all their animals to her daughter. Cue the upset and angry kids. They all disappointingly handed over their animals, and friend wasn’t even being nice about it either. Another little boy didn’t want to, and friend ripped it out of his hands. I probably should have said something, but I didn’t. The other parents seemed pretty baffled too. 

We get back to friends house and our kids are watching as friend plays with all her new animals. I left with my daughter pretty quickly, and once we got back into the car she just started bawling. I felt bad so we went to build a bear and got her a new one.

I’m just wondering if this is totally normal and I should have expected this, or am I being an entitled parent?",4.441185770750991,5.478278939393941,4.952318840579713,85.11195652173916,70.21212121212122,8.042160737812912,27.681159420289852,8.321376580360154,1.7513807641633732,1310,44,264,19,23,418,164,330,0.049,0.768,0.183,0.9928,5,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,8,0,6,1,18,14,0,1,24,0,26,5,3,3,6,63,57,27,0,10,11,10,3,0,7,4,0,2,1,7,13,25,2,2,6,1,4,8,5,3,2,2,19,6,36,11,40,30,9,30,0,1,1,0,46,11,0,6,11,185,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17791447139466424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956993861731509,0.07083395320448292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206586476116624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145521641938297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10258321231857184,0.0,0.4588049341758815,0.0,0.2659377366959452,0.08138177448201578,0.04821387050289356,0.0,0.13570111928662565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501959815174801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509674850919814,0.0,0.0,0.19577715079735294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324655250017087,0.0,0.0,0.08982836043261454,0.09217382936220976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502728317375327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027323620447364,0.11325647703414687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935810788268283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062904318901219,0.0,0.16386897198791964,0.0,0.0,0.16624121345666815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034685291400636,0.05748661210283471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37679835746038587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17261604973273584,0.0914668294406587,0.0,0.0,0.08528293378465028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05434768183713992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16139564325698924,0.0,0.0,0.08585787853077473,0.0,0.07723089412782594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07017665790369157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06531037823590215,0.0,0.0,0.0600468800219682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06378560687677359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056360820633722185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041396902374433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003807297742922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255429184464742,0.31457278660639115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920002916537316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052916235760462,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,payopoyo,2019/04/13,"Is repeating the same word to help a child to speak annoying if everyone is in the same car? And even if it is annoying, and the baby is trying to repeat those sounds, should the other parent stop the parent from repeating those words? Perhaps this post should fall into r/amitheasshole but I find myself quite disturbed by my wife “correcting” my parenting simply because she finds it annoying. My baby is 11mo and hes starting to babble with detectable patterns. I’m “dada” and  I’m quite excited that he started calling me it although inconsistently. 

I was driving my baby and my wife to a festival and I start repeating “dada” to help with his “da” elocution. I repeat the sounds and I wait until he repeats, which he does. I do this for a few minutes, surely not longer than 5, and my wife says to stop because it was “obnoxious” to her. We were having a pleasant morning before this so it wasn’t some lingering negative feelings. 

Her argument is that she finds repeating sounds annoying and it’s essentially brainwashing, not teaching. However isn’t all early baby teachings “brainwashing” by repeating the same simple words and simple actions? Teaching starts with repeating in my perspective, not going to full blown sentences, which she prefers I do over repeating words. 

Am I petty for being annoyed that she stopped me from doing my version of parenting, which is innocuous? Even if it is annoying as an adult, shouldn’t we reserve our annoyance for the attempt at helping our baby? Tell me how it is fellas I’m all ears",6.208225806451615,7.873719383512548,6.894944444444448,70.47575000000003,66.63440860215053,10.167813620071684,35.45537634408602,10.355215969177356,4.2274400000000005,1224,60,191,32,20,403,145,279,0.171,0.747,0.08199999999999999,-0.979,5,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,3,4,12,7,1,13,0,24,1,1,1,4,48,34,19,0,7,7,7,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,2,20,16,0,4,5,0,0,5,7,8,0,0,4,7,32,4,28,26,9,31,0,0,0,0,31,6,0,4,19,147,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15605016978703368,0.0,0.10891504484618296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306980782471346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120100348288074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16908010948978155,0.0,0.0,0.122305524124251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06471854988436967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509576765397269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274299378253027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573787697197167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5684969965720443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258464729655985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722786931808561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017874408821997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623844984472863,0.0,0.0,0.3210307969310257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063457810508785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187401848566136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690078334239139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,H0tSquid,2019/04/13,"Baby's first real food I'm a new dad, 23, and my daughter has been staring me down when I'm eating with drool pooling and everything. I already had a bit of baby food stockpiled for just such the occasion, so I tried giving her a spoonful of strawberry/blueberry puree. 

She sat there for about ten seconds thinking about it and making a face, followed by the biggest excited wiggle and a death grip on the spoon while she ate the rest of the spoonful. She screamed when I went to get her another spoonful.

This child is my spawn, and I love her.",6.5027414330218045,6.279307700934581,6.583691588785047,79.6238862928349,65.44859813084112,9.37632398753894,35.59034267912773,8.841846274778883,2.988882866043613,432,19,82,6,6,138,75,107,0.059,0.852,0.08900000000000001,0.4728,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,10,0,4,7,2,1,1,11,15,9,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,6,4,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,0,3,5,4,13,2,12,10,2,10,0,0,1,1,11,3,0,0,5,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25761976590478103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24479447180080635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548688026455576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23887937947765156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20981134289739026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19857390432311048,0.5645814661011972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12196888253115648,0.22394815151764946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21069928183662145,0.0,0.15583082846641114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254691151757932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265719153800384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495864286899597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849838616378298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641207299376752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Peakey0823,2019/04/13,"Rules to teach your kids. What are some others? RULES TO TEACH YOUR SON

1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.  
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.  
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.  
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.  
5. Request the late check-out.  
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.  
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.  
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.  
9. Play with passion or don’t play at all…  
10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.  
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.  
12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.  
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.  
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.  
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.  
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.  
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.  
18. Never turn down a breath mint.  
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.  
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.  
21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him/her  
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.  
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.  
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.  
25. Manners maketh the man.  
26. Give credit. Take the blame.  
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.  
28. Write down your dreams.  
29. Take time to snuggle your pets, they love you so much and are always happy to see you.   
30. Be confident and humble at the same time.  
31. If ever in doubt, remember whose son you are and REFUSE to just be ordinary!   
32. In all things lead by example not explanation.",-1.1872667450058785,0.2134156869565232,0.9354896200548382,96.65942714453584,115.31884057971014,3.835879357618488,14.517234625930278,5.867226677621528,-0.5271966314140228,1312,34,281,17,74,430,219,345,0.07,0.773,0.157,0.9835,1,1,0,0,0,0,83.0,0,17,2,6,7,20,0,4,35,0,19,9,5,3,7,41,36,13,0,4,5,3,3,2,0,2,0,0,2,7,10,10,2,5,2,9,3,7,10,5,0,4,0,8,22,15,41,27,7,54,0,1,4,3,45,26,0,5,21,161,32,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310514680598035,0.0,0.0,0.10693667508433342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402926228208837,0.0,0.0,0.09882185802745216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487096003017107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13103193564274154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13150526528163148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625124057842764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571456368739306,0.12115465703356995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093167355973604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328548884821068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680903793646632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11423206648837395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14497309348132045,0.0,0.0,0.26283525915462985,0.0,0.12557410600999525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2158443002832096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599186590806755,0.0,0.171572569230062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051788903984584,0.0,0.0,0.0944749906788606,0.09529393719615084,0.4956022589429399,0.12412279313870772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741732745552661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149037325940246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855206199079736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455850291322933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241163567203747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744620353598312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19325800587011333,0.0,0.0,0.11832144770276184,0.0,0.0,0.17076234495845927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498789229051565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725479932489845,0.13978989965998526,0.12554271157912816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Falkarr,2019/04/13,"3 year old not even close to potty trained I have my daughter 3 days a week and no matter how hard I try to potty train her she just doesn’t seem to improve. 

I have no idea how potty training is going at her moms house, I just hear that they can’t get her to sit down on the potty or she fights them about going potty. 

At my house she wears diapers but uses the potty every hour, sometimes she goes and sometimes she doesn’t. I try to make her excited to go and show how happy I am when she goes. She has accidents every day still and just poops herself as she pleases basically.

Today she has been in underwear all day and has peed herself 5 times in 2 hours. She has been on the potty 4-5 times in those 2 hours so I’m not sure what’s going on. She asks for new underwear and then pees herself within 20 minutes, even after sitting on the potty for a while and saying she can’t go.

At this rate she won’t have any underwear or pants to wear by dinner time.

Her mom just says how she still has time and can be potty trained before pre school, but I’m unsure of how much effort she puts into potty training. It seems like if she puts up a fight over there she wins. I ask her mom all the time to really get a plan together with me for potty training but nothing ever comes of it. 

Honestly I fear my daughter will just be a 5 year old pooping her pants all day.  Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle potty training with a split custody kid? I’m pretty sure potty training isn’t a priority in the other house and that obviously can’t work.",3.0746775025799806,4.191281600619195,4.490948142414863,86.83547278121775,73.55108359133126,6.993240454076369,23.67505159958721,7.333567415737692,0.8874314757481941,1219,33,256,13,24,406,158,323,0.077,0.828,0.096,0.8813,0,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,0,2,4,20,10,2,1,13,0,24,6,5,8,7,46,42,26,0,1,13,5,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,8,14,1,0,3,1,0,8,11,3,0,0,2,4,41,7,37,36,4,54,0,0,0,0,43,18,0,5,27,167,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12739596782960555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654953904007202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513533394506234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970523459462096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068736183840675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416344618977972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197018249949004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12373469442352746,0.08472877611147894,0.1578399777588443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10540342141247827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978761452945125,0.0,0.2661706375248684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997121603835745,0.0839088304002222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10557152514498312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767346468935101,0.32424359523722324,0.0,0.10574065366624164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576183557517402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252463944828968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291112367775306,0.0,0.0,0.06885733256294085,0.0,0.0,0.09046589350662416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987772275285401,0.0,0.19657926020390626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028201946149616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09529482600163633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18832599514356896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0600066203841572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489783503419485,0.0,0.09479780829335199,0.0,0.1705450826677384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18528164134078665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960802087524472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656343734088134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27309510073772786,0.0,0.08878705309365481,0.0,0.0,0.12718990902576632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089975327961353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751354470426925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819198900935425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206392493312628
parenting,bwee1974,2019/04/13,Potty training. This is the fourth. I realize the first three just did it. I had to put in minimal effort and now of course with the last kid she refuses to keep a diaper on or sit on the potty (kid potty. Potty seat and regular thrown).......she does enjoy sneaking off the pee on her sisters bed. Yes only that bed no one else’s. It’s like the ultimate f u sister but they get along great. Just a rant I suppose. Better get back to this laundry.,-0.6435897435897431,1.4846871318681352,1.9474285714285744,91.90590476190478,100.75824175824177,5.0640293040293045,18.154578754578754,6.742157984588678,0.43165435897435867,343,11,71,6,15,117,67,91,0.05,0.7879999999999999,0.162,0.8885,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,3,4,4,0,0,8,1,3,1,1,0,0,11,6,4,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,4,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,6,4,11,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,5,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24805283354794785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28530583140627164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823018617559724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694836764883573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2743960350513174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370813287906347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3556580990303341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867340114836464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629550035838088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15760183747697146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859624552776866,0.2453452559958907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242934041680736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mrsdestronx,2019/04/13,"Vacation? What should we do? I have never been on a vacation before. We want to go on our first one next year (need to start saving!!) but I have no idea where to take the kids (they’re currently 3, 7 and 8 and will be 4, 8, and 9 when we go) we will be in middle Tennessee so something we can drive to?? Can’t do Disney world. Any suggestions? I want my kids to have fun. My daughter asked to go to the beach. I want to give them some good childhood memories. Mine are terrible.",-1.046466666666667,1.046164619999999,1.4060000000000024,96.85633333333334,97.8,5.466666666666668,16.666666666666668,7.03164865440522,0.1116666666666668,362,10,85,7,15,122,69,100,0.067,0.799,0.134,0.7135,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,6,0,1,1,3,4,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,0,1,18,25,6,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,1,1,0,4,3,1,0,2,1,0,14,3,11,19,1,18,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,1,8,55,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726774316121035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299483457432296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20930198868788413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092215917206958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23595642581106815,0.4193705272755317,0.20630760648533294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27766970651379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18238332047295527,0.18970689695369586,0.0,0.2615914295746667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667534727655392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893593929967444,0.0,0.0,0.17409852858665156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493850635020706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4352376780689415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583963395081133
parenting,mamamer8,2019/04/13,"Anyone else’s kid hate being in the stroller/car seat ? My 10 month old cries/whines pretty much anytime she is in stroller or car seat. She’s done this pretty much since birth. She’s in a rear facing car seat and a forward facing stroller (she hated it when she was in the infant carrier too)

We attach toys, give snacks, make sure she’s not too hot or cold, etc. 

We think maybe she just doesn’t like being strapped in ? Or because she can’t see us ?

Anyone else have this problem ?",1.7258762886597978,4.00157772164949,2.061041237113404,97.56269587628869,81.06185567010309,4.292371134020619,18.978350515463926,4.935628992294339,-0.5808919587628867,377,9,81,1,10,114,63,97,0.107,0.775,0.118,-0.4186,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,3,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,4,0,8,3,2,1,1,12,14,5,0,1,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,3,1,0,1,1,0,4,3,3,0,0,2,3,12,2,5,10,3,13,0,0,1,0,14,6,0,3,6,44,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25059379048725866,0.36721169059095465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10923524675455758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833780924400321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993878651954333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19984913073708535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718996027311919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35383475464195074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754533537608655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961365755920282,0.0,0.18002486632288514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14303126535868138,0.0,0.263457013756488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880343854898844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646102651723598,0.0,0.17146484593333358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279474130770994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14823146449470906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688886070989223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482053989517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554880694921186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,styles_blingbeard,2019/04/13,"My 8 year old son was playing with his feces I am a step father to 3 boys. My youngest is 8.  My girlfriend, told me that last night she caught him playing with feces under his blanket while he was on the couch. I guess he told her that his butt itched and when he scratched it, it was just there so he.. Idk I guess pulled it out and had it in his hand. He tried to hide it from her at first, so that makes me feel that he knew it was wrong.

I don't know what to do with this one. She says he's just a kid, but I feel like that's not quite explaining this behavior. He should know better right?

Full disclosure, when he was about 5 he used to hide his feces in his room because he was afraid of the toilet overflowing. Could this be something that stemmed from that behavior? I just need some advice here.",1.6362499999999969,3.3619220297619066,2.2637142857142862,98.78128571428572,78.70238095238095,5.67047619047619,19.533333333333328,6.42735559955562,-0.2458123809523811,623,14,149,5,15,192,99,168,0.041,0.883,0.075,0.7629,0,0,1,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,3,10,6,0,1,4,0,14,3,3,2,0,25,28,8,0,3,5,2,4,1,1,1,1,1,2,2,17,6,0,0,6,2,0,3,2,2,0,2,11,5,22,4,17,14,2,21,0,0,0,1,31,10,1,3,9,92,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559672749176601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12201735754361435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702769065544754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598136723961738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20241660619074892,0.14299631209508265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025833706488394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4410036821420971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200084307697117,0.16315936061064798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778941143293476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361019318512007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841814650540935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18783918607691907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21003714026815049,0.0,0.13563546297316034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21289772835682674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093789901402331,0.0,0.1591774566413172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409506778956605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825281801870332,0.0,0.1358973715489002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287635338156898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21884655040764234,0.0,0.12889825156199927
parenting,morrisj1994,2019/04/13,"Tips for 3-4 month sleep regression?????? My son is about 3.5 months old and from about 6 weeks old to roughly 10 days ago, he slept great (as far as I’m concerned.) He generally slept from about 9:00 pm to 5:30 am without waking. Recently he’s been hard to get to sleep, and wakes around 12:30, 2:00, and 4:00 am. I know there is a reason for this, with the sleep cycles developing and changing but I’m going a little crazy. There’s too much advice on the Internet and I’d like help from real people, PLEASE.",2.430196078431376,4.3009192745098055,3.4064705882352966,90.82578431372549,76.84313725490195,6.494117647058824,20.15686274509804,7.3871296695380915,0.38787450980392224,394,9,85,5,9,126,73,102,0.037000000000000005,0.825,0.138,0.91,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,5,7,7,1,0,13,12,8,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,2,2,18,9,1,13,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,9,40,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337203109526972,0.1572714542443686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794074152408955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18768603436796996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442073434505325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269423186993957,0.0,0.10083144454640908,0.0,0.0,0.19560534198805302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893279322862144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1189203788890027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750497615619272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667808044207997,0.17782069140770582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2832286945097193,0.0,0.13042355788183313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723433012473508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300016407832658,0.0,0.0,0.1947530510498336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20194194079268646,0.0,0.1824165311569121,0.17518009865654344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5326421198079473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231501514225206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710258192375467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,potatosouphead,2019/04/13,"What would you do about a teenager suffering from an eating disorder when it’s affecting your child? My stepdaughter is 15 and suffering from anorexia and bulimia. She gets professional help but we can’t do inpatient treatment for her yet so she ignores all professional advice and refuses to eat/ throws up her food. My daughter is 8 and has picked up on stuff a lot. She’s now calling herself fat, refusing to eat healthy things because of ‘too many calories’ or ‘too much fat’. I’m worried my daughter is gonna get worse and also might start vomiting. I’ve told my husband I think it’s better for our stepdaughter to just stay at her mothers full time right now, but he disagrees. 

What would you do in this situation?",3.818269230769232,6.360366867647063,4.541470588235296,81.13565610859732,75.17647058823529,8.302262443438915,31.78506787330317,9.057496981413335,3.13115452488688,578,29,104,14,13,185,99,136,0.156,0.78,0.063,-0.9114,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,3,0,1,10,4,0,0,3,0,11,7,2,2,1,21,18,11,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,7,6,6,3,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,17,1,14,13,4,15,0,2,0,0,23,7,0,3,6,73,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252535999865778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14118921625236655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762495265767262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561466106908554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028015609330586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20234481304292634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5419727951323328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21348835545640105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18448310978571344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11833962519437632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009888322226092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178996835595741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18729462819133955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978662782986208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15077513281018498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19845275273593946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496498575583193,0.1881818015383915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20211072452859574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11729384016460732,0.11312791006104896,0.0,0.0,0.10294936176683167,0.0,0.0,0.1687037734288718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792979459428436,0.17992239401967075,0.2508360975902494,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alee1983,2019/04/13,"Conversations with a 5yr old...🧐 Curren: If you died, I would try to save you.
Me: ....😶
Curren: Wanna know why?
Me: ...sure
Current: Cause you got me an Oreo chocolate bar.  I never had those before.
Me: ....😐",-2.571833333333334,-3.21553185,0.4600000000000009,97.70166666666668,142.5,2.333333333333333,10.833333333333336,4.7782277997778095,-1.4771666666666667,146,3,32,1,12,50,33,40,0.08800000000000001,0.833,0.078,-0.1027,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,2,9,4,1,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,9,2,3,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,19,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978433851937004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595695474487518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632681156121145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27994498539705365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923632237907316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2699589465800047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.367289755909934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32989208391711405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376423158364909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31584088289363804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486459564482325,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,PMMeYour_Cat_Pics,2019/04/13,"The misery of early pregnancy sickness I’ll preface this post by saying I know I’m much luckier than women who suffer hyper emesis and severe sickness, and also that I’m very fortunate to be pregnant and shouldn’t be complaining...but here goes...
I’m 11 weeks pregnant and am absolutely miserable with pregnancy nausea. Not much actual vomiting but have spent the last five weeks feeling like I’m on a fucking boat. My stomach feels heavy and rolling, all day and during the night. I can only eat beige food. Nothing healthy has passed my lips for weeks. The first few weeks I was quite stoic and philosophical (I have a child already so was expecting it) but now I’m thoroughly miserable.
Between that and the endless fatigue life feels awful. I can just about get through work and pretty much go to bed the same time as my toddler. 
I feel like my whole personality has dulled down. I don’t feel like myself at all. 
I know this will pass soon but I’m having one of those days where I feel like I’m close to my limit, even though there’s nothing I can actually do. Please send commiserations or your most amusing pregnancy vom stories to make me feel like less of a wimp/crybaby/misery guts.",4.6109649122807,6.465892552631582,5.2385964912280745,80.06517543859654,70.84210526315789,8.224561403508767,28.89473684210526,8.841846274778883,2.3797526315789472,954,37,174,18,18,307,146,228,0.108,0.755,0.13699999999999998,0.7971,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,1,0,4,11,12,1,2,9,1,17,11,3,1,2,34,38,17,0,2,6,0,7,5,0,2,5,1,1,3,7,11,2,1,9,1,1,4,3,6,0,3,3,8,18,6,18,31,10,23,0,5,0,1,7,5,1,2,18,106,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.2209849663311849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494797818178205,0.09054698814319438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14604312359357724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158587167806184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747848677236774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007541448705197,0.4044442643865161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631018713838067,0.1369136262904696,0.0,0.0,0.10467584006751783,0.059156040375380414,0.0,0.06434908499014885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445236753004014,0.09229450272265734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997504615768054,0.2765831229653349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557939852513783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24970295670988385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062551618608546,0.0,0.21728727383027288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672503471338235,0.0861136623714662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988647908032476,0.0,0.12428841707537405,0.0,0.0,0.10843944519187712,0.11519179791061318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12043005008070845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004205551176299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279134295863044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124421196691993,0.0,0.06602313467473822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934235110902226,0.0,0.0,0.3632930598568614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641306029047295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243005571943023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wrightiam,2019/04/13,"Are we being too critical? To incentivize our 3 teenage boys, whose grades had slipped slightly in their 2nd quarter of school, we made them a deal. If they received a B or higher in every class for the 3rd quarter we’d take them to an expensive restaurant that they’ve been asking to go to for a long time. 2 of the 3 made the cut, but the middle child was 6 points away in one class. 

Here’s the dilemma, the oldest has an 87 GPA, but the middle child has an 89. So even though he had less than a B in one class, he still has a higher overall grade. We don’t want to create a situation where he feels like he’s being “punished” when he actually did very well in every other class, but we also don’t want our kids to feel like we’re pushovers and don’t stick to our word if we allow him to go when he didn’t technically meet the requirements. 

What would you do?",7.456333333333332,4.900981188888891,7.541666666666668,81.06750000000002,64.8888888888889,10.555555555555557,32.5,8.472884824447931,2.1933333333333342,674,18,151,7,8,219,107,180,0.053,0.845,0.102,0.8224,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,9,1,4,1,11,5,2,0,17,0,18,0,0,3,0,22,28,12,0,5,6,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,6,0,1,2,0,1,3,4,2,1,4,8,2,15,3,19,16,1,19,0,0,0,0,30,10,0,3,8,95,19,9,0.0,0.0,0.1835224799979879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15039401183050005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581363371509398,0.0,0.17669149508536475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388482239215168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421391933423985,0.0,0.3169025851059498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19018073170225647,0.2687046658547321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137612138790436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18375628530717364,0.0,0.0,0.16642994619972645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3558997490574348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25487287904334865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778043897802315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903299210827351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113908302275452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018745327114488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140006404559755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18477106388309056,0.0,0.10966111961290664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551717723612194,0.22184900544712555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16909133340172622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359464706240312,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,marianep2001,2019/04/13,"last night my girl came to me and said “mom, wouldn’t life be easier if I were white”. Broke my heart but kept it together for her. Last night I cried myself to sleep for the first time since I was a child. I know most of you cannot relate to this. But it is heartbreaking when you have done everything to instill pride in your kids just to have them realize that white people have it easier then them. This is not a racist post. It just hurts so much for my chocolate muffin to think this way. 
I don’t know, I guess I’m just venting.",2.3885585585585574,3.836425693693695,3.0398198198198187,95.23558558558558,75.84684684684684,7.095495495495496,18.63963963963964,7.793537801064563,0.16398018018017968,416,7,98,6,9,130,75,111,0.114,0.775,0.111,-0.1078,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,2,2,5,4,0,0,3,0,12,3,2,0,0,17,20,7,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,3,8,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,6,3,17,1,11,12,2,12,0,3,2,0,11,1,0,3,8,65,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23333942713481245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241014906035818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087787298652891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833560121456591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735355139053928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247461179699367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417593969217709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21840285487155064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242432103785388,0.33259978900479803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441022091945439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389405344364787,0.0,0.0,0.1499748960584507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3829095273614297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414386873231351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1953904919938511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406549740801576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687637627346214,0.0,0.2041628773510524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13072492009698292,0.0,0.0,0.11896310188831286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193803932623274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Trishlovesdolphins,2019/04/13,"Any parents of boys going through puberty? ... a book recommendation I have a 9 year old, and while he hasn't started exhibiting ""symptoms"" of puberty, we know it's coming. To get ahead of him hearing things on the playground, my husband had the talk with him. 

I found this [book](https://www.amazon.com/Guy-Stuff-Body-Book-Boys/dp/1683370260/ref=sr_1_3?hvadid=234332518289&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9023179&hvnetw=g&hvpos=1t2&hvqmt=e&hvrand=8109554735936173937&hvtargid=kwd-344624371910&keywords=guy+stuff+the+body+book+for+boys&qid=1555173430&s=gateway&sr=8-3) at the store around the time we were prepping to talk with him, and my husband gave it to him after they spoke. It's a really great resource. It covers things from ""why and when to wear deodorant"" to basic sex ed concepts like erections and how to help make them go away/hide them when needed. There is also a girl version. Though, I don't have a girl, so I haven't read it. 

This book has been a really great reference. My son is able to look things up that he might not want to talk to us about, without googling and finding things that are not age appropriate, plus it give a great baseline of info. It's also a good balance of info and humor so that it's not like reading a clinical manual. It was written by 2 doctors. 

Anyway, I thought some of you might be interested in it.",8.435986308316432,10.796812918103447,5.855628803245442,77.38754563894527,62.06034482758621,8.907099391480731,30.88843813387424,9.325443323948027,2.759934787018256,1135,40,181,20,17,317,141,232,0.006,0.8540000000000001,0.14,0.9812,1,0,0,0,0,0,91.0,3,1,3,1,12,8,0,0,13,0,16,5,1,2,0,31,33,16,0,2,4,4,0,2,0,2,3,2,0,3,19,13,0,0,7,4,1,3,7,0,0,0,9,3,19,8,30,21,2,18,0,0,1,1,28,5,0,3,12,118,38,5,0.06862081656080439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097520844233142,0.0,0.8178568868157294,0.0,0.046664508369412785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108707519706734,0.0,0.0,0.06447151601802603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059110757364789476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023631346294862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06271818316566502,0.0,0.0,0.07523918347535268,0.0,0.0,0.035851544433262945,0.0658273400416796,0.07799758283768668,0.05755588523861256,0.0,0.22696407753315084,0.0,0.1358907938892149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07734064747306517,0.0,0.04599508687597397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037712206192429036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704932960056031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05762420331680203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045804927903710164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559168462658414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088146598862699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200600371675485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619529606463797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372787726566266,0.0,0.08792050445056382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048570167151141874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15710883515119614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07132330284806868,0.0,0.16546443912372447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18235448555887748,0.0,0.06741960386407464,0.05447726332968806,0.040013349970593935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254239326435316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040474335511614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06191961366088111,0.0,0.0,0.066148018425066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04418955604331249
parenting,Beartaco87,2019/04/13,15M son My son starting walking about 2.5 weeks ago. He still falls a lot but seems to be getting more confident every day. He still cannot go from the ground to standing which worries me. I have early intervention coming out and my husband and dr think I’m a moron but I just want to make sure he’s ok. He is doing everything so much slower than my daughter and it’s driving me absolutely insane.,2.065462962962961,4.2882642345679045,3.800725308641976,85.84701388888892,79.49382716049381,6.0253086419753075,24.939814814814817,7.1686216300943375,1.1919740740740736,317,12,62,4,8,106,64,81,0.135,0.731,0.134,-0.2617,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,3,1,5,1,0,1,1,14,14,6,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,0,7,2,7,13,3,15,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,2,7,36,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461540097429687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23920396635018956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908604388566834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339644516086386,0.0,0.24956842634177984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508072659757398,0.0,0.15781671570677372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23608074543696156,0.0,0.0,0.18535916170613195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413292349718928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527970879587351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19654927709935627,0.0,0.4435246261097379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261718028462411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793151263751086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637878115825572,0.0,0.2227448826756876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820060471124467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noreallifeplease,2019/04/13,"My 16 month old nephew bangs his head against things when told no. Is this normal? I've got a strong willed nephew who when told 'no' screams and bangs his head against the floor, door, table etc. He doesn't cause a bump or bruise. Has anyone experienced this form of tantrum? Any ideas on how to stop him?",2.331500000000002,4.661874483333335,1.2900000000000027,103.625,79.16666666666666,4.666666666666667,18.333333333333336,5.46131890053228,-0.8516666666666666,239,5,56,1,6,66,50,60,0.155,0.794,0.051,-0.6848,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,3,0,4,2,2,2,0,7,7,5,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,2,4,1,5,3,2,7,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,5,29,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655748998345328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17024703198970068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250121257076401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715448079344198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19473337538331306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4997619023736981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748595334295549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19434358977290692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385589212116793,0.0,0.0,0.2554915345620882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356036740069536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175744016077392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.465311571298555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Fraggle86,2019/04/13,"3 year old's nursery Easter egg painting competition turned into a Facebook popularity contest. Here I am looking for some Reddit help not even sure where to post this but made it here.

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The nursery that our 3 year old daughter attends decided to have a Easter egg painting competition, we decided to pick a theme and spent 3 days painting, having fun and making them look as good as we could. When we submitted them we where not told how it was judged but thought they would get together as teachers and pick based off merit, input of child, design, ability of children ect needless to say when my partner got a notification from facebook saying the below we where not impressed.  

Massive thank you to everyone who has participated in our egg decorating competition! We found it far too difficult to choose so we have decided to leave the decision to yourselves.... the entry with the most likes on their photo will be the winner! We will be announcing the winner on Monday 15th April so likes must be made by 12 noon! Friends and family are more than welcome to help you vote!   
\*\* you are more than welcome to come and collect your eggs\*\*

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Like most on here I do not use Facebook and distaste the current impact in plays in society. now it looks like its getting into the education system where the pre-requsite is to have as many ""friends"" as possible and  prostitute yourself around for likes making any effort nullified by spending all weekend on facebook's parenting pages telling them to like and share there specific's childs piece unlike ourselves keeping our family unit small and spending quality time (bar this post) with the kiddies.

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Ofc if we knew this before hand we would of still done it with our daughter but decide to not enter it into the competition. 

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We are now this far and will do anything for her so thought maybe I could balance the scales and ask for you to like the one you like not going to post the one we did but only try and make it fair by putting it out there.

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After this event will be having a quiet word with the nursery and hope in the future a fairer win all approach can be found. 

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Here is the link [https://www.facebook.com/pg/hartonvillagekindergarten/photos/?tab=album&album\_id=645738752259216](https://www.facebook.com/pg/hartonvillagekindergarten/photos/?tab=album&album_id=645738752259216)

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Thanks for reading",9.432621779198797,11.027541151589244,7.30734718826406,70.69076311829981,59.24449877750612,9.128493511378595,35.53517020876434,9.162432508145574,3.2972873048711686,1997,81,300,29,26,581,217,409,0.025,0.7609999999999999,0.213,0.9984,2,0,0,0,0,0,96.0,16,6,5,2,22,25,0,0,24,0,32,6,1,9,4,81,59,29,0,7,11,3,1,8,3,7,0,3,0,4,16,35,5,1,12,4,3,6,6,1,0,2,13,7,32,24,54,32,9,51,0,0,3,0,48,22,0,5,27,213,48,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5315778549792477,0.4636700701166032,0.037070328601510834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044859093468356336,0.04852762902662043,0.05096177288564109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04638607152206061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04695764031306554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08704749545679365,0.0,0.0,0.035156014183986464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055785152570793584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03600495258863088,0.0,0.0,0.05208897262616738,0.0,0.0,0.10277895414849876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954015386001095,0.08423235204525585,0.0,0.05696100010276173,0.0,0.030980675967132137,0.04572244845816775,0.043598578180357714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307707909615545,0.0,0.0,0.054143153042102515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04845316148533898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577208031256185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21305619775332094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733016120797514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316197781858667,0.10916243125398743,0.05526705822883198,0.05476507308332381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440327187980626,0.0,0.07387808045401596,0.04145916714560642,0.0,0.0,0.060529613655095675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061454585605066316,0.15662354705087592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480005877043348,0.0,0.0,0.054527191973256894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670096072544016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043533705106624056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051377329696911216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04764627540910467,0.1003754617939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08655357673354548,0.03178664221885247,0.0,0.0,0.05208897262616738,0.0,0.03701036855960612,0.059293881223219866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04708124580312649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744814686401723,0.0,0.4636700701166032,0.0702084483699056
parenting,Ketsu357,2019/04/13,"I thought i was ready but damn did i think wrong Daughter (14) got a boyfriend, swore she was in love, swore they be together forever, got cheated on and left. How do i get her to accept not only that it happened but its likely to happen a few more times and its not her fault.

P.S. anyone own a pig farm?",2.4390476190476167,3.7837767142857146,3.3716190476190446,93.33171428571433,75.50793650793649,6.309841269841268,23.711111111111112,6.742157984588678,0.5361644444444447,235,7,53,2,5,75,49,63,0.162,0.653,0.185,0.1747,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,1,7,2,0,3,0,5,1,0,1,0,10,13,5,0,0,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,6,0,8,3,4,6,3,4,0,0,0,1,6,3,1,0,2,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20323437564424565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15185646774293438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4649304660479294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5140546653524641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3158000587473277,0.0,0.0,0.14200049842519685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.262329604335836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210580104611068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862414921882636,0.0,0.2307494673471503,0.16948463685873133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177881815745739,0.0,0.0
parenting,YouCanPutItInMyVideo,2019/04/13,"How do you teach/tutor your kids in things like math and school in general? Soo... my son is only 6 months old and I've got a while until I have to worry about it with him, but I nanny for two kids who are 8 and 9 years old. One of them was asking me for help with fractions for her math homework. The interaction made me realize I have no idea how to teach a kid math, or how to guide them along without just giving them the answers. I'm really good at most subjects but I struggled with math in k-12. When I finally got concepts down, they were locked in and now I'm pretty good at the things I know, but I had a *really* hard time trying to explain to this 9 year old why you needed to add 3/7 to 4/7 to make 1 whole. We used little pie charts because her teacher had written one on the worksheet as an example, so that was helpful... but how do you guys take the knowledge that you have and break it down simply to help you kids with their homework without just blurting out all the answers or confusing them??

I feel like my kid's gonna be like, ""mom, how do I multiply 2x4? Why is it 8?"" And I'm going to respond with something like, ""BECAUSE IT IS, THAT'S ALL I CAN TELL YOU!"" And obviously I wanna be more helpful than that. What techniques do you use for math? What techniques do you use for other things like spelling, learning an instrument or science?",4.200387689848121,4.639596960431658,5.034772182254198,86.47399680255795,70.40287769784173,7.760511590727417,28.394084732214232,7.594959193182576,1.50594420463629,1057,36,225,11,18,344,152,278,0.051,0.81,0.139,0.9824,0,0,1,0,0,0,40.0,1,9,6,0,11,9,0,2,11,0,20,0,0,10,3,54,40,24,0,2,11,2,2,5,0,1,0,0,2,6,16,16,0,0,9,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,9,2,34,7,39,28,5,25,0,0,0,0,38,11,0,5,17,154,50,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812698310551623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410111718871488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848143949145612,0.08262790618482517,0.0,0.1267004578518769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095212007222086,0.06573254494918519,0.1940211312142992,0.18500858425434916,0.0,0.0,0.11452210943628527,0.0,0.0,0.10360911739186192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100992626203088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13056666082153892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356400284443234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28252946510876004,0.11592223679263433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944079062705513,0.0772043023074307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13546021558407093,0.09231913207486717,0.0,0.0,0.08576081792529193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36409881207004574,0.0,0.15674913773202148,0.08796504539944765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766834035163057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14819019514433784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705463180822885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904112713336462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12091349919730512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696232489542496,0.0,0.10109240170591888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305191516696487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744258552173235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07852590813419302,0.0,0.11298353228310035,0.0,0.0,0.29968068895277844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20873127807922026,0.12913085196129298,0.0,0.222985248323582,0.0,0.0,0.11745888314012927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489631792793504
parenting,ringoringai,2019/04/13,"What are some good ideas for a 11 year birthday party This is for a very gentle girl who just joined a new school last year. She has a couple of friends but they gave all paired off. 

Sleepover will be difficult because a) never had one b) moved into a small 2 br apt and I don’t want to add to social issues by inviting kids living in 4000 sqft houses to this tiny place 
Birthday is fast approaching pls help",7.274277108433733,5.655132783132531,6.8615361445783165,82.82676204819279,64.5421686746988,9.263855421686749,30.388554216867472,7.1686216300943375,1.6711469879518068,323,8,67,2,4,101,71,83,0.038,0.762,0.2,0.8778,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,2,10,10,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,2,0,3,2,10,6,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,1,6,38,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595470227611335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649254608184716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498352670152848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008230699927867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604853180995169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27627082419008736,0.0,0.2702880609012335,0.0,0.24990339316530286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19516793660259374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114216510313822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25447688989136563,0.0,0.0,0.1846636781555357,0.2312436143130193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224440534416776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501540696355484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24231660097517624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440693960493096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975553619313472,0.14122240114391346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30837097785728496
parenting,SuperSpikeVBall,2019/04/13,"Be aware that the Britax/BOB Revolution Stroller has a very dangerous flaw. Sadly, Britax has chosen not to inform or recall owners. Here's the info you need to know. If you're the owner of the BOB Revolution Stroller, own a Britax car seat, or are considering buying a Britax car seat, you should read these stories.  I really don't care about the political angle of this, but want you and your family to be safe:

**After hundreds of crashes, this Britax jogging stroller faced recall. Then Trump appointees stepped in.** 
https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/economy/after-hundreds-of-crashes-this-britax-jogging-stroller-faced-recall-then-trump-appointees-stepped-in/2019/04/02/faf23c20-4c06-11e9-b79a-961983b7e0cd_story.html?noredirect=on

**Everything About the BOB Jogging Stroller Recall Controversy, Explained**
https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/childrens-products/baby-stroller-reviews/a27117598/bob-stroller-injuries-no-recall/

The BOB Revolution stroller manufactured before 2015 has a quick-release front axle which in over 200 cases has released during use, causing a lot of injuries to parents and kids.  Unfortunately, Britax corporate did everything they could to avoid recalling this or even contacting owners of this stroller.  I have had one since early 2010's and had no idea there was a problem until these articles came out and started through my friend groups.


If you are interested in fixing your stroller, you can go to this website for a free replacement axle:

https://bobinfocampaign.britax.com/Incentives/Additional-Concerns


At a larger level, this gives me a lot of uncomfort about the Britax car seats I own for my two kids.  The company does not appear to have a culture of safety, but rather one of cutting costs or corners.  I'm not confident they would tell me if there was a pattern of accidents in the car seats, either.",11.854274809160307,16.38578210687023,7.007887022900764,63.485586259541996,58.08396946564886,8.161465648854962,30.327328244274806,8.954980946260402,2.9628666870229017,1560,52,193,26,25,411,152,262,0.097,0.825,0.078,-0.3124,2,1,0,0,0,0,95.0,0,7,2,0,8,10,2,1,21,0,20,1,1,2,0,38,32,15,0,10,14,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,6,0,2,5,3,3,11,5,5,0,3,6,0,16,6,31,21,5,25,0,1,0,0,23,9,0,10,5,129,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16219889159676165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21801219631719027,0.19434417637756368,0.19581358844080946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521901598484284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668080247554885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258990729381442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342624025495199,0.0,0.17969437694710308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726828215912896,0.0,0.0,0.1828547878193392,0.10833060739790014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151805575707936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475673872208054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32410724597327784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133822909138344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2583306231750804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21165483347662864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239232391155624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906660730202146,0.0,0.12211252327754628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576782759103587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349179171321302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666054659618114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620265939270075,0.0,0.0,0.1646297182254369,0.0,0.15727691704081934,0.11242936487208674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540706472192282,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sotasirraf,2019/04/13,"Is the rock and play recall unnecessary? I’m feeling like the product recall seems like it might be unnecessary.  Curious what others think.

30 infant deaths have been reported since 2009 connected to the Rock and Play.  That’s roughly 3-4 a year.  And even at that, these deaths have been mostly connected to older baby’s (3 months) that are beginning to roll over.  Parents were 1) not using the strap / belt and 2) not moving baby to a crib at the appropriate age (recommended by Fisher Price).

There are 2000 SIDS deaths each year, or so I’ve read.  My understanding is that most SIDS deaths are due to unsafe sleep practices such as letting baby sleep on side or stomach.

Compared to the amount of SIDS deaths it honestly seems like the Rock and Play, with only 3-4 deaths a year, would be the safer option!  Maybe I’m not considering data correctly though?

We used the Rock and Play for our first two babies and we absolutely loved it.  They slept great.  Baby 3 is due anytime now and we were planning on using the Rock and Play again.  

Curious what others are thinking about the product right now?",4.497707024557397,6.561364733009713,4.888309537407199,81.59869503141064,71.5728155339806,7.759680182752714,25.224443175328393,8.4952907291091,1.7360705882352954,869,27,159,15,17,275,118,206,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.9887,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,4,0,1,2,9,11,0,0,14,0,18,5,4,3,1,34,32,14,6,1,5,1,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,14,0,0,6,11,1,1,3,0,0,2,5,2,6,11,17,22,4,21,0,0,0,1,8,7,0,8,16,94,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687420325611792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08181616957376467,0.11559733896308115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376357922286355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839647068302458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16546203525784622,0.0,0.2371570757621355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460401490137437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16256023494644092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716551996717514,0.0,0.0,0.12915546933217326,0.17197878334427238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306405474195893,0.0,0.0,0.17967123319672668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618541278061663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818514592755354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946121120560601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338511850440503,0.0,0.3238543942447345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073630640398177,0.15897783713074734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806518985681847,0.16845027010320535,0.0,0.4192565415378536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149454227078792,0.0,0.0,0.31260166068450634
parenting,throw22away005,2019/04/13,"My 16 year old sister is pregnant and I feel like dying. Hey there.

I'm writing this post on reddit because I'm left with no choice (also, excuse my bad grammar, I'm from Italy). 

Let's just say I have an amazing relationship with my sister. I'm 14 (M) and she's 16. Yesterday I was driving home (if you're asking how, here in italy you can drive at 14 any vehicle that doesn't go past 50km/h.) and I receive a call from my sister. She was crying, and I was getting a little anxious. She told me to pick her up in our local mall, and so I did. That's when she dropped the bomb. She showed me the test and I felt like a piece of my heart was left away. I hugged her, said ""It's gonna be fine"" when it's really not going to. I don't want to get my sister an abortion and neither she wants to. Obviously, I never explicitally told her to get/get not an abortion. This morning I was free from school, and I don't know. I just couldn't do it. Seeing everyday my parents smiling at me just dips a hole into my chest. I asked her who's the guy, and I found out that it was someone who, I'll just say is 18+. I was getting so angry that later I even searched if it's legal here and it is! I was shocked. I don't even know what came into the mind of my sister. His partner know she's pregnant and she knows that I know too (sorry for the words repeating), and we'll meet up tomorrow with his partner, just to know what his intentions are. My sister thinks that I'm a very strong person emotionally, when I'm really not. I barely know how to handle this and I feel like it's hilarious that a 14 year old should know his sister is pregnant. And yes, she's really, really pregnant. I bought her another test and it just said the exact same thing. I'm just destroyed. I don't know how to handle this.",0.9462335958005283,2.7315109658792665,3.1249015748031503,91.50866469816273,81.0734908136483,5.9131233595800525,20.55708661417323,6.937597516519254,0.31434960629921305,1382,38,313,16,36,471,173,381,0.06,0.8340000000000001,0.106,0.9404,2,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,2,1,0,1,22,11,1,0,15,1,27,3,2,5,4,65,65,26,1,6,12,8,3,3,2,3,0,4,1,4,24,22,0,0,14,2,2,6,12,3,0,0,17,8,58,9,28,42,3,37,0,0,1,1,50,15,0,2,17,198,82,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909443433583656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725891198207752,0.1037107018151078,0.0,0.11173469780227063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849259786073902,0.0,0.09292466957714313,0.0,0.08258169154637686,0.06029167791160624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099324400731162,0.11312117388023188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864269273593673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264795864142508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125501188361704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306518732601093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10001885854683272,0.14131575646198616,0.09496448034984356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844442159148812,0.0,0.0,0.25836936418245154,0.0,0.1124201827514246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793167510750267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720311098804233,0.0,0.0,0.09920995679429982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4892012883067722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21492152846713186,0.10113724454189256,0.0,0.1449602208072552,0.09912897070436197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986603410165504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07628176983475092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075686912986245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098224944510288,0.0,0.09441618282728097,0.0,0.08636018563033143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472381967669156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25344475606375017,0.0,0.0,0.10618714589885647,0.0,0.0,0.18816294482254373,0.1573067330715886,0.0,0.10009731944773063,0.07881462079487984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838020355363949,0.0,0.0,0.11071624819673932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06570820481300138,0.06337444382353162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1890162702770027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08160712923618428,0.1166736719117813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12738338254485448
parenting,clalitha,2019/04/13,"Dance why not Recently, I saw a post in Facebook which really surprised me. It was the video of an  elephant giving birth to younger one. Surprise element was, it just made one single dance step - bending the knees and the younger one was born.
It may look like elephants give birth by doing a small dance step for us, but the pain of delivering  will surely not felt by others and there were many other elephants surrounded while giving birth.
And dance is not always a fun element. It's more of a expression. One can dance when they are happy, sad or in anger so that they vent out the energy accumulating within them. Even Lord Shiva is know for his Rudra thandav when he is angry.
If you care about your health, but not interested in Yoga or regular exercises, one can do a little bit of dance as dance will also help you to burn calories and maintain the physical  and mental fitness.",7.703107119095143,7.391588718562878,7.544870259481037,74.0190751829674,63.01197604790421,10.535994677312043,32.9268130405855,9.994966539143718,3.110961942781103,704,24,127,13,9,225,112,167,0.123,0.718,0.159,0.495,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,3,3,0,8,11,1,0,12,0,15,4,1,1,1,21,24,16,0,1,10,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,2,10,0,9,4,3,0,5,7,3,10,8,17,14,3,28,1,1,2,0,14,10,0,4,9,91,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277781860360781,0.13295202565127542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744413504005086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16290913528937906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553498174414734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534164715742063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4598344430341844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17009168002194724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984156301245562,0.0,0.0,0.10709899130326336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781240600590355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07806176763121929,0.16014426510017887,0.0,0.0,0.13417724520284374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151190276101245,0.0,0.1619946024612805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610234037144223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5413645423372365,0.0,0.17002008303228594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302768082649054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10236090396915974,0.0,0.15776616285450604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15059332568982964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921989425132988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144179055098865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,vchen1,2019/04/13,"Financial Aid Research (please answer!) Hello, my name is Vicki and I am a junior in high school. I am currently working on a business project where I have to create an item to solve an existing problem. I decided to tackle the issue of how single parents have difficulties signing up for programs offered by the federal government. Right now, I am in the phase of doing primary research so I would like to hear directly from all of you about the challenges you’ve faced. Please tell me about the process you had to go through signing up for a federal aid (if you have) or if you didn’t sign up because of some barriers. Lastly, if an app were developed to help you sign up for federal services, would you be willing to use it? Thank you for your time! 

Feel free to provide any additional comments you believe would be useful!",6.176153846153845,7.02810276923077,6.681179487179487,74.94715384615388,66.17948717948718,9.82974358974359,37.3948717948718,9.888512548439397,3.907037948717949,656,34,114,14,10,214,101,156,0.03,0.83,0.14,0.9398,2,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,9,0,2,6,5,0,0,11,0,17,1,1,3,1,24,23,7,0,7,4,1,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,3,2,17,5,28,14,4,15,0,0,0,0,17,10,0,5,5,87,18,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327560846717447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900411204938326,0.0,0.0,0.21994574122719668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987089417797362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11094784958860217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200267805935314,0.0,0.13085164424004606,0.2062603225039516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20375863838565672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913010429745555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537448039922114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21676836485383552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285851960566364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867988798874509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671654998330668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19757275020384807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17063061513424438,0.17973206345321374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138341721002292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372142675873851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212226055645558,0.0,0.0,0.4160354034060336,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JackLSauce,2019/04/13,"PSA: You shouldn't allow your 5 year old on r/ELI5 Showed this sub to my kid, who ravenously consumed every post on geo politics, nuclear science and computer security

Like a manifestation of Carl Sagan's greatest fears, she has amassed exponential power and influence, while ashewing all sense of ethics, humanity and wisdom that one normally is allotted the period of their developmental years to mature into naturally, but at this age--and given the speed of her spread of power--it's unlikely there will be any hope of reason or negotiations for the nations in her wake

I've done everything to stop her but alas, the only hope was to absorb as much knowledge from the same source where every explanation is geared towards and acquired so much more quickly by the mind of a 5 year old that no adult could hope to maintain, much less outrun such a pace

For the lucky few who survive long enough to read this message, know that I am truly sorry for what is, has and will soon happen and especially for whatever she's planned for Canada",12.816941964285707,8.752968536458333,11.823809523809526,59.14500000000002,56.34375,14.929761904761904,44.61607142857143,12.540900571622839,5.419650892857144,837,33,143,19,7,272,137,192,0.063,0.7929999999999999,0.14300000000000002,0.954,3,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,1,4,6,8,0,1,10,0,13,1,1,3,1,27,19,12,0,6,3,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,9,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,3,0,10,7,27,11,11,21,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,6,13,98,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744647906735444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615138914742208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169045309521907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632578482069455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26624625810670544,0.0,0.1420016143440152,0.0,0.0,0.17779568231815754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972025791179085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4707936006595101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868335254099575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07719158136603127,0.0,0.0,0.13982640879298247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15953653466030598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34844798000609345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548079821272246,0.0,0.0,0.331592117496619,0.0,0.10706594633093207,0.12016730638526885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132181904434547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804431770581565,0.0,0.0,0.16245191904909778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686981091006812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209637920191653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052434735291656
parenting,1993username2008,2019/04/13,"7 year old girl has negative thoughts My little girl (7years old) said “i don’t want to be alive” because “bad things always happen to me” but in a playful yet serious way. “Bad things” referring to kids in her class being mean to her and her being lonely (my other daughter is 16 so its hard for them to actually ‘play’ with each other, so my 7 years plays by herself).  She doesn’t really do well in social situations either, other than school because she finds it difficult to make friends. 

Its been on my mind ever since and i tried to encourage her by saying all the things she should be grateful for and I’ve been trying to play with her a bit everyday. 

Should i be concerned about this?",3.616141414141417,5.394893496296297,4.580067340067341,84.0848484848485,73.2962962962963,7.575757575757577,24.865319865319872,8.296473431620573,1.5569259259259267,542,17,105,9,11,176,89,135,0.123,0.695,0.182,0.8792,0,2,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,6,12,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,1,2,19,20,6,0,3,2,1,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,3,10,6,0,0,4,4,0,0,3,5,1,0,4,3,18,7,20,9,4,13,0,1,0,0,19,5,0,0,7,78,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.1652868739795824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409346824577622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828443363291553,0.2065004882529273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184915094040638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321059555405894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480690528452593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308597393126458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14977893715501533,0.0,0.15172793079116478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697595883835929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306002147453965,0.0,0.0,0.18450048748621756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102181856764526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.355463951111368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850681985712662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111568512793084,0.13469486299743014,0.0,0.17141789758339582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010985786200347,0.19038610156446573,0.0,0.17265784748898752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33757834031426376,0.0,0.0,0.13446589360158762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22999083197738046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990255309931717,0.13444305403481852,0.0,0.0,0.15228966999201998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181456181182027
parenting,DapperCranberry,2019/04/13,"Kid hiding relationship 6th grader told us about first relationship. However, found out through the grapevine that they have broken up and are dating someone else. Lost and hurt that they aren't opening up. Should I be offended? Should I tell them I know? I think they're too young to be saying I love you and kissing. 😖",2.951714285714285,5.834710933333334,3.092857142857145,88.15500000000004,81.33333333333334,6.095238095238094,23.57142857142857,7.447530270364453,1.1776428571428572,256,9,48,4,7,78,46,60,0.202,0.679,0.119,-0.5362,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,3,2,2,5,1,0,1,0,7,2,0,0,0,10,13,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,3,1,10,2,6,6,0,7,0,2,0,2,12,4,0,0,3,31,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21168450261358332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155432527709596,0.0,0.2778417508472644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27127163019289585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926288022849145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27661775630212376,0.0,0.2287048175759974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5441169236929735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2015151055962845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147063346947132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22148414827237511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16236949925586305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24213606703631604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30481089778445164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SmolHannah,2019/04/13,"Teen mom I just wanted to share mine and my daughter’s story, not sure why. I became pregnant about a week after I turned 17 and decided to parent. I got pregnant in a one time hookup with a friend of a few years who left me promptly, meanwhile pining over his first baby’s mom and proudly showing off his son but neglecting us. Being pregnant was so hard. I’m 4’11” so I had immense back pain and I had to go to the high-risk doctor’s 1-8 times a month, because I was born with a pyloric stenosis and my brother has down’s syndrome. I had zero help from my family- dad disowned me when I was 14 and my grandparents just used me for money- child support from my dad and forcing me to exagerrate my PTSD symptoms for more disability money. My grandma took my check for herself, allowing me to have about 200/1000+ a month and also keeping my child support for herself. I had to pay my own phone bill which was 75, leaving me about 125 a month, and anything I needed, even necessities, like razors, I had to buy myself. while I was pregnant I caught my grandpa molesting my homeless mom. My grandma told me to shutup about it, and I was shamed for speaking out. Even through all of this I still tried to stay strong for my baby. I decided to go to university, which woukd be hard considering I had a 1.6 GPA. However, in my last 2 semesters I got it to a 2.5 and scored a 26 on the ACT/35 in English. I was granted guarenteed acceptance and even invited into the honors college. I met a nice guy at college orientation, and about a month after turning 19, him and I got a house for our baby. Now I’ve escaped my toxic family and I’m trying my best to break the chain, but it gets really hard sometimes. At 18 months, I’m still nursing and I worked for awhile along with being a full-time student but it got too stressful, so now I’m going to focus on her and school. I hope I can graduate college and give her a good life. My dad is in my life now and adores my daughter.",3.2316492845015787,4.653542526315793,4.601105990783413,84.99953917050694,73.61152882205512,7.053149001536099,28.66044142614601,7.601502580125103,1.7139430996846952,1544,63,309,19,31,513,212,399,0.08,0.782,0.138,0.976,4,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,0,0,6,22,20,1,2,20,0,20,5,0,2,2,43,46,28,0,3,6,12,3,1,1,0,5,1,0,3,8,25,0,2,3,1,6,5,1,5,0,3,21,4,63,15,52,22,5,43,0,1,0,0,33,14,0,1,23,212,71,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662656677040347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07885102405090713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367903787701968,0.0,0.05841048516229321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055632196080036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807499495895408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986300188080424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18065959784067165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150374890171169,0.0,0.0,0.07402966381465204,0.0,0.05006156881251793,0.09191849236442044,0.16336875114435107,0.08036858537019931,0.3065414185518273,0.0,0.0,0.09487605676146142,0.0,0.0,0.2575055039868309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422557920665138,0.10123822866042986,0.0,0.0951700699374654,0.0,0.11056247332546944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516849330265655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07810542371917031,0.0,0.10145868058404578,0.10410782370322938,0.0,0.13535984663954198,0.04681241325432842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366668104334297,0.38240979222343857,0.0,0.0,0.0710487107637168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06492955885102407,0.0,0.10195836745643372,0.0,0.1063958643184981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200749838841964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061384222816068534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697412967937136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476762299708276,0.0,0.0,0.10213050092141633,0.15304264812256746,0.0,0.10976055145272934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21746894883040765,0.09030844688068032,0.0995928206136608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11174587341424276,0.0,0.0,0.09155933648615168,0.10645863899137517,0.13010987230426382,0.20844751388931929,0.0,0.0,0.1152586803629996,0.08275700996471834,0.0,0.0,0.05651663727143905,0.0,0.07686036962466958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646190977627025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697575071021039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061704412895652976
parenting,rubix_cubes,2019/04/14,"My 4 year old is a new person? My 4 year old is a normally imaginative child. His play is mostly just copying what he has seen in the world around him including the shows he watches (yes, I know he doesn't need TV but we watch it sometimes).

Last night he came up with the name Alooyah. He will say that Alooyah doesn't want to put jammies on or that I have to tell Alooyah to get in the bath.  This has continued tonight. 

I don't really know how to handle it. It doesn't seem to be a way to get out of doing something. Almost like an imaginary friend that also happens to be him? Do I encourage it? Do I ignore it? What would you do?",1.0380161943319877,2.969815172932332,2.950375939849625,92.13197223828806,81.4812030075188,6.197570850202429,22.26084441873916,7.321109707123232,0.7097951417004049,490,16,110,7,13,164,85,133,0.035,0.857,0.108,0.8919,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,1,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,8,1,18,0,0,1,0,21,28,4,0,4,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,1,2,11,5,0,1,4,4,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,4,12,4,15,22,1,19,0,0,3,0,17,7,0,4,10,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995812297909427,0.0,0.0,0.15938897758084314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742909413019473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279587482850949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398722562405626,0.0,0.2082635985252623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625010649239356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907228528417205,0.16246511040248635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737331321466994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778662080733904,0.0,0.1924958575840954,0.0,0.18703992213308684,0.1952825148162953,0.0,0.0,0.4182868461187218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740307242462152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003626589831064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276837646082145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850014960852252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814452976274031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15343938654339545,0.19712372841302864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742066458651371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11755882340380902,0.15820383720759992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415848539870633,0.0,0.0,0.25669956773955394
parenting,geek-mom-life,2019/04/14,"Has anyone ever donated eggs? How did it work out for you? How did you feel about it after the fact? What were the circumstances that led to you going through with it? Friends of friends are looking for an egg donor and I’m considering it. I think I’d be ok with disassociating myself (I’m not carrying the child) and nothing thinking of them as my child but I’m not sure and don’t know if I could be until the whole thing happens. I’m wondering about other women’s experiences. 

I think knowing I helped create a family and that the child is loved and well cared for would be enough to combat any negative emotions that may come up for me after the fact but I’m just looking to hear about any experiences anyone has had. Thanks!",3.0194058355437647,5.106498006896551,4.222068965517241,84.65867374005309,75.82758620689657,7.220159151193633,24.257294429708228,8.139509932561175,1.4079230769230766,581,19,116,10,13,190,90,145,0.068,0.772,0.16,0.9268,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,1,1,8,8,0,0,8,1,15,3,0,3,4,32,36,12,0,3,6,0,1,0,2,2,0,1,0,4,10,9,2,0,7,0,1,3,4,0,1,0,4,4,11,8,21,26,2,9,0,0,2,1,13,2,0,3,4,83,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283919618229049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23483664293025305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17121256201980992,0.0,0.0,0.14465406698928304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407588365926465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18889504511685254,0.0,0.17351327171733816,0.0,0.0,0.15189940253711304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32852926161155177,0.15830643979728126,0.0,0.08490883456784826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594796547310549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543666902435624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484971126456005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892657055892747,0.0,0.1125577927732364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457635273415726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28203243329641386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515604912509631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611302914324194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826901952821526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460443367269294,0.0,0.0,0.11156310266438443,0.3228021341948441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509863583566568,0.0,0.0,0.18748427265352408,0.0,0.0,0.18210944886025035,0.12225270874572397,0.0,0.0,0.11929037905197075,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MayIGoNow,2019/04/14,"Do I need to stay out of my sons 16 situation with his cheating girlfriend 16? found out from a neighbour. That my sons girlfriend has been doing the ""pokey"" for TWO months with another boy in our court.

Katherine (girlfriend) came by the house to look for my son (James) but he wasn't there that day.

Being the nosey type I just sat her down like a kid and asked her ""whats been going in lately with her and Dustin "" and ""Ive been hearing things""

I personally see him all the time nice kid

Thats when she admitted that she thought he was ""manly"" and she started ""liking"" him because he was ""funny tough"" or something like that. Teen talk.Plus she says my son ditches her a lot to be with his buddy.

I asked her before she left if James know this and she said ""no"". So I told her that if he finds out hes gonna be upset and she needs to cool it"" I told her she might wanna think about her parents attitude about this too. I asked her how long has she been having sex with that boy and she said ""2 months""

I didnt mean to give her a lecture but thats what happened anyway.

Now when it comes to my son hes a different case. I know hell get mad at me for ""being nosey"" or trying to ""keep him single"" those are his favorites. He gets very ""moody"" for a teen

I dont want him getting cheated on but I was thinking of just letting her deal with telling him. He gets mad at ME for ""dipping in"" and ""always noticing shit"".

I dont feel like going through this again. Do I just hope she does the right thing ? I said my 2 cents about it.

Parents do you get involved in your kids relationships or are they just phases at this age.??

The things a teenager will tell you geez.",1.5280482456140343,3.420062868421052,2.4483004385964944,96.54508223684212,79.67251461988305,5.093713450292398,20.629020467836245,5.800992412223965,-0.19451198830409355,1279,34,292,7,32,402,176,342,0.095,0.821,0.084,-0.6361,3,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,1,3,1,0,16,16,6,1,13,1,30,2,1,1,1,51,69,20,0,7,12,7,1,4,4,3,0,5,0,7,21,19,0,1,10,0,1,4,5,9,0,1,18,9,60,7,39,43,3,31,1,0,2,1,78,14,2,8,16,194,81,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508198052448593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072202954034658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867758732759487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062331961918238,0.0,0.08700904890959693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11694921997006905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808117369317761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594417800925853,0.1054174773623524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683173408635778,0.0,0.0,0.08948154603020315,0.0,0.23967751787103705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05170175966231223,0.07304895679922575,0.0,0.0,0.09345661316845394,0.0,0.0,0.11211420532691392,0.0,0.0,0.2671126418586496,0.09808958014509947,0.1162245071430368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09042123905746488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524560515402447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155945732372758,0.0,0.11798525312298228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088640963047387,0.0,0.0,0.11239021565867906,0.0,0.11534487963483768,0.0,0.11109726078169008,0.10455975175451576,0.0,0.19982094325443267,0.0,0.0,0.09048993556824893,0.08586605361787514,0.0,0.0,0.08693112184438234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138256821747956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847337298299704,0.0,0.0,0.16323338208750365,0.0,0.0,0.1516373480329446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164147511483442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22707782496694026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928263382972704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978054291469244,0.0,0.0873227778918027,0.2917956321011065,0.08131501423526617,0.0,0.0,0.08148172537492313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10496036315875824,0.0,0.11493570143953248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07871870109803246,0.0,0.0,0.07237459846343881,0.10898718742767524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218640538674869,0.17874577309092854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20379535594238374,0.13103809865067484,0.0,0.08117678587771752,0.05962405128825472,0.0,0.0,0.19541262358142966,0.0,0.06942249823060517,0.0,0.09988549328977032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436873293299674,0.060310967668940736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,chicabiddy,2019/04/14,"I was thinking, for the future, about teaching my daughter empowering sexuality. My conclusion seems to be controversial when I brought it up with my friends. What are your thoughts? I was considering my life and things that I have regretted in terms of how my parents taught me and how my families conservativeness impacted me. I specifically starting thinking about my sexuality as a teen and thought about how the conservative approach to my sexuality as a female(and the general social approach to all girls) left me incapable of handling my urges and understanding. I was quick to jump into sex with my first boyfriend(who thankfully was a great guy who was very kind and listened) because I just didn’t understand masturbation. It was frustrating and difficult so I felt compelled to ask till my boyfriend finally felt he was ready to have sex. 


I wondered if this situation would have gone differently if I had control over my sexual nature like boys do. It is much easier for a guy to masturbate successfully without any stimulators and very difficult or impossible(in my case) for women. I thought that when my daughter reaches a sexual age, and demonstrates a level of maturity to handle the conversation(I’m thinking around 16-17), I would offer to supply her with a prepaid card to order some kind of stimulator in complete privacy if she was ready and wanted to. You can’t enter a store selling adult toys without being 18 which leaves girls on their own till that point, and even then it’s embarrassing/expensive/requires a degree of knowledge that might deter them. I feel as though this could possibly send girls into sexual relationships early because of the overwhelming hormones and no outlet. 

After thinking about it, I think that this is an overwhelmingly unfair thing. Everyone deserves to control something natural like that instead of having to NEED someone else to give them a form of stimulation and pleasure. I think that sexual relationships are great and wonderful in their own way. I hope one day my daughter finds someone kind to experience that with but I want her to choose it instead of being dragged by her urges into it. My friends thought it was gross and awkward( which I agree it would be extremely awkward) and was inappropriate in a parental relationship. 

What are your thoughts? Is it crossing a boundary? Would you do it if you thought your daughter was ready for the question?",9.029667458432305,9.95602371971497,8.5234432304038,63.94762565320664,60.02137767220904,11.771629453681712,41.78061757719715,11.446984129993634,5.273498356294536,1970,105,301,53,25,626,219,421,0.049,0.83,0.12,0.9778,4,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,0,6,4,5,17,22,1,4,19,0,36,3,0,9,1,82,68,34,0,14,9,6,3,2,2,5,1,1,0,8,29,23,0,4,25,1,2,8,5,9,0,2,24,4,51,13,57,34,7,39,0,3,0,2,42,14,0,12,17,235,80,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663035529763474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413305943603977,0.07785157062226856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152822997001903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731302353061413,0.0,0.18680163527246305,0.06648889801433489,0.0,0.0,0.05370595970402861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700541850939274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956619070054601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05500283743062262,0.0,0.0,0.07957353328636009,0.0,0.08145964797639363,0.07850495140082976,0.0,0.0421067136610857,0.0,0.15991552953755586,0.0912244969667145,0.07611251292260081,0.0708342974632022,0.0,0.0,0.12867725223465862,0.0,0.0,0.07988567296900986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18362358317021726,0.0,0.16491214005091914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08271159467368508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260156588876929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881769790660928,0.09047932950095612,0.0,0.058820114231809176,0.08136863518821058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834239464728767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121724689281021,0.06174790215703119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05642979308049155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18493569691081332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872248646418394,0.09388087855638744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932878815018281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26822092224282845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758111013266629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360541501024013,0.0,0.08488912444855637,0.14111851967976086,0.06410972911863186,0.0,0.0,0.05894299369577359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07666910813842974,0.0,0.0,0.11064939574168478,0.3201583699248296,0.08181798660823175,0.3966697885571485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17338595356687614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374224050694304,0.09823637194732618,0.06610040210268246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605496732545182,0.1806179641297369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236626770763178,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,boredtxan,2019/04/14,"""The Talk"" with your Teen in convenient format This website provides a convenient Mad-Libs style format for you and your spouse to practice the dreaded reproduction conversation with your child. /s https://bluntmoms.com/fill-blank-guide-sex-talk/",12.81045454545454,18.208269969696964,7.6517424242424275,54.897613636363666,61.42424242424243,9.36060606060606,35.52272727272727,9.516144504307137,4.7934909090909095,211,9,22,5,4,56,27,33,0.11,0.89,0.0,-0.5719,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,0,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ddub40502,2019/04/14,"New dad (35) of twins and they hate me I just have to vent, and to be honest, I don’t really know where to turn. I have talked to the wife, who is 6 years older, about it but she seems to not get it.  The kicker.....I think my kids hate me! 
While this might not be the case, every time I hold one of my daughters, they start to cry. Heavy, screaming, not happy crying. Hand them to mom or grandmother, all is well. Calms right down and happy. They will not even eat for me. This has been going on for about 3 to 4 weeks, and it’s starting to take its toll. 
Thanks for listening. Back to getting yelled at!",-0.5215476190476167,1.628210873015874,0.9669642857142868,102.15616071428572,91.06349206349206,4.102380952380953,12.636904761904766,5.602791699666715,-1.3606809523809522,454,6,111,3,16,144,88,126,0.185,0.713,0.102,-0.933,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,4,0,7,9,2,0,3,0,11,2,1,0,1,17,25,7,0,0,7,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,7,4,1,1,3,0,0,1,5,3,1,1,1,4,14,6,20,20,1,15,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,3,9,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704809824730912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39155522827741457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823740908752082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11771943140155648,0.0,0.15016671371576468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18623594983648029,0.0,0.10129238610463458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379458934419715,0.0,0.35193104178722096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979507110739692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18907418148469307,0.0,0.2087411718101877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17213593316651205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077346307673488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417889323382635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220770130795352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622541701299921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523046456184779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13400700363379514,0.14325476290024128,0.0,0.16409051310315698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11420277882190673,0.0,0.0,0.10392752049754364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386338493313066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296559498005615,0.0,0.16025044318439174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477446889210167
parenting,local-adventure,2019/04/14,"My stepdaughter (9)masturbates quite a bit.. I think she discovered squirting.. How/when do we talk about this kind of thing with her?? Myself (27) and my partner (37) have an amazing dynamic with his ex (34) - everyone is sympatico and collaborative, even when we disagree on particulars...but something new happened today and my partner and I have no clue how to manage this conversation, if it needs to be had. Sooooo, back story : we live in a body- and sex-positive house and we strive to keep things PG while at the same time make no conversation off-limits. My stepdaughter (9, single child) is an avid masturbator starting at about 5 - been told this isn't too abnormal. We've had issues in the past with appropriate time/place to do so (she does it subconsciously while watching tv often as hanging out watching tv on her own is how she discovered this pastime and will even do it around family or friends, although almost always in her room now and not nearly as often as she used to thankfully). Things have gotten substantially better around when /where she does it since her and I had the convo several months ago that it's supposed to be private (for now) and that we get frustrated where she does it not because it's a bad thing - everyone does it! - but because it's a sexual expression that we don't consent to being part of........... Jump forward: my partner walked past her room on the way to the bathroom today, she left her door open while watching tv (and presumably masturbating) and he happened to notice her ditching her pants with a puddle on the bed. Her mom recently educated her further on the anatomy of the vagina and vulva so I'm guessing self-discovery? So, while I encourage the kiddo to self-explore and find pleasure I have concerns that this could lead to problems socially or sexually or hygienically if this becomes a norm. Would prefer to hear from trained childhood counsellors or psychologists or parents who have dealt with similar, but if you have a good suggestion let me know! 

tldr: How do you de-program a kid who masturbates while watching tv so that she stops doing it at inappropriate times /places (who may have also just discovered squirting)???",8.677569869257528,8.41956806801008,8.457416336811804,68.09855583543242,61.015113350125944,11.69288712966295,38.804006237255614,11.111384760643409,4.451795585942183,1741,79,293,41,21,561,217,397,0.038,0.893,0.069,0.9342,1,0,1,0,0,0,75.0,6,2,0,3,25,12,1,0,19,0,29,2,2,6,0,65,45,43,0,8,13,3,0,0,4,3,0,1,4,5,28,29,0,2,5,4,0,5,6,3,0,0,6,5,39,9,42,31,5,52,0,0,4,1,49,24,0,13,24,216,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279701924219767,0.0,0.10482699962620833,0.0,0.0,0.08371663162307569,0.08710638411979725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18638385587208636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049637524247674,0.08740768055365061,0.1276301229548375,0.11561646131931867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258545824797752,0.11428900913641013,0.11628153955352592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358252902869573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36644252388539655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13828703418169094,0.0,0.0,0.20006218645371876,0.0,0.0,0.09868778962078034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956802791261286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087944372244943,0.0,0.054693640748753485,0.0,0.0,0.08780488985842709,0.0,0.0,0.11532243303009795,0.0,0.1851453652906169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179877088989002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079254285864074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10926403979838954,0.0,0.09304892128437124,0.0,0.10901341572906548,0.05753218975464665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11374066062698365,0.10704760095680113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243885567113434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698781129485659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260591653206025,0.08355864305013272,0.0,0.0,0.07762267053047578,0.0,0.1011055158451096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918467304389947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624040792612884,0.1133637550066164,0.19986753463453655,0.0,0.0,0.10937364184690322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001694966555773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134548310995372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336390074083283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21841876743295785,0.11826435847193598,0.0,0.08659659130786007,0.0,0.0,0.10671326973884128,0.0,0.0805916995935862,0.0,0.0,0.07409664814346988,0.0,0.0,0.08752142583485302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414191292812248,0.0,0.09637996940786894,0.0,0.0,0.27819249853090006,0.06707798105445274,0.0,0.0,0.18312816000322846,0.0,0.1984584566722661,0.10003109322685937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041430941571924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309415470180859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07436528701384018,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,houseofsal,2019/04/14,"Picky 18 Mo Only Eats 4 Foods. Need to pole the audience to settle a discussion. Our very stubborn and assertive boy has decided in recent weeks he will only eat off a menu of 4 items (bananas, strawberries, green beans and pouch snacks). He is also no longer allowing us to feed him so anything we give him needs to be self service feeding or he throws a fit and refuses to eat.

He has always been great to eat cheeses. Some proteins and sandwiches. He is a very healthy little chunk and is not short on calories as he drinks a lot of whole milk. 

When we feed him my wife and I tend to get into it because I will start him with foods he doesn't want to eat. We know he is hungry as he has always eaten on a schedule and knows how to tell us he is hungry. After giving him non preferred food he will spend 15 minutes fussing then he will eat or I'll take him out of the chair to reset and start the process over again after he calms down. Usually after 3 tries he will finally eat what is in front of him. My wife feels like he is too young to develop bad eating habits and this is just a phase and he needs to eat so just give him what he will eat (these foods are still healthy).

We have a 5 yr old boy and he went through minor feeding phases but this one is extra picky with a big pile of stubborn on top. Am I being too harsh in not letting him dictate what he will eat?  Is my wife on the right path with thinking it's a phase and it will pass on own?",3.3931281328320817,4.108071016447372,4.184661654135336,90.84429824561407,72.38815789473685,7.106265664160402,25.33145363408521,7.07126945348624,0.8576887844611529,1135,33,254,10,21,364,165,304,0.051,0.904,0.045,-0.5515,0,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,7,0,0,1,11,6,2,0,14,0,29,24,0,2,0,45,47,23,0,5,7,3,1,1,0,8,0,0,0,3,9,21,24,3,6,1,1,4,4,3,0,1,3,2,22,3,39,33,6,39,0,0,1,0,47,19,0,4,17,150,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563454067586743,0.11725375350994052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798110512765935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05882966406008833,0.04295067212527277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690222241342448,0.0,0.7930597497666092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0356257890689926,0.05033536080080842,0.0,0.07718352738282372,0.0,0.0,0.3407933989782944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03681150776558319,0.20276981179787612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768042757704617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744398145491709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0720482955598114,0.0,0.03442232344917053,0.07061763855835923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059901052315950415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673161449302705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393404124952199,0.0,0.04774430799025825,0.1071732905378609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956898430442954,0.0,0.0,0.06017092815429957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350328158297527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997413703383493,0.0,0.05626801919580065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05297580686477856,0.0,0.06158358294479219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045146777334290115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04783650101582331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950510772536972,0.0,0.07759976636438186,0.11627080792300785,0.04155807900454781,0.0,0.056517327770931526,0.0,0.0,0.06531546850518229,0.0,0.07866407759926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,letitflystevo,2019/04/14,"List the ways to keep your child growing up “less Spoiled”, humble, and grateful. I’ll start

1. Always give thanks whenever you can especially you as a parent. You’re kids will see that and follow you. 
2. Eating together at the dinner table Always!
3. Doing chores around the house - adding value to your household 
4. Take your children to homeless ministries to feed the homeless - it will help your children be thankful
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parenting,Mrevolution0107,2019/04/14,"Mother being controlling and comparing everything they do as opposed to you Why is that the mother of my child states that I spend no time with my son when in reality she is the only one that thinks that.  She has daddy issues and is always blaming me for everything and I’m the reason this and I’m the reason that.  Mind you, I try to not talk to her as often as I used to, to avoid being around her energy.   Am I wrong for saying that she’s psychotic and does she need help.   I spend numerous times with my son but she points out all the bad things and in conversations we have about this topic she never lets me talk and calls me dumb and tries to sound like she’s telling the truth when in reality, she’s exaggerating.  Anyone can relate?",3.8350091519219056,5.1002212013422845,5.056485661989019,82.93602806589386,71.88590604026845,8.371201952410006,22.27028676021965,8.841846274778883,1.3163771812080536,585,13,120,11,11,194,87,149,0.119,0.8190000000000001,0.061,-0.8402,0,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,2,1,1,5,6,1,1,6,0,11,0,0,4,3,28,16,14,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,9,13,0,3,3,0,2,0,3,4,0,1,0,2,25,2,20,13,1,12,0,0,0,0,26,6,1,1,6,88,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967062445650303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257729629487376,0.0,0.0,0.16012711570382968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018832733048906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18367275003830486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20174539734695315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574100507429948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32332056756876065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056659406653608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18774303666163045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18393463858791465,0.0,0.08787796538119873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18162273426470146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333752248778886,0.13873088820003998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12188813026850767,0.1368032394672975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17004025996551994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698834475384422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430440251068104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28915383822147583,0.1572189041237725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950112897859178,0.11525680250822914,0.0,0.0,0.20977341932870025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442469861997358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15535447013209894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230944285720755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666535771827368,0.0,0.0
parenting,Parentalyounitt,2019/04/14,"How to tell 7 year old mom is pregnant Daughter is 7 & a half. She's been wanting a sibling for a couple years now. 2 days ago I tested positive on a home pregnancy test and I'm about 6 weeks along.

2 days before I found out, my sister-in-law announced that she's pregnant. SIL has an 8 year old daughter. My brother and SIL already told their kids about the pregnancy even though she's only a couple weeks ahead of me. Her daughter told my daughter that she's going to be a big sister and my daughter got a little jealous. 

Earlier today my daughter started saying she wanted a sibling too. All I said was that it will probably happen someday and if it doesn't, she'll be ok as an only child because she has her cousins.

I felt so guilty for not telling her but I dont want to get her Hope's up only for things to go wrong. I'm diabetic and my 1st pregnancy went smoothly but was automatically considered high risk and my doctors stressed me out the entire time telling me if I had just any slip up that I would miscarry or give birth to a stillborn baby. I'm traumatized from that experience so I'm already mentally prepared to deal with a loss but I wouldn't have the heart to tell my daughter she's going to be a big sister only to tell her later that it's not happening after all (if something should go wrong.) 

I guess I just want some advice on how to adress the situation. When the time is right (I'm planning on telling her when I reach 13 weeks) do I prep her for something going wrong or do I just cross that bridge if we get to it? Obviously I hope and pray we dont have to cross that bridge at all.",4.140699510070768,4.695872242514973,5.3105498094719685,84.02904735982581,70.58682634730539,7.988894937397933,29.55307566684813,8.00094639256281,1.84025628742515,1275,48,267,16,22,424,163,334,0.093,0.866,0.041,-0.9351,0,0,2,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,1,3,15,10,1,2,18,1,24,3,1,2,4,46,54,24,0,13,14,12,2,0,0,5,2,2,1,2,13,13,0,0,2,0,0,8,6,7,0,1,11,4,43,3,33,35,4,43,1,1,0,0,44,13,0,10,22,166,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833268835936671,0.07558854838140497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18819970767624866,0.0,0.0,0.09239225631183444,0.0,0.05798793427283727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05198106470810778,0.0,0.0725602541998172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870385546850585,0.0,0.10998686640791504,0.08791176378060697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727958079861609,0.0,0.0,0.1998764707883788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056321400510084975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341245058268013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187456327346286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349642755414712,0.0,0.0,0.08910227814758043,0.08180074324311712,0.2423104231178719,0.0,0.06819986715220812,0.0,0.09393680292473207,0.0,0.15081162645253152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104781799559406,0.0,0.09009462770785537,0.08553484265894577,0.16938881948846016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854650197028209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593419416211749,0.0,0.0,0.09986962220674296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895739424584872,0.0,0.0,0.25941301845897496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193771797137132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07282188508745455,0.08111326927099767,0.0678117756384518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584938368596407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129321682132894,0.0,0.0,0.060356012712806315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767887240808393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471893060029783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056650976793941876,0.0,0.08377937953661724,0.0,0.09944566391925043,0.0,0.08082795533937284,0.16296224149805402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20118271374933333,0.0,0.2052003421567972,0.0,0.0,0.07904806669627164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057483463635445,0.27969487932451553,0.0,0.16473725927422914
parenting,aliengerm1,2019/04/14,"If you had a toddler chatterbox... did they grow up to be chatty teenagers? I'm on kid #2 and boy does this toddler not stop. His pronounciation's awful, so there's no real sentences yet, but our lives are a constant stream of ""mama, dadda, <kid 1 name>, grandma, grandpa, doo doo doo <baby shark motions>, tweenkle tweenkle lil stuh (twinkle twinkle little star), cofvefe (coffee), hot, nana (banana), and anything else that runs through his little brain.


He is so much more chatty than Kid 1...  I'm kinda afraid he'll be like that kid I met ages ago that, within 5min of meeting at a playground, I knew their life story, parent ages and names, how they liked to eat dinner etc. 


Give me hope. Or /roastme.    Make it funny.",4.34880808080808,6.309536985185188,4.317845117845117,85.96484848484846,71.74074074074073,5.7979797979797985,28.56902356902357,6.11248444174946,1.2499629629629632,563,22,102,3,11,173,106,135,0.027000000000000003,0.847,0.126,0.9254,1,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,1,3,0,5,4,0,1,3,1,6,4,1,2,0,15,14,9,0,2,4,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,4,5,3,2,1,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,4,1,10,3,10,7,3,14,0,0,0,0,19,6,0,4,8,50,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981986301597357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839951343878864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24959986404371984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416208532627285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1956647068501298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22878791118817496,0.18678036422788175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24936143223661794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144874535098556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220748559529589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792789930722334,0.21846910351324328,0.4481909017805926,0.1974336537656924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924774930976606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643640331103757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482697160782425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544938382442793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869308610529888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Satalized,2019/04/14,"My wife just shoved my barley 1 year old son really hard. I’m very upset about it. This just happened.  On mobile and still upset so sorry for formatting and misspelling. 

My son was on the floor playing with his toys. My wife was laying her head on a step that starts the elevated portion of the game room. I’m sitting on a couch behind them on my phone. 

  Out of my upper field of vision I saw my son on her left side take a toy and smash her in the face with it. She immediately takes her left arm and flings/shoved him off of her very hard. He flies a little more than 2 feet from her and lands on his head and shoulder and rolls a bit. He was obviously scared and upset. 

 It was carpet so he was okay but had it been anything else I think he would of hit his head pretty hard. I immediately ask her what the fuck as he begins to cry. I tell her she can’t do that and she proceeds to get angry with me and states that it was just a immediate reaction. 

  I had to walk out of the room because I was that upset about it and feel like all she did was make an excuse as to why it was justified. She’s had problems with violence and anger in the past and has started to resort back to a lot of her anger ways of the past recently. This is the first instance of violence I’ve witnessed from her towards my son. 

  My question is how do I approach this situation and should I be worried?",2.4511164975003794,3.8519220801393743,3.913455537039845,89.23019239509169,75.58536585365854,6.803151037721558,22.582790486289955,7.423996415210882,0.6753024996212695,1075,29,239,13,23,356,150,287,0.187,0.759,0.054000000000000006,-0.9922,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,1,1,10,12,3,5,17,1,23,8,7,2,2,35,39,20,0,3,4,6,4,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,15,20,0,0,3,4,0,3,1,9,0,1,15,5,38,3,41,20,5,40,0,0,1,1,37,22,1,2,13,161,53,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815076144111303,0.0,0.12286370757489805,0.0,0.0,0.10105695068086584,0.0,0.08011485611611628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348097942140156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443631028044666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978789564570016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645192785251026,0.09388933836350194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11178919500569244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149937867817928,0.06866362043078889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621781721602074,0.0,0.3531902935524773,0.0,0.4046368475040801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855851408654441,0.0,0.0,0.06420713236499086,0.131721383448011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11173199277299653,0.0,0.0,0.0877265466009314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13790738965649754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250918175252324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337054650426917,0.0,0.1257550275121974,0.0,0.0,0.14722496799369467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841935855359685,0.0,0.12976535387939114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157836021664698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772609268277842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711841834958278,0.1860451801586417,0.0,0.10495538343759524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19762899785261254,0.0,0.1148703767043926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421119836480373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168771426926118,0.0,0.10431826114249436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858972651920642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346746071810756,0.0,0.0933598453282957,0.0,0.0,0.08463275295744155
parenting,barb1218541,2019/04/14,"Seriously beautiful daughter with weight issue Adult daughter extremely pretty, but carrying 40/50 lbs of extra weight . doesn’t get the men are visual part and hadn’t had a successful relationship in 5 years . Her self esteem is nil. I can’t bring myself to tell her she needs to drop the weight. I am at a loss as to how to navigate this . It’s becoming a focus of her day as to why she can’t get more than one date.  I know the answer but can’t crush her spirit . Help!!!",2.851710526315792,4.608107894736842,4.4433552631578985,84.35661184210528,75.31578947368422,8.118421052631579,22.40131578947368,8.841846274778883,1.4892368421052633,370,10,76,8,8,124,67,95,0.09,0.743,0.16699999999999998,0.8598,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,6,0,9,3,0,1,0,8,14,6,0,1,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,3,0,2,0,0,1,5,2,0,1,2,3,10,1,13,12,3,7,1,1,0,0,14,2,0,0,3,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929120457927406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12805318793385073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747624042037927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308893457295448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2072424863308192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912203201354807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722790101900401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454772874792242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501846802222407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200440230702674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131764913554852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20713881944893234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735480429430822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.72536878105934,0.0,0.0,0.1791672974445517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12786454668331976
parenting,limster6045,2019/04/14,"Sometimes I regret having a baby... More often than not, I think about how I regret having a baby. My husband and I tried for 8 years, going through every single kind of fertility treatment, spending thousands and thousands of dollars. I remember all the nights crying myself to sleep wondering if I’ll ever become a mom. My pregnancy was so smooth and I loved being pregnant. Her birth was another story, I had an emergency c section and then was readmitted just a day after being discharge for post partum hemorrhaging. I didn’t have the support I thought I was going to have from my mom who told me she’d help. She was retired for two years and two weeks after I gave birth she decided to work again. My husband went straight back to work the day after I came home from the post partum hemorrhaging. 

I love my baby girl to death, I will do everything and anything for her. I’d die for her.

A few months after having her I had episodes where I couldn’t do it. I remember many times where I  left her in her crib, while I was sobbing in the bathroom wondering if I just made the biggest mistake of my life by bringing her into this world. I did see a therapist for PPD an PPA and it did help. I could see a lot more clearly and I didn’t have those rushes of fear and that lingering feeling of a dark cloud over my head constantly. She’s almost two but there are days, a lot of days, where I think if I could, I’d probably be happier without ever having a child. 

There is no way I could have made it these past two years without my husband. He is the primary care giver. She doesn’t need me, her dad has pretty much taken care of her. I do the chores for her (cooking, cleaning, bathing).  It’s very obvious since when we do argue about her, he throws out that I’m a part time mom. 

My husband thinks it’s because I’m an older mom, I had so much freedom before her and now I don’t. I guess mourning the life I once had. 

I feel like I’m the only one that feels this way. Everyone really makes motherhood seem so easy and effortless. Every single day is hard for me. Every day. 

Does anyone ever feel this way?",2.8284751773049663,4.630618981087473,4.251601654846336,85.50875,75.50118203309692,6.969503546099293,25.46158392434988,7.793537801064563,1.4457229314420803,1651,58,326,24,36,547,207,423,0.071,0.807,0.122,0.9779,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,0,0,2,21,15,1,1,24,0,42,7,2,4,6,61,76,22,3,11,9,9,6,1,0,1,2,0,4,2,14,15,1,0,14,2,2,7,9,7,0,7,22,8,63,8,38,45,12,57,0,4,2,2,40,13,1,11,33,237,77,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755352905546864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909811671411399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052744533570553864,0.0,0.06207496236882778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05800334946359921,0.0,0.045983279380790894,0.08330986320127381,0.06418795881822285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08627529905609732,0.15381801770750886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08151631522053653,0.0,0.18068142667415205,0.0,0.08285964938780233,0.29188841175067504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782875833543172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601195925662025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470050252367236,0.19066676192188847,0.07207949973133318,0.06779434995552909,0.0,0.0,0.08488313857093313,0.15256484062857575,0.05388937690394257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574066688071387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309799495800843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757318484297124,0.0,0.07741605867944894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011223496550946,0.0,0.07566548682418225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855190037696233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195821571710042,0.0,0.10656117009939076,0.036852771744351503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12826094156635862,0.1361625224923742,0.14275312753477384,0.05035213813048479,0.07647726011696111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533850462951681,0.060209930682487076,0.0,0.1109039236723105,0.05593264133340969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078879551171995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033372283351295,0.0511153782822119,0.057370223993087666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168662847671722,0.07200936950834028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444879961906147,0.07674251757858253,0.08132957250586144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048324335253872426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090185288932472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12022072872529545,0.06867140407153369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06239898794021447,0.0,0.07548751411581511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07460520268613423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560051678162565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758357028109534,0.0,0.14500333330640533,0.0,0.05988540564704311,0.08797122130693634,0.0,0.0,0.07207949973133318,0.0,0.05121408075744102,0.0,0.2947484662880613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224015574145094,0.0,0.1796257016182292,0.06050783245408808,0.0,0.0,0.06992718128836434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14542951220438413,0.16360782234103596,0.10983229908366723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572920851409807
parenting,brightcarvings,2019/04/14,"Two great entertainment shows for youngsters (and their parents) Found two incredible things to keep the kids (7 and 4) happy recently.

First is a show called [Bluey](https://iview.abc.net.au/show/bluey) from the ABC. This is seriously my favourite new show and does such a fantastic job of showing the roller coaster ride of parenting. Plus in most of the episodes I've learned at least one pretty useful trick that made me go ""I'm totally going to steal that"". It doesn't hurt that the dad in it isn't the typical piss poor representative of dads in mass media.

Second is probably a bit better known but still awesome -  the [Story Pirates Podcast](http://podcast.storypirates.com/) which is the greatest car trip assistant ever. Not only will it keep the kids entertained it's actually genuinely funny enough for the olds too. Seriously, the talent of the performers here is pretty incredible.",8.172642986152923,10.43066155629139,6.955689343768814,69.64354003612281,62.57615894039735,10.259121011438893,32.93257074051776,10.436869588844218,3.7923192052980137,729,29,112,18,11,220,107,151,0.05,0.69,0.259,0.9896,3,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,1,3,5,12,2,0,15,0,8,1,1,2,2,16,16,5,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,10,4,0,2,3,7,1,5,3,6,0,5,2,0,3,6,15,13,6,16,0,1,0,0,8,5,1,1,6,71,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.15769131413004514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429157464585876,0.1764175429039278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500436971222965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14141099430264542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696861327222934,0.0,0.0,0.14616998658073024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374507979081347,0.0,0.17717822226024688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836738841311953,0.0,0.0,0.17815669051146188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201859644504078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17298849089688428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160355972061677,0.2872623043438414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290306432224407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606738403112067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956451600486422,0.0,0.10949949900659127,0.12289864608759345,0.0,0.0,0.3588594792698197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287960496336047,0.1742244260551856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595534472776687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904826085845855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735511099441902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31570547334416843,0.0,0.0,0.13956434158457584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,meepmeep_imasheep,2019/04/14,"I love Daniel Tiger, but my kid just calling people ""toots"" because of it and I'm upset by it. Am I being crazy, or is there anyone that agrees? For those unaware, Daniel Tiger is a cartoon reimagining of Mr. Rodgers Neighborhood. There's a child on the show that calls *everyone* ""toots"", which is something the adult antagonist of Mr. Rodgers used to do on the og show. 

I think it's super inappropriate, like akin to a child calling someone ""honey"" or ""sweetheart"". But it's difficult to tell a toddler that this is inappropriate because he's seeing it modeled on the show and he's a little too young to understand why it's  rude. 

It's just something I'm frustrated about, but idk if I'm being crazy and I want input. I had this same problem with Super Why when he started saying ""double drats"" because I also feel like that's inappropriate so I think my husband thinks I'm looking for things now.",3.721175337186896,5.832980462427745,4.6640693641618505,82.16566088631986,73.85549132947978,6.925472061657032,28.296339113680162,7.793537801064563,1.8510033911368016,712,29,132,10,15,231,95,173,0.174,0.7020000000000001,0.125,-0.8481,0,0,2,0,0,0,28.0,0,0,0,2,10,11,2,1,9,0,9,1,0,1,0,21,24,12,0,3,8,1,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,16,4,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,5,9,6,15,21,2,8,0,0,2,1,18,4,0,3,6,78,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340240721337428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718493158503833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064894359764702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133936136031205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014230618612652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474006309785152,0.11972848214121655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16375496163234024,0.16797222752506033,0.0,0.0,0.14073592173781008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512592377120111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618789344831612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036387973435007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327669081487858,0.0,0.0,0.1335499332071282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200101625349684,0.2580425788830823,0.0,0.0,0.11862319736370824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14648368052781016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134135107716864,0.3221605073136906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447023726191455,0.0,0.1447465538462344,0.0,0.0,0.09885070139080747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024532540364783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,sleepingBUBBLER,2019/04/14,"3mo daughter - possible milk allergy. Am I “under” reacting? Hi All, my wife and I had our first daughter in January. She’s great - the last 4-5 weeks have been really good after the initial shock and sleep deprivation. 

Anyways - she eats 30+ oz of Breast milk every day, naps OK, is developing great, growing, smiling, following movement, etc. She sleeps from 8pm to ~5am every day. Last week, my wife gave her about 20oz of formula throughout the day (preparing for when she goes back to work), and a few days following she had some blood in her diaper. My thought was that it could simply be the change was too harsh, and we should have introduced it more gradually.  Took her to urgent care, took her to pediatrician. They say milk allergy. 

Ok, wife cut dairy and we said we would monitor. She’s had 1 or 2 other diapers with the tiniest amount of blood since, and has been 100% breast milk with no dairy.  This is over the last 4-5 days. 

Wife is freaking out , and I say “she’s ok.”  She smiles, sleeps, eats, doesn’t have a fever, cries when tired or hungry, but appears to be acting like a normal 3 month old. I want her to be safe and healthy, but with no other symptoms, I can’t help but think it’s minor constipation and nothing to worry about, especially since we have taken her to the doc and have another appointment tomorrow. 

anyone have a similar experience?",4.610347529128163,5.9544746068702326,5.4611771795902015,80.46921856167137,70.10687022900764,9.33258336681398,28.293290478103657,9.682069395223575,2.549607633587786,1065,38,209,25,19,348,156,262,0.064,0.787,0.149,0.9686,0,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,5,0,1,2,7,13,1,0,11,3,26,16,7,1,1,35,38,17,0,5,5,6,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,7,18,6,1,2,1,0,8,4,4,0,1,13,3,28,9,24,19,6,32,0,1,0,2,32,6,0,4,19,124,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12305036571460412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205295416527626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023392288800614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196448418665516,0.0,0.12413938685482385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936934049072569,0.0,0.12890205966602528,0.3784010848997309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401540752956325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087484356619866,0.0,0.0,0.1977427171783415,0.0,0.0,0.1147895665199529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09981676207221878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984265395405574,0.0,0.25875475819706484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865637403196955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869646096400306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057330657531699726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366662947120448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497683101508555,0.11259926264121092,0.0,0.12313774243246338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229305087499293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07517659551106731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162550618753046,0.18664082582660585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941441491967783,0.0,0.3523004063071429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219702530650853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519232203584618,0.0,0.09316177643609043,0.0,0.134875092010473,0.0,0.0,0.2607574935368687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921531600280349,0.0,0.18826013112256515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854312664508072,0.11917332234304184,0.0,0.08336116444669907,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,14MTH30n3,2019/04/14,Found flavored Juul cartridges in my daughter backpack She is a HS junior with perfect grades and a job.  Now i feel like some kind of betrayal has occurred. Am I overthinking it? I am trying to rationalize my thoughts before I go ballistic when she gets home.,3.780000000000001,6.5965419999999995,4.624833333333335,79.00350000000002,76.91666666666666,7.173333333333334,32.516666666666666,8.238735603445708,2.9986616666666674,208,11,34,4,5,67,41,48,0.083,0.7909999999999999,0.126,0.2748,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,7,9,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,8,3,4,7,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,3,23,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067826074758091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18229369058810954,0.2575611355496889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953001288521754,0.0,0.0,0.18836089759880145,0.0,0.20489625964638533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616387835230401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35776821558288746,0.0,0.0,0.3754342288414225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761356743008516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862188054020298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447747135679897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,CEFan4Ever19,2019/04/14,"I lost it today...feeling like a horrible mom My 14 month old has been driving me insane today, even though I don't think she has meant to. She's been uber whiny and clingy today. I think she's been teething and getting ready to go through the 9th leap. I'm also very annoyed with my husband.  All he's done is sleep most of the weekend, leaving me to do all the parenting. As if I don't do it all on weekdays.

My DD has a tantrum for the 1,222,212th time because her milk is in the microwave instead of in her mouth. I snapped and yelled at her to shut up. Then I had my own little tantrum and screamed, which scared her and made it worse. I instantly felt awful. 

It's not her fault at all. I'm just overwhelmed and ready for a break. Thank goodness we're going on vacation sans baby next week. I love her though. Ugh.",1.3494048033414572,3.455060076923079,2.181733379742429,97.126954403063,81.36686390532545,4.923216150365472,24.14235990254089,5.900188976854957,0.3201232857640095,639,24,143,4,17,199,105,169,0.171,0.715,0.114,-0.8799,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,6,13,3,2,8,1,14,5,3,1,4,20,27,12,0,1,3,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,7,1,0,4,1,0,3,3,9,0,0,9,3,23,4,18,18,6,22,0,2,0,1,14,9,0,2,10,89,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13266777925201645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112927771817352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697702398152285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957341073416807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388251308801474,0.11851685735260405,0.1592871460758042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667434076916024,0.0,0.1885661881771596,0.13914654136388502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17566098033931474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08104889948270759,0.16627238709421135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810961839782464,0.0,0.1497285289062122,0.1569757624293399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19429657350168636,0.13241741092360698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643335258381238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408100549724098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18420899742288788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609184834289914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16601681920193462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273567817789238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126002112285208,0.3259859407571279,0.0,0.09673588085229616,0.0,0.4717529039934771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368824076916305,0.0,0.0,0.13307257496146288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906322654012118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mmisstrez,2019/04/14,"Lice is horrible, here's our journey On Friday night my 5 year old came home and told me her head itched. I immediately remember, with horror, my time sitting in a stool hearing the popping sounds on nits when I had lice at 13. I looked at her scalp and confirmed nits. I did not see any live lice that day. I ran to the store and got nix. She got to stay up after her brother (3 yo) and sister (8 mo) went to bed and I started the grueling task of cleaning her head. I washed with the nix, and meticulously searched through her head. I found out one live lice can lay 300 eggs in 6 days. I didn't find 300 but over 100 for sure. I washed all the sheets from everyone's beds, the covers for all furniture and stuffed animals. She wasn't allowed to play with soft toys for 3 days. The next day I checked her again and saw 2 live lice and many more nits. I was disheartened with the nix. I spoke with a friend who dealt with it for 8 months a few years ago. She gave me advice about a course of treatment and recommended a comb which I quickly purchased. My daughter had to wear a shower cap on her head at home. This morning I proceeded to do another treatment. This time I used Listerine and vinegar. While combing out her hair I saw many dead carcasses of the lice that finally got killed from the Listerine. I found much fewer nits. I had my husband check me 2x since this began just in case. I thanked my luck for baby not having much hair yet. I explained to my daughter that this isn't a part of her, just something that she got from someone because she is friendly and isn't aware when she gets close to others. I informed her teachers and will be calling the school directly in the morning. I encouraged them to have her and everyone else checked. I would not wish this on my worst enemy. Just needed to vent. Thanks for reading.",3.1882786885245906,4.891783948087436,3.7406775956284157,89.97331147540986,74.27322404371586,7.0657923497267765,26.95409836065573,7.793537801064563,1.4197580327868848,1439,54,304,20,30,452,196,366,0.1,0.8170000000000001,0.083,-0.8532,2,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,1,0,1,0,10,11,1,0,19,0,18,12,9,2,3,46,44,18,2,3,7,5,3,0,2,2,3,3,6,0,13,24,1,0,6,3,5,4,7,3,0,1,22,10,53,8,47,19,8,46,0,1,4,0,35,16,0,1,24,187,66,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09806966547183063,0.08896220923626451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824756993518305,0.10523517503583107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061177922501606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10247777253974404,0.1147839743170145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258893042190742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383707712951767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917946744076776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099383926485408,0.0917263192386271,0.0,0.0,0.22007695422185009,0.15507424816243107,0.0,0.05243344184886405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32106508096259384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41198920147044543,0.0,0.11311190092190344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013365445575358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103237787071116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658565400138457,0.0,0.0842762944096595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20349657334466248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801056062708529,0.0,0.1475508432394006,0.07441493610033621,0.0,0.0,0.10673294830752347,0.09418013469494203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053099013817836,0.0,0.0680058641597399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867903058809927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003861710417192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11368719730558882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015686785292292,0.07997313941157434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301801219466289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503386558653851,0.0772612708953322,0.0,0.0,0.07103462556960817,0.10696935409901506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458718155063776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847941900433084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704029447137737,0.0,0.0,0.09589733720383878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667796420486712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303381001143653,0.0,0.0,0.1154079114695094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07129216301628524,0.0,0.0,0.129255827259393
parenting,Sidekick9,2019/04/14,"Need hashtag for baby shower! My fiancé and I are setting up our baby shower
She wants a hashtag so we can check out everyone’s photos from the night but can’t think of one
Baby’s name is gonna be Isabella 
Have at it reddit!",0.13437500000000213,2.4277303541666697,3.017500000000002,87.67750000000002,89.20833333333334,4.866666666666667,18.416666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.2355166666666664,179,5,35,2,6,63,43,48,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,10,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,6,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,24,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5063538524396051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.392923210092469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4972867382615484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35908224680497525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395463652862787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125559676118154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eobmihj,2019/04/14,How To Put Your Baby To Sleep Fast with Halo SnoozyPod I use this for my 3-month-old baby girl. I also have a 3-year-old daughter. And I'm a dad go figure.,-0.5564705882352925,1.4707548235294112,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,89.0,3.4000000000000004,17.323529411764707,3.1291,-0.8099764705882353,120,3,26,0,4,42,28,34,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,1,2,0,5,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,4,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26398813042699804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760861061853207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634899366130397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6927879466011359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331850825290002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303475038750944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851082759035037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125794392984678
parenting,urawizardharryy,2019/04/14,"Should I speak to my brothers [4m] and [13m] in only Spanish? Would it be a bad idea or confusing to my siblings (my 4 year old brother primarily) to start speaking to them in only Spanish? They are not completely foreign to the language, since they have to get by with speaking to my grandparents. 

I am fluent in Spanish because my mom lived with my grandparents, and it has given me such an advantage in life, especially since I live in SoCal. Whether it’s looking for a job, building relationships, or traveling, it has always helped me. I don’t think it’s fair that my siblings never learned it since when they were born my mom had moved out of my grandparents’. 

So would it be a bad idea for me to just start speaking them only in Spanish? I spend a lot of time with them, since I take them to school and pick them up. I’m currently a community college student, and plan to transfer to UCLA or UCSB in Fall 2020 and am on track, so I have a year left in the house, and want to speak to them in Spanish until then.

TLDR; would it be a bad idea to speak to your kids in only Spanish to try to get them to lean the language?",6.186973684210527,5.258766030701757,6.777017543859652,80.31578947368423,66.32456140350878,9.705263157894738,34.78947368421053,8.841846274778883,2.7435105263157897,877,36,183,12,12,289,113,228,0.061,0.913,0.026,-0.8677,5,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,10,2,5,5,0,1,11,0,17,1,0,1,1,30,27,15,0,5,6,4,0,0,0,4,1,6,0,1,9,10,0,0,5,1,1,3,3,4,0,0,3,7,30,1,40,17,1,29,0,0,1,0,24,14,0,5,12,126,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874131540406522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972485693729155,0.07233893561929526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442118196628148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12399830589551215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954068565657328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13692698524209929,0.0,0.4018853177996934,0.0,0.0,0.11775971871303267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12893317245025224,0.0,0.08381874593481871,0.0,0.0,0.20957210646836766,0.0,0.09965126611439104,0.0,0.0,0.10088732382052462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277965147951657,0.0,0.12612534620244775,0.0,0.0,0.09152410793894483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452214564708687,0.0,0.0,0.36100956658904015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274050644607354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12009839165215085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926537151851756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798769868936747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089223597502599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603768829224415,0.0,0.0,0.06919628830487068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056780944295917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699934844512629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528951121440898,0.0,0.0,0.15283665388098988
parenting,-PauseBreak-,2019/04/14,A brilliant punishment idea Get an icecube tray and freeze some white vinegar in it. Whenever your kid misbehaves or breaks something have them suck on a vinegar cube. Kids forget about the corner in 20 minutes but they'll never forget the sour icecube ;),5.8610000000000015,8.616530155555555,5.055277777777778,78.85625000000002,69.66666666666667,7.166666666666668,33.47222222222222,8.07648339933343,2.9255555555555564,207,10,31,3,4,62,39,45,0.191,0.693,0.116,-0.4215,0,0,1,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,4,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,4,3,1,6,0,0,1,0,5,4,1,2,1,19,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159264154968958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6826232394942379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4663754580174202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4655211542483503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ZombieMeese,2019/04/14,Taking one for the team I would rather people think I’m an asshole for disciplining my children in public than for my children to grow up into actual assholes.,13.979999999999995,8.692307666666668,13.023333333333335,55.12500000000003,55.66666666666666,14.666666666666664,46.66666666666667,11.20814326018867,5.4126666666666665,130,5,20,2,1,43,25,30,0.123,0.877,0.0,-0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,8,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,16,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.5313761877567516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689830772506102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37750389106538096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094137512850412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34890854072392136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38681372582534185,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway77777722221,2019/04/14,"Please don't spank your kids. (My experience with spanking) Too many people still think it's good or even necessary to hit kids. Tiny kids, small kids, big kids, etc.

It's not. Please, please don't do it. It carries a real risk of traumatizing your kid.

Fear, pain, and humiliation does not *teach* good behavior. It doesn't really each them anything, except that they should be afraid of you.

Children need to learn through NATURAL CONSEQUENCES. For example, if a kid makes a mess, force them to them clean it up. This actually teaches them WHY what they are doing is wrong. The only time violence is a natural consequence, is if the kid themselves are being violent. And stern physical restraint or a slap on the hand is the response, not spanking on the ass.

And listen, if a kid is too young to be reasoned with, or to young to even understand natural consequences, they are also too young to be hit. 

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Now, my personal experience with corporal punishment as a child seriously traumatized me, and deeply affected me. (despite not being hit all that often).

I was hit on the ass with wooden spoons, hand, or a stick. I also had soap put in my mouth. Every time I would cry until my eyes were completely bloodshot, and the blood vessels were broken under my eyes. (With the exception of the very rare times my father hit me, he hit so lightly it caused no pain)

Every time I would resist, I wouldn't really hit or punch back, I would just try to get away and try to get free. So often it was a real drawn out struggle with my hair being pulled and the like. Not good.

When I was younger (3-5 years) it was just a really scary and painful event for me, and it made me afraid of making mistakes. One time I hid in a closet for 4+ hours after breaking a jar by accident, I was so afraid.

But when I was older (6+) it was mainly a humiliating and emotionally damaging thing. At that age I could be talked to, have things explained to me, etc. And I just really wanted someone to talk to me and explain to me what I did wrong, or why I should do something. And I definitely verbally asked for that--just to be talked to. And I do remember being calmly talked to and me calming down and having a feeling of relief, until I was told that ""now I am going to spank you"" and I just broke down, worst feeling of my life (I was around 8 years old at the time). The last time I was spanked was at 12, for refusing to do my homework, I hadn't been spanked in years, I cried, and felt really humiliated... really humiliating thing for a mother to do to a 12 year old boy. I probably could have really fought back, but I didn't want to punch my mom.

**It left me with the feeling that no one was on my side**, despite having otherwise loving parents (seriously, they are). Instinctively, I couldn't relax, I couldn't just be open and safe. I was really messed up by the fear of punishment, the hatred of the concept, and even more so the feeling of degradation.

One of the reasons it was so significant for me, was because I was homeschooled---So I had a very small world, so it was extra significant for me. I'm also naturally a sensitive person and an over-thinker, so that didn't help either.

The final way it messed me up is harder to talk about. The problem is that spanking is hitting the ass, which has sexual nerves in it. So it's borderline a sexual violation. This affected me. As a kid, I developed fantasies that involved non-traumatizing spanking scenarios, like consensual spanking. (These have resurfaced, and I'm not sure how to deal with them, because I doubt any woman would be into spanking a guy.)

In contrast, whenever my parents used natural consequences, it worked well, and didn't hurt me. For example, I shot my mom in the eye with a nerf gun once when I was like 7, so they took away my nerf guns for a very long time. I wasn't upset by that, I was guilty for shooting her in the eye (despite it being an accident) and when I got the nerf guns back I was much more careful with them.",3.838847472150814,5.368785785347047,5.1497763496143945,81.23630119965725,72.25192802056554,8.682810625535563,27.36255355612682,9.21078282632365,2.2749418337617824,3103,112,613,68,60,1034,314,778,0.166,0.747,0.087,-0.996,2,0,1,4,1,0,150.0,0,4,11,1,39,47,5,9,49,0,82,17,12,10,2,110,119,56,0,19,25,6,8,3,0,7,4,1,3,17,37,39,0,2,13,2,1,4,19,31,1,3,37,14,83,17,92,51,11,75,0,3,4,4,56,32,3,12,40,437,120,5,0.0,0.0,0.061233876040760984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054082112124711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042671404642336715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05163699922526778,0.055859825705557135,0.058661752245849415,0.0,0.11790931669659845,0.14475009554668067,0.0,0.07650229564870567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397668688063073,0.06446040662578152,0.0,0.0,0.06579102917576635,0.0,0.0,0.1001997835429876,0.0,0.13785344325532795,0.0,0.06469136195563692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054911986393796616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705840682025728,0.0,0.0,0.13996322376730885,0.12433517254888862,0.0,0.10573731138325504,0.0,0.0,0.12276093210272256,0.0,0.1412199184135677,0.12691091958352865,0.0,0.06024878559940451,0.06873835424307988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556742213820213,0.0,0.03566164666349175,0.15789240395220105,0.05018602859886096,0.0,0.0,0.06213127766514636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205926585804537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617950279867645,0.0,0.06717399665603947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05114872955197353,0.0,0.0,0.0681768648741617,0.0,0.04432140470075471,0.09196783083195212,0.0,0.0,0.05553080306661234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663333331298165,0.059374527624517275,0.08377075775530651,0.06361753709887424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698150965717136,0.0,0.0,0.04612766244399738,0.0465275152329504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13168883284707414,0.06682553199259103,0.12756083844603172,0.04772336702006847,0.20030776536110956,0.0,0.1393504581459593,0.0,0.0,0.04350218734488026,0.1095798405719425,0.0,0.2066383514910224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765392860850851,0.060042224129476615,0.0,0.06307997717942257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428439743471874,0.3215884236532531,0.12903264272294526,0.0,0.0,0.0710822730170069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053166940452112434,0.04830716986241468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05011135364225515,0.0,0.0,0.06559877589638555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05914009688196532,0.0,0.0,0.2521759499343528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12506274543859386,0.08041392453977139,0.0,0.0,0.2927151117374356,0.0,0.0,0.05995926424682947,0.06971633818695422,0.0852047700869101,0.0,0.0,0.06532381922260863,0.0,0.054194903755146316,0.0,0.15532324553203944,0.07402185552126549,0.04980715713896527,0.0,0.0,0.05641879811782082,0.0,0.11324224693011015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04568194748951408,0.0,0.0,0.17830007654687524,0.13721214618994193,0.0,0.16163294056048624
parenting,ddavi_,2019/04/14,"Mom refuses to let brother grow up I’m going to try to make this as short as possible and clarify but honestly I’m at a loss. 

I have a 9 year old brother whose cornea has some scarring because he had an eye issue that went undetected for a few years. I feel this was because he was a stay at home child and my mother got kind of lazy when it came to showing him how to communicate. However it’s fixed and he is a bit blind in the eye but nothing severe and he can still see his tablet just fine. He has glasses and tells me he can see fine. 

 My sisters and I are way older than my brother (25,22,19) I am the middle child and have the most knowledge since I’m studying to be a PA. my mother and I tend to butt heads because she’s a know it all who gets offended easily. 

The issue we are having is she is refusing to accept the fact that my brother needs to go to actual school. She “homeschools” she’s a stay at home mom but is over dramatic about cleaning and thinks that’s more important that anything. My brother never went to daycare, he did 1 week of kindergarten but he’s so picky and wouldn’t eat lunch or anything bc he never got out the house to understand how the outside world works. She ended up pulling him out. I’m at a loss because I recommend that my brother needs to interact with children and do a hobby and make friends and my mom says as an adult you have no friends so does it matter? Complete bs. My brother lacks communication and schooling in my opinion and from what I see needs a lot of tutoring. My mom doesn’t wanna pay for ANYTHING and she’s starting to agitate me. I feel she’s ruining my brothers life and he won’t get to function as an actual adult because he won’t know how to. My older sister wasn’t raised by my mom but by grandmother and is 25 now living with my mom and has nothing to her name. I feel this could be my brother as well. 

I’m not sure what to do. She gets an attitude every time I say something and that I’m not his parent. She was older when she had him so I feel she got super lazy and doesn’t actually care. I’m at a loss any suggestions? I’m recommended private schooling but it costs and she doesn’t wanna pay. I’m just so irritated at this point.",2.001940060577077,3.82033447058824,3.763897125245762,88.01704925872791,77.93246187363835,6.830989956958394,25.79207184228705,7.765008861874849,1.3994605558212443,1738,67,369,27,41,583,208,459,0.096,0.802,0.102,0.5646,2,0,1,0,0,0,29.0,1,1,0,5,15,16,1,0,23,0,36,9,5,5,5,75,75,43,0,8,11,21,4,0,2,3,2,2,3,5,19,28,2,2,10,1,3,7,12,5,1,0,13,12,49,11,50,55,8,43,0,4,6,1,69,17,1,5,16,232,68,7,0.0,0.0,0.22511876100114095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052292044667490635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983703203225635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343760121537345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395072126937336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794875360101452,0.07840078844558993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062419002176438,0.0,0.0,0.06139534895347981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729237224209192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07868399739538988,0.0,0.0,0.06810719849836047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06478835482706008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15552409233488915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881960807379513,0.0,0.1205252532435264,0.0,0.08740375133530924,0.0,0.1845027182375797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891767335553905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426629242916565,0.0,0.0,0.08872787657858862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16051928386100695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08007554661332293,0.08452026774235707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863156202319836,0.05431405161756302,0.0,0.0,0.06790074273585557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653743891349431,0.0,0.0,0.10265760508909612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5403593155212659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105264698140668,0.11861416124533695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147567932419675,0.0,0.0806896138897739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538411663362523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269175262781669,0.08668889801401118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223018700401887,0.0,0.23346914239639754,0.18382891796504602,0.0,0.0,0.08687080471866453,0.0,0.06360932126979109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919844226780336,0.0,0.0,0.05442751759150179,0.16392220991636147,0.0614093950028857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07247374708455588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721065757779437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049271972286446836,0.0,0.0,0.0448387855582708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052207463998588284,0.0,0.0,0.0800516435132911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06103661474709007,0.06168148364198535,0.0,0.069138907800005,0.14256707318151424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05598134063413432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903724775843192
parenting,exhaustedinor,2019/04/14,"How much dirt on kid clothes is too much dirt for a washing machine? This isn’t only parenting specific necessarily but I know you parents will have encountered my exact dilemma - I have kids who love the outdoors and get completely muddy while playing. This is great and fine I’m just wondering how much is too much to just throw straight in the washer? It’s not so much about getting stains out - these are play clothes - but I don’t want to cause any damage to my machine.

Do you pre-rinse or wash or scrub for a particular degree of dirt? Please tell me your tricks.",2.966636363636365,5.454763481818183,3.435454545454548,88.24318181818184,77.81818181818181,6.545454545454546,26.363636363636363,7.686295010490155,1.505,453,18,89,7,11,141,79,110,0.115,0.6759999999999999,0.209,0.9329,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,0,0,8,7,1,0,4,0,10,3,0,3,1,17,17,10,0,1,7,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,5,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,9,5,10,16,5,6,0,1,0,1,10,4,0,3,1,58,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726171893990576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224448361897253,0.0,0.0,0.1962128862152925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955460083328792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063226754390733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284733200383378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689012913241658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6878477123622266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232851652012882,0.0,0.0,0.4155939788568219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054236869715874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635687391613706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038010878380294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294550922177065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pinkroseginger,2019/04/14,"Boyfriend wants to have a child that’s his, I Don’t want to have anymore children. For context: I found out I was pregnant, 1 week before my 19th birthday...today my son is 7, I have raised him on my own for more than half of his life. 2 years ago, my boyfriend entered our lives. We now live together, and he’s an active father figure to my son which is more than I could have ever hoped for. We’ve never really discussed having kids though...

We got into an argument this morning, when I brought up the topic of how great it would be when my son turns 18, I will be 38...just the right age to do some of the things I’ve always wanted to do, or maybe missed out on doing as a young mom, that I can still do in the future that I think will be more worthwhile to experience in my late 30’s. By the time I’m 38 I’ll be at a peak in my current career, and All these years I’ve spent working my tail off to provide for my son and me, will have been totally worth some of the hardships we’ve been through. In my mind it’s an excellent time to take a break...in his mind, he thinks by the time we’re in our late 30’s we will have another child to care for...and is now pretty upset with me, because I am “taking away his ability to have a child of his own.” 

I have consistently remained firm on the fact that I Don’t know if I want more kids, because I want to raise the one child I do have properly...he’s my focus. So though we haven’t had in depth conversations about having kids, I still believed my boyfriend understood where I stood on this. We aren’t married, and I cannot predict the future, so to me this convo is a lot...He knows what my son and I have been through and how hard I’ve had to work, to provide the life we currently live. He knows none of this has been easy for us. I just didn’t expect him to take my current stance so personally. Is it so wrong to not want more kids? I completely understand why he’d want one of his own, but my son is already 7 almost 8...most parents with multiple kids, try to have them close together, having another child in the next 5 years, means having a child, who will be years behind my son, and when my son reaches adulthood, I will still be home caring for a child, which is just not where I see myself by the time I’m 40. It’s actually kind of scary to think about, because it’s REALLY not what I want for my future...and it’s clearly what he wants, and I am not sure how to even touch this conversation.",5.420469040469045,4.201320783783785,6.129673959673963,85.28674746174748,67.996138996139,9.372915772915773,29.416845416845426,8.285830014693849,1.71033053053053,1898,53,439,22,27,625,219,518,0.034,0.89,0.076,0.9025,5,0,0,0,0,0,71.0,9,0,1,3,25,10,0,1,24,0,59,2,0,3,7,68,93,24,0,14,9,11,2,0,0,7,2,0,1,14,23,20,0,0,11,0,2,2,12,3,0,3,14,3,67,7,65,64,13,55,0,1,1,0,52,23,0,6,30,292,90,4,0.0,0.0,0.08355484142020714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075898846361248,0.0,0.08573818861977234,0.0,0.09448614243837844,0.0,0.07124446581777698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17956452409204948,0.0,0.0,0.08491413918548972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044480355931775,0.0,0.0,0.15658335535434045,0.0,0.07285812075205593,0.09646681268447936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17459492269746296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977316748647653,0.0,0.0,0.06836229849879485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056552605066521565,0.0774501126870863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375486640443876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09388023903371412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684798339124654,0.0943986934585251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670060477904603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858859710964088,0.08504208812687376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916226576351881,0.14116703963143418,0.0,0.1931709695458913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209548759848964,0.0,0.0,0.22681771122673985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07279286754450554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860189314760648,0.09326759350392287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17290787327226262,0.1002795962396093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06603706009865684,0.0,0.09106009973022904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603953363649028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09507323547890617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476193566242234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08710848133357023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970344961927392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0731208256586768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822974691540629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20513381534806305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069783812572923,0.0,0.19313154325726045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056883534291495536,0.1645895984542415,0.16824660327131433,0.0,0.19970779512829687,0.0,0.08115976156920142,0.0,0.0,0.0581318014894073,0.09313228338305947,0.0,0.08913565021548013,0.1029928722260896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4545193216278362,0.0,0.0686809028445621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726064881157327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466785136096188,0.0,0.0,0.06082349993314179,0.09361435088802192,0.0,0.22055136127301989
parenting,FroggierSnow7,2019/04/14,"My mother can’t stand my brother’s crying, and it’s spoiling him to shit. First time posting here, sorry if I’m a bit rushed but I’ve really reached my wit’s end here.

About 2 years ago mi familia divorced, my dad left the picture completely and left my mum with me and my 2 siblings (9F and 6M). 

Ever since my brother was born, the tension in the relationship between my mum and dad was high. He’d witness constant arguments and never knew a loving family. When he was 4, he went without his dad for a good solid year and nowadays he sees them every fortnight or so. All this backstory is important because these are the main reasons my mum is very light on him.

She doesn’t punish him for things as harshly as she did with me and my sister, he often gets what he want, plays with friends all day and doesn’t study with nothing more than a slap on the wrist, gets all the electronics in the house 1st priority and generally runs the place. The reason? “He hasn’t experienced many happy moments in his life, let him enjoy himself!”

Naturally, spoiling a kid like this turns him into an entitled brat, and my brother takes the CAKE. If he doesn’t get what he wants, he throws mega-tantrums that can be heard from Australia. Keep in mind, he is 6 years old now and tbh it’s getting out of hand. My mum, being a single one-man-band and all, can’t stand listening to this little shit cry and just gives him what he wants. 

He doesn’t care if he breaks whatever he has because he knows Mum will replace it. He doesn’t care if it’s not his turn with something because he knows crying enough will get Mum to cave in.
He doesn’t listen to anything me or my sister tell him to do and if we complain, he cries to Mum and tells her we are “threatening” him and making him feel “scared and lonely”. Utter bullshit.

Honestly Reddit, I’ve had it. How can I unspoil something gone this far down the shithole? I’ve tried sitting down with my mother but she just says “he’s young, let him enjoy his childhood, besides it’s not like you were any better when you were 5”.",4.355589459084605,5.194040592233009,4.984493758668517,85.5339805825243,70.2621359223301,7.633287101248268,28.30651872399445,7.7094869923839395,1.5822916782246876,1612,56,329,18,28,518,222,412,0.128,0.738,0.134,0.4616,0,2,2,0,1,0,45.0,2,2,1,2,12,20,3,2,18,0,32,6,4,4,6,63,60,33,0,8,14,17,2,2,1,2,1,4,0,1,16,28,0,1,6,1,0,5,13,7,0,1,11,9,43,13,33,42,9,46,0,1,1,1,75,17,2,8,21,191,59,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508915092822175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06527634406286692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899141254090182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755434422965816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489516252735795,0.10479598188885328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19573596228322646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10064346118258613,0.10373085441664506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217610771245951,0.06190546899169923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501845645176782,0.09918310551469496,0.0,0.0,0.08682825423291331,0.08087553217416052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09049062453071424,0.0,0.048535318449828745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164886037458023,0.0,0.0,0.07416146822484009,0.0,0.25075349889947657,0.09208214652745704,0.0,0.08051167576729862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021829089152284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141847593334036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075932173507563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08532012958530223,0.0,0.0,0.10550694876281433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085863601611059,0.19631211322734707,0.06780042248071637,0.09379151867502718,0.09620697997642384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08663452683948895,0.0,0.06407392551846193,0.09731857375930314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969223172083236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403323822402126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09210478563731833,0.0,0.10072513002811068,0.0,0.0650451611888863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002888928403043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193167807728328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061493512942029135,0.1973869679782521,0.0,0.10305710375741196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633492818113682,0.09610251832565904,0.0,0.07649142920364037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19706426565722715,0.07940374042007363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477952491638278,0.0,0.10745270325761354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07217237073231675,0.0,0.16779860250777887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0637713465580553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05597241439064287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517076171512272,0.2088186394653064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07920162382976846,0.16985178305042156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898349051187555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253072539861418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854428192900023
parenting,redone789,2019/04/14,"Play With Your Child To Gain His Confidence  

Some parents find it difficult to determine how to play with their children, and find that this is almost impossible, because they think the difference between adults and children is great, but when you look at this situation, we find it very easy to play with the kids as it can be very fun. 

  So, all you have to do is take 15 minutes to play and sit with your child away from the phone and social media, to improve your image in front of yourself, and when you play with your child these ways to make playing with him fun: 

### Choose your child's [toy](https://www.e1toy.com/2019/04/benefits-of-toys-when-children.html):

  Choosing your child's [toy](https://www.e1toy.com/2019/04/benefits-of-toys-when-children.html) is very important, because it improves the child's personality, where he can express his opinion. More importantly, parents should play their child's favorite game with pleasure, so that the child does not realize that only the parents want to please him. 

[Play with your child](https://www.e1toy.com/2019/04/spending-time-with-your-child-is-very.html) with cubes and games that strengthen his abilities if he is one year old or older, at the age of 4 you can teach your child to ride a bike because it improves the child's concentration on many members of the body, but if your child is 6 years old, it is better for you to play with a kind of ball, such as basketball, hand or foot. 

### Let your child win :

  The goal of the game is to enhance trust between you, so let it win and overcome you some time to feel pleasure, and feel that it can overcome the adults and increase self-confidence, but not always because this may make it boring or can lose confidence in his parents. 

  So we advise you to leave the child to win a few times to [improve intelligence](https://www.e1toy.com/2019/03/tips-to-help-your-child-increase-his.html) and realize and think of some of the plans that he must take to win. 

### Play the rules your child puts :

  Make your child to put their special game's rule and play it together, do not impose your opinion and laws to play with him and get angry as he does, it increases the strength of the child's personality, and also increases the sense of responsibility, because he plays his own game and its own rules this puts some pressure to win , Even if a little [angry](https://www.e1toy.com/2019/03/help-and-treat-nervous-child.html) it is okay, this is just an incentive to extract his own skills. 

  If you are one of those who did not do any of these tips before, do not waste time blaming yourself, but it is not too late, because the child despite his poor behavior, in the depths of the love to be interested in it so do not waste much time and start from now Sit with your child and play with him, and tell us the last time you sat with your son? Via comments.

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parenting,Demonyita,2019/04/14,"What are some options for a 3 year old that says ""mommy and daddy is bad, I don't like mommy and daddy"" when she doesn't get her way? She's becoming difficult and I'm looking for advice on any punishment and discipline. When do they understand that they are kids, not the same as adults?",6.670632183908047,5.681339741379311,7.208620689655174,77.81511494252874,65.3793103448276,11.1816091954023,31.402298850574713,10.504223727775694,2.9975333333333336,227,7,46,5,3,75,44,58,0.199,0.8009999999999999,0.0,-0.8927,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,2,0,2,4,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,10,7,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,6,1,4,10,2,6,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,2,5,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369001751584505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344518884068809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28786420951980085,0.0,0.3807656379205027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18012537983130728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843466791531264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895156031349461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36177266487803983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27417080904890884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3589123185200971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736582529983762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220172294584206
parenting,coconutyurtle,2019/04/14,"8 year old said something weird A couple of years ago, my son said that when our female dog licks his hand, it makes his privates tickle. I didn’t make a big deal of it and just kept an eye on him to make sure nothing weird was going on. Just now, he said that when our new puppy nips at his hand, it makes his private’s tickle. 
What do I do or say?

I have asked him before if anyone has ever touched him inappropriately and he says no and seems confused that I would ask. 

I’m very worried but also don’t want him to have some sort of weird animal fetish.",3.3135256410256417,3.9366083333333366,4.233408119658119,90.75985576923081,72.5042735042735,6.5337606837606845,21.46260683760684,5.985473137389443,0.020983760683760615,433,8,99,2,8,140,80,117,0.086,0.8490000000000001,0.065,-0.1145,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,3,0,9,3,3,4,2,21,23,9,0,3,5,1,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,7,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,6,10,15,1,8,16,1,14,0,0,1,0,21,4,0,6,9,57,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14602113347323525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173265197514006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11518141154387375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079962551803978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401711077966655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226802509319875,0.0,0.0,0.16982698659726442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14900560132851245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361852659881234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4398279746934121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909500266993076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15806063464443185,0.0,0.17285397134061053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4700811871226995,0.2619960973875604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499618769607391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12681540225419885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525387218500644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13591757302055482,0.09716064313296792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16728893707100095,0.0,0.11701780498446793,0.0,0.0,0.21215842734201612
parenting,Throwitawayla6,2019/04/14,"Help with minor relative moving in Hi all,

My 16 year old cousin dropped out of high school and moved in with me. His parents don't care. They have their own problems financially and had no reaction to me picking him up. Is there anything I should be concerned about legally? If I call the department of family services for help, will I just be opening a can of worms on the situation?

He has a GED and is looking for a job. He intends to be emancipated once those legal requirements are met. I'm happy to do anything to support him.

My worries are custody battles if the parents start caring; medical treatments if parents stop caring; and how to make this place a safe and legal jumping off point for him. My biggest fear is a runaway/ homeless situation for him if I end up legally having to relinquish him back to his parents. Anyone have any insight or experience here?",5.966181818181816,7.064626709090909,6.565454545454546,74.70818181818184,66.75757575757575,8.90909090909091,37.42424242424242,9.095868883498916,3.5903333333333336,697,37,119,12,11,228,109,165,0.101,0.748,0.151,0.7971,5,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,2,1,6,9,1,1,8,0,18,1,0,4,1,26,27,11,0,6,6,5,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,9,0,3,1,0,0,4,2,3,0,0,2,1,18,6,24,20,2,23,0,0,1,0,21,12,0,5,6,88,20,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425942224419483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866370239002211,0.0,0.20392596670362345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952750405319008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652051809715015,0.0,0.3789871966139601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974275786370644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12120253949727727,0.11680629255417695,0.13942719761202524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318988217253138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661013726132558,0.13091208323186726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295626291957405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104048713860196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08270732717358707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248209162920799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633821037952968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300171047181538,0.13195442624989573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5503258770719204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294540049622821,0.0,0.11712995958151134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856003236384467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539813767885266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2785480735989779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08770036084086752,0.0,0.0,0.1035898494647398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060554746134432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583120353358584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979054299600309
parenting,linuxgeekmama,2019/04/14,"How did parents tolerate Chuck E Cheese before Reddit and social media? I’m at yet another birthday party for one of my daughter’s friends. This one is at Chuck E Cheese. It’s loud and it’s boring, but my kid is having fun. At least I can scroll through Reddit/Facebook while I’m here.

I remember my parents taking me and my sister to Chuck E Cheese. They didn’t have Reddit or Facebook to pass the time. It must have been awful.",1.3268965517241398,3.7770872643678217,2.8581724137931066,90.06656896551728,84.40229885057471,4.859310344827586,21.34367816091953,6.2581,0.4060767816091953,340,11,66,3,10,111,57,87,0.067,0.833,0.099,0.4019,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,3,3,0,0,1,1,10,0,0,1,1,8,13,7,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,2,3,1,8,2,8,9,1,7,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,1,3,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975782265505111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414841180108109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21925520500211929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846064672729424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6302297171289569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3214783891809582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28928784319199946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21337452344427588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548004624824073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Greeneggandham28,2019/04/14,"Single parent woes/question How long is appropriate to wait to introduce young children to a new boyfriend? This is the first time I'm even considering the possibility and it is daunting.

My kids dad is in the picture, but hasn't been consistent through most of son's(5) life, has been more consistent since daughter (2) was born. I worry about them forming an attachment and having it broken, especially with my son who is very very sensitive to Male figures in his life and seeks them out.

What were the signs that it was the ""right"" time to introduce someone? What is an emotionally healthy way for the kids of doing it? I was thinking of having it as no big deal, just a friend yadda yadda, is that setting them up for problems?",6.2815849673202635,7.403517779411768,6.268039215686276,77.03839869281047,66.05882352941177,9.279738562091504,34.22875816993464,9.444778638647367,3.1715777777777774,582,26,105,11,9,184,90,136,0.103,0.825,0.07200000000000001,-0.6868,1,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,0,3,1,4,2,0,0,10,0,18,2,0,1,0,14,21,6,0,1,2,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,11,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,6,0,8,1,18,15,4,15,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,1,7,78,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334501258891697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25471498990793084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14956175913096784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19261010213819527,0.0,0.0,0.1749473036607391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198831248620649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20039264246001454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21869756477343852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514352845067364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552775456968843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21667289662728587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933788779801858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873138520525708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19186222961574426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509387528373138,0.0,0.0,0.2640784550633979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3736741158511499,0.0,0.17973786225503832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299612340864537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wrench1985,2019/04/14,swearing am i being too old school with wanting people to not swear at or around my kids?  is swearing not that big of a deal anymore?,1.3866666666666667,3.777807666666668,2.342222222222226,94.30000000000004,83.44444444444446,3.6,23.814814814814817,3.1291,0.007948148148148705,105,4,21,0,3,33,25,27,0.158,0.8,0.042,-0.4959,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,16,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120515590999835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698716079318865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283489567611505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4359838196467475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880464408646429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204951276243987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450650568448563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,astro_basterd,2019/04/14,"My girlfriend and I just had a baby. Our first night of sex resulted in me releasing inside her. Plan B? First off sorry for anything inappropriate. We just had a baby. And during her last couple days of recovery and before her Birth Control appointment in a couple days, we got into it. Too into it.

I came right away and inside her.... then not letting the build up go to waste, we cleaned up and I ate her out. After a while and she was done we laid there talking about getting a plan b the next day...then we got heated up and had vaginal intercourse again..and already assuming we were gonna get the pill, I came inside her again(on purpose)

Now it was a heat of the moment thing. And I’ve never had to use Plan B with any of my partners. What are the side effects?

And then I was thinking, she just gave birth 42 days ago. How differently can this affect her?? Breast milk?

She has an appointment for her new UDI(or whatever it’s called. The thing that goes inside the vagina) on the 17th of April. Should we just wait? Will the implantation of that cancel any conceivement that could have happened??

We don’t want another child right now! Please help, thank you",2.285058997050143,4.784724283185842,3.171880530973453,89.09389749262539,80.50442477876106,6.067551622418879,21.806047197640122,7.333567415737692,0.8149976401179937,912,28,180,13,24,289,136,226,0.028,0.925,0.047,0.6062,1,0,0,0,0,0,39.0,9,1,0,7,10,1,0,0,16,0,18,6,2,6,1,41,34,13,0,3,5,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,11,23,2,2,3,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,15,0,29,1,24,14,0,38,0,0,0,3,28,14,0,1,21,123,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224110104488554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217741295009254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875551015231265,0.14460144116775533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348094482968908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956272501990684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734377171429375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081255237959125,0.31544449094234045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546679315539989,0.11010289403711566,0.30517012904509944,0.0,0.3557394853606625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14407741233324756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14112081479461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234597395375782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14409537978437134,0.0,0.0783724348485238,0.0,0.2205843882524335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12194558344278646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243227337034167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240789053357496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101332900596533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635791350247284,0.13318584669578687,0.14665949992572788,0.12941094269691675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137411621559366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235533757529982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543691130205352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083976796185067,0.0,0.1269609053749954,0.0,0.0,0.18323087099429747,0.08836152633915235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11910236797955942,0.0,0.0,0.08133770579845677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,alisontastick,2019/04/14,"Thanks, I guess? Me: Minding my own business at child type fun place...

Employee: You look tired.

Me: Um....

Employee: ...

Me: Thanks, I guess?

Why do people say this? It’s not a badge of honor, oh I look like shit? Thanks for reminding me.",-0.9273333333333332,0.7558371555555539,0.7822222222222237,98.36,110.77777777777777,4.666666666666667,16.11111111111111,6.42735559955562,-0.0692222222222223,172,5,38,3,9,55,35,45,0.159,0.573,0.268,0.7455,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,1,0,1,0,7,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,8,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,9,6,3,8,1,2,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,2,1,18,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.47020751765013896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426515302321808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35843438927491883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21549113134856304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479570251682872,0.0,0.22297616898078051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971839416311246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21907029659420246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5894592878730203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24529235688107856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925763622679491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mughain,2019/04/14,"What do you do if you're depressed? I'm anxious about my husband going to work every day because I don't want to be left alone with my toddler. I spend all day bored out of my mind, with nothing to do and often nowhere to be. I've started going to toddler group, but it's only an hour, twice a week. I don't have any friends at all and no family in the country.

I'm lonely and stressed. And I find myself feeling 'hollow' an increasing amount. I'm also becoming more irritable with my child - quicker to shout, rougher when handling him and less sympathetic when he cries/tantrums. I spend my weekdays constantly cleaning and tidying the house, not wanting to play or sit still with my child. And on the weekends I'm often actively trying to avoid him by hiding in the kitchen baking, or doing more cleaning. 

I felt like this a lot during the first 6 months of his life, then things got a bit easier. But now the feelings have returned and I'm overwhelmed and struggling to cope. I feel like a terrible parent and I don't know what to do.",5.2416206123973135,5.737269689320389,5.7123300970873805,82.3317363704257,68.126213592233,8.08603435399552,32.83644510828977,7.882392219407189,2.2995740104555638,820,35,159,9,13,264,126,206,0.185,0.72,0.095,-0.9508,1,4,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,2,8,12,0,4,12,0,12,3,0,0,2,37,28,19,0,3,6,2,4,2,1,0,1,1,4,2,5,15,2,2,6,2,2,3,5,8,0,2,2,5,19,4,23,24,9,25,0,3,0,0,11,6,0,6,17,104,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712268597890913,0.0,0.13221035759499505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242668184266644,0.0,0.0,0.1867702130529519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007805968097568,0.182588494048794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804921014397032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786576122513303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132419199196539,0.0,0.14239419621413107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13929345852831046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15585371392829162,0.0,0.25077989050226873,0.1181082262774414,0.15873794422203838,0.0,0.15110407182899094,0.14062537631256647,0.0,0.0,0.1277296992164442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879160359040115,0.0,0.13222552005314364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628118410715199,0.19076287443160428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085830656603157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962611637661116,0.0,0.1167739498354358,0.16153890633737603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14055341868286556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693113985887054,0.0,0.1319608525047908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863381412814664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573712642922333,0.0,0.0,0.1835738681901948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701789904478682,0.0,0.13202877336391922,0.0,0.18937925016097895,0.1728336052864336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983459617860863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11224483536844286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19502595871513395,0.0,0.1326137576202353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035858250753265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kittenpanties,2019/04/14,"The things that are important when you're 3... So I'm laying awake tonight cuddling my 3 year old because she keeps waking up from bad dreams. She only talks in her sleep when she's upset about something. One of the things she mentioned in her sleep tonight was something to effect of she wanted me to drive, as in during a family outing when we're all in the car. It doesn't seem like much, but who drives is apparently very important to her. I guess it's just a good reminder for me that during the day when she gets upset about something I might feel is inconsequential, it's something that is important to her. I need to remember to be patient and while some might say we spoil her, if she's the only one who really cares which parent drives then we might as well let her choose.",7.1298076923076925,6.163612237179486,6.840641025641028,80.75019230769233,64.44871794871796,9.851282051282054,30.39743589743589,8.841846274778883,2.128989743589744,623,17,127,8,8,196,93,156,0.057,0.826,0.117,0.8619,2,0,4,0,0,0,13.0,2,0,0,1,9,7,0,2,7,0,11,4,3,1,1,20,20,12,0,3,3,1,1,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,11,3,0,1,5,1,0,4,1,3,1,2,1,2,21,4,19,14,3,20,0,0,0,1,21,5,0,7,12,86,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186552905003922,0.08897222966044728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148809873737542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412828298755113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13759248176747405,0.0,0.07379874935684562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625496321720264,0.0,0.0,0.12241932617362808,0.0,0.0,0.16078483290635312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297306592284556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492478972271872,0.0,0.07130577278122979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645025227545118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10729301498382836,0.1082230731962632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315421557528602,0.0,0.19780447314531552,0.2220092526465869,0.0,0.0,0.16206469178890054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350189704373443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533747820318515,0.0,0.0,0.1160685128260945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287107871454254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921188976884597,0.0,0.0,0.449450210590402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11731233078509735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19393076098393536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042737067255975,0.0860874758526531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123021265545753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09398961813039597
parenting,Cows-go-moo-,2019/04/14,"The ‘but why’ stage can be brutal My son is 4 and still in the ‘but why’ stage of life. I’m not sure when it’s supposed to end but he was language delayed so who know. Anyway I had this charming conversation with him this evening;

Me: *looking in the mirror*
Son: *walks in, looks at me* ‘Watcha doing Mummy?’
Me: ‘Looking at my face’
Son: ‘why?’
Me: ‘because I like my face’
Son: *looks totally confused’ ‘Why?’",-0.31641666666666524,1.957541525,1.4650000000000034,96.43333333333334,96.25,3.6666666666666674,20.416666666666668,5.46131890053228,-0.15008333333333335,302,11,65,2,12,98,55,80,0.07400000000000001,0.81,0.116,0.769,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,1,3,0,6,3,2,0,2,11,12,6,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,4,10,3,8,9,1,12,0,0,4,0,8,5,0,1,5,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409756469213274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048301846267384,0.0,0.0,0.1527468880641448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1270959783111995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16334774393810145,0.11298331496718515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7768099758027649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468675842774807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179624374988568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4173573847536449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Eatthesmellycunt,2019/04/14,Non western parents of reddit. Why do you spank your children ? And at what age do you stop spanking ? Why do a lot of parents in other countries spank their children ?  I always thought that spanking your children would not help at all and it will just cause them to lie more about things to avoid getting punished. Why do you do it ?,3.4076190476190478,5.834073492063496,2.927222222222224,92.77750000000002,75.98412698412699,4.2,29.54761904761905,3.1291,0.8077428571428573,262,12,49,0,6,77,44,63,0.157,0.843,0.0,-0.8631,2,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,2,0,2,2,1,1,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,11,9,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,6,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,8,0,8,6,3,5,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,1,2,37,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976235897088628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24398355701796404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408681324838758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919492021177895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191867009209089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5274434684831134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19856522027288026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15778809080785533,0.0,0.0,0.18855282549006208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6429352758612057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871708219678974,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MonteeSaurusRex,2019/04/14,"HELP! Baby seems to be in constant sleep regression. Pretty much what the title says.

Our little boy is now 9 months old and has developed crazy fast. Crawling at 4 months. Cruising from 6 months. Walking from 8 months. And currenty getting the hang of words/sounds. I'm pretty sure his first word was cat.  -_- ... So in all he's doing absolutely amazing. 

But then it's sleep/nap time, which is a different story. In 9 months we've managed to get 3 nights slept through with a lot of the first couple of months being about 3 hours chunks. Everything else is 45 to 90 minutes chunks (seriously this is 7 nights a week). Naps are a similar story as well. He often fights you to not sleep, only drifting of if you walk and rock him with white noise. Once he's asleep we have to cross fingers that we can sit down/put him down, 8 out of 10 times he wakes up when you try to (meaning more walking).

We understand that he's probably gone through several stages of sleep regression and teething, but this is constant with no breaks. 

Does anyone have a similar story and maybe some tips/things we can try to help him sleep better? Any helpful advice would be extremely appreciated.",2.6023363095238103,5.204767656250001,3.2214285714285715,88.59023809523809,80.02678571428572,6.411904761904763,23.619047619047624,7.6454224807358475,1.2210690476190478,921,32,179,15,24,288,147,224,0.028,0.845,0.127,0.9686,2,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,5,3,0,3,6,6,1,0,8,0,17,9,9,0,2,27,25,12,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,13,0,0,3,3,0,8,2,2,1,2,3,3,12,4,29,18,5,40,0,0,1,0,23,8,0,5,21,96,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978539795602123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06944156373684947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07140104046408471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031223982023363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206996375751056,0.0,0.0,0.1129880808070413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10668822900928547,0.0,0.0,0.08936134713734202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530380994560978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177419529051344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17371758860398154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10670153377031057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053361881536565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10056250574666617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234585327769688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681434888879054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025880389124432,0.11123295008974572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4890423411839665,0.0,0.07506612539439746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19165563938394156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071523020654031,0.10874892631278213,0.0,0.07766290471190987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20777491929526468,0.11009702246489587,0.0,0.0,0.10265357544564792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120578529234239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296147617417637,0.0,0.11536065497344855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5109427162443938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624198784770913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908791882308335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865848856551186,0.0,0.0,0.10630510511905204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819103308150277,0.0,0.09181346614421072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253942208836181,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dutch-Red,2019/04/14,"My son keeps hitting I'm in need of some advice. Thanks in advance for your time to read this.

I'm a 30 year old father of three, a girl (6) and a twin boy and girl (2). It is a busy household and I sometimes feel bad that I do not have more (alone) time with them. But I need to work fulltime to support them and my social life is unfortunately on an absolute minimum already.

But my kids are amazing and I love them to death. They are amazing in handeling the situation now we are with the four of us.
Now my girls are the absolute sweetest; they can play with other kids, can share, show empathy and can play alone for some time as well.

Now my son is sweet, but he is a lot more physical. In his playing, but also in confrontations.
As soon as something is not to his liking, he will start hitting/kicking. Sometimes he hits one of my girls without any apparent reason. Now he is two and he doens't really make a physical impact just jet, but it is stressful for my girls.
Now he is also a lot more naughty then my girls, for example breaking toys, throwing plates on the floor and doing stuff he knows he is not allowed. And he is absolutely loving it.

Now when I'm around, there is no problem and he is the sweetest. Even hugging, caring for his sisters. But as soon as I turn around, it starts.

Now I have tried some different approaches; talking, being sweet and understanding, but mostly using the time-out corner.

Now what is hard to admit, but clear from the above: I know it is my fault.
He does not show this behaviour in daycare.
He is really attached/focussed on me. Probably needs more attention from me, which I cannot provide. I already feel bad focussing on him more then on my girls.

Do you have any advice on how to change his behaviour? All sugesstions are welcome.

TL;DR my son is hitting others, probably to get my attention, need help to change his/my behaviour.",3.776087569294372,5.428704722070846,4.6823019825237235,84.03305177111719,72.62397820163487,7.786864605844218,28.73146669172225,8.433251757073789,2.0869666259513293,1471,59,287,25,29,477,175,367,0.087,0.7809999999999999,0.132,0.9447,3,2,1,0,0,0,59.0,2,2,5,2,20,23,1,1,15,0,33,4,0,5,2,58,61,30,1,5,14,5,3,1,0,1,1,0,0,10,13,17,0,1,9,7,0,3,7,6,1,4,0,5,37,17,43,56,12,40,0,0,0,3,49,16,0,6,21,201,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050202331863408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172959942725783,0.23152640714093697,0.16778197732601216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142675440312697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867720384443019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517944991864118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695572417816812,0.0,0.22194718657241733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960143486806408,0.0,0.0,0.0918014288825006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06928752263355073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10608434081230234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05480755146301757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397259212699358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703143513299261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324271472982308,0.0,0.0,0.1153040246577388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409617733421693,0.05125036648677902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17836976569402133,0.18935832636708144,0.0,0.07002364843767264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111373425908107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11007817980334343,0.0,0.07108507029665223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22620661621075105,0.1003781201583338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493151014963374,0.0,0.1344072521421967,0.10785788087780533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11791550425604115,0.0,0.1069355219899439,0.0,0.08075954832222787,0.20750373980056747,0.0,0.14850193919310029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201661716771932,0.0,0.12008897669489099,0.0,0.11904281954554492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431715570351603,0.0,0.096580700443611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446794158955529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122233373137392,0.11410447291026796,0.1024751070521208,0.1092078494792002,0.12618553923493928,0.09060261574208997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943205049241197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112286601089338,0.0,0.07637072211517211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755417110356611
parenting,Dattrowawei,2019/04/14,"Need parenting advice for toddler who can cry for hours on end. I have a 3 year old. I co parent with my ex. 

Recently my child has been crying over small things for hours and hours. If Something happens that makes her cry, she will cry, get over it but continue to sob for literally 2 hours, no matter how much I try to comfort her, ignore her, distract her. If I distract her, for example we were at softplay, she will be playing and all happy but moan inbetween smiles and cry during any period where she isn't doing something fun. If I ask why she's crying, she says ""She wants to"" and may bring up the original reason. How do I tackle this? Just ignore her?

Another problem is, she will melt down over stupid little things. For instance where I sit on the train. If I'm not in a seat she chooses, she will melt down. Another example, some kid left a book on a chair. She threw it down on the floor. I picked it up (told her off) then put the book back. The mum picked it up. She had a Melt down saying the book belonged on the floor demanding for me to put it back even though it was now gone. This lasted almost 3 hours while we were at softplay. And she still brought it up several hours later.

Also recently, she wakes up in the morning and demands I stand up. I have to stand up and stand there...If I sit down she melts down. I tried to tell her no and let her cry. An hour just passed until I gave up because she was screaming as if I was abusing her and I'm sure the neighbours can hear.

Any advice would be great",2.0037142857142847,3.8702303161290352,3.1543087557603684,92.16717741935484,78.09677419354837,6.235023041474656,22.03917050691244,7.1686216300943375,0.5721428571428571,1178,34,256,14,28,379,159,310,0.187,0.7340000000000001,0.079,-0.9874,2,0,2,0,0,0,42.0,2,0,0,0,13,14,1,2,15,0,25,1,1,7,2,42,40,24,0,9,10,4,0,0,1,6,0,4,0,2,13,12,0,2,2,4,0,7,4,8,0,0,12,4,44,6,43,19,3,70,0,1,0,0,42,34,1,8,24,177,57,3,0.0,0.09177393744021607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138026406232033,0.0,0.0,0.07756204613351972,0.0,0.0,0.061942374266605135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534689915269713,0.16244093939674414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241188507575681,0.0,0.0,0.11911937940418045,0.0,0.04721709826642285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5955805201596174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686039551274235,0.0,0.0,0.05115965048658284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040468111288996286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539667019843733,0.0,0.0,0.06849501280816928,0.08245446918913295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729972386347701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5339571365434553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06313783315858132,0.0,0.0,0.08415731059998298,0.07920508069009148,0.0,0.0,0.07763231200265187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051703181809707316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056939843489662814,0.057433420532495436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127814346491488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201377344184635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411593528838234,0.0,0.1557314564677327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963874703841797,0.15295898320830373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12319390885589085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750441833172594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926044137761788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618572995522876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07300235221134226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770087506480875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10291804345251032,0.0,0.07610115757523872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401352986648213,0.0,0.10517650399500572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045686174465402185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989293923626193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055023265405545765,0.0,0.0,0.04987980016037912
parenting,Supernat024,2019/04/14,"Stepdaughter dating her older boss Ok so I’m a bit emotional and overwhelmed.
I have 3 stepdaughters, who I’ve been a 3rd parent to for well over 10 years.
All 3 are amazing young ladies, but the middle one has always been ‘lost’ for lack of a better word. She has some self esteem issues, and since she began dating has sought out? Ended up in? Toxic controlling relationships
Her mom ( my wife) her dad, and I have tried everything we can think of ( therapy, extracurriculars, any esteem boost) to no avail. Now she is doing mediocrally in college, switching majors right and left, and dating her older boss/manager. She is 18, and he is 23.
I get that age is just a number but I feel like the difference between 18 and 23 is different than let’s say 25 and 35, she’s still a teenager.
I don’t offically know about this ( her younger sister tatted her out and swore me to secrecy) and I haven’t told my wife ( she had a rough day and went to bed early) or the girls dad ( whom I have a good coparenti g relationship with) 
I’m heartbroken by the fact that my daughter appears to be in a series of escalating toxic relationships, this age difference and heiarchy at work seems borderline predatory to me; and I don’t know what to do! I’ve been cycling between crying my eyes out, and wanting to find this dude and beat the crap out of him since my youngest went off to bed.
Any advice would be appreciated,
But I also just appreciate the space to vent",4.3351381121843735,5.8003972740213525,5.417895271987799,80.05190984578886,70.92170818505338,8.62640230469412,26.90408405355025,9.107695989026183,2.1399108964582267,1138,38,220,23,21,376,165,281,0.068,0.8290000000000001,0.103,0.7081,3,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,6,8,9,1,1,14,1,26,2,2,2,2,43,41,21,0,3,6,8,2,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,8,21,0,1,6,0,0,3,4,3,1,1,9,4,30,6,33,28,5,33,0,2,1,0,32,15,1,4,16,142,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675631664908568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037333004426737,0.107933543660197,0.0,0.0,0.17642174149598847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147226658652708,0.14161554152609784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14548676957728202,0.0,0.0,0.142486196166799,0.08365565508021669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4065747258428946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459122840992048,0.11488927851164785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657977215851145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558796703392687,0.09266865580017852,0.0,0.0,0.11855745923601857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.067770904754489,0.0,0.0,0.10879906230615086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538910068692256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14257630316073666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093608274266595,0.13264271073059364,0.0,0.06337235678466352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14159960291452314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519210236853808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789846289322507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440335202838763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4177971510070703,0.0,0.11077618083187564,0.0,0.10315483472632377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808796228175285,0.13532137632133434,0.0,0.0,0.21460371850349533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10359082800752953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14834078166440207,0.0,0.0,0.08311634411114499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239485541419073,0.0,0.08806819255478594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650946089825614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11662965750113972,0.24049481609107398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443430323632113,0.0,0.0,0.09214604685774304,0.0,0.0,0.08353241795006049
parenting,ShadowsWandering,2019/04/14,"I just need to vent. Sometimes I wish my daughter's father would fuck right off.

My daughter is nine and has always lived with me. I'm broke, my whole family is broke, I help them as much as I can while taking care of my daughter. It is what it is. I work so much that my daughter has never known we're broke, has never had to go without.

But we live in one of the most expensive states in America. The rent is high, the minimum pay is low. We stay because I wanted her to have her father in her life, and he's here. I hate it here, always have.

Her dad was a one night stand. I'm not the type to settle, never wanted kids, I like moving around. But when the time came to make a choice, I decided to keep the baby, figured I could change into a good parent. And I did. My daughter is turning out to be a really great kid.

Turns out her dad was engaged, and he got married. When I filed for Medicaid for the baby the state went after him for child support, I had no say in the matter. His wife saw the paperwork in the mail and divorced him. He spiraled, got hit with a few DUIs, got sent to rehab. He apologized for threatening to find me and kill me, blah blah blah. Whatever, I don't have to like him.

After rehab he mooched off his rich grandma for a few years, relapsed a little and sent my dad (am immigrant) nasty racist messages on Facebook, then he was very sorry again. 

A while back he started dating a woman with a kid around my daughter's age and decided he liked being a dad. For the past year or so he's been getting my daughter every other weekend and on holidays, been a regular father of the year. He moved cities to live with the girlfriend last month.

Meanwhile, I've been struggling. When we hooked up I was making $8 an hour, high school drop-out. I managed to get my GED, went to college, got an associate's in business. Moved my way up to supervisor, then ditched that for sales. 

He started paying $280 month a few years back, which helps, but that's not even half of child care, let alone anything else. I can't afford to live on my own, so I've been splitting the cost with my sister. This means that when she decides to move I have to move too. We lived in the same house for the first 5 years, but we've moved once a year since (changing jobs, my sister deciding to go to college in a different city, now my sister is moving out with her boyfriend so I have to find my own place).

I had plans to get my own house last year, had already gotten pre-approved, but then I lost my job. I can't stand to work in sales anymore, so I'm working at a call center now while I get back on my feet and go back to school to switch careers. I've burnt through my entire savings just to afford my $950 half of the rent, bills, and $300 student loans. I just can't stand the thought of ever working in sales again, my business degree be damned.

So, today her dad sent me an email that I'm hurting her by ""deciding"" to move again, how I'm hindering her ability to make friends by moving once a year for 3 years, and how I need to consider how my actions affect her. Her dad, who gets her every other weekend, for about one year now. Her dad, who has never forced her to eat a vegetable or listened to her cry over school bullies. Her dad, who didn't have to take her to speech therapy twice a week for a year or deal with the frequent tantrums over math homework. 

On the one hand, I feel kinda bad for how harsh my emails back to him were. On the other hand, he couldn't even handle talking to me, he had to send an EMAIL??? And his email was so condescending. I'm so sick of him always acting like he knows better than me. He doesn't know anything about our life. He's in it when he feels like it. Her dad can kick rocks.

Honestly, I do get where he's coming from. As a kid we moved every year for my entire childhood, often multiple times a year. I once went to my dad's for the weekend and came home to an empty house, because my mom forgot to tell my dad we moved again. I get it. But I'm trying my hardest. When he moved last month, I'm willing to bet he didn't cry himself to sleep about how he should have stayed at a job he hated because that would have been better for our daughter. He changes jobs every couple years, lives wherever he wants. It's not fair.


I don't need advice. I turned off notifications. I'm just mad. And sad. Thanks for reading.",3.405510631925728,4.207561475027748,4.3021584482849775,89.69091996547048,72.42952275249722,7.008093300213168,25.289378644539585,7.005009785671833,0.8712087486566951,3383,99,742,29,63,1093,354,901,0.109,0.821,0.07,-0.9841,10,1,0,0,1,1,127.0,8,0,1,9,48,35,7,1,51,0,59,12,4,9,5,104,128,52,1,12,17,28,4,8,2,4,5,3,4,7,22,37,2,2,15,6,13,27,18,17,0,9,36,8,103,18,116,81,11,143,0,7,1,1,121,40,2,7,73,452,125,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04071816576321335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04315620061963026,0.045982440259725435,0.0,0.10401507487000557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413241479812688,0.0,0.0,0.06857956992552752,0.07418794431275688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16020326910626004,0.03479161919405615,0.0762025477751305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07370514778260602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04254839566590275,0.09531577110443216,0.08496802171623563,0.0,0.13223986032618498,0.035893890495795215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033269061744037695,0.04610561763351508,0.09154220803924416,0.0,0.0429585941028432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04353491675904689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04263747681601143,0.034808847233638696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05504355912718331,0.03769171952453845,0.14043068823791846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03928153651762717,0.0,0.04213788763132019,0.029768123496140168,0.0,0.0,0.07616886330015388,0.03544337004037471,0.0,0.0,0.03219312981187476,0.03852203639132598,0.15239121052633492,0.0,0.07104383758869671,0.03494972377690956,0.13330504518922345,0.04593988251116985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227841774578087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585929483130644,0.08805052648488239,0.041797097787802336,0.0,0.04103527031441543,0.14424023584655155,0.044607199004272916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653989978221768,0.037037050007939394,0.046100236454074316,0.0,0.045800049255745774,0.1018966417744991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04260906300837377,0.05886366207325343,0.10178609621116816,0.04176297839464905,0.2207653225579227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04548630203132625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08344253091855587,0.0,0.0,0.045389423631718884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04880187109304912,0.09977866261722466,0.5314467312722416,0.06126256946649369,0.0926904264070146,0.12854986318844575,0.0,0.0,0.039103246836422884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312739836324333,0.1129431424652812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04626815380423355,0.0,0.03977748357017352,0.0,0.0,0.04353491675904689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04167997038783729,0.0,0.0266940325227793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035584837213400874,0.0,0.03313661812445561,0.0,0.12651282949134598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034468774473853124,0.0,0.04169878688005035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041211404076430015,0.04664469174371811,0.058986632511801675,0.08882656774308371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043561166470860634,0.0,0.0,0.047285140435580485,0.0,0.0,0.06265934468212139,0.03349171805397371,0.0364202753942696,0.03836293529737542,0.04765178333461247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03308028879412053,0.04859470141284136,0.0,0.03949704995399971,0.0,0.0,0.02829030818905727,0.1359707216232135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03438103665279083,0.07373182639727062,0.03307466997551592,0.03342411310837174,0.0,0.0,0.11588189108436625,0.0,0.04652160905236058,0.047916941971740734,0.04016713430367022,0.0,0.12134122273543717,0.0,0.0,0.059200489720217325,0.0,0.0,0.3756658210692777
parenting,cylante,2019/04/14,"Looking for punishment advice My son 15, is having a friend sleep over tonight.  After he thought I was in bed, he decided to walk the neighborhood.  I felt something was oddly quiet and decided to check his location and he was on the other side of neighborhood.  I saw he was on his way home so I waited home instead of driving to get him.  I locked the back door which he went of.  He phones me and tells me he’s locked out cause they were sitting on the trampoline.  He lied to me and initially said that’s all he was doing but upon hearing my tone and more questioning he said they walked the neighborhood.  He did apologize.  (Just putting the facts in, I don’t care about the apology) I’m really pissed off, although writing it out makes it seem like not a big deal.  
I’m obviously not going to let him have anyone sleepover for awhile but wondering ideas for further punishment.  Thoughts?

Also, I’m a single mom and he has 2 younger siblings, one of which was also having a sleepover.  And they all managed to stay in the house!",2.2145045454545453,4.787391005000004,3.3544545454545487,87.2047272727273,81.45,6.836363636363638,25.59090909090909,8.00094639256281,1.78245,811,33,156,16,22,261,120,200,0.083,0.861,0.056,-0.7594,0,0,1,0,1,0,21.0,0,0,3,0,7,6,3,0,12,0,16,2,2,2,4,31,35,13,0,0,5,2,1,1,1,0,0,4,4,0,6,9,0,1,9,0,1,6,3,3,0,1,15,7,18,3,26,19,4,26,0,0,2,0,32,14,1,3,4,101,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588622036051471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600154553430185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136732113131821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500683111792707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657516603806118,0.1670048879987788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760325017199845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609336362868464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256017172433992,0.0,0.08493647933473872,0.0,0.0923926735595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832289908196138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261433286304345,0.0,0.0,0.18758475720117992,0.0,0.18352252876203207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662395522043926,0.0,0.07942383080074976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13651844102027952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108517202642826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19040083551357614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016211166328264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16342845283265026,0.1821163867139586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104146951371454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092839223615867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479982568383985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16268810363287398,0.0,0.0,0.12515486505143866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17327873230351706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420939547887775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258125948221196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904105225119067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15070466486341447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763009861162646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,cptmomvel,2019/04/14,"My son despises dogs My 18 yr old daughter loves dogs and brought home a rescue she adopted. Prior to this we promised our 14 year old son that we wouldn’t get any more dogs because he extremely dislikes them. My daughter and other family members love the dog now. To support my son, the dog is not allowed in the house and lives only in the large basement room where my daughter is. My son insists that the only solution is to “get rid” of the dog and it is very upsetting to him to know the dog is downstairs even if he doesn’t have to encounter her. If I make my daughter give the dog away she and the rest of us will be heartbroken. If we keep her, my 14 year old will continue to have emotional melt downs and say we choose our daughter and the dog over him. What do I do??",5.44352201257862,5.0453830377358475,5.771698113207545,85.14861635220126,67.67924528301887,9.079245283018867,32.76100628930818,8.515128840125781,2.3160364779874216,609,24,131,8,9,195,89,159,0.077,0.8059999999999999,0.116,0.7162,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,7,0,1,0,3,6,1,1,11,0,14,2,0,2,0,21,24,10,0,4,4,9,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,0,6,11,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,1,24,4,14,19,2,16,0,0,0,2,29,7,0,3,8,85,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990992808168542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16566712302718747,0.0,0.0,0.10748866654624607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19834665891185446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646379836274945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166227512207095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184249497737246,0.16915107189643747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687260221160886,0.0,0.0,0.20346026564904213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15672952812186552,0.0,0.0,0.0969059375176004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15570194720672756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31828804237899944,0.0,0.11770113524480673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5550836189320147,0.0,0.0,0.26821266162467344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022408699092098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20009632910979752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21210236185636966,0.0,0.0,0.1454900876224582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271004955272771
parenting,jlfern,2019/04/14,"Today I taught my 4yr old daughter how to flip a coin and play heads or tails Heads- she has a bite of broccoli; Tails- she has a bite of quesadilla. It's the first time she's finished her dinner in months. I won every flip of the coin.

Any other games to get them to eat?",-0.5891379310344824,1.6100610344827615,1.2754310344827609,98.83142241379312,93.82758620689656,3.589655172413793,14.14655172413793,5.148860815047168,-1.1409034482758624,212,4,48,1,8,69,43,58,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.7269,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,2,4,2,1,0,3,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,8,2,7,3,0,7,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,1,6,28,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108127007835504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172105069679996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26119093539493315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26368843136936376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16196379589829007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6363051192747929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474414725960296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3252960471798167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076526828315212,0.0,0.29384663857369125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,somethingnewandold,2019/04/14,"How do I get my SO to quit smoking? It’s not so much that I want to give him an ultimatum or force him to - but I quit smoking for my own health, and for the fact that I’m a mom and second and or third hand smoke is a thing. 

I’m pregnant now anyways, and obviously don’t smoke, and would like my SO to quit. I haven’t brought it up but once, casually, asking if he’s considering it. He said, probably not.

I told him with the newborn, I don’t feel comfortable with smoke around. And let him know, he’d have to wash his hands, change his clothes, basically shower every time he smoked if he came inside and wanted to be around the baby. He looked at me like I was crazy and we changed the subject.

I’m not sure how to let him know that I’m super serious, I want to reduce the risk of sids, I want him to be healthier, and I don’t want him smelling that way around a newborn baby.

 I know he will probably be defensive. And we have 6 months before the baby comes. I just want to give him time to quit.",2.6967605633802805,3.3713841220657312,4.296356807511739,89.55157746478874,73.97652582159623,7.745727699530518,24.52863849765258,8.021203637495839,1.0287235680751174,770,22,183,11,15,259,104,213,0.045,0.8009999999999999,0.153,0.9675,1,0,4,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,5,11,9,1,1,10,0,17,4,2,2,3,46,41,21,0,9,10,1,3,2,0,2,2,1,1,2,8,19,0,1,4,1,0,3,7,3,0,2,5,6,29,6,21,28,2,13,0,0,1,0,27,5,0,4,6,115,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094796038097193,0.10833436263313956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860735231237523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325385472059114,0.0,0.0,0.2451763405958913,0.09982239129489777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763588536564076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585936025514819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060543749674156,0.22232983600568806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231775286416567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105774165111264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369951265566544,0.0,0.1132285342605767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731199578527076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13572001822271632,0.09249619331758764,0.0,0.08518686741036856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341093027186302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24988156523910424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.493020611864142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11023066013781936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109217751882329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698709009724629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351438707893652,0.0,0.0,0.11073055998922808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4101025062400532,0.09198202264065863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08231950295821762,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flipflopfleee,2019/04/14,"How much should I intervene into my kid’s relations My kid is 4year old , goes to daycare. His  daycare is his first and most probably only exposure to this world. 

He has this group of friends he highly talks about. Today on our way home we bumped into his friends’ parents and they invited us join them for play in the park. After that they invited us for dinner and the night ended up at 10.30ish which was really nice of them but I also got to see the dynamics between my kid and his friends. And it seemed a bit unhealthy to me. 

His friends have strong fraternity among themselves and they were behaving .. like.. whenever they wish they will ignore him and then again they will invite my son to play, if my son had anything in his hand they will just snatch it and say it’s not yours, you can’t get anymore, it’s all finished now. And my son will kept silent and start playing with other things. 

They seemed a bit bully and were talking about my son like ( he is a baby, he cries every time i go to play in his house) in front of him and me. Before today twice I found my son to pick up at other kids when he was with his friends just to earn their validation. And quite a few times I found they were ordering my son to try something dangerous like..jump through this hole, or whenever he tries to do anything they just go and say you cant do this, they also have this false blaming issue..like in playground...if any kids wanted to play with them they would just blame all of their following hurts/scars/bumps on that kid(not much inclusive)

I felt a bit suffocating to be around the kids, we parents were doing fine, but I really got sad to see this power play among such young kids and can’t imagine my son stays with them for 8hrs every day

I never taught him how to behave around others and felt he should form his own way in this world. But today while coming home I could not help saying, ‘you know if your friends are not being nice to you, then you don’t need to play with them’ 


I know some kids in his daycare beat other kids and his friend circle has some kind of power(kind of cliche/bullying) over other, and by being with them my son gets to save his back from the kids who beat, and I decided on respecting that. 

But what do you guys do if you find your kids making friends with some manipulative/bullies. 
Should I let them walk over my son? Or warn him? Will that put him into a conflict with his ability to form relationships? How do I instil self respect in a healthy way? 
Am I being too controlling?",6.1885699971371295,5.893426144288579,5.974385198969369,83.97109969939879,66.11422845691385,9.212739765244775,29.244274262811338,8.634040054169528,1.894622616661896,1982,57,412,26,28,618,229,499,0.07,0.758,0.173,0.9952,4,0,1,0,0,0,53.0,5,10,21,8,19,29,1,0,12,0,41,2,1,6,3,87,66,37,0,11,16,11,3,2,8,9,0,3,2,13,24,35,1,4,11,7,0,7,8,3,0,2,15,8,82,26,66,36,15,61,0,1,2,0,102,27,0,11,24,289,106,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265202292104987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05379400606298807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845074844567966,0.0,0.0,0.1301930917288151,0.14084016347101186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082674164523619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731239529919432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590860027183714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814181807931721,0.0,0.0,0.08872280817954419,0.06315878055340247,0.0,0.08689295588506794,0.051016079746506085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006341160019035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329848448418452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15190610972325164,0.0,0.07230039366888194,0.06728653929815888,0.0,0.1734687553121359,0.4889296456290453,0.0,0.08265803138192161,0.0,0.08991421083564133,0.0,0.12653473910000546,0.0,0.0,0.07832623171031038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302230900380836,0.08357861010112318,0.15869721528422798,0.0,0.0,0.09127636834579524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164751042626266,0.08694790621190518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089006178884108,0.0,0.1159398920856095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280309716028242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163023234872345,0.05865523897129539,0.061010531809963124,0.0,0.0,0.07423453672569444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300722617383474,0.0,0.0,0.060162797928537674,0.0,0.0,0.17567313410973298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528840042308422,0.0,0.0,0.07952221641835287,0.0,0.08413773805456108,0.0,0.0,0.10135317642336313,0.0,0.0,0.0849289975403798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872203927838127,0.0,0.0,0.1260726367391027,0.1440281567358854,0.08252360368460906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060898773083421676,0.0,0.0,0.05599081523639222,0.08431523772086524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271629532087087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052553742900874605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09225334054218727,0.0,0.2249464258785575,0.0,0.0,0.10741399204148044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903067731289605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046658086112706526,0.18836922774663384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096666584911026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056193811049739854,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,borderrat,2019/04/15,Parents whose kids attend daycare: did you find yourselves getting sick more often? My kid’s been in daycare for two weeks. This weekend I got a cold that knocked me on my ass and then my SO followed suit. I hope I can go back to work tomorrow. Meanwhile my 3.5 month old is perfectly fine.,2.242631578947368,4.707304754385966,2.8132456140350897,91.81355263157896,80.40350877192982,5.203508771929825,28.798245614035093,6.42735559955562,1.3137508771929824,229,11,45,2,6,71,51,57,0.107,0.7390000000000001,0.154,0.4631,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,2,3,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,5,9,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,1,9,3,4,6,1,12,0,0,0,1,5,2,1,2,7,28,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259984630380615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090251198068138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766477798708555,0.0,0.19215489961971088,0.0,0.27041632089295786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33581811284355045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698750454670297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547880822153931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.375429569330713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33028295681116226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712103111490232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461470755153569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,deghbince,2019/04/15,"Survey for Parents: Toy Shopping Habits (Please help!) Hi all! I'm a marketing student in college, and my team is currently working on a project to determine parent's shopping habits when it comes to toys - what you look for, what you value, etc.

We would really appreciate any and all responses! Link to the survey is here: https://wustl.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1UoS1kOEj1hSoqp",6.320952380952381,9.937651571428574,5.339047619047624,72.81428571428575,72.96825396825399,8.679365079365079,31.222222222222214,9.23628265651192,3.633450793650794,311,14,45,8,7,93,51,63,0.0,0.8959999999999999,0.104,0.7406,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,2,8,6,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,7,5,3,5,0,0,1,0,8,2,0,0,2,27,7,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20333980908271929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575741294034441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33347970892912243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004228162025169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510964951826785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6640394379442476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3282276370131025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155605849211454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21768579119677015,0.0,0.0,0.21241100350669445,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JunoDagger,2019/04/15,"Was it too harsh? Alright, I decided to go on here and ask a question about kids and suitable punishments.  


Today, my four year old nephew did a bad. After being told numerous times not to touch it because it doesn't belong to him, he broke one of his father's favorite cups, a tall glass with his favorite baseball team on it. His wife told him about it as he was coming home.   


As soon as he got home, he had his son come into his room just as he picked up a toy dump truck. He says, ""You like this?"" and no sooner did his son says yes, he breaks and tears the dump truck into pieces and beyond repair. Right in front of his son, who had started bawling his eyes out and screaming, ""No!""  


Then, with his son still crying, his dad proceeded to go into the kitchen and threw all the pieces in the trash. He then threatened his son that if he ever broke anything again, he'd break another toy of his. All to show how his father felt about when he breaks something of his.  


As his aunt, I'm extremely concerned about this method of punishment. Again, my nephew is four years old and I'm worried that he'll be scarred for life after this. Was this too far?",4.503275362318842,5.073186834782611,4.498695652173911,90.1194927536232,69.78260869565217,7.35072463768116,25.768115942028984,7.03164865440522,0.901298550724638,892,24,192,7,15,275,130,230,0.155,0.7929999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.9745,0,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,0,1,0,1,16,10,4,0,8,2,12,3,1,2,3,27,26,18,0,1,3,12,2,1,0,1,1,3,4,1,12,16,1,0,3,4,0,6,4,8,0,3,12,6,22,2,34,10,4,41,0,2,1,0,51,14,0,2,19,119,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771983045090438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390624523207675,0.0,0.15798065819342366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109764440312694,0.10301331410319016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29113582608341065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18562501856776184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285902069554427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16225466236429786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207917242391465,0.0,0.1351548756493718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33901681941572825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936098767281104,0.08255883883001032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3546482621711409,0.0,0.1145104174690186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893048631303189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144314545387338,0.0,0.2687715529862674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300949630406882,0.0,0.0,0.11961034139092346,0.0,0.13495377018723512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985380683431459,0.0,0.16018055033018075,0.3229499177184141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716151800058443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21764503580176334
parenting,hughes555,2019/04/15,"No one told me with boys how often I'd have to say, ""stop touching your penis "". I mean I remember puberty, I pulled that thing every spare moment I had...... ALONE. I  didn't realise when my 3 year old got put in the corner, I'd have to make him put his hands on the wall because he just touches his penis and is 100% content with life in the corner like that.

Side note: no one warns you morning wood is a life long Male thing.......prepare yourself",3.7511355311355317,4.217060395604399,4.5887362637362665,89.17709706959705,71.41758241758242,6.945787545787545,26.155677655677657,6.42735559955562,0.8522952380952384,340,10,74,2,6,110,68,91,0.122,0.85,0.028,-0.7378,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,4,0,6,3,1,2,0,10,10,3,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,3,0,1,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,4,4,12,1,7,6,0,16,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,7,41,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308322849603293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13586312024828667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778261396443155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825427016258066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148477721025614,0.10888593911544926,0.0,0.0,0.19723821646261205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877143800313994,0.0,0.0,0.2427772653641863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338708346036576,0.0,0.3020530453508239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44810380928390176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524750224693301,0.0,0.0,0.1772399137946051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633428734860352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961377769215917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2129675367069488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14352481486498406
parenting,kekmanako,2019/04/15,"I hate being the favorite child. I don't know where to post this, I'm sorry. I just really need to vent. I love my parents and my siblings. I know this sounds stupid but since around the age of 10 (I'm 17 now) I kind of just knew I was the favorite child, I got to do things my siblings couldn't and my parents would go more out of their way to give me things, things my siblings wouldn't generally receive. at first, I didn't think much of it and just didn't really care. But especially as of late, my mum, in particular, has just been showing so much affection and pride in me, wherein the same areas shes proud of me in, she doesn't acknowledge my siblings at all. all I feel towards it is disgust and guilt. I don't like how things are going and I know my siblings know I'm the favorite.

 my rooms far more impressive than my older brothers and a few nights ago we were in my room talking about episode 9 of star wars. after a few moments the conversation went silent, he was sitting behind me on my bed while I was at my desk and I glanced at him through the mirror and saw him look around briefly and give a small smile, the only way I can describe it as was envious, I know my brother loves me and I don't even know where I'm going with this but its honestly tearing me apart inside. I just feel so guilty and disgusted towards my parents for choosing me over them. I'm sorry this is long but I really don't have anyone to talk to about this. I don't know what to. I just really don't know. it just fucking sucks, I hate it. if you're going to comment something above the lines of ' look at this kid complaining that he has a good life' please do it so I know I'm just being an idiot. please someone just talk to me about this, I just feel so disgusted in myself",1.9885518292682924,3.6708517533875344,3.3294097222222234,91.73078125000002,77.53658536585365,6.346917344173441,23.726371951219512,7.1686216300943375,0.7531876016260162,1383,45,307,16,32,451,170,369,0.14800000000000002,0.723,0.129,-0.767,3,0,1,0,0,0,33.0,1,0,2,3,24,23,11,1,14,0,30,4,0,2,2,58,69,25,1,5,15,6,3,1,0,2,1,1,3,3,20,17,0,0,16,1,0,6,11,13,0,1,12,8,55,10,45,52,9,46,0,0,4,3,29,25,2,1,12,210,75,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449556225314812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665006563104603,0.0,0.0,0.16971028622932618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718524633201348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06295806051165125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144590196640228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107927143965356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881219432977912,0.0,0.18287954831933012,0.2166905530486892,0.07995001992251316,0.07623623212790058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18821782912957025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926126863108307,0.4714691575876415,0.0,0.10752528177489848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06732744134844829,0.046568610795683515,0.0,0.0,0.08435533376576196,0.1600898390876119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206031499863395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014255679429632,0.07067868390196036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945150421109861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249526985184697,0.0,0.0,0.3175252407176655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926580259635366,0.0,0.0,0.09129035538935064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442581172465147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884981362026808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076445431128425,0.07338210888351811,0.0,0.21340620933053375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22984417926273795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533058903177308,0.06107730367081319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132139757969046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836273461455876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677127001455866,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,wafflesontheceiling,2019/04/15,"Help, CPS called my house! I have no idea why. My babies are almost 2mos old. All they said was ""we got a concern about your son"". Who? Why? Should I ignore them? Should I get a lawyer? I'm so stressed out. My son has been in the NICU for two weeks after he stopped breathing and they have no idea why. I'm a mess emotionally and this could not have come at a worse time. I have no idea what to do, I'm a great mom and I do everything I can, but I know bad things happen to innocent people and I'm so terrified they're going to take my baby away.",-1.5075612052730705,0.4646775847457647,0.6666666666666679,101.95907721280605,99.42372881355931,3.9781544256120527,13.335216572504704,5.82211442006289,-1.1256907721280611,417,8,104,4,18,137,78,118,0.221,0.718,0.061,-0.9554,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,1,3,0,3,5,0,1,6,0,14,1,1,0,1,20,26,7,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,4,7,0,2,4,0,0,2,4,4,0,1,4,1,16,1,10,19,1,11,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,5,63,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15630305088550356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665306588138846,0.0,0.13032985003937256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938683381256272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445897241959506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246263303776278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558188435480862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028494036409409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155134596572525,0.0,0.0887103744488196,0.0,0.1248406006350188,0.17209138686853775,0.0,0.0,0.13803116351428654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046248160808942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010858882107267,0.0,0.5286247800521673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578378485352292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281243266437255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379173097118174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821416535029883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847872405178875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049945075807254,0.178802241264802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173613528941676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1037002308777552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101818619763602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247867647802632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252071547695408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4225447953955536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15907053408545685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Sleepysillers,2019/04/15,"Son's school wants to parade special needs kids in front of the regular kids for ""special abilities day"" My son is a preschooler at a public elementary school that has a Pre-K class for children with disabilities. The kids have various disabilities such as autism, deafness, developmental delays, etc. 

Every year the school has all special needs kids wear special shirts and they parade them through the school while the rest of the school kids stand in the hallways and clap. 

My son is visually impaired, not blind, but has to have large print and is very nearsighted. He was also recently diagnosed with ADHD. Most people can't really tell he's any different than any other 5-year-old unless I tell them. He will be in a regular class in kindergarten.

I am concerned about him being in this parade and being singled out as different. This is the school my son will be going to for kindergarten next year and he has lots of neighborhood friends who are all students at that school and none of them know that he has vision problems other than wearing glasses.

I don't want him to feel he is different and I don't want his peers to see him as different. Kids can be cruel, and making friends is already difficult enough for any kid, let alone a kid who will have been singled out as different.

I think the event is well-intentioned, but I think it is misguided. I think the goal is inclusion and it's hard for me to see this as inclusive. My instinct is to not allow him to participate and my husband had the same reaction when I told him about it. 

I'm wondering if I'm just worrying too much about this and overreacting and should just let him be in the parade.





TL;DR: Son's school wants to recognize special needs kids with a parade, I'm worried it will open him up to bullying and ridicule.",6.9489705882352935,7.275197720588236,6.796470588235298,76.61411764705883,64.44117647058823,10.447058823529412,33.76470588235294,10.241411754978122,3.3669882352941167,1435,57,264,31,20,454,161,340,0.102,0.8270000000000001,0.071,-0.9207,5,2,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,0,4,1,9,11,2,0,18,0,40,6,3,2,2,50,61,25,0,10,8,6,2,0,2,5,3,1,0,10,15,19,0,1,6,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,4,6,26,7,45,44,13,24,0,0,3,0,42,12,0,4,9,182,41,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745923804457847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398893508279645,0.08948925379139952,0.06485084848835605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654401177681266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229892608882535,0.0,0.0,0.08230871058317246,0.0,0.4236298892177435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837917875279926,0.09044125458002976,0.0,0.0,0.06832519886309217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041003566787379576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530605804310274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046087593266614296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264430222137958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044567145722971525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584823388374306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894322521572276,0.0,0.0,0.054130879702409936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059613426298539725,0.18039053703801625,0.0,0.0,0.08624439695316306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08509451937653252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056220374103235236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07759601317947852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195089772647776,0.0,0.08007054913878715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6565717198287564,0.12924284938011574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417594738122285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1558852966941904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748879936052716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06691104902772681,0.1913253867548774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291325172898665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794299188016037,0.0,0.16470980199832233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666564614915804
parenting,sahm42e49,2019/04/15,"Do beach umbrellas work? My daughter is sun burnt (4) and we will be on our third day of vacation.  We plan to go to the beach tomorrow, do the beach umbrellas work?

I need a way to provide shade so she can play out of the sun.",1.4475000000000016,2.8030554166666697,3.3483333333333327,92.43000000000002,78.16666666666666,8.133333333333335,24.5,8.841846274778883,1.5038999999999998,172,6,42,4,4,58,36,48,0.0,0.937,0.063,0.4631,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,8,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,1,7,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,26,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209074782749723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827945895071049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689602360554448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949675877431967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7245098752777197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thrownoutta,2019/04/15,"Single fatherhood becoming challenging I've been a single father since he was 4 months old (he's now 7) and have lived a bit more than an hour away from him ever since. The prospect of me moving closer to him is nonexistent; I have a great job where I'm at and the opportunities where he lives are virtually non-existent for what I do. 

I had a girlfriend for a few years who made my life miserable and created a great deal of unnecessary drama between me and my ex. When she permanently left (there were several instances in which we 'broke up), my son, who was 5 at the time, was devastated. She left without saying anything to him and he sometimes brings her up, although I think he hesitates to bring her up now because he knows how much it hurt me. He's talked about dressing up as the mailman and going to her house, calling her, and asking if she broke up with him. Even though this was over 2 years ago, merely typing this is flooding me with painful emotions, which leads me to my next point. 

I've had a terrible time dating ever since. I don't have a problem finding dates, but I experience issues when I want to advance the relationship. I have yet to introduce anyone else to my son, and I often wonder if I ever will. The last thing I ever want to do is hurt him like I did with my last relationship. I introduced him too quickly to my ex. 

I get him every other weekend and occasionally a Saturday-Sunday on my off weekends. Since I split with my ex, we usually stay the weekend at my parents place since he lives about 20 minutes away from there. I realize this is unsustainable once I find a new partner, and it breaks my heart to think that if I want to get married and start a new family, I'll obviously have less time for him, or maybe not, but that is my line of thinking at the moment. 

I've never loved somebody more than my son, and I just want to do right by him, and I feel like I'm letting him down and I hate it. I can't stand the Sundays when I drop him off and I see his countenance change. There's absolutely no way his mother and I would get back together as she is engaged to someone perfect for her. 

This might read as a ramble, but I'd like to get different perspectives. I have a fear that no woman will want to deal with my situation in the long term. I fear what could happen if I get into another relationship. I fear what my son will think if I ultimately get married and start another family. Just looking for help and guidance here. Thank you.",5.668543364681296,5.6407276787878775,6.609522814350402,78.07727272727277,67.16161616161617,9.898293277603623,31.614420062695928,9.668497473035632,2.75474921630094,1951,72,393,38,29,652,240,495,0.105,0.804,0.091,-0.9164,3,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,2,1,0,5,27,23,1,4,24,0,34,4,1,3,7,69,67,36,0,13,13,10,1,3,2,5,2,1,0,2,19,26,0,0,10,5,0,6,7,12,0,0,10,4,75,11,60,50,9,77,0,5,2,1,59,27,0,9,42,276,94,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640898339404788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162629054842106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505540353186608,0.07408017868066108,0.05949696826497705,0.0,0.06759099994391958,0.0,0.1358569819876334,0.05559445081566637,0.0,0.04407357829365936,0.07984997651057567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893317777435241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382666731240603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648410726144794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772588871408985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907682348083676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553840199476887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060397604751654614,0.08132808119892587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04775365162157981,0.2615989622377766,0.06091610235084199,0.0,0.0,0.07072354504597772,0.13631653474215472,0.2440737396720146,0.036557192847320716,0.051651332922649416,0.0,0.0,0.13216228819952813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266434664699129,0.0,0.04108991404706458,0.0,0.0,0.1594226230833466,0.0,0.0,0.06393489690307379,0.0,0.0,0.07138155597693613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567617733188931,0.048461352199952144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120120987322594,0.08342481338601145,0.1547978855177299,0.0,0.0,0.07546270584476167,0.0717468696229168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03973434187561408,0.1178687524296928,0.0,0.0,0.15710892680373767,0.0739319325671645,0.051067824399246585,0.10596679114788468,0.0,0.19152740975919894,0.06398347071582355,0.06071402408060045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06525382352608743,0.06841227102320233,0.0,0.0,0.07263534689050535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07669916925147506,0.0,0.0,0.05770939197300797,0.07684375327172706,0.053149023176101366,0.0,0.05576243142743263,0.1396561177049735,0.07689216569296292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586697935886501,0.0769974362551231,0.0,0.0,0.07693259315171214,0.0,0.08028090236083192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553840199476887,0.0,0.06834713205726732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0691816015102993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231984330444934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23287032227307924,0.0,0.061744042218380826,0.0,0.05749608284509035,0.0,0.0,0.05761396067598125,0.0,0.0,0.08167873448349924,0.0,0.29903768472600484,0.08126854153534538,0.0,0.0,0.06125979077570716,0.0,0.07150682347973739,0.0,0.10234901754046052,0.07706247630068429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811222462785093,0.0,0.066564381970255,0.0,0.0,0.04803309195686087,0.18530839468548635,0.0710346558720135,0.0,0.1264766202651402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962854151513554,0.0,0.21322288547648507,0.05738859523455149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969488777942799,0.07840656717510018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051360042968770135,0.0,0.0,0.09311801691989492
parenting,ao_88,2019/04/15,"I'm worried my wife and I will have to care for my brother when he is older I'm 30, married and have two kids. I have a younger brother who is just 16 and is the last sibling at ""home"" by a long shot. He has some learning delays but gets along okay. He is no where close to driving, getting a job, and was home schooled for a few years due to lack of resources in the school district to help him - if that helps paint a better picture (though i am sure i am forgetting some things).

I live in another state and traveling with two young ones is tough so I don't see my mom and him as much. Last visit we had with him, my wife and I were so impressed with his improvement and seemed like he had really been doing much better doing tasks, etc. This visit he seems to have regressed - can't blow his nose, clogged the toilet and doesn't say anything, literally didn't even know if he had passed gas while walking in the mall.

My mother is incredibly intelligent, has a well-paying job, and helps him 24/7. She's very much an awesome mom, but her bubble growing up (and even now) is very small. She is fighting a thousand battles and can only do so much (I think we can all relate). I truly don't think that she sees that he is not going to get hired or be able to fend for himself if he is going 12+ hours without drinking or peeing (that also happened).

My wife and I are concerned for him now (naturally) and don't know what the hell we can do to help. We are also worried about the wayyyyy wayyy future when he won't have anyone to help him and that falls on us.

Literally any help is appreciated.",5.569788684389913,4.966692631901843,6.060449897750512,83.8700136332652,67.46625766871165,8.594137695978187,30.38104976141786,7.594959193182576,1.7193127471029317,1242,40,267,11,18,403,180,326,0.068,0.741,0.191,0.9935,2,0,1,0,2,0,41.0,5,0,0,2,15,11,3,0,14,1,44,3,2,0,2,48,61,32,0,4,10,8,0,1,0,2,0,1,2,1,9,24,1,1,7,3,0,10,10,4,0,4,7,4,34,7,28,51,10,35,1,0,2,0,47,9,1,9,16,182,43,6,0.10310050867308004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489887907334855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011188136478308,0.10810987284267737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209027287044655,0.0,0.08484293390528326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823680430947432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10511783988090967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009992477260287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149843205591366,0.13619382722902784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1615972813953474,0.0,0.11718879006213224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09117143932494592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4146365861886942,0.0,0.20683643300149476,0.0,0.10153323302703986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046226923771291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332268651097305,0.16808135042029235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05036970072981697,0.0,0.0910396380472115,0.09124070579187417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415001393620869,0.0,0.0,0.3031629470851376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986357293901574,0.07841258273273037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06604882589538125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198966264824306,0.0,0.20868643810123405,0.16431551388917653,0.1877176618233416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717100927997646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06849539674042937,0.13212528588326153,0.10129572630142666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20142843176751998,0.0,0.12401721750290505,0.0,0.0,0.17013743442809529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926997391704256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993852112106174,0.0,0.0,0.20940714235059849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639334730250679
parenting,Jougdybk,2019/04/15,"Breastfeeding: my husband is wonderful but I have to rant. So - disclaimer - my husband is amazing. He's wonderful with our 7-month-old son, and he's funny, and he's caring, and I couldn't ask for a better partner and father of my child. So I know I am being super ungrateful here, but I just need to vent...

**He cooks SO FUCKING SLOWLY.**

It is torturous to sit here in my chair, breastfeeding our kid, and listen to him chop vegetables. 

Chop. *Pause.* Chop. *Pause.*

Chop.

*Long pause while he carefully positions the knife blade in exactly the right spot.*

Chop.

He cut up three sweet potatoes and a cauliflower for dinner and it took him like thirty-five minutes! 

I am trapped, helpless, feeding the baby, so the same meal that would take me ten minutes to throw together isn't ready until 7:30 at night when I am already absolutely starving.

Whenever my husband picks a dish that he wants to cook, he invariably manages to select the most multi-step, involved recipe on the entire internet. Then he measures everything slowly and precisely. If takes fucking *forever*. That's not how I cook, and you guys, it fucking drives me up the wall. 

And I can't just get up and do it myself ten times faster, because these days I am nothing more than a human boob and I spend my entire life in a rocking chair with my shirt half off and my nipples pointing every which way.

/end ungrateful rant.",2.366141409266412,5.1981350965251,3.3302690637065666,85.60208313223939,84.13513513513513,6.326303088803089,25.854367760617762,7.6454224807358475,1.8266919884169883,1086,46,194,20,32,346,155,259,0.141,0.738,0.122,-0.6814,1,1,0,0,0,0,58.0,2,1,0,2,10,13,5,0,12,0,14,14,2,2,2,34,30,25,0,5,6,5,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,5,9,15,8,0,3,4,1,3,4,6,0,4,1,2,27,7,23,26,3,27,0,1,0,4,27,12,4,4,11,121,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234594604537935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15447666819519149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072849249002544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614094885918136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3369454560466565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10656583612881514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14635319052955953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392214427720102,0.0,0.14850664768407856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4582838881339186,0.08633084187127865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636131277531216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09081133214431324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671357683298172,0.08072769475937462,0.0,0.0,0.1462317968952341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189262776045918,0.0,0.0,0.12252302833479947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506611866527534,0.0,0.15855179926384552,0.0,0.17339110542993416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15620477947749636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111366795449728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484791459545988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09635250708604086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358721363717667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097462564420414,0.1311594589751807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583904742312228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173814312964786,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rosa1212,2019/04/15,"I’m 18 and my dad still puts his hands on me. Hi Reddit; this is my first post on the site so please forgive me if the post isn’t in the right format. Ever since I was little; my parents have endorsed spanking as a punishment. It was normal to me, I also understood the concept of the punishment. It’s normal in hispanic families to do this I guess. My dad specifically has a short temper and often turns to yelling and putting hands on someone (me or my mom) if he’s so angry. We usually get along and when things are good, they’re good. Today; we had a dispute over a job he made me quit because he didn’t like the hours they were giving me. Which I understand he wants to see the best for me but when I told him that I didn’t want to quit because I wanted to pay for some expenses for my prom dress that he promised to take care of for me but now that it’s here he changed his mind. He slapped me and kind of choked me??? and kept doing it every time I told him to stop doing that. We got to the point where I told him I didn’t wanna live with them anymore if every time  I mentioned something about my job or whatever made him so angry; he was gonna put my hands on me. I just can’t imagine myself being 19 or 20 and still being treated like this by my dad. I’ve asked him to stop doing that to me and he always says that he doesn’t care if he hurts me or anything. I try to be understanding with him because his parents were very rough with him when he was a child but I don’t think i can do this anymore. Am I over reacting? is this normal? I graduate high school in May and I am considering moving in with a friend to get away from this negativity. It happens every other week and I find myself crying and just not happy. I don’t wanna leave my brother or mother alone because I know it’ll create a tense situation but I just don’t know how to get him to respect me a little more. I’m a female by the way. I just wanted to get this off my chest and see different points of views. I hope I don’t come off as spoiled. I’m so thankful that my parents let me live with them but if I have to deal with this type of disrespect to continue living with them through college, then I don’t want this.",3.409238792567521,3.8407776616702383,4.7888015472818966,87.56079021896805,72.16916488222698,7.653215445188921,25.985287006976584,7.601502580125103,1.1516457691510666,1716,51,385,19,31,574,209,467,0.118,0.769,0.113,-0.6903,6,1,1,0,2,0,35.0,3,0,4,4,21,20,3,0,18,0,38,4,4,4,1,77,77,39,0,16,20,9,4,2,1,3,0,2,0,1,25,24,0,3,9,0,2,5,13,4,0,1,18,9,74,16,57,52,3,48,0,1,3,0,51,22,0,15,20,265,99,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064071960023016,0.0,0.06226557204983206,0.06478675421189048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544347733224744,0.0,0.0,0.06407313189374343,0.0,0.07278970980418968,0.0,0.07315315871904382,0.0,0.0,0.1898538549031362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171052383015902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587693614318898,0.0,0.08236682364238553,0.06707052792585674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552687011470599,0.0,0.08027147644437747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134838018128895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07042991138673749,0.19680425276437968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340060816992543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116372455713868,0.0662286953919889,0.0,0.0,0.0601553685667208,0.0,0.16271704977534898,0.07469155607842487,0.0,0.1306125578588251,0.06227271293612476,0.0,0.08577288793853273,0.0,0.06885240040533205,0.08288469328006592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226463074798905,0.0,0.07733373810723332,0.07667759625807331,0.0,0.0833520230096209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453045001684287,0.0,0.0,0.0810804562949644,0.08558095654114066,0.0,0.0,0.08244376659749877,0.0,0.0796183503912038,0.0,0.0760780970142518,0.15607475088349046,0.2062585934146157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734829663582874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861761442385339,0.09119009426865687,0.0,0.08275413154938753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288623281405852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593669389642961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08546821431683307,0.14720799847686414,0.0,0.14913901005654007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348160287184373,0.0,0.16562993676623675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649303781483533,0.0,0.06191834990818575,0.0,0.0787996893637789,0.12409058844385196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06440758772553352,0.0875192490046847,0.0,0.0,0.06597154054428568,0.05994135430885724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12436010687945173,0.13019089613543294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058541931081703434,0.0,0.0,0.07168413029737944,0.0,0.0,0.051727520342039056,0.04989031189296015,0.0,0.0,0.0908029815976748,0.0,0.0738033117986757,0.22319913457281249,0.0,0.0528626426173428,0.0846906252081809,0.0,0.16211250644499658,0.0,0.0,0.08575310964221063,0.06424364277845676,0.2296227599876117,0.061802594970617714,0.06245555666067053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TNTmom4,2019/04/15,OH MY GOODNESS! This by far the TRASHIEST TACKIEST thing I have ever heard of and I’ve seen some buttes in my lifetime!  I would never allow my child to attend another one of that child’s parties again. Also if she ever attends one your at I would go out of my way to point out to her and her tacky parent how it’s suppose to work. I hope the OP explained to her daughter how trashy it was.,1.271341463414636,3.254515097560976,2.797743902439024,93.26051829268292,80.95121951219512,5.0756097560975615,22.445121951219512,5.985473137389443,0.2605073170731709,306,10,66,2,8,100,57,82,0.02,0.86,0.12,0.8501,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,2,0,4,1,1,3,3,16,9,6,0,4,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,3,2,13,2,13,4,1,14,0,0,1,1,11,6,1,3,4,50,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509836965788766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689303746460501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4639822465297118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575738730905924,0.21511424204255586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547318378870718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19780489941043805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475804077938799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2847787553297278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424463430934389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038677618036988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20357335605872184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18671267134946304,0.0,0.0,0.3643767989699046,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,saambee25,2019/04/15,"Family TV shows/movies with kids aged 7 & 4 Hey guys, figured I would try here.... my hubby and I are sick and tired of the typical kid shows.... we are wanting to start watching a little more 'grown up' shows with our two girls. Our eldest is starting to seem bored with the little kids shows. We have found one (Nicky, Ricky, Dicky and Dawn) that is hilarious on Netflix.... and we are currently trying out the pilot to Once Upon a Time.",3.2043697478991566,4.936126882352943,3.861008403361346,89.0088235294118,74.29411764705883,6.739495798319329,21.55462184873949,7.447530270364453,0.6321092436974789,335,8,69,4,7,106,63,85,0.098,0.871,0.032,-0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,7,2,0,0,0,16,12,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,1,11,0,0,3,5,0,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,8,0,11,10,1,12,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,1,5,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25537582307444895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22219260817670566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584277957297008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23337546144591714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4724573383513366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510078651398532,0.1597132751462822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145682027941705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3336527765271281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374358592826716,0.27089714305723955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3200433547108689,0.0,0.2302401179313581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390192294327225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743122064956226,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AgtBurtMacklinFBI,2019/04/15,"I'M HAVING A BABY GIRL This isnt exactly something I would post on reddit, but I am just so excited. My wife and I have just found out we are having a baby girl, and we dont have many friends in our personal life, so I wanted to share with the greatest Community of ""friends"" I could think of, and that's you guys. This is the best thing to ever happen to me, and I just wanted to share the good news!",6.372647058823527,4.251015882352942,7.273970588235294,80.76036764705884,66.64705882352942,10.382352941176473,30.661764705882355,8.841846274778883,2.116352941176471,310,8,70,4,4,105,56,85,0.034,0.693,0.272,0.9776,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,3,1,0,1,6,7,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,2,21,17,7,0,4,4,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,4,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,12,7,10,14,2,5,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,0,1,55,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580916163839391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19635756920050534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882317624797708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224605695756351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696529510772298,0.3800146071717176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20627701670285167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24351243530213385,0.21747782879795244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370982217458306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24933756344690516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21473929750411505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355359283425981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18933131617136092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338702422664386,0.15758400062539274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29011542947357793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17470381861647566,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Dark_Star_8047,2019/04/15,"R/bad parent This is my first post and I don't really know how to use Reddit but I have all ways wanted to try it, anyway I'll get on with the story. 

bp=bad parent 
sd=step daughter 
s1= son 1


I know a bp who continues to treat her sd horribly (nothing physical) but they scream at them more than they should.
While they would probably let their sons get away with murder. They will throw out their sd's toys and yell at them for not being able to get a stain out of a rug with a vacuum cleaner, yes a VACUUM CLEANER, not even a special cleaning one just a ordinary run of the mill suction vacuum cleaner. 

S1 will constantly steal sd's toys and bp is just like "" Just play with him he's bored "" while he will porpoisely (I think that I spelled that wrong) ruin every game that they play together, 

Hide and seek for example= ""SHE CHEATED, I DONT WANNA PLAY WITH HER ANYMORE"" (she didn't cheat) and then he will run right back to her 1 minute later and demand to play, and if she says no s1 will run away and say she is ""mean"" for the rest of the day and bp just scolds her and tells her to be nice to her brother, if it were the other way around bp wouldn't do anything to s1 not a ""please be nice"" or a ""play with your sister"" bp thinks that since it's her step daughter and she didn't have her then she doesn't need to love her as much, I honestly think you should love your kids equally. 

Again this is my first post and I don't know if I did this correctly, I probably have a few typos in this but I just wanted to share this story.",2.9735347960694547,3.791378513931889,4.025037017095169,91.21802126800378,73.4582043343653,7.598815452954638,22.402611387804548,7.893859768569023,0.7317073361152242,1192,27,275,16,23,387,159,323,0.159,0.7170000000000001,0.124,-0.9485,2,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,3,9,2,11,22,3,0,15,1,29,2,0,2,2,55,45,25,1,11,15,8,0,1,0,9,0,4,5,1,14,21,0,0,7,8,0,5,11,8,0,3,4,4,41,14,35,28,6,31,0,1,0,2,48,10,0,4,13,180,55,0,0.12822354042236395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12716329740586493,0.0,0.0,0.10551704841390908,0.11414613594512628,0.0,0.0,0.2409404741753058,0.09859598781799572,0.2141226007036248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856409494930566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08269357590359025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027703441591178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469043914396045,0.0,0.10803386304179302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181337559604736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009745229176612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114049134425557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311172574925212,0.0,0.06264354502916651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23145350282488056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396730255389005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09425905580009017,0.0950761305086016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12303394524326708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868875894415026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28475413481216577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407509425772311,0.0,0.0,0.2456054149286101,0.0,0.276493327167701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214328334596656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950220291917677,0.0,0.2039370117198649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606783766288536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207302601046418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464814017890334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705536713253753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110743969810714,0.0,0.0,0.15125913259697654,0.2035557561454762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108632420294738,0.1401923125832589,0.0,0.0
parenting,intok-linux,2019/04/15,"Recommendations for educational and empowering books for toddlers-kintergarten age girls? Not for me, my cousin is having a baby shower and that is what she asked me for, she's having a girl and the baby is mixed race Latina and African-American.

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I'm looking for books that will feature characters that are more like her rather than what we had in the books I grew up with where none of the characters looked like me.

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I don't have a ton of money to spend on this but I'd like to pickup 3-6 books covering different subjects and age ranges.

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Please no Amazon stuff, I outright refuse to buy from them since they ripped me off for $70.",7.5198537682789635,7.384150141732285,7.002249718785155,77.17433070866144,63.33070866141732,10.091788526434195,32.316085489313835,9.606745405546679,2.7674620922384703,536,18,101,9,7,167,87,127,0.045,0.8540000000000001,0.101,0.708,3,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,2,0,2,3,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,11,14,6,0,1,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,1,1,2,7,7,0,1,0,4,3,1,4,0,0,0,1,3,14,3,18,12,3,8,0,0,2,0,11,5,0,0,5,68,21,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4727446123150798,0.5301676695347529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13596448764773353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195129726544626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21316033906956028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442618450385451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964676876739006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030745402456006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664912126199333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5301676695347529,0.0
parenting,AprexBT,2019/04/15,"Can Big Mouth be used as sex ed for a 13y/o boy? If you haven't seen it...  Big Mouth is a sexually charged, inappropriate, cartoon depiction of puberty.  Lots of stuff in this show make me think no he's not ready...  But then I find pornhub links in the history on his phone.  

Having watched it as a 30 something I feel like there are some lessons in this show and would make him feel not so alone regarding his ""transition"".",3.905357142857145,4.975238821428572,4.620000000000001,86.875,71.5,8.933333333333335,29.47619047619048,9.2995712137729,2.2437761904761917,327,13,73,7,6,105,68,84,0.05,0.892,0.058,0.1769,0,1,1,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,7,3,2,3,0,17,14,7,0,2,4,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,9,11,2,7,0,0,2,1,7,6,0,3,2,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33170492310718586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3238780192871865,0.2288021877171676,0.0,0.0,0.2927225587676832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564685895993753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2722835715966467,0.0,0.0,0.4275677330998821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.246560824612276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666345062084407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20521719240958552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2766119438938268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22751184776006675,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwawayacctual,2019/04/15,Is my dad in the wrong here? So my family got into a heated argument and my mom kept hitting me and then my dad stopped her and was about to hit her back but stopped. I know my mom is in the wrong for what she did to me but is my dad also in the wrong for almost hitting my mom?,2.3692857142857164,2.20013477777778,4.225515873015876,92.82017857142858,74.23809523809524,7.56984126984127,23.686507936507937,7.1686216300943375,0.5472888888888892,213,5,55,2,4,73,36,63,0.228,0.772,0.0,-0.9356,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,11,11,8,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,13,0,9,4,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,4,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293297899934374,0.0,0.0,0.1460934002614632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1404737498379541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221947981497207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611015488725454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039908513743004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6418765862076771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054662484155831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5992132220444334,0.0,0.0
parenting,baszukj,2019/04/15,"Are five year olds supposed to know how to throw a pity party? My five year old daughter has always been the easiest child, never had to use discipline in the sense that after I told her to correct a behavior, she just did. 

Recently, she’s started getting very emotional over silly things like she wanted water not juice or she didn’t write the number 2 perfectly. A total meltdown will occur out of no where. She frequently will say things like, I guess I’m just a stupid kid or you don’t like me anymore when I talk to her about her tantrums. 

Is this something other parents are going through? Is it normal for your kid to go from easy going to walking on eggshells? 

What should I do when she says things like that??",3.1310439560439534,5.391199071428575,3.6128571428571448,88.34137362637364,76.14285714285714,6.307692307692308,25.05494505494506,7.321109707123232,1.2000439560439564,570,20,109,7,13,178,99,140,0.068,0.745,0.187,0.9415,1,0,1,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,1,7,9,2,0,7,0,14,1,0,2,4,19,25,5,0,3,5,2,0,4,0,3,0,2,0,3,9,1,1,1,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,2,5,2,17,6,17,17,1,21,0,1,0,0,21,5,0,3,15,78,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14661038104320118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747405101440695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198198399174372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09205588765786282,0.0,0.3004111888397154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194101339646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683350247414832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443246672250789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589432432267695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263607632606254,0.0,0.0,0.36977913747510777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19564640032846486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17397371073150686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28023854517901714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564539391377936,0.0,0.0,0.12471345158120435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162082424555825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3511732402720561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16836420019442278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217801185463034,0.0,0.1453813370021274,0.103925812451943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269307429333401
parenting,personnel_issues,2019/04/15,"Family member scheduled their kids b-day at a super inconvenient time for us. We're not going but my mom is guilt tripping strong So I know what we're going to do already, but could use some guidance/empathy. My mom is guilt tripping hard about us not wanting to go. Not that that will move the needle, it's just annoying. 

My cousin scheduled her daughter's birthday on a Friday at 5PM. I'm not blaming her, as I'm sure it's convenient for her, but a few things:

1. They live way on the other side of town and we'd hit the biggest rush hour congestion in the city if we went to the party around 5PM (sometimes almost an hour one way). 

3. Our 1 yr old son usually takes later naps Friday afternoons and doesn't wake up until like 4:30-5PM, so we'd have to skip his late nap or wake him up early. 

4. He goes to bed around around 7:45-8:15 PM, so that's a two hour car ride and a party in the 4ish hour window between a late nap and bed. 


All that plus my wife has to work until 2PM. I have my first day off in 3 months, and need to do other things.

So I mentioned to my mom that we weren't going to go, and it became guilt trip city. 

""She came to your wedding shower, wedding, baby shower, and your birthday"". This is all true, but my son's recent first b-day was at noon on a Saturday on a non-holiday weekend. Plus, it was his first birthday... kind of a big deal. Whereas this is my cousin's kid's 3rd b-day (we weren't invited to the 1st birthday, or the second). We went to all the other stuff (except the wedding that was a destination wedding). Anyway, again, I'm not blaming this cousin. I'm really just frustrated my mom had to go and be a big ol' B about it. I gotta think this cousin would understand.  

If I scheduled our son's birthday at 5pm on a Friday, I would definitely not expect parents with young children to drive across town in rush hour traffic. I'm thinking I'll drop a present off and call it even. 

What do you guys think? Are we being assholes here? Or is this pretty open and shut?",2.8223182589905846,3.8644657942583764,4.206987189381078,88.916813551474,74.07177033492823,6.924648865565675,24.488655656737148,7.233258080335977,0.8876850439882698,1554,46,340,16,31,515,205,418,0.067,0.836,0.097,0.9364,3,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,11,3,2,6,15,11,2,3,24,0,27,3,2,1,5,60,52,28,0,8,18,14,1,1,0,4,1,0,5,4,25,23,0,0,5,4,0,18,9,5,0,6,9,1,38,6,49,33,5,80,0,0,0,0,49,29,0,7,31,207,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08758761186640973,0.0,0.09652426420329677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23359797882941136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931567271080985,0.10004128337750924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06983691355741158,0.0,0.0,0.2256411868675844,0.09017674276449507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057772478079371865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245802936343627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232033703327929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982640377802521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660810461034231,0.0,0.0,0.07835508201717144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306969411703408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108554837165972,0.04807069861794245,0.0,0.19733778117796336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04273295626510816,0.0,0.07723676763399549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4097707448664084,0.06981695576193059,0.09296575027618052,0.0,0.06485718720082223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178404693930264,0.0,0.05927128737455181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971240211866319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898746260143939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056034908833164435,0.0,0.08636512779502166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650912028142768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001311276544374,0.0,0.0,0.08243853804236694,0.0,0.06576583481368542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622109128543305,0.16813989307133342,0.0,0.0,0.051003902484942035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544454543657197,0.09105835871056762,0.2104289783296199,0.07554516936010425,0.0963347935280542,0.0,0.05159150791159175,0.13885771025291851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216935868309387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06367850518540723,0.0,0.0,0.12427099732946907,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hides08,2019/04/15,"Toilet training tips please! Don’t know what else to try.... My DS is turning 4 this summer and we are still struggling with potty training...

We have tried using positive reinforcement, like hot wheels, pieces of candy/chocolate as rewards for when he pees or poops in the toilet. We’ve tried negative reinforcements like taking away toys for not making it to the bathroom. We’ve tried pull-ups, getting his his fav underwear, taking breaks ( started when he was 3 and tried for a few months and took a break for a few months  and then trying again) . Tried scheduling and prompting every one or two hours. We’ve had discussions about where to go and who to tell. Nothing seems to be working. 

Please help us! We are not sure what we are doing wrong, I get that maybe the inconsistency over the last year may be part of the cause.... what else can we do???!?!

Any suggestion?! Struggling momma here who has a newborn and an third child in the house and needing a break somewhere....",4.5102394106814,6.598515419889503,4.2408618784530425,86.14976427255985,71.59668508287292,6.81561694290976,25.87882136279927,7.554174236665415,1.3126571639042357,765,25,143,9,15,232,121,181,0.075,0.8,0.125,0.8679,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,6,0,0,2,7,7,0,2,12,0,15,2,2,3,1,26,28,14,0,1,4,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,14,0,0,2,1,0,2,4,3,0,3,3,1,10,4,18,22,4,23,0,0,0,0,19,5,0,4,15,90,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470198160482903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702395149144472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12795276419936846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081002025880555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10494334412936847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015017036293966,0.0,0.07078773630742098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348689697189418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12266203486096905,0.14372027365889956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845242148275607,0.10152932123830814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170300900813374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314173439902027,0.0,0.12513269743990765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883795409101,0.0,0.0,0.09235629275418096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11951431978566936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440200084119437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348814215428687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27344897585863825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339060961676553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08816099319019266,0.0,0.0994701484513153,0.0,0.0,0.2604248140339953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739204369274595,0.0,0.18730040433202247,0.0,0.10886695898012948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383856951549385,0.5919548524738879,0.13548056966625854,0.12167258237939615,0.0,0.1498248780539715,0.10757592301963906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067785577629156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618183863355404,0.0,0.0802096302713778
parenting,momdanger,2019/04/15,"Expectation of stay at home spouse I am new here, but a friend suggested I ask for some advice in this group.   I am 7 months pregnant and my partner recently got laid off.  We are thinking that he might not go back to work right away and stay home now and after the baby is born as a stay at home dad, as being a stay at home parent is not really my passion.  It has been three weeks since he was laid off and I have given him space to adjust to his new role, but it is starting to get a little frustrating as I have expectations for him as the stay at home spouse, that he is not fulfilling (housework, etc).

Now I know that expectations of other can be dangerous, or not realistic, so what I am asking for is what types of things would be considered 'normal' tasks for a stay at home parent to do, verses what might be asking too much?

I should also note I have a 5 & 7 years old who live with us 50% of the time, so I do have expectations of him in this role, but he has really risen to the role of dad with them, and is taking them to school, picking them up, watching them when they are sick, etc.",6.524745694833803,4.782514370044058,7.1172126551862265,80.79129355226273,66.09251101321586,10.545294353223868,29.006407689227075,9.339509955726095,2.0321400881057268,850,19,190,13,11,282,121,227,0.07,0.911,0.019,-0.905,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,2,0,5,1,9,4,2,0,10,0,30,2,0,1,0,30,41,17,0,7,8,6,0,0,2,4,1,0,6,1,13,8,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,4,1,23,2,35,29,4,36,0,0,1,1,32,14,0,4,15,138,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872704180041349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07141930855913638,0.0,0.09676481923886283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504718373232759,0.0,0.08390749241731188,0.06867208283317765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992033109169361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06899888152825208,0.0,0.046659569659287116,0.0,0.050755604914672764,0.0,0.07142749923569702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5374972266452138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04908115785964461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895097437048955,0.07886030562904853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894826417671512,0.0,0.0,0.07128452728066073,0.0,0.0656514106804198,0.0,0.0,0.1725078014529712,0.0,0.0,0.08750255126515967,0.0,0.0,0.0937133727268839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983311893888421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442555590672447,0.0,0.08818054641905419,0.0,0.0,0.07626825914216999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038412631191753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387622453124047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06321242594640614,0.5711405377558759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714825066130828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059332045216744386,0.057224746547630614,0.0,0.0,0.05207601847473439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742612652382832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716372230357287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501704479295012,0.0,0.0,0.06344160385289832,0.0,0.0,0.05751120909878904
parenting,Tequila_Fridaze,2019/04/15,"Help me talk to my son about his penis My son’s father left when my son was just a baby. I’ve been raising him on my own for the past nine years. We have a great relationship and can talk about anything... well almost anything. Now that he’s 9, he’s noticing when his body, um, reacts to certain situations. Here are the questions I have. 
Instance 1: We were watching a teen romance movie (nothing too racy). There is a scene at a Halloween party where a chick dressed in a bit of a suggestive costume kisses a boy. My son said to me, “Mom, my penis is getting big.” 
Is it normal for a boy to tell his mother these things? I think I answered him pretty well, and told him that it is natural for boys’ penises to grow sometimes. Should I have gone into more detail about why it happens? If so, I have no idea what to say without giving more information than I would like to my 9-yr-old. 

Instance 2: This is the disturbing one, that prompted me to post this. We were snuggling on the sofa last night watching TV, and I tickled the inside of his knee. He said, “That made my doorknob tingle.” I was mortified!! I ignored it! What the hell am I supposed to say to that? 
I asked my mom for advice, and she just dyed laughing and joked that I found one of his erogenous zones. THANKS, Mom. Not much help there. I did a good job of ignoring what he said and deflecting, but I don’t feel like I did the right thing. Should I have said something to him? If so, what? I need to be prepared in case a similar situation occurs. At this point, I’m afraid to touch my kid! Help!",1.6645161290322577,3.786378235668792,2.978793918224781,91.7470258886378,80.33757961783441,5.452886788576127,23.504828436408467,6.532088108194933,0.5861219642490241,1202,42,254,11,31,389,175,314,0.043,0.825,0.131,0.9716,2,0,1,0,0,0,52.0,3,0,0,0,17,17,1,2,19,0,25,5,3,2,1,35,42,13,0,7,7,9,2,2,0,3,1,6,1,5,20,10,0,2,7,2,0,2,4,5,3,3,15,10,43,12,33,23,5,22,1,0,2,2,50,12,1,4,9,172,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419007620453813,0.0,0.0,0.10676683050182087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17548213389981734,0.0,0.09967745625085436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640393515219342,0.1184333374824375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05391143782036417,0.07617099143328852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169058470879741,0.0,0.0,0.055705750352218336,0.10228182435873516,0.0,0.08942972541591215,0.0,0.11755146063064165,0.0,0.0,0.09428574653795042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144000377761473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036359702331445,0.0,0.0,0.10580617928285864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691140405824405,0.0,0.0,0.11584543941568826,0.0,0.0,0.10418053880398703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088859696697368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746242424826433,0.0,0.0,0.0783796575994889,0.07905908341531878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100057804455734,0.10446721458325693,0.10230697113849424,0.12139019365876733,0.11188216659321712,0.0,0.14450005789392656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017830485906956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079253556186653,0.0,0.10211468894570896,0.10847320909771996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194413761059506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447244642904235,0.0,0.09105486044118236,0.4056888889667662,0.16958066272557207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239695861880465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820830545665148,0.10545217965339902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139792968852266,0.09319258855582972,0.09816348740528033,0.0,0.0,0.14167023497494424,0.06831926373150314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188217552297256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173250255281188,0.0,0.09621004046058952,0.0,0.0,0.1027800910373584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574142179149884,0.0,0.0,0.06866126455741334
parenting,potatotay,2019/04/15,"Need advice My daughter is in first grade. she can be a pretty difficult kid but we are working on it and have resources. Her teacher emailed me today to tell me that my 6 year old (first grade) was telling another adult about ""big kid parties"" where everyone ""kisses and gets pregnant"". Now she is the only child in our house, and me and her father are very boring so I have no idea where she got this. Her screen time is monitored but I mean its always possible she heard or saw something at a friend's house, or even my parents house bc they have kids running in and they have a real issue with things like what's appropriate and whats not. But my question is, what do I say to her? How do I bring this up without making her feel like shes in trouble and what is best chance at getting the truth and also how to make her understand that that was the wrong thing to do. I'm pretty upset about the whole thing, but I don't want to chalk it up to nothing or diminish any curiosity she has. I'm not so good at all this stuff. Reddit, please help.",3.7802816901408463,4.724025901408453,4.462553990610331,88.36002816901409,71.67605633802816,7.370140845070423,25.937089201877928,7.554174236665415,1.1525263849765262,819,25,175,9,15,262,127,213,0.103,0.737,0.16,0.9415,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,2,4,11,12,0,1,7,0,21,1,0,4,2,34,36,20,0,2,10,3,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,5,17,10,0,0,5,0,0,2,5,5,0,2,5,5,28,7,20,30,3,22,0,0,2,1,32,13,0,4,9,124,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236150736105838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10116260797944547,0.10525876182993878,0.0,0.0,0.08602485121869193,0.13264707130273135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275473777724348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835525555456445,0.0,0.0,0.12087689236501507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06396258259312472,0.09037216456711823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21520295496740569,0.0,0.0,0.09773416942678917,0.0,0.13218284660439367,0.0,0.0,0.10610283141131603,0.10117420974679256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479078947909764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4378946604684271,0.0,0.14280395454230027,0.0,0.13203392217381374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360375807541844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16888047236269044,0.0,0.0,0.13779640703869744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379870686325736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213808860580332,0.0,0.13274126253618904,0.0,0.0,0.09620952443368186,0.0,0.0,0.14046411794667205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885984140188004,0.0,0.14261059404708742,0.0,0.2573934911241933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417097965309235,0.0,0.0,0.14398555360082632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005984776544396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738646137950843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14481309930485095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22113447103492898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521244416379502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376360746656911,0.0,0.1199079242875815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169174712580795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437637101233513,0.07461342275373095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14123357522862354,0.0,0.12194221352083218,0.0,0.09209405617425086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830871704743564,0.0,0.08146233865688192
parenting,ShimmerMoonlight3,2019/04/15,"my teens complain about hearing me having sex, how do i do it quieter? we live in a small house and my bedroom is in between my daughters’ and son’s bedrooms. i know they should not be subjected to hearing  me engaging in sexual relations with my boyfriend of three+ years. we tried doing it at night but they’re usually still awake and we tried doing it in the morning before they wake up but they still hear it. i’m too tired to wake up in the middle of the night to have sex. we’re trying to be quiet and i don’t see how we can get any quieter. how do i fix this issue? i don’t think it’s the sound of moaning they hear but two bodies pounding against each other.  i don’t want to have to put my sex life on hold until they move out, because that it not happening anytime soon. it’s not practical to send them out of the house on a daily basis either. i don’t have the funds to move into a bigger house and i’ve only been in my current house for a little over two years. what do i do?",1.4111729323308282,3.137703866666669,3.1614786967418564,92.08229323308271,79.38095238095238,5.754385964912281,22.00501253132832,6.5966054737557815,0.39138095238095216,772,23,170,7,19,257,111,210,0.04,0.944,0.016,-0.6798,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,6,0,8,2,0,0,10,0,21,8,3,3,0,29,32,12,0,2,7,2,0,0,0,1,2,6,2,0,11,14,0,1,2,0,1,4,7,1,0,3,1,7,26,1,33,28,2,33,0,0,1,3,18,19,0,0,10,124,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858561950245914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044507143958645,0.0,0.09833412069344173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836250833749988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06037598868725341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219044049045548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5209837546151873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5333687135321362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061593158691898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350944625785639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08162433542607846,0.0,0.11582274146092696,0.10204270967992303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456466617184812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168928281799992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788954555047278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617098444253253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208736238057884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845747428795109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404698919041587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13282066851712238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353755295133083,0.0,0.2257731184462326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272744014177492,0.0,0.06816102518322946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488353251131036
parenting,Potatonuggetsauce,2019/04/15,"My minority son doesn't believe in racism because he has never experienced it. How do I get him to understand? I'm a black presenting mixed race woman and my husband is black. We have two boys together, ages 12 and 16. We live in a beautiful area with a lot of diversity. At my 12 year olds birthday party last month 4 kids were Asian, 3 were Latino, and 5 were mixed race, and 2 were black. The kids don't see race as an issue which is part of the reason we moved here. I have experienced very minimal racism since living here and my husband agrees with that. It's not perfect but it's the best place I have ever lived. 

My 16 year old has gone so far in the opposite direction. He's a very literal young man. He doesn't believe something unless he sees it. This meant touching hot stoves or walls with wet paint when he was younger to see if it was true. We have always talked about racism because we figure that they'll experience it some day but my son insist that he won't because he doesn't believe racism is a problem where we live. He does admit that it's a problem in other places but says he doesn't have to worry since he'll never move to those places. He turns his nose at any talk of microaggressions, social/racial issues, and the BLM movement. Any time a black man or boy is gunned down he goes back to find reasons why the boy or man is in the wrong. 

I'm worried about it because he will soon leave our wonderful little nest and go into the outside world where he'll be confronted with racial issues for the first time. I have heard horror stories of young black men and women being raised in ""colorblind"" families and communities who are unprepared for the realities of being a minority.",5.4854888701042555,5.915129059171601,5.908444632290788,81.3693392504931,67.57988165680473,9.041645533953227,28.817131586362358,8.976282227363876,2.1038161172161174,1354,43,271,22,21,436,182,338,0.07,0.8190000000000001,0.111,0.9341,0,0,1,1,0,0,28.0,7,0,1,3,12,7,1,0,19,0,32,1,1,3,5,47,48,21,0,3,9,4,3,0,0,5,0,2,1,11,17,20,0,0,8,0,0,5,9,4,0,2,9,16,20,3,30,31,4,45,0,0,8,0,45,20,0,7,20,152,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799998459764057,0.0,0.0,0.12749412881966438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208100867146518,0.0,0.2285744661603908,0.0,0.0,0.3168418690716903,0.09837534967985503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060455161449208775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203334206730473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08479406122757226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916966421817648,0.08837063032956921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856775352753944,0.07973600905521001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048975780352958916,0.0,0.053275145401770814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29352360934748245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641139035755429,0.0,0.09925813699115912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395306427280893,0.3310999252893237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969520835220836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07482313652173295,0.19926360148039887,0.0,0.0,0.14459760800911067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19673072822236395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10151232006469106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938180409732119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939486927945333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19276263004638755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454657048189357,0.0,0.0,0.22409821509987415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508697454211315,0.0,0.0,0.09555709928845177,0.0,0.07216636748865696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069085874081034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932221026035878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196324143971808,0.09157129265329704,0.09758764086590033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546922116464439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458663207216778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10165806776628146,0.0,0.19039698167346134,0.0,0.0,0.10249101938752768,0.0,0.12073220414259678
parenting,downheartedbaby,2019/04/15,"15 month picky eater My son used to eat everything, no matter what it was. All of a sudden he has stopped eating anything I will give him and it is a struggle to get him to eat at all. What I believe contributes is that he breastfeeds still so he can more easily refuse food knowing there is milk coming eventually. 

I have even resorted to things I don’t want to feed him like pasta and things like that but he won’t even touch it. The only thing I can get him to consistently eat is Cheerios and bread. I don’t offer those items at meals, but they are snack foods. He won’t even touch his fruit anymore and he loves fruit!

I know he is teething but why would he still eat the bread and Cheerios if that was the issue? Do they just become picky at this age? How do I get around this? He doesn’t understand very many words yet so talking to him about it isn’t really an option. I don’t want to start masking foods with tastier things, but I am worried that is what this is coming to.",3.8081966053748246,4.649210371287129,4.232192362093353,90.41871287128711,71.52475247524751,7.355586987270155,24.32956152758133,7.447530270364453,0.8197838755304097,773,20,171,8,14,243,109,202,0.047,0.8759999999999999,0.076,0.6848,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,2,0,13,4,0,1,6,0,26,19,1,2,2,30,40,13,0,4,6,1,2,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,19,9,17,2,3,0,0,2,8,1,0,0,2,4,19,3,16,34,4,14,0,0,0,1,23,4,0,2,10,112,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027300084815447,0.0,0.0,0.09150188620938594,0.09898482661798236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280329027779675,0.0,0.12527577879270474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19156484575945806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5688880166659924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22032463119633916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993257601047266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4033629414129528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742803480899242,0.10666589977877083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605599620652217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12221689053852094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10864599825663346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035549892928156,0.0,0.0,0.11273166000889727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875272760133912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456684478408362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123271052943135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07870256611161193,0.0,0.1775968180787775,0.09296184072473612,0.0,0.11624245826835132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937225408848219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29548520825111324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11575522905956848,0.0,0.09603454869440672,0.0,0.09174539026653702,0.13116833864350716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033386281307856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292129838525045,0.0,0.07898790382910935,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Kmart-Sears-Ames,2019/04/15,"Family vacation with kids friend My son is an only child and up until this school year was a complete homebody. Not necessarily antisocial but his friendships ended at the end of the school day. He’s now in the 10th grade and has made a group of friends and they all do stuff together. There’s one that he is a good bit closer to. Well my son has asked to take him along with us on vacation this summer. Nowhere crazy just the beach for a few days or a week. Now as a kid I always took a friend along on vacation so I don’t have an issue in general there’s just a few things that worry me. 
1 He’s only known this kid since November 
2 I really don’t know the kid ether. He seems nice and is honestly more put together then my son. But still when I was little my parents at least had some sort of report with my friends. 
3 me and my wife have never met his parents and 
4 My son can be weird with things like this. I’d hate for him to change is mind or weird out and leave is to entertain his friend
5 money obviously. We aren’t rich and I do know that his parents aren’t ether. My son has a job and said he’d kick in a few dollars. But still this could be expensive 
5 We’ve never done this as a family and while I consider us a perfectly normal family knowing my son there’s probably something we do that he will now think is weird and not want us to do it

Overall I don’t want to say no and I probably won’t. My son needs to be more socially active and it’d be nice to have a bit of a vacation just me and my wife. I just worry because of the above reasons. All the articles online and other parents I’ve talked too have only done this with ether younger kids or kids they’ve known for years. Overall I would appreciate any advice thanks in advance!",1.5400143084260731,3.3629454783783785,3.3562798092209865,90.38238473767888,79.35135135135134,7.055643879173293,21.69316375198728,8.027739517013583,0.9232321144674088,1377,40,309,25,34,461,172,370,0.066,0.752,0.183,0.9945,7,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,5,0,1,2,16,19,1,0,23,0,38,0,0,2,6,62,54,28,0,6,12,13,0,1,5,3,0,2,0,7,17,25,0,0,8,2,4,3,11,4,1,1,9,2,37,15,36,35,11,34,0,0,0,0,50,12,0,6,20,203,54,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560181448009788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289030972837418,0.0,0.0,0.05957107931592899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189427850194875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05340021450123671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127326564365046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266930192242864,0.0,0.09184704956765527,0.0,0.0,0.06994156043033138,0.0,0.0,0.11298964904782785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792906550232471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517539425089175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24774476490635616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338398141718299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07347481682449877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648697356050182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143175650736166,0.08692959310288655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14442818995219994,0.0,0.0,0.09275586893597708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04279698931032695,0.08779832444969539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288934297130388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08845113997714125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495437222062354,0.13512521173093836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582950937144081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05936010222277071,0.19987149514795124,0.0,0.0,0.3890782253128756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888954713795876,0.0,0.0,0.08806230672036759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05611887414155277,0.09006750373488027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332776564486652,0.06966312416140738,0.0,0.1773119778601705,0.0,0.07974785089061924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246371693227906,0.0,0.0,0.08929728127268044,0.0,0.06743884508893856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991512336997575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028116878393774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06586438139324688,0.07040965087052467,0.0,0.0806504126274958,0.0,0.0,0.11639524236329175,0.056130613897240667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732694638391813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161164423174609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333763004357646,0.0,0.07026752496915152,0.0,0.0787630200073499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779243295638545,0.0,0.06222860538009978,0.0,0.0,0.1128231986139312
parenting,mon-mot,2019/04/15,"2yrold doesn't take interest in learning I've tried everything, or I feel like I have. I read books to 2yr old every day, sing our alphabet, colors and numbers, 2 yr old refuses to talk, what is next?",6.939,5.651250900000004,7.845000000000002,74.44000000000005,65.0,12.0,35.0,11.20814326018867,3.81525,156,6,31,4,2,53,35,40,0.067,0.865,0.068,0.0052,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,3,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,5,13,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19316762079347333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25236113036448177,0.0,0.2691920492274093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144787919568342,0.21397936273268167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463318573314658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185462152304125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6285982172028228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996041555478929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252040953482721,0.2407453223224225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20335652392031234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Momm_oftwoKat,2019/04/15,"Asking about my daughter My daughter has been getting into this thing called ""BTS"" If your kid also likes this can someone tell me what it is and if it is age appropriate for a twelve year old?",2.283947368421053,4.758882394736844,3.020263157894739,90.32934210526315,80.3157894736842,4.852631578947369,22.657894736842106,5.985473137389443,0.3476105263157896,153,5,30,1,4,48,32,38,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.4215,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,7,4,0,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,3,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,4,23,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135033560451048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36649174749249375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40030276719267066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048176042994688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19152428822467815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41136574196678494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33216268128953996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3426483371246972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260444908691149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25245213691410945
parenting,Kristymiss,2019/04/15,Son leaving for college next year and I’m already upset. We’re a very close family.  I’ve always known this day would come and I couldn’t be more proud. He’s not even a senior yet and I’m dreading him leaving home.,-0.7377639751552785,1.4266679565217402,1.3380745341614926,97.17369565217396,97.69565217391305,3.4981366459627328,17.440993788819874,5.288315135182226,-0.5760397515527949,170,5,37,1,7,56,38,46,0.138,0.784,0.078,-0.3832,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,9,6,3,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,5,16,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31069712886925865,0.0,0.2342719303187084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425301627751787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157628419408325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859609416873437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2654200287036392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824173359305609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5962410242183824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29943133258066856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323080139991388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2000048505454788,0.0,0.0,0.18130879552105755
parenting,Googlepooping,2019/04/15,"How do you foster a relationship where your kids are comfortable talking to you about crushes, first kisses, sex, etc? I have 4 kids and grew up in a very conservative household. Nothing was every talked about and we were left to figure it out on our own. My husband did as well. 

We are trying to raise our kids to be more open. I would have never dreamed of sharing crushes with my parents and damn sure wasn't telling them about my first kiss or losing my virginity. One of my good friends has such an open relationship with her kids and I have seen the benefits first hand. Her oldest is older than my oldest and comes to her about everything. I don't think it's a gender thing. I have 3 boys and 1 girl and my friend has 2 boys and 1 girl. Her daughter is her oldest and my daughter is my youngest. All of her kids are open with her. The 15 year old told her mom about her first date, the 13 year old has his mom take him shopping for Valentine's day and told her about his first kiss, and her 10 year old talks openly about his crush. 

My kids don't and I want to know what I am doing wrong and how I can facilitate that better.",3.470091673032848,4.624840709956716,3.961359816653936,90.86372039724985,72.63636363636364,6.820575502928443,23.977845683728038,7.048011613610866,0.6400698242933531,888,24,196,8,17,279,126,231,0.079,0.779,0.141,0.9446,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,3,1,7,12,15,1,0,7,0,25,6,1,2,3,36,33,17,0,2,1,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,10,5,24,0,1,3,2,1,2,4,3,1,6,7,2,41,12,26,24,4,30,0,1,1,5,50,10,1,1,18,134,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416024445181113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10145061833119023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595354777725377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134751828578806,0.0,0.0,0.09922844777776578,0.0,0.10584636849729062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5008863286578564,0.0,0.0,0.18198155063818264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987820221964274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06472471014445601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279602136146029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317573516455685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758675601737212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083344635200158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300593227644895,0.0,0.3707474202474438,0.0,0.0798057237673411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13077247263101716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528872741461201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11099922890517992,0.0,0.08855029608692129,0.2839833290805479,0.10293839445946153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782428450427625,0.07546389072517634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250734255780212,0.0,0.07995982655867324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717468290882383,0.06946529781131175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058916609374857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366223617259996,0.1287657885808509,0.0,0.2275249709646891
parenting,abiicee,2019/04/15,"Am i over reacting? Since i an unmarried, the hospital bills for giving birth to my son fall on me.

If my sons father doesn't help pay the bills there would be no consequences for him. It would only hurt me.

He told me once we get our taxes to pay off the hospital bills and he will use his half for paying off his lawyer.

I can't help but be angry! Why should i use my tax money to pay bills that are for OUR son.

We made him together... But i have to pay thousands of  dollars?

He wants to use his money to pay off a lawyer because he was drunk and high and hit car.

Why should i suffer because you make bad decisions?

On his pay day we pull up to a Starbucks and we wouldn't even buy me a coffee. So if i bring this up he will be angry. Our son just turned 7 months.",1.3046753246753262,2.713681878787881,2.951883116883117,94.89068181818182,78.69696969696969,6.411255411255411,19.058441558441558,7.1686216300943375,0.04557142857142837,590,12,142,7,14,195,92,165,0.16899999999999998,0.775,0.056,-0.9767,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,7,1,0,0,4,3,0,0,7,0,16,1,0,6,0,26,28,9,0,8,5,5,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,1,1,17,4,4,3,0,2,3,0,28,0,20,14,0,16,0,2,0,0,28,9,0,2,3,89,31,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604023437944911,0.2342147821685904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389391262852326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268856710224518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036861876650648,0.1842877148390454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25753218795806393,0.20297288754710974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056558285052468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.181777447801,0.12823373216048592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533389526484669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458899025482613,0.0,0.14610696210063512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589139091943823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18356764193124847,0.0,0.0,0.20895858390630076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4977594778049278,0.0,0.0,0.11331040865909872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3466955856960117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729363428571565,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Real_Kluf_Mama,2019/04/15,I'm a Hot Mess - Sorry Not Sorry Mom of two boy just trying to make it in this world without screwing them up too much!,1.7361538461538473,2.7288780000000017,3.549230769230772,92.77076923076923,76.69230769230771,5.2,20.69230769230769,3.1291,-0.34486153846153833,92,2,21,0,2,31,25,26,0.199,0.7390000000000001,0.062,-0.4071,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,14,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21416432443870445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757659183728109,0.0,0.0,0.2358555641602636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7183120252449235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178304519808682,0.0,0.31341571830744785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30927994709966034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,larch-,2019/04/15,"When did Easter become the new Christmas? When I was a kid the Easter Bunny brought me chocolate bunnies and eggs maybe a stuffed bunny if I was lucky. 
I was doing the same with my kid and I do fill up her basket with a few goodies from the dollar store like bubbles and a skipping rope but then I heard from all my dayhome kids that they get tons of toys. Nerf guns and bikes and dolls. And not just like one or two toys, it’s like second Christmas! 
Now I feel obligated to go out and buy toys so my kid isn’t left out when she hears her friends all got toys for Easter! *giant eye roll* Maybe I’ll toss a Minecraft gift card into her basket or something.",1.03777777777778,3.342263148148149,1.905185185185185,97.43333333333337,84.18518518518519,3.896296296296296,19.37037037037037,4.604124745555138,-0.5947185185185186,515,14,112,1,15,160,90,135,0.0,0.86,0.14,0.9567,0,0,1,1,0,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,6,5,0,0,9,0,7,2,1,0,2,23,14,16,0,1,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,4,2,12,1,0,1,5,3,3,2,0,0,3,7,4,15,5,11,7,5,15,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,4,9,71,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2862802673529932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310658236777289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2002672327798991,0.0,0.13542803435937215,0.0,0.14731665672246236,0.0,0.207316224545818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921517616306797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816355591723868,0.0,0.0,0.3799149683699326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5208283692941905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25034942063361576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564936008990187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995547437000551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25321332459450224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,whathappenedwas,2019/04/15,"Foods to play with Hey all,

I've got a 5yo sleeping over tonight, picky eater but does try new foods. He really really likes food you can play with, or take apart. The more ""playable"" it is, the likelier he is to try it

I'm usually an idea factory but I've had a really long day and I just can't think of anything. Seeking any and all ideas, thanks in advance.",1.4483428571428585,3.3107622533333334,2.905904761904761,93.31200000000001,79.8,7.485714285714287,22.714285714285715,8.418075326091056,1.1868285714285711,279,9,65,6,7,91,56,75,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.9218,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,5,0,5,4,1,0,2,13,10,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,7,8,3,9,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,6,30,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883325450378887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14380104714575373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269669675100236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15292137929690833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6339105755944962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976031862578714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945338686173831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08537205605657247,0.0,0.0,0.15464468791044614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687707504426534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3358402363987069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487217328922994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313872249204902,0.0,0.0,0.16088261484690106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197016410144407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23728209121639424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924580022559916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Three4DaRoad,2019/04/15,"Our 3 year old walked in on us in bed, she thinks Daddy is a monster now... Mommy feeling like a heel. So late last night we got to bed, and honestly I was looking for a little loving... I forgot to lock the door, it was me... My three-year-old daughter walked in on us. As we all know that can be pretty devastating for a kid anyway. The problem is, well mommy likes it rough... yeah I know this is funny, but it's also not funny. 

She basically started screaming at her father, she won't even look at him today, she refuses to talk to him. He tried to hug her before he left this morning, she hit him and ran away. 

We don't actually know how long she was there, but long enough. This might be weird but I think it might be worse because I am mostly the dominant figure in the household, her father pretty well goes with the flow, however as many of you know the same power dynamics do not always exist in the bedroom. I absolutely don't want to be in charge in the bedroom, so really I think that that made it worse. I really believe she thinks her father secretly beats me up and, idk I know she doesn't really have any concept of rape. But whatever concept she might have of it in the future... Idk. She just thinks her father beats me now, and hurts me when she's not around. 

I've already had the whole ""special kind of hug"" conversation, but honestly I think that's a harder sale because, again I like it rough. 

I know this will pass, but... Honestly she's absolutely devastated, her father is a wonderful man but he is borderline in tears over this. I can honestly say I'm is equally worried about him, as I am about her. Should I just keep explaining and let time heal this or??? 

PS I've already informed her preschool teachers about the situation, just so if she says something they won't get the wrong idea. Apparently it's not the first time they've heard be stories from kids.",3.0439070967741912,4.75529129866667,4.389075268817205,85.14077419354841,74.68,7.505376344086022,24.89677419354839,8.259297600419973,1.4904606451612907,1467,48,299,25,31,485,186,375,0.11,0.736,0.155,0.9484,3,0,1,0,0,0,62.0,6,1,1,4,21,21,1,0,19,1,33,6,1,2,1,59,62,23,0,4,16,6,3,3,0,7,1,4,5,3,18,10,0,3,19,0,1,5,9,6,2,1,9,9,53,15,37,39,6,41,0,1,2,4,55,19,0,7,20,202,71,0,0.0,0.0,0.09104623413288386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20591523604225612,0.07461106897342241,0.07763213005092055,0.0,0.0,0.06344642784427162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830557707375049,0.0,0.0,0.0876573552788072,0.0,0.0,0.11374824479016594,0.0,0.07939046269160117,0.10511587197627148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09640266834411457,0.0,0.06162302069148338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04717470967675636,0.06665272810250952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935996726982282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048744806416554536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461962569493281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987836509183556,0.10532306268930818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292831841477419,0.0,0.09715641112521453,0.3076476987728759,0.07605102775608427,0.10524518401334663,0.0,0.1013694902744192,0.09540441108987197,0.0,0.13674333881862344,0.09350997364850544,0.0,0.1651331199163142,0.15669509807670232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420586867810008,0.08828164233851102,0.0,0.09459040570624552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29692605695942403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0875546649640632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19580292941279429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983697537215716,0.0,0.08927441392592073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17930892673813206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14839000505842492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487183380833122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182602477528448,0.0,0.0,0.06603741715532645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07499009393141184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35869287433242936,0.0,0.0,0.1088066374392973,0.0,0.0884364152740944,0.0,0.0,0.06334380532605388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22445409504294644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0550300881186541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16777376952299114,0.0,0.0,0.10416485135384143,0.0,0.0,0.1011786396916286,0.0,0.09474952667506037,0.1901590292288336,0.0,0.10200766304234174,0.0,0.1201628208220938
parenting,pineorangejuice,2019/04/15,"How to get my kid to poop on the potty?! My son is 3 and pees on the potty like a champ (unless he's feeling stubborn or it's late at night, where he turns into a monster that can overfill a diaper or pull ups with pee in less than an hour.) He just WONT POOP. I kind of think he likes sitting in it? He has a tendency to run away or pitch a hurricane of a tantrum when you mention his poopy diaper. How how how do I get him to poop on the potty? I've tried bribing reward systems which worked with peeing. It doesn't work. I've thrown the solid contents of diapers into the toilet in front of him. Nothing. Any advice will help!",1.3580576441102783,3.059647706766917,3.2828759398496254,91.26661967418549,79.45112781954887,5.937092731829575,21.60964912280702,6.816661863887847,0.4400882205513788,487,14,107,5,12,164,88,133,0.041,0.818,0.141,0.9104,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,4,7,7,2,0,12,0,7,6,6,4,0,17,12,10,0,0,5,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,8,5,23,10,1,21,0,0,0,0,13,12,0,3,6,67,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257921491009226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17948990557630645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24798260448452325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345722482995806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27579805509358235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769150493344513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599301295890548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2748554276656892,0.0,0.0,0.29773856122023024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25789788126960306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476920936469037,0.0,0.2532598832625575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16912365369317514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919958653501827,0.2870935743896997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843064698788721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,myFranciscan,2019/04/15,"More than 50 children died in hot cars in 2018, making it the deadliest year on record. Many of the cases involve parents who unknowingly left a child behind, often for an entire day. [https://www.kidsandcars.org/2019/03/05/hot-car-deaths-study-describes-psychological-and-neural-basis-of-how-people-make-fatal-errors/](https://www.kidsandcars.org/2019/03/05/hot-car-deaths-study-describes-psychological-and-neural-basis-of-how-people-make-fatal-errors/)",40.11590476190477,51.21338097142858,17.279999999999998,-8.046666666666653,-3.571428571428584,8.095238095238095,28.809523809523807,8.841846274778883,2.7153809523809525,414,6,24,3,3,84,33,35,0.098,0.902,0.0,-0.5574,1,0,0,0,0,0,56.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,7,1,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,2,15,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108074712280461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392448650460749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3551508762830086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6545752304378288,0.33140016176066217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629562419181621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104969207010708
parenting,mamanextdoor,2019/04/15,"5 yr old suddenly doesnt want to go to school My daughter is 5 and is in half day preschool. School started in September and it ends in June, so we are at the finish line. 

Things are great at home. She's polite and respectful. She helps out and she rarely gets in any trouble. Same story for school. She LOVES going to school. So much so she rushes me out the door in the morning to get her to school so she can she her friends and teacher.

Earlier in the year we had a few incidents with a little boy calling her names and being mean to her. I let her teacher know what was happening, she paid close attention to the little boy, saw it with her own eyes and put a stop to it. Since then he's been nice and there have been no other issue. The kids seems to love my daughter. 

Last week I got a letter home from her teacher saying this same little from earlier in the year threatened to harm my daughter (he said he was going to punch and kick her in the face).  The teacher actually over heard this and handled the situation right away. He is now separated from my daughter and they are no longer allowed to be near one another during outside play and they arent allowed to sit near one another during actual learning activites. My daughter, bless her heart,  was sadden by all of this because she loves everyone and wants to be everyone's friend.

That afternoon I talked to her about the situation and she seemed ok. The next day she was excited and ready for school and acting normal. When we get to school she said she didnt want to go to school because of the little boy and that it really hurt her feelings that he said those things to her. I talked to her and she felt better and she excitedly ran to play with her friends before the bell rang. When I picked her up all was normal, but she did say she doesnt get points in class when everyone else does (they get points for participating, staying on task, and being helpful). I figured maybe she was upset because a friend got a point that day and she didn't (because points arent given every single day to every kid). I logged into her profile at school and noticed she hasnt gotten points in a couple of weeks. I made a mental note to speak with her teacher Monday afternoon 

This morning,  business as usual. She was ready for school and excited.  Even telling me all the fun things she wanted to tell her friends. We get to school and BAM! she was in tears begging me not to send her to school. When I asked her why she didnt want to go and why she was so upset her answer was that she just misses me so much. This is an answer I would have expected in September, not mid-April when school is nearly over. I pushed a little more and got the same answer. I explained to her she needed to go to school, and it was super short week and come Wednesday it would be spring break and we would be taking a trip to my parent house a couple of states away. That seemed to make her feel better. Temporarily.  

Once she made it to the door, she panicked and ran back to me in tears. I calmed her down and walked her back to the door. This morning her teacher was the one getting the kids in the door and she cried even more when her teacher saw her crying. I told her teacher what was going on and she said she would keep an eye on it. 

So I don't know why I typed this all out. Maybe just to vent, maybe just to get some support. I dont know, but I'm sad for my sweet girl. She is so well liked my her friends and teachers. Every day her teacher has something positive to tell me about her, so I dont know what's going on in her head. 

I'm wondering if she is scared of this little boy. She says she isnt and that she feels safe. I'm just sad for her.

*I want to note her dad is away with the military, but hes been gone since January and we worked through that kink then.",2.8740452636968783,4.45612025419355,3.626457757296468,90.97314695340502,74.84516129032258,6.572247823860727,23.01126472094214,7.20055510434128,0.6567931387608805,2987,83,643,32,63,947,285,775,0.071,0.812,0.118,0.9911,5,0,1,0,0,0,71.0,6,0,3,4,29,38,0,3,35,1,57,8,5,6,4,115,128,58,0,15,10,7,4,1,6,4,0,10,6,8,32,53,0,3,20,2,1,19,16,9,1,4,41,19,115,29,100,76,15,109,1,4,4,3,134,50,0,6,37,429,147,18,0.0,0.0,0.08240435470525763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028712126287563613,0.08854602847815053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0394714833704233,0.0,0.1190057095559327,0.06493158682898867,0.0,0.10295154764016608,0.0,0.035927459878817534,0.0,0.0,0.07468312334836616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04311295991379327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03637015774334886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343476357804717,0.09275685919172767,0.13614715017347567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03694839439326518,0.0,0.09896676857269354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03527071730772339,0.0,0.03739579312324733,0.0,0.0,0.0557739186407092,0.0,0.10672052150111293,0.12103360423174192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404550742286445,0.0,0.04053934374323698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572175543029868,0.0,0.1764722882278161,0.0,0.1919640023490122,0.0,0.10130537790444302,0.04654944756790552,0.0,0.0,0.037336409018852316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04333152811509036,0.0,0.0,0.050032782642703416,0.0566004781422298,0.0,0.08470338649607395,0.0,0.0,0.04871804141052428,0.045199081009744894,0.0,0.0,0.04406836622198265,0.0,0.037528485559258494,0.0,0.0,0.09281551779848196,0.034416227791283706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043174432236382516,0.0,0.020627334201699533,0.2539027267980423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431988928867155,0.0799021710069594,0.028183236479270807,0.0,0.12725177416840794,0.04599168478431413,0.0,0.0,0.042549428017105415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062075447506038876,0.03130677099599355,0.0,0.0,0.044903135653915564,0.0,0.08273637948384392,0.0,0.048069555449690035,0.044304452021900864,0.04496461107589701,0.08583131803390757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046882074612408765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995652297386408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04244435556253655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02704822910665814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03605700370859472,0.1606495875468327,0.10072889939936253,0.042271173153658234,0.598226987215307,0.0,0.11531083835781655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985226441144975,0.094917663251393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03250423962627925,0.0,0.0,0.029884655850478163,0.04500259286458056,0.0,0.035299136413746664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04791255539044808,0.0,0.0,0.03174537809506312,0.06787222292671134,0.11071058134260736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415043683234356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04034453474391398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046501111905927366,0.0,0.14942031191007768,0.0,0.10160282845283272,0.0,0.037962276379911584,0.0,0.11429524252356794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04578750891319446,0.030737817430069776,0.0,0.0,0.11997201305665295,0.0,0.0,0.054378634128656254
parenting,madmikev,2019/04/15,"2 year old won't drink anything 1 week after tonsils was taken out. My son is 2 1/2 yrs old and had his tonsils taken out last week because they was obstructing his airways. Typically the Dr. will not let the patient leave the hospital until the patient drinks something. My boy did not, but we could use a syringe to ""force"" him to drink. We figured he would drink on his own the next day. Fast forward a week and he has only taken a few sips on his own.  Therefore we are using a syringe to get him to drink. 5 syringes every half hour to get him to suggested intake. (40 oz). This is tortuous to the mom, dad and the boy. We joke ""Who's turn is it to waterboard the boy"". He does eat a little (ice cream sandwiches, bananas..etc) but refuses to take a drink. Seems like a stubborn mental block. I figure if he gets thirsty enough he will drink but I don't want to risk dehydration . Also I figure if we keep waterboarding him he will not get thirsty enough to want to drink. Has anybody else had this experience? At this point we are grasping at straws. Any help, advice, or stories a out past experiences are greatly appreciated.",2.8923755656108625,4.987806778280543,4.150269230769233,84.98848076923079,76.23981900452489,6.772941176470589,26.88710407239819,7.7348632917899725,1.6050939366515844,882,35,173,13,20,289,130,221,0.051,0.873,0.076,0.8198,0,0,9,0,0,0,35.0,6,0,1,0,1,5,1,1,16,0,21,11,0,3,0,37,36,11,0,6,9,3,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,3,5,12,10,4,5,9,0,1,5,2,0,1,8,1,20,3,21,21,5,24,0,0,1,0,31,10,0,4,16,102,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912952122593364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471307097454792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353316648363741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688197977058069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695187592919496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07459339085295763,0.0,0.0,0.06025230922720494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817580860706644,0.0,0.0,0.7321785575388142,0.0,0.09559854731072022,0.0780457821989836,0.0,0.0,0.1930689239875464,0.10419514979327013,0.0,0.0,0.07871578477380865,0.0,0.0,0.18277792358469885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952457849243752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030029532620883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626217571775822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200620026107373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304169106235405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07615499834818952,0.0,0.0989250846403266,0.0,0.09553484000586612,0.0,0.04564342761747476,0.0936378126483828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415185301567904,0.0,0.0,0.10941988904907612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09936005312059566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1960706147696876,0.0,0.0,0.07105499918410246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08918608531630164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08831816103304202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505190010870281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719242192973678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07024503763321964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162111233786897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138085313574374,0.0,0.0,0.11021064128726522,0.0,0.22482310612078427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636744526133317,0.0,0.0,0.06016354868056498
parenting,designerturtle,2019/04/15,"I just ate baby poop I was running late to an appointment this morning so I was frantically trying to get bag packed and baby ready. As I'm putting him in the car seat, I see his face turn red and he takes the biggest, loudest poop I've ever heard. I quickly unbuckle him, run upstairs, undress him, and start wiping him down. I take the first wipe and clean off a mountain of poop, trying to get as much off as I can. Now, the wipes we use don't separate very well when you pull them out. So when I'm in a rush and only have one hand free, I rip them apart with my teeth to separate them. I think you can see where this is going.

In one hand I have the wipe drenched in poop, and in the other hand I have the two clean wipes stuck together that I just pulled out. In my rushed, panicked, sleep deprived state, I shove the shit-covered wipe in my mouth and bite down. Poop fills my mouth. I stood there for probably way too long because I couldn't even believe what I just did. I spit the wipe out and started cleaning my mouth out with the clean wipes. I moved my still-poopy baby to the crib for a second while I ran to the washroom to gag and rinse with all the mouthwash we own. When I came back to finish cleaning up, my baby looked at me and just gave the biggest, gummiest smile possible. He probably thought it was a fun game we were playing or something. 

No one warns you about some of the nasty stuff you'll go through in parenthood! I'm letting SO deal with all diaper changes for the rest of today :')",4.25092233009709,4.699904343042075,4.564949838187701,89.85227912621363,70.29449838187702,7.733398058252428,27.747734627831715,7.554174236665415,1.2926736569579282,1178,38,261,12,20,370,170,309,0.07200000000000001,0.818,0.111,0.9229,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,3,4,3,1,20,6,0,1,21,0,15,16,15,1,3,35,40,21,0,1,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,5,0,7,22,1,0,2,2,1,14,3,2,1,6,13,8,43,5,41,24,6,53,0,1,4,0,21,22,0,2,15,170,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116988568858363,0.0,0.08855143349815912,0.0,0.0,0.16366250158987145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16614303089681884,0.0,0.0,0.15366978584542434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976054738082473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959453366297453,0.13139937806637395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356127124552085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517886273054595,0.0,0.1651134730627114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638638368504321,0.0,0.0,0.1485420259387812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855384725793356,0.12198496409701287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439237681704715,0.10678557025508743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953034286576812,0.11047962744520153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637630514525779,0.0,0.0,0.3132377824359786,0.0,0.0,0.14603019051660412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315128022223092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911115152106136,0.0,0.0,0.14536865739419952,0.0,0.0,0.11183113142640086,0.0,0.0,0.20563685934345569,0.0,0.1160078181165003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16629223930332487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844052288240967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307914528353144,0.0,0.11532319110497535,0.0,0.0,0.13769304942517396,0.0,0.0,0.1972491013007819,0.1580052460850162,0.14190157576111712,0.0,0.0,0.12546123943390886,0.0,0.11985780671303145,0.0,0.11530360300235155,0.0,0.0,0.13060955641167876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,LunaSkyWitch,2019/04/15,"Parenting a teenager. Advice needed. Good god, I need advice or just some love. Anything. I'll take anything!

I need to vent and get some advice because a) I feel like a failure as a parent, b) I also feel like throwing random stuff at my son! - he's 13.

I nagged him over the weekend to clean his room. Over and over and over and over.... You get the idea.

This morning I went in to dust and vacuum and maybe collect a glass or two.

Anyway, 5.5 hours to clean that fucking hell hole! Washing in piles, wet and moldy because it was underneath his bed and had colddrink and water spilled.

His Lego and Game crates were wet and sticky inside. I had to wipe ever damn thing off. - now this has happened before he he just doesn't care.

Paper plates, empty crisp bags, sand, slcandy wrappers etc everywhere.

I took my husband's PC games from storage, and even that was under his bed.

Wet stinky towel on top of his bed and some laundry.

I'm gonna stop here to be polite to you guys.

This is not how I raised him. My home is always neat and tidy and I never even leave a plate in the zonk overnight.

He manipulates us by crying and feeling sorry for himself constantly.

Quick backstory.
I suffer depression and his biological dad committed suicide when he was 1.5 years old. He suffers ADHD too and the doctor said that his changes are good to develop depression. - Twice now he said that he didn't wanted to live anymore. He was 10.

So now, how do I know if I'm being too strict or too lenient?

I don't want to raise an asshole that gets away with everything and at this rate, that's exactly what I'm doing.

I honestly don't know what to do anymore. He just doesn't give a fuck and I'm real tired of this.

It breaks my heart to know that I have to address this when he gets home from school and I know I'm probably gonna lose my shit when he talks back.

I've decided to take money from his allowance for my labor today, and I'm gonna give him an option to either does his own washing or pay me additional money to do it for him. (he's not getting much) but he has to learn right?!

I feel like an asshole guys, but this needs to stop.

And advice will help. Thanks.",1.4055377574370702,3.6622969107551526,2.8042448512585842,91.87808352402747,82.18077803203661,5.447597254004577,21.399313501144164,6.7026698264267655,0.4198073226544623,1678,52,352,18,46,544,229,437,0.099,0.812,0.08900000000000001,-0.5268,3,0,1,0,0,2,63.0,1,2,0,2,23,21,6,0,14,0,25,10,2,4,4,72,67,38,1,7,13,5,8,3,0,4,4,2,10,2,21,25,1,3,11,3,3,3,8,11,0,2,12,10,41,10,44,49,7,40,1,5,0,3,47,18,5,10,21,210,62,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10281328032378052,0.3343899935847164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841350905922944,0.07118362604371505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968325217186606,0.0,0.0,0.14079908511103578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037610708420452,0.06578190486307564,0.0,0.10429975984120404,0.0,0.072795902984623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722291299239708,0.0,0.09049950478136648,0.0,0.0,0.09244808346785216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09397156583925996,0.0,0.0,0.14736646674111908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756303249514565,0.0748645115118627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09540975536580512,0.11300862304588155,0.07738397355188657,0.0,0.0,0.07688593021386428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730245912432609,0.1833486805887092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817735475456188,0.2234791232221352,0.16413280341597844,0.0,0.14350889450068036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694139315468128,0.0756507033310486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137598381833728,0.05734169531637711,0.0,0.17162525618663824,0.0,0.08424853821375572,0.0,0.0,0.0965744145283254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806198523123144,0.0,0.0,0.09058404487926314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253847690131554,0.0,0.07554133948383543,0.0,0.0,0.09570745494252893,0.0,0.0,0.07721131782338589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594547493040919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628883626844007,0.2537340153601935,0.06598066722982135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976929073337339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899840938777268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09223629756920612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737349770252822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07305838355231481,0.16275339015094092,0.0,0.0,0.08658016114971022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781482511864361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957651080333933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430455990199911,0.0,0.0,0.09793314426216138,0.09357672721932664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864441136741167,0.06876105035241638,0.0,0.07876203070258275,0.0,0.0,0.05683495814829038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832599744159873,0.08109045455005104,0.0,0.09504809324019953,0.0,0.0,0.0835689479452674,0.0,0.10290492064972084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091804028104236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930478548899979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05509075492420056
parenting,fmwj123,2019/04/15,"Measles outbreak in New York I’m currently pregnant with a baby girl and she is due in about a week. I’m a first time mom, and I’m wondering if I’m being overly paranoid. Any advice is greatly appreciated. 

We have a family wedding to go to in New York when my baby is going to be two months old. She won’t be eligible for her measles vaccine yet. The wedding is on Long Island, and the most recent thing I’ve heard is the outbreak is in Brooklyn.

My question is, am I being ridiculous for not wanting to take my baby up to New York? All of my fiancé’s family is going to have their first opportunity to meet our daughter at this wedding but this outbreak has me completely anxious. It only takes one straggler to infect my baby and I just don’t want to risk anything happening to her.",2.295283018867924,4.409624440251573,4.499974842767298,81.67977358490569,78.18238993710692,6.504150943396226,27.581132075471697,7.554174236665415,1.788829433962265,622,27,117,9,15,215,96,159,0.058,0.905,0.037000000000000005,-0.4927,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,3,4,4,1,1,7,0,18,1,0,0,1,16,32,7,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,2,0,4,1,1,15,2,23,26,2,26,0,0,0,0,16,8,0,4,15,83,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731076436109648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10947398811485544,0.0,0.0,0.18186501414834372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324753259672449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687876554901602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035209675603322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738641846004668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744711158949196,0.0,0.0,0.1774843708460992,0.0,0.0,0.1423567713601073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246492530248694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885413917842798,0.12849512733064786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4664352719761247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168924621099259,0.0,0.10908627474699067,0.12243485673242567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803378484404055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895133169069173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.242078424250023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069499791293651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938705057050936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725703914991265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899039368283334,0.0,0.12913088501447173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457924071415856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SirKrotchKickington,2019/04/15,"How do we get our 10 month old to sleep on his own? We really need some help here, our 10 month old son will NOT sleep on his own, not in his crib, not in a bassinet, not in one of those little bouncamajigs, he will only sleep on my lap on his boppy, or next to his mom in bed.

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This hasn't been a huge issue till recently, hes just getting too big to sleep in my lap while I'm working (i work nights and from home), and most of the night he fusses and rolls around, and if we try to put him to bed with mom he just ends up keeping her awake half the night.

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Were going a bit crazy at this point, we've tried to let him cry it out in his crib, but he will legitimately cry for 2 hours straight until we take him entirely out of his room, we tried this for about a week straight and he just would have none of it. We've also tried the whole keep him awake during feedings and put him into the crib before he falls asleep, we've tried checking on him every 5 minutes to pick him up reassure him and put him back down, and a few other methods we've read about, but cant seem to find anything that works.

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I realize this post is a bit rambling, but I'm exhausted, a bit frustrated, and not sure what to do, we just want him to have a good nights sleep, so that we can have a good nights sleep (or a less than constantly interrupted work shift in my case).

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Any advice would be appreciated.",12.64512012012012,5.309295283783786,11.308963963963963,72.56156156156158,60.689189189189186,14.77717717717718,42.01051051051051,9.725611199111238,3.7524006006006,1108,27,257,12,9,353,156,296,0.073,0.85,0.077,0.319,0,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,9,0,0,4,13,6,1,0,14,0,19,9,7,2,1,50,30,21,0,5,15,3,0,0,0,5,1,0,4,0,11,21,1,2,3,1,1,5,8,2,0,2,2,0,33,4,43,21,11,52,0,0,0,0,39,27,0,6,19,160,44,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664986610432566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05442036947265156,0.0,0.29493297099469623,0.3307577110937098,0.04627702152659307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056000184309506484,0.06057982806788258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052327027461259015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057906398765318674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228822391661648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353896808601608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495016818525908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027299775837626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573359123757569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219739184842098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07110768982566675,0.0,0.03867495818693517,0.1141559199160126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045613158690688035,0.0,0.06826071327834715,0.0,0.0670165386949241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102757600992457,0.0,0.12097373191329827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06958677006331349,0.0,0.0,0.06820499136853676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940104487836687,0.10863533659345688,0.0,0.0,0.050458962906458106,0.0,0.0,0.07237302296792411,0.31930632290604344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14281617873974553,0.0,0.04611312670390697,0.051755860896082084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643302020900817,0.0,0.06517405817429006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052301877308872,0.0,0.0,0.06806942727311678,0.0,0.04359522064261771,0.0,0.06719216432138557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061951085237059035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.408600943978175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06413727317933537,0.0,0.051165891747675635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310108498026953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04013824984328407,0.0,0.054586416814313705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597652432454965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981677880133802,0.0,0.0,0.09668297246965313,0.0,0.3307577110937098,0.0
parenting,J054k1,2019/04/15,"AITA for being upset with my wife for bringing our oldest into our bed? We have 3, our oldest is 5.  She's (the oldest)  never slept well.  She never wakes me up, only my wife.  Several times a night.  I feel my wife could be a bit more stern with her.  We usually don't let her in our bed at  night because it's hard to get  her from wanting to do the same thing every night. Plus I don't sleep well with her on our bed.  I don't sleep well period these days even without her help. That's on me but when she's in our bed,  by the morning I've usually got feet in my face.  This evening I came home from an evening shift  (12am) and wife is with our oldest in our bed. I've got a busy week, she's got an early morning  (her excuse for bringing the child in  bed)- I'm a little peeved and ask her to take our oldest to her own bed which she refuses. This makes me more upset so I ask her to go sleep in our oldest 's bed or put her on the outer side of the bed so I can sleep or try to sleep in peace.  

I wish she would set some limits with our kids but we've had very different upbringings and are just different in that respect.  I accept this and we talk about it, but I just  wanna be able to sleep.  Don't get me wrong I love my wife, very much.  So am I the asshole for being upset with her for bringing my kid into our bed?",0.8313541666666708,2.2307503715277797,2.792383333333333,95.56095,80.00694444444444,5.719111111111111,18.117222222222214,6.360717304075467,-0.3374671111111112,1009,19,245,8,25,339,130,288,0.055,0.852,0.094,0.9527,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,15,0,0,1,13,10,0,3,13,0,19,11,10,1,2,39,39,14,0,5,8,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,11,3,10,17,0,2,2,0,0,6,7,4,3,0,6,2,53,6,41,26,7,44,0,0,0,1,47,18,0,3,19,165,63,0,0.09880691003253823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18474224585601248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060231775263253115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787155499019636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300878261604815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888927766953807,0.0,0.0,0.0637222828792663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20646438201042314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578309661898774,0.0,0.0832490832094995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04995974252791729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324506477436282,0.0,0.05615424397762672,0.0,0.2370747364080906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08851158373415911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06622818903453552,0.0,0.09911138698564907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103675988123872,0.0,0.0,0.09903048135924176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891770939836922,0.0,0.06595437969494977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726344477426948,0.0,0.15241196053976305,0.0,0.0,0.2781707751056638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514710748963364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932823523437356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162368406798534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5932696032077415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429049967279365,0.0794172515449229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564292058766266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05761510382409527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708340605617823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21764370413147344,0.16305209734714954,0.05827887553595635,0.0,0.07925694328716497,0.0,0.26651783505633336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362307026771665,0.09524633533855988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018959397837306,0.10802984515198713,0.0,0.0
parenting,Teabee27,2019/04/15,"H is uncomfortable with my mom's pics of kids and social media We see my mom once or twice a month on average and she always likes to go out or eat out. It turns into a photo shoot.

H feels like she uses the kids for her instagram and Facebook. If she posts something especially pics of the kids and I go a day or last time without liking it if it was literally the same day, she'll notice that I didn't ""like"" it yet. And she'll remind me to like her posts.

Captioned with things like bonding. Last week she took a pic of me singing in church and captioned it ""worship."" Literally everything is a photo op. 

The other day she went to the bathroom and my meal came. I had already started eating and she said wait I didn't take a picture of the food yet. She tries to make me smile for pics and sometimes I just won't do it...I struggle with depression and do not talk to her about it (she's asked me recently if I'm depressed but I don't talk about it bc it's a trap. I hide my meds from her for a reason.)

The same day she verbally expressed that she felt bad that the 4 year old didnt want to smile and pose for all the pics. I roughly timed it and she was taking pics at this restaurant for a good 30 minutes. She is always disappointed if we don't go out to eat.

In the past she has literally ignored my kids pleas to play with her in favor of making photo collages of her with the kids for social media. She obsesses out loud over what to caption these posts.

This last visit my mom was over and promised she'd play with the 4 year old. By the end of the visit she said ""you never played with me grandma. ""

I do plan on doing something about the photos. I just don't expect her to understand or to react well. I'm just tired.",1.2933346487766355,3.2499258314917165,2.9818358326756105,92.10606077348068,80.74033149171271,5.6841041831097066,21.116337805840573,6.742157984588678,0.30811024467245485,1349,39,298,14,35,446,164,362,0.1,0.809,0.091,-0.5551,0,0,2,1,0,0,34.0,2,1,0,1,9,21,0,2,24,0,22,6,0,5,2,58,46,22,0,6,14,3,3,6,0,3,1,3,0,5,18,28,5,2,4,4,0,8,10,7,1,1,13,7,49,14,50,29,3,46,2,3,1,0,46,13,0,8,28,194,67,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10302071499001772,0.0,0.1553594128877895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727529814555822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07794839649194144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677444295626108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24082769854982014,0.0,0.1608148462273344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28657961531478954,0.0,0.0,0.08268574463220195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390239189291873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04720362041931299,0.06669357583376367,0.08963644154471855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288649786553193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15916917202919093,0.07830261969272756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282929055395305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.273654282334425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463176736237032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10369751825468213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3280124080709208,0.07451590292231274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200193564510554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628647381262964,0.19592292608310508,0.09942113907450792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911890658165404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682278498464782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598556071900437,0.09217782999006273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760595058630071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07439267949156995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903294586440616,0.0,0.1437400858617778,0.09233151371948743,0.0,0.06607788779689615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09759600600314128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038425219489764,0.1500721023362695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06202160679478401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887331894523587,0.1072990382981608,0.0,0.0,0.1037219988823894,0.06338262520350277,0.10154456701450236,0.0,0.09718693322978768,0.0,0.08062964712300914,0.0,0.0,0.05506381298355245,0.0,0.07488458661354744,0.0,0.08393829434399933,0.08654198723451319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999189411634073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023646189803194
parenting,Throwawayworrymumma,2019/04/15,"Is this Pre Natal Depression. Suicidal Thoughts TW Not sure if this is where I should post this but here goes...


I’m 37 weeks, have had a very difficult high risk pregnancy. I have a toddler who is such a good boy and who I love to the stars and back. My husband is not the best support, he responds to instructions but he can’t seem to think for himself or make decisions and stay on top of chores etc if I am not around. He doesn’t notice important things like the difference between a tantrum in our son and genuine upset or a temperature  or when it’s time to take DS to the doctors etc.

Recently I’ve felt more and more tense about my upcoming c section as I know I’ll be incapacitated and my son will be in his Dads hands and I’ll have to trust that my husband gives him the care and attention he needs. Slowly over the last months, the tension has built and it’s now at unbearable levels;


Any time I try to challenge my husband he immediately retaliates and throws it back at me. He has a quick-fire,
self defensive answer for everything. 
He can absolutely only see any issue from his own perspective and has a relentless stamina for endless, fast paced dispute. 

Most people argue and learn from what the other is saying but he just throws anything I say back at me with weird factual answers, always on the defensive, never ever backs down.

The above, coupled with the stress of this pregnancy have somehow really, really taken their toll. I feel really helpless and trapped with nothing I can do. I’m proud and come from an an abusive family so I’m programmed not to ask for help and don’t know who I would turn to anyway.

Lately, I’ve had this voice in my head, just this niggling question over and over ‘if you could just die on the operating table next week would you?’  I’m so ashamed to write this, especially as my son is my whole world, but yes, the answer lately is yes. I want to lie down for my c section and never wake up.

I don’t know what to do to shake this.",4.591899915182356,5.56619448346056,5.459694656488551,81.84431721798137,69.81424936386767,8.87565733672604,29.05937234944869,9.150863307647796,2.3042614079728585,1564,57,314,30,27,512,215,393,0.17800000000000002,0.708,0.115,-0.9874,0,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,1,4,19,24,4,6,22,2,32,5,3,1,5,71,57,32,2,9,17,7,3,1,0,4,1,3,1,2,19,22,0,2,15,0,0,4,10,14,0,0,5,7,30,10,46,45,10,49,0,2,1,1,37,23,0,10,21,209,49,5,0.0,0.1277203331903466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969469676142765,0.0,0.0,0.1466096087368728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870671490916437,0.09596106877011834,0.10077447199910584,0.0,0.0,0.3315531021394829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312498590673972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1099049481786295,0.0,0.0,0.0928564910701218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606613248314382,0.1192739436414803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284431885382112,0.0,0.11187496653282307,0.11262361235955998,0.0,0.11033351465321377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24044150463373215,0.0,0.09750742449771052,0.0,0.0,0.09687986660749393,0.0,0.10162023660536333,0.0,0.054504768534492536,0.0,0.10350082165840707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10340750288527223,0.0,0.09041395816856347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106295353973116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225321691297472,0.11389212500133958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251075355357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772517018845427,0.08786792103350266,0.2431965955200747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052663556963835366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972898702078731,0.0,0.07195449810616013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604153674741552,0.0,0.0,0.07992918045441921,0.16627745081884646,0.0,0.11464199974856525,0.0,0.0,0.10343292642182718,0.12272617231568475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198352298293682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0747319981529647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323852803746232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12075590674817828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717014720380056,0.0,0.10643529549196593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144700908518112,0.0,0.0,0.08589925392014508,0.09813319945634956,0.1124544733997939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489592351923306,0.0,0.0,0.12347966387480187,0.0,0.0,0.11791105115535767,0.12232533614934515,0.10159621574682344,0.0,0.08104898632563498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161470439042676,0.06907116201463938,0.0,0.08557778214005919,0.12571313378039467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318623624920023,0.11725081830367935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894278047974176,0.06358072441551914,0.0,0.17293449205445358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035010181034192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531500115791617,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,toinfinityandbeyon,2019/04/15,"Tips on Picking a School for Your Child on the Autism Spectrum Whether it's a mainstream institution or a special needs school, here's how you can find the right choice.


http://resetfest.com/tips-on-picking-a-school-for-your-child-on-the-autism-spectrum/",15.755454545454548,21.06480454545456,5.863636363636368,72.61545454545455,49.00000000000001,6.824242424242425,32.21212121212121,7.793537801064563,2.2126848484848485,222,7,27,2,3,48,27,33,0.0,0.909,0.091,0.4019,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,6,2,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,0,16,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2715001634169478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202603078331633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25368080078948235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9018975049131791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bekindtopeople92,2019/04/15,"Sometimes I am a silly parent and I feel guilty Sometimes when I haven’t had a good nights sleep I don’t function well and I do stupid things. 
My 11 month old had a thread hanging off his shirt so I went to cut it (held scissors by the blades) they are safety scissors so they won’t cut unless placed together, however it’s still a point that if it went into your eye it would probably do something. Anyway I pick up my son to cut the thread and after I realised how stupid that was because what if the scissor had poked him in the eye. I feel so guilty about it, “what if what if what if”... I know I over think things but I really feel so bad when I do things like this... and wonder if any other parents have moments like this. It makes me feel irresponsible :(",1.092466063348418,3.3636045512820516,2.2849773755656138,95.02472850678734,83.61538461538461,4.952639517345402,19.432880844645556,6.2272716619740125,-0.11524539969834048,594,16,130,5,17,189,90,156,0.172,0.747,0.081,-0.9406,3,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,2,0,11,11,5,0,8,0,14,4,4,3,0,25,25,19,0,7,8,3,4,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,1,7,0,0,3,3,6,1,0,7,6,21,5,11,16,0,18,0,0,2,0,8,7,0,7,10,93,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398959180801024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995845357556347,0.10218160764175564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390215072731069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059447091054147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092121381758138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378455445548676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188985413080356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337953185588866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730311160523042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589245570578027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3722516747563825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17513067133069896,0.0,0.1584581988052392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18072626788199966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738377799393313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16774435518959374,0.0,0.0,0.12904460540194027,0.33156745893563994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13386418362615002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340844160726402,0.1074062420817784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507134771319016,0.3107769562379857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178031813622103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907478272200085,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bedofnoodles,2019/04/15,"Poop problem. — (this is s long one) Before I begin..        
we tried Oh Crap, it worked until night time training. Now we’ve hit a bit of a road block.  We’ve also tried M&M’s.. a poop chart, having him scape his own diapers, taking away privileges, giving extra privileges, books in the bathroom, iPad while on the toilet, books about poop, a Lego bathroom set and prune juice. Nothing is budging this iron will of his.      



He (3.5) is fully in underwear all day and can tell us when he needs to go and there was a time when he pooped in the toilet and in his potty. 
He isn’t however, able to sleep with out accidents at night. (Naps though he’s fine) We are currently working on night time training. But this is making it very difficult.       
           


So a couple of weeks ago... we unfortunately,  made the mistake of putting diapers back on him until we figured out how to get around night wetting.  We were exhausted. 2 weeks of waking up twice a night to catch home pre-pee was wearing us thin.       
           


So here we go. He started holding his poops until bedtime. He knew he’d get a diaper just before bed and now will only poop in his diaper. He basically held it for 7 days once, we tried again to get him night time trained and had him in undies at night too. He only pee’d. Straight up refused. His pediatrician gave us glycerine suppositories in case he was constipated. We tried the diaper that night (we didn’t want to have to use the glycerine if we didn’t have to) and, whaddaya know?! He pooped. (It was terrifyingly big).    



He’s just stubborn. He knows when he has to go. My husband and I want to take away diapers/undies altogether at night (just have naked time) but we’re worried about him becoming severely constipated.       



If any of you have experienced this or have any suggestions. Dear god help us. Please. I’m so baffled.",2.7577332657200806,5.115122836206901,3.9655578093306296,84.86169371196759,77.82183908045977,7.312508451656524,24.603110209601077,8.313332769828598,1.644502096010818,1409,50,278,28,34,459,186,348,0.07200000000000001,0.866,0.062,-0.3046,2,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,14,1,0,2,22,10,2,0,14,0,25,12,11,4,1,49,49,26,0,7,8,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,9,22,0,5,4,3,0,5,3,6,0,2,12,3,30,4,43,33,4,64,0,0,0,0,48,24,1,3,34,158,39,4,0.07813177383887332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06925910330668679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062481951310714615,0.0,0.08465574431130894,0.0,0.10626457092624354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955384361458794,0.0,0.0,0.14681474692468044,0.06007851129551529,0.0,0.0,0.08629040570332237,0.1329687697196437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529966108004096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08645132166262412,0.0,0.10077706089138892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224618811823062,0.07495111691062092,0.13321226286019924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052370081057088534,0.0,0.07837253963583808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587835915886934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914416118386475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393017355360036,0.05215356574061481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057933720297413026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6598923926064253,0.0,0.07496954422399224,0.0,0.0,0.08320778919315394,0.05294411201942074,0.11884546951406635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576522514374763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476155563725997,0.0,0.07854401284880583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826666511268938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818819967152896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05530207166518754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749074061520873,0.0,0.06829061413250846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676407110000967,0.0,0.22779632822264154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21218538292905176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37593161526635055,0.0674807665953403,0.0,0.0644668960383751,0.09216828906925018,0.0,0.1253451922751947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376172379927013,0.07934660893993112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wishing4aCroat,2019/04/15,"The Moment You Realize Toddlers Are Just Little Drunk People It crossed my mind that drunk people and toddlers have a lot in common. I wrote down what I could think of.

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1.Have terrible motor skills that result in funny stories that are shared at every Thanksgiving table for years.

2. Urinate and/or Defecate in inappropriate places and at inappropriate times.

3. Have been known to vomit at random, forget they've vomited and ask for more food not 5 minutes after vomiting.

4. Have unpredictable mood swings that last for an equally unpredictable length of time.

5. Pass out at the most convenient time for them, regardless of place or situation.

6. Will eat anything, no matter how abhorrent.

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Did I miss anything? Please add your two cents if I did.",4.655485074626867,8.003305649253733,4.495652985074628,77.74780783582094,78.32835820895522,7.230597014925374,27.03171641791045,8.278499904357787,2.504031343283583,623,25,95,13,16,191,102,134,0.122,0.816,0.061,-0.8275,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,1,1,2,4,0,0,4,0,10,8,1,2,0,23,14,6,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,5,4,0,3,2,1,2,2,2,0,1,4,0,8,1,18,8,4,22,0,1,0,0,6,12,0,5,8,60,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33861312581248737,0.37974358059153296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.257175688308628,0.0,0.1460810730441733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247600978352056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989196869867306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165494821001247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889490049394343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273719418827483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661257027603925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284581525177608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577770471417451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21666063367748786,0.0,0.3265147971947007,0.17152546001569188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17564166474927553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012445873788346,0.0,0.0,0.27334764123421124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15264233920343506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37974358059153296,0.10062567385221403
parenting,PsychologicalGarlic5,2019/04/15,"Is it normal to hate being a step parent? My husband and I met after he had his first child with a previous girlfriend.  His ex was (is) psycho and kept their child away from him, mainly as a tool to use against him to get what she wanted/control him.  After he and I had dated for a few months, we found out we were expecting a child of our own.  Furious, the ex refused to let him see his child at all.  I convinced my husband to go through the courts to get visitation, and while that was going on, he and I were married, and after being together for nearly a year, I finally met his first child.  We were granted visitation just before our own child was born.  Flash forward almost five years, and we now have custody of his first child after finding out his ex wasn't caring for the child properly.  Now I am the main caregiver for two children - whom I love dearly - but because I'm 'just' step mom to his first child, everything I try to teach gets ignored.  My step child still visits with the biological mom, and every time it happens, there is a divine peace in my household while it's just me and my own child.  When my step child returns, it's utter chaos.  Fighting, hitting, biting, manipulation, lies, etc.  It's like the child goes to the bio mom and learns everything NOT to do and then comes home and does it all for me to correct.  I absolutely HATE every moment of it.  I have to do everything for this child and yet I feel like I'm not even getting through because what bio mom says, goes.  I really regret gaining full custody, because when I was a step parent part time, it was great.  I wasn't responsible for everything.  But now I am and it's miserable.  And what I hate most is I feel like my own child is hurting because all my energy is focused on correcting my step child's behavior.",6.1136440677966135,5.864295025423733,6.679666666666666,78.69831355932206,66.25988700564972,9.565875706214689,32.10677966101695,9.120678840339163,2.5968128813559326,1405,51,277,22,20,461,163,354,0.135,0.754,0.112,-0.871,2,0,0,0,2,0,44.0,6,0,1,5,12,18,5,1,15,0,27,1,0,2,5,51,51,23,0,3,7,11,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,17,15,24,0,3,5,0,0,13,4,9,0,6,16,4,47,9,41,31,14,50,1,3,1,1,61,10,0,2,32,199,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09661716814681297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906521263995486,0.0,0.0,0.2352687970484075,0.0,0.08210279942791822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837429082301843,0.0,0.0,0.0831144694458204,0.0,0.0,0.10821767509934334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08443587785738313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760781427383526,0.06372834137053791,0.0,0.16258786642497422,0.0,0.3468629331247526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757282160469756,0.13785977260220295,0.0,0.1056961087031792,0.08818679967591038,0.3282850485792531,0.0,0.1057923311233985,0.0,0.0,0.20164059654961367,0.0,0.1096708620328442,0.0,0.0,0.10637657017888594,0.0,0.0,0.08532258365531964,0.0,0.0,0.2857809620240213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678370215720193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032906610984002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986638566231593,0.0,0.14141510881151506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708272142949817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4520147097832434,0.07701450479820636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453616249334654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21427340433475586,0.10448534269113988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181164314746492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672983888345894,0.0,0.0,0.07688714954750121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0770541445188656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11252396354971632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550791577936338,0.0,0.0942531693439088,0.0,0.0,0.0833332497051885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242681254418857
parenting,TIRED_Na,2019/04/15,"Tips/Solutions for Eczema Hello! My daughter (6) has eczema, we found put when she was around 1 and it was only on her cheeks. I've noticed recently that it's now all over her body. 

We currently use Aveeno Eczema Therapy Cream, the Aveeno Oatmeal bath treatment, and recently bought Vaseline intensive care body lotion.  

All purchased based on online reviews but was wondering what other treatments/lotions/creams/soaps other parents use or suggest we try out",6.185785714285713,8.95161615,5.239642857142859,77.85250000000003,68.75,8.071428571428571,33.92857142857143,8.841846274778883,3.358232142857142,372,18,56,7,7,111,64,80,0.0,0.968,0.032,0.3382,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,4,3,3,2,2,15,10,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,7,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,7,1,6,5,2,11,0,0,1,0,10,5,0,2,5,32,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015784110443712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4745442445825109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778923411544085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23421191225767785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24319595721123155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245973431077326,0.0,0.0,0.2371881933325981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21473665780097195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.421827440387315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442812057303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502690374412391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3689802381863193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23165051047989105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Responsible_Solid,2019/04/16,"Friends sometimes drift apart. Parents are in the wake. Dear My Kid's Friend,

You used to come over to my house all the time. Me and my kid had a ton of fun playing hide and seek, doing random art projects, the occasional video game, etc. You moved a little farther from us and we didn't see you quite so much. You and my kid got a little older and maybe your interests diverged a bit. It's normal. I get it. I just thought you should know that I still think about all the fun times we had together. I think you were a cool kid and appreciated your positive easy going attitude and the goofy laughs we shared. You're still welcome whenever, though, I understand it's not the same.

—Your friend's parent",2.238746145940393,4.569381841726622,2.8835817060637225,92.07260791366907,79.50359712230215,6.273586844809866,22.15878725590956,7.447530270364453,0.7325391572456326,552,17,117,8,14,172,91,139,0.011,0.721,0.267,0.9885,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,4,8,0,1,6,12,0,0,11,1,7,1,1,1,2,25,18,9,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,4,11,0,0,5,4,0,4,2,0,0,0,6,2,22,12,7,11,7,15,0,0,1,0,24,6,0,1,5,70,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790504239770823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127534436045952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829083566168024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801283815205016,0.0,0.08568557588268311,0.0,0.09320752994819033,0.0,0.13116937105424892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18923915935166927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901325774519966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3287511647651369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16476455177879892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17431081569559825,0.12056216919143033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16068957667437178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642151503405029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744389605738468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069034310924807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220463209909586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619483917514381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101749072474933,0.16113357664770014,0.13020124389916155,0.19126467154618135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17073445581397334,0.1972772055819437,0.14164722012033126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mo-Zelda,2019/04/16,"Hiding a good grade card My 2nd grader deliberately hid her grade card (she didn’t know I saw it & uncharacteristically put art papers over it & hid them in her room).  I checked it, was overall totally fine.  I took it out and asked her why she hid it & she clearly lied saying she was going to give it to me right before she went to a basketball game tonight. 
I just can’t figure out why she would take such steps to hide a good grade card from me & don’t have community of parents so hoping for some insight.",5.666571428571428,5.411913895238096,6.406428571428571,80.30107142857145,67.19047619047619,8.904761904761905,27.97619047619048,8.344100000000001,1.5906190476190472,409,11,88,5,6,135,69,105,0.098,0.7709999999999999,0.13,0.7586,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,2,12,16,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,6,3,0,0,3,2,1,5,3,0,0,0,6,2,17,4,11,9,2,12,0,0,1,0,15,6,0,2,1,50,23,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7248217531220557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634765960086128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230968253060425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604327042410609,0.09504685386796127,0.28054745362556704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610794291909556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191122136360133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570122065327535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681232902547037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14282280929635868,0.0,0.1329966711027447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574433855776165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858107863159452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503398382847436,0.301817787529834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880313239676014,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hsks23,2019/04/16,"My 2.5 year old is very afraid of strangers. Today I took my daughter to the library. A little girl, probably around 7 or 8, was asking her questions and trying to play with her while she was on my lap. I was telling her “it’s okay, she just wants to play with you” etc and holding her close to help her feel safe. She did okay but she kept looking at me and saying “mama mama”. Anyway the little girl got a puppet and made it hug my daughters arm and she lost it. Sobbing, crying, clinging with her arms around my neck. She kept telling me the girl scared her and made her sad. She was inconsolable and I had to go hold her in the car for awhile before she’d calm down but she didn’t want to go back inside. 

We also go to church every Sunday and since she turned 18 months old she goes to nursery with the other kids and a couple teachers. It’s only for an hour but she always cries, every week even though it’s the same people. 

How can I help her?",1.180561224489793,3.2895255255102067,2.1993469387755127,96.74922448979594,82.01020408163265,4.328163265306123,17.453061224489794,4.935628992294339,-0.7491440816326524,737,15,162,2,20,232,115,196,0.104,0.7909999999999999,0.105,-0.705,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,1,9,12,0,2,10,2,10,4,3,3,0,35,26,17,0,2,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,6,17,0,5,2,2,0,5,1,5,0,0,14,3,35,7,21,11,2,24,1,3,1,1,37,9,1,2,10,104,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10774106234769468,0.11210358300830693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398710297677935,0.1259514753354772,0.0,0.0,0.10359667864817136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464267847060408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14907276488492344,0.2959823717047686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502561196290329,0.08898585432061586,0.0,0.22702646710779106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812197447979627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22970522554466086,0.0,0.10775341856076638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18060921754081072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13267886903055795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700635184461364,0.0,0.0,0.11313667371173786,0.0,0.14707033884893542,0.0,0.0,0.25496372219887525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753773528642074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2827464599554236,0.0,0.0,0.1024658871245936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09340267664431504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525839740979785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15092497443738842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714024746428406,0.13488514158183704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114474933153696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23551451773405896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236850637586814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12770535877520964,0.0,0.14968655577885914,0.09147072911400954,0.14654419176486905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111638116244594,0.1589308459607526,0.0,0.10806980169959636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675971372746179
parenting,AwkwardlyKali,2019/04/16,"Weirdest places you guys have gotten baby puke? Basically my boyfriend and I have a 5 month old and never once expected to get baby puke in the places we have. So I’m just honestly curious the strange or funny places (or people) baby puke has gotten for you all! As well as the reactions. 

I think this could be funny!",2.728602150537636,5.044987451612903,4.2367741935483885,83.09182795698926,77.70967741935483,7.359139784946238,23.23655913978495,8.344100000000001,1.6078946236559142,250,8,47,5,6,83,44,62,0.193,0.627,0.18,-0.2547,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,2,11,11,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,6,2,5,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,3,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943211599944459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715733584668631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24098698661656334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942656274433745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18771162472280176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553890422944833,0.2591944699855598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873081374524465,0.0,0.7628488825413671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594970910860612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883013930951084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Liquor_Bush,2019/04/16,"Do any of you feel like a really good inside (Inside the home) parent or a really great outside (outside of the home) parent? Kids are 2m&5f ( I feel like ages/gender of kids before a post should be a rule. As it plays a big role in how people see your post) 

I’ve found that, I don’t excel with my kids inside. I’m not great at playing with toys or crafts or just sitting and watching tv for longer than ten minutes. I feel being inside, I do not excel. Although, a few tickle sessions, bath time and bed/reading time, I’m good. 

But get me outside with them and we’re bouncing balls, then on the trampoline, tractor rides, walks, practicing sports. Outdoor parks are a blast, etc. if we’re at a nature center or a festival/carnival, I’m right there on the snake holding or roller coaster. 

Anyway, just wondering.",2.7100000000000013,4.927347169811323,3.7578364779874214,87.00052830188679,77.30188679245283,6.001006289308176,23.807547169811322,7.03164865440522,0.9943011320754712,636,21,120,7,15,205,102,159,0.01,0.809,0.181,0.979,2,0,0,0,0,0,33.0,0,2,1,2,5,10,0,0,13,0,8,0,0,1,0,25,18,14,0,2,11,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,3,3,2,6,0,1,5,8,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,5,9,10,14,14,2,16,0,0,2,0,9,8,0,7,5,68,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646173211701105,0.0,0.11075226141394236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385842131155996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816350279179168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470449143837187,0.2326983761758953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17857060982765668,0.0,0.0,0.08508907004298251,0.0,0.0,0.2732031117694553,0.0,0.3591135351022967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3267292540407469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1591330357702488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616796423294112,0.0,0.0,0.11290853125838513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31195500878026644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629068326991912,0.0,0.2086681084362844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908390693682174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297805335870027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899331698047223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766177156598749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Wigglecorn,2019/04/16,"How to not get jealous of/handle other parents who have great support systems. I often feel like the odd one out in nearly all the social settings I am involved in (not many, but they include work, friend circles and family), because everyone else just has someone in their families who will take their kid for free. I can't even get a babysitter to not flake for 20/hr (in a 10/hr average area). I've tried and given up after scheduling several date nights only for the potential babysitters to just not show up and not tell me they aren't showing up. I have talked to others about this and flakiness (except for family) just seems to be a huge issue where I live.

I get the ""you have to go"" and ""no excuses"" responses as well as a lot of other negative responses when there is a social event being planned and I have to say that I need to look at my calendar to make sure it is on a night my husband does not work. He works 3rd shift maintenance, 12 hour shifts, and in between shutdowns where he works everyday and his odd schedule, I'm often alone with my child (sometimes for weeks on end like this month) and have no childcare available since he is the only one.

I normally wouldn't care about such things, but I can see that it is having an impact on those around me when I have to tell them no a lot. Then on top of this, I can't help but to hear how most, if not all, the other parents in the office send their kids to the grandparents on the weekend while they go off and do whatever. Plus whatever things they do during the week.

I keep myself super busy so I don't think about it (library storytimes for 2 nights, family night at the children's museum for 1 night, going to start swim lessons and dance lessons for 2 more nights, plus the zoo and family swim on the weekend and with nicer weather coming, more options will be available), but recently it is just really getting to me. Not only do I miss out on a lot of social events, the relationships of the people involved in these events are being impacted (they are obviously less interested or less connected to someone who rejects them all the time -I probably would be as well).

Anyone else in a similar situation? How do you deal with that feeling of jealousy and being the odd one out that can never make it to social events? 

Currently, I am just making myself insanely busy, so it doesn't get to me and I don't think about it...which probably isn't healthy, but I can't think of anything else to do.",7.554382716049383,6.281696670781892,7.700915637860085,75.91828703703705,63.773662551440324,11.145267489711934,34.65329218106996,10.222266870305534,3.3019934156378596,1946,70,379,37,24,634,230,486,0.08,0.826,0.094,0.6966,4,1,0,0,0,0,57.0,0,2,10,9,26,15,1,0,27,0,42,0,0,6,6,78,72,36,0,5,21,3,2,2,1,4,0,2,0,4,24,25,0,1,8,8,1,8,22,3,2,3,1,6,41,13,73,61,11,72,0,2,2,0,43,31,0,10,33,279,65,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708929106222455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204471099382227,0.07626456454965844,0.06125134222898219,0.06626042087023762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045373166163659336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588856830558062,0.0,0.0,0.06411673252179997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673630942645328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513610243706427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18653560675454148,0.0,0.06592481896953806,0.0,0.0,0.04916175300109812,0.0,0.0,0.07112313785235228,0.0,0.0,0.35084017574537674,0.0,0.07527029343914436,0.053174364369934085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05750611774528482,0.0,0.1944387102617472,0.0,0.12690456980499995,0.0,0.0,0.08206174138177211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08389047659279651,0.0,0.04989032139013736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330070422478575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768785798693159,0.0,0.0661587416675761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272760701127319,0.0,0.06572497873137763,0.0,0.06250428510066804,0.0,0.0,0.1898387335254588,0.0,0.0,0.14905217467228316,0.07546254807737443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05941105606965759,0.0,0.0,0.055190518452960066,0.0574066859284388,0.0,0.0,0.41909735336801396,0.07292773309675657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131151476460097,0.16982708113498304,0.0,0.0,0.1652962551992553,0.0,0.0,0.05160190182908021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050095847967605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768316054766389,0.0,0.07349279833096077,0.07991230601306702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05919145714259193,0.0,0.0,0.05931281081105034,0.06776026132949327,0.0,0.08408717728940085,0.0,0.061571068579294334,0.08366488907237117,0.0,0.3034969367813697,0.12613228939557408,0.0,0.07361532939222115,0.0,0.0526834802090337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446475597063012,0.07015144892075467,0.0,0.05596373627213076,0.059825766962032914,0.1301140123608628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889886626366884,0.14307940679725498,0.0,0.0,0.04340200281199495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053456446382038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11941001046954808,0.0,0.13384693779693893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167500545227208,0.0,0.0,0.05287448521351282,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MondoFerrari,2019/04/16,"Snoo Hi guys! We have owned a snoo for 2 years, and used it on our son. We recently started using it with our daughter, and it’s been working it’s magic for a few weeks. Fantastic machine. Anyway, anyone else who owns one, have you ever had a problem with it kicking up to level 3 and 4 for no reason. She’s asleep at 2, and not moving, and I can’t see any reason at all why it would randomly and repeatedly kick up to 3 and 4, multiple multiple times. I’ve emailed snoo, we’ll see what they say, just wanted to see if anyone else had the same problem.

Thanks!",3.3135256410256417,3.9366083333333366,5.040245726495726,84.97524038461542,72.5042735042735,7.901282051282053,26.59081196581197,8.07648339933343,1.5153427350427355,433,14,93,6,8,148,77,117,0.073,0.87,0.058,-0.1739,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,1,1,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,8,1,1,4,2,26,16,8,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,8,11,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,3,4,9,1,13,11,5,14,0,0,3,0,15,6,0,2,7,60,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11343870164070803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332793471280462,0.3418396891330773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787020603944343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1508920967820268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16517130215628562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729604057423462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11303694683286107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31923542268915744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34302352084369336,0.1647079183059998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265655831406775,0.0,0.0,0.3987855879526415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180712471345604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15357918977311738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727012300283143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28814610482390124,0.0,0.0,0.09839075200066592,0.0,0.1338074933598721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052297399512898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12144200208699067,0.0,0.0,0.11849931678748217,0.0,0.0,0.10742223670181036
parenting,heronlyweapon,2019/04/16,"How do I explain a serious illness to a child? My husband’s father was just diagnosed with leukemia today. Luckily it is a type that is curable and has a decent prognosis compared to most cancers. My husband is obviously very shaken, and our almost-4-year-old daughter was really worried about why he was sad. We had told her yesterday that her grandfather was sick and in the hospital, but she is not truly old enough to understand the seriousness of the situation. I don’t want to lie to her and pretend everything is fine, but I also don’t want to freak her out. We try hard to be very open and honest about everything with her, so how do we go about explaining this to her without traumatizing her? Also if anyone has any tips on how to comfort my husband during this super hard time, I would love to hear them. My father passed away 15 years ago but it was extremely sudden and I never had to deal with (what will be) a long term illness in the family like this.",7.263743315508022,6.7652535828876985,7.857010695187168,72.03845721925134,63.97326203208557,11.330267379679144,35.81229946524064,10.793553405168565,3.885543743315509,768,32,140,18,10,256,112,187,0.127,0.7090000000000001,0.16399999999999998,0.9422,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,1,1,10,10,0,0,9,0,22,6,0,3,2,33,31,16,0,4,7,6,2,1,0,2,5,1,0,1,8,14,0,0,3,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,8,3,22,6,24,19,3,18,0,1,0,1,27,6,0,2,11,106,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410019300045972,0.0,0.15928107804097735,0.0,0.0,0.25440917668980106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816996522003863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122226586000876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14944723279082506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639895014338338,0.0,0.16144809036402824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16435713776505848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2859155519680199,0.0,0.14995275622053633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040056477193974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849828113299796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927833035396026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771134749244955,0.0,0.0,0.14076792378183448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435627851041516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268108636884803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33382487847148223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10190140473846178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17879623803963415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275234703840607,0.0,0.15077545402341172,0.15199386058559064,0.0,0.10799500384548097,0.0,0.0,0.16559275028736725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624913211066364,0.18764185534482908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435318337249638,0.0,0.0,0.1533334241040436,0.0,0.0,0.1615386926150131,0.0,0.1129955367093206,0.0,0.0,0.20486587804393105
parenting,impressiver,2019/04/16,"Kid proof USB cables? Looking for recommendations on usb/charging cables that hold up to the torture test of “normal use” by kids.

We’ve run through a grip of the cheap cables and I’m tired of replacing them. I’ve also tried a few name brand braided cables but they all still break at the back end of the connector. Probably from getting tugged and twisted at weird angles.",4.3217370892018785,6.460488521126763,4.647535211267607,82.81853286384978,72.23943661971829,6.986854460093897,27.32629107981221,7.793537801064563,1.7160685446009385,299,11,54,4,6,94,56,71,0.094,0.906,0.0,-0.6652,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,2,0,3,2,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,1,2,9,4,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,13,4,2,9,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,3,30,3,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778897060998266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672003594094365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30777530169558776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815505408964782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918062651490044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34046896763115725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746557949695606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775080386607247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3993916246477348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23592466489887776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3001220352949256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,timmyh83,2019/04/16,"Sleep help post-hospitalization Hi all, I write to seek advice on getting our little one to sleep in her crib again. We’re just on the other side of a pretty severe illness culminating in the better part of a week in the hospital. As a result of all of this and our daughter refusing to sleep without being held (lots of lights, noises, interruptions), she’s now completely refusing to get in the crib. It’s so bad she starts screaming when we do the song at the end of her bedtime routine because she knows what’s coming. 

She’s always been a poor sleeper but would almost always go in her crib at the start of the night. My wife doesn’t believe in cry it out and I’m just not sure what else we can do at this point. Any advice for a tired set of parents?",3.902780748663101,5.014953954248367,4.950885323826501,84.34080213903745,71.54901960784314,7.3937017231134865,25.673796791443852,7.686295010490155,1.2756980392156856,597,18,121,7,11,196,98,153,0.156,0.8059999999999999,0.038,-0.9476,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,4,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,13,0,7,5,3,1,3,23,16,6,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,7,6,0,3,1,1,1,2,3,2,0,1,2,3,13,2,27,12,4,26,0,0,0,0,19,15,0,2,8,82,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988422646056888,0.0,0.0,0.1531165086648922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544654615014243,0.0,0.0,0.10398352158712894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767282212210798,0.09321204888530343,0.0,0.0,0.17227634264332142,0.0,0.13523579011723585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13171776429775922,0.16032242106579744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796361184673067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277360428771084,0.0,0.1354321941382406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977752578024304,0.0,0.08690184062951191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024918353624968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403491526504746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325522167075206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299979613932533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434949563542134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036152532701413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697876071135958,0.16558579791131955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454864935277614,0.0,0.1464447767277475,0.15556366132304025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274390885255078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4590589851840426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21645988357874452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411514203329925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17574666891230534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265456297599978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739904355999126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10862233159418834,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ap1nkcrustacean,2019/04/16,"Getting rid of the sour milk puke smell? Last Saturday night I fell asleep on our sectional sofa with my almost two year old.  Around 2am he decided to vomit EVERYWHERE.  Me, the dog, the blanket, and seemingly every single nook and cranny in the couch.  The next morning (after debulking the visible puke), I disassembled the sectional and took the upholstery tool from the carpet scrubber to everywhere I could possibly get to.  This included the cleaner that has an enzyme for pet smells. Then I used febreze and put an air freshener right next to the couch end.  The smell is better but definitely still there.  I’ve looked everywhere for more puke but no luck. I’m about to burn the couch.  Any input would be a lifesaver!",4.5870454545454535,7.122430583333338,5.0590909090909095,78.38363636363638,72.71212121212122,9.248484848484848,28.424242424242426,9.725611199111238,3.117078787878788,575,23,99,16,12,183,96,132,0.07,0.815,0.115,0.7466,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,16,0,5,3,1,1,0,15,12,7,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,2,6,1,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,5,7,2,15,8,4,21,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,3,11,60,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21124354985333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345839268311367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18779697735394904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18657484173772185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843246683296612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684580587453686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777408649283804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22043326370815694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719585889148172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771512414109548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487115724433627,0.19796940402196456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22136449986711698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23782298151924974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207064104163756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18015662599131727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19204786349475664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847100087163547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23438164044241197,0.0,0.0,0.20607490841461928,0.0,0.0,0.18219962172549625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14985821659191906,0.0,0.0,0.13584976901865845
parenting,middle-sister,2019/04/16,"Sharpie near the eye... So, my 6 year old is the crazy son that likes to keep me on my toes.  Less than 5 minutes after getting home from school, he comes up to me with red marker drawn around his eye like he's Spot the Dog.  He informs me it is Sharpie and we quickly use a very warm washcloth to clean it up.

Now, there's pink stained around his eye looking like a rash or like someone slapped the shit out of him.  I sent pics to his kindergarten teacher after his soccer coach approached me asking what happened.  

Anyway, my concern now is it being so close to his eye. I keep looking over thinking it looks irritated but its just stained.",3.500393700787398,5.064806637795275,3.39292125984252,93.35709842519688,73.1732283464567,5.39496062992126,28.44803149606299,4.935628992294339,0.739778582677165,501,20,105,1,10,151,87,127,0.043,0.8540000000000001,0.103,0.6753,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,10,6,1,0,6,0,4,7,7,1,0,16,16,5,0,0,3,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,7,8,0,2,2,2,0,3,0,1,0,0,1,10,16,5,19,14,1,19,0,0,9,0,14,9,1,1,11,64,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34702997256472856,0.18221849079678387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790134771068574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183463884088267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17236200725824755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19551486205680133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464974415236244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3809009833373549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4910365809358846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2045296931773942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972636037394492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007665306489344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16515019205127604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12489316639634103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16834331047174675,0.0,0.1608246503780441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551837170045485
parenting,crybabysagittarius,2019/04/16,"I can’t figure out my 2 year old. My daughter turns 2 on Friday. 

This has been going on since this most recent Christmas. She is EXTREMELY short fused. I’m beginning to think something may be wrong(my son never had freak outs like this) 

Let’s start in the morning. Now this is every. Single. Morning. The second she wakes up, she’s crying and screaming, I mean full blown tantrum. This is only stopped if I sit down with her and turn on the tv. If the tv turns on too slow, she freaks. If I turn on the wrong channel she freaks. I have another child (4) and I’m a stay at home mom. When she does this, I have to just let her cry so I can tend to him as well. 

When the afternoon rolls around, we’ve seen maybe 6 tantrums by now. She will tell me she wants juice/food, if I don’t move quick enough it’s a tantrum. Basically, if I don’t do what she wants- there will be a melt down. 

My ped has advised me to ignore the tantrums, try time out, eye to eye talking, but none of this works. She will have a full blown fit and throw herself onto the ground. I can’t sit around and watch TV all day, the house needs to be taken care of. Is this just the terrible 2s?! My son was such a different child and had maybe 2 melt downs his entire life. Help!",0.5130494505494525,2.6100185576923067,1.6014285714285703,100.12,84.57692307692307,4.791208791208791,18.131868131868128,5.985473137389443,-0.5342362637362639,955,23,229,7,28,299,151,260,0.101,0.835,0.064,-0.5394,1,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,0,0,0,1,14,14,4,0,15,0,28,4,3,0,2,32,46,16,0,8,8,4,0,1,0,4,1,1,1,2,10,12,0,2,3,4,0,3,6,11,1,1,6,5,31,3,28,31,7,44,0,0,4,0,25,22,0,7,17,145,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688662652224966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154441710446472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233749308835493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658415098208927,0.07803964962874989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264267953443989,0.0,0.0,0.1058942382973594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503281098631194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195380629870474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14632241713542402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687711947402187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110859238352004,0.0,0.12138011328367135,0.0,0.0,0.1396260912340764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474761726818657,0.08547098182530204,0.059118017961619224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24313604454410565,0.13181234281549542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14172219975182365,0.0,0.1286115301863667,0.0,0.08972532426943253,0.09332823199609536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126976727326919,0.0,0.0,0.09203144762117693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194800365452953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009842720722537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315727390002866,0.0,0.0,0.0856495368751922,0.12897760162670507,0.0,0.10116745868041374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726102400924276,0.1057656485056014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07753654390293925,0.0,0.0,0.07056028617611593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215596284342637,0.5264844520282972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14274639332055025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880002791183054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809470119421044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646048096262508,0.0,0.07792468570372389
parenting,GL_33,2019/04/16,"Huge tip: Cutting off pull-ups My almost 2 year old has begun potty training. We have had trouble with her going #2 in her pull-up style diaper. I just realized it's 100% easier to just cut them off rather than trying to get them off over her legs. A pair of scissors just found a permanent home above our toilet. 

Not sure if I am first to do this, but if I am spread the word.",1.5623508137432192,3.2362299367088596,3.3000361663652846,91.50405063291142,78.74683544303798,6.53960216998192,18.88065099457505,7.447530270364453,0.2862752260397832,291,6,65,4,7,97,63,79,0.083,0.8690000000000001,0.048,-0.1484,0,0,0,1,0,0,11.0,2,0,2,1,4,4,2,0,3,0,6,1,1,0,1,15,9,3,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,2,0,11,1,11,7,0,11,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,3,4,42,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682154796611302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127799099961887,0.0,0.4031827334235138,0.0,0.0,0.1921169663781996,0.0,0.20898205693066274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36885015361909695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3858571566095645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34656894029866586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496557195057353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23679770528278946
parenting,p_171980,2019/04/16,"Teaching an intellectually disable ( mild) child Any strategies that you can recommend? My son is 7 and half and he is in 1st grade.He is getting ABA and county help and i ( dad) spend lot of time with him on math and reading. 

He has come along a long way in reading and now just slightly behind the normal class.
But math is such a big struggle. He tend to forget simple stuff ( such as bigger smaller). I think his bain is wired differently for math..

If you know any resources/ apps that work very well ,please let me know.
If i can make him successful individual, i will consider that as the biggest achievement of my life!",3.8745378151260494,5.87461061344538,4.4207478991596645,84.56322268907564,73.11764705882352,6.776806722689076,27.026050420168072,7.554174236665415,1.4416547899159666,489,18,95,6,10,155,86,119,0.034,0.8320000000000001,0.135,0.9093,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,0,3,5,3,0,1,5,0,10,1,0,1,0,20,17,11,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,9,0,0,3,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,12,2,12,15,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,3,3,59,16,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962266281278785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18761775225016789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275574788329889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379292841327256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459885678839528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393973507919576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22271803130544865,0.1538404978514519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927485477398036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516807845728975,0.0,0.0,0.14538500263564846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21340041549468414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390819746742736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4357233083404906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276946863593864,0.24933199830110625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13955918442694196,0.0,0.0,0.1270025138597527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797100489171798,0.0,0.17288165622362234,0.0,0.0,0.1958307966371454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856296956425348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,noapnoapnoap,2019/04/16,"How do I protect the kids? Ex pumps the kids for information every time they get back from time with me.

The kids keep bringing it up and I'm not sure what to do about it. I ask her to stop interrogating the kids and that she should be asking me, not them, but she's convinced that she's privy to whatever she wants to know and that I'm telling the kids to keep the truth from her.

My position with the kids is that:

1. Parents should ask the OTHER PARENT for information, not the kids, but if a parent does:  
2. It's okay to remind that parent that they should be asking the other parent, but  
3. They can share whatever information they want, because telling your parent ""no"" is a really hard thing to do. 

Apparently she grilled my 10yo son to the point of him crying. She then started texting me that me putting pressure on our kids to lie to her caused our son started crying, because he thought I'd be mad about telling her something. She does NOT see that her grilling him is what's making him uncomfortable.

What more can I do? How do I help them?",4.096,5.213232790476192,4.591904761904765,87.07642857142858,71.09523809523809,7.504761904761906,26.857142857142854,7.793537801064563,1.3298000000000003,826,27,175,10,15,262,99,210,0.109,0.809,0.08199999999999999,-0.7912,7,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,2,1,6,0,5,7,1,1,13,1,16,0,0,4,2,32,34,10,0,6,8,9,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,8,17,5,0,4,5,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,2,34,5,21,27,1,12,0,0,1,0,54,3,0,1,7,118,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870011359928532,0.0,0.0,0.07957833009724978,0.0,0.12617452679401084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631395089508153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273604056215051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113165990133712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719578357175023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0540698706570825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270777048023884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936795715661839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839754336976248,0.0,0.0,0.056876046576280787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690811669723426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6894882551956139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09783261739714606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403722141016958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629910062307978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246907224760665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796725672930992,0.0,0.0,0.14650318122521686,0.0,0.0,0.08652326138522412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09753921337078436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2713675613856133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06875494210759409,0.0,0.0,0.08216043767573812,0.1206930798473098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208355989338635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HerbOliver,2019/04/16,"What to do for the 3rd wheel? I have twin 9 year-old-boys (""A"" and ""B""). We don't have a lot of kids in our neighborhood, but  ""C"" is a year older and very good friends with B. He is usually at our house every day after school. A and B get along great on their own, but whenever you add a third child into the mix they turn on each other. Initially when the boys would all start arguing, the only way to stop it and restore peace would be to send C home. ""A"" picked up on that, and started instigating fights knowing that C would get sent home. I stopped doing that, but now all I do is mediate arguments all afternoon. I'm tired of it.  

I've had talks with all of them about how to be kind. I've asked B and C not to leave A out and to try to include him. ""A"" likes to control his environment. He likes to decide what games to play, what the rules are, and he likes to change the rules when they don't suit him. I've pointed this out to him, but he is 9 and doesn't reason well.

""B"" gets cocky and confident when he has back up. He can be quite rude to his brother when he has an audience. 

""C"" is a good, respectful kid. He is rarely the problem, but he will side with B in an argument and it often comes off as two against one. 

I think A is just a little jealous that he isn't getting B's sole attention, which makes him overly sensitive to any slight. When the tables are turned and A is the one with the guest, it's the same outcome. 

Any advice for handling this dynamic? Should I just let them sort it out on their own, or is there a better way to mediate? How do you handle it when they're all 3 arguing, but they're all 3 in the wrong? I can't send C home anymore because that only punishes B & C and encourages A to be a little jerk.",2.133142857142857,3.127622194594597,3.787355212355212,91.44520270270272,75.70270270270271,7.5559845559845575,23.484555984555982,8.07648339933343,0.9631312741312741,1332,38,317,21,28,446,184,370,0.122,0.7070000000000001,0.171,0.9748,0,0,0,0,1,0,58.0,3,2,6,3,16,23,7,0,29,0,36,1,0,6,6,63,51,29,0,5,10,1,0,3,2,5,1,0,3,4,18,26,0,3,5,2,0,4,6,9,1,4,2,0,23,14,46,39,11,44,0,0,0,0,44,20,0,4,21,203,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042452782230028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243793164546772,0.0,0.15369086146779387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206790490089004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564188492789653,0.0,0.0,0.08689178412171975,0.0,0.06888514580820686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09994134054682972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11954143694916065,0.09734146505401783,0.0,0.0,0.12674167457420393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728771272004674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520930124044616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730528725854245,0.0,0.23615612556247356,0.0,0.0,0.18956191533911054,0.0,0.12458542125910205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400515249925897,0.0,0.0,0.1303894681713329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767449350816005,0.06210310212294672,0.0,0.0,0.11965310656334033,0.0,0.11555249543929863,0.0,0.16562162959434554,0.2265159583317199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607050410792764,0.0,0.0,0.07542990459967842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185768920404516,0.0,0.15314654950350154,0.1718866639365537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682368756101114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10812792815526466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019184282739395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618517238755205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436434818212687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599672018828487,0.0,0.0,0.1889499450567599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082695850236153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07240730320523411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987950654563488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07672113576752315,0.2458280794574425,0.11038681532944436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445605519518475,0.09323872201177508,0.0,0.17939191250232453,0.0,0.0,0.10160262778299063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.240820749228466,0.12355026233923293,0.0,0.14553953686626006
parenting,Reid_Ryan,2019/04/16,"Does a pool noodle really work? I just bought my 3.5 year old a big girl bed on Saturday and it's set to be delivered in a couple days.  Falling out of bed was never a problem with her toddler bed, but sure enough, I finally decide to get a big bed and now she falls out every night 🙄 I've seen on pinterest that putting a pool noodle under the fitted sheet can keep them in, had anyone tried it, does it really work? I know that they make guardrails, but I'd like to avoid something that large.
Thanks in advance!",2.4359047619047622,4.1745729714285735,3.6819047619047653,89.44476190476192,76.42857142857143,6.9523809523809526,22.142857142857146,7.793537801064563,0.8930000000000002,402,11,85,6,9,131,75,105,0.04,0.84,0.12,0.8493,0,1,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,2,3,2,5,0,1,7,0,4,0,0,1,2,16,11,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,6,5,0,2,2,2,1,4,1,2,0,0,4,1,8,3,13,6,1,24,0,0,1,0,5,11,0,0,9,46,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501440420579264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375943970350133,0.0,0.13848293211115947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758229229079914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218732446628776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091908540471494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522595797442875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11218743781551233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908616783867841,0.0,0.0,0.11800986133176328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049061151206038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433337833020606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561282985064127,0.0,0.0,0.20150933511099064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253227634127272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054673820066525,0.0,0.21586271921150305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751227675593442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530946126141666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20238025912820448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976943146695296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145787412925311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31265164779356913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382789263076949
parenting,shmeggt,2019/04/16,"Birthday Party Suggestions Thread [This post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Parenting/comments/bdv2p6/build_a_bear_birthday_party_update/?ref=share&ref_source=link) started a conversation around birthday party ideas.

Please provide your favorite birthday party ideas you've used with your kids that were a success.  Please provide the age and gender of the child along with the number of kids invited, the total cost, and the details.

Birthday parties can be stressful for everyone involved.  Let's share some successes!",12.80572072072072,16.840961013513514,8.036216216216218,59.413963963963965,53.729729729729726,9.798198198198197,43.414414414414416,10.125756701596842,5.627403603603604,441,23,44,9,6,118,55,74,0.04,0.599,0.361,0.9726,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,2,0,2,1,4,0,1,7,0,4,0,0,1,1,11,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,6,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,3,7,3,2,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,2,26,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26035791543904924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21391216723197148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296107443707576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.542524243633442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24571639223268174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5275402258226651,0.0,0.0,0.23013475732784902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008098169052066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2752554014567138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20753643909129044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,kultcher,2019/04/16,"Torn about my child's ""entrepreneurship"" So my 7-year-old and I were hanging out by the creek near our house, and suddenly she gets an idea which she immediately hard-commits to more so than she's ever committed to any idea: she wants to collect rocks from the stream bed to sell. So I try to explain basic commerce to her and that she'll probably need to do something different to really get anyone to buy them, and eventually my wife and I convince her to try making some art on them. We suggest paint but she doesn't have the patience, so she ends up taking markers, doing some quick doodles, and then decides to set up a little merchant stand in our drive way.

We've tried to impress on her that we're proud of her for having the idea and committing to it, but we're trying to teach to her that making money takes real effort. We've offered to help her make a more solid plan and work on her designs, but she doesn't have the patience. She seems to just want help on the sales angle (she's a bit shy) but I feel a little weird about it. Like, my own social anxiety aside, I feel like I'm just putting other adults in a weird situation of having to either buy some junk or disappoint a kid. And I also don't really know that any ""pity sales"" send the right message, either.

So I've been pretty hands-off, told her I'll go around with her to help her sell but she has to do the sales work, or we'd help her if she wanted to put some real time into the project. Now she's mad because we feel like we're not helping her and we're not proud of her. Am I being too uptight here? Should I just go all-in and help her despite my reservations, or is there a better way to send the messages we want to send about putting in real effort?",5.476488764044943,5.015857828651686,5.969415730337079,83.96856179775281,67.62359550561797,8.693033707865169,28.47415730337079,7.908726449838941,1.5919746067415717,1361,38,289,14,20,441,178,356,0.062,0.7809999999999999,0.157,0.9883,1,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,6,0,2,8,19,14,1,1,18,0,19,0,0,3,3,64,41,27,0,7,16,1,3,3,0,2,0,0,1,3,8,18,0,1,10,2,9,10,5,6,0,0,3,3,48,8,47,34,10,37,0,2,0,0,55,16,0,9,10,185,56,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674296541350686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051862370174408,0.0,0.07341276104776705,0.0,0.0,0.0671007753192316,0.0,0.0,0.08542896153077488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05849921289084034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487301128058908,0.10476863802630447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026272498871716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499627303456589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08680559859472659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14556796315591544,0.13711445440645947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027522844489116,0.0,0.10907794295664773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596555485106183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38593884169339293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073042188972916,0.0,0.3249975212158966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05273970969571543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065056922349178,0.19236375439364026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19217162114157807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115663643330764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069884835145616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763063735475884,0.1034662172948221,0.0,0.0,0.2894131986140593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276866397793343,0.12295493552839346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195336095489507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736269227400359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078683850203337,0.0,0.09782396412701308,0.0,0.07387834286468742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443070783529463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595780980392079,0.0,0.0,0.09169841856929352,0.0,0.2606150282086908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264099526946311,0.15234468269236373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972694276933034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179814422458053
parenting,grufallokoster,2019/04/16,"Should a 3 year old understand reasoning, Compromise and consequences? Hi all,

Dad to a 3 year old boy, who we (Mum and Dad) love very much. 

He’s quite stubborn, and we know that at this age, there are so many new feelings and stuff flying around his body.

We are getting a little concerned that he’s just not getting reason, compromise or consequences - as in ‘if you do x, y will happen. Or if you don’t do x, y will happen, etc.

He’s not well at the moment and needs to take some medication, but refuses to. We’ve tried to reason with him, to compromise with him, to explain the consequences of his actions, but he just doesn’t seem to get it. 

I just wondered at what age did your kids start to get these things? (I know these things are constantly being learnt even into adulthood!) It could be that I’m just expecting too much and need to adjust my expectations - I know every kid is different, just looking for some guidance from you lovely lot. 

TIA",4.052857142857143,5.491600430107528,4.7537941628264235,84.64354838709681,71.58064516129029,8.325038402457759,26.726574500768052,8.841846274778883,1.9265864823348693,744,25,149,14,14,239,114,186,0.019,0.905,0.077,0.9273,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,4,0,1,11,4,1,0,5,0,15,4,1,3,1,50,37,14,0,8,13,3,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,13,13,0,2,12,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,1,2,15,3,21,30,7,18,0,0,1,2,27,7,0,9,10,100,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822399724188902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475156563011905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435142858185469,0.0,0.10603343980757857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13875224408832704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481119173899075,0.08771599810074389,0.0,0.11189336389296227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714985240866966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775390949081826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23487683579728505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21895733654768215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13310481341085115,0.0,0.0,0.11152217767857237,0.0,0.0,0.1129054801944296,0.2397221601329429,0.0,0.0,0.13464273179364492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337863764796883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952529055962096,0.1969454348664411,0.0,0.12826323578813947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787115787536595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412537370953642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40963486561345097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090006135360915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09399957828706708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202916847525802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09985231780581752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17645857268669665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09016541294675508,0.0,0.0,0.13825397637850206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10957746895579897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194070290915423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14402061546868172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710432504725871
parenting,Throwawaytwenty91,2019/04/16,"AITA for breaking 8 year old sisters phone? I'm 30 years old and have an 8 year old sister who has been raised by my mum(single parent) and myself/other sisters. 

My 8 year old sister has a modern phone with internet access and she has been caught watching really inappropriate animated videos, she's also been using some apps which she talks to strangers on the internet. 

When I first found out about her watching inappropriate videos, it was explained to her that she shouldn't be watching those things at her age and was given a chance, we also started monitoring her activity on the phone. This was a few months ago and I found out she has continued to do so but has also started deleting her browser history, not only that she started chatting to strangers over the internet who are supposed to also be ""kids"". 
My mum suffers from mental illness and was brushing it off and was saying we can just give her another chance, but I flipped and said this was not ok and I snapped the phone in two Infront of my mum and my 8 year old sister and other sisters. And said she will not have access to a phone until I deem she is at a reasonable age in which I will buy her a new one.

Did I do the right thing or AITA?",9.538227848101265,6.817524531645574,9.23696624472574,71.05038607594938,61.06751054852321,11.842869198312235,38.88987341772153,9.888512548439397,3.689665316455695,962,36,182,14,10,313,122,237,0.046,0.936,0.018000000000000002,-0.8122,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,0,1,8,2,0,0,12,1,27,1,0,2,0,31,40,22,0,1,7,9,0,0,0,3,1,3,0,1,14,17,0,0,4,3,1,1,4,1,0,3,16,7,29,1,23,19,2,36,0,1,3,0,41,11,0,2,23,135,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142160409514216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659891293057167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11997364219026453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732096632055644,0.0,0.2508993190836189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975687155718326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11530296592769887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132461024463788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050229504801692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6002941708021255,0.0,0.07753026695458412,0.08701742862727181,0.0,0.0,0.12704382887312302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329689691329865,0.11763722343826402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977094091228594,0.2176688945356057,0.0909870504072753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24294964345255876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919620894129256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202389946707062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176640007240284,0.0,0.0,0.09881744445005723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683961271824047
parenting,blah6294820,2019/04/16,"New strict rule my mom is using on me, do you think it is effective? Lately I have been struggling with school and my mom has been really mad at me. She has decided that if I do not of A’s or B’s on my report card anytime during the quarter (online grades allow us to check them at any time) then get 0 video game time. I am 16 years old and school is extremely hard for me. I go to a really hard school and I do not have very much motivation to try and I am not very smart. To be clear, the rule is always in action and even includes the weekend, absolutely 0 phone or computer time. I am wondering if you people think that this is an effective rule or if it is something that is too strict and should be cut down a bit. Also if anyone has any points to bring up about this to maybe take up with my mom and try to fix the problem would be extremely helpful. Thanks!",1.6741483516483515,3.340642390109892,3.4341620879120884,90.70146291208792,78.39560439560441,6.967582417582418,20.715659340659343,7.8658589789855275,0.6769000000000003,673,17,152,11,16,225,103,182,0.08800000000000001,0.8079999999999999,0.104,0.6108,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,1,2,1,3,4,6,2,1,8,0,25,0,0,5,1,32,34,16,0,7,10,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,7,3,1,3,3,4,0,1,2,2,19,2,20,27,2,21,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,8,9,102,26,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633319791018457,0.11063871302841448,0.0,0.0,0.180843450214133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929732123785108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516489246935985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878230662711055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946946638214578,0.0,0.07556788060996453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382235898282857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912458840991525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14999191319415894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335826406353164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4671859916531659,0.0,0.0,0.0977456178980445,0.0,0.0,0.12841979685200292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952589026744194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218217348655497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125696245298085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12723090628392092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703633867042825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037073468629139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023640461478006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390053721263725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09997419984792298,0.0,0.0,0.12241761479088932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17039902577524865,0.0,0.0,0.2326013660968151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180550941858742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15994223134944469,0.11484029482099135,0.0,0.21942244348339746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441964103536111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445552966455856,0.0,0.0,0.08562601490452586
parenting,JAWarrell,2019/04/16,18 th birthday gifts to buy now I’m wondering what would be some good gifts to buy my son in the year of his birth that I can give to him later say on his 18th. An example I thought of was Victorinox do a limited edition Swiss Army knife for the year of the pig. What are some other things I could do like this?,1.2358706467661662,2.8750185820895524,2.678432835820896,95.74859452736321,79.59701492537314,6.854726368159205,21.61442786069652,7.793537801064563,0.6228129353233838,243,7,59,4,6,79,51,67,0.029,0.89,0.081,0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,12,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,2,9,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,6,38,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907017216560764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3492748919186273,0.0,0.3053871777785476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17787933808827944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28954444260411233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24188978012071555,0.0,0.0,0.28905224257051576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3948475211847381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586439680348704,0.0,0.0,0.4689328902303397
parenting,spdcbr,2019/04/16,"What makes someone a good parent?  I should preface this by saying that I'm 25 years old (not a parent) and have a pretty good relationship with my parents. However, my dad was incredibly strict growing up and I feel like it has affected the way I am as a person today. Beatings were very common and so was being yelled at. Punishments included being belted (very often, I've lost track of the number of times), being forcibly locked in the bathroom with the lights turned off, being locked in the balcony, being made to sit under the staircase, being made to stand alone in the dark on the upper floor of our house. The more I think about these, the more I feel like my dad was abusive. My dad would also frequently yell at the top of his voice and this was always upsetting.

I've always struggled with low self-esteem, a low sense of self-worth, social anxiety and I think all of this is rooted in my childhood. This has deeply affected my social and dating life as the thought that someone else could be physically/emotionally attracted to me has always seemed unfathomable. As a consequence I've missed out on several opportunities with women who in retrospect where clearly into me. I've also struggled with depression which I have recently sought help for.

That said, I do know that my parents care about me, but I feel like my childhood damaged and stunted me in many ways that makes me resent my parents. I feel like I was robbed of a childhood and would likely be a very different person today if my childhood was different.

I'm not entirely sure what my question is. I guess I'm looking for other people's opinions. Was this abusive? Is it wrong to cut out my parents from my life? How do I move on from this and make peace with my past?",6.589578313253012,7.034278198795185,6.7358072289156645,76.33660240963857,65.20481927710844,9.4110843373494,31.96144578313253,9.255337874911486,2.800610361445784,1390,51,247,23,20,446,169,332,0.134,0.7659999999999999,0.099,-0.9009,9,1,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,4,8,24,3,3,20,0,31,2,0,9,3,51,55,18,0,5,4,9,4,5,0,3,2,5,0,3,19,18,0,0,10,0,0,2,2,13,0,0,13,11,34,11,44,30,3,43,0,6,1,0,22,23,0,6,19,170,53,0,0.0,0.189071511616779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263632516215548,0.0,0.12761290037652034,0.1991700711673392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061037616356594014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134920324443624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370424098152874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06872130408773848,0.0,0.0,0.166722996257996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06665265192993737,0.08975078251150657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613728796303838,0.2280023076521989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384481010325594,0.0,0.0,0.0878954986131533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05348022746132206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09206466169977492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04384940875702337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127132752531514,0.19490197984821114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700184106554716,0.0,0.08709804827848844,0.0,0.0,0.15099470606476745,0.15977736729221068,0.0808925283208689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480203744619683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08372410444047687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5315709187819632,0.0,0.07616669260134043,0.05531496631732608,0.13933564172856067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117309991422511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938084193495717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787810433365106,0.08566247286958664,0.0,0.0,0.07589667760387682,0.06345063538473625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07263601612027917,0.16647261045021236,0.09013775102492462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16266767541901228,0.13520825962099564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16682352316674645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519926391504342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224988210586952,0.0,0.06334277489676693,0.04652503567798803,0.0,0.15125942581052826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678645326559689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750041593974427,0.0,0.1266640317491012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113358239326876,0.08723567374501122,0.0,0.05138086846066312
parenting,SolidBones,2019/04/16,"""I'm so proud of you!"" My kid is potty training. He's also a tape recorder. When he started going in the potty, I would cheer and clap and shout and say, among other things, ""I'm so proud of you!""

Now when he poops, he stands up, hugs me, and tells ME ""I'm so proud of you!""

Thanks for recognizing all my hard work, kid. I've changed a lot of diapers to get this far.",-0.1565506329113937,1.5964230126582315,1.8536550632911395,99.3612420886076,84.69620253164557,4.9626582278481015,17.469936708860754,5.985473137389443,-0.6464316455696202,274,6,70,2,8,91,52,79,0.016,0.745,0.238,0.9641,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,3,0,4,7,6,0,0,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,7,9,10,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,8,6,9,8,2,10,0,0,0,1,11,4,0,1,4,38,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28097244318538234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3716790340848237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835645506745994,0.0,0.199678862844483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31473831961201115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2987030529511078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794056085726955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248685546194142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30709317325931074,0.3234735434720593,0.0,0.0,0.23341964575211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557851411994899,0.0,0.0,0.24958716058400834,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Teachingempathy,2019/04/16,"Is there a good way to teach empathy? Worried that my son is becoming a d-bag. My son (10) doesn't have much empathy. He can not put himself in someone else's shoes and thinks it's stupid to get emotional about things. I can't recall the last time he cried or showed actual excitement about something. Even things like having to rush his sister to the hospital have zero impact on him. He carries on with his day like nothing happened. 

He hates fiction and only watches documentaries and reads factual novels. He has no interest in characters because he can't put himself in their shoes. 

If something doesn't directly affect him then he doesn't care. He asked why people were sad yesterday about the Notre Dame Cathedral and said that it was pointless to be sad about a building. When his brother was emotional after a playoff basketball game he told his brother that it's pointless to cry because crying won't give him other chance. When his sister was complaining about period cramps my son explained to her why she gets cramps and gave a detailed explanation about menstruation. It's like having a little mansplainer sometimes.

I want him to gain empathy but I'm not sure how to go about that.",5.983951793721973,7.599641237668163,5.984638452914799,76.97991732062782,67.11659192825114,9.162443946188342,32.77158071748879,9.516144504307137,3.2287132286995512,968,42,164,20,16,305,133,223,0.095,0.813,0.092,-0.409,1,0,2,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,1,1,12,13,2,0,9,0,19,4,2,2,2,18,34,12,0,2,5,7,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,11,6,0,0,2,4,0,4,9,5,0,1,7,2,19,8,23,25,1,20,0,2,1,0,38,6,0,2,12,100,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.13307687324881962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748699041978115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625905396727866,0.1506093000380191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13903770267989898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4493861824815159,0.08794698829511081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391914403900748,0.30679446427096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007070958916301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14249477722640236,0.1308179647895864,0.07750187869411744,0.11438019163178965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059101945132725,0.0,0.0,0.1346365603487329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115927064449056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998696172433327,0.136677974978738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002472076769728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085012740078072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371508182348314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09454137881925742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741778463299162,0.0,0.0,0.13640631412708987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971853778791248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155453590895269,0.2099676694158806,0.13487283406776035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852655565108018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18119555382277375,0.08738001197487409,0.0,0.0,0.07951809999085901,0.0,0.0,0.13030681583763165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043421159791297,0.10824369068281747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461043643733796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848975602131558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,80lady,2019/04/16,"Just saw a post in r/showerthoughts that really got me thinking . “Every child is trained by their parents for a world that is 1 generation out of date”. I’d like to think I’m fairly current but I’m 10 years older than my parents were when I was born and always felt that they were out of touch so I am likely even worse.  How have you felt outdated or stayed in the loop? 

The biggest things  that come to mind for me is the prevalence of social media and the shifting of sexual norms.",3.8813265306122453,4.945239581632652,4.5597959183673495,87.30663265306124,71.55102040816327,7.2326530612244895,25.22448979591837,7.447530270364453,1.0753918367346935,381,11,79,4,7,122,72,98,0.045,0.936,0.019,-0.5267,4,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,2,0,5,2,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,1,0,14,17,7,0,0,3,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,4,8,2,14,10,0,15,0,0,1,0,7,6,0,1,8,50,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822112698977968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18863433142701025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14463610424921286,0.0,0.18450249207938213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.420515745763776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514058609822666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139679142288382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211102490742863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4863090703553626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20972503364518755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14028601827420226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22322543393970531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334065768258735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454824722251203,0.2806307306546624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2231622279048053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101777293843235
parenting,singing_iguana18,2019/04/16,Cutting back on work in the summer because of child care? Finding full time child care for two elementary school kids for the whole summer is tough and super expensive.  I'm thinking about cutting back on hours or trying to work more during evenings/on the weekend so I can stay home with the kids instead of pay so much for child care. Has anyone ever done this?  How do you all weigh the costs of care vs. the need to go to work?,4.548745098039213,5.699260835294119,4.372647058823528,88.94524509803922,70.05882352941177,6.6078431372549025,25.93137254901961,6.42735559955562,0.8203725490196083,341,10,69,2,6,104,59,85,0.061,0.759,0.179,0.9365,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,4,8,8,2,0,6,0,5,1,0,1,2,10,13,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,2,1,0,2,1,3,1,0,3,0,1,1,0,2,5,14,12,5,14,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,8,43,3,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11606989413963885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552849433383943,0.0,0.10119104310179212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6769854551163176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16987392812612928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15015499585040082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517194691173274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434067811969844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16650986275116378,0.0,0.1634749202611917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202787482324205,0.1230856606179877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16799917530010106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17693213627710466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636502911564504,0.0,0.0,0.0967949629393568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11270197174127128,0.0,0.1621562509132496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853312107361786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625462905279574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,startingover1218,2019/04/16,"Passing along bad news to children. I have three rather small children ranging in ages from 4 to 9.  Ex and I recently went through a divorce in the past two years.  Tremendous upheaval in the kids lives.  And then yesterday I pretty much received a death sentence from my doctor.  On the ourside I probably have a three year time span.  Going for 2nd opinion, but outlook not so good.  Does anyone have experience with how I might want to pass this information along to my kids?

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Ex is a real piece of work...already remarried, has desperately tried to replace me in their minds and lives, and would rather they not be able to input what is going on here...but in the end 100% of their lives will be spent with them going forward.

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The reality of this hasn't sunk in yet, but I just cant get around how I might want to tell my kids about this or to prepare them.",4.897583826429983,6.1744003313609515,4.914334319526628,84.91319773175546,69.35502958579882,7.52682445759369,30.059664694280077,7.793537801064563,1.855709664694281,692,27,135,8,12,215,107,169,0.07400000000000001,0.888,0.038,-0.8399,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,0,0,5,0,9,2,0,0,9,0,14,1,0,2,0,29,22,11,1,5,8,2,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,5,4,9,0,0,1,0,1,8,4,1,0,3,2,1,16,1,29,14,2,29,0,0,0,0,16,12,0,4,11,94,20,1,0.13600224496255792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008185922624215,0.0,0.0,0.2947167511915875,0.33051522763406754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509593188752223,0.0,0.0,0.1210708321670307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11355619372616868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13920406062773572,0.11901648106969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204576214318604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303629235812647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105555970728165,0.0,0.2318796299555603,0.11407223049178618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36027742193571793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885537792974358,0.13732349753023734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999772986663484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12982953179154716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13836317681656635,0.14663342272452076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15480032944803365,0.0,0.0,0.1342858094674411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887195663887495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930400273874977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233659690775296,0.0,0.13285443142931366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604352955511597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607544362847775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901125411166203,0.0,0.0,0.09661209272636484,0.0,0.33051522763406754,0.17516197349426638
parenting,jenimurph,2019/04/16,"Living in hell after abuse I married a man I was friends with for ten years. He was always a bit on the wild side in the “mountain man outlaw hippie” kind of way. Shortly after our relationship turned romantic I became unexpectedly pregnant. I was only a couple of months along the first time he hit me. In retrospect it was textbook abuse. It got worse and worse with me thinking if I tried harder he would go back to the way he used to be. Shortly after our daughter was born he shoved me off the back of his motorcycle in a fit of rage because I was anxious to get home to our baby. I fractured my skull and have impaired hearing on my left side to this day. And then of course, I became pregnant again. I barely survived that pregnancy. Between the abuse and the depression I was at the darkest point of my life. After I had our son things continued. The mental abuse was even worse than the physical abuse. I would wake up in the middle of the night and he would be choking me. You got to the point that it didn’t matter who is around if you became angry he would be physically abusive. After he did it in front of my grandmother it was like a lightbulb went off and I left him. I thought that meant that I would be free. I assumed we would share custody because he had always been pretty good to the kids. That was 11 years ago. He instead uses the kids to torture me and they suffer immensely from it. I continue to live in hell. I have no freedom and I’m powerless to help our kids. My ex husbands mental health has been spiraling for years. He has lost all his teeth, shed about 100 lbs, and has persistent delusions that I’m hiding in the bushes outside his house, or having relations with his neighbor, etc. he sued me repeatedly for custody but doesn’t show up for more than half of his visitation time. He calls my phone 10 plus times daily and spews abuse. He has been arrested for harassment and for stalking. I have had 4 restraining orders, all of which were violated. He’s brainwashed our children and my youngest son has been expelled, and hospitalized as a result. He calls children and youth on me at least once a month (the calls are ALWAYS deemed to be unfounded). He has literally ruined our lives, and there is nothing that can be done to stop it. The judge, the social workers, the teachers, principals, guidance counselors, hospital staff, and mental health counselors are always very kind. They are sympathetic and supportive. But powerless to help us. I’ve spent the last 11 years since I escaped trying to make a better life for our kids. I’ve worked my butt off, holding multiple jobs and I went to grad school and am making a decent living. Financially I’m struggling more than I ever have due to the legal fees and costs of trying to help the kids through this medically. As well as paying sitters to be available for all the times he “no- shows”- the costs add up. He constantly tells the kids and myself that I go to work because I’m a terrible mother, and yet he hasn’t worked in 10 years and pays no child support. As a matter of fact I send food with the kids when they do go to see him because he “can’t afford to feed them “. I’m terrified while they are over there, there have been so many alarming incidents while they were visiting. He’s accidentally shot himself. He’s somehow exploded a truck.  Our youngest was hit by a car. And yet children and youth can only say “it’s obvious he isn’t right but we can’t put our finger on what’s wrong”. It’s like I have no basic human rights. I just feel hopeless.",3.5373271923360328,5.538055610144934,4.328118398427908,84.862052321297,74.05797101449275,7.112748710390568,26.477523949889463,7.949061565357697,1.6211289609432582,2801,102,539,42,59,898,317,690,0.161,0.767,0.07200000000000001,-0.9967,4,0,0,0,7,1,68.0,13,2,6,9,18,27,6,2,40,0,65,12,5,5,6,70,95,41,0,8,7,6,2,2,2,6,5,2,2,14,23,35,2,3,5,2,7,11,10,15,1,3,32,5,71,13,87,48,8,89,2,5,1,1,92,35,3,5,42,350,94,13,0.0,0.5060481045977879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05408595791917016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030768774457395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892938122243182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054316127111797945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383326317081864,0.0,0.1487762756977618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053962651382773084,0.06661238248011145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18690886413965654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593534623034322,0.0,0.0,0.06751173957301143,0.0,0.039349512297707334,0.0,0.05255197643278841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06243934638397651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06804765461670485,0.04029971421817327,0.055191399295991324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030850927088053638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518991760781933,0.07377936446269591,0.0,0.04713989980950915,0.0,0.03187772598883354,0.0,0.10402838759650176,0.051176337524220135,0.09759825327707296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12971180434490212,0.06876813835829934,0.0,0.12269084633111695,0.0,0.061202840902983266,0.0,0.0,0.07040291211240934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060547795690360874,0.0,0.0,0.12707509495231936,0.0,0.049735223138649816,0.0,0.0,0.13258556437709906,0.0,0.08619314582859995,0.059617519706029534,0.0,0.2155088212424704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660488535882818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145573440334243,0.06185945244111661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06146601367089331,0.18446576798186531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974028969615298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05725827680835033,0.0,0.058545366898025225,0.0,0.0,0.06497879368896775,0.0,0.0928090425103904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535745627858653,0.0,0.0,0.062074008785142624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133674810850642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550708423212402,0.0,0.10421264852345358,0.0,0.04852143508695517,0.0,0.06175025687871823,0.04862091319462337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047209093210498,0.0,0.0,0.062196926837144124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05101112291521842,0.0,0.06378593926783338,0.0,0.0,0.13847779297243962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05332964341004592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040535536302358524,0.039095834006748695,0.0,0.0484389529237157,0.14231293255801356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427517623220187,0.06636660504690124,0.0,0.0,0.07339331782042592,0.10539443129280432,0.0,0.05034361780387699,0.0,0.09686145074986137,0.0,0.0,0.05485965219826242,0.11312270179746073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13325855040976686,0.0,0.18653794753816008,0.26005907195660805,0.06671012914558784,0.0,0.19645772328429545
parenting,pawsywawsy2,2019/04/16,"My 6 year old can’t do a thing alone. My 6 year old is a lovely, bright boy who is excelling everywhere but playing by himself.   I don’t feel like I’m asking too much of him.

When told to play alone, he will either a) follow me or b) need a prop - like sticker book or some other activity.  

I don’t really know what to do with him.   I remember being alone for hours and hours when I was a kid.

Am I asking too much?",0.6276666666666664,2.083362377777778,3.2197222222222237,92.01625,80.7777777777778,6.277777777777778,19.027777777777786,7.1686216300943375,0.14977777777777754,314,7,75,4,8,110,60,90,0.07200000000000001,0.723,0.205,0.8979,0,3,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,4,7,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,0,0,11,20,6,0,1,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,2,11,7,6,16,4,9,0,0,1,1,11,0,0,3,10,49,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.551948738120269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332141451396873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982082748723108,0.12690704899872673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34988198440810403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762706567306258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17357322642033168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032829572822313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611737318974876,0.131718844457597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728095257986617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138016272265604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20123307286757636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801705027938728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16974396680282974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287904700080914
parenting,undercookedricex,2019/04/16,"I’m Proud Of Myself. So, since I was 7 years old I’ve had a panic disorder. And that panic disorder, involved me having a very serious phobia of vomit. 

When other people have anxiety attacks, it’s usually that they’re going to die or something is seriously wrong. Well, my panic attacks revolve around puking. When I panic, I get nauseas. 

From the age of 7 up I have not been able to deal with vomit, can’t hear it, can’t see it, won’t talk about it. When i was in elementary school and one of the other kids threw up I had to call my mom screaming and begging to pick me up. 

I’m aware that vomit isn’t deadly. And that no one likes puking, i get that. But for some reason for my entire life, it’s been a subject of sheer paralyzing panic for me. 

I’ve always wanted kids and I knew that one day I’d have one, and that kid would eventually throw up. And I would be the person dealing with it. I just hoped and prayed it wouldn’t happen often and I’d be able to handle it. 

Well, It’s happened, a lot. My daughter is 4 and a half now and throughout her life she has gotten tummy bugs, food poisoning, and thrown up everywhere multiple times while I’m home alone with her as a single mom. 

This weekend has been one of those weekends. There’s a tummy bug going around and she’s woken up 2 nights in a row with her bed covered in vomit. 

5 years ago I would’ve, quite literally, freaked out about this situation. But seeing her sick, and needing my help, pushes every single bit of fear and panic to the back of my mind and I’m able to deal with the situation so well. I’m able to get her cleaned up, clean up the sheets, everything else, fix her a bucket (just in case) and make sure that first and foremost, she’s okay and as comfortable as she can be. 

And i’d just like to say i’m proud of myself. And i’ve come a long way with this phobia. And i think i’m doing really good. 

The love you have for your child will always outweigh anything else. 
And that’s such a beautiful realization to come to.",1.8962626791440367,3.7011785569007287,3.7632432432432417,87.9630325240495,78.20096852300243,6.498763169949611,21.08952293698057,7.432916251226849,0.6499575813101237,1556,41,330,21,37,525,196,413,0.17,0.726,0.104,-0.9786,0,1,1,0,1,0,51.0,0,2,0,4,21,28,3,7,18,1,29,10,0,3,1,57,58,35,2,6,7,3,0,2,0,5,8,3,4,5,24,34,1,0,3,2,0,7,7,15,3,7,11,5,35,13,51,39,5,42,1,0,2,1,30,15,0,5,21,213,59,1,0.2970011937528277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06581840955882044,0.0,0.0,0.07690091646360496,0.0,0.0,0.1235643927359616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05680127507322435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061101669079206014,0.13219701517484445,0.0,0.1689408671891512,0.0,0.057093896301580765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08106209523582825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0758178563864511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279201150675613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047885299918712806,0.2296463921103832,0.0,0.0,0.07706008716854867,0.0,0.17019454950873034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405319350984932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625590788233019,0.0,0.06673138054937895,0.0,0.0,0.0835522285547136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06315726592075628,0.08978375559978817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637814909772935,0.0,0.08439631140246394,0.06227762754841917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313185873870602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368548268717843,0.0,0.04976840991401179,0.0,0.07447910333280985,0.07374729991851015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489036325820833,0.07254989057893173,0.0,0.0,0.06570917759718269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312494851636442,0.06701379326568012,0.0,0.04956265077051953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497163504180088,0.1739221042775077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0550556554698151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696788752310987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791319796630837,0.0,0.2515696191727813,0.0,0.0,0.5227003625803462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147580795260113,0.06483249662872198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897433203892312,0.0,0.0,0.047566642467067856,0.07634167316421876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059046817506822766,0.0,0.07514526605371075,0.11833574927341058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142061414949757,0.16692089282019482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057161507279104476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06998002756182217,0.0,0.0,0.05967957733331411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04757659314355592,0.0,0.0,0.043295946124401394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177621372653494,0.06126427233183671,0.043794749777752086,0.058936430833336974,0.0,0.0,0.20027980619493926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15823584499609994,0.08118104533505639,0.0,0.09562951560509267
parenting,SpiceyMama,2019/04/16,"I wanted/needed this yet here I am all emotional... I stay at home with my 2 kids full time and work a part time gig a few days a week. We dropped them off at my MILs for 2 nights so we can get some stuff done and also have a little break. I was excited for the quiet yet here I am crying because I miss them. I’m sleep deprived and have pretty severe depression so I thought I would feel a little better having more time for myself, wrong. Anyone else relate?",1.4186458333333327,3.2910844062500004,3.0741666666666667,92.02083333333336,79.9375,5.516666666666668,17.958333333333332,6.42735559955562,-0.16392916666666668,357,7,77,3,9,118,67,96,0.181,0.736,0.083,-0.8503,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,2,2,7,6,0,0,6,0,9,1,1,0,1,11,14,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,15,2,7,10,6,17,0,3,0,0,5,6,0,1,8,55,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480265238897398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294280780954046,0.189659541343536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11283685856883605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16370825344350182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20332657141762087,0.11937589734828602,0.0,0.1594286428921156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18942427921430527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462951385182544,0.20821556930942986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359346253898873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670849581435606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18567305225492453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37104297093344535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725127099473156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17370629965880474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004481339415481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18831594263910445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20911330932986733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18523633087285787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972947982886057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2118982510628062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469508294825004,0.3238045347267648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847818217551698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347569351825197,0.0,0.0,0.13149161309169674,0.20238069200767675,0.0,0.0
parenting,ke49128,2019/04/16,"Remarried with a new baby, how do I explain to my 5 and 3 year old? A little more background, I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old from a previous marriage. My ex-husband and I were divorced shortly after our second child was born. It was a slightly messy divorce, mainly because of custody. A year and a half ago, I married my best friend whom I've known since I was in college, and we had a baby in February. Everything's going well, and my children love him so much. They've started calling him daddy and that's rubbed my ex the wrong way. 

​

My children spend every other weekend with their dad. They've asked if baby will be coming with them. They can't seem to grasp the baby doesn't have anything to do with their dad. Then my kids started telling me about how dad doesn't want them calling my husband daddy, and that they only have one daddy. 

​

I'm not sure how to explain the situation to them in a way they'll understand. I also feel like I should speak to my ex, but I don't want him to threaten to go after more custody when we have a good arrangement right now. How do I explain in a healthy, easy to understand way?

​

Thank you!",3.8721934197407775,4.989361932203392,4.7741176470588265,85.56051345962115,71.62711864406779,6.9088733798604185,29.984047856430717,7.048011613610866,1.6686717846460617,920,38,182,8,17,299,124,236,0.05,0.8340000000000001,0.117,0.9499,0,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,3,1,8,1,10,9,0,0,15,0,20,1,0,4,1,35,38,18,0,4,3,6,2,1,1,3,0,1,0,4,5,15,0,0,9,1,1,3,5,1,1,3,5,3,34,8,22,29,5,31,0,0,0,1,39,7,0,2,19,124,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09147567128351317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252458039980977,0.0,0.33543349548974505,0.3761777288519753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492025609595448,0.0,0.09647289924851617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629063911138111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10829622970356566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21074618346800125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0888928984679581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08694579174122348,0.0,0.09274453564507264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052178224694032126,0.0737221500086209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07972779156018257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172955908710226,0.08655462543264701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050415605502608436,0.10342796913000998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09313703818312873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585980917991048,0.0,0.0,0.0996658622003627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248557113543101,0.0,0.06992724358616467,0.07848404457868507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812751356056593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394436980201648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853635319909974,0.11599490799245865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608315405243108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972595667468322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019651528655376,0.09500760338927113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21485816529924395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173354420037,0.2457329010076947,0.0,0.0,0.09278422171455017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282695323844112,0.3761777288519753,0.2658154213427281
parenting,Sartevscamus,2019/04/16,"Toddler Ear Infections My son had an ear infection on 4/2. Gave him pennicilin twice a day for 10 days. 
School called today because his eye started oozing. He has pink eye and an ear infection. 

Not sure of the last ear infection didn't clear up or he got a new one. Doctor said the ear infections are chronic if he has 6 in 6 months. 

He had pink eye and an ear infection on New Year's as well. 

I had terrible ear infections when I was a kid, my doctor at one point considered the tube surgery when I was 6. I havent had one since childhood. 

So, I was wondering if anyone has experience in this. Is it common for an ear infection to not go away or come back this quickly? He had the pennicilin exactly as prescribed, so I'm concerned that it came back/didn't go away so soon. 

Is it odd for him to have pink eye two in 4 months? 

He attends preschool Monday through Friday, so in guessing that increases his risk for all kinds of contagious bugs. 

They prescribed a different, stronger antibiotic (once a day, 2.5 mg orally). 

He has been acting normal, not showing any signs of ear pain. No fever. No lack of appetite. So besides the oozing eye (which he's not even itching) he seems pretty okay. 

I'm a first time parent so I don't have any experience. He has a doctor's appointment in the morning so I want to have a list of questions/concerns prepared so I don't look like a stumbling moron. 

Also worried I may be overreacting. His last pediatrician said it was normal for him to stuff like ear, foot and mouth, etc every few months because his immune system is building up. 

I was sick A LOT as a kid, so I don't him to go through what my parents put me through. I want to make sure there's nothing I'm overlooking and that I ask the doctor the right questions. 

I switched his pediatrician this month so tomorrow is his first appointment with his new doctor. His last office still hasn't sent his records (I asked for them on 4/2, they said they have 30 days to send them). So it's very possible the new doc won't have a lot of his records. 

Thanks and sorry if this was long. I hate seeing him getting sick, but I definitely might be overreacting.",2.8273054114158604,4.844717119718312,4.016847047195451,86.23096367679764,76.15962441314554,7.301111934766495,26.703484062268352,8.20500826718156,1.7463014084507051,1687,66,342,30,38,550,200,426,0.084,0.87,0.045,-0.8607,3,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,0,0,5,2,21,13,2,1,25,1,38,37,18,1,5,38,66,28,0,8,10,3,0,2,0,3,20,13,0,2,15,8,0,0,3,1,0,11,13,5,1,7,20,23,41,8,39,41,7,59,0,0,10,0,45,15,0,13,34,209,56,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433854276311056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10942212106569243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625487729139053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15042610877173807,0.0,0.15117720677921598,0.12372737365094695,0.0,0.09808727327399347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215190111557114,0.09201723919288443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930346718164895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20754310983208205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840566634931888,0.0,0.4117372422586287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08972679095156927,0.053138701891047135,0.0,0.06778544662588926,0.0,0.0,0.15739769627074754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13686721603432195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04203357297062975,0.0,0.13717053790431036,0.0,0.06434592138668993,0.0,0.08862847375966028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943106118115993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08377981977602587,0.0,0.1967407397636791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786109199184771,0.0,0.0,0.07119871383377595,0.0675605805351007,0.0,0.0,0.1367971814452041,0.0,0.0,0.05370325908941058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534832733719784,0.0,0.0,0.2568684967313759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3108095215333007,0.0,0.0,0.1576544704795957,0.07719719256205584,0.0,0.0,0.08568022910497024,0.16355188708546073,0.0,0.08560807381998489,0.0,0.17866792562387834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605445347467249,0.09069910302663818,0.0,0.08185001586260511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087787310497495,0.09012620360587202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06870675103530909,0.22958877777344935,0.0,0.0,0.0814231206258546,0.06411093135629399,0.0732417399104333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655187129464768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006097747575142,0.056945319857658265,0.0,0.06425017703270411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209987730028467,0.0,0.0,0.15165272610770147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407066747709701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04691301566991464,0.0,0.07626040162962072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07859126662235423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06638246822580808,0.09490698166892553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233725500453772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724826391151225,0.0,0.08170431757169112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518093420478415
parenting,kungfukarl86,2019/04/16,My 10 week old son screams in his car seat in car rides and gets so sweaty anyway to help him enjoy the car? He'll sit in his car seat just fine if we take him in a walk in the car seat that straps into the stroller.  He likes movement and is generally a happy baby.  Whenever we get in the car he screams though and most of the time he'll scream all the way to our destination which heats him up and makes him sweat.  Sometimes he has a diaper but most of the time he's just screaming for no apparent reason.  For anyone who's been through this got any advice?,4.59970695970696,4.491021888888891,5.048229548229546,88.6392307692308,69.42735042735042,8.395115995115995,26.115995115995126,7.957251820313856,1.1431328449328455,439,11,101,5,7,140,75,117,0.096,0.825,0.079,-0.4606,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,10,0,3,1,1,2,1,17,10,8,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,9,1,4,0,0,2,4,10,4,15,6,3,23,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,3,5,57,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689109551796253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871375733939859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924181532099356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28754920011394164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200933315645764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929432077004511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844530082236383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444316974061266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836904181981133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887639723680088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829395452315116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27216840019101396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206907456580737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703712415960354,0.0,0.32092918059196485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2184317718801133,0.2207395646029897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SexxxyWesky,2019/04/16,"Hi! My mom was looking for a smartwatch/phone for my younger siblings that only allows her to text / call them Similar to the firefly phones from way back, my mom was looking for a way to keep in contact with my siblings but without them being able to text / call others. 

Please help! Thank you",3.5987500000000026,5.811859946428572,3.5280000000000022,89.71700000000001,74.53571428571428,5.194285714285715,29.057142857142853,5.6839178017228535,1.1483542857142863,231,10,43,1,5,70,39,56,0.0,0.8290000000000001,0.171,0.8843,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,7,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,1,11,4,0,4,0,0,2,0,12,1,0,0,1,29,10,0,0.2162239206771155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626284829460114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44157759658989537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493033622523613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19218975558685905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631472719656054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5064776852121834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644480350979741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373489340787255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906993555957006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34325696767684266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20843214356413636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,honeycomas,2019/04/16,"how to explain my sister’s drug addiction/arrest/erratic behavior to her two kids (7 and 4)? my sister (34) has struggled with addiction on and off for about 10 years now. she has 3 children, two boys, 14 and 4, and a daughter who is 7. the kids have seen so much. their house was essentially a drug den with people coming and going at all hours of the day and night. their mother wasn’t 100% neglecting them but she was obviously not fully present and has spiraled so far down into a heroin addiction very quickly and we really don’t know what the hell these kids have witnessed. we had no idea how bad it really was until last night when we got the call that federal marshals had invaded her house with guns drawn and arrested her and her boyfriend. they seized MASS QUANTITIES of oxy’s, cocaine, heroin, xanax, and fentanyl. they had been watching them for the last month. we knew this was coming and we’ve been trying to help her and protect the kids but efforts have been fruitless until now and i’m kind of glad this all finally happened. anyway, she’s currently in jail along with her piece of shit boyfriend. the kids are safe in their home with my dad staying with them at night and my boyfriend and i coming by during the day. they’re happy and enjoying all of the extra attention. we’re trying to navigate all of this chaos as calmly as possible but we also have no idea how to communicate what’s going on to the two smaller kids. how much do they need to know? clearly we need to validate that there’s something happening. i’m not sure of the correct words to use or their level of understanding. they know mommy is with the police and she is in trouble. any suggestions? i know therapy and cps and all of that is coming in the future but i would really like them to hear some comforting words from a family member that they love and trust.

tl;dr: sister is a drug addict and got arrested. how can i explain what’s happening to her kids?",3.729553100263853,5.716917340369395,4.596344821899739,83.20409506926121,73.48548812664906,8.009267810026385,25.827918865435358,8.751876143730069,1.973744656992084,1548,53,293,31,32,500,185,379,0.127,0.755,0.118,-0.5948,1,0,5,1,0,0,39.0,6,0,13,1,15,17,2,1,18,0,28,9,1,6,9,82,55,40,0,3,7,6,0,1,0,1,7,1,2,9,13,41,0,3,11,0,0,6,6,6,0,3,15,3,38,11,48,39,10,41,1,1,2,1,53,14,2,2,21,203,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045249828907121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07446346945967597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06332091480676108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774654838900398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508010777143527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208388869440956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010203648417422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32394906714826943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777987200388414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200216068501734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105838001311415,0.0,0.14894401850766587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24702199527073898,0.09912190033033584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049465797640702,0.0,0.06241255033798121,0.0,0.09340123170336574,0.0,0.09169882583966088,0.2148827933404743,0.0,0.2102294142108735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696421123802967,0.20469272935069008,0.15180115928132334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04549094200112054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403928823041996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432294329362947,0.0,0.1368994439406597,0.1380861423677098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26214437925796513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06455372917440665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10497237889131128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895420845355187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558048751260112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168393478143989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09924745107072544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09734328023131553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775912271261607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10648431331070984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264369906035381,0.0,0.2728774136280107,0.09693526675574073,0.0,0.08042085589644454,0.0,0.07682904652643997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614572482260225,0.0,0.0,0.05996255422678514
parenting,beyondthemombun,2019/04/16,"Should we quit T Ball?? My son is 5, in PreK, is very shy and timid, and has a moderate speech delay. We signed up for tball for the first time this year after he said he wanted to try it. I was afraid it would take awhile for him to be comfortable because he's SO shy, but it has literally been a disaster since day 1. He does ok while batting or running the bases, although he doesn't pay attention and has to be told when and where to run. While in the outfield he plays in the dirt, picks up sticks, sits on the ground or just blatantly wanders off. We have practice 3 days a week for an hour and a half each and haven't even had a real game yet. I have to drag my 19 month old along with me to practice, only to yell across the field at my kid to pay attention, stand up, put the stick down, etc the whole time (while also chasing my toddler). I know he's 5 and its probably to be expected,  but he's one of only three 5 year olds on the team, the rest are 6 (some turning 7 in the summer) and have been playing for 2-3 years already. I feel like he's not a good fit skills wise for this team, but there's not much to do about that. I've asked him if he's having fun and he tells me no, he thinks it's boring. He has a scrimmage game tonight and he says he doesn't want to go. I hate the idea of just quitting and not finishing what we started. But I also feel it's such a waste of time if he's not having fun and I'm just spending and hour and a half yelling at his to pay attention 3 days a week. I have 2 kids and a husband that works long hours, we could put that time to much better use. 

Any suggestions? Advice? Confirmation that its ok to quit? 😂",2.8421218487394952,3.2260731876750732,3.994443277310925,92.91838760504204,73.42577030812325,7.4065826330532225,24.118697478991603,7.333567415737692,0.6578142857142852,1276,33,312,13,24,417,189,357,0.11,0.789,0.101,-0.5122,0,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,5,0,0,9,13,15,1,2,24,2,27,0,0,2,1,59,43,31,0,8,15,2,2,1,0,2,0,5,0,2,14,23,0,1,8,7,4,5,8,4,0,5,6,7,21,11,41,31,7,55,0,0,0,0,38,17,0,5,32,183,35,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10914723858990637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232584101936299,0.17864519248345664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07595655356891569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044199169034976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808834588750175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878531116939912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917951365872734,0.0,0.0,0.21610245514737866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977452059770672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124569652591328,0.07377361391755106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295287959963872,0.0797950599371645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500786427177768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347894562776507,0.09368461884832777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11027586734533228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299917633069243,0.0,0.0,0.12609026425945574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06138475063705628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054568623709138314,0.0,0.0,0.09884672073037884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891540281897392,0.0,0.1642176203386626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23441060753487825,0.0,0.07568754563650433,0.16989843732270227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042629708517545,0.0,0.0,0.2245690155229169,0.0,0.3564047228733393,0.0,0.12713356966381795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10624769548685917,0.08882449139592942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239540831179187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07905842431386405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398087580464436,0.0,0.09762651174134647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156976221180956,0.0,0.0,0.2605214341017547,0.0,0.0,0.10672953245599273,0.0,0.07583369633223222,0.12149228332593925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09646877445782112,0.0,0.09216022235217536,0.131761423869164,0.0,0.17919027440039415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12470368121080196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08131542237016126,0.0,0.0,0.07934505220234574,0.0,0.0,0.21578410432738288
parenting,cookiepukie,2019/04/16,"Extracurricular Activities for 5 Year Old I live in a fairly competitive area, where most parents are very involved and sign up their kids into different extracurricular activities (especially sports) throughout the year. The kids in the neighborhood are mostly doing two sports at a time (usually tennis, golf, lacrosse, soccer). Most moms in our neighborhood are stay-at-home, so they have the flexibility to accommodate these activities. I have a full-time job, so I know it will be a challenge to get my 5 year old into more than 1 ongoing activity at a time, unless he can excel in a sport where he can only devout weekends for lessons and practice.  

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My 5 year old (he's turning 6 in 6 months) has been excelling at Kumon Math and doing it for 18 months now, but I feel like a bad parent for not raising a well-balanced kid by not getting him into sports.  I promised myself I will get him into sports starting this summer, but I have the following concerns / questions for other parents in my shoes:

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1) Is there a sport that my son can get into that won't require more than 2 days per week to excel? 

2)  There are so many options, and I want to make sure we make the right decision in choosing a sport that he will enjoy and can excel at. Any thoughts on my line of thinking below?

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Since our son is too young to decide what sport he should do, I figured we should be smart about picking the right sport for him. My husband and I are not tall, so he will likely have an average height (5'9 - 5'10), so that rules out tennis, swimming, basketball, ice hockey, football, and baseball (average height of successful athletes in those sports are at least 6'0). I am also looking at the odds of a US high school male athlete playing in college, and it looks like 10% of high school male athletes in lacrosse continue playing in college, while only 7% of high school athletes in golf and soccer continue playing in college. Thus, I'm leaning more towards putting him lacrosse and golf / soccer as Plan B. 

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3) My husband and I are not athletic at all, so will it be an issue that my husband and I did not play any of those sports competitively? 

4)  Our 5 year old enjoys Top Golf, but I am concerned that golf will ultimately be an expensive sport. Can someone who plays golf confirm what costs are associated with this sport? We're in GA, so we have a lot of options here when it comes to golf courses, country clubs. 

5) Is it too young to start taking golf lessons at 5 years old? 

5) Our son \*also\* enjoys music and wants to take piano lessons as well. Will it be too much for him to do twice a week Kumon (weekdays), while doing 45 mins of piano lesson weekly (Saturday) and a sport (Saturday / Sunday)?

6) He is going to a STEM school with foreign language for Kindergarten to 8th grade. For parents who have children at STEM-focused school, do you think your kids have less available time because of a more rigorous school program compared to other kids going to public schools?

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My ultimate goal is to raise a happy, well-balanced, and successful kid and not push him to depression. My initial plan is continue Kumon and sign him up for golf, but he really enjoys music too. Is this too much???",7.88758752059308,7.398711973640863,7.631865218286659,74.13130688838554,62.70675453047776,9.959822899505768,37.09066103789127,9.188382445141503,3.3488320016474464,2556,110,454,36,32,814,269,607,0.025,0.8440000000000001,0.132,0.9963,6,0,0,0,0,0,116.0,8,2,2,16,24,26,0,0,28,0,53,1,1,4,2,73,78,36,0,4,11,11,1,3,0,10,0,0,0,9,25,29,0,1,14,35,2,7,7,2,1,2,3,3,44,24,77,60,13,91,0,1,2,0,52,46,0,7,41,293,69,23,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230659985458904,0.0,0.3126616467480737,0.3506398429324561,0.07849403724949201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04818818935172983,0.035181488016703816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049714892030007424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037220299778905064,0.0,0.04970837508744175,0.0,0.0,0.060298108015482965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0291815752629138,0.04123038837820885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061125521429215,0.0,0.06559958935134451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06143687406059915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18293178965487306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06023768398599653,0.05727153845000594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0317177167516176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458739991788232,0.0,0.05096189548015417,0.0,0.09692926208103277,0.0,0.0,0.04906577825126816,0.0,0.0,0.0770481430688512,0.058512221107030825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759311177308831,0.09213240044281737,0.0,0.08485182253688403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028019653173268,0.0,0.0,0.08778712067115353,0.0,0.0,0.25633512991016755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05801780044411916,0.06465209698089718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036972613622670465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985736745464722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4088625390177806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047741032741352614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048900286260427916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169953231682912,0.0615146918284166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543940960755932,0.0,0.08678642834516931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396069617474169,0.0,0.04581790836838435,0.10095925660048746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277549049312565,0.0563775016391453,0.0,0.06942198597983305,0.0,0.06356303907153768,0.047619511328075584,0.06808159156305378,0.0,0.13888236839994655,0.0,0.15567354572052194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506398429324561,0.22299281269461704
parenting,assh0le_mom,2019/04/16,"Birthday Party  My soon to be four year old is having her first official friend birthday party (we did a big first birthday party and then little day trips in the past), how far in advance should I send out the invitations? Her party is May 19 so hopefully I didn’t fudge this up already. Thank you!",2.568160919540229,5.063353862068968,3.642068965517243,86.16816091954023,79.34482758620689,5.935632183908046,23.459770114942533,7.1686216300943375,1.0504045977011498,236,8,44,3,6,76,46,58,0.0,0.6990000000000001,0.301,0.96,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,1,0,3,3,3,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,7,10,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,7,3,5,5,0,18,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,2,8,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3423465695970577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200072714673146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5277630364871752,0.0,0.0,0.2396829636147263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30812843439548043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31093200597461096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255342464691109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961496817162078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28561814519951656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997779780273659
parenting,fakermcfakerson2,2019/04/16,My 4 year old daughter cries about everything - am I wrong to want her to be more emotionally resilient at this age and how can I help her? Any advice would be really appreciated.  She's 4 just about to turn 5 and seems to cry at every minor mishap.  She's very sensitive with a very strong compass of what is right and wrong.  yesterday she won a bike race with some classmates and one offhand comment from the classmate 'She was cheating' sent my daughter in sobs.  I worry because I want her to be strong enough to withstand criticism but is that unfair at this age?  My darkest fear is that as a teenager she won't be able to cope.  How can I help?,3.7364062500000017,5.315221078125003,4.428562500000002,86.11018750000002,72.59375,7.307500000000001,27.64375,7.908726449838941,1.617269375000001,510,19,103,7,10,163,83,128,0.21,0.6709999999999999,0.12,-0.93,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,3,5,8,1,1,4,0,13,0,0,2,0,15,19,8,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,5,0,1,3,0,16,3,18,10,3,11,0,1,0,0,14,5,1,2,5,68,21,0,0.1823065698560457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17814787012637864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397471906077034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113239287584084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4005104130596826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20507035329458584,0.0,0.18837142027924725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360114792160254,0.0,0.16384538979112973,0.0,0.0,0.20514557533145497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244392501833888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19130007779798672,0.0,0.12353564986556845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679025687629913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15568881455088862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16596505424102787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982971973539985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008440256395423,0.21505827660289767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18514117106030475,0.0,0.12950535659471465,0.39864723034558813,0.0,0.1173994538316138
parenting,scarabic,2019/04/16,"Sunny 3yo has turned into a nightmarishly moody 3.5yo... Damn. My little 3.5yo dude is having a bad, bad month. He was a little sick, which always spoils his mood. But then he got better and the mood just continued. Everything’s “no.” Constant tantrums and whining. Not eating as much. Saying mean stuff “I don’t want you in this house!” Fights every step of his routine. Wakes up at 3am and throws a tantrum, refuses to go back to bed.

What happened? This guy was a ray of sunshine 6 weeks ago. I mean he’s made a typical progression through terrible 2s & 3s but this past month has been off the charts and out of character. 

Nothing big changed around the time this started. There have been some small changes, like finally moving him from crib sleeper to a big boy bed. But that’s the biggest thing I could mention.

We’re exhausted. I keep telling myself it’s just a phase and it will pass...",1.8612264673311183,4.550606877906978,2.354285714285716,92.77166666666668,84.87209302325581,5.601771871539314,23.306755260243634,7.07126945348624,0.918401107419712,701,26,140,10,21,215,127,172,0.14300000000000002,0.7959999999999999,0.061,-0.8719,0,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,0,1,0,2,5,15,4,0,12,0,12,4,1,1,0,22,22,10,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,2,2,11,8,1,2,2,0,0,5,3,10,0,0,6,2,10,3,16,14,2,30,1,1,1,0,14,13,1,1,13,78,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271617459301496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457755838942243,0.16221963620537633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13328096397513836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512407486820893,0.2500169313165547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241360489761653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167640640894247,0.0,0.0,0.161792214815438,0.0,0.11953782143094853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319912323081974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614406338809614,0.0,0.1345570883767647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400899930969187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508831855839663,0.0,0.11974334300643227,0.0,0.0,0.14824458321562356,0.1323953335228654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275473219372284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307643913257075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314476306338591,0.3001139913216101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416670062501982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3261740808133527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390073205013907,0.15912678109081246,0.1100601235109858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436586765545013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14292298846798832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906194321505298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597133153706084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17139154993434513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13086032933665154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994661372396351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08730190205949426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16285043810656707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08830768924258571,0.0,0.12009493068894285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tossthisnameout1,2019/04/16,"Testing, Schools, and a Rant (U.S.) My kiddo has to test to see if he is ""ready"" to go to kidergarten. The tests are very rigorous since he is young and he as to do quite well. 

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When going over test questions, because puzzles are fun we have fun with it, one question says, ""point to the rectangle.""

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There is a square and a rectangle on this page... A square IS a rectangle. This is a terrible question. My 4 year old *knows* a square is a special rectangle.

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But we do this to children. We constantly ask them to pick from the choices and find the one that someone else thinks is best. In doing so we feed them disinformation in order to conform to a thought process rather than teach them the proper tools to ""get ahead"" when really its just the tools to think like we want you to, sit down, shut up, and don't question authority.",3.3074593495934934,5.550237591463418,3.639853658536588,88.44010569105694,75.52439024390246,6.812357723577236,28.00650406504065,7.793537801064563,1.6954313821138212,671,28,133,10,15,208,100,164,0.053,0.831,0.115,0.8904,0,0,0,0,0,0,44.0,5,1,3,3,7,7,0,0,15,0,15,1,0,1,0,27,25,11,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,11,1,0,9,0,0,2,1,1,1,2,1,5,11,6,24,24,2,19,0,0,4,0,19,8,0,6,8,88,17,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681266126582376,0.4128419938430993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058756566985763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903757968914441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188513512826892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238555370094208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460780387045807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351059361099392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05916967709915363,0.0,0.12872783764201076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06224052822205407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05532937624995369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883928730188525,0.0,0.15348544292702732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070600745074266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5074741915714074,0.12045781176517086,0.0,0.0,0.07255235361503631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09006281211804013,0.0,0.1146174216311232,0.09024745789582317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936835119298624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595834627356853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513506232607382,0.0,0.08990971327507283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344504719383226,0.06679916865179926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182746120222354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4128419938430993,0.0729307984794055
parenting,pandie1,2019/04/16,"Finally lost her first tooth, is this reaction ""normal"" My oldest DD(almost 8) just lost her first tooth. It's been loose for couple months and we've encouraged her to wiggle it and shown tons of excitment for when it finally comes out. Well, Sunday night, she managed to smack herself in the face while trying to pull her blanket up at bedtime and REALLY got it loose! Of course there's blood (normal) and it's still holding on by a thread. SHE LOST HER FRIGGIN MIND!!! I won't deny she has a dramatic flair, but this was insane! Screaming and crying, shaking uncontrollably, hyperventilating. She's never been afraid if blood, she gets body noses often and isn't fazed when she crashes and bleeds. I legitimately thought the neighbors would call the police. I would have if I heard those noises coming from a child! It took 2.5 of calming her down and making her twist it back and forth and around to get that thing out of her face, and once it was out she was her completely normal, happy, tired, self!!! 

Has anybody else had a kiddo react like this? We didn't get to bed until 10pm, WAAAAYYY after bedtime!",4.887757177033492,6.635141923444976,4.917772129186601,83.07034240430625,69.95693779904306,7.330263157894738,25.50269138755981,7.8658589789855275,1.4063227272727277,878,26,162,11,16,273,132,209,0.136,0.777,0.087,-0.873,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,1,0,0,5,9,13,0,3,7,0,15,10,8,2,1,34,28,18,0,7,4,0,0,1,1,3,2,2,2,2,14,18,0,1,1,0,0,5,4,7,1,2,14,3,23,6,24,11,1,30,0,3,0,0,24,9,0,3,17,110,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13245949369675386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177574063461645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171529421869087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693346094481002,0.0,0.0,0.13507285487476542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278953265311749,0.13869325331268165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636550455212272,0.1453035677125344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050311761848666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28981294552674164,0.0,0.22503490920446986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20733280513164892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057965449761218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081471268854354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462541483235182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43319833170518607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829804816179697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335652742291816,0.0,0.10558477865316254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202263060025696,0.0,0.0,0.12413598920489907,0.3888194756714921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14087407588110862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474207134115537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799707828709654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056391236254849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788107462064831,0.0,0.0,0.10501568807879444,0.0,0.15203660915469044,0.0,0.0,0.14696814859612195,0.08980955997467091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893576916158377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879360909229784,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ElleAnn42,2019/04/16,"Multivitamin recommendations My 7 year old's pediatrician recommended that we put her on a multivitamin with iron after a blood test showed low iron levels.  We are also trying to get her to eat more iron-rich foods such as meat and beans, but it's an uphill battle. She hates the taste of brand of vitamins that we're currently using (rhymes with Mintbones). Does anyone have a recommendation of a multivitamin that kids will actually take? I have yet to convince her to try swallowing a pill whole- so it needs to be chewable.",5.3176546391752595,7.581858742268042,6.656275773195876,68.93637242268044,69.82474226804123,9.386082474226805,26.55798969072165,9.827888789773867,2.6902381443298973,426,14,75,11,8,144,73,97,0.094,0.8640000000000001,0.042,-0.7096,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,4,4,2,0,7,0,5,7,1,1,0,8,10,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,5,5,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,8,1,13,8,2,9,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,0,5,46,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.26005538345206725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131116167125914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863357069133139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23320682277646015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27268536424775186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3222402516868097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13922980389779202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631032836388624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975986430602972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27963598041388543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678956276199582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20036699523637594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3618578569507335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.230161430052392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975260934078219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17161054898746886
parenting,madisonbbacon,2019/04/16,"Abel's Adoption Story From February 2018 to June 2018 Ben and I worked on becoming licensed to foster. This had been on our hearts since long before we were married, but we always assumed it would be a calling we would pursue much later into our marriage. Despite our intentions, we clearly felt God tugging on our hearts to begin the journey and to begin it now. Once we moved out of our apartment and into a home, we were all out of excuses to offer up. It was time to act. 

After spending several months fulfilling licensing requirements such as training classes, background checks, and a home study, we found ourselves fully licensed, fully excited, and fully panicked. Our phones were turned up to the loudest volume setting and we carried them with us everywhere, knowing that the next call we received could change our lives. (That’s a lot of pressure, by the way. Never have so many telemarketers been greeted with such excitement and anticipation.) Because we received our license in the summer, school was out and I had nearly nothing to occupy my time with. As the saying goes, a watched pot never boils and similarly, a stared-at phone never rings. After a couple of weeks of NOTHING, our nerves were frazzled. We could think of nothing else.

Finally, FINALLY, my phone rang. Ben and I were sitting in a movie theater (because, of course, if you want your phone to ring, do something in which your phone ringing would be an inconvenience) and I annoyed everyone there by immediately answering. We were given minimal details about a child who needed a placement and without hesitation, we agreed. We dreamed. We planned. We called our parents. Then my case manager texted me to let me know that the placement had fallen through. We felt crushed.

Fast forward to a few weeks later. Ben and I are pulling into the Wal-Mart parking lot. Another call for a placement. Another acceptance on our part. More dreams. More plans. More calls to parents. $100 spent in Wal-Mart on things we would need. Another text letting us know that the placement had fallen through. 

A week later. Another Wal-Mart trip. Another call for placement. More money and dreams and plans and calls to parents. And…ANOTHER text that this dream was not ours. Y’all, after that much money and dreaming and planning and disappointment, you start to doubt that you heard God correctly. At this point, I was totally certain that this was all some heavenly episode of Prank’d and that we had collected boxes of diapers and clothes for no other reason than to take up space in our closet. I felt angry and cheated and abandoned. My husband, forever the more level-headed piece to our partnership, told me he wanted to call his mom and ask her to pray. I was totally content to throw my hissy fit and let it be, but I agreed anyway. 

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When she picked up, Ben poured out our collective heart to her. He shared our frustration and anger and fear. She listened. She considered. She told us she needed to pray and would call us back. We waited. We sat in our car. Ben hung his head. I cried. We grieved what we believed was our chance to foster. The phone rang. Ben answered. “Hope,” she said. “I prayed for you and God gave me the word hope. I don’t know what it means, but that’s what He told me. Maybe you’ll get a little girl! Maybe her name will be Hope.” We thanked her, not very encouraged, but too tired to do much else. Essentially, we all but gave up. 

A few days later, I was sitting in our living room, not doing much of anything, when my phone rang again. My caseworker told me of a boy, two and a half, who needed a home. Not a foster home. An adoptive home. A forever home. Of course, I agreed. She told me that our names would go into a pool of families who were also interested in adopting him. My heart sank a little, knowing that the likelihood of being chosen was low. I called Ben and let him know and we prayed a little prayer together that this little boy could come and become a part of our family. Within a day (world-record speed for CPS) we got another call. A life-changing call. A call that WE HAD BEEN CHOSEN. And then…I heard his name. “Congratulations, guys!” our case manager said, “I”ll call you again later so we can schedule a time for us to drop Hopian off.” Instantly, I began to cry, as I remembered the word spoken over us. Hope. Suddenly, all my doubts and fears and fits made my cheeks burn red. I understood and am still humbled by the fact that I know NOTHING of the plan God has for me.

From the day we met Hopian, we fell in love. God paved the way for him to join our family in such a holy, sacred way. We made the choice to change our son’s name to Abel because, as God does so many times in the Bible, we wanted to give him an opportunity at a new identity. Simon became Peter. Jacob became Israel. Abram became Abraham. And our little Hopian became Abel Shepherd Bacon. We will honor his past and be totally transparent with him about how his story began, because that is a piece of his history that is valuable. We will also rejoice with him in his future and support him as he walks through life, inevitably viewing things through different lenses than we have viewed it ourselves. I pray every day that God will give me the grace to parent Abel in the way that no other mother could; that He will make me exactly the mother that our son needs. 

There are so many elements of Abel’s story that I could go into detail about. I’m sure I could write a book of all the ways in which I have seen God’s hand on our lives through this process. Instead of doing that here, I’m choosing to close this story with a letter I wrote to Abel a few weeks before his adoption was finalized. Someday, he’ll be old enough to read it and process it himself. Until then, I pray that my testimony to him as his mother will translate to him what words cannot. 

Abel Bacon,   


From the moment we knew you were coming into our lives, Daddy and I have prayed for you. Since long before then, actually, but even more so once we could put a name and a face to this child we had so desperately hoped for. We prayed that you would be healthy. We prayed that you would flourish and grow and feel loved and welcomed in our home. We prayed that, by God’s grace, this wild system that we call foster care would bring you justice. More than all of the other prayers that we prayed, we prayed, through tears and baited breath and sleepless nights, that you would become a member of our family forever. We prayed that you would become a Bacon. In the 6 months you have been with us, we have seen God confirm for us in ways unimaginable that you are where He created you to be. With us. And now, in our hearts AND on paper, you are OURS. Our son forever.

In John 14:18, God makes us a promise. He says, “I will not leave you as orphans. I will come to you.” I have seen the truth of this promise in my own life, and now, above all other prayers, this is my prayer for you, Abel. Your time in the world without physical parents is over. You have a mommy and a daddy who love you with a love that is unconditional. But our love could never compare to the love of the One who created you. I spent so many months praying that you would be welcomed into our family, leaving behind the pain of orphanhood. Now, baby boy, I will spend the rest of my life praying and believing that you will be welcomed into the family of Christ. My hope for you, surpassing all other hopes, is that you would come to know the love of Jesus in your life in a real way and that you would surrender you heart and your life in service to Him. My ultimate job as your mother is to point you to Jesus and that is the vow I make to you now.

I cannot promise you that I will have all the answers. I cannot promise you that the way I parent you will make you happy all of the time. I cannot promise you that you will have all that you want. But Abel, I promise you that I will pray for you every single day of your life. I promise you that I will love Jesus first, Daddy second, and I will be a better mother to you because of that. I promise that nothing you could ever do will make me stop loving you. I promise that when you are with Daddy and I, until it is time for you to have a family of your own, that you will be home, as much as you can be on this side of Heaven. And lastly, I promise you that every day of my life, I will point you to the One who knit us together as a family, so that on the other side of Heaven, I will see you there, too.   


Abel Shepherd Bacon, I am so blessed to be your mama. I love you with my whole heart. Forever and ever.  


Love,

Mama   


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parenting,jeanbeanmachine,2019/04/16,"How to handle 6 year old's insecurity over facial hair Hi guys!  Long time lurker, first time poster in this sub.  I don't know if it's okay for step parents to post in this sub, if it's not, I apologize in advance!

Anyhow, I'm a little stumped on how to handle the current situation I am dealing with.  My 6 year old step daughter is a beautiful little girl that is developing a very healthy self esteem but I have a feeling that her older half sisters (she has 3 of them, kids from another father) have been teasing her about the hair on her upper lip.  It's pretty noticeable and her father and I have commiserated over how it might be a difficult thing when she gets older.  As someone who has a lot of hair everywhere (it's blonde but when you're up close you can see it) so I understand what it feels like to be self conscious about facial hair.  I figured out how to deal with it on my own growing up but I really wish I had someone to help - first off telling me it is nothing to be ashamed of, lots of women deal with it, but also helped me figure out how to manage it.  My step daughter was picking at it the other night (like trying to pluck the hairs off) so I whispered to her that it was okay and if she wanted me to help her with it I would do it when we got home.

Anyways, by the time we got back to our apartment it was late and time for her to go to bed and she is staying at her grandparents until tonight.  I want to help her, but first I don't think it's appropriate for me to use Nair on a 6 year old, and I think tweezing it might be too painful for her.  I feel like she's too young to start managing facial hair!  I plan on having a talk with her about how it's natural and to not be embarrassed or ashamed but I am not sure she will accept that as enough.  Any suggestions on how to handle this?  I am closer to her than she is to her mom (a little weird I know but she's not a very ""girly"" woman and my step daughter is, so she turns to me for stuff like this) but I don't want to do something that would make her feel like I am stepping on her toes or look like I'm trying to mature her daughter too fast.  My partner is clueless, lol so any advice is appreciated! 😊",2.915501317523056,3.7681675369565255,4.391146245059288,88.40781949934124,73.63043478260869,7.227931488801054,25.24374176548089,7.463857097105799,1.0126666666666666,1697,52,381,19,33,567,198,460,0.04,0.7929999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9958,3,0,1,0,0,0,39.0,3,1,1,5,23,18,1,4,15,3,39,12,11,10,1,70,64,39,0,9,17,9,10,6,1,5,1,1,2,8,33,18,0,0,13,0,0,8,7,8,0,4,7,14,61,10,67,47,4,65,0,0,3,0,61,27,0,10,34,268,94,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501767430132083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957573542982805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183291417318567,0.09122953354835962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689942486155848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26908675968732604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08989666868100779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17596397771049888,0.1864634553535904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220124237243615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454551288633121,0.0,0.04944543163982228,0.0,0.13916742935482698,0.0,0.0,0.0861459895970494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332633234162013,0.0,0.08727043519416644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562841541667123,0.0,0.09814242281912036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25502967573953184,0.26159758636896696,0.0,0.07699432818803463,0.07306004884355106,0.0,0.0,0.1479325470398259,0.0,0.0,0.05807473383227889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845914559816849,0.0,0.10189608259889524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08164579718535925,0.0,0.08348108637459936,0.0990527344235288,0.2738829439247675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257661797978363,0.0,0.0966057963791078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833241867404339,0.08851265204360557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05573592327336254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932959632966551,0.0,0.1815248186793484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779426918127236,0.0,0.0,0.14743359129934389,0.0669786476122142,0.0,0.0,0.06158070012513621,0.09273291249907396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959685782374146,0.0,0.0,0.08199867059260926,0.0,0.0,0.06992918084431163,0.07604387509596078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780048510400645,0.11149516583572644,0.0,0.0,0.20292704349759225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813774822215628,0.09463355653675412,0.0,0.09057249846878906,0.0,0.0751420828695255,0.0,0.14357207509231731,0.15394869304127498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000483909260272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12360792435447207,0.0,0.0,0.16807995271448134
parenting,AusomeHD,2019/04/16,"Found out today my S/O has been cheating on me, we have a 2 year old son, need advice Hi everyone,

As per title, found out today that for the past week my partner of 4 years has been cheating on me. This isn’t the first incident, nor the second, so I decided this was the last straw. The nail in the coffin, for what has been quite a toxic relationship. I’m currently sleeping at my parents’ place and told her to pack her things and I won’t be returning home until she’s ready to move out.

Where things get difficult is that we have a 2 year old son together. I’m 21 years old, we’ve been through a lot during our time together. I was open to the idea of splitting up if it meant she’d be happy, as I figured she’d treat myself/our son better. I was fine with the idea of ending it on good terms, helping her move out, the whole shabang - but this whole lying and cheating scandal (god knows how long its been going on for) has really done a number on me. I work in the VFX industry and I’ve wanted to pursue my career further for a long time, by working at a larger studio, which unfortunately are based in states outside of where we live. I had put that on halt for my family and decided to stay put with my current job.

After this whole event however, I don’t want to be here anymore. I don’t want to be in this area, shackled to HER because of our son. I don’t want to be involved anymore with her or her toxic family, her lies, her deception, her blackmail, her guilting. I love my son, so so much, and I know he won’t understand right now why his father left. He might one day, that’ll be on her to explain, but right now she’s made me feel like I’ll be the usual ‘young dad deadbeat who disappeared as they always do’ if I leave the state. I don’t want to be stuck in the same place, with the same job, for years until he’s old enough to understand, just for weekend contact with my son. 

I have done EVERYTHING I can to support our family until now. I feel if she gets the privilege of leaving me for another man, to find her happiness, I deserve the same. I feel I’ve earned at least that after all the bullshit I’ve been through, but as she told me over the phone, “our son won’t forgive you for leaving”.

Please help. Anyone who’s been in a similar situation or grew up with separated parents, or parents who simply have an input, please share your thoughts. I have a lot of big decisions to make.",5.5585454545454525,4.83375026868687,6.435151515151517,81.57939393939397,67.52525252525253,9.676767676767676,30.858585858585855,9.049649993220411,2.3060707070707065,1873,62,400,29,27,624,230,495,0.083,0.805,0.112,0.816,8,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,7,2,1,6,11,17,3,1,28,0,46,2,1,3,1,67,76,27,1,9,10,12,3,1,1,5,0,0,2,2,20,20,0,1,20,1,0,7,9,5,0,3,21,3,63,12,72,40,13,81,0,0,0,1,62,34,0,9,38,268,83,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179212357628767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06113129908887581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703765128998784,0.0,0.0,0.14572111896240397,0.05137056548827214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04478543850684824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497651574715499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047380811356335165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15036663579713178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06507088166133021,0.07591213003745073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020186568447576,0.06602834186535733,0.0,0.20777740385013305,0.0,0.11144295350864766,0.052485586239246984,0.0,0.0,0.06714846241490506,0.06249188179781765,0.0,0.16110783918526134,0.0,0.0,0.07676804277108493,0.0,0.04175358321362428,0.06162151072669045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641620070120793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984881642442865,0.0,0.07369443965039943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1658729611565042,0.0,0.0,0.1458113973023274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075223267888869,0.059886262565823474,0.0,0.2333761560612423,0.0798232461789695,0.0,0.0,0.035892775917435685,0.0,0.06487362999357033,0.1300338163652344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491980973741093,0.06630777926385772,0.06951724084232679,0.049040490723964734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793798600038923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561698105770304,0.0540074666343754,0.0544756246769439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30836941953184577,0.0,0.04978384886069241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447327098334954,0.0,0.07013356231786917,0.0,0.0,0.15351694091645846,0.16129170339067678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771135506599484,0.0,0.07814230953300409,0.0,0.0,0.04706551107359056,0.0,0.0,0.0788771859997529,0.0,0.12548261852082732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08258116110341035,0.07352110303992261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830716105132457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337066716645275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761780955449488,0.0,0.0,0.058325421504924035,0.08567961605322053,0.0,0.13927823309556564,0.1404037313689515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296565228633666,0.0,0.0,0.08091467240655534,0.0,0.2166667830357145,0.0,0.05893163441246998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629348365641595,0.24607334663430885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10697122395172552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365550621314977
parenting,nightmarecake,2019/04/16,"My kid figured out how to say ""I love you"" ... ....aaand now she realized that she can use this skill to make me wake up at 8am and play with her 😩

It is literally impossible to ignore a tiny human repeating ""I love you"" over and over and over (Or how she says it, ""I looooo!"") even if you are trying to sleep in a bit. Your heart starts bleeding.

I love you too, pumpkin 😭😭 I am so proud of her.",0.06273529411764757,1.6135283764705903,2.574926470588238,95.52591911764708,82.88235294117645,6.132352941176473,18.86029411764705,7.1686216300943375,-0.005088235294117728,292,7,75,4,8,101,61,85,0.026,0.77,0.203,0.957,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,5,0,2,6,6,0,0,2,0,4,7,3,4,0,14,10,8,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,4,5,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,17,5,13,10,1,10,0,0,0,3,17,7,0,2,3,51,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725259732937041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487503421822394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29580696322914113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6758892370361742,0.0,0.16662670266487073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970238214082151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24980539132003401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766859412439083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947906729423015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21559595152135344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheGlennDavid,2019/04/16,"Word explosion -- stay patient parents Our son (turning 3 next month) has a fairly substantial speech delay. He had a dozenish words that he uses regularly and another dozen or two that he'd use *occasionally*.  

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Progress on this front has been frustratingly slow -- one word here , one there -- and what started out as ""eh, no worries, some kids are just late talkers"" was ratcheting up to various levels of panic.  

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This past week? WORD EXPLOSION -- **22** brand new words and phrases (including the heart melting ""I'm happy"").  

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The advice to other parents struggling with this is to stay **patient** \-- progress is not linear, it comes in fits and starts!",3.508684210526315,6.655709692982459,3.518421052631581,80.52394736842106,92.42105263157896,5.908771929824562,29.684210526315788,7.273561745256523,2.6026736842105267,531,27,80,10,19,162,89,114,0.129,0.813,0.057,-0.8516,2,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,1,0,0,2,3,4,1,2,4,0,9,1,1,2,0,19,16,6,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,8,7,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,4,3,1,2,1,10,12,2,20,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,10,48,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684366959753673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886662912721016,0.4358765737410663,0.0,0.1253809112406679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300006896307412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728584950557456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169254087316593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488161043710048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544065381471507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11548268598308654,0.12716541131464765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204918583836767,0.0,0.0,0.14029113238462604,0.26553950919243186,0.0,0.11414431521111855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692663328687319,0.25489414707950303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500186211734848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300592153771551,0.1168037648214706,0.0,0.0,0.20654238723491306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591286727737616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143043756248705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358765737410663,0.0
parenting,kidsmusicman,2019/04/16,"Kids music video Hey Parents! I work with the Mini Pop Kids and I'd like to get feedback on our new video. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsE9Qn2fICI](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PsE9Qn2fICI). More curious about how engaged your kids are watching the video, I'm I've been working with different video teams to figure out what really engages kids in entertainment. Thanks for your help!",9.429926108374381,13.981265293103455,5.137980295566507,72.9836206896552,68.48275862068965,6.762561576354681,25.52709359605912,7.957251820313856,1.9339921182266024,329,10,44,5,7,86,45,58,0.0,0.708,0.292,0.9547,2,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,1,2,0,3,2,5,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,4,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,5,9,4,1,4,0,0,1,0,11,3,0,0,2,21,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3790774544048353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956236399434725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431955871961153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725916169354827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3504210056980659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4028769380953386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2324365509308625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340427624225198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5282854000101077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Krampus1313,2019/04/16,"molar issues for toddler My poor 20 month old seems to be teething for the last month constantly. use to be a week on, week off but now his molars are coming in and it seems like my wife and I have gave life to satan himself. Last night we were eating dinner and out of the blue he just starts screaming, and uncontrollable in the high chair. I gave him some toddler Tylenol but that takes a bit to work and baby teething gel which he hates. Well when he gets like this he likes to head butt things like the floor. The only way to get him to calm down a bit is by holding him chest to chest because I believe laying him down makes the pain worse. 

This morning he woke up at 4am and was up for hours doing it again so I had to sit there with him holding him. 

Is the headbutting normal? is this type of thing normal for teething toddlers?",3.3112262443438922,4.660534041176471,3.392352941176473,94.0325113122172,73.29411764705883,5.936651583710407,23.07692307692308,5.873414542411696,0.18004977375565634,657,17,144,3,13,200,108,170,0.113,0.787,0.1,-0.5362,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,7,10,1,1,10,0,11,12,7,2,0,22,24,10,0,2,3,1,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,9,10,2,2,2,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,6,2,15,6,27,16,3,29,1,0,1,1,17,12,1,3,18,88,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023677993799807,0.0,0.0,0.16677739203820466,0.0,0.0,0.3232174953062898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751341755707302,0.0,0.15996618546925226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147007776872184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467752941050125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614746539083134,0.15191991403820634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564002034148706,0.0,0.0,0.14577822258588502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450326123892902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413259164866749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045568844336404,0.28927692837753616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881015162625163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363098212324263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891468918015984,0.2900729377840863,0.0,0.0,0.15533097574587998,0.0,0.0,0.11258232007742612,0.15751272637850053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695191148034971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10477531131160192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129898531394758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966870726843816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278490681213136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749810747442944,0.2374790156426157,0.0,0.1330953699350922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776648747063336,0.0,0.15085365497638958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,xmanlilduck,2019/04/16,"2 yo always says “I do it!” 4 yo always saying “I can’t!!!” Losing my mind Today was yet another morning breakdown where at least one and sometimes all household members ended up in tears. My 4.5 yo, when tasked to do anything (get dressed. Use toilet. Put dishes and trash and toys away. Get dressed) will only respond with “I can’t”.  He will literally sit on his hands. (He does all these tasks at daycare with no problem, it’s not a skill issue). It is beyond frustrating to be late to work, the 2 yo fully self dressed, the 4 yo flopping like a fish naked wailing “it’s too hard.” All the cheerful “you can do it’s” just evoke more screaming. 

A - how do I keep my chill with this bullshit

B - how do I teach almost 5yo to stop saying I can’t to every fucking thing and to practice basic self care that the 2yo already mastered.

C - is this kid destined to, like, never get a job. Holy balls.",2.1786797752808984,4.068083089887644,3.3993117977528087,90.50604634831457,77.65168539325842,5.124157303370787,25.16994382022472,5.602791699666715,0.5793134831460671,682,25,139,3,16,221,118,178,0.135,0.799,0.065,-0.8885,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,1,0,4,8,9,2,0,8,0,15,3,1,3,4,21,22,7,0,1,2,0,2,2,0,2,0,4,0,3,10,7,1,2,0,2,0,1,6,5,0,1,1,6,11,4,17,18,5,17,0,1,0,1,11,8,1,1,9,81,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15769520016008684,0.0,0.17378500040690653,0.0,0.2620748228600176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16513332054356195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295940419875015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795926533255427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056311501874845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781331946285047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948206597037238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268514608360274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455893178380313,0.2468331056725829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410726937172783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437000665617518,0.15627631298748598,0.1399769937033524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764624607798402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15387523299382988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17618176885961667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590116500235714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12145961534624533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671369303380353,0.11977194883852442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068874318031242,0.0,0.15831263113292066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3757073675330259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3285755709109157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575345357354772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316617742999172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462386096925186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492742621652336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360136479293373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464857195129208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TheBusinessBitch100,2019/04/16,Teaching colors to a 2.5 y/o I have a 2.5 year old who hasn’t really learned colors yet. Someone told me that you’re not supposed to say “blue triangle” but instead “triangle that is blue” because that makes it the subject of the sentence?? I’ve searched online and can’t find any articles. Has anyone else heard of this and can you explain it?,3.076666666666668,5.107957647058826,4.1005882352941185,85.84931372549022,75.47058823529412,6.886274509803924,30.450980392156865,7.793537801064563,2.137139215686275,272,13,52,4,6,88,52,68,0.0,0.967,0.033,0.2477,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,10,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,6,3,0,4,8,0,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,3,30,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326872595181462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23925314376979945,0.3505934892962793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085835897663753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858390378119856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3127370816220037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284010593654241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590497416380682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2192027940603385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2721072311720873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2899194384262728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269579944053866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22034619144903908
parenting,dambrosioj,2019/04/16,Question about Graco 4ever base We just purchased a Graco 4ever DLX.  For the life of me I cannot find where you purchase an extra base for the 4ever.  Is there not a specific base for it ? or is there a universal base that would work? I wanted to get one for my wifes car.,0.9832738095238084,3.183568874999999,2.8000000000000007,91.61166666666668,83.46428571428572,5.161904761904762,18.261904761904766,6.42735559955562,-0.034645238095238014,211,5,44,2,6,70,40,56,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,6,0,4,1,0,0,0,8,6,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,7,5,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,2,0,33,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4214162722056318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408938436238269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256725118967658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312437891329358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5165120655579817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719553202976385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33566974439762903,0.0,0.0,0.3275360640781864,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BettyOBarley,2019/04/16,"Feeling large amounts of grief/ anxiety following the death of a local child I’m not sure where to put this but I just feel like I want to talk about it somewhere. A few days ago, an acquaintance’s 3yo daughter died unexpectedly. I have this acquaintance on Facebook, our mothers were friends when we were young but I haven’t seen her since childhood, and have never met her daughter. 

Since I found out she passed, I’ve felt horrendous. I have a 3 year old daughter too, just a couple of weeks younger, which I think plays a large role in this. Whenever she has had to leave me since, to go to daycare or her grandparents, I feel horrendously anxious. I’ve broke down into tears a few times. My heart is broken for this mother. Like me, her daughter was her only child. I’m so surprised at the level of grief I feel for somebody I haven’t met. Then I feel selfish for feeling this way because my grief is so insignificant in comparison to the family’s.  

I’m not sure there’s much I can do to help the mother, she has had such an outpouring of love from close family and friends that I don’t think a relative stranger’s input would help. I donated to a go fund me page that her friend set up and left a message of condolence there. 

I suppose my question is: has anyone experienced this or anything like it before? How can I productively deal with this? Is there *anything* I can say or do that might be useful?",3.0690252707581216,5.196856162454875,3.8965429602888086,86.861002166065,75.82310469314079,7.1756823104693135,26.603465703971118,8.109356740369918,1.6738936895306855,1115,43,224,19,25,356,151,277,0.17,0.67,0.16,-0.4967,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,2,0,0,0,13,16,0,0,15,0,26,2,1,2,3,36,48,13,5,2,9,7,7,3,3,2,0,1,0,2,13,8,0,0,11,1,2,5,6,5,0,0,10,10,34,11,28,35,5,31,0,4,1,1,34,13,0,5,14,143,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105826704083097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09584326357361007,0.14153724776772014,0.0,0.08760271651859249,0.0,0.20619901108897465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763730365119686,0.0,0.10660895413433114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13862631060534567,0.0,0.0807989506484513,0.1291641174098656,0.0,0.0,0.13002683893943312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362165289979503,0.0,0.38008946841130503,0.08950417206675647,0.12029397715107487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373693693160876,0.2903864024640062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240556938130827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14846422897583605,0.16795280820294908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265953013695653,0.13612334495726974,0.0,0.0,0.18362488190703244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307528999569345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329083927483893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209944925637738,0.0,0.09662810183070934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314663299181439,0.0,0.0,0.09528546616782296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12594679308501755,0.14034872433346296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996322650537996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310913026328784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361606924439588,0.0,0.0,0.10069994824842897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605561125419784,0.0,0.0,0.07305513425042677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10820667087588083,0.0,0.0,0.07389678736398701,0.0994460048153054,0.10049667965192144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899940936891143,0.0,0.0,0.0806799218656631
parenting,lookinyoureyes,2019/04/16,"She smacked her little girl... ... and she feels horrible. 

(Posting for a friend who doesn't use reddit.)

Her 9 year old lost her gold earring at a wedding, and my friend was very upset and just smacked her. She feels terrible and this is the first time she's ever acted like this. She called me after it happened and I'm not a parent so I'm asking here.

She wanted advice on what to do beyond apologizing to her daughter, to make amends. 

Ideas?",1.5975862068965512,4.115009735632185,2.722540229885059,91.03898275862068,83.82758620689657,4.859310344827586,20.19425287356321,6.2581,0.1818239080459767,345,10,68,3,10,110,64,87,0.139,0.7659999999999999,0.095,-0.4927,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,2,1,14,14,6,0,1,2,2,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,2,2,13,3,8,12,0,12,0,1,0,0,21,4,0,0,7,45,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2269407668860885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171116404446794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371414664978926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21007301222497585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234853519424765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19754194294422167,0.0,0.0,0.3588537661768042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205367731795726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26216898968396524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11345999653733305,0.23276398056445385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535157483721289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550209969975394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436952309901074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578733621695345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22242027901179529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354201324951874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005794918758816,0.0,0.1916210781619286,0.13698027987322944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14955397482806812
parenting,kafanna,2019/04/16,"Hungry 8 year old My 8 year old son is very hungry all of a sudden.
He never had a strong appetite but lately he is hungry all the time. After meals he will complain he is still hungry. He has been dewormed two days ago but nothing has changed🤷🏻‍♀️
Anyone else experienced this? Is it part of the growing process, can it be serious? What’s happenin’?",0.625,3.0402148333333336,2.6077777777777804,90.615,88.16666666666666,4.311111111111112,21.88888888888889,5.82211442006289,0.30357222222222235,276,10,55,2,9,92,52,72,0.104,0.866,0.03,-0.6176,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,4,0,11,1,0,0,3,5,11,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,1,1,1,3,7,3,13,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,12,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22109249146363133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439766863062073,0.25555646294526785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085287284327346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083553052326604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28135243803357923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923652182623969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23932165628796184,0.0,0.5234408783723569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700935357704703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19918417074430486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454366439888586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24364347295027766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20579455958210696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32123182562919805
parenting,babytimelullabies,2019/04/16,"Are they good quality lullabies? Hi and welcome! :)

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I am working on lullabies youtube channel:

[https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-i4ZLcPnczQSA-4DbvzccA](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-i4ZLcPnczQSA-4DbvzccA) 

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At this point any comments and suggestions are very important for me to make this better so please tell me what do you think!",16.722142857142867,23.231345500000003,9.335238095238095,40.601428571428585,58.28571428571429,8.514285714285714,37.95238095238096,8.841846274778883,4.816352380952383,309,13,29,6,6,79,36,42,0.0,0.667,0.333,0.9512,0,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,1,1,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,6,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,4,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,0,19,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4481114291908574,0.5025423577914061,0.14062356056726266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828880002537508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344473983914596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380332136439808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22699214286458244,0.19548237486979086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807426356485989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250199381473413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062252038693354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15054480075044505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5025423577914061,0.0
parenting,smacsmacsmac,2019/04/16,"Looking after 15mo...and wanting to stay off phone while doing so but can be so BORING Baby is fab, have lots of family around and we do get out and about but she is also the age where she's not quite able for long periods at the park or toddler games etc all day.

I find myself going to my phone when I'm bored, but would rather not, for many reasons. Keep thinking that the older she is the easier it will get in terms of interaction ( she is actually v chatty etc and we do read lots and look for birds and all that jazz) but don't want to be glued to it for her childhood, but also dont want to lose my mind!

On that note any activity suggestions welcome for that age..finding they are more for 18/20month olds and she just isnt there yet with some stuff!",5.112222222222221,4.749170356687902,5.7942250530785575,84.59130927105451,68.36305732484078,8.761217268223637,26.361641896673746,8.167268648758528,1.3533671620665246,594,14,130,7,9,194,104,157,0.064,0.8440000000000001,0.091,0.7575,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,1,2,12,5,0,0,4,0,17,0,0,1,2,35,28,18,0,5,10,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,11,0,1,3,3,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,2,13,2,22,24,9,21,0,1,2,0,15,7,0,4,12,96,20,1,0.15902707274940447,0.0,0.1551874830723867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543477852455997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081438627402835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156781044429026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025593059418832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863785448904654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35471444604759955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991657114110588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906957269492385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661701638223753,0.0,0.0903787502238162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14135056911229354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14073395509308415,0.2670853782355553,0.17791061685675388,0.0,0.27039826077921203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122849148184978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057200995436416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687216161748386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914486689829855,0.15907010773378075,0.0,0.0,0.16350631670795282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16950170032555373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204795140425672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10189812698605766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813948632709389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296826977155855,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Yeidi_,2019/04/16,"I HAD THE HOME WATER BIRTH OF MY DREAMS I was always second guessing myself about having a water birth. I wanted to do it with my first but no one was on board with me so I opted out the first time around. When I found out I was pregnant again I was dead set on going through with it. We decided to wait until birth to find out the gender and honestly it was the best decision ever. It was probably one of the most beautiful and painful things I've ever done, and a really rough healing but it was so worth it. Wanted to share it with you guys because friends recorded it and the video always makes me cry. Its not graphic at all. Here is the link 

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[https://youtu.be/VV5\_\_1fJ2ng](https://youtu.be/VV5__1fJ2ng)",4.3607777777777805,6.743688725925927,3.9189814814814814,87.00291666666668,72.85185185185185,6.5740740740740735,23.10185185185185,7.492282038375204,0.9789629629629631,578,16,106,7,12,173,83,135,0.108,0.716,0.17600000000000002,0.8967,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,1,0,3,9,5,0,0,9,0,12,4,0,1,3,30,19,10,1,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,10,13,2,1,5,2,1,1,2,1,0,5,10,1,14,4,20,9,3,20,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,2,11,88,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993727355225338,0.19491526754146613,0.2185911176081862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16014395888860722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966182166257267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188787842033336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976053082021875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18409420280952074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254491676724177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16442002034061348,0.306035793130526,0.0,0.1972446817337181,0.1389857962731542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022380074596278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981737193674191,0.1781235199076889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804485289840261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200807612321163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438019024689427,0.0,0.19142008969705196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19395635100694406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152448173756455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119513698864633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10489774231315427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21221249507544865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185911176081862,0.0
parenting,kasloves,2019/04/16,"Son dropped a truth bomb My son was away for a weekend and a day (13m). Upon his return we were talking about all of the things and he told me he and his best friend thinks that his best friend is bi.

You guys. My son dropped this huge truth bomb on me. Asked me to tell no one and still wants to be friends with a boy that has a crush on him. 
He had like 1000 questions on how to deal with this to keep things cool. 

I love him and his good heart.",2.0069387755102035,2.605298877551025,2.2720408163265304,103.70867346938776,75.53061224489795,5.6000000000000005,20.12244897959184,3.1291,-0.8432816326530612,342,6,93,0,7,103,65,98,0.083,0.614,0.303,0.9795,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,1,0,2,3,11,0,0,6,1,6,3,1,1,3,16,12,6,0,1,0,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,14,11,14,7,3,12,0,0,0,2,26,6,0,1,5,58,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864396900248611,0.0,0.1873706087386129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41857797690483495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861554878948955,0.20560308904083946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4622362817112849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16727202832694876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746658947709947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23632495387737545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17726212995616625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743119503549667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999293753953652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135138611154552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2234067157702513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15926468068381447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16029390237251967,0.17431019988348054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26498423703756435,0.12778639054323787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905634627729446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762870413938448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,QuincyFlynn,2019/04/16,"2 boys (2.5 and 4) share a room. Little one doesn't sleep if big brother is in the room. The boys have roomed together for most of their lives, but we only last September converted the crib into a second toddler bed.  Moving our first to toddler bed was a piece of cake: 4 days of mischief and then nothing.

This one is proving difficult.  We have been firm, we have been consistent.  We have given them chance after chance to go to sleep on their own.  Now we've resorted to putting the big one to sleep on the couch or in his play tent in the play room until little one falls asleep, at which point we move him to his own bed.

We're out of ideas.  We know it can be done, but right now, we just don't see how.  How does one keep a 2 year old in bed in the same room as his brother?",3.3165142219743444,3.846131705521476,4.016084774121584,92.66203011712216,72.43558282208589,7.399665365309538,23.40713887339654,7.348242739294969,0.6002073619631902,600,14,141,6,11,191,97,163,0.04,0.883,0.078,0.6486,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,8,0,3,1,5,4,0,0,11,0,14,4,4,2,1,24,19,11,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,10,2,3,11,0,1,3,2,0,5,2,1,0,7,5,1,15,3,24,13,5,36,0,0,1,0,20,21,0,3,10,91,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904401390688666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343956624674411,0.15716188411188525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063192952315272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728095526628447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733689588809103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13650567936602093,0.0,0.0,0.08440152276318719,0.12518518895324532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3078476140452849,0.13561069402021303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264546226171603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736060994508546,0.0,0.16115250141493725,0.0,0.5203364059992486,0.11680170299873725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14517925174621654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543866080651798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311533282997234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223804342524058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610616583054003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889810745236986
parenting,ImAParent120,2019/04/16,"Does my 11 year old have insomnia? Ok, some context: we decided to try out homeschool for a year for my kids(other than my 5 year old), so they're bedtime is a little later than usual(maybe half an hour to an hour). So i think it started in...December? One night my 11 year old son told me that he couldn't sleep. I didn't know what to do, so i just told him to keep trying. Well, in the morning he was still awake, and ended up sleeping during the day. This turned out to be a bad thing, because for the next week or longer, he stayed up at night and slept during the day(remember, he was homeschooled so he just did his school at night) This eventually stopped, and I thought that would be the end of it. It was for a while, until it happened again. The same thing again, and then it stopped(it would stop when I kept him awake by taking him with me driving to places like stores all day) By now, it's happened at least 3, probably more times, most of the time it only lasts for less than a week, but still. His sleeping is currently normal, but does anyone know what to do the next time he can't sleep? I haven't taken him to a doctor for it, should i? Is this normal?",3.0711951447245562,4.295054252100839,3.548179271708687,93.17410830999069,73.70588235294117,6.633426704014939,23.3062558356676,6.937597516519254,0.5049572362278241,904,24,203,8,18,282,129,238,0.028,0.95,0.022,-0.3313,1,0,0,0,0,0,41.0,1,0,0,0,13,4,0,0,16,1,19,7,5,0,1,32,34,15,0,6,5,1,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,17,8,0,4,5,0,1,1,4,1,1,2,11,0,20,3,31,17,7,50,0,0,0,0,16,10,0,3,39,134,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803086363298404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123718624686357,0.059310074375147084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882415047741027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09958546362345216,0.1702868636548291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723488240669898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17207513604740374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916317765280711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648018687337777,0.0,0.0,0.10694147664562244,0.07930833782693576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047533378708976566,0.09751506059969348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774581491061396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20694848218266212,0.2739140476667093,0.1906567092266884,0.0,0.0,0.3062839253766272,0.0,0.06592954935915715,0.07399716370316765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016524732945054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049003694207291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11021616707431488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846764374183924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3894607028374977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886583841799447,0.10370342908109507,0.15539968239432744,0.16268580349235826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315366418642487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927683055131226,0.0623426500448029,0.0,0.07724129098099332,0.17020033419255814,0.0,0.0,0.18593891290731324,0.0,0.1321137152322159,0.10582892367474264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071565981817868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15608821691086522,0.0,0.08747980917827464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382310257675059,0.0,0.0,0.2506189296628867
parenting,sophiatho,2019/04/16,"Kids clothing stores? Hi everyone! I don’t know if this is the right place to post so I apologize if not, but i’m in need of help to find stores that have cute kids clothes! I’m shopping for a little girl she’s turning 7 and she’s very girly! I’ve checked kohl’s so far and target but i’m just looking for more options. please let me know any good ones that aren’t too pricey. ☺️",-1.4338736263736287,0.5496818214285746,0.2752380952380946,104.59796703296708,99.83333333333334,3.5369963369963373,17.175824175824175,5.369823440869387,-0.8639164835164839,299,9,75,2,13,95,63,84,0.0,0.792,0.208,0.9522,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,13,8,0,3,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,3,1,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,1,5,2,6,12,1,6,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,3,0,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082506115062652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25408438542991896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24303308236761104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230291678090923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17823105155497496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922697454299497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719066944432112,0.0,0.0,0.2665074658684843,0.0,0.0,0.22329390049562373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19716578016833344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801846506324722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778149640719966,0.2918847165341609,0.0,0.0,0.2546642516314104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22708209887399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28922915179148806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194001315155425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,0xb800,2019/04/16,[AZ] 3 year old was burned by cigarettes in daycare My son started going to a day care in December. He goes for speech therapy but this happened on a Friday when does not go for therapy. I picked up my son from day care and he had cigarette burn on this hand. He has speech issues and can not talk. Not sure what should I do now. here is the picture of the burn https://imgur.com/a/fmlDRit,3.0244924812030045,5.225555171052633,3.3942857142857146,90.06500000000004,76.23684210526315,7.5007518796992505,24.01503759398497,8.418075326091056,1.4638669172932333,307,10,63,6,7,95,57,76,0.0,0.831,0.16899999999999998,0.9273,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,1,9,13,4,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,2,3,4,3,11,10,0,14,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,7,38,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4736646603228354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29961211624106154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032761358164708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640283918567505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054108459987353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424475364748883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437463915379181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16441410949639498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189279819485044,0.0,0.0,0.186703690814922,0.0,0.0,0.5312814235535795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14958537168080252
parenting,AmyAndy,2019/04/16,"Happy National ASL Day! Whether your children are hearing or not, ASL is a great tool to promote communication in families at an early age! Much love for baby sign language for decreasing the tantrums and helping me understand my baby even before she could talk!",8.046014492753624,9.495857369565217,7.833478260869569,66.2107971014493,62.26086956521739,10.481159420289854,41.42028985507246,10.504223727775694,4.9717768115942045,213,12,31,5,3,68,43,46,0.099,0.6679999999999999,0.233,0.8308,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,6,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,4,3,5,5,1,6,0,0,0,1,7,3,0,1,3,21,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26571400913089105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24931771805279376,0.0,0.0,0.20138470811107265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20624769433951345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943750900320309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442726086902939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324112654504381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3519446789035517,0.0,0.2093042482912132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818308169549735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22955026713631715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509863002187231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250782580001649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,DraconianReptile,2019/04/17,"This is gross, but it's what's happening I'm trying to find help because my son has a problem pooping his pants. Lately it's been as frequent as one to two times a week and getting more progressive. 

He's also started whipping his poop on walls, this only happened twice of course. 

A couple of things to note, he's relatively afraid of going into the bathroom alone because of ""bloody mary"" and momo (oh yeah thanks internet for that fucking hoax assholes), be also is complaining that it hurts to poop which we're going to a gastroelogist to get that checked out. One final note, he said he started wiping it on the walls to keep it secret. 

Has anyone else had this problem before and if so how did you cure it? I want to try and figure it out at home before taking him to a psychologist so anything at all will help. Thank you.",6.5811383776414445,6.2292373251533775,6.8929652351738255,77.90130197682348,65.31901840490798,8.96223585548739,32.22154055896387,8.167268648758528,2.3467360599863665,656,23,123,7,9,213,106,163,0.139,0.758,0.103,-0.7572,0,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,5,9,1,1,7,1,9,4,3,1,1,18,25,13,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,16,7,0,1,3,0,1,2,0,7,0,4,4,1,7,2,23,19,2,18,0,1,0,1,15,9,1,1,7,79,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599918796436718,0.0,0.2409050595298229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531855386143124,0.15433025750100166,0.12394924791481204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18363580672158036,0.0,0.2563368197771456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666061442286392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258255320083334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499927259836808,0.13766597444155054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392478093413808,0.15738777976405552,0.0,0.17120415011182888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663894520256392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20191778953734585,0.0,0.1510863611844122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612441948577428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387994408400508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16990841753650485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20413102008235426,0.11455498070859008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882502328035934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327621723455314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21322235601082995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324915943068567,0.0,0.0,0.27734539502524896,0.0,0.0,0.10006670586239842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782902399807092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20452519180973405,0.0,0.1471360163836191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08884088404414978,0.0,0.12082005432525085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,UncertianMom,2019/04/17,"My 3 yo son told me disturbing things when I was going to put him to bed, trying to remain calm. So I laid my 3 year old down for bed. Sometimes he asks me to rub his back when he lays down, lately he’s been asking me to rub his butt instead. I kind of laughed it off, and chalked it up to him being silly. But tonight he said some things that have me feeling absolutely sick. I’m not 100% sure if I’m over reacting, so maybe you guys can help me, or at least point me in the right direction if you think it is serious.

So as I said he’s been asking me to rub his butt, this time he said penis first, paused and then said butt, I told him no, (I use penis/vagina, we don’t use cutesy terms with him), but before I could offer to rub his back instead and asked me to rub his “hole” he asked three times then shoved his hands down his pants. I told him I’d rub his back instead, so he did roll over and let me. Once he was calm I left to freak the fuck out. For context he is only ever around family alone, but he’s in daycare so I’m sure he hears a lot of things from a lot of kids, but I don’t know where you draw the line between just random goofy kid talk, and possible abuse symptoms showing through? Help.",4.66679120879121,3.592579876923079,5.313626373626374,90.04423076923081,69.46153846153845,8.505494505494507,26.263736263736266,7.1686216300943375,0.8938351648351648,928,20,227,7,14,301,142,260,0.106,0.8320000000000001,0.062,-0.9302,0,1,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,3,0,1,17,11,1,1,5,0,14,7,4,3,3,32,37,22,0,3,9,1,8,0,0,0,2,5,2,3,8,9,0,0,3,1,0,2,4,4,0,2,12,13,38,7,32,22,5,34,0,0,0,4,50,16,4,7,16,135,46,1,0.0,0.1223554522648532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695429313766283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193023284466306,0.4827072475541559,0.0,0.0,0.2382196832842921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787328870802655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245093245229466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934116340412126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973516878520827,0.0,0.05221530071245563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783953486768667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546941374128994,0.0,0.0,0.05868946850424477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225135418073986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639031182323192,0.0,0.13843645427705095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753751867911568,0.056753280217979464,0.0,0.11649057237340645,0.0,0.11220076295149094,0.10559831843134568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558917522431355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374638162402648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836218081386777,0.10997683287501232,0.0,0.0785398125911043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762144670431623,0.11641892417506948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103812658143748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819013388418846,0.3929252898742041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10213449119522912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19465735197502188,0.10733478099780017,0.0,0.0830027430357086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581960582843334,0.06616983416544138,0.0,0.0,0.12043256508271286,0.0,0.0,0.29603041472741404,0.0,0.07011205508278541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783804391895574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650107511709825
parenting,chodellbeckham,2019/04/17,"3 year old with high fever. My daughter recently came down with a pretty high fever that started at about 102. When taken to the doctor, was told that it’s a viral infection and just to give her meds, hydrate, etc. Fever is 103 now. Should I be taking her to urgent care although she just saw a doctor? Or keep an eye for just a little longer? She is in totally good spirits, and still being awesome. Thanks for any help.",2.3705120481927686,4.583447662650607,3.2417921686747,90.2995557228916,78.39759036144578,5.595783132530121,21.218373493975907,6.6274283507984215,0.4046397590361441,328,9,65,3,8,104,65,83,0.0,0.763,0.237,0.9659,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,6,0,6,7,1,0,1,12,16,5,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,2,6,3,11,8,2,14,1,0,2,0,8,6,0,1,7,44,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13654977940108612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296598455689209,0.2047273239206896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110512869175592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239432646977929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1926240964566438,0.0,0.1684201485709485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459091686402072,0.4243090116246243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847882016990238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012527215061745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230417257995554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107041146826163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042841337960204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982641689741047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14212612200816718,0.0,0.16035784016705956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509753869312886,0.0,0.0,0.18486816387002006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918714505552692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930756886536512
parenting,Lacymist,2019/04/17,"What do Wasp Bites and Dracula have in common? 	When I was a new parent frequenting the town’s many playgrounds, I noticed numerous other mothers that had little net bags hanging from their strollers. They were similar to the ones you see in the produce section of a grocery store. I was so curious about what these were for and what was in them. I felt that maybe it was a standard thing other mothers knew about and I didn’t. 
	The reason I felt shy to ask them was because they were all part of a huge Lebanese family in our town and I had only heard the ladies speak Arabic. I just didn’t know how to ask about the bags.
	Finally, one hot day we are all at the park when a screaming toddler came charging towards her mother. She had been bitten by a wasp and it was still attached to her! One of the closer mothers quickly grabs her net bag and I finally see that there is a fresh garlic in there!!  Quick as a wink, the mom grabs a clove, smashes it on a rock then presses the pulp against the HUGE ANGRY RED WELT. A few minutes go by and the little girl eventually stops screaming and the mom takes off the garlic and we all look at wound. 
	Would you believe, it had gone down to the size of a freckle! The swelling was completely gone.
	Fast track two weeks later and the exact same thing happens to my daughter. It was kind of cool (not for my kid haha) because it happened at a big family get together and they were witnesses to the miracle of garlic on wasp stings. Today, it’s my grandchildren I have in my stroller and when summer ever gets here, there will be garlic...
	Hope it helps one person when she is faced with nursing a nasty wasp bite! I love bees! But wasps are assholes!",3.9992792792792784,5.409046681681683,4.381376576576578,87.37465945945948,71.67267267267269,7.1298018018018015,27.434114114114127,7.554174236665415,1.4520739699699703,1327,47,265,15,25,417,184,333,0.06,0.8590000000000001,0.081,0.809,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,3,2,6,1,18,7,0,0,32,2,29,3,1,3,5,36,50,21,0,2,3,8,6,0,0,2,1,4,0,3,19,16,0,1,5,1,1,5,3,2,0,5,26,15,31,5,38,21,7,49,0,0,4,1,33,23,0,1,21,191,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23023479957467602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012755357072202,0.0,0.0,0.13873434909138194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083705811426994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291078414484795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941381766346656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11138536323203173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321670790572296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364635652027933,0.2697833018339191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866903660966966,0.0,0.06998215837179386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778103869627646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253680016667282,0.0,0.0,0.12230381012217277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822926932056491,0.06767341987508671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468332342922708,0.0,0.0,0.10340489989175394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111368450938381,0.0,0.0,0.12484259626279885,0.12370866348513734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884354551435727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892743965860818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019341964857698,0.0,0.0,0.3337659599178636,0.09365199146153692,0.0,0.0,0.13673016733038454,0.13334644524910685,0.0,0.0,0.10751934465651423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12660636402149933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625007323376775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983381591968781,0.1029488747750976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925844450099366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636148201508401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672041793837032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028792519372287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877386933383983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747369626779207,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,IForgotMyPasswordBoo,2019/04/17,"Townhouses- kids playing loudly vs peace to work. I'm going to *try* ask this without revealing which party I am as I really would love objective opinions. 

It's a new townhouse complex of 15 units. 7 front, 8 back, a communal area in the middle plus walkway. No one has been here more than a month so theres no precedent. 

In one corner we have a person who needs to work from home and believes she should be able to do so in peace and quite. They have double glazed doors and windows but like a window facing the communal area open for the fresh air. 

In the other corner you have 5 kids between 4 and 7 yrs years who want to play, shout, scooter, bounce balls. Its school holidays so they want to do this during 'work' hours. 

Who wins? 
Or what compromises are reasonable ?",1.9787647058823552,4.561369966666671,2.9551764705882384,89.59111764705881,82.66666666666666,5.929411764705884,21.490196078431374,7.285733465282438,0.8317607843137251,605,19,118,9,17,192,110,150,0.032,0.778,0.191,0.9741,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,2,5,6,5,0,0,9,0,12,2,1,1,0,20,19,11,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,4,3,10,7,0,0,3,4,0,2,3,0,0,2,1,2,7,5,18,15,2,19,0,0,0,1,13,11,0,2,7,74,17,4,0.2045515037070018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19122804354276204,0.0,0.0,0.1572874801398846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23045949785118075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625133344794188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518183632829767,0.0,0.20144202738872846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09993353241569346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846157183194758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16327105872375028,0.0,0.0,0.1516723481360496,0.0,0.1975571169213205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772187854927787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786064831176517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175657029346735,0.0,0.0,0.13104093111530704,0.21031301381563205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20701704223507564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13887704390370914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412995532662107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971803501361177,0.0,0.4467477926860455,0.0,0.0,0.14530751936410194,0.0,0.0,0.1317244619028247
parenting,madbr3991,2019/04/17,I have a 2 year old. And my wife wants another baby what do I do? I am 33 years old. My wife is 35 years old. We have a 2 year old boy. My wife wants another baby. But I'm having a hard time with the 2 year old. I never get any time alone. I am getting ready to go to college. What do I do? I don't know how I could keep up with another baby.,-3.0367003367003385,-1.4533691481481483,0.97564534231201,101.18313131313131,98.5061728395062,4.426936026936027,13.536475869809205,6.11248444174946,-0.9928123456790124,253,5,71,3,11,94,43,81,0.055,0.908,0.037000000000000005,0.1179,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,1,12,20,3,0,3,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,12,0,5,19,0,15,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,13,39,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764233335003673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09037525326743563,0.4180656808237451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610830474110036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388675257236245,0.0,0.07552904283702011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905057794195124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812592189072205,0.0,0.0,0.07303731047445335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249919401522413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6972709078130077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15498788111271686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677346448123775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4279100389931057
parenting,throwaway_7212,2019/04/17,"Can pediatricians test for Marijuana use in teens? Do they often offer this + The title pretty much says this, can you request that your pediatrician test your child for drug use without their knowledge? Is this something that many pediatricians offer?

*I have no need to get involved with any kind of debates about ethics, trust, etc. I have that covered and I'm simply looking for facts, please.",4.409142857142856,7.613113557142861,4.51107142857143,78.30517857142857,77.71428571428572,5.7857142857142865,25.892857142857146,7.1686216300943375,1.4880000000000002,319,12,52,4,8,99,55,70,0.03,0.845,0.125,0.7987,0,0,2,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,2,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,2,1,9,12,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,7,2,9,12,2,1,0,0,1,0,11,1,0,1,0,34,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779135697183971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30340125438374843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917803735130701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366879556416894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27244156230106426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196986119110367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652460873229289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19232404362978126,0.1939911843681929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871850369323383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2661660797980868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080542310063167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141125199070845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4519189779872708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521965943504033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,NewMomKat,2019/04/17,"What to look for in a baby monitor (essential features) Would love to get recommendations on what to look for in a baby monitor, especially from anyone who loves theirs. What features did you find worthwhile? (iPhone App Integration, Continuous Audio, etc.) Thank You in Advance!",7.153260869565218,10.130884108695657,7.62108695652174,60.905978260869595,66.6086956521739,10.686956521739132,35.413043478260875,10.686352973137794,4.8901913043478284,223,11,31,7,4,73,33,46,0.0,0.753,0.247,0.92,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,8,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,3,10,6,1,6,0,0,2,2,6,4,0,0,1,22,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181632377025151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479713789304974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28516964584565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630112945403394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.524016252466516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5631987762474389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.287255033050494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22164152064179893,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,theblumkin,2019/04/17,"Sleep training... Again? My daughter is coming up on 8mo.

We had her sleeping through the night in her own room a couple weeks after delivery, then around 4 months it was a battle to go more than a couple hours, but we eventually got back to sleeping through the night.

Now we're teething and I feel like we're going through the sleep training again. Is this typical to have to train and retrain babies to sleep?",3.6490596745027126,5.8412272151898765,3.5987703435804725,89.36227848101265,74.31645569620251,6.033273056057867,27.74141048824593,6.868970318607317,1.2733638336347195,326,13,63,3,7,99,55,79,0.024,0.928,0.048,0.4234,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,6,0,5,6,6,0,0,8,10,4,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,3,1,6,1,14,7,2,19,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,12,43,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13942206216858813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042857017728854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491141393755346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465867856330803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07919010620134792,0.11188699735968824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801775266394845,0.0,0.1252606772564427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15423589538381272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07651500558648665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500995079803168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2939483152916495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7836490026244595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12562846481039405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,historylearner-,2019/04/17,"Stepdad applying for guardianship first time poster want opinions of other parents

My daughters biological father has not been involved (she’s two). He now wants to be involved (he lives in a different state and is only planning on seeing her every few months) 

My partner has been in her life since she was born, yay! She’s so lucky, he’s her dad in every way and loves her so much. He is applying for guardianship which doesn’t block the bio dad at all, as that’s not what we want to do. 

How do I explain this to bio dad in a way he doesn’t feel threatened, this is really just in the interest of protecting her. It makes sense for her everyday parent to have legal rights, I have to tell bio dad (who has never met her btw) and I don’t know how to not make him feel defensive.

Any advice! :)",3.590660377358489,4.930894811320759,4.4944811320754745,86.43908018867926,72.58490566037736,7.564150943396226,25.828616352201266,8.07648339933343,1.4346767295597491,621,20,128,9,12,201,97,159,0.036000000000000004,0.831,0.133,0.9198,3,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,2,6,5,1,0,4,1,17,2,0,4,2,25,29,8,0,3,4,8,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,8,4,0,3,4,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,4,3,17,4,19,24,3,18,0,0,1,1,33,8,0,2,7,83,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823319039823624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688642618063858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949450353080996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314417340320201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18868927756452855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587118923920542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025440368783828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13179281753019315,0.0,0.0,0.16476086631433526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684032041366529,0.0,0.2490982464511809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14893298188338808,0.0,0.13716385210761545,0.0,0.14390838138512824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190879201748818,0.0,0.0,0.4143683989074135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953322758076401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934536834867907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486866984424217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543477501983704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308637758429093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880112433825076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226963348175945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301637988628894,0.29621017730972465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mytrwawyacct,2019/04/17,"As a dad, how old is too old to help a daughter that can’t handle her own hair in the bath? Recently divorced, 10 yr old daughter with hair down to her butt... Ex always did the hair cause I was at work at bath time. Now she is flipping her shit about me going to try to help her in the bath... Telling me to wash it in the sink.... Seriously?",1.235114155251139,2.467662123287674,2.8947260273972617,95.97898401826487,78.45205479452055,5.962557077625571,21.755707762557076,6.42735559955562,0.06625296803653002,257,7,64,2,6,85,49,73,0.078,0.851,0.071,-0.1377,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,6,0,5,6,5,2,0,3,6,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,3,8,0,14,4,1,13,0,0,0,1,13,6,2,0,6,39,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19666404791978012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427989189939677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13432445919411162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31684393005144185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7440359423529915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333693831271143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426122401322213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2065823284079277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781892719751782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16046769756147589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17206728980758645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,jacklynnv123,2019/04/17,Need help with babysitting rates My husband and I are going on a trip this summer and our babysitter will be watching our son for 5 days. 3 of those days he will be in daycare services for part of the day but she will be staying with him overnight. Any suggestions on what to pay her? He is 5 years old and our typically hourly rate with her is $12 an hour. Do we pay a flat overnight fee?,3.0551851851851843,4.147725320987654,3.514506172839507,93.91027777777781,73.56790123456791,6.387654320987655,27.08024691358025,6.42735559955562,0.7954098765432103,305,11,70,2,6,95,60,81,0.047,0.929,0.024,-0.1803,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,10,0,0,0,0,9,12,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,10,0,11,6,1,14,0,0,1,0,14,3,0,0,8,43,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18694940111881495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5318859620645205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623866949146406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842675353568587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5414653476292695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203843561777588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884736117916563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29770260980595664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930193222391646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703413850639774
parenting,redditoranna,2019/04/17,"gift ideas for new baby: 3rd daughter Hi! I'm childfree so I'm a little clueless about this. So I thought I'd ask here. My neighbors just had a baby girl. They have two other daughters aged\~ 1.5 and 3.5 yo. They waited to find out the gender until the birth. I want to buy them a small (maybe $10) gift for the baby, but I imagine that they already have tons of stuff from their first two that they are re-using. I'd like to get something cute and practical. It would have been easier if it was a boy, because they probably don't have any ""boy stuff"" yet. Any ideas? Thanks!",0.9106649282920428,3.1634240169491536,2.150000000000002,95.81514341590616,84.2542372881356,4.647718383311604,19.246414602346803,5.873414542411696,-0.2344571056062579,446,12,97,3,13,142,83,118,0.015,0.812,0.173,0.9565,0,0,1,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,7,1,6,3,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,0,0,14,18,7,0,3,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,3,8,3,0,1,5,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,11,3,10,13,1,9,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,1,7,59,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2048521719219608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524755097174422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354310132662767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316100471941093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696664747643889,0.15790052228619736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698631005913126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191172748567288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069158906113248,0.18605443255622608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864947015989174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928685628165456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014527589365605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291042720819522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4250139412366747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17090721093922062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737297474872546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626756620428837,0.0,0.2232953216579379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949197629892553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186934870714326,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bickingbackbeinbool,2019/04/17,"My 7 year old nephew has severe behavioral issues and cps has been called. Looking for advice. My brother(his father) passed away two weeks ago, but I need you all to keep in mind the fact that these issues have been going on for as long as I can remember. I am in no way trying to downplay the impact his fathers death has had on him, because I know that it has exacerbated the issue. But just keep in mind that this has been a recurring issue since he was old enough to talk.

His parents did not enforce any type of discipline whatsoever when he was little, so he doesn’t listen to or respect anyone. He never listened to his dad when he was alive and he screams at the top of his lungs and hits his mother. Hes been kicked out of school more times than I can count for threatening to kill his teachers and classmates(he choked one of them today), and throwing severe tantrums. The school is at the point where they are ready to expel him, since all he does is sit in the principles office day after day and he is disrupting the other children’s classroom experience. I doubt he has learned anything this year.  They have told us that if they do expel him he is going to have a hard time getting into another school, since he will be considered a threat to people’s safety. He will likely have to start attending an alternative school.

My father and mother(his grandparents) are old school. The believe in spanking and they believe the reason why he has gotten this bad is because he has never been spanked.

I on the hand think he needs counseling. First of all his father just died. Second of all, his parents split up about a year ago and he was constantly being shuffled around between his fathers house, his mothers house, and his grandparents house. His mother has had a series of relationships since then with men she stupidly introduced him to, which was extremely inappropriate. He was constantly listening to his parents argue when they were together because his mom was cheating. His dad was also very sick for a long time and couldn’t do a lot of physical activity with him. I think it got him and he’s at the point now where unless we reach out to a professional, he is only going to taken away by cps.


I’ve tried everything I can think of as his aunt. I can only do much. I’ve tried spending time with him. I take him somewhere fun every week. This past weekend we went to an amusement park and I bought him some new clothes. He was super well behaved and affectionate the whole time. Hes always well behaved when he’s with me. I’ve tried to talk to him about what is on his mind and I can’t get him to talk about anything. 

Reddit, we are lost at this point. His mother now has to sit down and talk to cps and we’re trying to avoid having him removed from our care. What do you think is the best course of action? I know that his mother needs to be putting more effort into spending him with him. She is focused on these men she dates who are useless. She’s stopped answering his schools calls because she feels like she doesn’t know how to handle him. Now they either call my brothers friend(who’s basically his uncle) or my grandparents.",4.59414649817948,6.1885741264367855,4.822193546084102,84.07018901263655,70.46141215106731,7.4631398586421085,27.196437495537943,7.967736418589885,1.6415054329977874,2509,85,476,33,46,787,277,609,0.134,0.777,0.09,-0.9861,6,1,0,0,0,0,56.0,5,2,7,6,20,23,6,2,24,0,66,3,2,2,7,75,99,34,3,5,10,19,3,2,0,2,1,4,0,3,19,30,0,5,12,2,3,10,8,12,2,4,25,8,78,11,77,67,13,84,0,2,1,0,115,30,0,6,43,322,97,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05970211094621094,0.10831548492166694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048858291054561104,0.05083660182599085,0.0,0.0,0.04154724065261493,0.06406427579012967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042719605541288085,0.0,0.10055327924511506,0.054388217141070866,0.0,0.0,0.11480303489045635,0.0,0.05101244297694862,0.14897373613245168,0.0,0.0,0.1376680950463288,0.06411627523986313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18715693531489816,0.0,0.06229124230303287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204571528696718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788034763538244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06340779704125124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053465348341325485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312829575020391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051475848508182716,0.0,0.05490896765925903,0.059763418049645876,0.0,0.0,0.030891873384395724,0.04364685339614906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051968058255949016,0.0,0.0,0.04720246532987837,0.0,0.06384007016831822,0.0,0.10416645726210236,0.0,0.04886389433562623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05472983845423293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114890590479012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550725778028255,0.0,0.10860951259705567,0.0675934531882632,0.0,0.10072996551131998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596966459060979,0.061234044383554814,0.0,0.10813572498864754,0.051305086590983234,0.0,0.0666932854048284,0.05194146633925295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506803171077185,0.07155466528927391,0.0,0.0,0.044912444489861064,0.13590528986948344,0.09424169839608174,0.05900670660786935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19232930139347865,0.0,0.041400096834468735,0.0929322215171998,0.0,0.0,0.20351897487919,0.0,0.058322856463566074,0.04235613666065402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326584334724865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06141815612122329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281666029261886,0.0,0.06559402724280955,0.06920963413148003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709932822777202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13804173282122575,0.0,0.2021563161547976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043243923351583724,0.0,0.0,0.05107882644158791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04593643989003772,0.19642596659833025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659089278539134,0.0,0.0,0.17812726830689726,0.0,0.05791167686959276,0.058379657334859614,0.0,0.20740019676076726,0.0,0.059681721314695686,0.0,0.07349072768212722,0.0,0.0,0.05041043539699655,0.0,0.048495004118567935,0.09801473478343813,0.0,0.1098649272213899,0.05663642085785341,0.05512945876382203,0.06821128145093283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803108079890105
parenting,KarmaChameleon306,2019/04/17,"Looking for a larger electric ride on car for my son who has special needs. Hello, not really sure where else to post this:  

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I am looking for one of those little electric cars for kids that come with a parental remote control.  My boy's birthday is coming up soon and he has very severe cognitive delays.   Basically he has the mind of a small child in the body of a 12 year old.  He absolutely loves wagon rides and riding the little kids rides at the fair and I know that he would absolutely love one of these ride on cars.  The problem is that they all seem to be for much smaller kids.  I would love to find one for him as it would make him so happy!  

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Does anyone have any ideas on some larger ones?  any ideas for modifying one that is a little bit small for him?  It's like looking for a needle in a haystack.  

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Much appreciate any help.",3.5922521008403336,5.420349905882354,4.208067226890758,86.52058823529416,73.47058823529412,6.504201680672269,24.495798319327733,7.1686216300943375,0.9574621848739496,684,21,135,7,14,217,100,170,0.042,0.789,0.16899999999999998,0.9764,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,1,1,3,8,0,0,12,0,12,4,1,2,2,24,24,5,0,5,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,5,10,6,0,2,5,0,0,10,1,1,0,5,0,3,9,7,25,20,5,28,0,0,3,3,21,13,0,2,5,84,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31056284376767057,0.3482861038184685,0.1949178263511936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06680598216947367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430835904066407,0.10612688542144573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460390336780706,0.0,0.0,0.10715975120525073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361044215455535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07981403028827183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873246953807011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017074448737316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404055008806665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2157131419538116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052508008868645234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04667755017220029,0.2872779670190637,0.0,0.0,0.240696513221867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258694231439402,0.0,0.06377578517478813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647133105867957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047039656661894,0.07084402471040938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10025644913115964,0.0,0.32371250809712043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106089345743826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150391371175252,0.0,0.0,0.0914218777555564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120737943399297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08697888265177105,0.0,0.10793654839093812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004827495956265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883309327452215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036133076123716,0.0,0.3482861038184685,0.061526647069763934
parenting,neppynite,2019/04/17,"I hate my step kids. Hate if course is a strong word. And I don't REALLY mean hate. It's just, they suck. I've been living with my girlfriend for a year. I spent all of last year doing everything I think a father should do. Whether right or wrong, I've gotten no response. All three (12,10,5) are spoiled brats and act accordingly. I try to set ground rules sometimes like bedtime is 10pm, and I'll come home at 1230 and catch them up watching TV.

OK. I'll stop. I wont go into a rant about how I think I've done a good job of trying to do the right thing and how I'm getting pushback from their mother and grandmother and I get no support and whatever. I don't want to debate best parenting tactics.

My question is, does it matter if I like the kids or not? Does it matter if I'll never love them? Because I love my girlfriend. And we've talked about spending the rest of Our lives together (dating 4 years known each other 20). I've reached a sort of breaking point with setting rules and trying to enforce them. I'm just accepting of how things are and will leave the rules up to their mother.

But can my relationship last if I don't like these kids? I know if they don't change I'll never like them. I have no problem being civil and helping, but I don't grt joy playing games with them anymore. They're just jerks.",2.1762254901960816,3.9838684852941166,3.1461764705882374,92.69196078431378,77.38235294117645,5.85686274509804,23.098039215686285,6.6274283507984215,0.4811098039215685,1036,32,225,9,24,330,150,272,0.135,0.765,0.099,-0.8842,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,1,0,9,2,8,21,5,0,10,1,21,2,0,3,4,54,41,25,0,8,14,4,0,4,2,3,0,0,1,3,7,18,0,1,7,3,2,5,12,7,0,1,4,1,30,14,21,33,5,25,0,0,1,2,26,8,1,9,13,129,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241709711451705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752465176502461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954032198574755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058079125469654,0.10633070718441197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21604244517652185,0.12631969331713552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093790654362724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898227812296598,0.0,0.07015252816525569,0.1035337433130574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3656077214288691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273773391785395,0.0,0.12381814578037098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249293795614954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678381691031074,0.2012365118397781,0.0,0.13070277327993268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24122183340236064,0.0,0.21799562121515373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22281480986118052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445991634757187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904056327202547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137063033462411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166885893499314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811327331835778,0.0,0.0,0.13827855019346316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0790773949701362,0.0,0.0,0.13252596751117174,0.0,0.2108303587980436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12208310882384553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319950120532828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007571629546525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921460215958312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640131362897666,0.15818787504084106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.251418425363487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280679371455051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13495982169633486,0.0,0.2384696265311009
parenting,bulletproof-ish,2019/04/17,"17yo stepson just sent the most vile texts to his father. We think biomom is a narcissist or borderline, she gets in his head. Or are all teens this hurtful?? [messages](https://imgur.com/gallery/Xg4Yrgm)

Stepson sent this slew of messages to his dad (my husband) earlier this afternoon after he asked to have 4 friends spend the night and husband said no. The kids don’t have school for the rest of the week but we still work, and the last time stepson has friends over, a chair ended up broken from roughhousing.

A as-short-as-possible backstory. I have three teenager stepsons, 13, 15, & 17. They live with their father and I full time. BioMom divorced their dad about 3 years ago. Their mom got remarried within 6 months of filing and then moved 10 hours away with new husband and his kids to a very high paying job. Via our therapist and some reading, we think she is either a narcissist or has tendencies to be a borderline mom. We’ve overheard her talking badly about their dad multiple times, as the boys put the calls on speakerphone. We’ve also heard the stepdad on the phone saying “you were always my son, I just didn’t find you until now” and “you can call me your real dad”.

These texts were send to biodad after the 17yo decides he doesn’t like hearing no for an answer and their dad often resorts to turning off the internet. It’s only an issue with the 17yo, and seems to be the only punishment that works, unfortunately.

We have been trying techniques with the boys so they know they don’t have to choose sides, but when you are up against narc/borderline/toxic, it makes times like these difficult to handle. Any advice ??",5.016372549019606,6.9352449673202665,4.614526143790852,84.68786764705884,69.91503267973857,7.714379084967319,27.45588235294117,8.344100000000001,1.8641529411764703,1304,45,240,20,24,395,186,306,0.095,0.8640000000000001,0.041,-0.9502,1,0,0,0,1,0,51.0,5,5,8,2,10,9,2,0,23,0,21,1,1,1,1,39,35,20,0,0,8,13,0,2,2,0,0,4,0,4,8,17,0,0,8,1,2,5,6,5,0,1,9,4,31,4,36,24,6,38,0,1,0,0,60,12,0,7,23,151,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258143159873211,0.1141302914609874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1029623973409802,0.10713142608339823,0.1395020193852798,0.0,0.08755532394120683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120365119543037,0.0,0.12096611894531364,0.0,0.10750198809166804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26293901980721224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403546878248665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11767638910073976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19894592650984969,0.0,0.06726725934402912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10297420551598978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13213601608556388,0.0,0.145112113680072,0.0,0.0,0.13603285602844328,0.0,0.0,0.12679413154281455,0.0,0.13783096870005002,0.0,0.0,0.13438294473498,0.12776583489171986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0707583674422682,0.10494952351910636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580279913686526,0.0,0.11368978902793535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594251693309833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015840186013746,0.10276808849329594,0.13684229492626598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434884316271885,0.0,0.1208244075191778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958423864426314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943065461380687,0.0,0.0,0.12878617851335436,0.14654720827503273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247200484048305,0.10238823054323264,0.0,0.13030322631784286,0.0,0.11721038125418325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10282098370220796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348544732355797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949022526983946,0.0,0.16499731544993487,0.0,0.0,0.3003037589865272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741370607347955,0.14004448231459354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062333366036312,0.0,0.0,0.1032765560380876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746501289255801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291163947473137
parenting,canadia80,2019/04/17,"2 year 9 month old sleep issues Hey everyone hoping another toddler parent can help here. My son has been sleep trained since he was 6 months old and since then hes been a champ sleeper. He has always slept so well at night that hes tended to drop naps early. We noticed he was taking over an hour to fall asleep, waking up in the middle of the night, etc. He just stopped napping altogether but hes still sometimes waking in the middle of the night and I cant figure out why. We tried 7-7 and he woke up in the middle of the night. We tried 8-7 and hes pulling the same crap. Anyone have a suggestion?",1.9410822510822496,3.6422880000000006,3.299494949494949,91.80863636363638,77.73015873015873,5.851659451659452,20.978354978354982,6.574015621080383,0.2166285714285716,472,12,103,4,11,154,82,126,0.053,0.883,0.064,0.0697,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,0,1,5,4,1,0,10,0,13,7,7,0,0,14,18,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,1,1,2,0,2,1,1,1,0,6,0,9,3,13,12,2,28,0,0,0,0,17,11,1,1,14,55,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240262580645282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.156297866428228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422319020091927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16623647316878487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14242908035269525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990887366146556,0.0,0.0,0.1480459127218017,0.14678980999986727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557539363097012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379496274855056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595145960551905,0.0,0.0,0.16970086826184172,0.31281770366487394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16550868201743513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466007810928321,0.0,0.29832663250166497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14741986900185705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903605062786428,0.12461721441496353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11207131365445984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20239803135648304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134018948222009,0.0,0.13449955807439118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095986964516285
parenting,atlnw,2019/04/17,"Full-time daycare vs. part-time, 18 month old My son goes to daycare 3 days a week Monday Wednesday Friday. it gives our parents a chance to spend the other days with our son, and we save a little bit of money.

at what point do you think our son is going to be falling behind or missing out by not being at school with his other friends? 

When should we bite the bullet and put him in daycare full time?

Thank you",3.681071428571428,4.695245916666671,4.058095238095241,90.90357142857144,71.97619047619048,5.6000000000000005,23.523809523809533,3.1291,0.09282380952380942,323,8,67,0,6,101,63,84,0.044,0.828,0.128,0.8105,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,5,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,10,4,0,1,3,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,1,0,2,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,3,12,7,2,19,0,1,0,0,15,7,0,1,9,42,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2817531743905836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328765490083038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938960171179645,0.0,0.0,0.2475709146589853,0.14667107095691306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586608906020656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599454930127906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708083326746624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865638977283715,0.2794721738800601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24396612375949006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594386034987889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26118763880285284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376025703042277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653652808490621,0.0,0.0,0.15048673764605705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070137522879194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shannobananno,2019/04/17,"Toddler/Tween room share? Hi, this is my first ever post. Naturally, it’s me needing advice;-). We are a blended family (4, 6, 6, 8) and are expecting one of our own. We have some unfinished basement space adjacent to my bedroom. Right now my bedroom looks like a walk-in closet because no way my clothes will fit in tiny closet so they are hanging along a wall. Also the desk, filing cabinet and books, etc crammed into bedroom too. DH has his own business but bedroom is no place to work. In fairness, however, he doesn’t really NEED the space much. 

Anyway, we don’t have an extra bedroom for baby. We were thinking we would finish the basement and create a large walk-in closet for our bedroom and a small office. The closet could be used as a small nursery until baby ready for toddler bed. Once baby has outgrown crib, nursery would convert to closet and baby girl could share room with my daughter who is currently 9. So, the girls will be 1 and 11 or 2 and 12 by then. Although we really really want closet and office, we CAN get by without them. 

But then I thought about challenges of kids sharing a room that far apart in age. Especially bedtime!!! Older having to leave room for nap time. Teen wanting own space. Sleepovers. Started thinking we could convert unfinished basement space into a more permanent bedroom space instead of closet/den so that the girls would not have to share. It would not be a great room but we could put my step sons in it since we only have them every other weekend. Husband really really wants closet/den but I am thinking I would rather girls have their own space. 

I would be sooo grateful for any advice. Thank you so much!",4.020857142857139,6.153189498412701,4.655873015873016,82.46190476190479,73.06349206349206,6.6984126984126995,28.49206349206349,7.526774132740827,1.8635396825396828,1312,53,229,16,27,419,175,315,0.032,0.861,0.108,0.9694,2,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,12,1,4,3,13,8,0,0,16,0,35,0,0,1,1,54,49,23,0,17,9,3,0,1,0,8,0,0,19,5,8,22,0,0,4,3,0,3,7,0,0,2,2,1,29,8,27,31,10,43,0,0,1,0,33,25,0,2,14,159,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259692432611898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246298733541536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862702324144355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048218623704035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3692594971015079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894925466293394,0.0,0.10458684936475902,0.09741664364348517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10899826790631574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834813720766368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06040779847245788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747382270268778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242715670688245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056487139595389285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709348135830098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16999116000316575,0.17146471048943085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313381059619972,0.07834855756652782,0.08793585117008194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12080053228193804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073405370015743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162321904640397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3703525328129859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874067981654394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564383289379454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818379491154529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10644933650544912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2222580050991986,0.0,0.0917910677649238,0.06742020237736181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986040986557833,0.0,0.0,0.2045908098137992,0.09177547668703133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145562149524793,0.0,0.08417429838737403,0.0,0.0,0.4928079253580422,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,FabulousLetterhead,2019/04/17,"Looking for non-traditional books/blogs etc. I've been looking for things to read about pregnancy and parenting, but I am getting increasingly frustrated with the very ""traditional"" presumptions I keep encountering, e.g. that the mother is the primary caretaker, that there will be a stay at home parent, that parents must own/use a car... so please, hit me with your recommendations, be it parenting blogs, advice books or anything else.",10.470753424657532,11.010679328767123,9.46996575342466,59.67289383561646,57.08219178082192,13.875342465753427,41.53767123287671,13.023866798666859,6.003523287671232,353,17,53,12,4,111,58,73,0.064,0.88,0.056,-0.1564,4,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,1,7,12,4,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,7,6,2,4,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,1,0,34,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673370082949908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091867654636292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305183568796373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19098158834141016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946757645582595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717710306475274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15220894724093395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876025508774897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7605818476163044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18797376204869265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128967918357646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252261398116265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376646485321874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598465134388225,0.0,0.0,0.14129368815419885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,rkayonly,2019/04/17,Teen son suspended from school hurt another kid My son (15) punched another kid in the face most likely breaking his nose.  I'm not defending my kid.  How do I punish him for this in an effective manner?,4.2723076923076935,5.894951615384617,5.515897435897441,78.67076923076927,71.30769230769229,10.328205128205127,30.948717948717945,10.504223727775694,3.591933333333333,159,7,30,5,3,53,32,39,0.215,0.7170000000000001,0.067,-0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,2,0,1,2,2,2,0,4,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,1,4,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,1,1,16,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8038108699366636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4103121647714091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872526157763673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879026562130919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,fdy383,2019/04/17,"My 12yo son said he doesn't want to see me ): I was married (to a man; gay marriage) and we adopted Trevor when he was an infant. Being raised by two gay men was never an issue. There were divorced parents, some gay moms and grandmoms who went to his school so he didn't really stand out. My ex and I divorced a few years ago but remained on very good terms and coparented well. 

Acceptance of having two gay dads changed when he hit middle school. Apparently, being fat, ugly or poor is redeemable but not being gay. Trevor is not gay, but he was teased about being gay because his dads are. Eventually even his closest friends ditched him and we pulled him out of school to homeschool (ex is a college professor) until he starts 7th grade next year. 

Trevor made it clear that he doesn't want any of the new kids at his school to know he has two dads and since my ex only works until 1PM, he is the one who picks him up and Trevor only wants him to be seen with him. He doesn't want to be teased or bullied over having two dads ever again. I asked him how am I suppose to see you and he said ""well, I don't want to see you."" I tried understanding that friends are the biggest thing in his world right now, but I miss him dearly. My ex tells him to go see me, but it's not like he's 5.",3.3047547846889955,4.275154814393944,3.908492822966508,91.78866028708134,72.82575757575758,6.618500797448168,23.74322169059011,6.5966054737557815,0.4640712121212127,997,26,224,7,19,315,142,264,0.11,0.799,0.092,-0.0221,3,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,2,2,0,1,12,11,2,0,8,0,26,8,1,3,3,38,47,21,0,5,10,11,0,1,2,0,1,2,0,4,7,13,1,0,3,0,1,3,9,3,2,5,11,7,30,8,25,29,3,31,0,1,5,7,57,12,0,3,16,133,37,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614029056020323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375425205741885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139234219108917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06611417697096035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147327718493137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07163460505254518,0.09810526371134323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675867023170074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06163842270596859,0.09096830579830922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320058143874065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960494727896699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052986448678436035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026243197971517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702313647626534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08364846700579125,0.10474812391568657,0.11534489476740123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349304380190591,0.1649723635642707,0.0,0.0,0.1204282926770215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06948011746881175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262140021691312,0.2063342514967549,0.0,0.0,0.4390557451055492,0.3457036836673433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971647492395975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676618645969377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479590655630396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205378970908698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363495697127187,0.0,0.4237856134773322,0.1129072142967944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948810799930483,0.3198527582835093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950311358173524,0.10054041601718904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07895774460333987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968507410056394
parenting,deeryelhsa,2019/04/17,"Tantrums!! Help! First time mom here! 

My daughter (14 months) is starting to throw the most incredible tantrums. How did you handle these with your children? Please help!",3.444047619047616,5.998351500000003,0.9800000000000004,96.34833333333331,105.42857142857143,3.295238095238096,26.095238095238088,5.46131890053228,0.6895523809523816,134,6,23,1,6,35,26,28,0.142,0.619,0.239,0.5558,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,2,2,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,4,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.331715391743853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5227885454005857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567379391131019,0.3112770044162209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280791283287945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760286887084077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273995164324648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jumiell,2019/04/17,"We took away screen time limits as long as our son handled his business. Now my husband wants to go back on that because of how much time our son spends online. My 13 year old is my oldest. He has a 12 year old brother and an 8 year old sister. The boys share a bedroom. 

The 13 year old is obsessed with being in front of the computer. He spends most of his time watching YouTube videos and playing video games. It's his last year of junior high and I thought having screen time limits was getting ridiculous at his age. We didn't have limits for his brother but his brother has never been one to zone out online. The 13 year old came to us with a contract saying that as long as he maintained an A average, practiced his instrument, and got at least an hour of exercise everyday then we cut out screen time limits. We agreed. 

Sure enough he has a 96.8 GPA (highest he ever had), practices his instrument every school night after dinner, and rides his bike to school, from school, and after school. The rest of his time is spent in front of the computer. This weekend my husband clocked him at 7 hours on Saturday and 8 on Sunday. It is a lot and since it's getting nicer my husband wants him to be outside more. I say we should stick to our agreement. He has to learn how to manage his time some day and he's doing a good job right now. He says he likes being on the computer because it's the only time he has alone since he shares his room. It gives him some space to do whatever he wants. 

My husband says that we should make him pick another extracurricular or go back to limits. He's more like our other kids. Active and outgoing and I think he wants that for the 13 year old but our son doesn't want that. 

I know he's spending a lot of time online but as long as he is following the agreement, I don't see the problem. Am I missing something?",2.954193548387096,4.6839754946236605,3.681397849462368,90.04209677419355,74.96774193548387,6.305376344086023,24.903225806451612,6.968188349444268,0.8960774193548389,1452,48,300,14,31,460,173,372,0.032,0.852,0.116,0.9872,1,1,1,0,0,0,34.0,12,0,0,5,7,14,2,1,22,0,26,2,0,4,3,55,47,24,0,8,4,11,0,2,0,2,1,4,2,2,12,22,1,5,4,7,4,8,4,5,0,1,9,9,40,9,43,33,11,70,0,1,5,0,65,16,0,6,48,179,52,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940212551647273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039024732911207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202956917214058,0.11790176057285645,0.0,0.09346890560709976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768467465010069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04944277349853233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792157445976485,0.0,0.0,0.06934814931919113,0.0645938183490131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010890573634914,0.07354433765175414,0.08714130883313037,0.06430321284672905,0.061316240645146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100109434290646,0.0,0.0,0.15099974684173284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607847653878919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04213324165996191,0.062492448545200925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490958213327713,0.0,0.0,0.20353912308541747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035618600694848,0.0,0.0,0.051174680333912544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056357813713882925,0.0,0.05912900246929695,0.0,0.0,0.07194518675944245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4826839893830256,0.0,0.05195038862025033,0.05830741220805739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335833430893031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654717438127878,0.0,0.2438692817006366,0.0,0.3103574896920427,0.06109231494880889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683665002367975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05902069031692597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225613409613643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04912402600843716,0.0,0.060863681353755576,0.402337355125807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517796463509544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221891142758946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260958892772976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34558955895695265
parenting,P1stolz,2019/04/17,Would people be biased towards a 15 year old male baby sitter I am really good with kids and want to become a babysitter but I feel like people would not hire a male baby sitter because of constantly seeing men go to prison for being pedophiles. Now that I think about it if I had children I would not hire a man as a babysitter. I would get a CPR certification and take first aid classes and learn exactly what a good baby sitter has to do. Would any of y’all personally hire a 15 year old male babysitter?,5.826666666666667,5.9609398019802,6.630445544554457,77.50758250825083,66.82178217821783,8.713531353135314,28.71452145214521,8.344100000000001,1.9778501650165008,404,12,76,5,6,134,64,101,0.062,0.8270000000000001,0.111,0.584,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,0,1,18,18,6,0,7,4,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,0,8,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,7,3,10,10,0,9,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,1,8,48,10,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004036098289805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10760558812938263,0.19495362113073572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907565349745421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925434214768843,0.1261066668963394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014870722183002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922249582379442,0.0,0.10032097547786956,0.29611494826170576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862392641662138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3704582767986812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24475492738966576,0.15413136418825035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130838988862252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066441534868496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327218544493704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131075554075911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041166834309072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6269774141302208,0.0,0.0,0.22734752575214945
parenting,Raybdbomb,2019/04/17,"Buying a playground as someone not handy? I'm not exactly a handy person, but my son is turning 5 and I promised him we'd buy him a playground for our back yard.  All of the neighbors have one, so I feel like there's a competition here, too.

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 I originally thought maybe I'd build one from scratch, but I was quickly deterred.

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Any suggestions on a decent place to buy a playground?  Bonus points on one that can be easily assembled, or a service I can pay for to have someone assemble it for me?

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I'm in the NW USA, near Portland, OR.",3.6923838383838365,5.511635309090914,4.516666666666668,84.44944444444445,73.18181818181819,7.4343434343434325,33.13131313131313,8.167268648758528,2.555282828282828,444,23,86,7,9,143,75,110,0.015,0.8370000000000001,0.147,0.9404,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,1,2,12,13,7,0,0,6,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,2,0,0,3,2,2,11,3,12,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,4,58,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4517391173565965,0.5066106917935856,0.09450798617195544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686344593042517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07027009969323962,0.09928399942856378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06789632352456278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396193927845019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825198293092899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12134789262623995,0.14519963447438092,0.0,0.1313766022317325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355066825275365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033088377767736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15116524503905385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5066106917935856,0.0
parenting,pluspastry002,2019/04/17,"First Vacation W/ Baby I have an upcoming vacation in 2 months. We’re staying for 4 days at a resort. My LO only sleeps on his bed and it’s been like this since he was born. The hotel doesn’t offer a crib, only a pack n play. The problem there is he only associates his pack n play with play time nothing else. What can I do to get my LO to sleep for bedtime? He will be 1 year old.",0.3049999999999997,1.9608383095238116,2.974047619047621,92.44178571428571,82.57142857142857,6.104761904761905,20.02380952380953,7.1686216300943375,0.35119523809523834,294,8,69,4,8,103,66,84,0.034,0.8420000000000001,0.124,0.7184,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,6,0,9,2,2,0,0,3,10,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,6,4,8,6,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,8,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324748521025355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198503924690427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021224089969387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414845970771825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609082852539035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896687930795216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280061358818094,0.0,0.2493458675897201,0.0,0.0,0.542170088229436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22737357669448585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656459653501185,0.0,0.4755901736682945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532750107383981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385601609392925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15302172904035855
parenting,cactusesandcats,2019/04/17,"My son (1.5) broke his collarbone. Am I a bad mom? He was climbing off of my bed a few weeks ago, which he usually does just fine with. I had my back to him. He fell shoulder first and fractured his collarbone. It took two visits to the ER to get X-rays and a diagnosis. 

I’ve felt awful since it happened. I feel so bad for him and the pain he’s been in, and I feel like it’s my fault for not watching him closely enough. Am I a bad mom?",-0.7776136363636361,1.1434715416666703,1.7032196969696969,98.3955681818182,88.79166666666666,5.157575757575758,19.14393939393939,6.574015621080383,-0.1197583333333334,332,10,84,4,11,113,63,96,0.224,0.733,0.043,-0.9605,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,6,1,5,2,1,0,0,11,11,5,0,0,2,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,6,1,2,5,4,14,2,9,6,2,12,0,1,1,0,13,3,0,0,6,50,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762153467409414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15285724466774414,0.4979440566851406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17396247458810515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054032169607478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20102840083651366,0.14201562059045764,0.19086958098067708,0.0,0.0,0.1690906782469412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385957380712336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757893465145296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711875605987316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4656409068010978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115265829912907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444114787858535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22086301200704453,0.0,0.0,0.19418895134284891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21893910766872288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945735264053648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,esotericcunt,2019/04/17,"Currently crying my eyes out in the bathroom. DS is 6, aspergers and ADHD and this week has been hell. Between behaviour, work, house move and general life stresses, I'm absolutely done in. I know it's not all bad but this school holiday has broken me. So I'm going to sit here and cry, wash my face and drink a very large glass of wine. I know it's not all sunshine and picture postcard fun, but my god when it goes south it goes really fucking south.",2.579917582417582,4.4713829670329694,4.017678571428572,86.51794642857145,76.47252747252746,7.626923076923077,25.660714285714285,8.472884824447931,1.745031868131869,354,13,73,7,8,117,67,91,0.177,0.7040000000000001,0.12,-0.7199,1,0,2,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,3,6,2,1,2,0,5,7,2,0,2,16,11,10,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,2,3,0,2,2,4,0,0,2,2,6,2,6,9,2,11,1,0,2,1,0,5,2,0,3,40,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27628408474323585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919492277494105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5050485302681954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23525811984947045,0.0,0.22520547808300925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21253035380178453,0.0,0.0,0.1306522478439732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652631344607312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25268395921703124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16237868111918127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24433755413114674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14727394260341034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326617777862763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633391515472027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896839982617087,0.0,0.0,0.18440454477200585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16736325110599845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Julie-Carson,2019/04/17,I caught my son pleasuring himself And watching porn on his phone. I already put a block on his phone but what should I do to punish him?,3.7371428571428567,4.765244142857141,4.19857142857143,89.89642857142859,71.85714285714286,7.028571428571429,28.285714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.3236571428571429,108,4,23,1,2,34,23,28,0.219,0.701,0.08,-0.631,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,3,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,1,3,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,0,0,17,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7392488835534146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6734323189193032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mommytravels,2019/04/17,"Teenager out of control My teen is spiraling out of control rapidly. He’s dating a girl that sends inappropriate picts and he seems obsessed with her. Her parents are low life’s. I’m trying to set boundaries, but her parents won’t respect any of them. He just tested positive for marijuana. Says he’s only done it once. I’m pretty sure his girlfriend’s mom gave it to him. Advice?",1.6828378378378377,4.4354359324324335,3.4014054054054057,83.85643243243247,88.32432432432432,5.122162162162162,26.318918918918918,6.742157984588678,1.4757935135135134,305,14,54,4,10,101,57,74,0.037000000000000005,0.758,0.206,0.9468,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,1,2,1,4,0,1,1,0,4,1,0,2,1,10,8,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,3,4,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,1,7,2,9,5,0,6,0,1,0,0,18,3,0,1,1,27,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929259200734488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526077043016701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5033937818136754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22965116277928685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15850867529438412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26282836189226466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23899121933307596,0.0,0.1706752693876136,0.0,0.0,0.4983654437740645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283074554979319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784612529239818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20429605417867708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21150544475821265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1523608663401491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dvigue,2019/04/17,"Can a MOD please message me on why my post was locked/deleted???? my post on getting advice on how to handle my 12 y old son got locked by a mod..can a mod please message me so i know what i did wrong here? 

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parenting,Mikeaug31,2019/04/17,Single father in need Being a single father of two can sometimes be hard especially if you cant give them everything they deserve i never thought i would be in this position in my life if yall would pray for me thanks https://www.paypal.me/MichaelP5,11.485999999999995,9.93152037777778,9.705000000000002,65.55750000000002,56.33333333333334,12.555555555555555,38.05555555555557,11.20814326018867,4.2265555555555565,207,7,33,4,2,63,37,45,0.032,0.8490000000000001,0.119,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,0,0,1,7,11,2,0,5,2,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,8,1,5,5,2,4,1,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,1,28,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290023521589487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095649198926728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28907737954610385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22793378679192666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392792558960761,0.24888748062992425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3191602784911051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971004115884816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2561891403776769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31523271567630073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4584761235233101,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,spinachleaves,2019/04/17,"Advice on my daughter (3) needed Okay so on the verge of sounding absolutely insane, I need some advice, or someone to commiserate with. Lol. 

One of my biggest fears as a mom is not noticing somethings wrong with my kid- whether an illness, learning disability, somethings upsetting her in general, whatever, and I’ve been worried for a while that my 3 year old daughter isn’t... For lack of a better word... Normal? She’s very sensitive to noise (afraid of flushing, loud banging, still afraid of the blender, runs around nervous when her younger brother screams/cries, etc), throws massive tantrums over nothing all the time (daily), only likes certain things on tv and isn’t really open to watching new things/trying new things in general, repeats herself often, very clingy- still sleeps in bed with us and always needs to be touching us, always needs to be by me or my husband, follows us around 90% of the time, doesn’t listen to or respect anything we say.. Idk. I’m sure I’m over reacting but I’m going crazy over here. It takes every fiber of my being to keep my cool sometimes. 😅
A lot of it seems like normal behavior but I’m unsure on what to do about it. Do I go to a pediatrician? Do I try a new type of discipline at home to help the tantrums and not listening? Or is this just simply a threenager thing and I just have to roll with it? 😂",3.2786518661518653,5.567176857142859,4.109097490347492,84.8235432754183,75.79536679536679,6.633268983268982,29.324485199485196,7.6454224807358475,1.95388404118404,1062,48,198,15,24,340,161,259,0.097,0.81,0.092,0.3696,0,0,2,0,0,0,46.0,4,0,0,1,11,16,2,5,13,3,13,2,1,1,3,45,29,16,0,7,11,5,1,2,0,0,1,5,3,1,10,13,0,2,2,1,0,5,5,8,0,1,1,8,20,8,42,25,5,33,0,0,1,0,18,16,0,8,14,127,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130797942469441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814383526079229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971990986930274,0.1941142437713588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642549848504588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197610113833733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159389594501445,0.0,0.0,0.09185992785659247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268565700866282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12392508365876324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730784824557803,0.0,0.10936294439852344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690818394299286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10653014462390058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269083441977537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276910741982323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32336847886390885,0.0,0.3158967925235289,0.0,0.0,0.21364657172582235,0.10461432198889638,0.12412793248000438,0.11440546886051065,0.0,0.07387949919593276,0.08291992664060532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984547131435141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670262571573839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099254062326914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910571193724508,0.0,0.09237820123087093,0.16786858226169385,0.10783046505948976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413816448155825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275663267658144,0.0,0.0819747158440096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172980308132924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714901057619218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804431720136607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3934380766119219,0.0,0.0,0.17991734349173144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072218435219623,0.0,0.0,0.11920388068475472,0.0,0.07020979664084068
parenting,lordcarr_,2019/04/17,"5yr old boy & crying playing sports The title pretty much sums it up. 

I have a 5yr old who for 2.5 years now has cried at 90% of sports practices and 100% of sports games. Mom and I have tried for the said period of time to understand why he cries like this. He tells us he knows that other kids don't do it, he knows it takes away from the game, he knows he's supposed to just be having fun. But there is no end to this. 

We tell him we're proud of him and reward him for great self-control in all aspects of his life including sports and yet this still happens. 

Last week for the first time we pulled him from the game - in the middle of it. He was crying because the other team scored a touchdown. We had told him prior to the game that if he cries over something like this then we'd leave. Thought that would be enough, but we had to actually do it. Keep in mind, this is 100% of sports games. There has not been a sport (basketball, soccer, baseball, or football) that he hasn't cried in. Every game. Every time. All for the same reasons. ""The other team scored"" type of answer. 

Help. Seriously. How do we get him to stop crying over things like this?",2.136043956043956,4.007973410256412,2.6736630036630054,95.74038461538464,77.71794871794873,5.482783882783883,18.83516483516484,6.18269132825596,-0.31293992673992665,894,18,200,6,21,276,128,234,0.099,0.809,0.092,-0.2023,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,7,0,0,5,7,9,0,0,13,0,20,1,0,2,2,30,31,10,0,2,6,1,0,3,0,1,1,1,0,2,20,9,0,2,7,16,0,1,4,1,0,1,7,1,16,8,30,20,5,28,0,0,0,0,40,10,0,2,20,122,36,3,0.0,0.0,0.09424139346618926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10463688985635547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09073358593809144,0.0,0.0,0.05887005209744691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083149189503802,0.0,0.0,0.7425669415808741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553508285608384,0.09978580536728544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273396705269993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214501096249109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504554474403744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647215962242916,0.0,0.0,0.08539925409392812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06473089862854048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583858914812005,0.0,0.0,0.15922211448474724,0.07871994815083298,0.0,0.1022569457371462,0.0,0.0,0.06821242112123732,0.14154218370721025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975112790682195,0.11310522197415218,0.0,0.0,0.07099232430046729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026744004116796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982495391537402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09929320858882693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918631123581635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074678234376022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434667371393275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712338498022725,0.08073941761168453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726109361208045,0.0,0.1688182539138477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06415886196171791,0.0,0.0,0.07666823675457339,0.16893761551439507,0.0,0.0,0.0922797147459236,0.0,0.06556678085845451,0.0,0.0,0.10053598021418944,0.11616552231675345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746509811485497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714218207281106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06860274391956044,0.0,0.0,0.06218989607287916
parenting,flarflar,2019/04/17,"Grey poop in a child in my care I didn’t know where to post this!

I have a child in my daycare and I’m literally stumped on how to handle this. Child poops grey he’s 4 months old and this has been going on for 2 months since he has started. I told her she took him to her chiropractor/homeopathic doctor and he put him on drops which are doing nothing. Finally took him to the doctor and supposedly he’s allergic to dairy. They gave him samples of formula and one of the samples made it so he did not poop for a day so she put him back on his old formula. He’s still pooping grey and everything said is going in one ear and out the other. 

How can I fix this? Do I need to call cps?(wouldn’t love to do this)

I don’t think she’s being proactive enough. 

Oh this is child number 4. Not her first.",0.40123120300751935,2.587464755952386,2.5381829573934844,92.61383458646618,85.96428571428572,5.9177944862155405,19.55639097744361,7.273561745256523,0.3809000000000005,621,18,142,10,19,209,91,168,0.014,0.887,0.099,0.8898,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,1,1,7,2,0,0,6,0,15,9,5,3,0,16,30,11,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,4,9,8,0,0,2,0,0,6,4,0,0,3,9,7,21,2,20,20,1,28,0,0,3,1,28,10,0,0,10,91,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237787377243792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437201116756409,0.0,0.1641232812171484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381463454837786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295265363971454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663287270105637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446726635606865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17633867575684847,0.0,0.13692403497040226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18296997701488776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846686332022365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528493022674874,0.15231708251219658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25697513289392604,0.0,0.0,0.11935986121257845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15445848027380274,0.0,0.3378293625433409,0.0,0.2181597118299842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416818123600676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3236457946972576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15312272603825733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315899916030888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393792017564605,0.0,0.1285536995897455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031453627447153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15381714289013973,0.3576951147544171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,k8e12,2019/04/17,"Choking or pooping? My Irish twins are playing in the living room and I look over and my daughter is staring at me, face BRIGHT red. I freak out and jump up ready to do the Heimlich, wondering what the hell she could be choking on considering the house is totally baby-proof. A second later, her face is back to normal. And her diapers full.



Good grief. Thanks for the adrenaline rush kid.",3.332200772200772,5.714377702702702,4.0004247104247135,85.21040540540544,76.02702702702703,6.93127413127413,26.787644787644787,7.957251820313856,1.7844347490347494,306,12,57,5,7,97,59,74,0.185,0.6629999999999999,0.152,-0.6081,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,6,0,7,3,3,0,1,10,10,5,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,5,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,4,8,4,9,8,2,12,1,1,4,0,5,8,1,2,2,40,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765284273638721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2871302619251861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016352976673708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149574662631145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175543160677136,0.0,0.30199333479537793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35235487105381497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310931863634071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3899965625673637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Alezaria,2019/04/17,"In need of some advice. So my wife and I had our baby almost 4 months ago and he hasn’t really been too much of a handful or anything apart from the occasional fit or getting fussy if he sits somewhere too long. The thing that’s getting me is the fact that I can’t wake up at night when he starts making noise and my wife is on it in an instant. I work a second shift job that’s fairly physically demanding and she’s a stay at home mom. It’s getting to the point where my wife is getting frustrated and legitimately angry with me because I don’t wake up. I’ve always been a very deep sleeper but it’s almost like it’s gotten worse. 

For the first 2 months or so our baby was breastfed so I of course didn’t see too much of a reason to wake up aside from changing the occasional diaper. Around 2.5/3 months we had to transition to formula and now I’d love to be able to wake up to help feed him. Everything that I’ve read has been saying that women are “hardwired” to wake up to the slightest sound their babies make whereas men aren’t. I’m not entirely sure what I can do and it’s really putting a strain on our marriage. 

Any advice is greatly appreciated!",3.2720416666666665,4.495079454166671,4.753333333333334,84.73166666666668,73.20833333333334,7.666666666666668,25.41666666666667,8.167268648758528,1.420666666666666,919,29,193,14,18,308,137,240,0.062,0.856,0.08199999999999999,0.8251,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,4,0,1,2,10,6,1,1,14,0,20,8,6,3,2,25,32,16,0,2,6,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,1,2,12,10,1,0,1,1,0,1,6,2,0,2,8,4,18,4,29,23,3,30,0,0,1,1,20,17,0,7,11,120,30,3,0.14186315004906386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772540567310937,0.12575312298582011,0.0,0.28411090536913897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11804150526082716,0.0,0.0,0.09647180672806324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674128496662475,0.12628828027805716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647845954375571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150072402369493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274974518753778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066872296090993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964705628601772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640462375000774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508787913102523,0.0,0.14230030631345286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077728658054398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930716932947792,0.0,0.0,0.1255444236204315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803703162645094,0.0,0.1893895084863273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166148406773763,0.33970143874729275,0.0,0.2085714765386252,0.10518972821993354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312895624770854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410653101875425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426116486642717,0.0,0.0,0.14190154023219667,0.0,0.1817623330699916,0.14585894552471368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281527088892836,0.0,0.0,0.11304656350515033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041146777035352,0.1512072424595738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370434003982362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424757327113784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705195590144413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327806281768102,0.0,0.14457066960796972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,glourios-writer12,2019/04/17,"My child hates our home! Now, I’m praying she will settle a little with a new room. We moved into our home last July before the arrival of second child. Which my daughter hated, she loved our small two bedroom flat, I guess having us all close together without stairs and a pretty room was it for her. However, it was too small for our growing family. 

She has voiced her dislikes for her new home, room and clearly how much she hates it. I don’t blame her! The previous tenants had no taste in decor. Her room was a bright red, every wall, thick of it. It made the room dark, dull and like a haunted house! It was creepy. She refused curtains being up, just so the light was bright in her room. Not that she played in there at all. Shes only five yrs old, who wants a dark dull room at her age? 

So, I started planned while I recovered from having my youngest. I spoke to my sister, I browsed google images and Pinterest. She has a huge love for princess and unicorns... it was tough one. She loves reading and watching movies... I wanted to combine everything she loves into her room. Which I accomplished! Unfortunately, I have today and tomorrow left and we are waiting on items arriving! Which sucks... but hey the bulk is done! 

However, I’ve put so much effort, thought and time into her room. Of course, I haven’t done the whole house yet, just her room. I’m terrified she will still hate our home. Since moving her behaviour has changed dramatically and it’s unwanted, she’s hard to deal with. 

I’m praying she will love her room, also loving our home too. Moving is such a big transaction for young children, there is no easy way to do it. Especially for a young child who’s experienced a lot of change in such a short time.

Has anyone experienced moving and their child disliking their new home.",2.555873474630701,5.064999407514453,3.198217726396916,89.25139852280029,79.49132947976878,6.272190109184329,22.90590879897239,7.492282038375204,0.9939430956968528,1409,46,279,21,36,441,181,346,0.127,0.758,0.115,0.4284,2,0,0,0,0,0,58.0,9,0,2,3,16,18,5,0,17,0,28,7,0,2,3,37,50,18,0,3,5,2,2,1,0,3,0,2,20,5,15,19,1,2,1,2,0,7,6,8,0,4,12,12,50,10,29,34,7,58,2,2,4,6,56,33,1,2,18,181,65,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479949822543167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566579170845849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895038788592005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143755904716212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835381612048363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16584322758188935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827109753662136,0.0,0.07282435540823695,0.0,0.07638767977665302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926345517736382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725867809382202,0.32000058981776563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4876769502092216,0.0,0.0,0.18699500959033694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605009827533889,0.0,0.0,0.08803910995418131,0.0,0.0,0.039587065132267785,0.08121314243138564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888863452301476,0.4387953245855116,0.07667235176713934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3444873964180429,0.11913244627285682,0.0,0.0,0.2347772444100816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502713975012421,0.0,0.05490788653172543,0.061626810857591814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243643281086976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145732510664554,0.0,0.0,0.0810517233626486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702868421709622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05735330634778842,0.0,0.06471049939604034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432860655006588,0.09449825081817913,0.0,0.07680677161532906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915433616177006,0.0,0.0974688671101017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09558694564905136,0.06431768008042284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09046687298985083,0.0,0.0781098313544258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RFthewalkindude,2019/04/17,"Help with newborn for 1st time parents Our baby is 5 days old and the best thing that ever happened to us.  Baby feeds well from what we are able to tell, my wife's milk is coming in and she can express easily.  Baby is very gassy, burps well after feeding, farts quite a bit and is pretty much constantly agitated except when feeding.  Baby does sleep for 2-3 hours after feeding before we wake him to feed again.  Baby is making good wet and poopy diapers, not quite as many as is expected for age but wife struggled with breast feeding him for the first 2-3 days because she wasn't getting good instruction from hospital staff.  

Is that amount of fussiness normal?  I know there are a bunch of factors but we are just struggling, hearing him cry so much.  We have an appointment with pediatrician later today but I couldn't wait to try to get some answers.",4.903882113821137,6.378290323170731,5.3534146341463416,81.02308943089433,69.54878048780488,7.66178861788618,28.300813008130078,8.07648339933343,1.9175056910569104,679,24,123,9,12,217,112,164,0.075,0.825,0.1,0.0516,1,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,6,0,0,4,8,7,0,2,5,0,14,11,3,1,1,27,22,11,0,3,6,3,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,4,12,7,1,2,0,0,1,3,2,2,1,1,2,14,5,22,20,7,17,0,0,0,1,19,1,0,1,15,81,18,2,0.14860259029721834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058675976580786,0.0,0.126449859244987,0.0,0.15594925046567829,0.0,0.1622355408711106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280079733684697,0.0,0.16058660807391947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632329676014251,0.19167275431227868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13004312818428013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344195505826863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640128739314546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527744016913345,0.0,0.0,0.2492816046783282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13140877983223914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748591937225954,0.0,0.0996051838680598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14634361773046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166809733387496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919338294141797,0.15065970246255192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21848000460327954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559898717387734,0.0,0.0,0.15593342087061096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16500559059415426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511822579278332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31611429327098034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870990931072994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107033849203181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12988521384407006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872495790819627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665136543268324,0.0,0.1408578799569523,0.0,0.0,0.1008914042815969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787506191732027,0.0,0.0,0.12261269991745224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672231502616937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ummmmyeahh,2019/04/17,"8 year old refuses to sleep in her own bed My daughter is 8 years old and has slept with me since she was less than a week old. Her dad traveled for work and I’ve been a single mom since she was 2, so it’s been just us for most of her life. 

Lately, for the past couple of months, she will turn herself in her sleep and lie sideways, or she will get right underneath me, pushing me out of the bed. It’s 6:00 am right now. I woke up with her pushing me out of the bed, one foot on the floor! This happens every night just about. 

I think it’s time she starts sleeping by herself in her own room, but whatever I try it results in her becoming hysterical and I let her back in my bed just so she’ll stop. 

How do I get her to sleep in her own bed?",0.9279365079365078,2.3306351975308672,2.543844797178128,97.43444444444445,79.74074074074075,5.863139329805996,20.83068783068783,6.5431188927421005,-0.028590476190476718,570,15,143,5,14,187,92,162,0.031,0.969,0.0,-0.5661,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,0,1,11,0,0,0,6,0,12,7,6,2,0,19,20,9,0,0,5,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,6,0,5,8,0,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,0,30,0,25,10,6,33,0,0,0,0,23,15,0,2,15,98,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647191820471892,0.0,0.0,0.1529249779959507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532101553495029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666369883487435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14468569116505195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244515439251248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619584228764766,0.0,0.0,0.1415910142382361,0.0978027328727082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621698750669666,0.11052235558845894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994109676828886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4358907787857795,0.0,0.09382824312382776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13218160280686725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23649866187190105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22908125139211585,0.0,0.5542645728388874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800704984057894,0.0,0.0,0.11576389700255192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08872351445209788,0.0,0.0,0.08074072244086013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940094230378566,0.15061140378790702,0.0,0.0,0.1665577230864016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106918906190942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10080500240431124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17833531468372413
parenting,drake2929,2019/04/17,"2 year old is abusive Our two year old daughter when she gets mad, tired or doesn’t get her way will head butt us or objects. Also she will throw her toys or anything she can pick up directly at us. Occasionally she will let out a big scream too. What is the deal? How do I get it to stop & will it just be a phase!",0.9756521739130442,2.418905623188412,2.576159420289855,97.0755434782609,79.72463768115942,5.759420289855073,20.195652173913047,6.42735559955562,-0.20176521739130449,244,6,62,2,6,80,53,69,0.208,0.792,0.0,-0.9381,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,3,0,11,3,2,2,0,8,14,6,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,1,10,0,4,8,0,12,0,0,0,1,11,4,1,3,6,40,13,0,0.0,0.23711883440668274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600422080184569,0.0,0.2168384942661748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468820835253478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063230756280247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136757007643148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205388960622803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464433515840147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200011283964886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673158841674247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300175791676873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549587698185414,0.0,0.4814584412703393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885221053541604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25775161019264464
parenting,Cricketw,2019/04/17,Is it weird?? I kinda find it funny that I find it so difficult to leave my littles even with people who have successfully raised their own. I get so anxious to leave them and worry about them while I'm gone and find myself thinking it's fine they've done this before lol. Anyone else feel like this??,4.831500000000002,5.648117150000001,5.010000000000002,85.86000000000001,69.16666666666666,7.333333333333332,23.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,0.742833333333333,239,5,48,2,4,75,46,60,0.204,0.612,0.184,0.3635,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,3,1,4,5,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,9,8,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,3,4,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,2,30,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24125049512948016,0.0,0.14931898894545215,0.2188070113843442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817151553798206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21853559343708864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17839345997598613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104763217498462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797719786833523,0.15256002337063818,0.0,0.0,0.5855419590032178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157095917619017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4522368187024198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432964791210517,0.21403300616987994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14804854636805154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368340922892059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21687019294503374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,TresLadiesGreen-,2019/04/17,"Question from a Childfree person I am childfree my choice. Married, stable and likely fertile I choose not to have children. This is not because I hate kids. I absolutely love meeting and interacting with kids. Nieces, nephews, friends kids etc. I love their curiosity and eagerness to learn, the sheer possibilities ahead of them and the idea of teaching them to be good and productive adults. What I wonder about is if you have your own kids, are you able to feel that way about other people’s kids. One reason I think I have so much patience for the children of my siblings, in-laws and friends is because I am not worn out by taking care of my own. I am routinely complimented for how good I am with kids. I wonder though if people can remain good with other people’s kids even if they have their own. Thanks in advance for your honest input!",4.184609164420486,6.481697905660379,4.498405211141062,83.03957547169813,73.0880503144654,6.555435759209344,27.08041329739443,7.447530270364453,1.5483168014375566,673,25,121,8,14,211,91,159,0.0,0.735,0.265,0.9924,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,4,5,2,6,14,1,0,4,0,14,2,0,2,0,26,25,12,0,3,6,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,11,5,10,0,0,9,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,1,1,24,13,21,23,5,5,0,0,0,2,28,2,0,6,2,90,29,2,0.16282117020645606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985085482127836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600703448763382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18158864461278104,0.10754184731833556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232727588515779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515904644122641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4097000177132342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607521966078901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18380528250213585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954619934789092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29390492614847075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969229454570203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033183877689992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386390949717393,0.1421691655189736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18355640507740864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18239697400656465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740728079984096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122421256650605,0.0,0.0,0.14990385781198842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432923143759554,0.15997097303960814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12923986620824038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3531452272055794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Mr-Sir-E-Bob,2019/04/17,"Parents of athletes, did your kids always want to play their sport or was is something you “pushed” on them. Did they end up thanking you or hating that you made them play? I played sports but I never wanted to at first. Then I realized how I got so much out of it even though I wasn’t necessarily set on continuing sports long term. My kid just played a game and the coach sat him out for 4 of 5 innings. I think it was mostly because he was sitting at the time he was supposed to go play the field. He did go bat and stole 2nd and 3rd.
Basically the coach’s approach was if they don’t want to play then they can sit out.
It’s his first season playing baseball.",3.228613138686136,4.2713859124087605,4.0508102189781034,90.42147080291971,73.08759124087591,6.647883211678832,24.64890510948905,6.742157984588678,0.631917372262774,518,15,116,4,10,166,89,137,0.016,0.8420000000000001,0.142,0.9194,1,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,0,4,6,2,6,9,1,0,5,0,12,0,0,2,1,20,23,12,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,6,0,0,2,13,0,4,3,1,0,2,12,0,19,8,16,11,3,26,0,0,0,0,19,8,0,4,11,75,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387930743716272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420380382944853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063737832968777,0.0,0.0,0.1538979874185363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3963888529766472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26484488035198683,0.0,0.1863558470115987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300447699938771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20620260517979502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2204755127133454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17128591054944214,0.0,0.1797082668829445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25872512115686697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17937907835663616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145202318800609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14930056668676112,0.22892679835882945,0.0,0.13586742691112902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122981824272712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MichelleWrightSF,2019/04/17,"Is your Kids' Credit Frozen? It should be ... Parenting PSA: Did you know identity theft of kids is a thing? Happened to a friend of mine recently ... Someone got their hands on her kids' information and opened a bunch of credit cards in her name. Total nightmare. Had no idea it was a thing, turns out its getting more common. And it's totally avoidable, so doing my good deed for the day and helping spread the good word. You can actually freeze your kids credit until they turn 18, which will prevent anyone from opening stuff in their name. All the credit bureaus will freeze for free, just have to figure out their paperwork / form requirements, which is kind of a hassle. Or I think there are a couple services that'll let you fill out one form and submit on your behalf if you want to save the headache and shell out a few bucks, seems worth it. Anyone done a freeze for their kids? How'd it go?",4.0955639097744365,6.01833655555556,3.940822890559733,88.56381578947371,72.33333333333334,6.757059314954053,23.325396825396822,7.447530270364453,0.8746554720133668,705,19,138,8,14,214,114,171,0.012,0.784,0.204,0.9823,1,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,7,5,1,3,11,0,1,12,0,17,1,1,0,3,32,27,9,0,3,3,1,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,5,12,11,0,3,6,0,7,2,1,1,0,1,5,4,17,11,20,16,8,16,0,0,0,0,25,10,0,3,4,97,29,6,0.0,0.0,0.1845504032690505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644692787958689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20925378712512172,0.0,0.12196448383494862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935318180082492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14611092266658052,0.0,0.09880555486037212,0.0,0.10747925329118202,0.3172438602787099,0.15125372449437366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723507794443734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267607895690873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21348948562193146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19693571100549231,0.10393347111692568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19338441296302802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12815022064411302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20999146966823407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18672970797730595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216453989876002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602377790765277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21649312290404807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25128117089156554,0.12117820364975035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4114088462994657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154579924092592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Stubbula,2019/04/17,"Can my toddler focus on one word so much that it will slow the rate he expands his vocabulary? My little boy is 22 months old and I feel has a ""normal"" sized vocabulary for his age when he wants to use it. However, I feel like those words come out very rarely now. For the last 2 1/2 months he just wants to say ""car"" or ""Its a car"" to a maddening state. We thought it was so amazing at first and bought him some books and toys surrounding it. Well, now I worry that he is so fixated on it that he will only want to say ""It's a car"" because it's so easy and can just default to it. Cars are just about everywhere so it feels like a loss in steering him to other interests. We try to let him know that he's correct in identifying them and then try to point out the many other things out in the world that are fun, but the cars win. 

I've Googled around somewhat, but tend to just come across articles on what he should be doing by certain age milestones and nothing on the cons on focusing on a favorite word. I'm sure kids outgrow it, but any similar experiences?",5.521085626911316,4.876211674311929,6.055550458715597,84.0040902140673,67.57798165137615,9.6519877675841,31.01070336391437,9.075114841892004,2.222237308868502,827,28,184,13,12,269,127,218,0.025,0.8340000000000001,0.141,0.9713,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,1,3,15,10,0,0,12,0,14,0,0,1,3,41,28,17,0,5,8,0,3,2,0,3,0,2,0,2,21,14,0,0,5,2,1,7,0,1,1,2,3,5,13,9,28,20,3,39,0,1,0,0,19,19,0,3,14,117,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127929622279078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14765380384533305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110893484499284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28575367685990344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224646568099116,0.0,0.0,0.2515969185724603,0.23698603368832966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410835266036385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911543182866119,0.13520100331164764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16960680848492068,0.0,0.16206519184073653,0.16623894022145186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16815969662049787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26478154843998497,0.0,0.12192885918138748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625111500369298,0.159150634989519,0.0,0.17404598786537515,0.0,0.112393494372485,0.12614677156285886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15679475072289614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638028460268175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563245168438645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101924316811936,0.0,0.0,0.13167720221934084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252210466143245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432529297649241,0.0,0.13685487282217265,0.2934920149862874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14913133088507685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844257661918355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,moveitorlourveit,2019/04/17,"Is it normal that my 6 yo’s penis hasn’t grown since he was a baby? Throwaway because I want to protect my son’s privacy. 

I have no idea if this is normal and it’s not something I’ve been able to ask others since none of my friends are raising boys. I’ve been noticing that my 6 year old’s penis has not grown maybe at all since he was a baby. At this time in his life, it’s obviously no big deal - but I’m wondering — is this normal? He hasn’t been to the doctor in the last few months and I’ve not asked (mostly because I don’t want him to hear). I do plan to do so at his next appointment in June. 

I know this is a touchy subject given the sick pedo issue out there, so I know I’m taking a risk here. Just hoping for some gauge on proper development in this department.",1.0194642857142853,2.5919415416666682,3.2470476190476205,91.73128571428572,80.01190476190476,5.908571428571428,20.128571428571426,6.742157984588678,0.16067571428571448,601,15,138,6,15,206,96,168,0.08,0.867,0.052000000000000005,-0.6527,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,1,7,0,17,3,0,0,2,23,30,6,0,7,6,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,11,3,0,1,4,0,0,3,9,1,0,0,6,1,13,2,16,24,5,20,0,0,0,0,13,10,0,5,7,83,24,1,0.1578474536678282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951321226789137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19244468533762432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273379367309926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156355739833073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195255114622555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790555228714094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677813762192844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17819056193288288,0.0,0.16475173157326925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17349766493659596,0.12866674235827755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149232462937923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857898334911774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599233156511014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678725577160541,0.0,0.4639709712201738,0.0,0.1797103722067011,0.16563434982465755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3917191344738184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215186815623466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868164080021745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204211960930772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18620503571957886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711788301811907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016485849300261
parenting,Fatherhoodrocks,2019/04/17,"Confessions of a special needs Dad Check out my Vlog on YouTube, with weekly episodes.
1st and 3rd  week of the month fatherhood rocks podcast. 
2nd and 4th week confessions of a special needs Dad. 
Here is the channel: https://youtu.be/6qKtd1oh_9U

Feel Good,
Richard - Adad on a mission!",5.535602836879433,9.195835361702127,3.5330851063829805,83.6841666666667,78.36170212765958,6.5375886524822695,33.36524822695036,7.793537801064563,2.8187758865248225,230,12,37,4,6,64,35,47,0.0,0.8270000000000001,0.173,0.8221,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,4,2,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,7,4,0,7,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,4,17,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633076063107954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27089899622724745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25779831356646626,0.0,0.0,0.4789688493451501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7772214809456677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BlueishRaptor3,2019/04/18,"Why does my 2 year old sleep under her brother's bed? The last few nights my 2 year old daughter has been moving to the floor under my 6 year old son's bed.  The funny thing is that she actually seems to sleep better: she doesn't wake up during the night and she sleeps longer.  Instead of 5:15, she wakes up after 6 in the morning!",4.874565217391306,4.554736420289856,5.331702898550727,87.56103260869568,68.85507246376812,7.4797101449275365,24.49637681159421,5.985473137389443,0.528185507246377,259,5,57,1,4,83,47,69,0.0,0.908,0.092,0.7263,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,4,5,5,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,8,1,9,4,1,17,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,1,10,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.1710278904484856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500269474909387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337067976907814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285980048970018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18627300340396566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32893814423718776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5517157674895351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954957316453086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5261579031011421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643455610431885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581443463517726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33858391757665396
parenting,SnackyDoo,2019/04/18,"My stepdaughter (17) said the reason she hates me and my children is because she's a racist Context: I've been with her mother since she was 11 and I moved my family (me, 2 kids) into their house after 2 years of dating her. She has hated us from the very beginning and always made it clear but never said why, and we could never punish her because she was never outright rude to anyone, just very very cold and distant. She's now 17, 2 weeks away from moving out.

So I always tried my best reddit, I really did I swear to god. I was willing to love this child and care for her ever since I knew about her and that's what I did during the first 2 or 3 years I lived with them because I thought she was just being a moody tween like my own kids were (they are all around the same age) and that she would eventually warm up to us. Well she never did obviously and she always found reasons not to hang out with my kids and to stay away from us in general, her mom said she never used to be like this until she met me. I ignored the problem, I treated her like my own all the time but she was still just ""cordial"" and that's it. 

Today she sat down with us and told her mother that she was leaving for college to her father's country where she feels more at home (he was always involved and he's a decent person, I don't think he's a racist?), and she said she wanted to have a final serious talk with her and me because she wasn't likely to call, text or come see us ever again afterwards unless her mom left me. She started out saying that she didn't approve of our relationship ever and that she never said shit about it because she recognized her mother had the right to date anyone she wanted to. Her only ""rules"" that she told her mom in exchange for being nice, were that she got to keep her own room and she did, my 2 kids share the other room and her mom and I share another one. There is another room but it serves as a study for her because she's always been in a gifted program and liked studying, she has many things in there like projects, books, folders and stuff that would 't fit in her room otherwise so I bit my tongue and kept my 2 in the same room. She's taking most stuff with her and said to do whatever the fuck we wanted to with the rooms, she won't need them anymore.

She said she really hated black people, that she has never had a good reason not to and that she hated seeing our ""ghetto asses"" around her house all this time, but since she was underage and had her school here she couldn't and didn't say anything about it until now. This explains everything, everything makes sense to me now. She doesn't care anymore since she's leaving in a while and isn't planning to come back to the U.S, so she said she's still going to treat us the same way but wanted to emphasize that we were not to contact her ever again once she left.

I'm fuming. I can't feel anything other than hate for her now. The way she treated me I don't care about but she made my children share the smallest room in the house and she made them stay away from her and her friends at school, she talked down to them and I couldn't say anything because it was never ""enough"" since she wasn't actually hurting them. We endured this yet still treated her with kindness and now I get this? Are we not worth anything to her?

I wasn't allowed to discipline her because she was very mature for her age already and her mom didn't want tension in the house, said it wasn't necessary unless she started a fight, which she never did because she knew exactly how much she could and couldn't get away with. She made us feel inferior because she was smarter and better looking than my kids, always talking to people about her future and her grades and her social life around us like trying to shove it in our faces that she had all these things we didn't.

Honestly I'm glad she's leaving, but her mother has been a mess ever since this morning and I don't think I have the strength to console her. I just can't. How do you deal with racism when it comes from your own family even if they're not your ""real"" kids? Why am I expected to console her mom when me and my kids are the victims here?",6.185645539906106,5.293237353286386,6.253154929577466,83.95287793427231,66.31220657276995,8.887887323943662,29.144600938967137,7.635375032292933,1.5912167136150237,3283,87,693,28,45,1044,297,852,0.086,0.789,0.125,0.99,1,0,0,0,1,0,72.0,17,3,7,6,43,49,12,1,30,0,67,6,3,12,21,153,130,61,0,16,21,11,4,7,1,4,1,12,8,11,38,64,0,4,13,1,2,7,33,20,1,2,57,21,163,29,91,61,17,98,0,2,4,3,175,38,3,4,56,505,201,7,0.0,0.0,0.03800397767884001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042975956714812365,0.0,0.19442845268986675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167289949347452,0.0,0.0,0.07724447788713824,0.05446146088038743,0.0,0.12819122308397107,0.10400593788206837,0.0,0.0,0.1463576480731667,0.029945730238733426,0.0,0.2374005798912757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04086959572223933,0.03444303111005704,0.042517042867355005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039766441278326896,0.0,0.11911879848464076,0.0,0.0,0.10064108878696906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062187641603113165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04014981958906603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040239828597228126,0.0,0.02572231487843583,0.17613655317594967,0.0,0.0,0.07000117525118485,0.0,0.07342636030352105,0.0,0.059074160418690326,0.0,0.0,0.04266153066311333,0.0,0.033125965652944137,0.0,0.042700368381748684,0.030088236846387117,0.036003338647733106,0.04069353450270902,0.0,0.02213291908694234,0.032664595609699865,0.03114728045944935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224695881913606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03906426573247068,0.0,0.0,0.1797457782365707,0.04169063326671085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034615445569983506,0.0,0.04055445142706095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12370903719802563,0.08462609974799608,0.0,0.027507480888864268,0.13318337992342585,0.0,0.03438849298700212,0.0,0.032703368054735484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035148713004418755,0.14739999284264038,0.025995594381065884,0.03948336470288133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736662631887803,0.0,0.08278316530679612,0.028628510348288533,0.02887667357832932,0.2703259109558627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04147436338232947,0.026389636861411502,0.02961886282982442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05399808941491923,0.03400462362022312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03726439502352594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04432709117608098,0.04989737733634611,0.1201235490291431,0.0,0.041811558222590584,0.0,0.03325818323579096,0.33340416443851084,0.092910110347439,0.0,0.07882733573045603,0.062067062416299563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03997572082228545,0.19329055414639093,0.0,0.0,0.039698766296824034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055129892003580004,0.08301879388936344,0.0933028033702628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916371532901002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029281235071770807,0.0939057573236024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05174566861148302,0.04990781558957831,0.0,0.030917390449475567,0.045417419621304175,0.0,0.036914602609131035,0.07442581418688382,0.0,0.052881189137172005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374761174876775,0.03363533465114072,0.0,0.12853236449870295,0.11485166083165743,0.061824278015512324,0.031238734396497488,0.0,0.03501556463467012,0.0,0.07028227025460254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553297665226379,0.0,0.0,0.05015765016358791
parenting,andy077564,2019/04/18,"Why aren’t I paternal at 26 This is a long one so bear with me please:

Just some background info into me and my fiancée first, I’m 26 my partner 24 at the time of posting, we are due to be married in June and I love her too death. I can’t stress this enough before I go forward with this post I really do love her and couldn’t be happier to be getting wed. 

However, the elephant in the room must be addressed. She is unbelievably broody. Like nothing makes her happier to be around children. And I MEAN that, nothing else! 

She has had a series of tests done however and she has been diagnosed with endometriosis and polystic ovaries. Which means our chances of having children ourselves naturally is massively reduced; not impossible but slim as the doctor said. 

We found this out a good 5 years ago. So at 21 I accepted this and consoled my partner that we would do everything possible to have children even to go down the root of surrogates and adoption. (I was devastated at the time, looking back I’m not sure if it was on her behalf or myself)

Now I must admit at the time it was said as comfort rather than reality as a young man deeply in love and naive about how fast life moves (we have been together since we were 15). I said it with every intention in the long term. 

Now though at 26, a god father to two children under 2 and an uncle to one under 3 I just do not feel the paternal or the “natural family” instincts towards children that should mean the world to me. If anything I feel less paternal than I did at 21!. 

My fiancée hasn’t changed in her opinion towards children however, I have voiced my concerns too her and she has said we will wait until I’m ready. I’m worried that I will never feel paternal and I don’t want to withhold the one thing I know will really make my fiancée feel complete. 

I realise that I am been selfish but I feel that something this big shouldn’t be compromised on just to cause friction in the relationship down the road so to speak. 

Or am I wrong, do we just try to have a child after the wedding see if we can conceive naturally; then see if my paternal Insticts come along. 

So all in all, what direction do I go forward in? I love my fiancée and want too make her happy but the one thing she wants/needs I have no interest in. 

Help! 

Regards a confused and conflicted man! 

Thanks for all and amy replies!",4.585847162740901,5.54011783297645,5.413768067451823,82.24161569860814,69.81370449678799,8.749705567451821,32.15263650963597,9.017664075816787,2.667451873661671,1856,82,369,34,32,606,224,467,0.065,0.7959999999999999,0.139,0.9876,4,0,1,0,0,0,41.0,9,0,0,1,20,16,0,2,24,0,50,7,0,7,7,89,88,36,1,13,18,1,5,1,2,8,3,6,2,11,19,32,0,3,13,0,0,7,11,4,0,6,15,14,57,12,57,58,7,60,0,0,3,4,47,33,0,10,23,268,76,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08184787539395649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598241632819007,0.08219618871080449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.070998587501132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856881460844979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485170568408748,0.09767635981966827,0.07953693889453176,0.09680967996775093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371632843803186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450701735395738,0.0,0.09448899564935742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713260159790533,0.0,0.0,0.09540495319080562,0.0,0.06098525596367418,0.0,0.07779476475672653,0.0,0.0829831920382572,0.0,0.08704359228074847,0.0,0.2334323855246043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07853863479769073,0.0,0.1012386679741352,0.0,0.0,0.04824032419793682,0.0,0.1574253805055529,0.07744476862296269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829048597912017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188904655250056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05074395208632417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521772129963425,0.045109373226672064,0.0,0.0,0.16342408199357136,0.0775366945439387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333375350544733,0.0,0.18489953000920087,0.0,0.0,0.30173400798753897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09813565671631176,0.0,0.0,0.07121311226013223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17719253126381734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502696614029566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135420653103294,0.0,0.10409189191516748,0.17685950441259274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11830211795300699,0.0,0.0,0.09913138037908237,0.0,0.0,0.3513203467059706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715532821443894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637903752499077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07108266450786488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576745219578493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702301703031777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500807236038305,0.0,0.0,0.12268424751803099,0.0,0.09071697186584576,0.0,0.16152082193447187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268823141375858,0.0,0.09019619111698984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892111330996423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833164173100602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376892063835693,0.0,0.06559090792839625,0.1009519392442443,0.0,0.0594596005106684
parenting,Comradekrusty,2019/04/18,"Baby monitors I don't know if this is the right place to ask, but I'm wondering if anyone knows where I can buy a baby monitor on a payment plan in Canada. We can't afford full price at the moment and ours just died.",3.439503546099292,3.5781923829787274,5.5838297872340465,82.93333333333334,71.97872340425532,8.819858156028369,24.177304964539005,8.841846274778883,1.5091475177304967,170,4,37,3,3,60,40,47,0.112,0.888,0.0,-0.7096,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,9,4,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,4,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,3,1,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2712478682929189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626597666241582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4026074108752376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263895241535344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053015824786469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312878927657371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4206907336348883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,hypono,2019/04/18,"On the subject of extracurricular activities My oldest daughter, who will be 6 at the end of May and has been taking tap dance for 2 years now.  She seems to enjoy it and actively participates when she attends.

We travel a lot as a family and spend our weekends hiking, camping, swimming, etc. and we have recently started to run into a problem where we are unable to make regular classes and competitions.
 Tap class just isn’t a priority to our family.

As renewal registration is due this month I’m really struggling with whether or not to put her back into it.  She says she enjoys it but she also enjoys the time we spend together as a family.

Recently some of the dance competitions have began to bleed into her schooling.  She is in a special program at school and we as a family place a lot of emphasis on that.  She understands that school is her #1 priority and I think it can be confusing for her when she is being told this but we are taking her out early to attend dance competitions.

My only fear of taking her out of dance is that she doesn’t have a “structured hobby” that she follows and as she becomes a rebellious teenager, there isn’t a talent of activity for her to focus on.

Any thoughts or different perspectives would be much appreciated.",5.419285714285714,6.865190928571433,7.024621848739496,69.63508403361345,68.28571428571428,10.305882352941175,31.64705882352941,10.46071229359064,3.681640336134455,1003,42,171,28,17,346,129,238,0.055,0.855,0.091,0.8659,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,8,0,0,0,8,9,0,3,15,0,23,1,0,1,0,39,36,21,0,2,7,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,11,20,0,0,4,7,2,11,4,4,0,0,4,1,29,5,35,25,5,40,0,0,0,0,30,13,0,8,16,140,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725101272558736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120220007225696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312547934758086,0.0,0.0,0.14811850792176026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012070990124098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878530249305827,0.0,0.14957269445167667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5057234231846911,0.15091567012260312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22803805647298964,0.0,0.0,0.08952221602548187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704861047744753,0.0,0.09858930903129998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199983111799643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012070990124098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1283290996333125,0.0,0.1348217324339774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591693899222559,0.0,0.2648430262611209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10665293058956343,0.0,0.4071919461350122,0.0,0.12209245720874427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492666390041614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14020519675749027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30251138094737057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08593491233699864,0.0,0.10647163000735496,0.07820302146312458,0.0,0.0,0.12815178829616355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396175279478227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527082240686913,0.0,0.0,0.0863650957053276
parenting,axpla,2019/04/18,"My partner and his daughter (9) recently moved in with me and my daughter (10) and I’m feeling guilty over the fact my daughter has more money spent on her I’ve been with my partner for just over a year and him and his daughter recently moved in with my daughter and I. Our children attend the same dance studio and that’s how we met. The kids get along well however his daughter has become upset over the fact my daughter gets to do more dance classes and competitions than she does. Her dad had to reduce the amount she was doing a while ago because of financial problems. They were also living with his brother before moving in with us. 

My daughters classes and competitions cost a lot of money and I use inheritance money to pay for them. At the moment we can’t really afford to let his daughter do more classes, hopefully we will be able to at some point, but I also don’t want to reduce what my daughter is doing just because his daughter can’t. 

I feel guilty about the fact my daughter gets to more than her, but I don’t really know another way to handle the situation. 

Any advice. Is what I’m doing ok?",6.707054794520547,6.312168255707762,7.206952054794524,75.89755136986301,65.0730593607306,9.491780821917807,33.31849315068493,8.841846274778883,2.7572219178082182,884,33,163,12,12,291,113,219,0.049,0.909,0.042,-0.3423,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,2,0,7,5,0,1,11,1,20,0,0,2,3,37,33,16,0,3,4,14,2,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,3,19,0,0,3,2,7,6,4,2,1,0,6,2,34,3,30,24,8,23,0,0,0,0,38,10,0,3,6,124,37,4,0.15514166353059433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516026380599586,0.13752372400753904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24813346454855414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10550165123513328,0.16267956126266253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891458362307809,0.17134177850807594,0.1320141289410889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576551523684438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688857313296872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431653478761329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15409067749093386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08526180097139956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15864286212932507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699293122455206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189589441532218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.494673108052937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665901825365593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14844961965945874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19877544457406848,0.0,0.3063673526134331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438572998927895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866163191381027,0.13399258549422713,0.0,0.0,0.09150657273224376,0.12314423126055407,0.0,0.0,0.13949098727877682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990614479446183
parenting,Banana_Pankcakes,2019/04/18,"My four year old daughter was in the bathroom. I asked if she was pooping or peeing. She immediately called over her seven year old brother... “Brother, what do you call it when you poop and pee at the same time?”

Brother - “I think it’s called a number 3”

I’m dying. I could not love these two more.",0.218,2.597659133333337,1.888333333333336,94.8825,91.0,3.6666666666666665,19.166666666666664,5.148860815047168,-0.4558333333333331,228,7,49,1,8,74,47,60,0.061,0.916,0.023,-0.471,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,5,4,0,0,7,8,4,1,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,9,1,3,5,2,9,0,0,0,1,14,3,0,2,6,33,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20619991850763994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6756692220623771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17610441565448706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289132210220635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19906989250869309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4628949112810416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141330117599356,0.0,0.0,0.12861410943977666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21546143691760936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840752099600011
parenting,gibbie99,2019/04/18,"Is it reasonable to ask a 7 year old to play quietly for 15 min or so before going to bed? Issue is bedtime is getting later and later, we are now getting up at 6am, and either working or straight childcare until 9pm at night.  She is always tucked in and its become this elaborate thing of back and forth and we're essentially nursing her until she falls asleep.  Is it reasonable to expect her at 7 years old to go to sleep without hours of pre-bedtime rituals?  What do you all do?",3.8332653061224486,4.885241102040818,5.523061224489798,80.40051020408163,71.65306122448979,8.048979591836735,29.306122448979593,8.418075326091056,2.199881632653061,380,15,73,6,7,130,69,98,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.5913,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,8,2,2,2,1,14,13,10,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,6,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,17,13,2,22,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,2,13,50,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174956521129991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965684892895179,0.0,0.0,0.16168006419172715,0.0,0.0,0.2322201071963776,0.17891920721886953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197085600562912,0.0,0.2389957934035336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20706772013993546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21946102436584086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973185532944521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412734693052193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4323728950813611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2104158853029376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396900819591146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20268702657708013,0.0,0.15307472180823267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27080628969487724
parenting,FindingTheFun,2019/04/18,"Walked in on while having sex This morning our 6 yr old walked in our room and caught us at the worst possible moment (right in the middle of doing it doggy style). We have had a close call before, but were able to quickly get under the covers. But this time we weren't covered up at all. She came in to ask if she could use the iPad, by the time I realized she was in our room it was too late. It was probably a couple seconds (felt like forever) before I quickly grabbed the covers. She grabbed the iPad and then went went back to her room. We almost always have the door locked, but of course the one time we forget this happens. I've only talked to her about how private parts are kept private. That's why I'm worried she's confused now and don't know what to do. Anyone have a similar experience? What happened and how did you handle it?",2.8560902255639107,4.4710073450292445,3.8028111946533016,89.55328947368423,74.96491228070175,6.289223057644111,23.325396825396822,6.868970318607317,0.6674624895572263,660,19,137,6,14,212,106,171,0.065,0.915,0.019,-0.7757,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,8,1,0,0,8,3,0,1,12,0,16,1,0,3,1,26,29,12,0,2,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,10,10,0,1,3,0,0,6,2,2,0,2,13,3,18,1,19,15,3,34,0,0,0,1,19,16,0,3,13,97,28,0,0.1655053893215532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16572974020158027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771374227583838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572521640560615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547251974303643,0.0,0.0,0.12726342835027807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28166579252944457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16899950710916264,0.18929407424505565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214258607716126,0.18312856532148275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618960287507711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891112845963662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08646973493747934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2927117383742149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095743363126617,0.0,0.1866972880620495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08085757322238278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367006508980865,0.0,0.11215073511742646,0.12587430653751538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17922620825279176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865824588183476,0.0,0.0,0.17844280233943904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134069817452286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330269627039417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895225704174459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19908260521272614,0.14294351706529368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068503080572427,0.14934287114615707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807875667881675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RuckusStudios,2019/04/18,"Wife and I don't agree on parenting Let me start by saying my wife means well, and she's a great mother. That being said, I think shes damaging our daughter emotionally. She has always been one to play victim of her own mother's abuse, not physically but mentally. She has always told me stories of her mother locking her and her sisters in the house (with a lock) and being gone all day at work or wherever when they were teens. Now, I have 2 daughters with her, 5 and 1. We constantly fight over the parenting of the child,.often in front of her. I believe she is too hard on the girl because she constantly yells and is negative with her. I rarely see her hug, kiss, or communicate on an eye to eye level with her. It's always do this cause I said so. If her stirct rules aren't followed, she reprimands her by verbally abusing her for an hour. Not with bad words but by beating her down relentlessly with how wrong she is, for the dumbest shit, for literally 30+ minutes on and off. Once and a while I could see this being ok. But when it's every day, it's so disheartening for my daughter. I always tell her she's being too hard on her and she gets mad at me. Should a parent be so hard on a 5 yr old?",3.8602941176470575,4.693975402439024,5.1153180296508864,84.16198708751796,71.39837398373983,8.38986131037781,26.66571018651363,8.671277953709913,1.7261896700143478,943,30,200,16,17,314,135,246,0.206,0.7340000000000001,0.06,-0.9906,4,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,2,0,1,2,10,14,4,0,12,1,20,5,3,2,1,32,31,22,0,3,8,12,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,6,16,0,0,2,1,0,3,5,8,1,1,6,11,41,6,32,17,2,28,0,2,4,2,47,14,1,3,11,142,47,1,0.0,0.2831240154717841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.397661391562026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975922038725143,0.07283273897245557,0.0,0.0,0.1346109011111831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273691737022592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582267549597125,0.0,0.09539353842914956,0.0,0.0,0.15410697677064994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439677780699286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066544976622754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06242237440320884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317250237315539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210867210524493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176618585100394,0.1378616824956852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221744490659644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014667383174092,0.0,0.0,0.12040582022248568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253721644168799,0.12724027395625498,0.08096145064116203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.397998862299832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273020609020199,0.09501377822997402,0.0,0.0,0.19041714884705635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226425496188213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456721200334283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10442912298379152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655674024018648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141664417999384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742515794098093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698147758951576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130630543077978,0.0,0.0
parenting,elekels,2019/04/18,"The 5 year old wrote a little ditty. To the tune (sort of) of the happy birthday song. 

“Happy birthday to me, I’m a hundred and three, I want my nipple to fall off, so I can get a new one!” 

Here’s another. 

“Happy birthday to me, I’m a hundred and forty one, I have a monkey, who lives in my butt crack!” 

Everything is always about poop, boobs, buttholes, butt cracks, nipples, pooting, butts, and more recently, penises. Penis is the word of the month apparently. 

I love this weird little boy. He makes me laugh like not many people can.",0.8653186813186835,3.327431400000002,2.731428571428569,89.86549450549452,87.38095238095238,5.135531135531137,20.457875457875463,6.67199483983844,0.4801282051282056,407,13,81,5,13,135,71,105,0.017,0.77,0.213,0.9698,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,3,7,0,0,10,0,5,7,6,1,0,9,12,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,1,9,6,10,11,1,10,0,0,0,6,5,4,4,1,6,46,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15977405261209876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013472302040259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17257306689569404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100321287846369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6132190216639885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09381011614834477,0.3849042256002124,0.1695550875936922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330341037399769,0.0,0.12817326086367611,0.19467574119113365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15326664246017332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854518261921343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20149020466836906,0.0,0.2602322347358222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312084923435336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18959424710414693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132569747674212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236530599086644
parenting,Avenja99,2019/04/18,Almost 2 year old won’t stop hitting or pulling hair. Looking for advice on things that will work on a 1 year old. He will go up and slap the dog for no reason. If someone is laying on the couch he will go and yank their hair. I’ve seen distract and redirect a lot but we could be playing with legos and all of a sudden whack. Someone is getting hit in the head with a lego.,1.4169107142857131,2.9982670125000013,2.8796428571428585,94.77250000000002,78.875,5.071428571428573,22.67857142857143,5.288315135182226,0.03910714285714256,291,9,66,1,7,95,59,80,0.064,0.89,0.046,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,0,1,1,0,2,0,1,7,0,8,3,3,1,1,16,15,7,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,2,7,0,1,1,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,1,4,2,1,10,6,2,14,0,0,2,0,4,5,0,4,6,39,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284078882002413,0.0,0.0,0.23405670840359594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866222604315909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221194307755564,0.0,0.2656795005230045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398845326340941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19628261541262512,0.0,0.0,0.19871727227972727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.490541332336817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24032350772581226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3960940535624301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541699103036805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552863783683919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17016540355604365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30104161567037563
parenting,MachinistRandy,2019/04/18,"How do you motivate a genius son to do his school work?? Ok, though not technically a genius....very intelligent 135+ iq. Absolutely refuses to do work in class. He is 11 and on the spectrum (autism spectrum). We have worked hard to get him special school accommodations (he has an IEP). We have not found a way to consistently motivate him. He absolutely is obsessed with video games, so we tried reducing his time playing, and his grades got worse! Anyone else in the same situation?",3.7975252525252543,6.563489863636367,5.118787878787881,75.7787373737374,76.5,8.911111111111111,27.959595959595962,9.444778638647367,2.9727989898989904,380,16,69,11,9,126,62,88,0.094,0.773,0.133,0.5822,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,3,1,0,5,3,4,0,1,6,1,8,0,0,3,0,14,11,5,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,9,3,8,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,0,1,39,9,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15875035941492588,0.23262742364576106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966124863600306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489356222977659,0.0,0.0,0.11861806723027417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815831557877192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033815952942981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4595494750467627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552004028272035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22306383811927213,0.0,0.13238777609024824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15414400653431407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873302582300672,0.0,0.18021232256487832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49585945048437896,0.0,0.2313712800575301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,HobbyPhlebotomist,2019/04/18,"Questions for parents of bilingual children I am raising a bilingual baby. I have some questions for other bilingual families.

Here are some things I wonder about:
- How much of a language delay should I expect?
- Do you have any rules when it comes to which language you speak at home?
- What are the biggest challenges you’ve faced raising a bilingual child?",5.276666666666667,8.167347698412701,4.238333333333333,83.37750000000003,72.01587301587301,4.834920634920637,34.3095238095238,5.46131890053228,2.043933333333333,287,15,43,1,6,84,45,63,0.05,0.928,0.023,-0.3695,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,0,10,9,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,5,1,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,1,7,8,3,5,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,5,2,35,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004461197058464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539086419350812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27787240258846857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29566715085877626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21668166364570016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272948107604164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6603947216768123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958246766036418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.319653389676752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,flashtvdotcom,2019/04/18,"Overdramatic/sensitive child Hello,

I’ve never posted here before but I’m the mom of a 7 year old boy soon to be 8. I’m writing because I’m starting to not know how to handle how over dramatic he is. I mean he cries or freaks out about literally almost every inconvenience. It’s like he thinks he’s always the victim and the world is out to get him and everyone else if wrong at 7 years old. He’s a really nice kid and his teachers over the years have never ever said a bad thing he gets along with the other kids really well and everything. But I go through him freaking out every single day multiple times. I’ve tried breathing exercises, talking to him about how he’s feeling, trying different coping methods, time outs, taking things away but nothing seems to help. I’ve been dealing with it since he was about 4-5. I’m at my wits end to be honest I don’t mind him being upset but when it’s about something as small as me asking him to go wipe his nose with a tissue and not wipe it on me(which is what got me to write this). I’m totally aware some people are just sensitive...I have always been but not this extreme. Any ideas/help.",2.6618534482758642,4.483679409482762,4.24348275862069,85.2997931034483,76.02586206896551,7.053793103448276,23.23793103448276,7.908726449838941,1.1904682758620684,901,27,181,14,20,301,141,232,0.105,0.809,0.087,-0.5131,1,0,2,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,0,13,10,1,1,9,0,13,3,2,3,4,41,32,18,0,1,11,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,10,13,0,0,5,1,0,2,6,6,1,0,5,3,13,4,31,24,3,30,0,0,0,0,28,12,0,5,16,105,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13601630660237535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260465088519136,0.0,0.0,0.092370539774674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698475160344708,0.0,0.12761880372836215,0.0,0.11341419596078399,0.08280203572278831,0.0,0.1155831800299916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920527071961345,0.08760051850116525,0.14003701243694913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14191571691180413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11347035615977726,0.0,0.12030699368972135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12286798267167805,0.22888893882587694,0.1297934682346248,0.1220772042014456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0686808311297064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193341478453808,0.0,0.1543931154444439,0.0,0.10863740225285816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18209089306517007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464981339805142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663607416337141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14796106377234272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371517796419897,0.1590850066657884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209524300853424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13033463940560147,0.0,0.28506604538422675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416893022637413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300896802402396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740351444200247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920750772389836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365651449036265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236178232755288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457024774738603,0.0,0.0,0.09614271559834653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021288942735741,0.1091767604505637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048172851262026,0.08703577580112011,0.0,0.0,0.1584096721095792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184442266906213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212944193571057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851116471839165,0.0,0.2624144100144098
parenting,Lr20005,2019/04/18,"Your kids, and friend’s dogs My 7 year old has a neighbor friend that he loves to play with. They mostly play over here, but will occasionally ask to go play to the other house. I’m always hesitant to let him go, because they have a pitbull. The dog has never shown signs of aggression, and my son loves the dog. It still makes me uneasy though, since I don’t know how closely the parents supervise. My son tells me that they put the dog away when he comes over, but we’ve had a lot of issues with him telling tall tales recently and I don’t know if I believe him. He knows we’re uncomfortable about the dog, and is probably just saying that because he wants us to let him go over there. I wish I could say something to the parents, but they’re very defensive about people not liking their dog. So, what are your rules about friend’s houses and dogs? Is it fair for me to not allow my son to go over there anymore?",3.905459057071962,4.828757172043009,4.327634408602151,89.51914392059555,71.36559139784947,7.443507030603808,24.52274607113317,7.61054688173877,0.9142354011579816,718,19,157,8,13,226,107,186,0.087,0.7879999999999999,0.125,0.7553,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,4,0,12,11,2,0,10,0,13,2,0,3,1,30,28,13,0,4,7,5,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,1,7,9,0,1,3,3,0,6,5,2,0,0,1,2,23,9,21,23,2,19,0,0,0,2,32,7,0,3,7,97,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830602150394457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12908669437055167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12168480997727713,0.0,0.1222923987732683,0.0,0.0,0.15869228163904514,0.0,0.0,0.14664909855237115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121238766810384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392454327901056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30169077248058324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958984709176211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003811919542353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585632745054618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21460249935869846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662009194464532,0.0,0.06359105430915753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065990582024696,0.2349543318681746,0.0,0.08688479587505188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038970983929787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13658414544086034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890611577484431,0.0,0.0,0.090238617122662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033770100219115,0.0,0.0,0.13084974012163295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852023384384614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20702164256328606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767215715737394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002058165704365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394831917236837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275363528773741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788446107853196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15657003117410606,0.0,0.0,0.1073980853169251,0.07677349446979706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968099635789855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382068769332965
parenting,BingeEvareething,2019/04/18,"Is 6-9 the new tween? Or am I just raising monsters? Here lately I've had such behavioral problems with my 6 and 8 yo daughters. The 6yo has always been a difficult child, my 8yo for the most part is great. I would say the 8yo is the stereotypical oldest child,and has a few rough patches. I have a 2yo son as well. My 6yo though has been on a whole nother level of disrespectful, disruptive, disobedient... I mean we are checking all the wrong boxes here.

I admittedly have lots my self with the behavior and am being a shitty parent. I try, I wake up saying I won't fight, I'll work through this with them and an hour in its done gone to hell.

I guess I'm looking for encouragement, helpful tips, just anything, alike stories, to help me through this.

Should I be in therapy, should my kids? I just I don't know. When do we start going to someone else when the behavior seems to be too much?

Signed
A wore out mother of 3",2.5387903225806454,4.319930876344085,3.8523521505376337,88.14852822580644,76.25806451612901,7.015591397849463,24.528225806451612,7.8658589789855275,1.1967645161290323,717,24,153,11,16,235,122,186,0.108,0.799,0.093,-0.5876,1,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,2,0,1,1,11,8,2,0,15,0,24,1,1,0,1,26,35,8,0,4,4,4,1,0,0,4,0,2,0,3,3,9,0,0,4,0,1,2,2,5,1,0,6,4,21,3,19,22,7,15,1,0,1,0,17,6,1,5,7,104,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115842575606836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949342451456907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18590463716700725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15175638406633254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10324344488525594,0.0,0.0,0.2002844393993599,0.20012261566517425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435301733262286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890176598787738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983740367010924,0.0,0.2049241251454824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255142640960032,0.0,0.0,0.15444364889254195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19788459982518528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335434344959166,0.0,0.0,0.17545155575948804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017156061396357,0.19672366058760735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382725245959915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28893190935059954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16537945363350776,0.18951445048700505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392273211839105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858222506130448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20774782585114596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17848327864753155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333746205604235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16333713159501326,0.0,0.0,0.2028205968254871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13225305248490193,0.0,0.0,0.12904840247358484,0.1986203103073688,0.0,0.0
parenting,YMatyCz,2019/04/18,"Obese and not eating ANY fruits or vegetables, what to do? I am a girl (22) and my younger brother (10) is totally brainwashed. He doesn't eat ANY fruits and vegetables, when he was younger he even didn't want to sit next to anyone who ate it, he was scared to even touch it. In his whole life he ate the same amount of vegetables and fruits that I eat in 3 days. (He ate it when he was very, very young, probably around 4, then he somehow stopped, i don't remember what happened, but that's not important)

He is obese, he is eating a lot of sweets (chocolates, chips, snacks, cookies...) and from ""real"" foods, he is eating really only few (for example goulash, spaghetti, of course fries and so on) and he doesn't even want to try and taste anything he thinks that looks like it will not be good. My parents are aware of it, they think they are actively doing everything they can to ""cure"" him (they are taking him to  Psychotherapist) for about a year now, but there's still zero progress, and what's worse - they are still giving him daily a lot of sweets and other things (not mentioning that they let him to play on PC for how long he wants, he is there about 4 hours daily, sometimes more), and when I say something, they start to yell at me (because I am trying to tell them something about it constantly). He doesn't eat much otherwise, he always fills the daily calories with sweets, he even always says he isn't hungry.

The main problem is: What do I do?  I know he NEEDS the nutrients and vitamins that fruits and vegetables include, and I think it's crucial to replace the sweets with... well, something, that can give him even a little bit of the things his body needs and doesn't get, but I don't know what. Or should I let him eat these sweets just to fill up these calories? (Because it think it would be really bad combo eating less calories + not getting enough nutrients) And is there anything we can do to make him eat fruits or vegetables?

It's hard to say but I am really surprised that he still lives somehow healthly life, but I am scared that he will die in 40 just because of this, I think it's crucial to take action before it's too late, but I don't know what to do - At the end, this is why I am asking.

btw. his stats are: boy 10yo, 56kg, 150cm, and heavily active around 3 times a week",6.531258169934643,5.620716965141611,6.2652641612200455,84.20743872549019,65.62309368191721,9.654357298474947,30.889705882352942,8.72156446121922,2.0967522875817,1793,54,382,23,24,560,203,459,0.069,0.83,0.101,0.9578,1,0,3,0,0,0,81.0,1,0,8,1,28,14,0,2,13,0,47,32,1,2,1,65,74,32,1,8,16,2,2,1,0,4,6,4,0,2,34,22,27,1,9,1,0,3,14,4,1,1,7,18,37,10,42,59,13,36,0,0,1,0,54,11,0,7,22,240,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11395209081872285,0.0,0.0,0.0931296500958015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04787877430363624,0.0,0.11269691518603407,0.12191316564277313,0.06401416248719237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05717312257506375,0.1252237666829832,0.0,0.05826652707351865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475612539939035,0.07605943404516066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399631761436301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044160214155537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106544091786349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6305960947740976,0.0,0.0,0.06064784428960045,0.07075218476621911,0.0,0.2261329183468889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154022342885275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279931172417347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07154991888122772,0.13137344330916192,0.0,0.057432936084884575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055153618604569,0.0,0.0613394611167957,0.0,0.0,0.07278490537614281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743332428712492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128949395300089,0.0,0.07724191490724057,0.0,0.0,0.14003908059574038,0.09673074852193722,0.033453050418030275,0.06862916812060678,0.06046400033164661,0.06059753952886598,0.05750110822404692,0.0,0.0,0.1164286847851838,0.0,0.0,0.045707080792177016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05033643840827026,0.10154554905775563,0.0,0.0,0.07282312131416016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052077738115549284,0.0,0.0,0.0760325299612176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382680218435515,0.06552059126035886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779386656049315,0.13159903696362032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07756795528029255,0.0,0.0,0.16336037013847085,0.13710930098006618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814442473056944,0.06772276517543481,0.0,0.048466413018564435,0.0,0.16405082758512976,0.0572475230495224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296819972656296,0.0,0.05984949587197973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098247269133207,0.2193776112477943,0.0,0.0,0.03992787465392892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929790159381618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129968232776926,0.1211636263544369,0.0,0.054925897672339546,0.0,0.06156655694344389,0.0,0.06178734284153385,0.07644903336934111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06978109113607682,0.048642128962138535,0.0,0.0,0.04409515964064027
parenting,blemishedcucumber,2019/04/18,"Girl in my daughter's dance class keeping being rude to her My daughter is 4 and takes a dance class, which has girls aged 4-5. She has known one of the girls from a previous dance class and they have been friends, or so we thought. They've always been kind and playful with each other, ya know as kids are when they're friends. Well lately this girl has been such a brat to my daughter, she'll push her away in class and say things like ""we're not friends anymore"", give her dirty faces, etc. The teacher talked to me and the other mom separately last week due to the girls getting distracted and arguing during class. Their teacher talked to me after the other mom and told me that her daughter feels ""smothered"" by mine. I asked if my daughter has been acting out to much or being mean and she said no, but she did agree that the other girl is being rude to mine.
 The week after that I tried talking to her mom and she would not even acknowledge that her daughter was being an issue, she kept bringing up how I need to talk to my daughter and how her daughter just feels so smothered. So I just ended the convo after her being dumb about it. I know I need to communicate with my daughter and I have, letting her know to still be kind but to give that girl her space. Idk what else to do. 
Today she had dance class again and that girl was being rude again. It's making me upset, especially since  her mom isn't doing anything to help her daughter, like teaching her to be kind even if she's annoyed or whatever. I'm just confused how a 4 year old could feel smothered. We watch them during dance every week and I haven't noticed my daughter being to much, I'd totally admit it if she was. Anyways yeah, sorry this is so long but I am just confused and frustrated with this whole situation.",4.1106201382886765,5.376050446629215,4.367415730337078,88.13786949006052,71.21910112359551,6.712878133102852,26.33275713050994,6.8449194561589275,1.0246909248055325,1413,45,286,11,26,441,164,356,0.126,0.774,0.1,-0.8816,0,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,2,1,3,0,22,24,10,4,13,1,37,1,1,4,1,60,60,32,0,7,15,15,3,2,3,2,0,2,0,9,19,21,0,2,11,6,0,8,5,14,1,1,13,6,50,10,33,34,6,33,0,0,1,0,68,6,1,8,21,204,69,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309774862427508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990417109832813,0.0,0.0,0.08218243177089311,0.0,0.0933626183518908,0.0,0.0938287905954568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973606133226205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08342646989208131,0.0,0.08845295041402344,0.0,0.11137864574111933,0.13192306534757164,0.0,0.0841426642598147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148800491127726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314721160073433,0.0,0.052176639590913405,0.1916039853165468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693907079366583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423570906527596,0.0,0.08876681024911581,0.0,0.3119898561442627,0.1646536757441579,0.08140533027945585,0.11265487420376336,0.0,0.0,0.10212127073150136,0.0,0.09758041838038602,0.0,0.0,0.08837958252174373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666232243267803,0.0,0.0,0.10878496948244623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678543707114775,0.0,0.0,0.14682818631720926,0.14810095100297946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369979480318515,0.10479412710670637,0.0,0.0676727931490585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949968486727964,0.07941863330692987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0826114164757777,0.11225523862162948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179347437918384,0.0,0.0,0.07975430337626041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508792085951105,0.32107880954629786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663475201779893,0.0,0.0,0.07928362862982298,0.0,0.0,0.09466269959175948,0.09542766266299164,0.0,0.0678034675647422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403230202243277,0.0,0.08979286357609907,0.0,0.0,0.11149848171896004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07094299676300858,0.0,0.0,0.06431138674224586
parenting,SpicyMackerel,2019/04/18,"16 yo daughter wants to travel? My 16 year old has always been a recluse, and admiringly more mature than others her age. She just told me she wants to travel to New York or Chicago this summer alone or with her best friends (one 16 year old girl and an 18 year old guy, family friends so no worries there) Is this advisable? She’s been saving money for months now and has shared her plans on hotels, safe and unsafe areas to go, managing her money between gas food and any accidents. Keep in mind we live in Texas, so this would be cross country trip. I’d love to let her go travel because I know she wants to, but I’m also a concerned parent. Is this advisable? Any thoughts?",3.9342537313432833,5.291196604477612,4.518089552238809,86.53698507462688,71.76119402985073,7.151044776119402,25.34029850746269,7.554174236665415,1.1938382089552233,531,16,106,6,10,169,91,134,0.05,0.821,0.128,0.8745,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,1,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,3,0,9,2,0,0,0,21,20,11,0,4,4,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,5,7,1,2,2,4,2,7,1,0,0,1,4,0,13,8,13,13,2,22,0,0,0,1,21,4,0,2,11,61,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16253544180492102,0.0,0.12549940417851518,0.1305809741175275,0.0,0.0,0.21343988234634734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09566500751116976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646916862434412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479426316728289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897642193929262,0.0,0.24249236503345686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17837748093674832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15538851727556918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948941750570065,0.0,0.0,0.08624636939290371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047480504596565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385748695898726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163831845379748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15845777117784388,0.0,0.12526256388302134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156703932919785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4940249077479417,0.0,0.10634198154529233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425572019999488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458741216762892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995637492701044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277689759675299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15937325798337187,0.0,0.11148082562400563,0.0,0.0,0.3031794603349196
parenting,Happinessislif3,2019/04/18,How much do you pay for daycare? I pay $180 a week for a full time 2 year old here in Arizona. Was just kind of curious how much it is for everyone else.,0.14819047619047865,1.3186453428571454,2.782857142857144,95.8904761904762,81.28571428571428,6.9523809523809526,23.095238095238088,7.793537801064563,0.7673809523809525,117,4,31,2,3,41,29,35,0.08800000000000001,0.8490000000000001,0.063,0.0534,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,5,2,3,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,4,20,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080032764123485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35231063712266225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3839464781547759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5420769033363564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868908098279889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149931474457268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957505682235509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23743205067716225
parenting,PaulRamseyAF,2019/04/18,"Mother is telling son that other not related children are his siblings and he is believing it My son is 3, his mother and I broke up while she was pregnant and I am married now, we have a great co-parenting relationship with her. Wife and I have a 5 month old son. Today 3 year old told his step mother that his mom's friends children who they regularly see are his siblings (brother and sister) and he gets aggressive when we correct him. He has a real brother and we are worried that it may be confusing for him in the long run. I don't know how to approach this or confront his mother about it. What should we do?",4.742177419354839,5.288143540322583,5.6808064516129075,81.94120967741938,69.24193548387098,8.458064516129033,32.435483870967744,8.472884824447931,2.4474870967741937,485,21,97,7,8,160,82,124,0.083,0.858,0.059,0.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,4,0,1,0,4,6,2,1,4,0,16,0,0,1,1,21,20,11,0,1,2,12,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,12,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,4,0,0,2,1,20,2,6,15,0,14,0,1,1,0,37,2,0,3,9,69,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658670737922008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231648122695848,0.0,0.12328907900285616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601672399161063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968766735517787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088336354582002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27637528463276184,0.18835586739787585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952396902978816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26859530943967724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253352704203874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18804439219230126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625569784615266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223680120837536,0.2254876652340868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23964772328560285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15196248173538576
parenting,kidsstuffsucks,2019/04/18,"List of movies you won't mind watching with your kids. On one of our recent podcast episodes ([https://apple.co/2Zi3iT6](https://apple.co/2Zi3iT6)), we tried to come up with a list of 80's, 90's, 00's  grown up movies that you can show your kids on family movie night and actually enjoy watching. Here's what we came up with so far. Please add to it, no ""kids movies"". 

To understand our ""appropriate for kids"" scale, we don't care about bad words, but draw the line at sex stuff (Akroyd getting a BJ in Ghostbusters) or super violent scenes (face melt in Raiders of the Lost Ark).

1. Back To the Future 1,2,3
2. Karate Kid (The original Macchio one)
3. Charlies Angels (Not the second one -lapdance scene that you don't want any questions about)
4. Bill and Ted
5. Home Alone
6. Goonies
7. Princess Bride
8. School of Rock
9. Ferris Bueller",3.0627590132827294,5.839186296774192,2.6587855787476293,92.23994307400379,79.58064516129033,5.453510436432637,22.02087286527514,6.794906146795322,0.4121157495256176,656,20,132,7,17,193,113,155,0.094,0.82,0.086,-0.1111,0,1,0,0,0,0,51.0,5,5,0,2,5,6,1,0,7,0,4,2,1,1,0,20,11,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,5,11,0,0,2,2,1,3,5,3,0,4,2,2,10,3,23,8,0,17,1,1,2,1,16,9,0,2,5,62,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.1995291622326132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117649433262781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904378050324173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722160762938028,0.1707204332419259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338544470577111,0.2084665476216655,0.0,0.0,0.17612921382018604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927521940066398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10682496074786267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20509590550496187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22319861418487166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064522085795844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19187733700593546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156540280397072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244420889437436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290485314983424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018853469658097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20693034282151088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23406446519215515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13881888174404314,0.0,0.0,0.2128561470556844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059924811251653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,torpid_tapir,2019/04/18,"Backyard toy netting? Hey!

I have a 4 yr old and a newborn on the way this summer.  

I want to have a removable ""toy netting"" to be able to keep balls and other toys from being thrown over my masonry yard wall.

Has anyone here done this or know where I could go look for ideas?[Pic of Mason Wall](https://i.imgur.com/KWD8oue.jpg)

How dare above the wall would you go with this netting?  Current wall is about 5ft tall.",3.8279204339963835,6.064512696202534,3.3000361663652846,91.50405063291142,73.9367088607595,6.033273056057867,25.20976491862568,6.868970318607317,0.8622245931283907,329,11,65,3,7,97,62,79,0.0,0.97,0.03,0.2805,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,1,0,10,15,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,4,3,0,1,1,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,10,10,0,14,0,0,1,0,3,7,0,1,3,39,9,0,0.3362126508659327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.235087702818966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684384438440541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3440622723749657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3821547950213785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988412521278105,0.0,0.0,0.18477368019548646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28233394940749995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3527986200283794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983069324501402,0.2668699528466358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388358207629509,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Hypersensitivesenses,2019/04/18,"3 year old is hypersensitive to smell, taste, sounds, and touch. He recoils when I try to hug him. Normal toddler behavior or something serious? My 3 year old was a nightmare of a baby and continues to be difficult as a toddler. Everything is always too much. If the TV is on even slightly he can hear it from his bedroom and refuses to sleep. We live about a mile from a train station and he complains every time the train comes. He complains about preschool being too loud and crazy. 

It isn't just with sound though. It's everything. We started potty training at 15 months because he hates dirty diapers. He can't stand the feeling of paper when he's writing and won't get near paint. He won't wear a hat and refuses to let me style his hair. Baths are only twice a week because they are screaming matches. He refuses to wear underwear and hates most shoes. Most days we send him to daycare sans undies and in crocs. He complains about everything being too tight even if he has some room. That is why he doesn't like underwear or socks. My husband thought boxers might be good since they are looser and he'll have to make the switch anyway but they don't make little kid boxers. He's a size 18 months. 

He's such a picky eater and will eat just enough to prevent starvation but not enough to keep him on the charts. He won't eat any food that is too loud so even chips are out. He can't deal with certain smells. My husband had pizza for lunch yesterday at work and my son smelled it on him when he came home. Pizza is one of those smells he can't stand so he threw up. He won't even let him hug him because it's too tight (even if I do it very loose so we are stuck to doing handshakes the high fives). 

He's my first kid so I don't know what's normal.",2.4076207983193285,4.341831361344538,3.1390887605042046,92.42737263655464,77.12324929971989,6.255217086834732,23.761292016806717,7.1686216300943375,0.7720056722689068,1384,45,297,16,32,435,185,357,0.08800000000000001,0.888,0.024,-0.9191,0,0,1,0,0,0,32.0,4,0,3,2,25,13,2,0,15,0,37,14,5,2,1,51,53,28,0,5,10,3,5,1,0,7,0,6,4,2,10,21,7,7,3,2,0,4,12,8,0,4,6,16,24,5,32,34,6,35,0,0,0,2,52,13,0,9,17,170,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411731660655988,0.0,0.0,0.07691927985304277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2068540350754471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12936871820520787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743501103823513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729471627458243,0.11661235471501538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314813449769249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23374755922087784,0.0,0.3735433605176571,0.0,0.09530079819692032,0.0,0.30497030730427543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05719226154889169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621206014212123,0.13677412990598467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909576840701326,0.0,0.0,0.09487204298417774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22334716104981175,0.0,0.0,0.1274841869092874,0.0,0.0,0.1195078591575625,0.1134594391432098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053815082458067,0.0,0.0,0.06216278373764005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313270847603492,0.0,0.05526026446776966,0.11336682105688405,0.09987898285369093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100478677209586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999277315228996,0.0,0.0,0.1805680569256115,0.0,0.08314951444031557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22164930119793508,0.0,0.0,0.2373816909048902,0.0,0.07664686232665957,0.08602592424867271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356649209501948,0.0,0.11319257132114645,0.0,0.0,0.08707828459597837,0.0,0.0,0.08006046586910093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11113086922825537,0.0897974072824655,0.0659558660702244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679486543813842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332832522468043,0.0,0.0,0.09073072839621338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10206497953154238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823460706913706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14567940161157827
parenting,ErrMaGerddon,2019/04/18,"Has anybody ever had doctors office screw up records? I don’t want to turn this into Vaxx/anti-Vaxx debate. I had my daughter vaccinated since she was young. We stayed within the same system but had different doctors and only switched locations when the requested doctor worked at the hospital clinic. I always try to stay with one doctor. The last visit they realized they messed up before we moved to a new state. They forced me to sign some papers declining vaccines right after giving them to her and told me not to take pictures. Which in retrospect, I don’t think a mom with cloudy postpartum mind should go alone when this is occurring. 

Tl;DR I requested the state vaccination records for my daughter and the doctors office/hospital clinic only selectively updated her record so it’s all spotty. They also forced me to sign a paper when they realized they messed up. Has anyone experienced this?",6.0829914529914495,8.393123728395064,6.241604938271607,72.5087606837607,67.8888888888889,9.182146248812916,29.745489078822413,9.661875296680813,3.2201124406457744,732,28,112,17,13,233,105,162,0.112,0.861,0.026,-0.9326,1,1,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,7,1,6,3,1,0,9,0,10,8,0,0,2,22,17,9,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,3,3,3,0,1,5,1,22,0,18,11,3,25,0,0,0,1,20,8,1,1,9,79,27,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14471316646935836,0.0,0.11173819055716187,0.11626255809413627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976991073872941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889585246145375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459830931760922,0.0,0.7150733053493034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263894412333842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403714205697226,0.0794090501324829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389468544545844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14108261905329592,0.1636444634630835,0.0,0.14850577319128386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494746715020722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468141044902488,0.2125346190515163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193245558578094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155821278706488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2978569406051839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10505596006660728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953026518073813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351341471726294,0.0,0.0948642378071226,0.1519808925925128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241354208140261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172160844322292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mixedbloodfamily,2019/04/18,"Single Dad to Mixed-Blood, Four-Years-Old, Identical Twins, Boys, and They Only Speak Mandarin Thucydides' Trap was not sprung by the United States of America’s involvement in a significant military conflict/war between the Republic of China (Taiwan) and the People’s Republic of China (PRC).

Consequently, my mixed-blood (50% Chinese and 50% me), four-years old, identical twins, and boys flew from the perils present in PRC airspace and landed free at the Palm Beach International Airport on Tuesday, April 09, 2019, at 11:15 AM.

**By so doing, John Stephen Shoemaker and Joseph Stephen Shoemaker survived:**

1. The revenge-death-threat of a rich, powerful, People’s Republic of China, Partyman;

2. The dangers connected to neglect and abandonment;

3. The perils resulting from their potential sale to the highest bidder; and

4. Residence in a country controlled by a totalitarian government and hailed by/encouraged by Chairman Xi Jinping in January 2013 when he stated, “Our system will become more mature, the superiority of socialism will further manifest itself, our path will grow wider, \[Communist Party members\] must not be depressed or swayed by difficulties and adversity, must endure all the risks and challenges, and resist the erosion of decadent ideologies.”

**Since the boys arrived, my life has been 95% focused on their psychological and physiological condition.** **Some of the many twins-related-issues are listed below.**

1. Joseph arrived with a furuncle (boil) the entire length of his left eyebrow. The quantity of white pus, grey pus, and dark blood that burst out Wednesday, April 10, 2019, after I popped the distressing mass was incredible.

2. Just after the Wednesday, April 10, 2019, dinner I prepared for the boys was placed on the table; a large and very angry man arrived at the front door and screamed – I am first going to fu\*\* you up and then kill you. His implication being my ½ Chinese and ½ me twins would receive the same fate after I was unable to defend them.

He took two steps inside the house and landed face down in the swale beside the street with me on his back, his right arm positioned behind his back, and me telling him to wait patiently for the police to arrive or I would apply slightly more pressure to his arm and, consequently, break same.

3. John had an unsettling fever on Thursday, April 11, 2019, and Friday, April 12, 2019.

4. On Saturday, April 13, 2019, I was informed we three needed to find another place to live ASAP.

5. Each of the boys has been suffering from 12 hours of jet lag disorder.

6. The twins' adjustment to American food has involved significant, uncontrollable, and regular, diarrhea.

7. Each of the boys has been calling for their mom during their sleep (she is in China and it presently appears this arrangement will be perpetual).

**Some of the many twins-related-understanding are listed below.**

1. It is extremely difficult to raise children alone.

2. Caring for children without the ability to speak their language is exceptionally difficult (the twins speak only mandarin and I speak a few words of their language).

3. Raising the twins is the most demanding job I have ever had.

**Any advice or helpful comments will be greatly appreciated.**",4.906765185426735,8.155063052441232,5.3788468265496725,72.64573918714616,75.79927667269439,8.400189725194911,30.94622476506685,9.071364595639457,3.5174185456378035,2560,121,384,66,61,817,307,553,0.103,0.825,0.07200000000000001,-0.9577,2,1,0,0,1,0,141.0,3,2,8,5,6,20,2,4,42,0,37,11,6,2,4,62,44,31,1,5,8,2,0,0,0,9,2,5,1,9,5,31,3,4,3,1,3,8,3,14,0,3,12,7,36,7,69,19,12,65,0,4,2,0,47,29,0,8,24,241,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939876035830966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714662134903524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004977129871394,0.13885334603937946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.203644776616409,0.0,0.0,0.1462468860717604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13521507050243411,0.0,0.13501046122897795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14851968035607266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405268387526565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517641694698814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978097959055695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210289842899304,0.11263592207998815,0.1601221324633514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525702875496257,0.0,0.0,0.1459929183087702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875797043135235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13040649081621253,0.15279427386188374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821150896498946,0.13140587795111566,0.0,0.14650250907842982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14387412697660365,0.0,0.09353177825744406,0.0,0.0,0.11692880615505725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685050897367116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508806706395786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818734913796777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2779038885611949,0.0,0.0,0.20142192748433607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18360595599019205,0.0,0.2767002960635475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308549235109105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953874282854624,0.0,0.13251508828029399,0.1349849599594485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574044163316505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14712288855123198,0.0,0.0,0.12935456773261486,0.13785332427323435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925991972664076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764763069795232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18813396524167103,0.0,0.0,0.0852737884644742
parenting,Christwriter,2019/04/18,"Help redirecting baby frustration My daughter is nearly two. We have reached the point where she understands most of our words and has a great many words of her own, but doesn't always know when or how to use them. (Ie she knows ""up"" belongs to things like climbing stairs or onto the sofa and will say ""up, up, up"" when being lifted, but doesnt know she can use ""up"" to ask me to be picked up)

Obviously this is leading to many episodes of frustration. She will come up to me and her father and present us with something (ie, her baby backpack full of blocks) and indicate she wants us to do something with it. However, nothing we do is what she wants (in the backpack's case, she doesn't want me to keep it, she doesnt want me to close it, she doesnt want to wear it, she doesnt want me to open it, she doesnt want me to take the blocks out and she doesnt want me to put more things in) and our lack of understanding obviously runs into a meltdown. 

I understand Baby meltdowns are normal at this stage and that she needs to learn how to manage her own emotions, so our response so far has been to let her cry unless she attempts to hit either us or the cats, at which point we go in time out for two minutes at a time (the guidelines we use say a minute per year and she's nearly two) until she calms down. We do not spank. We do attempt to redirect before she gets to a crisis point but that is often hard to detect. She is a happy giggly child until she suddenly isnt anymore. 

Here is the problem: during the last few meltdowns she has begun to lash out at *herself*. Last night, she began deliberately hitting her head with her hands. Obviously she did not actually hurt herself, but I still do not want this trend to continue. 

Does anyone know some tactics for redirecting this behavior? I can redirect before it happens but I still do not want her to think that harming herself is an appropriate way to manage strong emotion.",5.9054854023261365,5.7580840026109685,6.265341799192977,81.15067351056258,66.67624020887729,9.052409209589367,30.7250178020413,8.575989854853784,2.1692725848563974,1515,51,305,20,22,489,178,383,0.104,0.8290000000000001,0.068,-0.8608,1,0,2,1,0,0,46.0,12,0,1,5,11,10,2,0,15,0,36,3,3,7,3,80,68,26,0,14,14,2,2,1,0,2,0,2,1,1,17,25,0,3,9,0,0,6,13,5,0,3,3,4,58,5,59,58,9,56,0,1,0,0,53,31,0,6,18,229,75,4,0.0,0.0,0.08421892559576385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0718107085577714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855890269018162,0.06034481127847498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068131673424812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468743772681165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07434208106717596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479939562303784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552402028799092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941577039559531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508956645899317,0.0,0.049047778144499565,0.0,0.0,0.09514896331067846,0.0,0.0,0.07631713795754308,0.09187076317434498,0.07731021227782918,0.0,0.08857140512363497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057846839216143676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238875916623704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07670975021506317,0.0,0.0,0.1897186918230649,0.1406963376150824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825029476077567,0.0,0.0421631097187889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749946588371887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399231270206099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098917966676486,0.08455826166876299,0.082809708965418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447516657823585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257996934896833,0.0,0.08675798835794635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726264369079255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287997453162914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13784279672548547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06488884344426356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146712760311925,0.05529924582244534,0.0,0.0,0.1006475247449664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25291541182624344,0.2695322700335613,0.31143434283888144,0.2236133099259967,0.0,0.0,0.5090353204536721,0.06850301716048128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055576069469401086
parenting,AllTheseLives-,2019/04/18,Build a bear party made it on to Fox News. Just saw online that the lady who’s daughter went to the build a bear birthday party and had to give her teddy to the birthday girl made it on to Fox News. Wonder if the the mother of the birthday girl saw it.,2.5027777777777764,3.4581131666666667,3.878703703703703,91.2991666666667,74.74074074074073,5.4,20.907407407407405,3.1291,-0.2609481481481488,197,4,43,0,4,65,31,54,0.0,0.901,0.099,0.6597,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,8,8,2,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,8,2,0,3,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,2,0,26,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3751987045618778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.740175903673958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625728941656967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4241538165946863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,thaoLipasti,2019/04/18,"Husband wants me to stop biting baby So, my baby is this scrumptious little 4-months-old who looks incredibly delicious. I cannot look at his rolls without wanting to squeeze him, kiss him and bite him. My husband doesn't like it when I bite the baby on his legs (not hard of course). The baby laughs when I do it. My husband says I'm teaching him to bite other kids. I think it's ridiculous as i definitely was bitten as a baby but i never bit anyone. I am also resentful of him criticising me for anything since I'm the one who stays at home with the baby while he can do his usual activities every day. I feel like how dare you telling me what to do while you can't even take care of baby alone for more than 3 hrs without calling for my help (the baby is very attached to me). Anyway, what do you guys think about biting babies?",4.478682087143625,5.027376319526628,5.6231199569661126,82.11191500806886,69.82840236686391,7.565572888649813,27.789671866594944,7.348242739294969,1.4770544378698234,654,21,130,6,11,218,103,169,0.129,0.789,0.08199999999999999,-0.8022,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,3,0,0,8,7,2,0,6,0,12,2,1,1,1,14,23,11,0,2,4,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,9,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,7,2,0,1,1,7,27,6,21,22,2,13,0,0,2,1,23,4,0,0,10,90,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372165646557945,0.0,0.14185803517729748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403461469556624,0.0,0.14597615181031312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936630029675302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18113415035281916,0.0,0.18086005570668187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440132349502795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716385728366535,0.0,0.14945800540384074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969328166559211,0.12672684064071954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756431426436959,0.0,0.0,0.1589058311519391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890020469895946,0.0,0.1779357758740218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733267519622618,0.17779052510269067,0.0,0.0,0.29792441042485296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13681344432729173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18614006762423127,0.0,0.12020347552740132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410669679926167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673813384290993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.189073226206204,0.0,0.14830526819028833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333745606976658,0.0,0.1550459314836951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273276029281087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19536908188126365,0.1463646223291806,0.20925742744489004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34199361129065564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Another_Innocent,2019/04/18,"Sick Kiddo 8 year old  DD has what I thought to be seasonal allergies since last week. The symptoms have progressed and only gotten slightly worse, but don't seem to be assisted by kid's claritin or kid's non-drowsy benadryl. This morning around 4 am she spiked a fever of 102.3°F and and began vomiting. I've made the decision to keep her home today from school.

Is a fever with vomiting still allergies or might she have something else?",5.213686274509801,6.5293574470588265,5.344411764705885,81.97818627450984,68.64705882352939,8.960784313725489,31.81372549019608,9.2995712137729,2.8369607843137254,353,15,66,7,6,111,69,85,0.054000000000000006,0.946,0.0,-0.4684,0,0,1,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,9,6,0,1,0,14,15,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,1,2,2,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,4,0,8,8,0,9,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,4,8,34,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169096994267085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20803399197259292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497990538814063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213507764943803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20299403591916865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23563977246097384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641832308743798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613168293647377,0.0,0.0,0.18939979475368335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520333291340032,0.0,0.2267090649351975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060015577094163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1917167339266988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1988770006668057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25883924114707474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19770331626485596,0.0,0.0,0.2360528895978769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997581715765192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537845309167692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16036822042919258
parenting,Silent_Tale,2019/04/18,"Evaporated milk VS Goat milk? New to this sub, But i have a question for more experienced moms and dads out there.

My baby girl (5 months) has been on alimentum for the past 2 months. She can not stomach any other formula. 

My thing is, shes getting a little older and that stuff is just super expensive so my sister and mom recommended halving it with evaporated milk or goat milk. 

I'm iffy on this and haven't done too much research but i thought i would ask here first from parents who have tried it and what your outcomes have been. Good or bad.

I have fully processed my own fruits and veggies for her and she so far has loved everything and has not had any reactions. But some people say when you change their formula/milk when they start eating it can mess things up.

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Help!",2.97176470588235,5.394342254901964,3.5814640522875862,87.55258823529414,77.43137254901961,6.694379084967321,23.925490196078428,7.793537801064563,1.2251458823529409,627,21,124,10,15,197,106,153,0.05,0.8420000000000001,0.108,0.8514,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,2,2,2,8,5,0,0,3,0,18,8,1,0,0,23,24,17,0,1,9,5,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,12,10,6,0,2,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,5,3,16,3,10,18,4,15,0,0,0,1,20,6,0,4,9,86,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18385375362092227,0.20618599039148008,0.2307833969288801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863267879944032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416799851318168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950435458173272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736467883367898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736302368583844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15250204200341105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14433407402894516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865347025576326,0.0,0.0,0.1423238256735002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373635726797865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006906534045785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314744324596122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3974663169484953,0.2708820833590498,0.0,0.12473808538109905,0.0,0.0,0.16388294359198075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18841524179996585,0.0,0.1619836446636573,0.11763829493589215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1900861655567781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349404158802022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201039993372278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424886241541664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22546250401558515,0.0,0.0,0.13471102906610066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520505617297945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053943877365733,0.0,0.20618599039148008,0.0
parenting,Smw860407,2019/04/18,"How do you decide when to let your child quit an extracurricular activity? My 5 year old has been taking violin lessons for about 6 months.  This was her idea, so definitely not something she was forced into.  She was really into it for the first month and a half, but has  become more and more reluctant to play and tries every strategy that she can think of to stall from playing during lessons and practice.   And now begging us to let her quit.

When I ask her why, she is upset that she can't play ""perfectly"". And it kind if correlates with when she started going from easy lessons of holding the bow to actually starting to play notes and learning to read music. I try to reassure her that she's learning and that it takes time and practice to get things down.  I encourage her that it good to make mistakes, and the important thing is that she tries.  

I don't want to reinforce  a lesson that we quit when things are hard.  But I don't want to put a ton of pressure on her either.  Music should be enjoyable, not a chore to endure.

If it was something like a sport where there was season, I'd have her finish the commitment to her team and not re-enroll.  But without a clear end date, I'm not sure how much longer to have her stick it out.

Should we let her quit, at least for a while?  Or how much longer should we insist on?",5.4138450570342185,5.650331209125477,5.716442490494297,83.35550023764259,67.70722433460077,9.008460076045626,28.224572243346014,8.841846274778883,1.906125665399239,1040,31,215,16,16,332,145,263,0.091,0.7440000000000001,0.165,0.9789,0,0,2,0,0,0,27.0,4,2,0,11,12,15,0,2,12,0,25,0,0,4,4,54,37,26,0,8,12,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,17,18,0,1,9,7,0,2,8,3,0,2,6,1,30,12,33,24,7,28,0,0,0,0,29,8,0,3,19,159,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.11873759668559655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375003395835162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343808724118256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776825126507167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10251673620404912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034969966238613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06357035213953889,0.0,0.06915090947134027,0.10205551671929708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108997220520045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13735666783364586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670616055100672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732638892943938,0.0,0.059444433438033885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121924571437583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424021843417086,0.0,0.17889077528519728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767781931838093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12231734088302915,0.0,0.5176668785288834,0.1217082842178579,0.0,0.07794834945831028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873432688901761,0.0,0.0,0.17224488808407745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467758413404265,0.0,0.18296945176577567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425071020883336,0.07796465581856632,0.0,0.0,0.07094987923458222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24782874154987394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146360473145666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353455627981004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979308442607492,0.0,0.0,0.11729070228597233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835494071371016
parenting,too_manytentacles,2019/04/18,"I didn’t bring enough snacks to my kiddos class! My son’s in kindergarten now, and you’d think that because it’s April that I would know how many kids are in his class. Nope! So I made a pitiful snack of strawberries and marshmallows and only made about 15 baggies. I thought there was 20+ kids but the snack list only had 14 for the month. So I thought I was okay. I had also bought 30 Capri suns but then only brought 20 in due to my earlier idea

On top of this, I work until 3am so I usually don’t even take my kiddo to school. I got him there 20 minutes late, with his shoes on the wrong feet, and with not enough snacks. I’m really feeling the hot mess life today. ):",1.8340610328638505,3.3549334154929578,2.819366197183101,95.92557511737093,77.52112676056338,6.141784037558686,20.98826291079812,6.816661863887847,0.1398009389671362,523,13,123,5,12,166,95,142,0.085,0.8490000000000001,0.066,-0.684,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,0,2,10,4,0,0,5,1,9,7,2,3,0,19,22,13,0,1,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,4,6,4,0,6,0,1,2,4,3,0,0,12,2,18,1,15,8,2,17,0,1,0,0,7,6,0,0,9,70,22,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677384333348575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188197200497096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3792839409795693,0.0,0.12122393780378313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09280142400674286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14679067599544454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20719004452368892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008667028518299,0.0,0.20703684268994133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296370551472391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34733280517482124,0.0,0.1860769129701762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649685428598064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187626816408552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757799784699903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857484462224229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799639091324842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11760259450881935,0.0,0.29141450406896,0.0,0.0,0.17397086972495654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20213920896626528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361654906733084,0.0,0.0,0.13037885989921386,0.20066803706464711,0.0,0.0
parenting,MightyMille,2019/04/18,"2 yo won't eat chewable food As the title says, I'm having a really tough time with my 2 yo son. He absolutely hates eating any kind of food that requires chewing. It's not because he doesn't know how to chew, but whenever he's offered anything like small pieces of bread for lunch, it takes him around 2 hours to finish eating maybe 8 small bites of bread. He's generally quite small for his age (at the moment he fits clothing of a 1 yo), so ""not eating"" anything for lunch and just giving in is not a solution.
He will gladly eat mashed food like oatmeal, because he doesn't have to chew on anything to swallow that.
I've tried letting him eat while watching television, without television, with toy in hand, without toy in hand and I've tried letting him eat by himself (he eats maybe one bite, then starts mashing the food with his hands and doesn't eat anymore. I guess he sees the bread lumps as toys instead of food?). I've even let him walk around in the house while playing with his toys and then just offered him chewable food from time to time. Still takes more than an hour for him to finish eating. 

I simply don't know what to do anymore. I have a feeling that he finds ""meal times"" quite boring, because he have to sit still most of the time while eating. He's even one of those kids, who won't eat a plate of boiled pasta because, again, it has to be chewed...

What can I do to make him understand that chewable food IS something he has to deal with?",6.228673208191125,5.681489587030715,5.889076365187715,85.45736881399318,66.09897610921502,8.417150170648465,30.940486348122874,7.1686216300943375,1.6745291808873723,1151,37,240,8,16,356,141,293,0.032,0.879,0.08900000000000001,0.9537,0,0,1,0,0,0,37.0,0,0,0,3,12,8,1,0,12,0,22,36,3,2,0,30,35,14,0,0,8,1,4,2,0,3,1,1,0,1,11,11,32,1,5,5,0,1,11,3,0,2,0,7,16,5,43,28,3,34,0,0,2,0,32,12,0,2,22,132,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03923065412976093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442442769142913,0.0,0.0,0.14241996066579088,0.1027112896972326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14066727476551796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947506221875784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7083658037073299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076206383663157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02916940767009325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05272691039496664,0.0,0.4883063148984867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553407653845554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355118994680076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05695617043444388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11362454037814405,0.0665656250363974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060074454793537714,0.06340898337097509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697343638196106,0.0,0.056368086820262425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038508008480529515,0.0,0.11591316945787168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07818342948122745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271919280426848,0.0,0.0,0.03695719746696196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045876790566122816,0.0,0.0,0.045970846652947726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04441198710810058,0.0,0.0,0.04083273337944522,0.0,0.09214138597926376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675024174753228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681952674656672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07833439966419456,0.0,0.0,0.06005652215663395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122071668085046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,RobertsC24,2019/04/18,"Influenza and small children Influenza hit our house 6 days ago. It’s been a long 6 days. Started with me, then our 9 month old and now our 5 year old. Thankfully fever broke last night for the baby and it hasn’t returned yet. My 5 year old, who is already extremely stubborn, is refusing to take the Tamiflu his doctor prescribed. His symptoms haven’t been as severe as the rest of the family yet. Fellow parents, how much of a battle would you wage over getting that medicine in the child?",3.1339883040935703,5.472633042105263,3.804561403508776,86.58637426900587,76.47368421052632,7.169590643274852,27.39766081871345,8.167268648758528,1.9529415204678364,389,16,74,7,9,123,71,95,0.146,0.825,0.029,-0.8795,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,3,1,0,0,4,4,2,0,7,0,7,3,0,1,0,8,12,7,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,4,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,8,1,9,8,2,21,0,1,0,0,12,3,0,0,18,45,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1666592569969885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747338135210155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425014083149065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19243589668516944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723881464282312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09822730949856312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21693795348163164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325300047850168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638266997993814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006755044648235,0.0,0.13820876366868304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17643436923255984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5918536669464732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20876252466077266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212397448464548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13307423478040506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19541406804268496,0.14135989783357544,0.0,0.0,0.1730940737329605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335566980631919,0.0,0.0,0.2421441679395737
parenting,Ninamomy,2019/04/18,"Am I a good mom? No. You are a Wonder WoMom You are a wonderful Mother. No? Why not!? “I can’t help it…I get stressed and scream at my kids…. Most of the time, I don’t have energy left to play with my children… I am so busy, I can’t attend school functions all the time.”

I am a Wonder WoMom and so are YOU! I had the same qualms when I decided to write blogs and articles about parenting – and thought I had no qualifications to be writing and opining on being a Mom – but I was wrong…very much so. Waking up everyday, looking at my son’s beautiful face and wanting ONLY the best for him makes me a Wonder WoMom. Making my goals fit, so that I can make my child the focal point of these goals qualifies me to write about being a good Mom. [Read more](https://wonderwomoms.com/am-i-a-good-mother/)",2.3116149068323004,4.0866894472049715,4.2130124223602525,85.34013975155283,76.88819875776397,7.084472049689442,22.68012422360249,7.957251820313856,1.0593527950310566,615,18,130,10,14,209,94,161,0.054000000000000006,0.7609999999999999,0.185,0.9733,1,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,3,0,3,7,6,0,1,12,0,17,2,2,3,1,25,28,12,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,7,0,0,6,3,0,1,7,2,0,0,4,2,22,4,14,21,5,12,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,5,4,88,24,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392168816317839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930857616680318,0.0,0.0,0.33380289627414794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891817723435337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14413381761402433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113997053060967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656516798325517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4661039960842256,0.0,0.0,0.097519240550824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10089274551849613,0.0,0.0,0.1473015337087792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12540513472783069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13269437092826394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13425745561955965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195983108243274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053160084044122,0.15470844327436178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10945713224006898,0.07824540364862975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970363696947205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5754498147428644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504121368644196,0.0,0.0
parenting,alement,2019/04/18,"Solids vs Milk First time parent here! My child is 6 months old, sleeping through the night, and he loves most solids we feed him. He screams when he’s all out of apples! My question is how much solids should he be eating over the next few months? I know at this point he should be taking mostly milk, but at what point should he be taking mostly solids?",4.275428571428569,5.437227114285713,3.1871428571428595,97.14785714285715,70.71428571428571,5.6000000000000005,19.714285714285715,3.1291,-0.6426285714285718,278,4,61,0,5,79,49,70,0.023,0.93,0.047,0.4007,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,2,0,8,6,1,1,1,15,12,4,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,1,6,6,6,14,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,4,8,35,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362845995260359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964169346132162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690533193796705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20841060261481095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686297141751587,0.0,0.16974974568488704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24558166437590745,0.21669891627926374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423073780561733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564047642785689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4365803016387085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586786398307801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2310826506266021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3472400167736729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13464891006529575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MamaMittens91,2019/04/18,"SO (29m) has been diagnosed with postpartum depression, how can I (27f) support him best? On mobile, sorry in advance for awful formatting. 

As the title says, my fantastic, wonderful man has PPD following the birth of our son (10 weeks). I suspected this might be the case, but didn't want to pressure him, and turns out he organised a doctors appointment to talk about it on his own. I'm super proud that he's reaching out for help, he has a hard time talking about his feelings.

It sounds like having a routine will help him, so we're working on that, we're also trying to create a way to talk about our feelings without feeling guilty for over burdening the other (the ""friend hat""), and I've asked him to have a think of any specific ways I can ease pressure or give more support where he needs it. 

I'm just hoping for some tips, the internet has a lot of info about supporting the mum in your life with PPD, but not the dad.",10.38412087912088,6.548320818681319,9.851098901098904,70.74390109890113,60.5934065934066,13.476923076923079,41.384615384615394,11.20814326018867,4.4047274725274725,727,28,142,14,7,236,121,182,0.068,0.649,0.28300000000000003,0.9938,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,2,1,0,5,10,13,0,2,14,1,13,3,0,1,0,26,30,10,0,3,6,3,4,1,1,2,3,2,0,1,7,6,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,2,6,13,9,28,25,5,16,0,1,0,0,26,9,0,6,4,92,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12019435943342185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022087320019166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050963084796456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772992598341995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12945263527252093,0.15255070635061335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15383778358292086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22798764670193225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11612092771864138,0.0,0.0,0.14418086018300694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346387221680584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014850117222161,0.0,0.0,0.1492811967896468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616089657647268,0.07342868487760389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277791576399465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15944388996777673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11144508541538613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952409910299593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824785008734053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5116738639677567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.362414843854424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09630577351973668,0.0,0.0,0.08764077682481318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10204341272676963,0.16348256527325625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865046811408776,0.2386013030723179,0.1205610962648712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14488323833058928,0.1629932656562293,0.1094197382864894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Backpk,2019/04/18,"my brother told my nephew i got sick ""freeing child sex slaves"" and has dumped it on me to explain that my nephew is about 5 i couldn't go to a BBQ and he was asking where i was and my brother straight up told him it was because i got PTSD and can't ""wake up"" somedays because my unit discovered a child sex slave compound in the middle east and then decided not to explain any further and to ""ask me about it""  


my brother is very liberal and we are completely different people i'm an 8 year veteran and he's a veteran corporate accountant he's of the mindset that children are ""little people"" and to not dumb down topics or situations for them     


i got no idea where to start with this without giving him nightmares for the rest of his life he doesn't even have a real understanding of war or what a soldier is he's been telling his friends that his uncle is a super hero because my brother said that i ""fight bad guys""",6.304838709677418,5.622092387096778,6.762924731182796,79.70438709677421,65.98924731182795,9.805591397849463,35.804301075268825,9.120678840339163,3.0263178494623655,728,32,147,11,10,238,109,186,0.106,0.7979999999999999,0.096,-0.2344,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,1,2,5,9,4,0,10,0,15,5,1,0,0,23,30,12,1,1,5,6,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,4,9,11,0,0,5,0,2,1,7,5,0,0,10,1,22,5,20,19,1,16,0,0,0,2,33,12,1,2,3,95,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11216001517597032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30837995970798604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771206676026918,0.301624661042053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292898822166766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17231975694160476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089366126791319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742673507510438,0.0,0.0,0.15821864873450608,0.0937351574081742,0.0,0.3957356766047403,0.0,0.0,0.1633094833468701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18618914745850484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649697181341136,0.0,0.16530607663624186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22868738602285135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927977122697868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877297274939098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688893950942476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18539146916742072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167403423956835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441586080989269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31520087253898943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170094626064572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360869003655131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589894120748695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621136811731692
parenting,healthygoats,2019/04/18,"Baby sleeps right through the night First time parents here.

We had a lot of sleep related difficulty with our son in the first 8 weeks of his life. His sleep patterns were... well, there was no pattern beyond the fact that he never slept for longer than 90 minutes 24 hours a day. usually he slept for only 30 minutes. We got very little sleep ourselves in these first 8 weeks.

Recently (he is 11 weeks old now) he has been sleeping longer at night time, for example: feeding at 10pm, then 3am, then 7am. This has been great, so much more manageable for my wife and I.

Here's the thing: in the last 5 nights, 3 of those nights our son has not woken up or cried to be fed at all. And because we've been so exhausted, we have slept the whole way through the night too. All 3 nights there has been a gap of between 9 and 11 hours between the beginning of his last feed at night and the beginning of his first feed the next morning.... and, to top it off, he is very calm, not crying for food in the morning... and also he is very smiley and cheerful, much more than usual. 

Has anyone else experienced this? Was your child okay sleeping so long without a feed? Is our son in great form because he is getting a better/longer sleep at night?

Thanking you in advance for any advice you can give us.",3.3123255813953487,4.741308798449612,3.756503875968992,91.10661627906977,73.41860465116278,6.710387596899222,25.3031007751938,7.1686216300943375,0.9155621705426356,1002,32,215,10,20,313,140,258,0.039,0.86,0.101,0.9457,1,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,7,3,0,6,12,8,0,0,16,1,21,18,10,0,4,20,32,14,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,7,11,6,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,4,14,1,16,7,36,17,9,53,0,0,0,0,28,17,0,2,34,134,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246373187642431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05930199195314576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05042816843727434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518511321082019,0.07598090057812447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09040880381480293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558436470210863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291229956936426,0.047824054216261284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194726421455461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523059489799491,0.08966892141915696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03874310015450741,0.07113655125477376,0.0,0.0,0.05930879296319878,0.16351302993767933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605612850207764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089298539942635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05237810379948787,0.0,0.07432312364828697,0.0,0.13125027000971445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630442111748282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902540241366908,0.0,0.05719316332302929,0.0,0.07886503651588593,0.556718042896158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781354632900439,0.0,0.0,0.05639847131008549,0.0,0.0,0.08234072013912233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321944386841571,0.0,0.0,0.06332824807712045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5194622004178334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827226632819337,0.0,0.0,0.04926550731156508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08648114048831704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919973350622312,0.0,0.16334324251898738,0.18355774443249925,0.0,0.0588610506412425,0.17844880227982962,0.0,0.06667454887789806,0.0,0.0,0.0827917795814792,0.0,0.07148309350061904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,trachoe,2019/04/18,"Single mom just made a bad choice Single mom 2 boys 14 & 19. Did everything alone for 5 years, 19 year old moved out. Has a chip on his shoulder. So I met a wonderful man and later we moved in with but.but lately he flies into rages for dumb thing like leaving an empty can of pop in his room. He says he trying to teach responsibility.  I’ve been working on it gradually. He wrote long text to my 14 year son was comparing his two over achieving sons I say I have time to teach him responsibility. He says if he leaves a dish out take away his xbox. He does his assigned chores and homework and isn’t a slob",2.2628581818181814,4.080065584000002,3.6626181818181855,89.0433090909091,77.16,6.465454545454546,21.763636363636365,7.348242739294969,0.5297199999999997,478,13,106,6,11,157,91,125,0.109,0.84,0.051,-0.7369,0,1,0,0,2,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,2,4,2,0,6,0,7,2,1,1,0,13,12,5,0,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,2,2,8,1,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,0,1,6,3,11,1,16,6,2,20,0,0,0,0,25,10,1,2,9,51,13,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16785212647605394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755990992532799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15226691069106918,0.0,0.13531884599245922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182557854369535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14565501482933774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828181900292835,0.34321026912180835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917755710390048,0.0,0.0,0.14342384585104026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335134064749625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796208990303255,0.0,0.3445023066288252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17006163984253714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38664560850276797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185391783198415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766985128341804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09450234092090253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100325867434266,0.0,0.15831552428880086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575432027087182,0.11798641894395134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3130967409690085
parenting,jnjajal,2019/04/18,"Advice required from experienced parents My girl is 1.5 year old. We have raised her to be well mannered.

But, yesterday a small incident got me worried. There was a new kid of her age in our home with whom she was trying to play. She shared all her toys with him as she always does with any other kid. She tried to grab his hand to lead him to a new toy but suddenly **he slapped her on her face**.

It was with force. She got hurt. She didn't cry though. But I saw helplessness in her face. She din't know how to react. She stopped right there and looked at me helplessly.

That kid was scolded by his mother. But then she said to me that he does that with all the kids, all the time!

After few minutes, my girl was again trying to play with him and before I could save her, **he attacked her face again**! I wanted my girl to slap that kid hard. She again din't react and step aside. After that point, I was with her till the kid got out of our home. I actually saved her 2 times after that.

The thing is: Now I feel guilty that we have raised her to be well mannered **all the time**. I want her to react according to situation. I know, she is too small to understand situational behavior but still, I wish I could teach her something.

My question to all experienced parents: Am I raising her right? I might not be around to save her all the time. That kind of people are there outside. At what age we should let her know that she doesn't need to be sweet girl all the time?",0.17002574002574278,2.566915513513514,1.3504633204633194,97.93301801801806,93.18918918918921,4.575804375804376,16.507078507078507,6.307378622147532,-0.4369759330759329,1136,28,255,13,42,356,140,296,0.078,0.797,0.125,0.9213,2,0,1,0,0,0,48.0,5,0,0,2,14,14,1,0,10,0,24,4,4,5,7,52,39,13,0,7,6,3,4,0,0,2,0,1,2,10,14,15,0,2,6,4,0,2,3,4,2,0,12,10,57,10,40,18,8,38,0,3,2,0,58,12,0,2,24,176,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.1107507729216596,0.0,0.0,0.1109020198016942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443354234888568,0.0,0.0,0.07717772173438513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10103098598627856,0.0,0.12911231288333028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965724193805764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812265398091392,0.0,0.12466445354754956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19863334902165544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738442241806725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723071843513153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10166557818137054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276813053648905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12149438400634835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818333541074726,0.18711493534667675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11605216150859808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530379477146396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12039593810781493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415208390113055,0.0,0.21922048788373727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190896360476697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2520364860845835,0.0,0.0,0.07868031853840576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072856089748998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.127135811207582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938412621153006,0.10795586018479167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551371127559809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08737085982208613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906340004401493,0.09488349627328886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539832859733336,0.0,0.1115042589814282,0.0,0.33088735932287777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23115866789461664,0.0,0.0,0.11814805687431637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338797777004757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040839451254204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13050896443345225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11525554475881712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07308443566743406
parenting,Throwaway887621,2019/04/18,"How do I fix my relationship with my kids? Background: My daughters, 5 and 15, hate me. I do not mean dislike, they genuinely hate me. The older one was born while I was still married to my ex-wife, but the younger one was conceived after the divorce. My ex-wife and I have a very good co-parenting relationship, to the point that it is common for one of us to stay the night at each other's on special occasions like birthdays. My ex-wife and I go on a date once or twice a month, but this is not known to the kids. 

Ever since the divorce, my older one has been openly hostile towards me. An example of the things she has said include ""Kill yourself and get out of my life"". The younger one is not as hostile, but she clearly does not like me either. They are fine with their mother though.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I try to be involved in every activity they do, give them privacy and a reasonable amount of freedom when they come over at the weekends, try to talk to them about their day etc. But they never appreciate this and lock themselves in their room for the entire time they are at my place.

How do I fix this situation?",3.5899666067300267,4.828906825327515,4.5037040842537905,86.76584639095816,72.44978165938866,7.309632674030311,27.444387361931682,7.724431198458867,1.4631775494477268,889,32,186,11,17,288,131,229,0.102,0.7859999999999999,0.113,0.4126,1,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,1,0,11,0,7,11,5,0,16,0,19,1,0,3,3,31,29,17,1,0,10,2,0,2,0,0,1,1,1,2,8,12,0,0,4,1,0,2,6,6,0,6,5,1,35,5,28,23,4,33,0,0,0,0,26,14,0,1,18,138,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237901415103225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162211577567024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243246760770022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15844338914253353,0.0,0.1285086518445411,0.11969842879751814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742246734627044,0.13628458401861338,0.08074052608506586,0.11915990943278013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805255019880058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717720791620488,0.0,0.07807686487263732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003468394529166,0.13881451062056474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475371547099442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133973330441369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095716103001914,0.0,0.0,0.13332120680834225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129779788098846,0.481344813807515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843083657213285,0.0,0.1343001932880281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14606957937057954,0.0,0.3050557582637152,0.0,0.0,0.13513921417722374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752012893666565,0.15969039969794172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514255997422722,0.11345569917422045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418888788747412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943836755084755,0.0,0.13958110203902244,0.0,0.08284100120832484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19290971128422404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089032798242376,0.0,0.0,0.1172209897824238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15532907065643806,0.0,0.0
parenting,syddmum,2019/04/18,"Am I being irresponsible for letting my 15 year old go out clubbing and drinking? Firstly I’m in the uk so our drinking laws are different here. They can drink at any age at home but have to be 18 to buy it out and to go clubbing. 

So recently it was one of my nieces 18th birthday. My daughter and her are really close and my niece asked me if my daughter could go out with her and her friends and they’d look after her. They said she could borrow an ID off one of her friends who she looks like and if she didn’t get in they’d bring her home. I agreed to it because I started going out when I wasnt much older than her and I trust my niece would look out for her. They went out, they messaged me to let me know they’d got in fine and my daughter also messaged me when they got home...even though it was 3am. 

She came home the next day and said she had a great time and I was happy she did. Now she’s wanting to go out all the time though. Even on some school nights if it’s someones birthday. She does well in school, she’s not a straight a student and never has been but she still gets decent grades and is also very focused on acting. Her school work and her acting don’t seem to be slipping so part of me feels like I should continue letting her go out and have fun. But part of me feels irresponsible for letting her go out drinking when she’s only 15, especially on school nights. 

Am I being a bad parent?",3.1459763502716527,3.9367205838926185,4.001332694151486,91.64978747203578,73.0268456375839,6.615787791626719,24.928731224033235,6.42735559955562,0.5687214445509747,1106,32,253,7,21,355,141,298,0.04,0.8140000000000001,0.146,0.9887,2,0,4,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,8,2,15,11,0,0,8,0,33,4,0,0,2,47,60,31,0,8,7,4,2,2,2,2,0,2,3,0,6,27,4,0,4,6,2,12,5,1,1,3,14,7,53,10,36,31,5,54,0,0,3,0,44,21,0,5,23,179,59,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333896710566743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671476267739237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07796760816170666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06963539699836986,0.05083977875065393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538721845686356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317599904664013,0.0,0.0,0.05378600828066495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08713509983246577,0.0,0.0,0.07298377690099478,0.0,0.0,0.326800436894515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101696379994722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433894719050554,0.05958087452004425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07093987577741934,0.0,0.0,0.12886904530462007,0.0,0.08714596618286766,0.0,0.3317864248693597,0.0,0.13340496876361374,0.09194863679326283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878069861313638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.334627426403948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045834380324179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411280172695805,0.0,0.08148991490214835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210104625321312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130849102114105,0.0,0.06432311117286875,0.0,0.08869669409282459,0.15653023230633392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751412057777078,0.0,0.11302780304569647,0.06342934940613339,0.0,0.0,0.09260567151441672,0.18062783579450492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053428083983188164,0.0,0.08234729737474282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866472480455093,0.0,0.0,0.33762043124538943,0.0,0.07592409755255435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066442821132046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05903084805633309,0.0,0.0666032335491394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16387987215830666,0.0,0.0972622546259234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881361638212034,0.04919139648690631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498648738226066,0.07731250300609084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06071608919895673,0.0,0.0,0.059244865569084135,0.0,0.0,0.05370677354994997
parenting,shyshy7171,2019/04/18,"Is my 3 year old son normal?? Trying to make this as summed up as possible: my 3 year old son does not act like any other children i have met his age, he is 10x more hyper and does not listen AT ALL. Also has crazy mood swings, could be super sweet one second then trying to fight the next.. Ex. Tonight we tried to take him to a tumbling class to get some energy out, his first time in a class like that. Kids his age were following directions but he was trying to run across the whole gym and not listening and wouldn't pay attention.. the other kids were just so calm and laughing at him. We left early my heart couldn't take anymore. Friends and family just keep telling me he is ""being a boy"" but i just cant get over how no other boy his age we have been around has acted the way he does :( i love him so much, i just dont know what to do anymore.",2.827277441659465,3.7739562134831455,3.803932584269664,92.17775713050995,73.94382022471909,7.049956784788245,20.995678478824548,7.321109707123232,0.34856732929991363,658,13,151,7,13,212,111,178,0.087,0.7959999999999999,0.117,0.8269,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,3,0,0,2,9,10,1,0,7,0,19,2,1,2,1,30,31,14,0,4,9,3,0,2,1,1,0,2,0,5,6,10,0,1,2,1,1,4,8,1,0,3,5,3,18,8,17,21,5,27,0,0,0,1,29,9,0,1,15,95,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166900733788142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0992288198338099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894216569120669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989740148805234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650315184034447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3830798388469654,0.0,0.17101407868367732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755791638023326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241172460262519,0.0,0.0,0.11273540322672095,0.0,0.1524716135513353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291279388066078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969806885421692,0.0,0.0,0.08019237413110497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853965666553538,0.0,0.0,0.142575719307754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169612941042913,0.0,0.09740098197278194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726606129738046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518478545092812,0.0,0.14296804791256587,0.0,0.0,0.30623148167337794,0.0,0.0988773907812148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644999176704908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21942341518019934,0.0,0.12753821875022292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508559575400518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962732818758324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11582242168032834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291154000625332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18793201293135486
parenting,Jacobnachtweh,2019/04/18,"Tantrums and latching on to dad My wife and I are having a hard time with our son. He’s 17 months and he’s a handful. He’s always been a frustrated baby probably from about 6 months on. He’s never been one to cuddle. He doesn’t ever want to sit still. Hates being in a car seat or stroller. And for the most part we have managed our way through it. But it’s only getting worse. 

First is his tantrums. Generally his tantrums come out of frustration. He wants something he can’t have. Or wants to do something we won’t let him do. Problem is a few months ago he started to do this thing where when he would get frustrated and throw his tantrum he would smack his forehead into the ground as hard as he could. We tried everything. First we tried ignoring it. It only got worse. Then we tried just giving him what ever he wanted.  And still only got worse. Our concern at that point was his head. What ever it took to get him to stop him ramming his head into the lamented floors. This was going on for over a month. Finally we tried just flat out telling him “no” in a very firm voice. And it worked. Took about 2-3 days of staying on top of it. He stopped. That was about about 2-3 months ago. But now it’s started up again. And telling him no isn’t working. His just as pissed about everything as he’s always been. Any advice?

Second he’s now choosing me(dad) over my wife. He cry’s when I leave the room. He wants me to hold him. Stops crying when I come back or pick him up. Like I said before he’s never been a cuddly baby nor want attention. Now he’s chooses to get it from me instead of my wife. And doesn’t cry nearly as much when she leaves nor does he want her to hold him. Just cry’s and pushes away from her. Any advice?",0.3467293042153372,2.6696963519553094,1.6245226003047222,97.90731716607417,88.27374301675975,4.371863890299645,18.471559167089893,5.852544927426893,-0.3829798882681561,1346,37,301,10,44,426,164,358,0.17600000000000002,0.7959999999999999,0.029,-0.9941,0,0,2,0,0,0,43.0,9,0,0,5,26,12,9,0,12,0,26,6,5,1,5,60,49,27,0,11,9,5,3,1,0,3,0,2,1,0,16,23,0,6,3,0,0,8,11,11,0,4,12,5,37,1,48,31,4,68,0,0,0,1,57,23,1,4,35,189,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132253860032208,0.13726963660329164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288517863137791,0.0,0.0,0.10530672747998046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274569694150723,0.05953697795280227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588511050373366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13339389258473966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0618195685585979,0.0,0.34020194794953484,0.04993434027456268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06775733814043106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21011285414349565,0.0,0.0,0.13917371172366225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481805553825777,0.0,0.13171960550113052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181071873649913,0.07427552545528285,0.04400383978634869,0.0,0.1238517100915699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871968613541413,0.07644363892588313,0.1589259317406735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639691126025622,0.0,0.0791748776124065,0.0,0.037827171691525316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090095096863867,0.0,0.056918130759856786,0.0,0.11943374210125875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246688644673934,0.17666133728194397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384645100037097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319402628731621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347995434696479,0.07408767284193693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365129530172249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921496408822825,0.0,0.0,0.10960718401557132,0.08252742648209206,0.12366742332222685,0.1941986027804824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13535011771485048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143939898466776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514860531217296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17204963107944493,0.21027279459730688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388580684436575,0.3196812714857629,0.061458355628885124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11273630280874684,0.0,0.2367157507828049,0.11000456703944847,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Loamawayfromloam,2019/04/18,"My child got chickenpox... So I remember getting chicken pox as a child. It is one of my earliest memories; being horrendously sick for a week. Being unable to leave my bed let alone the house. I can’t recall exactly how itchy it was, but I know it was bad enough that I couldn’t stop myself from scratching as I still bare the scars to this day. 

Three decades later with a child of my own I do the only logical thing I can to protect my child from what I went through. I get him vaccinated, on schedule, as soon I am able at 12 months.  What I didn’t know is that the chicken pox vaccine isn’t 100% effective. 30% of those vaccinated and exposed to the virus still acquire a mild form of the virus. 

So several months after being vaccinated he gets chicken pox much to my surprise. 

And let me tell you our experiences couldn’t have been different. Where I was covered in spots all over he had 2-3 dozen total. Where I was stuck in bed for a week he never lost a stride, he was his usual bright cheery self the entire time.  Where I itched my self to bleeding he poked a couple of his scabs out of curiosity a few times and then went back to playing. All thanks to vaccine that wasn’t readily available when I was a kid. 

I know vaccines are amazing feats of science and medicine, but to experience such a tangible example of the benefits in my personal life was really eye opening. 

It’s so easy to take for granted that that our kids aren’t dying from small pox because it has been eradicated. However seeing the direct benefit provided by a vaccine even if it was not 100% effective was special enough that I felt the need to share. 

Remember to get you and your kids vaccinated, not only to protect yourselves, but to protect those around you who can’t be vaccinated.",6.236965317919072,6.229271858381509,6.878965317919075,76.55700289017344,65.96531791907515,10.38820809248555,34.35202312138728,10.125756701596842,3.345768092485549,1397,59,271,30,20,461,187,346,0.054000000000000006,0.768,0.17800000000000002,0.9943,3,1,0,0,0,0,33.0,2,4,0,4,15,11,0,0,21,0,34,6,2,3,5,34,51,18,1,4,6,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,2,10,19,9,0,4,9,1,0,2,11,2,0,3,20,5,36,9,43,23,9,34,0,1,3,0,27,13,0,1,19,192,55,0,0.12138356112257265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571676195632092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805710420848852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333646594318136,0.10135020334261287,0.07399429221883874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13430860162989544,0.0,0.07828235511259403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259769724524247,0.12681998619905932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2508433330215891,0.0,0.08017269732582946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374728289142408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654725416198475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536716030592563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970815224290578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14006033226657008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001276922157969,0.0,0.0,0.12852766482617867,0.0,0.2482458304714173,0.08573679895924904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250449582312074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19377440084262848,0.0,0.08923088399663838,0.09000437252686938,0.09361848539690748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08225264244790839,0.184635335972932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105987443590018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07776141745884038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750078248815881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09672698263205357,0.0,0.2532590540437193,0.1371288736114823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387413742004905,0.10148209229454604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126533159360413,0.0,0.1060945826181552,0.11175367468590676,0.0,0.0,0.08064184438915042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14155946126262609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368684363616856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947331419779796,0.0,0.0,0.2250475545009704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Katarpar,2019/04/18,"Scared my son will die My son is 7 months old, but wont sleep unswadddled as his startle reflex is still apparent. He has started to roll over in his sleep as well. He has bad acid reflux so i have him on a small wedge so that hes not completely flat if he chokes. Any advice? What should i do?",0.865714285714283,2.6608205714285766,2.178015873015873,98.14892857142858,81.38095238095238,5.469841269841268,18.436507936507933,6.42735559955562,-0.3305111111111114,228,5,55,2,6,73,51,63,0.235,0.727,0.038,-0.9301,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,1,0,10,2,2,0,0,4,11,6,1,2,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,8,1,6,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,4,33,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711857334125004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872061220408332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317145330812653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29097057872026544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2880181231815223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22151087680883405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912066917371121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2778422467303841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5554334725310378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964274777536566,0.0,0.22162488947830053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24952049762265985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,confessionaccount77,2019/04/18,"If you're not sure if someone is a parent or a grandparent, just freaking assume they're a PARENT! My poor wife. We had the worst experience today at the pediatrician's office. Our 2.5 year old daughter has been running a fever for a few days with no other symptoms so we took her in to get her checked out. 

First of all I want to say that although I'm in my early 40's and have some grey hair coming in here and there, my wife is in her mid 30's and truly, I'm not just saying this because I'm blinded by love or anything, she doesn't look a day over 30 or maybe 32 at the very oldest. So imagine her dismay when they called us back with our child and the nurse stops in her tracks, stares at us, and goes, ""I'm sorry, are you the parents, or the grandparents?"" Lol. I said, ""Parents."" And she carries on, squinting at us, like, ""So ...you're Dad and Mom; not grandma and grandpa."" At this point I started laughing and repeated that yes, we were the parents. And the nurse says, ""Oh, okay, we have to ask because grandparents aren't *allowed* to take grandchildren in without parental consent!"" Or some kind of excuse, which is likely true but they do not *have to ask* as we've been going to the same office since my oldest child was an infant and she's now heading off to college and have never once been asked such a thing. 

This is less than a week after my wife was at the park with my oldest daughter and our two youngest and was asked the same question by some senior citizen who, according to my wife, appeared to be at least twice her age. When she replied that she was, in fact, the two youngests' mother (my oldest is mine from my first marriage), the woman actually persisted, saying something to the effect of, ""Are you *sure* you're not the granny? I know it happens all the time!"" With a wink and a nudge! 

I'm appalled that people would think asking something like that was appropriate in any way. Obviously teen pregnancy occurs fairly often, but between the possibility that the 30-something lady is the mother of the two year old or the grandmother, why would people feel it's okay to not only ask, but to persist and act like she's lying? I know this has done a number on my wife's self image, probably only temporarily, but it still upsets me. She asked me tonight if she really looked like she could be someone's granny and I told her, honestly, only if you had a baby at 15 who then turned around and had a baby at 15... so no, not likely. What would even be a reasonable response to this kind of rudeness, that would give the asker something to think about without being just as rude as they are?",4.806549247606021,5.5297542810077545,5.330373917008664,83.87739398084817,69.17441860465118,7.776014591883265,28.1609667122663,7.724431198458867,1.5923508435932512,2043,67,407,22,34,656,248,516,0.07400000000000001,0.856,0.07,-0.8035,10,0,4,0,0,0,82.0,10,3,3,5,19,22,2,1,37,4,40,6,2,3,8,88,73,43,0,10,26,18,2,6,0,4,3,5,0,6,21,29,0,1,10,0,2,6,14,6,0,6,16,12,51,16,59,48,11,62,0,0,5,1,77,25,0,17,36,286,72,2,0.0,0.0,0.06535765650202167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04554509999034117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511448035583588,0.05962169205647482,0.4382861955981929,0.0,0.0,0.051499418486793534,0.0,0.08165432410804603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683886679268262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05769278298984059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534738567751306,0.0,0.0,0.08638629554561099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853838224972414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04423616481591838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551411858116662,0.0,0.0,0.033864426134704306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11393730954896054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03499152210272536,0.06424824538088696,0.03806327156846097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05922551555439681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873537546367263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13948770986009448,0.07361509900815258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963227639795204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248377808466442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604472913452427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06728509899037334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07843997180520962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165502581263442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405573852068741,0.07132588116142298,0.0,0.15281185663020694,0.0,0.0,0.4462049423838712,0.0,0.0,0.09286366310310556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331274982569793,0.07550392326799207,0.0,0.0,0.07221006594558611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750270039549852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04290571471044252,0.06886115730303144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370828700517353,0.2130439127177242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06986922998405952,0.0,0.0,0.05540217285386547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134949102036109,0.20624161778365027,0.0,0.07497270541663859,0.047405045006245664,0.0,0.05348609054278548,0.055993857140184906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262457445919256,0.06961236865801677,0.05035664740012969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04449502185214392,0.0858293806936438,0.0,0.0,0.03905349245152988,0.0,0.06348419467101055,0.06399720628740928,0.0744113679945501,0.0,0.07284925305509425,0.19627368187464045,0.0,0.2416869920651219,0.0,0.0,0.055261150551723516,0.03950341967231299,0.053161408000104333,0.05372307313455117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043425922808265,0.0,0.0,0.12912246238545216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19030765175599396,0.0,0.0,0.0862590357789203
parenting,hrhog,2019/04/19,"If your son’s birthday was at the end of June, would you send them to elementary at 5 or 6 years old? My wife and I are in disagreement about this. Our son will be 5 in June and she wants him to start kindergarten this fall and I want to wait a year. 

I agree with her that he would be mentally ready, and to add more ammunition to her side of the argument he is also tall for his age. But I don’t want him to be the baby of the class, and while he may be slightly taller now it doesn’t mean that will stay that way. 

My whole argument is that it is not hurting him to wait, he will go to preschool full time and be even more prepared for kindergarten. 

I honestly can’t believe my wife, who is a helicopter mom, is basically arguing for our son to grow up faster and therefor leave sooner.",5.263575757575758,4.465517175757576,5.791515151515153,86.19393939393944,68.15151515151516,9.757575757575758,29.84848484848485,9.150863307647796,2.002757575757576,614,19,144,10,9,199,100,165,0.071,0.8390000000000001,0.091,0.3294,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,2,2,1,0,4,3,1,0,6,0,21,0,0,1,0,23,29,12,0,6,4,6,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,9,0,2,1,0,0,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,20,1,22,17,4,27,0,1,0,0,25,9,0,3,12,97,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17427385611221985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455258797381491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19301610482586126,0.0,0.0,0.14393683925120296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385131088834668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332922992021285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23075019861478474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373832752307269,0.0,0.0,0.21961627692620225,0.0,0.0,0.2552301190570775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286747262593952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15424782801931886,0.2322781376278817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707331859770815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3856119121701358,0.17297803888562016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24330451991321256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096141131703544,0.0,0.0,0.2806720026146202
parenting,CheleRakima,2019/04/19,Lying to your kids... I had a discussion with another parent today in the Easter aisle and now it has me thinking. Do you all tell your kids the truth? Is it bad to lie to kids about the Easter Bunny and Santa? Just curious as to what others think.,1.6563999999999979,3.8190958399999992,3.649999999999999,86.705,80.6,6.4,18.0,7.554174236665415,0.5104000000000006,192,4,38,3,5,65,39,50,0.13,0.7879999999999999,0.08199999999999999,-0.5661,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,2,8,6,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,8,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,2,30,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166323766382143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317517460937564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44118500859285376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34728162227438386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091826530186814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3766198754563943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,aariahgs,2019/04/19,"A cesarean the easy way? After a twelve hour labour, resulting in an emergency c section and my baby being taken to the NICU, I was lying in my hospital bed hooked up to drips catheters etc, and my husbands lovely aunt says ‘oh you had a cesarean? At least you did it the easy way!!! Was I unreasonable for being pissed off?",5.285,5.840042539682544,6.473134920634923,76.70589285714287,68.04761904761905,10.109523809523813,30.035714285714285,10.125756701596842,2.9626857142857146,252,9,48,6,4,85,47,63,0.161,0.706,0.133,-0.4617,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,7,0,6,2,1,1,0,3,8,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,1,7,1,9,1,3,10,0,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,2,35,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4485959108320037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39611829619898425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630308170555787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198716765524669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6385473675528633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Princess-and-the-Pea,2019/04/19,"How old is too old to believe in the Easter Bunny? I have a 9 year old stepdaughter that still believes in the Easter Bunny, Santa Clause, and the Tooth Fairy. While I don't think there is anything really wrong with this, I find it a little odd that she hasn't questioned their existence in the slightest by this point. Neither her Dad or I have any plans to tell her about the truth at the moment, but I'm curious if it's still common to believe in this stuff at her age? I remember being told Santa wasn't real when I was 6 or 7, and by the time I was in the 3rd grade it seemed like most of the other kids didn't either—  and the few who did got made fun of.

So,even though I think it's probably harmless either way,  is it normal to still believe in the Easter Bunny at 9?",7.723654688869412,4.788636159509203,8.042348816827346,78.87730061349696,64.70552147239263,10.786678352322523,31.874671340929012,8.418075326091056,2.2165922874671344,606,14,131,6,7,201,96,163,0.024,0.87,0.106,0.9151,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,1,1,9,5,0,0,13,0,13,1,1,2,1,21,20,11,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,13,4,0,0,6,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,8,0,13,4,19,11,4,25,0,0,0,0,11,11,0,6,14,91,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08974811455152798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086048926772033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5947664282985742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871688148244545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062355061486847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10555315629586888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447674178796843,0.13227448907470912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12487875548866002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930832758824568,0.0,0.0,0.4154594120317559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475985177623948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229230524539913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784317405907432,0.0,0.0,0.15021742874603514,0.08454711921951208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14950292906420656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120145871774656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.316188291295791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108079166488073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535272398949538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691296120112469,0.12966561830484674,0.0,0.07695618880890466,0.0,0.0,0.12610859570136493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475629949052044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14429489159466252,0.0,0.08498813073011872
parenting,cupateatoo,2019/04/19,"Should I allow my My 9 yr old son to visit his classmate who has an unpredictable mother? My 9 yr old son has become friends with another boy from his class and they are asking to play together frequently. I'm concerned for two reasons. The little boy swears a lot, like more than most adults I know, when he doesn't think I can hear him, and swears at teachers in school. He talks in, for lack of a better term, ""baby talk"" almost all of the time, purposely not pronouncing words with s's, etc. Even though he can talk normally when he wants to. My son sometimes starts talking like him after they've been hanging out. I'm guessing it's a self confidence issue, but really I have no idea. On the other hand, he is not a mean or angry kid, he has been very lonely starting a new school, and my son really has a good time hanging out with him.

The 2nd reason is that the mother is struggling with some serious mental hurdles right now. 8 months ago she tried to kill herself. It was so severe she was in intensive care for 2 months, and in hospital for a total of 6 months. She has recovered, but she's struggling with anxiety that keeps her from leaving her house. She is on medication and she has home visits with therapists weekly. I went over and had tea with her to see what their home environment is like, and it appeared relatively normal. Reasonably clean, she was easy to talk to and seemed happy enough, and her son seemed to be comfortable in his own home. I don't know her husband beyond an introduction.

Should I let my son visit them at their house, or should I insist on keeping visits at our house? How concerned should I be about my son witnessing the mother harming herself while he is there? How concerned should I be about the swearing?",5.851561624649861,6.323492338235294,6.029579831932776,80.67049019607845,66.79411764705883,9.182072829131654,29.42577030812325,9.107695989026183,2.2993417366946782,1385,45,266,23,21,441,184,340,0.108,0.757,0.136,0.8833,0,2,0,0,0,0,39.0,1,0,4,1,12,16,1,2,16,0,33,3,1,6,2,57,53,20,1,9,6,11,1,3,1,5,1,1,4,5,8,18,1,2,10,1,0,8,5,6,0,1,7,3,42,10,43,37,11,44,0,1,1,0,61,17,0,10,22,179,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023791593416295,0.0,0.09063976464249884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491503415137637,0.06924530636380086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462123612994515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996898585430462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08005498750167872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228817960718974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352832406437578,0.10095045369838744,0.05978566722329377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993325927060316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592141890550297,0.0,0.0,0.09971475121028893,0.0,0.0,0.09635709800847196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201930994341106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.272387987135841,0.0,0.0,0.3133336171306052,0.0,0.1021827477170612,0.0,0.09447629796263472,0.0,0.16091145135370638,0.1001437203284816,0.0,0.09949162252708417,0.0,0.0,0.09584450136504696,0.0,0.09255983087245352,0.0,0.1326661961370258,0.09072187802343744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695437106966133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985996189102866,0.0,0.09118641931245502,0.09121991088198032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21674957120542407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874219446606005,0.0,0.0,0.17737500866474334,0.0,0.0,0.1899648645564897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597509830838808,0.2791998528078853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07730107825766723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18321620290990234,0.07213038089077965,0.16480667134542654,0.09442903900818284,0.1022585178982111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952369101805997,0.0,0.12813688787183472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18925617774590625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637709374287904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509728814878716,0.0,0.05799967982627941,0.08893255600512534,0.0,0.1055624561184558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061455144901781014,0.0,0.08842201908836722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468605768628474,0.053389309686746385,0.0,0.07260732900333075,0.0,0.0,0.08391022537342258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AbjectPassage,2019/04/19,"I still haven't bonded with my three year old daughter There's a lot of backstory but I'll try to summarize. 



I physically had an extremely difficult pregnancy and was in and out of the ER and doctor's office frequently. Becoming pregnant brought out the worst in certain people in my side of the family and my husband's. A lot of extremely bizarre, harassing, almost had to get lawyers involved things happened because of them. I think between my health issues and what people were doing I sobbed several hours a day, everyday while I was pregnant.



The family member issues continued for the first several month's of my daughter's life. For about the first year I was extremely physically ill and doctors couldn't find anything wrong. (Mostly painful hot and cold flashes that were so bad I couldn't sleep.) During the first year and a half of my daughter's life she was very ill, always going to doctors and specialists, and going to the ER. For the most part, they knew what was wrong, but not what was causing the issues and just told us to monitor her conditions. Those have all resolved.



Now to the present. I browse Pinterest, Google, mommy blogs, etc. I try to find fun craft, play, and baking ideas for us to do. I take her to the park. I basically have a park built in our backyard. The house is fun. She's fairly well mannered and sweet. I give her tons of hugs, kisses, we ""wrestle"", cuddle and watch movies, etc.


But I don't like being around her. I don't know why. When I'm around her I don't feel love, or hate, or any strong feeling. If anything I feel an intense awkwardness and just uncomfortable. If someone handed me a random child and walked away I would probably feel exactly the same way I do with her.


I haven't admitted this to anyone outside of reddit but I went to university and got internships so I'd have ""legitimate"" excuses to not be around her. And recently, about a month before graduating I sent out countless job applications so I wouldn't be at home with her. I was thrilled when I got a salaried job in finance so I would always have reasonable excuses not to be home -- since I'm salaried, I have to stay until the work is done! I do realize how horrible all of this is, but I want to give the entire, honest picture.


I feel like it *must* have something to do with all the history I described. But all of that stuff has been resolved for quite some time. People always say ""postpartum depression!"" but I'm pretty happy when I'm not around her.

I guess I just wanted to get all this off my chest. I was hoping maybe someone could relate and share how things changed for them or what they did.

Thanks.",3.314563766838724,5.613648609467461,4.187435477779179,84.25400478408666,75.7258382642998,7.628503084476899,26.763565403499946,8.529434386809921,2.0560811532166685,2083,81,395,42,47,669,243,507,0.121,0.737,0.142,0.8339,2,0,1,0,0,0,69.0,4,0,4,8,22,31,2,1,27,0,46,17,3,4,8,95,80,42,0,12,19,4,7,2,0,4,9,1,4,1,14,31,1,0,16,2,1,6,12,11,3,5,22,11,60,20,57,47,16,48,0,2,1,4,35,16,1,14,26,277,74,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07687123206542765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162930615002902,0.0,0.0,0.052204308265666265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05367739040269345,0.0,0.1263456803479733,0.2733562286258599,0.0,0.0,0.07212528352202636,0.0,0.06409738063761733,0.04679655449065938,0.08478330831133371,0.06532320776007912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886103039326196,0.08120948721889246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129233888684001,0.0,0.0,0.049508474057016215,0.0,0.06611945129544138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357233551313127,0.0,0.0785594682140002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17123137474962907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473851212023872,0.0,0.19407893950731292,0.05484248180451663,0.0,0.0,0.14032760580797254,0.19589434753407006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08021535607224235,0.14728412971332974,0.0872571039686424,0.0,0.12279543781434855,0.0,0.08456769289798521,0.0,0.06788495517301385,0.08172008026913383,0.0,0.07579168751957932,0.0,0.08159991223922375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1540074620562746,0.07624712157986831,0.07560019918130055,0.0885790075740962,0.0,0.08666079114197384,0.0,0.24037494318347874,0.1523591423175226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042189229164543915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10844584532236974,0.0750091235026968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052940594621298,0.06928536839047024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712294078011109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1225496458714454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055423160682243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168568169219348,0.0,0.0,0.08313136453390546,0.0,0.15966207000341204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07809981049582884,0.08276799355598978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165133507686946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07892943662743862,0.07579831941550527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104833503493458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345010307615816,0.0,0.06350259656613512,0.0,0.0768226106370494,0.0,0.1300891485606558,0.059099118205200515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182358934783683,0.061306361369566825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08788004361435423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771935827694601,0.0,0.0,0.07067689642200528,0.0,0.0,0.1020013936756966,0.04918930300880258,0.0,0.0,0.04476355434992788,0.0,0.0,0.07335432101099497,0.0,0.10423973901503836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846829075684686,0.0,0.0,0.06334095520987698,0.090558532029077,0.060934206570253585,0.0,0.0,0.06902290547049178,0.0711639359698681,0.06927043083051929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588741427444089,0.0,0.0,0.10906639045354913,0.16786569923190464,0.0,0.14830662229713634
parenting,l0stinthepuzzle,2019/04/19,"I have nowhere else to get advice from... I'm not even sure if this is the right place to post this... also using a new alt, because my kids are such a sensitive subject for me. I've lurked here for quite a while and found comfort in some of the advice and support given here, and praying I can receive some myself now, especially since I have no one else besides my SO to share this with. Apologies in advance for how long this will probably be.

My SO and I have two children. DS1, who is 3, and DS2 who is 1. I stay at home with them while SO brings home the bacon. 

DS1 finally received his official diagnosis of Autism and Global Developmental Delay not long ago. We were prepared for the first diagnosis, but the second was a bit of a punch in the gut. Being nonverbal though, and moderately to severely delayed in almost all areas, I'm not sure why we didn't mentally prepare for an additional diagnosis. We've been receiving early intervention services for a year and a half, and now our life revolves around doctor's and therapy appointments. 

DS2, on the other hand, seems developmentally more on target. Except speech. We're venturing into familiar and anxious territory now, as well as pursuing early intervention services for him. We don't see any additional red flags at the moment, but we're not experts either. 


As stressful as parenting as a whole is, with the wrench of one special needs child, and potentially a second, we could use a village. But we don't have one. Neither of us are particularly close to our families, friends live several hours away in our previous hometown, and through dedicating all our waking moments to managing the lives of our children, we're fairly isolated. I know on one hand we have isolated ourselves to an extent, but mainly that's due to the fact that we don't have anyone in our lives that can relate, therefore all of our venting and discussions about parenting are left with hugs and apologies. We need help; we need advice; we need guidance. Not pity. 

Our current dilemma is how to prepare for the future, and the future of our children. Anytime we mention future plans, we're met with ""Oh, you don't need to worry about that now, you have enough on your plate"". Yes. We. Do. One day we'll be too old to put plans into place, so we need to start laying groundwork now. Neither of us can bear the thought of our child ending up in a group home, or something of the like - but we have no one who would be capable of caring for him when he is older and we are no longer around. When you think about people to help support you in life, you normally would think of your family, and I've mentioned we're in shortage of that. SO and I have discussed many options, but the only truly viable one we have been able to come up with is to have another child. 

From the outside in, I can see where we sound crazy. There's several reasons not to. In the past, we discussed more than once about having three children, but once it was obvious DS1 was going to need extra care, it was essentially off the table. With all the negatives of having another child, we have three (what we believe to be) very good reasons to do this. 1, We would absolutely be overjoyed to have another child to love; 2, We would be giving our children more people to love and be loved in return (We may not have a village, but our children deserve more); 3, This child would potentially be able to help manage things for DS1 as he gets older, if he does not end up bridging his developmental gap. 

Are we crazy for wanting to do this?",6.0580214917825534,6.6055644144542764,6.595684787189218,76.52699115044251,66.3598820058997,9.406995364517488,32.51453855878634,9.362217197678863,2.8809883691529694,2795,111,517,50,42,913,300,678,0.059,0.8009999999999999,0.141,0.9967,3,0,1,0,0,0,92.0,39,7,1,5,30,19,0,1,34,1,65,11,4,7,8,123,101,50,0,17,21,2,2,1,1,8,3,2,3,13,20,59,0,2,8,0,0,8,19,2,1,14,12,7,64,17,99,71,19,82,1,1,3,4,93,35,0,9,38,381,84,5,0.13014055295921648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19075776324238236,0.057680873983352615,0.0,0.06515848251236434,0.0,0.0,0.05203667659149934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044250019360992134,0.20469557541237735,0.0,0.07351089090413143,0.0,0.04549865027382916,0.0,0.0,0.11585268353318458,0.0,0.0,0.06113566673510985,0.0,0.0,0.039666236581498586,0.0,0.0,0.07331191886033883,0.0,0.0,0.07103988886188049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268696715510864,0.0,0.0,0.056052281471143175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05195332095238033,0.0,0.0,0.041964945199684925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660218524057919,0.056943437448160286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871573272640944,0.0,0.11526590215926268,0.06723498998475956,0.0,0.04297830392238786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12268493111734208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07128130727342412,0.0,0.055348743932388624,0.0,0.07134619953848856,0.050273134194345495,0.0,0.06799306756795122,0.06242133846707853,0.03698093766847129,0.0545778606727384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084570410516302,0.0,0.19581237844528795,0.0,0.06408111492337414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035760922218448545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069904578815375,0.0,0.09192212126848634,0.031790050261314595,0.0,0.17237473882266952,0.11517029408453412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761853951081743,0.0,0.0,0.0659710471665801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655755339990817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377414985500504,0.0,0.06284527850256319,0.0,0.0,0.06375505522215974,0.0,0.0,0.06828030916666802,0.13859544157339104,0.30865312362201897,0.04948887744169937,0.0,0.0,0.14450568296511915,0.0,0.06211694175504124,0.09022307319813813,0.0,0.13596917883764906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231933778170015,0.0,0.07015676366564869,0.0,0.0,0.06541360039296654,0.0,0.06921024869471502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338061633205623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05556966057563514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370517135430356,0.05923753583836479,0.0,0.22053267271239432,0.0,0.05382680512161536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0500942778800808,0.0,0.0,0.046057076607141735,0.06935625685148497,0.0,0.0,0.07453778185787592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768195726279248,0.1226559310138805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07441353208525894,0.0,0.04322980032632896,0.08338881149105262,0.06393121626137606,0.05165853110439396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06356420503960483,0.0,0.15654306142628774,0.11239965314162699,0.0,0.05368979280631829,0.03838013498040304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05850599318121641,0.0,0.05871580348878365,0.0726486398959419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06608202435142774,0.0,0.2311202872683769,0.0,0.0,0.04190312464005136
parenting,abuwissam123,2019/04/19,"2 year son is so annoying;( Please advise me what to do in the following behavior because his mom and I are very exhausted. 

Since the last 400 days , our son keeps asking for food ( apple , peanut butter , oranges,, water , cereal ) non-stop even during night, day, and in between. 

We make sure he’s fully fed but he’s so stubborn to have the food with him. 

He won’t sleep if the food isn’t in his hand. 

If we provide him apple, he will annoyingly ask for cereal, until he gets tired and sleep shortly then wake up asking for food. 

What should we do? 

He doesn’t look hungry and eat them (I wish) he’s just stubborn. 

What is the best advice based on your experience? 

Thank you",2.491290726817041,4.474348699248125,3.8152067669172967,87.45007832080202,77.04511278195488,6.8393483709273175,20.8577694235589,7.793537801064563,0.8036220551378443,519,13,106,8,12,170,90,133,0.103,0.78,0.116,0.2332,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,2,1,1,4,8,4,0,5,0,11,13,4,1,1,19,22,11,0,4,4,3,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,3,8,7,3,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,1,3,14,3,13,18,1,14,0,0,1,0,25,6,0,2,7,59,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13177426258825425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782007972144242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822035599442941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14151718851701212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17393472058755052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13798563763227575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906742578235853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190957938390055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6522466172315818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045377488906404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11986124280799025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992108459352563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324038372184933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001369760639051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793517354417513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654797729939465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802525832325364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11154965488932647,0.0,0.2698956001062152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11274098321712445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709491807858572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12415214228779672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499071209902915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126571315337458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550713195316588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683924453292696
parenting,thatsjustme933,2019/04/19,"I could really use some advice. I know I'm not technically a parent but I was hoping some of you guys could give some advice!

A little back story.. so back in December my mother went to rehab and my younger siblings were going to be separated in foster homes so I stepped in and took them all in to live with me. My sister's are 17 and 14 and my brother is 5. In the past few months my whole life has completely changed along with my siblings. I gained full custody of the three of them and have been doing everything in my power to make sure they are ok mentally and financially. So I won't lie, most of my time when not working (I have to work two full time jobs now)  is spent with my baby brother. He had so many issues when he fist go here like health issues and he was very developmentally delayed not to mention he just didn't understand all the changes. My sister's adjusted great they loved having their own rooms, food, clothes, someone home caring for them just basic things my mother never gave them but fast forward to now my sister (the 14 yr old) has been having the worst attitude towards me she says she hates me.all the time I feel like I can't get ANYTHING right with her. She told me the other day she wished I'd just die and I only care about our brother. Well today she told our sister (the 17yr old) that she doesn't want to live with me anymore and wishes I never ""stole"" them from my mom. I feel like such a failure! I thought they wanted to be with me, they told all the workers they wanted to stay with me so I don't understand. What am I doing so wrong?? I truly feel like I messed up and I'm at such a loss on what to do or what to say to her because is like everything I say is the wrong thing!",3.5985593220339,4.5162496694915255,4.565733333333334,87.54904067796612,72.07909604519773,7.245920903954802,24.32949152542373,7.404127859558343,0.9072130169491528,1349,36,289,14,25,439,184,354,0.102,0.75,0.14800000000000002,0.954,3,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,2,1,11,6,20,19,1,0,14,1,31,5,0,2,6,56,63,21,1,8,9,11,3,5,0,1,3,3,3,1,7,18,1,1,8,0,1,6,10,6,1,2,15,6,59,13,38,43,13,41,0,1,0,1,48,16,0,6,25,201,66,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358510241484856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808422880894537,0.0,0.0,0.0730901763743244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13659210995269105,0.0,0.054143021146632206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18111305451932855,0.0,0.1879166973575921,0.0,0.09312465864499793,0.0,0.0,0.14182892038084174,0.0,0.0,0.05728067775463165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09217973007036592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964894077553554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347281256951232,0.1903561715853515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1073998571762588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04640407576342972,0.08520293680193733,0.10095536470128537,0.0,0.0,0.09792286883698524,0.0,0.08794442184946932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769002301078818,0.0,0.09441006548491668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17818468401378545,0.08821695445318838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854071775661936,0.08813879947109048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881240406859337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273523510930107,0.2169615158743942,0.0890196150281127,0.15685698020188302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08016229414210824,0.0,0.05928713472131865,0.09004816462652862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08950830303044198,0.0,0.0,0.10402332267354376,0.07089419445671315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700482787427595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640045246106493,0.0,0.0,0.06755058126938111,0.0,0.0,0.09862259345569337,0.0,0.08478744597051101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056899497834431274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585063688802611,0.0,0.2118964524678563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525574904102007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09466885706804644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371052107501822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11801432124391817,0.0,0.0,0.0705120823913437,0.15537259715885648,0.0,0.0841896894523616,0.2546100624451669,0.09868078181745092,0.0,0.0,0.08676290957316142,0.1849266820326229,0.0,0.07671079136052639,0.0,0.07328468334267595,0.1571626127614892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985862786621953,0.08233577305062525,0.0,0.09916284440240301,0.2042741150949764,0.0,0.0,0.12932206166997282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19421848899412747,0.0,0.0
parenting,aikisean,2019/04/19,"Fantasy Books or stories for a 5 year old. My 5 year old seems to really enjoy listening to stories. When I say listen, I mean audio books. So I tried one of my favorites. The Hobbit. He was a little uncomfortable with Gollum. Then I tried Tolkien's good friend, Lewis. He wasn't thrilled with the White Queen. So. Clearly I'm trying to hard to introduce him to my favorites, too soon.

He does seems to enjoy the fantasy setting. Magic, elves,  dwarves, etc. Looking for recommendations of fantasy stories possibly suitable for a 5 year old.",2.4336538461538453,5.342216350000001,3.812000000000001,81.43330769230772,85.5,6.676923076923077,27.69230769230769,7.882392219407189,2.3595538461538466,425,20,73,9,13,139,62,100,0.058,0.735,0.207,0.9482,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,9,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,7,8,5,13,7,1,11,0,0,2,0,8,1,0,3,9,38,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15746004543012398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20067217578780533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13901531675819315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509187503622687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118407747707228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033952288032046,0.0,0.0,0.15109788893245593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19599911970372555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5664263204950132,0.0,0.12192684291048175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202846732323034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11526929529352188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308945702965878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32760737680330776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3664868414848613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476116759983096
parenting,ikdutak,2019/04/19,"How do you deal with an ""I can't"" kid? My son is almost 4 and everything we ask him to do he ""can't do"". Literally everything. We've tried praise and encouragement and it seems to just push him farther over the edge. Driving us up a wall! Our 1 year old can nearly dress himself and the 4 year old absolutely can't!",1.4827272727272742,3.247074242424248,3.718181818181818,87.99727272727274,79.30303030303031,7.4303030303030315,23.12121212121212,8.344100000000001,1.2276848484848486,244,8,56,5,6,84,49,66,0.0,0.889,0.111,0.7896,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,1,0,10,10,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,6,10,0,11,1,0,0,0,14,5,0,2,4,34,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588056989821486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24162086311370776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26645611686153176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4645660061260605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5424108253977048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23528804351327395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547421702921334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.310889962987919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328735429020069
parenting,eliz___,2019/04/19,"Help me with a good response... When someone says my son looks just like me (his mom).

I hear it all the time and never know how to respond! Usually I just say ""thank you"" lol but there has to be something better...",-0.21155038759690115,2.0859943953488376,1.2003488372093043,99.22129844961245,93.4186046511628,3.7968992248062015,18.794573643410853,5.46131890053228,-0.456268217054264,161,5,36,1,6,51,39,43,0.0,0.787,0.213,0.7574,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,1,0,1,5,4,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,2,9,6,4,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,7,4,3,5,1,4,0,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,5,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485801488293751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357449323250661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167819525132208,0.0,0.18839270037997252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544665929436313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13731471250589852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360247584567047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291812510909859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21677552440184392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4470301308871808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381464174034955,0.21637843629535167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587679274148004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16389191898986846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095546302847478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,WAHOObyVLSantos,2019/04/19,"Survival Tips for Two under 2 Seeking for advices, any survival tips to keep me sane (please), on how to manage raising two kids, 21 months and 6 months, under 2yo; on top of house chores.",15.540833333333332,7.060060305555559,12.872222222222225,66.89500000000002,57.05555555555557,14.4,49.88888888888889,3.1291,4.4022555555555565,145,5,28,0,1,44,28,36,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.2023,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,2,14,1,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2931823473488899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20402825540586592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34619020884166823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26667726938761216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4789564554809369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3293389152762038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5861644377911318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,SevenHunnet3Hi5s,2019/04/19,"How do I teach my child to stop swearing? She’s not actually my child but I’ve been babysitting her for the past year and a half and I’ve come to realize that she’s recently gotten access to the internet and listens to a lot of explicit language. She’s 10 but she’s on the er...special side.

Her parents aren’t always around to teach her morals and all that. Which is why I’m here. I’ve tried telling her “that’s a bad word you can’t say it” but she laughs it off like I’m joking. Her parents definitely wouldn’t want her to be singing cardi b and dropping f bombs and n words.",0.6598759305210926,2.7199816129032293,2.4993548387096785,94.13249379652606,83.67741935483872,5.750868486352358,22.44168734491315,7.010146845296331,0.5607178660049632,456,16,105,6,13,151,78,124,0.067,0.807,0.127,0.7935,3,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,3,4,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,2,22,13,10,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,6,8,0,1,1,2,0,1,4,1,0,1,2,2,15,3,11,9,2,10,1,0,0,0,19,4,0,1,5,60,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.2455897155610991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20940627494577224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22403609886116654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101306003153216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167879774570083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295129687013745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139574359937497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5588906270867788,0.0,0.24024367635816654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.248489816638858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20013490663007127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21040404727182133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199671791520027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086469617049774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843912894450215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22708942346351485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620646546657041
parenting,herefortheparty01,2019/04/19,"10 year old asking sexual questions This is my first time posting here, so I’ll get right into it. My son asked me what a clitoris is.  My immediate answer was another question... how did you hear it. Come to find out him and his friends listen to unedited music at the friends parents house. I told
The parents what was going on. They knew. I’m a fairly open parent,  but these people make me look like a closed minded saint. I answer every question he asks. But here I feel he’s too young. I told my son he’s to young for the answer to that. So what the shifty butt head do? Googles it. I learned my lesson. Always answer questions because if I don’t, he’ll look it up. 
So as fellow parents, how would you approach this with a very smart 10 year old?",1.1059171826625374,3.4424155592105308,2.491795665634676,93.1228637770898,84.19736842105263,4.36594427244582,20.78328173374613,5.5289334501034215,-0.04378529411764687,583,18,120,3,17,188,96,152,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.8933,4,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,2,1,2,8,4,0,0,8,0,8,2,2,3,0,28,25,10,0,2,3,6,1,1,3,2,0,2,0,0,11,7,0,0,13,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,5,18,4,12,17,0,20,1,0,2,1,29,8,1,5,9,70,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443724735089844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190098008489522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183085761742065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06918572968391759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977662195419413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562475192193627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738667383631625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373272037110758,0.09653911149808256,0.0,0.0,0.17537249673721866,0.0,0.059296651239794725,0.0,0.06450203945443211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647900239207636,0.0,0.1279175408581657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095842932014026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05544810936370337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061506783385446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575904686689798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459797901282075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23818861681185186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5040927489490062,0.0,0.0,0.07868340547903406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108697200173926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5085631969966751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09692443363800698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618006826899248,0.0,0.0,0.2168993969685098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936455739694765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062386098346208,0.0,0.0,0.1461746061188128
parenting,LurkNoMore201,2019/04/19,"Stepdaughter is constantly filling any silence with sound... Should I worry? My stepdaughter is 6 years old and she is *never* quiet. She's always trying to talk over adults, no matter how much we ask her to please not interrupt. When she has something to say, she'll say it multiple times (""The kitty is a good girl! The kitty is a good girl! The kitty is a good girl! The kitty is a good girl!) When she's playing by herself, she's always humming or making noises. Not really a tune, just one or two short notes on constant repeat. When it's bedtime, she whispers to herself until she falls asleep.

I know some kids are quirky, but I'm having a hard time dealing with the constant noise... And I feel like I can't really do anything about it without being mean. I don't want to tell her to shut up, but I'm having a really hard time explaining to a 6 year old that sometimes it's inappropriate to not be quiet.

Can someone please help me with this problem?",3.1418055555555564,4.996084460317462,4.438039021164023,84.28340773809526,74.76719576719577,6.841402116402117,24.510912698412696,7.6454224807358475,1.2967166666666672,749,24,143,10,16,247,109,189,0.067,0.799,0.134,0.8866,0,0,1,0,0,0,31.0,1,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,13,0,19,1,1,2,1,27,28,11,0,3,9,0,3,1,0,2,0,6,0,6,6,6,0,0,4,1,0,2,8,1,0,2,0,9,20,6,18,24,2,23,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,3,17,95,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075199025935268,0.0,0.0,0.08479991800762363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10261704148632513,0.0,0.11657717439411562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40426749118733857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855968149210445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06305180052754651,0.08908532867997472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4183680076903771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22341246930425615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358342843686105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853156938219812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060921863866892315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08323786677083578,0.0,0.0,0.13583428338540002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916684610202256,0.0,0.09617592132901297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617022411507853,0.0,0.08449959039216401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737651503865071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11932055496770165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396570272285461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833205256237932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10565745910745464,0.09599974685269204,0.12333096770402928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022871314955938,0.10899283606285752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21813979715732806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08466275691871313,0.0,0.12181326592435215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355098023592667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020584240182705,0.0,0.0,0.12663836824710528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060474481383
parenting,The_Nugmeister,2019/04/19,"Grandparents overstepping boundaries? I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. This is my fiancé and I’s first pregnancy, which is exciting, but it was quite the surprise. My fiancé is 22 and I’m 23 so I would consider us young parents, nonetheless, we were prepared once we found out.

 Initially all of our family was very supportive and excited, but recently my MIL and her husband (fiancés step father, I’ll just call him FIL to make things easier here) have been acting really strange about my child and making me really uncomfortable. My FIL has started calling my child HIS daughter. Not granddaughter, but daughter. At first I thought it was just him being silly but he keeps doing this. Then my MIL starts telling my fiancé that him and I aren’t ready or prepared for this child, planting seeds of doubt in his mind about his potential of being a good father. They’ve also invited us to move in with them to save money, which I am very grateful for, but at the same time I’m afraid they’re just going to try and take over the parenting role for my daughter. It has given me so much anxiety. I feel like they’re just going to try to take her away from me.

Am I overreacting? Is this normal? Any advice is welcome.",4.393151147098518,6.346444320512822,5.097773279352229,80.44985829959515,71.60683760683763,8.686999550157445,28.127755285650025,9.276330184999452,2.580781196581196,977,37,177,22,19,315,140,234,0.048,0.7759999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.986,5,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,5,0,1,3,10,11,0,2,5,0,20,0,0,2,1,36,37,17,0,2,11,8,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,4,11,12,0,1,3,0,1,5,2,2,0,2,8,1,33,9,24,26,3,22,0,0,0,0,32,7,0,2,11,121,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13690420661372596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203800782444044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527287944073584,0.0,0.1071762011327736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13162866571574156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28611575409371376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320739156765359,0.0,0.07083882545313562,0.1000875470009597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383381650004498,0.0,0.15361253995692487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924424291662664,0.11750932576067688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12452741550629433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0684458373058043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703582343202085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146117364679833,0.0,0.0,0.14890424568194516,0.10298970141118052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726836231110956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920204540856472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111291861664919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901371287913234,0.0,0.0,0.1795034366284624,0.0,0.13833195740730214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983271587380641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898394523950402,0.0,0.0,0.2106756949840769,0.0,0.12245367182061392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09307628819634213,0.0,0.0,0.11122383847662297,0.08169350114201873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023755735970707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370463659434662,0.0,0.0,0.23119452741951346,0.0,0.0,0.11237985800930037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09952309889671697,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Throwaway97119,2019/04/19,"I caught my son [10] masturbating in our hotel bed next to me. My son is quite clearly going through puberty. I’ve tried to be open and helpful. I bought him a book for those times when he feels too uncomfortable to ask me questions about his changing body (his father is active in his life, but I don’t know what they talk about, if anything). I’ve had to confront him about searching for pornography in the several months ago and how it’s normal to be curious, but inappropriate for a kid his age to be looking at that kind of stuff - because it’s also very unrealistic. 

Well, he’s continued to be open with me. We have a great relationship because I’ve been a single mom his whole life. He’s asked me about his new pubic hair and if that’s normal. And now, this week, he noticed that he’s getting hair in his armpits too. I don’t make a big deal about anything, but I may have just hit my breaking point. 

We’re on vacation and the room we got (just for this one night) only has a large king sized bed. So he’s watching tv, under the blanket up to his neck, and I’m on my phone, and he was shaking the bed earlier and I asked him what he was doing, and he said nothing and stopped. And it started happening again about 15 minutes ago, and I try not to let my mind go to those places (because I feel like I’m the gross, terrible person for even thinking it), but I was getting annoyed so I threw the blanket down. And he was masturbating. I am sure I gave him a look of disgust and said, “stop it.” Followed by telling him to go take a shower and “that is something you do in the privacy of your own bedroom. Not in a room with your family or anyone else, and especially not when you’re sitting in the same bed as your mother.”

So now.. I don’t know how to address it. I’d like to forget about it and move on because I feel traumatized and don’t want him to feel further embarrassed. But I also don’t want him to have this lingering memory that is the singular trigger in future sexual deviant behavior or something ridiculous like that. (I know how crazy that sounds.) 

Help, please and thanks!

TL;DR - My son was in bed next to me in a hotel. I caught him masturbating next to me. Told him tthat’s something you do in the privacy of your own bedroom, to go take a shower, and now I don’t know how else to address it, if at all.",3.9592855263157922,4.6360318989473726,5.129167763157895,84.72733059210529,71.06315789473682,8.211184210526316,29.159539473684212,8.376592526197632,1.9062223684210524,1812,68,386,27,32,601,211,475,0.085,0.82,0.095,0.341,3,0,3,0,1,0,60.0,3,6,1,2,28,16,4,2,21,0,31,8,5,6,3,70,72,42,0,7,15,6,6,3,0,1,2,3,13,2,23,26,0,2,10,4,1,10,9,8,1,1,16,12,57,8,59,49,6,61,0,0,3,1,60,27,0,7,25,252,80,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616937198486503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458716421160521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377197069683377,0.09344929547682396,0.15010627313242444,0.0,0.25579033843430377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22238849387442405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130710465529544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648175890026572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402733885308392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237850969177585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060239394396159725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08597903218085677,0.0,0.1844619695597108,0.06515616941027333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530067126024888,0.0,0.20733338322272912,0.0,0.07294418565482802,0.10055275294641776,0.0,0.0,0.08065141281220116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12226426289984073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949749509552378,0.20049337464574613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932622887078048,0.12884019171216093,0.13367303039854386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15317681131285324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06087939090569312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09209005986547464,0.10681704477910156,0.07279817784350613,0.09693543850633836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808540989632581,0.2909895267397785,0.08558879351921737,0.1787211483827788,0.08751271603428948,0.10383638014878156,0.0,0.0,0.061802203665530714,0.06936476627410164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963583150398602,0.09528878808845326,0.10011462482947464,0.08621727771669688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216937432108077,0.09700670075082846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791898427462956,0.0,0.0,0.17351181519367934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303458129906144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21063992899708736,0.0,0.0,0.06455467408583593,0.0,0.0,0.15250128749027697,0.0,0.0,0.10440678140586092,0.0,0.0,0.08595870856974934,0.0,0.1371481436434641,0.07330633574026832,0.07971633260207116,0.08396840706587537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058439852730203336,0.0,0.0,0.05318179693300597,0.0,0.0,0.08714934863458966,0.0,0.12384308424910055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525286734787028,0.10758898686357887,0.0,0.0731583627150561,0.0,0.08200336626002701,0.0,0.0,0.10182603015091438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MikeKawula,2019/04/19,"Heartbroken Watching this Father & Son Playing Basketball (Should I help) I was walking my dog Buster at the park earlier.

I saw a father and son playing basketball together.

That always makes me smile.

There's a path that goes around the entire complex... so as I walked around several times, I kept hearing **screaming**.

You **MISSED THAT LAYUP?** 

DO IT AGAIN!

Next time around I saw them standing at the Free-Throw Line and same thing.

He'd shoot, he'd miss and MORE YELLING!

**You shoot like a (Yikes What....)**

The following though is what got me going....

He took a shot from the 3-Point line and missed. It was a tough shot In My Opinion.

But This Time he went right up to him and SCREAMED.

Drop and give me 20 *burpees* and when your done...run around the track 5 times. 

OMG...Really?

Now...here's the thing. 

We live in Tampa Florida and it's 85 Degrees and honestly he's a bit overweight....

***PLUS it looked like he couldn't breathe***

Here's my question?

Should I step in and tell the Kid that his dad is trying his best and that those are tough shots for an older guy?

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LOL...Just a bit of ***satire as I really did watch a father getting frustrated at his son missing but you'll never make a shot if you don't take it. It did make me smile watching this kid not stop. That's what we want from our kids!***

Enjoy the weekend \~",-0.6549670966043664,0.7647848931297752,0.35874703869439273,100.5362595419847,116.09923664122135,3.638957620426429,16.730981837325615,5.727593064623523,-0.4076180047380893,1030,32,221,12,58,315,153,262,0.075,0.8220000000000001,0.103,0.875,0,0,0,2,1,0,88.0,3,5,1,1,10,16,1,0,19,0,15,2,1,3,1,36,36,20,0,5,4,7,0,2,0,3,1,4,0,4,21,18,1,2,2,3,0,7,4,9,0,0,10,10,30,7,19,20,5,32,0,4,6,0,35,12,0,3,13,126,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10748345741155044,0.2799208394323165,0.15696104749802262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.459970447338885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13556057430274066,0.0,0.28205000058841223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219027025192198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674882979646632,0.12391586496988595,0.07341279426430299,0.0,0.1033125763158426,0.0,0.0,0.12790297508272905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14558894864789929,0.0,0.08658288442146718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621618415454386,0.0,0.1140633709813548,0.0,0.10847397134201292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586747660232521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962726866185456,0.0,0.1373784509280921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211157070146665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470490261741525,0.0,0.0,0.14702875892970144,0.08275243501166951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031424069742604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593031573484458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799559115415723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712308067835496,0.0,0.11290412829532308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17163547695273335,0.0,0.126913202378437,0.0,0.30129055002432065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435175229140222,0.08770094544079457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761904140563394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974597259774812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696104749802262,0.0
parenting,lurkeylady,2019/04/19,"Kids bedtime is my favourite time of day.. Not because the kids are gone to sleep (well that too), but because when I'm in the babies room feeding him before bed, I can hear their father in the toddler's room reading his bedtime story.

He puts so much effort and passion into the story every night for our son, no matter how hard or stressful the day was, putting on voices and making sound effects. Every time it makes me smile so hard and feel so much love for him. 

It's those little moments in life we have to treasure. ❤❤",4.596,5.354124599999999,4.869523809523808,86.86714285714287,69.66666666666666,6.0,28.333333333333336,3.1291,0.8709047619047623,413,14,80,0,7,130,78,105,0.08800000000000001,0.7659999999999999,0.147,0.8388,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,1,2,7,5,0,1,5,0,5,5,1,4,0,14,12,10,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,0,1,3,3,2,4,5,1,0,2,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,2,6,9,4,10,10,2,18,0,0,0,2,13,8,0,1,7,49,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299240364011049,0.0,0.16047522902421427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432484253412427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3177884954338598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535619371480464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378771505814836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255335063300965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13320588854691234,0.0,0.1890155810728089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020880850377731,0.0,0.2517690559761013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772690217708773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17697786907762658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791677843442024,0.0,0.0,0.18863989410688048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18872505590199465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160279011337003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199353608789722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956403310712806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,dss8503,2019/04/19,"9 year old's emotions We recently just moved back closer to family after living away from everyone we knew for 3 years due to work. 2 months ago we moved back to my wife's hometown closer to all of my son's grandparents, cousins aunts and uncles. We were all very excited about the chance to be closer to everyone. Well the last month my 9 year old has definitely had some trouble dealing with the move. Which I know is totally normal and fine to have feelings about being in a new place, a new school, a new house etc. But the thing is it's not that he's just not making friends it's that he isn't being nice to anyone. HE's acting out in a nasty way, as far as being nasty to his sister and his mom. Talking back, bossing his sister around, arguing not listening, and I know a lot of that is his way of acting out in this difficult time of transition. But obviously as a parent you can't let him just go around being nasty to everyone. And when we try and sit him down and talk to him about it calmly he blows up and won't listen and blames everybody else, it's never his fault. Even if we don't direct blame and we just say stuff like ""we understand you may think you know the answer or whatever but you can't talk to people like this"" he then says how everyone hates him and mom and dad hate him and no one loves him and then goes into what we call the ""red zone"" and you cannot console him, or calm him down. 

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I definitely don't want my child to feel like no one loves him, we all love him very much and we tell him that all the time, we play board games together as a family, we go on bike rides, eat dinner at the table 5+ nights a week, ask about their day, and about what happened during their day. We go to school events, we play video games together etc. But even if you try to explain it to him calmly he doesn't understand (or just won't try to understand). We have tried an easy approach to talk it out try and understand and not be too hard on him, and lately we have had to get a bit more strict by taking away electronics and stuff he likes because it is getting worse, and he continues to say we hate him because we took something away or put him in timeout etc. It's like we're damned if we are easy on him and we're damned if we are ""too hard"" on him. I can't let him walk around and just be nasty to my wife and his siter while also trying to let him adjust in his own way but he refuses to find a middle ground even when we talk it out. We tell him it's okay to be sad cause you moved, and it's okay to be sad that you haven't made many friends yet and it's okay to be scared but instead of that calming him down all he does is get nastier and say nasty things and won't hear anything we are saying. And I even told my wife to just give him a big hug and hug it out and let him talk it out and still that didn't work. I know this stuff passes and I know there's a fine line where you need to punish him for his actions because he is 9 and he is very smart (in gifted programs at school) so he knows right from wrong but also toe that line of not wanting him to think we hate him. I just don't know what to do. 

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And if he has been nasty all day to everyone and I get home from work and think the best way for us to redirect his attention from being sad and lonely and thinking we hate him  would be to maybe go out to the park or do something as a family I feel that I am now rewarding him for his nasty behavior. HE's always been very sweet, very smart, very literal and we have always been able to figure him out but right now we are definitiely at a loss.",5.716703968814057,4.364486882044563,6.128859764089126,85.96747521591558,67.46657929226737,9.71292805054273,27.95204489699903,8.617729084823388,1.5941520247336767,2813,64,654,36,39,911,284,763,0.135,0.73,0.135,-0.8094,2,2,2,0,0,0,63.0,29,9,2,6,39,50,9,1,25,3,58,8,1,5,9,161,108,73,0,10,31,12,5,5,2,5,0,8,1,1,35,82,2,1,25,6,0,17,22,19,1,2,11,15,96,31,94,76,17,103,0,5,1,5,138,43,2,13,43,427,131,8,0.048389539833101694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042894407404281625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739419504374442,0.08052794709270975,0.10486009238445898,0.1175971747925813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033835091364146516,0.0,0.0398204682266411,0.12923084888899133,0.045237687636230484,0.0,0.13639069667833256,0.1116257076708541,0.0,0.08849344304036455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050781836657476834,0.0,0.052828844716809466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04941113044449007,0.0,0.0,0.049709386920808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936217500768014,0.04988749079036401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0423460123993018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04951457971112581,0.04042325132042453,0.05443171925823781,0.0,0.0,0.16190138433326473,0.12784333874857753,0.0,0.0,0.23119139499350616,0.0,0.0,0.13685205478766632,0.0,0.07340161584781991,0.034569496925455086,0.0,0.0,0.044227162757025935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477127687922172,0.0,0.10112614943276664,0.04641965591055692,0.11000356249813902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0427907102655024,0.0,0.0866950460323991,0.2388732623390659,0.0,0.0,0.05453852823653856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04853865389451671,0.0,0.0,0.055835032063417576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18615537917535213,0.03944393342982565,0.054585508631736834,0.0,0.0,0.1979263318839012,0.0,0.1182034245619244,0.0,0.042728850210095634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04113905633978319,0.13102034685943734,0.04578735260020629,0.032300393589530206,0.04905939835216569,0.04861379675856562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11334648842923313,0.07724813806328583,0.2057216913604588,0.03557187954914315,0.035880230644612036,0.037320996239793715,0.1402047573153539,0.0,0.0454103051360395,0.047411474964319536,0.0,0.0,0.10155336411617698,0.0,0.06558000904408755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373085746870564,0.0,0.0,0.033547214108997435,0.0,0.05055676993704205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04864485281285081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04777883282760505,0.0,0.0,0.08264880524303027,0.0,0.1924065214459821,0.048446370996411234,0.14691839311600507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450526372508287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038643949018031816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618333803878368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036382911801956366,0.2333620749279361,0.08458918133886943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429572019794566,0.12402425296428042,0.0,0.0,0.0564326596301056,0.0,0.0,0.046238278998701234,0.0537625592366513,0.19711992704315412,0.0,0.0,0.2015008700601536,0.05820665837232849,0.0,0.0,0.23955862874931716,0.057082808646618924,0.15363745748734114,0.03881517004206664,0.0,0.04350800766006969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056844839454078,0.0,0.04931307512397368,0.03437454073371216,0.05290636549027198,0.1175971747925813,0.09348383141740407
parenting,lbiers,2019/04/19,"I don’t like how my daughter is treating a boy Daughter (15) has a bf of 5 months that she has known for many years... that couldn’t be more sweet and respectful to her. I mean this boy is a rare gem and in her life a long time. 

The boy that broke her heart prior to him recently started talking to her again and she is talking to him a lot. She says they are just friends and she missed having him as a friend. I’m concerned with how quick she was to forgive him and how flippant she seems to be about her boyfriend’s feelings. 

I’ve told her my concerns and thoughts about the whole situation... and how boyfriend doesn’t deserve to be treated this way... and she blew up at me and said I don’t know the situation, she can handle everything, they are just friends.. blah blah. They all are in the same circle so that adds to the drama. She even broke things off with her boyfriend because she was too stressed out but 3 hours later apologized and took it back. Now today she’s back to talking to the ex more than ever. 

I’m so concerned about boyfriend getting hurt, he doesn’t deserve the way he’s being treated by my daughter... she seems to seriously not see her actions and he likes her so much he doesn’t either. I guess I just need to know how I can let go of this situation and know I’m not in control of it. That she’s going to have to learn some life lessons here and I’m just having a hard time that it will be at a very sweet kid’s expense. 

Anyone been in this situation where they don’t like how their kid is acting? I just don’t know what to do or if I just need to let go......",2.8015662650602406,3.9321274457831343,3.5217301204819305,93.466643373494,74.24096385542168,6.396337349397593,25.629397590361446,6.55674776486733,0.6547533493975903,1240,41,286,9,25,392,152,332,0.055,0.863,0.081,0.8838,0,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,0,0,5,2,28,19,0,1,15,0,34,3,1,7,2,58,60,26,0,4,12,4,2,5,4,1,2,2,0,5,15,17,0,1,13,1,1,6,10,6,0,0,7,7,43,13,37,44,9,35,0,4,1,0,56,10,0,7,20,196,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07549122381130358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660359297823569,0.0,0.06581410053933925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109126307397752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130947271861024,0.09765998739079436,0.0,0.0,0.09703144760563183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05459004824747156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502390995548295,0.0,0.05640694669509491,0.0,0.18407598195643013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893496654500264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671490247988863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12793834235960902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632319331768993,0.0,0.11557813087990955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23733765873440424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22080184234748315,0.1525169073835271,0.15823786759427647,0.0,0.0,0.09554510292968196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178747815716852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094589632163879,0.0,0.11760489029064455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617615978601169,0.0,0.07936626183544622,0.16010847985259608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106601827186246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026988748470802,0.08585762997894246,0.0,0.0,0.08603365433897789,0.19657348290950774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4854260688937224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641776310546973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12367286367322547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603331026633892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172675479628489,0.0,0.0,0.08571167957499036,0.125909828129435,0.0,0.10233763407822187,0.1031646177920259,0.11995242892422693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890819428869001,0.0,0.1713942422107166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053840500683907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952553848426157
parenting,still-I-rise89,2019/04/19,"The best answer to the question “what do you hunt?” I had to take my three year old to the eye doctor with me today and it was not as bad as I expected. He was actually really good and didn’t break anything or bite or kick anyone, so I’m feeling really good about this appointment.
Anyway, while the doctor was examining my eyes my boy was showing off his boots.
Eye doctor: Did you pick those cowboy boots out all by yourself?
Son: Yes, but they’re not cowboy boots they’re hunting boots!
Eye doctor: Oh, you hunt?
Son: Yep!
Eye doctor: What do you hunt?
Son, after carefully considering the question: I hunt Easter eggs!!
The eye doctor got a kick out of that and so did I!",1.8058646616541336,4.162055413533839,3.46387218045113,87.14889097744361,81.33082706766919,6.2060150375939855,19.274436090225567,7.447530270364453,0.5880616541353376,522,13,104,8,14,173,79,133,0.0,0.863,0.13699999999999998,0.9396,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,4,0,1,4,5,0,0,7,2,10,13,6,1,1,19,15,11,0,1,5,3,1,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,6,6,1,0,5,1,0,0,3,1,0,1,9,7,13,4,13,6,2,9,0,0,6,0,12,3,0,4,5,64,19,6,0.0,0.0,0.13037908017080274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341963141790532,0.0,0.10994542395600408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115544855868948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021006806834807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621906903818526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8205014732554602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06755463653777531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241228518621685,0.10685601939994024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019583607559874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993360621282243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17118140145815475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045423474312104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664179454375796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603715573039339
parenting,Zetrin,2019/04/19,"Watching my sisters place while she has first kid, what should I get them for when they come home? Hi all, my sister is having her first baby and I’m going to watch their place and dog while they are in the hospital. Id like to get stuff that is nice for them to come home to but don’t know what would be useful.

Thanks for the suggestions",3.3822535211267564,4.227137084507047,3.5761690140845097,94.71495774647889,72.52112676056338,6.806760563380282,19.833802816901407,6.742157984588678,-0.0804783098591546,267,4,62,2,5,82,51,71,0.0,0.847,0.153,0.8847,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,5,2,1,3,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,1,10,18,6,0,2,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,0,2,10,3,8,15,1,11,0,0,2,0,12,3,0,0,6,42,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889730676088556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3840908906939297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23591789106441516,0.0,0.12831403459788365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4529446409709565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408090492260135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030303357008964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4717769482760965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25846016986417786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078647427038902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949984761243757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16038520603608716,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway55223399,2019/04/19,"Infant Unsafe to Fly? My fiance and I are getting hitched in a few months. Almost everyone is showing up to the wedding except for my brother. He and his wife have a new 4-month old. The reason they aren't willing to make the trip is because they claim airplanes are a breeding ground for germs and that would be a significant risk to their child. They also claim there are chemicals used in the production of the plane have carcinogenic properties, and they don't want their child breathing that in. I understand their first claim, but don't know how much of a risk there actually is for infants. The latter claim sounds like complete malarkey. Is there solid evidence out there that says infants shouldn't fly?",6.521441899915183,7.974988404580157,5.669872773536898,80.33744698897374,65.7175572519084,8.570313825275656,32.876166242578456,8.841846274778883,2.7680782018659884,575,24,100,9,9,173,81,131,0.042,0.903,0.055,0.3816,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,7,1,6,3,0,2,11,0,16,1,1,4,0,17,22,7,0,3,2,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,0,5,3,5,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,2,0,1,0,2,12,1,15,18,2,11,0,0,0,0,18,6,0,1,5,71,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.2405620885658328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468481463628947,0.0,0.0,0.1971371441478794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15027263674345015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25846522236943964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355546760829989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20968466907792147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12879338228519155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547763885042272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204342808060282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454999870451226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.393530220707894,0.0,0.18121614269201555,0.0,0.0,0.2380847421220076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586749583629273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534574326630757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19603781462860215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25662975139491645,0.0,0.21290893341920594,0.0,0.0,0.14540033487232315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17511646158497501,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BorrowingTrouble,2019/04/19,"Coparenting vows, letting go, and new beginnings 
Anyone have any successful coparenting stories? My spouse and I will soon be finalizing our divorce. Although it’s amicable, I want the end to be a twist in the plot, something unexpected.  Something to aim towards peace. I am going to plan a surprise picnic for Easter.  Not just any picnic for her.  I figure this will be the last major holiday spent together as an official family. 

I plan on packing a fantastic picnic lunch. Finally use the picnic basket from out almost 10 year marriage (how this basket has never been used is out of my brain. Guess I’m not a very good planner and wanted *her* to surprise ME).   

I’m going to take her and kids to head up to the lake where we were married, Sunday.  I’m going to have some vows typed up to encourage us to guide us in our new role of healthy coparenting. 

I plan on including the kids and taking the vase with sand we made on our wedding day and making the kids own jar to keep to remember this memorable Easter parting. I plan on including our kids and favorite color sand color of choice, instead of voiding the sand in vain, anger or hate. 

This may be a highly emotional experience for everyone involved. I plan on bringing kleenex.  Maybe even have the kids throw rose petals in the water as a day in memory.  We will be continue dedicating the rest of our lives to THEM not US anymore.  

Any suggestions on vows, or anything else to include in my new coparenting role ritual of letting go and starting something new?  Releasing of butterflies would be super cool. Spring and Easter is a beautiful time for letting go of the past hurts and moving on.  

Wish us luck this day.",5.001666666666669,6.76794665605096,6.0099522292993655,75.27707271762209,69.70063694267515,9.182377919320595,31.23619957537155,9.621722640351123,3.192501486199575,1326,57,229,31,24,439,168,314,0.047,0.815,0.13699999999999998,0.9803,4,0,3,0,1,0,34.0,12,0,1,8,6,12,2,0,21,1,23,4,2,5,1,41,48,16,0,4,6,1,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,5,6,16,2,1,3,1,1,9,4,4,0,0,4,6,28,8,48,30,5,50,1,1,2,0,30,20,0,7,21,153,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387715684892052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19125979525373515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09297488192057464,0.06555223147438909,0.0,0.07714832280244319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10465608749248856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18138312576200416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783161570035475,0.10545621473172494,0.08303473898647111,0.0,0.0,0.06192103963834592,0.0,0.0,0.08958221319041806,0.0,0.09170556151097237,0.08837922613771916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053972469979956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3196819648399077,0.07863311405204912,0.0,0.0,0.10327627588664608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925587888465742,0.0962146227267668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09905210032021833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036139310385146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08332937324528608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641882289084656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875974069988489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278303284189584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887085867138726,0.06257890231496252,0.0,0.09418455010714832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099641491922005,0.0,0.0,0.07230583650671556,0.36217762229681744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152219416454616,0.08949505358733179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620055825327653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165201613261656,0.0,0.0,0.06635678484118987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14097677647658907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466642201398129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.451079183077573,0.1619399264821507,0.0,0.07735362927625519,0.1105924451434036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780795828717374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0665973626833431,0.0,0.0,0.06037197387995506
parenting,noonespecial098,2019/04/19,"Best stores for nice clothes for girls? Looking for store recommendations for nice clothes for a girl. They can’t be too casual or too dressy. I’m thinking Macy’s, but want some other options as well. 

Trying to pick an outfit out for a picky 11 year old girl for a family picture. 

Thanks in advance!",2.7305747126436763,5.266107344827585,3.438620689655174,87.6267816091954,79.0,5.935632183908046,23.459770114942533,7.1686216300943375,0.9376459770114942,238,8,46,3,6,75,46,58,0.0,0.737,0.263,0.9192,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,2,3,6,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,7,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,11,6,2,5,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,3,2,26,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942234177977722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35413111145057713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154529253398228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39418340223468895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3458497329723796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24070252334106615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550429328999015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22156918106321646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33775610750382296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419074611182769
parenting,Noldorian,2019/04/19,"Is it ok as a Dad to like a child that isn’t your own? I live in Germany and am American. I am 32M and my wife is 36M and we have a 3 year old son.

I go everyweek since the last 4-5 years to get pizza and salad every thursday. The owners where we always go are italian/croatian and have a 8 year old girl.

She has been since the last few monthS learning english mostly from watching youtube and speaks like a pro. I have since the last 2 years bought her birthday/chrisrmas presents and the occasional present. She always wants to speak english with me when i pick up pizza.

Ive bought her books to learn english and a doll only available In the usa.

I like her and its nothing more than a child/adult friendship.

Her parents find it fine and my wife says nothing against it. Is this acceptable?

She likes talking to me in english and when she see me arrive always talks to me. She says you dont need to buy me presents but she appreciates it anyways.

Is this ok for me to do?",2.3485527082119972,3.976929935643565,3.414414676761794,91.74668899242869,76.37623762376238,6.139079790331974,26.238788584740828,6.794906146795322,0.9408878276062902,765,29,167,7,17,246,114,202,0.0,0.884,0.116,0.9504,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,2,0,0,4,8,0,0,13,2,16,3,0,1,0,23,24,15,0,2,1,5,0,4,0,0,0,4,0,2,8,14,3,0,4,1,3,2,2,0,0,0,3,6,29,8,18,21,4,23,0,0,2,0,28,5,0,1,20,103,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.348624534074835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636802968950557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176694419485306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12764656715486974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07296650417978942,0.0,0.15874381547867852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34152423873963816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27292298091416395,0.0,0.12332220083294602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114751549523424,0.0,0.0,0.10355600461352472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680147736992565,0.0,0.29309902567510354,0.0,0.0,0.10621760458429193,0.0,0.0,0.1550757290004618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22212622677802532,0.0,0.0,0.11129081375137577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465841981874921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22450658457968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237499438217638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3597454421233637
parenting,ddv_18,2019/04/19,"I’m at my wits end. Starting to resent my child because he is SO difficult about every single little thing! My son just turned 1 and I love him with absolutely every piece of me but I am exhausted with his behaviour and I need help in the form of advice from other parents. Please! 
He is the most demanding, attention seeking, whining baby I have ever met or ever heard of. He has been this way literally since day 1. He constantly needs attention. CONSTANTLY. You know how in the newborn stage they are so needy that it’s a struggle to even shower and feed yourself? That is still going on. Is that typical for a 1 year old? Shouldn’t they have some semblance of independence by now?!

I will be making our breakfast and I will be holding him so he can watch because he cries and has a total meltdown if he can’t see what I’m doing. But even as he watches me cook he is still constantly whining at me. Maybe he thinks he’s helping me by whining! It would be so adorable if he thought that, however he is certainly not helping by whining at me and I need to curb his behaviour for my sanity. I try to include him in the routine, model words for him etc, but still he whines. CONSTANTLY. What do I do to get him to stop?

There are so many other situations I can describe to you to paint a better picture of what he’s like (whines and fights during diaper changes, whines all throughout dinner and especially when he decides he’s done and wants to get down from his high chair, whining while I’m getting him dressed, angry whining the entire time I’m settling him down for his nap right up until I put a boob in his mouth) but I’m honestly so frazzled from the past 5 straight hours of his whining that I want to stab out my ear drums and cry in a closet. Please help.

Further info: He is a typical and even a little advanced in other areas. He’s been walking for a month now, knows lots of words and repeats words regularly, has awesome coordination and likes to help in any way he can: unload dishwasher, brush his own teeth.",4.011113881961761,5.4024469900249406,5.101304239401498,82.29626226101414,71.61845386533666,7.940182876142976,29.576142975893607,8.447377352677275,2.188959035743973,1597,65,310,26,30,526,207,401,0.147,0.721,0.132,-0.6828,3,0,0,0,1,0,39.0,1,2,2,2,21,22,2,1,15,0,32,10,4,3,5,57,57,31,0,9,9,2,0,2,0,4,1,2,2,2,15,16,4,3,8,3,0,4,3,15,0,0,6,6,41,7,49,44,10,54,0,10,3,2,52,22,1,6,27,204,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654424798285724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718601806531391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204526698985755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873787894390592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045151685105611,0.0,0.0,0.42706209478001056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170498957451476,0.06371652729222048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10110464109144364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750569035472275,0.0,0.1101858698972868,0.19576541290453536,0.17873686834709568,0.16648312780697044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154853609057293,0.0,0.0561491719584742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33111103553278004,0.10438549606349913,0.0,0.0,0.09729611437599926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859357807734528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653541046975178,0.1980430732603568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399451422024347,0.08916903924202688,0.0,0.06594842249824816,0.10016565033706573,0.09925585578365956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788596094360266,0.0,0.0,0.2197723631441249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367186616919304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970347094123102,0.0,0.09431385638206602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21690103919519915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09931926361129026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437293979150648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07872920302288987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08172671455341704,0.11105307517206886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992972264529179,0.0,0.23670059652164674,0.08259953975652451,0.0,0.10328510578403333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563699152287852,0.06330575981873766,0.0,0.07843456464263061,0.05760989985571514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06707734688244117,0.1074638376651311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11654722322746255,0.15684248443981855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018325424445895,0.0,0.0,0.06362266344094249
parenting,hallmarkmama,2019/04/19,"What to say to child’s friend who thinks they are best friends when they’re not? I’m mom to three outgoing girls who are happily well-liked by their peers. As a result, they have active social lives and receive more invites than we can accept. While we do mix it up a lot, all three have made a “best friend” who is their favorite to play with (and my favorite to have over). Coincidentally, these friends don’t attend their same grade and/or school. So they also have a handful of good schoolmates who come over less frequently.

Here’s the problem — we frequently encounter situations where a friend decides they are best friends with one of my girls. And when we turn down some invitations (due to being busy with life and closer friends), the child and sometimes her parent gets upset that we aren’t being available enough. It’s like we’re obligated to a friendship we didn’t choose. And when I try to explain that my girls just want to be casual friends, feelings are hurt and we come across as snobs.

One mom in particular has really pushed a friendship that my child does not want with another girl. She is very controlling with my daughter and is always rude to me when she comes over, so we slowly cooled off the friendship. But every now and then my daughter plays with her (in a group) at recess, so the mom has decided that she is “leading on” her daughter. The mom has begged me to get them together more often, but my daughter does not want a close friendship, so I have declined — but it’s caused a lot of tension and I know the other child is devastated by this.

Any advice what to do? How can we continue to be friendly and have lots of people over without giving the impression that we’re in a committed friendship? Friendships are like dating — and sometimes one person is more into it than another. But there doesn’t seem to be protocol for politely declining a best friend.

I’d love to hear your thoughts as I even struggle with needy friends latching onto me and trying to dominate my time and attention. It’s like “no thank you” isn’t an option.",6.804394291403916,7.049292063613232,6.326839252129662,80.1360139395951,64.75063613231552,9.379311870782166,32.60858502046686,9.085049710711278,2.638300453589999,1643,61,311,25,23,508,196,393,0.075,0.6990000000000001,0.226,0.9956,2,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,9,2,8,6,18,34,2,3,20,1,34,3,1,6,2,74,55,33,0,4,9,9,2,3,11,0,1,2,0,9,19,35,0,1,11,3,0,7,10,7,0,5,3,5,40,27,51,47,15,38,0,1,0,1,66,18,0,7,16,225,59,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302340071654582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059760006965537224,0.062179736819547374,0.0,0.0,0.0508176470606893,0.15671778463085825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31368997746234745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767663080405713,0.0,0.19311483460669185,0.0,0.0,0.08381387969176418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307900673695058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772140677114923,0.0,0.049357182472111266,0.0,0.06296161816160704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03778475523362871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6350818982042146,0.0,0.07808465985187032,0.07168596970314871,0.0,0.06267835587524384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422396086588997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999793965853395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041068590479846866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278264261969677,0.1095250743988491,0.0,0.06598625090012103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19059338690956126,0.06744499667381658,0.07070950240583969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35008242849333165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519130134395564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829766732447893,0.0,0.0,0.051807031462628966,0.06524966438094076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150466641829907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047872712267714584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059426757034310926,0.0,0.07562879180637508,0.0,0.06802962422277822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399747658228815,0.0,0.07617585202927102,0.0,0.0,0.14781593510204066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07812199924181415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879956266139252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04788272697229904,0.0,0.05932573678489514,0.04357453592834396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147090236321472,0.08128267653762353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061658480176806085,0.1322296474718655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718950534604896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203518844510813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,blkbrd1891,2019/04/19,"8 year old that worries constantly I have a 8 year old daughter that within the last couple months went from being fairly care free to a constant worrier. To note she had always had a bit of a dramatic side and will still occasionally cry or just meltdown for no reason. 
Did your kids go through a worrying phase at this age or struggle with anxiety?",6.698880597014928,7.093061835820897,7.145485074626865,73.66658582089553,64.97014925373135,10.282089552238807,34.660447761194035,10.125756701596842,3.5411223880597014,281,12,50,6,4,92,56,67,0.231,0.68,0.08800000000000001,-0.818,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,9,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,4,0,3,3,9,3,1,15,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,10,33,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629611681312505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14982313160485727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21381521712367352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996800188335789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4232840755868377,0.0,0.0,0.2167020112140596,0.2151297565381695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130489283836864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15964220371880278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15632395049465772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4110189180652448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20136429209860127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640441115263626,0.0,0.0,0.2047427812398285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815529946978123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977861624232949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522392936310055
parenting,imafraidsoimusingthi,2019/04/19,"Quiet Game Do moms need some space after a fight with their son/daughter or do they need more talking?

Mom and I fought hard recently, so she’s been giving me the cold shoulder even though I’ve apologised a couple of times already. It’s been quite unhealthy for me to be placed in this kind of situation. I understand I made a couple of mistakes and I’ve hurt her in a way. I am truly facing the consequences right now but I just couldn’t read what she wants from me. She’s gonna be all good at one moment, and changes after the other. All moms out there, I need some advice to build a healthier relationship with my mother. I hope I could hear from you. I am a teenager and I would love to learn how to keep an open communication with my mother without disrespecting or any negativity so that she’ll understand that even though I am growing, I still need her in my life. Thanks in advance.",3.6348394863563414,5.2263462078651735,4.615762439807384,84.61539325842698,72.87640449438203,7.557624398073836,25.07383627608347,8.192908349453996,1.4042555377207062,707,22,144,11,14,230,112,178,0.08800000000000001,0.774,0.139,0.8998,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,1,2,2,11,9,2,0,10,0,13,4,2,2,2,34,29,12,0,10,5,5,1,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,6,9,0,1,3,2,0,2,3,4,0,1,4,4,27,5,22,18,5,20,0,1,0,1,22,10,0,5,7,102,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314298537896284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390636061928921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569632073530425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330996032058964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061483632986064,0.278872257220456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646693360948428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12088760907339435,0.0,0.1056976227536022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11288705859386937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203104593452065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12516395682900905,0.0,0.0,0.1349044966004424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11201027409068803,0.0,0.13122798638425145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900999028531409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373584573973612,0.1192409437998567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44277103247416416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737619515307644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539281841755693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166161877500548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403527853687006,0.1260517483501694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12442722272598775,0.13529579121559068,0.0,0.10761838129362686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14164911424480925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10063785502730507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128821054024208,0.0,0.11602011760281185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476233951012737,0.0,0.07348190289778347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623776278600212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07432847272478901,0.10002694190337608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12147651397255263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08951932022721902,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,imitatingnormal,2019/04/19,Bad grades Do any of you have any suggestions for helping a smart kid overcome poor performance in school? Anything that has worked for your kid specifically? Positive/negative reinforcement? I’m at the end of my rope.,5.382631578947367,8.627205421052633,5.1939473684210515,74.74513157894737,73.73684210526315,10.115789473684213,33.1842105263158,10.125756701596842,4.344978947368421,178,9,29,6,4,55,34,38,0.166,0.72,0.114,-0.5007,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,15,4,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5546853587019889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356145371547524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34052628750391617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3612219226602247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27336408497396325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4127521238952476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969096944641725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,tyler_Suite,2019/04/19,"Volume of Voice Hey yall,

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First time posting. Something I have been noticing and running into with my 4 year old daughter is the volume of her voice. Background, we have a 4 year old and 2 year old and I feel my 4 year old's voice is always elevated. They can be playing and her volume just begins to rise, she is never yelling in frustration just very loud. 

  
We have checked her hearing as well and she hears just fine. Anything that we can do to help lower voice?

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I appreciate any help, please no sarcastic or mean comments.",3.8713333333333333,5.966527561904763,4.131428571428572,86.22190476190477,73.38095238095238,6.19047619047619,28.809523809523807,6.937597516519254,1.5136666666666665,434,18,81,4,9,135,69,105,0.059,0.77,0.171,0.8821,1,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,3,1,1,1,4,4,1,0,2,0,11,0,0,0,1,17,16,7,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,10,0,0,2,1,1,2,2,1,1,1,1,9,15,3,8,14,0,17,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,1,12,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10919010746092413,0.28436549469315986,0.3189066309593154,0.08923782291924423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079873847971193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06635154304879005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11162032200589636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958012950238195,0.0,0.17591533956816732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294301235077872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120917612068966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940107305407893,0.5507962460832473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440461652890695,0.0,0.0,0.12567773098672008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10102378175840496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0765186297649307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827475992574846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798746157888328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189066309593154,0.338019614037799
parenting,Anivair,2019/04/19,"Setting appropriate goals Yesterday my daughter was talking about how when she grows up she'll marry her friend and they'll have kids that have two mommies and it'll be great.  I told her it sounded like a fine goal, so her brother (3) said, ""when I grow up, I'm going to be a BOY!""

Way to set achievable goals, my dude.",1.9571282051282068,3.901955507692312,2.976538461538464,93.01762820512822,78.53846153846155,5.564102564102565,24.679487179487186,6.42735559955562,0.6109487179487179,248,9,54,2,6,79,48,65,0.0,0.7859999999999999,0.214,0.9215,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,4,5,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,1,0,3,12,6,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,3,0,2,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,2,10,4,5,4,0,11,0,0,0,0,14,2,0,0,4,32,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30486496763506044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22425879241642266,0.0,0.0,0.43504501975325854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927803547430845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753524834301775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31716243808022154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37705471990828654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38546431653205104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132130442286675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ChicaTeeka,2019/04/19,"My teenage sister is about to ruin her life and I feel like it’s out of my hands. Idk if this is the right place to post this, but I’m at my wits end. Sorry in advance for the lengthiness. 

Some backstory: I am a young woman with a family and 2 children of my own (4&9) My mother got placed into a nursing home facility around 10 years ago, and since then I have been solely responsible for my younger siblings. (I am the second oldest of 6). They’ve caused a lot of chaos in my life for the past 10 years. I’ve had 3 of my siblings live in my home, only to leave and completely ruin their lives and blame everyone but themselves.

Now, I currently have custody of my sister who just turned 18 last week. Since her birthday, she took a train to another state to be with her online boyfriend who is 21. Of course I advised her against this, but now that she is 18 I felt like there was nothing much I could do. You would think that she learned from the mistakes of all of our other siblings. 

Now that she’s been up there of course she thinks that she has found “the one” and she now wants to go live with him. This man works at a department store, smokes pot on a regular basis, and has no education beyond 10th grade. He also stays with his parents. I have expressed to my sister that I don’t think it’s a good idea, but I honestly don’t think I’m getting through to her. She is not nearly as mature as she would like to believe. I still make all her appointments, clean up after her, pay her phone bill, etc. 

My husband is fed up, and honestly so am I. I just got her enrolled in the local college, got her state ID so she could get her license, and she just got a raise at her small part time job. I feel that she is leaving so many opportunities behind chasing after some boy. Plus my husband says that if she makes the decision to leave then she cannot come back. We have dealt with this from mostly all of my siblings. 

Does anyone have any advice on what I can do? I feel like this whole situation is just a mess. I’m just so tired of teenagers and their absence of logic and decision making.",3.524965626652562,4.606667330210776,4.317766865603989,88.63967364206394,72.41920374707259,7.289536904132356,25.71798745939413,7.601502580125103,1.134860149580721,1638,51,353,19,31,526,217,427,0.091,0.8320000000000001,0.077,-0.5175,3,0,1,0,0,0,47.0,2,1,2,3,21,12,0,0,18,0,33,5,1,4,3,65,60,27,0,8,12,7,5,4,0,2,3,1,3,4,19,22,1,0,14,0,3,5,5,4,0,2,12,6,64,8,59,43,12,52,0,2,0,0,51,22,0,6,25,246,83,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09345509301164012,0.08477617924662119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648064804622427,0.0,0.10362234293175954,0.0,0.06503624709460211,0.10028343651171874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687141620299834,0.0,0.0,0.08513695430695062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353873208414786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077498301432046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824525272302552,0.0,0.08238256345684278,0.10027327822806367,0.0,0.0,0.15271627301581453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369233554639371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470574479590423,0.0,0.10666021989883714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09138498153159937,0.0,0.0,0.0901577853541622,0.0,0.14507039305747058,0.1366457794927069,0.09182624617669502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048607238923905,0.0,0.0,0.09993247476333099,0.0,0.05435255022999957,0.0802155407808933,0.3059576767167377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918628498194622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796221257144524,0.0,0.0,0.09490468465225227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795668883176858,0.0,0.3037964234088509,0.0,0.0,0.13510208308625746,0.1868930765501316,0.0,0.2533469198167439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130691680683254,0.0,0.0,0.1915147537211876,0.09696062027935702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030399110948815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09176600931472123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480591454868374,0.07273603284725608,0.0,0.0,0.10619325640542512,0.1035652447998109,0.09129606791320716,0.0,0.0,0.19984002809117007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915935384723355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08167323378271955,0.0,0.07605415594898866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822336119872302,0.10749967694892812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070574748076384,0.0,0.1019360154704514,0.07637560574908292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24512058649348806,0.0,0.0,0.055766538782953935,0.10992033748209494,0.0,0.0,0.10625591153751417,0.0,0.10402528534031258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056409013558761725,0.0,0.07671400567351963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067749791658693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962466901647285,0.0,0.0,0.13587515963540647,0.0,0.0,0.12317382037254725
parenting,FineRush,2019/04/19,"I overheard my 12yo boasting about getting a blowjob My 12yo had a friend spend the night last week. My room is next to his and he doesn't know I can hear between the walls. I am not 100% sure what they were doing, but they were talking about their ""dick hair"" so I assume they were ""showing off."" I'm a guy and know that I kinda did the same things when I was his age and his hormones are kicking into high gear. Anyways, their conversation turned much more troubling when my son started to brag that a girl (I know her) gave him a blowjob and provided details. He could have been lying, half-truthing or telling the truth. I am not sure. Well, I like to believe it didn't happen and it's not shocking that a middle school boy would lie about sexual escapades, but it could have. I don't think his friend believed him because he didn't ask for details. I want to ask him without knowing that I can hear between the walls. Then again he would deny it because I would ground his ass. It's also seeing this sexual awakening in my son who just two years ago was still playing with Legos.",3.898333333333333,5.2002912407407385,3.9333333333333336,90.90750000000004,71.77777777777777,6.325925925925926,27.38888888888889,6.322622252153567,0.9519222222222216,852,30,177,5,16,261,129,216,0.139,0.789,0.07200000000000001,-0.9518,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,0,5,0,12,10,0,0,11,0,26,3,3,0,3,32,43,13,0,6,8,2,1,1,2,3,0,2,1,3,13,7,0,0,6,2,1,0,8,2,1,1,11,4,32,8,15,27,3,22,0,0,1,2,34,9,2,3,14,122,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366791034738847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156673973683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608475387568632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008898272917428,0.0,0.0,0.3143618042830645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22277605015632707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155714025492367,0.0,0.07288863711274671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13813763004257515,0.12336894343683152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314477631401502,0.0,0.0,0.14740082434097015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066859579227186,0.11371992570437355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681579319826166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255649342605043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837132301146416,0.13092143904640424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119238200455084,0.1111720484445678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09874646529036088,0.0,0.1114135084694976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26297456388365203,0.0,0.0,0.11213349986268788,0.12193859208240394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09268477923262597,0.0893928901495762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517476934635505,0.1362817840175169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228708693365183,0.0,0.11190715198927756,0.0,0.12543696757451686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448343682060745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29731341768799263,0.0,0.0,0.08984038388109246
parenting,J0kerr,2019/04/19,Daycare and prices So I live in MA with a super tight budget. I need to find a daycare...but none of them list their prices. How do find the prices? Visiting or talking to a location does me no good if I can't afford them.,-0.9364741641337382,1.185229212765961,1.3392097264437697,97.42000000000002,97.29787234042551,4.387841945288755,17.352583586626142,6.18269132825596,-0.2625841945288756,171,5,39,2,7,57,37,47,0.049,0.8,0.151,0.6808,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,3,1,2,2,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,9,3,5,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,0,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,7,2,5,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,0,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3359260006512742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7016978961336944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32197077102319904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33896300856279554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2846337045678601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085390417836095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,oliver_21,2019/04/19,"SAHD to a 10 month old son here. Any advice on how to teach them what no and boundaries are? He's beginning to get into everything. Most things are out of reach but I want to begin to teach him boundaries and what's off limits. 

Appreciate any tips of what has worked and not worked from all you fine parents out there.

Cheers.",1.3275769230769257,3.896170123076928,1.9202884615384617,95.76658653846157,86.23076923076924,5.096153846153847,17.35576923076923,6.6274283507984215,-0.19311538461538452,258,6,55,3,8,79,49,65,0.023,0.797,0.18,0.8689,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,1,3,3,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,1,13,7,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,13,7,2,9,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,4,36,8,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126976014062621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43521819551159335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875928875984581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671853515634151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554187456393957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33578327618413817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553190681578013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21259194868213888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18874266419403304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4659236066983369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Ferraricorn,2019/04/19,"I have no idea what I'm doing It's as the title says. I'm dating a girl and she has a 5 month old, plus she works at a daycare. I have no kids of my own so I have zero experience taking care of a baby, but I really want to try. Her daughter is beautiful and I really want to be the father figure that she deserves. I can love on the baby and hold her just fine, but when it comes to soothing her or being alone with her, I just get bashful and panic... any tips would be amazing.",1.5502142857142864,2.4404076761904747,4.250654761904766,87.96455357142858,77.0,6.773809523809526,20.74404761904762,7.1686216300943375,0.42883333333333296,366,8,84,4,8,131,70,105,0.061,0.695,0.244,0.9736,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,1,7,0,11,1,0,0,0,18,20,11,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,15,4,10,16,1,7,0,0,0,1,13,2,0,1,4,62,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632654535514819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285875255234576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25916489928821473,0.0,0.0,0.21896323646258248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486477977852407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280442598364425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869509576827986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22941750878410114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028930141480481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26673093564436584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298238639092087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256828209307601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20214306807464744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911201699886649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1725791591838043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29985714588642703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18505424237580825,0.0,0.0,0.1805701562335121,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,throwaway_12312300,2019/04/19,"Unnecessary Daycare? My 18 month old starting daycare about 6 months ago. At the time, I was working full time hours as a contract employee. Spouse works full time. 

Nowadays, Im getting called off ALOT, and am spending a lot of time at home, while our daughter is at daycare. 

It feels weird staying at home so much while daughter is at school. 

Financial wise, we can afford it without me working. We would pull her, but theres a waitlist if we want to return. We waited 4 months the first time around.

She enjoys it. They feed her new, healthy foods. Her laungage skills are advancing nicely. Is there a downside to letting her spend so much time at daycare at this age while I am available at home?",3.2719230769230765,5.7846763787878785,3.209393939393941,90.13793706293707,76.87878787878788,5.273659673659674,29.09324009324009,6.297961479604792,1.313935198135198,550,25,103,4,13,166,88,132,0.029,0.855,0.117,0.9163,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,5,0,1,6,6,4,0,0,7,0,10,2,0,0,0,15,15,9,0,3,3,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,4,6,2,1,1,0,2,2,1,1,0,1,1,1,15,3,16,12,6,35,0,0,0,0,15,12,0,3,20,68,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257660381134569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12630125036754755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487301470658473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07173763803518421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068111590926622,0.1715591018443112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412525276289841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269447626217358,0.0,0.13972097482662754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15325228362854024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14507958091573225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061936370437833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397363268465753,0.0,0.2085928972968293,0.0,0.0,0.1370263857944543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887680043704266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358782683909954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10042178025319022,0.1512227717823421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4963802358888748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368315501145313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1367650588847065,0.0,0.3098660091187657,0.0,0.0,0.10078586141318492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,GoldPersonality,2019/04/19,"Age-verification for online pornography to begin in July At SocialChains, we  applaud the UK government for taking the first steps to verify the age of the pornography site users.  I think they should ask social media platforms to verify the age of every user  to make social platforms  as safe digital neighborhoods for our children and everyone",11.218218390804601,11.358437258620693,10.667241379310347,53.01856321839082,55.72413793103448,13.940229885057473,40.022988505747115,13.023866798666859,6.070291954022987,283,12,35,9,3,92,42,58,0.0,0.902,0.098,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,6,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,12,5,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,0,4,24,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31517188019177866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840473218002278,0.32214302035149345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2867633695132589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250374921991701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6873249889869922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534804787477803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2160198666124295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,pompom123456,2019/04/19,"How to talk to your kids about 420 Day (Full credit to CNN, just thought Iwould share it here) 4/20 Day -- the celebration of marijuana that occurs every year on April 20 -- gets more popular every year. And while you probably haven't heard too much about it, your kids likely have. That's because 4/20 awareness spreads mostly on the sites and apps that attract tweens and teens, such as Twitter, YouTube, Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok and other social media. Even mainstream companies including Wingstop, Lyft, Ben & Jerry's, Denny's and Burger King use the day to promote their brands not on TV or Facebook (where parents are), but on platforms with a younger following. If you're looking for evidence of the virality of 4/20 Day, do a search on the name and associated hashtags in apps like Snapchat and Instagram, and check out the feeds of the social media influencers who use the moniker to elevate their personal brand.

 However you feel about grown-ups using marijuana, you probably don't want companies piggybacking on pot to make kids think they're cool. It's worth repeating: Marijuana remains illegal for kids and has proven risks to developing brains. But try getting your kids to listen when their feeds are filling up with references to 4/20. Consider these from years past: ""It's high time for some Pizza Rolls"" (Totino's); ""Sometimes you need a huge bowl to get you through the day"" (Chipotle); and ""Spicy chicken nuggets are here. just in time for 4/20. how are you firing up?"" (Burger King).  

It's no surprise that experts believe that marijuana use among teens is more widespread than alcohol use. In Colorado, marijuana-related emergency room visits by teens is on the rise. Promoting 4/20 Day may not be the reason for this trend -- but it isn't helping. Raising drug-free kids in an era of legalization, widespread acceptance, and overt marketing of marijuana is one of the biggest challenges of parenting today. Attitudes are changing, as evidenced by big-name brands capitalizing on the shift. But you can't laugh it off. Normalizing pot use among kids -- which is what happens when brands hitch their wagons to 4/20 -- poses real health risks to kids. You can lecture about how bad pot is for growing brains and try to get kids to wait as long as possible to try it -- and that may work. But also consider helping kids think critically about the content they see online. Asking questions and seeing where they lead may make 4/20 and the brands that support it not look so groovy after all. 

 

**Follow the money.** Kids may not realize a tweet or a meme (an image that goes viral) is actually an advertisement. But if it's from a company, it's promotional. Ask kids about the tricks marketers use to disguise what are really ads -- for example, tweets, memes, and filters on Snapchat that actually promote brands. Does it make a brand cool if it can fool you? Or does it make them seem desperate to seem like a cool kid?

**Talk about age gates -- and how easy it is to get around them.** You're supposed to enter your birth date to see online content that's intended for adults, such as sites that sell vaping equipment. But age gates are easy to get around. Ask kids if they or their friends are more tempted to buy drug paraphernalia online because no one is checking their ages. 

 

**What's missing?** From movies such as Harold & Kumar Go to White Castle to memes that treat marijuana as a joke, it's all fun and games until you overdose, have a bad experience, become demotivated, or hurt yourself. Talk about the real aftermath of getting high and how the negatives are never represented online.

 **Remember, companies don't care about you.** They may be funny, clever, cool, or witty. But if they're using pot as a vehicle for promoting their product, they don't care about your health and well-being. They're just using a convenient hook to appeal to their demographic.",5.466152970860335,7.812620965566719,5.400023994459011,77.7511298421808,69.61692969870876,8.709335576114382,30.381660317617374,9.314750747691287,2.9315137485776477,3091,128,527,68,58,963,323,697,0.084,0.802,0.114,0.9659,3,0,3,0,0,0,142.0,0,16,15,10,33,31,1,2,34,4,36,9,2,22,3,101,83,58,0,8,26,2,2,3,1,5,4,2,3,16,36,25,4,1,12,3,7,9,14,8,0,2,2,14,31,23,94,74,9,70,0,2,6,0,68,32,0,21,32,311,67,13,0.0,0.0,0.129221125731793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075742751884014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05294741960840678,0.0,0.14347513553227426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178803307510523,0.18568980487766928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056372072179857,0.08072094569198647,0.07312278543019805,0.0,0.07459501998307742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782257784017774,0.0,0.0,0.13500924706779016,0.0,0.07004048352297744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25619648000669826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588011664085925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356314816300445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04373050780510536,0.0,0.11156809998196174,0.0,0.0,0.06476523645032056,0.0,0.0,0.033477326923833955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05115301179039149,0.0,0.24214077458011796,0.0,0.037628175980876345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058548517508030924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407544242524944,0.0,0.0,0.08875717222296298,0.13990716795016314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708782460710064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970393138538635,0.0,0.0,0.058592999080129535,0.1111979927723993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678044116201774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867133075506856,0.049093233065164936,0.051064564906844336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487089264951798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897300438312672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470348133839788,0.0,0.06320410901168906,0.0,0.057811260987263975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07464084916780223,0.0,0.0,0.14276928687562435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416938144842282,0.0,0.0,0.15072097638290813,0.042415265876608,0.06807401567111387,0.0,0.0,0.07500204080432513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828032023537308,0.12054861578590155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349837460275959,0.0,0.0,0.06548252533814287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513333932879601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1596491790490764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848482778276498,0.0,0.05256265584003683,0.07721415559305847,0.0,0.06275851629801417,0.0,0.0,0.13485496534246866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5146508952621281,0.0,0.0,0.03905186196627049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952996181694078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04820103725171848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12790953238446864
parenting,Realestatehell,2019/04/19,"Overcoming the stigma of being a single dad? - Sleepovers for girls I am a single dad of 2, 1 boy 1 girl. I pretty much have full custody and work hard to take care of my kids. The kids mom only gets them a weekend a month, and as a result the day to day falls on me.

My question: as the dad of a preteen girl (12), her social life is becoming her new favorite thing. She is constantly wanting to be at someones house, and more recently having people over. I understand as a single father people can be weird about me hosting a sleepover for preteen girls. I go out of my way to always make sure I speak to and meet all of my daughters friends parents before they have sleepovers, however lately i have had two of her friends blacklist me. Anytime my daughter plans something at our house 2 of the girls can never come, I chalked it up as being busy but last weekend  my daughter had to cancel her sleep over due to this (The excuses I got, family was in town, and they were going to the beach the next day), and instead was invited to go to a 3rd friends house. Guess what, the other two girls were there. I am frustrated as I am pretty sure I know the reason why they couldnt come (the stigma of a single dad supervising, and understand it), however I do not know what to do about it as It is not fair for my daughter.

For the record I always invite the other parents to hang out as long as they like and are welcome to check in. I always ask if they want me to make sure the kids check in with them, I always give  a detailed agenda of their plan (where, when, etc). And I always try to be honest and let them know I am a single dad, since I do not want to surprise anyone.

So that being said what do I do about this? Do I just suck it up and accept this as life? Do I ask them why?",5.451054794520547,4.744207989041096,6.237089041095889,82.85097602739727,67.73972602739727,8.724657534246575,29.75684931506849,7.7348632917899725,1.768893150684932,1376,42,289,13,20,455,167,365,0.049,0.823,0.128,0.9798,4,0,1,0,4,0,43.0,1,0,10,3,9,15,2,0,26,0,35,3,1,4,5,43,60,24,0,5,6,13,1,1,3,0,2,2,0,10,15,16,0,0,8,3,2,7,5,3,0,2,8,3,48,12,55,44,10,39,0,0,0,0,52,15,1,3,17,214,63,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812710823527136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407883161883794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134744148728978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121235955422614,0.07798133999171539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343602255424582,0.0,0.0,0.15788445084082325,0.0,0.0990333951899999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17730622608542235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10220603449728294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639275006976238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21240918235614245,0.0,0.04787962172189005,0.08791219987805117,0.1562482796986022,0.0,0.07329518186555034,0.0,0.10095496284282247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209401885617809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172307335763924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15109358846333126,0.07470117758608295,0.10337715890278697,0.0,0.0,0.09371105250776868,0.1294601509134837,0.04477208149229201,0.0,0.0,0.08110106385265539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234466635659448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733103198207666,0.07314847148708002,0.0,0.06736806043947936,0.0,0.07068063768940112,0.08850926335107319,0.09746324120694706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969853886887786,0.0,0.0,0.20351714327695705,0.0,0.0,0.12706726640906627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864675077786289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10266099764810324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422414244574738,0.09048628687756284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717336369085055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580793630601285,0.0,0.09170906213212676,0.0934183740166938,0.07764871376494835,0.07055116532086139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591169859936854,0.0,0.06890403971632374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088345652794432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062219499068653365,0.0,0.17904355259791033,0.19080693745837068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16216003279983934,0.07274185151979448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16538688785177888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671710718493573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MakeUse_of_YourTime,2019/04/19,"Kid's gratitude journal Hey, fam. I ordered these for my aged 8 and 4 year old daughters and they arrived in the mail yesterday. We took a day trip to Winterthur (an amazing green estate in Delaware) after receiving them, and the girls wrote in them before bed last night. My eldest said ""I already feel happier"" after finishing hers.

Now, I didn't need to drop $6 on each, but they have cute covers and I assumed the girls would be more inspired to write in them, though I'm sure a plain ole notebook would have sufficed.

This was prompted by the research on the practice of gratitude journaling resulting in greater happiness. Even though it's only been one day, I wanted to share it as a suggestion to do with your wee ones.

On that note, any practices that you do with your kid(s) that you think others would benefit from?",6.07,6.845244439490447,5.940643312101913,80.43453184713377,66.38853503184714,9.33732484076433,33.534394904458594,9.3871,3.021950828025477,655,28,121,12,10,205,113,157,0.0,0.769,0.231,0.99,0,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,4,5,0,4,7,0,0,9,0,11,0,0,1,1,22,19,8,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,1,3,8,8,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,6,3,18,7,22,9,3,25,0,0,1,0,23,8,0,1,12,82,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247522410882252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850093971789598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733061113292935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26269748259093445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452051697811038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10298044891016804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168079280640665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660162623588976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101693128022298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19112822874713112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21371486657808225,0.0,0.27602084884185546,0.15489837361068826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937345097475954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19195428558807964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305019627138342,0.40020473018433006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22628217733905476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012841662102113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340388199164289,0.0,0.0,0.13115524520830654
parenting,DoctorKinkster,2019/04/19,"My 13 year old hates everything sex related. Is this normal? So my 13 year old daughter hates everything sexual, sex related and so on.  I had to educate her to not make fun of a girl at school who masturbates the other day because at their age its normal.  Whenever we talk about sex she shuts down the conversation.

Now to he clear, we are talking about it in a scientific as well as healthy way, promoting positive sexuality, consent and good health.  She is 13 and her body is changing as is her attitude towards the opposite (and potentially same) sex.  Her 12 year old brother gets visibly embarrassed but listens and asks questions and is, for once, rather mature about it.

Last night she heard my wife and I having sex.  This led to an argument between her and I where she told me I was nasty, didn't respect her privacy (we were in our bedroom, door locked, music blasting) and that I needed to shower before I touch her phone (we take it at bedtime so shes not up all night using it).  My wife and I tried to explain that it is normal and healthy for adults to have sex but she won't listen.  Even this morning before school she gave my wife attitude to the point her siblings (the other two are 7F and 10M) were telling her to stop and that she should allow her mother to be happy and enjoy herself.

I know teenagers are weird. I know they're full of attitude. But to me this seems odd.

I guess I would like to know if anyone else has been through this?  Does anyone think she may be asexual? Or is she being a bitch just to be a bitch?",3.6447772277227735,5.278025825082512,4.638700495049509,84.29191212871288,72.92739273927394,8.086303630363037,27.476485148514854,8.72156446121922,2.030058415841584,1207,45,241,23,24,393,170,303,0.115,0.779,0.105,-0.7424,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,5,0,1,1,12,13,4,1,10,0,28,8,1,4,2,50,48,25,0,8,9,6,1,1,0,4,1,3,3,2,17,18,0,1,7,0,0,1,4,6,1,1,9,4,45,7,34,31,3,28,0,0,0,6,50,13,2,6,14,167,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472940555216967,0.1206944581213213,0.0,0.0,0.1101220226165474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180647704092953,0.0,0.20046900757192468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13084321329360155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124611036922665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596775327585656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030828227263714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09840224884918763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780220307818378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21173232962675712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06154280146074807,0.0,0.0,0.09880049727651724,0.0,0.0,0.12976400003328514,0.0,0.0,0.12539451101682578,0.0,0.23259550319476066,0.0,0.1252101204569927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19421044658211006,0.09601829704854456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05754847726804034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862879071079817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734318169190458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22108445017911407,0.34624100773819233,0.0,0.0,0.3708167606813595,0.12544737352218455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113539439930068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195687787004795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23842878883947685,0.0,0.1072357532179595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848153569551332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856685753986394,0.18935762808881987,0.10295764690074256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547800464382308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255776039196096,0.0,0.07997478134666801,0.0,0.11506817946853685,0.0,0.0,0.10173668853282676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349984742931272,0.0,0.0,0.105911465724563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367788341771011,0.0,0.0,0.2275675246801076
parenting,-Rasczak,2019/04/19,"What if its not my kid? Girlfriend of two+ years had decided to frequently cheat on me while she studies abroad in Europe, I had visited her for a week before I knew this. A few weeks after I returned home I found out that she had become pregnant, her most active cheating was directly before and immediately after I visited and I have forgiven her already. The father could be me or her partner she has been cheating with. What do I do if I am not the father? I am happy about the pregnancy and plan to stay with her but how on earth can I prepare myself if its not my child once the prenatal paternity test **i**s complete?  Statistically I believe It is more likely that I am not the father but anything is possible.",4.800503597122301,6.139932827338133,6.215172661870503,75.26031294964031,69.6474820143885,9.013237410071943,31.16618705035971,9.3871,2.9594397122302163,569,24,102,12,10,193,89,139,0.056,0.898,0.046,-0.312,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,2,5,3,0,7,0,17,0,0,1,0,22,19,11,0,4,10,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,3,8,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,7,0,25,2,13,10,3,15,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,5,9,89,33,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24625629485645106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836369568178519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464563677105999,0.37977570897883534,0.2514184541271116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339730147959539,0.0,0.0,0.17817053275471684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446771476543008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375518784687132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22384193572240893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10902190827318303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376520231030095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25157291889942524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378527687273068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21798930402191288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35800180270727144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14370403863207115
parenting,Embear10,2019/04/19,"How do I respond to this text message from another parent? My daughter is in her first year of kindergarten, and up until last year she attended a lovely home-based daycare. We have kept in contact with her care provider but not the other children/families because the kids won’t/don’t go to the same schools and because neither my daughter or I had a lot in common with the other kids/families (which is fine). 

So today I received a text from the mom of one of the daycare kids. It’s the first time that I’ve heard from her since my daughter left the daycare in June. The mom asked if my daughter would like to go to her child’s birthday party this year, and could I please give her our address, I assume for an invitation. I’d like to politely decline because I don’t think my daughter would really want to attend and it isn’t a friendship that I want to encourage. (I realize this could sound rude...the girls are almost two years apart, and as a result they weren’t specifically close friends at daycare. They were just at different places developmentally.) But I realize that the mom is trying to be kind by including my daughter, and I hate being the type of person that just doesn’t reply. Is there a nice way of saying, “Thanks for thinking of us, but no thanks?”  

The mom didn’t give a specific date in her text, so I can’t just say we’re busy. I realize that I could just give her my address, and then decline when we receive the invite...but because I am a worrier, I think what if I say “darn it, we can’t go this time” and then the mom invites us to something else which I then have to decline again.  But maybe that’s a pointless worry?

Thanks for any advice you can share. I know that I am probably overthinking this. I just don’t want to be a jerk about it because in my experience there’s a lot of weird dynamics between moms out there, and I don’t want to be part of the problem.",5.350871859584722,5.550727007915568,5.874516462085579,82.29478949179766,67.8390501319261,8.807663186876221,32.045543191464965,8.587818076936951,2.365758884937479,1492,59,302,21,23,483,178,379,0.062,0.774,0.16399999999999998,0.9893,3,0,1,0,0,0,43.0,6,1,2,2,14,18,2,0,27,0,31,1,0,2,0,54,54,25,0,12,13,13,0,2,1,2,0,5,2,5,21,16,0,1,8,0,0,7,12,4,0,4,6,5,46,14,43,39,5,41,0,0,0,1,52,14,1,7,21,211,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07854655608585827,0.0,0.0,0.08048911322089357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05466126099081233,0.08428559981711461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07514459335391485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24499497871586795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195292393632664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925310368397878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398015276014709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714730441004294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07862721423616642,0.15155051085370894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674263565493286,0.0,0.0,0.062101507495513075,0.0,0.0,0.231323903759868,0.13704568143284648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935876080109852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08062784813803542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08370356103390145,0.044174830449405886,0.06552055360781296,0.0,0.0,0.0873332723789574,0.0,0.0,0.07853936605399932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366726648132626,0.07254622712675336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075266839869527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5648415884737295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446767252331038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925264853302046,0.08704387366241012,0.0,0.0,0.07018484996029126,0.08398015276014709,0.08823327125222302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666340092902462,0.07691295168554001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051493584826517065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176457376375824,0.0,0.08134900701740604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664912939145038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188056947525775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220097388332592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545130709923789,0.0,0.0,0.09374062825412643,0.0,0.07619098727282543,0.0,0.0,0.054572848192134316,0.0,0.07851973064685787,0.0,0.1933748563388477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896411893438213,0.06380202476114916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816299480098944,0.0,0.1141995101930732,0.0,0.0,0.20704873492548287
parenting,mystery_bag,2019/04/19,"7 year-old with odd behavior Good evening fellow parents. My 7 year-old daughter has recently been telling us that she “doesn’t feel like life is real.”

When we press her for details, she simply says that she doesn’t know, she just feels like her life isn’t real and things aren’t actually happening.

We mentioned this to her pediatrician and she spoke with our daughter about it, but didn’t seem concerned at all.

We’ve since switched pediatricians, for unrelated reasons. Yesterday, our daughter told my wife that at times, she still feels like her life isn’t real and that when she feels like that, she also gets kind of dizzy and her head hurts.

Without trying to explain away these symptoms, our daughter has displayed OCD tendencies from a very young age and her mother has BPD II.

We have an appointment early next week with the new pediatrician to discuss these symptoms and try and figure out if they’re manifesting from a physical or neurological ailment.

Have any of you had a child that has said something similar?",8.71404255319149,8.52176955319149,7.8100851063829815,72.55300000000003,60.91489361702129,10.711489361702128,37.41702127659575,10.125756701596842,3.6874025531914896,828,35,146,15,10,256,118,188,0.046,0.889,0.064,0.3314,2,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,7,1,0,0,7,7,0,0,5,0,15,7,1,1,1,32,27,13,0,1,5,7,5,4,1,0,6,3,0,1,11,14,0,0,9,0,0,0,7,1,0,0,6,8,24,6,18,21,1,16,0,1,0,0,39,4,0,3,16,90,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.1162016769244314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522558966230447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097623565197508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187647435578146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499729283901487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864903375408272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24083501860654746,0.34027365770211043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062212658226954924,0.0,0.0,0.09987588188746134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529912779112613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12220704230210755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274740643880189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400005342595286,0.06544143723574891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523221727681801,0.232699432770655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500501367291292,0.12663941561858505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2499019202845319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13222057759310696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066060430335456,0.0,0.12243067425959182,0.11757387041272956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132692048674532,0.09469456694632243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10840295056951578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850147229004824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916710570754877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509480213708997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475325587138537,0.0,0.0,0.1040782796111853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07910926478596136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943457821935554,0.0,0.0,0.11378288462417087,0.0,0.16169051848798402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323460209501335,0.0,0.0,0.098250743777588,0.0,0.0,0.09551614182457127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478568434699953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15336297449840502
parenting,carssu,2019/04/19,"Single parents, tell me your stories and best tips! So my bf dumped me totally out of blue, guess he just stopped loving me. Don’t really know what happened there and I am confused as f*** about it. Anyway the thing is, I’m seven weeks pregnant and as I now have to face everything alone I really need tips how to make it all work. I have five dogs which makes it all even more difficult. Questions like ”where do I put the baby while I walk my dogs”. Etc pumps in my mind. If I get sick how will I handle me the baby and the dogs? I’ve been pregnant before, but it ended in a miscariage at about week 10, so I am prepared for that too. But if the baby makes it trough I need to have some kind of a plan how to make it work. The father will not be part of the baby in anyway, but luckily I have my parents pretty close, and my mum doesn’t have a job so I can pretty much get help from her with the baby as much as needed, tough she can’t manage my crazy ass dogs.",0.9666880616174608,2.681788292682932,2.7203337612323497,94.77636713735559,80.70731707317074,5.486521181001284,18.106546854942234,6.339386263674448,-0.28329268292682963,740,15,171,6,19,245,119,205,0.094,0.782,0.124,0.885,3,1,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,1,0,4,16,8,1,1,11,0,17,4,2,7,3,35,31,21,0,5,7,4,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,10,8,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,4,0,2,1,1,25,4,21,27,11,15,0,0,1,2,13,7,1,6,7,123,35,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774678595356808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138826406033312,0.0,0.1497068396008457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263493279430736,0.0,0.15909720332368946,0.09422179005242788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12820844603433745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490619208467849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714974491420095,0.0,0.1261486866127485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561814013354393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156233621879705,0.0,0.0,0.14855245440041367,0.07839904784126847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06969366326988585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875103477143865,0.0,0.3808912918820172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404013143786554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097345829330141,0.3173289676495037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168013364675765,0.1544806566572888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2902613250209489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340692768913416,0.15980541360957784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18277593730467034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926534485172258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468610664951656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477314827758893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288572772490164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770799335243312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,mcnubzZz,2019/04/19,Please ask this preschool teacher anything you’ve ever wanted to ask your own child’s teacher. I will be 100% honest. I work with 18 three and four year olds for 10 hours a day. I’ve seen it all. Very interested in giving my honest opinion to parents who are too afraid to ask the important questions.,3.6293220338983048,5.609837355932207,4.0120000000000005,87.31562711864406,73.74576271186443,6.07593220338983,27.0542372881356,6.742157984588678,1.1828752542372891,240,9,46,2,5,75,50,59,0.0,0.742,0.258,0.9366,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,1,2,4,0,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,9,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,4,3,6,6,2,6,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,2,5,25,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19166370548845946,0.0,0.6532135275814228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020660088596688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21067891321423107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22342688711440786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293677832253026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24439810652833005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586171308411321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556633985772998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609106263339217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921737593444887,0.13737536387856927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695600337187117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998532438761233
parenting,ciciohme2,2019/04/20,"Easter Bunny dilemma I unexpectedly have a cousin sleeping over with my daughter tonight and although I’m very well prepared for my daughter’s Easter basket, I have little to nothing to offer her 7 year old cousin when he wakes up. He will, however, have a basket waiting for him at his own house when he returns home later in the day. Should I be concerned?",9.782303921568626,7.710304779411764,9.21470588235294,69.36950980392159,60.029411764705884,10.243137254901963,41.784313725490186,7.793537801064563,3.6553078431372548,287,13,48,2,3,92,52,68,0.027000000000000003,0.901,0.07200000000000001,0.4351,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,6,2,2,0,0,4,8,4,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,1,9,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0,8,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21883402209463987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34036670485490395,0.0,0.0,0.3915309625230507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34008886007538863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32558772307954914,0.0,0.35606038834812204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3395661287026381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27997542351902577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3050903973200777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21851164727326503
parenting,mommybutthurt,2019/04/20,"My kid doesn't want to live with me My ex dumped me when our daughter was 18 months old. We split, and I took our daughter to live with my parents 2 states away. My ex pursued custody and after several months of court battles, we reached an agreement. We have  50/50 legal and 65/35 physical custody orders in place. I have the larger share of physical custody. 

Our daughter is now 6 and ever since she was 2 years old, she's been inconsolable when coming back from her dad's. She clings to him and begs him not to leave her with me. She never cries so hard in any other situation. It doesn't matter what activities I plan for her or how I hype up her return, she cries in her room for hours and mopes for a couple of days after coming back. She talks constantly about missing her dad. Also, she's always really excited to see her dad every time he has parenting time. She runs away from me to him laughing and smiling. He always has to remind her to give me goodbye hugs and kisses. It hurts really bad because she has never been that excited to see me in her life, not even as infant. 

To make matters worse, my ex started dating a woman soon after we split up. He just married her last month, so she's now my daughter's stepmom. My daughter adores her. She has her own special name (Steppy) that my daughter picked for her, and from what I hear, she can do no wrong. 

Everytime I have to discipline my daughter, she says she wants to live at dad's house. Hell, she will randomly tell me she wants to live with her dad on a day-to-day basis. 

I messed up the last time her dad had weekend visitation by asking her why she doesn't miss me. She just cried harder and now doesnt want to even cuddle with me. It's not the first time I've let my insecurities get the better of me, but its hard keeping my mouth shut when it hurts so bad. 

I'm not a bad mom. She's healthy and usually happy baring the transitions with her dad. Idk what to do, and at this point, I'm almost willing to give up some custody to make her happy. I just want to be loved as much as she loves her dad. After 4 years of being the parent she doesn't want to see, I feel pretty crummy.

Advice?",3.305939393939393,4.537396563636364,4.386818181818182,87.35939393939395,73.13636363636363,7.060606060606061,24.01515151515152,7.463857097105799,0.9519015151515148,1688,47,353,19,33,551,205,440,0.106,0.768,0.126,0.9074,3,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,7,0,0,3,21,27,3,1,11,0,26,7,1,4,3,55,54,25,0,6,9,22,3,0,0,2,1,2,1,3,12,24,0,2,1,1,0,5,12,13,0,1,6,8,80,14,59,43,3,62,1,4,3,5,90,17,1,4,38,233,92,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861314472191948,0.0,0.0,0.08055734867938136,0.0,0.0,0.06433447401882267,0.13387885530941526,0.0,0.0,0.05470760062677021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07520829794171806,0.0,0.1511676463917697,0.1237195491802148,0.2015129029178846,0.049040535136591935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07114998110522958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13859816891496424,0.0,0.08693602923953678,0.0,0.0,0.08901451044220536,0.2651060299696041,0.15564748866522438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627068284063368,0.07277009035798727,0.06778115990074883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04067707614705108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842928030254758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042030914783910266,0.15434667395674626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17127741610137087,0.1441317448519113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067107748521036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922536743648366,0.09282653350406313,0.17224313154746734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07150614271966005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311521986374815,0.0,0.08518313067028138,0.0,0.08226383418697324,0.0568230112861259,0.0,0.0,0.2841492804096554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14521545784669995,0.0,0.1073997258326076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422007310565966,0.1926391893510589,0.0,0.05913875476995512,0.0,0.1240933722012866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883390961204406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679849401011819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405134778265574,0.0,0.07604964382077213,0.0,0.0,0.0818448396996054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10307447806604084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06397571470584909,0.0,0.0,0.1923206310181874,0.0,0.0,0.09088367687464734,0.0,0.06654766258032885,0.09042725644169113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056941718657896136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466129377422572,0.07031535745081488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18764019563658688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938101800634524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08860243345865046,0.0,0.2847029393655405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07259207507999328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198368749900092,0.0,0.08795758374747388,0.0,0.10361213129061582
parenting,buckleshot,2019/04/20,"Public school (could also include charter or special ed schools) vs home schooling pro and cons I’ll explain why I said public schools might mean charter or special ed schools. It’s because it would depend on the kid. We could have a kid with autism who would benefit from a special ed school. We might have a “gifted” kid who would excel in a place like a charter school. We might also have a kid that doesn’t qualify for either a charter or special ed school. We might move to an area with a superb public school system. We don’t know and we won’t know until we have kids.

As for home schooling, if we home schooled our kids, we would probably send them to a high school so they could get their high school diploma (and take either AP classes or co-enroll with the community college [CC] if they’re ready). I’ll explain how the CC classes work. Some high schools allow students to co-enroll with the local community college if they pass the placement exams (usually English and math). If the students pass the class, their high school covers the tuition. Unless said student fails their class, the student’s family will only pay a very small amount if anything.

My wife and I like this idea because:
• There are a variety of classes students can take at the CC.
• Classes are one semester as opposed to the whole year.
• It shows students what college classes look like.
• Students can take 200 level courses. When I went to a CC, there were high schoolers taking 200 level courses and they were some of the best students in the class.

Now, of course, some students do better with CC classes, while others do better with AP classes. Some students aren’t ready for either kinds of classes while in high school. Some people don’t go to college. That’s okay. We just want our kids to have options. But we’re trying to figure out the education for K-8.",3.9567399944542,6.236147816618915,4.015544874757371,86.32496996025509,73.69914040114614,5.649357611609206,28.73657454478233,6.3737218528115,1.383279619188465,1464,61,261,10,31,450,155,349,0.012,0.857,0.131,0.9897,1,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,12,0,7,7,9,15,0,0,27,1,30,0,0,3,0,68,46,27,0,13,16,1,0,3,0,10,0,2,3,7,10,23,0,1,7,1,2,6,5,1,0,1,5,3,23,14,33,28,11,32,0,1,1,0,37,18,0,20,10,161,33,48,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146581094980265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041915375366984614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06209931805995458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053453408262512166,0.0900961886795688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12200297079346265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048017225827348776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026611568758854683,0.0,0.028947679542415918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32289536427967697,0.1532766430231725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05749970367505256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05304123054521203,0.0559853687757346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746531790933795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042772786304752605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05548342549481055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21613702770155432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05413611578740555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03451504738728985,0.03873855708957825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035312092863701613,0.0,0.0532165010514782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0549168204044124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09690218420163993,0.0,0.0,0.8247871670046081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318789286386364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034581695052322614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056097987928859575,0.042026920214656,0.030042933420657687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047217492209529685,0.04596114567743564,0.05686739383823289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037081472689080984,0.0,0.0,0.14473177660500675,0.0,0.0,0.0328006346074962
parenting,Silverpenguin24,2019/04/20,"What is the most difficult age? What is the most difficult age in children that you have experienced so far? I thought 3 was bad, but I would give anything to go back to that age. My 7 year old daughter has become so difficult. She's not bad. She just does not listen to directions and questions literally everything. Oh, and also constantly corrects me. What is your experience?",3.1980000000000004,6.101151871428577,4.51107142857143,78.30517857142857,80.28571428571428,8.642857142857144,30.17857142857143,9.188382445141503,3.3792857142857144,301,15,53,9,8,99,51,70,0.2,0.8,0.0,-0.9328,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,12,11,6,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,2,8,0,4,8,2,10,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,3,7,38,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081298696381736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2141718472879635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001239151736749,0.4346125448743433,0.0,0.2874367799550112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28124865724699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277553254577208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339049531660074,0.2545842709462365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24966515713103174,0.1479117853059375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730991442300205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29155082166748697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20661741004062192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18488127378896665,0.0,0.0,0.1675989405939643
parenting,Ray_Wolf_Top5,2019/04/20,"Mr Ray Fun Educational Video For Kids / Learn Colors ABC Spanish With Funky Dancing ​

Posted my first episode for my kids but its getting popular in my community so i decided to share it with the world! 

Hope your little ones enjoy my FUN educational video that are different than any other since I use my Breaking 

(Break Dancing) Skills to help teach COLORS, LETTERS, NUMBERS, 

and some languages like Spanish and Hawaiian.  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0rnvx6kRfA](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0rnvx6kRfA)",10.701100000000004,15.30315129333334,6.788916666666669,63.08737500000001,62.73333333333333,7.4833333333333325,34.70833333333333,8.472884824447931,3.560633333333333,437,19,51,7,8,119,59,75,0.013,0.674,0.314,0.9843,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,1,0,2,1,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,4,4,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,4,0,0,2,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,2,8,7,8,4,1,9,0,0,2,0,7,3,0,2,2,29,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31067554303529976,0.3484124923727127,0.19498855952716254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995753979829435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24389530234936066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498063785548883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921913687437766,0.0,0.0,0.2847909856269256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008346656711726,0.2873822165039547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942979875254369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27461135792072433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371888497717881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476456143289151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3484124923727127,0.0
parenting,mamabear0827,2019/04/20,"When does one wipe their own ass? I have a 3 year old son and due any day now for child number 2. Was curious at what age did your kids start wiping their own behinds after pooping? And while I'm asking, how did you transition your kid out of diapers at night? My son is completely potty trained...until he goes to bed. Then he needs a diaper and pees a lot during the night.",2.786796536796537,4.1149487402597416,4.126688311688317,88.333841991342,74.58441558441558,7.730735930735931,21.924242424242426,8.344100000000001,1.0308632034632041,291,7,63,5,6,96,64,77,0.047,0.898,0.055,-0.3485,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,4,0,5,3,3,1,0,7,9,7,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,7,0,8,6,3,16,0,0,0,1,13,3,1,1,13,37,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20608404890429768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28331036955486105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31774163020334634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19544185389491173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26520065566774403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576418438644449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2247073609371985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.56878284465569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179994670444972,0.0,0.20535418108784376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21449999265452005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951539391907197
parenting,hungry4knowledge26,2019/04/20,"Need an unbiased opinion.Is managing your daughter way easier than managing your son, People say so, because they think boys are very active and miscehvious and girls arent.( am speaking about infant and toddler age group).I totally disagree with it though. I have a one year old daughter ,who is very active, mischievous and don't let us catch a break. But we have some friends who have boys, who claim that raising a girl child is a cake walk , because they dont have so much energy and they can't be active. I feel that's they sexist , because I have seen boys who are very quiet and less playful. I just feel it varies from kid to kid, I get irritated when I hear such comments.

However I want to hear the Parents opinion who have a daughter and a son , how do you feel. Am I biased.",5.2754901960784295,6.053803640522876,5.570464052287587,82.37608823529412,68.15032679738562,8.47294117647059,31.63986928104575,8.548686976883017,2.3759704575163396,619,25,120,9,10,197,92,153,0.06,0.8,0.14,0.9016,3,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,3,4,0,8,2,0,0,8,0,19,0,0,1,1,21,29,13,0,2,2,6,3,0,1,0,0,5,0,9,9,9,0,0,4,1,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,9,17,2,6,26,4,8,0,0,1,0,35,0,0,2,4,79,26,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33753672207402785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21631482267782906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27997261669329754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14259842783826482,0.0,0.09643027726905964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4160479107882884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887354672304796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356802855501198,0.13685641583092525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1936753078063046,0.0,0.12506949964772904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20494329162829894,0.0,0.0,0.12795769150830325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677757881998074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182650893811092,0.18133921973947106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220151459234893,0.0,0.0,0.4568690713938593,0.10886424719948014,0.1465031814967658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885711505638052
parenting,bi_so_fly_,2019/04/20,"Daughter (9) “Mom, is the Easter Bunny real?” Oh lord, ya’ll. I knew this year would be the year. It’s the first time her belief in this kind of thing is beginning to be questioned. I was relieved when Christmas came and went without any questions about Santa. But it’s a house of cards right now. If the Easter Bunny falls, it’ll be the Tooth Fairy next. And then the jolly man himself.

I told her, “Of course the Easter Bunny is real.”

“I want to see proof.” She eyed my phone deviously. “Look it up on Google.”

“There’s always eggs in the backyard. And a hidden basket. Isn’t that proof?”

She shook her head. “That could be parents. When I’m a parent, I’m going to tell my kids the Easter Bunny isn’t real. Then they’ll know and all their friends won’t!”

Now, I fully understand why some parents don’t go in on the pretend-people-creatures for holidays. That’s alright in my book. I do it because there’s joy in sparking childhood magic. I’ve got my Santa plan figured out—when that time comes, I’ll let sit her down and explain that she’s a Santa now too. Now she gets to help create the magic for her younger sibling.

But the Easter Bunny.... Tonight I got to save face briefly. Five minutes after she raised the question we watched a rabbit run through our front yard. 

“Maybe that’s the Easter Bunny! Or one of her helpers!” I might be safe for this holiday.

I don’t think this is the right time to pull back the curtain and end the magic. But, that time is probably fast approaching. Parents who have been here, am I making the right move? When did your kids start putting the pieces together?",1.4560724331926878,3.9199333765822786,2.3966244725738406,93.51416315049228,83.90506329113923,4.523769338959212,21.11954992967652,5.82211442006289,0.0858722925457105,1241,39,251,8,36,390,174,316,0.009000000000000001,0.872,0.119,0.9854,4,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,2,1,2,2,13,9,0,1,24,1,27,5,4,1,3,39,49,16,0,4,6,6,0,0,1,5,0,0,3,3,18,9,1,1,10,4,0,13,6,1,0,3,9,4,31,8,26,28,3,51,2,0,4,0,37,12,0,7,25,155,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751571778787595,0.0,0.0,0.07152398974787977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087464690279186,0.0,0.06411494366696405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029450733657132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906007017213072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397530326149542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315563386608168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946353133277878,0.0,0.0,0.08125951551288839,0.0,0.05495065920744045,0.0,0.11954906437841692,0.0,0.16823936428051778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794198038917427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704979488078425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136017581854965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952569576205133,0.05780254723191814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755064315745556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832221898992977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020648686261008,0.0,0.10566446733881654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157621201291773,0.0,0.12318207096722998,0.0,0.11178654202632926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185696879403206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07127068019530204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4671465972744294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339863163065007,0.0,0.0,0.10573196919327954,0.35346704669625423,0.0,0.0,0.35914347239291483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694618369009301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381247872725245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444484596023597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919293635219238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698749478529927,0.06739319648108061,0.0,0.0,0.2453182971880176,0.0,0.0,0.10050116318471873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949300159045236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06203613965603112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750016417850252,0.0949059138824324,0.0,0.0,0.1013869074591628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07471474722871073,0.0,0.0,0.13546112297529012
parenting,justamumm,2019/04/20,"Today my toddler told my husband... “Daddy, Mommy loves her phone”

They were just playing blocks together and she came out with that. She’s 2.5 years old.

I should’ve seen this coming as I know I have a problem with mobile use. I didn’t think it was this bad though. I’m gutted and embarrassed and so ashamed. I need some serious help. Why can’t I put this bloody phone down and turn all my undivided attention to my daughters?",1.2281818181818167,3.84407523809524,2.278658008658009,92.32694805194807,88.28571428571428,5.435497835497836,20.731601731601728,6.980632752743323,0.6048952380952382,336,11,68,5,11,106,66,84,0.21600000000000005,0.693,0.092,-0.8777,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,0,3,7,0,2,1,0,5,2,1,1,1,19,16,7,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,1,3,1,0,3,2,5,0,0,6,1,14,2,6,10,2,8,0,0,1,1,11,2,0,1,3,40,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22129722706823615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3031350125389554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283083863129724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17765064315067908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456589853342716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392088373766383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19652371092814852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781147670290342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536073684405116,0.0,0.2664382814877637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16982685172128278,0.2604003340555327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512268136600264,0.25325696107587264,0.0,0.0,0.2882872787059479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22890935709828225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23915726521310485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067699149706644
parenting,purenplenty,2019/04/20,"As a parent of a child who is sensitive to sugar, I am sick of holidays being so difficult to get through. Every time a holiday rolls around my child is showered with sugar. Green cupcakes at school for St Patricks day. Halloween, christmas, and valentines candy. Easter bunnies and eggs. Everything revolves around sugar. 

As the person who takes care of him and spends the most time with him, this is very frustrating. Just a few pieces of candy can trigger big meltdowns, defiant attitudes, and general lack of coping. 

Most of my family knows this and respects the fact that he shouldnt have much sugar. But i want to take it a step further and try and provide the most stable holidays possible for him by finding an alternative to traditional candy. 

Are there types of candy/chocolates youve found that are made with sugar alternatives that your children like? It without question has to be something thats not going to be equally bad for  (aspartame, etc). I am determined to take back our familys holidays.",6.635461113472163,8.4197734640884,6.594696132596687,72.5804249893753,65.74033149171271,9.54713132171696,35.470038249043775,9.851270322608157,3.8955351466213344,811,39,126,18,13,257,120,181,0.087,0.7859999999999999,0.127,0.6915,3,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,0,6,6,1,0,10,0,14,7,0,2,1,30,24,11,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,4,10,12,6,0,4,4,1,2,3,3,0,0,2,6,10,3,28,18,9,11,0,0,1,0,14,5,0,4,5,94,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155032342925449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362610866643805,0.1479602714926796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806741372283978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428372251401105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976324183920792,0.0,0.0,0.14930436725072022,0.0,0.1592620405558295,0.0,0.33410958974802024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619637998208624,0.0,0.0,0.1942981036121336,0.0,0.0,0.09258323619674934,0.0,0.10071070505873657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09738821991096012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657428874225764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676773536572604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13026738364838922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676717430584567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547301377914516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997740350128208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19851216554417406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793427366749729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642244796330388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39971236746739097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066614138895287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12031178132058899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621416407707105,0.1045211586784963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082102627949275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,strangegurl91,2019/04/20,"My 3 year old daughter won’t go #2 on the potty. HELP So we have been potty training my little 3 year old. Initially she was going #1 and #2 on the potty no problems and we were going back and forth between pull ups and underwear as well as using a timer watch at 30 minute intervals and 60 minute intervals. 

Now she doesn’t want the pull ups at all, she only wants underwear. We have stopped using the watch because she wasn’t always noticing her own body cues and only going when she heard her timer go off and was having accidents. Now she knows her pee cues and hasn’t had a pee accident in over a week, she can even go overnight in underwear with no accidents. 

But she doesn’t seem to catch her body’s #2 cues and almost always is having a poop accident. It doesn’t help that she only goes maybe once a day, sometimes every other day(this has been a normal occurrence since about 1, her doctor has not had any concerns). 

I’m guessing that part of the problem is she doesn’t go frequently enough to learn the cues? Does anyone have any suggestions? I don’t want to put her back in pull ups because I’m worried that will cause regression. She’s also a tiny terrorist and will likely make life hell if I try to put her back in a pull up 😬. She may be small, but her personality is BIG.",5.60471264367816,5.387392996168586,6.160750957854407,81.88434482758622,67.31417624521072,9.412107279693489,29.277394636015323,9.029198982220553,2.142479233716475,1016,31,209,16,15,331,135,261,0.093,0.8759999999999999,0.032,-0.9089,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,0,0,0,11,5,1,0,14,0,30,7,5,4,1,36,49,18,0,7,4,1,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,1,5,14,0,1,3,0,0,14,11,3,1,0,9,3,27,2,24,35,4,45,1,0,2,0,29,17,1,5,15,130,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917623021515907,0.0,0.0,0.08719000142624969,0.18144078681606055,0.0,0.0,0.1482861513806493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623521796769876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2515084136614343,0.0,0.13292544607584708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422120289112021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200223774078948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14062864392883756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159522487771784,0.0954115196728708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11265552023402503,0.0,0.07201225415888574,0.0,0.09186116026518032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43374361190648253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010711498336572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615892577853418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05991917746222643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07701000918468046,0.053265786925319566,0.10927513635659113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277732810704379,0.0,0.10953371906818088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106824719022483,0.0,0.12412959780169085,0.2288140074879067,0.11611172676647954,0.0,0.2487631173257987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11806717218645744,0.0,0.0,0.09519942549065258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20865097859143,0.0,0.21920738544976887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925539393648132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018944949475842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10783191173155092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115265503903566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402315169469124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833112642188546,0.0,0.0,0.19292339035892556,0.0,0.08745603541493151,0.0,0.09802965836883848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072366982006064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042147717509054
parenting,Betafly1,2019/04/20,"I badly need advice on ending violent outbursts from an autistic child My 8yo stepdaughter is autistic and only a little bit verbal. Her mom has not taken any steps to give her a structured environment or even basic patterns and so this results in violent outbursts whenever she comes to our house. This would be something I could normally handle if it wasn't for the fact that recently these outbursts have been aimed at my 2yo daughter. She will pinch her and draw blood to pull her hair out among other things. I've tried separating them, I've tried talking to her mom about it, I've tried literally everything I can think of and I've exhausted myself. My husband is too passive and won't discipline her and I don't want to overstep my bounds; I've only been in her life for two years. I'm also not as educated on her kind of autism as I'd like to be and I don't want to risk harming her mentally or emotionally. Someone please tell me you know what I can do! I'm floundering 😭",5.16287866772403,6.099649340206184,6.044432989690722,78.30663362410785,68.48453608247422,9.26819984139572,31.417922283901664,9.466822959209583,2.8439013481363995,788,32,149,16,13,260,124,194,0.104,0.852,0.044,-0.9066,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,1,1,1,0,5,8,2,1,4,0,18,4,2,1,1,26,28,14,0,7,5,4,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,1,9,9,0,2,2,0,0,3,6,6,0,1,4,1,26,2,22,18,1,14,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,3,4,96,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15959277124262342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1306056007735009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106205740713126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636397463202635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1783013053759147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14068427070647968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039638846329785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371112693499864,0.14465155527120407,0.0,0.0,0.10787020946926776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14677997437490764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15666981340062425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884474126962255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17007089723544858,0.08975547703055828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535655867198942,0.07978908118196468,0.1636878609932223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458645276728326,0.0,0.0,0.3825528829003101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210984642086565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600172769488156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24842188215129699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927447079350206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125713723565374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837908177964042,0.12573042104905374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126907849909136,0.14274740943370814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850143423381142,0.10464778437019068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3326472545046609,0.0,0.15953826667408202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19265875206574815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601664805227613,0.0,0.0,0.10517164289455844
parenting,Skliea,2019/04/20,"Pregnant and worried about daycare I am pregnant for the first time, my boyfriend and I work full time. I have to go back to work pretty soon after baby is born, a couple weeks.  I’m freaking out about leaving my baby with a stranger. I always thought I would be a stay at home mom, but it just isn’t in the cards, as we got pregnant much sooner than expected. No one I know has their kids in a daycare, they all have a family member who watches them. At least when they are infants, But we don’t live close to any family. I am probably worrying over nothing, and it will probably be fine. I just don’t want someone else raising my baby, since they would be there 9 hours a day. How was your experience with infants in day care? Should we look into getting a nanny instead? I can’t go part time at all, and I can’t take any extra time off.",3.6182364341085287,4.457889854651164,4.75,86.53666666666668,71.96511627906978,7.36124031007752,28.286821705426355,7.492282038375204,1.5142077519379846,653,24,137,7,12,215,107,172,0.059,0.8759999999999999,0.065,0.2523,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,3,1,5,3,10,3,0,0,9,0,20,0,0,1,2,26,31,9,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,3,12,0,0,2,0,0,2,6,1,0,2,3,2,22,2,21,21,7,29,0,0,2,0,14,12,0,0,14,99,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928149696337867,0.0,0.0,0.19497043003405187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022990147132317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615832614160928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861778967962012,0.0,0.18490214309715375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975335529355942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14022711417672576,0.2702816193537357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193631282176773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489622498755315,0.0,0.1629420602387428,0.0,0.11465279453108396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14379512966994376,0.0,0.1411742041483214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878326929605288,0.0,0.0,0.15179053210299873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658366196064616,0.0,0.12038073574145645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16789374749384608,0.0,0.0,0.10538122963790092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13755143552928795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713996111989363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523774216114705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14584192515739458,0.30911838184972457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858339830662115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146285469659128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279563059136927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778390211854337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380657194954633,0.3343620375944351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455353839337125,0.0,0.11498943546084635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087259376970864,0.29116463430694606,0.0,0.2036682579986953,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,osmith74,2019/04/20,"Son obsessed with war and guns My son since he was about 8 he’s 11 now has been obsessed with guns/ history/ and war. He always wanted to go hunting or to a shooting range, he’s never been violent towards people but it worries me. He also went through a phase of loving fireworks and seeing the explosions from them. Should I be worried about this? Or is he just a normal boy?",1.4510666666666658,4.011330373333333,3.078666666666667,87.83266666666668,85.26666666666667,4.933333333333334,24.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,0.9695333333333344,298,12,55,3,9,98,57,75,0.177,0.733,0.091,-0.6171,0,0,0,3,0,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,5,6,3,2,4,0,7,1,0,0,1,13,12,7,2,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,4,2,4,1,10,6,0,5,0,0,1,1,11,1,0,2,2,37,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23941837684006054,0.24911261590486924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014760839002574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702069904198728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23090445831848294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29333410272268323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075561234261157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385713829351636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476546766018612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765852514380524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775332427545469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6080807632172547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,syntheticpanic,2019/04/20,"Excessive sleepiness I have an almost 2 year old and am a stay at home mom. Recently I have noticed that I am falling asleep anytime I sit/lay down for an extended period of time. When I put my kid down for a nap I almost always fall asleep too, sometimes for over an hour! In the mornings when it is time for me to wake up I will sit down after I finally get breakfast ready and I have to fight with all my might to stay awake, and occasionally have fallen asleep. If I take caffeine it might work at first but I feel doubly tired mid day. I can't take it anymore and I was never like this pre baby or even during my pregnancy. It is getting in the way of me being able to be a proper mother, being able to keep my house clean, being able to have useful free time, being able to feel positive about myself etc. I almost feel like there is something medically wrong with me and I am just burning out.",2.749800724637684,4.315966407608698,4.264652173913047,86.33542028985507,75.14130434782608,6.863188405797103,23.13623188405797,7.554174236665415,0.9553344927536234,705,20,145,9,15,235,110,184,0.096,0.804,0.1,0.5791,0,0,1,0,1,1,14.0,0,0,0,2,7,5,1,0,8,0,21,7,4,1,2,24,30,10,0,1,4,2,3,2,0,3,2,0,2,1,6,8,1,1,3,1,1,4,2,2,0,1,1,3,23,4,27,21,2,34,0,0,0,0,4,11,0,7,17,103,29,1,0.4857342363130102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3647945051268107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104244899270164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042946043492042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07831459965777987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13543051788391833,0.08020572050401407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842013684204961,0.08675215886907597,0.0,0.13302452834475087,0.0,0.10329132331759923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268880452661346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180776084269775,0.0,0.11958759476435367,0.14011802319457065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793572684375906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11865260623927827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233153531298276,0.0,0.2576436323916192,0.0,0.1422215167416017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09365704690260401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382529118668009,0.12742409292928594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12207426704771747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990098973605046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934854864853621,0.12010089497645735,0.0,0.0,0.25886403345652315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18260584766790608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21242665452402876,0.13957001256227014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487960600894494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638830692939908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840507727567627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276853389260174,0.0,0.0781992306907698
parenting,Colfax_Ave,2019/04/20,"Has anyone ever had a very challenging toddler that turned into a well behaved older kid? Hello,

Father of 3 here.  Two daughters: 8 and 3, and a newborn 1 month old son.  Our oldest had her moments, but she was a pretty manageable toddler.  The 3 year old is... unbelievably challenging.  Super prone to meltdowns, almost every toothbrush, bath time, and bed time is a battle, I've carried her screaming out of countless public places.

Has anyone ever had a toddler like this and were able to turn them around as they got more mature?  Or do challenging toddlers become challenging kids/challenging teenagers?

Am I in for 15 more years of this?  haha",5.118362068965516,7.5503258362068975,5.41331034482759,76.91272413793105,70.8103448275862,7.053793103448276,29.703448275862065,7.908726449838941,2.381416551724138,511,21,78,7,10,162,85,116,0.052000000000000005,0.695,0.253,0.9785,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,1,0,2,5,5,10,1,0,7,1,11,0,0,0,2,12,14,7,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,3,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,6,1,7,8,11,8,2,17,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,2,13,52,10,5,0.18832899393038605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18858428335447125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633680228466832,0.0,0.0,0.16765273266341138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799457753851872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34070871409683384,0.15867529994925478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506239006271392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200803356945916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15032240619182669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3952391975664685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19676371487417832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19159829232267367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21963230172491735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4096957307285468,0.18397006179687933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15539114340037422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16933038294634353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24255539496511924
parenting,Vennumz,2019/04/20,"Apps to lock down kids iPhone Alright fellow parents, have a 15 year old boy here that is acting waywardly. I need a way to lock down his smartphone. If he receives a text message I want to get a copy. If he looks at porn I  want to know it. I want to know where he goes and know who he calls without having to still his phone. He has no privacy anymore. Give me recommended apps please. I dont care if it's free or not.",1.2790168539325857,2.9449654831460705,2.8026825842696645,94.78357443820228,79.56179775280899,5.798314606741574,22.360955056179773,6.6274283507984215,0.30229101123595514,324,10,76,3,8,106,62,89,0.055,0.792,0.153,0.6675,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,1,5,1,0,0,0,14,16,5,0,7,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,3,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,8,4,10,16,0,10,0,0,1,1,17,4,0,4,3,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281952292992349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349556223082023,0.0,0.23460008428277146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696729561635793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202166250694305,0.22073081598588956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379367267774105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322423495467084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1706146336631067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2414489776773419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25549642236774245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525783325119512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837564331821636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4071530050420644,0.182640956142168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218061078203932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481754656548277
parenting,demeve,2019/04/20,"Anyone else here also struggling with co-parenting? I have a 9 and 7 year old (boys) and usually co-parenting is not a struggle. I’ve been divorced for 5 years now and after going through hell (a long story for another time), all seemed to be going ok until I got married recently to someone she “disapproves because that person used to be part of my life as well”.. never mind that she’s married now to the person who impregnated her while she was still legally married.. I get it, some people can’t just move on, but why make the life of the father of your children so difficult when you’re not feeling good for whatever reason.",9.95745901639344,6.939766057377052,9.885016393442623,67.65096721311478,60.55737704918032,12.710819672131148,41.613114754098355,10.793553405168565,4.479188196721312,497,21,89,9,5,165,93,122,0.116,0.847,0.036000000000000004,-0.8871,2,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,9,7,1,2,6,1,7,2,0,3,2,17,15,10,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,4,4,0,0,3,0,0,3,4,4,1,0,3,1,9,3,16,10,3,19,1,0,0,0,12,1,1,2,15,62,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13826647276034154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18129863432094093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089430572409746,0.1771544390682846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539701954557533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444340980462637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742242672895799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033207192090316,0.0,0.19652384224802186,0.1450186441625608,0.13828232976008584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442459493756031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300929433722832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1154107614368442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17457769816230373,0.0,0.0,0.18376321776216573,0.0,0.0,0.13334960088574072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814273724967873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18723169147803911,0.0,0.11986570732250168,0.3019357393298681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777679460697018,0.17071592214235268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15739985087216396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464959192268249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807657076176538,0.0,0.0,0.3615010716575346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10081821758246064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493283641207535,0.19042272652646855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545607141692186,0.0,0.15601355765694094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22268129408415474
parenting,Amberlynn585,2019/04/20,"My daughter came back with a rash on her forearms and I’m not sure what it is Here’s a [picture](https://imgur.com/a/LzSrYsH)

She told me it started off as small bumps then got red when she itched it and it’s still itchy. I’m planning on taking her to urgent care to see if she needs a steroid cream for it but idk if they’ll be open tomorrow for Easter if not I’m taking her Monday after work.

My son has really bad eczema but it doesn’t look like that and they also have different fathers and my sons father has eczema on his side of the family no one on my side has it that’s why Im wondering if maybe that’s what it is but I don’t know. I wish my mom would have told me when it started. She also didn’t go outside at all so it can’t be poison ivy or anything like that


Just wondering if anyone has seen anything similar and can let me know what it might be",1.3105882352941194,3.054435903225805,2.8878115117014573,93.84583491461105,79.75268817204302,6.0969006957621765,20.080961416824795,7.048011613610866,0.21189158760278293,682,17,157,8,17,224,109,186,0.103,0.825,0.073,-0.6879,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,2,2,9,6,1,0,4,0,20,4,3,0,2,30,42,21,0,8,12,6,0,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,18,8,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,2,0,1,6,5,20,4,14,29,1,22,0,0,5,0,18,10,0,9,12,104,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519602053163372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11015162780863433,0.0,0.2592745707738485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113413332629153,0.13153453926383324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801772427846699,0.1606166922882651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458978772591482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850929410908956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953035875912213,0.0,0.12599455060361595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701640498231273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315343512798012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16108946927734755,0.0,0.15392657862715975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13228911482803316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15826435310260287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16711897064924025,0.0,0.18450223870390756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680966866964908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067493016372622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009204903454856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12553442100040246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22300714108443684,0.0,0.1258070753667508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847418967649995,0.0,0.2368923385648176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30106150114752056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421501801362578,0.0,0.1811566414897275,0.0,0.34167840216056194,0.11468682829328207,0.0,0.0,0.11190782895313492,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ernie1850,2019/04/20,"I’m going to work for the first time Monday, and I don’t know how I’m going to make it through the day without getting really sad. My first child was born a week ago, and I’m going back to work for the first time Monday. 

I’m just so bummed. Apart from being away from him, my wife has to take care of him belt herself while I’m gone. 

Other dads, what’s the advice to get through this?",1.3353571428571414,2.6630589642857165,2.71619047619048,96.96214285714287,78.40476190476191,5.276190476190476,17.952380952380953,5.288315135182226,-0.6690761904761904,299,5,72,1,7,97,55,84,0.0,0.924,0.076,0.7159,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,0,5,0,4,0,0,2,0,7,19,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,1,0,3,2,0,6,1,14,16,0,19,0,1,0,0,6,2,0,0,13,43,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20854317129214964,0.1891763487723464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005070557018432,0.16410021013752352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21758716748401055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763271186908896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5445829386680308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22299731914687668,0.0,0.363859886952384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172853361405458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245378110916845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671682141206692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604588296914761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488838323307934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17118576965823698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20572099485318332,0.0,0.31073211333817924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,VAERS4billiondollars,2019/04/20,"We need science nerds to fight big pharm. Please help us!!! Join our fight against big pharm and the mandated vaccine legislation that is being pushed across our country by idiot fascist politicians. I'm a 44 yr old stay at home mother who is terrified that my state will be next to force vaccinations on its citizens. I am totally against this. I dont care if others want to vaccinate, thats fine, but to force everyone to fall in line or face prosecution is medical tyranny. Look, the vaccine industry is corrupt, politicians are basically being bought off b/c big pharm pays big dollars towards their campaigns. Big pharm also pretty much owns the media. Millions on mothers around this country are fighting against this machine using grassroots tactics i.e. getting the word out. The vaccine schedule has become hyper aggressive and babies born today are expected to endure 70+ vaccines by the time they reach 18. This is unacceptable. Vaccines are grown using aborted fetal tissue which is sick. Studies have proven that DNA fragments from these fetuses remain in the final vaccine. Children are being ruined mentally and physically. Please, if someone really smart out there can join in on this fight, please do. We are desperate.",7.3328738317757,9.545429985981313,6.774848130841125,70.31264602803739,64.56074766355141,9.088317757009348,37.67406542056075,9.516144504307137,4.1362065420560725,1003,52,143,20,16,311,148,214,0.168,0.7290000000000001,0.104,-0.9575,0,0,0,0,5,0,28.0,5,0,2,0,4,11,6,0,8,0,23,3,1,2,1,20,32,8,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,2,14,8,0,0,1,0,3,3,1,8,0,1,1,1,10,3,25,26,3,30,0,1,1,0,17,18,0,3,7,93,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493269147541845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502047731304978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634816048164035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203067888538068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19774938217809915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122799470837987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483460651790848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815405027338333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309563548485092,0.0,0.16924915898095685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169004422135853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699769318911404,0.17003936217708704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403538652200854,0.12511057422071112,0.0,0.0,0.17944543327993812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17705292678389975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5556420256191615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17165826988514538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080922550466932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296371547499767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984289198745798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838736156765301,0.0,0.1599355658826181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029604693615403,0.29145573300852906,0.0,0.0,0.09952086204024857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,BeccasBump,2019/04/20,"What did you expect parenting to be like? I see a lot of posts and comments from people saying they didn't anticipate what parenthood would be like and were blindsided by the reality. Typically it's things like ""I didn't expect to be so sleep-deprived"", ""I didn't expect my baby to need such constant attention"", etc. 

That hasn't been my experience at all. Motherhood has (so far) entailed pretty much what I thought it would, and I don't feel in any way misled.

So I'm curious. What did you expect parenthood to be like? What did a typical day / night look like in your imagination? And if you feel like you were fed a false narrative about parenthood (maybe especially motherhood?), where do you think that's coming from? Your own parents? Parents in your peer group? Pop culture? Social media?

Thanks in advance for any insight.",4.1639610389610375,6.594262149350652,5.174025974025972,77.5596103896104,73.61038961038959,8.815584415584416,28.532467532467532,9.424239791934726,2.911083116883117,657,27,116,17,14,215,91,154,0.0,0.841,0.159,0.9707,6,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,8,1,1,6,7,0,0,4,0,19,1,0,0,1,22,30,8,0,8,1,3,2,6,0,2,0,1,0,0,10,5,1,0,7,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,11,5,16,7,15,13,5,14,0,0,2,0,17,7,0,2,9,79,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080735137850696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178519839984332,0.0,0.16532515474221318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866429133355024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17062152051268373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496511464307463,0.0,0.0,0.15471016947283436,0.10929431183809482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44845183505886205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847098236066914,0.0,0.0,0.13006451502666827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15369652251583898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246342706388744,0.11343830444947585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356841989640856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5096235942492501,0.0,0.0,0.1060622805137866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651975045719234,0.15564330354802153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216618130136322,0.0,0.0,0.12191124271232907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309800152936787,0.1559515061605742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408503500047513,0.0,0.0,0.10163810755363857,0.09802822274355658,0.0,0.12145499865410188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12143436903958105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21735588356075974,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,peapie32,2019/04/20,"Need some advice I am going to preface this with if you want to be critical go be critical somewhere else. My husband and I have taking all things into careful consideration before making a final decision. This is not some Easter surprise we did on a whim. 

My nine-year-old daughter has wanted a kitten for the past two years. She has written letters lists and everything else highlighting all the reasons why she wants one, all the things she’ll do to take care of it. We have said no time and time again and she will drop it for a while but then comes back with all the lists and reasons etc. so after talking to my husband in depth we finally decided to say yes and we are going to surprise her tomorrow for Easter. I’ve already ask her in a very roundabout way what she’s looking for in a kitten and after searching for a few weeks I finally found the perfect kitten. 

I had to pick the kitten up today and so now I only have one problem: I don’t know what to do now. How do I surprise her? How do I keep the kitten a secret for the rest of the day? I guess I had thought of everything else and skip the part about how to actually give it to her. I have all the kitten necessities hidden away at the house. The problem is she still believes in the Easter bunny so we want to give it to her in the format of the Easter bunny is leaving it for her. I hope all this makes sense LOL",3.4562006079027365,4.681270496453905,4.836504559270519,84.30500000000002,72.75886524822695,7.215400202634246,26.549138804457954,7.62386473244151,1.4361436676798385,1088,37,218,13,21,363,142,282,0.069,0.847,0.084,0.8026,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,5,1,0,1,12,9,0,0,24,2,23,0,0,8,7,55,50,19,0,9,3,3,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,12,18,0,1,9,0,0,4,3,2,0,3,7,3,33,7,38,39,12,37,0,0,1,0,29,11,0,5,20,170,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.10579333354567344,0.0,0.0,0.10593781029473018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963404887762635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1013494934991164,0.0,0.1018555452958932,0.08336123797849207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224963316571026,0.1221418833062256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22106413677959166,0.0,0.0,0.0933863323853046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991601801197732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716900173936849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090673474831215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19486533079565208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562763020086176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.118866881590889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20799509704250785,0.18483712240005945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942675375285533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076764175684388,0.0,0.1250915445687407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636052862583264,0.0,0.0,0.05957975805884622,0.0,0.0,0.1147914177607414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103779488345268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473014431883433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038525823213183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375893148064885,0.0,0.1469239708654476,0.08245132288728378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739836645781443,0.1034904060503102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20746904997245244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22292878211370215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312352702782933,0.08621264486940547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657703044588147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16302290748380796,0.08713652020278177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404667914554986,0.0,0.0,0.0860660909714286,0.1264304558692474,0.0,0.10276079255535936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590163011816343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089450290070534,0.2557740700790551,0.08605147230361146,0.08696063016039098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09782391362065547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962604279125607
parenting,Libbeah,2019/04/20,"My (29F) son (12M) won't listen. Help?! I feel like I am pretty lenient with my son but as he's getting older he listens to what I ask of him less and less.

I've tried more rules, less rules, asking nicely, demanding, it doesn't matter what I do....he doesn't listen.

The thing that drives me even more up a wall is that he'll listen to his dad. Why?!

My husband and I are doing our best with what we have. We work a lot. My husband works more hours than I do so he's not home a lot. This makes it even more difficult for me to understand why my son listens to him, but not to me?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. We have a baby on the way (due in 7 weeks) and I need all the help I can get. Thanks in advance!",-0.4775339366515823,1.40365421794872,1.9824132730015087,97.19395927601812,86.94871794871796,4.6962292609351435,16.86877828054299,5.900188976854957,-0.6347325791855205,542,12,133,4,17,185,94,156,0.045,0.7759999999999999,0.179,0.9726,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,0,4,3,6,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,1,21,28,7,0,2,4,6,1,1,0,3,0,5,1,0,9,8,0,0,2,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,6,23,5,15,24,11,12,0,0,0,0,26,5,0,2,5,88,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17914257940463324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466694627197013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3427673204925207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19238775222931154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421682061760164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926943753414001,0.13096705922721252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19155896932403416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20211590812943586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24575709569031506,0.0,0.18388942058139754,0.0,0.1805377043121165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0895630904831694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31171186782511096,0.0,0.0,0.12237052709862625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593279364325286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18650692255868886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878056891535512,0.0,0.0,0.12179265167466392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446530157108406,0.0,0.0,0.1908472694902804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455144548216337,0.14705185570896892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308436933839853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669248383552789,0.0,0.0,0.130228464761526,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,drewr007,2019/04/20,"Audiobook recommendations for birth- 12 months First time dad looking for recommendations for audio books or podcasts for birth through first year.  I have no shortage of physical books but looking for something to listen to while commuting. Audio books already on the radar include The New Father- Amin Brott, The Baby Book- Sears et al. and What to expect in the first year. If anyone has experience on resources that have been helpful or disappointing I would appreciate it. 

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Thanks in advance.",6.562380952380952,10.14839238095238,5.609523809523811,71.46880952380955,71.61904761904762,7.542857142857144,34.333333333333336,8.515128840125781,3.5130333333333343,416,21,58,8,9,125,62,84,0.078,0.804,0.117,0.6908,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,4,0,2,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,9,6,0,3,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,1,0,3,1,5,2,1,14,7,0,16,0,1,2,0,4,4,0,3,11,38,5,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348151163347886,0.0,0.0,0.23055400757176625,0.2585588026009156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878521910814138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081459586646713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5429880849505774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262625841631218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3573740184667185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16984409800679512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20551045966509504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381338931144246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590515561844093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407747828365027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511573744478377,0.0,0.2585588026009156,0.2740549683721904
parenting,prancingplankton,2019/04/20,"Soon to have 4 children. HELP Hi, I’m in a bit of a panic. I have a 1 year old from my previous relationship, and I have recently taken in my 4 year old stepdaughter from said relationship because of abuse allegations.

To top it all off, I’ve just found out I’m 23 weeks pregnant, with the same man, (hidden pregnancy, I had periods and negative pregnancy tests) with TWINS.

I’ve gone from one child to going to have four in two weeks. I’m not prepared for this.

How do I keep 4 children alive on my own? I have limited family support around me and I’m scared, how are you meant to look after twin newborns, a toddler, and a 4 year old with the developmental age of a 2 year old because of said abuse allegations? 

I think I might die.",2.3821115126484247,4.190069369127522,4.481342281879197,83.3478471863707,76.78523489932886,8.343004646360349,26.226639132679402,9.057496981413335,2.1190202374806395,572,22,121,14,13,197,87,149,0.17600000000000002,0.753,0.071,-0.9485,0,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,1,0,2,5,3,0,2,8,0,9,0,0,2,1,21,24,6,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,5,2,9,0,2,3,0,0,2,2,2,0,3,7,3,12,1,24,16,4,25,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,1,15,71,14,1,0.0,0.3134065004164897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773701958108425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612456209274118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443906956816154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372621761525207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246803932092692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450132812796325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516486022790321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864926707786129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175563475280318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106280555040242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14030407388489696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5551270701506555,0.0,0.08962095593271101,0.0,0.0,0.1551754219331084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058810859512093,0.2839896461344747,0.0,0.0,0.2516139202322714,0.0,0.13241260998455384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500839942912654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474512485982405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919614505537716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21217762513708352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406774089849157
parenting,halites,2019/04/20,"Sick Toddler; Worried Sick Mom This is long but I'm so freaking worried about my 2yo daughter. A few days ago, while on a long car ride, she started throwing up in the car. She threw up 6 times in like an hour, and we had to stop driving and get a hotel room. She threw up shortly after we got to the hotel, and then, 15 minutes later, was her normal enegetic self for a couple hours before we went to bed. Then, she woke up at 5am and threw up again, and a few hours after that, some relatively minor diarrhea started. We then drove the rest of the way, and seemed mostly like herself the rest of that day, had an appetite and ate well and everything. Then the next morning, she woke up with a super sweaty head (but I honestly think she was just hot for a while with too many layers), and then she slept for like 4 hours more than usual and was pretty lethargic, woke up to eat a little, and then promptly fell back asleep for like 2 hours. After she woke up, she was much more mellow than usual, and wanted to be held a lot, and had kind of mucous-y poop, but nothing too alarming. Then at 5am, she threw up again, twice. And a little bit ago today, had a huge, super smelly, kind of mucous-y poop, and has been pretty mellow and run-down. For the most part, she hasn't seemed feverish or warm, although I haven't really taken a proper temp (she had an aux temp this morning of 97.7).

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Motion sickness must be ruled out by now, food poisoining seems ruled out since it's been like 3 days, and there were like 48 hours between throw-ups, so I feel like that rules out stomach virus, which are supposedly supposed to only last 24 hours. Also, none of us who've been around her have gotten sick. As far as I can tell, she hasn't eaten anything new. So of course I'm now so worried that it's something rare and terrible. I should mention that we have been traveling a lot within the past 2 weeks, and made a major move from Pittsburgh to the St Louis area just a few days ago. I think it's fair to assume she's a little wiped out from all of it, but it seems like a stretch to believe this is all because of that. We are also in flux with health insurance and don't yet have a pediatrician here, which is adding onto my own anxiety.

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Thank you all for any input, suggestions, etc.",6.824159075969575,5.436055930885531,6.711409522020848,82.79958493755284,65.28509719222464,9.088890975678467,30.497605408958588,7.255503002510835,1.6884544839891067,1788,48,375,12,23,567,235,463,0.069,0.797,0.134,0.9867,0,0,1,0,0,0,75.0,7,1,0,2,21,19,0,1,30,0,32,15,6,1,4,64,64,43,0,4,7,2,3,8,0,2,5,0,2,1,16,34,4,2,8,3,0,15,5,3,1,1,32,3,33,16,61,28,22,94,0,0,0,0,31,31,0,11,55,247,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19303816739125126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11609931210188648,0.0,0.1573010041114183,0.17640794753181593,0.04936322940679098,0.0,0.055530634053696806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05973482851104005,0.06461988805006395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055816709363225615,0.0,0.04424977806456396,0.0,0.06176816813352906,0.08178331040788528,0.0,0.0,0.07924874116582348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031870616057737,0.0,0.18725643485359267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427700023530871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095628420542833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523860368290127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03670334319984474,0.051857827457022124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08777529852544859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03792492569378352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05805631343767467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449758828270757,0.0771590568146264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5004010338526036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118122087144348,0.0,0.059169987299525564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837078160080613,0.21826071716900836,0.0,0.12847853469537948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234256946239957,0.0,0.06868577335607473,0.0,0.07359418103127148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501573876671546,0.0,0.0771509634472139,0.05336150525879125,0.0,0.0,0.07010722129966862,0.07719956941428517,0.0,0.07112212519275013,0.06965141397164465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520745178233062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07860716394331807,0.06929472326074086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769887736135484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04650257960928972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2643303766470164,0.07572649591087514,0.0,0.0,0.060046638799783725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05588280788735277,0.0,0.0,0.10275819406165836,0.0,0.0,0.060687925066982035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344626854219255,0.06683049671082401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302461537951713,0.0,0.0,0.04232741848036525,0.0,0.06880619135571246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731601889466335,0.0,0.15989376973988878,0.0,0.042815063926759836,0.057618026511165564,0.05822677706583281,0.0,0.06526651976162623,0.06729103044319305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2211539457946717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17640794753181593,0.0
parenting,schneider32,2019/04/20,Grandparents thinking their parents Anyone have problems with their parents trying to parent their child? I'm (22f). Have a one year old and my mom thinks she's more of a parent to her than I am. I really enjoy the help and free babysitter but I'm getting so annoyed and frustrated with her but don't know how to bring it up and address the problem nicely. Any suggestions?,4.129583333333333,6.15130390277778,4.659444444444446,83.03000000000002,72.47222222222223,7.022222222222222,28.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.960983333333333,299,12,53,4,6,95,53,72,0.188,0.687,0.125,-0.795,5,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,3,0,2,7,2,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,0,14,11,8,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,6,0,0,3,0,1,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,9,4,8,11,1,4,0,0,0,0,14,1,0,0,2,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12169605820767032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513003320797195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349700212517524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995027838746768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834940943986764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959083143168444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778397385537893,0.0,0.12126505912381436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7948368050191065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424730010096355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11464364675785173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229335259139558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214992188208872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524164664601899
parenting,s460,2019/04/20,"Would Dumbo be okay for a kid who's super easily scared at movies? My daughter has gotten scared by almost every movie she's ever tried to watch. Lilo and Stitch, Moana, Mulan and Aladdin have all scared her. The only movies she's been able to get through without getting scared are Cinderella and Milo and Otis.

Thanks!",4.744500000000002,6.918951116666669,4.233333333333333,86.08500000000002,71.16666666666666,6.133333333333334,22.0,6.742157984588678,0.6208999999999998,257,6,45,2,5,77,49,60,0.168,0.6759999999999999,0.156,-0.2003,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,1,7,0,4,2,1,6,0,0,0,2,9,10,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,2,1,4,3,7,6,1,2,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,1,26,5,0,0.2042044254181546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20448123478814426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18471459371470889,0.1720510356794454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2133767681082832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15530666733433454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8177770143744539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800399919523536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864140052839907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19684577905118655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506096490586748,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Gimbleturren,2019/04/20,"Potty Training Regression...Sigh... I posted a while ago about potty training when the magical 3 day method of the “Oh Crap” book didn’t work for my then 2.5 year old (now 3.5) daughter.

So we went the slow route. Positive reinforcement only, rewards for going in the potty, celebrating the small victories like we had found the secret to limitless wealth, etc. And it still didn’t work. One day my wife had the idea that we should just put her in panties and act like we had total confidence that she was ready. And it actually worked! I can’t comprehend how or why but it did. 

Until about two weeks ago when she got constipated. She still wanted to poop but it hurt. We got her on Miralax per our pediatrician’s recommendation and that seemed to clear her out (she had some poop accidents as a result but we were fine with that and told her so). But ever since then she has pretty much, with a few exceptions, refused to poop in the potty. She says it scares her. We’ve been very reassuring and asked what what we can do to help her not be scared but it’s not working. And so she keeps having small poop accidents when her body is basically forcing her to push some out. We’ve tried incentives for using the potty and separate incentives for not having accidents and we can’t seem to break through that boundary of fear she has created. 

We are at a loss. Any advice would be great.",3.637718612603809,5.698408928838955,4.4497508549096265,83.83644357596484,73.94382022471909,8.089171144764698,24.342778049177657,8.841846274778883,1.739045074092167,1092,34,216,23,23,351,153,267,0.094,0.738,0.168,0.9622,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,10,0,0,6,15,13,1,3,13,0,24,6,6,3,3,51,36,27,0,3,11,2,0,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,13,22,0,2,5,1,1,5,7,6,0,2,15,1,30,7,28,17,6,35,0,2,0,0,35,9,1,5,21,149,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.13137000266047438,0.0,0.0,0.1315494082077981,0.2386655633336577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154642664884433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258518167864383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953281565226928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1736379252720667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15013723013745242,0.0,0.12177177691699753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148527463256595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760422067705986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07650782409954375,0.0,0.2153363182876859,0.14841936625102153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09023315564722746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411382538554934,0.1519699431555771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196567163324636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315373663757538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896141694436644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126136903336795,0.0,0.09122220558041327,0.1023848114435853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12892904381565565,0.13695725142952025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13533059322207855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705547321628482,0.26955682861760943,0.0,0.0,0.2451065471969349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11135931097809842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501590580092955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286354745595847,0.0,0.0913983533032558,0.0,0.13150448108684884,0.0,0.0,0.1162687242884722,0.0,0.11107585374907428,0.07940254631512174,0.0,0.10798429194591053,0.0,0.0,0.12479437542118035,0.12147389029059565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3920207539524904,0.0,0.0,0.0956304052789906,0.0,0.0,0.08669106548684309
parenting,nonameworks,2019/04/20,"Misusing words My son, who is almost 3 years old, and who has had the best vocabulary of my 3 children has started regressing.  He used to say pick me up, now he sometimes says take me up. This morning he had a drink of milk and said ouch, my wife prompted him ""do you main yuck or ouch"" and he said yuck. There a many other examples where he used to use words correctly and is no longer do so. What causes these regressions, are they a normal part of development or does he need any kind of intervention?

We don't have a good frame of reference because our oldest received speech therapy due do a significant delay reaching milestones. Our middle child received speech and occupational therapy before being diagnosed with autism. Our nieces and nephews are so far ahead that they might skip grades.",5.569367321867322,7.307337939189187,5.762678132678134,77.71106879606883,68.25675675675676,9.165601965601963,30.346437346437348,9.573946990214177,2.8771,637,25,114,14,11,202,103,148,0.046,0.901,0.052000000000000005,0.2249,0,0,1,0,0,0,15.0,4,1,2,2,5,3,0,0,6,0,15,3,0,5,1,24,23,10,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,2,7,8,2,1,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,4,6,13,3,11,17,3,15,0,0,0,0,27,5,0,4,8,69,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674736743352155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373366975487093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195219611035196,0.0,0.142314846906991,0.0,0.17551536899921746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17180870095303855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975214658398854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463589440854655,0.0,0.0,0.16383835182794607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14027881730493805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17416197495949776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956216969344634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774225975691299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12401150363747032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638665135191502,0.0,0.0,0.17549755334950415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811121624685764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31818032132684165,0.26600299502538965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541152256936947,0.0,0.1183782609896242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574890178270368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3825229550493275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4333430317854631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770156054914644
parenting,IdlyBrowsing,2019/04/20,"I feel like I'm always busy yet nothing gets done. When I was growing up, my mother was like the housework fairy. I pretty much had to clean my room and that was it as far as chores were concerned. This has not served me well as an adult. I try my best to keep on top of the housework but I'm very disorganised and tend to hoard things. 

I'm currently a SAHP to 3 young kids and things are out of control. I feel like I am constantly cleaning the same kitchen/living area, only for it to be messed 2 minutes later. Meanwhile, other big tasks like cleaning bathrooms, etc, seem to fall by the wayside. I also don't spend as much time as I'd like with the kids (and dogs) as I'm trying to keep on top of the housework and failing.

Is there some magic trick or schedule that will make things more balanced? Currently I feel like I do nothing well and it's getting me down. I'm supposed to start studying in September and I worry I won't find the time either.",2.693928571428572,4.253338443877554,3.5762755102040806,91.24104591836736,75.27551020408163,5.920408163265308,25.51530612244898,6.322622252153567,0.7346285714285714,749,26,159,5,16,239,119,196,0.08199999999999999,0.7759999999999999,0.141,0.8258,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,5,6,12,1,0,9,0,15,0,0,2,0,24,31,17,0,0,4,1,3,6,0,2,0,0,5,3,10,9,0,3,5,0,1,2,3,3,2,0,6,3,16,9,26,22,8,25,0,1,0,0,4,12,0,3,17,100,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415051757341235,0.1187725621354618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497986492269359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425311055728813,0.16009699851889211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607435846693062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919477170993074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21652353732776936,0.3059241818378838,0.0,0.0,0.1304633639942772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915333496823532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25375083345639393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4184184227791357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528121957947344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20986320533723166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739290977919257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085615251420572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452196657376806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994671871161614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010333379645998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28449380735347635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16646771249910286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938245427260724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11777688428034018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566839329579084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449611653955353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,MrRabbit003,2019/04/20,Ideas for a heirloom to pass down to kids I was never given something passed down through the generations but I love the idea. My wife has jewelry she can pass to our daughters but what are some ideas I can pass to my son (or daughter) that is timeless and useful to somewhat of a degree. Right now my top and only choice is a nice watch. I would spend up to a few thousand dollars for something nice. What heirloom does your family have?,3.6623920265780754,5.447073744186046,4.020033222591362,88.12313953488373,73.18604651162791,6.309634551495018,27.40199335548173,6.868970318607317,1.2291714285714297,346,13,68,3,7,108,59,86,0.0,0.7909999999999999,0.209,0.965,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,6,0,9,1,0,1,1,13,12,5,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,3,0,2,4,1,0,0,1,2,1,10,3,13,9,3,11,0,0,1,1,9,5,0,3,2,52,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19836497770632372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368918629252576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.767666062252086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20458320009588127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748258730308815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239668889625215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19357936533545134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3490112560887437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19577457639376933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16102354436613625,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,JealousMangoz,2019/04/20,"My 3 year old is incapable of apologizing. I'm having kind of a weird issue with my three year old. She refuses to apologize when she acts naughty. What's weirder still is that she has no problem apologizing for things that are not her fault. For example, if I drop something or stub my toe she is quick to apologize to me even though it's obviously not her fault. 

However if she breaks something she knows she not supposed to touch, or makes a huge mess she will refuse to say sorry. She acts like if she says sorry she will get in trouble or something, when obviously apologizing improves the situation.

I have tried to explain this to her calmly, how I'm not mad but that you need to apologize when you do something wrong but she just freaks out more.

What can I do? Am I expecting too much?",4.759325513196483,5.99820277419355,5.435777126099712,81.18821114369503,69.64516129032258,9.249266862170089,30.21994134897361,9.573946990214177,2.6624838709677414,630,25,126,14,11,204,92,155,0.166,0.735,0.1,-0.7639,1,0,4,0,0,0,14.0,0,2,0,0,10,12,1,0,3,0,13,1,1,2,2,26,20,13,0,6,13,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,8,2,0,2,2,0,0,2,5,9,0,1,0,3,25,3,15,18,2,16,0,0,0,0,28,3,0,6,10,90,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133946989781494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969704159791833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791919680018032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17878094695321609,0.09435223450103722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838754173824951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459942907666835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620642148574854,0.1273004285726267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3603038927767496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427700524877994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730576944484595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192978369001404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5286784300280901,0.0,0.38436909698997856,0.0,0.0,0.13710589880148694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11405825143174292,0.0,0.16867722459120554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656117562038115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770790711578145,0.0,0.22111585479888346
parenting,throwmeinalake123,2019/04/20,"I (19m) recently became the full time guardian of my step sister (8f). I am clueless and I need some pointers or books that you can recommend to me. So as the title says I recently became the full time guardian of my step sister after the death of her mom and my dad. I love her very much and I want her to be as comfortable as possible, and I want to be the best father figure I possibly can to her. 

I am getting her in therapy starting next week so she can properly process the death of our parents, I am trying my hardest to make sure she eats nutritious food and exercise enough each day, I make sure she does her homework, and I make sure that she goes to bed at a good time, but I'm not really sure what to do beyond that.

I haven't had to do it yet, but I feel like I am going to struggle with setting up rules and routines to streamline her life so it doesn't totally fall apart. Punishment is a totally foreign concept to me, and I'd have no idea how to go about something like that, or if punishment for breaking rules is even considered a healthy thing these days.

Are there any books I can read to improve my ""parenting"" skills? Are there any general life pro tips that I should be aware that took you ages to figure out?

I'm trying my hardest, and I want to give my sister the best life possible, so anything helps. Thank you all in advance.",5.301531818181818,5.120525923636368,5.959670454545456,82.9475056818182,67.94545454545454,9.638636363636364,32.09659090909091,9.354420925462401,2.6176954545454545,1059,41,223,19,16,346,144,275,0.073,0.754,0.173,0.9763,2,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,1,3,0,4,11,15,2,1,10,0,22,7,0,4,7,40,40,22,2,6,6,8,1,2,0,1,4,1,2,0,11,12,2,0,4,4,0,7,4,3,0,0,2,2,42,12,32,34,11,31,0,0,0,1,27,9,0,4,15,153,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147678157611849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935324456868446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22789897118621896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400520470016971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502031922095563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111058846787709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219361699029312,0.0,0.07171699393803428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054902020867406816,0.07757057741802262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312970659116259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056729302573280675,0.10416117770798093,0.12341862942669725,0.09107293089289943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07277982696473702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12257518965583986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23008277242704006,0.10609477963567963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799895730150136,0.0,0.2174367929309637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271692292011144,0.0,0.0,0.07981982620173926,0.08051173596758225,0.0,0.0,0.11547755603243888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24113360098937006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672276583995253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861078865686118,0.0,0.06956002842019772,0.0,0.21442207613194586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08634829138382961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08359127036617489,0.0,0.0,0.07685447731494485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351286004256893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40934675676692855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999671693398312,0.1241722995654624,0.0,0.07213666071012123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994407130865704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063793616813785,0.14743929303058234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959103067860462,0.1921323777248937,0.0,0.08709745355087217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,notreallyc3po,2019/04/20,"New dad here and I’m not hold up well My wife and I just had our first born three weeks ago. 

For context my wife is pumping and breastfeeding and I just went back to work this week. 

We still haven’t figured out much of a sleep schedule. One night I get up at 3 am to feed him and another night I’ll get up at midnight to feed home. It’s really all over the place. 

Most times when I get up with him he doesn’t go back to sleep after feeding. He just cries and takes everything for me to try and calm him down. Last night I just broke and placed him down so he could just cry. I’m scared because at that moment I was really questioning my connection with him.  I did try to calm him down a bit more but I ended up waking up my wife and just went to bed and cried. 

I feel terrible because my wife is getting minimal sleep with feeding and pumping.  Most days I just feel like I’m in a fog. 

We don’t have any family near us and my mother in-law has been here to help, but she leaves at the end of the week.",1.1670700945913168,2.689360783410141,2.6218142129517368,96.60760853747273,79.4147465437788,6.4117390249818085,19.715983507154984,7.273561745256523,0.12395483870967715,778,18,191,10,19,253,119,217,0.086,0.866,0.048,-0.7143,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,4,0,0,2,15,7,0,1,6,0,13,8,4,0,1,37,26,16,0,1,10,6,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,18,4,1,4,0,0,3,4,3,1,3,6,2,28,4,33,19,6,44,0,1,0,0,22,19,0,3,23,121,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009524544653562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744591501718508,0.11941867571818195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514154490421555,0.0,0.13884685393156496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433326075507768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909281518390815,0.0,0.3752929909618921,0.07344660243246409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20173716061409827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235277183811467,0.0,0.10736093324264986,0.0,0.11516766761255301,0.08135968708846003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687078516115703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380014928204637,0.0,0.0647236452613392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763349216326384,0.0,0.11423624998271373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0928317264294819,0.0,0.1205880978731905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05563860912341557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371880549802295,0.0,0.0,0.10999114053340636,0.0,0.320620941440937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717163235830198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23797181608692766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757760930427298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591568954382386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401906117809593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3419026650741865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909489544134603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562757872807088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640743917933829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15464129757431586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13699000369746325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740557748686129,0.0,0.10239656934258357,0.21114564374126624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290986089504744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,AParentInAus,2019/04/20,"5 y.o. son is broken when woken at night We just had a long car trip home, which started at his bedtime. He fell asleep, but woke (or partially woke) when we got home. Now he's in his room alternately moaning, saying ""yucky"", and yelling at his mum or me if we're in his room. He can hold a conversation (angrily), but gives no good explanation for why he's so cranky/why he's moaning. 

It's not the first time this has happened, and we have absolutely no idea how to deal with it other than just wait it out, which can take an hour or more. The biggest problem is that he's still not dry most nights, so we need to get a pull-up on him.

Any ideas?",4.3472777777777765,4.092438274074077,5.151250000000001,88.18687500000004,69.96296296296296,8.527777777777779,27.24537037037037,8.07648339933343,1.2933148148148148,497,14,118,6,8,162,93,135,0.11,0.862,0.029,-0.8379,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,4,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,6,0,7,1,1,1,0,26,18,13,0,3,10,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,8,8,0,2,2,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,5,2,10,1,12,13,2,24,0,0,0,0,21,10,0,5,11,67,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999989236022733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708444475543235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626062735653226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987669601866073,0.18338449110047086,0.0,0.1603415346516675,0.1528934510247223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690480567324117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3835115176337827,0.0,0.1882606643491244,0.0,0.0,0.4316078076536107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917648907611094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417476650410345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587939434163632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829206875031328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202341046116535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353087543874224,0.0,0.1526659512177174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373354637550648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114708237783321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34499637485424123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,bapig12,2019/04/20,"I felt like i want my old life back before the kid happen!? Is it normal to feel like your whole world is changing for the worst since a children comes?

I’m a bit depressed having a children and constantly thinking of how it would be nice if i don’t have them after all.

To make things worst my daughter prefer others (her aunt, her grandmother) than her parents. It makes me think like i want to gave her to another family or things like that!! Ugh!! Is this normal?? 

TLDR sorry if my english messed up, english is not my main.",3.68355769230769,5.1599702403846175,4.34346153846154,87.07653846153849,72.55769230769229,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,0.992542307692308,411,12,81,4,8,131,73,104,0.171,0.698,0.131,-0.8284,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,1,1,0,2,10,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,3,1,20,21,5,0,8,4,3,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,3,8,2,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,2,15,5,9,17,6,7,0,1,0,0,13,2,0,3,8,58,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1868370552331569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700926719415613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161788554801298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19452619255162348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884906017443248,0.15348611988417973,0.0,0.19254906339059752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534659999525643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797205707989765,0.0,0.09009306017418968,0.12729168414304026,0.1710805495458244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575638079755185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12585366157028308,0.3481985986989099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378727990957152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491567441046512,0.0,0.0,0.1869697261810729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978475808424324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739217114885692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19945769739771188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23674948249419606,0.22834084147144235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101901240828476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19893138262769325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12657381711608914,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,B_Sanders2020,2019/04/20,"My 15yo son just informed me that he smoked one of my cigarettes TL;DR: my son smoked a cigarette to ""teach me a lesson."" I turned it around on him to teach him not to steal. Did I react properly or did I dodge the issue?

I am a 35 year old woman married to a 38 year old man. We have two sons, 15 and 13. Earlier tonight my eldest informed me that he smoked one of my cigarettes.

Background:

When my kids were very young my husband and I had an agreement not to expose them to our smoking. If you had to smoke, then walk to the park or go for a drive or do something so the kids didn't see it. Neither of us are heavy smokers, we each go through about 1 pack a month so it was easy to keep hidden from our kids. But I'll admit once our youngest hit 12 we kind of stopped caring and occasionally we'd smoke on the back porch while we thought the kids were busy doing something else in the house.

Well they caught on, or at least our eldest did, and he's convinced he's going to save us from it. He went through some sort of anti-drug class at school which is great, but now he's all on us about how we shouldn't smoke and it's terrible for us and yadda yadda. I've agreed with him it's not healthy, it's bad for your health, but sometimes there are things that adults do that aren't good for us but we're adults so we can accept the consequences and make that decision.

Well tonight he approached me and told me that he smoked a cigarette from my pack. There is a drawer in our kitchen that we've told the kids is ""adult stuff"" which is really just where we keep manuals for the microwave, refrig, oven, etc and I also keep my cigarettes under there. Well somehow he found them and says that he smoked one of them.

We have always encouraged our kids to tell the truth no matter what, so I didn't freak out on him for telling me this. Instead, I asked him

Me: ""How did it taste?'

Him: ""It was like garbage. I coughed for five minutes.""

Me: ""Now you know why you shouldn't do it. But why did you think it was okay to steal one of my cigarettes?""

Him: ""Well you just leave them in the drawer. I only took one.""

I threw my purse on the coffee table. ""Okay I just left my purse there. Is it okay to steal my money?""

Him: ""Well no...""

And the conversation went on like that. I lectured him a bit about personal property and not stealing things from others but I have to admit I kind of dodged his whole concern about my smoking.

How should I approach this tomorrow to wrap things up in regard to smoking?",2.4886562296151347,4.03255397455969,3.1718297455968703,93.99229125896936,75.79060665362036,6.353946510110894,22.734181343770384,6.971451493551832,0.4528870189171559,1935,54,437,19,42,607,225,511,0.03,0.821,0.14800000000000002,0.9949,0,0,18,0,0,0,70.0,20,6,5,1,33,28,0,0,23,3,35,4,0,5,2,73,60,34,0,4,19,4,0,2,0,3,2,1,3,12,31,24,2,4,11,0,1,12,12,7,5,7,23,3,79,21,59,32,8,47,0,0,1,0,79,19,0,8,18,299,110,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672315601165285,0.06942482926695019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427508042487188,0.07800071537800936,0.0,0.0,0.06415657318677724,0.06966496612592303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108970630065286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506781937386099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09675842532365687,0.0,0.06969946267485454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305238219537618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09148246802953493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422545616939172,0.06998154668940304,0.0,0.09198768074342148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868779138047364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962731004095939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708474567820346,0.0,0.22248330724268373,0.0,0.17376999059882567,0.0458538428776582,0.0,0.0,0.08834590480387375,0.09065266598460248,0.0,0.0,0.08152451778792058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569369122564997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659723723068715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510256301785904,0.0888558404988142,0.2826894944912239,0.06345628327316151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07285246032029745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053450771034577516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0663510762834007,0.0,0.0844409485691601,0.06648710852355585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846509566791747,0.08251961637579397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975562247456149,0.0,0.0,0.09551342349153136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458522086877774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662920597813954,0.05346195263796631,0.0,0.0662382853015323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1594519538111038,0.09269965597562624,0.0,0.09075361572150073,0.08150413607134709,0.0,0.5018117890235445,0.0,0.0,0.0688428365587533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750916436585716,0.15469066409302512,0.15057470896101213,0.09315250033863956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745915788137088
parenting,Duvetinthewind,2019/04/20,"12 yo son is experimenting sexually with his best friend So my son's friend, same age and sex, sleeps over frequently. I've never thought much of it until I overheard them late at night when everyone was presumed asleep.  It was obvious from the sounds that they were masturbating and from what I could tell from the few words said, they were doing it for each other. I avoided confronting them for fear of traumatizing them. I'm not sure how to address it.

As a note, I had a similar friend at his age and we did similar things. No one ever knew so we were left to figure it out on our own. We went so far as experimenting with oral and did it on and off from 12 to 15 when we started getting into girls more. We turned out okay, but now that I know about it it seems like I should say something.",3.664541666666669,4.985067037500002,4.507500000000004,86.4941666666667,72.375,7.833333333333335,25.208333333333336,8.344100000000001,1.344833333333333,626,19,135,10,12,202,105,160,0.064,0.851,0.085,0.645,0,1,1,0,0,0,14.0,6,0,5,1,9,10,1,2,4,1,12,3,2,1,4,34,22,15,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,1,0,3,1,1,13,16,0,1,6,0,0,1,3,3,0,1,12,3,20,7,26,8,7,24,0,0,0,1,22,11,0,1,13,100,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951955090886364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850585315596845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16824763523456435,0.0,0.1777309566294512,0.0,0.3638873520782688,0.0,0.2093016943257741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4311093813155195,0.0,0.09717731535511567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222072749810633,0.0,0.20981608479624114,0.0,0.20208952805357885,0.0,0.0,0.09087019750392568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673139049042907,0.0,0.1434546550542896,0.0,0.0,0.1745483860437427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260384036298273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692857941020446,0.14791465365438866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16932740077572586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18613431207751355,0.0,0.0,0.1431918756768659,0.0,0.0,0.13165174679945085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530278474932964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625721852697164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357012528819887,0.0,0.0,0.14766321177954786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023145725623676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724238496535995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,2pillowsandaballoon,2019/04/20,"Feeling like a crap Mother I share 50/50 custody of my 11 year old daughter. I had her this Easter weekend and made plans to take her to my partners bach at the beach. It's been a rough few months for us all as she has been adjusting to my new partner. (We have been together 7 months now) she says I act like a different person around him and she hates it. What she doesn't understand is that I was so unhappy with her Dad, maybe what she is seeing is me being happy now.

She spent the whole day/night complaining of being bored and crying to go home. I ended up having to leave and take her home because it was causing me huge anxiety having her sit there with a grumpy look on her face and my partner stayed behind. I feel so resentful and angry at her right now, and then I feel guilty for feeling that way. I came home and cried in the shower because I really just feel like I can't win with her anymore and nothing I do is right. I feel like she ruined our whole weekend. She hates my partner and he tries really hard with her. I just want to be happy but beginning to feel like it's all too hard.",3.1942679450634865,4.389008136563882,4.172713138118684,88.92934179839338,73.3612334801762,7.279502461777664,23.925628401140195,7.724431198458867,1.0015765224151338,865,24,185,11,17,280,126,227,0.138,0.767,0.096,-0.762,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,3,0,0,2,10,16,4,0,7,0,20,2,2,2,2,34,40,15,0,1,3,3,10,5,4,0,0,1,4,5,9,17,0,0,9,3,1,3,2,7,0,0,9,13,41,9,23,28,5,28,0,1,2,0,33,9,1,0,18,126,50,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08042326502816875,0.0,0.10425954758550064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358694477926488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281711145341105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023937163345368,0.0,0.10799626456292047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309581603346184,0.06779939642818618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983724885333487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09311293697587204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.372094056464156,0.30041622051916705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974713517056024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238231827516811,0.1883495594609791,0.20758590386701434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163583559703487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131624855953276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568031734442744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828173744382482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947543816875598,0.0,0.0,0.1056160371583348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678256537053268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015340763716055,0.0,0.09865628266885404,0.0,0.10087394500145028,0.0,0.1103150195336082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179443686938324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469643731404324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17955888796325764,0.0,0.08360266292084764,0.0,0.0,0.08377406417244881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112053341918441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808758916271162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137557280509316,0.0,0.0,0.1094428166421716,0.12645703490400925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200770605374646,0.08344636965655243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347451623175473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769951790791018
parenting,CthulhuDH,2019/04/20,"Single dad having a hard time getting through to my teenage son My son recently came to live with me after being separated for a year due to some underhanded tactics by his mother and my stbx wife. Prior to that year I'd been a stable figure in his life since birth. During the time he was with his mother no structure or discipline was enacted. He had almost no outside contact as she wasn't even sending him to school. He developed an extreme Internet addiction during this time and experiences visible anxiety when I place limits on his use. He lacks basic good habits too. Hygiene,  sleep, health, etc.  Needless to say I have a full plate with getting him up to speed educationally with his peers and working on just being a responsible teen. Anyway, the Internet addiction is really proving to be a problem. He has no ability to self regulate and I am constantly battling him to adhere to the 2 hour screen time limit per day. I'd like to yank it completely but most of the homeschooling materials I have purchased to supplement his education are computer and internet based. My patience is being tested and I just can't seem to get through to him how important all of this is. Any helpful advice is welcome.",6.48,7.706065000000002,7.409333333333333,68.65800000000003,65.66666666666666,10.8,35.888888888888886,10.793553405168565,4.353488888888888,975,47,159,27,15,327,146,225,0.048,0.8690000000000001,0.083,0.8674,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,7,5,1,0,11,0,20,5,1,2,2,29,26,11,0,2,4,6,1,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,4,11,0,3,3,0,1,2,5,2,0,0,6,3,21,3,31,16,7,24,0,0,1,0,28,6,0,5,17,112,25,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34716121701241903,0.0,0.15559449089573754,0.0,0.0,0.1594425423383917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827961783948598,0.0,0.12180799161595045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821129292214757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669461681922348,0.17206749911698993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268805063806362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757986300350626,0.10516773532098857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575426828712405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24956814070285546,0.0,0.0,0.1335518036258849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142635850158876,0.0,0.0,0.16925053901748074,0.0,0.0,0.10672630235377938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680622821936685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246652889287488,0.07779012400676197,0.0,0.1406000955060477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635801447205584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15235845028926318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200470287609366,0.0,0.15721715949991916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266234647470097,0.0,0.1611459236724697,0.0,0.14495400985034013,0.16610817679657158,0.0,0.0,0.13171397373956584,0.0,0.1593416941544293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3713854828594684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375207475976263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591893582571275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050735519589332
parenting,verysleepywombat,2019/04/20,"Toy story personality test Not a particularly serious post.
My 3 year old son has been calling Toy story the ""buzz lightbeer"" movie. Which is cute. But I'm curious as I always think of Woody being the main lead character and Buzz as the supporting role. 
Wondering if this says something deep about my child's personality. Woody is a bit of a whinger. Perhaps I have overlooked Buzz.",4.1594285714285695,6.9438166571428575,5.335714285714285,74.61928571428574,75.28571428571428,8.571428571428571,30.0,9.23628265651192,3.126571428571429,306,14,53,8,7,101,54,70,0.016,0.841,0.142,0.8195,0,0,2,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,7,10,5,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,4,2,5,8,2,5,0,0,0,0,7,1,0,2,2,28,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352628062460601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30867947607071483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887097368762615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966886688194573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.493756324296564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707873118006999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22484665167639656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176675062122953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208506511152344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116874233336436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30662009003744045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18207565871569867
parenting,917caitlin,2019/04/20,"Letting kid hang out with adults? I’m trying to get some perspective on something. Every year my group of friends (early 40s) gets together and rents a beach house, maybe 4 or 5 families. It’s super fun, the kids all play together during the day and adults get to have fun too either playing sports with the kids, playing cards etc.

Around 7-8pm depending on their ages, people start putting their kids to bed. Then the adults get rowdy - nothing crazy just shit-talking, joking around, playing cards etc.

My daughter happens to be the oldest kid by quite a bit - 4 to 6 years older than most of the kids. She begs to stay up later with us at night. I get that it’s a little boring for her with younger kids around, and she naturally wants to stay up later, but when she’s up hanging around us I feel like (a) I can’t let loose and just be myself I have to still be “mom,” and (b) our friends love her and she’s not annoying or anything but I feel like they also probably feel like they can’t let loose. Like we’re joking around using adult language and being crude and it’s just not super appropriate for her to hang out with the adults after the younger ones go to bed.

Am I being a total drag/strict unreasonable mom? Is there any compromise so the adults can have their well deserved fun but my daughter doesn’t feel left out of the adult party time and also uninterested in hanging with the younger kids? I don’t want to be an a-hole mom but I really want to have quality time with my friends.",3.96145210494204,5.2580695503355726,4.422928615009154,87.47830994508848,71.61744966442953,7.297376449054301,25.290420988407565,7.686295010490155,1.1557060402684565,1178,35,243,14,22,372,155,298,0.039,0.7440000000000001,0.217,0.9943,1,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,3,0,5,3,16,23,2,0,17,0,20,1,0,2,2,49,38,20,0,3,12,5,4,4,3,0,0,0,3,15,4,24,0,0,4,8,1,6,6,3,1,1,0,4,28,20,42,29,8,42,0,0,0,1,40,17,0,5,21,148,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15047502730930867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639791326803378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774216469398837,0.4187655914155861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027134121233252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06067524569764503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098530793357567,0.0,0.0,0.07926832419689725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869233956487181,0.0,0.19028317981738752,0.20163706041467647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180630586827618,0.0,0.2457703721994253,0.0,0.05346909113039037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831965923561425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10855824483748512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222060229969017,0.28861631849740976,0.0,0.18385527264887067,0.0942950961033936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08491287260241992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09451823086627748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305638607423246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828978583739255,0.0,0.09027442307597353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06375254401364434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522476209422935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1014365407248717,0.0,0.0,0.09457861214699294,0.0,0.10006801687372342,0.0,0.0,0.06027147629023264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09657404209781148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242908584669919,0.0,0.0,0.06659187628998894,0.20055824713262926,0.07513417873964798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561972095773348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10972019276351946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387564852950177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263386421477529,0.08125682683781392,0.0,0.0,0.16647638466561507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459121045347398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117172420629055
parenting,anamarie101,2019/04/20,My babygirl is sick My baby girl is sick and her doctor isn’t in until Monday. I was going to call the nurses anyways so they could help point me in the right direction. I also want to hop on here and hear everyone’s advice. She is 2 and she has been having a stuffy nose and her eyes are very goopy. Even after you clean all the goo it just builds back up. When she sleeps and wakes up it’s hard for her to open her eyes. It really has been irritating her and I HATE seeing her line this. Any advice or at home remedies I could try?,1.0458326629123071,2.9651954336283173,2.722558326629123,93.84004022526148,81.38938053097345,5.525020112630734,15.582461786001609,6.574015621080383,-0.5039486725663713,416,6,94,4,11,137,79,113,0.132,0.809,0.059,-0.8668,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,8,1,1,0,4,0,13,8,5,0,1,13,18,11,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,2,1,4,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,3,6,18,0,12,13,1,15,0,0,3,0,15,9,0,1,5,67,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4216123109570096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251699039153534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467019161283754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16588092622723208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22028162477325194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34448128353432583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22080596425101545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248580290837207,0.0,0.0,0.2061366160402962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226027580220954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932492277348648,0.21298598056586007,0.0,0.0,0.24314027031183374,0.0,0.14459741703009785,0.0,0.21639200414980544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20393196450893944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382003895526455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842298783768563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719066745031672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21588302875476145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14646463058572173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779975601132881,0.12724151139816753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,ligamentary,2019/04/20,"Passing out invites in school? My 7 year old grandson came home absolutely beside himself today because a kid passed out his birthday invitations in front of everyone. By his account he was one of five kids who didn’t get an invite (out of 22.) 

He never gets like this when kids he isn’t close with have parties or activities without him. Even when his other friends are invited. We often about understanding just because your friends have other friends or do other activities doesn’t mean they like you any less. 

The humiliation of the invites being passed out to everyone in front of the whole class is what really got to him. (It was when the class was settling in after recess.) 

The teacher saw he was upset and told my husband when he came to pick him up explaining the kid throwing the party was supposed to pass them out individually to her friends at recess but forgot so tried to do it before class started. 

But the kid went to each individual desk and either gave them the invited and said “You’re invited” or stopped at their desk and said “You’re not invited.” Rather than just walking past them, so it really hurt their feelings. 

I feel like I should call and complain about this to be sure it doesn’t happen again. The elementary school I work at has a strict policy about not sending invites in with your kid and mailing them or just emailing the other parents. We address it right at the beginning of the year. 

I know a couple of the other parents whose kids weren’t invited and they said their kids are also really broken up. 

A couple of moms wanted to call the mother of the kid having the party and ask for invites but offer to pay for our kids separately. I feel like it’s important for my grandson to understand that while the kid could’ve gone about it a better way, that kids are allowed to have parties and not invite him. 

We’re going to take him and a friend of his who also isn’t going out for a fun day. The party is at a trampoline park, one of his favorite places of all time, so we’re taking them to a different trampoline park across town. 

Basically what I’m wondering is whether or not this is worth calling the teacher about or asking the PTA to enstate a rule over?",6.530611764705885,6.752928602352943,6.9214117647058835,75.71835294117648,65.32941176470588,9.623529411764707,32.76470588235294,9.3871,2.892764705882353,1756,67,323,30,25,572,199,425,0.071,0.8220000000000001,0.107,0.945,5,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,3,3,10,2,21,15,0,1,32,0,28,0,0,2,3,63,62,30,0,3,20,7,3,4,5,1,0,3,2,12,22,24,0,2,9,0,3,15,12,3,0,3,19,7,36,12,62,40,5,58,0,1,1,0,76,24,0,8,22,230,58,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504829132715236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639824856421673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17591756129305153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11470930179035482,0.0,0.08006123137079042,0.0,0.0,0.08321243469555878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28822048681261403,0.215221259765418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512093011260673,0.20821127488914315,0.0,0.0606784255122861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830104210560173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062143672553123815,0.0,0.0,0.17980859997195545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14271986400755224,0.13443175175433092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634574778979647,0.0,0.09831330092633457,0.0,0.1069437865825059,0.0,0.07525008565286781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08320095244961093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943770788002458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072223571257348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05170783483113135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18386490797347604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024884845482882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019372821364264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725658072570609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872863252914812,0.0,0.1275117702012306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20894528226303616,0.0,0.08981682700642685,0.0,0.0,0.09830104210560173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808239048334506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034990857099975,0.26849526465811074,0.0,0.0,0.19044242957990334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06659536617817594,0.0,0.0,0.07866106697056811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867602159673175,0.0,0.1414836489523467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05486297144119591,0.0,0.08918361305395962,0.08990429998597772,0.0,0.06387899606802536,0.0,0.0,0.19589607422274968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055495036404273834,0.07468199707115396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08721972692868296,0.0,0.1050449384246522,0.0,0.0906966512029892,0.10203349631051184,0.06849656283529405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117807446689988
parenting,indiandramaserial,2019/04/20,"I have a favourite child I have three kids aged 4 and under. Today I realised I have a clear favourite. I don't favour the favourite, or do things for one that I don't for the others. I just realised I enjoy our one on one time more. 

I would never tell the kids I have a favourite. Is it normal to have a favourite kids or am I just awful?",0.6886692759295521,2.4650864383561677,1.7319373776908016,101.21986301369863,81.87671232876713,4.171428571428572,20.01761252446184,3.1291,-0.7544935420743637,262,7,64,0,7,82,39,73,0.087,0.82,0.093,0.1012,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,7,1,11,0,0,0,2,9,11,3,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,12,2,5,10,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,4,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26245133645486635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33341031112171843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6917645328016895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2974269972506505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260724443937333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842486042523805,0.0,0.322553545817653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2417310646698553,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,shamsonian,2019/04/20,"I looked at all the toys on the floor and cried. I've always struggled with low to moderate depression and anxiety. I'm pretty busy and I've been going to the gym, so that helps a lot. I know my kids need my best me, so I just try and stay strong all day. I like to clean when they're asleep, I like going to bed knowing my apartment is spotless even if I'm up for a while. Today was just stressful and it has been lately, I put my kids to bed, I always make sure we end the day on a good note. I came out to the living room, all these toys laying everywhere and I started thinking ""I'm never going to pick all this up"" & I started to cry. Everyday I pick up all these toys and it's no problem, today it seems like there was so many, today seems like I could never pick it all up. I had plans to clean up the toys and take a shower and walk my dog, but I've just been sitting on the couch crying.",1.3782115384615388,2.6374545230769257,3.1415865384615387,94.24622596153849,78.12820512820512,5.9006410256410255,19.87980769230769,6.322622252153567,-0.09355769230769218,692,15,164,5,16,231,102,195,0.107,0.772,0.12,0.1379,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,3,9,13,0,2,11,0,9,1,1,4,9,40,27,16,0,4,5,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,7,2,8,13,0,0,5,5,0,6,3,5,0,0,7,1,20,8,21,19,8,36,0,2,1,0,4,14,0,4,18,101,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21261526613324105,0.13842931090376925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977370417884654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407759797022908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461248866959272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10200699887326954,0.0,0.4210193535435043,0.1647909330618046,0.0,0.11004061708670453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315858674812584,0.0,0.0,0.0843851311026767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21782906643472427,0.10716011354216254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0856357036570152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14042853413693962,0.0,0.14412030684693472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496708631318803,0.0,0.11281556511713595,0.0,0.10728731118642454,0.0,0.0,0.108618085123708,0.0,0.0,0.08528165720330555,0.12952990127730082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473338217157767,0.19707477551230884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12997916910886728,0.0,0.1222503057902614,0.0,0.12843539044785784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326181711100987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18086020587123,0.13617654241945965,0.0,0.0,0.14635013297728372,0.13356384659413292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12041350954447012,0.0,0.09606059454824346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818642797407291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3633083097881927,0.0,0.0,0.08674153355355123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0
parenting,Jamjams2016,2019/04/20,"Setting boundaries with grandparents My daughter is a year and a half now and the grandparents take care of babysitting while my fiancé and I work. His mom watches her four days of the week and has taken her overnight here and there on the weekend. My parents have her for about 8 hours on Friday and they exclusively watch her in my home and have never driven anywhere with her. I feel comfortable with this set up although my parents do not take anything my fiancé and I say well. 

It’s getting to the point that I really wish my parents didn’t have a day of babysitting at all. I know that they love her but I am the parent so as far as I’m concerned what I say goes. But what I say is met with resistance and guilt trips and some seriously petty behavior from my mother. If I ask about something that my daughter ate when she doesn’t poop I get texts back like “I’m sure [food item] will be banned from the menu now.”  Two weeks ago she even put my dirty dishes away in the cabinets. 

I’m kind of a push over so I try to bite my tongue on most matters. But we are getting married and going on a honeymoon soon. I thought everything was set. His mom has our daughter for our time away and my parents will have her Friday during the day per usual. 

But today my mom said she already talked to his mom and she will take our daughter Friday to Sunday while we are away. Back the hell up! This was never once discussed with me or my fiancé. I am not comfortable with this and if anything happened I am too far away to have any control over the situation. I said I was unsure about that and they could see her on Friday but she caught me off guard and I want to properly tell her “Thanks but no.”

I have a few issues with this. She didn’t talk to me about it. When I talked to her months ago we agreed on her regular Friday schedule. I feel as though she went behind my back and I dislike that. Also, when I said I was unsure she and my father immediately started the guilting. She wants to know now so she can “lick her wounds.” My father said they raised kids and they “all survived.” It really left a bad taste in my mouth.

I know they love my daughter but I think two nights with them is a little much for everybody while we are out of the country. My mom is also involved in a culty religion and I feel strongly that she will take my daughter there on Sunday. I am very against that happening.

I need some serious input on how to approach this. I know I need to get a backbone for my daughter’s sake but I don’t want to hurt my parents feeling either. I believe their hearts are in a good place.",2.192971428571429,4.240338697142859,3.198095238095238,91.21714285714287,78.21904761904761,5.885714285714287,23.285714285714285,6.868970318607317,0.6675714285714283,2036,66,426,21,49,650,229,525,0.081,0.8240000000000001,0.095,0.5041,8,0,1,0,0,0,35.0,7,0,8,5,28,19,1,2,23,0,36,10,3,2,5,77,83,48,0,9,14,21,4,1,0,4,1,7,1,1,17,33,4,3,10,1,0,8,9,7,1,4,17,16,99,12,64,60,9,75,1,1,3,2,80,30,1,6,35,315,116,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892100453251522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402211964918146,0.10728432885016144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04561526542152587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039877618159097,0.0,0.06270877233160799,0.0,0.2520875430217177,0.15473627089374142,0.05600723633249298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557381184614119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06839037939600423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523355742114128,0.053556237014026384,0.0,0.0,0.1297790695683323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430431374036745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0602852823546403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13566638666374994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111085088653425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401817160184085,0.0,0.038121910716524494,0.05626175167102124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863351325668188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948762265694576,0.0,0.0,0.06728459290028371,0.0,0.06605820987083691,0.0,0.071808268618601,0.0,0.0,0.07001188981184715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985130024589216,0.14745701649577747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07288032378847162,0.0,0.0,0.032770868835185984,0.0672296678073986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12108082930151867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928040705048895,0.05354093186420502,0.0,0.04930996725544557,0.09947481103771318,0.10346920802891137,0.0,0.0,0.06294805581539299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143576369999205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4468923524935372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008211828370167,0.0,0.06341028757162344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743180652104233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594362796578163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552257364158195,0.1600290913916147,0.0,0.0,0.05345239375286588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539835885088507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051639836876860634,0.0,0.0,0.04747807581359703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322011752219357,0.0,0.20173690143459933,0.1617440014304297,0.05862903246681369,0.061756308943945674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04298080344686958,0.065903686384698,0.053252352013439835,0.03911365710453781,0.0,0.06358199653978347,0.0,0.0,0.045541484224289386,0.0,0.13105070352786655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387681917879117,0.05534628424243991,0.1186928324095871,0.0,0.10761167461756804,0.0,0.0603110788707084,0.06218187608552112,0.0,0.0,0.07713626314351367,0.0,0.0,0.04883350283807959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04319596194645298
parenting,thestressedmom,2019/04/20,"Help! My 4 year old poops up to 6 times a day. and right after eating. My 4 year old poops a lot, right after eating. The other times it’s just smears (a tiny tiny bit) wiping his butt frequently causes diaper rashes. The pediatrician told me to give him probiotics but it doesn’t work. Does anyone else have this problem? He doesn’t have diarrhea and his poops aren’t runny. Sorry (tmi).",1.1480263157894726,3.748170381578949,2.9003157894736837,87.8052105263158,88.60526315789473,5.67157894736842,14.178947368421055,7.1686216300943375,-0.01651684210526394,303,5,59,5,10,100,53,76,0.083,0.892,0.026,-0.6224,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,5,7,5,1,0,7,7,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,5,6,2,13,0,0,0,1,7,3,1,1,10,30,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739826686110407,0.2013387872070936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145285090630968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20186094774032354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267270722242605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195959808485226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4021397408652325,0.16415160853393093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188501937286263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317106687932615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670583649547094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41239008558620216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802519099166676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356220462453519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2199670999705296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291629581871144,0.0,0.0,0.18776539802087772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14305527528535356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25308076907589283
parenting,Starved-Nutritionist,2019/04/20,"Should I teach my 8 yr old daughter to sit more “lady-like”? With my wife (daughter’s mother) in a college program that takes away all of her time—- she is out of the house by 6 am and doesn’t come home until past 8 pm, Mon-Fri —- I’m parenting solo the majority of the time.

My daughter has recently developed a habit of sitting in a way that men get accused of “man spreading.”

I corrected her today, but she asked me why it’s a big deal. I told her it’s “not lady-like.” This confused her even more because she didn’t understand why sitting a certain way would be more associated with being female.

I kind of want to correct her sitting style, but I also question it myself. Is it necessary?

Idk. What do you guys think?",2.25113804004215,4.117565315068493,4.1461643835616435,85.33987881981034,77.35616438356166,6.6840885142255,26.98419388830348,7.61054688173877,1.5753873551106417,560,23,113,8,13,190,99,146,0.025,0.924,0.051,0.5336,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,1,8,0,11,0,0,0,4,19,20,5,0,3,3,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,8,5,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,19,2,16,14,5,18,0,0,0,0,22,5,0,2,6,72,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15384435767931182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798471576158798,0.0,0.18074515891923615,0.0,0.0,0.11727164546540544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571633325247198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833293627611612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706364038179435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10050939540925928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19048414442666414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929704941513936,0.0,0.0,0.22197800853009989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003317452710684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018680091419766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136126423993296,0.0,0.18364625935524595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155070243799521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18994974604685774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446440703598337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326784665931108,0.0,0.0,0.2243539394142341,0.0,0.18235154234488174,0.1838251132072978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20027194487070532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134693374071079,0.3054008889072751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471818596052406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366595811665265,0.0,0.0,0.0